/ Cook washes up

I do vast majority of the cooking in my gaff and now it has been announced that "the cook shall wash up". I could understand that if I sprayed the walls with tomato juice and filled the cutlery drawer with gravy, but under normal circumstances - I'm not buying it.

She'd happily live off oven dinners and "ping" meals eg near zero washing up. So if I want to eat anything freshly prepared, I'm shackled to the kitchen all night.

In reply to iksander: I do almost all the washing up and about half of the cooking. MrsTheDog does do more cleaning and I do more tidying. Generally we both think it is imbalanced and we are both doing more than the other.

I would not be happy with all cooking and all washing up if there was not other redress. I agree that it's best to talk to her and let her know it is unfair and then cook nice stuff for yourself and leave her to sort herself out.

Despite being too idle to cook properly herself does this person enjoy your cooking, which I presume is delectable, if so washing up is a sign of appreciation. She is obviously reckoning on only having to wash two plates and an oven tray when she has cooked but that should be your reward for eating her cardboard crap!

Ok not realistic, but neither is your other half's position. If she wants to eat it, she has to do something for it. Between you, I'm sure you can find an acceptable solution. If you can't, then just cook for yourself until sense dawns.

T.
If sense doesn't dawn, consider your options. One of the least painful might be sabotaging the microwave.

In reply to Pursued by a bear:I kinda get the feeling sense might not dawn?

My own character is such that i'd point out the amount of wahsing up after a microwave meal compared to a more elaborate meal, and mention how much healthier more elaborate food can be, if the other person doens't appreciate the diffeence in taste, and insist it isn't fair.

All people approach relationships differently though, but it could only bug me for so long...

In reply to iksander: You need to train her better, in the Hewitt household the wife does all the cooking and cleaning and washing up and I pay for a meal out about once a month. It took a long time to find a woman who enjoys looking after me but the trial and error R&D was worth it.

In reply to iksander: In our Household im in from work 1st Mon-Thu so cook the evening meal, MrsHike cooks the Friday meal. Saturday and Sunday is generally a free for all of getting away with as much as possible.
When I cook, MrsHike washes up and visa versa.
But like Submit to Gravity's, MrsHike's Friday Risotto produces four days worth of washing-up and creates an arty 3D effect to the splash-back. The main pan needs an evenings soaking followed by chiselling Saturday Morning. With as much wasted food to feed a starving family. I find this very frustrating but just get on with it week after week. Im am of coarse perfect.

In reply to iksander: tell her to sling her hook! Divorce is on the cards for any woman who isn't worth her salt in the kitchen.... Jog on luv, plenty more useless women willing to step into your shoes.... Boom!

Ah, I tried that,
I knocked through some old out houses, re roofed it, re-wired,re- plumbed, put in her favourite range cooker, installed built in fridge, freezer and of course a dishwasher, and guess what, she nags me that I don't put my dishes IN the dishwasher.

He should Just accept that he will never make her happy, and don't do the dishes.

I'd usually say 'foul', but in this case I do think it's fair enough - she doesn't like washing up and is just as happy to eat food that doesn't need it. So for her it's doing extra washing up just so you can have the food you like.

Of course, one could suggest that your partner should be trying to keep you happy .

I reckon do the whole nice meal for you thing - do enough for two, but keep the other half for another night to reheat.
See if she really is happy with microwave meals.
At least if you do it this way you have half the washing up from cooking as only reheating another day .

In reply to iksander: I tend to agree with your other half to be honest, if I cook then by the time I'm serving the kitchens pretty much clean anyway, all that needs doing is the plates. If you're efficient it's much easier to clean as you go rather than leaving a bomb site for everyone else to clean up after you've eaten.