Mercedes M. Yardley

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Winkin, Blinken, and Nod: The Baby Update

I’m telling you what this post is about in clear, bold letters so you can choose whether or not you wish to read it. There’s some difficult news, but as always, there’s a thread of hope in there as well.

Most of you know that I was surprised and delighted to find out that we were expecting a baby. YAY! Then we discovered we were having triplets. YAY, but WHA-?! We soon found out that one of the triplets had passed away, and we’re now expecting twins. Although deeply saddened by the loss of our child, we’re still excited for the twins, and hoped both would be healthy.

Some things are not meant to be. At my last appointment, we discovered that while one of the babies seems healthy and shockingly active (hello, Olympics!) the other one spends her time curled into a tiny ball. (We don’t actually know gender yet, but in my heart, this dear one is a baby girl.) It turns out that this baby has quite a bit of fluid on the brain, as well as too much fluid in the spine. The doctor, an extremely kind man, told me that this baby most likely won’t survive until birth, and if she does, she’ll probably only live a few hours.

I didn’t know how to take this, quite honestly. After losing the first child, it didn’t even cross my mind that we could lose a second. While I was still processing the new information, he informed me that the death of the second baby could cause my body to go into preterm labor, and we could perhaps lose the third.

Carrying triplets and then watching them disappear one by one seems too cruel to be real. It’s been an extremely difficult couple of weeks, but I’ve determined that there are still two babies at this point, and the game is still going on. While there is sorrow, there is still hope, and I choose to cling to it. After all, it’s what has gotten me this far in life, and I have never regretted preparing for the worst while hoping for the best.

Best wishes to you and yours, Mercedes. While it is a sad time, your attitude astonishes me. You’re Rouge and Wonder Woman rolled into one, in my eyes. We never know what the outcome will be, Doctor’s always do try to prepare us for the worst possible situation and many times their predictions come out wrong.

I’m so terribly sorry to hear what you are going through. Though it was so tragic to hear of the first loss, I knew it was not unusual to happen with multiples. It never occurred to me to worry about the other two…I wish I could give you a big hug in person. Please know that lots of prayers and love are coming your way from all of us. So hard to try to make sense of why such things happen….

Those babies are here for a reason, all of them. They are blessed to be carried by you, wrapped up in all your strength and hope and love. You have our prayers and I’m sending you all the faith I can call up that the Plan is still one of happiness. Love and light and blessings to you, my friend.

Wow, Mercedes. I wouldn’t have thought there could have been potential danger to the other baby either. I must say, I really admire your attitude and your courage. I think that if I was in your situation, there’d be a good chance I’d be falling apart. My thoughts are with you and the babies. Stay strong. As long as you, the mother, doesn’t give up, maybe that baby won’t give up either.

I am so very sorry to read about your loss. I am praying for you. We lost our second son when I was full term and just like you, it was something I really never considered. If you even want to talk, let me know. Stay strong…

Oh honey 🙁 I’m so sorry…I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. i will cry for you and hope for you. You are a wonderful person. I will cling to that hope with you. *hugs and gentle squeezes and hand holding.

Well I am going to just say it… that sucks. But you are right… there is plenty of hope! Our medical technology is amazing… AMAZING! Game on is right… You will be in our prayers tonight… and for a while 🙂 *HUGS*

Mercedes, I’m sending you and your sweet little ones the best vibes I can muster. Know that everyday I think about you and your babes. We can’t predict the future and life is uncertain, but we can hope for the best and strive for it. You’re strong, as I’ve said before. Realizing how strong puts me in awe of you a little. You are amazing, and those children of yours have a superhero for a Mommy. Many hugs and good thoughts to you and your family.