Im fascinated by this as well. The way I understand this wisdom of the body is that your body will tell you if the techniques feel right, or that it is being pushed too much.
I feel that i, too need to meet someone in the future and learn about how to listen more to what my body is telling me.
I read about Wendy Palmer's "The Intuitive Body" for a start, but I find materials towards this direction (Aikido and body awareness and wisdom) sadly lacking.