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Thursday, April 17, 2014

Putting It into Practice (Part Three)

That inner knowing can then develop into a sense of congruence with
the world. That sense of belonging, of feeling "at home," gives us the
optimistic energy to perform our best work. For the first time in our
lives, we feel that we are among friends. Our lives become conscious
expressions of our fitness to be alive and health; we experience being
present in a world that cares for us.

To live this
blessing, we must be restored to wholeness; we must recover our
preciousness so long buried beneath the rubble of our wounding. We must
bring together all the recovery tools we have begun to use in therapy.
These tools include the ability to know our emotional fears or blocks,
the ability to communicate our needs and wants, and the willingness to
be vulnerable and to share respectfully our knowledge of ourselves with
our partners.

Sexuality is at the heart of our life
force. It is our creative urge, and it is not expressed only through
sexually explicit acts. Because our sexuality is so linked to the
essence of who we are, it is inexplicably interwoven into our
spirituality. Healthy sex supports the awakening of our soul, or inner
knowing and truth. It opens the possibility of deeper connection with
others. This does not mean that the spiritual connectivity of sexual
intercourse is memorable because it is intensely pleasurable. When we
willingly and consciously enter the act of lovemaking, we offer our
precious humanity to the care of our partners, and we accept our
partners' offer of their precious humanity for our own safekeeping. That
is an awesome at of spiritual communion, and a responsibility not to be
taken lightly. To betray it would plunge us sex addicts back to where
we were when we were first betrayed, when we thought that love and
betrayal were the same thing.