Basically anyone with a vagina is taught that there's an endless list of sexuality-related things to feel guilty about, but let me put it in the frankest terms possible: That's bullshit. Sex is supposed to be one of the few times you can tune out all the rude and grossly incorrect "This is the right way to be a woman" messages society sends people on a daily basis. Unfortunately, as such an intimate topic, sex is rife with things you should seemingly feel ashamed about.

At the time I had no idea what had happened, just that it felt amazing. I tried to make it happen again for weeks. I then had an orgasm and fell of my chair.

But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.

Dr Sherry Ross says there has long been a gender bias in the way women's sexual dysfunction has been treated compared to men's. One of the most glaring is female orgasms. Women are rarely taught about the intricate details of their anatomy and often work these things out through their own experimenting.

But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapistto help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.

Yes, both men and women orgasm during sleep and it is perfectly normal. When men experience orgasm in their sleep, these are known as nocturnal orgasms or wet dreams. These wet dreams are mostly associated with puberty in young boys, and they happen due to increased testosterone levels. However, women also experience wet dreams or sleep orgasms.

We are constantly bombarded by overtly sexual imagery, and easy access to porn has distorted expectations of endurance and performance to sex god-level. But what if you blow your load before you get your pants down? Everyone probably at some point wondered: How can I last longer in bed??

I never got the chance to mourn him properly because it happened when I was really busy. I'd had the dog since I was five, he died just this year at years-old. Suddenly remembering him while so close to orgasm made me cry. And I came, sobbing uncontrollably to the thought of my dead dog.