14 Things Men Think About During Sex

The first time my friend ever said "I love you" to his girlfriend, he blurted it out during sex. Most guys have it right, though; either they don't think, or they think simply: "Yeah, getting laid is AWESOME." Aside from hoping she enjoys it and wondering she's evaluating my performance, my mind dredges up the following strange things during sex:

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How Did I Get Here?

I build a mental bread crumb trail up to the moment of triumph: What did I say/do over the last 24 hours? If I could find common steps between all the times I got laid, I'd have a reliable system.

What if I Miss?

I've wondered, mid-thrust: What if I miss and hit a pelvic bone? I'd sustain major injury to myself and, depending on how hard I thrusted, I might even hurt her!

...or I'll suddenly remember where I misplaced my keys in 2004. Perhaps my mind is just racing and jumbled.

Don't Ejaculate, but STAY HARD!

All guys want to be Energizer Bunnies. So, when things are hot and heavy, I just think of anything other than what's turning me on to keep from ejaculating too soon. But it's a delicate balance because I don't want to compromise my erection! Lost erection is a disaster!

I pay close attention to reactions. She may like certain things, which I'll put in my memory bank as "go-to" moves. If she dislikes something I'll stop immediately and never do it again, and I'll feel incredibly awkward. Trial and error — so sad that that is my method.

Time Parameters

Super-long sex gets awkward like a drunk, rambling best man speech at a wedding. If it's too long, I'll wonder if she wants to get it over with. And, if it's too short a time period, I'm embarrassed and I'm pretty sure she's not happy.

It's no coincidence that my sexual encounters have not been satisfying, because I worry too much and don't lose myself in the moment. Let me toss the question back to you: What are women thinking about during sex? Are we constantly having our performance evaluated?

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