Northern Californian by birth and by life, Irish-German-Norwegian by ancestry, Pagan and Quaker by choice and by calling.

Traumatized by patriarchal capitalist civilization. Bisexual. White, and going through an identity disintegration process about it, hoping I come out the other side as an effective anti-racist ally.

Radical constantly malaligned with normative standards, yet privileged enough to sneak into situations with folks who don't realize how different I am. Working class background and now dressing in slacks and blazers for nonprofit work with no bra underneath.

I've been to difficult places in relationship, unhealthy and abusive. I've been on both sides of that. I am happy to disclose this for transparency's sake and would expect the same.

Polyamorous. I want wild love un contained by social scripts and obligations. Kindness and consideration are crucial though. So is consent and valuing pleasure in sexy times, whatever that looks like for both-all of us.

I live in community and dedicate my life to social justice and wellbeing of life. When I'm not watching old Friends episodes that is.

What I’m doing with my life

Working 4 part time jobs--homeschool children supervision, organizing for climate action, editing, tutoringSexydorkingout at gym dance classesVolunteering too much and too littleCatsNetflixStressLaying in bedWalks on the tracksCultivating my intentional community residencePlanning trips to South AmericaCommunity building!Sometimes the farmers market

I’m really good at

Writing, empathizing, inspiring others, being depressed about the world, yelling at people on the Internet for not thinking like me, budgeting at the poverty line, and sometimes adventure! Such as hitchhiking.

How I am going to find cuddle and fuck buddies who speak the same language as me

On a typical Friday night I am

Decompressing from work by staring at my screen. I'm not proud.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit

I was in a reciprocally abusive relationship and did some of the perpetrating. I am developing a practice of putting this right up front. Of course I want to find healthier ways to relate and have learned a lot. Being transparent about this is part of that.

You should message me if

You want a cuddle buddyYou think activism is sexy and are participating yourselfYou get consent and are into real pleasure not scripted sex that assumes sex means intercourseYou like to talk and listen about nuanced emotional processYou are any gender!You are polyamorous or at least not seeking anything monogamous or exclusive.