There I said it. I’m more likely to want a 6 pack of beer than
carry a washboard stomach on a 45 year old body. I neglected my
body for so long that six pack abs hasn’t ever been the goal and
now that I find myself in great shape, it’s still not a goal of
mine.

The doesn’t mean fitness isn’t a priority. It doesn’t mean
health and eating properly are being ignored. It simply means I’ve found
peace in my life and I best describe it as balance.

I have other goals in my life. Since this is a weight loss
community, I mostly talk about that here. If this is the only side of
me you follow, you’d think all I do is focus on weight loss. I am
however active in a few other unrelated communities. In those
communities I rarely talk about health/wellness, unless it
contributes to that goal as well. My name isn’t even FatDag there,
and many of my friends there don’t even know what “WhysAdvice”
means! The point is, I have many goals and I do my best to achieve
them all.

I’ll share just a little. One of my goals is to stay
happily married for another 23+ years. One of my goals is to build
our foundation into a $1M valuation (which means we will award 200
scholarship annually). One of my goals is to finish writing the two
books I’ve started. I have a goal to travel the
globe as a motivational speaker. I have a goal to retire from
the military in 11 months, and not have to find a (9-5)
J.O.B. I, of
course, have my health/wellness goals, personal finance goals, and
social goals. I even have goals for my daughter.

I have so many others, but you get the idea.

As I continue to work on these goal, I’ve broken them all down
into smaller steps that are more actionable. As I work on balancing these
goals towards completion, I’m always thinking and
adjusting.

This is where the six pack comes in. Many times the actionable
steps to reach one goal, is in direct conflict with the overall
result of another goal. Some times I’m working out to get the
6pack, other times I’m handing them out and raising them to toast a
fallen hero and their family.

Some action steps contribute to multiple goals at the same time
and when that happens, it’s perfect. More often than not, I have
to decide in an instant what goal is the priority for that moment.

Example: Telling the marketing director for a major sponsor that
“I’d love to try your latest product, however I’m out of points” is
only serving one goal!

Going for a run, and writing a book can not be done
simultaneously, by me at least.

I keep myself on track by always adjusting, always evaluating
and I’m getting much better at planning (another goal born out of
necessity)

There was a period of time when 99% of my focus and attention
went towards my weight loss goal. I achieved what I wanted at that
time. During that time, I lost traction on some of my other goals,
but that was what I needed to do, I made that decision
deliberately. I had to prioritize that goal highest in order to
accomplish it! I
checked it off, crossed the finish line as I say, and immediately
created a new goal around that notion.

The point of this whole post, is to bring balance to your
life. Like I have
mine. Soon my parents will celebrate their 50th wedding
anniversary, and you bet I’ll have cake. Not because I want it, but
because
celebrating with my entire family aligns better with my marriage
and social goals and in that moment that will be the priority. The
next morning, I’ll likely go for a run!

About the Podcast

To lose weight, you need to focus. It doesn't happen by accident. At one point I weighed 263.5lbs and I should have been kicked out of the military. I got my mind right and lost 91pounds. It feels great! If you have similar goals, this is the place to learn WHY I did it and get focused on your WHY. There is more than one way to do this!