the *girl=slut man=stud" question.

This is something that has eluded me for many years and i still havent got to the bottom of it.

why if a woman sleeps around or has had many partners shes a slut but if a man has had many partners hes a stud?

surely both of them are sluts?

it is more acceptable in society for men to have multiple partners or a sex-buddy or to play the field, nobody bats an eye, however if a woman has
multiple partners or a sex-buddy or plays the field shes a slut/whore and will actually be outcast from thier peers, and beat up by other girls.

this thought came to me again when i watch the film easy a, women dont like sluts....why is this? jealousy?

A women can easily get sex from men...it isn't a challenge...she mostly has her pick. Any decent looking women can go into a bar...and go home with
almost any man in the bar if she is willing to. When a women gets a guy to sleep with her...it's not challenge...it is just a matter of being
willing and picking who she wants.

A man has to work for it. Any decent looking man goes into a bar...and has to work...has to attract..to stand out...to "win". When a guy gets a
women to sleep with him in...it is a victory.

So that is why some women are seen as "easy"...they are "easy" to win. By default...almost all men are easy...because they are the hunters...not
the prey. Women are the prey...and so when they sleep around a lot.

And let's not forget...women call each other sluts as a derogatory term...not men. When men call women sluts...it's a compliment.

This was brought up in my Evolutionary Psychology class.
It's very complex and there is a lot to it.
Too much for me to write a book about here.
(I'm tired).

Get a good evolutionary psychology text book and read up. It's interesting.
(or it could just be a load of bunk .. either way ... interesting reading)
Men want a place to plant their seed and to be sure that seed is theirs.
Having a virgin women is the only way to be sure.
Women call other women 'sluts' so that men won't want them.
Even though men and women aren't aware of this motivation, it's there.
From an evolutionary stand ... it's left over from cave man days.
Men wanted to take care of their own .. make sure their DNA was being passed down.
Women wanted the best men because they'd be the ones to survive and be able to take care of them.
Men who could father children were (and still are) considered healthy and able to take care of women.

Sociologically speaking these traits are all geared towards the most ideal methods of procreating the species. Women having more than one partner
ensures maximum genetic diversity of the offspring. Males sewing their genes in a wider pool accomplishes the same.

'Twas patriarchal religion that mucked this all up and assigned largely gender biases roles to present day males and females.

It definitely revolves around other women's jealousy. Men (in general...not all men) embrace the term "slut", while women discard it. Without going
into too much detail about my personal life, my wife and I can speak from experience on this topic. I can talk to the OP via U2U about experiences
that have led to this certainty; however it is not a topic for discussion via the main forums.

I would have thought that with "third generation feminism" it's become the other way round.
Men who place a lot of stock in how much sex they get are labelled shallow and idiotic while women who do it are labelled empowered, and applauded for
"owning their sexuality"

Have you ever seen sex in the city? Do you imagine a program about a group of men that constantly sleep around and then compare the quality of their
respective partners would be received very well?
Can you image a TV program where it would be acceptable for a group of men to be sitting around in a cafe comparing the taste of their lovers private
parts.

The way i see the world is females should be as slutty as they want, and same with males.

But as long as the sluts do not come near me, its ok in my world. That has nothing to do with cavemen attitude, is is to do with how i am and not
being interested in sex with them period, but the funny thing is females think all males want them, and especially the very good looking ones. The
very good looking ones are the funniest as they think they can cure gays, lol.

Originally posted by NWOnoworldorder
why if a woman sleeps around or has had many partners shes a slut but if a man has had many partners hes a stud?

surely both of them are sluts?

Both of them are sluts.

The difference is that a half-decent looking woman can have sex with 99% of the men that she meets on a daily basis, anytime she wants.

A woman has sex available to her anytime she wants.

A man, on the other hand, has to work for sex, and use skill and seduction techniques to attract the woman in to bed.

Obviously, if a man is exceptionally good looking, then he mighn't have to work as hard, but he still normally has to go a lot further than just
saying ''fancy a quickie'' to achieve sex.

Then again, if the woman's drunk, then a man's chance of a sexual dalliance increases exponentially.

Originally posted by NWOnoworldorder
it is more acceptable in society for men to have multiple partners or a sex-buddy or to play the field, nobody bats an eye, however if a woman has
multiple partners or a sex-buddy or plays the field shes a slut/whore and will actually be outcast from thier peers, and beat up by other
girls.

Sex equals babies.

Besides from the fact that women can have sex at the drop of the hat, the social stigma that attaches to female promiscuity is purely down to the
potential consequences of her actions.

Millions of years of evolution has defined sexual attraction and activity between genders.

Women are normally much more selective in picking a mate, because they have the option of choice.

This is why even the most sluttiest woman will not have actually slept with that many men; as opposed to her male counterpart.

Women are mainly attracted to a man's status. If a man has a lot of women after him then women will want to fight for that man. He will be seen as
important and valuable. Women will view him as being a great candidate for the father of her children. If a man sleeps around it's seen as a good
thing for both the man who is spreading his seed and the women who want to win the trophy. The people who are openly against it are are being openly
jealous. Women who sleep around are seen as "sluts" because men and women are jealous of the "slut's" men, aka trophies. People are jealous and
selfish. It's only natural.

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