4. Incorporating Some Novelty

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"What women really want in bed is for men to incorporate a combination of moves and toys into their bedroom routine," says sexologist Dr. Megan Stubbs. "In addition to equitable amounts of effort given, I think women want slower sex and clitoral stimulation. This isn’t to hate on quickies, but sometimes sex can seem so rushed. The scripted, “kiss for a bit and then suddenly penetration” can be taken out back and shot. Come on, men! Slow it down and build the anticipation." Basically, anything you can do to break whatever set routine you might have going, the better. "Make her wonder what you are going to do next," says Stubbs. "We crave novelty as humans, so any change of pace will certainly get noticed. Women need that time to build their arousal, so why not let them fully arrive to the place where they are best able to enjoy what you want to do with them?"

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