What are a few goals you have? How do you plan on achieving your goals?

But you know what I hate? Those picture-perfect morning routines we see from so many “influencers,” talk about fake, fake, fake. #killmenow

Like no, I don’t love waking up at 5 am, and no I don’t wake up looking picture perfect. More importantly, no I’m not perky and bubbly first thing in the morning. Gag me.

Let’s get real.

I love sleeping in, and I love staying up late. However, that’s not exactly the best way to live your life. Even though sometimes I still can’t help but sleep in late. Wink, wink.

In reality, my mornings aren’t picture perfect, and they usually are never the same. But I do love continuity, so I think developing a good morning routine is important.

Since becoming unemployed, the structure I had to my morning routine has gone out the window. And to be perfectly honest the first month was rough. I slept till probably 11 or 12 every day. No Bueno. Let’s just say my days were less than productive.

However, I knew I needed to turn things around, so I created a simple, efficient, and relaxing morning routine that doesn’t stress me out or give me the shakes.

So, how can you create a realistic morning routine?

Fucking do it. Just kidding.

First, reflect on your situation and cut out anything that makes you miserable every morning. No one likes a cranky bitch.

Next, decide on 2-4 morning goals that are important to you.

Everyone’s lives and morning ritual are different so make sure your routine fits your life, not someone else’s.

Remember copying a famous blogger or YouTube star’s morning routine isn’t going to make your morning suddenly amazing especially if it doesn’t fit your life.

Instead, create rituals and goals that will make you happy and not stress you out.

Most importantly, do you!

Then, figure out your timeline. Plan out when you’re going to get up and how much time you have to spend on each goal. If you want to spend an hour painting your face each morning, do it! If you’re a hungry bitch and need to eat a big breakfast, get it, girl! #feedme

Finally, be realistic. You can’t do it all every morning. Try out your routine and see if you can stick with it – if not “dust yourself off and try again.”

Remember, “Just do your thang, We’ll see how it goes.”

Personally, I’ve realized that I need to do a few things each morning to feel good. My list includes sleeping in a bit, meditating, having a little dance party, getting Starbucks, doing a face mask than my makeup, and eating breakfast. For me, that’s my perfect morning. Will it change, probably but for now it’s working.

To sum it up here are my four steps for creating a realistic morning routine:

1. Reflect 2. Decide on 2-4 rituals to accomplish3. Set a timeline 4. Be realistic (and try again, if needed)

Do you have a morning routine? What morning rituals are important to you? Are you sick of seeing idealized morning routines?

Clothes are amazing and fun, but they can also suck big-time especially when your weight is fluctuating.

Now, I have no clue what it’s like dressing a body post-pregnancy since I don’t have kids…yet. #blessed

The thought of having a child now gives me heart palpitations. #truestory

However, I do know what it’s like to have to buy new clothes during weight loss.

Samesies, right?

Oddly, enough this topic came up on The Skinny Confidential Facebook group, and I brilliantly broke down how I would handle having/wanting to revamp your wardrobe when your body isn’t at your ideal weight.

So, I thought why not share this topic with my amazing readers….yes I’m talking to you!

First things first, put down the credit cards and don’t go breaking the bank on your new wardrobe, save that shit for when you’ve reached your #goal weight.

Right now, you want quantity over quality for clothes since in a few months these pieces will be too big.

However, I will suggest investing in some more classic and expensive accessories – bags, jewelry, and shoes. More on that later.

You want to get pieces from stores like Target, H&M, Zara, Gap. These stores sell, cheaper trendier items that are great to toss after a few months but they also carry fantastic staples that won’t break the bank.

Since your body is still in flux, you want to stay away from anything that will make you feel “big” or worse about your body. This doesn’t mean putting on a Muumuu dress cause that shit will make you look HUGE no matter how skinny you are.

Think fitted, but comfortable clothes. Because face it, if you’re not feeling the best about your body and you buy something that’s not comfortable – YOU ARE NOT GOING TO WEAR IT. Trust me, I beg of you.

So, what pieces should you be buying?

T-shirts – V-Neck only, don’t dare do any of that crew-neck shit. Think tank-tops, cute sundresses, leggings, and a good stretchy jean. I live for a good stretchy jean.

Also, I suggest investing in one or two good pairs of jeans and good quality leggings since you’ll probably be living in them. #letsbereal

One of the issues many women face is feeling guilty for living in leggings – why??? EVERYONE does it. Own it, love it, live it. Who gives a shit? Leggings are comfortable and can look chic as fuck if worn right.

Now I mentioned not spending a lot, but I do think you’ll need to invest in 1 or 2 pricier staples. A cool blazer or bomber jacket. This time of year I’d go for the bomber jacket because it’s light and can be dressed up or down.

Finally, let’s talk about accessories. Personally, I’d spend more on my accessories right now. The accessories you buy now will still fit you after you lose weight unlike the clothes you buy, so I suggest investing a little more in them.

Remember, shoes always fit. And great accessories can make any outfit look fashionable and expensive.

So, invest in a higher-end purse or some statement jewelry. And if you can’t spend a ton I suggest Nordstrom they have a great range of handbags and jewelry at various prices.

Mix and match your basic pieces with high-end accessories, and you’ll have a fabulous wardrobe that will get you over this hump.

Then just think of all the shopping fun you’ll have once you’re at your goal weight.

To sum it up here are my tips for revamping your wardrobe:

Don’t Spend A lot

Pick Basic Pieces

Choose Comfortable but Fitting Clothes

Invest in 1 or 2 Pricer Classic Pieces

Accessorize Your Heart Out

How have you revamped your wardrobe? How do you dress and style yourself during weight loss?

Knowing your worth means not having to go looking for approval from others and not being hurt or affected by what others say. Because honestly you just won’t give a f**k.

When you know you don’t deserve to be treated like shit, you won’t take being treated like crap.

My fourth tip is, don’t be paranoid.

“Paranoia, paranoia. Everybody’s coming to get me.”

Now I know you’re all like what me paranoid? Never. Stop, we’ve all been there.

We all get wrapped up thinking we are so important that people are talking or thinking about us, but truth is they aren’t. Unless you’re a Kardashian, then it’s probably true.

We’ve all thought someone was looking at us because we must be hideous or because we look fat. But the TRUTH is people are way too wrapped up in their lives to care about what you’re doing or what you look like.

Humans are selfish and aren’t paying attention to everything you say and do. So let it go.

All in all, stop being paranoid.

My final tip is, don’t justify yourself or your choices.

People have preconceived notions and opinions about everything including you. However, that doesn’t mean you need to defend or explain yourself or your life choices.

The people who love and support you don’t need an explanation for why you are who you are. Just do you and live your life.

To sum up my tips for not giving a fuck about what people think of you:

Be Happy and Self-Confident

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Know Your Worth and Love Yourself

Stop Being Paranoid

Don’t Justify Yourself

Remember, none of this is going to happen over night. I’m STILL working on all of these. Some days/weeks are better than others. Like I said it’s a process, but one day it will all click.

Do you care what people think of you? How do you deal with it?

Good hair is the difference between you looking like a dumpster rat and Beyonce, so it’s kinda important. Don’t ya think?

Now that that’s settled lets talk hair.

I’ve rarely met a hair-care product that I don’t like and believe me, I’ve tried them all. #obsession

However, as of lately I’ve found an easy way to get the best hair ever, no joke.

Four little steps stand between you and gorgeous, healthy hair.

So, you want in on my secrets? Say pretty, please with a cherry on top!

Fine, I’ll spill.

Okay – let’s cut the shit. First, you need to take your vitamins. But more importantly, you need to take two vitamins that will make your hair grow like you’re damn Rapunzel.

What are these little magic pills, you ask? Ultra Strength Biotin and Viviscal. These little beauties will make your hair strong, healthy, and long as f^*k but the best part is they will help you say buh-bye to breakage.

Remember that song by the Spice Girls, 2 Become 1? Well, keep that song in mind cause the next two products go hand and hand and might as well be one.

These two products go together amazingly and will stop damage and breakage in their tracks. Plus the Argan Split End Mender smells so good you’ll want to slather your whole body it in. #sorrynotsorry

And last but certainly not least, get yourself some Olaplex No 3. I’m going to be blunt so listen up. Go to Olaplex.com and buy the Olaplex No 3 Hair Perfecter, don’t go to Amazon and risk getting a knockoff product from somewhere in China. I mean God knows what you’d be putting on your hair. And no I’m not #sponsored by Olaplex, even though I wouldn’t mind it. Hey, girl hey!

Olaplex No 3 is the shit, and you can feel and see a difference in your hair immediately. I like instant gratification, and Olaplex gives mama what she wants right away. Use it once a week and each week you’ll have healthier, stronger, less frizzy and less damaged hair. #winning

Bitches, that’s all I have to say so buy all this shit and see your hair transform. You’ll thank me later. Remember I’ll graciously accept any of the three C’s – Chanel, Champagne, and Cupcakes!

Have you used any of the products mentioned? Do you love or hate them? What are your tips to getting great hair?

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You always thought it would happen – yes to you. After all, you always play the lottery and dream about winning. Why wouldn’t you? Of course, you can win. And this time you knew lady luck would find you…and boom! You bought the winning ticket – you just fucking won the lottery!

Is the above scenario a dream of yours?

So when you win the lottery and are suddenly rolling in the dough – how will you spend your winnings?

Here’s how I’ll spend my jackpot winnings!

First I’d go to the bank and take out a couple of thousands of dollars, spread the money on bed and roll around in it while listening to “Luxurious” by Gwen Stefani. I mean they always make it look fun in the movies, right?

Now that, that’s out of the way I’d do the responsible thing and pay off my debt and my mom and brothers. Done and Done.

Once the boring stuff was taken care of, I’d move on to the fun stuff which means spending those Dolla-Dolla-bills-ya’ll!

Here’s how I would spend my lottery winnings!

*Spoil family Oprah-style*

It would be a repeat of Oprah’s “You get a car! You get a car!” moment. Fun vacations, cool gadgets, financial freedom, anything they wanted well within reason.

*Buy a shore house*

Spending the summers down the shore is #GOALS. And having a place for my entire family to come and stay at would be even better.

*Travel the World*

My travel bucket list would get a significant dent in it. Europe, South Africa, Asia here I come!

*Did someone say shopping?*

I would most definitely need to expand my closet just a little bit. I mean how awesome would it be to be able to go into ANY store and buy whatever you want?!?!

*Invest in me/Buy eternal loveliness*

I’m talking beauty treatments, a personal trainer, in-home chef. But it also means taking the time to invest in my goals – building my blog, writing a book, starting a YouTube channel, etc. Having the time and money to invest in my craft would be a huge goal.

*Save, save, save*

Last but certainly not least I’d save a huge chunk of money (actually the majority of my winnings) for the future – wedding, a house, my kids’ college, a rainy day.