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When children of abuse become parents....

When children of abuse grow up and become parents, statistically we are more likely to abuse. :o( But for those of use who are breaking that cycle, what resources are there? Books? Support groups? Anyone else in this situation?

I was physically and mentally abused as a child. Decided then that when I became a parent I would respect & love my kids..They are now 24 & 20 and my best friends! No relationship with my parents in at least 14 years, their loss!

As another said, you use your upbringing. I remember how bad I felt and how I knew "this isn't how a parent would treat me if they loved me". I made it a goal to NEVER have my daughter feel that. I never want her to question my love for her. That helps to be logical, fair, and affectionate.

My mom was abused terribly and have never even been remotely abusive. I think she took her bad experience and turned herself into a wonderful mother. She just believed that she was going to rise above it, and did.

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship... Beverly Engel
How Long Does It Hurt Cynthia L. Mather
The Right to Innocence Beverly Engel
I Never Told Anyone Ellen Bass
Adult Children Secrets of Dysfunctio... John C. Friel Ph.D
An Adult Child's Guide to What's 'No... John C. Friel Ph.D
Adult Children of Abusive Parents Steven Farmer
The Courage to Heal Workbook Laura Davis
I googled and found quite a few books; I would suggest trying to search your local library for resources. I also did a google search for Support Groups and found: http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Physical-Emotional-Abuse/support-group. I would say maybe try a few searches using google and typing in your own local area and seeing what you can find.
Best wishes.