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If I have warned her not to do something once and she persists on doing it, she gets a timeout. Now if it's a reoccuring issue day in and day out, after several days, she no longer gets a warning but goes straight to timeout...

We have been doing timeouts since about 14 months so I rarely have to give one. She knows that there is no second warning so she has learned to stop the first time.

if redirecting doesnt work, I send my son to his room. He's 2, so only for about 2 minutes. Seems to work every time because he's a totally different child afterwards lol. We are against hitting in this family so no spanks here!

I have found the redirecting just doesn't work... We use timeouts (one min per year) as well as other things... Spanking, room time, loss of toys, standing in the corner and some others depending on the situation... My kids are now to the point where time outs are working less and less, they are actually getting in to trouble while in time out, so we are switching over to corner, room time or other forms of timeout more and more...

We use room time when a rule has been broken. The only warning we give is the first time something occurs - after that it's a rule. I understand redirecting with infants and young toddlers, but I don't understand how it works with an older toddler who has done something that is unacceptable like hitting someone else.

my son is a only child too and i have always used redirecting with him unless he persisits and do the same thing over and over even though he has been told not do it again then he gets to timeout in which he has to sit there untill i say he can move but that was when he was younger now that he's a teenager, he don't like getting into trouble for anything cause i take away ALL and EVERY GAME SYSTEMS in the house till he gets it through his head that is not the way of handling his anger or mood.