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So WW shut my cell phone off. Then when I can home told me how OM was a great fuck, huge dick, and could eat her out like nobody's business. Going to make it a whole lot easier to file tomorrow. I can't wait to be free.

Posts: 44 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Illinois

careerlady♀ 16958Member # 16958

Posted: 12:27 AM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

I'm so sorry, she is a cold hearted person to treat you this way. You definitely deserve better and congrats on getting on the path to obtaining it

I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2802 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ

pregnantandsad♀ 40141Member # 40141

Posted: 1:09 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

That's just awful, I am so sorry you have to deal with that.

M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filed for D, almost done!

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California

LifeIsBroken♀ 27071Member # 27071

Posted: 1:09 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

I think WS's who say stuff like that are examples of how off-their-rockers they become once they begin their affairs. It's almost like any lie will do. My xh said inappropriate things to make me angry.... then, if I would have become angry, in his mind he was more justified to continue on the wayward path. It made it easier for him to pull away if I was being witchy, if that makes sense. I quickly learned not to become angry as it would add fuel to his fire. Instead, I would make calm, thoughtful responses. It's like dealing with small children who throw tantrums. Engaging in the craziness with your WS is what she wants because it makes it easier for her to do what she's doing. Don't fuel the crazy.

If you have documentation of when she has disappeared for days, with or without your children, have it with you when you go to court. She doesn't appear to be stable at all.

If you haven't, start protecting yourself financially and listen to your L. Also if you don't have one get a VAR(voice activated recorder) and keep it with you at all times. If she is this vindictive now, the D proceedings are likely to get messy. Don't let her bait you into any arguments and don't engage her unless it's via email or text. 180 and detach and now it will be okay eventually. Come her to vent as needed and always remain calm around her. I wish you the best.

D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 1990 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA

Lost15♀ 40898Member # 40898

Posted: 2:07 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Wow! What a class act she is. My STBXH is very vindictive also. He shut my phone off and gave me a go phone. He does things weekly to try to control me and just upset me. Don't trust anything she says to be the truth especially when the divorce proceedings start, that is when they get worse. Things that you never imagined them doing, they will do and you are better not to even react. Just contact your L. Good Luck with everything!

me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.

Posts: 118 | Registered: Oct 2013

SBB♀ 35229Member # 35229

Posted: 3:12 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

Klassy.

Let me tell you I had bigger/better (two VERY different things, BTW) than the sad clown and I've NEVER told him about it. Ever.

You don't need to when its true.

Aside from the patent cruelty she is simply a classless fuckwit.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5843 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia

Bravenewgirl♀ 36267Member # 36267

Posted: 7:16 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

wow, just wow. Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

She is making this shit up just to hurt you...you can see that right?

What a grad-a fucking TWAT.

File those papers brother, you do not need to listen to that pile of human garbage and her nasty mouth for one minute longer.

(((((khris))))))))

Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

Posts: 661 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Canada

Take2♀ 23890Member # 23890

Posted: 7:42 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

Holy hellcat! Lawyer up! And start carrying a VAR. She is out for blood. She is the enemy now. She tried to hit you where it would hurt the most (don't let it - recognize it for what it is - a low blow from a desperate woman).

Post here - vent here. With her - Go completely dark. NC! (kids and finances only!) Protect your assets! And yourself - VAR - Now! Do not say or write anything you don't want showing up in court to bite you in the ass!

Hang tough! ((khrisdeus))

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4259 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England

khrisdeus41265Member # 41265

Posted: 12:19 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

My lawyer this morning advised me to let her waste all of her money. Let her pay to file, let her try to put things into action. He said don't leave the home because her attorney is advising her not to. He said my money will last longer reacting to her, than her money will last her coming at me first. Instead of trying to file this, and file that to anticipate her actions, only address what she throws at me.

Posts: 44 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Illinois

Housefulloflove♀ 38458Member # 38458

Posted: 12:29 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

That sounds like really good advice as long as you are protected from the damage she could do to herself financially. If she doesn't file right away, you probably should. My ex maxed out credit cards and began to live like he knew the world was going to end before any bill was due. Thankfully he was responsible for EVERYTHING that happened after our date of separation.

What an evil b*tch! Don't give her another opportunity to say such nonsense. Treat her like an ugly picture on the wall (don't talk or look at her) that comes to life only when you need to discuss something *IMPORTANT* about the kids and finances. She doesn't deserve your attention or kindness, give her nothing but crickets.