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David Deida What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions, but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now.
In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives, from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality, to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this best-selling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.

"It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart", writes David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine". The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge, and reward, for today's man: to discover the "unity of heart and spine" through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.

David Deida How can love come through each one of us more fully? How can we give our deepest gifts in our relationships? David Deida discusses how the expression of our sexuality can evolve through three stages. The third stage begins when you become disillusioned with trying to get what you want (stage one) and equally disillusioned with trying to give others what they want (stage two). In this provocative Sounds True Pearl, he explains why: It is only when you offer yourself to believe in something larger than you that you are happy."

David Deida These days, women rarely come across men who can meet them fully in intimacy, suggests maverick teacher and author David Deida. Why? Because women have culturally evolved beyond men. What does sexiness mean in today's changing world? How do men and women re-learn to trust each other in spiritual depth and emotional intimacy? Beyond old sexual roles, is there any hope for enduring and ecstatic intimacy? Many women feel that men have become all but obsolete as dependable breadwinners, trustworthy guides, and committed husbands. In this time of focused women and drifting men, how do you - and why would you - find, choose, and deepen with a lover? When we transcend all past roles, what do people find sexually and emotionally attractive? What do men and women of today really want in their hearts and beds?

With irreverent humor and shocking insight, David Deida speaks to cutting-edge women and men who are ready for a new way to dance in love together. Recorded live during actual workshops, these talks are Deida's spontaneous responses to real-life questions posed by an international gathering of successful professionals, accomplished artists, and spiritual practitioners, all of whom are exploring intimacy's next step. Each program is a unique collection of Deida's teachings on how to live and love in today's evolving world, beyond all gender roles, yet fully sexually alive.

Highlights:
Spiritual realization requires no time
Relaxing as your natural state of love
How unresolved sexuality closes us down
Learning our patterns from our parents
Therapy is not yoga is not spiritual awakening
Sexual yoga and the love-bliss of conscious light
Masculine and feminine displays of sexiness
Turn-ons: dress, humor, and presence
The feminine loves to be worshipped as light
How to get a man to do something
From power struggles, to respect, to adoration
Feminine and masculine tilts of spiritual practice
Love and the true root of sexual passion
False spirituality and your real way
Peeling away your emotional shells
Shining love through your heart's wounds
The financial value of third-stage practice

David Deida These days, women rarely come across men who can meet them fully in intimacy, suggests maverick teacher and author David Deida. Why? Because women have culturally evolved beyond men. What does sexiness mean in today's changing world? How do men and women re-learn to trust each other in spiritual depth and emotional intimacy? Beyond old sexual roles, is there any hope for enduring and ecstatic intimacy?

Many women feel that men have become all but obsolete as dependable breadwinners, trustworthy guides, and committed husbands. In this time of focused women and drifting men, how do you - and why would you - find, choose, and deepen with a lover? When we transcend all past roles, what do people find sexually and emotionally attractive? What do men and women of today really want in their hearts and beds?

With irreverent humor and shocking insight, David Deida speaks to cutting-edge women and men who are ready for a new way to dance in love together. Recorded live during actual workshops, these talks are Deida's spontaneous responses to real-life questions posed by an international gathering of successful professionals, accomplished artists, and spiritual practitioners, all of whom are exploring intimacy's next step. Each program is a unique collection of Deida's teachings on how to live as love in today's evolving world, beyond all gender roles, yet fully sexually alive.

Highlights:
Expressing love through a tattered heart
How to grow through long-term intimacy
Sexual transmission of love through breath
The depth of your giving determines the depth of your death
The body is either a cage or an artistic vehicle for love
Practice means noticing you've forgotten love
Closing to emotions means not loving your emotions
Life force is feminine sexiness, man or woman
Women are now more culturally advanced than men in the Western world
Women are choosing boy toys since there are too few conscious men
Consciousness doesn’t move
The feminine evokes motion from the masculine
Sexuality is the play of conscious light
Therapy is not yoga is not spiritual realization; each mode of growth is very different
We resonate others with our states and stages of being, attracting or repelling
Neediness, independence, and devotion
The three stages of hurt
Masculine grows through challenge; Feminine grows through praise
Every lover is a servant of love
The feminine flows like a river, the masculine provides the riverbanks

David Deida These days, women rarely come across men who can meet them fully in intimacy, suggests maverick teacher and author David Deida. Why? Because women have culturally evolved beyond men. What does sexiness mean in today's changing world? How do men and women re-learn to trust each other in spiritual depth and emotional intimacy? Beyond old sexual roles, is there any hope for enduring and ecstatic intimacy?

Many women feel that men have become all but obsolete as dependable breadwinners, trustworthy guides, and committed husbands. In this time of focused women and drifting men, how do you - and why would you - find, choose, and deepen with a lover? When we transcend all past roles, what do people find sexually and emotionally attractive? What do men and women of today really want in their hearts and beds?

With irreverent humor and shocking insight, David Deida speaks to cutting-edge women and men who are ready for a new way to dance in love together. Recorded live during actual workshops, these talks are Deida's spontaneous responses to real-life questions posed by an international gathering of successful professionals, accomplished artists, and spiritual practitioners, all of whom are exploring intimacy's next step. Each program is a unique collection of Deida's teachings on how to live as love in today's evolving world, beyond all gender roles, yet fully sexually alive.

Highlights:
Giving dark energy to magnify passion
Understanding why the masculine seeks freedom and the feminine seeks love
Differentiating true dark love from heartlessness
Orienting away from rape and war toward ravishment and martial arts
Attracting partners as evolved as you
Creating full-spectrum sexual polarity
Expressing darkness to unkink love's knots
Liberating the lower body
Artfully offering subtle and gross dark sexual energy
Why men crave a partner with specific energetic flavors
Understanding how superior women become masculinized and the resultant affairs of their partners
What qualities do men find worth marrying?
Marrying to increase, not decrease, freedom
Evolving men's motivation to get married
Cultivating sexual irresistibility for the sake of liberation
Choosing a partner to grow with through the stages of marriage
Increasing capacity for sexual inspiration, saturation, and obliteration
Seeking feminine energy through porn and nature if not women
Differentiating first-stage manipulation from third-stage expression
Offering spontaneous feedback briefly and subtly
Achieving clarity of desire to attract a well-matched partner
Longing for long-term love, desiring short-term delight
Understanding why deep love can render a man impotent
Sexually gifting the unity of consciousness and light in love