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Time is the most valuable and non-renewable resource that anyone can ever hope for. Although we each have a different contract with it, we are all bounded by it, racing against the clock. However, in the midst of good health, company, comfort and basically all the trappings of a ‘good life’, the urgency or nature of a race is lost on most people. We get complacent, we get very wishful and carried away, dreaming as though we are going to live forever. Only to find out that the utopian moments are nothing but temporary. As the sun rises and sets, bringing light and darkness into the world, our lives too will experience something similar. That is the order of things. You can be sad, but do not despair. This is the reality of life. Cherish every moment. Make beautiful memories. Bring happiness to as many lives as you can. Have big dreams and make them happen. Plan your life well, and do not dream as though you are going to live forever.

What you internalise will manifest itself. If you think you will not make it, you most likely will not. And if you think you would, then you might very well find yourself pleasantly surprised. Of course, this is done within reason. If there is no chance left due to limitations that cannot be regained back like time, then no amount of optimism will move the outcome to your side. But if there is, no matter how slim that may be, and you do not discount the possibility of you succeeding despite that small odds, you might very well just succeed. When your mind believes that there is still hope, it will do whatever it can to get you to succeed. So do not throw in the towel before giving it everything you got. Believe that you can, and you just never know.

A lot of times people tend to get ahead of themselves when it comes to their perception of the plight of other people. Even if they have seen such things a lot, there is always wisdom in holding off your judgement and thoughts in relation to that. You don’t know what you don’t know. So stop acting like you do. Unless of course you do, not based off some guessing and assuming but on actual facts. Realise that each situation is different and unique. That although on the surface, they might all seem the same, when you break down to the details, there is always more to each story. So it is your duty to consciously suspend your immediate reaction to situations which you do not have the full context of. And please, do not buy into the herd mentality. That is just detrimental to what we want to achieve here. Similar to you wanting your story to be heard, afford others the same and only then offer your conclusion and possible solutions, if requested of course.

If you think that success has a look, and that it has to appear a certain way, then you will always be in the quest of finding it. Your version will not be the same as my version or anyone else. And the sooner you internalise that, the sooner it will be for you to achieve it. Whatever it is that you want to pursue, as long as you are giving your attention and dedication to it, over a continued period of time, you will, sooner or later, get it. It is okay to not be clear on what it is that you are exactly after. Continue your search, while at the same time make sure that your basic needs are met. Do whatever is required for you to fulfil that. That is your investment. But just remember this, stop comparing yourself with others. You create your story, your version of success.

The idea of being entitled to something is the thing that will knock you down without you realising what hit you. It does not matter what you have going for you right now, but the moment you let whatever that is get the better of you, and you start to feel that you are entitled to something because of all of that, you will start to lose your edge. That state of mind that keeps you from becoming too comfortable and complacent is what you need to be at your best form. So if you start realising that you get offended easily because you are not being given the deference or preferential treatment, respect that your accomplishments or position in society entails you, that is a big warning sign for you to get yourself back to the ground before you experience a very rude awakening of your demise.

If you want something in life, you need to work for it. You need to do all that you can in order to get what you want. Unless you’re a business owner with paid employees, then you better realise that it’s no one else’s job to help you get to your desired outcome. There’s nothing in it for them. Just because you think helping others is a good thing, does not mean that everyone else shares the same thinking as you. Even if they do, their priorities might be different. So you are better of looking out for yourself. Help yourself to get to where you want to be. You will be the most vested in the success of it. And the best part is, you have the power to control the amount and quality of work that is put into your goal. Ultimately, your own success heavily depends on you. Do not put the responsibility onto someone else. You cannot use that excuse anymore.

There is a difference between assumptions, assumptions based on previously known facts and actual facts. Many people unknowingly based their knowledge and to some extent, thoughts and actions based on assumptions rather than facts. What this does is that it creates false beliefs that people hold on to which essentially inhibits their growth. They stop them from moving forward with their goals and dreams. We need to remember that just because many people are holding on to that belief or if that already existed long before our time, it does not mean that it is true and set in stone. Instead find out about it. Get your hands on anything that is related to the subject matter. Do your due diligence. However do not approach it trying to prove whether the assumption is right or not. Focus on finding the truth, backed by solid evidence irregardless of the outcome. You would be far better off for it.