The Truth of the Matter

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

One of my pet peeves are blogs where the writer or artist attempts to make it sounds like everything is fantastic and wonderful and full of epiphanies and loveliness at all times, when you know that can't be the case. But on the other hand, I do like to keep my whining to a minimum on here because that's not really what this blog is about.

I just wanted to be truthful and real with you because I'm having a hard time. It is of course of my own making in deciding to try to sell our house in the middle of winter, really because I couldn't take one more moment without some sort of change.

For better or for worse, I tend to be the type of person who when they're done with something, they are done. For about two years now I have been 'patiently' (which means not patiently) waiting for the terrible mess of the housing market to improve. Well, it never did. So I decided the reckless route would be good enough, so I cleaned this place like my life depended on it, packed away so many things, and crossed my fingers and waited. And waited. And waited. That seems to be where this story stalls.

I spend a lot of time redesigning make-believe old houses and gardens in my imagination. I ponder new color schemes and new adventures. I think I crave a new adventure and my "do it right now" personality grates against the terrible waiting game that this has become. I know that this is probably supposed to make me a better and more patient person. Perhaps our 'dream home' isn't ready to be ours yet, so we wait. But I am such a worrier. I am also impetuous, so all this sitting around thinking about it all drives me a little crazy.

Not that there's much to be done about this. But its where I am now. And I wanted to be frank about the bitter with the sweet. Because it's there, for all of us. Thanks for listening. I'll be more upbeat tomorrow~

18 comments

I agree with you:) There are some blogs where the blogger must be on very good drugs or something. They are too happy happy. I don't blog about my personal life very often as I don't think it's all that interesting to be honest...LOL It's a rough time of year to be selling a house but with spring coming it should get better.

The housing market has been terrible :( I completely understand about feeling the need to blog about the more negative stuff too. It's your blog, and it should be talking about your life, your real one. Not some fantasy life. No one's life is perfect, and it's a bit annoying when they make it out to be, don't you agree haha? Your dream house will come to you. And this one will get sold. The wheel of fortune has to spin in your direction again!

Heather, I enjoy a blogger who shows who they really are because then I, as a reader, feel more connected. Like Jennifer remarked, none of us is perfect or live a charmed life!! You might have to just "bloom where you are" in this tough housing economy right now. It is very difficult for anyone to get a mortgage unless they have 20%down and perfect credit. And most people don't fit that bill right now. So my suggestion is to plan something else like maybe some mini trips and some new flowers in big artsy pots that are portable. Sometimes when you can make peace with what frustrates you the most, the tides turn!! Good luck with some creative alternate plans for a renewing experience at your existing address. We are all here hoping you have some luck but happy to enjoy your creative "other" solutions!

Thank you, Jennifer! I'm glad you guys dont mind me sharing that I'm no flawless blogger. I do get frustrated, especially about this. But I'm trying to get an attitude adjustment about it and I knew you all would help :)

I know how you've been itching for a change and find a lovely new home - and in turn be able to sell the lovely house you now live in. Patience is really my virtue, either - but hang in there. The stock market is crazy great right now - the job market is looking up - so maybe things in the housing market will be soon to follow. I know that I am guilty about not sharing too much of my personal life on my blog - but some of it does appear (such as my despair over Borders and the crazy days where we lost electricity for so long - that is, when I could find a connection to post!). In the meantime, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Theresa, Thanks for your good thoughts and support! I hope that things align that make people want to buy houses. That's why we need! It seems like if one person would just buy a house from someone else, it would start a domino effect and hopefully the rest of us could buy a house. It just takes one person!

I know exactly how you are feeling, We rent a home right now..we would really like to build a house of our own but everytime we get close, something sets us back financially. I try to think positive, it's just not our time. But I wish you the best of luck, your dream home will be yours sooner or later!

Heather, I have been through what you are experiencing and it is maddening!!! I wish for you that the perfect buyer will walk through your door very soon - as people used to tell me, it only takes one!!!Best wishes!!