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July 26, 2008

Stick A Fork In Me, But Am I Done?

Front View:The belly. Oh is it growing. I'm finding myself farther & farther away from the sink as I wash dishes. A swift leg kick/pump helps me get off the bed every morning (and about three times in the middle of the night for potty breaks, too.) I waddle. Majorly. And I think she's going to be early.I don't know what it is but I just have this feeling that sooner than later in the next six weeks my baby will want to be born. I might be wrong. But it's just this feeling. And I am so not ready. I mean, I do have all the stuff. It's just all piled in a closet.

I want to have at least some sort of order before she gets here. And time is sifting like sand through my fingers. I love it. I love that I'll have that little girl in my arms so very soon. I just want to have my head not in this place of wackadoodleness.

Side View:

And I guess the only other thing on my mind today is that yesterday alone I had three different people respond with an assuming ugly tone "you're done now" when they hear I am finally having our girl. I never said we were done. I never said we weren't. But FYI just do not assume that because I have three boys and am now supposed to be having a girl that we must have only been trying for a girl all along and now that we "got her" we are done. There. I said it. That feels better.

Oh, and also last night someone actually pointed and said "look at her belly button!" I'm a show, I tell you.

Your belly is gorgeous. You should seriously be on that show "Runway Moms" about the pregnant models. I loved meeting you in the Mom Select swag suite and I promise to never ask you to babysit my kids on a Saturday night! xoxox Jess

Please tell me it was a child and not an adult that pointed out your bellybutton... When I was pregnant, my 8th graders recoiled with various shock and horror at my bellybutton, but I excused them for it for being 8th graders (and also, I figured it was good birth control).

I think you are beautiful and my belly button is already flat at 11 weeks, so Im sure it will look much like yours later.

I also hate people assuming you're done because of sex. When I told people G was a boy, they were like "Oh, one of each, you can be done now!" I loved watching their faces when I said, "No, we want to have 4".

You look fantastic. People make inane comments all the time regarding children, or the lack thereof. Apparently the filters stop working when it comes to procreation comments, both positive and negative. :)

I did see a lot of people looking at your belly at the fair and almost pointing, mostly adults. You look great and I really like your waddle. I agree that I think Ivy will come sooner than planned. I think it's just something people have the habit of saying when they see you are expecting again.

yes, the same people that said things like "that's ok", or "i'm sorry" when you had your 3rd boy, will now conveniently flip to being snide and rude and assuming that now that you "got" your girl, that you're done with babies. i can only guess that this will NEVER change, and we just have to live with it, and realize that not everyone is like this.

Anyway, you look beautiful, and you'll be ready, whenever the time comes!

OK, I've been reading your blog for awhile and thought I'd comment on this one.

I am my parents first girl and I have three older brothers (very much like your little Ivy). My parents had two boys and decided they were done. God later convicted them and started trying to have kids again. After two miscarriages, my parents had my third older brother, than me and, later, three more boys and three more girls. My oldest brother is 28 and his wife is expecting their third, I am 17 and looking forward to being a wife and mother someday, and my youngest sister just turned 5.

All of that just to say... May God bless you as you raise your children!

Wow, that sounds like what everyone was saying to me when I found out my fifth was going to be a boy. They would say, well you have 3 girls and now you'll have 2 boys I guess you're all done, right? HaHa! It's like they want to make sure this is it.

Well, I don't know if I'm done, yet. My little one is going on 20 months and anything can happen, like it always does ;-)

I got the same thing with mine. Most people these days think that two is the limit on kids. One boy and one girl is perfect, but if you have two of one gender, well, that will have to do. If you have more than two, it is obviously because you wanted a specific gender really badly, not because you like a big family or you believe in letting God choose how many of His precious gifts you get! So funny to me.

Your belly is gorgeous. I remember loving all the kicks and swishes, I miss my baby belly! This momma pooch I have instead just isn't cutting it...isn't crazy how people assume you are or should be done based on their assesment of your family?

You look great! :) And yeah...we get SO many comments about being 'done' now that we have a boy and a girl. It is actually quite annoying. We are planning to have more kids. :) And the commments "one of each...oh that's so nice! or "you have the perfect family now" are kinda annoying too...soooo they're saying that if we'd had two boys our family wouldn't be perfect? haha...I know they don't mean any harm, but those types of comments do tend to get on your nerves after a while!

Oh Steph I love you belly pic!!! preggo is so beautiful (but your pretty all the time no matter what)

I personnaly love the outy (belly button) I wish mine would do the same but a couple years ago I had to have a surgery (appendix needed to be out in a hurry) so I had laparoscopy and instead of a huge scare on my side I had a cut in the belly button

People do say the weirdess thing when your preggo! I keep having people saying to me "wow you are big, how far along are you?" and then when I tell them that I'll be 17 weeks soon they ask me if I we're having multiple or I have my date wrong!!!!! Ahhh! it is kinda annoying!!! I was all belly for my first and this one is the same (I didn't even gain one pound yet and all my shirt are way to tight LOL

God has plan this little girl entrance in the world and the number of child for you So if you need to answer to some people you could always say that we let God control the size and arrivial of you little one

But seriously who are we to decide how much God is suppose to bless us

God will open the wood and He is in total control

I will probably need to remind myself of these word as I get closer to our due date!!!

I'd feel like telling them, "how can I be done with something so wonderful?", just to see the look on their face. I know most people don't mean it to sound like a judgment, but nothing wrong with letting them know it could be taken that way.

Man. People are rude. And the more I get comments about having "so many kids" (3 is that many???) the more kids I want to have. I'm sassy that way. ;)I would love to have two or three more kids. As it is it will take some convincing to get hubby to agree to one more. ??? You look beautiful!

I think that you should say "no, were not, but next time we hope to have a puppy."

My 3rd child i didn't find out what she was til she was born - so when I finally got irritated with people asking what I was having or speculating on the sex, when they asked what are you having i would say "A puppy." this pretty much ended the conversation.

I love your belly :) You still manage to look so feminine and pretty. I don't think I felt that beautiful at 32 weeks!

And well, people should just not make assumptions. Especially when you are far from the 'main stream' parent. In a world where people have 1.2 children, I think you have a most beautiful family, whatever size you want it to be.

Such a cute pregnat woman you are! Wish I had only looked that good in my pregger days. Nice to see you stand up for yourself (even if it was on your blog.) I have 3 boys and had someone a few days ago ask if #3 was supposed to be a girl. Crazy what people will say these days.

I know what you mean about the comments. We had a boy first (one boy--just one!), and as soon as our daughter came along I frequently had people saying to me, "Ohh, one of each. Perfect--now your family is complete."

Several beat me to it - but you are a beautiful show, a beautiful example of motherhood! I have one boy & one girl and people have always assumed we're done, too. It's sad that Americans think so little of children. A message from Voddie Baucham entitled "Multigenerational Promise" changed my outlook on children completely. (I know it's time consuming, but you can hear his message online. I recommend it to everyone I talk to!)

People talk before thinking. I get- Oh, your hands are full- all the time. It does drive me nuts to hear it over and over again, but I think most people have good intentions and don't realize how it feels to be me. I've even mentioned to others how this gets under my skin and even those people don't get it.

I also got some uglyish comments when I was pregnant "AGAIN" whatever....

Hey StephI think its great that you are standing up for yourself. I have a girlfriend that has 7 daughters..everyone assumes that they are trying for a boy, but they really are not. (actually at this point its really easier to have more girls!!)I wish you the best and hope you get a family as large as your heart desires!!

I hate it when people assume I am disappointed JR is another boy, and I hate it when people assume we want more children because I want a girl...I do want a girl, maybe,but I LOVE LOVE LOVE having boys! I also LOVE kids and want 3 or 4 (I have always envisioned 4), or even 5! Who knows...

OK, I totally HATE that when people assume you are done because you have at least one of each gender. We have a girl, and now a little boy, so people automatically assume we are done-even my Father-In-Law!

It can be frustrating when people make assumptions... I guess sometimes we all forget that people are all different from each other. Just because I'm done after two... or that if I had three boys, I might "try" for a girl and then be "done". But I can definitely see you having more! I can see why that phrase "are you done?" can feel rude... I hope I remember to never say that to anyone.

It's a good thing I wasn't with you when all those lovely things were said, because seriously I've been in the mood for punching someone lately. No one in particular, but people have really been getting on my nerves:)

I get so sick of people saying that to us about well are you done. We have 6 girls and don't know what number 7 will be we just want it to be healthy. And we will be done when God tells us we are done. I really think people don't always think before they speak.

I was just looking at a picture of my oldest from when she was born. And all I could think was, "Wow. How did that fit inside of me?" Seeing your belly reminds me it's possible (and I don't mean that in a mean way, lol).

I totally hear you on the "done" comment. We have a nearly-six-year-old son and when people found out I was expecting a girl with our second, they automatically assume that we're done. Geesh.

Then there was the other comment a few weeks ago at Whole Foods. I had my son in my cart, along with my daughter and one of my son's friends. A shopper looked at the group (THREE kids, only THREE!) and asked me, "Are they ALL yours?" Honestly, some people...

I don't understand people sometimes. It really is nobody's business how many kids you have.

I got a comment last night that I didn't really know how to take. It was just me and Peanut at the store. She smiles and waves at everyone. This little old lady says, He is so cute. I kindly said, She is a girl she has a pink bow on her dress. I normally don't say anything either. But the lady says, I didn't even look at the clothes I just look at the baby. Was she saying my little girl looks like a boy? You would think at her age she would know better! Anyways, with all that said. You look beautiful. Those last few weeks are going to fly by.

Wow, you look GREAT! Is it appropriate to say how jealous I am of how great you look? My entire body grew with my baby, and being a tiny petite person, it was not so much fun. Dang, I can't get over how awesome you look.

Awww, your belly looks just like mine did when I was pregnant with both of mine (but I was lower). I remember being so far away from the sink it killed my back.. Congratulations on your little girl soon to be born!

I SO feel you.... my scheduled c-section is 13days away and I am nowhere near ready. And getting out of bed does require some momentum. :) We will be ready when we need to be, I just keep telling myself that. Right now I am so focused on fitting in all those fun Lucas-and-Mommy things that may or may not get to happen once little brother arrives! The clothes can be sorted later. Right now, I want to take my little man to the zoo. Now if it wasn't so darn hot!!!You do look awesome with that beautiful belly!! I am inspired to take a side view of mine now... :)

I CANNOT believe the number of people who say to me, "Oh, you have a boy and a girl - the perfect family." or "Oh, you guys are done because you have one of each right?"

Like it's any business of theirs anyway! And NO I'm not done, but I'm not sure if we'll have anymore or if I'll be the one pregnant for our next kid either. It's just funny what people assume. I'd love for my son to have a brother and for my daughter to have a sister as well.

isn't it funny how the standard seems to be that you have kids until you have one of each gender? Since I have a boy and expecting a girl everyone I meet seems to think we aren't going to want anymore kids because we have one of each.