BETTER THAN FINE - RESPONDING TO "MY CHILD TURNED OUT FINE" COMMENTS

I am forever astounded by the amount of "Fine" people we must have in our society. I never thought about it until I had my baby and started hearing;

As a human race, we should endeavour to advance our race and to raise each generation to be better than the current.

"I ate steak at 3 weeks and I am fine", "I did 'this' when raising you and you are fine", "We never did 'that' while raising your husband and he is fine", "I did 'this' with my baby and she is fine".

It is inevitable that you will be given advice and your parenting choices questioned. People don't like to hear that your parenting choices are different to theirs because they don't want to think that that might mean that the choices they made were not the best for their babies. Even if this was not what you were insinuating by making a different choice, they won't understand your choice because their's turned out "fine".

Every parent makes decisions on what they believe is best for their child, but when people keep telling me of all these "fine" people, I can't help but think;

My aim in life for my child is not to raise a "fine" human being. My aim and goal in life is to raise and develop an exceptional child that reaches her fullest potential, with all the resources, capabilities, intellect, developed talent, knowledge, physical and mental health to her disposal, should she need or choose to utilize it, to fulfill all her dreams and aspirations, however ambitious or small they may be. I am not aiming for "fine".

My husband and I have spoken about this on so many occasions and we always agree that we want our daughter to be a better human being than we are. We want to give her more than we had and we are always researching and thinking of ways to ensure that she does not get our physical shortcomings, personality flaws and insecurities.

As a human race, we should endeavour to advance our race and to raise each generation to be better than the current. That is why we have new technology, research studies and better / modern ways of doing things.

While my husband and I may be fine human beings, our daughter will be better.