"I like to date married men!" (NOT ME!)

Heard an interesting/disturbing (?) segment on Z100 yesterday while driving to work and incidentally realizing there was baby food or something baby'ish on my bracelet (a wooden, turquoise #).

"I like to date married men," Maria, a caller, said.

She defended her stance in saying that "it works for her," since she's "not into commitment," especially after her own marriage failed. The Z-morning zoo entertained both sides. John Bell said Maria is not responsible for the guy's wife and Carolina said, yes she is--that it's a moral responsibility. My opinion: I know a lot of SINGLE guys not into commitment and I think Maria is wrong to knowingly have relations with married men--some of which she admitted were fathers. I also think the men who are CHEATING on their wives are equally at fault. A million years ago before I was a "mum" and even met JD's "father," I dated a guy who claimed he didn't have a girlfriend. Then his GIRLFRIEND saw a text from me and called me a whore. Seriously ladies, can we band together on this. Why was I at fault when YOUR BOYFRIEND claimed you didn't exist? I did feel bad. For her. She deserves a man. Not a lying boy.

Now, let's face it--some marriages have "agreements." Some people "swing." But, today's blog isn't about those situations. It's not even about the cheating husbands. It's about the woman on the radio yesterday who knowingly dates married men (your husband, the father of your kids) and sees *no *wrong it. Honestly feels she doesn't have the potential to breakup a marriage or scar a child. I'm not married, but I respect the institution as a sacred one. I also think you have to work at it. Care for it like a growing plant. When you stop watering it--it dies.

How do you feel about "Marias?" Does she owe the unassuming wife anything? Or is it the cheating husband's problem? Really excited for your feedback on this. I had this convo with one of the aunts and she said it's totally the husband's issue--he's the one with the ring--not the woman (I kind of agree). God Father Carlo thinks women who knowingly date married men with children are "whores & life ruiners." I kind of agree. In a perfect world "I do," doesn't mean "I don't." This is going to be touchy today, I think. I imagine some of us will have very personal anecdotes attached to our comments. Sound off.