Spanking

Obviously this isnt something I'm doing now, I may not ever do it. I just want to know when other parents out there are planning on starting spanking if at all. I also Want to know what other means of discipline you are using if you dont plan on spanking. If you have other kids and you arent spanking how is what you do working? Thanks I'm a ftm and im trying to figure out how I would like to discipline.

No we will never spank, look into peaceful/gentle parenting. I believe parents should lead by example and model the behavior they would like their children to follow. I think physical violence can never be the answer to whatever parenting problem you're facing.

We do not spank. I agree with children learning by example. With my 3 year old we do time outs which he thinks is the worst thing in the world lol. I just try to redirect bad behavior to something more positive.

I am not against spanking but will try to avoid it. I do believe that certain acts require a more intense form of discipline but spanking will not be the first thing I try. I was spanked as a child and it was only ever when I really messed up. I don't think that spanking is an issue, I do believe that beating a child is. Some may not find a difference between the two but I do.
As for what form of discipline I plan to use, I'm not really sure. I don't feel we are quite at that point yet but when we get there I will look into some non-violent forms.

I see spanking (not ABUSE, but actual SPANKING) as something to use in extreme situations.

My sister has a 19 year old daughter who is very well adjusted, well behaved, and successful. She has a great relationship with her mother. She was spanked exactly one time: my sister swatted her on the butt once after she ran into the street in front of a car as a toddler. She didn't do it hard, and the kid was still wearing a diaper at the time so it didn't hurt....she said she never planned to do it, she was just so scared she reacted.....but it scared my niece and she never again went near the street without an adult holding her hand.

We will NEVER spank our LO. I come from a child development background, parents should lead by example and model behaviors they want their children to follow. Yes, you can do this even with an infant. Also, redirecting a child when they have gotten into something they shouldn't.

Montessori Philosophy & R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers) are some excellent child development Methods to try. Google to find articles on these two philosophies.