Yoni – A Woman’s Second Heart

Yoni, the Sanskrit term for vagina, is translated as the sacred opening. In tantric tradition the whole essence of womanhood is considered sacred and yoni is the center of our femininity. It is said that a woman is a gate for discovering secrets of the universe.

In the western tradition Women have been in a downtrodden position for long time. David Deida, an American author of relationship books and a spiritual teacher, describes that we are coming from a relationship model where for centuries men have been “macho-jerks” and women have been “submissive housewives”. In recent decades women have started taking back their position in society, proving their worth, and showing that by no means are they inferior to men.

All of this has taken women into highly masculine energy and competition – being in this energy doesn’t create harmony neither for the female being nor to our partner relations. These developments have left the female sexuality in a very repressed state followed by feelings of ignorance, sYoni, the Sanskrit term for vagina, is literally translated as sacred opening. In tantric tradition the whole essence of womanhood is considered sacred and yoni is the center of our femininity. It is said that a woman is a gate for discovering secrets of the universe. In the western tradition Women have been in a downtrodden position for long time. David Deida, an American author of relationship books and a spiritual teacher, describes that we are coming from a relationship model where for centuries men have been “macho-jerks” and women have been “submissive housewives”. In recent decades women have started taking back their position in society, proving their worth, and showing that by no means are they inferior to men. All of this has taken women into highly masculine energy and competition – being in this energy doesn’t create harmony neither for the female being nor to our partner relations. These developments have left the female sexuality in a very repressed state followed by feelings of ignorance, shame and guilt. It is pointless and unnecessary to compete with men – our internal power needs to be restored by opening our femininity not by entering the masculinity. And to discover your feminine power you need to connect with your heart and Your yoni. Yogi Bhajan says that everything a man has, woman has 16 times more, when she is in her true feminine energy. It is a great privilege to be born as a woman in this world. This lacks to be seen in our society though. In India and China women terminate their pregnancy when they find out that they are expecting a girl. This has led to there being six men per each woman in China. Also many spiritual traditions say that it isn’t possible for a woman to become enlightened in this life. That the only thing she can do is be of service to men and god and collect good karma to incarnate as a man in the next life. No wonder we feel imperfect as women. History, however, knows many enlightened women. So if we don’t see ourselves as perfect, if the society says that there is something wrong being a woman, then how can we really fully accept ourselves. And the biggest tabu is our sexuality. Women who are open and in tune with their sexuality and not afraid to show it are called, whores, sluts and who knows what else. Men on the other hand are calles bachelors, studs, stallions if they are highly sexual. Women are being made to be ashamed of their sexuality and their body. And that brings us to the topic of this article: our Yoni. Yoni is like a city in China for most women: we have heard of it, but have never been there and don’t know much about it. Does it really have to be this way? The yoni is actually a living part of us. As many women have left their yoni without love – the connection between the heart and the yoni has been lost. And in my work I see many cases that our Yoni starts to act like a toddler who doesn’t get enough attention. What does this mean? I call it the yoni’s tantrum when a woman consistently has problems with her Yoni and its connected systems (vulva, uterus, ovaries or breasts). There might be re-occurring inflammations in the yoni, fungal diseases, bladder issues, cysts, etc. This is an obvious outcry for help from the body, that we have left on of the most important part of ourselves without love and acceptance. These problems may also arise when we don’t respect our body and let men use us sexually or when we let them use our yoni for emotional and physical discharge. Our connection to our yoni and sexuality affects our body in many levels. Weight is one of the issues that women struggle with. Why do so many women in their forties and sometimes even earlier start gaining weight especially in their pelvic area? It is because their sexual energy is stagnant. Our body is producing sexual energy constantly and simultaneously we need this energy to be in motion. When a woman starts gaining weight it is often a sign that her sex life lacks harmony and that the physical connection to her partner hasn’t gotten enough attention. Sexuality strongly affects daily well-being and in case of an unsatisfying sex life the body doesn’t produce many happiness hormones. And in turn women often look for anything external that may provide even a moment of satisfaction – eating, alcohol, shopping and gossiping. These only provide very superficial satisfaction and never bring deep inner contentment. What can be done to change these patterns? Start by not suppressing your sexuality and by discovering your yoni. Many women haven’t even glanced at it! Take time for yourself, use a mirror and take a long thorough look at your yoni. Notice how beautiful she is. It doesn’t matter what yours looks like – each yoni is completely different. Look at her and try to sense her by starting to touch and caress her. Try to understand what your yoni prefers the most: should the touch be more stronger or tender. Each woman is very different and thus we prefer different types of touching. Imagine how happy your partner would be when you can guide him and tell him exactly what and how you enjoy by knowing yourself thoroughly? This means that men won’t need to learn our bodies by trial and error anymore. If you don’t know how to make love to yourself, then how should anyone else know? Take time to carefully study your body. Making love to yourself becomes a very important part of our self-love when we mindfully approach sexuality. Self-pleasure has taken a rather negative tone these days and people are secretive about it. There’s actually nothing here to hide or be ashamed about. Get to know Your Yoni also on the inside. Many women have an immense fear of touching themselves inside. Try to face this fear and know that there’s no reason for it. Start slowly and try to find the most sensitive parts in your yoni: there are quite several and through these points women can feel internal orgasms that are feminine by nature and provide deep inner satisfaction. The clitoral orgasm usually only brings quick, short and superficial satisfaction, is masculine by nature, and brings more male energy to our being. Clitoral orgasms also diminish our internal sensitivity and this is exactly the reason why most women don’t experience internal orgasms. You’ll find completely new dimensions when you start moving away from explosive clitoral orgasms. Another important topic that is connected to our yoni is menstruation. Many women feel that it is something unattractive and shameful. And it’s actually an important part of our femininity. At that time our energy is very strong and we’re at peak potential of our sexuality. To get over your shame of menstruation it is excellent to make love during period. Women often come to yoni-massage at that time and the experience helps them get over their menstrual shame. Our menstrual blood is an extremely powerful liquid. In ancient Taoist tradition it was regarded as an elixir of youth – when old men wished to replenish their vitality they drank the menstrual blood of 20-year-old girls. If only we had the right knowledge about what is connected to our yoni and sexuality we could see many things differently. We actually can re-program our unconscious and enter it different information than what we carry from our ancestors. Our change is up to us. I wish you both courage and joy of discovery on this path, Beautiful Goddess! Namaste, Katrin hame and guilt. It is pointless and unnecessary to compete with men – our internal power needs to be restored by opening our femininity not by entering the masculinity. And to discover your feminine power you need to connect with your heart and Your yoni.

Yogi Bhajan says that everything a man has, woman has 16 times more, when she is in her true feminine energy. It is a great privilege to be born as a woman in this world. This lacks to be seen in our society though. In India and China women terminate their pregnancy when they find out that they are expecting a girl. This has led to there being six men per each woman in China. Also many spiritual traditions say that it isn’t possible for a woman to become enlightened in this life. That the only thing she can do is be of service to men and god and collect good karma to incarnate as a man in the next life. No wonder we feel imperfect as women. History, however, knows many enlightened women.

So if we don’t see ourselves as perfect, if the society says that there is something wrong being a woman, then how can we really fully accept ourselves. And the biggest tabu is our sexuality. Women who are open and in tune with their sexuality and not afraid to show it are called, whores, sluts and who knows what else. Men on the other hand are calles bachelors, studs, stallions if they are highly sexual. Women are being made to be ashamed of their sexuality and their body. And that brings us to the topic of this article: our Yoni.

Yoni is like a city in China for most women: we have heard of it, but have never been there and don’t know much about it. Does it really have to be this way?

The yoni is actually a living part of us. As many women have left their yoni without love – the connection between the heart and the yoni has been lost. And in my work I see many cases that our Yoni starts to act like a toddler who doesn’t get enough attention. What does this mean? I call it the yoni’s tantrum when a woman consistently has problems with her Yoni and its connected systems (vulva, uterus, ovaries or breasts). There might be re-occurring inflammations in the yoni, fungal diseases, bladder issues, cysts, etc. This is an obvious outcry for help from the body, that we have left on of the most important part of ourselves without love and acceptance. These problems may also arise when we don’t respect our body and let men use us sexually or when we let them use our yoni for emotional and physical discharge.

Our connection to our yoni and sexuality affects our body in many levels. Weight is one of the issues that women struggle with. Why do so many women in their forties and sometimes even earlier start gaining weight especially in their pelvic area? It is because their sexual energy is stagnant. Our body is producing sexual energy constantly and simultaneously we need this energy to be in motion. When a woman starts gaining weight it is often a sign that her sex life lacks harmony and that the physical connection to her partner hasn’t gotten enough attention. Sexuality strongly affects daily well-being and in case of an unsatisfying sex life the body doesn’t produce many happiness hormones. And in turn women often look for anything external that may provide even a moment of satisfaction – eating, alcohol, shopping and gossiping. These only provide very superficial satisfaction and never bring deep inner contentment.

What can be done to change these patterns? Start by not suppressing your sexuality and by discovering your yoni. Many women haven’t even glanced at it! Take time for yourself, use a mirror and take a long thorough look at your yoni. Notice how beautiful she is. It doesn’t matter what yours looks like – each yoni is completely different. Look at her and try to sense her by starting to touch and caress her. Try to understand what your yoni prefers the most: should the touch be more stronger or tender. Each woman is very different and thus we prefer different types of touching. Imagine how happy your partner would be when you can guide him and tell him exactly what and how you enjoy by knowing yourself thoroughly? This means that men won’t need to learn our bodies by trial and error anymore. If you don’t know how to make love to yourself, then how should anyone else know? Take time to carefully study your body. Making love to yourself becomes a very important part of our self-love when we mindfully approach sexuality. Self-pleasure has taken a rather negative tone these days and people are secretive about it. There’s actually nothing here to hide or be ashamed about.

Get to know Your Yoni also on the inside. Many women have an immense fear of touching themselves inside. Try to face this fear and know that there’s no reason for it. Start slowly and try to find the most sensitive parts in your yoni: there are quite several and through these points women can feel internal orgasms that are feminine by nature and provide deep inner satisfaction. The clitoral orgasm usually only brings quick, short and superficial satisfaction, is masculine by nature, and brings more male energy to our being. Clitoral orgasms also diminish our internal sensitivity and this is exactly the reason why most women don’t experience internal orgasms. You’ll find completely new dimensions when you start moving away from explosive clitoral orgasms.

Another important topic that is connected to our yoni is menstruation. Many women feel that it is something unattractive and shameful. And it’s actually an important part of our femininity. At that time our energy is very strong and we’re at peak potential of our sexuality. To get over your shame of menstruation it is excellent to make love during period. Women often come to yoni-massage at that time and the experience helps them get over their menstrual shame. Our menstrual blood is an extremely powerful liquid. In ancient Taoist tradition it was regarded as an elixir of youth – when old men wished to replenish their vitality they drank the menstrual blood of 20-year-old girls.

​​If only we had the right knowledge about what is connected to our yoni and sexuality we could see many things differently. We actually can re-program our unconscious and enter it different information than what we carry from our ancestors. Our change is up to us. I wish you both courage and joy of discovery on this path, Beautiful Goddess!