If he had a real explanation to his financial problem, which does not include blaming someone else, and he is genuinely trying by actively looking for a job, improving his resume, etc, I would be patient.

I met someone who owned a company that grossed over 1mil a year, lost it when the recession hit. You just never know.

Whether I stay would depend on what I see in him. If he's a
great person & has the qualities I'm looking for/we're
compatible, and he's working, has his own place and I see he's truly
trying, I would give him a
chance. It's hard finding a good man out there and one you're compatible with too.

i think men are set in their ways by then. if he hasn't learned that he needs to do x y and z to have a decent life and future by his 30's then it is not going to happen. those type of ppl live life in cycles...get a job for a few mths, get money up enough to LOOK like something is there that isn't, get lazy and quit, or get fired...stay unemployed for months then do it all over again. those are ain't sh*t ngas. why is it that all of a sudden when you/I/whoever starts talking to them that's when they're doing ALL this stuff to get their life together? coincidence? no.

but if he's just having a financial speed bump that's different...his life history definitely matters. i'm not going to look at a college educated, good/decent credit, worked the same job for 5 yrs, etc type of guy the same way i'll look at someone who just blows in the wind and claims to be getting back on their feet when they've never been on their feet. you can't make someone want better, they just want yours.

Please do not date him exclusively, pretty pretty please. You could meet someone already together waiting on him who MIGHT get it together. Then not being mean while you sitting there encouraging him, accepting Victoria Secret lotion gift sets for Valentines day cause his $$$ is funny then he never really does any better.? I am afraid of men with a bunch of excuses and I get the hell out of there fast......

Then you will have ate all those 2 for $20 dinners at Chili's for nothing.

No seriously if he knows he needs to get it together then why is he trying to date ?? He needs to focus on him right now and study his Intro to Biology. It will be almost 6-8 years before he can do anything IF he is working full time and taking classes at night. Lort please tell me he is childless....

You gone look up, he gone be living with you because he had a situation, sinking in your couch, while yelling Bae what fo dinner with the remote in his hand watching the NFL package he done ordered on YOUR Direct TV???

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