Tuesday, February 6, 2018

Something to Think About on V-Day

In less than a week, you've got to find that special person in your life a gift. Maybe you've got several gifts in mind, like a nice dinner and a play to match what could fit in a box. Or it's The Big Day...

Well, that's fine and well, as I think everyone should experience romance at least once in their life. However, never forget the love. Not talking about when to say it or how to make it, I mean staying in love mode 24/7 as long as the two of you are breathing ... until the day you die or decide to call it a wrap.

But remember, you have to have it in order to give it. Unlike flowers and jewels, real love can't be bought or made.

Many people enter cuddly, goofy, lustful, or mentally sadistic unions with that someone that has hooked them hard...or not. Some people are damn proud of their business arrangement and even go to their grave with a mutual "understanding". Money is many things but not everything.

Without love, there's no trust, no security, no life whatsoever. Genuine love is different than falling in love. When a person loves themselves, they are honest...about the good and bad. The balance of giving the good to others and working to eliminate bad qualities can be a lifelong project. We may fail but as long as a person returns to the drawing board at some point, the love is there.

This is where most people become comfortable in their skin and have no problem accepting that they may not be the cutest, or smartest, in the bunch...but there are other intangible qualities they have to share with someone who will reciprocate without force.

It's that honestly, along with a willingness to be better that allows people to grow and prosper. So this isn't about putting someone down or saying that real love is non-existent in non-traditional scenarios. But I will say that it takes adults more time to realize self-love (not masturbation) than previous generations. Think about it, our parents (baby boomers or early Gen-Xers) never went on a syndicated talk show to air out dirty laundry while being subjected to boos, hisses and staged fights by the other person with "the problem"