Sex Positions Guide

The Sex-Position Playbook

Smart ways to switch it up in the bedroom

December 07, 2006

Sex shouldn't resemble Naked Twister. Too much twisting and contorting can leave a woman feeling like a sexless member of Cirque du Soleil. "Unlike men, women can lose an orgasm almost in the midst of having one," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First and He Comes Next

. The solution? This simple series of positions, designed to help you flow naturally from move to move without ending up like a flesh pretzel. (And for more ways to have better sex, pick up a copy of the Men's Health Guide to the Best Sex in the World.)

It's tame, but it's a natural starter because of strong eye contact, says Kerner. "But men often ejaculate faster because of the friction." To last longer and keep her happy, switch to a move that maintains clitoral pressure without so much thrusting.

Spider

Sit back and pull her toward you while you both lift your knees. "Physically, it allows her to feel a deeper, more intense, more intimate stimulation than missionary, with less friction," says Candida Royalle, author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do.

Reverse Cowgirl

Encourage her to turn around and face away from you. This creates G-spot stimulation for her, and the change will help you hold out longer. If she seems uncomfortable on top, resume the spider or try the spork, two natural transitions

Doggy-style

"It's the most arousing position for men, because it's the most primal," says Linda Banner, Ph.D., author of Advanced Sexual Techniques. The angle also allows for deeper penetration, which ups your chances of stimulating her G-spot.