American marrying in Tunisia

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I hope someone here can help me. I am American living in the US and my fiancé is living in Tunisia. We are getting married sometime in November but he has not told me what am I supposed to do as far as rings or dress.

I know the culture is different but I don’t want to go empty handed either. We are having a simple normal wedding.

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I understand what you are saying. He wants us to marry quickly but doesn’t realize it isn’t easy for me to leave the US for vacation. I work in the Medical field. I don’t have a problem helping him but I cannot afford to do it all on my own.

I have already spoken to his brother and his brother informed me that he is responsible for a big bulk of the financial cost because it is in their culture for the man to take care of the woman.

We’ve already begun to gather the majority of the legal information so that once we are married he can come back to the US with me .

I’m just very frightened his family behaves with me as if I am a traditional Tunisian girl and sometimes he behaves as if all he wants is to come to the US .

but then he tells me if it’s going to be too much of a problem for him to come to the US then he’ll just stay in Tunisian and he wants me to go live over there with him but I don’t even speak Arabic I’m learning but he speaks English how will I work .

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I understand what you are saying. He wants us to marry quickly but doesn’t realize it isn’t easy for me to leave the US for vacation. I work in the Medical field. I don’t have a problem helping him but I cannot afford to do it all on my own.

I have already spoken to his brother and his brother informed me that he is responsible for a big bulk of the financial cost because it is in their culture for the man to take care of the woman.

We’ve already begun to gather the majority of the legal information so that once we are married he can come back to the US with me .

I’m just very frightened his family behaves with me as if I am a traditional Tunisian girl and sometimes he behaves as if all he wants is to come to the US .

but then he tells me if it’s going to be too much of a problem for him to come to the US then he’ll just stay in Tunisian and he wants me to go live over there with him but I don’t even speak Arabic I’m learning but he speaks English how will I work .

Please forgive me it was late when I wrote this post so I missed some information.

1) wants to marry quickly- As a NY native quickly for me is less than 5 yrs. we have known each other for 3.

2) yes there is an age difference. I have spoken with his family and expressed my concerns and I was told that he will not leave Tunisia unless he can ensure them and my self that he can provide for me.

His family has a small taxi company that he works in. Yes we met online 3 years ago. He is aware that it can take years before he enters into the US, I also explained to him that it will be easier for him to deal with immigration if he starts his end of the paperwork for a Visa.

I’m not wealthy at all. I actually just had surgery so I’m out of work at the moment and he and is family is aware.

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sorry for asking all these questions. It's good thinking to prepare, but we need more information to help. As Kris noted, the forum might prove helpful by just browsing a few threads. It did for me at least haha

Did you stay with him in Tunisia and for how long and where is he from? Does he want to live in US? How does he intend to support the two of you, or three, if children are planned?
And do you know why he wants to marry quickly, how long ago did he express his wish to you?

Again, apologies if I appear nosey., but intercultural matters, as you already noted, are no cakewalk (pun not intended).