Friday, June 19, 2009

These are the days when it's ok to drink BOX WINE

"Baby, this is the time of our life when we'll look back and be like, 'remember when we had wild crazy sex and no cares in the world....."

My Love says as we're both walking barefoot outside in downtown Denver, carelessly asking the to universe to give us a crack needle to accidentally step on.

"Yeah, when we didn't have to worry about little sticky children coming into our room in the middle of the night being like, 'Daddy why are you hurting Mommy?? When we don't have to worry about making too much noise, or screaming too wildly- now, it just kind of makes or neighbors jealous. Which isn't horrible, it's awesome."

Sigh. "These are the good days."

These are the days when it's still acceptable to call Top Ramen a "meal" every now and again and to call Momma when I don't know how long to bake chicken? When old friends aren't so old that they couldn't become "new" friends again, with a little mending. These are the times when we toe the line of irresponsibility, occasionally falling off course, but it's still okay. When it's OK to smoke strawberry flavored hookah until 10pm and have sex for breakfast.

These are the days when my skin is still taut and supple, my knees don't crack and my back doesn't hurt. My body is quick and strong, able, firm and resilient. These are the days when there's nothing a cup of coffee or a glass of Cabernet can't cure.

When I'm still rambunctious and hopeful. When my emotions don't simmer but they boil and my energy is sparkling. When I've been wounded just enough and jaded just enough to make me smart, but not bitter. These are the days when time feels like its on "our watch." When we're brave enough to throw ourselves into the lions den, and even with the lack of skill to actually fight a lion, we run at him with our bare hands anyway, because we're fearless in just the right times. (Figuratively speaking of course....unless you want to get your face ripped off.)

These are the days when we're creating our "smile lines" that one day, we'll look at bittersweet and remember when our faces we smooth, porcelain, unsullied. These are the days when it isn't depressing to eat an entire pint of Ben and Jerry's alone in the dark.

When I'm still lusting, while being in love. When I'm still naive, while having lived enough to be savvy. When I'm still open, while standing for what I believe.

These are the days when we still have the freedom. We have options and possibilities, wide open doors and the moxie to walk through every single one of them, no matter what the fuck is on the other side; angry bosses, wild boars, strippers, the love of your life, or your dream come true.

.....and most importantly, for many of us, these are the days when we can still have screaming-hair pulling-wild sex...without waking up the kids.

These are the days when I can get away with wearing short dresses on a night out.These are the days when I can have a 'friend with benefits' and, most importantly..These are the days I can eat cake and think about working out later lol

So heres the thing though. I want those days to last forever. And I would like to add the days when pitchers of margaritas on a tuesday are an except-able night out, walking across the brooklyn bridge at 2am feels a lot like magic and smoking a joint in bed with all 4 of your roommates is just about the greatest thing you can think of doing.

These are the days when we can make outrageous ideas come trueThese are the days we can still go clubbing like there's no tomorrowThese are the days where we can eat cupcakes for breakfast and breakfast for dinner

These are the days when I can get away with traveling to another place on a whim.These are the days when I can act silly, but not be told that I'm "too old for that." (Who am I kidding? I'll be silly forever.)

"my knees don't crack and my back doesn't hurt."Errr.. not true for me. Haha well, just the back part. And just today.These are the days when I can make outrageous decisions that I only regret for a day. My decisions don't have to affect another human being because I am without child and without a boyfriend :P These are the days when cinnamon toast crunch is perfectly acceptable to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

These are the days when you can take 10 days off of work and spend a grand on visiting New York for the first time ever. Sure, you might be broke as fuck when you get back. But hey, you only live once.

Thank you so much for writing this because I needed to read it. You're awesome!

These are the days when you can stay out until 4 in the morning, have sex until 5 and sleep until 2 in the afternoon...these are the days when you can stay in bed all day on the weekends with nothing on your schedule but relaxing...these are the days when you get home from work when it's still light out and have hours before bedtime to enjoy a nice dinner and maybe even a walk for ice cream....

love your writing...box of wine was definitely on the menu during "the days"...box wine and ramen...and sex for breakfast...and ice cream for lunch... :)

these are the days when I can travel whenever I want without worrying about where the kids will stay, go out whenever I want without worrying if the hubby is home alone, sleep in without worrying if the kids went to school, eat whenever I want without worrying about gaining too much weight..

Oh, my gosh. This is the greatest post I've read in a long time. You seriously captured it perfectly - the good things, the sad things, the silly things. Totally made me realize that I need to stop and appreciate this time in my life...that I should stop wishing things were the way they used to be, and stop trying to push myself ahead to the next step at the same time.

Hi Chelsea - I wanted to let you know that I reposted parts of this entry to my blog: http://www.jenrem.com/2009/06/these-are-days-re-post.html

It has lots of links back to your site so I hope you don't mind (but if you do, please tell me and I'll remove it immediately). I just think this is such a great thing I had to share with the world! :)

oh man i wish my skin was still taught and supple and my knees didn't crack and my back didn't hurt

these are the days when i can still wear 3 1/2" pumps every single day, i know i don't have much longer (i can feel it)and these are the days when day dreaming about the future brings goant smiles, not fear or nervousness