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Posts tagged ‘crazy men’

#1 Vacuum-cleaning the room when he’s watching TV His thought:
“Gee! a stain never killed anybody ! She could do that tomorrow!”

Conclusion:
It is all about making him feel guilty. When he only thinks of resting, you feel a sudden urge to do the clean up. Hey ! He’s right: you can wait and take a rest with him.

#2 Constantly complaining when he is watching a football matchHis thought:
“Can’t she shut up ? If she doesn’t like football, she could have organized a night out with her friends.”

Conclusion:
If you don’t like football, organize something with your friends or go to your room with a good book. He, too, is entitled to his fun time and personal passions, even though you may not share them.

#3 Asking him “darling, do you love me?” around midnight after a nice evening out His thought:
“Gosh ! Why does she always ask that kind of question so late at night?”

Conclusion:
Why not ask and discuss it? Not anywhere, any time though. You’re spoiling his night, he will wonder what went wrong when all was so good, and find it unpleasant he has to reassure you when apparently nothing should make you doubt. If you want to learn more about his feelings for you, pick a better time.

#4 Systematically double-checking what he has done when he gives a handHis thought:
“Her way looks the only right way, I wish she could loosen up once in a while.”

Conclusion:
If you seek to discourage him, that’s the way. You act like a mother, making him feel like an incompetent child. Don’t complain then that he never takes any initiative. He may do things differently. So what? At least, they’re done, aren’t they?

#5 Being too curious and inquisitive, asking tons of questionsHis thought:
“Why for God’s sake does she want to know all about everything?”

Conclusion:
If you want to know everything, you eventually will and may not like it. So, don’t search his cell and pockets, respect his personal space and mind your own business, it can only improve your relationship.

#6 Giving him lessons and unwanted adviceHis thought:
“I’m not with her to hear the same things my mother used to tell me.”

Conclusion:
If he asked nothing, there is no reason for you to tell him what to do and how. When you constantly treat a man this way, he soon fades and loses his self-confidence. Is that what you want?

#7 Acting clingy His thought:
“Arghhhh ! If only I could have the house for myself alone, just one week-end, please!”

Conclusion:
A smothering women shows how affectively dependant she is. She gives too much, he will feel he will have to give back, unfortunately not spontaneously. He will soon feel trapped. Leave him alone, don’t harass him. Remember a couple is 1+1=3.

#8 Your mood swingsHis thought:
“What did I say? What did I do wrong? She looked so happy this morning !???”

Conclusion:
Men can find mood swings typically feminine, thus charming. They show your vulnerability and how much you need him. Know your limits though. If you’re constantly aggressive, he will soon find it hard to bear. Better then warn him, get a bit of alone time in another room and come back when you feel better.

#9 Taking ages to get readyHis thought:
“We’ll be late or the latest ones to arrive (once again!!!).”

Conclusion:
So much of a woman! Men can understand and even smile at it. But too much is too much. If you need 2 hours to get ready, get organized and don’t wait for the last minute.

#10 Criticizing his mother His thought:
“Why do you have all it against her? She does nothing to upset YOU!”

Conclusion:
He will remain his son and will forever love her. HE can criticize her, you can’t. Stay quiet. Sure, she’s not perfect. You’re not either, even if she sometimes over steps some of your limits.