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Life can be incredibly difficult. Relationships. Money. Jobs. Responsibilities. Bullies. Fears. Disease. And the list goes on. But we must remember the flipside of struggle. Joy. Hope. Laughter. Drive. Children. Travel. Smiles. And love.

I stumbled upon this video created by the compelling poet Shane Koyczan. He provides us the powerful reminder of the flipside. The positive truths about our world and the beauty that lives within it. I hope this furthers your journey toward a positive life.

We are familiar with the two agents to success. Which are fear and doubt. It is first of all the fear of failure, poverty, loss, embarrassment, or rejection that holds most people back from trying in the first place.

I remember back in 2013, I was blogging for an entertainment blogger. That period was my first experience in the blogging path. I was learning at the same time trying to venture into mine. After a year blogging for someone else, I decided to start my own and create my own path. First of all I was really motivated in starting my own entertainment blog which I did. But at some point I was scared and decided to fall back a bit. Fear of the unknown came knocking at my door, dropping some doubt about me starting my blog. How I was going to make it famous, how will I get my readers from, there are too many entertainment blogs out there, how are you sure you gonna make it. Different thoughts came to my mind. At some point I decided to go back and work for the person I was blogging for. In all I overcame and my path to blogging from then till now started.

You know because of fear of failure and rejection, an average number of times that people try to achieve a new goal is less than one. As soon as they think of the goal, these fears overwhelm them and, like a bucket of water on a small fire, extinguish their desire completely.

The second mental obstacle, closely aligned to fear, is self doubt. We doubt our own abilities. We compare ourselves unfavourably to others and think that others are some how better, smarter, and more competent than we are. We think, “I’m not good enough.” We feel inadequate and inferior to the challenges of achieving the great goals that we so much want to accomplish.

Fortunately, if there is anything good about doubt and fear it’s that they are both learned emotions. Have you ever seen a nagative baby before? Children come into the world with no doubts or fears at all. And whatever has been learned can be unlearned through practice and repetition.

The primary antidotes to doubt and fear are courage and confidence. The higher your level of courage and confidence, the lower will be your levels of fear and doubt and the less effect these negative emotions will have on your perfomance and behaviour.

I leave you with this:

Isaiah 43:1 “Don’t fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine.” God actually commands us not to fear, orworry. The phrase “fear not” is used at least 80 times in the Bible, most likely because He knows the enemy uses fear to decrease our hope and limit our victories.

There’s an old adage that you should “promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.”

It’s not only a nicer way to exist in the world, it’s also really the only way to accomplish anything.

Some people have realized this. Others remain stuck.

When people are dissatisfied with their lives, they usually can only identify what it is they don’t want to feel.

The same thing happens after a break up, when everyone’s telling you to “let go” and “move on.” But how do you do that? How do you come to a place of neutrality over something that all but cut you in half? How do you suddenly find a sense of peace when all you can do is rack your mind over what you did wrong and what it means that the future you once imagined is no more?
The answer is that you do not decide to “let go” one day. You focus so much of your attention and time on other things, and projects, and tasks, and goals and people that, eventually, the pain fades from your memory.

This is what mentally strong people understand: change is what happens when you start building a new city, rather than standing in the ruins of what’s collapsed.

You change your life not by focusing on what you want less of, but what you want to take its place.

You figure out what you really want not through desire, but through discomfort. You identify the exact opposite of your greatest fears and worries. That’s your true dream.

You cannot release anything from your life without something to put in its place. Some people do this in a healthy way, consuming themselves with behaviors that improve their lives long-term. Others turn to coping mechanisms that ultimately erode their mental and physical wellbeing. Either way, it’s the same thing, just with different results.

It’s like if someone tells you not to think about a white elephant. That’s the only thing you’re going to want to think about.

The only way to not think about the white elephant is to think about something else.
So when it comes to enacting real change in your life, stop worrying about what you want less of, and start focusing on what you want more of.

Instead of trying to lose weight, reduce calories and generally become smaller, focus instead on having more healthy foods, more movement, more wellness, more rest, and more positive thoughts about yourself.
If you do this earnestly, the weight will take care of itself.

Instead of trying to get out of debt, focus instead on having more financial freedom, more flexibility, more peace of mind and a greater measure of security.

If you do this earnestly, the debt will take care of itself.

Instead of trying to “let go” of the past, “overcome” your greatest and deepest hurts and anxieties, focus instead on connecting with people right here and now, placing your energy into learning new skills, having more interesting experiences, and doing what makes you feel good each day.
If you do this earnestly, the grief will take care of itself.

You will never be able to lessen yourself into the life that you want. That is not how this works. You cannot expect to focus constantly on what you don’t like and don’t want and think you’re going to magically create what you do like and you do want.
The work is in understanding that your discomfort is the shadow side of your greatest desire.

If you want less weight, you want more health. If you want less debt, you want more stability. If you want less anxiety, you want more peace of mind.

When you focus on the positive aspect of the transformation, you’re actually able to achieve it.

The truth is that you can mourn, grieve, cry and revisit the details of your traumas again and again and again, but the only way you heal them and truly recover is by creating a new experience in the present moment, one that immerses you so deeply, you don’t have the mental bandwidth to even recall the past.

At first glance, when reading the title of this blog, it may seem that the two words “distraction” and “obedience” do not have much of a correlation. It would make sense to say that if a person is distracted, then they are not choosing to disobey. In other words, is a distracted person willfully choosing not to obey if they have never actually heard a command?

I would argue that the answer is yes. If you don’t agree with me, then consider this example. A boy comes home from school, and knows that most days there is a list of chores on the kitchen counter or the fridge for him to complete. The mother leaves the list in the kitchen, because she knows that her son goes in there every day for a snack when school is over. One day, that child wises up and realizes that if he just doesn’t go in the kitchen, then he won’t have to do any chores. He decides that he can forego his usual snack, and then he can go up in his room, lock the door, put headphones on, and play video games. Then he won’t be able to hear his mom when she is calling for him to come do the chores. The crazy part is that he actually thinks that this will somehow relieve him of his responsibility, and that his mom won’t come up stairs and knock on that door until he answers. In fact, she will probably kick it in if he keeps her waiting too long.

How often do we play this same game with God!? Personally, I am so guilty of this. This is something I have to constantly rely on God to help me with. When things start to get hard, and He is maneuvering me into areas that are getting more and more uncomfortable, I have a tendency to want to distract myself so I don’t hear his voice. I will distract myself with good things! Then I reason out why it is okay to be so distracted, because I am distracted by things like work, ministry, Christian movies and Christian music. At least I am not distracted by bad things like drugs and alcohol right?

The hard answer to this is that distractions are distractions no matter what the form, especially if they are keeping us from God. If that thing is keeping us from hearing His voice and obeying, then it is not benefiting us. It is merely a distraction that we are purposefully giving our attention to, because we are afraid of what God has for us.

For example, God might be impressing upon you that the most important thing in your life right now is to have that uncomfortable conversation with a friend or family member where you need to apologize and ask forgiveness for some hurt you have caused. Or maybe He is telling you to forgive someone for the pain they have caused you. The easy road for you could be to just join another serving team at church, and make yourself so busy that you don’t have to hear God’s voice encouraging you to do this.

Another example might be that God is asking you to communicate the gospel to a friend who is lost. But out of fear, you replace that with something like giving a little extra in the offering on Sunday.

I say all this as someone who really struggles with distraction. My default distractions are busyness and accomplishment. God starts pushing me into areas that are too uncomfortable, and I immediately start making my to-do list of good deeds. I need to pray for these 3 people, give to those 2 people, and serve on one more team at church. It’s as if somehow I believe that these things will fix the internal imperfections that I don’t want to face by moving forward in what God has for me. It is easier to run around completing tasks than it is to stop and listen for God’s instruction.

But we are so blessed to have such a loving Father who is patient with us, and will continue to pursue us. Just like the mother in the earlier example who knocked on her son’s door, our God says to us, “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me” (Revelation 3:20 NIV).

God loves us, and He knows far better than we do what is best for us. He wants to see us flourish. He is not encouraging us to take uncomfortable steps in our lives so He can watch us struggle. In fact, He promises that He will take those steps with us, and that we don’t have to be afraid. Today all I am asking you to do is STOP! Put aside the distractions for a minute. Put away the cell phone, the laptop and whatever else has your attention. Lean into God, and listen long enough and intently enough for Him to direct your steps for the day.

“Hear, O My people, and I will admonish you; O Israel, if you would listen to Me”– Psalm 81:8

Then a voice came out of the cloud, saying, “This is My Son, My Chosen One; listen to Him!”– Luke 9:35

Some are married,
Some have given birth,
Some are still searching and waiting on the Lord.
Some are dead, don’t forget that too.

And others are on the sick bed,
Some are running their higher degrees: Masters, PHD, etc.

Some haven’t even gained admission into the tertiary institution and may NEVER be able to.

Some own companies,
Some are now Directors and major shareholders in global companies.

But how do you feel
When you meet your classmates, and it seems like he/she has accomplished their dreams and you’re not yet close to yours?
So many thoughts run through your mind, right?
First, you think God has not been fair to you.

How about the ones you meet on the street wearing dirty cloths and still struggling for survival ?
Do you get the same thoughts running through your mind?
I guess, NO.

Don’t forget too that some are already dead.
Somehow it feels natural to have that feeling of jealous for those mates who seem better off, but it is really unnecessary.

There is no room for regrets,
We are all different and our paths to greatness are also not the same in distance.

Some might have arrived earlier before you and some after you, but whatever level you find yourself in life,
Please keep trying to break limitations and move further.

Celebrate the success of others, its an indication that yours too shall surely come.

Your friend buys a car now, be happy with him/ her.
Remember when you’ll buy yours,
theirs might not be the latest again.
There’s no permanent champion, but current champion.

Life is not about competition, do not be in a race with anyone; remember, we may seem to be reading the same book but different chapters at different times.

Don’t let the passion in you kill the desire in you, keep it burning.

What you’re passing through today;
Write it down because one day the world would be ready to read it, they’ll become part of your success story.

Spend time teaching yourself, because those things that mainly take people to the top are the things they devoted their time to develop.

Don’t be intimidated by your friend’s success, the sky is wide enough for birds to fly without touching one another.

Value every little thing that God brings into your life, love God and obey Him.
For with God, all things are possible.

Now to those who are on top Never forget to give a helping hand to those who are down. Because Life is full of uncertainties; the one you pull up today, may be the one to hold your hands and prevent you from falling tomorrow

A piece of advice there, food for thought

Please share, comment and like this to all your friends and let them realize that God has a purpose in their lives.

It is a conceit of the young to believe that because something has occurred to them, it is a novel idea, one unknown to previous, plodding generations. This tendency cuts across the board and includes young Christians.

And then they read the classical philosophers… the Church Fathers… the Protestant Reformers… the Enlightenment thinkers… Alexis de Tocqueville and Edmund Burke and The Federalist Papers and Blackstone… Carl F.H. Henry and Herbert Schlossberg and Thomas Oden and Christopher Lasch and Abraham Kuyper and Os Guinness… and biblical exegeses and commentators and historians and scientists whose exacting and exhaustive study open up new vistas of knowledge… and have conversations with serious people who, having reached the age of 40, are a bit more tempered in their approach to life and learning… and real maturity begins.

These comments are more than a bit autobiographical. As a young man (an increasingly distant state of being), my intellectual self-confidence spilled joyously into intellectual pomposity. My mind was a grand world, comprehensive and integrated and satisfied, capable of taking on all comers and informing them of their rightness, wrongness, or simple stupidity.

I am no longer young. Although there are aspects of my youth I miss (supple knees, for example), one I consider with some grief and embarrassment is the intellectual pride I wore as a badge of honor. It was, in reality, a bludgeon of ignorance and injury.

It is good for young people to have strong views, to foster a muscular curiosity, to have opinions of sufficient iron as to sharpen those of their peers. And there’s nothing like the invigoration of intellectual discovery, to grasp something difficult and understand it for the first time, to internalize a great truth or work through a knotty philosophical or theological problem. These things make one feel alive and construct the very lens through which one views life itself.

Yet in our time, the advent of the internet has enabled myriad bright young people, including bright young Christians, to opine with both dogmatism and profligacy. Had the Internet been around when I was in my 20s, no doubt I would have been one of the blogosphere’s chief users – and offenders.

All Christians can rejoice in the many young believers who are writing so thoughtfully and with such art and frequency. Many young men and women I know are using the web to advance critically important arguments in fresh and clever ways.

Christian faith is blessed by young men and women like these. Older Christians should rejoice that the Lord is raising them up and be sufficiently humble to learn from them. Holding younger Christians in contempt simply because they are young is expressly forbidden by the Word of God (I Timothy 4:12). Such contempt is as much a form of pride as any other kind. Like the corpse of dead Lazarus, it stinks.

My caution is only that in an era when so much is at stake in our culture, and when so many young Christians have been cruelly wounded by the brokenness of their families and the excesses of past sin, younger believers not forget that although their voices are new, the truths they proclaim and issues with which they wrestle are not.

Humility and servanthood are terms I dislike, because I’m so bad at applying them to my own life. Yet one’s utility to the Prince of Life is only as extensive as one’s humility and servant attitude. This does not mean that we cannot be confident in proclaiming the truth; rather, it means we bear always in mind that the truth is His, not ours, and that the ministries we occupy are for Jesus’s sake, not our own.

Charles Spurgeon wrote of his own pride that “it is a miserable, wretched affair.” This echoes in the very heart of my own heart. It should for all Christ-followers. Young, middle-aged, or old, let’s remember that intellectual pride is rank in the nostrils of God, and keep remembering that until the day we see our Redeemer, One Who though existing in the very form of God humbled Himself to the point of dying on an instrument of debasement and cruelty, a wooden cross.

If we want to be worthy servants of the King, whether we are emerging or retiring, let’s begin at, and keep returning to, these eternal truths.

People say love like you’ve never been hurt, but how about we try to live like we’ve never been hurt? Live like life never disappointed us, like pain didn’t change us, like we didn’t grow up or learn, like we are still innocent kids believing that life will turn out exactly the way we want it to. Every now and then let’s live with the naiveté of a 7 year old.

Even if it sounds unrealistic, even if it sounds crazy, even if it sounds impossible, we should try to live like that – even for one day.

We should live like we know we’ll get what we want when we ask for it. Like the universe is our genie granting us anything we wish for. Like the universe is here to spoil us and give us everything we want.

We should live like we never fell off the bike or fell while running. We should run like we are free and we should throw caution to the wind and let our bodies roam the world – unafraid of bruises.

We should speak with no reservations, we shouldn’t be afraid of being vulnerable or throwing tantrums or crying in bed next to our favorite soft toy. We shouldn’t be afraid to feel.
We should live worry-free, like we have all the time in the world to do the things we want and be with the people we love. We shouldn’t worry about the right time or the wrong time or worry about time at all. Life is infinite.

We should say what’s on our minds and in our hearts without calculating or rephrasing or editing. We should speak with no reservations, we shouldn’t be afraid of being vulnerable or throwing tantrums or crying in bed next to our favorite soft toy. We shouldn’t be afraid to feel.

We should quit things we don’t like and stay in bed all morning because we feel like it. We shouldn’t wake up to responsibilities that drain us and a routine that slowly kills us.

We should look forward to our birthdays and throw the biggest and greatest birthday parties. We should get excited about growing up and making our dreams come true. We should get excited about life.

We should believe in romance and fairy-tales, we should believe in a love that is so pure and real, we should believe in ‘ forever’ against all odds.

We should wake up every day waiting for a miracle.We should believe in miracles and magic and a life that is bigger and better than what we know, we should wake up every day waiting for a miracle.

We should have expectations that are not crushed by reality or rules or rights and wrongs.

We should be silly and playful and laugh as loudly as we can, we shouldn’t worry about what people might say. We shouldn’t suppress our laughter or our joy.

We should play house and dream of our perfect home. A home that is built with love, not broken hearts and unfulfilled promises or empty rooms and unspoken words. We should believe in a happy home – one we want to go to every night and wake up in every morning.

1. Evening news is where they begin with ‘Good evening’, and then proceed to tell you why it isn’t.
2. I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn’t work that way. So I stole a bike and asked for forgiveness.
3. Relationships are a lot like algebra. Have you ever looked at your X and wondered Y?
4. Laugh at your problems, everybody else does.
5. I used to be indecisive. Now I’m not so sure.
6. If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of payments.
7. Drink coffee! Do stupid things faster with more energy!
8. I find it ironic that the colors red, white, and blue stand for freedom until they are flashing behind you.
9. Money talks …but all mine ever says is good-bye.
10. Two wrongs don’t make a right, take your parents as an example.
11. Team work is important; it helps you put the blame on someone else.
12. You know that tingly little feeling you get when you like someone? That’s your common sense leaving your body.
13. Dear alcohol, We had a deal where you would make me funnier, smarter, and a better dancer… I saw the video… we need to talk.
14. Some people say “If you can’t beat them, join them”. I say “If you can’t beat them, beat them”, because they will be expecting you to join them, so you will have the element of surprise .
15. Funny how we need to talk really means you need to listen.
16. Nothing ruins a Friday more than realizing that it’s Tuesday.
17. Jesus loves you, but everyone else thinks you’re an a**hole.
18. If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child.
19. Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
20. Just about the time when you think you can make ends meet, somebody moves the ends.
21. Is google a woman? Because it won’t let you finish your sentence without coming up with other suggestions.
22. Isn’t it great to live in the 21st century? Where deleting history has become more important than making it.
23. I can totally keep secrets. It’s the people I tell them to that can’t.
24. My job is secure. No one else wants it.
25. Always borrow money from a pessimist. He won’t expect it back.
26. That awkward moment when you leave a store without buying anything and all you can think is “act natural, you’re innocent.”
27. Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit. Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.
28. Materialism: buying things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people that don’t matter.
29. A celebrity is someone who works hard all his life to become known and then wears dark glasses to avoid being recognized.
30. You have two choices in life: You can stay single and be miserable, or get married and wish you were dead.

We should give ourselves a pat on the back for the things we are trying to accomplish every day and the people we are trying to become. Even if we’re not there yet, at least we are trying and we deserve to give ourselves credit from time to time.

2. There will always be bumps on the road and that’s okay.

We will always be faced with obstacles but that’s how we learn how to really drive and which roads to avoid. Nothing will ever go exactly the way we want them to but this doesn’t mean that we are headed in the wrong direction. Sometimes a change in direction leads to a better way.

3. Life is not a race.

We can’t keep competing with everyone like it’s a race and we need to get to the finish line first. We should just run as fast as we can or as slow as we can as long as we keep looking ahead and moving forward. We shouldn’t be concerned about winning because life is not a race.

4. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

If we stop doing things because we’re scared, we won’t be doing much. Fear is part of life and the only way to get over it is to just go ahead and do what scares us – especially if it will bring us closer to the life we want to live.

5. Some people are not meant to stay.

We will meet a lot of people who will not stay in our lives no matter how much we want them to. Instead of trying to find out why they can’t stay, accept that this is how life works sometimes. Maybe life wants to replace them with better people or maybe you just need to learn how to be on your own for a while.

6. The depth of your love today is the depth of your wound tomorrow.

Before we recklessly give our hearts to people and invest in them, we need to know if they are really worth the pain and the suffering that may come with loving them. Some people are worth suffering for and some people are not. We have to pick our battles wisely.

7. We may not solve all our problems but we can change our mindset.

We can’t control everything that happens to us; we can only control the way we respond to them. As long as we manage our mindset, we will be able to cope with certain difficulties better and we will make our lives a bit easier.

8. Do not settle.

Don’t stay at a job you hate, don’t marry someone you don’t love, don’t stay friends with people who belittle you. Life can be good if we choose not to settle for the things that impede our happiness.

9. Time heals everything.

Eventually our pain will go away, our mistakes will be forgiven, our hearts will mend and our minds will find peace.

10. We are never alone.

We are never alone in our struggles or alone in our lives. We will always find people who want to be there for us and support us and people who genuinely love us. Sometimes we think we are alone, but that’s just our minds tricking us into thinking that life is harder than it’s supposed to be.

Talking about doing something is easy. But just hearing about it is not going to change our lives. It’s doing the Word, living it out day-by-day, that brings progress in our lives. But one who looks intently at the perfect law, the law of liberty, and abides by it, not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer, this man will be blessed in what he does (James 1:25NASB).

Let’s choose to be doers of the Word so that progress and blessing come into our lives. And let’s be willing to push through the pain of opposition, because there’s no such thing as a drive-thru breakthrough. With steadfast determination and patience, we will continually move forward in our walk with God.

It’s been a while I got this kinda concern. When I started reading this concerned message I realised am also a victim to this. But in this case let’s read and try to contribute positively in supporting and helping this anonymous brother.

I grew up in the church and I know the Bible well. But now, I’m positive that God left me. Like Saul. I’m empty and it seems pointless to live. I’m basically a corpse walking around. I have no joy, peace, patience or kindness. No fruit of the Spirit. How can I have the fruit of the Spirit when God left me? I got sick about a month ago and started doubting everything. I was thinking sick thoughts–blasphemous thoughts. I tried to fight with scripture but the doubt and evil thoughts continued to expand. And now I know that the beautiful spirit of the Lord is gone. God left me; He has deserted me. I’ve prayed and prayed but I’m sure God left. God has given me over to a reprobate mind. Now nothing affects me. My heart is hard. I know that the Bible is God’s Word and that Jesus is God’s Son and that He gave He gave the Holy Spirit to dwell in those who believe. I know who God is even if He gave me over to a reprobate mind. I will continue to let people know that He is true even thought God left me.

Uncle Tim gave a very positive and encouraging advise.

The purpose of God’s testing is not to undermine us, but to purify and to move our assurance away from feelings which can be transitory to a solid faith that seeks to serve God even if it seems that He is destroying us (Job 13:14). Sometimes we think we are strong Christians when we do not realize on what weak legs we stand. Then the storms come, as Scripture says they will, and our worlds are turned upside down. God’s purpose through His training of us is to substitute for our weak legs some strong legs of faith, where we seek God and seek to live out His will even when our worlds seem to be collapsing around us. We are the house built on the rock.

So my encouragement to you is to lift up the feeble legs (Hebrews 12:12-13), stand strong in God, understand His purposes in your life, and hope in Him. When the testing is done, you will come through as pure gold, a treasure fit for His presence, and a blessing to all.

Another anonymous contributor advises

So here is what I do when difficult times come. First, I pray and ask God to reveal if there is some sin that has brought about the feeling of estrangement. If there is some sin that comes to mind, I confess it.

Second, having dealt with any know sin, I remind myself of His promises to me and assure myself that God is not a liar. In fact, I go farther and reaffirm to myself His great character and desire for us. Sometimes I read some of the great passages of Scripture on God’s character. I reaffirm that He has forgiven my sin and cleansed me, even as He promised and even though I do not “feel” clean. The feelings follow faith. I talk to myself about Him.

Third, I stop and worship Him for who He is. I submit myself before Him and tell Him how great He is. I see this with Job’s response, where in his sorrow he paused and worshipped (Job 1:20).

Fourth, I talk to myself about me, my purpose in this world, my calling to represent Him well, my choice not to focus on myself but to focus on Him. I reaffirm that serving Him is my choice no matter how I feel.

Finally, I seek to engage with His word and continue to pray, accounting that He is listening even when I have no feeling of engagement. (But I must admit, usually by the end of step 2, I find that I have reconnected. There is something about worship that touches God’s heart and transforms ours.) Yet, in the times when I still feel remote, I choose to draw near to Him and trust that in His time He will draw near to me. And He always does.

Other contribution to this …

Faith is trusting when we cannot see, banking that in the morning joy will return.

I encourage you not to be cast down, but to know that such times of struggle are part of God’s good gifts to His own, demonstrating His loving training so that our faith may stand strong and robust and be able to withstand any storm that strikes the rock on which our house is built.

I know this is difficult, especially in times you are not feeling well. But I encourage you to engage with others, and seek their prayers for mutual support during this time.

What advise do you have for this concerned brother, we will love you to share your thoughts and contributions too….

What is the first thing people would know about you? What would you be most afraid of them seeing? Who would you impress? Who would you love?

What would you adjust as you walked past the mirror? What kind of work would you be in? What would your goals be, how would you strive to be better if what you collected in the bank or put on your body or attached next to your name on a business card no longer affected what people saw?

Would you spend your time in gyms and stores or in libraries and temples? Who would you let yourself fall in love with? What would your ‘type’ be? Tall, dark and handsome or creative, kind and self-aware?

Who would we idolize, and what? How much of our governing body would be fit to lead? Who would we make famous? Who would we celebrate?

Would we restructure our value system to prioritize the things that bring us true peace and desire, not just better than the norm? What would we do with all that money, if we weren’t spending it on decorating and changing and convincing everybody else that we are a way we really aren’t?

How would we define success? As who gathers the most shit around their souls or who is transformed the most and shines the brightest? What would it be like, if our priority was to just become lightness? What kindness and joy and healing and rawness would come of the journey there?

What would happen if we could see people not as “bad,” but as… blocked? If we could see the ways they’ve packed away their pain, or how they hold a belief that keeps them away from being kind to others? How they are unaware that those issues even exist?

What if we weren’t afraid of the ways people are different than us?

What would happen if we realized our bodies never wanted anything more than to feel connected, and acted out on nothing more than their false ideas of being separate, different, exiled, the odd one out, the almost-but-not-good-enough?

What would happen if we embraced our desire to play out and frame with our individualism, but eventually returned to the knowing that we are all just energy fields? And where would we be if we realized that we were all from the same one? What would happen if we realized we really weren’t that different at all?

I will not get tired spreading this message. The power to hild on in spite of everything, to endure this is the winner’s quality. Persistence is the ability to face defeat again and again without giving up to push on in the face of great difficulty. The poem above is shared for everyone to read and memorize to his/herself when tempted to quit or to stop trying.

I was surfing Facebook today and glanced at a friend’s post and write up that caught my eyes by the content and title “Failure”. I decided to share this with you guys. Hope it helps!!!

Failure is not a death sentence, failure is a catalyst that has the capacity to spur you into greatness. Please Fail forward……

There are two sides of a coin, the head and the tail which shows that life is in phases and men are in sizes. Growing up, I was opened to the idea that failure is a taboo. I remembered my father will say that “the person who came first doesn’t have two heads, he only has one like you”. So, I was always afraid of failure that I ended up not being the first in my school days. One day I sat down and asked myself the reason for my failure and what I was doing that was not right? I got some answers that set me on the path of success. I wouldn’t be sharing the answers I got with you now but latter. In my quest for answers I discovered some benefits of failure which changed my perception and response to failure. Soccer player Kyle Rote said that ” There is no doubt in my mind that there are many ways to be a winner, but there is really only one way to be a loser and that is to fail and not look beyond the failure” most times the reason for calling someone a failure is because a phase in the person’s life seem not to come out the way we expected and then there is a conclusion of failure. Failure is not just an event but a process. It is never final, but the refusal to try again is failure.It was Napoleon Hill that said “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Here are reasons why failure is actually beneficial.

Failure is a teaching aid. One very story that inspires me on the subject of failure is that of Thomas Edison who never gave up until we had “light”.Do you know how many times he tried inventing the incandescent light?…almost a thousand times. In life it is not about what really happens to us that matter but how we react to those things is what counts.Back to Edison’s story when he was asked the question “how come you didn’t give up on that project after a thousand times you tried”? His response will shock you: He said “I only discovered a thousand times how not to make an incandescent light“.Failure can sometimes be an efficient teacher although it can be harsh.In our careers and our financial lives, learning what not to do is just as important as learning what to do. Sometimes you have to fail to learn how to win. Failure is a teaching aid that supplies experience and knowledge.

Failure Inspires Creative Solutions. Failure is a catalyst that spurs you to creative thinking. Nothing motivates a person like adversity. This adversity can be turned to advantage if you allow it to inspire you. You can either use the experience of failure to your advantage or to your disadvantage.One of the advantages is that it helps you to do better next time. Use it as a tool for determination in order to drive you towards success.

Failure builds strength of character. Anyone can be the hero when times are good but how do you measure up when the going gets tough? Failure can be a measuring tool for character. Do you crumble or stand your ground after failure?Take a moment to think about that before you consider yourself a failure. Going through a failure is a remarkable test of your character, your courage, your determination and your mind set. I truly believe that it isn’t until you’ve been through the worse that you can truly appreciate the best. Failure is like a bench mark because It will show you what you are made of. Les Brown said “When life knocks you down, try and land on your back, because if you can look up, you can get up”.

Failure keeps you humble.
One of the enemy of success is complacency. We have read stories of once great persons,nations, cultures, and companies that banked on the notion that a successful past guarantees a successful future. But failure has a way of opening the eyes,it is evaluating and motivating. Leaders can’t lead from a place of arrogance. But, it’s a sad fact that success makes many people arrogant. Arrogance leads to under estimating the preparation required to succeed. Of course, showing up unprepared often leads to more failure. Humility is a powerful benefit of failure. We all need reminders that success can quickly disappear. By bearing failure with good grace, and feeling humbled by the experience, you don’t take success for granted. You’ll realize how fleeting it can be – and you’ll strive to work harder and smarter for it next time.

Failure Makes Us More Valuable Mentors.Experience they say is the greatest teacher. Most qualified teachers are those who have been through it all and know how to weather it all. One of the ways you acquire valuable experience is through failure. A large part of effective mentorship is helping to anticipate and avoid pitfalls, stay focused and respond to challenges with creativity and optimism.