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When I got divorced in 08, standing in front of that judge was a very hard part to tackle. It was so awful to hear myself say the date of our marriage, the date of seperation, and why the marriage failed. It took me a few years before I could even date seriously again. Reading the update you posted brought back alot of memories. Some good, some not so good. But It's been a few years and I'm a much stronger person, as will you. My best advise is to not immediately jump into something new -- take some time for yourself. You will be better for it. Take the time to be sad and grieve, this will give you a better chance in future relationships.

Thank you all for your kind, kind support in dealing with a traumatic breakup:Gone in a heartbeat

The divorce was final in summer. I had to stand like a moron alone in front of a judge and admit my marriage failed. But I am free and clear with no alimony, etc. (Literally one week after the divorce was final, however, I met a beautiful girl about my age who's company I really, really enjoy. We see each other 2-3 times a week and always have a great time.)

In early August my ex-wife tried to come back. She sent flowers, called, sent numerous emails explaining how much she loves me and that it was by far the biggest mistake of her life, etc. I guess her new life with her new boyfriend wasn't the wonderful fantasy she expected. I told her no way, and that I had moved on, that she will never be able to hurt me again, and never to contact me again.

She proved herself to have a capacity for cruelty and selfishness I never thought possible. I unfortunately believe she is fundamentally flawed and maybe even a bit sociopath: How could any thinking, feeling person do what she did to anyone, not just to someone she married and shared a home with? Really, how much could she had truly loved me in the first place?

Please share your thoughts...Even though it is over, I don't think I will ever truly get over it. I will always look back at seeing that note and feel sick to my stomach, or simply become deeply saddened by the epic tragedy of it all.

Good for you Bro!

I don't know what is up with women now a days...?

They get a nice guy...a really nice guy and they get bored. Need to be stimulated or something.

Then when reality kicks in they realize they should have stayed with the nice guy. Good for you for never looking back.

Most women will complain about their men to their girlfriends yet they will stay with the jerks.

I guess the ole saying of, "treat em like crap and they will stay around...treat them too nice and they will leave" holds water.

Good for you. Consider yourself lucky that this happened now instead of 10-15 years from now and getting yourself bent over a barrel for alimony and child support.

Live and learn and move on and take care getting married. Women always look for the biggest and best nest they can find and don't think twice of bed hopping and jumping around to manipulate situations and men. Women are the masters at deception, they can't help themselves, so you always have to have your head up and have situational awareness and look beyond what they tell you.

This happens a million times a year in this country. The reality is this has or will happen to most people reading this. Expecting marriage to end in "Happily ever after" is a fallacy and we all set ourselves up for failure.

Good to know that you are doing well. The tone of your post shows much emotional growth from your original post. Keep it going. Life often brings challenging opportunities. Life is not about the opportunities that we encounter, but how we respond. You appear to be doing just fine.

Women always look for the biggest and best nest they can find and don't think twice of bed hopping and jumping around to manipulate situations and men. Women are the masters at deception, they can't help themselves, so you always have to have your head up and have situational awareness and look beyond what they tell you.

Also, you did the right thing by not taking her back. The marriage failed for a reason.

Congrats on finding someone new!

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