Feeling insecure doesn't have to plague singles

It's a constantly changing world, with some new development every time you check your computer or cell phone. It's not just terrorism, environmental disasters and a roller coaster economy.

We singles worry about the mundane, everyday stuff like paying bills, health problems, friction at work, and our personal safety. No wonder we feel insecure.

Is it even possible to have some sense of settledness, of a contentment where we can sit in a comfortable chair, sigh, and not be biting our nails or twisting our hair (those of you who still have hair yet), or some other nervous habit?

Once again, it took me years of trying lots of dumb things before I stumbled on the answer to security and contentment. Okay, so I'm a pretty slow learner. But you don't have to be.

In You

Oh the world had attractions that captured my eyes,
all shiny, alluring and new.
But the glitter and promise turned out to be lies,
I was left feeling empty and blue.

I believed what they told me about fortune and fame,
and I worshipped the money I made.
But there aren't any winners in a dog eat dog game,
only sadness behind the charade.

Then I made the mistake of searching inside,
where I thought all the answers would be.
All I found was confusion and loneliness there.
I found nothing I needed in me.

In the pain and the darkness I fell to my knees
and that's when I found out what is true.
All the love and the happiness I ever wanted
is free for the asking in You.

--Jack Zavada, 2010--

F'ree: How to Create Your Future!

In these uncertain times, how can you possibly create your own future?

You can download a f'ree sample chapter of my ebook, Single & Sure

This is not a scam, a trick, or some New Age silliness. It's based on the Bible verse "A man reaps what he sows." (Gal. 6:7) Well, the same goes for women, too.

This is just one of the practical life principles you'll learn in Single & Sure. Why stumble and bumble through the single life when you can learn from my mistakes--and from the wise things I've learned, too.

October Quotodendron

October's quotation comes from a Sixth Century Christian monk but applies to many people today:

Fight to escape from your own cleverness. If you do, then you will find salvation and uprightness through Jesus Christ our Lord.--John Climacus (525-606 A.D.)

You don't have to surf too long on the Internet to encounter these "clever" people. They're too smart for Jesus. They're the ones who think Christianity is a bunch of myths, or Jesus never existed, or the church later tampered with the real story. Like the Pharisees in the New Testament, they think they're smarter than Jesus himself.

We may be the most educated people in the earth's history, but millions don't have a clue when it comes to the truth. Only one person has ever been able to say, "I am the way and the truth and the life" (John 14:6), and back it up. He is the way to contentment, the truth every person searches for, and the giver of eternal life. But if you don't escape your own cleverness, you'll never understand. Arrogance will keep you from grasping it.

The answer to life is not yourself. It's Jesus Christ. Be smart enough to escape from your own cleverness and seek him.

Zippy quotations on trust

It's not just my conclusion. Trusting God is a smart idea because it clears away most of the insecurity of life.

We singles can be stubborn. Often we're like little children who insist on having our own way. I did that for much of my life, until I gradually realized that my way wasn't working.

It's not easy to trust in a God we can't see, but here are a few quotations that might steer you in the right direction...

Wanta toot your own horn?

I like to give readers of Inspire-O-Gram a chance to sound off, tell me what you like or don't like about the single life, or make suggestions for future issues.

So here's your opportunity to do just that. Blast your thoughts to me with our solar-powered contact form.

And, that, my singleton friends, is the October issue of Inspire-O-Gram, a bit late this month, but with something useful for you, I hope. Until November, keep the faith.