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How to be happy

Me -“Aww thank you, well I guess I just don’t surround myself with things that make me sad.”

Man – “Great answer! It’s a credit to you.”

This small conversation I had with a regular at the pub really got me thinking. It’s not the first time I’ve been complimented on being happy. Now, don’t get me wrong there are some cons to always being happy, because if you ever do get sad EVERYONE knows. However, being happy leads to a much more pleasant life. Here are some changes I made in my life to become happier.

Time alone – I used to be a busybody, someone that liked to be out all the time and interacting with lots of different people. Consequently, it wore me out. I never had any time to focus on myself. I now dedicate a certain amount of time to myself. Even if its just relaxing in the bath without my phone for half an hour. It really does help.

Self-love – If you read my blogs you will know that I am an advocate for self-love. Loving yourself allows you to be happier, have better mental health, develop more and make you stronger to help and love others.

Cutting off people – Now, I don’t know about you, but I am kind of like a 40-year-old woman. In the sense that I don’t have many friends. I find young people like to have a lot of people around them, which isn’t an issue, but it creates issues when all these young people are on their journey and they push their troubles and energy onto you. There is only so much energy you can consume before it takes a toll on your life too.

No drama – DUH! This one is pretty obvious. The friends I do have don’t cause me any drama. The drama in my life usually comes from men, but I have learnt that once a man starts causing issues in my life, I have to cut him off too. I’m happy alone, so why would I want to be unhappy with someone else?

Say less negative words – Using negative words brings negative energy into our vibration and affects us on a physical level. So let’s talk more about what we love rather than what we dislike.

Help others – There is no better feeling than helping others. It’s a great way to uplift yourself however you have to be careful. Do not keep helping people that don’t help themselves or appreciate your kindness. As this will result in your energy becoming unbalanced and leaving you feeling drained.

Be selfish – This is my favourite one. Being selfish doesn’t make me a horrible person or a greedy person. I personally think it makes you clever, as you put yourself first so that you can be the best you can be and when you’re on top form, you are more beneficial to others.