My Story: I Was Afraid Of Becoming An Outcast – The Girl Who Got Threw Out Of Her Husband’s House

“The abuse started with foul language. Soon, he started hitting me. It got worse day by day. Sometimes, he would beat me so badly that I would be unconscious for hours. I begged for my school tuition, even the food. Not having any friends or family in an alien country, I accepted that this was what my life was going to be.

I married this man in an arranged marriage when I was 17. He lived in the United States and had me apply a student visa to come to him as I was studying at the time. It seemed like the opportunity of a lifetime back then. It was not. It was my worst nightmare. The abuse went on until his mother kicked me out of the house. I was diagnosed with insomnia, PTSD, depression and had no idea what to do next. My family wanted me to come back to Pakistan, but I was afraid of becoming an outcast – the girl who got kicked out of her husband’s house. I decided to get back on my feet on my own. I didn’t have a work permit so I started doing odd jobs for 80 hours a week and continued my studies, barely sleeping more than two hours a night.

Until I bought a cheap car to call home, I stayed on the streets and in shelters. I graduated from the University of Texas at Dallas in 2013 and today I am a software engineer. I am engaged to a man who is also my best friend. He makes me happy and makes it easier to forget my past. The reason behind me sharing this is that at times we don’t see what future has to offer and we lose hope. We shouldn’t. Nothing is impossible – impossible itself says “I’m possible” which means you can have happiness in your life despite your past. However, this is only possible of you let it go and focus on the future.”

My Story: My Mom Dropped Out Of School To Help Grandma Financially & Started Selling Idlis At The Age Of 10

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This Mother’s Day, Let Us Make A Real Difference In Our Mother’s Life

“All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” – Abraham Lincoln

Mothers play a crucial role in our lives. Since we were little, they held our hands, acting as our guide into the world. They took care of all our needs – from teaching us how to hold a spoon, cooking delicious meals for us, dropping us to school and sitting with us while we struggled with our math homework – mothers have been there through thick and thin.

On the special occasion of Mother’s Day, Friends Adult Diapers has a beautiful message for each of us – treat your mother the way she has treated you all her life.

It was our mothers who stayed up all night taking care of us when we fell sick; it was her who help us with our homework. This Mother’s Day, remember to take care and support your mother the way she took care of you all these years.

The minds and bodies of our ageing parents dwindle as they grow even older, and somewhere in the incoherence of understanding their thoughts, children lose patience. They spend less and less time with their parents and hire others to look after them. A study by HelpAge India gives accounts of the elderly, most of whom testify to verbal abuse, neglect and disrespect by their children. Old people rely on their children for both emotional and financial support but, often times are not given the needed care.

There is little difference in how we were as toddlers and how parents are as senior citizens. They couldn’t understand the gibber we uttered then, yet taught us different languages. We were financially dependent on them till at least 18 years of age yet, they never said no to giving us pocket money. Why cannot we echo the same patience our parents showed for so many years?

Our parents have an unconditional love for us. They made sure all our needs are cared for and we never feel alone. When we grow up and our parents enter old age, they require the same care and affection. They would be delighted if we spent time with them after classes or work, make tea or cook for them and also help them with household chores when they have too many things at hand.

It is our responsibility to stand with our parents when they are weak; it is our responsibility to cook for them when they are too tired, and it is our responsibility to take care of them when they fall sick.

Mother’s Day is a celebration in honour of motherhood, a tribute to maternal bonds and the influence of mothers in society. Let us make a real difference by showing how much we truly care for our mothers.

Friends Adult Diapers has taken a wonderful initiative in this regard. The most precious gift for a mother is her child. So why not take this as an opportunity to shower her with the same love? After all, she deserves it for being with you through every obstacle and every hardship that you faced.