He said:

I am not a welcoming presence—I am reluctant. I do not love the homeless. I argue against everything he says. I am forgetful, unthinking, a poor listener. I do not pursue his family. I do not respect him. I demand instead of discuss.

These things were said in anger but they are not entirely wrong.

...

“I’ve been writing down the things you said so I can really hear you and work on them.”

“Wow really?”

“Yes.I love you.I’m terrible but I haven’t seen it.”

“You’re the same terrible as everyone else.Not worse.Just the same.Me too.”