Fair point and people do ask, but that doesn't mean they understand or want to try.

I'm reminded of a conversation with my father who was astounded that I don't take offence at all and at the end - after i'd calmly explained that words are just words and pride can make us hurt ourselves etc - he just said "well, i can't do that"

You know what, I find that the less you speak the more people calm down, it's like, if you're there with a smile on and just let them vent, they'll eventually calm down or at least calm down enough to listen, if you know what i mean?

Or you need to take a chill pill and realise things are really that simple and blowjobs are part of the sexual fun between people in a relationship. It's not sexist in the least. If it was a dude preparing food for his girlfriend and used the same wording, he'd probably get a similar comment. But even if he wouldn't, this is still not sexist, brah, calm your tits!