(Closed) Is it okay to ask for your bouquet back after the toss?

I want to have a brooch bouquet or a fabric bouquet. I was just wondering what the proper etiquette is in terms of getting your bouquet back after the toss? I have never seen what happens after the bouquet scramble at weddings.

What is the best thing to do? Ask for it back or just skip the toss altogether?

@DesertLady: Have you thought about getting a “throw bouquet”? So you actually get to keep yours, but throw a smaller one for someone else to keep?

Or you could just throw one of your bridesmaid’s bouquets, if you’re having them. I don’t see why that wouldn’t work.

I caught the bouquet at a wedding once. I took it home! It survived the plane ride in my suitcase (LOL) but once I put it in water it did perk up for a few days… but then it just got so ratty to the point where I had to chuck it 😛

Throwing a brooch bouquet is a crazy idea not to mention dangerous. Add to it that yes it is a touch rude to ask for the thrown bouquet back.

I would have to agree with the PP that you need a toss bouquet. That is what I had and it didn’t cost more than a couple bucks. If you want to make it yourself just go to a florist and grab a few stems to put together or have them do it.

@DesertLady: I have caught three bouquets and I’ve always asked the bride whether she wanted to have her bouquet back. (she never did though.) if the bride had come to me and asked to have it back, I would have totally understood and not thought twice about it. For me as a guest / single lady, this is just about the symbolism and hopefully good luck. As the bride, it really is about the bouquet, so if I am lucky enough to catch it I sure don’t mind not keeping it.

I wouldn’t spend any extra money on a different bouquet. Especially if you’re DIYing such a fancy bouquet, it should be quite clear that you’d wanna have that back. But then I consider myself to be less “etiquette” and more “common sense” if that makes sense?

@DesertLady: Just get a cheap toss bouquet. At the weddings I’ve been to/in, the bride buys a 2nd silk bouquet (even if she had real flowers) from a craft store or something. The one I tossed was, like, $12 (as opposed to $40 for my silk one that I walked down the aisle with/kept.

Plus I think if you hurled a brooch bouquet, someone could get hurt lol

My best friend and I are each others MOH’s this year in our upcoming weddings. We agreed to give up each other’s bouquets for the bride to toss. Also, my florist said she’d make a complimentary one out of left over bouquet flowers. There’s 2 options.