Tuesday, December 24, 2013

I recently received an email from a mother who just received a diagnosis of Autism for her son. She told me she didn’t have any support from her family but was trying to stay hopeful and was working hard to begin new therapies. I also received a letter from a mother of two boys with Autism. She told me about their struggles and that one of her boys was struggling and lived in a residential facility. The struggles of raising children often come and go, but raising children with special needs can be extremely overwhelming.

Our intense struggles with Justin from earlier this year have subsided and we are calmly riding our roller coaster ride of Autism—and we are well!! I love my family and for 6 out of 7 days, my life is adjusted in a way that I think we are pretty normal!! We are happy!! We adjust our goals often and try to stay focused on the positive. So why is it only 6 out of 7?? There is one day a week that always makes me feel like our family is not normal—and that is on Sundays. It is the one day a week I feel a divide in our family. At this point, Justin drops to the floor when we go into church, refusing to move until he bolts to the cultural hall to run around and stare at the lights. My other two toddlers run after him, or the other direction and very quickly we start to unravel at the seams!! It is in these moments, where I am trying so hard to stay positive that a voice in my head frantically says, “This isn’t working, there is no place for your family here—this is not normal.” I share this not as a complaint against any of the wonderful people in our church family—it is just the one day a week that I feel like my testimony of my family and my testimony of attending church meetings don’t correlate!!

I recently shared my feelings about this with my sister-in-law after I had gone to a church Christmas party. My husband stayed home with 3 out of our 4 kids and I had a great time saying hello to my friends who are like family to me. But as I watched beautifully made videos of families together at Christmas enjoying traditions—all I could think of is how different it is for my family. I came home to my sweet family and was reminded how much I adore them—with all our differences. But the next day I had to vent to my sister-in-law about my insecurities. She said, “Shannon, you love your family and are happy. Don’t get caught up in wanting a cookie cutter family—this is how your cookie has been cut, and it is wonderful.” I started laughing because she was so right!!

As all of us adjust our cookie cutter dreams and expectations may we realize how truly blessed we are just to be children of a Heavenly Father who loves us. He loved us enough to send his only begotten Son to die for our sins so that we can live again with Him.

My favorite talk about clinging to hope is by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, an Apostle in our Church. You may link to the whole talk here. He talks about faith and says:

When problems come and questions arise, do not start your quest for faith by saying how much you do not have, leading as it were with your “unbelief.” That is like trying to stuff a turkey through the beak! Let me be clear on this point: I am not asking you to pretend to faith you do not have. I am asking you to be true to the faith you do have. Sometimes we act as if an honest declaration of doubt is a higher manifestation of moral courage than is an honest declaration of faith. It is not! So let us all remember the clear message of this scriptural account: Be as candid about your questions as you need to be; life is full of them on one subject or another. But if you and your family want to be healed, don’t let those questions stand in the way of faith working its miracle.

I love my family, and I love my life and the opportunities I have to see beauty and joy in the smallest triumphs!! Watching my kids overcome trials is such a strength to me of the great courage and faith we all can draw upon to keep enduring and pursue our goals of happiness. I hope you all have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!! This picture is from 2 years ago—but it is one of my favorite pictures of my cookie cutter family!!

Hope you are all enjoying your Thanksgiving weekend!! I am running a special discount on my PDF quilt patterns from my ETSY shop. Just enter promo code GIVING2014 for $1.00 off making them only $7.o0!! Click here for the link to my Etsy shop…

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Hard to believe that just 5 months ago we were headed to an Autism specialist 17 hours away by car with only a thread of hope to hold on to. We were blessed to get a diagnosis of PANDAS, which we had never heard of before, and have been treating him ever since. And here’s a look at my little charmer now…

He is doing so well now. We aren’t having any head-banging, biting, or screaming fits like he was before. He is back to himself and doing so well in his ABA therapy.

We have been working on “Yes” and “No” with Justin and trying to get him to understand what they mean and use them appropriately. He has been saying them in answer to questions for a few months now but just in the last few weeks we started to notice that he was using them accurately almost all the time!! And he is answering “Yes” and “No” questions without us prompting him!!

And then about a week ago, we started to get spontaneous sentences from him. Just to be clear—he has said sentences with prompting before, or talked with his iPad, but he is now getting our attention and then requesting things with a full sentence—ON HIS OWN!!! My little man just started talking!! My husband was trying to put him to bed the other night and he walked past him to go downstairs and when asked where he was going, he stopped and said, “I GO DOWNSTAIRS!!” We couldn’t believe it!! And then the sweetest blessing came last night when he looked at my husband and said, “DAD-DY, I WANT PHONE PLEASE.” This was the first time he has said Daddy on his own!! There were tears—tears of great joy.

We have been waiting for this answer to prayer for 9 years!! Doctors said it wouldn’t ever come, and others said the costly ABA therapy wasn’t worth it. And after years of Speech therapy, ABA, and many tears—my son is able to talk to us. I am so grateful for the many people who have been put in our path to help Justin along his journey with Autism. Every single one of them has helped in some way to get him to where he is right now. And to the 5 angels who work on his ABA Team right now—Thank you for never giving up, giving us hope, and helping see this dream come true. To all our family and friends—thank you for your prayers, fasting, and endless words of encouragement.

If you are in a dark place, for whatever reason—hold on to that hope that things will get better. One of the leaders in my church spoke about this in theApril LDS General Conference 2013, Elder Dieter F. Uchtdorf said:

“Yes, from time to time our lives may seem to be touched by, or even wrapped in, darkness. Sometimes the night that surrounds us will appear oppressive, disheartening, and frightening.

My heart grieves for the many sorrows some of you face, for the painful loneliness and wearisome fears you may be experiencing.

Nevertheless, I bear witness that our living hope is in Christ Jesus! He is the true, pure, and powerful entrance to divine enlightenment.

I testify that with Christ, darkness cannot succeed. Darkness will not gain victory over the light of Christ.”

I know that is true. One of my favorite songs is Endless Nights from The Lion King. Simba sings it when he feels lost and overwhelmed by darkness and doesn’t know what to do. The lyrics of this song have echoed through me during many trials in my life…

Where has the starlight gone?Dark is the dayHow can I find my way home?

Home is an empty dreamLost to the nightFather, I feel so alone

You promised you'd be thereWhenever I needed youWhenever I call your nameYou're not anywhere

I'm trying to hold onJust waiting to hear your voiceOne word, just a word will doTo end this nightmare

When will the dawning breakOh endless nightSleepless I dream of the day

When you were by my sideGuiding my pathFather, I can't find the way

You promised you'd be thereWhenever I needed youWhenever I call your nameYou're not anywhere

I'm trying to hold onJust waiting to hear your voiceOne word, just a word will doTo end this nightmare

I know that the night must endAnd that the sun will riseAnd that the sun will rise

I know that the clouds must clearAnd that the sun will shineAnd that the sun will shineI knowYes, I knowThe sun will riseYes, I knowI knowThe clouds must clear

I know that the night must endI know that the sun will riseAnd I'll hear your voice deep inside

I know that the night must endAnd that the clouds must clearThe sunThe sun will riseThe sunThe sun will rise

I couldn’t help but think of this song today as Justin called me Mommy tonight. Yep, I asked him, “Who am I, Justin?” And after repeating me twice he smiled and said, “DADDY” and then doubled over laughing hysterically. He is even teasing us now!! I asked him again and he smiled and said “MOM-MY” and gave me a hug and a kiss goodnight.

Monday, October 21, 2013

I had been mulling several ideas around in my head about what to do with this wall in our new house(the Christmas picture from last year is the ONLY picture I could find—I have NOT put up Christmas yet…I am not THAT bad!)…

The huge plus is that the rock fireplace is awesome, and the white mantel is beautiful!! But the big downside is it just didn’t have enough of focal point for me on the wall when you walk in the room. It’s a super long room with great recessed lights and two windows on either side, but it was BORING! And the applesauce wall color?? Don’t get me started….that is not my idea of a good neutral color.

So I finally found a great paint color from Benjamin Moore called Ashley Gray—it was perfect. I wanted to do some kind of treatment to the wall that would extend to the ceiling to make the room feel taller. I finally settled on a board and batten type look and it turned out just like I wanted it too!! We painted the wall white first, and then added the boards and battens afterwards—filled the nail holes with putty, caulked the seams, and painted it white and VOILA….

So fun, and adds so much drama to the room for under $65 including the can of paint!! Here’s another view of the room…

The ceiling fan is next to go….but until then, I am just happy with the before and after transformation!!

We had so much fun on our trip, and relaxed!! It was heavenly. It reminded me how much I love my husband—and I love our crazy life together!! I was also reminded of how amazing my parents are…..they took all my kids, ALL of them to build-a-bear. TO THE MALL—that is just asking for trouble, I warned them!! And they ignored me and did it anyway, and it turned out great!! Their crazy courage and their attitude of never backing down from a challenge or hard work is why I love and admire them so much. And it spoke volumes how much they love us to sacrifice their time for us—I know it wasn’t a vacation for them!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

My husband and I rarely get to spend time alone with each other—we’re so busy finding babysitters, or not wanting to pay babysitters, making sure Justin and our kids are okay….we don’t go out on dates very often—let alone get-a-ways!

But after my husband accrued so many miles travelling last year, we are finally cashing them in and headed off for a vacation!!! And I am so excited…Thanks Mom and Dad for watching the kids!!!

Sunday, September 22, 2013

Our church has one Sunday a year where the kids are the focus of the congregation's main meeting, Sacrament meeting. It is called the Primary Program and it is always full of tender testimonies and beautiful children’s singing and a few spontaneous kid funnies. I have looked forward to this meeting every year, even when I was a kid!

Right after Justin got his diagnosis of Autism, when he was almost 4 years old, we moved to a new state in search of better services for him and a better lifestyle for our little family. I remember sitting close to the front row for the Primary Program that year, very excited to hear all the children….and then I looked at one of the mom’s faces as she smiled proudly as her son bravely walked to the pulpit in front of the congregation and said his part. Her tender smile was so touching and then my heart sank as I wondered what our future with Justin would hold, and whether he would ever be able to participate in the Primary Program….or any other things I had dreamed about. I sat for the rest of the meeting paralyzed with my worries and fears and with tears streaming down my face. I felt so scared and alone in our journey with Justin and Autism.

Now fast forward 6 years to today. This is not a story of full recovery from Autism or a miracle of Justin speaking spontaneously, but it is the sweetest miracle story I know!! It didn’t start out to be a good day, by any means. Justin woke up mad and had several meltdowns all morning. He tried to undo my husband's white church shirt which we thought was most certainly a sign that he wanted him to change his clothes and not go take him to church today!! We took all the kids to church anyway and Justin went in to the building, and promptly had a pretty severe meltdown. He started taking off his own clothes(we should have put him in more comfy clothes today—our bad!!) in the foyer and my husband and I looked at each other and agreed—the Primary Program wasn’t happening for him today, and that was okay!!

He had made it through two practices already. And I am always in awe at the spirit of love I can feel from all the kids in Primary and their leaders when Justin is around. At one of the practices, they waited for him to come in from the hallway and when he entered the room and walked up to the pulpit—there was complete silence. Not an awkward silence, but the silence of anticipation of something great. I felt like every kid was holding their breath and thinking, “You can do it Justin!” That triumphant, supportive spirit is something I know that Justin can feel. And my husband prompted him word for word through his part. And as soon as he finished, everyone sighed with a smile of pride—their Justin did it!!

Once we realized Justin wasn’t going to make it, my husband took him to the car to watch a movie while I stayed to hear my daughter. Justin had the first line of the program, and as the time got closer I decided to go to the car and see if he wanted to give it a try. My husband told me he had already tried to bring him back into the building, and he melted again!! I got his attention and asked him if he wanted to say his part in the microphone. He looked at me and said, “Yes.” So we decided it wouldn’t hurt to try it again. We anxiously waited outside the chapel doors and then as soon as all the other Primary children were seated we motioned for Justin to come to the doors. He ran the other direction and squealed. My husband went over and picked him up and he started laughing. That’s when we knew this might actually work out. He carried him through the doors to the chapel and directly onto the stand and then he walked up to the pulpit and being prompted by my husband word for word said his part into the microphone, “I-KNOW-THAT-I-AM-A-CHILD-OF-GOD.” And then he smiled, and walked out of the chapel.

He didn’t smile for a picture because he was too busy eating his Swedish Fish as a reward—he deserved it!!

I am always so proud of Justin for how hard he tries every day to combat so many obstacles that challenge him. He is such a great example to me and shows me such great determination. I know that he knows he is a child of God. He is not any less of a child of God than anyone else on this Earth. It is such a simple phrase, but it completely puts into perspective why we are here in this life and reminds me that our day-to-day challenges are so temporal. I am so grateful for that pristine moment of clarity today from hearing Justin’s testimony. I love you with all my heart buddy!!

Friday, September 20, 2013

At the suggestion of a friend in bartering for eggs this year, I ended up teaching sewing lessons—who would have thought I would love it so much!! In the process of teaching, I had a student bring her Brother sewing machine and I noticed it had speed adjusted button with “turtle speed” (it literally has a picture of a turtle on one side!!) as an option. My Little Miss tried out her machine on turtle speed and she was in love. She had already used my sewing machine since she was 6, but using the Brother machine with the speed adjuster really helped her feel more comfortable and really enabled her to be more independent in sewing. After that, and because of all the young students I was getting, I started looking to purchase a new machine.

On a recommendation from a quilt shop owner who I adore and who I took classes from in the past, I tried the Brother XR1300 from Costco.

I have had this for 6 months now and used it myself, and had several students use this machine…..and I love it. It was about $169 and I bought it online. The best thing is it has the speed adjuster button and so my daughter is in heaven. She can sew independently and because it goes a consistent slow speed she also has the time needed to adjust the fabric and learn how to sew straight consistently. I have had several adult student who like the slow speed as well to start, and then you can adjust it to a faster speed as soon as you get the hang of things.

Here are the other things I have tried, and like about the machine…

Zipper foot—I have sewn a zipper once or twice in my life before this machine, but this one is very easy to use and I have made several of these adorable zippered pouches (pattern at www.skiptomylou.com).

Straight stitches and zig zag stitches are easily adjusted in length and width with the digital adjusting buttons. I haven’t had problems sewing burlap and minky fabric on this machine either.

I recently tried out the free motion quilting on this machine and I felt like it was comparable in ease to my mom’s Bernina machine that I have. It also has a mini stippling stitch available to choose on the digital decorative panel—I thought it was a great option for smaller pieces or doll quilts.

(free motion example on left, decorative mini-stippling on right)

I went to a local Bernina shop and asked them to show me some of their basic models for beginners and they showed me a great little machine that was $800—that was their student/basic machine. I am sure it was a good machine, but if you are looking for something more affordable to start a new hobby or teach children how to see—I love the Brother XR1300. Enough that I bought another one for my sewing classroom so more students have the option to go “turtle speed!” It is a great beginner sewing machine!!

Thursday, September 19, 2013

My Little Miss loves to sew, she is almost nine and loves using the sewing machine by herself—and she’s getting pretty good at it!! We have lots of mommy-daughter sewing dates, but she also gets sewing time rewarded to her if she gets all her studying and assignments done. She has been working so hard the past couple of days to get all her chores and studying done that she earned some sewing time today. We had about an hour while the other kids were napping and she pulled out some of her favorite fabric from her stash and asked if she could make a skirt for her American Girl doll. And so we did!!

Little Miss measured Kirsten’s waist as 11 inches. So we doubled that length to 22 inches and cut a piece of her fabric 22 x approximately 6 inches.

She sewed the edges of each 22 inch side over about 1/2 inch.

Then she pinned a row of rick rack to the bottom edge and sewed it in place. She couldn’t decide on which color, so she ended up using both!

She folded the skirt in half and sewed a seam to connect her skirt.

Next we cut a 10 inch piece of 1/4 inch elastic and sewed the ends together. I helped her pin the elastic to the seam and then match the middle of the elastic to the middle of the skirt (so the elastic will be stretched evenly when it is sewn).

To finish the skirt, I helped Little Miss stretch the elastic until it laid flat against the fabric and sewed all the way around the waist.

We spent about 20 minutes on this project and it was done!! And my Little Miss couldn’t be happier with how it turned out. I think I know what to get her for Christmas—a bag of scrap fabric and rick rack!!

Monday, September 16, 2013

I often look in my rear view mirror and see four little faces in the car and think, “I HAVE FOUR KIDS!!” I am the busiest I have ever been—but I can’t think of anything else I would rather be busy doing!! That being said, I have so many different places to be during the week that I sometimes feel like I don’t know whether I am coming or going!! And then I saw it….a beautiful, scalloped open frame at Hobby Lobby. It hit me that I could get some chalkboard paint, paint the wall in my eat in kitchen and frame it!! They had chalkboard paint right next to the acrylic paint at Hobby Lobby. I love the way it turned out!!

It usually has a scripture of the week across the top, and Monday –Saturday columns with all the million places and appointments I need to remember. It saves me brain power on trying to remember everything going on in my life. And if that isn’t enough reason to love this thing—dressing up the board for birthdays and holidays certainly is.

My other favorite part of this board is that it is right next to the dinner table which makes it easy to focus on where everyone is headed during the week and how we can help each other with our family and personal goals. We get to catch up on what everyone is doing at dinner time together!

This school year has been different than any year for us because I don’t have any kids in school!! Justin is taking a break from school to focus on healing from PANDAS(which is going really well!!), and this is our first year homeschooling Little Miss. I have to say, I love homeschooling—it has been so rewarding! I wasn’t going to give up my ceremonial First Day of School pictures—so I got some of all my kiddos. They turned out so fun using the chalkboard for the background!! Look at this picture of my sweet Justin—see that smile?? Yep, we have been seeing a ton of smiles from him lately—which make me smile more too!! And he has learned how to pose for pictures!!

I wrote down each of my kids’ names, and grades and listed three of their personality traits that are their strengths and then included a few things they love at their ages. It reminds me of what sweet kids I have and how all their strengths are needed in our family—I feel so blessed to have these kids making me smile everyday.

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

I don’t like sewing clothes—have I mentioned this?? I am sure I have!! I do love sewing clothes from a blog tutorial or refashions, but if it is a big chain fabric store bought pattern—I am not a fan!! But I love making stuff for my kids—so I just improvise!!

I took an old pair of my toddler’s jeans that had a hole in the knee, cut them off, and added ruffles to make a skirt—and it turned out adorable!! I have taught this a few times as a sewing class and the girls love it!!

Here’s what you need:

Old pair of pants you don’t mind cutting up!! (I like denim but any structured non-knit pant will work)

muslin fabric for the underskirt

three, 4-5 inch x 45 inch(standard bolt length) strips of fabric***If you are wanting a more ruffle/pleated look or are making this for an adult, you will need to double the amount)

sewing machine

serger**you can turn over the edges instead if you don’t have a serger**

1. Lay out your jeans and measure from the outside of the side pocket down the side of the pant leg until you reach the same point across from where the crotch of the pants are. Mark with a fabric pen and then measure that same amount from the other side and mark with a fabric pen. Next cut from that outside marked point to the center of the pants and then to the other side so you end up with no crotch in the pants anymore and it looks like a super mini skirt. **Make sure you watch that you are not cutting the back pockets off in the process. If you have lower pockets in the back, than adjust your measurements lower so all of the back pockets will still show once the skirt is finished.**

2. Next take your muslin fabric and measure around the bottom of your denim skirt. Pin to the skirt, right sides together leaving enough extra fabric to create a quarter inch seam down the length of the skirt. Sew to the denim fabric, then sew down the side seam of the muslin.3. Take your 4 inch strips and serge the raw edges on both sides so they won’t fray. If you don’t have a serger, just turn your edges under and sew a quarter inch seam. Sew the short ends together with a 1/4 inch seam so your strip is now a continuous circle or loop.4. Slide your circle strip around the muslin skirt and fold over every few inches all the way around and pin it to form “pleats.”

5, Sew the strips with pinned pleats on the muslin skirt. Repeat with the two other strips. Trim bottom of the muslin skirt and either serge or turn under edge and sew a 1/4 inch seam.

And that is it!! These are quick and easy to make and look so cute too!!

Saturday, September 7, 2013

I came across this great pin on Pinterest for Stromboli from Shatzi at Love and Laundry. I modified it a little bit for the convenience of our family and it turned out so yummy!! It only takes about 5 minutes to prepare, and 30 minutes to bake. It is kid friendly, even my picky-eater-kid-friendly. The best part is, it looks amazing too!! It is a great dish for entertaining or taking to someone who is sick.

We use our Zojirushi bread maker to make our dough, here’s the link to the recipe. I use Cooking on Clover Lane’s dough recipe which has a little bit of brown sugar in it that makes the dough perfectly sweet. If you don’t have a bread machine you can use your own favorite pizza dough recipe.

Here’s the recipe:

Stromboli

Pizza dough

Prego Sauce

Deli ham, we use Boar’s Head honey maple

Sliced provolone

Onion powder(only because my kids won’t eat real onions)

Sliced olives

Egg

Parsley

Cook at 375 degrees for 30 minutes.

The dough I make usually makes two, small Stromboli. I roll out the dough on a cookie sheet…

Then spoon some Prego sauce on top and sprinkle onion powder(if you have picky kids like mine) or use real onions;)…

Next, spread out a layer of deli ham…

And then a layer of provolone cheese slices and sliced olives…

Fold over both sides so they overlap, and then use toothpicks to hold the edges together. Make sure to tuck and toothpick the ends tightly so that the Prego doesn’t ooze out, and be sure to count your toothpicks so that you know how many to pull out when it is done!! I rub the dough with an egg wash and then sprinkle parsley on top. I bake mine on a parchment paper lined cookie sheet for 30 minutes at 375 degrees.

I let mine sit for ten minutes or so and pull out the toothpicks and then slice on an angle to serve.

Look how pretty it looks!! And it cost less than $8.00 to feed 4 people!!

And the leftovers are great the next day, too!! This is our favorite “go to” meal and I love that it is budget friendly!! Couldn’t be a better combo!!

Friday, August 30, 2013

With our move to a new house, I was able to take claim of a room in the basement just for me—which became my sewing haven!! It is my favorite room in the house, and is now set up as a sewing classroom so I can teach sewing lessons!!

It is my little get-away room where I can just be creative and sew without and distractions—it is so therapeutic. I display my product on the walls as decorations and inspiration.

I have a bulletin board that has my patterns for sale, and my class schedule and of course, my Project Runway sign;) I can pretend…it is my room!!

I love all the new friends I have made from teaching sewing!! I heard one student say to another, “Isn’t it so therapeutic being in this room sewing??” YAY!!! That is the exact environment I was hoping for!!

I’d love to see your sewing spaces too, feel free to link to your blog in the comments!!

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My sew sweet cottage is filled with 4 little kids who keep me busy. My oldest has Autism, and life can get a little crazy sometimes! I keep my sanity, or what's left of it, by spending time sewing, decorating, baking, throwing a party, and enjoying life's little moments. Contact me SewSweetCottage@yahoo.com