Post by abrakapokus on Mar 22, 2012 20:35:57 GMT -5

Abra's in Nashville for a show and I let her crash at my place last night.

I assumed that because I saw the pics on FB but either way, I think it a little harsh because if I was the spouse left at home, I don't think I would be amused at your comment..... I guess I feel no matter how much trust you have in your loved one, poop can happen that you never would have thought (yep I trusted too much and was burned!).

I've been in this situation (not w/dave before that) and it was horrible. I'd say it was the second biggest change to the core of who I am/was, only having my children was more life changing. In response to your previous post in this thread I really think living in the moment, not looking forward or backwards, is important. If today is great then let it be great without worrying about what might happen tomorrow or what happened in the past.

As far as Phi's comment. I thought it was funny and with as much as all the guys (rdk/phi) talk about sleeping with my husband, Dave shouldn't be mad and he wasn't. Phi is actually a really great guy. He can come off as an ass on the boards but in real life he's super cool and a real gentleman.

I am pretty disappointed that I didn't end up on Rob Swire's tour bus (car) though so I'm totally whining about that lack of relationship there.

Post by LoveLuckLaughter on Mar 22, 2012 23:17:25 GMT -5

The CL guy actually owned a coffee company. He would bring me fresh roasted beans all of the time. But he had the worst coffee breath. I never even kissed the guy. Bluck. Poor guy. All those beans, and not even a kiss in return.

Post by LoveLuckLaughter on Mar 22, 2012 23:19:54 GMT -5

And to all of the foot fetish guys out there, I'm not judging. This wasn't regular "I like to rub and touch your feet" fetish stuff. This was hardcore weird. So I'm not saying anything bad about you guys.

Post by chrystal on Mar 22, 2012 23:20:45 GMT -5

I met 3 guys off aol. One I was with for 3 years and engaged to. I met 1 off craigslist about 5 years ago. I also met one of the best roommates I ever had off cl around that same time. I cl was far less creepy now.

I also screwed with ( emphasis on with) a lot of guys via aol and MySpace. It was hilarious and maybe a little cruel....but they were all guys who contacted me when my profile said not to and persisted when I said not interested.

Post by abrakapokus on Mar 23, 2012 0:05:17 GMT -5

A lot of foot fetish guys contacted me back in the aol days. Super creepy.

There was one in the knoxville TN aol chat room that used to offer free massages to college aged girls. After he did this and asked to suck their toes and then stole their shoes if they said no, people stopped accepting his offer.

Post by WLViking on Mar 23, 2012 0:14:05 GMT -5

Where do you find these people and how do you meet up with them? They just seem bizarre.

Anyways, my relationship is good, but my one and biggest whine is that my wife hates most music I listen to in general and anything to do with Bonnaroo specifically. Most other things she is real laid back about, except that. I mean, I have a ton of rope to do my own thing and we have no issues with me travelling for work and stuff, but bonnaroo costs me huge points every year.

Post by abrakapokus on Mar 23, 2012 1:33:07 GMT -5

Where do you find these people and how do you meet up with them? They just seem bizarre.

Anyways, my relationship is good, but my one and biggest whine is that my wife hates most music I listen to in general and anything to do with Bonnaroo specifically. Most other things she is real laid back about, except that. I mean, I have a ton of rope to do my own thing and we have no issues with me travelling for work and stuff, but bonnaroo costs me huge points every year.

Has she been? When Roo would come around and Dave was all about bonnaroo this and bonnaroo that while I was at home with two kids I was kinda like STFU already. I get it now, but then I didn't.

Post by WLViking on Mar 23, 2012 7:10:11 GMT -5

No, she has not been to Bonnaroo, or even many music concerts in general. To be fair, a big part of the problem is the corn and other schenanigans I get into when I party. Plus, we have been together a lot longer than I have been going to Bonnaroo. I mean, realistically, 90% of everything else in our relationship is great. Like everyone, we have our bumps, but this is more like a wall to break down each year. I do not view it as controlling, since she never has said I can't go, I just can tell she is frustrated.

She is slowly coming around to where she accepts that I am going each year, but I try not to get too excited around her about going. Abra may have a point, since we have a 14 month old son, and a new daughter, plus there have been house issues while I have been there before. Maybe one year, I will get her to come. Maybe not. Until then, it is my annual struggle.

Post by chicken4 on Mar 23, 2012 9:12:28 GMT -5

So back in high school i was in a relationship. Ended up lasting 5 years, up until last year actually. She broke up with me once, then we got back together, and last year i broke up with her. She wasn't too happy about that. But recently i think she is somewhat getting over it. There is a lot more to it, but thats a summary.

Yesterday as i walking to my one class, i see her walking the other direction. Somewhat awkward banter back and forth (fairly friendly). But then as i was walking away i realized we had just basically talked about me, and i felt bad about it because i think she might have thought i was showing off (talked about job title and traveling and junk). Don't know why i felt bad, but thats just me.

Anyway, i think because we were together for so long it kind of screwed me up with meeting new girls. It's not that i can't talk to girls or haven't been with anyone since then, i just haven't been in a relationship. It's annoying because i like being in one/know I am awesome at being in one, and now like most people probably realize when they're single, all of my friends are in one.

I want to think it is because I was in a good relationship for sooo long, that i know what that feeling is like, and i haven't really experienced it with any girls i've been with since then.

I met one girl that i had the STRONGEST connection with, it was insane. Met her on a business internship conference strangely, unfortunately she lives in Florida and i in jersey. She came up to my college last semester and it was awesome, highlight of the entire semester. Unfortunately she doesn't really believe in long distance and i don't blame her, so we kind of just are staying friends and letting whatever happens happen. But damn i wish she wanted to be more.

Anyway, i feel like this whole girl thing has been kind of bumming me out recently, mainly because if i lived in florida it would be different, but whatever, thought i'd rant for a little.

Post by Vector Viking on Mar 23, 2012 10:35:02 GMT -5

So back in high school i was in a relationship. Ended up lasting 5 years, up until last year actually. She broke up with me once, then we got back together, and last year i broke up with her. She wasn't too happy about that. But recently i think she is somewhat getting over it. There is a lot more to it, but thats a summary.

Yesterday as i walking to my one class, i see her walking the other direction. Somewhat awkward banter back and forth (fairly friendly). But then as i was walking away i realized we had just basically talked about me, and i felt bad about it because i think she might have thought i was showing off (talked about job title and traveling and junk). Don't know why i felt bad, but thats just me.

Anyway, i think because we were together for so long it kind of screwed me up with meeting new girls. It's not that i can't talk to girls or haven't been with anyone since then, i just haven't been in a relationship. It's annoying because i like being in one/know I am awesome at being in one, and now like most people probably realize when they're single, all of my friends are in one.

I want to think it is because I was in a good relationship for sooo long, that i know what that feeling is like, and i haven't really experienced it with any girls i've been with since then.

I met one girl that i had the STRONGEST connection with, it was insane. Met her on a business internship conference strangely, unfortunately she lives in Florida and i in jersey. She came up to my college last semester and it was awesome, highlight of the entire semester. Unfortunately she doesn't really believe in long distance and i don't blame her, so we kind of just are staying friends and letting whatever happens happen. But damn i wish she wanted to be more.

Anyway, i feel like this whole girl thing has been kind of bumming me out recently, mainly because if i lived in florida it would be different, but whatever, thought i'd rant for a little.

1. If you're single, enjoy your free-agency. Set your standards, stick to them, and go play the field in your local area. There are ALWAYS lots of beautiful, interesting, fun single women around. The only shortage of dateable women is in your mind. Truth.2. When you've found the one you think you're looking for, tap the brake and give yourself a little time to make sure. Someone who seems fun and caring and all that good stuff might just be masking a thundercloud of crap you don't have time for, so be patient.3. People can love each other from far away, but it's rarely practical and often ends very painfully. I can think of a few women I'd consider real relationships with but that live too far away, so I put them in the friend-zone and get on with my own life. When I hear that they've found someone that treats them right, it makes me very happy.4. Ladies, you can substitute gender-flipping for all of the above.

Post by WLViking on Mar 23, 2012 10:40:14 GMT -5

So back in high school i was in a relationship. Ended up lasting 5 years, up until last year actually. She broke up with me once, then we got back together, and last year i broke up with her. She wasn't too happy about that. But recently i think she is somewhat getting over it. There is a lot more to it, but thats a summary.

Yesterday as i walking to my one class, i see her walking the other direction. Somewhat awkward banter back and forth (fairly friendly). But then as i was walking away i realized we had just basically talked about me, and i felt bad about it because i think she might have thought i was showing off (talked about job title and traveling and junk). Don't know why i felt bad, but thats just me.

Anyway, i think because we were together for so long it kind of screwed me up with meeting new girls. It's not that i can't talk to girls or haven't been with anyone since then, i just haven't been in a relationship. It's annoying because i like being in one/know I am awesome at being in one, and now like most people probably realize when they're single, all of my friends are in one.

I want to think it is because I was in a good relationship for sooo long, that i know what that feeling is like, and i haven't really experienced it with any girls i've been with since then.

I met one girl that i had the STRONGEST connection with, it was insane. Met her on a business internship conference strangely, unfortunately she lives in Florida and i in jersey. She came up to my college last semester and it was awesome, highlight of the entire semester. Unfortunately she doesn't really believe in long distance and i don't blame her, so we kind of just are staying friends and letting whatever happens happen. But damn i wish she wanted to be more.

Anyway, i feel like this whole girl thing has been kind of bumming me out recently, mainly because if i lived in florida it would be different, but whatever, thought i'd rant for a little.

Chicken, my wife and I met my senior year of high school when she crashed the millenium party I was throwing. (long but great story) She was a junior, I was a senior. We started dating, went to seperate colleges 500 miles away. Neither of us had a car, and my college was very rural, so rarely saw each other. Through it all, we broke up 4 times, but kept getting back together. Once we graduated, we never lived in the same city until we were engaged. Coming up on our 5 year anniversary, and happy to say, that aside from the bonnaroo issue described above, it all worked out.