Wednesday, May 23, 2012

why are you not pregnant?

So it’s been almost 4 months of marriage! And of course the why are you not pregnant / are you pregnant matter is popping up already?
Last weekend one of my best friend / maid of honor got married, I happened to be sitting on the same table with my mother and we had this conversation:

Mum: How are you now how is the hubs? Why dint he come for the wedding?
Me: He is fine, mummy, he is out of town, work!
Mum: Ok, are you pregnant?
Me: What? No! why? Do I look pregnant?
Mum: No! just that it’s been almost 4 months already
Me: ah, ok, we don’t plan to have kids now, I told you na! maybe next year
Mum: I reject it for you, what do you mean?
Me: We are not ready jo, emotionally or financially, besides we are enjoying our alone time
Mum: Alone time? what does that mean? Better do this thing now, that I’m around to help you
Me: you are just 51! Mummy, where do you plan on going, that you won’t be around to help me
Mum: DO it now oooooooooooooooo! It’s too risky to wait. you can have one, then rest
Me: Mummy, leave me alone jo, dint I tell you I was going for interviews, I’m about to change jobs, who would hire me if I’m pregnant
Mum: I hear you o! but family over career. Hope you ar not taking pills? My hand is not there o!
Me: o lawd, mummy! I'm not taking pills let me go and dance in with the bride

ESCAPE!!!!!

Last month, my mother in law was returning to America, she stays 6 months there and 6 months here, at the airport, she cornered me to have this conversation:
MIL: Better do quick and come to America to give birth now that I’m still there o, so I can help you
Me: Ok ma
MIL: All that one my son is saying, next year or 2 years’ time, don’t listen to him o! as women we have our ways, just do what you need to do. Once it has entered it has entered
Me: Ok ma, safe journey

39 comments:

lwkm............mothers enn.before marriage, its "you better marry now, so that people wont start talking"after marriage, " have kids now so ill see my grandkids"after first kid, "have more now, and rest later"you can never satisfy them

LOL, thank God its only the mothers that are on your case. Some ppl arent that lucky - Aunties, mums friends and even distant friends all lend their voices to the 'when e go be' cry! My friend and her hubby wanted to wait a while b4 having kids like this too until my friend got this in church from one of her church girlsChurch Gal - Babe how far na, anything yetMy friend - We still dey take our time.Church mate - una dey take una time? When ur husband stomach dey grow instead of ur own!

That was it. Her resolve broke. My friend took in th very next month!

When it comes to marriage and pregnancy, everybody dey get wetin to contribute. mtchewww

Babe, i tagged u over at my blog. Hop over there and check it out, will ya?

I can tell you for free "the have one and rest" line is a Scam!!!My mum said the same thing to me and she has been BUGGING my life since my son turned 9months.i told her i amw waiting till he's 2 and she drops lines every now and then!!i even told her i want jus 2 kids so why the hurry and she's rejecting 2kids for meas if she'll be the one to send them to school...lol

Mothers will always be mothers. Sometimes i wonder if i will end up like that. I hope to be more sensitive. Sometimes that question evokes so much pain especially for the one who has been trying to no avail.

Hmmmph that question. I heard it too many times. After a while, people gave up on me. Lol. There's always so much pressure from parents etc and it's so sad when there are so many people who even want kids but are finding it difficult to have them.

O lawd!!!! I remember clearly the last time I was on your blog it was about you just getting married so when I saw the title of your blog I did a double take! Are you serious!? I am so not looking forward to that! Goodluck with shielding all the comments.

he!he!!he!!!get used to it and develop a thick skin towards the question, dont bother urself at all...dats d truth!!! after u've had one,they will start hounding u once d baby is 9mths for the next one.

me i have had one, and i am resting and deres nothing anyone can do abt it!!!!