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One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:

My
wife is very hot tempered and on several occassion she verbally abuses me and
sometimes when she cannot hold herself she uses her finger nails on me.

I had taken this for a long time. When I reciprocated the same way as in verbal
abuse or tried to save myself in self defence she felt it insulting and now she
is asking for divorce through khula saying I have attacked her.

Her mother was always against our marriage right from the second month after
marriage my mother in law use to call up my non muslim neighbour and ask them
to get both us divorced. they told there is nothing wrong with boy, he does not
drink,gamble or hit your daughter then how can you as mother ask for such
thing. my mother in law has accepted that she has done this. Quite regularly
she use to brain wash my wife but she never agreed to her till one day when she
actually gave her water which was blown by a Kari saab (moulana) telling it`s
for her anger. Soon after she drank that water my wife changed and asked for
divorce.

I know she is under the influence of spell. i do not want this divorce to take
place.

As per Khula my wife is supposed to stay with me for iddat co`s i know once she
is allowed to see me and talk to me Inshallah thngs will change. But my mother
in law along with some Kazi by the name of Omar from Nagpada in Bombay are
planning to for this Khula without seeing each other or without iddat period.
please guide me with any if there`s is any dua through which she could be
guided to staright path. And what does sharia say about the process of Khula in
depth. Please reply as soon as possible co`s I have already got two notice form
that Kazi.

Expecting a solution.

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Answer:

Process of Khula

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.

Your
Question: ….please guide me with any if there`s is any dua through which she
could be guided to staright path.

Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, if any ‘tasbih’, or
‘wazifah’, or the chanting of a few phrases in itself would have had the power
to make someone pious or righteous or bring them to the Straight Path, then the
Messenger of Allah (saws) would have recited the dua or a few phrases on the
enemies of Islam like Abu Jahl and Abu Lahab and converted them into righteous
human beings!!!

If one desires to change the condition of one’s loved
ones, then two actions are required:

Sincere
effort

Constant
supplication

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 66 Surah
Tahreem verse 6:

O you who have believed,save yourselves and your families from a Fire
whose fuel shall be men and stones;over
which shall be appointed fierce and stern angels,who never disobey Allah’s Command,and they only do as they are commanded!

If your loved ones are persistent in transgressing the
bounds of their Lord, with extreme patience and wisdom strive to instill the
fear of Allah into them and advice them to abstain from everything which would
bring about the Wrath and Anger of Allah Subhanah on them.

Along with sincere effort and striving to bring your loved
one to the Straight Path, you must, in all humility, fear with awe, and hope,
constantly supplicate the Lord Most Merciful to have mercy on them, and save
them from the evil temptations of man’s avowed enemy, the accursed Shaitaan.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:

And ifMy servants ask
you,O Prophet, concerning Me,tell them that I am quite near to them.I hear and answer the prayer of the
suppliant,when he calls on Me.So let them respond to My call and believe in
Me.(Convey this to them),perhaps they may be guided aright!

Your
Question: And what does sharia say about the process of Khula in depth.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful
acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172Narrated by Muharib

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make
anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.’

As much as divorce is discouraged, Islam has recognized
that two people who once chose to live their lives together through the sacred
institution of marriage many not get along and wish to separate through
divorce.Thus in Islam, both the husband
and the wife have a right to initiate divorce proceedings against their spouse
and seek their freedom.

When a divorce proceeding is initiated by the wife in a
marriage, it is known in Fiqh or Islamic Jurisprudence terms as a ‘Khula’.

There are basically three ways for a wife to seek a
divorce:

Ask
her husband that she no longer wishes to remain his wife, and the husband
accedes to her request and pronounces a divorce on her.

If
the husband refuses to divorce her, she has the right to Initiate divorce
proceedings in a Shariah Court, whereby the Judge will study the
conditions and reasons for seeking divorce, and then summon the husband
and give him an option: either he accedes to the wife’s divorce request
and pronounces divorce on her, or the Court will use its authority and
divorce the couple.

If
the husband does not pronounce the divorce and the Judge sees valid reason
for divorce, the Shariah Judge has the authority to divorce the couple.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verses 229-231:

229A divorce is only permissible twice: after that the parties should
either hold together on equitable terms or separate with kindness.It is not lawful for you (men) to take back
any of your gifts (from your wives) except when both parties fear that they
would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah.If ye (judges) do indeed fear that they
would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah there is no blame on
either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the
limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress them.If any do transgress the limits ordained by
Allah such persons wrong (themselves as well as others).

230So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably) he cannot after that
remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced
her.In that case there is no blame on
either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits
ordained by Allah.Such are the limits
ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.

231When ye divorce women and they fulfil the term of their (`Iddat)
either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms;
but do not take them back to injure them or to take undue advantage; if anyone
does that He wrongs his own soul.Do not
treat Allah's Signs as a jest but solemnly rehearse Allah's favors on you and
the fact that He sent down to you the Book and Wisdom for your instruction.And fear Allah and know that Allah is well
acquainted with all things.

If it is the woman who initiates the divorce or ‘khula’ in
marriage, she is required to repay the husband back the ‘mehr’ he paid her at
the time of ‘nikaah’, unless of course the husband, of his own will, wishes to
let his wife keep the ‘mehr’ he paid her.But if the husband initiates the divorce, it is absolutely forbidden for
him to demand any payment or recompense of the ‘mehr’ or any other gifts he
might have given his wife during their marriage.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone.Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.