2 Week Separation

My lo is 14 months old and I'm having a tonsillectomy next week. My doctor said if I want to recover properly it would be best if I had someone to take care of my Nick for about 2 weeks until I'm better. This didn't seem like a big deal because I live 2 hours from my hometown and all of the grandparents. My mother in law was more than willing to take Nick during this time but my other mother in law and including my own dad are worried that 2 weeks away from me is going to be too much for him to handle emotionally. But I don't see how I'm supposed to make it work otherwise. Is this going to be too much for my son or do you think some of my family is overreacting? Help me.

My lo is 14 months old and I'm having a tonsillectomy next week. My doctor said if I want to recover properly it would be best if I had someone to take care of my Nick for about 2 weeks until I'm better. This didn't seem like a big deal because I live 2 hours from my hometown and all of the grandparents. My mother in law was more than willing to take Nick during this time but my other mother in law and including my own dad are worried that 2 weeks away from me is going to be too much for him to handle emotionally. But I don't see how I'm supposed to make it work otherwise. Is this going to be too much for my son or do you think some of my family is overreacting? Help me.

I think it will be harder for you than him lol I went on honeymoon (only for a week) just before my son turned one and I was devastated the whole week lol my mother said that while I was gone you could tell he missed me but not to the point where it caused him any real distress! She said he got on with things as normal. The night we got home he was delighted to see us jumping all over us and actually squeaking! He was veeery clingy before i went to the point where people used to pass remark but when I got back he was much better at not being stuck to me every minute of everyday!

I think it will be harder for you than him lol I went on honeymoon (only for a week) just before my son turned one and I was devastated the whole week lol my mother said that while I was gone you could tell he missed me but not to the point where it caused him any real distress! She said he got on with things as normal. The night we got home he was delighted to see us jumping all over us and actually squeaking! He was veeery clingy before i went to the point where people used to pass remark but when I got back he was much better at not being stuck to me every minute of everyday!

I had some pretty big oral surgery done a few weeks back. Recovery was awful. Seeing my son for just a few minutes a day really helped. I just stayed upstairs and my mom would bring him up before his nap. Even though he saw me every day we are now dealing with separation anxiety. It really did effect him (he is 2.5).

I had some pretty big oral surgery done a few weeks back. Recovery was awful. Seeing my son for just a few minutes a day really helped. I just stayed upstairs and my mom would bring him up before his nap. Even though he saw me every day we are now dealing with separation anxiety. It really did effect him (he is 2.5).

I think 2 weeks is a little long personally. Maybe you could stay home and rest for 3-4 days and then finish your recovery at your mother in laws house so you can still be with your son but also someone else will be taking on the responsibilities of caring for him.

I think 2 weeks is a little long personally. Maybe you could stay home and rest for 3-4 days and then finish your recovery at your mother in laws house so you can still be with your son but also someone else will be taking on the responsibilities of caring for him.

Can ur mil come over & watch him? Or someone else? I had a bilateral mastectomy & I stayed in bed with door closed while hubs watched her. It was hard because when she did come in her hands were all over everything! She really brightened my days though.

Can ur mil come over & watch him? Or someone else? I had a bilateral mastectomy & I stayed in bed with door closed while hubs watched her. It was hard because when she did come in her hands were all over everything! She really brightened my days though.

Not the same reason or quite as long, but at 16 months we had a wedding abroad and left my son with my mil for a week. He did fine, and loved the nonstop attention he got from my mil and sil. To help me and my husband, we taught my mil to Skype, and skyped once a day with him. He would say hi and then go play while we got the day's update for my mil. Worked well, and my point is the my son was fine, didn't mind us being gone, and didn't act up when we got back (in fact the day we got back my mil told him mommy and daddy were here and he ran to the computer, but seemed pleasantly surprised to see us in person). And my sister did it recently with her 22 month old who is very clingy and everyone (especially my mom was worried). She did fine for the week as well. Good luck.

Not the same reason or quite as long, but at 16 months we had a wedding abroad and left my son with my mil for a week. He did fine, and loved the nonstop attention he got from my mil and sil. To help me and my husband, we taught my mil to Skype, and skyped once a day with him. He would say hi and then go play while we got the day's update for my mil. Worked well, and my point is the my son was fine, didn't mind us being gone, and didn't act up when we got back (in fact the day we got back my mil told him mommy and daddy were here and he ran to the computer, but seemed pleasantly surprised to see us in person). And my sister did it recently with her 22 month old who is very clingy and everyone (especially my mom was worried). She did fine for the week as well. Good luck.

I try to think of it as a proportion of the lo's life. Two weeks is to a 14 month old what a year would be to me, a 30 year old. If I couldn't see the one most pivotal person in my life, whom I'd always counted on for everything, for a whole year, I would find this traumatic. So I do think two weeks is a bit long for a 14 month old. Nothing your LO can't recover from, but still traumatic. I liked the pp's idea of staying with your family during the recovery so you can continue to see your child regularly.

I try to think of it as a proportion of the lo's life. Two weeks is to a 14 month old what a year would be to me, a 30 year old. If I couldn't see the one most pivotal person in my life, whom I'd always counted on for everything, for a whole year, I would find this traumatic. So I do think two weeks is a bit long for a 14 month old. Nothing your LO can't recover from, but still traumatic. I liked the pp's idea of staying with your family during the recovery so you can continue to see your child regularly.

Thanks for everyone's input. I appreciate it. I don't think I will stay away for two whole weeks. I think it will be just over one week when I'll travel back to get him. My own mother offered to come and get me if I'm missing him too much and take me to my mother in law's to finish recovery with lo.

Thanks for everyone's input. I appreciate it. I don't think I will stay away for two whole weeks. I think it will be just over one week when I'll travel back to get him. My own mother offered to come and get me if I'm missing him too much and take me to my mother in law's to finish recovery with lo.

I had a medical procedure and dr recommended two weeks recovery. I was really laying in bed for 3-4 days straight. My MIL came and took care of LO along with our nanny. I gradually saw him more and more each day. It was nice just to know i could see him and be there if anything happened. She was only at our home one week and i also went back to work after a week. It was tough but I just pushed through and let other areas slide a bit. Good luck!

I had a medical procedure and dr recommended two weeks recovery. I was really laying in bed for 3-4 days straight. My MIL came and took care of LO along with our nanny. I gradually saw him more and more each day. It was nice just to know i could see him and be there if anything happened. She was only at our home one week and i also went back to work after a week. It was tough but I just pushed through and let other areas slide a bit. Good luck!

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