AS MANY PEOPLE LEARN AT THIS TIME OF YEAR....TURNING OVER A NEW LEAF CAN BE EASIER SAID THAN DONE. OUR GUEST RECOMMENDS THE RIGHT WORDS TO FIX THE WRONG IDEAS THAT TEND FILL OUR HEADS. LET'S WELCOME BACK CRAIG METCALF. IT SOUNDS LIKE MANY PEOPLE ARE MOTIVATED BY NEGATIVE THOUGHTS. STOP SAYING "I'M SUCH A FAILURE." TELLING YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE A FAILURE WILL RESULT IN YOU BELIEVING THIS AND CAUSING YOU TO FAIL WHEN YOU MAY HAVE ACTUALLY HAD A CHANCE OF SUCCESS. MAYBE YOU HAVEN'T NECESSARILY SUCCEEDED AT EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE, BUT THAT DOESN'T MAKE YOU A COMPLETE FAILURE. SO TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN DO IT AND THEN BELIEVE IT! YOU WILL BE SURPRISED AT YOUR RATE OF SUCCESS WHEN YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. YOU BELIEVING THIS AND CAUSING YOU TO FAIL WHEN YOU MAY HAVE ACTUALLY HAD A CHANCE OF SUCCESS. MAYBE YOU HAVEN'T NECESSARILY SUCCEEDED AT EVERYTHING IN YOUR LIFE, BUT THAT DOESN'T MAKE YOU A COMPLETE FAILURE. SO TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN DO IT AND THEN BELIEVE IT! YOU WILL BE SURPRISED AT YOUR RATE OF SUCCESS WHEN YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. DON'T SAY "I'LL NEVER MAKE IT." ADMITTING DEFEAT BEFORE THE FINISH LINE GUARANTEES YOU WON'T MAKE IT. THIS IS ONE OF THE NEGATIVE THINGS YOU SHOULD STOP SAYING! TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN DO IT AND YOU WILL MAKE IT! THE MORE YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, THE MORE YOU WILL ACCOMPLISH. AND IT WILL FEEL SO GOOD IN THE END! AVOID SAYING "LOOK HOW FAT I AM." ONE OF THE NEGATIVE THINGS YOU SHOULD STOP SAYING CENTERS AROUND YOUR WEIGHT. MANY TIMES, WOMEN PERCEIVE THEMSELVES TO BE FATTER THAN THEY REALLY ARE. DON'T DWELL ON IT! INSTEAD, MAKE HEALTHY EATING CHOICES AND GET ACTIVE. MEN ARE MORE ATTRACTED TO CONFIDENT GIRLS WHO FEEL COMFORTABLE IN THEIR OWN SKIN SO STOP SAYING HOW FAT YOU ARE AND INSTEAD MENTION THE PROGRESS THAT YOU'VE MADE TOWARD YOUR IDEAL WEIGHT GOAL! STOP SAYING "IT'S TOO STRESSFUL TO HANDLE." EVEN WHEN THINGS MAY BE STRESSFUL, BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN'T HANDLE IT. TELLING YOURSELF IT'S TOO STRESSFUL TO HANDLE IS ONE OF THE NEGATIVE THINGS YOU SHOULD STOP SAYING. INSTEAD, TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE FEELING CHALLENGED, BUT YOU WILL FIND A WAY OUT OF IT. THIS WAY YOU ARE ADMITTING THAT IT'S OVERWHELMING, BUT YOU AREN'T GIVING UP! AVOID SAYING "YOU NEVER......" WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF IN THE MIDDLE OF A DISAGREEMENT WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE, REFRAIN FROM STARTING SENTENCES WITH THESE TWO ACCUSING WORDS. THAT'S A SOMETHING NEGATIVE YOU SHOULD STOP SAYING! WHEN YOU POINT FINGERS AT SOMEONE, THEY ARE MORE LIKELY TO GET DEFENSIVE. INSTEAD OF SAYING "YOU NEVER TAKE OUT THE TRASH WHEN I ASK YOU TO," SAY "I FEEL LIKE YOU DON'T CARE TO HELP ME OUT WITH THE CHORES." THIS PUTS THE ACCUSATORY LIGHT COMPLETELY IN THE MIDDLE OF YOU BOTH INSTEAD OF RIGHT ON ONE OF YOU. CRAIG METCALF'S MEDITATION WORKSHOP CALLED "BALANCING OUR LIVES WITH MINDFULNESS: A NEW YOU FOR A NEW YEAR" TAKES PLACE ONE WEEK FROM TODAY...ON JANUARY 18TH AT 2PM...AT THE SPORTSCLUB FIVE FORKS LOCATION. MAIN WX HERE

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