This is a guide on how to get a smart girl to fall for you. This article is geared more towards teenage boys for I am a teenage girl who has decided to let you in on some of the inner workings of the female mind. This is a rare opportunity because girls often like to keep these things a secret in an effort to be mysterious. Don't forget though, that girls will like who they like and sometimes nothing you do will change that. If that happens you just have to respect her decision. This guide however will improve your chances.

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Steps

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Okay so the first thing is obvious, BE CLEAN! It's easy. Smart girls may not be quite as infatuated with looks, but being clean is essential. A girl will often be impressed by a boy who even puts the effort in. So brush your teeth, floss, use mouth wash, shower, WASH YOUR HAIR! Only Pete Wentz can (barely!) pull off the greasy look, it is doubtful you can. Wear clean clothes, I must say that boys shirts smell the best, but only when they are worn one day, the same shirt worn over and over without being washed is NOT sexy in the least. Bad Hygiene makes you look like a slob and girls will most definitely pick up on it. ***Bonus: Wearing cologne will not only make you look like you actually put in some effort but it will make you stick out in a girl's mind, scent is the most powerful form of recognition after all (Don't wear too much axe though. Some girls think it smells kinda bad. Buy Axe that smells good, and DON'T wear too much).***

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Be nice. A little friendly teasing is okay, and it will definitely help form some inside jokes, but remember girls, especially teenagers, are always at least a little insecure, and often really, really insecure, so be careful, even the most confident of girls are somewhat insecure about something, so watch what you say or you will most definitely piss someone off. If you make jokes, anything "wrong" or disgusting will creep them out (especially middle school girls).

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Believe that you deserve her. One of the reason you are reading this article is because somewhere, deep inside, you think you don't deserve her, you are not worthy of her, which is complete nonsense and a lie. Remember that it matters if you think it matters; if you think you are unworthy of her then the same thought will come to you again and again until you believe it to be true.

To remove that thought try to change the response of the cue. For example whenever you see her in reality or in your head, loudly repeat in your head 'I am worthy of her, I deserve her'.

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Have an abundance mentality. Keep the truth in mind that she is not the only smart girl in the world and there are plenty of cute and smart girls out there. If you keep this 'abundance mentality' in mind it's not only going to help you get girls but will help you in other aspects of life as well. So don't limit your options because there are plenty.

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Do not overuse swear words or foul language during a conversation. The girl may be offended or put-off if your language is too vulgar.

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Touch. Not in a sexual way though, that will just freak her out. But touching her arm in conversation or to get her attention is a great way to get her thinking about you in a "More than a friend" way, which is what you want after all, right? ***Bonus Tip- Hug a girl, hugging makes you look tender, caring, compassionate, and sensitive. All of which are good attributes in a girls mind. Whether you surprise a girl from hugging her from behind when she is talking to someone else, hugging her in greeting, or hugging her when she tells you something personal (either something sad or emotional) this gesture will make a girl melt.**

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Chivalry isn't dead. The little things matter. Hold open a door if someone is behind you and always be polite. Girls notice when guys are kind and it makes a good impression.

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Compliments really are the way to a girls heart. Seriously. If there is something you like about a girl, whether it is her personality, some physical attribute, etc. Say something about it. Honest, genuine compliments will make a girl feel special but you have to mean it. We can totally tell when you are making it up or lying and it makes you seem like a jerk or a player. Make sure not to overdo it though. If she starts to look uncomfortable after the 5th compliment that you've given her in 3 minutes, you're probably overdoing it.

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DON'T BE A PLAYER! It makes you seem like a jerk the girl you like will always be questioning your true intentions.

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Be a gentleman. Not be confused with chivalry. When I say be a gentlemen I mean to everyone. Her parent and friends especially. This will make you seem polite and kind, girls will love it, trust me I am one.

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Be a little bit protective. Not too much, especially if you aren't going out. If you are still in the "Chase Stage" don't overdo it. Just stand up for her if someone is being a bully or is somehow hurting her feelings, position yourself just a touch ahead of her when you do and stand tall. Be a hero, it's hot.

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Stand close to her. It's a subtle way of telling her and people around her that you are into her and it really does make all the difference.

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Be Yourself. Girls want a boy who has a good sense of self and is confident. Yes, your mom really is right sometimes ***Bonus Tip: Treat your mom, and all women for that matter, with the utmost respect. Same goes for siblings, children, and pets. Yes, girls take notice, and yes they like it.***

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Be trustworthy. Keep her secrets, share your emotions, and don't go and tell your friends all about her flaws, just tell them the good things. And even if things don't work out between you and her keep the secrets she told you. This will make you look trustworthy to other girls too. All girls gossip be sure not to give them something negative to gossip about.

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Always hint that you like her and treat her a little better than you treat other girls. Showing her she is special is the fastest way to a girls heart.

KEEP HER SECRETS! I cannot stress this enough.

Have some really close friends. This is a turn on because A) She will see that you can keep up some great relationships and B) She will see that you have some guy friends to do some guys things with so she won't have to be dragged along to watch a sporting event that she isn't interested in (but keep in mind that some girls love sports.)

Always show how kind you are.

Smile and/or Wink at her; make her feel special

Be genuine; when you say something mean it.

Never tell a girl that her friends are stupid, ugly, dumb or boring.

Be educated and articulate; girls like smart boys.

Forever give up "That's what she said" jokes and other ones like that. They're a major turn-off, unless they're really rare and perfectly timed.

Witty banter, intellectual discussion... definitely a good idea. As previously mentioned, you SHOULD make her feel like a heroine in a Jane Austen Novel

Read some literature (I recommend Pride and Prejudice, which has the most simple but most romantic line of all time "....Dearest, loveliest Elizabeth"- Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy has too many good lines to name) it will help you to come up with some good lines (cheesy pickup lines are a definite no-no.)

Warnings

Don't come on too strong. You don't want to look like a psycho.

Telling others her secrets will result in immediate distrust and you will be at the top of her @#$% list. Not a good thing.If you tell her secrets, one other thing that happens is she finds out, tells other girls, and no one will want to date you.

Don't stay in the "Friend Zone" for too long she will wonder about whether or not you really like and you want it to be fairly clear that you want to be more than friends sometime soon.

Don't get too wrapped up, have a life outside of her, some personal interests and friends.

When I say touch, I mean in the most innocent way possible. Anything other than that will freak a girl, nearly any girl, out.

Cheesy pickup lines? Don't...just don't.

If you do wear cologne, do NOT overdo it. It can be the one thing that sticks in a girl's mind, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's a good thing.

Don't start hugging until you are past the "Friend Zone". Unless you are really good friends and she is upset or really happy, hugging could result in her freaking out.

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