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If you saw yourself in yesterday's description of a woman who stays
in a bad relationship because she's resistant to changing her
self-image from Healing Nurturer to Selfless Terminator, then it is
absolutely vital for you to understand that the least healing
and nurturing thing you can do for yourself and the people you love is
to remain in a bad relationship. There's virtually nothing you can do
that's more healing to yourself and those around you than to once and
for all kick a bad man out of your life. Here are some reasons that's
true:

1. It's extremely encouraging to others. The people who care
about you want both you and them to be okay. You having the inner
strength and wisdom to rid yourself of a bad man not only shows them
that you're okay, it also models for them how they can be okay,
too. Seeing others take definitive steps toward healing themselves
greatly encourages others to do the same thing in their own lives.
Healing begets healing.

2. It refutes the Women as Victims model. Children grow up to
build relationships just like the ones their parents had. Mothers who
remains in bad relationships every single day teach their children that
the natural role of women is to be hurt and demeaned by men, and that
the natural role of men is to treat women like garbage.

3. Enabling a person to act poorly only hurts them. You do a
man no favors by allowing him to continue to treat you shabbily. You
don't train a dog to stop biting by letting it chew on your leg.
Enabling dysfunctional behavior can't help but make it worse.

4. No one changes anyone. You can think, imagine, and dream that somehow, some day, you will change him. But he will only change when, how, where, and if he wants to. Period, end of story, close that lame, ancient fairy tale.

5. You are in a life and death situation. Just because
it's happening slowly, bit by bit every day, doesn't mean that
remaining with a bad man isn't destroying your life. Drowning an inch
at a time is still drowning. You don't get another life. This is your life. Get desperate about improving it.

6.You are alone. You have exactly two choices: Take the steps necessary to save yourself, or suffer till you die. No one
is going to come riding in on a white horse and make your life all
better for you. Either do it yourself, or you wait till you die for
someone else to. (Even when it comes to turning to God for peace and
understanding: that's something you have to do. God doesn't make a habit of entering rooms into which he hasn't been invited.)