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Tuesday, 25 February 2014

This
is the only answer to the links in life that make you weak – LET GO!

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One:
“My best friend back-stabbed me? I can’t believe it. For a single bloody
project in office she used MY collection of data and put it all up for her
credits. Bitch! You gotta pay back someday soon.”

Two:
“Richard thinks that he is the only one who can cheat on me? This is what I get
in return of all my loyalty and love for my husband in all these years? Wait
till I wash his dirty linen in public. He can’t inflict hurt and leave. Just
like that!!!”

Three:
“He calls himself my cousin? Remember when he was in financial crisis, I was
the only one to lend him a handsome amount, and that too absolutely unconditionally and now when it is his time to
return me the favour, he says he doesn’t remember. Cheap scoundrel!! I’ll make
his dying soul wrawl.”

Four,
five, six and more such incidences go on and on, without a full stop.There can’t actually be a full stop, you see.
Our poor little heart is so sensitive and akin to getting ‘hurt’ that by now,
it is but an integral part of our life.We live, we love and we get ‘hurt’.The
day we cease to live, the day we won’t get hurt ever again. The inevitable
cycle that it is, the only question arises is what do we do when we feel
‘hurt’?

We
may choose to sulk, get back in our tortoise shell, become somber, curse our
stars and when none of the above works, we get used to a perfect melancholic
mood. Alcohol, drugs, self-torture and suicide attempts become our aides. If we
are kind enough to spare ourselves the torments, we certainly don’t spare our
spouse, children, parents and friends who become a dump yard of our anger and
disgust.

In
case we belong to the chic-generation of go-getters who consider themselves
smarter than many around, we choose a different path. That of ferociously pounding
back with an ‘I’ll teach him a lesson’. We strategize over days, concoct,
and think of fixing up the mess created by the culprit but at the end of all
the worthless cleansing-effort, sadly and cruelly mess up two lives or who
knows, even more! Trust me, after having done all the hateful ugly jobs of
revenge, we like phony imposters pretend innocence by remaining still so naïve and
guiltless, as if whatever we did is justifiable. The logic given is simple – “You
step on my foot, I’ll step on yours with double the load”. So what if both of
us end up with a sore foot each!

It
makes me wonder – is sulking or teaching them a lesson worth it? Isn’t holding onto negative feelings like grasping a
hot coal in hand with the intent of throwing it at someone else when it I who
would get burnt in first place?

It is about
wisdom. When someone has hurt us, we don’t have to be the one who punishes
them. If we are a Christian, a Muslim, or a Jew, surely we would believe that
God will punish them enough? Isn’t it? If we are Buddhist, a Hindu, or a Sikh,
we would know that karmawill provide our assailant with their desserts.
And if we are a follower of the modern religion of psychotherapy, we know that our
assailant will have to go through years of expensive therapy because of their
guilt! So why do we necessarily have to be the one who "teaches them a
lesson?"

What goes around,
comes around, be through the diktats of some religion, karma or psychotherapy.
However, the cycle of the diktat shall CATCH ON only when we LET GO.

So let us do our
self a favour: Let us ‘Let Go’! Identify the links in our life that weaken our
potential or the people who pull us down and understand that as long as this
list remains in our hand, our persona is diminishing. Understand that the very
presence of these people and these acts of unkindness in our lives is turning
us feeble day by day and the longer we choose to hold on to it, stronger the
infection within our body will become. Before it destroys us, we have to kill
it and Kill it by letting it go!

Once detached, Lady
Universe will be back on her job. She’ll take care of whatever shit we throw in
her pond of dirt. Cleanse it or pop it out, let the Lady do her work while we
get back on ours. The work of staying comfortable and spreading happiness. Now
and forever. So, cheers!!!