You are not eating for two!

Pregnancy weight gain. Hot topic maybe?Do you think that weight gain and age of pregnancy correlate in any way? More often than not, I have seen older moms gain less weight than younger moms. My thought process is that younger moms with faster metabolisms are used to eating whatever they want and when pregnant buy into the whole "eating for two" theory. Older moms tend to struggle with metabolism and know that it will be hard to lose the extra weight and have more discipline with their diets during pregnancy.

I was 38 and gained 17lbs. I didn't diet, but I intentionally didn't eat for two and tried to eat healthier than before pregnant.

There are no absolutes, I do realize that. I am not saying every or all. But, I also think that pregnancy weight is completely controllable and those who wish to control it can, and those who don't wish to control it should not complain about having to losing it afterwards. Only about 20lbs is considered babyweight anyway, so anything over that is due to overeating.

Pregnancy weight gain. Hot topic maybe?Do you think that weight gain and age of pregnancy correlate in any way? More often than not, I have seen older moms gain less weight than younger moms. My thought process is that younger moms with faster metabolisms are used to eating whatever they want and when pregnant buy into the whole "eating for two" theory. Older moms tend to struggle with metabolism and know that it will be hard to lose the extra weight and have more discipline with their diets during pregnancy.

I was 38 and gained 17lbs. I didn't diet, but I intentionally didn't eat for two and tried to eat healthier than before pregnant.

There are no absolutes, I do realize that. I am not saying every or all. But, I also think that pregnancy weight is completely controllable and those who wish to control it can, and those who don't wish to control it should not complain about having to losing it afterwards. Only about 20lbs is considered babyweight anyway, so anything over that is due to overeating.

Wow. Just wow. First of all, why do you care? You don't have to lose their weight. Secondly, aren't we miss high and mighty to judge others? As long as they aren't harming their fetus in any way, does it really matter? I know women that have eaten like crap, gained 50plus pounds and were back into their jeans in 6 weeks. I also have known women to eat extremely healthy, yet still gained 40-50 lbs and took them a year to lose the weight, despite their healthy eating after and exercising. It's genetics for some part, age has nothing to do with it. And your implication that younger mothers don't care about their bodies reeks of jealousy.

Wow. Just wow. First of all, why do you care? You don't have to lose their weight. Secondly, aren't we miss high and mighty to judge others? As long as they aren't harming their fetus in any way, does it really matter? I know women that have eaten like crap, gained 50plus pounds and were back into their jeans in 6 weeks. I also have known women to eat extremely healthy, yet still gained 40-50 lbs and took them a year to lose the weight, despite their healthy eating after and exercising. It's genetics for some part, age has nothing to do with it. And your implication that younger mothers don't care about their bodies reeks of jealousy.

Although I agree that some people can go overboard, I don't think age really matters and ultimately you don't have total control on what your body will gain. I'm 26, I gained 18 pounds, a good friend of mine was 38 at delivery and gained 50. Both of us didn't eat for "two" we just have different body types and height.

Although I agree that some people can go overboard, I don't think age really matters and ultimately you don't have total control on what your body will gain. I'm 26, I gained 18 pounds, a good friend of mine was 38 at delivery and gained 50. Both of us didn't eat for "two" we just have different body types and height.

But, It makes me laugh when people blame the 50 plus pounds they gained "on pregnancy". Nooooo, you gained about 25lbs due to pregnancy, the other 25lbs which didn't fall off quickly after giving birth was gained the same way everyone else gains weight. By eating more than you needed.

I have no opinion on how you choose to navigate your pregnancy.

But, It makes me laugh when people blame the 50 plus pounds they gained "on pregnancy". Nooooo, you gained about 25lbs due to pregnancy, the other 25lbs which didn't fall off quickly after giving birth was gained the same way everyone else gains weight. By eating more than you needed.

I agree with the pp. Why would anyone care if the pregnant woman is the one who has to lose it or live with it after the baby is born?

Only about 20lbs is considered babyweight anyway, so anything over that is due to overeating.

Seriously? Don't you think that's just a little short-sighted and judgmental? Some women (myself included) gained about 30 lbs in pure water weight while being pregnant. It was a combination of medication I was taking plus a bunch of complications with the pregnancy. I know I would have been pretty upset if someone came up to me and told me to stop eating because I was gaining too much weight while I was pregnant.

I agree with the pp. Why would anyone care if the pregnant woman is the one who has to lose it or live with it after the baby is born?

Only about 20lbs is considered babyweight anyway, so anything over that is due to overeating.

Seriously? Don't you think that's just a little short-sighted and judgmental? Some women (myself included) gained about 30 lbs in pure water weight while being pregnant. It was a combination of medication I was taking plus a bunch of complications with the pregnancy. I know I would have been pretty upset if someone came up to me and told me to stop eating because I was gaining too much weight while I was pregnant.

I'm 27 and only gained 17 lbs. Although I believe some of it is genetics and body type, a lot of it IS choices women make while pregnant. I couldn't care less how much a woman gains if she's ok with it. I just can't stand when women ask me if I starved myself during pregnancy or act like it's unhealthy to only gain the necessary weight for a healthy pregnancy. I'm sorry but if you gained 70 lbs (like my sister-in-law), it's probably because of the choices you made! She kept blaming pregnancy and complaining about the weight, but she was the one sitting on the couch eating take-out every night. Some women use pregnancy as an excuse to let themselves go! If you're ok with it, than more power to ya!

I'm 27 and only gained 17 lbs. Although I believe some of it is genetics and body type, a lot of it IS choices women make while pregnant. I couldn't care less how much a woman gains if she's ok with it. I just can't stand when women ask me if I starved myself during pregnancy or act like it's unhealthy to only gain the necessary weight for a healthy pregnancy. I'm sorry but if you gained 70 lbs (like my sister-in-law), it's probably because of the choices you made! She kept blaming pregnancy and complaining about the weight, but she was the one sitting on the couch eating take-out every night. Some women use pregnancy as an excuse to let themselves go! If you're ok with it, than more power to ya!

Yea I dont buy that theory. I think its all in the person. With my oldest, I was 18 while pregnant and 19 at delivery, I didn't have a grocery budget and lived off of cereal, watermelon, cherries, chicken, and hamburger helper that I could break into 5 lunch servings. I worked in a warehouse 10 hours per day. I gained 60lbs with him total. Now with this baby, I am 32 years old, I can afford the luxuries of going out to eat and buying the groceries I crave and am on course to that darling 60 again. I follow my weight watchers plan and only add in my 10 extra points that my doctor and I agreed upon pre pregnancy. This time my doc is convinced of the water weight I'm carrying because I keep a food diary and my intake is not explaining the gain that I'm having with this baby. My last ob didn't seem to care what I gained at all so she never looked into why I ballooned up. I also swelled like crazy from 6 months on with my first and I'm going through the same now. The joke in the house is all I have to do is look at the salt shakers and I will begin to swell. Eliminating salt and following a diet similar to my dad who is a heart patient seems to be keeping the swelling down so far. Now with my oldest I went back to work 6 weeks pp and weighed 25 lbs less than I did pre pregnancy and I didn't eat any different foods pp in fact I ate more richer foods since my parents came to stay with me after my sons birth for 2 weeks.

Yea I dont buy that theory. I think its all in the person. With my oldest, I was 18 while pregnant and 19 at delivery, I didn't have a grocery budget and lived off of cereal, watermelon, cherries, chicken, and hamburger helper that I could break into 5 lunch servings. I worked in a warehouse 10 hours per day. I gained 60lbs with him total. Now with this baby, I am 32 years old, I can afford the luxuries of going out to eat and buying the groceries I crave and am on course to that darling 60 again. I follow my weight watchers plan and only add in my 10 extra points that my doctor and I agreed upon pre pregnancy. This time my doc is convinced of the water weight I'm carrying because I keep a food diary and my intake is not explaining the gain that I'm having with this baby. My last ob didn't seem to care what I gained at all so she never looked into why I ballooned up. I also swelled like crazy from 6 months on with my first and I'm going through the same now. The joke in the house is all I have to do is look at the salt shakers and I will begin to swell. Eliminating salt and following a diet similar to my dad who is a heart patient seems to be keeping the swelling down so far. Now with my oldest I went back to work 6 weeks pp and weighed 25 lbs less than I did pre pregnancy and I didn't eat any different foods pp in fact I ate more richer foods since my parents came to stay with me after my sons birth for 2 weeks.

But there are people out there that wouldn't eat more then they needed If they weren't pregnant, so in that way yeah, it is because they were pregnant. I know for myself I wake up famished and want to eat the freaking wallpaper. That's never happened to me before aside from when I had to take steroid shots, and I gained weight on those too. I'm not going to be painfully hungry to make someone feel better about my life.

And besides, it gives me something to look forward to when I'm done being pregnant. I enjoy working out and seeing results.

Now if you're talking about people whining and crying about gaining weight, yeah that's absolutely irritating, but I see a lot of people who do that when they aren't pregnant.

But there are people out there that wouldn't eat more then they needed If they weren't pregnant, so in that way yeah, it is because they were pregnant. I know for myself I wake up famished and want to eat the freaking wallpaper. That's never happened to me before aside from when I had to take steroid shots, and I gained weight on those too. I'm not going to be painfully hungry to make someone feel better about my life.

And besides, it gives me something to look forward to when I'm done being pregnant. I enjoy working out and seeing results.

Now if you're talking about people whining and crying about gaining weight, yeah that's absolutely irritating, but I see a lot of people who do that when they aren't pregnant.

No I don't think it is age-related, nor do I think its completely controllable. I think their is a genetic aspect to it. Since the recommended weight gain is now between 25 and 35 pounds your claim that anything over 20 lbs is due to overeating is nonsense. It's not so different from people saying that if you only gained 17 lbs you were depriving your LO. BTW, I am 40 years old and have been a size 0 or 2 my whole adult life -except during pregnancy and when I'm pregnant I gain around 40 lbs and the rate and timing of the gain doesn't appear correlated with the amount I eat.

No I don't think it is age-related, nor do I think its completely controllable. I think their is a genetic aspect to it. Since the recommended weight gain is now between 25 and 35 pounds your claim that anything over 20 lbs is due to overeating is nonsense. It's not so different from people saying that if you only gained 17 lbs you were depriving your LO. BTW, I am 40 years old and have been a size 0 or 2 my whole adult life -except during pregnancy and when I'm pregnant I gain around 40 lbs and the rate and timing of the gain doesn't appear correlated with the amount I eat.

Hellooo........ I said they have faster metabolisms which makes it less necessary for them to watch their diets. Necessary, not that they don't care.......

Remember here, we have all been through pregnancy. All of us know the feelings of cravings and the sometimes insatiable hunger. We all know that many, many people try and feed us while pregnant, etc. etc. etc. Some of us give in to it, and some of us do not.

I don't judge how much weight you gain. I judge when someone blames their weight on pregnancy, instead of overeating during pregnancy. Your baby didn't cause the weight gain, you did. It may not sound nice but it is true.

I went to the doctor's once when I started gaining weight. I told him that I wanted him to test my thyroid and help me figure out why I was gaining weight and not losing. He told me to go home and stop eating. Calories in versus calories out. I was so pi$$ed at him for that. 7 years later, I finally got what he was saying. He was completely 100% right.

Hellooo........ I said they have faster metabolisms which makes it less necessary for them to watch their diets. Necessary, not that they don't care.......

Remember here, we have all been through pregnancy. All of us know the feelings of cravings and the sometimes insatiable hunger. We all know that many, many people try and feed us while pregnant, etc. etc. etc. Some of us give in to it, and some of us do not.

I don't judge how much weight you gain. I judge when someone blames their weight on pregnancy, instead of overeating during pregnancy. Your baby didn't cause the weight gain, you did. It may not sound nice but it is true.

I went to the doctor's once when I started gaining weight. I told him that I wanted him to test my thyroid and help me figure out why I was gaining weight and not losing. He told me to go home and stop eating. Calories in versus calories out. I was so pi$$ed at him for that. 7 years later, I finally got what he was saying. He was completely 100% right.

Ummm yeah.I am a healthy eater.Everything I buy is low fat or nonfat and whole grain. I do not eat fast food or overly processed foods I know how to portion my helpings and I will be 27 weeks pregnant tomorrow and have gained 30 pounds.Oh I also walk 2 to 3 miles several times a week,mow our yard and all other yard work,not to mention stay busy.So according to your 'theory' I shouldn't be gaining as much weight correct?Oh and if it matters I am 30.With my son at age 18 I was extremely active and gained 102 pounds due to swelling and water weight gain I had toxemia and pre eclampsia.So women while pregnant don't, just gain from lack of caring or eatong nonstop sometimes it happens beyond what can be controlled. But if you were lime anothwr poster suggested looking for a pat on the back due to your lack of weight gain ...I applaud you.

Ummm yeah.I am a healthy eater.Everything I buy is low fat or nonfat and whole grain. I do not eat fast food or overly processed foods I know how to portion my helpings and I will be 27 weeks pregnant tomorrow and have gained 30 pounds.Oh I also walk 2 to 3 miles several times a week,mow our yard and all other yard work,not to mention stay busy.So according to your 'theory' I shouldn't be gaining as much weight correct?Oh and if it matters I am 30.With my son at age 18 I was extremely active and gained 102 pounds due to swelling and water weight gain I had toxemia and pre eclampsia.So women while pregnant don't, just gain from lack of caring or eatong nonstop sometimes it happens beyond what can be controlled. But if you were lime anothwr poster suggested looking for a pat on the back due to your lack of weight gain ...I applaud you.

I went to the doctor's once when I started gaining weight. I told him
that I wanted him to test my thyroid and help me figure out why I was
gaining weight and not losing. He told me to go home and stop eating.
Calories in versus calories out. I was so pi$$ed at him for that. 7
years later, I finally got what he was saying. He was completely 100%
right.

So let me get this straight... your doctor told you to *stop* eating? Yeah, if that were me, I would find a doctor who didn't encourage me to starve myself. And please, let me reiterate once again, not every woman can control how much weight she gains during pregnancy. Get off your high horse and live in the real world.

I went to the doctor's once when I started gaining weight. I told him
that I wanted him to test my thyroid and help me figure out why I was
gaining weight and not losing. He told me to go home and stop eating.
Calories in versus calories out. I was so pi$$ed at him for that. 7
years later, I finally got what he was saying. He was completely 100%
right.

So let me get this straight... your doctor told you to *stop* eating? Yeah, if that were me, I would find a doctor who didn't encourage me to starve myself. And please, let me reiterate once again, not every woman can control how much weight she gains during pregnancy. Get off your high horse and live in the real world.

I'd bet to say your doc told you that because you showed zero signs of having a thyroid disease. This disease is throughout my family and there are obvious signs to both types of thyroid disease such as extreme hair loss, excessive sleeping, etc.

I'd bet to say your doc told you that because you showed zero signs of having a thyroid disease. This disease is throughout my family and there are obvious signs to both types of thyroid disease such as extreme hair loss, excessive sleeping, etc.

Oh dear. Where to start? Your post is crammed with gigantic sweeping generalisations. I think you've managed to insult young moms, older moms, anyone who put on more than 20lbs and anyone who even hinted that they wish they could lose their baby weight. Way to go.

More often than not, I have seen older moms gain less weight than younger moms.Sweeping generalisation based on what? A quick poll of all the pregnant women you have known where of course you knew their start and end weights?

My thought process is that younger moms with faster metabolisms are used to eating whatever they want and when pregnant buy into the whole "eating for two" theoryReally? So young moms 'buy into' this do they? How insulting.

pregnancy weight is completely controllableNot for every pregnant woman. Weight gain fluctuates greatly. Are you counting those on bed rest? With pregnancy related medical issues? multiple pregnacies? Or again just based on your personal experience and the fact that YOU managed to conrol your weight? Here's your medal.

Only about 20lbs is considered babyweight anyway,so anything over that is due to overeating.In your sanctimonious book maybe. What a horrible comment.

I presume none of your friends are allowed to comment about their weight gain as your response would be 'well its your own fault'.

You are clearly a troll as all of your last posts are of a similar pious theme. Please go away.

Oh dear. Where to start? Your post is crammed with gigantic sweeping generalisations. I think you've managed to insult young moms, older moms, anyone who put on more than 20lbs and anyone who even hinted that they wish they could lose their baby weight. Way to go.

More often than not, I have seen older moms gain less weight than younger moms.Sweeping generalisation based on what? A quick poll of all the pregnant women you have known where of course you knew their start and end weights?

My thought process is that younger moms with faster metabolisms are used to eating whatever they want and when pregnant buy into the whole "eating for two" theoryReally? So young moms 'buy into' this do they? How insulting.

pregnancy weight is completely controllableNot for every pregnant woman. Weight gain fluctuates greatly. Are you counting those on bed rest? With pregnancy related medical issues? multiple pregnacies? Or again just based on your personal experience and the fact that YOU managed to conrol your weight? Here's your medal.

Only about 20lbs is considered babyweight anyway,so anything over that is due to overeating.In your sanctimonious book maybe. What a horrible comment.

I presume none of your friends are allowed to comment about their weight gain as your response would be 'well its your own fault'.

You are clearly a troll as all of your last posts are of a similar pious theme. Please go away.

I am not looking for a pat on the back. I may have only gained 17lbs, but I started off the pregnancy about 15lbs overweight. I was adament that I not gain more than I could lose in a few weeks because I was fearful about not being able to lose the weight. My last trimester, my pregnancy made the decision for me because I threw up every single day due to the severe acid reflux. I wanted to eat. I couldn't eat. I would wake up from a sound sleep, throwing up stomache acid. Enough so, that I had to treat an esophageal ulcer for a year and a half. I am thankful for the 17lbs, as I walked out of the hospital in the clothes I wore before pregnancy. But, it was a horrible pregnancy which I wouldn't wish on anyone.

And I am assuming that if you gained 102 lbs due to water, that you lost 102 lbs very shortly after giving birth.

I am not looking for a pat on the back. I may have only gained 17lbs, but I started off the pregnancy about 15lbs overweight. I was adament that I not gain more than I could lose in a few weeks because I was fearful about not being able to lose the weight. My last trimester, my pregnancy made the decision for me because I threw up every single day due to the severe acid reflux. I wanted to eat. I couldn't eat. I would wake up from a sound sleep, throwing up stomache acid. Enough so, that I had to treat an esophageal ulcer for a year and a half. I am thankful for the 17lbs, as I walked out of the hospital in the clothes I wore before pregnancy. But, it was a horrible pregnancy which I wouldn't wish on anyone.

And I am assuming that if you gained 102 lbs due to water, that you lost 102 lbs very shortly after giving birth.

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