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Another rape. Another. Not a client, or one of my students, nor a hotline caller, but a friend. A person I laugh with, drink with, both casually and deeply love. She has been raped.

I’m dying with you. Inside.

I can explainnothing.

I can offernothing.

Who’ll believe you?Only a few.

This is all I have for youStories.

More stories so you know that you are not alone. A place of comfort and horror is knowing you are not the only one. And I’m sorry, but I can take you there. A place where so many find haven, a cemetary where you can bury the person who died that night. A place where you can remember the terror, the agony; how it went on and on; how no one heard you; how he…they…never stopped. You may not know this, but you’ll spend much of your time preparing for this place.

You may resist. You not want to go right now. And I will never make you go there until you’re ready.

But at some point, you will. Everyone does, no matter how you try to escape it. No matter how tight you sqeeze your eyes shut or the blankets in your hand. Rape is the poison, but the aftermath…that’s when it begins to flow into your body, life.

It’s not that he…they… were that strong,but the memorythe nightmaresdaymaresthe gnawingthe groaningsthe memories will not be released.

At this cemetary, you will carve out a place in the ground and lay her in the tomb. Everything will tremble. You’ll say good-bye to that beautiful, lovely person who you so want to be again, but cannot return to. You will scratch stones to commemorate her strengths and will. You’ll cry fast, lonely tears that consecrate the covering soil.

You’ll see the other grave stones and eventually your eyes will adjust to see the millions of others who are buried there. Scattered. Everywhere.Some are slowly digging, their hands dirty.Others are still consecrating, weeping on their knees. Some silent. Others wailing.

You can stay for however long you need. You’re allowed to come back and visit her, but I don’t think you’ll want to. Once you walk away, you’ll want to keep moving, out of the fog and into the wind.

I’m sorry, but there is nothing else I have but the path, this way, this knowledge of the cemetary. I will take you when you are ready. Tomorrow may be too soon. Tomorrow may not be soon enough. It may take months, maybe years. I’ll wait for you.

You burynot the memorynot the painbut the power of the past.

You will replace itwith the power of today,resilience,rebirth,renewal,strength, conviction,and knowledge.

And you will be a Survivor, not a raped womyn, not a case report number, not a witness. A Survivor.

A person, a human, who refused to die. Who fought and endured and embodies the things that we all aspire to someday possess.