Blogger and activist Darian Aaron reports the Detroit-based Haddon delivered the rant during an online discussion "responding to repeated taunting and accusations from some of his
Twitter followers regarding the large amount of closeted gay men within
the gospel music industry. The controversial tweet posted September 15 has mysteriously
disappeared from Haddon's timeline but it was obviously present long
enough for EJ of gospelpundit.com
to pen a piece asking those within the industry to 'take a moment to
examine our hearts and live life more carefully.'"

Darian spoke with Tonex regarding anti-gay slur. Says Tonex: "I'm a little disappointed with the response. I can't get mad at anyone's conviction. As a theologian myself I wish we would use the WORD in a way that wasn't violent or abusive. I think the term "sissy" wasn't necessary but as a brother of mine (Deitrick) no love is lost here", he added.

WWJD? He probably wouldn't use the word "sissy". But thanks for confirming your heterosexuality, Deitrick. You keep telling yourself that when you offer women Twitter tips on how to keep a good man.

If every gay gospel singer, choir director, Minister Of Music, organist--and dare I say closted/DL pastor--were to stay home this Sunday, would we have church in very many places? I think not. It's still astonishing to me how many essential church finctions are carried out by gay parishioners, even though many of their churches demonize and dehumanize them every day. Now comes this rant from Deitrick Hadden.

Was Bayard Rustin a "sissy"? James Baldwin? Langston Hughes? Deitrick lives as a beneficiary of their work, even as he decries gays as "sissies". In fanning the fl;ames of hatred in a religious context, Deitrick actually distances himself further from God. In making the blanket statement that "all Gospel singers are not gay as I don't have a sissy bone in my body", Deitrick invites me to reply: "You are a 'sissy' and a coward. Bravery comes from any gay or lesbian person who suffers daily from the words and actions of homophobes like you." I'll say it again: those who speak out against us the most loudly, are often...one of us."

The sissies are the ones that usually have the DL/Straightish muscle boys eating out of their a$$es, literally. The sissies are also the ones that are up in front of the line fighting against the po-lice, homophobic thugs and gangstas and gender-conformist women and church hoodlums.

If flamboyance is equated with being a sissy then Mr. Haddon is Queen of sissies. He is an exteremely flamboyant man. Gospel Music's Liberace may have been Tonex but Mr. Haddon is Rip Taylor. He makes me sick, anyway.

How do you black church women and self hating church sissies find this blog? You're always the first one to comment and throw stones. No matter what you tell yourselves, these is not "WWJD". And that sissfied church queen Deidre may think he doesn't have a "sissified" bone in his body, but that is only because he has had plenty of other sissified things up n him!!!!

How ironic, though: he doesn't want to be a sissy, yet the pronunciation of his first name is the same as one of the greatest movie divas of all time--imitated by many sissies. My drag mother used to call me "Dietrich".

What a filthy nest these people dwell. HE'S calling people out about being a sissy? There's a dust of powdered sugar trailing that one. The black gospel circuit and their heterosexual delusions is a great example of the madness of crowds.

And if you go to EJ's blog and read those posts you will find out why the black church is drowning in hate and foolishness-- they are actively debating on whether or not they should love Tonex! These people are so behind the times on theology, sexuality, and just plain common sense! No wonder our churches have lost their way-- they have lost the true message of the Lord and replaced it with materialism, prosperity preaching, and hate for gays. How will people be brought closer to God if you rebuke them? If all people see from Christians is rebuke, shame, and scorn, why would they want to associate with you?

I really think the joke is on us. I have no idea who this singer is, but I believe he is expressing a sense of irony and humor.

There is NO way this man (Deitrich) thinks that anybody thinks he is straight. This boy knows that he is same gender lovin' and everyone around him knows that he is same gender lovin.' His mother knew he was same gender lovin' almost at birth. She named her son after a gay icon, Marlene Deitrich.

His response is so typical of closeted gay folks. Does he even realize that? If he were really interested in deflecting attention from the gay vibes he gives off, then he should be more embracing of homosexuality in his words. At least more people would be talking about his progressive attitude instead of how he's trying to hide his gayness. The gay community is hip to all the tricks closeted folks employ. He needs to stop it.

On another note. I don't know why I laugh whenever someone refers to himself as same gender loving. It just sounds so much like a cop out. But that's my view. And I'm not saying that people shouldn't call themselves that. Some people hate being called gay or homosexual and prefer to be called same gender loving. I don't get that. What if I want to just screw another man instead of loving him. Would that make me a same gender f'er, or maybe just a slut? I don't know.

@ THE TRUTH...I am with you. It just makes me NOT LIKE HIM and I don't need to boycott or rant. Just won't be paying his records (or playing his videos anymore! That's the kind of power I GOT!).

@NATHANJAMES. I wish we could do something more than SIMPLY stay at home. That's not in conjunction with those of us who are spiritually-minded and God-grounded. I wish that one Sunday we would WALK OUT of those churches that continue to make it fine, okay, acceptable and practice to berate people ESPECIALLY GAYS AND LESBIANS. There are UFC and MCC and The Fellowship churches around the country and for those who say that they don't get enough of what they need (i.e. big choirs and such)...maybe if you would bring your gifts and talents to a storehouse where they aren't thrown back in your face or where you are not vilified from the pulpit, WE COULD INDEED MAKE A MASTERFULLY JOYFUL NOISE FOR THE LORD. As for me and my house, WE PRAISE THE LORD and I have been blessed with some of the most gifted singers on the planet AND we worship GOD IN SPIRIT AND IN TRUTH!

Bless Deitrick for finally opening his mouth and letting his hate drip from it. Now we know one more. @ MEL SMITH. He didn't say he was cool. He said here was NO LOVE LOSS because as Christians we are called to LOVE our enemy. I don't hate Deitrick or any of these other Gospel Gangsters Hiding Behind the Word. I am just not going to dinner with them and I'm not going to support their hatred where I CAN. As a TV producer with a bit of programming power, I will utilize it accordingly. Bless it and Bless God!

P.S.

IF WE REALLY WANT TO DO SOMETHING MAJOR, EVERYBODY SHOULD GO TO iTUNES AND BUY AT LEAST ONE (1) TONEX CD! I WOULD RECOMMEND O2. IT IS ASTONISHING BUT I OWN THEM ALL AND A PROJECT OR TWO THAT NEVER CAME OUT!

I was blessed to have TONEX at our (UNITY FELLOWSHIP CHURCH NEW BRUNSWICK) 7th Anniversary Gala last year and I said this to the crowd: TONEX IS THE GREATEST MALE VOCALIST ALIVE! What he has in his vocal register is a thing of God and you have to hear him to know what I am talking about. He and Rahsaan Patterson are just amazingly gifted and out but TONEX IS SICK! He's just the truth. There are a few (ERIC ROBERSON among them) that still get my money and support but very few male vocalists get my adulation! TONEX GETS THAT!

SOOOOOOOO how about ENOUGH of this energy around people we don't like and who don't like us! GO AND SUPPORT TONEX! He's a better singer and a more loving human being! HOW ABOUT WE PUT OUR MONEY AND SUPPORT WHERE OUR MOUTHS ALWAYS ARE.

TONEX IS OUT AND GAY AND TALKING! How about we show that it was worth the struggle and that we have his back! I think that's where we need to use all of this force and not talking about someone we don't need to be giving all of this clicking and spacing.