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Taken directly from Putting the Pieces Together, here are some of the general BPD-oriented homework exercises listed in Chapter 14. These homework exercises are optional (they are NOT required for your participation or continued membership with the BPDR Forums.) The homework need not be posted in public nor shared in any way. The exercises are simply posted as a way to provide some of the recovery-oriented work that may be of assistance in your journey toward healthy, happy living.

Spend two weeks with self-talk as your primary focus. Stay vigilant to the inner voices. You don’t necessarily need to combat every negative message you hear as you begin this self-talk process. Simply make note of what the original message was and how you responded.

Pick another two weeks – not necessarily the next consecutive two weeks, it may benefit you to take some time off of this topic to allow your subconscious to assimilate and understand the previous exercise. [a] This time, focus on positively and effectively counteracting the negative self-talk of which you become aware. [b] Make note of the negativity and the positive responses you give.

Pick another two weeks – again, not necessarily the next consecutive two weeks. Spend some time with your notes from the other two exercises. [a] From an objective and non-immediate perspective, draft the “ultimate” responses to those negative self-talk statements that crop up.

Review them for positivism.

Make sure they’re in the most effective presentation to be absorbed by your subconscious. [a] Add them to your Learning Library. [b] Practice saying them – only the positive self-talk statements/rebuttals – aloud. Perhaps say them in front of a mirror while making eye contact with yourself.

Question those around you. Compare your internal self-talk to their external perception of you and/or your situation. Check with more than one other person. The law of odds then comes into play. If three people think you’re worthwhile/lovable/doing well, and you’re the only one who does not, who do you think is more on-target?