With negative beliefs about yourself lodged in your heart, it’s difficult to reach out to others. And it’s hard for others to extend themselves to you.

You become more and more lonely.

Claire, for example, is not happy with herself, or her life. Therefore, it’s difficult to be at gatherings that celebrate others achievements. To simply be with some of her close friends and family, it’s painful because their lives remind her of what she lacks. Feeling inadequate she withdraws from others and becomes more and more isolated.

To have your mind set negatively on yourself, on what you lack, and on your inabilities, effects your entire well being.

Researchers are finding over and again there is significant value in relationship.

The 75 year long Harvard study reveals ~ “it’s the quality, depth, and honesty of your relationships that count. The ability to relax and be seen for who you really are is what’s critical to your happiness and health.”

Research is giving a big AMEN to God’s design for relationships.

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Perhaps you judge yourself as less than someone else. You criticize yourself for not living up to the ideals you want in your life.

Or maybe you don’t feel this at all.

You just feel angry.

Without a positive healthy relationship within, it is difficult to have that with others.

What’s within spills out.

You are not created to live in isolation.

But, you are created to have joy and peace within, and meaningful relationships with others.

Negative self talk often begins in an area where you’ve experienced pain. Whether someone has wronged you intentionally or unintentionally, it’s irrelevant.

The lie was born. From that point on you said, “I can’t”, “I won’t ever”, “I’m not able”.

That’s when your self judgments and criticisms grew within the core of your being, and loneliness stole your own heart from you.

Now you feel like an empty shell.

Loneliness and longing for more connection makes you aware want want more from life.