Yet, on the flip side, we see storms erupt...arguments break out...dogs fight ...people holler...babies cry...armies clash...dreams shatter and violence and abuse seem to be everywhere.

Assuming that Nature wants harmony and balance, why do discordance and disharmony often suddenly leap out of nowhere?

Could it be something hidden deep inside of us and within all of nature that allows for calmness and serenity one moment and trouble and violence the next?

Could it be an invisible force that exists within us and all of nature that moves us to either exhilaration or anxiety, calmness or turbulence ... actions or reactions....positives or negatives?

If so, what can we do about this constant state of flux? Can we control our life's experiences by taming our feelings?

The answer is a resounding YES!

We can control how we experience life by making the conscious decision to act according to the deepest feelings or desires within our hearts and directing them, based on our value system toward our desired outcome, rather than react according to the momentary situation and the impulse which has triggered our behaviour.

It seems that the majority of people react to what is going on in their lives based on their Emotions - otherwise known as feelings!

Feelings can bind people together or drive a wedge between them which can be so deep that to an outward observer there appears to be no rhyme or reason for what occurs on this planet. For example, one well educated dentist in Mexico told me that they hate the Spanish for the pain and hurt that had been done to them 400 or so years ago.

Why was that I asked? Because of what they did to us as a people and because everytime we see a child with blue eyes show up in a family, it reminds us of what happened.

At the time I lived mostly in my intellect and found this to be quite amazing as the traumas had occurred so many hundred of years ago and he was an educated man... but one who not dealt with the force of his feelings against the victimizers.

The force of feelings can also lead to division or separation within ourselves that can move us to misconceptions, and poor communication, as well as health challenges, affecting our physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial and social well-being.

We want to see smiling faces welcoming us at all times and instead we get frowns and what appears to be rejection.

This being the case, let's examine what exactly an emotion or feeling is.

Besides being an energy, feelings are also habits, usually formed in us from the moment of conception. These feeling habits continue to deepen within us, until they operate on a level that is unconscious to many of us, most, if not all of the time. In fact, there is evidence indicating that habits can be passed on generationally in the dna. But more of that later.

Now, all of us need to have certain habits so that we do not have to consciously choose or decide the steps to go through before taking each and every action. However, when these habits take control and make us operate on levels that do not allow us to perform from a level of love, joy, peace and harmony, we may find that the goals and dreams we wish to achieve are interfered with

It becomes even worse if our subconscious habits hurt us or others. In such cases it becomes clear that we need to become conscious of these habits and learn how to take control of them in a cognizant, loving way.

We've all seen how cows will always walk down the same trail on their way to their watering hole. These trails are known as "cow trails". Just as cows have these well entrenched habits, so do we. When we automatically click into them we are clicking into our own "cow trails" or subconscious feeling habits.

Sometimes, we can feel exhilarated, like we're on a mountain top; other times we can feel devastated and hit the depths of anger, frustration, despair and hopelessness...or we may feel as though we have no feelings at all. We may even experience great emptiness within. If this is the case, then all aspects of our life – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, and social may not be the way we'd like them to be.

Dr. Axline, a psychologist, once asked her teenage daughter how she turned out so well. Her daughter replied that it wasn't because of what her Mom said or did but how she, the daughter, felt her Mom was feeling at the time!

Apparently, children, from birth to age 7 –10, depending on their age and sex, live in their feelings. That means that whatever they see, or hear, touch, taste, smell or experience is being registered by their brain and stored in the cells of their body.

However, what is important to note are the factors operating to start and set the habits in motion. They are as follows:

whether it will bring them pleasure or pain as an organism.

whether or not rewards or punishment are given at the time of their reaction to the trigger and their consequent behaviour.

whether or not they have any control in making their choice to react or if they have no choice and must do as someone else dictates.

And then there are the feelings which contribute to their self-image...Feelings that were established, imparted from others and built upon before they had a conscious choice to not accept what was hurtful to them.

The truth of the matter is that emotions may also be said to be E-Motions or energy in motion. They give us the impetus to do or not to do...to take care of ourselves or to give up.

So, for those of you who are searching for the Key to Unlock the Secrets to a life filled with all the good things...such as Love, Harmony, Balance, and Abundance, it is good to understand that you will also need the ability and the empowerment to deal with negative feelings that will appear.

It is all in knowing about The Heart of The Matter...E-Motions or Feelings and how to tame them and change them at will, so that they do as you wish and not vice versa.

E-Motions are the Most Sought After Frontier that everyone wants but few ever have the courage to find.

Will you be one of those few who do find and enter into The Heart Of The Matter... Feelings?

Written by: Bronwyn NobleStar. Your emotions directly affect your financial future! To learn more about how to work from home and bring about the financial lifestyle you have dreamed about into reality,

Personal Decisions Of The Heart: Help! Held Hostage By Feelings!
Written by: Bronwyn NobleStar |
Distributed: 2007-11-29 |
Word Count: 887 |
Page Views: 2706
| Votes: 6 |
Rating: 3.00
As it has become obvious from the first three articles (
SH-H-H-H! Feelings Present!, The Big Cover-Up!, And Personal
Decisions Of The Heart: Feelings Buried Alive And Still Lurking!
), that your feelings and the charge of energy that has built up
behind them is continually lurking within you, holding you
captive.

Personal Decisions Of The Heart: Clearing Out The Muck!
Written by: Bronwyn NobleStar |
Distributed: 2007-11-08 |
Word Count: 1552 |
Page Views: 2452
| Votes: 8 |
Rating: 3.50
Did you start your day with Love or Hate? Discover how to improve
the quality of your life by asking this simple question, daily!
Will you take your emotional life into your own hands?

Most Recent "Self Improvement" Articles

Why So Many People Have Tried Dating And Are Still Alone
Written by: Lance Metzger |
Distributed: 2013-11-06 |
Word Count: 692 |
Page Views: 6190
| Votes: 16 |
Rating: 2.06
Let's face it; we all want to find our special someone.
Unfortunately, too many people involved in the Dating Game are
hurting their chances of success, before they even go on that
first date.

Online Dating Is Easy, But Successful Relationships Require Hard Work
Written by: Denice Ritter |
Distributed: 2013-10-31 |
Word Count: 564 |
Page Views: 4375
| Votes: 7 |
Rating: 1.57
My nineteenth anniversary will be here in a week and a half.
So what's so exceptional about that in Mormon Utah? Just
this: I have a mail-order husband. He has a mail-order
bride. In those days, there was no Internet, and therefore,
there was no such thing as online dating. I had to do it the
hard way...

Wal-Mart Has Everything You Need Including Your Next Dating Prospect
Written by: Lance Metzger |
Distributed: 2013-10-31 |
Word Count: 674 |
Page Views: 5335
| Votes: 21 |
Rating: 2.10
My 20-year-old nephew came to live with me and my kids, until he
can get on his own two feet financially. His hometown - my
hometown is really small... providing little opportunity to
someone looking to get started in life on the right foot. I
showed him around town, set him on a path to find a job, and
pointed out where he could go to meet girls his own age... And in
the end, I learned an age-old lesson from my nephew...

Verify The Identity Of Your Online Dating Match
Written by: Lance Metzger |
Distributed: 2013-10-30 |
Word Count: 502 |
Page Views: 6713
| Votes: 13 |
Rating: 1.69
The biggest hurdle that most people face in online dating world
is the question and concern of whether the person at the other
end of the conversation is really who he or she says that they
are.

Top 3 Things You Must Do To Sell Yourself to Others In The Dating Game
Written by: Kandice Skaggs |
Distributed: 2013-10-29 |
Word Count: 836 |
Page Views: 2608
| Votes: 4 |
Rating: 0.00
Every day, we sell ourselves to others. We exert effort to
be accepted by the society, which is a form of selling
ourselves. In the office or any workplace, you sell yourself
to your boss, your workmates and clients, convincing them
that you are worthy of notice, time, and respect. Dating is
no different!

Tips For Building a Successful Long Distance Relationship
Written by: Lance Metzger |
Distributed: 2013-10-24 |
Word Count: 731 |
Page Views: 4685
| Votes: 21 |
Rating: 1.86
From time to time, life will hand you a twist, and you will be
required to move from one place to another - this can be the
result of a job transfer, leaving home to attend college, or any
of a number of other reasons. When you move from one town to
another, it is not always possible to bring your partner with
you, and this sometimes leads to the formation of a long distance
relationship (LDR).

Take The Dating Scene One Step At A Time, After Divorce
Written by: RoseMary Alberts |
Distributed: 2013-10-23 |
Word Count: 567 |
Page Views: 4613
| Votes: 15 |
Rating: 1.07
After divorce, the word "dating" scares a lot of people.
If you've been married a long time you probably have lost
track of all the unwritten rules or even how to go about
meeting new eligible people. Many people immediately take
off for the clubs thinking that that is the place they are
going to meet someone. You may meet someone there, but it
depends on what you are looking for. But, if you are looking
for more, this article will help you find your way...

Online Dating Tips: Can You Really Find Your Soul Mate Online?
Written by: Lance Metzger |
Distributed: 2013-10-22 |
Word Count: 855 |
Page Views: 2412
| Votes: 6 |
Rating: 0.50
Many people think that finding THE ONE is really easy and
will just come when the time is right. Yes, it happens to
many people. But there are also those who go through many
challenges before meeting the person with whom they will
spend their lifetimes. This is why Internet dating has
become so attractive and popular.

Most Viewed "Self Improvement" Articles

Fill-In-The-Blank Bio Templates to Write Your Personal or Professional Bio
Written by: Barbra Sundquist |
Distributed: 2008-04-17 |
Word Count: 654 |
Page Views: 133494
| Votes: 239 |
Rating: 2.46
It's not hard to write a personal or professional bio when you
use the fill-in-the-blank bio templates provided in this article.
All you have to do is choose one or two sentences from each of
the four categories and add your details. The result will be a
first-rate personal or professional bio.

Making Women Lust For You
Written by: Kathy Stafford |
Distributed: 2007-10-29 |
Word Count: 566 |
Page Views: 28600
| Votes: 90 |
Rating: 1.73
Ways to be the man women will lust for. Offers suggestions on how
to improve your physical image as well as your personality to
make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.

Do You Take Things Personally? Learn How Not To
Written by: Carol Chanel |
Distributed: 2006-11-02 |
Word Count: 1891 |
Page Views: 15727
| Votes: 48 |
Rating: 4.17
Do you take things personally and wish you didn't? Do you want
to know how not to take things personally? Every time I say I
help people learn how not to take things personally I always get
the same response – oh, I need help with that.

She Won't Call Me Back
Written by: Kathy Stafford |
Distributed: 2007-11-07 |
Word Count: 503 |
Page Views: 11221
| Votes: 29 |
Rating: 3.03
How to proceed when the woman you connected with won't return
your phone calls or emails. Tips for determining whether you
should continue to try to contact her or forget her and move on
to someone new.

How To Be Happy -- With Whatever Life Gives You!
Written by: Bruce Elkin |
Distributed: 2008-01-28 |
Word Count: 1087 |
Page Views: 10402
| Votes: 17 |
Rating: 2.24
The way we make ourselves happy is unique to each of us. But the ways we make ourselves unhappy are remarkably common to all of us. So, perhaps, by not doing the things that makes us unhappy, we can create more space for deep and lasting happiness we long for.

How To Avoid The Pitfalls, Wrong Turns, Broken Hearts Of Online Dating
Written by: Lance Metzger |
Distributed: 2013-10-16 |
Word Count: 657 |
Page Views: 9847
| Votes: 22 |
Rating: 1.86
As an experienced online dater, I feel qualified to help you avoid
pitfalls, wrong turns, broken hearts, and the general
catastrophes associated with internet wooing. Read on as I
examine many of the pitfalls of online dating and how to avoid
them...

Talking About Past Relationships
Written by: Kathy Stafford |
Distributed: 2007-11-13 |
Word Count: 685 |
Page Views: 9579
| Votes: 15 |
Rating: 2.60
How much information do you give your girlfriend about your past
relationships? Offers tips for how to answer the question from
your girlfriend about your past relationship – what to tell, and
what not to tell.

She Wants You Back
Written by: Kathy Stafford |
Distributed: 2007-11-05 |
Word Count: 482 |
Page Views: 7364
| Votes: 13 |
Rating: 2.31
How to handle a touchy situation when the girl who left you wants
you back. Offers tips on how to determine if you should re-kindle
your relationship with her or move on to someone new.

Highest Ranked "Self Improvement" Articles

Do You Take Things Personally? Learn How Not To
Written by: Carol Chanel |
Distributed: 2006-11-02 |
Word Count: 1891 |
Page Views: 15727
| Votes: 48 |
Rating: 4.17
Do you take things personally and wish you didn't? Do you want
to know how not to take things personally? Every time I say I
help people learn how not to take things personally I always get
the same response – oh, I need help with that.

Time Management For Busy Moms
Written by: Jance Hayes |
Distributed: 2006-07-12 |
Word Count: 348 |
Page Views: 3487
| Votes: 6 |
Rating: 4.00
How do you do it? You work 40 hours a week, commute eight, cook,
clean, read bed time stories, help with homework, finagle home
finances and still have time for yourself and your spouse. Is
there an easier way? Before you peanut butter that gum out of
Sarah's hair or hunt down Cameron's pet rat, take a deep breath
and try these helpful time management tips:

Spring Clean Your Life!
Written by: Jan Hornford |
Distributed: 2008-05-13 |
Word Count: 1091 |
Page Views: 2889
| Votes: 5 |
Rating: 3.80
My spring cleaning has been centered on eliminating tolerations.
Tolerations are anything that you are putting up with that drains
your energy or irritates you. Eliminating tolerations is a simple
way to get you into action, generate momentum and create energy
in your life.

Law of Success: Part II
Written by: Sharif Khan |
Distributed: 2007-07-18 |
Word Count: 1856 |
Page Views: 3685
| Votes: 9 |
Rating: 3.78
Learn the Success Secrets of over 500 of the world's greatest
achievers in this special three part educational series
commemorating the work of Napoleon Hill's classic bestseller,
'Law of Success.'

Law of Success: Part I
Written by: Sharif Khan |
Distributed: 2007-07-17 |
Word Count: 1173 |
Page Views: 3181
| Votes: 17 |
Rating: 3.65
Learn the Success Secrets of over 500 of the world's greatest
achievers in this special three part educational series
commemorating the work of Napoleon Hill's classic bestseller,
'Law of Success.'

Coping With Your Stresses And Anxieties In The Business World
Written by: Stanley Popovich |
Distributed: 2008-03-27 |
Word Count: 490 |
Page Views: 2895
| Votes: 5 |
Rating: 3.60
Everybody deals with anxieties and stresses in the business
world, however sometimes our anxieties can get the best of us. As
a result, here is a list of techniques that a person can use to
help manage their daily stresses and anxieties at their job and
in the business world.

Ten Things You Can Do To Decrease Your Stress At The Office
Written by: Chris Le Roy |
Distributed: 2006-08-24 |
Word Count: 2971 |
Page Views: 4364
| Votes: 7 |
Rating: 3.57
The world we live on is nothing but a mound of chaotic pressure
that is building to the point it bursts like a volcano. We are
bombarded with pressure from our employers, our customers and
families to the point where some people actually do break. Most
of us today in professional lives spend between 8 and 16 hours a
day at the office, which equates to almost two-thirds of our
lives being in a place we really do not want to be in, but there
are things you can do to decrease the stress in your office.

Dream Big!
Written by: Kent Jacobson a.k.a. Mr. Success |
Distributed: 2006-09-22 |
Word Count: 456 |
Page Views: 4328
| Votes: 9 |
Rating: 3.56
Everybody, regardless of who you are, has a dream that they want
to accomplish in life. Remember, if this is your life long goal
you want it to be something huge.