Modern Dating Advice for Smart Singles

How To Follow Your Intuition In Dating

The purpose of this article is to help you follow your intuition.

The reason I can be so certain that you will find the love of your life, in a very short period, is because your intuition is guiding you to the perfect moment to meet the right person. What you have to do is learn how to listen to it.

In this article I explain how to clear the noise of your made up fears of rejection and inferiority.

You have to learn to hear your intuition loud and clear. It’s the very voice that will tell you when you’re in the right moment.

I’ve never met anyone who didn’t have some fears when it came to dating. We think we’re not good enough, our past is too ugly, we’re not pulled together enough or we don’t have the right status.

Your fears are normal, but just because you have them, that doesn’t make them rational.

It isn’t always easy to spot these irrational fears or anxieties. Sometimes we don’t even know that we have them until we’re faced with a situation and we ask ourselves, “Why did I do that?”

When we question our actions in dating it’s because we are ignoring our intuition. We are going against our inner guidance.

Step #1 to following your intuition is recognizing that it exists.

The very first thought you have is usually your intuition guiding you. Our first thought or instinct is usually right and then the chorus line comes in.

Your first thought says, “Kiss them,” then you talk yourself out of it.

Your instinct says, “Tell them how you feel,” then you talk yourself out of it.

The moment you find yourself wanting to approach someone, that is your intuition, then a voice tells you, “Don’t.”

Dating I will admit is pretty scary and our biggest fear is rejection. No one wants to be told that they’re not wanted. When you’re faced with rejection it’s embarrassing. You feel inferior. You feel denied of something for no good reason and it hurts.

Our awareness guides us to the right people. It leads us to the right moments so we can make the right connections. It tells us to act but we refuse to listen. If you talk yourself out of making those connections you miss out and what is truly meant for you. If you listen to what your intuition is telling you, you won’t fear rejection at all.

When you pursue people who aren’t meant for you, rejection is the only way that the universe can keep you on the right path. But isn’t that something else we fear, making the wrong decisions, falling for the wrong person, or being hurt by choosing incorrectly?

Step #2 to following our instinct is asking, “What should I do?”

You know what you should do but if it’s in conflict with what you want to do whichever is easier is what wins out. It might feel comfortable at first but eventually you’ll get tired of lying to yourself. If you ask for the answer you will get it. There’s no guarantee that you will like it but it will come and it’s the right thing to do.

In dating, you have to learn to follow your gut.

There are times when we have doubts but we persist. We pursue those who were never meant for us in the first place. So how can you feel guided? How can you feel a connection to your instincts to the point where following them freely isn’t scary?

Step #3 to following your intuition is to practice.

I like to meditate, some people like to pray, and others listen actively while hiking, doing yoga or other peaceful activities. You have to know what the voice sounds like. Quiet the rest of the world and spend time alone with whatever you believe in be it God, the universe, the infinite subconscious mind etc.

This is the guidance that will lead you to the love of your life. What’s cool is that it won’t just be one person. You may be led to a variety of people but you won’t fear rejection because you’ll feel at ease in your gut that this person is the right person to talk to.

So why does this work?

Every person listens to their inner guidance at some point in their lives. We believe in destiny and faith without even thinking about it. We live with a ‘meant to be’ attitude but never really investigate why certain situations feel right or natural. When we let our inner guidance lead us to the right situations it eases our fear of rejection.

Listening to you inner guidance is learning to trust yourself. Trust that you know the answer. Trust that you know how to find the love that you deserve. I know that you do.

I thoroughly loved your tips on if you want to keep your man.. Though I myself comes from the men fraternity yet could not refrain from liking the minute detail you explained as I Could have easily relate to each point 😄. That's why , the marriage kills the romance because of those bad traits.

Miss Solomon - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

Thank you for your comment, and for reading. My advice is this. A man should be cherishing and chasing you. A man should be worried that he will lose you if he doesn't show you attention. If a man isn't treating you like you're valuable to him, don't stay with him. Show your own value by leaving him alone. You don't need anyone in your life who makes you feel like you're second class. I hope this was helpful.

Miss Solomon - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

Thank you so much for your comment and thank you for reading! I know this is easy to say but the best way to approach men that you like is to remove yourself from the outcome. Yes, you want a date, and I think it's great that you took the initiative but don't beat yourself up about the outcome. The circumstances might not be right. There is one way I recommend taking action in dating to see results. It's a simple process - Step 1. Write down 3 possible scenarios A,B,C - A being if nothing happens, B being if it something happens but not what you expected, C being if your ideal results happen. Then try to imagine how you would feel in each scenario. Prepare yourself for no response, for a rejection, or for a date. If you're prepared for any outcome, its easy to take action. Just don't NEED anything certain result. Just take action because you're a brave person willing to take risks, and go after what you want. Instead of worrying about the result, just focus on taking action. It's not about what happens, it's about taking the action, accepting the result as feedback and moving forward with new information. I think you did a great thing! and the action itself means more than the result because you showed confidence. If you don't get a date, that's ok. But don't stop right taking action where you can. I hope this was helpful.

Danica - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

there is this guy who flirts with me, shows all 32 teeth when smiling at me and sighs around me a lot, well I do like him and think the feeling is mutual, but ive asked men out in the past and that did NOT turn out as I had hoped. but I decided to give it another shot by giving my crush a Christmas card and writing in it the following "me and you coffee with my name/number" and if he is interested he has my digits. is that too much or not.

lizzy - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

i want u to advice me ma.there is dis guy v bn lvn for d past 10yrs i lata told im my filns and he agri to date ever since dat day he hasnt called or text v bn the 1 textn and calln.what can i do