Find a Femdom Seeking Submissive Men

Wondering how to find a femdom or local dominatrix? Whether you desire a breif encounter or an ongoing relationship, what you seek is out there!

Meeting someone you’ll have a special connection with can be tough. And for those of us who have specific kinks we’d like to explore, it can seem even more difficult to find that diamond in the rough.

If you want to meet a femdom who will dominate you and allow you to serve her, you’re going to have to look for her. A sexy domme seeking satisfaction isn’t just going to drop into your lap. If this is your true desire then there are ways to go about it.

Have you been to a munch? A munch is an informal gathering of people in the bdsm lifestyle who meet to hang out, meet new people, disucss matters relating to their community, or just chat in general. There’s no fetish clothing usually and nothing sexual is going on. But there is talking and this is a great opportunity to meet others who will compliment your submissive streak.

Another option for meeting a femdom in “real life” would be to attend fetish nights at local clubs, fetish parties, or even related conventions. Basically, you have to increase your odds by putting yourself into situations where a femdom might be, but also in a situation where you’ll be able to recognize her as such either by her clothing or how she conducts herself.

Want to be even more proactive? If you don’t feel like answering a creepy newspaper ad or paying for an encounter, you’d best give a femdom dating site a chance. These are basically just dating sites that have marketed themselves to people interested in BDSM or particular fetishes, and can offer an excellent way to meet lots of femdoms and local domme women with little effort. You are still going to have to woo that goddess, but at least you have found her and others like her!

I wouldn’t say that meeting a femdom online is the better option, but if you are serious about finding a femdom then you should add a site like Find a Femdom, or an even bigger site like BDSMdate.com to your toolbox. It could end up being the best investment you make in your search. Consider it an additional way to meet the right dominant woman, who may be just outside your circle.

So in the end, I think it’s just important to be active by either being more social and possibly joining a site to get more exposure to femdoms who live near you. It’s not always easy to identify a sexually dominant woman, so put yourself where people are open about their desires and lust for a submissive man.

Got any other tips for meeting femdoms? I’d love your thoughts in the comments below!

I am an older submissive looking for a very discreet play friend only, and her desires Will be first considered. I’m a nice, safe guy looking for an older trustworthy lady for safe and secret play. I know there must be a well groomed mature lady who gets excited thinking about a nice guy reporting to her, and once the door closes she has me either naked or humiliated and restrained so tight there is no way that I can free myself as my ankles and hands are tied or cuffed for real. Now she instructs me to pleasure her, especially orally. She enjoys attire like long silk stockings, garter belts, spike high heels, and heavy makeup, especially thick red lipstick to leave prints on my mouth and face. She is also armed with a leather strap or whip to make me beg her to stop inflicting pain with. She enjoys making me kiss inside her upper legs above her stockings and eventually getting to where she enjoys my tongue most. In conclusion, I will be her real sex slave.

I’m 65… that doesn’t mean I’m dead or without imagination or desires. I’d like someone to serve. I can accept whatever you wish to serve to me (within limits). I can take some pain and more in a sexual situation, and I will serve you with a very desirous tongue.

I’m mistress Anne, a 37-year-old pro dominatrix/fetrix. I rule with a rod of iron… your pain is my pleasure. I am self-employed. I require a slave for total commitment. No creeps or weirdos. Want decent guy who isn’t clueless… a slave that would be my personal property and would only serve and obey my every command, and his humiliation will be for my own pleasure. I will cross-dress you, and you will be entitled to have my collar and enjoy my ever-ready strap-on too. Above all your cock will belong to me and will be in my CBT lock-up, only to be released when I please. I will train you, and you will be very happy and loyal to me always. Within US only, as I can’t have a slave that won’t visit me. ANYONE WHO MESSAGES ME WITHOUT ADDRESSING ME IN THE CORRECT WAY WILL BE DELETED UNREAD… MANNERS FOR MISTRESS ALWAYS!

Mistress Anne, you sound like the Dominatrix I have needed to please for some time. I am single, work hard, clean, your slave any time, and not a creep or weirdo. I am not clueless and have learned much, but there is always more that can be learned. If I am fortunate to become your sub, I will follow your every command and look forward to your pain. As you have clearly stated All belongs to you as it should be and knowing what you want and stating it is even better. I look forward to future blogs or chats. I realize this site is not for dating and would not want to abuse it in that way, however if you have another way of contacting each other please let me know.

I am a 31-year-old sub looking for a dominatrix to tie me up tight, gag me and use me in every twisted way she can think of. I have no limits that I’ve reached and am willing to be a 24/7 bondage bitch for the right Dom.

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