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Monday, June 9, 2014

JUS' E-MAIL ME: ¿HOW DO I STOP DATING MY BOYFRIEND & HIS BEST FRIEND?

I’m 21 years old my boyfriend is two
years older than I and we have been currently dating for ten months now, which
has been the best time of my life so far. We hang out with his friends and mine
balancing it out, but mostly with his for he's more social and outgoing as I am
not. I feel like this complements our relationship well for we both have many
to offer in the relationship.

Most, if not all, of the time we hang
out with his fiends he always invites his best friend. We have gone bike
riding, drinking, and just hanging out with his best friend and of course we
have our own days together. I have been fine with his best friend tagging
along, but it wasn't till our 8 months together when my boyfriend told me that
him and his best friend kissed once before he had ever meet me long ago.

At first like anyone would I felt
betrayed and lied to. His best friend ever approached me and said to not worry
that is was a thing in the past. I thought that was brave of him so I commended
him for that. So I put myself in my boyfriend shoes and thought it must have
been hard to tell this revelation to me within the first months or so of us
dating. So I looked pass the problem and kept the relationship moving forward.
A month after we got into a discussion about me not paying attention to him so
he said "I'm going to call (best friend) he'll listen to me and we'll have
a conversation." At the time he was right i was playing video games and
was blocking him out, but we would he say something like that? To grab my
attention, make me feel jealous. We eventually continued on, but i was till
recently that I now feel very uncomfortable with his best friend around.

We planned a trip to Disney and of
course his best friends came with another two of my boyfriend’s friends. Trip
was fun, but a few thing did bother me. My boyfriend became an annual pass
holder for Disney, his best friends was one already. I did not because it is
expensive and i don't have that kind of money to spend for that luxury. He
would say things like "Now we can go to Disney more often", "Can
wait to go to Disney again Halloween, when do you have off? (Directing to his
best friend) etc. At night after the park we would go drink and at the liquor
store he bought a bottle because it’s his and his best friend’s favorite drink.
To his own defense I am not much of a drinker, but hey it’s a vacation at least
be a bit more considerate and ask me if I would like a brink or
something.

We bought each other gift and that
sort of settled that mood but I just stayed strong. Last thing that just made
me question my relationship was that my boyfriend posted a picture on Instagram
with him and his best friend quoting the genii from Aladdin "never had a
friend like me" yea that’s cute and all, but where is our picture together
it’s been two day and nothing. I don't wasn't to come off as a jealous
person, but it’s hard not to.

I know for a fact if i approach him
about this situation or problem he's going to somehow flip it and make me seem
like the bad guy and say I'm crazy. He is very hard headed and whenever i try
to speak up it ends up into a fight. I truly do love my boyfriend and i do not
know what to do. I know that i do not want to lose him. I don't know how else
to approach this situation what should i do?