Its clear our young girls and as women we are going to stay under attack by everyone.

BW once again, there is no calvary!

The justifications for our abuse by EVERYONE.

The Black male teacher and students who sat by and did nothing as they watched this young girl be thrown around like a peace of trash.

YES it was a BLACK MALE TEACHER who called the cops on tis Black girl, and stood and watched unmoved as she was thrown around and slammed for CHEWING GUM.

The only other person who stood up for her was another BLACK GIRL who was subsequently arrested as well for doing just that and videotaping the incident.

What I saw was a young girl sitting at her desk doing nothing and who was completely slammed in her chair and dragged across the floor like some ragdoll.

While Black women are in fighting with each other about colorism, real shit is happening in this society to our young Black girls. You know shit that actually shows how Black women of any and all shades are under attack BY EVERYONE.

While Black women are fighting on the lines for Black men against all kinds of shit including police brutality, Black male teachers are calling the cops on young Black female students who are chewing gum in class and sitting quietly at their desks and standing by watching as they get dragged and body slammed to the ground by racist White cops.

Black women you better wake up and realize who your real enemies are – IT AINT LIGHT SKINNED BLACK WOMEN!

Is it time for American Black women to start migrating to other countries outside the US like immigrants seeking better lives?

Yeah yeah the grass aint always greener, however, America has clearly shown it truly does not value the womanhood and femaleness of our Black young girls and maybe its high time Black women start a mass migration out of this fucking place, where they may have better chances.

Here’s just some more REMINDERS of what our young Black girls are dealing with in the public school system across this country.

Like I said contiunue fighting over thrones based on skin shade and for the love of men who don’t give a fuck about you.

We need to leave and go where we are at least treated with some respect. If a man go do that to a woman he doesn’t see her as a woman anymore. Black women are not seen as women here!!
Right now, I live in Japan. It is not a perfect country by far, but at leas policemen are respectful here. They say good morning and good evening and they always say please. Whenever I see policemen here in Japan (and they are everywhere lol) I never feel threatened.

Since when do we jump to the use of law enforcement when it comes to a child’s behavior problem in class? Why weren’t the parents called first? When the teacher lost control of this situation, and he did, shouldn’t they have been brought in to this BEFORE the police was called?

That said.

Truth be told black women are not going anywhere because as a group we are too poor ass to finance migrating. We also will not break all of the ties that bind most of us and put ourselves first. Sure some of us are there but most of us are not. So since we are here and with most of us here to stay then it is imperative to read your environment correctly and act like you know.

Until the day arrives when black women can just cry like Becky and get out of jams or our own community gives enough of a darn about us to have our backs or we can leave for more supportive spaces we all need to be cool and not act the fool.

Black women and girls need to wise up and cut the whole “warrior queen” , fuck authority, fist in the air bit. I am talking about the young girl who took the defiant stance over bullshit and got slammed to the ground at the request of a black man who did not give a damn about her and the the actions of white man who cared even less. That tactic does not end well for us and the sooner we get that the less we get got.

Until BW can figure something out in terms of protecting our young girls legally for this shit, we have to be very aware that we are a target and under attack with NO forms of protection or groups willing to stand for us. If you look at most the comments regarding the constant violent handling of young BW from everyone it’s always “we deserved it”. These same people would never condone that kind of treatment to any young non black girl which clearly says most people,do not even see BW and black girls humanity let alone femininity.

That means black women and girls have to do ANY AND EVERYTHING in their power now to avoid being violently abused by people in public.

It’s a shame because this is not expected of any other young women in this country. But whe people have CALVARIES and protections in place by Larry numbers of people who care, they get the benefit of the doubt.

BW need to start crafting this for ourselves FIRST. I do believe others and outsiders will help us but NOT until we make the first steps.

Brenda, so many people like you do not get it!! Black children are just that CHILDREN! Black Teenagers are just that TEENAGERS! It’s unrealistic to expect black people to not make mistakes. Everyone has been defiant at least once during their teenage years! I am so disgusted that people are literally blaming her. And you want to know something? If other BW want to stay in this country good for them! BW like myself and who are likeminded do not live on the expectations and experiences of others!

PLEASE relax and truly read and understand what Beenda is saying. She is saying that UNTIL there are things and people in place to help BW avoid this treatment, BW need to act accordingly to protect themselves. There are currently NO RULES applied whe it comes to the handling and mistreatment of black girls and women by law enforcement, which means to avoid that, YOU MUST COMPLY no matter how nonsensical it may seem because the are no protections to,fight for you against corrupt police depts and officers. If there had been no cell phone recording, this would be yet another case of an officer getting off and lying and a young black girl as to why he had to use force.

So Beenda is correct; the rules that apply for all other female “teenagers” do not apply for Black girls and until we have protections in place to ensure our girls are treated like human beings, we must tell them to make sure they avoid at all costs any things that could get them physically manhandled by others.

I knew that someone would respond just like you did. No, I do get it. No, I am not blaming her. She was being a teen and yet….THE OUTCOME FOR HER WAS OVER THE TOP AND CATASTROPHIC. That cop could have done permanent damage to that child like a broken neck. All for chewing gum.

Why?
What I am saying is for each of us to be aware and find smarter ways to negotiate the world. This is life threatening stuff here. The race part of this story is to me a distraction because I know full well that a black cop would have treated her the same way. Believe that.

Why was law enforcement even involved with this at all? Why were not her parents called, a school psychologist, Clear that classroom in order to deal with this young girl one on one. Nope, call the cops and toss her around line trash.
Those are big question and worth answers.

Now until we solve the criminalization of students, particularly black girls, we have got to come up with a strategy to help and protect them so yes, looking at this young girl’s behavior IS NOT OFF THE TABLE. Learn from it and plan. That is all I am saying.

If I had a daughter part of having her back would be teaching her how to survive in a hostile environment while I plan to remover her from it. and or fight the system. It would be teaching her how not to get got and part of that would be pointing out WHAT NOT TO DO AND HOW NOT TO ACT when you are surrounded to unfriendlies.

Actually, the young girl in the classroom did the right thing. Had she arisen from her seat, she would have been accused of “confrontation”. She allowed the cop to totally take physical control and now she has a lawsuit and a cop fired. Whatever she did, she did not give him lip, she did not resist and her neck was almost broken.

I am worried about the young black girl who had social justice awareness and videotaped it. She needs our support because she was arrested for filming it!

I agree. However, if she had stood up and just abided by this lunatics request he wouldn’t have manhandled her.

We are not saying she was wrong. In fact she did the right thing. But whe. He said, stand up JUST DO IT because we all know these cops will and can get away with lying and saying al, sorts of things as to why they manhandled you.

We are saying that until protections are in place to protect young BW from being treated in this manner, young BW are just going to have to bite the bullet and follow orders no matter how unfair and ass one they are. That right now is the ONLY thing able to save black girls from being manhandled and physically abused by law enforcement.

I agree with you Neecy and the more that comes out about this asshole cop, the more we must revise our definition of “following orders”. When a cop is allowed to run riot in a school of minority children and has a moniker of “the Slammer”, we need to teach our children not to escalate matters. Listen to the teacher or the principal; but, she was just scared of being suspended and/or expelled. She was in a foster home and an expulsion or suspension might have had serious consequences to her newly arranged, although temporary living arrangements.
I think focusing our girls on themselves and their community and the world will not make them so desperate about circumstances and the school environment would not be so all-consuming (VERY HARD FOR A TEENAGER). They should also be taught about what school is, who the teachers are, how the system operates, then they what would be inculcated in our young black girls is that school is a temporary condition with artificial rules that must be followed but not incorporated into their souls.

WELP. I WAS RIGHT. YOU DON’T GET IT. That girl is probably questioning her worth and position in life right now. She is problem contemplating suicide for all we know. But, alas black girls and women always have to be strong and shoulda been the bigger person. NO time to mistakes. NO TIME TO BE HUMAN!!!

And that sorry ass BLACK MALE TEACHER was most likely aware of this as well and still targeted her. You know how so many BM have a power trip issues with black women and girls.

At the end of the day, these kinds of things are the results of all the centuries of the unaddressed neglect and abuse black women and girls have been facing. Now the chickens are coming to roost and BW are getting a very sad and sore wake up call that all this time we were fighting for groups of people (like BM) when we need them the most we are left swinging and flailing alone in the winds.

Sometimes things have to get worse before they get better.

Hopefully this will cause an awakening in black women that we can no longer and should no longer fight for black men or anyone else and focus solely on ourselves.

THIS will be the beginning of positive change for black women and girls.

This black male teacher could not handle this female student, but calls the police. He would have been very careful not to call the police if this student was a black male. Also I have noticed that when the black female gets into trouble with a police officer, there are black men who will say she should have listened to him, shut her mouth. But for the black males who get into trouble, no matter what he may have done to get into trouble, its entirely the police officer’s fault. I have not heard these same black men say, the black male should have listened, shut up. Its as if, as long as the white man (white male) is at odds with the black woman (black female), the black male is too happy to see this. You know the “I told you so about white males” “the slave master”. They feel these acts will seal the chances of these groups (BW/WM) having meaningful relationships. Watch out for the wolves, Okie Dokies! Trust in Jesus to deliver US, because he will and is at work when we have not a clue. And I know many BW have lost the faith, but many have kept the faith. Sometimes bad things happen (not so fun I know) for the good things to happen. To the believers. (God is just. He will pay back trouble to those who trouble you and give relief to you who are troubled… 2 Thessalonians 1:6)

Hell BW are already representing more than 50% of women in prisons in almost any state.

This is the chickens coming home to roost. One thing Breuklene blue pointed out that I had never thought of but which is quite TRUE is that BW are paying the piper now for all the neglect and non concern we have for our girls and ourselves. We’re the ones paying the price for being the sacrifice for everyone else who would never be that for us. And things will not get better for BW until we acknowledge and change that behavior.

This comment I can agree with you on because when women get locked up, rarely will you see their “ride-or-die man” still “holding it down” for them. They’re off to the next chick. No black men are not going to wait for their “Black Queen”.

This is terrible, “sigh”. It seems like God or the universe is sending me signs all of the time. The other day I was eating lunch on the main campus of the community college in which I am in an early college program. I saw on the picnic table amongst other words and sentences, “everyone at this school doesn’t like black girls, especially the black guys”. I stared at that sentence for a while, and I kept glancing at it several times, even when my classmates were engaged in conversation.

Well on the brighter side, I was pleasantly surprised to see that there is an all female HBCU named Bennet College in my state.

One more thing about the mass migration. Have you seen this video Neecy?

Well now. The deputy who assaulted the girl in the video has lost his job. Good. Now lets see what happens to the teacher and the administrator who mishandles this situation. They are every bit as responsible for this travesty.

I have an AA coworker whose sister is a teacher in Dubai (or another of the Mid East countries). She’s having a wonderful experience and enjoying herself. She’s made friends (I’m not sure if they’re natives or other internationals). So, opportunities exist for AA women who desire an experience outside the US.

Indians study, work, and live outside of India, ALL THE TIME. So, it is possible to thrive outside of your home base. Differences between Indians and AAs include the fact that Indians are accustomed to migrating to other countries, probably have a network of Indians they can connect up with in these other countries, and are willing to assist other Indians in achieving success. As much as Indians and Pakistanis dislike each other, they are willing to support each other in certain contexts (like being the only South Asians in a Western society). AA women don’t have that. It’s something they will have to build for themselves and each other. But, that building process CANNOT be completed by one individual WORKING ALONE.

The video of the attack on this young girl by a police officer outraged everyone, so I am heartened that there is still decency in society.

However, in NYC, I am seeing an increasingly distressing situation which is the hatred between black girls and black males. In one situation a black girl with a baby carriage, who was no more than 18 years old, tried to start a fight with a man in his 40s about the way he told a 9 year old girl (whom neither of them knew) to stop pushing. She actually challenged him, insulted him and caused a scene — over bullshit. She was lucky he kept his cool and he said he was coming from a probation officer meeting and that was why she wasn’t “going to get fucked up”.

Another girl today, was Latina and she dared these black guys (who were men) to hit her and they almost did.

Why do our young girls think they can tell a grown man, “trust me my nigga, you don’t want to come at me”? Why are they starting shit on the subways of NYC where the homeless and schizophrenic reside in great numbers?

Reality Shows. That’s why. They don’t have any home training or mothers who can take the time to care, if they even know how so they are raised by that ghetto kabuki shit called the Real Housewives of Bullshit and Bullshit and Hip Hop. I am sorry to be so foul-mouthed, but this really has me dreading the future of young sisters. These millennium mammy shows are very damaging for our children and it is reinforced by the music.

Did anyone catch the young black boy in the front of the class laughing? You ain’t neva seen my black female azz on a march for them and you neva ever will!. On a metaphysical note, I think black men know that a reckoning for their behavior is coming due, so they are going all out on black woman. When I was in school we didn’t have to worry about the black male teachers; I see now we do. Call the cops for a girl chewing gum? He wanted something to happen to that girl.

It would be easy to dismiss this incident as another day in southern crackerville, along with the shooting at the church in Charleston, but the media is helping to defeminize black women and they are one of the biggest culprits in this.

I agree that reality shows are HIGHLY PROBLEMATIC. I miss the days when they didn’t exist. I also wish there were no such thing as Internet/You Tube/Instagram/My Space “fame”. Then we could stop having people rewarded for outlandish, stupid, attention-getting behavior. “Fame” is no longer about talent or hard work; it’s about who can get the most attention, no matter how they garner it. I miss the days when attention-seeking was viewed as “desperation” and SHUNNED.

Your examples above illustrate why I support public transportation but don’t use it.

IT’S CRAZY. But, I also agree there is an attempt to lump all AA women/girls into that rejected and criminalized segment of society. AA women/girls better “wise up” and GET A CLUE. I also believe there is an attempt to push out AA women/girls so that any resources they SHOULD (won’t say “WOULD”) normally receive (as women, from males in their group) will become freed up, excess resources available for other populations to utilize as they’d like.

So true, So true Formavitae!! It is about denying us resources to undermine our development and survival. Thus, we become “criminalized” and thus, a “problem” that must be dealt with rather than a problem that was created to readjust resource distribution.

EXACTLY FORMATIVE. And it’s working. The media has created such a monster out of us, that it has desensitized those in society to even see us as humans and females deserving of respect and human treatment.

How anyone could justify the actions of how that girls was handled clearly shows this.

Here’s the thing. First the girl wasn’t just chewing gum, she was on her cell phone. Yes, that behavior was wrong, but it certainly wasn’t worth calling the police. I think that teacher should also lose his job. I think the reason the teacher called the police on this girl was because she’s a recent orphan with no parental support. If the teacher knew she had parents who’d raise holy hell, you can bet he would NOT have called the police. This girl was powerless and the teacher knew it.

My mother said that when she was in school, they saw their teachers as gods and would never talk back to them. I reminded her that when she was in school, adults for the most part, acted like adults. How can you expect teenagers to respect adults when the adults today act like teenagers (see reality TV shows)? I think the reason teenagers act up today is because they see adults acting up; they see grown men and women fighting on TV and on the Internet in order to get fame.

I think having schools for black girls is a good idea. It’s been shown, I believe that single sex schools are better for girl children.

I don’t know if leaving the country is the answer because the Internet and the media will slowly infiltrate the entire world, meaning these shows will go global; there’s already a Real Housewives of Melbourne and soon they’ll be Love and Hip Hop: Paris, or something like that.

I reminded her that when she was in school, adults for the most part, acted like adults.

This is something my best friend and I were recently talking about. I remember my best friend had a girl from Ethiopia come to America for medical treatment and she attended school for several months in this country. That’s the first thing she noticed about adults in America. It takes TWO to tangle! Adults today don’t even act like adults!!! Is it surprising thats children’s behavior have drastically changed?! geesh…

I’m convinced black girl only school are THE ONLY WAY for Black girls to regain and maintain their confidence, safety and just overall happiness.

It can be done and I think we have enough proof from all the studies done on how black girls are treated compared to other girls in schools.

Black girls are suspended and expelled 10 times more than ANYONE in public schools! Yes even black boys.

That tells. Me there is a disconnect in how many white women and male teachers see these girls. The simple solution to them is to expel and suspend while other girls of other races are probably given ample opportunities to turn their behavior around (through counseling etc).

In black girl only school with black female teachers ONLY the disconnect subsides.

Neecy. I don’t know if black female teachers will help. Yesterday I went to get my fingerprints done because I will be volunteering in public schools. As I was sitting down waiting I saw three older black women discussing the incident. They were laughing and saying SHE DESERVED IT. I was LIVID and disgusted inside. Also, I vividly remember so many times black women who were my teachers in grade school be more lenient on non-black girls.Even other black women do not see black girls as HUMAN BEINGS. I was LIVID and disgusted inside. I am so tired of this!

Rae, your misgivings are correct. Some of these black female officers and teachers leave a lot to be desired. Many of them will be left behind as black women who don’t agree with this structure move up and out.

All or most BW cannot and will not be saved. OH WELL, they have choices. They choose to work against the best interests of themselves and the collective of BW – they will be the ones to keep paying the price and sacrifice.

I think today everybody wants to take the easier, softer way. No one wants to meet children where they are. Rae made a good comment. The three older black women probably felt that since the girl was disrespectful, she deserved everything she got; to which I say, “do you think being disrespectful should get you body slammed?”

See, what happens is people don’t delve deeper. No one wants to. This child has serious issues; she was an orphan, in the foster care system. No family to look out for her. Rae, those black teachers who were more lenient on non-black girls probably felt that those girls were “nicer.” I’ve heard that, “why do so many black women have attitudes?” and such.

This is why I think home schooling and networking makes sense. I have heard a lot of black mothers who want to home school their children, but don’t know anything about it, don’t know what to do, where to go. If they knew other black mothers who were home schooling their children that could help them. Best to keep these things small. It’s when things become movements and become big that they get into trouble.

Critical thinking is seriously a foreign concept for so many black women especially the older ones. I can’t help but notice that. The thought process that so many Americans have in general is just terrible. One thing that is not being mentioned is there actually is an increase of black parents moving abroad and becoming expats and raising their children internally. BTW you guys need to Check out ‘Travelnoire’! I am part of many networks online that involve black women and men who live abroad and its fascinating!! Most of it though is black women.

Yes, home school is a great option, I think we need to start private schools for black children. nothing big, parents could band together and start a small one room school house with local neighborhood kids in a black neighborhood and pay a certified teacher and an asst. to teach and it would be an african-emphasizes curriculum.

I sometimes wonder how things get so far destructive? When black women were participating in the black power movement, black men had an agenda then. The reason we bring black men in it because they are always some how involved. When we being used during the movements and anything else they needed our resources for, black women just shouting ” i’m black and proud”. Nothing wrong with making that declaration, it seems that after the marches, black women went home broke and empty handed while black men went to white women and made sure they were comfortable. I mean how many women who went to see that movie that made millions for 3 straight weeks, how many are going to contribute to the teenage gofund account. Then these silly black and white students want him free like the dolphin Free Willy. Much like the Ray Rice case how many people were supporting Ray Rice but out of the same breath, domestic violence is wrong. It is only wrong when non black women are involved. I know this is not the same case by no means, even when I was coming up you didn’t see these all out stomp down attack on black females by cops. I know they were there. It seems like cops now days are afraid to use their brains.They SERVE AND PROTECT EACH OTHER.

Yes it seems that the bricks are dropping from the sky on Black women as a whole these days. But Breukelen Blue always pointed out something very interesting and upon thinking about it further it makes sense.

She believes that BW are going to suffer and keep paying these prices for our constant sacrifice and forgiveness of those who have never given a shit about us.

BW have spent decades at the Black man’s feet with our head sup their asses and have done nothing for our daughters and future generations of girls coming up. The generations of BW before us FAILED US. And now we are left in the mud trying to get out.

In essence I believe that the chickens have come to roost for Black women. All the decades and centuries of ignoring our issues to continue to fight and cape for people who are not returning the favor is coming back HEAVY to bite us in the ass.

Also, I believe BW are some of the most so called religious “god fearing” women on earth, yet the worship of the Black male is also causing us to pay a price. I am a BW who still goes to church, but I am not foolish like the rest of the silly African American church going women.

I believe God is punishing or rather letting Black women see how you cannot worship TWO GODS at once. And Black women are severely stricken with Black male worship. I have always said that, that is going to continue to be the nail in the coffin for BW until many understand that you cannot worship GOD and man at the same time. And since BW have overall chosen to worship Black males by any means necessary (all the while Black men have been causing nothing but destruction in the lives of BW) then God is showing so many BW how destructive that Black male worship is.

Some BW will get it and STOP and some never will and will continue to suffer. I as a church going Christian Black women got it a long time ago.

But overall I just think the chickens are coming to roost for BW and only two things can happen now – we wise up and make some serious changes and work towards goals for ourselves as individuals and a collective, or we continue to pay the price as we are now.

Way I see it, there is no place to go but up for the BW like US who GET IT. But we gotta work to do it.

I think you have it right there. If you worship man, you will be in trouble, because human beings are flawed, they will make mistakes and will fail you.

As for leaving the USA, there are good and bad things about leaving the USA, but the issue is this. If a woman leaves the US and continues the same silly, caping behavior, worshiping men etc, the same thing will happen to said woman.

Also remember it’s not like it was years ago, the world is much smaller; everybody has access to the Internet and can watch the same TV shows (reality TV crap) that we watch in the USA.

Actually, white cops have beaten Black women in the past, it just wasn’t made known to the media. If you have ever read any of Serpico’s interviews, he stated when he was a teenager going home from work, he watched this white cop beat the crap out of this old Black lady who was sitting on a bench waiting for the bus (this was at night). So while black men have always lambasted about how “the man” was giving Black women jobs, etc., etc., they failed to mention how we were abused just as much as they were, & still had to go to work or find a way to make ends meet, without complaining about our situations.

“Is it time for American Black women to start migrating to other countries outside the US like immigrants seeking better lives?”

The answer is yes. For those of us who can, we should definitely make plans to migrate out of the US, just in case. Because genocide isn’t far fetched and let the veneer of civilization go away, you’d be shocked at what some people would do.

The only thing is, for lower income black women, it may not be feasible for them to get out of the country and that is unfortunate because they are the most vulnerable. Maybe we need to start a kickstarter or go fund me for them, like an emergency evacuation fund for low income black folks, emphasis on black girls.

its already happening A LOT these days. Where Black women are being BLATANLTY excluded from social events and venues based on our race and gender. Venues that BLACK MEN either are apart of, run or have some hand in as well. Which means its not “a Black thing”. its a Black WOMAN thing.

I just read an article of how Black women were once again BLATANTLY told to “go away” at a Halloween party thrown at YALE by a White Fraternity (that had Black and Hispanic male members as well).

This is a very recent and common occurrence happening to Black women across the globe and it needs to be a wake up call to Black women to STOP FUCKING caping for Black men and everyone. They don’t want you around unless they need you for something. You are not worthy women in the eyes of these men. A lot of times they are apart in some ways of the exclusion of black women from social venues.

This is the price Black women pay for being so consumed for fighting and caping for all others whose only repayment is kicking dust in our faces.

Yet all the other races of women who are acting like women and aint caping for no one, are the chosen ones.

MEN DO NOT WANT WOMEN AROUND WHO TAKE ON THE ROLES OF MEN. until Black women make a choice to stop taking on masculine traits of men and acting like protectors and providers, is when everyone will treat us as WOMEN.

I lived in Denmark for 5 years. The part where I lived didn’t have a whole lot of diversity, so it was a very lonely existence. But I did run across a good number of non-white (mostly Asian) women who were married to white Danish men.
Danish people can be pretty racist, but I think it’s mostly the white women (both there and here at home) who propagate the racism. They have by and large bought into the idea that are “especially” privileged, and they know that their men have their backs even when the women totally treat their men like sh*t. And boy…Scandinavian women really DO treat their men like sh*t!

I’ve dated a Norwegian and a white Canadian before I met my husband, and I feel that most white men can be reasoned with..But having said that, I’ve just about given up on white-American men, though I give a lot of praise to the white guy who married my mom and stuck with her for 41 years.

White European men seem to have a better sense of who they are. Though there are a lot of times when my husband’s white male-ness gets in the way of effectively conveying what I go through every day, it’s not like he’s in total denial about his privilege. I think most white guys just look for that woman whom they could protect and take care of, and it doesn’t matter what race they are. White women are especially picky because they really believe that all women in the world want to be just like them.

Hi Neecy – my hubby’s an ethnic Dane (white European). You’re absolutely right about American men in general not knowing how to date AA women…Before I got married the longest relationship I had was with the Canadian, and he was from a “conservative” part of that country.
While I do feel that there are some American guys out there who just need to be educated about AA women, but I know the odds of finding real happiness here are close to nil…maybe unless you live on either coast of the USA. My hubby thinks the masculinity problem is far worse in the USA than in Europe – and that’s why Americans are so quick to use violence in any given situation.

Yep, feminism is definitely bad in Scandinavia. That’s one part of the world where you need less women in charge of things, especially in politics.
The feminists there seem to think that being a middle class white woman is “exactly” the same as being an African woman from Somalia or a Muslim woman from Afghanistan.
For some reason, white American liberals are always saying that the USA should be more like Sweden, and that’s a country where one out of 10 voters actually picked a borderline Nazi party (The Sweden Democrats) in their last election.

I live on the east coast. i’m in college and most of the bw my age with good heads on there shoulders are single. It’s tough but i don’t let it bring me down! I strongly agree with finding happiness is close to none… sad to say

I was born on the East coast (Philly) but lived most of my life in California and Washington state. But my mom’s from Virginia, and I don’t think she could ever see herself going back to the South.

I learned from living abroad that there isn’t too much of a difference between Americans and Europeans – you actually see up close where a lot of the arrogant and bigoted/racist American mentality comes from. (Denmark was a country that participated in the African slave trade. Not many people know that…I sure didn’t!)

But I think young Europeans are more open-minded, so if you’re ever thinking about expanding your dating options, then you should take a look at Europeans.

Hi there ladies. Someone mentioned about reality shows, defeminizing and dehumanizing us, and yes there is some truth to that. The thing is not to be naïve,is why are we on those shows? Hispanics appear to be less likely on those shows and Asians are even rare. I think unconsciously too many of us like to see problems and thrive on problems. We have become know- it- alls, and combative. I think that for us we need to limit our interactions with garbage and truly begin to work on ourselves. Let us begin to forgive ourselves, rather than forgiving BM and outsiders . Let us now as Black women work solely on our selves and stop helping BM and outsiders. Remember we don’t have to be part of everything, only the good things.

YES. Black women have not helped out situation at all by allowing ourselves to be PIMPED by the powers that by and everyone to sell our image and womanhood down the drain.

They know and knew what they were doing when they started showing Black women in these lights. And sadly, its worked very successfully in stifling our progress and perception as being women and has definitely othered us to the point that I don’t believe people even see us as women at this rate.

What they knew was that BW would watch that crap. Why? Because of the dearth of BW on TV in general. There is one thing that runs Hollywood and that is $$$$. As long as we continue to watch reality show crap, as long as there are people willing to sell their souls to be on reality shows, they will continue to exist.

If you watch latino tv & asian tv, they have been doing reality type shows for years. They have shows which shows nude ladies or at least the breasts are showing, while wearing bikini underwear; talk shows with ghetto tv hosts; etc.

You are so right, Neecy. I finally realize for 38 years that the reason why I’m going through so much shit most of my life is because I’m black and a woman. This is a white patriarchal country that benefits non-black people and men. America hates black women simply because of our race and gender. Plain and simple. I’ve been sheltered because I grew up middle class, and I experience sexism in my family. My brother gets more love and attention and he’s more popular in schools than I am. In my family, males are more favored than females. My brother does all kinds of stuff and he still gets a pass. I make a little mistake, and you would think that I killed somebody. The bottom line is, America, including the black community, doesn’t give a FUCK about black women and girls.

Regarding the Asians and Latinos doing reality shows, LET THEM! I SAY LET THEM! Why do black women want to do every dumb shit other races do. ?Personally I do not care about women/girls of other races.. If we want to emulate Whites, Asians and Latinos, let us first start with emulating the way they all are for self preservation, let us emulate them in thinking that we deserve the best in wealth and fit health (Far too many black women/girls are irresponsible with money, and are once again big and fat (fat is nasty and unhealthy and stop lying to yourself). I personally believe it is better to be around 3 conscious, responsible black women, than 300 unconscious, irresponsible black women. For those of you conscious black women and girls who know the score and know how to conduct yourself and are responsible, to live good, fabulous life, you will have to have minimum or no interaction with black women/girls who are unconscious, capers and complainers. Sad to say but it is true. I do not believe in God, but for those of you who do, the rare black woman I see that do believe in God and are living healthy succesfull lives, DO NOT RELY ON GOD, they view God as a spiritual guide, they do not believe in sitting back worshipping, praying, hoping and just existing(slavish mentality) but , these black women are intelligent and know that they are the ones who have to do the work. i.e take action if they want something to change in their life, they realize that some people who look like them will never change and they have no expectations of people who do not look like them. These women interaction with all those sorts are extremely minimal if at all.

Enough talking, most of us on this blog have some consciousness and I do believe many of us are ready to take action for self improvement. I would like to see we concsious black women give each other ideas about what we can do to improve, e.g. health, fitness, hobbies finance, managing our households proper, healthy social activities, buying black more, small business ownership,homeshcooling etc. etc. etc. etc. We Black women have to stop talking and change our subconscious in really believing and doing things that are the best for us. In my opinion I believe that daily meditation is a good way to start, and you know what we may have to do it daily for the rest of our lives, but, that is OK because because this society is invested in indoctrinating us daily with self hate, so why not indoctrinate ourselves daily with real self love. THIS IS THE BATTLE I WANT TO TAKE ON!

I consider myself a Progressive Black woman that is interested in helping to bring about change and a new consciousness to Black women globally. One that is positive and progressive and empowers Black women to live well and thrive successfully under some of the most anti-Black woman pressures in society today.