i missed the past few days so idk if this is post specific but ia cause (and i might be overstepping over here because i don't know anyone who had to deal with incest/is dealing with it) but it's not really consensual and even if it was, it still prob isn't healthy

and it's not even funny. There were literally only 2 or 3 people in that initial secrets post that admitted to incest (and relations between cousins are extremely common in some parts of the world), and we still get hundreds of references to them.

From personal experience, I do not recommend owning your food service business unless you have a good inkling it's going to be successful for a long time. Managing someone else's business, though, seems like a better idea.

little snack bites and a lot of different kinds of salads (the more colorful, the better) if i'm in a hurry, a lunch that's basically like lunchables except i cooked it myself on days when i don't want to share, and a lot of rice related meals if i'm being lazy

the key is presentation though so if you dress up your sandwiches, they'll be more fun to eat

there are these little cups of precooked rice you can buy in a 4-pack -- you just stick them in the microwave for 60 seconds. i'll bring that and some shredded cheddar cheese. sometimes i'll crack an egg over it (after nuking it for 60 seconds) and then nuke that again for another 45, then add cheese. i'm lazy as fuq when it comes to my lunch tbh.

I buy these chicken pre-cooked slices (Perdue Short Cuts) and I put white rice, beans, corn, and mixed greens in a plastic container - heat up, and have that for lunch. I'm almost always having it run over a two day period, because if you do it right, it's a lot.

You can probably do this the night before, and bring it to work - but my office is cushy, so I bring the stuff to work, and make it there (and a fridge, so I store any left-over).

we've been waiting to hear for w e e k s whether we got this one place/if it's available to move in/etc and FINALLY today we found out that it's all good and I think I've found a mover and I have to e-mail our electric company/Internet provider and MY GOD this is a lot of work but I am so relieved that this nightmare is almost over

Okay, so last week I ate a pot brownie and it fucked me up. I thought I was in Hell. I heard voices, I had paranoid delusions. I was completely immobilize for at least three hours--and not to mention the fucking intense anxiety and panic that accompanied it. It took a solid 24 hours for me to feel like myself again. For now, I;m done with pot. I like reality just fine now lol

Anyway, I'm officially on summer break and I'm bored as fuck. I don't know what I'm going to do to pass the time for the next 3 months. I have a job but its only 2 days out of the week. I was gonna party all summer but after that brownie.....

lmao last year I was stupid enough to eat a pot brownie in Amsterdam of all places - that shit was strong and I hadn't been near weed in years. I am a control freak so idk why I did it - I sat in a chair in a noisy bar with flashing lights for HOURS (I think), I couldn't physially move. I was convinced that if I moved I was going to puke and if I puked I would definitely shit my pants. I spent the whole time verging on a panic attack, and spent the whole time trying to talk myself out of it.

finally got a new bank account that nobody in my fam can't touch. i kind of feel relieved by that because now i can do a direct deposit and not have folks snatch my money. my dog got the all clear from my vet (he had a butt infection or something) and is happy as ever.

so my supposed "best friend" has been depressed for the past year or so. But recently things I guess have gotten worse? We used to hang out all the time but I haven't seen her since April. I've been texting her, but I don't ever get a response. She'll send like a "I'm sorry!" text a few days later after I ask her to hang out.

Is it wrong for me to be a little pissed? Like I'm a little hurt that she can't even take the time to respond to my texts. I know she is going through a rough patch right now but at this point I don't even want to hang out with her if that is how she is going to treat her friends. I sound really bad here but it's true.

sometimes I won't text ~anyone back for weeksbelieve me, she's not doing it on purpose, and probably already feels horrible about itit's not like she's doing it to cause you pain, she's really depressed

From experience, she's probably not doing it on purpose, as the other commenters have said. Depression is a helluva illness, in my worst periods I don't have the motivation to get out of my bed, let alone interact with people. And I get paranoid that I'll say something wrong, so I don't say anything at all.

idk, I know it's hard but maybe try to be more understanding? Or try to talk to her delicately, and let her know you're there for her or whatever. Turning your back rn could make things worse, tbh.

you have every right to be hurt, tbh. but understand that it has nothing to do with you, and depression is a sonofabitch. just make sure she knows you're there when she needs you, because feeling abandoned by her friends will only make her feel worse, and just let her come to you. it's rough, when my depression was awful i turned off message notifs on my phone and put it on silent for a week, only talking to my mom for 3 minutes to tell her i was alive and okay. she really is sorry when she says she is, trust me.

as someone who is going through a tough/depressed period in their life try not to fault your friend. It takes a Herculean amount of effort when you're depressed to do one thing and she probably feels pretty bad about herself so she'd rather shut herself off from people than explain. It really doesn't have anything to do with you, if that makes sense.

it's natural to feel a little upset that that person isn't splitting the responsibilities of the friendship 50/50, but you also gotta remember she may be dealing with something that is actively hampering her ability to do so.

I'd say let it roll off your back for a while and every so often let her know that you're always there for her if she ever needs to talk.

Honestly this might be a time when you might need to shoulder the burden of the friendship, which sounds and is terribly unfair, but as long as you really love her and want to continue the bond you guys have, you'll come out all the stronger for it.

the best thing you could do for her is to make her feel like you're still here for her... i would say something like, 'i know you're not up for hanging out but we should chat'-- like over text, or facebook or something... so she feels like she's still got a friend but she doesn't have to worry about going out.

Totally random book question: if you read Northanger Abbey, what did you think of it? Austen has never been my favorite but I decided to read this and Mansfield Park because those are two I have never read and I'm trying to make my way through the classic authors.

It wasn't my favorite of hers. I wish she'd gone more into Catherine's love of Gothic lit--like, I think it refers to The Monk, which is one of THE most hilariously OTT things I've ever read, but it all stays very PG and doesn't really delve into her ~dark~ interests. I know it's Austen and all, but I would have liked that. And of course all the money stuff is exasperating.