Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates. I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family. I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on her husband and have secretly lusted after him. I have been divorced for over 15 years and have had very few male companions in my life since then.

When I moved in I took on a motherly type roll in the household and catered to everyone's needs. My grandchildren, but especially my son in law. I lusted after him, I seduced him and I entraped him. One day he was swimming his laps in the pool and I came out in a 2 piece binkini that I purposely selected. I entered the pool and interrupted his morning routine. It was from that moment forward that I made my sexuality known to him and faluted myself to him. A few weeks later we had intercourse for the first time, unprotected with primal lust and passion. He filled a void that I had been missing for over 15 years. I felt 25 years old again and gave no thoughts to my daughter or my two grandchildren.

I was not the best mother to begin with, I was pregnant initially at 16 and again at 19. I was taught that sex was the key to keeping your man happy, which was wrong. By age 26 I was divorced, alone and competing with my ex-husband who had again married a young bimbo who was now raising my kids. I experimented with drugs and was very much strung out for 8 years or so until I found god.

The power I held over my son in law was intoxicating. I was in love with him, we had sex in the pool, in the early hours of the morning trying not to wake anyone and even in his own bed. At first I was careful and took my pill, but I lapsed on my prescription and missed my period. I have not told him about this, I haven't told anyone. I want to abort this baby but I cannot bring myself to this. I cannot bring myself to admiting the truth to anyone. I wish I were dead, I wish I had never had these feelings and pushed this issue. I am pregnant and alone with my daughter's brother or sister inside of me. I am a monster

"nobody is perfect" IS NOT TRUE.....It is written in the Holy Bible that Job and Noah are sinners too but God sees them as PERFECT. HUMANS.........sorry cancergirl20 you are wrong..... people can be sinners yet PERFECT....READ YOUR BIBLE......

You are not the first woman who has done this. Nor is your son in law the first. Both of you were wrong of course. Ask GOD for forgiveness and sin no more. Just like JESUS said let he who is without sin cast the first stone. You do not have to tell your daughter. She probably knows already. However if it is not spoken it will be easier for her to go on.

Its been over a year now. Everyone and their kids has had their opinion, some unsound, but few well thought out. None can really hold any water without really knowing all the personallities involved, and any undisclosed back story(s) to the subject.<br /><br />But I'm sure, after 1 year, without a peep from the author, much must have completed and concluded.<br /><br />Any follow-up for your audience littlejon?

you are not a monster.It happened on a few moments of losing perspective.It is just unfortunate you missed period.But natural desire cannot be regulated and feel anything is beyond human control.what feelings you have felt were secretly felt by him otherwise nothing could have happened.Dont avoid reality.It is most natural for every Son in law to lust for his Mil&Sil.So just do what is required to get out of trouble and be cool

Wow. I think it's hilarious in a sick way that some people write about God in one sentance, and then say "KILL THE BABY" or "ABORT THE KID" in the next. You must be soooooooooooooo holy and know soooooooooooooo much about God!!! I believe though that if God heard you calling out to kill an unborn child and preaching about him in the next breath he might think you rather ignorant. <br />Weather we humans choose to believe it or not abortion is a SIN just like many other Sins such as coveting the neighbors husband or wife. Why follow one sin with another, stop sinning. Also for all you baby killers out there little john stated in a previous comment that she had a misscarrige so go find someother pregnant woman to convince to be a baby killer. Sorry I am pro choice and all it's every humans right to choose, God himself gave us that right. But killing a baby wether in the wonb or not is a serious sin!!!!

Oh for goodness sake .... let he/she without sin cast the first stone.<br /><br />Yes, it was wrong what she did but she didn't force the man to! If he cheated with her, he could cheat with anyone. She IS NOT the only one who should be held accountable here.<br /><br />To NOT tell her daughter would be wrong in my opinion, as if her husbnd has done this once, with someone as tabboo as his wifes mother, I'm sure as s*** he can do it again.<br /><br />Yes, her daughter will almost definately hate her, yes, she probably DOES deserve that, but why is no judgement being cast on the man here?<br /><br />Could she live her life aborting the child & pretending nothing had happened, not telling her daughter, and leting her daughter continue in a marriage full of lies. Which is worse?<br /><br />The poor daughter is the only blameless one in this ... the author of this was left 'punished' already by what she did in that she had an unwanted pregnancy ..... did the husband remain free of any concequences here.<br /><br />I hope she was big enough to tell her daughter. If you're big enough to screw your daughters husband, you should be big enough to own up to it and deal with the concequences.<br /><br />Sin, God blablabla. It ALWAYS has to come down to religion! Get off your religious moral high horses and give some decent advice and not rub your religious beliefs in others faces.<br /><br />I sincerely hope that the right thing was done, whatever that may be.

That child does not deserve to die because of your mistake. Your daughter deserves the truth, and you deserve whatever she decides about her and her kids relationship with you. You need to give that baby to a loving family and hope he/she never finds out the circumstances of his/her conception. One can only hope this idiot does not seek custody himself. You are going to need therapy and God to deal with your betrayal and you need to find out why you did it so you don't go on hurting others and you need to pray every day that your daughter can heal from this and maybe by some miracle even acknowledge you as her mother again. There is no other option besides the truth...you were woman enough to sleep with this DB, now be woman enough to deal with the consequences.

I think the best thing to do is not to punish the innocent parties, your daughter needs to know what type of man she is married to. Your feelings should not matter here, she has a right to know.<br /><br />Regarding the baby, you should keep it or consider adopting. You said you wanted to feel young again, I reckon with a new baby you will get this opportunity, a new lease of life. <br /><br />Do not punish the innocent victims of this terrible situation - honesty is the best policy. What if you decided to keep the affair a secret and one day your son-in law decided to tell your daughter. I would never take that risk, face up to what you have done

Hey, you already did a lot of nasty stuff in your life, abortion is nothing! Just think of it this way, if you are trying to have a chance to have a more peaceful family life, then you have not much of a choice. You will HAVE to abort the little thing growing inside of you. The reasons?<br /><br />Reasons to Have Abortion:<br />1. You will destroy the family more if everybody finds out about that you've been having an affair within the family. Yes, you will lie, you will be living in lie, but at least the family will have a bit of peace of mind.<br /><br />2. Raising the kid means giving it a horrible life. A kid born out of lust, deceit, and dishonor for the family name, what more could ruin a child's psychological mind? It will ask why its family is a wreck, and what will you tell it? Its friends will make fun of it or even harass it. That thing will just be a living poor psychological mess of a creature, tortured everyday by the results of your lustful and deceitful acts.<br /><br />3. Damage within the family, some to society. Just imagine, let's say you raised that thing. No matter what happens, there will be negative effects and those effects will be felt harshly by you, by it, by the family, and by the people around each one of you.<br /><br />You think you are doing something "good" for once by raising that kid, but that "good" is just a self-satisfying feeling that you need to remove the guilt that you have in your mind. Unfortunately, the results will be far more horrific, the results outweigh this little sense of "good" that you will have for a short time. Soon you will be engulfed by regret, more guilt, and psychological torture by what happens if you were to continue having that kid.<br /><br />Do not worry, you can still have a little feeling of satisfaction, with better results. It's not perfect, but if you abort the little thing in your womb, you can act out as if nothing ever happened between you and the man, make up a story of why you were away for some time, and the negative impact to your family and friends will be minimal at worst.<br /><br />In Summary....<br /><br />Have It VS Abort It<br /><br />Raise It:<br />1. Wreck family<br />2. Child faces negative results of the situation daily.<br />3. You are psychologically tortured about your own life.<br />4. Society will treat you bad, no matter what they say.<br /><br />Abort It:<br />1. Possible chance to save family from being destroyed.<br />2. If affair is not found out, family will continue living "normally" and might have a chance to improve.<br />3. Society will not care about you and turn its attention to something/someone else who have revealed themselves to the public as "morally ob<x>jectionable".<br />4. Your conscience, even if it might not be at peace, will be at better health than what it would have been if you raised the child, wrecked the family, and you get shunned by the world.<br /><br />May good fortunes be with you, and please think LOGICALLY, not emotionally!

What is with all of the put it up for adoption bullshit being thrown here. As a population we are already out of control, all we need is another unfit mother to bring another child into the world with her tainted DNA. Abort the child.<br />On the side of everyone saying how bad the husband is, ever think about how bad the wife is at keeping a man satisfied? <br />Teach your daughter how to work, abort the parasite growing inside you and move on with your life.

Well, you're nothing if not consistent. From what you say, the only person who has ever mattered to you was you. To be fair, your son in law knew what he was doing was wrong too. Now the two of you have destroyed your daughter's life and your grandchildren's lives as they were. That's because things like this never stay a secret. Your daughter probably noticed the extra attention you gave to her husband and just didn't want to believe it could mean what it did. You need to get out of their lives, no matter what you decide about the pregnancy. I'm guessing you felt you were in competition with your daughter sexually. It was completely inappropriate. If you joined the church for forgiveness, then bear in mind that you needed to stop doing the things you needed forgiveness for. It's not a get out of jail free card.

Oh wow I can't believe you found supporters on this. I almost hurt myself laughing at some of the responses about you are not a monster you just made bad choices. No take it from me you ARE a horrible person, he IS a horrible person and you should both be ashamed of yourselves. You've destroyed lives and hurt people all because you were a little wet in your pants. You are scum. He is scum, and I feel terrible for your daughter and her two children. They are the victims in this so all these posts about poor you and him just made bad choices are just a lie. You two deserve the worst to happen to you. Scum.

Congratulations...you made it to www.fark.com with this. If I were you, abort that baby, dont say a word or you WILL destroy any relationship you have with your daughter, grandkids and anyone else you care about. Thats just my opinion.

This story is as fake as Pam Anderson's boobs...the only thing missing is an opening line of <br /><br />Dear Penthouse, <br /><br />I never thought this would happen to me....<br /><br />you guys need to get a hobby.....

Yes, you are a monster. You are a vile, filthy *****. You are repugnant to all that is good and decent in this world. The fact that you live and breath the same air as other humans proves that there is not a God, as no loving God would allow something as heinous as you to exist anywhere but the foulest pits of hell. And that bastard in your belly, the spawn of your debauchery will probably be born deformed and retarded. <br /><br />Your only recourse at this time is to run, not walk, to the nearest abortion clinic and have them yank that bloodly lump of shame from your wrinkled, desperate and STD infected ****. Tell them to burn the remains, feed the ashes to pigs, then kill the pigs, burn them, and scatter their ashes within the fiery chasm of Mount Doom. <br /><br />Then, just to be safe, and to protect the world from being sucked into your putrid hole of despair, you need to have your uterus cut out, and that crusty sarlaac pit between your legs sewn shut. <br /><br />May God have mercy on your soul you prune-fed abomination.

You are a ******* horrible person, how could you do that to your daughter? Monster is an UNDERSTATEMENT for you. If I were your daughter I would kick you out sever all ties with you and never speak to you again. You just ruined a good marriage becuase of your own selfish god based needs. Guess what god isn't ******* real, hes a fairy tale, a ******* MYTH. You are a product of your own actions, not some fake wizard with a beard in the sky. If there was a hell I'd hope you burned in it, considering there isn't, I would suggest you through yourself off the nearest bridge.

I don't care what your beliefs are, if you're in the first trimester abort that baby. Normally I wouldn't say such a thing but considering what you've done this is the least of your worries and the easiest way to save a lot of future problems.

You're right, it is a unique experience. I hurt for you. You made a mistake. <br /><br />But you have a decision to make - you can start living the rest of your life the right way starting today, making the right decisions. It's the same thing I've had to do since my life fell apart recently. Read my story then contact me if you like - fallenpastor.blogspot.com<br /><br />Hang in there, take it a day at a time, and know you're not alone. You're being prayed for. There is a life to be lived and you will find redemption. Don't listen to hatred, don't let people tell you you're horrible, and learn to forgive yourself. Move forward beginning today. Seek help soon, please.

DO NOT TELL YOUR FAMILY ! Take care of it some other way, find someone to adopt him/her or have an abortion, which ever you choose. <br /><br />To keep it would present problems for an older woman raising a baby by herself without financial support.

NO CHILD deserves to have you as thier mother! You are unfit. <br /><br />YES tell your daughter the least you can do is let her know what a filthy selfish snake her husband is. <br /><br />YOU disgust me. If there was such a thing as hell that is where you will go. <br /><br />Monster is not a strong enough word to describe you. You show up mooch off your daughter becuase you are too much of a loser to support yourself then F her husband. <br /><br />You are her mother! <br />You are a horrible, horrible, filthy, disgusting, sociopathic, narcissistic, selfish, POS.. <br /><br />There is no punishment too severe for what you have done. <br /><br />I hope she NEVER speaks to you again. I hope you are dead to her. <br /><br />BTW here is a number to a suicide hotline 1-800-784-2433, don't kill yourself

NO CHILD deserves to have you as thier mother! You are unfit. <br /><br />YES tell your daughter the least you can do is let her know what a filthy selfish snake her husband is. <br /><br />YOU disgust me. If there was such a thing as hell that is where you will go. <br /><br />Monster is not a strong enough word to describe you. You show up mooch off your daughter becuase you are too much of a loser to support yourself then F her husband. <br /><br />You are her mother! <br />You are a horrible, horrible, filthy, disgusting, sociopathic, narcissistic, selfish, POS.. <br /><br />There is no punishment too severe for what you have done. <br /><br />I hope she NEVER speaks to you again. I hope you are dead to her. <br /><br />BTW here is a number to a suicide hotline 1-800-784-2433, don't kill yourself

NO CHILD deserves to have you as thier mother! You are unfit. <br /><br />YES tell your daughter the least you can do is let her know what a filthy selfish snake her husband is. <br /><br />YOU disgust me. If there was such a thing as hell that is where you will go. <br /><br />Monster is not a strong enough word to describe you. You show up mooch off your daughter becuase you are too much of a loser to support yourself then F her husband. <br /><br />You are her mother! <br />You are a horrible, horrible, filthy, disgusting, sociopathic, narcissistic, selfish, POS.. <br /><br />There is no punishment too severe for what you have done. <br /><br />I hope she NEVER speaks to you again. I hope you are dead to her. <br /><br />BTW here is a number to a suicide hotline 1-800-784-2433, don't kill yourself

As far as the original poster complaining about the responses. <br /><br />Wake up! No one cares about ANYTHING you have to say! <br /><br />LOL, you try to judge those for judging. <br /><br />Wow, you really take the cake. <br />You are one sick, delusional worthless waste of air. <br /><br />You want to atone you say and posting your crimes and expecting a supportive response to stroke your ego and make you feel all better and that is atoning?<br /><br />You don't deserve any respect from anyone. You are twisted and full of wrong. <br /><br />Take your lashings what you have done is so horrible it enrages strangers, deal with it. <br /><br />The fact you feel entitled to any forum community 'helping' you deal with this is sick in itself. <br /><br />You deserved to feel horrible for twice as long as your daughter does. <br />Your whole life as far as I am concerned.

mistakes do happens in everybody's life.if a person does a mistake 1st time then it can be forgiven,but if a person repeats the same mistake again and again then it is called their habit.<br />u case is also like this.<br />u know wht? u r a mother and a mother is the one who look after their child with care and love.since he is Ur daughters husband u must have looked at him as u look at ur son.<br />the best solution for this is to find a man and marry him but before that confess to him what all happened.in that way u will have a husband and a child.dont tell ur daughter. TRUTH ALWAY WINS HEART.

Your daughter has a right to know. She should be given the choice whether or not to stay with her cheating husband. She should be given the choice whether or not to kick you out of her house.<br /><br />I cannot believe so many people are saying that you shouldn't tell her. You need to take responsibility for your actions and so does her husband.

YOu are a FREAKING ***** <br />WOW everthing you did/do all calculated... and you wrote this cause you proud of it not cause you ashame of it.<br />IF you ashame you would not post this **** up.<br />WOW... MORAL standard NO.. NO self-value and What the fudge.!!!!!<br /><br />JEzzz woman THE Man is no better than YOU . Tsk tsk ..

YOU ARE A MONSTER!!!!!!! THATS MESSED UP ANYWAY U LOOK AT IT!!!!!<br />I don't feel sympathy or anything for you!<br /><br />Its a tough spot,and im not trying to be rude.But tell your daughter,and just hope she forgives u,but yes the child will be confused,but dont even think about adoption or abortion,it deserves to live,even though you're an idiot for making a mistake like that,its not the babys fault

You handpicked that bikini. You knew what you were doing. Tell your daughter the type of unfaithful man she married, and GTFO. YOU ARE A HORRIBLE PERSON. Yes, indeed you are a monster. You wrote this with a conscious but have none. You are only seeking some type of sympathy and validation in hopes that someone else may have some similar story, so you can feel at ease. You shouldn't. What you did was downright wrong, provoking infidelity amongst your own blood. You will not find sympathy from me. Please do the right thing and tell your daughter. And leave. You deserve no more hospitality from her. What a horrible, horrible person you are.

Humm let's see... daughter opens up her home to you, even though you were never really there for her, made horrid choices in your life and now find yourself in need of a place to live. THEN you go get a bikini and seduce her husband... not once but multiple times. And oops you forgot your pill...Bull you did. He should be ashamed and you should get out of that house as fast as you can pack your bags, off to a home for single pregnant women with you and let some couple with morals adopt this child. DO NOT TELL your daughter, you have created enough distruction without tearing apart a marriage as well. Her husband needs to admit to an affair, but not with HER MOTHER and let them work it out from there. Your your input is not needed, unless the goal was to take over her husband, home and children in the first place. Fat chance he's get those children. Keep in mind YOU were a fling, she is his wife.

i caught my mother in bed with one of my soon to be boyfriends in high school,, she was not the best mother either, and had i not found them in bed together i wouldnt have known to what extent of a horrible mother she is,, i ve gone through hell inside my head with alot of issues i have with her, but anyways by telling her the truth,, it shows alot of effort on your part,u made a mistake and your able to admit it , and thats something my mom couldnt even do, she just acted like it never happened . i mean u just slept with her husband after the fact that she let u stay in her house and welcome u to their family, she deserves that much, and any man that would sleep with their mother in law, tottally has no respect for his wife and no concern for his kids and how this will affect them. protect her from living a lie, the truth will set you free!!!

You are a pig. That is your daughter's husband for chrissakes ! You couldn't find a man of your own... you had to go after your son in-law ? He's no better than you but YOU are her mother. I would not tell your daughter you are pregnant let alone had an affair with her husband. Do you know how devastating this news will be to her ?

What's wrong having a baby with your son in law?<br /><br />How erotic would it be when the same young man have a child with your offspring!<br /><br />Blame it on one night's stand.<br /><br />Even your son in law doesn't have to know.

HON,I SURE FEEL BAD FOR YOU, ALL I CAN SAY IS LET THOSE WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE. IM SURE IF THE GOODY TWO SHOES WOULD HAVE YOU TARED AND FEATHERED THEY WOULD.LIFE IS SHORT IT JUST THINGS HAPPEN YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST IM SURE THAT THIS HAS HAPPENED TO I WOULD GET OUT OF THERE YOU JUST WANT SOMEONE TO CARE ABOUT YOU AND SEX IS HOW YOU EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS FIND A PLACE TO STAY HAVE YOUR BABY IF THATS WHAT YOU WANT THE GIVE IT TO SOMEONE THAT WANT HIM OR HER BUT DONT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.

I am in a very similar situation in that my mother-in-law and I am having an affair the wife obviously knows nothing about. I think you should approach your son-in-law and tell him of the situation. At that point the two of you can decide to either have the baby or abort. The advice by ashok6558 above is not a bad idea. Let us know what happens. I'll be sure and show this to my mother-in-law. She is in her early 50's and considers herse;f safe from pregnancy but I think better safe than sorry. I'll be making sure she goes on the pill as neither of us wants to be using condoms, we enjoy the total experience and she says sex isn't complete unless I ejacualte inside her. I'm not about to complain as it gets rid of the need to stop and put a condom on. Looking forward to an update on your status soon

i think that I would just tell the family that you were dating a man. And the condom broke. The son-in law doesn't even need to know. He is your family. So he might act as a dad for the child. <br /><br />Think about how that child will feel if you give it up. when it's old enough to know things. <br /><br />She just tell the son-in law that you were sleeping with this other guy. Would you not love this child. Think about it, most of the time, God does this for a reason. It's not like you were raped. have the baby and love it. <br /><br />God bless and best wishes.

hey you are a good person!! dont think no diffrent!! i would keep it to myself and say that you had a one nite stand and raise the baby... if you abort it make sure that you can really live with it.. i dated a girl that aborted hers and it really screwed her up. i finally had to break up with her even tho i really loved her i just could not see a long relationship with her

hey dont pay any mind to the hate comments. and you sure not going to hell!! god has a plan for all things good are bad... everything works to the good of god... it is the hate mongrels that will end up condemning there self. for the first one that cast the first stone has already in gods eyes sinned!! forgiveness is easy just ask for it and it will be forgiving.. the only hard part is to forgive yourself and to except it and not dwell on the past but rejoice that there is a new life to celebrate.

You found God. show him and hit your knees pray for guidance and believe that he will guide you. i have dreamt of a situation like yours from the son in law perspective it is scary. i know you are afraid. put that aside. pray hard

Why compound your misbehavior and have an abortion? That will only increase your guilt tenfold. Your daughter ought to know what a rotten husband she has, even if it makes her mother also look bad. Many people would love to adopt your baby. If you have and keep it, you will have to come clean. Keeping such secrets will eat you alive. Go to a counselor and try to work things out. Why destroy an innocent child to hide your misbehavior? Such facts will eventually come out. When they do, everyone will be hurt. If you can get through pregnancy and<br />all be counseled together, maybe you'll all relate better. Time to scrap bad relationships and start over. You are NOT a monster. Just someone who was needy and made bad choices. Just work through this crisis and move on. Don't look back!

@qb0p: hell no i wouldn't permit it and my mother wouldn't have stooped that low in the first place. some of us had decent mothers, thank goodness. my mother was a class act unlike the woman, and i use that word loosely, that wrote this story.

i think you should tell ur daughter about all this as she should know dat wat kind of a husband she has and so 4 future she can put her eyes open............. and also get abortion as soon as possible or otherwise it will hurt ur daughtr alot..... and u should tak a listen frm it and dont do it again plz and consult sum counceller

please dont punish urself. u r not a monster.y? the answer is simple.the man who got u pregnant is not a BLOOD RELATED SON...BUT A SON BY PROXY.<br />MY advice is to get ABORTION bcoz u hav to do a lot of explanations how u got pregnant.<br />aftr that b CAREFUL 2 not gettingpreggy or caught.enjoy life discreatly with ur son in LAW.<br />WISDOM OF MINE : MYSELF MAKES LOV TO MY OWN MOM.THE ONLY RULE WE HAV ....<br />1.SECRECY<br />2.NO PREGNANCY(Y?NO INBREADING LIKE ANIMALS)<br />3.THE PHILOSPHY : EVERY ANIMAL except humans enjoy sex with their own blood.thats inbreeding,not at all heALTHY.BUT HEALTHY ******* IS GREAT EVEN WITH UR GRAND CHILD

I pity your daughter.She has the worst mother and husband.She is all alone with none...It hurts the most when her own mother and husband is unfaithful and cheats on her.<br />Let god's grace be on her.

LOOK, God has given you a gift. Raise the child to be a great person. God has plans for her, or him. <br />Giving you a child to raise. Is what you wanted.<br />Don't be so hateful and negative to your X, or to your self. Find a good man for your self if you are lonely. God know I want a good woman, so there got to be a good man out there for you. And one who would love to help raise the child. <br />Don't ever tell any one what happen. That is between you and God. Only satin would want you to tell others so that it would tear them apart.

Wow! I am not going to castigate you for what you have already done. I think at this point your own guilt is telling you all the mistakes you have made. <br /><br />This story reminds me of the story of David and Uriah. You definitely<br />need to immediately get some professional help. And you need to think about therapy for the rest of your family. If your daughter ever finds out she will never be able in this life to forgive you for that level of betrayal. Even if you do go somewhere else to have the child one day that child is going to come looking for his birth parents and this is not going to be something that you will ever be able to explain. <br />Then you need to do some serious talking with God. You keep doing things to make you feel better about yourself and everything that you do has turned out to be not enough. Now you have done something so serious that it will affect your family down to the third and fourth generation.<br /><br />I don't think a therapist can fix this one. You need God to come into this and even then doesn't mean there won't be consequences but at least past the consequences there is redemption and forgiveness.

@littlejon63 I just read what you wrote about the baby. I am sorry for your loss. I realize that regardless of their circumstance that was part of you that died.<br /><br />I also want to say after having read so many of the comments of castigation that "with what judgement you judge so shall you be judged.<br />You may think that your "sin" is as bad as what this woman did--but that is not biblical. It might be currant mores in our society today but its not biblical. Any sin that you are harboring is in God's eyes just as big as this woman who came forward and pronounced what she had done in the open.<br />What some of you have done or seemed to do is tell her that there is no point in going to God. That what she did is beyond him to forgive. That's just not true. And if he forgives her she is forgi ven indeed though she may still have to bare the consequences for her actions. But your judgments upon her may rebound to your own undoing. "Let he that is without sin, cast the first stone". Christ knew the difference between what people said publically and what they did privately. He knew that everyone in that circle had sinned and lo not one felt worthy of casting a stone.<br />Now you have a choice here to decide... are you worthy of forgiveness? If you aren't worthy in your own eyes can you with a contrite heart confess your iniquities and accept God's forgiveness?

lots of comments but none in sympathy with nature! the ***** from an in-law was not shy in fertilizing an in-law's egg! that was nature. both mother-in-law and son-in-law were turned on for each other and the natural deed was done! my advice: tell not your daughter as she may not see things the way i do and get hurt. move out but with much less guilt than you now feel. keep your baby as its father is not genetically your relative! if you must have the baby adopted, arrange that without any undue guilt! since the consequence of the event has hurt your feelings, keep away from circumstances that led to the event!<br />best wishes!

Addressing the first thing, I suggest leaving in a non suspicious way. Say good by and leave her husband alone. Second issue, you ruined your daughters relationship with you and her and I don't think it will ever be even close to the same. She is in the man's wife and it isn't up to you to "do her the favor of telling her what kind of man she chose." You should discuss that you are leaving and you are pregnant and he is married to your daughter and should tell her and work on his marriage if she chooses to. <br /><br />Now you deciding to abort or not is your choice how ever, i would recommend doing the least selfish thing and put the child up for adoption after going on a "trip" so your daughter doesn't have to be hurt by it.<br /><br />That is not your marriage and not your place to say a thing to your daughter, I would encourage her husband to do the right thing by your daughter though.<br /><br />All in all I hope you do what's right by your daughter and the new baby rather then doing something that makes you feel better and whats easiest. <br /><br />You are not a monster but what you've done is horribly wrong and you know that. Now don't be selfish in your choices. Be an Adult now.<br /><br />This is just my opinion I'm not telling you, you have to do anything.

I can not tell you what to do,I am also married for 20 years,My husband does not satisfy me,think maybe he has been having afairs.When we do have sex it is just a quickie to satisfy him,it gets longer and longer between us having sex,well I had a affair with my son in law he is in his 20's me in my 40's,he is such a great lover he does things to make me climax like my husband never did,I know it not right but my desires got the best of me,he made me feel young and brought out all my sexual desires,we have been having our afair now for 2 years,i am on the pill so I don,t get pregnant,I always look forward till we can be together,at first it bothered me but now i can only wait in excitement till we can get in bed together or where ever we can,hope yours turns out ok

You're not a monster... Polygamy and pregnancy isn't bad and you became pregnant with son-in-law is one of the most beautiful things in the world... You're still fertile and enjoy it lasts... It's not a rape its constent... You, Your daughter and your son-in-law all are adults and you can live all together... You all accept this reality if you haven't any problem to raise the child... And feeding another child will not be a problem... You can both be mothers... <br /><br />Tell to your daughter to accept this... And enjoy it with starting sleeping the same bed and after that also you can try all fantasies you had with both of them... You can enjoy wife of your son-in-law also...<br /><br />I wish you happy three person relationship...

Do what you think is best for yourself.<br />If you want to continue your sexual relationship with your son-in-law, then continue it.<br />If you want to keep the baby, keep it.<br /><br />Life is too short to have other dictate/shame you on what to do.

i believe your daughter should know that two people who "loved" her both betrayed her. yes your daughter will be driven crazy but what's done is done. Abortion really? why should another life have to pay for the parents mistakes? Everyone in your family is going to need some form of therapy after all this...

I have to second you on you being a monster,really no one knows better than yourself what you are.You have really made a mess of your family and that is too bad.Your daughters children and the child you are having with your son-in-law is going to have real issues later in life esp when they all go to the same school.Wow I can't believe what you have done,I really hope I log on here someday and find out it was just a joke!

I don't think you are a monster. However your action was regardless not right, morally, ethically and emotionally. If your daughter ever found out, she would be devastated. You would be responsible to singlehandedly destroying their happy married life. You should abort the child and you should have taken the precaution to begin with. For your daughter's sake, do not let this surface to her, ever. You should leave and go some place else away from them.

Well my experience is that one does not "find God". To the contrary "God" finds YOU. My assesment is that your affair was pretty incestious, because the guy was family. I would not tell your daughter because that would totally damage her trust and I think you need to get the hell out of that house and situation asap.

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