I do, gently. Before DS was born, we had multiple lengthy discussions about our 'parenting goals' (lol) and we both feel really strongly that we'd like to parent differently than we were raised.

Sometimes he doesn't quite get what's developmentally appropriate for our kids, though, or he gets frustrated and snaps. We talk it over later (never in front of the kids) and I try to give him tips for dealing with situation more constructively. He doesn't think it's condescending, he asks for help. He also helps keep me in check, we're a pretty good team.