Gender disappointment (KEEP ME BUMPED PLEASE)

For those of you dealing with this, know you are not alone. There is a lot more awareness being raised about it. This is the time where a lot of us are finding out the gender of our little angels. Please don't feel ashamed or upset if you are experiencing gender disappointment and please feel free to vent or offer a shoulder here. I am not personally dealing with this, but I know of mamas who are and could really benefit from the support. Even if it's a just a kind word, it can make a world of difference to someone in despair. I will try and keep this post bumped and would appreciate any help in doing so as well. Thanks!

I was hoping for a little girl... We're only having 2, this is my second. And it's a boy. I wasn't angry or anything like that, but kinda sad I might never get to buy bows and take her to ballet. I'm thinking of maybe trying in 4 years again.

I fear this will happen if this lo is another girl. And as it stands right now, I won't know til birth. That would be ultimately disappointing to find out at birth, babe is the gender I didn't imagine. I keep wanting to know now so I can grow to love baby, and get over any possible disappointment early on. I know healthy is most important, which I'm completely thankful for.

I fear this will happen if this lo is another girl. And as it stands right no...

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06/07/2015

I fear this will happen if this lo is another girl. And as it stands right now, I won't know til birth. That would be ultimately disappointing to find out at birth, babe is the gender I didn't imagine. I keep wanting to know now so I can grow to love baby, and get over any possible disappointment early on. I know healthy is most important, which I'm completely thankful for.

Is there a reason you won't know until birth? Is it a personal choice to remain team green? Perhaps knowing can help to prepare you and give you some mental ease. You could find out and not let anyone who doesn't want to know find out? Maybe?

I was hoping for a little girl... We're only having 2, this is my second....

Posted
06/07/2015

I was hoping for a little girl... We're only having 2, this is my second. And it's a boy. I wasn't angry or anything like that, but kinda sad I might never get to buy bows and take her to ballet. I'm thinking of maybe trying in 4 years again.

Are you not having any more due to life style choices? I know personally, we can't afford anymore. So we're done now but I'm hoping for a baby girl. If it's a boy, I'll be equally as happy because that just makes DH's name carry on even stronger but boy oh boy would a love another little girl..

Are you not having any more due to life style choices? I know personally, we ...

Posted
06/07/2015

Are you not having any more due to life style choices? I know personally, we can't afford anymore. So we're done now but I'm hoping for a baby girl. If it's a boy, I'll be equally as happy because that just makes DH's name carry on even stronger but boy oh boy would a love another little girl..

My husband doesn't want more kids😔 but I do. He's the only boy in his family, all of his cousins are girls he's the only boy. So I'm sure the entire family is excited we're having a boy again. I keep telling him we call always adopt and he says then let's just have another. Having a hard time trying to convince my husband!

My husband doesn't want more kids😔 but I do. He's the only boy in his family, all of his cousins are girls he's the only boy. So I'm sure the entire family is excited we're having a boy again. I keep telling him we call always adopt and he says then let's just have another. Having a hard time trying to convince my husband!

Ahhh I gotcha. So he's maybe fearful of more girls in a family dominated by women. However, just because his family has a lot of ladies doesn't mean you wouldn't want a little girl of your own! Maybe he'll change his mind after a little while DH (dear husband) was on the fence about having anymore after DS. When we found out, dude was more excited than me! I wanted a puppy. I cried. He developed a new glow haha you never know with men. Give it time.

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