Why Fem Porn Is Also Great for Men

While working late one night with Pearl, she looked up form her desk, and made a comment that caught my attention.

“Babe, I found something you might like.”

“What is it?”

“Porn,” she said.

Now how was I supposed to concentrate after hearing something like that, right?

So I got up, walked over, and had a look.

All I could say was, WOW!

I had no idea porn could be this good. For so long I thought that porn was just low production value, fake breasts, too much makeup, or that user-generated amateur stuff you see on Youporn.com

I’ve since learned that there’s this world of porn with movie-like cinematography, attractive women, and yes even an interesting story line. It’s called fem porn, or porn made with women in mind. My favorite so far, which Pearl found via the “Best Feminist Movie” award nominees, is Cabaret Desire by Erika Lust. http://www.lustcinema.com/Cabaret-Desire/

Typical porn sites like Brazzers.com are great, but most of the scenes cut right to sex… no story, no intrigue, no build-up. While this is good if you want to knock one out real quick before going to work, they’re terrible if you want to feel full levels of arousal. For this, you’ll need something a little more interesting that can hold your attention. Porn made by women, for women does just this. It takes into account the entire sexual experience: the build-up, the anticipation, the chase, the subtleties that all add to a woman being turned on, and yes – the sex too. But not the kind of sex where it’s clear they’re just paid actors. This is the real, hot, genuine, sincere sex where you actually believe the man and woman have a connection.

Naturally, watching Cabaret Desire changed how I go about a night of self-gratification.

When it came to porn, I didn’t care about the story, I didn’t care if her boobs or hair were real, I just wanted to jerk-off then go to sleep. Now when I do decide to spank the monkey, I don’t do it with the same 0 – 60 mph mentality. I instead take the time to feel the sensations in my body. Over time, this has made me a better lover because I’m not so focused on the outcome of finishing, but instead enjoying the ride. I’ve also learned that a loose soft touch, and bringing my attention to the sensations in my body, lead to deeper levels of arousal, then just pumping with the grip of death. I have my girlfriend to thank for teaching me how to touch myself less like a man and more like a woman 🙂

More on this later.

If you’re into porn, and want something that is more interesting that your typical steady-cam amateur-point-of-view shot, then watch Cabaret Desire by Erika Lust.