How to Master the Art of the Perfect Blowjob

Want to give a blowjob that’ll make your guy’s toes curl in ecstasy? Use these 5 perfect steps, and avoid these 3 common mistakes while giving him head. By Gareth Johnson

For all of you who want to master the art of a perfect blow job, we’re going to have a frank talk about how to go about it, and give a good head that’ll do more than just please your man!

You can call it fellatio, a blow-job, a head-job, or any of the other various terms that could be applied to the sex act of putting the man’s penis in your mouth.

We’ll try not to use language that’s unnecessarily crude, but there is no point being too polite or precious about a fairly earthy act.

We’re going to give you some tips on how to suck cock.

Why do guys like having their cock sucked?

Just like the men we love, penises come in all shapes and sizes.

Big, small, thin, thick, circumcised or with the foreskin still intact.

Whatever that penis looks like, it is an incredibly sensitive part of the body.

A man’s penis is his main sexual organ, and the easiest way to think about it is as a pleasure receptor.

Every fiber of that penis is essentially hardwired to the brain to deliver pleasure signals in response to any stimulation felt, whether that is the touch of your hand, the gentle tickle of your tongue, or being engulfed in something warm and wet like your mouth or vagina. [Read: 9 naughty ways to get a guy hard and horny while sitting next to him!]

Not getting head is one of the main causes of sexual dissatisfaction

When I talk about sex with my guy friends, I like to be a bit nosey and delve into their sex lives. While everyone generally feels that they should probably be having sex a bit more often, pretty much all of them admit that they would like their partner to suck their cock more often.

For guys, it really is seen as an essential part of foreplay! You don’t really want to just jump straight into having intercourse, you want a long sexy session where you explore each other’s body to the fullest. And having your cock sucked is foreplay 101. [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay tips you can ever use in bed!]

But here’s the thing, guys will readily tell you that getting a bad head-job is pretty much just as bad as not getting head at all. Awkward, uncomfortable, and not sexy.

Why don’t girls like giving head?

If you think about it, it does seem a bit ridiculous and distasteful – guys urinate through their penis and they want you to put in your mouth. Realistically though, if you think about any sort of sex act – they are all a bit ridiculous and distasteful, but we humans are complex beings and our bodies can give us pleasure in a multitude of ways. [Read: 12 easy ways to make a guy go down on you without a push]

There is no point being prudish or reserved when you’re having sex – your best sexual encounters will be where you are able to lose your inhibitions, to let yourself go, and be in the moment.

One way of approaching it is to not think about what you do or don’t want to do, but to think of sex in terms of how you can give maximum pleasure to your partner. Be that sexual being – prepared to do whatever it takes to get your man horny, to get your man hard, to get your man past the point of no return. [Read: 10 sexy ways to please your man in bed and every other place]

Men have lots of erogenous zones on their body, but if you put most of your focus on his penis then you’re definitely going to hit the jackpot.

Three common mistakes that girls make

In a moment, we’ll get to all of the things that you can do to make your cock sucking technique as masterful as possible, but here are three common mistakes that you need to ensure you avoid.

#1 Rushing in too quickly. Girls often do this if they don’t really want to suck the guy’s dick but they know that it’s expected or feel like they should.

It’s almost as if they close their eyes and then dive right down there, shoving the cock into their mouths, trying to endure it for as long as possible and then coming back up for air with a sense of accomplishment – there’s that job done, that box ticked off. That is just going to be unpleasant and uncomfortable for the guy, and we’ll explain why in a few moments.

#2 Teeth. This is fairly obvious, but remember how sensitive a guy’s cock is. If your teeth are biting or grazing any part of his penis, it’s going to be painful and a real passion killer.

#3 Lack of commitment. We’ll reveal a few ways to improve your technique soon, but sucking cock is more than just putting the head of the penis into your mouth and bobbing up and down a bit. Honestly, that’s just not going to cut it. [Read: 12 foreplay tips that work exceptionally well on men!]

The 5 steps to the perfect blowjob

Step #1 Take it slow

You could be having sex anywhere, but for the purposes of this explanation we’ll assume that you’re on the bed together, making out, and starting to get sexy with each other. The first thing is to get him naked – take control of this situation and strip him off.

I’d recommend leaving your underwear on – it just sends a clear signal that you are focused on him and his pleasure. Work your way down his body, teasing and tasting as you go – make sure you spend a lot of time on his nipples, kiss them, suck them, bite them, and make him squirm. Keep working your way down until your face is right in front of his penis. [Read: 15 effortless real-life tips to look way better naked!]

At this point his cock might be fully erect or he could be just starting to get excited – everyone is different. Take hold of his cock in your hand, caress it gently, and appreciate it from every angle.

Your first move is with your tongue – begin to lick and taste the tip of his penis. If he has a foreskin and it is bunched over the head of his penis you can use your tongue to play with this, using your hand also to move the foreskin backwards and forwards. If he doesn’t have a foreskin, then work your tongue around the head of his penis.

The important thing at this stage is to be using plenty of saliva, you need to be focused on getting his cock as wet as possible.

It is not just the head of his cock that you need to focus on during this stage – you also need to be getting the shaft of his cock wet. Lick it, kiss it, and work on it. By the time you’re ready to progress to the next stage, you really want his cock to be rock hard and wet with your saliva. [Read: The real reasons why losing an erection bother men so much]

Step #2 Work on his balls

This is an incredibly sensitive part of a man’s body so you need to be gentle, but all guys will enjoy some attention on their balls. Use your tongue to poke and play with his balls, using your saliva to keep everything wet and moist.

Keep your hands busy working his cock. You can alternate your attention between getting his cock wet and playing with his balls. Take your time, there is no rush – he is going to be enjoying the sensations that you are dishing out to him. [Read: Big blue ball facts every girl’s gotta know!]

Step #3 Open wide

You’ve got him excited, you’ve got his cock wet – it’s now time to open wide and take his cock inside your mouth. Remember – no teeth! This is still the time to be taking it slow. Your hands should still be hard at work, playing with his balls, stroking his shaft. Take the head of his cock into your mouth and use your tongue to continue to lick and play with the sensitive head of his cock.

As you get used to having his cock in your mouth, start to move your head slowly up and down – keeping everything wet, keeping your hands working on his shaft and balls. Your objective here is to take as much of his cock shaft into your mouth as possible. For experienced cock suckers, you should be aiming for his cock to hit the back of your throat as you bury your nose into his pubes. [Read: Road heads – Blowjob confessions of a good girl]

Step #4 Breathe

With a hard cock in your throat, you are going to find it difficult to breathe. The key is to breathe through your nose while you are pleasuring him with your mouth. Don’t be afraid to take a break – suck him as deep and long as you can, come up for some air, and then get back to work.

Step #5 Gag reflex

As his cock drives deeper down your throat, you may feel like it is beginning to trigger your gag reflex, possibly making you feel like you should throw up. The important thing is not to panic, if it starts to feel like your gag reflex is being triggered, just back off a little bit – regain your composure and then get back to work.

Of course, this is something you can practice – bananas are the perfect shape if you want to do some homework on how to take a cock deeper down your throat. Not something you probably want to do at your desk in the office, but practice makes perfect.

Using your hands at the same time as your mouth gives you some options to vary your technique and control the action – twisting your hands around his shaft as you slide up and down his cock will have him squirming with pleasure. [Read: 20 naughty and sexy questions to ask your boyfriend]

In this scenario you get to stay in control – you set the pace, you deliver maximum pleasure to your man. Your objective is to get him so turned on and aroused with your mouth that he can’t wait any longer to move on to the main course.

As soon as you hear him say something along the lines of “I’m getting close baby – let’s f**k!” then you know that you’ve done a good job!