I was in the audience at Outfest last week when honoree Bryan Fuller mentioned an actor on NBC’s Heroes who didn’t want to play gay then ended up being gay. It turns out that actor, Thomas Dekker, had never come out publicly. Well, now he has in an Instagram post. Congratulations to him.
You can read the post below.

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Bravo Thomas Dekker for his owning his truth and his marriage. On the other hand, despite the inappropriately anonymous outing this motivated Dekker’s public announcement. This is a similar correlation to recent media exposed emails that forced Trump Jr. to admit his pre-disposed culpability with the Russian collusion.

Is it just me, or does he seem to be ACCUSING Bryan Fuller of outing him in a speech given last week? My question is how can Bryan have outed him last week when it was public record as of April that he was married to a man?!?! Am I missing something here?

It’s not a whiny complaint. He’s simply stating that coming out is his to own and doesn’t belong to someone else. It’s like stealing someone’s moment if you out them. It’s a personal decision and journey that each and everyone of us must make ourselves of when and where to come out.

He sounds bitter and whiny. He was already out. Just because he felt it was an outing in that speech doesn’t mean it really was.

Makes me think about the Golden Girls to bring up something familiar to many of Greg’s readers. Remember when Blanche’s sister wrote a book and Blanche became positively unglued at the revelations? Each page left her angry than the one before.

Turns out it wasn’t about Blanche at all.

Often we think news that seems like us, even if it is, is instantly identifiable and that everyone around us will feel the same way. This is a good lesson of finding it best to keep your mouth shut if you don’t want to go public. Doubtful there’d have been any more about it. Especially since marriages are public records and he surely has friends and family that know.