I believe I already posted about a childhood friend of mine I have known since elementary school that had done a fair amount of yo-yoing weight-wise for most of his life. I may have mentioned he showed me a photo of himself at his heaviest and asked me if I remembered him being that big. He told me he was considering gaining back some weight. He was the biggest eater among my group of friends. I was second but my metabolism was fast and I never really gained mass and size until my mid-20s when I started lifting weights. Fast forward now to 2017 where he lost 50-75lbs after what he said was a weight loss challenge at his work while I have achieved my goal weight of 250lbs for the second time in two years.

I've noticed that especially this year during the few times we have meet, he has managed to make not-so-subtle-as-he-thinks touches at my arms, pecs, belly, back and side. Last month, we met up at an event I was supposed to have DJed and at some point during our talking to each other, he did what I think he thought was a subtle slap against my bicep in the guise of being friendly/guys being guys type thing.

Last night, we were at a farewell party for a DJ mutual friend of ours. I had seen him seated in front of the DJ booth at the event for at least an hour. I purposely stayed near the DJ booth and at some point in the night I felt a hand on my love handle as a means to get my attention. It was him. I played oblivious to it again and we chatted briefly.

Finally, we met up again at another venue that the mutual DJ friend of ours was performing later that night. The venue was not to his liking and he decided to leave but not without touching the center of chest/top of my belly in the guise of "ha ha! you stay here if you want, I'm taking off".

I would like your thoughts & theories on what has been going on between us and how I should handle this.

My theory is that my friend has known me since I was a skinny boy running around 2 grades below him in school. Now, I'm not only at my heaviest but heavier & bigger than him as well. He is trying to determine how much fat there is on me versus muscle. I'm thinking that I might have to tell him I noticed that he's taken & made quite a few opportunities to touch me lately.

When a girl touches a guy it shows she is interested so maybe thats his way of showing you he is interested.
He might find you attractive and there is nothing wrong with that.
I have to ask do guys touch other guys to see how much fat they have vs muscle?
I have never heard of guys doing that so thats why I think he is physically attracted to you.
Just because he is married does not mean he isn't at least a little gay or bi curious.

I have to ask do guys touch other guys to see how much fat they have vs muscle?

Yes. Some guys can and will touch other guys to see how much fat they have vs. muscle. I know my friend enough to know that's what he could be doing. I'm at my biggest right now and at present heavier than he is. I think he's been curious to know how much muscle I am vs the fat I might have now. He doesn't see me often but the last few times we've seen each other he's made sure to touch me. I'm trying to decide how much longer I can take being prodded and poked before I have to say something.

I saw him again this weekend. We went to a downtown ribs restaurant for his birthday and I was nearly stuffed. I was almost expecting him to try to touch some part of me, like my belly, but he didn't try anything.

I have had a friend or two who I have not seen for a while pat my belly and say a comment such as: "Looks like you have been enjoying yourself". Its more of a tease than finding out how fat I am. I usually extend a hand to shake when I first meet a male friend, but quite a few like to hug me. They seem so happy to see me a hand shake for them is too formal. Or maybe they just like the feeling of a fat guy pressing against them even though we are all heterosexual as far as I can tell.

I have had a friend or two who I have not seen for a while pat my belly and say a comment such as: "Looks like you have been enjoying yourself". Its more of a tease than finding out how fat I am. I usually extend a hand to shake when I first meet a male friend, but quite a few like to hug me. They seem so happy to see me a hand shake for them is too formal. Or maybe they just like the feeling of a fat guy pressing against them even though we are all heterosexual as far as I can tell.

I believe I already posted about a childhood friend of mine I have known since elementary school that had done a fair amount of yo-yoing weight-wise for most of his life. I may have mentioned he showed me a photo of himself at his heaviest and asked me if I remembered him being that big. He told me he was considering gaining back some weight. He was the biggest eater among my group of friends. I was second but my metabolism was fast and I never really gained mass and size until my mid-20s when I started lifting weights. Fast forward now to 2017 where he lost 50-75lbs after what he said was a weight loss challenge at his work while I have achieved my goal weight of 250lbs for the second time in two years.

I've noticed that especially this year during the few times we have meet, he has managed to make not-so-subtle-as-he-thinks touches at my arms, pecs, belly, back and side. Last month, we met up at an event I was supposed to have DJed and at some point during our talking to each other, he did what I think he thought was a subtle slap against my bicep in the guise of being friendly/guys being guys type thing.

Last night, we were at a farewell party for a DJ mutual friend of ours. I had seen him seated in front of the DJ booth at the event for at least an hour. I purposely stayed near the DJ booth and at some point in the night I felt a hand on my love handle as a means to get my attention. It was him. I played oblivious to it again and we chatted briefly.

Finally, we met up again at another venue that the mutual DJ friend of ours was performing later that night. The venue was not to his liking and he decided to leave but not without touching the center of chest/top of my belly in the guise of "ha ha! you stay here if you want, I'm taking off".

I would like your thoughts & theories on what has been going on between us and how I should handle this.

You've said he's married, so unless he gives a clear indication otherwise, I'd say he's a little like me, but bolder. He loves touching anything or anyone soft and squishy, even in a completely platonic way. At least I know that's what it would be like for me if I were him.

You've said he's married, so unless he gives a clear indication otherwise, I'd say he's a little like me, but bolder. He loves touching anything or anyone soft and squishy, even in a completely platonic way. At least I know that's what it would be like for me if I were him.

I was with him again a few nights ago and thankfully he didn't try anything. We were surrounded by high school mates, most of which have put on weight themselves and are bigger than him now. Like I said, he's known me the longest dating back to elementary school and I'm sure he wanted to know how much of my girth was muscle compared to fat. Hopefully he got his answer from all the times he squeezed the Charmin.