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Maybe, we need to get through college first, at least that's what we want to do. As I have always thought about marriage, people should wait till there at least 21. And if that means wait a few years then it's ok, if you guys break up by then, well, I guess it wasn't meant to be. We'll be 22 after college so if we're still together after that I'll give her a Princess Cut Ring with yellow gold. She wants to be a school teacher like me and wants to see the world. But I think why I love her so much is that she's so excepting of me, even my faults. But, I promised her the bad sides of me would change if she wanted to. So we wrote a list of things about our likes and dislikes about each other and we have been working them out. We had a few fights, but what I notice is every time we have a fight, we as a couple grow stronger and more in love. I think what kills a relationship is not being honest and not talking to each other. I have never once told a lie to her, I don't plan to. I told her I want to be rich and she laughed at me saying that she doesn't want money, just happiness. And then I said to her, "Well you're lucky then, cause I'll give you both. You'll be one of those lucky ones that see the world and share a life with the one you love and cherishes you even with your faults." She was the first to say, "I love you." I never say it first, even if I want to. I never want someone to feel like they HAVE to love, even if it hurts, so I wait for them to say it first. All and all we're happy, but whatever happens happens. Enjoy everyday as much as you can and hope for the best, that's all anyone can really do.

Your an absolutely wonderful man, any girl that is yours is lucky and I know that from personal experience. ~KMT

Well you never know what could happen so just enjoy it while you can and be realistic. Took me a LONG time to be able to see this way. Teresa once told me that God made people capable of loving more then once, if not, the world would be a much less happier place. It took a while but I could finally except those words.

And thanks Trixie. And who the hell is DB?

Your an absolutely wonderful man, any girl that is yours is lucky and I know that from personal experience. ~KMT

Well you never know what could happen so just enjoy it while you can and be realistic. Took me a LONG time to be able to see this way. Teresa once told me that God made people capable of loving more then once, if not, the world would be a much less happier place. It took a while but I could finally except those words.

And thanks Trixie. And who the hell is DB?

Marriage is actually an archaic practice, so there is really no need to get married at all unless you just want the tax break. Honestly, the tax break isn't that great at all, so there is no point.

Well, I'm married, and I really don't think the piece of paper hanging on the wall proclaiming such really affected my ability to procreate, nor does it affect my family or child. Getting married is expensive and boring, and it doesn't really change anything afterward. Weddings are nothing but something to fight over.

Unless you are religious and need your god's approval to fuck and make babies... I really see no reason to get married. I just did it to stop my mom from nagging about what a sinner I was living with my boyfriend and, "What must the neighbors think!!!"

I'm not saying DON'T get married, I'm just saying its a pretty useless institution. If you are going to cheat, you are going to anyway. The piece of paper doesn't bind you any closer together, or add anything to a relationship.

Well, I'm married, and I really don't think the piece of paper hanging on the wall proclaiming such really affected my ability to procreate, nor does it affect my family or child. Getting married is expensive and boring, and it doesn't really change anything afterward. Weddings are nothing but something to fight over.

Unless you are religious and need your god's approval to fuck and make babies... I really see no reason to get married. I just did it to stop my mom from nagging about what a sinner I was living with my boyfriend and, "What must the neighbors think!!!"

I'm not saying DON'T get married, I'm just saying its a pretty useless institution. If you are going to cheat, you are going to anyway. The piece of paper doesn't bind you any closer together, or add anything to a relationship.

After living together for 7 years you are common law married anyway.

Well it's not really a religious reason, it's more of a statement for me to the person I love. I want my wife to know that I chose her over everyone to share my life with, and the words "I love you" can be said by anyone, marrying someone is a commitment for a long hall. And that's something I want my future wife to know, even if she does something bad. If you love each other you can always work things out. And in PA I think it's 10 years for common marriage law.