Feels like I don't know how to raise my dd

Have you ever had someone make you feel like you don't know how to raise your child? I think I'm pretty strict with my dd. I try not to let her control the household. I also try to keep my dd from getting frustrated and blowing up. Until a few days ago, I thought I was doing "the right thing." a family friend saw that I wanted to change my dds diaper and didn't grab her right away. I let her play until I see the opportunity to change her, otherwise she wiggles and gets upset. She said, "you're the adult.". I looked at her and grabbed my dd. I wanted to scream. My blood was boiling!!! I think she realized that she made me angry and tried to correct it. I guess some people don't know how to censor what they say. Sorry for the long post. I just feel like I don't know what I'm doing.

Have you ever had someone make you feel like you don't know how to raise your child? I think I'm pretty strict with my dd. I try not to let her control the household. I also try to keep my dd from getting frustrated and blowing up. Until a few days ago, I thought I was doing "the right thing." a family friend saw that I wanted to change my dds diaper and didn't grab her right away. I let her play until I see the opportunity to change her, otherwise she wiggles and gets upset. She said, "you're the adult.". I looked at her and grabbed my dd. I wanted to scream. My blood was boiling!!! I think she realized that she made me angry and tried to correct it. I guess some people don't know how to censor what they say. Sorry for the long post. I just feel like I don't know what I'm doing.

I think all moms feel like they don't know what they are doing, I know I sure do! But I do know that there is no one else that knows my little girl better than I do, I'm sure that's true for you and your DD as well! I think that's the most important thing to keep in mind, we do what works best for our family and no one knows what that is better than you do! I know it's frustrating having your parenting skills criticized, but try not to let it get to you! Just trust your instincts!

I think all moms feel like they don't know what they are doing, I know I sure do! But I do know that there is no one else that knows my little girl better than I do, I'm sure that's true for you and your DD as well! I think that's the most important thing to keep in mind, we do what works best for our family and no one knows what that is better than you do! I know it's frustrating having your parenting skills criticized, but try not to let it get to you! Just trust your instincts!

Wow, I would have said something like you're right, I am the adult and thankfully, that makes me capable of making my own choices. If you were her parent, then you could make the choice but you're not, I am.

Wow, I would have said something like you're right, I am the adult and thankfully, that makes me capable of making my own choices. If you were her parent, then you could make the choice but you're not, I am.

She probably meant to be helpful but just doesn't know the meaning of tact!!! You know your dd best, so before you punch someone out (haha) try to take criticisms like that like water off a ducks back. I find counting to ten helps alot...and maybe a kick boxing class! My MIL does that soooooo well so biting my tongue til it bleeds works well...definitely not alone with MIL's...lol! I always like using, "Thanks for sharing, I'll keep that in mind". Seems to clearly make a point to those who find it hard to mind their own biz!!

She probably meant to be helpful but just doesn't know the meaning of tact!!! You know your dd best, so before you punch someone out (haha) try to take criticisms like that like water off a ducks back. I find counting to ten helps alot...and maybe a kick boxing class! My MIL does that soooooo well so biting my tongue til it bleeds works well...definitely not alone with MIL's...lol! I always like using, "Thanks for sharing, I'll keep that in mind". Seems to clearly make a point to those who find it hard to mind their own biz!!

You remind me of my mom and I am more like your friend. My mom waits till Alana will let her change her and she does it with Alana standing up even so Alana doesn't fuss. I get her and make lay down which upsets her at first but then she puts her thumb in her mouth and is fine. I don't think either one is right or wrong, good or bad. It probably just shows that you are very patient and laid back like my mother. And your friend is probably type a like me. Both types have strengths and weaknesses I think and you can probably both learn from each other including her. Next time tell her to calm down it's only a diaper change. If you are anything else like my mom then I'm sure you are doing a wonderful job and needn't worry! Your patience makes you a wonderful mother and person.

You remind me of my mom and I am more like your friend. My mom waits till Alana will let her change her and she does it with Alana standing up even so Alana doesn't fuss. I get her and make lay down which upsets her at first but then she puts her thumb in her mouth and is fine. I don't think either one is right or wrong, good or bad. It probably just shows that you are very patient and laid back like my mother. And your friend is probably type a like me. Both types have strengths and weaknesses I think and you can probably both learn from each other including her. Next time tell her to calm down it's only a diaper change. If you are anything else like my mom then I'm sure you are doing a wonderful job and needn't worry! Your patience makes you a wonderful mother and person.

Oh my, you have joined the "you are an amateur" group. I think all mother's get this from other women. I get it from my MIL and my sister. My MIL, will make comments like "I would never let my kids play in the dirt", "my kids NEVER fought over toys" "if you let her play with that, you're sending the wrong message"....and this was all from 1 visit!

My sister tries to take over when we visit her. I put Colin in time-out, and as I am timing it (1 min per the age of the child), she goes in and takes him out of time-out, tells me, "time-out doesn't work for him, it only calms him down, but he learns nothing"

There are many many many more examples, but, I have learned that I know my kids, I know what works and what doesn't. When they don't throw a tantrum in public, and they actually respect what I say, I know I have done a good job so far as far as discipline and teaching them who the boss is

Also, I wait until I know it is the right time to change my LO too...diaper changing is never an easy task, which is why they make slip on's (which are harder, I think) but you are not alone....even the best kids HATE having their diaper changed.

Oh my, you have joined the "you are an amateur" group. I think all mother's get this from other women. I get it from my MIL and my sister. My MIL, will make comments like "I would never let my kids play in the dirt", "my kids NEVER fought over toys" "if you let her play with that, you're sending the wrong message"....and this was all from 1 visit!

My sister tries to take over when we visit her. I put Colin in time-out, and as I am timing it (1 min per the age of the child), she goes in and takes him out of time-out, tells me, "time-out doesn't work for him, it only calms him down, but he learns nothing"

There are many many many more examples, but, I have learned that I know my kids, I know what works and what doesn't. When they don't throw a tantrum in public, and they actually respect what I say, I know I have done a good job so far as far as discipline and teaching them who the boss is

Also, I wait until I know it is the right time to change my LO too...diaper changing is never an easy task, which is why they make slip on's (which are harder, I think) but you are not alone....even the best kids HATE having their diaper changed.

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