Tag: African woman

By Kagure Mugo The key stipulation to being awarded a university bursary is being, and remaining, a virgin throughout your undergraduate degree. This is one of the initiatives being used to combat the high prevalence of HIV Aids in Kwa-Zulu Natal, South Africa. In uThukela District Municipality matriculants (high school leavers) are being offered Maiden Bursary […]

By Dyke Road/ @dykeroadbaby And after its all over, things start to happen differently. Things happen exactly as you wanted them to before it was over. Never mind packing up and moving out being the official goodbye. Staying in touch is cordial and falling into old habits easier. New behaviours, because maybe the goodbye didn’t […]

By Kagure Mugo Faking orgasms is a disservice to society. Why give a standing ovation when the play is bad? These were the musings during my first year of university when I contemplated sex and orgasms. This thinking did not stop me doing it years later, but then again, everyone knows taking one’s own advice […]

By Nomaliqhwa/ @nomalili I think that I was taught to dislike my mother at a very young age and without question I accepted it. I would compete with my mother for my father and my brother’s attention, to be the ‘female voice of reason’ in the house. Because she would travel and work until late hours […]

By Afrofiend When I was younger, my mother chastised me for walking around naked. She called me a little exhibitionist, said she had never known anyone as inclined to exhibiting their nudity as I was. And why of course she hadn’t, she was born in the sixties and grew up in conservative Christianity. She wouldn’t […]

By Ola Osaze Trigger warning: sexual assault I am 12 years old. In the morning, I go to school. Dad leaves for his big oga job at the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation and mom goes to yell and scream at the construction workers building her Mona Lisa Hotel on the outskirts of Warri, the town where […]

By Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah/ @nas009 In an ideal, utopian, feminist world, sex with a feminist will be different, better, more intense, more orgasmic, and just more of all the good stuff that comes with sex – connection, intimacy, fun, laughter, sweat, bodily fluids…you get the picture? And the feminist(s) involved in this act of sexing could be […]

Everyone has things they hate about their job and things that they love, because I am a stripper this is no different. Here is a short list of things that make my job awesome and things that make it awful. Here is the list in no particular order of importance. What I love about working […]

By Thenjiwe/ @TeaJay_001 In the book, Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde, the introduction speaks of Lorde’s interlocking struggle of being black, a mother to two sons, and a lesbian. Re-reading this introduction, this was as far as I could go. Perhaps, it was because as I write this I am feeling exceptionally fragile. I still fail to find the […]

By Hephzibah My playground Let me try paint for you how amazing this industry can be when you work in an environment that makes you feel empowered. I am personally impressed with how our club takes care of the girls, especially the foreign nationals. Our managers go out of their way to help the girls […]