I find myself 60 and single and I'm actually ok with this. Especially since this was my decision. I decided life was too short to be unhappy all the time. This blog is my thoughts and feelings. Doubt anyone will read but it helps be get through the grieving process of leaving a marriage after 40 years.

Sunday, April 16, 2017

It's a new term for people 55+ getting divorced. I was a little surprised when I found so much information online and it's a lot more common than you think. When I first called an attorney and had my first consultation I was shocked when he told me he was currently working on 4 divorces for people in their 60s. I guess with people living longer they are not staying together if they are not happy. I've talked to so many people that said their parents stayed together since they figured it was too late in life to do anything about it. I didn't want to be in that situation.

I'm starting this blog to help me with my thoughts and to also help me through the grieving process of divorce. Grieving you ask, why? Well, divorce is like a death. It's a death to a relationship. I've lost my best friend and the person I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with. As we age and grow in a relationship, sometimes we grow in different directions. I will always love my ex-husband, but I love the person I married. Not the one I divorced. Change in our relationship has not been good and we both wanted two different things out of life.

I'm sure there will be many tears as I write this blog, but that's the purpose. To help me express my emotions. Please don't judge. You can't know what someone has gone through until you walk in their shoes.

“You didn’t make it this far without being strong. That courage belongs to you…not your ex.”

“You are now free to build your life, without any stress. You are lucky that you had the courage to do it.”

“Remind yourself that your marriage didn’t fail. It worked for a long time… then it didn’t. It may be the end of a hugely important phase in your life… but it is also the beginning of a brand new one.”