if you accidentally misgender someone, or say the wrong name, just correct yourself in the same manner as if you called a cis person by the wrong name or pronouns, which is not unknown because we are all capable of verbal slips.

sometimes i accidentally call people my dog’s name, or i call them “mom”

the right way to do this is “[wrong name], excuse me, [correct name]” or “[wrong pronoun], I’m sorry [correct pronoun]”

if you accidentally mess up someone’s pronouns, do not call attention to it by falling over yourself to apologize.

conversely, do not just move on and hope they didn’t notice. they definitely noticed. not correcting yourself is offensive, and pretending that you didn’t mess up is a form of gaslighting.

if you feel like going the extra mile, apologize the next time you’re alone with them, without excuses. say “I’m sorry that I misgendered you” or “I’m sorry called you the wrong name.” do not say “it’s so hard, and i keep forgetting! I’m so bad!” trans people hear this over and over, and the message is that they should apologize for being what they are.if someone close to you has changed their name and/or pronouns, and you’re having a difficult time with it, maybe you should practice at home.

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Love, love LOVE these! Cookie monster is SO cute and the Robin Moses tutorial I followed made it much easier to do than I anticipated! I painted a quote on the thumbs, go see that and more pictures here!

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The square knot is used so often in rope bondage that there really is no avoiding it. This is an absolutely necessary knot to learn and master. That being said, many people get it wrong. It’s very easy to mistakenly tie a “Granny” knot instead of a true square knot. The square knot consists of two half-hitches tied in opposite directions. If you tie the two half-hitches in the same direction, you end up with a granny knot. Tying the half-hitches in the same direction imparts a twist on the knot that can cause the knot to bind and make it very difficult to untie. Hopefully, this guide can help you avoid this mistake.

To avoid confusing yourself, always hold the “X” with your left hand and pass the line on the right(after crossing) through the loop with your right hand.

Start with the cardboard tube from a roll of paper towels. With a pair of scissors, cut the tube lengthwise all the way down its length.

Roll the tube to the diameter you’d like the finished dildo to be, and wrap tape around it to hold it at that size.

Take a condom and put it into the top of the cardboard tube, and then overlap the top half inch or so of the condom around the edge of the tube as shown in this pic. You can use a lubricated or unlubricated condom. If you use a lubricated condom, avoid spermicidally lubricated ones, because the spermicidal lubricant can get funky when it freezes.

Carefully fill the condom to the top with water. Stand the tube upright in the freezer, and wait a few hours.

In a few hours, the water will freeze. Remove the tube from the freezer. Carefully lift the top edge of the condom from around the tube and tie it in a knot to keep the water from leaking out as the ice melts. Then cut the tape holding the tube closed and remove the ice dildo.

When you’re finished, the ice dildo should look like the one shown here.

Use the dildo without removing it from the condom; as the ice melts, it will create a layer of water inside the condom that creates a very interesting sensation

Warning: You don’t want to use ice internally until it has started to melt and has a thin layer of water on its surface, or the ice may freeze to your skin.

Remember to always run the ice dildo under cool water before you use it.