Womens' Health

What do I do if my husband can't seem to have an erection?

allison812:
I want to know if there is something I can do to help my husband and if other women have experienced the same thing. At first I thought it was me, but now I fear it goes beyond that and may be something he can't help. Help me!

My husband has been unable to have an erection for the last 5 years. I'm completely frustrated! I don't know what to do. I've tried everything imaginable. He insists that it's not me and that he truly loves me. I don't beleive he is having any affair because he really can't have an erection. He doesn't have any medical conditions that we are aware of. It just seems like one day he just couldn't perform anymore. We've been together 20 years and always had a great sex life. He has seen a doctor who prescribed a medication that he has to inject into his penis prior to intercourse. I could send you the name of it if you want. it helps a little, but not much. He can't take viagra because it makes him sick. I feel like i'm just doomed as far as sex goes. i hardly know what it feels like anymore. I've been completely faithful to him and try to support him in every way, but unfortunately, nothing seems to work. we're both in our early 50's. If you have any suggestions or find any help, please let me know.

Get his heart checked..This can be an early symptom of heart problems..Friend's husband had this experience.. Was a very trying time for them..Eventually the Doctors did find problem.. Had a stent put in.. Turned out he had only 40% function in heart..8 years later did have heart attack.. and three months later was no more..Checking did give him a longer life..

I am a Husband; and I feel for sure I cannot satisfy my wife sexually. I can do that orally but not intercoure-wise. I reach orgaasm so fast. I can at times feel the frustration in her when she wants to respond to the sexual moves and I back away. I do understand how you feel. Too bad my wife would not say hwo she feels here on the blg.

I've been wondering the same thing. My husband has seen his Dr. and been through several tests. He has low testosterone, but injections, drugs, etc don't seem to help. He swears that he is still attracted to me, but I'm going crazy from lack of affection and lackof sex. It's beginning to affect my opinion of myself. I've even thought about having an affair just to prove that I'm still attractive but at this point I don't think I could do that. Is there a support group for women like us? Or do we just have to suffer alone?

I have had this problem ever sinse we got married, not even a wedding night. Oral worked some while we were dating. There are so many reasons this could happen. High BP, High Cholesterol, Stress, Depression, Medications, the list goes on. I would like to know what it would be like to make love with my husband. I feel hopeless.I to am very sexually frustraighted. If anyone has any clues, I woukld love to know as well.

we have been to a doctor. They gave Viagra which did not help at the time. He has sinse had a spinal fusion. But we are battling Chronic pain from a work injury involving a bicep detatchment, which has caused a problem with severe pain in the shoulder.We have been trying to resolve it for 3 years. Workers comp is dragging their freet. This has also caused depression. The high level of pain has caused high blood pressure. Sex is the last thing on his mind. He say's we will take care of it once workers comp is setteled, which may be soon.But I know the longer this goes on, the harder it will be for him to get into it again. He does not have low testosterone. He does still have alot of back pain. We just got a new pain specialist. That will also help. Getting the pain under control is a major issue. He is 49.

only 49, really sorry to hear that.. is it possible for him or you two together to consult some psychologists,try to find the possible reason when it happened. if you like, i'd recommended you to ask the counselor on positivemate.com..he's knowledgeable. hope it helps..

I can't believe that I found you. I have the same issue with my husband. It has been going on for 10 years. If the doc gives him a prescription, he doesn't fill it. He uses it like a control mechanism. I don't want to leave him, but Im 63 and I still have desires. I've forgotten what it feels like to be a woman.

Try Regenerect! It's a new all-natural, no prescription needed vitamin/male enhancement pill that is awesome! I did my research to make sure, and it's a publicly traded, reputable company. And it really is new, all-natural and IT WORKS! My husband says it's not like Viagra where you get an "artificial erection", but it just ensures your husband will want -- and be able to deliver -- sex without even feeling any different!

It's worked wonders for our sex life; because there were getting to be too many nights where it "just wasn't working out"....

No prescription, no Doctor, no embarrassment, no hassle. You can get them LEGALLY online at www.regenerect.com/sandradee

Try Regenerect! It's a new all-natural, no prescription needed vitamin/male enhancement pill that is awesome! I did my research to make sure, and it's a publicly traded, reputable company. And it really is new, all-natural and IT WORKS! My husband says it's not like Viagra where you get an "artificial erection", but it just ensures your husband will want -- and be able to deliver -- sex without even feeling any different!

It's worked wonders for our sex life; because there were getting to be too many nights where it "just wasn't working out"....

No prescription, no Doctor, no embarrassment, no hassle. You can get them LEGALLY online at www.regenerect.com/sandradee

Try Regenerect! It's a new all-natural, no prescription needed vitamin/male enhancement pill that is awesome! I did my research to make sure, and it's a publicly traded, reputable company. And it really is new, all-natural and IT WORKS! My husband says it's not like Viagra where you get an "artificial erection", but it just ensures your husband will want -- and be able to deliver -- sex without even feeling any different!

It's worked wonders for our sex life; because there were getting to be too many nights where it "just wasn't working out"....

No prescription, no Doctor, no embarrassment, no hassle. You can get them LEGALLY online at www.regenerect.com/sandradee

Try Regenerect! It's a new all-natural, no prescription needed vitamin/male enhancement pill that is awesome! I did my research to make sure, and it's a publicly traded, reputable company. And it really is new, all-natural and IT WORKS! My husband says it's not like Viagra where you get an "artificial erection", but it just ensures your husband will want -- and be able to deliver -- sex without even feeling any different!

It's worked wonders for our sex life; because there were getting to be too many nights where it "just wasn't working out"....

No prescription, no Doctor, no embarrassment, no hassle. You can get them LEGALLY online at www.regenerect.com/sandradee

I've been taking acupuncture treatments for my back..one day the lady asked me how's that working? I said it's not so good. she said she could fix it and I thought this is just crazy, acupuncture is not going to do anything. well after 3 to 5 treatments it's working very well. She told me about another man his wife is complaining because he wants sex every night now. all I can say is give it a try it worked for me.

I'm so sorry for you. For the last two years or so my 40 something hubby has had problems not attaining one but keeping one. He also tried Viagra and nothing happened. He did try Cialis and that stuff worked wonders - it kept coming up and staying up a long time - hours after he took one pill. He got a sample from a friend. His worry is keeping it up long enough to satisfy me because after only a few minutes of intercouse he is "finished" and often after foreplay when we get in position he starts to get soft again and he tends to just give up. To keep him erect longer and to satisfy me - he wears a strap-on - this way the friction inside the dildo keeps him hard and he doesn't have to worry about orgasming too soon. Not to be too graphic but one other thing to try is anal play with him - massaging his prostate from inside his colon might help him get erect. If he is willing you'd need to try using a vibrator or some other apparatus. Good luck.

You are fortunate that you and your spouse had an active sexual relationship for several years in your marriage and suddenly your spouse began with ED. I've been married 30 years and most of those 30 years have been sexless. My husband always had premature ejaculation. We married when he was 22. He came into the marriage this way. After many years of early ejaculation, he has progressed to full blown ED. I can't remember the last time we had a normal sexual encounter. For about 28 years of our marriage he refused to get help. He never considered how desperate I was. He has always been extremely passive aggressive. I begged him for years to get help. It creates a lot of frustration and a rollercoaster of emotions. I am a Christian woman, but I just can't go on anymore. I am so lonely and no woman deserves what we go through in a sexless marriage.

I understand, so sorry, I am feeling the same, it seems if I could put a fishing plug on it , it would work.., he doesn't seem to care either... selfish I call it! I am christain too, and a vibrator has helped some, but I miss the intimacy..

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