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Personally I had a HORRIBLE nurse when I had my son and when I went into labor (at the same hospital) with oldest daughter that nurse was on call. I saw her in the hallway and I told my doctor I needed to make a request about the L&D nurses. The doctor gave me the nurses name and I wrote down that "insert name here" was NOT allowed in my room at anytime and was NOT allowed to care for my child.

My request was granted and I had no problems thankfully. It turns out I wasn't the only patient to complain about her either...

We have barred an interventional radiology team from my sons case because they decided the minute we weren't there to go behind our back and change our request they previously agreed to simply because they liked the other option better. My son has to see interventional radiology every 3 months to have the same procedure done until he no longer needs a specific feeding tube. We do not trust that team alone with our child.

I've never made these types of requests. Well, I guess I sort of did after my last child was born. I asked that the specialists coordinate with my OB who stepped up to manage my care because the neurologist was a complete ass. Actually the request came from my OB who was not happy with the the attitude and quality of care I was receiving from the neurologist.

I would only make this type of request if quality of care was an issue and it would be based on previous actions/problems not on anything else.

I hospital cannot change schedules or hire extra male/female or white/black staff based on a racist persons "request"

What happens of only white nurses are working and someone is requesting a black nurse? or vice versa?

What happens in intensive care, a specialized field, when the entire staff is male...should they fire half of them and hire women? no...

Quoting Mommy_of_Riley:

Personally I had a HORRIBLE nurse when I had my son and when I went into labor (at the same hospital) with oldest daughter that nurse was on call. I saw her in the hallway and I told my doctor I needed to make a request about the L&D nurses. The doctor gave me the nurses name and I wrote down that "insert name here" was NOT allowed in my room at anytime and was NOT allowed to care for my child.

My request was granted and I had no problems thankfully. It turns out I wasn't the only patient to complain about her either...

I had a nurse in the ER who was extremely rude about my allergies. I have a shit ton of them and I had reactions and we didn't know what caused it. She then laid my IV needle on my gurney bed uncapped. Normally I'd let that slide but since she was so rude I pointed it out. She got even more rude so I told her she needed to get another nurse. She told me they were short staffed and there was no other nurse. Big mistake. I know my patient's rights and I know that hospitals have to by law have the minimum number of nurses. Another nice nurse came and did my IV and took over my care.

With my first I demanded only women work on me. Female OB, female nurses, female students, female doctor for my epidural, etc. Granted, of course. For my tubal I request an all female team as well. I do not like to be naked in front of male medical staff unless its an emergency.

I honestly do not see the problem with making such requests. Religion, culture, or personal reasons, we should all be comfortable with our medical care. Unless its an emergency, there should be the option to be picky. The nurse in the spin off had no right to sue her employer.

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