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Tuesday, 23 February 2016

The thing about
relationships is that no one can be sure of anything. Everyone just goes into
it with a lot of hope and optimism hoping to get the best results out, but what
happens at the end of the day isn't up to anybody. My mother always say- “a kii
gbon to eni ti oun tan ni”; meaning “ you can never be as wise as someone who
goes out of his way to deceive you”. When a guy is determined to lie to you,
use you and dump the remains at the curb, then he certainly will because
you will believe him. Oh, you will have that feeling that something’s off, or
that he’s too good to be true, or that
he isn't right for you. But you will still go ahead and fall stupidly
for him. That’s just a problem we ladies have: we never listen to our guts or
common sense when it comes to a seemingly “perfect gentleman”. Even I have
fallen victim of such circumstance.

Every girl loves to
assume that she is the one; the main chick. We just love to dissuade ourselves
and like to pretend we know for sure. Every other girl our man hooks up with is
the side chick; the other woman. Rather than just wake up and find a way out of
the relationship that most likely won’t lead anywhere, we just pray and keep
hoping that he forsakes every other girl for us. Sometimes though, we are right
and those sort of miracles happen. Let’s be frank with each other though, it
only seems to happen once in fifty relationships. Most men I know will leave
both the main and side chicks, and marry someone entirely different at the end
of it all.

A friend told me that
when a relationship has been going on strong for about 3 months and you do not
know his home, you have every right to find out why. I say; I only need to know
from the beginning of the relationship what my status with him is- it’s my right.
If you are comfortable with being the other lady, then feel free. Otherwise,
just move on.

We all know that men
have conflicting signs when in relationships and an insecure man sometimes look
like a cheating man. They can both exhibit the same signals so one can never
be too sure which it is. You should also know signs to watch out for when you
are definitely the other woman. When your man ends your calls abruptly just
because another call came in, that’s something to be curious about. A wonderful
man will always take a minute to ask you to excuse him before taking the call
and you’ll get an explanation from him. A cheating man never respects his side
chick, but accords his main girl with a high level of fear and respect. If a
man is not afraid of losing you and doesn't see the need to hide his indiscretions
from you, then you just may not be so important to him.

When you’re the main
girl, you don’t need to guess or worry, he’ll do everything he can to make you
know how special you are.

And if you happen to find out you were the side chick all along, then please do the women race a favour and just move on. I'm the type that believes there is a special someone for every woman, and if you haven't gotten your happy ending, then it means your someone is yet to arrive. A cheating man is never worth it no matter which angle you look from!

Welcome to my world... I am a girl with no degree in writing but with a strong passion. Writing is my way of expressing myself so, I hope you have a wonderful time reading my posts. Do sit back, get a soda, and enjoy!

Sunday, 14 February 2016

A man once told me, “Iheoma if you’re going to love, then do it right. Find a love that never dies, that never looses its electricity. The kind of love that’s worth fighting for”.

These past years, I have not gotten much inspiration to love, but I kept those words at the back of my mind. I always told myself that everything in life was overrated, especially love. Eventually I stopped thinking about it, and I didn’t care much for emotion. I assumed my life was going on point, nothing was missing. I just wanted to be someone important and make my father proud.

And then along came a beautiful young stranger. His gaze was all it took to draw me in. When I first met him, something told me he was different and I just knew deep in my heart that we were meant to cross paths. I suddenly began to yearn for more. He started to grow on me. He made me laugh and took me on a beautiful ride. Just when things got serious and true, I put up a wall. I told myself I was doing it for my own good, that I was merely protecting my own heart. Yes I admit it, his love had begun to fill me up. I put up strong defences just to douse the flame. I was confused, here’s a guy that loves me to the moon and back. He makes my tummy bubble with excitement when calling and makes butterflies dance in me when I hear him laugh. Yet, I found an excuse to stay away.

Love so strong, so big it never fades: that’s the love you promised me. Love is a difficult emotion to handle and I certainly didn’t handle mine well. I pushed you away in the bid to save myself, I hurt myself just because I fear heartbreak.

Lukman, I’m sorry for being stupid.
If it’s okay to start again, I would like to start afresh!.
Since we didn’t get it right the first time, we can do it again. We have a whole lifetime ahead of us to practice with.
I have realised that it’s okay for you to want everything I have to offer.
It’s alright to want to catch up on what we’ve missed in the past.
It’s okay for me to take a chance and give my all
It’s okay to open my heart to new possibilities
It’s okay to fall,
And say I love you.
I’ll throw all my cards on the table this time, not because I know how it will end...
Its just that I am having so much fun, and really there’s no place I would rather be.

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