Comments on: I Proposed to My Boyfriendhttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/11/proposing-to-your-boyfriend/
Weddings. Minus the insanity, plus the marriage.Tue, 31 Mar 2015 18:02:00 -0700hourly1http://wordpress.org/?v=4.0.1By: Sandra Stephenshttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/11/proposing-to-your-boyfriend/#comment-320501
Mon, 13 Jan 2014 18:11:00 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-320501I always like a “she proposed to him” story! I proposed to my boyfriend (now my husband of 5 years) using M&Ms: http://reliablyuncomfortable.com/2014/01/12/how-i-asked-him-to-marry-me/
]]>By: Namehttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/11/proposing-to-your-boyfriend/#comment-316990
Tue, 10 Dec 2013 16:54:00 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-316990That is exactly what I want. I don’t really want or need a proposal. But I do want to get married. And a fast and cheap wedding is the way to go in my opinion. Kudos to you!
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Sun, 11 Nov 2012 04:10:06 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-135859[…] by the typical “single round diamond in a claw setting on a gold band”. … Read more: I Proposed to My Boyfriend and No One Made … – A Practical Wedding ← 14k Round Tanzanite […]
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Wed, 07 Nov 2012 02:10:53 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-135063Congratulations! What a beautiful story :)

I just proposed to my boyfriend (now fiancee!) of 4 years three weeks ago, so I’ll throw my little story on to the pile, in case any shy girls out there could use a boost!

G and I’ve been together a long time, living together that entire time, in that “practically married but not legally” sort of way. About a year and a half into our relationship, he had casually brought up the “do you think you might ever want to get married?” question and boy, did I cut him off at the KNEES. “No, absolutely not, not a chance, don’t EVER ask me this again, I don’t want to hear anything about it.”

I had previously married, young and impulsively, a charming man who turned out to be a narcissist and an abuser. After barely escaping that relationship with my life, I wanted nothing to do with the institution of marriage ever again.

So, like a good man, G. never brought it up again. And our lives progressed together quietly, lovingly, and happily. Nearly a year ago, I got a major job offer that required me to move across the country on about a month’s notice. G. put in notice at his good, stable job and uprooted his entire life to come with me. And I started to find my feelings towards marriage softening. Months went by, and I finally resolved to propose.

I hadn’t anticipated how terrifying it would be to actually bring it up! I knew it would be on me to propose, because of how thoroughly I had rejected him earlier. And even though I was quite sure he’d say yes, I still found myself opening my mouth and no words coming out whenever I tried to ask him. What was I going to say? Was I going to try and be funny? Mushy? Make a big romantic gesture? Something public? Or intimate?

Well, as I probably should have guessed, I blurted it out over our Sunday breakfast trip to the local diner, over eggs benedict and coffee. “So… I’ve been thinking… that it might be a nice thing… if we… you know… maybe got married?”

Awesome. Proposal of the $%#^#*# century, there, girl.

But what I didn’t anticipate, was how even my half assed, jumbly words would make him feel so loved, so CHOSEN, so secure, and so happy. The smile on his face and in his eyes was the biggest and brightest I’d seen in maybe all of our years together.

“Really??” he asked. “You would do that, with me?”
“Yeah, dummy!”

For anyone who might be on the fence, I don’t think there’s a man out there who wouldn’t feel like a million bucks if a woman who loved him decided to just get over the fear– the fear of bucking tradition, fear of the reactions of others, fear of having something other than the classic “proposal story”– and just said, “hey there, man. I love you, and I want to choose you today and forever.”

Go for it!!!

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Tue, 06 Nov 2012 16:01:40 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-134935For some reason, even though my story has very little in common with yours (my husband proposed to me, I said yes, we got married) something must have resonated – or been incredibly well written – because your story had tears streaming down my face. From me, that’s a compliment! Thank you.
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Tue, 06 Nov 2012 14:40:06 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-134914Thanks Karen!
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Tue, 06 Nov 2012 06:52:01 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-134863I find it fascinating how few people know the history of the big white dress! In fact, virginal purity was once represented by blue, which was once a very lucky colour to be married in. Perhaps this is why we still have our “something blue” to this day. White was more indicative of purity within the church, or religious piety.
That Victoria was sure a trendsetter.
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Tue, 06 Nov 2012 04:46:12 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-134845Edward Gorey! Brilliant. And is that a capybara riding a bicycle?
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Tue, 06 Nov 2012 00:23:31 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-134808Also a pre-engaged lady, also suggesting you talk to him, and to try and get on the same page about the validity of the emotions you are both feeling, and why you are feeling them.

We started out in a similar position, with him wanting to be the one to propose and me wanting a mutual engagement conversation. After (a lot) of (tense) conversations, it came out that the main reason he wanted a big proposal was for the process of getting engaged to feel special, and now we’re at least at the point of being able to discuss ways to make it special that wouldn’t destroy my mental health (which a super-surprise proposal certainly would).

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Mon, 05 Nov 2012 23:19:16 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/05/i-proposed-to-my-boyfriend-no-one-made-me-feel-weird-about-it/#comment-134804Thanks Carrie and M! Your posts inspired me to propose to my partner of seven years. I started reading APW after coming across your posts and have continued to read APW daily! I proposed to my partner in February while we were living in Mongolia and I expected people to question the twist on gender roles but instead I got resoundingly positive remarks. Both mine and John’s parents were a little shocked, but supportive. But all our friends thought it was awesome and in fact I got a lot of male acquaintances telling me they hope they are proposed to as well! Thanks for helping me smash the engendered act of proposing, ladies! Your bravery made me brave :)
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