Tuesday, January 03, 2006

Falling Behind, Rising Above

In "Life
is Every Moment", I commented briefly on the problem of the procrastination
cycle: first you get behind, then you catch up -- and in the process get behind
on something else. The next day after I wrote it, however, I had an insight as
to what to do about it. That is, I figured out what to do instead. I've
been using it for a couple of days now, and it seems to be going quite
well.

Earlier this evening, however, I spent a couple of hours trying
unsuccessfully to write an article to explain the concept. The problem is, it
seems to resist explanation at article length, at least for me. I can explain
it in a few sentences that will make you go, "oh, of course, duh", following
which you will then promptly ignore the idea because it's clearly too simple to
be any use whatsoever. Or, I could maybe write an entire book so as to conceal
the simplicity of the idea enough to get people to actually try it.

But
that wouldn't be the only reason to write it in book form. The idea itself is
rather fractal, and once you "get" it, it cascades out consequences over a wide
variety of subject areas: health, finances, relationships, housekeeping, and
time management in general -- to name just the ones I've thought of so far.
Certain aspects of David Allen's Getting
Things Done methodology can be viewed as manifestations of the idea and the
principles that follow from it. Similarly, the same principles play a big part
in Carol Keefe's How
to Get What You Want in Life with the Money You Already Have, and in the housekeeping practices of
the "FLY Lady".

Anyway, on the off chance that simply stating the
ideas outright will help somebody without a lot of extra explanation, I'm going
to just list a bunch of stuff in more-or-less outline form and let you try and
sort it out. Remember, the hard part of this is that it' s going to sound
way too easy to be worth trying. But it's the Simplest Thing That Could
Possibly Work. Or things, actually, because there are two basic rules:

Rule 1: Don't borrow without a repayment plan Rule 2: If you're behind,
make no effort to catch up!

Well, really, there is only one
rule: manage your debts wisely, whether they are time or money. But that's not
specific enough to know what to do; the two-rule form is a little bit clearer.
Still, the rules require explanations.

The first rule is pretty
straightforward. You are never going to catch up if you borrow time and don't
have a way to pay it back. An example of borrowing time with a repayment
plan is that you don't wash every item of clothing when you take it off, but
you have established a regular time at which you do laundry. This is the
housekeeping equivalent of paying off your credit card each month.

As long as
you have a system in place to make sure it gets done, then the debt is managed.
The debt is unmanaged, however, if you are just going to do the laundry
"whenever". Problems ensue because "whenever" usually happens about the same
time as everything else is going crazy.

The second rule is kind of
counterintuitive. How can you catch up if you don't try to catch up? The thing
is, life is every moment. The life you have is the result of the
process of how you live. If you want to live the life of somebody who
isn't behind, you need to stop trying to catch up, because people who
aren't behind don't spend all their time trying to catch up! As a result, they
then have time to do the things that need doing now, thus preventing
them from ever getting behind!

When I realized this the other day, I
joked to Leslie that I had converted to "paygoism", because I became aware that
I needed to "pay as I go". Part of paying as you go is that you're only paying
for the maintenance of the things you have in your life now, not what
you bought with borrowed time. Here's a snippet of what Carol Keeffe's book has
to say about living on borrowed time, with some parenthetical comments I've
added so the parallels are clearer:

When we make a payment on a
credit card bill (try to catch up), we're taking today's money (time) and
sending it off to pay for things we bought sometime in the past (whatever we
did with the time instead). And, worse than that, using our credit cards
(borrowing time) keeps us locked into the urge to pay off the card("catch up")
first and then start to live. So long as we use credit, we're choosing to put
off living.

Thus, it is the very process of trying to catch up
that keeps us locked into the guilt-and-repentance cycle around our uses of
time and money!

Now note, by the way, that I said you should expend no
effort in catching up, but this does not mean that you just ignore
whatever debts you've accumulated. It simply means you set no goals to catch
them up, no heroic efforts. You do not engage in a marathon effort to set them
right. You simply notice in the moment when you can do something -- pick up
that thing, put something else away, pay a bill, do an exercise, whatever --
and you do it. That's all. No attachment to your ideals, and no blame for your
not having lived up to them. The past is past; what matters is this
moment.

Yes, it will take a long time to "catch up" on everything this
way, but it is the only way to make it sure. Your backlog will never
decrease as long as you're putting more things on it, and pushing to catch one
thing up will almost certainly add to your backlog somewhere.

However,
if you "live within your time" by not borrowing what you can't repay, then you
will automatically have a surplus of time: the time you would've spent worrying
about not being caught up, and the time you would've spent avoiding the work
and trying not to think about it. You can then spend some of this
surplus time on actually catching up, in very small increments.

I think the hardest part of this for most people is probably going to be
overcoming the fear of giving up, or the fear that by taking this approach you
will never be able to get caught up. If this is what you are feeling, you need
to understand that it doesn't matter how
far the island is, you just need to keep swimming. If you believe you will
reach the island, then in every moment you will be there.

In the last
two days I've known the joy of being "caught up" even though I'm not really
that much less behind than I was before. But now I know that I will get
caught up eventually (because I've stopped getting further behind), and so I
feel as if I'm already there. This same confidence is the goal of
Allen's GTD methods: the security of knowing that things will be handled, that
everything is under control, and that nothing will be lost.

If you are
interested in exploring these ideas further, I highly recommend first reading
the Carol
Keeffe book (which explains the psychology and techniques in relation to
money and debt) and then the FLYLady site
(which applies the concepts to housework, but doesn't really discuss the theory
any). I had previously read and used the Keeffe book to get out of (money) debt
many years ago via this technique, but hadn't thought of the idea in more
general terms until this weekend.

Anyway, I read a bunch of stuff off
the FLYLady site in the last week while researching anti-procrastination
tricks, and tried to figure out the principles behind her program. At some
point, I realized that the FLYLady's "baby steps" were in effect a way of
"making only minimum payments" on your "housework debt", and that her "Control
Journals" were basically a way to establish "revolving credit plans" for
housework that is most efficiently done in batches (e.g. laundry), while
ensuring that they are "paid off every month" (or day, or week, etc.).

At that point, it became clear to me that you could generalize the approach to
anything in life that you feel is out of control or are frustrated with
yourself about, and I've been happily doing just that.

Now, if you'll
excuse me, I've got to go make sure I don't increase my sleep debt. :)
Good night, and good luck. Feel free to ask questions in the comments, and I'll
answer there or in another article, depending on the complexity of the
answer.