Last week in this blog Mary Zilba, one of the stars of the Real Housewives of Vancouver (RHOV), said she was hurt that her longtime friend and cast mate Ronnie Negus had forgotten about her when it came time to say who stood by Negus when her now 10-year-old daughter Remington nearly choked to death last February.

Zilba told me last week she thought it was odd that in the first couple of shows of this new RHOV season that Negus was openly grateful to Zilba’s arch rival (have you seen the show?) Jody Claman.

But faster than you can say reality TV ruins lives Negus’s PR person (yes the RHOV stars have PR people) emailed and said Negus wants to talk.

So fair is fair and in RHOV land agreement on any topic and last words are about as easy to come by as sensible shoes and low self-esteem.

“Without getting into it too much with Mary I wanted to tell you how I felt, and then be done with it,” said Negus recently over the phone. “The reason I mentioned Jody so much is because people, the viewers, would wonder how I went from never talking to her again at the final lunch (season 1 finale) to talking to her. It had to be explained.”

But while Negus has forgiven Claman for whatever transpired last season she says that the pair are not best pals.

“I don’t have a ‘blossoming’ friendship with Jody,” said Negus. “We don’t have dinners or lunches together mainly because we are both busy with our children and families and Jody also runs her business. I know her, I respect her and she has been nothing but nice to me.”

But whether or not she and Claman are best pals is not the thing that annoyed the mother of four. Nope.

“What really bothers me is a grown woman is using my daughter, that almost died to keep score,” said Negus. “It’s not about who came when, who brought coffee and who brought doughnuts. It’s not about that. It’s about my child. It actually disgusts me. Really when you think about it who does that?”

Negus says she doesn’t feel Zilba should feel left out or unappreciated.

“I told her when she came to the hospital and I cried in her arms that I was thankful she was there I told her all night ,” said Negus, who reports Remington is doing really well these days. “There were texts, you saw them right, where I thanked her? I invited her to the barbeque and told her I really wanted her to be there. How many thank-yous do you need? I just can’t believe Mary is using my child’s almost dying to get more attention. It’s not about you. I don’t know what to say, it’s just beyond.”

Negus didn’t stop her unloading on Zilba there.

“She complained last season that I never stood up for her when Jody was going after her, that I didn’t pick sides and support her,” said Negus. “You know in last night’s episode (No. 3 from last week) when Amanda (Hansen) came after me, where was Mary??? She was sitting right there she never said ‘don’t say that to Ronnie, or leave Ronnie alone.’ I think Mary has one set of rules for her and a different set of rules for everyone else.”

Speaking of episode three and Hansen taking aim at Negus, well that my friends is a funny story that taught Negus a lesson about taking on the Yoda of the RHOV role.

“You know when we were getting our nails done at my house and Amanda asked me about the show and what to expect, what to do?” said Negus. “I said if you want to be on again next season you have to be interesting. Boring won’t cut it. Then wow, she turns on me and uses my advice against me. I was a bit shocked that’s for sure. I thought ‘really you are using that against me?'”

But back to Zilba and Negus’s laundry list of complaints against the former Miss Ohio.
Zilba and her PR person (see I told you, everyone has one) both said that Zilba was booed whenever her image came up on the screen during the RHOV launch party at the Loden Hotel in Vancouver.

“Well maybe I was at a different screening party than her,” said Negus. “I went with my entertainment lawyer, my publicist, my assistant, my sons and my niece and I have asked all of them if they heard booing and every one of them said no. I think maybe what happened was that when her scene came on people just kept talking it was crowded and noisy. She didn’t get enough attention, I guess.

“I can tell you though that if there was booing I certainly would not have been joining in or participated in that type of behavior,” added Negus. “I am a sophisticated, grown woman. I am not going to boo someone.”

Has Negus finally had enough of all this reality TV BS?

“I can’t speak for the other women, but I don’t need to do this show. I am lucky enough to be financially secure. My husband I have worked very hard. I did it for the experience and donated my salary to charity,” said Negus leading me to the next question of will she return for a season three of the hit Slice TV show?

“I’m feeling a little worn out and tired,” said Negus. “It’s a lot of work and takes a lot of energy. But it is also a lot of fun at times as well.”

Pressed further Negus just laughed an added that she didn’t want to get sued. The production company has these women NDA’d (non-disclosure agreement) up to their perfectly coiffed hair.

So further RHOV gossip aside Negus says she is busy working on a kid’s book.

Why Mommy is a work in progress that Negus says should be out later in the summer, purposefully long past the end of season two of RHOV.

“I want to empower special needs kids,” said Negus whose daughter Remington has special needs due to being born premature. “I want teachers, parents and children to read this and see there is a better way one that makes the children feel better. I saw my own daughter get isolated because she was different. It breaks your heart. If you don’t have a special needs child you don’t really think about it. So for a long time I have wanted to write a book, well since Remy was born actually.”

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