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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

How to Start the New Year Right

It’s common to make New Year’s resolutions for yourself come January 1, but now that you’re part of a duo, there are probably a few things you wish your spouse would resolve for him or herself as well. We asked newlyweds on TheNest.com what they hope their spouse will change when the clock strikes 12 on January 1.

Many users of TheNest.com are concerned for their spouse’s wellbeing. We suggest you two embark on a New Year’s shape-up plan together.

“I wish he would finally quit smoking and stop drinking three or four coffees a day.” --RIDERPUNK

“I want him to start going to the gym and eating better.” --JSTEWART

“Eat more, actually. I worry that he’s not getting the nutrition he needs.” --JAKESBIGSIS

“I wish he would be more open to foods and let me cook some new recipes.” --JSMITHOREGON

Other newlyweds on TheNest.com hope their spouse has the same New Year’s resolutions they do -- specifically, expanding the family and spending more time together.

“Maybe he could slow down a little and just enjoy life, instead of rushing through it!” --STEEN05

“To knock me up!” --XINEYMARIE

“I wouldn’t be upset if he planned more vacations for us!” --BBRIDE2009

“Mine would be for him to play his video games just a little less and to spend a little more time doing fun activities with me.” --CAUSMCWIFE

“Surprise me one day and actually be on time.” --DEZI ANNETTE

Finally, some wish their spouse would stop being lazy!

“He wants to get his master’s, but c’mon -- a little less talk and a lot more action, please.” --LIVFREE

“I wish he would decide to get his hair cut on a regular basis, rather than waiting until he can’t see.” --MARIEDAIGLE