Would you go to a shelter? UD and ? Pg. 3

When do you give up on finding a new place in time to prevent WWIII and go to a shelter? Is that worth it? I'm now doing all the chores for 6 people, and I'm so depressed!

Last week my mother got a job, more power to her. She isn't home to make dinner half the week, and has been making me make dinner a few hours early so that my father can eat. They're not paying for the food, nor helping in any way with the dishes. Neither is my sister, who works and doesn't pay any rent or board.

So Monday, my day went like this: I get up early because someone talking loudly woke us up. I do chores and care for my daughter until my mother gets home from shopping. She tells me I need to cook separate dinner for my father. She leaves. I cook dinner. My father comes home, makes a nasty remark about the food, and yells at me for cleaning the pantry of months old expired food because he was 'eating that'.

My sister comes home, puts her lunch dishes with my dad's in the sink (food still on them), and grabs my laptop to do her work on. I'm stuck on the couch nursing my daughter. Sister farts loudly. I ask her nicely to please do that in the bathroom. She makes fun of me while eating my dinner. She goes to take some fruit I bought for my daughter. I ask her not to, DH asks her not to, she throws the fruit in the kitchen, and throws a toy at me and DD.

Mom is home by this time, and is angry at me for not letting sister (in her late 20's) not to eat the fruit. Sister doesn't speak to me again for three days (so far). Everyone goes to bed, and I clean up after everyone, take out trash, and do dishes. I do three loads of dishes a day on average, and DH takes the trash out.

I would leave their garbage and mess around, but it will easily get dangerous for my toddler. We already have bugs from rotting fruit, my father leaves the toilet seat up, and small objects (misses the trash with nutshells) around for DD to choke on. My mom smokes and leaves lighters and cigarettes in reach. My sister will leave books and computers in reach of DD, and become really upset when I move them into her room to avoid them being messed with.

My sister is also very angry with us because we told her she could not be alone with DD after she threatened to prank DD by telling her her TOT candy had all been eaten (some Jimmy Kimmel thing?), and told us if we'd raised our two year old right she'd not be upset, so she was testing our parenting. Later that week DH told my sister that the TOT candy (DD's and my mother's leftover, sis paid for none of it) was all gone, and she SNAPPED; She seriously said, 'It was funny when I wanted to do it to your child because it was a joke, but you REALLY ate the candy and it's not a joke!' She is almost 27, not mentally ill, and a retail manager.

My question is, is it worth living here anymore while we find a place? We have two appointments to check out rentals this week, I'm just worried that something will cause a big issue sooner as I've had things thrown at me. What would you do? And please no one simply say 'move', as we're working on finding a place immediately. I just need to know when you would go into emergency mode or if you have any advice in the meantime.

OP, don't forget about your mail. Go down to the post office and rent a mailbox for 6 months. It's only like $12 for a simple box. IMMEDIATELY change your mailing address to that PO Box. Seriously - every single item you can think of should be changed to the PO box first thing in the morning. Bank accounts, credit cards, student loans, DMV, car payments, insurance, work, doctor's offices, etc.

While at the post office, also submit a forwarding for you and DH's mail to the PO Box.

Your parents and sister are abusing you and are more than willing to abuse your child. You shouldn't be considering limited contact; you should be considering whether or not to report them to the health department and the police.

Where I live you can get an extended stay hotel room for a week for around $179. If its affordable in your area look into one of those. When my husbands job transferred he lived out of one of those for about 6 months before we got a house and moved with him. If you find a newer one they aren't that bad. Have mini kitchens all you need until you find a new place. If you have furniture you think will get claimed or ruined if you leave it behind put it in storage.

Where I live you can get an extended stay hotel room for a week for around $179. If its affordable in your area look into one of those. When my husbands job transferred he lived out of one of those for about 6 months before we got a house and moved with him. If you find a newer one they aren't that bad. Have mini kitchens all you need until you find a new place. If you have furniture you think will get claimed or ruined if you leave it behind put it in storage.

Where I live you can get an extended stay hotel room for a week for around $179. If its affordable in your area look into one of those. When my husbands job transferred he lived out of one of those for about 6 months before we got a house and moved with him. If you find a newer one they aren't that bad. Have mini kitchens all you need until you find a new place. If you have furniture you think will get claimed or ruined if you leave it behind put it in storage.

We do stay in our room a lot, but it's my old childhood room, it's small and off the kitchen. I guess it was the laundry room? DH and I fixed it up when we started seeing each other, it had some horrible cracks right through the walls to the garage and outside.

DH is off of overtime, so he'll get to spend most afternoons with us. My parents and sister work in the morning, so I won't be alone with them again until we move out unless something changes. I feel bad for messing with DH's work schedule, but DD and I couldn't be alone with them anymore.

I already put my foot down about cooking for them. They've been living off of those pre packaged roasts, bagged salad, and leftovers for two days. Not sure what they'll do when the leftovers run out.

My sister messed up the stove cooking for her boyfriend. I left that because DD can't reach it. I'm only washing DH/DD/my towel's too, so I'm not sure what they're all showering with tomorrow.

I actually might have kept helping, but when I complained about being taken advantage of, my mom told me I wasn't ever that big a help. Apparently she forgot the time when I was in college and she said that when I was doing the laundry for her. I put it down, walked away, and never washed, dried nor folded another piece of their laundry again.

Your parents are verbally abusive to you. It breaks my heart to read what your mother says to you because mine said the same things. When I was 8 years old and cooking a full dinner (not even kidding pork chops, mashed potatoes, gravy and desert) for five people because my parents were busy with work and the farm it wasn't good enough. Helping YS with her homework wasn't enough. Keeping the whole house clean wasn't enough. People like that don't care if you do everything for them. They don't care if you kill yourself doing things for them it won't ever be enough.

Please when you move out put them on a 6 month TO and then reevaluate it. I think after 6 months of no contact you will look back and ask yourself why the hell it took you so long to get away from them. They are toxic people dear.