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While the definition of what makes a person attractive is subjective, there's one common trait that can consistently increase your chances of feeling attractive: confidence. Confidence is many things. Lots of traits provide an air of confidence such as being funny, smart, creative, responsible, etc. It's when we believe in ourselves and our abilities that we appear most confident - and that's universally attractive.

Work On Your Confidence & Watch Yourself Get Healthier

Becoming more confident does have some proven benefits on our brains. The study of Positive Psychology proves that the brain physically changes when we think more positively about ourselves and our situation. Studies show our mental state impacts health too. Thus, investing time, energy, and even money into becoming more confident can help our well-being. In short, confidence = attractiveness = healthier you.

5 Ways to Feel More Confident Fast

Get a handle on your Life Balance Grid. When life feels out of whack, we don't feel good about ourselves. Taking an inventory of what areas of our lives need help can bring things into better balance.

Invest in up-skilling. Learning new skills makes us feel good. Taking a class or certification that makes us more of a subject matter expert in our fields can greatly increase our confidence.

Volunteer for leadership roles. It's scary, I know. But leading a project or a team can really help us build our skills and make us feel more confident around our peers. When we learn to lead, we can command respect.

Give yourself a mini-makeover. It's not about being pretty or handsome. It's about taking care of ourselves by updating our professional looks as a way to show we respect ourselves. A new hairstyle or outfit can give us that boost of confidence need to smile more and engage better with people at work.

Eat well. How we feel about ourselves is definitely impacted by what we put in our bodies. Foods that make us feel lousy hurt our confidence. Learning to eat well and wanting to put the right fuel in our bodies shows self-respect - a key ingredient to being confident.

Being Attractive to Employers Means Taking Ownership of Our Professional Happiness

We are all born with the ability to develop our capacity to delight, please, charm and allure. Yes, some people have more natural beauty. BUT, as we can see from the definition above, beauty and being attractive are two different things. When we realize our potential to increase our attractiveness to employers by building our confidence, the sky is the limit in what we can do in our careers. Besides being healthier and calling out sick less at work, we can also get excited about our future and build a career that is deeply satisfying. It's called taking ownership of your professional happiness.

Now, tell me what you are doing to take ownership of your professional happiness and building your confidence.

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Peter Danberger

Just another puzzle in the "work hard all your life and you will be successful" BS that the rich and industry and "the chosen people" want us to believe. Ideally, we would all be ideal clones, with perfect looks, education, health, and straight-lined resumes. Time we are throwing a wrench into this tribal dictatorship.

"Being attractive is a state of mind", it has little to do with the physical part of it. If you wake up every morning driven to accomplish your personal goals, with a positive attitude and confidence in yourself you are the epitome of "attractive". The outfit and a great pair of heels usually helps me but at the end of the day you have to do what's best for your own personal well being. If you are healthy and happy with yourself it speaks volumes and directly projects on your successes at work. Happy Friday!

I really liked your statement "every person had the ability to please, charm and delight." I believe beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. Looks don't matter always you can attract anyone by your intelligence and confidence.

The article does bring about a few valid points but I feel that this article is missing one important element. Yes a person that is seen as being visually stimulating may have a leg up on those who are not seen as being “hot”, but that variable is dependent on the job as well. However, the variable that would seem to make more sense would be dependent on the candidate being an extrovert. The article states, “Confidence is many things. Lots of traits provide an air of confidence such as being funny, smart, creative, responsible, etc. It's when we believe in ourselves and our abilities that we appear most confident - and that's universally attractive.” This is a statement directly correlated with the idea of what a successful business person should be. This was the concept pushed by the late Dale Carnegie, who transformed what characteristics a successful business person should possess in the eye of the business industry. I would debate in saying the idea of “a more attractive person” should be replaced by “a person that is an extrovert”. Extroverts are often more prone to riskier behavior and have built an ego to support any stumbles they may encounter. The advantage conundrum for my theory would ask the question of, is an employer more likely to hire an attractive person over an extrovert that is not attractive? Furthermore, which variable would be more important when determining the success of a person, being “hot” or an “extrovert”?

Oh I can agree this is true, overall. But I'll disagree with point #4. I am one of those people who are not "easy on the eyes"... I am unattractive, to say the least. And I know I've been passed over for opportunities, many times for people who were less qualified. So I strive very hard to get my reputation in front me. Upskilling and taking on the tasks no one wants has led me to a productive career, but in this still faltering job market, I fear having to compete with others who look as if they're magazine cover-worthy.

The whole idea of profile pics on LinkedIn is ridiculous; we were told for years it is inappropriate to put a photo on a paper resume, but it's insisted to put one on a virtual resume?

How can you "know" you were passed over for less qualified people? Did you see their resume? Did you sit in on their interview. From one ugly duckling to another, nobody is ugly, some just require more effort.