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Candy Canes and College Dorms

Watching old home videos recently, I came across a short clip that brought a smile to my face. It was a few weekends before Christmas and we’d brought our boys to visit Santa. At the time, they were about three and five and totally enthralled by seeing Mr. Claus in the flesh:

“What would you like Santa to bring you for Christmas?” The red-suited man asks. Staring wide-eyed, my younger son stammers shyly: “A candy cane.” Reaching into a basket, Santa chuckles, hands him one of the many candy canes he’s been giving out all day and responds, “Here you go! Santa will try to think of something else to bring you for Christmas day.” Smiling sheepishly, my boys say “Thank you” and slide off his lap.

We all laughed as we watched the video and my older son, now thirteen, asked his eleven year old brother: “Why did you ask Santa for a candy cane when you already knew he had a basket of them? You could have asked him for anything!”

My younger son had no real explanation other than, “Well, I saw the candy canes and I wanted one!”

Sheila Walsh shares similar stories in her teaching on “The Promise of More” in The Shelter of God’s Promises. She points out that people often ask God to give them things that are familiar and comfortable, but not necessarily best for them. She admonishes us not to settle for what will satisfy us for a moment when God wants to give us so much more.

Sheila highlights an uncomfortable truth: “We have more than one hundred prophecies in the Scriptures that Jesus fulfilled. It is easy to ask how the Jews could possibly miss Jesus being the One. Yet we miss Him all the time because our appetites are not hungry enough for Him. Governing the world was not what God has in mind, but rather governing our hearts.” (P. 177)

In our culture, when we hear “The Promise of More” many of us think in terms of the things we’d like for ourselves: more money; more time; more success; more respect; more friends; more entertainment; more technological gadgets; more health; more security. You can probably fill in the blank with any number of things.

We might read a passage like Matthew 7:7-8 and see it as a promise that God exists to fulfill our desires: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” At first glance, it seems like an easy promise to claim and to see fulfilled.

However, many of us have prayed for “more” and not seen results or have received answers that look different than we’d expected. In my life, this is usually because God is looking to change me more than my circumstances. As we ask and seek, we grow in relationship with Him. When we repeatedly ask, He begins to move and work at refining our hearts and aligning our desires with His will. He has more that He wants to give us than what we’re asking for, which is why He usually isn’t interested in quick fixes. Like the mall Santa with my son, he could grant our shallow requests for a candy cane and send us happily on our way. However, in His infinite wisdom, He often says “no” to the “candy canes” in our lives that would keep us from seeing the “more” He has to offer.

The first time I experienced this was in my freshman year of college. Living in Southern California 350 miles from all that I knew and loved I felt lost in a sea of students. I struggled to embrace the lifestyle in the dorms. I was constantly surrounded by people, but felt totally alone. I longed to find deep friendships with others who cared about knowing me truly. Even the campus ministry I attended just didn’t feel like “home” and I had a hard time finding friends there.

In my loneliness, I pleaded with God to bring me a true friend and to help me find my place in the huge, impersonal university setting. For the first time in my life I began spending time with God consistently. I combed the Bible for truths I could claim and poured out my heart to Him in the pages of my journal. I trusted Him in a way I couldn’t trust my new acquaintances and casual friends. Spending time with God became my life- line and the only thing that gave me the strength and confidence to face each day. I ached for a true friend, but I see now that God kept that from me until I was totally dependent upon Him. He wanted me to lean into Him and to develop the deep relationship with Him that I longed to have with another person. He wanted to give me more of Him than I ‘d ever had before. Looking back, I remember all the feelings of insecurity and loneliness, but I also recognize how God met me and stretched me. He laid the foundation for a deeply personal relationship with Him that has continued growing ever since. Eventually He did bring solid friendships into my life, but He also gave me more than that. He knew what I needed better than I did.

All these years later, I still seek God daily and trust Him to give me the wisdom and confidence to carry me through each day. I pray for Him to pour out His Spirit on me so that I am filled to over-flowing. I see now that each time we ask Him for more of Himself in our lives, He expands our capacity to receive Him and to bless others. When we stop asking Him to do only what we want and instead invite Him to let His will be done, we will see the “more” that He has to offer.

How about you? Do you see places in your life where you are seeking the world’s version of “more” and missing out on the deeper things God wants to give you? Where would you like to see Him give you “more” this week? Post a comment and share it with us!

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Marybeth McCullum enjoys writing and blogging about her Christian faith and how it intersects with everyday life. Her goal in every post is to encourage, challenge and inspire her readers. She is in her 10th year at CPC's Focused Living Women's Bible study and currently serves as Coordinator. She also writes a regular blog and speaks occasionally. You can find her page on Facebook at: Marybeth Mc Cullum- Author. Learn more about her other endeavors at marybethmccullum.com.

4 thoughts on “Candy Canes and College Dorms”

This month, the world’s version of MORE gets so out-of-hand.
I think the following is from one of the sermons this fall.
If we took the world and reduced it to 100 people:
70 wouldn’t know Jesus
80 would live in substandard housing-no electricity, no water
50 would be chronically malnourished
6 would have 50% of the world’s wealth and all of them live in the USA.
Food for thought. Jesus reminds us to remember to share the gospel and our abundant blessings with our very needy world.

Judy, thank you for this important reminder. It is so easy to get caught up in all the trappings of the season and to forget we already have “more” than most of the world. I appreciate you taking the time to comment and adding such a significant contribution to the dialogue.

MARY BETH, I JUST WANTED TO SHARE HOW MUCH THIS TRUTH IS RESONATING WITH ME . IT SEEMS TO BE HITTING ME EVERYWHERE. SONGS, OTHER MESSAGES ETC.
IN A WIERD WAY EVEN EVEN A COMMERCIAL ON TV RIGHT NOW THAT SAYS”THIS IS THE SEASON OF MORE”
(HAVE YOU SEEN IT?)OF COURSE THEY ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT THE PROMISE OF “MORE” THAT GOD GIVES BUT THE ONE WORLD OFFERS. IT JUST HOW OPPOSITE THEY ARE THAT IS SHOCKING AND WORTH MEDITATING ON!
THANKS FOR SHARING WITH US!

Patty-
Thank you for sharing. I love when God gives us a message and then reiterates it over and over in different ways. He is so creative and can even use things that seemingly have nothing to do with Him (like commercials) to draw us back to Him. I am thankful that a truth He shared with me is resonating with you, too. Having more of God in our lives is better than having “more” of anything else.