The Great Big Lesbian Dictionary

Have you ever been clam shammed when hitting on a stud?
Or do you know a hasbian who succumbed to the golden penis? What do
these terms mean? The answers are here in The Great Big Lesbian
Dictionary, the oracle of lesbian lingo.

Andro/Androgyny/Androgynous

A lesbian who is neither butch nor femme, but may appear as
both. A gender fluid butterfly. Might also go by: gender fluid,
gender queer.

Baby Dyke

A young, newbie lesbian - often accompanied by drama.

Beard

A person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a queer who is
in the closet in order to hide their homosexuality.

Beersexual

A girl who will only engage in lesbian activities when under the
influence. Often seen in television shows and often happens between
close girl-friends.

Bicurious

A straight girl who wants to indulge her lesbian fantasies.
(Occasionally, a lesbian who wants to indulge her hetero
fantasies.)

Bisexual

A girl or guy who likes both sexes. Might also go by: Hovis
(Best of Both).

A lesbian with masculine appearance. Can be identified by their
short hair, shirts (w/ popped collar) and their "gentlemanly"
manners.

Chapstick lesbian

An "in-betweeny" lesbian. Neither identifies as butch or femme,
usually in between. A lesbian who wears chapstick, not lipstick.
Might also go by: Stem.

Clam Slammed

An annoying experience to have - the lesbian example of cock
blocking.

Closet

Queers who are not yet "out" are said to be "in the closet",
hiding.

Coming out

To exit the closet and reveal your sexuality.

Dieseldyke

A super masculine lesbian often associated with trucks/heavy
machinery/plaid shirts.

Drag King

A women who dresses to look like a man, often for performance.
Think Ivan from The L Word.

Dyke

Another word for lesbian - sometimes derogatory when used by
straight people but reclaimed by the international Dyke March
lesbian visibility movement.

Femme

A feminine lesbian. Identifying traits are often painted nails,
make-up and "girly" clothes.

Friendcest

The phenomenon of sleeping with several (if not all) of the
people in your friend circle. I.e. you've slept with your best
friends ex, her ex-girlfriend and her current girlfriend. Often
resulting in drama.

FTM

A female-to-male transsexual. May or may not have previously
identified as a lesbian.

Gayborhood

A habitat where the majority of people are queer - can be a
club/pub/café, shops, a town/city e.g. Brighton. Often identified
by rainbow flags adoring the area.

Gaydar

Gay + Radar. The intuitive ability to recognise if another
person is gay or not.

Gender Queer

The limitless fluidity of gender. Feeling like you're both male
and female, or indeed, neither. Might also go by: androgynous.

Golden Penis

Neanderthals who believe that they can cure a girl of her
lesbianism with their golden penis.

Gold Star

A lesbian who has never had sexual relations with a man - rare,
but it happens. (Controversial: implies a lesbian heirarchy of
purity that is not borne out it actual life.)

Hasbian

A long-term lesbian who returns to Dicksville after being in
Lesbo-Land for some time (often derogatory).

Lesbian

A woman who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other
women.

LGBTQQI

The way in which the queer community accepts and includes
everyone.

Lipstick Lesbian

A really, really, really feminine lesbian.

Lipstick Mafia

The lesbian equivalent of the "Uncle Sam" WW1 recruitment
poster. They want you in their circle, and they've got your
back.

Lone Star

Someone who has only slept with one person in their life.

Malesbian

Harmless but slightly creepy straight guy who thinks he is a
lesbian. Often misunderstood.

Marble

A woman who maintains her heterosexual marriage while
recognising that she is actually gay. (MARried But LEsbian.)

MTF

Male-to-female transsexual. Better known as trans woman. Or just
woman. Trans women can be lesbians too.

The Muffia

They wear business suits, they have a lot of money and they make
things happen. Think Bette from The L Word. Always intimidating,
but very sexy.

Outed

When someone announces against your will that you are queer,
they have outed you.

Packing

When a lesbian wears a strap-on under their clothes to give the
impression that there is "something else" there. Socks can also be
used.

Partner

The word used to refer to your significant other, may replace
"girlfriend" as the relationship becomes more serious.

Pillow Princess

A lesbian who only likes to receive during sex, she never
reciprocates.

Poppa

An underage lesbian.

Pride

Being proud to be gay! Or, Gay Pride events, celebrations and
parties! (Coined in the late 60s to challenge the notion that the
natural response of queers to our sexuality should be shame.)

Queer

The once derogatory term to include all LGBTQQI people.
Reclaimed in the 90s, both on the street and in academia.

Saturday Night Lesbian

A girl who is only gay at the weekends.

Saysbian

A fake lesbian. Someone who says they're a lesbian, but only
seems to have sex with men.

Scissoring

What men think lesbians do in bed, what lesbians know we don't
do in bed.

Soft butch

The soft butch is like a Crème Egg; they appear to have a hard
exterior but are soft on the inside.

Sporty Dyke

Dress like sportswomen and often play sport. Think, Dana from
The L Word.

Stem

A lesbian floating between the brackets of "stud" and "femme".
Might also go by: chapstick lesbian.

Stone Butch

A lesbian who doesn't like to be touched in a sexual way, always
preferring to give than receive. Often found with a "pillow
princess".