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"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

if you can get cards to the police station of the town, they will make sure he gets them. they said they were planning on giving him tons of cards that have come in at a birthday party in a football stadium.

BTW - this is the 1st crisis or tragedy of any kind that i have never seen a single photo of the victim or a family member on TV or print news. they must be very fragile and private. the mother was said to be "hanging by a thread." the whole family is going to need therapy. they will need a lot of support.

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"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

It's certainly been traumatic for the boy and his family, and you're right that they're going to need a lot of therapy and support. But the thing is: they'll get it.

That town will rally around that family and that boy will be treated like a hero his whole life -- because his trauma isn't taboo. There's no supposed shame connected to it, no reason for his parents to deny that it happened.

His healing journey will start well before ours ever did. Hate to rain on the parade, but that's what I feel in these sorts of situations. Wish I had that. Didn't.

Cant

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But he grew old, this knight so bold / And upon his heart a shadow / Fell as he found no spot on the ground / That looked like El Dorado.

We don't know what his trauma was, Cant. The guy had a lot of time alone with him. There also was no toilet in the bunker and nothing to allow for privacy for those functions.

yeah...i was afraid to suggest that. i was stupified that none of the news media that i saw even hinted at that concern - maybe because he could see it all on TV? they just followed the party line that "he's taking good care of the boy." like a kind uncle or something - we all know what that can mean... i was/am so afraid for the boy. to make it worse, he and i share the same birthday - and this was happening at that time. i know what it's like to have bad stuff come back on every birthday for all your life.

lee

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"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

We don't know what his trauma was, Cant. The guy had a lot of time alone with him. There also was no toilet in the bunker and nothing to allow for privacy for those functions.

yeah...i was afraid to suggest that. i was stupified that none of the news media that i saw even hinted at that concern - maybe because he could see it all on TV? they just followed the party line that "he's taking good care of the boy." like a kind uncle or something - we all know what that can mean... i was/am so afraid for the boy. to make it worse, he and i share the same birthday - and this was happening at that time. i know what it's like to have bad stuff come back on every birthday for all your life.

lee

Nor did the law enforcement heed his best interests. They were careless. All the sirens blaring and cracking of equipment and shutting of car doors could probably be heard within the bunker. That made things worse rather than better. The man had severe mental health issues and needed to be treated with caution. The boy needs the best counseling that money can buy and it should be paid for out of the public coffer.

A lot of this resonates with some of what I went through. The Fox Dr that wrote that article is spot on with much of what he is saying. The most important thing is that he be given support, love and acceptance. As to the trauma of the rescue, the police did what they needed to. As to the guy needing help, he certainly did right up to the point that he killed the bus driver and took a child. After that, he needed elimination for the good of the human race.

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