It’s all about choosing the right person

Be it a friend, life partner, colleague, associate or even your boss (well if you have a choice to do so 🙂 ), you have to be careful whom you are choosing and for what purpose in your life.

One can find many besties in life but it’s important who stays with you till the end. At some point of time I am sure everyone must have come across a situation or situations wherein you have been betrayed by the person whom you trusted the most. It was this person for whom you can swear to be the most faithful person in your life. This was the person whom you had placed all your trust in him/her whom you thought is the best of the best in your life.

And all of a sudden, one day you come to know that this most trustworthy person has stopped responding to you with some reason known only to him/her. This is the person who now starts talking ill about you to others. And you get into depression mode, the worst phase in life. You now only see the past and reminisce about what all you did for that person. You start blaming yourself for the terrible mistake you did of trusting that person, to open up yourself and most importantly keeping faith on him/her. And you make a wow to yourself that you will never again get close to anyone.

In simple words one cannot buy an “insurance” for any relationship. There are no safety nets in it. Only precautionary steps which one can take.

The core point in any relationship is a 2 way handshake. If you are simply chasing the other person and that other person does not have time for you then you need to put an end to this relationship. If you think you are being “used” by that person then it’s time for you to give some space to this relationship till that person gets the message. If you really do matter or if your relationship does make a difference to the opposite person then he/she will notice the distance from your side and will try to reconnect. However, if that does not happen it’s a clear message that maybe the relationship and closeness was not what you thought or expected it to be.

Cutting-off from that person may be easier said than done, however in the long run it will be all for the best and you will soon be a free bird with many more cheerful people around you which will bring a smile back on your face. I personally feel it’s better to be alone than to have such people in life and most importantly start loving your own company.

PS. It was after a long discussion I had with one of my office colleague which made me pen down the above post.