I wasn’t trying to be “disruptive” or “innovative” or a “maverick.” I just couldn’t do it. Maybe you’re like that, about something.

You’ll have a harder road if you ignore “Them” because it leads to gut-wrenching awkwardness. But at least you’ll be different. Sometimes just being different is enough, if it’s for good reason.

Who knows. Do it your own way, but you’d better have your eyes open so you can address the special challenges you’re bringing on yourself. Once you buck “Their” wisdom, you can’t rely on “Them” when you get yourself into an unusual pickle. You’ve exited the safe and well-travelled road.

But go ahead and do it. Don’t let the “it’s not done that way” people win on that basis alone.