Philadelphia MFT

The holidays are here again, and unfortunately that also means breakup season is upon us. More relationships break up between Thanksgiving and New Years than any other time. To avoid being sad during what should be “the most wonderful time of the year,” I have added 4 more steps to add onto my previously posted Breakup Survival Guide (if you haven’t done so yet, read part 1 first)!

1. Get healthy

Join a gym, eat right, and focus your energy onto empowering yourself. You won’t have time to dwell on what’s his name while you’re kicking ass at the gym.

2. Find a hobby

Ever wanted to take up painting but couldn’t find the time? Now is your chance! This is another great way to not only distract from sad feelings, but to channel energy in a healthy and positive way.

3. Build up your social network

The greater your connections, the less alone you will feel. Lean on your friends and family for support, and start making some new friends! As your network (and social calendar) grows, so will your confidence.

4. Set boundaries

It may feel natural for yourself and others to want to dwell on the breakup. However, it's not healthy to keep going over it repeatedly. Set some some boundaries for yourself and for others around talking about the breakup. Decide how often, when, and by whom it can be brought up, and then stick to those guidelines.

​ As humans, we tend to pick the same partners repeatedly. After beginning to heal from a breakup, you may think to yourself that the problems in your last relationship sound pretty familiar to the problems you had in past relationships. Going to therapy can help you heal while figuring out what you need to move forward and find someone better suited for you.