(Closed) Would this work?

So, we’ve chosen our venue, and since the venue requires we leave by 9pm, we’re looking for a good place for an after party. In New Hampshire, last call is at 12:30am!! So…we were thinking of getting some hotel suites that were adjoining (have contacted hotels about this) or renting a house by the beach for the night.

Now, here is the question. Some of the houses by the beach only rent by the week. That’s out of our budget. Could we pitch the house to our friends as a potential place to stay, with the knowledge that the after party would be there, and then have them pay $x.xx a night?

I WANT to tell you I think it’s ok, but it sounds off to me…it wouldn’t be in any circumstance other than a wedding. There might not be a lot but maybe try to find one that does rent for just the weekend that you would be able to afford.

No, I don’t think charging your guests to stay in the house that you’ll trash during the after party is going to work.

Also… Be careful with the party in the hotel. My old boss did that for his daughter – they got a lot of complaints from other guests in the hotel. (it didn’t stop the party, but it was a little embarrassing for them!)

Perhaps if you start contacting house owners now and asking about renting a house for one or two nights you’ll be able to find a house you like & in your budget with an owner who will be open to a rental period of less than one week??

Who said anything about trashing anything? I’m not talking about a wild party where idiots get drunk — everyone coming is over 25…most are in their 30s. We just don’t want to stop the fun at 9pm, and would like to be free to stay up later if we want. For the hotel I was going to ask them if we could get adjoining suites and see what that would cost.

I think I’m going to try to find a place that will allow us to rent for a night or two. Otherwise everyone’ll just have to deal with the stupid 12:30 thing. It just seems so early.

Well…how close are you with your friends? Some people have the kind of relationship in which people won’t be scandalized by this type of thing, but you either have to be really really mellow and/or really really close!

I think the thing that gives me pause is that you’d be dependent on their financial contribution. That’s sort of not a good premise to set up with your guests.

Maybe you guys are party animals, maybe my crowd is a bunch of duds, but not too many of the weddings I’ve been to have lasted beyond 12:30, to tell you the truth! I mean, especially with the couple getting up usually fairly early to primp and all that, it’s a looooong day 🙂

I dunno. If its cheaper to stay at the beach house than a hotel, or cooler you could pitch it almost like a courtesy? Like we’re renting a house for a week so if you’d prefer to stay here for x a night it’s available and let’s kill two birds with one stone. The last dw I attended a bunch of people rented a house and they had the bachelor party and kicked out thespouses one night. But if its way More expensive it gets tricky.

I think if you could get it a house for a couple of days, I’d go for it. But I wouldn’t personally want to pay for a place that an after-party was being held at unless it was a huge discount over a room. And as long as your guests are ok with it, I don’t see the problem though.

As a final thought I also don’t think that ending it at 12:30 is the worst thing in the world. Weddings (at least in my experience) are a little different than your typical night out….it’s like you jam so much extra fun (and food, an open bar, and music) in the time you have that they sometimes end a little earlier than a normal night out would…without it being lame at all. To clarify, what time does your reception start? Because a lot of times I wouldn’t even go out until 9 here, and it sounds like you will have been partying for a while before that.

@peachacid: Oh, I didn’t mean to offend. Perhaps “trashing” was a bad choice of wording. I didn’t mean to imply that you’d break things or have people getting sick on furniture. But a group of people hanging out and snacking, drinking (even sprite) and lounging late in to the night is liable to leave a bit of a mess when they are done. Few people feel like cleaning a house at 2am.

It seems a little unfair- IMO- to ask some people to rent a house and then leave dishes in the common area, a sticky spot on the counter where a drink was spilled and not completely wiped up, no more toilet paper in the restroom closest to the common area….

Plus, if a guest staying in the house wants to turn in before the after party is wrapped up it could be awkward…

You know your guests. You’re really the only one who can decide what’s best for you and your wedding. But the situation wouldn’t be ideal for my family and friends.

Yeah, I think we need to make sure it’s just a “party” house. Really this is for my fiance, who stays up really late all the time. I’m always falling asleep. He thinks it’s stupid that we have to stop hanging out at 12:30 and so wants to have another option. Hopefully he will actually be happy enough being married that he’ll want to go back to our hotel together!

@UmbrellaMoon: Thanks. He is just the kind of guy who stays up really, really late. Which sucks during the school year, because I have to get up at 6am, so I go to bed early. Before he even comes home sometimes!