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Today on One Click Society at Positive World Radio Network, I talk with one of the most awesome new bloggers out there, Mars Dorian. Mars understands something many long time bloggers still can’t grasp: content is the key, but so is living up to your potential.

If you take the way you are right now
and you promote that, then it’s not as inspiring and motivational as it could be because we still carry a lot of
garbage from society, right? You don’t live to your fullest
potential. I always say that instead of being yourself, become
the person you want to be, like your ideal version in your mind,
and then work towards that with everything you do. Never say to
yourself, “I’m just this way or this way.” Find your ideal
version and say, “What would this version of me do in this
situation?” And then you act like this.

…in the beginning, I was really lost. I was really lost in the
jungle. I had so many crazy ideas in my head, so many passionate
ideas, but it took me a few months to find my real brand in
terms of the person that I want to be. It’s really hard to write
the way that you are in real life, right? For me, it’s very easy
if I talk to a person to show what I’m all about, to be
authentic. But when it comes to writing, because I’m not the
greatest writer in the world, it took me a while to actually
make that transition. That’s what I did over a couple of months,
and I just thought about what part of yourself do you want to
show the world. What is the thing that you want to represent?
And then I worked towards that goal.

On my radio show, One Click Society, I had a chance to talk with my friend Coach Laura Rubinstein about the power she receives from what we call, feminine energy. Surpirse! It’s not just for women-it’s there for everyone to capture and use to enhance their businesses, their relationships, their lives…

“I started doing things like writing five things every night that I
was grateful for in the world about myself. And then five things that I
could acknowledge about myself. Because if anyone is like I was out there,
being very hard on themselves and critical of others, then it’s really hard
to access that gratitude. But if you start recognizing things and looking
for things that you can acknowledge and praise. So I started writing down
five things every night that I could acknowledge about myself, which was
really hard. I used to have to say, ‘OK. Well, I like my fingernails.’…’I like my nose, or I like my thumb.’ Something like that. It had to
start somewhere, but it’s amazing what happened. It was like magic, and I
had ultimate power in my life once I got that I could start praising myself
and giving thanks for things that showed up. Even if it was a flower in the
concrete between the sidewalk slabs that I got to see because it’s got this
pretty yellow color. And I was so grateful I got to see this pretty yellow
color that I just adored, and I can generate joy because I just saw that.
Once I started doing that, people started giving me stuff, and manifesting
was really easy. So, you hit upon one of the most powerful forms of
feminine energy there is, which is gratitude and joy and really amping that
up.”

What would you say if we were sitting down chatting over coffee and I said to you, “What do you want?”

If you’re like most people, you’d probably start stumbling over your words, struggling to give me an answer. Do you know why that is? I believe it’s because the honest truth is, you want it all.

It’s true, isn’t it? You want unlimited earning potential, you want eight weeks off every summer, and you only want to work Tuesday through Thursday, 9am until noon. When I ask you want you want, you struggle to give me an answer because you’re worried you’ll jinx yourself if you leave something out and you’ll never end up getting it.

I’m willing to bet, however, that if instead of asking you what you want, I asked you what you do not want that you’d have absolutely no problem giving me a long list of answers: you don’t want to work weekends, you don’t want to work evenings, you don’t want to have to commute more than an hour, and so on and so forth.

It’s interesting to me that most people want to move away from their pain, but they don’t really know what they’re moving towards.

In order to get what you want, you have to identify what you’re willing to do to get it, what you’re not willing to do, and also what you’re willing to give up for it.

Get yourself a piece of paper and make three columns.

Let’s say what you want is to lose thirty pounds. Write that goal on the top of your page. In the first column, write down the things you’re willing to do to reach that goal: go to the gym three days a week, hire a trainer, go on a diet, etc. In the next column, write down the things you’re not willing to do: you don’t want to give up alcohol, you don’t want to give up sleep, you won’t give up cream or sugar in your morning coffee, and so forth.

In the third column, after looking at what you’re willing to do and what you’re not willing to do, write down what you’re willing to trade. For example, in order to fit your desired three gym visits per week around your work schedule, you might have to give up sleep after all which means trading sleep in order to go to the gym.

This exercise will help you create a sustainable plan that will help you reach your goal. Have you seen the Walt Disney classic, Alice in Wonderland?

Try to picture the following scene where Alice approaches the Cheshire Cat and says to him, “Would you tell me please, which way I ought to go from here?”

The Cheshire Cat says, “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”

“I don’t much care where,” said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the cat.

Alice responds with, “So long as I get somewhere.”

To which the Cat replies, “Oh, you’re sure to do that if you only walk long enough.”

In other words, if you don’t know where you’re going, all you have to do is walk around and you’ll get there.