It's specific to a learning style...a quality within a person is either present or absent. I get that there are multiple learned abilities but it appears the kind I seek in others are ingrained. NOT learnable...

I've seen others mimic it as if to present the same feeling of origin of the quality...but it's getting easier to route past infiltrator qualities to discern a difference.

Probably makes no sense...yet

Quoting: ArunaLuna

Either it flows or it doesn't. I can tell a undercover cop from a country mile solely by the walk inferred by a holster. A wannabe wants to be. Thus talk is always geared to being and not Is.

There's some nonsensical advice, but I get you. Saying all the right things is wrong and practiced for a result.