Neptune quincunx North Node

Elusive understanding

You both want to be your own, individual selves in this relationship, and you want to be loved for the individual that you are -- but this aspect between you makes it difficult to foster any kind of real understanding between you, and your partner, especially, might move along their path in life feeling ignored and misunderstood. This isn't necessarily a big, disruptive influence; instead, it's likely to be one that bothers your lover on an intermittent basis. They feel neglected to some subtle degree, and they wonder just what it is about their life, their dreams and their goals that you can't understand.

Conversely, they might not get yours either! This is a mutual misunderstanding, based on a strange lack of clarity when it comes to looking at each other's lives and ambitions. As with most problems in a relationship, a commitment to clear, gentle and honest communication can help -- but could be difficult to attain. There is just some blockage between you that impedes your understanding of each other. On the other hand, the necessity of this careful, clear communication could actually be a boon for both of you in your own lives. If you've always had a hard time expressing yourself or accessing your deepest, innermost feelings, this relationship forces you to learn to do just that.