Ok ladies I need some advice too… I am 31 y/o already a mother of one who is 11 y/o. It really hasnt been confirmed by blood, but I took a HPT yesterday and it came back positive. At first I cried, cause my child is almost a pre-teen and I was sure I wasnt having anymore by now. The father of this one on the other hand, thats where the situation gets sticky. Fist of all he is younger than me, and already has a soon-to-be 2 y/o. I also forgot to tell you that we work together and are the best of friends. We have been seeing each other for about 3 years now, some people at our job knows,others speculate. My problem is I dont really want to tell him that it’s his, cause I know how upset he was about his other child being born, of course until she got here and know she a little daddy’s girl. But he was devestated at first about it and I was there to help him through the pregnancy with his first child. I know he has a right to know that this is his baby, but I am scared that our friendship will be over. I truly do love this man I feel like he his my soulmate, but now that I am pregnant I just dont know what I feel anymore. Luckily this week he is on vacation from work, but next week what will I do?, I have no idea how I am going to tell him this.

You know in the Bible it says that "Everything happens for a reason." and since you feel like this is your soulmate…maybe this is God’s way of telling you something. i dont know i just thought i would share that with you.

Simply be honest. I think if he actually learnt his lesson the first time around then his reaction will be different. Everything you do in life has consequences and if he really is your soulmate he will stand by you on this. A child is a treasure given by God and he should know that by know. Honesty is the best policy and no matter ho difficult it might seem right now its a bridge you have to cross sooner or later and i would say sooner is better. The longer you wait, the more complicated and difficult things get. You dont need extra stress and right now. You need all the love and support you can get. Oh did i forget to say congrats….

Enjoy your gift and may the little one bring you lots of joy and laughter…..