(Closed) afraid I'm going to become a 'zilla

I have 4 months till the wedding and I’m so afraid I’m going to start becoming a bridezilla. Between MOH drama and FMIL trying to make everything about her and not listeneing to anything FI and I have to say I’m going to lose it soon. I have no motivation to continue planning or finish my diy projects.

I feel like the drama is going to continue to the day of or that MOH isn’t going to come. I’m dreading it so much.

Weddings bring up all kinds of undercover emotional stuff for people I think. It makes people lose sight of the real focus of the wedding (marriage and the bride and groom). Is it possible for you to scrap as much diy stuff as you can? Or enlist one or two dear friends to help? If it’s stressful and not fun I would either ask yourself if your wedding will be beautiful without it or if you can afford to farm out the responsibility. Try to ask your fiance if he would be the point person for mother-in-law zilla instead of you 🙂 Good luck!

Ugh I understand too! We just had to fire our wedding planner, but things actually are going better already. I’m starting to get a little stressed out and irritated by some things. One of my bridesmaids can’t talk about anything but herself and the only input she’s had about the wedding is how she’s going to steal all of my ideas when she married her boyfriend of 9 months…

Good to know I’m not alone! My feeling is that I’m not a bridezilla, but I’m feeling like I have some brideszilla actions come along!

My #1 is a BM (I only have a BM and a MOH) who refuses to answer any communication at all regarding the dress. Not “do you like it”, not “let’s get this one, which way is best for you, here is a list of stores in the area”, and not even “FI is generous enough to be paying for half, you’re welcome.” Nothing. Radio silence. I’m not sure how I’m supposed to get things done if she doesn’t want to do really 50% of the BM “obligations” (all BM obligations: 1. get a dress, 2. show up).

Sorry, vent over.

But these little things are carrying over where they shouldn’t belong – I caught myself, when FI said he was getting a gray suit made, thinking “Omg. What shade of gray is he getting??? Ohhhh it’d better go with all these other things we’re ordering. Maybe I should be with him. Maybe I should send him a swatch. Maybe….” Like a full-on crazy person. Bridezilla-ing is a mental pandemic! Once you’re infected in one area, it’s everywhere! Thankfully the “what color shirt did you order???” freak out only lasted about 2 minutes, and mostly in my mind. 😉

ETA: I’m not a controlling person at all, and have always been very “go with the flow”. I don’t know what’s going on for it to flip so much!

@2BeeMrsE: so glad I’m not the o lh one freaking about the guys getting their own suits!!! He says he’s not allowdd to see my dress I’m not allowed to see his suit. At least he knows how to dress himself but he won’t even tell me color combos. Gah!! As far as BM/MOH are even considered I don’t even want to start. I wojldnt be surprised if my MOH doesn’t show up :-/

@jjfad778: I k ow that’s the onkh thing that matters but uts really hard when I feel like I have to do so much to impress his family when they’re all rich and used to certain things. I wish I could have friends help, I moved 12 hours away to be with my FI. I’m hoping after the disaster that is my shower it’ll be better!

We are less than 4 weeks away….and people are still pulling shit…REALLY?

My mother wanted me to take dance lessons with my dad for the father/daughter dance…I’ve already had this conversation wtih her and said NO….then she suggested CHOREOGRAPHY…UMMMMM NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

I took dance (because my mother MADE ME not because I liked it) for my whole life…I have two left feet and absolutely NOOOOO rythm….My idea is that swaying/halfway waltzing is safest for me not to look like a total idiot…

I decided to compromise….1 lesson after I get my dress so I can practice in my dress with my shoes but NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO CHOREOGRAPHY!

of course, now I know that she is planning on having some song choreographed for them so they can be the center of attention during some dance. SHe did it before. THey took dance lessons and always went to these weird dances with friends. So my mom requests the song they have choreography to (she had gotten my dad hammered, which is the ONLY time he dances) and did the whole routine in front of people and got applause….

We are not living in a bad 80’s teen movie! This is NOT happening at my wedding, and if it does….my photog has explicit directions NOT to take photos of them…she’ll likely be doing the photobooth by then anyways….

anyways, end of my 4 weeks until the big day and what is wrong with people vent!

@wisher558: Unfortunately they are choreographing a block of songs we are playing after our first dance. They are significant to us. Imagine my parents doing the cha cha to “eye of the tiger”….LOL …..It’s going to be sooo ridiculous as everyone is just rocking out having fun.

It was funny,right before my mom said this (in front of FI , whom I told I knew my mom was planning on doing this–so when she mentioned the cha cha to this song he just looked at me–yup, i know my mother) she was complaining about how she can’t move her legs and arms at the same time at zumba…..I was like “so how are you planning on doing the cha cha to eye of the tiger?”…of course she had no answer…

I figure she’ll look dumb, so i’m trying not to worry about it too much….

I would say buy some platters of nibbles/cupcakes etc and get a few close friends round to help with the DIY. Get it finished but in a happy environment so you have great memories of doing it. Its not going to make you feel good about the wedding if all you remember is slaving over it going out of your mind! I’m a to-do list nerd. I make a list and tick things off, it really helps with motivation and stops me feeling snowed under. Last week my list (for the next couple of months…still a long while to go for me!) was 3 A4 pages long – now its down to a page! It feels sooo good to know its getting done!