Overcome Nervous Sweating & Hyperhidrosis

Some people fear nervous sweating in front of others - at a party, for
example, or a staff meeting - to the point that it fills their lives
with worry. The fear of sweating becomes a monkey on their back, and
leads them to avoid ordinary occasions and activities. It's a solvable
problem, provided you understand how it works.

What do people with nervous sweating fear? They're afraid they'll
look odd and defective, sweating profusely in a comfortably cool room.
They worry others will think they're ill, and want to call an ambulance.
They worry that others will judge them as extremely nervous and
unstable, and not want to socialize or do business with them. They worry
that someone will blurt out, "Oh my God, are you okay?", and they'll
sweat even more as everyone stares at them.

People with a fear of
sweating vary in the details. Some fear sweat appearing on their face or
forehead where it will be most visible. Others are more concerned with
sweaty palms, especially when they have to shake hands or sign documents
in front of others. Others worry about their underarms and chest,
fearing that sweat will appear on their clothes.

Many people who
fear sweating simply sweat more than the average person and become
embarrassed about it. They often have family members with the same
trait. Others just sweat more when they're anxious, especially in social
situations where they fear being observed. It happens once, and then
they fervently hope that it doesn't happen again.

This "hoping" often makes it happen again.

I've
worked with a number of people in Chicago who came to see me
exclusively for help with the fear of sweating, and I've also seen
people for whom sweating was one of several panic symptoms they
experienced. While people differ in the details, there is a general
pattern to this problem, and that gives us a way to treat it.

Social Phobia or Hyperhidrosis?

Nervous sweating is related to a condition called Hyperhidrosis.
Primary Hyperhidrosis is a condition of excessive sweating without known
cause or triggers, while Secondary Hyperhidrosis is triggered by
certain cues, including anxiety. In general, if the excessive sweating
you fear only occurs in situations where others can see you, never when
you're alone, that's a strong indication it's a type of Social Phobia.

If
you search the Internet, you'll find lots of medications and even
surgery offered for this condition. Be aware that the research on such
treatments is not very strong. If yours is a Secondary Hyperhidrosis,
it's probably smart to try the least intrusive methods of help before
even thinking of drugs or surgery. Above all,
be an informed consumer,
because the Internet is full of questionable self help products. Check
whatever you find with your physician and mental health professional
before proceeding.

How Nervous Sweating Develops

Step One: People Identify their Sweating as a Shameful Flaw

The first step in developing nervous sweating is noticing that you sweat
more, or in a different way, than some other people, and becoming
concerned about that. If everybody on Earth had the identical pattern of
sweating, there wouldn't be any fear of it. Many people with nervous
sweating remember the first time they got attention for sweating, and
that unpleasant memory stays with them the same way the memory of a
first
panic attack
stays with people. They think of sweating as their flaw, maybe even
their fault. They feel shame and embarrassment, and dread each future
drop of perspiration.

Step Two: Anticipation

The second step in developing nervous sweating is
anticipation.
Once a person identifies sweating as a problem, it doesn't take long
before they start anticipating it. "What if sweat stands out on my
forehead when I present at the staff meeting?" "What if my hands are all
clammy when it's time to shake hands?"

This anticipatory anxiety
suggests that you should be thinking something and doing something now
to prevent future episodes of sweating. And so you try.

This is a problem, because the harder you try, the worse it gets.

Step Three: People try to control and hide their sweating

The third step in the development of this problem is that people
resort to "safety behaviors" in the hopes of preventing and/or hiding
their sweat. For instance, you might keep a supply of napkins in your
pocket to dry off before shaking hands, or to blot up the sweat on your
forehead when no one is looking. You might keep a glass of icewater
handy, for drinking and also for touching to your face when no one can
notice. You might select your clothes with an eye toward hiding sweat.
Whenever possible, you position yourself in a room near a fan or air
conditioner. Other safety behaviors include: taking a cold shower just
before an event; excessive use of anti-perspirants, deodorants,
perfumes, and talcum powder; finding ways to avoid handshakes; sticking
your head out the window on a cold day just before a meeting; using anti-anxiety medications, and so on.

Will
these solve the problem? Probably not. In fact, the more you worry
about, and try to hide or suppress this sweating, the more it tends to
happen. As with yawning, we don't consciously control the process, but
we can increase it by trying to suppress it.

The more you oppose
sweating, and try to keep it your secret, the bigger a problem it
becomes, because this resistance and secrecy persuades you that you
really do have something shameful and deviant to hide. And it diverts
your attention and energy from what's actually important in your life to
this basic, involuntary physiological response, and gives it
exaggerated importance.

Overcoming Nervous Sweating

There is no direct, foolproof way to abolish nervous sweating, or to limit your sweating to the amount you think appropriate.

But
this doesn't have to be a terrible problem for you. As a first step,
evaluate what I'm saying here. Is this true for you, that your efforts
to hide and stop the sweating have converted this nuisance into a
significant problem? If so, then perhaps a different approach will
produce better results for you.

I refer to nervous sweating here
as a nuisance. If you have a fear of sweating, that probably sounds like
a huge understatement. But the truth is, perspiration volume is neither
an important nor common sign of character. If you're running for
President, breaking into a sweat during a televised debate might sink
your campaign. But the rest of us have a big say in how large or small
this problem is. We make it bigger by fighting and hiding the sweating.
We can make it smaller by becoming more open and accepting of it. You
don't get to choose how much sweating you do, so why should you treat it
like a mark of dishonor?

What makes the problem worse is the
dreading, the hiding, and the secrecy. As you gradually undo those
steps, the problem will become less and less.

Most people with
nervous sweating are so upset and concerned about their sweating, so
used to a pattern of hiding and struggling against it, that they can't
simply stop all in one step. It's often necessary to slowly reverse
course and gradually become more open with it. It's not important to
make rapid change. What's important is to change direction. So long as
you're headed in the right direction, you can get where you want.