Posted:27th Feb 2007I'm sometimes shy and sometimes not. I blush easily and I never approach strangers. I am fine on stage though, which is weird. I'm also quite quiet if I don't know most of the people around me. I do get chattier, louder and probably a bit 'over-friendly' once I get talking to someone ), weather I fancy them or not. It's nice having spoken to people online beforehand, it's easier to meet and get along with HOPpers because you already know stuff about them

"I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.." - Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Posted:27th Feb 2007Or, in my case, you fall for someone you just have an intimacy thing with, then they tell you (With their mate) that you're going weird and disown you, only to then change their minds about a group of people they didn't like originally .... and then you realise you weren't acting weird, you were reacting to their head games and that THEY were acting like children etc etc etc

{Slight rant over}

But ... like the Murphys', I'm not bitter .....

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"Enemies you threaten make armies. Enemies you destroy make graves."

"Here is a test to see if your mission on earth is finished: If your alive it isn't."

Posted:27th Feb 2007I met a beautiful boy on Saturday night. Tall, skinny, scruffy hair, amazing smile, very nice aura. Lee caught me looking at him and had a go at me for not going up to talk to him. I just couldn't. I have never been able to. I would go like this and not know what to say!

"I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.." - Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Posted:27th Feb 2007Blu, that's what usually happens to me. What made me start talking to this girl I have no idea, maybe it was because I just did it on instinct rather than thinking about it too much.

Maybe there is something primal in it, the way someone stands or raises their eyebrows, just sparks something off in your head that tells you this is someone you should go over to.

It's a romantic idea I'd love to be true!

Good luck to you too Zen!

Chaos is the natural state of the universe

Some days I'm the pigeon, some days I'm the statue.

honourary militant margerine ninJAH

If it wasn't for displacement activity I wouldn't get half as much done

Posted:27th Feb 2007For me it's all about instincts ... but then, once the initial instincts have gone, and I get to start to know someone and think about things, that's when it goes wrong. Meh.

As for being sooner rather than later - if things would have progressed to something more "formal" instead of it being a dirty little secret then it would have been amazing. Everything pointed to it being great - physically it was ...ahem ... amazing. Mentally there's no-one else like her, emotionally I can't help but respond to her when most people I know barely feature on my radar. She was, and still is, amazing. We had so much in common, same wavelengths on lots of things, but enough differences to keep things new, fresh and interesting.

But, you're right. Better now than a few years down the line or something. Just ... I dunno ... I fell and I'm still falling.

Hence the purchase of weights equipment this weekend and the martial arts stuff I'm going to take a look at (XMA stuff ... ). If it helps to be fit and healthy then it can't hurt, plus I've been meaning to get back to my "hulking" rep from years ago and get some proper training done.

Monserat - Dude, hope it's all going well man, I envy you buddy!

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"Enemies you threaten make armies. Enemies you destroy make graves."

"Here is a test to see if your mission on earth is finished: If your alive it isn't."

Posted:27th Feb 2007Well I'm probably the oldest single here... ok maybe not but this comming friday 02 mar 07 it will be 6 years... sad i know. What is worse than that most girls like me cause I'm nice... yeah living proof nice guys finish last. I swear if a girls says to me she wants to be my friend one more time I wil freak out and become some serial killer or something lol

Posted:27th Feb 2007yep, "you're a really great guy and you'd be the perfect boyfriend for someone, but I just don't like you in that way." Heard that way too many times for it to be funny any more.

No ideas or advice mate, except that it seems like Attractive Members of the Opposite Sex can smell desperation a mile off, and it really puts them off. So the only way it seems you can be in with a chance of finding someone is if you put a lot of effort into not being bothered whether you find someone or not. This is my least favourite paradox.

Posted:27th Feb 2007"If only I could meet someone like you", been there a few times. Only advice I can offer is say 'sod it' and concentrate on enjoying yourself with your friends. Then eventually someone surprises you by taking you seriously for once. (in my experience anyway)

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This is my least favourite paradox.

Sorry but this made me giggle, I love the implication you have a most favourite paradox!!

Still waiting for an answer Let's hope its because her phone is switched off while she's at work.

Chaos is the natural state of the universe

Some days I'm the pigeon, some days I'm the statue.

honourary militant margerine ninJAH

If it wasn't for displacement activity I wouldn't get half as much done

Haha! Good one. I'd probably end up shouting "You just have, dumbazz!" which would ruin any chances, but if she came out with that line all chances were probably already ruined.

Whenever someone says that, it can be one of two things. One is them being really shortsighted, the other is he/she/it/wookie wants to let you know that it's YOU they're after, but doesn't have the balls/ovaries/pupae/cross pollination to say it there and then. Sometimes the people we're fond of are just as shy as we are.