Clive Davis Opens The Discussion On Bi-Sexuality In The Music Industry

Are the music industry and it’s artists finally feeling comfortable about coming out?

For a long time, sexuality, or at least homosexuality and bi-sexuality, were taboo subjects to talk about in the music industry. Those artists who were anything but straight, either avoided talking about their personal life or they put up a front for the sake of not losing their fanbase. However, it seems as though we’ve seen a shift over the last few years as artists like Nicki Minaj, Azealia Banks, Ke$ha and most recently Frank Ocean have talked openly about their bi-sexuality and attraction to the same sex.

Legendary music executive Clive Davis is releasing a new memoir titled, “The Soundtrack Of My Life,” and inside he reveals that he experimented with his sexuality after his second marriage failed. He also says that he believes that bi-sexuality is misunderstood:

After my second marriage failed, I met a man who was also grounded in music. Having only had loving relationships and sexual intimacy with women, I opened myself up to the possibility that I could have that with a male, and found that I could.

I never stopped being attracted to women. Bisexuality is misunderstood; the adage is that you’re either straight or gay or lying, but that’s not my experience. To call me anything other than bisexual would be inaccurate.

Interestingly enough, in the urban music community, an artist who says that they are bi-sexual will either be labeled as gay or will be written off as trying to gain attention for the sake of publicity and album sales.

While revealing to the NY Times that she was bi-sexual, Azealia Banks said:

I’m not trying to be, like, the bisexual, lesbian rapper. I don’t live on other people’s terms.

Most believed she only said that to get people’s attention.

Music producer Jermaine Dupri recently stopped by Power 105.1FM’s Breakfast Club and when he was asked if he felt as though Frank Ocean “coming out” was a marketing ploy, he responded:

100 percent. I mean sometimes, I don’t even believe that, I believe it’s a marketing plan. A person that comes out and lets his sexuality be known is considered a person that has balls.

Back in 2009, when I interviewed Nicki Minaj, I asked about the bi-sexual references in her songs and her choice to dodge questions regarding her sexuality in interviews. I said, “There are some people that feel as though you gave black women who were afraid to be “free” with their sexuality a voice (especially in Hip Hop) but then you sort of pulled back. How do you feel about that?” Her response was:

I pulled back on a lot of things so to specify that is kind of unfair. When I started to see how influential I was, I toned a lot of things down. I want to think more before I speak, I want to think about every message I’m sending. I did not realize I had 10-year-old fans. When you are in that position, it’s your job to be responsible. I say what I say in my rap.

I believe that rap is art. It’s like people want art and life to coincide. Sometimes it doesn’t and sometimes you do not want it to. Sometimes you want to have an interview and not discuss anything about sex. That’s how I feel sometimes. I do put the block up because I feel like all people want to talk about is sex. I give you enough in my record. You know who I am and you can hear what I’m saying. It’s just too much.

Looking back, there are still a few critics who think that Nicki Minaj talked about liking girls in her earlier records for attention but would it be that hard to accept if she really was bi-sexual? Is it still taboo in today’s music industry or are we in a time when an artist can be accepted for being gay or bi-sexual without it ruining their career in some way or another?

+76 I Heart The Skorpion Show from Youtube Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 12:23 pm

Honestly, I dont think some of these artists are really bi. They trying to sell records. I feel like if your bi, gay, or lesbian you dont need to come out, if people think you are let them think it. Look at Prince or Luther Vandross a lot of ppl always thought they were gay, if they were they didnt need to come out becuase they were sellin records because of their talent not their sexuality. Theses record labels dont care about talent anymore they want want to sell singles which is sad.

+4 Ike Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 1:08 pm

You’re either straight or gay, Homo or Hetero, no in-between. If you have no problem willing giving yourself to a man, sexually, then you are gay…..sorry.

+3 yoooooo Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 1:16 pm

@I Heart The Skorpion

I agree with you. I dont understand why what other people’s relationship entail is anyone’s business to the point you have to make an announcement. Like do straight people say, I like dark tall men, or thick girls from Sudan, etc etc so why do they have to tell people they like the same sex w/out being asked? Thats why people say its for attention.

+28 yoooooo Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 1:21 pm

& Whats w/ that urban comment? Yeah if you announce you’re gay right before you have something to sell, MOST people think its for attention & publicity. Like broaden the people you hang around, I hate when people say “Black (which is urban really means) people do this or that” & I know Whites who feel the same way. Its not about race but social cliques, religious beliefs, upbringing etc.

+16 BlancaLatina Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 2:32 pm

I think some man was going to OUT the old guy so he decided to OUT himself. I’m sure he has been gay for years but kept it hidden although I don’t know why he wasn’t a star. Everyone knows that industry is populated mostly with gays.

+25 Deja Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 3:53 pm

This is quite hilarious to me that a lot of you are shocked that Clive is pronouncing he had a bisexual situation.

This isn’t news considering that a lot of people know within the entertainment industry, a lot of men have experimented and are flat out gay & bisexual. A lot of rappers have spilled the tea that our favourite rappers are or could be homosexual/bisexual…
it’s even been discussed about if you want to get into the next bracket of income you gotta dabble a little in the homosexual ‘tivities… I’ve heard Quincy, Denzel, Clive, Medina…etc just to name a few… dont shoot the messenger…i’ve only HEARD…lol

+15 hey_yo Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 4:47 pm

wow theres people here stating things for a FACT when they dont really know.

How can you define other peoples feelings and emotions by your own?? you DONT KNOW other peoples lives or situations so how can you sit there are state you KNOW there is no ‘in between’.

Just because its not like that for you. Jees people are SO DUMB.

+6 RihannaLover Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 6:51 pm

I Believe men can be bisexual. Especially here in DUMBO Brooklyn? there are guys who I know who are very successful and are married or in relationships with guys or girls and they end up bringing guys or girls into their relationships. sometimes it’s even more than one candidate. just like how there are men and women born with both parts, men and women can both be bisexual… it’s just a reality that people have to face and aren’t willing to face it.

HateNICKIMINAJ Reply:December 20th, 2013 at 2:16 pm

Nicki came out in a interview and said she was NOT ******** and she never had sexual relations with a woman….smh!

+48 Ashh Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 12:26 pm

I guess I don’t understand it either. Is it the attraction or the action? From the excerpt it seems to me that he was never initially attracted to men but he “opened himself” up to the possibility. So then does that support the idea that sexuality is chosen? Isn’t that what many gays try to argue against? I’m really just wondering here. or did I misunderstand?

That’s the same thing I wonder too and also a reason I never speak on this topic because whenever I’ve told someone I misunderstand or help me understand its taken as if I’m against it

+5 GagaHERE Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 4:23 pm

he just wanted to try something new…say it as it is

+1 do the harlem shake Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 6:58 pm

i totes agree with you on that one

i personally think you cant be born gay its a series of events in your life that lead you to “discover” you’re gay
coz i have many gay friends who “turned” gay after certain things happened or **** they just plain bored and wana try something new

+4 vexxed Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 11:29 pm

#1) ewww

+4 truth Reply:February 21st, 2013 at 12:02 am

Well allow me to enlighten you. Personally I do not believe in labeling myself, however if I had to, I guess I’d be considered bi sexual. I have been in love with both genders. . And it’s hard to explain but its almost exactly the same its just we (society) get so wrapped up in tradition and brain washed by the media and its inaccurate portrayal of what love is or what it should be. I never chose to be “bi sexual” honestly, and Its not a choice for me because it’s not something I think about regularly. And the only time I do is when someone else brings it up. However I’m a narcissist as well (at least I admit it) and picky so rarely am I attracted to either gender, I just know what I like when i see it. At this point I am celibate and have been for yrs. Im 22 and when I do find the right person whether female or male they won’t have to worry about my sexuality because he or she will essentially be my sexuality, my love, my everything

But thats just me I guess..

+10 Kitty B. Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 1:15 pm

Let’s be honest and lets be real…A lot of ppl pretend to “bi-sexual” because they think its cute, cool and the “in thing” to be….others use it today because they dont want to be as seen “fully gay” When your “********” you still have a thing for the opposite sex, so to some ppl it easily to be accepted as Bi then it to be Gay…

I believe some use it as crutch and some ppl think its the “in thing” since so many ppl all of a sudden are coming out all of a sudden…

In Clive Davis’s time I would’ve commended ppl for coming out and being to express whatever their sexuality is, but today, I think ppl use it for record sales and attention as Jermaine Dupri has said…

I’ve never for second believe Nicki eas Bi, I’ve always thought it was for attention…if it’s who you are why be ashamed to express it when, where, and however you feel…

I think you’re right. So many women go out to clubs and kiss other women just for the attention….I honestly think a lot of girls pretend to be bisexual or are more open minded to experimenting because so many guys say that it’s a turn on.

As good as P^%&y is! You can’t be serious. As for people not believing in bisexuality it is part of the grey area that people choose to ignore. You know the area where men with an extra “x”chromosome, women with “y” chromosome, people born with no genitalia & Hermaphrodites live. To me bisexuality falls somewhere in there. I had a coversation with some who said hermaphrodites don’t exist. The actual # is 1 in every 2,000 people can be born a hermaphrodite. People tend to be dismissive of the grey because it would make them to question the stance they are so firm on. Whether you acknowledge it or not bisexuality exist along with the rest of the grey area. On a last note a friend I talked to about bi men actually said the bigger problem for her with bi men is I can’t compete with man the way I can with a woman. That seems like that might the prevelent fact in why women can’t accept a bi men. I mean to each their own as far as what you will date, but open you mind not to being with them but rather understanding it. Like it or love is a non fact just understanding.

Bisexuality is hard to understand especially when you cant relate to the situation. But I’m curious are you saying MEN strictly can’t be bisexual or females also? I would hope you mean bisexuality in general.

I think being bisexual is real. You can be into one sexually and the other mentally and emotionally. You can just relate to both sexes and develop a passion for both. The possibilities are endless
I feel like saying you can’t be bisexual is like saying you can’t have two favorite colors ijs

I thought people were saying him and diddy had a thing going on. Mrs Jones. Loooool

+25 Chiny Reply:February 19th, 2013 at 12:26 pm

Let’s keep it real Nicky faked gay with intentions of cashing in on the gay market. If she was gay or not, no one cares. The point is no one was buying it and she turned to plan B a lady gaga knockoff. That didn’t work for long and she started singing songs like bass & starships, that didnt work for long and she has now fired her wig man. What’s next ? Same with Frank. The only difference he is gay but he like Nicky came out with the intentions of tapping into the gay market and it didn’t work. Clive who’s surprised ? It’s no secret most of the industry men are but boys. Especially the higher up ! And if you want to work in that tax bracet most likely your one too. Too many people have said it and too many are coming out for it not to be true ! There is no such thing as bi for a man. What woman is going to want you knowing……

Yeah Nicki was lying for attention, that’s why she back tracked, and her talking about “its her job to be responsible” is hilarious considering she posted booty pics on instagram just last week and I remember her playing with adult toys at one of her concerts too.

Azealia, you’re an attention seeker so please shut up.

Franky boy is probably gay/bi whatever but he probably did use his coming out as a marketing ploy.

I don’t understand bisexuality, I just think you’re straight, gay or just greedy.

Azealia is a dope rapper a little much personality wise though but do believe she might be bi. Frank I believe said people be all up in your business anyway so I am not going to have anything hanging over my head.

I whole heartedly agree Sofa Kingdom! Im no bible thumping Christian but I def read the word and Revelations gives great insight to the end. All the senseless violence, sexual deviance, and natural disasters are nothing but a sign of things to come. I would never think there would be a time when a man being gay or bi would be the “It thing”?! Its okay to be proud and honest about who you are but these grand public statements are not required. In my opinion sexual preference is between you and the people you are dealing with on a personal level. I’m sorry this mess is getting on my nerves I’ll just keep praying for this world…

But there was senseless violence, sexuality, and natural disasters since the dawn of time. Difference was there was no social media etc… LGBT ppl have been existing since the dawn of time, the world is ending not because ppl are being honest with who they are. Or the LGBT community is coming full force into the mainstream. But because of a thing called overpopulation and global warming, instead of praying the world will be better. Taking action to find solutions to reduce the constantly expanding population and encourage more ppl to use clean energy. Would in fact save the world. Bisexuality a common occurrence since before either of us was alive is not an”it” thing. There is nothing wrong with being open about your sexuality, no one should have to keep it in the shadows. Ppl should have the option of opening themselves up as lgbt people are the same as you and me except their partners are of the same sex. But I digress, keep on praying even though it won’t really do anything.

People get sexuality and the act of having sex confused. Your sexual orientation is not about who you have sex with but more about who you can emotionally connect with on an intimate level. some people connect more with the same sex, hence HOMOsexuality, some can connect with either or, hence the term bi sexuality. There are men and women who identify as gay or lesbian and don’t even participate in the sexual acts that may come to mind but they thoroughly enjoy their relationship. Some men and women may enjoy the sexual acts of the same sex but identify as straight. Sexual education is key to the ignorance that is within or community.

Clive Davis has slept with a man or men??? Say it ain’t so and I would have NEVER guessed or thunk that!!! Do I think its for attention? IDK I thought the gay community was busy fighting for their rights and REALLY comparing their problems in our society to civil rights? If saying youre gay or bi is an act of attention then where is all this HATE the gay/lesbian community is stating they face? I thought people were afraid to come out the closet?? So in much respect, I am confused. Confused I say!

Nicki lies too much and has no sense of responsibility apart from that of her music execs and her mother and herself. No body else. I don’t care whether she is bisexual, trans or hetero, I couldn’t give a rats behind, she cannot give anyone a voice until she is honest with herself and all the trash she sings about. Like WTF did she use nigga monkey and nappy headed hoe? What possible reason could she convincingly give for being such a malicious dumb cow?

When it comes to female rappers I do feel like it is a marketing ploy. It’s as if they’re all following the oversexualized blue print of Foxy Brown & Lil Kim. I wouldn’t call Azealia or Nicki ‘brave’ for implying/stating their sexual preference. It seemed more attention seeking than anything else.

As for Clive Davis- didn’t he come out as gay a while ago? Or am I thinking of Benny Medina? I think everyone kinda assumes that you have to be ******** to an extent, to have success in the industry.

Totally agree, I could believe that some artists are genuinel bisexual if they were less dodgy about it. It makes no sense to rap lyrics about being bisexual but then not be willing to discuss it in an interview. It comes across like the only reason they said it was to sell records, as I believeis the case with many female rappers, especially nicki.

But rappers rap about things they aren’t. You can rap about being a gangster, being a millionaire, a ladies man, a hoe, stripper, when you are non of those things. Nicki works under Lil Wayne who kisses men lol and with a low iq. You can imagine them sitting down and bouncing ideas off each other and what ideas come out that have little meaning and sense. No one said two heads are better than one. Nicki is the female Lil Wayne.

Hey it is what it is. Its surprising to know Clive Davis has had a bisexual relationship. Azelia just may be bisexual, but Nicki, did not answer that question. Is it me or in most interviews she really doesnt give a straight forward answer. Like hey are you bisexual or not. I dont see anything wrong with it, but I was raised in the church and of course they say it is wrong. I feel like if it is in you, its in you. Who am I to judge.

I honestly don’t understand why people care so much about a person’s sexual preference. And then when a person is open about it and they are in the business, it is considered a marketing ploy. Some people are just tired of living in the closet and lying about who they really are. Art is supposed to be true expression, but if the person making the art is lying about the truest essence of him or herself, how then can their art be true expression? You can be gay, straight, bi or whatever, that is on you. I’m in my lane, let others ride in theirs.

People overall are void of love and broken from failed relationships, and for some reason, being in the music industry amplifies this to the nth degree. So of course if you’re a woman and you’ve been hurt by dudes, you’ll experiment with other women. And vice versa for men. I think the topic of homo/bi-sexuality is “taboo” for all the wrong reasons. We shouldn’t be afraid of talking about it, but at the same time – we have to go past the surface and dig deeper into the cause.

I’m sorry but there is absolutely no digging deeper into why people are homosexuals and bisexual. Sexual orientation just is. Its taboo because of what we’ve had shoved down people’s throats letting them know its not normal, and what is. People make it sound like its a result of some horrific incident that one experience in their life like you have described. And that’s disappointing. You make it sound like homosexuality or bisexuality is some pathology. What we should be digging into is the cause of the hate, the slurs, the corrective rapes that happen in certain countries and why people are so hell-bent on criticising and vilifying people who are not heterosexual. THAT’S whats needs digging into.

This really doesn’t come as a surprise or a shocker. There is a very strong influence that hails over the industry and if we were to have an honest one on one with a lot of the artist including our favorite rappers we would def be shocked.

I think the reason why people are having a hard time about bisexuality is because personally I think whether sex it is, you have to be more attracted to one sex. I personally do not think that you can equally love a female and a male. Yes you can love both sexes I understand that, I don’t understand how you can love both sex equally; isn’t there some slight stronger attraction to one of the sex?. There is something about males i like more than women (i never hooked up with a female). So i am “straight” or whatever society likes to call me. Who is to say i may not hook up with a female later in life though you know “fun times”, I think women are attractive, but not as attractive as men therefore I only date men you know? Maybe these folks are being greedy lol they want all the love.

I have no idea if that made sense, it’s slow in my office today just wanted to share my thoughts lol

even if their is a stronger preference, that still doesn’t eliminate the attraction & urge to the other sex, which in my book if you are still attracted to, & engage in activities with both sexes, you are bisexual.

Nicki said she wasn’t bisexual in an interview….i like azalea, she seems very honest about who she is.

I am glad Clive is talking about this. because it clear by where I live-dc area-that there is a lot of bisexuality in the world. i don’t think it’s acceptable to tell your girlfriend or boyfriend the truth after the truth is let out by someone else. tell them upfront who you are. it is not fair to them to lie, maybe they will accept still after they hear the truth, if they don’t thats not the person for you.

I wouldn’t date a bi man but I am sure there are women that would. and the same can be said for bi women, some men don’ t like it but some could care less.

That is why i liked frank more for saying that he was bi, it was like wow, that is not a popular decision but the music industry is full bisexuals.

Um duh!! Probably or Most likely your fave rapper or singer is bisexual or gay and scared to come out!! The people who are most guarded in the music industry are the ones who have the most dirt like drug abuse homosexuality or alot of demons!! From the outside looking in things appear glamorous and happy. BUT THINGS ARE NOT ALWAYS HOW THEY APPEAR.

There is a definitely a trend of more celebrities coming “out” as bisexual and in a matter of years this will be the accepted norm. I am not a mother but I am an aunt, and I do not want my nieces and nephew to think that it is okay to one day be with someone of the opposite sex and then the day after be with someone of the same sex. To be honest, I am grieved by the fact that they have to grow up in a society where traditional marriage is no longer honored, the gender lines are constantly blurred and now homosexuality and bisexuality will be the new norm. Of course, I am coming from the Christian worldview so I do not expect everyone to agree with me, but in so many ways we are teaching a generation of children that sexual immorality is not only okay, but that it should be embraced and accepted. Many will applaud a celebrity’s choice to “come out” but I find it interesting that many of those same people may have different emotions if it concerns that of their own child………

I am also a Christian. HOWEVER, I’m confused by what you mean by “honoring traditional marriage”. With divorce rates sky high and infidelity rates through the roof—by “Christians” as well—can we really say that we have been honoring marriage? I see what you’re saying but, I think there is more to it. A lot of things are contributing the deterioration of marriage and it ain’t the gays.

@Ashh. I 100% agree with you. These bible thumbing people kill me believing in this mostly man written book they call the bible and don’t even do the research to even figure out who they worshiping and how some people’s definition of “Christianity” is only a ploy to down others and draw a huge division in the world and only believe that their on a different hierarchy than others..i could go on and on, but I’ll leave with this. love yourself and others and don’t be so quick to judge

I am surprised that Clive admitted this. I guess he is older and doesnt care anymore. I am starting to think when most people lose faith in the opposite sex they believe that the same sex is the answer; since they understand them better. Would anyone want to date and marry a man that dates men and women. I wouldnt because i cannot give him what he needs sexu@ally.
I do believe that hollywood people dibble dabble the most and it affects the people that want to immulate them.

While I can at least respect Clive’s decision to put it out there, my question is “What’s the Motive”? Are other music execs going to let the world know they too are also “********”… I mean we’ve heard about Andre Harrell, Diddy, and LA Reid.

Lol LA Reid is gay? I could have sworn Clive talked about this YEARS ago…I think they’re becoming more open because of the laws/news about same sex relationships…the goal is make other bisexuals/gay people feel like they’re not allowed etc.,

i think it should be another category called ” Ive had soo much sex with the opposite sex; im going to experiment with the same sex.” because of the industry i dont believe they are really attracted to anyone.. just trying to fill a hole… no pun intended.

I find it very curious that, even though the man said i am BI SEXUAL, alot of the comments, ( on other sites etc) say oh.. Clive is gay. Im thinking.. the man JUST said he is bisexual.
I didnt realise that people dont believe bisexuality exists until quite recently. Apparently, especially if you come out as a bi man, you are lying and not ready to accept that you are gay, and if you are a bi woman, you are really straight, but a freak in bed… or something.
Bisexuality is real.. its rare, but its real. And is seems there is some resentment towards that community.. of the ‘pick a team and dont be greedy” variety.
I wont deny that some use it to be sensational, like Nikki Minaj, but someone like Angelina Jolie, and Sia, and Jessie J, really just date who they like, man or woman.

for females alot of time i think its a gimmick, in hip hop lesbian is the flavor of the month with most of the guys statng this as their preference in type of woman, its like everybody is lesbian or gay to sell records bec it makes them so called cool, but do they really date women is the question, like Nicki has dated her man for years and is there any history of a relationship of her with a woman? I doubt it , i’ve also heard her say in the past she is not bi, but yet raps about being Bi

I think anyone can be anyway. People are born different. Sexuality can range as widely as the shades of our skin. A woman can prefer only women, or prefer women most of the time, but occasionally guys, or prefer guys and women equally and so on.

But did I want to hear Clive Davis’s old ass talk about it? NO!! I don’t want to know what goes on in my grandmother’s bedroom either. Once you hit 60, your sex life should be between you and your partner.

Clive Davis is a living legend and I wish he did not overshadow his legacy with speaking on his sexuality. His sexuality is irrelevant to his remarkable eye for talent and people are obsessed with who people are sleeping with. Instead of focusing on his accomplishments and contributions to music, the buzz will be his bisexuality. I have been anticipating the release of his autobiography and I have not seen anything about it on most blogs, but now it is something to talk about?!

I really don’t understand why coming-out is such big deal even though what you do behind closed doors and who you do it with is nobody business. I can care less who you screwing as long as you ain’t screwing me, Paula, Paul, and Pat all at the same damn time, lol! No on the real I couldn’t be with a bi man, no way honey, friends but no bumping and grinding! See g*ys are fun, caring, and they know how to party baby!!! So I have no problem with their lifestyle it just doesn’t fit into my lifestyle. But when it comes to Clive old behind, I am not surprised; you wouldn’t believe all the high and mighty rich cats that are like that. I believe Quincy Jones is that way and so many others but that’s not my problem nor my bed, just keep the good music and artist coming and keep your personal fairs at bay.

I’m also emotionally and physically attracted to women too, and mostly women who look like me, as in feminine.

I’ve dated both in the past.

Attraction is a spectrum… for me. Fluid.

So I have to agree with Clive on this… I also supremely hate men who think attraction between two women is somehow related to them. Yes there are the drunk attention-seeking girls who make out with chicks at clubs while giving the eye to some dude they like at the bar, but in my experience… every woman I’ve known who has ever been with a woman has done so on their own accord and in the privacy of their own intimacy.

In my humble opinion, I do not believe that a man can be bisexual; he is gay. If a man will have sex with another man, he is gay. I cannot wrap my mind around the concept that a man can be sexually attracted to a man and have sexual desires for a woman as well. On the other hand, with women, it is different, women cannot sexually penetrate (naturally) another woman with their sex organ. I know this may sound a bit like hypocrisy; nevertheless, this is my take on bisexuality.

I agree, but I do think a man can be attracted to woman because that’s the way it was intended to be however he only desires men sexually. Being Bi is just a title if you ask me to justify what one is capable of doing and being involved with. I know he love women but enjoy men. I had a friend that we dated for a year before he came out and told me he was Bi but thank God we ain’t sleep together because he later died of AIDS however he explained to me that he was attracted to me and loved everything about me because I was pretty and classy and everything I am he wanted to be, he loved me because he was designed and made to be with woman but at night he rather be with man because he wanted something harder and tougher then he was to hold him and treat him like what he wanted to be and that was a woman. So that Bi thing is just a cover up thing.

I personally love the whole ‘the world is going to hell’ meme after we’ve already had mass tragedies, genocides, slavery, and rampant sexual experimentation since the biblical age. But NOW, since a handful of celebs come out..it gets real (-_-)

LOL! I have the same viewpoint. People have been attracted to who they are attracted to regardless of gender since the beginning. Not sure how this equates to the litany of injustices against humanity over the course of human history, but great. Now I know two women or two men loving each other incites more hatred than a girlfriend getting her brains blown out in South Africa or a rape charge in a frat house. Cool.

It’s written pretty clearly in the Bible that homosexuality/bi sexuality etc.. is a sin. Whether you choose to believe it or not, God is real and his Commandments are not merely suggestions. He gave us the rules to follow and the free will to choose to. If someone chooses to live a lifestyle that is unpleasing to God and they die while living in sin then Hell is where they will go…

And I assume you’re referring to Leviticus… not once was God/Jesus quoted in those verses.

Also the old testament relied heavily on “plentifulness.” In 2000 AD the concept of raising a family was thought of only as “the fruit of my loins.”

The “law” was meant to preserve mankind in that day and age. That is it.

We live in the present-day. Where there’s adoption, surrogates, etc… Where there are thousands of children living absent parents.

The bible is a historical guide of Christianity with parables meant to be used as nothing more than archetypes for your daily testimonies and praises.

It is not a fundamentalist blueprint. If it were we would all be living like it was 2000 AD and innovation and enlightenment would be stunted. (See various communities of the sort… the Amish, etc…) Not there is anything wrong with that, but it’s a personal choice. As is someone’s love for another able bodied of age consenting person.

Some of the comment have alerted me to the fact that there is still ignorance in our community. Other comments have given me a bit of faith.

I get why some people don’t “understand” bisexuality/homosexuality. It’s odd, it’s different – but it most definitely exists. Growing up in a Jamaican household I know many many people out there like to make up their own reasons for why people “turn gay” or “turn out gay”, and they’re almost always wrong. How do I know? I’m gay myself!

Gay is how I was born. I’m not confused. It doesn’t feel right with guys, point blank period. It’d be like some of you girls dating another girl. Just… no. For me, it’s either get married to a guy that I’ll never love so people don’t judge me, or be myself and ignore what people say. I’ve chosen the latter, and I’m happy, despite having to face people who don’t like me for reasons completely beyond my control. Since coming out I have felt a lot more confident in myself, and I don’t have to hide bits of my personality/the way I act/the things I do any more. I am so much more comfortable I wouldn’t change it for anything, you have no idea how deep a depression hating yourself can send you into.

In that respect, I believe it’s the individual’s choice whether or not to come out to the public. A lot of the time artists are outed by the paparazzi/gossip anyway, so I don’t see why you can’t just be honest in the first place before people start speculating. And there are gay people everywhere, so of course there are many many gay and bi people in the music industry who just aren’t saying. It’s simple. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. Half the people I know from the gay community aren’t out to everyone they know yet, I doubt it’s that different for celebrities. Of course some of you guys aren’t really going to understand the greater benefits of a celebrity coming out, because you’re not gay or bisexual yourselves! Let me tell you this, growing up being confused and suppressing who I was, it was liberating to see a celebrity, especially someone like me, being themselves and being comfortable enough to come out. It made me feel better. I know this is a long shot, but really I feel like we should stop being so suspicious about people coming out (unless they really are lying, and let’s be real sometimes you can’t tell I get it) and try and embrace them more. It is such a difficult thing to do.

I don’t understand people that think Bisexuality can exist for women but not men. As a woman I honestly do think men can be bi but then again I’ve been exposed to alot mroe than the average woman. Most women ahve gay male friends who are fem as they come and not itnerested in women in the least. So they can only picture other males who like men to be liek that as well. But I don’t see it so plan. Attraction is chemical you can be attracted to both but who your soul mate is can be a person of the same sex or the opposite. I believe by nature everyone is bi sexual and through life experences, environments and sometimes conciscious choices we choose which sex we prefer. We all know someone who was as straight as can be that later on in life begin to open up to other things and explore the same sex. If you don’t know anyone like that then that person may be yourself.

I’m not going to get into a discussion about homosexuality, bisexuality, or sexuality on this site. Lord knows it’s futile, a simple glance at these simplistic absolutist comments confirms it’s a losing battle, with no room for meaningful discourse…. Lord *rubs temples*

In any event, I’m lost as to why Clive felt the need to come out about this. I suppose for his own closure, I don’t know. Either way, from the stories I’ve heard about him, I’m certain that the LGBT community did not lose anything from him not being a spokesperson. He, like a lot of other high powered men in the industry be they straight, Bi, or gay have ‘allegedly’ leveraged his power to ‘explore’ his sexuality in dysfunctional ways. He makes my skin crawl.

Far as Nicki, hell I don’t know, I think it’s fair to say she did use the Bi thing as a gimmick in her mixtape days. A lot of her lyrics are still laden in heavy handed sexual innuendo, just sans bisexual chatter, so her reasoning seems fraudulent. She c/b bisexual tho. Oddly enough I’ve never found her the least bit in possession of ‘sexual appeal’ despite her clothing or lyrical content, she just seems to be going through the obligatory motions.
Azealia , ugh she’s annoying too. I didn’t even know she was supposed to be bi. Just alert me when she ‘come’s out’ as less stupid.
The only artist I know for certain who’s always been ‘decidedly’ gay is Michelle n’dechello. And contrary to popular belief her sexuality did not usher her to superstardom at the hand of ‘duh gay industry agenda’. But she makes honest, quality, music about how she lives and loves.

There’s no such thing as being bisexual,either your straight or not. I always knew there was something suspect about clive,but why is this murderer coming out now? He’s 80 now! I’m not surprised though,the record industry full of homosexual rituals,so if you wanna have a real sucessful career in the record industry,you’re going to have to take it up the a s s or f&ck someone in the a s s.Thats one of the reason why i’m apprehensive about getting in the industry,plus there’s also sacrifices you have to do. I believe eveyone has the free will to do what they want as long as their not hurting anyone,but do i agree with homosexuality? H E L L NO! I think if homosexuality was natural then people of the same sex would be able to procreate period! I hate when homosexuals try to project there prefrence on me! Like if i don’t agree with what they do,then im consider a homophobe lol. There’s alot of factors to why homosexual is rampid (especially in the black community )but im not going to get in to that,alot of yall isn’t really for that type of game lol.

How would you know there’s no such thing as bisexual! There’s a whole demographic of people that you’ve just pretty much accused of lying.

Nobody’s forcing their views on you either, their just expressing them. You just don’t agree with them. And you’re right, if you’re gonna try to explain why “homosexual is rampid” in the black community, after claiming that people have to do sacrifices and have **** intercourse to have a successful career in the music industry, then no, nobody’s ready for that type of game at all.

What you mean how would i know? I been in arguments with people that were gay,and they got mad at me because i didn’t agree with their lifestyle.When a person is yelling at me saying “why don’t you agree wit homosexuality” after i stated why more than once,then yea you’re projecting your lifestlye on me.All they had to do was just disagree and keep that **** pushing.I know that they’re homsexual practices/sacrafices because i had familymembers that were in the music industry,and told me thing that they seen first hand that freak them out,there’s proof out there as well.If you honestly think that there are no strings being pulled to run this country,then you’re a fool.The state of where were at right now was planned,nothing happend by coincidence.

And yes your either gay or your not period.If you’re a man or woman and you mess around with the same sex you’re gay! Just becuase people say that they’re “bi sexual” don’t make it difference,cause they’re still attracted to the same sex! I have a friend that is gay,and even he agree with me on that.And what woman in her right mind is going mess with a guy that’s “bi sexual” unless she’s desperate,cause a real woman is not gonna take a man serious who takes it up the a s s.

I agree with your last sentence or two. I couldn’t date a man who has had sex with another man

+3 mike Reply:February 20th, 2013 at 2:51 am

I cannot with all these assumptions, and that’s where your entire train of thought just failed to me. Not every gay/bi male participates in **** sex PERIOD. Just like many straight ppl see no pleasure from that activity so do many bi/gay males as well, and you would be surprised at the amount of non straight men that don’t do **** sex. And so what if your chicken headed/close minded gay friend say, he is not the representative of every non heterosexual male. Did this gay friend meet every single non heterosexual male on the planet. i’m thinking that’s a no. How about expanding your horizons a little bit more, because you seem to draw conclusions for having little to no experiences with gay ppl. What next I visited a small section of brooklyn so I know how every new yorker acts. When you stereotype a entire group of ppl it’s a bad reflection on you. And i’m a bisexual male and guess what I never had sex with another male just like plenty of other bisexual men.

+2 Mike Reply:February 20th, 2013 at 3:13 am

So when did your one gay friend become the representative of every non heterosexual man. Did your gay friend meet every single non heterosexual man in this world, and in every detailed observation find and declared them gay. I think not who cares what your small minded/ chicken headed friend had to say just because he is gay doesn’t mean automatically he is the end to be all and completely right.

Plus to add onto my point you making those statements is as ridiculous as me stating I know everything about every jamaican person and the entire country because, my ONE friend has come from there. Outside of what world you want to live in bisexuality plain old exists, now whether or not you agree or find it morally right is a discussion for another day. But to dismiss feelings because it doesn’t fit exactly into what your perception of sexuality is doesn’t equate non-existence.

Furthermore not every bisexual/gay man has **** sex period, no ifs/ands or buts about it. Non heterosexual men are people like anybody else and may not like certain sexual positions hell you would be surprised at the amount of bi and gay men who don’t participate in **** sex. On top of that i’m a bisexual male and hasn’t had sex with the same gender and that goes for many other bi males and females.

And just because a woman can accept a man despite his sexual past doesn’t = desperation. Moving on just because a man does like being a bottom doesn’t make him a less of a man, men aren’t one dimensional beings. You are either a man or not. Plus if you opened up your limited scope of gay ppl you would realize that a lot of men who have taken **** are just as if not more masculine than many straight males. I don’t care if you don’t want to date a bisexual man but stop with the stereotypes and assumptions because it’s false and reflects negatively on you.

I feel sorry for you. The majority of the comments go beyond ignorance. Sexuality is not so black and white as you all would hope to believe. Homosexuality and bisexuality have been around since forever. Why would it be mentioned in bibles and ancient text if it didn’t exist? If it wasn’t real? And none of you have the right to judge or try to determine what is wrong or what is right. You are no better than the next person. We are all human and we all have feelings. Just because you don’t agree with someone’s lifestyle doesn’t make you better than them and doesn’t mean your going to get to heaven or hell any quicker. You ignorant people don’t even try to understand. but you feel hurt and ridiculed when people question your race and demean your people and mistreat you for your skin color. yet you turn around and do the same to people who Like something different from what you like? And this is coming from a Jamaican- American bi sexual female who has had relationships with men and women and is currently in a serious relationship with an amazing man. I have known since 3 years old that I like boys and girls.

WELL DUH! MOST MEN IN THE INDUSTRY ARE, THEY HAVE EVERYTHING AT THEIR REACH…YOU THINK THEY NOT GON’ REACH IN THAT COOKIE JAR A TIME OR TWO. HMPH, I BET MANY OF THESE MALE ENTERTAINERS THAT WOMEN THROW THEMSELVES AT ARE DOWNLOW ALSO.

Ok people-I read through the comments and I’m just a-freaking-pauled! What is wrong with you guys? You don’t believe that people can be ******** and you think it’s just a marketing plan…seriously????

First of all–someone’s sexual orientation isn’t something to hide. Period. Heterosexual artist flaunt their significant others and side hoes all day. But ppl in the closet you can’t, Most ppl have to announce their sexuality as to not get “outted” by the media. They would rather tell their own story about their sexuality rather than having pictures of them with their boos posted all over the internet like “guess who was spotted with (insert same sex person here)” I’m pretty sure we remember that the reason Frank came out early is because some person who heard his record early was going to write a post about “Forrest Gump”….

And some one rights about the Bible one more damn time. Seems like yall skipped right over the “do onto others”, “cast not the first stone: “treat everyone with kindness” parts, aye?

I don’t want to talk down on your cousin but being with a female is the nastiest thing he has ever experience but sticking your private up another guy’s ******** or licking the guy in between is backside is not

I personally don’t care what anyone else classifies themselves as, heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, demisexual, asexual, etc. etc., The only person’s sexuality that matters to me is mine and who I decide to love. Let me love who I love, you love who you love. I am a straight female who dates straight men and I have gay, lesbian, bisexual and pansexual friends, and as long as they don’t impose on my own sexual preference, I have no problem. Love is love.

I always thought bisexuality was just someone who was confused and didn’t want to be known as a full homosexual. I guess I can understand Clive Davis. He wants to love who he wants, without being put in one box. Understandable. I don’t know why anyone would want to lie about their sexuality to gain more supporters. Be who you are. As long as that includes being a good, caring,understanding person. Because at the end of the day. This world needs more of those type of people.

I mean sexuality can be very complex at any stage of life. I don’t believe any of these artists are lying about their experiences However, I do believe they are using it to their advantage because homosexuality, bisexuality,..etc is becoming much more open and common. Can’t necessarily say it’s the norm, but it sure does look like it’s heading that way. And of course they’re going to use that as a marketing plan, why wouldn’t they?

As for the classification, I take it very seriously. That’s only due to diseases..etc You need to know about the people you’re dealing with.

However, I do think people get the whole attraction and sexual attraction thing mixed up and sometimes classify it as “bisexuality”…….but that’s a whole different topic.

Best comment on here….lol because I’ am confused. I have been reading this thread up and down and still don’t have a clean cut line of who I agree with. But I’ am not shocked. Hollywood is full of people who wear a mask to preserve an “illusion”. If people really knew these industry heavy hitters and celebrities up close and personal you would be surprised by their actual lifestyle everything that glitters isn’t gold. Hollywood is full of undercover people regarding their sexuality. And the whole “I’ am bi” thing has become a trend lately especially after the whole “I kissed a girl…” thing and stars kissing each other for press.

I attended Clive Davis’s pre-Grammy party, at which Whitney always performed, with a heavy heart. Clive, as usual, was the consummate pro. “Whitney would have wanted the show to go on,” he said. You could hear in his voice how devastated he felt. He put together an unreal show…every performer dedicated his or her music to Whitney. Tony Bennett, the Kinks with Ray Davis, Diana Krall, Diana Ross, Elvis Costello, Jackson Browne, Pitbull and Neo, Jesse Jay, Wiz Kalifa, Sean Combs, and Miranda Lambert all sang their hearts out for, and to, Whitney.

The most spectacular, haunting, and incredible performance was by Alicia Keys. She told a wonderful story of how Whitney came to visit her in some town, and the two of them got into their pajamas and had a girls’ night. It’s rare that you hear a performance that was so heartfelt, and it cut to the core of my being.

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