It doesn't take my girlfriends ass much to gape any more she can actually make her self start to gape with out any toys or my cock her ass is tight but when she is turned on she can take my cock or a toy with ease her biggest toy is almost 3 inches wide so she doesn't use it that often I usually use it on her to make her really gape sometimes when I'm rimming her

It doesn’t matter to me as long as I’m in her asshole, the fear of pregnancy and not having to use a condom is the bigger picture for me. I am an assman and do love anal sex more then regular sex since I was in school, I’m 49 now and still loving it. My girlfriend and I have been AO for 19 years and her anus varies from tight to loose depending on mood etc. I find it erotic both ways.

AnalAnnaLisa wrote: I don't have a desire to stretch it until it's "loose" and I agree with others in the forum that like theirs, my ass looks the same after years of anal (even though I'm only 26), but I love the thought of having an asshole that looks used. Like a dark, thick skinned, bulging, puckered hole. I see these assholes on anal sites and they call them "well used" but after reading here how it doesn't actually work that way, I assume that's just what their assholes look like naturally... in any case, I can still fantasize about having a rugged looking back door after years of being an anal slut!

I have the same goal for my asshole. I think it is so sexy to see a good pic of a "well used" asshole. Also want to be able to have a nice small natural gape when I spread my ass and relax my sphincter.

I've been training a lot, and at the same time have been mostly anal only, especially when I'm masturbating. I can definitely see a difference and so does my boyfriend and I am actually so proud of it! Lol Happy it's not a strange thing to say here.

I do notice that if I've not been playing for a day or more it tightens up, but nothing like before I started training.

The appearance can definitely change over time, from the anal muscles strengthening, increasing in tone, having increased elasticity/greater upper limits, and being more under control. This is also why it becomes easier to penetrate with practice even though it defaults to being tight when not in use. It's not that it's become loose, just that the muscles have increased elasticity and control and so can open up more easily going forward.

I agree, it's a great and beautiful thing, and definitely something to be proud of!

I like both. All depends on where we are in the act. At first my wife is tight and we spend our time getting my cock nice and deep on her terms. Normally after the first orgasm she starts to loosen out. I have to take it carefully here....staying deep and moving about seems to do the trick. If I get it wrong she can tense up (not a small man). Once her breathing changes back to "aroused" we've moved into her wide open phase and I can do whatever I please back there

Last night was a VERY tight opening moment that took a couple of minutes to slowly work through but she got herself to her first orgasm pretty quickly then I was able to get SERIOUSLY deep and got myself into the 2nd colon which, if done at the right time, sends her crazy. I still, however, like to feel some grip at the base of my penis at this stage so I slow down and go back to teasing her anus which tightens her back up....but by this point all mental barriers are out and I can push back in fairly quickly and she'll still moan away.

So, I like both. The tightness helps me "feel" where I am and the looseness shows me that she's completely surrendered to my cock. The gape is the cherry on top of the icing that is my wife and I being AO!

About the Anal Only Lifestyle

This community is focused on an anal only (AO) lifestyle, a term used as much to refer to vaginal abandonment as to anal sex. Whether you've already made a commitment to only have anal sex with a partner or are just turned on by the idea and were led here by perverted curiosity, you'll find yourself in good company. Everyone has their own little take on what anal only means to them, and the only thing that is strictly not allowed in the lifestyle is vaginal penetration. The transition to being anal only can take time and while some women may need clitoral stimulation along the way, the long term goal for many is typically to train the body to achieve orgasm from anal sex alone.