We Are Constantly Checking Our Meshing With Others

With clients and even ALL people in our lives there is a harmony with them or a disharmony with them. Do you know in business you ought to be trying to find your IDEAL clients? Those that are a best fit for the services you provide. With friends or significant others, ideal would be people who are GOOD FOR YOU with who you are in life. With this process in mind

We Are Constantly Checking Our Meshing With Others

It truly takes time to see if the puzzle pieces or teeth on two different size gears MESH WELL together.

With all people or friends/acqaintances we will not be that PERFECT fit or even close to ideal some days, but they are still someone we can work with. That personality fit of the OTHER hopefully not you, where they say does not work or play well with others, hopefully those people are few and far between. But meshing well with others you find out about along the way. How do they operate when things go well? How do they behave when everything goes badly around them? How are their values and what is important to them match up or compare with your values and what is important to you? We don't want clones of ourselves naturally and we learn from differences and variety spices up our life. I do think sometimes it is true that opposites attract, but more importanly after that, similarities endure.

Work to mesh well yourself and seek out others who mesh well with you.

Ok, my friend, Gary, this brings about a whole myriad of thoughts pinging one to another! First, (I'll go with that and proceed along from there) I want to attract the type of clients that I want to be neighbors with, and that's quite important to me, because it IS a small community and we're in it for the long-haul, so bringing in others who can be quality people is SO important, not just selling them a property or making a seller happy that I've brought a ready-and-willing buyer to their doorstep.

Ok, next: as to spouses, significant others, etc. I recall something Whoopi Goldberg said, (not word-for-word, mind you) basically that she would never want to marry someone just like her. And I've always loved her, so if she didn't want a clone of herself, than it was okay that I didn't want someone just like me, either! I wanted those holes that I have to be filled in by my lifetime partner--and they ARE!

Which brings me to a third thought: if you have your core values in common, the rest are just details.

Gayle: Thanks for such an extensive comment. I like that last part you said about core values in common. I think that goes a long way whether people stay in your life long term or not. We do make too much of the difference details I would agree with that as well.

Sometimes we have to work with someone we don't necessarily mesh with because we still need to help... I find I work with some people I shouldn't because I know they won't get educated by someone else like I could educate them. I want all buyers and sellers to make educated decisions, and many agents don't educate.

This is a wonderful analogy and imagery. So often people try to dictate the edges and those edges can be sharp. It is a constant adjustment that is being made with daily interactions and things don't always fit until your find the connecting points. Find the connecting points and things work better. Great blog, Gary

Gary - I have a tendency to get along with everybody. Now there are times where I sell homes to people I don't want to have as my neighbor because I see their other not so nicer side. However, I'm in business to sell homes and that is my priority regardless if there is the "perfect" fit. These folks are far and few in between.

As far as my spouse and "real" friends are concerned, I concur with Gayle's comment about core values :)

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