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Why don't people just leave when it's over?? I'm not happy and have told him as much. He's not happy either. I vote we just separate. He can be a dad without being here. We hardly speak and it usually turns into an argument. He's out of the house most of the day. I don't understand why he doesn't just let go. He says he wants to work on things but actions speak louder than words. I am stressed and tell him as much but he swears he's not cheating and we are what's important. What am I to do?

Why don't people just leave when it's over?? I'm not happy and have told him as much. He's not happy either. I vote we just separate. He can be a dad without being here. We hardly speak and it usually turns into an argument. He's out of the house most of the day. I don't understand why he doesn't just let go. He says he wants to work on things but actions speak louder than words. I am stressed and tell him as much but he swears he's not cheating and we are what's important. What am I to do?

Have you thought about couples counseling? My husband and I hit a rough patch after we had been geographically forced apart for almost 2 years and just talking about counseling (and we both sought individual counseling) really helped. It showed that we wanted to put forth the effort and it helped tons.

Have you thought about couples counseling? My husband and I hit a rough patch after we had been geographically forced apart for almost 2 years and just talking about counseling (and we both sought individual counseling) really helped. It showed that we wanted to put forth the effort and it helped tons.

But think of it this way, you have probably been thinking about this for awhile before bringing it up. You have had all that time to process it and realize it is the best decision for you. He has just heard it and is just beginning the process.

But again, have you just told him to leave. Or why don't you just leave and go somewhere without him (not sure what the ownership/lease arrangements are for where you leave and who has the right to stay).

Have you told him leave?

But think of it this way, you have probably been thinking about this for awhile before bringing it up. You have had all that time to process it and realize it is the best decision for you. He has just heard it and is just beginning the process.

But again, have you just told him to leave. Or why don't you just leave and go somewhere without him (not sure what the ownership/lease arrangements are for where you leave and who has the right to stay).

Ive told him to leave. I packed his stuff and put it by the door. The first night he came back after I was asleep. My son let him in. The next night he went to a hotel as I stayed up late to make sure he didn't come back. The 3rd night he slept in his car n the driveway. I let him in at 4 am. I felt sorry for him. We talked said we would try to work on things but 1 week later I feel like it's getting worse and I made a mistake by letting him back in. I've told him this. So he knows how I feel. As far as me leaving that is not an option. I own my home and can't just walk away.

Ive told him to leave. I packed his stuff and put it by the door. The first night he came back after I was asleep. My son let him in. The next night he went to a hotel as I stayed up late to make sure he didn't come back. The 3rd night he slept in his car n the driveway. I let him in at 4 am. I felt sorry for him. We talked said we would try to work on things but 1 week later I feel like it's getting worse and I made a mistake by letting him back in. I've told him this. So he knows how I feel. As far as me leaving that is not an option. I own my home and can't just walk away.

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