We, probably all have someone in our lives that is a smoker..we love them..and wonder why do they not quit..
As the old saying goes you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink..and you can love a...

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Sometimes its hard to accept we are with the wrong person. Thank goodness you had the sense to leave.

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

PhillyDreamer...thanks for your comment..but with my " chutzpah ", it would have never happened..it's much worse than that..it was my poor naive daughter, who after years of marriage found herself back in the " world of dating ".. a not so pleasant venture in today's world..anyway she's on the road to recovery, I figure by 2025 she will be over it....enjoy your week-end

bac2basics 4 years ago from Spain

Wow KJ. A hard lesson and a lucky escape. I hope your daughter recovers way before 2025, and it doesn´t colour her view for the future totally black. Someone wonderful could be waiting just around the corner. :)

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

bac2basics..daughter is " OCD" which means she hangs no to " useless mind baggage" way after the expiration date ( if you get my drift)..right now she is concentrating on spending quality time ( when not at work) with her children..Marathons/biking etc. and volunteering at an abuse shelter for women/children on the week-ends..she will eventually pull thru..after all she is my offspring..thanks for comment..:)

unknown spy 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

that was very deep and powerful message of your poem KJF. everything will be alright in the end..God bless

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

unknown spy..thank you for your words of hope/blessing...we just take it day by day..

epigramman 4 years ago

...well that's a title to die for says the epi-man and I love your philosophical style of writing here which made me think deeply about the choices we make in life and the consequences forthcoming - some good and some bad - just like life itself - and you writing contains wisdom, passion, honesty and integrity - sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 12:41am

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

epigramman..thank you for the kind comments..very much appreciate..been a bit disappointed lately, I written quite a few hubs but am not getting traffic of late, can't figure out what's wrong..could you view a few and get back to me ? I do view life through " cracked rose coloured glasses ".. warm wishes backatcha..

DREAM ON 4 years ago

Thanx for writing .Struggling with a problems in marrage are never easy.Wishing you the best for the family,A very unfortunate and sad situation for everyone..Good ridence.Time to move on and find the love we all deserve.

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

DREAM ON...thanks for the inspiring words..problem wasn't in a marriage, he was long gone..this was a new " love " that entered years later..worse than the husband,due to the fact, this one wore sheeps clothing ( and I don't mean wool)..her guard was down and " IT" said/did ALL the right things at the appropriate time, flowers,gifts,words,undivided attention....then the ugly head reared and the bubble burst ! she's doing fine now..moving on...

epigramman 4 years ago

......well then I will try and help you my friend and promote your profile/introduction page here at the Hub and link it up with two FB groups - Hubpages group and Music/Writing group - and sending you warm wishes and good thoughts from lake erie ontario canada time 11:23am with coffee and bagels

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

epigramman..What a very thoughtful thing for you to do..I really appreciate it. .thank you so much..you have restored my faith in random acts of kindness..have a wonderful week end friend...I can call you that right ?

toknowinfo 4 years ago

Well written. It is mind boggling about we can fool ourselves about people. We believe what we want to believe. Life can be an illusion. It is always best when we see the truth.

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

toknowinfo...yes the the truth can be a bitter pill to swallow sometimes..and life is more of an illusion than we want to accept..thanks for your comments...

DDE 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

It is not easy to see everything from day one sometimes it is seen when too late

kj force 4 years ago from Florida Author

DDE..thank you for stopping by and reading my poem....

DREAM ON 3 years ago

Your daughter is very lucky to have you.Maybe she won't listen to reason but it might be her lesson to learn in this life.We can offer to help but they have to want to help themselves first.I never had people in my life ( family or friends ) who would get involved.They always said it's your life and it you mess it up oh well.It is nice to know there are people in the world who will stick around to help out someone in need to the bitter end.Have a great day.

kj force 3 years ago from Florida Author

DREAM ON..I could never just sit by and watch another suffer through life..I have always gotten involved whether they wanted my feedback or not..all they had to say was " mind your own business". But I feel sometimes that is my purpose in life..my experience is to be shared with others, take it or leave it, it's your option..and my otion is to give it...enjoy the day..

Vickiw 3 years ago

kjforce, I just know we look at things the same way! Wonderful. Love your no-nonsense approach, and your underlying sense of humour. "on the same page . . . But not the same book.." I understand completely!

kj force 3 years ago from Florida Author

Vickiw...something weird happened..hp would not let me make comment without signing in..NOT with my name but my e-mail address.

the whole format appears to have changed..strange ?? I will call on my computer tech again tomorrow 3/17...I have been overwhelmed with gliches of late...thanks for visiting, and it helps when others like yourself " get me "...later