It's an old story, with lots of twists, I wish I could say that the bad guys and the good guys are all easy to spot, but then it wouldn't be real. This is about custody, being in one and needing another.
I'll try to explain. In 1989 I met a girl we'll call blu. Blu had two children, ages 21/2 and 10 months, had just left her husband, had just met me.
She and I (and the kids) fast forward four years. Now we're in texas and we have a child of our own, the first child with my last name. We're not married, everyone calls me dad, my girlfriend (and now mother-of-my-child) is a stripper. Two years pass, and I leave. We agree to share custody of our daughter, Air. I get Air for the summer, and a month early Blu picks her up. She tells me she just moved and she doesn't have a phone in yet but she'll call collect and leave me the address. Six years later, my wife and I bump into her in a strip-club in Memphis, and for about 3 days she let me see Air, and then promising there will be more time later, she takes them away.
And now...
Searches of the Internet have located an address and phone number that are accurate. Air is being kept by Blu's parents in missisippi, what are my options?

Searches of the Internet have located an address and phone number that are accurate. Air is being kept by Blu's parents in missisippi, what are my options?

First contact a lawyer in her home state and have your intentions filed with the court. Is your name on the birth certificate? If not, this will be harder and more expensive.

The unfortunate thing is, if her parents have custody of the children (including your child), then there was an agreement or hearing in court likely a long time ago and you didn't show up. Obviously you couldn't have because you were not notified, but they take that as 'non interest' no matter what the reason.

Worse case scenario, you get visitation in her state and are unable to take her out of state, no matter the circumstance. Best case, they let you take her every other holiday and fade into more contact.

The courts argue that they rule in favor of 'what is best for the child.' This is not really the case; it is 'what is best for the State.' Also be very careful, someone may sue for back child support learning that you want to get some sort of custody rights. "What is best for the State," is that money is flowing through the courts in the form of child support no matter what.

A good attorney will be able to give you the options that are available to you regarding this issue. There are court cases out there that have been won in favor of the biological parent having opportunity for custody where there is no proof that parent was improperly denied their rights.
The fact her parents may have some form of custody may be overturned more easily now than before because there have been new laws enacted that over-rule the once favored grandparent rights.
The process will most likely be complicated, and both emotionally and financially draining, but if this is something you want, I know you will make it happen.
Please take into consideration while you are doing this, that your child is old enough now to understand everything, and any action you take may affect her as well. (I have been through this some-what, so I speak from experience)
Good luck!
~ME

Family Law in Australia is based on the Book."Beyond the Best Interests of the Child" Written by Goldstein, Sonnett and Freud. It is a feminist/marxist model designed to ensure that children do not have the benefit of a relationship with their Fathers.

Three Australian men suicide every day in relation to family court matters and child support matters....our government ( you know the "democracy") sits by and lets this happen. It can't be ignorant indifference....it has to be part of a plan.

More Australian men die every few months at the hands of this monster than the total number of Australian Soldiers who died in the entire Vietnam War.

Yes, my name is on the birth-certificate, and I think that the grand-parents only have my daughter. Her mother is not a very good mom, she's 36, the last time I saw her she was a paid escort and a coke dealer, her relationship status is always changing, and even her two older children still want to call me dad. And I don't know which home state to consider, she was born in Arkansas, is living in Louisana now, so where do I file paperwork. I just want to be a father to my child, I don't want her to think a day has gone by without me thinking about her. Could I just call her? What kind of repercussions am I looking at if I just call?

I think the first step would be to check with the courts in the county of Louisiana to see if anything has been filed that has anything to do with custody. It's as easy as just emailing the juvenile department of the court, or really anyone in the court would be able to forward your request. It should be free, but it may cost $8.00 or so to get the paperwork on the case.

If nothing at all comes up for that state, then you should focus on getting someone to represent you and file for whatever it is you are seeking. Visitation, sole or joint custody etc. File in the state the child resides, simply because you can't file in a state where the child no longer lives even if they were born there. You may want to ask a lawyer about that however. Family law lawyers normally have a 'free consultation' phone call to ask such questions. You can call every single one in your city and use up their free advice.

I don't really recommend calling her just yet, because suddenly you are 'back on the radar' and if they have never filed for anything legal they might become really interested in doing so before you do. Sadly the way it works is who files first has a higher chance of 'winning' no matter what. Hopefully in this case it will be you who files first and shows your intention to be there for your daughter. If you do call her, they can't 'do' anything to you; however just remember that you are giving them an advantage, where before they may have figured you are MIA.

Custody battles are miniature wars and can be drawn out for years and thousands of dollars. However if you are lucky things may go easier than you think.

Keep us posted and feel free to PM me.

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Originally Posted by OdinsonWolfkiller

Yes, my name is on the birth-certificate, and I think that the grand-parents only have my daughter. Her mother is not a very good mom, she's 36, the last time I saw her she was a paid escort and a coke dealer, her relationship status is always changing, and even her two older children still want to call me dad. And I don't know which home state to consider, she was born in Arkansas, is living in Louisana now, so where do I file paperwork. I just want to be a father to my child, I don't want her to think a day has gone by without me thinking about her. Could I just call her? What kind of repercussions am I looking at if I just call?

If there is no offical order of custody in place you can simply contact the local authorities and go to the home of the mother's parents and demand they return your daughter to you. Again, on the basis of no offical order of custody, if you have a copy of the birth cert. and a vaild photo ID if the girl is in a school or day care you can go in and take her. You are the father of the child and your rights supercede those of the grand parents.

Alas, the law in almost every western country in the world, gives the mother a great advantage... but in your case, you have a good chance of winning! (do not show you being a white nationalist if you decide to go to court, as this will give you a negative aura with the jewish law enforcers you might encounter!)