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“He wants a friends with benefits relationship”

I’m 15, I’ve been talking to this guy that goes to my school. We are friends but we flirt a lot and talk about wanting to be more than friends. Neither of us want a relationship and he wants a “friends with benefits” type of thing which I am really on the fence about.

I really like him and I want to have that with him but I am a virgin and he isn’t. I wouldn’t mind losing it to him it’s just I have feelings for him and I don’t really think he has feelings for me. I want this type of relationship with him where we hang out and talk and have sex but not date. But if we have sex and he doesn’t want to continue this or just stops talking to me after a while or something. I would be super upset because I really like him. Basically I want to, but I don’t want to get hurt and there are a lot of ways this could end badly. What do I do?

3 thoughts on ““He wants a friends with benefits relationship””

Dont do it. Ive literally been in your exact shoes. I was a virgin, he wasnt, and we decided to be fwb. I really liked him, he was attracted to me but not really interested. It was super fun while it lasted but there is absolutely no way out of that situation without getting your heart completely broken and losing the friendship.

No. He will drop you. You will feel used. Your first should not be with some guy who wants to use you (he does – that’s it). I obviously don’t know you. I just happened upon here by accident. Treat your heart and yourself with care. I wish I had when I was younger.