Month: October 2017

Today, we have a lot of kinds of status updating on media social. We started with facebook status update, then continued on blackberry’s and today, the most popular one was instagram story. Let me ask you, what do you expect of status updating? What will you obtain after updating something in your social media?

I don’t know about you, but after watching and commenting my friend’s status, I concluded that they were looking for some attentions. The aim of their status updating was thy wanted to be got some likes or comments from anyone. Some of them wanted to be praised because they did something that amazed lots of people, while the other wanted to be noticed because somehow they felt that other people, especially their closest ones ignoring them. I myself had the same reasons behind publishing my social media statuses.

The question is: is it wrong? I don’t think so. Every human being needs to be loved, to be noticed, to be praised. It is a basic need. But, without realizing it, some people had exposed their personal life. They showed everyone how they actually were, only to get some attentions. The problem was the things that they published sometimes were not the positive ones. Sometimes people published their angers, sadness, hate on their social media. Instead of praises or positive reactions, they got bullied. They had disgraced themselves for sake of the popularity or attentions.

While some people showed who they actually were, the other showed a fake life that they presented on their status updating. Somehow, it was so sad. They had to lie and pretend to be happy while actually they didn’t. For example, some people post an istagram story that showed their holiday activities in other country, but the truth was they just found some spots that looked same to the scenery in that country.

I don’t know how you use your social media updating facility, but for me, I rarely update my status or my instagram, especially if it is connected to my personal life. I don’t need other’s permission or agreement to enjoy my life. My life is directed by God and me, not other’s opinion. In addition, I don’t care how other people appreciate me as long as I spread some positive things – according to me. I don’t ask you to follow my way in using media social, but I hope you using your media social and the facilities that provided wisely. Have a nice social media activities.

Hater… Today it was common to find that someone has a hater or haters. Some celebrities even have thousands of haters. The haters even have their own group and they always give a bad comment about the celebrity. I don’t have any idea why someone became a hater. Well, I myself had an experience becoming a hater. I used to hate my friend. The source of my hatred was I was disappointed in her. When we had group homework, she didn’t do her part yet always complained about our work. Well, I thought it was reasonable enough to make me didn’t want to be friend with her. But it was in the past.

When thinking about it, I asked myself, what was I looking for as being a hater? What did I get? Nothing. I got nothing for becoming a hater. Instead, I lost my happiness because I always thought how to get rid of her. I meant I didn’t want her be near me. The most annoying thing was she didn’t aware of my hatred toward her. She keep did her usual activity as if everything was ok. I once told her that I hated her acts, but innocently, she didn’t keep it on mind. At the end, I suffered because of my hatred but she didn’t feel anything. You see, there was no point of hating someone.

The other negative impact of hatred is it spreads. Once we hating someone, we would speak his bad only to the people around us. The longer we talked his badness, the people around us became hating him even at first they didn’t. At the end, we became the agent of hatred that destroy the relationships between the people surround us and him. We sacrificed them for nourishing our hatred. In my case, I got my friends hated her. At first, they just thought that she was annoying but later they hated her too.

From my experience, I learnt that hatred was not only consuming the object of my hatred, but also consuming me and my friends. My hatred destroyed all of us. I know it was easy to speak don’t hate but it’s really hard to implement it. However all of us have a choice, a choice to grow hatred or to let it go. Please make a wise choice..