Talking to my OTR Boyfriend

I have to thank everyone (especially the experience drivers) for the kind and thoughtful advice I've received from this website.

My boyfriend and I have been together for just short of 3 years now, and he's been OTR for 4 months.

The first month was not so bad- at night we could talk on the phone or video chat with skype.My first thought was "this is easy, there's nothing to worry about".

But then the second month came- he was less accessible, more stressed, and I was trying to deal. He was officially in training and had to focus.

Month three was awful, he switched from his trainer to his team driver. It was good for him. He learned a lot more with the new guy, but it was bad for me- he drove 12 hour shifts and never had time to talk. I got angry, emotional, desperate..

Luckily- thanks to the truckers and truckers' wives on this website, I began to realize just what his lifestyle was like OTR. And I also began to realize what my role was in the relationship.

I have to be supportiveI have to do my best to not increase his stressI have to help him do his job

It also helped us to come to an understandingThat I can't be the only one working on the relationship.He understands that my life is just as stressful and tiring as his- just in different waysHe understands that, in his physical absence, what I need from him is communicationWhich means he actually has to talk to me.It's hard for him to do, but he's working on itLittle by Little