Infidelity

I agree entirely with Susan Brown, LCSW,
when she uses the following to discuss infidelity:

“Talk about a killer of trust and commitment
. . . here is the number one offender. My view on this deadly behavior is that this activity occurs as a result of the breakdown of the
relationship, rather than being the cause
of the breakdown. Do not mistake this as any kind of condoning of this behavior
on my part. No way. I simply want to point out that people who are content and
fulfilled within the marriage, virtually never look outside of it to fill
themselves up. Affairs are often used as a way to lick one's wounds, to escape
from the difficulties of the current relationship, to abandon the
responsibility we have to work on the troubles in our relationships straight-up,
rather than behind closed and secretive doors with someone else. Sorry folks,
it doesn't work that way.”

Relationships can heal from this most devastating of betrayals,but full responsibility,
remorse and true commitment to self-development must be the foundation for the
healing. You must be willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust
that's been lost. Nothing less will do. Many do not have the courage or
character to take this on. If you do, you have the chance to create an even
deeper, more meaningful relationship.