I'm not saying that motorcycling or anything else should be given up just to appease your spouse, and I agree with someone else how said that if one partner is controlling the other, that's a serious issue. What I am saying is that all this macho talk about not being told what to do by anyone is BS. It's a completely flawed attitude toward life, it's me vs the world. It just seems like a lot of guys around here place motorcycling at the top of their priorities list which is sad to me because is that really all you have to live for? Is that the only legacy you want to have? I don't really think that's all anyone wants, which is why I think that when guys claim that motorcycling is their highest goal it must be masking some deeper issues. Hope that wasn't too confusing...

I personally couldnt care less what "legacy" I leave behind. I dont like kids and dont want kids, neither does the wife. So no one will ever carry on my name. I dont care if anyone ever remembers my name when I am gone, it does nothing for me, I will be dead. "you" only live once, might as well have fun with the one life you get. It cant be done over again with someone who wont hold you back next time.

It seems that people get married really quick these days and really dont know who they are marrying. They meet and fall in love and the sex is great so they get married after three months and then to their surprise they find out a lot of things they didnt know about each other. I dont know why people cant take some time to get to know each other, why be in such a hurry.

I personally couldnt care less what "legacy" I leave behind. I dont like kids and dont want kids, neither does the wife. So no one will ever carry on my name. I dont care if anyone ever remembers my name when I am gone, it does nothing for me, I will be dead. "you" only live once, might as well have fun with the one life you get. It cant be done over again with someone who wont hold you back next time.

It seems that people get married really quick these days and really dont know who they are marrying. They meet and fall in love and the sex is great so they get married after three months and then to their surprise they find out a lot of things they didnt know about each other. I dont know why people cant take some time to get to know each other, why be in such a hurry.

A legacy doesn't have to involve kids, but I agree with the second part of your statement, people jump into marriage far to easily these days.

I agree that some of the macho posturing is obviously a pathetic attempt to compensate for insecurities, but riding can be as much a part of who you are as any other passion. For some it is their career, for others it may be art, music, faith, or many other things.

How can anyone demand that someone give up part of themselves, and still be respected?

I agree motorcycling can be just as much a part of who you are as anything else, but if for whatever reason I was prevented from getting on a bike again, I wouldn't somehow be less of who I am, I can be just as much who I am with or without my ability to ride.

It just seems like a lot of guys around here place motorcycling at the top of their priorities list which is sad to me because is that really all you have to live for? Is that the only legacy you want to have? I don't really think that's all anyone wants, which is why I think that when guys claim that motorcycling is their highest goal it must be masking some deeper issues. Hope that wasn't too confusing...

Well yeah. I think the legacy I leave behind will have to do with motorcycles, I dont really know what other kind of legacy I would leave. Motorcycles really are at the top of my priority list. Ofcourse I work 5 days a week and have other necessities to do, but in my freetime its pretty much motorcycling if the weather is nice. If my future wife would say "you cant ride a bike if you wanna be with me" I'd think it would be pretty much over as far as I could imagine. It would be like being in prison.

I think most folks who blame someone else for keeping them from something, anything, don't really want that thing very much.

Last guy that pulled the "I've always wanted a motorcycle" routine a the gas station got, in the way of a reply, "well, BUY one . . . there's lots of bargains out there."

"Well, you know, wife, kids, uncle dies on one, dog ate my homework."

"Ah, got it."

I geared up and beat feet . . . . .

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I think most folks who blame someone else for keeping them from something, anything, don't really want that thing very much.

Last guy that pulled the "I've always wanted a motorcycle" routine a the gas station got, in the way of a reply, "well, BUY one . . . there's lots of bargains out there."

"Well, you know, wife, kids, uncle dies on one, dog ate my homework."

"Ah, got it."

I geared up and beat feet . . . . .

Yup.

Using someone else as an excuse is just as pathetically emasculated as the original issue in question. You don't want a bike? Man up and say so. I'll personally have more respect for the person that says "Nah, I've decided it's not for me." than someone who makes an excuse.