LeaT's Posts - Atheist Nexus2015-03-31T18:15:36ZLeaThttp://www.atheistnexus.org/profile/LeaThttp://api.ning.com/files/HmsNCuI4-iBhY93wZdw02380vGJM9ikb2kSZc1kZgIKxkXHybDGLJ4MclPfBzNcoEDHTAmvKhAUe3sl51ku04iFee2aT4daQ/600pxKissing_Prairie_dog_edit_3.jpg?width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://www.atheistnexus.org/profiles/blog/feed?user=12d0jhxjjfu0g&xn_auth=noLove stretching cultural borderstag:www.atheistnexus.org,2008-08-09:2182797:BlogPost:758252008-08-09T20:30:00.000ZLeaThttp://www.atheistnexus.org/profile/LeaT
I think most people would agree that love is a strange thing. When you are in love, you loose all logic and reason. The newest way to fall in love is internet dating, which has become immensely popular during the past years. However, internet dating aside, the MMO community has recently caused a lot of weddings to be held all over the world, made people marry each other despite cultural differences, language barriers and huge distances keeping the lovers apart. It has also maybe quite…
I think most people would agree that love is a strange thing. When you are in love, you loose all logic and reason. The newest way to fall in love is internet dating, which has become immensely popular during the past years. However, internet dating aside, the MMO community has recently caused a lot of weddings to be held all over the world, made people marry each other despite cultural differences, language barriers and huge distances keeping the lovers apart. It has also maybe quite ironically been proven in several surveys that people who meet on the internet first will have a higher probability to stick with each other in the future, compared to normal dating. Of course it depends on the way the "dating" is done, meeting a normal person on the street is more or less determined by looks and other physical aspects such as pheromones, while you are more attracted by personality through a sort of internet dating, assuming the person is indeed honest about him/herself.<br />
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However, with the MMOs, there is a little to no aspect of dating involved, since building a social network is not what MMOs are about in comparison to internet dating sites. MMO games are also generally played by males in their mid-30s, according surveys, and unless you are a homosexual single, dating in MMOs seems like grasping for strays of hay. It should also be noted that most males in their mid-30s are also settled down and already have started to have a family. Still, it feels like MMO games might be better than internet dating, just because MMO games will <i>not</i> attract the fake people. When you play an MMO game, you play it to hang out with people having a similar interest like you, namely playing that very MMO game. Anything else is just not relevant of who you truly are IRL. In the world of MMOing, only your player skills matters. That is also why I believe strong relationships built up in an MMO environment are always more sincere and true, because the only reason you actually talk to that person is because you like that person because that person has a nice personality, not because you saw that person had a very sexy photo of him/herself and seemed interesting on paper. Just people a person happened to share a lot of interests with you, it doesn't mean you will automatically become friends.<br />
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Which I also find quite sad is how meeting someone who is not from your culture is most often a little frowned upon, and to marry that person even more frowned upon, but it is also a part of how international our world is becoming. Maybe instead of frowning we should embrace it, since it obviously makes people happy, why take that away? I don't think people who has never been in the situation of having a distance relationship really understand why someone would like to go through it in the first case. For them it seems crazy and just painful, and indeed, it can be very painful but it also depends a lot on your own attitude. I think in the end, in terms of love, most people probably prefer a sort of carpe diem, because that's what they are told to do. If you realize you love someone who is loving you back, it would be very strange to say "no, I don't want this sort of development of our relationship because I will just get hurt" because your mind says to you you want to be with this person, no matter what. Is it being a slave to your hormones? No idea. In any case, I am not sure if you would become more happy saying "no" than if you said "yes". In a way, it seems like an easy solution to say "no" without trying, because of what might happen, but you can't know it will happen until it happens. But saying "no" will probably ruin the relationship as much since it has obviously passed that sort of stage where a normal friendship is no longer possible in such a sense, since obviously, stronger feelings <i>are</i> involved after all. You cannot revert one feeling to another even though you might want to, and that is all completely done out of the fear getting hurt.<br />
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With that I just wanted to conclude that love is a strange thing. People fall in love despite cultural differences and they might live in a country which is not even their own mothercountry. A person I knew had a Finnish mother and a Dutch father and they lived in Sweden. A typical example of multiculture. They were certainly a no less happy family than any other family I have met where both partners came from the same country. We should really cast away those superstitions about what is as accepted as a partner and what isn't. Why does it matter? It's all love, when you are in that situation it's not like you can say, "no, I don't want to because people will start to alienate from me just because I don't follow the recommended rules of what a partner should be like", since you obviously already are in love. If you in such situations actually bend yourself to follow what people are expecting from you, I would just like to say, get a grip about yourself. Who is actually going to control your life and what defines your happiness? It is <i>your</i> life and no one elses, so you are basically free to do whatever you want. If people complain you are also as free to tell to shut the fuck up, may they even be your own family.<br />
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I just wanted to lastly say, I think you know I love you and I do love you very much and I have probably loved you ever since we actually met for the first time so many years ago... And I just hope somewhere in the future that maybe we can do something, because I know you understand me now, maybe better than I ever expected it to be from you, it is a very hard situation and I still feel incredibly confused by these turn of events, but now in restrospect I realize, maybe it was always meant to be this way. Life and love are such strange things really... Still I don't feel unhappy, quite the opposite even though you left me now and I miss you terribly. I feel life has just given me so many more opportunities of which I am happy for, because I hate to give up, always, carpe diem, what else would we otherwise live for since we only live once? If I could manage all those years, I think I can manage many more.The common rudeness of peopletag:www.atheistnexus.org,2008-07-24:2182797:BlogPost:537912008-07-24T12:00:00.000ZLeaThttp://www.atheistnexus.org/profile/LeaT
One thing which strikes me since I work in a telephone all day is how rude some people are. My work is to be a telemarketing seller, I think I am quite adept at my work and I can't say I perform worse than anyone else here. Telemarketing is a little about luck, sometimes people never respond, sometimes you never reach the wanted recipient. In any case, one thing which is quite noted in this work is how rude people are when responding to you in the telephone. It's as if they can be a little…
One thing which strikes me since I work in a telephone all day is how rude some people are. My work is to be a telemarketing seller, I think I am quite adept at my work and I can't say I perform worse than anyone else here. Telemarketing is a little about luck, sometimes people never respond, sometimes you never reach the wanted recipient. In any case, one thing which is quite noted in this work is how rude people are when responding to you in the telephone. It's as if they can be a little extra rude because you don't see each other face to face.<br />
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While I understand that some people have bad days and some people get constantly called from other telemarketing sellers all the time, imagine to be in my shoes for once! For some reason telemarketing sellers are not seen as people, they are seen as a nuisance. I become happy when people treat me kindly from the other side of the telephone line.<br />
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Often people just say "no, no, no" when I present myself and from which company I call from, sometimes people just put on the hook before I am able to finish, sometimes people put on the hook without saying bye. I am quite positive people would not respond like this in other instances, ONLY towards telemarketing people.<br />
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Why are we seen as a pest instead of what we are? Young people trying to earn our own money because we fail to get any other type of work because they demand a basic requirement of either a driver's license or some sort of education and/or previous experiences in the working field of choice. Undoubtly, if people were in my shoes, I think they would feel a little more sympathy towards us who can only get such work.<br />
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Think like this:<br />
I work the least wanted days during the week; once summer ends we will go back to normal worktime which ranges from 17.00-20.30. The time most people want to be home. Also imagine to constantly meet people like YOU, people who say "no, no, no!" and throw the damn phone on the hooker before you can even finish your sentence, people who don't even try to sound a little nice while they are talking, people who obviously are not listening to what you say, people who can't even arse to say bye once the conversation is over, people who become furious just because you happened to call at all. No, that doesn't sound like such a nice work anymore, does it? Why in the world would someone ever like to work at such places? Like I said before, the reason is that students in particular lack the right education and previous working experience to actually finance themselves with any sort of real work. Do you want to get into a serious company doing anything else but telemarketing, chances are that you or your family must know an employee within that company which can control what people are to be recruited.<br />
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Also imagine what I must do every day except having to stand with the obviously rude people. I have to sound nice, I have to sound like I believe in what I do, I have to live with a crap salary far below an acceptable living standard even for a full-time worker because I only work towards a commission based salary, which means I only earn money for each sell I do. Thus, my income can range a lot depending whether it's a good or a bad day. By working here I hope I can get enough money so I can finish my studies without taking loans, and then I can finally search for a DECENT job. I know that my experience is not very different from many other students and young people who fail to get other jobs because of lack of education and previous working experience.<br />
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So please, I beg you, next time you hear a telemarketing seller, is it too much to ask to at least sound a little NICE? This is what I have to do all day no matter how bad I feel, no matter how much I want to scream "oh my god shut the fuck up you fucking idiot. Stop act like a selfish bitch". So all I ask, just act a little nice, everyone will win on that, and you can help me to make me feel my work isn't so bad which it actually is.Astraltag:www.atheistnexus.org,2008-07-07:2182797:BlogPost:66512008-07-07T22:30:00.000ZLeaThttp://www.atheistnexus.org/profile/LeaT
Between the great and sublime<br />
We lie down to sleep<br />
Near the calm of trees<br />
We breathe heavily<br />
Watching up at the starry sky<br />
Seeing which cannot be seen<br />
Feeling only what our bodies cannot feel<br />
Is this the end of the world?<br />
Between the earth and the skies<br />
In the embracement of light<br />
We are fulfilled<br />
"There is so much more to be said<br />
There is so much more to be done"<br />
We hear they whisper<br />
While we rest underneath the heavy crowns<br />
"Run with us<br />
"Come join us over the open fields"<br />
And we get up on our…
Between the great and sublime<br />
We lie down to sleep<br />
Near the calm of trees<br />
We breathe heavily<br />
Watching up at the starry sky<br />
Seeing which cannot be seen<br />
Feeling only what our bodies cannot feel<br />
Is this the end of the world?<br />
Between the earth and the skies<br />
In the embracement of light<br />
We are fulfilled<br />
"There is so much more to be said<br />
There is so much more to be done"<br />
We hear they whisper<br />
While we rest underneath the heavy crowns<br />
"Run with us<br />
"Come join us over the open fields"<br />
And we get up on our feet<br />
The wind carry us forward<br />
At the edge we stop looking down<br />
Throwing ourselves...<br />
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To fade into the darkness with the stars<br />
No one ever saw us falling