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These are the stupidest words you’ve said in a long time…” AND MAKE HER REGRET HER MISTAKE! I’ll show her who’s missing what.”

You CAN’T make her do anything. She is obviously comfortable with the decision she’s made whether YOU think so or not. You need to get it through your head that you can’t change anyone but yourself and you can’t make anyone yeild to your bidding and you need to stop deluding yourself into thinking you can.

What you need to do, is focus on YOURSELF, YOUR healing, YOUR closure, and YOUR future instead of wasting it on someone who’s not investing her time and energy in you.

I understand you’re hurt, angry, frustrated, and whatnot, but why you continue to over invest all this time and energy into what is and has been abundantly clear is beyond my comprehension. Trust me, I do understand your hurt; as I’ve been there, but I gathered my integrity, self-respect, and will to rise and not fall and forged through it. As I said before, I’d been good friends with my ex-husband since I was 19 and dated him in my mid 20’s, broke up, got back togther and then married him only to have it end within 2yrs. And as painful as it was to not only lose my husband, but best friend in the process. That was almost 15yrs of my life down the tubes, but I had to accept it was a process, which I went through albiet a painful one, but I had to learn from it and move on. I’m an even better and stronger woman for it.

You seem to enjoy wallowing in the mud; crying foul; centering on HER and not YOURSELF. If you think you’re such a good guy, then prove it. Prove it by taking control of yourself and your life and letting it go. Yes, easier said than done, but trust and believe it’s starts with one single step.

You are not ready to see the gift in this break up. You will. Don’t waste your time trying to prove shit to anyone. all that matters is that you know your worth. That you know you are capable of love and being loved.

Don’t spend your time trying to convince anyone that you are magnificent. If they didn’t see it before, they are not going to see it now.

I have a new friend here 🙂 I love that quote and think I may have to use it a few times.

I agree with both lovebabz and blujewel. On your post before this one I commented that you need to work on you and blujewel already said that, so I won’t say it again so that I don’t sound like a broken record. But for some reason I think you need to hear a different broken record than the one that you’ve been listening to.

Joe Joe Joe. Did you ever see a human make a monkey jump throught hoops for a treat? The monkey thinks he’s making himself look good. The human finds the monkey entertaining.

You are about to jump through hoops to convince another person that you’re “good enough.”

First of all, as folks have said, you can’t jump through enough hoops to change Tina’s mind. What makes you think you can do something in particular for her to suddenly want a life with you? She doesn’t want that for herself.

Secondly, your efforts will make you look entertaining – as in amusing. It’s a waste of time. Your time. You blame Tina for ‘stealing’ the last 7 years of your life. Will you blame yourself with such fervor after you look back and realize you are the only person wasting time now?

Don’t put your balls into a jar on anybody’s mantle! Tina is living for herself, to build the life she wants. She’s finding out who she is – outside of the persistent expectations of another person. You need to do the same.