Bc the patriarchy always wins. Father, uncle, brother, priest, doctor (even if female, usually play by the boys club (male dominated rules of their profession), boyfriend can almost walk away free, avoiding justice and the victim is made to turn to another part of the patriarchy for help. Abused by a priest? Go see a psychiatrist and get labeled by the hetero-sexist, white patriarchy enforcing DSM, after which big pHARMa is more than happy to re enforce notions that every thing in your life is broken, will always be broken and most importantly needs their drug.

But our society is also litigious to an extreme. In your example, the lovely woman you wrote on responded seemingly affirmatively (though not verbally to your proposal to write on her body, and you promised to respond in future if her mind were ever changed about sharing the act in the video. In this scenario, you promised to erase the evidence of the activity by removing the video (if she chose to in the future). But could you, in the future, promise to UN-write on her body?В