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Stressed out and started smoking cigs

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Elexisk17 wrote:

a lots been going on lately in my life and I don't want to get into but I've been really stressed and under depression I know ima get bashed but I deserve it I've been bashing myself also but I been smoking cigs to keep me calm and it's crazy because in my first trimester I couldn't stand them but now it's like I relapsed I love my baby I don't want my baby unhealthy or to end up losing my baby I really need advice it's heavy on my heart because I know I shouldn't put my baby threw this I can understand bashing I just want to know whoelse dealt or is dealing with this and some words that'll motivate me to stop

you most likely didn't lose it due to smoking. I live in Spain and European women smoke all through pregnancy (still not safe tho!) and drink wine with meals daily. You may not be showing because you're not far enough along and showing all depends on your body type honestly. My 1st piece of advice is super controversial so don't freak out on me or anything but smoking weed actually help me quit cigarettes and it's way healthier for the baby. it only took a few weeks for cigs to gross me out again and then I stopped the weed when I got my stress under control. another thing that may help is if you have a partner or even a really good friend, talk to them about what's stressing you out. sometimes we just need to let everything out (sometimes even cry) to get us back on track. your doctor can also help you kick the habit, and if they're a good doctor they won't judge you or make you feel like crap. many pregnant women get a depression (I don't remember the exact name) that's like postpartum but it's while you're still pregnant. I would look into it or talk to your doctor and see if that's a possibility and what you can do to help yourself. don't stress yourself out more over this because it'll only make things worse

I am definately against smoking while pregnant.. but back in the olden days women used to smoke while pregnant! they even used to smoke in hospitals :O but hopefully you can resist the urge and continue a healthier pregnancy.. good luck

To warn you hun, people will freak out an bash you about this topic. I know you know that cause you mentioned it but, Im not here to bash you :) I understand your under alot of stress an i know its hard my advice is to quit asap cause it will be healthier for your baby an yourself which you know that! im sure your baby is fine! try doing an activity or talking to someone that your close with about what your going through it really helps (: i wish you luck an I will keep you in my prayers okay? try to relax put on a movie to make you laugh, got get your nails done, or go get yourself something sweet to eat that you love..whenever i was down in the dumps that helped me lol stay strong girl!!! if its really hard for you to quit then have a support buddy to help you not buy cigs an smoke. i hope i helped (: take it easy an relax momma !

No judgement but I hope you take what I say to heart. Smoking any kind of substance whether it be tobacco or marijuana even water vapor can be harmful for the baby. Marijuana has some benefits but not for the baby. Drinking any kind of alcohol is not good. Yeah you might be able to get away with drinking maybe a glass of wine here and there but it's not worth the risk when you have a little life that depends on you. Being under stress is also harmful for the baby because that same hormone that is released when stressed is released into the baby's bloodstream as well. *** if you are stressed go talk to someone you trust or hell go masterbate or have sex. These things will help relieve your stress but also won't be harmful for your baby.

First, I would say don't even post this kind of stuff on here. I've seen similar threads and people can be HARSHHHHHH. With that said, I would ask your doctor! I know there are patches and gum that I'm sure are better for baby than actually smoking, but i'm not sure of other ingredients in it. You should also try to just get control of your stress in healthier ways in general! It may sound dumb to some people, but yoga and meditation are great ways to gain control of your stress levels. Even going for walks/light exercising may help. Also look into essential oils and aromatherapy, they work wonders on some mommies :) hope you figure it all out soon!

Two huge reasons smoking helps calm people down is because 1) you walk away from a stressful situation to spend time for yourself and 2) you are breathing deeply. So next time you feel stressed, do exactly the same thing you would, just without the cigarette. Go outside and close your eyes and breathe for five minutes.

Hun don't beat yourself up. Do your best for the baby and think about your baby's future. You can do this I promise. I know quitting is hard especially in stressful times but this is a precious life you are going to be giving birth to and you want the best for the baby. Talk to your doctor or a therapist maybe? Keep your head up you can do it!

thanks for those who didn't bash me I let it go and talked to my doctors she put me on zoloft and the patch but I decided to not even use it or take the meds it was my partner that had me so deep and hurt seeing we've been together four years and now with our first child that he wanted he decided to tell me he's not happy and I stress him out he's even been on dating apps.. I'm hurt but I just put my pride aside and decided too be strong for my baby because I know my baby will never hurt me and will always be here to hand me my crown when it falls so I'm maturing and being stronger day by day but I appreciate all the good words and lifting from all the wonderful moms on here

I am actually going through a similar situation. When i found out i was pregnant i quit right away (it was easy because i had morning sickness so mad it made me nauseous to smoke) then my second trimester hit. I am a couple weeks away from my third trimester and the urges for cigarettes have been crazy. I actually started smoking again. May i ask how many you smoke a day? I have limited myself to one cigarette a day but i put it out and relight it so i dont end up smoking even more. The stress and depression right now is killing me and not smoking makes it worse. My sister in law is also smoking while she is pregnant because she is having a hard time giving it up. If you need someone to talk to about this im here , if you have any social media. I understand where you're coming from. Just limit yourself when you smoke. I have also found if i do something while i am smoking i can distract myself so i take less drags off if the cig but i still feel like i smoked one. Hope this helps. Stay strong momma :)

I've been smoking for ten years and 30 weeks pregnant. I just recently quit the those last few 5 days ago. It took me this long to be ready to quit those last few. It's hard but you can do it! Get patches and the mints!

Im not gonna bash you. But people can be self righteous and *** and I've seen them go to town on people in these threads. I'm 10000% against smoking cigarettes while pregnant but I understand the urge. Truth be told not drinking is proving to be harder than I thought. but the only alternative I would suggest is vaping at a zero tobacco level. I'm no expert but I would think it's better than cigarettes.

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