You’ll Never Understand

As I sit here trying to put all my thoughts into words, all I can think about is how much I love you and how spending the rest of my life with you means so much to me. I’ve never had so much unconditional love for someone before other than my children. And I thank GOD every day for everything we have together; but in the past 24 hours I’ve felt every emotion imaginable to the point that it makes me physically sick.

It’s extremely important to me that we work towards a resolution together about everything, otherwise it’s too difficult to move forward when we’re always stuck in the past. I understand that owning a house is a high priority for you as it is to me; but a house is not a home to me unless I have my kids there to share in it with me. The statement that was made yesterday about me being fiscally irresponsible was impolite and careless. As I’ve worked extremely hard to fulfill my obligations, both financially and parentally. I’ve made tremendous strides to get to where I am today and I look at every situation set before me as an experience that has made me a better and stronger person today because of it.

My bank account or career might not be at the measure of your expectations right now, but for me the past 5+ years I’ve exceeded my presumptions to some degree; and no matter what the world throws at me I will continue to strive for success on every level. I’m a strong women and I will always triumph. It’s your choice on whether you want to be there with me to relish in it. Generally speaking if you take away all the material objects and someone’s livelihood what do they have left? Nothing – those people have absolutely nothing.

We’ve had our fair share of differences and quarrels over the years and we’ve always been able to work things through, but I’m sorry I refuse to allow someone to convey to me to give up on fighting for my kids. This is NOT an option for me.

Friends come and go, life flies by right before your eyes. Struggles meet you in the face to watch you slip up. People who you thought cared about you leave you to fight alone when you need them the most. Communication takes practice, it’s never perfect and sometimes not patient, sometimes it’s not kind, but through all life’s struggles and successes everyone wants someone there with them; no one wants to be alone.

My priorities are with my family, because ultimately they are all I have; I would fight for you and I would hope you would fight for me!

Life’s too short to be angry and I refuse to allow money to be my demise. There’s more to life than money. The real measure of your wealth is how much you’d be worth if you lost everything. People who truly love and care for you don’t care about your money!

The man who has no money is poor yes, but the one who has nothing but money is poorer. Remember 5 years ago to life as you knew it; and remember that someday you could be there again.

The above letter was to my BF in response to a disagreement about me paying the bill for the Attorney I had to hire because I’m in the middle of a custody fight with the children’s Father. Unfortunately the legal system isn’t always so black and white and after several un-represented hearings and no progress I decided to do what any parent fighting for their children would do, you call an Attorney.

My BF is more focused on money and saving to buy a house then the people that would reside in the house.

This post was for the sole intent for others who might be in a similar situation, to stay strong and know you’re not alone!

Your boyfriend doesn’t want you to hire a lawyer to get your kids back because of money?? That sounds extremely selfish of him. It’s not like you’re blowing the money on a designer bag or something. I’m so sorry you’re going through this and I hope you get your children!!

@Misstiff: I’m glad to hear you have them, I hope you can keep them. Won’t he agree to joint custody? During my divorce that was my worst fear but we worked it out; my son stayed with me and my ex had visitation.

@babytoes: Yes, he’s upset that the cost has started to dwindle down our savings account and as he says “our dream of owning a home is slowing becoming more a dream and less of a reality!” You’re right he is being extremely selfish and last night was my breaking point. I will pay 500K to keep my kids, as any parent would. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.

@Misstiff: Aw, I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. It’s a very well-thought out and powerful letter. I especially love the line “The real measure of your wealth is how much you’d be worth if you lost everything.” There isn’t a more true statement.

@MrsWBS: I couldnt agree with you more, my Grandmother always said “Money doesn’t guarantee happiness and you cant take it with you when you die.” I totally understand now as an adult what she was talking about! Thank you for your support, it means a lot . 🙂