Tag: child

It has its rewards; however, things can be overwhelming sometimes for a stay-at-home mom. Are you always doing things for others with little or no time left for yourself? Here are some ways to relax and de-stress:

Tell others when you feel overwhelmed. They may not like what you have to say, but it is better to express how you feel. You don’t want to hold your feelings in and lash out at a later time. Calmly express your feelings. It’s always nice to HEAR that you’re appreciated for all that you do.

Pamper yourself. Go get a massage, manicure, or pedicure. Go to the beauty salon. If you don’t want to go to the spa, there are things you can do at home. For instance, you can take a long bubble bath, light some scented candles, or give yourself a facial. When you look good, you feel good.

Exercise. Physical activity relieves stress and burns calories.

Take time to see friends. I typically get together with friends at least once a month for dinner or other activity. It gives us a chance to talk and catch up.

Accept those invites. If you get invited to a party or event, go if you don’t have other plans. It’s a privilege to be included.

Have daily quiet time. I either do it first thing in the morning or in the evening. Sometimes I do it twice daily. This is the time that I use to brainstorm, pray, write in my journal, and do meditation.

Have date nights. When you can get a babysitter, plan a night out for two. Dinner and a movie always work well. If you both enjoy sports, plan to go to a game.

Plan a getaway. Sometimes you just need a change in scenery. If you’re fortunate enough to a vacation each year, do it. There are so many beautiful places to see, within the U.S. as well as internationally. Life is shorter than you think.

Get a hobby. Find an activity that you’re passionate about. Your hobby could later become a source of income.

When your kids are in school, that gives you time to run errands and relax for a while. If your kids take naps, use that time to catch up on sleep. I rarely have the opportunity to sleep past 6:30am. I’m usually the first to get up most days. Even though I only have one child, he keeps me busy. I treasure our time together. He’s growing up.

Sometimes I wonder: How can one abuse a child? Little creatures that came into this world to make you happy, bring you joy, and be the sense of your life. The greatest happiness is when that little angel winds his little hands around your neck and screams that he loves you.

What on earth can make you do any harm to this angel??? Why are some people so cruel to those whom they gave this life? Why are there so many cases of child abuse in families?

It is a known fact that all children absorb all of the information given to them just like a sponge. Parents’ attitude towards them and their behavior are marked in their sub consciousness. From an early age, children experience different punishments; even for the little prank, they are beaten or shouted at. Psychologists will say that this is wrong, as the physical punishment is much more hazardous than emotional effect.

My parents never beat me; my father has always been and still is an example of dignity for me. The worst punishment of his to me, even now, is when he elevates his voice on me. It doesn’t happen that often, but it means he is really angry with me; there has never been any physical violence from his side. What I want to say is that instead of giving a spank to your child every time he does something in the wrong way, you need to tell him why he is wrong; give him a reason that he should not act in such a way again. It will work, and in the eyes of your child, you will remain a strict, but a loving and caring parent.

Child abuse is fairly prevalent in dysfunctional families, where the violence against children is quite a common thing nowadays. Parents often use this kind of punishment, as they think that children should be absolutely obedient to them, and this is a great mistake from their side. Corporal punishment of children leads to degradation of a child’s individuality. A child can understand that the spanking is something that goes without saying, and he does not have a feeling of guilt. It prevents the development of his full awareness of himself as individuality. The corporal punishments go from generation to generation, and it cannot be excluded that the child will treat his own children in the same way that his parents treated him. The child thinks that such a behavior is a right one and will take it for granted in the future.

Usually, child abuse takes place in families where parents just can’t bring their children up correctly. It is absurd to me when I see a mother shouting at her young child just because he has soiled his clothes or made some disorder in the room. It is a child! What did you expect from him? That he would go and clean after himself and wash the clothes? I am getting furious when young moms are happy to have any opportunity to punish her child.

I hope that in the future we will have a better situation with all of the child abuse cases, as these little angels are not guilty that they were born. You wanted a child? Then, please, do your best to make his childhood the best one and treat him as the gift from God that he really is.

Some of you may remember the blog post that I wrote in August entitled “How Someone Tried to Use My Son’s Disability to Get a Sale”. Well, this time, we had an issue with one of the technicians that works with my son during the week. There are two technicians that work with my son a total of 2 hours per day Monday through Friday. This particular tech was relatively new; she just started a month ago. After 2 weeks, she failed to show up for two sessions in a row because she felt overwhelmed and very stressed. (Yes, this is her reason for not showing up). I wasn’t too concerned at that time because we were going on vacation for 5 days.

I can understand that when you’re in college, there are times that you may feel stressed with classes, a part-time job, and your personal life. Still, you know what you sign up for when you accept a position…..especially one where you work with children with special needs. The final straw was this past Friday when she failed to show up at her scheduled time. I waited the standard 15 minutes before I called her…..I get her voice mail. After leaving a message, I called again after 15 more minutes…..no answer. Next, I called her supervisor to let her that she failed to show up for the scheduled session. Then, I get a text message from her claiming that she didn’t know about the session, which was later confirmed to be an untruth. After having a more in-depth conversation with her supervisor, we both agreed that it was best to remove her from the rotation. After all, she didn’t seem to be interested in the job.

I make sure that my son is the primarily focus of every teacher and health care provider when they come to our home. I stay informed, ask questions, and follow-up. If my son’s needs are not the focus, then that’s a problem. When you work with children, especially those with special needs, you should do it because you care about them. Don’t just do it because it looks good on a résumé or a college transcript. Maybe she thought that we would sympathize with her situation. Not when it comes to my kid. Get it to together or move on. There are plenty of serious-minded students that need jobs. Those are the ones that will be working with my son.