BJ Shea

BJ'S BLOG 04/09/13 "Plastic Surgery"

Do you know what I love about Group Therapy? We’re always finding new and interesting situations to weigh in on. Take this recent dilemma, submitted to us by a Rock-A-Holic named Kevin:

A few months ago, Kevin’s girlfriend decided to get a nose job. “She was beautiful the way she was,” Kevin tells us (and kudos to him for saying so). Regardless of her boyfriend’s opinion, this woman goes ahead with the procedure…

…but the results are not sitting too well with Kevin. He still loves his girlfriend, but he’s no longer attracted to this new, altered version of her. This is her second “improvement” surgery, although Kevin didn’t specify which part of her body was changed by the first operation. We assume it was something in the chest region, but we can’t get our hands on any…solid…evidence.

Kevin is deeply concerned that his girlfriend will continue to feed her low self-esteem with even more surgical procedures! How many changes can she undergo before she’s a completely different person on the outside?

I just can’t understand the plastic surgery obsession we’re seeing in so many women. You have a man who thinks you’re beautiful the way you are! How insecure can you possibly be?

Kevin didn’t tell his girl that he felt she needed physical improvement, so this is all on her. We see so much of this “beautiful people” nonsense in popular culture, and it truly bothers me. I can’t speak for everyone, but I can’t think of a single person who looks at these Frankenstein-ed women (or men) and says, “Yeah, that looks gooooood.”

The Rock-A-Holics who weighed in on Kevin’s situation seemed to agree all across the board: It’s probably time to move on. There are bigger issues at play here, and they clearly can’t be overcome by the love and appreciation of a man who loves you as you are…or as you were, in this case.