Whatever you decide, keep in check with your doctor. I miscarried twins. I found at I was carrying two at 6 weeks. At 8 weeks I went in for a 2nd ultrasound and one had died and vanished. At 12 weeks I went to the ER for spotting. They did an ultrasound to make sure the second baby was ok, and it turned out the 2nd had died just a couple days after my 8 week appt. It had been 4 weeks since the 2nd miscarriage, and I never passed it. They had done an internal check, and I had a tight closed cervix and had minimal blood, so the only reason they even did the ultrasound was because I begged them.

Personally, I don't think I could handle the emotional impact of miscarrying naturally. I would not like to play the waiting game, I would not want to see the fteus when it finally does pass (at 12 weeks, it would be small, but it wouldn't be like having a period) and the doctor still has to check to make sure that everything actually comes out, so a D&C could still be needed.

My D&C was very quick and easy. I had some cramping for a few days, and I was tired. I bled for 4 weeks pretty heavily. But it was nothing extreme.

I am so so so sorry. :(

Whatever you decide, keep in check with your doctor. I miscarried twins. I found at I was carrying two at 6 weeks. At 8 weeks I went in for a 2nd ultrasound and one had died and vanished. At 12 weeks I went to the ER for spotting. They did an ultrasound to make sure the second baby was ok, and it turned out the 2nd had died just a couple days after my 8 week appt. It had been 4 weeks since the 2nd miscarriage, and I never passed it. They had done an internal check, and I had a tight closed cervix and had minimal blood, so the only reason they even did the ultrasound was because I begged them.

Personally, I don't think I could handle the emotional impact of miscarrying naturally. I would not like to play the waiting game, I would not want to see the fteus when it finally does pass (at 12 weeks, it would be small, but it wouldn't be like having a period) and the doctor still has to check to make sure that everything actually comes out, so a D&C could still be needed.

My D&C was very quick and easy. I had some cramping for a few days, and I was tired. I bled for 4 weeks pretty heavily. But it was nothing extreme.

First, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. It sucks. I found some comfort during and after my miscarriage in the fact that I had already had a healthy baby. That helped me to believe it was just a problem with the DNA mix and not my body.

I miscarried naturally at the end of July. Mine was a blighted ovum so they never could see a baby, just the sack on ultrasounds. My doctor told me she would give me two weeks to miscarry naturally once we confirmed that the pregnancy was over. I figured that, in general, your body knows what to do and I'd rather not have an invasive proceedure if I didn't have too.

I spotted lightly for a couple of days before I actually miscarried and then overnight on a Saturday night was basically in labor for the whole night and bleed heavy clots for 4-6 hours. DH checked on me a couple of times but I pretty much just stayed on the toilet or laying on the bathroom floor. It was like labor in that I would need to push and had heavy cramping but it was much less painful physically than actually giving birth had been with DD. I bleed like a heavy period for the whole next day and passed additional clots the following evening. I had very light spotting for about 1.5 weeks after the miscarriage.

My doctor told me to wait 2 cycles or 2 months before trying again. My body listened to her even though I didn't. I wasn't ready emotionally for sex until almost a month after my miscarriage but we didn't do anything to prevent another pregnancy. I miscarried at the end of July, had a cycle in both August and September, kept up with my training and ran a half marathon in the middle of October and got a BFP on October 30th. I'm due with DS in early July.

Also, I nursed DD through all of this until she gave up in early March because my supply was gone. She did stop taking bottles at 12 months while I was waiting for the miscarriage to occur but she never stopped nursing.

I hope you find peace soon with whichever option you choose.

First, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. It sucks. I found some comfort during and after my miscarriage in the fact that I had already had a healthy baby. That helped me to believe it was just a problem with the DNA mix and not my body.

I miscarried naturally at the end of July. Mine was a blighted ovum so they never could see a baby, just the sack on ultrasounds. My doctor told me she would give me two weeks to miscarry naturally once we confirmed that the pregnancy was over. I figured that, in general, your body knows what to do and I'd rather not have an invasive proceedure if I didn't have too.

I spotted lightly for a couple of days before I actually miscarried and then overnight on a Saturday night was basically in labor for the whole night and bleed heavy clots for 4-6 hours. DH checked on me a couple of times but I pretty much just stayed on the toilet or laying on the bathroom floor. It was like labor in that I would need to push and had heavy cramping but it was much less painful physically than actually giving birth had been with DD. I bleed like a heavy period for the whole next day and passed additional clots the following evening. I had very light spotting for about 1.5 weeks after the miscarriage.

My doctor told me to wait 2 cycles or 2 months before trying again. My body listened to her even though I didn't. I wasn't ready emotionally for sex until almost a month after my miscarriage but we didn't do anything to prevent another pregnancy. I miscarried at the end of July, had a cycle in both August and September, kept up with my training and ran a half marathon in the middle of October and got a BFP on October 30th. I'm due with DS in early July.

Also, I nursed DD through all of this until she gave up in early March because my supply was gone. She did stop taking bottles at 12 months while I was waiting for the miscarriage to occur but she never stopped nursing.

There is a woman on my home board aug 2010 they told her that her baby was gone and wanted to do a d&c and three weeks later she still hadn't miscarried and the dr then found a heart beat and she now has a beautiful daughter. For this reason alone I would wait it out not to give you false hope or anything but drs aren't ALWAYS right....so I'd wait a few weeks to see what my body did then decided after another check of things.

There is a woman on my home board aug 2010 they told her that her baby was gone and wanted to do a d&c and three weeks later she still hadn't miscarried and the dr then found a heart beat and she now has a beautiful daughter. For this reason alone I would wait it out not to give you false hope or anything but drs aren't ALWAYS right....so I'd wait a few weeks to see what my body did then decided after another check of things.

I know what you mean about seeing the baby. On the ultrasound, it measured 10w 4d, so I know it will look like a tiny baby when it passes. I don't know why, but I can't stop thinking about it falling into the toilet. I don't think I can flush my baby...but I don't know any good way to handle it. Maybe I could wrap it in a little cloth and bury it next to my lilac bush or something...I don't know.

I know what you mean about seeing the baby. On the ultrasound, it measured 10w 4d, so I know it will look like a tiny baby when it passes. I don't know why, but I can't stop thinking about it falling into the toilet. I don't think I can flush my baby...but I don't know any good way to handle it. Maybe I could wrap it in a little cloth and bury it next to my lilac bush or something...I don't know.

I definitely find my son to be a huge comfort. I know my husband and I are both perfectly healthy and able to carry a healthy baby to term without issue. I'm 100% positive that there was just something wrong with this baby that didn't let it survive. Given the timing, I'm kinda wondering if something was wrong organ-wise and things just were forming and developing in a way that would function. Who knows, though.Â

I know my husband was very concerned about what this would mean for future children, but I assured him that it meant nothing as far as future children, it's just something that happened to this one.Â

Thank you for sharing your experience in such detail. Knowing what it was like for you gives me some idea what it might be like for me. I feel like not knowing what to expect or when to expect it is the hardest part and either option is a big blank abyss for me right now since I've never gone through this before.Â

I definitely find my son to be a huge comfort. I know my husband and I are both perfectly healthy and able to carry a healthy baby to term without issue. I'm 100% positive that there was just something wrong with this baby that didn't let it survive. Given the timing, I'm kinda wondering if something was wrong organ-wise and things just were forming and developing in a way that would function. Who knows, though.Â

I know my husband was very concerned about what this would mean for future children, but I assured him that it meant nothing as far as future children, it's just something that happened to this one.Â

Thank you for sharing your experience in such detail. Knowing what it was like for you gives me some idea what it might be like for me. I feel like not knowing what to expect or when to expect it is the hardest part and either option is a big blank abyss for me right now since I've never gone through this before.Â

Thank you. That was one reason I was hesitant about the D&C idea...however, my doctor was VERY thorough. When he couldn't find it on the doppler (and he spent a good 5 minutes or more searching), he took me over to ultrasound and did an abdominal ultrasound. He, again, took a lot of time looking around, but could not find any flicker of a heartbeat. He tried to stimulate it to move by tapping my belly with the wand and it just floated with no response. Then he did a vaginal ultrasound to make sure it wasn't just the angle or positioning. And he tried stimulating it to move again and it still just floated. I'm quite sure that my baby is truly gone. BUT, I think if I do end up calling to schedule a D&C, I'm going to request one last ultrasound so I can feel 200% sure that there was NO mistake.Â

Thank you. That was one reason I was hesitant about the D&C idea...however, my doctor was VERY thorough. When he couldn't find it on the doppler (and he spent a good 5 minutes or more searching), he took me over to ultrasound and did an abdominal ultrasound. He, again, took a lot of time looking around, but could not find any flicker of a heartbeat. He tried to stimulate it to move by tapping my belly with the wand and it just floated with no response. Then he did a vaginal ultrasound to make sure it wasn't just the angle or positioning. And he tried stimulating it to move again and it still just floated. I'm quite sure that my baby is truly gone. BUT, I think if I do end up calling to schedule a D&C, I'm going to request one last ultrasound so I can feel 200% sure that there was NO mistake.Â

For whatever it's worth coming from a total stranger on the internet, I'm sorry you had to make such a tough decision and I hope your recovery (physical, emotional and spiritual) goes as well as it can given the circumstances. Best wishes.

For whatever it's worth coming from a total stranger on the internet, I'm sorry you had to make such a tough decision and I hope your recovery (physical, emotional and spiritual) goes as well as it can given the circumstances. Best wishes.

I think you are being incredibly strong and are obviously an amazing mother who will have many children in her lifetime I think you doing your very beat with a not so great situation I hope things go as well as they can in this situation.

I think you are being incredibly strong and are obviously an amazing mother who will have many children in her lifetime I think you doing your very beat with a not so great situation I hope things go as well as they can in this situation.

I too had a true blighted ovum last spring, meaning just a sac and no baby whatsoever. I waited a few weeks to see what would happen but with nothing happening naturally and Due to not wanting to start miscarrying on the job site, because once im at work i can't leave, I opted to take a drug that was supposed to get things moving. Within 2 hours of taking it I was in full on labour. The only option I had at that point to stop the pain was to be put out and have a D&C. If it ever happens to me again I'm opting for the D&C right away and the dr. suspects that my physical recovery time was really long (6 weeks) due to the stress my body was put into so quickly.

I too had a true blighted ovum last spring, meaning just a sac and no baby whatsoever. I waited a few weeks to see what would happen but with nothing happening naturally and Due to not wanting to start miscarrying on the job site, because once im at work i can't leave, I opted to take a drug that was supposed to get things moving. Within 2 hours of taking it I was in full on labour. The only option I had at that point to stop the pain was to be put out and have a D&C. If it ever happens to me again I'm opting for the D&C right away and the dr. suspects that my physical recovery time was really long (6 weeks) due to the stress my body was put into so quickly.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a very similar experience exactly a year ago, went in for my 12 week appointment, and found that the baby had stopped growing a week and a half earlier.

My Dr. told me I had to have a D&C even though I really didn't want one. Luckiy it couldn't be scheduled for a few days.Â

I went a massage therapist after I found out that the baby had died, told him what had happened, and he gave me a massage which focused on the areas that stimulate labor. Within 10 hours I lost my mucus plug, my water broke, and I delivered our tiny baby at home.

My Dr. was horrified when I told her about it and brought our baby in. She kept saying how sorry she was that I had to see it and that she hadn't been able to do the D&C in time to "save" me from the experience.Â

I honestly am sooo thankful that I miscarried at home. We named our baby Michael and burried him in a cigar box under a lilac tree in our back yard. It was almost a spiritual experience miscarrying him at home like that. As weird as this sounds, I'd describe it as beautiful.Â

I bled heavily for just a few days, but had spotting for close to a month. After my miscarriage, my cycles, which had been crazy, became very regular. We conceived again in early Nov. I'm now 22 weeks along with Michael's little brother. :-)

Thank you for sharing. I'm considering burying our baby and planting a tree or flower with it. As time goes on, I'm feeling more at peace with my original decision to wait and miscarry on my own. Hearing everyone else's experiences is really helpful.

Thank you for sharing. I'm considering burying our baby and planting a tree or flower with it. As time goes on, I'm feeling more at peace with my original decision to wait and miscarry on my own. Hearing everyone else's experiences is really helpful.

Wow everyone I've never experienced this but have learned so much from your posts! Thank you for sharing. lilac, Good luck and I'm sending good thoughts your way. I'm gunna go cuddle my little man now. *teary*

Wow everyone I've never experienced this but have learned so much from your posts! Thank you for sharing. lilac, Good luck and I'm sending good thoughts your way. I'm gunna go cuddle my little man now. *teary*

With my miscarriage, I elected to go with "expectant management", or doing it natrually. My doctor told me what to expect and that it would probably happen within the next couple of days. He said to come back in three weeks for a check-up, if my body hadn't flushed everything out, we would do a D&C. Early the next morning I began to experience severe cramping. When I went to the bathroom, I could tell the process had begun. Even if I would have scheduled a D&C, I would never had made it. I will say it was a painful process, I'm not sure what a D&C is like, but I would do it that way again. I stayed in the bathroom most of the day, but after that, I felt okay. However, a few days later, I experienced more severe cramps and passed more "stuff". This is the point I broke down, because I didn't know how much more I would have to endure. Essentially, you are having actualy labor pains. I never really had labor pains with my child due to a c-section, so I can't rate the pain. After sitting on the toilet for a couple hours, with a heating back, it finally came to an end. I am very sorry you are having to go through this, and I only wish you the best. I will keep you in my prayers.

With my miscarriage, I elected to go with "expectant management", or doing it natrually. My doctor told me what to expect and that it would probably happen within the next couple of days. He said to come back in three weeks for a check-up, if my body hadn't flushed everything out, we would do a D&C. Early the next morning I began to experience severe cramping. When I went to the bathroom, I could tell the process had begun. Even if I would have scheduled a D&C, I would never had made it. I will say it was a painful process, I'm not sure what a D&C is like, but I would do it that way again. I stayed in the bathroom most of the day, but after that, I felt okay. However, a few days later, I experienced more severe cramps and passed more "stuff". This is the point I broke down, because I didn't know how much more I would have to endure. Essentially, you are having actualy labor pains. I never really had labor pains with my child due to a c-section, so I can't rate the pain. After sitting on the toilet for a couple hours, with a heating back, it finally came to an end. I am very sorry you are having to go through this, and I only wish you the best. I will keep you in my prayers.

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. Secondly, the rest of this might be a bit graphic or hard for you to read, so know that going in. :(

I didn't face the dilema that you did. I wasn't as far along and miscarried on my own. My midwife told me to keep the appointment that I had scheduled (it was supposed to be my first check up) and she would check things then. I kept that appointment and went back a few weeks later and they checked to make sure that everything was out. I did not need a D & C. I told you that to tell you this: miscarrying naturally is painful. It felt like a milder version of labor. It was far worse than just "getting your period," which is what some people told me to expect.

Later, I did feel horrible about "flushing my baby" as it came out in the toilet. I wasn't far enough along to know which of the clots was the baby, but I have a pretty good idea, simply because the cramps and pain lessened after one clot passes. If I could do it over again, I would have buried the baby outside or did some kind of ceremony or something on my own so I could feel some more closure. I know that may sound really weird to some people, but that baby was a person to me and it felt so wrong ending things like that. At the time, I didn't know what else to do.

With her miscarriages (she had 5) my SIL handled it a couple of different ways and getting a D&C worked best for her and her husband emotionally. Every person is different. I would just recommend doing something for you to remember the baby by that will help you gain some closure and deal with your grief.

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss. Secondly, the rest of this might be a bit graphic or hard for you to read, so know that going in. :(

I didn't face the dilema that you did. I wasn't as far along and miscarried on my own. My midwife told me to keep the appointment that I had scheduled (it was supposed to be my first check up) and she would check things then. I kept that appointment and went back a few weeks later and they checked to make sure that everything was out. I did not need a D & C. I told you that to tell you this: miscarrying naturally is painful. It felt like a milder version of labor. It was far worse than just "getting your period," which is what some people told me to expect.

Later, I did feel horrible about "flushing my baby" as it came out in the toilet. I wasn't far enough along to know which of the clots was the baby, but I have a pretty good idea, simply because the cramps and pain lessened after one clot passes. If I could do it over again, I would have buried the baby outside or did some kind of ceremony or something on my own so I could feel some more closure. I know that may sound really weird to some people, but that baby was a person to me and it felt so wrong ending things like that. At the time, I didn't know what else to do.

With her miscarriages (she had 5) my SIL handled it a couple of different ways and getting a D&C worked best for her and her husband emotionally. Every person is different. I would just recommend doing something for you to remember the baby by that will help you gain some closure and deal with your grief.

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers during this difficult time. I feel the choice to wait it out or have the d&C us very personal and there is no right answer. When I lost my first baby at a little over 12 weeks along I went with the d&C. I had been have contractions for a few hours while waiting for a doctor to confirm my loss and my cervix had done nothing, I also just wanted that part to be over, for me I felt that as long as the baby was with me I was still pregnant and I knew I would havea hard time grieving if I waited. I had a d&C the next day. With my second m/c I had a blighted ovum so technically there was never a baby I was 7 1/2 weeks along at that point and decided to wait a few days to watch my numbers just incase we were off on the dates some how once we saw how fast they were falling I decided to have the d&C again becasue I just wanted that part over again and really it didn't hurt to bad the first time and I didn't bleed for very long after wards. My hospital was very nice and caring during it all and even have a plot at a local cemetary wereyou can have your lo buried, which I had done with both of them. I guess for me I think I had a fear of the uknown and I hated the thought of waiting and wondering if today would be the day I finally passed the baby and I don't think I could have just flushed them if it happen in the bathroom. Like I said I didn't have much pain and they gave me plenty of pain pills if needed. I was mentally hurting more then physically. I hope you find some peace in whatever choice you make. Again I am so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers during this difficult time. I feel the choice to wait it out or have the d&C us very personal and there is no right answer. When I lost my first baby at a little over 12 weeks along I went with the d&C. I had been have contractions for a few hours while waiting for a doctor to confirm my loss and my cervix had done nothing, I also just wanted that part to be over, for me I felt that as long as the baby was with me I was still pregnant and I knew I would havea hard time grieving if I waited. I had a d&C the next day. With my second m/c I had a blighted ovum so technically there was never a baby I was 7 1/2 weeks along at that point and decided to wait a few days to watch my numbers just incase we were off on the dates some how once we saw how fast they were falling I decided to have the d&C again becasue I just wanted that part over again and really it didn't hurt to bad the first time and I didn't bleed for very long after wards. My hospital was very nice and caring during it all and even have a plot at a local cemetary wereyou can have your lo buried, which I had done with both of them. I guess for me I think I had a fear of the uknown and I hated the thought of waiting and wondering if today would be the day I finally passed the baby and I don't think I could have just flushed them if it happen in the bathroom. Like I said I didn't have much pain and they gave me plenty of pain pills if needed. I was mentally hurting more then physically. I hope you find some peace in whatever choice you make. Again I am so sorry for your loss.

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