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Sunday, December 25, 2011

Hopefully you got more than just coal from Santa Claus this Christmas! I got some pretty sweet stuff myself, including a 12 pack of razor blades (it's amazing how our Christmas wishes change with age and necessity). But my favorite Christmas present this year was the Attorney General of California approving the wording of the Californians Against Sexual Exploitation Act ballot initiative on Christmas Eve! That means that registered California voters can begin collecting signatures to get the initiative on the 2012 ballot. If you live in California and are interested in helping or signing, click here.

Christmas is a really special time for CAS' little victory, due to one of our best known Christmas figures, Saint Nicolas. The real man was Nikolaos of Myra, a Greek bishop who lived in the 200s. (Yep - 200s! And Greek! Somehow I always pictured him in some 17th century German town). He was renowned for caring for the poor, and one story says that a certain man became very poor and was going to sell his daughters into prostitution. In order to avert this horrible destiny, Nikolaos threw a bag of gold in through the family's window one night. Thus the girls were spared, and good ol' Saint Nick became one of the first men in recorded history to save girls out of sex trafficking. Pretty crazy, huh? But pretty darn awesome. Put that in your pipe and smoke it!

Hope your Christmas was wonderful and I look forward to moving into a more just New Year with you!

Saturday, December 17, 2011

There is a story* about a Holocaust survivor named Corrie ten Boom. The story goes like this: Corrie and her sister Betsie were in the Ravensbruck concentration camp together. The concentration camps were cold, harsh, dirty places, and this particular one was plagued with fleas. The ten Booms were Christians and one day they were praying when Betsie prayed, "Lord, thank you for the fleas." Corrie would have none of it, "I will pray," she said, "But I can never be grateful for the fleas. I won't pray that." Some time later one of the sisters, both of whom had been in a different concentration camp prior to their stay at Ravensbruck, asked why the guards here didn't bother them when they were in their shared living/sleeping quarters - the prisoners even had the freedom to have a Bible study with how little they were harassed. The response to ten Boom's question: "They don't bother us because they don't like the fleas." So...there was a reason to be grateful for the fleas after all!

As Betsie felt about the fleas, so I feel about sex trafficking. The truth is, commercial sexual exploitation of girls has taken place forever, only it's always been called "prostitution". Many, many, many older prostitutes will tell you that they were coerced into it when they were still underage; in the world of Sex for Sale, it is rare that a woman decides on her own and in a position of strength to sell her body.** Because of the stigma that follows prostitution, many people of my generation have been duped into thinking that prostitution should be legalized*** as a form of empowerment to women because it "gives women the right to do what they want with their bodies".

Empowerment? Are you kidding me? When did buying into group think become so important to you that you stopped using the brain in your head? Prostitution doesn't give women power over their own bodies - there's still a system of pimps and madames and men who hire these ladies because they want to abuse something. How is that empowerment?

This is why I am grateful for "sex trafficking". I am grateful that the monstrosity of kids being sold for sex has become a hot-button issue in pop culture, that it has a title and a growing system of laws against it. I am grateful because it is slowly (so slowly it hurts sometimes!) shifting our societal view of "prostitution". Slowly, slowly people are beginning to realize that "prostitution" most often begins as trafficking. "Sex trafficking" helps both conservative and liberal people see "prostitutes" in a new light. A prostitute is not the nasty little whore who lived down the street and was always "asking for it"; nor is she the sexually liberated woman who knows her own mind and gets what she wants. More often than not she is the victimized girl who needs a chance to get out of her situation and become a truly empowered, healthy, and free human being. So...I am grateful for "sex trafficking" because it is changing the way we think of "prostitutes".

**I hate not having statistics or something to cite here, but this is information I've just gleaned over the years I've been informed about sex trafficking. Once you start reading things about commercial sexual exploitation you begin to understand how prostitution is synonymous (and always has been) with trafficking underaged girls.

***I am for the legalization of prostitution if it looks as it does in Sweden!

Saturday, November 26, 2011

For years traffickers have been getting away with their shenanigans because of a police force and court system that are uneducated about the issue. Commercially exploited women and children are poorly treated, being arrested repeatedly while their pimp goes free, or being let off if they do a little "favor" for the arresting officer. One of my friends was trafficked as a 14-year-old, and when she was finally able to call the police she was arrested, charged, and sexually abused by her probation officer. This, unfortunately, is not an uncommon story.

This ought to be a strong call to us in the United States, where women are supposedly "equal". If a patriarchal country like the Philippines can see such a dramatic decrease in sexually exploited children in only 4 years simply by educating those in law, then let's educate our law enforcement too. California Against Slavery is trying to put a measure on the 2012 ballot that would make it mandatory to train law enforcement against sex trafficking. I believe this would be the first law of its kind in the U.S. If you're in California I urge you to sign the petition for the initiative and vote in the upcoming election. If you're in another state, consider organizing a coalition and talking to law makers about enacting a similar law. If anyone complains that it would cause the state to spend more money than they have, just point out how much money will be saved by jailing the perpetrator instead of having a revolving door of trafficked children going through the system...

Sunday, November 13, 2011

This is not a personal blog so my desire is that it be semi-professional, devastatingly informative, and not too chatty. But sometimes my heart gets so wound up into the issue that I just want to burst. Right now is one of those times.

I am a woman. And I am sick to my core of women being viewed as objects, as lesser than, as easy prey. I am a human being. I have thoughts in my head, desires in my heart, skills in my hands. I have the intrinsicright to protect my body, as far as I am able, from disease and abuse. No one - no one, no one, NO ONE - has the intrinsic right to take that from me. Anyone who desires to use me, manipulate me, physically hurt me, or willingly and unfeelingly subject me to emotional or physical harm or disease for his or her own benefit is acting outside the bounds of his or her rights.

I am a human being.
It is not okay to use human beings.
It is not okay to misuse human beings.
It is not okay to abuse human beings.
The attitude of these men toward human beings is not okay.
It is not okay,
it is not okay,
it is not okay.

We throw around the word objectification a lot, but that's exactly what people who rape and traffick or knowingly use those who might be trafficked have done. They have taken a human life - this bottle of experience and creativity and emotion and potential and life - and reduced it to any common object found lying around the house. And less, even, because I bet every single one of the men interviewed in the article above has a smart phone or a laptop or a car or a favorite beer mug on which he places higher value than he has placed on the prostitute he's shagging.

Saturday, November 12, 2011

Hey friends! Though this blog mainly address trafficking within the United States, we all know that it's a global problem and there are several international organizations that offer unique ways to give gifts to survivors of trafficking during Christmastime. My favorite is IJM, as they work in all areas of trafficking and are really big on training and utilizing local law enforcement. Their 2011 Gifts of Freedom Catalogue can be found here. So do something different for your loved ones this year and change the world in the process.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

California Against Slavery (CAS) is beginning a signature gathering campaign for the Californians Against Sexual Exploitation Act for the 2012 ballot. The initiative would increase prison terms and fines for traffickers, require them to register as sex offenders*, strengthen Megan's Law so that sexual predators would have to register their online accounts, mandate human trafficking training for law enforcement, prohibit the use of sexual history to prove criminal liability of trafficked victims, and remove the need to prove force when trafficking of a minor. The campaign begins whenever the attorney general has approved the wording of initiative, but CAS thinks it will be sometime around December 1st. If you live in California and are registered to vote here (or are willing to be registered in Cali), then please consider signing up to gather signatures. We need 750,000 signatures to see this put on the ballot! Even if you can't commit to collecting signatures or if you're out of state, let your California friends know about the initiative and encourage them to be involved.

Monday, November 7, 2011

Blacks are lazy and need someone to keep after them or they won't work.

Blacks are like lost children without their masters; they need to be taken care of.

Blacks are from the line of Cain and biblically deserve to be enslaved.

Blacks aren't smart enough to read...hold a job...be free.

Blacks exist for whites.

Blacks like being slaves.

I shudder as I type these sentences, as you probably do reading them. Yet this was once the mentality of thousands of people throughout the United States. These were all lies people told themselves to feel better about their greed and oppressive actions. And the whites who believed these lies so many years ago really believed them - to their core. I wanted to use the "N" word in those sentences, to make them powerful and punch you in the face while you read this post, but 150 years of fighting for the dignity and equality of a once dehumanized portion of our population has been bred into my bones until it is impossible for me to use such an offense word. Because I really believe Blacks are fully human, they are not intrinsically lazy, they are not biblically mandated to be slaves, and they are equal in intelligence, skill, and worth. For me, a 21st century white person, it is incomprehensible that people once saw the world differently. The fight has been worth it.*

But now we face a new foe (or, rather, an old that has yet to be conquered). That of The Whore.

Whores are dirty girls who like sex and deserve what they get.

Whores don't mind being used by 50 men a day - hell, they're whores.

Whores (as women) biblically must submit to men in all things, including sex.

Whores (as women) are like emotional children who need to be led by a non-emotional man.

Whores aren't smart enough to hold a job other than whoring.

Whores are the problem; they tempted the men in the first place.

Whores (as women) exist for men.

Whores like prostituting.

If you don't believe that the above-listed mentalities exist - and strongly - then we're not gonna get far in this fight against sex trafficking. Trafficking begins as a mentality. A girl is a whore before she is ever forced into prostitution. She's a whore in the eyes of the mother who blames her when her dad rapes her. She's a whore in the eyes of her classmates when she becomes promiscuous at school. She's a whore in the eyes of the woman whose husband chooses to look at her...hit on her...sleep with her. It is my strong belief that any girl roped into trafficking (not kidnapped and physically forced as some are, but rather coerced and manipulated) has some extreme brokenness in her past. Rape by an older brother. Rape by a neighbor. Physical abuse by her parents. There is something disconnecting in her that allows her to stay in a place where she's used 50 times a day - because no healthy woman wants to have sex 50 times a day with potentially disease-ridden, often physically abusive men.

If I have not convinced you that our collective prejudice against "The Whore" is one of the bonds holding her in captivity, then why is a girl picked up by the cops 100 times and her pimp not once? Because she's the problem. She's the one giving her body to the john. Forget the father who raped her, the trafficker who addicted her to drugs, or the pimp who threatens her with death if she tries to escape. Or why when I went to an anti-trafficking fundraising dinner did they only raise $7,000 for a recovery home, when I've been to pro-life dinners that have raised $20,000? Because we're still not sure these girls are worth saving...after all, they got themselves into this in the first place, right? **

Need more of an argument? I went to a signature-gathering training this weekend for an initiative strengthening laws against traffickers. Someone raised the question of why the initiative would only strengthen laws against traffickers and not against the johns. Our speaker said she'd fought to have something written in about johns, but all of her legal counsel told her not to. Why? "Because as a society we're still not ready for that. The john is still not seen as a bad guy and the girl is still seen as a whore. Were we to write harsher laws for johns into our initiative, it would not be passed." Whoa. Yes, in a way most of the U.S. doesn't understand, our problem is The Whore. Earlier I said I couldn't even type the "N" word, because it is so offensive. Yet 150 years ago people would have thought that impossible. My hope - my sometimes shy, wavering, timid hope - is that 150 years from now, "whore" will be an equally offensive word because of how it once meant the dehumanization of half our population. Let's start changing our minds. Let's start seeing "The Whore "as the victimized girl she really is and get her the proper aid she needs to live a healthy and fulfilled life. Let's erase "whore" from our vocabulary and our mindset and start treating all people with respect and dignity.

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*This is not negating that racism still exists in our world. It does. Yet how far we've come from those days!

**Why, if we're going to turn our backs on them 13 years
down the road, bother being pro-life when we know many of the children
"saved" are going to be born into potentially abusive situations that
will make them vulnerable to trafficking in the first place? Why are we
so shortsighted? At the risk of making all my conservative friends
angry, if we are unwilling to change our minds about "The Whore" then I
would almost rather see the poor things killed in the womb before they
are later rejected by us noble folk who've worked so hard to give them a
chance at "life". If we're going to be pro-life, we need to be willing
to go all the way.

Monday, October 31, 2011

U.S. for Abolition will be hitting the road in summer 2012 to do a video documentary of the work of abolition all the way across the U.S. Please keep updated on how to support the trip and email any suggestions of places or people you'd like to see interviewed: usforabolition@gmail.com.

A lot of anti-trafficking organizations involved in the restorative end of the movement are just small, non-profit recovery homes that don't have large budgets. Places like this can always use volunteers. Be prepared though: when you offer your services you may not always be working directly with the children or women in the home. It is just as likely they will have you answering telephones, sorting through clothing donations, or cleaning the toilets. The thing about abolition work is that you need to be willing to work where you're needed. Romantic fantasies about rescuing kids, mentoring them back to emotional health, then releasing them back into the wild are all well and good, but they are not reality. Even the counselor sitting across the table from a rescued girl or boy is as likely to see him or her choose to go back to an abusive lifestyle as to move forward in healing. We can only offer ourselves, we cannot guarantee that our offerings will be accepted. So. If you call the local women's shelter and they say they have enough people working with the ladies but that they need someone to put stamps on their bulk mailing once a month - do it. It may not be glamorous, but it's important. Places that directly deal with people who've been trafficked and where you can volunteer:

TIP stands for Trafficking in Persons. As mentioned in my post on rescue work, us ordinary laypeople should never try to rescue trafficked victims by ourselves. Instead, we need to call the proper authorities* and let them handle it. That said, many anti-trafficking organizations offer TIP training, which prepares you to know a trafficking situation when you see one. If you would like to attend a TIP training in your area, please visit the links page and contact anti-trafficking organizations in your state to find out where and when the next one is being held. Please note that not all organizations will refer to it as TIP.

*If you see something that appears to be a trafficking situation, please call 1.888.3737.888 and report it.

The first time you heard about trafficking didn't you just want to go straight to the streets of the nearest big city and rescue kids from their pimps? Yeah...I would fall asleep at night thinking about kicking gangsta tail. But don't do it. Just...don't.

Rescue work is dangerous. While we do still have unjust laws regarding human trafficking, things are getting better and the police force is slowly beginning to understand the problem. If you see an instance of what appears to be human trafficking, do not confront the supposed trafficker on your own. Observe what's going on and get as much information as possible: make, model, and license plate of any car being used by the potential trafficker, approximate age, race, height, and build of the traffickers and victims, along with any apparent johns. Then call the National Human Trafficking Resource Center at 1.888.3737.888. Describe to them what you see and hear and they will tell you what steps to take next. Remember that traffickers do not work alone - going up against a guy who looks like a pimp is a serious issue, because that guy has 10 more guys behind him. If you try to take him out yourself you're liable to end up hospitalized or dead. Call the authorities; do not - DO NOT - try to handle it yourself.

If you like the thrill of the chase and putting yourself in situations where you could end up dead, then consider joining the police force where you can be on the front lines of this kind of work. Also get in contact with your state or county Human Trafficking Task Force and find out what you can do to be more actively involved in rescue missions. But do not, do not, do not try to go out there yourself and do it alone. The best way for you to be involved in rescuing trafficked kids is to memorize the National Hotline (again, 1.888.3737.888) and be willing to use it if you ever see a potential instance of human trafficking.

While I was initially frustrated at the word "awareness" that I kept running into when I first learned of human trafficking, I have since realized its important place in abolition. There are still so many people who don't know about the problem who would otherwise be doing something to help stop it. So as you begin to think about anti-trafficking work, start discussing the problem with your friends and family. Find information and pass it along. Brainstorm with friends who care about the issue and come up with ideas on how you can get involved in your community. Link this or other informative websites to your facebook or blog in order to help spread the word. The more you talk about it the more ideas will begin to formulate and the more you'll begin to understand where you fit into the puzzle.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

(Note: if you're non-religious the things I say here may not mean much to you. But please be kind about it!)

As a Christian, I believe prayer is the most important thing any of us can do ever. It is in prayer we find peace, though the world rage around us. It is in prayer we find direction when there are 100 voices telling us what to do. And it is in prayer that we find a Loving Parent who listens, who loves, and who acts accordingly. I believe that the work of abolition is ultimately God's. We are called to contribute where we can, but as Jesus says, "Ask the Lord of the field to send workers into the field..." We cannot do any of this on our own strength. We need to ask God to go before us, to change minds, open hearts, break the locks off doors and the chains off feet. We petition God and He prepares the way. If you are religious and are interested in abolition work but are not praying about it...then how interested are you in it, really? Do you believe God is bigger? If you believe this, then you will be praying about the issue of human trafficking. Prayer needs to be part of our process from beginning to end - from the time we first start thinking about human trafficking to the moment we're sitting across from a child who's just described the first time he or she was gang-raped. Prayer prepares our hearts to handle the heaviness we're going to face as we learn more about what really goes on in trafficking circles. Prayer sustains us when we're in the thick of it. And prayer restores us when we've reached our own beds again at night, weary beyond words from the battle we've just fought. Pray, pray, pray. Prayer is our doorway to peace.

If you haven't had much experience praying, here are a few good books on the subject:

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Examining yourself is a big issue. We all have
false motivators that we need to work through in order to be healthy
people. Our actions may unwittingly be driven by a need to feel
important and loved, motivators that will only hurt us and those around
us in the end. My suggestion is that before you jump into abolition
work you take some time - a week, a month, half a year, whatever it
takes - to examine yourself. Journal. Be real with yourself about your
addictions and motivators. Ask trusted love ones the hard questions
like, how do I handle criticism? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses?, and be willing to hear the answers. Get a therapist. Get a mentor. Get a spiritual director.
You can't successfully go into this type of work unless you've already
dealt with the crap in your own heart. This is a life-long process, but we can find a lot of freedom and healing even if we're not perfect. Here's a few things you may want to consider while examining yourself:

The Messiah Complex

I'm speaking from experience on this one. I tend to be
the vigilante-save-the-world-leap-first-look-later type. I want
everything to be right, I want everything to be healthy, I want everyone
to be happy. But there are a few things you need to know going into
it: you can't save everyone. Today a child caught in sex
trafficking died. You and I will never know the child's name. You and I will
never know the child's story. This is the reality. We're fighting a
battle that is not yet won and there will be a lot more casualties
before it's over. So pray about it, do some journaling, tell yourself
that you can't save everyone and that's okay, and try to live in the
reality that doing your part is enough. I've come to have peace about
this. You may or may not be religious, but for me it really helps to
know that God knows. God knows. It's also helpful to look at your
motivators: why do you need to save everything? In trying to save the world, what are you trying to save in yourself?

Sex Addiction

What is it? Porn? Constant masturbation? A string of significant others used for your own sexual gratification?
We live in an era that doesn't consider this type of behavior wrong.
But the truth is, an addiction is an addiction. It doesn't matter if
it's drugs, anime, or alcohol - if you're being driven to it as some
form of escapism, chances are it owns you. Do a simple Google
search on "addiction" and you'll find that addictive behavior alters
your brain pathways. That is, when you start turning to something as a
stress reliever it begins to alter the pleasure pathways of your brain,
habituating you to that action and creating a need. When you try to
break the addiction - whether it's a substance or a habit - you become
irritable, restless, and absent-minded, thinking almost constantly of the thing you can't have. In my mind one of the big
issues about a sex addiction in particular, as opposed to alcohol or
something, is that it begins wearing down your respect for humanity. If
you're engaging in porn or using people for your own sexual pleasure
you're objectifying them. This, in fact, is
the very thing traffickers do to their victims, objectify them. So if
you want to get involved in the fight but yourself are a sex addict, you
have some mindshifting of your own to do first. Get help. It's imperative before you get involved in anti-trafficking work,
because the temptations are everywhere. You don't want to become a
john while you're trying to stop them.

Other Addictions
As stated above, research shows that addictive behaviors can create pleasure pathways in the brain, developing in us a need to continue that particular behavior. When trying to break a habit or addiction a person often becomes irritable, irrational, and reactive. Addiction just isn't good for you. My belief is that the worst part about addiction is that it's reactionary: you are turning toward something for a reason. Addiction is a form of escapism: I feel better about myself if I drink, when I'm full of self-hatred eating makes me feel better, etc. If you're living out of addiction, you're not healthy. I think every person is looking for peace, but continuing in your addiction is not going to produce it. So as you examine yourself look for places where you might have unwittingly developed an addiction. Work through it. Get a counselor, talk to a trusted friend. It may feel like a long road sometimes, but you can overcome.

Prior Responsibilities
Don't go divorcing your husband and leaving your 3 children at home so you can move to Thailand to work with trafficked girls. Look realistically at your life stage. Are you finishing college? Are you over your head in debt? Do you have kids at home that need tending to? As I hope you find out on this blog, there are many ways to get involved in anti-trafficking work and not all of them require that you sell your firstborn child to do so. Something as simple as mentoring a child through Big Brothers, Big Sisters is a substantial contribution to the cause, and it doesn't ask that much of your time or financial investment. So look at your life, be honest about what you can take on at this stage knowing that it may change down the road, and move forward in it.

Sunday, October 23, 2011

There are an estimated 27 million people enslaved worldwide, 21% of those being coerced into forced labor. With everything from chocolate to cotton being affected by the illegal slave trade, nearly everyone who reads this page will have handled or purchased something that was made by a modern-day slave. Many anti-trafficking organizations are combining aftercare for victims with production of goods in order to give survivors of both sex-trafficking and forced labor a means of sustainable income, else they're liable to fall back into slavery again. Humanitarian organizations also provide industry for low-income areas that are at risk for trafficking. So how you spend your money can help in both prevention and restoration. Essentially, how you spend your money matters!

As there can be a lot of crossover between the preventative side and the restorative side of abolition, I have combined the posts into one. First note that for a lot of these careers you'll need further education. While God can and does use uneducated people, working with people who have experienced extreme trauma, like trafficking victims, usually requires special training. Here are some ideas of which training or degrees to pursue if you want to go further:

As a social worker you might work in the court system, with a non-profit, in the hospitals and schools, overseas, and have many other doors opened to you that would not otherwise be available. As an MSW you can also be certified in therapy so in the end it's like an MFT plus plus plus. As a social worker you can be involved in either the preventative or the restorative end of abolition; working with foster-care kids you'll encounter a variety of life stories and backgrounds. In my non-expert, unprofessional opinion, an MSW is like gold in the fight against human trafficking.

An MFT is a Master's degree in marriage and family counseling. This is mainly helpful on the preventative side because the children most at-risk for being trafficked in the U.S. are abused children, those in the foster care system, and runaways.

I don't know a ton about psychology, but I do believe you can have emphasis in different fields of psychology that will prepare you to specifically work with trafficked victims. If it's something you've always been interested in anyway, then it's worth doing some research on.

I'm not a huge fan of pills and modern medicine (What did you say the side effects of that medication were? And you still want me to take it??), however, if a person has been trafficked he or she may have acquired some chemical and mental imbalances due to emotional trauma, physical trauma, and/or forced substance abuse. As a license psychologist you would be able to provide medical help for the whole-person-healing of a trafficked victim.

In my unprofessional, non-medical-person opinion, endocrinology is one of the most important medical fields in dealing with trauma victims. Stress puts a lot of pressure on our endocrine system (our hormone regulating system, like our thyroid), and too much stress can make it begin to fail. This is why stressed people begin to lose their hair or gain weight, etc., because their hormones are no longer balanced since their endocrine system cannot handle the stress. A thyroid specialist I once spoke with said that 80% of the women who came to him on anti-anxiety or anti-depressant medication had been misdiagnosed by a psychiatrist and actually had a thyroid imbalance. I have personal friends and family who have had direct experience with this type of situation. So considering the level of stress a trafficked victim has gone through, it is my belief that the field of endocrinology could be extremely helpful in restoring them to not just physical, but also emotional (hormonal) health.

Aside from psychiatry and endocrinology, other areas of the medical field can be beneficial to trafficked victims also. Just use imagination! A girl who has been trafficked for 5 years and was forced into drug usage probably has some dental issues she needs dealt with. A boy trafficked for sex is gonna need good proctologist. And E.R. doctors and nurses can be on the front lines of reporting incidents of human trafficking when prostitutes are brought in for various reasons. The possibilities are endless - if your parents have always pushed you to go to med school, maybe it's time you started listening to their advice.

Straight up, our laws on human trafficking are not strong enough. Though there are federal laws against human trafficking, most states prosecute under state law, which is often weaker than its federal counterpart. In fact, there are 4 states in the U.S. that don't even have anti-trafficking laws in place. We need lawmakers - lawyers and judges and governors and lobbysists - who will work toward more stringent laws for perpetrators and more lenient laws for victims. Another need we have in the judiciary system is judges who understand the realities of human trafficking who will send prostitutes to recovery centers rather than to prison and give traffickers the harshest sentencing possible in order to keep them off the streets. Though we try, our legal system is far from perfect. Uncle Sam needs YOU to help make it better!

We all know who the PoPo are and generally have varying levels of fear, respect, or dislike for them. No matter what your feelings toward the police may be, we need more people educated on the realities of human trafficking to sign up for the force. In my opinion, two of the biggest issues that keep trafficking in place are piss poor laws and a police force uneducated on the realities of modern-day slavery. The problem lies in our mentality: prostitutes are dirty girls doing a dirty job who need to be taken off the streets. Reality: most prostitutes were lured into the trade when they were still underage by a pimp who threatened them, beat them, and tried to kill them if they tried to run away. Though I don't have any link or stat to throw up here, I have heard countless stories about prostitutes being arrested over and over while their pimp sat in a car 10-feet away. Why didn't he get arrested? Why is it always the prostitute? We need police on the force who are going to arrest the pimp and get the prostitute to a recovery home.

Your Job

What is it you do? Accounting? Data entry? Construction? To fight human trafficking we need people with ALL types of skills. The person crunching the numbers at IJM is just as important as the field worker rescuing kids out of sex work. Ministry cannot run without logistics, so rather than running off and obtaining a new degree so that you can work in abolition, first take a look at your own skills and think about how they can be plugged into what is already going on. If there's a particular organization you're interested in, ask what their needs are and see where you fit.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

The simple truth: end demand, end supply. The one and only reason that sex-trafficking exists is because some men like the idea of having sex with a prostitute or with a young child. As long as this entitlement-based mentality is out there, there will be children who are victims of sexual abuse and potentially sex-trafficking. While most men you know are probably not out looking for a 13-year-old to sleep with, there is still a rather too-prevalent idea that women are asking for it. One friend of mine once commented about the Roman Polansky case that the 13-year-old girl Polansky molested had probably seduced him. Say what?! Women aren't "asking for it"! If the "good" men around us are living in the mentality that an abused woman "wants" to be used sexually, what hope have we for the "bad" men? Let's work on stopping this mentality here, now, with us and then take our message to the broader world:

CAASE: A Chicago-based organization that "offers a curriculum for high school boys to help them end sexual exploitation in their own lives." Unhealthy gender stereotypes and abuse begin at an early age and need to be addressed at an early age. The classroom is an excellent place in which to do this.

A Call to Men: A male-led organization that "through seminars, workshops and other educational vehicles, A Call to Men challenges men to reconsider their long held beliefs about women, in an effort to create a more just society. We achieve this by encouraging change in the behaviors of men through a re-education and training process that promotes healthy manhood."

Triple X Church: This organization seeks to help men and women out of their pornography addictions. While we live in a generation that unabashedly defends porn, there is an undeniable link between porn and sexual violence. Porn gives a person a sense of entitlement: "I deserve to get whatever I want sexually." Porn distances us from healthy sexuality: "I get to use people for my own pleasure." Porn keeps women in bondage: "A woman is an object that exists solely for the sexual satisfaction of men and should, therefore, do whatever is asked of her sexually." Let's educate ourselves on the realities of porn, stop using it, and help others out of their addictions also.

The Pink Cross: another anti-pornography organization seeking to change our beliefs and attitudes toward the problem.

Christians for Biblical Equality: even within the church men sexually abuse women. They use pornography, they hire prostitutes, they molest their kids. The only reason a person feels okay abusing another human being like this is because of a mentality. CBE seeks to change the unhealthy thought-system we have about women and restore their equality as image-bearers of God and co-heirs of our inheritance in Christ. Only when we have done this will sexual violence against women and children end.

An estimated 1 in 4 children is sexually abused, a number that is both staggering and heartbreaking. Children who have been sexually abused are the most at-risk for being trafficked. Since most abusers are someone close to the child, many children are afraid to or unable to speak about it. It is our responsibility as adults not just to look out for sexual abuse victims, but to create a safe place for children to talk about it. There are two organizations I know of that you might volunteer with:

Just Tell. This organization encourages kids to speak up when they've been abused so they can get help and healing.

A Quarter Blue. AQB is an organization that goes into the classroom and talks to students about sexual abuse. The goal is to help empower kids who have been abused by letting them know they are not alone and by providing a safe person to talk with about it.

Who invested in you when you were in jr. high? High school? I'm sure you still remember words they spoke over you and time they took just for you. When we reach our adolescent years it is highly important we have people other than our parents taking time out for us. Parent-child communication is often falling apart at this stage in our lives and to have other, trusted adults pouring in to us can be the link that holds us to reality when the fantasies of the world seem so alluring. This can be especially important for a child in a bad home situation. It seems to me mentoring youth is one of the key elements in preventing sex-trafficking of minor, so if you're willing to invest your life in some kids around you, here are a few ideas:

Youth Group. If you go to church, you probably have a youth group. Talk to the youth leader about what his or her volunteer needs are. Ask what prayer needs they have and spend a few months in prayer over the group. Then, when you're ready and the church has approved (most groups have some sort of application and background check process), jump in!

CASA. Court Appointed Special Advocate. This is a great way to work with foster kids without going through the pain of foster parenting. From the website: "Volunteers get to know the child by talking with everyone in that child's life; parents and relatives, foster parents, teachers, medical professionals, attorneys, social workers and others. They use the information they gather to inform judges and others of what the child needs and what will be the best permanent home for them." Working with CASA you may just be the person who gets a child out of an abusive foster home or prevents him or her from going back to a dangerous biological one.

Volunteer at your local jr. high or high school.

Be a friend. As simplistic as it sounds, be a friend to your friends' children, your younger cousins, your nieces and nephews, etc. Abuse happens everywhere, even in the lives of those you may be closest to. Keep your eyes, ears, and heart open to the kids around you and be a safe place they can come to if need be.

We've all heard the stats - in the United States the most likely victims of sex-trafficking are runaways and kids who've been pushed through the foster care system. Though there is some debate about it, a simple Google search of "foster care and abuse" indicates that most studies show a higher rate of child abuse in foster homes than in the home of the biological family. A home environment, whether foster or biological, may be so bad that a child feels anything would be better than staying in the abusive situation. In fact, one girl caught in the sex trade says that to this day she would choose the life of a trafficked victim over being in a foster home where "at any moment a man could walk in the room and start touching me and I had to call him dad."

For this reason, it is my strong belief that the best action step the Church can take in the prevention of sex-trafficking in the U.S. today is for strong families to become foster and adoptive families. After all, what is the central message of the Gospel? Love. What does love do? Restores. Reconciles. Sacrifices. Heals. Comforts. Provides for. Protects. James reminds us that "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress..." How are we doing, Church?

Of course I don't pretend fostering is easy, and if your spouse isn't on board (yet) then don't do it (yet, but you can pray for a heart change...it happens). Before you even think about fostering you need to examine yourself. What are you hanging on to that needs to go? What issues in your marriage need to be resolved before hosting a child? My suggestion before you take steps toward adoption or fostering is seek out a personal and marriage therapist to work on things you've been unwilling to let go of or change. You cannot help heal and restore ANYONE if you have not allowed God to work healing and restoration into your own life first.

Okay, so you've examined yourself and you feel ready to start moving forward. What next? Ahhhhhh...yeah...the foster and adoption laws/process vary, sometimes dramatically, from state to state so here are my suggestions for getting the ball rolling:

Pray. Always. In everything, pray.

Start reading foster and adoptive parent blogs. You will learn waaaaaaaaaaaay more from them than probably any other source.

Find a good agency! Your agency is everything. I cannot stress this enough. I've had quite a number of friends foster in the last year and a half and it can be a HUGE headache if your agency doesn't have its act together. So don't just settle on the first agency you find; do some research, talk to some other families who've used the agency/ies you're considering, and pray, pray, pray for direction.

Be real with what you can handle. Special needs are special needs and we're not all special enough to handle them on a 24-hour basis. There are many decisions to be made when bringing any child into your home, such as age, special needs, and longevity of the child's stay. Above all, when considering these questions, BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND WITH YOUR SPOUSE. You're not a bad person if you know you can't take on an autistic child (or ADHD, or HIV-positive child, etc.). You're a much better person if you admit to what you can and cannot handle. Parenting takes a lot, and fostering even more so. It's no easy road; it is, however, much easier if you are honest from the beginning.

Get trained. There are a lot of resources out there for foster and adoptive families. A good agency will direct you toward some of them, but go on Amazon and buy books, do a Google search of trainings in your area, meet up with people who've already walked the road and can advise you.

Good luck! You'll do fine. Parenting of any kind is heartbreaking, difficult, risky, and will stretch you to your limits. I came from an incredibly sheltered, homeschooled, conservative background and once we reached adulthood half the kids raised with me turned out to be dope-smoking, single-parent atheists. Just saying...sewing your own seed and raising them in a box is not a guarantee they'll turn out how you like. Parenting is not an issue of control...it's more like a grand experiment in trust. Trust God. He knows.