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Topic: New guy at work (Read 3764 times)

I've been working with a new guy at work for a little over a week now and was immediately interested. I don't usually mix work with pleasure but I started flirting immediately. My radar kicked into high gear at first sight. We've been mostly hanging together at work and enjoy each others' company. He mentioned today that maybe we get a drink some night after work. I saw my opportunity! I asked in a stunned manner; "how do you know I don't have a boyfriend?" He immediately looked shocked and apologized. I told him it was OK because I don't have one. He felt relieved and still suggested going out for a couple.

He also works a full time job but suggested this evening. I informed him I bowl tonight and he asked if it's OK if he stops by and hangs out. Hell yes it's OK!!!! I've never had to decide on a hot outfit that you can also bowl in.....I'll figure it out.

We ended up going out for a while after bowling. He is so adorable, and at a minimum, I'm certain I've got a new friend. Learning the new things about a person and determining compatabilities takes time. There are a couple of "red flags" that I'm already concerned about, but I'll just see where it progresses.

As deeply as I long for another relationship, I refuse to settle or push for something that wasn't meant to be. I've dreaded the whole dating thing as an older adult. The whole insecurities thing and all. This gave me the confidence that I needed to believe I was actually desirable to someone.

He's an industrial electrician yet asked if I wanted to help him correct some issues with his fuse box in the house he's remodeling. Obviously, I accepted and am looking forward to the weekend. Maybe I'll convince him it needs to be really hot in the house so we can work shirtless? There's part of that dream fantasy I have about shirtless manual laborers.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I've always called it being versatile....kinda like that top/bottom thing. I'm neither exclusively - I'm both and expect the same And I do hope he already has the heat kicked up. That'd be a good sign.

I've always called it being versatile....kinda like that top/bottom thing. I'm neither exclusively - I'm both and expect the same And I do hope he already has the heat kicked up. That'd be a good sign.

Go for it Greg when I 1st met Bob, I was really shy, but he wasn't tho, he told me later-on that he thought it was cute ( me being shy and all, and being kinda funny about being POZ+),

he also told me"Hey, so what, I know what safe sex is, so I'm not worried about that" I just like YOU for who you are

18 yrs later we still like each other

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

Yeah, that disclosure thing was a toughy back then. My last attempt (just a few years ago) at a relationship resulted in him leaving while I was at work without any further communication. He was such a fool anyways. He begged me for sex and I could have simply lied but had to disclose before I could have intercourse. If he is out there having sex based on what people are telling him about their status, he hasn't learned anything about the entire dynamics of this virus.

I plan on really getting to know Stephen before disclosing. Hopefully he's mature and old enough to know about this virus. If a true friendship develops first, it might be easier to deal with. If not, it won't crush me. I no longer feel the need to assume ownership for others' behaviors.