7 Things A Narcissist Cannot Do For You (Or Anyone Else)

6. Support You Emotionally

Making others feel like sh*t about themselves is what a narcissist does best, so don’t expect them to offer any kind of emotional support when you need it. If the narcissist is your romantic partner, be aware that controlling other people and making them feel powerless and helpless is a common trait amongst such assholes.

Then, as soon as you become the powerless, helpless creature they’ve created, they’ll treat you with contempt for being fragile and needy.

7. Appreciate What You Do For Them

If you’re romantically involved with a narcissist (you brave, misguided soul) and make plans to take them out for dinner, have flowers delivered to the table, and pick out a gorgeous wine, etc., prepare to be shat upon. Instead of showing any measure of gratitude, they’ll complain that they would have preferred another restaurant, the flowers aren’t their favorites, and you should have ordered a Pinot Noir instead of Malbec. Sigh.

The emotions and thoughts behind your gestures are irrelevant; they really only care about their wants and needs, and pretty much everything you do will be wrong, somehow. If they do gush about something you’ve given them when they don’t really like it, you’ll be able to tell that they’re obviously faking it, and you can rest assured that they will ask you for something else they want within about 3 hours.

Not really. They can feel some things, but their love towards you will only revolve around what you can do for them, and how you make them feel. If they do behave as though they love you, then it’s for other people’s benefit so they’ll be amazed and impressed by your partner’s selflessness and devotion. As soon as their audience is gone, their attention and affection will disappear as well, and they’ll go back to being their obnoxious, self-absorbed selves behind closed doors.