Happy people don’t try for happy. They don’t look for it. Happy people
become happy as a sidenote to living their life the best way they can.
Chronically unhappy people seem to want to fix their unhappiness and in
doing so miss the mark all together. Happiness can’t be chased. It can’t
be found. It can’t be grasped. It happens, when everything else falls
into place.
You can’t fix unhappiness, unless you fix your inner dormant self. Wake
up inside and make some changes. Happiness is grossly related to our
actions, our choices and ultimately our thoughts. You can feel happy
only as much as your mind will allow you. Fix your thoughts. Stretch
your mind. Stretch your capacity to feel better.
Here are 10 common things chronically unhappy people do and how they can heal their life.

1. They subscribe to fatalistic views of life.

Unhappy people quickly conclude the finality of something being
impossible before giving it a chance for hope. “People can’t change.”
“That is not fixable.” “You are finished.” These types of belief systems
are self-limiting. They all happen to be fear driven. They keep you
from trying alternatives, testing new ways, finding workarounds, solving
problems. This kind of thinking holds people back from their actual
potential.

“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius

A closed mind cannot problem solve effectively. So to be happy throw
aboard all you fatalistic believes and start being open-minded instead,
thinking positive.

2. They stay stuck. They’re averse to change.

I get it. People need a break from the hustle of life, they throw the
towel in, and e.g. eat more, exercise less. This is the time in their
life when they become a spectator instead of a participant in life.
Change means work, it means pain. It means getting out of the comfort
zone. It means losing control a little bit.

Still, it’s important to practice change, feeling fear and overcoming it
– because that’s where happiness starts shining through. It happens
when you aren’t focused on finding happiness, but focused instead on
overcoming a fear. The evolution and growth of a person is where
personal satisfaction and accomplishment breeds happiness. Without
personal development we are expecting happiness to come without having
done the work. Unhappiness is a symptom of arrested development. So get
active and take your life in your own hands.

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take
control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over
what you don’t.” – Steve Maraboli

3. They don’t try enough.

Being unhappy is the same as giving up. It’s a choice you make every day
to not try at something. We need to try new habits, try new
relationships, try new activities, try new foods, try new knowledge. We
need to keep trying to find ourselves at every stage of our lives. We
need to try to be our best person. We need to try to serve.

Happiness is finding your passion. Your passion is the thing that you
love so much that it causes you pain. Unhappy people quit too early.
They don’t give themselves credit and quit before the glory. When we
know what we’re made of, it give us confidence to try more often.

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little
voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” – Mary
Anne Radmacher

4. They self deprecate.

They’re quick to quip, “I am such an idiot.” Or “I am terrible person.”
You’ve got to be good to yourself and it starts by quitting the self
inflicted verbal abuse. Happiness is derived from confidence and that
inner belief in ourselves. You can’t be happy if you don’t love
yourself. If you don’t love yourself, people can sense it and won’t want
to love you either. Project outwards what you want projecting inwards.

“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A.A. MilneYour
disposition is a product of your thoughts, how you treat yourself and
how you nourish yourself. Treat yourself the way you would treat someone
you love.

5. They read, watch, hear dark and depressing things.

Something as simple as the news, is inherently depressing. It’s easy to
get to a place where you want to hear the doom and gloom about the world
and other people. We program ourselves to believe that our lives are
better compared to the horror stories we hear. The problem is that we’re
polluting our mind to attract those very things in our lives. Sad love
songs are nice but do the songs you listen to correlate with the state
of your relationships? What would happen if we exposed ourselves to
funny, happy things?

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

Change your mindset. Decide how you want to feel and immerse yourself in a culture more happy.