I look really mad like I'm going to beat everyone up in my immediate vicinity. I really am not like this though. How do I not look mad, I just don't know how? I'm just a very serious person and don't laugh or smile. I've tried to be more like everyone else but it is very hard, its just not natural for me. I find it really hard to relate to other people because of this, can anyone give me some advice?

I look really mad like I'm going to beat everyone up in my immediate vicinity. I really am not like this though. How do I not look mad, I just don't know how? I'm just a very serious person and don't laugh or smile. I've tried to be more like everyone else but it is very hard, its just not natural for me. I find it really hard to relate to other people because of this, can anyone give me some advice?

Well, if that is you in your profile picture, i'd say that, if nothing else, you are devastatingly attractive... I mean, wow! You must have a boyfriend, right?

As for the looking serious, I think that many people here are like that. The truth is a heavy burden, especially for young people who are subjected to the multicultural Jewish propaganda via education and the media. Ignorance is bliss, as they say. I can assure you that when things really go postal, the 'happy' people will crumble under their own false illusions.

There is nothing wrong with you that I can see... just try to be yourself. There isn't much to smile about in the modern world.

I look really mad like I'm going to beat everyone up in my immediate vicinity. I really am not like this though.

Well, your profile pic does seem to present a grim expression, somewhere between mildly annoyed and plotting to kill. Personally, I find it quite sexy.

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How do I not look mad, I just don't know how? I'm just a very serious person and don't laugh or smile. I've tried to be more like everyone else but it is very hard, its just not natural for me. I find it really hard to relate to other people because of this, can anyone give me some advice?

Nothing wrong with being generally serious... but a little laughter and smiles ain't gonna kill ya. What do you find amusing? What is the funniest thing you can think of? When is the last time you had a good belly laugh?

And apart from laughter and humour, what do you find entertaining? What would you prefer to be doing on a Friday night? What are your chief interests in life? These are good starting points to finding what kind of people you can relate to.

I look really mad like I'm going to beat everyone up in my immediate vicinity. I really am not like this though. How do I not look mad, I just don't know how? I'm just a very serious person and don't laugh or smile. I've tried to be more like everyone else but it is very hard, its just not natural for me. I find it really hard to relate to other people because of this, can anyone give me some advice?

People at work have told me similar things in the past. I learned to specifically smile or wave when I see them. It seems very "fake" feeling to me, but it makes them happy and they don't go on and on about it anymore.

I'm not a happy-go-lucky type person and when I'm walking or doing something I'm usually only focused on that for better or worse. I'm not thinking about about making friends and appealing to people.

Most people I've found like this (including myself some days) are usually also shy...

I met a great girl a few years back who people used to call "ice lady" because she looked so unfriendly all the time. I started talking to her and she turned out to be really sweet, warm and smart. She was just shy and wasn't comfortable around people she didn't know.

Anyway, I would try not to worry about it too much. If you are really concerned, then try to fake some smiles when you see people; most people will think they're genuine. On the other hand, who cares what these people think? In life you only need a few good people who you can rely on. The rest of the people are just there for background.

I look really mad like I'm going to beat everyone up in my immediate vicinity. I really am not like this though. How do I not look mad, I just don't know how? I'm just a very serious person and don't laugh or smile. I've tried to be more like everyone else but it is very hard, its just not natural for me. I find it really hard to relate to other people because of this, can anyone give me some advice?

I do not joke, I mean to say, take meditation solo. I was taught this recently from my anger from having cancer.

Be open to yourself. Oh I mean no joke. You look mad and don't want to look this way, change it. You have empowerment to do it. But it has to come from within, and from not OUT.

BUT....... remain stone-faced when needed, like Walmart with all the black folks.

What I mean is at home w/in yourself.

I have been gone from SM for a long time, so I don't expect you to take my word - I'm just pitching in.

I look really mad like I'm going to beat everyone up in my immediate vicinity. I really am not like this though. How do I not look mad, I just don't know how? I'm just a very serious person and don't laugh or smile. I've tried to be more like everyone else but it is very hard, its just not natural for me. I find it really hard to relate to other people because of this, can anyone give me some advice?

Trouble with me is, these days, I really AM like that...wanting to beat everyone up in my immediate vicinity, so perhaps I'm not the best one to give you any advice. But here it is anyway:

Smile. Ordinarily I would say just be yourself, but since it seems you are saddened somewhat and want to relate to people more, then you're going to have to fake it because that is just the socialization standard most folks have. I used to fake it once in awhile, and it's served me well enough in the past. Hell, I even used to smile and laugh for real on occasion but I think I've forgotten how, not having done so for almost a year now.