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Saturday, April 22, 2017

Nigeria and its rape culture

Nigeria has a rape
culture said my friend Ese, this was on a day we were discussing about
lecturers having sex with female students for grades and why they refuse to
speak out( story for another day)

Few weeks ago I got into a facebook drama with a friend
because she posted a status about women and abuse and how our daughters should be
taught properly on how to behave. I got pissed and replied that this is one of
the reasons abuse will continue to thrive in our homes. Its always the fault of
the woman, she needs to be of a gentle and quiet spirit, submissive, leave the marriage
if it doesn’t work, the woman just has a burden to know, learn and apply. So I asked
what about the men?

Why don’t we raise our sons to respect a lady?

Why don’t we raise them to know that it’s never
right to abuse a lady?

Why don’t we tell them to take No for a No?

Why don’t we raise them to protect the female
instead of being the predator?

I could ask a million whys, but we don’t do that. Instead
we ignore them and blame the women. Have you ever heard a woman was raped? What
was your first thought? I bet you said why was she in the guy’s house? What was
she wearing? Why did she go to that party? Why and why and another round of
whys.

Since when is it a crime for me to visit my male
friend or accept the offer of a drink? Yes! I am writing this because we have
received too much blame for something that both parties should be held
responsible for. Few weeks ago a male corps member posted a video online about
how he just finished having sex with a minor- a student he was meant to be
impacting knowledge. But no! He decided his d**k was the best way of tutoring
and bragged about it online. That is soooo heartbreaking. But this is the world
we live in and some people reading this post right now thinks it’s perfectly
okay. Smh!!!o

The best clap back I’ve seen on this issue is this
picture below…

Have you also noticed the rate at which pedophiles
has increased recently???? Don’t keep quiet please! And even if you can’t do
anything yet, educate your sons, brothers, friends and any male figure you are
close to. Tell them that abusing women, raping them and disrespecting them is
no sign