Apparently she won’t come to live here full-time, but she will join us for sex and I’ll be expected to “form a physical and mental ­attachment to her”.

I’ve met her and she seems nice enough but I’m not into girls and I’m really not willing to share her with my man.

He says life is short and he ­intends to live every second of it.

If I don’t want to go on this journey with him, he’ll find someone else who will.

I just feel as though he’s presenting me with a situation that I can’t refuse.

He knows that I love him with all of my heart and would do anything for him.

I’ve given up so much to be where I am today. Three years ago I walked out on my husband and kids to be with him.

I still have a good relationship with my daughter, who is now 17, but my 19-year-old son hasn’t spoken to me since the day I left home.

My ex-husband ­contrived to make our divorce as difficult and as painful as ­possible.

He fought me every step of the way and I nearly had a breakdown as a result.

Consequently, I hardly received a penny in the final settlement and have been living off my boyfriend ever since, which he deeply resents.

Now he keeps telling me that I owe him, big time.

He believes that he’s given me more in terms of food, shelter and holidays than I can ever pay back.

As far as he’s concerned, this is what gives him the right to call the shots regarding our sex life too. But I’m really not happy.

JANE SAYS: You’ve got to stay strong and make it clear to your fella that you’re not willing to go on this or any other kinky “journey”. When you left your ­family, you didn’t sign up to a threesome or menage à trois.

Of course he’s been kind to you in terms of food and shelter, but isn’t that what people in love do for each other?

Looked at another way, he can never repay YOU for what you gave up for HIM.

Sit him down today and make it crystal clear that bringing another woman into your bed is a ­complete no-no.

You don’t want it and it’s not ­going to happen. If he insists that this is a relationship breaker, then I urge you to rethink this whole ­arrangement.

I’d also like you to make a real effort to rebuild bridges with your angry, confused son.

This has got to be a major p­riority for you.

No young man should be ­estranged from his mother and vice versa.

Even if your relations are still bad with his father, you must find a way to bring your boy back into your life.He wants kinky threesome sex