Where To Go On A First Date

Dating isn’t always easy, and starting over with someone new can feel even more challenging. What will you talk about? What should you wear? What if it’s awkward? While the first date can definitely be unpredictable, picking the right place can set you up for success. Here are our tips and tricks for choosing a great first date spot.

By Stephanie Mace

If you met on Bumble (or some other dating app)…

It can feel stressful going out with a guy you’ve never met before, so we suggest going somewhere familiar where you’re comfortable—it can be a favorite coffee shop, bar or taco spot. You’re much more likely to get the conversation flowing if you’re in a place that you know.

If he’s a co-worker…

Get as far away from the office as possible! Of course it’s tempting to grab “after work drinks” at the bar down the street but this can set you up for disappointment when other co-workers crash or you still feel in work mode. Do something fun and different: visit a food truck, get a casual meal or check out that quirky bar that that’s on the way home.

If he’s a classmate…

Same thing goes for that cute guy in your government class. Get off campus! Avoid eating at the dining hall or hanging out at the campus coffee shop (where you’ll bump into everyone you know) and check out a local café or bar outside of the college bubble. You’ll get to know each other in a different environment without having to say hi to someone every five minutes.

If he’s a friend, but you both are looking for more…

Now is the time to do something that feels special, but not over the top. Check out that hip rooftop bar you’ve been dying to visit or the dimly lit wine bar your co-workers rave out. The atmosphere will set the tone for a fun date!

If you met at a party…

You hit it off, and you’ve most likely had some drinks together. You probably already know you like him, or think that you have some chemistry. The first date is the chance to get to know the guy in another setting. Plan an activity that you both enjoy—hiking, surfing, visiting a museum—and see what happens!

If he’s an ex…

Maybe you think you’re getting back together, or maybe you’re just catching up. Either way, we suggest going somewhere entirely new for your “first date.” While it might be tempting to walk down memory lane, exploring a new spot will give you the chance to reconnect without the pressures of your old relationship.