Manifesting an “edgy” fantasy is something that is negotiated and proceeds only if all parties involved actively consent to participate.

In the BDSM realm, the gray area between fantasy and reality is full of negotiation: mutual expression of desire, consent, agreements to terms of safety, arrangements for after-care, etc.

However, transparency in motive and careful negotiation of how to bring the fantasy to fruition is absolutely necessary.For instance, if I have a fantasy of being overpowered and ravaged, it absolutely does not mean that I have a desire to be abducted and sexually assaulted by a stranger.That fantasy might simply be a daydream I use to explore my own private pleasure.Also just ‘Thinking Out Loud’ here, tone down the emoji usage would you? Maybe we can connect whilst listening to ÷ (Divide), sharing tear stained tissues and a tub of Ben and Jerry’s.We could even take a ‘Photograph’ to commemorate the magical moment. Evidently, this tinder match does not speak the language of love.