Christina Aguilera remembers vividly how she felt as she signed the papers in her divorce from music exec Jordan Bratman. “Things were so unhealthy and unhappy for both Jordan and me, I knew I had to end it,” the Burlesque star, 29, tells PEOPLE in an exclusive interview. “I really didn’t want to hurt Jordan, and I felt torn about splitting our family up.” The decision to end her marriage of five years was not easy for Aguilera, but she strongly felt she had to do what she thought best for her and Jordan’s 2-year-old son. “When you’re unhappy in your marriage, your children are the ones who suffer,” says the Grammy-winning pop singer, whose own parents’ tumultuous relationship led to divorce when she was 7. “That’s the last thing I wanted for my son.”

The full text of Xtina‘s interview with People magazine, which will undoubtedly include more about her new relationship with Matthew, will be available in this week’s issue of the mag on newsstands tomorrow. I still think it’s a bad idea to rebound so publicly with a new relationship so soon after filing for divorce but every couple is different and every situation is different. I still have my suspicions about what is really going on with Xtina and her private life but in the end, I only wish her all the happiness in the world.

its clear they werent happy for a long time. so we cant really judge if she jumped into a relationship too soon. alot of the time marriages are done long before the papers are signed.
as long as both parents are still amazing parents to Max..and that everyones happy, thats all that matters.

This doesn’t really have anything to do with the story, but can I just say that she looks SO much better in this pic with a more natural look than she does with her usual mask of makeup? She looks younger/thinner/happier when she’s not spackling her face with all that lipstick and powder!

Could you imagine Jordy, and the pain he must be going through. His wife filed for divorce, went off and found a new man soon after filing (timing is suspect) and now shes already eagerly publicly annoucing how in love she is with this new guy. I mean seriously have some respect for yourself, your son, and your not yet ex-husband.

When you’re unhappy in your marriage, your children are the ones who suffer,” says the Grammy-winning pop singer, whose own parents’ tumultuous relationship led to divorce when she was 7. “That’s the last thing I wanted for my son.”

Well, then why the hell did you go and reproduce another child and perpetuate your own misery, you stupid tool of a woman? Good lord, the absolute dearth of common sense and inability to reason is alarming in our culture. Heaven help us as these generations of misfit children grow up and become “leaders.”