Blog | I AM & CO®https://iamandco.com/blog/Mon, 21 Jan 2019 17:25:05 +0000en-USSite-Server v6.0.0-16734-16734 (http://www.squarespace.com)I AM &amp; CO is a self care destination for modern women. Read our incredible <br/>stories and articles about women discovering themselves, their <br/>spirituality, their interests, and more feel-good moments.Why New Year Affirmations Feel Better Than ResolutionsHealthBrittani SamuelMon, 21 Jan 2019 17:41:20 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/new-year-affirmations54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c4600716d2a73efe1e73be8While new year resolutions focus on achieving something lest feeling
failure, new year affirmations are all about focusing on how you feel.

New year, new me, right? At least that is what I always end up telling myself at the top of every new year. Right in that sweet spot of time where everything feels joyous, everyone seems loving, and anything seems possible.

In my experience, it is very easy to let the idiosyncrasies of life drive me away from my beginning-of-the-year resolutions which, at some point or another, get completely abandoned altogether. This year I am ready for a change.

A friend recently asked me why it is that I make New Year's resolutions at all, especially when I confided to her that I rarely, if ever, keep them. The truth is, I really do think it is important for individuals to continuously put reinvent themselves. Of course, it does not always have to involve a drastic change, but there is nothing wrong with a little bit of challenge. Pressure, after all, does make diamonds. That being said, what is it that takes place between the months of January and December that makes it so hard to act on this reinvention, and to follow these resolutions through? The answer is...everything.

Unpredictability is one of life’s virtues; it kind of comes along with this whole gig of living. Slowly but surely, I am realizing that making concrete decisions about a New Year’s resolution when the year has not even begun is a practically a set up for disappointment.

However, just as quickly as I set that goal I got an opportunity to intern at a company that I had been vying to work for throughout the entirety of my college career. I was left with a choice; stick with the current job I had, earn a somewhat sustainable salary, and continue dreading every single day OR I could take a risk. I could take a step down the mobility ladder, intern, and gain experience in the professional field that I actually wanted to dedicate my life to. Exeunt Rihanna and the billionaire boyfriend fantasy. Enter reality.

During this time, I questioned everything. I went back and forth as to whether the choice I made to take the internship, aka the choice I made that completely went against my New Year’s resolution, was the right one. While I knew these were extremely privileged options to even consider, I still felt the imminent weight of selecting the wrong one. In order to subdue many of the doubts and concerns racing around in my head, I turned to an old practice, self-affirmation.

“First, it’s simply enjoyable to dwell on what we value; second, when we’re feeling threatened by a particular criticism or failure, the technique reminds us of those things we value about ourselves more broadly, that are separate from the threatened aspect; third, by broadening the basis of our self-worth, it can help us regulate our emotions.”

Makes sense, right?

That being said, there is still no definitive way to predict how different people will respond to self-affirmation. My only hope is that by sharing how I intend to use this practice in 2019, you will be inspired to embrace the ethos of New Year’s self-affirmations into your own life and apply it in a way to that works for you.

Since I knew I wanted to do things a little differently this year, I started by taking some time to reflect and hone in on exactly what I wanted to get out of 2019. Rather than writing out resolutions, I selected certain words and phrases. I will still stay anchored to my short- and long-term goals, but by broadening my immediate “new year-new me” desires into New Year’s affirmations, I am giving myself more freedom. I am preparing myself for the inevitable spontaneity that 2019 will bring. I challenge you to do the same!

If a normal resolution for you is to become more religious, then try affirming yourself with the words “I am faith” as a consistent reminder of where to send all your worries. If a normal resolution for you is gain or lose weight, trying replacing this with the words “I am confident,” to motivate your health practices, but keep you feeling good about yourself in any state. If a normal resolution for you is to save more money, then try swapping in the words “I am financial longevity” to always keep the bigger picture on your radar. Any resolution, regardless of how big or small, taps into an overarching affirmation or turn of words that you can repeat to yourself every single day.

If you are still feeling lost and don’t know quite where to start when it comes to New Year’s affirmations, let us help! Check out our recently re-released daily affirmation cards, now available on Amazon. As you select a card, drown out the noise and negativity while leading yourself in a private session of self-love. I AM faith. I AM confidence. I AM financial longevity. I AM everything that I want to become and even a little bit more.

If you want to take matters into your own hands and make your daily affirmation practice a bit more personal, then it’s time to up the ante with a DIY (do-it-yourself version). On my bedside table right now sits a mason jar full of scraps. On each scrap, a handwritten affirmation, motto, or intention to carry me throughout the year. Regardless of what this year has in store, these scraps will help keep me, and all of my goals, on track. Every morning as I am getting ready for work, I pick one out, recite it in the mirror, and move throughout the day with it on my mind.

We are almost halfway through the month of January. This journey that is 2019 is only just beginning, but I am grateful to have my New Year’s affirmations to sustain me throughout the rest of the year. One of the reasons I believe this practice will work better than New Year’s resolutions have in the past is because, with affirmations, failure is not an option that exists.

Traditional resolutions are set ups. They require you to act, engage, or behave differently right away. Unfortunately, this sort of change is always susceptible to roadblocks. Affirmations, on the other hand, require you only to think differently. They challenge your state of mind and encourage positive self-talk as a motivating factor. If life was like a car, resolutions would be the GPS and affirmations would be the gas. The former may get you to a specific destination, but the latter will get you there and beyond.

What are you trying to accomplish this year? A better job? Improved health? More time with loved ones? Let’s talk in the comments below!

Brittani is a freelancer currently based in New York. For her thoughts on all things art, entertainment and Rihanna, check out her blog. You can find very similar content on her Instagram @brittaniidiannee.

]]>Why New Year Affirmations Feel Better Than Resolutions20 Amazon Couches That Are Modern, Stylish & Top Rated!Feel Good(s)LivingUsFri, 18 Jan 2019 19:27:01 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/amazon-couches-sofas-for-sale54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c3ba8f2f950b7929a2a440bWe found 20 of the most stylish and top-rated Amazon couches and sofas for
sale. Whether you’re searching for leather, velvet, upholstered, or
sectional couches we’ve got you covered.

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Go big or go home with these statement couches, conveniently available on Amazon. There’s something on this list for every design aesthetic from retro upholstered couches, to genuine or faux leather loveseats to contemporary sectionals.

We didn’t just gather the dopest sofas for your space, we also wanted to make sure to show you only the ones that people actually loved. So these couches aren’t just stylish, they’re also best-in-class.

Upholstered Amazon Couches

Velvet Sofa by Foxley

This stunning velvet-upholstered couch is the perfect statement piece to add to your contemporary space. The frame is made from high-quality eucalyptus wood and springs for maximum sturdiness and durability. The exquisite royal blue texture has a soothing quality to it. The cushion covers are detachable which makes cleaning easy. This beautiful couch weighs 122 pounds and is 80x35x31 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Love it, looks even better in the picture. I also like that it supports my lower back. A lot of couches don’t and cause me pain.”

Tufted Velvet Sofa by Rivet Aiden

Sporting hunter-green upholstery, this bench sofa has a classic feel to it. Bolstered mini pillows on both sides for resting provides additional comfort along with the soft and comfortable cushion of the sofa. The fill of the cushion is made from 100% polyester. This fancy semi-transparent upholstered couch weighs 15.62 pounds and is 74x36.2x30.3 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“I LOVE this couch. We could've paid 2 times as much at West Elm but instead paid the Amazon price and got it delivered into our living room and the delivery guys even set it up for free! It's comfortable for a leather couch with great back cushions. I was iffy about it when I ordered because the photo looks kind of cheap, but its looks much classier in person.”

Vertically Channeled Settee by Pulaski

The understated mid-century aesthetic of the Pulaski Mid Century Vertically Channeled Settee is really commendable. The neutral color of the textured upholstery makes is an easy addition to any space. This exquisite upholstered couch weighs 18 pounds and is 50.4x29.1x19.1 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“This is a great addition to my entryway. The couch was exactly as described and good quality.

Engage Modern Sofa by Modway

An emphasis on comfort and contemporary design makes this sofa from Modway an impressive offering. The retro look of the couch is enhanced by the textured upholstery which is made from polyester materials. This allows the sofa to have a stunning effect when contrasted properly with the right home décor setting. This lovely and quaint couch weighs 136 pounds and is 90.5x33x32.5 inches in size.

Engage Modern In Azure by Modway

Modway’s bold contemporary design makes it mark once again with this retro stylishly design sofa. The upholstery features a brilliant shade of azure that is captivating and bewitching at the same time. Thanks to the remarkable design, this sofa is as comfortable in a lounging space at a workplace as it is in an office. This bewitching upholstered couch weighs at 136 pounds only and is 90.5x33x32.5 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“I love this couch so much! As others have said, it is very firm but I like that. It is also a bluish-gray but I like that too. The quality of the fabric and wood legs are great. The delivery was prompt and professional. The only work I had to do was to put on the legs with the hardware and nice little tool that was provided. This couch is perfect for me!”

Albany Park Modern Velvet Sofa by Edloe Finch

This superb sofa offering from Edloe Finch has a clear and concise design that is very minimalistic. The pink upholstery covering the comfortable foam-padded cushions has a gorgeous effect when paired with the right home décor setting. The suspension and framework are also very sturdy, making the sofa durable and long-lasting. This sublime looking upholstered couch weighs 115 pounds and is 87x34x32 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“This actually was my second choice on blue velvet sofas but actually ended up being perfect! Just an all-around beautiful, good quality sofa. Very soft and comfortable. Big enough to seat 3 people comfortably. It also was really easy to put together. Don’t hesitate if your on the fence about purchasing it!”

Sorrento Retro Loveseat by Braxton Studio

This simple mid-century designed loveseat from Baxton Studios is a truly a delight for lovebirds. The dark walnut wooden varnish paired with the grey textured upholstery that has piping around the edges and a button-tufted back-cushion gives it a chic and classy look. The frame is made from rubberwood paired with polyester upholstery. This resplendent upholstered couch weighs 50 pounds and is 29.7x49.4x33.3 inches in size.

Leather Amazon Couches

Modern Box Loveseat by Kardiel Woodrow

This boxed loveseat from Kardiel has a bold- modern design that still stays true to mid-century design aesthetics. The snazzy look of the loveseat is achieved by using soft top grain aniline leather upholstery over the comfy dacron wrapped cushions of the loveseat. Trendy and uncommon, this couch weighs a hefty 160 pounds and is 71x31.5x27.5 inches in size.

Tufted Cognac Leather Bench by Rivet Aiden

This leather upholstered couch from Rivet Aiden sports the look as its non-leather counterparts but provides a more luxurious feel. The fabric back panel of the cushions allows them to breathe properly, preventing hygiene issues and bad smell. This chic and radiant looking couch weighs 84 pounds and is 36.2x74x30.3 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“The other reviewers are right - it looks so much better in person! The upholstery is soft and the padding is firm. The two back pillows come off, but the seat cushion is attached. The "assembly" was a breeze - just screw the legs on. Chic mid-century modern style for an affordable price. I definitely recommend this sofa.”

Modern Leather Sofa by Edloe Finch

The cognac-brown Brazilian leather upholstery paired with a quality hardwood frame gives this sofa a plush and comfy look that is just swell. The proportions are just right thanks to the minimalistic design philosophy. The cushions have zippers, making cleaning a breeze. This swanky and fly couch weighs 128 pounds and is 82x33x28 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Absolutely love this sofa! It's the perfect size for my apartment and the leather looks even more amazing in person!”

Faux Leather Sorrento Loveseat by Braxton Studios

Featuring the same sleek looks and design aesthetic as its non-leather counterpart, this version of Braxton Studios mid-century loveseat is a bold and glamorous piece of work. The black faux-leather upholstery meshes in well with the dark walnut finish. This symmetrical and comely couch weighs 50 pounds and is 29.7x49.4x33.3 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Our love seat arrived quickly. It was very easy to assemble. My dad sat on it comfortably and he's over 300 pounds. It seems sturdy, so I’ll see how it does over time. I've only had set up now in my living room for two weeks.”

Modern Loveseat by Jiasting

This exquisite mid-century designed loveseat benefits greatly from the compact size and design. Despite its small size, the seats are deep that makes lounging on it a comfortable experience. The density sponge filling material provides quality and longevity at the same time. Despite being faux-leather, the cover doesn’t deform easily. This quaint and antiquated looking couch is 50.98x27.3x33.6 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Well made and good looking. A little firm and not meant for lounging but it serves its purpose.”

Modern Box Sofa by Kardiel Woodrow

Retro look but a modern appeal, this large and spacious sofa from Kardiel looks absolutely smashing. The frame is made from genuine Zebrano veneer wood sporting high-quality varnish and the tip of the legs have metal caps that have a brass accent. Despite the price tag, it’s definitely worth the buy. This boisterous and smart couch weighs 180 pounds and is 31.5x86.5x27.5 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“This loveseat is absolutely fantastic! It has a simple but pleasing appearance, is comfortable, and very well made. What you see in the photos is exactly what you're getting. I am very pleased with my purchase and plan to buy another to put in another room soon. Highly recommended!”

Hercules Regal Series Loveseat by Flash Furniture

Smart leather upholstered cushions and seats neatly tucked in a steel encased frame gives this loveseat from flash furniture a unique look. Due to its looks its mostly suitable for a home decor with a modern setting. Thanks to the metal frame, durability won’t be an issue any time soon. This superb, beautifully designed couch weighs 90 pounds and is 28.5x57x27.5 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Great quality, materials and outstanding look! I would recommend this furniture for an office or small rooms! Not soft, if you are looking for something cozy.”

Sectional Amazon Couches

3-Piece Moda Velvet Sectional by Meridian Furniture

Luxurious, spacious and astounding; these are the first three words that will pop in your mind once you take a look at this spacious 3-piece sectional sofa from Meridian Furniture. Whether you want to stretch out or take a nap or sit down with your family for game night, this sofa is perfect for all occasions. The edges of the cushions have nailhead trimmings that gives the sofa a sleek look. This spacious and impressive couch weighs 283 pounds and is 127x68.5x31.5 inches in size.

Leather Sectional Sofa by Divano Roma Furniture

Imposing yet gentle, this large sectional sofa from Divano Furniture is an absolute show-stealer. Luxurious and comfortable seat place on a smartly designed metal frame gives it a chic appearance. It’s perfect for the living room whether you live alone or with your family. This contemporary looking couch weighs 26 pounds and is 30x100x46 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Looks good and material feels good too. It's kind of firm though, if you are looking for something soft, this is not the one. Assembly was easy.”

Modern Sectional Sofa by Edloe Finch

The rustic yet polished look of this big sectional sofa from Edloe Finch just nails it when it comes to perfecting modern design aesthetic. The rough texture of the upholstery looks pretty and inviting at the same time. The fill of the seats and cushion consists of high quality down feather. This flashy and nifty looking couch weighs 19 pounds and is 63x114x33 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“I love this couch but putting the legs on was a nightmare. It seems the screws are too long I switched them out for 1/2 inch screws and things were much easier”

Amelie Collection Reversible Velvet Sectional by Jennifer Taylor Home

Compared to other sectional sofas in the market, this offering from Jennifer Taylor Home Amelie collection is lightweight. By combining plywood and hardwood in the frame design, the durability of the sofa is ensured. It meshes in well in any kind of décor setting, home or otherwise. This slick and dapper looking couch weighs 5 pounds and is 68x7.5x7.5 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“I desperately wanted a blue velvet sofa and spent months looking for the right one. I knew that what I was looking for was more decorative so I had low expectations for comfort. This offers space for my family of 3 to sit comfortably without looking oversized in my small apartment. It's not amazing to sleep in but does just fine for a short nap. It's easy to clean which is awesome because I have a 3 year old.”

Mozart Right Hand Sectional by Iconic Home

The unique and regal design of this large sectional couch is quite something to look at. Despite being a modern take on the classic Chesterfield design, it still retains its uniqueness with some distinguishable design choices. This regal and snappy looking couch weighs 10 pounds and is 82x9.5x45 inches in size.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Great sofa zero complaints on the products but it did take a while to arrive and I had to pay the guy $100 to bring it upstairs an assemble which was ok considering the size.”

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]]>20 Amazon Couches That Are Modern, Stylish & Top Rated!What Aura Readings Are & Why I'm No Longer A SkepticSpiritSonya MatejkoSat, 12 Jan 2019 15:25:13 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/aura-readings54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c3a00f4575d1fa7c095c7a0A personal experience with aura readings and a discussion on what they are,
what they mean, and how to protect your aura.

The first time I heard about auras was back in 2013. I had just started my first job after

college in Miami, Florida. Our office was blissfully located on Lincoln Road in South Beach. I was young, eager, and juggling as much as humanly possible.

I was trying to find myself in my new city and navigate the corporate world at the same time. It was exhilarating, but I was also moving a million miles a minute trying to soak it all in.

One night, after work, I was walking down Lincoln Road running an errand. Outside on an H&M, a frantic woman yells “miss, miss!” and tries to stop me. Naively, I stopped and turned towards her to see what she wanted.

She told me that I had a massive aura, and she could feel before I even got to her. She said that I was taking too much on, moving too quickly, and I really needed to slow down. She was speaking to me out of genuine worry, but at the time I just thought she was crazy.

I nodded and thanked her for the information. I lied and said I intended to relax a bit. Relax? Me? Nope. Once she walked away, I laughed anxiously and called my mom. “You’ll never believe what just happened,” I told her.

Not shockingly, my mother told me this random woman was probably right. Weeks and months later, she’d continue to reference this moment whenever I was feeling overwhelmed. I brushed off the moment for years.

What Are Auras?

An aura, the way I see it, is the energy force that surrounds us and is constantly changing based on how we’re feeling in the present. It’s invisible to most but visible to some (like the woman who stopped me on Lincoln Road).

For those who can see it, it’s colorful and usually correlates with the colors of our seven chakras. If one color is more vibrant than another, it means a particular chakra (associated with that color) is more active, or another chakra is underactive. If you're not sure what I'm talking about, catch up on what chakras are and how to know if your chakras are balanced.

While most of us can’t see auras, we can all feel them if we’re aware enough.

Have you ever met someone who literally feels like sunshine and you’re immediately drawn to them? Their aura, or their energy, is likely radiating positivity that you’re innately attracted to.

On the flip side, have you ever met someone who seems like they have a cloud hanging over their head and carry sadness in their wake? That’s their aura releasing negativity and a sign that they have some things they need to work through.

Our auras can change daily, much like our moods and emotions. We are continually evolving, and so is our energy field. We’re quite literally a rainbow of possibility!

PHOTO: COURTESY STYLECASTER

As lovely as that sounds, sometimes it’s not as easy to shift our energy, and it requires a lot of work. Depending on our underlying issues, we made need to do something as simple as meditating or something as complicated as changing the way we think about certain aspects of ourselves.

The next time I heard about auras wasn’t until 2017 - the year I started to tap into my spiritual side. In August that year, I went to my first psychic after a shitty breakup.

While a lot of what the psychic said resonated with me, the thing I remember most is that she told me I had a dark and negative aura surrounding me. This darkness I carried was what held me back from everything I wanted in life.

That’s a terrifying thing to hear, especially for someone who’s struggling and reaching for hope in any way she can. Of course, I took this with a grain of salt after she tried to sell me a $150 candle ceremony to rid me of my dark aura.

I didn’t know a lot of spirituality, but I knew it would take more than candles to heal what was in my heart. So this, in a beautifully strange way, was what kickstarted my entire spiritual journey.

I started looking for ways to brighten my life, connect with my higher self, and get grounded again. I learned so much about myself in the months and the year afterward. Today, I’m a completely different person than the sad girl sitting in the psychic’s dirty living room.

My Aura Reading Experience

Recently, I jumped back on the aura train. I went to get a picture of my aura at Magic Jewelry, a spiritual jewelry shop, tucked away in Chinatown in New York City. I had read about it on Jezebel and The New York Times and was naturally very curious to see what it was all about.

I went with a friend during our lunch break on a Wednesday in December. Once at Magic Jewelry, we had a short wait while a group six friends (who got there before us) got their auras read.

Once it was our turn, we sat down (one at a time) in a chair and placed our right hand on a metal sensor. We were then instructed to look up at a camera ahead of us while the sensor read our aura and the camera snapped a picture of it.

We checked out the store’s inventory while we waited for our photos to develop. Once they were ready, the woman who worked there walked us through both of our aura photos. My aura photo is on the left and was a beautiful, bright red. My friend’s aura reading, on the right, was a light medley of purples.

My Aura Reading On The LEFT

The shop employee took her time to explain what my aura photo meant. She told me that it was a good thing that it was a bold red versus being light or murky. When a color is murky, that means you have to work on the underlying causes associated with it.

For me, my red aura symbolized that I was grounded, safe, and confident about having what I needed to survive in life. The red coloring correlated to my root chakra, the chakra of security and grounding between your physical self and the earth.

The shop employee also explained to me that it was the ideal time to take up a leadership position, that I had done a lot of work building up my confidence, and that I was in a place where people would be drawn to listen to me.

Oddly enough, I was leading my very first workshop that night. My friend, who was attending the workshop, felt the same serendipity.

My reading motivated me and gave me the confidence I needed to go into my workshop. I knew my aura wasn’t dark and negative in the present after all. I was rooted in my potential and ready to shake things up a bit.

So, now that you have my full history with auras, how can you leverage this within your life? Hopefully, my experience has opened up your mind to the energy that you emit and feel around you. If you’re still a skeptic, here’s an alternative take on it.

Recently, Whitney Goodman, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Miami, Florida and founder of @SitWithWit on Instagram, got her aura read in Sedona, Arizona.

Sedona is a highly sought-after spiritual destination primarily because it’s known to have several vortexes. A vortex is an area of concentrated energy rising from the earth. It’s said that people can feel a range of sensations (like tingling or the ground vibrating) when they encounter one. Those tapped into their spiritual side may experience more profound effects.

Whitney's perspective on auras and her experience in Sedona helps shed light on how to apply readings in a helpful way.

“I had my aura read in a really cute shop in Sedona. The screen lit up immediately with a lot of yellow and the man informed me I was a “controlling person with a lot of people to forgive.” As a mental health clinician, I know our thoughts can change the structure and function of our brains. Whatever I focus on and reinforce is likely going to become true.

Humans also tend to look for proof of their own negative thoughts. If you believe something and the reading reinforces it, well then it must be true. I believe these readings and alternative practices can be extremely powerful and helpful if we apply them in the right way. Would it really improve my day if I sat around thinking about how controlling I am? No.

But I can use this information to think about ways that I may be trying to assert control in areas of my life and a little forgiveness can’t hurt! Like anything in life, aura readings really can mean whatever you want them to. I always encourage people to listen objectively and consider them as an opinion - not fact. This attitude will help you use the information in the most helpful and constructive way.”

Coming from a mental health professional’s perspective, you can see how some spiritual stuff is tied to mindset and our internal power to change the circumstances around us through the power of thought. While no spiritual tool or practice should be used in place of mental health care, they can potentially be good additions to help you elevate your life and connect to your higher self.

How To Protect Your Aura

Protecting your aura comes down to self-love. Be kind to yourself and empathetic to others. Be aware of how you’re feeling and acknowledge when you need some healing. Love yourself and engage in well-informed self-care. Remind yourself that everything is fleeting, and life is too short to attach ourselves to negative energy we pass by in our everyday lives.

So, tell me, do you believe in auras yet? Let’s start a conversation in the comments below!

Sonya Matejko is a writer and spirituality coach who is boldly embracing vulnerability and nurturing her soul. Sonya currently resides in New York City and can often be found writing in coffee shops, in a yoga class, or off traveling the world. Nurture yourself by following her at @aforceofnurture on Instagram.

We set out to find the most unique coffee mugs available on the internet but made sure to only show you the ones that were top-rated. You know, that’s just what friends do.

Whether these coffee mugs have interesting form-factors, are hyper-functional, or they’re just so cute they’ll make you squeal the one thing they have in common is that they piqued our interest. And, we’re pretty sure they’ll do the same for you!

Hell, I suspect some of these mugs will find a new home on your office desk before the week is out!

Floating Coffee Mug by Floating Coffee

The floating coffee mug eliminates the need for coasters because with this design the coaster and the mug are melded together. You’ll never again need to search for coasters of scrub coffee stains off of your pristine coffee table.

Function aside, the floating coffee mug has been heralded as the “Most Beautiful Coffee Mug Ever!” The chic-ingenious design of the floating coffee mug was inspired by a banana stand. Just picture a bushel of bananas hanging from a wire stand. Yep, that’s the one!

Amazon Reviewer:

“Works great as a coffee mug and is a wonderful conversation piece.Saw this with my wife on Shark Tank months ago and we both commented on how beautiful the mug looked.

I was so happy to find that it was for sale on Amazon. Mug came undamaged and seems to be very strong. I have no fear of the handle breaking during regular use.”

Go Away Coffee Mug by Got Me Tipsy

Whether you’re a coffee addict like this poor woman or a causal sipper you know that every sip of hot java can bring you closer to wanting to engage with other humans. A good friend or coworker lets others around them know when the coast is clear for small talk this signal can be an open office door or this unique coffee mug.

The Go Away glass coffee mug will let innocent bystanders know when it’s a good time to ask you about the weather or what you did over the weekend. You know, the usual office chit chat.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Mug is good quality and thick glass so it should last. The lettering is painted on, but survived 2 trips in the dishwasher so I don't expect it to wear off.

I like the size which is good 12 oz. I only gave it 4 stars because the glass won't keep hot coffee hot like an insulated or ceramic mug. Not the fault of the product, just something the buyer has to be aware of when making a purchase”

Ninja Coffee Mug by Thumbs Up

This is easily one of more creative coffee mugs on the list because this mug comes with its own accessory! What is a ninja without the mystery? For this ninja coffee mug its face masks doubles as a heat protector for you!

This is a great gift for the “silent assassin” in your friend group. Everyone knows who that person is, but no one will say it.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Love the design and the big size. The wings aren't especially good handles but I get over that by just holding the sides. Warms my hands in winter! =)”

New Wave Caffe Mug by Villeroy & Boch

This unique coffee mug by Villeroy and Boch features a contemporary-modern design that emulates abstract art. Made in Germany, this coffee mug is made from a single continuous piece of porcelain.

If you’re a fan of home decor and aesthetics, then it should be really difficult to pass up on grabbing a full set. Click through for more photos and angles because this mug is quite interesting to look at.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Fell in love with these at a hotel and ran into the room and immediately bought these along with the plates and bowls. I have the large Caffee Au let cups that are 13 1/2 ounce for my husband. These hold around 10 ounces max. The only con is a left handed person would not be able to hold them.”

Live In The Moment Coffee Mug by Karma Gifts

The Boho Karma design of this coffee mug is uniquely illustrated and printed. The carefree bohemian design on the outside of the coffee mug is a sure conversation starter. And, on the inside of the coffee mug, a wonderful inspirational message will catch your eye at every sip.

After five sips of coffee and seeing this coffee mug remind you to live in the moment, you’ll be doing yoga on the front lawn of your office building.

This coffee mug is made of ceramic, holds 14oz of liquid and is dishwasher safe!

Amazon Reviewer:

“This mug is absolutely stunning. The amount of detail that is put into the design is incredible. It comes well packaged with no signs of damage. The mug itself is very sturdy and you can tell that it is well made.

The design shown in the picture is exact to the mug in real life. I am very confident that this will be very long-lasting and I won't have any problems with it.”

Wall-E and Eve Coffee Mug by Disney

This is a coffee mug designed for 90’s kids. These Wall-E and Eve mugs are incredibly nostalgic and incredibly cute, almost as cute as Wall-E itself. These make excellent gifts and excellent editions to any office desk as they’re sure to inspire smiles!

FYI, these particular designs are retired by Disney, so I guess you can say they’re technically vintage. You’ll want to act fast so you can grab one for yourself or your loved one!

Double Insulated Espresso Cup by Casadorna

If you or your giftee have a classier eye then you should definitely consider these mugs. Just look at them, they feature a glass upper and bamboo base. These mugs look like they were made to specifically be props on the set of Mad Men.

These double walled cups are double functional in their unique-modern design because although they’re glass they can still keep hot drinks hot!

Since the base of these cups are made of bamboo you won’t be able to microwave them and you’ll need to wash them by hand, but the design and experience will surely make up for the extra steps.

3D Peacock Coffee Mug by Yosou Home

This incredibly unique handmade peacock coffee mug delivers a massive presentation, much like a real peacock! It’s made of enamel porcelain and is microwave and dishwasher safe. The design comes complete with one cup, one saucer, and a spoon.

This peacock is shaking its tail feathers to remind you that after you get enough coffee in your veins you will be too!

Amazon Reviewer:

“We were doing a tea party theme for my boss' birthday and this was the perfect gift! The color is so vibrant (yellow) and a pricey looking set at a good price. Everyone asked where did I get it from because they thought I got it at some boutique.”

Chocolate Donut With Sprinkles Mug by Big Mouth

Mmmm…donuts! If your affinity for those wonderful glazed pastries isn’t enough to cause you to break into Dunkin’ Donuts to get your fix like this guy you can still express your love with this unique coffee mug featuring a chocolate cake donut with sprinkles on the front and the words “mmmm….donuts” on the back.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Mine came out just as expected, which is great. It holds a little bit more than what a standard mug would hold. I can drink out of it just fine, which is a bit surprising since I thought the squiggly top would have a hole-in-the-lip effect.

I figured the washing would be a bit more tricky with it [haveing] a little nook and you can't see around the tunnel, but I think that as long as I wash it with hot water when I am done with it, there won't be any residue issues. I use a little toothbrush just for this when I drink stuff with additives like honey just in case.”

Faceted Ceramic Coffee Mug by CYXstar

Perhaps my personal favorite on the list due to the contrasting black and gold design and the modern sharp edges. Each coffee mug is handmade so not only is the design unique but it will be unique to you as well. FYI, this mug holds 14oz of liquid for a hefty jolt of energy.

This mug cannot be microwaved or machine washed so keep that in mind!

Amazon Reviewer:

“LOVE IT! My husband got this cup for me as a Christmas gift because I collect unique/pretty mugs & it is seriously my favorite! It’s so so beautiful and elegant looking. Definitely recommend.”

To Coffee Mug by Alessi

I heart this mug, ya get it? But seriously, this “To” mug by Alessi is 100% adorable with its albeit minimalist design. It holds 10.5 oz of liquid and is microwave and dishwasher safe.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Sitting down at my desk, writing out essays and studying for school with one of these in my hands gives me absolute pleasure. It is so pretty filled with tea or hot chocolate that I almost hate to empty it out. The mug is sturdy, washable, and I imagine would work well as a cute and original pen cup. This was a very nice splurge buy for me.”

Have A Nice Day Coffee Mug by Decodyne

This coffee mug is the equivalent of telling someone who’s a jerk to go f*ck themselves when they walk away. It’s not cowardice, it’s called having manners.

Of the coffee mugs on this list this one might deserve a spot on your desk the most, depending on your work environment that is.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Great "tongue in cheek" gift! Gave 1 to my co-worker & we cheers our boss saying have a nice day, then sipped After the boss left our office! We laughed for the whole day then took the cups home, as they are a bit inappropriate for the work place. (but just right for a little giggle)

Thought about making a coffee for boss in this cup & giving to boss as boss going into department meeting! Would be Hilarious, but doubt the boss would find the humor in the disciplinary process that would follow!”

Magical Unicorn Coffee Mug by Streamline

What’s more unique than a unicorn? After-all, a unicorn is the mascot for everything magical. That said, this coffee mug holds a hefty 16oz of coffee, for those days when you’re not feeling very magical on your own.

This adorable unicorn coffee mug is made of ceramic so it needs a little TLC. Its neither microwave nor dishwasher safe so be kind to your cute little friend.

Amazon Reviewer:

“This is a very adorable mug. I got one for a friend and accidentally one-click ordered one for myself as well. It’s so cute I wasn’t upset by my accidental purchase. I didn’t find any cosmetic imperfections. The only issue I ran into is one is a funny one that I know all too well and should have known better.

This mug is meant to be used with the right hand. As a lefty I automatically picked it up with my dominant hand and discovered that I can’t drink out of it that way. I need a Ned Flanders version.”

Prescription Coffee Mug by Treasured Tokens

Dr. Feel Good has written you a prescription, for 13oz of coffee STAT. And, the doctor is authorizing unlimited refills! According to the doc’s instructions, your’e supposed to “drink one mug by mouth, then repeat until you’re awake and alert.

This coffee mug makes such a fun gift for yourself or others. Beware, if you’re buying this for someone else you may be tempted to keep it. Frankly, I’m not sure if that’s against the doctor’s orders!

Ceramic Toilet Coffee Mug by Big Mouth

This ceramic toilet coffee mug makes the perfect gag gift, but if you’re going to give it away make sure the giftee understands that this is for edible liquids ONLY.

The mug holds 12oz of liquid which is enough for a decent sized cup of Jo. Each mug is hand-painted and therefore Big Mouth recommends that you don’t microwave or put this feel-good potty in the dishwasher.

Amazon Reviewer:

“1) Only use this for coffee, nothing else - trust me.2) It adds tons of additional flavors to your morning coffee.3) If coffee makes you poop, then this cup adds loads of irony.4) It makes your photos more interesting.”

Retro Camera Coffee Mug by Mustard And Co.

For the vintage collector, this coffee mug is pure eye candy. If you or your giftee is at least 20% hipster then this retro camera designed mug will make an excellent gift. Let’s be honest, it’ll likely end up a super cool piece of decor in the house.

This mug is 100% ceramic which means no microwave and no dishwasher. But, don’t let that stop you from enjoying the novelty of it.

Amazon Reviewer:

“My daughter is a vintage camera collector and this mug is a perfect gift. The handle is a comfortable fit. The design is clever and accurate. She loved it.”

3D Cat Mug by Asmwo

This mug is so stinkin’ cute and no it’s not just because I love cats, because I do. I love them. Your kitty mug will literally hold your spoon for you, and with the biggest smile you’ve ever seen on any cat.

Name one thing that your real cat would do for you, any one thing. You can’t, can you? This cat coffee mug has your back. It holds 14oz of liquid and the lid helps to keep your coffee warm if you’re a slow-sipper.

This mug is ceramic, so you know what that means, no dishwasher or microwave. But, why would microwave this cute kitten anyways?

Amazon Reviewer:

“The mug was delivered on time and in perfect condition. I bought the grumpy cat one as a gift and my friend loved it. It is exactly as the pictures, it is made of some sort of ceramic. And in case you were wondering the lid (cat head) does not twist or seals the cup, is more of a decorative feature.”

Star Wars Darth Vader Coffee Mug by Star Wars

“Luke, I need more coffee.” Listen, Darth Vader wasn’t much of a wordsmith and neither are you before you’ve had your coffee.

This coffee mug is massive and holds 20oz of liquid, after drinking one full cup you’ll be vibrating through the rest of your day.

I don’t think it needs to be said that this is a must have gift for a Trekke. Oops, did I say that? I meant Star Wars fan.

That was a huge mistake on my part. I won’t make another mistake and fail to forewarn you that this coffee mug is not microwave or dishwasher safe.

Amazon Reviewer:

“This mug is so beautiful that I could not bear to even use it. I had purchasedtwo (2) of them (one as a gift) and intended that we would use them for tea, but when they arrived, we were so thrilled by their majesty that we are just proudly displaying their Darth Vaderness with dorky glee.”

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]]>20 Unique Coffee Mugs That Make Perfect Gifts! (Top-Rated)The Reality Of Losing Friends When You Break Up With OneRelationshipsChristine SchoenwaldMon, 07 Jan 2019 14:00:00 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/losing-friends54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c32d61570a6adec3ee0b010Losing friends is a sad reality. Sometimes when you break up with one
friend you run the risk of losing several others. If you’re in this same
boat you may find this personal essay extremely relatable.

Losing friends is a sad reality. Sometimes when you break up with one friend you run the risk of losing several others.

When you have a toxic friend, most people will tell you that the best thing you can do is to end the friendship. What they don’t tell you is that there may be a few surprising and occasionally negative repercussions from following their advice.

I had a group of work-friends, who over time morphed into close friends. We’d spend holidays together, and when we were all still single we had a standing Valentine’s Day date—kind of a losers club with better cocktails. We’d go out for dim sum, have high tea in fancy hotels, or attend French film festivals. We all had a lot in common because we were movie-geeks and all had the same type of sarcastic humor.

My friends absolutely loved my new friend, and we started to include her in our activities. She was extremely sophisticated and had lived all over the world, so when it came to dim sum, she knew not only what to order but could order it in Cantonese.

For a while it was great—I had friends for group activities and friends for one on one talks.

At first, the newest member of the group, Emily, didn’t target me with her hypercritical and judgmental nature, she chose one of the original members who was known for being contrary and difficult. When my ex-work friend complained about Emily, the rest of the group didn’t take it seriously, we just thought our OG friend was being overly sensitive and argumentative.

Then one day at a birthday celebration for Emily, with some of her friends, I made a social blunder involving the friend of a friend. Once I realized what I had done, I quickly apologized but it was too late. I had been forever tainted and tarnished in Emily’s eyes.

After my social fail, Emily would bring it up repeatedly as an example of how I had failed, how I was a disappointment, and how I needed to change. I tried apologizing again, promising to never repeat my mistake, and when that didn’t work, I tried to be the perfect friend. I hoped by always having a positive and upbeat attitude that Emily would stop emotionally bullying me, but she was still able to find fault with me.

Every lunch ended in Emily criticizing me, and me crying in my car. I couldn’t handle the friendship anymore and quietly disengaged myself from her. I told my friends that they didn’t have to choose between us but that I preferred not to spend any time with her.

It didn’t take Emily long to figure out, that I no longer wanted to be friends. I resisted any requests Emily made to talk it over as I knew any conversation would only end in her calling me out and me feeling like crap.

Then something happened that I never expected my friends did choose, and they chose her. I was no longer part of the group; the group that I was a founding member of no longer existed. The aftershocks of the breakup had eroded the entire foundation upon which our friendship had been built..

The friends who I thought would always be by my side dumped me. They didn’t understand why I had felt I had no choice but to stop being friends with Emily and thought that the problem must have been me. They thought I was the toxic one, and no matter how I tried to explain how awful Emily was no one was would believe me.

I tried not to let the fact that I had lost a bunch of friends affect my self-esteem, but honestly, it did a number on me. I felt as if no one understood me or had the ability to see things from my perspective. I was blocked from my ex-friend’s social media, and social events that they had, so of course, I felt ostracized and lonely.

The good thing is that I learned who my real friends were and who had my back. It’s better to have a few good friends who aren’t judging you, than a big group who make you feel bad about yourself.

While I still mourn some of those lost friendships, I’m glad I did what I did, even if it had some negative consequences because, in the end, I took care of myself and my well-being.

Have you ever broken up with one friend and lost several other friends in the process? How did you cope with the loss?

]]>The Reality Of Losing Friends When You Break Up With OneThe Everlane Cocoon Coat Deserves A Hanger In Your Closet For 6 ReasonsFeel Good(s)StyleUsThu, 03 Jan 2019 02:41:00 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/everlane-cocoon-coat54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c428e500e2e72c267c07b08The Everlane Cocoon Coat deserves a space in your winter coat collection
and here is our review of it that expresses why. Whether the camel, plaid
or peat this timeless cocoon coat makes a statement.

PHOTO: COURTESY EVERLANE/ I AM & CO

If you’ve only recently discovered the Everlane brand, it’s my pleasure to inundate you with all of the reasons why the Everlane Cocoon Coat, and really all of their products, deserve a hanger in your closet.

The Everlane Cocoon Coat is really flattering on and soft to the touch. It’s available in black, camel, a light heather grey, a heather grey and charcoal plaid, and my personal favorite, the peat color. The cocoon silhouette offers a boxy fit that compliments any body type. And, you can feel the quality of the coat in your hand as it feels quite heavy and stiff. Aside from a stellar first impression, we’ve highlighted six more important reasons to add the Everlane Cocoon Coat to your collection.

Everlane’s Radical Transparency

Everlane as a company is well-known for their “radical transparency,” specifically their transparent supply chain practices and transparent pricing. Beneath every product on their online store, they break down the final retail price of their items by cost of materials, hardware, labor, taxes, and shipping. They’re also incredibly transparent about what their markup is. It’s a refreshing relationship to have with a retailer because any reasonable person understands that companies are in business to make money, but it’s enlightening to know how price points are derived.

Their transparency doesn’t stop at the price you pay either. Everlane is also transparent about their manufacturing process, giving the shopper an inside look at their various factories worldwide and the treatment of the factory workers that produce our wears. This is definitely a brand you get behind for its commitment to both style and integrity.

We’ve also written articles about Everlane’s Market Tote Bag and their Modern Loafer because we’re huge fans of those as well. But you’re here to hear about the cocoon coat so check out the five very important reasons why you should dedicate a hanger to it.

The Everlane Cocoon Coat Is 60% Wool

A higher wool content generally relates to a longer-lasting coat and therefore a higher price tag. However, with the Everlane Cocoon Coat you get the best of both worlds because you’re not paying upwards of a grand for your coat yet it still made of a whopping 60% of wool fiber content. And, for the record, it’s becoming increasingly more difficult for manufacturers to source wool at reasonable prices as there’s more demand for it than there is supply. Since 2016 wool prices have gone up about 56%.

Everlane is managing to source wool ethically and for a relatively inexpensive price. This makes for a wonderful wearing experience as the coat feels very sturdy and well-structured yet still soft.

The Cocoon Coat Is Made For Shorties Too

The cocoon shape of this coat means it was intentionally designed to fit oversized. Still, it does tend to run large so you may consider sizing down to find your perfect fit. Otherwise, the length is accommodating for vertically challenged and tall women alike.

The Everlane Cocoon Coat is available in sizes 00-16 U.S. At size 16 the coat measures 38.87’’ in length and the sleeves are 33.37’’ in length. I’m 5’9’’ so I’ve never had an issue with a coat being too long, but some wool coats on the market opt for the full-length design which can leave women on the shorter side feeling engulfed or worse dragging their gorgeous wool coat behind them.

The Everlane Cocoon Coat Is Classy

Your coat really sets the tone for your outfit and when you wear the Everlane Cocoon Coat your vibe is “classy” regardless of what’s underneath it. Well, I guess there are limits. If I throw on basketball shorts, slippers, and the cocoon coat to go get something out of my car I more-so look like a bag lady, but a classy bag lady none-the-less.

This coat screams 1940’s Hollywood with its understated detailing and cut. Still, the design is uncompromising. For example, underneath the collar of the Everlane Cocoon Coat is a nice felt detail that one would only see if you’re channeling Humphrey Bogart in Brother Orchid and prefer a popped collar. It’s one of those design elements that feels like it’s just for you and serves as a reminder that you’re wearing a quality item.

The silhouette of the Everlane Cocoon Coat is oversized and features a dropped shoulder which makes it perfect for wearing over sweaters and other knitwear comfortably. This style of coat could have easily veered towards a more masculine aesthetic but it’s instead very balanced.

The Everlane Cocoon Coat Is Perfect Fall To Winter

This may be an unfortunate side effect of dislocating my shoulder too many times, but one of the most uncomfortable things for me is a coat that’s too heavy. I can be seen foregoing a coat altogether in the winter whenever remotely possible. That said, the cocoon coat is light enough to keep you comfortably warm in the fall and transitions nicely into a winter coat if you live in a warmer climate, prefer a lighter coat, or are a fan of chunky sweaters and layering.

Everlane’s Cocoon Coat Is Versatile

It makes for a great work coat, pairing well with business attire and particularly a blazer. It doesn’t clash with more elegant attire as it can mimic the “boyfriend coat” look over a full-length dress. And, it beautifully completes a casual outfit of jeans, a basic tee, and loafers.

A high-quality coat can easily last you a decade or more and age like fine wine. I have a black Calvin Klein coat that’s been going strong since 2009. In fact, it should have participated in that viral 10-year comparison pics that Instagram had going for a few days. There wouldn’t have been much of a difference besides a tear in the inner lining but what’s ten years without any battle wounds?

This coat being middle-of-the-road price wise and over-performing on quality makes it an all-around good investment and one that will pay dividends for the next 10 years or more. You also get the satisfaction of knowing that you haven’t been “taken to the cleaners” by the manufacturer and that the coat on your back was ethically sourced and produced.

So what are your thoughts on Everlane’s Cocoon Coat? Are you going to add it to your coat collection or have you already? Let’s chat in the comments!

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How many times in the process of your redecorating project have you stood in the middle of your space and pondered what’s missing? Depending on your taste, it’s almost always a statement piece that will help you complete your vision. Statement pieces, when it comes to furniture, can be anything from wall-hanging mirrors, rugs, couches, accent chairs, large wall art, and in this case, an insanely-cool floor lamp.

So, we found the most stunning floor lamps available on one of the world’s most trusted retailers and compiled this easy go-to list for you. While you’re planning the finishing touches on your carefully decorated space you should make sure to check out our article on top-rated and gorgeous decorative pillows at Target as well as Target’s incredible selection of table lamps. Make a statement!

Oak Wood Tripod Floor Lamp by Threshold

This floor lamp from floor lamp from Threshhold is very pleasing to look at. Comprising of simple tripod frame made from Oakwood, it has a neutral brown accent that helps it blend in most furniture combinations. The legs of the lamp are tapered and even comes with brass accents at the tips to give it a polished finish. This beautiful lamp weighs 6.6 pounds and is 60x16x17.5 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“Gorgeous! Has cord management on one leg so cord does not hang down the middle like what is shown in the website picture. Easy to assemble and shade is a clean white color, not a burlap, more like white linen.”

Mercury Glass Stacked Ball Floor Lamp by Threshold™

The very picture of elegance, the Mercury Glass Stacked Ball Floor Lamp Brass by Threshold™ is a wonderful floor lamp for any household. The glass balls stacked at the base also provide a lustrous shine when lit. The lamp has 3 light settings that gives you control over the brightness and comes along with a 5 ft chord that provides placement flexibility. This fancy semi-transparent floor lamp weighs 15.62 pounds and is 59.1x15x15 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“This lamp is EVERYTHING!! It’s so cute and extremely easy to assemble! I am so glad I purchased this lamp! You won’t regret it!”

Geneva Multiple Glass Globe Floor Lamp by Project 62™

Featuring a modern minimalistic design approach, this floor lamp can spice up your décor in a tasteful manner. The 3 glass globes hang on the rod placements from the base, giving it the appearance of a nightstand designed for hanging stuff. The globes have a unique brass and marble accent that sits most home décor. This exquisite floor lamp weighs 22.6 pounds and is 64x11x18 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“Elegant, simple and modern. Love it! Good quality too. The only not so positive thing I will say is that even though it has 3 bulbs it doesn’t provide as much light as I was expected.”

Wishbone Contemporary Floor Lamp by LumiSource

Even though it follows with the tripod type floor lamp design, it still manages to end up looking unique thanks to some smart design variations that gives it more of prong-like appearance rather than a tripod. The maximum chord length for this floor lamp is 6 ft. The base of the lamp is made of wood. This lovely and quaint lamp weighs 5.5 pounds and is 54.75x19.5x19.5 inches in size.

Adjustable Floor Lamp by Hearth & Hand™ with Magnolia

If you’re looking for a design that’s unorthodox and cool at the same time, this floor lamp might be something worth checking out. Looking more like a modern abstract sculpture than a lamp, the design allows the shade of the lamp to be adjusted, allowing for multiple lighting angles. Despite its frail looks, it’s quite sturdy and can be assembled easily. This bewitching floor lamp weighs at 1.7 pounds only and is 13.5x53.5x28 inches in size.

Gridley Metal LED Floor Lamp by Jonathan Y

This sleek metal floor lamp is hard to fit in with all types of home décor, but if matched correctly, it can lend a very classy air to your living room despite its industrial accent and finish. The wired cage shade perched at the top of the base looks excellent thanks to the curvy design and comes fixed with the lamp base. This sublime looking floor lamp weighs 9.68 pounds and is 61x16x16 inches in size.

Tiffany Style Dragonfly Torchiere Lamp

This appealing floor lamp from Tiffany Style takes pride in its artistic splendor and aesthetic. The shade of the lamp is made from glass and is well-decorated with beautiful stained-glass art splashed with shades of red, purple, green and amber. The base of the lamp, as well as the flat stand holding the lamp upright, are also intricately designed with masterful engravings. This resplendent floor lamp weighs 6.7 pounds and is 14x14x10 inches in size.

Adesso Starburst Floor Lamp

While its name might sound like a mouthful, you’ll be hard-pressed not to fall in love with this lamp once you’ve seen it. The lighting fixture inside the transparent shade has a unique star-like shape that incorporates a black and white design theme. The base and stand have a well-polished metallic finish almost as shiny as glass. Trendy and uncommon, this lamp weighs a hefty 22 pounds and is 60x12x16 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“I couldn't be happier with this lamp. It's super modern and funky and fit perfectly in my living room. You won't regret making this purchase!”

Trey Light Tripod Floor Lamp by Lite Source

If you work in the photography or the video industry, you’ll definitely like this particular floor lamp’s design due to its resemblance with professional studio lighting fixtures. Thanks to its core influence, the lamp has a sleek and clean look that meshes well with both modern and classic home décor setups. This minimalistic and statuesque lamp weighs 13 pounds and is 54x25.5x18 inches in size.

Ahoy Floor Lamp by Lumisource

Similar to its Trey counterpart in design choice, this floor lamp from Lumisource has some major design variations with larger dimensions. The tripod body has a wooden finishing rater than black and comes with metal finishing at the bottom of the legs. The shad is also more securely designed with a front grate placed in front of the light bulb for additional protection. This chic and radiant looking lamp weighs 13 pounds and is 62x30x30 inches in size.

MidCentury Modern Arc Floor Lamp by ZM Home

ZM Homes brings the best of minimalistic design philosophy from this floor lamp which can save a lot of space and clutter. The base is a simple but sturdy piece of black metal curved into a delicate arc resembling dandelions or tulips. The shade of the lamp is a small and well varnished which resembles a flower when the lamp is lit. This symmetrical and comely lamp weighs 15 pounds and is 46.5x13.6x76 inches in size.

Menlo Glass Globe Floor Lamp by Project 62™

The perfect companion for the avid bookworm, the Menlo Glass Globe Floor Lamp by Project 62™ can be a great addition beside your favorite couch or rocking chair. The base is made of metal and has a brass finish, making the lamp resemble the quaint street lamps that were common at the turn of the last millennium. The glass shade is transparent and has the same brass finish as the body. This quaint and antiquated looking lamp weighs 12.88 pounds and is 55 x 10.5 x 18 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“A great mid-century style. The light is low light level but a warm yellow, nice heavy base, and the brass is in good condition. For the price it works well with my design”

Crosby Schoolhouse Floor Lamp by Threshold™

Combining modern and classic design in floor lamps that are under budget is rare but Threshhold manages to pull off this difficult task with their Crosby Schoolhouse Floor Lamp. A stylish and sophisticated combination of black and brass gives this lamp a one-of-a-kind look. The lighting angle is adjustable and assembling is quite easy as well. This boisterous and smart lamp weighs 3 pounds and is 57x10.25x28 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“I’m updating my living room and this floor lamp is perfect! You cannot beat the price for the great look.”

Rattan Diamond Tripod Floor Lamp by Opalhouse™

Opalhouse has a knack for making unconventional designs work which is reaffirmed with their Rattan Diamond Tripod Floor. Full artistic liberty has been taken with the cage design which is a good fit to fill up room corners. The whole lamp has a black matt finish. This superb beautifully designed lamp weighs 8.14 pounds and is 20x20x6.25 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“So cute!! It's a really attractive lamp for the price. It's not super expensive material (it's rattan after all) but the look is very cute. Almost vintage. Love it!”

Adesso Maui Arc Lamp

Floor lamp designs based on plants and flowers is nothing new but Maui influenced arc lamp from Brown is a real show stopper. Featuring three slightly curved arcs holding three shades for the light fixture, this lamp is a great solution if you’re looking for a powerful but subtle light source to give off a relaxing ambience during evenings. This fashionable looking lamp weighs 9 pounds and is 82x9.5x45 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“Was very easy to put together...it gives off a lot more light than I expected which is great! I have had many compliments on it & how different it is...I just love the look!! Great buy & great price!”

Bamboo 5 Light LED Floor Lamp by Jonathan Y

A very shiny and minutely detailed lamp from Jonathan Y, this large and bright floor lamp definitely catches the eye. 5 lights are supported of 5 bases shaped and sculpted like bamboo stalks. Since the stalks shine brightly when the lamp is lit, it produces a nice glistening effect from afar. This swanky and fly floor lamp weighs 17.16 pounds and is 65.5x26.5x26.5 inches in size.

Salon Contemporary Floor Lamp by Lumisource

A simple but charming offering from Lumisource, this lamp has a muted accent that can add a subtle effect to your décor without being noticeable at first glance. The inside of the shade has a brass finish giving the light a warm glow in the dark. The chrome finished gives it a pricey look. This contemporary looking lamp weighs 26 pounds and is 76x17.5x74 inches in size.

Kenroy Home Rain drop Floor Lamp

This antique floor lamp looks like it came back with Marty and Doc on the time machine from back to the future. The shade is shaped like a raindrop falling from a surface and is complemented by the simple frame and stand finished with a black matt coating. This flashy and nifty looking lamp weighs 9 pounds and is 59x16.75x10.25 inches in size.

Target Reviewer-

“I love this lamp! It is a gorgeous soft bronze with a Smokey glass raindrop. I put a soft white 25 watt bulb in mine instead of the bulb provided and it is just gorgeous. Easy to assemble and was delivered earlier than expected. Great buy!”

Adesso Stix Floor Lamp

Resembling a modern fine arts exhibition piece, its evident great care was taken designing this snazzy floor lamp. The paper shade is supported by horizontal and diagonal black sticks sticking out at sharp and eye-catching angles. This slick and dapper looking lamp weighs 5 pounds and is 68x7.5x7.5 inches in size.

Industrial Floor Lamp by ZM Home

This unique floor lamp from ZM home features a very outlandish but attractive design that really shines. At first glance, it doesn’t even resemble a lamp, looking more like a wire sculpture than anything else. The paper shade is elegantly placed in a diamond cage at the tip of the lamp’s base. This regal and snappy looking lamp weighs 10 pounds and is 82x9.5x45 inches in size.

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]]>20 Target Floor Lamps That Are Chic & Modern Statement PiecesThe January Self-Care Guide Is Here & The Theme Is New Beginnings!Self-CareSonya MatejkoTue, 01 Jan 2019 15:00:00 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/self-care-guide-january-201954ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c2ad8d3aa4a995f08bbd203Your self-care guide for January 2019 is here and the theme is new
beginnings! Take a look at all of our tips for the new year.

Well, guys, you did it! You made it to another year and another 365 days of opportunities.

Listen, I know that resolutions and the “new year, new me” attitude can sometimes feel overplayed, but what if you looked at it a little differently? What if you didn’t just see January as a turning point, but looked at the whole year as a series of endless opportunities to begin again? What is all of 2019 could be a beautiful string of chances? Why do we have to unjustly narrow it down to just the start of the year?

Hopefully, during December’s emphasis on celebration, you’ve had the time to enjoy life and commemorate your successes. Now, it’s the ideal time to start opening new doors to find your highest self and destined potential. I know I feel more ready than ever to push myself past my comfort zone, even more so now that I’ve learned how to get up when life brings me down.

Since the beginning of my spiritual journey, I’ve been - literally - dealt cards signifying new beginnings. After a year of feeling like I was going nowhere because nothing necessarily felt “new” enough, I finally learned that every moment was a new beginning, every second could be a transformation, and the universe offers limitless opportunities for you to pivot.

In this series, you’ll find practices, products, and inspiration that will guide you through the month and help you unearth your full potential. Some of my suggestions are spiritual in nature, and some are just plain fun. Be compassionate when you read through the guide and don’t ever feel pressured to try everything. Just pick and choose what speaks to you, and remember that there is no wrong way to engage in self-care.

Self-Care For Your Mind

Listen To This Meditation

Start every single day with the mindset that magic can happen. For this guided meditation, you only need 10 minutes to sit silently with yourself and prepare to feel empowered. I also challenge you to give this meditation a try for 21 days straight (that’s the time it usually takes to create a new habit). Don’t worry if you feel like you’re not “good” at meditating at first (I often still get distracted myself). Focus instead of what a beautiful gift it is to carve out time only for yourself.

Claim This Affirmation:

I am resilient and ready to begin again.

Say this affirmation with compassion. Know that sometimes it will feel like you’re going backward in 2019 but everything is truly happening the way it’s meant to. So, when you feel like you’re backtracking this month or this year, tell yourself that you’re resilient enough to keep going down your destined path.

Read This Book:

The New York Times listed this book as one of the top 10 books in 2018. This revolutionary book is set out to better understand your mind, yourself, and your place in the world. I’ll be honest, this book sat in my Amazon cart for a couple of months because I was hesitant about a book about drugs, but I quickly learned it’s so much more than that. Give this book a shot, and you’ll discover a greater ability to be conscious in the present.

Self-Care For Your Body

Try This Yoga Flow

Don’t miss the opportunity to give yourself another chance every time a new day unfolds. This 30-minute flow will help you connect to your potential and relax before actively manifesting your desires. When you finish flowing, take a moment to reset and think about what you truly want to accomplish… and then do just that!

Pamper Yourself :

You’re about to change your life at any moment, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take a moment for yourself. Try a new facemask, throw glitter in the bathtub, give yourself a manicure, and indulge in whatever makes you feel good. Make sure none of this is another item on your to-do list. If you do pamper yourself, use it as an opportunity to chill and readjust. Want to get really into it? Look up spiritual bath salts to feel a deeper type of clean.

Smell This Aroma:

Yes, there is literally an essential oil for new beginnings! This uplifting scent will help you renew, refresh, and clear your mind. It’s a mix of all the best things including sweet orange, lemon, Spanish rosemary, frankincense, tea tree, and eucalyptus. Give yourself a fresh start with every inhale (and exhale whatever doesn’t serve you).

Self-Care For Your Spirit

In the theme of new beginnings, read your horoscope with flexibility and heightened awareness. Know that everything and nothing could change at any moment, and know that you’re equipped to handle any of those changes. Take note of how the planets are aligning for you in January to help you go even further, both in the short term and in the long run. Draft your birth chart beforehand for more in-depth insights!

Leverage This Crystal:

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Labradorite is the quintessential stone for personal transformation. This stone can help you with your personal growth, large transitions, and guide you through what’s next. It’s actually one of the first crystals I ever bought! It spoke to me then, and it speaks to me now. I recommend you meditate with this stone or put it near your desk at work. Before you use the stone, make sure you’ve cleansed it, so the stone itself has a fresh start as well.

As Mr. Elliot said, it’s never too late. At any point, you can begin again; you can wake up and you can make all of your dreams come true. Don’t be afraid of change, but be fearful of what happens if you stay stagnant.

What habits do you want to start in 2019? What patterns do you want to break? And what’s stopping you from trying again? Think about what you need, right now, to get the things you want. I know, as I write this, I could use that pamper sesh and that yoga flow, but I also need some girl time and to make more time to write outside of my day job. In general, I need to make more time for the things that are important to me, and I’m committed to doing just that.

Ahead of us is a lot of change, but with a resilient mindset and a strategy for self-love, we can truly accomplish anything. Are you ready to begin again?

Include your biggest goal for 2019 in the comments below for support from the I AM & CO community!

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Sonya Matejko is a writer embracing vulnerability and on a mission to nurture the soul. You can find her opening up her heart on Medium or exploring her spiritual side on I AM & CO. Nurture your soul by following her at @aforceofnurture on Instagram.

]]>The January Self-Care Guide Is Here & The Theme Is New Beginnings!January Astrology Report: Here's To A New Year & New Horoscopes!AstrologySpiritMecca WoodsTue, 01 Jan 2019 14:00:00 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/january-astrology-report54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c2ac91e2b6a28bef1afaa9fYour January monthly astrology report is here and your horoscope for the
new year calls for new relationships and new opportunities for making money

If the cosmic events taking place in January are any indicator for what 2019 is going to look like, then we can expect lots of fresh energy and momentum forward. One reason for this is because of the two life-changing eclipses slated for the month: A Solar Eclipse in hardworking Capricorn on January 5, and a Lunar Eclipse in creative Leo on January 21.

With the eclipse in Capricorn jumpstarting the year, we can expect big changes and new opportunities around themes focused on success, career, and commitment. Under the Leo eclipse, which closes out the Leo-Aquarius eclipse cycle that started back in August 2016, many of us may be moved to answer the siren song of passion, romance, and creative inspiration.

Overall, January calls us towards a place of authenticity, integrity, and possibility. And with love planet Venus and lucky Jupiter tag-teaming it up in optimistic Sagittarius, the possibilities will seem endless.

Though analytical Mercury in Capricorn and confident Mars in Aries will help to keep us focused and on target. Of course, Aquarius season (January 20) will also be reminding us of the importance of freedom and thinking outside the box, especially when curious Mercury enters Aquarius on January 24. Aquarius season will also teach us that getting ahead will take a joint effort.

Read below to see what January holds in store for your sign.

Aries (March 21st - April 19th) :

It’s time for you to grab the brass ring this month, Aries, as a potent Solar Eclipse in Capricorn activates your zone of career, recognition, and achievement on January 5. With chatty Mercury entering Capricorn on the 4th, all eyes and ears will be on you. Couple this with the eclipse and you could be on the receiving end of a prestigious award, job offer, or the chance to present or perform on a global platform.

Speaking of going global, love planet Venus enters Sagittarius (your zone of travel and opportunity) on January 7, where they’ll be meeting up with bountiful and freedom loving Jupiter which could also bring you some cash by way of a gig overseas, a teaching opportunity, or publishing.

With confident Mars at home in your sign, there will be very little to stop you. Venus and Jupiter in Sagittarius will be on hand to remind you that the world is yours, so keep on trucking.

The dedication you’re putting in will pay off. On the 20th, when the Sun enters Aquarius, your zone of friendship, networking could also help you help you achieve success, especially when communicative Mercury enters Aquarius on the 24th. On January 21, another eclipse sweeps through, this time in Leo, your zone of romance and creativity.

With the help of this eclipse it’s time to give your passions an outlet and follow the call of your heart. Your popularity is about to soar. Enjoy the attention.

Taurus (April 20 - May 20):

The world is ready to open up to you, so you might as well get your bags packed now. On January 5, a power Solar Eclipse in Capricorn lands in your zone of travel and opportunity and will be helping you to expand your place in the world and your worldview.

Some Taurus could be offered an educational or professional opportunity that could take them overseas or expose them to a new philosophy or way of thinking, while other Taurus could receive the chance to make a long-held dream come true.

With communicative Mercury entering Capricorn on the 4th, the possibility for new experiences and hands on learning will be exponential. Though know that how far you get will require that you let go of self-limiting beliefs and thinking.

By the 7th, magnetic Venus enters bountiful Sagittarius, your zone of intimacy and finances. You could increase your cash either via your partner or by receiving a large sum of money like a loan or an insurance payout. In matter of the heart, Venus could have you bringing all the boys to the yard, so vet carefully.

On January 20, the Sun moves into Aquarius, your zone of career and recognition, putting your eyes on the prize. With Mercury entering Aquarius on the 24th, you might receive multiple opportunities to put something stellar on your resume. Though with go-getter Mars in Aries in your zone of rest, take January slow.

Work on expressing your anger in healthy ways and speaking your truth. The Lunar Eclipse in Leo (January 21) pushes you to break free of unhealthy family dynamics.

Gemini (May 21 - June 20):

Intimacy and finances take up a huge chunk of your attention this month as you’re called to rewrite the narrative on both. That’s because a game-changing Solar Eclipse in Capricorn will land in your zone of intimacy and debt on January 5, pushing you to honor your emotional needs and recognize that financial stability is something that you can achieve.

In love especially, you’re called to level-up when it comes your choices in partners as having someone that can offer you stability, security, and a healthy connection should be your goal. And if you’ve been involved in an unhealthy relationship with another, this eclipse will push you to break free, especially as Mercury (your patron saint) enters resilient Capricorn on January 4.

Though don’t fret too much if a relationship needs to end as love planet Venus will be entering Sagittarius, your partnership zone, on January 7. With Venus teaming up with bountiful Jupiter in Sag, expect the cosmos to play matchmaker which could bring someone much better suited for you into your world.

Though committed Gemini will also benefit from Venus’ pleasures as spending quality time together will be a treat. On the 20th, the Sun moves into Aquarius, your zone of travel and opportunity, helping you to find some levity amongst all the shifts and changes coming down the pipeline.

A trip abroad could bring you a much-needed change in perspective and environment, namely as Mercury enters Aquarius on the 24th. On the 21st, the Lunar Eclipse in Leo will ask that you check your assumptions.

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Cancer (June 21 - July 22):

Relationships is where you can expect to see some major developments this month as a game-changing Solar Eclipse in Capricorn lands in your zone of partnership on January 5. Under the influence of this eclipse you could end an unhealthy relationship or meet someone new with some serious committed potential.

Coupled Cancers could decide to take their relationships to the next level. Chatty Mercury will be entering Capricorn on the 4th, to help introduce you to new people, which could also bode well for business partnerships and agreements. Though when it comes to vetting the people you meet, stability, maturity, and integrity should be a part of your “must have” list.

On the 7th, love planet Venus enters Sagittarius and moves into your zone of health, work, and routines. While Venus could make it so that work is enjoyable again, make sure you’re not overindulging in work or things like sweet treats that may not be healthy for you. Though January will call for discipline in these areas this is not about punishing yourself. Venus asks that you be gentle with yourself.

On the 20th, when the Sun moves into Aquarius and into your zone of intimacy and finances, it’s time to think deeper about your financial security. Mercury entering Aquarius on the 24th will have you looking at your books and ways you can improve your money management skills. The Lunar Eclipse on January 21 will push you to work on improving your self-worth.

Leo (July 23 - Aug. 22):

Whew, Leo! Big things are happening for you this month thanks in part to a game-changing Lunar Eclipse in Leo landing in your zone of self-image and confidence on January 21. But before we discuss that, let’s talk about the Solar Eclipse in Capricorn landing in your zone of health and work on January 5.

Under this eclipse your health and well-being are on the frontline as you’re called to take better care of you. If you’ve been stuck in a soul crushing job, this eclipse will also be a wake-up call that it’s time to turn things around.

Establishing a healthier work-life balance will also be of importance, especially when it comes to managing stress. With analytical Mercury entering Capricorn on the 4th, you might find the next few weeks perfect for getting a medical or dental check-up.

Though it’s not all work and no play this month. Pleasure loving Venus will be moving into Sagittarius and into your zone of romance and creativity on January 7. With Venus here, prepare to be in high demand as this could be the cosmic magic that brings you someone special.

Even if you already have a bae having Venus in this zone of your chart will make things extra romantic. Come January 20, the Sun (your patron saint) enters Aquarius and moves into your zone of partnership, which means that joining forces with others can bring you happiness and success.

Utilize Mercury in Aquarius (January 24) to discern whether a potential connection is a go or not. Not everyone is on your level. And speaking of your level, the Lunar Eclipse in Leo requires that you level-up.

Virgo (Aug. 23 - Sept. 22):

It’s time for you to step up and be seen, Virgo, as a powerful Solar Eclipse activates your zone of self-expression and romance on January 5. Under the influence of this eclipse, you’re being encouraged to let yourself and your creative gifts shine.

No more being humble or focusing too heavily on the things that make you imperfect. This could mean working on a creative project that you can share with a larger audience or taking ownership over how gifted and amazing you are without the need for outside validation.

With chatty Mercury (your ruling planet) entering Capricorn on the 4th, your goal is to shift the way you think about yourself while cultivating more experiences that bring you joy.

Speaking of joy, when love planet Venus enters Sagittarius (your zone of home and family) on the 7th, you might find that spending time at home or with the people you love, will bring a smile to your face too. And if you’ve been apartment or house hunting, Venus could help you find your dream home (at a price you can afford).

On the 20th, the energetic Sun enters Aquarius, your zone of health and work, which means that your source of energy will come from taking care of your well-being and getting a jumpstart on the list of things pending on your to-do list.

When Mercury moves to this zone on January 24, the pace along with your workload will pick up quickly. Don’t overextend yourself. On the 21st, the Lunar Eclipse in Leo pushes you to clear out the emotional trash.

Libra (Sept. 23 - Oct. 22):

When it comes to success this month, your relationships, especially those to your family may need to radically change. And fueling this change is a powerful Solar Eclipse in Capricorn, which activates your zone of home and family on January 5.

With the help of this eclipse you could be motivated to draw healthier boundaries between you and a loved one or learn to be more upfront about your emotional needs.

With aggressive Mars currently in Aries, stirring things up in your zone of partnership, your lesson for the month will be learning to be direct about what you feel and getting what you want. Plus, with chatty Mercury entering Capricorn on January 4, it will be hard for you to avoid the tough conversations you need to have or the facts you need to pay attention to.

By January 7, Venus (your planetary ruler) moves into happy-go-lucky Sagittarius and into your zone of communication, helping you to charm and wow folks alike with your words and ideas. Since Venus favors creativity, you might even find your creative inspiration at an all-time high. You could attract a big opportunity or a bigger audience through your creative genius. Though overall, having Venus here might help you to better get your point across when dealing with others.

The energy of the month lightens up a bit as the Sun enters Aquarius (your zone of romance and creativity) on January 20, followed Mercury on the 24th. Not only does the romantic picture brighten up but channeling your talent into a creative venture will make you a force to be reckoned with. On the 21st, the Lunar Eclipse in Leo ramps up your social clout.

Scorpio (Oct. 23 - Nov. 21):

While you can be a powerful strategist, sometimes you can zero in and focus on all the wrong things. Thanks to a game-changing Solar Eclipse in Capricorn, landing in your zone of communication on the 5th, all that is about to change.

With the help of this eclipse, you’ll be pushed to challenge and let go of outworn or outmoded ways of thinking that may be weighing you down or having you obsess and brood over things that you can’t control. While this eclipse can deliver a major reality check, count on the clarity to help free you up so you can concentrate on the things that really matter.

With analytical Mercury entering Capricorn on the 4th, trust that there will be plenty of new and exciting things to come along that you can put your brainpower into.

Your finances are looking up too, thanks to magnetic Venus entering Sagittarius (your zone of income and possessions) on January 7. You could land a dream job opportunity or receive a serious bump up in pay. Of course, having Venus (and bountiful Jupiter) in this zone may put you in the mood to splurge. Just be mindful over overspending.

On the 20th, the Sun steps into Aquarius, your zone of home and family, which may have you in hermit mode for the next few weeks. Use the time to recharge and hang out with loved ones.

With Mercury entering Aquarius on the 24th, it might be a good time for a home reorganization project to refresh the energy in your living space. Plus, with the Lunar Eclipse in Leo (January 21), bringing big changes/opportunities to your career, you’re going to want to make sure you’re feeling grounded and refreshed.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22 - Dec. 21):

It’s all about the big cash money wad this month thanks to a powerful Solar Eclipse in Capricorn landing in your zone of income and possessions on January 5, which could bring you the chance to make more money, or at the very least, get you to play closer attention to what you do have.

With analytical Mercury entering Capricorn on the 4th, time spent drafting or recalculating your budget will be time well spent. Though overall, this eclipse will help you to think smarter about your finances and put in the effort to improve them. And with magnetic Venus entering Sagittarius on January 7, you shouldn’t have too much of a problem attracting the kind of opportunities that could help you to bring in the big bucks.

Since we’re talking about Venus, that means we’re talking about love too. And with Venus teaming up with Jupiter (your planetary ruler) in your zone of self-image and confidence, you’ll be exuding the kind of charm and self-assuredness that will win you lots of adoring fans. Use Venus to spice up your look and watch the love matches come rolling in.

Don’t forget to love up on yourself too! When the Sun moves into Aquarius (your zone of communication) on the 20th; followed by Mercury on the 24th, expect your calendar to fill up with all kind of activities, outings, and meetings.

You’ll be very persuasive during the month of January, so initiate the kind of conversations you want to have. Meanwhile on the 21st, the Solar Eclipse in Leo activates your zone of travel and opportunity. A life changing trip or offer could be on the way.

Capricorn (Dec. 22 - Jan. 19):

The phrase “new year, new you” couldn’t be more appropriate for you this month as a game-changing Solar Eclipse in Capricorn lands in your zone of confidence and self-image on January 5.

With the help of this eclipse it’s time for you to shed an old version of yourself in favor of a more authentic and empowered version. Since chatty Mercury will be in Capricorn, beginning on January 4, it’s also time for you to be more mindful of the words you choose to speak about yourself and your life. In other words, speak what you want into existence. At the same time, the eclipse and Mercury will be working double time to help you with attracting recognition and opportunities that will catapult you to the top.

Though will all the shifts and changes coming down the pipeline for you this month, you’ll want to make sure you get the rest and relaxation that you need. It’s a good thing that you’ll have pleasure loving Venus entering Sagittarius on January 7 and moving into your zone of healing and retreat.

Under Venus’ care, you’ll find refreshment in activities like yoga, art, spiritual retreats, or just about any other activity that pulls you away from the crowd (and work) long enough to nourish your soul.

On the 20th, when the Sun moves into Aquarius (your money zone) followed by Mercury on the 24th, your attention turns to your cash. Look to new or innovative ways that you may able to earn cash. However, with the Lunar Eclipse in Leo activating your zone of finances and debts, you’ll need to work on your scarcity mindset.

Aquarius (Jan. 20 - Feb. 18):

Happy Birthday, Aquarius! It’s your time to shine. And with the Sun stepping into Aquarius, your zone of self-confidence and image on the 20th, shine you will. But before we get there, it seems that there’s some loose ends you need to tie up first as a powerful Solar Eclipse in Capricorn activates your zone of healing and rest on January 5.

At the insistence of this eclipse, expect to be pushed towards ways that you can better care for your emotional and spiritual well-being. This could mean releasing a lot of tears and being forced to slow down, even if it means allowing people to handle their own stuff for a change. Since Mercury will already be in Capricorn (January 4), you’ll find you’ll want more peace and quiet than usual.

Around the 7th, when social Venus enters Sagittarius, your zone of friendship, you may want to come out of hermit mode for a bit to spend time with friends and perhaps for a little networking. At the same time, with Venus here, it’s also about letting your friends fawn and fuss over you (you deserve), especially as your birthday season kicks off.

To celebrate, you might consider updating your look or jazzing up your wardrobe (don’t worry, money will improve), but being in the spotlight now means having the confidence to go along with it, so let your freak flag fly!

The Lunar Eclipse in Leo landing in your zone of partnership will ensure that any relationship that’s currently weighing you down fades to black. But don’t worry Mercury in Aquarius (January 24), will bring you tons of new people to choose from.

Pisces (Feb. 19 - March 20):

Your network and circle of friends are due for some fresh blood, thanks to a powerful Solar Eclipse in Capricorn activating your zone of friendship and group associations on January 5. If you’ve been dealing with unbalanced friendships or in need of better professional contacts and connections, this eclipse will help you to level-up across the board in these areas.

With Mercury in Capricorn (January 4), plan to attend events that can help to connect you to new people. Social media will also be a treasure trove too. Though when it comes to the actual connections, think quality over quantity.

Get on the radar of the movers and shakers; the folks you can go to for advice and support as well as those that can open a door or two for you. Your career is about to take off, make sure you’re in the company of the right people.

Speaking of your career, when magnetic Venus enters Sagittarius (your zone of fame and achievement) on January 7, you could receive the chance to make some big bucks, especially with expansive Jupiter in Sagittarius already in this zone. As such, your mission for January is to think big and go big when it comes to your goals.

Don’t settle and don’t play yourself small. Though with the Sun moving into Aquarius (your zone of rest and retreat) on the 20th; followed by Mercury on the 24th, you’ll have plenty of time alone to sit and craft your strategy for success.

You might consider reaffirming your connection to the Divine as a part of this strategy, because if you’re going to get ahead, you’ll need to believe you can. Meanwhile, on the 21st, the Lunar Eclipse in Leo pushes you to focus on your health and well-being. Take care of you.

Now that you’ve read your January horoscope, what are you looking forward to most for the new year?

]]>January Astrology Report: Here's To A New Year & New Horoscopes!13 Tips For How To Confront Someone With Compassion For You BothRelationshipsChristine SchoenwaldSun, 30 Dec 2018 14:39:19 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/how-to-confront-someone54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c28d4ba0ebbe85745dc1aee13 tips for how to confront someone in a manner that is compassionate
towards the both of you.

One of the reasons I wanted to write about how to confront someone is because I need a lot of help in that area. I’m the worst at confrontation and will do almost anything to avoid it. As far as any inter-personal conflict goes, I tend to not stick up for myself and swallow my feelings. I have such an aversion for confrontation, that I’ve damaged relationships and chipped away at my own self-esteem. I held grudges rather than coming right out and saying how I felt. As I grew older, I wondered how I could be an emotionally-healthy person if I couldn’t express my negative feelings to other people.

Confrontation isn’t easy for most people, but it’s something that must be done. If you don’t confront a problem, it will only get worse and express itself in a terrible way somewhere down the line. If it bothers you now, it may bury itself, but it will continue to live in your psyche. The truth is that there are times when it’s in your best interest to confront someone and get it off your chest.

The more you think about the problem without acting, the more toxic it becomes.

However, you don’t want to confront someone in such a way that you hurt them. You want to strike a balance between being assertive and getting your message across without becoming too aggressive.

13 Tips For How To Confront Someone In A Way That’s Compassionate To You Both.

Take a moment to sit with your feelings: When confronting someone you want to be as clear as you can about what you’re feeling and why. You don’t want to start out at 100% percent on the emotional scale because that will only make things escalate even faster. When you know exactly where you’re coming from, you’ll be starting from a place of strength and clarity.

Know your intentions: Now you know what you’re feeling and what motivated it, it’s time to think about what you wish to get out of the confrontation. Will it be enough for you to just to get it said or would you like for there to be some changes made? If you are clear on the potential outcome that you’d like, you’ll be better able to get it across to the other person.

Know that some people will not get on board: “Some people are unable to take any responsibility for their own behavior and instead prefer to blame others,” says Rachel Wall, MA.“For example, they may point out that they have been treated poorly or [have been] very tired recently. Realize that sometimes there may not be anything you and do to resolve a situation.” If you get the sense that the person you wish to confront will not be willing to talk to you, then it’s probably best to just move on.

Think about the other person’s conversational-style: Since you’ve decided to have this conversation think about how to adapt to the way they speak. If they’re a straight-to-the-point person then you be one too, or perhaps they’d react better if you eased into a more volatile subject matter. By adapting your conversational strategy to match their style, your subject matter may be better received.

Make it as non-confrontational as you can: Although there are some people who seem to thrive on confrontation, for most of us, engaging in that kind of interaction can be challenging at best. If the person you’re confronting gets upset, it could affect the way that they deal with you in the future. Stacy Caprio, Growth Expert, has a suggestion. “One way to do this [making it non-confrontation as possible] is by talking to them normally, how you would in a regular day at a regular time and slip your confrontation in as a genuine question or something you are able to follow or proceed with a compliment of some sort. This will help it be more natural and likely received in a more positive light.”

Don’t go for a surprise attack: Make sure that the person is open to have this conversation and let them state that they’re willing to discuss it. Jami Kirkbride, of Parenting with Personality, suggests starting the conversation with ‘I’ve been thinking about something I would like to discuss with you, would you be willing?’ or any variation of that. If you want to keep it simple, you can ask, ‘Is this a good time to talk?’ “This tends to reduce defensiveness right from the start,” says Jami Kirkbride. “It also mentally implies that they are opening the door to your thoughts or feelings.”

Use “I feel” and “I understand” statements: Instead of being accusatory and putting the person on edge, express how you feel without blame. You’re standing up for yourself and at the same time guiding the conversation in a more positive direction. When you say “I understand” after they have spoken you’re letting them know that you are trying to see things from their point of view. Jami Kirkbride says, “When we say we understand, we are not saying we agree, but that we are taking the time to see things from their perspective and [we] appreciate how it might feel to them.”

Don’t wait too long: If you wait until the exact right time, you could lose your nerve or give yourself an excuse to back out as there’s rarely a perfect time for a confrontation. As we know the longer you wait the harder it becomes to have that conversation and it may make getting your point across in an unemotional way almost impossible.

Let them know that you value the relationship the two of you have: You want the person that you’re confronting to know that you care about them and that’s why you feel not only compelled to speak up but safe to do so. “This shows that you are coming from a place of wanting to make peace, rather than putting them on the defensive, “says Rachel Wall.

Listen to what they have to say and allow them to vent: A healthy confrontation isn’t you dumping all your grievances on someone and then not allowing them a chance to have their say. It’s a dialogue, not a monologue, and you want to treat them the way that you’d want to be treated with respect for both them and their words.

Don’t take their reaction personally: Confrontations can get heated and sometimes people say things they don’t mean, or they say things they would never say under normal circumstances. You don’t know what’s going on in their life and you’re not responsible for anyone’s behavior but your own.

Trust your gut: If it feels okay, then ask the other person how they see the situation and if they have any ideas on how to solve the problem/issue. Including them on the problem-solving will help them to feel valued, heard, and a participant, rather than the perpetrator.

Work toward a solution: Ultimately, you want the outcome of your confrontation to be an agreement, understanding, or compromise, but that doesn’t always happen. If there’s no solution to be found, at least you expressed your grievances in a healthy and adult way.

There are times when it’s important to speak your mind and get things out in the open. Confrontation doesn’t have to be painful—it can be a healthy way of communicating your feelings of resentment and hurt to other people.

I’m getting better with confrontation. It’s not that I seek it out, but I also try not to hide from it anymore. It’s helped me to get rid of a lot of negativity in my life and I’ve learned that it’s so much better to deal with something right away rather than letting it get worse, even if it makes me feel uncomfortable.

How are you with confrontation? Do you have any methods that help you? Let’s chat!

]]>13 Tips For How To Confront Someone With Compassion For You Both7 Holiday Party Looks That Are Totally Out Of The Box (Style Guide)StyleCicily AndreaSun, 23 Dec 2018 23:00:00 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/holiday-party-looks54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c1fecdecd83668367cc71d3These holiday party looks are out of the box and totally doable, check out
our style guide for some fresh ideas.

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December is the month of holiday cheer and endless holiday parties. The Company Holiday Dinner, the annual Christmas get-together with your friend group, and maybe you’ll step out on the town for New Years Eve too. Holiday Party season is also the perfect excuse to try a fun and festive look. We all know the traditional tried and true holiday attire: shiny sequins, velvet or plaid, standard colors of Hunter Green or Cherry Red, and of course, Silver and Gold details. But what about the women who like to spice things up? Here are seven out of the box holiday looks to help you break from the traditional and have your fellow party goers in awe:

Extravagant Glitter Eye Makeup

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So, I am not just talking a pretty shimmering eye shadow across your top lid, I am talking a full blown glitter fairy! Stage-esque makeup has been an ongoing trend for the last few years but many women are still afraid to overload on the glitz. Here is your official invitation to get crazy, even if it's just for the holiday. There are loads of helpful beauty gurus online and makeup tutorials such as this one that can get you started. Trust me, the post-party pictures will be worth the effort.

Neon Green

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Many are calling this upcoming color trend daring but I call it Holiday Ready! When the traditional Hunter Green just won’t cut it, try going Neon. This color is perfect for the woman who likes to stand out in the crowd. Whether, you make it subtle with neon green accessories or rock a full blown neon green outfit, you can be sure that you will be unmatched at this year’s festivities.

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Tessa Thompson wore a Neon Green mini dress by Prada and a neon green clutch to the Creed II premiere in New York City recently. She paired with a silver pump making the whole look perfect inspo for your next social occasion.

Teddy Bear Coats

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Tell the other guest that they came to party but you came to be cozy! The Teddy Bear coat is lush without being over the top like a faux fur, and gives extreme happy feels. This would actually be the perfect coat for a Cancer Rising, who always gives cute but comfy vibes. You can go with the ordinary neutral tan or cream color Teddy or you can get festive with a stand out Mauve like this Tularosa Teddy Coat.

Animal Print

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If you have ever asked yourself “when is a good season to wear animal print?” The answer should be “When you damn well please!”. Animal print is continually becoming a season agnostic trend and maybe one day soon will take its place among wardrobe staples like the LBD and or plain white tee. While everyone is in their red velour and sparkly sequins you show up looking ferocious and sexy to get the party started. * Cues our favorite Animal Print wearing Queen Eartha Kitt singing “Santa Baby”

Sneakers Paired With A Skirt Or Dress

Not everyone is the high heeled, super “femme” type and that is actually perfect for this trend. It gives you a chance to mix your fancy sequins or gorgeous gown with your favorite Adidas or Chucks. The look comes across casual but extremely fashion forward with minimal effort from you (and gives you more leverage on the dance floor).

PHOTO: COURTESY Sara Escudero / Collagevintage.com

Styling should be easy but if you need extra inspo look here. You win Bonus points if you can pair your sneakers with animal print for trend on trend alert.

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Feathers

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Here is another option if you're tired of sequins. Ostrich feathers! An ostrich feather skirt gives a more mature look than a tulle skirt with the same “Oh you're fancy fancy” type of vibe. No matter the color your choose or what you decide to pair it with, these skirts are elegant. Definitely for the party goer who wants to be unique and refined. I would wear this for more of a upscale Company Holiday Dinner or Black Tie Event.

A Crown

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I tend to love “Doing the Most” type looks so it's no surprise that there are crowns here. Wearing a finely crafted headpiece can really allow you bring out your inner Queen and every holiday party could use a touch of your goddess like grace, am I right? This is an especially amazing addition if you decide you want the rest of your outfit to be understated and minimal.

Photo: COURTESY TEEN VOGUE FEATURING Yara Shahidi

Crowns also work for those of us who have super curly hair and can’t wear most hair accessories without it getting lost or stuck in the coils (the process of pulling it out is brutal). That is why I love this look on Yara Shahidi for Teen Vogue. She adorns the Glossy Pearl Wide Headband by Lelet NY with two flat twist to each side feeding into marvelous curly ponytails.

I challenge the adventurous few to try a few of these looks simultaneously! I for one am thinking a crown and extravagant eye makeup will give the Ethereal Earth Angel look that I want for my next party. Let me know how you plan to turn heads at your next event!

]]>7 Holiday Party Looks That Are Totally Out Of The Box (Style Guide)10 Makeup Storage & Organizers That Will Tame Your Beauty ChaosBeautyFeel Good(s)UsSun, 23 Dec 2018 20:08:01 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/makeup-storage54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c15b5038a922db9dfb4628bOur list includes makeup storage available on Amazon, The Container Store,
and Wayfair. These makeup units are a mix of attractive and functional with
affordable prices.

Even if you’re not the most prolific beauty enthusiast you may have opened your bathroom drawer one day to find an absolute disaster zone which you refer to as your makeup drawer. What follows is a brief moment of self-reflection when you ask yourself how it got so out of hand. How did you not see the writing on the wall? Were you just to busy navigating a demanding life to notice the trouble brewing? Moreover, where do you go from here?

Step one is to get rid of all of the half empty tubes, broken makeup mirrors, foundation covered compacts and numerous pallets that are mysteriously missing their lids. Then, you have to start again and build a new foundation (pun intended) of an organized beauty paradise. Never again will you lose your favorite highlighters in a sea of mascara tubes. This is your chance to create a new beauty life for yourself. This is your chance to tame the chaos.

Okay, so we’re dramatic as hell but hopefully you got a chuckle out of that. Read on for our ten favorite makeup storages and organizers that we found on the internet.

Our Favorite Makeup Storage Roundup

If you’re short on time, here’s a quick roundup of our favorites from this list. For the epitome of chic makeup storage we recommend the Luxe Acrylic Modular Storageavailable at The Container Storefor$29 at the time of publication. For modern and sleek makeup storage, we recommend the Maxkim Makeup Organizer available at Amazon for $31 at the time of publication. And, for an understated and elegant storage piece, the Stoney Brook Vanity Tray available at Wayfair.com for $25 at the time of publication.

Luxe Acrylic Modular Makeup Storage

The Container Store knows what it’s doing when it comes to storage of any kind. That’s why when we decided to gather the best makeup storage options on the internet we went there first. Check out their acrylic modular makeup system which allows you to craft a storage piece that fits your exact needs.

Container Store Reviewer:

This unit is pretty awesome! I was contemplating on several different options for my make up storage, and then ran upon these items in The Container Store. I will have to say that I absolutely love it! The pieces are easily stack-able - without moving or sliding around. Also, it gives me the ability to add the unit as I grow my makeup collection. Unlike other similar units that come in one box and you have to purchase an entire new unit to add more. With this Luxe Acrylic system, I can just buy another drawer, stack, and save money! This system is awesome and I would recommend to anyone!

Stoney Brook Octangular Design Mirror Vanity Tray

You’re here because you’re a fan of pretty things so why not let your makeup storage reflect those same tastes. Check out Stoney Brook’s octangular mirror vanity tray which you can nab at wayfair.com. If your home decor veers more toward elegance then this is the makeup storage you want on your dresser or vanity. A few cute compacts, your go-to makeup brushes, and your favorite lipstick will make this your “everyday” makeup tray.

Wayfair Reviewer:

I bought this, not sure it would be as nice as the one in the picture, well let me tell you, it was well worth the money. It gives my vanity such a distinguished look, it really dressed up the area very nicely. I’m thinking of [bu’yimg] [amother] for my daughter. Well worth the money spent.

Sorbus Acrylic Makeup Storage

This is the makeup storage you need if you’re a makeup enthusiast. If you’re a makeup guru, or just love the infinite options of a beat face then you’ve likely racked up an extensive makeup collection. As you can see, this piece can store quite a bit, but it doesn’t have an overwhelmingly large footprint as it will command only 9.2 x 7.9 x 5.4 inches of your counter or dresser space.

With this storage piece you’ll get 4 large transparent drawers that can easily house 3-4 makeup items per drawer, economizing the space properly.

Amazon Reviewer: “Nicely constructed and sturdy. Using it to house an assortment of bandages and tapes. Much more convenient than having a bunch of band-aid boxes and related material tossed in a bathroom drawer.”

Sanipoe 360 Rotating Makeup Storage

If you’re the sort of person who has to spend a good chunk of her day in front of a desk, then the Sanipoe 360 Rotating Makeup Organizer is a highly recommended option for you. This 360-Degree rotating makeup storage kit looks just like a pen-holder and can be spun around at the flick of a finger to bring up the item you need. Though it might look deceptively small and simple, the smart compartment designs in its circular shape allows a lot of stuff to fit into it. Since it’s a DIY makeup storage kit, the 4 compartments that make up this unique makeup storage can be assembled or disassembled easily.

Amazon Reviewer:

“I purchased this months ago. I wasn't concerned about the design. I just wanted to finally have a an organized place for my make-up with everything in reach. I use many different products on different days and need to be able to grab and go without much fuss. this did the job. I did think it was a bit over priced as it is totally constructed of plastic. But it did the trick. It's quick and easy make-up job and clean up when you’re finished. No more searching though drawers.”

DreamGenius 360-Degree Rotating Acrylic Makeup Storage

This makeup storage piece is the very definition of “too much” which for you might be just enough. Let this rotating makeup organizer glam up your vanity and make a home for your collection of lipsticks and glosses.

Amazon Reviewer:

“This organizer is perfect. Very spacious, replaced two of my smaller organizers and still has room to be filled. I chose this organizer over similar products because the top tier has many smaller compartments, which are good for tall slender items like makeup brushes, lip/eye liners, liquid lippies, etc. Love that the shelf sizes are customizable and can be changed at any time. Swivel/spin feature is great. 10/10 purchase.”

Makeup Train Professional Travel Makeup Storage

Beauty-on-the-go is essential if you travel for work or otherwise need to keep your makeup handy. This travel makeup storage bag can be the be-all-end-all solution for you. The bag is rectangular in shape and has a palm-grip strap holder on the top for easy portability in it you’ll get two large pads three small pads and one long pad which will allow you to customize your storage according to your needs.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Perfect size, looks and feels very sturdy, enough space for all my makeup and it won’t take up most of the space in my luggage. Sturdy zipper and pocket behind brush is perfect for makeup remover wipes and contour pallet.”

Makeup Storage Carousel by Nifty

For some reason this makeup storage takes me back to high school art class. This simple but pretty carousal stand from Nifty can be placed anywhere from your bedside table to the corner shelf or rack of your bathroom. The stand of the carousal can be adorned with up to six small baskets that can hold all your makeup items and has 360-degree rotation functionality.

Amazon Reviewer:

“I was very skeptical about buying this but I made the right choice!!! It helped me organize all my products which I haven't been using because they were all crammed in different places. Now I have them all displayed. I love this!! I wish it came in different sizes!”

STORi Plastic Vanity Makeup Storage

If you’re looking for a piece of makeup storage that will just get the job done, then check out Stori’s makeup organizer. It’s a super simple DIY makeup container with five retrofitted compartments which can be attached or detached at your convenience.

Amazon Reviewer:

﻿“I was looking for something to hold my makeup brushes in that would fit in my train case and this is perfect. I have a Seya makeup train case and this fit perfectly into the larger part of it. I would recommend this product.”

Maxkim Makeup Organizer Jewelry and Cosmetic Storage

If your home decor has more of a modern feel, then you might lean towards this makeup organizer by Maxkim. This makeup storage piece will give you your everyday makeup at your finger tips, along with your everyday jewelry. It’ll be your one-stop-shop for getting ready in the morning.

Amazon Reviewer:

“I got the XL and am glad I took the risk on this. Pretty cute and easy to clean which is nice (unlike my wooden one). It holds so much and helps so much! Organization in the home can get expensive and this was a perfect middle ground buy for me. Worth it, and good value! I may even buy the smaller one now. Got here quick, too.”

MobileVision Bamboo Makeup Drawer Organizer

Wood accents are all the rage right now in home decor, so if you’re looking to bring some more warm elements into your vanity space you should consider this bamboo makeup storage by mobilevision. It’s pretty simplistic so if you have an extensive makeup collection, you’ll want to look elsewhere. But, this piece is undeniably modern and minimalistic.

Amazon Reviewer:

“Great bathroom counter organizer. The various sized compartments are useful and keep things standing up. Very sturdy material and construction.”

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]]>10 Makeup Storage & Organizers That Will Tame Your Beauty Chaos20 Last-Minute Gifts For The Spiritual Woman In Your LifeSpiritFeel Good(s)Sonya MatejkoWed, 19 Dec 2018 19:32:51 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/gifts-for-spiritual-woman54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c1a695b562fa7f0b0e95e9eCheck out our list of gifts that every spiritual woman would love. Oh and
you’ll love how easy they are to snag for her!

Have an amazing friend, goddess, gypsy soul, BFF, or boss babe you want to gift this year but haven’t had the time to think about holiday shopping? Don’t you worry, I have your back. Below you’ll find the ultimate metaphysical guide for your last-minute Christmas shopping. Get curious, get spiritual, and dive on in goodness.

Here are 20 gifts for the Spiritual Woman…

1. Goddess Provisions Subscription Box

Who doesn’t love getting things in the mail?! Goddess Provisions is a monthly subscription box that includes items said to light up your soul. Gift a 1-month or 3-month subscription to your BFF who’s looking to reward their inner goddess and kickstart their spiritual practice.

3. Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza

This #1 selling book by a New York Times best-selling author offers wisdom for how anyone can learn to live a more mystical life. Gift this book to someone who’s ready to expand their mind, find their deepest truth, and transcend the material world.

4. Amethyst Crystal Candle Holder

Know someone who’s just getting started on their spiritual journey? Help them with this candle that enables spiritual growth and healing. Plus, it’ll add a yummy and soothing scent of lavender into any room.

5. Power Stone Jewelry by Gorjana

Give a beautiful gift to a loved one based on what they need in 2019. The ring above includes Onyx which is a great stone for protection. Gorjana, the jewelry brand, has a variety of options to select from.

6. Smudging Kit

You might’ve seen this item mentioned in my metaphysical toolkit article an earlier article. Still, as a quick recap, smudging helps clear away negative energy from places, people, and objects. A kit like this is an amazing gift to help someone purify, charge, and balance their space.

8. Meditation Subscription

I’ve found it hard to make time for meditation, but it’s always worth it when I do. Consider gifting a membership to an app like Headspace to help guide your fellow goddess towards a more mindful holiday season and 2019.

9. Essential Oils

Essential oils are a beautiful gift even for the skeptic in your life. They are easy to use, and aromatherapy is known to aid in stress relief, improving focus, and a variety of other natural benefits. You’ll get bonus points if your friend or loved one is a fan of The Bachelor - Nick Viall (Season 10 & 11 of The Bachelorette… and Season 21 of The Bachelor) founded Natural Habits essential oils.

10. Affirmation Cards

These cards are guaranteed to help your fellow goddess life her best life and be her best self. The powerful affirmations included on the cards will help anyone reaffirm their inner awesomeness and let is come out to play.

11. Gratitude Journal

If you follow my writing, you already know I’m obsessed with this gratitude journal. I start and end my days with gratitude and think it has made me a more well-rounded person. This journal makes for a thoughtful gift for someone who could use five minutes of thanks.

12. Moon Calendar

Do you have a friend who’s always telling you about their horoscope? Gift them a 2019 moon phase calendar so they can keep track and prepare for planetary shifts. With a little practice, they’ll be able to discern their horoscopes (and yours)!

13. BFF Yoga Class

Gift yourself and your friend by buying two yoga classes. Flow together, rise together, and make a day out of it! Yoga is a safe place to explore your innermost self, so why not share that experience with a friend?

16. Himalayan Salt Lamp

Himalayan salt lamps are said to boost blood flow, improve sleep, increase levels of serotonin in the brain, and looks awesome as bedroom decor. For the goddess that’s been feeling a little “witchy” lately, get a cute mini cat version.

17. Zodiac Sign Mug

These beautiful mugs are ideal for the friend who starts her day with coffee and ends her day with tea. If not a zodiac sign, there are SO many fun and spiritual mugs to be found. I recommend checking out Etsy to get really custom.

18. Therapy Pillow Mist

Guarantee sweet dreams in 2019 by gifting this dream mist from Free People. The mist is infused with crystals and wildflowers to invite a peaceful sleep. This mist can also be used in the morning to help encourage you to make your dreams a reality.

19. Dream Journal

Speaking of dreams, consider a personalized dream journal. Our dreams can tell us so much about our innermost and highest selves. By writing down dreams, we can discover and unearth a lot of our personalities. Give this journal to someone looking to understand themselves better in 2019.

20. Meditation Bath Salts

When I’m really in self-care mode, I crave a warm, bubbly bath. Gift bath salts that are infused with essential oils and crystals for the ultimate relaxation. Pair with one of the above books and you’ve got yourself one exceptional gift.

What’s on your wish list? What sort of gifts does the spiritual woman in your life love? Leave a comment below!

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Sonya Matejko is a writer embracing vulnerability and on a mission to nurture the soul. You can find her opening up her heart onMedium or exploring her spiritual side onI AM & CO. Nurture your soul by following her at@aforceofnurture on Instagram.

]]>20 Last-Minute Gifts For The Spiritual Woman In Your LifeThese 15 Quotes From Michelle Obama Will Get You Through The DayCultureBrittani SamuelMon, 17 Dec 2018 17:56:54 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/15-best-michelle-obama-quotes54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c17de316d2a733821a9984dOur list of 15 Michelle Obama quotes about failure, life lessons,
relationships, and self care.

PHOTO: COURTESY AP Photo/Richard Drew

There are an infinite number of ways to describe Michelle Obama-first lady, lawyer, activist, author, motivator, mother, wife, bicep goals-yet, all of them still seem to fall short of her true prowess. Even after leaving her position of first lady, which she held for eight glorious years, the 54-year-old wonder woman’s impact is still largely felt across the globe. While living and serving in the nation’s highest office, she managed to lead beside her president of a partner (rather than behind him), was very vocal about issues that centered girls and women, prioritized healthy living, all while managing to find time to hang out with Beyonce and school Ellen Degeneres in several rounds of pushups. It’s safe to say, there has never been a first lady quite like Michelle.

On top of being a very visible figure in the public eye, Michelle is also revered for her voice. When she speaks, we listen. Some of her most powerful quotes, one being “when they go low, we go high” spoken at the 2016 Democratic National Convention, still ring in my ears whenever I am in a difficult situation. So...I got to thinking. Wouldn’t it be great if there was an easily accessible archive encompassing all of the former-FLOTUS’ most inspirational quotes? Certainly, there is no shortage of them, so why not make it easy to share these moments of encouragement, advice, and clarity with other people in your life!

In celebration of Michelle’s contributions to girl power, as well as her brand new New York Times’ Bestselling memoir, Becoming, we curated the ultimate list of Michelle Obama-coined phrases to take you through this new day, week, month, or however long you need. Keep reading and let us know which ones are your favorite!

1). “The arts are not just a nice thing to have or to do if there is free time or if one can afford it. Rather, paintings and poetry, music and fashion, design and dialogue, they all define who we are as a people and provide an account of our history for the next generation.”

2) "Whether you come from a council estate or a country estate, your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude."

3) "One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself, and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals."

4) “Failure is an important part of your growth and developing resilience. Don’t be afraid to fail.”

5) “Instead of letting your hardships and failures discourage or exhaust you, let them inspire you. Let them make you even hungrier to succeed.”

6) “Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down, and trust your instincts. Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourself with.”

7) “Walk away from friendships that make you feel small and insecure, and seek out people who inspire you and support you.”

9) "I want our young people to know that they matter, that they belong. So don't be afraid. You hear me, young people? Don't be afraid. Be focused. Be determined. Be hopeful. Be empowered. Empower yourself with a good education. Then get out there and use that education to build a country worthy of your boundless promise. Lead by example with hope; never fear."

10) “It is our fundamental belief in the power of hope that has allowed us to rise above the voices of doubt and division, of anger and fear that we have faced in our own lives and in the life of this country. Our hope that if we work hard enough and believe in ourselves, then we can be whatever we dream, regardless of the limitations that others may place on us.”

11) “You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world’s problems at once but don’t ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.”

12) "Every day, you have the power to choose our better history — by opening your hearts and minds, by speaking up for what you know is right."

13) "Success is only meaningful and enjoyable if it feels like your own."

14) "Don't ever make decisions based on fear. Make decisions based on hope and possibility. Make decisions based on what should happen, not what shouldn't."

15) “You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.”

Do you miss Michelle as much as I do? Are her words helping to pull your through? Let’s chat in the comments below!

]]>These 15 Quotes From Michelle Obama Will Get You Through The Day7 Places to Explore Your Spirituality This WinterSpiritSonya MatejkoSat, 15 Dec 2018 15:06:52 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/explore-spirituality54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c12cd7ccd836678e8cc4566Our list of 7 places to explore your spirituality this winter to help you
continue your expansion, despite the weather.

Winter is here and “cuffing” season is almost upon us. Our excuses for bailing on plans, stock of candles, and supply of wine all grow as the temperature falls. Coming home, putting on pajamas, and snuggling up to a friend or loved one I what I live for during the winters months.

As lovely as it sounds, sometimes this hibernation leaves me wanting more, craving a deeper connection, and looking for the motivation to escape my cinnamon-spiced living room.

Ever since I started my spiritual journey at the end of 2017, it has become an essential part of my life and an integral part of who I am today. I know that, while I love a good snow day binge-watching Netflix, I also love the connection I’ve been able to establish with myself below the surface.

I think it’s equally important to have a safe space in your home as it is to have one outside. My desire for connection, understanding, and self-exploration doesn’t go away when scarves become a mandatory accessory.

I also hope that these the winter months don’t deter anyone who’s curious about spirituality to go out seeking answers. If anything, this is the perfect time for reflection and ideal moment to make positive changes in our lives.

Don’t let winter stop you from lifting up your spirit and opening your heart. And, to help encourage your expansion, here are 7 places to explore your spirituality this winter.

1. Go On A Retreat

For when you want to hop on a plane and escape somewhere warm…

There are tons of really spiritual places across the globe from Machu Picchu, Peru to Bali, Indonesia to Stonehenge in England. But where’ the best place to go during these winter months? I’d suggest hopping on a plane to Mexico.

Tons of yoga instructors are creating retreats around Mexico, I’ve had friends take amazing solo trips to Xinalani Retreat in Puerto Vallarta, and I’ve read about amazing spiritual journeys in Tulum. While other places have a powerful spiritual pull, it’s either getting too cold or becoming rainy season. So use this trip to connect deeply with yourself and enjoy paradise at the same time.

2. Relax In A Meditation Studio

For when you want to sit in a quiet space…

My ideal Sunday morning always involves no alarm, strong coffee, and a 30-minute session at my favorite meditation studio in NYC, MNDFL. The studio space is always mentally refreshing and is well worth walking to in the cold. It feels amazing to clear your head, and they even have weighted blankets to use if you’re feeling extra chilly. Not in NYC? I suggest a quick Google search for meditation studios in your area or yoga studios that offer one-off meditation classes.

3. Visit Your Local Metaphysical Store

For when you need some of those aforementioned candles…

Who am I kidding, I love candles! There’s no shame to stock up for yourself, gifting candles to others, or just going to store for the smell of it. Check out a metaphysical store in your area and ask the folks working there to show you the different candles they offer. Take the time to learn about how different aromas can affect your energy, body, and mindset. You can also take it a step further, and create your own candle based on the scent you most need to continue or expand on your practice.

4. Sign Up For Yoga Classes

For when you want to connect but be warm at the same time…

My absolute favorite place to disconnect with the world and connect with my soul is in a yoga class. I also prefer hot power yoga or hot vinyasa over non-heated forms of yoga, which are perfect for the cold winter months. If you’re in NYC or LA, check out Y7 for a challenging, warm, and candlelit class. If you’re looking to really connect and don’t need the warmth, look up Kundalini yoga classes in your area.

5. Attend Spiritual Workshops & Conferences

For when you want to learn something new…

One of my absolute favorite things to do it attend conferences and workshops. I’ve gone to everything from a panel on holistic wellness to an astrology workshop to a crystal workshop. There are so many experts out there (I am not one of them just yet) and it’s always fun to learn from them; plus, there’s the added bonus of being around people who are also curious about what metaphysics has to offer. These events are usually at least two hours which makes it easier to justify leaving your house. If you’re in NYC, check out events at Awakening NY, Namaste Bookshop, Catland, and Maha Rose.

6. Stay Home

For when you want to explore spirituality, but you want to do it from home…

Sometimes I really don’t want to leave the house, and I’m finally at the point in my life where I don’t let myself feel guilty for that decision. However, I do my best to not entirely cut off communication with the outside world when I do. Consider hosting a dinner party and finding out what people know and what they’re curious about when it comes to spirituality. Think about having conversation cards or even Angel Cards. Just make sure you cleanse your space before people come over!

Pro tip: if you really, really do want some alone time, consider reading a book to expand your mind and intuition.

7. Find An Event

For when you don’t know what you want…

I’m an avid fan of Eventbrite, and I highly suggest you check it out when you’re not quite sure what you’re looking for. Throw in generic search terms like “metaphysics,” “spiritual,” “meditation,” “yoga” and see what comes up for your area. When I do this in NYC, I find at least four events each month I’m interested in! If you don’t like going to events alone and don’t have someone who’s as curious as you are, look up groups on Meetup who share similar interests using the same search terms.

Do you have a specific place you go to connect? I’d love to hear it!

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Sonya Matejko is a writer embracing vulnerability and on a mission to nurture the soul. You can find her opening up her heart on Medium or exploring her spiritual side on I AM & CO. Nurture your soul by following her at @aforceofnurture on Instagram.

]]>7 Places to Explore Your Spirituality This WinterHow To Beat Stress Acne When Stress Has The Upper HandBeautyFeel Good(s)UsThu, 13 Dec 2018 21:14:37 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/stress-acne54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c11aad84d7a9c362d3bdc1cDon’t let your stress acne get the best of you. In this article we cover
long and short term cures and preventions of stress acne with meditation
and chemical treatments.

If you’ve been struggling with breakouts for a while and have tried everything to keep them at bay then you’ve come to the right place for potential clarity. Rather than dealing with the one-off breakout from not drinking enough water, you may be temporarily treating stress acne which will stick around for as long as your stressors do. In this article, we’ll cover how stress contributes to your acne problem and how you can address it in the long-term and short-term.

How To Tell If You Have Stress Acne

You know what pimples look like, but sometimes acne has the most mysterious origins from dirty pillow cases, to bangs it can feel like acne doesn’t need a big excuse to appear. Acne is that enthusiastic neighbor that needs no invitation to the party.

So, how can you tell if your acne is stress acne as opposed to all of the other acne causing circumstances? Well, you have to be more in tune with your feelings. If you know you’ve been feeling overwhelmed for some time and on top of that you can’t control your acne flair ups, you may be experiencing stress acne.

If your skin feels uncontrollable after a stressful breakup, problems at work, or other problems at home, then it’s likely stress acne. If you’re otherwise cool, calm, and collected but are struggling to tame your acne there may be other factors at play including your environment or diet.

Where Do You Get Stress Acne?

Stress acne most commonly appears on the forehead, but it can make a home anywhere on your body depending on your cortisol levels.

How Stress Causes Your Acne Flair Ups

Stress on its own doesn’t affect acne directly. What it does is it indirectly accelerates the acne growth process. So how does this happen? When you’re stressed, your skin releases particular hormones which in turn increases oil secretion in our skin that leads to more frequent clogging of skin follicles. These three particular hormones are cortisol, neuropeptides and adrenal androgens. When secreted in large amounts in a short time, these hormones inflame the sebaceous glands which are responsible for oil generation for the skin.

When stress acne occurs, you’ll not only see an increase in the number of whiteheads on your skin, but also notice your skin getting red and itchy at random throughout the day. For the average adult, stress acne once in a blue moon until their late thirties is common. If it’s occurring to you more frequently within a matter of days and weeks, the basic treatment measures that we’ll discuss below will probably not be a good enough solution and you should consult with a dermatologist at your earliest convenience as repeated acne growth will eventually leave a lot of unwanted marks and scar your face in an unpleasant manner.

Preventing Stress Acne

When it comes to stress acne, prevention is the best method for long term results. What’s important to consider is that changes to your lifestyle improve your overall health. Where acne is the symptom that further alerts you there’s a problem, stress is the insidious culprit that needs to be managed. Stress contributes to overwhelming amount of detrimental mental and physical conditions. So, while you’ll definitely be able to alleviate your stress acne with the below methods, you will also be dramatically improving your overall well-being and quality of life.

Learn Stress Management Techniques

If you want to address the root causes of stress acne, then you must address the root cause of the stress. To tame your stress acne in the long term, you’re going to need to tame your mind and your surroundings. Change the situations that can be changed and find new ways to engage with the ones that can’t. For example, tell bad boyfriends to hit the road, ask for fewer responsibilities at work, change jobs entirely, or cut expenses to alleviate your finances.

Meditation

Give your brain a break with by meditating daily. You don’t even need to meditate for a long period of time, even five minutes without thought can go a long way. While, meditation is a surefire way to reduce stress don’t forget about FUN. Trust me, you’re not having enough fun. NO ONE is having a enough fun, because you can never have too much.

Have More Fun

If quieting your mind sounds difficult then jam pack so much fun into it that there’s no room for stress. Go see more movies, throw yourself into your favorite hobbies, focus on funny entertainment, and get more active. Chances are, you already know what activities delight you, so do more of those.

Breathing Exercises

Lastly, and perhaps the most helpful, practice breathing exercises. Breathing exercises are so clutch for managing stress because you can address stressors right when they present themselves instead of letting them grow.

Treatment: How To Get Rid Of Stress Acne

We’ve covered how to prevent your stress acne in the long run, but that doesn’t necessarily address the current explosion on your forehead. For that, you’ll want to call in the reinforcements, topic acne treatments. Depending on the severity of your breakout there are a plethora of ways to address stress acne quickly. Here are a few tips and products that can help you eliminate your stress acne in the short term.

Salicylic Acid & Benzoyl Peroxide

Don’t see the word “acid” and freakout. Salicylic acid is your best friend when it comes to getting rid of stress acne because it clears pores that lead to the inflammation you know as zits. Salicylic is incredibly common in skincare products that tout complexion clearing so it’s often found in exfoliants and facial cleansers alike. Benzoyl Peroxide is also a heavy hitter when you’re addressing a stress acne breakout because it helps kill bacteria. When you use both of those chemicals in conjunction they make for a 1-2 punch that will knock your stress acne out, sometimes overnight.

The best way to utilize both ingredients gently is to use a facial cleanser with salicylic acid one night and treat your skin with benzoyl peroxide the next night. CeraVe is arguably one of the highest rated salicylic acid facial cleansers on the market, it’s available on Amazon for $9 at the time of publishing. While you’re shopping for your stress acne cure, make sure to include benzoyl peroxide in your cart as well.

Warm-Compress

If you feel like your breakout isn’t one that warrants chemical reinforcement you can always try a warm compress. Warm compresses work by increasing circulation to the area and softening the sebum in the pimple for draining. This option isn’t the overnight results sort of treatment but it’s definitely a gentle alternative for less serious breakouts.

Use Retinoids

Retinoids such as Retinol can also be very beneficial for treating stress acne. Retinoids are artificial compounds that the skin can absorb easily and contains the same properties as Vitamin A. Retinoids work deep within the pores to keep them from clogging which is a way to chemically prevent breakouts before they even form. Body Merry is a popular retinoid moisturizer available on Amazon that prevents breakouts while nourishing your skin.

Alternative Solutions

There are a slew of alternative acne treatment solutions that many swear by, still the jury’s out on whether the claims hold up to testing. For example, use of tea tree oil topically has been cited as effective for acne treatment as well as tannins and fruit acids like glycolic acid. If you’re feeling curious and are interested in experiment with these dermatologically unconventional treatments please do and leave feedback about your results in the comments section!

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]]>How To Beat Stress Acne When Stress Has The Upper HandWhat Is Lykke? You Def Need More Of It In Your Life ASAPSelf-CareBrandi NealWed, 12 Dec 2018 20:03:44 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/what-is-lykke54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c1150d94fa51affc26bc5faLykke is the Danish word for happiness, and since Denmark is the third
happiest country in the world, they know what they’re doing when it comes
to living the lykke life.

If you’ve been livin’ la vida loca lately, it’s time to slow your roll and make more room in your life for lykke. Scratching your head and wondering, what is lykke? Lykke is the Danish word for happiness, and since Denmark is the third happiest country in the world, they know what they’re doing when it comes to living the lykke life. Denmark is a country of people who value self-care because Danes know that true lykke starts with being good to yourself. According to the World Happiness Report, Denmark prioritizes all of the things it takes to live a life of lykke: a stable income, a healthy life expectancy, social support, freedom, trust, and generosity.

On the other hand, the U.S. dropped four spots this year to number 18, which means Danes know something about happiness that we don’t. As it turns out, their commitment to hygge might actually be the secret to lykke. “Hygge” is ‘intentional intimacy,’ which can happen when you have safe, balanced and harmonious shared experiences. A cup of coffee with a friend in front of a fireplace might qualify, as could a summer picnic in the park,” Marie Helweg-Larsen, psychologist and native Dane, wrote for The Conversation. Basically, experiencing all the feels with someone you care about can actually make you feel happier.

How To Bring More Lykke To Your Life

Just because the happiness index is falling in the U.S., that doesn’t mean you’re doomed to a lykke-free life. According to Meik Wiking, author of “The Little Book Of Lykke” and founder of the world’s first Happiness Research Institute, happiness is attainable for everyone, regardless of where you hang your hat. The secret? Getting out of your head.

“If you want happiness immediately, I’d suggest engaging in an activity that demands your full attention,” Wiking said in an interview with Penguin Books. “For instance, even though I am a terrible dancer, I took up tango classes four years ago because it made me focus on the body and not the mind, enabling me to get a mental break from that voice that's inside all our heads, constantly critiquing our decisions and sense of worth.”

Wiking traveled all over the world searching for lykke, and he found one common theme everywhere he went — a direct line from regular engagement in activities that promote health and wellness to happiness. In France, it’s spending time together preparing and eating meals. In Bhutan it’s starting the day with a mindfulness exercise called brain brushing, and in Denmark it’s cycling to work to start the day off with physical activity. Not only are each of these activities good for you, they make you feel good too. Good for you + makes you feel good = lykke. This is math I can get behind.

Living A Life Of Lykke Doesn’t Cost A Thing

Who among us hasn’t entertained the notion that we’d be happier if we just had more money, a better car, designer duds? One of the reasons people in the U.S. are less likely to experience lykke is because we’re often chasing the wrong things. Let’s be honest, a lot Americans are programmed from birth to become climbers trying to reach the next rung on the ladder without considering whether or not it will actually lead to lykke. Case in point, discount shoe brand Payless tricking people into paying hundreds of dollars for $20 shoes by creating a fake luxury boutique and telling shoppers the shoes were designer.

The stunt was a social experiment that revealed the frivolous nature of American culture because the people who threw down hundreds for the designer shoes would not have parted with $20 if they knew those cool kicks were from a discount retailer. Obviously, a sense of security is one of the keys to feeling safe and happy. However, research has shown that after all of your needs are met, having more money to throw at shoes and clothes actually doesn’t contribute to lykke.

“In the end, more disposable income doesn’t hold a candle to having someone to rely on in a time of need (something that 95 percent of Danes believe they have),” Helweg-Larsen said on The Conversation. “At its core, hygge is about building intimacy and trust with others. Americans could probably use a little more of it in their lives.”

What’s the lesson here? Surround yourself with people you love and trust, and engage in activities that make you feel good. We can’t always control everything that’s going on around us, but we can control how we react to it. The secret to living the lykke life is not getting bogged down in the bajiggity energy of others. I know that’s an oversimplification, but a little visualization can help. When you encounter negatively, imagine yourself throwing up an invisible shield to deflect it. In your everyday life, choose to surround yourself with things and people that induce feelings of lykke. Everything else is just noise.

What do you do to make yourself happy? Let us know in the comments below.

]]>What Is Lykke? You Def Need More Of It In Your Life ASAPHow To Practice Self-Care During An Endometrial Flare-UpHealthSelf-CareChristine SchoenwaldTue, 11 Dec 2018 14:33:57 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/endometrial-flare-up54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c0fc5ed4ae237bd6777135fWhen you’re having an endometrial pain flare-up, self-care may be the last
thing on your mind. Here are 11 self-care tips when you’re having an
endometrial flare up.

However, in order to cope with the stresses in our lives and stay in good health, we need to practice self-care regularly especially when dealing with a chronic illness like endometriosis.

When you’re having an endometrial pain flare-up, self-care may be the last thing on your mind. There are times when you ignore your symptoms and just try to power through the endometriosis episode or other times when you focus all your energy on getting through the pain, leaving very little energy for anything else.

Whatever way you handle your endometriosis is good as long as it isn’t ignoring it completely and just wishing that it would go away. You may choose to go down the path of Western medicine or you may try more holistic methods—both are viable options.

Self-care can help you manage your endometriosis—because after all, isn’t self-care just taking the time to recognize what your needs are, what you can to do make yourself feel better, and taking some small steps to improve your overall health.

11 Self-Care tips when you’re having an endometrial flare-up.

Drink plenty of water: Staying hydrated is important every day but it’s especially vital when dealing with endometriosis issues. Water can help to reduce bloating, cramping, and will assist in eliminating certain toxins in your body.

Get comfortable: Often times when you’re having some endo issues you may have extra tenderness in your pelvic region or you may experience bloating. So, put on your comfiest clothes. If you think of comfort as your pajamas or old yoga pants, then the simple act of putting them on will get you into a more positive headspace.

Embrace your JOMO:Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to do nothing. If you want to curl up on the couch with your dog or cat, and watch Netflix, then do it. You’re allowing yourself to take the time to decompress which is a great way to practice self-care. If you power through a social event just because you think that your friends will be mad at you if you don’t, you’ll end up feeling even worse and they’ll probably feel bad at making you.

Have a good soak: There’s nothing like some aromatherapy and warm water to make you feel better. You can add to the overall ambiance of your bath by listening to some music via waterproof Bluetooth speakers, using scented bath-bombs, and/or lighting some candles.

Heat it up: You might not be familiar with heating pads or maybe you think they’re too old-fashioned, but if you let them, they’ll be your best friends. One of the best ways to help relieve endometriosis pain is a heating pad. The heat helps to loosen and soothe your muscles. If you want to go even more homeopathic use a rice sock. All you have to do is take a clean sock (maybe a sock in a bright color or a fun design,) fill it up with uncooked rice, pop it into the microwave for up to two minutes and you have another heat source to ease your endometriosis pain.

Try a TENS machine: For those times when you want something that is drug-free, fast, and easy, try a TENS machine. TENS stands for transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation, and a popular one is Liva. What these compact units do is to give off vibrations that can relieve cramps, bloating, backaches, and headaches.

Have some tea: Stick with decaffeinated green, ginger, and chamomile teas to help you unwind, decompress, and de-stress. Letting go of as much tension from your body as possible will help you to feel better and since you’re drinking decaffeinated beverages, that will also help to hydrate you. Don’t you love doing something that has twice the benefits?

Take medicine: Whether it’s Eastern or Western medicines, there’s no shame in getting some pain-relieving help. There are a lot of options including Chinese herbs, ibuprofen, and any kind of anti-inflammatory. Please read and follow the directions carefully. If it says to take with food, don’t take it on an empty stomach because that can cause stomach issues, which is the last thing you need.

Think outside the box: Sometimes you have to take a chance and go in a different direction when it comes to pain management. Many people have had great results with acupuncture and meditation. Don’t be afraid to try something new—as long as you’re mindful about it and gentle with yourself.

Laugh: When you’re having an endometrial flare-up, laughing may be the last thing that you feel like doing, but it’s extremely good for you. Laughing helps to release tension and relieve stress which is hugely helpful when you’re cramping. In addition, laughter has the added benefit of releasing endorphins, a natural pain reliever.

Move your body: Since you’re already practicing mindfulness, you know not to run that marathon when you’re having an endometrial flare-up and you’ve never run further than to the end of the block. Yoga, walking, or even just stretching while lying in bed can help you to feel better.

Endometriosis can sometimes be your body’s way of telling you to slow down, relax, and take care of yourself. Self-care shouldn’t be something that you occasionally do, it should be something that you do regularly, even if you have to schedule it in.

What do you do to practice self-care when having an endometrial flare-up? Let’s discuss.

]]>How To Practice Self-Care During An Endometrial Flare-UpThe 13 Zodiac Signs As Songs, For Your Listening PleasureCultureAstrologySpiritBrittani SamuelFri, 07 Dec 2018 18:10:58 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/zodiac-signs-as-songs54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c0958c10e2e72a9a48a0645The Stars Have Spoken! Here Are The Songs That Best Align With Your Zodiac
Sign And They’re Total Jams.

The Stars Have Spoken! Here Are The Songs That Best Align With Your Zodiac Sign And They’re Total Jams.

Music is a universal language for a reason. It speaks to something in us that cannot always be explained across different barriers. In today’s hyper-digital age, where anyone can make a song in his or her bedroom and publish it for the world’s listening pleasure, it can be hard to settle on exactly what and who to listen to. The Billboard Hot 100 charts are always a safe place to start, but scouring this list can be extremely overwhelming. Fortunately, I did it for you!

I’ve used my knowledge of each signs’ most well-known traits to create the ultimate list of what you should be listening to, according to your sign. While the correlation between zodiac signs and music may not always match up, if you keep reading, I guarantee you will find something to perfect that playlist!

Aries - Fire Sign

If you are a fiery Aries, you tend to be more bold, energetic, and enthusiastic than those around you. You know all too well that life is meant to be lived, and you are not afraid to let your energy take over a room. Because of your dazzling spirit, an upbeat song is needed to match your upbeat energy. If you haven’t already, try turning up to “I Like It” by Cardi B. featuring Bad Bunny and J. Balvin.

Taurus - Earth Sign

As an earthy grounded Taurus, there is a good chance that you like your music to mellow you out, rather than hype you up. Fortunately, there is no shortage of amazing tunes to slow groove to, even on the popular music charts. “Trip” by Ella Mai, in particular, is an amazing laid-back song for those who tend to gear towards poetic lyrics and soothing beats. Tauruses also tend to teeter on the head-strong side, so the message behind Ella’s Rnb hit about a young woman finding her own strength while entering a passionate relationship, is sure to match your attitude.

Gemini - Earth Sign

Geminis are considered one of the most expressive signs for a reason. They tend to be quick-witted, luxurious and always read to shine. If you’re the kind of person that likes to be “on,” crank up Gucci Mane’s “Wake Up in the Sky.” Although Gucci is usually known for his harder, ATL-bred beats, this song takes a bit of a groovier tone and it’s all about living life like you’re the flyest person in the game.

Cancer - Water Sign

Cancers tend to get a bed reputation for being moody, but in reality this is only because they are so in tune with their own emotions. Anyone who spends enough time around a Cancer will learn what genuine and beautiful people they tend to be. If you are a Cancer, there is also very good chance that you are artistic and deeply care about your craft. Try tuning in to “Consequences” by Camila Cabello-another artist who is not afraid to wear her heart on her sleeve.

Leo - Fire Sign

There are few things more exciting to see than a Leo on the dance floor! Dramatic, fun, expressive, and always ready to have a good time, “Taki Taki” by DJ Snake is your song! Featuring insanely popular Latina artists Selena Gomez, Oduna, and Cardi B, this insanely catchy song will have you up off your feet in a heartbeat. As a Leo myself, it’s always a go-to whether I am spending a night on the town or having a party of one in my room!

Virgo - Earth Sign

It can be hard to pick a perfect song for a perfect Virgo, but I think I may have found the one-”All I Want For Christmas is You” by Mariah Carey. Hear me out! For all arguments purposes, this really is one of the most perfect songs. Mariah’s rendition of the Christmas classic has withstood the test of time and continues to spike up the charts around the holiday season every year. As a Virgo you can be a bit of a perfectionist, so I am sure you already know all the words and you will do everything you can to try and hit some of Mariah’s infamous high notes.

Libra - Air Sign

Airy Libras tend to fall on the more gentle side. People that fall under this sign tend to be lovers of unity and harmony. If you are a Libra, then you probably are no stranger to self-care rituals, beauty routines, and doing whatever you can to keep both your inner and outer peace. Hopefully, “Better” by Khalid can you help you with that! The romantic lyrics float smoothly over a laid-back beat, and are all about how good it feels to be with the right person. Let that feeling last all night long by turning up “Better,” having a chill night of pampering with a face mask, going through your affirmation cards, and even journaling in a diary. I may not be a Libra, but this sounds like a perfect night!

Scorpio - Water Sign

Seduction comes naturally to you as a Scorpio. You can easily transition between sweet and sultry, and definitely love songs that can do the same. “Love Lies” by Khalid and Normani came out earlier this year and is still trending on the top charts for this very reason. The song, and the accompanying music video, is oozing with dark, sexy, and bold energy that is sure to entice any Scorpio. If you are getting ready to head out on a steamy date, light some candles, admire yourself in your favorite outfit, and turn this song all the way up!

Sagittarius - Fire Sign

Creative, energetic, and way off the beaten path, “Sicko Mode” by Travis Scott and Drake may just be the perfect song for a Sagittarius. The song is a bit on the longer side (over five minutes), because it is fragmented into three different musical structures, with a hip hop beat maintaining throughout. Sagittarius tend to be more open-minded than the other zodiac signs, so if you fall under the Sag sign, then “Sicko Mode’s” genre-bending style should be right up your alley.

Capricorn - Earth Sign

Every Capricorn I have ever met, has been a natural born leader. This is not shocking seeing as Capricorns have an amazing and notable lineup of powerhouses such as, designer Diane von Fürstenberg, Duchess of Cambridge Kate Middleton, and FLOTUS extraordinaire Michelle Obama. Grounded, practical, and very much in tune with your own power, Ariana Grande’s “God is a Woman” may just be the perfect song for you. The song’s empowering message is very much in line with your own self-assuredness as a proud Capricorn and Ariana’s soaring vocals just make you want to have a good time!

Aquarius - Air Sign

Everyone wants to fall in love with an Aquarius. They tend to be the best at friendships, partnerships, and any other kind of relationship that requires an exchange of affection. If you are an Aquarius looking for a song to match your mood, look no further than “Best Part” by young RnB superstars, Daniel Caeser and H.E.R. This song is an honest, romantic, and genuine expression of one person’s love for another. It’s amplified by the singers’ pure vocals and gentle acoustic chords and is sure to score major points with your partner.

Pisces - Water Sign

As the ultimate water sign, pisces are known to go with the flow. They do not tend to push back too much and are extremely accepting of themselves and of others. Empathetic and intuitive, they are willing to see all of your flaws and raise you one more. That being said, a Pisces can still have a bit of a bite, just like the song “I’m a Mess” by Brooklyn-born pop artist Bebe Rexha. The song is all about the journey towards accepting yourself for who you are and not letting anyone make you feel bad when you find out who that person is.

Are you listening to anything new right now? Or are you just holding out until Rihanna finally releases new music? Put us on in the comments below!

]]>The 13 Zodiac Signs As Songs, For Your Listening PleasureThe Everlane Modern Loafer: 5 Things To Know Before You BuyFeel Good(s)StyleUsFri, 07 Dec 2018 03:18:00 +0000https://iamandco.com/blog/everlane-modern-loafer54ff0211e4b0331c7906899c:56ce88b64c2f8513ab6074f7:5c4296f5562fa759dd4ac1feBefore you buy the Everlane Modern Loafer make sure to review our list of
the 5 things you must know!

When you initially remove the Everlane Modern Loafer from its dust bag you get to see up close the stitching detail, the shine of the hand-polished leather and the overall sleek design of the shoe from heel to toe. Although the modern loafer offers no arch support they are still quite comfortable as the leather inner soles are supple and soft.

If you can’t tell, we’re huge fans of Everlane and not just because of the quality of their products but also because of their commitment to redefining the retail industry. So let’s start by going more into what they’re up to and what that means for you as a shopper.

Everlane’s Motto Is “Radical Transparency”

Everlane’s motto is “radical transparency”and what they mean by that is they are an open book when it comes to their supply chain practices retail price points, markup, and factories. Beneath every product on their online store, they break down the final retail price of their items by cost of materials, hardware, labor, taxes, and shipping and to the right of your product you can click to see what factory it was produced in, in what country, and the conditions of the factory.

Everything you need to know about your purchase is all right there in plain view and that’s the radical transparency that they’re promising. The one exception to this according to Michael Preysman, founder and CEO of Everlane, is that they withhold the names of their Italian factories “because if someone came in and took those factories, they could completely wipe us out.” He makes the world of fashion sound dog eat dog and perhaps that’s true. At a minimum, it’s certainly intriguing.

How Everlane’s Modern Loafer Fits

The Everlane Modern Loafer fits narrow so if you have a wide foot it’s recommended to order one-half size up. The reality of quality leather is that they need to be broken in before they feel comfortable enough to wear all day. While there are a rare few unicorns that haven’t encountered the need to break in their loafers the vast majority of reviews state that this is definitely necessary.

After you unbox these babies and decide you want to keep them, throw on some thicker socks and walk around your house in them. Do this for a couple days and you’ll find that by the time you’re ready to wear them out you’ve successfully avoided painful blisters. The thick sock method is our go-to because the idea of taking a blow dryer or ice bucket to brand new Italian leather loafers sounds…heinous.

Everlane’s Modern Loafer Is Made Of 100% Italian Leather

But, what’s so great about Italian leather? Well, it’s touted as the most durable and long-lasting because of the process it goes through and Italian artisans are said to be the most skilled at taking raw-hide and processing it through tanning and finishing.

Italian leather is often but not exclusively vegetable-tanned which is the oldest known method of tanning and involves the use of tannins extracted from tree bark.

The subtle markings on leather shoes are the result of the natural vegetable tanning process which makes each pair inherently unique. Tan leather is typically just vegetable-tanned leather that hasn’t been dyed yet.

The Everlane Modern Loafer is 50% vegetable tanned and 50% chrome tanned because although vegetable tanning is the most distinctive method it does not hold up well in water and is not suitable for mass production.

Chrome Tanning is known to be softer and doesn’t lose shape or as drastically as vegetable-tanned leather. In a nutshell, Everlane’s production of their Italian leather loafer is a happy combination of distinctive premium tanning process and one that also protects your investment in the long-term.

How To Style Your Everlane Modern Loafer

The most exciting part of the prospect of any new shoe is the rush of ideas for styling them and this is where this style of loafer really shines. While these loafers have a somewhat understated aesthetic they can totally play the role of your outfit’s statement piece. For example, in the summer months, if you pair the red Everlane Modern Loafers with a simple basic tee, high-waisted denim shorts, and a skinny belt, the shoes really become the focal point.

There are other great styling ideas for you to play with as well, in the fall these look absolutely stunning with an oversized knit sweater and cropped pants, a look that’s comfy warm and incredibly polished. For a business meeting, you can pair them with a sleek pant-suit and silk blouse. The ideas are infinite.

How The Modern Loafer Wears Overtime

Because these shoes are 100% leather, they wear well overtime after breaking them in. I personally prefer the look of worn leather, particularly because it adds character to the piece. After a lot of wear, the Modern Loafer will get the typical creasing in the toe that you find in leather shoes. I find that the creasing lends itself to a more classic look and comfortable feel. Over time the shoe won’t feel overly snug on the foot but they will still feel secure.

Are you ready to grab your pair or have you already? We’re curious about how you intend to style these lovely loafers!

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