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Saturday, 4 June 2016

Hey gorgeous you up for challenge number 4?

4th June 2016

The best and most
beautiful things cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the
heart.Helen Keller

Yay it's Saturday,
the weekend is upon us and I think we're getting sun at some time over the
weekend, live in hope this June-uary!So
today's challenge, well it's pretty easy physically to do but mentally and
emotionally, mmm, well maybe not so much from what I've been reading in my
group the last day or two.See it
appears that some of you lot don't approve of yourselves very much when all I
see is a BeYOUtiful member in front of me, you are seeing something completely
different.Where I'm looking at a curvy
lady with a lovely figure, you're seeing a massive pair of hips and a big ass!My members really don't see their BeYOUtiful
at all sometimes so that's why today's challenge might be a little difficult
for some of you.

The challenge is to
find the nearest mirror, look at your reflection and say "I love you, I
accept you and I'm going to take care of you!"Then every time you see your reflection
today, smile at yourself and say "I love you", think it if you're in
a supermarket or similar and think people will think you're crazy for talking
to yourself!

Negative self-talk
can be a very dangerous thing, and I get it that it can be hard to feel good
about your body, we go out in public, watch tv, look at magazines and everyone
is flawless, perfect bodies - well what the media defines as perfect but let's
be honest those bodies aren't real!They're all hairbrushed, we're brainwashed into believing that we're
flawed, we're offered "cures" in the form of lotions and ptions to
make us 'beautiful' when if you stop and look you already are BeYOUtiful,
there's not another like you and you're loved for that very reason - whatever
size, shape, haircolour etc you are.

We're led to
believe that when we
“fix ourself” in regards to our image, or reach that so-called “ideal
weight," that we’ll be happy, healthy, and everything will be wonderful
and well in our work. Yeah right!Until
then, we end up hating our bodies more than ever.

Negative
self-talk sucks, I hear stuff like "I
hate how my saggy stomach", "I've got Mahoosive thighs",
"my butt is huge!" and worse!It makes me sad and I remember doing it myself so I know how much damage
it can do, my solution was to go to the gym 7 days a week for hours on end to
get that size 8 body.I did, my life
didn't become perfect, my body was smaller but I looked like a teenage boy now
instead of a curvy fat bird, I couldn't will - I was still miserable!Now when I try something on and it doesn't
fit or doesn't suit me, I just hang it back on the rail and give my belly a
cuddle - it's mine, it's part of me, therefore I love it and it loves me right
back.

So
stop and think for a moment, and answer honestly, when you look in the mirror,
where are your eyes immediately drawn? Do you zoom in on something you don’t like
about your body? Do you immediately insult yourself about your reflection?

Isn't
that sad that most people immediately see their body and want to 'fix' or
change something about it, choosing to focus on what we perceive as flaws
rather than seeing our wonderful.

How
about we start to change that habit?Replace
the negatives thoughts with positive ones, change our cant's into cans, lose
the 'not good enough" comments and replace them with more positive
ones.You're not 'flawed',
"ugly" or "imperfect", you're "BeYOUtiful".

Start
being positive, focus on what you see as your 'good' features and give yourself
a compliment, those lovely eyes, that incredible smile, those strong legs that
enable you to walk around every day, those phenomenal stretch marks that are
your proof that you gave birth to another human!Yeah another human!How fantastic are you?

If
you're thinking, yeah right, I can't do that, I don't feel that way - then
lie!Fake it, till you make it they say
don't they, I know you're not going to go from hating it all to loving it all
in a morning but you can pretend.Give yourself
the best compliment you can think off, even if you don't really believe it or
feel the love.Trust me, keep doing it
and sooner or later you won't be faking it - worked for me!

Make
your goals realistic ones, don't expect to lose a stone in a day and lose your
batwings over night, these things take time and seriously there are worse
things in life to have than batwings, they're good enough for Batman and he's a
blooming SuperHero!

Think about
what your body can do rather than how it looks if you're really struggling with
the whole self-love thing.When you
start to say something negative to yourself, think would I say that to my
daughter/son or anyone's child?Can you
imagine the effect it would have on them?Well you have that inner child, they're still inside, and they're
probably crying up the corner because the grown up version of you is really
mean to them.

Take
it from me, you're not flawed and you don't have to "fix" you at
all.You're a BeYOUtiful creature who
just needs to see the wonderful that everyone else sees in you. Our thoughts and words define us, so choose
yours wisely.

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