My name is Justin, I am 24 years old, single, a dock-hand in the
transport industry and live with my father.

7 years ago I was in a car accident which has left me with brain damage.
Unfortunately, since I left the hospital upon waking and never mentioned the
incident to anyone I have lived my life without knowing that I had suffered brain damage until just recently after having 2 nervous break downs caused by anxiety from the stress of not being able to function in society or make any progress in life and being unable to understand why.

2 years before the crash while I was at home I had my nose broken by some thugs who were looking for my mother's (parent are divorced) then boyfriend which has left myface somewhat disfigured I

Your right, I didn't finish, I accidently hit 'submit' before I had then just
thought "stuff it".

Anyway, I can't remember what it was I wanted to ask, sorry if I've wasted your time.

As for coping I guess I'm doing ok I just find it impossible to connect with people,
it's very hard to describe but somehow I just seem to get on peoples nerves or
something...Maybe the thing I wanted to ask was do you know of any methods one could
try that would help them better relate to people around them...? If that makes any
sense at all...

Thanks for your time,

Justin

PS. I tried one of the anti-demonic, alien etc energy draining prayers from your site
and it totally worked!! I can't really describe the feeling which had been bothering
me except to say that it was kind of like that nervous feeling you get when your
anxious about something, it had being going for weeks but stopped on the same night
I said that prayer, maybe it was just a placebo like effect or a coincidence, but
maybe not...so thanks I guess

Glad to hear that you got results with the prayers from Michael &
Stephanie Relfe. I keep on mentioning the power of prayer and focused
intent. I wish more people would take advantage of something as simple as
prayer.

People lose sight of the fact that we are spiritual beings residing in a
physical body in order to learn spiritual lessons while living on earth.
Everything and anything we do to interact with the spirit world will cause
an effect on the spiritual and physical plane.

It's common when we're young (and haven't been enlightened yet) to think
of ourselves as being ALONE and facing a hostile world filled with people
who seem to have all the power, money, advantage, charm, and talent that
we wished we had.

Most young people (females especially) see the world this way to some
extent. If you were raised by two loving and caring parents, you would
have the least trouble growing out of this phase, but if we come from a
family background that was more difficult and we had less loving support
while growing up, then we will have more trouble in this area; and
sometimes it will cripple us for an entire lifetime.

Most cases of poor relations between people are matters of the heart and
spiritual understanding (or misunderstanding). In order to have people
like us and want to be with us, we have to create an environment that is
welcoming and inviting to them. People enjoy the company of other people
who make them FEEL good or happy or they find interesting or
intellectually stimulating. Everybody has SOMETHING about themselves that
COULD be appealing to other people if they work at cultivating and
polishing that asset.

Instead of interacting with people in such a way that they perceive you as
TAKING something from them and draining them (of whatever that is;
sympathy for example), reverse the dynamic and make it possible for them
to feel ENJOYMENT to be with you because you are doing or saying something
that is APPEALING or fun for THEM.

Once this concept dawns on you and it sinks in, you will never be lacking
for friends or lovers for the rest of your life.

The more you GIVE, the more you GET. That's the Law of Attraction and it
works. It's up to you to put it to use, though. You can only lead a horse
to water.

Have to say I agree pretty much 100% with everything you say. Although as
far as being someone who's enjoyable to be around, well that's easier said
than done my friend, especially when you are physiologically impaired as I
am.

I lost alot of things and believed, or never thought I'd lost them even long after
I'd left them behind. Like a career and a girl who's probably one of the most
amazing people on this planet. And the reason I lost them is because I simply left,
without really seeing what I was doing. It's very hard to explain and probably even
harder to understand.

I just want to put everything behind me and move on, but, there's nothing to move on
to, I already 'moved on' in a sense a long time ago. Just not in my head.

It's like, imagine someone said "here, here is a billion dollars, take it, it's
your's" and without giving them any reponse you turn and walk away over some hot
coals for six miles then you turn around to take it, but it's gone and your stuck
with the hot coals and you realize your just a brain dead idiot.

Obviously my life isn't as bad as having to walk on hot coals but it is pretty
miserable and it's the first time in 6/7 years I've realized what I've done, thought
about what I've been doing or considered what I've lost and it's all because some
chick dragged me out of a party while I was completely drunk then crashed.

Have to admit I'm incredibly bitter about alot of things right now but yanno I wrote
this e-mail three times over so I guess talking to you is actually causing me to
look inside myself. Maybe I do need to stop feeling sorry for myself and accept the
things I lost and work for the things I wish to regain.

Anyways, thanks for your time again.

Justin

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Hi Justin,

Yes, of course, there's no other choice except to sit around and waste time. You said that you already lost 6 or 7 years being down on yourself, since the car crash which must have occurred when you were 17 years old. The assault incident happened around 15 I'm guessing.

Emotionally speaking, we are affected most powerfully by whatever we encounter from the late teens until our early twenties. If we're going to suffer a major heartbreak with a girl, it's going to happen in that age range. Our understanding of life and love begin to evolve into something more mature in our mid to late twenties and even more so into our 30s. By time we're 40, we begin to understand the ups and down of life with greater clarity and we can conduct ourselves accordingly to bring us the happiness, pleasure, and peace which we all desire.

Based on what you wrote, it sounds like you were at a party and wound up having sex with another girl and your girlfriend found out about it and that caused the break up. You are still carrying a lot of guilt about that and you need to resolve it. In so doing, you will remove the emotional burden of that guilt from your shoulders. That guilt (and sense of loss) is obviously holding you down. You need to release it by atoning and making it even. You do that by writing the former girlfriend a letter and tell her that you regret your mistake at the time and you especially regret having lost her love. Tell her how much you thought of her and that you are sorry for causing her heartache and grief at the time, because it was your fault entirely. Tell her, it didn't mean that you didn't love her. It only meant that guys are more easily tempted by sexual pleasures than are women. At that age, it's almost impossible for guys to turn down sex if it's offered to them. Women need to understand that, even though it isn't right.

Getting stoned and making poor decisions was your fault, but it's spilt milk now and the only intelligent thing to do is to learn from the experience and view it as "training" for life. Tell yourself 'I made a mistake', but it's over now and you need to let it go, forever. You are only 24. You have your entire life ahead of you. Take it and make good use of it.

You create the life you lead and the experiences you go through by your own hand. So far, you've wasted 6 or 7 years of your precious life wallowing in the delusion that you are a VICTIM of your circumstances and experiences. So far, you have imprisoned yourself needlessly in clinging to that belief system.

Whatever physiological problems you now have due to the assault or car crash needs to be accepted and coped with until you are completely well. You can improve with proper brain nutrition and homeopathic compunds. Your brain seems to be working OK judging from the quality of your English grammar. You have to lay out a PLAN in your head for what you are going to do with the rest of your life and start IMPLEMENTING that plan.

It's like architecture and you're designing an ideal home that's perfect for you. Lay out your ideal home and start building that life for yourself. We CREATE life with our ideas, thoughts and inspirations.

Create your life Justin; that's what you're here for. Don't bog yourself down with unproductive regrets. Release them in a proper way and enjoy this life. It won't last forever.

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