Bondage

Bondage can be used for more than just tying someone up and doing whatever you like. There are actually more than one purpose for bondage.

Bondage can be used to tie someone down to restrain them, for example while they receive a spanking.

Bondage can be used for decortaive purposes. There are many different designs that can be done with rope and other material to be wrapped around a person. This is used for pictures or perhaps even as some sort of human furniture.

Bondage can be used as torture. If a person is tied in a certain manner that is painful, and then held their for a long period of time, it can be quite torturous.

In these types listed, there are light and rough bondage. Light bondage can be simply using a ribbon or a tie to tie a person’s wrist to the bed post or even just tying their wrists together. Rough bondage is often done with harsher material such as rope. There are people who love to see the design or burns it leaves when taken off.

Bondage is not only restraining one from moving, but could also be preventing other things such as: sight or sound. In the case of sight, a blindfold can be used. Many people find it quite enjoyable to be blindfold, using their other senses to enjoy what their partner is doing or saying to them. Sometimes there can be a whole hood that leaves openings for just the mouth or just the mouth and the eyes.

Take caution with bondage. Even with light bondage, you must make sure that the person who is restrained is taken care of after. This is 2nd most imporant rule of BDSM after communication: Aftercare.

I will go into more detail about aftercare on a later post, but for now I will say that if you are considering using bondage with your partner, make sure their is a constant stream of communication and that if it gets to rough for the person tied up, then you must remove their restraints and do everything in your power to make them feel better.

Bondage is not only physical restraint but emotional as well. For those who have read my post about submissives, you now understand that submissives must be very stong in order to release control. Even if you have already released control, if you are restrained in any way, the restrained partner will again feel a little fear at the idea of no escape. The partner who is do the restraining, must assure them the best way they know how.

I would encourage those who wish to integrate a little spice into their sex lives, to use a ribbon to restrain the hands. I would not, however, dive deep into bondage without first talking to your partner and going slowly. Make sure to start light and then go as rough as your partner and you discussed. Do not…even if you think you can handle it….DO NOT try rough bondage first. Rough bondage is for the very experienced BDSM partners.

Here are some rules that are good to go by when using bondage:

Allow the submissive or restrained partner to have a safeword (look up in my BDSM terminology page under S)

Do not leave the person alone while bound

Make sure that they change position at least once an hour (for advanced level only)

Make sure they can be released quickly in an emergency

Do not cover the mouth or nose.

Remain sober.

Also..to prepare for bondage:

Eat a good meal (often times in bondage, people will faint)

Have a pair of cutting tools in order to get out of the bondage quickly

key ( if chains and a lock or a handcuffs are being used)

All right, now you know a bit more about bondage! Play safe!!

Here is a link that will explain certain techniques that can be used in bondage: