It’s an unfortunate part of life: sometimes, the sex is bad. If you’ve been with your partner for a long time, it might be bad because it’s become boring and dull. If the sex is bad with a new partner, it might be because there really isn’t any attraction between the two of you. Bad sex doesn’t have to mean the end. There are a few ways you can try to spice it up.

Say Everything You Want to Say

“Go ahead, say the truth”
Being honest might be one of the easiest ways to fix your sex life. If you’re married and sex has become tedious, sit your partner down and have a talk about what’s gone wrong. She might not even realize that something is lacking. Don’t be accusatory-you want her to keep putting out, not divorce you. Try to be understanding and gentle. Ask her to tell you what she’d like from sex with you and then tell her the same. If you approach the issue with some tact she’ll likely be more receptive to the suggestions you make. If you approach it like a douchebag and tell her she doesn’t make you hard anymore, all you’re going to do is ruin your relationship.

Set the Mood Beforehand

Face it: the days of being unable to keep your hands off each other are over. That’s the natural course of relationships. The longer you’re together, the more time it takes to set the mood. Getting her hot and wet for you shouldn’t be regarded as a chore. Consider it an investment, instead. If she’s panting for you, the sex is going to be that much better. Setting the mood is easy. Be affectionate and make her feel beautiful. Show her how much you enjoy being with her. Tease her when you’re out in public by whispering in her ear about what you’d like to do to her when you’re finally alone or by sneaking naughty touches when nobody is looking. If she knows how much you want her all the time, she’s going to be hot and ready for you when you get home.

Be Creative

“Make the moment playful with your creativity”
Regardless of whether you’re hooking up with a new partner or having sex with someone you’ve been dating for a while, it’s never a bad idea to be creative in the sack. This can be as easy as introducing tools like a vibrator or a blindfold to play with. Try things that are new to each other. If she’s done reverse cowgirl, here’s her chance. If you’ve never received head while blindfolded, try it out. Being creative is a good way to get the fire going if there wasn’t one.

Be Comfortable

This really only applies to sex with a new partner. If you’re both uncomfortable and unfamiliar with each other, things can get awkward real fast. So take some time to get to know each other in the sack. Make it fun to be naked together. Humor goes a long way. Once you’re both feeling comfortable, it’s easier to get turned on. It’s also easier to be kinky when you’re not feeling awkward.