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That sounds more like you both decided that you weren't meant to be together right now... which makes me pretty skeptical that you'll be meant to be together in 3 years. I think you guys made the right decision. (If you guys both feel comfortable calling off the engagement, then you definitely shouldn't' be getting married.)

The whole "if we're meant to be together"/let fate decide is a romantic notion, but people often change independently, get lonely, and meet new people. Three years is a long time, and when you're out of law school, you'll be looking for your first job so the your career-his career will once again be butting heads.

It's pretty unlikely that a first job and law schools wouldn't be able to mix to find the best possible balance. Jobs galore in Boston, D.C. and schools all up and down the US News Rankings are present in those cities. Married people often have to strike that balance or, at the least, take turns with whose career comes first.

I don't mean to suggest that everyone should stay with their significant other during law school (and in this thread I urged Tetris not to take his SO) but the formerly-engaged couple most probably does not offer a successful model for staying together through law school.

There's also a chance that at least some of these people have some sort of honor code violation that they're required to disclose to potential employers. I imagine there are at least one or two people in each class who get into trouble...

Tetris,If you're at the "she can choose to go with me or to stay" stage, then please don't let her go with you. Making a commitment like that should require an element of risk/compromise for both parties, and the couple should balance both people's interests.

If you're not even willing to apply to schools betting on a future together or to make a school selection with her in mind, I hope you'd end it rather than make yourselves miserable your entire 1L year.

Very few firms hire on name alone and zero would say that they do. Just because they interview at Howard doesn't mean they give equal opportunity to interview. Many firms set standards at schools outside the T-14 (you must have GPA of X.XX, you must be top 10% of class) that they don't have at top schools.

So they'll obviously go deeper into the class at Harvard than at Howard. But even a horrible person at Harvard who is a disaster in interviews has a fantastic chance of getting a good job.

An interview is up to the individual to impress the firm, but your school comes as part of your individual package... X Law School is always interviewing with you.

I got an interview based entirely on my school yesterday. The guy said he hadn't even had a chance to look at my resume yet; he'd just seen the school and decided to interview me.

I think the poster meant "being black at Howard" provides more opportunities than being white at Howard?Edit: NM.

Apparently minority recruitment is a very big part of the 1L job search -- with many firms ONLY hiring from "diversity summer programs" and numerous 1L scholarships limited to diversity recipients -- but the benefit of being a minority student tapers off some after that.

My guess, though, is that the vast majority of these firms are only interested in the top minority students from Howard and the firms probably don't dig as deep into the class as they do at T14s with comparable numbers of firms interviewing on campus.

Next August is still a long ways away. Be sure you've applied to some schools that take a serious relationship into account. Apply to a school or two that would let you guys stay put or a school or two that provides adequate job opportunities or something your (potential) spouse would want. (His/her family is from NY? Apply to 1 or 2 up there.)

For about $300 you can have the option to stay together in a way that lets both of you have opportunities. It also may be worth putting down multiple deposits (so don't say "no thanks!" to a school until you're sure) to have the options available until later in the game.

This is something I wish I'd done when I applied for Round 1, and my failure to plan ahead led to Round 2.