So the boyfriend (he isn’t the fiance yet, but I happen to know he is asking my Dad for my hand this weekend!) asked me the other day if I was ok with "upgrading" one day when it came to my ring….basically if I would be disappointed if I got a tiny little ring right now. I of course told him I would marry him with a ring from the dollar store, which is completely true (I would also marry him outside during a blizzard, so you know it’s true love). My question though is, did you get the ring of your dreams right off the bat? Or are you planning to upgrade further down the road? I have never known a bride who didn’t have a STUNNING ring, but we are young, strapped for cash and it is not the most important thing to me. Although I am writing this post, so maybe it is more important to me than I am letting on…..could use some advice here…

You know, my ring isn’t the flashiest, most expensive ring in the world. It isn’t even the ring of my dreams. But truthfully, I’d never upgrade because it was given in love, and now I love it because it’s a part of me!

I love my ring, and even though I’ve been wearing it for 18 months, I still can’t help stopping and staring at it. When my FH proposed, he said that in a few years we would upgrade it because he wanted to get me something bigger. I agree with amandopolis, I love my ring, and I love what it stands for and I would like to think I would never trade it for anything.

My ring might not be big or flashy but it is me, it is mine, given to me by my one and only! Does it really matter what the ring looks like? Or is the fact that he loves you enough to get down on one knee and show his love for you?

So even if you do want an upgrade there is nothing wrong with that if that is what you want! But at least for know you have a "little" something on your finger!

I have my dream diamond, not necessarily the whole ring. I’d love to upgrade (I’m a complete diamond lover) but I won’t because the diamond has sentimental value to me. However, settings are a different story–I’m all for a reset!

I’m really not a huge diamond/jewlery person period. But I love my ring and it’s absolutely my dream ring. The FI designed/picked out each and every single part of my ring (the diamond, the setting, the band) parts were sent back more than once because it wasn’t just right.

And I have to agree with those that would not change a single thing or upgrade. The meaning of it is too precious for me to switch out any part for anything else.

When I first saw my ring, I was confused. My FI asked me what I wanted, my ring is not what I described. However, what I wanted was the common solitaire. I absolutely love my ring. It is so different than any other ring I’ve ever seen. My FI wanted it that way. He said that after seeing all the rings, they all seemed to look the same. He wanted my ring to be different than the rest. What I’m most proud of him for picking it out himself. After what he told me he went through (countless places), I knew I loved it even more. Unfortunately because he was stationed away from our families and friends, he didn’t have that GO TO person. I am so proud of him, and my ring is FAB-U-LOUS

I can’t imagine upgrading it because THIS is the ring he proposed to me, the ring he spent countless hours at the jeweler, gazing at with so much pride as it finally found its perfect spot on my finger, and it says so much more.

Did I get the ring that I had hinted at. NO, but it’s even better than what I expected because it came from Mr. Peeps and it signifies his love and commitment to me. I will confess that I was super worried because I can’t tell a lie. If I didn’t like it, I don’t know what I would have done?

That said, now Mr. Peep doesn’t love the setting because it’s not perfect- he wants to upgrade some day- and I actually don’t. I love the idea of wearing the same ring the rest of my life. But we’ll see if I feel the same way in 10 or 20 years! ha ha.

Oh, PS, I have a sapphire too. It’s more unusual, I love it, and I get compliments from strangers all the time!! And to be honest- I got a big fat sapphire compared to what I would have gotten with a diamond.

I can’t answer the poll because none of the answers apply. The ring that I have is nothing at all like I thought I would want. However, I picked it out myself and so I obviously love it and doubt it will ever be upgraded.

I think that people equate how big the ring is to how much love is behind it, which is silly. If its small and anyone judges you, I say just say you are a sensible kind of girl and there are far better uses for the $$. I know my mom doesn’t wear her wedding or engagement ring, but her 5 year anniversary ring, which was an upgrade for her wedding band (they also got remarried in a church on their 5 so it was approved by the catholic church, the first wedding was really small and in the backyard, mostly because of $$). Also my mom helped pay for her engagment ring I recently found out.

I received my dream ring though I never expected too. We had never discussed rings, and I knew he was the type that would never ask me and would surprise me, but yet I am not the type to just tell him, or leave magazines out, etc. Unfortunately I was in a horrible car accident last September, and while "high" on painkillers (trust me, it wasn’t fun), I ended up blurting out all sorts of things – some things I would have rather kept secret (nothing hurtful or really would have mattered, embarrassing stuff from high school, etc.) and ended up saying that I had a "dream ring". And then my out of my mind self pulls it up to show him – it’s a 40K ring from Tiffany that I would never ever really want purchased. (Don’t hate me yet – it’s not the Tiffany ring).

I was incredibly surprised when my fiance proposed with the dream ring – though thankfully not in the little blue box, as I would have been horrified. It turns out he remembered the specifics of the ring (center stone, pear sides, platinum) and spent 4 months trying to find something that matched that was much more affordable (I don’t know the cost, but would guess under 5K). He started looking in November, planning to propose at Christmas, but couldn’t find the ring in his price range, so it took until March before he found "the ring" at a great price. It’s absolutely beautiful, and I love it. The only compromise he made was white gold instead of platinum (and I don’t think he realized how badly I wanted platinum), but I love it and wouldn’t trade it for anything!

I adore my ring, it’s simple and stunning and perfect. I would prefer not to upgrade, this was given to me with love and I know he put alot of work into choosing it. When we were actually talking about getting engaged I suggested getting a CZ and a real stone later but he freaked right out, he was NOT having any of that. Although really – who would have ever known?