(Closed) Do you ever get scared noone will come to your wedding events?

So I just got the nicest pretty card from my Maid of Honor. She had planned a whole weekend of activities including bridal shower, bachelorette party and random relaxing stuff next month. So after getting all excited and touched about it, I suddenly start thinking that noone would go to my events. I had given her a list of 25 and if I am lucky I think 10 will come since 50% of the list of Out of Town. Or even less. So it would be an entire weekend of hanging out with my BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor, and I know they like me but they like me that much to hang out with me 48 hours in a row?

Just irrational fear that I’m going to show up and there will be noone but my bridesmaids.

Then I start thinking..what if you plan that wedding and noone shows up to your wedding.

I’m scared about this too. My # one venue choice has 3 rooms that will fit our guest list as it stands right now (we’re at around 200) But 2 of the rooms require a 180 person minimum (250 max) and the other has a 160 minimum (200 max). I’m worried that if we were to pick even the smaller room and invite 200 people that fewer than 160 will attend, or if we go with the bigger room, even if we find an extra 50 people to invite (which won’t be hard, I’ll just invite some extra cousins and what not, I have a large family) for the larger room that we won’t even have 180 people. But I would hate to go with an even smaller room with a 120 min-160 max, inviting 200 only expecting 160 or fewer people to attend and have close to a 100% acceptance rate and not have enough room.

I’m terrified that I’m going to end up with a shower for 4 people – Me, my mom, my Maid/Matron of Honor and her mom (aka my aunt)…it’s likely irrational, but I’m so scared. Plus, showers are ALWAYS a surprise in my family, so I won’t even really have any clue until the day of…

I’m not friends with a lot of girls, so I constantly think I won’t have a bridal shower. It would be a handful of family members. I DO think we would go outside of traditional and have a wedding shower with men involved as well, but who knows.

Yes I don’t have too many female friends so I am a little worried that hardly no one will show up at my bridal shower. As far as my bachelorette/b-day party, it’s just going to be me and the BMs going out of town, eating at the cheesecake factory and just goin clubbing later that night. Something simple.

I have this fear every minute of everyday. 🙁 I got a few rsvp no’s and a week after the rsvp date 22 are still missing so I fear they are all no’s who didnt want to hurt my feelings. I am so sad I feel like I wasted a ton of time, money and effort for a small family gathering.

This happened to my step father’s sister. She had about 50 RSVP for her bridal shower and only I think 12 showed up. I heard she has been a little stuck up since she graduated last year and started making a lot of money. I don’t know if they RSVP yes and didn’t show to knock her down a few notches or what. They didn’t even call the day off to say they weren’t coming. I think even the people in her bridal party didn’t show. She was crying like a baby.

I’m not have any showers because all my Bridesmaid or Best Man are out of town and I don’t have anyone else to invite. As for my wedding so far the guest list is about 150 and I’m hoping at least between 115-125 shows.

The thought of throwing parties that involve more than a handful of people always freaks me out. Probably stems from old bday parties I had in elementary school where I would always invite the cool kids and they would never come. It’s irrational at this point but it does make me really nervous.

The wedding’s even more nerve wracking. I keep telling all the vendors “around 100, about 100.” The cakes made for 100, and my reception venue will charge me an additional fee if I drop below a certain number. I sat down the other day and crunched the numbers… There will be like 98 people IF everyone comes AND if everyone brings a guest. When I went back through and started crossing off people I think are going to reply no, and the people I think will show up as singles? We’re talking in the 80’s range now. But I’m not planning on 80! I’m planning on around 100! ARGH! 🙁

Haha I didn’t worry about this, but my Maid/Matron of Honor sure did! I think she was up nights worrying that not enough people would come to my bachelorette party, because it was Mother’s Day weekend and a lot of people had plans. She was afraid that if not enough people showed up, I would look upon her with hatred and disgust. Haha crazy girl. We had a blast, even with the smaller guest list!

Im worried about it as well. I have two really good friends here and that is all, the rest are all Out of Town. So in order to not worry about it. Instead of showers since Im a second time bride. My Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man are going to do a weekend at a spa. We can bond and do girl stuff and they are the two most important people in my circle of friends. We are military so we move alot so its hard to hang on to friends that are always close by.

I’m worried about this too! I don’t have too many close friends, and I’m very much an introvert and an independent person, but I think maybe the 6 other people I’m thinking of would have a fun night out.