Stephanie and Mathew

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Easter was so much fun! We went down to Grandma Linda's and Daddy's and hung out with everyone! Aunt Lacee and Uncle Daryl were there with little KeKe and we had a blast! After a nice relaxing day at Linda's we headed to James' dad's house to see Grandpa Dan, Amy and Gabby! Mathew ran around like a wild animal and had so much fun playing with Grandpa! James' family is so wonderful! We're really lucky. We still have a TON of candy and I'm trying desperately not to eat it so if you live by me or I'm going to see you soon PLEASE help us eat it :)

You're looking at the busiest kid on the universe! Mathew is 2 going on 5! He thinks he's so big and can do anything he wants! We've reached the point where naps are few and far between, the "No's" and "I DO IT", "stop it", and "QUITE" are the most common words in his vocabulary! I never realized how challenging this stage was! I heard all the "terrible two" stories and figured I would have Mathew in check and there's no way that will be me....HA in my dreams! I will say, for as many rough challenging days we have there are a number of really good days where he's as loving as ever! It makes me forget about the hard days all together!

I have to admit I'm incredibly jealous of the energy this kid has! Mathew runs around the house all day long!

The Thursday before Easter Mathew came down with a virus that turned into Croupe. We had a big day planned Sunday so I really wanted him to rest and get better. Saturday I put Mathew down for a nap, of course he had a movie going and was very quiet so I thought he was sleeping...About an hour after I put him down I hear him cry, it was a different cry so I wasn't sure what the heck was going on. I walked in his room to check on him and find his leg is STUCK between the bars in his crib! Of course I totally panic and call James, what am I supposed to do?!?!?!? I remember the full house episode where DJ is babysitting and the kid got his head stuck in the staircase, but butter is SO not going to do the trick here. I ran downstairs and grabbed my tool box and tried to pry the bars apart so I could push his leg out, I don't know how the heck he got his chunky leg in there but his knee was stuck and wasn't about to go anywhere! The whole time this is happening James is on speaker, Mathew's crying, I'm crying James is wondering what the hell is going on...so I make the decision to just break the bar off...I snapped the bar as much as I could and pushed Mathews leg out. Mathew had a couple scratches and bruises around his knee but he was out YAY!

So after Mathew and I settle down from the main event, Mathew lays on my bed and falls asleep, reality sets in and I'm like "oh no, now where is Mathew going to sleep?!?!" He's not ready for a toddler bed, how the hell do I even make this crib into a toddler bed??? Well luckily I found some pictures of the crib online and figured out how to change make the crib into a toddler bed. I was really worried he would fall out of the bed the first night or get up and get into trouble in the middle of the night but he didn't at all! He did great! I went out and bought a safety rail a couple days later and it's been wonderful! He LOVES being able to get in out of bed by his self, and to celebrate I got him a Cars pillow!!! I never realized how fast kids grow up! I can't believe he was ever a baby! It's a lot of fun though and I wouldn't trade it for the world!

This year I turned the sad age of 27 yuck! I did have reason to celebrate though....My dad, brother Mike and his cute girlfriend Bre came up to see us!!! We had so much fun while they were here! It was great to have a house with lots of room too.

I had only met Bre once, the last time I was in Salt Lake, and I thought I liked her then! She is so awesome! My brother and her have such a sweet relationship, they're perfect for each other (no pressure Mike, but you MUST marry this girl!) Mathew had so much fun playing with them it was great! Mathew would go around the house yelling "Mike!" all day long!

We did so much stuff while they were here! We drove up to Blaine, WA to pick up one of Mike's friends who he met in Slovenia on his mission who now lives in Canada. We also did the Seattle Underground Tour and had some fun on the Ferry's. I love my family SO much I wish I could see them more....I can't wait until the next trip XOXO!

So a couple months back my camera totally broke :( I knew my family was coming in town so I was in a rush to get a new one. After doing some research and asking around I found the most amazing camera EVER! The only thing I wish it did is shoot video, but with everything else it can do I can live with that!

I ended up purchasing a Canon Rebel, click here to see it's awesomeness! Here are a few great pictures I've taken with it! This camera makes me feel talented at photography, can't complain about that!

Saturday, January 30, 2010

This post is extremely difficult for me to write, in fact as we speak my hands are shaking. As a lot of you may have noticed, I can blab all day about Mathew, about being a mom, the things I'm doing in my life but I don't open up about the fact that I lost my mom 5 years ago to Leukemia. I am not a writer and as I mentioned this is difficult to write so I might jump around a bit!

I recently had a very close friend lose her mother, and as we were talking on the phone I tried desperately to find comforting words to say and search for ways to bring her a sense of peace. After we got off the phone it made me realize I don't share my feelings about my mother often and maybe just maybe someone will come across this post who is going through a similar situation and I can help them in some way.

Okay, here I go. I was 22 when I lost my mother. Although we knew she was sick and Leukemia would ultimately take her away from us, we didn't realize how quickly it would actually happen.

After she was diagnosed we knew it was going to be about a ten year battle, but unfortunately her fight ended five short years later. This is something that has always been hard for me to deal with...not enough time. I will always cherish the time I had with her, but because I didn't realize the seriousness of her disease I never took advantage of that time.

My mom was so sweet, and really funny! She was really talented when it came to arts and crafts. Although I didn't inherit that gene from her I'm still hoping for it to come! My mom was a bit of a "ditz" per-say, and it used to really hurt me when I heard people say comments about her or poke fun. Now I realize that's what I love most about her, she didn't care what people said or thought! Although she had this funny side to her she was always the one I could go to for advice, in fact some of the best advice I've ever received was from her.

As soon as my mom found out she was sick, she would always mention how she wanted me to help her cook and clean and how one day I would be on my own and need to know these things....Of course at my age I brushed it off "yeah okay mom, tomorrow let's do that". Today I wish I was the cook she was and really just wish I had the same drive she had! If my mom wanted to do something it didn't matter her age, it didn't matter how busy her schedule was SHE DID IT!

It has been a really long journey these past five years. I have always had a tough skin when it came to losing my mom. I never wanted anyone to see how bad it truly hurts, how it may have effected my life etc. This is the hardest thing by far I have ever been through. The worst thing I ever did was bottle up these feelings. For about two weeks after she passed I would drag myself out of bed, go to work, go straight home and lay in bed and cry. I pushed my friends away, only because they had no idea what I was going through. Nothing they could do or say made me feel better, they had never been here before. I have had the same handful of friends all my life and we remain as close as ever! Because they've stuck by me through all my craziness I love them more today then ever before!

Shortly after my mom died my dad announced he was engaged to a long time family friend Chris. Let me just quickly say, I have grown to love Chris SO much, and we have all accepted and welcomed her to our family :) But after we heard this news so quickly after my mom passed it devastated my brothers and I. How could this really be happening?!?!? Can we please have time to grieve here? We were all still young and of course still trying to deal with everything so we didn't make it the easiest for my dad and Chris and it was a long time before the tension was lifted. I'm not going to get to in to detail here because It doesn't matter anymore! Chris makes my dad so happy, she's really funny, and she loves and has a deep respect for my mother. She is also very sweet with Mathew and Kale! We just really love her!

The most difficult part of being without my mom these last five years has been becoming a mother myself. As soon as I discovered I was pregnant I panicked! She is not here to help me through this, she can't answer my questions! She's not here to tell me her stories. I really need her right now! Luckily I found comfort in talking to cousins and James' Mom Linda. Without them I would have been a wreck!

Most of all now it's difficult knowing my son and future children will never know her.

New Years Eve this year It hit me harder than ever. Why do I have to go through the rest of my life without her? My children will never get to spend time with her and will never know how truly wonderful she was. IT'S NOT FARE! I had a bit of a break down. But a good one, like I said I bottle up my feeling so much, I needed a good cry! Now I'm comfortable enough to share my story, and my difficult journey! That's a good thing right!

One good thing to know is I only have good memories of my mom. When I think of her it's never memories of her when she was sick or during the last stages of her life. It's the beautiful, healthy mom! I often dream of her and they're always fun dreams of us hanging out, or dreams where she thinks I'm crazy for thinking she's passed she's right here! This is especially wonderful, when Mathew first started talking about 7 months ago he pointed to a picture of my parents and pointed to my dad and said "bampa" then I asked Mathew "where's grandma?" and he pointed at my mom. Could have been a coincidence yes, but I'd like to think it's because he really does know of her! I wanted to share some good stories too here :)

The most important advice I can give to anyone going through the loss of a parent or anyone special in your life is:

Friday, January 29, 2010

This week we celebrated Mathews 2nd Birthday. I just CANNOT believe how fast he's grown up and that yes indeed he is now a boy! Lately whenever I see baby pictures of Mathew it just shocks me how fast time has gone by and how quickly you forget things. I used to always ask my friend Wendee questions when I was pregnant and "how do I do this?" questions after Mathew was born and I gave her so much crap for not remembering certain things! Here I am two years later and I hardly recognize the cute little baby photos hanging on my wall!

Here are a few of my favorite pictures I recently ran across.

For Mathews birthday we kept it really low key. We went down to James and Lindas house, Aunt Lacee and Uncle Daryl came over with Keagan. We had a nice dinner, opened presents and ate yummy cake! Mathew is obsessed with Thomas right now so the Thomas Train and Thomas book and Pajamas were a hit! Mathew was really shy when we were singing happy birthday to him, it was really sweet! After the birthday song was over he put his head up and blew out 2 out of 3 candles! It was so much fun just hanging out with everyone! Keagan is growing up right before our eyes! He was SO close to crawling when we saw him Saturday and a few days later he was off and crawling all over the place!!! Mathew calls him "KeKe". It's so cute and sadly I think it will stick with him forever! That's okay, when Keagan starts talking I'm sure he'll come up with a dosie for Mathew! Mathew had such a fun time with everyone and LOVED all his presents! He's been having so much fun with all the cars and the remote controlled dump truck! Mom has fun with his toys too :) What can I say, it's a new age these toys are awesome!!!!

A few weeks ago Mathew and I ventured down to Tacoma to spend time with his dad and we decided to go check out the zoo! This was Mathews first time there, except one other time in my belly! James, Linda, Mathew and I had a great time. We went to the Point Defiance Zoo, I don't know if it was the time of year we went or what but there wasn't a lot going on....Next time we will have to check out the Woodland Park Zoo in Seattle! Mathew had so much fun running around, looking at all the fishies and sharks AND going on his first carousel ride! It's so fun to see children make connections when seeing animals, cars, characters etc! This is such a fun stage!

About Me

Mathew and I live in Arlington WA, about 40 minutes north of Seattle. Mathew is 2 and is busy as ever. I decided to do a blog because almost all my friends and family are in Utah or live a ways away from us here in Washington and like me, are interested in what's going on! I'll try to keep it updated as much as possible! Enjoy.