(Closed) Dates????

I just got engaged! Soooo excited 🙂 My first problem just came up…. It’s not even that serious, but i’m just wondering what you other Bride to be’s have done! I had my heart set on a specific wedding date (even before the proposal!) I really wanted to get married on what would be our 6 year anniversary, buuut I just found out that that day is actually the most important religious holiday for his family. While they are not orthodox or even very strict with their religion, it would be completely off base for us to schedule the wedding for that day. I’m having a hard time looking past the date, and choosing a different one.

He said the importance of that day doesn’t matter now, because it will matter on that day because it’s the day we get married! (He’s a keeper!) I absolutely agree, but i’m a little sad about it. I have only ever pictured it being on that date!

Has anyone had a similar experience? Or had to change their dates against their want?

@aemartin2013: The date that I’d really want is a Wednesday, so that wouldn’t work. Plus, I want to get married outside, and it might be too cold that month for the location we’re looking at. So I’m trying to find a Saturday or Sunday that’s the same day (the number) as the anniversary! So if you wanted Sept. 14 2013 (if that’s right), maybe try for the 14th of another month. Or the 5th (1+4).

@asscherloverBoth of your ideas flow perfectly together! We actually met for the first time on the 5th! (Even though at that time we were both involved with others and were introduced only as friends!) I know he doesn’t want to wait as long to go a whole extra year! But I’m thinking the 5th might be good! Thanks so much!

@love108: I really like the 5th idea! And as mentioned thats the date in May that we met! That’s a great way to still make it special! And Oct. 5th happens to be a Saturday! Thank you!

I always thought we would get married on the day we began going out. I apparently forgot how a calender worked. I still have that date listed as our wedding date here, since we haven’t solidfied one (only the month, March), but in 2013, it’ll fall on a Wednesday. The day we got engaged will fall on a Sunday (also in March) in 2013 and my Catholic friends and family would not be pleased with a Sunday wedding.

I went to a wedding that fell on a Jewish holiday and nearly all of the grooms’ family refused to attend. Not even his parents attended! His aunt and uncle (who converted to Christianity) were there for him.

Someone I know got married on their half annversary date. Would that be OK with you?

We have been talking about different dates! I actually used some of the logic you ladies put out there! Our 7th anniversary is too far (and not on a Sat!) and our half anniversary is too close to Easter and Passover, but we did decide on Sept. 28th, 2013! It’s 2 weeks after the original date and it’s 14 (our anniversary) x 2 (me & him)! I feel a little cheesy trying to make it fit into my sentiment, but I’m very excited and can’t wait to actually start planning this thing!!!

My family isn’t that religious either, but there is no way I would ever plan a wedding on Yom Kippur, partly out of respect for the holiday and partly because of how severely it would compromise the guest list. Plus, do you really want to get married on the Day of Atonement? It’s a solomn occasion!

Anyway, I’m glad you found a compromise. Once you’re married, your dating anniversary doesn’t really matter as much any more, anyway. Or, alternatively, that way you get two anniversaries to celebrate!