Can A Woman With High Interest Level Break A Date?

I'm having a problem with a girl I met through an Internet dating service. On our first date (Friday), I went to her house with flowers and took her to a nice restaurant. I thought it went pretty well; we had a nice dinner, went for a walk and visited the Jefferson memorial. During the date we held hands, cuddled and talked about getting together again on Sunday. I took her home, got a goodnight kiss and a big hug.

I called her the next day, but she wasn't home - so I left a message with her little brother. We didn't go out on Saturday because I had to go to a wedding, plus it wouldn't have been right to go out anyway. I called her again on Sunday and left a message; her mother told me that she wasn't home. Hmmm.

That Sunday afternoon, around 3:00 PM, I sent her an e-mail. She responded fairly quickly, saying she just woke up and was sick. She said she was sorry, but she had to break our date.

My question is, do you think she likes me? It seemed like she did on our date. I know I like her a lot - I was planning to send flowers to her work this week. She gave me all the signs that she liked me when we went out and vice versa. What should I do now?

Help!!!

Larry the Lost from D.C.

Doc Love's Answer

Hi Larry,

I wish your girl liked you as much as you like telephones! The good part is, you didn't make a date for Saturday. The bad part is your Interest Level is sooo high that you cannot see the forest for the trees; particularly not that this girl is giving you the runaround! But have no fear, Larry. When I'm done with you, you will see the forest, the trees and the leaves when it comes to romantic love!

Pretend for a minute that you are in Angola, driving your Range Rover at full speed trying to get out of town because the rebels are shooting at you. Bullets are flying everywhere, but luckily you make it to the outskirts of town. Now all you have to do is make it through miles and miles of craters and land mines to get home to Johannesburg. Scary scenario, huh? Dating should be so civil!

What you need is a navigation tool that will allow you to maneuver the treacherous roads of dating. The "System" is just that tool - it is the only reliable guide for your love choices. So buckle up, Larry, and let's see what The System reveals.

Where's The Interest Level?

When your girl said she was too sick to go out while her mom said she wasn't home, alarms should have gone off in your head. These contradicting stories indicate that your girl is concocting alibis in order to avoid you. But even more important than these discrepancies is this question: does a sick woman with high Interest Level ever break a date? Answer: if she has high Interest Level , she will show up at your house in an ambulance if necessary - with an IV sticking out of her arm! At the very least, she would have suggested another day to go out - not just an overused excuse.

To answer your question straight up; your girl isn't acting like someone with high Interest Level . She may have been interested before, but she isn't now. Whether her change of heart was due to your actions or to her true Interest Level finally surfacing isn't your concern - your objective is to correct your mistakes for the next girl. So, forget sending her flowers, calling her, or even e-mailing her - you've done enough. Instead, let's focus on improving your dating performance for future dates.

Your first mistake was making a date on a date. If you had waited until the following week to ask her out, she would have been wondering if it was you every time the phone rang. This would intrigue her and thus, raise her Interest Level . By asking her out so soon, you never gave her a chance to think about you while you were gone.