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Saturday, July 23, 2016

To the Guy Who Groped a Random Female Passerby at the DMB Concert Last Night

What the hell is wrong you?

Seriously.

What makes you think it is perfectly acceptable to fondle a woman's breast as she walks past you at a concert?

In your drunken state, perhaps you felt no one was watching. Not even the girlfriend hanging all over you WHILE you were groping an innocent passerby.

If you thought you were hiding under the radar, you were wrong. Very wrong.

I saw you.

I SAW YOU.

And it's NOT OK.

What's worse is the fact that the young woman gave you a quick, puzzled look and then just went about her business. Let's take a moment to let this sink in and really reflect on what has occurred here. You didn't just bump into her. You didn't accidently touch her breast with your hand (like you "accidentally" hit your girlfriend... twice). You intentionally threw your arm out as this woman passed; latched onto her person; caressed her; and maintained your grasp until she was out of reach.

You see, I know this because my eyes were deadlocked on you the moment I saw your hand pop up and hit your girlfriend's right cheek. -- The first time. You feel justified in your anger and justified in somehow causing the crowd of a DMB concert to divert its attention from the music and begin studying YOU because some other guys (smaller than you, of course) were standing around your girlfriend. At a concert -- where people crowd in next to each other. You feel justified in flipping out with fits of rage and hunting down the guys you've already driven away because of the potential look toward your girlfriend. Don't worry, buddy; I'm pretty sure the constant declaration of territory was already keeping the others at bay.

Yet... it's totally fine for you to grab another woman's body.

The woman you grabbed was walking toward her friends, who happened to be immediately to my left. I listened, shocked and fully ready to defend her, as she DIDN'T SAY A WORD about it to any of the women excitedly greeting her. I was dumbfounded. And ready for a fight.

What???

Are you serious???

I can't decide with what I'm most shocked: the fact that you did this or the fact that she seemed to react as if it were a normal occurrence.

Again, this is not OK.

YOU are why I don't want my daughters to grow up. Both of you.

To the angry, little man with obvious control issues: You are why I fear for my daughters.

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To the young woman who has been coerced into thinking this behavior is acceptable: You are exactly whom I do not want my daughters to become. Stand up for yourself. Speak. Fight back. We can't combat this type of culture if we continue to enable disgusting humans like this guy.

I used to think maybe my kids would be alright because they won't be broken. They won't have daddy issues for some manipulative psycho to prey upon. I've come to realize it's much larger than an individual issue. It's a way of life. The behavior we accept and tolerate as a society becomes our existence. I don't want that for my kids.

Young people of the world: Fix it. Treat each other AND yourselves with respect. It really can be that simple.

‎"Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it." -Groucho Marx