Roya Kravetzhttp://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com
ADHD CounselingThu, 19 Jul 2018 21:20:18 +0000en-UShourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.8ADHD or Social Learning Disability… or Both?http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-or-social-learning-disability-or-both/
http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-or-social-learning-disability-or-both/#respondMon, 13 Jun 2016 02:46:56 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=728Individuals diagnosed with ADHD usually have difficulty with social skills, even though they may be extremely “sociable.” However, some children diagnosed with ADHD are extremely challenged socially; their parents and teachers often describe them as children who “just don’t get it.” These children usually have no idea why they are being punished and why they…

]]>Individuals diagnosed with ADHD usually have difficulty with social skills, even though they may be extremely “sociable.” However, some children diagnosed with ADHD are extremely challenged socially; their parents and teachers often describe them as children who “just don’t get it.” These children usually have no idea why they are being punished and why they are told that they are inappropriate at at times. Rigidity and a high degree of naivety usually accompany Social Learning Disorder (SLD), which makes dealing with it very difficult.

Social Learning Disorder usually affects the learning process as well, as these children could easily misinterpret the idea behind a book and/or an argument. I highly suggest that, when in doubt, the parents contact a professional who could rule out this disability or, if it exists, treat it accordingly.

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http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-and-family-business/#commentsTue, 07 Jun 2016 00:43:51 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=722When one or more members of the family have ADHD and they also run a family business, life can get extremely complicated. I suggest that, as much as possible, the role of parent-child be overlooked. Professionally, family members must assume the roles of employer-employee. In addition, providing structure and job descriptions with concrete and specific…

]]>When one or more members of the family have ADHD and they also run a family business, life can get extremely complicated. I suggest that, as much as possible, the role of parent-child be overlooked. Professionally, family members must assume the roles of employer-employee.

In addition, providing structure and job descriptions with concrete and specific duties are helpful in minimizing misunderstandings. Arguments between family members should be avoided in the workplace as much as possible. If disagreements do arise, however, make sure to discuss them in a private location away from other employees.

I suggest that, when issues do arise among the family members, somebody who is trusted by the owners is asked to act as a buffer between them to help them resolve the issue. Remember that you are acting as a role model for your employees!

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http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/more-being-and-less-doing/#respondWed, 01 Jun 2016 00:43:58 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=725Having lived in six different countries, I can say that our culture is primarily a “to do” culture versus a “to be” one. I believe that both of those are important and necessary, but what is missing out here is the balance between the two. In the case of a family with one or more…

]]>Having lived in six different countries, I can say that our culture is primarily a “to do” culture versus a “to be” one. I believe that both of those are important and necessary, but what is missing out here is the balance between the two. In the case of a family with one or more members diagnosed with ADHD, the balance between the “to do” and “to be” is extremely important. Family members should have some down time both together and independently in order to best take care of themselves, their family and to be able to enjoy each other. Although being active is extremely important for individual with ADHD, so too is the quiet time. I suggest that you give it a try for a few weeks and see how the family dynamic changes for the better.

]]>http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/more-being-and-less-doing/feed/0The Secret Behind Transforming a “Boring” Job to a Less Boring Onehttp://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/the-secret-behind-transforming-a-boring-job-to-a-less-boring-one/
http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/the-secret-behind-transforming-a-boring-job-to-a-less-boring-one/#respondThu, 26 May 2016 14:28:22 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=705It is well known that individuals who are diagnosed with ADHD have a very hard time performing “boring” tasks. Therefore, I suggest that they try to combine the less interesting activities with interesting ones. Here are some suggestions: Listen to music while doing chores and/or homework Find a buddy to go to the gym or…

]]>It is well known that individuals who are diagnosed with ADHD have a very hard time performing “boring” tasks. Therefore, I suggest that they try to combine the less interesting activities with interesting ones. Here are some suggestions:

Listen to music while doing chores and/or homework

Find a buddy to go to the gym or take a walk with

Floss your teeth while watching a favorite show on TV

Listen to a favorite book while on the treadmill or walking

Brush your teeth while taking a shower

Invite a few fun friends over to clean up the garage and/or house

When doing filing and/or paperwork (boring tasks for individuals with ADHD), have a friend or colleague sit in the room with you performing tasks of their own

]]>http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/the-secret-behind-transforming-a-boring-job-to-a-less-boring-one/feed/0ADHD Relationship Coaching: When One Partner Has ADHDhttp://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-relationship-coaching-when-one-partner-has-adhd/
http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-relationship-coaching-when-one-partner-has-adhd/#respondThu, 19 May 2016 14:24:43 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=701Imagine this scenario: A spouse that does not have ADHD writes a list of specific brands of foods and cleaning products and sends his or her ADHD spouse to the supermarket. The ADHD spouse comes back with 10 bags but few things that he/she was supposed to buy and mostly the wrong brands! Another scenario:…

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A spouse that does not have ADHD writes a list of specific brands of foods and cleaning products and sends his or her ADHD spouse to the supermarket. The ADHD spouse comes back with 10 bags but few things that he/she was supposed to buy and mostly the wrong brands!

Another scenario:
An ADHD spouse is supposed to clean the garage over a specific period of time. He/She spends hours in the garage but instead of cleaning and throwing away what is regarded as “trash” by the non-ADHD spouse, he/she goes through everything and, being unable to throw anything away, makes an even bigger mess than before!

Relationship coaching helps couples to successfully navigate these daily conflicts that, if left untreated, could dismantle a marriage or relationship.

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http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-and-the-lack-of-self-esteem/#respondThu, 12 May 2016 14:13:49 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=698The first time Rachel (not her real name) entered my office, I thought she could easily be a model! When she mentioned to me how unattractive and stupid she was feeling, I realized how low her self-esteem was. With low self-esteem and negative self-concept often comes low aspirations and expectations which, if not reversed, could…

]]>The first time Rachel (not her real name) entered my office, I thought she could easily be a model! When she mentioned to me how unattractive and stupid she was feeling, I realized how low her self-esteem was. With low self-esteem and negative self-concept often comes low aspirations and expectations which, if not reversed, could lead many individuals like Rachel to be underachievers in their professional and personal lives. The negative self-concept could be caused or worsened by inappropriate comments from parents, educators and other who are not well informed about ADHD.

Some suggestions to help your children build up their self-esteem are:

Find something they are good at and help them shine

Have them as to be a Teacher’s Assistant (TA) in a class that is easy for them

]]>http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-and-the-lack-of-self-esteem/feed/0How to Stop ADHD from Standing Between You and Your Partnerhttp://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/how-to-stop-adhd-from-standing-between-you-and-your-partner/
http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/how-to-stop-adhd-from-standing-between-you-and-your-partner/#respondWed, 04 May 2016 19:44:53 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=686Gain a thorough understanding of ADHD in order to help distinguish behaviors attributed to lack of love or understanding from veritable features of the disorder. Diminish criticism, as too much on the part of the non-ADHD partner could result in the couple falling into a parent-child relationship pattern, which would be detrimental to the relationship.…

]]>http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/how-to-stop-adhd-from-standing-between-you-and-your-partner/feed/0When Less is More!http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/when-less-is-more/
http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/when-less-is-more/#respondWed, 04 May 2016 19:03:15 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=676Repeating everything to your children over and over again is like a vaccine that immunizes your children’s ears against your words! In order to really get your children to listen, try talking less and giving your child doable choices. Make what you say count and be consistent with the consequences. Say, for example, “Johnny, time…

]]>Repeating everything to your children over and over again is like a vaccine that immunizes your children’s ears against your words!

In order to really get your children to listen, try talking less and giving your child doable choices. Make what you say count and be consistent with the consequences. Say, for example, “Johnny, time to get ready for bed,” while pointing to the clock. Then help them feel in control by giving them a choice, such as, “Johnny, do you want to brush your teeth or put on your pj’s first?” Having a win-win simple choice engages your child and gets the desired task accomplished.

]]>http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/when-less-is-more/feed/0The 3 WACKIEST Things About Having ADHDhttp://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/the-3-wackiest-things-about-having-adhd/
http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/the-3-wackiest-things-about-having-adhd/#commentsThu, 28 Apr 2016 15:11:25 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=659Let’s be clear… there are some GREAT things about having ADHD! Don’t believe me? What about these: 1) You don’t always think like everyone else… but who cares?!? Linear thinkers don’t always get your wacky way of thinking. You might get lost in the details sometimes, but so what? You’re an out-of-the-box thinker who uses…

]]>Let’s be clear… there are some GREAT things about having ADHD! Don’t believe me? What about these:

1) You don’t always think like everyone else… but who cares?!?Linear thinkers don’t always get your wacky way of thinking. You might get lost in the details sometimes, but so what? You’re an out-of-the-box thinker who uses creativity to solve problems and brings a fresh perspective to the table!

2) You don’t always play it safe… so you have lots of F-U-N!Your ADHD makes you more prone to taking risks, which can definitely make life wacky! That just means you aren’t afraid to try something new, like jumping out of a plane! A lot of ‘neuro-typical’ people would love to have the guts to take risks. Lucky for you, it comes naturally to ADD’ers!

3) You don’t always stick to one thing… but why should you?!?Your ADHD brain makes you curious about everything. You have lots of interests, meaning you’re never bored and can entertain yourself anywhere!

]]>http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/the-3-wackiest-things-about-having-adhd/feed/1ADHD ~ It Can Happen to Anybody!http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-it-can-happen-to-anybody/
http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/adhd-it-can-happen-to-anybody/#respondThu, 21 Apr 2016 15:04:12 +0000http://www.adhdsuccesscoaching.com/?p=657Recently, I had an intake session with a famous professor from an Ivy League University. Five minutes before the session, his secretary called to let me know he would be 10 minutes late for the call. Exactly 10 minutes after the hour, my phone rang. The first thing this Ivy League professor told me was that…

]]>Recently, I had an intake session with a famous professor from an Ivy League University. Five minutes before the session, his secretary called to let me know he would be 10 minutes late for the call. Exactly 10 minutes after the hour, my phone rang. The first thing this Ivy League professor told me was that he is tired of getting lost! He said, “I’ve taken this route for the last 15 years, and I get lost two or three times a month! I don’t get it!”

I told him I understood why he must be frustrated and said that this was a good place to start our coaching. He then told me that the reason he decided to get a coach was because of an incident at a recent conference he presented at. My client left the conference to go to the restroom before his presentation, but got lost in the Hotel and couldn’t even remember the name of the room! He was supposed to start his talk at 10:00 am and it was already 10:15! He finally saw a colleague, who told him that everybody was worried something had happened to him. Of course, my client was embarrassed. But then he started laughing at himself and decided to tell this story to start his presentation!

“I know you were all wondering where I was, so I will tell you. I was lost in the hotel! You might not believe me, but I have to admit that sometimes I could even get lost in my own complex at home!”

Everybody laughed at his story, and he was able to flow seamlessly into the presentation he prepared for the conference.

After hearing this story, I explained to my client the relationship between ADHD and Executive Functioning, and he told me that this is exactly what he experiences! He said his Executive Functioning skills are absent! Not only does he get lost, but his desk is a mess, he loses important papers all the time, and forgets appointments at least once a week.

I asked him how many secretaries he has and he told me just one! Then I asked him about his wife. He told me that his wife was his exact opposite and takes care of all the details that he had trouble paying attention to. I asked him whether he would consider his wife his Executive Secretary to make up for his Executive Functioning challenges? He laughed and said he never thought about it that way but it sure makes sense and he thinks he owes his success mainly to his wife for taking care of all the things he isn’t good at. We were both laughing at that point and I told him that I’m sure his wife needed a bit of a break, and he should continue working with his strengths but also learn some tools to help improve his Executive Functioning to take some of the pressure away from his wife.

My client said he has one secret tool he uses – humor. He always laughs at himself, when he is alone and with others. He said humor is the one thing that has helped lessen the shame he feels about all the basic tasks that he has hard time with! It decreases his anxiety and alleviates the frustration that builds up when he can’t figure something out.

And now, what does he do when he speaks at a conference? He tells everybody what happened to him that day. And, if he needs to use the restroom in the middle of conference, he always asks a volunteer to follow him!