"Cancer doesn't discriminate." But the health care system that delivers our treatment often does. And the stigma and stress of living as sexual and gender minorities often lead to behaviors that increase our cancer risks. We need support, and we need to connect with other LGBT survivors.

I often interact with mainstream cancer groups, and when I do, I bring up the underserved and invisible LGBT community. "Oh, don't worry," they always say in that reassuring voice. "Our organization and our services are meant for everyone." Really?