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In an interesting article from The Huffington Post, author Amanda M. Fairbanks touches on the issue of so-called "sugar daddy dating." She writes extensively about the growing commonality in America for young guys to look towards older daddies to pay-off their student loans and support them through University. Although this doesn't actually come as too much of a surprise (since I've actually been a member of such 'sugar daddy' sites in the past - mainly out of pure curiosity), I had no idea that real-life results actually came of this! Firstly, when I joined such an **unnamed** site, I was immediately put-off by the prospect; my intention was to meet older men, and I was naive enough not to fully understand the site's target audience.

In any case, the prospect of receiving money for relations with an older man brings the following into question: is it a primal desire for a power-dynamic (power in this case equalling monetary support), or is it merely another form of prostitution? I can completely understand the desire for a powerful man, but Fairbanks writes about boys receiving actual set amounts of money to maintain their 'sugar-daddy / sugar-baby' relationships.

This, in my point of view, is something entirely different than yearning for a powerful man. One could consider classic examples (particularly in the hetero community) of wealthy older men and beautiful younger women. From a psychological perspective, it seems almost evolutionarily sound that one party desires protection and/or compensation for her contribution to the relationship [ie. beauty and youth]. Furthermore, there have been studies that have shown the trade-off is not necessarily seen as benefitting one party over the other; rather, the youth has evolved a sense of erotic fulfillment through the relationship's power-dynamic, and is not actually using the older man; he or she is rather balancing the relationship contribution.

I'm rather curious what others think about such a relationship: is it authentic; is it prostitution; morals aside, is there anything wrong if both parties are content?

I remember writing with an older man on one of these sites, making it clear that I was not interested in monetary compensation; but rather that I was looking for a place to meet older men specifically searching-out young guys. He responded that he felt there was no other way to niche-target young guys who were into older guys, and he actually believed this was the only way. I remember feeling baffled, but am obviously biased by my own desires. Yet, there must be many more out there like myself: looking for an older man purely for the reason that I want an older man; quite simply my desire is both primal and intellectual, erotically-charged and emotionally-laiden. Then again, everyone has there reasons and limits :).