Hi have a question for those who suffer from fibromyalgia and cmp... what type of mattress seems to?

... work best? I'm battling picking a new matress. We currently have a memory foam but it's very firm. Doesn't seem to be helping only making pain worse every morning. Any help or thought would be greatly appreciated.Thanks Much! Sorrya

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Top for me was the water mattress. It was perfect. Next to it is an air mattress. Some of the best sleeping I ever did was on my $30 Coleman, lol. We need something that floats us and that will confirm to our bodies to support our lower back in a natural position. Firm mattresses are horrible, they press on our sore spots, and our back has no support. I also find I use small pillows for possitioning of my arms and legs for sleeping.

Thank you so kindly for your quick reply! We bought a memory foam New that is horrible, feel like I slept on nails and can't move when morning. Thankfully the mattress has a 120 night exchange policy so we can hopefully find the right one for my issues! I'm wondering if one of those pillowtops type would be better, they were more pricey but a decent night of rest is worth extra $$. Stay well and thank you again Kaismama :) ~sorrya

I have been sleeping on a pillow top mattress for about 4 years. It's like sleeping on a cloud. I am still constantly turning and moving and re-positioning, but I can't imagine sleeping on anything firm.

I ended up with a pillow top mattress AND added a foam topping in addition. It is quite soft. Also you can put the foam only on your side of the bed if your partner doesn't want the softness. There was a $100 foam topping in blue at Costco that was too soft for me, but it didn't have much of an odor which the other foams did. I'm using very old foam that has since off gassed any odors. I am also very sensitive to odors, which may not be your problem. You might consider Kaismama's advice too. Good luck.

Hi Sara12345, thanks you for your advice! I'm kicking myself in the behind for not doing more research like this before we bought the memory foam mattress. Thankfully the store allows returns if not satisfied but think I only have one exchange so I appreciate everyone's help, advice comments and information! This site and everyone here are truly a blessing.Kind regards, sorrya

Hi Emeraldgirl, do you just use the Duck and Down topper to sleep on? Or what type of mattress do you have under the topper? Also what brand is the topper? We had something similar on our bed before all my medical problems started but we received it as a wedding gift and the feathers were constantly poking through the topper even with two covers on it. Getting a stab from one of those feathers made even the dog jump! I'm assuming this particular topper wasn't very good quality in the end we got rid of it... I'm mostly a side sleeper and husband works on ore boats on great lakes so he's gone 6 months a year, basically he is open to whatever works for me but doesn't wanna spend 3 grand either. So it's been tough! Thank you for your time hope you well... :) sorrya

Sorrya you are too funny about the feathers poking you and your dog, I had to laugh! Lol. I totally understand. My husband bought me a high $$$ goose down pillow and I swear I don't know how they get out of the thick ticking, but all night a poke here a poke there. We haven't yet let our dog try it! hehehe!

Hello all and Sorrya. I am having problems with my hands so typing is painful hence the short responses. When better will respond in full. RE topper parents got it from QVC (Shopping channel).A Northern Nights Feather Baffle Box type.With QVC UK customers leave feedback. U can return items if not 2 your liking. I have more to say but hands hurting. Take care

Emeraldgirl... so sorry about your pain in hands. Thank you for responding especially when it hurts to type... you need to rest and let your little fingers be still... hopefully tomorrow you will have some relief.Good to know even the expensive ones still find a way out to poke once in awhile! Lol! Take care Emerald :) sorrya

Emeraldgirl... so sorry about your pain in hands. Thank you for responding especially when it hurts to type... you need to rest and let your little fingers be still... hopefully tomorrow you will have some relief.Good to know even the expensive ones still find a way out to poke once in awhile! Lol! Take care Emerald :) sorrya

I have a Select Air mattress with a Temper Pedic topper. It is Fantastic! We have a King Size bed, so my husband and I each have a air chamber that is separate, so he can make his side a lot firmer and mine can be soft, yet it's all one bed. I love my bed, I truly love it! EJ 23

Sorry, no it's it's Select Comfort Air Bed (had to look it up). And the Tempur Pedic topper (3 inch) we added later - about 10 years ago - and (the combo) still feels fantastic. The Select. Comfort Air Bed is about 15 years old, and we see no reason why it will won't last forever. We've replaced the air pump twice, and they pro rate the price for the first 12? years or so, and (a rebuilt) one (2 years ago) was only $60 or so. The rest of the bed just doesn't have anything that would wear out like a traditional mattress would. The Tempur Pedic (brand name) topper is about 10 years old and is wearing pretty well - I can see it is much more condensed now, but it still feels great. We've bought other memory foam toppers for our other beds but swear by the Tempur Pedic brand name for a product that wears well. Other brands have compressed easily - and smelled bad - a chemical smell.

This King Size topper was around $550, but was worth every penny! I have one memory foam topper for my travel bed in the van that has such a chemical smell that I have to keep it in a vinyl cover (ugh!). Hope you find your perfect bed! EJ23

Ej, thank you! I have more questions if you don't mind? Does the Select comfort get mildew in it like some claim the sleep number bed does, also are you a back or stomach sleeper? Some reviews of the Select Comfort stated it got an B+ for back sleepers and a C+ for stomach sleepers lol. I am purchasing a new bed soon and I thank you for giving me your review :)

We moved out of our house 7 years ago for a renovation. When we moved back in I noticed mildew growing beneath the 2 air chambers. I called the manufacturer and they said they knew of a problem with their beds in our area of the country and sent us just about an all new bed. We recently put everything into mattress encasings (as I have a really bad dust allergy and my allergist insisted) and we didn't see any mildew. I don't sleep on my stomach but occasionally I see my husband on his. I mostly sleep on my side, occasionally on my back - I'm very comfortable. The Air Bed by itself was just not enough - when we added the Tempur Pedic topper was when it got Fantastic. I think it's the combination. I live with a lot of chronic pain from arthritis, neuropathy and failed back and neck surgeries. This combo really helps. - EJ23

Ej, I am going to seriously look into the Select Comfort and ask them about their warranty if the bed mildews. I have a Temper Pedic topper and I find it difficult for me to turn over with it, but may be from my weak muscles from my autoimmune disease. I too am in chronic pain with neuropathy and need the best bed out there. I would choose a waterbed as I once had, but here where I live in Calif they are hard to find these days unlike back in the 70s and 80s and the hippie days lol.

EJ 23... thank you for all your help! I'm grateful to all who took time to add their thoughts, it's a huge problem when u wake up to pain everyday so anything we can do to like right mattress we all should.If you don't mind me asking (&completely understand if you rather not answer ?) But roughly how much did the Select Air & Temper Pedic combo cost? When we looked at few of the Select Air models they were quite high..Thanks again for your help! Take care :) sorrya

It was very expensive - 15 years ago the Select Comfort King Size was around $2000.00. The Tempur Pedic King size topper was $500. I truly believe the Select Comfort bed will last us another 20 years - there's very little to wear out. And I agree with one of the earlier comments - we've bought several other memory foam toppers for our other bed but the smell kept us having to keep them in zippered up vinyl coverings which make you sweat. I do have trouble turning over easily - I can do it, but it takes some doing. My husband is able- bodied but has a large belly, like me, but he is able to turn over easily. He also keeps his side of the bed firmer than I do. I don't know! But, I hope this helps some. If I had to sell my wedding rings (which I would not do lightly, believe you me) I would sell them and buy this bed. When I am asleep it's the only time I'm not in pain, and I get that in this bed. It's one of the few things I look forward to in this life. Thanks for asking this question and helping me realize it! It's a gift from God. EJ23

The company for the air mattress is called "Select Comfort". I believe I saw an Ad where they offer a model with a built in Tempur Pedic topper. Mine was purchased a long time ago, so mine is the basic bed and we purchased the Tempur Pedic topper separately. EJ23

I vote for a waterbed as my 1st choice. I've never used an airbed so I'm unable to personally recommend that one, however, a duck & down topper was very comfortable except I only used it for a short while. Presently, I sleep on a huge leather recliner & that usually lets me get a good sleep. We did buy an expensive mattress for around $2400 CAD a few years ago but I really hurt when I wake from sleeping on it, even after only a few hours. :(It's so awful to wake up to a new day with so much pain & soreness after a night's sleep! I hope you're able to find a good solution. Good luck!

LiverLips( what a cute name!) I know how you feel I'm currently a couch sleeper. If I sleep on this new memory foam bed for even an hour it's horrible! I'm happy your recliner works for you and continues to be your friend! Thanks so much for adding your thoughts, everyone has been very helpful. Kind regards :) sorrya

Sleep number dual chamber set at 30 (any lower and I can feel the plastic base underneath). That's topped with a 4" memory foam/waffle foam combo topper, waffle side down. That's topped with a high loft deep pocket mattress pad. And an electric fireplace with remote to get me even cozier.

circleb, Wow! It sounds like you got yourself quite the system! I love the remote for the fireplace part! It sounds like you found your way to the land of sleep, may it be never ending for you! And always blessed with the right batteries for that cozy remote!I do thank you for your input, every bit helps and helps me to believe I won't have to sleep on my living room couch forever... Lol :) sorrya

We have the Select Comfort Dual Chamber air bed. Best investment I ever made. We have had ours over 10 years and it is just as comfortable as the first day although I did replace the foam topping over the air chambers once. I like this bed because you can change at will how soft or how firm it is. I know, for me, depending on how my back feels, I may want more firmness one night and then have it softer another night. This one allows you to adjust and allows each side to set their own firmness/softness.

I hate the TempurPedic mattress and any other mattress like it--both before and after my bones got really sensitive. The reason was because my back couldn't stand the lack of support within about a week. But when we got a queen size TempurPedic mattress, we were able to return within so many weeks. The store owner acknowledged that the bed didn't work for some people. My husband loves it and his back is very strong, so he got the twin size mattress. So if they still have a return plan it would be worth trying if you have the big bucks. But now I sleep very well on my pillow top Stearns & Foster twin mattress for $650 (on sale at Art Van's) plus the cheapest foam topping. The bed is very soft, but gives me enough support for my back.

Thanks for sharing your sleeping experience! As much as I would love to get one of the number controlled w/ the temperature gizmo, ( last night I even dreamed that I was just finding my perfect number) they are probably not in the price range my hubby has in mind. For now I'm going to keep doing what works (team couch). Sleep is sleep! We have until January to return our current matress, probably end up with some type of pilowtop and try all the great suggestions for added comfort. Or maybe Santa will think I have been exceptionally good this year and that dream of my perfect number will come true!!! Lol!

Thank you everyone for taking your time and sharing! Every post has helped me tremendously... New to the whole Fribo thing and finding out it is not easily understood. Wish all good health, happy thoughts, and peace... Kindly grateful ~~~~sorrya

I, too, suffer from my fibromyalgia, as well as bulging discs and other back and neck pain. The first thing I bought when I won my SSDI case, which took a couple of years, was a Sleep Number (Select Comfort) bed. I went in to look at the bed that was on sale at the time, but they had much better beds and I felt it was worth the money.Because my husband and I are both tall, we bought the king-size bed with the controls connected to the bed. (it also comes with two remote controls, so that two people can separately raise their side of the bed up and down -- both the head and the foot of the bed, separately or together. We decided that because it costs quite a bit more for the separate remotes that we would have the cheaper model.My husband has the amount of air on his side set at 70% air, and my side is set at 45% air when I sleep and 70 during the day.

It was quite an investment but I do believe that it will last us for the rest of our lives. And as far as my back pain neck pain body and fibromyalgia pain, this is the best thing I've ever done for myself!Good luck, let us know how you make out.Hope this helps!Annie

Thanks Anniebananie12, I was always called Annabanana or similar nickname like your username ( I have first name Ann )... Anyways I believe this type of a purchase justifys the price and in the end it would be a healthy & smart decision..But not too sure other half agrees! Maybe if I spoke in terms he better understood for example when we built our home he argued how having a geothermal heating unit and basement slab heated, we would save save save "it's an investment, pay for itself in 15 years"!Well we have them, but so far it doesn't impress me but a customized bed of air? That's an investment! Lol!!! Thanks for your help... stay warm we are cold cold in Northern Wisconsin! ~~ sorrya

Pamee ~ no, it never does lose any air. I believe that I will be using it for many, many years to come!Sorrya ~ I do hope you find the right bed for your comfort! Please let us know what you decide.Annie