Confidence helps us to interact more decisively, in healthier ways in our relationships and helps keep us from overreacting. Take time to affirm your value and worth as a person to help you feel stronger and better about yourself. Since others only treat you the way you allow them to, developing a stronger sense of self-esteem and confidence could positively affect the quality of your relationships. If you can understand that feelings of security originate within you, you can focus on strengthening your center and affirming that you are whole and complete–regardless of what happens outside of you.
Below are links on the subject from my previous blog posts.

How do you feel when an understanding friend quietly listens to you with love and sincere interest? This may be the polarity of how it felt when you were really upset about something, began to share, and the “listener” shut you off or interrupted to give you suggestions. A person who listens with loving interest […]

Active listening is a gift of time and love. Active listening is actually reflecting back the content or emotions of what is being said., and truly listening with interested silence when not doing that.

Emphasizing the positive traits in ourselves and others encourages the continuing development of our skills, abilities, and attributes and a successful relationship! Positive reinforcement is usually much more effective and inspiring than trying to force improvements by dwelling on the negative, which do not work anyway. By consciously emphasizing the positive traits and abilities that […]

“Hope Springs” is an important relationship movie, not a “chick flick”. That’s this gal’s opinion… The actors take their time through the first half and we get it- the marriage isn’t working and hasn’t worked in many years. Meryl Streep’s role is very different from any I’ve seen her in previously and she does this […]

How do you feel when an understanding friend quietly listens to you with love and sincere interest? This may be the polarity of how it felt sometime when you were really upset about something, began to share, and the “listener” shut you off or interrupted to give you suggestions. A person who listens with loving interest and respect helps us process our emotions. When another accepts our emotions (without judgment) it has the effect of giving us permission to accept our own emotions and feeling empowered to process and resolve the issue.

Active listening is a gift of time and love. Active listening is actually reflecting back the content or emotions of what is being said., and truly listening with interested silence when not doing that.

This applies to children and teens too! A child who is really upset about something will usually begin to calm down after a few active listening responses. Teens frequently move rapidly from anger to talking about feelings and usually begins to calm down with a one to four active listening responses!

Active Listening is a skill that takes practice and is worthwhile practicing!

Forgiveness has been said to be an antidote to anger in your life because every time you remember the injustice, and you will remember it since forgiving is NOT forgetting, you choose to release the perpetrator from the debt that she/he owes you. You may read about the Biehl’s amazing journey here:

And…The Mayo Clinic Staff reports that researchers are claiming that, in addition to improving your spiritual health, forgiveness may have benefits for your physical health, too. This is definitely something that warrants our attention! It is being said that “letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace, and that forgiveness can lead to:

Healthier relationships

Greater spiritual and psychological well-being

Less anxiety, stress and hostility

Lower blood pressure

Fewer symptoms of depression

Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse”

Well, this helps explain the statement I’ve heard and read again and again that if you experience a high level of gratitude you cannot be depressed. This makes sense since depression is anger suppressed. Imagine a line with frustration in the middle. It can go either way- one end is depression(extremely suppressed anger) and the other is a high anger level – often in an inappropriate, aggressive way.

The University of Maryland School of Medicine is researching the connection between anger and “unforgiveness”. Anger is a component of unforgiveness and anger is a health risk. Then is unforgiveness a health risk as well? Included in the research are studies with aids patients. Knowing more about the nature and course of anger expression in the context of unforgiveness will ultimately help define and clarify this area of research.

Perhaps the other’s behavior was impacted by a chemical/emotional imbalance

*** The other was doing what he/she knew how to do – perhaps learned – no matter.

It’s possible that the action was not meant “personally” – it was simply an “M.O.”

It’s impossible to change another person’s way of dealing; only your own.

If you or someone you love gets help with managing anger and/or letting it go as a victim, then stress is automatically addressed and therefore health will improve too!

Balance & Power, Inc.has been addressing stress and anger management issues for two decades, corporately and in the educational and private sectors, and is now facilitating Workplace Bullying Prevention trainings.

Bullying in the workplace, the schools and at home has reached epidemic proportions – it is our goal to help eliminate these type of situations. I believe inner strength and being centered are keys to optimal productivity and happiness. I’m a Certified Anger Management Specialist accepted by the US courts, a former Biofeedback Practitioner and faculty member Hofstra University. My office is in Westbury, NY, the telephone, Video Skype or on your site.

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We all know them in business, personal and family relationships. First, go inward and understand that you are fault-free. Here are a few tips that will make dealing and interacting with the difficult easier:

1. Ask yourself, “How important is this person to me at this moment?” Being careful not to devalue them, certain people have greater or lesser significance in our lives. If the party in question does not hold great regard in your life, are you willing to simply let the issue slide and walk away?

2. How important is this issue? Will it matter ten years from now? If not, let it go. It is not worth your time and effort.

3. Can you accept the person as they are? If you do, you must be at peace with him/her so as not to become resentful and angry later on.

4. Can I change my perception of this person? A less judgmental observation allows interaction in a less critical manner.

ie: Perhaps change “controlling” to very insecure”.

5. If the party is an important part of your life set boundaries and guidelines your relationship.

6. Establish a common ground with them, identify something you both have in common. By doing so, this allows both parties to feel a certain connection and increases the levels of understanding and trust.

7. Build trust. Showing genuine interest and concern in them eases their anxieties and fears, allowing them to feel more comfortable in your presence. Once achieved, they will most likely become more cooperative with you.

8. Bring out the best in them. Avoid allowing their bad behavior to influence how you behave. Find some goodness and focus on that.

9. Remember to be fair and open-minded to what they say, believe, and do. Refrain from criticism and judgments, be understanding and compassionate instead.

10. Some of our greatest gifts in life have been the most difficult people who cross our paths. View them as an important teacher who is enabling you to learn and grow.

We always have a choice to release the person from our lives or to “work” at the relationship. Choose wisely; often it’s irrevocable.

There are really five ways you can be happier- there is an abundance of research on happiness and positive psychology documents this.

Happy people generally are more forgiving, helpful, and charitable, having better self-control, and are more tolerant of frustration than unhappy people.

A 30 percent increase in one spouse’s happiness boosts the other spouse’s happiness, while a drop in one spouse’s happiness drags the other down.

Strengths Linked to Happiness

Certain strengths are most closely linked to happiness. They include gratitude, hope, vitality, curiosity, and love. These strengths are so important that they’re worth cultivating and applying in your daily life, even if they don’t come naturally to you. Research suggests that these qualities can help you weather the routine ups and downs of life and also build resilience for times of greater difficulty.

Reap the benefits of your strengths,

First self awareness is needed to know what they are! Unfortunately, according to a British study, only about one-third of people have a useful understanding of their strengths. If something comes easily, you may take it for granted and not identify it as a strength. If you are not sure of your strengths, you can identify them by asking someone you respect who knows you well, by noticing what people compliment you on, and by thinking about what comes most easily to you. An additional route to gratitude and boosting happiness is placing your attention on pleasure as it occurs, consciously enjoying the experience as it unfolds. Multitasking can be the antithesis of this.

Research shows that acting in an outgoing, talkative, adventurous or assertive way makes people- even introverts-feel happier.

Making and sticking to a decision is a source of happiness because it gives you a sense of control, of efficacy, of responsibility.

At time of financial stress, taking control of your finances- even symbolically- can boost your mood because you’re taking steps to control and improve your situation.

Gratitude is important to happiness. Studies show that consistently grateful people are happier and more satisfied with their lives; they even feel more physically healthy and spend more time exercising.

Gratitude fosters forbearance- it’s harder to feel disappointed with someone when you are feeling grateful toward him or her.

Gratitude connects you to the natural world, because one of the easiest things to feel grateful for is the beauty of nature.

Studies show that happier people are more likely to help other people.

Happier people are more interested in social problems. They do more volunteer work and contribute more to charity.

One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy.

One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself!

Publius Syrus: “No man is happy who does not think himself so”

Saint Therese: I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.”

A small child typically laughs more than four hundred times a day, and an adult- seventeen times.

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