Although I initially joined this site some time ago, I never read or posted in the forums until recently.
My initial impression is that there are a lot of very pleasant folks here.
Which has left me wondering, should I upgrade? And if so, why?
Care to comment?

I just joined about 15 minutes ago and I am really disappointed. As a guest, your search abilities are limited. So, I thought why not - I'll give it a shot. However, I'm a female looking for another female and there isn't a criteria available to help me find my mate. I get a lot of results but it's mostly women looking for men. Oh well, at least I only signed up for one month.

I just joined the site as a guest. Can you send a wink if you're a guest. Also, can you view anything more than the little blip in a person's profile. Most sites give you a free week with full privileges. I don't know if there is anyone here worth joining for.

Spoil,
Tip for contact if u receive a wink or fancy someone, click on 'put on favorite file' , then go to favorite file, click on 'send a wink'..list of messages come out, then click on any one..receiver will get your message and respond if interested..

I just found this site yesterday and trying to feel my way around.
What can you do without joining? From the posts in here, it appears you can use the message boards, but can you see other people's profiles or know who may be want to talk to you without joining?

Define decent Schreka?
Women want a good man, or so I hear.
Good for what?
Good for awhile?
Good to go?
Good for nothing?
Good gawd he's a hermaphrodite??
On a more serious note, I encourage folks to try meeting folks at volunteer activities.
Certain endeavors just naturally entice "decent" folks!

1. There is at least one decent man on this site -- I don't know who he is but he will tell you. LOL
2. Spoil --There is no alternative other than trying to be clever and reveal your email address in a post. Otherwise you cannot respond to private emails you receive -- unless you pay the $20.

i just joined today and i'm debating on buying into it for a month. i hesitate due to the fact i bought into another dating website with the result similar to a defective bag of popcorn----all duds! anyone willing to lend me some advice or experiences to help me with a decision?

Orion,
I was a paid member but decided not to bother to renew when i found some good friends who have become great friends after a few months..and then when I discovered this forum , I had even more people writing to me..so I really find no reason to renew my membership..this forum is far more entertaining..and because I am on MM not with a view to finding a life partner, just likeminded friends, male and female, this forum is just what I need.for fun and entrtainment and sharing of views and opinions...and I must add that MM is the only site that is generous enough to allow non-paying participants to air their views and interact..good for them..

In my opinion, you have to justify paying the money based on what value you put in receiving private emails, getting to see extra pictures of members, and so forth. If you are interested in going long distance for romance, or just a friend, then the site provides some dating opportunities as well and you will need the ability to get in touch with them via email. Compared to what it costs to go to a movie and buy some popcorn and something to drink these days the monthly charge for this site is a bargain. On the other hand, if you just want to post and chat you can do that without being a "preferred" member --LOL.