VISIT WITH SON

Monday, July 08, 2013

My son has a problem with alcohol. Almost a year and a half ago I had to ask him to leave my apartment and find some place else to stay. I couldn't deal with his binges. My dh had recently passed away, and there was no way I could handle the extra pressure. I felt guilty for a long time.

I hadn't heard from my son for a long time. A church friend said he saw my son at working at Home Depot. I didn't want to go there and see him, I wanted to wait to see if he would talk to me again. A couple of months ago he started e-mailing me. He told me he was doing well, he was going to AA meetings, and he had a new girlfriend who was helping him with his problem. He said I could e-mail him, but he didn't want to hear anything from or about the rest of the family.

I have been e-mailing him back and forth for a while now. Last week he told me his girlfriend had found a better-paying job in Calgary, and she was going to move there. He said he was going to go with her. He said he wanted to let me know before he left. I asked him if we could have coffee before he left. He is planning on leaving next Sunday. He e-mailed me back and told me that he and his girlfriend would like to come to church with me today and then we could go for coffee afterwards. I was very happy about that and I quickly agreed.

He and his girlfriend picked me up for church and afterwards he treated me to lunch at Tim Horton's and we had a nice visit. I was happy to meet his girlfriend before they left. They gave me a ride home, and his girlfriend took a picture of me and my son together. She said she would send me a copy. I will post it when I get it.

I am so happy that we have finally been able to get together. Hopefully our relationship will improve. Kicking him out was one of the hardest things I had to do, but maybe that's what he needed to get back on his feet. I hope and pray that things will go well for him in Calgary. Maybe I'll get a chance to go and visit them. I have never flown, but I told him I would fly if it meant I could go and visit him one day. We'll see what the future holds. I'm leaving it in God's hands. My prayers are being answered.