I'm the co-founder / executive producer of Real Social Dynamics, and the author of "The Blueprint Decoded" -- I was born in Ottawa Canada (1979) and majored in philosophy at Queens University. Now live and work in Los Angeles California -- My life consists of managing Real Social Dynamics, running Bootcamp and Hot Seat, going to the gym, reading everything under the sun, and a twice a week surfing habit.

My family is in bed sleeping, while I sit out here just me and Santa Claus deep in beard-to-beard conversation. The Beard is still going strong as you can see, although by last week it had become so epic I was becoming MORE BEARD THAN MAN -- then trimmed it down to more of a "Player Beard" as you see here.

This hasn't stopped the endless flow of women oowww'ing and awww'ing however. In the coming weeks leading up to the January 11 2011 Hot Seat 2 official launch you'll be seeing little bursts of infield footage with me pimping with The Beard mixed in with the vblogs and promotional materials.

And you will realize that yes: YOU CAN DO IT TOO. That's right, even YOU can pimp with a ridiculous beard.

(Get excited for this -- the first one is already uploaded to Youtube and waiting for me to make it public -- the Hot Seat 2 promos are obviously advertisements but gonna be VERY COOL nonetheless...)

Anyway I thought I'd crack out the closest thing to a Christmas present as I could give to you, so I'll be releasing 3 new videos today.

All 3 are absolutely solid, but ONE of them is the best present I could ever give to you -- because it's going to reveal the secret I've used to KILLITfor many years and never been able to properly explain.

We'll jump into them below in a sec -- first a few dates to put you in the loop on the upcoming Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp schedule.

January 19, 2012: Los Angeles, CA
February 2, 2012: Chicago, IL
February 9, 2012: New York, NY
February 23, 2012: Miami, FL
March 15, 2012: San Francisco, CA (Note that SF has been bumped to this new date...)

I'd recommend you take a program with me while I'm in full gear like I've been. Free Tours have been ridiculously fun and educational, Hot Seats have been ripping people's eyes open about what's possible and how success gets done, and Bootcamps have been more and more the landmark program they've always been.

THESE ARE DESIGNED FOR OVER A DECADE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER: IF THIS AREA INTERESTS YOU THEN MAKE YOUR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION TO GET ON THE DAMNED TRAIN.

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One last thing as well, as not many people know about this...

Last year I decided to create a "5 Day Alumni Only Bootcamp" during the Miami Model Season. I wasn't sure if it would be a good idea but it turned out to be the best program I've ever done -- as well as being a "next level" for both Jeff and I in terms of game.

We've decided to do this elite program at least once more, so we've opened up spaces just today. This one filled very fast last year so if you're interested check out this video and then the very cool RSD Miami page.

You can also email stuart@realsocialdynamics.com with the subject "Miami Bootcamp" if you want to ask more questions about this, such as logistics, what to expect, etc.

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So we've got a lot of material to cover today. Let's crack into it!!

As I've talked about in previous blogs I've been working a lot on my speaking and communication over the past 2 years of touring -- obviously with the goal of preparing for the future with the self help company I've been building up in my head since my early twenties.

I've been working on mastering the delivery of "off the cuff" content -- to allow myself to create content on the spot with no preparation, deliver it clearly and provide lots of examples, while lacing in comedy, entertaining stories and thought experiments to keep other guys my age entertained.

(Honestly I wouldn't watch something unless it's entertaining as hell, so I try to keep both the content good and the entertainment value really high. Basically I aim to create the videos I'd personally want to watch.)

I also challenged myself to hit a nice balance between being authoritative (which is pretty authentic -- I know my shit...) as well as humble and not "talking down" to people. My goal is to just share what I know and you can take it or leave it -- to be at ease but with a focused intensity. It's all a learning curve and I've found a lot of highs and lows as I progressively improve -- just like how I continue to improve in the game.

Anyway the recent series of events I did during the USA SF/LA/CHI/NY tour with Jeff were IMO the best ever. I just slid into a nice groove and each program was more and more awesome.

And the first videos from those series of events are here today. :) So without further rambling here, we'll start with a pretty off the wall video that covers the debate between "Strapping up" and "Hitting it RAW". :)

The backwoods hick guys who think condoms are ridiculous made this one HILARIOUS. I always love capturing these funny moments of interaction with an interesting audience. Love these guys -- although hopefully their dicks haven't rotted off since the event. ;)

CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO DISCOVER FUNNY YET FRIGHTENING PERSONAL EXPERIENCES I'VE HAD THAT CHANGED MY PERSPECTIVE ON THIS ISSUEFOREVER (HOPEFULLY YOU'LL VAGUELY REMEMBER THIS SHIT THE NEXT TIME YOU'VE GOT A GIRL IN BED)...

I joked around a lot here because I don't think anyone wants a lecture, but the issue is serious as fucking hell.

All the sex you've ever had will feel like a waste of your time if you contract a serious disease from this shit, and you've got to remember that basically NOBODY uses the damned condoms.

Everyone thinks that THEY are BEATING THE SYSTEM. They think EVERYONE ELSE is strapping up so they can "get away with it". Well guess what dumbass? Everyone has the same mentality so you're potentially dipping your dick into a warm wet hole of infectious nasty shit if it's a girl who you don't know.

Yeah it feels good temporarily as your DNA rewards you for the increased chance of GETTING HER PREGNANT. But then over the next few days as it begins to burn, or swell up, or your immune system gets comprimised because you've got AIDS, the vague distant memory of getting laid becomes blurred as the new reality of your situation comes to the forefront of your day to day life.

I wouldn't let my kids learn the game unless I believed they'd strap up. If you're going to learn this shit and fail to do so, you're better off being a chode. Save hitting it raw as a personal reward for seeing the same girl more than a few times and getting to know her.

And if you're going to rail new women on the regular, get tested at least once a year. Nobody gets tested although everyone claims it. Funny enough though most STD's can be easily fixed if you learn about them early -- but otherwise something as simple as Chlamydia can asymptomatically rot out your nuts and make it so you're not capable of fathering kids.

LOL uhhh yeah, so next up we're gonna crack into what is by far the most results-producing set of ideas I've ever released.

But here's the deal...

The secrets in this video took me years of introspection and personal experience to figure out. They are rock solid and if you follow them religiously for a month or two your life will change in ways you cannot remotely grasp at this point in time in front of your computer.

You'll have heard me allude to everything in here before, but if you follow it SPECIFICALLY the small subtleties will make a world of difference.

To put it in perspective, using what you'll learn in this video allows me to get laid like fucking crazy -- IF I FOLLOW MY OWN RULES. It's to the point that I even get laid on nights I "shouldn't" be getting laid -- like nights I'm too tired to have sex or in a bad mood, and I go out and apply this and wind up taking the hottest girl home and fucking the shit out of her.

(Then the next day I'm even MORE tired and destroyed, but let's not focus on that...)

I realize that you read a lot of marketing mumbo jumbo, "This is the super secret blah blah..." and that that's what I'm sounding like here. I want to emphasize that SOMETIMES THE MUMBO JUMBO IS TRUE.

The reason I'm hyping this up so much is because I WANT YOU TO FOLLOW WHAT YOU LEARN HERE.

Here's another thing though. What you're going to learn here is what I believe will be my lasting contribution to pickup after I'm done with it. There's an entire philosophy behind this, which I cover extensively in the Hot Seat 2 and show video examples to back it up and make it super clear.

This video I actually did not intend to release as it only GLOSSES over the philosophy and I want to explain it with a crazy intense clarity later, like with Powerpoint and the whole deal. It deserves that kind of attention.

But as I was cutting out the "condoms" video and saw that this, I realized it was the first time I'd alluded to the philosophy in a Free Tour event. Then I thought "Fuck it, I'm going to probably cover this so extensively in the future that it wouldn't be a bad idea to put it out NOW."

Anyway check out the video right now and then I'll explain what I want you to really look at below.

Again this is sort of an "introduction" to these ideas that have gotten me laid more than anything else I've ever stumbled upon. I've covered this in the past but the subtleties in the explaination are what makes it really work.

Merry Christmas!! CLICK THIS NOW AND WATCH IT SEVERAL TIMES THIS MONTH UNTIL YOU HAVE IT DOWN!!

Okay so as you can see this video covers the idea of "Social Momentum". However it's covering it from a FINED TUNED PERSPECTIVE.

Let me give you a few examples of how my brain works here...

I arrive in a new city a day before bootcamp and decide to go out. My wingman has already arrived and he's tired as hell and having a shitty night. He says "Fuck it man it's closing in an hour, we're both tired..."

I say to him "No follow the method exactly and we will get laid.."

I walk into the bar and TIREDLY say "AAAAYYYYEEEE!!!" and fuel my brain with "proof NOT promises..." that nothing will happen to me.

I feel my "RAS" is finding EVERY REASON NOT TO APPROACH and I KNOW THIS IS A FICTION CREATED BY MY BRAIN.

MY ONLY GOAL IS TO SHIFT MY "RAS" TO LOOK FOR THE UPSIDE AND NOT THE DOWNSIDE, AND I KNOW THAT IF I PROVIDE MY BRAIN WITH ENOUGH "PROOF" THAT NOTHING BAD WILL HAPPEN THAT IT WILL REALIZE IT'S A MINIMAL TIME INVESTMENT TO LET ME APPROACH.

As I prove to my brain that nothing in the environment will hurt me, both through yelling and approaching the "mid range" girls, I feel "RAS" looking around to see if any guys are getting mad. After all, my brain thinks I'm in a new 150 person tribe and doesn't know who has the high status.

Once my brain thinks that I HAVE THE HIGH STATUS I suddenly burst into STATE. Then my "RAS" suddenly stops trying to prevent me from approaching, and makes me want to do it.

I make out with a few 6's and 7's which gets me aroused, and my brain sees that nobody is getting angry. Yet my brain isn't sure yet if anyone will be confrontational if I approach the top girls in the environment -- the 9's and 10's.

Funny enough I'm probably ALREADY DATING GIRLS WHO ARE HOTTER THAN THE HOTTEST IN THE VENUE.

As a general rule I'm dating hot women, and because the girls I "keep around" are usually the best I get over a year period or so, they're really hot. Yet funny enough my brain is intimidated by lesser women for the simple reason that my brain recognizes that IN THIS PARTICULAR ENVIRONMENT THEY ARE THE TOP GIRLS and therefore the guys may get mad.

This isn't an entitlement issue of what I deserve, because I already have hotter. Rather this is my brain's VERY SANE WAY OF PROTECTING ME FROM BEING ATTACKED IN A FOREIGN ENVIRONMENT.

If this were MY environment and MY social circle I wouldn't have to deal with this. But my very sane brain gives me approach anxiety to provide IMPULSE CONTROL from doing something stupid. My brain doesn't WANT me to get laid until I give it PROOF NOT PROMISES that nothing bad will happen.

So I start hitting up the hotties and doing short little approaches. Again my "RAS" starts looking around to see if anyone is mad (this is very subtle -- you've gotta be ultra self aware to notice it). Nothing bad happens, and suddenly all my RAS can see is the DIMES of the club.

I hit up one of the top girls, she shit tests me and I plow through it with charisma and hilarity, because my brain now has the proof that it's okay to do so.

We make out, I take her home, have sex with her, take her for dinner at an afterhours restaurant to further joke around and cement the day2. Then we fuck the rest of the weekend during the off time between the program while I"m still in town, and for the rest of the year she hits me up on text to say how amazing it was and how much she thinks every other guy she's met since me SUCKS.

(Obviously....who the hell works at this shit so much?? Zero competition.)

This shit has allowed me to go on runs when my body chemistry would actually prefer I chill out for a bit. In other words, I actually believe there's just times that your body wants you to CHILL for a minute and not go out and bang new girls. But you can literally DEFY this tendency by FORCING It.

Not sure how healthy this is, and yet it fucking works.

What's interesting here is that all this relies on sticking to the principles. If you don't stick to them, it doesn't work. You've got to establish your own rhythm and build upon it quickly. It is the bomb.

Think of it like how the best elite NBA players not only put up 30 points on the scoreboard, but also establish a rhythm on the basketball court where EVERYONE IS REACTING AROUND THEM. They are dictating the RHYTYM of the game.

The same goes for pickup. You've gotta force yourself to hit a rhythm and slide into being at the "Cause and not the effect". This shit allows this to happen.

Anyway think of this as a preview. It's not adaquately explained as of yet so if anything about it seems a lil "off" to you or incorrect, you'll likely have a different opinion later. It's an entire philosophy about how momentum bleeds not only through a night, but a weekend, and a lifetime. The philosophy even goes into every day life -- health, finances, and the whole deal.

More to come on this. :) Stay tuned. And if you want to see the version that has all the infield videos showing how I do this and the results I get with it, check out a Hot Seat 2 event. You can sign up now at...

(It's still listed as the Hot Seat 1 page, but over the next few weeks it'll be upgraded to Hot Seat 2 with the official launch. If you sign up early you can still get the bonuses that will come out later, so you're good to go.)

THE MAIN KEY TO SUMMARIZE THOUGH:

When I get out there, whether it's for bootcamp students or reporters who whoever, my main thought is...

"My RAS is blocking me. I need to keep fuelling my brain with proof and not promises so that my RAS shifts..."

Then I just keep slamming it until my RAS shifts. No matter how hard it is to believe that my RAS will shift I know that it will.
I have a TOTAL TRUST that once my RAS shifts that my natural charisma will unlock. I have the understanding that the ability to attract women is buried within us all naturally, and that I simply have to "unlock" it.

Then I do so.

Think of it like a horse and chariot rider. You can't just tell the horse to go where you want it to go. But you can do something that TRIGGERS it do move where you want.

Well in the same way you can't just say to your brain "BE SELF AMUSED AND CONFIDENT". But you DO have the limited ability to put STIMULUS IN FRONT OF YOUR BRAIN that tells it that it should unlock.

It's no different than how you can't say to your dick "Ejaculate right now!!" (Well if you can, that's pretty cool...). But you can give it the stimulus to do so, and trust that it soon will.

Then you monitor this as you move from environment to environment, until your brain neurochemistry crosses a point to where the emotional state becomes SELF PERPETUATING and deeper and deeper.

(My friend Mellissa who studied brain neurology actually gave me a term that explains this, after hearing me talk about it. Mel if your'e reading this please post a link to Wikipedia or something, thanks!)

EDIT: She just texted me that it's called "self propagation". If anyone here has a link to an relevant article please post it below.
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Okay so that's a lot of video but I thought that with Christmas being here I'd throw in one more.

I was totally trashed (underslept) in NYC but thought it would be cool to record at the top of Rockerfeller centre before I left town. So Julien and I trekked up there and shot a quick video with like 50 people staring at me while I did it.

What a view!!!! DAMN!!

It took a lot of concentration and felt a lil weird. And then guess what? We found out the camera was out of focus and had to reshoot! With my tiredness in effect is was like "OOOOH SHIT NOOOOOO!!"

Then I realized that it's always good to talk about a topic that relates to whatever state you're in, and I'd been planning for a while to do a talk on overcoming negative emotions, so I did it up here.

Funny enough though, I think the height of the building caused audio signal interference between the microphone and the camera, so the audio is a little spotty. Sorry! I decided that I loved the view and that it would offer value overall, so rather than reshooting it in a different location I figured we'd release it.

This is a very important video to me on a personal video, as this glosses over a decade long personal journey that it took me to crawl out of the hell of addiction to bullshit negative thoughts and emotions.

Check it out now....

(Funny enough I thought that that beard was CRAZY at the time. But I look at it now compared to the current beard and it just looks like a bit of stubble. Isn't it funny how our minds make our self image into a big deal?)

btw please let me know if you liked the video or not with the fucked up sound. I wasn't sure if I should put it out. Would it have been overly uptight to scrap it once I saw the sound wasn't perfect, or do you think it's better to focus on the highest standards like I normally do?

Like I said I released it rather than re-recording because I personally really enjoy that view and wanted to share it, but maybe you don't really care. :) I also threw in that lil bonus stuff with me and Julien at the end because it basically just shows what was explained -- ie: socializing, having friends to joke around with, having interests that keep you passionate, etc. Then we randomly bumped into the statue that's on the cover of "Atlas Shrugged" (a common favourite of people who are into RSD) so that was really sick, too.

Also -- do you remember how in that previous Chicago video in my friend's apartment I said "This video isn't for you if you're weird, but we could make another video for you if that's the case..."

Well THIS is the type of video I was talking about. I think that in the future I want to make a series of videos for guys who are "hard cases" and totally fucked up. This one was a starting point, and yet I think EVERYONE could benefit from doing what I talked about here.

Also note that I think pharmaceuticals are a miracle of science for people who have mental health diseases that cannot be treated otherwise. But for the overwhelming majority of people these methods could have been implemented beforehand

There's a lot that's within your control that doctors will usually not recommend -- it's an absurdity of modern society that people don't try these things before using what should be a last resort. Check out "The Ultramind Solution" by Mark Hyman if this interests you.

I can definitely attest that by following the ideas I spoke about, I was able to shift my "happiness set point" from around a 2 out of 10 to around an 8. In the future maybe it will be a 10, but then again I sometimes find people who are too happy a lil weird. ;)

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Okay so I'm out of here!! Santa and I will be resuming our lil chat and then I'll be off to bed.

Hope your Christmas is kicking ass, and if not, then I hope this lightened it up a bit from me to you.

The coming weeks have some SERIOUSLY LEGIT content coming up on here as well, so I hope you're looking forward to it.

I'll also be back with the Hot Seat 2 promotional materials in the week between January 4 and the January 11th release. This material will be really engaging and not just commercials -- you'll love it as it will feature short tiny bursts of infield footage that in and of themselves will teach you a lot, and I think entice you to realize the immense value of the Hot Seat 2 event and prompt you to attend.

Absolutely let me know what you took from the videos!! I know it's 3 videos which is a lot to get any conversation going in the comments, but I'll check back and respond.

Also have you tried out the momentum building stuff that I explained. There were subtleties here that I've never been able to properly get into, and it's these exact subleties that have allowed me to get the craziest results of my life. I feel good to have gotten this out and will properly expand on it later (or see the infield version at Hot Seat 2) but FOR NOW what have you learned?

And any thoughts about combating depression and addiction to mental bullshit by the 5 ways I covered in the videos? How was your experience of watching it with the sketchy audio? And do you have any experiences with improving your emotional health in your own life?

Thanks for reading and watching. Have fun!!

Tyler

PS:

Get on this! Now is the time!
January 19, 2012: Los Angeles, CA
February 2, 2012: Chicago, IL
February 9, 2012: New York, NY
February 23, 2012: Miami, FL
March 15, 2012: San Francisco, CA (Note that SF has been bumped to this new date...)

Hot Seat 2 will begin promotions January 4th and include some funny bursts of infield footage as previously promised, and will officially launch to the world on January 11!!

The Hot Seat 2 is really cutting edge and this is definitely something you'll want to attend. Stay tuned.

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The thing about the two hills in the "fine tuned social momentum" video is SOOO fuckin true! It definitely resonates with my personal experiences.

I actually saw this video a few days ago on youtube, and even without all the hype I immediately recognised it as really really exceptional, even for you Owen ;)

Thanks sooo much for releasing it man =D

Realllyyyy makes me wanna fly to the states to take a hotseat with you.

I really hope Papa would be able to explain all these amazing concepts really well in the next London hotseat...

Merry xmas :)

PS: this mental model sounds quite accurate to me - that the only thing that causes a lack of confidence is the fear of other alphas killing you...
What are some of the other things that you think cause a lack of confidence?

Most helpful videos for me yet Tyler! Last video about negative emotions really is personal for me since I find myself sometimes having self destructive thoughts. I m happy that you posted video about it. Thanks man!

awesome videos Tyler, huge thanks for the value you are giving us. I mean, it's fun how anytime an article of yours comes up on the front page, or I read /watch some of the old ones I haven't read in a long while, I get back to that awesome mode. Suddenly it's like, yes, that's how it is!

The inner description of the experience is the shit, in terms of soaking and learning this , this is the way you talk to me effectivly boy.

You should do it more, this is great.

this is funny because, I was playing basketball yesterday, and dictating the rythm of the game, and I thought exactly with those words " dictating the rythm of the game", I was snaping my finger in rythm to;.. KEEP the rythm of scoring untill they come into that rythmic frame hihihi.

I thought this is exactly the same in social interactions . the rythm. Is it yours or hers...

It s funny because I already know this, as knowledge, but I don t push my fucking ras to shift consistently as you craazy willpowerman. inspiring.

I had a friend who always or almost always goes in without the condom. I always knew the value of wearing condoms from my past schooling and from common fucking sense. However, from hanging around this guy for a while, which I still do, the influence that he had by telling me he's been fucking all these chicks with no condoms actually started to make me feel like there was something wrong with my good idea of wearing them LOL. I now am aware of this influence and I am able to keep my own beliefs intact and it's better that way.

Momentum building like you said is KEY. I almost always, there are exceptions, where when I walk into the club I walk up to the first girl on the left and start making statements immediately or I might do Tim's woo clap to get into a positive state of emotion. I find that by having this rule the nights bound to be positive and fucking awesome! I know that by going out every single night your building that MACRO momentum. Since the RAS resets like it does I still MUST do my rules most of the time so they become so deeply ingrained into my sub-conscious mind that I do them without thinking. Very good stuff! AAAAAHHHHHHH! works too. Also the cyclone of glory is just hilarious!

I can't remember all 5 ways that you talked about in the video but for me personally Tony Robbins Personal Power II which I am going through again has been very useful in combatting depression and negative bullshit addiction. Physiology is definitely the FASTEST way to change your state INSTANTLY. Changing your focus by asking better questions to yourself is another great way to change state...ie. What's funny about this that I didn't notice...Eating healthy(80% of what you eat) water-rich foods like fruits and vegetables has a MASSIVE IMPACT on my energy levels and emotional states from day to day and just my ability to deal with bullshit. The power of breath is also talked about in the program. The sketchy audio was OK, although I demand the BEST and HOT SEAT 3D would be on the REAL dawg! I believe that repetition is the mother of any skill and doing anything over and over and over again leads to mastery. I walk an hour every single day and that helps me physically and emotionally since the two are definitely linked. Merry Christmas!!! :)

I LOVE the "proof not promises" concept. It REALLY cleaned up my understanding of the process of getting into state. I actually went out last Thursday night after watching the video (found it early on the YouTube channel) and yelled "AAAEEEEYOOOOOO" at least 15 times. Glorious night... :)

"NOT BEFORE SUPPER!" ahaha, Julien is jokes. I demand more Julien clips!

Sound quality didn't bother me at all - content quality was there in spades and that's all that matters.

I was wondering if you have any advice about the positivity challenges - i find it INSANELY hard to maintain even for a few hours. I just honestly forget I'm doing it. What did you do to remind yourself and keep with it. Maybe start with just an hour positivity challenge? I have so many negative thoughts even that is a challenge.

Also for nutrition - I've been delving into the idea that saturated fats are actually really good for us and mood - and that we've been brainwashed to drop them out of our diet due to fear of atherosclerosis, although they are finding now that this link is not accurate. Thoughts on that?

I really like the end of the last vid when you talk about RSDnation maintaining a good positive vibe - that's the kind of shit i like to hear and what keeps me coming back here.

Cheers bro -

ps. I have a potentially very interesting idea about emotions that I got from synthesising your ideas with some other very smart friends and a new book i read called Thinking fast and Slow - i'd like to send your way for your opinions - and as it doesn't really relate to this article above is there anyway to P.M. it to you?

"And any thoughts about combating depression and addiction to mental bullshit by the 5 ways I covered in the videos? How was your experience of watching it with the sketchy audio? And do you have any experiences with improving your emotional health in your own life?"

Those two links show a brief description of how the exercise is done. These exercises require focusing on breathing more than the simpler version of meditating-focusing on breathing normally and thus helping you to be present in the moment. Besides cleansing the brain, both those breathing techniques have great health benefits as well.

For everyone reading here, if you are new to Yoga/meditation please read about the benefits and practice doing it. Most big cities have yoga/meditation centers where you can have a yoga instructor show you how to correctly perform these.

- Condom vs Bareback wasn't really for me as I'm not at that kind of level yet.
- The second was sweet! Really helps you focus on the right stuff when going out. Shifting your RAS vs getting validation. Will probably help a lot as I'm planning on doing a 30-day-challenge soon.,
-Third vid was very solid as well.

It shocks me how I'll look at amazing content and then read "yeah, I wasn't sure if I should put it out" THANK GOD YOU PUT IT OUT!

I really appreciate the last video. I'm not a "hard case", but as I've been hanging out more with really cool (quality) people I realize that I am a bit fucked (I'm actually starting to think that most people are, and these "quality" people should be the norm for humans). This is my biggest sticking point in life. How you said "I have the strongest wish for you to master this" it really shows that you understand and give a shit that people who are determined don't give up and succeed.

Another thing, would you consider videos/articles where you sum up what you know about things like nutrition, meditation, and other pickup/lifestyle related stuff? It'd be a huge help since we wouldn't have add it to our huge useful content to devour list.
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As for the fine tuning. It makes me think how this affects someone like Jaden Smith. Does he feel like:

"There many many tribes in the world, but MY tribe is the shit/head tribe, therefore I feel confident in any other tribe"

Also how does this relate to the pickup pilgrimage? and the wandering nomad? Evil Stifler? I realize I write a lot, but whatever you can respond to.

and yes, i'm going to watch the shit out of this video.
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And lastly, if I attended a Hot Seat can I take the Model Season Bootcamp?

oh, and I don't give a shit about the audio and those beard pics fucking rock!, that's all!

regarding the social momentum vid, how do you become that guy all the time.

do you have to do this EVERY TIME? do the other instructors have to do the same thing every time?

I know the best nights I had went like this and this is defenitley useful for me, but I dont want to rely on it forever.

As I feel my entitlement increase with more and more reference experience, I feel like I dont need to prove that shit to my brain so much anymore.

and another point. what I do is, no matter where "on the hill" I am, if I see a super hottie, most of the times I just approach even if I am feeling completely awkward. It jsut feels gay not to do. Although it doenst always go well :)
So instead of "going up the hill", this is like a shok for the system, like, i just approached the hottest girl here and nothing happened, so its all good, now Im good to go. outcome dependance is outta the system.

Dude, this is amazing value. Thanks for the reminder about condoms. There are a lot of people on here who will take that into account and live much longer, better lives because of it (including myself). Many of us look up to you so much that when we hear something like that from you, we'll actually apply it. I will, anyways. I want to live as long as possible.

Love the momentum-building clip. I've noticed some of these subtleties, and to have them explained in this way is PURE GOLD. I've noticed that I must approach the first set I see RIGHT AWAY WHEN I GET INTO THE CLUB if I want to have my best momentum. Maybe that's just how it is right now for me, but it's a rule I've made for myself since it's been so consistent.

Finally, I got a TON of value from your last clip. Thanks for the book recommendations. I will read them. Also, no worries about the audio. It was only noticable for about a total of 5 seconds in a 15 minute video, and just the fact that you MENTIONED IT, and got on the level of the audience makes it not a big deal. We know you work so hard for high quality shit (at least the regular RSDnation followers do), and again, you let us know you knew, and for some reason that makes people forgive you for it (5 seconds of wind, not a big deal).

Thanks for being such a positive role model in my life personally, and the thousands of other lives you touch!

The things that you talk in the second video about the RAS and the macho alpha things are the same as when you talk about the "indifference thresehold"? I mean is it like the same principle but with other words?

If not, what is the purppose of crossing the indifference thereshold (I know it helps getting hot chicks) if everytime you go to a new venue or environment have to do it again and again.

I dont understand that..... like if you have core confidence everywhere you go aka "walking thru the world with ease" is because you have crossed that indifference threshold and to get there you have to feel that inner confidence, if that is the case that you are person with that ease, why do you need to keep building that social momentum to access the charismatic side of your self, if you have that core confidence you can be confident everywhere you go.

I mean, you have core confidence, you understand that you have value, you trust in yourself so why are you afraid? I think I'm starting to see like little ramifications about this (afraid they are wrong). Like on one point you need to have that core confidence but also you need to train your brain or like you say give him proof not promises that you are going to be ok. But again.... isn't that the thing you call to cross the indifference thresehold? And do you need to cross it everytime you go out at any new environment for the rest of your "player" days?

I hope you can answer this or anyone that sees where I'm understandig this bad.

I dont understand that..... like if you have core confidence everywhere you go aka "walking thru the world with ease" is because you have crossed that indifference threshold and to get there you have to feel that inner confidence, if that is the case that you are person with that ease, why do you need to keep building that social momentum to access the charismatic side of your self, if you have that core confidence you can be confident everywhere you go.

Hey man, good eye!

I'll address this one in future videos. I explain it at Hot Seat in detail but it wasn't the case in this video. I'm surprised you noticed it. :) I'll fill in all the gaps later on.

We learn as human beings by experiencing it, and relating it to a past memory/experience, and how you felt by it.

Generally you will re-experience the emotions you had in the past.

Recognising this thought process (pattern recognition), is like peaking back behind the curtain, revealing the 4th wall. How we work.

But it's not until you you place recursive thought upon recursive thought (consciousness upon consciousness), that this thing blows wide opening.

Understanding there is always a deeper level of understanding for all things, you revert into more acceptance and presentness with the moment. "Of course this is like this, it's completely congruent with the situation" - which is why Tyler a few videos ago you espoused congruence as being a really attracting factor.

Even if from outsdie you are dorky, uncomfortable, as long as you are "congruent" with your internals, you will be ahead of most social interactions and dictating the flow of conversation/creating value for other people naturally. It's like people naturally flow into conversations that seem effortless.

So be congruent with incongruence. It really IS all good. Thanks Tyler/RSD and the board.

I dont understand that..... like if you have core confidence everywhere you go aka "walking thru the world with ease" is because you have crossed that indifference threshold and to get there you have to feel that inner confidence, if that is the case that you are person with that ease, why do you need to keep building that social momentum to access the charismatic side of your self, if you have that core confidence you can be confident everywhere you go.

Hey man, good eye!

I'll address this one in future videos. I explain it at Hot Seat in detail but it wasn't the case in this video. I'm surprised you noticed it. :) I'll fill in all the gaps later on.

Tyler

Thanks Tyler, I will be clicking the reload button until it appears LOL.

Great vid tyler. The whole providng your brain with proof not promises was a real eye opener to me. definitely will allow me to approach my night a new and cool way. Feels like I'll have a say on how the night will turn out.

Question: You say that once you approach enough girls, you trigger the charismatic side of you alowing you to attract the girls. You say that every man has this ability and they just need to trigger this.

So if a guy has reached an intermediate/decent level in game, he got all the theories he needs. Would it just be a waste of time worrying about game theory, stuff like: Oh is my eye contact good enough, oh am I being sexual or physical enough, if all of this will be taken cared of once you expose your more natural charismatic self from approaching enough girls to trigger it?

1. No hubba hubba, unless you wear a rubber.
Recently I was out at a bar and I reached into my wallet to pull out my business card. During that move, the condom that I keep in there slide out with it. Far from being embarrassed, she was impressed that I was prepared. She slipped my business card inside her bra and needless to say I had some awesome (and safe) lovin that night.

Condoms show you care. :)

2. The Battlecry of Social Momentum.
That cheer as you walk in the bar is like a wake up call. I love the idea that the fear is being hit by other dudes. My RAS certainly focuses on that when really I shouldn't give a fuck. Awesome idea of the going up the two hills, I must confess to having fucked several 'warm up' sets. Time to climb those mightly mounds. Up up and away.

3. Hit the Gym, Bro
One of the other things that goes hand in hand with a cleaned up diet is getting some physical exercise. There is something awesome about channelling your angry and agression into lifting some weight. I find that hitting the gym really helped me burn off a lot of the fat both on my body and in my mind. Once you get leaner and more fit, I really found that a lot of my negative thought loops I had really started to disolve.

Thanks for the Christmas Treats Owen. Miami Bootcamp sounds highly tempting. Seasons greeting to you and the whole RSD family.

Guess what motherfuckers just got blood tested and came out CLEAN for herpes, syphilis, chlamydia, gonnorrhea, HIV, Hep A, B and C! And I went raw for YEARS, basically the entire 9ball/GLODT book tales were rawdog. Nowadays I strap up but hell... dodged some serious bullets there guise!

Guess what motherfuckers just got blood tested and came out CLEAN for herpes, syphilis, chlamydia, gonnorrhea, HIV, Hep A, B and C! And I went raw for YEARS, basically the entire 9ball/GLODT book tales were rawdog. Nowadays I strap up but hell... dodged some serious bullets there guise!

You`re fucking lucky. The only time in my life I went raw I got chlamydia. It`s been 8 years since then, and I have worn a condom ever since. But I still caught HPV (genital warts) on my balls this year and had to get them burned off with electrolosis. If I had been raw, I`d have spent two weeks applying antibiotic cream to open sores burnt into not only my balls but my dick too. Fuck that.

On a positive note, Merry Christmas to everyone. I had the best week of my life, thanks in large part to what I`ve learned from Alex, Tyler, Jeff and the team.

Tyler,
Id appreciate some more material for "hard cases". What to do when youve spent the majority of your life identified with your pain. When you unconsciously love your pain. Your family supports your pain. You think the painbody IS you. When laughing feels fucking unnatural and smiling hurts your face.

Pain has forced me to learn some rare shit. Reality goes deep.

I know theres ways out of the jungle though. Whats helped me the most is the realization that "I shouldnt be suffering" is BULLSHIT. If you fuck up, you SHOULD feel pain. If you dont "do it" you SHOULD feel bad to the point where you are forced to grow. There is no me vs myself, no one to blame, its just YOU. Take responsiblity. This is how it SHOULD BE, how the universe INTENDS IT TO BE. You develop a new relationship with pain/fear. Instead of habitually running away from the pain, you look for it and embrace it to become more whole. Enter death consciously. Its the fire that burns you alive and leads you home. Goddamn revelation.

Its such a sick vibe that obliterates all your "little bitch" problems, but its easy to loose and get caught back in shit. If more "hard cases" could grasp that vibe it would help them a lot.

Basically, if your acting like a little bitch, you should be treated like a little bitch... but maybe your father didnt teach you that. Maybe RSD can be your father. Haha

You continu to blow my mind with the knowledge that you share with us.

I like that you did a video for poeple who are "hard cases" as you put it. I fall in that category. Iv been dealing with negativity most my life and I think I am addicted to it.

You talked about going deeper into this subject... I would be 100% for that!

Just to give you a suggestion, heres what helped me the most:

If someons fucked up and negative all the time... Quiting ALL reality alternating drugs is a must... im talking from personal experience. Its way more difficult, probably impossible to have mental stabillity if your always messing around with the natural state of the mind.

You kinda touched on it in your vid, but this goes for ALL hard drugs, alcohol, marijuana, smokes, pharmasuticals and even Caffein for some poeple. You know the saying, "what goes up must come down", meaning in this case that anything that artificially changes your mood for a period of time will have a snap back "crash" effect in the other direction in some way or an other.

Hi Owen,
thanks for the package of free massive value, combined with the massive beard you truly pass for Mr-Community-Santa. So just a couple of thoughts on this:

1. The concept of momentum is probably the "most powerful tool" in my own cold-approach-arsenal. When starting cold approach I first thought it sucked because I thought what was happening was just a positive-feedback-loop with girls giggeling at my stuff and me getting pumped as a result. Then I realized that it totally doesn't matter wether the girls give me positive or negative responses, even severe blow-outs would totally change my perception and acting in my favour. I never really understood how this works and thought it had something to do with my interaction skills getting warmed up. With your extremely detailed description of what actually happens in the brain while gaining momentum I'm more conscious to this now and can direct things into the right direction - nice!

2. The videolog on how to be happy is priceless - very structured and clear on the imho most important, radical and subversive epiphany in the RSD-community: You can make the choice to be happy. How do I mean this? In what way is this radical or subversive?
I've been doing cold approach for some time and something very interesting happend to me recently: I was meeting an old friend from my former social circle from back in the days when I was a victim-chode. I was talking to this person and in the middle of the conversation I grabbed a chick that was walking by, talked to her and made out with her within minutes. He would ask me later: "what was going on? why can you do that?". When I answered: "Because I've chosen to" he simply couldn't understand. Of course, as I myself wouldn't have understood this a couple of years ago.
BTW IMHO the few sound distortions are irrelevant, and what are you going to do when filming in a windy place like that anyway. Thanks for the reading impulses and keep them coming!

3. Oh yeah and concerning the STDs I've always had the impression that this topic which is so important is generally avoided in the community. I always thought even RSD wouldn't adress it because it's a very unplesant issue to think about and is likely to repel many of the customers. It really is, because when you think about AIDS, Hepatitis and unwanted pregnancies most of what cold approach has to offer seems kind of irrelevant. You adressing it so bluntly now increases the credibility of your company a lot.

These videos were awesome! Sometimes when I watch the videos I'm like "damn I'm not going out 7 days a week (in college so i have time for 2-3 days a week, however I approach about 6 days a week) so I may not understand or conceptualize the concepts he talks about." But in this case, the videos were definitely applicable and helpful.

Condom Video:

The condom talk was particularly useful because of a lot of things I was unaware of such as carrying them in your pockets properly and putting them on without the air at the top. I've always heard of these things, but never understood why the habits were important. Its kind of rediculous that at my age I am finally learning about these things now...but I understand the environment I was raised in was not conducive to such topics. The things you mentioned about getting a crazy girl pregnant makes its freaky to not use condoms. (I've never gone without a condom. Then again I have not fucked a bunch of girls).

Social Momentum Video:

This made me aware of the second hump you talked about. Lately I have been hitting a point in the night where I do cross over to that first hump and see that I still have anxiety when I approach a hot girl. The video basically made me aware of this so that I can work with it during the night. The RAS stuff is so true! At the beginning of the night EVERYTHING feels so impossible. Towards the end I'm like, whoa everything feels so fucking possible (given that I had already been doing approaches since early in the night). The last night I went out I didn't start approaching till 11 (night before Christmas Eve there weren't many people so I was being a little bitch) so I hardly got past the first hump. I got passively dismissed by 3 different cute girls. Now I see why my night was a struggle.

You mentioned how your face literally physically changes through out the night. This is something I began noticing 5-6 months ago where I would go to the bathroom at the beginning of the night, look at my face and see that I looked beta. Then later on in the night I would look at myself in the mirror and see that my eyes, forehead and lips ALL looked different. People would turn heads and feel my energy and watch me as I walked by. Becoming aware of the turning heads actually gets me into my head so I have to ignore what's going on. Crazy shit to actually know!

The negative thought loops were super interesting. I've read the Power of Now and have read most of A New Earth. Something shitty but interesting happens when I screw up my diet, meditation, vitamins and exercise. I become more prone to neurotic thoughts. My mind will be okay one moment, then I will think of something that pissed me off or upset me in some way, then my thoughts will begin engaging in conversations and situations that perpetuate those upsetting thoughts. This has actually really fucked with my academics. My focus gets completely fucked up when I need it the most. To combat this issue I start staying in the library till about 12 - 1 am for 3-4 days the week before finals week so I can increase my chances of hitting a focused state when I need it. I spend about 4-5 hours trying to become focused and what pulls me away are upsetting negative thoughts loops that sometimes feel uncontrollably impulsive.

I feel kind of crazy when I have these thoughts, but during my last finals I would not even look at girls because I would want to approach them. If I got a brush off or some form of rejection from a girl, my mind would start repeating this thought process of this girls ripping me to pieces for approaching and seeing multiple girls at once. What's funny is that these girls I would meet manifested themselves through an old thought process that my mind would play through another mother figure that really jammed beliefs down my throat regarding women and morals. She made me feel like a fucking terrible person over small mistakes (I am aware that she was dealing with her own issues at the time). In a way she socialized me, but was really harsh when she enforced her beliefs onto me. Over the past 6 months I have become much more aware of these thoughts and made it a point to not engage with them. My I got the best grades this quarter than any other quarter because I made a commitment to handle these issues and made a commitment to be happy ALL the time...I want my mind to be addicted to being happy...And by the way, when my pain body used to replenish itself, I would carry this negative energy and would use it as an excuse to not approach girls.

I have learned to not engage with even the most innocent seeming thought because it WILL lead to another attempt for the pain body to take over.

I have really worked on figuring this all out for myself for the past few years. I feel like I have tried everything. So I am actually going to see a therapist/counselor to get these issues handled because it has really fucked up my academic life.

Awesome stuff Owen, thanks for the value packed Christmas gift! Really enjoyed all three videos, but l was intrigued by the momentum video the most. I've never really fully understood this phenomena but I can tell something similar has been working for me during certain situations in the past. I think that is our natural tendency however to gravitate towards using the least amount of energy throughout the night to achieve the results we want. This is also why we seek out shortcuts and other methods to try and find the "shortest distance between point a and point b" rather than faceing rejection and sticking to the plan of slowly building up momentum. It seems as though you have definitely found something that works for you and your mind structure, and as an original Hot Seat attendee I can certainly attest to your results. I think that a lot of guys aren't able to achieve the same results because they can't get over this mental and biological hurdle, and push themselves into the amount of action that this requires. I know this has been the case for me at times, but I have still derived a ton of value from all of your posts over the years. Thanks a lot and keep up the great work and improvement!

Great videos bro. I especially like the one on negativity. I do not struggle with that pera, but there is one thing that Eckard Tolle talks about in Practising the Power of Now that I am currently working on. Its not drawing positive feelings from future success. It can lead to not taking the right actions in the NOW and further feed the (RAS) to not seek proof(i.e. not put you into STATE). Thanks again.