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Leather Bear Tails is about the leather journey of my slave and I. It deals with all parts of the leather and BDSM experience from safety to predators, to skills, and all of the lovely mistakes that she and I make along the way!!
Also!! I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it can be found for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+usI am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information! The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:

aelmailing@gmail.com

If you are interested in active online community please find:

Fetlife.com

Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Friday, March 29, 2013

What you say matters

I love it when I hear a quote or an idea that makes me stop in my tracks andthink. It is one of those a-ha moments that I love and that many times reminds me of how closely knit we all really are.So here are some of my favorites:

I was at a work meeting and my boss was talkingaboutproductivity and company goals when he said this:" A person cannot hold an ideal intheir head with an action that is contrary until one or the other must change." T.G.

And instead of thinking aboutcompany goals and productivity I instantly thought of BDSM and this community. About how people come into BDSM, and how all of us have something in common- in that we choose our lives and relationships because we desire to have our actions meet our ideals. For some those ideals are about service or submission, for others it can be about domination or control. For others this quote can describe how people can get out of an abusive, neglectful or unfulfillingrelationship. The ideal being an understanding of their self worth and their actions being in contrast to the support of that, leading to a change.There was one my mom told me when I was in my teens. I was having a really rough go of things and she came into my room, sat down and said the most honest thing that I carry with me still:"I can't promise you that things are going to get better, but I can promise you that they will change."

I think of this now as I look at how far the community has come, how much it has changed, and howchange brings theoptimism of better. Not the delivery of better, just the hope.

There is a thingy on my desk that reads from author unknown: "You can't build a reputation on what you are going to do."

This is one of my biggies. Although intellectually I know that people will see what they want and need to see no matter what a person does. That ultimately how I am seen has more to do with the other persons needs and filters then it will ever do with my intent or actions. But I hold onto this because I need it for me.

I need to feel that even though I cant controlhow others feel about what I do- what I feel about what I do- my reputationwith myself- needs to have purpose.

The one that I remember form that movie with Ben Kingsley when he played Gandhi. I don't know if Gandhi ever said it, but Ben was sure powerful when he did:"Do it with joy in your heart or not at all."

I use this when locking my slaves collar. When talking about service, and whenthinking about my own projects and leather journey.

I think that what amazes me is that the power of words and the intention of them can be global, that we are there too in those thoughts and quotes and words.

I wonderwas Gandhi leather?

Then there are the things that I have come up with and tell myself frequently:"I can do this, I can do anything for --- hours.""No Worries.""What is the worst that can happen?""Well- that sucks real bad...""Yea- when pink monkeys fly out of my butt.""How's that workin for ya?"

About Me

I am a Master identified lesbian. My slave and I have been together in in a 24/7 dynamic for 14years. This shows how patient she really is... I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us." It is available here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
I love discussing M/s in real life terms, not just the ones put out there by unrealistic, holier then thou, better then everyone people. We are real people living a real life, it involves mistakes, miscommunication, undone chores, and the experiment gone wrong. ie... playing with emergency candle wax. And neither I nor she will put out there that our flawed lives are any better then anyone else's!!!