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Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

I'm posting this because I need to get some feedback on this situation. I'm not out, so I have no one else to discuss his with.

For the past 3 months, I have been letting this guy stay at my place because he just moved here to this city to get away from some problems in his hometown. I met him through one of my other friends. He was staying there when I first met him. We started hanging out and he eventually told me that he no longer wanted to live with my other friend. I told him that he could stay at my place until he gets himself together. The first night I asked if he wanted to sleep on the sofa and said that he didn't mind sleeping in my bed. So, for the past 3 months, every night, we have been sharing the same bed.

I know that this guy is str8 because when we go out places he talks to girls, gets their numbers and eventually smashes them. He even has a 1 yr old kid from his ex-girl. He has no problem getting females wherever he goes because he's a good looking guy. He asked about my sexual preference a few weeks after we started living together and I told him that I'm bi but not out. He also admitted to doing some things with guys, but its always only for the money because he didn't have a job.

Last night we were in my room hanging out drinking Heineken and smoking a little. We had a deep conversation about his troubled past and his ex-girl. After about two hours, we were getting kinda drunk and high from smoking. He then asked me if I am bi. I said yeah. He then says that he wanted me to show him my ass and told me that he wants to "do it all". I thought he was joking around at first because he always told me that he was completely str8. He then says that he loves girls and pussy, but wants to know if he'll like having sex with a guy. He also said he wanted to know for sure if he's really bi or gay.

At first I kept telling him that i didn't wanna do anything sexual with him. In reality, I've been wanting to mess around with him ever since I first saw him at my friend's house. He's extremely attractive and sexy. He has that street thug swag but is also a pretty boy at the same time. I'm definetly attracted to him but I didn't want to damage our friendship by having sex, so I kept saying "no".

So, he keeps begging to see my ass and says that he wants to fuck and maybe let me fuck him too. I finally agreed to do it, so he goes and takes a quick shower and comes back to the room naked. We turn out he lights and started by touching each other. By this time, I'm fully hard and I noticed that he was hard too. He asks he if I ever kissed a guy before and I say "no" but I tell him that I wanna try. He grabs my hard dick while we're rubing our bodies together. Then he asked me to give him some head, which I did. Btw...his dick is huge. While I'm giving head, he asked if "this is what I wanted when I first saw him, and I said "yeah". After this, he put on some lube and I let him fuck me. He didn't want me to try to fuck him though, eventhough he said he would try it if i let him fuck me. After we finished, we both go to sleep.

I wanted to know what you guys think about this situation. I haven't really spoke with him since this happened because he's always asleep when I leave in the mornings to go to work. I hope that this won't affect our friendship and I now wonder if he really liked it and has been wanting to do this for awhile. Or, it could be possible that he just wanted to experiment while kinda drunk to see if he likes sex with guys or not. I kinda don't want to mention to him what happened. I guess later today when I get home from work, I'll find out if any damage has been done to our friendship.

Thanks guys for reading this long post. Any comments and advice are appreciated.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

It is not un-common for so called str8 guys wanting to fuck another guy particularly if there inhibitions are relaxed fro drink or smokes. It is also not surpring that once he had fucked you he did not want you to fuck him. once he had cum his lot his desire for sex had disappear!
How he will feel when he wakes up this morning is difficult to predict but if he does not want to discuss it dont be surprised ! Since he has been sleeping with you for over three months without even a feel it is not too promising. The problem for you is that unless he is prepared to discuss it you are in for some frusrating nights unless he just tells you he wants to sleep on the sofa! I will be interested in hearing what happens tonight. Sex with str8 guys can be so frustrating !

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

Quite honestly I'm not sure you have anything to worry about in regards to the 'friendship'. What leaped out at me is the fact he admitted to doing things with guys, but only for money..an easy means to an end. Hustlers know how to read people. In my cynical mind his having sex with you was only to give you what he knew you wanted in exchange for getting what he needs (a place to stay). Here's a question: Why didn't he want to continue to stay with the other friend?

Of course this is all speculation. I don't know either of you. Perhaps he was genuinely curious and wanted to explore man-on-man to determine his orientation, but I have my doubts about that. Why would he ask if this was what you wanted since the first time you saw him? My guess is he already knew the answer to that or at least suspected.

However if none of the above is true and this guy can be taken at face value, I would suggest not bringing it up so soon. Sex can affect friendships positively or negatively and you need to take your time and guage his reaction. Don't make it something that HAS to be discussed right away. Just as he took the lead in initiating everything let him take the lead in discussing it. Also become clear about what YOU want from this friendship. Do you want things to go back to being strictly platonic? Are you open to an friend with benefit situation? Being clear on what your own needs/wants are will save you a lot of time and confusion. Good luck to you.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

Originally Posted by The lad of night

all the more reason to avoid them all. But i you must pursue him try staying under his ex's radar lest the crazy broad comes after you :P

True or he could actually be the one with the issues. He doesnt sound too put together either. I agree with an earlier post. He sounds more like a hooker and it seems like he knows exactly what he was doing.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

i am not trying to be negative here but i can't find a postive other than you got some dick, i hope this does not turn into a naked druken affair for you, another words he gets drunk and high and wants some man ass, i have a rule if you can't do it sober then you can't do it, but i hope everything works out for you

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

Originally Posted by newt72

i am not trying to be negative here but i can't find a postive other than you got some dick, i hope this does not turn into a naked druken affair for you, another words he gets drunk and high and wants some man ass, i have a rule if you can't do it sober then you can't do it, but i hope everything works out for you

Gotta agree with newt72 on this one. And sorry, but I have to add the worn out saying that guys who have ANY kind of sex with other guys, are NOT straight. Straight dudes do not get erections when thinking about other dudes or want to have sex with them. No more than gay guys get hard and start dripping pre-cum thinking about having sex with a female. Best of luck whatever happens, and keep a tad of caution about yourself. You never know what and who people can turn out to be. Especially people on the run from their past, whatever it may be as well.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

The guy knew what he was doing and I don't think he is straight. I am not flamboyant so people assume that I am not gay but I am out, that has also attracted a certain group of closet cases. My first boyfriend was one of these men and after that I make a point to avoid down low guys. I have a "straight" friend that sometimes makes comments that make me raise my eyebrow. He lived with me for a year and when we were alone he would make advances at me but I acted like I didn't get the hints and nothing happened. We are still good friends to this day but he has changed since I didn't take him up on his advances. In my own personal opinion avoid him at all cost when it comes to sleeping with him, keep the friendship and lose the sex.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

What's up guys. I wanted to say thanks for all the comments. I have some updates from this past weekend.

On Saturday night after we came home from a bar, we go to my room and he says that he wanted to mess around again. This time, he said that he wanted me to fuck him so that he would know if he would enjoy getting fucked. Just like last time it happened, we were both drunk from the beers. He also confessed to me that when he was a kid, he and his older cousin would mess around and they both fucked each other. He said that only his family knows about this because he told a family member about the sexual things that his cousin kept tying to force him to do with him.

So, it turns out that he actually was fucked before because he was molested. He told me that he's been wanting to try to get fucked again by a guy. I was suprised in hearing this because this confirms that could really be gay or bi.

So, for the second time we had sex. We started out by him giving me head and I tried to fuck him but he couldn't take it, so we finished with him fucking me. After it was over, he says that he didn't enjoy trying to bottom.

The next day, we didn't even talk about what happened the night before. We hung out for most of the day as if nothing happened.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

Originally Posted by SouthernJoe

Came to JUB with a similar situation except on the opposite end. Straight guy really horny and wanting to fuck my friend just to see what it's like. Not really interested in anything but getting it off <- scum i know sorry mate

If you just want to know what it's like, look for another guy to get off with, you don't want to ruin a friendship - unless you find out you really like it and want to go there, but always be cautious about it.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

Ive cuddled with a straight man once and fell asleep in his arms. When I woke up he still had his arms around me.

We crashed at a party and had to share a bed. We were both drunk of course.

And no I don't think hes curious at all. Everybody can enjoy the warmth of touching another person it doesn't have to be about sex. A lot of straight men aren't comfortable with touching other men too much but its amazing how quickly that goes away with few drinks.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

Cuddling is not really all that sexual, it's providing warmth and comfort during a cold winter night (or some other excuse). I've cuddled with girls and boys and I never expected a sexual favor nor did they.

I guess in Europe it's a more common thing even among straight guy friends.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

This guy is "street smart" which is not a minus, just keep your wits about you, no lending money and no bringing people home on his part, you don't want to be the odd man out in your own home.
Other than that just enjoy the ride, DO NOT vary those house rules.

Re: Sex with my Str8 roommate last night

Originally Posted by genthree

This guy is "street smart" which is not a minus, just keep your wits about you, no lending money and no bringing people home on his part, you don't want to be the odd man out in your own home.
Other than that just enjoy the ride, DO NOT vary those house rules.