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Is your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo to create a strong marriage so you can have mind blowing intimacy inside and outside the bedroom.
Marriage is not always easy but it's so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!

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Clean454: DEALING WITH THE IN-LAWS

Your in-laws can create a dynamic especially around the holidays leaving you frustrated with the impact they have on your marriage. | "No one should come between you and your spouse. They should come alongside you but not between you." —Ashley McIlwai

Learn about how fear can cripple your marriage and what you can do to recapture your joy and confidence to live the extraordinary marriage you desire. | "When we invite fear, doubt or worry to occupy seats in the boardroom of our heart, all kinds of...

Learn the challenge of having both the quantity AND quality sex life your desire and what you can do to begin changing both of those. | "Quality is never the result of an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort." —John Ruskin

Learn the many different bodily functions that regularly occur in your body as well as those that happen with your spouse. | "Never trust a girl who doesn’t fart, you don’t know what else she’s holding back from you." — Anonymous

Your words have power. The power to build up or the power to destroy. What you say and how you say it has the power to build up or tear down your marriage. | "Words are free, it’s how you use them that may cost you." —Anonymous

Learn the impact of morning sex on your marriage and how it can become a valuable resource in your relationship. | "Every morning starts a new page in your story. Make it a great one today." —Anonymous

We didn’t know that in order to go to the next level there was something very important that we need to do and that was to ask for help. | "When I first met you I honestly didn’t know how important you were going to be to me." —Anonymous

Learn the honest truth about the female orgasm and how the two of you can discuss this topic as well as experience joy in this area. | "It takes 237 muscles to fake an orgasm, but only 15 to say, "It's called a clitoris and it's right here.""

It doesn’t matter how old you are you can still enjoy sex! Learn how you and your spouse can have an amazing sex life well into your later years of life. | "You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get OLD." —George Burns

Feedback is not a bad thing...it’s all about how it’s delivered. Learn how the two of you handle critical feedback in your marriage. | "Giving honest and well intended feedback is often confused with being mean. It’s not mean. It’s nice."...

Learn what you can do to make foreplay a time when you are both heigtening the sexual arousal and the desire for sexual activity. | "Don’t rush through foreplay. Play with each other until you can’t take it anymore." —Anonymous

Learn about the dangers of serving up the leftovers to your spouse over and over again and how to turn this around in your marriage. | "Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the remains of the day. The leftover time after every other...

Learn what happens to the two of you when you choose to do the opposite of what you feel like doing in difficult situations. | "In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." —Dalai Lama

Manscaping is the removal or trimming of hair on a man's body for cosmetic effect. Learn the impact that it can have on you and your marriage. | "I think grooming is undervalued by men. We expect women to be fully groomed which they do. But I also...

Learn about the possibilities of having sex while she’s on her period, how the two of you navigate that conversation and what factors you might need to consider. | "Do not be too timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an...

Learn the dynamic that occurs in a marriage when a wife refers to her husband as a child and what the two of you can do to change that. | "Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." —Strachan Hurd

Marriage is an adventure and it’s one of the most amazing journeys the two of you will ever be on. Learn the marriage lessons from time spent at the beach. | "Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure." —Anonymous

Learn about the impact rejection has on a spouse’s willingness to initiate again and what the two of you can do to turn this around. | "Being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right." —Anonymous

You have the power to create new habits around your sex life, with conversations or with anything you do in your marriage. | "A bad habit never disappears miraculously. It’s an un-do-it-yourself project." —Abigail Van Buren (Dear Abby)

Learn what to do in your marriage when one of you is not sexually satisfied. It's important to have a healthy understanding of yourself and earnest pursuit of pleasing your spouse as you grow together. | "It’s hard to be satisfied with your...

Learn how to keep your summer lovin’ going through those hot nights, vacations, kiddos running around the house and all that comes during this season. | "There is always that one summer that changes you." —Anonymous

Learn how to break away from sabotaging your marriage with a question such as “Does this outfit make me look fat?” | "Never, ever underestimate the power of your words to build up or tear down the fabric of your marriage." —Anonymous

Learn the impact that having a baby can have on a marriage and how the two of you can maintain intimacy, in all areas after the baby comes. | "Remember that children, marriages and gardens reflect the kind of care they get." —H Jackson Brown Jr.

Learn how and why a man’s penis becomes firmer, engorged and enlarged, or better known as an erection. | "The pursuit of knowledge is never ending. The day you stop seeking knowledge is the day you stop growing." —Travis Ciaccio

Learn about the challenges of living paycheck to paycheck and it’s impact on your marriage, especially in the bedroom. | "Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Anonymous

Learn how the intimacy lifestyle can become a part of your marriage and we'll answer your questions on how to best set it up. | "The capacity to learn is a gift. The ability to learn is a skill. The willingness to learn is a choice." —Brian Herbert

Learn about the harm that comes from lying about porn and how to handle the gift of truth when it’s brought into the light. | "The truth may hurt for a little while but a lie hurts forever." —Anonymous

Learn how you can develop the confidence muscle if you are willing to stretch yourself and when you do you'll increase your confidence in the bedroom. | "Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it." —Anonymous

There are many couples that have trouble talking. Learn what to do when the two of you have trouble talking in your marriage. | "Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. Talk about...

There are times when you can be so focused on other people’s lives that you have stopped living your own. Learn the destructive nature of comparison and how you can refocus on your marriage. | "Every minute you spend wishing you had someone else’s..

Learn about the challenges you face with your communication when words are not crystal clear and share seven words that will help you clear up the confusion. | "Clarity comes from action, not thought." —Marie Forleo

Learn what can happen when you take off your clothes as you step into the power of a long hot shower to create a connection in your marriage. | "Let’s go take a hot shower. It’s like a normal shower but with us in it." —Anonymous

Learn how your sexploration, choosing to explore your sexual intimacy as a couple, impacts both of you as well as your relationship dynamics. | "We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the...

Learn what happens when you feel like areas of your marriage are a broken record, playing the same negative scenes over and over again and what you can do to start to create change. | "You can’t change what’s going on around you until you change...

It’s time to change how you view forgiveness. Learn about the destructive nature of unforgiveness and what happens when you let forgiveness into your heart. | "When you hold onto anger and unforgiveness you can’t move forward." —Mary J Blige

Learn about making time for the two of you as a couple, why you need to do this and where you can find those precious moments. | "The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you are giving your time you are giving a portion...

If you want to create an extraordinary marriage, it starts with one question and only one question...What Can I Do. | "It’s easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all." —Anonymous

Learn about transitioning from one season to another and how you can make the next season the best ever in your marriage. | "There will come a time when you think everything is finished. That will be the beginning." —Louis L’Amour

Learn what happens when you are faking your happiness during the holidays, in social situations and with your spouse in the bedroom. | "Saying you’re happy isn’t the same thing as being happy." —Anonymous

Learn what comes after you complete the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and how you can continue to grow and strengthen the physical intimacy in your marriage. | "I didn’t come this far to only come this far." —Anonymous

Learn about the impact being thankful has on your marriage and how you can increase your gratitude awareness any time of the year. | "When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around." —Willie Nelson

Learn about those special marriage hacks that you can do to make this the most amazing holidays you will celebrate with your spouse. | "It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way that you carry it. " —Lou Holtz

Learn about the impact you have on yourself and your spouse when you moan and verbalize your pleasure during sexual intimacy. | "There’s nothing more exciting than hearing your spouse moan in pleasure and knowing you are responsible for it."...

Over the last 399 shows you have meant a lot to the ONE Family. And this show is all about you as we share hugs from near and far! | “Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” —Nelson Mandela

The slippery slope of having a work spouse is real. Learn what you need to do to put guardrails around yourself and marriage to protect yourself. | "Most people involved in emotional affairs will downplay the seriousness of the event by claiming that...

Thanksgiving and Christmas are almost here. Learn what you can do to get on the same page with your financial intimacy as the holidays approach. | "Planning for Thanksgiving and Christmas should take place months in advance. They are not a surprise."...

Learn what to do with those feelings you have when you are rejected or when you reject your spouse and what you can do to create change in your marriage. | "Rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means the other person failed to...

You spoke your vows on your wedding now now learn what you can do to honor those words you spoke through tough times and good times. | "You come to love not by finding the perfect person BUT by learning to love an imperfect person perfectly." —Sam Kee

A woman's period happens every month. Learn how you can stay connected physically and emotionally when it’s that time of the month in your home. | "A great marriage is made of two people who continuously put their vows ahead of their feelings."...

The truth is that we spend so much time being exhausted that often we don’t even realize that it’s impacting our marriages. | Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It’s not meant to be how you live your life....

Learn how the vibrator might be a crutch for your sexual intimacy and what it might look like to consider a different path. | "Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great." —John D. Rockefeller

If you find yourself in a place where you can’t do anything right OR thinking that your spouse can’t do anything right your marriage has a big problem. | "Why can’t my spouse see just how much I am trying." —Anonymous

The two of you can handle the storms in your marriage while becoming united in your commitment to one another like never before. | Relax. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living and learning. Forgive yourself and grow from the...

Learn what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. | It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday. —Anonymous | Subscribe to the show today!

Learn the different ways to let your spouse know what you like about your sexual intimacy in the bedroom. It's worth every word. | We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. —Bill Gates

Learn what you can do to be sensual and how you can share these ideas with your spouse. | Being sensual in your marriage doesn’t end on the honeymoon, your marriage needs all 5 senses working throughout.

Learn the responsibility and impact a father has to give sound advice to his children on living a marriage for years to come. | Son, don’t cheat. I’ve had plenty of opportunities over the years but it’s like this...why would I go out for a...

Learn how your commitment to marriage is the ultimate marathon with an unknown finish line. | Your marriage vows say for as long as life shall last NOT until you get tired or you don’t want to anymore.

If you take everything personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you. —Vivian Benson | Learn what happens when you are offended and how to work through offense with your...

Each generation will reap what the former generation has sown. —Chinese Proverb | Learn how to break free of those negative parenting behaviors that have held you back from having the extraordinary marriage you desire.

"Honor the space between no longer and not yet." —Nancy Levin - When you are married, transitions don’t only affect you, they also affect your spouse. - Transitions can impact the different intimacies in your marriage. -

"Never stop showing someone how much they mean to you." - Over time you have lost the anticipation and excitement of your relationship. - Your marriage has become something you have to tolerate, something you have to survive or make it throu...

"Never be afraid to try something new BECAUSE life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know." - The first sex challenge we completed happened 9 years ago in the fall of 2008. -

"She's not nagging. She's trying to tell you something. The only reason she's being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares." -

"Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." —Arnold Glasgow - For the most part your day-to-day activities are ruled by your calendars, by schedules, and by alerts popping up on your phone. -

"Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness rather it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to let others into your world." —Anonymous - As a couple you may be stuck. - You may be stuck in the same routines. -

"Men who trust other men will make fewer mistakes than he who distrusts them." —Camillo de Cavour - When you think about your friendships as a kid and as an adult a few things stand out and the research is supporting this. -

"We don’t grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges." —Anonymous - You want to last longer and yet most of the time you ejaculate quicker than you'd like. - When you orgasm within 1-3 minutes of penetration this is general c...

"When you can’t talk about your sex life there’s a connection that the two of you are missing out on." —Anonymous - The world that you live in is hypersexualized and yet couples struggle with talking about their sex life with each other. -

"The moment when he rolls over, puts his arm around me and pulls me closer, in his sleep. I like that." —Country Thang - Many marriages are suffering from some lack of connection. - Often it’s due to our busy schedules and the commitments t...

"Sex solves most problems including headaches." —Anonymous - You have a crazy headache, while on vacation, with plans to have sex, on the only night you have away from your kids. - You take a nice nap to see if that would take care of it an...

"In life it’s not where you go, it’s who you travel with.” —Charlie Schultz - There are times when your vacations don’t always go as planned. - You have your expectations for everything. From how relaxing it’s going to be to how often the

"Let’s cuddle so that I can steal your body heat.” —Anonymous - There are different reasons and times of the year when your bedroom is cold. - It could be winter time, the air conditioning is on to beat the summer heat or your bedroom is in ...

"Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” —Anonymous - Spiritual intimacy has a huge impact on you and your marriage. -

"Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Dave Ramsey - You have probably heard the quote, "You should never talk about money, politics or religion." - Now,

"So many people hear the words physical intimacy and think about sex. There are so many layers to being physically intimate with your spouse, choosing just one aspect shortchanges both of you." —Anonymous -

"Think as BIG as you possibly can and base what you do, how you do it and who you do it with on succeeding at that level." —Gary Keller & Jay Papasan - If the two of you don’t have a vision for 2017, it’s going to look a lot like 2016. -

"Traditions remind us to stop the busy cycle of life long enough to reconnect and build bonds." —Sabrina Beasley McDonald - It’s important for the two of you to have your own night before Christmas or Christmas Day traditions. -

"Right NOW is the most important moment in your life." —Gail Lynne Goodwin - Another day comes to an end and you and your spouse are tired. - Earlier in the day you both were romancing each other and had every intention to enjoy one another....

"Sometimes all you do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears and pretend everything is OK." —Anonymous - The holiday season is a busy time of year. - You are are pulled in many directions and feel overwhelmed with the responsibi...

"What do brushing your teeth, taking a shower and making time to shave all have in common? They all improve your chances in the bedroom." —Alisa DiLorenzo - Interestingly enough we have never tackled the topic of personal hygiene,

"Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other." —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It's a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love.

"If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex." —Anonymous - When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. -

"Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say." —Anonymous - When you lie to your spouse it's a cancer that multiplies over time. - The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. -

"Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is." —Linda Poindexter - It's been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. - You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a...

"Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti - Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door?

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw - When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be ...

Clean343: WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW IN THE BEDROOM CAN HURT YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE

"Knowing is not enough we must apply. Willing is not enough we must do." —J W Von Goethe - When you don’t know what works in the bedroom (or what doesn’t) you may be paralyzed wondering... Does my spouse like this?

Clean342: WHY KNOWING HER MENSTRUAL CYCLE IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR SEX LIFE

"In all things there is a law of cycles." —Tacitus (Roman Historian) - It is absolutely critical that you understand the female menstrual cycle for your sex life and for your marriage. - A woman’s body is absolutely amazing and it’s hard wir...

"Marriage doesn’t have the power to bind-only the actions of two people can do that. Forever and happy endings aren’t a given." —Leah Mercer - You can make changes to your marriage no matter how long you've been married. -

"When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world [and your marriage] with completely fresh eyes." —Barbara Sher - Your marriages may be experiencing some struggles due to the fact that you are loving each other wi.

"Never judge someone on their past because they are no longer in that stage of life." —Alisa DiLorenzo - Sex before marriage can be a roadblock to deep sexual intimacy. - If you had sex before marriage you may have feelings of guilt,

You've been sharing with your wife that she is beautiful to you inside and out. You see her as this amazing, incredible gift from God. - A gift that honestly you cannot wait to unwrap. - You want her to realize that it's not a sin to acknowle...

"I want a boring sex life, said no one ever." —Alisa DiLorenzo - What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you've been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? - Many couples are experiencing a sex life that ha...

It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. - Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”? - That piece is talking about the two of you. - The two of,

Your wife does not want to be your mother! - She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. - Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. - She's the person in the house who picks up after you,

The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. - Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derail...

Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. - What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc.

Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? - Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it's because of circumstances. - Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie.

Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. - Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu. - The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and th...

What's the risk reward in your marriage? - There's a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger.

What would your marriage look like if you and your spouse were having sex on a consistent basis? - Maybe for the two of you it would be one, two or even 4 times a week and yet your not quite sure how to make this happen. -

The truth is that every couple goes through cycles of good times and tough times. The bigger issue is when those cycles last indefinitely and no one takes action. - I want out. - I don’t want to do this anymore. - It’s too hard. -

It’s summertime and like a lot of things your sexual intimacy can take a back seat to vacations, family visitors and even the kids being home. - Make sure you have a plan for summertime sex this year and for years to come. -

Do either of these sound familiar… - "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health,

"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." —Jim Rohn - Have you ever said: My husband doesn’t make me happy anymore My wife doesn’t make me happy anymore

Day after day we hear from couple after couple that their marriage is not what they wanted or expected. - There is no romance. - The sex is OK, at times. - There is a struggle with communication. - There are many disconnects. -

Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You're not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you're initiating. - On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn't understand why yo...

To get married you had to have a marriage licence. Here's the thing though... - This is the only license that you are never required to renew. You are not required to go to class, spend time and money, or become more informed to grow. -

When you move into a new house there are... New bedrooms, living areas, bathrooms and other place to explore to enjoy sex. - And yet, you may find yourself night after night in the same spot. Your bedroom! -

Having ESP (extrasensory perception) is something that many couples wish they had. The thing is that you don't and neither does your spouse. - At times you may ask yourself... Why doesn’t he/she know that?

Unless you are a teenager it’s time to grow up in your marriage. - When you partake in behaviors that are typical of a teenager you are chipping away at the foundation of your marriage. - A marriage that does not have transparency in all area...

When a “big” or “important” conversation is being dealt with via texting it is causing more heartache and less connection for married couples around the world. - Avoiding the face to face conversation may seem easier and yet,

Kids are amazing from those cute little baby faces to the amazing young adults they become. However, when the kids become more important than your marriage that’s when problems arise. - Some of these may be: -

Have ever noticed that in movies you never see couples cleaning up after sex? - Usually this romantic moment has no clean up afterwards. The couple cuddles together as they basks in the afterglow of an amazing sexual moment together. -

Lack of action, apathy, laziness are marriage killers. In this life you have two options, you are either growing or you’re not. - When you wish or hope for change without doing what you need to be doing that’s not growth.

Moving is truly one of those events that literally turns everything upside down. - You go from being settled and knowing all of your routines to have everything boxed up (both before and after the move) and everything is different. -

Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking before and during sex? - It may have crossed your mind from time to time or it's something you haven't even considered. - Here's the thing though... -

Jealousy is destructive to both the one who is being jealous and the one who is receiving it. - After 19 years of marriage we've experienced jealousy at different times and over different things. Jealousy can take the form of: -

Do you remember your first Valentine’s Day together? - I do, I was living in the Delta Gamma house at DePauw University and Tony was at the University of Colorado at Boulder. I had sent him a poem I had written and waited all day for my “Valen...

Sex is one of the biggest perks of being married and yet so often, relegated to an obligation instead of being the gift it truly should be. - Have you ever said (or at least thought) any of the following in regard to sex in your marriage. -

Strength training your marriage isn't just about you as an individual. It's about strength training your marriage so that you and your spouse create a healthy, vibrant and growing marriage. - The first 11 years of our marriage.

Husbands get a bum rap in media, books, movies, tv--out of touch, unfeeling, sexed up, jerks. And yet your husband your husband is a good husband. - You may look at yourself and even say that you are a good husband and one that doesn't even co...

Making love to your spouse is one of the most intimate times you two have together. It's a time when everything else falls away while you bask in each others arms. - Now when you make love twice in one day that double the pleasure... -

It’s that time of year when you are thinking about the New Year and what's ahead for your marriage. You've thought about what happened over this past year and what you want this next year to look like. -

The presents are wrapped and under the tree, the stockings are hung, the cookies are baked and you’re exhausted. - As a couple you find yourselves rushing through life, rushing through your marriage and missing out on being present with your s...

This time of year can be challenging for so many marriages. You are trying to hold it together for the family, for the kids, for the holidays and for yourself. - Over the last weeks and months you have noticed that you and your spouse have beg...

What you choose to listen to does and will impact the decisions that you make. - You have voices that are marriage enriching, which foster your relationship and are strong when the two of you are making time for each other,

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step." —Laozi - In your marriage there have been joyous times when you look around and think to yourself, " I never thought I would be here" and tough times when you never thought you would b...

Your to-do list is a mile long as the holidays and the end of the year approaches. - You have meetings, parties, shopping, last minute errands, cleaning the house, end of the year reports, travel, kids out of school,

The word thankful means, "feeling or expressing gratitude; appreciative." - As a married couple you should take time each day, week, and month to share with your spouse how truly thankful you are for them.

Surprise. Christmas is coming AGAIN this year, in fact it comes every year. - Can you believe it? —Said with a little sarcasm. - However this is often the sentiment that couples experience when the holidays roll around, every December.

Many items that you purchase come with a manual. Your car, your crockpot, the computer, TV, kid's toys and even your mascara has instructions. - And yet you and your spouse despite all in all of their complexity do not. -

Creating a no rejection zone in your marriage is vital to creating an environment where both you and your spouse trust one another. - Rejection is incredibly destructive. It eats away at a person’s sense of worth, it creates doubt,

You’re busy. There is a lot going on in your life. - When you’re dating or even newly married it seems like you have the ability to make the time for one another no matter what. You’ll rearrange your schedule.

On October 5th we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary! - For our anniversary day we choose to have a date day with a theme...we’ll share this date idea on an upcoming Periscope. Follow us there @oneextraordinary. -

When you have said to yourself and/or to your spouse, "It's been too long since we've had sex", then it's time to sit down to figure out what is going on. - The topic of sexless marriages is one a lot of people shy away from.

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is not just about the emotional toll it has, but also the physical impact it has on women. - There are many symptoms that can be experienced. Some of these are: feeling tired food cravings

Routine... while is seems easy and comforting at first really and truly leads to boredom. - Boredom in your marriage leads to looking for other people or things to break that sense of routine. - This boredom if not address can lead to emotion...

This show came out of a conversation we had as Tony walked from the master bathroom into our bedroom... naked. - It occurred to us that those couples who walk around naked are couples who are vulnerable and comfortable with each other. -

People are lost. Marriages are lost. Families are lost. We have become a society, that for the most part, doesn’t plan who or what we stand for. - Do you know what your marriage stands for? - Every couple and family has their own unique set o...

When you first meet your spouse you were most likely on your best behavior at all times. - You would watch out for what you would say and how you would say it. - Over time, as you became more familiar with each other that “best behavior star...

There are a lot of distractions in the world… electronics, social media, daily tasks, other people, etc. - Because of these distractions it’s easy to lose sight of the gift that you have right in front of your face. -

You desire to be sexually intimacy with your spouse and at the same time add some adventure and variety in your bedroom. - Where do you start? - What do you need? - We struggled with this for years in our own marriage. You know how it goes,

Everyday there are conversations going on about marriage where someone says... - My spouse doesn’t make me happy. - I’m not happy in this marriage. - Why isn’t my happiness important? - The issue many marriages face right now is that of...

Are you living in your own little bubble with your head down, focused only on yourself, your needs, your wants... - And yet your spouse may be there wondering if you even know what’s happening to them, what’s going on at work or at home,

Defeated. Worn out. Frustrated. - Any of these and many more emotions can get you to a place where you have told yourself that you can't do anything right. Nope. Nothing. - This is a lie and four words that will bankrupt you and your marriage...

Have you lost the spark, emotional, physical, or sexual, in your marriage? - Has the fire you once had burning strong is now a flicker and dimming more and more with every day that passes? - If the fire isn’t as hot as you would like it’s tim...

According to a 2014 article in The Economist, the average length of marriage in the USA is 8 years. - When you factor in that many couples will wait 2-3 years after marriage to have kids you can see that there is a need to better understand th...

The quickie can be an amazing sexual experience in your marriage if you know the secret to enjoying it together. - In our own marriage, our sex life can be a bit off during the summer months. - Different schedules, kids are home, vacations,

When you find yourself spending more and more time or being more and more distracted there is something going on. - Maybe society wouldn’t call it a drug of choice. Maybe you even joke about “having a little problem”. -

Financial stress is an intimacy killer. Plain and simple. It can keep you up at night and it keeps you worrying during the day. - It’s hard to let down your guard when you are worried about paying the bills or having food on the table. -

It starts with the sweet talk. Then it leads to both of you romancing each other all through the day. - And then other times you just want a quickie. - In all truth there is some form of communication going on between the two of you to get to...

There may have been seasons in your marriage when neither one of you stood up to lead the family. - You, your spouse and your marriage were like a boat with no rudder, just going around and around in circles trying to get somewhere but going n...

You spend time, effort and energy in maintaining your stuff and yet, you are not giving your marriage that same courtesy. - Your expectations for your marriage is so much more. The problem is that you are not giving it the tools that you and y...

Throughout the day you are transitioning from waking up, heading to work, coming home, going to bed to doing it all over again. - The heading out times always seem to be easier, except for you parents of little ones that are leaving for the fi...

The idea of running below empty is nothing new. - What is new is how running below empty is impacting marriages. Possible even having a negative affect on you right now. - When you are below empty what suffers the most is not your job or your...

It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone, to try something new, to be adventurous. - This can be as simple as changing your hair color (Alisa went RED once), to eating at a new restaurant, to wearing new clothes, shoes,

Distance in your marriage can be tough. - This can happen in your home or it could be when you and your spouse are miles apart. This can be for work, family illness, deployment, moving to a new city, or any other reason. -

You've decided that it's time. It's time to change because what's been happening isn't what you want to continue doing. - You've decided to make some changes. - Well... - ...your spouse has just noticed that something is up and is asking...

Preparation is one of the biggest gifts that you and your spouse can give to each other and your family. - And yet it’s hard to think about our own mortality. People often say that it’s the teenagers that think that they are invincible but in ...

Hope is in short supply in our world. From news reports talking about all of the ugliness to televisions shows that are completed scripted to bring you down. - Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage it has been our goal to bring you hope each and ...

Sprinters are amazing at short bursts of energy for a short period of time. However, if your vows were anything like ours they had something like “as long as life shall last” (until death do us part, forever, etc). -

Looking at the world, especially your marriage, from only your point of view is short sighted. - By doing this... you are only taking your feelings, wants and desires into account. - Over time this lack of perspective can lead to little consi...

Having sex is a beautiful experience that you and your spouse get to enjoy together. - Unfortunately, there are times when having sex goes by the way side. It's at this moment when you realize that it's time to change it up. -

Your marriage isn't going the way that you expected when you said "I do" to your spouse. - Actually... - Your spouse has expressed that it's time for the two of you to either separate for a time or get a divorce. -

The time is right and you are ready to make love to your spouse. You've been romancing each other and it's your time to initiate sex. - There are certain rituals that you both may have before you make love. - These may include,

When you first met your spouse there was this time when each of you were each others priority. You made sure that you spent time together and if something got in the way you'd reschedule that obligation. -

There’s a reason that things are so good at the beginning of a relationship... - Both you and your partner are putting forth effort into making the relationship work, into learning all about each other, and being on your best behavior. -

To tell the truth or not to tell the truth? That is something you may ask yourself when talking to your spouse. - It's something that seems so minimal and yet it can have a huge impact on your marriage foundation. -

the book 50 Shades of Grey has become the most successful erotica book ever to be written. It's a #1 Best Seller with over 100 million copies sold. - In it's path it has left many who have read it yearning for more in their marriage.

When you choose to only have sex when your kids are away or when everyone is, can be limiting in terms of when the two of you can be sexually intimacy. - Giving yourself permission to have sex when the kids are home can be liberating. -

Delayed ejaculation is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis. - There are times when a man will not achieve climax as well. -

Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. - It's a time when you can feel embarrassed and/or lacking as a man. The ability to extend sexual pleasure is directly relat...

There are many things competing for your time, attention and energy and yet you want to have the best marriage you can possible have. - Being over committed, busy and overwhelmed is not healthy for you or your marriage. -

An orgasm can enhance your sexual experience for yourself and your spouse. - However, an orgasm shouldn’t be the ultimate goal of every sexual encounter. - The experience of being together, of sharing that time and space in your marriage bed,...

When you get under the sheets and sleep naked with your spouse there are a number of benefits that both of you will experience. - There are three ways you will benefit from getting under the sheets and sleeping naked. -

We had sex before marriage. Probably like you or someone you know. - It's really between a couple and yet there seems to be someone always pointing a finger at you for doing so. - You cannot change what you did prior to getting married and ye...

You've been there before... whether after a large Thanksgiving meal or a meal where you ate too much and need to take a long rest after. - It’s that time when the food coma sets in. That period of time when you check out and don’t do anything....

Being thankful for your spouse and your marriage is something that you may or may not think about often. - Each year we love to share what we are thankful for in our marriage and lives. - It's a way for you to listen in,

The different situations you will have sex for the "first times" as a married couple are important to acknowledge. - The truth is that there are many firsts over the years as you may not have even recognized them. -

As a married couple the way you choose to combine your finances is going to play out in your relationship. - How it is combined (or not), how it is spent, how it is saved, as well as other factors impacts the two of you. -

In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season it is so easy to lose sight of one another. - Between holiday parties, buying gifts and making sure everything gets done you often find yourself putting your spouse at the bottom of the to-do list...

When tears are withheld and emotions are stuffed down inside of you this is a recipe for disaster over time. - Stuffing it down again and again lead to frustrated people. Frustrated people lead to angry conversations and than more hurt. -

There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. - They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. - Physical touch that doesn't lead to sex is importan...

Woman's health may have an impact on your marriage when the time comes for a mammogram, ultrasound or when sterilization is brought up. - These are just a few of the health procedures your spouse can have. -

Whether you are celebrating your first wedding anniversary or your fortieth, this is a time to celebrate the good times you've had together. - It's a time to look back over the past year and then look forward to what's ahead. -

Pornography is becoming the drug of choice for many individuals. - It's easy to conceal, doesn't cost as much as alcohol or drugs, but gives them the same euphoric high that they enjoy. - Unfortunately,

Common courtesy is something that you know you should extend to your spouse and yet it's not happening. - It may be because you allow your spouse's actions to dictate if you will be courteous or not. -

Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. - While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. - Being your child's savior,

Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. - Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. - Fortunately for you love is great than fear. -

You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. - There isn't a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. - Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse durin...

There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. - At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. -

When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. - It's times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. - Advice that is given in love without complaining ...

You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. - Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. -

The Intimacy Lifestyle at it's core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. - It's also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time,

In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. - Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. - For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. -

There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. - You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. -

Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. - You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. - This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work...

The words you never thought you'd hear in your marriage, "I want a divorce", have been uttered by your spouse. - They hit you as if you slammed into a brick wall and at that moment you're back against the wall. -

You are constantly sending your spouse facial expressions. When things are going well you give a smile, bat those loving eyes, as well as radiate joy. - When things aren’t going as well those facial expressions are not positive. -

When your marriage is pushed to the bottom of your priority list you can sense a disconnect with your spouse. - Our priorities have been messed up in our marriage as well. - Kids are one of the biggest reasons that your marriage has a lack of...

Summertime is here, the kids are out of school, and learning is the last thing on their mind. - Unfortunately many of you have taken the same attitude in your marriage. School has been out for awhile now. -

Summer is a time when your sexual intimacy can take a back seat. There is no down time for you and your spouse with the kids home. - The thought of having sex during the summer is the last thing you even think about. - We’ve been there! -

When you participate in activities that are going to impact you, your spouse and your marriage these are not good choices. - These choices don't foster trust, nor do these choices bring the two of you together. In fact it’s just the opposite.

How many times have you had a conversation with someone about their marriage and heard, “Well, we’ve been married (insert number of years) years", as if that’s all their marriage is about. - The longevity of their relationship means so much mo.

Foreplay is an opportunity for the two of you to mentally and physically get in the same place before intercourse. - It's a time when you are brought into the present with your spouse as you enjoy one another without the distractions of your d...

These nine words, "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You", when said in your marriage are a sucker punch to the stomach. - They convey that you or your spouse are no longer willing to put forth any effort into the relationship. -

In your every day life you see the world and all that is around you in shades of grey. - On the other hand you look at your marriage and there is only black and white, it's either all good or all bad. -

When you get engaged and become newlyweds you get lots of advice from family and friends. - They want you to start your marriage out on the right foot and yet the advice usually given is the same ole thing. - After hearing,

At some point in time you have been interrupted while trying to have sex with your spouse. - It’s not always the kids that interrupt you, but maybe a phone call, an alert on the phone or a knock at the front door. -

When you leave your marriage bed and begin to sleep in separate beds it can be the beginning to the end to your physical as well as emotional intimacy. - Separate beds lead to separate lives and an up hill fight to keep your marriage together....

If you allow you marriage to be stagnant for any amount of time you become distant from your spouse. - This leads to a disconnect between the two of you and ultimately you become strangers. - Be aware of the signs of stranger danger. -

When your sex life has simple become a physical act that you and your spouse are doing it's time to evaluate what's going on. - The quantity of sex you have each week or month is not a complete barometer of your relationship. -

You want spontaneous sex and you want it often and yet do you even know what spontaneous means? - Dictionary.com says that spontaneous is: coming or resulting from a natural impulse or tendency; without effort or premeditation; natural and unc...

Recreational intimacy is being active together. Finding activities you both like to do and do them with each other. Take a walk, hike a mountain, go surf...whatever it is do something with your spouse that will bring the two of you together.

You've been praying for healing, peace, forgiveness and change in your marriage for a long time. - There are times when you wonder if God hears you or if He even cares about your marriage. - It's easy to pray and then procrastinate. -

Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. - The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. -

Conceiving a child or not to conceive a child is something many married couples talk about. - When it comes to knowing all the ins and outs of ovulation...well that is another story. - When the two of you are educated on your (your wife's) me...

You never plan to be out of work and yet there will probably come a time in your marriage when you or your spouse has lost their job. - This can be a stressful time for you as you look for work again. -

There is so many things going on in your marriage that more often than not the connection you and your spouse have has been placed on the back burner. - You can't even remember the last time you two had uninterrupted moments together. -

Every opportunity you have to fight for your marriage is one that you should take. - There is so much out in your every day life that is trying to pull you away from each other. - It is time for both of you to focus on each other and fight fo...

There may come a time in your marriage when you and your spouse are miles apart. - This may be due to a deployment, work, caring for a family member, a mission trip or many other reasons. - It is during these time that you and your spouse nee...

Temptation has been around since the beginning of mankind. - It happened in the Garden of Eden and temptation may impact you and your marriage at one time or another. - Even though temptation is present and will put your marriage in jeopardy ...

It is very easy after a confrontation with your spouse to say something like “Are we good?” and expect the issue to be resolved. In other situations you may not say anything and just go about your business with this unfinished issue hanging ar...

We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season.

Your spouse is asking you to get involved in the marriage because there is a problem. - Ignoring it will not make it go away. Apathy will not make it go away. - Getting involved with someone else will not make it go away.

Words are interesting and the subtle differences in meaning can often go unnoticed. Except that these words can be played over and over in your head. The words that you choose to use when you have to do something have meaning. -

As the years pass in your marriage it is very easy to settle where you are. - Between work, kids, church and other activities you aren't living your life out loud. - It's time to bust out of your comfort zone so that you can go after that adv...

It's a choice to remove the masks and let down the walls in your life. - These are holding you back from truly experiencing the joy in your marriage. - Your choice to continue living like this is causing your spouse to wonder if you are truly...

The two of you have probably talked about being sexual intimate via a blow job. - It's a topic that is brought up, but have you discussed what it would be like to have your spouse get to the point of ejaculation? -

When you say "I Do", the furthest thing from your mind at that very moment is uttering the word "Divorce". - As the months and years pass the "D" word begins to enter your vocabulary. - The first time it stings and you can't believe it was ev...

Masturbation in marriage can have a profound impact on your sexual intimacy. - When masturbating in private without your spouse you are diminishing the joy of sex with your spouse. - If you are masturbating in your marriage and your spouse do...

You live in a world ruled by your phone, you feel lost when you don’t have it. You send text messages when you don’t want to bother someone and yet you are a slave to those text alerts. Unfortunately, some of you are using your cell phone,

You do everything for your spouse. The laundry, cooking, cleaning, kids, devotional, gardening, and on and on. - You don’t understand why your spouse can’t help out around the house. - Why are they not engaging with you? -

It is critical that you make the decision to honor the promise you made on your wedding day. - It is by keeping this promise that you will experience the true meaning of love in your marriage. - Take time to consider these three promises that...

It's time to live the marriage you desire. For change to happen you are going to have to take action. - Your marriage has changed over the years. Your priorities are so out of whack that you, your spouse, and your marriage is lost. -

Fear. It stops you from taking off your masks. - You sit there as you look at your spouse knowing you need to share where you are and yet FEAR is holding you back. Expressing yourself has become difficult. - The kids, work, electronics,

One area that is often mishandled in marriage is the art of listening. - It's the ability to keep your mouth shut and your ears open as your spouse shares what is happening in their life. - During this time you get to learn about your spouse....

Remember back to those days when you played a sport, competed in a competition, or were launching a new business, product or service. - You knew where you wanted to get and yet you didn't have the blueprint to help you get there. -

You can believe what you are seeing. You're heart sinks as the shame and anger inside you begins to burst out. - Right there in front of you on your husband's phone, tablet, and/or computer there are pictures of naked women. -

There is marriage Before Kids (BK) and then there is marriage After Kids (AK). - You know what we are talking about as these can be two extremes. - It starts from little sleep, to low sex drive, on to school, sports,

You've been living long enough in a lack luster marriage. - Today is the day that you are going to put on your armor and be a warrior for your marriage. - To often you and your spouse get complacent in your marriage. -

These words are uttered across the globe by kids who see their parents kiss, hug, or show some form of affection. - You want to hear them say this. - It's your responsibility in your marriage to show affection around your kids and their frien...

You feel like something’s not quite right in your marriage right now. As you think about what is going on you wonder if you are making too much out of nothing. Your intuition or gut is telling you something. -

You are all excited to take some time away, maybe a long weekend or a week long vacation, with your spouse. - You know the two of you are going to have sex and yet have you discussed how many times you will have sex while away. -

Having your own activities and hobbies separately from your spouse is a healthy way for you to grow individually. At the same time it's also a way for you and your spouse to grow your marriage. Do something that makes your heart sing,

So often you find yourself in making advances on your spouse with the sole purpose to have sex. - You're touching your spouse for one thing only and it's not appreciated. - What transpires is either you getting accepted after numerous advance...

You've had enough of your spouse's antics. - The word "Separation" or "Divorce" have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. - Before you step out of your home you both need a plan to be working on yourself a...

When you first got marriage you may have thought of you marriage as a covenant and/or as a contract. - To this day in your mind your marriage is either one of these or both and yet do you know which each of them mean in your marriage? -

You don't have the sex drive you once had within your marriage. - It's waned over the years and really you're a bit frustrated that you don't have "IT" like you once did. - Your physical well being may be an area that is having a big impact o...

You know those noises that come from your spouse. - Either in the bathroom or right there in the kitchen they come out and boy is it getting a bit much. - Never did you think about the burps, farts, throw up, diarrhea,

Ouch! My body hurts. - Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. - You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. -

There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. - It's easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. - Yes,

You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. - Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. - Have you experienced:

Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. - When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. - You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. -

Your marriage is a participation sport. - There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. - It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together,

Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. - Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. - Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? -

Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. - Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. -

The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. - If anything,

You have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. - You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it's go time. - As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn't going the way you had ...

Fear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. - It's during these times of fear that you need to face what is holding you back and move forward. - Peter walked on water,

Love starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. - During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you,

You were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. - Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. - Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you...

Hopefully you haven't actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. - No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. - The one that you a part of each and every day of your life i...

Stop the Glorification of Busy! - It's not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, "I'm really busy". - You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. -