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Thursday, May 10, 2012

Rejection’s No Ultimate Rejection

“I really
wish I was less of a thinking man and more of a fool not afraid of rejection.”

~Billy Joel

How do we
get through—to see other than this?

When
reconciling a future at the opposite end of bliss,

Yet a time
is coming when everything will become new,

What we must do now is simply hold
to what’s true.

***

Having been stood up or dropped or
fired or divorced, whilst it seems life-ending at the time, is no ultimate
rejection.

Honing in on the romantic
relationship we can see that the partner who rejects us is on another path,
which is something we’re no longer part of. It tears us apart. What we’re
desperate for we cannot have.

But, no matter how much we don’t
want to hear this just now, their rejection of us, though it feels despicably
cavernous, is a speck in the universe.

Not only is there a partner out
there, perhaps ten or a hundred that might qualify, there are plenty of
delicious situations for a future beyond rejection. Our challenge, having
eventually dealt with our grief, is to get beyond the constricted thinking of
that finite situation and into the broader thinking scope that’s open to see the
endless possibility.

What’s True Is Not Altogether Apparent

In the poem above, having been
dealt a body blow of rejection, we’re commended to hold to what’s true. And how
do we do that and bear the pain as well?

What’s true is not just the pain
of rejection, but an equally visible reality; one we don’t readily see. This
perspective is about realities far off—a thousand fragments of potential.

However difficult it is to see
these potentialities, where we hold open our hope before the flame of faith we
begin to see not just one or two ways we can be delivered, but the number like
facets on a diamond; more than our minds can hold.

Truth is the holy concept.

It is not just the bad truth; the
truths we can’t bear. Truth is about the good truth as well. And there is
always good truth to believe in. Our task, if we can believe, is to open our
hearts and minds to the endless potential beyond our bad circumstance.

***

The many rejections we face are no
ultimate rejection. There is always hope beyond any rejection. It can be hard
to see that hope. But with faith beyond what we can see, we can begin to see
some of the endless potential beyond our bad circumstance.