Is the baby daddy helping with night feeds?

Just a question for you moms who have delivered already, how many of you are having your DH/SO help out with night feeds?† I exclusively BF my DD and had every intention of pumping and having DH give her a bottle once at night.† It sounded like the perfect plan but it didn't work out that well.† DD would fuss over the bottle and the few times she did take it, she'd scream for me afterwards anyway so I'd end up BFing her until she fell back to sleep.† Also I hated having to pump right before going to bed only to skip that night feed and wake up super engorged later on.† I'm willing to try it out again this time and am thinking of even using formula for that one night feed once my supply is established.† Hoping this baby might be a bit different but just wondering if anyone else is having good luck with night feeds or maybe experiencing the same issues?

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i have been exclusively pumping because of latch/suck issues. DH gets up with me at night to bottle feed her previously expressed milk so that i can pump. this way we can get it done quicker then if i had to pump and then feed her...

he is very helpful and it's working alright, it just sucks that i can't miss a pump right now because i want to establish a good supply...

I don't understand why I would make my husband get up if I'm awake anyways. I hope I can bf my third one as I did his two older brothers and it takes me 5 min to feed him. A bottle would take more time. Hubby has to go to work the next day and I can "hang out" with the kids. So why does he need to get up at night. He can help me in the morning and evening but he should sleep at night.

I make DH do all the diaper changes and I do all the feeding (I BF also).¬† The diaper changes seriously take 2 minutes and that way I dont have to get out of bed, I can get my pillows lined up to prop her on.¬† DH doesnt work early in the morning and is snoring before she even latches on... so I dont feel bad about making him get up.¬†

DH gets up even if I'm bf he says is my daughter also my responsibility he does the same for ds I love him for that. I work from home and although I am able to take naps, cleaning doing laundry and cooking on top of everything else can kick your ass

Well I'm talking more for the early weeks when babiess are eating every 2 hours through the night so that you can get at least one 4 hour stretch of sleep which IMO makes a huge difference!¬† And my DH will be off for a month so I'm not worried about his getting enough night sleep.¬†

Right now DH sleeps and I get up and BF.¬† I handle the lack of sleep way better than he does.¬† Soon I'd like to have him do one bottle of pumped/stored breastmilk on a weekend night so I can get a longer stretch of sleep.¬† DS has already had to take a bottle and did OK going back & forth, so I'm hoping it will work out.

I do all the night feedings and diaper changes.¬† My husband is off for 4 weeks and he always wakes up and asks to help but I always tell him to go back to sleep.¬† Since he's going back to work and I'm not, I'll be doing all of the night time stuff when he goes to work anyway (don't want him having to get up at night when he has to work early in the morning) and I want to get used to it.¬† Besides, I can nap during the day when the baby sleeps.¬† My husband has been more than helpful in other ways like cooking, cleaning and doing laundry.¬† I appreciate that help WAY more than I'd appreciate him doing a couple of night time feedings.