Most Helpful Guy

Yes it is a step by step process of attraction.Looks will hold your attention just like flowers fragnance does for honey bees.For men, the attraction is primarily physical and would fantasize her sexually like getting touch with her , kissing her sweet lips , looking at butt boobs or more. Here comes important part...But now, once when we talk to her, it's her personality and charmness that will decide how badly would we genuinely fall in love with her and feel that emotion of " this girl is mine :)"If she has slutty attitude, guys end up treating such beauties as sex object.

What Guys Said 10

I had a friend that was a girl, for a few years, was not attracted to her, but she was to me. I told her I wasn't interested in that way, but we remained really good friends for years.. over time, I ended up really falling in love with her, because she was just, the coolest girl ever and was really funny, and it just clicked one day, that I really wanted her. And the idea of being with her turned me on more than ever! Unfortunately, we were only together once, and life took us in different directions. (My fault!)

Attraction isn't something we can deliberately decide on. It's primal, it happens long before our high reasoning part of our brain decides why it happened.

This is why you see a lot of people saying "i'm attracted to that person because he has great tastes in literature". But that is rationalizing, they found them attractive and then they came with an excuse (great tastes) to justify it because we are to vain to admit to ourselves we're just shallow animals.

Men and women are attracted to different traits. Looks are a huge deal for men, but for women is just another trait.

The truth that people often want to overlook is that if you're not physically attracted to a person it's more than likely NOT going to work out. Personality is important, but so is physical attraction. You need them BOTH -- one really isn't better than the other.

What Girls Said 3

if i have already know him as a friend then i may fall for him because of his personality/attitude. but if he is someone i dont know, and have to start knowing then his physical look is my first attraction and when we start knowing, it would be his personality that substain the entire friendship or relationship. it depends...