Wedding Planning: New York-Style

Weddings raise a lot of questions: Who should we invite? Do we want an outdoor or indoor ceremony? Do we hire a DJ or a band for the reception?

With New York State's new law giving lesbian and gay couples the freedom to marry set to take effect on July 24, thousands of same-sex couples are tackling these same logistical questions. But they also face complex and serious questions regarding their rights — questions most wedding planners can't answer.

The guide covers a wide range of topics, including: the nuts and bolts of applying for a marriage license, the rights and responsibilities conferred by marriage, and the implications of the law's religious exemptions. It addresses specific questions such as:

Can a church or member of the clergy refuse to marry me and my partner?

Can I be discriminated against for marrying someone of the same sex?

Can a private business, like a florist or photography studio, refuse to provide a service for my wedding because I am marrying a person of the same sex?

The guide will help couples understand their rights at a time when, sadly, the vast majority of states and the federal government still fail to recognize same-sex marriages. It will provide couples some peace of mind and allow them to focus their attention on things that matter — like finding a reasonably priced photographer.

The guide is currently available on the NYCLU's website. A printed version will be available soon.