Another thing not mentioned is character, decision making and DRIVE. It's everything when facing challenges. And people who make poor decisions and are actually rich, go broke. And people who are poor, can excel.

You don't need new cars, phones and the latest of everything when you're trying to get ahead. Sacrifice now and you can build a future. My car is 12 years old, and PAID for.

This video Iillustrates the advantages/disadvantages you are born with through no fault or action of your own and being able to recognize them. To think everyone is born under the same circumstances on a level playing field is ignorant and naive.

Having understanding and empathy for others less fortunate and being grateful for the gifts you were given just by virtue of who you were born to.

Nowhere does the video say you cannot overcome obstacles, it is simply stating the obvious.

None of that matters. People don't need to feel sorry for themselves bc someone else has/had something they didn't. They need to focus on the job at hand and not wallow in the negatives or what they didn't get in the way of breaks.

All of life is random, not fair and uneven, TO everyone. My father came to the US as an immigrant , broke and a 3rd grade education, at 18 yo. He made it, and he made it on his own. Those are the kind that will make it no matter what. And others can't, not bc of an unfair start, which may be very true, but bc their focus is not right. Many people do it with horrendous circumstances. Why?

[i]None of that matters. People don't need to feel sorry for themselves bc someone else has/had something they didn't. They need to focus on the job at hand and not wallow in the negatives or what they didn't get in the way of breaks.

All of life is random, not fair and uneven, TO everyone. My father came to the US as an immigrant , broke and a 3rd grade education, at 18 yo. He made it, and he made it on his own. Those are the kind that will make it no matter what. And others can't, not bc of an unfair start, which may be very true, but bc their focus is not right. Many people do

Nope, I said people should be aware of the advantages they've been afforded by virtue of their birth circumstances and have understanding, instead of contempt, for those born without those same advantages.

It's called gratitude and empathy. Two virtues our society is seriously lacking.

What makes you think people aren't compassionate towards others or aware of others struggles? Did you house anyone who flooded? Did you donate your time or resources?Do you give to any charities? Do you truly see into their lives enough to be able to say anything?

Many do. You have no way of knowing. People talking about GENERAL topics on a local message board is zero proof of what people DO.

Gratitude and empathy was everywhere in this town when we flooded. Everywhere. You chose to be very negative and over look facts. And it's a bad sign when a person is not happy for those who have done well.

I wasn't talking about KU or Kingwood, I was speaking in general terms of society. You see it everywhere, from how government is run to how corporations are run to how society reacts to one another. We have our own version of a caste system in the US.

I think we focus on the wrong things and tend to gravitate to what divides us instead of what can bring us together as a nation. If we exhibited more compassion and gratitude, we could more easily close the gap.

As far as you questioning what I did after the storm. Yes, I donated to shelters, I donated to local charities, I helped rip Sheetrock out of homes. While the water was rising, my husband and neighbors rescued people by boat. We took water and food to the officers and first responders standing guard on the bridge. We are also supporting local businesses as they come back from the storm, because we need them as much as they need us. So, yes, I put my money where my mouth is.

No, I wasn't talking about you here. I've written exactly what I was talking about.

Did you want to continue the locked thread here? People get iced for that, but since you brought it up, maybe you'd like to go there again? You're not good about allowing others to respond, though. You like to get the last word then lock the threads.

I'm not bitter at all, I'm honest. People don't like honesty because it's not always "feel good" stuff. You know nothing about my life, the last time we actually spoke outside of KU, was nearly 5 years ago, maybe more. You act as if I came to you on bended knee and you took mercy on me as the wonderful Christian you are. That is not the case. We were both in positions where we were going to be looking for work again, after many years of NOT working and talked about needing resumes. You did help me, and I appreciate it. But, don't make it more than it is. It's not like you set me up on job interviews and such...lol. Although, we may have discussed Insperity, because we both knew people there, I think that is possible.

As far as you helping me and not charging me, you did help care for my pets as you were starting your business. Yes, that is true. I did pay you, just not your full price, you gave me a discount. I also directed clients your way and spoke very highly of you and your services. So again, please do not act as if you have some sort of golden heart and I'm this ingrate...lol.

You are still upset about my comments on the other thread and feel you are owed an apology, hence you bringing it here, again. Not everything is about you, I promise.e

Your 'honesty" is brutal. You are bitter. Everything is not a competition. Your reputation on here is long and colored to the negative bc you attack people for no reason and are truculent. just like you did to me. I'm assuming bc I was challenging your husband in a civil discussion. You came out guns blaring. That's not honest...he can handle himself.

I have no problem with who I am and how I treat people. You have to live with yourself. I'm living with myself just fine.

The thread was locked after much discussion, was it not?? It degraded to needing to be locked bc you made up things and got personal with private matters you wanted to cattily divulge and expose online. Honesty?? You were wrong. You are still wrong. Maybe it's time you learned to express your opinions without trying to demean people bc they don't agree with you.

PS: you referred 1 person who had a hard time remembering to pay me, so thanks.

I won't argue with that, I think there is a good purpose for religion, even though I'm finding it harder and harder to believe in any of them.

That said, let's look back at the point of the video. We have a bunch of 20 somethings just starting out in life. What if you didn't have the religious background as a child and don't see the importance of it as an adult?

Is that really a choice or just how you were raised?

I also believe morals and right vs wrong, ethics, etc., can be taught and enforced without a religious background. Teaching someone to be a good person doesn't need to be religious in nature.

1. They desire to make someone else sufferA bitter person might spew their inner hurt and anger by saying and doing things that hurt the feelings of others, exhibiting ruthless verbal and emotional cruelty.

Somehow, it makes the bitter individual feel better for a minute to see someone else suffer as they perceive themselves to be unfairly suffering.

2. They are full of vindictivenessFrequently on the lookout for perceived slights, bitter people often invent ways to get back at those they view as having neglected, mistreated, disrespected, or ignored them.

Vengeful and spiteful, they seek to cause torment in the lives of those whom they view as being inadequately caring or inattentive towards them. They almost loathe and have feelings of hatred toward the person who is the subject of their wrath.

3. They wade in self-pityThe bitter person often feels cheated by others and short-changed by life in general.

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It?s almost impossible for such a person to experience genuine gratitude because of how much they feel they?ve been denied their due. They often feel so sorry for themselves that it?s very hard for anyone else to feel compassion for them.

4. They are looking for a fightWhen a person is chronically bitter, they?re often in an antagonistic mindset and looking for a fight. If they can?t find one, they will think nothing of putting up their dukes and provoking one.

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They?ll say or do something to start it up. After it?s over, they will feel a little better, while almost everyone else feels terrible.

5. They have sociopathic prideFrom the bitter person?s point of view, it?s the world that?s done them wrong and deserves the full expression of their blameless wrath.

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Bring their hateful behavior to their attention in the wrong way, and attempt to get them to see how it?s led to their alienation from others, and you?ll probably find out even more how uncaring, insensitive, hurtful and harmful that person can be.

6. They are drowning in animosity and resentmentA bitter person will find it hard to experience happiness at the success or well-being of others.

Instead, the bitter person views the good fortune of someone else as more evidence that they have not been given a fair chance themselves. In their opinion, it?s time to mercilessly take their subject down a notch.

I'm assuming bc I was challenging your husband in a civil discussion. You came out guns blaring. That's not honest...he can handle himself.

As usual, you assume wrong. I was speaking for myself, as I always do. You didn't like what I had to say and got butthurt. You made it more personal and locked the thread. That's what happened, plain and simple. Again, you're attempting to make more out of it than is there.

You are entitled to your opinion, as I'm entitled to mine. You brought it here, I did not. If you don't like the way I post, block my posts, then you never have to see them or feel compelled to respond.

As usual, you assume wrong. I was speaking for myself, as I always do. You didn't like what I had to say and got butthurt. You made it more personal and locked the thread. That's what happened, plain and simple. Again, you're attempting to make more out of it than is there. o, I don't lie. I have no reason to lie. Hiro can speak for himself, he doesn't need me and vice versa. You want so badly to be right on this, but you aren't.

Maybe you should read the vitriol you spewed!! LOL You were wrong on every single accusation you made! Don't bother trying to take the high road now- your remarks are there for everyone to see.

I guess Godawful is Another alt. LOL. It's hysterical how he comes on, makes a couple posts and then slams me on one whilst pretending to be interested in other threads. So transparent considering who's on ice. LOL. Nice but dumb!! I'm on a roll!!! Lol