Leaders, Followers and Those In Between

I’ve been thinking about natural order lately. Partially because of my past, partially because of my future but also because of my present. Have you noticed, everything appears to have the ability to be split into thirds? Birth, life, death. Roots, trunk, leaves. Even the best photographs are ones in which the composition is split into thirds.

And yet, we refer to people as “leaders” and “followers.” This isn’t just in business, but also in our personal lives.

I submit a third classification: Chameleons.

The people who can be either leaders or followers, as needed. They’re not true leaders, they are able to emulate true leaders. They just as easily fill the role of follower.

When corporations and business people speak of being “promoted to the level of incompetence,” Chameleons are the people being promoted in these cases. Consider this: they have been promoted to a position where a role model is lacking. Chameleons can perform in nearly any role as long as there is someone to emulate. Without a role model in their present or past, they become lost.
They are not true leaders, they don’t know how to forge ahead without a blueprint.

Currently, individualism is revered, I suspect many Chameleons are feeling lost and afraid because they are uncomfortable with finding their individualism.

Individualism doesn’t feel natural to a Chameleon. In reading the book, I realize I know several people who could easily fall within a BPD diagnosis. I have amazing stories of people in my life who have elicited Chameleon-like behavior. Stories that made no sense until I read the book about BPD and began to understand the personality traits involved.

I’m not suggesting that all Chameleon’s would be diagnosed with BPD, like any positive or negative trait, there are variances in the intensity of the behavior, just like there are variances in shades of hair color.

I wonder how self-perception may improve for individuals diagnosed with BPD, if they understood their true purpose was for a greater good?

Perhaps society wil realize that being a good follower is just as important as knowing how to lead, because one role would not exist without the other. I wonder when, and if, society will recognize Chameleons and the role they fulfill within our natural order.

Raised with hopes, dreams and a desire to make my mark on the world, I set out with excitement and the desire to contribute to the "Greater Good." I took a side trip to raise children and support my husband's career only to realize that "I" got lost along the way. I believe we could have traveled together if we'd both understood the importance of equality and the necessity of evolving roles in the family. My dream is that in the future, all couples will understand the importance of supporting each other fully in word AND deed so each can live in a respectful relationship filled with truth and love. Read More…