I hate when my girlfriend …

How often do you think you argue with your partner? 50 times a year? 100? More?

If you answered “more” than you are among the majority. According to a recent study of 3,000 people in the UK, the average couples argues 312 times — a year (that’s an average of six fights a week).

Lots of things trigger tiffs, but the most common cause of spats among co-habitating boyfriends and girlfriends are cleanliness. Dirty dishes, hair and letting it mellow because it’s yellow are all on the list.
Check out the full run-down based on the survey by BetterBathrooms.com.

1. Stubble in the sink
2. Dirty marks in the toilet
3. Flicking TV channels
4. Not replacing the toilet roll
5. Leaving the seat up
6. Leaving lights on
7. Leaving dirty cups around the house
8. Leaving wet towels on the floor/bed
9. Hoarding stuff
10. Not flushing the toilet

#6- What are we the Rockafellers, shut that light off! Thats what my father said to us as kids, so when I leave a room, by force of habit, I shut off the light. My husband and I both clean up after ourselves so its rare we argue about any of those things, well except when he leaves a light on.

I guess I’m just lucky. Me and my honey have yet to fight or argue about anything really. We might disagree about something, but we respect each others opinions and it never turns into a fight. We’re pretty much in sync with just about everything – so there’s no conflict in the way we run our home or do things. We share household responsibilities so if one of us accidentally leaves a light on and we notice it, we just walk over and flick off the switch. Its not that hard and we all sometimes just forget those little things. I see no reason to jeopardize a lifelong, loving relationship which seems to be so rare these days over trivial things such as those listed above. I’m very blessed and lucky to have such a wonderful man and if that means I have to change a toilet paper roll once in awhile, or deal with channel flicking – then gosh darn it, I’m ok with that! :-)

So I guess #3 hasn’t had to deal with #2, that could definitely jeopardize a lifelong, loving relationship. Sorry, I’ve been laughing since I saw this list ~ just thought I’d crack myself up and probably gross a few out! =)

My bf knows that if his clothes are on the floor, they will not be washed. I am more than happy to wash whatever is in the laundry basket. If he complains that he has no clean clothes, I tell him to check the floor!!

3000 people in the UK is hardly a real sample of the population (60 billion)so let’s not generalize too much. These are all just triggers that set off people who are unhappy in their relationship in general otherwise they would react like #3. Ok, now for fun….I intalled a motion light switch because I kept forgetting to turn off the light in the basement!

If the toilet seat is up and I need to use it, I put it down. If there is a wet towel on the bed, I hang it up. If there’s an errant dirty glass somewhere, I take it to the kitchen. Same goes for him if I leave something where it shouldn’t be. It gets picked up and put where it should be. No biggie.

The one thing that does kill me, though, is coming home to an empty house where the lights have been left on. Because it’s always every light in every room. Oooooo, that burns me up. Turn off the lights before you leave the house, at the very least!

Generally, most of these issues come up in our house. The only one we argue about is the lights. All of the others just elicit a “Really? REALLY?” from me. To Bully’s credit, he never complains when he catches me leaving the lights on or leaving dirty cups around the house.

I’d say we probably argue 50 times or less per year, mostly small things, with one or two biggies. Biggies involve tears and maybe throwing things like paper towel rolls, or Christmas cookies that I’M TRYING TO BAKE SO JUST LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE RIGHT NOW!!!

I also hate the trail of removed clothes that starts in the living room and leads to the bedroom. It is not a fun treasure hunt. I don’t care if clothes aren’t neatly folded and put away (let’s face it, I don’t do it either) but please just consolidate your pile.

Let’s see, our last disagreement was this morning….I’m very pround of the Egyptian people for standing up to their US backed authoritarian regime in such a (generally) peaceful manner….she’s concerned about “stability”. I had to remind her that real democracy (unlike our watered down, highly managed version)is a messy business.

I also think Julian Assange is cool….she thinks he’s “dangerous” for outing state secrets…we argued about that too.

I tell her sometimes she sounds like a republican…that gets her going!

None of these are really arguments and doesn’t result in bad blood between us though.

All that other domestic stuff like turning off lights and such?…we gave up on arguing about that years ago…what a waste of a good argument!

She does complain when I toss my shirts into the laundry without unbuttoning them first though so I have to watch that.

6 fights a week? And yet, people are *stunned* to learn how high the divorce rate is in this country… or better yet, wonder why so many people choose to not get married in the first place. I wonder… could it have something to do with the amount of “tiffs” that couples engage in over the silliest of things?

#14 – I think thats a good thing! Right? I guess I just spent so much time fighting in past relationships, that I’m very grateful now to be in one, that doesn’t revolve around, “Gee, what should we fight about today? Well the cat puked, thats somehow your fault, so round 1 here we go!”…

For the record – I don’t think that disagreeing is bad in a relationship. I think fighting is unhealthy, but disagreements are not – its the manner in which you deal with a disagreement that determines if the relationship is fit to last or not. If you can disagree, discuss it and come to terms with and respect each others opinions – even if they differ – and then move on (key ingredient!), then I’d say that you’re relationship stands a chance to be a success.
However, if something really is bothering you and you tell your partner about it – and the response you get is an invitation to throw down, that screams “Jerry Springer” to me.
Although my boyfriend and I don’t argue about the things listed above, I feel confident that if for some reason I went to him and told him that “hey, you know those stubble things in the sink – can you please start cleaning them out of there?” he would make an effort to remember to do so – out of respect for my feelings. I, in turn, would do the same for him if I was doing/not doing something that bothered him – as trivial as it may seem – out of respect for him. No fight/”tiff” (what the heck does that mean? is that like “nice fighting”?) required. :-)

Not flushing the toilet?!? Are you kidding me? Isn’t it common sense that when you are done with god knows what, you flush the toilet, am I right or am I right? Enough said. 6 fights a week? My parents don’t fight that much. Is that very good/healthy or very bad/unhealthy?

If you’re having knock-down, drag-out screaming fits with your partner over whose responsibility it is to change a roll of toilet paper, it’s one of two things:
1. One or both of you is very tightly wound and perhaps needs a laxative and to start using some of said toilet paper.
2. You’re not fighting about the toilet paper, you’re using it to pick a fight instead of talking about what’s really wrong with your relationship.

If that study was done of 3000 Americans, somewhere on that list would be ‘Punching me in the face’ – two things we love here in America, getting married to the love of our lives and getting violent with the love of our lives.

- Marlon, all those are signs that she’s trying to alert the authorities and leave you. Haven’t you ever seen a Lifetime movie? The only thing you left off was, ‘Breathing on the window and writing HELP ME!’

Life’s too short to fight about such trivial things. I hate when my husband leaves the milk out b/c it kills the flavor (he thinks Im nuts). My solution-buy 2 containers of milk-his 2% mine skim that way I don’t have to worry about him ruining my milk!! lol

My husband and I each have our own bathroom. I don’t go anywhere near his but I do make sure he has ample cleaning products. We very rarely fight, but when we do they are huge – like want a divorce lawyer huge. We also don’t fight over little things such as those listed above. Come to think of it, I couldn’t even tell you when our last fight was or what it was about.

I love the stereotypes of male behavior on this site. I am male and yet I am constantly asking my wife to turn off lights in rooms she is not in, I am constantly asking her to throw away used tissues, I have, on occasion, asked her to remember to flush, I am constantly picking up empty beverage glasses around the house, I remind her to please change the sheets on the bed (she does the laundry, I do the cooking). Please do not infer that all of these bad habits are male oriented. Thank you.

Please define ‘fight’. I encounter items on that list more than once during an average day. And, I usually say something. My husband will have a retort. Is that a fight? I would say no, we disagreed. Others may have a very loose definition of ‘fight’. BTW, we do get along very well.

Ugh. My husband believes in other people cleaning up after him. He also won’t do a thing until I totally throw a fit and even then he won’t vaccuum or feed his fish. He does do most of the cooking though. It only took me cooking the same 3 meals over and over again for him to take over the cooking, so that was rather easy. When he comes home from somewhere, the shopping bag gets left on the floor where it fell, as do the purchases. He definitely monopolizes the tv. We both leave glasses around.

Super UKMA: Are you just trying to get a rise out of the posters? Please!

My significant other and I argue like many other couples and sometimes over very stupid things. We do have a rule we use though..if the argument gets too heated, one of us will say, “deal breaker or not?”…it gives us both a second to think about what we are arguing about. Is it worth it, or something we can just fix and get over…It’s worked great for the 5 years we’ve been together.

I’d say I encounter about 6 or 7 of the things on this list daily, but wouldn’t classify them as arguments….more like things I ask my bf not to do, and it goes in one ear and out the other! lol oh well I can deal…he’s a great guy. (my drain, on the other hand, handling his stubble….notsomuch!)

Comedian/Actor Tracey Morgan has a simple and quick rule for predicting future relationships: If being clean is important to you, when you meet a woman or man, look inside their car. If it is dirty, than so are they, their house etc. etc. Skip the date and run.

When I met my GF a couple of years a go, she was her second kid with a second guy that she was trying to leave. Her first kid who is now about 10 lives with her dad and step mom. You’d think after that my GF would have curbed her desire to breed for the sake of it, but no, now she’s got a lovely 3 year old too with a dead beat dad.

Anyway, her sloppyness doesn’t just end at spitting out kids, she likes to tattoo!!, She has 8 absolutly ugly embarressing tattoos as a reward for drunken visits to a variety of trash ink shops.

Her laundry habits are about as bad as i’ve ever seen. Piles of both dirty and supposedly clean laundry mix in areas all over her house. From the bottom of her closets to the couches and often strewn across the laundry room floor. Nothing ever gets washed, folded and put away, its just an endless cycle of smelly clothes that ‘might’ be clean.

The towels, HA!! I’ve seen damp or out right dirty towels laying around for days!!, all her towels stink or mold or damp. I havent taken a shower at my girlfreinds house in months because I cant stand the smell on my body after the towels …I’m not very keen on the smell of her either after she uses them but I bought her 5 full sets of hotel sheets and she churned through them killing them!!

Her overfilled never emptied ashtrays and selection of drinks half drunk is amusing.

Her kitchen? I havent eaten food cooked in her kitchen in over 5 months since I discovered that my girlfreind didn’t know how to wipe herself correctly after taking number 2′s and inadvertantly was wiping excess 2 into the coin slot!!

So for all these reasons and many many more
I HATE MY GIRLFREIND FOR BEING THE FILTHY
LOUD MOUTHED DRUNKEN TRASH THAT SHE IS

QB – if she is like that ..what are you like? That seems to be a long list of things you dont agree with but you stay? I would bet your not a top shelf prize at the fair so maybe you cant do better? That was a painful read about you and your “girlfreind” to say the least.

‘Quarterback, and you are still with her because…’ – The oral. haha Guys will stay with a woman who stabbed his cousin, kicked the puppy down the stairs and robbed his grandmother, if the oral is really good.

I think #42 is a fake one…maybe some of those drunken SUNY students venting some anger while nursing their hangovers. It used to be a constant battle in our house about me always forgetting to turn off lights.So… I put my best efforts forward, turning off every time I left a room, put the tv on a timer when I feel asleep, etc. then…the National Grid bill arrives…my electricty usage was reduced by 42%! But my bill was higher than in previous months! The good olde delivery charge…it gets raised the less you use. Yes, you basically get penalized for using LESS electricity! I called and asked if they made a mistake. I was told, no mistake, the less you use, it costs more to “deliver”. So…knowing that now, my husband, who is always careful with the almighty dollar, lets me leave every light on to my hearts content!National Grid caring about energy wasting, of course! They make more $$$!

QB – OTE is not the forum for your rant – Get yourself some free tickets to Jerry Springer and take her there to dump her @ss. Let us all know when the show is on, so we can judge for ourselves what a trashbag she is.