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I miscarried and am pregnant again. How can I control my worries?

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I miscarried my first pregnancy. I'm now 14 weeks into my second pregnancy and I'm still very nervous about something going wrong. This pregnancy is going very well -- but I still have this nagging fear in the back of my mind. What can I do to make myself feel better?

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After ready everyone's comments I guess being terrified is normal. I have had 2 miscarriages in a row, a beautiful baby girl(15 mos now) and I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant. All I want to be is happy & excited but b/c of my past ob history I am more nervous & scared. I want to be happy & strong for my daughter & husband but right now I feel overwhelmed w/ fear. I guess all we can do is keep praying & take one day at a time.

I am terrified! I had a miscarriage in april and am now about 4 weeks pregnant. I am having a tiny amount of lower tummy pain like I did with the first one just not as bad. I am sooo nervous! Help! Tell me this is normal!

I understand how you ladies feel. I had a miscarriage 5 yrs ago and then last year I had an ectopic pregnancy. I finally got pregnant again in December and found out I had had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. We are trying again and are crossing our fingers. I know I will be a worrying mess next time. As much as I will want to be happy and excited, I won't be able to because of the past.

hi I had a miscarraige on march of this year 2004.I was devistated i din't know what to do.I was 16 weeks. know i'm pregnant again i'm about a month but I'm really scared my hcg is not as elavated as it should If anyone has advise on what to do please let me. thank you

Hi all. I had posted a week or so ago when I was just 'late' with the hopes of being pregnant again, after I had miscarried in the fall. Well I was right (aren't we always?), I am currently 5 weeks pregnant with a due date in February. The few people that I have told say 'well, you don't seem too excited'. Well I'm not. I am too scared to be excited. I am so skeptical and keep thinking that the moment that I accept this whole thing, it will be taken away from me again. Besides feeling a bit 'thicker' in the mid section, I don't feel pregnant. I have blood work in 2 weeks and an ultrasound in 3 and I am dreading both. I felt better after writing my story here last week but am horrified when I read some of these stories. I don't think that I have it in me to be one of those women that has been through multiple miscarriages. I know that I shouldn't think that way, but it is so hard not to. I wonder also if my not accepting this pregnancy now like I did with my son or my miscarriage last fall, if in the the future it will somehow affect my relationship with this child. I don't like how I feel and I am just hoping that in time this will all feel right. Thanks for listening and good luck to you all.

I just wanted to post that I too know how it feels to miscarry when you are least expecting it. I was 18 years old when I first got pregnant and decided I wasn't ready for a baby yet so I had an abortion, my second child I got pregnant with I was 22 1/2 years old he was born healthy and I went full term with him, I then got pregnant 1 year later, but I miscarried the baby at 9 weeks because my OBG refused to listen to me when I told her I had a bump right on top of my belly button and I wanted to know what it was. I found out it was an umbilical hernia, and from the size of it, it prevented the baby from getting food, air and whatever else it needed, so I ended up miscarrying. I still however have the same doctor, went for the operation to have it removed last March 03 and am totally healthy. I am 7 1/2 months pregnant with my forth pregnancy, but my second child who is due at the end of August, and I do fear everyday that something bad will happen. So you are all not alone and I know how it feels as well. What freaked me out the most was the episode of ER where the umbilical cord got tangled around the baby's neck and it died. They say when you are pregnant, never to sleep with your arms over your head, you are pulling the umbilical cord up and strangling your little one. Never to sit with legs crossed, or to sleep on your back, there is tones of other stuff, but I don't want to bore you all. Please pray as I pray for all you ladies out there, and we all know how it feels cause we have been there. Take care to all and I wish you luck to those that have tried again, never stop unless the DR tells you that you can't have anymore.

I know how you feel, I had my share of experiences. I was pregnant with my first child, and I had a still birth when I was 7 months pregnant. Then I had my daughter who is two now and I would like to give her a brother or sister. Well I have had two miscarriages since then, and now I am pregnant for my fifth time, about 5 weeks. I am so scared and paranoid. I run to the bathroom more often then I should just to check and see if I am bleeding. I hope it works out this time. I am praying so hard.

I was just entering seven weeks of my pregnancy when I suddenly spotted. Everything was fine, I never had any morning sickness or any pregnancy uncomfortness. The next day, spotting became heavier, and the ultrasound showed that my baby was not developing. It was our first, and I didn't know that the first trimester was the hardest. We'd told close friends & families, I even looked at some baby stuff. The worst thing is to see other women gave birth to lovely babies, while I was done with me D&C :(

I just had my D&C last Thursday. The procedure was quick & painless. It hurts me more emotionally than physically. I wonder how long it will take to get pregnant again, this is too scary, and it was our first pregnancy :(

I misscarried on Nov. 25th and am now 6 wks pregnant. I started spotting this weekend and called my OBGYN, she sent me for Lab work and a transvaginal ultra sound. We actually saw the heart beat and the Dr just called to let me know the lab work was ok. I have to see her again next Friday but she said everything is going well. But for some reason that doesnt make me feel any less nervous.

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