The bible says, “set your minds on things above, not on things of the earth”(Colossians 3:2). That means that the things of this world is not eternal, and we cannot take anything with us. We are, after all, eternal beings. The things above (God and His kingdom) are forever and what really matters in this life and the one to come. Even though we feel that marriage and family is the most precious things to us, God still comes first. When He is first His spirit in us will teach us how to deal our spouses and family because it can get difficult (as we all know). He will show us how to maintain peace in the midst of unpleasant times. He will keep us stable in unstable times. We can be the rock in our families because we depend on God so much. So I encourage you to look and focus on things above and everything below will be taken care of. God Bless!

I am the woman you wrote that letter to, I met and fell in love with this person you were once married to. I believed the lies and I paid the price. I wish I had read your letter or at least one like it and had been warned before hand.
I loved his kids and his kids loved me. I trusted him with my heart and my kindness and allowed him into my life and he left me nearly destroyed. Someone new is in my shoes now and she is paying the price of making the same mistakes as I did.
His kids are also paying the price or will soon.
Abusers rob and steal souls.
They never take account for any of their actions and continue to tear destruction where ever they go.
I didn`t spend years with him and I got out before the physical abuse started but I saw the emotional, verbal and financial abuse.
I am still recovering and the relationship lasted less time than its taken to heal.
I am glad you wrote the letter.
I felt your pain because I lived it too.
I`m lucky I guess that I didn't endure it as many years as you but I have been told by my actual ex boyfriend`s ex wife that I endured worst behavior because he is making other`s pay for the anger at her standing up to his abuse and ending the marriage.
How was I to know. Had I educated myself on the warning signs of abuse I may have been able to save myself and in many ways I did but it sure as Hell wasn`t easy.
Abusers are sociopaths and you learn what exactly the characteristics of such a person is you have power.
From there you can protect yourselves from further abusers but there is still no guarantees.
I just wanted to say Thank You though for writing this letter and giving the warning to others that some of us never receive till its too late. We are learning !!