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Wednesday, 25 April 2012

The day before yesterday, with my
husband at work, I got dressed, picked up a set of keys and left the flat,
shutting the door behind me. Y’know, that thing – that ordinary, mundane thing
– that you do every day. Boring, innit? It says a lot about who I’ve become
since my secondary diagnosis, then, that this most uninteresting of everyday
occurrences was one of the most exciting things to happen to me in ages, given
that leaving the flat by myself is something I haven’t done since – gasp – September.

The title of the most exciting thing to happen since then, however (well, the
most exciting since the birth of my nephew), goes to something
that, on the surface at least, seems infinitely more deserving – not to mention
rather overwhelmingly unforeseen. I hinted at it last Wednesday when
I tweeted an excitable missive from my chemo chair, promising a blog post
explaining all very soon (apologies for the delay there, by the way – this
last chemo is proving a right mofo to get over) so I’m chuffed to finally be in
a well enough position to write the following sentence…

My treatment has continued to work
– not just as we’d hoped it would work, but to an incredibly promising,
shocking-my-oncologists level.

Not bad eh?

And so to the science bit: through
monitoring my blood every couple of weeks, we’ve seen that my tumour-markers (ie,
those which show the amount of cancerous activity in my body) have continued to
drop – at present, even, to normal levels. The MRI scans, meanwhile, have
showed that the disease in my bones remains stable, with no new spreads to
speak of (it’s almost impossible to judge whether there have been any small
differences since the last scan, given the extremely extensive nature of
Bullshit in my bones – it is, as we discovered in September, every-ruddy-where).
The jewel in the crown of treatment results, however, is what’s been going on
in my brain… You might recall that the last scan showed a small reduction in
the size of the tumour on my meninges: something none of us were expecting to
see, given that a right royal result for us, where my cancer is concerned, is mere
stability: provided nothing’s getting any bigger, things are going well.
Imagine everyone’s shock, then, when the latest scan revealed that, within the
last three months, that tumour hasn’t just remained stable, but shrunk to a
point where it’s only now visible as a thickening of the meninges. Or, to do
away with the science bit altogether – where once it was a Kippah, now it’s a
condom. Magic.

I expect it’ll have been the last
paragraph – and not the first – from which you’ll have elicited the most excitement,
and too bloody right… as impressive news goes, I’d challenge anyone to come up
with something better right now. Me, though? I remain equally (if not more?)
impressed with what happened on Monday. I don’t doubt that you think I’m a
lunatic for thinking such a thing – admittedly, it is a bit on the daft side – but
I have my reasons. In essence, it’s as simple as this: since becoming ill
again, my life has changed to such an extent that, for the most part, I’ve
become incapable of doing those ordinary, everyday things that most people do
without a second thought: locking the door behind you, going somewhere alone,
sitting in a café with a cup of tea…

The Royal Marsden’s incredible,
ground-breaking strides in halting my Bullshit’s progress don’t, of course,
change the eventualities of my disease – an incurable diagnosis is an incurable
diagnosis – but what it does mean are two key things… 1) I’ve been granted that
longed-for treatment break (YAAAAAAAAAAAY!) in the form of at least two months
off chemo, lasting until such a time as The Bullshit inevitably begins to creep
back; and 2) that, while nobody can say for sure, I’m hopeful – nay, confident – that the
‘months-and-not-years’ prediction might just have been flipped to a more
lasting prognosis.

Let’s not get too far ahead of
ourselves here, though, and instead concentrate on the meantime where, yes,
there’s a social life to arrange and holidays to take (screw you, New York, I’m off to Spain) – but there’s also work to be done; work that rehabilitates me to
a place where shoving a set of house keys in my handbag becomes as commonplace
to me as it is to you. See, exciting as that moment was, it was also – I’m
loath to admit – really bloody frightening, given how long it is since I did
anything like that for myself. I’m coming to terms with the fact that, while being
off chemo will hopefully mean less sickness and an increase in my energy
levels, it unfortunately won’t make much difference in terms of my mobility
(where my bones are concerned, the damage is done) – hence the new freedoms I’m
hoping to enjoy will still have to come with a walking stick/wheelchair. But
hey, leaving the flat with a stick is better than not leaving the flat at all,
so I’ll do what must be done. The bigger hurdle to negotiate, as I discovered once
I’d left the flat on Monday, is my confidence.

The plan was to spend a few hours
with the lovely folk at the day centre of the wonderful, zen-like Trinity
Hospice; the institution I’ve mentioned before who are charged with my
palliative community care. Their driver, Mick, picked me up, listening empathetically
en route like some kind of cabbie-cum-therapist about how long it had been
since I’d come out alone, and how nervous I was to be doing something new.

‘So what were you up to before all
this cancer crap?’ he asked.

‘I was an interiors journalist, in
homes magazines and that,’ I replied.

‘Wow, what kind of thing were you
doing?’

‘Oh – um, editing,’ I said,
thinking how many worlds away that life seems. It almost felt like a fib, as
though I were boasting about my A-level in German when, in fact, I can’t speak
a damn word of it now.

‘Blimey, that’s impressive,’ said
Mick. ‘You must’ve had to be really confident to do that kind of job.’

‘Aye, I s’pose I was,’ I admitted.

Images of the Old Me pitching relaunches to editorial directors, encouraging advertisers
to invest in long-term partnerships and filming for TV programmes flashed
through my mind. Could anything have been further from the current picture,
clasping onto my walking stick in the back of a specially adapted charity
minibus, impatiently waiting for an anti-anxiety pill to kick in? ‘It just
seems so long ago.’

‘Well, you’ve been forced to go to
hell and back, love,’ said Mick. ‘And you’re only a baby.’

‘Hmm.’ I nodded, wondering what my
Nan would make of her 32-year-old granddaughter getting so much use out the
walking stick that she was once every bit as embarrassed by.

‘But we’ll get you right, y’know.
You’ll get your confidence back.’

‘Coof, I hope you’re right, Mick.’

I don’t think I’d realised until
then quite how much of me The Bullshit has taken. It didn’t happen overnight,
obviously – my mobility had been taking knocks for a couple of months prior to
my secondary diagnosis – but it was still pretty bloody rapid: one minute I was
Me As I Want To Be, with everything going great; the next I was back to being a
patient; a patient who could no longer get to the end of her street, who suddenly wasn’t
allowed to drive, who had a limited time to live, and who became uncharacteristically
anxious at anything from swallowing a pill to the prospect of socialising.

See, the first time around, The
Bullshit stole its fair share: my tits, hair, ovaries, body confidence… This
time, it seems, it’s come back to take the rest – in particular, the rest of my
confidence. It’s the reason I have panic attacks when I find myself alone; the
reason I’ve become even more averse to using the phone than I ever was (if such
a thing were possible); the reason I’m only fleetingly on Twitter and barely
ever on Facebook; the reason I’ve written less in the last few months than I
ever have throughout my life; and the reason why something as simple as putting
some keys in my handbag and leaving the flat alone has, pitiably, come to take
on an Everest-conquering significance.

‘Ere, look,’ said Mick. ‘I’ve been
doing this 16 years, so I know how it works. And I know that confident girl’s
still in there somewhere. We’ll get her out of you, you’ll see.’

Thankfully – and I hope you’re
listening, Bullshit – I’m not too far gone to think that Mick’s just blowing
smoke up my arse. I reckon that girl’s still in there, too. Admittedly, she’s
pretty bloody well hidden – not just by a kick-ass-disguising layer of uneasiness,
but by several layers of oh-so-lovely chemo-weight (I mean, come on – the least
cancer could do is make you thin, ferfuckssake) – but I know from my dedication
to making this treatment-break count, my determination to get writing again, and
my desire to make a permanent handbag-space for my house keys, that the more
confident version of me hasn’t cashed in her chips just yet.

I can’t escape the reality that, along
with the secondary diagnosis, my life has changed so much that it’s almost
unrecognisable. But bit by tiny bit, I can – as I proved on Monday morning –
claw back some of the old, locking-the-door-behind-me stuff that I miss so
much. Yes, the two exciting occurrences of my past week might seem worlds apart
in significance ­– but I’m sticking by the opinion that they’re equally
important. Because to me, finally being able to do something like stepping out
of my flat – not just after such a long time, but after such a monumental shift
in the quality of my existence – feels every bit as celebratory as learning
that a shrinking brain tumour has bought me extra time in which to enjoy life’s
glorious mundanities.

Amazing news!!!! Huge!!! Mega and bloody brill!!!Totally empathise with the confidence, was a crying shaking mess when I went to the airport after being surgically housebound for 6 weeks. Bloody terrified! Where had the old head strong kick arse Issy gone? A year of chemo/treatment/surgery had taken it out of me, holiday got me right as rain (did cry all the way there though...) and now back working and everything! Shame the old bones are slowly deteriorating... Won't let that stop me and you'll get your sparkle back, those Marsden chaos really know what they are doing!X

I've been feeling very happy this evening through a combination of speaking to my dad, eating pizza, drinking a bottle of Old Speckled Hen and hearing some top tunage on Jo Whiley's Radio 2 show. Oh, and recovering from the London Marathon enough to reflect positively on what I've achieved.

Then I read your blog and it heightened my awareness that life must be enjoyed. Your posts always have the same bittersweet effect on me. I love the way you write; your candid approach. It's brave and honest. I feel sad that the cancer is not going to disappear because I know what that ultimately means.

I hope you don't get tired of hearing this but your writing inspires me that time is fleeting and that we need to enjoy the here and now. You're an inspiration Lisa Lynch. You really are. xxx

Time to celebrate with a Tiffany keyring I think lovie! Brilliant news & Mick sounds like a wise man. Loads of love from all the Mayzes who think you rock wherever you are, whatever you're doing & whatever you look like (beautiful cheeky blonde) xxxx

Lisa I am SO happy reading this!Bloody fantastic that you are surprising the Doctors and I'm so glad you get a break from treatment for a bit....You are such an incredible inspiration.I had melanoma cancer earlier this year, I'm 28 and it's my 3rd melanoma. Fortunately no spread to lymph so treated just with having a chunk of shoulder tissue removed, but even that knocked me sideways.Can't even imagine what you have been through.Your bravery and attitude is incredible, and I hope you start feeling more like yourself again soon...Keep strong and keep smiling, i feel like I know you from reading your blog:)Lulu x x

Just a thought.. You're not the one you used to be but this text (blog) you just wrote is amazing and couldn't have been produced during any other curcomstance. You've lost a lot of things but also, being the bright and clever person you are, also become something really special and unique...

And I thought seeing Mt Everest this morning was brilliant...so pleased to hear your news. Sounds like you had a wonderful Big Adventure of your own! As I select my sticks for walking to Base Camp I'll be thinking of you!

I've been reading your blog for some time but haven't posted before. I'm so thrilled for you. Like you I'm a Marsden patient and I am hoping for news like yours. You will get your confidence back, it's there just waiting to be unleashed - drop by drop. A new you awaits, keep on trucking.Linda xxxx

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Welcome to the website of me, Lisa Lynch: author, editor, blogger, wife, Ram, telly-addict, doofus, cancer bitch (but not, I hasten to add, cancer's bitch). The latter of those things is what initially got me blogging, swearing my way through The Bullshit following a pesky breast-cancer diagnosis at 28. Some three years down the line – with newly grown hair, a newly published book and a newly perky rack – I dared to assume that I'd seen the worst… only for the c-word to crop up once more: this time in my bones and brain, and this time incurable.

And so, from being a blog intended to chart my evolution from 'the girl who has cancer' to merely 'the girl', it seems we're back to the former. (If, indeed, it's still acceptable to even call yourself a girl in your thirties. Which, let's be honest, it probably isn't.) But before you write this off as Just Another Moany Health Blog, stick with me. Because cancer or no cancer, curable or incurable… I'll still tell it the way I see it. The universe might be in control of what’s going on in my body, but I'm in control of what’s going on in my blog. Which is why I hope you'll continue to join me as I write my way through my experiences. You see, this isn't a story about some poor, unlucky lass being taken down by cancer; it's simply a story about the extraordinary life of an ordinary girl woman.

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