“The Lord turned to him and said, “Go in the strength you have and save Israel out of Midian’s hand. Am I not sending you?” “Pardon me, my lord,” Gideon replied, “but how can I save Israel? My clan is the weakest in Manasseh, and I am the least in my family.” The Lord answered, “I will be with you, and you will strike down all the Midianites, leaving none alive.”

Featured Presentation: Eight Commitments to a Marriage Back Guarantee

In the book of 2 Peter chapter 1, the Apostle Peter gives the recipe for an unfailing relationship with God, your spouse, and others. In a culture where marriages are falling apart all around us, you are just eight commitments away from from having a marriage that will never fall.

Here are the eight commitments that guarantee that your marriage will never fall.

8 Commitments to a Marriage Back Guarantee

Commitment #1: I will Pursue an Active Faith

Commitment #2: I will Invest in Virtue

I will invest my full energy to demonstrate godly virtue and remain aligned as a couple, even when our differences and circumstances challenge the character of our marriage.

Commitment #3: I will Empower Knowledge

I commit to the pursuit of godly knowledge as to how to best accept, agree and affirm God’s full purpose for us as individuals and as a couple.

Commitment #4: I will Negotiate Self-control

I commit to a level of trust in God such that my life demonstrates an attitude of contentment with His provision for our marriage.

Commitment #5: I will Commit to Persevere

I commit the best part of me to keeping our marriage moving toward God and, as a redemptive spouse, modeling Christ who covers all our needs.

Commitment #6: I will Embrace a Godly Lifestyle

I commit to a lifestyle in which I expect our difficulties to shape our marriage into a vessel of honor and an altar of worship to God.

Commitment #7: I will Serve with Mutual Affection

I commit to be my spouse’s best friend who prioritizes his/her needs, advocates for his/her godly desires and challenges you to experience the best God has to offer.

Commitment #8: I will Imitate Unfailing Love

I commit to walk by your side for a lifetime with an unfailing love that worships God and channels the light of Christ into life’s dark places.

After laying out this beautiful and powerful commitment cascade, scripture tells us that those who do these eight commitments in “increasing measure” will never fall. That phrase “increasing measure” is critical. You can’t stay in a comfort zone. You have to keep pushing your investment in these commitments. To not do so is to be distant from God, the Father.

I want you to have a marriage that never falls. Your children need that. Your family needs that. Our world needs that.

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell.”

Featured Presentation:How to Create a Porn-Free Home

Special Guest: Matt Dobschuetz

In this episode, I discuss the following important topics and much more with my special guest:

How a porn addiction starts and its dangerous journey

The impact of pornography on your home and family relationships

How to recover from a porn addiction

Protecting your family in a porn-filled culture

The spiritual impact of pornography

and, much much more.

Some Vital Statistics about pornography among Christians:

The statistics for Christian men between 18 and 30 years old are particularly striking:

77 percent look at pornography at least monthly.

36 percent view pornography on a daily basis.

32 percent admit being addicted to pornography (and another 12 percent think they may be).

The statistics for middle-aged Christian men (ages 31 to 49) are no less disturbing:

77 percent looked at pornography while at work in the past three months.

64 percent view pornography at least monthly.

18 percent admit being addicted to pornography (and another 8 percent think they may be).

Even married Christian men are falling prey to pornography and extramarital sexual affairs at alarming rates:

55 percent look at pornography at least monthly.

35 percent had an extramarital sexual affair while married.

Source: The 2014 survey was commissioned by a nonprofit organization called Proven Men Ministries and conducted by Barna Group among a nationally representative sample of 388 self-identified Christian adult men.

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Faith in Focus: Love’s Prisoner

(Ephesians 4:1-2)

“As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Featured Presentation: Four Unconventional Ways to Your Spouse’s Heart on Valentine’s Day

Four Unconventional Ways

L: Listen without judgment

O – Observe the little things

V – Value his/her interest

E – Express gratitude for your relationship

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Faith in Focus: Salt and Light

(2 Thessalonians 3:11-13)

“We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the food they eat. And as for you, brothers and sisters, never tire of doing what is good.”

Featured Presentation:How to Keep Your Marriage in MOTION

All marriages are in MOTION. Each couple determines which of four types of motion for their marriage and we use a boating metaphor to explain each.

Crazy Growth – You are Sailing as a couple. You are in sync and growing. Communication and decision-making are good most of the time. Love feels easy.

Slow Growth – You are Rowing as a couple. Things are positive and moving forward. But, it takes deliberate work to make it happen. Things feel good but they don’t feel easy.

Slow Decline – You are Drifting as a couple. You feel like you are married living single much of the time. There is a lack of deliberate attention to becoming better as a couple. Things aren’t horrible but you feel like you are pulling away from each other. Intimacy is strained.

Crazy Decline – You are Sinking as a couple. Your marriage is on the way to emotional and/or physical separation. Very little, if anything, is going well. Everything feels strained.

Achieving and maintaining Crazy Growth requires that you focus on six areas as a couple.

M – MOTIVE

O – OBSTACLES

T – TOGETHERNESS

I – INTIMACY

O – Others

N – NOW

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“Now then, choose twelve men from the tribes of Israel, one from each tribe. 13 And as soon as the priests who carry the ark of the Lord—the Lord of all the earth—set foot in the Jordan, its waters flowing downstream will be cut off and stand up in a heap.”

(Joshua 3:12-13)

Featured Presentation: Turn the Page of Your Life’s Story

Special Guest: Dr. Johnny Parker

In this episode I discuss the following important topics and much more with my special guest:

What is missing in leadership

Why men struggle to listen to their heart

Why we feel stuck in a bad story

The questions to ask to turn the page in your life

and, much much more!

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About Dr. Harold Arnold

I am the author of Marriage ROCKS for Christian Couples and the accompanying Leader's Guide, both published by Judson Press.

As a Social & Organizational psychologist who is also trained as a Marriage and Family therapist, I help families reach their dreams--not necessarily in terms of just money or things--but in those relational areas that ultimately matter most.

I help leaders build what I call "relational equity" in homes, workplaces, and ministries by encouraging individuals, teams, and congregations to tap into their true inner strengths and their higher calling.

Most importantly, I encourage you to assert yourself as an influential leader in your home, workplace, and ministry.

Black and Married With Kids
Lamar and Ronnie Tyler are inspirational trendsetters, utilizing video and blogging as a medium for transforming African American marriages. Check out their award winning website that is both educational and entertaining.http://www.blackandmarriedwithkids.comHouse on the Rock Family Ministries
Dr. Bruce and Karen continue to develop innovative ways to help every aspect of family life. Their zeal helps keep me excited too.http://www.hotrfm.orgInverse Ministries
Clint and Penny are marriage missionaries with an amazing story of forgiveness, redemption, and humility. They inspire me every time I speak with them. Their 40-day marriage mission trips across the U.S. is amazing to witness.http://www.inverseministries.orgNicole Cleveland
Nicole is an inspiration. It just takes 30 seconds talking to her to realize that. While her credits as an author and speaker are impressive, I'm most touched by the way she uses her own transparency to help others find healing from abuse.http://nicolecleveland.comSheila Wray Gregoire
Sheila's website is chock full of resources for both leaders and moms. I really like her humor and down to earth style and her seemingly endless source of helpful advice.http://www.sheilawraygregoire.comTwogether Marriages
Deidra and Dwight Roussaw know travel for couples. When I need to talk to someone about planning or ideas for a travel-related event for couples the first call is always to them.http://www.twogethermarriages.blogspot.com

About Me

This is the question that I have asked many of my family, friends, and those who have trusted me in various leadership roles. The word that I most frequently hear is “teacher“.

Initially, I wondered if “teacher” aptly captures my complex array of interests and aspirations. But, the more I think about it, the more I have come to embrace myself as an educator. After all, I love to learn. Some of this is evident in my academic journey that has culminated in my doctorate in Psychology and Master’s degree in Marriage and Family therapy.