Most parents in the U.S. have spent the past few days imagining what it would be like to be the mother or father of one of the 20 schoolchildren murdered on Dec. 14 in Connecticut. Each detail that emerges from that stricken community brings many of us to tears. And of course we think, What if a madman came to our child’s school in a rage with a gun?

But there’s another group of parents who watched this horror story unfold with an opposite and perhaps more excruciating thought: What if the madman were my child?

Parents of mentally ill children and young adults can’t say they are afraid of their own children or admit that they know what it’s like to have bright children whose rages could, under circumstances they can’t predict, lead them to kill innocent people the way Adam Lanza is alleged to have done at Sandy Hook Elementary. And they can’t find comfort in the wake of a national tragedy by sharing their feelings around the watercooler like the rest of us.

But this week, one of these mothers stepped forward with an eloquent, wrenching cry for help that has echoed across the Web. In a blog post republished on the Blue Review titled “I Am Adam Lanza’s Mother,” Liza Long writes, “I live with a son who is mentally ill. I love my son. But he terrifies me …”

She goes on: “I am sharing this story because I am Adam Lanza’s mother. I am Dylan Klebold’s and Eric Harris’s mother. I am James Holmes’s mother. I am Jared Loughner’s mother. I am Seung-Hui Cho’s mother. And these boys — and their mothers — need help. In the wake of another horrific national tragedy, it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.”

Long describes the love she has for her 13-year-old son, a brilliant boy who loves Harry Potter and has a “snuggle animal collection.” But according to her, this same child has also threatened her with a knife so many times that she keeps a Tupperware container for the days she has to collect all the sharp objects in the house. Nothing really helps, she says, not the powerful meds, the intermittent hospitalizations or what she calls a “Russian novel of behavioral plans.” She says she has trained her other children to lock themselves away for their own safety when their brother falls into one of his unpredictable rages.

She lays out the agonizing choices she says she’s been given, including having her child charged with a crime so that he is put in prison, a place that would surely exacerbate his symptoms and not necessarily keep him or the community safe. After all, you can’t keep someone indefinitely locked up for a crime they haven’t committed and will likely never commit.

It’s a world of family turmoil that most of us can’t begin to comprehend and which may or may not be similar to the struggles of Adam Lanza’s mother. In any case, Long’s essay resonated, and the response has been enormous. The piece has been forwarded endlessly on Facebook and reblogged by national media sites. And more than 1,500 people have commented on Long’s original blog post.

Most commenters wrote to express their sympathy, but there were also many who wanted to tell Long she is not alone. These are people we don’t normally hear from unless a tragedy occurs. They are the mothers, the fathers and the siblings of boys like Michael. These are the parents who report having to hide their knives or sleep with their bedroom doors locked. And in some cases, the commenters are young men who say they are plagued by the same demons as Long’s son.

Their testimonies form a trail of heartbreak that stretches for dozens of pages.

“Your story is my story and it is a very scary and often lonely path,” writes one parent. “As my son gets older and stronger the fear of what may be looms closer and closer and I just want to have the smart, sensitive sweet boy with me all the time, not the boy that when he says he wants to kill me, I believe him. The boy who wants to be tucked in at night with his stuffed animals and snuggles our dog, not the boy who can lift me off the ground in a rage and slam me into a wall. I pray daily for some kind of help.”

“Rachael” writes to say that her brother is a boy like Michael, offering evidence of the pain mental illness can cause a family: “I can’t believe it. You just described my brother. They say he’s aspergers, but I don’t know if that accounts for all of it. He’s normally really sweet, sensitive, and very very smart, but when he snaps, he curses, hurts people, throws things, threatens suicide, and pulls knives. I have scars from where he’s scratched or strangled me.”

Some commenters sent suggestions for treatments that have worked for them, from diets to 24/7 hospitalization. Some even suggested that Long subject her son to an exorcism, which speaks to the long-standing and devastating connection that is made between mental illness and evil.

And perhaps the most striking comments came from boys like Michael: “I was your son,” writes one. “I feel for you and him both. You sound exactly like my mother, to a T. It is really hard to see these scenarios play out for another family. I feel for you and him both. I refused pharmaceutical medication and bucked every diagnosis thrown at me.”

This young man goes on to say that spending time in nature, watching comedy and listening to the radio call-in program Loveline helped him. But for so many, the problem is beyond that. And for parents, the years after their troubled children leave home are just as fraught as the time before. “Robert” writes, “We have a son with mental illness. Now that he is an ‘adult’ in the eyes of the law, he’s decided he does not want to pursue any sort of treatment. Our hands are tied.”

With mass murders increasing in frequency, getting troubled people treatment is a national issue. Nevada and New York are among a few states that have some legal measures parents and relatives can take (with the recommendation of psychiatrists) so that people over the age of 18 get outpatient psychiatric care when warranted. But often, mothers and fathers are left with the all the worry and very little control. (Those laws, like Kendra’s Law and Laura’s Law, are named for people who have been killed by the mentally ill.)

And it’s because of the terrible specter not just of more massacres but also of the numerous other incidents of violence that don’t make the news that Long’s post has become a rallying cry for those fighting to get increased access and funding for mental-health services. “HOW CAN WE HELP?” asked one of the commenters. It’s a question the nation should certainly be asking as we debate how to prevent tragedies like the one that has devastated Newtown.

Hi. I'm from Germany and I just saw the documentary about that son. The first question that came into my mind was: Where is his father? Maybe the reason why is because a strong father figure is missing. A father figure which forces that son for respect and to be calm but also gives love and respect to him. I'm thinking that could be the answer because I already lived together with different women who had also children, and one of them had two sons. As soon as I was there, he was behaving in a different way. Before I was there the son of my ex-girlfriend was aggressive often times, also to his mother. But he didn't do anything bad, just because I was around - a man was around - a father figure. What do you think about it?

I am "Adam Lanza's" sister. I am afraid for my brother, my child, my mother and myself. My options are live in fear with him in my home or get a restraining order and ....live in fear of his death on the streets, or my family's death at his rage. I am trying right now to decide which fear is worse, him being in my home, a constant threat to our safety, talking to nobody, lashing out at the least provocation, or not knowing whether he is dead or alive because I put him out, or dying at his hands when he finally snaps.

There is no help. I have called the police, who took him to a mental health facility, that discharged him (he has no insurance). I have called his probation officer, I have called everyone I can think of. We are all going to die or he will die. That is my choice. No one will help.

I called his probation officer this morning to try and find something-anything that can stop this. She is a caring woman who wants to help but I think her hands are tied. The only time I feel safe is when he is in jail. They do not want him in jail because there is no room and his offenses are burglary, robbery, etc.

They will wait until his offense is murder and I am not here to say anything. That is why I am saying it now, here. He wrote me a letter, that I took pictures with my cellphone and saved in my folder from school. I hope someone finds it after the tragedy that will happen if we do not get help. Maybe it will explain something, or save someone else.

I know this is on a public forum. I know people can find out who I am. I am hoping someone does, and gives me a way out. We need help. We live in constant fear. I need help. My daughter is only fifteen, she has her whole life ahead of her. She should not have to live with this.

Just saw the PBS piece. I have been diagnosed with Bi-Polar. I know I do not know what you are going through, but I wonder if what has been helping me might help you?

My Spiritual Coach (counselor) recommended that I read "Ask and it is given" by Ester and Jerry Hicks. It outlines a method for living that has helped me. I am still working on enacting the lessons in the book, but it has given me hope that I might be able to live like I want to live and not like some condition might have me live.

I am beginning to feel FREE and hope that feeling lasts and continues.

I hope that helps you...it' a quick read and there are many videos on YouTube also.

I would just like to give some encouragement to all of you with a cheating partner and to those who need there lover back. My lover cheated on me The most hurtful experience was during a confrontation with the other woman when she came by my home looking for my boyfriend and looked surprised to see me there. I opened the door and asked what she wanted and she ignored me, i never knew My boyfriend has been having sex with her in our home, in our bed, My reaction was strange when she said that to me. I went and grabbed my boyfriend out of bed and shoved him out the front door. He was half asleep and very confused. I then went and grabbed his dirty clothes and threw them out on the porch with the two of them and told her that if she wanted him, she could have him, but she was taking his laundry too. I then called my friend and told her what had happened. She suggested I take the time to go through his phone. I found 3 other women and called them all. One he had lent my car too when he lied and told me it was in the shop. Another he had slept with when I was in the hospital recovering from sickness, The third was the one on my porch. They had all been seeing him continuously and he had told them we were only living together. The one on my porch didn’t even know I lived there. My ex told her I took off with another man and left all my stuff which is why she looked so shocked when I answered the door. i loved him so much i don't know why my love for him is so strong, i now have to find a solution to this problem on how i am going to get him back and put his life to shape, when first contacted dr.marnish@yahoo.com to help me because i have had many thing about his love spell, I was doubting not knowing that he was my last solution, when i gave him the chance to help me after 3 days my lover returned home to reconcile with me, we are back now I'm so happy.linayerkes FLA from USA

The complex nature of genetics and environment makes for many a combination of persons. Some great and some terrible. In the past these differences and combinations more often than not played out based on basic survival. Basically there was some culling of the heard when things went too far one way or the other. There is less of that in modern society.

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@pacorrina God has given us the amazing ability to pray the Holy Rosary, you are right. But, He has also given us the amazing ability to seek help when we need it, and to give help just as Jesus did and taught! Parenting isn't easy, our society is a disaster, evil...yes it exists, but we are responsible for procreating it!

To some of the other ignorant bloggers....Wake UP America ...Mental Illness is NOT EVIL it IS an ILLNESS and it does exist, it is an illness just like cancer....it's painful, can be debilitating and can destroy families. And, NO ONE IS TO BLAME BUT OUR SOCIETY for not understanding it, educating ourselves about it, and finding solutions to it, instead of TURNING OUR BACKS ON IT!

We as a society can acknowledge it and learn how to help it, and I don't mean medicate and walk away! I have worked with the developmentally disabled that our country locked away in Willowbrook, because we didn't understand them and felt that were unfit for society. I have been a social worker in the toughest city in the world New York, I have taught middle school and high school and been in the classrooms when children come to school without breakfast, a winter coat. AND, I have been the parent of a gifted child who has battled depression, and anxiety disorder. I have seen firsthand our failing school system, our failing society, our quick judgement of others, but until you have walked in these shoes you will never know! Especially when you never think it can happen to you.

So, as I believe in prayer I also know that God has given me the ability to do something, an not sit and judge, but HELP.

My answer to anyone who needs the help is seek it, there is NO SHAME, in trying! The only shame is in not seeking it!The key is an open mind and education.! READ INQUIRE, LEARN! One excellent organization is BOYS TOWN.ORG . Even if you don't need their assistance, please donate there is someone out there as you can see...that does!

Please pray for the innocent lives that we as a country/society lost that horrible day in Newtown, and the countless other senseless killings we have experienced these last few years especially. Educate yourselves, open your hearts and minds...we all need to strive to make this a better world for our children and grandchildren to come.

Treatments, pills, phycologists, hospitals and gaols, are the solution for a rationalistic society when the big, big and horrible source of trouble is mention accidentally. This mother says 'No one wants to send a 13-year old genius who loves Harry Potter'... Has people have heard about 'the spirit of the word'? The only cure and solution for mothers, children and the nation is praying the Holy Rosary, the most powerful weapon against possessions because, after the power of the Cross is the second most powerful exorcism. Please pray it with the family members.

I don't understand why a child with problems like she describes her son having, is aloud to live at home where she has to tell her other children to lock their doors and she has to hide knives and sharp objects.....uh, hello, why do the siblings have to live in fear or worse....danger just for this one child, yes he may be a child but he needs professional 24 hour care in a facility where he wont be a danger to himself or others.....children or even adults with problems like these where one ever knows what the person might do, as the author mentions the child has even threatened her with knives, need to be in a place where the child and society are safe - not at home with family members who have no training on how to deal with people with severe and potentially violent tendencies. What are these kids doing still living at home around other people or out in society where they have access to anything and can "go off" at any time. These parents know their children have severe problems. For this woman to mention the Klebold parents - they knew their son was depressed, and he had even started breaking into cars and kept a stash of weapons in his bedroom - and they turned a blind eye, something should have been done - he was still aloud to hang out with the other teen who committed the Columbine shootings, he had no consequences for having broken into cars. What I'm saying is that there are some cases where THERE ARE CLEAR SIGNS that an individual has major problems and anger/rage issues, or clear signs of a mental disorder - I just don't buy the idea that these things happen out of the blue. So, as a parent don't give your depressed child whom you can't turn your back on - GUNS!! And, when your child starts breaking into cars maybe he needs to suffer the consequences. It may be hard, I'm sure, and its not fair when you have a child with major problems, but you must act - get them away from their siblings if they've given you signs that they can be violent or if they're depressed get them help, don't just hide the knives and hope for the best.

There is only one issue with Ms. Long's writing - she exposed her son to the world. She could have so easily done all of this without using her real name, and no one would be questioning her parenting. How sad that Ms. Long did not take the opportunity to apologize for sharing her son's very private issues with the entire world.

She isn't blamed for his problems. He makes his own choices. She is blamed for one of the most irresponsible things a mother could ever do - expose her child to world wide judgement, and for judging him herself in public to all his friends, family and community.

Kendzior's response isn't nearly as good as this one - A MUCH better response - You Are Not the Killer’s Mother and Your Kid's Privacy Matters http://tinyurl.com/d8jl3el

Can Time even confirm that she has a son? The whole blog could be made up. Read it some more. Each entry seems like she has a different family tailor-suited for whichever topic she's covering. Sloppy journalism.

And is she does have a son, maybe his problems come from the fact that she recently divorced and is according to her blog on a war-path against men (which her son technically started becoming at age 13). Even according to her own statements, she is not a stable person and was recently fired for sexual harassment. This is what she has said about herself.

And before this shooting, she made no mention of a son with violent tendencies that frightened her.

He conveniently was announced after the shooting. The most dangerous person in her life she wrote about previously was her ex-husband whom she in her blog accused of loosening the lug-nuts on her car in an attempt to murder her because he was not given custody of the children (the same children she mentions in another blog that she can't stand). She never suspected her son of the lug-nut loosening. That's because the blog where she accuses her husband of attempted murder was an article on parental alienation syndrome, which she says her ex-husband falsely claims to have.

Now she's publicly pigeonholing a son that she and her ex-husband have already failed as a parent (read the older blogs about how the ex-husband supposedly had him incarcerated 4 times for minor misbehaviors).

That is if she or any other people in her blog are even real!

How has this unverifiable, dysfunctional family come to define the public discussion on mental health?

Is Time magazine a journalistic entity? Does it consider that something on the Internet might not be real?

Go back and read her post on teens and drunk driving. Every single one of her blogs creates or introduces new people to prove a point, and each one has dialogue that rings completely false and in each one she is either a hero or a martyr.

there are just evil people in this world. there is no way to predict when, where, and why bad things happen to good people in the world. you can institute regulations and laws about anything and everything that you deem necessary for safety of people, but in the end the unthinkable happens everywhere. things like this happen because some people are just evil. you can blame the kid, mother, father, siblings, school teachers, peers who "rejected him", the list goes on and on, but the shame is everyone is quick to point fingers and blame people, when in reality evil people do evil things. it is sad that things that this happen.

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I have a grandson with Aspergers and more. He can at times be violent. He's 13. My daughter needs help with him when he goes into rages. Just exactly like the woman who wrote about being Adam Lanzas mother. My daughter has no one to help her. Her husband drives truck and can't always come home. There should be some way to help these mothers! The police and jail are NOT the answers. Instead of 911 maybe a 511? Someone who is trained to help these type of people. My grandson at times will even cry and say, "help me, help me, I don't know why I'm doing this. I can't stop."

Someone in my family was very violent. Nobody could live with him. He had many treatments and drugs, but nothing worked very well, or if it did, he got off his medications. He had a good upbringing , same as his perfectly peaceful brother. It seemed to be something he was born with. His mother was afraid of him , but never gave up on him, to her credit. He finally had to live by himself because of his explosive, violent temper.

I believe all these kids share the same problem. Parents who decide that the best thing for a boy with alot of energy and time is to drug'em up. Then guess what happens when these little boys get bigger and stronger than you and decide they don't want to take the meds no more. All these shooting can be traced back to the parents of these kids who drugged them up at an early age so they would'nt have to deal with them. Now look what you got. All of you who do this to your kids should be arrested. Period.

Laura's Law is a law in California that could help reduce violence. If a person has a history of hospitaliztions, jailings or threats of harm to self or others---and is deteriorating--that person can be court ordered to comply with a treatment plan and the mental health system must give that intensive 24-7 community based treatment. It is proven to reduce tragedies and help the person get well and stay well in the community. And, it saves money. Nevada County, which has fully implemented the law, found $1.81 savings through reduced hospitalization and jailings for every $1 spent on the program. It saves money, its saves lives. But each County Board of Supervisors must resolve to use it and the vast majority of them have not. Write your boards of supervisors and demand they implement this lifesaving civil treatment law

This article which I will link to, is the best response I've read to the appalling blog post from the "mother" who claims her son is no better than a mass murderer... written by a brave person who has survived all the drugs and quackery that misguided parents ram down kids throats these days:

I was wondering why this blog posting struck such a cord in me and then my awareness returned this morning. I grew up with a child like this, my older "brother" who was my cousin, adopted by my parents. At a young age he was troubled, I remember at the age of 5 when he stole my purse but put it in the first place my step-mom would look. I realized at that age he was a thief, and this sounds harsh, a dumb one. My brother's actions always left me as the younger, smaller, more responsible child so I took over the household when one or both of my parents was out. I took responsibility for my much younger siblings. While he never showed a tendency to physically hurt us, he showed many irresponsible and often, poorly made decisions, especially when influenced by another. So my brother demonstrated a tendency to steal, get caught, blow things up, shot things, and lie. He was always getting caught, getting into trouble and pathologically not showing any ability to correlate consequences. When I was 14, he went to live with my mother in another state and for a few years, held together his schooling, a job, and other life activities associated with a well-adjusted teenager.

Then in my mid-20's, our maternal grandfather passed and within a few days, my brother had his own Cops episode. He and a "friend" went AWOL from the Army, stole guns, attempted to rob a bank, stole a car, and kidnapped someone. His escapades ended several states away from where they began and involved a three-county shoot out with police. His "friend" was shot and killed. Since it's public record, here's a copy of one of the articles you can still find online.

The experience still saddens me and I must say that for several years, I spent several years wondering what had happened to make me different. We grew up in the same household, with the same circumstances, received the same punishments for bad behavior and the same presents and rewards at birthdays and holidays. I know that my brother was gifted and brighter than his peers but I also know that at some point our lives took a very different course. And I spent a lot of time reflecting on this.

About a year and a half ago, my brother was released from jail. After nearly 20 years of jail time, was he an improved citizen? Had jail taught him anything? Had that 20 years helped him in any way? I don't know because now the stakes are way too high to reach out and have contact with this person in my life. I can't put my family in jeopardy, I can't put my life of that of my family on the line because now it is way much more than my purse.

I have raised 2 sons to adulthood...however, neither can live with me under the same roof. And yes, I have been afraid of my sons. Both are married now and one has two children, with another child on the way. I speak to other mothers and those who are raising daughters are afraid as well. It's so overwhelming! You do the best you can do. You try to raise them to be strong thinkers - so that some stranger can't just come up to them and brainwash them - but something changes with the advent of adolescence.

Our children are FIGHTING to become who they are supposed to be and they are repressed, bullied, dumped on and neglected.

Within the halls of public schools there is overabundance of negativity, bold cruelty and confusion and this follows our children each and every day - it's a bomb waiting for the fuse to be lit. As parents we just keep our head down, ignore red flags, hope for the best and keep going to work, keep paying the bills.

There was a time when we raised our children to be seen and not heard. Then came the time where we wanted to be their friends. Now they are on auto pilot because if you try to discipline them and teach them responsibility the teachers and authorities will investigate you and can press charges against you arbitrarily...the investigation of suspected child abuse is enough to cause you to miss job opportunities...

Still, our children NEED us - we need to be there for our children to teach them, challenge them and nurture them but doing so in the teen years is VERY tricky. I don't know what will happen next but I do know that I am afraid...I hope for the best but I just don't know.... meanwhile, the grandchildren keep coming and who will they grow up to be? What will they do? As my eyesight dims, and my hearing fade away...I am left in silence to wonder...

Misleading title. "When Mothers Are Afraid of Their Sons" is more to the point.

Where is this child's father? Likely removed by the mother, as is common today, the mother now can't raise the child. Many of the problems cited by soccer mom could be handled by a fit and loving father. Instead, many boys are medicated with toxic drugs that create suicidal/homicidal tendencies for mothers to better handle them.

There is an organization trying to help Parents of Young Adults Who Struggle. They are currently looking for positive feedback on their grant application through the ScatterGood foundation. If you believe that this is an issue worth putting energy behind please leave a comment on the post linked to below to help them show the need for such groups around the country.

His there been verifcation that he was violent or had violent outbursts? If so, I havent heard but would like to know. I understand his mom said she was "losing" him, but that could simply mean that he was pulling back from her, not neccesarily being violent. Tons of parents feel like there "losing" their kids.

Because my take on this situation would be different if there is, in fact, proof of any violence. So far, I just heard he was withdrawn and antisocial. Anyone know for sure?

You are so correct. You can see my post above. I was diagnosed with Bi-Polar Disease in 2008. I was devastated, mostly because my Dad had it and I was scared. When I remembered that after Dad got Lithum, he was as normal as can be. I choose to believe that I can win against this "disease." Like most mental illness, we don't fix people, we medicate to mask the problem.

I appreciate your perspective, if I had cancer, all my friends and family would rally around me. If I had Bi-Polar (or other Mental Illness) many of my friends would run and hide and so would some of my family. They surely would not be doing fundraisers in my honor. We need a few things, but research that solves as many problems without medication, is my number one favorite.

I don't want to sound like an advertisement for "Ask and it is Given" by Ester and Jerry Hicks (also see YOUtube), but I think you might appreciate their work. Ester feels that she has found a way to channel her "source" which we learn is really God. Basically, she is a modern day prophet, or apostle. This may sound crazy, but if you take 30 minutes to read the first 30 pages or so, I think you will see that all of your faith in Jesus and God is represented in her training, it's just more specific about what to do, to change your outlook and your life. Please let me know if you try reading it, I know that it is only for those who are ready and accepting of it, which I was, because I am seeking any solution I can find to my "craziness."

Many of the people that do these horrible things consider themselves Christian, some are not. Some non-believers do horrible things, some do wonderful things. Praying and wishing well is nice, but real change requires real action, not just thoughts or words.

@cfblakeman it needs to be put out there. Americans need to know that there are People facing these problems everyday. what i want to know is what Medication is the child on? because if the Pattern of SSRI and Violence both to self and others keeps being made , we can do something about it. for our veterans, for our celebrates for our sports stars for our children. who are bright normal people one day and psychotic killers the next . i would much rather have a depressed child then a psychotic one. i would much rather have an over weight spouse trying to quit smoking then some pill popping ticking time bomb of "normality"

@Cashun I think you are right. And what's even more concerning are that there are lobbyists like CarlaJacobs, below, who is calling for laws that allow the government to force these drugs on children and adults, even in their own homes! Once you are ensnared by something like the forced drugging law "Laura's Law" you can be forced to take these toxic, life shortening, brain damage causing drugs, all on the basis of a quackery based psychiatric pretext.

@CarlaJacobs Laura's Law is a discriminatory law that forced drugs on innocent people, and hurts recovery from the problems that called "illness", and deters people from seeking help because they know these laws can be used to take away their rights. Thank you for making me aware that I should write to the Supervisors to ask them not to take away more peoples rights. You are on the wrong track. Violence and human rights abusing forced "treatment" are not the answer.

@panzertoysmail An even better response focused on the damage done by exposing a child's issues to the world around him: A must-read response - You Are Not the Killer’s Mother and Your Kid's Privacy Matters http://tinyurl.com/d8jl3el

@tbdx511 I would protect yourself and your family, make your contact info private and move on with life. It is the legal system that is responsible for putting him in their system and taking the consequences. If the prison did not rehabilitate him and get him the proper medical treatment, it is not your responsibility. Hopefully, he will have reached out for services and wants to change his life around Stay safe.

@JoeUreneck I would hope that experts in this area are compiling the responses and will try to figure out why white, young man are so viciously murdering innocent lives. I do not believe that the child's father was removed by the mother. I believe it is much more complicated than this. I believe it involves the legal system, Judges, custody investigators, GAL's, counselors, teachers, neighbors, Hollywood, video gaming, toy guns, the NRA, churches, family and friends and then what do you have...it is all of us.

If little Johnny is having a paranoid delusion about the police searching for him he NEEDS medicated... A father can curb some mild to moderate problems in NORMAL individuals but his presence is not going tof ix a mental illness!

Some people (especially those who experience psychoses or serious depressiong) need medicated.

Clyde, It's really quite stunning that all those who are adamant that this information "needs to be out there", have ignored, and will not discuss, three things:

1) that it could all have been "put out there" without using her real name and exposing her child for all the world to judge,

2) that this mother condemned her son and equated him to evil and to mass-murderers in front of the world (if a child's mother isn't their advocate, who is?) and

3) MOST IMPORTANTLY, not a single "it needs to be out there" response talks about the damage done to "outing" a child in order to "get it out there" or why it needed to have this child's identity attached to it. I've never seen such callousness - to 'H*^&' with this one child, we want the info out there regardless of what it does to him. It's a whole movement of people who want us to feel compassion for mothers (which I do) but have no interest in discussing what it does to a child to unnecessarily expose him and ridicule him personally in public. Simply unconscionable.

@panzertoysmail@JonGibson BTW there are drugs, like a designer combination of meth and whatever that can create an aggressive burst reaction. I never buy it that shooters were just angry or just mental. This is not the regular `angry` this is something else..thats a feeling. Poisoning? Some drug combination, like meth and acid at the same time I have no idea what it was but it is not just a mental case or angry,

@heidilee2000 You are not off subject, everyone else is though. Folks are acting like lemmings and jumping off the "victim" cliff regardless of what mental illness they claim their children, friends, or siblings have. We won't know what was going on with Adam Lanza until the media's impulsive purging of any information they think they've found, verified or not, stops. First reports were that he was the son of a teacher and went to her classroom and shot her and her students. ...Wrong... Who knows what Adam Lanza was suffering from. When it is verified that Adam Lanza had Autism or Aspergers and/or a personality disorder (which is not an illness, but a category of mental illnesses) we might know more. We'll never know for sure. He's dead. What we've heard about him is that he lacked emotion and didn't feel physical pain like most. This is far different than the claims made by Michael's mom and other "victimized" parents are making about what mental illness is.

@cfblakeman@ClydeCorri its a deflection. we have Veteran Suicides,we have NFL stars shooting their girl freinds and then explaining to their coarch they don't know what happen before shooting themselves.. we have fathers stabbing their children and then standing blood soaked in a trance as the house burns down. we have a Pill problem in America . just like Lanza the school shooter. his Mental Illiness is not a violent illiness. it was infact the Pills. and it needs to be out there. i am so tired of hearing about the Privacy of the Pacient while they push to punish generations to come by removing the rights to guns. the Pharmx lobby is the powerful lobby needing to be taken on and the SSRI pills are what needs to be banned. . we need Every story to be highlighted "what medication are they on"