(Closed) Compared My Diamond to Others

As I was Christmas shopping yesterday, I went to a couple of jewelry stores. For fun I put my new princess diamond ring next to others. Mine is definately a VS1, possibly VVS2 and my other jeweler (not the quality jeweler I bought the ring from) looked at it and said that the clarity is top notch and that he really likes the cut. However, he said that the color is an I/J. I was disappointed because I was under the impression that it was a G but could definately tell it’s a warmer color by putting it next to other stones. I’m unsure of how I feel about it now. It also does not sparkle colors in most lighting, only lots of white flashes and is very bright all the time. Am I over-reacting or would you be disheartened as well? I’ve posted many pictures on the boards before knowing the true color. I also notice that the linear detail in the princesses I see are very pronouned. Mine is not. Have you ever seen this effect in a princess? Maybe due to the cut? I am looking forward to your comments, responses, how you would feel, and ideas on the lack of colored sparkle when it is and impressive cut.

You’re looking at this all wrong. That other jeweler would tell you lots of nice things and at least one bad thing so he could later convince you to buy your “new” and “better” diamond from him. Your ring is beautiful and I can guess that your Hubby spent a great deal on it. It looks VERY white from the photos! You can’t have everything sometimes you have to sacrifice certain C’s to get what you want. I think your mistake was comparing your ring to others, no good could come from that.

Old Hollywood: try to remember that the average person knows nothing about diamonds. When people ask to see your ring they arent spending five mins inspecting the color and clarity, that notice the overall look. It’s easy to feel insecure about your less than perfect diamond on these boards but I promise you in real life no one notices.

your ring is pretty and if I were you I would not compare. No diamond is really perfect they all have their own personality. My diamond is an M in color an I love it. and to be honest, nobody is looking at your ring trying to figure out what color it is so, I wouldnt worry. I agree with the other posters, comparison is dangerous and the jewelry store wants you to buy a diamond, what better way than to make you feel insecure regarding your current diamond.

Agree with all the PPs — with diamonds, let’s face it, unless you’re sporting a 300 carat, D, FL diamond, there will ALWAYS be one that’s technically “better” than yours out there. So you just have to stop comparing and know that what you have is perfect for YOU.

The only point at which I would have a real issue with this myself is if FI had paid the premium for a higher clarity or color and then we came to find out it was actually NOT that clarity or color. I would be upset with the place he bought it from thinking that he got ripped off and would probably become more unhappy with the diamond just because I would feel like it was the result of FI being conned.

Just remember that no matter what other diamonds look like, yours is special and has a story now. That’s irreplaceable.

ETA: A few more thoughts:

I agree with the PP that it’s likely the jeweler was trying to “bad mouth” your diamond in hopes you’d upgrade with him and he’d make a sale.

Was your diamond clean? Diamonds get dirty so fast and if it hasn’t been cleaned recently, it would certainly not sparkle as much as the super-clean ones in the store.

They’ll alwaya be someone thinner, pretty, smarter….. yada yada yada. if your ring made you happy a week ago you should be happy now. its a gorgeous ring from the love of your life. I wouldn’t take much stock in what a mall salesman says about your ring. hes a iduot. Now I bet you won’t use that store for your wedding ring or any other jewelry purchases.

Thanks for all the responses and how helpful everyone is trying to be. The diamond is certified by EGL USA…I know, they are usually off in color which is what I brought up to the jeweler who sold it to us on that very day (it was an upgrade). The jeweler said that the cert is “spot on”. Well since it isn’t, and EGL is sometimes on target, I am very disappointed. Every diamond I put it near, mine was somewhat yellow as well as not having any “pattern”…and what I notice most about it, which bothers me the most, is that there is no fire that sparkles from it…just dark and light sparkles if that. It looks amazing under a 30xpower scope and the other jeweler who mentioned the color being I/J did at least say that the cut was great and that he really liked it along with the clarity being top notch. I have known him for years. We didn’t do the upgrade with him though because he is a small private jeweler and doesn’t take trade-ins.

You ladies have been great with your encouraging replies. I just wish that I could trade this one in to the same jeweler we got it from, but I’m not sure it’s an option right now.