Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Planets in the 7th House: The Moon

The
second to last planet in my Planets in the 7th House series is the Moon. I’ve
already done an article on the Moon in the 7th House but this one will be going
more in-depth into this placement. The Moon is a changeable, responsive planet,
all dependent on moods and feelings. And things will get even moodier when
someone’s Moon sign is in their 7th House. This placement will make a person
constantly respond to the other person’s responses. There is always this
constant mirroring, where 7th House planets are concerned, and it’s easy to get
lost in the reflections.

Just
like the previous placement I tackled, Uranus in the 7th House, can be one of
the most independent planets in this house, the Moon in the 7th House can be
one of the most dependent planets here, if not the most. After all, the Moon is
about dependency. Whatever house the Moon is in represents the things we’re
really going to need, to a degree that might make us very needy and emotionally
demanding in this area of life. The 7th House is the house of other people.
Therefore, more so than the rest of us, with a 7th House Moon, you really,
really need other people.

This
is why you’re constantly reacting to other people’s reactions. In order to feel
safe, you want to know that the other person will always be there and that
there’s real harmony between you two. Moon in the 7th House can make for a real
caregiver in their one-on-one relationships. You need to feel needed, as if
your significant other or good friend would be totally off-balance without you
by their side. You are really sensitive to other people’s moods, especially if
you have the Moon in Cancer, Scorpio, or Pisces. You thrive on coming into the
picture to get them back to a state of emotional equilibrium and your partners,
in particular, can become quite dependent on this.

Yet,
you are just as dependent on them. You want them to be able to provide the same
kind of nurturing you give to them. The 7th House is about our expectations in
relationships. So, with the Moon in the 7th House, you want to both nurture and
be nurtured, in equal measure. Therefore, if your romantic partner, in
particular, is not very sensitive to your own feelings and needs, it might be
difficult for you to be as sensitive to theirs as you’d like to be. When 7th
House planets’ expectations aren’t met, they might not know what to do! That
is, if they’re depending too much on other people to give that planet’s energy
to them. So, without receiving sensitivity, you may seem to lack it.

This
certainly wouldn’t be true because you don’t express anything emotionally
without considering how it would make someone else feel. However, if they’re
not concerned enough about how their responses make you feel, you can start
becoming emotionally distant. In fact, not having very sensitive people around
you can make you increasingly lack emotional awareness, which would be
particularly true if your Moon is in an Air sign. People with a 7th House Moon
really need someone around who can help them make sense of their emotions. You
want to be able to bounce your feelings off of someone else, just like Mercury
in the 7th bounces their thoughts off of another person. A second opinion allows
you to be more deeply in touch with your feelings.

But,
you cannot be too dependent on people being there to take care of you and
understand your emotions. This must be something that you develop
independently. Those with the Moon in the 1st are the flip-side of you, in that
they have a highly intuitive awareness of their moment-to-moment feelings and
needs that is very self-generated and self-reliant. You, on the other hand,
seem to be looking for this from other people. You must look within for it,
first and foremost. Moon in the 7th House people must learn to recognize the
sound of their gut, their instinctive inner voice. You expect others people to
tap into this voice for you. But, it’s a very internal thing, above all else.

Listening
to it will allow you to satisfy your needs with much more self-sufficiency. You
are quite lost when it comes to taking care of yourself by yourself and have to learn how to do this. The Moon represents
the maternal figure but this maternal figure is often just as much, if not
more, in our psyche than in front of us. This position can indicate a desperate
search for a mother figure or a very co-dependent attachment to Mommy. But, you’ve
got to be able to Mommy yourself. Figure out what your Moon sign needs to be
nurtured and consistently give it to yourself. Also, 7th House Moon people
often have to teach themselves all the basics of domesticity: how to cook, clean,
feed yourself regularly, and keep a nice home, with or without someone else.

The
great thing is that when you are able to own this nurturing energy and express
it independently, you will draw people into your life who can meet you halfway.
Once Moon in the 7th House learns to take good care of themselves, they will
attract people who can not only take good care of themselves, as well, but of
their partner. There just needs to be a mutual respect of each others’
emotional well-being, with an intuitive sensibility for each other’s rhythms.
The insensitive need not apply! When it comes down to close relationships, you
prefer those who have a softer touch. You could not be romantic partners or
even good friends with someone who rides roughshod over people’s feelings
because that’s just not what relationships are about to you.

This
soft touch is evident once you develop a one-on-one bond with another person.
Planets in the 7th House indicate our influence on others on a personal level.
And with the Moon in the 7th House, your influence makes things emotionally
charged. For some with this placement, they turn many moments in their
relationships into something straight out of Terms of Endearment. The sentimentality can be overwhelming,
complete with easily shed tears and endless warm hugs. Others with a 7th House
Moon will not get so sappy but more so insist on a very emotionally connected
dynamic in their relationships. You will seek to go deep, to peek into each
others’ souls.

But,
things might also get pretty crazy in your relationships, as well. The Moon,
after all, is an irrational energy. And this can mean that you bring out the
irrational side of others. While a 1st House Moon is more so apt to be the sole
lunatic in the situation, a 7th House Moon can turn others into lunatics, too.
Maybe this is because you, at your worst, can be so insecure or moody with other
people that you bring out their worst moods and insecurities. However, it can
simply be because you encourage others to get primal. For you, relationships
are about removing the mask of sanity, throwing rationality out the window to
connect on a much more instinctual level. This is, after all, the way to
understanding your feelings. Yet, the paradox here is that the innate balance
and harmony of the 7th House can generally keep this lunar vibe from getting
too out of hand.

Your
love affairs depend on this ability to be unguarded and get fully comfortable
with each other. In fact, comfort matters so much to Moon in the 7th House
people that their perfect first date is at the other person’s apartment or
home. You want to know how at home you can be with them. In the end, things
will be very domestic in your relationships. Even if the Moon is in a more
free-spirited sign like Gemini, Sagittarius, or Aquarius, 7th House Moon people
are still total settlers at heart. You can have plenty of fun just spending a
lot of intimate quality time at home with your significant other, doing nothing
but eating takeout food and watching your favorite movies together.

Integrating
your partner with the family is a very big deal, although “the family” can also
mean your long-time group of friends. But, his or her ability to mesh with your
loved ones is everything to you. In many cases, this proves to be seamless, as
your lover can uncannily seem like a long-lost member of the group. More than
most, you go for partners who are very familiar, to the point of them being exactly
like your parent or sibling or best friend. Again, this is due to that need for
a significant other who you’re immediately comfortable with, as if you already
know them.