This blog will tell the story of an up-and-coming young black man in his 20's

Tuesday, September 26, 2006

And Baby Makes Three?.........The Rob Mack Edition

What up yall, Sorry to have been away. But I'm back - well sort of. I'm still going thru writers' block, but an interesting scenario surfaced last night while on the phone with a lady friend that I've been talking to for a few weeks.

As you begin to talk to a new person, you go through the initial stage of talking about quirks, likes, dislikes, wants, needs, and what-nots. This is the stage that me and Tia are still in. I talked to her on Friday night, and she said that she was really thinking of going to the Museum of Science and Industry on Saturday morning. I told her that I would be game, seeing as though I'm literally 5 minutes from the museum (A while back I remember telling Zed that I'm ashamed of myself for living so close to it yet I've only been once in the 5 years I've been living in South Shore).

Saturday came and I didn't get a call from Tia. Which was fine because I was up until 3 that morning watching Katt Williams' stand up act (it was funny but I fell asleep).

I talked to Tia last night, and as I stated earlier we're still in the "feeling each other out" stage. She tells me that she didn't do much this weekend except sleep. After talking to her for an hour, I guess she felt that she has enough trust in me to inform me that she just found out that she was pregnant over the weekend.

Now before anyone even thinks about it, it ain't mine. LOL. We haven't even went out yet, its been purely "conversing" on the phone.

She says that she is unsure what to do, because she sees no future with the seed giver (aka the baby daddy). She said she was pregnant once before but she had a miscarriage, but she is not ready for any kids yet. Then again, who is right?

So here's my quandary: Say she keeps the kid, should I go ahead and end any possible dating with her and just remain her friend? Seeing that I'm childless and I didn't have fun in making this baby with her, why would I want to take on that responsibility? Run away, young man, run away.................

Or if I'm really feeling her and I'm willing to accept the situation, do I stay around and see what happens?

Or do I go the Serial Dater route and mess around with her a few times seeing that she's already preggers? Hey, I hear that pregnant pussy is the best..........LOL...............That's what I hear......................................

I think most of you all that have read me for a while know which way I am leaning, but I just wanted opinions from my peoples.

I've seen this before and usually it ends pretty bad. I mean u can't really be her friend b/c initially u were digging her and if u stick around u could end up right on that birth certificate and you know how Chicago courts are...

I'm sure she's a nice girl but what type of relationship could you have?

Talk as friend, but that is how far I'll take it because you will still have to deal with the baby daddy. I don't want you caught up in anything cause I don't want to have to hurt that girl if she brings some drama into your life.

ZedI'm not feeling her like that. Not really....Not to be a capt savahoe

SYNsationalI know...

TenaciousYeah I know I can't be her friend....well I mean we can be cool....LOL@ Birth Certificate...wouldn't that be something right there....

NewyEvery time I hear sowing oats, I think of Coming to America. LOL...

Paula D.I got my Air Max 90's on!

BlahHmm...interesting...if she doesn't keep it, why should I let her go? you think her and "dude" still got some issues?

1969Yeah I know....I'm glad she told me and didnt hold it in...

TigerLOL...I was just on the phone with her Friday night when Frosty came by...Naw you know me better than anyone, I stays away from drama...hook me up with that chick that you was talking about and divert my attention. LOL!!!!

TTDI didnt want to go, but I find myself staying in the crib too much on Saturdays so it would have made me get out...Stay tuned, this story will be revisited some time in the future.

Ditto to all the other comments. Don't even invovle yourself in that. Since she is early in the pregnancy there will be some shit she is going to have to work out with the baby daddy and it most likely won't be pleasant.

and if you do decide to stay in a few months their ain't gonna be much time for you. She's gonna be all wrapped up with that baby

RobynFirst time here? Hmm, lemme find out you've been lurking on my blog....LOL...kidding, welcome to my crazy but real as I can be blog...end in tears huh?

Miz JJ*Having a KZ moment*Is that wrong of me to smile when I see you use the term pussy? Just askin......

PhoenixHey you blog more please!Oh yeah I hear what you're saying..all I can say is....KEEP READING AND COMING BACK FOR MORE........I'll come back to this story down the line sometime....I'm going back into my Blogger Cave.....

It really depends how deep you are in the situation. If you aint deep at all, thats probably not the best situation for you. If you kinda deep, then have that grown peoples conversation so that its clear what each of you expect from the other. If either one of you can't handle it, then let it go.

Like I told you...she must have already put you in the friend catagory or else she wouldn't have even told you, especially if she's in the uncertain stage of whether or not to keep the baby. So, the likelihood of you even having the opportunity to sleep with her is a dream you're having. LOL!

TCasThat's the problem. I aint deep yet..get it? LOL...Wait, are you speaking on experience in that P.S. Hmm...

DivinePlenty of fish in the sea, and plenty of wet water that I can swim through. You like that, don't you?

Nsane Lee NikaYou are so crazy...Don't tempt me...

Uncle SlishyI knew it wasn't NEW, I just didn't think it would be, um, "tarnished". LOL...

MistressDon't act like you act never heard that before! Actually, I'm sure somebody still got a pic of Black Daytona or something where it was a pregnant chick and she had on a shirt that said "Pregnant Pussy is the best" If I find it, I'll post it...

But wait, I had to read twice - you think I'm cute huh? *smiling*I agree with all you're saying....

StiltwalkerRobert the Babydaddy...I got chills thinking about it...

IsisThat sounds like a plan right there! (Party and Bullshit)

DynastyLeave it to you to have a different view..I was kinda half sleep when we spoke yesterday...But I dont think that's the case, because she talks like she likes me, she says I'm a really nice guy...maybe too nice to be caught up in her drama which is why she told me..And wait, don't tell me that something is only a "dream" because I'll make sure that dream comes into reality!

But I like your angle.....

A woman on the MoveYou sound like Della Reese as Darnell's (Martin) mom in Thin Line...what did she say, something like "a night of passion can turn into a lifetime of trouble" or something...yall movie buffs know...But I hear everything your saying, and I'm agreeing..

Why do I get the feeling you wanna go the serial dater route? It's hard as heck to just decide to take care of another man's seed but if you feeling her maybe it won't be so bad. I mean we are in are late 20's maybe it's time. You wanna know what I would do... Your probably getting the feeling I wanna go the serial dater route.

It might be good for a while but you will probably end up getting attached and considering it aint yours just leave it before things get complicated.It is like sellin ur soul lol!At the end of the day tho its ur decision but just be careful and take care.x x x