Hormones: The Death of My Relationship (long- continued in first comment)

So my boyfriend and I are expecting in the middle of July...Which makes me 9 weeks pregnant right now.And I'm sure all you ladies know about the allergies you develop to bull**** and nonsense in your first trimester. With all the fatigue, aches, nausea, and other annoyances that come in the first trimester, we don't exactly have the tolerance for putting up with **** we used to.And then there's those hormones... which are completely and totally ripping my relationship apart.I've already realized and accepted that one of my biggest and most pronounced pregnancy symptoms is mood swings. My hormones are RAGING and I'll admit I'm a handful sometimes. However:My boyfriend does absolutely nothing to try to aide me in any way. He says he understands my hormones and he's read up on them, but when they first started getting bad I gave him articles for DTB's on hormones how they cause the mood swings. He said he read them and he got it, but the next argument we got in, he threw it in my face that he just said they helped his comprehension just to shut me up.

So my boyfriend and I are expecting in the middle of July...Which makes me 9 weeks pregnant right now.And I'm sure all you ladies know about the allergies you develop to bull**** and nonsense in your first trimester. With all the fatigue, aches, nausea, and other annoyances that come in the first trimester, we don't exactly have the tolerance for putting up with **** we used to.And then there's those hormones... which are completely and totally ripping my relationship apart.I've already realized and accepted that one of my biggest and most pronounced pregnancy symptoms is mood swings. My hormones are RAGING and I'll admit I'm a handful sometimes. However:My boyfriend does absolutely nothing to try to aide me in any way. He says he understands my hormones and he's read up on them, but when they first started getting bad I gave him articles for DTB's on hormones how they cause the mood swings. He said he read them and he got it, but the next argument we got in, he threw it in my face that he just said they helped his comprehension just to shut me up.

When I'm in a bit of a mood, he doesn't even try to be careful with what he says or does. He winds up giving me such an attitude that I just want to blow up at him and rip my hair out. He actually seems to take it as how I'd be if I wasn't overloaded with mass amounts of hormones and argues back at me like I actually have control over my emotions....And then he complains about how bad my moods are. Not to use pregnancy as an excuse, but isn't it usually the husband who has to walk on eggshells during it, not the woman? Ive been an emotional wreck lately, but I've been trying to walk on eggshells and bite my tongue but it's just so hard to get mad all the time and always bite the bullet. It's stressing me out and it's all just building up and my emotions are getting even harder to control.How do I make him realize that the only way the moods won't be as bad is if he doesn't snap back at me all the time and actually starts to understand that he's not fighting me, that he's ever so pointlessly fighting my hormones?

When I'm in a bit of a mood, he doesn't even try to be careful with what he says or does. He winds up giving me such an attitude that I just want to blow up at him and rip my hair out. He actually seems to take it as how I'd be if I wasn't overloaded with mass amounts of hormones and argues back at me like I actually have control over my emotions....And then he complains about how bad my moods are. Not to use pregnancy as an excuse, but isn't it usually the husband who has to walk on eggshells during it, not the woman? Ive been an emotional wreck lately, but I've been trying to walk on eggshells and bite my tongue but it's just so hard to get mad all the time and always bite the bullet. It's stressing me out and it's all just building up and my emotions are getting even harder to control.How do I make him realize that the only way the moods won't be as bad is if he doesn't snap back at me all the time and actually starts to understand that he's not fighting me, that he's ever so pointlessly fighting my hormones?

I'd take a step back and think about how he feels living with a crazy hormonal *****! Not trying to be rude but that's pretty much how it sounds.. Pregnancy isn't an excuse to treat the ones we love like **** and expect them to just suck it up!

I'd take a step back and think about how he feels living with a crazy hormonal *****! Not trying to be rude but that's pretty much how it sounds.. Pregnancy isn't an excuse to treat the ones we love like **** and expect them to just suck it up!

If you read my post, you'd have read that I was trying to make an effort to not be a ***** and ****....My problem was that he stays mad at me for long period of time after and he doesn't realize that I'm trying so hard to stop myself when I catch myself....

If you read my post, you'd have read that I was trying to make an effort to not be a ***** and ****....My problem was that he stays mad at me for long period of time after and he doesn't realize that I'm trying so hard to stop myself when I catch myself....

I had crazy hormones and got upset over stuff but I made myself walk away and cool off. If you think you have the excuse now to get angry over stuff now, just wait until you have a newborn or infant. It is really stressful with lack of sleep for both parties. Get used to hormones and getting upset easy now cuz itll prob get worse. It got bad for me in the third tri but then I apologized after for blowing up. Quit blaming him for being mad at you, maybe you should apologize for your behavior.

I had crazy hormones and got upset over stuff but I made myself walk away and cool off. If you think you have the excuse now to get angry over stuff now, just wait until you have a newborn or infant. It is really stressful with lack of sleep for both parties. Get used to hormones and getting upset easy now cuz itll prob get worse. It got bad for me in the third tri but then I apologized after for blowing up. Quit blaming him for being mad at you, maybe you should apologize for your behavior.

Just because you're pregnant, it doesn't mean you can't control the emotions, it just feels better to let out the anger. Simply walk away when you're on a mood. Leave the house if you have to. Pregnancy isn't an excuse to be a b!tch, sorry. You can always control your next move.

Just because you're pregnant, it doesn't mean you can't control the emotions, it just feels better to let out the anger. Simply walk away when you're on a mood. Leave the house if you have to. Pregnancy isn't an excuse to be a b!tch, sorry. You can always control your next move.

Yeah nothing pisses me off more then when my bf tells me it's my hormones now that I'm pregnant . Like um no ? Just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I don't really mean what I'm saying.. They just like to come up with every excuse in the book to make them right.

Yeah nothing pisses me off more then when my bf tells me it's my hormones now that I'm pregnant . Like um no ? Just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I don't really mean what I'm saying.. They just like to come up with every excuse in the book to make them right.

Haha I mean Maybe I didn't make it clear enough.Even when I walk away and apologize he keeps arguing with me. He holds it against me that I snap sometimes, and even if I snap and am a ***** for a few seconds and catch myself and apologize, he keeps going at me... Supportive community... Not.

Haha I mean Maybe I didn't make it clear enough.Even when I walk away and apologize he keeps arguing with me. He holds it against me that I snap sometimes, and even if I snap and am a ***** for a few seconds and catch myself and apologize, he keeps going at me... Supportive community... Not.

Well if that's the way you speak to your poor OH I think he is a saint putting up with you. Maybe you should take a step back and look at your behaviour. Blaming pregnancy hormones is a cop out, you are responsible for your actions.

Well if that's the way you speak to your poor OH I think he is a saint putting up with you. Maybe you should take a step back and look at your behaviour. Blaming pregnancy hormones is a cop out, you are responsible for your actions.

Her attitude in the last post says it all: if you don't agree with me, you're a dumb (expletive). I think it's her immaturity and lack of respect for honest opinion that will ruin her relationship. Don't blame the hormones, blame your horrid personality.

Her attitude in the last post says it all: if you don't agree with me, you're a dumb (expletive). I think it's her immaturity and lack of respect for honest opinion that will ruin her relationship. Don't blame the hormones, blame your horrid personality.

I'm sorry to say this and many will get mad. She has said over and over in many different ways that she apologizes and tries to walk away, but the problem is that the boyfriend won't let it go. When it comes to support this site really blows good thing I don't post anything but try to comment when I have something to offer. To the OP, there is nothing you can do when it comes to an angry boyfriend or husband after you apologize and try to walk away and he still wants to fight. Leave the house, go for a walk, maybe go see some friends or stay with family till he cools off. My boyfriend uses the excuse that its my hormones that are making me crazy and that I'm constantly picking fights. But in reality I've bitten my tongue on everything just to avoid fighting with him cause I don't feel like dealing with the stress of it. Maybe it's time to really sit down with him and try and have a decent conversation but the minute things turn bad just walk away. Don't give him a chance to fight with you but at the same time don't fight with him. When you feel yourself getting angry or see him getting to that point tell him in a calm voice that you need a minute lock yourself in the bathroom and take deep breaths that way both of you have time to cool off and actually think about where you want this conversation to go. Hope this helps

I'm sorry to say this and many will get mad. She has said over and over in many different ways that she apologizes and tries to walk away, but the problem is that the boyfriend won't let it go. When it comes to support this site really blows good thing I don't post anything but try to comment when I have something to offer. To the OP, there is nothing you can do when it comes to an angry boyfriend or husband after you apologize and try to walk away and he still wants to fight. Leave the house, go for a walk, maybe go see some friends or stay with family till he cools off. My boyfriend uses the excuse that its my hormones that are making me crazy and that I'm constantly picking fights. But in reality I've bitten my tongue on everything just to avoid fighting with him cause I don't feel like dealing with the stress of it. Maybe it's time to really sit down with him and try and have a decent conversation but the minute things turn bad just walk away. Don't give him a chance to fight with you but at the same time don't fight with him. When you feel yourself getting angry or see him getting to that point tell him in a calm voice that you need a minute lock yourself in the bathroom and take deep breaths that way both of you have time to cool off and actually think about where you want this conversation to go. Hope this helps

Acctually if you reread what I said no I didn't. So when your addressing a community don't put "you all" or act like everyone is against you. When clearly not everyone is. Bottom line, he's going to do what he's going to do. You don't like it or appreciate it anymore then you need to do what you need to do.

Acctually if you reread what I said no I didn't. So when your addressing a community don't put "you all" or act like everyone is against you. When clearly not everyone is. Bottom line, he's going to do what he's going to do. You don't like it or appreciate it anymore then you need to do what you need to do.

Thank you so much for actually reading and Understanding. Everyone else seemed to just look over the fact tht i said I was the one making the effort to play nice with him and stop and apologize when I snap. He really just doesnt know how to stop. I'll be on my knees begging him to stop yelling at me and all I can say through my tears and frustration is I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I really am, please stop. It's really bad. I'm gonna try taking a walk every time it happens from now on. Or even locking myself in the bathroom seems like it might work. Maybe walking away will give him time to cool down and things won't be a bad. Thanks!! :DI was almost so ready to give up on it and finish the pregnancy away from him and regain contact after the birth. It's worrying me that I put so much stress and strain on the baby... I love him with all my heart, but I know the fighting isn't healthy. But then i looked at it and was questioning if that was even a reasonable option...

Thank you so much for actually reading and Understanding. Everyone else seemed to just look over the fact tht i said I was the one making the effort to play nice with him and stop and apologize when I snap. He really just doesnt know how to stop. I'll be on my knees begging him to stop yelling at me and all I can say through my tears and frustration is I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I really am, please stop. It's really bad. I'm gonna try taking a walk every time it happens from now on. Or even locking myself in the bathroom seems like it might work. Maybe walking away will give him time to cool down and things won't be a bad. Thanks!! :DI was almost so ready to give up on it and finish the pregnancy away from him and regain contact after the birth. It's worrying me that I put so much stress and strain on the baby... I love him with all my heart, but I know the fighting isn't healthy. But then i looked at it and was questioning if that was even a reasonable option...

I understand. I was miserable in my first trimester. Depressed, moody, exhausted, and I had awful back pain. My bf was not easy to deal with at all. He wanted to make it all about him, and nagged me when I didn't have the energy to clean. I felt like I was walking on eggshells trying not to upset him, and could no longer tell him how I was feeling. Honestly, in this case it didn't work out. I really hope it all works out between you two.

I understand. I was miserable in my first trimester. Depressed, moody, exhausted, and I had awful back pain. My bf was not easy to deal with at all. He wanted to make it all about him, and nagged me when I didn't have the energy to clean. I felt like I was walking on eggshells trying not to upset him, and could no longer tell him how I was feeling. Honestly, in this case it didn't work out. I really hope it all works out between you two.

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