Hi, i'm in my mid 20's and have a beautiful niece but at times she thinks she is too beautiful so she has developed a different type of behavior.
A sexual type of behavior which started off by when she wanted to become a model when she gets older.
She is only 11 turning 12 soon and her parents are way to busy flying away for business so she is stuck with me most of the time. I'am going to be very open here.

She only does this when she comes to mine to stay for some few days.
And i find her watching my adult movies when i just left her for 1hr at home so i can go do something.
Ever since then she wants to talk about sex, she wants to become a model and she does erotic poses mind you also, She is asking me can she watch those movies of mine because she finds it interesting.

I don't pay attention and i try changing the subject but she is nagging me a lot over it.
Now... i have also mentioned something small to mommy about it, but she also doesn't take interest what i'm saying.
She works as a stripper so not sure what to do.

Your reactions and how all the adults handle this is going to affect her outlook on who to trust for information.
Let's look at the facts, first. She is raising mature questions that, otherwise, kids her age would cower at just the thought of discussing with their parents. In a positive light, she is comfortable enough and willing to have that open discussion with you. This means she is ready to hear the answers.
If you find that she is only this way around you, then you're the person she is looking up to for guidance. She needs plenty of it now.

Secondly, it's natural to feel alarmed and uncomfortable that a child is curious and seeking triple X material. I completely understand and I can relate. I recently found out my 15 yr old has been viewing adult videos on the computer when she forgot to erase the history. (I thought someone hacked my wifi) I confronted her out of suspicion that she may be the culprit and I had to do it in the least judgemental, least threatening way. We had a casual talk about what adult material is and how it's natural to be curious but not to take what she sees as seriously nor as an example of what a healthy relationship is. And that I'm always there if she has a question. And, to...uh delete the search history next time. I remember being her age and me and my bestie would get into her parents or the babysitting customer's stash. It doesn't mean we were sexually active. And I know my kid is not sexually active with others. It's not abnormal for kids to look at this stuff. It's just about curiosity and, yes, they are going to start feeling sensations and try things with themselves. Let her. You don't need to know when or details, or even think about it. It's a natural part of development and puberty.

Thirdly, you need to address her questions and have a talk with her about the material she is seeing. Adult films are not good interpretations of what a healthy relationship nor always good insight to healthy sexual activity. If her mom isn't willing to deal with it, you need to have a talk with her mom. Is there any other family you can turn to for help?

There are some informative sites you can direct her to. Like, itsyoursexlife.org, for example. It's always advertised during Teen Mom shows.

I'm not going to make any criticisms regarding to her mother's work choice. Perhaps your niece is the same way at home and her mom is more liberal about it, therefore it never gets brought up. Or maybe the mom is embarrassed to talk about it with you, or she may not want to embarrass her daughter. I don't know. That's something for you to observe.

Another thing I tell my daughter, because I do have moral standards, is why it's important and beneficial to wait until she is older and purely ready. Education and establishing a career and independent life should always come before serous relationships and sex should be saved for serious relationships, preferably once married. I've been stressing this periodically for years with her and thankfully she genuinely agrees and is devoted to waiting.

I get what you are saying artsy mom, and the mommy is not embarrassed or embarrass her and anything but she just don't take this the right approach and the thing is because she is a stripper, she don't let her daughter touch her toys and stuff but alow her to watch porn.

Her quote when I told her daughter is getting a little out of hand and just have a chat with her in spare time, she says: that's fine let her watch porn if she wants to and is interesting for her.
Oh and another thing, when she stays at hotels due to working she does sleep with other guys and she has a 30min video of herself doing two guys. She is single so she's free to do what she likes.

So anyway the part you just mentioned it's not abnormal to look at stuff and the curiosity and to let her, we actually did let her watch it porn. Mommy had 3 days off and she said ok I tell you what: if she is nagging you and getting annoying which she is, just pic a good one and put it on and let her watch it.

I was like the heck? You for real? Her reply was: yeah sure, she watched it anyway while you were out so put it on and we all will watch it.
Now to this I was very surprised I wasn't still sure but she says don't worry hunny just put it on, come sit down and relax and have a drink with me.

So she calls her daughter and tells her to sit and wait for something we have for her. I put it on and she starts to get excited and has a big smile on her face.
I couldn't believe that we actually are watching porn and the mommy says to her don't be shy to touch yourself just like what that girl is doing on the video, me and uncle are going upstairs for a talk and that you can imagine what happened next.

So being said she allows her to watch it and yeah, she's dirty herself and having drinks didn't go to plan either.
She is 36 and a hottie so who wouldn't .
Niece has turned 12 now so I'll be heading out and about with her to have a nice fun day out because I missed her party and got to make it upto her.

shes not married anymore, she is single and she is the more influence on her.
I am trying to not get her into that stuff but the mother is the one that is allowing so really i can't do much.

I want to be a good uncle but don't think it's going to go the right way.
She is over now as we speak and earlier she asked me i want to watch porn, it looks like fun. Mind you that was in front of the mom and she just smiled and says well i'm going to work be good you guys...

This is already child abuse by both you and the mother and it does need to be reported. If someone on the board will tell me how I go about doing so, I want to immediately report these people to the authorities. F-U-C-K professional help, a jail cell is where both of you belong and the child needs to be in foster care and counseling....trigger my ___, you just set off a grenade!

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It's not troll iam being for real, i just don't know where to ask so forums is something i choose to talk this out.
I have made another post on other forums and some are saying just let her watch it because the mother is allowing her and you are not so she is getting confused and don't know what to do.

Some are saying it'll be educational for her and sit with her and mommy and if she wants to ask something about it then you both can talk about it.
Ask her how she feels about it and so on.
Well they do get curious at that age don't they?

I have a female friend that has 2 girls and the 9yold is already wanting to sex talk with her but the older one had sex when she was 13. that's what mom told me awhile ago when she found out.

That i can't do as i don't give out other info about others but i am taking care of this though.
I do know what to do and i think her mom is kind of getting the message.
i'll make a deal with her and maybe give some money to pay her other debts and tell her i can't do this no more so look for someone else.

i work from home and do deliveries so really i'm backing out from sitting her.
for money she would deal that.

Right...because all these links all over the Internet are invasions of privacy. Particularly to sites where anonymous people on the Internet are telling you to let your 11yo niece watch porn....

Guy, just go away. If this was real you'd go to social services. I live in one of the most ghetto places the US has to offer, and I couldn't find someone here saying what you're saying if I tried. And I *do* know some mom's working as strippers or worse.

You're on the Internet trying to get good people on a helpful site worked up. Find something better to do.

Bazza, you sound like a few child molesters I have investigated. Minimizing, rationalizing, justifying and redirecting. Showing underage girls porn is NOT normal and is child abuse. Doing so can be considered part of a pattern of grooming a target to be cooperative.

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I won't be posting on this thread anymore. If you are a troll you are one sick person and if you aren't a troll you are on your way to jail. Some of us don't screw around. Hope you enjoy 3 hots and a cot.

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This is actually a group who has a particular persons account details and We go around stirring up people so the person gets reported and we get what we want.
Could say we hacked his internet account and are using it for this purpose.
Now that we read and see comments so we know this particular person will get in trouble.
I think our job is done here so thank you alll for the time and goodbye.
Admin now can ban this account and report this.
Now off to other sites