Good luck to you and your sweet son. Some companies have legal services. You might ask your employer if your company will help. My other suggestion is that hosting international students can bring in a predictable $800.00 monthly. If I had a home, I would try that. In the meantime, the kids and I will read The Gift of Fear . Thank you for the suggestion. I'm in the same boat as you. The difference is that when I went for the restraining order against my emotionally-turned-physically abusive...

Hello FORWARD, Thank you for sharing your story here with us. I’m sorry to hear about the legal system taking a while on your case. Here at yesican you can also find some emotional support in our group chats if you are interested. The important thing is that you are safe and you’re kids are safe, and this goes for everyone with a similar situation.

Hello SammiJ, Thank you for sharing your experience here. It is okay for you to feel scared. Your experience must have been difficult. However, you are very brave for making the report. A very important thing to remember is that you and your children are safe. Here at YesIcan, there are chat groups if you would like to join to discuss more about your experience.

Hi SAMMIJ, Thank you for joining our website and for sharing your story. I know that it wasn't easy to open up to us and that it took a lot of courage. I apologize for what you have gone and are going through. No one should go through that in any situation. I would recommend you to join our chatroom to talk with others that are going through or have gone through what you are going through. Here is the website for the National Domestic Violence Hotline http://www.thehotline. org/ and the...

Hello, Im planning on writing a book that involves child abuse and as i dont want to insult anyone or write anything wrong, I was wondering if anyone could help put me in the right direction or know of anyone that wants to have a chat about how it and how I should get it across on paper. Thankyou <3

I hope this isn't against the rules. I am sharing my story here in hopes that other victims will help me get the word out. This is My Story, and My Plea Nutshell version: I've been raising my son in an abusive relationship since he was born. I've tried to divorce this man three times. I thought I was doing the right thing at first by trying to make a bad relationship work. Then I thought I was doing the right thing by staying so that I could protect my son from the terrible things his father...

I have known my abuser for around ten years now. He's always been physically violent, starting three months into the relationship. I was 17 and he was 21. I left multiple times and always ended up coming back. When our first daughter was nine months old I left him for what I thought was the final time. He ended up in jail for aggravated kidnapping or the girl he'd been cheating on me with. He was sentenced to five years and served four. When he got out on parole, I gave him another chance.

Children are effected by domestic violence, whether noticed by parent's or not... Some say differently, arguing that the environment of the household, does not affect the result of the exposed child's wellbeing. However, studies show, that children exposed to households, harboring abusive behavior and relationships, are statistically more prone to mental health conditions, academic decline, and tendency to repeat abusive/violent behavior. Child witnesses of physical and sexual abuse can hear...

As I sit here thinking about what to write, i’m struck by the idea that some people might not know what goes on inside the mind of a child abuse adult survivor after years of healing. What would I want people to know about my experience? What do I wish people knew? How has it affected me and changed me into the person I am today? These are all what I deem as important questions to look at and ponder. So, the first thing I want to say about childhood abuse (this includes physical, emotional...

Yes ICAN: International Child Advocacy Network is an amazing organization which helps many survivors of abuse through education The mission of the organization is: working world-wide to break the silence and cycle of abuse. Yes ICAN believes that the only way we can prevent child abuse and domestic violence is to break the cycle of abused children growing up to become abusers or individuals who are unable to protect their children or themselves because they don't know how. The organization...

When I watch TV shows like Dr. Phil, Iyanla Fix My Life, and My 600lb Life, I noticed that sexual abuse during childhood or adolescence is a common theme in many of the featured stories. The shows highlight sexual abuse as the source of a current problem that causes the person to engage in reckless behavior as an adult. I can’t help but wonder if the abused person would still have had the same problems if the sexual abuse had been reported when it occurred. It doesn’t matter the culture,...

Are noticing your child is acting “out of character”? Did you know this could be because they might have been sexually abused? Some background information you might find helpful: The abuser may be an adult or an older child or adolescent The abuse may include forcing a child to engage in sexual activities; asking or pressuring the child to do so (regardless of the outcome); indecent exposure of the genitals to a child; displaying pornography to a child; rubbing the genitals...

In honor of April being Child Abuse Prevention Month, this month I want to talk about prevention of child sexual abuse. There are things that we as adults can do to protect children and also teaching them safety strategies to protect themselves. The following is an easy list that parents, school teachers, coaches, and child care personnel can use as a quick guide on how to prevent Child Sexual Abuse. Take an active role in your child’s life . Be involved in their activities and people around...

April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Child mistreatment is any act or series of acts of commission or omission by a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child. There are different kinds of child abuse: physical, sexual, and emotional. Neglect, which can be benign or deliberate, is also child abuse. If you think there might be a child that might be a victim of abuse, check your suspicions against the list below which are common...

On Sunday, YesICAN celebrated their annual “Strike Against Child Abuse to Spare the Kids” bowling fundraiser at Winnetka Bowl. This was a fun filled event for friends, families and supporters of YesICAN’s mission to break the silence...

If you are a survivor of an abusive relationship there are resources for you which can help you share your story and gain strength. 2 sites mentioned here are our own, of course, YesICAN.org , as well as Good Therapy.

Every 30 seconds a child is abused. In 1964 the United States began to pay closer attention to child abuse and neglect, thanks to President Nixon who signed the first Federal child protection legislation (CAPTA) which provides Federal assistance to states for the prevention, identification, and treatment programs for child abuse (childwelfare.gov). Since then, April has been recognized as National Child Abuse Prevention month. Despite the 53 years since the initiation of CAPTA, child abuse...

Hi IWANTTOHELP , This is really appreciable. You are doing a great job. I think a proper awareness about physical and emotional abuse, after effects and tips to deal with such abuses would help people to handle such situations. It is hard to convince children about such abuses. Abuses will affect children in different ways. It has long term effects and that might spoil both the physical and mental health of the child. Recently I read an article on how emotional abuse affect the hearing...

I am so sorry that they didn't and sure hope that won't stop you from doing the work necessary to become the person you'd rather be. Many of us are here to guide you. Please check out our facilitated chat rooms for appropriate topics and times for you. Wishing you an easy healing!

No one wants to be a scapegoat, especially for something that is completely out of his or her control. Victim-blaming is similar to a scapegoat because a person is made to bear the blame for someone else’s actions even though he or she may be the victim. Rather than leaving the blame on the perpetrator of a crime, some people either intentionally or unintentionally shift the blame to the victim. I initially became familiar with the term and concept of “victim-blaming” after attending a...

International Child Advocacy Network Closes After 23 Years of Service. I guess there is no nice way to say this, so I will simply start with the facts. After 23 years, this amazing adventure we call the International Child Advocacy Network will be coming to a close. We have always lived by the skin of our financial teeth so to speak, but this past year has made it very clear that this dream has run its course and to prolong this decision would not be fair to anyone. This is the very...

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