Thursday, January 16, 2014

What's in a Game?

Part of the reason that objectively understanding the math of getting lucky with Game (HT Aquinas Dad) is important is because many Christian men seem to have bought into the idea that pickup artists are woman-savvy high value “alpha” men, as opposed to the low value dirt bags and sexual garbage collectors they tend most often to be when viewed in an objective light.
Game (understood as the pickup artist’s toolkit specifically) is actually pretty lousy in terms of effectiveness, right on par with placebo. Doing something (and learning from the experience, and being persistent, and building confidence) is far better than doing nothing; but once you extract taking action at all, persistence, confidence, and learning through experience from the equation, the part of Game that is left over (that is, Game itself) – at least according to the “best of the best” PUA themselves – doesn’t do much for your percentages. That’s why PUA have to “make it up in volume“: the advice is always to approach, next, approach, next, approach, next, and invest as little as possible in any one woman. This is integral to Game, and as an explanatory matter it clearly accounts for most of the “success” seen with Game.Nevertheless, many Christian men appear to have bought into the idea that a cad who beds many women (who has picked many four leaf clovers) is a high-value “alpha male”.

I've said many times in many different forums that fornication is not an option for the Christian man. At the same time, I can understand why Christian men would be turning to PUAs for advice on women. To the extent that churches speak of love, courtship, and marriage, their advice is often counter-productive at best. And lest we Catholics feel tempted to smugness toward our separated brethren on that account, remember that Americans make up 6% of all Catholics worldwide but we are responsible for 60% of the annulments.

Feminism has made deep inroads into all of Western Christianity, so much so that pastors can and frequently do omit parts of Scripture that offend modern sensibilities. Put yourself in the shoes of a young Christian man. His parents, his teachers, and his pastors have been instilling the Narrative into him since he was an infant: stay in school, go to college, get a job that pays a living wage, be sweet and sensitive, be chivalrous, put women on pedestals, cultivate your feminine side, and all that. But as he gets older he sees the holes in the narrative. Girls his age are not impressed by his opening doors and pulling out chairs. They spend the prime of their youth and fertility pursuing nebulous career goals, riding the carousel, and won't even consider marriage until the wall appears on the horizon in their late twenties and early thirties.

"Don't be a sissy beta male" sounds like common sense, but many men, particularly if they come from broken homes, are trained to be sissy beta males from birth. "The Red Pill" is an apt metaphor to describe how jarring it is for the modern man when he realizes that liberalism is false and inhuman. Some men are Red Pill all of their lives, so-called natural Alphas. They tend to regard converts to the Red Pill or people who write about this sort of stuff to be odd ducks at best. "Be confident, assertive, pursue what you want," all sound like common sense too. If school boys display these traits, though, they're often shot up with drugs to make them sit still and be quiet, like the girls.

If Christian men are buying what PUAs are selling, then the churches need to reconsider how they teach young people about love and marriage, i.e. reject feminism. As it happens, the Bible has a lot to say on the matter. Reading the Wisdom literature of the Old Testament should cure even the most committed Blue Pill Christian of the temptation to put women on pedestals. There's only one woman in all of human history who was without sin.

Cads and sluts ye shall always have with you. If they have an easier time of it plying their trades these days, well, whose fault is that?

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Pope St. Pius X

"With truly lamentable results, our age, casting aside all restraint in its search for the ultimate causes of things, frequently pursues novelties so ardently that it rejects the legacy of the human race."