Why Your Girlfriend Doesn't Watch Porn

Watching porn may be a regular part of your routine. But do women watch porn? Have you tried to get her to watch it with you to no avail? Why does it turn you on so easily while it leaves her cold? Here are some of the reasons why your girlfriend doesn't watch porn:

Porn is visual

Most porn is aimed at a male audience. A man’s sexuality is easily stimulated by visual cues alone, while a woman’s desire is provoked more by emotional or mental aspects. This is why the little porn that is made for women or couples is more story line based, as opposed to a succession of arbitrary hardcore sex scenes. For women, it is more important that the sex act be in the context of a larger story. In most mainstream porn, foreplay is a foreign concept and the actors usually jump straight to the (often extreme) sex.

For a fun, story line-based porn, try the big budget Pirates. If she doesn’t like the sex, she can at least be entertained by the porn stars sword fighting with CGI skeletons.

Porn actors are ugly

The only important part of a man’s body in mainstream porn is his penis. This may be why there are so very few attractive men in straight porn. In fact, many male porn stars are downright ugly (Ron Jeremy anyone?). Gay porn actors are almost always handsome, but since most heterosexual couples don’t get off with the Brokeback thing, you might want to try a movie from the Playgirl collection: hot guys and hot chicks having hot sex.

When it comes to female porn actors, very few women appreciate the standard stick thin, fake breasted, bottle blonde with collagen-filled lips that seems to be featured in most porn movies. Try a movie with Vivid star Sunny Leone for a refreshing alternative to the stereotypical porn star. Her breasts may be fake, but at least the girl’s got curves!

Porn is contrived

Women are less tolerant of the contrived situations featured in porn. More often than not, it seems as though the people having sex on the screen don’t even like each other. The old "in and out" may be good enough for you, but your girlfriend will likely respond better to characters that genuinely want each other. It’s not fair to expect Oscar-caliber performances from our porn actors, of course, but a little sexual tension goes a long way.

Female porn director Tristan Taormino’s Chemistry is an unscripted, reality TV-style movie that has been praised for its depiction of spontaneous, authentic desire among its cast members.

Porn is degrading

There are many things that happen in pornography that women find degrading or disgusting. Admit it — there are some acts you have to watch in porn because your girlfriend would never agree to try them in real life. Most women do not enjoy facials, rough anal, gagging oral, ATM, or many of the other hardcore sex acts frequently seen in mainstream porn.

Try Veronica Hart’s Edge Play for scenarios that focus on a woman’s pleasure, happily devoid of ejaculate on women’s faces.

Porn is slutty

Women are not generally encouraged to be sexual like men are. For fear of being called nasty names, many women are hesitant to show too much sexual drive or to admit to getting pleasure from things like pornography. If your girl is afraid to watch porn because she thinks it’s slutty, ease her into it gradually by starting with the erotica of female director Candida Royalle, a pioneer in the genre of couple’s porn.

she's just not that into it

As you can see, there are several elements to mainstream porn that just don't mesh with most women's sexuality, which is probably why your girlfriend doesn't watch porn. That being said, if you make the effort to find out what she likes and what turns her on, maybe you can find something to share onscreen.