SelfWorth

Too often as women, we go through the motions trying to keep the peace and going through the motions. But sometimes you have to shake ish up. You have to realize that you are worth more, should be treated better, and deserve it ALL. But how do you do that if you’ve never done it before?

Realize that people treat you how you allow them to. So it’s time to pull your big girl lace panties on and let people know that what they’re doing doesn’t work for you anymore. They can’t say those things without repercussions. That you don’t tolerate it anymore. And stand firm on it. I don’t tolerate negative people in my space, at all. If someone doesn’t speak positivity I will remove myself from the situation, immediately.

Set boundaries that protect you. You can’t give everything to everyone all the time. It depletes your spirit. Life is challenging for everyone, but it’s how you deal with it. I have enough things going on in my life that I will not add yours to it. I’m here as a friend but you will not transfer your negative energy to me. Let’s get the bad out, so we can work on the positive. And those who don’t want to see the positive, I limit my interactions with them.

Step away and recharge yourself. Do those selfishly indulgent things for yourself. The ones you’ve been putting off because you won’t make the time. Enjoy the fruits of you working hard. Plan for your future. Dream a little, envision the life and lifestyle you want. Then go work for it. I take time to disconnect from everything when I’m feeling out of sorts. I need to get my mind right and focus on me. Making me a better person and I do with unapologetically. I’m my first priority.

It’s time for you to shake ish up so you’re not kept down. Make sure you book your session now because you’ve been putting off your dreams too long, let me help you set your boundaries, & coach you out of your comfort zone into living the life you want. Not the one others want for you.

Something was off and I just wasn’t happy. I was going through the daily motions of work & home, lost in the daily routine of life. And I was digging myself deeper into this self-imposed box called my comfort zone. I wanted out. So I did a LOT of mindset work, had some new experiences, and haven’t looked back since.

It’s easy to say step out of your comfort zone, but embracing something new can be scary. Especially if you don’t have a support system you can lean on. Lean on me, I’ve been in that zone, and it’s one I don’t want to go back into.

So here are a couple tips to boost you into stepping out of your comfort zone even quicker. Pick an area that needs to be shaken up and go for it. Hey, your love life isn’t the only thing you need to keep hot and fresh, lol.

With back to school approaching, it’s time to come out of hiding and start getting ready for new beginnings and fresh starts. You probably haven’t thought about making sure that you’re good. But you know that what #SelfishSaturdays are all about, this week we’re making sure you get a couple checkups. Yes, you need different kinds of checkups, you’re trying to live healthy and wealthy.

Your spirituality. Whatever you believe in, take time to get closer to it. Pray more, meditate more, look for more ways to show your faith. Find new ways you can show your faithfulness and kindness to others as well.

I want you to promise me something. That today will be the last day you play it small.

That from this day forward you will dream big, live bigger, seek the biggest, and demand greatness in every aspect of your life. Envision your life and dreams until it seems so big it scares you. Remind yourself that you deserve the best and you’ll have it no other way. I want you to start seeking and living a life of excellence.

Envision yourself as if it already happened. As if you already have it. Live as if.Continue reading

Let’s start by defining glow up, according to Urban Dictionary, it’s to go from the bottom to the top to the point of disbelief; an incredible transformation. As we enter the second half of the year, I can’t help but reflect on what an amazing year this has been for me personally and professionally. Everyone that I’ve met this year has been making strides to truly glow up and make sure that those with them do as well.

But what happens when someone you want to glow up, doesn’t want the same thing?

Generational curses aren’t solely spiritually based. When we think about this topic the word “Curse” makes this cliché pretty scary and depending on if you’re a bible thumper or not determines how you see the term. I do believe there is some validity to spiritual generational curses. However, it is also my belief that because this term has been deemed “spiritual or religious” many miss the message in understanding Generational curses. I realize that when we’re born we are systematically molded into who we are and or how we should do things. For that reason, I have noted below just 3 of what I refer to as “environmental curses” that can cause us to have a delay in our personal-development. Take a look in an attempt to bring awareness to some of the issues that could be the reason for the hesitation in your personal-growth.

Appearance

Lately I’ve taken some time to really look into how my family was raised and I noticed that the women in the family and even the men aren’t the best dressed people. We were only taught to be “neat and clean”. I really hadn’t noticed that I was raised to be a very relaxed dressing person until I started feeling bad for wanting to wear makeup. My aunt (who raised me) would always say “you aint gotta look like a clown everyday” (wear makeup) to look nice. She instead only instructed us to bathe twice a day and wear “clean draws”.

Every once in a while you need to get out of your day-to-day and escape into something that will actually benefit your future self.

I’m all for catching up on season 3 of whatever, watching the train wreck of the new series of ratchet tv, or being immersed into the characters in my beloved romance novels.

None of those make you or I better, well except maybe to think how grateful we are that we aren’t them. But what about being as addicted to doing things that are actually going to inspire, educate, empower, or help you to become a better person?

Only you know where you want the rest of the year to go. Start reflecting on what you were able to accomplish this year, what went well, what you just didn’t make time for or get to. What promises didn’t you keep to yourself? Are you committed to doing them now? Great. You know things like leaving all that negativity behind, being aware of who is really down for you and deciding what’s best for you. You know positive thoughts and actions breed positive results.

You are the only one who can live the incredible life ahead of you. But you have to go for it. You have to stop holding on to what he, she, and they said. They don’t want what’s best for you. They want to say the meanest and cruelest things they think you might believe so you can start doubting your greatness. Once that little bit of doubt is planted, they know you’ll start questioning your full potential.

We’ve all had situations where life has gotten the best of us and we’ve had to crawl back to the top. Now that you’re at the top, don’t be the one to make you slide back down.

Seek your own validation, qualifications, and self-worth.

When people tell me their opinions about what I can and can’t do, sometimes I ignore them because obviously, they’re a non-f’ing factor. Other times I tell them to “kiss my a$$” and prove them wrong.

I’m not waiting for anyone to tell me I’m great. I tell myself that in the mirror when I put my moisturizer on.

If this is hard for you I need you to do one thing:

Get give yourself a positive affirmation that you can pep talk yourself into believing. As Jay Z says “Let me be great”. Here’s an affirmation from my Affirmations Journal, “I am becoming who I dreamed of being.” You can get your copy on www.TakishasTheory.com. So stop waiting for someone to tell you who you are, you tell them.

“You are capable of achieving everything you want, you just have to work and believe it.”

Just in case you still are waiting for someone to tell you to be great. There you go. #KiToldMe

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