I feel trapped and don't know what to do

My baby daddy is very very controlling. In the past we broke up over his lack of trust and need to control everything. Despite this I still cared for him and we ended up sleeping together while broken up and.... I got pregnant. I told him about the pregnancy and everything was going fine until after we moved back in together. A couple days after we moved into a new place he started to treat me horribly. He verbally abuses me everyday. He tells me I can’t see any of my friends or family and if I am seeing family it is on his terms. How long I go for, where we go, what we do and there are always conditions For instance the latest was my grandma wanted to take me out to lunch and my bf told me that if I go and I don’t come back with a whole bunch of baby stuff that she has bought then I do not go to see her again! Every time I tell him how upset his control makes me and how it makes me want to leave, he tells me he will kill my cats and leave me to find their bodies. He threatens me all the time and tells me that if I do anything about it then my life and everyone lives I care about will be ruined by some master plan he has created. I just don’t know what to do or how to get out of this. I thought things would be ok but I am miserable all the time.

My baby daddy is very very controlling. In the past we broke up over his lack of trust and need to control everything. Despite this I still cared for him and we ended up sleeping together while broken up and.... I got pregnant. I told him about the pregnancy and everything was going fine until after we moved back in together. A couple days after we moved into a new place he started to treat me horribly. He verbally abuses me everyday. He tells me I can’t see any of my friends or family and if I am seeing family it is on his terms. How long I go for, where we go, what we do and there are always conditions For instance the latest was my grandma wanted to take me out to lunch and my bf told me that if I go and I don’t come back with a whole bunch of baby stuff that she has bought then I do not go to see her again! Every time I tell him how upset his control makes me and how it makes me want to leave, he tells me he will kill my cats and leave me to find their bodies. He threatens me all the time and tells me that if I do anything about it then my life and everyone lives I care about will be ruined by some master plan he has created. I just don’t know what to do or how to get out of this. I thought things would be ok but I am miserable all the time.

You are absolutely right, it would be much easier to stay and let him control your life. Let's just cross our fingers and hope that the abuse doesn't actually turn physical. Maybe he'll walk down the street tomorrow and get hit by a bus and he won't have the opportunity to abuse and brainwash your child as well. But a shelter is a horrible idea, because there aren't people there who have ever been in a similar situation. No support from a shelter, that's for sure.

You are absolutely right, it would be much easier to stay and let him control your life. Let's just cross our fingers and hope that the abuse doesn't actually turn physical. Maybe he'll walk down the street tomorrow and get hit by a bus and he won't have the opportunity to abuse and brainwash your child as well. But a shelter is a horrible idea, because there aren't people there who have ever been in a similar situation. No support from a shelter, that's for sure.

Is he on your lease? Tell him to move out and if he doesn't ask the police if they can remove him. He has threatened you and needs to see consequences. Can your family help you? Also, you could contact your landlord and tell them what is going on and see if it's possible to break your lease. Good luck...makes me sad to hear stories like this.

Is he on your lease? Tell him to move out and if he doesn't ask the police if they can remove him. He has threatened you and needs to see consequences. Can your family help you? Also, you could contact your landlord and tell them what is going on and see if it's possible to break your lease. Good luck...makes me sad to hear stories like this.

There is no excuse for his behaviour. Call the cops on him and get a room mate to move in, don't be scared that's what he wants and don't make excuses to leave.You have done it before move in with family or friends get all the bills cancelled.He might kill you you have to be careful

There is no excuse for his behaviour. Call the cops on him and get a room mate to move in, don't be scared that's what he wants and don't make excuses to leave.You have done it before move in with family or friends get all the bills cancelled.He might kill you you have to be careful

I agree with pp. he's manipulating you. If he's not listed on the lease legally he can't stay. Call the police to come get him out and return the key. If he is on the lease talk to the landlord like pp said. They should let you move out then you can call and cancel the utilities that are in your name due to moving. There is no excuse to stay and put your life or los life in danger. GL!

I agree with pp. he's manipulating you. If he's not listed on the lease legally he can't stay. Call the police to come get him out and return the key. If he is on the lease talk to the landlord like pp said. They should let you move out then you can call and cancel the utilities that are in your name due to moving. There is no excuse to stay and put your life or los life in danger. GL!

If the rent is in your name tell your land lord that the guy is violent and fear for your safety and have them change the lock while he is gone at work. Put his things in a box and leave them outside the door. Call the police and let them know that you are kicking someone out of your apartment and fear they will get violent. Then when he comes home do not open door and tell him through it that he is to leave or you will have him arrested for trespassing. Get a restraining order. If you have a phone that records like an iPhone have it recording from when he should be home and until he leaves. Turn in your 30 day notice to your landlord or see if they have another property you can transfer to. When you are going and returning call someone or call your landline and talk or act like you are talking. If you see him approach say very loudly that he is not to be anywhere near you because of such, then say into phone that you need to go so you can call police and if you do not call back in 3 minutes they are to assume you are in danger and also call police. He should leave you alone. This is the best way that I can think of for you, baby and your fury family to get out.

If the rent is in your name tell your land lord that the guy is violent and fear for your safety and have them change the lock while he is gone at work. Put his things in a box and leave them outside the door. Call the police and let them know that you are kicking someone out of your apartment and fear they will get violent. Then when he comes home do not open door and tell him through it that he is to leave or you will have him arrested for trespassing. Get a restraining order. If you have a phone that records like an iPhone have it recording from when he should be home and until he leaves. Turn in your 30 day notice to your landlord or see if they have another property you can transfer to. When you are going and returning call someone or call your landline and talk or act like you are talking. If you see him approach say very loudly that he is not to be anywhere near you because of such, then say into phone that you need to go so you can call police and if you do not call back in 3 minutes they are to assume you are in danger and also call police. He should leave you alone. This is the best way that I can think of for you, baby and your fury family to get out.

Ok so you were living separate before all of this why the sudden need for 2 incomes? Did you not know how we was from before? You need to look into your lease since you haven't been there 30 days. I would head for the hills and never look back.

Ok so you were living separate before all of this why the sudden need for 2 incomes? Did you not know how we was from before? You need to look into your lease since you haven't been there 30 days. I would head for the hills and never look back.

She needs a plan and someone to help her with the plan. She needs family & friends support. She needs a counselor. She needs to contact a women's centre for extra support help and tools. She can't just leave without help without a plan. It's not that simple. I hope she gets her support team together and makes a solid plan and gets out safely.

She needs a plan and someone to help her with the plan. She needs family & friends support. She needs a counselor. She needs to contact a women's centre for extra support help and tools. She can't just leave without help without a plan. It's not that simple. I hope she gets her support team together and makes a solid plan and gets out safely.

Women's shelters deal specifically with women fleeing domestic violence, and it's much different than a regular homeless shelter. Many women's shelters have excellent case workers that work with women in transitioning from fleeing domestic violence to gaining independence in permanent housing again. You may consider this if you don't have strong support network such as family to help you flee.

Women's shelters deal specifically with women fleeing domestic violence, and it's much different than a regular homeless shelter. Many women's shelters have excellent case workers that work with women in transitioning from fleeing domestic violence to gaining independence in permanent housing again. You may consider this if you don't have strong support network such as family to help you flee.

U need to move out n disappear. I hate to say this but he will start physically beating you. Verbal, abuse, control, and most importantly isolation from your loved ones are the biggest signs n precursors to physical abuse. Seek domestic violence counseling or information.

U need to move out n disappear. I hate to say this but he will start physically beating you. Verbal, abuse, control, and most importantly isolation from your loved ones are the biggest signs n precursors to physical abuse. Seek domestic violence counseling or information.

He sounds like a typical psycho. Don't be that woman and do not get wrapped up in his cycle. Be strong for you're baby. It's called a restraining order, child support and a back bone. I've seen this so much. Just grab the bull by the horns and kick his a** to the curb !! I know it's hard but you gotta do what you gotta do. No one deserves that !

He sounds like a typical psycho. Don't be that woman and do not get wrapped up in his cycle. Be strong for you're baby. It's called a restraining order, child support and a back bone. I've seen this so much. Just grab the bull by the horns and kick his a** to the curb !! I know it's hard but you gotta do what you gotta do. No one deserves that !

You need outside help. Find someone like pp said a shelter with people who can advise you. You can't just change the locks, he pays rent. If you fear for your physical safety from him you can get a restraining order. If you have this fear you need to do this to protect yourself and child. Kill your cats? That's sick. You gotta drop this guy before that baby is here. You gotta be living separate from him before that baby is born. Get busy. Get talking to people. A hotline. Find people who know how to deal with a situation like this. Gl.

You need outside help. Find someone like pp said a shelter with people who can advise you. You can't just change the locks, he pays rent. If you fear for your physical safety from him you can get a restraining order. If you have this fear you need to do this to protect yourself and child. Kill your cats? That's sick. You gotta drop this guy before that baby is here. You gotta be living separate from him before that baby is born. Get busy. Get talking to people. A hotline. Find people who know how to deal with a situation like this. Gl.

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