Modern Dating Advice for Smart Singles

Build Up Your Game With Positive Internal Dialogue

The question I’m always asked is: How can a man feel comfortable talking to women?

I’m sure women are sometimes just as equally nervous talking to men but since women don’t solicit my opinion on that topic I’m leaving them out of this post.

There is inner game and there is outer game. I possess inner game because I can walk into a room, decide what man I want to talk to me and within the time I’m there that man will approach.

Even if I have to conveniently walk past him once or twice, I feel absolutely confident that he will talk to me. How do I know this? Unlike women, men have a need to meet people. They are more likely to seek social validation. In a bar or club men are far more invested in meeting someone new than women are. Women will sit in corners, buy their own drinks and remain occupied with their friends the entire night.

I don’t know why this is but I know it exists and I exploit it. The way that I built my inner game, which is a combination of attraction qualities and confidence, is with a strong inner dialogue. It may not have been the answer you were looking for but consider the following.

Every human being is susceptible to influence. Humans possess the ability to plant a seed of thought into another human being with suggestion. We naturally and willingly enter others’ minds and let others enter our own. We create impressions. Inner game transfers your thoughts about yourself to another person, so whatever you think they will think. This is why it is imperative that you create a positive inner dialogue.

When single people, men and women, have an inner voice that says, “I know I don’t look good. I am not attractive. I am not as interesting or cool as the person I desire.” What do they expect potential dates to think?

Thoughts such as, “Women intimidate me. I fear being rejected,” infiltrate your body language, your speech and create the message “I’m at your mercy”. And yes, men you are. Like a puppy begging its owner for attention, is how I’ve seen men approach women. With the attitude of ‘please validate me’.Stop reading if you disagree.

My inner dialogue says, “I like who I am. I validate myself. I am happy. I accept myself. I don’t need your circus.” When I meet men I don’t ask for their opinion of me, I give it to them. The next time you meet a woman make sure to do the same.

I thoroughly loved your tips on if you want to keep your man.. Though I myself comes from the men fraternity yet could not refrain from liking the minute detail you explained as I Could have easily relate to each point 😄. That's why , the marriage kills the romance because of those bad traits.

Miss Solomon - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

Thank you for your comment, and for reading. My advice is this. A man should be cherishing and chasing you. A man should be worried that he will lose you if he doesn't show you attention. If a man isn't treating you like you're valuable to him, don't stay with him. Show your own value by leaving him alone. You don't need anyone in your life who makes you feel like you're second class. I hope this was helpful.

Miss Solomon - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

Thank you so much for your comment and thank you for reading! I know this is easy to say but the best way to approach men that you like is to remove yourself from the outcome. Yes, you want a date, and I think it's great that you took the initiative but don't beat yourself up about the outcome. The circumstances might not be right. There is one way I recommend taking action in dating to see results. It's a simple process - Step 1. Write down 3 possible scenarios A,B,C - A being if nothing happens, B being if it something happens but not what you expected, C being if your ideal results happen. Then try to imagine how you would feel in each scenario. Prepare yourself for no response, for a rejection, or for a date. If you're prepared for any outcome, its easy to take action. Just don't NEED anything certain result. Just take action because you're a brave person willing to take risks, and go after what you want. Instead of worrying about the result, just focus on taking action. It's not about what happens, it's about taking the action, accepting the result as feedback and moving forward with new information. I think you did a great thing! and the action itself means more than the result because you showed confidence. If you don't get a date, that's ok. But don't stop right taking action where you can. I hope this was helpful.

Danica - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

there is this guy who flirts with me, shows all 32 teeth when smiling at me and sighs around me a lot, well I do like him and think the feeling is mutual, but ive asked men out in the past and that did NOT turn out as I had hoped. but I decided to give it another shot by giving my crush a Christmas card and writing in it the following "me and you coffee with my name/number" and if he is interested he has my digits. is that too much or not.

lizzy - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

i want u to advice me ma.there is dis guy v bn lvn for d past 10yrs i lata told im my filns and he agri to date ever since dat day he hasnt called or text v bn the 1 textn and calln.what can i do