To expect DP to prioritise my birthday over nephew's christening?

This year, my birthday falls on a Sunday. When I saw DP's brother at Christmas, he mentioned two possible Sundays for his son's Christening, neither of which were the Sunday of my birthday. Today I get home and open an invite addressed to myself and DP announcing that the christening IS on my birthday.Because I have to work the Friday and Saturday evenings of my birthday weekend, I'd said to DP that rather than having a big night out with him and friends on the Saturday as we usually do (I wouldn't expect people to come out on a Sunday night when they have work in the morning) I would just like to do something nice with him during the day. The christening is a long drive away and going to it would scupper any birthday plans of mine. I naturally assumed that DP would say we couldn't go, but instead he reckons there's no way he's missing his nephew's christening (even though he doesn't believe in God?!). While I wouldn't tell him not to go, I've told him that I'm not keen on going myself, to which he just said fine! I'm really smarting now. I understand that his nephew is important to him, but surely I should be important too? Since we had set aside the day to do something for my birthday first, AIBU to feel hurt about this?

YABVU, I would be unimpressed if a family member hadn't come to my DD's christening because it was their partner's birthday and they wanted to get pissed the night before. You sound rather childish and self centred.

To be brutally honest, you are a grown up. Stop fucking sulking about your 'Birthday weekend'. Why can't you have a takeaway on sunday evening and have a nice night in together. Or do something a different day. You are not 5.

winter, i'm sorry but yabvvu. i was a bit annoyed when my sil had her 'wedding reception camping weekend' on my bday, even though the wedding was 2 months prior to that ... so i can understand mild irritation at the loss of your bday celebration but its shockingly childish and spoilt to expect dp to prioritise a bday!

Ur or dh belief in god or not is irrelevant to the point. They plainly have some sort of affinity for it, their choice. Also how old are u this year? It sounds a very young petulant comment? Can't ur birthday be celebrated on a nearby date? U can still have cards/presents can't u that morning?! I think dh is being grown up and right here. Bit bemused by ur reaction which seems very jealous? Yabu I'm afraid. Shame I thought at first I was going to agree with you!