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Quite stumped at the moment :/ (advice thread)

Hi, I know this is a bit strange for a first post, but just letting you know Iím not trolling haha. Never got round to making an account on the forums but Iíve always been an admirer of the forums and the advice use guys give .

As the title says I need some adviceÖ

I was at a get together with some friends on the weekend and got quite drunk. I was sharing a bed with one of my best friends and you can probably guess were this is leading to. My best friend came onto me and we nearly had sex. Although, I let it go further than I should have, I stopped it going too far. It was really strange the next day because we didnít feel any awkwardness at all and we were just laughing about it and talking/joking. We ended up spending the rest of the next day at my friendís house and sharing a bed again (which seems really stupid I know). The strange thing was the next morning we just spent hours just talking and cuddling. I just really donít know what to think of the situation because weíve been friends for over 6 years and Iím scared that I might actually have feelings for him. The reason why I feel worried is because Iím in quite a close knit group of friends and whatever happens might put that at risk.

Well Iíll leave it at that for now, since itís getting late (couldnít sleep :3) and I just wanted to get it off my chest.

Re: Quite stumped at the moment :/ (advice thread)

The BEST relationships start out as/are best friends. This is a Win/Win situation for you. Why would you even consider holding back, or limiting how much greatness this could be??? If you guys are as close as you say you are, you could be that couple that everyone else WISHES were them.

Don't limit a lifetime of potential happiness/bliss for some cliquey group of social activity. I can practically guarantee that if any one of your friends in your group find someone to be with, they'd drop your group like a hot rock.

Re: Quite stumped at the moment :/ (advice thread)

Since he is your best friend, you should be able to talk to him about anything. So, why not talk to him about the encounter you had in bed with him? Was he just horsing around? Was it just sex? Or was there something more?

You will never know until you get his perspective. That requires having a talk with him.

Re: Quite stumped at the moment :/ (advice thread)

I completely agree with borg69 and mbamike. The fact that the first experience was fun and felt natural is really important. So many guys experiment, then deprive themselves of the pleasure that experience gave them with feelings of shame and guilt. Instead you guys hung out together and cuddled the next day. Definitely have a chat with him. If you are both on the same page, I hope your close group of friends are cool with whatever you choose to tell them and continue to love you both unconditionally.

Re: Quite stumped at the moment :/ (advice thread)

I think I was thinking too much into things, the reason being cause I've never actually experienced anything like that before (I'm a virgin, he isn't). I think it was just a spare of the moment thing and I'll just have to see how things go in the future, but everything seems the same.