tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post9147897465893556465..comments2017-09-26T11:31:33.133-07:00Comments on Betrayed Wives' Club: Tracing Back Your Feelings to Regain Your PowerEllehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13470499558973726796noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-18933079744559521832015-05-08T09:29:51.403-07:002015-05-08T09:29:51.403-07:00Tracing back the pain was what finally got to the ...Tracing back the pain was what finally got to the root of my husband&#39;s porn addiction and led to him finally being able to be in recovery after decades of trying to fight it. He was trying to deal with only the addiction. But his psychologist finally helped him to realize that his addiction was only a symptom of deeper pain. When he dealt with the pain that was leading to him acting out sexually to self-medicate, only then was he able to stay clean.<br /><br />~GeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026450255174007652.post-29640414609211810562011-11-04T07:43:25.318-07:002011-11-04T07:43:25.318-07:00I think part of &quot;ignoring the signs&quot; is ...I think part of &quot;ignoring the signs&quot; is a protective measure. You know how horrific it&#39;s going to be if it&#39;s true so your mind almost plays tricks on you and allows you to cling to the &#39;reasonable explanations&#39; as possible. That whole &quot;he just wouldn&#39;t _________ (fill in the blank)&quot; . . . be so stupid . . . so heartless . . . so arrogant . . . so cavalier with our marriage, is a protective measure. Because until you have proof and KNOW, who would want to believe that their husband was capable of inflicting such pain and agony.<br /><br />Most want to believe the best about people especially those in their own family. That&#39;s not a bad thing. But, now that we know the ugly truth and we realize what our husbands are capable of, I think it would be very difficult to fool us again. Not impossible but much harder a second time around. And, there is a morsel of comfort in that for me.Pippinoreply@blogger.com