Oxytocin in practice: the endless search for mother love

by Danièle Joulin, Deborah Collins

My homeopathic training, following Dominique
Senn’s method, made me, together with our study group of that time, realise
that Syntocinon® has become almost standard treatment during birth, and even during
caesarean sections and abortions, where it is injected intrauterine.

The importance of Oxytocin in my practice has grown from the well-known question:
“When did your complaints start?” Often, when the answer was “since birth”, or
“in my first weeks of life”, Oxytocinhas
provided a solution.I have seen many
sorts of complaints rising from post-partum depression (much more severe than a
few days of ‘baby blues’), allergies, joint pains or back pains, digestive
complaints, and of course, anything in the gynaecological sphere.

My most remarkable case was that of a woman
who had used voluntary abortion as a means of birth control about fifteen
times. She had a dental abscess that was resolved within 24 hours after taking Oxytocinum XM.

My view of Oxytocin, the hormone of
attachment, is that it can also lead to detachment; the relationship
mother-child can have become so fusional that there is no place for the father
anymore. He feels rejected by his wife, who has no libido at all. I have come
to call it the “hormone of divorce”, after having seen many such cases in the
past twenty years.

The second aspect of this intense
mother-child attachment is the digestion: a mother who is afraid that her child
is not drinking enough, or who refuses to eat.

I have also noticed that children who
continue to be exclusively breastfed past six months receive, like their
mother, a boost of oxytocin, which makes weaning off more difficult. It is as
if mother and child find themselves in a bubble together, where the mother puts
herself at the complete disposition of the child.

In my practice, Oxytocinhas helped to unravel this overwhelming and too demanding
tie, but I have always followed it with another remedy. I have used it as an
intermediary remedy, an aid to find a more flexible bond with the mother, even
in adults long after being weaned!

Research into Oxytocin and male infidelity

Oxytocin, known as the “cuddle hormone”,
turns out to have a remarkable effect on men who take it: it would seem that
they have less desire to start a relationship outside their marriage. Oxytocin
is especially known for its role in the bond between mother and child, helping
to create a blissful feeling feeling similar to the one women experience when
they are with their partner or when they experience an orgasm. In men, this
hormone creates a strong sense of emotional attachment, which, according to
research, prevents them from infidelity.

Israeli researchers discovered in 2012 a
positive relationship between oxytocin and the success of new couples. The
level of oxytocin in the blood proved to be a reliable indicator for the future
of the relationship.

Recently, German researchers at the University of Bonn took this a step further, and
discovered that oxytocin not only reinforces the emotional bond between people,
but also prevents men from undertaking extra-marital relationships.

Case by Deborah Collins

A man in his sixties comes for treatment
of his increasingly severe cough – it has become so bad that he fears that he
will die coughing. He has been treated homeopathically in the past, and has
responded well to Staphysagria, but this does not touch his cough.

The line running through his history seems
to be his relationship – or rather lack of relationship – with his mother.
Although he has done much therapeutic work around this great lack in his life,
his difficult relationship continued to affect many aspects of his life,
especially regarding women. He has been married four times, and divorced four
times. Each time, he felt that he had finally find the unconditional love that
he had always lacked, but when his new partner could not provide him with that,
he would look elsewhere.

It would seem that his mother was not ready
for motherhood at all when she was pregnant with him. She carried many problems
from her own distressing childhood, including a hard mother, who could not
manage financially when her husband left her. She tells many different versions
of his birth, including a caesarean section, although she bears no signs of
this. All that she says only reinforces my patient’s feelings of having been
too much for her, and of never having been welcomed. In fact, he was so
thoroughly ignored for the first three years of his life that an elderly
neighbour woman finally took charge of him, and he spent most of his days with
her during his youth. She became much more of a mother for him than his
biological mother.

This “lack of welcome”, combined with a
tendency to reach out for love at any opportunity, pointed towards Oxytocinum.

Prescription:
Oxytocinum
200C, then later 1M

Follow-up:
The cough diminished almost immediately to about 5%
of what it had been. He could go for long walks again and was no longer afraid
that he would die coughing. More
importantly, however, was his relationship to his now deceased mother. “Even
thinking of her used to fill me with rage and frustration. I could not stand to even hear the music that
she used to love – I would turn it off if I heard it on the radio – but now I
choose to listen to it, and it fills me with warmth.”

The mother-child bond, lacking during their
years together, seems to be healing. It is never too late.