FIGHTS LIKE THESE IN SCHOOL ARE POPPING UP ON SOCIAL MEDIA WEB SITES LIKE YOUTUBE EVERY DAY. IT APPEARS MORE AND MORE OF THEM INVOLVE GIRLS SWINGING, PUNCHING EACH OTHER ON CAMPUS, VIOLENT AND HUMILIATING. TONIGHT WE WANT TO HELP PARENTS RECOGNIZE SIGNS OF TROUBLE WITH THEIR TEENAGE GIRLS. WE ARE TALKING WITH AN EXPERT ABOUT WHY GIRLS IN PARTICULAR ARE RESORT TO GO VIOLENCE TO SETTLE ARGUMENTS. JENNIFER WAUGH IS JOINING US NOW. SHE ALSO SPOKE WITH A LOCAL ATTORNEY PUSHING TO GIVE THE VICTIMS OF THESE FIGHTS MORE PROTECTION IN SCHOOL. I'LL TELL YOU WHAT, ROB AND MARY, THE REALITY IS WE REMEMBER BEING IN SCHOOL AND TALKING ABOUT TWO BOYS FIGHTING. BUT GIRLS? THIS IS VIDEO RECORDED ON THE LOCAL SCHOOL BUS OF A GIRL TARGETED OUT OF THE BLUE AND ATTACKED DURING THE RIDE HOME, PUNCHED AGAIN AND AGAIN BY ANOTHER GIRL AND IN A SEPARATE ATTACK, ANOTHER LOCAL STUDENT 14-YEAR-OLD, HER SKULL WAS FRACTURED LAST MONTH WHEN SHE WAS BEATEN UP BY A GIRL WHO ATTENDED HER SCHOOL. AS I DISCOVERED, TO STOP BULLYING YOU REALLY HAVE TO FIRST UNDERSTAND WHY GIRLS ARE DOING IT. WHERE IS SHE AT? THIS TEENAGE GIRL IS LOOKING FOR A FIGHT. A FRIEND FOLLOWING HER SO SHE CAN VIDEO TAPE THE CONFRONTATION. WHAT PROMPTED THIS ATTACK WE DON'T KNOW, BUT THESE KINDS OF FIGHTS IN SCHOOLS ARE MORE COMMON THAN YOU MIGHT THINK. I SEE A LOT OF ANGRY KIDS. ANGER IS NOT A SIN, IT'S A SYMPTOM. LORI FRAZIER IS A MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELOR WHO WORKS WITH CHILDREN AND TEENS WHO HAVE AGGRESSION PROBLEMS. WATCHING SOME OF THE GIRL ON GIRL FIGHTS WE FOUND ONLINE. SOMEONE IN THAT SITUATION THAT WOULD PLAN IT OUT, HAVE A FRIEND VIDEO IT, THE INCIDENT ON THEIR CELL PHONE, THAT'S ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM. THAT'S ONE OF THREE REASONS SHE SAYS MOST TEEN GIRLS TURN TO BULLYING. THE OTHER IS DEPRESSION. TEEN WHO FEELS LIKE SHE HAS NO CONTROL, NO POWER IN HER LIFE, USING FIGHTS, FRAZIER SAYS, TO TRY TO REGAIN THAT CONTROL. THE FOURTH REASON POINTS TO PARENTING. BECAUSE IT WORKS. THERE'S NO REAL CONSEQUENCE THAT IS ADMINISTERED IN A LOT OF SITUATIONS. ONCE KIDS STARRED SPIRALING OUT OF CONTROL LIKE THAT, THEY ARE INTO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL OF CONDUCT, PROBLEMS, AND THEY REALLY DON'T CARE. NOW, A LOCAL ATTORNEY IS TRYING TO MAKE IT HARDER FOR BULLIES TO BE ALLOWED BACK IN SCHOOL WITH THE TEEN THEY ATTACKED. JON PHILIPS IS REPRESENTING 14-YEAR-OLD AREA IS JUIT SEEN HERE. SHE WAS BEATEN UNCONSCIOUS LAST MONTH, HER SKULL FRACTURED WHEN SHE SAYS SHE WAS ATTACKED NEAR OCEAN WAY MIDDLE SCHOOL BY A GIRL SHE THOUGHT WAS HER FRIEND. PARIS CHANON IS CHARGED WITH AGGRAVATED BATTERY. VIDEO SHE IS BEATING HER UP, YOU ARE NO SO PRETTY NOW. YOU ARE NOT SO PRETTY NOW. JEALOUS AND AWFUL. THE VIDEO OF JUITT'S ATTACK HAS THOUGHT BEEN RELEASED. WHAT HAPPENED TO HER IS GETTING ATTENTION WITHIN THE LEGAL SYSTEM. SOMEBODY HAS TO STAND UP AND SAY, LOOK, WHETHER IT'S AN INJUNCTION, KICKING YOU OUT OF EVERY SCHOOL LIKE JUDGE DAVIS DID IN THE COUNTY, YOU CAN'T DO THIS. PHILIPS SAYS HE HAS TALKED TO A STATE REPRESENTATIVE. TO KEEP THE BULLY OUT, AWAY FROM SCHOOL, THERE'S NO INJUNCTIVE RELIEF. THAT'S WHERE IT NEEDS TO GO A STEP FURTHER. PHILIPS SAYS HE HOPES HE CAN WORK WITH THE LEGISLATURE NEXT SESSION TO CREATE A RESTRAINING ORDER FOR BULLIES. IN THE MEANTIME, THERE ARE WARNING SIGNS THAT YOUR TEENAGER MAY BE BULLYING OTHER KIDS. FRAZIER FROM HOPE HAVEN SAYS IF YOUR DAUGHTER IS LYING, STEALING, BEING CRUEL TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS, ESPECIALLY YOUNGER SIBLINGS, OR EXPERIENCING REALLY AGGRESSIVE OUT BURSTS THAT ARE OUT OF CHARACTER, THAT'S WHEN IT'S TIME TO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR BULLYING. SOMETHING ELSE, FRAZIER SAYS THAT THE BEST FORM OF PUNISHMENT FOR A PULLEY IS TEACHING THEM ABOUT HOW THEIR ACTIONS AFFECT THE VICTIMS. SHE SAYS ONE REAL EFFECTIVE WAY OF DOING THAT IS TO MAKE THEM WRITE A LETTER AS PUNISHMENT. WE TALKED WITH DUVAL COUNTY SUPERINTENDENT LAST WEEK ABOUT WHAT HE IS DOING TO STOP BULLYING IN LOCAL SCHOOLS. HE SAYS HE IS PROPOSING TO PUT A DEAN OF DISCIPLINE IN EVERY MIDDLE AND HIGH SCHOOL ACROSS THE COUNTY, A TEACHER IN-SCHOOL SUSPENSION PROGRAMS. AND TO INCREASE GUIDANCE COUNSELOR TO STUDENT RATIO.

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Headline after headline, arrest after arrest, violent fights are happening in our neighborhood schools and are being recorded and posted on social media sites.

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It appears more and more of them involve girls, swinging and punching each other on campus. They are violent and humiliating. But in order to stop this kind of behavior, we have to understand why girls are doing it in the first place.

“I see a lot of angry kids. It’s not a sin, it’s a symptom,” says Lori Frazier, a mental health counselor at Hope Haven.

Frazier works with children and teens who have aggression problems. We found dozens of fights on social media sites and in many cases, teenage girls are looking for a fight and bring their friends along to videotape the confrontation.

Frazier tells Channel 4, “Someone who would plan it out, find someone to video it on the cell phone and then carry it out, that’s absolutely self-esteem.”

Besides a lack of self-esteem, Frazier says there are three other reasons teens turn to bullying. Depression is a reason. Also, Frazier says a teen who feels like she has no control or power in her life will use fighting to try and regain that control. The fourth reason points to parenting.

Frazier says, "I think parents are busy and there's not a lot of listening going on. That's what I see with parents and teenage girls. They get punished if they cause the parent to be embarrassed and inconvenienced, what will everyone think of me as a parent, that's reactive punishment."

She says she suggests the better form of discipline for a bullying teen, is to make them write a letter to the victim.

"Bullies need to understand how their actions make other people feel," said Frazier.

“There’s no real consequence that is administered in a lot of situations and once kids start spiraling out of control, there’s a whole new level of trouble. They really don’t care,” she explained.

Jacksonville attorney, John Phillips is trying to make it harder for bullies to be allowed back in school with the teen they attacked. He represents 14-year-old Aria Jewett.

In April, Jewett (shown, left, in hospital) was beaten unconscious. Her skull was fractured when she says she was attacked near Oceanway Middle school by another student, Paris Cannon. Cannon is charged with aggravated battery.

Like so many other similar fights, this one was also videotaped. The video has not been released to the public, but Phillips says he has seen it.

“You can hear in the video her saying, ‘you’re not pretty anymore, you’re not so pretty now, just jealous and awful,” Phillips explained.

This case is now getting a lot of legal attention, ever since Judge Henry Davis made an unusual ruling in Cannon's criminal case, banning her from attending any Duval County school.

“Somebody’s got to stand up and say enough. Whether it’s injunctions or kicking you out of every school in the County like Judge Davis did. You can’t do this, you’ve got to set a precedence,” says Phillips.

That is why Phillips says he’s talked with a state representative about adding to the current anti-bullying law. Right now, state law requires school districts to establish an anti- bullying program within their schools.

“But there’s no injunctive relief to keep that bully out of school, to keep them away from the victim. That’s where it needs to go a step further,” explained Phillips.

Phillips says he's just started talking with the representative about his suggestion and says he hopes it's something he can help push forward next legislative session.

If you are concerned about your teenager's behavior and suspect they may be bullying other children, Frazier says here’s what parents need to be on the lookout for:

Is your daughter lying?

Is your daughter stealing?

Is your daughter being cruel to other family members, especially a younger sibling?

Is your daughter experiencing aggressive outbursts that are out of character?

If so, she says that’s when it’s time to get professional help for bullying.

We also talked with Dr. Nikolai Vitti, superintendent of Duval County's schools, about what his office is doing to stop bullying in class.

"We're proposing to put a dean of discipline in every middle and high school throughout the county. Someone just to focus on disciplinary issues, disciplinary referrals, meet with parents, problem-solve in getting to the root of why students may be making the wrong decision, " said Vitti.

He went on to say, "We're also looking at putting a full-time teacher in every in-school suspension setting so that when students are making the wrong decisions, students are placed in a time-out room, a separate environment for instruction, so they're removed from the regular environment."

Vitti also says the district has increased the guidance counselor to student ratio to help prevent behavior from happening. In addition, he says, "We're putting more security guards in our schools, for additional presence."

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