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Does it make it harder for straight couples to be poly, as they can't really be fully integrated with their respective partners, but each has to date on their own?

How do you get around that, if so?

It sounds like you think each person who is part of a couple is "supposed to" keep everything "equal" in terms of involvement in multiple relationships, so that everyone "gets" the same thing, or that everyone is "supposed to be" involved with everyone else in order to "be poly" or make it all "fair." You seem to have been fed some interesting ideas.

There is no rule that each of you has to be involved with the same people. There is no rule that when one person in a couple has other partners or lovers, that the other person in the couple is supposed to also have other partners or lovers at the same time, or in the same amount. There is no rule that things are supposed to be "equal." There is no rule that poly people should be bisexual for it all to be fair (whatever that could mean!) to everyone. There is no rule that poly people should be having threesomes in order to be "really poly."

Look, all poly means is that if you are part of a couple and have consented to being in a polyamorous situation, then either you or your partner may or may not have other loving relationships at any given time. That's all!

Of course it doesn't. It could be all girls or all guys. Who said threesomes had to be mff?

You were the one that stated that for some reason it would be easier to experience a threesome if one of your partners were bi.

The replies are basically people trying to explain to YOU that it makes no difference. That dating a hetero, bi, pan, homo makes no difference in whether or not someone is going to get a threesome and so it's kind of a silly question to ask.

Well, so would I - but with two guys. The word "threesome" does not always mean FMF!

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Originally Posted by Flowerchild

Of course it doesn't. It could be all girls or all guys. Who said threesomes had to be mff?

Well, my comment was directed to gorgeouskitten, who implied it when she qualified the fact that she would have a threesome even though she's straight -- as if it was an odd thing for a straight woman to want a threesome. It was all meant to be read with a sense of humor, btw, but it seems you didn't get that at all.

You were the one that stated that for some reason it would be easier to experience a threesome if one of your partners were bi.

The replies are basically people trying to explain to YOU that it makes no difference. That dating a hetero, bi, pan, homo makes no difference in whether or not someone is going to get a threesome and so it's kind of a silly question to ask.