The Staff

Dossie Easton

Dossie Easton, a long time player on the San Francisco sex-positive scene, is co-author with Janet Hardy of The Ethical Slut, The New Bottoming Book and The New Topping Book, When Someone You Love Is Kinky, a book designed to inform outsiders about BDSM lifestyles, and Radical Ecstasy: SM Journeys to Transcendence. Starting out as an educator with San Francisco Sex Information in 1973, she is now a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in San Francisco working with individuals, couples and more, and it is her great privilege to work as supervisor for interns preparing to serve the often underserved communities of sexual outsiders. Currently she has brought together a team of sex educators to develop a series of classes on consent to be presented through the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco. Her article Shadowplay, originally published in the anthology Safe, Sane, and Consensual, has been revised and updated for publication in the Journal of Humanistic Psychology this coming year. She is terrified that it is within the realm of possibility that the world at large might start seeing her as respectable. Visit her at http://www.dossieeaston.com.

Ms. WillowKat

Ms. WillowKat (pronouns zie/zir) is an Ethical Sluts Classes co-creator and co-lead lead instructor with Dossie Easton. Zie is a trained Alive Program facilitator and has facilitated the topsalive workgroup from its inception. As Pacific Coast and International Power Exchange 2015 title holder, as part of a triad, Ms. WillowKat has presented at numerous conferences and educational programs such as Lupercalia, Leather Quest, IMsLBB, and Dark Odyssey on subjects including healthy communication, consent, power exchange, polyamory, and the sensual and healing power of the whip. Zie brings zir creative passion for healing to zir endeavors as an experienced Pro Dom, shamanic priestess, Master, Radical Rehab kinky caregiver, and death doula. Nicknamed “the Hurricane,” zie is known for zir dynamic style of teaching, performing, and holding ritual space. Zie is skilled at nurturing and comforting those in need, and believes deeply in fostering a sex-positive, nonviolent consent culture based on relationships of true equality. Zie heads a growing leather family and holds membership in several others. Zir passions include painting, teaching, writing, ritual, D/s, sex magic, and BDSM edge play. Her singletail skill is grace personified.

Kaia Anderson-Buckley has been a member of the BDSM Community since its flowering in the late1970s. Together, she and her triad created the first San Francisco women’s BDSM group, Cardea, a precursor to the groups that followed. Her early background introduced her to the powerful spiritual and healing energies that BDSM offers, activating her own sex-negative healing journey. She is beyond grateful to have learned from the best!

This early foundation led Kaia to a Pro-Domme and Mentoring career. She is currently a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. The heart of her practice involves a combination of counseling, mentoring, hypnotherapy and other related techniques. She finds that the root cause of many sexual concerns is often best explored through trance work. She creates a bridge between her formal hypnosis training and her experiences of the powerful, multidimensional trance states inherent In BDSM.

Misha Bonaventura is the founder of Clearing Conversations (www.clearingconversations.com) a non-violent communication based conflict resolution practice. She leads the Safety and Consent team for Soul Play Festivals (www.soulplay.co) and just joined the new Burning Man mediation team offered to the Burning Man volunteers onsite and throughout the year. She also teaches Communication & Conflict for Navigating Consent with Dossie Easton and her team. And runs Trustable Sluts (www.trustablesluts.com), a group for sexually free, socially responsible women. She coaches through the lens of nervous system awareness, trauma healing, and non-violent communication to build self awareness and trust between people.

Sara Delphine

Sara Delphine (a.k.a. Sarabella) is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Sex-
Positive Educator and an Actress in the Screen Actors Guild.Sarabella’s personal journey into the world of Kink and BDSM has been transformative and
healing. Her cathartic experiences during BDSM play has helped her to reclaim her sexuality,
erotic connection and capacity to love.
As a Polyamorous and Kink friendly Practitioner Sarabella is available to help guide and
support you on your own path of intimacy, love and growth. She is dedicated and
passionate about creating and nurturing safe spaces for play and exploration.
Sarabella is honored and excited to be a part of the The Ethical Slut Classes team as a
contributor, educator and co-presenter of Hypno-Kink with Kaia Anderson-Buckley.
You can reach Sarabella through her web site http://www.SaraDelphine.com

Aren

Aren is Pacific Coast and International Power Exchange 2015 as part of a triad. An active member of several leather families, Aren is a graduate of Leather Quest San Francisco’s class of 2011, and was Instructor Coach for the Leather Quest classes of 2016 and 2018. Aren brings a unique combination of queer leather sensibilities and trickster energy to their work and play. Residing in the SF Bay Area with several human and animal members of their intimate network, Aren balances introvert tendencies with an intricate polyamorous life.

Dr. Alison Ash

Sex and Intimacy Coach and founder of TurnON.love

Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and sexual empowerment educator who has been exploring the intricacies of sex and gender for more than a decade. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, Aly helps her clients radically explore and courageously express themselves. Aly designs workshops and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Julie Lehman works as an Associate MFT in Marin County. In her private practice, she specializes in relational traumas, working affirmatively with marginalized sexualities and sex-positive communities. This includes: LGBTQ*, non-normative relationships, open/non-monogamous, polyamory, sex workers, BDSM/kink, leather, fetish, gender-sex nonconformity and fluidity. She also focuses her work on minority stress, depression/anxiety, trauma, grief/loss, couples/multiple-partner relationships, parent/child relationships, family counseling, and ADHD. At The Spahr Center, a nonprofit organization in San Rafael, Julie counsels LGBTQ and HIV-affected clients.

Julie is dedicated to supporting her local communities in sexual health and wellness. She teaches LGBTQ+ cultural sensitivity and clinical considerations to local intern groups, schools, CBO’s, and Marin County sites whenever possible. Julie has served Marin County professionals in several positions over recent years with the aim of increasing cultural awareness of diverse populations. Currently, Julie serves on Marin County’s Cultural Competence Advisory Board and is an active volunteer Cultural Consultant for LGBTQ issues for the County.

Julie is thrilled to be a part of The Ethical Slut classes team to offer such timely and valuable educational opportunities directly to those seeking more positive, consensual, and healing sexual experiences.