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Today Matty the Damned schlepped down the hill from darkest Boolaboolabongbong to the Nepean Fracture Clinic to have his injured wing examined.

To say things have not gone well would be a serious fucking understatement.

Far from healing, the fracture is worse now than it was 7 days ago. The fucker has become displaced. Seriously displaced. Not only that, it seems a motherfucking infection has set in and there is some damage to the radial nerve. I can no longer move my right hand at all.

Except for the constant fucking burning ache of the shattered fucking bone, my whole right arm is completely dead.

The stupid whore of a doctor who assessed me last week, it turns out, is some half trained registrar who doesn't know her twat from a tear in a cheap pair of pantyhose. As a result I've been scheduled for emergency surgery tomorrow.

Apparently I'm in need of a humeral nail insertion. A great cock-sucking metal rod is going to be driven down through my shoulder and into the bone to join the recalcitrant ends together. I'll be in hospital for a couple of days. I have to report at 0645 hrs to begin an IV antibiotic infusion because the dumb slut has only just realised I have AIDS.

Oh yeah, THAT bit of news wiped the smug shit eating smile off her face. The slag.

As for the three cunts who did this to me, let me just say that their identities have been determined and the matter is being looked into. They will not be allowed to get away with this. They're what Australians call "bogans". In the States they'd be called crackers.

I am so pissed to hear about this setback! Dammit all! I wish I was there, I wish we could ALL be there to wish you well in person, and to somehow help you through this. Dammit, that cunt fuck bitch whore who tended to your arm!! I am in a rather "profane" mood tonight, myself! I am so frustrated for you!

It sounds like there is going to be some physical therapy in your future to say the least, with the nerve damage. My grandmother was 78 when she ruined the nerve in her right arm in March 2005. Even at her age, she is almost back to normal and doing very well. I am hoping your "youth" will be of a benefit to you. Please don't give up with the recovery and therapy afterwards!

matty, this is truly fucking shit and im very pissed off on your behalfhoping that the very nasty sounding surgery goes well and is much less nasty in reality, and you recover very quickly lots of lovexxxx

"I'm not keen on the idea of the afterlife - not without knowing who else will be there and what the entertainment will be. Personally I'd rather just take a rest." Oscar Berger, PWA: Looking AIDS in the Face, 1996. RIP.

I identify with your fury at the fucking incompetent and careless medical staff. I think you had the same thing that I had last year: broke my upper arm but they could not put a cast on it and I was supposed to try to hold it as still as possible for 10 days and somehow managed to avoid the dreaded nail. Wish you a quick recovery with an abundance of painkillers (real ones not just love).

PS good to hear that these yobs (UK) have been located and will be punished.

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"If you keep one foot in yesterday, and one in tomorrow, you piss all over today". Betty Tacy

Matty: Very sorry to learn of your setback. Glad you're en route to being fixed and glad they found the perps. Seems a letter, once you're able, to Ms. Ne'er Do Anything Well's supervisor and higherups, might help prevent similar treatment of someone in the future. She apparently is the definition of "has looks that can kill " and likely has hyena bloodlines, hence the well-developed assholism. Hope you heal quickly and hope you have some help available while pinned. Em

Yikes, Matty. At least it's been properly diagnosed now and can be taken care of, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't suck. I'll be sending you positive thoughts of good painkillers and a speedy recovery.

I am very sorry you have had to deal with this entire situation. You will come through the surgery just fine. Those bogans surely will be dealt with. I dont know what to say about that stupid cooch at the registrar...its just inexcuseable to say the least. Here in the States we sue for malpractice. But first things first...concentrate on your speedy recovery.

My poor Damned one- I hope those mother-f****** who did this to you get fried along with the doctor who didn't treat this right in the first place. I got so angry reading this. Wish I was there to help you through this, but I know that your bad-ass attitude will help you through, along with all the people here who love you. I'm sending you HUGE {{{{HUGS}}}}!Love you Sir Damned-Betty

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I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

So many thoughts are going through my head right now, it makes it very difficult for me to know where to begin. There will be no Skype, no text message, email or PM for the next 24 to relieve my worries. No jokes, no gossip, no friendly banter between two men who have become as close as brothers. I hold no other person I know in higher esteem than my friend Matty.

This was a hate crime pure and simple with the resulting unnecessary consequences. Consequences that require my friend to have surgery, antibiotics for his infection, and anesthesia. Consequences requiring his family and friends to worry needlessly. Consequences we might not even learn of till later on down the road.

You can't explain this attack on junkies needing cash for their next fix or kids trying to score some easy money to buy some new Nike's. This was an unprovoked attack on a man, minding his own business, waiting for a train. A man they perceived to be queer and they attacked from behind like a pack of jackals. Think of how much more damage would have been done if after following Matty into the bathroom they had continued their wanton attack? The only bit of luck Matty had that night was that someone or something frightened these goons away.

Matty will hate me for sharing this, but I will anyway. Do you know what Matty was doing in Katoomba that day? He was attending another Labor party meeting...walks to the train station, takes the train, because he is one of the most politically active people I know. Hell, most of us won't get in our car and drive to our polling station and vote. There lies the difference, whether you agree with him or not, Matty walks the walk. Not for glory, attention or power, but because he believes in his cause and thinks it is the right thing to do and that he can make a difference. Matty is the guy that will make the phone calls, stuff the envelopes, and canvass a neighborhood door to door. He was doing something positive and good but his legacy could have just as easily been a one day headline: Gay Man Found Dead With Head Bashed In.

Matty, Sorry those idiots messed up the treatment of your arm so that now you have to have painful and scary surgery. I hope they give you lots of good pain meds. I am really glad those the sorry bastards that did this to you have been identified. i hope they lock them in the basement of the jail with the childmolesters and rapists. Wishing you a speedy recovery and please update as soon as you can. Cristy

I really shuttered when I read the description of the surgery you must undergo this morning, Matty (or is that tomorrow morning I guess... time difference). Plus it's so outrageous that if this had been properly taken care of in the first place it would not be so bad a week later. What incompetence.

The only good thing is that the attackers were caught and will hopefully live to regret this attack -- of course that's a big if the penalty is strong and it doesn't end up getting cut in half after any legal wrangling.

Matty... I only know you from your posts and comments like many on this board.... but, I am thinking about you to have a swift recovery and I am sorry for all this unnessary set backs. Keeping you in my thoughts... John

Wishing you the best through this next part of your ordeal. We're all sending you our love and support. Let's just hope the judge/magistrate takes into account all of this crap you're having to go through.

I'm really sorry to hear of the complications. Might there at least be some good drugs that come with the surgery and recovery?

Glad to hear you have decided to pursue justice against the 3 assholes who did this. And hopefully, your attendance at the rally will not have been in vain and that Bush-lover John Howard will get thrown out on his ass!

It's darn frustrating (to say the least) when you can't depend on healthcare providers to do the right thing. I realize they don't always have all the answers. But in your case, Matty, it seems like they were downright negligent.

I wish you well on your surgery. And I'm glad the perpetrators have been identified, and hope that they get what they deserve.

Henry

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

Hi Matty - I was shocked to hear about the unfortunate and most likely unprovoked attack on you. I feel very deeply when bogans act that way and hurt an innovcent person like yourself.I sincerely hope that everything turns out alright for you and that the recupeation period is not to long or too painful.

In a similar type of attack last year three of my friends were attacked in Melbourne - one was killed, one lost a kidney and the other is still getting treatment for nerve damage.

Unfortunately it is not a perfect society that we live in - we can only do our best

Matty, if there is anything that I can do to assist you, please let me know. I live in Hobart but am currently in Melbourne and will be back in Sydney for a few days in October.Good luck - I hope thy get the pricks that did this to you and that they get "hell" inprison!

Best wishes for excellent drugs for you Matty! You deserve them after what you've been through, and what's yet to come. You can hang the misdiagnosis over their heads forever, you know, and they can't do shit about it. For all the crap, at least you get that too.

I will miss you while you away. You mean to tell me that you can't sue those incompetent bitches, it is because of them that this infection set in. The most important thing is that you get through this surgery and get the proper healing. I'm glad you know the pussies that did this and that's what they are to me when they have to jump someone from behind. Obviously they were threatened by your manliness and you are one sexy tall drink of water.. I hope you nail their asses to the wall. Her Majesty worships the ground you walk on...Get better soon..

I managed to speak to the man himself a little while ago. He was in good spirits and waiting to see if they can fit him in later today for surgery. In typical Matty fashion, he was far more concerned as to how I am as opposed to focusing on his current situation. How can you not love the man.

I managed to speak to the man himself a little while ago. He was in good spirits and waiting to see if they can fit him in later today for surgery. In typical Matty fashion, he was far more concerned as to how I am as opposed to focusing on his current situation. How can you not love the man.

Hmmm, I didn't know nailing asses to the wall has more than one meaning.... I can imagine what those other meanings are. I hope my Damned One is recovering well after the surgery. Maybe I will try that phrase as a pick up line.....Come here...*evil grin*, let me nail your ass to the wall, don't worry you'll love it...

Surgery went well, although it was delayed until this morning Aus time - Matty can fill you in on that. No pin in the end, which sounds good. They set it back in place and he has an external brace holding him together.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts