Meet Kavitha , a self proclaimed “country girl” born and
raised in Madurai. She graduated from Chennai last year with a
degree in psychology and regularly works and volunteers with
children. You can find lots of girls like Kavitha all over the town
of Channai . I happened to find her on Craigslist’s Adult Services
and she now works with Bangalore
Girl Friends Experience .

“A little sweetness goes a long way,” she wrote on her ad.

Her bubbly personality saturated every last detail of her
profile, complete with Xs and Os.

Kavitha had been working us in “the industry” on and off

“This is not full time by any means,” she said.

When Kavitha is not out on her “dates,” she works part-time
as a House keeping and administrator in a Service Apartment In
Ulsoor . As the oldest of six kids, she also strives to set herself
as an example by volunteering her time at Rotary Clubs and the
non-profit she works with.

“I want to be something more than what money can give,” she
said.

But for right now, she tells me, it’s all about the money.

Sex is my business, and business is good

Did you know that a girl working part-time as an escort can
make just as much, if not more, than prestigious lawyers and
doctors?

According to Kavitha , you can make what you earn in
corporate Bangalore over two weeks in a single day, just by seeing
two guys on a full-service level or else in our terms the Bangalore
Girl Friends Experience Package , Full-service providers, she
explains, sell straight up sexual intercourse, as opposed to non
full-service providers, who sell everything but, such as their
company for dates.

“The most I’ve made in one day was INR 75.000.00/ between
three dates,” Kavitha said. “Once one of my Co worker in Bangalore
Girl Friends Experience pulled in INR 50,000/ from just one guy.”

“My job is to find the best places and resources for them to
get the most out of what we’re marketing,”Kavitha said.

Big bucks, independence and travel?

What you didn’t know about prostitution

“I help men get a better understanding of sex through
women,”Kavitha said. Kavitha said it’s not just about the sex
itself, but about anything sexual in general.

“I should be a sex therapist,” she joked.

I’ve heard before that men who see prostitutes don’t just
come for the sex, rather, they also seek all other aspects of
female companionship that her company Bangalore Girl Friends
Experience Preaches and advice about.

Speaking with Kavitha gave me further insight on the matter.

“They also look for uplift and reassurance. Just as human
beings, they need it. You need a hug every once in a while, you
need to be loved by the opposite sex or feel some kind of
compassion,” Kavitha said.

This girl is all about the uplift, her sunny disposition is
infectious and I love it. I’m sure her customers do, too.

She also clued me in on all the different tiers of
prostitution, ranging from “street walkers” to upscale escort
girls. According to Kavitha , there is Plenty of street work at Mg
Road that used to be prime hooker territory, but hasn’t seen the
high level of street work it originally became famous for in years.
, it’s all upscale, behind-closed-doors work.

Before I talked to Kavitha , I got this impression that
prostitutes pretty much gave up every last ounce of their dignity
in order to make money, rendering their decision power worthless.

However, at least in the upper tiers of prostitution, the
girls pretty much have the say on everything, from the guys they
choose, what they want to do and how much they’ll be getting paid
for it.

“I’m picky,” Kavitha said. “I just don’t see anyone. If I
don’t like the guy, I won’t go through with the date. I’d be sweet
and wouldn’t put him down, but I’d wean him to another girl who
could better suit him and make him happier.”

As far as the sex (or non-sex) goes, each girl decides on
her own boundaries. Some don’t even provide full-service at all,
rather, they may simply provide their company for dinners and
dates.

So how much cash is being thrown down for these girls?

“It’s however much you want to make it. If they can’t pay
that, then they’ll negotiate for whatever else,” she said. “The
ball is always on my court.”

The freakiest dudes in all the nation ??

Of course, I had to ask Kavitha about her strangest
requests. She laughed and talked about golden Showers, strap-ons
and the like.

She did say the freakiest guys she’s ever seen throughout
the country are in Bangalore . Apparently, the older, business guys
are the ones to watch out for.

“They have the weirdest requests,” Kavitha said. “One guy
wanted me to… What exactly do you call the opposite of a Golden
Shower? I can’t even bring myself to talk about it, let alone do
it.”

The majority of Kavitha's customers are married men who have
been strictly with their wives for years or who have not had
partners who are very sexual or open.

“I give them something to go home and love their wives
better with,” she said.

I was intrigued. Could she convince me that prostitution
could actually be conducive for a man’s love for his wife?

“It’s men’s nature to want variety. It’s their animal
instinct to breed with the most young and desirable women. It goes
way back and love has nothing to do with it.” Kavitha first
explains that sex and love are two completely different things (for
men anyway). According to Nikki, the guy has that one girl he
loves, the one he marries. However, he also has his sexual needs.

“He loves that one girl, but if he’s not getting what he
needs or is deprived, he’ll become bitter towards her,” Kavitha
said.

The idea is that once Kavitha helps relieve these needs, it
allows him to return to the one he is married to and carry on with
their relationship, bitterness-free.

“They might feel guilty, but it’s in their nature and they
really need the sex. If their wives can’t give it to them, they
feel badly about it,” Kavitha said.

Kavitha said she believes that it’s human nature.

“I also feel guilty to a certain extent, but really if the
woman can’t give a man what he needs, he’ll go out and look for it
elsewhere, plain and simple. And that’s where girls like me come in
and give it to them,” Kavitha said.

It’s not purely about sex, though. Kavitha said it’s also
about the comfort her and her girls can give.

“It’s not always physical, though,” she reminds me, “It’s
also about uplift and reassurance.”

The dichotomy of the “wife and the mistress” came to mind.

Does it really all boil down to biological and evolutionary
factors? Is this something we’ll all simply have to come to terms
with?

For Kavitha , she said the job isn’t just about good pay,
she genuinely enjoys it.

“It’s like my dating scene. I pick and choose. I love older
guys, men of power, well-dressed and charismatic. I’m completely
engaged when we have fun and am totally enthralled by it. I
wouldn’t do it if I didn’t like it. There’s no shame in what I do,
I genuinely love everything I do.”

To understand her passion, you also have to understand her
philosophy. Kavitha said she truly believes in doing what she does
to not only bring uplift to her clients, but also to herself and
her girls.

“Girls might feel belittled, degraded or disrespected if
they let themselves. If they put themselves in that position, then
they absolutely will feel lesser for what they do,” Nikki said.

Kavitha said she only wants to be around girls who enjoy the
job for what it is.

“If at the end of the day you’re going to go home and feel
like shit, then I don’t want to be a part of it. You have to
genuinely like making the guys feel better,” Kavitha said. “Then
you feel better. It’s a mutual thing.”

However, with the good also comes the bad.

“I’ve been robbed, arrested, taken advantage of and hit.
It’s all part of the risks. There are no policies and regulations
for prostitution. It’s a free-for-all,” she said.

There are some security measures they try to enact when they
can, but ultimately the security measures can only do so much.

“In big cities with all girls and no men, we have security
people watching on the outside. But when you’re alone in a room
with a guy, it doesn’t matter what kind of security you have. It’s
you and him,” she said.

Kavitha and my girls take precautions and bring mace,
switchblades and even take self-defense classes. She tells them
that if it comes down to money, they should rather get ripped off
than get raped or beaten.

“I’ve been caught for prostitution and I’ve had a police
officer come in and take complete advantage of me, and then turn
around and arrest me for it,” she said.

The experience of having a police officer violate her was
one that Kavitha won’t forget soon, if ever, she said.

“At that point in my life, I would have felt better getting
raped and robbed by somebody else, but having a police officer…”

She said when the officer took her to court for prostitution
she hired a good lawyer and got her case dismissed in court because
of the fact that she had been raped. She said the officer didn’t
confess, but all the evidence was there and he couldn’t deny it.

“If I would change anything about my job, it would be to
make it legal,” Kavitha said.

Kavitha said she believes that prostitution is illegal for
the simple fact that the government cannot tax it.

“I just feel like there’s so much that’s OK and that’s legal
that is way worse than this,” she said. “If it’s consensual, the
guy wants to do it and the girl wants to do it, who is the
government to say it’s not OK?”

I can sympathize with her on this. It’s difficult to work
and pay tax just to have a police officer rape you, turn around and
arrest you for it, and have the law punish you for other acts that
have been completely consensual.

“It’s absolutely ridiculous that they can’t just let us do
what we want, and because they can’t tax it they’re going to set up
task forces that cost millions of Rupees of tax money to stop
something consenting adults want to do together,” Kavitha said.

Parting our ways

Despite everything, Nikki said she has no regrets.

“Anything that’s ever happened to me has made me stronger
and built character,” she said.

It has helped her go forward and teach other girls in the
industry to help them realize what it really is, what it can be and
what they may get out of it.