I have no idea what normal women do, but I do not scream in labor. I am a quiet person when in pain. I just clench up and bear it. My sisters were with me during a lot of my second labor, and they couldn't believe how quiet I was. Now, I think a lot of the women screaming on tv are probably in the actual pushing stage? I don't know, I quit watching those shows a long time ago. But I can imagine that if I didn't have the epidural during the actual pushing part, I might get a little more vocal. But I am restrained person in general, so it's just not my nature to get all crazy.

When we took birthing classes for our first child, I remember one of the men asking if his wife was going to yell and swear and throw things at him. The teacher said - if that's what she normally does when she's mad at you, then yes. But if that's not in nature, then probably not. I found that to be true for us. I do not ever yell or curse at my husband, and I didn't in labor. It was mostly just a lot of quiet moaning, maybe some whimpering.

See, yelling and cursing was what I usually did when I was mad at my husband. I wasn't mad at him while I was in labor though. I think at some point I might have been just too tired to get like that? *shrug* There was some moaning and I'm sure I made some noise while I was pushing, but definitely not screaming. Actually, there was a point before I got the epidural (when I thought I might break the side-things on the hospital bed) when I was moaning/groaning/whatever pretty loudly. It seemed loud to me, but my husband and the nurse said it wasn't. And there was a lot of that where I was passing out for a few seconds over and over again, so I dunno. I kind of mentally shut down during labor, after my water broke. But I was actually consciously trying not to take it out on people. I'm sure I did in some way or another with my husband. I know I surprised myself in that, I thought beforehand that I'd want him to be there and "help" a lot through my labor, when actually I just wanted him to be there, but not touch me or talk to me unless I said so. So his job was pretty boring for him I'm sure. I felt bad about it, but I dunno... I'm in labor, I think I'm allowed to be picky?

The funny thing is... my labor started Monday and my son was born on Wednesday evening. Both my husband and I cannot remember a single thing about the day on that Tuesday. I remember Monday night to early Tuesday morning, because ChaoSS got some sleep and I couldn't. I remember Tuesday night and early Monday morning because that's when I was walking a lot and ended up crying a whole bunch and begging to go to the hospital and finally got to go when I was at 4cm. But that day in between is entirely lost to us.

I know we were on the subject of 'things women never tell you about labor' a while back, and I don't remember what thread it was, but I'm going to add it to this one.

*Warning* This is a TMI post......

I've been having some bladder trouble lately.I try to pee, and hardly anything comes out, but I always have the feeling that I need to go.I'm also up at least 3 times a night to pee.This is normal when I'm pregnant, but not normal when I'm not.

So, I went to the urologist to have him examine me, and I found out I have a *severe* prolapsed bladder.They judge it on a scale from 1-4, and I was a 3.So, basically, my bladder is hanging out of vagina!

I have to go for another bladder test, but I know I am looking at another surgery to fix this problem.I guess after 5 vaginal births, this really comes to no surprise.I'm pretty scared about the whole situation.My pelvic floor is so weak, I think it may just fall out!

The only good news I got when I was there, is that my uterus is where it's supposed to be.

It sounds like it's from tearing in the front wall, not from anything muscles could have prevented. At least that's what I understood a severely prolapsed bladder was. More than just sagging or bulging toward the vagina.

Like I said before, I had never heard of this. There's just so much we have to worry about from having babies! Geeze, can nothing be simple!?

It sounds like it's from tearing in the front wall, not from anything muscles could have prevented. At least that's what I understood a severely prolapsed bladder was. More than just sagging or bulging toward the vagina.

Like I said before, I had never heard of this. There's just so much we have to worry about from having babies! Geeze, can nothing be simple!?

I think you are right.Do you have that link I sent you before?Maybe you can post it here for more information?

Even though all of my babies have been just around 6 pounds, I seem to tear with every single delivery.

I'm so very curious about Mrs. Duggar, and if she has experienced any of these problems?

I think you are right.Do you have that link I sent you before?Maybe you can post it here for more information?

Even though all of my babies have been just around 6 pounds, I seem to tear with every single delivery.

I'm so very curious about Mrs. Duggar, and if she has experienced any of these problems?

My sister peed herself for while after she had her last 10lb baby she either had surgery or took medication can't remember which and she is fine now...

You tear each time How do you still do it? LOL One tear and id never do it again hahaha I'm glad this is my first and last because between itchy rashes, heartburn and not being able to walk i'm done hahahaha

My sister peed herself for while after she had her last 10lb baby she either had surgery or took medication can't remember which and she is fine now...

You tear each time How do you still do it? LOL One tear and id never do it again hahaha I'm glad this is my first and last because between itchy rashes, heartburn and not being able to walk i'm done hahahaha

Let me tell you - tearing is better than being cut. I got cut w/ my first one (despite their best efforts) because he had a HUGE head. And the healing from an episiotomy is awful! I was in soooo much pain for weeks and weeks, and still had tenderness right up until I had #2. Now w/ #2, they didn't cut me and I just tore a little on my own. I barely had any pain during recovery. And that tenderness I had before - gone. So if you tear on your own, and it's not too bad - it won't be quite as painful to recover from. Make sure that's something you talk about w/ your doc beforehand - that you want them to try and do everything to prevent an episiotomy. Have them rub warm washcloths on the area while you're pushing. You can also do this on your own:

Let me tell you - tearing is better than being cut. I got cut w/ my first one (despite their best efforts) because he had a HUGE head. And the healing from an episiotomy is awful! I was in soooo much pain for weeks and weeks, and still had tenderness right up until I had #2. Now w/ #2, they didn't cut me and I just tore a little on my own. I barely had any pain during recovery. And that tenderness I had before - gone. So if you tear on your own, and it's not too bad - it won't be quite as painful to recover from. Make sure that's something you talk about w/ your doc beforehand - that you want them to try and do everything to prevent an episiotomy. Have them rub warm washcloths on the area while you're pushing. You can also do this on your own:

I didn't want an episiotomy and got one anyway! Lucky me! Yeah, it's STILL tender. 18 months later. It's not painful or uncomfortable on a regular basis, just sometimes with certain activities.... My midwife was pressing around down there before she did my pap smear, and she was asking if it hurt, and when she put pressure on that spot, I had to actually say that it did hurt.

They cut me like RIGHT at the end, if I remember correctly. They probably could've just left it alone. He said "I'm going to do an episiotomy" and I looked up and *snip* too late. At least that time he never gave me a chance to say "no" so maybe it's technically *not* malpractice? Although I did say no to him removing the placenta on his own and he went and did that anyway.

Have I said before that I hate doctors?

Only time in my life I've ever had stitches. I broke a couple, so I'm not sure if I healed the way I should have. It was painful and really itchy too, so I was afraid it was infected, but had it checked and they said it was fine.

The epesiotomy is a brutal unnecessary practice. Birth positioning will prevent tearing as well as perennial massage. I never had the latter but my first birth had major tearing. The baby was in distress so I did the squat position to get her out, she didn't just slowly crown her head burst out, literally.

Even with the massive scarring from that tear I tore very minimally with the last 3. The last 2 were the biggest and I only skid marked with them.
I think this is impressive as my lady parts are actually quite small(or so says the 2 midwives and dr I saw for all of them)

I have never had any bladder issues other than when I was pregnant or shortly after birth. I do major kegals though. I was a runner in HS so I was worried my organs would fall out and I made sure to keep those muscles tight.

Eeek i need to compile all this info and print it out for my Drs appt next week, i just talked to my Mother & Sister on skype and i grilled them both about their labours lol I was my Mom hardest and longest to have and i was 6lb 9oz, i have a whole new respect for women who do this multiple times, i feel like i know nothing at all about pregnancy or childbirth and all the reading i've done still makes me feel unprepared...