It's been so long since I've started seeing someone and I'm totally confused on what is suppose to happen. Were both 40 and started seeing each other 3 weeks ago. We've gone out for dinner and spent time together and we've recently spent the night together. He tells other people that he can't keep his mind off me and he tells me (I told him I just wanted to be friends for awhile at the beginning) but he tells me the other day "it was never just friends and I'm deep in his heart." However I thought he would come to see me tonight and it felt like he totally blew me off. I'm not a kid but I'm totally worried that this means that he is already sick of me and I dont know if by what was said if that means were exclusive or what? This seems like an awful like of emotional work for me! HELP!!! What is suppose to happen or what is happening? I really like this guy and dont want to lose him but I dont know what to think.

Well he just asked me to be exclusive and to be his girlfriend two nights ago. I'm happy with him. We haven't even hooked up yet but there's a very close friendship between us, whih is something very important in a relationship.

yeah I do think he's a good guy. he calls me every night and we just talk about nothing. He picks on me a lot thought but he says he only does that because he likes me. He texted me last night after we were done talking on the phone and this is what he said: I'm gonna go to bed now. But i want you to know, that i do like you and that i am interested in you and i hope we can work something out. If you want:)

Dating and going steady, in my mind are one and the same thing, although some people may say there are some subtle differences.
It means that the two of you are both now in a mutually exclusive relationship, and want to see where it is going to take you.
He sounds like a good guy, not wanting to kiss you on the first date and spoiling your impression of him.
Let him earn your trust and respect first before jumping in the sack with him, this does one of two things, it shows you that he's not only after your body but also allows you to get to know him better, and feel more confident and secure in the relationship...
Well there you've got it, the beginning of a new adventure. Go girl.