10 things every parent needs to know

Dr Justin Coulson has narrowed down 10 things that every parent needs to know in his new book, out now, and he shares some of his top tips with TODAY.

Getting on the same page:
“The most common question I hear from parents is: how do we get on the same page?” Dr Coulson tells TODAY. He suggests having a quick conversation with your partner before chastising your child. “It’s amazing what you can clear up by having a quick conversation asking for your partner’s opinion before disciplining your child.”

Managing conflict between siblings:
Dr Coulson says it’s important to recognise that there’s always going to be conflict and introduces his three E’s of discipline: Explain, Explore, Empower. “Explain what the expectation is, explore what’s going on, and then empower them by asking them how they can fix it.” If they shoot back an unhelpful answer, Dr Coulson suggests simply responding with, ‘that’s probably not the best solution,’ let’s try and come up with a better one. This teaches children to be responsible for themselves and their behaviour.

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Navigating dramas of technology:
Dr Coulson recommends putting together a list of ‘must-dos’, such as chores, reading or face-to-face time with people, before screen-time is allowed - instead of banning it completely. “Screens are a part of the world and if we approach it in a healthy way, then children get to have a whole childhood.”

Separation anxiety:
Instead of trying to fix the problem, Dr Coulson suggests showing an understanding of their emotional state. “They need to be understood, so firstly label the emotion they’re feeling for example, this is upsetting for you isn’t it or worried.”

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Making friends at school:
If your child comes home upset about not making friends at school, Dr Coulson recommends lots of hugs. Again, he warns against trying to solve the problem and instead just be there for them and get them to talk to you about what’s going on. “Also, check in with them if they want you to have a word with their teacher if that would help and make them feel like what they’re experiencing is a normal part of being a human.”