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Topic : 03/29 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

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Created on : Friday, November 03, 2006, 01:01:10 pm

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(Original Air Date: 11/08/06) When it comes to dating, they say age is just a number. But what happens when the man is more than two decades older than his girlfriend, or the woman is 15 years older than her young lover? Forty-year-old Sanjay is a wealthy cosmetic surgeon who met 18-year-old Jacqueline on the Web site SugarDaddie.com. They’ve only been together four months but are already talking marriage. Sanjay’s friend, Mike, is convinced that Jacqueline will put him right in the poorhouse! Is there a chance that Sanjay has found true love, or is Jacqueline just in it for the money? Then, 24-year-old Ryan is engaged to Angela, a woman 15 years his senior. Ryan’s friend, Donovan, fears that Angela is alienating Ryan from his buddies. Will Ryan have to choose between his college friends and his soon-to-be wife? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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this show will be interesting

11/08 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

As a child of such a marriage I'll be watching. My dad was born in 1919 and my mom in 1938. He was divorced w/ 2 kids from his first marriage (both born in the 1940's) I was born 1973. I loved my dad dearly -he passed away in 1989. But, truth be told, as my parents got older they didn't have much in common.

11/08 Cougars and Sugar Daddies

well if ryan dosent know a wife comes before his college friends

maybe he needs to wait to get married,just from what i read it would give me the impresson that ryan isnt ready to settle down, it dosent sound like hes in love if he even needs to think about chousing between friends and the woman hes about to merry, RYAN friends take the back seat to your wife to be, no questions about it, you dont marry a woman and put your college friends first by no means,

could this happen to ryan?

Statistics show that the sugar daddy's days are numbered, writes Christopher Bantick.

It could be an extension of girl power, or maybe young women are finally waking up to the fact that blokes over 40 don't cut the mustard in the stud stakes.

Whatever the reason, statistics show that women are increasingly pursuing younger partners.

Once it used to be a mark of a man's virility that he could still pull the younger birds in his 50s. But now women in their 30s, the 2001 census reveals, are discarding the wrinklies for sweet young things in their 20s. The numbers are still small, but the trend has begun.

In 1981, 3.7 per cent of women were partnered with men aged in their 20s. By 2001, this had risen to 4.7 per cent. It is not hard to understand why this should be so.

It is well known that older men who go for the Baywatch trophy partner largely do so for the sex. Even D.H. Lawrence cottoned on to this when he sagely noted that the "sex thing" was the chief factor in relationships with a big age gap. That was also a repeated finding in Sydney writer Jacquelynne Bailey's book Conversations in a Brothel: Why Men Do It. It's fair to ask why this shouldn't be the same for women.

But as much as the hope of sexual fulfilment might be the reason why women are increasingly looking for younger partners, there is a down side.

Older men - as women with younger partners will find out - have discovered that relationships with women who are decades their juniors are full of limitations. For better or worse, age can bring a certain richness. If it's not a one-night stand or a fling for a couple of weeks, any relationship where there is a significant age discrepancy is likely to fail beyond the bed.

Generation gaps are most evident in such things as shared books, films, political awareness and even history. This is the Educating Rita scenario: some men are prepared to "teach" their younger partners as long as there is a sexual pay-off at the end of the lesson.

Even so, many men are reluctant to leave partners of a similar age for their younger bit on the side. The reason is not just kids, either. When you haven't anything to talk about, then any relationship is doomed.

There is nothing more pathetic than an over-tanned Seniors Card-holder desperately trying to hide the flab beneath a flowing Hawaiian shirt, gold chains chinking in grizzled chest hair, as he holds hands with someone barely out of school.

Then there is the music.

If there is a one single example of generational incompatibility then it has to be music. Try putting on Phil Collins to set the mood with a 20-something of either sex. How very '80s. Today, its all silverchair, Shakira or Eminem. But do grandpa sugar daddies with delusions of being a chick magnet - and that's who we're talking about here - really listen to that?

If there is any doubt that men have at last had their fill of the Mick Jagger syndrome, where you measure your success by the notches on the bedpost, then the 2001 census confirms the obvious. Increasingly, men in their 40s and 50s are returning to women of their own age. In 1981, 58.1 per cent of men were with women of comparable age. Two decades later, that has increased to 64.3 per cent.

You can call it defeat at the hands of younger women shopping around for leaner meat, but the reality is that women are tired of sexual failures and want disposable partners who are not squinting into the glare of blue Viagra days.

What the census does show is that women in their 30s make the cut with younger partners. In 1981, 35.6 per cent of men in their 40s were partnering women in their 30s - last year the figure was down to 29 per cent.

Alas, women in their 40s are not doing too well at wooing younger men. The Mrs Robinson fantasy is just that, a figment of the imagination of all but a mere 0.6 per cent of women in their 40s. In 1981, this was 0.4 per cent.

This may well be a consequence of a career-filled life that has lacked lasting relationships. Then there is the common enough result of women and men in their 40s on the rebound from marriage break-ups looking for partners younger than themselves. Good for the ego if not for the long term.

But for many older men who have girded their creaking loins and played the field, the party's over. It's payback time and young men, well they may have never have had it so good.