Which is worse, her badgering the bride and groom or you yelling at the grooms mother. Are you sure this is the way you want to start your daughters married life, fighting with the in-laws? Keep in mind, possibly having grandchildren to share with this woman. I understand how upset you and your daughter must have been, but in my experience with my in-laws, try to patch things up. Yes she was wrong but you werent right in jumping here either. For you daughter, be the bigger person and tell the lady that "as much as you would like to accomodate her wishes the invitations have already been sent out and the wedding will not be changed. Hope to see you there. " Good luck to you, your daughter and future son-in-law. Take them on a cruise, they will have such a good time all of you will forget all about the mother in law...