Like the guy is the more submissive one in the relationship and the girl is more dominating. It has to be young adult. It doesn’t really need to be a romance book, it just needs to have that kind of relationship.
Just as note, I know that there are no truly defined roles for males and females when it comes to romantic relationships, but when I say the roles are reversed, I mean the ones you generally see in literature. Especially since Twilight came out.