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Husband refuses vasectomy

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slyoun10 wrote:

My husband and I have 2 kids (mine from a previous marriage) and I just found out I am pregnant. My husband has been very stern that he does not want anymore children after this baby, which is fine with me but I wouldn't mind having more. So I brought up the discussion of a more permanent form of birth control once I deliver the baby and suggested he should get a vasectomy because #1 He's the one who doesn't want more kids and #2 the procedure is much simpler than me having a tubal ligation. He refused, and when I ask him why his only response is I don't want to. So I stated to him, you know I would be fine if I got pregnant again but you wouldn't so what would we do then? His response, "well you could have an abortion." I was livid! I couldn't believe a man I call my "husband" could say such a thing to me and be so selfish! It immediately started an argument and I honestly can't stand to even look at him right now. He feels it's no big deal for a married couple to use abortion as a form of bc, and that I am overreacting. I don't even know how I feel about him right now. I couldn't wait to leave the house and get away from him! I don't see him in the same light anymore. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

I agree with the comment above. Tell him fine then we won't risk it because I don't want to terminate a pregnancy that I would be more than happy to keep. My SO refused the same thing but I want another baby so I said fine lol then I'm getting another baby.

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