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Not Every Door is Locked

Should I blame him for walking out on me and trying to retain his negative status and refuse to be put at risk, or should I thank him for urging both of us to get tested?

It cannot be easy. For some time now I have been battling with acceptance of the fact that he is no longer in my life. This is the person who used to make me smile and kept the spark in my eye. When he decided to walk away, I thought my world had just crumbled down on me. I became suicidal and for a moment, stopped living.

Then I realized that there is so much more to life than that 1 person in your life. Yes, we all need love, we all need to be loved, BUT, love will always come at the right time. We should not go chasing after love as it will always find us. I am currently NOT in a relationship, but I have not given up on love. Joy, peace, prosperity and LOVE awaits me on the other side of the door. Whatever is meant to be mine will be, and it is required of me to have faith and remain focused. I have learnt to love myself through self acceptance and forgiveness. The journey to total happiness is not always smooth, but if you stay staring at the closed door, you might miss the other doors that are opening up for you. The person who is responsible for your happiness is YOU!

One thing that I am taking out of this experience is that although I started as “Barely Coping”, my name is about to change. Change is the only constant and a positive change is coming my way.

reading dis post made me shed a tear as it reminds of sum many things that have happened in my short existence…embrace change and I love the part where you say: the only person responsible for your hapiness is you. Cudn’t agree more…hugs back @ you

Hello dear,
i completely understand the situation u r i, don’t blame him either 4 letting u get tested for HIV, It is good that u now know ur status and u can make informed decisions on ur future as well. Love will come by just don’t work ur self u its not good for u, me or any one else. I have gone through the same situation but for my case i knew my status and i told him every thing and it was not his problem at the beginning but later when he got advise from other people he walked out on me, i felt like ending my life too. But my online friends here encouraged me a lot and i have forgotten every thing and living my happy life. Lover yourself and take control of the situation because you are worth more than silver and goal. u r precious and beautiful.

I think if he didn’t leave you now, he would of left you later, positive or not. I think it may well be better he has gone, and you can get on with your life. I’m a guy so I have some idea of what guys do. Never give up on love, there is always someone better.
I met a lovely lady from the Philippines, and went over to meet her and her lovely family. I spent 11 days there. I returned a few months later and we were married and i spent 3 weeks there with her before I had to return to Australia. We lodged her visa application on the day I flew out. she later had to do a medical, and that is when she found out she was positive. She was scared to tell me, and it took awhile before she did tell me, as she thought I would leave her. Well I can tell you we are still fighting Immigration and they are making us jump through hoops, but there is nothing more that I want than her by my side.

Hi Bill,
I so wish all men were like you. I wish you all the best in your marriage and please take care of that lovely lady. I hope one day, I too, will be in a position to can share a lovely story of acceptance, love, happiness and courage. Good luck with the immigration and I wish you all the best. Yours is a story that needs to be told and most importantly, HEARD.

Please give that bundle of joy a kiss for me. Just like Bill, I really commend your partner for sticking by your side and accepting you for the woman that you are. A true example of “love conquers all”.

Sheeesh this is so profound , I totally agree to the statement being made that we dertemine our own happiness , I also discosled my status to my husband before we got married after he had to deal with cold fronts from his family because I arrived in his live with 3 kids and he had none and the HIV was just too much but he accepted my status and was so concerned about the kids I told him they are fine so at times I feel like such an alien ( sic ) in the house cos everyone wants to play doctor to me when its time to take my tabs, my eldest kid knows and understands what HIV is but the younger kids dont but it’s just so amazing to be surrounded by such love and compassion especially from such a great man , my parents also took the news queite well .**Note to Bill you are one of the few species of good men left , I was also on my death bed and the smiles of kids showed me I owe it to them to life and take care of them little did I know God was preparing the perfect man for me.

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