Oh I seeeeee...I don't think anyone should accept a sexless relationship, unless that's what they both want and are happy with. Otherwise it's miserable isn't it?11 years is a long time to go without if you want it.

It's not just sex by the sound of it you sound lonely and rejected on other levels. It might suit your H to downplay the importance of sex to keep avoid confrontation but if you're unhappy you shouldn't lie to yourself about what you miss.