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Sunday Superlatives 1/6/13 - Epiphany

By Rachel Held Evans, on January 06, 2013.

Prayer for Epiphany: O God, by the leading of a star you
manifested your only Son to the peoples of the earth: Lead us, who know you now
by faith, to your presence, where we may see your glory face to face; through
Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one
God, now and forever. – Book of Common Prayer

“The years may fly by and you may forget what it was like to not be subject to
“random” security checks or the worry that comes with having family far away in
a place of unrest. The sharp edges of your cultures may wound each other
unintentionally and at times take you by surprise. But you will not forget,
even as the years fly by, that the harmony is richer because of the struggles
and that that faraway place is now a part of you too. You will learn together
which of the sharp edges deserve to be blunted and which ones to keep as they
are…but to handle with care.”

“The problem with the argument
that people who take a different view on the role of women are “loose with the
scripture” is that it assumes that there is only one way of reading scripture
on this issue.”

“9. Get outdoors often. And enjoy things
like fireflies and shooting stars. Take
someone to the beach or the mountains for their first time. And regularly get my
hands into the garden… so when I type on the computer I can see dirt under my
fingernails.10. Learn a skill – like welding – and use it for something
redemptive, like turning a machine gun into a farm tool.”

“If something interests me and is both timeless
and timely, I write about it. Much of what is published online is content
designed to be dead within hours, so I find most of my material offline. I
gravitate more and more towards historical things that are somewhat obscure and
yet timely in their sensibility and message. We really need an antidote to this
culture of "if it's not Google-able, it doesn't exist". There's a
wealth of knowledge and inspiration offline, ideas still very relevant and
interesting.”

“And the two men “in charge” brought up a woman—A WOMAN—and told
everyone how deeply impactful she had been on them. Not because she was their
mother or their sister or their aunt or their grandmother. But because her
ministry as an adult leader in their lives was important.”

“The hyper-vigilance of fundamentalist men and women to root out “immodesty”
conceals a hatred of female sexuality: secondary sex characteristics should not
be visible except in approved circumstances. The system is designed to ensure
that the only time a man is “turned on” by a woman is when he is allowed to act
on his urges: in the marital bed. In other words, if a woman’s body is visible,
it ought to be available for sex. Although I don’t think many men think this
consciously, the idea crops up in misogynist rhetoric all the time. “Immodest”
women are “asking for it,” or it’s “false advertising” if a woman in a short
skirt won’t go home with you, or (in the terms of the Christian patriarchy
movement) a woman “defrauds” a man (literally, deprives him of a right or
property) by allowing herself to be attractive in a situation wherein sex with
her is illicit or unwanted.”

“If you share, if you publish, if you write, if you speak, if
you are brave and decide to put yourself out there, I promise you, someone
won't like it. Someone won't agree with you. Someone will misinterpret.
Someone will think that you are silly, unqualified and that your work is
crap. That you are crap. They might not just
think it but they might tell you. And that won't feel good, especially
not the first time you hear it. But it is necessary. And it's okay.”

“To honor David’s memory and to try to prevent other parents from experiencing
such loss, she became a spokesperson for The Parents Circle, a group of more
than 600 Israeli and Palestinian families who have lost an immediate family
member in the conflict. They join
together to share their stories, to empathize with one another, and to grieve
together. ‘Then,’ says Robi, ‘we can stand together on stages in schools and
before governments and tell our stories of loss—but also our stories of
reconciliation.’”

“So, my friends, shall we do what’s in front of us to do today? Shall we become
Women of Valor? Intrepid Women? Brave Women? Women who will take care of
whatever God places in front of us, regardless of whether it feels big or just
a part of our everyday lives.”

“Genesis 2 should banish from our minds any idea that
creation care is somehow “secular” work for a Christian, or that it is not even
our responsibility. This was the first task given to humanity, to serve and
worship God by cultivating and protecting the natural world.”

“It is so hard to get a phone call at 2 am in the morning. Get myself unbleary
and unrattled (there's always that 2 am worry that it's bad news about my momma
or my husband's parents). Listen to a short yet horrific story about why the
sheriff needs to drop off the baby and her big sister at this insane hour.
Rushing to get formula or diapers, set up a crib, get a bed together and put on
something that won't embarrass me, the sheriff and the children before they get
there isn't the hard part. That's sheer adrenaline. The hard part is finding a
place to tuck the story in my brain so that when the children walk in I don't
smother them with unwanted affection and pity. That I don't scoop them up and
try to save them from this world that is treating them so unfairly. That when
they get out of the sheriff's squad car I can just say hi and take them to meet
the hamster. Friendly and open but also acting like this is a regular gig at
our place at this hour. "Hey, we were just hanging out. Glad you could
show up to keep us company."

"Wearing clothes that fit does not make me a bad person. Wearing clothes that fit does not make me a seductress. I’m not dressing for the approval of others. I’m dressing for my body, my comfort, my own approval. And I will not pretend that the body I have is toxic poison anymore. Neither being fat nor being female is shameful."

On the Blog…

“With
sexuality (and with singleness) could you look at masturbation from a
theological perspective. I think it is something that maybe teenage guys get
talked at all the time about but it never gets even whispered about for women.
And it's not that I think there would be different rules but rather I need a
theolgogical framework in which to think about it, and no one wants to even
begin talking. But it is an issue I'm single and in my 30s and my non-Christian
friends think "contentment in singleness" is a euphemism for
something. Are they right?”

Well, it looks like we’ll be talking about masturbation! So
stay tuned.

Prayer for Epiphany: O God, by the leading of a star you
manifested your only Son to the peoples of the earth: Lead us, who know you now
by faith, to your presence, where we may see your glory face to face; through
Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one
God, now and forever. – Book of Common Prayer

“The years may fly by and you may forget what it was like to not be subject to
“random” security checks or the worry that comes with having family far away in
a place of unrest. The sharp edges of your cultures may wound each other
unintentionally and at times take you by surprise. But you will not forget,
even as the years fly by, that the harmony is richer because of the struggles
and that that faraway place is now a part of you too. You will learn together
which of the sharp edges deserve to be blunted and which ones to keep as they
are…but to handle with care.”

“The problem with the argument
that people who take a different view on the role of women are “loose with the
scripture” is that it assumes that there is only one way of reading scripture
on this issue.”

“9. Get outdoors often. And enjoy things
like fireflies and shooting stars. Take
someone to the beach or the mountains for their first time. And regularly get my
hands into the garden… so when I type on the computer I can see dirt under my
fingernails.10. Learn a skill – like welding – and use it for something
redemptive, like turning a machine gun into a farm tool.”

“If something interests me and is both timeless
and timely, I write about it. Much of what is published online is content
designed to be dead within hours, so I find most of my material offline. I
gravitate more and more towards historical things that are somewhat obscure and
yet timely in their sensibility and message. We really need an antidote to this
culture of "if it's not Google-able, it doesn't exist". There's a
wealth of knowledge and inspiration offline, ideas still very relevant and
interesting.”

“And the two men “in charge” brought up a woman—A WOMAN—and told
everyone how deeply impactful she had been on them. Not because she was their
mother or their sister or their aunt or their grandmother. But because her
ministry as an adult leader in their lives was important.”

“The hyper-vigilance of fundamentalist men and women to root out “immodesty”
conceals a hatred of female sexuality: secondary sex characteristics should not
be visible except in approved circumstances. The system is designed to ensure
that the only time a man is “turned on” by a woman is when he is allowed to act
on his urges: in the marital bed. In other words, if a woman’s body is visible,
it ought to be available for sex. Although I don’t think many men think this
consciously, the idea crops up in misogynist rhetoric all the time. “Immodest”
women are “asking for it,” or it’s “false advertising” if a woman in a short
skirt won’t go home with you, or (in the terms of the Christian patriarchy
movement) a woman “defrauds” a man (literally, deprives him of a right or
property) by allowing herself to be attractive in a situation wherein sex with
her is illicit or unwanted.”

“If you share, if you publish, if you write, if you speak, if
you are brave and decide to put yourself out there, I promise you, someone
won't like it. Someone won't agree with you. Someone will misinterpret.
Someone will think that you are silly, unqualified and that your work is
crap. That you are crap. They might not just
think it but they might tell you. And that won't feel good, especially
not the first time you hear it. But it is necessary. And it's okay.”

“To honor David’s memory and to try to prevent other parents from experiencing
such loss, she became a spokesperson for The Parents Circle, a group of more
than 600 Israeli and Palestinian families who have lost an immediate family
member in the conflict. They join
together to share their stories, to empathize with one another, and to grieve
together. ‘Then,’ says Robi, ‘we can stand together on stages in schools and
before governments and tell our stories of loss—but also our stories of
reconciliation.’”

“So, my friends, shall we do what’s in front of us to do today? Shall we become
Women of Valor? Intrepid Women? Brave Women? Women who will take care of
whatever God places in front of us, regardless of whether it feels big or just
a part of our everyday lives.”

“Genesis 2 should banish from our minds any idea that
creation care is somehow “secular” work for a Christian, or that it is not even
our responsibility. This was the first task given to humanity, to serve and
worship God by cultivating and protecting the natural world.”

“It is so hard to get a phone call at 2 am in the morning. Get myself unbleary
and unrattled (there's always that 2 am worry that it's bad news about my momma
or my husband's parents). Listen to a short yet horrific story about why the
sheriff needs to drop off the baby and her big sister at this insane hour.
Rushing to get formula or diapers, set up a crib, get a bed together and put on
something that won't embarrass me, the sheriff and the children before they get
there isn't the hard part. That's sheer adrenaline. The hard part is finding a
place to tuck the story in my brain so that when the children walk in I don't
smother them with unwanted affection and pity. That I don't scoop them up and
try to save them from this world that is treating them so unfairly. That when
they get out of the sheriff's squad car I can just say hi and take them to meet
the hamster. Friendly and open but also acting like this is a regular gig at
our place at this hour. "Hey, we were just hanging out. Glad you could
show up to keep us company."

"Wearing clothes that fit does not make me a bad person. Wearing clothes that fit does not make me a seductress. I’m not dressing for the approval of others. I’m dressing for my body, my comfort, my own approval. And I will not pretend that the body I have is toxic poison anymore. Neither being fat nor being female is shameful."

On the Blog…

“With
sexuality (and with singleness) could you look at masturbation from a
theological perspective. I think it is something that maybe teenage guys get
talked at all the time about but it never gets even whispered about for women.
And it's not that I think there would be different rules but rather I need a
theolgogical framework in which to think about it, and no one wants to even
begin talking. But it is an issue I'm single and in my 30s and my non-Christian
friends think "contentment in singleness" is a euphemism for
something. Are they right?”

Well, it looks like we’ll be talking about masturbation! So
stay tuned.

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