When boys ask me out, I always say
no. It’s because I don’t like anyone that much and don’t need
all that drama in my life. My friends think I should start dating so
they always make fun of me about it, which makes me feel awkward and
upset. How can I let the boys down in a way that won’t hurt their
feelings?

Dear Heartbreaker,

It’s perfectly OK to say a sweet,
“No, but thank you anyway,” with zero explanation, or, “Thanks,
but I don’t want to date anyone right now.” If you’re not
comfortable being so direct, you can let a guy down gently and tell
him that your parents won’t let you date. No need to swear off boys
forever, but it’s admirable that you listen to your heart rather
than to other girls’ opinions. When friends jeer or push, remind
yourself that their immaturity is their problem and not yours.