If you are experiencing problems in your relationship and thinking about having couples counselling, this may be useful to consider:

Men and women are very different and everyone has their own unique compass of personal values, navigating you through your life. However, these values may conflict with your partner and can often become blocks.

The early relationship which was oiled by each others' generosity, can be replaced by resentments, which slowly chip away at the feelings of love and affection.

Good communication is the antidote to this, but somehow this may have broken down, or may never have been there to begin with. The 'marital fit' has changed.

Sometimes partners wound each other by their words or their actions. The frustration of not being heard by each other can lead to overt or passive hostility. Your relationship can turn into scoring points against each other, or conversely withdrawing, either emotionally or physically.

Going to counselling does not mean you’re relationship is a disaster, it means that you both care enough about your relationship to find an expert to help you repair what’s not working.

If you are interested in having couples counselling it is important that both of you are willing to engage in this process. However, if your partner does not want to attend counselling but you would like to, I would be happy to see you on an individual basis.