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Topic: need some reassurance please (Read 2812 times)

it's been five years since I've been on this site and I must say I am deeply dissapointed with myself. about three weeks ago got drunk and received unprotected oral from a female sex worker, also gave unprotected oral to same sex worker. both of these activities lasted no longer than one to two minutes, tops. then, I rubbed the head of my penis, unprotected, against her vagina, for maybe ten seconds. we had no condom so that was it, no penetration. a week later, about two weeks ago, had protected sex with same sex worker (I wore condom). I convinced myself that all of this activity carried a very low risk of catching anytype of std, and therfore had unprotected sex with wife throughout this whole time, we are trying to conceive so I've ben ejaculating inside her. feel tremendous amount of guilt and shame, can't sleep and am worried sick. wife is now complaining of nausuea and headache for last two days. I have no symptoms to speak of.

questions - 1) what was my risk of getting hiv or any other type of std?, already tested neg for gonorrhea and chlymdia 2) could my wife's nausea and headache be a symptom of anything related to my experiences? 3) would a full std panel at three weeks be helpful or should I wait until six or eight weeks?

please help, my main concern is for the welfare of my wife and child and if I need to I will man up and face the music. thanks.

it's been five years since I've been on this site and I must say I am deeply dissapointed with myself. about three weeks ago got drunk and received unprotected oral from a female sex worker, also gave unprotected oral to same sex worker. both of these activities lasted no longer than one to two minutes, tops. then, I rubbed the head of my penis, unprotected, against her vagina, for maybe ten seconds. we had no condom so that was it, no penetration. a week later, about two weeks ago, had protected sex with same sex worker (I wore condom). I convinced myself that all of this activity carried a very low risk of catching anytype of std, and therfore had unprotected sex with wife throughout this whole time, we are trying to conceive so I've ben ejaculating inside her. feel tremendous amount of guilt and shame, can't sleep and am worried sick. wife is now complaining of nausuea and headache for last two days. I have no symptoms to speak of.

questions - 1) what was my risk of getting hiv or any other type of std?, already tested neg for gonorrhea and chlymdia 2) could my wife's nausea and headache be a symptom of anything related to my experiences? 3) would a full std panel at three weeks be helpful or should I wait until six or eight weeks?

please help, my main concern is for the welfare of my wife and child and if I need to I will man up and face the music. thanks.

Performing unprotected oral sex on a woman and receiving an unprotected blowjob are not risks for HIV transmission. Similarly rubbing your knob against a woman's pussy is not a risk. HIV is transmitted through unprotected anal and vaginal sex, through sharing contaminated injecting equipment and in some case from HIV positive mother to her unborn child.

You do not need to be tested for HIV as a result of this sexual encounter. I would encourage you to read our Welcome Thread and follow the links to the lessons on HIV transmission.

thanks for the quick response. I know this is a hiv site and do not want annoy anyone but I know this is a reputable site and I value, and respect, the knowledge of its members. so, if there is anything more you could add with regard to questions 2 and 3 I would greatly appreciate it. thanks again.

If your wife's symptoms persist she should consult her own doctor about them. Nothing you did put you or her at risk for HIV. As for other STDs, she would not be manifesting symptoms when you aren't. I think you are worrying needlessly.

You can test for other STDs if you want to just for your own peace of mind.

Right now you'd definitely test positive on a guilt test. Man, you did what you did and that's just a part of your history now. Do yourself and your marriage a favor, take a breath, accept that, let it go and get on with your life.

andy, thanks, i am doing thr best I can to not totally lose it, i've had a pain at the tip of my penis for the last few days and today have noticable clear blsiter under my tongue. maybe hsv1 brought out by stress, I now I've had that but never really got any cold sore or blisters. could my stress level be causing a change in my ph levels causing the blister and penie tip pain? if yoo do not wish to reply since this may not be the appropriate forum could you recommend a few reputable std sites.

please. struggling to sleep and wanting to get of tne xanax and ambien. job performance is taking a toll as well and I'm also afraid to be close with my 20 month old son. Please point in the right direction.

Dear Sir,A day before,Yesterday i received a Jel Massage in massage parlour, when i started recieving massage i get ejaculated due to excitement when lady massager touched me on my other part of body ( Not to my penis or near by it), then i cleaned it with fresh napkin paper by myself, at the end of massage she touched my penis & surrounding as a part of massage, now i got fear that am I get HIV infected??, IF that lady massager is HIV infected.I didnot received hand job or ejaculation by hand job.I didnt had any sexual contact with that lady massager.I like to know whether I get infected by HIV??? If I want to know by test , which test I suppose to follow to know about same???

Please reply,

Thank you very much.

Please help me; I dont know how to add post here so i m putting my question here plz help & reply me

You mustn't post in other people's threads. To start one of your own return to the Am I Infected? forums index page by clicking this link and then select the "New Topic" button at the top right hand corner of the page.