Have you ever noticed how some people who are very jolly and funny, the life of the party, also have another side? It seems the two actor masks really do go together and that one must spend an equal amount of time with each extreme; unless one is more balanced, with equanimity.

Have you ever noticed how some people who are very jolly and funny, the life of the party, also have another side? It seems the two actor masks really do go together and that one must spend an equal amount of time with each extreme; unless one is more balanced, with equanimity.

It's also important to balance upekkha with the 3 other brahmaviharas. When done skillfully that can help bring one to a much brighter & balanced happiness, yes?

"As Buddhists, we should aim to develop relationships that are not predominated by grasping and clinging. Our relationships should be characterised by the brahmaviharas of metta (loving kindness), mudita (sympathetic joy), karuna (compassion), and upekkha (equanimity)."~post by Ben, Jul 02, 2009

christopher::: wrote:It's also important to balance upekkha with the 3 other brahmaviharas. When done skillfully that can help bring one to a much brighter & balanced happiness, yes?

Good point! Otherwise, one might end up with indifference, the near enemy of equanimity.

exactly!

"As Buddhists, we should aim to develop relationships that are not predominated by grasping and clinging. Our relationships should be characterised by the brahmaviharas of metta (loving kindness), mudita (sympathetic joy), karuna (compassion), and upekkha (equanimity)."~post by Ben, Jul 02, 2009

Have you ever noticed how some people who are very jolly and funny, the life of the party, also have another side? It seems the two actor masks really do go together and that one must spend an equal amount of time with each extreme; unless one is more balanced, with equanimity.

It's also important to balance upekkha with the 3 other brahmaviharas. When done skillfully that can help bring one to a much brighter & balanced happiness, yes?

And vice versa....metta without upekkha becomes sentimental identification with the other.They all hang together.

Bhikkhus, if you develop and make much this one thing, it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction. What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One. If this single thing is recollected and made much, it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.Anguttara-Nikaya: Ekanipata: Ekadhammapali: PañhamavaggaVSMVMMWBBTBHTWTBTMy Page