What do guys consider
“going out”? Are you going out if you call each other? Do stuff together? I’m
confused.

Dave:
Guys tend to take things literally. Therefore, “going out” is defined as being
recognized by others as a couple that, uh, goes out. Instant messaging and
chatting on the phone are important elements of going out but, until you step
out together, they don’t have much significance. The process goes something
like this: Find someone you like. Go out and do lots of fun stuff. See how things
go when you’re together around other people and in different situations. After
that, if you still like each other, you’ve found someone to “go out” with. Then
comes the best part of going out—staying in.

Bill:Dave is (gulp!) right. After all, most guys
prefer to stay in. That way, they don’t have their social skills tested (and
it’s cheaper). But you deserve to be shown a good time. And if it turns out
you’re not that wild about the guy, you can use “going out” as a way to scope
Mr. Next.