OPINION: Having kids 'too late' in life is a selfish act

COMMENT BY KATHY SUNDSTROM: Call me heartless, but I think Sonia Kruger and her partner are incredibly selfish.

Having a baby at 48 with the assistance of an egg donor is purely about a couple's desire to have the "experience" of a child.

Very little thought is given to the future of child their scientific act of conception has created.

Because if much thought and research had gone into how the children of donor sperm and eggs feel about their life's journey, surely Kruger and her partner wouldn't have gone down this road.

I understand Kruger's innate desire to want to have a child.

I understand she tried natural conception unsuccessfully.

But let's face it, she only started trying after her 40s.

I am sick and tired of reading about celebrities and how in the years they should be embracing the idea of grandchildren, they've suddenly woken up to the reality they skipped parenthood.

Maybe their careers came for beforehand, maybe they hadn't met "Mr Right".

Kruger has said on record it wasn't about her career, it was about her being "in the right place".

Whatever. That child deserves a future.
A future with its parents young and healthy enough to play footy, go to dance lessons and partake in their hectic and busy young lives.

Kruger is misguided if she thinks age is irrelevant to being a good parent.

Is she going to be alive and well enough to be there when her daughter meets Mr Right?

If her daughter follows in her non-biological mum's footsteps, she'll be dead or 98 before she gets to hold her first grandchild.

That desire for a child to see itself in its parent and understand its DNA and heritage is as innate as the parent's desire to have a child.

Yet, somehow, this natural desire of children to know their birth parent is discarded in favour of the caregivers rights to have the family they want.

Even if it is a family artificially created.

They believe and are told by the greedy companies trying to make money out of their wish for a "miracle" that their love for the child is all that counts.

If you read the stories of adults who were conceived by donors, the overwhelming theme is love is not enough.

Kruger and her partner aren't solely to blame for the fact that have to make a baby to be a parent.

Australia's prohibitive and ridiculous adoption laws make it difficult for people to give a foster child a permanent home.

The system is messed up. And it's our children who are going to have to pay the price of these experiments by their selfish parents and the system which promotes artificially creating babies instead of properly caring for those that already exist.