I have had a couple of gentlemen message me, as though our communication, made their days. Then, poof! They stop. I don't continue to message, assuming they're, "Just not that into me" but I'd like to understand. What causes lighthearted banter to stop, with no apparent reason?

I have had a couple of gentlemen message me, as though our communication, made their days. Then, poof! They stop. I don't continue to message, assuming they're, "Just not that into me" but I'd like to understand. What causes lighthearted banter to stop, with no apparent reason?

Ahhh, men! I have handled online dating several different ways over the years. First go around, I had no clue what I was doing, and I let some scammer sweet talk me for a while. But I'm a pretty smart lady, and caught on to the inconsistencies in his stories, running him 'round in circles for a while before deciding I had enough of playing a game with him. I found a few nice guys after that, sticking to local men. Mostly, at the time, I really just wanted to date once in a while. So that was easy to do, if I could avoid the handsy, one-night-standers. Found one man that go-around who turned out to be a friend for life. After a while, I didn't care to go out quite so often and switched up my online profiles to simply offer online chatting and friendship, no sex talk and no strings attached. That turned out to be my favorite dating-site experiment. What great conversations with some of the nicest men and women!

But, sorry to say, even those fell by the wayside after a while. I think that many people are really just trying to fill voids, and chatting with someone online can fill that for a while, and then you have to make a decision as to whether this is heading somewhere or just wasting time. And if you have more than one stringing along, somebody ends up getting preferential treatment.

What I can say is this--gentlemen, please just extend a common courtesy by saying that you are taking a break from writing for a while. We won't expect you back, and will be delighted if you do show up again in our feeds.

Ahhh, men! I have handled online dating several different ways over the years. First go around, I had no clue what I was doing, and I let some scammer sweet talk me for a while. But I'm a pretty smart lady, and caught on to the inconsistencies in his stories, running him 'round in circles for a while before deciding I had enough of playing a game with him. I found a few nice guys after that, sticking to local men. Mostly, at the time, I really just wanted to date once in a while. So that was easy to do, if I could avoid the handsy, one-night-standers. Found one man that go-around who turned out to be a friend for life. After a while, I didn't care to go out quite so often and switched up my online profiles to simply offer online chatting and friendship, no sex talk and no strings attached. That turned out to be my favorite dating-site experiment. What great conversations with some of the nicest men and women!

But, sorry to say, even those fell by the wayside after a while. I think that many people are really just trying to fill voids, and chatting with someone online can fill that for a while, and then you have to make a decision as to whether this is heading somewhere or just wasting time. And if you have more than one stringing along, somebody ends up getting preferential treatment.

What I can say is this--gentlemen, please just extend a common courtesy by saying that you are taking a break from writing for a while. We won't expect you back, and will be delighted if you do show up again in our feeds.

LADIES-- You know I love you all!! Please WELCOME our new comer and encourage her to

"stay-- and not stray!!"

KAREN-

I see you are "Spiritual, but not religious," which could cover a multitude of things..

Know that we have agnostics, atheist, and Christians all around here who are ACCEPTING, GRACIOUS and LOVING and just HAVE FUN, SHARE EXPERIENCES AND INSIGHTS WITH ONE ANOTHER and BOND---- ... and should our "Prince charming" ever arrive on the scene???

Well, We have lotsa ladies to tie him down for us til we come for the kill! :)

So don't be discouraged over 1 lousy fella who wouldn't have had the composure to make your world rock anyhow...

I mean- Just WHERE is our DELIGHTFUL DIANE000 who authored this post anyway?

She was talking about men not messaging back-- but obviously SOMEONE musta messaged back--

CUZ WHERE IS SHE!!

BWAHAHAHAHA! ;)

Now pardon me folks--

I've been hopped up in NYQUIL for 5 days and 6 nights now.. and between that-- and all the alcohol-- OOPS!!

Well, Let's just say---

I might not be making a licka sense these days!

OH! What's that? NORMALCY for me?

Hmmmm... I might resemble that remark!! ;)

KAREN!! Do NOT tell me you have ALREADY been met with the "SCAM!!" ---

Don't say I didn't warn you girl!!

Now quit making yourself so scarce! No one knows who you are if you keep hitting... "post and then delete!" HEEHEE~~

Now EVERYONE--

This Pretty New Lady before you is KAREN--- New to the site--- and YES has ALREADY met a "meanie!!" --

She is just a wee bit discouraged now... And additionally, is a bit on the "shy" side...

LADIES-- You know I love you all!! Please WELCOME our new comer and encourage her to

"stay-- and not stray!!"

KAREN-

I see you are "Spiritual, but not religious," which could cover a multitude of things..

Know that we have agnostics, atheist, and Christians all around here who are ACCEPTING, GRACIOUS and LOVING and just HAVE FUN, SHARE EXPERIENCES AND INSIGHTS WITH ONE ANOTHER and BOND---- ... and should our "Prince charming" ever arrive on the scene???

Well, We have lotsa ladies to tie him down for us til we come for the kill! :)

So don't be discouraged over 1 lousy fella who wouldn't have had the composure to make your world rock anyhow...

I mean- Just WHERE is our DELIGHTFUL DIANE000 who authored this post anyway?

She was talking about men not messaging back-- but obviously SOMEONE musta messaged back--

CUZ WHERE IS SHE!!

BWAHAHAHAHA! ;)

Now pardon me folks--

I've been hopped up in NYQUIL for 5 days and 6 nights now.. and between that-- and all the alcohol-- OOPS!!

Thanks Liv! I don't censor. I did not remove any posts. Hope your weekend is perfection itself!
DI

Quoting Livnlov:

Diane000,

I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.

BTW, your new photograph is vibrant and vivacious! Lovely.

Liv.

Quoting Livnlov:

Diane000,

I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.

BTW, your new photograph is vibrant and vivacious! Lovely.

Liv.

Thanks Liv! I don't censor. I did not remove any posts. Hope your weekend is perfection itself! DI

OH DELIGHTFUL DIANE!! I wish I could head that way!! Wouldn't that be a riot!

So you are a cocoa w/ little mellows fan? OMG! I knew we held a larger connection than just "fun party gals!!" I wish I had known you when I was recently in NOLA! LOL... I've met several internet buddies in person, a couple off this site even.

I enjoy different types of cocoa every night I am not drinking my wine... which means at least 6 nights a year! Bwahahahahaha! No seriously, I have different types as well.. Ghiardelli makes some awesme cocao. I got some recently as a gift.. Some "White Mocha" and "Double Chocolate"... I buy my "Campfire" mellows 2 bags at a time! :)))

I bought the Swiss Miss with the colored mellows.. but those dry mellows just ain't the same!! :)

You people don't believe a Princess is having a love affair with chocolate?? Hmmm....

~~~~HAVE A GREAT WEEK MY LADY~~~~~

Quoting diane000:

Hey Lynn!

It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early?

The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon!

DI

Quoting diane000:

Hey Lynn!

It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early?

The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon!

DI

OH DELIGHTFUL DIANE!! I wish I could head that way!! Wouldn't that be a riot!

So you are a cocoa w/ little mellows fan? OMG! I knew we held a larger connection than just "fun party gals!!" I wish I had known you when I was recently in NOLA! LOL... I've met several internet buddies in person, a couple off this site even.

I enjoy different types of cocoa every night I am not drinking my wine... which means at least 6 nights a year! Bwahahahahaha! No seriously, I have different types as well.. Ghiardelli makes some awesme cocao. I got some recently as a gift.. Some "White Mocha" and "Double Chocolate"... I buy my "Campfire" mellows 2 bags at a time! :)))

I bought the Swiss Miss with the colored mellows.. but those dry mellows just ain't the same!! :)

You people don't believe a Princess is having a love affair with chocolate?? Hmmm....

ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here.

Diane

Diane000,

I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.

BTW, your new photograph is vibrant and vivacious! Lovely.

Liv.

Quoting diane000:

ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here.

Diane

Diane000,

I note that someone had gone to the pain of removing my post which was neither offensive nor abusive, but just plain factual. However, I do see your quote of a response to my original post, but I have chosen to ignore this person's response. I am not one to bicker and I am sorry if I had led you or anyone else to believe such. This is where I end my comments on this matter.

It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early?

The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon!

DI

Hey Lynn!

It's Carnival in New Orleans. The weekend was as much fun as I wanted it to be. The first corndog of the season was yummy. I leave town for the last 2 weeks of "Super Gras" as we're calling it this year. Who bids on a Super Bowl, in a year Mardi Gras comes so early?

The cocoa with marshmallows sounds perfect. I am planning on drinking my weight in cocoa, loaded with little marshmallows, in Park City this week. Abercrombie lives near there so I'm hoping for some hang time with her. Sleepover with cocoa!!! If you can get away, c'mon!

This was not directed at one particular person. Life is hard enough. Let's be kind to one another.

Quoting diane000:

ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here.

Diane

Quoting diane000:

ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here.

Diane

This was not directed at one particular person. Life is hard enough. Let's be kind to one another.

In the cases I reffered to, they just involved friendly messages. One of the guys started writing again, a few days later. We are working on being friends. That's really how I saw both of them. That was the surprise. I wasn't particularly interested romantically. Thanks to you and the others who have responded, I have a little better understanding on how things work here. Some guys don't want to be buddies. Some fear that more is wanted than they have to give. In fact, fear and boredom seem to be recurrent themes.

Hope your Carnival season is rockin'!

Diane

Quoting Mtnsunny:

Diane000,

I thought I would help try to get this blog back on track, since I just recently went through this again with another gentleman.

I believe it's really easy for the emailing to go back and forth initially because your excited to share your world with them and they you. You have common ground most likely on some interests and getting to know someone new is generally fun.

Once a connection has been established, you know you like each other...encouraging to see each other, I think, can help keep that initial spark alive. Talking on the phone is great, but you still don't have that eye to eye, facial expressions to stir the desire within both of you, that's what keeps the relationship moving in a positive direction. Face it, were humans that need the physical attraction.

Nothing beats that feeling when your eyes meet for the first time, smiles shared, in the best scenarios..a spark happens between the two of you.

If you just email, don't you think you run out of things to say that keep ones interest? Day to day events are great to share when you have already established a connection mentally and physically.

It's too easy to keep moving on, if a deeper connection isn't created. If he is excited about the physical look along with the initial email attraction, I believe we have a better chance of a long term relationship building.

From now on, I'm going to be asking for those next steps..a call or skype, then setting up a date to greet one another. Hopefully, that next step will be initiated by the guy and not us.

Hoping love finds us or we find love,

Mtnsunny.

Quoting Mtnsunny:

Diane000,

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I thought I would help try to get this blog back on track, since I just recently went through this again with another gentleman.

I believe it's really easy for the emailing to go back and forth initially because your excited to share your world with them and they you. You have common ground most likely on some interests and getting to know someone new is generally fun.

Once a connection has been established, you know you like each other...encouraging to see each other, I think, can help keep that initial spark alive. Talking on the phone is great, but you still don't have that eye to eye, facial expressions to stir the desire within both of you, that's what keeps the relationship moving in a positive direction. Face it, were humans that need the physical attraction.

Nothing beats that feeling when your eyes meet for the first time, smiles shared, in the best scenarios..a spark happens between the two of you.

If you just email, don't you think you run out of things to say that keep ones interest? Day to day events are great to share when you have already established a connection mentally and physically.

It's too easy to keep moving on, if a deeper connection isn't created. If he is excited about the physical look along with the initial email attraction, I believe we have a better chance of a long term relationship building.

From now on, I'm going to be asking for those next steps..a call or skype, then setting up a date to greet one another. Hopefully, that next step will be initiated by the guy and not us.

Hoping love finds us or we find love,

Mtnsunny.

I agree Mtnsunny,

In the cases I reffered to, they just involved friendly messages. One of the guys started writing again, a few days later. We are working on being friends. That's really how I saw both of them. That was the surprise. I wasn't particularly interested romantically. Thanks to you and the others who have responded, I have a little better understanding on how things work here. Some guys don't want to be buddies. Some fear that more is wanted than they have to give. In fact, fear and boredom seem to be recurrent themes.

Mtnsunny. – I agree.I think too much time spent emailing, talking on the phone, and so on, and the spark, if there was one, dies.So, you wander off.

Mostly I think the emailing and phoning should be to set up a first meeting when and where.Once you see each other things will go on or not.Obviously safe public places should be used.Everyone drives themselves.All the common sense stuff.

One can even have trusted friends innocently happening to be in the same place if concerned.

RMac

Mtnsunny. – I agree.I think too much time spent emailing, talking on the phone, and so on, and the spark, if there was one, dies.So, you wander off.

Mostly I think the emailing and phoning should be to set up a first meeting when and where.Once you see each other things will go on or not.Obviously safe public places should be used.Everyone drives themselves.All the common sense stuff.

One can even have trusted friends innocently happening to be in the same place if concerned.

ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here.

ENOUGH!!! I had a little curiosity. People have kindly tried to explain. Thank you. We have signs all over New Orleans that say, "Be Nice or Leave!" Now anyone who wants to bicker, please do it elsewhere. I will refrain from blogging in the future. I'm sorry for any part I might have played in the animosity shown here.

Aren't you so funny? You are a cool lady, Diane! Yeah, I will like to go shopping with ya later. Speaking of shopping malls, this site is one big shopping mall with loads of window shopping going on, but very few actual transactions being done. LOL. It is an amusing place, believe me, Diane.

Liv.

Quoting Livnlov:

Hi Diane,

Aren't you so funny? You are a cool lady, Diane! Yeah, I will like to go shopping with ya later. Speaking of shopping malls, this site is one big shopping mall with loads of window shopping going on, but very few actual transactions being done. LOL. It is an amusing place, believe me, Diane.

You got me laughing my head off for the second time this evening! This guy sounds like a Nigerian or some African scammer to me, LOL! "So do you care for a Chat?" Yeah, right! But his English is so much better than others I have seen.

Hoping thinks he sounds like a poet.....LOL!

Liv.

Quoting Jenkneee:

The other reason would be they could have been scammers and decided to move on to a more vulnerable female.

I seem to be a magnet for scammers :( Here is my latest message from one, the first (and only) communication. I block them and usually report them. This scammer is so obvious, it's ridiculous! Btw, this was from someone on a different site.

Hello jenkneee, I'm sure you wouldn't mind me calling you "Queen"...LOL,Anyway that's the only words i could use to describe your beauty...And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel....Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.would really love to know you much more better. So do you care for a Chat?

As someone else already stated; don't take it personally :)

Quoting Jenkneee:

The other reason would be they could have been scammers and decided to move on to a more vulnerable female.

I seem to be a magnet for scammers :( Here is my latest message from one, the first (and only) communication. I block them and usually report them. This scammer is so obvious, it's ridiculous! Btw, this was from someone on a different site.

Hello jenkneee, I'm sure you wouldn't mind me calling you "Queen"...LOL,Anyway that's the only words i could use to describe your beauty...And i cant hold my tongue than to tell you how i feel....Amid the gloom and travail of existence suddenly to behold a beautiful being; and as instantaneously to feel an overwhelming conviction, that with that fair form, our destinies must be entwined, this is love and i believe it was fate to check your profile soon as i saw you i feel you were the one wish to talk and looking forward to know more about you.would really love to know you much more better. So do you care for a Chat?

As someone else already stated; don't take it personally :)

Jen,

You got me laughing my head off for the second time this evening! This guy sounds like a Nigerian or some African scammer to me, LOL! "So do you care for a Chat?" Yeah, right! But his English is so much better than others I have seen.