Websites and forums abound, teaching you how to spank your wife in a controlled manner, with huge numbers of articles on the hows and the whys, aimed at both the plank-wielding husband, and the wife with the sore behind. The first thing to note is that the spanking is done solely by the man. Women are expected to take their â€˜punishmentâ€™ and learn to be totally submissive to the man of the household, who is merely trying to correct her behaviour in the eyes of God.

Whilst this sounds somewhat abusive, it is supposedly framed in a context of Christian love, and perhaps naturally, sex (although this is not generally specifically promoted in the literature). The spanker should never act in anger, according to this guide for beginners, and especially given the bulk of spankees blogging about their positive experience with CDD, it is supposed to be strictly consensual.

The idea of a woman being totally submissive to the â€œlord and master of the wifeâ€ and being subjected to physical discipline as a punishment tool sounds downright wrong to a secular observer. However, the problem with trying to understand it from a secular point of view is that if the spankees truly are hard-core believers in the word of the Bible, they may very well see the practice as a healthy and even necessary means of conducting a Christian marriage in the eyes of God