tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818334054422432499.post3816330628079592090..comments2018-02-11T14:30:45.400+02:00Comments on Authentic Parenting: Bodily Autonomy?Laura Schuerwegenhttps://plus.google.com/115843456211160623397noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818334054422432499.post-59361884840554253042011-06-20T21:20:14.089+02:002011-06-20T21:20:14.089+02:00Elias just asked to have his hair cut at the haird...Elias just asked to have his hair cut at the hairdresser, but not right now, in two weeks, because a boy at school told him he looks like a girl. What a wonderful opportunity to talk about bullying, physical appearances, choices ! So after discussing it on and off for two weeks, he decided he still wants to go to the haidresser, but mainly to get the hair on his forhead trimmed, and to keep it long everywhere else. I took an appointement with the haidresser on the exact day he wanted to go, and that is next Saturday :-)Muriellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01301730906227587436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818334054422432499.post-38812179288122654892011-06-15T10:05:24.081+02:002011-06-15T10:05:24.081+02:00Very well said. I find the whole thing of bodily ...Very well said. I find the whole thing of bodily autonomy for my kids to be kind of hard to get my head around. I think when you&#39;re brought up in the belief that children are not capable of making decisions pertaining to their own bodies/appearance it&#39;s hard to change that mindset. I try very hard to allow my preschooler to make choices for himself, but sometimes find myself reverting to The Old Way - for example, we went to a family wedding last weekend and after we put on his smart clothes he told me he didn&#39;t want to wear them. I didn&#39;t berate him but just explained that when we go to weddings it&#39;s nice to wear smart clothes and he agreed. I felt awful afterwards, like I had taken away his choice. :(Imogen @ Alternative Mamahttp://www.alternative-mama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818334054422432499.post-36157394471865895232011-06-15T09:58:35.823+02:002011-06-15T09:58:35.823+02:00Ha, the tattoo question... I like to think that wh...Ha, the tattoo question... I like to think that when my daughter comes to that age, we&#39;ll still be close and she would like to share about that... But maybe she&#39;ll grow up to be a more private person and would prefer to keep that in the realm of the private... I cannot know this now. <br />We must accept as parents, however, that their bodies are theirs and theirs alone, and what they do to it is up to them. <br />We are delusional to think that a person&#39;s body can belong to the parent, albeit just for the time they live in their house... We have been raised to think this, because mostly our parents behaved that way. Many adults still struggle with bodily autonomy (I know I do), but it is such an important thing. If a girl knows her body is her own, she won&#39;t be easily manipulated into doing things beyond her will, for example.mamapoekiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773235393702832137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2818334054422432499.post-43664139788448627722011-06-14T15:17:55.146+02:002011-06-14T15:17:55.146+02:00Tough one, this! I would like to be consulted when...Tough one, this! I would like to be consulted when my teen decides to get a tattoo, but I would not forbid her to do it! (A bit of a hypocrit?)MomAgain@40http://momagain40.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com