Rise Above Pain, Frustration and Failure with the Magic Power of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind

Welcome to the Official Site of Psycho-Cybernetics and Theatre of the Mind. This is where we do as the good doctor, Maxwell Maltz, did for so many years. We heal internal scars. We give you an emotional face lift. We transform the agonizing pain of defeat, failure, frustration and loneliness into courage, confidence, love, gratitude and peace of mind. We help you reach your goals by showing you how to remove the obstacles that you think are standing in your way.

As a reconstructive plastic surgeon, Dr. Maltz realized that although “plastic surgery” benefited 0.5% of the population, the other 99.5% had unresolved emotional scars from the past, and that these could be removed by changing your self-image. Once these internal scars were irradiated, what followed was a life of success and happiness with you reaching “the greatest port in the world: peace of mind.”

On this blog, I will be giving you Psycho-Cybernetics success tips for transforming your self-image, as well as making recommendations on books, courses and seminars that will take you to the next level. Make sure you subscribe to our email list as well because we have special offers that you’ll want to see.

Yes, it’s 2015 already. Did you ever think you’d live in a time like this?

As Charles Dickens wrote, “It was the best of times – it was the worst of times.”

So true. Always.

The worst is always here. So is the BEST.

There are always good times ahead – and tough times. There are always tough times behind us – and good times.

But we can make the tough times easier and the good times even better by how we picture them in our own minds – and by how we talk about them.

Yesterday I was working with an athlete on some exercises that are currently difficult for him.

As he struggled I caught myself saying, “It’s hard, huh?”

After catching myself for saying such a thing, I added, “It may feel difficult right now but it’s going to get easier and easier and easier the more you train it.”

Before the session ended he’d made great progress.

The other day I took a line from Shakespeare and rewrote it:

“Nothing is easy or difficult until thinking makes it so.”

Consider the baby as you ponder the above.

All able-bodied babies learn to walk as well as talk. Yet, I’ve never heard of a parent who told his infant that walking is difficult. Can you imagine how stupid it would look:

“Son, pretty soon it’s going to be time for you to walk. And let me tell you, it’s really hard. It’s really difficult. You’re going to need to work real hard on it if you want to learn how.”

Ludicrous, right?

Yet, everyday coaches, parents, teachers and friends tell you that what you’re working on doing is hard, too hard or difficult.

In order for work to have any value it must be “hard work.”

Really?

Did the baby put in a lot of “hard work” to learn walking, talking and everything else?

No.

The baby gets an idea, a mental picture of what he or she wants to do, then he playfully practices. It’s not “hard practice” – it’s “playful practice.”

The baby is having fun – no matter how many times he falls.

And then one day, the baby walks.

Imagine that.

As I look back over the years, everything I got good at could be lumped under the category of “hard work.” But if I really take the time to think about it, the “hard work” wasn’t “hard.” I was having a blast. I was doing and am still doing what I love to do.

Writing a book is hard – according to most. Yet, it’s really isn’t hard when you’re in flow and the words are pouring out of you.

Teaching a seminar or class is hard – but then again, it isn’t when you know your material and you’re flowing before a responsive audience.

Learning a foreign language is hard – but then it’s not if you’re immersed in the culture (like a baby) and you give up whatever resistance you have to learning.

Advanced math is difficult. So is running a business. So is everything, especially when you think it so.

But the second you allow yourself to think of your difficult task or hard work as EASY – even when it isn’t, space gets freed within your brain, body and central nervous system, and what you’re doing gets easier.

So here we are in another New Year.

Are you going to make it more difficult than it already is by telling yourself that it’s hard?

Or are you willing to experiment in the art of making tough tasks easier by seeing them as easy – even if they aren’t?

That’s the question and the challenge.

The truth is that whatever you’re good at now – at one time, it wasn’t so easy. But by practice you made it so.

So, why not accelerate the process by being baby-like? No matter what you’re doing, regardless of how difficult, avoid thoughts of it being hard. Just get on with it. Just do it.

P.S. By the way, don’t make any New Year’s Resolutions to lose weight, exercise or anything of the sort, either. Instead, picture yourself doing, then watch as you flow in the direction of action toward what you want. For world-class guidance on this, I recommend you become part of the Furey Faithful.

Today I’m going to drop a giant meat clever on the subject of goal setting and why it doesn’t work for a LOT of people.

I’m also going to cover HOW you can achieve greatness without goal setting. Yes, it IS possible – and in many cases, it’s the ONLY way some people have EVER succeeded. Not only that, but every time these same people have set goals, they’ve failed.

“Person finds his passion. He begins to practice. HE REALIZES, early on, he has a “talent” for what he’s doing that is above and beyond the norm. IIDEAS COME TO HIM no matter what he’s doing. He eats, drinks, sleeps and showers in ideas. He doesn’t know who or what turned this on in him. It just IS. BASED UPON HIS OWN LEVEL OF AWARENESS, he doesn’t visualize, dream, imagine or “think positive” in any way about what he’s doing. He just does it.”

Okay, here floweth some additional material to chew on:

HE REALIZES – when you realize something, you recognize it. And how do you recognize it? You see it in your mind’s eye. You feel it in your body-mind. An A-HA moment is nothing more than a clear mental image that is emotionalized.

IDEAS COME TO HIM – In what form do ideas come to us? Via sounds? Via words? Or through mental images? If you get an idea to write a specific book, you may hear the words of the title ringing in your head – but you cannot write a book and complete it without having a mental image of the thing.

BASED UPON HIS OWN LEVEL OF AWARENESS – this phrase unlocks the key to understanding those who ‘unconsciously succeed.’ They don’t really know HOW they do it. They just do it. They’re unconscious of the fact that they think in pictures, emotionalize them and get to work. To them it’s “just do it” – and they really don’t care about the process they’re using because they’re too busy doing it.

Okay, now let’s go into the subject of goals and goal setting.

If you get an idea or have an idea to DO SOMETHING – you are carrying a mental picture in your brain about it. Whether you are consicous of this or not doesn’t matter. You ARE thinking in mental pictures ALL DAY LONG.

Some of our mental pictures are “just do it.” Others are more along the lines of “wait til tomorrow” or “someday I’ll.” Then there are mental pictures of “I CAN’T BECAUSE…”

Along these same lines, everyone with a functioning brain already has a series of goals he or she pursues each and every day. Most of these goals, regardless of whether they’re good for you or not, are achieved. EVERY DAY.

For example, each day, whether you’re AWARE of it or not, you have a goal to eat food and drink fluids. Before each meal that you’re making or buying for yourself, you form mental pictures of WHAT you want to eat. These images get emotionalized – and then you either prepare or buy the food.

Meal over. Goal completed.

Next, your goal is to watch tee-vee. You plop your rumpus on the couch and begin watching – once again, unconscious of the fact that your brain thinks about doing what you’re currently doing before you do it.

It’s on autopilot.

Next, you want to make a phone call to speak with your friend. The image of your friend comes to mind, you get charged up about calling her, and you do.

Somewhere along the lines you may have come up with the idea to get married.

Oh boy. This is a BIG IMAGE – and it is very highly emotionalized and charged. So much so that guess what? You probably don’t take out a yellow pad and write the goal. Nor do you craft the proposal lines in writing. Nor do you write out a plan of action. Nor do you read this goal outloud each day – along with the plan.

All you’re aware of is getting the idea, feeling a ton of emotion swirling within – and the next thing you know you might be doing insane and oftentimes idiotic things to make an big impression to your proposed bride in your proposal.

Even if you’re Mr. Shy, you will do things you would never do otherwise.

Wow.

So the question to me isn’t whether or not you have goals. It’s whether or not you will perform at your best by “setting goals.”

Based upon my own discoveries of my specific achievement processes – as well as many of those whom I coach, there is no ONE WAY to achieve an objective.

Here are some of the WAYS I’ve found to be valid:

1. Some people MUST put their goals in writing, create a plan and do their best to follow that plan.

2. Some people only need to write a few key words about their goal and hang it somewhere.

3. Others put NOTHING in writing. The goal/project/idea/whatever is in their mind and no one can stop them from thinking about it or taking action to get it accomplished.

4. Then there are those who have simple yet profound goals to “improve a little each day” in some activity they really like doing. They don’t have a written goal to be #1 in the whirld, nation, city or state – but by living in the NOW and taking care of the process involved in their NOW, they accomplish things that those with written goals cannot and will not reach.

5. And let us remember that everyone is achieving goals everyday based upon the mental images in mind and the actions taken. Naturally, some goals, like using drugs and alcohol to excess, are negative goals. Nevertheless, if you focus on them and act, you will get them done.

So what’s the takeaway from all of the above? It is EXACTLY what Dr. Maltz wrote about in Psycho-Cybernetics.

All of us have a self-image. And we cannot go beyond it. Our self-image is the operating system of our mind. It controls, directs and influences what we do each and every day.

If you’re one of the unconsciously successful “just do it” types – this means your self-image is deeply connected to doing the things that make you SUCCESSFUL.

If you feel blocked, if you feel like you cannot stop procrastinating, if you feel that you’d like to succeed but “can’t” – this means your self-image is wired for the negative. Without realizing it, your mental images are taking you away from what you say you want.

So the next question is, why doesn’t creating written goals and plans work for many people?

Here’s my 3-fold answer:

1. The formal setting of the goal and thinking about it takes you away from focusing on the process that’s going to help you get it done. Ultimately, a worthy goal is achieved by a process – not by putting it in writing.

2. When a person focuses on a specific goal, especially one with a time frame, he often causes himself to acquire tension, and tension is the enemy of success. With the added tension come unwanted thoughts that cause this person, once again, to lose sight of the process that is going to get him where he wants to go.

3. When a person uses formal goal setting, she may begin to doubt whether or not she CAN actually achieve it. When doubt creeps in, not to mention fear, worry and pity – you are no longer focused on the actions that create results.

All in all, whether you achieve positively or negatively, it is based upon your self-image – and a MAJOR part of a person’s self-image, is whether or not you can see yourself TAKING ACTION and doing the things you need to do in order to get the results you want.

If you cannot see and feel yourself involved in the process that is going to bring you the results you seek, then you’re most likely going to be a frustrated goal setter.

So self-image is KEY. It’s your roadmap to a better life. It’s your internal blueprint for where you’re going.

If yours is on “autopilot success” – then congratulations.

If it’s not, and this is the case with most people, then I suggest you fine tune it with Theatre of the Mind. Begin seeing yourself at your best. Begin to look into what you did to achieve in the past – and bring that REALIZATION into the present so you can ride the “autopilot success” track for the rest of your life.

Make your goal super simple.

Make it to continually improve your self-image.

That’s it.

Focus on the process of SEEING yourself doing whatever you love doing better and better and better.

If you’ll do this, the other goals, whether your write them out or not – have a far greater chance of becoming reality for you.

Yours,

Matt Furey

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P.P.S. This email, like so many of mine, was written spontaneously and is un-edited.

Two vastly different approaches to success are used by a great many people who’ve “made it” in their chosen profession.

One is conscious – the other is unconscious.

And believe it or don’t – BOTH are valid approaches that work.

First, the conscious method.

Person finds her passion. She begins to practice and practice some more. She realizes she is making progress but wants to really excel, so she sets goals, imagines, dreams, visualizes and takes daily focused action.

When this person succeeds, she believes it’s due to the goals she set and the time she spent picturing what she wanted.

Now, the unconscious method.

Person finds his passion. He begins to practice. He realizes, early on, he has a “talent” for what he’s doing that is above and beyond the norm. Ideas come to him no matter what he’s doing. He eats, drinks, sleeps and showers in ideas. He doesn’t know who or what turned this on in him. It just IS. Based upon his own level of awareness, he doesn’t visualize, dream, imagine or “think positive” in any way about what he’s doing. He just does it.

Oddly enough, the unconsciously successful person does not relate to or understand those who set goals, visualize or do their best to be positive. He doesn’t see any of it as necessary, valid, valuable or useful. He thinks of it as a complete waste of time.

The consciously successfui person, on the other hand, has a number of HUGE advantages over the unconsciously successful person.

And what are those advantages?

1. If she ever “loses touch” with what she’s done to create her success, all she needs to do is go back and review her process – and then she starts rolling the ball in the same manner again.

2. If she has other areas that she wants to succeed in – all she needs to do is apply the same formula of goal setting, mental picturing and so on to the new interest, and she’s off to the races in that area as well. This is why she can be a great singer, a great writer, a great actor, a good athlete and a good anything else she applies the formula on.

In contrast, the person with a HUGE talent who is unconsciously successful is in a lot of trouble once he leaves the one field that he excels in.

Not only that, if he ever feels like he’s gone into a slump, he has no idea HOW to get himself out of it. He actually thinks that mental picturing had nothing to do with the success he enjoyed. He says he didn’t use the process – much less recommend it. He says it was ALL about taking ACTION.

Yet, he did use it. He’s just unconscious of the fact that he did. He’s unconscious of the fact that when he was “swimming in ideas,” these ideas were nothing but mental movies and pictures. He’s unconscious of the fact that the mental movies and pictures he got EXCITED about were created and the ones he lacked a similar level of emotion did NOT get created. And he’s unconscious of the fact that you cannot take action, ANY ACTION, without having a mental picture of yourself taking action FIRST.

Even if you suddenly come up with the idea to get a Mile High Burger at Carl’s Jrs. – you CANNOT and WILL NOT go get one unless you have the mental image beforehand. And with the ads that are runnning on this particular burger – mixed with sensuality and schex appeal, the marketers behind this burger definitely KNOW that your brain is stimulated by mental movies, mental pictures and energized emotion.

So I must say I’m continually amazed at the number of people who remain unsuccessful – or who are good at one thing but seemingly hopeless in everything else – who reject the idea that mental pictures and movies lead to the results you have in life.

It’s sort of like saying that the pictures in caves of wild buffalo and other animals that the ancient hunters drew had no value. Those images were just for show. They didn’t help anyone. They were drawn so other people would be impressed.

The other day a man asked me what he could do to turn his life around and get it flowing in a positive direction.

Now, keep in mind I could give this man a million suggestions on what he could DO. And I’m sure that anyone he asked, no matter who, would have “take action” suggestions for him.

And the action steps are important.

YET – the most important first ACTION is non-action. It is NOT doing.

It is SEEING where you want your punch to land, where you want the club to strike the ball, where you want your pass to land.

If you have a mental image of being somewhere other than where you want to be, then you are NOT going to get where you say you want to go unless that image is changed.

This, my friend, is NOT positive thinking. It’s simply changing one mental image that weakens you to another one that empowers you.

It’s becoming CONSCIOUS of WHAT you do when you perform at your best so that you can REPEAT it in any other area of your life.

Being an unconscious one-dimensional success is in one area does NOT mean you’re living successfully.

The whirld is filled with one-specialty “successes” who are miserable, lonely, sad and angry human beings. They cannot duplicate their success in the one area because they’re still asleep.

They have so much unconscious ability that they can drink and drug themselves almost to death and still go out outperform the masses.

That’s not the type of person you want to model or learn from.

How about this?

How about you find someone who succeeded in one area using the conscious method, tried the same method in another area and succeeded as well – used it in another with the same type of results – applied it to something totally new and did it again – and on and on and on.

Well, the conscious method is the BEST method because it’s repeatable.

It’s also the BEST because of this fact: Most of us are not unconscious whizbang successes in anything we do. And if we are – it’s almost always limited to one area.

The unconscious method could be called the Van Gogh method. It might help you paint masterpieces – but none of them will BE masterpieces, much less sell as masterpieces while you’re living. Moreover, nothing else you do in life will be worthy of admiration. Good in one thing – and only one thing – with no way of turning that one thing into happiness or peace of mind.

This is where Theatre of the Mind is different. The author of the program succeeded at a high level in MANY areas, not just one.

And he’ll teach you his method so you can succeed over and over again, in whatever areas are important to you.

Right now, you can get Theatre of the Mind for $40 off the normal everyday amount. Plus there is a bonus item that is worth the entire amount of the program, many times over.

Get your hands on this program NOW, my friend. Listen to it everyday and watch your life change for the better.

Yours,

Matt Furey

P.S. If anyone tells you that positive thinking is hogwash, he may be right. But having a clear target, a clear mental movie is NOT positive thinking. It’s called positively knowing what you want – then getting after it until you get it.

This past weekend I worked with a young athlete in a way most coaches don’t quite understand.

Unlike almost ALL coaches – the Fure-cat does things a bit different.

There’s next to no talk about mechanics or HOW to do the skills the youhg man has already been taught.

Instead, my focus is on getting him to do what he’s already learned how to do – over and over again. On command. With ease. With relaxation. With next to no effort.

And perhaps most importantly – without thinking.

That’s right. WITHOUT THINKING.

This may be the first time you’ve heard such “heresy” – but what I’ve discovered over the years is this: Thinking is over-rated. Thinking interferes with your performance. Thinking makes you… think – instead of spontaneously acting.

Yes, I realize that being spontaneous 100% of the time is probably NOT a good idea. I’m not saying you should or shouldn’t be a thinker or a non-thinker 100% of the time.

What I’m saying is this: If you’re struggling, if you’re having a tough time, you’re probably thinking more than doing – and this pattern needs to change if you’re ever going to get anywhere.

In my work, I’ve proven to my clients, that by changing your mental pictures – you change how you feel, how you act, how you move your body – and most importantly, the results you get in life.

But wait a minute, isn’t picturing something in your mind “thinking?”

No, it’s not.

Thinking is a left-brain linear, rational. logical way of being. In the left brain, you don’t picture goals, use your imagination, construct mental movies and amplify your emotions.

So mental picturing is not thinking in the typical sense of the word.

Consider this for a moment. In a child’s first five years of existence, he or she usually learns MORE than the rest of his life combined.

And ALL the learning was done without trying. There was zero effort attached to it. Baby saw – baby got an image in mind – baby imitated.

Baby imagined – baby did.

It often happened quickly, spontaneously.

Babies can learn multiple languages simultaneously – without you “trying” to help them learn. Babies are literal sponges who effortlessly absorb the good, the great – and the not so good.

Then the adults come along and train the baby out of the child – and he most likely suffers the rest of his life because of it.

Baby came into the whirld breathing from the lower belly, relaxed and free of tension.

By age five, that’s no longer the case.

Baby came into the whirld with endless possibilities. By agefive, we’ve narrowed things down dramatically.

And we’ve forgotten . or most likely never learned, how our brain and central nervous system work to bring us the results we’re getting in our lives.

We think words are most important. But they’re not – and that’s saying a lot because I use words for a living.

Same thing I’m teaching those I coach in the art of writing – or in business.

If you can form a mental picture of what you want to do or be – and if you can see and feel yourself doing it – and if you’re willing to act to get what you want – then chances are dramatically increased in your favor.

Is success guaranteed?

No.

But so long as you’ve chosen a goal that is within the realm of the possible for you (me being 7’0″ tall and playing in the NBA was not within the realm of the possible), your chances of success go UP in a BIG WAY.

On the other hand, if you don’t have a mental image of what you want, an image that is amplified with emotion – then your
chances of succeeding are ZERO.

ZERO even if the goal is achievable.

ZERO even if you have the ability.

ZERO even if you have the smarts, know-how, brain-power, etc.

ZERO even if you have mentors and coaches.

ZERO even if you have a library of how-to on the subject..

This is why I say the mental image of what you want comes first. And if you don’t have it, you better get it – and NOW – or quit deluding yourself into thinking you’re gonna make it someday.

You’ve probably heard the metaphor “garbage in – garbage out.” Well, I’m here to tell you that it is not truly accurate because it presumes that you have to take garbage in before you can spit it back out.

A more accurate description, in many, many cases, is that the garbage is ALREADY IN – or it’s been inside you so long you cannot recall when you took it in.

For example, let’s say you decide you want to write a book, become a painter, get into great shape, get certified in yoga – or some other endeavor.

At first, you’re excited about the idea. You’re pumped. You cannot wait to get started.

The next day, after a good night’s sleep, you don’t feel like the same person anymore. You have doubts, fears, worries, uncertainties. And without truly realizing it, you’re already backing away from what you wanted.

I doubt anyone was whispering garbage into your ears while you were sleeping. Yet, you woke up in a very different state of being. The garbage was ALREADY inside.

You felt resistance. You felt something, some type of energy that you cannot quite put your finger on, trying to stop you.

So the question: Who put the garbage in? Was it your mother, father, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, teacher, coach, teammate, classmate, friend, enemy, dog or cat? Or a combination of the above?

Was it your genetics? Or your nationality? Your race, religion, gender or creed?

Was it your astrological profile?

Or was it YOU?

Imagine a golfer getting ready to hit the ball off a tee. As he’s doing so, he worries about how he’s going to hit the ball. He thinks about where it’s going to go. How recalls the last round he played, and how poorly he did.

As he’s preparing himself – everyone around him is silent. All people are giving him respect.

No garbage needs to go in at this point. It’s already there.

The golfer cannot even focus on his swing because of all the negative chatter, because of all the counterproductive mental pictures running through his mind.

And when he finally swings, there’s so much tension in his body that disappointment fills the air.

His swing was GARBAGE because his mind was filled with GARBAGE.

He didn’t understand the adage, Calm Mind – Calm Body.

If only he knew how to calm himself before each swing, he’d be a very different athlete.

The same goes for any endeavor. Whether you’re in the business of selling, writing, speaking, doing surgery, coaching, teaching or making friends – the calmest minds think the fastest and perform at their best. And their calmness rubs off on those who are around them.

Then there are those who are filled with tension. They pass it on as well.

No one wants to talk to them because they’re uncomfortable being human. They rub everyone the wrong way, even when they’re not saying anything.

This is why you can improve ANY skill just by learning to be a calmer, more relaxed human being.

Want to speak, write, teach and/or communicate so others will feel compelled to listen? Then learn the art of calmness.

Want to improve your performance in a sport, martial art or creative endeavor? Then learn to calm your mind and your body.

When you learn to do this, the garbage will leave you. Your mind will be clear and you’ll function at your best more often than not.

And the more you perform at your best – the more you CAN perform at your best.

In Zero Resistance Living, you learn how to give yourself the “calm mind-calm body” that is the hallmark of high achievers.

Show me a professional in anything and I’ll show you someone who makes a supposedly difficult job look easy.

You cannot perform like a pro with tension.

You’ll need a calm mind and body for that.

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So I walked into the wrestling lockeroom at the University of Iowa, prepared to get dressed for practice.

As I sat before my locker I scanned the room, seeing who was there as well as unconsciously listening in on their conversations.

One of our national champions was before his open locker, slipping into his shoes. The night before he suffered a loss – and the look on his face told everyone present that all was NOT well in his whirld.

Someone, I’m not sure whom, took the liberty of lending a helping hand by creating a sign and hanging it on his locker.

It read, “Don’t Get Mad – Get Even!”

What a great message, I thought. Don’t focus on your loss because you cannot go back in time and redo it. But you CAN start preparing for your next ‘go round.’

Earlier today I was working with Fred. I was having him jump rope, for speed and for time as part of a health and fitness regimen I have him on.

For 30 seconds, Fred would see how many jumps he could do. A few weeks ago, he couldn’t jump rope at all. He’s improved a lot – but still has a long way to go.

In the very first 30-second burst, Fred missed after 28 consecutive successful jumps.

“Damnit,” he frowned, then grabbed the handles of the rope tighter, mustering more of his will than before.

He missed again in two jumps. And again on the next jump. And again after a few more jumps.

28 jumps without a miss. Then four misses in a much shorter period of time.

“Time,” I called at the end of 30 seconds.

He began to catch his breath, giving me an opportunity to teach him something no one else will probably ever tell him.

“When you got angry after the first miss, did you do anything physical to show it?”

“Uh, yeah, I think so.”

“Okay, what did you do? Did you increase your level of physical tension, or reduce it?”

“Good question,” he said. “I think I definitely increased it.”

“And how did that work for you?” I asked.

“Not to well.”

“Okay, let’s take a closer look at this situation. When you missed, was it because of a mental breakdown or due to something physical?”

“I”m not really sure.”

“I understand. Let me ask it this way then: Do you know how to jump rope physically?”

“Yes.”

“Much better than a month ago when you couldn’t do it at all, right?”

“Yes.”

“Okay great. So just before you missed, were you thinking about how many you could do before you missed?”

“Ugh,” Fred grunted.

“Very good. So let’s look at this from a different view. You pictured something you didn’t want and it happened. Then you got angry and showed it physically, right? But the breakdown wasn’t physical. The breakdown was mental. So how much sense does it make to get angry and do something physical when it’s your mind that is to blame?”

Long pause.

“Next time, stay focused on jumping successfully as many times in a row as you can. Be aware of your hands and your feet and your breathing – that’s it. Nothing more.”

Without making a single physical change, Fred doubled the number of consecutive jumps he could do in 30 seconds.

It’s a proven fact that we don’t learn faster or better when we’re angry, stressed, fearful, worried or under heavy pressure.

Yet, at the same time, we want to improve, do better, achieve our goals and then some. So how do you so without making yourself worse with negative tension?

The first part is staying relaxed. The second is free and easy breathing.

And the third is learning how to direct your mind with the creative power of mental pictures, so that you go toward what you want instead of moving further away.

When you get MAD – you’re almost always going down the wrong road – unless you’re able to intercept the anger and use it as fuel toward what you want.

When you refocus the anger toward a goal, the anger changes into desire. You’re no longer angry. You’re relaxed and focused on what you want.

Going a step further, if you give yourself credit for your successful jumps, for the circumstances and events that have gone right in your life – that’s when you’re not just focused on a goal – you’re focused with peace of mind. Instead of expecting or thinking that the attainment of the goal is going to make you happy – you already ARE – and you carry that feeling with you on the journey to the goal.

Consider this: You can focus on a goal with anger, zeal, desire, passion, etc. – and do so with an expectation of your achievement somehow making you happy.

Or you can learn how to use your positive memories from the past and bring them with you into the future, so you achieve your goal with happiness and peace of mind already within you.

The truth is there is no singular achievement that will make you happy forever. Most achieved goals won’t even make you feel good for more than a day or two.

This means that the wiser approach is to bring happiness and peace of mind on the journey with you – and increase them even more as you accomplish your objective.

Yes, it’s a great way to live.

And you can discover how to do this in such a way that you can teach yourself how to perform at your best, over and over again.

My program on Theatre of the Mind will give you the tools to teach yourself what you need to do to repeatedly succeed, over and over again, in whatever you want to excel in.

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If I had a quarter for every teacher/coach who told one of his students/players that success is “90 mental” – or that the troubles you’re having are “all in your head” – well, I’d be living in a 100-room mansion right now.

It’s astounding. It really is.

Let me talk about the sport of SPORTS for a bit – but keep in mind that the same applies straight across the board.

In any sport, you’re playing a game that is supposedly all about mechanics. Almost all of an athlete’s training in a sport, whether through private lessons or as a team, is mechanics, mechnanics and MORE mechanics.

And then, when an athlete is unable to perform at his or her best, many of these same coaches suddenly come up with the idea that there is a solution to your woes – and it is “mental.”

Wow!

In fact, you can ask almost any coach the following: “How much of this sport would you say is mental?” – you will almost always hear one of the following answers:

a. “90 percent.”
b. “Most of it.”
c. “Almost all of it.”

The legendary Yogi Berra will go down in history as the one player/manager with the most unique answer.

Yogi said, “Baseball is 90 percent mental and the other half is physical”

In Psycho-Cybernetics, one of the books Dr. Maltz referenced was Better Golf Without Practice. Even though I don’t golf, I bought the book a long time ago (it wasn’t cheap), read through it quickly – and put it away in a safe place.

Last week, one of my coaching members was in town, so I pulled it from my library and began going over it with him.

He was amazed, especially when Alex Morrison, the author, said that golf was 90% mental, 8% physical and the other 2% was…

your equipment.

Really? So buying those super-expensive clubs is only 2% of how well you play the game?

Ahhh shucks.

Morrison figured out his method of playing better golf in the early 1900’s – and the book Maltz referenced was published in 1940.

So the mental game is NOT new stuff – yet it IS to most coaches because they don’t know it and cannot teach it.

Lucky for me, I began learning the mental game at the University of Iowa, as an 18-year old freshman. Each fall, a professional coach speciallzing in the mental game, spent a day with the entire wrestling team, teaching us how to take charge of our minds and get the most out of ourselves.

It must not have worked because, under Dan Gable, Iowa only won 15 NCAA team tiles in 21 seasons. It must not have worked because Iowa, under Gable, only produced a roomful of national, world and Olympic champions/medalists.

It was ONLY hard work that helped Iowa win so much. It had NOTHING to do with this “mental game” stuff, right?

Wrong.

When Dan Gable spoke at my seminar in 2007, MOST of what he covered dealt with using your mind, via your imagination, to move ahead of the pack.

That’s why I put everything I had into the Theatre of the Mind program – a series of 7 CDs, 1 DVD, a workbook and much more – that contain a treasure-trove of Gable stories and experiences – HUGE takeaways that have helped me in every area of my life.

In this program, I tear the veil away from all the mysteries of how to use your mind. I make it super-simple for you to use and implement.

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Why listen more than once?

Because Theatre of the Mind is like a great move. A classic. Each time you watch you gain deeper insight, deeper understanding and a deeper connection between your mind and the whirld you’re creating each and every day.

Like a great movie – a classic – the information in this program will make you smile, make you laugh, make you cry and make you go “Aha, Eureka. That’s it. That’s what I was doing when I was at my best and I didn’t even realize it. Now I can duplicate this type of success in other areas of my life, too – over and over again.”

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Yours,

Matt “Coach” Furey

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A few years ago I was speaking to a coach about the power of visualization. Almost as soon as I mentioned the word, he interrupted.

“I don’t believe in that. I’ve never been able to make it work. No offense, but I think it’s a crock.”

“Okay, that’s fine,” I said. But he continued…

“What I’ve found to work best is this: I think of something, then I just do it.”

I smiled, knowing he just choked himself into agreeing with me, but didn’t realize it yet.

“That’s cool,” I replied. “So tell me, when you THINK of something, how do you do it?”

“Well, I see what I want to do – then I just do it.:

“Super. And when you SEE what you want to do, how do you SEE it? In your mind’s eye? Or do you see yourself already in the picture you’re looking into?”

“Well, I never really thought about it like that before, but let me think. I guess… hmmm… okay, I got it, here’s what I do. I see a BIG IMAGE of what I want to do in front of me. As soon as I see it, I get excited, and then I just do it.”

“Nice. So you SEE a BIG IMAGE, then you get excited about the image, then you just do it? Do I have it right?”

“Yes, that’s exactly what I do. And so now you know why I don’t like visualization. I think it’s a waste of time.”

Now, at this point, it’s a bit difficult to not laugh out loud. Instead of doing so, I paused and thought about how I could break the news to this man. As soon as the words came to me, I spoke.

“My friend, do you realize you just described the act of visualization? But what’s really cool about you is that you’re one of those rare people who does it really, really fast … so fast, in fact, that you don’t even know you’re using the same process I’m talking about.”

“Really? I am?” he asked.

“You sure are.”

To my surprise, after our conversation, this man became a major student of the Theatre of the Mind process, and he’s used it to quintuple his business, turn himself into a stellar salesman and coach quite a number of superstar athletes.

Just think if he stayed with his old belief that visualization doesn’t work.

Now for the whole truth. There are some very successful people in business, in sports, in coaching, in teaching, in parenting, in selling and so on. And they truly believe that they don’t visualize in any way, shape or form.

Many of these same people, like the coach in this email, actually scoff at the process, even though they are using it at a quantum level themselves.

For whatever reason, they don’t like the idea of sitting in a chair to relax and unwind. That alone is anathema to them.

Relax? Who me? I’m supposed to be productive and sitting isn’t producing?

Then the idea of deep breathing … that is enough to drive them over the edge.

So somewhere along the line, without even realizing it, they come up with a WAY to visualize without ever realizing that they’re doing it.

I know a man who is a perfect example of this.

For years he told his flock how to set goals and manage time, while also railing against the practice of positive thinking and the use of your imagination… to the point that he didn’t realize he was ignoring what he is actually doing, most of the time.

Think of it this way: I want you to come up with a list of goals you want to accomplish – but with one twist. In the process of coming up with your goals, you cannot picture/visualize what you want your life to be like. You cannot picture/visualize who you want to be, what you want to do or what you want to have in your life.

You got it!

No picturing. No visualizing. You don’t need it and most importantly it doesn’t work.

Additionally, you cannot use your imagination in any way. No drifting off into the sunset, the canyons, to foreign countries or anything else.

And most importantly, no FEELING.

You got it. No picturing. No visualizing. No imagining. And most important of all.. NO FEELING.

Alrighty then, let’s see if you can come up with your goals.

I bet you can’t.

I bet you $10,000.00 you can’t.

Not only that, without the use of visualization or imagination, how you going to create a PLAN to achieve your goals? And how exactly are you going to look into the next day and create a “to do” list based upon your goals?

Again, you can’t do it.

Now suppose you’re the type who needs your goals in writing – on a card or notepad and you carry it with you throughout the day to remind yourself of your goals and your daily “to do list.”

Over and over throughout the day, you refer to your card or notes. Why? As a reminder, right?

Okay, and what is your reminder?

Your reminder constitutes words on a piece of paper that were formed from a mental picture you previously had. And each time you look at your reminder, you are seeing the same mental imagery.

So your reminder of your goal card is also a mental picture – and every time you look at the words, you are visualizing. You may be doing it fast, but I assure you, you’re doing it.

Now, if you look at the reminder and do nothing – you haven’t mastered the feeling aspect of visualizing.

If you look at them and immediately FEEL like getting something done, and most importantly, begin DOING IT – then you’re on your way to greatness.

Bottom line is this: Some people, for whatever reason, are great NATURAL visualizers. It comes so easy to them that they don’t think they use it at all.

The rest of us, we’re lucky too.

Why?

Because we can learn the process even better than those who use it without thinking.

We can consciously learn the process and use it to go “where no man/woman has ever gone before.”

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Yours,

Matt “Coach” Furey

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Over the past two weeks I’ve been listening to accusations of child abuse involving NFL running back Adrian Peterson and his four-year old son.

The allegations go way beyond a slap or swat on the rumpus. Word is that the boy sustained welts and bruises all over his body. Some of the wounds supposedly drew blood.

Last Wednesday, whilst driving to practice Tai Chi, I turned on the radio and instead of music, I listened to a call-in show. Guess what the topic of conversation was?

“Should you spank your child and if you do, when does a spanking cross the line and equal abuse?”

Both men and women rang the station. The announcer himself talked about how he got beat regularly by his parents – and even told how he doesn’t just threaten his children with “the belt” – because threats aren’t sufficient.

Yep, at times he takes off the belt and gives his children an unspecified number of lashes.

Although i was only listening for about 40 minutes, I didn’t hear a single parent say that spanking your child is wrong under any and all circumstances.

Neither will I.

But what I will say is what was taught to me long ago by an Aikido martial arts master.

To paraphrase the story:

One day an Aikido master saw a father angrily beating his child. As he hit the boy, the father yelled and screamed.

The master interrupted the scene and pulled the boy’s father to the side. In typical Zen fashion, he did NOT condemn the father for his actions. Instead, he gave him another way of experiencing life with his son.

“You can hit your son anytime you want,” said the Aikido master. “But ONLY under one condition.”

“What’s the condition?” the man asked.

“When you hit him, you cannot do so with anger. You can only spank him if you feel love in your heart for your child.”

The next time the boy stepped out of line, the father remembered the master’s advice. Instead of hitting him, he rid himself of the anger and replaced it with love.”

Surprisingly, after doing this, he felt no need to hit his son. He spoke to him instead – taking his time to teach him right from wrong.

The father did not hit his son that day. Or any other day thereafter.

Why?

Because it is almost impossible to hit or spank a child when you are not angry with him. If you take the time to clear your anger and replace it with love, chances are you’ll rethink how you handle your interaction with your child.

Now, you might think the above is “just a story.”

It’s not. It’s real life.

There are many parents who actually believe if they don’t hit their child, the child will NOT respect them. Or obey.

Really?

There are many ways to win the respect and obedience of your children without spanking them. And no, I’m not talking about “timeouts.”

I’m talking about challenging them in a physical way that highlights “who’s the boss” without hurting anyone.

For example, is it plausible that Adrian Peterson could lightly wrestle with his son to get the point across?

Come here, son. You don’t want to listen? Okay, let’s wrestle for a few minutes and if you can beat me, thenyou call the shots.

I’m betting that it would be a great match. Adrian’s son would squirm and maneuver with all his might – yet be controlled with light pressure. I’m also willing to bet the match would end with laughter and a very different level of respect.

No belts necessary. No switches. No punches, hits or slaps.

Just the tentacles of a giant human octopus (that’s what he’ll feel like to his son).

Yes, I realize a lot of parents think they aren’t physically fit enough to wrestle with their children. But an NFL football player does fit the mould of someone who can.

Controlling your child with the least amount of force necessary makes a lot more sense than whacking him with your fist – or hitting him with a belt or switch.

As I’ve observed, parents who feel they must spank their children, rarely make a lasting impression. That’s why so many of them feel the need to spank their children so often.

Having a heart-to-heart with your child may not feel very easy for you. Using a belt or switch might seem like it’s much faster, quicker and easier.

As a parent, I can tell you that the word is mightier than the belt. Your children will remember your words and use them to make themselves better, if you choose them wisely.

About all they’ll remember from the beatings is the desire to “pass it on.”

Here endeth today’s lesson.

Yours,

Matt “Coach” Furey

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In a coaching call I held a few weeks ago, a client told me that he felt like “a failure.”

Despite the fact that he makes a very good income and has a wonderful family, he looks at what he hasn’t accomplished yet and deems himself unworthy and undeserving.

After listening to him vent, I said the following in my down-home, low-key manner:

“Dude, you’ve got some wrong thinking going on. You think there is such a thing as a SUCCESS. You think there’s also such a thing as a FAILURE. Neither exist in this whirld. There’s no possibility of being one or the other – so this means your entire thought process is wrong.”

Long pause.

“Now for the better news,” I continued. “You can have successful experiences as well as failure experiences – but neither of these make you a success or failure. If you make a gazillion bucks – does that make you a success? No. And if it did, losing it would make you a failure, right?

“Yet, at any stage in your life, you can shift or change course. You can stop living successfully and default to a life of failing – or you can stop failing and start winning. If you win today – you still go on. You continue on your journey.

“The next day you might not win. So how can you be a success one day and a failure the next?

“You’re can’t because you’re neither. You’re either living successfully or you’re not. So if you judge yourself and your life in absoultes, you’re going to feel bad about yourself much of the time because you cannot always win.”

My client paused for a moment after hearing the above and said, “You know, no one has ever told me this before.”

“You’re a member of a very large group of people who can say the same,” I replied.

“Okay, so what do I need to do to get back on the winning track? I’ve been wanting to write a book. But I just sit and think and over-analyze. What do you recommend?”

“Thinking is over-rated,” I replied.

I could feel his jaw drop when I said this.

“Remember this,” I continued. “Great thinkers don’t think.”

This comment nearly shattered his brain.

“What do you mean by that?” he asked. “I always thought good writing was good thinking.”

“Well, as I was told by a fellow wrestler at Iowa when I told him I THOUGHT something, he said, ‘You THOUGHT, HUH? Well, that’s what you get for your thinking.’ ”

I continued: “Good writing is not done with thinking. Good writing is being in a state of flow. It’s like being connected to the sky above the clouds. And once you have that connection, you listen to the still small voice within, and record
what you hear it saying.”

Over the course of the next 20 minutes, I proceeded to lay out more details on how quickly you can get connected to that voice.

If you’re wondering what some of these details are, then I suggest you grab your share of the wealth by getting my Tao of Email Copywriting course. It’s the go-to course for top-tier writers and copywriters around the whirld.

I kind you not as I’ve been given a license to brag – on occasion, so long as I keep it under five minutes at a time.

True. Many of the whilrd’s best-selling authors are on my list and hang on my every werd – even those I deliberately misspell (two in this here sentence).

The same goes for those in the copywriting trade, i.e. those who make their living putting words on paper in order to sell products and services for their clients.

There are many people who can teach you how you should write – but there is no “WAY” that feels right or is right if you don’t have a connection to the Infinite when you sit before a blank piece of paper – or screen.

That’s the way I see things – and believe me now as well as listen to me later, I have “right view” on what I’m seeing.

So sayeth the ZM.

Signing off now with the powerful words I wrote about in yesterday’s email…

Peace and Love,

Matt Furey

P.S. In the Tao of Email Copywritingyou’ll learn how to supercharge your words and phrases with energy that is available to all of us, anytime, any day. And that includes YOU. So put ye failures behind you. And stop thinking
you’re going to arrive at a destination called SUCCESS some day. There’s no destination by that name. It exists not. You, however, do exist – and you’re here to have a successful journey of both ups and downs – but mostly UPS. Enjoy ’em all.

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