If you want to last longer during sex and you’re not really suffering from a medical condition, then these tips will definitely help you last a lot longer. After all, you need to remember that the experience of sex is more in the head than in between your legs.

Don’t let premature ejaculation get in the way of a great sex life. Instead, learn to get better at controlling your ejaculation and everything will feel just fine.

And here’s a startup tip for you, if you ever end up ejaculating within a few minutes, don’t hate yourself for it. Lie back and rest for a half an hour or so. You’ll be ready by then and raring to go, and you’ll definitely last a lot longer and satisfy her better too!

Everyday tips to have sex for longer

Here are a few everyday tips that can help you enjoy better and longer sex over time. Just like a long term diet and workout plan, these everyday tips won’t help you tonight, but they’ll definitely make you a sex god potential over time.

#1 Masturbate regularly. If you haven’t ejaculated for a long time, it’ll be harder to hold on while having sex. Spend some alone time with yourself at least a few times a week so you never let the horniness get out of hand!

#2 Controlled ejaculation. Now every guy masturbates now and then. But how often do you do it? If you have some time by yourself, get busy with the little guy, but don’t rush it. Spend at least an hour watching porn or thinking naughty while masturbating.

But each time you’re on the verge of ejaculating, hold yourself back and think about something else. The more you practice holding back during masturbation, the better you’d get at controlling your ejaculation. [Read: Circumstances when size does matter to women]

#3 Speak to your doctor. If you’re having a really difficult time making sex last, perhaps you need to speak with your doctor for an immediate temporary cure. Your doctor can prescribe a few pills for you, which can help you last longer while you work on the other techniques at the same time.

#4 Workout and kegels. Workout everyday and you’ll feel a lot better in no time. Working out improves your blood flow and makes you feel fitter. And even if you lose an erection because you shot the gun too soon, you’ll be ready again in no time.

Another alternative are kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are a set of exercises that focus on the pelvic muscles. When you contract and relax your muscles around your pelvis, the pubococcygeus muscle of your pelvis get stronger over time. And that helps you get rock hard erections, and gives you better control of your ejaculations. [Read: 25 surefire ways to motivate yourself to work out and stick to it]

#5 Communication. Don’t let your early explosions frustrate you. After all, you’re not intentionally trying to finish yourself off early. Speak to your lover and help each other understand what’s going on in both of your minds.

Sexual tips to last longer during sex

You’ve read about how to hold on your hard on for longer using the everyday tips. But now we go straight into the act. So what can you do while having sex to avoid an early ejaculation? Find out here.

#1 Overexcitement. Avoid aggressive or wild angry sex. When you lose control of your erection, that’s when you’d lose the erection completely. Try to indulge in calm, slow and romantic sex. By avoiding fast and aggressive sex, you’d be able to last longer because you won’t experience a sudden burst of sexual energy in an instant. [Read: How to make out with a girl on the first date and make her love it]

#2 Take control of sex. When two people have sex, the one on top is usually in control of the movements. So try to spend more time on top. When you’re on top, you can slow down or stop moving completely when you feel like you’re on the verge of ejaculating. By holding back when you feel like ejaculating, you can last a lot longer because you’re in control of the sex. [Read: Sex tips for girls to ride a man and look sexy doing it]

#3 Shift your weight. When you’re on top of your girl and feel like you’re going to blow out, place your forearms on either side of her and shift your body weight onto your arms. Stop moving in and out and just wait for your little guy to feel relaxed again. You’ll be able to push ahead within a few seconds.

#4 Be in sync with your partner. This is where your lover can help you. If she ever feels you throbbing when you’re inside of her, tell her to avoid moving too aggressively *or even stop moving completely* so you can regain your control. At times, as hard as you try, you do need some help from your woman to make sex last longer.

#5 Control the surrounding. Have sex in a comfortable place where you won’t feel overexcited. Completely avoid anything that’s too exciting like public sex or anything else that turns you on a lot. If you feel most relaxed in your bed, stick to the bedroom until you get better control of your orgasms. [Read: 7 sexiest types of sex you can ever have]

#6 Don’t change your pace too often. Changing the pace of the to and fro motion when you’re inside her feels good for both of you. But when you do that, you’d also end up ejaculating faster because the change in pace makes you more horny.

#7 In and out. Some couples love taking the little guy out of the lady garage often and putting him back in while having sex. They do this in porn movies all the time too.

#8 Shallow moves. Once you’ve penetrated your girl, don’t go ramming her like you’re a porn star on heat. Go shallow and easy. Move just a few inches in and out of her unless you’re feeling very confident, because longer and deeper moves of the shaft will excite your little guy a lot faster.

#9 Wear a condom. It numbs most guys down there. Don’t opt for the ultrathin condoms. Instead, opt for ones that’ll help prevent you from ejaculating faster by numbing you down there.

#10 Don’t obsess about your orgasm. One of the biggest reasons why so many guys suffer from this on a regular basis is because they spend so much time obsessing over this little problem of theirs.

These things happen to everyone all the time. And you’ll definitely get over it sometime soon. So until then, ignore the thought of premature ejaculation before or during sex by keeping your mind occupied elsewhere. [Read: Real reasons why losing an erection bothers men so much]

#11 Control your breathing. Breathing plays a big part in controlling your ejaculation. If you’re on the verge of ejaculation and want to hold it back, focus on your breathing and try to release your breath slowly through your mouth in a controlled manner when you’re inside her.

Here are four things you can do to prepare yourself for longer sex, when you’re in the act but haven’t penetrated her yet.

#1 Be vocal. Your woman may assume you won’t be able to last long and may try to finish up really fast. But if you feel like having sex for longer, let your partner know about it. Both of you should take it slow and easy, and communicate at the same time about when to stop moving or when to slow down further. By doing this, it’ll help you last longer and bring both of you closer.

#2 Longer foreplay. Always spend more time on foreplay. By getting straight into the act immediately, the excitement and sexual tension may build up too fast which could end up overexciting you and leading to faster ejaculations.

#3 Try new sex positions. Some sex positions will stimulate you faster and make you orgasm really fast, while some positions can help you last a lot longer. The missionary position is a safe one, but a few unconventional positions may just help you better. But you’ll never know what works until you try. [Read: How tantric sex can help you have sex for a lot longer]

#4 Masturbate before sex. Have a very quick quickie with yourself an hour or so before sex. Be so quick about it that you hardly even notice a significant ejaculation. Sex isn’t a planned activity, so ejaculating an hour earlier may not be an easy thing to do all the time. [Read: How to get any girl horny just by sitting next to her]

But if you and your girl have decided to make love later that night, slip into the bathroom in the morning or afternoon and finish yourself off. You’ll be sensitive and ready after a few hours, and you’ll be able to hold on a lot better too.

Yes, it’s true that premature ejaculation is frustrating and demeaning. But use these 20 tips on how to last longer during sex and you may just be able to turn your life around and have a great sex life with just a little effort!

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Christopher Villa
A tortured artist, Christopher Villa enjoys dissecting human behavior, admiring and scorning them at the same time. While he does admit he has a one-track mind ...

If I am getting close and I am/she is not ready to come yet, I usually just close my eyes and think about random stuff that has nothing to do with sex. My personal favorite is thinking of a beach scene with beach balls rolling around and a big girl in a one piece bathing suit yelling at her children. It sounds odd, but works very well for me. Good luck guys, you are definatly going to need it haha.

Most male have the problem of not last long enough durning sex.One way to last longer is to not think of premature ejaculation.Another way a male can last long is to have sex while showering.Shower sex can last a very long time. You can also masturbate before to last longer.

Like many guys I lost my virginity when I was 16. I was afraid to have intercourse, for fear of not being ‘great in bed.’ From age 12, I learned to get girls off by fingering and boob play.
I wasn’t ugly, and many girls, 11 years through to 15 lined up to have fun. I had many excuses ready for not bonking. I was raised a Catholic which helped.
I enventualy met a girl , a little younger, who would not take no for an answer. She was much more
experienced than myself, and sexually active. I assisted her to multiple orgasms over a couple of nights, and had intercourse with her at her ultimate demand.
I was so sensitive by then…she also had been busy, that matters were completed within a minute.
She dumped me the next morning, and I swore then that I would become the best lover I could possibly be. I was fortunate subsequently, in that I met a multi orgasmic teen. ( Hi Moira M.)
With Moira, I found I could focus on her orgasms, share them in my mind, cum in my mind without actually cumming physically. Even if I did cum initially, she was so stimulating, we made love for many hours subsequently.
I have accomplished this with many, many hundreds of women.
I quickly learned to focus on what my lady was experiencing, rather than what I was. I am totally musically inept but I think making love is like playing music. One plays the chords, by caressing the strings or keys sensitively, for the music thus produced.
I would like to think I am not unique in being able to focus on ones partners pleasure, thereby prolonging my own. I think the Indian Tantric sex concept is similar. I discovered it for myself.
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If it is possible to think of my previous post as short? I did try for fear of running out of site space.
By getting into the head space, it is not difficult to make love for 10 or 12 hours with a responsive partner. Sex is for some though like a drug. Some women I have known, lose themselves entirely, for many multi orgasmic hours. Some revert somehow to child like speech and actions. It is essential you respect, cherish, and protect your lover should they reach this state.
For those of you who think my posts are a lot of nonsense, I say, believe as you will.
For those who have experienced such, both male and female, I say, isn’t enlightenment fantastic?
Neil, Dunedin, New Zealand.