Someone who has a good love will have a strong desire to please those he or she loves. This is evident in children and how easy they are to teach, largely based - at that age - on a desire to please. Of course this desire may remain into adulthood for learning, but perhaps increasingly transforms from a desire to please immediately and directly into a desire to be useful and to serve, thus to learning useful things that will allow them to serve others out of love. Of course, lower forms of love may also be at play here - such as the desire to live a comfortable life, have an easy job, become wealthy or powerful etc.The desire to please as motivated by good love is also evident in how boys show off in front of girls they like - seeking to amuse or please them (often foolishly) with their behaviours.

However, good love and the desire to please can be perverted into bad activities if not encouraged in healthy ways. For example, if boys find they cannot please (or usefully serve) their parents or society (i.e behave in a way that pleases - for whatever reason) they may turn to where they can please - and that maybe pleasing their peers in gangs engaged in unlawful or destructive activities. Girls may also feel inadequate to please people in healthy ways, perhaps turning to unhealthy ways, such as dressing or behaving in a sexualised matter. This may be more likely to happen if they live in a society where such things are seen as acceptable and in fact pleasing to some men. Thus advertisements and magazines that promote such images of women as pleasing in some way place such girls at increased risk of following such a path.

(of course sexualised behaviour and dressing may be motived by other things eg: vanity, lust, power over others etc. but that is not say that girls and women should dress drably!)

Similarly, advertisements and magazines depicting certain negative behaviours of men as somewhat pleasing to their male peers or to women may increase the risk of boys and men emulating these behaviours.

The desire to please is such a powerful force because it lies at the very heart of good love. And as such it is attractive to those who seek to manipulate it. If healthy outlets are not found, then someone with a strong love will find unhealthy outlets. And this is the danger many face in our society as result of perhaps absent parents - whom are not there to be pleased, or who not have time to allow their children to please them - or perhaps as a result of lack of employment, which denies young people the ability to serve others meaningingfully and out of love, or perhaps they are employed but treated in such a way by employers and customers that it is impossible to please these people, thus also denying them a healthy expression of love.

All of these negative influences are increasingly features of today's society that place more and more people at risk.