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Remember when Angelina Jolie kissed her brother on the lips at the Oscars and the world had a simultaneous conniption fit? It just seemed to last a little too long and appeared to be a tad more passionate than we were used to. Today, a Smitten reader is grappling with a similar issue, but this time it's between mother and son (and we're crossing our fingers it's just a peck).

Here's what's on her mind:

Hi Smitten, I'm wondering if it's normal for my 20-year-old boyfriend to still kiss his mom on the lips? I picked him up from the airport yesterday and he kissed me and then kissed his mom right after! We've been together for two years and I've only seen it happen one other time during the holidays, but I can't help feeling extremely uncomfortable. I feel like that's something that stops happening once you reach a certain age. I was also affectionate with my parents, but I never kissed them on the lips. It seems inappropriate to me. I tried talking to him about it but it ended up being an argument, and he said it was none of my business. But it is my business if he does it in front of me! Please help, I can't get it off my mind and I can't talk to him about it anymore without a fight. I know it isn't anything sexual or weird between them but why can't he kiss her on the cheek instead?

Right off the bat, I'm going to say it's probably not that big a deal. Honestly, I think it's sweet that a guy feels comfortable showing his mother this type of affection. So many men walk around trying to be "dudes," and acting like they don't care about anything. It's wonderful that your man has no qualms about expressing his love for his mom.

If I were you, I would let it slide, especially since you've only seen it twice in two years. Certainly you have the right to tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable, but there's no need to make a big stink out of it. If everything else in your relationship is good, this doesn't seem worth sabotaging it over. Every family is different, so what seems strange to you may be perfectly normal in another household. Unless, of course, it's a lingering lip-lock. Then you should call me, 'cause girl, we gotta talk. Do you think our reader has anything to worry about? Do you agree with my advice? Do you or does someone you know kiss their parents on the lips?