Q. What about mentors who had a big effect on the way you lead and manage today?

A. One is Ray Chambers. He essentially created the modern-day leveraged buyout, and he was on top of Wall Street with his firm, Wesray, and did that for several years and then basically gave it all up because he wanted to make a positive, lasting impact on the world and pursue a life of philanthropic activities. Among many things that Ray has taught me are five rules for happiness.

[T]he first one is living in the moment.

The second is that it’s better to be loving than to be right, and if you’re in a relationship, you know how challenging that can be.

The third one is to be a spectator to your own thoughts, especially when you become emotional, which is almost impossible to do.