Arielle: In addition to healing your heart from past relationships, you need to create a clear intention. The analogy I like to use it this: When you walk into your favorite coffee hangout what is the first thing you do? Place your order. You confidently tell the barista, “I will have a tall, half-caff, low-fat mocha latte, with a splash of non-sugar vanilla syrup to go.” The barista smiles, writes your order on the side of a cup and takes your money. Within minutes you are walking out the door with the precise, delicious cup of coffee that you ordered. Ordering up a soul mate from the Universe works in a similar way. It’s not always as instantaneous but it can be just as precise. But to have the Universe to deliver your perfect soul mate, you must first clearly place your order. This isn’t quite as easy as it sounds. You must first search your heart for what you really, really desire. By now you know what you don’t want but you need to ask for what you do want. In the Soulmate Kit we explain how to place your order by creating a detailed list and we then provide a variety of rituals to do to release your list to the Universe.
The more you can feel like you are living your dreams today, the faster they will manifest in your life. Find small ways to begin living your dreams today. If you dream of finding love, take yourself on solo dates and find ways to give to others. If you dream of having financial abundance, wear your best clothes and take care of your belongings. If you dream of traveling, explore your own city and try new activities. All of these small actions will begin to create a new feeling inside of you, which will in turn attract opportunities for the fulfillment of your dreams.
Release the fears and prejudices that come from previous experiences. “Heaven’s not beyond the clouds; it’s just beyond our fears.” Regret and fear are the thieves that rob us of today. Accept responsibility for your life. Know that there are no victims. This means really forgive and forget, live without opinions, throw out your old baggage and live fully present in the moment at hand while following your heart’s guidance and desires for tomorrow.

Commit to eradicating the limiting beliefs that are stopping you from believing and knowing that you’re worthy of what you want. This takes courage. Your belief system and believing with conviction is what allows your desires to become a reality. Have the courage to look inside to identify all the limiting beliefs that might be holding you back. Whether they’re fears relating to commitment, fears relating to financial abundance, fears relating to your past and future. Get clear about these.

"Law of Attraction is very simple. You have to know what you want. You focus on the positive aspects of what you need, desire, or want to manifest. Positive attracts positive; negative attracts negative. This is where the saying 'misery loves company' came from. Lower-level energies will flock together. If you want to manifest, you envision rising above these energies and staying in the positive. ... This can be further detailed by saying that if you think it, it will come. Words have power and thoughts can be energy," according to Estes.
Freud might suggest that you are using a psychological strategy known as a projection to disguise your true feelings about the new co-worker. This defense mechanism involves projecting your feelings onto someone else. The reality is that you deeply dislike the new co-worker, but you realize that these feelings are not shared by your officemates and would be deemed socially unacceptable.

The easiest way to become a vibrational match is to focus on creating positive emotions of love, joy, appreciation, and gratitude throughout your day. You can also practice feeling the emotions you would be experiencing if you already had what you wanted. You can also create these emotions through the thoughts that you think. In fact, your thoughts are creating feelings all the time, so it’s important to catch yourself when your emotions turn negative and turn them to positive emotions.

Re-evaluate your goals. Progress will come slowly but it will come. Given the right sort of determination and consistent effort, your goals may eventually come into clear view. Even before you achieve your goals however, you may find that your goals are in need of re-evaluation. By this point, you'll have put far more time and thought into manifesting your desires than you did in the planning stages. With that in mind, you may have a clearer idea of what you actually want now than you did.

Because if there’s a “secret” that can change your life, it’s this: We’re all connected — from the smallest living being to the farthest star in the cosmos. Of course, that may be the oldest secret there is. But it remains a secret in that many of us live our entire lives without discovering its true transformative power. You can use this secret to manifest the life of your dreams, but it will also change what the life of your dreams means to you.
You can choose to be happy by choosing to think positive thoughts. Focus on what you are happy about. Imagine how you would feel if your desire is a reality now. Allow yourself to feel the excitement, exhilaration, joy, gratitude and happiness now. This feelings are what you remember when you re intending your desired reality as they become your set point. Whenever you feel good or happy, you become a powerful magnet to rapidly attract your desire. Happiness is a choice, you can choose to be happy in any moment.
Be persistent and consistent.[16] Persistence is the keyword when it comes to realizing anyone's dreams. Set a firm amount of time you'll invest each day in your dreams. Even if it's just an hour or two at the start, the time will add up if you stick to it every day. Something like an hour won't feel like anything on its own, but by the end of a month, thirty hours will have gone by. That is enough time to get you closer towards just about any goal.
"Though this may seem counterintuitive, my advice toward manifesting your ideal relationship is to spend plenty of time really getting to know yourself first," Amanda Dobra Hope, holistic life coach and pre-marital counselor, tells Bustle. You can do that by writing in a journal, meditating, or standing in front of a mirror and asking yourself questions about how you feel and how your day is going. Once you really know and love yourself, it's much easier to attract the healthy, positive, and long-lasting relationship that you really want.