A few mums say to me, especially if this is their first child, that “I have no bond with my child.” Then after hearing a mum say this, I hear a massive sigh as a massive weight as been lifted off their shoulders. They usually then go on to explain how they feel guilty and that they are a bad mum because they struggle to develop a bond with their child.

When your child gets put into your arms for the first time, you do not receive a book on your child. We are all left with getting to know their child. No matter if this is your first child or your fifth child, no child is the same and every parent around the wall needs to get to know their new child. Your child brings with them their own personality and some do not fit in the text book. I know mine didn’t read the book before the arrived.

One of the first strategies that I give mums who struggle to develop a bond with your child is a simple but very powerful strategy that can happen anytime, any where. It is simply to touch your child. Touch around their face, down their arms, around their little hand. Touch your child and think about what you are touching as you go. Think to yourself what their eye colour is, skin texture, anything that is special to your child. Mums come back to me usually with amazement how strong this strategy was as they were able to explore their child. Even mums with postnatal depression felt a change, even if it was small, towards the light when they do this activity and in time start to feel love and connection with their child.

Give it a go next time you have time with your child if you also think that “I have no bond with my child.”

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"Rebecca has helped me so much with my journey through parenthood by making me think sit back & think about other ways of dealing with my boys, she has calmed me down when my boys are driving me crazy & most important she has made me realize I can deal with my boys when I feel like I can't go on. "