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Online dating timelines....

2010-04-01, 03:54 PM

Ok,

What do you think is a "reasonable" timeline from meeting someone online, to telephone exchange, to meeting in person?

After doing online dating for more than a minute, I push to meet the person in the flesh as soon as possible, cuz IMO, it's too easy to look "good on paper". Why waste time with endless e-mails/calls back and forth only to meet up in person and there's no chemistry?

Also, the sooner I can meet you in person and see if there's chemistry, the sooner I can move on to the next prospect - cuz isn't online dating a "numbers" thing????

What do you think is a "reasonable" timeline from meeting someone online, to telephone exchange, to meeting in person?

After doing online dating for more than a minute, I push to meet the person in the flesh as soon as possible, cuz IMO, it's too easy to look "good on paper". Why waste time with endless e-mails/calls back and forth only to meet up in person and there's no chemistry?

Also, the sooner I can meet you in person and see if there's chemistry, the sooner I can move on to the next prospect - cuz isn't online dating a "numbers" thing????

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I don't think there's a hard and fast rule about how to online date... I'm coming away from the whole rules mentality anyway. Just play it by ear, and meet them as soon as possible, and don't take any one online prospect too seriously - you haven't met them.

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I think Gloria and the other ladies in this topic thus far see things in a realistic tone. A few emails, a phone convo or two, then meet.

Some guys push it too fast by wanting to get to phone after one email or even immediately. In their defense though too many women on these sites seem to think guy is going to wait around through weeks of emailing before a phone convo...and actual in-person is months away in her eyes. In the eyes of men, we see it as if you're handing us short answers, taking forever to reply, or being very reluctant to get things more personal, then it means you're either full of baggage or more likely not interested.

I still would love to keep dating sites as dating sites in my ideal vision of the world. None of this "looking for friends" or "just meeting people". You're on to meet people for dating, even if all the people online don't appeal to you. Better to reject and move on than live in a fantasy the guys come on dating sites to make friendships with women. Same deal with men who think one email reply suddenly means she'll date him...and thus act surprised when they don't get any further.

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I have had many men email me their phone numbers right away or ask for mine and I have given it to them and even called them. What I found was, none of them brought up meeting in person. The "fast moving Eddies" are guys who are number collectors or feel like a player if women call his cell.

Now, I will give a guy my email address. If he emails me, *thumbs up*.
If he brings up us meeting and sets a day and asks or gives me his number, I will give him mine.