We Are Not Ourselves: A Novel

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The instant New York Times bestseller the Washington Post calls a “stunning…superbly rendered” novel, and Entertainment Weekly describes as “a gripping family saga, maybe the best…since The Corrections.”

Born in 1941, Eileen Tumulty is raised by her Irish immigrant parents in Woodside, Queens, in an apartment where the mood swings between heartbreak and hilarity, depending on how much alcohol has been consumed. From an early age, Eileen wished that she lived somewhere else. She sets her sights on upper class Bronxville, New York, and an American Dream is born.

Driven by this longing, Eileen places her stock and love in Ed Leary, a handsome young scientist, and with him begins a family. Over the years Eileen encourages her husband to want more: a better job, better friends, a better house. It slowly becomes clear that his growing reluctance is part of a deeper, more incomprehensive psychological shift. An inescapable darkness enters their lives, and Eileen and Ed and their son Connell try desperately to hold together a semblance of the reality they have known, and to preserve, against long odds, an idea they have cherished of the future.

Described by The New York Times Book Review as “A long, gorgeous epic, full of love and caring…one of the best novels you’ll read this year,” We Are Not Ourselves is a testament to our greatest desires and our greatest frailties. Through the lives of these characters, Thomas charts the story of the American Century. The result is, “stunning…The joys of this book are the joys of any classic work of literature—for that is what this is destined to become—superbly rendered small moments that capture both an individual life and the universality of that person’s experience” (The Washington Post).

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We Are Not Ourselves - Matthew Thomas

Lear

His father was watching the line in the water. The boy caught a frog and stuck a hook in its stomach to see what it would look like going through. Slick guts clung to the hook, and a queasy guilt grabbed him. He tried to sound innocent when he asked if you could fish with frogs. His father glanced over, flared his nostrils, and shook the teeming coffee can at him. Worms spilled out and wriggled away. He told him he’d done an evil thing and that his youth was no excuse for his cruelty. He made him remove the hook and hold the twitching creature until it died. Then he passed him the bait knife and had him dig a little grave. He spoke with a terrifying lack of familiarity, as if they were simply two people on earth now and an invisible tether between them had been severed.

When he was done burying the frog, the boy took his time patting down the dirt, to avoid looking up. His father told him to think awhile about what he’d done and walked off. The boy crouched listening to the receding footsteps as tears came on and the loamy smell of rotting leaves invaded his nose. He stood and looked at the river. Dusk stole quickly through the valley. After a while, he understood he’d been there longer than his father had intended, but he couldn’t bring himself to head to the car, because he feared that when he got there he’d see that his father no longer recognized him as his own. He couldn’t imagine anything worse than that, so he tossed rocks into the river and waited for his father to come get him. When one of his throws gave none of the splashing sound he’d gotten used to hearing, and a loud croak rose up suddenly behind him, he ran, spooked, to find his father leaning against the hood with a foot up on the fender, looking as if he would’ve waited all night for him, now adjusting his cap and opening the door to drive them home. He wasn’t lost to him yet.

Part I

Days

under Sun

and Rain

1951–1982

1

Instead of going to the priest, the men who gathered at Doherty’s Bar after work went to Eileen Tumulty’s father. Eileen was there to see it for herself, even though she was only in the fourth grade. When her father finished his delivery route, around four thirty, he picked her up at step dancing and walked her over to the bar. Practice went until six, but Eileen never minded leaving the rectory basement early. Mr. Hurley was always yelling at her to get the timing right or to keep her arms flush at her sides. Eileen was too lanky for the compact movements of a dance that evolved, according to Mr. Hurley, to disguise itself as standing still when the police passed by. She wanted to learn the jitterbug or Lindy Hop, anything she could throw her restless limbs into with abandon, but her mother signed her up for Irish dancing instead.

Her mother hadn’t let go of Ireland entirely. She wasn’t a citizen yet. Her father liked to tout that he’d applied for his citizenship on the first day he was eligible to. The framed Certificate of Citizenship, dated May 3, 1938, hung in the living room across from a watercolor painting of St. Patrick banishing the snakes, the only artwork in the apartment unless you counted the carved-wood Celtic cross in the kitchen. The little photo in the certificate bore an embossed seal, a tidy signature, and a face with an implacably fierce expression. Eileen looked into it for answers, but the tight-lipped younger version of her father never gave anything up.

• • •

When Eileen’s father filled the doorway with his body, holding his Stetson hat in front of him like a shield against small talk, Mr. Hurley stopped barking, and not just at Eileen. Men were always quieting down around her father. The recording played on and the girls finished the slip jig they were running. The fiddle music was lovely when Eileen didn’t have to worry about keeping her unruly body in line. At the end of the tune, Mr. Hurley didn’t waste time giving Eileen permission to leave. He just looked at the floor while she gathered her things. She was in such a hurry to get out of there and begin the wordless walk that she waited until she got to the street to change her shoes.

When they reached the block the bar was on, Eileen ran ahead to see if she could catch one of the men sitting on her father’s stool, which she’d never seen anyone else occupy, but all she found was them gathered in a half circle around it, as if anticipation of his presence had drawn them near.

The place was smoky and she was the only kid there, but she got to watch her father hold court. Before five, the patrons were laborers like him who drank their beers deliberately, contented in their exhaustion, well-being hanging about them like a mist. After five, the office workers drifted in, clicking their coins on the crowded bar as they waited to be served. They gulped their beers and signaled for another immediately, gripping the railing with two hands and leaning in to hurry the drink along. They watched her father as much as they did the bartender.

She sat at one of the creaky tables up front, in her pleated skirt and collared blouse, doing her homework but also training an ear on her father’s conversations. She didn’t have to strain to hear what they told him, because they felt no need to whisper, even when she was only a few feet away. There was something clarifying in her father’s authority; it absolved other men of embarrassment.

The bartender swept past to check the level of their drinks, slapped the bar towel over his shoulder, and moved along. Her father glanced at her and she pushed her pencil harder into her workbook, breaking off the point.

Who’s the floozy?

A girl at the bank.

You’ll tell her the idiocy is over.

I will, Mike.

Are you going to be a goddamned idiot again? Tell me now.

No.

A man came through the door, and her father and Tom nodded at him. A draft followed him in, chilling her bare legs and carrying the smell of spilled beer and floor cleaner to her.

Reach into your pocket, her father said. Every penny you have stashed. Buy Sheila something nice.

Yes, that’s the thing. That’s the thing.

Every last penny.

I won’t hold out.

Swear before God that that’s the end of it.

I swear, Mike. I solemnly swear.

Don’t let me hear about you gallivanting around.

Those days are over.

And don’t go and do some fool thing like tell that poor woman what you’ve done. It’s enough for her to put up with you without knowing this.

Yes, Tom said. Yes.

You’re a damned fool.

I am.

That’s the last we’ll speak of it. Get us a couple of drinks.

• • •

They laughed at everything he said, unless he was being serious, and then they put on grave faces. They held forth on the topic of his virtues as though he weren’t standing right there. Half of them he’d gotten jobs for off the boat—at Schaefer, at Macy’s, behind the bar, as supers or handymen.

Everybody called him Big Mike. He was reputed to be immune to pain. He had shoulders so broad that even in shirtsleeves he looked like he was wearing a suit jacket. His fists were the size of babies’ heads, and in the trunk he resembled one of the kegs of beer he carried in the crook of each elbow. He put no effort into his physique apart from his labor, and he wasn’t muscle-bound, just country strong. If you caught him in a moment of repose, he seemed to shrink to normal proportions. If you had something to hide, he grew before your eyes.

She wasn’t too young to understand that the ones who pleased him were the rare ones who didn’t drain the frothy brew of his myth in a quick quaff, but nosed around the brine of his humanity awhile, giving it skeptical sniffs.

• • •

She was only nine, but she’d figured a few things out. She knew why her father didn’t just swing by step dancing on the way home for dinner. To do so would have meant depriving the men in suits who arrived back from Manhattan toward the end of the hour of the little time he gave them every day. They loosened their ties around him, took their jackets off, huddled close, and started talking. He would’ve had to leave the bar by five thirty instead of a quarter to six, and the extra minutes made all the difference. She understood that it wasn’t only enjoyment for him, that part of what he was doing was making himself available to his men, and that his duty to her mother was just as important.

The three of them ate dinner together every night. Her mother served the meal promptly at six after spending the day cleaning bathrooms and offices at the Bulova plant. She was never in the mood for excuses. Eileen’s father checked his watch the whole way home and picked up the pace as they neared the building. Sometimes Eileen couldn’t keep up and he carried her in the final stretch. Sometimes she walked slowly on purpose in order to be borne in his arms.

• • •

One balmy evening in June, a week before her fourth-grade year ended, Eileen and her father came home to find the plates set out and the door to the bedroom closed. Her father tapped at his watch with a betrayed look, wound it, and set it to the clock above the sink, which said six twenty. Eileen had never seen him so upset. She could tell it was about something more than being late, something between her parents that she had no insight into. She was angry at her mother for adhering so rigidly to her rule, but her father didn’t seem to share that anger. He ate slowly, silently, refilling her glass when he rose to fill his own and ladling out more carrots for her from the pot on the stovetop. Then he put his coat on and went back out. Eileen went to the door of the bedroom but didn’t open it. She listened and heard nothing. She went to Mr. Kehoe’s door, but there was silence there too. She felt a sudden terror at the thought of having been abandoned. She wanted to bang on both doors and bring them out, but she knew enough not to go near her mother just then. To calm herself, she cleaned the stovetop and counters, leaving no crumbs or smudges, no evidence that her mother had cooked in the first place. She tried to imagine what it would feel like to have always been alone. She decided that being alone to begin with would be easier than being left alone. Everything would be easier than that.

• • •

She eavesdropped on her father at the bar because he didn’t talk much at home. When he did, it was to lay out basic principles as he speared a piece of meat. A man should never go without something he wants just because he doesn’t want to work for it.Everyone should have a second job.Money is made to be spent. (On this last point he was firm; he had no patience for American-born people with no cash in their pocket to spring for a round.)

As for his second job, it was tending bar, at Doherty’s, at Hartnett’s, at Leitrim Castle—a night a week at each. Whenever Big Mike Tumulty was the one pulling the taps and filling the tumblers, the bar filled up to the point of hazard and made tons of money, as though he were a touring thespian giving limited-run performances. Schaefer didn’t suffer either; everyone knew he was a Schaefer man. He worked at keeping the brogue her mother worked to lose; it was professionally useful.

If Eileen scrubbed up the courage to ask about her roots, he silenced her with a wave of the hand. I’m an American, he said, as if it settled the question, and in a sense it did.

• • •

By the time Eileen was born, in November of 1941, some traces remained of the sylvan scenes suggested in her neighborhood’s name, but the balance of Woodside’s verdancy belonged to the cemeteries that bordered it. The natural order was inverted there, the asphalt, clapboard, and brick breathing with life and the dead holding sway over the grass.

Her father came from twelve and her mother from thirteen, but Eileen had no brothers or sisters. In a four-story building set among houses planted in close rows by the river of the elevated 7 train, the three of them slept in twin beds in a room that resembled an army barracks. The other bedroom housed a lodger, Henry Kehoe, who slept like a king in exchange for offsetting some of the monthly expenses. Mr. Kehoe ate his meals elsewhere, and when he was home he sat in his room with the door closed, playing the clarinet quietly enough that Eileen had to press an ear to the door to hear it. She only saw him when he came and went or used the bathroom. It might have been strange to suffer his spectral presence if she’d ever known anything else, but as it was, it comforted her to know he was behind that door, especially on nights her father came home after drinking whiskey.

Her father didn’t always drink. Nights he tended bar, he didn’t touch a drop, and every Lent he gave it up, to prove he could—except, of course, for St. Patrick’s Day and the days bookending it.

Nights her father tended bar, Eileen and her mother turned in early and slept soundly. Nights he didn’t, though, her mother kept her up later, the two of them giving a going-over to all the little extras—the good silver, the figurines, the chandelier crystals, the picture frames. Whatever chaos might ensue upon her father’s arrival, there prevailed beforehand a palpable excitement, as if they were throwing a party for a single guest. When there was nothing left to clean or polish, her mother sent her to bed and waited on the couch. Eileen kept the bedroom door cracked.

Her father was fine when he drank beer. He hung his hat and slid his coat down deliberately onto the hook in the wall. Then he slumped on the couch like a big bear on a leash, soft and grumbling, his pipe firmly in the grip of his teeth. She could hear her mother speaking quietly to him about household matters; he would nod and press the splayed fingers of his hands together, making a steeple and collapsing it.

Some nights he even walked in dancing and made her mother laugh despite her intention to ignore him. He lifted her up from the couch and led her around the room in a slow box step. He had a terrible charisma; she wasn’t immune to it.

When he drank whiskey, though, which was mostly on paydays, the leash came off. He slammed his coat on the vestibule table and stalked the place looking for things to throw, as if the accumulated pressure of expectations at the bar could only be driven off by physical acts. It was well known what a great quantity of whiskey her father could drink without losing his composure—she’d heard the men brag about it at Doherty’s—and one night, in response to her mother’s frank and defeated question, he explained that when he was set up with a challenge, a string of rounds, he refused to disappoint the men’s faith in him, even if he had to exhaust himself concentrating on keeping his back stiff and his words sharp and clear. Everyone needed something to believe in.

He didn’t throw anything at her mother, and he only threw what didn’t break: couch pillows, books. Her mother went silent and still until he was done. If he saw Eileen peeking at him through the sliver in the bedroom door, he stopped abruptly, like an actor who’d forgotten his line, and went into the bathroom. Her mother slid into bed. In the morning, he glowered over a cup of tea, blinking his eyes slowly like a lizard.

Sometimes Eileen could hear the Gradys or the Longs fighting. She found succor in the sound of that anger; it meant her family wasn’t the only troubled one in the building. Her parents shared moments of dark communion over it too, raising brows at each other across the kitchen table or exchanging wan smiles when the voices started up.

Once, over dinner, her father gestured toward Mr. Kehoe’s room. We won’t have him here forever, he said to her mother. As Eileen was struck by sadness at the thought of life without Mr. Kehoe, her father added, Lord willing.

No matter how often she strained to hear Mr. Kehoe through the walls, the only sounds were the squeaks of bedsprings, the low scratching of a pen when he sat at the little desk, or the quiet rasp of the clarinet.

• • •

They were at the dinner table when her mother stood and left the room in a hurry. Her father followed, pulling the bedroom door closed behind him. Their voices were hushed, but Eileen could hear the straining energy in them. She inched closer.

I’ll get it back.

You’re a damned idiot.

I’ll make it right.

"How? ‘Big Mike doesn’t borrow a penny from any man,’ " she sneered.

There’ll be a way.

How could you let it get so out of hand?

You think I want my wife and daughter living in this place?

"Oh, that’s just grand. It’s our fault now, is it?"

I’m not saying that.

In the living room, the wind shifted the bedroom door against Eileen’s hands, making her heart beat faster.

You love the horses and numbers, her mother said. Don’t make it into something it wasn’t.

It was in the back of my mind, her father said. I know you don’t want to be here.

I once believed you could wind up being mayor of New York, her mother said. "But you’re satisfied being mayor of Doherty’s. Not even owner of Doherty’s. Mayor of Doherty’s. She paused. I should never have taken that damn thing off my finger."

I’ll get it back. I promise.

You won’t, and you know it. Her mother had been stifling her shouts, practically hissing, but now she sounded merely sad. You chip away and chip away. One day there won’t be anything left.

That’s enough now, her father said, and in the silence that followed Eileen pictured them standing in the mysterious knowledge that passed between them, like two stone figures whose hearts she would never fathom.

The next time she was alone in the house, she went to the bureau drawer where her mother had stashed her engagement ring for safekeeping ever since the time she’d almost lost it down the drain while doing dishes. From time to time, Eileen had observed her opening the box. She’d thought her mother had been letting its facets catch the light for a spell, but now that she saw the empty space where the box had been, she realized her mother had been making sure it was still there.

• • •

A week before her tenth birthday, Eileen walked in with her father and saw that her mother wasn’t in the kitchen. She wasn’t in the bedroom either, or the bathroom, and she hadn’t left a note.

Her father heated up a can of beans, fried some bacon, and put out a few slices of bread.

Her mother came home while they were eating. Congratulate me, she said as she hung up her coat.

Her father waited until he finished chewing. For what?

Her mother slapped some papers on the table and looked at him intently in that way she sometimes did when she was trying to get a rise out of him. He bit another piece of bacon and picked the papers up as he worked the meat in his jaw. His brow furrowed as he read. Then he put them down.

How could you do this? he asked quietly. How could you let it not be me?

If Eileen didn’t know better, she would have said he sounded hurt, but nothing on earth was capable of hurting her father.

Her mother looked almost disappointed not to be yelled at. She gathered the papers and went into the bedroom. A few minutes later, her father took his hat off the hook and left.

Eileen went in and sat on her own bed. Her mother was at the window, smoking.

What happened? I don’t understand.

Those are naturalization papers. Her mother pointed to the dresser. Go ahead, take a look. Eileen walked over and picked them up. As of today, I’m a citizen of the United States. Congratulate me.

Congratulations, Eileen said.

Her mother produced a sad little grin between drags. I started this months ago, she said. I didn’t tell your father. I was going to surprise him, bring him along. It would have meant something to him to be my sponsor at the swearing in. Then I decided to hurt him. I brought my cousin Danny Glasheen instead.

Eileen nodded; there was Danny’s name. The papers looked like the kind that would be kept in a file for hundreds of years, for as long as civilization lasted.

Now I wish I could take it back. Her mother gave a rueful laugh. Your father is a creature of great ceremony.

Eileen wasn’t sure what her mother meant, but she thought it had to do with the way it mattered to her father to carry even little things out the right way. She’d seen it herself: the way he took the elbow of a man who’d had too much to drink and leaned him into the bar to keep him on his feet without his noticing he was being aided; the way he never knocked a beer glass over or spilled a drop of whiskey; the way he kept his hair combed neat, no strand out of place. She’d watched him carry the casket at a few funerals. He made it seem as if keeping one’s eyes forward, one’s posture straight, and one’s pace steady while bearing a dead man down the steps of a church as a bagpiper played was the most crucial task in the world. It was part of why men felt so strongly about him. It must have been part of why her mother did too.

Don’t ever love anyone, her mother said, picking the papers up and sliding them into the bureau drawer she’d kept her ring in. All you’ll do is break your own heart.

2

In the spring of 1952, Eileen’s mother made the amazing announcement that she was pregnant. Eileen had never even seen her parents hold hands. If her aunt Kitty hadn’t told her that they’d met at one of the Irish dance halls and found some renown there as a dancing pair, Eileen might have believed her parents had never touched. Here her mother was, though, pregnant as anyone. The world was full of mysteries.

Her mother quit her job at Bulova and sat on the couch knitting a blanket for the baby. When she tied off the last corner, she moved on to making a hat. A sweater followed, then a pair of bootees. Everything was stark white. She kept the miniature clothes in a drawer in the breakfront. The crafting was expert, with tight stitches and neat rows. Eileen never even knew her mother could knit. She wondered if her mother had made clothes for her family in Ireland, or to sell in a store, but she knew enough not to ask. She couldn’t even bring herself to seek permission to rub the bump on her mother’s belly. The closest she got to the baby was when she went to the drawer to examine the articles her mother had knitted, running her hands over their smoothness and putting them up to her face. One night, after her mother had gone to bed, she picked up the knitting needles, which were still warm from use. Between them swayed the bootee to complete the pair. Eileen tried to picture this baby who would help her populate the apartment and whose cheeks she would cover in kisses, but all she saw was her mother’s face in miniature, wearing that dubious expression she wore when Eileen went looking for affection. She concentrated hard until she stopped seeing her mother’s face and saw instead the smiling face of a baby beaming with light and joy. She was determined to have a relationship with this sibling that would have nothing to do with their parents.

Eileen was so excited to get a baby brother or sister that she physically felt her heart breaking when her father told her that her mother had miscarried. When a dilation and curettage didn’t stop the bleeding, the doctors gave her a hysterectomy.

After the hysterectomy, her mother developed a bladder infection that nearly killed her. She stayed in the hospital on sulfa drugs while it drained. Children weren’t encouraged to visit the sick, so Eileen saw her mother less than once a month. Her father rarely spoke of her mother during this period that stretched into a handful of months, then half a year and beyond. When he intended to bring Eileen to see her, he would say something vague like, We’re going, get yourself ready. Otherwise, it was as if she’d been erased from their lives.

It didn’t take long for Eileen to figure out that she wasn’t supposed to mention her mother, but one night, a couple of weeks into the new order, she brought her up a few times in quick succession anyway, just to see how her father would react. That’s enough now, he snapped, rising from the table, evidence of suppressed emotion on his face. Clean up these dishes. He left the room, as though it were too painful for him to remain where his absent wife had been invoked. And yet they spent so much time fighting. Eileen decided she would never understand the relations between men and women.

She was left to handle the cooking and cleaning. Her father set aside money for her to shop and go to the Laundromat. She rode her bike to one of the last remaining farms in the neighborhood to buy fresh vegetables, and she developed her own little repertory of dishes by replicating what she’d seen her mother make: beef stew with carrots and green beans; London broil; soda bread; lamb chops and baked potatoes. She took a cookbook out of the library and started ranging afield. She made lasagna just once, beating her fist on the countertop when it turned out soupy after all that work.

After doing her homework by the muted light of the end table lamp, she sat on the floor, building towers of playing cards, or went upstairs to the Schmidts’ to watch television and marvel over the mothers who never stopped smiling and the fathers who folded the newspaper down to talk to their children.

At school she usually had the answer worked out before the other girls put up their hands, but the last thing she wanted was to draw any kind of attention to herself. She would have chosen, of all powers, the power to be invisible.

• • •

One day, her father took her to Jackson Heights, stopping at a huge cooperative apartment complex that spanned the width of a block and most of its length. They descended into the basement apartment of the super, one of her father’s friends. From the kitchen she looked up at the ground level through a set of steel bars. There was grass out there, blindingly green grass. She asked to go outside. Only as long as you don’t step foot on that grass, her father’s friend said. Not even the people who live here are allowed on it. They pay me good money to make sure it stays useless. He and her father shared a laugh she didn’t understand.

A frame of connected buildings enclosed a massive lawn girdled by a short wrought-iron railing. Nothing would have been easier than clearing that little fence. Around the lawn and through its middle ran a handsome brick path. She walked the routes of the two smaller rectangles and the outer, larger one, wending her way through all the permutations, listening to the chirping of the birds in the trees and the rustling of the leaves in the wind. Gas lamps stood like guardians of the prosperity they would light when evening came. She felt an amazing peace. There were no cars rushing around, no people pushing shopping carts home. One old lady waved to her before disappearing inside. Eileen would have been content to live out there, looking up into the curtain-fringed windows. She didn’t need to set foot on that grass. Maybe someone would bring her upstairs and she could look down on the whole lawn at once. The lights were on in the dining room of one apartment on the second floor, and she stopped to stare into it. A grandfather clock and a beautiful wall unit gazed down benignly at a bowl on the table. She couldn’t see what was in the bowl, but she knew it was her favorite fruit.

The people who lived in this building had figured out something important about life, and she’d stumbled upon their secret. There were places, she now saw, that contained more happiness than ordinary places did. Unless you knew that such places existed, you might be content to stay where you were. She imagined more places like this, hidden behind walls or stands of trees, places where people kept their secrets to themselves.

• • •

When the soles of her shoes wore through, her father, in his infinite ignorance of all things feminine, brought home a new, manure-brown pair Eileen was sure were meant for boys. When she refused to wear them, her father confiscated her old pair so she had no choice, and when she complained the next night that the other girls had laughed at her, he said, They cover your feet and keep you warm. At her age, he told her, he had been grateful to get secondhand shoes, let alone new ones.

If my mother were well, she said bitterly, she wouldn’t make me wear them.

Yes, but she’s not well. And she’s not here.

The quaver in his throat frightened her enough that she didn’t argue. The following night, he brought home a perfectly dainty, gleaming, pearlescent pair.

Let that be an end to it, he said.

• • •

Mr. Kehoe came home late, but he never seemed drunk. He was unfailingly polite. Despite the fact that he’d been there since she was two years old, it always felt to Eileen as if he’d just moved in.

She took to cooking extra for him and bringing a plate to his room. He answered her knock with a smile and received the offering gratefully. Her father grumbled about charging a board fee.

Mr. Kehoe had a smear of black in a full head of otherwise gray hair. It looked as if he’d been streaked by a tar brush. When he wasn’t wearing his tweed jacket with the worn cuffs, he rolled his shirt sleeves and kept his tie a little loose.

He started battling through fitful bouts of coughing. One night, she went to his door with some tea; another, she brought him cough syrup.

It’s just that I don’t get enough air, Mr. Kehoe said. I’ll take some long walks.

Even through severe coughing fits he managed to play the clarinet. She’d stopped trying to hide her efforts to listen to it. She sat on the floor beside his door, with her back to the wall, reading her schoolbooks. In the lonely evenings she felt no need to apologize for her interest. Sometimes she even whistled along.

One night, her father sat quietly on the couch after dinner with a troubled look on his face. Eileen avoided him, occupying her usual spot by Mr. Kehoe’s door. Heat rattling through the pipes joined the clarinet in a kind of musical harmony. She looked up and was unnerved to find her father looking back at her, which he never did. She concentrated on her beautifully illustrated copy of Grimm’s Fairy Tales. The day before, when she’d told him that Mr. Kehoe had given it to her, her father had grown upset. She’d seen him knock on Mr. Kehoe’s door a little while later and hand him some money.

She was absorbed in The Story of the Youth Who Went Forth to Learn What Fear Was when her father startled her away from the door. She barely had time to step aside before he had thrown Mr. Kehoe’s door open and told him to quit making that racket. Mr. Kehoe apologized for causing a disturbance, but Eileen knew there had been none; you could barely hear him playing from where her father had been sitting.

Her father tried to snatch the clarinet from Mr. Kehoe’s hands. Mr. Kehoe stood up, clutching it, until its pieces started coming apart and he staggered backward, coughing wildly. Her father went out to the kitchen and turned up the radio loud enough that the neighbors started banging on the ceiling.

When she came home the next day, Mr. Kehoe was gone.

For almost a week, she didn’t speak to her father. They passed each other without a word, like an old married couple. Then her father stopped her in the hall.

He was going to have to leave, he said. I just made it happen sooner.

He didn’t have to go anywhere, she said.

Your mother is coming home.

She was excited and terrified all at once. She’d started thinking her mother might never come back. She was going to have to give up control of the house. She wouldn’t have her father to herself anymore.

What does that have to do with Mr. Kehoe?

You can move your things over there tonight.

You’re not getting another lodger?

He shook his head. A thrilling feeling of possibility took her over.

I’m getting my own room?

Her father looked away. Your mother has decided that she’s moving over there with you.

3

On the Wednesday after Easter of 1953, eight months after she’d left, her mother came home from the hospital. The separate rooms were as close as her parents could ever come to divorce.

Her mother got a job behind the counter at Loft’s, a fancy confectioner’s on Forty-Second Street, and started coming home late, often drunk. In protest, Eileen let dirty dishes stack up in the sink and piles of clothes amass in the bedroom corners. When she got teased in the schoolyard for the wrinkles in her blouse, she saw she had no choice but to continue the homemaking alone.

Her mother began drinking at home, settling her lanky body into the depression in the couch, in one hand a glass of Scotch, in the other a cigarette whose elongated ash worm would cling to the end as if working up the nerve to leap. Eileen watched helplessly as the malevolent thing accumulated mass. Her mother held an ashtray in her lap, but sometimes the embers fell into the cushions instead and Eileen rushed to pluck them out. Her mother fell asleep on the couch many nights, but she went to work no matter her condition.

That summer, her mother bought a window air-conditioning unit from Stevens on Queens Boulevard. She had the delivery man install it in the bedroom she shared with Eileen. No one else on their floor had an air conditioner. She invited Mrs. Grady and Mrs. Long over and into the bedroom, where they stood before the unit’s indefatigable wind, staring as though at a savior child possessed of healing powers.

When both her parents were home, an uneasy truce prevailed. Her mother closed the bedroom door and sat by the window, watching night encroach on the street. Eileen brought her tea after dinner. Her father stationed himself at the kitchen table, puffing at his pipe and listening to Irish football. At least they were under the same roof.

She hated thinking of her mother riding the trains. She saw her mother’s body sprawled in dark subway tunnels as she sat at the kitchen table for hours watching the door. As soon as she heard the key shunting the dead bolt aside, she rose to put the kettle on or wash dishes. She wouldn’t give her mother the satisfaction of knowing she was worried about her.

One night, after she had cooked the dinner and washed the pots and pans, she nestled exhausted into the couch, where her mother sat smoking a cigarette and staring ahead. Tentatively, she laid her head in her mother’s lap and kept still. She watched the smoke pour through her mother’s pale lips and the ash get longer. Other than a few new wrinkles around the mouth and some blossoms of burst blood vessels on her cheeks, her mother’s skin was still smooth and full and porcelain white. She still had those dramatic lips. Only her stained teeth showed evidence of wear.

Why don’t you give me hugs and kisses like the mothers on television?

Eileen waited for her to say something sharp in response, but her mother just stubbed out the butt and picked up the pack to smoke another. There was a long silence.

Don’t you think you’re a little old for this? her mother finally asked. Eventually she moved Eileen aside and rose to pour herself a tall drink. She sat back down with it.

I wasn’t like your father, she said. "I couldn’t wait to escape the farm. I remember I was packing my bag, I heard my father say to my mother, ‘Deirdre, let her go. This is no place for a young person.’ I was eighteen. I came looking for Arcadia, but instead I found domestic work on Long Island. I rode the train out and back in the crepuscular hours. Cre-pus-cular. You probably don’t know what that word means."

She could tell her mother had begun one of those sodden monologues she delivered from time to time, full of edgy eloquence. Eileen just sat and listened.

I used to daydream about living in the mansions I cleaned. I liked to do windows, everyone else’s least-favorite job. I could look out on rolling lawns. They didn’t have a single rock, those lawns. I liked to look at the tennis courts. Perfectly level, and not a twig out of place. They suggested . . . what?—the taming of chaos. I liked the windswept dunes, the spray of crashing waves, the sailboats tied to docks. And when I went out to run the rag over the other side, I looked in on women reclining on divans like cats that had supped from bowls of milk. I didn’t begrudge them their ease. In their place, I would have planted myself on an elbow from the moment I rose in the morning until the time came for me—her mother made a languorous gesture with her finger that reminded Eileen of the way bony Death pointed—to be prodded back to the silken sheets.

It sounds nice, Eileen said.

"It wasn’t nice, her mother said sharply after the few beats it took her thoughts to cohere. It was—marvelous, is what it was."

• • •

A few days before Christmas, her mother told her to take the train in to Loft’s a little before the end of her shift. When Eileen arrived, her mother looked so effortlessly composed that one would never know she’d become a serious drinker. Eileen walked around the store in stupefaction, gaping at the handcrafted, glazed, and filigreed confections.

When her mother was done, she gave Eileen a box of truffles to take home and walked her over to Fifth Avenue and down to Thirty-Ninth Street, to the windows of Lord & Taylor, which Eileen had seen only in pictures in the newspaper. The scenes behind the windows, with their warmly lit fireplaces and silky-looking upholstered miniature furniture, gave her the same feeling she’d had when she’d stood before that great lawn and peered up into the perfect world of the garden apartments. Gorgeous drapery framed a picture she wanted to climb into and live in. Brisk winds blew, but the air was not too cold, and the refreshing smell of winter tickled her nose. In the remnant daylight, the avenue began to take on some of the enchanted quality visible behind the windows. It thrilled her to imagine that passersby saw an ordinary mother-daughter pair enjoying a routine evening of shopping together. She checked people’s faces for evidence of what they were thinking: What a nice little family.

Christmas gets the full treatment, her mother said in the train on the way home. Mind that you remember that. It doesn’t matter what else is going on. You could be at death’s door, I don’t care.

That night, her mother tucked her in for the first time since she’d gone into the hospital. When Eileen awoke in the middle of the night and saw the other bed empty, she stumbled out to find her mother sitting on the couch. For a terrible instant, Eileen thought her mother was dead. Her head hung back, mouth open. Her hand clutched the empty tumbler. Eileen drew close and watched her chest rise and fall, then took the ashtray from her lap and the tumbler from her hand, careful not to wake her, and brought both to the kitchen sink. She took the blanket from her mother’s bed and spread it over her. She slept with the door open in order to see her from where she lay.

• • •

The package she received in the mail contained a book on how to play the clarinet and, beneath it, Mr. Kehoe’s own clarinet. A note on legal stationery said that he’d died of lung cancer and left it to her in his will. She slept beside it for several days until her mother found it one morning and told her to stop, calling it ghoulish. She tried to play it a few times but grew frustrated at the halting noises it produced. With an undiminished memory for its muffled, sensuous sound through the walls, she thought of Mr. Kehoe. She could hear whole songs when she shut her eyes and concentrated, as if the music were waiting to be extracted from her by a trained hand. She could never even string together a couple of familiar-sounding notes. Eventually she took to laying out its pieces and looking at them awhile before fitting them back into the soft pink felt that lined the case. She didn’t need to play Mr. Kehoe’s clarinet to appreciate it. Its parts were sleek and expertly wrought, their burnished metal protuberances shining with a lustrous gleam. They filled her hand with a pleasant weight. She liked to press the buttons down; they moved with ease and settled back up with a lovely firmness. The mouthpiece where Mr. Kehoe had pressed his lips came to a tapered end. She liked the feel of it against her own lips, the pressure against her teeth when she bit down.

The clarinet was the nicest thing she owned, the nicest thing anyone in her family owned. It didn’t belong in that apartment, she decided. When she was older she would live in a beautiful enough home that you wouldn’t even notice the clarinet. That was what Mr. Kehoe would have wanted. She would have to marry a man who would make it possible.

• • •

When she was thirteen, she started working at the Laundromat. The first time she got paid, after kneading the bills awhile between her thumb and forefinger, she spread them on the table before her and did some math. If she kept working and saved every dollar she could, she wouldn’t need anything at all from her parents once she was done with high school—maybe even before. The prospect excited her, though excitement gave way to sadness. She didn’t want to think of not needing anything from them. She would save her money for them.

Her mother drank harder than her father ever had, as though she were trying to make up for lost time. Eileen started tending to her needs in a prophylactic rather than merely reactive way. She made coffee, kept a constant supply of aspirin waiting for her, and lay a blanket over her when she fell asleep on the couch.

One night, Eileen came into the living room and saw that her mother’s head was bobbing in that way it did when she fought sleep to hold on to a last few moments of conscious drunkenness. Sitting with her was easiest then. She was too far gone to say something tart and withering but could still register Eileen’s presence with a tiny fluttering of the eyelid.

Eileen took a seat next to her and felt wetness under her hand. At first she thought her mother had spilled her drink.

She was terrified to change her mother’s clothes, because there was a chance her mother might realize what was going on, but she couldn’t just let her sit there in that sopping spot all night. She managed to remove her wet clothes and wrap her in a robe. Then she lay her back down on the dry part of the couch. Getting her to bed would be much harder.

Eileen sat on her haunches next to the couch and guided her mother’s head and shoulders from her lap to the floor, then dragged the rest of her down. Once she had her there, she slid her along by hooking her arms up under her mother’s armpits. Her mother was making murmuring noises. When Eileen got her to the bed, though, she couldn’t lift her up into it. Her mother had stirred to more wakefulness and was trying to stay on the floor.

Let me get you up, Ma, she said.

I’ll sleep right here.

You can’t sleep on the floor.

I will, she said, the end of the word trilling off. Her brogue came back when she was drunk or angry.

It’s cold on the floor. Let me lift you up.

Leave me be.

I won’t do that.

Eileen tried for a while and then gave up and lay on her mother’s bed to rest. When she awoke it was to the sound of her father coming home from tending bar. She went to the kitchen and saw him sitting at the table with a glass of water.

Can you pick Ma up? She’s on the floor.

He stood without a word and followed her. It occurred to her that, except on Mr. Kehoe’s last night, she’d never seen her father enter that bedroom. In the light streaming in from the kitchen, her mother looked like a pile of dirty sheets on the floor.

Eileen watched him pick her mother up with astounding ease, as if he could have done it with one hand instead of two. One of his arms was cradling her head. Her long limbs hung down; she was fast asleep. He took his time laying her in the bed. He looked at her lying there. Eileen heard him say Bridgie once quietly, more to himself than her mother, before he pulled the blanket over her and smoothed it across her shoulders.

Go to bed now yourself, he said, and shut the door behind him.

• • •

Imagine all of Woodside filled with trees, Sister Mary Alice was telling her eighth-grade class. "Imagine a gorgeous, sprawling, untouched estate of well over a hundred acres. That is what was here, boys and girls. What is now your neighborhood, all of it, every inch, once belonged to a single family that traces its roots back to the very beginnings of this country."

A garbage truck in front of the school emitted a few loud coughs, and Sister paused to let it pass. The rolled-up map above the blackboard swayed slightly, and Eileen imagined it unfurling and hitting Sister in the head.

The grandson of one of the early Puritan founders of Cambridge, Massachusetts, built a farmhouse near this spot, on a massive plot of land he’d bought. Sister started walking around the room with a book held open to a page that contained pictures of the house. "His heirs converted that farmhouse into a manor house. This manor house—Sister practically spat the words—had a wide hall leading to a large front parlor. It had a back parlor with a huge fireplace, a grand kitchen, a brass knocker on the door. It had an orchard to one side. The insistent way Sister counted off the house’s virtues made it sound as if she was building a case against it in court. After a few generations, they sold the estate to a Manhattan-based merchant from South Carolina to use as a weekend retreat. Then, in the latter half of the last century, when the train lines expanded, a real estate developer saw an opportunity. He cleared the estate’s trees, drained its swamps, laid out the streets you walk on today, and carved it into nearly a thousand lots that he distributed by random drawing. He opened the door to the middle class, letting them pay in installments of ten dollars a month. Houses were built. The last vestige of the estate, the manor house, was razed in 1895 to make room for the church, and, eventually, the school you’re sitting in right now."

Eileen was watching the frowning white face of the clock at the front of the room when Sister came up to her with the book. Her gaze drifted lazily to the pictures, but once she saw them she couldn’t take her eyes off them, and when Sister moved down the row, Eileen asked her to come back for a second.

The Queensboro Bridge was completed in 1909, and then the LIRR East River tunnel the following year, and they began laying out the IRT Flushing line—the seven train to you—station by station, starting in 1915. The Irish—your grandparents, maybe your parents—began coming across the river in droves, seeking relief from the tenement slums of Manhattan. They wound up in Woodside. Imagine ten people to an apartment, twenty. Then, in 1924—providence. The City Housing Corporation began building houses and apartments to alleviate the density problem. Sister had made it back to the front of the room. The faint outline of a smile of triumph crept onto her lips as she addressed her final arguments to the jury. This is the way the Lord works. To those who have little, he gives. Isn’t it nice to think of all of you here instead of it just one privileged family in a mansion in the woods? Wouldn’t you agree, Miss Tumulty?

Eileen had been daydreaming about the demolished mansion she’d just seen the picture of. Sister’s question snapped her to attention. Yes, she said. Yes.

But all she could think was what a shame it was they’d knocked that house down. A big, beautiful house in the country with land around it—that wasn’t a bad thing at all.

And think of this, Sister Mary Alice said in closing. Not a single one of you would be here if that estate were still around. None of us would. We simply wouldn’t exist.

Eileen looked around at her classmates and tried to conceive of a reality in which none of them had come into being. She thought of the little apartment she lived in with her parents. Would it be a loss if it had never been built?

She pictured herself on a couch in that mansion, looking out a window at a stand of trees. She saw herself sitting with her legs crossed as she flipped through the pages of a big book. Someone had to be born in a house like that; why couldn’t it have been her?

Maybe she wouldn’t have been born there, but she’d have been born somewhere, and she’d have found a way to get there, even if the others didn’t.

• • •

Some nights she went up the block to see her aunt Kitty and her cousin Pat, who was four and a half years younger than her. Her uncle Paddy, her father’s older brother, had died when Pat was two, and Pat looked up to her father like he was his own father.

Eileen had grown up reading to Pat. She’d delivered him to school an early reader, and he could write when the other kids were still learning the alphabet. He was whip-smart, but his grades didn’t show it because he never did his homework. He read constantly, as long as it wasn’t for school.

She sat him at the kitchen table and made him open his schoolbooks. She told him he had to get As, that anything less was unacceptable. She said there was no end to what he could do with her help. She told him she wanted him to be successful, and rich enough to buy a mansion. She would live in a wing of it. He just rushed through his work and read adventure stories. All he wanted to do when he grew up was drive a Schaefer truck.

• • •

Her mother’s morning powers of self-mastery, so impressive in the early days, began to dry up, until, when Eileen was a freshman in high school—she’d earned a full scholarship to St. Helena’s in the Bronx—they evaporated overnight. Her mother went in late to Loft’s one day, and then she did so again a couple of days later, and then she simply stopped going in at all. One day she passed out in the lobby and the police carried her upstairs. After the officers left—her father being who he was meant nothing would get written up—Eileen didn’t say a word or try to change her mother into clean clothes, because her mother would be embarrassed, and Eileen still feared her wrath, even when her mother was slack as a sack of wheat, because the memory of her mother taking the hanger to her when she misbehaved as a child was never far from her mind.

The next day, when they were both at the kitchen table, her mother smoking in silent languor, Eileen told her she was going to call Alcoholics Anonymous. She didn’t mention that she’d gotten the number from her aunt Kitty, that she’d been talking to others in the family about her mother’s problem.

Do what you want, her mother said, and then watched with surprising interest as Eileen dialed. A woman answered; Eileen told her that her mother needed help. The woman said they wanted to help her, but her mother had to ask for help herself.

Eileen’s heart sank. She’s not going to ask for help, she said, and she felt tears welling up. She saw her mother’s darting eyes notice the tears, and she wiped them quickly away.

We need her to ask for assistance before we can take action, the woman said. I’m very sorry. Don’t give up. There are people you can talk to.

What are they saying? her mother asked, pulling the belt on her robe into a tight knot.

Eileen put her hand over the receiver and explained the situation.

Give me that goddamned phone, her mother said, stubbing out her cigarette and rising. I need help, she said into it. Did you hear the girl? Goddammit, I need help.

• • •

A pair of men came to the apartment the following evening to meet her mother. Eileen had never been more grateful not to find her father home. She sat with them as they explained that they were going to arrange for her mother to be admitted to Knickerbocker Hospital. They would return the next evening to take her in.

That night, as soon as the men had left, her mother took the bottle of whiskey down off the shelf and sat on the couch pouring a little of it at a time into a tumbler. She drank it deliberately, as if she were taking medicine. They’d told her mother to pack enough clothing for two weeks, so Eileen filled a small duffel bag for her and slipped it under the bed. She would explain things to her father once her mother was in the hospital.

Eileen spent the school day worrying that, with so many hours left before the men returned, something would go awry. Her mother seemed okay, though, when Eileen got home. All in the apartment was still. The kettle sat shining on the small four-burner stove, the floor was swept, the blinds were pulled evenly across the windows. Eileen cooked some sausage and eggs for them to eat together. Her mother ate slowly. When the men arrived, shortly before six o’clock, both wearing suits, her mother acquiesced without denying she’d agreed to go. The strangely tender, sorrowful look she wore as she shuffled around the apartment gathering the last of the things she needed—toothbrush, wallet, a book—made Eileen’s chest ache.

Eileen rode with them to the hospital. At the end, the two men drove her back. When they reached the apartment building, the driver put the car in park and sat motionless while the man in the passenger seat came around to open her door. She stood outside the car, thinking she might like to say something to express her gratitude, but there wasn’t a way to do it. The man took his hat off. A strange, knowing silence filtered into the air around them. She was glad these men weren’t the kind that said much. He handed her a piece of paper with a phone number on it.

Call if you need anything, he said. Any hour. Then they drove off.

Her mother stayed in for nine days. When she reemerged, she attended meetings and took a job cleaning grammar schools in Bayside. She complained about being beholden to the Long Island Rail Road schedule, but Eileen figured what actually bothered her was all the time she had to herself on the train to consider how she hadn’t gotten very far in the years since she’d made similar trips.

Eileen dreamed of taking a dramatic journey of her own. When she learned about Death Valley in geography class, how it was the hottest and driest spot in North America, she decided to visit it sometime, even though she wouldn’t be able to leave her alabaster skin exposed there for long without suffering a terrible burn. A vast, desert expanse like that was the only place she could imagine not minding the absence of company.

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In the fall of 1956, when Eileen was a sophomore, another round of relatives started coming over from

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I received this book as a galley copy early reviewer book from the publisher. I had heard good things about it in various journals so was very excited to read it. Although it was a good book and quite well written, it just didn't hit a chord with me as much as I'd hoped it would. I'm not sure why actually. It might have been that I found it about 200 pages too long. It also might have been that I have read Barney's Version by Mordecai Richler and this book suffers somewhat by comparison. I truly loved Barney's Version and it remains one of my special favourites. In this book Mr. Thomas takes on the very difficult task of depicting a family trying to cope with a family member who has Alzheimer's Disease. The Leary family consists of the husband Ed who is a college science professor, his wife Eileen who is a nurse and their son Connell. They live in New York City. The book covers the years from mid to the end of the 20 century. Mr. Thomas is very skilled at character development - so much so that he allows you to see his characters with all their flaws exposed. That sometimes makes for uncomfortable reading as I found myself sometimes getting exasperated with Eileen. This character craftsmanship is why I have given this book 4 out of 5 stars because it's quite remarkable how well Mr. Thomas does this considering this is a debut novel for him. He also writes as if he is someone who is very familiar with Alzheimer's disease and the terrible toll it takes on families and sufferers alike. This book is heartbreaking in so many ways as we watch Eileen trying to keep her family together while this disease begins to take it's appalling and inexorable toll on her, her son and her friends. No one is left unscathed while Alzheimer's wreaks havoc in a family. A difficult book to read, but one that is worth the journey because of the craftsmanship of the writing.

I received a digital version of this novel from the publisher, Simon and Schuster, via NetGalley, in exchange for my honest review. Thank you!This debut novel is a very long read (about 600 pages) and spans several decades starting in the 1950s. The protagonist is Eileen of Irish-American ancestry. The first third of the novel is about her childhood and coming-of-age. Her upbringing by an alcoholic mother and a gambling father is sad but she is determined to make something of herself.Eileen has the desire and ambition to better herself, move up in life, and live in a nice home/neighborhood but soon realizes her scientist/professor husband has no such desires. While they love each other very much, they are worlds apart in what they want out of life. Eileen and other main characters are very well-developed but I felt there were too many minor characters and, at times, the story stalled as scenes played out too long.During the last one-third, the story picks up speed when a devastating disease wrecks havoc with many lives. I found it to be heartbreaking because I have volunteered to help and care for people suffering from this complicated disease. Due to thorough research, Mr. Thomas' description of the progression of the disease was right on. He is a talented writer and I think he will be a successful one.

A huge family story that really drew me in. It is real and uncompromising as we see love in all it's many forms. Eileen and her husband Ed and their son Connell and how they all deal with their lives once Alzheimer rears it's ugly head. But before even that it is a story of a woman who wants so mcuh for herlsef, her husband and son and you know, it's not quite what they want for themselves. As Eileen works so hard to move from Jackson Heights to an Upper middle class neighborhood convinced this will solve all her problems, I worried for her that it would not. But she carries on always determined. As i read in an review, it's a novel of the striving classes.But it's also a novel on family and the power of love.

This book was chosen by my library book club to read for December 2016. I had not heard about this book before it appeared on the list although some reviewers say it is destined to be a classic. I think that is a case of hyperbole. I found it to be a rather overblown saga of one family's journey through the middle class driven by the mother's desire to better herself.Eileen Leary grew up in a poor section of New York City as the only child of two Irish immigrants. Both her parents drank to excess and her mother was pushed into alcoholism by a miscarriage. She managed to get into nursing school and then went to university for a bachelor's and master's degree. She wasn't much interested in the men in her neighbourhood but when a friend introduced her to Ed, a man with a background similar to hers but who had managed to get a Ph. D. in neurochemistry, she was smitten. They married and both continued to work. It took quite a while for Eileen to conceive but when their son Connell was born she wanted the best of everything for him. In particular she wanted to move to a better neighbourhood but Ed was opposed. He was also acting rather strangely, listening for hours to his classical record collection on headphones and sometimes lashing out in anger. Eileen went ahead and looked for a new house. She finally found one they could just afford but that needed lots of work. Ed capitulated to the move and he threw himself into renovations but had difficulty completing projects. Eventually Eileen took him to her doctor who then referred them to a specialist in neurological diseases. The diagnosis of Alzheimer's Disease didn't come as a surprise to Ed who had been fearing this for quite a while. His inevitable decline meant he had to give up teaching and researching and family finances were strained. Eileen was determined to keep the house and put Connell through university and care for Ed at home. She managed to do this for quite some time but her own health suffered. The time came when Ed had to be put in a home. Eileen visited every day after work. Connell, who was in Chicago for university, didn't see the day to day changes and didn't realize how bad Ed had gotten. When he came home for Christmas he decided to bring his father home for the big Christmas party his mother was hosting. It was the last time his father left the care home. Death followed swiftly and Connell was particularly affected by guilt. There is a good story in this book somewhere. Early-onset Alzheimer's Disease is a particularly tragic variant of dementia. Unfortunately, too many extraneous details were worked in which diminished my interest in the outcome. Did we really need to know about Eileen's involvement with a spiritual healer? I didn't think it added anything to the storyline. Similarly her purchase of a mink coat. Instead it made me think less of Eileen. I suppose the author wanted to portray a woman and a family with all their flaws dealing with a tragedy but to me I just got weighted down by the details. This is the author's first novel but he has taken further education in writing. From his website I learned that his father died of early-onset AD. I think he was probably working a lot of things out about his relationship with his father when he wrote this and to him details were important. But not to me, or at least not in the multitude he included. A far better portrayal of the disease and issues can be found in Still Alice by Lisa Genova.

This novel is about a family and how it copes in good times and bad. Eileen Tumulty dreamed of a better life than the one that her Irish immigrant parents had. She spends her time taking care of them through drunken bouts and fights. Her father was the man everyone went to for advice on anything and who could help you out if you needed a job. He worked at a beer factory delivering beer barrels. Her mother worked cleaned schools and such places for a pittance. She took care of the house and watched them slowly die. Eileen goes to nursing school and gets her masters degree in order to one day be in management. She doesn't really want to go into nursing, but there were few jobs available to women in the early sixties, and besides she already knows how to be a nurse by taking care of her parents.When Eileen meets Ed Leary, a Ph.D. student studying science, she is wary as she has been disappointed so many times by the hook ups her friends set up for her. But Ed is different. He is highly intelligent and could be the man to make all her dreams come true. Ed, however, when offered a job by a pharmaceutical company after graduating turns down the lucrative offer in order to teach at a community college, Eileen starts to worry if her dreams of a home of her own will come true. They live in a glorified apartment that you could call a house in Queens, that is shared by the owners who live on the other two floors. After a miscarriage, they have a son, Collen, who becomes quite close to his father with their shared love of baseball. Collen, however, is being bullied at school and refuses to defend himself, even though he has the strength too because he doesn't want to get in trouble and ruin his chances of getting into a good school.When the neighborhood starts to become dangerous with gangs and foreigners and all of Eileen's friends have already left for the suburbs, she begins to dream of living in Bronxville and begins the process of convincing Ed to move which he is dead set against. But Ed is starting to change. He turns down a job as Dean of the college because he isn't ready to stop teaching those who really need it or doing his lab experiments. Soon Ed starts to come home and put his headphones on and listen to his classical record collection. He also becomes angry at the drop of a hat over the simplest things. A riff forms between him and his family and Eileen begins to wonder if Ed is just having a mid-life crisis or whether he is losing his mind.Ed surprisingly gives in to moving once Eileen finds a house, one that needs a lot of work. Ed insists on doing the work himself and makes a mess of it, so Eileen has to call in professionals. Ed is slowly getting worse and Eileen and Collen have no idea what is going on with him. When she finally takes him to a doctor and gets a diagnosis, their lives change forever. Ed has a year and a half to go to retire with full benefits and Eileen is determined to get him through this. Collen is pretty useless. He goes to college in Chicago in order to not have to go home. He doesn't want to deal with his life back home.This book will break your heart as Eileen has to give up on her some of her dreams and watch her husband slowly leave her. You will want to smack Collen a little bit for being a selfish immature boy who can't be bothered to help his parents. But he is a boy and lives to regret the things he didn't do. At the heart of this novel is a regular family trying to cope with the unknowns of life and how they have dreams that can't always come true, no matter how hard you try.QuotesShe tried to imagine what it would feel like to have always been alone. She decided that being alone to begin with would be easier than being left alone. Everything would be easier than that.---Matthew Thomas (We Are Not Ourselves p7)The real world was so messy, the light imperfect, the paint chipped, the happiness only partial.-- Matthew Thomas (We Are Not Ourselves p 77)The point wasn’t always to do what you want. The point was to do what you did and to do it well. -- Matthew Thomas (We Are Not Ourselves p 554)

A very, very long, mostly boring, book about Eileen and her family. Lots of unnecessary words in here.. as if the author had a field day with a thesaurus. I began to hate the book about halfway through. I'm happy it's done

I received this book as an Early Reviewer copy. If I was to believe the letter that came with the book from the publisherand the glowing review from The New York Times Book section I would have thought this book the next best sellerbeach book movie event to visit the year 2014! MEH!While I give praise to the wonderful writing that did an excellent job of propelling me forward with the story andthe interior life of the characters it is the story line that I have the big problem with. For most of us in the adult worldlife is about 95% boring. If I had been a fly on the wall for Eileen Leary's life I would have died before my time ofboredom. That's just it. Nothing much happened except the long,long descent of her husband into debilitatingillness and the effects it has on Eileen,her son and their circle of friends. This is the main meat of the book.I guess because I am of an age when I have lived through the aging decline of my own parents and my husband'splus details of friend's parents downward spiral I just did not really want to be reliving all the horrible details.It would have been nice to know the details of Eileen's life as a fairly young middle aged widow and to see somelightness enter into it. No! the last chapters were just run on,boring interior thoughts of her son. Like so many oneand two star reviews on Amazon.com I kept hoping the book would pick up but it never did. I only finished it as I takemy responsibility of reading the whole book seriously as an early reviewer.

We Are Not Ourselves, Matthew Thomas, author, Although the illness of Ed Leary is at the heart of this story because he morphs into someone who is no longer himself, the tale is really Eileen Tumulty’s. It explores her early childhood and takes the reader right up to her old age. She was brought up in a middle class neighborhood. Her dad was the neighborhood go-to guy. He held court and offered advice in the local bar after his workday ended and before he went home for dinner, which was always at the same assigned hour, served by her mother. He was content with his narrow life although his wife was not, and she eventually became an alcoholic. It was Eileen who took control and sent her mom to AA. This was to be Eileen’s persona as she grew up. She took charge and made things happen, often at the expense of others; although she was considerate, she seemed most interested in her own happiness first. She had the ability to move on with her life and not look back. She only dealt with those things that she could cope with comfortably, and she looked away from everything else as if it never happened. She worked when she had to, in order to get a good education, and eventually became a nurse. While pursuing a Master’s Degree, she met Ed Leary, ironically, a research scientist with expertise in the workings of the brain. He, like her father, was content with a mediocre kind of life, tending to the needs of others before himself. He refused promotions in favor of teaching those less fortunate and remained working at the Community College until circumstances forced him to leave. Ed and Eileen married and had one child, Connell. Connell, like his mom, seemed to serve his own needs first, but also like his dad, enjoyed assisting others. They seemed like a good, upwardly mobile family, but they were really not on the move. Time passed, they moved from one home to another because of Eileen’s persistence, but basically, Ed remained where he was, never accepting advancement, and so he never grew. When misfortune struck, Eileen did take control once again, although, she really had no choice. She tried her best to cope with the situation she faced, but sometimes put her own needs before the needs of those most in need of her support. She was not always where she should be, by choice, but still she was in charge and made demands and compromises when necessary, especially after Ed’s unfortunate diagnosis. The author dissects the family’s decline as the devastating disease that had no cure and no remission became an enormous burden to bear. The story carefully examines the varying reactions of those close to the family and the family members as Ed’s disease developed further and further until it was hard to recognize him as the man he once was. He deteriorated physically, mentally and emotionally. Through the narrative the author explores the issues that must be faced by the family members in order to cope with the new financial and emotional needs of both the victim and those that serve them. Eileen does the best she can, but in the end wonders if her best was really the best she could have done. Guilt haunts Eileen and her son Connell. He was just a teenager, about to graduate High School when his father became ill, and it is only a few years later that the toll it takes on him is obvious. The carefully drawn picture of Ed’s steady downward progression and Eileen’s desperate reactions, sometimes inappropriate and unexpected, gave the most meaning to the story. However, there seemed to be several long-winded and excessive descriptions that went on and on. The extra dialogue went off tangentially, lending nothing further to the story. Because of the excessive wordiness, after awhile, the story felt like one long eulogy whose purpose was to over involve and overwhelm the reader emotionally in much the same way as the narrator of the audio book seemed overwhelmed portraying the character totally on the basis of feelings and leaving out any intellectual interpretation. Perhaps, I would have liked Eileen more if the narrator’s tone hadn’t been so cloying. The reader sometimes over emoted in inappropriate moments, which almost mocked what she was describing rather than lending it the appropriate gravitas that it required. I also read the print copy for clarification of some points, and I think the print copy was superior.The best part of the book is its exploration of Alzheimer’s Disease and how it effects others, besides the victim. It points out that the ability to communicate may not be the problem, rather it is the lack of communication that is at the heart of most of life’s crises. The guilt and shame that often follow in the wake of illness and death is most often misplaced. The book attempts to do too much. There is too much philosophy, too much emotion, too much description. Nothing is really left to think about because the author attempts to provide all of the answers. In the end, the lack of communication between those that could and those that couldn’t, created chaos and misunderstandings, failures of purpose and moments of misconduct. Sometimes it necessitated starting life over again.

This was an ordinary family dealing with an extraordinary disease. Watching the deteriorating mind of a scientist and teacher is heartbreaking. This family did not communicate well and many problems could have been avoided if they had spoken with each other. I thought it was well done and gave an insight to this terrible disease.

I want to thank Simon & Schuster and NetGalley for an advanced reader's copy of this wonderful book.

Although this is a three generational story, the majority of the story features Eileen Tumulty Leary, her husband, Ed Leary and their son Connell. The past and the future tie the present family to the life path they choose for themselves. Or do we get to choose our life path?

The main thing I learned from this book is that despite the best of intentions, the best planning, hard work and day dreams, fate makes it own storyline. Eileen, innately a survivor, plows her way through an tumultuous childhood having to face mature issues at a very early age. Driven to find a way out of the broken down environment, she fantasies about what a better life would look like to her. A child of Irish immigrants, Eileen yearns to have the American dream; an Ozzie and Harriet family with a loving family and the beautiful house with the picket fence. She wants to become part of the main stream where she doesn't stand out as different but is seen as successful and beautiful.

Eileen meets Ed Leary on a blind date and their attraction to one another is instantaneous. Ed is a scientist, an expert on the brain, and an educator at a local community college. She feels instantly that Ed is destined to be her soul mate and future to the world she envisions for herself. They marry and Eileen sets out each morning wearing her imaginary "life is good" t-shirt. In her mind, her less than satisfactory choice of a nursing career, will be a temporary lead-in to her golden vision. When she has children and her husband's obvious talents and intelligence lead them up the status ladder, she will have reached the greener grass on the other side of the fence.

Life isn't easy for Eileen, her goals and dreams remain solid, but reality pushes back against her. When Ed and Eileen decide that it is time to begin a family, Eileen is unable to conceive. When all hope of a family seems inevitable, Eileen conceives and produces a son, Connell.

Ed is advancing rapidly in his career and his talents have been recruited by the drug company, Merck. Eileen is stunned when Ed turns down a chance to have a state-of-the-art lab and the larger paycheck to remain as an educator and mentor to future researchers. She bides her time; it will only be a matter of time before another opportunity will be presented to Ed to advance his career.

When a seemly perfect job offer of the deanship at a larger college is offered to Ed, Eileen again is shocked when Ed turns down this job as well. Eileen sees Ed as entrenched and stubbornly out-of-touch with her needs and the needs of the family. She wonders how their visions of the future have become so different.

As Eileen tries to light a fire under Ed to strive for a better life in a new home in the better part of town, her son becomes yet another source of concern for her. He doesn't seem to have any initiative either despite the obvious inherited intelligence and potential.

Life becomes unbearable to Eileen when she sees both of the men in her life squandering their lives; unwilling to challenge themselves and take risks.

The more Eileen takes up the challenge to change the direction of their lives and to find the perfect home, the more isolated and aggressive Ed becomes. Their neighborhood has been rapidly becoming multi-ethnic and Eileen becomes desperate when Ed is not going to help her escape to an idyll "Stepford" community. She finally locates a realtor in the upscale Bronxville community and locates a fixer-upper home that she feels will transform their lives.

Despite violent and adamant insistence on Ed's part that changes in his life and moving are something he just can't handle, she sells their current home and moves the family, lock-stock-and barrel into the neglected home in the upscale neighborhood. Connell just seems to drift along, staying in the background, struggling with the fact that he feels "alone" in a family war. He has a father that is retreating into isolation on the couch and a mother that has become a demanding controlling force taking all of the air of the home life.

An unseen enemy has invaded their lives; Eileen, with her background in nursing, has focused on what she sees as obstruction in Ed's behavior, and missed the signals that would show her a far darker future for them and would explain Ed's reluctance to change anything in his life.

By the time Ed is diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease, Eileen has removed all sense of the familiar in Ed's life.

The rest of the story shows Eileen's deeper strengths to take care of Ed as he rapidly succumbs to his illness. It is heartbreaking for everyone. Too late, Eileen sees that the "grass on the other side" is green but not necessarily a better pasture.

At times, the story seems to lag along and I felt like screaming at Eileen as she misses obvious clues to Ed's disease. "You are a nurse! Wake up!" But then, isn't it the truth that we see what we want to see and deflect that which we don't want to see? I have experience with a mother having had severe dementia. Like Eileen, I dismissed the clues until it became too obvious to ignore.

I thought the story wrapped up a little too cleanly and nicely at the end. But that is the advantage of a work of fiction; it can do that.

This is a really long book....sort of a saga. It begins with the childhood of Eileen Tumulty, growing up as an only child of alcoholic parents who are emotionally estranged from one another. Then Eileen meets and marries Ed Leary, a Ph.D. candidate....her marriage, like her career, finds her rather than her choosing them. Eileen and Ed are good match, but Eileen always wants something more. After some difficulty they have a son, Collin. Then in their prime, Ed is stricken with early onset Alzheimer's disease. The last half of the book deals with the sad dance of these three family members to the end.The book is well written. The characters, their actions and reactions are believable, and the scenes and dialogue pull the reader into the story. The story ends with the resolution of some long held tensions of Eileen and Collin once Ed is gone. I gave it 4 stars

I don’t like reviewing a book I didn’t finish, but since it’s an early reviewer book, review I must. I managed to get through 181 pages of this 640 page tome before finally deciding to release myself from it. I found it to be overly long, tedious, and repetitive. Eye-rollingly so. I didn't care about the characters or what happened to them. Perhaps the remaining 459 pages improve, but I’ll never know.

Points for keeping me reading it even though at first I wasn't too interested. Still....the flow kept pulling me.But it came into its own about a third of the way in, as the real story began to emerge. Alzheimer's has such an insidious onset that it is hard to recognise at first. It gathers strength and becomes progressively disruptive of the mind, the personality, and the family. This was exceptionally well described and touching. And the letter toward the end squeezed a sob out, so bumped up for that too.

I'm just sorry I have finished! I listened to this in the audio version and just wished there were more disks to come!! How Thomas produced this, over 10 years, is just plain incredible to think about. He makes the characters, especially Eileen, Ed and Connell, their son, so real as the years go by and we watch/feel what happens to them. I was so impressed with how much Thomas was able to write about what his characters were experiencing. I feel as though I could look up to see where Eileen's house is and where Connell now lives with his wife. I wish I could go listen to more---it's a story you just don't want to have end.

This is one of those books. You know the type. Highly praised with considerable hype. Epic and beautiful in many ways. Wonderfully rendered, but perhaps not tightly edited. We Are Not Ourselves seems to be many stories in one, and I'm not convinced this approach was in the best interest of the novel. At times, it even felt like other stories I'd read. Here it feels like Brooklyn. Here A Tree Grows in Brooklyn. And here, The Corrections (of Brooklyn?). Perhaps it is a result of feeling too much like so many other stories that We Are Not Ourselves doesn't stand out to me for its own merits. It's a fine story—nothing wrong here at all save perhaps need for a tighter storyline—but it's not one that will stick with me long. In fact, ask me now for a summary of the story and I promise my response will be shorter than this review.

Powerful story, though too frequently slow moving and repetitive with Big Mike Tumulty the only character I liked and who disappeared too early...Eileen, with her unmanageable and unrelenting materialism and domination of her son, and her son, with his passive refusal to move into his own strength, did not command any loyalty. I wound up skipping a lot of predictable parts.And, why not give dying Grandma the final whiskey SHE craved???

This was a spell-binding saga of a New York nurse and her professor husband and the impact of Alzheimer's disease on their family. She is a strong, hardworking woman who fights for her family and doesn't care if it's "unattractive". It was interesting to muse about how early the symptoms began and how the family trajectory was affected. Rereading this remarks I have to say the book was far better than my review indicates. Apologies to the author.By the way the audio narration by Mare Willingham was great. I will seek out more of her work.

I can't say that this was the most enjoyable book to read, or that the lead character was entirely loveable; but I do think it was very wise and insightful and that the lead character is very human. Kudos to the author for understanding the complexities within all of us and for letting the main characters find experience redemption in spite of their flaws.

Another story about early onset Alzheimer's. Well written and very consuming. Ed is a college professor who begins to alienate and reject his students, despite the fact that he has always been a compassionate professor who has a large following of students. His wife, Eileen and son Connell don't recognize the problem until it becomes full blown and it progresses quickly. They are the collateral damage and watching the harm it causes to all is very painful.

Let me tell you that this sweeping novel narrated by Mare Winningham was an amazing listening experience. We are able to follow all of young Eileen's hopes, dreams, fears, and losses throughout her life. You can't help but want more for her as she struggles from day to day. Nothing will stop Eileen from acquiring her American Dream.As a young girl living in a small apartment in Queens with her immigrant family, she watches her parents struggle to get by. As Eileen gets older she does everything she needs to find success. Eileen finishes nursing school, but throughout her career eventually decides to pursue medical administration.When Eileen marries Ed Leary, she hopes all her dreams will materialize quickly, but that does not come to pass. They both have good jobs, but Ed is comfortable with his routine. Renting an upstairs apartment is about all of the commitment that Ed is willing to invest in. After many years Eileen is able to talk Ed into purchasing the building they live in, so they finally have something of their own.It isn't until decades later that Eileen decides she wants more from this life once again. Ed is nearing retirement and their son is in high school, getting ready for college soon. Eileen does all she can to achieve her dreams, and even though she gets everything she wants, their lives start a downward spiral. She realizes that everything that it has taken her whole life to achieve, she could lose in just a few months. Although this wasn't an action-packed novel, I found myself looking forward to listening to it. With themes of family, love, illness, and immigrants, you may enjoy this book as much as I did. I don't hesitate in recommending this book for either personal leisure or as a book club discussion.

I wanted to like this novel because of its' rave reviews but ultimately it did disappoint. I think it is worth reading if you really want to see the impact of a debilitating disease on a family, but it was a slow slog. There were times when events such as a miscarriage were just described instead of being felt by the character. This is to be expected in a 600 page novel but it felt like the author was reporting the events. There was great writing in terms of getting into the main character's head(Eileen) but this needed to be done more and with more characters than just Eileen and her son. I would recommend this book if you really want an insight into Alzheimer's and its impact on families. This book is a good example of a hyped book that deals with an emotional topic that will garner positive reviews, but as a great piece of literature I don't think it makes it.

This is a big book which could almost be in the manner of a “family saga,” but it is more introspective and less populated than many books of that genre. It tells the story of Eileen and Ed Leary and their in some ways very typical post-WW II American experience. Eileen, the child of Irish immigrants, is raised in New York and takes care of herself and her family in the midst of alcoholism and mental illness. When she marries kind and conservative Ed Leary, a scientist, she sees the possibility of a bigger and better life, with the material trappings that affluent suburbia can offer. But Ed is curiously unambitious and resists her prodding to move up the academic ladder. Eileen is flawed, flinty, and completely believable. I sympathized with her frustration in the face of Ed’s passivity, and I really wanted to shake Ed sometimes until at a certain point in the narrative – I didn’t. That turn in the narrative was a surprise to me, so I’ll leave it alone here.I believe this is Matthew Thomas’s first novel. In the depth and realism of the characters and in the keenly observed mores of the various decades the book spans, it is quite an achievement.

A tragic story that ends in hope makes compelling reading. Thomas’ debut 610 page novel tells a story that could happen to anyone. What happens when your spouse is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in his 50’s. How do you explain his bizarre behaviors to your high school aged son? How does cope with Dad who mentally and emotionally is no longer dad? How do you cope with the financial burden, how does your life continue? Lawyers suggest divorce so that Medicaid will help, but emotionally how can do you that. How do you handle working a full-time job and coming home to nurse your spouse, and how do you keep your heart from breaking when he’s moved to a nursing home. Beautifully written, this story will stay with the reader long after the book has been read.

The novel explores an ordinary life, difficulties with differences in goals and ethics in a marriage, unexpected tragedy, coping and continuing on. We all bring our own upbringing and background with us when we marry. It can be very tricky reconciling differences. This book touches on the Irish American husband and the wife trying to deal with his different goals and viewpoints. A good tale of an ordinary life, sometimes a bit dull but overall, interesting and inciteful.

This one has been sitting on my e-reader since the publisher sent it for review last October, and I finally got a chance to read it.This is thoroughly engrossing story, even tho it drags a bit in the middle. It's the story of a couple with different aspirations, who never learn to talk to one another. I found the character of Eileen despicable although I suspect the author wanted us to have a great deal of sympathy for her. The slow and inexorable decline of the husband as he succumbs to early-onset Alzheimers is handled with discouraging and often depressing realism. At times, it appears the entire family is a train-wreck in the making, and then the reader realizes that may actually be what it feels like to live with this fearsome disease. The author may want us to see this as an epic portrayal of how life changed in the 1950s and 1960s, but it is more a study of the combination of impacts-- a disease of the brain and a huge case of greed. It is certainly worth reading to get an idea of the devastating impact of Alzheimer's on not just the patient but the entire family, particularly in earlier times when it was not as well known, diagnosed, and discussed.

Read from February 24 to March 03, 2015I'm twenty percent into this one (roughly 127 pages of 612) and I don't really see where it's going. As far as sweeping novels about the century, I think I'll stick to Smiley's series or even Follett's. I'm not particularly fond of the main character here and I really hate how she thinks of her son as "the boy" as if he's a complete stranger. There are just too many books I want to read to keep being bored through another 450 pages of this one.