It's like evening rush and the bus was crowed, ya? This (seated) male kept telling us to move down. And we had but the design of this bus was piss poor and in the middle (before the steps to the back part) it left gaps of 4-5ft with nothing to hold on to unless you have super long arms. So I had my headphones in and couldn't hear most of what he was saying, but some of the standing passengers around me (and we're all women--the ones in the middle with the awk railing arrangement) start talking back to him so I took out one earbud.

This male had gone from b*tching because we wouldn't move down (and how easy it is to say ish when you're seated. and male.) to something about disrespecting God and therefore disrespecting him. Like this bus was his personal venue or something.

So one woman right next to me was like "Omg, shut up."

And the male told HER to shut up. (!!)

Then he was like, "Woman told me to shut up. I'm a man."

And then I was like, "No one GAF that you're male."

Then he said something about making us shut up. Idk.

(like I'd maybe feel threatened if he didn't have a cane.)

And then I was like, "Wow I'd tell you to take a seat, but you already have."

Then I shook my haircape and left the bus...when we got to my stop. So my exit wasn't as dramatic as I'd have liked.

I'm not super proud bc he did have a (very decorative looking) cane, but w/e. He's a male.

I would have mentioned that he should get up with his cane and stand with the women.

Yeah. I'm a jerk like that. I don't care if hes got a cane. He has a bad attitude and all the canes in the world aren't going to change that fact.

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During disagreements lately, I've been told that I'm not acting like a "lady". I hope I made it clear last night that I have NO INTENTION of living my life trying to be a "lady". I am me. I am a woman. I don't need to ACT ANY WAY to be a woman.

I am so sick of being called "not a lady."

*****. I'm a woman. If you are looking for "lady", you in the WRONG place.

I would have mentioned that he should get up with his cane and stand with the women.

Yeah. I'm a jerk like that. I don't care if hes got a cane. He has a bad attitude and all the canes in the world aren't going to change that fact.

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During disagreements lately, I've been told that I'm not acting like a "lady". I hope I made it clear last night that I have NO INTENTION of living my life trying to be a "lady". I am me. I am a woman. I don't need to ACT ANY WAY to be a woman.

I am so sick of being called "not a lady."

*****. I'm a woman. If you are looking for "lady", you in the WRONG place.

Originally Posted by Curlyminx

A) ya I really wanted to but I didn't want to be that person who suggested that the caned passenger stand up...even if the cane looked more decorative than anything. These males in chi lawd.

B) Who said ladies can't disagree/argue anyway ughhhh. I hope you did tell them ma'am. That reminds me of that song (that's kinda my anthem) that goes "what the f-ck is ladylike/ if ladies like to do what the f-ck they like/ just like you yeah" by storm large

You'll always be one of my favorite ladies, Minxy, in the best way possible. Only a lady-woman could wear a bearded hat the way you do.
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Eff! It's snowing hard, my hair still looks wonky on ONE SIDE from my most recent haircut, and I have the hiccoughs.

Plus a really likable character from the book I'm reading is probably going to die soon. I wish she wouldn't.

He he... I just hate the implied "rudeness" or "attitude" that a "non-lady" has.

And it was meant as a slight. Because I talk loudly when I'm angry and/or defending myself. Because when I'm inside my place, I don't worry about people outside in other yards and/or in other homes hearing me talk and/or argue.

And don't get me started on the lack of lady-ness that I am by leaning over a counter to point at a product I'm trying to purchase when the employee doesn't have a great grasp of the english language (I'm looking at you local 7-11).

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He he... I just hate the implied "rudeness" or "attitude" that a "non-lady" has.

And it was meant as a slight. Because I talk loudly when I'm angry and/or defending myself. Because when I'm inside my place, I don't worry about people outside in other yards and/or in other homes hearing me talk and/or argue.

And don't get me started on the lack of lady-ness that I am by leaning over a counter to point at a product I'm trying to purchase when the employee doesn't have a great grasp of the english language (I'm looking at you local 7-11).

Originally Posted by Curlyminx

I understand completely. When a woman steps outside someone else's comfort zone, she's "not a lady." I often think that it's impossible to be simultaneously female and adult without incurring someone's criticism.

I'd really like to know how Humpy Leg Neighbor gets her money. She doesn't work, she claims she's too ill. But she's not on disability.

I probably wouldn't care if she didn't claim poverty. She claims poverty and yet:
1) Is staying in her apartment when our landlord just raised her rent to $1700 a month.
2) Bought her Subaru outback with cash because she doesn't believe in car payments.
3) Just paid 4500 dollars to the Nigerian doctor for more herbs. (which I call Nigerian toilet water because I picture a bunch of Nigerian teenagers pretending to be her "so knowledgeable, kind, caring Dr. Ibrahim" whilst scooping water out of a toilet and mailing it to her for $4500.

I'd really like to know how Humpy Leg Neighbor gets her money. She doesn't work, she claims she's too ill. But she's not on disability.

I probably wouldn't care if she didn't claim poverty. She claims poverty and yet:
1) Is staying in her apartment when our landlord just raised her rent to $1700 a month.
2) Bought her Subaru outback with cash because she doesn't believe in car payments.
3) Just paid 4500 dollars to the Nigerian doctor for more herbs. (which I call Nigerian toilet water because I picture a bunch of Nigerian teenagers pretending to be her "so knowledgeable, kind, caring Dr. Ibrahim" whilst scooping water out of a toilet and mailing it to her for $4500.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

Alimony? Rich uncle?

Originally Posted by LadyV69

that's what she wants you to think. something innocnet like that. but no you gots to dig deeper!

does she go on long trips places? do you see you with suspicious looking people? people coming and going at late hours in the night? does she have a pager? there's only a few types of folks who may cash for cars. but have no job.

Turned into: Stop by Target and see if they have the quilt I want since I have $10 off.

Then turned into: Stop by Starbucks on the way out because I can get a free tall macchiato.

As I pulled into Target I was dead set on ONLY looking to see if they had the quilt and if not I figured I could actually pull a Rou and walk out of Target without buying anything! It happened as soon as I walked in the door, I saw the jewelry and rememberd I saw pretty earrings on a blog the other day she got there. So I had to browse that and of course found two pair I like. Since it's right around the corner from lingerie I figured what the hell, let me look at bras and oh my freakin' WORD I found a bra at Target that fit. WTF! This goes against everything I've ever believed, how did that happen.

Got sidetracked in the shoe section, but thankfully didn't find anything. Finally made it over to the bedding and YES, they have the quilt in the right size and the only one left. Good mercy get me the hell outta here.

Side question: Do y'all actually test out nail polish on your nails before buying it? I was buying tweezers and there was a lady testing nail polish on her nails. I'm not sure why, but it kinda grossed me out. What if she's got some funky nail fungus and now she's put it in that bottle? Is that even possible??

Originally Posted by spring1onu

You just described my visits to Target!

No, I do not try out nail polish before buying. Ewww. That just skeeves me out!

I'd really like to know how Humpy Leg Neighbor gets her money. She doesn't work, she claims she's too ill. But she's not on disability.

I probably wouldn't care if she didn't claim poverty. She claims poverty and yet:
1) Is staying in her apartment when our landlord just raised her rent to $1700 a month.
2) Bought her Subaru outback with cash because she doesn't believe in car payments.
3) Just paid 4500 dollars to the Nigerian doctor for more herbs. (which I call Nigerian toilet water because I picture a bunch of Nigerian teenagers pretending to be her "so knowledgeable, kind, caring Dr. Ibrahim" whilst scooping water out of a toilet and mailing it to her for $4500.

Originally Posted by Springcurl

Alimony? Rich uncle?

Originally Posted by LadyV69

that's what she wants you to think. something innocnet like that. but no you gots to dig deeper!

does she go on long trips places? do you see you with suspicious looking people? people coming and going at late hours in the night? does she have a pager? there's only a few types of folks who may cash for cars. but have no job.