Thursday, February 14, 2013

"My funny Valentine Sweet, comic Valentine You make me smile with my heart".No you don't, my wallet isn't smiling.
This Valentine's Day holiday thing is getting out of control. I think I speak for all men who are already committed in a serious relationship when I say that there should be a Valentine's Day exception for folks like us. Valentine's Day is pretty much 360 days of the year in chez Field. Not cool having to fight over dudes in the flower shop who visit that bad boy once a year. I am a regular damn it! I should be treated with some respect. ($60 for a dozen roses?! No frequent shopper discount?! "No Mr. Field; you pay the same as everybody else". Dude must be a republican.) And don't even get me started on the crowded restaurants. Pssst, fellows, here is a hint for you: next year you should take her to lunch or an early dinner.

Anywhoo, all is well that ends well. We won't have to worry about that little bugger Cupid coming around for another year, playing on our heart strings, and sticking us for our paper with that damn arrow of his.

"Each day is Valentine's Each day is Valentine's Day"No it isn't. And I, for one, am thankful for that.

One person who won't be enjoying this Valentine's Day is Reeva Steenkamp. She is the now deceased girlfriend of South African "blade runner", Oscar Pistorius. My man allegedly shot his model girlfriend to death and from all reports is claiming that he thought that she was an intruder.

This is a huge story in South Africa. This is their version of the O.J. Simpson circus.

South Africa, like the United States, is a violent place, and folks who have money live in gated and guarded communities away from the have- nots. They also arm themselves to the teeth just in case. Pistorius is no exception. My man loves his guns and he knows how to use them.

I just hope for his sake that he didn't decide to use his gun for something other than protection this time.

Dear Mr Field, thank you for an outstanding post. As you know, I have always maintained that you have the "best" blog not only in the black blogosphere, but also in the white blogosphere. It is no accident that people of all colors, except the Latinos, find their way to FN.

Mr Field, I can't say it enough: "You are a brilliant blogger." And by extention, a 'brilliant man' who far exceeds 'any' white man."

Have you considered running for a Senate seat, or maybe even President? I bet you would win easily. All voters could see clearly the kind of compassionate man you are by just going to FN.

Please consider running for office. The country desperately needs brilliant leaders like you, whom Whites would not hesitate to follow.

AwwwWWW Field! Field, Field, Field! Nooo! How can you be the..the..the.. *gasp*...StValentines day GRINCH!!!

What's happened to you? Et tu Field? You didn't used to be like this???

and St. Valentines....*shaking head*

What you should have done was to cook her a fab dinner! Now that's a gift! and then do the dishes, and clean the stove a litte, aaand mop the kitchen.

That would make any woman happy, yes, umhum ;P

9:02 PM-----------------------------------Miss Desertflower, Field has always been this way. He has never changed since the age of 6. So you can skip the psychology on him..he's too far gone for that.

Secondly, Field doesn't cook. What the hell do you think he got married for, to cook? No, my dear. He got married to HAVE someone to cook FOR HIM! Now, Field works his ass off everyday and deserves flowers himself. But does he get any? HELL NO.

And you wonder WHY he is the way he is? Shit... There are a lot of us out here like that. Buying flowers all the fucking time THROUGHOUT THE YEAR!!! Hence, Valentine's Day is just another day except it more of a hassle to get those damn flowers.

This shit has got to stop. We poor men have been getting the shaft since Adam and Eve. In fact, I'd like to personally kick Adam's ass for listening to Eve. I mean, he was one dumb mofo.

The consequence of Adam eating the apple with Eve is that men have been listening to women--and buying stuff we never would be buying. Adam was one stupid ass.

Man, I really need to keep Mrs. X happy because she's just as cynical about holidays as I am. But hold that down about flowers and such being cheaper the rest of the year, she may think I'm against holidays not for some inner moral code but because I'm cheap. Damn bro.

Brother Field...my spouse of 39years has a birthday 8th of Feb.so Valentine Day is an added stress to make her happy in " my mind". I have over the course of time given her thr flowers, candies and dinners. Each year she tells me as long as I get her birthday gift.... The Valentine Day can be excused........buttt you know Sistas that are placed in a secondary status. I treat Febuary like a minefield and stick with traditional American way. I get the flowers and candies and move on to the next minefield.....Christmas. These days have cost me (3 per year x 39 years= 117 gifts).....so "i feel you". Mr. Hallmark and Flowers-Are-Us got a good racket going on...but don't tell Mrs.Armstrong I said so.

I had a GREAT day yesterday, but theses days most of my days are GREAT!!!!

Question of the day, why are people so up in arms about the folks stranded on that cruise ship, when most didn't give a damn when a similar situation occured at the Superdome following Hurricane Katrina?

The consequence of Adam eating the apple with Eve is that men have been listening to women--and buying stuff we never would be buying. Adam was one stupid ass."~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~But he sure loved him some apple! ;D

" I am trying to be understandang of another Hallmark rip off, but as I get older it gets that much harder. :) "~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~I hear you, that's why it's easier to get the gift way earlier and just save it till the day. Because as you get older, much older and life becomes less hectic, you will also realize that.these little breaks in routine are very necessary, my little analytical and testy Virgo ;)

I cannot speak to the validity of Dorner's allegations about the LAPD, but, looking at how he went out merits skepticism.

What is scary to me is the fact that if an identical candidate applied tomorrow he would be hired without ado.

It took me three years and over 200 applications, four interviews and a move to a small town 350 miles from home to achieve my goal of employment as a train crew member on a Class 1 or 2 railroad, from a minimum wage job as a crew van driver. In the meantime, three people-one white female, one (sort of) black female and one black male-I urged to apply with the first railroad and duty station I worked at have been hired, all on first application, two of which quit within six months. The third will probably quit when she gets back from her second maternity leave.

Ex-cops I work with here tell me the police departments are just like the railroad.

"I get the flowers and candies and move on to the next minefield.....Christmas. These days have cost me (3 per year x 39 years= 117 gifts).....so "i feel you". Mr. Hallmark and Flowers-Are-Us got a good racket going on...but don't tell Mrs.Armstrong I said so."

Only 3 gifts per year? Man, you must be an angel. Hell, I screw up at least 10 times a year which translates into more flowers. If it is a total fuck up it translates into jewelry. Eve made out like a bandit when she got Adam to eat that damn apple.

Field, "My dear Desertflower, I am trying to be understandang of another Hallmark rip off, but as I get older it gets that much harder. :)"

5:24 AM--------------------------Field, I feel ya on the Hallmark cards. That is why I have started a holiday/specials card company for men like you.

Special care has been taken in the wording of each card, designed to touch her heart and love you more. And, here's the best part:

My cards are half of Hallmarks and much more beautiful. Your lady will fall in love with you all over again when you give her one of my companies moving cards.

In addition, you only have to order once because my company sends you a locked box containing one card for each holiday. The box has a timer that opens the box each holiday and the corresponding card slips through the mouth of the card for you to loving give to her.

Many men rave over this new modern way of giving cards to their ladies. They don't have to remember shit because the timed-box reminds them. Isn't that neat?

As I said before: the cards are half the price of Hallmark. The timed box costs a little more, but it's a one time fee only once a year. I will be contacting you about this new innovative card box. Have a good weekend!

>I cannot speak to the validity of Dorner's allegations about the LAPD, but, looking at how he went out merits skepticism. <

Yeah, there are two kinds of racism: social racism, racism the individual adopts just to fit in to society; and reactive or statistical "racism," "racism" prompted by bitter experience. I put scare-quotes around the latter because it is not baseless predjudice but informed statistical discrimination.

In fact, I have known a variety of people in "helping" jobs such as police officer, paramedic, ER nirse, and social worker, and all of them were reactive "racists." Dealing with many people in stressful situations had taught them all to make statistical predictions about their clients' attitudes, abilities, and likely behaviors by race. If a naive outsider heard them talking (or worse, joking-- lots of dark humor in stressful jobs) among themselves the outsider would likely label them "racist" without necessarily grasping the difference between mere predjudice and informed wariness.

I had a GREAT day yesterday, but theses days most of my days are GREAT!!!!

Question of the day, why are people so up in arms about the folks stranded on that cruise ship, when most didn't give a damn when a similar situation occured at the Superdome following Hurricane Katrina?

Aw hell, we ALL know why!!!!

Occurred is with two R's Mrs six degrees of inner turbulence.

Because the people on the cruise ships weren't told to leave or face a disaster and didn't decide they knew better and went anyway and then blamed someone else for their decision to plunder, rape, rob when they should have been helping each other survive instead of stealing TV's when anyone with brains new they weren't going to have any place or electricity to plug them in for a long time. The people on the ship also didn't shoot at the supply ship that came to feed them or start crying racism because the white man wasn't coming to save them, feed them, wipe their ass and accept the blame for every one of their inabilities and bad decisions.

Does that answer your question you racist Sow?

Why didn't' the mayor evacuate the mindless helpless children? Why did he decide sitting on the buses would be too inconvenient? Why didn't any of the Black Bus drivers do their duty and show up to drive the buses? And why didn't any citizens listen to the government telling them to get out or they would drown? We know why...we know why.

@Desertflower...that dinner at home and clean up services was a good one!After 42 yrs. together..I can truly appreciate those acts of love. :-)

The Valentine's Day shooting to me was not a mistake. She came home at 3:00a.m. (according to reports) and there was a hx. of domestic calls at that residence by police. He assumed the worst and shot her. They say he's "distraught"...well give him the rest of his life to become accustomed to that feeling behind bars!!! No sympathy here for him.

As I said before: the cards are half the price of Hallmark. The timed box costs a little more"~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~lol! Not a bad idea! Add the birthdays, Mothers, Fathers, Thanksgiving, Easter, etc.,as well as the money cards for the mailman and garbage pickup men, and you could be on to something ;)

why are you allowing all of these name calling childlike people to be here insulting those who have a different opinion..The language by some here(usually anonymously) should be deleted and some need a bit wash mouth and self worth ..ooooooops I forgot Freedom of speech lol Sorry bro ;)

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