Work issues

Hope your pregnancies are all going well?
So as the title says, I’m having work issues.. since being pregnant I have chosen to work primarily on my own because of certain reasons..

So there are certain carers who are talking about me behind my back calling me lazy and bitching about me to other carers and new members of staff because I now have limitations on what I can and can’t do while I’m at work (I’m a community healthcare assistant), this is causing me to get ridiculously upset and stressing about work.. I have spoken to my manager about it but I don’t feel like anything will be sorted =/

Comments (9)

I know it's horrible but I would try my best to ignore it. Focus on the fact that you'll be going on maternity leave and won't have to worry about it.

I've had similar at work. I'm part of a very corporate, high pressure office and have been treated like a 'problem' since I announced I was pregnant. Especially since due to health reasons I have a minimum 2 appts a week at the hosp I have to be released for and now can't work late/out of hours.

I've been totally sidelined and if I mention my pregnancy around my colleagues I get comments like 'Oh. Are talking about being pregnant....AGAIN....that makes a change!'

This morning I got shouted at so badly I went and had a cry in the post room for 5 minutes to get it out of my system.

I'm just hanging onto the fact that in July I won't have to worry about it for a year.

This is horrible. I really dont understand why people feel the need to be so nasty. A lot of it is probably jealousy. If I were you, I'd try your best to ignore it and carry on doing what you can for as long as you can. If it gets worse, you can start leave from 29weeks I think, not that you should ever feel that you should have to just because of other people but if it's causing upset, then may be better for you and baby. Try not to let them get to you x

I work in home care. I rarely see my colleagues. I also kept my pregnancy a secret up until 17 weeks as I had spotting and bleeding in the beginning. Ive been in easy calls since I was 4 weeks. Up until I told service users about my pregnancy other carers were questioning whether I was pregnant but wouldnt directly ask me! Then they started leaving jobs for me to do like changing beds, sorting out washing etc because I was in easier calls. My manager told a few of them when I was 11 weeks that I had a sore shoulder so to not leave me too much to do... it didnt work. Im actually finishing work earlier than I really should be just because I cba with it all. Im too tired 😂

All I can say is that if they are talking about you then they are leaving others alone! Just concentrate on your baby. Ignore the haters. You will soon be finished work ☺

It's hard but just try and ignore them. People normally talk about people because they are jealous and they have good reason to be. Soon you will have a beautiful baby and maternity leave while they are still stuck working 😀😀

I am also facing maternity discrimination issue. I am working in ALCON India. For name sake its MNC and women friendly organization. The time i asked about my maternity to HR ,my life got change. My LM increased my probation suddenly from 6 months to 9 months after knowing also I am pregnant and told me if i dont perform best I have to resign.

In this maternity condition Now I am facing lot of mental trauma and depression. I cant apply to other job, I have no choice and facing issues.still I am not sure i will get maternity leave and benefits as at my 8th month of pregnancy if my LM will create some issue and prove he is not satisfy with work , I have to loose my job.

I am not able to understand what to do and how to save my job and get maternity allowance & benefit. Can i get terminate on the basis of poor performance during maternity?

I was treated like that by collegues when told them I was pregnant and unwell. I was ask to make up sick days so they can keep running the clinics, I had people ringing me up and pleading me to come in ad they had holiday booked and said things like they were doing me a favour or I was being lazy. After a few times being sent home as I was too dizzy to even stand up or fainting at work everyone started being a lot nicer. I dislike the fact that they had to see it to believe it. Anyways the main director was away due to serious health condition when he returned he was fuming at the way I was treated. We have agreed to stay on 3 days as I am still not well but if I am sick I do not have to make up days. And we agreed to start my maternity leave earlier which management did not want. You and baby come first let them talk and be jealous.

I was treated like that by collegues when told them I was pregnant and unwell...

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17/05/2018

I was treated like that by collegues when told them I was pregnant and unwell. I was ask to make up sick days so they can keep running the clinics, I had people ringing me up and pleading me to come in ad they had holiday booked and said things like they were doing me a favour or I was being lazy. After a few times being sent home as I was too dizzy to even stand up or fainting at work everyone started being a lot nicer. I dislike the fact that they had to see it to believe it. Anyways the main director was away due to serious health condition when he returned he was fuming at the way I was treated. We have agreed to stay on 3 days as I am still not well but if I am sick I do not have to make up days. And we agreed to start my maternity leave earlier which management did not want. You and baby come first let them talk and be jealous.

They have been completely out of order treating you like that and you would have good grounds to take legal action. I've been off sick since I was 17 weeks as ive got really bad spd. My line manager has said it's up to me if I take my annual leave before my mat leave or get signed off til 36 weeks, automatically get started on mat leave and then take my annual leave at the end of my mat leave x

They have been completely out of order treating you like that and you would h...

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17/05/2018

They have been completely out of order treating you like that and you would have good grounds to take legal action. I've been off sick since I was 17 weeks as ive got really bad spd. My line manager has said it's up to me if I take my annual leave before my mat leave or get signed off til 36 weeks, automatically get started on mat leave and then take my annual leave at the end of my mat leave x

I did consider taking action. I cannot be bothered with lawsuits and the hassle of all of that. But I am just happy to be leaving soon. They offered me a pay raise if I decide to stay on after maternity but I havent decided if I will or not. It really depends on whether I want to work after baby is here. Now I am only to deal with him directly not with the managers. I am taking my holiday before my maternity leave. So atleast I'll get full pay for 3 weeks and be sitting at home before maternity starts and I will be able to use any holiday incurred after my maternity leave at the end of it too. Xx

Thank you all so much for your comments.. although it’s horrible to be in this situation, it’s nice to be speaking to people about it..

Work have intervened now and spoken to certain members of staff and one even said ‘she didn’t mean for her words to come across in a bad way’, I replied and said I’m not being funny but there is only one way you can take it if someone called you lazy!!

I work my ass off when I’m at work and it’s never good enough for some people! The fact that some people ignore the pregnancy and want you to put everything is risk is beyond me, it’s so frustrating!

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