My son is a hateful incel, and I just cannot save him or defend him anymore.

This comment was posted to reddit on Nov 10, 2018 at 11:49 pm and was deleted within 12 minutes.

My son is a hateful incel, and I just cannot save him or defend him anymore.

I know that you feel worse as a parent for the actions you chose, but you shouldn’t. He doesn’t value you or your wife or respect you as parents, so you’re under no obligation to give him any respect as your child. As a child of a narcissist, I’ve had to teach myself over time that the opposite is true as well.

A family is only as strong as its members choose to make it, and being related to somebody doesn’t mean that you have to love them. I’m sure that you do still love your son, which is why all of this has been so difficult for you and your family to experience. But you cannot let that love for him guilt you for your choices for the rest of your life.