I have been married for 20 years. When I first married my wife, she seemed to know exactly what to do to get me turned on. We had a great sex life, and I didn't need anything else. Over time however, the sex has dropped way off, and my wife doesn't even seem interested in sexual contact. Whether she is interested or not, I wonder if she realizes what happens to a man if he doesn't get sex? Men tend to go a little crazy if they don't get sex, and after its been long enough, they start looking elsewhere for satisfaction. I think this may be why middle aged men start looking at younger women during their "crisis" time. It is quite possible to love your wife deerly, but look for sexual gratification from someone else. I realize that this is looked down upon in our society, but people have affairs every day. I wonder if women understand what their man needs and more importantly, if they are willing to give it to him. Are women to in to playing head games and producing drama to recognize that their man is needing sex? Is it really so wrong to seek satisfaction from another woman if your wife isn't willing to engage in sex with you? I understand all of the moral objections to doing so, but that doesn't solve the problem. Perhaps people who are involved in swinging have it right. If you have several sex partners, maybe it would keep it more interesting between a man and his wife. Whatever the solution, cutting your man off from sex is probably the stupidest thing a woman could do. Perhaps women should get with it, and provide a little relief for their man. Either that, or bring in some other women to satisfy their man's sexual needs. Who knows? Maybe it would be fun.