How Lyme Changed Everything

An Entire Family with Lyme?

I’m a Lyme Mom. I have Lyme disease and all 4 of my children have it. As a matter of fact, so does my husband.

Many times I’ll get the question, “how can your whole family have Lyme?” to which I usually chuckle and say, “well, a family that plays together gets sick together!”. On the inside, I find myself grumbling and asking, yeah, how can my whole family have this? It’s very frustrating explaining our situation to others and very difficult to reconcile in my own heart why this has happened to us!

“Health is not valued until sickness comes.” Thomas Fuller

I’m not sure exactly when I contracted Lyme disease. I suspect I was bitten by a tick when I was pregnant with my son in the fall of 2006. But it’s hard to say because sometimes I wonder if I’ve had it since I was a child and then reinfected. My health also suffered a great deal after the birth of my youngest daughter in 2000.

My Declining Health

Not too long after she was born I was diagnosed with plantar fasciitis. I walked 3 miles a day while I was pregnant and the podiatrist told me that walking so much with the extra weight of the baby was the reason I was having intense pain and could barely walk on my poor feet. I went to physical therapy, bought custom-made orthotics, got a few steroid shots and I was on my way.

Shortly after this, I began having heart palpitations which felt as though they would make my heart leap out of my chest. I went to the doctor and I had an irregular EEG so I was sent to a cardiologist for a nuclear stress test. I was so frightened, at the time I had 3 young daughters and heart disease runs in my family. I had struggled with high cholesterol since I was 18, despite diet and exercise, so of course, this consumed my thoughts.

Diagnosis Fine

In the end, all tests were clear and the doctor told me everything was fine, except I wasn’t fine. Off and on I would have horrible heart palpitations along with fatigue. I was sure I was going to have a heart attack, especially when I would lie down at night to go to sleep. My primary doctor told me that my heart palpitations were most likely caused by anxiety and maybe too much caffeine, so I did what I could to adjust my lifestyle and I stopped drinking coffee.

In 2003 I came down with the flu. That year was one of those “epidemic” years where the flu got an early start. My 3 girls and I all got very sick one right the other. Thankfully, the girls recovered just fine but I, however, didn’t recover for another 2 or 3 years.

I continued to have upper respiratory problems, shortness of breath, coughing up phlegm, dizziness, shallow breathing and coughing so much I thought I felt like I was going to pass out! I often felt like I couldn’t breathe out and that my breathing would get stuck. Naturally, I went to the doctor who sent me to an asthma specialist and she said I had asthma. The problem with that diagnosis was that the medications and rescue inhaler made me worse.

Allergic to Everything

I began having allergic reactions and breathing episodes whenever I was around chemical smells, for example; cleaners, shampoos, perfume, body lotions and especially the smell of cigarette smoke. I was so afraid to leave my own house and as if that wasn’t scary enough I began having reactions to food. I felt as if I had become allergic to everything.

I began to notice that every time we went out to eat I would begin to get sick and felt as though I was going into anaphylactic shock. My blood pressure dropped, my throat felt funny, swollen and like I couldn’t swallow, I became very dizzy and got very sick to my stomach. The only thing that seemed to help was taking 2 Benadryl and going to bed. I would lie there and just keep saying to myself, “relax, breathe, you’re going to be ok!” Hindsight – I should have gone to the ER.

I went back to the doctor and she said I was allergic to sulfites. I did some research and couldn’t believe how many food items had sulfites in them. I also couldn’t believe that just eating a salad at a restaurant would expose me to the very thing that would set me off. I felt so helpless, I felt bad for my friends and family when they wanted to go out but I was too afraid.

I went on a very strict diet avoiding preservatives of all types, I avoided smells, perfumes, and dyes in all of my products and I began to have some relief. This didn’t alleviate my symptoms when I went to church, the store, or even the doctor’s office. I became very aware of how the smell of someone’s hairspray or shampoo could be dangerous to someone like me.

Miscarriages & Increased Pain

In 2004-2005 I had two miscarriages and by the end of 2006, I became pregnant again later giving birth to my 4th child. In the beginning of my third trimester though I began having extreme fatigue, terrible joint pain, and lower back pain. I had chronic sinus infections, pink eye, and those heart palpitations came back but nothing would ever show up when I went to the doctor.

By the time I had my son my right shoulder was hurting so badly I could barely lift him or hold him on that side. When I would rise from a sitting position to standing I would get stuck because of terrible pain in my lower back and my sciatic nerve would send the most horrific pain down my backside and into my leg. I was stiff, fatigued and I felt like I had aged to around 90 years old.

My pain always increased at night making it impossible to get comfortable or sleep. Simple things like making a meal caused intense pain and burning up and down my back. Ibuprofen and other OTCs did nothing to help.

I was extremely fatigued, it was like nothing I had ever experienced, not even pregnancy. I would fall asleep during the day, even while reading out loud to my kids or if I would lie down for just a minute my kids would come and shake me awake and I would learn that several hours had passed. At night I would sleep so deeply that I wouldn’t hear my newborn son cry. I knew something was very wrong because I knew that mothers hear their babies even when they’re exhausted.

When my son was 9 months old I began having severe pain in my ankles and the muscles in my calves were so tight nothing could relax them. I went through physical therapy for Achilles tendonitis but it wasn’t helping. It became so bad that walking was just too painful. I couldn’t get up in the middle of the night to get my son because my legs and feet were so still and painful, I felt like they just wouldn’t work and my body was too stiff.

Counting Steps

In the morning, I would have to sit on the end of the bed and do stretching exercises for 5 or 10 minutes just so I could hobble out of bed and walk like a 90-year old down the stairs.

I remember counting how many steps it would take to go from the kitchen to the living room or from the parking lot into the store. Counting steps in order to accomplish tasks with the minimum amount of pain possible.

I was also having all sorts of problems with my stomach; acid reflux, throwing up for no reason, pain when I drank water. I had night-time chills to where I would shake uncontrollably. I felt like I was freezing cold no matter how much I bundled up.

As time passed I began noticing that I was having memory issues, in fact, I couldn’t recall memories from my childhood which really scared me. I had difficulty thinking, reading, comprehending and problem-solving. I couldn’t do simple math in my head, simple tasks became impossible because I didn’t know how to go about them, and I began to have constant, unrelenting pain from my neck down to my feet. Burning, stinging, nerve pain along with muscle and joint pain. It was the worst pain I had ever experienced.

As my pain increased and my symptoms kept growing, I began having anxiety, depression and anger outbursts, sometimes feeling so much rage inside. I was terrified, I didn’t know what was happening to me. I remember asking my husband if I hit my head because my brain wasn’t working and I was convinced I was suffering from early onset Alzheimer’s.

By this time my son was almost 2 so in two years time these symptoms grew out of control. I had been to my doctor, I had lab work done, and I had x-rays. I went to the podiatrist, 2 different physical therapists, a pulmonologist, counseling and my chiropractor.

Crossroads

My husband and I were scared. We knew something was very wrong and at that point when the fear really set in I remember my husband praying for me and asking God to please show us what the cause of all of my health problems was.

At the recommendation of a friend, I decided to visit a new chiropractor. My pain was so severe that I was sure my regular chiropractor had broken my hip. The new chiropractor I went to treated me for 4 weeks and I only grew worse with each treatment. He finally suggested that I get a Lyme test. Although I was very sick, I thought he was nuts. I told him that I had never pulled a tick off of me and I certainly had never had a bulls-eye rash. What was Lyme disease anyway? Didn’t that just cause arthritis? He assured me that Lyme was much more and that I might just be surprised.

I reluctantly asked my primary doctor for a Lyme test while also getting muscle relaxers and x-rays to see if my shoulder, back, and hip were all broken.

Diagnosis Lyme Disease

Quite honestly, I was really surprised when that test came back positive. As I look back now, I see how truly blessed I was that I was able to get a diagnosis. Many people go for 10 or 20 years without ever knowing.

Lyme tests are not very accurate so it’s very difficult to get a positive test.

Lyme symptoms can happen right away and if they do count your blessings because typically there are no warning signs. The tale-tell bulls-eye rash only occurs in about 25% of early Lyme infections. Like many who get Lyme, no one in my family had the classic bulls-eye rash and none of us got the initial fever or flu-like symptoms, our symptoms began slowly over time.

This only begins my story and believe it or not, this is just a portion of my medical history. I hope that you’ll understand more about Lyme disease as you continue to read my story and that you’ll see how you too can abound in the hope that God can give while living with a chronic illness.

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Comments

Thank you for sharing your story. I am married and mom to my 4 children. I was clinically diagnosed with Lyme by an LLND 2012, confirmed by an Igenex blood test 2/2013. For years I didn’t understand what was causing the fatigue and pain. I assumed it was from just being a mom. I started seeing doctors for multiple symptoms when my youngest was turning 2. I was diagnosed with migraines, ruptured ovarian cysts, fibromyalgia, early degeneration disc disease, unexplained very low in all hormones, overweight and even told “it’s all your head”, (so now I was going crazy). My children are older now, my 1st daughter is 21, my son is 15, my daughter 13 and my “baby” is 11. Fall of the same year I had my Igenex test I had my children and husband tested. My husband and both daughters are Igenex positive and my boys (with the most neuro symptoms) were clinically diagnosed after the Igenex test showed activity on certain bands. We are a family of 6 battling Lyme.

I came across your blog today and look forward to reading your articles. As a mother/wife fighting Lyme it becomes so difficult to function “normal”. My doctor feels I passed Lyme to all 4 of my children. They speculate I’ve had Lyme since I was 3….so those spirochetes have been hiding and multiplying for years. When I was 3 1/2 I became ill while out of town with the family, not horrible but enough that when we returned my mom scheduled a doctor appt. The morning of my appt as we were getting ready I was walking down the hallway and fell. My big sister was with me and helped me up. I took a few steps and fell again. After several attempts my sister ran to get our mom. By the time I was at the doctors office I could not walk or stand. I was taken to the hospital where they proceeded to do a spinal tap and multiple blood draws. While in the hospital I developed Bells Palsy on my left side of my face. Uncertain and lack of knowledge they cautiously diagnosed me with Guillain Barre. This was rare and they had very little knowledge. I’m born and raised Southern California, San Diego. We lived in a rural area, just the 7th house on a hill surrounded by wild life including deer, mice and snakes that were all on our property. But it was spring of 1977 so there was litttle information on Lyme (only an east coast doctor may have thought to check me). I was in the hospital for a week, sent home still unable to walk or sit up. I lived on a cot in my parents room by night and moved to family room by day. Slowly my mom was able to put pillows under my head and finally to a sitting position. She worked with me daily moving my joints to prevent atrophy. My sister remembers reteaching me the alphabet and counting and read to me all the time. Within several months I was walking again. My ankles were a little stiffer than preillness and weaker so I would occasionally collapse but for the most part I was healed according to my doctors.

My story is lengthy and much like other Lyme suffers, so I’ll stop to keep this at a reasonable length comment. How are you treating? My Lyme seems to be the most disabling so we’ve been focusing on my treatment. My husband was treated with antibiotics as well. My children have issues but not knowing I had Lyme (or that I could pass to my unborn babies) until just the last few years has shed some light on their early years. I use essential oils on my children. They have had some antibiotics for other illnesses (ear or sinus infections) but not treated for Lyme with antibiotics.

Oh, Julie, I’m so glad you found my blog. You sure have been on a very long journey! I pray you and your family are able to find someone who can help you wade through the madness and begin to heal. My family and I are doing well and have found homeopathy & nutrition to be our favorite healing modalities. xoxo Tricia

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I'm so glad you're here! I'm a faithful wife & homeschool mom who found myself in the trenches with chronic Lyme Disease. I discovered that it is possible to Abound In HOPE during those dark times and I learned how my family and I could regain our health. I share valuable information about tick-borne diseases as well as encouragement for the journey! Read more on my About page.

MEDICAL DISCLAIMER: Tricia, Abounding in Hope with Lyme, is a not a doctor and is not able to diagnose, prescribe a treatment plan or give medical advice. Tricia's intention is only to share her experience and no information here is to be used as medical advice. Please seek appropriate medical care.