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I'm 18 and due may 26th. My boyfriend is 20 and we both want to get married before the baby gets here and my whole family is all for that. But my bfs sister(who he lives with till we get a place) says that we should wait because were too young and we hadn't been together too long before I got pregnant. She says we should wait till the baby's about a year to get married or even move into our own place. I just want to know the pros and cons of young marriage

I'm 18 and due may 26th. My boyfriend is 20 and we both want to get married before the baby gets here and my whole family is all for that. But my bfs sister(who he lives with till we get a place) says that we should wait because were too young and we hadn't been together too long before I got pregnant. She says we should wait till the baby's about a year to get married or even move into our own place. I just want to know the pros and cons of young marriage

My DH and I were young when we knew we wanted to get married. But my DH was worried about people being judgrmental and insisted we wait. He now regrets that. The fact is that it makes more financial sense to get married, even if you get divorced later. College gets cheaper because they don't care about your "parents" information and you qualify for grants easier. There isn't the whole "who's last name does the baby get?" Argument and such. You can also qualify for more Government Assistance if need be if married, as well as not being considered a "dependent" on your parents taxes, etc. Is your SIL married? Divorced? In love? No? Then ignore her and get married!

My DH and I were young when we knew we wanted to get married. But my DH was worried about people being judgrmental and insisted we wait. He now regrets that. The fact is that it makes more financial sense to get married, even if you get divorced later. College gets cheaper because they don't care about your "parents" information and you qualify for grants easier. There isn't the whole "who's last name does the baby get?" Argument and such. You can also qualify for more Government Assistance if need be if married, as well as not being considered a "dependent" on your parents taxes, etc. Is your SIL married? Divorced? In love? No? Then ignore her and get married!

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant...my bf (hubby now) wanted to get married, but I didn't. I disagree with the person that said you get more help in college if you are married. I remained unmarried but since I had a child I was considered as an independent and never had to use my dad's info. I am glad that we waited. We were engaged 6 years total and recently married (our son is now 4 and we are expecting our second). There never was a fight over our son's last name because I knew I eventually wanted to marry him. This worked out for me, but on the other hand I have friends that married young and are still happily married...just depends on you and your bf...since the sister isn't either of you then consider her opinion, but do what is best for you ;)

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant...my bf (hubby now) wanted to get married, but I didn't. I disagree with the person that said you get more help in college if you are married. I remained unmarried but since I had a child I was considered as an independent and never had to use my dad's info. I am glad that we waited. We were engaged 6 years total and recently married (our son is now 4 and we are expecting our second). There never was a fight over our son's last name because I knew I eventually wanted to marry him. This worked out for me, but on the other hand I have friends that married young and are still happily married...just depends on you and your bf...since the sister isn't either of you then consider her opinion, but do what is best for you ;)

My husband proposed when he was a junior in high school and I was a senior. He graduated in May 2001 and we married in July of 2001. It's been rough at times. You basically grow up together. We are different people than we were then. But we also waited 6 years before we started trying for kids. We've now been married 10 years and have a 3 1/2 year old and a 21 month old.

My husband proposed when he was a junior in high school and I was a senior. He graduated in May 2001 and we married in July of 2001. It's been rough at times. You basically grow up together. We are different people than we were then. But we also waited 6 years before we started trying for kids. We've now been married 10 years and have a 3 1/2 year old and a 21 month old.

I agree with your bf's sister. I married young and mostly because I was pregnant. I regret that decision. People change so much between 18 and 23. We grew up and grew apart. My goals and his goals didn't match.
Once you have a baby, you are considered independent in the eyes of college and financial aid. You will be more likely to get more assistance as a single parent than a married parent.
I also think people are too quick and rush into marriage. If you love each other, what difference does waiting make? Divorce is VERY difficult on all involved, including the children. It was the most difficult thing I've ever done. I wouldn't wish that kind of struggle and pain on even someone I greatly dislike. Good luck. It does sound like you both have great support, which is important.

I agree with your bf's sister. I married young and mostly because I was pregnant. I regret that decision. People change so much between 18 and 23. We grew up and grew apart. My goals and his goals didn't match.
Once you have a baby, you are considered independent in the eyes of college and financial aid. You will be more likely to get more assistance as a single parent than a married parent.
I also think people are too quick and rush into marriage. If you love each other, what difference does waiting make? Divorce is VERY difficult on all involved, including the children. It was the most difficult thing I've ever done. I wouldn't wish that kind of struggle and pain on even someone I greatly dislike. Good luck. It does sound like you both have great support, which is important.

I would wait... You two are both going to have A LOT on your plate with the baby alone. I just got married nine months ago, and I think both being a new parent and being a newlywed are important, fun and stressful times that deserve their own special time. Let your baby get here, get through the sleepless nights and colic, then enjoy planning your beautiful wedding!

I would wait... You two are both going to have A LOT on your plate with the baby alone. I just got married nine months ago, and I think both being a new parent and being a newlywed are important, fun and stressful times that deserve their own special time. Let your baby get here, get through the sleepless nights and colic, then enjoy planning your beautiful wedding!

Just saw your post and wanted to let you know that my sister got pregnant at 18 with her 19 year-old boyfriend after only two and a half months of dating. They were crazy about each other and got married against everyone's advice, including mine. 10 years later they are still madly in love with two kids. Not to say there weren't challenges but marriage does mean you are committed to work through them together, and for them that has been true. Not everyone is so lucky, but you have to follow your heart. Just because you are young does not mean you are incapable of making this decision. You are about to be a mom, after all. This is only the beginning!

Just saw your post and wanted to let you know that my sister got pregnant at 18 with her 19 year-old boyfriend after only two and a half months of dating. They were crazy about each other and got married against everyone's advice, including mine. 10 years later they are still madly in love with two kids. Not to say there weren't challenges but marriage does mean you are committed to work through them together, and for them that has been true. Not everyone is so lucky, but you have to follow your heart. Just because you are young does not mean you are incapable of making this decision. You are about to be a mom, after all. This is only the beginning!

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