The very morning after putting the video online, I ran into Dick again.

We exchanged our greetings, and he cut to the chase to talk about two things he’d do differently in the interview. The first was to be more intentional about highlighting the work of others in the department. “I should have done that,” he said. “I wasn’t interviewing you to find out about others,” I said. We both laughed.

He continued, “I don’t think I said enough about the role that Ruth Ann played. She lost a lot because I was often gone. I should have been clear about the amount of sacrifice she made.” Neither of us laughed.

I thought of my father who often laments the sacrifices my mother made during his life of service to the Mennonite Church and Hesston College. I thought of past co-workers who grieve losses tied to their own call to serve. I thought of my own story of absence in the lives of those I care deeply for as I have lived my life of service. I discovered something anew in that discussion with Dick.

Those of us who commit to lives of service will often find in the end that we focus less on the good that we have contributed because of the losses that we feel. The loss of friends because we were absent doing good things. The loss of family bonds because we were absent doing good things. The loss of a marriage because we were absent doing good things. The loss of having not been fully present for those whom we care for most, whom we love, with whom we made commitments – because we were doing good things.

In reflecting on those who came to my mind, I was reminded that the “Ruth Anns” of the world are special people who serve quietly, but with no less commitment, than the ones who are publicly recognized as being in service to others. On behalf of Dick, and all those who he has served over the years, I say, “Thank you, Ruth Ann.”

Even doing the right thing has a price.

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