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What Not To Ask A Girl

The 4 Questions You Need to Stop Asking Today

Before you is a list of four questions men often ask their female counterparts. These questions often squash attraction and come off looking needy and insecure. From now on, I recommend avoiding these at all cost. If you do ditch them, and replace them with better material, you will see your odds improve drastically and find yourself winning with women.

1. Do you want to come back to my place?

This question just oozes chump. You should never ask this if you want her to come home with you. What you need to say is this:

You: Ok let’s go.

Her: Where are we going?

You: To a better place I know.

Then just leave and assume she’s coming back with you. If she asks where you’re going, say, “you’ll see.” To be honest, if you’ve done the rapport building right, she won’t ask you any questions… she’ll just follow.

2. Are you free on Friday?

This usually comes in the form of a text message, but some guys do ask girls point blank,

(which works a little better by the way.) Having said that, asking when she’s free puts pressure on her, and the longer she puts you off, the easier it is to forget you. So to stop this from happening, you need to make a statement instead. Like, “Ok, cool… Let’s meet this Friday. What’s better for you, 7 or 8pm?” This way, you’re assuming she’s agreed, and when she gives you a time, it’s rock solid. This is called giving a false choice. Either way, you win. Another way you could say this is, “I’m booked up on Tuesday and Wednesday, but Thursday and Friday I should have some time. Which day is better for you.” Again, this is a false choice. The benefit of using this line is that you convey a higher status and limited availability (which is always attractive.)

3. Do you have a boyfriend?

Never ask if she has a boyfriend. If she does have a boyfriend and loves him, she will likely mention it pretty early on in the conversation to hopefully throw you off the scent. Always just keep escalating and if she doesn’t mention anything, then you’re all good.

4. Can I get your number?

No, no… no! This is just asking for rejection. Yet again, you should be making a statement here. Say something like, “Put your number in my phone and I’ll give you a call later to arrange a time and place.” OR “Ok, what’s your number and I’ll text you later.” Telling her what to do will increase your chances of getting the number. Remember, a dominant male makes more statements than questions when it comes to gaining attraction.