"Give And Take" Within a Relationship

He wears Adidas and you flaunt in something fancier -- but you
have a love affair. Glamour advises how to learn to make it up, not only
with your footwear wishes, but also with sex wishes.

Sex between a man and a woman resembles an election campaign. Judging
by candidates’ speeches, their intentions seem to be the same; only
by having studied each program precisely will you see how much their real
goals differ.

The same can be said for sex. For two people lying on a rumpled bed,
the words “wild passion” mean quite different things. And
we’re not talking about popular stereotypes (men –
the main thing is to have as much sex as possible with different women;
women – she agrees to sex only after a romantic dinner
and with prospects of long-term affection), we’re talking about
more intricate differences.

Glamour singled out three major wishes that a man and that a woman have
in bed. By taking them into account, you will be able to become ideal
partners for each other.

He needs sex as a merry walk, but not as a confession.
Of course you would like to reveal your emotions, but overstraining of
the nerves can be exhausting. “I am expecting the woman to show
lecherous movements but not a flood of feelings,” explains concert
promoter Max, who will be thirty in a year. Men like surfing and car racing
not just by chance: in both cases words only hamper. “The majority
of us had the hottest sexual experience being senseless!” This does
not imply that men are totally senseless in sex – they just do not
always need emotions. If you want to put a part of your soul into sex
and he wants it to be quickly and from the fanny, then let it be quickly
and from the fanny.

You need him to understand that you also have a personality.
All girls know that hurrying through intimacy means missing out on some
of the most beautiful places on-board the sex-express. Be sure to be in
mutual sympathy beforehand -- and remember that the better you know each
other outside the bedroom, the more comfortable you will feel inside.
Sometimes, however, even a rather delicate friend plunges into sex-eloquence
with comments like, “I could do this” or “I would do
this as well.” A simple remark such as, “Oh, but how could
you guess that it is to my liking?” will remind him that he is not
alone.

He needs his penis to not be criticized. What a pity,
but it is true. “Only this worries men,” insists Harry, a
thirty-year old mechanic, “it is not enough for us to know that
a woman likes our penis, we must be sure that she could not do without
it.” It is due to both physiology and psychology. “This matters
more for boys than for girls,” Glamour consultant Juliana Semenova
believes. “Their reaction upon the remarks considering size and
workability of their genitals is rather painful.” A compliment to
a man’s penis coming from a woman’s lips is the same as an
acknowledgement, “you are the most beautiful in the world”
coming from a man’s lips. So, worship this obelisk: even politician-atheists
go to church. Concert promoter Max is sure that the main indication of
a woman’s high grade to a penis is oral sex. Yes, oral.

You need to be considered a beauty. “We all are
in need of compliments,” Juliana Semenova states. “We must
hear that our bodies are wonderful and that we are great lovers.”
So how can we make him clear his throat and say that fluently?

If he is already your boyfriend, touch upon this matter outside your
bedroom by saying, “Repeat it to me in bed and see what happens.”
But if he is just a new acquaintance of yours, try to make him praise
you. Be the first to say to him, “You are so sexual.” If his
answer is, “You are not bad either,” he is yours.

He needs to see you in all possible ways. Men think
according to images –- it is well-known since the time of Homer.
“My husband likes me to put on the most provocative shoes that I
own,” says Ann, a twenty-seven year-old goods manager, “black,
made of leather, on the platform, with wide straps!” “It makes
me laugh, but he becomes really happy and – what’s more important
– excited and horny.”

A man likes to watch us during sex anyway. If you are still ashamed
of this, begin in small amounts. On the first day, do not put anything
on coming out of the bathroom. On the second day do a bit of strip-tease,
showing, of course, only the places you aren’t shy of showing. And
on the third day leave the night-lamp or sconce turned on -- you will
get everything and he will see everything.

You need more time between sex and sleep. It is true.
There should be an interval. Sure, you like him to keep on hugging you
and not rolling aside like he’s paralyzed. But practically all men