Failing My Daughter

Thu, Mar 31st 2005

How do I cope with the fact that I am failing my youngest daughter? She's a senior in high school and I know she wants to go to college. Her father makes enough money to send her to a public university, but I don't know how to advise her, I never attended college. She seems lost and unable to find her way as much as I am. Her dad is waiting for her to come to him with plans and details and I think she just doesn't have much of a clue about what she wants to do towards her education and future. It feels like I should know how to advise her, but I don't. She is a good person and I know if she ever finds her niche she'll do well, but how will she find it between now and high school graduation? I want to support her, but feel so inadequate because I have no real college experience. Her dad travels a lot and is swamped at his job and wants her to handle all the details and I think she is as overwhelmed as I am. How do we do this and stay sane?

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