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I Tried 3nder (The Tinder For Threesomes), And It Wasn’t That Weird

Ever since the “revolution” of Tinder, it seems that an onslaught of mobile dating apps have surfaced. From Bumble, the female led dating app, to Hinge, which sets you up with friends of friends. Many non-traditional “dating” apps popped up as well, such as Wingman, which claims to connect you with other hotties on your flight, and 3nder, an app solely for threesomes.

Every guy probably has a threesome fantasy, but what kind of guy specifically sings up for a threesome driven app? What kind of couple signs up for a threesome driven app? If I signed up for 3nder as a single girl, would I get creepier messages than I received on Tinder? Would the conversations start out normal than jump right into my sexual preferences? I wondered, so I decided to find out.

Upon downloading the app, I realized that it really was almost exactly like Tinder. I swiped through a plethora of men and couples, swiping yes on all of them to guarantee a quicker return rate, and quickly received messages from my matches. I was surprised to find that the range of available men on 3nder wasn’t too different from the assortment of dudes on Tinder. I wasn’t suddenly bombarded with a plethora of hotties, but I definitely wasn’t stuck sorting through creepy dudes who lived in their basement either.

As I was swiping, I came across a dude who definitely looked like the classic college guy ( basic as hell with a profile picture that was definitely taken at a house party). After showing the guy’s profile to my friends, we realized that he was an athlete at our college, and a girl we knew was taking him to our upcoming sorority date party.

Chuckling to myself, I sent out a screenshot of the guy’s 3nder profile to my sorority and joked about how maybe two girls should take him instead since he clearly wants a threesome. Expecting some laughs, I was instead confronting with very defensive chicks going on and on about how the profile “was clearly a joke” and that they would appreciate if I took the post down.

I was a bit baffled. Since when is it frowned upon for a dude to want a threesome? Why is having a 3nder profile so much different than having a Tinder profile? What kind of dude is really going to be embarrassed for trying to have two chicks at once? I wasn’t sure, but resigned myself to the fact that dudes really can’t own up to half of their actions, and girls are even more prude/naive than I thought.

Regardless of the “scandal,” I kept my 3nder active for about three weeks. I didn’t respond to many messages, but I realized that guys on 3nder were even less creepy than guys on Tinder somehow, not to mention that a lot of them were actually pretty good looking. Rather than Tinder approved pick-up lines such as “sit on my face” or “wanna netflix and suck my cock?” most of the messages I received were something along the lines of “Hey, how are you?” or “You’re cute, hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving!”

Could it be that even a threesome app has more respectable guys than Tinder? Or is it simply that guys on 3nder don’t see cute single girls a lot, and don’t want to fuck up their one chance? I’m not sure, but either way, if you are looking to have a threesome in the near future and want to avoid awkwardly joining in on your BFF and her boyfriend, maybe you should give 3nder a try after all?

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