Can Post Partum Depression happen 3 1/2 months later?

Hi ladies. My DD is 3 1/2 months old. When she was born I was thrilled and things were great. I also have a 5 yr old autistic son. We are struggling with getting him into a good school, which our district won't approve of. They want to put him in a typical kindergarten with no support whe we feel he needs a special Ed. DD has a milk allergy and we are fighting with the insurance company to get them to help us pay for $70 a can , Neocate prescription formula for her. I have been feeling very overwhelmed. I can't deal with DD's crying anymore. I end up punching a wall or pillow just to let out frustrations. I called DS "stupid" tonight because he wasn't understanding something I was asking of him. WTF is wrong with me? I have never had depression before. Is that what this is? Or is it just he anxiety from all the stress? I feel like a horrible mother. What should I do?

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One of my best friends was diagnosed with PPD a full year after her baby was born so I don't think there is any specific time limit for it. It also sounds to me like you are completely stretched to the limit in every possible direction. I would call your doctor and explain what is happening...he or she may have a game plan for something like this. It might even help just having a night away from all of this each week, where it is just you alone for a few hours. Or maybe the doc can refer you to someone you can talk to about your frustrations. You are not a horrible mother! You just have a lot on your plate right now.

you are definitely not a horrible mom andhave every right to feel overwhelmed. if it comes and goes then just attribute to stress and anxiety but if you cant shake the feeling then talk to your doctor.

i dont have nearly as much going on as you and sometimes ifeel like tge last few weeks have beeb rougher than before

I was wondering the same thing. My dd also has a milk allergy, so I totally understand the crying. I let lo cry the other day and looked at twitter on my phone because i just couldn't take it. I started feeling frustrated with her crying, even though I know it's because her tummy hurts, and then I felt awful about myself. We'll get through this, though. Talk to your doctor, give yourself a break.

My LO also has a milk allergy and started on neocate one month ago. She gets up almost every hour at night. I'm exhausted, anxious and stressed. Also have a 3 year old. I started Zoloft for post partum depression and anxiety 2 weeks ago and I'm slowly feeling better.
You are not alone, talk to your doc and try and get some 'me' time