People always ask me how my work will affect my children. “It’s so much time away from them,” they remind me. “Don’t you worry about what it teaches them to watch you work this hard—to see your ambition?”

First of all, it must be said, that no one has EVER asked this question of my husband. Nobody worries about how daddy’s career or ambition will negatively affect the family, just mama… and we wonder why women struggle so much with mommy guilt. Mommy guilt is rarely about what WE think of our parenting skills but typically, anxiety of OTHER people judging us for how we choose to mother.”