Tenley Molzahn's exit from The Bachelor: On The Wings Of Love will surely go down as one of the most emotional in the show's history. The 25-year-old college admissions officer has admitted that she was "kind of confused" when Jake Pavelka turned her down in last night's finale, after not understanding why he thought something didn't feel right between them. Despite her tearful departure, she still managed to thank Jake for giving her the opportunity to love him. We caught up with Tenley to find out how she was feeling.

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What was going through your mind during that final conversation with Jake?
"From the very, very first moment I saw Jake on that day, I kind of had that feeling that it wasn't me because of the way he greeted me. He had a lot of concern on his face, and kind of seemed like he didn't know what he was doing. I kind of had peace with knowing that if he was that concerned, then I was probably best to be going home. But it was hard to say goodbye to my friends that I had built a great relationship with. The reason why I was able to handle it the way I did – which was still very emotional – was because I had been praying that I didn't want to be in another relationship that's not going to be the one if I'm that far into it: 'Let me go if this is the way I'm supposed to be'. I think it worked out for the best and he seems to be very happy with Vienna."

Did you watch last night's episode?
"I caught most of the show but I actually missed my date with Jake's family and I can't wait to watch it because I have great memories of that day and they're an awesome family. Watching it definitely took me back there and everything was pretty accurate. There's always things you don't get to see, and I thought we had a great chemistry but he obviously had a different spark with Vienna. It was fun to watch it but also hard to go back and remember that moment of saying goodbye because I had built such a great relationship with him."

Do you think Jake got to see the real you?
"I think that Jake has a great idea of who I am but I think he missed out on some of the really goofy moments. I don't know if he would give some of the same ideas that some of the girls gave about me on the Women Tell All special, how they poked fun at me. I don't know if he would even know that side of me. I think there's a lot to still learn about one another when I think back to how he didn't really get to see my spontaneous side."

How difficult was it to talk about your divorce on national TV?
"Honestly, I wasn't really thinking about how I was going to be talking about it on national television. It wasn't really hard, it was definitely something I needed to overcome and deal with because there was some pain that hadn't been completely dealt with. I hope that it does something in a positive way and gives other people with similar experiences hope for a great future. Even though I didn't end up with Jake, I know that the right person is out there for me, and I haven't given up on love. This heartbreak isn't gonna stop me - the last one didn't and I'm going to keep going."

Would you do anything differently?
"I wouldn't change a thing that I did. I was being me, and my goal was to be me and let somebody fall in love for who I was and to know that I was putting myself out there and not portraying somebody else, so I wouldn't get stuck in a relationship that I would have to conform for. I don't regret anything and I wouldn't take back anything. My only strategy was being myself and I think it ended the way it was supposed to end."

Jake and Vienna have said that they will remain friends with you – do you see that happening?
"I really hope that Jake and I can have a friendship. It will be obviously different because I want to respect him and his engagement to Vienna. I would never, ever want to come in the way of that. As long as Vienna is okay with it - I actually never got to know Vienna. We didn't interact much at all because she was on the other side of the mansion and we were in different RVs on the road trip. The only time I spent with her was in San Francisco but we were all very busy. I guess I wouldn't mind getting to know her."

What do you think of Jake being on Dancing With The Stars?
"I think it's very exciting for him. I know he is going to have a blast and he is probably so stoked because I know he is very passionate about dancing. I think he'll be good and he will actually find out he has a lot more to learn."

What about Ali being the new Bachelorette?
"I'm so excited for her! I think she's going to be excellent at it and she's going to have a blast. I think she'll be a bit overwhelmed but I think she's going to have fun with that. I wouldn't even mind her if she wanted to call me and ask me for some advice, and maybe me and some of the other girls can even come scope out those guys for her. Maybe one of those guys won't be Ali's type, but my type! I can't wait to have a reunion with the girls, I haven't talked to any of them yet. I would hope to stay in touch with them because I built some really great friendships that I think will be life-long."

Are you ready to jump back in the dating pool?
"I'm really overwhelmed with this new dating scene. I haven't really been a part of the dating scene for a while, besides with Jake. I'm excited, I think I'm going to take it very slow at first. But I'm excited to see where it leads me. I think I'm going to start out with mutual friends!"

What would you say you took away from the experience?
"This experience really did change my life. It helped me let go a lot in environments where I didn't really have any say or a lot of things were surprising. It helped me relax and live in the moment and I needed that. I love this new way of not taking any moments for granted and enjoying every moment. I'm still very, very human so sometimes I get wrapped up in life, but I want to definitely live in the moment and enjoy myself and be free. I really do believe in love and having Jake just be my friend and letting me open up to him, and him opening up to me, helped me get over a hurdle I didn't see I needed to get over at that point. In a way, it was a great relationship that I had and I'm actually thankful for the ending."