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I'm 5'2". He's 6'4". He's decreed that whenever I leave one of our two cars, that I put the seat all the way down and all the way back, on the chance that he might be the next driver of the car and on the (slimmer) chance that it might be raining.

I usually reply, "Not ever going to happen, but you can keep demanding it if it helps vent your spleen."

His argument is I can jump in the car and adjust it while he has to stand outside the car to do so. This is true and annoying if it's raining. But it's not reasonable, IMO, for me to have adjust the seat every.single.time I use a car. (We both use both vehicles roughly equally). If he used it last, I'd have to adjust once I get in AND when I get out.

If I know for sure he's going to use the car I'm in next I will adjust the seat for him (one of our vehicles is the only one that can haul our boat), but that's all I'm willing to do.

For you super-lucky peeps that have the auto-seat-adjusters in your remote keyless entry fob, my fangs are dripping with envy!

I was standing in line at a fast-food restaurant yesterday. It was fairly busy, and the line snaked most of the way through the lobby. The SS was the dad who allowed his 6-ish son to ride his bike (with training wheels!) around the restaurant while they were waiting in line, complete with bumping into people and shouting "BEEP BEEP" to get people to move.

That must have been the most patient line of people ever known to human history! If some kid ran into me with a bicycle and yelled "Beep Beep" while doing so, I'm afraid my reaction would not in any way pass 'politeness' approval from eHell!

I would've done the same thing I do to kids with heelies at the grocery store: You're coming straight at me, waving your arms ? I'm not moving my cart somewhere else.

It was a line full of PA people. There was much muttering and eye-rolling. Fortunately (or not?), the kid spent more time riding around the table area, where he ran into fewer people.

And that is also why you don't get married on Valentines Day or Mothers Day.

I think I posted this before, but I knew someone whose birthday and wedding anniversary were both on February 14. Did her husband ever forget that date? Sadly, yes.

Speaking of kids on bikes, I once had an entire family on bikes come up behind me on the sidewalk (not a cycle path) while I was walking, and they called imperiously "EXCUSE me!" When I turned around, they said "We're trying to get by. Please move." I said "You've got to be kidding. The sidewalk is for pedestrians, and I'm not moving." The mother yelled something else, but I'd put my headphones on by that point and missed it. Whatever it was, I'm sure it was a compliment.

I'd like to be clear here - I have no problem sharing the sidewalk with bikes. I get that sometimes the road simply isn't safe. But to demand that I jump out of their way? Nope, not happening.

I'm 5'2". He's 6'4". He's decreed that whenever I leave one of our two cars, that I put the seat all the way down and all the way back, on the chance that he might be the next driver of the car and on the (slimmer) chance that it might be raining.

I usually reply, "Not ever going to happen, but you can keep demanding it if it helps vent your spleen."

His argument is I can jump in the car and adjust it while he has to stand outside the car to do so. This is true and annoying if it's raining. But it's not reasonable, IMO, for me to have adjust the seat every.single.time I use a car. (We both use both vehicles roughly equally). If he used it last, I'd have to adjust once I get in AND when I get out.

If I know for sure he's going to use the car I'm in next I will adjust the seat for him (one of our vehicles is the only one that can haul our boat), but that's all I'm willing to do.

For you super-lucky peeps that have the auto-seat-adjusters in your remote keyless entry fob, my fangs are dripping with envy!

I have to disagree with you! I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2. He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving. It only takes a few seconds. He, on the other hand, has stopped tucking the pull-down-attic-stairs cord up into the hole where I can't reach it without a step stool, because I asked him to nicely. I think it's just the kind and loving thing to do.

Of course, there's a difference between "Honey, could you please push the seat back after you drive so I can get in the car?" and "Put the expletive seat back or else, you expletive expletive!"

I'm 5'2". He's 6'4". He's decreed that whenever I leave one of our two cars, that I put the seat all the way down and all the way back, on the chance that he might be the next driver of the car and on the (slimmer) chance that it might be raining.

I usually reply, "Not ever going to happen, but you can keep demanding it if it helps vent your spleen."

His argument is I can jump in the car and adjust it while he has to stand outside the car to do so. This is true and annoying if it's raining. But it's not reasonable, IMO, for me to have adjust the seat every.single.time I use a car. (We both use both vehicles roughly equally). If he used it last, I'd have to adjust once I get in AND when I get out.

If I know for sure he's going to use the car I'm in next I will adjust the seat for him (one of our vehicles is the only one that can haul our boat), but that's all I'm willing to do.

For you super-lucky peeps that have the auto-seat-adjusters in your remote keyless entry fob, my fangs are dripping with envy!

I always push the seat back before I get out of the car. Partly because it *is* easier for me to change the seat (yes, even twice per trip) than it is for him to try to get in with the seat all the way or (or to adjust it from outside, since it's really not that easy), and I love him, so I like to make things easier for him, especially when it's really no skin off my nose. It's not THAT hard.

And I've discovered that I *like* the extra space that's available to me when getting in or out of the car. I think if I had my own car, I'd still push the seat back every time I was getting out.

I have to disagree with you! I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2. He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving.

Unless he in incapable of doing so himself, that is not an accurate statement. And I say that as a man who has more than once banged his knee pretty badly upon getting into the car without realizing the seat was up where my wife needs it.

I have to disagree with you! I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2. He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving.

Unless he in incapable of doing so himself, that is not an accurate statement. And I say that as a man who has more than once banged his knee pretty badly upon getting into the car without realizing the seat was up where my wife needs it.

Maybe my car is different, but I can push it back from outside the car in a few seconds. I think it might be something he should work out before making a "decree".

Speaking of kids on bikes, I once had an entire family on bikes come up behind me on the sidewalk (not a cycle path) while I was walking, and they called imperiously "EXCUSE me!" When I turned around, they said "We're trying to get by. Please move." I said "You've got to be kidding. The sidewalk is for pedestrians, and I'm not moving." The mother yelled something else, but I'd put my headphones on by that point and missed it. Whatever it was, I'm sure it was a compliment.

I'd like to be clear here - I have no problem sharing the sidewalk with bikes. I get that sometimes the road simply isn't safe. But to demand that I jump out of their way? Nope, not happening.

Oh, yeah. Drives me crazy, too. The only person I move out of the way for is the mentally challenged guy on his adult sized tricycle style bike. It is too hard for him to manouver off the sidewalk, onto the grass and then back onto the sidewalk again. He's pretty polite. He rings his bell and asks, 'Can I go through, please?'

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After cleaning out my Dad's house, I have this advice: If you haven't used it in a year, throw it out!!!!.

On the subject of adjusting stuff in cars, my dad used to go nuts when I adjusted the rearview mirror when I borrowed his car. Never mind that he's over 6' tall and I'm 5'5", and therefore the angle that worked for him didn't work for me. If I so much as touched the mirror, he'd yell at me for "screwing it up" and how it had "taken (him) ages to get it at exactly the right angle".

I have to disagree with you! I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2. He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving.

Unless he in incapable of doing so himself, that is not an accurate statement. And I say that as a man who has more than once banged his knee pretty badly upon getting into the car without realizing the seat was up where my wife needs it.

Maybe my car is different, but I can push it back from outside the car in a few seconds. I think it might be something he should work out before making a "decree".

He cannot get in the vehicle, but it's electrical so at the push of a couple of buttons, he can move the seat back and down. He's certainly not verbally abusive (which is well past Special Snowflake behavior anyway), but he tells me every time I happen to be in the passenger seat, "You need to move the seat all the way back for me every time you get out of the car."

That just makes absolutely no sense to me unless you have dedicated cars. But we don't. We both drive both cars equally. If I happened to use 'his' car, I'd move it back, because likely he'd be the next one in it. But I'm just as likely to be the next one in it, so it doesn't make sense to me.

I've asked him six ways from Sunday to put the toilet seat down (I think it's better that way because we see clients at our home) and he's decided not to. So maybe we're PA'ing each other.

My youngest cat is a special snowflake. I'll catch her with her head down and say "What are you doing ? Are you eating a lizard ? Spit that out " and she'll go "*jerks head up, guilty meow* Nuffin, Mummy, dere's nuffin in mah mouf, tee ? *opens mouth* MEOWWWW! OH CRAP, I FORGOT! STOP SQURIMING IN MAH MOUF, LIZARD! MEOW MEOW MEOW!" Yes, I take away the lizards every time and throw them back into the yard.

DH and I were at the hardware store yesterday. This is a fairly large chain with a VERY generous return policy. As in, bring it in with in 90 days of purchase and you get cash back, store credit, exchange, whatever you want, even if your reason is just "I already used it but changed my mind." Yes, a VERY generous policy (DH once saw a guy return an electrical generator that still had gas in it because it "wasn't what [he] expected").

This guy was pitching a fit at the register because the manager wouldn't give him cash back on some piece of equipment. Reasons: Guy admitted he bought the tool 6 or 7 months prior (so, already at least 90 days out of return period) and he had NO receipt to show what he paid for it or that he had even bought it there.

The guy thought the store should give him his money back anyway because, according to him, the tool never functioned properly from the time he purchased it. He tried to use it several times but it was never right. Um, ok? So why didn't he bring it back within the 90-day no-questions-asked return window??!

Guy eventually gives up and loudly gives his parting shot as he storms out: "I guess my $30 lesson today is to never buy anything here again!"

I have to disagree with you! I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2. He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving.

Unless he in incapable of doing so himself, that is not an accurate statement. And I say that as a man who has more than once banged his knee pretty badly upon getting into the car without realizing the seat was up where my wife needs it.

Maybe my car is different, but I can push it back from outside the car in a few seconds. I think it might be something he should work out before making a "decree".

He cannot get in the vehicle, but it's electrical so at the push of a couple of buttons, he can move the seat back and down. He's certainly not verbally abusive (which is well past Special Snowflake behavior anyway), but he tells me every time I happen to be in the passenger seat, "You need to move the seat all the way back for me every time you get out of the car."

That just makes absolutely no sense to me unless you have dedicated cars. But we don't. We both drive both cars equally. If I happened to use 'his' car, I'd move it back, because likely he'd be the next one in it. But I'm just as likely to be the next one in it, so it doesn't make sense to me.

I've asked him six ways from Sunday to put the toilet seat down (I think it's better that way because we see clients at our home) and he's decided not to. So maybe we're PA'ing each other.

Try to make a deal out of it then Offer to try to remember to push the car seat back, if he'll try to remember to put the toilet seat down. It's all in the tone of voice of course, but if you can make it come out in a non-nagging way, it might just work... Well... at least it would with my husband

I'm 5'2". He's 6'4". He's decreed that whenever I leave one of our two cars, that I put the seat all the way down and all the way back, on the chance that he might be the next driver of the car and on the (slimmer) chance that it might be raining.

I usually reply, "Not ever going to happen, but you can keep demanding it if it helps vent your spleen."

His argument is I can jump in the car and adjust it while he has to stand outside the car to do so. This is true and annoying if it's raining. But it's not reasonable, IMO, for me to have adjust the seat every.single.time I use a car. (We both use both vehicles roughly equally). If he used it last, I'd have to adjust once I get in AND when I get out.

If I know for sure he's going to use the car I'm in next I will adjust the seat for him (one of our vehicles is the only one that can haul our boat), but that's all I'm willing to do.

For you super-lucky peeps that have the auto-seat-adjusters in your remote keyless entry fob, my fangs are dripping with envy!

I have to disagree with you! I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2. He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving. It only takes a few seconds. He, on the other hand, has stopped tucking the pull-down-attic-stairs cord up into the hole where I can't reach it without a step stool, because I asked him to nicely. I think it's just the kind and loving thing to do.

Of course, there's a difference between "Honey, could you please push the seat back after you drive so I can get in the car?" and "Put the expletive seat back or else, you expletive expletive!"

I'm going to disagree with you as well. I am 5'2" and my husband is 6'4". My car has the electric seat mover and if I know he's going to drive it next, I hit his button to change the settings to his. When we only had one car, I automatically moved the seat back for him. It wasn't a huge issue and it made things much easier for him. Of course, he nicely asked me when we first got married 33 years ago if I would do that for hiim and I have been ever since.

I'm 5'2". He's 6'4". He's decreed that whenever I leave one of our two cars, that I put the seat all the way down and all the way back, on the chance that he might be the next driver of the car and on the (slimmer) chance that it might be raining.

I usually reply, "Not ever going to happen, but you can keep demanding it if it helps vent your spleen."

His argument is I can jump in the car and adjust it while he has to stand outside the car to do so. This is true and annoying if it's raining. But it's not reasonable, IMO, for me to have adjust the seat every.single.time I use a car. (We both use both vehicles roughly equally). If he used it last, I'd have to adjust once I get in AND when I get out.

If I know for sure he's going to use the car I'm in next I will adjust the seat for him (one of our vehicles is the only one that can haul our boat), but that's all I'm willing to do.

For you super-lucky peeps that have the auto-seat-adjusters in your remote keyless entry fob, my fangs are dripping with envy!

I have to disagree with you! I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2. He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving. It only takes a few seconds. He, on the other hand, has stopped tucking the pull-down-attic-stairs cord up into the hole where I can't reach it without a step stool, because I asked him to nicely. I think it's just the kind and loving thing to do.

Of course, there's a difference between "Honey, could you please push the seat back after you drive so I can get in the car?" and "Put the expletive seat back or else, you expletive expletive!"

I'm going to disagree with you as well. I am 5'2" and my husband is 6'4". My car has the electric seat mover and if I know he's going to drive it next, I hit his button to change the settings to his. When we only had one car, I automatically moved the seat back for him. It wasn't a huge issue and it made things much easier for him. Of course, he nicely asked me when we first got married 33 years ago if I would do that for hiim and I have been ever since.

I'd disagree too. My dd and I are roughly the same height, but I'm all leg (my legs are 6 inches longer than hers). When she drives my car, I literally cannot get into it to move the seat back. So I have to move it from outside -- problem is that it just about requires the ability of a contortionist to move the seat back from outside the car. Meanwhile if she gets in the car after I've driven it, all she has to do is hit the lever and she's good to go. So I'd be pretty ticked if she refused to move the seat back since her getting into the car and moving the seat forward requires almost no effort, while what I have to do is a pain in the patootie.