#1 Don’t be selfish. When you’re talking to someone, don’t talk only about the things you know or like.

Start off by talking about something you know the other person would like. Only the charmers and smooth talkers know this fact.

To keep someone interested in the conversation, learn to build their excitement up by talking about things they like and they’ll end up having a longer and happier conversation with you.

#2 Smile a genuine smile. At first sight, a happy-to-see-you smile can make someone feel happy to see you, and relaxed to talk to you. Let your happiness be infectious to everyone around you. Don’t behave in a grumpy manner. Exude positive vibes and everyone else will feel uplifted after talking to you.

#3 Be comfortable in your own skin. Don’t fidget around or shuffle your feet nervously. Relax and feel comfortable wherever you are. When you feel positive, your vibes will make the other person feel more comfortable with you. Don’t be a fake and don’t try to be someone you’re not. Like yourself and others will be charmed by your presence. [Read: Easy tips to love yourself a lot more]

#4 Get them talking. If you want to know how to be charming, the secret is in getting the other person to feel like they’re doing all the talking. People like talking about things that revolve around their own lives. When you’re talking to someone, ask them about their day or recent activities. And be genuinely interested in what they have to say.

#5 Make others feel more positive. When you’re having a conversation with someone, compliment them about something you like, be it their clothes or their work. When you make the person you’re talking to feel positive and confident, they’ll enjoy talking to you more often. After all, you do make them feel good about themselves. Be gracious and yet, sincere and people will love spending time with you.

#6 Flirt and flatter. Don’t be sexual or excessively flirty, or you’ll come off as an incessant flirt. A charming person is someone who makes everyone feel good about themselves after a conversation. Say good things about the person you’re talking with, without overdoing it. As long as you’re likeable and warm, everyone else will enjoy a conversation with you. [Read: How to flirt with a guy without really flirting]

#7 Empathize with them. Relate to the person you’re talking to. They’ll appreciate it and feel a lot better. Always try to relate to them by saying something similar that happened to you too, especially when it’s something painful or less flattering and embarrassing. When you help people feel better about themselves, they’ll be grateful and find you a lot more charming and sweet.

#8 Be enthusiastic and lively in the conversation. Listen to what the other person says and add your own details now and then. By doing that, you’ll find more things to talk about and come up with new and interesting conversation pointers all through the conversation. Don’t ever look bored or you’ll end up hurting the other person’s feelings.

#9 Eye contact. The way you look at the person while talking to them can say a lot about you and the interest you have in the conversation. If you want to be charming and liked, open your eyes slightly wider than you normally would, and smile just a little bit. It reveals a sign of awe and deep interest. The person you’re talking to would feel flattered and continue talking for as long as you seem fascinated. [Read: 10 subtle eye contact flirting moves that always work]

#10 Be pleasant in your voice and the words you choose. Don’t yell or speak rudely if you want to be charming. Good conversationalists speak softly, in a pleasant voice. Unless you have no choice but to shout out to be heard when you’re in a group, be pleasant and focus more on your gestures and smile than anything else.

#11 Watch the signs. If someone feels bored or looks around a lot, change the conversation to something else. It probably means they’re not interested in what you’re talking about. You may think you’re being interesting, but more often than not, you may just be boring. A conversation involves at least two people. If you want to have a charming conversation, the people involved have to be interested in what’s being discussed.

#12 Touch. This is preferably used with the opposite sex and can do wonders in being likeable and charming. Now and then, touch the person you’re talking to. It builds a better connection and brings both of you closer. [Read: The art of flirting by touch]

#13 Know when to end the conversation. Don’t drag a conversation on forever, even if you think you have a lot of interesting things to say. Keep the talking balanced and make sure the person you’re talking to gets enough time to say what they want to say. And if you ever feel like you’re running out of things to say, excuse yourself and tell them you need to be somewhere else. If you want to be charming, it’s always better to end a conversation earlier in a happy way than drag something to the point of boredom.

Conversations are like fine wine. They get better the longer you talk to each other. Once you speak well with someone, they’ll subconsciously start speaking better to you. And what you’ll have in the end is a perfect conversation.

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DISCUSSION

Yes i find it helpful. I think it ‘s important to have pleasant conversations.

Andrew Burgon

Good points, Jake.

Another one is concerning someone you really like and wish to befriend that has a passion you know little about. Show genuine interest, delve into the topic with your new friends help even if it’s about something you have little interest in like rock climbing. Bonus points to you if you study up on it a little to help prime the pump of your conversational abilities on the topic for the next time you meet up and seeking to join the friend on one of their easier rock climbing trips.

Andrew Burgon

Gary

Ah, the genuine smile: one of life’s little lies. I can’t tell you the amount of people who go around telling everyone to smile, but don’t realize that the front they’re telling someone to put on is just a lie. It’s for that reason that I don’t believe in anyone’s smile. They’re fake and definitely overrated. I’d sooner go up to someone who sat around with a scowl or a blank expression than someone with a giant, toothy, childish grin. There’s just no reason for it in today’s world. Being real is definitely the best way to becoming more liked.

Francis

You could all ask my friends, they would all tell you how charming I am and they even get kind of jealous of me but they tell me when they do and I don’t keep my secrets to myself. I share what I know and being charming is just a skill that I learned over the years and I really didn’t have it at first. You really have to work on yourself long enough and hard enough to really make an impact to your personality. It all started when I was 14 years old. There was this old woman that looked like she had a really hard time walking and she needed to cross the street. I helped her and I overheard a young couple talking and the woman said that I was a charming boy. It hit me real hard on that day that I should be more like who I really am. A helpful person. Sure, it was really obvious to me back then on what to do, but I still had a learning curve to it. You can’t always be helpful and charming at the same time, they are just two different things but being helpful can help you become charming. It all beings with genuineness, you can’t be charming if you are not genuine. Be a genuine kind of person because no one likes a fake ass mother fucker. Try to help other people genuinely and keep that smile up like there’s nothing else you would ever want to do than to help that person out and it will make your charm increase. It’s the charisma as well that would increase in you when you become an inherently genuine person. Get rid of your fake attitude and actually like helping other people out because that will really make a huge impact on your dream of becoming charming and of course liked by everybody. I am the kind of guy I am right now because of the people that helped me and I help them back. You have to develop a strong give and take relationship with people.