May 15, 2018 • Page 2
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A Mother Teaching
Responsibility
Dave Says
Help Them Help Themselves
Dear Dave,
My parents have always been
bad with money, and recently they
lost their home to foreclosure.
They found another place to live,
and they both work, but since the
foreclosure my dad has been asking me for money on a regular basis. He tries to make me feel guilty,
and he calls or asks me to come
over to talk about it when my
mom isn’t home. He even asked
for half of the bonus I received at
work the other day. I know they need
help, but I’m not sure what to do.
Eli
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Dear Eli,
I can tell you love your parents, because you’re looking for
the best way to help them. I think your brain knows what to
do, but your heart is having a hard time doing it.
The first thing you’re going to have to accept is your father
is being very manipulative right now. Put an end to these private meetings and phone calls once and for all. If he wants to
talk, make sure he understands it will only happen with your
mom in the room.
Second, understand there’s nothing wrong with helping
By Gov. Dennis Daugaard
Aaron Scheibe has been instrumental in getting
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Mother’s Day was coming the next week, and the teacher
for the men’s group at church was leading a discussion relative to the importance of women in our lives.
“So would any of you like to share a story about a woman
that changed your life?” the teacher asked.
A few men shared a story or two. Then Bart, who everyone knew had been quite a prankster when he was young,
raised his hand. The teacher called on him.
Bart smiled. “I guess I can share this story about my
mother, even though I’m not sure what she would say if she
knew I told you. But I can credit her for turning my life from
one of constantly doing things that probably bordered on the
edge of criminal to one that was better.
“The girls in the community always had a summer camp
they all attended for a week. There would usually be over
a hundred girls and their leaders, so the woman who was
chosen to be the camp director had to be a no-nonsense kind
of woman. She needed to be tough, but loving. It happened
that one year, the woman asked to take on this assignment
was my mother.”
Bart paused and looked at us and grinned. “You all know
my mother, and you know that she is just that kind of woman.
I knew it as well because I had pushed the boundaries with
her many times.
“One of the things that the guys my age always did as a
joke was to sneak into the girls’ camp and play some pranks.
We might do stuff like tip over an outhouse, or take girls’
clothes drying on clotheslines and throw them into the pool.
But if we were really daring, we would try to toilet paper the
women leaders’ cabin or do something else to it.
“Knowing it was my mother in charge, I almost didn’t
sneak into the camp with my friends, but they eventually
talked me into it. We snuck in and had pulled a few pranks
when one the boys suggested we should hit the leaders’ cabin.
“I tried to talk them out of it, reminding them my mother
was one in charge, but they said that was all the more reason
we should do it. I reluctantly agreed, and we moved a portable outhouse in front of the cabin door. I thought that would
be a safe prank since the women couldn’t get out to get us.
“But the women heard us and opened their door, only to
find it blocked. We boys scattered, laughing, until we heard
the air horn. Some men were stationed around the camp to
watch for us, and the horn was a signal to them. The women couldn’t get out of their cabin, but they didn’t need to to
blow the horn. The men converged on us, and soon all five
of us boys were rounded up. The men moved the outhouse
to let the women out, and we boys quickly found ourselves
standing in front of my mother.
“The sheriff was called, and when he and a deputy arrived, my mother pointed at the other four boys and said,
‘You can do what you want with these four.’ Then she pointed at me and said, ‘But this one goes to jail for the rest of the
week until girls’ camp is over.’”
“Did they actually arrest you?” Old Evan asked.
Bart nodded. “That was a Tuesday, and my mom didn’t
come to get me out of jail until the next Monday.”
“That’s pretty harsh for a few pranks,” Evan said.
“To be honest, I wasn’t too concerned about spending a
week in jail,” Bart said. “What I was afraid of, and rightly so,
was the punishment I would have when I faced my mom and
dad.”
“Was it pretty bad?” I asked.
Save $30nodded. “I tried toAC Tune-Up!friends, but that
Bart on a Summer blame it on my
just made it worse, since my mom said I needed to learn to
not let my friends talk me into doing bad things. But the punishment helped me realize that even the smallest of deeds
Just give us a call and we’ll
can have consequences.”
Bart smiled.
send out a qualified “And that’s why I appreciate my mother.”
your folks get back on their feet. However, any financial help
you give them should be temporary in nature, and it should
be a gift. Don’t get involved in giving them money every
month just because they raised you. That’s not how this
works. When you permanently subsidize someone, you take
away their dignity. You also change their status, and compromise their ability to stand on their own two feet.
In return, you should let them know you expect them to
work toward changing their financial behaviors with the help
of a quality financial counselor — one with the heart of a
teacher. It’s often difficult for parents to accept advice and
suggestions from their own children, but it’s for their own
good. Sit down with them, and gently let them know how
much you care, and how much you want better, happier lives
for them.
God bless you all, Eli.
— Dave
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