Thursday, April 30, 2009

I am so very tired of hearing the complaining. I'm so tired of seeing the bitter and desperate women in singles wards. I'm sick to DEATH of the whining.

I believe Roxie once said "I'm single because I'm not married", which is exactly how I feel. I live a happy, full, and (mostly) productive life. My relationship status really has nothing to do with it and I'm tired of the girls and women who claim that they'll be happy when they're dating someone.

You know what? BE HAPPY NOW. Look at your life, stop focusing on what you don't have, and start focusing on what you DO have. Believe me, it's a lot easier to be happy than to be miserable. Misery takes a lot of energy. Don't get me wrong--being happy takes some effort, but it's healthy, focused, energizing effort that becomes easier with time. I've also realized that no one can make me happy, but people definitely add to my happiness. If you go around expecting someone to be attracted to you when you act desperate, look old and tired, and seem boring, you're not doing yourself any favors.

For goodness' sake, go out and buy a new outfit, get a new haircut, and maybe take a painting class instead of sitting around complaining. Investing in yourself is one of the best ways to get others to invest in you.

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So I've been thinking about this. The last time someone asked the boyfriend and I how long we'd been dating, I turned to him and told him he could answer because I wanted to know his answer.

I doubt he knows the difference between little d dating and big D Dating, but that's how he answered. We've known each other and done stuff for three years, the little d dating. And we started big D Dating in January.

That little d dating was so important though. We learned a lot about ourselves and each other during the little d dating that just makes the big D Dating better.