Children who are the star in their own lives are not prepared for the compromises of real life, according to child psychologist Amanda Gummer

The “wild and unruly” children that primary school teachers have to deal with are often the progeny of their parents, according to Dr Amanda Gummer, a research psychologist specialising in child development.

Writing for the Daily Mail she said: “Wild, unruly children are increasingly likely to be the progeny of so-called ‘helicopter’ parents.

“They are ruthlessly ambitious for their child’s future — failing to realise how badly their mollycoddling is preparing them for the compromises of real life.”

A helicopter parent is a term used to refer to mums and dads who takes an overprotective or excessive interest in their child’s life, often giving intense one-on-one attention to their kid.

But this is fuelling a “little emperor” syndrome in children who start to struggle in the classroom because they cannot handle being number one, explains Amanda.

“While we’ve long known this hovering parenting style can create children unable to make decisions or exhibit independence, what’s less often discussed is how aggressive and difficult the children of helicopter parents — often middle-class, professional and, to their minds, devoted to their darlings — can be at school.”

Parents who do not say no and set clear boundaries are damaging their kids learning prospect at school, Amanda said

And these parents are refusing to take responsibility for their actions, she claims.

While working with primary school teacher she said she heard horror stories like parents blaming the teacher for their kids bad behaviour, suggesting that their child was a “genius” and that their bad behaviour is “an outlet because you don’t challenge him intellectually”.

When a child is not taught the world does not revolve around them the impact on their learning can be dramatic, she said.

The latest statistics from the Department of Education show that last year, in England alone, 35 children a day were permanently excluded from school.

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Recent studies have also indicated that helicopter parenting damages the well-being and independence of kids when they become adults.

A 2016 study from Florida State University found that crossing the line between supportive parent and too involved could indirectly lead to depression and anxiety in young adults.

The study, published in the Journal of Child and Family Studies, found it can have a meaningful impact on how young adults see themselves and whether they can meet challenges or handle adverse situations.

A 2017 study found similar results.

Experts from Southern Methodist University in Dallas, US, found young women’s mental well-being was impacted by helicopter parenting while young men were hit hardest when their parents failed to encourage their independence.

So the bottom line is, set our kids boundaries at home and learn to say no if you want them to behave and do well in school.

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