Tip #3 on the countdown for partying like a pro: You know how to introduce yourself. This may seem so simple, but it is so important, and often overlooked. It only takes seconds for people to judge you, so make the first contact count. Remember: this is not just about you. It’s about your impact

When it comes to work, many people are great at talking a good game. They say what should be done and when. But when it comes to action—to moving the ball forward successfully and getting things done? Not so much. Most people want to be the thinkers—the strategists. The ideas people. Very few are terrific

“If you don’t like change, you’re going to like irrelevance even less.”—General Eric Shinseki I recently heard this quote at a conference, and found it fitting this Memorial Day weekend as it comes from a war hero who is the first Asian-American 4-star general. The rate of change in the world has never been this

At a recent start-up/founder breakfast, the topic of networking came up. A few of the founders asked “Why should I network, if my main target is investors?” For over three decades, I have helped people become more confident and successful at work. Success depends largely on our ability to grow and change without feeling vulnerable

What you say when you talk to yourself is very powerful. You can make your own thoughts and words work for you—or against you–even in the midst of a hectic day. Awareness is the first key, so, the minute you feel yourself getting anxious and stressed, recognize any negative messages you’re sending yourself. Then, substitute

“A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes.” —Mahatma Gandhi Truer words were never spoken. Works for women too! 😉 You cannot control what happens to you. The only thing you can control is you—your thoughts and how you react to things. Confidence comes from self control. So, gain

“The gap between promises and results is widespread and clear. The gap nobody knows is the gap between what a company’s leaders want to achieve and the ability of their organization to achieve it.”—Larry Bossidy, former CEO, Honeywell and General Electric The gap nobody knows is bridged by day-to-day operations. Everything comes from it. It’s

I recently sat in on a staff meeting, and, afterwards, one of the team’s former colleagues dropped by to say hello. This colleague had moved on to a new company, and was very unhappy with her choice. She kept voicing her negative opinion loudly, which included warning everyone to avoid her current employer at all

There are so many definitions of confidence. Here are just 2 for starters. They appeared when I googled the question: “Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something.” “Confidence is an expectation of a positive outcome.” People have often asked me what my definition of confidence is, so here

“Good ideas are easy. Execution is hard.”—Guy Kawasaki, Entrepreneur, and author of The Art of the Start, 2.0. I couldn’t agree more! Kawasaki was featured on Bloomberg television this morning, discussing how hard execution is for startups. Guess what? It’s hard for small to mid-sized businesses and large corporations too. What many people fail to

I just revisited Amy Cuddy’s TED talk on power posing—it has almost 24 million views! That’s pretty powerful in itself! Cuddy’s video demonstrates how our body language not only influences how others see us; it also influences how we see ourselves. She illustrates how having a posture of power—standing tall, legs apart, hands on hips,

Would you ask for that raise you’ve always wanted? Would you tell a lazy co-worker he’s not pulling his weight? Or, would you finally look for a better job—one that pays you what you’re worth? Well—whatever it is: Do it. Don’t wait. Don’t wait until you have enough confidence. Confidence only comes when you stop