Can you get AIDS from oral and anal sex?

Hi I am a 36-year-old woman. I wanted to know if you can get AIDS from oral sex and anal sex. Please let me know. I have had multiple sexual partners but always use a condom for vaginal intercourse but never for oral sex or anal sex. Is there any risk of transmission of HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases?

Lady you’re choosing to lead a very dangerous life. While you’re using condoms for vaginal intercourse, you’re not doing so anal sex or oral sex which can be very dangerous. Many people prefer anal sex to vaginal intercourse because there’s no risk of pregnancy and this leads to them trying it out without condoms but the thing is that is barebacking (as it’s colloquially known) can make you susceptible to a plethora of STDs including the dreaded HIV. Unprotected anal sex is actually considered the most high-risk sexual practice; a receptive partner is 5 times more likely to get HIV through unprotected anal sex than unprotected vaginal sex. (Read: Anal sex: Things you ought to know)

Another important thing to keep in mind during anal sex is the lubricant you use. While vaginal intercourse is feasible without lubricants, anal sex demands one because the anus doesn’t secrete any natural lubricants. Now keep in mind that if you’re using a latex condom you need to stay away from common oil-based lubricants like petroleum jelly, hand lotion or cold cream which can react with the latex and dissolve it. You should instead use water-based ones like glycerine or lubricating jellies which can be purchased at chemist shops. (Read: Condoms: Frequently asked questions)

On the other hand the chances of transmission of HIV and other STDs through oral sex are considerably lesser still it’s advisable that you use a separate condom from the one you use during vaginal or anal intercourse while indulging in oral sex. Be safe and always insist on wearing a different condom while indulging in oral, anal or vaginal intercourse. Lastly, make sure that you do not suffer from a latex allergy which can lead to rashes, blisters and in more severe cases anaphylaxis – a severe allergic reaction where there is swelling of the lips, throat, tongue which leads to respiratory distress and needs immediate medical attention.