Change your neural pathway about your BREASTS

Change your neural pathway about your BREASTS

However when it comes to my own breasts, I’ve noticed myself being quite critical of them…without consciously realising it in the moment.

Mental phrases play out like…

“I wish they were bigger.”

“Why can’t they sit a little higher.”

“I would love fuller, rounder shaped breasts.”

“Smaller nipples would be nice.”

These, my friend, are sneaky yet well-entrenched neural pathways that slipped under my radar for many years – humming away in the background of my mind every time I looked in the mirror, wore a low cut top or in the middle of being intimate.

They sneak in, without consent, and stem from a lifetime of brainwashing media and conditioning about what a woman’s breast should look like.

And the thing is, I could have the most “perfect” breasts in the world…but unlessI see it, know it and believe it for myself — it means shit all.

It happens in Nude Yoga all the time; it’s usually the most beautiful, physically drop-dead-gorgeous models who attend and are the most insecure and discriminatory of their body.

They’re stunning — but they don’t see it for themselves.

“And really, you seeing and owning your own beauty is the only one that matters.”

Because if you don’t love your body (or in this case, your breasts), it’s VERY hard to recognise it from others or to receive love, compliments, praise or even physical touch.

It falls on deaf ears, and desensitised, love-deprived, numb tits.

How many times have you cringed when your partner or lover has touched your breasts?

If you’re not comfortable with self-touch, how can you be comfortable with another touching you lovingly, or with desire here.

These negatively-geared self-abusive comments are extremely damaging long term and NOT REAL.

I remember when I was 10 or 11, I was given some hand-me-down bras to wear when my boobs were to, inevitably, grow into massive, bodacious ta-tas.

My friend and I would wear them around the house and stuff socks inside them to fill them out.

“I couldn’t WAIT to be a WOMAN. I wanted big boobs, wide hips and lots of pubic hair – because that’s what a REAL woman looked like.”

However when it was time for my breasts to grow…they didn’t grow much, I never got much pubic hair and my hips didn’t widen much either.

I was like: “Hello!! Boobies, did you forgot the memo?!!”

Throughout high school I stayed petite, athletic and fairly flat chested, until I went on the pill and they started to grow, slightly.

Fast forward 10 + years and I am standing in the shower (a great place to practice being completely present) and I awakened to the unconscious mental conversation I was having with my ego about my breasts.

My gorgeous, perky 12B breasts.

I almost gasped.

How could I speak to myself like this?

Immediately, I cupped both breasts, looked down to my bosom and said fervently out loud:

YOUR ARE BEAUTIFUL

YOU ARE LOVED

YOU ARE ENOUGH

I repeated it over and over and over again.

Out loud.

Then silently.

Intensely.

Then calmly.

Until I felt a well of gratitude fill up from the inside me.

I then proceeded to massage each breast for 5 minutes using a feminine heart-centered oil blend by Shamana (this is my favourite blend).

Infusing each breast with love, respect and gratitude.

And more than anything, acceptance.

You see, our breasts are the physical manifestation of our heart and if we are disconnected from them, we are disconnected from our SELVES.

3 Comments to “ Change your neural pathway about your BREASTS”

I always loved the shape of my breasts but had inverted nipples and hated them. When I was pregnant the first time, a doctor was awful to me about them and made me stress about breastfeeding. Breastfeeding my first baby was so much hard work but I found a whole new love for my breasts, they grew in size and my nipples came out. Throughout two more babies I have been breastfeeding continuously for five years and while I am only feeding my youngest now I have such awe and respect for the female body, it’s capabilities and what it can do – nurture and comfort, give life and love. Boobs are awesome xx

I can’t agree with you more here about fully and completely loving and accepting our bodies just as they are. And it is also with this unconditional and non judgemental love, that we are empowered to make positive changes, too.