Someone very dear to me answers the same question the same way almost every time.

"How are you?" a friend, family member, stranger or acquaintance will say. I am to a point where I would bet good money her answer always is "Oh just busy. So busy!"

Now this answer is common. This is common for people who work 80+ hour weeks, for stay-at-home moms, for teenagers in high school, college students...even people who sit at home watching TV most of the day will probably answer in a similar way.

In our culture, we honor over-achievers more than any other trait. We affirm those who are "always busy", because what is less honorable than being lazy?

In my opinion, our culture has made busy-ness a life commandment. It is necessary if you want kudos. This life commandment is crap. You can work 80 hour weeks, but when is the last time you walked in the park or read a book (ahem...one you actually WANT to read) and didn't feel completely guilty? Or spend the time thinking of all the other, more worthwhile, things you COULD be doing instead?

Now, I am not free of this. I currently have 3 jobs. Busy-ness is my excuse. It is my validation. It feels FANTASTIC to hear the oohs and aahs of my loved ones applauding my hard work. And it is my go-to topic when I play catch up with friends because it allows me to validate my life choices because of their approval. Have I mentioned how dysfunctional this is?!

Let me be clear: there is absolutely nothing wrong with success. It is crucial to be motivated. But the question here is not about success being wrong or right, it is about how it is used. Do you bury yourself in busy-ness so you feel better about yourself? Are you so worried about cleaning the kitchen and having dinner on the table at 6pm that you haven't even played with your children? Are you so caught up in work that you don't even listen to your friends when you go out? Are you so guilty doing anything supposedly "unproductive" that it ruins said thing?

My recommendation is scheduled you time that is actually relaxing. My personal preference is some form of meditation (and there are many). Meditation doesn't necessarily mean you sit in silence for two hours. I would hight encourage all of you reading this to look into forms of mediation that fit your personality and needs. Here are some stats on how mediation impacted the workplace...

A Detroit based chemical plant posted the following results three years after implementing meditation:

Absenteeism fell by 85%

Productivity rose 120%

Injuries dropped 70%

Profits increased 520%

According to reports, there have been over 1500 separate studies since 1930. All were related to meditation and its effects on the practitioners. Some statistics on people who meditate include results like:

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