The YOU finger and the three ME fingers

When you use the YOU finger to point out somebody as bad, the three ME fingers point back to yourself. It may not be to tell you, that you are bad, but to look at what it does to you when you perceive somebody to be bad. It could also be that, even though you have never done bad things, you have had the urge to do so, and instead of accepting this you condemn somebody else. The animation is grabbed from the web.

If you want to see, what is keeping you from enjoying the moment as it is, just keep on blaming somebody else for your present state of your mind.

When you point the YOU finger towards somebody, three ME fingers point towards yourself to reveal, that what you blame others for is your own shit. In other words, what you do not want to acknowledge as yours, you exclude by projecting it onto somebody considered to be outside of you.

Let us say, that you point the YOU finger at someone and either silently or loud say, that this person is a dictator. The three ME fingers point back to you, so you are reminded of the feeling an authority figure triggers in you. Maybe you feel small and worthless in comparison with someone you perceive to be in charge. And to separate yourself from this feeling you blame the perceived authority for feeling inferior by accusing him/she of being a ruthless dictator, who takes away your free will.

If you always control yourself in order to do the right thing, you will more and more sense what others seem to want and less and less what you want. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

This feeling of inferiority may have started in your childhood, where you never were allowed to follow your own wishes but had to do what your parents claimed was the right thing. The memories of being overpowered and feeling inferior are blocked out by always controlling yourself in order to do the ´right´ thing instead of going with the flow of the moment.

The pressure of this self-made imprisonment is temporarily relieved every time, you see somebody, that you can point the YOU finger at and blame for pulling your strings while avoiding to follow the three ME fingers, and see the problem is that you are ashamed of going with the flow as it is. But you probably do not know this, as you are so used to do what you think others expect of you in order to get their acceptance.

To be what you excluded is to include it
The above is not to say, that you must visit unresolved issues from the past to free yourself from them. Not at all – no need to deal with the past especially. Whatever pattern you have started – regardless when and for what reason – you will repeat it in the present. Yet it is neither necessary to process it in the present – or embrace the feelings you suppress when you blame others.

To process or embrace something requires you to observe it, which preserves the distance to it. Instead, be what you have distanced yourself from by not thinking about what those you blame for pulling your strings are doing wrong, but completely unedited include whatever you feel when they appear to take your space.

When what used to be excluded is included, it feels like a burden is gone. Not because something has been transcended or transformed, but because inclusion erases the memory of the excluded.

You are free to go with the flow when you are not stuck in a pattern of constantly excluding the parts of your personality, that you do not want others to see as yours. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

Bringing it all back home you are free to go with the flowThe easiest way not to compulsively keep on excluding your past feelings by projecting them onto others but instead include them as they are experienced in the present is not to look inside yourself but outside by simply pointing the YOU finger at somebody else and blame them for what you feel. It may take a lifetime of meditation to see in yourself, what it takes a minute to see mirrored in others, and probably no more than another minute more to follow the three ME fingers, so the feelings can be included in the one actually having them.

By pointing the YOU finger at somebody, and follow the three ME fingers you include what you have excluded from yourself.

Inclusion is like an eraser because what is included is not stored in the memory as something specific so you will not know, what you have just included. You may notice though, that you are not so tense, and that next time you encounter a scenario, that used to upset you, you may laugh and wonder, how come you ever insisted in this being wrong. And so you are not stuck in your old pattern anymore and therefore free to go with the flow of the moment.

In the above, the point of reference is to feel upset. But everything said in this regard also applies to point the YOU finger at a person saying: »You make me happy«. That person triggers happiness, you have forgotten you already have, so if you not only follow the YOU finger but also the three ME fingers, you can include happiness instead of excluding it. Consequently, you are free to share happiness with whoever appreciates it, as it is.

Point your judging finger at me and follow the three fingers pointing back to yourself to feel what your accusations do to you so that this feeling can be included instead of excluded. The graphic is grabbed from the web.

INTERLUDE:
If you found typos or anything else in Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings that upset you, please judge me as hard as you can, because by pointing a finger at me, the judgements you have made upon yourself are mirrored right in front of you.

This does not necessarily mean that you make typos yourself, but that you see what it does to you when you consider somebody or something to be wrong. Maybe you get furious because you have perfected an image of yourself as someone who always does the right thing. Nevertheless, you are secretly dreaming about not giving a shit, so by judging me to be wrong this part of your personality seems to not be in you but me.

In order to be someone specific you must exclude everything, that does not fit into the specific image, you have decided to show off. What you have excluded, however, will continue to upset you, so you must exclude it again and again in order to uphold your specific image. In other words, what is excluded is still needed if you want to be confirmed as someone specific. If not, you can just include it.

This exclusion of part of your personality seems at first to relieve the inner pressure, but not for long, so again you must point the YOU finger at somebody else and blame them for what you feel, until you follow the three ME fingers back to where the problem is, and see that you judge others to be wrong because you perceive something to be wrong in yourself.

This is just an example. Maybe it is something else that is going on in you, and perhaps you do not know what it is. Yet you do not need to know it to include it, which contrary to exclusion it is not about making something definable.

It is a lot easier to see in others, what you have excluded from yourself. It may take years of psychologically treatment or meditation to see what you can see in less than a minute by pointing your judging finger at somebody else in this moment.

The more you include, the less specific you appear to be – and the less specific you appear to be, the more there is nobody to be bothered by somebody.

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Welcome to the present version of Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings

At the beginning of writing Alexius´ Enlightened Non-Teachings, new articles were published almost daily. Most of them, however, were not proofread. Alexius could not do it because he did not understand them. Nor does he nowadays. Fortunately, because if he did, they would be real.

Thus it is a metaphor when saying, the writing of them has conjured up a flow that facilitates the fine-tuning of the past articles so currently, he spends more time on this than writing new ones.

Yet, in the process of doing this, new articles come into being. They are continually added to the table of contents, where the old ones are updated or in the process of being it.

WHAT TO DO
As there is no more than that which is one, a world where there seems to be more than one is not real, but a simulated reality layered on top of oneness. Thus nothing needs to be changed but the belief that you are someone there.

HACKING THE BELIEF IN BEING SOMEONENot knowing what and where you are is the fastest way to undo the belief in being someone, as this is the invitation the enlightenment of that which is one patiently is waiting for.

In no time you go from appearing to be someone definitive to not appear at all so that there is nothing to hide the formlessness of that which is one (hack #4-7).

TO BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF IT
If you want to appear a little longer in the world without being of it and therefore not being burdened by its apparent problems, you pretend to be there, because what you pretend to be you are not (hack #1).

When every experience is perceived to symbolise non-duality, you are a symbol of that and not a manifestation of duality (hack #2).

Not being exclusive but inclusive, there is nothing to define you, so even though you appear to be there, you are not (hack #3).

Acknowledging you are alone together (hack #8) is another way of appearing to be in a world of separation without being of it.

Connecting with the inner breath (hack #4) you do not perceive the apparent differences of the world to make a difference so you cannot be established as someone in it.

WHERE TO START
Read Alexius´ Enlightened Non Teachings from start to finish or browse them in any way beneficial for unlearning what and where you believe to be. If that is the motivation for reading, one or more of the duality hacks will apply themselves.

This you will not see, because the result of them is nothing. Hence there is not something, that seems to cause problems.

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