I have been getting period like pains and backache since last sunday - which today has only just calmed down a bit!! I might haveknown seeing as i have the MW tomorrow!! I am so incredibly tired ad hungry these days and just not had the energy to get off my ass and get on the laptop to even come on for a bit of cheering up!!

I am however, going to Nandos for dinner then to see Fame at Xscape on Friday - so i have been looking forward to that!! it is my friends birthday so i will see if i can perhaps drag myself up to the tiwn to get her a gift!!

On top of the above - i have been having so much trouble with ben - pur 6 year old child!! There is 2 different things i think that has perhaps changed his behaviour in the past few weeks!!

Ok so one is either - the topic work in school!! Dinosaurs!! he is not going to bed at his usual 8pm, he constantly tells us he is scared and his behaviour and back chat is horrendus!!

The other i also think is affecting him is perhaps cos there is not long left till the baby is here - but then he is counting down the days till he/she is here - so in a way he is excited and i find it difficult to believe this is part of the reason for him being the way he is!!

He is usually a very sociable and happy wee boy but recently he has been clingy, screaming and crying if he cant get his own was, as i say he is no longer going to bed when told - which cos he is saying he is scared i allow him to fall asleep on the sofa (for the time being) - when i ask what he is scaed of he gets all upset and says he has nightmares but cannot describe them to me!!

I am so stressed at this point in time - a change in him is the last thing i can deal with, he is staaying at his grans tonight as i have MW at 9 tomorrow and the wee man has school. After he left to go to her house i broke down in tears just so frustrated with him and angry at me too cos i felt glad he was going to stay with her!!!

We have parents night on thurs so i will be trying to see if there has been any changes there too snd just see how intense this topic really is about dinosaurs.

I miss the ben i know - he is just not himself at the mo!!

Tue Sep 29, 2009 5:35 pm

laurapeskett

Joined: Thu Dec 04, 2008 3:56 pmPosts: 0

Aw no poor Ben and poor you!!

I hope that the school manage to shed some light on what might be changing his behaviour.

I have no experience with 6 yr olds so don't really have any advice to give but didn't want to R+R!

Its really good to see you back

xxx

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Tue Sep 29, 2009 5:51 pm

jtk87

Joined: Thu Apr 09, 2009 1:24 pmPosts: 0

Glad to see you back hun, I have missed the random Catherine posts

That is such a shame about Ben, maybe it's just a combination of baby, you being on mat leave now, and the topic at school! See if his school have noticed any changes and take it from there. And keep encouraging him to talk and be open with you - although I'm sure you do that anyway

Really hope he is ok, if he is excited about it now then I'm sure once baby is here he will perk up

Me and bump doing fine, just slowly getting bigger and more uncomfortable!!!

xxx

Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:31 pm

Leannex2009x

Joined: Wed Jan 28, 2009 9:42 amPosts: 0Location: Nottinghamshire

Ah nice to see you back hun!

I dont really have any experience with 6 year olds either so Im probably useless at this! Whatever it is bothering him will probably all change once bubs is here, as he will be too busy playing the big brother!

Like you say though have a word at school and see if they have noticed any changes too. Sorry no help hun xxx

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Tue Sep 29, 2009 6:49 pm

Gillie.Bean

ED newbie

Joined: Fri Jan 16, 2009 11:14 amPosts: 2Location: Liverpool

good to see u hunni
jake went a bit funny when i was due but was fine in school and as soon as we brought phoebe home he was made up being the big brother x

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Tue Sep 29, 2009 7:10 pm

beautifulnightmare

Joined: Mon Jun 29, 2009 7:04 pmPosts: 0

Hiya hun! Sorry to hear about Ben, it must be hard. I have no advice though - sorry. Hope you figure it out and it gets better though!

All is well here, due on Friday

Hope everything else is good with you xxx

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Tue Sep 29, 2009 7:12 pm

catherine.hope

Joined: Wed Apr 01, 2009 3:44 pmPosts: 0

thanks girls, it is always nice to hear back from yous - even if a few have said they arent much help - just the few words of encouragement is enough!!

Beautifulnightmare - i cant believe you are due so soon, fingers crossed you go on fri and not overdue!!

Gillie.Bean - Congrats to you hunni and welcome to the world phoebe - dont know how i let that post slip past me!!

Leannex2009x - going to have a word with his teacher on thurs so i shall let you all know what she says - he really enjoys the topic though - he is always drawing the dinosaurs and i promised him i would pop to tesco tomorrow and get him some arty bits so he can make a sock dinosaur - depending on his behaviour - which has been terrible!!

hey Jo - i have missed posting randomly - but to acess laptop with internet i have to sit in the kitchen cos signal is so bad in the area ( mobile phone plugged into laptop an used as modem)and the chairs havent been doing my pain much good !! so i have onlybeen on a quick 5 mins here and there!! have had hot water bottle glued to me since last sunday - been good to ease the pain - simple but i highly recommend it. I think it is also pain due to baby bump dropping cos now i am starved - i could eat and eat and still have room for more - few weeks ago - even just the smell of food and i felt full. I was kinda hoping the squished up stomach would last a bit after pregnancy - no such luck ha ha!!
You dont have very long left yourself now do you?? I can remember way back when we were yapping and you were only about 12 weeks gone!! flies by!!

And Laura - thanks - glad to be back on for a bit - as i said i have to sit on a woden chair - if only i could persuade hubby to get the sofa into the kitchen huh - perhaps i could be on a bit longer but the chair hurts sitting for too long!!

As i said i am going to have a word with teacher on thurs - just hoping i can hold myself together mind you!!

On a plus point - my MUM has finally managed to book the 23rd onwards off (october) to come up and see us - baby will prob already be here by then but knowing she has managed to get the time is off is a huge relief!! She is spending spending spending - i call her everyday (for those that dont know she is in manchester and i am in bonnie scotties land) and she tells me she has bought something new everytime !!
Any way thanks girls and so sorry to be ranting on!!

Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:33 pm

chez23

Joined: Fri Sep 26, 2008 11:47 amPosts: 0Location: norfolk

oh hun! good to c ya back.x x

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Tue Sep 29, 2009 8:36 pm

MrsK1986

Joined: Mon Feb 16, 2009 10:40 pmPosts: 0

Hey hun Missed yooooooo!!!

Poor Ben I think his routine is messed up with you being off work and baba being due. It messes with wee children, not just toddlers. He has to share his mummy soon so that could have something to do with it. I loved Dinosaurs when I was his age so am no good on that topic, I was obsessed and wanted to be one of those people who studied them (can't spell it to save my life! lol)