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<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Kyra</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Letting Go of the Wrong Stuff to Get a Hold on the Right Stuff" id="md1" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I am 22 years old and have been with my one and only boyfriend for over 2 1/2 years now. I love him very much and we get along well, but our sexual life has always had problems. These are the main issues: 1) I cannot orgasm except through the use of a vibrator, 2) I&#039;m often not interested in sex/don&#039;t really feel anything enjoyable from sex, and 3) I never initiate anything, which makes my boyfriend very frustrated. We&#039;ve been having sex for about 2 years now, and these issues are as much of a problem as they were when we first started. Regarding the problem #1 (no orgasm except with vibrator), my boyfriend has tried everything. He will pleasure me for long periods of time, try to make me feel sexy, but NOTHING happens--I don&#039;t even come close to orgasming (in fact, I usually just get sore from the contact). I&#039;ve tried to pleasure myself, but this is even worse--I hate the feeling of masturbating and don&#039;t derive any pleasure from it. When we discovered that I CAN orgasm via a vibrator, we were both thrilled; however, it usually takes me a good 15-25 minutes to orgasm from the vibrator (on the highest setting), and the orgasm usually lasts only a few seconds--it just feels like a lot of work for barely any result to me. Because I&#039;m not interested in sex very often and I cannot orgasm via penetration or manual stimulation, my boyfriend believes I&#039;m not sexually attracted to him and is quite upset. I don&#039;t know what to do and it is ruining our relationship. I am religious and come from a home schooled background where sex was not talked about much, and so I often feel awkward when my boyfriend tries to discuss it with me (and going to a sex therapist is out of the question). </div></div></div>Tue, 05 Jul 2011 15:43:43 +0000Heather Corinna3779 at http://www.scarleteen.com