Category: Relationships after divorce

Hey, Ho!

Here we are in Valentine’s Day month, which may cause a twang in your heart to those of you who are divorced or about to be single. And so I thought it would be perfect timing for me to branch out as an advice columnist for the love-sick and Ready-for-Love peeps. Here, is a sneak preview of one of my first columns. Please send me your questions so that I may be of service to you!

Dear M:

I’m a 50-something single woman and I’ve given up on dating. I feel like I can’t compete with the beautiful young yoginis and cosmetically enhanced perfect-looking women. But I’m lovesick and wanting to find a wonderful life partner. What do you suggest I do to boost my confidence? I’m tired of just having a relationship with my cat.

Thank you,

Misfit Cat Lady

Dear Misfit:

First of all, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and calling yourself a “Misfit Cat Lady” (no matter how clever that title is). You are not! How you see yourself will become a reality. Let’s call you “Ready for Love” instead.

Second, reading your letter reminded me of a poem that I read a long time ago when I was in 8th grade. It was the first piece of advice from life that I got and took to heart. Perhaps you have heard of it, Desiderata by Max Ehrmann: “..If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

In your case, there will always be some yogini younger, cuter, and sexier or someone with bigger hair, and more expensive boobs than yours. And I bet you that they are probably feeling the same insecurities that you feel are unique to you. So buckle up, divorce your cat, get out and start playing in the world!

My guess is you probably don’t feel you are worthy of the love and adoration that you deserve — and those feelings probably existed long before in your life. In your trials and tribulations, you may have forgotten how loved you truly are and how to treat yourself with love and respect. You might even forgotten how truly sexy you are. And you constantly judge yourself for not being enough or doing it right.

Let’s turn this around, shall we?

Start with the inside:

Your inner voices need to be witnessed and loved. They are crying out for you to listen to their pain so that they can heal. Unfortunately, most of the time, you ignore, deny, or suppress them because these voices seem so pathetic to you. But all that ever does is make you feel worse about yourself.

Take out your favorite journal, and capture these voices. “Today I am in touch with….” (fill in the blank. Write out all of your sad and “whining” voice has to say, then finish it off with “I am grateful to be in touch with these feelings.”

I promise, you will experience an amazing shift inside. If you are brave, get a partner and share your writing, let them witness you. All they have to do is read your writing and respond with “I see you.” This simple act of daily writing and witnessing will start to melt away decades of shame and loneliness and will allow you to see yourself as is, and develop compassion for yourself. From there, unconditional love will blossom. Once that happens, you will start to attract different people into your life who have the capacity to have unconditional love for you. That’s what you want, isn’t it? See how this works?

After the writing, do something that makes you feel pretty and sexy. Show some skin and feel your body’s movement. Focus on feeling good and move away from the comparison thoughts.

The truth is men love women at any age and in any shape. They especially love women who love themselves.

Love, Love, Love,

M

p.s. For more support, come to my next “Hot Life Hot Love” event. You will get to see me live and ask your questions. I promise, it will change your life!

I want to tell you a story:

Ann came to my Hot Life Hot Love event last year to learn how to let love in, so that she is loved, adored, and cherished. She cried and cried during the entire weekend because she was stuck in a 20-year marriage with an unresponsive husband. After the event, as she was driving home and a guy drove fast behind her and convinced her to pull over. She finally pulled over and he said, “You are so beautiful. I want to give you my card in case you’d let me take you out for dinner.” She took it as a sign that she deserved better. Within three months she moved out, sold the house, and began to live her life. Her husband completely turned around and apologized for how he has been asleep in their marriage. Now they’re reconnecting and dating again. They are building a new loving and romantic relationship. She told me she owes it all to my event!

Want some of this? Reserve your seat now for the next Hot Life Hot Love – 2 Day Live Event!

My Predictions for 2015. Are You In It?

Happy New Year! I am so excited to bring you this newsletter. I hope it will inspire your heart and tickle your funny bone. I want it to delight and entertain you! In this newsletter, we are celebrating the love and miracles my clients made this past year to inspire and give you a glimpse of what is possible. My “2015 Predictions” video is super funny as I introduce a new part of me – MaiDame Vuvuvuvuski. See below.

2014 Celebrations

In my closing sessions with my VIP clients, I had the pleasure of witnessing the love and miracles that they brought into their lives. Click the picture to read some of the ones that they shared or click here.

“I want to thank you for your work and the impact it has had on my life and my kids. Before I worked with you, I was dating all the wrong guys, stressing over my business and how to make ends meet, and frustrated all the time. After six months, I saw a huge change in myself. I am so much happier and at peace. I am with a very nice man who loves and adores me. My business is making twice the income and it continues to grow. I am so happy I can’t stop grinning. Your work is life changing. Thank you for showing me the way.” D. H.

2015 Predictions From MaiDamme Vuvuvuski…

I hope you enjoyed this video! I truly want the world for you and want to be there every step of the way. I know deep in my soul that my support will help make amazing things happen in your life. Below are some fun ways you can play with me in 2015 as my New Years gifts to you:

Piece by piece everything falls into place as I could never imagine! First, Mai, you taught me how to be a woman, and be proud and happy about it.

Then you made an opening for me to bring my man to this concept which gave us

more than I dared to hope for.

Then you brought me into a concept that will teach me to dare to meet all my feelings and be whole. I can’t wait to see the results of this. I feel so authentic and ready to meet life eyes wide open. Now your grace has touched Henrik too. He wants to transform instead of just again and again saying that he needs to work on this or that before he can really start being in business

“Have you ever shut down because some one spoke your fears aloud? I definitely have. But have you ever came alive at the mere mention of it being POSSIBLE to achieve your dreams?”

I spoke my dreams out loud and Mai responded with a confident, warm, loving….”Easy Peasy Honey!” And from there…the sky was the limit. I will be forever grateful for Mai opening the door to pure potentiality for me. If you are curious as to my results….buy a telescope because BABY….I am in Orbit! My results are out of this world! ~L. Friedt

Maria is feeling unsettled.

I feel so unsettled. Everything is up in the air: the divorce is not complete, the shuffling of children back and forth with their daddy, the emotional roller coaster, the new man and his circumstance, family reactions, the new living space is not set, new schedules, his needs, my needs, the children’s needs…. I just want everything to stop so I can breathe. I’m tired of being overwhelmed and not feeling settled in my life.

I don’t second guess the decision I made. Inside I know this is where I want to be in my life, but there is so much crap to go through. I don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel and wonder if I am ever going to get there?

Mai knows how to turn your chaos into harmony!

Find out how to start living life with grace and ease. Come to the upcoming live weekend event.