On Saturday, Oswalt responded to critics who claimed his engagement to Salenger came too soon — but instead of responding to trolls individually, Oswalt instead shared a blog post by Erica Roman, adding, “This is so amazing. And SO well-written. I expected some bitter grub worms to weigh in (anonymously, always always always) with their much-needed opinions when I announced my engagement last week. And I decided to ignore them. But yeah, I felt this rage. And Erica articulated it better than I could have ever hoped.”

You aren’t entitled to an opinion. You don’t get to comment on the choices of a widower while you sit happily next to your own living spouse. You didn’t have to stand and watch your mundane morning turn into your absolute worst nightmare. You didn’t have to face the agony of despair and the only person who could possibly bring you comfort had been ripped from your life forever. You didn’t have to stand in the ashes of what was once your life, when the sun itself darkened and the very air you breathed felt toxic in your lungs. Go back to scrolling Facebook and keep your ignorance to yourself.

Who gave you the position to judge when it’s ‘too soon’ for a person who has suffered the worst to be able to find happiness and companionship again? Its been 15 months! How long should a widow sit in isolation before YOU are comfortable enough to release them from their solitary confinement? Because it’s really about you isn’t it? You aren’t actually concerned about the heart of the person who has found the strength and courage to love once more. You’re worried about your own offended sensibilities rooted in old Victorian traditions. Stop pretending you are actually concerned about their “healing.”

Salenger also defended their romance from trolls, writing, “Everyone has been so lovely to all of us … All of Patton’s family … ALL of Michelle’s siblings and friends and family… a few trolls have strong opinions. But I think for Patton, having met and found love after over a year of intense therapy and only grieving and dealing with his pain … I am grateful to be the one who helps him climb out of the depths and grief and find some joy again.”

The actress also made clear that Oswalt’s daughter was a priority for them both.

“Most of all, Alice is happy and feels loved,” Salenger wrote. “I am deeply in love with both Patton and Alice and very much looking forward to a beautiful happy life and having adventures together.”