You’ve realized that having sex early on has resulted in short-term connections.

A boundary you can set to keep this from happening is to wait until you both get to know each other on multiple levels (e.g. mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc.) and only have sex when you feel a meaningful connection.

This may mean dating for 2-3 months where you are seeing each other consistently and communicating in between dates.

When you love with boundaries, you won’t sacrifice your integrity. You’ll increase your self-esteem and self-worth, and feel great about yourself.

Establishing your boundaries is just one part of the equation. The other part is enforcing them.

If you’re not used to speaking up and expressing your needs, enforcing your boundaries may at first make you feel like you are being controlling.

Men who are used to being with women who go along with whatever, the so-called "cool girls", they may perceive your healthy boundaries as being too controlling.

But the truth, is it’s all in the way you express yourself.

For instance, let’s say you have a need to feel connected with your man.

If you say to him, “You have to call me every day,” it will feel like a command and most men don’t like being told what to do.

You’ll come across as demanding and controlling. And his natural tendency will be to resist doing what he’s been told to do.

So here’s how you can express that same need in a way that doesn’t make you controlling:

You can say something like, “I really value connecting in between the times we see each other because it makes me feel closer to you. I just wanted you to know when you call me, it makes me happy to hear your voice.”

A good man who likes you will want to make you happy, and will pick up on what you’re saying and call you more.

As you honor your boundaries, your love life will shift towards what you desire.

Guys who are wrong for you will fall by the wayside and more of the right men will show up.

The struggles you once faced will diminish and you’ll experience your journey to love with more ease. In the process, you’ll learn what you’re made of and grow into your best self.