Well, maybe your hubby is ESTj after all and you're really INFj and you'll live happy ever after as a dual couple (as it seems to be the case so far anyway).

S would further split, so to speak, into Si and Se, with Si being Introverted Sensing. If he's ESTj then he'll be Te-leading (dominant function) with Si-creative. Does the ESTj description on this site come close-ish? Don't worry too much about descriptions though, sometimes they miss what *you*'re seeing in the other person. cheers

PS: also, why did you think ENTj for him? Is that based on descriptions only? Or were you able to "identify" Ni as creative for him?