Ok so I asked her out for coffee on FB. Something like "Ive seen you at a few shows and didnt have a good opportunity to introduce myself. Coffee sometime?" She responded something like " hey, im ususally pretty busy all the time, im sorry, if you see me at another show, please come up and introduce yourself." Then I was like "ok cool, im usually pretty busy myself.....anyway, im going to see *blank* band on the 11th. If you end up there, see you then. Take care."

So we all know what this means. Shes just not interested. Screw it! Life goes on. Thanks for the replies guys/gals

...I think this just means she cannot remember you and whether or not you looked creepy.

Old school:........... Stand up in person and put your best foot forward. Then just don't try too hard and see where it goes.
If you are genuinely shot down in person, try to think of it as a great blessing, because you didn't waste a lot of time or energy.

Originally Posted by Fool

I marvel what kin thou and thy daughters are. They'll have me whipp'd for speaking true; thou'lt have me whipp'd for lying; and sometimes I am whipp'd for holding my peace.

Ok so I asked her out for coffee on FB. Something like "Ive seen you at a few shows and didnt have a good opportunity to introduce myself. Coffee sometime?" She responded something like " hey, im ususally pretty busy all the time, im sorry, if you see me at another show, please come up and introduce yourself." Then I was like "ok cool, im usually pretty busy myself.....anyway, im going to see *blank* band on the 11th. If you end up there, see you then. Take care."

So we all know what this means. Shes just not interested. Screw it! Life goes on. Thanks for the replies guys/gals

no ... this means who the heck are you? why are you asking me out on FB ... so lame ... and she just didn't include a link on "how to get game" next time you see her you gotta do shots or something ... good luck!

cycling is like baseball ~ it doesn't take much to make it interesting

My sis tells me this ALL the time. About everything. I cant help it, im an engineering student.LOL

Do yourself and any future girlfriends and wives a huge favor and change your major. Art or music or poetry, anything. Forestry even. You may be poor or even homeless, but the misery and suffering you will save the world will be worth it.

This has to be a tie between re-frozen slushy uneven dirty ice stuff just right of the nicely plowed pavement, and super-glassy ice with a dusting of fresh powder - SalshShark

Do yourself and any future girlfriends and wives a huge favor and change your major. Art or music or poetry, anything. Forestry even. You may be poor or even homeless, but the misery and suffering you will save the world will be worth it.

Ok so I asked her out for coffee on FB. Something like "Ive seen you at a few shows and didnt have a good opportunity to introduce myself. Coffee sometime?" She responded something like " hey, im ususally pretty busy all the time, im sorry, if you see me at another show, please come up and introduce yourself." Then I was like "ok cool, im usually pretty busy myself.....anyway, im going to see *blank* band on the 11th. If you end up there, see you then. Take care."

So we all know what this means. Shes just not interested. Screw it! Life goes on. Thanks for the replies guys/gals

Disagree with your analysis. I'd say you have been given express permission to come up and say "hi" the next time you see her. She isn't saying "yes" to that cuppa joe, but she certainly isn't saying "no," either. Now you have a chance to introduce yourself with a lot less awkwardness than if you just walked up to her at a concert.

So don't give up on her yet. And try not to drool on yourself when you talk to her.

Do yourself and any future girlfriends and wives a huge favor and change your major. Art or music or poetry, anything. Forestry even. You may be poor or even homeless, but the misery and suffering you will save the world will be worth it.

Speaking as the brother-in-law of someone who purports to be a "recovering engineer" but really is one to the very depths of his soul, there is much wisdom in downtube42's words, young grasshopper.

Me: Hey, I think I have seen you at a couple of local shows. Never got a legit chance to introduce myself. Coffee sometime?
Her: hey there, i'm really busy most of the time, i'm sorry, but if you see me at shows please come up and say hello and introduce yourself!!

Me:Right on, I understand that. I work 7 days a week so....Anyway, im going to see Dropout play on the 11th at The Unicorn. If you end up there, see ya then. Take care.

Her: Okay sounds good.

I didn't see the "okay sounds good" part until after I made the update post. Not like it matters. Anyway......

Disagree with your analysis. I'd say you have been given express permission to come up and say "hi" the next time you see her. She isn't saying "yes" to that cuppa joe, but she certainly isn't saying "no," either. Now you have a chance to introduce yourself with a lot less awkwardness than if you just walked up to her at a concert.

So don't give up on her yet. And try not to drool on yourself when you talk to her.

This!! This would be the hardest part. Just kidding. But no seriously, im glad its winter because I would start sweating like pig. Not really but....

Speaking as the brother-in-law of someone who purports to be a "recovering engineer" but really is one to the very depths of his soul, there is much wisdom in downtube42's words, young grasshopper.

And speaking as a lawyer, don't go to law school, either.

Speaking as someone who was an engineering student for four years, downtube42's words are wise. Don't even need to switch to a sissy liberal arts major. Computer Science and Economics were popular non-engineering degrees at the engineering school I went to.

Disagree with your analysis. I'd say you have been given express permission to come up and say "hi" the next time you see her. She isn't saying "yes" to that cuppa joe, but she certainly isn't saying "no," either. Now you have a chance to introduce yourself with a lot less awkwardness than if you just walked up to her at a concert.

So don't give up on her yet. And try not to drool on yourself when you talk to her.

As a female.. nope. While this is a much politer brush off than I would have used...it's still a brush off. Way too often it is hard to tell someone to feck off. Our society teaches girls to be 'polite'. Telling people to feck off becomes a skill that takes years to learn...and until we do we use phrases like the one up there. It took me a slew of mildly odd but harmless guys and one seriously creepy pee fetishist to learn just how to be blunt. That guy still makes my skin crawl.. yech..

OP, if you want to walk up to this poor girl and chat... don't mention the FB message. At least not until she does. And then don't deny it. Play up the awkward engineer love affair with computers thing if you must. But don't be creepy. Just be you.