Dude is demanding a lot from Chris in a frustratingly vague way. How should she feel when all of her advances over the past *year* haven't been "deep enough"? There's "taking it slow" and there's "holding out."

Salad Hayes wrote:Dude is demanding a lot from Chris in a frustratingly vague way. How should she feel when all of her advances over the past *year* haven't been "deep enough"? There's "taking it slow" and there's "holding out."

A year is nothing in the span of a lifetime together. If Chris is not able to live in a growing relationship where sexual gratification is delayed, then she should move on. Dude is actually demanding nothing of her at this point except understanding instead of selfishness.

Actually, he is, and has been demanding that she make wholesale alterations to her world view. In Chris's world, men will do anything for sex, and "easy" girls, who enjoy sex, like her, are popular, and loved by all they meet. The idea that sex is merely a form of loving expression and not the only valid form thereof is beyond her experience.