But I was completely used and deserved closure. It doesn't matter anyway at this point. He now knows. She told him we just hung out a few times and I tried to get them to break up. He had no idea all of the things we did together. He threatened me over the phone and when I explained in detail what happened, he couldn't process it I guess and just kept threatening me.

Anyway, his fiancee then called me and asked what I told him and I pointed out that her version of events were untrue. She warned me of impending violence and I reiterated that I was not interested in violence. She concurred and promised she was going to fix it but was also panicking. She accused me of manipulating her while she was going through dark times.

Anyway she hangs up and awhile later I get a text that everything was cool. Violence against me was no longer a factor and he forgave her. I wonder what she told him to forgive her. That was probably a rough 24 hours of engagement for both of them.

tl;dr : Do you think I have a chance to hook up with her if the engagement fails?

Dilbert_X wrote:

Knowing you I'd say you're in danger most of the time.

Your best option is to join the military, then your colleagues can protect frag you.

"Ah, you miserable creatures! You who think that you are so great! You who judge humanity to be so small! You who wish to reform everything! Why don't you reform yourselves? That task would be sufficient enough." -Frederick Bastiat

She's not pretty at all. We are meeting at a wine bar so if I am going to hook up, I will need two glasses of wine. I guess I am going to go through with it because she will be easy. Who knows maybe I will get two glasses in and decide to bolt.

You would like her. She is a publisher author and is an editor for something or another based out of Union Square.

smh there are lots of publishers and agents i interact with on a daily basis who are 50+ women and i do not want to put my dick in them. where's your self-respect? did you not get the memo that sharing a career and basic interests does not mean you have to sleep with someone?

also why would a highly successful author working in the most competitive and glamorous publishing area in the world want to get bedded by a schoolteaching schlub from new jersey? something doesn't add up.

You know what? You are right Uzi. I unmatched her and will go do a normal guy thing for my age. Maybe I will go to the strip club, get a lap dance, maybe a hand job, and then call up the substitute I hooked up with.

Thank you Dilbert and Uzi for talking me out of these predatory impulses.

SuperJail Warden wrote:

You know what? You are right Uzi. I unmatched her and will go do a normal guy thing for my age. Maybe I will go to the strip club, get a lap dance, maybe a hand job, and then call up the substitute I hooked up with.

Thank you Dilbert and Uzi for talking me out of these predatory impulses.