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Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Greatest confinement lady~

I always want to blog about my confinement lady.. but I always forgot about it.. so today I must blog it to share with everyone.. I have had such a good confinement lady.. which I am so grateful to GOD that I have such a good helper during my confinement month...Her name is "Lian Jie".. she was introduced by my ex-boss.. she is really nice as in she is not calculative at all and she just help me do anything and everything even we don't ask to.. she help me to wash my hubby clothes, cook for everyone, clean the house, clean the kitchen (I asked her not to as I will get the part time maid to come and clean the house), teach me how to bath baby, teach me how to cook (i asked her to teach me), teach me how to take care baby and she is very experience taking care of baby.. at night, I observed that baby just have very very soft noise.. she will immediately wake up and pat the baby.. she is very soft spoken & lovely person.. she talk so softly with baby (unlike some auntie I saw before they scold the baby) .. when she free she will just sit there and don't even dare to ask us to on the TV for her.. in this sense, she is really responsible as she think she was here to work and help as a confinement lady.... partly i am successful breast feeding because of this auntie too.. she encourage me everyday and anytime.. tell me I have a lot of milk.. praises me on my hard work.. as this is really essential mental support she gave me.. she even know a lot about breast feeding and she teach me how.. there are too many good things about her and I am very very thankful to her help me during my confinement.. She not only need to help to take care me and baby.. she even also need to help to become my photographer.. haha.. as i am so crazy about baby photography...

without her help I can't imagine how will it be my confinement.. I not even touch a single drops of non cooked water.. imagine how well she been taking care of me!!!And I also want to say sorry to her.. as I really frighten her with my postnatal depression... and because of this sickness I am very forgetful and can say almost lost my memory.. due to this she climb the staircase maybe at least 50 times a day.. until her knee was in great pain and she even don't voice it out.. I really feel very sorry about it.. I ask my massage auntiehelp her to massage.. she refuse to as she like very paiseh.. but I really feel very guilty after I find out that she can't even can't walk properly.. then only I know she already start taking pain killer for her knee..Auntie, I AM SO SORRY if anyone ask me how is my confinement lady.. I have no word to describe it.. as I really happy with her service and RM3000 i think it is so worth paying..

Thank you Auntie!!! Next time if I do confinement again for sure no doubt I will fast fast call and book her (she has a bz schedule as I know.. coz she is really good!! and maybe because of that she get a lot of refferal).. how I know?? during my confinement a few ppl called and asked her.. after my confinement my friends also calls and check with her but she also is booked during those months..after auntie left.. we are all karang-kabut.. I even called auntie and cry to ask her back to help me.. but she has other schedule can't come back to help me already..

This post from you is super useful to moms-to-be like me, although it's a bit dated. Would you happen to have Lian Jie's contact still? My EDD is May 2012 and am looking for a confinement nanny. Kindly e-mail me at sabrina.dilini@gmail.com. Thanks so much and do keep up the good work!

I'm due on this coming July and first time mum-to-be. It's kinda late to find a CL now but I hope u can help me by giving me this recommended CL that you mentioned.Pls reply me at honey-los@hotmail.com.Million thanks

I'm due on July and first time mum-to-be. It's kinda late now to look for a CL but I hope u can really help me. I hope to be able to get this recommended CL that you mentioned.Pls reply me at honey-lis@hotmail.com. Million thanks.

I'm due on this coming July and first time mum-to-be. It's kinda late to find a CL now but I hope u can help me by giving me this recommended CL that you mentioned.Pls reply me at honey-los@hotmail.com.Million thanks

Thanks for sharing your experience. You must be blessed to have gotten 2 excellent confinement ladies. Can you pls share Lian Jie's contact with me? I called Aunty Ah Tai and she's already booked for next Feb.

I'm having aunty Lian with me and today is my 16th day. I suppose to have her for two months however I have decided to end it earlier. I think I should leave my review too after your review in year 2010. From my experience I think this Aunty's service has deteriorate after doing it for so long. It's norm where people gets lazy and do things not as serious as it was before. Let me share my experience here.. On the first night taking care of my newborn, she asked for formula milk and pacifier. I told her I did not buy formula milk as stand by but I gave her the pacifier since I have it for just in case. But I ended up hiding it when I realized one night she stopped baby from crying by letting baby to take pacifier and carry my baby in her arm while she is sleeping on a single bed on the floor lying on her back. I woke up and saw that... Immediately I go and bring the baby back to the cot as I'm afraid my baby will fall out of her arms and to the floor. Aunty Lian told me baby doesn't want to sleep and she is tired and fall asleep. I get over it thinking she is just tired. I'm the type of person that doesn't like to complain upfront to you as I think everyone should knows their responsibility and should know what is dos and donts.. As long as you don't go over limit I'll close one eye. For example, I have been eating the same breakfast same lunch and same dinner for the first 12 days straight, I also don't complain. I just thinking may be she is not a good cook?? Other than that, my baby was having slight jaundice when discharge from hospital. After the fifth day checkup, dr said the jaundice will slowly decrease after that. But baby still look yellowish as days go by. I asked aunty and she said don't worry baby is alright as she has seen many baby experience enough to tell. Then my mil drop by commenting baby still yellow. Aunty Lian starts to feel uneasy after that. She came out with many ideas. She fed my baby with water sugar. She gave him about 10ml for 3 days. I started to feel uneasy too as I scare that will impact my bf journey and the question is this rely safe keeps playing in my mind. After sugar water, she asked for water chestnut pula.. Then she feeds my baby again with water chestnut water. I cannot take it anymore and I question her. That day you told me the jaundice is not serious right? She said yalo but your mil kept asking na. I told her if you are certain why bother people asking? Then she stopped. I am worry so I brought my baby to pead and told the dr about the sugar water and water chestnut. Dr said baby's liver is still developing shouldn't be feeding them all those nonsense. Baby only need milk!! When I got home, I told her what the dr said hoping she will stop doing that to other baby. The thing that make me decided to end her service earlier was the night she did not replenish my red dates drink and I was thirsty at night. I woke her up after I finished bf asking her to refill for me. She said finish and ask me go to make milo myself. I was so upset! My baby is still awake after bf and she continue sleeping!!!! WTH?! After this incident, I think she knows I'm upset. She starts to behave better. Aside from that, she did not boil water for me to brush my teeth, just ask me to use water heater. This one I also close one eye.

The good things about her is she cooks for hubby and my son, washing the laundry for them as well and help to clean the house sometimes. She chats gently with the baby too!

hey Fen, let her go. I'm a mother of my 10mth old,3rd child.No other food than milk n whatever water only after 6 mths if necessary.Yellowish should not last more than 7days. Morning sun before 10am to reduce jaundice.She's pure lazy n taking it for granted n NO CARRYING /zzz with BABY below 2yrs old. I'm very strict on this. Baby also must zzz on the back n not chest down to avoid SIDS.Might as well I be your confinement lady!

Wow.. so sorry you have to gone through these.. did I actually give you her contact number? Coz I have very long time never reply any request for contact. Yeah.. ppl will change over the time.. and she is actually getting older too.

Hope you have finished your confinement and getting better for now. And yes no other nonsense stuff for baby other than your milk. You are doing it right. Hugs.

No one's fault Yvonne ppl change especially those old skool still stubborn with their methods. at times we have to get updated over time. our days n these days lain. As a matter of fact after listening to these I actually don't mind being part time confinement lady to those sudden urgently needs of services. But my baby got to tag along as I'm a single parent.Handling 2 kiddos at a time is nothing new.

Yvonne,Ya.. I got the contact from you but I did not blame on you ya. don't get it wrong... My hubby got suspect you might be her daughter or whoever that help her to advertise haha... But I doubt it because you were having a different cl for your second baby.

Today is the 26th day. Luckily it is just another 2 more days to end all this, not another one more month. I am getting more and more tired because she doesn't seem to understand my baby.. when my baby wants to sleep, she will talk to him, when baby wants to drink milk, she will try to make him sleep...

On top of what I shared earlier, I have been served cold apples which were kept in the fridge, dragon fruit and certain fish which are the NO NO things from the confinement too. When I asked her I cant take this right? She said ya, I know.. but that's the last piece no more already... how come she still serving that, I am still wondering why...

My mil saw me eating black fungus, telling me I shouldn't be eating anymore if my lochia cleared up.. then I told her don't cook for me anymore since every day I'm having that for lunch. Surprisingly, she said that's the leftover, don't want to waste.. What??? *sweat*

Oh ya... Remember I was saying I have been eating the same thing everyday. One day, I finally ask her why am I been eating the same thing, is it I have to tell what I want to eat? I told her I saw my friends always post photos of the variety of their confinement food. Then she put the blame on my mil who helped to buy the ingredient. In fact, we asked her what to buy at the first place. So mil just buy according to her list. And she doesn't seem to make things easier for my mil, everytime the list cant complete one.. So end up buying things almost everyday or every alternate days. :)

Actually, I would love to hear from others who had her recently, how they feel about her too.. Because she has a busy schedule, keep me wondering....