well I'm envious of your command of english and jealous of secret friend who composes all my sentences

well i'm jealous of your cat, and not envious of your secret friend's sentence composition skills.

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”We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all of the time, every day. "

”We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all of the time, every day. "

is there really a differnce betwen jealousy and envy? Seems to me the former is just more honest...

In my own use of the words, I make a distinction between the two, with jealousy always being sourced out of a sense of insecurity -- there is a sense of "being less than" for not having something or someone, and usually a sense of insidious attack accompanies it from that place of lack ("She's so talented I could just kill her!"). Whereas envy can be just the desiring of what one doesn't have at the moment ("I envy your ability to travel so much. One day I hope to create that ability for myself as well...")

One can be envious without being jealous, but never jealous without being envious.

”We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things, all of it, all of the time, every day. "

is there really a differnce betwen jealousy and envy? Seems to me the former is just more honest...

In my own use of the words, I make a distinction between the two, with jealousy always being sourced out of a sense of insecurity -- there is a sense of "being less than" for not having something or someone, and usually a sense of insidious attack accompanies it from that place of lack ("She's so talented I could just kill her!"). Whereas envy can be just the desiring of what one doesn't have at the moment ("I envy your ability to travel so much. One day I hope to create that ability for myself as well...")

One can be envious without being jealous, but never jealous without being envious.

This.I can't remember the last time I was jealous of someone. Envious? Absolutely. There are things I want that other people have. So it's time to make a plan to get those things/situations/states of being in my own life. But I am glad that the people I envy have what they have. Everyone deserves blessings. I just have to go get mine.

I don't necessarily like the word envious, myself. I'm just accepting it the way sami used it -- as meaning aware of wanting something that someone else has for myself. Not wanting to take their actual thing whatever it is, but wanting to achieve something like it for myself.

Nothing wrong with being aware of what I want to do, be or have. That's where healthy goal-setting starts, I think.

It's the sitting around, festering over things that over people have, that is a problem. Just set goals and get it for myself. There's the ticket. :0

I think she defined the two very well. I find myself being envious of young people with talent and time - more of the latter; they have the chance to make something of their talent. At my age you have to work so hard....