It is with true sorrow, a heavy heart and crystal-clear resolve that I write this letter to you today. Last week I had an opportunity to read your letter dated 9/16/10. Your decision to divide this community coupled with a lifetime of personal grievances with the church and its clergy has finally forced me to act on my instincts. Like you, I too "have been observing and monitoring the existing situation in the life of the Greek Orthodox people in greater Salt Lake City." The only difference is, I've been doing it for the past sixty years; ever since I was a child and thought I wanted to become a priest. Please allow me to briefly recount the most poignant, shocking and life-altering observations I've made while "monitoring" this community.

I was really taken with the first priest I remember in this community. He was so handsome and commanded such respect from everyone. I was sure I wanted to be a priest. Within a relatively short period of time, he had a sordid affair with a single female parishioner, took off his collar: and left his wife and several children for parts unknown. My father was the president of the community and I remember all the phone calls to the archdiocese and the anguish it caused the community. Several years later, I admired another priest. He was eventually apprehended, after several episodes, in the gully behind my family's home, exposing himself to all the little girls in my neighborhood. Again, more phone calls to the archdiocese, the police department, and the Mormon bishop who was in charge of the Bonneville Ward House near our home¬ -- thank goodness for the benevolence of that man. He understood the explosive nature of what had happened and he allowed the police to book the priest without "Greek Orthodox Priest" behind his name. We lived in a neighborhood with very few households that weren't LDS. We lived in fear for years that our neighbors would find out who the perpetrator was and that we would never be able to overcome the outrage and the embarrassment. I guess that kind of killed any ambitions I had to become a priest. I'm relating these things to you now because 1want you to know that I have come by my phobia of the clergy and my cynicism honestly! Albert Camus wrote: "The worm is in the man's heart." Believe me, after those sterling examples of orthodox Christianity, this worm has been in this man's heart a very long time!

As a result of these experiences, I agree there is a "cleavage" within this community, but it exists between the parishioners and the clergy/archdiocese because of their lack of vetting the best men to be priests. That's not to say that all the priests who have come through this community were bad; many have been exceIlent spiritual guides, yourself included. You were an asset to the youth in this community. You were involved with Jr. and Sr. GOYA. You were always there. We were friends. Or at least I thought we were. You almost resurrected my desire to become a priest. We spent time together, we talked about life. We dragged State Street together in your low-slung, two-door Mercury with dual exhausts. And then, as the life of a priest in Salt Lake City went, you were gone. I accept that life changes all of us. Nobody stays the same. Some men became more powerful. Now, as I try to reconcile my memory of you as a young priest with this decision, I wonder how relevant Lord Acton's words might be to this situation? "Power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Great men are almost always bad men." That is not a judgment, just a query of relevance. Who would I be to judge you because we disagree?

For most of my adult life, I have not been an active member of this community and I have never been a terribly religious person. But just because I haven't gone to church doesn't mean that I haven't cared or paid attention to what happens. Out of respect for my parents and relatives, I have always been respectful of the community and what it has tried to accomplish in spite of its clergy. As such, perhaps I don't have any right to complain and be critical. I have so much respect for so many people, many of whom are dead, who spent their lives in service of this community, who were: "the generation" that built these two churches, overcame all the obstacles and brought this community to where it is today. There have been times when I have taken pride in what has been accomplished by other parishioners on behalf of the Greek community, in spite of the petty and constant bickering that has persisted and plagued it since my childhood. However, as I've described above, there were times when I was terribly ashamed. I have never been able to get over all the havoc and embarrassment wreaked upon this community and my heart by some of its arrogant, pompous, self-serving and ill-prepared clergy. As an adult, I have finally been willing to accept that they were mere men who have sinned and made mistakes just like every other man and are worthy of understanding and forgiveness. It hasn't, however, made me any less cynical. But it would seem, that these days, the clergy and archdiocese representatives regard themselves to be "god-like" and, as such, I would consider their human frailties and greed to be unacceptable in anyone's eyes and therefore, worthy of our scorn, not our continued forgiveness and respect. If the archdiocese, the clergy and the Parish Council had spent all the time and energy that they've spent in a power struggle and instead focused on all things "Christian," I dare say you would have accomplished so much more for this Greek community, Salt Lake City and the State of Utah. There is so much need. But it doesn't appear that you, Father Michael or the Parish Council are willing to compromise your egos and step away from your personal agendas to achieve the greater good. I feel your goals are shallow, petty, short-sighted and maniacally egocentric. Now that the communities are divided, they have been pitted against each other! How Christian! Now the Parish Councils will spend all of their time trying to attract all the new members and they will compete to get the wealthiest to change churches. Will they advertise? Offer coupons? In any case, I obviously don't agree that they will prosper divided. And speaking of the Parish Council, I do have one suggestion: they need to be elected by the parishioners, not hand-picked by the priests or the archdiocese. That's a little too self¬-serving. The parishioners no longer have a voice. But I guess that leads to a well-tended flock. Unfortunately, I feel that these shepherds are leading this flock astray.

I must also admit, that apart from the great pride and the excruciating embarrassment, I have carried a personal grudge for over thirty years, having endured the loss my first son. On that day that my second son was born, the doctors told me he would not live through the night. I left the hospital and came to the church to pray. I was turned away ''because my jeans had holes in them and I was not properly dressed to enter the church." So, do I have the right to be angry? I had holes in my jeans! The archdiocese appointed the men whom I've described above to be this community's spiritual leaders and a member in desperate need of spiritual guidance was rejected. Needless to say, I have never been back as an active member! And, as long as this will be my last correspondence, I must add that no one seemed to notice. No one, ever, not one priest or any other church official, has ever asked why they don't see me on Sundays. Why am I not more active in the church? Perhaps, because all of my family is involved, I guess everyone just assumed I was a heathen. Even the last time we were together, after all these years, you made sure I kissed your ring, but there was no query as to the health of my spiritual life. Perhaps there wasn't enough time. Perhaps I assigned too much significance to our association all those many years ago. But I guess that's why I'm so embittered, because it doesn't matter.

The church takes my family's money, which was given freely and with love, and nobody really cares about anything else. Case in point: your letter addresses how much or how little a random number of people have given to the churches. Maybe that's all they could afford. You seem to know that they could have/should have given more. Obviously that's all they chose to give. I can't imagine that the church isn't happy with whatever is given without demanding more. I'm so tired of hearing about the money, and I don't even go to church! What you didn't address was the possibility that perhaps, as the clergy have become more brazen, contemptuous and greedy, the Greek people in greater Salt Lake City have stopped getting their money's worth of spiritual guidance and eternal salvation! Or that maybe everybody's so worried about money, the church has stopped meeting the religious needs of its membership, young and old alike. I assume, however, that Father Michael, being a man of God, will also be a man of his word and honor his personal assurances to me and my family that the money donated by my parents, Theodore J. and Katy P. Speros as the "Speros Family Educational Trust" will remain, as such, in perpetuity. My parents, "may their memory be eternal," are probably rolling over in their graves watching all you "Christian men fighting for control of the money and church properties.

At this time. I would request that my name, John T. Speros (not my grandfather or any other member of my family) be stricken from the official church register. I guess I can excommunicate myself? Don't know! But I assume you'll let me know. Or perhaps you won't. I appreciate that this is no great loss to this community, but I can no longer stand by and pay homage to a God, apparently yours, who would direct mere men and would-be, self-appointed "gods", however small, to disrupt, disrespect, dismantle and destroy the life-time accomplishments of the very people who give Him life.

My father used to tell me stories about his life, growing up in Bingham Canyon, how the non-Greek children used to push him off the sidewalk, beat him up and call him names. I never quite understood the reasons behind the name-calling. During my childhood, I was hung by my ankles from street signs because I was a Greek. I have forgiven those children, some of whom are still friends, and I will always be proud of my Greek heritage. But now, I just thank you and Father Michael. Because of your covert and unchristian actions, with regard to splitting this community, you have finally helped me to grasp the concept and meaning of what those kids may have meant when they disparaged my father.

I know, in my heart, that the God I will continue to hold dear will forgive me for writing this letter, as he does the sins of all men, including yours. Your God, however, probably won't. Based on my assessment of your "Christian" actions and the vindictive nature of the "powers that be" around here" they will want to crucify me for my irreverence or perhaps, as long as they get their way, He just won't care!

I apologize for the catharsis. It's been a long time coming. I guess, if I had to unload on someone, it might as well be on an "old friend." Someone who has a chance of understanding the pain in my heart. And please, at this time, don't concern yourself with my eternal salvation. My family knows where my ashes are to be spread. To quote Edvard Munch, "From my rotting body flowers shall grow and I am in them and that is eternity."

THE LEADER WE DESPERATELY NEED!

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SAYS IT ALL!

TRANSLATION? (Please note the translations are not exact)

CONSEQUENCES OF UPR "THEOCRACY"

The UPRs, as currently enacted, have succeeded in proving that power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. Having witnessed events first-hand for so long now, it is hard not to come to the sad conclusion that some of our clergy actually seem to relish the controversy, despite any inherent intellect, ability and talent.

Unfortunately this “brave new church”, spawned by these vaunted UPRs, and by this ridiculous and inept notion of the church as a military-style hierarchy, fosters a lack of humility, tact and compassion. It promotes utter disrespect and disregard for the laity, which, in turn, promotes disrespect for the clergy. The schism the regulations profess to prevent is the schism they are now engendering.

A QUESTION OF "RESPECT"?

The truly silly aspect of this ongoing and absurd situation is that the clergy has always had built-in advantage in their relationships with the laity. The collar and cassock inspire and command respect right off the bat - the rest of us, in our professional and social interactions have to earn the respect beforehand. No one hopes his or her priests will fail. The clergy here lately have actually had to work at it to lose the respect of their flock!

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT

Question: who builds a gazebo and barbecue deck in their yard when the roof of their house is caving in?

Answer: Fr. Michael and his supporters. Surely the Proistamenos-of-Prophet-Elias-only could have prevailed upon the donors to fix the DOME of the church as a means to honor loved ones, before proceeding with less critical projects? Apparently not.

One Year Later!

ΑΙΩΝΙΑ H MNHMH!

FALSE INFO? WE DON'T THINK SO!

The Metropolitan accuses many of providing false information with regard to parish property. He cites that the UPRs state that the parish holds title to all its real estate and personal property. He asks "what is the argument"?

One could be tempted to find comfort in this citation, if not for two other existing UPR conditions.

The first is that the Parish Council holds all control of said properties owned by the parish. Since the Parish Council can be disbanded, presumably at the whim of a peevish hierarch, where has the control shifted?

Second, if the laity becomes so exasperated with this sorry state of affairs that it reduces funding (the only real power left to it under an obnoxious system where the laity is utterly marginalized) and if a community is declared in disarray, or in schism, it is the hierarchy that comes in to take the real property. (This action was, in fact, attempted in 2009 in Charlottesville, Virginia.)

MOVING FORWARD!

"Let the dividers STOP, and the uniters START!"

- Former State Senator George E. Mantes

"The high destiny of the individual is to serve, rather than to rule."

- Albert Einstein

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CONSIDER ...

There is a danger in the amassing of the Church property under one control. As the Catholic Church learned (the hard way) in sexual abuse cases that the the entire property holding will be subjected to payment of a lawsuit. Much better to decentralize!

This is a well-known business practice where corporations incorporate separate facilities so if one has poor results it can be dissolved without damaging the entire corporation. A single store could become bankrupt but not the whole.

AN EXAMPLE FOR ALL COMMUNITIES!

THE CHURCH AND THE VOICE OF THE PEOPLE

From the Special General Assembly, June 27th, 1999: "First and foremost we are a church (ekklesia--meaning the people) any decisions should help minister to the people, effective, and efficient ministering to our peers. The Church has to do with people; people are the most important." - Fr. John Kaloudis

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«Η έκκλησία δεv είvαι εξoυσία, ειvαι διακovεία.»

"The Church's purpose in not that of dominion or power; it is that of service."

- Ieronymos, Archbishop of Athens and All Greece

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“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

- The Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.

ON A COLD AND RAINY OCTOBER AFTERNOON ...

Today, October 24th, 2010, at 2:00 p.m. nearly 350 Greek Orthodox Christians gathered to say that voices may NOT be stilled or stifled. Of those who attended, 347 registered to participate and to vote; 339 actually cast ballots. Three questions (in synopsis form here) were asked, with both English and Greek ballots provided:

1. Asked if those assembled agreed with the decreed split, or if they would prefer to remain united.Vote: 328-FOR UNITY; 11-FOR SPLITTING

2. Asked if those assembled would favor the formation of a committee to appeal to the Archdiocese, the Eparchial Synod, and the Patriarchate.Vote: 330-FOR; 9-AGAINST

3. Asked if those assembled favored exploring legal action to prevent or challenge the division of the Parish in civil court, recognizing that the option would involve considerable expense.Vote: 248-FOR; 91-AGAINST

THE VOICE OF THE PEOPLE IS THE VOICE OF GOD!

Φωνή λαού, οργή Θεού.

Vox populi, vox Dei.

THE VOICE OF THE PEOPLE IS THE VOICE OF GOD.

WE STAND IN SOLIDARITY WITH OUR GREEK ORTHODOX BRETHREN IN LYNN, MASSACHUSETTS WHERE PRIESTS AND PARISH COUNCIL MEMBERS, AND THE LAITY ARE HEROES!!! BRAVO, PAIDIA! PANTA AXIOI!!!