(Closed) Wedding day "dealbreakers"

Aside from the groom or bride not showing up to the wedding, do you have any other wedding day “dealbreakers”? Meaning, is there anything that will cause you to flip out, lose your cool, have a meltdown, go bat-shit crazy, if it happens on your wedding day? Or did something like that happen to you married ladies? How are you planning on preventing or dealing with these things?

I tend to be… tightly wound at times and I expected to be a total psycho on my wedding day but nothing really made me freak out. There were a few things that I wasn’t pleased about but I didn’t really let it be known until afterwards. Even the guests who showed up after not replying to a single one of our half a dozen pleas for an answer didn’t put me over the edge like I thought it would. Then again, I had a DOC, venue coordinator, Mom and Aunt who were on-top of everything and made sure that I didn’t have to deal with any kind of drama. Even Darling Husband ripping my dress half way through the reception was shrugged off. I think I surprised everyone in that room when they heard the tear and it wasn’t following by a meltdown.

I try not to think that anything going to make me lose my shit. If anything were to go down I rather focus on fixing it rather then having a meltdown in front of my guest. I think if you loose your shit, you should try to find a bathroom or do it somewhere away from the guest. If things go wrong guest will follow the bride and grooms example, so if you being hysterical or crying thats going to be one of the impressions and memories people have your wedding.

The thread about the guest who brought her screaming uninvited kid to the ceremony is what made me think of this… I have people designated on “kid watch” to make sure none sneak into the ceremony and reception, but a screaming kid during the vows… oh man, it would be on like donkey kong. Everyone in my circle knows we can’t stand kids, so for someone to bring one would be pretty brazen.

One of the only things that REALLY pissed me off on our wedding day was our officiant. She kept stammering and stumbling through our vows, etc., like this was the first time she’d ever looked them over. Which was so odd to me because she was so well-spoken when we met her/hired her!! I kept giving her the evil eye, like, “pull yourself together, woman!!” I learned afterward that prior to our ceremony beginning she had been slamming down the mimosas we’d been serving to our guests :-

And to top it off, she put the wrong date on our marriage license. We had to get it amended at the courthouse after we ordered several copies and found out her discrepancy.

@TwoCityBride: I didn’t necessarily mean a meltdown in front of everyone. It could be a personal meltdown. I’m just curious what people’s dealbreakers are for their wedding day, no matter how they do or don’t show it externally.

@MadameTussaud: Nothing, because I’m a pretty calm-natured person all the time, no matter what happens. I hope it doesn’t rain since ours will be outdoors but if it does we have a back-up plan. I’m so excited/stressed that it’s less than two months away now but I’m trying to keep it under control, lol. 🙂

Edit: A zit popping up on my face that morning would really piss me off, though. Nobody my age should still get zits! It’s NOT FAIR!!!

@MadameTussaud: I’m sure if I was going to have a big, traditional wedding I would be a huge mess since I’m a control freak and highly strung 😛

A recent post reminded me that if a baby started crying during my vows I’d probably have a meltdown 🙂

We’re eloping so I think about the only thing that would make me have a meltdown is if I spilled something all over my dress. I plan on getting a white one so that would not be good haha. Or I guess issues w. the officiant/commissioner coming would be bad… since we couldn’t get married without one! Weather would tick me off but that wouldn’t really be a dealbreaker I don’t think. I think the smaller the ceremony, the less chance of things going badly wrong.

o i was an emotional mess maybe thats why the grooms men tried to get me back to the hotel and fix my face… groom ended up in the er and i was hysterical cause no one was telling me the truth of how bad his siezure and head wound was, over 2 hours of crying my wedding day make was off and face /eyes red and swollen and hair went astray with the humidity. i am glad my bridal party was able to get me decent again in 15 minutes…

You know though, almost every wedding has *something* that doesn’t go as planned. If you can’t change it, roll with it! It’s not worth getting upset about something you can’t change…just enjoy the fact that you are marrying the one you love.

I saw pro pix of an outdoor wedding where it rained, and I think they turned out soooo fantastic! The bride and groom had such a good attitude and had a great time! I can’t find the pix, but here’s a really cool picture in the rain! I love it!