Step parents

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cjcardoso0617 wrote:

I’m having my own baby, I’m with someone that already has a baby. He has custody of his son. Second day I find out I’m pregnant and my fiancé asked me “This doesn’t mean you will but my son on the back burner will it?” “You aren’t going to show favoritism to your own kid will you?” “I’m worried you will love your own kid more than my son.” I don’t know what to say or think or anything. I’m super upset about it for sure. Should I be upset, pissed, indifferent?

I think you should be compassionate. If dad has custody then this stepson May be lacking a mother figure. Dad doesn’t want his son to feel like you or he are “moving on”.

I think a serious talk with dad and when the time comes, the son about what makes a good family and what you will be doing when baby comes. You can tell your stepson that you want to make sure he’s ready to be the best big brother ever and help the baby learn all the cool things he knows how to do like: say his abc’s, run, bike ride, etc.

I think your SO could have been a little more sensitive but I think it’s worth a good sit down conversation between the two of you and later on the three of you.

My first child is not my husbands and honestly his relationship with him has changed for the better since we had our daughter. I am pregnant again (hopefully) and I am sure it will continue to change with another baby. Just continue to love your step son.

I am a Step mom of 2 and have my own with my husband I dont treat any of them differently. They all the same I love them all and for me I all say I have 5 children. I dont break down who is mine and who is his. I never had. I think You will do fine.

My husband is 2 of my daughters step dad and I felt the same way. We got together when my older 2 were 3 and 6 weeks so he’s always had a very strong bond to our middle daughter and I feared that would change. I’m sure I asked him all those same questions. They were genuine fears of mine. They have since been put to rest but they were definitely there.

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