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By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project
People don’t want to see male depression, even when they have it, says Dr. Viren Swami’s research.
An interesting new study from the University of Westminster seems to confirm what depression sufferers and mental health advocates have been saying for some time: when major depression occurs in men as opposed to women, both the depressed man and those around him are less likely to recognize the problem. This presents a serious obstacle to Read more [...]

By Noah Brand
Seriously, you’re not a loser. Noah Brand explains why.
As boys, we get told that there are winners and losers in this world, and it’s important to make sure you’re a winner. As men, we discover that that’s impossible. There’s always some metric by which we’re inadequate, always some ideal we’ve failed to meet. And so the labels of “loser” and “failure” creep in, become the nouns we define ourselves by. Inevitably, once those words become nouns, they begin poisoning Read more [...]

by Gint Aras
When married couples make scenes in public, the rest of us are left pondering.
Last weekend I was seated in the patio of a Vilnius café with some friends. It was rather early on a pleasant evening, not yet eight o’clock. This café is frequented by a large variety of people, young and old, locals and tourists, some well dressed, others unbathed bohemians. You can eat a good, modestly priced dinner there, or you can order a Read more [...]

By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project
Noah Brand responds to The Frisky’s criticism of a Good Men Project article.
Over at The Frisky, Amelia McDonell-Parry has some sharp criticism of Nathan Graziano’s piece here at the Good Men Project, “Yoga Pants Nation“. Ms. McDonnell-Parry writes:
"Newsflash Nathan Graziano: Not everything women do is done with men in mind. Just because you find someone sexy, doesn’t mean she’s being sexy for Read more [...]

By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of The Good Men Project
Noah Brand never felt depressed. He just was.
This is the fourth in a series of essays on depression by some of the Good Men Project’s most valued voices. The first three parts are here, here, and here.
One cold morning in the early 1930s a Kansas farmer waded out into the middle of a creek on his property, put a gun to his head, and killed himself. He left behind a family, including a teenage boy who I Read more [...]

Our emotional histories depend on little decisions which, however small, are irreversible.
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One of the questions people often ask a married man is, “How did you meet your wife?” The question is loaded, of course, and an answer like, “Well, I was hanging out at this party in Linz and ran into a girl in a kitchen,” won’t suffice. Emotional histories fascinate us; the question is asking for a rich narrative. It’s a disguise for this: “What led you to fall for her?”
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By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project
As pointed out in the comments to part one, my first post about the rejections inherent in the men-approach-women-wait model was focused entirely on how bad it hurts for men to suffer the inevitable multiple rejections inherent in that model. That’s true, and it’s part of why it was titled “part one”.
A word to my fellow men: fellas, as we get together over our cigars and brandy in the billiard room, let us take a moment away Read more [...]

Please read my Editors Note at the end of this article.
Why do Some Married Women Find it Acceptable to Poke Fun at Their Husbands in Public?
By Gint Aras
I noticed that several married women I know on Facebook posted this joke on their timelines in recent days:
Woman’s Ass Size Study
There is a new study about women and how they feel about their asses. The results are very interesting.
10% of women think their ass is too skinny
30% of women think Read more [...]

Photo by Gint Aras
Originally appeared at The Good Men Project on October 26, 2012
Writer Gint Aras probes the odd phenomenon of babies attracting babes…to his wife’s amusement
Prior to having Kira, my first child, I used to imagine what attention a baby might attract in public. I was mostly curious but also mildly anxious.
I live in Oak Park, Illinois, a suburb boasting good schools, beautiful parks and playgrounds, and a diverse culture of bookworms and patrons of the arts, Read more [...]

By Noah Brand editor-in-chief of the Good Men Project
It’s true, men are complicated and confusing. Noah Brand clears up five common misconceptions.
The title is, to be fair, an overgeneralization. These things are not universally true of all men, and there definitely are women out there who know and understand some or all of them. By and large, though, these are five areas where communication between the two most popular genders tends to break down on grounds of incomprehension. Women, Read more [...]

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