John Rosemond: Refereeing twin girls' confrontations backfires

1:17 AM,
Jan. 8, 2013

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Q: How can we help our 7-year-old twin girls stop fighting? They constantly provoke and antagonize each other. We thought this was just normal sibling conflict, but it seems to be developing into actual resentment. One of them is now saying we love the other one more, and the other one bullies and intimidates her when we're not looking. We seem to be doing nothing but mediating their fights. Help!

A: As long as you referee their squabbles, this is only going to get worse. Even the most well-intentioned referee (who's only trying to level the playing field) ends up identifying one child as the ...