We are powerful beings with an opportunity to create our life filled with love or fear.

Mike Dooley, author of Notes from the Universe, states:
“Whether its praise, love, criticism, money, time, sorrow, laughter, care, or pleasure… the more you give, the more you will receive.”

What we give out to others comes back to us, so let’s make it good!

What do you give to yourself and others?

International author and speaker, Wayne Dyer, knows the importance of feeling good.
He shared his message for callers on his cell phone.“Hello, this is Wayne Dyer and I choose to feel good today. If your message does not make me feel good, you have the wrong number.”

What we focus on expands in our life. Look for what makes you feel good. Negativity and fear pull us down.

We live in a world of fear when our inner critic bombards us with negative messages that make us feel inferior, not good enough.

Most of the negative messages we heard and accepted about ourselves date back to our early childhood. Our negative thought patterns came from authority figures or others who played a major role in our lives.

Young and vulnerable, we made the decision to accept negative and restrictive messages as our truth. Big mistake, right?!

One of my favorite quotes is from Eleanor Roosevelt.
She states, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”
That puts the responsibility back on us. We get to choose how we feel.

We cannot change unpleasantness of the past, but we can consciously make the decision to focus on the present.

We are here now; the past is over. We need to be compassionate enough with ourselves and others to let go of any past mistakes, errors in judgment.

That’s forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean we condone an experience or situation. Rather, forgiveness means I want to let go of the energy of it.

Negative energy just pulls us down. We give the past too much power over us.

Forgiving self and others lets us move forward with more love and energy.

In the past I was self critical, often berating myself when I thought I could have said or done something more appropriately. To counteract that critical part of me, I have learned the importance of praising myself. I chose the word Sweetie, as an endearing name for myself. Now I speak sweetly to myself assuring myself I am good enough.

I challenge you to think of an endearing name and use it on yourself.
It will make you smile! Smiling actually changes us physiologically, so smiling makes us healthier.

Gratitude shifts our energy in a positive way and invites more goodness, more love into our lives.

It sends out a powerful message to the Universe that we want to attract more of the same.
I am taking the time to gratefully write the good I have noted during the day.

What I have noticed is that during the day I remind myself that particular experiences deserve to be noted in my book. It’s fun to focus on the positive. That’s how we receive more.

It has been said that we are the captains of our own ship.

That means we have the power to choose how we perceive and react to things that happen to us.

We have the power to create a good day for ourselves and others around us. Love allows us to be in the moment, and in the face of fear we can make a choice not to react to it. I simply ask myself if I choose faith or fear.

The journey begins by getting in touch with our inner connection.

Happiness does not lie outside of our-selves. It is getting in touch with who and what we are at the core of our being.

Learning to love all parts of ourselves expands our capacity to love others with all of their problems and limitations.

Loving ourselves fully cancels out the fear to love others.

Author Info

Katherine Nuyens

Katherine Ann Nuyens provides personal empowerment services including Hypnosis, EFT, and other Energy Psychology Techniques. She sees clients in her office in Southern New Jersey, and she provides online (Skype) and phone services as well. Katherine works with clients to facilitate emotional, physical and spiritual growth. Request an Appointment