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Wednesday, September 10, 2014

This
week I spent time in two all day meetings that were long and exhausting. But on
the first day it didn’t take me more than five minutes to realize something
significant about the group. I was the only female engineer in the room. Not
just engineer, the only female. Sure we had a female office administrator setup
the meeting (and that’s a discussion for a whole other day), but when she left,
I was the lone female. The only girl in the room.

Now
I have to say in general the divide in engineering is getting much better. In
the last couple years my group alone has more than doubled its number of female
engineers from two to five. And this past summer we had two female interns. Sounds
awesome right? Not quite. In a growing group of thirty five plus engineers, this is
not an accurate representation of the world. When you go to the grocery store
or the mall or the gas station you don’t look up and say hey I’m the only
female here. So why is that the case in a large engineering corporation? And
what message does this send to up and coming females seeking out technical
fields?

Without
a single person opening their mouth, the room says, women aren’t welcome. Now I’m
not saying that’s actually the case. Every person in the room respects me as an
engineer—a respect that I unfortunately had to work long and hard to earn. And on
the surface, they don’t treat me any differently than anyone else. But there are comments that sometimes inadvertently alienate me as a female. And as the
saying goes, “a picture is worth a thousand words”. So in a room full of men, how do we show women that
they are welcome? Because when I’m the sole female representative, I
don’t even have to notice that I’m alone to feel that pressure to prove myself.
To prove that I know what I’m talking about, to prove that I’m good enough, to
prove that I belong. And that is exhausting.

All
it takes is the realization that I’m alone, for a minority to go to that place
where they feel isolated in a room full of people. To feel like they don’t
belong. Like they aren’t qualified. And as a society I think we can send a
better message just by changing the dynamics of a room. I’m not saying hire
someone or bring them into a room to fill a quota. We should be hiring the best
and the brightest no question. But just being aware of there’s a problem is a
huge first step. Realizing that sometimes the uneven dynamics create isolation
that may not be visible on the surface. And showing the future of STEM fields
that this is the reality right now, but it doesn’t have to continue to be this
way.

Women
are strong enough, smart enough, and are qualified enough to fill the room. We
belong. We shouldn’t let the look of a room tell us otherwise. We shouldn’t
give up just because we are alone. One day we can change the look of the room. One day I
will look up and realize, I’m not the only girl in the room.

About Me

I'm an aerospace engineer that has been exploring my creative side. I love young adult and middle grade literature, especially science fiction and fantasy. I'm currently writing several science fiction pieces both MG and YA.