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Topic: Very Scared about first time cunnilingus experience (Read 21040 times)

I have been reading up on this subject and am starting to cope with this but I want some input as well. Here is my situation. I went to a massage parlor and got a handjob from the lady there, but while I was getting the handjob, I gave her oral but only for maybe 2-3 mins, and I did not see any sign of blood or anything like that. Now I am freaking out because I have a wife and daugther at home and I don't know if I am in danger of HIV or not. I read that is not a high risk but my oral health is not 100%, sometimes bleeding with brushing and three crowns in mouth. I am waiting to get tested, but I want to get some input on this issue if I even should be worried about testing or should just do it for piece of mind.

You really do not need a 2nd opinion, and Rod is more than capable of assessing your risk. As for a second opinion, I also do not believe you need to test over this situation. You are not going to get HIV from going down on a woman, but like Rod said, you may want to test for other STI's.

I really do appreciate the advice, I will most likely test anyways because I am just a freak like that but I will not worry about a thing that is not there. Thanks for all the support, if you dont mind I will be back from time to time to update my situation.

No worries, if you need to test for your own peace of mind and sanity to help with any anxiety, then that can only be a good thing, but I totally expect to hear back from you with nothing more than a negative result.

I just can't get this out of my head!! Has there ever been a case of a male contracting HIV from cunnilingus??I am so nervous it is making me sick! I think it is most likely the guilt but I keep running through my head "what if?" Anyone who has been here before, can you let me know what you did to calm down until you could get tested?

If there was a test for guilt you would be in serious trouble. That's really what this is about because as far as HIV there is no basis for concern about this incident.

You can't undo the fact that you're a dog like the rest of us and you went straying. So wringing your hands and worrying won't do you or anyone else you care about any good. Testing is a waste of energy and assets, but go ahead and do it if that's going to close the situation for you.

What you really need to do is accept what you did, take a breath and get on with your life. That's the most loving thing to do for all concerned. No kidding.

I am kind of nervous this morning though because I am noticing white lines in my mouth, but not like thrush, it is like a line and a couple of spots but they came off with my toothbrush? My question is, is this a symptom of HIV or any other STD?? I don't feel any other pain or anything like that, but the white patches are concerning to me. Thank you for everything you guys have done for me so far and the advice you have given me. Any feedback on this issue would be great though.

I still cant shake this, I saw this white spottedness in the inner parts of my cheeks 2 days after this incident and I can't get rid of it, when I look at sites that say what causes this, it points to HIV. Can someone please tell me if they had this symptom or is my mind just messing with me? I know I am being kind of a pain with this low risk issue, but I am really scared since this wont go away. I know in my mind if I didn't have this, that I would not be as nervous.

It must be all in my head because the symptoms practically went away, all but one spot on my inner cheek but everything else cleared up. Thanks everyone who has given me input, especially Rod and Andy. I am still kind of stressing but that is probably from the guilt of this and being stupid in regards to my own personal decisions. One more question for the road, even though there was no risk, I want to test anyways, just for closure. My question is could I do that at six weeks and rely on that result? I know CDC says 3 months but, I want to test ASAP to just forget about this.

It must be all in my head because the symptoms practically went away, all but one spot on my inner cheek but everything else cleared up. Thanks everyone who has given me input, especially Rod and Andy. I am still kind of stressing but that is probably from the guilt of this and being stupid in regards to my own personal decisions. One more question for the road, even though there was no risk, I want to test anyways, just for closure. My question is could I do that at six weeks and rely on that result? I know CDC says 3 months but, I want to test ASAP to just forget about this.

Thanks Everyone.

Most people who are positive will test positive at 6 weeks, but to be definitive, a 3 month test is needed. So a 6 week test, while extremely encouraging isn't conclusive. In your case, it is up to you what you do. There really isn't any need for you to test, so I would say in your case a 6 week test is fine, since it will say negative and any more tests after that will be negative since you didn't get HIV in this case. Whatever you feel like doing, I gave you the guidelines......

Oraquick is 99.8% effective. And it doesnt have a problem with false NEGATIVES, false POSITIVES only.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

Oraquick is not a take home test i dont believe. Home Access is one of the only ones approved by the FDA that I am aware of. Others shall speak on this more shortly im sure.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

And Puck, I agree, it was a stupid mistake that will never happen again. This has opened my eyes big time, even though you have all told me it is not a risk, I am still nervous about it, but that is probably just the guilt. You have all been great, thank you for that in my time of need.

This morning I woke up and saw that someone had a website where there was a risk on this forum. I was being told that there is no risk, only therotical. Can someone please shed some light on this, it really has me freaked out again.

Easy analogy. Time travel is a theoretical possibility. You can find a few instances where people "SAY" they have done it. Go find me someone who has PROVEN they have done it.

Same thing with your situation.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

I know that, it is just kind of one of those things that is just sticking in my head. I know I should not be worrying as much as I am after everything you have all told me. If anyone else wants to give feedback on this I will appreciate it.

They will all say the same thing they have been saying scared. I dont think it matters how often we say it. We cant get that out of your head for you. Please seek help outside this forum.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Scared, please seek the help of a mental health professional and stop coming here with trumped up reasons as to why you think you have something. Quit asking questions and just test. You'll be happily negative.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

I am just really nervous about the "what if's" and all that, even though you have all been very helpful in addressing my risks. I just have to wait it out. But I never did get an answer to that question, would that make a difference or not with the inflammed gums and such?

Thanks Everyone, Hopefully my next post on here will be with the negative results,god willing.

You would have to have a massively fresh cut or SEVERE dental problems to have any type of theoretical risk. Not to mention fresh blood or semen from the HIV pos person.

You have none of these scenarios and do NOT need to worry.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

Thanks Everyone for your replies, the "what if's" have gotten ahold of me, but I probably need to shake that myself. I keep seeing different sites saying some risk, or low risk, or negliable risk. But all of you have said no risk. I am just so scared about what I might of done to my family and myself. I keep telling myself that there has never been a case documented, but then it comes back as what if I am the first? I just hope that I will come out of this OK.

You are not the first and we cannot control what other sites say. We give grounded medically backed scientifically proven documentation as our advice.

You are experiencing what seems to me like alot of guilt. Please stop coming here with what if's. Youre not doing yourself any good.

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JESUS man thats what I said! YOU WILL NOT BE THE FIRST PERSON TO GET IT THIS WAY!

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

Thank You Andy, I am just really nervous but I appreciate everyone stating the facts the way they have. The main reason I am nervous is because if I was Pos, I would not want to give it to my family, but from what you have all been saying, that should not even be a worry for me. I will try to cope with this until I can get a test so that my mind will finally realize the facts. Thanks again to everyone.

Im really freaked out this morning, I have 2 black dots on my lower lip, I do not know why they are there. Is this a symptom or not? And also, my dentist yesterday said that I need a deep cleaning on my gums, does that mean my oral health is not good enough to stop the transmission of HIV. I am so scared and keep thinking I will be that one, even though it seems unilkely. Please Help!!!

If you think your positive then spend your own money and go test. We are not going to change what we've said.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

I was hoping you wouldn't change the assesments I have gotten, I just wanted to know if that makes a difference in the assesments given or not. I don't know if the deep cleaning of my gums means that my risk was higher therotically or not, thats what I was asking.