21 comments:

I have been following your blog since you were pregnant with Isaac. I really appreciated this post today as we are going through a difficult time as well. Your ability to come up with a positive to counteract the negative was very uplifting. I hope that things will look up and that you can take joy in that beautiful little boy of yours.

I hear ya on the first one. We never should have bought this crackerbox that we're in. But after seeing people living in TENTS because they have lost their jobs. Well, it makes me grateful that we have a roof over our heads.

Ugh I could have written this post. We too are stuck in a house we shouldn't have bought, stuck in a town we don't want to be in, stuck in a job (Chad) that isn't what we want...it really sucks and I constantly feel like our life is on hold as we wait to see what will happen with our house (which is on the market for $20k less than we paid...). I try so hard to see the positives (and there are many!!) but some days it's so hard.

I often feel this same way, and I think many others do as well, but usually the positives aren't seen. It's good to read this and really think about what is going on in our lives and what we have to be thankful for.

I have this "stuck/unstuck" argument with myself almost on a daily basis...and I think it is completely normal, and okay to feel this way.

I read something one time along the lines that you can't know joy, unless you know sadness. So I try to adapt that train of thought to whatever mood I am in- I wouldn't be able to celebrate success unless I knew what it felt like to fail; I can't appreciate my blessings unless I am familiar with affliction. I can't experience true love without ever feeling lonely. I would never be able to experience God's wonderful grace & forgiveness without admitting I was a sinner, etc.

Leah, I can identify on so many levels. For quite a long time, my husband and I felt stuck in many, many ways. I was working at a job I disliked with a boss who made every day a living nightmare. While my husband was sending off applications, hoping to get a job in his new career field. Meanwhile, he worked a dangerous job that neither of us were very comfortable with. We were full of dreams and hopes and wishes for things to change. But there we were, stuck. Unable to move until something changed. Things were tight financially and it all just felt very uncomfortable.

In hindsight, I can see how God used that time to draw us closer to himself and teach us lessons that we desperately needed to learn.

In HIS timing (definitely not OUR timing!), he opened a door for my husband to get a job doing what he absolutely loves. His new job enabled me to quit my job and go fulltime freelance. Everything shifted and changed, and suddenly we were "unstuck", and precisely in the place we'd be longing for for months.

I say all of that to hopefully offer a bit of encouragement. I know the way you feel, and also want to say that your story will slowly change and you won't feel stuck anymore.

You have a really lovely blog here, and I can see it will be addicting! Thanks for "inviting me over", and for reading b*spoke. It's great to have you as a neighbor. :)

I can certainly empathize with your post. Over the last two years of our marriage (even throughout the dating and engagement) there was a constant yo-yoing back and forth. I think it's because we were and continue to be in such a transitional phase of our lives. It's the back and forth between waiting for what is looming on the horizon and struggling to survive in the now. I don't want to wish our lives away and I want to enjoy the present, but circumstances make that tough to stick to!