I've been crushing on this girl for quite a while now and I'm not sure if I should tell her I like her. The basics are: I'm a girl, she's an openly gay girl. We talk most days, but I usually start the conversation, so I get the impression she's not that into me. Maybe I'm just over thinking things? I really don't know what to do. I've been conflicted over this for a while now. Some days I feel like we really connect and she just might, deep down, maybe like me, then other days I get the impression I'm just a friend to hang out with here and there. It might sound silly, but should I ask her anonymously on Tumblr if she likes someone? Maybe then I could have a slight chance? (Side note: no gay haters please. I'm not mentally ill, I'm just a human with emotions)

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Definitely tell her. Just be as direct and honest as your courage will allow. If you find out that she likes “someone,” it will just leave you with more doubts. As someone who spent most my life clueless as to whether people are attracted to me, I can tell you she might already like you. She might be interested in other types of girls. She might have never thought about you in that context and you will have to explore the idea. The only thing that is certain is that if you never ask, you will never know.