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tmi daddy issues

PWsMomma wrote:

so my fiancé tells his brothers that I have daddy issues because I like different things in bed.. like getting spanked, ect. first I get embarrassed that he says stuff to his brothers my soon to be bils. second I had a very good relationship with my dad always was a daddy's girl.. I got spanked no more than 3 times growing up.. so my question is do you think if a lady likes to be spanked in bed or other control based things that she has "daddy issues"?

Not at all!! I like being rough in bed, and am always the submissive one (which took my hubby way off guard when we were younger and started out relationship). I like it rough and will try anything that hubby wants. But he doesn't go and tell his brothers or family what I'm like in bed or what I like to do in bed. That's pretty rude and disrespectful to anyone! I too was very close to my Dad and was a Daddy's girl as well... But I don't have any issues or anything.... Wow, I'm still shocked that he tells such personal info about you :(

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PWsMomma

@Prevedel3 well it is rude but we used to party with his brothers and I'm very close with them also we've been together 7 years (since we were in high school) so its a little embarrassing but it's also humorous at the same time.. I dk my fiancé is a crack up sometimes and "ribs" on everybody so I guess im kind of used to it

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sarah254

@PWsMomma No normal.. I had an amazing father and love to be dominated in bed.. It's quite common for women to want to be controlled during sex. I would just sit down and talk to him. Let him know it hurt when he says you have daddy issues when it has nothing to do with that. It's just that you like a little kink. Nothing wrong with that

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CheerCoachT

@PWsMomma I don't think you have 'daddy issues.' I don't ever remembered being spanked growing up but I enjoy it now sometimes. I tend to be a bit of a 'bossy boots' but for some reason I tend to be more submissive in the bedroom. If its something you like, and your SO enjoys it also, there's no problem. It was VERY disrespectful of him to share intimate details of your sex life with anyone. He needs to know that's NOT ok.

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wrightst

@PWsMomma Not at all. For me, if anything I was a daddy's girl also. I love being spanked, and I also love doing the spanking! My DH and I take turns doing the spanking/bondage. ;)

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monkeymunchkin

@PWsMomma i grew up without my "sperm donor", but in my opinion i don't have daddy issues since i never met him. it's as if my mom HAD gone to a sperm bank. never met him, never contacted him, never had to rely on him and get let down, never disappointed, etc. so in my opinion no daddy issues here! lol

i think it's not an uncommon thing for women to want to be submissive. sometimes when i try to take over and be the controlling one it seems a little awkward for the both of us. so i really like when he does a lot of the "taking over" and i enjoy being spanked as well.

even if you're close with your future BIL, it stll isn't something that he should have told him. i'm close with my mom and i definitely don't tell her personal information like that. there are some things that are meant to be between a person and their partner. if it doesn't bother you then.. i don't know, but if it does i really would speak up about it. i would find it totally inappropriate.

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caesarjager

@PWsMomma No that is one of the dumbest things I heard he sounds like maybe he has issues to even correlate the things u do in bed with your dad... Gross

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brwngrl78

@PWsMomma No. Rough sex doesn't equate to daddy issues. I'd be pissed that he's sharing those kinds of details about his future wife and mom to his kids with anyone. How disrespectful!

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SoCalMomma1

@PWsMomma I'd be pissed off if my husband told his family our personal info. My husband and I love being rough in bed. Makes things exciting and it's a big turn on for me. =)

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