​Learn ​Empathy

Shame Resilience through Empathy

Painful experiences at work can be incredibly shaming. We shame ourselves when we tell ourselves "I'm not good enough", "I'm a failure". And we are shamed by others when they criticize, blame and judge us.

Empathy is the antidote to shame: shame cannot survive in the presence of empathy. Shame thrives on secrecy and our urge to armor up and self-protect. Yet those very responses can lead to more painful experiences and more feelings of shame. ​

The solution is to learn empathy. Both towards ourselves, and towards others. Empathy skills are the bedrock of resilience, confidence and shame resilience. The more we practice empathy, the more our feelings of powerlessness, anger, and resentment diminish. And the more confidence and energy we have to show up more positively and powerfully. ​

How it worksThis is a self-study and small group coaching program, where you will learn - and use - the skills of giving and receiving empathy and compassionate communication. These skills include

Learning the difference between judgement and observations

Identifying, expressing and taking responsibility for our feelings and needs

Making requests

Giving feedback

Self-forgiveness

Dealing with blame and anger

We will meet every week for coaching on that week's study. Coaching will focus on how to take action on your insights and learning; identifying and addressing what could/is blocking you from taking action; working through challenges that emerge as you start applying your new skills; and working through anything else you may be getting stuck on.

On completion of the program, you will be paired with an empathy buddy who has also gone through program. You and your empathy buddy will then connect weekly for 6 months, where you will continue to give each other empathy. The power of an empathy buddy is amazing. No longer are your partner, friends, children or colleagues your punching bags/therapists/antagonists. Receiving empathy each week truly transforms your relationship with yourself and with others. Don't be surprised when you find you and your empathy buddy want to continue on indefinitely

Program Details

Small group of 4-6 people

6 1-hour group coaching sessions (via video call)

Matched up with empathy buddy on completion for ongoing practice and support

Programs start whenever there is a group of 4 to 6 people. So add your name to the list to join the next group, or a future group.