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Well, Matty the Damned won't read them, but he is happy to organise for them to burnt. The whole scherang; huge bonfire in the town square at night, baying crowd of slack jawed onlookers, angry speeches denouncing you. You know the drill.

Now, now Queenie you know the rules...if you don't like books just say so..

HugsJan

My Dearest Jan,

Now what gives you that idea, I don't like books? I must admit I haven't picked one up in awhile but likes to read stuff like Anne Rice, got to get the one about the witches since I read the vamp chronicles, Stephen King because his books are better than the tv adaptations and when I am feeling raunchy I will read some Jackie Collins..... But then sometimes I just want to look at the pretty pictures so I will go over to my best friend's house and glance at some Playgirl......

Can't say I've read or seen a Playgirl magazine...but I found plenty of Playboy magazines hidden around the house when the boys were in their teens...at least I think they belonged to the boys, never did ask my hubby if he knew anything about them...

My books cover a wide variety of things. One book is more of a personal diary about having HIV, being heterosexual, how we were deceived growing up by the Reagan Administration when AIDS first came out, the trials and tribulations that you go through, the abandoment by friends and family and it goes on to talk about how stonger it makes a person after breaking you down. It also describes how motive is given after finding out I was POZ to be an example for men like me and how it's ok to have this set back. The sad thing is I realize I am at the forefront of a new generation of HIV victims in America and despite that I see an opportunity.

The other books talk about global reform both socially and economically and gives ideas and explains them so that we can change. It is basically things most of you have not the slightest idea about.

The third book speaks about the demise of America and how we will crumble within due to our vices, mainly greed and what I call "the squabble of hierarchy". It talks about the lack of a push to advance science and how this will help lead to our unwraveling. It reveals stunning similarities to America and the great empires of the past and how we follow in their footsteps each day.

Of course the matierials cover many other things but this is not even a teaser I've told you. There is much more.

Amazing but when can I expect a reply to your other thread Sun? Funny, how you can go on to say you are going to write or have started writing some books but I can't even get a reply to why you are a womanizer...I really would like an explanation since you seem to have the words to start 3 books but not the words to answer me. As you can see, I am not willing to let it go. So why not just answer the question, I need closure.....

sunonce again i ask you, why not get involved in some community education programmes? or if there arent any you like why not start your own? having these discussions here doesnt change anything. going out there does.

My books cover a wide variety of things. One book is more of a personal diary about having HIV, being heterosexual, how we were deceived growing up by the Reagan Administration when AIDS first came out, the trials and tribulations that you go through, the abandoment by friends and family and it goes on to talk about how stonger it makes a person after breaking you down. It also describes how motive is given after finding out I was POZ to be an example for men like me and how it's ok to have this set back. The sad thing is I realize I am at the forefront of a new generation of HIV victims in America and despite that I see an opportunity.

this especially speaks to me. ignoring certain comments you have made regarding women, if you really feel what you have written above then i challenge you to get out there among the negative and uneducated population and CHANGE THINGS

"I'm not keen on the idea of the afterlife - not without knowing who else will be there and what the entertainment will be. Personally I'd rather just take a rest." Oscar Berger, PWA: Looking AIDS in the Face, 1996. RIP.

Hmm, who knows, he may even invite you to one of his parties with the blowjob ninjas. Don't forget to bring your cam for those applying to Blowjob Ninja Academy, so they can see what they need to do to pass the oral exam..

Amazing but when can I expect a reply to your other thread Sun? Funny, how you can go on to say you are going to write or have started writing some books but I can't even get a reply to why you are a womanizer...I really would like an explanation since you seem to have the words to start 3 books but not the words to answer me. As you can see, I am not willing to let it go. So why not just answer the question, I need closure.....

Queen-

I am not a womanizer. Its just just men are better. We're bigger, we own everything and we actually think with our heads rather than our emotions. If you believe in God (I'm agnostic) then we came first, women were made from us not to mention the fact that this nation was founded by men and our society is male dominated. So you tell me, why am I the way I am? Maybe because it is embedded in our culture just like it is in most cultures. Understand? Yet that is not to say we should not respect women, they are humans just like us. They have all the rights we have and rightfully so. Without women there would be no men. Women offer a different perspective on life than we do, thus giving us the ability to make the right and moral choices. As an african american woman you should know this, that way of thinking is far more evident than in my culture. Just look at rap videos, NBA stars, NFL players, Gangs, african-amercian fraternities, all exemplify male dominance. Are you going to tell me you don't see this? Our government, society and economy are dominated by men. So why the shock?

I am not a womanizer. Its just just men are better. We're bigger, we own everything and we actually think with our heads rather than our emotions. If you believe in God (I'm agnostic) then we came first, women were made from us not to mention the fact that this nation was founded by men and our society is male dominated. So you tell me, why am I the way I am? Maybe because it is embedded in our culture just like it is in most cultures. Understand? Yet that is not to say we should not respect women, they are humans just like us. They have all the rights we have and rightfully so. Without women there would be no men. Women offer a different perspective on life than we do, thus giving us the ability to make the right and moral choices. As an african american woman you should know this, that way of thinking is far more evident than in my culture. Just look at rap videos, NBA stars, NFL players, Gangs, african-amercian fraternities, all exemplify male dominance. Are you going to tell me you don't see this? Our government, society and economy are dominated by men. So why the shock?

quoting this to make sure it stays around. glad your TO gave you some quality time for introspection.

and i agree: let's respect women...even though they aren't as good as us and aren't capable of rational thought.

Woman was made from mans rib to stand by his side...not from his ankle to be beneath him.

Teresa

Correct me if I'm wrong but women have just as many rights as men do and even moreso if you ask me with affirmative action and sexual harrassment laws. I never said women are lesser humans only that men make out better. Take a look around you. We get paid more, we get more awards, we own more, we are not affected by as many stds, we rule the world-and beyond, we are idolized by both sexes (few men want to be like women as opposed to a lot of women wanting to be like men)....the list can go on and on. I have not met a man yet that wishes he was like Oprah or Martha Stewart, and they're rich. From a religious perspective we were created in the image of god and woman from us. I'm stating the obvious here.

I am not a womanizer. Its just men are better. We're bigger, we own everything and we actually think with our heads rather than our emotions.

This is classic maladaptive thinking Sun. Indicative of a complete lack of maturity in your attitudes concerning intimate relationships and your expressions of intimacy, power, and control. The principles and beliefs that you espouse reveal significant empirical and conceptual limitations. If placing the sexes in a hierarchical order facilitates dichotomous thinking for you so be it. Dichotomous logic based on erroneous or faulty information is usually distorted and leads unrealistic expectations further eroding relationships while contributing to dysfunctional interaction. In short your world is a self-fulfilling delusional fantasy.

Sun, you are but a ticking time bomb with regards to relationships and your beliefs as to the place of women in your world. It’s but a matter of time before you will physically harm a woman. Yes, I meant that. You will harm them, if not worse, when they fail to live down to your expectations. It will likely be a woman who calls bullshit on your misogynistic view of life. For your own good, for the good of all around you might want to consider some therapy. And in the meantime refrain from any relationships with women. No matter how downtrodden and deserving they may be of your magnanimous godlike presence.

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Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly,Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile.

I am not a womanizer. Its just just men are better. We're bigger, we own everything and we actually think with our heads rather than our emotions.

You know Sunny boy, if you are gonna go out on a limb on something then you really should see it through and not pretend you didn't say it. You may rationalize all you want about the meaning, but the meaning of what you think you might have kinda said is not what you actually said in print.

Frankly I think you need to apologize about this and own up to it like a man.

we are not affected by as many stds, we rule the world-and beyond, we are idolized by both sexes (few men want to be like women as opposed to a lot of women wanting to be like men)....the list can go on and on. I have not met a man yet that wishes he was like Oprah or Martha Stewart, and they're rich. From a religious perspective we were created in the image of god and woman from us. I'm stating the obvious here.

You have GOT to be kidding. More STDs? OK, guess I need to read up on that one. "Few men want to be like women...." That's a very bold generalization. Oprah and Martha aren't the only rich women in the world.

Sun, when are you going to stop bashing women? We are all equal. EQUAL, especially in these Forums. Now c'mon and cut us, cut everyone, a break, with your trying to please all of us.

Wow. I am impressed. You have a vocab equal to mine. I bet 95% of the people on this board would not know the meaning of dichotomous without looking it up. You put a smile on my face. If I may I ask, are you a man or woman?

I would like to lament that I would never hurt a woman physically. I never even thought about it. Some women deserve a mental beat down just as some men do but nothing physical. Think total mind f*ck. I saw a friend of a friend slap a woman down once and it made me vomit. I opened the door to the limo and kicked him out the door.

This is classic maladaptive thinking Sun. Indicative of a complete lack of maturity in your attitudes concerning intimate relationships and your expressions of intimacy, power, and control. The principles and beliefs that you espouse reveal significant empirical and conceptual limitations. If placing the sexes in a hierarchical order facilitates dichotomous thinking for you so be it. Dichotomous logic based on erroneous or faulty information is usually distorted and leads unrealistic expectations further eroding relationships while contributing to dysfunctional interaction. In short your world is a self-fulfilling delusional fantasy.

Sun, you are but a ticking time bomb with regards to relationships and your beliefs as to the place of women in your world. Itís but a matter of time before you will physically harm a woman. Yes, I meant that. You will harm them, if not worse, when they fail to live down to your expectations. It will likely be a woman who calls bullshit on your misogynistic view of life. For your own good, for the good of all around you might want to consider some therapy. And in the meantime refrain from any relationships with women. No matter how downtrodden and deserving they may be of your magnanimous godlike presence.

Wow. I am impressed. You have a vocab equal to mine. I bet 95% of the people on this board would not know the meaning of dichotomous without looking it up. You put a smile on my face. If I may I ask, are you a man or woman?

Well, before you get too impressed with yourself: it's "profit"...not "prophet"

You have GOT to be kidding. More STDs? OK, guess I need to read up on that one. "Few men want to be like women...." That's a very bold generalization. Oprah and Martha aren't the only rich women in the world.

Sun, when are you going to stop bashing women? We are all equal. EQUAL, especially in these Forums. Now c'mon and cut us, cut everyone, a break, with your trying to please all of us.

It never ends here. Sheesh.

Do your homework, Cindy. Bold generalization? Maybe, but it's true. Again I am not bashing chicks, I'm stating the obvious. The original conversation was between me and Queen who accused me as a womanizer. I simply gave her a run-down of what the world already knows.