To Think My Obesity Isn't a Public Issue?

I've dropped 30lbs since new years day and it's all going swimmingly. I'm no longer morbidly obese (huzzah!) but I'm still "normal" obese.

Anyway!

Today I was dishing out my lunch and a colleague decided to critique it for me and tell me all the places I'm going wrong with my diet, which, in her opinion, is why I'm "the size I am" This is a pretty common thing to happen in our work place, I work with a few people with no filter.

1. You shouldnt have dressing on your salad (it was full fat ceasar)2. Don't add cheese (full fat parmasan)3. Avocados are bad because they are high calorie (there was half an avocado)4. You need more protein so you dont snack later (there was 200g chicken breast on there)5. You only need to eat breakfast OR lunch, not both (I had a coffee with double cream in it for breakfast).

So I explained that I'm on a high fat, low carb way of eating and doing well on it so far, to which she wrinkled her nose and said it's a fad diet and will never work. I should eat low carb AND low fat to lose weight. I did my usual "aah thanks for the advice, I'll bear that in mind" conversation dodge and retreated to clean up my lunch prep.

This then sparked another colleague to chip in and start a whole discussion about obesity related disease and how people are fat through choice. He thought I couldn't hear because I was around the corner behind the fridge door so it wasn't meant to hurt me or anything. The conversation progressed to chatting about how they'd seen documentaries where people were eating doughnuts and takeaways then wondering why they were fat. It wasn't a nice conversation. I slammed the fridge door loudly as i left but I don't think it registered.

AIBU to be fed up about being a bloody conversation starter? My weight is my problem and I completely, whole heartedly accept responsibility for it but I don't think it pre-qualifies me for a life of feeling shit about myself because other people make assumptions about my lifestyle??

I've had comments at the gym before which have stopped me going and even out for walks with my dogs I overheard a couple saying "poor dogs clearly never get walked"... fyi my dogs are walked 4 miles a day everyday and we do a 12 mile walk most weekends

I feel properly rubbish now and as if no matter how much weight I lose I'm always going to feel the need to apologize for myself I'm sick of people making assumptions about my health because of my weight and tired of feeling the need to explain the food I eat to everyone. THere was a guy sat at a table in the lunch area munching down on a massive chunk of birthday cake while the conversation was happening today and no one batted an eye.

I don't think people realise just how fucking rude they are being. Its as if all social etiquette gets thrown out when talking about a fat lady, and its always about a woman. Then the sane people will say fat shaming does not exist and plus size models are encouraging obesity. I'm sick of it. Yanbu. They need to shut up and have some manners.

Perhaps a response of "I really don't want to discuss my lunch" and an icy stare just as you see anyone about to open their mouths to pass comment.This. You are doing amazingly and they can fuck right off.

Sounds like you're doing brilliantly. 30 pounds is a lot of weight loss in a relatively short time. Your diet is sensible and balanced. Nutrition is a subject that every Tom, Dick and Harry thinks they can preach about. Just because they are slim doesn't mean they know what they are talking about. I was slim, really slim for years and ate very poorly. Try to block them out and and ignore! A lot of them will be trying to lose weight one day and wondering why it is so hard.

Well done n your weight loss! I think I was one who pointed you in the way of the Bootcamp threads. Fab that it's working so well for you.

I know just what you mean about some people's comments. I have one friend in particular who has made a few absolutely cracking comments to me. I mentioned dh being stressed and I said to him that him having a heart attack wouldn't help anyone and friend just had to say that I am also at risk due to obesity. Her best was when I was diagnosed with breast cancer and she asked had I been told that it is due to lifestyle.

And people just don't get lchf. Some people have a rigid idea of what to do to lose weight. And it might work for some but not for everyone!

I'm annoyed for you. I have a chronic health problem and meds have made my weight go up. The amount of " useful advice" ( rude comments) given to me by colleagues is astonishing.I wish they'd all fuck off. Your doing what works for you, and doing well on it

I am currently a morbidly obese fat bastard and am trying my best to shift some weight, it's bloody hard going though so please ignore the morons you work with and keep doing what you're doing, it's obviously working for you!

Oh they know it all don't they. I could have lost about 20 pounds by now but I haven't because I don't control what I eat. I'm full of admiration for you and rather ashamed of myself as I could have done it. I keep telling my patients I will have a competition with them to lose weight. They go away and do it and I'm still podgy. (BMI 31). Keep up the great work. You have done your body and general health so many favours by getting rid of this amount of weight.

Congratulations on losing 30 lb !Your colleagues are incredibly rude, I am at the other end of the spectrum and slim/tall and find it equally as rage inducing when people find the need to tell me how to eat as well.

Your weight loss so far is great, keep doing what you were doing, it's obviously working!

Don't understand the critique of your lunch, it's not as if you're sat there with something bad for you like a jumbo maccy d's! (Even if you were, everyone is entitled to a treat)Avocado is good fat, chicken is good protein, salad is just good for you and so what a bit of full fat salad dressing and cheese!

It's obviously working for you and I know it might be difficult but try to ignore their comments about your diet. People love to talk about other people's 'problems' because they don't have to think about their own. Don't let it drag you down.

I'm part of a weight loss group on facebook linked to Slimming World (though I don't actually do SW myself). People share handy tips and recipes. People are also very supportive, if you're having a down day they pick you up with some (not too) tough love. Everyone is in the same boat on there whether trying to lose 5lb or 15 stone.. Might be worth looking into a group like that to give you some positive feedback to counterbalance the idiots you work with.