Negative view of single motherhood.

There are several posters on this board who make it very obvoius that they look down on single mothers negatively. Im not going to call anyone.Why is there still negativity attached to single mothers.Why do people automatically assume she sleeps around etc..I mean its about to be 2013 so why do people still have these type of views about women in general

Because people are assholes basically. I was raised by a single mother, it wasn't the ideal, but life rarely gives us the ideal situation, so you make what you have work.

On a sidenote, and sorry if I derail, but I am noticing some disturbing stuff popping up about how the shooter in CT wouldn't have done what he did if he hadn't been beign raised by a single mother. This pisses me off twofold, 1. Why is it always solely the mother's fault how a child turns out. and 2. Its just another poorly concealed bash of single mothers in general.

I was talking to DH about this the other day. I don't understand why people are against single mothers. Especially those that are single by choice. I asked DH and the best he could come up with is it was weird because it isn't what people expect.

From what I've been seeing lately, and not just on this board, it isn't just single women, but single parent households. Apparently, single parent households are leading to the breakdown of American society and is responsible for everything including mass shootings. I don't agree of course. I'm just seeing a lot of "It isn't guns OR mental health!!! It's the breakdown of the American family!!!"

I know I'm going to get shit for this but I believe it's better for kids to be with both of their parents if possible. That being said, I in no way look down on single mothers. I have several friends who are single mothers who are absolutely amazing parents.

I can see why, I guess. In my situation anyway, I know I get judgement. I am not living in the best situation and many people on the outside looking in can't see how I let myself live like this.

I didn't plan it. I fought for things not to be this way. Now I am just working my ass off to get us out of this mess so we can have a shot at a decent life. It will come. When it does I will tell all the nosey/judgey bitches to suck it and keep hating.

The only single mother I tend to judge is my SIL because frankly I just don't like her. She spouts off about how she proudly doesn't use birth control and yet complains about how much it sucks that she has to work so hard to support her 3 kids (while living at home for free and getting free food, clothing, toys, and babysitting from my ILs). She also ignores her two older kids in favor of her newest baby. Seriously, one time she was in her room by herself for so long (hours and hours) we all thought she had gone to work because everyone other than her was taking care of her kids. She waltzed out in her pajamas and we were all like o.O. This happens on a daily basis. She's also very short tempered with her kids and yells at them all the time.

I have no issues with other single mothers. I'm a "single" mother because my husband travels so much. Obviously I'm not a real single mother but my heart goes out to the women who have to handle absolutely everything on their own. It's so draining and they deserve a medal.

This, I do not fricking understand this mindset!! There was a debate awhile back about single moms and dating, there were quite a few posters who thought dating=sleeping with anybody that would give you the time of day. It really made me wonder what these women were like when they were single. Sorry, buying me dinner does not grant you access to my vagina.