Don’t get married just to avoid loneliness

Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness. (Mandy Hale)

A wrong perspective about marriage is that its labelled as a ‘cure’ to loneliness. Usually people use the following Bible verse ‘Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone (Genesis 2:18)’ to justify this. What goes wrong is when this is used to promote marriage without checking if love really exists between the marrying couple. In the case of Adam and Eve, even after they were cast out of the garden of Eden they still continued with each other as a couple. No relationship counseling and yet they didn’t separate from each other! It was their love and respect that kept them together.

It’s foolish to marry just because other’s are getting married but you’re still single. Marriage must never be out of selfishness by thinking solely about oneself but not the other person. One keep in mind that as a believer in Christ even your marriage must give glory to God every step of the way.

When hearing about impeding divorces especially the one’s called as ‘divorce by mutual consent’ I’ve observed that the couple didn’t even get the start of their marriage right. They only went for the externals like money, beauty and position in society instead of checking on internals like morals, philosophy and faith. Even the divorcing couple due to the pain of divorce start to wonder if they could have not got into their fading relationship in the first place. Without a doubt it’s vital that such a couple or any other sort of couple on the verge of divorce seeks good counsel before taking any final decision on their marriage.

With that being said, its very crucial to have true love and respect as beginning and continuing point of marriage. Why make life miserable for one’s spouse or for oneself because of coming into marriage with wrong intentions? Get your thought’s corrected before anything more bad happens. The blessings are yours to gain if you walk and think justly and in true love.