10 Best Secrets For Midlife Happiness

10 Best Secrets For Midlife Happiness

You are with the person you consider to be your ideal partner, but no one comes without some sort of baggage or complications.

Rarely is there a relationship without a bit of drama, sacrifices to be made and rough spots to work through. Being aware of this means you can take comfort in choosing to make your relationship a happy one.

Be Mindful Of The Lessons You’ve Learnt

Basically, everything in life is a lesson – particularly the hard stuff!

Focus on the lessons you’re meant to have learnt during the rough patches

A small example of this when you feel like you’re not connecting with your man very well. He seems to prefer watching TV instead of talking to you. Learn to communicate your frustrations and come to a compromise

Have A Life Outside Of Your Relationship

Your partner is a big piece of your life, but not overwhelmingly and absolutely everything

Keep your relationship in perspective (like you do your career)

Don’t treat your relationship as your identity, because it’s not!

It’s important that you establish a strong sense of who you are as an individual – expanding your hobbies, exercising, keeping your social life going and continuing to learn about yourself

Keep Your Own Social Network

Don’t just disappear from the social life you had pre-relationship

Find time to focus on your friends.

Merge your social life into your current relationship. Plan a monthly activity where your husband/boyfriend can be part of your social circle (e.g. from work, gym, hobby). This will create contentment inside and outside of the relationship

Maintain Your Identity

Focus on you and what matters to you. i.e. what are you passionate about?

Try not to sacrifice the things that mean the most to you

e.g. Don’t stop kayaking because your husband or boyfriend doesn’t like it. Giving up something that you really enjoy will backfire on you. You will feel resentment towards your mate because of it. Rather include them where possible

Focus on Evolving

Being over 40 and entering midlife doesn’t mean that everything is all over. Remember you’re always changing and maturing. It’s called evolving and it’s a good thing. Accept and embrace it.

Everything that’s happened, is happening and will happen, can still be within your control

Don’t Become Your Partner

It’s an easy thing to do – sacrificing the things you enjoy most, for your partner

Avoid blending into your man’s interests and habits

Conclusion

Losing your sense of self, in any relationship, is very common. What is unusual is finding the courage to get it back and keep it. Save yourself and your relationship by using these tips. Create your own happy midlife relationship.