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Not Marriage Material

I did came back from my vacation happy, relaxed and refreshed, but as I hurriedly got back into my usual life, some unexpected news hit my face with a splat. Sorry, it was more of a THUD. When I heard about the news, I couldn't breathe and that unexplainable pain was there again. I had to put on an unaffected face and told my friends I am absolutely fine, but deep within, my heart felt like a wobbly, melting jelly served on a sizzling platter. My ex got engaged. ("That SOB got engaged," was how it sounded in my head.)

How could someone, that you've been with for years decide to break up with you, but marry a girl he only knew for a year? I can't fathom any explanation to this, and I felt sick thinking that maybe I wasn't marriage material. It sucks, but it's a plausible explanation. I am going through some emotional turmoil right now; it's not as bad as it sounds (really), but I've been unable to concentrate on anything. I went from super high to super low, so if I don't update my blog for a few days, blame it on that SOB ex.

I'm so sorry for the language. Chocolates, anyone?

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Sigh. Although I believe that there are some people who are destined to get married, not get married, destined to just be parents, destined for motherhood/fatherhood but not good enough to be a partner, I think it's not fair to conclude that you're not a marriage material. It's an old tune but I'd still say, we have our own match. Trust God's perfect time.

"How could someone, that you've been with for years decide to break up with you, but marry a girl he only knew for a year?" - I said (almost) the same thing years ago. Can I hug you? Take care, Kayni.

i've experienced the same thing, although it wasn't really that painful to me as I've somehow moved on when it happened. but the news still is shocking. i am really sad for you; i have no words really. but i know you will soon rise above this, and maybe find a guy who also thinks he's not marriage material but will find himself marrying you. haha. smile ka naman! :)

That is indeed one of life's many mysteries. I have a few friends who were in the same boat. I guess he isn't meant for you but don't lose hope there is someone out there for you. Better buy a flashlight and search for him, he might be lost. Sorry I was just kidding! Hope you feel better by now, Kayni. *hugs*

i always emerged the loser in any relationships i entered. i always thought the problem was with me. but when i finally met the man who said he cant live without me, i really prayed to thank God for not answering my prayers before but for answering me in His time....

i'd be more surprised if you didn't feel anything. regardless of how long he knew you and the other party, it's pretty normal to feel "slighted" when this happens, esp. if you're still single. cheer up. it'll pass... :)

oh, honey.... i am so sorry i just read this... i hope you understand- i had my hands full with jack (and no help) and then my family flying over to visit (there were 7 of them and the age range is from 4- 71 years old.. so you can imagine)

please don't think that (i.e. you not marriage material)- that is BS. you are a warm and lovely person- and one AH ex-fiance does not take that away. h