Unemployed dhs untrusting behavior

My dh just recently got layed off right before christmas. He has been extremely clingy, following.me around like a lost puppy and listening in on any phone call I make. I have even had to lock my cell phone so he would stop going through it! Now I have nothing to hide, I am stuck at home all the time being high risk but he is just stressing me out now. If I want to go somewhere without him he comes up with a reason why he can go too. I just want some needed me time thats without him. We got into a huge fight 2 months ago when he got layed off about this same issue but nothing I say seems to change his obsessive behavior. I told him he makes it seem like he doesn't trust me, I have never cheated on anyone in my life! He insists that he trusts me but continues this mistrusting behavior. Please I need some advice before I lose my mind and leave.

My dh just recently got layed off right before christmas. He has been extremely clingy, following.me around like a lost puppy and listening in on any phone call I make. I have even had to lock my cell phone so he would stop going through it! Now I have nothing to hide, I am stuck at home all the time being high risk but he is just stressing me out now. If I want to go somewhere without him he comes up with a reason why he can go too. I just want some needed me time thats without him. We got into a huge fight 2 months ago when he got layed off about this same issue but nothing I say seems to change his obsessive behavior. I told him he makes it seem like he doesn't trust me, I have never cheated on anyone in my life! He insists that he trusts me but continues this mistrusting behavior. Please I need some advice before I lose my mind and leave.

He sounds like he is insecure. I assume this behavior just recently started and would blame it on the fact that he is unemployed and feels inadequate. Try to be there for him and deal with it. I'm sure it sucks, but we all have our insecure moments.

He sounds like he is insecure. I assume this behavior just recently started and would blame it on the fact that he is unemployed and feels inadequate. Try to be there for him and deal with it. I'm sure it sucks, but we all have our insecure moments.

In his line of work they get layed off often. When we first got together he had recently been layed off, he didn't act like this then. He started acting like this after I got pg, even when he was working he did this. I could deal with it more then because he was gone at work. I can only think it has to do with his ex wife leaving him once she got pregnant which upsets me even more that he might hold me in that same light as her. Either way it is driving me up a wall, being a person who loves her alone time and needs a small amount of privacy. I tried talking to him this time but he denies acting like this and now makes it out to be me being overly sensative. I am losing my mind with the situation.

In his line of work they get layed off often. When we first got together he had recently been layed off, he didn't act like this then. He started acting like this after I got pg, even when he was working he did this. I could deal with it more then because he was gone at work. I can only think it has to do with his ex wife leaving him once she got pregnant which upsets me even more that he might hold me in that same light as her. Either way it is driving me up a wall, being a person who loves her alone time and needs a small amount of privacy. I tried talking to him this time but he denies acting like this and now makes it out to be me being overly sensative. I am losing my mind with the situation.

Been there. If money allows, schedule a me day out. Hair, massage, girl movie. Get some girlfriends together for girls night. Past that, be blunt. Say, "i need x amount of time to myself each day." Pick a time of the day. Dont be afraid to say no when he wants to tag along, BUT be careful. Thr more you pull away, in some cases, the clinger they get. So schedule time with him too.

Been there. If money allows, schedule a me day out. Hair, massage, girl movie. Get some girlfriends together for girls night. Past that, be blunt. Say, "i need x amount of time to myself each day." Pick a time of the day. Dont be afraid to say no when he wants to tag along, BUT be careful. Thr more you pull away, in some cases, the clinger they get. So schedule time with him too.

Thank you for your advice RNMomma. I will try that as DH and I got into a rather bad argument tonight. I tried to get him to see my point of view but he says his behavior is just how he shows that he cares... I told him then he needs to care a whole lot less lol

Thank you for your advice RNMomma. I will try that as DH and I got into a rather bad argument tonight. I tried to get him to see my point of view but he says his behavior is just how he shows that he cares... I told him then he needs to care a whole lot less lol

Step 1 - Grill steak (preferably about 14 oz. of New York Strip)Step 2 - Give blow job (either while he eats the steak or after, it doesn't matter)Step 3 - Kick his ass out of the house to look for another job

Step 1 - Grill steak (preferably about 14 oz. of New York Strip)Step 2 - Give blow job (either while he eats the steak or after, it doesn't matter)Step 3 - Kick his ass out of the house to look for another job

He doesn't deserve either thing. Sorry lawhog but that is terrible advice and I do not find humor in this situation. If you do not have advice I would prefer you not post, sarcasm is rude and uncalled for...

He doesn't deserve either thing. Sorry lawhog but that is terrible advice and I do not find humor in this situation. If you do not have advice I would prefer you not post, sarcasm is rude and uncalled for...

He sounds bored! He needs something to do: A home improvement job like fixing the nursery, a computer game, a bathroom remodel, painting, fixing the car.... Anything! He is following you all over creation because he doesn't want to sit at home with his bored Ass all alone. My DH is like this and drives me insane. Luckily, mine is currently into losing weight and is preoccupied by exercise videos.

He sounds bored! He needs something to do: A home improvement job like fixing the nursery, a computer game, a bathroom remodel, painting, fixing the car.... Anything! He is following you all over creation because he doesn't want to sit at home with his bored Ass all alone. My DH is like this and drives me insane. Luckily, mine is currently into losing weight and is preoccupied by exercise videos.

Is this your first child? I agree that you need me time, but when that baby comes your going to be wishing you had hubby time. I love my princess more than anything, but I really miss the uninterupted time whenever we wanted, sex when we wanted, dates when we wanted....Schedule a day for yourself out...maybe call up some of his guy friends and see about them having a guys night? You both need to enjoy the time you have to yourselves before the baby comes, but also as a couple.

Is this your first child? I agree that you need me time, but when that baby comes your going to be wishing you had hubby time. I love my princess more than anything, but I really miss the uninterupted time whenever we wanted, sex when we wanted, dates when we wanted....Schedule a day for yourself out...maybe call up some of his guy friends and see about them having a guys night? You both need to enjoy the time you have to yourselves before the baby comes, but also as a couple.

When that is the only advice he gives 90% of the time it has gotten old, immature and only awes new members. You are just fueling an old horrible joke. I personally think it is unoriginal and he needs to get some new material.

When that is the only advice he gives 90% of the time it has gotten old, immature and only awes new members. You are just fueling an old horrible joke. I personally think it is unoriginal and he needs to get some new material.

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