Tuesday, November 11, 2008

I have been doing some more thinking about online dating services like match.com and eharmony.com. I am fascinated with how many couples I work with, whether it be performing their marriage ceremony or taking my marriage prep class that met through these services. They are so well matched and they seem to know one another better than some other couples I work with that met in other ways and have been together much longer. These couples often emphasize how great their communication is. The truth is that the success of your marriage is not so much based on how you meet but on how you are in relationship. Are you being authentic in your relationship or are you diminishing yourself to be what you think the other person wants you to be? Or maybe a little of both, depending on the situation and the day!

Healthy relationships require a risk from both people in the relationship to be present with an open heart. Maybe people who choose the match.com or eharmony.com route tend to be people who have previously been in so many unfulfilling relationships or have met so many people who refuse to be in relationship authentically, with their whole heart that they are ready to be in an authentic, whole heart relationship and they find one another through these services. I don’t know…I am only going by what I hear from the couples I work with and other people I talk to.

I would like to see dating services like match.com and eharmony.com become more respected as a viable way to meet someone who is a good match for you.

2 comments:

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Online dating sites are popping up all over the internet. The ones that are truly helpful are the ones that research their members profiles to make sure that they are authentic. PerfectMatch.com, and LavaLife.com are two examples of these types sites.