Re: Advice-totally off topic

I am talking to my therapist who is a social worker as well. She's been
great. I am sure it will come with much heartache as well as joy so I'm
trying to go into this with my eyes wide open. I suspect no matter how hard
I try I will never be able to imagine how my life will change until it
actually happens. LOL! OY!

Right now I am trying to get financially ready even though the state helps.
I am positive it won't be enough.

Your wish to foster a child is truly admirable. DH and I have three
daughters, and I must admit that there were times when I wished we had
not taken on the challenge! When you say, "older child", what age are you
considering? The older the child, the more baggage they bring to the
relationship. All that said, there are no guarantees in life, and those
of us who have "biological" children have wrestled with psychological
difficulties, autism, and illness as well. All of us, I am sure, are
ready to stand here in support of your dream.

Not having any kids - foster or otherwise - I can't provide anything
useful. But I admire your wanting to do it! I think if you want to, you
can do a good job.
Cyndi
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From: owner-gardenchat@hort.net [mailto:owner-gardenchat@hort.net] On
Behalf Of andreah
Sent: Saturday, December 27, 2008 2:54 PM
To: gardenchat@hort.net
Subject: [CHAT] Advice-totally off topic
Because I value your opinions and experience, I would like some advice
from
all of you great people.
For a couple of years now I have considered off and on possibly adopting
or at
least fostering a child. ONE child. I know my limits and I do not think
I
could handle more than one. Also, I am speaking of an older child. No
babies.
If I wanted a baby I would have had one. Anyway-there are hundreds that
need
homes just in S.C.
Recently, my consideration has taken a turn more towards a "I think I
really
want to do this" attitude. I would like to have a family and I don't
think
waiting around on a divorced man with children is the way to go about
it.
Anyway-I've spoken with some close friends who have three adopted
children and
they've given me some great advice, but I value your opinions as well.
At the moment I am not financially ready, even though I know the state
helps.
They help to the tune of about $300 a month here which is nothing.
So, advice, opinions, experiences, etc. All would be welcome, good or
bad,
yes, or no.
I am giving myself a year to get ready. Unless I change my mind and I
don't
think I will, hopefully by this time next year I'll at least be
fostering.
Cheers!
A
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