Ronnie Ann Ryan woke up on her 40th birthday feeling panic-stricken. “I felt like I’d forgotten to do something,” she recalled. “I’d forgotten to fall in love and have kids.”

She’d never expected to be single and in her 40s, but that was the upsetting reality. Instead of despairing, however, Ronnie decided to do something about it. She thought long and hard about what she was doing to keep herself single and how she could change for the better. As a solution, she came up with a personal program to find love by being a proactive and receptive dater.