Start by thinking of the person who was dominating and controlling to you in the past. Do you resent this person? Can you forgive them? Often, we become the people we resent. I resented my mother for a very long time for the harsh disciplining she used on me. But then, I forgave her for it and I grew out of being an overgrown child with a beard.<br /><br />Start by letting go of that person in your childhood who was dominating over you. Forgive that person. Don't resent them. We become the people we resent. Stop resenting. Break the chain around your own heart and then you can break the chains you have put around the people around you.

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Yes, I have done all of this. I was bound by so many chains but broke everyone except one, I don't trust people. I've been through so much, but my parents had the biggest impact on my life and who I am today. I've seen my mother get beaten and I saw how submissive she was to her husband and boyfriends and I told myself that I would never become like her and now I'm the total opposite. My father is controlling and demanding but he's intimidating with his. Me, I'm controlling when it comes to decision making, I lead in the relationship, if something needs done I do it myself, I pay the bills, I dominate every conversation, I'm a workaholic, and almost every guy I've dated said I make them feel like I don't need them. Some also said that I don't make them feel like a man. When more than one man saids that, then it must be true. All my life I was forced not to depend on anyone so as I got older, I did what I had to do. So everything a man normally does in a relationship for his woman, I already know how to do. So what am I suppose to do? Act clueless so he feel like a man?

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Unfortunately, we men are very egoistic creatures. We need to feel needed and we need to be depended upon. We like it when the woman we're with depends on us. I'm not saying to be submissive. I'm saying that it could be 50-50.

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There's no one really that trusts easily, trust is something that is earned. Having to take control early can be apart of the trust issue, since you've been there, it's like you will always be responsible no matter who wants to help.

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Well before you start assuming, the kind of men I date do give me what I need and I'm very open to what I need. They're really good men but I just can't trust a man taking that leader role in my life because I have have trust issues. So yes, I am drawing chaos.