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Seriously, stop wasting your time on people who give you nothing but anxiety and suck every little happy thought out of your mind. The people you surround yourself with are extremely important for your own growth and wellbeing. Undoubtedly, friends are the ones who make your life so colorful and exciting. They encourage you to […]

Seriously, stop wasting your time on people who give you nothing but anxiety and suck every little happy thought out of your mind.

The people you surround yourself with are extremely important for your own growth and wellbeing.

Undoubtedly, friends are the ones who make your life so colorful and exciting. They encourage you to follow your dreams and motivate you to work hard to achieve your goals. These select few are going to be always beside you, no matter what challenges life brings you.

But the truth is people change. This everlasting transformation is inevitable, and there is nothing we can do about it. Unfortunately, there are times in life when what was once a genuine friendship can easily become an unnecessary toxic connection that adds no value to your life. And the best thing you could do in such moments is to just walk away.

While letting go of people who once meant everything to you is immensely difficult, it is also the healthiest decision you could ever make.

Here are a few types of people you should definitely free yourself from without any hesitation:

1. The fake friend.

Some deceitful people will shower you with compliments one day, only to talk behind your back the next one. And even though they might believe you can’t sense their nasty little mind-games, oftentimes it becomes quite obvious. You know they don’t really mean those things. You can feel they cannot be trusted. So instead of wasting your time on fake friends, let them be and move on with your life. Spend your time with authentic, kindhearted people, who would actually be there for you no matter what.

2. The negative one.

There is always that one gloomy, mood-killing person in every group of friends. These people do nothing but spread negativity and toxic vibes around them. They can destroy a beautifully built atmosphere the minute they enter the room. You don’t need someone who would always discourage you from fulfilling your dreams, do you? And you definitely don’t need someone who constantly kills your happiness and gives you anxiety attacks by only looking at their glum face.

3. The constant doubter.

These ones are probably the worst. They are always jealous of their friends’ success. Sometimes this jealousy becomes so intense, they even try to put you down for achieving more than them, as if you did something wrong. They act like you’re guilty of their failure, and by working hard on your own goals, you are only showing off. Suchlike people love to see the ones around them more miserable than themselves. Their greatest accomplishment is to witness someone fail as if this gives them some sort of power and recharges their batteries.

4. The braggart.

When it comes to annoying people, these ones are the winners in the category. The showoffs are always bragging about their brand new car, their massive house, their hot partner, or their latest promotion at work. Okay, we get it, you’re awesome and your life is perfect, but stop making it so hard for others to be happy for you. Of course, being able to afford a new car, for example, is amazing and requires a lot of hard work, but talking about it 24/7 is just too much. Sometimes such braggarts can be as toxic as the doubters. They just can’t seem to find the difference between sharing your accomplishments and boasting about them.

5. The complainer.

Do you have a friend who is permanently unsatisfied with their life and always looks on the negative side? Do they constantly complain about every little thing or situation they happen to be around? Are they presenting themselves as the victim of their story, while doing nothing to change it? Well, these ones are the complainers. And yes, you should walk away from them too. You need to surround yourself with people who inspire you, while these ones are exactly the opposite.

No matter how hard it may seem, choosing to walk away from the ones who add no value to your life would be the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Letting toxic people in your inner circle will only drag you down. Don’t ever let that happen.

Certainly, you may want to be the best mother you can be but that definitely doesn’t mean that you need to be perfect. Perfect moms don’t exist and the sooner you accept that fact the better for you and your kids. There is no manual out there on how to be the most amazing mom […]

Certainly, you may want to be the best mother you can be but that definitely doesn’t mean that you need to be perfect.

Perfect moms don’t exist and the sooner you accept that fact the better for you and your kids. There is no manual out there on how to be the most amazing mom in the world, but as time goes by you will understand that as long as you are happy while taking care of your children, you will inevitably be a great one.

You don’t need to obsess over each mistake or fall apart when you cannot accomplish a given task, just do what you can to give your children a stable life and try to be happy as a family. Rather than overthinking every little problem your children are faced with, teach them how to see the light in every situation, both good and bad.

Sure, you won’t be happy every day of the week but if you try to nourish the happiness in your life you will be happy for a large portion of it.

Of course, you will stumble every once in a while or feel a bit overwhelmed at times but don’ let that hold you back. You are stronger than that! Just because you break down from time to time does not mean that you are an unhappy mom or that you aren’t doing your job well. After all, you are human.

If you really want to be happy, don’t worry about what the world might think of you. It’s alright to feel down and show your angry side sometimes. Keeping this negativity in you for too long will just make matters worse and cause you to become a bitter person which nobody wants.

If your kids’ needs are met and you see them smile often then you are doing a solid job and deserve all the praise in the world.

By seeing the light in the eyes of your children you should be inspired to bring out that beautiful and positive side of you.

Your children accept that you’re a human being and even if you make some errors along the way, they will understand because they know you’re going through a difficult time, so do not worry about that at all. Your children need you to be strong and at ease with what you do. The last thing they want is for you to obsess over being spotless in everything you do because to them you are a superhero no matter what.

No matter how hard life may get, you are strong enough to face everything that comes your way, and being strong certainly doesn’t require perfection on your part.

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Have you ever met someone you felt you have known forever even though you just met them? Did you feel an unexplainable and intense connection with them without understanding why? Believe it or not, there are people out there that seem like they deeply know and connect with us on a soulmate level. These people […]

Have you ever met someone you felt you have known forever even though you just met them? Did you feel an unexplainable and intense connection with them without understanding why?

Believe it or not, there are people out there that seem like they deeply know and connect with us on a soulmate level. These people can be said to be part of our ‘Soul Group’

A ‘Soul Group’ member is a person part of a group of other people that share the same physical, spiritual, emotional, or mental levels with you at any moment.

This intense and spiritual bond goes way beyond having the same opinions, tastes, or hobbies. It’s an inexplicable connection, but you feel it with every beat of your heart.

Here are 8 signs that you have met a person from your Soul Group:

1. You feel as if you’ve known them your whole life

Each of you have shared so much of your lives with one another that a Soul Group member could tell a stranger details about your childhood as if they knew you back then, even if they did not.

2. You feel cared for, uplifted, happy, and loved in their presence

While the only thing some people bring into your life is a feeling of darkness and negativity, your Soul Group makes you feel light, at ease, and happy. You truly feel loved and appreciated around them.

3. They make your energy levels rise

Rather than feeling drained, whenever you’re spending time with your Soul Group, you will feel energetically uplifted.

4. You feel a constant attraction to them

Naturally, soul connections will be greatly drawn to each other, and stopping this attraction will be impossible even if it becomes a distraction.

The best thing to do here would be to give in to the pull. This way both of you can harness and channel your focus productively.

5. You can be your true self around them

You don’t feel the need to hide or pretend when you are with someone from your Soul Group. You can be your truest, most vulnerable self with them because both of you celebrate each other’s authenticity.

6. You are magnetically drawn to them

For no obvious reason, a member of your Soul Group will pop out to you like a sore thumb. And when that happens you’ll be immediately drawn to them and all they have to offer. Even if you lose touch with them, they will keep emerging in your life over and over again.

7. You feel comfort and safety when looking into their eyes

You may have never met before, but once your eyes meet, it does not feel awkward or flirty. Additionally, you feel comfort and safety when looking into their eyes. You feel the need for immediate understanding of each other even if your eye contact lasts for only a brief moment.

8. They empower and support you on your journey to become your true self

A Soul Group member is not only cheering for you to succeed, but they help you in reaching your highest potential.

They challenge your old ways of thinking, question you on what holds you back, and push you towards finding fulfillment and achieving your goals.

In case you have found a person in your life who meets the above-mentioned points, you should never let them go.

Have you found a member of your Soul Group yet? Share your story with us in the comment section below.

“An alpha female has the courage to be the best version of herself.” – This quote is dedicate to all the bad-ass, wild, alpha females out there. The ones who are not afraid to be anything less than their eccentric, alpha selves. When you think of an alpha female, what comes to mind? An alpha […]

“An alpha female has the courage to be the best version of herself.” – This quote is dedicate to all the bad-ass, wild, alpha females out there. The ones who are not afraid to be anything less than their eccentric, alpha selves.

An alpha female is a female who, despite the societal rules and perceptions of women, lives her life to the fullest, brave, loud and boldly. She paves her own path with self generated inspiration and motivation.

Alpha females aren’t different to other women in the sense that they are better than them, they are different because of the way they approach life.

Below is a list of 10 ways Alpha females do things differently in comparison to other females.

1. One of their top priorities in life is maximizing enjoyment

Alpha’s make the best out of any situation. They are masters at shaping life into situations which are genuinely enjoyable for them. They believe that life is about experiencing things and that’s why they love engaging in new activities and adventures.

Now this doesn’t mean that they are obnoxious or full of themselves, this simply means that they know their worth. An alpha female’s confidence lies in the fact that she knows that she has imperfections and chooses to love and embrace them anyway because imperfections are perfectly imperfect.

4. They aren’t reliant on others to make them happy in life

Alpha female’s do what they need to do in order to feel happy, they don’t rely on others to do that for them. They know that ultimately they are the only ones who can fulfil their every desire, this doesn’t change if she’s in a relationship. Her independence stays, she sets boundaries with her partner and never allows them to over step it.

5. They learn from the past and know not to dwell on it

Another thing alpha women are so great at is learning from past mistakes, then integrating the lessons into the present all while remembering that the past is the past. The only thing it is good for is learning from it.

6. The set boundaries and are very strict about maintaining themselves

Alpha women value themselves and therefore they set boundaries. They are always aware and vigilant as to make sure no one over steps or violates their boundaries.

As mentioned before, they like to make everything in life as enjoyable as possible, so if you are a toxic person and serve no purpose other than negativity then the alpha woman will have no regrets cutting you from her life. If she feels uncomfortable, or irritated within a situation she will also, very happily remove herself from that situation. She knows that staying when you do not belong is energetically draining.

8. They aren’t drama queens

Alpha females are far past the drama stages of life and actually can’t stand being around people who entertain drama. Drama takes up valuable time and energy that one cannot get back, and this is why they stay as far away from al the drama llama’s in life.

9. They realize that their body and mind is an investment worth spending time on

Alpha female’s put in the time and effort into fitness, healthy eating, reading etc. All the things that help strengthen her mind and body. A healthy body is a healthy mind.

10. They are always themselves, to whom ever they meet

Alpha females are consistent women, no matter who you are, you will get the same person, all the time. One thing that irritates an alpha female’s is the fact that some people are not consistent with who they are, meaning; they change their personality depending on who they are interacting with.

This is not the kind of people an alpha female hangs around because ultimately, you are the company you keep.

We all know that people who over-indulge in social media can skew toward the narcissistic. Study after study has proven this. Also, we can see it with our eyes. However, recent research shows that our image of the self-absorbed selfie taker may not capture the whole truth. A study published in PLOS One has found that the personality […]

We all know that people who over-indulge in social media can skew toward the narcissistic. Study after study has proven this. Also, we can see it with our eyes. However, recent research shows that our image of the self-absorbed selfie taker may not capture the whole truth.

A study published in PLOS One has found that the personality and mental health differences between Facebook users and non-users may be more complex than we previously thought. In spite of their self-absorption and need for approval, Facebook users may actually be the happier group.

In their study of nearly 1,000 participants, researchers found, predictably, that subjects who used Facebook had higher levels of extraversion and narcissism than non-users. What surprised the researchers were their scores in other areas.

Facebook users scored higher than non-users in measures of of subjective happiness, social support, and self-esteem. They were also judged to have a higher level of overall life satisfaction.

Another surprising discovery can be seen in what wasn’t different between the two groups. The “big five” traits – conscientiousness, agreeableness, neuroticism, extraversion, and open-mindedness – are considered by many psychologists to form the basis of personality. With the exception of extraversion, the users and non-users showed no significant difference when it came to these traits. This implies that social media use (or non-use) does not relate to our inherent personality. It has more to do with our chosen lifestyle.

In an interview with PsyPost, the study’s corresponding author, Julia Brailovskaia of Ruhr-Universität Bochum, discussed the implications of this study. Although she acknowledged that more research still needs to be done regarding social media and mental health, she saw these findings as a potential bright spot for those who struggle with building social support. “Considering the large potential of Facebook in providing social support and satisfying the need to belong, the use of this platform could be especially meaningful to people without offline social support. Unlike to face-to-face interaction, in online interactions users can take time to think through their course of action and practice managing stressful situations to develop appropriate, resilient behavior.”

However, she is quick to highlight the limitations of the study and its findings. As Brailovskaia emphasizes, there is still much work to be done before we can declare social media use “healthy.” “In our study, we did not investigate online behavior. We only compared users and non-users of Facebook. In future studies, it would be advisable to focus on the association between activities on Facebook, e.g., social interaction, and life satisfaction or depression and anxiety symptoms.” As she goes on to clarify, “Our results cannot answer the following question:

Does Facebook use help to improve mental health making its users more resistant against e.g., depression?

If this was the case, it would be beneficial to integrate the use of Facebook into prevention programs for mental health. However, such assumptions would also suggest that traits such as narcissism increase with Facebook use. Some authors of earlier studies have already expressed this concern emphasizing that especially younger users of platforms like Facebook show increased narcissism value.”

So – what can we take away from this? As with most activities, I believe the answer to be in moderation. Indulge in social media if it makes you happy to do so. Don’t, however, get so caught up in it that it becomes an addiction. Don’t lose yourself in an online simulation of your life and miss out on the real thing.

Irish playwright, George Bernard Shaw once said, “Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.” Luckily, we live in a time of phenomenal possibilities. Today you can create and manifest your highest intentions and your greatest abundance. Here’s a simple process to bring your dreams to life. “Intelligence is sexy” t-shirt?! Identify Your Personal […]

Irish playwright, George Bernard Shaw once said, “Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.” Luckily, we live in a time of phenomenal possibilities. Today you can create and manifest your highest intentions and your greatest abundance. Here’s a simple process to bring your dreams to life.“Intelligence is sexy” t-shirt?!

Identify Your Personal Vision

How you see yourself informs your motivation. It drives your decisions about where you live, work, socialize, eat, exercise, play, and, well, evolve. So, what’s your inner “ideal” ? How do you imagine yourself doing what makes your heart sing, in an ideal location, wildly successful? See every detail. Be bold! Write it out, or, paint it’s story and hang it on the wall. Create your “vision” board.

In the early 90’s, Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million dollars for “acting services rendered”, dated 1994. He walleted his reminder until, “Dumb and Dumber”, released in 1994, paid $10 million.

Recognize the Emotions of Abundance

When you detail your personal vision, you’re bound to feel enthusiasm, conviction, courage, creativity and joy. Invigorated, you build confidence. This acts as a magnet, attracting into your world every type of support essential to fulfill your ideal. Doubtful? Well, quantum physics finally proves what countless teachings have long suggested. In the words of Einstein, “Imagination is everything.”How Sarcasm Enhances Creative Thinking

Understand the Power of the Subconscious

When you engage all of your senses to see abundance you practice a “3D” reality. You impress your subconscious mind. Everything you manifest, including how your life is right now, originates in your subconscious, your field of limitless possibilities. Here are ways to cultivate this field and replace limited beliefs with new truths.

Honor Your Authentic Self

When you succeed, everyone benefits. Your wealth, health, and emotional ’ Joie de Vivre’ ripple across the pond of your community and this beautiful planet with its own infectious light. Isn’t time to claim your right to the life you deserve?

This is a heart-warming story that of a cat who can’t stop thanking its owner after being rescued from certain death, with only hours left to live. Cat Rescue Newcastle or CRN in NSW, Australia, is a small rescue group who saves felines from local pounds. Their most recent recovery is Henry, and he is […]

This is a heart-warming story that of a cat who can’t stop thanking its owner after being rescued from certain death, with only hours left to live.

Cat Rescue Newcastle or CRN in NSW, Australia, is a small rescue group who saves felines from local pounds. Their most recent recovery is Henry, and he is possibly the most loving cat in the world, if we’re judging by the video below.

Henry was scheduled to be put to sleep at a local pound, who put out a call to area rescue groups to see if any of them could accommodate the adorable kitty. Like all of the other rescue facilities in the area, CRN was full and had to turn down the offer. That was when one of CRN’s foster carers stepped forward.

Michelle, a regular foster ‘parent’ to CRN’s animals, said that she could house Henry if she had help with transportation. One of the rescue group’s members, Adelle, teamed up with Michelle to save this loving cat from certain death.

“They informed me that “the stray” had until Friday to be picked up otherwise he would be “destroyed”,” says Adelle in a post from the Animal Rescue Site.

She arrived at the pound mere hours before Henry was scheduled to be put to death, and safely placed him in her car to take to Michelle.

Since Adelle had arrived 30 minutes early to the place she was meeting Michelle, she decided to give Henry some room to stretch his legs. As you can see from the video below, he did much more than that; he clearly loves and thanks the person who saved his life.

Henry, now re-named Simba, is loving life and happy as ever, thanks to two people with huge hearts.

If you are looking to get a new pet, please consider adopting one from your local pound or rescue center- saving a life is truly a heart-warming feeling.

It’s deceptively easy to get trapped in a toxic relationship. In fact, many people remain in denial well past the point when real damage begins to happen. Even toxic relationships have their happy moments, after all. However, when you begin to lose yourself and compromise your own sense of integrity, it’s time to re-evaluate – […]

1. You feel like you can’t do anything right.

If you feel this way, your partner is likely taking your good qualities for granted and focusing on your flaws. Nobody is perfect, but in a healthy relationship, your significant other will support you and make you feel good about yourself. A partner who chips away at your self-esteem is not worth keeping around. Find someone who makes you feel like you can conquer the world.

Taking some time to be alone is healthy. However, if you genuinely dread spending time with your significant other, it may be time to call it quits. Happy couples treasure their time together. Find someone you enjoy being around.

3. Your partner’s happiness is more important than your own.

Trying desperately to please someone in the hope that they’ll stick around is exhausting and sad. More importantly, it teaches you to devalue your own happiness. Find a partner who realizes that your happiness is as important as their own. A good relationship should go both ways.

4. You’re not allowed to grow.

People change. If you’re lucky, you will mature and improve as you do so. A partner who is insecure may discourage this, and if you give in to this mindset you could end up sacrificing a valuable part of your identity. Find someone who supports you and takes pride in the person you want to become.

Excessive jealousy is a huge red flag in a relationship. It signifies insecurity, immaturity, and a lack of trust. If a jealous outburst is the only way your partner shows you that he loves you, it is absolutely time to kick him to the curb. He is not being romantic, and he is not being passionate. He is throwing a tantrum like a child.

6. You romanticize the past instead of looking toward the future.

This is a subtle sign of dysfunction, but a very important one. Even in a healthy relationship, it is fun to look back on the carefree early days. However, if this isn’t accompanied by daydreams about what the future might hold, it could be a sign that your best days are indeed behind you. Falling in love is easy. Staying in love is harder.

7. You have the same arguments over and over again.

If you are repeating an argument, that means nothing got resolved the first time. This is a sign of a larger problem. Arguing without resolving anything means that you are not communicating well. Either you are fighting just to fight, or you are not listening to one another. Either way, you are not addressing your conflicts in a healthy way.

8. You habitually lie to one another.

If you are lying to your partner, it means one of two things. Either you are doing something you know is not okay, or you do not trust them to understand something you are doing that you do feel is okay. Either way, there is no trust in your partnership.

9. You feel yourself become tense around your significant other.

Your relationship should feel like a soft place to fall after a long day. It’s normal to feel uneasy while you are fighting, but if this is the everyday tone of your partnership it is definitely time to end things.

10. You don’t feel like yourself.

This is a major sign that you are compromising your identity or your integrity for the sake of your relationship. This is not a fair or healthy compromise to make. You need to be free to find your best self, rather than chasing the version of you that your partner wants you to be.

Hugh Mackay once said “Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational.” No relationship is perfect, and no partner is happy and satisfied one hundred percent of the time. However, there is a big difference between healthy compromise and losing your identity.

Don’t count on your relationship to make you whole – but by all means, find one that allows you to strive for wholeness, happiness, and life satisfaction. You deserve it.

Do you crumble under pressure, or do you see yourself as mentally tough? Can you maintain focus and persistence in pursuit of your goals? Do you come through adverse events more clear and resilient? Psychologists report that each of us can gain from improving our mental strength, regardless of where we are on the coping […]

Do you crumble under pressure, or do you see yourself as mentally tough?

Can you maintain focus and persistence in pursuit of your goals? Do you come through adverse events more clear and resilient? Psychologists report that each of us can gain from improving our mental strength, regardless of where we are on the coping spectrum.

Here are 6 proven practices for each of us.

Be Intentional

Hold an unwavering belief in yourself, your unique assets, and your ability to accomplish goals. Strong intention keeps you focused on the task at hand, and buffers emotional and physical setbacks. Intention is marked by an insatiable drive to succeed.

Practice Consistent Self-Care

Mental resilience and high function are contingent on, not separate from, our physical and emotional well being. Respect the harmony of interconnections with healthy nutrition, sleep, and exercise. Daily meditation can equip you with emotional relief and stability, a form of balance that enables wearing life like a loose garment.

Think Like an Optimist

Analyze your beliefs around failure. Accept that failure is temporary, inevitable, and changeable. WD-40, a best selling mechanic lubricant, is so named due to 39 previous attempts to get it right. Thomas Edison found hundreds of ways NOT to invent a light bulb, until he found one way that worked. What if everything has value?

Avoid Catastrophic Thinking

Eliminate the words “never” and”always” from your vocabulary. Avoid general, stereotypical, or demeaning statements and opinions of others. Practice curiosity, instead of judgement. Look for a positive spin to assign to life’s uncertainties and disappointments.

Practice Gratitude and Generosity

When you expand your understanding of others, and put teeth into the practice of compassion, your own mental health is enhanced. Focus is sharpened while depression and aggression are kept at bay.

Above all else, know who you are, and stand in your truth. Living any form of a lie saps strength and clarity. Know and respect your limits. Wonder where you stand? Scroll down here for a quick self test and gauge your own mental strength.

When we think of new love, our minds often recall feelings of first date butterflies, first kiss fireworks, and pancakes in bed after a wild and wonderful first night together. It’s easy to forget the awkward and terrible road bumps that it takes to get there. Don’t worry though – I’m here to remind you. […]

3. Your first fight.

4. Fitting in personal maintenance.

Exercise, sleep, and healthy eating can easily fall to the wayside when you want to spend every second with your new beau. Don’t let these slide though – you’ll regret it.

5. Struggling to maintain your own identity.

Nobody wants to be a boyfriend chameleon, and nobody wants to date one, either. The same goes for women.

6. Letting your guard down.

We’re all on our best behavior on the first date – but who can maintain that on the regular? The moment will come when you have to be honest about the true you, who hates jogging and can’t tell a glass of Gaja Barbaresco from a solo cup full of Franzia.

7. Explaining your relationship history.

Oh, the horror! There’s no way to come out of this conversation sounding less crazy or biased than you really are – unless you lie about it all.

8. Realizing your partner has exes, too.

Gross. Tell me everything. Wait, no. Please don’t. Okay, now can we go back in time to when I didn’t know you dated my math tutor?

9. The first time you introduce them as your boyfriend/girlfriend.

Go on, try to sound casual. You won’t. Everyone sees you looking at your partner for that awkward sign of acknowledgement and confirmation.

10. Being vulnerable for the first time.

You have to take the plunge – but what if that water turns out to be so, so cold?

If you are single, did you find yourself grinning and embracing the underrated comfort of living alone? If you are married, did you chuckle to yourself and thank God for the often underappreciated monotony of married life? Good – my work here is done. The next time you see a happy new couple kissing on the street, you can smile smugly to yourself knowing that number eight is coming their way.