Ask a Grown Man: Damian Kulash

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Thank you Damian for keeping it real! I absolutely hate it when adults pretend that problems like sexism can simply be fixed with a brave statement. Damian told it like it is which is refreshing, because now I don’t feel like I’ve failed if I can’t simply fix my problems with one sentence!

i envy that! boys at my life are so plain and typical of casual. talking about the same thing, dress up the same thing, listen to the same thing which means pop music. don’t be surprise if they think about the same thing! so boring.

Now I finally HAD to register because I was like:
Oh my God: Damian Kulash talking about life and sexism?
Rookie, now I love you even more :D
You’re really the very best Teenage-Website on the world!
Keep up the great work!

“The best people make the worst mistakes.” I don’t know how much truth it holds, but it definitely helped me get some feelings out. As soon as he said that I felt the waterworks coming. Loved the video.

Note to Beth from California:
Developing a thick skin is NOT the same thing as becoming desensitized. Developing a thick skin towards sexism just means you learn to realize that you don’t have to take it personally. It doesn’t mean you learn to keep your mouth shut. It’s not about you, it’s about something bigger. It’s about the shitty way society teaches us boys and girls to behave towards one another, and it’s up to all of us to break the cycle. Don’t ever ignore your instincts. They’re there to keep you safe! If something makes you uncomfortable, take a minute, put it in as much perspective as you can, and address the thing, not the person.