Please let us know how the Johnny Vixskin dildo works for you. I suspect the physical qualities of the material matter a lot. Even the various silicone dildos we have vary tremendously in feel for me and controllability, from my wife's POV. I think the huge variety on the market is in part due to the huge variability among users. Too bad it's a trial and error process. The costs can add up fast.

Still waiting for Johnny vixskin,maybe tomorrow.From the introduction movies i've seen it's seems an amazing product,softer than TantusO2.Maybe easier for anal play?Still having problems to enter the Tantus past my inner ring but i am very glad i bought this dildo.This is high quality product,like i hope the vixskin will be.Putting the progasm in is no trouble at all,maybe i don't get the Tantus slik enough to put it in.Is shea butter wrong,is there better for pegging?

I would like to find a a smaller diameter dido, current dildo 1 1/4 " , would like a 3/4" silicone. I just would like something smaller to get warmed up for a bigger one. I see the pics of guys handling HUGE dildos and I cringe. Just wish to feel not quite so full. Wife suggested pegging me the other night and seeing her get harnessed up was really incredible, I am blessed and I know it!

argyle - Tantus makes a 3/4"Tantus Silk Small Silicone DildoAnd btw - many (porn) videos with guys handling huge ones? They are on muscle relaxers. Not saying you can't take huge ones eventually if you want to - but it's not realistic in porn.

valliant - shea butter is only contraindicated with latex condoms, so I wouldn't say it's "wrong". but if you want to try something different and see if it helps, get a sample size of a few kinds and check them out. My personal 2 favorites are Maximus and Boy Butter H2O.

NL:For 12 years before I used aneros I experimented with dildos and anal play. Nothing I tried ever did anything for me. It wasn't until I stumbled into prostate massagers that I got pleasurable response. The trigger of P massage opened the channels for pleasurable response from all the muscles and nerve systems in my rectum. This is the heart of the whole rewiring concept. I am now inerved so that the entire canal is capable of giving me pleasure. However I have not revisited the dildo - pegging thing yet. My lady has toyed with the idea on a few occassions over the years of using a dildo on me . . . but we haven't tried. Sometime soon we may.

The answer to your question (I think) is not in the structure of the anal canal or the shape of the dildo as much as it is in rewiring and training the nerves there to respond to pleasure and stimulation.

I'm sure there are more experienced peggers here than I. Nonetheless, based on about 8 months of experience with it, my answers are...

1. About shape of dildo and rectum; yes, there's an optimal combo for each man. Some guys will need a very curved dildo, others will be fine with one that's perfectly straight. I like a slight curve.

2. Bottom or top? Yes, that matters a lot, as does the angle of approach. I like being on top, leaning back against my wife's legs which are bent, feet flat, knees high. On the other hand, she gets the most out of the double dildo when I'm flat on my face and she's in a kind of jockey position on top. That's not so great for me; still good.

3. Size of the dildo matters? Sure does. Both the girth and the length are important. For me, 7 inches in length is maximum before it hits the wall where my rectum turns. The feeling of the dildo banging on that wall is not fun. Since the anus must remain stretched open the whole time, the degree of stretch affects comfort. I can get comfortable up to about 1.75 inches in diameter. Beyond that, the stretching feeling interferes with the pleasurable effects and I can't orgasm.

As bigguy noted above, none of these factors matters much if the man isn't tuned into anal pleasure in the first place. I doubt pegging is something a guy can enjoy from a cold start. Aneros training set me up for pegging though I'm sure there are other anal erotic practices that would serve just as well.

NL - The only thing I have to add is that if the dildo has a curve to it you can turn it to target the wall of the rectum that has the prostate when you changes positions. For example, man on his hands and knees you would want to turn it so it curves down. Man on his back with legs up - turn it so it curves upward. Size, specific shape and position are all quite individual, as Dave says. have fun experimenting!

[ATTACH=CONFIG]424[/ATTACH] We head out on the town for a light dinner and some drinks. Appetizers and a glass of wine satisfy us both. Neither of us are hungry; what we will be doing later distracts us from everything else. This is our night for erotic explorations, indulging in our favorite ways of pleasing each other. But you don’t know what is under my skirt. Or what my plans are. You don’t even notice when you kiss me and run your hands over my ass as we lean against the car in the parking lot.

I take you to a park and we lay on a blanket in the cool of the moonless summer night, finding a spot where privacy is not guaranteed, but likely at this hour. The dildo is hidden in my purse along with the lube. I pull your jeans down just far enough to play with your ass. You can’t believe my fingers are inside you…here in the park. You stifle your moans just in case anyone might be walking by. The last thing you expect is that I will actually fuck you here. But your face in the blanket does not see the dildo, quickly retrieved and inserted. Just a brief pause in your reality. Then the tip is nudging against your ass and you realize what’s happening.

“Oh My God, Honey!”

I laugh soft and low as I slide into your ass. Then I pull my long skirt over us as I lay on top of you. Anyone looking would have no idea…that I am fucking you slowly and deeply in the darkness, teasing you until you spill your hot passion on the blanket beneath you. We’re a hot sticky mess on a warm summer night…spontaneity.

Ruby, I thought many of our fine gents would have said something by now, but for whatever reason, the silence persists. No more! Whoa damn girl that was hot! You know just how to write a steamy bit of erotica. From someone who has been involved in the craft for a while, that was wonderfully done! It was just the right amount of detail without going overboard. A delicious little snippet indeed! Truly a wonderful concept idea as well. It gets even better since it's from the woman's perspective. Surprise, seduction, erotic, all at once! Very nice Ruby. Very nice. If you want to share any more treasures, you have a big fan that will gladly read and flatter.

P.S.

I'm editing to add

Just a brief pause in your reality.

is a brilliant fragment. It invokes so many ideas of fantasy bending into reality and unlimited possibilities. I once read that true erotica is the precise moment where temptation and buildup give in to release. This sentence is that moment. It's the realization that the possibility of what might happen is going to happen. This is a craft well done.

*Blush*Why thank you rikaaim, for all your kind words. Glad you enjoyed it! Flattery will get you everywhere...

Editing to reply rikaaim: Writing is a fascinating craft. A pleasure to hear it dissected in such an enlightening manner. The words are instinctive for me. They usually come out well...sometimes they rock.

[QUOTE=Ruby Ryder;102308]@wreckind - Vixskin dildos are one of the 2 "skin-like" dildos that I would recommend, not from personal experience but from the perspective of passing the tests of non-toxic as well as sterilizable and easy to care for. They are pricey. As far as being too realistic - that's an individual preference.

Yes, the safety is one of the main reasons why the silicone dildos should be chosen over UR3, Cyberskin etc amongst the realistic ones.

[QUOTE=Ruby Ryder;102370]@wreckind - I will chime in here and say that as a woman I have purposefully chosen dildos that were not realistic. I guess I look at it as an instrument to give my partner pleasure rather than actually having a cock. As such, why not have it be my favorite color? :-)

[QUOTE=ten_s_nut;102365]Hello, wreckind.

There has been some discussion on this site among straight guys who like pegging or would like to be pegged regarding how realistic the dildo should or should not be. The consensus seems to be that a non-realistic dildo is preferable. For me, I don't think it matters. As you can see from the pix I've posted, the ones we use are stylized penis-like objects. That's not because we purposely shied away from realism, but because we wanted silicone at a reasonable price.

I tried realistic dildos after reading several reviews from women and men about the feelings provided by all types of dildos (verdict : there is no comparison). As i favor how it feels over how it looks, i had no problem with it even being hetero. I did try others dildos in the past and finded them too much agressive. I admit that the Vixskin dildos can be considered expensive but i choose to wait some months (i discovered it few days after ordering a cyberskin one) in order to not regret anything. It seems to be very durable and looks like a very good investment.

I was able to insert it without pain this time,took it real slow.First in the shower,playing with it but did not get it in then.Afterwards i laid down and put some shea butter on the vixskin and some inside me,got it inside me very slow but without pain.Pushed it almost all the way in and let it stay there,moving it in and out is still a bit to much for now.Hopefully i get the hang of it because on an earlier session i got it just in but because it hurt i took it out and when it was out i got a wonderfull short sensation,like a quivering anus.Did that a few times with always the same sensation but had to stop because getting it in was a bit much.So for now i used the vixskin like an aneros session,relax and breath,it was a great session.I'm happy i bought this,it's a nice quality toy alongside my many aneros products.It's soft on the outside,beautiful made,when you feel it it's like a real cock even the flexibility.

Going to use it once and awhile to get familiar with the size first before atempting to pegging.Keep you posted,

Hello big jimbo - If you like the strap-on image gallery, a friend of mine has a classy tumblr blog with great pictures and fine writing: New Ryder's Strap-on Log. No relation! Or perhaps a brother from another mother or something...lol. You'll find some great stuff there.

My girlfriend enjoys watching and caressing me whilst using the progasm and loves how much pleasure it gives me.I've been curious about being pegged but never brought it up, instead hoping she would first.

Well she did, firstly mentioning she'd feel weird doing it, but now seems turned on by the idea.I've affirmed my curiosity by basically telling her it'd be amazing if SHE was giving me the pleasure the aneros gives me by fucking me.This turned her on even more. We then had a quick look for strap-on sets followed by some awesome sex. ;)

Any suggestions on what to get?

We both decided it would have to be curved to massage my prostate, not too big that she'd be frightened of hurting me and it must not look like a penis.

You can look back in this thread to see various setups couples use, including mine, which I no longer recommend. (SpareParts Joque harness and Vixen Creations N e x u s Senior Double Dildo or Feeldoe Slim -- we've used both.)

If I were buying a pegging rig now, I'd get the Outlaw Leather Annie O harness (they sell cosmetically defective ones cheap), and two single dildos: one picked by you for yourself and the other by your wife, for her. That way, the setup is optimal for both parties.

Last night we did it. :) Fueled by vodka we ventured into strapon world and it was amazing! The dildo was a bit thin and maybe a little short but still felt good. The vodka, though relaxed me, numbed the feelings slightly so only had mini-O's. We must have tried every position known to man! This morning we went at it again and was not far from cumming but was disturbed by a visitor, lol. But I was close enough and came just by concentrating on the feelings left by the fucking. Was awesome. Will probs have to invest in a larger toy as this was a beginners bit of kit, but thoroughly enjoyed my maiden voyage....and my girlfriend found it EXTREMELY horny and can't wait to do it again when the coast is clear.

Progra - Congratulations! Sounds like it went quite well for your first experience. I love that your girlfriend was turned on by pegging. Lucky you. Most people end up going right back to the toy store after breaking in the beginner's kit. Makes it tempting to tell people - Buy once and buy quality. But that's a bit of cash to drop on something you are not sure both of you are going to enjoy. Have fun selecting your new dildo! And may you have a clear coast very soon...

Had another go last weekend which reinforced the need for a bigger dildo to me.Still feels good and the amount my girlfriend gets turned on by doing me is very hot!I can tell she's hesitant in going bigger yet due to the cost of this beginner set and also I think she's worried I won't be able to take a larger dildo.I'll give it a few more sessions then push the idea more.

Congrats, Progra! You can get the feeling of a bigger dildo just by changing positions. The angle of attack counts for a lot. To try out a fatter dildo's effect without paying the price, try putting a cock sleeve on the one you have. Roll a condom over it and you're good to go. Cheers, Dave

Cheers :) Lying flat face down I've found is the best 'angle of attack'. She agreed today for us to get a bigger, more favorably angled dildo, so will be looking online together this weekend. You should see her face when I mention anything about strapon sex, she proper gets a sex face on, lol.

[QUOTE=valliant;46750]Hi there, An update on the Johnny vixskin dildo. I was able to insert it without pain this time,took it real slow. First in the shower,playing with it but did not get it in then. Afterwards i laid down and put some shea butter on the vixskin and some inside me,got it inside me very slow but without pain. Pushed it almost all the way in and let it stay there,moving it in and out is still a bit to much for now. Hopefully i get the hang of it because on an earlier session i got it just in but because it hurt i took it out and when it was out i got a wonderfull short sensation,like a quivering anus. Did that a few times with always the same sensation but had to stop because getting it in was a bit much. So for now i used the vixskin like an aneros session,relax and breath,it was a great session. I'm happy i bought this,it's a nice quality toy alongside my many aneros products. It's soft on the outside,beautiful made,when you feel it it's like a real cock even the flexibility. Going to use it once and awhile to get familiar with the size first before atempting to pegging. Keep you posted, I d suggest you to get, if you can, a narrower one (Mustang, Bandit, check the reviews on Eden fantasys and shevibe, for example) for the regular basis use and save the Johnny for some occasional times until you ll get used to the less girthy. You have to learn what can provide you pleasant feelings, what are the best positions, angles etc, and to achieve this goal, you have to be comfortable with it in place and movement. This one seems to be too big for you at this stage of your journey.

Gents; There seems to be a popular misconception about dick size, that bigger is always better. For anal sex, I doubt it. I get better pegging results with the Feeldoe Slim than with the Vixen Double Senior. Vaginal sex is another story entirely. I dated a small woman who was very large in that one area. Her birth control diaphragm was the size of a teacup saucer. No joke. I'm sure she would have appreciated the Johnny Vixskin. Cheers, Dave

In my experience it is quite individual. Some men really like a firmer, more rigid dildo so it hits their prostate with a bit more force. Some men hate the more firm dildos and love the softer ones. Some men enjoy girth a lot - it's what really gets them off. Others can't take the girth; it's just uncomfortable. I guess it's not a one size fits all asses kind of pegging world out there...

Ruby makes a good point. Does every woman like the exact same penis style? It's all about personal taste. Aside from the Feeldo or Fun Factory's Share, what are some other models that give back to the woman also? I know when my girl used the strap-on, she said it was too much work for her to not get anything in return. Are there harness style models that have insertion for the woman also?

Hello, Rika. There's one harness that will hold any two flare-base dildos: Annie O by Outlaw Leather. That way, your girl can pick the dildo she likes best, with or without a vibe, and you can do the same. You might want a 7 by 1.5 and she might want a 9 by 2, or vice versa. :) Cheers, Dave

rikaaim - Regarding Dave's suggestion of Outlaw Leather's harnesses (which all hold 2 dildos) they seem to be out of stock everywhere and not much action on the website - I wrote and asked them if they are still manufacturing and have yet to hear back. The only place I found them was at the Smitten Kitten online (and you can get 20% off with promo code RAD). I have the Annie O and enjoy using a vibe dildo (Vixen Creations Champlette Vibe which is 6" x 1 5/8"). I'm still working towards having an orgasm while pegging, but the vibe is definitely a thrill. Another thought is the Spare Parts Joque harness. The newer models have a pocket for a bullet vibe to slip into that might work well if she is more clit-oriented than G-spot-oriented. And the Spare Parts harness is ultimately comfortable and washable, too. Best price for that is probably SheVibe.com. Just make sure you get the one with the pocket, as the older models of the Joque don't have it.

Had mini-o after mini-o, was fantastic. She's so into it, directs the position changes and knows when to grind or when to thrust hard. Enjoying immensely.This was topped off by me enjoying my Progasm the following morning whilst she teased and sucked my nipples.Bliss.

I was going to post this in my blog, but it will not let me.Some problem from that hacking I suppose.Some miserable people with little to do.Anyway here it is.

Life can indeed be a unpredictable thing.

Last year when the wife arrived back from her "Travels"the Aneros and anything like it was a gay thing.

This year on her return the situation had changed.On a few occasions there was a wandering digit.Eventually it was inserted during a blow job.

She told me she had been to a sex shop with a friend and had seen a harness.This reminded her of our purple toy(Feeldoe)Where was it ?Where you left it dear.

A few days later she decided to shave me from front to rear.Me being on all fours at the completion, contact !!!!!!

A rimming followed, wow!!!!!!!!!!

Was there more ?

The purple toy was introduced.

To cut a long story short I finished up on my back well penetrated.There was a vibrating hum in the crown of my head.I had experienced this before.What followed was something new.

The vibrating hum spread to both hands, quite a strong sensation.Then lower arms, then both lips, then jaw muscles.Finally finishing down my right leg to my foot.Very strange feeling.It continued for over an hour at a strong rate.

I felt unwilling/unable to move during this time.I just lay there humming.It was not some "O" just a transfer of energy.

When I finally had to move things were a bit unsteady.The sensation in my hands disappeared over a few hours.

A milestone in my journey. Few and far between.Also she has discovered my nipples.

After reading this thread for two years I finally got up the nerve to ask my wife to peg me. She agreed to try it without hesitation. Wish I would have asked earlier. Before I pull the trigger on the equipment I wanted to get opinions from the experts. I originally wanted to purchase the Outlaw Annie-O but can't find it in stock anywhere. The model that I'm considering now is the Asian Leather Jaguar. For the business end I'm considering the Vixen Mistress. From what I read so far on this thread it seems like both choices are acceptable for the beginner but just wanted to get a second or third opinion.Thanks,N

Like your own wife, there are probably a lot of GFs and wives of guys here who would agree to try pegging if asked. I understand how difficult making the request can be. Frankly, I didn't have the nerve to ask; I just handed the thing to her and said something along the lines of, "how about trying this?" Stupid tactic, I know. Fortunately for me, my wife was willing.

The Aslan Jaguar is a very luxurious harness, good choice. It sits low (good for pressure on her where it counts), will accommodate the dildo you selected as well as larger diameter ones (up to 2" which is pretty freaking large), plus it can accommodate a double-ended dildo if you want to try that in the future (fun for later but not for the beginner).

The Vixen Mistress I think is perfectly sized for the beginner. And having used it on a few (ahem) "beginners", I know of what I speak. It is long enough so that you can try different positions without it falling out, too.

Dave and Ruby, Thanks for your quick response. Before purchasing the Aslan harness I showed it to my wife one more time to make sure she liked it. She commented that she really liked the look of the Annie-O. So, I did one more internet search. As luck would have it I found a site, FB Botique, that had five Annie-Os in stock (now four). I read great things about Outlaw harnesses; ufortunately, I was told that they are going out of business. Now I know why I had so much trouble finding one. Their website is still up so perhaps they are hoping that someone will buy the business.

Dave,Three days after we received the new equipment my wife texted a picture to me while I was at work. She was wearing nothing but the Outlaw Annie-0 and the Vixen Mistress. The caption under the picture read "I'm ready are you?". My response "hell yeah!"

Ok, now for the details. Since it was her first time she decided to keep things simple and only used one dildo. At her request we started out doggie style. We quickly discovered that the mechanics a woman screwing a man are not as easy as we assumed they would be. We quickly moved through several other positions including; me lying flat on my stomach, missionary and my favorite me on top.

Go figure, the best position was the one where I was in control. I'm sure the other positions will get better with time once I learn how to relax. I was able to achieve a traditional O but not because of prostate contact. I believe I cheated by using her stomach to create a little friction while I was grinding. All in all it was a wonderful experience for both of us and we are looking forward to our next adventure. I'll keep you posted.N

The Annie-O harness performed flawlessly with one dildo. I'll provide an update on how well it works with two dildos once we try that option. The only concern I have with the harness is how best to clean the leather. Another big thanks goes out to Ruby for recommending the Mistress. The size was perfect. As of now, I see no reason to go bigger.