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So like, WTF?

Admittedly, I’ve been kinda out of the adoption reform loop for a while. I had some serious life and death stuff come up that just wouldn’t wait. But, seriously people, WTF? Why do I not have access to my OBC already?

Somehow this country has managed to re-elect a democratic president in nasty economic times, move forward with health care reform, and legalize weed in a couple of states, and your telling me, I still can’t get my birth certificate. Jim Fucking DeMint is quitting, and a guy that hosts a fake news program is the top pick to replace him, and folks still don’t trust me with a piece of paper? Seriously? You want me to believe that I’ll be able to buy health insurance through a state exchange and marry a girl before I can have my birth certificate? We have a major problem here.

Attitudes seem to be changing about a whole lot of things. Except adoption. Now why is that? All the adoptees I know are nice people, we aren’t threatening. We aren’t asking for anything that will effect other people, we just want to be treated like everybody else. Why the heck are we one of the last groups that it’s OK to discriminate against?

Think about it.

Why? I dare anyone to come up with one single reason that doesn’t amount to some bullshit. All the arguments have been made and answered. I’m sick to shit of being treated like a second class citizen here.

So, I’m going to pout on my up-to-my-knees-in-bullshit boots and get back into it. I’m starting right here, right now.

It seems to me most arguments against adoption reform come down to, it’s always been this way. Secrecy makes adoption work because it’s always been this way. We have to protect those who relinquish, because it’s always been this way. We have to continue to prop up the “as if born to” myth for adoptive parents, because it’s always been this way. Bullshit. Bullshit. Bullshit.

It hasn’t always been this way. Sealed birth certificates came into being, for the most part, in the mid 20th century. They’ve never really protected anyone. And even if it had always been this way, it’s a crap argument. You’ve got to be able to show it’s working, that can’t be done. There is absolutely no reason it should remain this way. We have to convince people of that. We need to let them know it doesn’t work.

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Exactly, “WTF?”
I am a former adoptee and one of the 40+ contributors to “Snapshots of Reunion” and I’m writing to encourage you not to abandon this important book. Why? Because “injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere” (MLK, Jr., 1963). I see justice in Alabama, Alaska, Oregon, Kansas, New Hampshire, and Maine in the unrestricted access to original birth certificates that these states have afforded to adults raised in adoptive constructs. Conversely, I see injustice in the remaining 44 states that deny this same right to their separate and unequal American citizens (including my home state of New York). Below is a link to my adoption reform blog (“I, Cartographer”) and here is my professional page that outlines the editorial and publishing skills that I can contribute to bring to this project to fruition: http://about.me/MichaelAllenPotter
Please don’t silence these important voices through neglect. Instead, let’s join forces and fight until every American has equal access to their identities and to their origins, regardless of which state they were born in, by way of their original birth certificates.