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Thank you for visiting. I am a First Nations, US Marine, Father, Survivor, trying to be the best citizen I can be on the giant rock hurling through space. I hope to encourage others as I have been encouraged.
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4 thoughts on “Frozen in Time by Raymond Roy”

Thank you my friend. Perhaps a little rambling here…What a conundrum, From a survivors perspective, in my opinion, our nature is to be tolerant and be content with “normal” day to day…until…. they see other survivors or victims in harms way… basically they will speak up for others before themselves.. at that point, there is a sense that they need to justify standing up, what is the prerequisite? Must you be a survivor to qualify? As Dr. Ford experienced, that still wasn’t good enough for many…Peace to you Carol

You are right about some survivors of abuse who learn to “feel” the suffering of others acutely and take a stand to help, even if they know it will bring strong opposition and further abuse, as it did for Dr. Ford. I sometimes wonder, though, about other survivors who become bullies or abusers themselves, perhaps not even realizing that adversity hardened their hearts. Hence, the cycle continues. Yet pieces like the one you shared, Ray, may touch even hardened hearts. Peace to you, dear friend. ❤

Yes ,yes yes! What an important question. Where does the cycle end? I was blessed to have an opportunity before I was a teen to escape and experience a stable environment. My sister and I have discussed one of our “step siblings” who was not so lucky. I can’t speak to whether she became an abuser but was quite bitter and withdrawn.
During Marine boot camp you may have enjoyed being a social observer/ “fly on the wall” watching “would be bullies” exposed by our tough but fair Drill Instructors. “You are all equally worthless” I can still hear them say…..Lol