Dumbass sent me a message saying he's taking me back to court for contempt if I don't let him see the kids.

It must have been written by someone else the first time because there wasn't any misspelled words and he knew how to spell contempt.

He doesn't know I have emails from the caseworker where she says he is giving up visitation and was leaving it up to the kids when they wanted to see him. She also told me he was refusing her recommendations, which were requirements for visitation to resume.

Here's my reply. I probably shouldn't have sent this but I did.

You gave up visitation. You said you were leaving it up to the kids when they wanted to see you. They donít want to see you because of everything you put them through and the fact that you allowed (OW)to neglect and abuse them. They also donít believe that you are being honest now and they donít trust you. Both kids are still very traumatized by what has happened to them. (DD) is afraid to see you because she is terrified she will have to be around (OW) again. Both kids are still dealing with the emotional trauma of what you and (OW) have done to them and everything the both of you have put them through.

(OW) being in jail is hardly you breaking up with her. You still live with her family. You are still married to her. You havenít broken up with her. Sheís just in jail, yet again.

The kids have been very clear in what they want from you in order for them to start visitation with you again. You havenít done anything they have asked of you. You still protect your wife, the person who abused (DD) by throwing her up against a wall and throwing a glass of water at her, instead of protecting (DD). You did nothing but sit there and allow it to happen and then say it didnít happen. They also told you how she was treating them when you werenít around and again, you did nothing to protect them. You allowed her to be cruel to them. You allowed her to neglect them by not providing them with food or anything to drink all day. You told the kids to keep all of this from me. What you did was failure to protect.

What you need to do is start putting (DS and DD) first, start acting like a parent and doing whatís right by them instead of putting your wife first and protecting her, the one who abused and neglected the kids. Then maybe they will want to see you.

You can threaten me with court all you want but I am going to do what the kids want and I will not force them to see you. I have a caseworker and a ton of evidence that the neglect and abuse did happen. You also refused the requirements set by the caseworker and you are still obligated to make those requirements that she set before visitation can resume.

You also might want to get out that decree and read it. You are required to give me your address and phone number. You have refused or ignored every request I have made for that information, thereby forfeiting visitation. You are also required to pay a portion of the out of pocket expenses, which you have never done since the divorce. For the last time, since you refuse to give me your current address I will send all out of pocket expenses to your email address, (email addy) like I have been doing already.

These were messages over Facebook.

This is his reply.

To bad I'm getting u for comptent for felling there headed up with shit

Contiment

The only way he is taking me back to court is if mommy and daddy pay for it. He can't even pay for an attorney to represent him or the OW in all their other legal issues. She's still sitting in jail because he can't bail her out. I guess he also forgot he's probably getting furloughed any day now until the government ends this shut down.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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Gemini71♀ 40115Member # 40115

Posted: 8:04 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Seriously? That's how he spelled his reply? Let's hope he decides to represent himself. The court will have no idea what he's saying.

Edited to correct stupid typos.

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JessicaFL127♀ 26864Member # 26864

Posted: 8:06 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Wow, that response was almost unintelligible. It took five tries just to realize what he was writing. I think crickets are in order at this point, you have all the proof you need for the court and his illiterate opinion means nothing against the facts.

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lieshurt♀ 14003Member # 14003

Posted: 8:07 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Let's hope he decides to represent himself. The court will have no idea what he's saying.

A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

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SBB♀ 35229Member # 35229

Posted: 8:09 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

OK. Now that you've sent that no more responding peridot. Seriously.

You don't have to defend yourself.

You can't convince him of anything.

You can't prove anything to him.

You can't make him be a decent parent.

No more. Block him on FB, yesterday.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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peridot♀ 18334Member # 18334

Posted: 8:36 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

I'm not responding anymore and he's been blocked.

I'm not going to worry about him taking me back to court until it actually happens. He hasn't even contacted or seen the kids in over a year.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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hexed♀ 19258Member # 19258

Posted: 10:41 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Yeah....let him try that. DS's biodad was given a list of things by the court he was required to do before he could have visitation. He appealed that decision and got laughed out of court. One of them was to provide an address to me and the court. Another was a parenting class and continued psych eval. None of them over the top but he wasn't going to comply with any of it. Dumbass doesn't stand a chance

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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dmari♀ 37215Member # 37215

Posted: 11:26 AM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Wait ... who wrote the second email? Was it dumbass? I don't think you need to worry one teeny tiny bit ~ he is so delusional!!

OMG,could you imagine the court trying to decipher anything he typed up? I doubt he would even know how to file anything in court.

I'm not worried if he is stupid enough to take me to court. I have emails from the caseworker where he gave up visitation and said the kids could decide if they want to see him. Well, the kids decided and the answer was NO.

I'll also file contempt for all the money he owes me and when he doesn't pay he can share a jail cell with the OWhore.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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justabrokendream♀ 3075Member # 3075

Posted: 1:36 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Holy Cow - I'd love you to give me his Facebook ID - what a moran - I mean Moron!!!!

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dmari♀ 37215Member # 37215

Posted: 1:39 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Yes, the one with all the misspelled words and bad grammar is him.

This just makes it 1,000 times funnier. Thaenk u four maaking laffing me!

To bad I'm getting u for comptent for felling there headed up with shit
Contiment

Wow, just wow.

I feel like a master linguist because it only took me 5 attempts to translate the first part of that illiterate mess into English, but "Contiment"? I'm at a loss. Is that an alternate spelling for "comptent"?

Holy Cow - I'd love you to give me his Facebook ID - what a moran - I mean Moron!!!!

You have a PM coming. Anyone else who wants to see the idiot just post here or send me a PM. His photo on there is 5 years old.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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peridot♀ 18334Member # 18334

Posted: 1:56 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

This just makes it 1,000 times funnier. Thaenk u four maaking laffing me!

Glade I culd make u laff!

I feel like a master linguist because it only took me 5 attempts to translate the first part of that illiterate mess into English, but "Contiment"? I'm at a loss. Is that an alternate spelling for "comptent"?

Try reading it very early in the morning lol.

Think I must have hit a nerve. He's always been bad at spelling and grammar but not that bad.

I'd kinda like to see him try to take you to court. I mean, if he hasn't done what he's been ordered to then how exactly does he think he has a case?

Keep calm and carry on.

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Lola2kids♀ 32789Member # 32789

Posted: 4:06 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

How about a translation for that?
I still can't figure out what he was trying to say.

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hexed♀ 19258Member # 19258

Posted: 4:12 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

If he represents himself can I come sit in the audience on court day??

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

ďMany of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.Ē -foulton oursler

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peridot♀ 18334Member # 18334

Posted: 4:23 PM, October 10th (Thursday), 2013

Too bad no one fell his headed up with common since (sense).
What is the idiot to English translation for "contiment"?

His spel chek must bee mest up.

I'd kinda like to see him try to take you to court. I mean, if he hasn't done what he's been ordered to then how exactly does he think he has a case?

He has his own set of rules. The only rule is whatever he wants is right. Sooner or later he will learn the rest of the world isn't going to comply.

I doubt he can really afford to take me to court right now. He's being sued by everyone. The OW is in jail and can't even afford an attorney or bail. He's living with her family.

If he represents himself can I come sit in the audience on court day??