The Magic of Making Up by T.W. Jackson is a title that makes its training intent very clear: this is training about the period once things have gone awry. It does this with an interesting ‘twist,’ i.e. from both the perspective of the man and the woman. Unlike most training in the dating genre, The Magic of Making Up is neither overtly masculine or predominantly feminine. It even goes so far to talk in neutral pronouns at times.

This training dissects the agony and the angst of breaking up to the nth degree, as it so does too with how to get back together again and try and make it work. It even tells you what to eat and drink as you go through the motions of getting your act together after the mind-fuck that is a break-up. This is training that takes you from A to Z in the hellish netherworld that is being post-relationship, whilst trying to offer hope in the shape of reconciliation

SUMMARY:

To its credit, The Magic of Making Up could be a little guidebook sat on the side table right next to the poor guy or gal who is going through some break-up hell. It takes a person on that journey from what caused to the break up, to the actual break up to all that lies beyond, including (dare one wish it?!) reconciliation. This was credit on which a fantastic course should have been built – instead, we get something half-baked and ultimately unsatisfying.

Not to its credit, The Magic of Making Up offers the break-up journey as if it were some maudlin foot race interspersed with joyous moments of self-realization and strengthening of character. It does so in a manner too often twee and even naff that only serve to undermine the impact of what is, after all, a series of events that nearly all adults go through at some point or points in their lives. Those people deserve better than a course that may be well-meaning and on point, but never does so with enough substance and class.

The Magic of Making Up

The Lowdown…

The landing page for The Magic of Making Up makes one hell of a boast: Right at the top of the page, beneath a banner of a smiling couple so generic they may as well just be facsimiles of a real couple, is the following statement: “From The Man That Has Helped 50,119 People in 77 Countries”. Think I’m making it up? Here it is:

That’s more than a third of the number of countries that comprise the United Nations, folks!

So this Jackson guy certainly comes with a bucket-load of credentials. Well, at least his website clearly proclaims that in no uncertain terms. Or then he comes with a bucket-load of you-know-what (and it rhymes with ‘split’). It made me more eager to find out for myself what was up with this most enticing of dating courses, The Magic of Making Up. Here’s a pic of the course creator, T.W. ‘You-Can-Call-Me-T’ Jackson:

Check out the guitar and stetson hat in the back right corner of the pic – nothing artfully posed about them, of course!

The main manual itself is another one of those PDF jobbies. Oh, what joy. This one clocks in at 62 pages, which is quite short by dating training standards – so at least that. The Introduction says it all: “If you’re reading this book right now, then you’re probably suffering emotionally over the loss of someone you love greatly. The specific circumstances are irrelevant right now – maybe you did something wrong – maybe they did.

The first chapter delves into how you need to understand why you broke up in the first place. A differentiation is made between why men usually break up versus why women usually break up. The distinction between the sexes is a bit too tidy and borders on cliche, to be honest, but this course does make the distinction between the sexes in all things relationship one of its cornerstones, so we must run with it.

Bon mots litter these pages, like this one: “It’s not the attention they need – it’s the feeling that you appreciate everything they do – from the way she puts a little love note in your lunch to how she calls you at work to hear your voice”. Yip, it’s gag reflex stuff. Actually, some of the advice on offer is so sappy as to be almost toe-curling stuff, if you know what I mean. Take this little quote as an example:

Yip, it’s one of those Hallmark moments, folks…

So, people cheat for a myriad of reasons, according to The Magic of Making Up. The trick in not to panic – it’s also the theme of the second chapter of this manual. Taking a break and ‘avoiding avoidances’ are some of the tips suggested by Jackson. It’s a case of swim with the flow and see where it takes, even if you’re dying inside and racked with enough doubt to fill a micro-nation.

Jackson then tells you how to try and assess and ‘remove’ the so-called “splinter” in your relationship (basically, the thing that was fucking it up the most). Yip, it’s time to draw up those laundry lists of ‘positives’ and ‘negatives’ in your broken relationship – you know, the fun stuff. Cheating and lying get substantial coverage, which is probably just as well, given that many relationships get sacrificed on the alter of people not knowing what to do with their nether regions.

Re-igniting passion is the logical next step – that is, if that’s possible. Breaking old patterns is vitally important here, as is whipping your body into shape, getting better sleep, eating better – you know, all that stuff that we all think about when in the throes of a break-up and the aftermath thereof! Some of it does make you stop and wonder if people like Jackson have actually ever been through the ragged, fucked up torment of a messy break-up…

The manual then goes through a series of steps whereby dating, in one form or another, takes centre stage. That can include dating and seeing others, even screwing with others, only to make us realize how much we still miss the other person with whom we broke up (pity the saps on the other side having to put up with all these people on the fricking rebound). And then we need to date – yet again – that person whom we should never have lost in the first place.

It’s a lot of work, folks. It’s so much work to try and get back together again after a break-up that one wonders why people bother dating in the first place. At least Jackson has the good sense to acknowledge that sometimes it really is over. In those cases, the advice is to be gracious and move on – and that means ceasing to stalk the bitch or bastard who never wants to see you again! So much for all those red roses and candlelit dinners…

EXTRAS

The Magic of Making Up offers just two extras for its users. First is Mind Magic: Psychological Tactics for Relationships. To be honest, I found it such a pile of mumbo-jumbo with lots of talk about the ‘Magic Second Chance Letter’ and other such clap-trap. I frankly found it 23 pages too long. The second freebie is The Clean Slate Method, which is basically 7 pages on how to apologize properly. It’s a bit overblown but beat the ‘mind magic’ crap by a country mile.

The Magic of Making Up offers diddlysquat else. There are no forums for users, no links to other resources or some interesting articles, no fun (or even funny) videos on how not to break up – nada. Even the email address offered seems like a tortured attempt not to get users to write: “Problems? Simply email help [at] magicofmakingupcourse.com and remove the [at] and replace with @”. Jesus, talk about calling a spade “an earth-moving implement”!

And how does it look and feel?

It looks and feels like crap. Visually, The Magic of Making Up is about as exciting as taking her out to McDonalds for a romantic making-up night out. The PDFs are mostly drab, stock photos of cooing couples and other cutesy images proliferate far too much for comfort and even the video of Mister Jackson himself is just him sat in front of the camera spouting off his wisdom. Dry, dull, boring – and don’t get me started on the tackarama that is the site’s landing page!

What’s To Like About The Magic of Making Up?

The content in The Magic of Making Up appears well-meaning and earnest. The language is meant to be conciliatory and keeps trying to offer up hope, which is probably what people who actively seek out this training will be looking for. It is possible that in this way The Magic of Making Up is actually very smart by knowing its intended audience, right? Perhaps so.

Most commendable of all in this training (that is, at least in the main manual) is that it literally goes from A-Z of the break up process. This it painstakingly does from the actual minutes and hours after the horrible break-up itself, though to how to pick up the pieces and get moving again, eating right, connecting with friends, etc. and all the way finally to a possible reconciliation (at best and with mountains of luck) or then calling it finally quits and moving on forever. It’s as if this is a training course tells a story (grim and depressing as it mostly is) on the break-up process, and could even act as a type of ‘guide book’ for any poor schlub or schlubette going through it all in real life. Yes, that The Magic of Making Up could achieve.

What’s Not To Like About The Magic of Making Up?

There is a fine line between being earnest and well-intentioned and being borderline tacky and even naff. And, unfortunately, too often The Magic of Making Up meanders too jauntily into Naff Central Territory. Some of the quotes and Hallmark moments that pepper the main manual are too yucky to even enjoy quoting here – trust me, some of you will feel bilious when confronted with the levels of saccharine dished up at times. There will be some men and women out there who will be at such an emotionally vulnerable and frayed time of their life that they may respond with open arms to some of the Mills & Boon language. But I am quite sure some users may find it all just a bit too twee and insulin-inducing at times.

There was always a potential problem with so detailed an approach to the break-up process and aftermath – it could all just get a bit too much. And it does with The Magic of Making Up. Jackson tries his darnedest to be upbeat about the whole break-up palaver, but this is difficult to achieve when the minute aspects of the ups and downs are explored in such loving detail. It all gets a bit tedious at times – not at all helped, one must add, by a layout and presentation of content that it would be kind to call dull, uninspired and pedestrian. There’s also something lackadaisical, almost slightly lazy, about the way content is revealed and the ideas that are trying to be conveyed. I cannot fully explain it, but that was slightly off-putting too.

Conclusion

Breaking up is never easy, that we all know. And some of us have gone through every sickening, emotionally maniacal step of breaking up. The magic of Making Up takes one on the rollercoaster ride that is breaking up and tries to dissect it every step of the way. It does so with some logic and with a keen sense of breaking up the process into incremental, closely observed parts. The overall effect, however, is a rather stale one.

A training course like The Magic of Making Up makes perfect sense – people are breaking up all the time and there will no doubt be some of you who are going through a break up as you read this and, hence, will be only too open for a training course such as this. What a pity it is then that this effort is too twee, too pedestrian and too non-engaging for its own good – or to even be considered good. There will be those, however, who will lap it up anyway.

]]>http://dateandsimple.com/the-magic-of-making-up-review-magic-mostly-amiss/feed/0Revolutionary Sex Review – Good, Not Revolutionaryhttp://dateandsimple.com/revolutionary-sex-review-good-not-revolutionary/
http://dateandsimple.com/revolutionary-sex-review-good-not-revolutionary/#respondWed, 02 Aug 2017 16:16:30 +0000http://dateandsimple.com/?p=801In the Foreward to his training course, Revolutionary Sex, Alex Allman makes very little of the “mechanics” of lovemaking and how to please a woman. Allman is downright dismissive about that approach by any guy. Instead, he reckons that women are far more turned on by “passion, intimacy, and a man that can listen to their body…”. At the core of this training is confidence. Or how a guy needs more confidence in order to be his sexual best.

But is it really that revolutionary…?

Allman broaches topics such as performance anxiety and lasting longer (the male side) and making her come and cunnilingus (clearly the female side). Whilst being specific in topic choices, the approach is one of broader strokes rather than the minutiae thereof. Intimacy also plays a central role, as do other approaches such as role-playing and fantasies. Ultimately, what Revolutionary Sex attempts to do is make sex as cerebral and structured as possible, even when dissecting the physical side of sex.

SUMMARY:

Any training course that calls itself ‘revolutionary’ needs to be very careful – because it needs to be exactly that: revolutionary. And when it dares to call itself ‘Revolutionary Sex’…well, then, doubly so! So it is that Alex Allman provides training that he believes will revolutionize how ordinary guys are able to perform sexually. Does he perform this momentous task? I hate to sit on the fence, but the answer to that is a rather detached ‘yes’ AND ‘no.

It gets a yes for having some very decent content that is presented with a level of detail that respects the guy reading it. It gets a yes because it is fairly engaging and interesting as far as dating training goes. However, it gets a no for being quite typical in what it suggests and, therefore, being anything but revolutionary. And it gets a big no for looking too tacky for its own good. That is why Revolutionary Sex can only be given a half-hearted recommendation.

Revolutionary Sex

The Lowdown…

I don’t know about you but I get into an instant cold sweat when I am confronted by a training manual in PDF format that is 133 pages long. You may accuse me of having the attention span of a cocker spaniel or being too fickle in my training needs, but I always find a lengthy PDF one thing: a daunting prospect. So it is that I commenced the 133-page PDF manual that is at the heart of the Revolutionary Sex training course by Alex Allman…

His Foreward is subtitled ‘About Me’ but it offers no insight into who he is or what he’s all about. Oh well…It’s nice that he writes “from one student to another,” which is an effective and winning way of reminding his students that all men have been there – clueless on how to please a woman, not knowing what to do next, and all the rest. This is the general approach by him throughout the manual. At least that.

Allman starts off by concentrating on you, the guy. Performance anxiety gets a decent look-through, as does that bugbear of so many guys – lasting longer. Some very useful exercises are provided. Also of interest is the focus on size. Yip, we’ve all heard it before – the size of a guy’s little guy doesn’t matter at all. Allman believes that too, even if his efforts to show how a lack of size can be overcome (bad, bad pun, I know) are not overly convincing.

He then shifts to her. And this is where it really gets interesting – or really yucky, depending on how into female genitalia you really are. For those guys very interested in knowing the intricacies of a vagina, Allma lays it on in quite graphic detail. The clitoris and ‘u-spot’ (and there we were like fucking schmucks thinking it was called the ‘g spot’!) are detailed. This then dovetails (again, bad pun, I know) into how to perform cunnilingus like a pro.

Alex can get a bit pretentious at times, making bold statements that really don’t mean much. I call this the ‘PDF Curse’ i.e. having to fill up pages of a manual with content and writing tracts of bloated bumpf at times. For example, he ponders, “What makes a beautiful penis? I’m sure I have no idea [I bet you don’t, Alex]. And I don’t think women have any idea either [care to bet on that one, Alex?]”. He even has his own ‘Laws,’ like this one:

Yeah, it’s hardly that profound…

Allman goes into more daring (even interesting, dare one say) territory when he touches on issues such as intimacy, foreplay and, that most toe-curling of issues in any guy’s sexual life with the other half, emotion and understanding. These may be the type of topics that will put certain alpha males off – not every guy will want to read up on these, that is true. But Allman’s commitment to these topics, tricky for so men, is not only commendable – it’s quite brave too .

Even if the touchy-feely stuff is not up your alley, then at least knowing what to do once up her alley should be of interest for any guy. And here Allman provides a series of sexual positions in trumps. ‘The Plank,’ ‘The G Star,’ the ‘Doggy G’ – they’re all here. And they come with nifty diagrams in blocks of colour that look like something out of a 1960s manual for psychedelic sex, man! Take this one as an example:

Funny, I thought that was called missionary style…?

A significant chunk of the manual goes into huge detail on how you can get deep into her (in more ways than one) so that she has orgasms that make her vibrator look like a cheap plaything in comparison. Role-playing and fantasies also get a decent amount of attention, with Allman even suggesting a bit of BDSM could come in handy to spice things up. It concludes with a Glossary with terms ranging from ‘H-Spot’ to ‘Listening With Your Body’ and a few others.

EXTRAS

Revolutionary Sex offers two main extras. The first is How To Initiate Sex Without Ever Being Rejected – there is not a man alive who wouldn’t give his front teeth so that he could master that! It’s odd that it feels very wordy, given that this PDF is only 22 pages long. It’s too chatty for its own good, although it does make some interesting points regarding the so-called ‘Three Agreements’ needed to initiate sex (namely the physical, the mental and the emotional).

I got very excited the prospect of the second free extra, namely an MP4 titled How To Get Her To Act Out Your Fantasies. Being a video, I got excited by thinking there may be some…you know, interesting ‘visuals’ to make certain points…Unfortunately, it’s just 46 minutes of Allman himself talking to the camera and giving tips on how to accomplish this. I won’t lie – I didn’t watch it all since I was hardly motivated to watch a carbon copy of Anderson Cooper telling me how to nail her mentally, albeit with less grey hair and even thinner lips…

I told you he looked like Anderson Cooper’s doppelganger…

And how does it look and feel?

Firstly, I was immediately irked by the fact that there are not one but four upsells on the very landing page for members. These were for other training courses ranging in price from $97 to $247. Not only did this clickbait annoy me even before I started the course, but they also make the landing page look tacky. Will these dating guru guys never learn that this type of clickbait is just tacky and pisses off many guys?

As for the look and feel of the training, it was basically three PDFs and a godawful MP4 video. The main training manual at least had some semi-decent diagrams to make the content a bit more visually appealing. The other two PDFs were as dull as most PDFs tend to be, whilst the less said about the MP4 with Anderson Coo…I mean Alex Allman, the better.

What’s To Like About the Revolutionary Sex course?

Alex Allman at least tries to offer some decent material in the main manual for his Revolutionary Sex course. The content is well-considered and, for the most part, not too dull or academic. Allman seems to care about his students and at least he treats them as equals. This is a nice relief when compared to many other dating works in which the dating ‘gurus’ are patronizing meatheads, usually of the collegiate ‘bro’ variety. Allman looks like a grown man and he mostly writes like one too.

The level of detail in the main training manual for Revolutionary Sex is to be commended. Sure, not every guy will want to know (or see) exactly how to finger her so that she gets that perfect ‘digital’ orgasm, but at least Allman tells it exactly as it for those guys who do want to know. This further shows that Allman presumes his charges want to know how to treat women as (more or less) sexual and amorous equals, which immediately takes him out of the Neanderthal Pantheon which some dating gurus seem to thrive in.

What’s Not To Like About the Revolutionary Sex course?

Sorry, Alex baby, but this is hardly revolutionary stuff. Improve your own self-esteem to be a better lover? Make sense? Sure. Revolutionary? Hardly. Know how to stimulate her clitoris to get her to be more sexually charged and into you? Sound good? Absolutely! Revolutionary? Absolutely not! Play dress-up and let your imagination roll in order to spice up your sex life? Should be fun? Oh, yeah. Revolutionary? Only if you think 50 Shades of Grey was the height of S&M! So, yeah, that’s what happens when you have a title as loud and as full of bold promise as ‘Revolutionary Sex’ – even if what you offer is good and sound, if it ain’t R-E-V-O-L-U-T-I-O-N-A-R-Y it’s going to lose its impact. It may be a tad unfair but that is the bottom line. That’s Simple Marketing 101, Alex.

The overall look of the training was sub-par – a mix of bland and tacky, dull and a bit confused. For material this pondered and on such technical, albeit very sexual issues, the tacky overtures in the cover design choices and overall site design are a letdown. Revolutionary Sex seems to suffer from the same schizophrenia that afflicts so many of these types of dating courses aimed at guys – all serious and sober in the message it’s trying to get out there and yet presenting itself as if all guys are a bunch of horny teenagers who get instantly turned on by nothing more than a pair of big tits on an airbrushed porno chick. It’s so fucking tired – it’s a pity Allman allowed his material to be sullied like that.

Conclusion

There are good things on offer by Alex Allman in his Revolutionary Sex training course. The content treats its students like adult men – and adult men who actually want to have meaningful, adult (and fun) sexual relations with a woman. Tips are plentiful, detailed and even graphic – as they should be. The extras on offer may be sub-par and there may be far too many expensive upsells, but these cannot destroy what is fundamentally a decent course.

So, in closing, it is only fair that we demand to know: was Revolutionary Sex, in fact, revolutionary? It sounds peevish to ‘shoot down’ a course that actually offers quite a lot, but the answer is a resounding no. What it offers may be be very interesting to quite a number of guys, and for that alone one cannot entirely dismiss this course. However, with its title Revolutionary Sex aimed so high and, as such, must fall a bit flat by having played it so safe and pedestrian in the end.

]]>http://dateandsimple.com/revolutionary-sex-review-good-not-revolutionary/feed/03 Step Stamina Review – Keeping You Hardhttp://dateandsimple.com/3-step-stamina-review-keeping-you-hard/
http://dateandsimple.com/3-step-stamina-review-keeping-you-hard/#respondWed, 02 Aug 2017 16:15:58 +0000http://dateandsimple.com/?p=790One thing is for sure: the 3 Step Stamina training course is very in your face. This training on offer is anything but coy, what with 3 bonus offerings titled Squirting Orgasms Blueprint, Blowjob and Anal Sex Persuasion and Sex Position Tricks. Yip, this training says it as it is, guys. The stamina here is all sexual – no stuff about holding hands or how to coo in her ear, we can assure you. And why not.

Ready, Set, Go!

The main 3 Step Stamina course offering is the main module of the same name. It tells you what you need to know about erections and how to perform like a porn star. Physiology is key here. Squirting Orgasm Blueprint pretty much tells you how to get her squirting away, whilst Blowjob and Anal Sex Persuasion and Sex Position Tricks instruct you how to get her begging to do you-know-what and you-know-that and mostly everything in between.

SUMMARY:

Male porn star Aaron Wilcoxxx makes it very clear – his trainingis all about the physical aspects of sex. More specifically, it’s about the physiology of sex – your erection, her orgasms, her begging to suck you off and get it up the ass – you know, the nuts and bolts of it all. This is not ‘intellectual’ stuff by any means – there are no fancy schmancy theories or copyrighted guides on how to get your and her rocks off. It’s straightforward stuff on offer here.

So, does that diminish what Wilcoxxx offers with 3 Step Stamina? Actually, not really. This is a training course that offers real solutions to a guy having and keeping his erection, how to maintain optimum health for the best in sexual prowess and, importantly by the way, how to please her too. The packaging is simple and this could hardly be considered a ‘wow’ course – but it’s decent, unpretentious and does the job. That is why we can recommend it.

3 Step Stamina

The Lowdown…

We kick off our sexual prowess learning with the main module for 3 Step Stamina, which is in the form of a PDF. At 68 pages and more than double-spaced, this is quite slim by the usually hefty (read: bloated) standards of many similar dating courses out there. It’s put together by Aaron Wilcoxxx (yip, the guy’s name ends in xxx. I wonder if it’s spelled like that on his driver’s license? The mind wonders…). Well, he is a porn star…

Wilcoxxx opens his manual by declaring: “You’re about to learn how to maximize your sexual stamina and vitality so that you can have the sex life of your dreams.” That’s this training in a nutshell, guys. And the good news is that Wilcoxxx assures you that age is not an issue. He actually claims this repeatedly, so one has to assume he believes that having a superb hardon is for all ages.

It seems everything in this course comes in threes -it features three key steps to powerful erections, as well as
three key steps to achieve the performance and vitality of a porn star. Wilcoxxx makes it clear that nothing to do with sex or having a great hardon comes naturally. It all required hard work (if you pardon the crappy pun…).

He outlines the benefits of testosterone including, obviously, to one’s sexual performance. But he does not advocate doing things like popping Viagra or even using a vacuum pump to engorge your tool. He does acknowledge that testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) can help men with very low testosterone levels. However, he cautions about studies that show TRT can be bad for the heart and can worsen blood clots, sleep apnea, and prostate cancer.

An interesting aside to mention here is that Wilcoxxx does provide sources to some of his claims and stats that he puts out. That’s to his credit – believe it or not, so many similar dating courses spout about data and stats with wild abandon whilst offering no links or footnotes to back up their claims. It is to this guy’s credit that he does.

He offers a series of exercises that you can do with your favourite little guy in order to maintain your erection harder and for longer. This he bases on all his years in the porn industry and what are ‘little-known tricks’ that all male porn stars do in order to keep their erections. Here’s a diagram he uses to show you the physiology of an erection:

Yip, just what every guy wants to know about his erection…

Wilcoxxx sets out your dick-enhancing exercises over a few weeks and even provides a diet for what should imrpove your erections. It’s actually interesting and well-considered stuff – I kid you not! The guy really likes his veggies, fruits and nuts – which does make sense for good male health anyway. He then provides some final tips on some of the things a guy can do to ensure a better erection and, as such, a better sex life. It’s a decent ending.

EXTRAS

As stated, 3 Step Stamina offers three additional PDFs. Up first is Squirting Orgasm Blueprint which pretty well tells you how to seduce and then manipulate her to the point that she has mind-blowing squirting orgasms. Blowjob and Anal Sex Persuasion gets her to do the two things that, let’s face it, most women are not too eager to do. Wilcoxxx makes it clear that guilt and pressure don’t work – no silly ‘mind tricks’ on offer here.

Open wide, honey…

Sex Position Tricks may be the main title of the third PDF on offer, but it is the byline which provides the gist for this freebie: To Maximize Depth and Perceived Size. Wilcoxxx reckons it’s all about making her feel you have more girth so she can have more mirth. It would have been nice if more actual sexual positions had been shared, but what he suggests in order to make her think you’re bigger (and wider) than what you really are does make some sense.

Ooooooohhh, you really are big, baby…

Real extras-wise 3 Step Stamina basically offers sweet bugger all. There are no links to other resources, no references page, no forums for students of the course, no way of contacting the learned Mr Wilcoxxx – nothing. The only clickbait on the landing page is to a landing page for a lurid, tacky-looking training course called ‘Trigger Lust’. It looked as shitey as it sounds, but it was being offered at just $9.95 – for a period of just fifteen minutes, of course.

And how does it look and feel?

I’ve said it before in other reviews, and I’ll say it again: a PDF is a PDF is a PDF. Add one more PDF to that list and you have the sum total of what’s on offer in 3 Step Stamina – four PDFs. PDFs are at their best a dull and visually stunted means of presenting content. This boring format is exacerbated by poor formatting, shifts in font size and type that are tiring on the eye and a lack of diagrams or other visual stimuli. In all, 3 Step Stamina is visually inert.

What’s To Like About the 3 Step Stamina course?

Aaron Wilcoxxx may speak of being a porn star as if it were akin to being a rocket scientist, but at least the guy offers training that is practical, specific and remains on point. That is more than can be said for many other training courses of the same ilk. Want to know about how to keep your cock rock hard for maximum sexual performance? He tells you how to do it. Want to know how not to resort to Viagra and other artificial means of keeping erect? He tells you how to do it. Want to know how to get her to agree to a blowjob or indulge in some anal rumpy-pumpy? He shows you the way. Wilcoxx doesn’t shy from what he has to share – and it mostly works.

Aaron Wilcoxx is clever in the way that he presents his content – quite dry, quite technical and often with links to other sources, articles and studies. It shows an attempt at trying to back up his material with that which is proven elsewhere. One can’t call 3 Step Stamina the height of empirical studies, because it’s not, but at least it is content that seeks to be serious and referenced. It should be noted that not all the references are from the highest of scientific authorities, but one can’t expect Harvard style referencing throughout training that is essentially about keeping yourself hard and getting her off.

What’s Not To Like About the 3 Step Stamina course?

A sum total of four PDFs is not titillating. This content is presented in the driest, dullest format possible. This was training begging for active links to educational videos, TED talks, even funny clips – it deserved more oomph. In that way, 3 Step Stamina fails miserably – visually it wasn’t even like premature ejaculation – it never got hard in the first place.

There was a certain level of tackiness to this training. Sure, it’s all about hardons and getting her to do wicked things for you, but it’s still a pity that the (few) graphics presented were the personification of the visuals associated with cheap, generic porn. Then again, Wilcoxxx wears his porn star credentials like a badge of honour, so the porn touches were inevitable, I guess. Still makes it all look a bit cheap, though

Conclusion

Sorry, but any training always runs the risk of coming across as vacuous and laughable as the acting in most porn movies. Thankfully, the 3 Step Stamina training package by Aaron Wilcoxxx is mainly relevant and never gets off topic. The topics may be almost entirely physiological, with just a bit of mental/psychological ideas thrown in for good measure, but you know what? That’s fine – because its’ done competently enough – even if it does offer clickbait to another, crappy-looking course.

To the eternal credit of Wilcoxxx, he never once patronizes his students. Sure, some of the tips may be borderline porno fluffing, but they’re mostly done in a way that is factual, practical and do make sense. This is sexual training at its most forward and its most basic – and it’s in that honesty that Aaron Wilcoxxx deserves some kudos. 3 Step Stamina sticks to its very specific and very physical playbook – and all power to it for that. Some guys will definitely love this – others perhaps not as much.

]]>http://dateandsimple.com/3-step-stamina-review-keeping-you-hard/feed/0The Desire System Review – Desire Can Be Dullhttp://dateandsimple.com/the-desire-system-review-desire-can-be-dull/
http://dateandsimple.com/the-desire-system-review-desire-can-be-dull/#respondMon, 22 May 2017 17:47:44 +0000http://dateandsimple.com/?p=754The Desire System makes the following bold proclamation: “It sounds like science fiction, but when you transcend your fear and tap into the raw, ravening power of the Emotional Activation System, you’ll make women feel anything you want them to feel.”. Presented as a series of training videos presented by…, the Desire System offers advice on how the so-called ‘Desire System’ actually works.

The Desire System logo – and that slogan…

Topics range from ‘The Science of Attraction’ to ‘The Approach’ and ‘Connection’ – all in the quest to get that babe that you really want. Presented by David Tian as part of the ‘Social Man’ training series, the real question is whether or not The Desire System offers anything new or refreshing – or even if it offers anything that is remotely a ‘system’ that is unified and has a certain logic. Those questions will be explored in this review of The Desire System.

SUMMARY:

Language Of Lust

The Desire System is presented in as scientific an approach as possible, whilst still being presented in a format and tone that feels very familiar and similar to other dating training courses. David Tian does his best to present the research that defines the ‘System’ by a series of filmed training sessions. Affable enough, Tian goes through the various concepts and principles as best as he can with his class of young guys.

Unfortunately, it’s boring. There has clearly been quite a lot of work and effort put into The Desire System itself but it comes across stale and not very engaging. And it’s not because it’s too ‘intellectual’ or ‘academic’ – not at all. The content is interesting at times but not revolutionary and Tian is an okay presenter but has zero charisma, which makes for a dull affair. And there is zero engagement with the guys in the class – much like one’s engagement with this well-intended but tedious course.

The Lowdown…

The course is offered with a series of ten training videos, which seem to take part in some training venue in the hills overlooking Los Angeles. David Tian is the facilitator-presenter here and he presents his course in front of a motley crew of mostly young-looking guys in attendance. It’s clear that guys are as desperate to get to know how to score with the ladies in the City of Angels as anywhere else on the planet.

Christian Hudson does the initial introduction, in a manner which seems almost apologetic. There’s something strangely unassertive and stilted about him, unlike his own work in The Social Man series. At least David Tian (or, rather, Doctor David Tian), once he has been introduced and takes over, seems more confident and affable. Tian puts it out there immediately by stating that, “The goal of this training is to have a great sex life”. So, nothing too difficult there, of course…

Tian makes adamantly claims that there is science behind the training to be offered. The embodiment of this training is what is referred to as the “Rake”. There is the “Ardent Rake” which informs us that an intense desire that a guy has a for a woman has a hugely ‘distracting power’ on the woman. Then there is the “Advanced Rake,” the most important aspect of which is to show no hesitation, to abandon all restraint, to let yourself go and to show that you cannot control yourself – whoah!

Tian tells us that you must start with what is known as ‘Emotional Activation’. They key is to make her feel that you have feelings and care about here and not merely to show or tell her. For her, it’s all about the emotion – and we all know how damn difficult that can be to pull off for most guys! By the way, Tian does the odd role-play along the way with a rather fetching lady – unfortunately, the scenarios mostly seem forced and the dialogue mostly rubbish.

Tian is rather insistent that it’s not the words that matter, but the emotion. The way a guy should do this is by ‘amplifying’ the feeling of great emotion that he once had. It’s an interesting concept but not much in the way of concrete insight is provided.

There is a science to attraction and therefore, by analogy with the theory in this course, a science to emotion. Tian conveys how over 90% of attraction comes from rapid, unconscious cognitive events, e.g. those split-second judgments that go on in our brain, especially the first time we meet someone we’re attracted to. Being a scholar, Tian introduces concepts like ‘micro expressions’ and the ’emotional feedback loop’.

And it goes on (and on) with topics like humor and vulnerability (essential!), neediness (a typical no-no!) and that all-elusive little number, self-esteem (always needed, of course!). It’s one set of concepts and principles after another that never seem to have a definitive destination or, for that matter, purpose. By the last few chapters, this reviewer for one was really not interested to know what happens next.

David Tian boring the guys in his class to death…nice view of L.A. out that window, though…

EXTRAS

A 71-page PDF of the actual course by David Tian hardly qualifies as a reak ‘extra,’ but it sure did come in handy to back up the key points that were being flogged ad nauseam in the various video clips. The only other extra for The Desire System course is a Forum section, which is actually for users of all the various courses available under what is The Social Man banner. There are an impressive number of threads and some really good discussions between users on the go – at least that.

And how does it look and feel?

The landing page of The Social Man is quite polished-looking, although the actual page for The Desire System is as blah as the course itself. The videos of the training session that David Tian conducts are the main focus for the course, so it’s worth noting that the camera work was generally very good and professional, if rather static in the classroom setting. Basically, the camera hardly ever moves and that just exacerbates the overall dryness of the course.

What’s To Like About The Modern Relationship course?

Even if a course doesn’t work or doesn’t gel, which is very much the case with The Desire System, I nevertheless always appreciate hard work and a lot of thinking behind a training product. David Tian obviously believes in what he espouses, and it shows in the level of background and (to an extent) empirical research that he offers during the training. This is not some throwaway, lazy effort, and that is appreciated.

Some of the principles on offer here have merit and at least Tian sticks to them. For example, there is a definite belief in emotion being the most important part of attraction. Although not comprehensively or convincingly backed up with real life evidence, there was an attempt at research-based argument to back up the concept. There is a certain trajectory to the learning here, even if it does meander and slow down to a crawl for the most part.

What’s Not To Like About The Modern Relationship course?

I’m sorry to seem glib, but the content on offer simply isn’t ‘revolutionary’ or different enough to be attention-grabbing.There is so much competition out there in dating training courses, that I am consistently taken aback at how many of these courses continue to present content that feels so familiar and adds nothing exceptional to the body of learning when it comes to dating.

The Desire System is the personification of a course that is simply too dull and plodding for its own good. Too much of the content is presented in a manner akin to being in a class in college that should be really interesting but which just drones on and on to the point where terminal boredom sets in. It was actually quite telling how bored most of the guys in the classed looked. This was clearly a full one-day workshop and it was quite hilarious to see the faces of the guys as day (slowly) turned to night in L.A. – by the latter videos, you could see most of the guys couldn’t wait to get the fuck out of there!

It’s already well into the night, David – set those poor guys free, dude!

David Tian seems like a nice and intelligent enough guy, but a great communicator he is not. His demeanour was confident enough, but he had zero empathy with his group of guys. I mean, how the hell can you have all that training and literally have no verbal interaction with the guys in the class, never mind set them tasks or get them talking between themselves. Jeepers, these guys need to learn a thing or two about adult-based experiential learning! And bringing in that strutting macho cockerel known as Jason Capital as a guest speaker didn’t help things a single bit. Will no one tell this guy that he is not as cool and ‘switched on hip’ as he thinks he is?!

Conclusion

SUMMARY:

Language Of Lust

It’s always a pity when a training course that clearly took a lot of thought and effort doesn’t work. The Desire System has some integrity in its purpose and at least it’s not a total waste of time unlike some other courses previously reviewed on here. Unfortunately, this course is just too much of a slog presented in the dull way that it is by a trainer that may be good at his research but does not have the charisma to pull it off.

The biggest fault in this presentation is that David Tian had no interaction whatsoever with a bunch of guys who were surely keen to be there and had paid good money to do so. Yet what they got was a course that seemed to drag on forever, with the once bright sunlight of Los Angeles fading to deep night in the background. The lethargy in the proceedings was palpable. Neither the content nor the delivery could make this a memorable or great course. The Desire System is clearly a decent opportunity lost.

Grade: D+

]]>http://dateandsimple.com/the-desire-system-review-desire-can-be-dull/feed/0Language of Lust Review – The Lust Guruhttp://dateandsimple.com/language-of-lust-review-the-lust-guru/
http://dateandsimple.com/language-of-lust-review-the-lust-guru/#respondMon, 22 May 2017 17:46:38 +0000http://dateandsimple.com/?p=744Language of Lust is put together by a guy called Michael Fiore and is part of the ‘Digital Romance’ series of courses. This trip into lustful longings is with a guide by the name of Lawrence Lanoff, who claims to be a “sexual expert-guide” who will take men on a “deep dive into the exciting world of dirty talk, erotic fantasy, and the hidden sexual psychology of women:”. Whew, that’s quite a premise!

Lust rules the roost in Language of Lust, as Lanoff takes you on an extensive tour about the female psyche, mind and, in particular, body. The approach here is to offer as many tips and clues to any guy wanting to turn his female object of desire into a quivering, highly turned on sex machine. Does Lanoff the Sex Guru pull this off? Would a guy come out with a better idea of what turns on women and how to do it? This review of Language of Lust will offer our verdict.

SUMMARY:

Language Of Lust

The emphatic word here is definitely that of lust – and that’s certainly the focus of the offering here. Make that an emphasis in neon lights. Our guru here is Lawrence Lanoff, he of Hollywood porn experience and spiritual pretensions. His pretentiousness (for example, with regard to his failed attempts at providing meditation and hypnosis techniques) can get in the way of what’s on offer, which is extensive and quite plentiful.

Misgivings aside, Language of Lust is at least (mostly) true to its aims, which is to provide students with much insight into what makes women sexually tick. Even more importantly for lustful guys, it offers a wide array of tips and tricks on how to get her more lusty – and it does so in a mostly entertaining and adult sort of way. Lanoff may veer off course at times, but Language of Lust is a very decent training course that some guys will no doubt enjoy – very much.

The Lowdown…

Lawrence Lanoff is the first person who we;re introduced to and he looks like a New Age Patrick Stewart (he of Captain Picard fame from Star Trek). There’s something distinctly Buddhist about his look, tone and approach, at least in this introductory video in which he can be seen looking very much like the equivalent of a dating yogi:

Tell me this guy doesn’t look like Captain Picard?!

Lanoff sings his own praises very early on, telling us he is nothing less than a sex educator, a life scientist, a hypnotist, a workshop leader and, best of all, a Tantric master. He then makes the astounding assertion that he had the “good fortune” of learning Tantra from the age of – wait for it – eleven. Yip, this guy was getting into the world of tantric sex at the age of eleven…I know the 1970s were very open-minded and experimental, but that just seems wrong on a whole range of different levels…

Moving on from that icky revelation, we then learn that Lanoff directed a bunch of soft porn movies in Hollywood, many of them for Playboy. I’m only giving you this background info as it’s claimed to be the basis for his immense insight into female sexuality and what works for women in the bedroom. Fair enough. The guy might not be the next Christopher Nolan or David Fincher, but at least he’s shown a few ‘adult movie’ professionals how to bonk properly.

The course itself is divided into nine main categories, the first of which is ‘Becoming a Sexual Superhero’ (the guy can’t help the Hollywoodesque references). ‘Understanding the Madonna Whore Complex’ is offered as either an MP3 or a PDF and takes us right back to Sigmund Freud and 1925. Getting all Freudian in a training course about amping up sex with women certainly has a kick to it.

‘The Secret Power of S.L.U.T.’ certainly catches the eye is a title and is all about the immense power of words in seduction. ‘Language of Lust Revealed’ also goes into depth about the power of words when generating lust, one of my favourites being ‘Talk To Her Animal’, which has this ROTFLOL nugget: ““. . . Oh my goodness . . . what you do to me . . . I’m trembling. I feel you . . . my god, I could almost . . . cum . . . just listening to you.” Yip, it does get that silly.

There’s also an ‘opening meditation’ – and I will say this: this guy couldn’t lead a meditation if his life depended on it. His vocal tone, use of words, voice modulation – NONE of it suggests meditation, never mind puts one in a meditative mood. Captain Picar…I mean, Mr. Lanoff could learn a thing or two about how to offer convincing meditations from this guy.

‘Secrets of Female Psychology’ is the next main category and, as expected, it talks as much about female physiology as it does female psychology. ‘Love Her Body. Love Her Vagina’ is certainly insightful and gives a whole bunch of feedback about what women have told Lanoff what they want done to their vagina and even what they like it to be called. There’s lists of the stuff – and, yip, some women like it to be called a ‘vajayjay’…

‘Chemistry and Sex’ brings up another famous name in psychology, this time Pavlov. No, there’s no mention of dog with females here (thank goodness for that… I was still reeling from the tantric-sex-at-11 revelation), but it does go into detail about how to sexually ‘condition’ a woman to what you want, very much like Pavlov famously conditioned dogs when it came to food and ringing a bell. He refers to it as ‘Pavlov’s Pussy’ – enough said.

‘Lust Intensifiers’ gets into her head space. Techniques offered include those relating to that old dating course standby, the ‘head games’ routine. It talks about ‘the sexual zen’ as well as how to appeal to her imagination. Role-playing also gets some discussion, ideas which are taken into further depth by the category titled ‘Erotic Porn Script Technique’. Remember that this is a guy with many years of experience in the porn industry, so he knows a thing or two about ‘scripting’.

Like his attempt at a meditation guide, Lanoff’s ‘Erotic Hypnosis Quick Start’ guide also fails to conjure up the needed eroticism. This has more to do with his voice and tone (all wrong for this type of hypnosis) rather than the prescribed method (which actually might work on a sexed up and compliant sex partner). Lanoff is at his best when working with words or concepts of his own – it’s his attempts at acting the spiritual guru that fall rather flat.

EXTRAS

Language of Lust does offer a decent amount of extras, which are featured in the ‘LOL Bonus Content’ section (don’t ask me why the bonuses should be ‘LOL’…). These could include ‘Unlocking the Threesome Code’ (mostly wishful thinking, to be honest), ‘Dirty Texting’ (quite generic, but possibly useful for some) and ‘The Power of Eye Gazing’ (crapola central).

The most revealing of all the extras is ‘Porn is Bad – At Teaching Us About Sex..How to Reframe Porn’ – the guy has some experience there, folks. To its eternal credit, this course seems to be devoid of any annoying or any blatant ripoff clickbait to other courses and the ruthless push to spend more money. For that, I am always eternally grateful of any site of this ilk – as you too should be.

And how does it look and feel?

It looks like, well, nothing special. The layout and visual aesthetic of Language of Lust is distinctly pedestrian and blog-like, rather than that of a swish website. And, really, really bloody annoying, was this constant landing page that happened all too often when clicking back and forth between categories:

No, I don’t want to see this every fucking ten minutes!

What’s To Like About The Modern Relationship course?

There’s a lot here. Any guy who buys this course will get his money’s worth, if only in terms of the amount and sheer breadth of tips, concepts, ideas and insights that are offered. And it’s fairly on point – i.e. it remains mostly focused on all aspects of lust with a woman and what really gets women going. Not all of it is convincing, but at least it’s not meagre pickings.

Lanoff doesn’t patronize his students. For example, there are many references to the works and words of famous intellectuals, such as Chilean author Isabel Allende, who is quoted with “For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears.”). These types of asides could across as pretentious to some people, but at least it shows that Lanoff treats his students like men and not horny teens.

Lanoff says this, openly and with pride: “I love women. Through and through.” And, you know what, I really believe him. And, yes, I think it makes a difference when your dating ‘guru’ really, really likes women. It comes through in their advice, even if some of the stuff spouted by Lanoff is borderline crass and even silly. But at least it beats some of the other dating guys who have such ridiculous notions about female sexuality, that you wonder if they even like women. Lanoff is clearly a believer.

What’s Not To Like About The Modern Relationship course?

It’s true that there are many categories and a slew of sub-categories on offer here. And that is a positive, as indicated above. However, some of the material seems a bit ‘thin’ in terms of the depth and analysis that is provided. It’s as if you’re at a giant buffet but you can only get small ‘tasters’ of each dish – it stimulates your palate and you may want more, but larger portions are not possible. That can get a tad disappointing at times.

Lanoff need to drop the ‘existential guru’ act. Yeah, some of the intellectually-minded quotes and concepts are interesting and even add depth to the learning process. But the guy tries too hard to come across as some type of Western swami – he may (semi) look the part, but he doesn’t pull it off. His complete ineptitude at the meditation and hypnosis thing is a big giveaway. Lanoff needs to instead be true to his Hollywood porn roots – raunchy and hedonistic. That would be more authentic.

Conclusion

Language Of Lust

Lanoff may come off as slightly pretentious at times, but his focus is sound and, for the most part, rings true. There are some silly tips and asides to be had in Language of Lust, but it doesn’t offend in being too stupid or too much a case of wishful thinking. His credentials in making porn do actually stand him well – he clearly knows a thing or two about sex and, to his credit, he really likes women and knowing what makes them sexual beings – and it shows.

Language of Lust is not as ‘high-brow’ as it sometimes tries to come across. It’s mostly middle-brow stuff about lust and great sex – and that’s totally cool. It mostly works because there is a lot on offer and because the guy guiding you through the experience knows what he’s talking about. A guy will actually get to the end of this course and have learned some interesting things about what makes women sexual and how to achieve that. And that, guys, is more than most dating courses.

Grade: B-

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http://dateandsimple.com/the-modern-relationship-smart-modern-relevant/#commentsSun, 04 Dec 2016 07:13:02 +0000http://dateandsimple.com/?p=701“Enjoy the happiness and true love that you deserve.” That’s one of the first promises made to you by Dan Bacon, the creator and host of this course, breezily titled ‘The Modern Relationship’. That’s no small promise. Comprising just a single video of Dan doing his shtick directly at the camera and before a class of students, this course covers everything from romance to great sex to marriage to everything in between.

Romance, relationships in the modern era, marriage (including how long to wait before even thinking of getting married) and spicing up your sex life – it’s all here. Covering all of that in just one video, even if clocking in at nearly an hour and 46 minutes, is no small task. Does Dan Bacon achieve this with his sparse, even ‘minimalist’ training approach? This review of The Modern Relationship will deliver our verdict.

SUMMARY:

Choosing to share your philosophy and do a training course in just one video of under two hours takes balls. It is indicative of a trainer/guru who is either incredibly arrogant and delusional about their ability or a trainer/guru who is supremely confident in what they have to share with their students. Dan Bacon is the latter, offering a course that is confident, smart and with value.

The Modern Relationship may be thin on additional information or extras (which, it needs to be said, is a genuine pity), but that is not to diminish its ability to inform and engage. For the guy who is genuine about his wish to secure true romance, a lasting relationship and even a marriage that may work then he can do far worse than spend time doing The Modern Relationship. This one is recommended.

The Lowdown…

You can’t accuse The Modern Relationship course of not being blunt with this opening statement:

Well, is it…?

It’s one hell of a statement and sets an interesting precedent for most of the course. According to this course it’s not so much dead as hugely changed when compared to even a couple of generations ago. It may be stating the obvious, but it’s valid because of the context on which Bacon discusses and analyzes modern relationships and how men can improve their chances with women – especially the ‘right one’.

The Modern Relationship is one of the courses on offer under the Modern Man Store umbrella, courtesy of Dan Bacon. He is an amiable enough Aussie who presents this entire course as just one video. Here is the man in action in front of a class of his students:

Dan Bringing Home the Bacon

The Modern Relationship commences with a message that is a common motif in many courses of this ilk, namely make her chase you, rather than you chase her. He does make the very salient point that modern relationships have changed dramatically in recent times, hence why she may need to be more in charge. Also, men are looking at having more relationships in their lifetime, as old notions of staying married to one woman forever ebb away.

Divorce rates continue to soar and the whole idea of ‘family’ has changed dramatically. There is less stigma attached to divorce in many countries, albeit less so in more traditional countries like India and even Italy. He makes some very interesting points about how societies have evolved to the point where women have divorce parties and people revel in being newly divorced!

Women have also become less centred on their marriages and children. The perception about ‘what is the right thing to do’ has changed dramatically. Feminism has only heightened this, as have the recent upsurge in social media and technologies that allow women to be much more free (and even naughty, very naughty) when interacting with men, including even ex-boyfriends and lovers.

So where does this leave men? Well, Bacon correctly points out, this has entirely shifted what is meant to be the role of men with regard to this very changed and very modern woman. Men need to be more adaptable, more realistic about what they can expect from women and those scary, elusive things called relationships.

Bacon then makes the rather interesting (maybe even wild or bizarre?) claim that the best time to get married is only after you’ve been together for 10 years. Jesus, 10 years! That’s a fricking long time for many men to have to ‘try out’ a relationship to see if she’s really the one to wed. How many of you would be up for that? Yet Bacon sticks to that logic, this time switching to straight-to-camera mode:

Dan Bacon Tells You Straight…

Bacon spends a lot of time talking about and emphasizing compatibility – that explains his enduring insistence on the 10-year rule for marriage. He makes this point intelligently and compellingly, reminding guys that there’s no point rushing into things when you will just have time to reap rash decisions at leisure. It’s a viable philosophy, and convincingly argued.

The goal is not to simply be in a marriage to tolerate or ‘put up with’ your partner. Rather, says Bacon, you should be aspiring to those relationships where the man and woman are still mad about each other after all those years. Gosh, if I didn’t know better, I’d almost believe that Bacon may be quite the sappy romantic!

Communication is key. He reminds men that they need to be able to talk squarely and openly with women, especially a partner. That’s what women want, that is how they operate and that is how a guy will ensure greater success. He also recognizes that there are different types of women, and so, as such, ‘power plays’ with a woman will depend heavily on what type she is. And mix it up when it comes to sex.

He concludes thus: 1. Accept that things have changed with modern relationships and more changes will come. 2. Don’t avoid relationships out of fear of failure. 3. Mistakes are fine because you keep learning. 4. And know that you can have that terrific relationship, as long as you work at it and are truly compatible with her. Fair dinkum, mate.

EXTRAS

There’s really not much at all. There is certainly no ‘Extras’ or ‘Bonuses’ tab replete with extra PDF articles or videos or MP3s, etc. In that way, The Modern Relationship course feels very thin. Even the ‘Blog’ section takes one to a series of ‘articles’ which are really not much more than intros or ‘tasters’ to other courses and offerings. The free back-up for this course is disappointing to say the least.

And how does it look and feel?

To be honest, the look and visuals of this course are piss poor. The landing page (if one can call it that) is about as WordPress dull and dour as one gets, and its branding or visual aesthetic is almost non-existent.The course’s logo is the epitome of this blandness:

Blandest Logo of the Year Goes To…

The video itself is adequate to fairly good in terms of sound and visual quality, although it too suffers from a total lack of flash, visual aids or any other means of making the material more appealing or eye-catching.

What’s To Like About The Modern Relationship course?

The Modern Relationship is an inherently adult course aimed at adult guys who want to have adult relationships. There is nothing of the fratboy here nor any of the Peter Pan wishful thinking that can sometimes pass for dating courses. Aimed squarely at guys who want to be the best that they can at dating, romance and relationships, The Modern Relationship does a commendable job as such.

He may not be the most charismatic guru/trainer that we have come across, but at least Dan Bacon is not some infantile schmuck or strutting peacock (as we too have come across once too many times when reviewing these dating course sites). He speaks moderately and with obvious respect for the guys who are his intended students and audience. There is no talking down at guys here – it’s all done right to a guy, square on. And that is appreciated.

What’s Not To Like About The Modern Relationship course?

To be frank, it needed more. This is certainly true of additional/bonus/free material, which was frankly paltry to almost non-existent. What passes for a ‘blog’ section is nothing but a slew of articles aimed at promoting other products and courses. Upsells and other cynical ploys may not be in your face or very evident, but what’s on offer is still too slight and too restricted for the course to really pack a powerful punch – and all the more’s the pity for that.

Conclusion

The Modern Relationship certainly has more depth than this recently reviewed blah effort, but it doesn’t attain the heights of more rich and comprehensive training courses such as this B+ rated course. The learning approach of just one video with no tangible extra or bonus material leaves the course feeling under-developed and too slim to be considered excellent.

However, that should not distract too much from a course that is both smart and engaging. The course trainer/guru, Dan Bacon, is an Aussie who speaks to his students and not at them. He guides and offers good advice, and is neither patronizing nor puerile. The Modern Relationship should have offered more and gone into even greater depth. But it is still a worthwhile and recommended effort for any guy serious about dating, romance and that modern bitch, the relationship.

As the logo shows: “The Easiest Way to Get Laid Or Get a Girlfriend” – that’s what the training course offered by Dan Bacon known as The Flow promises to do. It comes packaged in a single PDF document of no less than 209 pages. There are four basic steps to this thing called The Flow. The basic premise is that girls (women) are not that difficult to pick up or date – it’s all about knowing how.

As basic premises go, the one highlighted in The Flow has, let’s be honest, been said and attempted many times before in a multitude of other training courses of the same type aimed at guys. So, to pull it off will be to set itself apart or at least attempt something novel or left-of-centre. Does The Flow achieve that? This DateandSimple review will reveal whether we think The Flow has any movement or is simply dead in the water.

SUMMARY:

The Flow Review

There is a real danger with dating courses aimed at guys that aim low and go typical: you know, promising guys to get girlfriends and get laid without too much effort. Real broad sweeps and generic stuff like that litter the online dating course world. That was the premise upon which The Flow based itself and, as such, it needed to be different or at least novel. The Flow is neither – or much else.

Based on four of the most blah steps imaginable, the content plods along boringly over more than 200 pages. It’s boredom by inertia. Lazy and generalized content is putting it mildly – The Flow comes across as an amalgamation of every other lazy, generalized online dating course out there. Jesus, surely guys deserve more than that?! That is why The Flow cannot be recommended.

The Lowdown…

It must be said outright that an Introduction of 8 pages can be daunting. Here it’s 8 pages of Dan Bacon warbling on about how he came to write The Flow based on being dumped by some girlfriend of his. Thankfully (and this can be said for the remaining almost 200 pages of the PDF) the font size here is quite large and at least 1.5 line spacing in evidence. Thank goodness for that, to be honest.

He makes some pretty bold statements in just the Introduction, telling guys that, once they have mastered his confidence techniques, that they won’t even have to try that hard to get girls into them. Heck, they won’t even need to be picked up.

Forget about 12 steps or even 10 steps, all it takes here are four simple steps to always winning the girl, according to Bacon. The four steps of The Flow are: 1. Start an interaction. 2. Spark attraction.
3. Develop a connection. 4. Take it to the next level. I don’t know about you, I just look at the names of those four steps and none of them say WOW! to me at all. But I needed to be fair and persevere on.

Bacon reckons that too many guys make the pivotal mistake of skipping the part of sparking her feelings of sexual attraction and, thus, turning her on. In doing this, he claims, a guy just lands up turning her off when he makes advances on her because she isn’t even turned on yet, let alone ready to go further. Yip, it’s the whole ‘men are from Mars, women are from Venus’ syndrome, you could say.

The key thing here is sexual chemistry, not (heaven forbid) ‘friendly’ chemistry. This too is a theme that one comes across again and again on other like dating course: a woman as a friend is a NO-NO, because what you want is that sexual chemistry that will get you laid and have sparks fly like crazy. There must be truth to the assertion, because it’s sure repeated enough times in dating courses.

Then that emphasis on the sexual is somewhat contradicted when the following equation is put forward by The Flow:

Is This a Mathematically Proven Equation?

The problem is that the ‘Emotional Connection’ part of this (already dodgy) equation is not convincingly argued in the content. The contradiction with the huge emphasis on sexual-chemistry-at-all-costs prior to it is simply not overcome – and that’s problematic with regard to the credibility of The Flow.

And then the poverty of the above equation is brought into even sharper focus with this subsequent, even more naff equation (in telling red motif, please note):

Nonsense Equation #2

Moving on…

He does offer some interesting enough tips on how guys can try and break the ice in certain social situations, such as where he’s in a bar and approaches her whilst she’s with a group of friends. Even his tip on how to approach a babe on the dance floor of a nightclub could actually work – or result in him getting a fat slap across his chops. Still, he offers up some typical scenarios with a nice twist.

It’s all about a guy having confidence, masculinity and social intelligence, according to Bacon. The Flow seems to give decent tips on the first two of those – not so sure about the social intelligence part. And his list of 8 traits that women like is, well…obvious. Here they are: 1. Confident. 2. Masculine. 3. Funny. 4. Unpredictable. 5. Charming. 6. Sexual. 7. Charismatic. 8. Socially intelligent.

I am always amazed at these training gurus who reel off personality lists (usually of the what-women-really-want-in-a-man ilk) as if they’re a simple laundry list that any guy can just acquire, so long as he just really works at it and really believes it. Shit, as if!

Ultimately, this content sure does meander along, here and there and everywhere. One would think that with four (very simple) steps that the content would have a sense of stricture and, dare I use a dreadful pun for this course, some logical flow. Not a chance. Not even the four simple steps can keep Dan Bacon on track and not boring me to death with anecdotal waffle.

Let it be said: Reading the last 100 or so pages of this content was sheer purgatory for me, folks.

EXTRAS

None to speak of. To be brutally honest, any extras or bonuses would have come in very handy, if only to improve on the main material. Then again, perhaps they would have just shown up how poor the said material is… And the ‘Blog’ section cannot be considered real extras, given that nearly all the articles therein are merely introductory fodder to other training courses and the like.

And how does it look and feel?

Is there such a thing as ‘post-dull,’ as in something that is duller than even dull? Well, that’s the feeling one gets with The Flow. The PDF itself is as boring and generic as PDF as one could get, and the overall site (which is that for The Modern Man site, as this is but one of its training courses on offer) is as piss poor dull and devoid of visual aesthetic (or even branding) as possible for a WordPress site.

What’s To Like About The Flow course?

There’s actually nothing that distinct to really like about The Flow. Or would (very) basically keeping to the same (tired) themes be considered a possible like? Maybe to be more fair, it does have some interesting asides (like those under ‘Conversation Contribution’ or ‘Conversation Starters’ which could be helpful for some guys), but they are unfortunately too few and far between to elevate the course.

What’s Not To Like About The Flow course?

A lot. Let me say this: if you are a guy who likes to read pages and pages of waffling, meandering content that seems to go on forever, then you will love The Flow. However, if you like your learning to have a semblance of structure and an actual learning curve, then The Flow will bore you to tears and even frustrate you to the point of switching off. You would think that with four steps that it would be easily achieved, but not with content written like this.

This is basically a lazy course. The content is derivative and offers little if any insight into dating (never mind getting laid) for any guy with even a smattering of experience thereof. What is possibly most astounding (and disappointing) about this course is that it is put together by the same guy who did another very decent and smart training course (‘The Modern Relationship’) that was reviewed just before this one. Was Dan Bacon even involved in this training course or did some underling/buddy/PA/hack do it for him? The disconnect between this (mostly sub-par piece of crap) course and that (far better, far more intelligent) course is that huge – it honestly makes no sense.

Conclusion

The Flow Review

To be blunt: The Flow offers too little and takes too long to say it. For those guys who enjoy a mostly anecdotal read, then this course may be a decent read – all 204 pages of it. For those who want (demand?) more structure and deeper insight then this course will offer scant value. They may pick some useful tips here and there, but the overall impact is of a half-baked, unconvincing effort.

The effect of The Flow is of content that is so generic and so unstructured as to be downright boring. A course comprised entirely of just one PDF is already in danger of being dull. Hence the need for content that has purpose and an engaging, solid premise. This course does not achieve that. For this reviewer, The Flow is mostly turgid and almost dead in the water.

Mark Manson is a self-proclaimed dating guru who wants to offer people a step-by-step approach to learning the ins and outs of dating, relationships, love and all that goes with that. This he tries to accomplish with a series of lessons. The exacting detail is that a person must first watch him on a video and then answer a mandatory question for a given lesson before being allowed to proceed onto the next lesson. This is structured learning, people.

Very often here on Date and Simple dating courses have been mauled to pieces for being too unstructured and lacking real focus or a sense of purpose. Can Mark Manson avoid such criticisms given how structured and formal his lesson formats are? Does his format work and, more importantly, will a person learn more about the mysteries of dating, relationships, dating, sex and the like? This Mark Manson review will give you our assessments.

SUMMARY:

Mark Manson

Mark Manson offers members three courses relating to dating and relationships, anxiety and making connections. This is clearly a smart guy and his course offerings come across smart. Well, make that a course offering in the singular, because the other two courses actually cost extra, and there is no denying how that sudden realization can be a real letdown for a member. And there was no expectation of that curve ball, by the way.

At just a short introduction and one course (i.e. the one on dating and relationships), Mark Manson feels like a letdown. This is especially disappointing when one considers how very decent and insightful the learning to be had in the first course is. The letdown feels even greater because the start was so good. Manson does make up for it somewhat with a terrific array of extras and bonuses. But it’s not enough recompense. All the more is the pity.

The Lowdown…

The first course that I undertook was that of ‘Dating & Relationships’ for which there are 10 lessons. It was also my first introduction to Mark Manson himself, who, although having a rather sleepy (dopey?) look, at least came across friendly and well-spoken enough. Here’s the guy in one of his lesson videos:

Mark Manson aka Dopey (well, looks somewhat dopey…)

First, one is forced to listen to Mark in his Introduction. This is thankfully not too long and some good pointers are provided with regard to how lessons should be undertaken, as well as how to navigate the site and the links. After completion of the intro, one gets this welcome message:

Okay, Time To Move On…

In order to go from lesson to lesson you need to submit an answer to a question posed post-video. At a 25-word minimum, this is not too onerous a task. Only once answered does the tab for the next lesson reveal itself. I like that if only because it gives the course a sense of formality as well as a lesson plan that keeps building on itself. It’s a nice touch by Mark and it’s mostly effective.

I liked Lesson 2 of this course in particular because it deals with what are described as ‘cultural narratives,’ i.e. the clichés that we’re all pressured by with regard to sex, gender and love (e.g. men crave sex more than women do, love should conquer all, etc. – you know, all that stereotypical nonsense out of a 1950s Hollywood flick that still prevail in society today and make anxious schmucks of us all).

Lesson 3 tells us of the ‘Inferiority Gap’ that most of us suffer under, thanks to endless pressures and expectations about others with regard to how we should live our lives. Some very pertinent points are made in this regard by Mark. I also like his take on vulnerability (Lesson 5) and how we actually empower ourselves by being more upfront about our weaknesses with others. It’s a very interesting angle, and makes sense.

It’s good to know that Mark also pushes the fact that you must first know and respect yourself before you can even begin to hope to date or fall in love again, etc. I know it sounds naff to say that, and it’s a constant theme in just about every dating course, but, you know what…it makes sense. And it’s true, folks.

Lesson 8 of the ‘Dating & Relationships’ course starts off with an excellent statement: “Drama. Everybody says they hate it, but most people live in it.” How bloody true is that?! Included in this lesson’s learning are links to other guides, including ‘6 Toxic Relationship Habits Most People Think are Normal’ and ‘6 Healthy Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Toxic’ – and they’re bang on point, by the way.

So I did all ten lessons for this particular course, having answered all the questions like a good boy and going from lesson to lesson in the prescribed manner. And then I hit a wall. Turns out my membership only gave me access to the one course. The other two (‘Connection Course’ and ‘Overcome Anxiety Course’) were going to cost another $29.95 each. This was the scene that awaited me (much to my horror) after completing the first course:

Hitting That Course Wall…

I don’t want to come across like a cheap bastard, but there was something very disappointing about going through a very decent first course with the expectation of doing two more courses after that, only to realize that the short Intro and first course was it for now. I felt thwarted – hence the brick wall reference. And, no, I didn’t feel compelled to fork out nearly 60 bucks just to access the other two courses…no siree.

Oh, and please refer back to the third graphic provided above in this review, i.e. the message one gets after having listened to Mark’s introduction. You will clearly see (with rather large lettering in green) that it states very cheerily: “You have unlocked all other courses!” Fuck you, no I didn’t.

As an aside, there were a series of little side-show offerings attributable to a member, including points acquired as one went along, as well as stars and trophy icons and the like. It felt a bit like being at school or playing some online faux-game. I found those features a little too cutesy and naff for my liking, and without adding much value or depth to the learning process.

EXTRAS

The extras are obviously the two additional courses that should be readily available to a member but are not, as already detailed in the Lowdown above. To Manson’s credit, there are some very impressive Forums available for members, with evidence of quite a lot of discussions, debates, questions and answers by many members. The site seems alive and vibrant. There’s even a Journals tab where members can post their musings and ideas, akin to a blog for all – very interesting I found it, even intense.

So, I’m still bristling about not having access to the other two courses and then this guy blows me away with his Videos extras. He provides no less than 17 free videos on topics as diverse as ”Starting an Online Business and Self-Publishing’ to ‘Authentic Entrepreneurship’ and others. They may not all be on dating or relationship topics but I was impressed nevertheless. The actual Bonuses tab was equally impressive, it must be said.

And how does it look and feel?

The Mark Manson site looks good and has a clean, professional tone to it. It’s a cut above the usual bog standard dating courses that one comes across again and again. It never feels cheap or bargain basement. Of particular note was the quality of the camera work with Mark’s videos for each lesson. These were always well-lit, with good sound quality and clearly done in a professional manner. It does make a difference – and it’s a prime lesson to any online trainer or guru.

What’s To Like About the Mark Manson course?

Mark Manson may look half-asleep half the time, but this is a smart guy. And what he offers is smart and had depth. This is a guy that has taken the time to craft courses that are based on insightful and interesting lessons that demand some feedback and inputs from members. It’s also clear from his writings and videos and podcasts that is a guy who respects his audience and his members – and I, in turn, respect that.

The guy writes well, no doubt about it. That in itself is commendable in the dating world that is so full of advice gurus that fall decidedly short in that regard. In an interview with a guy from Utah that he posts in his Videos section, Mark candidly states that, “the thing that made me unique in the dating advice niche is that I was a better writer than most other people in the niche…”. As a fellow writer, I absolutely concur with that assertion.

What’s Not To Like About the Mark Manson course?

What can I say – it’s the brick wall thing. I hate to belabour the point, but it sucks to complete one course thinking you will have access to another two, only to be told that those two additional courses will mean additional cash. I wouldn’t go as far as to say that I felt schlentered by that unexpected surprise, but it came close. It left a bad taste in my mouth – simple as that.

Conclusion

Mark Manson

It could be said that worse than being let down by utter shite or mediocrity, is to be let down by that which had the potential for such greatness. That is fundamentally the problem with Mark Manson’s training. It’s all so promising during and by the end of the first course, that one is really inspired for the next two course offerings. And, then, like some ghastly trick by the universe, one is monetarily (and misleadingly) thwarted for the next two courses. Yuck. Fuck.

Mark Manson is a guy that clearly respects his audience and the people who seek him out. There is nothing smarmy or that feels fake about this guy. He unveils good concepts about the dating and relationship games we all need to play, and he writes well and intelligently. This is aided by a very real sense of community throughout the training and site. This should have been the very best course to date…if only so.

Grade: B-

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]]>http://dateandsimple.com/mark-manson-review-excellence-thwarted/feed/0eDating Doc Review – The Doctor of Blahhttp://dateandsimple.com/edating-doc-review-the-doctor-of-blah/
http://dateandsimple.com/edating-doc-review-the-doctor-of-blah/#respondTue, 08 Nov 2016 14:21:38 +0000http://dateandsimple.com/?p=680Online dating can be daunting for most guys, as other dating courses we’ve reviewed have made clear. The eDating Doc makes it clear – it provides (many) tips regarding the ins and outs of what it takes for a guy to date online. The main tools of ‘eDating’ get a thorough analysis here, including a guy’s photos and profile, as well as how to master emailing and calling all those luscious lasses, and even an overview of current online dating sites.

eDating Doc is a training course for guys with simple needs – to get to date as many girls as possible, or at least get better at dating them one at a time. Think of it as dating for guys with a beer budget mentality. And that’s cool, so long as it delivers on that premise. So does it do that? Is it straightforward dating tips for guys with straightforward needs? Or does it aspire to more or fail to deliver even the basics? This eDating Doc review will spill those beans.

The eDating Doc Academy welcome…the doc is waiting…

SUMMARY:

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a training course that has a simple premise and that seeks to only stick to that simple premise. Courses that aim too high or that waffle along or that are just plain pretentious crap can do a lot of damage to the patience and nerves of any student member. The eDating Doc course aims for that simplicity and never strays from its core topic: to provide tips for guys who want to successfully date girls online.

The eDating Doc course confused simplicity with simplistic. It’s not to say that the entire course is without merit, because that would be too harsh. There are interesting tips to be gleaned, and at least the effort was made to provide a cohesive, logical training experience. Pity then that it feels so tired and so much like it’s been done before. Perhaps the topic didn’t lend itself to be exciting or very engaging. One thing about eDating Doc – it’s Dullsville Central.

The Lowdown…

Our eDating Doc is of the opinion that this course is best done over three days. He does say it’s okay if done in just one day (you know, for this guys who are super-revved to get some you-know-what on the go), or even up to two months, although he reckons that may be taking it too slow. This flexibility in his approach seems to be the ethos of the entire course – laid-back, easy and suited to your needs. It’s all cool, man.

A nice touch is a simple 90-second introduction to the course instructor, the Doc himself. He tells us about how shy he was, to the point of having some social anxiety disorder, and trained himself to become more confident, literally by forcing himself into certain social situations. He found this especially helpful online. And the Doc’s real name? It would be appear to be Radio Wright, which is as out there a name as possible. He’ll be Doc for us. Here he is saying hi:

The Doc…or is that Radio Wright…?

The learning is done via a series of lessons as video clips and the Doc starts us off with his ‘Core Concepts’. These concepts include Synergy, Uniqueness and Momentum & Mystery (‘3.S.U.M…geddit?). He shows how you should open up a folder on your desktop and proceed to fill it with important dating stuff, which must include sub-folders titled ‘Competition Research,’ ‘eDating Doc Tips’ and ‘My Profile’. Yeah, this is pretty prescriptive stuff.

One feature of this training by the Doc is that he insists that you complete Worksheets throughout and keep updated with your notes, answers and necessary downloads. It’s his way of making the course feel more like progressive learning with some outcomes thereto, I guess. Here is an example of a worksheet, this one from the inaugural ‘Core Concepts’ module:

Here’s Your Homework, Guys…

Module 1 is all about Photos, from ‘Photo Fundamentals’ to ‘Get Great Photos and ‘Quick and Easy Photo Editing’. He gives copious tips on what photos to include, what photos to never include, what photos to avoid at all costs, what photos are winners and which are losers, what photos…you get it. It’s over 40 minutes of some interesting stuff but mostly overkill on a topic that has been done to death many times online…and readily available for some years now.

Next up is the Profile module. For this foray, the topics include ‘Learn How to Write a Magnetic Profile,’ ‘Create an [sic] Username Women Find Irresistible’ and ‘The 3 Things you can Learn from the Competition’. Regarding profile names, this guy pulls up an actual list of profiles from the Beverley Hills area on match.com and proceeds to rip some of the usernames to pieces. Jeez, I hope the Doc has a good lawyer…

Emails get the lowdown in the third module, with scintillating topics like ‘An Overview of the 3×5 Email System,’ ‘ Specific Details about How to Write your Emails’ and ‘The 1st Email’. It’s rather simplistic stuff sold by the Doc, albeit rather ‘scientifically’ and with various steps in place. Scientific data and studies are provided on such momentous topics such as addressing the gal by her name and other such riveting stuff. Was that a yawn I heard?

Phones and all things dating relating to phones are dissected to an inch of their lives in Module 4. To his credit, the Doc does provide an endless stream of what-ifs and potential scenarios that could arise owing to phoning her. Some of them could be insightful (for example, what to do if you call her and she doesn’t answer – ruuuuuuuuuun and never look back! Nah, just kidding…).

Online dating sites are given their turn in the 5th module. He gives his own opinions regarding certain free sites, paid sites and even sites based in other countries. The selections he provides are very limited, whilst his suggestions regarding ‘Response Boosting and Details’ has chestnuts like “change a few things weekly in order to keep your profile in view and at the top of search results”. Do dating sites work like Google Adwords? Riveting stuff, huh?

He then wraps it up in his Final Thoughts module, which includes thoughts on what to watch out for and what should be next. There’s also a rather incongruous ‘Ethics’ section here, as well as a ‘Help Me Out’ segment. Self-sabotaging, bracing for rejection and something called ‘calibration’ are all dealt with, whilst the ethics component has him shouting out, “Be a gentleman! No douchebags allowed!” That’s cool – I’m sure the chicks will appreciate that, Doc.

EXTRAS

There’s a Recommended Resources section that offers a host of links to a variety of websites, articles and other info, most of it relating specifically to the topics covered in the eDating Doc course. There’s also a ‘First Dates’ vid of just under 20 minutes by Doc as an extra, as well as another vid called ‘Facebook – The Social Warmer’. The Facebook one has some interesting insights into the dynamics of how to contact, flirt and go further using the social media behemoth.

The one upsell on the eDating Doc site appears to be one titled ‘Dating Profile Critique Special‘ in which I gather a member will submit an honest revelation of how they date and how they interact with girls, for which the Doc will respond with an in-depth critique thereof within 48 hours. And that will cost ya $43. At least this guy doesn’t beat his members to death with endless, horribly expensive upsells.

And how does it look and feel?

I must admit to liking the eDoc Dating logo quite a lot. Otherwise, this is a visually inconspicuous site. Navigation is simple enough because the site itself is very simple. The bulk of learning is done via video clips, which are mostly glorified slideshows. The graphics on those are okay, although Mr. Radio Wright does love his organogram-type tree diagrams with endless drop-down menus and topics, which get rather tiresome on the eye after a while.

Oh, and in the welcome vid we get told of a grid of numbers that appear at the top of the homepage and that allow a member to navigate between different topics as they wish. It’s a minor detail, but my homepage never showed what was highlighted in said welcome page:

So, where are these numbers at the top of my homepage, Doc?

What’s To Like About the eDating Doc course?

The eDating Doc course does what it sets out to do: that is, to provide as many tips and insight into the nitty-gritty fundamentals that guys must overcome when dating online. It’s claims are modest and it does so modestly, and that could be commendable. It’s hardly intellectual stuff, never mind heavy in concepts or new ideas, but at least it sticks to its chosen topic.

What’s Not To Like About the eDating Doc course?

It’s really simple stuff. There is beauty in simplicity, but to a point. The feeling with eDating Doc is simply this – it’s too simple. Very little in this course is a stretch, for either student or instructor. There’s little psychology here, and little in the way of a guy getting to know himself better by and through his exploration of online dating. This dating comes across rather sterile and perfunctory, so easily conquered with scientific and deterministic approaches. Jeez, anyone who’s tried online dating knows it’s anything but that!

Conclusion

There’s nothing wrong with getting as much information as possible about how to date girls online. After all, dating online can in some ways be more daunting than in real-time – the tremendous unknown, never really knowing who’s on the other side and the usual minefields of dating. This course commendably tries to make it all seem very doable in more scientific ways than one. The impact and persuasiveness, however, is less than convincing.

Radio Wright may present his points (in endless drop-down menus in his slideshows) with as much enthusiasm as he can muster, but it still comes across being rather blah stuff about blah topics that have been done to death in many other guises online. Could these topics about guys trying to date girls be done more interestingly? I’m sure that they could. However, with eDating Doc, the effect is so much bla, bla, bla that is so very blah, blah, blah.

Grade: D

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]]>http://dateandsimple.com/edating-doc-review-the-doctor-of-blah/feed/0How To Date An Asian Woman Review – A Tacky B(east)http://dateandsimple.com/how-to-date-an-asian-woman-review-a-tacky-beast/
http://dateandsimple.com/how-to-date-an-asian-woman-review-a-tacky-beast/#respondTue, 04 Oct 2016 19:43:35 +0000http://dateandsimple.com/?p=653The focus of this training course is very specific. The name says it all: How To Date An Asian Woman. Never before on Date And Simple has there been the review of a dating course for guys that is so specific in the type of women that it references. It’s an approach best suited for a specific type of guy – the one who’s seriously considering pursuing and dating an Asian woman, of course.

The very demure How To Date An Asian Woman logo

The course offering is simple: a 73-page PDF document that outlines everything from ‘What “They” Say About Asian Women” to explaining the so-called “Asian Mystique” to what Asian women are seeking in Caucasian men, as well as where they “hang out” and how to date an Asian woman, and so forth. It goes into some detail about personality traits and socio-cultural similarities that are common to Asian women.

There is of course an inherent danger in grouping such an enormously diverse and heterogenous range of women into one safe and easy designation, i.e. ‘Asian’. There is no denying the appeal of Asian women to many non-Asian men. This course should tap into that appeal of (and lust for) Asian women. How well it accomplishes that without falling into woeful stereotyping is what this How To Date An Asian Woman review will assess.

SUMMARY:

So, here we are: our first review of a dating course focused solely on one specific type of women. Make that a focus on one specific race of women, namely Asian women. In this day and age of social justice warriors baying for blood at the slightest hint of racism, so targeted a focus could be problematic, even a bit icky.

It goes beyond being icky – it’s downright stupefying. For one thing, how the hell can you lump together a continent as enormous and as culturally and socially diverse as all of Asia?! This is the continent that comprises China, Japan, India, Indonesia and the Philippines – for starters. How hugely different can you get with just those Asian countries? For another, how can one generalize about so diverse an array of women on matters such as food and religion, never mind her breasts and what she looks for in a man?!

This course quickly dissolves into laughable generalizations and uncomfortable stereotypes of Asian. women. This is compounded by the slimmest and slightest of content (by Anonymous) without any depth or real insights provided by said content. There will no doubt be guys who idolize or are intrigued by Asian women who will want to buy this training. However, when it comes to stereotypical bullshit that offers little, they couldn’t get any worse than How To Date An Asian Woman.

The Lowdown…

A very modern three-letter acronym immediately springs to mind merely by looking at the Table of Contents at the very beginning of the 73-page PDF for How To Date An Asian Woman – WTF! Seriously, what else could the reaction be when seeing topic titles like ‘Tips for Writing Emails and Letters to
Asian Women’ and ‘What Turns An Asian Woman On?’ to real humdingers like ‘Her Neck’ and ‘Her Genitals’. Would that be the genitals of all Asian women?! Again…WTF!

It’s seldom that one hasn’t even begun to read content for a review and yet one already has bile stuck in the throat, but such is the ability of this course. The title could be a giveaway, of course, in a ‘horny-yet-racist-stereotypes-masquerading-as-preference-for-another-racial-group-of-women’ sort of way. But I have to keep an open mind, so in I wade into what will be How To Date An Asian Woman.

The How To Date An Asian Woman PDF ‘cover’

Part 1 of the PDF for How To Date An Asian Woman is ‘Why We Love Asian Women’ and starts off with that pivotal question: ‘Is It True What “They” Say About Asian Women?’ Here’s a delightfully profound quote from that section: “Sex with an Asian woman is more gratifying because of a certain anatomical difference. Since Asian women generally have smaller and thinner body frames than Caucasian or African women, it is believed that they have proportionally smaller vaginal openings.” Wow.

It continues: “Medical research has hinted at this but we have found no concrete evidence to support it (only this author’s personal experience).” I see. That last part in brackets is particularly interesting, given that there is no author named with this book nor anywhere on this site! Yip, not a name in sight is attributed to this course, which means that the “author” here is Anonymous itself.

Stereotypes quickly start to abound with statements like this one: “This [allure of Asian women to Caucasian men] alludes to a far off ancient exotic place where the life purpose of a woman is simply nothing more than to a please a man. This notion of Asian submissiveness is very attractive in itself.”Jeez, like we haven’t heard that stereotype about Asian women before…

And then there’s this: “Culturally many of them have been raised to respect and honor men, which is of course, a real perk for American men who may feel American women, are too competitive for them.” And that says what about American men, never mind American women…?

The stereotypes shift into laughable high gear with the presumed ten ‘categories’ of Asian women. They’re actually worth listing here, just for a laugh:

The Bookworm

The Glamour Girl

The Ice Princess

The Geisha Girl

The Muse

The Little Orphan Girl

The Nurturer

The School Girl

The Super Happy Sex Kitty

The Warrior

How do you like them apples?! Never mind that most of the so-called categories could be applied to any number of women in any number of countries or regions anywhere on planet Earth, let alone Asia! The only one that sounds remotely ‘Asian’ is ‘The Geisha Girl’ and even that’s a stereotype of a stereotype. ‘The Warrior’ makes me think that this is some guy who’s seen one Chinese kung fu film too many. Where’s ‘Crouching Tiger’ and ‘Hidden Dragon’ when you need them, huh??

Downright offensive is the sub-section that ponders “You Know You Have An Asian Fetish If…” with examples like ‘You’ve started renting anime instead of regular movies” (huh?) and “You are attracted to tiny feet,” as well as “You believe Woody Allen did the right thing.” Who writes this shit? Oh, that’s right – Anonymous, that’s who. Well, no wonder.

Part 2 asks ‘What An Asian Woman Really Really Wants’ (and, no, correct punctuation and grammar is not a strong suit of this training). Her motivation to get a white man includes reasons like, “Western culture has so permeated the Asian cultures that the white male is now prized as the trophy husband.”

It continues with, “If you look anything like George Clooney, Tom Cruise or Harrison Ford your chances are doubled when it comes to having an Asian woman consider you as a real prize.” Mate, if any of us look anything like Clooney or Cruise or Ford (not to mention had their wealth and fame) we could get a woman of any fucking nationality. That’s hardly an Asian thing, now is it?!

‘Social and behavioral taboos’ include never making fun of her accent (like ordering “lice” at a restaurant) or of her height (because most Asian women are so tiny, of course) or of your experiences dating other Asian chicks or brag openly about your sexual experiences in front of others. These are all big ‘no-nos’ to the Asian woman. Yip, I kid you not.

Most egregiously laughable of all (if that were possible) is Part 3, which is titled ‘A Crash Course In Asian Woman – Inside and Out and From Head To Toe’ and which literally travels from her very head to her very toes. You get told on how to cherish her mind and soul, as well as know everything regarding her (read: all Asian women’s) eyes, hair, lips, ears, neck, voice, arms, hands, breasts, stomach, back…yes, back!

And, of course, her genitals. This ‘learning’ is imparted with these fine words: “Asian anatomy may be
slightly different than what you are used to. The genitals themselves may be placed higher and more forward than a Caucasian woman’s. Also you can expect her vagina to be smaller.” Once again: this relates to…all…Asian..women…

It goes on and on, from respecting her culture and family (yeah, that’s a real shocker!) to feng shui (and this is important to Japanese or Indonesian women exactly how?) to even getting a list of different Asian foods and ingredients (nearly all of which look suspiciously Chinese or Japanese in bias). There’s even a nifty run-through of all the major Asian religions – a veritable Dummies Guide thereof.

Part 4 takes generalizing into the stratosphere with its take on ‘Where To Meet An Asian Women’. They do congregate so, don’t they?! Also included are the ten places in the U.S. where Asian women are most prevalent, as well as ‘international hotspots’ for Asian women with this astounding fact: “The best areas to find Asian women are in geographic East Asia, and mainland Southeast Asia that consists of Indochina and the Malay Archipelago.” Really? Who would have thought!

The geography is beyond pathetic. The PDF claims that, “The term Asian actually includes over include [sic] 40 distinct nationalities and ethnic groups ranging from the more numerous Chinese, Indian, Vietnamese and Filipino to the less well-known Hmong, Lao, Sri Lankan and Indonesian races.” 40 distinct nationalities, is it? Just 40 in all of Asia? How about you try 400 or even 4000, you twat?!

EXTRAS

There are only two extras, the first of which looks like this on the landing page:

The link that goes nowhere (like so many things in China)…

And which goes nowhere when you click on the link.

The second is a PDF titled ‘101 Romantic Ideas’ and written by some guy called Michael Webb. Idea #1 is this gem: “If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear.” It’s a whole 39 pages of that sort. Enough said.

There are also no other links or bonuses or resources or any such thing. Which is probably just as well. Can you imagine what a forum or members’ area would look like (and sound) for a training course such as this? Yikes…

And how does it look and feel?

This is basic and crap-looking ‘site’ as any. It looks like a total hack job done with the very least of budget or attention to detail. That explains why there’s no branding consistency to be seen whatsoever. The PDFs are as generic as can be, although at least the font usage and content layout is reader-friendly. That’s about the only positive thing one can say about this site’s entire design ethos.

What’s To Like About How To Date An Asian Woman?

Jesus, Joseph and Mary, what the hell is there to recommend here?! Well, if one were to really scrape the bottom of the barrel, I guess one could say that at least it’s singular in its focus, i.e. its childish fetish-like approach to Asian women. There will be a ready stream of guys who are into (or could be into) Asian women, so this course is a definite option for those guys. That is a plus in that at least they are catered to from a dating perspective. The fact that the content is mostly shite will of course be pursued (with relish) below…

What’s Not To Like How To Date An Asian Woman?

Oh, where to begin? It goes without saying that this is the most appalling jumble of ceaseless stereotyping that I have ever come across in reviewing dating courses. And much as I hate to trample down the ‘social justice warrior (SJW)’ path, it has to be admitted: this is so steeped in stereotyping that it’s borderline racist and, therefore, could very probably be considered offensive. Is it all lies and rubbish? For sure not – some of the gross generalizations on offer regarding Asian women are probably somewhat on point. Many of them do possibly have smaller feet or are very tied to their families or don’t like their men to be drunk in public. Then again, one could make the same generalizations about any other group of women, whether Latinas (‘oh, how tempestuous they are!’) or Africans (‘oh, what a sense of rhythm they have!’) or Indians (‘oh, how gracious and feminine they are!’) and you might be half-right about some of them! Big bloody deal. And what of the constant reference to ‘Caucasian’ men? More racism based on stupid presumptions, perhaps? What of African-American men who may want to date Asian women? Or Native Americans for that matter? And does ‘Caucasian’ here also include Latino men, or are they not ‘Caucasian adjacent’ enough? Who the fuck knows.

Besides the often offensive generalizations and resultant stereotypes, this is content that is simply poorly written and with very little substance. It reads like mostly vacuous shite. It makes a valiant attempt at structured presentation and analysis of content into various categories and sub-categories, but still manages to look poorly conceived. No real-life scenarios are provided and statistics are scant and unverified. The content is simplistic and seem the meanderings of a person with every clichéd notion of what constitutes ‘an Asian woman’. All the content seems to do is lurch from one stereotype to another. It’s frankly pathetic just for that.

Why Anonymous? Well, I can answer that question, actually – because no one in their right mind would openly and expressly take ownership of training this badly written and so blatantly offensive, that’s why. But still – the fact that no person or people are attached to How To Date An Asian Woman speaks volumes about the course’s (lack of) credibility, reliability and veracity.

Conclusion

A course calling itself How To Date An Asian Woman was always going to be skating on thin ice. It’s a course title that too easily lends itself to creepy notions of crass stereotyping and even borderline racism. They were always going to be two huge, looming traps. Unfortunately, this course doesn’t just fall into both traps, it literally seems to wallow in them.

To read (or, rather, wade) through the crap that passes for content in How To Date An Asian Woman is to be caught up in the mind of a very facile, rather stupid mind. The fact that the writer of this course chooses to stay anonymous is a dead giveaway. This course is so poorly written, so ill-conceived and so blatantly bad that no sane person should ever be associated with it. Anonymity is the only way to go.

I didn’t hate this course because it dared to hone in only on Asian women. Not at all. All power to it for that – if it had been properly and with more taste and maturity. Instead, we get this pile of rubbish that is far worse than what I thought had been the worst dating course – until now. How To Date An Asian Woman beats them all, it’s that bad. If I could give it a ‘Z’ rating, I would.