Here’s Why You’re Better Than Her Ex

This article holds true for both men and women. But just to avoid myself the hassle of using the slash ( / ) again and again, I am writing it from a man’s perspective. Women- this article does NOT intend to accuse you. In fact, some of these situations might have happened to you as well. So, read on.

So, you be there for her, be the best version of you, do everything in your power to make her smile. Yet, one call from The Ex (I will be calling him that; sounds cool) and everything becomes undone. Suddenly, she has eyes only for him again. Either that or she will become sadder than Devdas on his off-day. You go back to being the nice dude who helped her out when she’s low and won’t be needing until the next time her ex dumps her.

What is most frustrating about this whole situation is the unfairness of it. After all, you are the better person. And you care for her more. And you love her more. And if she was with you, you would never let her go, right?

Yet, she doesn’t seem to agree. No matter what you do, you will never be as good as The Ex. It doesn’t help that he is the better looker, or more successful- all tools which make you feel inferior. It seems like he was MADE to make you feel inferior.

But here’s the deal- just because your crush and her ex have left no stone unturned to make you feel inferior, you are NOT inferior. In fact, you have already proved your mettle, by sticking around when she needed you the most. Emotionally, mentally or physically- doesn’t matter. You gave a part of you. And that says a lot about you, as a person, as a friend, and as a lover.

You can’t force anyone to love you. And if she loves that loser more than you, you can’t, and shouldn’t do anything about it. After all, she was also a sort-of loser when you loved her.

Do not get bogged down by the comparisons. They’re unfair to you, and your strength of character. The right person will appreciate your efforts and even be open enough to love you back. And if your efforts are not being reciprocated, do not fret about it. Just peacefully end things. Trust me, you deserve to look after your own interests, and hoping against hope will only heighten your own expectations and make you more vulnerable to the eventual pain. You don’t want to be that person.

You are beyond comparison. Be with someone who only has eyes for you. It’s more necessary than you think. If she wants The Ex more than you, it’s her choice. Much like it’s your choice to move on.