1st Pregnancy

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jbolton5 wrote:

Hi this is my first pregnancy ever and I just made 24 not even a month ago. Which happens to be around the time of conception. My boyfriend of 9 years this March wants to get married this summer but I’m a bit hesitant. He lives in another state and I’ve been seeing him without letting anyone know. Hence I’m grown yet my family still treats me like a child. I wanna marry him before i start to show but he wants to marry when I’m showing. Not sure how to go about this marrying situation since my family isn’t a fan of him. I’ve been trying to get him to reconcile with them before we announce but he’s stubborn. Any advice for a first time mommy dealing with a family full of very judgmental women?

My family didn't like my ex either, and it always bothered me. They would make comments about him and stuff he did and I would just roll my eyes. I asked them, "why can't you just be supportive? I know you don't like him but I love him. I have found the person I want to be with forever and you guys need to accept that." Their response was "I don't like him and I don't like the way he treats you. You don't see it because you're all googly eyed and head over heels in love. He does not treat you the way that you deserve to be treated." It made me furious and caused a bit of a rift between us all.Of course they ended up being right about him. As time went on things got worse between us. I found myself being stressed out and upset by him and things that he did. You're doing something wrong if all you do is cry over someone that's supposed to love you.I should have left months before but I didn't. And then I found out I was pregnant. We were happy for several weeks about starting a family and he even asked me to marry him. But he broke up with me when I was 9 weeks pregnant. I am now 28 weeks.

I guess my point is, you don't need to get married just because you're having a baby. Unless you are 100% sure about him, I would wait. Do you have a really stable relationship? You said he lives in another state? And also, about your family. You probably don't want to hear it, but they probably don't like him for a reason.Marriage is a big deal and once you're in, it might be hard to get out.

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