Perhaps the one venue that
frightens many newcomers to couples dating is a swing club. Whether you are on
a website, or you choose to visit a swingers’ establishment to seek a match,
swingers clubs are a surprisingly pressure-free atmosphere to do so. The
following tips will help ease your mind when going to a swinger’s event for the
first time.

1) Try Not to Set Too Many
Expectations

If you choose to scout out a
swingers club for the first time, have a general idea in mind of what you would
like to accomplish beforehand. However, don’t be too disappointed if your
aspirations aren’t met. The best goal is to go in with few expectations except
for having a great time with your partner. Then, you’re guaranteed to meet your
own goals. Anything else that may happen can be considered as a bonus. Also,
don’t be fooled by illusions of grandeur that every member in the club will look
like a Perfect 10. Most clubbers are just your average everyday folk there to
let loose. You might find a handful of very attractive people, but it probably
won’t be the majority.

2) Don’t Allow Your
Imagination to Set the Scene Before You Enter

Many people who have not
been to a couples club have misconceptions. They often envision walking in to a
scene straight from Roman times, expecting people to grab them and pull them
into the action. Swingers clubs, when you enter, look surprisingly like regular
nightclubs.

You'll witness drinking,
dancing, conversation and flirting. The attire can range from regular nightclub
clothes to something extremely risqué. The only difference here is that if a
lady wants to get naked on the dance floor, she usually can. If it's a more
liberal club, you may occasionally see some light adult play as the night
progresses. As for the hardcore, this usually takes place in special rooms away
from the main area for members who choose to play on premise. There are usually
private rooms and public rooms. If you want to explore on-premise swinging a
little more, you can watch in a public room, or go have your own fun in a
private room.

3) Look Forward to a
Friendly Atmosphere

You’ll feel quite welcomed
and comfortable as soon as you enter, and most clubs will give a friendly tour
of the grounds. Feel free to ask your host any questions that come to mind, no
matter how silly you think that question may be. Once you find a comfortable
spot in the club, you may find that others will approach you for conversation,
drink sharing or even dance requests. You are always welcome to decline, but
you may find that engaging in the friendly approaches help to ease your
first-time jitters. Remember, you are never obligated to do anything that you
do not want to.

4) Etiquette is Expected

Swingers clubs aren't like
regular night clubs because people tend to be much more polite, unlike regular
clubs, which tend to meat-markets. The unsaid rule of a swing club is that you
must ask first, ‘no’ means no, and that the ladies normally control the
action. This is almost always respected and you’ll be hard-pressed to find
anyone who steps over this line. Couples dating follows many of the same rules
that regular dating does. Just because this is a venue for adult exploration
does not mean that others will be disrespectful and assume that you are ‘fair
game’ for anything.