Thursday, September 08, 2016

Discovering Yourself and Maximizing your Singlehood

There is a
popular saying by a great man of God that when the purpose of a thing is not
known, abuse is inevitable. I strongly believe that this applies in the context
of single hood. It’s almost a norm for a single person to feel something is
missing in his/her life due to their unmarried state.

Some have
even been taught to spend more of their single days preparing for the right man
or woman which makes us have a bunch of people get into marriage without a
proper Understanding of Who they are and what they are here on earth to do. No
sense of purpose!

Does it mean
it is wrong for a single person to study and gain proper understanding of
marriage? No! But that is secondary. If you don’t have a sense of purpose and
belonging and nothing drives you, you will still end up being an unhappy wife
or husband. So what exactly are we saying here?

Every year
thousands of people are admitted into our planet earth through child birth.
They grow up, go to school, graduate, get a work, get married, start a family,
build houses and buy car (for those that can afford), get old, retire from work
and eventually die without discovering or for one day thought about why they
were born, why they are here.

The cemetery
in your neighborhood is filled with people who have gone to the great beyond,
with a greater percentage of them, without discovering themselves that is, what
they were created to be and do. In essence, their purpose. They died with their
purposes undiscovered, neglected and unfulfilled, talents and gifts unused,
potentials unreleased, songs unsung, books unwritten, solutions to problems
unexposed, and the impact they were born to effect unaffected.

That's why
the graveyard is the wealthiest not the gold or diamond mines, nor oil fields!
Are you going to add to the wealth of the graveyard?

Jeremiah 1:5
– “Before I formed you in the belly I knew you; and before you came forth out
of the womb I consecrated you, and I ordained you a prophet to the nations”.

There are
some key words in this scripture which I want to state their root meanings. The
word ‘KNEW’ in this scripture is from the root word called ‘yada’ which means
to know – know by experience or be acquainted with.

The word
‘CONSECRATE’ is from the word ‘qadash’ which means to be set apart, be dedicated
to or observed as holy and; kept sacred.

The word ‘ORDAIN’ is from the word
‘Nathan’ which means to appoint, to bestow, to assign or designate.

From these
meanings what God wants us to see in this scripture is that right before your
dad had anything with your mum, you were already part of His divine plan. He
has already had an experience with you. He had set you apart for a great
purpose here on earth which he has designated you into. This shows you are not
a mistake!

You might
have been born as a mistake by your earthly parents but to God you are not a
mistake. You are part of a divine plan which you need to discover. Bringing
this thought into your life as a single person, the best gift you can give
yourself is unraveling the pieces of your life in God.

The many
problems we are facing in our world today is the result of people's failure to
discover themselves. The suicides, wars, divorces, diseases, identity crisis,
homosexuality, rape, child abuse, domestic violence, hungers, genocides,
corruption, terrorism, moral bankruptcy and decadence, looting of public funds
etc., all can be attributed to this failure.

Thousands in
the great beyond died with the solutions to some of these problems. Yet, there
are people still living with the solutions to these problems, although unknown
to them. Are you among them? There are over 7 billion people on planet earth
today, more percentage of these people are yet to discover themselves.

Yet
still, many of them are only living to survive and oblivious of the fact that
they're sent down here with a purpose to fulfill, mission to accomplish,
contributions to make, solutions to proffer and lives to change through the
discovery of what they're created to be and do.

Dedicating
your time to discovering what He set you apart for and what you are to give
this world. It’s a time to ask God questions about what He expects from you. As
it is popularly said, no one knows a product better than the manufacturer of
the product. The same way you can’t discover yourself outside of God.

You might
discover little pieces of who you are but the entire framework of your divine
assignment can only be downloaded from the one who created you.

He has the
full script and information that pertains to your life. It is time to stop
being a roving generality but a meaningful specific!

It is time to stop
wondering what your life is about and start spending time with your creator who
knows you more than you know yourself. The more you understand who you are, the
easier it will be not to give in to the pressures around that leads one into making
wrong marital decisions.

I remember
counselling a lady some weeks back who became so overwhelmed with the fear of losing
out of the boyfriend/girlfriend spree due to her spirituality and commitment to
stay focused in purpose. She began to feel it was becoming outdated to be
single and purpose driven without a care of when the right man will show up.

By the time
we were done talking, her perspective had changed. This goes a long way in
showing that like never before, singles need to know that SINGLENESS ISN’T A DISEASE BUT A SEASON OF DISCOVERY OF PURPOSE and;
PURSUIT....Maximizing your Single-hood is a desire to help singles live the
optimum life in God. It is a commitment to direction and focus in the pursuit
of God’s purpose and plan!

The bottom
line is: you are here for a reason, to fulfill a purpose, accomplish a mission,
impact lives positively for the glory and praise of God Almighty. To discover
the why you are here, ask the one that sent you down here, that is, ask God
through prayer. Why are you here?