I doubt anyone would actually admit it to being intimidating or off putting.. and its true as well, most people do prefer a woman with intelligence, but perhaps not someone who is his superior and earn more or is the centre of attention..so much so that it pushes the man into the shadows..

I feel that an intellegent partenr so much more attractive as one can communicate with easy at her level.After all sex is so much mental activity, needs more and better effective communication enhances it.Even otherwise life would complicated if both partners are not at the same level of understanding.If she is more intellegent than me, it will make me work hard and improve myself to be at her level of intellegence.

Intelligence is difficult if you are constantly finding fault with a man. Men are most turned on if they are seen to be doing their job well, which in the case of sex is blowing their woman's brains out with lust. Quite frankly, if they do that well, they'd rather have a blonde bimbo who appreciates them and blows their rocks off too than a 180 IQ woman who wants to analyse whether their in-out-in-out was 60 or 75 beats to the minute. We're not pornstars, you know!

On the other hand, the longer a relationship lasts, the more important emotional and intellectual compatibility becomes. If you are besotted with Shakespeare and their idea of culture is rock music and sports, you may have a bit of a challenge. If you make it work for you by realising that they are brilliant at all the practical jobs in the house (see, they're more intelligent than you in that sphere of life), have good business savvy even if their business is construction rather than being a University Professor, then it may work. It's more challenging for both of you though.....

What won't work is you needing to impose your intellect on them to make them feel small. You might be intellectual, but you'd be emotionally immature, which is a far more heinous crime. Men need to be switched on first in their dick, then in their heart and then in their brain. Never forget that.......

The ultimate turn on for an intelligent man is a woman he can talk to in the restaurant as an equal but who fucks the living daylights out of him in the bedroom. It's not always a co-segregating pair of characteristics, you know........

Intelligence is sexy. I once dated a girl who was absolutely beautiful but couldn't string two sentences together. Had to go and I dated and married a very smart woman, despite the fact she married me. Lol

Maybe it depends on how I read the question. So personally I am very attracted to intelligence, I don't like being in a relationship with someone who is less mentally capable than I am, it's dull. However the question phrased was am I intimidated by women that are MORE intelligent than I am. Hmmm not sure, I tend to associate with people around my level of smarts and not more or less, by choice. I have met, and been attracted to, women that are smarter than I am, but there was never a relationship with one of them. So in answer to the questions, yes I like intelligent women, I do not know if I am intimidated by someone more intelligent than I am, and I am totally single... Just sayin'...

As far as I'm concerned a relationship should be a fairly balanced playing field. I couldn't have a relationship with someone who wasn't intelligent, and the more the better as far as I'm concerned. However if they were more intelligent and used it to constantly make me feel like an idiot then no I wouldn't find it attractive.

I don't know if its already been brought up here but I kind of feel like this is one of those shields that people use when a relationship doesn't work. "Oh he was just intimidated/couldn't handle your smarts" sure in some cases that may be true, but I suspect that its probably not at least as often as it is.

oh and in regards to the OP, I cant stand the dumb blonde, innocent giggly girl routines, and anyone who tried it or legitimately had that kind of personality wouldn't be someone I could consider being with.

I like a woman who is intelligent. Someone who I can sit and have a conversation with and not have to explain everything. I don't like the "dumb blonde" types - no offense to blondes intended. I have met some women who had to be taught how to breathe...not for Me.

As for being more intelligent than Me, that's not that hard really. And I wouldn't mind that either.

I think that, especially in Western society, men can think of a smart woman as a... well, emasculating force. But I grew up with two brilliant lesbian mothers so for me, its not that big a deal. I like being with women who I feel like I can level with intellectually. So, it really depends on the guy, how he responds to a smart woman.

True intelligence can, and should, be intimidating. Not because we expect to dominate, but simply because it is such an awesome feature in anyone. It is also a turn-on so, intimidated or not, I go for smart women.

I think that the best orgasm's start in your brain and I enjoy knowing that a woman is giving me her mind. I've very very attracted to intelligent women. I've always like the librarians and doctors. Smart women are so much more fascinating and the verbal foreplay is very excitingISO sexy married women to fulfill their deepest desires... did i mention I love it really wet?

If we're talking about a relationship then intelligence is a must. She doesn't have to have a phd, but I would like that she doesn't think Obama is a skin care product she wants to try.

As far as her being more intelligent than me that's absolutely fine. I don't mind her being a genius and being the competative moron I am it would probably drive me to delve into books to find a subject to beat her on.

BUT if she uses her intelligence to make me feel less of a person then that's something I don't want to get involved in. Jokingly, sure, but being serious about it then it just becomes a type of relationship where she might as well beat me every day."It's at that point you realise Lady Luck is actually a hooker, and you're fresh out of cash."

However you qualify intelligence, whether it's by IQ, social intelligence, writing/communication ability or book smarts, would a woman that is more intelligent than you be seen as intimidating or attractive.

Think of the popular female images of Jessica Simpson acting like the dumb blonde, or Marilyn Monroe's sexualized little girl act, or all the giggly, pillow-fighting, "omg, I'm just a girl" hair-twirling ideal of the Playboy empire and the porn industry (in general).

Does intelligence scare or intimidate men?

Try to answer this question honestly, because I think it's easy to say "I like a smart woman," but the reality is that society often shows that we are at our most attractive when we're being cute, giggly, helpless, and girly.

Is it just a part of the caveman ideal of being the "protector and provider" or is there a feeling that a very intelligent woman would be emasculating to a guy in some way?

Ladies, feel free to respond if you have any thoughts/opinions on this topic...

After 10 years of marriage I was pissed to find out my husband doesn't talk to me about a lot of things because 'your intelligence is very intimidating.'

I take my knowledge and education serious - I was held back in the 3rd grade and made fun of for it until my family moved away - I refuse to be an idiot twat (I'm stereotypical, too - blond hair, blue eyes - so every time I fuck up the dumb-blond jokes are never ending).

And so now I have a marriage where my efforts to be a highly educated and well informed, confident blond-haired blue-eye bit-tit chick have fucked it up . . .again.

You know what? I don't care anymore what he or others thing - I'lll maintain my 4.0 if it kills me. . . he can read a dictionary if it *bothers* him so much that I use big words :roll:

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