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First boyfriend ... All of my boyfriends were named David , except for Mark First sexual experience .... Playing doctor with Mitzi and TerryFirst Gay Bar .... Belles in Birmingham AlabamaFirst Gay Porn... I don't remember .... but it did not pay very much .

I can't remember my first boyfriends name -- that's how lame he was. Actually I kind of had two "first boyfriends" because my first gay experience was a 3-way, and after that I kind of dated both of them but separately. One of them had fake blue contacts, a professional dye job and came from a moneyed Main Line family, while the other one was excessively handsome, Italian, dark featured and had a large cock -- but his felating skills were so abysmal that it left my genitalia scarred each session. Neither of these guys lasted more than a month or two at most -- Mr. Wealthy's shrink told him that I didn't sound like a nice person and that he should sever things, or so he claimed. ORLY? The Italian came to visit me over the summer at my parents in Virginia and we were caught making out in a car by local authorities, but I managed to pull off some lie and nothing was really done.

I'm not sure what my first sexual experience was -- I think I felt up every guy in the neighborhood by the time I was 10.

Actually now that I think about it I guess my first gay bar was either Fielden's or Scandals in Richmond, but not sure which one. I don't think I should count Poseurs in DC as it was only 50% gay, but I went there in high school.

And that porn I mentioned was my first video -- I guess my "real" first porn purchase were copies of Blueboy and Honcho my senior year of high school. Johnny Harden was on one cover, and Lee Ryder on the other -- THAT is all VERY clear to me.

1. A cute Chinese twink from Singapore.2. Some dude in Atlanta who looked a lot like Noah Wylie.3. Difficult to remember -- maybe Neighbours?4. My first was also my last. It's all so staggeringly boring.

My first bf was also the first one to pop my cherry to none other than Prince's When Doves Cry on Memorial Day. My first and only gay bar I have been to is here called The Zone. I can't remember the name of the first gay porn I saw but I remember saying, "what a waste of a good cock". Hey what can I say, it is the only time you will hear of me hating on a gay man. You guys are some sexy bitches and I mean that as a compliment, of course.

First Boyfriend: Jr. High, Doug...we sat next to each other in band, I played French Horn, he played Baritone. He also coerced me to remove my socks , whereupon he would caress my ankles, run his fingertips along my arms, hold my hand as it rested in the bell of the French Horn, and would whisper in my ear that he loved me forever. Though that was the extent of it, he is burned into my memory, forever.

First Sex: Freshman in College '71. Craig. He was in my bowling class and had been 'out' for most of the quarter due do hurting his wrist. He drove a 69, Sky Bue, white leather, convertible, Bonneville, Pontiac. At a Drive In, I did not see the show...we were under a blanket in the back seat in the summer. I was absolutely miserable from the heat as he introduced me to 'being as one"....later, at a park at the lake, same blanket on the grass..again miserable from all the bugs...and it was still hot....I don't like to be hot and sweaty with bugs crawling on me.

First Gay Bar: Robbie's Yum Yum Tree in Pensacola Florida '72. It was "L" shaped with drag shows. One side was straight and the other was gay. When I met my first drag queen, I made her 'up' her dress and 'show me"... Don't want to 'up' Mark King but I knew Rock Hudson before he did. Hudson had an aunt that lived in Biloxi he would visit all the time. No, he did not give me Aids. Most bars along the coast were not 'bars' but houses that everyone would gather at and someone would play piano and we would sing and drink. If it was a real bar, you had to know where it was and some would actually want some kind of password to get in, if not you had to buy a membership. I used to have a wallet full of Membership cards to places I had only been in once, as the hurricane wiped the coast clean... but, you never knew, they might rebuild so you hung onto them.

First Gay Porn: It was a local publication called "David" in New Orleans, Mobile and Pensacola. It would have articles on what was happening and give a list of known gay establishments and had some soft porn....Playgirl ...I had a stack of them in my closet..then my sisters discovered them, and they went missing..

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"I may not be exactly where I want to be, but I sure as Hell am not where I was" Wynnona Judd

Diagnosed/HIV1993AZTNorvir1994-2001Crixivan/Epivir/ZeritNo Meds for 7 Years

Roughly roundabout somewhere in the eighteenth or nineteenth century, Sodomite begat Homosexual out of moral, medical and legal models, bequeathing him Identity, who inbred with Nuclear Family and Industrialism to spawn Homophobia.

First boyfriend, Kenny, he was a dancer and lived in Hamtramack a polish community here in Detroit, being polish myself I was enthralled with him. We were dancing one night at an afterhours bar and he leaned over and kissed me, saying I was asking for it. After that we were inseprable. Then my parents found out that I was in love with him by reading my sketch book journal. They sent me to the doctor to see if he could help me when that did not work they sent me away to my grandparents in Northern Michigan. I have held a tourch for Kenny all my life. I eventually married a woman and was married for 19 years. When I divorced I started to look for him. I suppose I hoped that we could reconnect. I found out that he died on October 31 1996 one year before my divorce of AIDS in a local hospital. It continues to haunt me.First sexual experience, gosh I think I was ten this boy I went to school with who was French gosh I have a thing for ethnic people, well we did the you show me yours I will show you mine thing. It ended up being a bunch of rubbing of bodies together. Later he told me that I should go to the priest and confess what we had done. First real sex was in my VW I think I was 21.First gay bar Gaygens, and that was not named about being gay. It was an iconic bar in Detroit owned by a man named Frank Gaygen. During the early seventies it went disco big time. The crowd became very mixed straight and gay. I went with a bunch of straight friends. After that it became a regular haunt for me, eventually it became all gay and so did I.First gay porn, now this is lame. GQ magazine, for me that was my first gay porn. When I was in high school I began to buy it. God those guys turned me on. Those magazines were my first visual tools for masturbation.

First boyfriend: Ricardo - he was from Juarez, MX. My spanish wasn't that great but boy, did we know the language of sex!First sexual experience: Chuck - met him through the personal ads back in the day when we would actually write a letter and get in touch by phone.First gay bar: The Pink FlamingoFirst gay porn: I can't even remember....seems gay porn has always been a part of my life!

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In Hollywood an equitable divorce settlement means each party getting fifty per cent of publicity.~ Lauren Bacall

First Boyfriend - define boyfriend!?!?! When i first came out I thought any guy I had sex with was going to be my bf. I finally learned that is what we call a trick.

First Sexual Experience - well I don't count messing around with my friends in high school as my first sexual experience. What I classify as my first sexual experience occurred on a rainy April day in 1985, my junior year of college. I had been to the health dept for some immunizations for an overseas trip I was taking. On the way home I stopped at this adult bookstore I had frequented during the past year never having done anything. An attractive man, kind of a football players build and a few years older than I was walking around the showroom. As I watched him he got some change and went into the video peeps. I casually followed. The hallway was empty, so I peeked around some doors and presto there he was sitting in a booth just whacking away. Something came over me and I knew exactly what to do. A natural instinct took over and the rest is history. He even gave me his name and number. I immediately thought we were going to get married and started calling all the time. He never called back. In those days most everyone was listed in the phone book, so I looked up his address and started driving by his house several times a day. So not only did I have my first sexual experience, but also my first experience of being a stalker......

First gay bar - Halloween weekend, 1986, Rumors in Paducah KY

First gay porn - some hardcore German picture book, friends passed it around my senior yr of high school.

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"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it." Nelson Mandela

First boyfriend - name's Dick, we were both 16, he died of leukemia at 19..First sexual experience - my French teacher, I seduced him by telling him that I wanted to learn more about Jean Genet's novels.. I was 14... First gay bar - Disco Disco, or DD, in Hong Kong, on my 18th birthdayFirst gay porn - I definitely remember that one.. I jerked myself silly over it... "In hot pursuit"by Jeff Stryker

First boyfriend - I was 23, he broke my heart First sexual experience - playing doctor with my neighbor Robert from New Zealand. We were both 5First gay bar - The Warsaw Ballroom, Miami BeachFirst gay porn - Young and Hung

Rich

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First boyfriend ... All of my boyfriends were named David , except for Mark First sexual experience .... Playing doctor with Mitzi and TerryFirst Gay Bar .... Belles in Birmingham AlabamaFirst Gay Porn... I don't remember .... but it did not pay very much .quote jg......First boyfriend....I think the boyfriend has to reciprocate on the boyfriend identification....so that would be a guy named Rex, while in college. I had to break up with him to go in the Peace Corps or face being drafted. Rex died fairly early in the HIV epidemic.First Gay Bar: The Pegasus ,Chapel Hill, NCFirst Gay Porn: didnt need any.modified to add.....actually the underwear adverts in the Sears catalogue got my attention way before I knew what porn was!

First Boyfriend: Shane Jeffrey (aka astroboi). he dumped me after a couple of weeks. i was devastated. he and his friends used to laugh at me after that. First sexual experience: Robbie Gazetta. He lived up the street. we were probably 14 at the time. I prayed for the next 7 years in the mistaken belief that I could ward off the devil and his evil influence.First gay bar: The Newtown Hotel. I was 21 at the time and ran into about 5 ex school friends. First gay porn: can't remember the printed material but i know the first video porn was a Cadinot production.

First BF - Real BF and Only True BF - Wayne at Univ of SCFirst Sexual Experience - playing with the boy next door when I was 8, then when I was 19 with a guy I worked with at Disney WorldFirst Gay Bar - easy....Firestone in OrlandoFirst Gay Porn - does the JC Penny catalog count, the guys in their undies? if no, then reading a gay porn mag at the World Trade Center in 1991.

1. Initials D.A.G., he was a senior, I was a freshman (second semester) at Amherst College. It lasted for about six months after he graduated.

2. Initials C.M.J., my first semester at college, I was 18; October 6 1991.

3. One of the lesbian bars in Northampton, MA. Then, when I moved to Boston, Club Cafe and Campus (Thursday nights at Manray in Central Square) in one night, shepherded by older friends.

4. A book of "artistic" male nudes (a How-To-Photograph-Male-Nudes volume, tacky softcore) bought in ninth grade off a Bombay pavement bookseller; then at seventeen two magazines bought in Bangkok on a visit. As for videos, C.M.J. introduced me to the wonderful world of early William Higgins; can't remember the specific title.

Her finely-touched spirit had still its fine issues, though they were not widely visible. Her full nature, like that river of which Cyrus broke the strength, spent itself in channels which had no great name on the earth. But the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been, is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs.

First boyfriend - Leonardo in first grade. We both got sent to the corner when we got caught kissing in the cloak-room. (separate corners!) He broke up with me after that because he didn't like being sent to the corner and reckoned it was all my fault. It was - I kissed him!

First real boyfriend - Andy, a guy I met while I was a runaway. He was adopted and had... anger issues, although he never took them out on me. (but he really made his parents suffer!) He liked for me to use my vibrator on him and after we split, he started dating men. I've often wondered whatever happened to him - we were a couple in the late seventies. I can't help but fear the worst, as he was very impulsive and was quite a "throw caution to the wind" type person.

First sexual experience - being fingered behind the band lockers in junior high. He asked me if I was cumming and I said, "why, where are we going?" He also said to me that he had a hard-on, only I thought he said he had a heart-on, and I thought he was trying to tell me he loved me and thought it was really sweet. I was shocked when he grabbed my hand and showed me what he meant - he was a big boy for thirteen!

First lesbian sexual experience - mad passionate kissing and a grope fests with my best friend in my basement during the summer between sixth and seventh grades. When we got to junior high that fall, she told someone who freaked out and she decided to not be my friend anymore. Pity, she was a fantastic kisser.

First gay bar - a lesbian bar in Akron Ohio, with my sister. (can't remember the name) I was being chatted up by this beautiful woman when my sister came up behind me and said to the woman, "that's my sister and she's straight!" I turned to her and said, "how the fuck would you know?" She backed off with a grin, but it was too late, she scared the beautiful woman off.

First gay porn - I found a stash in the woods near my house when I was in junior high. It included gay porn, lesbian porn, bestiality, straight porn, you name it, it was there. What an eye opener! I took a few pages home with me but threw them out because my mother was forever rifling through my room. I visited the stash regularly until it vanished one day.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

He asked me if I was cumming and I said, "why, where are we going?" He also said to me that he had a hard-on, only I thought he said he had a heart-on, and I thought he was trying to tell me he loved me and thought it was really sweet. I was shocked when he grabbed my hand and showed me what he meant - he was a big boy for thirteen!

That's hysterical Ann.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

First Boyfriend - The year was 1985. I was 19 and working night shift at a convenience store. There were several people in line at the register including this guy who looked kind of like a 20-year-old, preppy Ricky Schroder. He was cruising me shamelessly. When it was his turn he was all smiles, eyes and deep voiced small talk. As I handed the money back to him he took my hand with both hands, pulled me toward him and asked if I would go out with him. I was both thrilled and completely mortified as this was Asheville, I was barely out and there were customers in line witnessing this. I agreed and we dated about 3 months. He eventually ended up going to prison for indecent liberties with a minor.

First real sexual experience - It was my second week of high school and a guy in my ROTC class persuaded me to go behind the school on the nature trail. We ended up jacking each other off and I totally freaked out. I soon learned that everyone knew this guy was gay and also learned just how people treated you when they know. I had a teacher take me aside and warn me not to be alone with him. He wasn't allowed to dress out for P.E. in the boys locker room. He had no male friends. Other boys would kid each other about being gay but they didn't make fun of him because it wasn't a joke, it was real and he was perceived as being dangerous. He kept writing me notes saying he just wanted to be friends and he was going to go straight. Being 14 he represented my own homosexuality and I just wanted him, and it, to go away. He committed suicide my junior year.

First gay bar - The Power Company in Durham, NC. I went with a group from my gay and lesbian student organization in college. I just couldn't get over men dancing together and I just knew the bar would be raided and we would all be arrested.

First gay porn - I shoplifted a Playgirl from a bookstore at the mall because I was too embarrassed to buy it. I felt so guilty about stealing I returned to the bookstore 2 hours later and surreptitiously left the money for the magazine by the cash register. I still have the magazine as a memento of my first porn and my first and only shoplift.

First real boyfriend (13-14yrs old) RC my parents forced me to break up and not see each other after finding the jar of vaseline next to where we were sleeping in the living room (his parents were much more accepting and allowed us to meet at their house) We also had girlfriends and after messin around with them we went home together

First sexual experience C.G when I was 9 years old, the same time as my first girlfriend W.A . Interestingly enough they eventually got married and he became a very high profile anti-gay minister in the south S.F bay area. I always imagined showing up at his church one day and sitting in the front row.

First gay bar, Club St. John downtown San Jose, Ca

First gay porn, well it was my dad's huge collection of Hustler Magazines. I like em because they had both guys and girls

I'm afraid I can only clearly remember one of those -- "Fade In" starring Jon King

What's wrong with my feeble, old mind?

Oh lord, Fade In! I remember being a young homo with my new drivers license firing up the family Caprice and driving downtown in search of gaiety. Too terrified to try a bar I thought 'd rent a porn video and found a small store. I settled on Fade In, shakily asking the clerk for it. He informed me I'd need to open an account and needed a credit card. I told him it was in the car I'd be right back and promptly fled back to the burbs.

First boyfriend, Sam more a fuckbuddy, during a summer job.

First sex, on the trail at Wreck Beach (local nude beach) in '86. I was demurely wearing a speedo when this big muscle daddy type with the 80's porn moustache and mirrored sunglasses walked by, grabbed my crotch and said "smile". Too shocked and polite to say no, I let him blow me. Convinced I now had AIDS I went to my doctor the next week. It only took another 20 years for that to come true