Author: Chester Lane

New Horizons Are Coming

I have recently decided to quit my day job and start my own business. I live in Miami which means that there are many opportunities available. With the mix of people in this incredible city I am sure I can figure out what to do with my life and make money.

Why am I quitting my job?

This is something that has been swirling in my head for a long time. But I think it comes from contemplating on my parents life and what has happened to them.

My Parents Legacy

My dad worked all his life at a bank. My stepmom worked as a nurse all her life. I suspect (I am kind of sure but this is a question I will never ask) she made more money than him.

When he retired he had a retirement fund so that’s good. My stepmom did not. But because of the social security and living with my brothers, they are fine and live comfortably.

My mom is a different story. She always worked but the last job was the one she stayed the longest. The employment is part time and with no benefits. Once she retires all she will have is social security income which is like $700.

My Current Situation

My husband works and I make sure he is saving for retirement. He owns a house that is currently rented. The goal is that the house will be paid off by the time we retire and then we do not need to worry about renting. Hopefully the only thing we need to worry about is the home taxes, and car insurance.

Why am I considering self employment

Because I am either too smart or too dumb, LOL. I am smart, at least that’s what everybody says. And whenever I work in any company I have 300 ideas on how things could improve. Many times when I bring them up I am shut down.
This may be because I am too much a visionary or because they would have to change directions in their business model or marketing; or let’s face it, they are scared that my idea is so good it would prove them they were wrong all along.

I don’t know.

But here I am thinking what to do. What is my next great idea going to be…

I think I have it!

A cleaning service!

Why this type of business? Well, for starters is a business I can scale. Second, I can give employment to many people with lower skill sets and all I need is SOP (statement of procedures or something like that), cleaning supplies and clients.

There is a reason why companies like Aramark are doing so well after all!

So now that I have a business idea what am I do to next?

1 – Get a coolio business name registered. Being an LLC or corporation. But to me the most important thing is an awesome business name with a fun logo. caption, etc.

2 – Hire a Miami internet marketing agency to help me figure out how to market my new idea online. EDIT: I actually think I found them, Evolve Business Solutions are really cool and fun to work with. They will do my business cards, Tshirts for the staff, the website, SEO and social media marketing!

3 – Get a small car and wrap it with the new company branding and start driving around. I have a niece that will love this job 🙂

4 – Find a few people that are nice, responsible, and trainable. Oh and can speak English!

5 – Get banking, credit card handling, etc.

SHit! I have a lot of work to do!

But I love it! I can’t wait to get started. Would you follow me on my journey?

Healing the Post Divorce Pain

As a psychologist and a divorcee I know a few things about how it feels to go through this life changing event. I won’t go into detail of the negatives since we all know what they are, what I want to do today is what I have found to be a great resource.

Divorce Assistance Groups

Divorce assistance groups can be greatly supportive and handy throughout your psychological phases. So, don’t tackle your issue alone. Share that burden with these divorce assistance groups.The roadway to recovery from any painful divorce can be disheartening, and it can actually, actually be lonely. To alleviate this miserable journey of starting fresh, you require a fantastic offer of business and motivation with individuals who would care, people who are much like you, who knows that a little gently prod will get you on track faster than you might want to believe.Divorce assistance groups can be greatly helpful and valuable throughout your emotional phases. The majority of or all the members have actually effectively seen their lives guide ahead of divorce and now they preside over these divorce support system to heal and help recover the wounds of the newest members. So, do not tackle your issue alone. Share that concern with these divorce support groups.

DivorceCareConsists of a friendly group of individuals that fulfill weekly to help those with divorce issues face these difficulties and approach reconstructing lives. Each of the divorce assistance group session hosts two separate features which are the video workshop with experts where the group will watch a video workshop about handling divorce issues; and the divorce assistance group with focus which will talk about the video presentation and the divorce issues between the lives of the group members.Log on their website on www.divorcecare.com.

You can start a divorce support system of your very own or take part of an existing group. DivorceCare likewise accommodates kids of separated households with an assistance group of their own. They likewise have books, tapes & & CDs that will assist you grow. Contact them by phone: 800-489-7778 internationally at: 919-562-2112.

Read and compare your experiences with the 300 Life Changing Articles on Divorce Healing.

There are different posts about life after divorce too. Log on and see for yourself the services available on this divorce support site. www.divorcerecovery101.com

Divorce Peers: A totally free access neighborhood service site, Divorce Peers helps struggling people cope up with the pressures and difficulties bought up by divorce. Seek aid of how to select child custody, the monetary issues that would expectedly appear, divorce mediation and obviously help in tackling the impacts of divorce.

Divorce Peers is created to accommodate 2 kinds of visitors: those that require assistance and those that can give help. For those that can provide assistance, Divorce Peers do train for group leaders on the best ways to handle members suffering of divorce. Visit their website and look for the help you require or provide the help you can use. Their website is at www.divorcepeers.com. Divorce Peers lies at Ann Arbor, Michigan U.S.A.

We’re getting a Divorce
Unfortunately this is not clickbait we are getting a divorce. This video is very vague and very raw. This is what divorce looks like. In the future when we are further along in our healing…

If you feel your spouse is cheating, the most crucial advice will be careful. Bear in mind that typically, people do strange things, which doesn’t instantly equal infidelity. Therefore, before you make accusations directly or with an attorney, make certain you will find the details. The end result is you need to get just as much solid evidence and knowledge first. Otherwise, you can accuse your partner of cheating only to discover you had been wrong after which be confronted with marriage problems stemming from distrust.

Think about first in case your accusations are very well founded or you are simply feeling just a little insecure. Then, you have to make certain you’ve physical evidence by means of receipts, phone figures, letters, emails, telephone calls, and so forth, and have somebody who really saw your spouse out with someone else inside a compromising position. After you have collected evidence, view it with a balanced view to find out whether it suggests infidelity or simply a spouse doing something from the norm but innocent.

Regrettably, in case your spouse’s cheating is definitely an on-going problem you will want to collect evidence having a different mindset, someone to support the divorce and/or child child custody proceeding. Obviously, there’s the facet of getting reassurance too. There’s nothing worse than suspecting your partner of cheating and never knowing without a doubt. The turmoil this cause can physically cause you to ill. Therefore, you should know so that you can keep existence. Finally, there’s the glory of the std. In case your spouse is sleeping with another person, you’ve every to know, particularly if no protection has been used.

A number of signs of a cheating spouse are apparent while some aren’t. You may notice your partner remaining up late to look at television, make telephone calls, or focus on a task to prevent getting together with you. You could also notice that she or he loses their temper rapidly, appears distracted, or shows curiosity about new hobbies, sports, or activities. Many occasions, an unfaithful spouse can change their appearance with a brand new hair do, better clothing, brushing teeth more frequently, and dealing out to get involved with better shape. There are the additional hrs or night time hrs at the office. Finally, you may observe that closeness between both of you is altered, either the lovemaking stops or she or he all of a sudden shows curiosity about trying something totally new.

Remember, you realize your partner much better than you may think. Therefore, when things start to change due to infidelity, they might be subtle initially. However, then chances are you will start to sense individuals changes. Without moving too fast, try to concentrate on stuff that appear different. Interestingly, many occasions an unfaithful spouse is really filled with guilt that she or he really really wants to be caught, even when that thought is around the subconscious level.

If you think your partner is cheating, in an exceedingly careful way, speak with family and buddies. For example, in case your wife said she was spending her day with Jackie, the next time you see Jackie, make a harmless statement like, “Have you and my spouse have some fun shopping a few days ago?” Then chances are you can gauge the reality by her reaction. Being your wife’s friend, she may cover her however, watch her expression and response. In case your husband has worked lots of overtime, the next time you take right into a co-worker, you can say something similar to, “It’s surprising all of the overtime David has place in.is that this pretty normal for the organization?” Again, take notice of the response, which will explain a great deal.

You must also focus on any signs that the spouse has been unfaithful. Check clothing for fragrances or aftershave or perfume, search for makeup marks, and scour the vehicle, desk, briefcase, purse, and appointment books for just about any sign that something is wrong. Then, search for matchbooks from restaurants or hotels, receipts from restaurants along with other stores, and make contact with figures. Even if you feel just a little deceitful carrying this out, in case your spouse is cheating, you’ve every to know.

For instance, if you see that whenever you get home your spouse will get from the phone rapidly, you ought to be wondering why. Should you enter the area where your partner is on the pc but she or he all of a sudden shuts it lower, again ask why. If you discover your partner is making a lot of excuses for getting to visit work in order to the shop after which is finished in excess of an hour or so you ought to be suspicious.

For those who have found a couple of stuff that make you suspect an unfaithful spouse, you may make use of a telephone-recorder. The key factor here’s to check on together with your condition laws and regulations to make sure this wouldn’t be breaking any laws and regulations. Otherwise, you could utilize a tool to record your husband or wife’s telephone conversations to become performed back if you have privacy. This straightforward device connects to a normal phone jack using the phone cord in to the device. When calls are available in or venture out, the unit will instantly switch on and record the conversation. Again, some condition laws and regulations stop this type of device check first so you aren’t getting into legal trouble.

In the event that you can’t record based on your state’s laws and regulations, then give consideration and log any suspicious calls. For example, should you get lots of hang-up calls or wrong figures whenever you answer the telephone, this may be an indication that somebody is attempting to achieve your partner speculate you clarified the telephone, they provided any excuses for calling. If you don’t presently have caller identification in your phone, you may call the telephone company and also have it put into the services you provide. Caller Identification is reasonable and you can set the unit to some phone not used so that your spouse doesn’t have idea it is.

Keep in mind, for those who have mysterious telephone calls, chances are your husband or wife’s lover is asking. Actually, most will call using their home or mobile phone, that is traceable. Within this situation, speak to your phone company, requesting an itemized bill. Then, search for figures that you don’t recognize. The suspicious calls could be tracked utilizing a crisscross directory, that exist at check your local library. When you perform this, you could determine the individual’s name, address, and possibly occupation, suggesting a little more about the individual that your partner is related.

The one word that can change your life upside down in a matter of minutes.

Sometimes it’s just one look.

Other times it may take a while to take hold.

But once it does it’s game over!

It all sounds great, however what if there are hidden legal issues at stake?

If your new love interest is lacking legal documents to be in this country there are many things you need to pay attention to. If you do not you will most likely end up with a broken heart.

Falling in love with someone that is lacking immigration papers means that you cannot travel outside the US borders with your new beau.

It also means that you need to slow down. Don’t let them pressure you into getting married quickly. This may be a red flag that all he/she wants is to marry you for his papers. So many people are fooled into marrying someone thinking they are in love only to find out they were used!

This happened to someone I knew.

Their love affair was full of passion and tenderness. She thought “this is it!”, I will never be alone again. A week after they were married she found out he still had a relationship with his “ex-wife” and intended to bring her over to the United States. She quickly filed an annulment but just like her there are many others that do not find out until much of their life was wasted on someone that did not truly love them.

Talking with Mariela from Inmigracion Xpress from Hialeah Florida I found out that most immigration family petitions costs around $800.00 and upwards if you hire an attorney. Also the USCIS just brought their prices around 30% higher on most of their processes.

My advice is to really take your time and make sure it’s real love. My brother told me once that love had to be tested; and I think this is specially true for a relationship with someone lacking legal residency documents.

I know many people do not think that Taylor Swift is super deep, and I used to agree, however there is a song of hers that has hit a chord with me lately.

Yes…Shake It Off

I am 44 years old and you would think that I am immune to stupid drama from haters, but it’s kind of hard when it’s your own sister.

Yep. My one and only sister is my one and only hater.

Why would you say?

Because she feels like I am my mom’s favorite.

At least that’s what she says.

It’s so sad that in this day in age people just can’t get over that not everything is about you. And the funny thing is that we used to be super close.

But it’s all over now. Specially because I am doing more than well, and she hates it. She loves being the one making all the money, flaunting her Mercedes and huge house in Fort Lauderdale. She gloats on how much she loves her daughter but gets mad when my kid’s pictures gets more likes than her and unfriends anyone that liked my pictures but did not push the button for hers.