Last post linked to Lori’s post where I asked a question and she answered. Part of what I said is: “The adoptee’s needs cannot be met when adoption is hyped as solely a positive event. Until parents treat it as a neutral fact of how they *build their family…”. That thought has popped up several times since then, and each time it took me to reflecting on how adoption was handled in my home. I’ve decided that neutral is my preference.