Getting Married While Pregnant

Question: "I'm engaged to be married…and I just found out that I'm expecting! What should I know about planning a wedding during pregnancy?"

Wow, you’ve got a lot to celebrate! Either of those life events is huge on its own, so navigating both at the same time can be tricky…but definitely doable, especially with some smart prep work. Before you walk (or adorably waddle) down the aisle, consider these tips on planning and hosting a wedding during pregnancy:

Time it right. If possible, try to get hitched in your second trimester. Your morning sickness should be gone by then (or at least eased up enough so you can face the buffet without barfing). Plus, if you get married mid-pregnancy rather than at the end, you’ll feel more like a bride than a balloon. One more timing tip: If pregnancy fatigue hits you hardest at night, shoot for a daytime event (which is likely less expensive too).

Dress the part. Even if you’re not showing when you hit the bridal shop, let the consultant know how far along you’ll be when you tie the knot. She’ll advise you on which size will be best for your belly-to-be. And don’t let that large number bug you: Wedding dresses tend to run a couple sizes bigger than regular clothing, and it’s easier to take in a too-big gown than let out a too-small one (plus, those extra inches are going toward building a beautiful baby).

While you can wear almost any style you want, baby bumps look especially elegant in an empire-waist silhouette, which is snug at the bustline and roomier in the belly. No matter which design you prefer for your wedding during pregnancy, you’ll be more comfortable in loose, light fabrics, such as chiffon and crepe. Stiff or heavy materials like satin, taffeta, and tulle can up your odds of overheating and dizziness.

As far as shoes go, you may need to pump up your pump size to a half- or even a full-size bigger than your pre-pregnancy kicks, since edema can make your feet and ankles swell. Consider skipping the high heels altogether (expectant moms aren’t known for perfect balance) or at least keeping a pair of ballet flats or sandals handy as a backup. Luckily, there are lots of down-to-earth (and not at all dowdy) options out there.

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Maximize that glow. Raging hormones can wreak some serious havoc on your complexion during pregnancy, but a skilled makeup artist should be able to handle whatever’s going on. So if a pro is within your budget, consider that money well spent. And while you might not be able to get a Brazilian blow-out since that and other hair treatments are off-limits right now, chances are you’ll be sporting some extra-lush locks under that veil.

Stress less. From choosing the right caterer to picking the most fabulous flowers to perfecting your seating chart, wedding planning can be pretty nerve-racking. But stress and pregnancy isn’t a great combo, so consider toning down the party to something you can handle more easily. Or hire a wedding planner or ask a willing friend (or that fabulous fiancé of yours) to take on some of the tougher tasks. And, to keep your cool when planning a wedding during pregnancy, make this your mantra should people push your anxiety buttons: “For my baby’s health and my own, I need to stop discussing this right now.” Who could argue with that?

Also, while pregnant brides aren’t that unusual anymore, some people on your guest list may be vociferously offended that you’re expecting before the wedding. All you can do is tell them, “I’m thrilled to become a wife and mother. I hope you can share that excitement with me.” It might sting a bit if they can’t, but it’ll truly be their loss to miss out on your big day.

Celebrate smartly. Skip the champagne, but keep your water glass full since staying hydrated is important for you and your baby. (Another reason you’ll want a light, loose wedding dress: You’ll need to pee more than the average bride, and going to the bathroom in a ball gown is tough even without a baby bump.) No matter how busy you get greeting guests, don’t forget to eat. Enlighten your caterer about pregnancy-safe foods and, even if you’re queasy, be sure to eat a protein-and-complex carb snack (like cheese on whole-grain crackers) so you’ll have the energy for that first dance as a married lady — and the many to follow. Speaking of energy, take a load off every once in a while during the party — your guests will understand if you and your belly need a break between dances.

Here’s to a wonderful wedding — and a healthy baby to boot,

Written by Heidi Murkoff

Heidi Murkoff is the author of the world’s best-selling pregnancy and parenting series, What to Expect, that began with What to Expect When You’re Expecting. She is also the creator of WhatToExpect.com and founder of the What to Expect Foundation.