Tag Archive | Boundaries

Going No Contact, for the most part, is a revolutionary move when dealing with disordered individuals. But, as with so many things in life… Every situation is different and has to be approached with due care and attention. Sometimes total No Contact isn’t even possible; you may have kids with the dude and have shared […]

“Am I overreacting?” “Isn’t it wrong NOT to give this person the benefit of the doubt?” “He’s never hurt me physically, so I don’t think he’s abusive, so isn’t it the right thing to do to stick it out and try to make the relationship work?” “Should I get out of this relationship, even though […]

First let me start by acknowledging women cheat too; however, there is a saturation of messages out there excusing men when they engage in cheating and it’s about time we started calling a spade a spade. Simply put there is NO excuse for cheating, I don’t want to hear about male insatiable sex drives and…

This TED video came up on the radar yesterday (I just discovered the TED channel recently, and I think it is SO the cat’s bum). Anyway, in a nutshell, an 11-year-old boy in Kenya, whose family raised cattle near Nairobi National Park, had a huge problem with lions jumping their fences and attacking their animals. […]

I do not accept your abuse. No, I do not deserve it. I do not buy your backhanded apologies, non-apologies, really. No, I’m smart enough to know the difference between the crap you are trying to dish out and a real apology. I will never accept future exploitation by you. The only reason you exploited […]

Those of us with histories of dysfunctional relationships really suck at math. Oh, I know, some of you will protest. You’re smart, geniuses in some cases. Some of you may have advanced degrees, even in professions that require a solid handle on mathematics. I get that. But when it comes to applying some principles of […]