Matt's Story

“Mynurva helped Matt gradually stop only hearing the negatives.”

Meet Matt

Everything seems to be going better for Matt after six weeks of counselling support. He is getting more recognition at work, he feels happier, many of his spots have gone and he is going out more in the evenings and at weekends when not working.

This is a complete change to half a year ago when the future looked bleak. No-one liked him (or so Matt thought), everything he did at work was bad and worse than everyone else’s work (or so Matt thought) and he looked terrible (or so Matt thought). It was true he was very spotty as when stressed his spots have always got worse.

At work, he took the blame for everything even when not his fault, and he felt guilty and embarrassed if anyone said anything nice to him. He had even stopped going out with many of his ‘friends’ partly because Matt had convinced himself they did not really like him.

Starting the counselling sessions was a definite point in time when he started feeling happier. By contrast, Matt cannot remember any event that started his feeling of low self-esteem. And at the time Matt could not have given a word to what he was going through. His thought patterns gradually developed with time and probably started when he was a teenager.

Matt was not looking for help – why would anyone want to help him? But a well-meaning relative sent Matt a paid for package of counselling sessions for him to book and use. Although the relative would not have known whether he used this or not, Matt felt obliged to give it a try at least once – if only to confirm he was a bad enough person and should not have help.

It was in that first counselling session that Matt heard something good about himself for the first time in years. Over the next few weeks, Matt gradually emerged from the spiral of negativity he had ended up in. He gradually learned to accept positive comments from others and not turn everything into a criticism. Some days were better than others, and Matt really appreciated the support of his counsellor when he went back to thinking bad of himself.

Whether colleagues and friends actually changed their comments to him or not, Matt gradually stopped only hearing the negatives. He said yes to more invites from friends and they seemed to like him more. When he became happier his skin condition improved and most of his spots vanished – an unexpected bonus!

Giving counselling as a gift

A friend or relative can pay for a package of counselling sessions from Mynurva. However, as this counselling is confidential, no information can be passed on regarding when any counselling actually happened or what was discussed.

“Low self-esteem is destructive. A trained counsellor can help you overcome low self-esteem and be happier.“