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Saturday, 31 May 2014

Self talk.. is not a sign of madness, but a necessary tool for the tool box

There was a time, a few years back when If I was ever upset about something.. the first person I'd call would have been my sister ( elder) or a close friend ( same age). That I haven't done so of late, Indicates (I hope) some kind of personal growth. ( ..yeah..I blog it out instead lol! #cheat)

No seriously. My sister has this thing that she always used to say to me...
and a thing that she does.
My sister will somehow manage to chastise me, yet remind me of who I am. She chastises me over what she considers my talents also, so in short, she has a lot of faith in me, thinks i'm great and loves me, and will have a go If she feels i'm failing to live up to who she considers I am or what I can do.

The thing she says is..'If you give it time.. you give it power.. stop giving it time Dawna.. stop giving it power..'

She has said it to me so many times, that it lurks in my kranium, and emerges.. I guess when it needs to.
When does it need to?...
Whenever I have failed to honour the wisdom.

If she's ever fed up of hearing about something, or telling me something she'll just sigh.. then say.. 'aren't you tired of this?.'

So this morning' i'm up early again, determined to not allow myself to lose focus, or attempt to climb an oil slicked pole.
If it ain't aint good for me - I don't want it
If i'm not helped by it - I don't want it
If it ain't honest - I don't want it
If it doesn't make me feel good - I don't want it
If it fails to encourage, educate, enthuse, motivate, generate a state of loving-ness, re-affirm my sense of self worth - I don't want it
If it ain't for me - I don't want it
If it's a waste of my time - I don't want it

Universal order
I need to remember that whatever I believe to be.. is what will be
This may seem like a chicken an egg situation, but there's a science at play, that works.
The science, of thought - and action.

But here's the tricky part. I think what I believe to be true. I cant change the thought, without changing the belief.
and I can't pretend. #notthateasy.

It's like racism. (but not.. I'll cover that another time, it's too important not to)

I believe something to be true, as a result of either something I have seen, experienced, or have been informed of.
So how do I change things?.
How do I Intercept the law of cause and effect?.
One way, I think, is to continue to have faith in what has tended to remain a constant...and that is my own sense of self worth.
However, If I feel that I can't rely on any-one outside of my family - that will remain my reality. ( whether it it be true or not)

Here's my science bit..
Whilst that may have been true right up to yesterday - it doesn't have to remain so from this day forward. It could actually change *fingerclick*in an instant.
I could meet someone today, or tomorrow, or any-day, who absolutely believes in me as much as I believe in myself ( or more). A person who supports, encourages, and truly loves me, does not sweep under the carpet the possibility that I could be wrong, but will challenge me with love - yet remain steadfast by my side - even when not in my presence.

The science bit is.. I need to shift that particular thought and belief to;I know, that I deserve support and love - it's on its way, and one day soon, It will be here.. how could it not?!
.. until such time... I've got this

I woke up this morning and felt a little blue -
Until I said.. "hey!!.. what's the matter with you.. you've got so much to look forward to, don't allow yourself to be distracted by things that are unimportant in the grand scheme of things. You know what you're doing, you know what you want
So go get it".

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As a Writer and Blogger, I have a keen interest in the African Diaspora, Women's rights (with a focus on developing countries) Culture and Politics. I also explore and review music from across the diaspora in my exploration of culture, and expression. Ultimately, my blog is my space to talk about things that matter to me. It's my voice. I'm a Londoner, but I'm also a citizen of the World..as are you. We make this world what it is, for better or for worse.

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It doesn’t matterIf you don’t have the latest shoes.
Or the newest outfit.
It doesn’t’ matter if you don’t have a car, or own your own home.
It doesn’t matter if you’re not the prettiest, or the most handsome.
Matters not what you weigh - or how tall - or short you are.
It doesn’t matter that you’re not the most popular, Doesn’t matter if you are.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve never been on holiday-Or if you travel frequently every year.
It doesn’t matter if you have the latest phone - note book or kindle-doesn’t matter if you don’t.
It doesn’t matter if you’re the best cook around-Or if you can only cook a few simple dishes.
Matters not if you have little moneyMatters not if you’ve much

What matters is that you understand what it means to love. That you don’t fear it.
That you have felt the pain of disappointment.
But you’re not hostage to it.
That your intuition is aligned And your Ego controlled.
That you’ve learnt to really laugh.
Equally – to cry.
That your values mirror who you are.
That you are a vessel for goodness.
That you have 1 good friend.
That you have learnt to be a friend also.
That gossips have no evidence.
Yet even if – you apologise not - for who you are.
That you emit joy.
That you never rely on hope or luck.
That you’re comfortable with - will – and - is

It matters that you’ve learnt to kiss.
And hold hands without expectation.
That you have danced at least 1 slow dance.
And slept under the stars.
It matters that you’ve walked by the sea - a river or a lake.
Sat on a bench and fed the ducks stale bread.
Helped a pensioner with their shopping.
Or given an unrelated child 10p for candy.

It matters that you laugh every day.
And can still enjoy a children’s cartoon.
There’s no finite list.
Each to their own.
Recognize the beauty in you.
Celebrate it…
The beauty in others
Cherish it

Because it matters
Because you
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