So many people talk about looking for and finding their soulmates, but what does this really mean? I’d like to take some time to explain what a soulmate really is and how you can increase your chances of finding yours.
One myth is that there is only one soulmate for each of us. On the contrary, we have many soulmates. In fact, we have an entire family of soulmates surrounding us. Your best friend, the one who knows what you’re thinking before you can even explain it, is a soulmate. Anyone who touches your heart deeply is a soulmate, a part of your soul family. Some soulmates will have sexual chemistry between them, but many will not.
Another myth is that when soulmates connect romantically, they will live happily ever after. Soulmates come together to help each other learn valuable life lessons. Often this means that they bring up feelings of abandonment, betrayal and unworthiness in each other. They give each other many opportunities to grow beyond their limitations, but that’s not usually a comfortable experience. They will also share great love together, and the more each is willing to dive into the lessons, the greater the love will grow.
It’s easier to find and grow with your soulmate when you know yourself well. Taking the time to get to know yourself will make you a better partner once you’re in a relationship. When you take the time to work through your childhood issues (and we all have them, even if you had a reasonably normal childhood), you won’t have to re-live them within your romantic relationship. In the meantime, each partner you have will help you grow, and you will help each partner too.
If you really want to heal your childhood issues, you’ll need to work with a trained professional. An Imago relationship therapist or a certified life coach will be able to help you identify and work through your “stuff”. Lots of people live normal lives without doing this kind of deep work, but your life will be much happier and well balanced if you commit to doing it. You’ll be much more likely to find a deep level of soulmate if you do, one whose relationship with you will bring you more joy than tough lessons.