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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

Surveys reveal that only about 30 percent of women have orgasms with intercourse, but most of the other 70 percent could develop this ability if they only knew how. Women who are already orgasmic with masturbation, manual stimulation by a partner, or oral sex can learn to transfer this ability to vaginal intercourse. Though all orgasms are pleasurable, climax with your man deep inside you is uniquely satisfying.

One of the main barriers that prevents women from being orgasmic during intercourse is a weak pubococcygeal (PC) muscle. This is the muscle that surrounds the opening of the vagina and supports the pelvic floor. It is also the muscle that spasms when you have an orgasm. If your PC muscle is weak, it may be difficult for it to spasm when there is an object in your vagina. To strengthen your PC muscle, follow this vaginal strengthening exercise routine.

Next, try this two-step program to develop the ability to climax with an object in your vagina. The first step involves masturbating using a dildo or vibrator. Choose one that is semi-flexible. Stimulate your clitoris with one hand and stroke your vagina with the dildo. Insert the dildo into your vagina and squeeze and relax your PC muscle around it as you slowly and sensuously insert and remove the dildo. Continue to stimulate your clitoris and masturbate to orgasm with the dildo inside you.

For step two, do the same exercise with your partner. Have him lie on his back. Stimulate his penis, and when he is erect, use his penis the same way you used the dildo. Insert his penis and squeeze your PC muscle around it. Use your fingers and masturbate yourself to orgasm while your partner is inside you. This is called a “bridge maneuver” because you are using your ability to stimulate yourself to orgasm as a bridge to being able to climax with intercourse.

Another thing that has helped a lot of women learn to be orgasmic during intercourse is to experiment with sex positions. If your man’s penis is too small to satisfy you, try these two sex positions that make your man’s penis feel bigger. For more clitoral stimulation during intercourse, the coital alignment technique is a sex position combined with a sexual movement technique that facilitates clitoral orgasm.

We also now know that there are other areas of the female anatomy in which orgasm can be triggered. It’s not just the clitoris anymore. Two areas inside the vagina that can be orgasm triggers are the G-spot (a highly sensitive area on the upper front wall of the vagina) and the cul-de-sac (the highly sensitive area behind the cervix). You can modify sex positions to stimulate these areas too. For example, if you modify the “missionary position” by tilting your pelvis and bringing your legs up toward your shoulders, you increase the access of your partner’s penis to your clitoris, your G-spot, and your cul-de-sac. For more positions to stimulate the G-spot during intercourse, see The Best 4 Positions for Reaching G-spot Orgasm.

Of course, orgasm is not purely a physical function, especially for women. You may want to ask yourself if any of the following factors could be preventing you from having an orgasm during intercourse: embarrassment, increased vulnerability, pressure to perform in a sexual situation, lack of trust in your partner, or lack of experience with your current partner. Any of these psychological barriers can prevent orgasm as much as weak PC muscles or lack of stimulation.

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