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How Looking Sexy Can Save Your Relationship

Be the sexy, well-groomed woman you once were when you first started dating your man!

Sure, he says that he loves you even without makeup on, and that's sweet, but that doesn't mean you have permission to now only wear makeup when you get gussied up to go out with the girls! Remember at the beginning of your relationship when you were shaving your legs and perfectly coiffing your hair down there thinking, "I can't imagine ever not wanting to take the time to do this." What happened? Like women, men want to feel wanted. They want to be desired.

They want to feel needed and loved. They want to feel like you're trying. The fact that you've moved in together or you've been going out for a year doesn't mean that he's suddenly blind. You can't just kill off the sexy girl that you once were and then wonder why the girl at the office wearing the short skirts and giving him attention is getting his attention back.

It's time to put some effort into your relationship! You're just not as attracted to him as you once were? You prefer lounging in sweats at home, keeping your hair in an unkempt ponytail and wearing your cozy mismatched bra and panties? Mindset is a big part of it. If you feel sexy, you will act sexy. Dress up, shave your legs, and adjust your attitude!

Flirt with him when you go out. Yes, I said flirt! You may have already gotten him, but that doesn't mean that now you should just talk about that annoying chick at work, the frustrating thing your mom said, how stressed you are that you're gaining weight and how you found yet another gray hair on your head!

Come on now! Do you think that's sexy? Do you think that's going to make him want you? Do you think that kind of conversation is going to make you want him? No. The answer is no. It's not.

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3. DeniseBidot. Denise got a lot of attention during fashion week for being one of the only plus sized models to walk to runway … for a lingerie brand! She nailed it and her Instagram totally shows off just how sexy it is to be size 14.

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1. Gabifresh. Gabi is basically killing the Instagram name. She just came out with her own line of plus-sized swimsuits (ADORABLE) and has the best life ever. Oh and did we mention she’s gorgeous? Get it girl!