There may be a deeper issue here between you and your husband. In my marriage it took two to make a baby and two to undo one. That was an issue that needed to be faced. We had a serious argument one night in which I just came right out and said, “I was CRAZY with sickness, I wasn’t myself. I couldn’t help myself, how could I be there for anyone else? YOU weren’t sick. YOU were yourself. I know how I (underlined) got to that point, BUT WHERE WERE YOU!?!?!” On the flip side, I had to hear his response and his expression of anger at me for my part. I had a right to my anger and sorrow, and he had a right to his. This is the experience. And we both grieve and survive in different ways. Abortion did not strengthen our marriage by any stretch of the imagination. But our marriage did survive it. And yours can too.