I find that women who are interested in guys just kinda flirt and wait for the guy to make the move, but what if women just once in a while took a chance at it. Getting the guy she want's with out missing a possible love interest and settling for another guy than the one she wants...just because he missed or had other things on his mind to see her very mild advances?

Ladies please don't think this is a way to bash you...I am asking a honest question and would really like to know the male and fe-male perspective about this topic I am all for understanding of the sexes, so please feel free to comment don't worry I don't bite and I'm nice in my responses to reply's.

well in my 15 years on this planet i have only seen it happen once, its a really rare thing that happens, there's a higher chance of winning the lottery, getting hit by thunder 2 times in the same day than seeing a girl ask a guy out

I find that women who are interested in guys just kinda flirt and wait for the guy to make the move, but what if women just once in a while took a chance at it. Getting the guy she want's with out missing a possible love interest and settling for another guy than the one she wants...just because he missed or had other things on his mind to see her very mild advances?

I have had a few girls approach me and ask me out. It's flattering but also a little insulting - I wonder what makes me so approachable. Why do they feel comfortable enough to come on to me and why are they so sure they can have me?

I've known many guys better looking than me who have never been asked out but I'm on number 3 or 4. Perhaps it is the same situation as the shy girl post I commented on the other day... I must be less intimidating and easier to talk to. My girlfriend does say I have very kind eyes. :-P

Oh how i wish girls would do this. Im 18 and still cant properly ask out a girl. I even have a hard time talking to them unless we're friends (which is hard because you have to talk to them to become friends, then you get friend zoned).
Im kind of the shy type so it really sucks

Oh how i wish girls would do this. Im 18 and still cant properly ask out a girl. I even have a hard time talking to them unless we're friends (which is hard because you have to talk to them to become friends, then you get friend zoned).
Im kind of the shy type so it really sucks

You never get "friend zoned" when they find you attractive. They always keep you in mind as the hot friend and they get a female friend to tell you they like you.

I find that women who are interested in guys just kinda flirt and wait for the guy to make the move, but what if women just once in a while took a chance at it. Getting the guy she want's with out missing a possible love interest and settling for another guy than the one she wants...just because he missed or had other things on his mind to see her very mild advances?

Simple. If the female makes a bold first move, she gets him. Seducing a man is easy.

But that doesn't get her what she really wants, which is proof that she is desired by him.

It can also be argued that it also creates a different relationship dynamic, one where the female is (or feels) less empowered.

Girls should take more initiative. Even though I'm a girl myself, it annoys the hell outta me to see my friends pining after some guy they'll never have the guts to confess to. "Oh, he should ask me out if I just keep flirting with him." Bullarky. Then they always get upset when he ends up dating someone else. Suck it up and make a move.

And girls also have the nasty habit of asking their friends to drop the guy hints for them. I'm all for helping out a friend, but that is just really none of my business and I don't appreciate being used.

With that being said, I do know some other girls who are very proactive in pursuing their love interest... My one friend constantly claims one of our guy friends for herself, in his presence; asks him when they'll start dating; and whenever someone asks if they are going out she'll say "Not yet~!" She, like, plans their life out together and everything. It kinda creeps the poor dude out (as well it should...).