she may be having trouble justifying walking as an option for a commute that's that long, however (assuming you don't exercise on top of your 2h20m walk every day), perhaps you could just tell her something along the lines of:

"the time difference isn't that great and this way, I don't have to work out separately, I can save money, and have more time to spend with you."

I agree, sounds to me like you need a different counselor. One that can leave his own BS aside and listen to what your actual concerns and issues are. I know some folks that have gone through 3 or 4 before they found one that actually suited them.

Counseling helps...it really does. And if you're still on her insurance, it should cover mental wellness or something like that and you'll just have to pay the copay. Just make sure you find someone in-network, or else you'll have more paper work.

I used to have jobs that were the same thing day in and day out and I would absolutely zone out.

I slowly moved into a role that was very multi-faceted and effectively do 4 different jobs that have somewhat similar responsibilities but are in 4 very different areas so the issues and challenges are different/interesting/fun to work through.

Also, just because they left Earth doesn't mean they don't go back. Cost to lift payloads to space would be minimal then too so you could just mine the atmosphere or process the water for O2, or whatever.

Like going away to a far away college and making trips home for the various things you forgot to bring.

male ESFP here....also suggest just reaching out, but don't do it from the perspective of trying to start a relationship or rekindle her old feelings. You've probably both grown a lot over the last seven years.

Reach out from the perspective of trying to be friends. If it goes somewhere from there, bravo.

If not, you'll have reconnected with an old friend and if she happens to be relatively close by, she can introduce you to her friends...

The F is foremost, but we can learn the T (through the education system). Younger Esfp's tend to be less developed on the T side, and if they let themselves continue that way, they'll grow up to be underdeveloped on the T and you get your friends (not sure how old they are so they might be relatively young still).

On the flip side, since Estp's already got the T part down, but there's no formal way to teach the F, so that's harder for you guys to learn.

All that said, if done from a perspective of humor rather than derision, we're happy for you to laugh at the ridiculousness of us tearing up at the movie/song/commercial/magazine ad.

My ESTP friends and I get along very well and have a wide range of conversations from smack talking, relationship talk, career, aspirations, etc.