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This sounds insane.. I think for the first time in 5 years and the first time since my diagnosis I think I may be getting into a relationship. First off, I'm scared, nervous, and of course feel like this is my first time getting into this. I have a friend , a drinking friend that I would get together with who is also poz and he had always said I would probably hit it off wit this one guy Seth. Now he seemed to like him a lot but just the other night after a while of chatting through AIM mainly about our mutual friend we decided to get together. now of course I found out all about him through manhunt which led to more chatting. but when he came over we totally hit it off. We both thought each other looked better in person. He seems to be so similar to me and yet so different. I just really look forward to what is to come. We also discussed our mutual friend who is also hiv + and have both tried persuading him to get into treatment but he does not want to hear any of it. But honestly, that's where the connection of us both meeting up ended. Our conversation was like we were speaking the same language. We watched a movie and had some drinks and yes, we both slept with each other. Of course we said it was the alcohol that led to that the next morning. We talked on the phone today and ever since then and the whole conversation we both were so in awww of each other. He is just what I am looking for in a guy. We have plans on Tuesday for dinner and then will have a day together on Saturday. He kinda hinted on the phone that we should be a couple but I'm hesitant to move that fast. I did that in my last relationship where my ex lived with me for two years and it ended with him cheating on me. Any tips? I'm so excited right now but want to take this seriously and slowly. I do regret sleeping with him right away and don't want it to be a sexual thing and I think it is more than that. I am just looking for some tips and just sharing my happiness.

like you said, just look forward to what's to come. I certainly wouldn't regret having sex with him already. Like you said, the first time you met, things just clicked and I would say that includes the sex. I'm sure that's part of the equation he considered when he was 'hinting' at the 'coupling' possibility.

Saturday and Sunday I got together with Seth. I met him a week ago and we really hit it off. Since then we have been talking on the phone looking forward to this weekend. We decided to watch a movie Saturday night and we both ended up bidding on tickets to Sunday's Phillies / Red Sox game. Being that he is originally from Boston, I figured it would be a fitting first date. Well he had the same idea! On Saturday I headed over to see his place and we started to watch Heroes. He has the cutest kitties. yea for us both being cat/animal lovers. He totally could not believe I had never seen that show and got me hooked. We've only gotten through two episodes, but damn this show is good. Really good. Later we headed back to my place where I made us NY strip steak, baked potatoes, and carrots. Since he had never seen The Exorcist, it was a must. The vibe has been really good all along and by now I know there definitely is an attraction, so I figured I would pop the boyfriend question. Without hesitation he said yes and I was relieved and happy. The rest of the night was just fantastic, cuddling watching movies before bed.

Sunday we woke up, or he woke me up and we headed to the diner before the game. We had a great breakfast. The game was awesome.. some great bonding times. I had not realized that it was his first time to Citizen's Bank Park. We both were camera happy, taking pictures of us, each other, the players, the park, everything. Unfortunately for him, the Phils did not get swept... they killed the Red Sox. Although, we both did have our happy winning moments in the game. Those cheesesteaks there are killer as well. Plus what is a baseball game without beer? We really had a great time. After taking him home, I got to meet his parents. I don't have too much of his perspective quite yet, but I thought they were very nice and we engaged in conversation right away (thanks to the game).

I really am ending this weekend on such a natural high (hey, for the first time in a very long time). This feeling really hasn't been there in such a long time. A relationship was definitely the furthest thing from my mind, but now it's what I am SO ready for. I really look forward to getting to know more about Seth and him learning about me and just devoting myself to him. It's a crazy feeling, one that I haven't felt in quite a long time, but I really like it.

I so enjoyed reading your 'blog'. I have a smile from ear to ear! I love reading about the beginnings of a relationship...very romantic. Sounds like you've met your match and I agree with Paul, both of you do make a very handsome couple! Congrats on an exciting new beginning!

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Thanks for the lovely comments. We had another fabulous weekend together. I am definitely falling in love. We went to see the proposal this weekend and did some gay outlet shopping. hahahhA. A total gay weekend. Love it. I definitely love how this is all going.

It is so great to be in love. I was single for so long and now I'm with someone I really feel good with for a good while already.Enjoy every single minute!

And enjoying every single minute I am. We watched a movie yesterday and I can't wait until I see him until Saturday. I look forward to our conversations everyday. It rocks because the feeling is mutual. We both want to take it slow and I have to watch myself because I tend to jump right into things. This is a nice feeling though. He lives at home for the time being so I usually go there on Tuesday's and he cooks me dinner and then we get to spend the night at my place Saturday and Sunday. It's just enough time to have our own lives going on as well until we decide to take the next step.

I just have to, so forgive me. We had such a great weekend together. I am asking why this is happening, this is a dream... but actually, a dream come true. We only had pizza, watched movies, and walked around the park this morning, but I am just loving everything we do. He came over yesterday and gave me a gorgeous purple rose. Crazy thing is that I was going to get him one too but I didn't know if he was into flowers or not.some more pictures... sorry I just have to. Crazy thing is... I feel more healthy and alive and he does as well before our diagnosis.

We spent 4th of July in Philly and had a blast. Sheryl Crow put on a free concert on the parkway where about a half a million people probably were. During the day we hit the gay bars for some drinks. I met his first boyfriend from Boston from about 10 years ago. It took them a while to become friends after the break up and there are no feelings what so ever on either part. He's really happy to see him in a relationship and happy. We both got camera happy.

To early to be going to the bars, That's just my opinon though. Not that it is a deal breaker or anything just that there are so many other things to get you started in a relationship. Don't take me wrong be happy you definetly seem that way now. Just that meeting someone new and the bar don't mix. It is very hard to explain. I am very happy for you, I hope you last for an eternaty together. So many things to do that can be so much more romantic you would surprize your sweetheart in so many different ways

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1997 is when I found out, being deathly ill. I had to go to the hospital due to extreme headache and fever. I fell coma like, two months later weighing 95 pounds and in extreme pain and awoke to knowledge of Pancreatis, Cryptococcal Meningitis, Thrush,Severe Diarea, Wasting, PCP pneumonia. No eating, only through tpn. Very sick, I was lucky I had good insurance with the company I worked for. I was in the hospital for three months that time. (2010 Now doing OK cd4=210 VL= < 75)I have become resistant to many nukes and non nukes, Now on Reyataz, , Combivir. Working well for me not too many side effects. I have the wasting syndrome, Fatigue . Hard to deal with but believe it or not I have been through worse. Three Pulmonary Embolism's in my life. 2012 520 t's <20 V load

mewithu- The only reason why we went to the bars is because his friend is from Boston and wanted to see what the gay bar scene was like (like it's any different anywhere you go). We both were internally reluctant to go, but wanted him to have a great time while staying. We both are also very sure of our relationship. okay.. here's a couple more.

Gay bars in Philadelphia are horrific and best avoided. Then again, most of the queens think Abercrombie is creatively fashionable.

There's a cute bartender at Knock though. Now, before I moved here a few years ago I'd come visit in the 90's and there were some very fierce places -- notably the Nile, which was on the 2nd floor of the building to the south of Woody's, and then Stars on Sansom. At least the lesbian mafia stopped their shenanigans at the 2-4 (now Pure). There's something extremely pathetic about how the girls will rush out of Woody's at 1:45 am to go to an after hours club across the street that's only open until 3 am.

here I go again. On Sunday we were going to head to the beach, but when we woke up the weather looking a little uncertain. We decided to sleep for a bit more, I got up and made Seth some breakfast... and of course the weather turned out to be beautiful. We ended up going to a park about 30 minutes from my house that I had never been to. We had a picnic and walked some trails. It turned out to be a lovely day.he got a really good shot of me with the dam in the waterfall in the background.and the breakfast I made...

Last night, I introduced Seth to my best friend Karen. It went over very well. I'm always paranoid just because it's another side shown that was once unfamiliar. We went to a nice Irish pub and then to a really sleek martini bar. We loved it.

We're taking our first trip together up to New Hampshire tomorrow. Can't wait. Doing some hiking, biking, driving to the top of Mount Washington (tallest mt. on the east coast of the US), and walking this gorge at one of the ski resorts.

Have a great time at Mt. Washington - it's so beautiful (and always so windy). That said, it was beaten into our heads during elementary school that NC has the highest mountain in the East: Mt. Mitchell :-) I must defend my state's honor.

nice couple and so is lovely, i am personally encouraged. well continue and enjoy life, never be scared of trying a relationship which i strongly trust that only through dating is the only way to find your perfect mate..

I just had to reply to this message and bump it because I am so happy about my recent numbers, my cd4 is steadily going up and I'm undetectable!! My partner and I are having a fabulous relationship. This is what I've always wanted in a relationship. We're taking it slow, going towards our 6 months, and have done things I never thought have (like ride the tallest roller coaster in the world). I have nothing to complain about.