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In Aug 2013, when I was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s and FTD, I thought it meant the end of my life. Like me, the doctors, friends and family seemed to automatically focus on the last phase of dementia. Since the doctor suggested we see an attorney and “get our affairs in order”, I pictured myself over night becoming the person who couldn’t take care of myself and couldn’t remember my loved ones.

This is so far from reality. Reality is – –

There Is Life after Diagnosis!

How much and what quality depends in part, on how well we recognize and react to the changes. Although we cannot stop the progression of this disease and the changes that are happening to me, together we have learned to tackle some of the challenges. These are some of the ways we have adapted to reduce or deal with Dementia Daze Days.

Avoid Stress and Drama whenever possible!

Stress has a strong impact on dementia symptoms and can cause days of confusion. There are times I have to just walk away or hang-up and tune it out.

Music is a MUST

For those stressful moments that can’t be avoided, I put on heavy headphones, listen to MY music and allow my mind to escape. My iPad and our stereo are programmed with my music selection.

Restaurants

Yes we can still dine out (albeit, financial status may prohibit how often). To reduce the confusion we go to restaurants during off hours, like 3:00 or 4:00 when there are not as many people. We ask for a table away from heavy traffic flow and not by a TV. This creates a better environment for me to stay focused.

Grocery stores

We found the store activity is lowest very early in the morning. At our store if you are buying lottery tickets or cigarettes, they have to check you out at customer service – some days it is worth spending a dollar on a lottery ticket! Who knows, some day I may actually win!

Mall Shopping –

Haven’t figured this one out yet. Shop on-line.

Daily Activities

My iPad has become my lifeline! My day begins with checking my iPad calendar. I have notifications to feed the dogs, take my pills, complete tasks, etc. Each event has a different ring tone and displays what the event is – thus I have verbal and written instructions. It contains all my contacts (address, phone number, email, birthday, and spouses name), scheduled appointments, daily tasks, medications, doctor information, and my daily journal. All the information I would need is in one place. For me it is a necessity.

Telephone Calls

I keep pen & paper (or iPad) near the phone so I can make notes. If I don’t know the caller – it goes to the answering machine. “Telephone Tips for Calling PWD” (available on http://www.dementiadaze.com) is printed and handed to any business that I deal with.

Log all changes and discuss them!

We keep a record of changes, new symptoms, worsening conditions, odd behavior, etc., we discuss them and share with the neurologist. When necessary, we discuss what modifications may be needed.

Escape

Our hot tub is our refuge! That is where we escape to talk, cry, laugh, or just be together. No phones, no electronics, no noise, no confusion. Together, we deal with changes, make plans, discuss the future and make new dreams.

Just Say NO!

This was one of the most difficult challenges for me. Sometimes we have to back out of a scheduled event such as a wedding, a party, or having guests over. Experiencing Dementia Daze is like digging for a coin in a muddy swamp on a foggy day – everything is murky and unclear. The more you move around, the deeper you and your goal sink. The deeper you sink, the more difficult it is to get back out. The best thing to do is sit back and let the water settle and the fog clear.

We are committed to recognize changes and make adjustments to reduce the challenges for as long as we can. I am so blessed to have a wonderful husband to walk beside me through this journey and family to give us both support.

I am 56 and I have dementia (a.k.a. Progressive Degenerative Impairment, Early Onset Alzheimer’s, etc). I share my thoughts and emotions, in hope that this will help others who are part of this dementia daze. People wonder why I don’t want to go places anymore. Why I don’t like to do the things I used to do. My heart aches to have my old life back. I want to do the things I used to do, go the places I used to go, drive for hours and be with people. I can still do some of these things. However; with each “adventure” I have to weigh the consequences. Take for example a simple trip to that mega superstore that we all hate but seem to flock back to. For me the confusion begins the minute I exit the car. Walk through the sliding doors someone’s collecting carts and jamming them together with a clatter, clatter, bang, bang. A child is screaming, a couple fighting, someone stocking shelves, person in front of me blocking the aisle while on her cell talking about an affair. Noise, noise everywhere! Voices become amplified as though I am in a cave. Concentrate, just follow the list. Out of dog treats – pick a different one. Moved the tuna – track it down. Chicken won’t be done for 30 minutes – what else can I get for dinner. That means redoing the menu. OK, what do I need? Noise everywhere, baby crying, kids running, people talking, carts banging. Aisles are closing in. Someone I know, oh help! Talking fast – I hear them, but the words are not connecting. Boxes on the floor, carts in the pathway, chatter, noise – chaos! Whew! Finally done. Double-check the list. Go to the checkout – one lane open, 8 people in line. Noise intensifying – coming from every angle. Can’t think, getting stressed, sounds like everyone is speaking through a boom box. Do they know how loud they are? Need to get out of here! The outcome of an adventure to me often results in such mental fatigue that it takes me days to come out of the fog. The one little outing that others take for granted, is often a tremendous undertaking for me. So yes, please continue to invite us to participate in events; but understand there are times the answer has to be no and there are times we will say yes and at the last minute can’t make it. This is my life and Roy & I are making the best of every day – some times that means staying home is the best option.

Love & Laughter,

Laurie

I am so honored, my friend Gene Suchma (another PWD) drew an illustration to go with my post! Thank you Gene! Visit more of Gene’s art work at http://cartoonsandfineart.com