Some men are trained to be so polite at all times that they can’t end a date without booking a next one. I’ll marry her.” Men have a reputation for being commitment phobic, and this reputation is born out of what men say to women. Many men will blame their disinterest in a particular woman on their commitment phobia, but they aren’t really scared of commitment. Sure, he’s physically attracted to you, and he probably wants to express that in some way, but there’s no reason to doubt that he thinks you’re a beautiful woman. “It’s not you, It’s me.” Really Means – “I’m doing the dumping, so technically it is me, not you..