A group for those who have problems talking with their father.
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I haven't told him that yet and so I'm feeling uneasy. But he really doesn't call me or message me at all. He gave me little and made my mother struggle to raise me. She always allowed contact because she thought it was important I knew my father, but now she has asked me not to...

him. He was proud of me when I had an illustrious job(comparatively), but never since. I have tried to make him happy with me for 38 years, and I give up.
I can't be the person he wants me to be. I have bipolar, and managing that is a job in and of itself. I have to live for...

and expect you to achieve good things in your life, that's a good enough reason to keep them in your life. When both or one loves to talk about you behind your back, doubts your abilities or treats you with disrespect, it's time to leave him/her/them behind. For this reason, I...

The last time I spoke to my dad was in 1988. I was 7 years old and can remember all the hospital visits, the ambulance rides, and my mom coming home early from work all the time. My dad's name is Bertrand and he was a great great man. I just wish that I could have spent more time...

.. After stating that I do not need to visit him and have more time with my family.. He now blames me for not visiting him... He never keeps his words and still dares to points fingers at others and insist they too didnt keep their words...

now I'm 16. I used to see my dad once in a while, but now i havent seen him for about 7 months. Im extremely angry with him because of all the suffering he put us through and whenever i see him we have an argument but I realised I miss him. He tries contacting me but i changed...

if you were me!- He was literally the bane of my childhood! My mother left him when I was very young about 4 with my little sister and signed affidavit granting permission for us to take up habitual residence within the United States. 4 years later his lies would lead to a...

and so does he but the problem is he get excited for small things and starts to become nasty. Then after being nasty, he starts smiling, have a calm voice and be apologetic (depends on the situation though). Mum says that i shouldn't mind what he says when he gives out because...

talked to him was last year. He was never really in my life the last time I saw him I was 6. For my 18th birthday he actually sent me a birthday present, it was a DVD with pictures of holidays he spent with his adopted kids and his wife. It made me so sad that he can do so much...

He broke the law in tracking me down and turned up at my door. He asked if he could come in, I refused. He said that he wanted to make things right and said he wanted me to have his winning lottery ticket. This is a man who has previously beaten me and my mother to suicide. My...

he's so clever, he's a teacher in an university, he does chemistry maths and stuff, but I moved to Spain and haven't seen him in 5 years :/ I've never lived with him my mum has done all for me she even works cleaning bathrooms and floors :'( I love her she's so strong, she has 3...

but even when he was, it was like he was a ghost. Most of the time he spent either on his computer or in the game room watching TV and drinking. I knew he could be an awful person, but I never really knew the full extent until I got older. He would get drunk and be...

He isnt a Rolemodel whatsoever. He treats women terribly and he always finds a way to put me down. People think I'm cruel that i dont want a relationship with him. But if you went through what i went through, you'd understand why. I was beaten for putting water in the cat food...

and it was pretty steady, not busy but not slow. I saw someone in my line and realised it was my dad... Preparing for a reunion of sorts with him when I noticed him (because I hadn't seen him in years) he finally got to the front of the line and I just said "hello" very nervous...

so many ways. Violent, dishonest, selfish, ignorant, stubborn, treats his wife like a slave...always sides with others against his family saying nasty things and yelling at us to make others happy, emotionally and mentally abusive towards me and even worse with Mum...The type of...

but later it became clear that he loves my sister a lot more than me. Even my mom noticed it, but my dad keeps denying it and gets angry if i tell him how I feel about it. He starts throwing things and yell at me. But he is trying to talk to...

My father and I were never close. I never thought it was strange until I saw other fathers interacting with their children. He would just come home from work, eat, and watch TV. He wasn't abusive or cruel, just absent. Growing up, I started to hate him. I felt lost, as a young...

Your horrible. Rude. a pervert. and pure evil but the times you did show love is the reason i miss you.
Its all so messed up...
Ill never get the answers im searching for as to why my dad wants to have sex with me or why he doesnt love.me but i made it this long without him. In...

my mom and me. My mom started hating everything and being a horrible person. She would insult me and beat me and my brother. My dad tried to come back once and asked for money but ma and my brother ignored him. He tore our family apart

years. I saw him a few days ago and ran in the other direction before he noticed me. We do not get along and probably never will and while other people have pressured me to fix things, I like things just the way they are. It's sad but since we haven't spoken, times have been...

my mother met this guy. He was the cool guy all the girls wanted to be with. This guy was the cool guy with the truck, and my mom fell for him. He was her first everything. My mom was a good teen, she really never had money, her mom always got beat, and she had many siblings...

talk to. And here is my side of the story:
I separated from my wife when my daughter was 8 years old. Until that time, I was very involved in my daughter's life. I did all the things that all dads do with their children, and perhaps even more. I took my daughter for skiing...

and my dad would come to visit once every 2 years. He used to get us a hotel and not get 2 beds I remember being scared that he would rape me at some point and he always liked the fact that I was thick unlike my mother which is very skinny so he would always grab my thighs. I...

.. He still wants to interfere... Asking me to get everyone together and he wants to settle and makes sure everyone know what is their positions.. See that.. 'Their positions'... Not himself included.. Not sure what he is doing.. Still pointing fingers at everyone accept himself...

but we just don't get along very well. We never agree on anything and we argue about everything so we just don't converse much. Even as a kid I've never liked him and used to wish he'd be more like the other dads I'd see picking up their kids after school. You know, like be a...

but he tried to stay in our lives. He moved back to Alberta while we were in Manitoba. After about a year or two he just stopped talking to us.
We became Facebook friends and we talked again but one day I posted a status about something to do with my mom, kind of joking around...

Thank you dad
Eventhough u weren't around to watch me grow , I find alot of my traits come from you.. I turned out great I wish u could see the little bit of you there is in me. I will never understand why you abandoned me
Or y I wasn't important enough to pursue, I will never...

strangle you and then ship you off to your home country to get married to a forty year old *********. Little does that naive old man know that this worthless piece of s**t is going to get a law degree and land his *** in jail :))

when I was younger then my dad went to jail and basically I hadn't seen him for like 3 years and I has barely spoken to him, even when he got out we didn't see each other or anything like that. I used to be a daddy's girl so when I had first gotten the news that he went to jail...

yes he had sex with my mom and made me, everyone can do that but to actually be a father is a completely diffrent thing. Not having any contact with me until i was 7, just because he had another daugher and son, i was not seen as a child of his. Then he had a seizure and a...

for many reasons. 1 he is an ignorant abusive ****. when I was just a baby my mother would sleep around and my dad would find out about it so he would beat her. I asked him why he beat on my mother and that's what he told me. when me and my brothers we're just kids around 6 and...

When I was younger my dad abused us physically and mentally. My mom had to call the cops to get him out of the house when I was 7. Untill 9-6-13 I still saw him, he yelled at me to the point I cried. He gave me the guilt trip, which was how he controlled us before, so it hit me...

and made me a slave, passing me around to his other children who also abused me and their uncles from the time I was six till my mom left him for other reasons when I was ten. She took her children with her and I've never seen or spoken to him since.

Dear Dad:
I don't know you!
You were gone most of my life, and I realized you knew where I was you just didn't decide to visit. You blame my grandmother, but if you really wanted to be part of my life, you would've overcome any obstacles to get to me.&nbsp...

the other day with him not realising I was his daughter (I served him at my work and he didn't no who I was) he had the guts to say "it's not my fault I didn't realise it was you. You don't make any effort to come and see me so how should I know who you are?" At that moment I...

Some times i feel like wearing a huge "TALK TO ME" sign like the one in this group's profile pic only that mine would also have "CANT U SEE ME U FOOL!!" It is very frustrating to talk to someone who barely notices ur presence trust me i have tried. He doesn't live with us...

This man helped bring me into this world but he would later shatter my world into tiny pieces. He done unimaginable things ... things you shouldn't do to a child, or anyone for that matter. I loved him though ... he was my father and to be honest with you i knew no different, i...