'Abusive people' are all individuals with their own history/consciousness and are probably externalising things rather than what I do which is internalise everything...

And it's up to the individual to see whether they want to change their behaviour. Just like any kind of self inflicted harm- some people feel safety sticking to a behaviour, some people want to change- it depends if that individual wants change, if not, then that person is gonna have fucked relationships for the rest of their life and go about externalising things/using people as objects and not being in touch with their feelings because it scares them so much.

And the fact you're asking the question, I 'm not sure if you're referring to yourself, but I want to let you know, there are so many people who will not ever think their behaviour is 'abusive' because it's so 'normal' and they get away with fucking murder with what privileges they have in society or by manipulation until people start exposing what they've done. So if you're asking 'am i an abusive person' that I think, is a sign of honesty and insight.

I've asked that question so many times and worried about it, because I internalised my father and thought I was an awful person. Shows how what chronic abuse can do to someone on the receiving end. I became 'an abuser' by default and was dying through my ED because I thought I was a horrible person..

'Abusive people' are all individuals with their own history/consciousness and are probably externalising things rather than what I do which is internalise everything...

And it's up to the individual to see whether they want to change their behaviour. Just like any kind of self inflicted harm- some people feel safety sticking to a behaviour, some people want to change- it depends if that individual wants change, if not, then that person is gonna have fucked relationships for the rest of their life and go about externalising things/using people as objects and not being in touch with their feelings because it scares them so much.

And the fact you're asking the question, I 'm not sure if you're referring to yourself, but I want to let you know, there are so many people who will not ever think their behaviour is 'abusive' because it's so 'normal' and they get away with fucking murder with what privileges they have in society or by manipulation until people start exposing what they've done. So if you're asking 'am i an abusive person' that I think, is a sign of honesty and insight.

I've asked that question so many times and worried about it, because I internalised my father and thought I was an awful person. Shows how what chronic abuse can do to someone on the receiving end. I became 'an abuser' by default and was dying through my ED because I thought I was a horrible person..