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At a Crossroad

People often ask me what brings clients to coaching. The answer is different for everyone, but there are common themes. And the clients that do come my way usually say a variation of the following:

I’m at a crossroad

My work/my life isn’t satisfying/challenging/fun….

I know I’m not doing what I’m meant to be doing

I feel stuck

I don’t know what my next step should be

I feel like I’m in a fog

I want to change things, but don’t know how

If I could just figure it out…

There are times in our lives when all of us find ourselves at a crossroad. The path we have been going down, while it may once have had appeal, had status, is lucrative, or even challenging, is not bringing deep satisfaction, joy and fulfillment. It feels like it’s going nowhere. Like you are going nowhere.

However, when you stand at a crossroad and look up and around, what you begin to see is an opportunity to change direction, to follow a new path, to discover what lies on the road ahead.

The known is comfortable – until it isn’t anymore of course. So the first step to change is recognizing and accepting the discomfort or dissatisfaction.

The second is allowing yourself to stand in that place long enough to understand the messages it has for you. Sometimes that’s painful – at first – but eventually it brings enlightened awareness about what really matters to you. You can see, and almost taste, the possibility and probability of change.

When that happens, a shift occurs: the new road appears, and beckons, and with a little courage and encouragement, you step out of stuck and into that which you have longed for.

Have you ever been at a crossroad? Did you change to a different path? How did you do it?

Or are you there now? If so, take heart. Allow yourself to feel what is true about that for you, what you long for. Know that if you are willing to listen to and explore what messages are there for you, the change you desire is well within your reach.

Marcia Dorfman, MSOD, CPCC, PCC coaches for the love of it - for the sheer joy of witnessing her clients discover and focus on what matters most. She inspires them to tap into their strengths, make powerful choices in work and life, and take action with confidence and determination.