October 20, 2014

Quick moves on the NHL! It’s good to see that some lessons were learned from the Rice case, and that Domestic Violence incidences are being taken more seriously and being acted on with more authority.

With the news that more than usual the amount of calls are coming into shelters and hotlines, the hope is that when it is shown that even the tough guys in sports aren’t able to dodge the bullet on DV charges and that it IS being taken seriously, that victims will understand better that they DO deserve better!

I also pray that with men watching the sports and news and hearing how DV is wrong, and what these men are going through because of their actions and that even as stars they have to take the consequences of their actions, that they will think twice about committing domestic violence themselves.

Only time will tell…

Thank You to the news sources and sports casters that are covering these cases and speaking out against Domestic Violence! Many don’t even realize that this is Domestic Violence Awareness Month as well as Breast Cancer Awareness Month, but that’s ok…it seems that high profile cases are taking care of raising the awareness themselves!

The NHL announced Monday that Los Angeles Kings defenseman Slava Voynov has been suspended indefinitely after an early morning arrest on domestic violence charges.

Here's the official statement in full from the NHL:

Los Angeles Kings defenseman Slava Voynov has been suspended indefinitely from all club activities pending a formal investigation by the National Hockey League of an arrest this morning on charges of domestic violence.

The suspension was imposed under Section 18-A.5 of the Collective Bargaining Agreement, which provides that, during the pendency of a criminal investigation, “The League may suspend the Player pending the League's formal review and disposition of the matter where the failure to suspend the Player during this period would create a substantial risk of material harm to the legitimate interests and/or reputation of the League.”

Voynov, who will continue to be paid during the pendency of the investigation, was arrested for California Penal Code section 273.5, Domestic Violence.

There are very few details at this time about what happened leading up to Voynov's arrest. Voynov is indeed innocent until proven guilty, but the NHL isn't going to let him play until more is learned about the allegations.

Given the climate of professional sports leagues and how they deal with domestic violence issues, the NHL wasted no time. The league apparently knew about the arrest before just about anyone else as the NHL's announcement preceded any reports of Voynov's arrest.

How quickly the league reacted to these allegations offers quite the contrast to how the NHL handled domestic violence allegations against Colorado Avalanche goaltender Semyon Varlamov, who was arrested around this time last year. Varlamov barely missed any time and the charges were eventually dropped.

The heat the NFL took over the early stages of its own season regarding the incident involving Ray Rice of the Baltimore Ravens has certainly put other leagues on notice.

The NHL is doing the right thing by not waiting for the league process to sort itself out this time. The collective bargaining agreement section that covers "off-ice conduct" will continue to allow Voynov to be paid, though. He will also still count against the Kings salary cap, leaving them with almost no flexibility to replace him.

According to information on the Los Angeles Sheriff Department's website, Voynov was arrested at 12:45 a.m. Monday by Redondo Beach police. The initial arrest report does not specify the charges Voynov might face, but does say he faces felony charges.

The Redondo Beach P.D. is expected to issue a statement regarding Voynov's arrest later Monday afternoon.

The Los Angeles Kings released the following statement regarding Voynov's arrest:

These developments are of great concern to our organization. We support the NHL's decision to suspend Slava Voynov indefinitely during this process and we will continue to take appropriate action as the legal proceedings and the investigation by the NHL take their course.

October 13, 2014

This is something I have been sitting on for months…not sure if I wanted to post it or if I should. I’ve been praying about it and have read over it and feel that it’s something that really needs to be said. This is just the beginning of this topic, yet it is a beginning!

Here I’m sharing what I’ve seen and what I’ve learned and noticed…abuse is not absent within the church! Often times it’s one spouse that comes to church and the other does not, yet many times both do attend church. This is a topic that needs to be talked about and addressed! This is not something to be silent about!

Do you feel an Abuser can Truly be a Christian?

Let’s be real here, we have Christians that are abusers within our churches and within our communities. This is nothing new, yet it seems that it’s yet another topic that so many don’t want to talk about. We have abusive Fathers, Mothers, Husbands, and Wives wearing the “Mask of Christianity”. We have ministers that are abusing and even killing their wives. We have Pastors who abuse their wives and children; we have Priests that molest young boys…

This isn’t anything new! This is a societal issue; we have abusers in all facets of society! There are abusers who are doctors, lawyers, political officials, police officers, judges, clerks, waiters, waitresses, trash truck drivers…so why is it such a surprise we have them as Christians as well? 1 in 4 (this is what the common statistic states as of today, although I truly believe it’s more like 1 in 3) women are affected by abuse, and this doesn’t even touch the men that are abused (1 in 7) as well! How many people sit in your church every Sunday? How many do you see shopping at Walmart, in the mall, or on the roads daily? How many are abuse victims? More importantly, how many are abusers?

October 1, 2014

Forgiving our abusers is something that all us survivors of domestic violence truly struggle with. Sharing a little bit today on a few steps that has truly helped me leap this bridge of healing and forgiving.

I truly pray that it helps someone in their healing!

Forgiving Our Abusers…

This is such a touchy subject, and something that is so hard to do…

Last week I was speaking to a friend of mine and she was asking about some of my past…she is not a survivor of abuse yet works for abused children so understands to an extent what abuse is like. She was surprised that I have been able to forgive my abusers like I have, and that really got me thinking…

So many of us really struggle with forgiving our abusers, I know I did! Let me tell you, it wasn’t something I did over night, and honestly, the end result I don’t even think I did myself…

Matthew 6:14 (NKJV)

14“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

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