Mostly I find whatever the size of the peener, it seems to be more the attitudes about sex that makes anyone good in bed. I've had boyfriends who whatever the size were lazy and just expected me to orgasm from penetration alone, current beau has a rule about making me orgasm before piv sex.

_________________I was really surprised the first time I saw a penis. After those banana tutorials, I was expecting something so different. -Tofulish

You're more than welcome to do so. And absolutely anyone is welcome to say "for me, no self-fulfilling prophecy at all, bigger is better"

I'm just saying that for me, no self-fulfilling prophecy at all, I don't find dick size to be any indicator of how good a sexual experience I'm about to have. And I have a hard time believing that other men's (I obviously can't speak for women) penile experiences are so incredibly far removed from my own, as opposed to being influenced by porn and popular opinion.

For me, dick size has not been an indicator at all either. But that's not to say Dan is right, I've had great experiences with really large guys too. Just really all so different, I would never start making assumptions based on size.

Not totally right for this thread, as no sex was had, but it's also not crushy or online dating...

So, I've been kind of making friends/flirty with this guy who I met because he's a customer where I work. We've met up at a specific dance night a couple times casually, chatted at my work, but never hung out otherwise. So I asked him out for a drink, I was thinking we'd just be good candidates for friends, he's a half-time parent of three and super Mr. successful professional, as well as being female-bodied and not on T (I usually am not attracted to guys unless they're on T or cis). I am however, pretty attracted to him, he's pretty damn hot. But I definitely had the intention of friends.

Anyways, we went out for that drink last night, talked a lot, getting-to-know-you kind of thing. Once we'd had a good deal of drinks and had been there a while, he asked if me asking him for a drink was ______ (don't want to use the wrong words as I don't remember how he worded it but I think you get my drift). I told him my intention was a friend thing but that I do think he's definitely hot and have thought of it. We talked about sex a bunch then, he asked me a lot about what I'm into, told me about what he's into. It was hot and it's pretty much a perfect match sexually... but then he also started really expressing how he's got all these boundaries and it takes him a long time etc and it seemed like he was back pedaling. But he did say we should hang out again so I don't know. Kind of annoyed now that I know how perfect for me he seems, sexually. Damn it! He said he thinks of himself as a Daddy, and he said some things that make him seem super rough... ungh... oh he also said that when him and his ex were talking about opening their relationship before it ended (so probably spring) that she asked him once if he had anyone in mind and he said 'that flower boy at [where I work]'. Dudes, this was totally before I even knew who he was at all!

Mostly though, even though there seems to be a lot of good signs here, I'm left with the impression that he'd rather just be friends now. So, feeling embarrassed for being so enthusiastic about the idea when I really did just intend to be friends! But now that I know what he likes there's no way I'm going to stop wanting it. Argh.

i hope you got yourself a pillow or something. as the self-appointed guardian of your butt, i am here to say You, Take Care of That asparagus!! If i have to hear about another cup of pus, i'm going to pull.this.car.right.over. Mmmmm!

i hope you got yourself a pillow or something. as the self-appointed guardian of your butt, i am here to say You, Take Care of That asparagus!! If i have to hear about another cup of pus, i'm going to pull.this.car.right.over. Mmmmm!

Haha, well that problem was totally unrelated! It was on my tailbone and had nothing to do with my anus! Unless you mean like being in certain positions would rub that spot, then that could be true. But I really think falling forkin hard on it rollerskating was the real trigger for it worsening. :P

I'm learning to come on request, kind of. When we have sex my bf orders me not to come until he says so, and amazingly I manage to hold on until he allows me. And this is building a reflex so that even if we are not having sex and he's just touching me for a minute or so, and then he says "come, now", I do. It's awesome.

_________________I dunno, I guess I just get enthused over eating big ol' squishy balls. - Interrobang?!

I'm learning to come on request, kind of. When we have sex my bf orders me not to come until he says so, and amazingly I manage to hold on until he allows me. And this is building a reflex so that even if we are not having sex and he's just touching me for a minute or so, and then he says "come, now", I do. It's awesome.

I had a crazy hott sex dream a few nights ago about a friend of mine. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. Luckily he doesn't live in my town and I don't have to look him in the eye while I'm daydreaming about humping him, but even texting with him has felt so sexually tense and loaded.

I have no idea what happened, what changed or shifted in the world but Mr8 and I just had sex like we used to when our relationship was new. All at once I saw all the things in him that made me fall in love with him when he had only so much as shook my hand. It was precise and controlled and passionate all at the same time, and didn't hurt at all (I've been having problems for around two years with pain on penetration.). It's been a long time since I last saw this, but occasionally something about the way he looks changes, as though his eyes turn a much darker shade of brown, almost black, with something predatory about him. It's so forking hot. I was shaking afterwards.