Check out this open discussion video from Lydia Cotton, a woman who has made quite a name for herself for creating and posting relationship/self-help videos on Youtube.

In this video, Lydia Cotton discusses the fact that 72% of black women are single mothers. She also talks about movies like “Waiting to Exhale,” where it appears that women enjoy the grief of complaining about the men that they are with.

Cotton calls for accountability on the part of women who continuously find themselves in relationships with deadbeats.

She says that “no percentage of these women” (single mothers) got pregnant by themselves. She says that it doesn’t make sense for a woman to sleep with a man who is not worth having s*x with and then complain that the man is not a good father to her child.

Cotton says that if you’re choosing the people you’re having s*x with, and they all end up being terrible fathers, what does that say about you?