shel wrote:Uh, what? You don't call someone an asshole to make them feel good. It's a harsh insult meant to hurt someone's feelings. Whatever caused the impulse to hurt someone's feelings, acting on that impulse and harshly insulting someone is clearly not a step in the direction of forgiveness or freeing oneself of ill will.

being afraid to hear what is not pleasent to our ears is still grasping no?

the dhammapada clearly says,

by oneself, wrong is done

the conditions were present for this nonsense to arise, the teachings of cause and effect say that it is not what arises, but how we react to its arrival that conditions us.

Hello Heruka,

Right... reacting by calling someone an asshole conditions us, but not in a way that is in a step in the direction of forgiveness or freeing oneself of ill will.

shel wrote:Uh, what? You don't call someone an asshole to make them feel good. It's a harsh insult meant to hurt someone's feelings. Whatever caused the impulse to hurt someone's feelings, acting on that impulse and harshly insulting someone is clearly not a step in the direction of forgiveness or freeing oneself of ill will.

Not really. Asshole in modern English just generally refers to an inconsiderate person. It is often said in jest.

Oh really? Wow, I'm so outta touch.

Anyway, I took your word for it and wrote a post to you using the word, clearly in jest. It was deleted for some reason!!

Ngawang Drolma wrote:Below I've provided the Terms of Service for review for those in this thread who need reminding. Ad hominem remarks won't be tolerated (such as calling people assholes)

shel wrote:Right... reacting by calling someone an asshole conditions us, but not in a way that is in a step in the direction of forgiveness or freeing oneself of ill will.

Forgiveness is a blessing step for mind purification, but still bit conditioned state when root thinks something out there need its' forgiveness. This is not in compassion-wisdom, in recognition of nature, then no duality or nonduality in perceptions need a name and all is compassion. So is there been told.