48 Sexist Comments Men Hear In A Lifetime

Earlier in December we shared a video from HuffPo on the endless sexist comments women hear in a lifetime. “Don’t be so bossy.” “Don’t be a slut.” “Why are you getting so emotional?” “It must be that time of the month.” “You must have been beautiful when you were younger.” Those amount to just a few we are frequently subjected to.

But sexism isn’t only directed toward women and girls, men and boys also hear their share of harmful messages about what it means to be a “real man.”

In their new video, HuffPo presents “48 Things Men Hear In A Lifetime.”

“Boys don’t play with dolls.” “Boys don’t cry.” “You throw like a girl.” “Boys will be boys.” “Don’t be such a pussy.” “Dude, are you on your period? Man Up!”

Yes, sexism cuts both ways. Society has created ridiculously limited definitions of maleness, imposing unattainable and impossible expectations on boys and men. But what strikes us most about many of the messages in the video is that they are comparisons to being a girl or woman, because of course, what could be worse than that, right? (sense the sarcasm)

These messages aren’t just hurtful to boys and men; they are hurtful to everyone.

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And I will start listing just a FEW of the vast numbers of other animals on this planet, on this galaxy, in this current day and time, whose species gender roles are nothing at all about male exhibition of dominance, or male dominance over females. Species like African lions, where the females don’t answer to the male. He answers to and respects THEM- because the reality is that he is far more endangered surviving as a lone bachelor than he is among a nice-sized pack of females, whose collective size and strength offers him protective benefits of great magnitude, in exchange for his own physical prowess. The females also offer him plentiful food, as they are far more skilled and capable hunters of premium prey. Bachelor males do not eat as well or as often as those with a backing family of females, aka pride. The male is there for the fulfillment of the female pride members’ sexual and reproduction needs, and to play with/show affection towards/focus on the offspring. Very occasionally, he may face a challenge of a new, younger, fresher bachelor male looking to take his place. If the lionesses are satisfied with him, the new male will face resistance from not only the resident male, but from his female pride partners as well. That can change the outcome significantly, of course. In fact, it can send a new male off in search of a different territory and pride to overtake.
But if the lionesses feel their male is inadequate or not fulfilling his role, or that this new male might give them better hunting grounds and safer child-rearing territory, they will simply observe the conflict silently…The lionesses are calling the shots at the end of the day. So much for those mighty “biological, animal” arguments, guys.
Funny how human males who look to those amazing male lions for some species survival tips and emulate, are the ones who win contentment and security in their lives…

Lions:
just ONE example of how being referred to as a “pussy” in other animal species is a total compliment.

Max, you’re an intelligent human being- you’re the only poster who had anything at ALL science-based or fact-driven to say.

Gender is globally on a spectrum, and non-binary, throughout all of the animal kingdom, including homosapiens.
It is separate from sexuality, completely.

Don’t even get me going about male sea horses, little darling examples of nurturing tenderness as fathers, specially designed, anatomically and bilogically, as caretakers of the very newest and youngest in their species. A role that leaves them quite vulnerable, and quite targeted by natural enemies.
I wonder if the female sea horses get all bravado about how much tougher and stronger they are than the males, simply due to this one, isolated fact…
You know… the way male humans have, over time, and continue to “enculturate” themselves into believing. (Had to throw the big word in there. Ya know- it makes a person sound so… smart… when presenting their social mythology-based alternative facts AS actual facts…!!?)

Too bad we females have the language and communication skills over males, according to all this gender restriction.
Must be why we are silenced, spoken over, and interrupted by dominant, self-worth challenged males so much.
Between needing to prove themselves as dominant and therefore a “real man”, they can’t possibly allow any of us linguistic and communication masters of the female gender speak for longer than 20 seconds, as we might just have the ability to shit them down and expose a bunch of straight BS at the 21 second mark…

I beg to differ, Mr. Rex. Culture drives everything, as all the most important recent scholarship in ethology, zoology, and anthropology, and much of it in biology as well, demonstrates. Cetaceans, primates, corvids — and the list is much longer — all turn out to be deeply enculturated, as well as motivated by complex emotions like altruism and sorrow, revenge and alienation: so much for the primacy of evolutionary advantage-seeking. They, like us, are sentient beings whose culture determines a huge portion of how they act and live. And that is why sexism is a cultural choice, not a biological imperative.

Any man will tell you, we do not consider these sexist. The world is biologically driven. Everyone pretends to be rational beings considering options, but even the most rational of animals follows the genetically induced mandate to reproduce. This reproductive strategy drives EVERYTHING. From women fearing to make a mistake and choosing sexual partners, with men performing acts of dominance to show suitability

Wow, you’re just filled to the brim with bullshit. I’m “any man” and these things are sexist. Just because you are safely wrapped and coddled inside your imaginary world of binary genders and clear definitions does not mean you hold they key to any kind of fact. Feel free to open your eyes and start realizing that the real world, gender identity and gender roles are wildly oppressive both to men, women and anyone who considers themselves somewhere in between – or shut your tiny, stupid trap.

His logic seemed pretty sound to me. It seems as though you don’t understand that exceptions to the rule do not invalidate the rule itself. Sure, people are different. But humans are very predictable as most animals are.