11.17.2015

Finding A Voice 2.0

Last week I started things off with a post titled "Finding my Voice". It seemed to be fairly decent for the girl who hadn't written anything in months, but for some reason it just wasn't resonating with me. It had nothing to do with my voice not being actually found, mind you. It was more about feeling like I wasn't truly reaching the core of what had been bugging me for months. It was as if that post only scratched the surface. That I was only sharing up until a point where it felt comfortable. Not much about it felt truly authentic, which is pretty ironic considering it was suppose to be about finding my voice yet I wasn't saying what I wanted to say. With that being said (haha..like what I did there), I decided to give myself a redo. Here it goes.

When I first started my business it was branded to provide organization and event planning services to those in the Middle Tennessee area, and that is pretty much what I did. Until I didn't anymore. It wasn't that I wanted to throw in the towel on everything - in fact, it was quite the opposite. Instead I decided to leave behind the event planning, which I had done for 10 years, and take on other requests that were coming my way. My clients started asking me to housesit, check on their pets, buy their groceries, return their impulse buys, help prepare a holiday feast, and the list goes on and on. Then came the surge of clients from other states requesting my services, which still has me in awe and feeling beyond grateful for this life I get to live. In the end, everything that has been coming my way not only provides me with a way to pay my bills (pretty necessary), but it gives me the opportunity to have days that are always different than the last. While some people are shocked I can enjoy not having a set schedule, embracing it all with ease has been second nature to me. I have always been the person who adapted quickly and took on any task that presented itself. I mean, I didn't get the nickname "The Solution Girl" for nothing. After all my hard work it seemed like finally my passions had finally intersected with the paycheck.

It wasn't until a client of mine voiced her thoughts on the matter and told me that I was doing too many things and needed to narrow my focus. This floored me, because the last thing I would expect to hear from someone whose life I am organizing and whose to-do list I am handling is that I need focus. How was I to be a true "Solution Girl", if I only could be of help in a narrowed scope? Furthermore, would having a narrowly focused business really be something I wanted?

The contemplation didn't stop there, though. From that moment forward, I saw myself as lacking. In being able to provide solutions to many problems, was I actually somehow providing less than my counterparts that provide one particular service? If I wanted to write a post about a dish I cooked, did I have to turn into a food blogger? If I started doing interior design for clients, would I have to stop helping them with the organization? Would it even be possible to reach the masses if I didn't follow the "rules" setup by our society, whether that be in "real life" or social media?

It wasn't until a friend encouraged me to watch a TED talk on "multipotentialites" that I was able to answer those questions. Actually, it helped me to stop questioning myself and embrace how I was wired.

For those of you who haven't seen the talk (video above for those interested), the speaker basically explains that our culture is constantly telling us that we need to pick what we want to do and focus solely on it. That you need to have a job and stick with it. That you need to find something to focus on and put your all into it. However, she goes on to explain that not everyone is wired to thrive only focusing on one thing. That the people that society deems "without focus" are the same people who bring breath of knowledge to a project, because they have so much experience with a wide range of topics. It was like she was talking about me and what was weighing heavy on my heart, and heavy on my brand.

The moment the video ended, I could physically feel myself go from heavy to light. Not only did it make me feel as though I am not alone in my way of thinking, but it encouraged me to stop finding a voice for my business that fits someone else's framework. To be honest, I'm not sure one focus is always ideal.

You know how many times I have come in after an interior designer redid a room and shake my head because the dresser they picked, though very pretty, has zero usefulness in holding actual clothing? More than you'd guess. Or what about that time I had to go in and re-organize an entire kitchen after a client inadvertently hired a crew of housekeepers to unpack them post move. Yeah, life gets ironically messy when the cleaning products are placed in closer proximity than the silverware. Sometimes the solution is as simple as knowing that just because someone can unpack a box doesn't mean they can find the proper home for the stuff in said box.

What I am able to provide my clients is truly special. With me you get someone who can help you pick out an amazing dresser that looks pretty yet has lots of purpose, and after I coordinate the delivery of said dresser I'll organize the clothing that goes in it. Hell, I will even goes as far as to find a coupon for that pretty dresser which will save you money so you can make it rain while admiring how awesome everything looks all folded and color coordinated. When I'm done with all that, I might go home, cook myself a dairy free meal (multipotentialites are not immune to milk allergies), take a few pictures of what I just cooked, and post the recipe and pictures to my blog. Then maybe I'll even post a picture to Instagram of my feet on one of my vintage Persian rugs that I bought for a steal on eBay, because sometimes I like to be super original and take never before seen pictures of my shoes on stuff.

So basically you can plan on my voice encompassing any number of things, all of which I think you might find super useful in making life a bit easier. If not useful, then pretty. If not pretty, then maybe it will, at the very least, make you hungry. If not hungry then you don't like food as much as me, so maybe you'll just get the urge to buy a really old rug. Regardless, let's all just give thanks that my mom taught me how to speak at an appropriate volume, because my voice has a lot to say and is ready to be heard.