Diary of a Mom: Mom Anxiety is Real

Can we talk for a little bit about Mom Anxiety. I’ve had anxiety issues for a lot of my life and I’ve learned to deal with them. Then I had a baby and suddenly I felt like my anxiety was spinning out of control again.

Mom anxiety comes on the moment you realize you can no longer protect your baby. For nine months you are their shelter, source of food, and protector from anything the world throws at them.

When they exit your body it becomes clear that you cannot protect them in the same way you have in the past. You can’t feel them moving and kicking unless you pick them up and hold them.

Slowly you start imagining all the bad things that can happen and as time goes on those bad things get worse. If you’ve ever imagined your kid running across the room, tripping and cracking their head on something, or breaking a bone you may have mom anxiety.

I will be laying in bed to go to sleep at night, suddenly hear my two year old cough, and wonder if he’s choking. Then I sneak and listen to hear if he’s still breathing.

Toddlers are Scientists

I’m sure you’ve heard this before. Toddlers are little scientists. They experiment with everything in life and it’s completely normal.

We cannot possibly protect them from every bruise, bump, scrape or bonk that comes along. Nor should we. This is how toddlers learn about their capabilities.

It’s important to their development that they learn what they are capable of and what they should and shouldn’t do.

Yes we hold their hands on stairs and when walking in a parking lot. We still keep them generally safe. However, if your toddler starts jumping on the sofa you can’t feel bad when they fall down. This is how they learn that sofa’s are for sitting not jumping and running.

Do Strategic Babyproofing

Obviously you don’t want your child to get into the cleaners but is it really necessary for you to baby proof every cabinet and closet in your house? Put the cleaners up on a shelf in your utility closet instead of under the sink. This way you can teach them to stay out of the cabinets instead of turning them into obstacle course your child will see as a challenge.

Put in electric plugs even though they will most likely pull every single one out and bring them to you at some point. Use child locks on your front and garage doors.

However as your child gets mobile you need to spend a few weeks teaching them what they can and cannot touch. This can vary depending on what you have in your house.

Obviously if you have things that are super expensive or hold lots of sentimental value put them away or out of reach. Anything you don’t care gets broken keep within reach. Then walk around as your child explores and teach them not to touch.

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They Will Not Break (99% of the time)

At some point in your child’s life they will break a bone. Guess what? You will go to the hospital, get a cast, all their friends will sign it, and they will have a broken bone story to tell for the rest of their life.

To be honest, I’ve never in my life had a broken bone. I was a rough kid too. I used to climb everything including trees and not once did I fall out of one and break a bone.

Chances are high that your child will be ok. The absolute worst will most likely never happen.

Ease Your Mom Anxiety

No matter how many people tell you your child will most likely be ok you will still fear the worst. So ease that anxiety by checking and double checking.

Ease that anxiety by using gates and drawer stoppers on the sharp knife drawer. When you are laying in bed and you suddenly can’t remember if you blocked off the front or back door get up and go check them.

It’s ok to ease the anxiety you are feeling by listening to your child breathe in the middle of the night. It’s ok to ease the anxiety by making your home as safe as you can. It’s ok to ease your anxiety by checking and double checking for your child’s safety.

Take Care of You

Let’s face it anxiety can make you feel physically ill. The effects of anxiety can get extremely severe. Additionally, as mom’s we get worn down and feel exhausted most days. There are a few things we can do to help with anxiety levels.

Skip the caffeine. Ok not completely, cause let’s face it coffee is life. However, after you have your coffee in the morning stick to water for the rest of the day. Too much caffeine can exasperate your feelings of anxiety. Water will keep you hydrated which your body will really appreciate.

Get some exercise. Practice yoga in your living room. Go for a walk. Or have a dance party with your toddler. Exercise gets your heart rate up, releases endorphins, and goes a long way to helping calm your mind as you focus on the movement.

Get creative. Color with your kid, paint, crochet or knit, or any other creative hobby. Being creative helps to ease anxiety and depression. It clears the mind and gives you a sense of accomplishment.

Final Thoughts

Mom anxiety sucks. You can’t just stop it because it’s how our brains are wired. So we do the best we can in order to ease that anxiety. We try our hardest to calm ourselves so we aren’t getting on the nerves of those close to us.

Reality is our children will be ok, most likely. Our brains don’t see it that way. So we do what we need to do to keep ourselves calm. We need patience from our family and probably a bit of understanding and validation.

If you know someone who is going has Mom anxiety, listen to them. Don’t blow off their concerns. Validate their concerns, figure out a way to help them feel more secure, finally help them feel secure.

Check out my post on What I Would Do Differently With A Second Child.

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I’m a 30-something, coffee addicted, first time mom, who enjoys an occasional glass of wine and is learning to not give a “4-letter-F-word” about what other people think. I’m here to help other parents stop holding themselves to society’s insane parenting standards.This blog is a fun place where you can enjoy all sorts of different things – recipes, tips & tricks, and more! Sarcasm, witty comments, rants, and swear words are frequently enjoyed here. So grab a cup of coffee, or perhaps a glass of wine, and make yourself comfortable.

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I’m a 30-something, coffee addicted, first time mom, who enjoys an occasional glass of wine and is learning to not give a "4-letter-F-word" about what other people think. I’m here to help other parents stop holding themselves to society's insane parenting standards.

This blog is a fun place where you can enjoy all sorts of different things - recipes, tips & tricks, and more! Sarcasm, witty comments, rants, and swear words are frequently enjoyed here. So grab a cup of coffee, or perhaps a glass of wine, and make yourself comfortable.

Be sure to subscribe to get weekly updates of my blog posts as well as exclusive subscriber-only content.