Hi friends,I received this piece from an indian e-friend around 5 years ago. We were corresponding by e-mails before we get to know msn and forums It is dedicated to all this forum members including whom i didn't talk to yet.. hope you like it

~ My Net Friends ~

Although you are a Friend of mineand letters we exchange,I wouldn't know you on the street,and doesn't that seem strange?

You hold a place within my life,unusual and unique;We share ideals and special dreams,and still, we do not speak.

I picture what I think you are,perhaps you picture me.An intriguing game for both of usfor someone we can't see.

So for this friendship we possess,we owe this mail a debt,Perhaps the charm lies in the factthat we have never met.

[Although you are a Friend of mineand letters we exchange,I wouldn't know you on the street,and doesn't that seem strange?

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you know i never thought of thatit so trueits very strange to be friends with someone and chat with them on regular basesand not know how they look

I agree Fadwa.. Cyberspace Relationship has got many people's attention and debate specially social scientists. And here are some advantages of textual communication in Cyberspace Relationship *(CSR) by John Suler, Ph.D. is Professor of Psychology at Rider University...

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1. The interaction can be asynchronous. It doesn't have to occur in real time, so you can respond to your net-mate whenever you wish, at whatever pace you wish. That gives you time to think about what you want to say and to compose your reply exactly the way you want. This comes in very handy for those awkward or emotional situations in a relationship. Unlike IPR *(in-personal relationship or real life relationship), you're never on the spot to reply immediately. You can think it through first, do a little research or soul-searching, if you wish. My advice for those very emotional moments is to compose a message, wait at least 24 hours, reread your message, modify it if necessary... THEN send it off. This wait-and-revise strategy can do wonders in averting impulsiveness, embarrassment, and regret. Chat and instant messaging systems, which also involve typed text, are much more synchronous than e-mail and message boards. However, they too offer a slightly but meaningfully longer delay than IPR.

2. The written dialogues of CSR may involve different mental mechanisms than in-person talk. It may reflect a distinct cognitive style that enables some people to be more expressive, subtle, organized, or creative in how they communicate. Some people feel that they can express themselves better in the written word. Surely, there have been truly great authors and poets who sounded bumbling or shallow during IP conversation.

3. Text-mediated relationships enable you to record the interactions by saving the typed-text messages. Essentially, you can preserve large chunks of the relationship with your online companion, maybe even the entire relationship if you only communicated via typed-text. At your leisure, you can review what you and your partner said, cherish important moments in the relationship, and reexamine misunderstandings and conflicts. This kind of reevaluation of the relationship usually is impossible in IPR, where you almost always have to rely on the vagaries of memory. In fact, if you want to get downright philosophical about it, you could make the argument that your complete archive of text communications with your net-mate *is* the relationship with that person, perfectly preserved in bits and bytes. It's not unlike a novel, which isn't a record of characters and plot, but rather *is* the characters and plot.

4. Text relationships tend to result in what's called the online disinhibition effect. Because they can't be seen or heard, people may open up and say things that they normally wouldn't say in-person. Self-disclosure and intimacy may be accelerated. Some even argue that a person's true self is more likely to appear online than in-person, and surely that must enhance one's relationships. This is a controversial claim, as is the very concept of a true self.

Skeptics say that the big disadvantage of text-driven relationships is what's missing vis-a-vis IPR. There are no voices, facial expressions, or body language to convey meaning and emotion. That issue takes us to the first of the five senses - hearing.

The interaction can be asynchronous. It doesn't have to occur in real time, so you can respond to your net-mate whenever you wish, at whatever pace you wish. That gives you time to think about what you want to say and to compose your reply exactly the way you want.

Text-mediated relationships enable you to record the interactions by saving the typed-text messages. Essentially, you can preserve large chunks of the relationship with your online companion, maybe even the entire relationship if you only communicated via typed-text. At your leisure, you can review what you and your partner said, cherish important moments in the relationship

Some even argue that a person's true self is more likely to appear online than in-person, and surely that must enhance one's relationships. This is a controversial claim, as is the very concept of a true self.

i qouted the things that i mostly believe trueand agree with

but i also think net friends are good but sometimes this kind of friendshipp keeps you away from the real worlddont get me wronge everyonebut some people just hide themselves from the real world with the netnet freinds are good to havebut i dont think they are enough

OOOh Ayoon.Sorry for being late in reply dear. I absolutely agree with what you've saidA friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out, no matter being on or offline .May Allah shower you with good and true friends and mates dear

OOOh Ayoon.Sorry for being late in reply dear. I absolutely agree with what you've saidA friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out, no matter being on or offline .May Allah shower you with good and true friends and mates dear