You know why Nigerian scammers leave typos in their emails? People who notice typos are also smart enough to know that dethroned royalty do not need their help to get cash out of the country. Your first message can attract the right matches by being as unique as you are. You’ll attract better matches by […]

Hate those long awkward silences? Having a few of these questions memorized should keep the conversation moving. Bonus: many of these questions work well on any first meeting with a stranger from co-workers to friends of friends. Remember listening is more powerful than talking. We are a culture starving to be heard. Keep asking interesting […]

A short selection of the worst messages I’ve gotten over the last year. (If you’re curious why women get burned out on OkCupid, getting a few of these a week wears on you.) Innocent Question = Lamest Way To Tell A Girl You’ve Got A Big Cock (ever) Awesome Grammar and Even Worse Content U […]

Getting Dirty Digitally Raises the Stakes It’s critical you don’t build up too many expectations before meeting in person. When you interact digitally, the majority of who you are is a blank canvas. Each person will paint in the missing portions to match their best guess and their ideal relationship. The longer you chat online, […]

You used to shove all the pictures of your Ex into a shoebox and burn them ceremoniously. Now you can’t get Facebook to stop recommending you two should be friends because you have so many mutual friends. Breaking up is harder to do in the digital age. Calls and Texts I was disappointed to find […]

According to XKCD, the age range of people you can date expands as your grow older. The number of online daters peaks at 24 (according to OkCupid) but desirable matches expand. The average 22 year-old women looks to date someone 22 to 25 (a 3 year age gap). However, the average 36 year-old women actively […]

If you’re not a white guy, How Your Race Affects The Messages You Get is one of OkCupid’s most important blog posts. Take a glance at the female reply rates for messages sent by guys of different races. Rates in red are below average and rates in green are above average. Then read the complete […]

Your username is more important than you might think. Caution! Once you chose a username, some sites won’t let you change it. Make the choice carefully or be ready to make a new profile. Avoid Adding your birth year to the end (John-1982). Anything complimenting yourself: Sexy, bold, amazing, awesome, etc. Cheesy sexual references and […]