relationship counsellor | psychosexual therapist

Frequently Asked Questions

How long will the counselling last?
Every couple or individual is different and presents with a different set of needs and problems so it is difficult to say. The counselling is not confined to a limited number of sessions and may last weeks or even months. Ideally the counselling ends by mutual agreement when everyone agrees that the work is either completed or has, in the opinion of all the parties, achieved as much as it can.

How often do the sessions take place and how long is each session?
Initially we will meet for a preliminary session lasting 75 minutes. This is to find out why you have decided to seek help and what you hope to achieve through the process. It also gives us both the opportunity to decide if we would like to work together. If we decide to proceed then we will agree a regular day and time each week and this slot will be reserved for you. Each ongoing session lasts 50 minutes. Once we have agreed to ongoing work, the sessions are reserved for you and any missed or cancelled sessions must be paid for.

Will we have homework?
Where the focus is on the relationship issues, homework is not given. In psychosexual therapy, if you are undergoing a behavioural “sensate focus” programme then you will be given a set of carefully graded exercises for you and your partner to do at home between sessions.

A “sensate focus” programme is a series of exercises specifically tailored to fit the needs of each individual couple, enabling them to rebuild their sexual relationship by helping them to reconnect in a safe, loving and non-demanding way with an initial focus on sensuality and not sexuality.

Can I come for therapy on my own?
Yes of course. Individuals are welcome to come if they have relationship issues to discuss. However, if you are part of a couple, it is preferable if both partners come to the sessions and I would encourage this unless there are good reasons why this might not be appropriate.

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