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July 04, 2011

The Advantages and Disadvantages of Belonging to a Nuclear Family

THE ADVANTAGES
AND DISADVANTAGES OF NUCLEAR FAMILY

The Nuclear or biological family is the smallest unit
of society that we belong. They consist of father, mother and children who loved
and lived together to form a home. All over the world the nuclear family has
been given value and importance that makes a family stand up from problem and
opportunities that may come. It is in the family that we can adopt our
personality, sense of pride, character formation, identity and social
upbringing. Most of the time family relation formation is dependent in our
culture. In Asian countries who have a very close family ties to the highest
extent that bonds until up to the point that parents would support their
children after their marriage, while in American and European culture most
likely they are dependent when reach a certain age. Although family bonding is
also being exercise but basically they separate upon maturity of children.

Our family is the one who taught us to learn to walk
when we are children and they are the one to help us stand up when we are down.
No matter how much our situation they will always be there to support every
family members, they are the ones who gave us our physical needs during our
childhood and we can depend on them even when we grow old inherently we help
them if they ask. They are also the one to encourage us to reach our dreams and
they will be there to reach us if we fall, they are the sources of our strength
and understanding. Sometimes we live our life and inspiration to dedicate them
our achievements but we are ready to accept everyone even if they fail. No
amount of hardship is ever enduring if there is a foundation of love and respect
that unites the family even more. A family is not just a house that is
constructed by marbles and steel but a home that consists of loving and
nurturing mother, respectable father and obedient children that strengthens the
family relationship. There will come a time that children are going to build the
family of their own and children will soon be adults, whatever lessons they have
learned from their nuclear family they will soon exercise it in the family of
their own. We are the reflection of our nuclear family, a person who has a
family that sticks together through thick and thin will basically succeed in
life and they will always return in a place that they called “HOME”. A person
who has found a home may be blessed with a stable personality while the person
who grows without their own family may find it hard to love and be loved simply
because they have not found love if they grow lonely but this doesn’t mean they
cannot learn to love, it comes naturally inside the family. The nuclear family
can express the freedom to live the best life more than the material possession
but freedom to choose what is right.

There are times that our Nuclear family has become
the one who can destroy our personality for there are parents who lived up to
the highest expectation that degrade and belittle their children who have not
done well especially in school if they lack the grades expected. Also the
children’s competition and jealousy about their parents love. If we belong to a
very irresponsible parents chances are we are poor that we have not given the
opportunity to get the basic needs to live, they may experience fighting and
beating of parents and children. In some countries including European and
African nations who have the most number of family struggles and crimes, there
are numerous counts of family and domestic violence especially among children
who suffered most from radical and sadistic parents.

There are also forms of degrading and sexual abuse
from minors reportedly having traumatic experiences of smacking, and torture
brought about by poverty or vices coming from the parents themselves. Some
children are neglected to live alone without anything. Mostly they are weak and
spirit, always alone even with others and longing to be loved, if children does
not found love at home they will seek their companions in the outside world with
their peers that may result in tragedy and exploited body and mind. They tend
to escape from the reality that they are force to take illegal activities such
as smoking, drinking drugs and early marital relationship that may even worsen
their longing for acceptance inside the family. They rebel against each other
that destroyed the family even more. This has been the disadvantages of the
nuclear unfortunate family that manifested through destructive pattern and
negative character development among family members especially among children
who may find it hard to understand their situation, but it is there.