Subject Version of Social Style Questionnaire (ICQ-R40.

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Instructions: Answer the questions for each of the people listed on the right. Best Friend refers to yourbest same-sex friend (that you listed earlier). On each blank line write a number from 1 to 5. Look at thebottom of the page to see what each number means. Best You Friend

1. How good is this person at asking someone new to do

things together, like go to a ball game or a movie?

2. How good is this person at making someone feel better

when they or unhappy or sad?

3. How good is this person at getting people to go along with

what he or she wants?

4. How good is this person at telling people private things

about himself or herself?

5. How good is this person at resolving disagreements in ways

that make things better instead of worse?

6. How good is this person at going out of his or her way to

start up new relationships?

7. How good is this person at being able to make others feel

like their problems are understood?

8. How good is this person at taking charge?

9. How good is this person at letting someone see his or her

sensitive side?

10. How good is this person at dealing with disagreements in

ways than make both people happy in the long run?

11. How good is this person at carrying on conversations with

new people that he or she would like to know better?

12. How good is this person at helping people work through

their thoughts and feelings about important decisions?

1 = Poor at this; would be so uncomfortable and unable to

handle this situation that it would be avoided if possible. 2 = Fair at this; would feel uncomfortable and would have some difficulty handling this situation. 3 = O.K. at this; would feel somewhat uncomfortable and have a little difficulty handling this situation. 4 = Good at this; would feel comfortable and able to handle this situation very well. 5 = EXTREMELY good at this; would feel very comfortable and could handle this situation very well. Subject Version of Social Style Questionnaire (ICQ-R40.sub)

You Best Fri en d13. How good is this person at sticking up for himself or herself?

14. How good is this person at telling someone embarrassing

things about himself or herself?

15. How good is this person at resolving disagreements in

ways so neither person feels hurt or resentful?

16. How good is this person at introducing himself or herself to

people for the first time?

17. How good is this person at helping people handle Pressure

or upsetting events?

18. How good is this person at getting someone to agree with

his or her point of view?

19. How good is this person at opening up and letting someone

get to know everything about himself or herself?

20. How good is this person at dealing with disagreements in

ways so that one person does not always come out the loser.

21. How good is this person at calling new people on the

phone to set up a time to get together to do things?

22. How good is this person at showing that he or she really

cares when someone talks about problems?

23. How good is this person at deciding what should be done?

24. How good is this person at sharing personal thoughts and

feelings with others?

25. How good is this person at dealing with disagreements in

ways that don’t lead to big arguments.

26. How good is this person at going places where there are unfamiliar people in order to get to know new people?

1 = Poor at this; would be so uncomfortable and unable to

handle this situation that it would be avoided if possible. 2 = Fair at this; would feel uncomfortable and would have some difficulty handling this situation. 3 = O.K. at this; would feel somewhat uncomfortable and have a little difficulty handling this situation. 4 = Good at this; would feel comfortable and able to handle this situation very well. Subject Version of Social Style Questionnaire (ICQ-R40.sub)

5 = EXTREMELY good at this; would feel very comfortable

and could handle this situation very well. Best You Friend27. How good is this person at helping others understand their problems better?

28. How good is this person at voicing his or her desires and opinions?

29. How good is this person at telling someone things that he or

she does not want everyone to know?

30. How good is this person at getting over disagreements

quickly?

31. How good is this person at making good first impressions

when getting to know new people?

32. How good is this person at giving suggestions and advice in

ways that are received well by others?

33. How good is this person at getting his or her way with others?

34. How good is this person at telling someone his or her true feelings about other people?

35. How good is this person controlling his or her temper when having a conflict with someone?

36. How good is this person at being an interesting and fun

person to be with when first getting to know people?

37. How good is this person at listening while others "let off steam" about problems they are going through?

38. How good is this person at making decisions about where to

go or what to do?

39. How good is this person at telling someone what he or she

personally thinks about important things?

40. How good is this person at backing down in a disagreement

once it becomes clear that he of she is wrong?

1 = Poor at this; would be so uncomfortable and unable to

handle this situation that it would be avoided if possible. 2 = Fair at this; would feel uncomfortable and would have some difficulty handling this situation. 3 = O.K. at this; would feel somewhat uncomfortable and have a little difficulty handling this situation. 4 = Good at this; would feel comfortable and able to handle this situation very well. Subject Version of Social Style Questionnaire (ICQ-R40.sub)

5 = EXTREMELY good at this; would feel very comfortable

and could handle this situation very well. Subject Version of Social Style Questionnaire (ICQ-R40.sub) 2. How good is this person at If you only want to ask the subject, than make both people happy in the delete the friend making someone feel better Asserting Influence long run? (REVISED) Column, If you only when they are unhappy or sad? 15. How good is this want to ask about the 7. How good is this person at being 3. How good is this person at person at resolving friend, delete the able to make others getting people to go along withdisagreements what in subject column. feel like their problems are he or she wants? (REVISED) ways so neither understood? 8. How good is this person at taking person feels hurt or 12. How good is this person atcharge? (REVISED) resentful? (REVISED) Scoring helping people work 13. How good is this person at20. How good is this 1. Listing of items by subscale.through their thoughts and feelingssticking up for himself or herself? person at dealing with 2 . To create subscale scores,about important 18. How good is this person atdisagreements incompute the average item decisions? getting someone to agree withwayshis so that one score across the items making17. upHow good is this person ator her point of view? (REVISED) person does not the subscale. helping people handle 23. How good is this person atalways come out the pressure or upsetting events? deciding what should be done? loser? (REVISED) 3. Items are listed (roughly) in 22. How good is this person at(REVISED) 25. How good is this reverse order of their showing that he or she 28. How good is this person atperson at dealing with contribution to the internal really cares when someone talks voicing his or her desires and disagreements in consistency reliability of the about problems? opinions? (REVISED) ways that don't lead to subscale. To reduce the number 27.ofHow good is this person at33. How good is this person atbig arguments. items in a subscale, helping others understand getting his or her way with others? 30. How good is this person at delete blocks of 5 items from thetheir problems better? (REVISED) getting over disagreements quickly? 32. How good is this person at38. How good is this person at35. How good is this person end of the measure. giving suggestions and making decisions about wherecontrolling to go his or her temper when 4. (REVISED) indicates that the advice in ways that are received or what to do? (REVISED) having a conflict with someone? item was revised in 1992. newly well by others? 40. How good is this person 37. How good is this person atSelf-Disclosure listening while others "let at backing down in a Initiating Relationships off steam" about problems that4.they disagreement once it How good is this person at telling are going through? people private things about himself becomes clear that he of she 1. How good is this person at or herself? asking someone new to do is wrong? 9. How good is this person at letting things together, like go to a ball someone see his or her sensitive game or a movie? side? 6. How good is this person at going 14. How good is this person at out of his or her way telling someone embarrassing to start up new relationships? things about himself or herself? 19. How good is this person at 11. How good is this person at opening up and letting someone get carrying on conversations to know everything about himself or with new people that he or she herself? would like to know better? 24. How good is this person at 16.How good is this person at sharing personal thoughts and introducing himself or feelings with others? herself to people for the first time? 29. How good is this person at 21.How good is this person at telling someone things that he or calling new people on the she does not want everyone to phone to set up a time to get know? together to do things? 34. How good is this person at 26. How good is this person at telling someone his or her true going places where there feelings about other people? are unfamiliar people in order to get 39. How good is this person at to know new people? telling someone what he or she 31. How good is this person at personally thinks about important making good first things? impressions when getting to know new people? Conflict Resolution (REVISED) 36. How good is this person at being an interesting and 5. How good is this person at fun person to be with when first resolving disagreements in ways getting to know people? that make things better instead of worse? (REVISED) Providing Emotional Support 10. How good is this person at dealing with disagreements in waysSubject Version of Social Style Questionnaire (ICQ-R40.sub)