Wednesday, 25 September 2013

BELFAST SEX ABUSE VICTIM SPEAKS OUT

BELFAST SEX ABUSE VICTIM SPEAKS OUT

ON MONDAY NIGHT LAST, SEPTEMBER 23RD ULSTER TELEVISION - UTV - TELEVISED A VERY SAD AND TOUCHING PROGRAMME ABOUT THE PRINCIPLE VICTIM OF FATHER JAMES DONAGHY - THE DOWN AND CONNOR PARISH PRIEST WHO IS SERVING 2 TERMS IN PRISON.

THIS VICTIM HAS BEEN AND IS KNOWN AS "VICTIM A" - FOR HIS OWN PROTECTION.

I KNOW WHO VICTIM A IS AND I HAVE BEEN HELPING HIM AND HIS FAMILY FOR 11 YEARS.

IN FACT IT TOOK ME 8 OR 9 YEARS TO GET THE LEGAL AUTHORITIES AND THE CHURCH TO ACCEPT THAT THIS AWFUL ABUSE HAD TAKEN PLACE. IN FACT THE VERY FIRST MEETING BETWEEN THE POLICE AND VICTIM A'S FAMILY TOOK PLACE IN MY HOME IN LARNE.

I ALSO ACCOMPANIED VICTIM A'S FAMILY TO A VERY IMPORTANT MEETING AT THE BELFAST HOME OF THE THEN BISHOP OF DOWN AND CONNOR - BISHOP PADDY WALSH.

PADDY WALSH.

BISHOP PADDY WALSH RESOLUTELY REFUSED TO ACCEPT THAT FATHER DONAGHY WAS GUILTY OF SEXUAL ABUSE.

IN FACT FATHER DONAGHY HIMSELF SAID THAT BISHOP WALSH WOULD ALWAYS BELIEVE HIM AS A PARISH PRIEST - RATHER THAN BELIEVE A LAY PEOPLE LIKE THE DONAGHYS.

FATHER DONAGHY ALSO TOLD VICTIM A'S FAMILY THAT HE HAD "SOMETHING ON BISHOP WALSH" THAT WOULD MAKE BISHOP WALSH NOT ACT AGAINST HIM.

AT THE MEETING WITH BISHOP WALSH I ASKED THE BISHOP IF FATHER DONAGHY HAD SOMETHING ON HIM. BISHOP WALSH LOOKED AT THE FLOOR AND SAID "NO"?

HOWEVER, IN SPITE OF THIS VICTIM A WAS VERY BADLY SEXUALLY ABUSED BY FATHER DONAGHY FROM THE AGE OF 13 TO 20.

JAMES DONAGHY HAS A FOOT FETISH AND MASTURBATED OVER VICTIM A'S FEET. HE ALSO TRIED TO ANALLY RAPE VICTIM A TWICE.

THE ABUSE HAS HAD A PROFOUND EFFECT ON VICTIM A AND HAS LET TO YEARS OF STRESS AND MENTAL SUFFERING FOR HIM AND IN RECENT TIMES THE BREAK DOWN OF HIS MARRIAGE. HE IS NOW 31.

THE DIOCESE OF DOWN AND CONNOR HAS ACCEPTED NO REAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THIS AWFUL ABUSE OF VICTIM AND TWO OTHER VICTIMS INCLUDING ANOTHER DOWN AND CONNOR PRIEST CALLED FATHER PATRICK MC CAFFERTY.

FATHER PADDY MC CAFFERTY

BISHOP NOEL TREANOR, THE CURRENT BISHOP OF DOWN AND CONNOR OWES VICTIM A, FATHER MC CAFFERTY AND THE THIRD VICTIM A MASSIVE PUBLIC APOLOGY.

HE ALSO OWES THEM THE BEST COUNSELLING AND SUPPORT MONEY CAN BUT.

FURTHERMORE HE OWES THEM A VERY LARGE COMPENSATION FIGURE.

ON THE OTHER HAND - BISHOP PADDY WALSH - BELONGS IN COURT AND PERHAPS IN PRISON.

THE REPLAY OF THE ABOVE MENTIONED PROGRAMME CAN BE FOUND ON UTV REPLAY

All Irish Catholics owe this man a great debt for standing up to the abuse enablers -the corrupt, immoral and perverted paedophile-protecting Catholic hierarchy who have disgraced and twisted the teachings of Jesus. How many times have we heard their excuse: 'We did nor know how damaging it was (for children to be raped and buggered) ?'. Lovely people -and immune from justice still, well protected by the state and the legal vultures.

I would also say that in the past the Irish community has played a major part in encouraging the mindset that some members of the church have remained above the law. It's all very well being retrospectively angry, but let's examine why everyone kept silent so that it doesn't happen again.

Correction: - I should have written "certain Bishops" are evil, as I am full of admiration for some bishops, such as Archbishop Diarmuid Martin, for their efforts to address the issue of child protection within the Roman Catholic Church.

Thank God I was never sexually abused. If I put my mind to it I believe I could point out items of psychological abuse in St. Anne's when I was in Sligo. Point here is WELL DONE PAT! You have stuck by a person in distress & it is real concrete stuff like this that makes a difference. The Church is a human organisation & like all big organisations will have its pitfalls. Thing about the Church is that it should be the first in addressing these issues & be a role model for society. Sean

What has been done has been done, and only time and the guidance of the Holy Spirit will heal the wounds left. Also there is the point that what goes round comes round, and vengeance is Mine saith the Lord! By the way institutional abuse is not confined to the Catholic Church. What about Kincora Boys Home? Not that the fact it is widespread is any help to the victims - but the risk is that anyone who dislikes a priest can now claim abuse by him.

Having seen that daniel curran and now that D&C protected moster of humanity Donaghy, has only recieved few years for his brutal and oppertunistic crimes, it makes me wonder if is now becoming worthwile reporting these crimes, only to see the perpetrator jailed for very short periods.

I as a member of S.A.V.I.A are at present getting ready for the enquiry into institutional abuse within ALL instutitions. i am fearfull at the signal this gives to fellow victims and survivours. we are being asked by all sides to persuade our members to come forward and give their statements to the P.S.N.I with the hope of getting convictions for the crimes committed.

It is becoming increasingly frustrating when the law allows these vile people after, a few years to be free again, when we have to suffer unending pain and suffering. (No wonder since they seem to have their very own judges and lawyers, well done UTV for saying it).

I have every faith in the upcoming enquiry but wonder if we will every get justice for the hanous crimes committed against us.OUR STRUGGLE CONTINUES.

We were not invited to the D&C Congress and when we offered to attend and speak we got a swift NO, GO AWAY!

J - S.A.V.I.A

PS - Did the Judge from North Belfast get a front row seat, the one who tried to get Donaghy an easy time. I think the law people are vile as well.

More crocodile tears will be shed today from the catholic church and the D&C congress , I demand an international inquiry by an independent body into these vile people and anyone trying to hide or withhold information should be imprisoned without trial , there is no excuse to sexually molest children and hiding behind a cross cant be allowed in this day and age.

This includes the law people making things easy for these people. Vile with NO conscience, what a mix.

Thats a very good question Bishop Pat on 'does there roll lead them to it?' This is a global problem that Governments and World leaders should study more to prevent, instead of flooding our internet and television with porography! As for Moravian in Belfasts statement saying priests should marry, I don't think this would stop them becoming peadophilles eg. look at how many married men throughout the world that have sexually abused children. If what Christians are saying is true and that its the work of the devil, if we look at the world today then I think its safe to say hes doing a good job at trying to destroy the church and good human nature. Besides all that our hands should go up to David and others for having the strength and courage to speak out publicly and I hope David and his family work things out. Stay strong.

Living a 'normal' life after sexual abuse can be nearly impossible such is the damage caused to the victim. THEY live with the guilt and shame ALL of which belongs to the perpetrator. Some would say abusers have an ' illness'. Personally I totally disagree , they make a CHOICE and act on that evil choice. I hope 'David' can find the support he needs to enable him to lead the life he deserves after being so brave in bringing this man to the courts and thereby possibly saving others from him.

Shame on the Diocese of D&C for not doing everything and anything to heal this situation. I really do not understand how these men think. Are they robots who pretend to have humanity??

I, George McKee, born in 1948, was placed into care at the Nazareth Lodge on the Ravenhill Road, Belfast sometime towards the mid to late 1950s as my father had taken T.B. and my mother a mental breakdown.My brother and sisters were also in care under the Nazareth Sisters.I was beaten often for no reason. I was locked out in the snow freezing in a shirt and short trousers for sneaking and eating an apple because I was hungry. I was beaten severely about the head by a blunt instrument, for turning on the water tap.The Sisters never allowed me to see my brother or sisters for the period I spent in that home. I often cried as I was so lonely, frightened and unhappy not to mention confused and unloved.As a small child I felt abandoned there, the Nazareth Sisters were wicked and showed no care or God’s love as they should have. I was always frightened and constantly nervous in there not knowing when I would be beaten again. I feared approaching or speaking to a Sister as they were very volatile in temperament and physically violent so they were unpredictable.At meal times I remember them being very plain and the Sisters ran a strict regime, whereas if I didn’t like or want to eat something they would have violently force fed me in front of all the other children or just beat me with their hands or a solid object. I only remember eating porridge or bread and feeling underfed.One day I went into the vegetable store hungry to find something to eat. A man with difficult breathing noises attacked me from behind, he seemed an elderly person. He covered my eyes and mouth and choked me and I was frightened to die and in shock kept still. He used my body as a sex object and masturbated upon my body as he choked me. I never moved or looked until he was gone. I didn’t know what had really happened to me and what the stains were on my back side but I knew it was a wrong evil act. I felt ashamed. To this day I don’t know who this man was.These memories I have only of recent years confided to with my immediate family due to unnecessary feelings of shame and guilt as the Sisters always made me feel wrong and shameful instead of them.I feel very sad and empty inside when that place enters my mind which is very often as I have always suffered with my nerves since and depression to which I receive treatment. I feel that my time and trauma in Nazareth Lodge has hung over my entire life very negatively and been the reason I am ill. I also suffer from reflux type problems in my stomach and irritable bowel which I have had to have years of treatment for with antacid and muscle relaxants. This to me stems from being there as a small child with a stomach in knots constantly.I can feel emotionally numb towards people and find it difficult to get attached to people as far as showing feelings are concerned and forming close relationships, I‘m also withdrawn and shy in nature. I blame the unholy time and abuse I was subjected to at Nazareth Lodge for having profound affects on my mental and emotional well being.The thought of children being treated like this in this day and age horrifies me and I hate to think that it ever happens to anybody.