"There's a hot, popular college guy who likes me. I've had a crush on him for so long, but I never imagined talking to him because I'm intimidated. Now he wants to talk to me — but I'm so scared that I can't be myself! What can I do to not feel intimidated?"

Ariel, 16, Jackson, MI

It can be so nerve-racking when a guy you like finally pays attention to you — you can feel like his attention is so "precious" that you don't want to do anything to risk losing it! But as much as you like this guy, he really is no better than you or anyone else! Do you know that kids' book Everyone Poops? The point is that no matter how amazing this guy might seem, he's only human. (He has insecurities and flaws and, yes, he poops!) When you're with him, remind yourself that he's just a person, not a god. You can even make yourself laugh by repeating the phrase "Everyone poops!" in your head before you see him! If you can remember that this guy is just like your friends, you'll feel more at ease. The first time you hang out, it might be easier if you can meet up with him with a few friends there (guys and girls). Having other people around will reduce the stress on you, so you'll be able to get to know him without so much pressure. Of course, if the reason you're intimidated is because he makes you feel bad about yourself, then this guy is not for you. (A Seventeen fact: Any guy who makes you feel bad about yourself is not worth dating!)