With their wedding coming up this August, preparations are already in full swing.

“We started planning for the wedding from last August, so we have a full year to get everything done. The first thing we did was to book the venues for the wedding,” Justin says.

With two separate functions on the cards (as they are both from different states), Justin says they will be sticking to a relatively tight budget.

The celebrations will begin in Johor Baru (JB) with a church wedding and a dinner reception, as Justin and his family are Catholics. A week later, the couple will be in Ipoh for their temple wedding and a lunch reception, as Anila and her family are Hindus.

“To make things simple, Justin will foot the bill in Johor, while I will cover the expenses in Ipoh. Because of the two receptions, our expenses will definitely be more, but we’re trying to save wherever possible,” Anila explains.

Justin says he plans to invite 200 guests in Johor, and expects to spend some RM35,000. Anila has about 500 guests on her list, and is budgeting about RM30,000.

“Justin’s mum will prepare the wedding cake herself, so we’ll save on that. We’re also trying to get local make-up artists and photographers (in JB and Ipoh), so there won’t be any additional costs for their travel and accommodation.

“Weddings are definitely not cheap,” Anila says.

Bank officer Sofea Azman* who got married last December agrees.

“I initially wanted a small wedding, just for close family and friends. But my mum and dad needed to invite the extended family, their bosses and colleagues as well,” she says.

Sofea and her engineer husband Rizal Salleh*, both 26, hosted four events for their wedding – the akad nikah (solemnisation of the marriage) and three receptions.

“One reception was for my fami­ly, another was for Rizal’s family, and the third was a reception held at my dad’s kampung.

“The akad nikah was held at home, my reception was at a banquet hall, Rizal’s reception at a community hall, and the kampung reception was at my grandma’s Minangkabau house,” she says.

Sofea says they had about 500 guests for the akad nikah and the first two receptions respectively, and they had 300 guests for the kampung reception. The total bill for the wedding came up to about RM123,000.

“My mum paid for most of the first two functions, Rizal paid for his reception, while my dad paid for the kampung reception. I paid for items like the decorations, photo­graphy, my three wedding outfits, make-up and other expenses.

“For my wedding dresses, I’m very particular about quality, but I was unwilling to spend anything more than RM4,000, since it’s something I would likely only wear once, so I capped my akad nikah dress at RM3,000 and my reception dresses at RM4,000 each,” she adds.

For general manager Calvin Lee*, 30, and his wife Adeline Chan*, 29, who got hitched last November, simplicity is key.

Koid: ‘Marriage itself requires huge adjustments. You don’t need to add financial problems to it from the start.’

“We had a joint reception in Kuala Lumpur with 360 guests, and another one for my family in Kuantan where we invited 120 guests.

“I’ve heard a lot of people say that you will always end up spending more than your original budget, so I decided to start small. But as the wedding drew closer, the cost went up as we had to include a few items that we had not paid enough attention to earlier,” says Lee, who held both his receptions in Chinese restaurants.

In total, his wedding expenses came up to RM80,000.

“In our case, my mother-in-law requested for a roast pig (in line with Chinese customs), which cost about RM1,000, and I wanted to give her parents a good dowry too. For the Kuantan reception, karaoke was a must,” he says, explaining that even the little things had to be factored into the expenses.

For the invites, however, Lee and his wife decided to go green.

“We decided not to send cards and instead sent our invitation via Whatsapp. That may have also helped us reduce some cost.

“Weddings are definitely expensive, but I think couples need a realis­tic budget to know what is achievable. But at the end of the day, my wife and I were very happy ... that’s what mattered the most,” Lee says.

Wedding planner Stephen Foong, who has been in the industry for about 25 years, says wedding costs have shot up over the last 10 to 15 years.

“There’s been tremendous change in the cost of products and trimmings (referring to items such as wedding gowns, suits, photography, videography, flowers and decorations). Prices have gone up by more than threefold,” he says.

He cites hotel pricing as an example.

“Ten years ago, you could host a wedding at a five-star hotel for less than RM1,000 per table. Today, you will be looking at about RM3,500 per table if you want a five-star hotel wedding.

“So realistically, if a couple wants to host a 50-table wedding at a five-star hotel, they should be prepared to fork out at least RM150,000,” he says.

Prices in Chinese restaurants have also climbed.

“Chinese restaurants used to only cost between RM400 and RM500 per table. Now, you’re looking at an average of RM1,000 per table. This means 30 tables will already cost you RM30,000.”

But the priciest weddings he’s had to handle are destination weddings.

“It’s very expensive because the host has to cover all the travel and accommodation expenses of the guests as well. So if you’re looking at an island wedding for between 150 and 180 guests, you’re looking at a bill of between RM500,000 and RM600,000.

Foong: ‘Your wedding is just one day, your marriage is a lifetime. You should fix your priorities and be realistic.’

“Not everyone can afford a destination wedding,” he quips.

Foong adds that there have also been cases of couples going overboard in their spending.

“If they want everything to carry designer labels ... of course it’s going to be expensive!” he exclaims.

Recently, a Singaporean couple made headlines after their dream wedding in October 2012 proved too costly for them. More than a year after the wedding, they are still struggling to settle their debts.

The New Paper reported that insurance agent Cayden Lee, 32, and his wife borrowed S$45,000 (RM115,900) from a financial institution with a repayment period of two years. They also borrowed S$4,000 (RM10,300) from a licensed moneylender and S$11,000 (RM28,300) from a relative.

They also pumped in their entire savings of S$20,000 (RM51,500), and used up to S$30,000 (RM77,300) on both their credit cards. The total sum came up to S$110,000 (RM283,000).

Foong has this advice for young couples: “Your wedding is just one day, your marriage is a lifetime. You should fix your priorities and be realistic.

“If there is something you really want, but it’s out of your budget, look for alternatives.”

“We classify cases which involve wedding expenses under ‘Poor financial planning’, and that makes up the top 22.8% of why our customers default on their loans,” she says.

She remembers a case of a couple who came to AKPK after splurging on their honeymoon.

“They maxed out their credit cards for a honeymoon that spanned three locations – China, Korea and Taiwan. After that, they came to us.

“Sometimes, a couple overspends because they want their ‘dream wedding’. Sometimes, it’s the parents who are the reason for splurging. I know in many cases, the parents have high expectations of throwing a grand wedding, and they fork out their EPF money for it. But that’s also not encouraged – that money should be saved for their retirement,” she says.

Also, couples should not expect that their guests’ angpows will be enough to cover their wedding expenses.

“This should never be the case,” she says, adding that a host should also remember that his wedding may not be the only wedding his guests have to attend during that period.

“Marriage itself requires huge adjustments. You don’t need to add financial problems to it from the start.