My initial thought is that they should go traditional, until I think back to my own youth. I wanted to mess around with females in High School and college, before it was one bit trendy. Being called a "lez" was a terrible insult when I was very young.

Before I got married the first time (fresh out of college) I suggested a MFM 3-some to my fiance (he said no!) I just thought it would be fun to try it. I also read about a swing club in NY (Plato's Retreat?) in one of his porn magazines, and the thought really excited me! I wanted to go there and watch and mess around. (He said no. No wonder we got divorced! Our sex life sucked!)

Maybe some people reach 18 and very early 20's and they know what they want for now and go for it. Nothing wrong with that!

They can change their minds later and go traditional if they want. Sex is to be enjoyed by adults, and they are adults, so...Go for it!

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I really like that button Mischief. It brightened the morning and started the day on the right note.

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FOR THE RECORD- it is always the SHE posting here- i never thought i came off as a MAN! that's a first... so pen you are waaay off- out of curiousity what makes you think a man wrote what i said?!?! just curious...

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Pen and clues:

I have a button that seems relevent here.

"When I was your age we had to walk 2 miles to get stoned and laid"

Agree totally with expo. Woooooowwwlllll at the moooon!

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absolutely on to young. Even those that think they are mature enough to handle it, they are not ready to handle what is out there.Hell even us at 48 soemtimes are taken back by what we have seen.The difference most will not accept it or want to see it. Do we think the younger people should stop . By all means no.Thats how you experience life and what can be thrown at you.How they handle it might be totally another subject. Rebel yell!!!!!!!!!!

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clules21

That was my exact point.

Thanks

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Penny, I bet you read that in a book. I don't have time right now to read all the posts or to reply in depth, but like I said, close your books, open your mind and listen to those that were there.

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We fall into the category which you talk about. My husband and I have been in the "lifestyle" for 3 years now. We have met a lot of people and have thought about this before and I believe it is a case-by-case basis. There is no way to generalize this statement because everyone in the world is different, that is a good thing.

Also, the term "lifestyle" is different for everyone (see my posts in other threads) There are soft swap, full swap, same room, girl/girl only, voyeurs... so your question: "Can one be too young for the lifestyle" which lifestyle are you asking? Can you be too young to watch others have sex? Can you be too young to have sex in front of someone? Can you be too young for girl/girl play? It all depends on YOUR lifestyle and how stable you are in your relationship.

We started in this lifestyle because in the early years of our marriage we wanted to know everything about each other. So we talked. COMMUNICATION is very important in a relationship. One day he asked me, "What are some of your fantasies?" I replied right away with "I want to see you with another woman". He was not ready to do that, I did not push him, we had communication. When he was ready, we did that and it opened up a whole new love for each other. So to us, the "lifestyle" is watching the other be pleased and knowing they are happy. Isnt that what this is all about? So are we too young to make each other happy and love each other just the same or even more afterwards?

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Penbuttons the good thing about this Forum is you don't have to agree with the topic majority, minority or change the way you feel. Just go with what works for you!!!

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See my original post. I noted it's not age so much as the work required. One doesn't just wake up one morning with the skills to swing. It is a coming to grips with your needs kind of thing. That takes time.

My youthful indiscretions were about having fun, stretching limits. They were not about growth, bonding, or even the person involved.

My intentions, desires, and wants have matured over the years. The behavior is very similar but more refined. Ergo! I'm less of a slut.

Agree with Pen about the net and sexuality. I would have turned out much differently if I had had information on bisexuality at 14. I just might be that combat boot wearing, leather clad, weapon carrying, butch dyke, computer geek/hacker/programer I was always meant to be. Big Smile.

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