Well I can't comment on being a younger mum as I'm expecting my first at the age of 34 (due to 10 years of infertility) so I fit into the older category. People will be telling me I'm being "selfish" for having a baby "later" in life

I know one girl who had a baby at 16 who has been a fantastic mum. Her son is 5 now and she is devoted to him. Albeit she was very lucky and her family sorted her out with a house to live in - she dumped the deadbeat loser father of the baby who couldn't keep a job and found herself a nice guy. They seem a really happy family.

But I have also seen those who got pregnant very young struggling badly to cope with money, where to live and the emotional responsibilities of childcare. Its particularly hard for those who feel they had ambitions in life they never got to fulfill and will never be able to as now their child comes first. Its extra hard for those girls who do not have lots of family support (or its promised but never materialises) and the baby's father is either too much of a waster to take responsibility for his child or bails out at the first opportunity. The children born to girls like this will be much less likely to live a secure life.

At any rate, 11 is a child and they should not even be having sex!!!!! Anyone who had sex with an 11 year old is a paedophile. Her body is too immature to cope with labour - pelvis not widened yet, bones still soft, and I can'y see how the hell she is even going to have the baby without severe danger to her health!

Sat May 13, 2006 7:23 pm

Jazzmine1986

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This is my opinion on the matter -

If she was my daughter i would definatly NOT be proud,
She says she's had experience as she minds her brothers - What a whole year of experience? Her Mother obviously did all the changing the nappies and 2am feeds while she was away with the fairys dreaming of pony's in her cute pink bedroom!
At her age sex didnt even enter my mind, i lost my virginity at 17 to my OH, Who i am very much in love with...
At 11 i was building camps, riding my bike, playing cops and robbers - being a typical 11 year old! How can she be ready for a baby? I wouldnt have been... No way! Didnt her Mother educate her in the sex department?

I think its really sad...

Jazz x

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Sat May 13, 2006 8:05 pm

Mummy240105

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well if she had got rid of it would we b complanin? i mean she could give it up for adoption but will she b still goin to skool when shes had it and let her mum look after it?

the kid will grow up and think r u my mum?

Sat May 13, 2006 8:09 pm

anniemf1978

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The point is....11 year olds shouldn't be having sex!

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Sat May 13, 2006 8:17 pm

Mummy240105

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wasnt she drunk?

Sat May 13, 2006 8:18 pm

anniemf1978

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Does that make a difference??

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Sat May 13, 2006 8:19 pm

Mummy240105

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but think about it she shouldnt of drank and had sex as well.

Sat May 13, 2006 8:19 pm

anniemf1978

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the mother should be prosecuted for child neglect.

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Sat May 13, 2006 8:21 pm

Jazzmine1986

ED MEGA BABE

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anniemf1978 wrote:

The point is....11 year olds shouldn't be having sex!

Completly agree with you there!
What the hell is an 11 year old doing drinking anyways? I was lucky to get a can of Coke at that age coz 'It would rot my teeth' lmao!

Jazz x

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Sat May 13, 2006 8:21 pm

Mummy240105

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yeah i think its well wrong they shouldt ave kids till there at least older and in there teens and no they can look after it.

Sat May 13, 2006 8:22 pm

KelticFox

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Mummy240105 wrote:

yeah i think its well wrong they shouldt ave kids till there at least older and in there teens and no they can look after it.

I think that sometimes even in ure teens things can get a bit too much.. Have a life first - I know i sound like a hypocrite as i'm only 20 but i am mature enough and have a solid, stable and caring relationship!