Strong will

I've been fighting with my family alot lately. They seem to hate me so much to burst at me at every single thing. So I had a strong urge to self harm, fortunately my will won over my emotions. I think this is a sign I am making progress. Glad I didn't do it, although the hurt of being neglected and hated is still there. I hope I'll still be able to do this if ever it occurs again.

By family, do you mean parents... or do you refer to a spouse/kids?
While there might be frustration about, I would venture to guess that they do not hate you. Regardless that, why would you allow them to control you into something like self harm? Ignore them if they are an issue.