A 25 year old city girl shares her thoughts on dating and love, and opens it up for men and women to debate controversial topics.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Are they Cheating? Here's how to tell.

Cheaters can have several tell-tale signs.

1. Deviation from the norm / schedule (working late eh?)2. More cell phone calls and reluctance to answer around you (what are they hiding?)3. Secret / questionable content on their computer. Are they closing screens when you enter or always deleting history? 4. Change in appearance for no reason (all of a sudden, they're doing their hair to go to the mall or dressing up to go grocery shopping)5. Decrease in sexual appetite - where else are they getting some?6. They get defensive when you ask questions, even if they're innocent (the guilt gets to them)7. The passenger seat on the car has changed even though they claim they haven't driven with anyone.8. Money troubles - do they have less money to go out? Maybe they're spending it going out with someone else.9. They stop wearing their ring or anything you gave them.

Ofcourse, all of this should be taken with a pinch of salt - nothing works better than sitting down and talking about your concerns.

Good luck to you all and I hope you never have to deal with a cheater!

2 comments:

No one can ever be certain their partner is not cheating. If you suspect, that is proof enough...

that the relationship is over.

It doesn't prove your partner is cheating. It proves there is no longer trust between the two of you. Get out now. There can be only 3 causes of mistrust:

1. Your partner is cheating and your intuition and suspicions are right2. Your partner is less emotionally involved than you. You can feel that person's relative lack of interest compared to your own.3. You have trust issues and need to be on your own in order to fix your emotional needs.

No matter how you slice it, if you're suspicious, end it. If it is meant to be, you'll get back together someday with real trust and loyalty. Chances are... it's not meant to be anyway.