My partner and I (together now for 15 years and also 7 years apart) often thought of having a ceremony, but kept waiting to see if we could legally marry. The allure of getting married in another state (or Canada) just isn't there because, as these guys said, our lives are here. Why should all our friends and family have to travel half way across the country or to another country (though Windsor is only an hour away) to see us get married? Especially given that Michigan won't recognize such marriages.

As the years pass, I think we're now at the stage of "what's the point to get married"? Everyone already thinks of us as the "old married couple".

If it's just about legal rights, we could (one day) go to the county clerk's office and sign documents (like my sister-not-in-law and her husband did). Maybe we'll throw a big party for our 20th or 25th.

It's not like we've been waiting until after we get married to lose our virginity.(And I sure hope Richard and John aren't old-fashioned, either.)

Of course, it's always nice to see "old couples" and NY and the rest of the states should allow gay marriage - for both "old couples" and new/young ones, too!