never having hospital birth again! :'(

I don't know how this came up, but today my hubby told me DS had a bottle of formula after he was born. I don't remember much after LO was born outside of hearing him cry. I had a c section after LO got stuck and i was in pain during c section so i think i got knocked out.

I remember being in my recovery room and begging to feed DS as he was on the nurse station. I finally got him. Then i remember being taken to our long term stay room and giving DS a bath. Apparently he got formula between my first feeding with him and his bath.

DH said nurse asked if I wanted it because the doctors were concerned about his jaundice and I said yes. Nurse gave LO the bottle.

I remember nurses asking to give him formula the days following birth but I wouldn't have it. His jaundice went away on its own just fine.

Before today, I thought LO was only ever fed at my breast, he has never had a pumped bottle.Not even from DH, now I found out a nurse shared something with my son that his own father hasn't. Plus the virgin gut I guess he never had.

I wonder if that bottle had something to do with his colicky stage when his stomach hurt all the time, or if this is why he is sensitive to dairy or if it had something to do with our thrush battle.

I am livid, to he honest. And hurt. I feel like I lost something I was so proud only my son and I shared.

Even though he had formula at birth, is it possible he still is experiencing some of the virgin gut benefits? What's the point of waiting to introduce solids if not? Sigh

I don't think the formula hurt him. DD didn't get any in hospital but I had to supplement after she came home for a while. I hated it but its what she needed and now she is bf. I keep 2oz rtf similac bottles on hand in case she ever has to have some because im not a good pumper. No big deal.
Maybe I'm not understanding or I read wrong, but if you were knocked out and lo needed to eat, how could you have nursed him?

While your baby was not colicky because of the one bottle of formula, I understand you being upset about it. My friend who's a nurse said that they give babies"sweeties" when they are in the nursery and can't console them after a circumcision, without the parents permission. She said its basically sugared water. I was appalled

I would be upset too. My daughter is ebf and has never even had a bottle. I take pride in that! I even have infant scales at home so I can be proud of every ounce gained! Next time, Maybe make it super clear and reinforce multiple times that he will be breastfed ONLY. No matter what you say on a "drug high". Oh, and tell your SO to step up when u r not there. I had to tell my DH to do he same and make sure no one gave our daughter a vaccination. I knew I couldn't be everywhere at once. That way, we were both vigilant about what was going on.
I'm not a dr, but I really doubt that would still be in his system. Maybe someone else can answer that.

While I would probably feel similarly if that had happened with my LO, I do think everything is just fine. At the very least, you can't change it now so try not to stress over it too much.

I know you are upset, but I highly encourage you to make your peace with it and find a way to move on. You have given LO so much goodness with all the breastmilk. You should still stick to your original plan with introducing solids. In the grand scheme of LO's life, this is a minor issue - even if it feels huge right now.

I seriously doubt that bottle had anything to do with a colicky phase.

Yeah, it sucks that he had a bottle that you are just now finding out about, but in the grand scheme of things it's not that big of a deal. My mom got to hold my son before I did. I found out when he was about 6 weeks old. I was bummed for about 30 minutes and then realized that it didn't matter. That knowledge did nothing to change my bond with my son, or those precious first moments I had with him. Learning then or three years from now, or doesn't change anything, so there is no point in wasting energy on it.

I understand that you are upset. I would be also but don't let it bother you so much. Since you were right out of surgery your DH should handled questions from the nurses instead of you at that point. Did DH know ahead of time how strongly you felt about the bottles & formula? While that is really unfortunate that things didn't go the way you wanted it really was just 1 bottle & while it was formula it's highly unlikely your LO drank much of it so soon after birth.