The Net and the Butterfly: The Art and Practice of Breakthrough Thinking

The creative mode in your brain is like a butterfly. It's beautiful and erratic, hard to catch, and highly valued as a result. If you want to capture it, you need a net. Enter the executive mode, the task-oriented network in your brain that helps you tie your shoes, run a meeting, or pitch a client. To succeed, you need both modes to work together - your inner butterfly to be active and free, but your inner net to be ready to spring at the right time and create that "aha!" moment. But is there any way to trigger these insights, beyond dumb luck?

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

What is that magic quality that makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?"

Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People

Do you wish you could decode people? Do you want to know exactly what to say to your boss, your date, or your networking partner? You need to know how people work. As a human behavior investigator, Vanessa Van Edwards studies the hidden forces that drive our behavior patterns in her lab - and she's cracked the code. In Captivate she shares a wealth of valuable shortcuts, systems, and behavior hacks for taking charge of their interactions at work, at home, and in any social situation.

The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over

The Like Switch is packed with all the tools you need for turning strangers into friends, whether you are on a sales call, a first date, or a job interview. As a Special Agent for the FBI's National Security Division's Behavioral Analysis Program, Dr. Jack Schafer developed dynamic and breakthrough strategies for profiling terrorists and detecting deception. Now, Dr. Schafer has evolved his proven-on-the-battlefield tactics for the day-to-day, but no less critical battle of getting people to like you.

The Dating Playbook For Men: A Proven 7 Step System To Go From Single To The Woman Of Your Dreams

Unveiled at last, a simple proven playbook to go from being a frustrated single man to having the woman of your dreams. A proven strategy so effective, that Andrew was scared to unveil this strategy to the world.

Never Eat Alone, Expanded and Updated: And the Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

In Never Eat Alone, Ferrazzi lays out the specific steps - and inner mindset - he uses to reach out to connect with the thousands of colleagues, friends, and associates on his contacts list, people he has helped and who have helped him. And in the time since Never Eat Alone was published in 2005, the rise of social media and new, collaborative management styles have only made Ferrazzi’s advice more essential for anyone hoping to get ahead in business.

Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

Models is the first book ever written on seduction as an emotional process rather than a logical one, a process of connecting with women rather than impressing them. It's the most mature and honest guide on how a man can attract women without faking behavior, without lying and without emulating others. A game-changer.

Conversation Casanova: How to Effortlessly Start Conversations and Flirt Like a Pro

Do you freeze up when you see an attractive girl? Do you run out of things to say? Do you struggle to attract women through conversation? It doesn't have to be this way. What if you could effortlessly strike up a conversation with any woman, at any time, in any environment? What if you knew exactly how to keep the conversation going (so you never ran out of things to say)? What if you could command women's attention and instantly connect with them? What if you could turn any conversation from boring to sexual?

Mind Hacking: How to Change Your Mind for Good in 21 Days

Have you ever wished you could reprogram your brain, just as a hacker would a computer? In this three-step guide to improving your mental habits, learn to take charge of your mind and banish negative thoughts, habits, and anxiety - in just 21 days!

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

Influence, the classic book on persuasion, explains the psychology of why people say yes - and how to apply these understandings. Dr. Robert Cialdini is the seminal expert in the rapidly expanding field of influence and persuasion. His 35 years of rigorous, evidence-based research, along with a three-year program of study on what moves people to change behavior, has resulted in this highly acclaimed book. You'll learn the six universal principles, how to use them to become a skilled persuader - and how to defend yourself against them.

What Every BODY Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People

Listen to this book and send your nonverbal intelligence soaring. Joe Navarro, a former FBI counterintelligence officer and a recognized expert on nonverbal behavior, explains how to "speed-read" people: decode sentiments and behaviors, avoid hidden pitfalls, and look for deceptive behaviors. You'll also learn how your body language can influence what your boss, family, friends, and strangers think of you.

Grow Up: A Man's Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence

Grow Up: A Man's Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence appeals to men who want more out of life and their partners who often are the ones to encourage them to change. The book comes out of years of working with men and developing free men's groups. The recently released film About Men documents the power of one of these groups.

Chatter: Small Talk, Charisma, and How to Talk to Anyone, The People Skills & Communication Skills You Need to Win Friends and Get Jobs

Chatter will show you step by step how to become the person who can build intimate rapport with anyone they meet, expertly work a room, win instant friends, and project a winning image that people will flock to. This isn’t a book of one-liner conversation topics and generic "you can do it" tips that other books would have you believe will make you successful. Through my 20 Chatter principles, you will learn to master skills that will make you shine in everyday interactions.

Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It

After a stint policing the rough streets of Kansas City, Missouri, Chris Voss joined the FBI, where his career as a hostage negotiator brought him face-to-face with a range of criminals, including bank robbers and terrorists. Reaching the pinnacle of his profession, he became the FBI's lead international kidnapping negotiator. Never Split the Difference takes you inside the world of high-stakes negotiations and into Voss' head.

The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage

How to enrich your life and destroy doubt in five seconds. Throughout your life, you've had parents, coaches, teachers, friends, and mentors who have pushed you to be better than your excuses and bigger than your fears. What if the secret to having the confidence and courage to enrich your life and work is simply knowing how to push yourself?

Does your mind blank in conversation and create awkward silence? Do you run out of things to say and struggle to keep dialogue flowing? (A) Conversation isn't scripted, (B) it's 100% unpredictable, and (C) it can be terrifying at times. How do you prepare for such a thing? By learning how to apply improv comedy techniques to roll with any punch and improve your conversations and social interactions.

The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It

Based on Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal's wildly popular course The Science of Willpower,The Willpower Instinct is the first book to explain the new science of self-control and how it can be harnessed to improve our health, happiness, and productivity. Informed by the latest research and combining cutting-edge insights from psychology, economics, neuroscience, and medicine, The Willpower Instinct explains exactly what willpower is, how it works, and why it matters.

Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges

Brilliantly researched, impassioned, and accessible, Presence is filled with stories of individuals who learned how to flourish during the stressful moments that once terrified them. Every listener will learn how to approach their biggest challenges with confidence instead of dread, and to leave them with satisfaction instead of regret.

The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

The Introvert Advantage dispels common myths about introverts - they’re not necessarily shy, aloof, or antisocial - and explains how they are hardwired from birth to focus inward, so outside stimulation such as chitchat, phone calls, parties, or office meetings can easily become "too much". Most importantly, it thoroughly refutes many introverts’ belief that something is wrong with them. Instead, it helps them recognize their inner strengths - their analytical skills, ability to think outside the box, and strong powers of concentration.

The Art of Extraordinary Confidence: Your Ultimate Path to Love, Wealth, and Freedom

Confidence is the doorway to success in all areas of life. Whether you want to excel in your career, triple your income, create an amazing relationship, or just feel happy and satisfied with who you are, self-confidence is essential. In this inspiring and liberating book, Dr. Aziz slices through each obstacle on the path towards ever-increasing confidence.

Some of what you'll learn in Texting Titan!: texting and language patterns most men don't know, see, understand, or even know exist; why texting is more complicated today and how it can screw you over; the correct approach, psychology, and strategy when texting; what your goal of texting should be and why you need lots of practice texting women; and much more.

Laugh Tactics: Master Conversational Humor and Be Funny on Command

Laugh Tactics is full of strategies that dissect, break down, and analyze all of the types of humor that you'll encounter in daily conversation - stuff you can really use with people you talk to. We're not all trying to become standup comedians, and this isn't a book about ha-ha jokes with setups and punch lines. Learn to simply make a better impression on people, put them at ease, charm them, and make them smile with you.

Publisher's Summary

What if charisma could be taught? For the first time, science and technology have taken charisma apart, figured it out and turned it into an applied science: In controlled laboratory experiments, researchers could raise or lower people's level of charisma as if they were turning a dial. What you'll find here is practical magic: unique knowledge, drawn from a variety of sciences, revealing what charisma really is and how it works. You'll get both the insights and the techniques you need to apply this knowledge. The world will become your lab, and every person you meet, a chance to experiment.

The Charisma Myth is a mix of fun stories, sound science, and practical tools. Cabane takes a hard scientific approach to a heretofore mystical topic, covering what charisma actually is, how it is learned, what its side effects are, and how to handle them.

Please note: The accompanying workbook for this title is available at AskOlivia.com/book/exercises/.

What the Critics Say

"Fox Cabane's distinct writing style...makes listening to each chapter both informational and fun. Each exercise is practical and easy...If you are interested in increasing your ability to be charismatic in your unique setting or employment, this audiobook will give you direct skills to use" (PsychologyToday.com )

My library includes some 700 books, many about similar topics. This book is near the top. The central message of this book is that you must control your internal monologue to be effective in interpersonal interactions. The book had just the right amount of scientific data to keep a scientist interested, and just enough animated discussion to make it a delightful page turner.

I have been working on my internal monologue for many years, so this book came a bit late for me. But for those who suffer from brain ANTS (automatic negative thoughts), I recommend first that you read Feel The Fear and Do it Anyway, then this book and you will be much more effective in your daily life.

This book is fantastic! I am going to listen to it 2 or 3 more times there are so many suggestions to work on. The ideas presented are easy to understand and the things that the author suggest doing are all essentially 'simple'. You just might need to be a little brave with some of them, but mostly it is just remembering what to do. It will feel funny at first, but then it quickly becomes second nature. I have started with a few of the techniques and it is having a noticeable impact on my life in just a few weeks. I am more confident and better able to communicate with people. The narration was well done and a pleasure to listen to. I recommend this book to anyone who can't understand why no one will listen to them.

It is apparently a deep, dark secret that Audible doesn't wish us to know, but in spite of their failure to provide a pdf to accompany this book, the author herself does so on her website. She provides a free 10 page pdf "workbook" with the information that other reviewers lamented the lack of. I found this through a google search on the book's title and posted the url in a review I submitted previously. Audible did not see fit to publish that review (deep, dark secrets, I'm telling you), but I'm trying again. Google it for yourself, but be sure to select the link that lists 'Workbook and Audio files" (easy, Audible, it's not the audiobook) since I couldn't find it when I selected the link to her homepage.

As I said, my previous review, created specifically to provide this information, was quashed by Audible censors, but here we go again. Do your worst Audible.

If you want to know what makes charismatic people tick, then I guarantee you find this book interesting and informative. The Charisma Myth is a thought-provoking, well-researched book on what charisma is, broken down into its key components.

As I listened to this book, I found myself creating bookmarks and rewinding sections to listen to them again. I have always been interested in charisma and, before reading this book, I was sure that those who had it just came with it. However, I quickly learned that this idea was false when the author began introducing simple things you can do to instantly raise your own charisma. When I finished listening to the audio, I wanted to immediately pick up the hard-copy so I could highlight sections and use it for later reference.

While it should be noted that this book is not introducing anything brand new, it is not a book which is just reiterating points from a few other recently written books at all. This is the first book on Charisma I have read which successfully brings together countless concepts from other books and scientific articles; everything from Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” to articles in the Leadership Quarterly on “Charisma, Positive Emotions and Mood Contagion.”

The good and bad thing about this audiobook is that the most important tips & techniques are given right away, at the beginning. The descriptions of charisma as "warmth, presence, and power" were extremely helpful. I think about that all the time now. But the rest of the audio was basic, such as how to make eye contact, listen, and shake hands. Scattered throughout, there were some good tips on monitoring the pace and intonation of your voice. I just wish there had been more elaborate descriptions on how people perceive one another and maybe subtleties within the three "warmth, presence, power"... She does discuss combinations of the 3 and encourages people to make use of their "natural" talents rather than feeling like they have to be all things to all people.

I LOVE the information in here, only problem is she did not include a PDF and if you really want to work the teachings in this book you need the chart and graphs she refers too. I eneded up frustrated because I wanted to get maximum benefit from the fabulous information in this book but was limited without the visual aids. It is VERY good, even just to listen too, and interesting but wish she had of included a PDF. :(

Would you try another book from Olivia Fox Cabane and/or Lisa Cordileione?

Firs the best part of this book - the title - great title!However... I ignored what many reviews said - but its true - this book constantly refers to the lessons - from the print version - but the audio or the website has no support for the lessons. So you are left with a big bag of lessons and points in every chapter to act on right away - ( the author attempts to guilt you into doing the lessons - and thats fine - IF the format of audio book took that into consideration.)Different formats need specific producers. You will hear over and over " just look at the lesson below and start now..." as you are driving down the highway. The reader read a verbate of the book - how she did this knowing the use of her reading seems beyond me. But thats a small irritant compared to the book in any form. I have found great inspiration and life changing movement from many 'self help' books. This is not one of them, It has every overused generalized cliche from feel your angel wings to strut like a general. And I lost count at 147 points you should try and use every day.. I needed a book of crib notes for the book.It respectfully has a few good points in chapter 8 - that should be THE CHARISMA LEAFLET. But I had to wade through HOURS and HOURS of superlative drivel to get there.Its unfair to ask Audible for a refund but I would love the author to personally write me a check for the cost of the book and the cost of my time.

What do you think your next listen will be?

IF the author goes back to square one, started from chapter 8, sticks to the topic and goes MUCH deeper, and more authentically and then cuts out ALL the self help 101 - i would consider it. But with a title like this and then to deliver the kitchen sink of beginners self help was very iratating .

How could the performance have been better?

It should not have occurred

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Pain, disappointment etc., As my nephew said about a bad movie " Well thats ( in my case) 12 hours i'll never get back"

Any additional comments?

Please Audible - make sure the contents are specifically supported in the audio format, I have never written a negative review of a book here or on Amazon - but this book needs serious curation at many levels.

Periodically I try to throw a self-improvement book into my mix of books. I don't always review these books because it doesn't seem fair to rate them the same way I do all the other books I read- based on their entertainment value. They aren't "page-turners", and I can put them down. Since this is now the sale book of the day I will throw out my two-cents on it.

The author is very knowledgeable, and presents a lot of new, useful information. I plan to listen to this book again in the future because it does contain a lot of ideas I believe can make a difference in my life. It seems like many self-help books have one or two good ideas, and they keep going over them again and again for the duration of the book. That is not the case here, Cabane's ideas don't repeat, and the stories and examples she discusses make the book fun to listen to.

If this topic sounds interesting to you, I would really recommend listening to this book.

Where does The Charisma Myth rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

I have only listened to dale carnegies "How to win friends and influence people" and I got a lot of good information from that book. This one is more along the lines of your own personal character and how you handle situations. Some very good information in this book!

What about Lisa Cordileione’s performance did you like?

Lisa's voice is captivating and really kept me intrigued. I will listen to books just knowing she is the narrator.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from The Charisma Myth?

This book gave a lot of good guidance on how to handle yourself, how to prep yourself mentally, emotionally and even physically.