Most Helpful Guy

1. May be he is shy, reserved type so it's highly unlikely he will make a move ( ever). Hence he lacks the capacity to ask her out, to pursue a woman.

2. He could be the type of guy who was actually never interested in her in first place, say he only wants friendship or in the worst case he only wants a physical relationship from her.

3. Another reason could be that he only finds her physically attractive and so has a very strong lust on her and nothing more.

4. Another reason could be that he just doesn't trust women in general, he might have come to a conclusion that a woman will never love him and will eventually leave him for some other guy either by cheating on him or out of her own free will to leave him ( he is being proactive and thinking about the future).

5. A very common reason and in relation to point #4 he is protecting himself from getting hurt which is natural and understandable.

6. Another reason could be the fact that he lacks the capacity the skill to take the risk and ask the girl out and see what happens, he rather believes in playing safe. Means he would continue liking her but only from a distance.

Most Helpful Girl

-If he thinks one of his friends is also into her or has had a relationship with her in the past-If she is really popular and has a lot of guy friends he might feel like she won't have eyes for him when she has so many options-If she does not seem interested in him he might decide against pursuing her to save him from the rejection

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3 things come to mind rightaway:1-Some women have an attitude problem, the kind that exales "I dont need anyone, Im my own woman", which is always terrible and reeks of "you're expendable to me"2-Fear/panic3-BS assumptions, like: "she'd never date me", "she probably has a boyfriend, too pretty to be single", "she probably has a dozen dudes flirting with her everyday, many of which probably are prettier/smarter/funnier than me, Im not special at all", "she's a high maintenance girl, Im not good enough", "Im terrible at flirting, she'll think Im an idiot"...

Fear of rejection and shyness.Personally, I do it because of science. Studies show that most dating relationships in college (don't even talk about high school!) distract you from your studies. [https://elitedaily. com/dating/intro-dating-relationships-college-dont-mix-well/798893/] Not only so, even after graduating from college it is highly plausible that you still don't know what kind of girl you want. You might not think you guys work well together. [https://elitedaily. com/dating/sex/why-you-dont-need-to-date-in-your-twenties/] Now, there are obviously arguments that counter this opinion. This notable blog attempts to refute my argument [https://tolovehonorandvacuum. com/2014/12/dont-wait-until-you-finish-college-for-relationship/], however, I notice multiple flaws. Firstly, this author is VERY biased--she has a husband--she is in a GOOD relationship, in the MINORITY, look at the average rate of marriage for goodness sake [https://national. deseretnews. com/article/4535/us-marriage-rate-hits-new-low-and-may-continue-to-decline. html]!Secondly, the author uses very unconvincing sources. Ha! Sources, what am I talking about? She relates to ZERO sources, no psychologist, no relationship experts, no studies whatsoever. Not only so, she appeals to RELIGION which is pretty bad since she's gambling on the fact that you're NOT an atheist. Is she stating that atheists shouldn't marry? Her whole entire argument depends on GOD. What kind of stupid argument is that?Case closed. If anyone finds another source refuting me, please challenge me (same name) on debate. org, and we shall argue to our hearts' content!

Show him signs that ur interested like Talk to him often or even u can ask him out for a coffee together Why slow down the process of making loveHe is just too shy and thinks if he make some move u might reject him which is a big deal for shy guys

"I've definitely made the move, he's just not made the next one, that's all." Has he just been passive, or actually given indication that he doesn't like you?

One possible answer is that he's simply clueless, and might have just interpreted your move as just being friendly and missed the sexual cues. I'm speaking from experience here- it took me a full three months to realize that my former girlfriend was actually interested in me...

There is not to much that would stop me if I wanted to date her.. it would not even matter to me if she wore adult diapers and rubber pants... and I have dated a few that have had those on.. I like women very much.. always have... they all bring something to the table.. take care

Well if that was the case I would try to at least chat with her one day.. and hope that we hit it off.. if all went well.. a lunch date or maybe even going to see a movie would be brought up by me... there are no set patterns for me to try and get a date but am not desperate to find one.. I just hope a bit of luck is on my side.. we then go from there

Race and everything that comes with it. Men are rational, not emotional. For men, having a crush or falling in love with someone is irrelevant when it comes to dating or asking girls out.Speaking from a White guy's perspective, I can tell that White men don't date women who belong to cultures associated with negative stereo-types, which really almost includes all non-White girls except East Asian girls.And even then, only White guys who hate White girls and feel hated themselves and rejected by them (without actually ever trying to ask a White girl out) date East Asian girls.Well, and when it comes to White girls, most White guys don't hit on them or ask them out anymore either. Most White guys believe that all White girls nowadays are feminists, which means they hate White males (that's what feminism means from a White guy's perspective), and that they prefer to date non-White guys.Of course, White girls only date non-White guys when they themselves feel hated and rejected by White guys, so we're having a rather twisted and complicated situation on our hands here.

Hey in this day and age with transgenders and PC, apparently we are supposed to you the pronoun of the person's self-described gender identity. So, "she" and "her" no longer preclude the existence of a penis... But that penis precludes a relationship with me...

You've been talking to a smart, cute, witty girl for about a year. You acted as though you liked her and started talking to her, she liked you back. She expressed aforementioned like and you became distant. Any reason you'd do that when she's been open and honest with you and made efforts to keep in touch with you when you haven't?

Did you ask him out for coffee? Anything that would indicate you want things to go beyond platonic? I see the exact same questions from men asking women, "why does she seem not interested anymore".

Sometimes the simplest answer is the best. Initiate the conversation that you want to have with the individual you want to have it with.

See where it goes. The very worst possible scenario is that he rejects you and stops talking to you. Then you will have your answer. At 30+ years of age you should have encountered this though. So what gives, is there another reason or signal that he has not sent?

I was actually married for most of my twenties...I'm really just trying to understand how it goes from constant texting for months to barely any interaction even though everything has always gone smoothly and you get along great. I guess I'm wondering what might cause you guys to lose interest.

Time. If anyone shows interest and for some idiotic reason the neanderthal male doesn't ask at the proper time, then we may see it as a possibility for a future relationship. So you get shuffled to the back burner, or "friendzoned." Don't stand for that, grab him by the balls, twist, and say "I ain't just a damn friend"... well by interpretation of course. The literal would be assault and battery.

Asker... a lot of men today are products of feminism , including why you are having problems too. This is the bottom line of course. Again thinking with thier dicks not thier heart. The butthurt train keeps getting longer and longer. The butt hurt will feel what feminism has used against him , he'll use against her too. Rebellious instead of genuinely being attracted. So now thier going to complain about a true relationship and how that won't work instead. Being scared thier not benefitting from relationships anymore. So I guess they just hit and run instead now days. Shows you how shallow and hollow some can be. So they pass on all the good ones , while at the same time cry about not being able to get a good one in thier life. Sorry but that's really immature.

I agree with the hollow statement and the passing on good ones then being upset about not finding anyone good...I think that's why I'm confused, because he has the opportunity to have someone good, but isn't taking it. Thanks for sharing!

personal story. She verbalised that she wanted me to take her out to some restaurants outside of work for dinner. I didn't have my phone at the time, and no pieces of paper to get her number. I wrote all that in an email later to her because it was convenient since we both are in the know that we like each other. She backed out because I didn't do that in person.

her facehey bodyher personality who she hangs out withwhat she does in lifeher relatives her religious views her gross income her amount of passed relationshipshow many time's she's mated without wanting children her pastwhat she expects from youwhat she expects from others That's all I can think of off the top of my head

Ever heard of the phrase 'the juice isn't worth the squeeze?'' That's the conclusion I came to after taking a deeper look at dating, even if she was smart, pretty and witty.

The other day, a guy I know also came to the same conclusion. The same thing has happened with a lot of guys I know as well.

Of course, it could be something else but that's one possible reason... I think guys are much more likely to spend time and effort when they are on auto pilot, in fantasy land and have not taken the time to logically do a cost benefit analysis.

Yes but it's not just the effort, it's input Vs output. I used to spend my weekends pursuing women but I never stopped to think whether there was something better to be doing with my time because I was doing what a guy does without any logical thoughts.

Now, I'd never even think about doing that, let alone actually spending the time haha.

Good point. I feel like I've made clear the sacrifices I'm willing to make were we to decide to be together... that's what seems to have freaked him out. So, I'm feeling like by me asking him, it's push him all the way away.

Not interested in a relationship cause for some men for them dating means serious relationshop even if they are not really in a relationship just in the phase of getting to know each other to see if thing will work out or not but some mean just relly like to be single, free of relationship drama with a lady therefore they dont care not to date.

He probably thinks you're not into him. Too many smarty, witty girls give off an "eff the world" vibe that keeps guys at arm's length. They're afraid to be vulnerable and flirt openly with guys, so guys just assume that she's not interested. It's even worse if she's really attractive.