STEP ONE: Spend time in bed doing nothing together, naked if you prefer.

If you like, talk about whatever’s on your mind. It doesn’t have to be erotic, but keep it simple.

See if you can give yourselves permission just to be together quietly, doing nothing.

Notice your breathing, the temperature of your skin, the way your body presses against the mattress.

STEP TWO: Now turn to your partner. If you’ve taken the time to tune into your breath and your body, you’ll probably find your senses are more open, and physical intimacy can proceed in a more natural, less forced way.