Today my fiance.. who i have been with for 8 years was sentenced for rape.. 10 to life... he has been locked up for 8 months and i have had a terrible time without him in my life.. i'm hoping to meet new friends going through the same situation. the hardest part is knowing that he never raped anyone. i'm scared because i dont know if he will ever get out of prison since they added the life part... i understand he has to do a minimum of 10 years but the hardest part is wondering if we will ever get to be together one day. i've already swallowed the fact that we will never have the life we dreamed of.. a family and a house.. but now all i hope for is to see him one day. i am so lonely and depressed. nothing is the same without him and i no longer look forward to anything in life. i wonder if i'll ever get to hug him again. he also has a serious medical condition and was supposed to have brain surgery. doctors a year ago told us he had a 73% chance of having a stroke and dying if we didn't do the surgery. i am his power of attorney now but i am so scared that he won't make it out alive. he really is a caring, kind, good person and doesn't deserve this. i feel so lost.

Please try to not look too far ahead...take one day at a time, or even one hour, or one minute at a time. You'll work your way through the grieving process in your own time.....and never forget to take care of yourself, you're important too.

If he has not signed a HIPPA for you, please ask him to do that asap. Hopefully you won't need it, but its important that you have one given his medical issues.

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