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SART (And The Importance of Assertiveness)

This awesome post is by one of our recent graduates from our 65-hour advocate training. She is a great writer and will be a tremendous advocate to survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence. I loved reading her reflections on one of the trainings (detailed here) and wanted to share with you all! 🙂

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I would add to this this the responsibility for preventing rape is always 100% in the hands of the would be rapist and that regardless of how “overly trusting”, vulnerable or unassertive a woman is, is is never ok to violate her.

Jenn,
You are absolutely right and I couldn’t agree more. Didn’t mean to make it seem like women are to blame at all and I think our capability to trust is one of our strengths rather than flaws. However, it comes with it’s disadvantages, but you’re correct in that it is 100% the perpetrator’s responsibility NOT to rape.

Hi Shelby,thanks for the response. Im not sure if women are more trusting or have a deeper capacity for trust (could be I am crusty and jaded…) but I would agree that women are (at a minimum) socialized to be more passive rather than asserting themselves and feeling like they can draw clear boundaries. Lovely post, Im glad to see you reblogged through TVH. 🙂