Ask E. Jean: Should I Give Him the Boot Because He Lacks a Dirty Mind?

Hello, E. Jean: I'm 33 and have dated half of New York City, and I'm tired of it! Finally I've met someone I really like. He's a smart, funny, cute guy. He's passionate in bed, but totally vanilla. I, on the other hand, have a kinky streak and don't know if I can maintain interest in a guy who's never even tried things that I consider part of a modern sexual repertoire.

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Please don't tell me I must introduce him to new positions or bring toys into it. He's in his late thirties and should know by now, right? Should I give him the boot because he lacks a dirty mind?—Fly by Night

Miss Fly: Alas. Sex is so tedious in 2008 that the long-established custom dictating that when a lady gives a gentleman the boot, she also gives him a few thwacks of her riding crop has all but disappeared. So prime him. The chap is not a mind reader. Tell him what you like. Cram him full! With detail! Over dinner! If the dude's in no condition to stand up after dessert, you've done your job.