So earlier this week I caught my WH soliciting call girls and kicked him out. We have been dealing off and on with him on web-sites for the last 3 months as well as texting a female "friend/client" that he swears was nothing. Yeah right.
I've been monitoring his texts and I can read most of them - he does not know. He texted client/ho-bag and told her he would love to talk. We are divorcing - long over due. Packed and out of the house and lawyers are talking. Then this morning he's asking what she's doing after work tonight?
We haven't even freakin filed papers yet! I really thought that kicking him out would be a wake up call to him but obviously he does not realize that he has a problem. Our therapist believes that he has SA but has not come to the realization that he needs help.
I want so bad to text this "friend" and make sure that she truely understands both sides of this story. Somebody tell me that's a bad idea.

Its a bad idea. He can then say you are his crazy wife and that is why he is "getting away from you", even though you kicked him out. It will help him self-justify his actions and probably garner sympathy from this new woman.

Bad idea. You are divorcing so it would be in your best interest and health to let it go. Him, the Hos, his texts, everything. He continuing to hurt you and if you keep looking, all you will find is more pain.

Get out and make your new life. Be a Phoenix!

“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”
― Maya Angelou

Posts: 96 | Registered: Aug 2013

Phoenix9572♀ 39987Member # 39987

Posted: 9:44 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013

Thanks. I stepped away from the ledge. I had IC tonight too and that helped a lot.
You just get so angry you want to lash out any way possible. KWIM?