There is a reason for the phrase single gentleman. Anyone can be
a single male. It takes the extraordinary male to be a gentleman. In a world
sought after by so many single males, one must aspire to be a gentleman to beat
the odds. Simply put, men are a dime a dozen. Gentlemen are priceless, and the
skills that accompany this type of atypical male are ones that will win over
many a couple seeking you out.

1) Make a Good
Impression Before the First E-mail is Even Sent.

Single men who understand swinging know that their profile should be
comprehensive, humble and proofread. Yes, that’s right guys. In addition to
great pictures that show more than just your crotch, your profile should convey
that you care enough to convey more than just your desire for bedroom fun. It
should be articulate, insightful and checked over for grammar and spelling
mistakes. This may seem odd, but you certainly know the rule of first
impressions. If you place obvious value on preparing an attractive profile,
couples will infer that these high standards transfer into other arenas as well.

2) Be More
than Just a Man. Be a Gentleman.

First and foremost, there is a reason for the phrase single gentleman.
Anyone can be a single male. It takes the extraordinary male to be a
gentleman. In a world sought after by so many single males, one must aspire to
be a gentleman to beat the odds. Simply put, men are a dime a dozen. Gentlemen
are priceless, and the skills that accompany this type of atypical male are ones
that will win over many a couple seeking you out. Since the supply of single
men far outweighs the actual demand, it is necessary to go the extra mile when
attracting an interested couple or single lady. Remember those manners your
mother taught you? Use them.

3) Be One of the Rare Gentlemen Who ‘Gets It’.

Since the supply of single men far outweighs the actual demand, it is
necessary to go the extra mile when attracting an interested couple or single
lady.

There are certain unofficial rules of etiquette and conduct for single
males both on websites and out on ‘dates’. The ones that understand and
practice the unspoken etiquette have a far better chance of achieving what they
desire. There are many men who seem never to ‘get it’, therefore, they don’t
‘get any’. Singles should remember that when dealing with a couple, that there
are TWO people that comprise a couple. When you begin your communications with
couples, lead by addressing your e-mail to the man. Many men make the mistake
of only acknowledging the female, thereby showing instant disrespect. Develop a
friendly rapport with the male, and then you will make him more comfortable with
the idea of sharing his partner with you. If you look like a Calvin Klein model,
you will still get nowhere without the proper respect.

4) Drop Your
Pre-Conceived Notions

Men don’t have to look like models in order to break into the couples’
scene. The only ‘models’ that will truly get them far are model manners and
etiquette.

The best way to proceed to is be honest, respectful and unassuming. If
you get onto a site and expect nothing but threesomes every weekend, you’ll find
yourself sorely disappointed. Your actions can be the determining factor for
your success. The best way to approach the lifestyle is by not expecting
anything at all. Some of the most popular men on swingers’ sites are merely
there participating in the forums or chat. Get involved in these things and
remember to mind your manners. Singles are noticed via personality, wit and
no-pressure attitudes. It is usually these kinds of people that are kept ‘busy’
more than anyone else, because of their approach and general attitude. If you
become popular, it won’t be necessary for you to contact couples. They will
undoubtedly seek you out and contact you.

5) Be
Realistic.

It is not a matter of a few days until you can achieve your goal. The
key for everyone, including couples, is to have patience. For single males,
earning the trust of other members in the lifestyle community can take months.
If you are patient, this will pay off for you. It is well worth the wait. Just
as word spreads quickly if you act like a pig, word will also spread like
wildfire if you are the type of gentlemen couples seek. It all comes down to a
matter of class versus crass. Our lifestyle is largely based on having friends
with ‘benefits’. Be a friend, and the rest will come.