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You just focus on what you enjoy doing. You need to move on with your life and it gradually becomes only a faded memory. And it begins to seem not nearly as bad when you are in a really good place in the present because your life is filled with what you love doing. Eventually, everything becomes only a memory and these types of experiences often provide perspective. Ultimately, you realize that nothing is permanent, the good times or the bad times. Everything is in flux but your life still goes on.

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Try to put it in your past and move forward. It takes time, but as they say, time heals all wounds. When my first wife and I divorced, I was devastated. So much so that began to become a recluse. If not for my friends and family support pushing me to move on, I would have been in real trouble. It took me about 3 years before I could seriously move up to dating again. It shouldnt take you that long though, my experience was to the extreme. Hang in there, you'll make make it. Just give it time. Put the bad memories in the file cabinet in your mind and lock them away and move on. Good luck.

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Yes the love of a Bad guy.....just like wanting the love of your parents, it won't ever work. I have learnt that the hard hard way and realised I was acting out my childhood needs (that my dad would one day tell me He loved me) makes for such a bitter sweet familiar yet highly dysfunctional dynamic that will be nothing but trouble up ahead. Love yourself with the love you have always wanted..that works!