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Like all good gifts from God, sex can be misused and perverted. Christian Post

Water is a gift of God, without which we couldnât survive. But floods and tidal waves are water out of control, and the effects are devastating. Fire is an energy-producing gift of God that gives warmth and allows us to cook. But a forest fire or a house burning to the ground or a person engulfed in flames is fire out of control-it is horrible and frightening. Water and fire are good things which, when they occur outside their God-intended boundaries, become bad.

Likewise, God designed sex to exist within certain boundaries. When exercised in line with Godâs intended purpose, it is beautiful and constructive. When out of control, violating Godâs intended purpose, it becomes ugly and destructive. Sex is a good thing which, when it occurs outside its God-designed boundaries, becomes bad.

The problem isnât sexâthe problem is us. Weâre sinners who can pervert, abuse, and rip away from their proper place the good things God created. The greater the gift from God, the more power it has both for good and bad. Inside marriage, sex has great power for good. Outside marriage it has equally great power for bad.

Chastity = Moral Cleanliness:

Being chaste means to be morally clean in:

Thoughts

Words

Deeds

Anything that leads to lustful thoughts, words, or actions are in violation of God's command to be morally clean.

Sexual purity means to not have any sexual relations before being legally married including any thoughts, words, or actions that generate desire and arousal. Keeping the law of chastity means not participating in the following:

Kissing passionately

Necking: kissing on the neck

Petting: touching private body parts of another person (with or without clothing)

Lying on top of another person

Arousing sexual emotions (in your own body or that of another person)

Masturbating

Viewing pornography

Reading/watching/listening to anything that arouses sexual feelings

Fantasizing or dwelling on sexually arousing thoughts

Sexual Sins are Extremely Serious:

Committing sins of a sexual nature violate God's law of chastity and offends the spirit, causing one to be unworthy of the presence of the Holy Ghost. The only sins more serious than those of sexual sins are that of committing murder or denying the Holy Ghost. Vigilantly avoid every temptation to participate in any inappropriate sexual activity, including thoughts, no matter how "innocent" the behavior may appear- because it is not innocent. Small sexual indulgences lead to greater sins, including sexual addictions which are highly destructive and extremely difficult to overcome.

Repentance = Sexual Purity:

If you have broken the law of chastity by engaging in anything impure you can become sexually pure again through sincere repentance. Through following the steps of repentance you will feel the love of your Father in Heaven as your sins are forgiven. You will also feel the peace that comes from the Holy Ghost.

Victims are Innocent:

Those who have been the victims of sexual abuse, rape, incest, and other sexual acts are not guilty of sin but are innocent. Victims have not broken the law of chastity and do not need to feel guilty for the inappropriate and abusive sexual acts of others. For those victims God does love you and you can receive healing through Salvation..

Sex and marriage go together. Sexual union is intended as an expression of a lifelong commitment, a symbol of the spiritual union that exists only within the unconditional commitment of marriage. Apart from marriage, the lasting commitment is absent and the sex act becomes a false expression, a lie.

Every act of sex outside of marriage cheapens both sex and marriage. Sex is a privilege inseparable from the responsibilities of the sacred marriage covenant. To exercise the privilege apart from the responsibility perverts Godâs intention for sex.

Sex is designed to be the joining of two persons, of two spirits, not just two bodies. Sex should be giving to someone to whom Iâm 100% committed (as measured by the state of legal marriage), not taking from someone to whom Iâm uncommitted or partially committed.

âBut we really love each otherâ has no bearing on the ethics of sexual intimacyâsex does not become permissible through subjective feelings, but through the objective lifelong commitment of marriage.

Sexual purity is not an option for an obedient Christian, itâs a requirement. Godâs will is centered on our character and moral purity much more than on our circumstances, such as job, housing and schooling. You want to know Godâs will? You donât have to wonder. Here it is: âIt is Godâs will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immoralityâ (1 Thessalonians 4:3). There is no sense seeking Godâs will in other areas when you are choosing to live in sexual impurity in your mind or body.

âWho may ascend the hill of the LORD? Who may stand in his holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart.â (Psalm 24:3-4) a and 24:3-4)

âIf I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.â (Psalm 66:18)

âIf anyone turns a deaf ear to the law, even his prayers are detestable.â (Proverbs 28:9)

ââWhen I called, they did not listen; so when they called, I would not listen,â says the LORD Almighty.â (Zechariah 7:13)

Sexual purity is inseparable from a committed Christian life. If you are not living in sexual purity, God will not hear your other prayers until you offer the prayer of confession and repentance and commit yourself to a life of holiness (1 John 1:9).

âBut I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heartâ (Matthew 5:28).

You will inevitably adopt the morality of the programs, movies, books, magazines, music, Internet sites and conversations you participate in. GIGOâGarbage in, garbage out; Godliness in, godliness out. The cognitive is basic to the behavioralâyou become what you choose to feed your mind on.

Sow a thought, reap an action; Sow an action, reap a habit. Sow a habit, reap a character. Sow a character, reap a destiny.

Your future can be accurately predicted by what you allow your mind to dwell on. Sinful actions donât come out of nowhereâthey are the cumulative product of little moral compromises made over time, which ultimately culminate in ungodly behavior.

Thereâs nothing new about sexual temptationâwhatâs new is how it has invaded our homes. In first century Corinth there were prostitutes all over the streets, but when you entered your home you had a sanctuary from the temptation. We live in a technological Corinth, where immorality can come into the privacy of our home through airwaves (television) and modems (the Internet). Most of us are only a few pushbuttons away from sexual immorality of the mind. Every choice we make to view and contemplate immorality desensitizes us to its evil.

Actions, habits, character and destiny all start with a thought, and thoughts are fostered by what we choose to take into our minds. Therefore we should take extreme care about what we feed our minds on.

âAbove all else, guard your heart [mind, inner being], for it is the wellspring of lifeâ (Proverbs 4:23).

If someone wants to pollute water, he pollutes it at its source. If he wants to purify water, he purifies it at its source. Our thoughts are the source of our lives. All our lives flow from our mind, and through the choices we make every day we program our minds, either for godliness or ungodliness.

Our minds are not a vacuumâthey will be filled with something. It is necessary to turn our minds from the worthless, but itâs not sufficient. We also must fill our minds with good thoughts that crowd out and combat the bad ones. Itâs not enough to say âdonât think about anything bad.â (If I say, âdonât think about spiders,â what do you think about?) We must also choose to think about the good. (If I say âthink about your favorite dessert,â pretty soon you stop thinking about spiders.) Time in the Word, in prayer, and in conversations with Christ-centered friends reinforces our commitment to purity.

We canât avoid every temptation, but we can avoid many of them, and we can certainly resist their attempts to take hold of us. Martin Luther said, âYou canât keep the birds from flying over your head, but you can keep them from making a nest in your hair.â

Be careful what you expose your mind to. If youâre on a diet, donât go to Baskin & Robinâs. If you do, your resistance will break down. If you want to abstain from lust you donât go places and watch movies and programs and read things that stimulate lust.

Yes sex is a demanding demeaning control tool to use that men will drop over a wives' (yes even her, his own flesh) lol, how ? how can't they, they just don't CARE.

Yes, since funding is lost for women and they aren't being helped out with shelter help, we could see shelters being forced to house men, women and kids all together, if something is not done QUICKLLLLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As to my point earlier, when I asked if you were talking about the historical "we"....Here you make this reference, " I only believe its the first written set of laws from God to man." This could be true if you refer to God in abstract, as whatever higher power a culture builds its theology around. There are many cultures/religions around the world that included a set of moral rules. Christianity is by far not the first or only one to do this and many were written down before the Christian Bible was translated from its oral tradition into words....in fact, much was taken from the previous cultures that existed prior to Christ. Most world religions share a common value system of morals based on "the golden rule" and have built out very similar moral guidelines, or laws, as you state. Here are just a few examples of how this is a shared concept that doesn't exclusively belong to Christianity, or even the Judeo-Christian tradition.

BahĂĄ'Ă­ Faith:

"Ascribe not to any soul that which thou wouldst not
have ascribed to thee, and say not that which thou doest not." "Blessed
is he who preferreth his brother before himself."
Baha'u'llah

"And if thine eyes be turned towards justice, choose thou for
thy neighbour that which thou choosest for thyself." Epistle to
the Son of the Wolf. 1

Brahmanism: "This is the sum of Dharma [duty]: Do naught unto others which would
cause you pain if done to you". Mahabharata, 5:1517 "

Buddhism:

"...a state that is not pleasing or delightful to me, how could I
inflict that upon another?" Samyutta NIkaya v. 353

Hurt not others in ways
that you yourself would find hurtful." Udana-Varga 5:18

Christianity:

"Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men
should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the
prophets." Matthew 7:12, King James Version.

"And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to
them likewise." Luke 6:31, King James Version.

"...and don't do what
you hate...", Gospel of Thomas 6. The Gospel of Thomas is one of about 40
gospels that circulated among the early Christian movement, but which
never made it into the Christian Scriptures (New Testament).

Confucianism:

"Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to
you" Analects 15:23

"Tse-kung asked, 'Is there one word that can serve
as a principle of conduct for life?' Confucius replied, 'It is the word 'shu' --
reciprocity. Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.'" Doctrine
of the Mean 13.3

"Try your best to treat others as you would wish to be treated
yourself, and you will find that this is the shortest way to
benevolence." Mencius VII.A.4

Ancient Egyptian:

"Do for one who may do for you, that you may cause him thus
to do." The Tale of the Eloquent Peasant, 109 - 110 Translated by R.B.
Parkinson. The original dates to circa 1800
BCE and may be the earliest version of the Epic of
Reciprocity ever
written. 2

Hinduism:

This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain
if done to you. Mahabharata 5:1517

Islam: "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for
his brother what he wishes for himself." Number 13 of Imam "Al-Nawawi's
Forty Hadiths." 3

Jainism:

"Therefore, neither does he [a sage] cause violence to others
nor does he make others do so." Acarangasutra 5.101-2.

"In happiness and
suffering, in joy and grief, we should regard all creatures as we regard our own self."
Lord Mahavira, 24th Tirthankara

"A man should wander about treating all creatures as he
himself would be treated. "Sutrakritanga 1.11.33

Judaism:

"...thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.",
Leviticus 19:18

"What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man. This is the
law: all the rest is commentary." Talmud, Shabbat 31a.

"And what you hate, do not do to any one." Tobit 4:15
4

Quoting cammibear:

Who thinks the bible was the first set of laws ever? I only believe its the first written set of laws from God to man. All other laws are mans attempt at justice.

Look, I'm sorry for being mean or condescending. It has obviously blinded you to any of the points I'm trying to make.

Our laws extend beyond the Constitution. You might not "see" God and the Bible in our federal constitution, but you will find both all in our state and local constitutions and laws. And when deliberating our federal constitution, the Bible is the number one quoted source. How can you continue to deny its impact on our laws? Laws dictate what is right and wrong. History proves the Bible had a great influence in the writing of our laws.

Quoting mikiemom:

I find it weird that so many christians think their bible was the first set of laws ever. Try any archiology site, look up the Indus Valley. Our Founding fathers deliberately did not write our constitution around the bible. Get over it The US is not a christian Nation. Your religion can not dictate right and wrong for anyone but yourselves.

Quoting cammibear:

Okay, since you know so much, what sources can you site that we based our laws on? Because all you've given me so far is the Code of Hammurabi. ;)I guess those that wrote our laws that quote the bible as a source don't know what their talking about? I think you just don't want to admit defeat.

I think you need some Naughty sex in your life to opens your eyes and see that the world is soo much better when you have more SEX! Remember Jesus had a wife and possibly a blood line, Mary Magdalen wasn't just one of his Disciples ;) Jesus was a godly man with manly needs he turned water into wine for crying out loud! What do u have to say to that misuse of water huh!?
Get a clue God isn't out to get the ones who have dirty raunchy sex. Maybe you should curse the evil assholes who rape and molest children and women yet claim to be in Gods graces(priests,preachers,ministers,etc,etc..) leave us willing and sane adults to our dirty sexual ways and attack the real evil ones!

But we are talking exclusively about the USA, and these unites states used the Christian bible as a source for our laws on morality.

They also used the English Common Law, which used the Christian bible as its source.

Why is it so important to rewrite this part of our history? Why are you all so adamantly protesting this known historical fact?

I honestly just don't get your hatred for everything "Christian", and the attempt to make it anything but.

Quoting NWP:

As to my point earlier, when I asked if you were talking about the historical "we"....Here you make this reference, " I only believe its the first written set of laws from God to man." This could be true if you refer to God in abstract, as whatever higher power a culture builds its theology around. There are many cultures/religions around the world that included a set of moral rules. Christianity is by far not the first or only one to do this and many were written down before the Christian Bible was translated from its oral tradition into words....in fact, much was taken from the previous cultures that existed prior to Christ. Most world religions share a common value system of morals based on "the golden rule" and have built out very similar moral guidelines, or laws, as you state. Here are just a few examples of how this is a shared concept that doesn't exclusively belong to Christianity, or even the Judeo-Christian tradition.

BahĂĄ'Ă­ Faith:

"Ascribe not to any soul that which thou wouldst not
have ascribed to thee, and say not that which thou doest not." "Blessed
is he who preferreth his brother before himself."
Baha'u'llah

"And if thine eyes be turned towards justice, choose thou for
thy neighbour that which thou choosest for thyself." Epistle to
the Son of the Wolf. 1

Brahmanism: "This is the sum of Dharma [duty]: Do naught unto others which would
cause you pain if done to you". Mahabharata, 5:1517 "

Buddhism:

"...a state that is not pleasing or delightful to me, how could I
inflict that upon another?" Samyutta NIkaya v. 353

Hurt not others in ways
that you yourself would find hurtful." Udana-Varga 5:18

Christianity:

"Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men
should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the
prophets." Matthew 7:12, King James Version.

"And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to
them likewise." Luke 6:31, King James Version.

"...and don't do what
you hate...", Gospel of Thomas 6. The Gospel of Thomas is one of about 40
gospels that circulated among the early Christian movement, but which
never made it into the Christian Scriptures (New Testament).

Confucianism:

"Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to
you" Analects 15:23

"Tse-kung asked, 'Is there one word that can serve
as a principle of conduct for life?' Confucius replied, 'It is the word 'shu' --
reciprocity. Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.'" Doctrine
of the Mean 13.3

"Try your best to treat others as you would wish to be treated
yourself, and you will find that this is the shortest way to
benevolence." Mencius VII.A.4

Ancient Egyptian:

"Do for one who may do for you, that you may cause him thus
to do." The Tale of the Eloquent Peasant, 109 - 110 Translated by R.B.
Parkinson. The original dates to circa 1800BCE and may be the earliest version of the Epic of
Reciprocity ever
written. 2

Hinduism:

This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain
if done to you. Mahabharata 5:1517

Islam: "None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for
his brother what he wishes for himself." Number 13 of Imam "Al-Nawawi's
Forty Hadiths." 3

Jainism:

"Therefore, neither does he [a sage] cause violence to others
nor does he make others do so." Acarangasutra 5.101-2.

"In happiness and
suffering, in joy and grief, we should regard all creatures as we regard our own self."
Lord Mahavira, 24th Tirthankara

"A man should wander about treating all creatures as he
himself would be treated. "Sutrakritanga 1.11.33

Judaism:

"...thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.",
Leviticus 19:18

"What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man. This is the
law: all the rest is commentary." Talmud, Shabbat 31a.

"And what you hate, do not do to any one." Tobit 4:154

Quoting cammibear:

Who thinks the bible was the first set of laws ever? I only believe its the first written set of laws from God to man. All other laws are mans attempt at justice.

Look, I'm sorry for being mean or condescending. It has obviously blinded you to any of the points I'm trying to make.

Our laws extend beyond the Constitution. You might not "see" God and the Bible in our federal constitution, but you will find both all in our state and local constitutions and laws. And when deliberating our federal constitution, the Bible is the number one quoted source. How can you continue to deny its impact on our laws? Laws dictate what is right and wrong. History proves the Bible had a great influence in the writing of our laws.

Quoting mikiemom:

I find it weird that so many christians think their bible was the first set of laws ever. Try any archiology site, look up the Indus Valley. Our Founding fathers deliberately did not write our constitution around the bible. Get over it The US is not a christian Nation. Your religion can not dictate right and wrong for anyone but yourselves.

Quoting cammibear:

Okay, since you know so much, what sources can you site that we based our laws on? Because all you've given me so far is the Code of Hammurabi. ;)I guess those that wrote our laws that quote the bible as a source don't know what their talking about? I think you just don't want to admit defeat.

I think you need some Naughty sex in your life to opens your eyes and see that the world is soo much better when you have more SEX! Remember Jesus had a wife and possibly a blood line, Mary Magdalen wasn't just one of his Disciples ;) Jesus was a godly man with manly needs he turned water into wine for crying out loud! What do u have to say to that misuse of water huh!?
Get a clue God isn't out to get the ones who have dirty raunchy sex. Maybe you should curse the evil assholes who rape and molest children and women yet claim to be in Gods graces(priests,preachers,ministers,etc,etc..) leave us willing and sane adults to our dirty sexual ways and attack the real evil ones!

That is an out and out LIE!Jesus did NOT have a wife. Mary Magdaline was a follower. She was indeed a woman he cared about.. But no differently than he cared for the other women who followed him... Ex his own mother who stood at the foot of his cross and Jesus gave the disciple John charge over her.. If he also had a wife he most assuredly would have given charge over her to John as well.. Which he obviously didn't! Yes Jesus did change water into wine. No it wasn't a misuse of water.. It wasn't until 1850's or later that The Welches family found the answer to the question of the ages.. How do you keep the fruit juices from changing into wine.. The Welches family from New York found the key to keeping the juice from becoming fermented. And hence previous to that.. ALL JUICES became wine within days of being juiced. That is HISTORICAL FACT! So in those times it wasn't even a possibility for people to not drink wine.. Which is why Jesus didn't say don't drink.. He said don't become drunken!

As to your insinuation that all "ministers or clergy" molest children.. I know you're angry at the sins of absolutely sick individuals.. And you have every right to be! But 90% of the reason that the Catholic Priests have been put into that position is that their branch of Christendom has FORBIDDEN THEM TO BE MARRIED. Making it impossible for them to cure their sexual urges in a healthy way.. I never said that all sex is evil.. That is what ignorant people have assumed I said since they wouldn't read the article that was posted. I SAID THAT THE ONE HEALTHY AND GOD ORDAINED WAY TO HAVE HEALTHY SEX... WAS WITHIN THE MARRAGE RELATIONSHIP.. So if your married and having sex.. I don't care what kind of sex or how kinky etc.. But if you're doing it within the bounds of marriage... THEN YOUR COVERED! However the other reason people are lit up over this topic is that I also made it clear without coming directly out and saying it.. But GOD'S DEFINITION OF MARRAIGE IS THAT OF ADAM AND EVE.. NOT ADAM AND STEVE.. If you have a problem with that.. Take it up with GOD... Not me! As for perverts.. MY MEANING BEING PEDOPHILES.. They come from all walks of life, not just men.. Not just homosexuals, not just heterosexuals.. FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE.. So you can't blame them all on Christianity, or clergy either!

So what - ok so you only have sex in the missionary position with your husband - Yikes I feel for you but for you to expect anyone else to comply with this is just unreasonable and wrong. It would only be intolerant if we told you that you had to have naughty sex lol - sorry but it is intolerant of you to tell us that we can't

Quoting JavaLadybug2:

Quoting beehive7:

I think you need some Naughty sex in your life to opens your eyes and see that the world is soo much better when you have more SEX! Remember Jesus had a wife and possibly a blood line, Mary Magdalen wasn't just one of his Disciples ;) Jesus was a godly man with manly needs he turned water into wine for crying out loud! What do u have to say to that misuse of water huh!? Get a clue God isn't out to get the ones who have dirty raunchy sex. Maybe you should curse the evil assholes who rape and molest children and women yet claim to be in Gods graces(priests,preachers,ministers,etc,etc..) leave us willing and sane adults to our dirty sexual ways and attack the real evil ones!

That is an out and out LIE!Jesus did NOT have a wife. Mary Magdaline was a follower. She was indeed a woman he cared about.. But no differently than he cared for the other women who followed him... Ex his own mother who stood at the foot of his cross and Jesus gave the disciple John charge over her.. If he also had a wife he most assuredly would have given charge over her to John as well.. Which he obviously didn't! Yes Jesus did change water into wine. No it wasn't a misuse of water.. It wasn't until 1850's or later that The Welches family found the answer to the question of the ages.. How do you keep the fruit juices from changing into wine.. The Welches family from New York found the key to keeping the juice from becoming fermented. And hence previous to that.. ALL JUICES became wine within days of being juiced. That is HISTORICAL FACT! So in those times it wasn't even a possibility for people to not drink wine.. Which is why Jesus didn't say don't drink.. He said don't become drunken!

As to your insinuation that all "ministers or clergy" molest children.. I know you're angry at the sins of absolutely sick individuals.. And you have every right to be! But 90% of the reason that the Catholic Priests have been put into that position is that their branch of Christendom has FORBIDDEN THEM TO BE MARRIED. Making it impossible for them to cure their sexual urges in a healthy way.. I never said that all sex is evil.. That is what ignorant people have assumed I said since they wouldn't read the article that was posted. I SAID THAT THE ONE HEALTHY AND GOD ORDAINED WAY TO HAVE HEALTHY SEX... WAS WITHIN THE MARRAGE RELATIONSHIP.. So if your married and having sex.. I don't care what kind of sex or how kinky etc.. But if you're doing it within the bounds of marriage... THEN YOUR COVERED! However the other reason people are lit up over this topic is that I also made it clear without coming directly out and saying it.. But GOD'S DEFINITION OF MARRAIGE IS THAT OF ADAM AND EVE.. NOT ADAM AND STEVE.. If you have a problem with that.. Take it up with GOD... Not me! As for perverts.. MY MEANING BEING PEDOPHILES.. They come from all walks of life, not just men.. Not just homosexuals, not just heterosexuals.. FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE.. So you can't blame them all on Christianity, or clergy either!

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