Nice point on sham causality! I can imagine this playing into a lot of strawman rationality as well.

The take-away message I get from this is 'do a rationality check on everything your intuition tells you' but I am not sure that is the proper way to distinguish between my values (= the things I want to stick to), and the norms I apply.
What is your practical approach here? How do you untrain your norms? In that context I would suggest the book 'Thinking fast and slow' to you!