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Hi everyone,
Every time I create a new notebook it automatically shares it with girlfriend, even though I choose "private" when creating. This means I have to into the share options and change it from public to private every time I make a note if I dont want it shared with my GF. Thats frustrating enough, but she also get an email saying ive shared when i havnt. Its very confusing and irritating
Ive tried to find a setting that deals with this, but with no joy.
I dont recall ever choosing the option TBH.
Has anyone had similar and able to help me out?
Thanks in advance!!
Best
Joel