Thursday, December 1, 2016

I received an email the other day, asking that I post this Guide to Sexual Reassignment Surgery on this page, and rather than explain that I really didn't post anything on Trans Honey anymore, I figured I'd read it over, and it seemed worthwhile, I'd go ahead and post it. So I did, and it did, so here is a link to an SRS Guide, for those who want to read it.

otherwise, for what it's worth, about 50 people a day still visit this site (which strikes me as odd since it never changes.....). I'm doing OK. I've legally changed my name and my gender marker and am going through some struggles, but I'm healthy and relatively sane, and I have a job and am in school again (finishing up in a couple weeks-yeah!!!!!!), so things are basically OK

I tell some folks the same advice I tell myself sometimes "get to a place that's safe and stay there". For some people that place includes surgery, and hopefully this is of some little help on your journey to a safe place.

Sunday, November 9, 2014

on a whim I checked this blog (actually I was checking my mega million ticket and got exactly zero numbers right) but after that I checked what all comes up if I type in my drag name and I got this old blog of mine and see that there's still 50 -90 hits per day, so I wonder if if there'd be any interest in resuming posting to TransHoney-because other than that for whatever reason a few people still go to this site, I really don't know anything about you or your interests or anything -so if a few people comment (keep it clean if course) that they'd like to see some current posts on Transformative Honeymoons I'd go ahead and revive it, if no one comments then I wont bother of course,

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Hey - I can't believe this blog is still around - i haven't posted here in like a year,
but I'm looking for an old cycle of Poems I wrote (Drag #1 through drag #8) and it's on my computer somewhere but I can't find it -so I thought I'd try Trans Honey

I'm really very happy these days - I live and work as a woman -I'm very busy I'm starting a band , and
people really like my harmonica playing and no one seems to care that I'm trans - I do drag rarely in St Paul
but my band is a real band -we're payed to be musicians -I'm dating a very nice woman who's pretty amazing in a lot of ways - I have a certain admiration for her really - I am really, really busy these days -
but Im happy -it's weird waking up every day, putting on my make up and going about my life as a basically normal person :) Stacy Wilderness

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

OK this is my vaguely political post.
I really don't do this that often.........

[Note - starting June, 2012 I am entering a worker retraining program,
I will be presenting myself as a trans woman and entering the workforce
as a woman, or at least as person presenting myself as a woman (not
being on hormones I won't be changing my gender marker). I decided to
start a new blog about my experience, and if you are interested in
reading my transition blog, here's the link:

otherwise I'll return you to the final post of Transformative Honeymoons: ]

OK this is my vaguely political post.

One year ago Osama Bin Laden was taken down, and I of course
did a caption, which is still pretty funny, I think so to I reposted that
as a counter balance to this bit of Obama political gamesmanship
to show the moderates that he's not a liberal, whatever....

“It was weak, it was shallow, it was unpersuasive,” said Almeida of White House arguments made against signing the order,

No one really expects anything but idiocy from either party any more, but in America, things are OK if not great, and this is a way cool videowhich is really a lot more of what the rest of America is like if you actually go out and try walking around in drag sometime -this is pretty cool, sorryabout the commercial at the start of it:

"This is America, mind your business" doesn't that seem a lot more patriotic than
the Obama message : I'm too chicken to support you, but you should support me

Anyways I'll get dressed up for therapy Friday but I'm not going to same day
post every time I dress up anymore -I won't be dressed Sunday because I got
the gig right after, next week sometime, I'll post. Until then,

Take Care

Stacy

Postscript - I decided to cancel my appointment with my psychologist
I really can't afford it right now, and really it isn't helping with the
economic issues and the need to lose weight that are really my two
main concerns right now -it just doesn't fill a need any more -I have
made very many trans and gay friends, and when I want to talk there
are people I can call or go over and see or I can go to group, or go to
my gay church -I mean there are a lot of people I can turn to, and I just
really don't see the formal psychological approaches as being helpful in
real life where everyone who is trans is struggling and everyone who
is trans who is struggling is getting by by building a network of other
trans friends and supporters who can help you through and the
psychologists just seem really irrelevant to this survival process
(when I find a job I'll resume therapy, but right now I can't afford
it and don't see it as essential -the social network you build is essential
to your survival as a trans person)

this blog was fun. but really, I'm moving on, I may start a transitioning
blog at some point but right now I need to focus on finding a job that
will permit me to dress as a woman in my private life, and in losing
another 50 pounds and you all really don't want to hear about my
job hunt and struggle to lose weight so this is my final post
at Transformative Honeymoons.

May 11th -first interview for training program -went dressed up to
to an interview for the first time and it went extremely well

May 13th -went to church and played an outdoor gig in boy mode,
a transwoman ex-pastor gave an amazing sermon, gig went
well - went home changed into my gold dress and went to see
the Amen Corner at the Guthrie with a transwoman friend

May 14th -scheduled 2nd interview for training program tomorrow also
set up another interview for Wednesday, but if this comes thru
even though it's unpaid training, because I'll be going dressed as
a woman, I'll cancel the interview for the paid position that I'd
have to work dressed as a man
deleted the phone number of the guy I went on the date with,
he never asked me out on a second date -oh well, with the interview
I would have rescheduled anyways -one little kiss (sigh)

May 15th -I put on my makeup and my favorite skirt and drove to the facility
and signed the forms, so I'm in the program -I'm not sure what
bathroom I'll use, but they know I'm going dressed as a woman
-it starts at the end of the month for the first 60hr segment, so I
called and cancelled the interview for the sales job that I'd have to
move and would never be able to transition on -the lady on the
phone probably thought I was crazy when I said why!
seriously moving being alone starting over hiding again -it would
be so unbelievably difficult to go through all that right now
regardless of whatever the pay was -it would be so, so difficult
I'm setting up an appointment with my psychiatrist, just to
make sure I'm not crazy (well obviously I'm crazy, but you know
what I mean) and I'll go out with a trans woman friend to a
blues bar and play my harp, assuming she's up to going out

May 16th - dressed up for group

May 17th -Sold two junker cars so I have a little cash for a change -took my
dog to the vet for her spaying , mowed the lawn, two beers and
I was out like a light. A decent day for being in boy mode all day

May 18th - in boy mode again - my dogs surgery went well, I'm not planning on
dressing up and going out -but I am going to send an email to everyone
in my band today telling them that I will be attending classes as a
transwoman.

It seemed like a really good point to put this blog to an end,
and I will no longer be posting material here so this is
the end of Transformative Honeymoons, and in a few days my
real life experience begins.

Monday, April 30, 2012

I went on a date this afternoon. I t was really very nice. We talked and
spent a couple hours walking through a zoo and garden. I had a good time.
I'm pretty sure he likes me and thinks I'm pretty. He's going to call me
and ask me out again, and of course I will go with him -he's very nice.

my life sucks
anyways I'm two minutes from walking out the door, after taking a
couple pictures of myself all dolled up, and I get a message that
he's not going to make it -he's not feeling well, but maybe we can
go out this evening, so I email back:

OK, thanks for letting me know

I'm all dolled up all ready

(as you can see) so I'll go to church and
head to [well I'm not going to tell you] anyways. I'll probably be

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About Me

I was born a male and still live some of my life that way - which is OK, sort of, but I recently started hormones and go out in public and present
myself as a woman frequently, and while I don't contemplate surgery, I would like to
transition to living full time
as a woman, and I am currently
seeking employment as a person
transitioning to female.