Sunday, July 15, 2012

Nora's Story: My First Women's Retreat

Ever wonder what happens at our Women's Self-Renewal Retreats? Curious why someone would carve out time, line up child and/or parent care and jump through hoops to get away and spend a weekend with other women?

Nora Livesay, a mom and graduate student in the Linguistics PhD
program at the University of Minnesota was the winner of our
Year-of-Self-Care Mother’s Day Giveaway (read more and meet Nora).

She recently
returned from our June 22-24 New Way of Being: Women’s Self-Renewal Retreat at
the beautiful Kripalu Center for Yoga and Wellness and graciously offered to talk about her experience at her first women's retreat.

Nora, how was the Kripalu Women’s Retreat
with Renee; what did you most enjoy? The retreat was an incredible gift that arrived
at just the right moment in my life. I enjoyed so many things about the retreat
that it's hard to pick one as most enjoyable. Perhaps it was the space created
for reflection that the New Way of Being teachings and time away from all other
distractions provided. I found myself finally slowing down enough physically
and mentally to be able to hear the quiet voice of insight (what Renee calls “Your Wise Self”)
in that space. And believe me, for someone with ADHD who feels a restless need
to be constantly in motion, that's quite rare.

What
pearls of wisdom or teachings did you most enjoy or take away? I took away three important
teachings from the retreat that I want to embrace in my daily life.

The first
is to not just listen to my Wise
Self but to allow and trust that quiet voice to guide my daily
decisions. Over the past couple years of being in Sarina La Marche’s Minneapolis Personal Renewal Group, I
have gotten better at attuning to that voice, but have had trouble trusting it.
I've made excuses -- I'm too busy... I don't have the resources to make it
happen..., etc. But at
the end of the retreat, I drew an
inspirational card from
a basket that Renee sent around with the message "start
delegating" and it then it clicked. I have to make space to allow and
trust my own voice by delegating other responsibilities.

The
second teaching I learned was that movement is a path for me to hear my own
voice and to renew my energy. I've always known I was a kinesthetic learner -- that I learn best by
doing. But I've also felt that with my ADHD, the constant movement of my body
and thoughts was often a negative thing that got in the way of other goals.
I've never thought of movement as a way to connect deeper until it happened
during the retreat when we danced (Kripalu offers an awesome class called YogaDance). I want to
challenge myself now to find ways to experience movement in a joyful way and to be purposeful in
channeling my movement.

Lastly, the
realization about movement also led to another, perhaps the most important. To
be Nora Ellen, to be all of her. To me that means accepting and embracing
all of who I am, even the parts of me I get frustrated with. Each day at the
retreat, I walked past a quote on the wall that said, "Yoga is the
practice of tolerating the consequences of being yourself." The Bhagavad Gita. It reminded me that I want to practice
not just tolerating, but truly accepting all of me. And the first step is
tolerating my mistakes and failures and challenging the negative dialogue in my mind.
Yesterday, I turned on the wrong burner on the stove (which I seem to do every
single time I cook) and instead of heating the fry pan to cook my egg, I
set the entire egg carton on fire. Luckily no damage was done, and I put out
the egg carton in sink. Instead of berating myself, my family and I had a good
laugh at my latest kitchen misadventure. It’s definitely about baby steps.

What
surprised you about the retreat (and have you attended retreats before)? I've never attended a
retreat like this before. I was expecting lots of information to download
and absorb, and to have the days filled up with activities or yoga, and instead
I was surprised by how the teachings/exercises were spacious, how much I slept and how little I “did.” It felt like I was catching up on months’ worth of much needed rest. I was also
surprised by the depth of caring and comfort that all the women held for each
other in the circle. It was palpable, like a soothing balm on raw skin.

I
was also truly blessed to have one of the other women invite me to spend a
couple days at her home in the mountains before I flew back to Minnesota. The
time we spent together over the next two days was like an extension of the
retreat and really helped me ease back into my everyday life. That we could
form such a strong connection and friendship so quickly is really a testament
to the power of the circle of
women at the retreat
and the compassionate, nurturing environment that was present.

Would
you take another RTA retreat? Absolutely! I would definitely recommend Renee
Trudeau’s retreat to
others. I want to go back next year and bring my sisters and friends with me.
Even if those I love aren't ready to take in the insights/tools, just the experience of being held in loving
kindness by the women's circle and of being in a peaceful place away from the
busy-ness of life would be well
worth the trip/investment. If you've never done anything like this, do it!

What did you think of Kripalu? Kripalu is an oasis of peacefulness. The
beauty of nature in the Berkshire Mountains of western Massachusetts, the simple, but comfortable accommodations, and the food --
the incredibly delicious food -- combine to make it such a restful and healing place. I'm already thinking about how
to get back there for another retreat! (Huge thanks to the generous folks at Kripalu for donating our all-expense paid retreat for the Year-of-Self-Care giveaway!)

INVITE: Interested in having your own unique retreat experience? Join me Oct. 19-21 for our New Way of Being: Women's Self-Renewal Retreat if you want to join us at the beautiful Kripalu Center for Yoga & Wellness in Massachusetts! Peak leaf turning time! I'd love to hold the space for you to rest, connect with your needs and desires--and hear what your Wise Self most wants you to know.

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Photos
at top: The beautiful Nora Livesay; Kripalu June 2012 retreat participants on the front lawn at Kripalu after a writing exercise; colored mandalas from a few of the retreat participants.

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