Only the First Year

it is less than one month to my one year anniversary and i feel like calling it quits... i've had sex with my husband about seven times during the course of our entire marriage. i feel like i have been sold a bag of "goods". i feel more than partly to blame. my husband was not that sexual a year before we got married... but he kept promising he would change.. and now two years later and married for one year it's gotten worse.... i've been through the he doesn't find me attractive anymore.... what can i do stage... now i'm at the i'm ready to pack my bags stage... we are in the midst of counseling but it's not working... i can't stand to be in this way for the REST of my life... i'm almost thirty-four.. and at the time i should be planning for a family-- i can't because this marriage is so messed up.... i want passion and instead all i have is nothing... he is a great guy.... but i guess even though he says he loves me --- "he is just not that into me" i hear it only goes down after the first --- so what do i have to possibly look forward to... maybe i'm giving up... but i'm tried of promises and ready for the action i never get....

The grass is not always greener. If you love this guy, and he wants to change, maybe it's possible. On the other hand, it sounds like one or both of you have already left this relationship and haven't taken your body along. I think its time you are both honest with yourselves and asked each other what you really want.

Welcome to the club. I cut short my honeymoon as the only sex I was getting was hreaing it through the walls of the hotel!<br />And here we are 30 years later, still together, still not sexual. I can't say it is easy, it is hell. But if you are in councelling, well done. I wish you great success<br />Barganax

Welcome to the club. I cut short my honeymoon as the only sex I was getting was hreaing it through the walls of the hotel!<br />And here we are 30 years later, still together, still not sexual. I can't say it is easy, it is hell. But if you are in councelling, well done. I wish you great success<br />Barganax

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