An Epidemic in this Country and around the World: False Allegations of physical, sexual and psychological abuse

An Epidemic in this Country and around the World: False Allegations of physical, sexual and psychological abuseby Joan T. Kloth-Zanard, RSS, LC

There is an epidemic in this country and around the world of people filing
false allegations of abuse, including filing false allegations of PAS.
PAS is real, but when someone tries to abuse the system and file a false
allegation of it, it is the same as filing a false allegation of physical
or sexual abuse. The people filing these false allegations are no better
than the people who have truly committed these crimes. In both cases,
they have destroyed the lives of innocent people.

But who is actually to blame for all these false allegations? Is it the
person filing it, or their ruthless attorney, who tells them that the only
way to win everything in a divorce and custody case is to claim that they
were abused or that PAS is being used. When an attorney says to his
client, “So did your ex ever touch you inappropriately? ” Well, hell, they
are married, how else would they have sex and be intimate? When an
attorney says, “So did your ex ever hit you, even accidentally?” Well,
hell, things happen by mistake, but to take that and twist it into abuse
is an entirely wrong, let alone unethical. Why are these attorneys’s
allowed to lie and deceive just to win a case? This should be illegal
with serious charges including disbarment. These attorney’s will stop at
nothing to win a case, even if it means destroying innocent lives,
including the children’s. And worse, some of these attorney’s are so
unscrupulous that they will create high conflict in a divorce just to ensure that they
have a huge money making case.

So how do I fit into this mix. I have spent more than 12 years working
with true victims of Parental Alienation Syndrome, so when I am called
about a case of false allegations of PAS, my skin starts to prickle and my
insides turn inside out. PAS is real, but to abuse it and file false
allegations helps no one and instead actually damages the situation for
the true victims. It is much like filing a false allegation of sexual or
physical abuse. It takes time, money, and resources away from the true
abuse victims while making a mockery of the seriousness of this type of
abuse. This is NOT okay.

Recently, I was called to work with a woman who was falsely accused of
PAS. After hearing her story, and what her husband, her husband’s
attorney and her attorney’s did, it was quite apparent that this was part
of the good ol’ boys network and the father went right along with it. If
there had truly been PAS going on, then why did the mother insist that her
son have a relationship with his father, even going as far as to make
expensive arrangements for them to spend time together? In addition, if
the father truly felt he was being alienated, then why did the father
allow his attorney to get the courts to award him all of his sons
possessions, including his car? A truly alienated father would never have
taken this from his son, especially not his car, because then how would
his son ever come to visit him on his own? And a truly alienated father
would have made sure that his son’s possessions remained his possessions
and not taken them for
himself.

Furthermore, in this case, it is quite apparent that the judge and
attorney’s were in cahoots. They would not even let the mother have her
due time to present her case, let alone her witnesses. Neither the
attorney’s nor the judge had any solid evidence of Parental Alienation
Syndrome tactics going on, except to say that once the son’s personal
belongings were taken from him and the son and his mother were sent into
financial ruin, unable to support themselves, that the son hated his
father. Yet, the mother never stopped encouraging a relationship between
the two. She never badmouthed the father to the son. So how is this
parental alienation?

In addition, it seems that when this divorce started, there was no issue
of custody or division of property. It only became an issue when the two
attorneys got together and decided they were not making enough money on
this simple divorce case. So they through a monkey wrench into it and
told the courts that there was a custody issue that never existed. But
despite both parents trying to rectify this situation, somewhere along the
line, the father got dragged into the drama of these attorney’s and their
game and became a willing participant, including absconding with his own
son’s belongings.

This is NOT okay. This is not helping families. This is making a mockery
of our courts and the system that is supposed to protect the true victims
of abuse. Serious charges should be filed against all of these attorney’s
and the judge for their misconduct and unethical behavior.

Parental Alienation Support

This page is to provide support by offering resources and references in regard to parental alienation. It is provided with the understanding that the blog is not providing any legal, mental health, or other professional service. The information is not designed to replace the services of a qualified mental health professional or attorney. This page does not represent the opinion of any professional organization. As a caveat, nothing on this site should be construed as offering professional or therapeutic recommendations. Comments posted on this page do not reflect the opinion of the author.

Ideal Professional Approach and Parental Alienation

Working in an emerging area of practice requires a delicate balance of courage and caution—courage to pursue new paths, caution to ensure the well-being of those we serve. This balance is expressed through the virtue of “humbition:” a fusion of humility and ambition (Warshak, 2002, 2007). Applied to the field of healing disrupted parent-child relationships, humbition allows social scientists and practitioners to balance an ambitious application, extrapolation, and expansion of available knowledge, experience, materials, and procedures with an acceptance of realistic limits to our ability to help parents and children manage the dynamics of alienation. (Warshak & Otis, 2010).

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Monika Logan is a licensed professional counselor living in Dallas, Texas who specializes in troubled parent-child relationships and sexual behavior problems. In addition to maintaining a private practice, she created a program to help youth in the criminal justice system maintain boundaries both offline and online and stay connected with their families.