Sad, sad, sad...

Is anyone else feeling sad a lot of the time adjusting to being a new mother?? I just feel so alone sometimes and I miss my life before my baby was born. I love him SO (significant other) SO SO (significant other) much and I have days where everything seems great but I also get days where I cry and cry and cry and think I'm a bad mother for crying and feeling this way.

I guess I'm just confused about why I'm having these feelings when I wanted a baby for such a long time...

Comments (4)

amim511

Last edited 12/21/2010

i relate i don't think you should feel guilty 1. your hormones are still going crazy up to like a year after giving birth i think more if youre bfing 2 your life has changed . alot. i love my baby but i miss my pre baby life. any big life change brings stress which could come out as feeling sad just beware of post partum depression but i think some sadness even mourning your old life is normal. sending hugs your way it gets better.

It gets easier. What you're going through is normal and doesn't mean you love baby any less. You're just grieving life before baby. I did the same with IDS and even more after YDS in July. Change is really hard, even when it's change you really wanted. Just try to get rest, eat well, and have a little time for you when you can. I know it's hard when you have a new baby to do those things but it's worth it. Some days are easier than others. It took me several weeks to start to adjust. Allow yourself time. But also keep on top of your feelings. If you start to find you're down more often than not, talk to your doctor.

it is a hard change and the hormonal changes are tremendous. I had the hardest time after my first. Almost went in for PPD when it started clearing up. Plus I got my period at 5 weeks PP (previous poster) so that helped too. My hormones were everywhere and that is a powerful thing. PPD (postpartum depression) is a real medical condition not a sign of a bad mommy or a mommy that doesn't love her child. I had wanted to be a mommy for so long, married late and then had infertility. Yet the change was huge for me. I felt so isolated. I had a screaming child who got sick eaily and I could go out nowhere. I felt so isolated. I couldn't even talk on the phone he screamed so much or was needing to eat and hardly ever napped! LOL the second one was much easier even as a reflux baby with prematurity! SO (significant other) was the adjustment. I could actually do more iwth 2 than the first by himself. I cried alot the first 5 weeks, some days all day. Exhaustion also contributes alot. My doc says that's why they use it for torture! 3-4 hours a day of sleep and not in a row is ROUGH! ANd it plays tricks onyour mind and emotions. Just the recovery frm labor/csections creates a huge physical exhaustion. Posting on BBC (BabyCenter) really helped me alot and talking about it. I hope you are OK! It is a huge shift in life style and it doesnt' mean you are a bad mom or that you don't loveyou child more than life itself!

Oh yes and with my first After always working full time and being active in church or school I felt liek I was living off the grid when I was staying home. Like something could happen and noone would even know I was gone!

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