My baby prefers her nana over me

Hi Im 17 years old and have a 13 month old baby. We are currently living with my boyfriend at his parents house. I feel my baby prefers her nana over me. I do all the parenting and have all the responsibility, I play with her, I cuddle and kiss her, feed her and put her to bed. I do everything a normal parent does. But everytime her nana is around she does what ever she can to get away from me to go to her. She even follows her around the house all day. She hits me and screams at me just so she can have her nana. And her nana seems to allow it and picks her up. I feel useless and unwanted and I feel she doesn't love me. I can't stop crying because my baby doesn't want me or need me anymore it's all about her nana. Somebody please tell me why she is being like this?and please somebody help me, how do I fix it and get her to treat me the way she treats her nana? I want her to know I'm her mum. I do everything to show her I am her mum. Thanks =)

You can't fix it. My first daughter loved my mom so much, even to this day when I drop her at pre school she cries for grandma. Shes almost 4 years old. She just loves her grammy. Doesn't mean she doesn't love me too though. I'm still her mama. Its because Grammy doesn't set the rules. Mama lays down the law and Grammy is well... grammy. Lol

It could just be a phase. My dd1 went through a phase of not wanting me at all. She always wanted daddy. Then went though another phase where she called every one mama. I really thought she thought every woman was her mother. It really upset me. However, she grew out of it. She's still a daddy's girl but She loves her mama and she knows who her mother is

I am only 17 and this is my first child. I try my hardest to be the best parent I can. I find it very hard to talk to people especially in person because I can't stand being judged and treated like a bad parent. I found this site and thought I'd give it a try and ask a question. I was worried that I was doing something wrong and that is why she doesn't want me. I asked this question for advice or for someone to tell me it's normal at least. I wasn't expecting the first comment to be judgmental. I thought this was a site for parents to ask questions no matter how ridiculous. So thank you for clearly showing me that I can't ask questions to try and improve to be the best parent I can be, and to keep everything to myself.

Quoting Rinoldox33:
You can't fix it. My first daughter loved my mom so much, even to this day when I drop her at pre school she cries for grandma. Shes almost 4 years old. She just loves her grammy. Doesn't mean she doesn't love me too though. I'm still her mama. Its because Grammy doesn't set the rules. Mama lays down the law and Grammy is well... grammy. Lol

Quoting Rinoldox33:
You can't fix it. My first daughter loved my mom so much, even to this day when I drop her at pre school she cries for grandma. Shes almost 4 years old. She just loves her grammy. Doesn't mean she doesn't love me too though. I'm still her mama. Its because Grammy doesn't set the rules. Mama lays down the law and Grammy is well... grammy. Lol

Thank you for letting me know that it is normal atleast =) I'm always just worried that she thought her nana was her mum so it is good to know that she isn't the only baby out there that does it. =) and I bet your daughters Grammy feels very special. lol

Quoting ☆Jayy+3☆:
It could just be a phase. My dd1 went through a phase of not wanting me at all. She always wanted daddy. Then went though another phase where she called every one mama. I really thought she thought every woman was her mother. It really upset me. However, she grew out of it. She's still a daddy's girl but She loves her mama and she knows who her mother is

Thank you for helping me understand and taking the time to tell me your story my baby also calls everyone muma at the moment =) it hurts me too but you have made me feel so much better thank you =)

Thank you for helping me understand and taking the time to tell me your story my baby also calls everyone muma at the moment =) it hurts me too but you have made me feel so much better thank you =)

Being a new mama can be emotionally draining. For me it was. Your daughter has unconditional love for you and your mom. Just the same as you do for her. Keep loving her and being the mom you are. Kids are precious little butt heads...they're smart too.

Being a new mama can be emotionally draining. For me it was. Your daughter has unconditional love for you and your mom. Just the same as you do for her. Keep loving her and being the mom you are. Kids are precious little butt heads...they're smart too.

It definitely is emotionally draining. I'm always so worried I'm doing something wrong. I will =) thank you they are definetly smart, cheeky and precious little butt heads. Lol

I am only 17 and this is my first child. I try my hardest to be the best parent I can. I find it very hard to talk to people especially in person because I can't stand being judged and treated like a bad parent. I found this site and thought I'd give it a try and ask a question. I was worried that I was doing something wrong and that is why she doesn't want me. I asked this question for advice or for someone to tell me it's normal at least. I wasn't expecting the first comment to be judgmental. I thought this was a site for parents to ask questions no matter how ridiculous. So thank you for clearly showing me that I can't ask questions to try and improve to be the best parent I can be, and to keep everything to myself.

The advice here is ussually solid and factual. For none judgement and rainbows and unicorns Id try babycenter. Although it sounds like a normal stage that your baby is going through, especially sense she probably sees you all hours of the day.

My child isn't born yet... But I think it's fairly normal. Grandparents give their grandchildren whatever they want, and hey can do no wrong. Where as you, like other parents tell her no, and "punish" the child.

i was very attached to my moms mother when I was younger. (Not I can't stand her)

I am only 17 and this is my first child. I try my hardest to be the best parent I can. I find it very hard to talk to people especially in person because I can't stand being judged and treated like a bad parent. I found this site and thought I'd give it a try and ask a question. I was worried that I was doing something wrong and that is why she doesn't want me. I asked this question for advice or for someone to tell me it's normal at least. I wasn't expecting the first comment to be judgmental. I thought this was a site for parents to ask questions no matter how ridiculous. So thank you for clearly showing me that I can't ask questions to try and improve to be the best parent I can be, and to keep everything to myself.

Calm down. As someone else said shit isn't sugar coated here. Its normal for kids and toddlers to go through phases of having a favorite. Hell my toddler loves his Nana to death and wants nothing more then to drag her around to play toys and read. But at night no one matters but momma and cuddles. Enjoy the break it gives you

I am only 17 and this is my first child. I try my hardest to be the best parent I can. I find it very hard to talk to people especially in person because I can't stand being judged and treated like a bad parent. I found this site and thought I'd give it a try and ask a question. I was worried that I was doing something wrong and that is why she doesn't want me. I asked this question for advice or for someone to tell me it's normal at least. I wasn't expecting the first comment to be judgmental. I thought this was a site for parents to ask questions no matter how ridiculous. So thank you for clearly showing me that I can't ask questions to try and improve to be the best parent I can be, and to keep everything to myself.