A Tale Of Two Deaths: One Person; One Denomination

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On Sunday, June 3, 2018, at 3:08 am, my sister’s husband passed from glory to glory. His heart just wore out.

Several days before his death, and after conversation with wise physicians and other caring health professionals, my sister and her husband jointly signed the papers for his admission to end-of-life care under a well-known Hospice organization. I, along with a close friend of my sister, signed the paperwork as witnesses.

My brother-in-law stayed highly aware for the next 60 hours, conversing freely about his impending death, having no fear just some reticence about the process. He asked my husband and me to watch over my sister after he was gone.

All affairs were in order. My sister brought him home, surrounded him with familiar things, his beloved pets, and the many friends who came to say their farewells.

Eventually, he slept, going quietly into the final hours of limited breathing, and then gently slipping away. Even as my sister grieves and sorts out how to re-start her life without him, she does so filled with good memories and no regrets.

In February 2019, I expect to observe another death, this time of the institution of The United Methodist Church. The far right, “We are the only ones who can properly interpret Scripture; everyone who disagrees with us is wrong; we want nothing to do with them,” have declared war on the Bishops and the plans for church unity they expect to present at the specially called General Conference.

Please watch this video in its entirely as Rob Renfroe, the most vocal spokesperson of the Good News/WCA/IRD “we hate gays” coalition, sets out his manifesto.

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Rob Renfroe

A modern-day Martin Luther–I would guess that is how Renfroe sees himself. He, and he alone (could we see shades of the current Evangelical Savior, Donald J. Trump here?), with all his superior knowledge of Scripture and the will and nature of God, will reform the church and shape it to his image. The damage to the people of God and the witness of the Gospel of grace be damned. Renfroe will prevail.

My guess: after they “win,” Bishop Scott Jones will be named “Supreme Bishop of the Wreckage of the UMC” and Renfroe will be his chief of staff, ruthlessly spending millions on clergy trials to make sure any who disagree will face the most extreme punishment possible.

There will be no gentleness to this death. Instead, blood will flow in the streets. Renfroe wants war. He’s arming himself and his troops for it. And he is sure, absolutely sure, a fire-eating gay-hating God is on his side.

There is nothing new about Renfroe’s plans. This is a long-established historical pattern. Peace-loving, open-hearted people, full of grace, service and concern for those on the outside of both temporal and eternal hope, have been routinely silenced or slaughtered by those who service this warrior, murdering God.

This is the God who sends as many as possible to eternal conscious torment, sparing only the very, very few who adhere to the purist of all doctrines–as the Renfroe’s of the world define them.

These people are the lovers of true doctrine. They build high walls against those who might question their absolute rightness.

Fascinating company for the Renfroes of the world.

And yes, there will be a “winners-take-all” showdown. They are superb political organizers and assert they have every single vote from African Methodists in their well-lined pockets. They hold the majority. They operate from the mantra, “I speak for God. You do not.”

From the beginning of their emergence, I’ve been saying that “The Inquisition Cometh.” It won’t be long after they take over that all clergy will have to either fully agree with them or face explusion–their employment gone, their church doors nailed shut to keep them out, and, if they can manage it, probably also withholding pensions funds.

They’ll need a lot of money to keep the African church alive. Right now, the US funds 99% of the entire budget for the UMC. Many of those funding streams will dry up. Appropriating pension funds would seem like a viable option as they pursue their “holy path” because morality appears to occupy little or no place in their righteous campaigns.

I am reading much religious history right now. I see parallels in how the Romans beat down the more gentle Irish Celtic Christian movement. I also see similarities with Luther as his increasingly mean and narrow followers beat out the growing influence of the more open and, again, gentle Erasmus. Let us not forget that Luther helped set the stage for the Holocaust–much of Germany was steeped in his “biblical” hatred for the Jews.

Star Wars Storm Troopers

Someday, world history will lay at the feet of the Rob Renfroe crowd the continued persecution of the gay community, especially in Africa. Many, many will suffer egregiously. Many more will perish because of him and his disciples

But none of this matters. All that matters is that he is right and everyone who disagrees, no matter if it be Jesus, is wrong.

Frankly, I spent some years as a mini Rob Renfroe. I, with my superior biblical knowledge (able to read both ancient Greek and Hebrew with some fluency, among other things), stood with absolute certainty that I could be the great Bible interpreter.

I, too, felt there were no places for gays in the Kingdom of God, that divorce was the worst sin possible, that women should remain silent and submissive. (Note: Renfroe and his crowd will come after the divorced and the female clergy in time.)

Yes, I thought all those things until I took a more honest look at the Holy Scriptures and saw . . . so much ambiguity, so much uncertainty, so many substantive conflicts, so many misunderstood cultural issues, so many words and phrases that can’t be translated well or with assured accuracy.

I had my own Reformation moment, just from reading the Scriptures in something closer to their original forms.

I tried to speak out my new understandings in my far-right world, only to be silenced and expelled. During my years in this “Everyone who disagrees with us is wrong” world, I watched the Patterson/Pressler takeover of the Southern Baptist Convention. I observed the wreckage of the lives of close friends I had in that world: seminary professors fired, other denomination personnel kicked out, futures ruined.

I saw the meanness. I ultimately experienced it myself.

And then I found The United Methodist Church, found room to breathe, live and teach grace. I worked my way through a ten-year ordination process and served it with utmost joy.

As flawed as the UMC is, I never expected to see this pattern repeated here.

But we have it. Time to break out the funeral shrouds. Time for those still inside to figure out how, just as my sister now must do, to re-start their lives in another world.

Because Renfroe and his ilk will win. Or they will destroy the church trying. Frankly, I doubt if they care which.

But I also know this: Grace and goodness will someday prevail. God is not mean, hateful, or hoping to cast most of us into hell. For now, the bullies win. At some point, we’ll all find our place to the throne of grace and say, “Oh my goodness, how wrong I was about that!”

Christy Thomas 2015

The Rev. Christy Thomas

Author and columnist the Rev. Dr. Christy Thomas of Frisco, Texas, is a retired clergy member of the North Texas Annual Conference. This post is republished with the author's permission from her blog The Thoughtful Pastor on Patheos.com.

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Comments (8)

Excuse me. Are we "right wing" who simply want our old church as it was?

The church I grew up in never got into all this sex baloney. Boys and girls pretty much understood what it was all about, having been taught by parents and other moral leaders, scouts and schools. We had no confusion on which restroom we were to go into and knew penalties if we strayed. When we watched babies being baptized and then later were told how those babies came to be, it all made sense. Now, you liberals want to turn my old church into Sodom and Gomorrah, which will have a most predictable ending, but you want to blame we who just want our old church back? Not buying it!

Reese68 days ago

Not So

"We had no confusion on which restroom we were to go into...."

Speak for yourself. I grew up intersex in the sixties, and there never were easy decisions.

G-d made me this way, and yet people like you have tormented me my entire life. Enough with ignorance and biggotry! Study biology and learn something about human anatomy.

Ben67 days ago

I studied Biology and I worked in plumbing and my plumbing is male!

Your proper restroom depends on your personal plumbing. If you are confused about that, that is a head problem not a plumbing problem. Deal with it the best you can, but public restrooms, especially in schools, is not the place. By the way, there are private stalls in men's rooms so you can go do your thing in private and nobody will know. I have seen men for years pass up urinals and go to private stalls. Who cares? Just stay out of the ladie's room where my wife and daughters and grand-daughters are - you might be harmless, but the pedophile who follows you in pretending to be might not be harmless. I must consider my ladies' safety above your hurt feelings. Sorry, pal.

Reese66 days ago

And just for the record

It was while I was monitoring GC2012 that I first became aware of the theological plurality that has run amuck in The UMC; my sense was the denomination was already dead but was too big to fall down just yet. At that point I visualized The UMC as a ginormous square raft with umpteen oars in the water each paddling the best it knows how. Sometime later, as I continued cruising the internet listening to all the voices I could find within the UMC, my visualization of the church changed to water spilled on the floor running multiple directions at once. By the time GC2016 was over the church had become cats with their tails tied together. Bottom line is there is no single way forward for The United Methodist Church which drifted from its unique theological moorings a very long time ago.

betsy69 days ago

From my perspective

It is progressives who will have their way even if it destroys the church. So where is the basis for a future together?

betsy69 days ago

Only

Progressive here.

I'd be happy if the UMC would merely agree to remove the ugly biggoted anti-GLBT rhetoric from the Book of Discipline. In other words, I only request that you stop publically shaming me for merely being the person G-d made me.

There is no room in the UMC for bullying or flat-out meaness.

Ben67 days ago

Two questions, Ben...

First, I don't bully. I do ignore and avoid things I do not agree with, but my ego does not require me to bully. You live your life and I live mine and may we both find happiness here and salvation there.
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How exactly would you re-word the BoD which would be non-insulting to you, but would still define our leadership rules and marriage rules to exclude lifestyles that are not acceptable to we traditionalists? Let all sit in the pews with me and other sinners, but ask me not to approve, endorse, encourage alternative lifestyles. How do we word that?
#2 If you are so miserable in the UMC,why have you stayed? The Episcopal church worships the same God and is most welcoming. Others too. I do not stay where I am not happy, why have you?
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No time for hate within me. Accepting ll as a child of Jesus, but not as a leader of my religion. Find peace, Ben.

Reese66 days ago

Your use of the demeaning term lifestyle

reveals your confusion and malice. One's capacity to love is not a lifestyle, spoken with a cruel sneer as you have.

Reese, if you can't accept same sex marriage, then don't marry someone of the same sex. Problem solved. I'll waive your copay.