How to be a bitch?

We see guys complaining about being too nice and not getting any because of it, but trust me it's the same fucking shit with nice girls. I'm really getting tired of this. Seems like bitches get all the attention and every guy wants to fuck a bitch, while nice girls are put in the friendzone and are not fuckable enough. If you put 2 VERY GOOD looking girls next to each other with one having a resting bitch face and cold personality and other one having cute face and nice personality, dick is gonna pick a bitchy one, always! Cute and nice girls just can't get laid nowdays. I am cute, short and I have a nice body. Even when I try to look bitchy or sexy or dangerous, I can't because I can't change my stupid baby face! And my childish voice. I can't change it! But on top of that, I'm also very friendly and I smile/laugh a lot. I've been through so many shit and I'm still swimming through poop, but I laugh it off! It's not that I try to hide that I'm damaged, I'm not damaged I'm fine. I'm happy. I don't care about stupid stuff I get over it fast and then I keep smiling like nothing happened. I don't care if a guy doesn't call me or if he checks others girls or if he friendzone me or whatever, I'll take what I can out of him. Every time I'm in a crappy situation/position I try to turn it into my favor without taking anything personal. It's just like business. People treat me like crap sometimes but I'll shake that off and take the good stuff they give me. But this is not getting me laid... It's been ages since the last time I had sex and I always get the same freaking excuse: "You're an amazing person and I'm an asshole, I don't want to hurt your feelings". -.- I need to act like I'm mad and to be a bitch to him so he would put his dick inside me. It's sad but true. So, how do I be a bitch?

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Interesting as I hadn't thought about that or heard it before... other girls having this issue? I usually hear... I'm not finding the "intellect", connection, chemistry to have the sex. Not... I just want sex and can't get it.

Are you SURE you aren't emotionally wounded and need some counseling... I'm thinking talk to a counselor:)

But, I agree with the others, its something else. I think some people cast a "love" energy and others "sex". your "bitch" friends probably cast a sex (easy) energy and guys pick up on that who just want that. I wouldn't. Maybe you are projecting... I'm a nice girl and loving and so that usually means date me, relationship. If your sex friend is direct, she'll get it. If you are direct, they not believe it or be intimidated by it.

So, have you tried being flirtatious and indirect... and where? Being a bit mysterious and hard to get? Its hard to explain in words, but conveying all giggly "needy" "happy" can be poison to a guy. If you convey I'm confident in myself, reserved, laid back sexy with a smile, that would have success in my book over time. If need me to try and explain more, I can. Or you can post more information, photo or something of what you look like and act like and we can help further.

Why not a relationship? Why not pick a decent guy, romance and seduce him and make a relationship of it rather than one night stand? Does that better fit your personality anyway?

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"Maybe you are projecting... I'm a nice girl and loving and so that usually means date me, relationship. If your sex friend is direct, she'll get it. If you are direct, they not believe it or be intimidated by it." - it is this, exactly. I am known to be very forward and confident, but for some reason guys don't believe me when I say and SHOW that I don't care if I'm gonna get attached/hurt or not. Enjoy now, worry late. Indeed they see me as a wife material and they approach me very carefully and cheesy, and I guess it's how I make an impression on them. A wrong impression. I do stuff very fast. I have a very high sex drive and if I am attracted to a guy I will want to have sex with him right away, it doesn't matter if he's the biggest douche in the world or if I never see him again. I guess I just show my sexual interest in a way that can be seen as me falling in love. And then they back off. It is really frustrating...

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It's not that I don't want a relationship, I do. But I want to have sex before relationship. I get aroused very fast and if they don't take the opportunity I lose interest quickly. The point is that my point of view totally doesn't match my looks or my behavior.

Interesting.. I think it is an integrity problem... lm explain. My instinct says you have the opposite problem I had and many have.. why bad boys get the girl and I the n "nice guy" didn't. I was really lacking self esteem and confidence and needed to learn how to play the game true to me.

You look like a "nice girl" but it is really needy. People hate needy! it is s turnoff. Your presence projects "nice" but aggressive turns off the "hookup" guy and the good guy.

It tells me two things: you need to explore your inner self worth and esteem to heal any wounds. I'd always do this... maybe I'm wrong, but your message has some intensity in it and you aren't coming across with integrity... why is all that sex energy hidden behind "love"? You don't need to be a bitch like your friends, you need to be the true you! From that...Learn to play the game differently and make it fun. ... continued

Being direct like that is scaring people off. So, flirt and play, make up stories and dream with them. Make it about play and just leave opportunity for the other stuff you want... with no expectations. Then you'll have success. Would be fun to coach you as I haven't tried this from the other side.

Read the book Change your life in 7 days for self esteem/confidence.

Do you get what I'm saying?

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I don't need love to have sex. I don't need emotions. Geez, I just want sex. "Needy" is needing attention. I think the word that would describe me more is "horny". Very horny. But apparently "hookup" guys don't want to fuck aggressive, horny girls. They want the ones who are "hard to get" and who don't really want sex. The irony is real...

Imagine a fisherman. Does he want to go into a small pond and catch tiny bluegill that are easy to pop out of the water and no fun. or does he want to do battle with a blue marlin (a big fish). Yep, he wants some tension and play. Tension, seduction, having to feel like you are winning someone is important on both sides, it stimulates. Read the art of seduction or how to seduce men. its a game and you aren't playing it right for you. I don't see you acting some way as it lacks integrity, you'll be more successful being a seductress. without some pict or video its hard to advise further. Are you attractive relative to your friends? in good shape?

you could try charging... that would work... if you don't like my other advice...

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Yeah, I'm forever doomed because I don't play games. Games bore me. Especially if it's "the lion and the lamb" game, because I'm a lion.

I think you are missing the real fun which is the "play". the definition of insane is keep doing the same thing expecting a different result... right? My earlier advice stands...Or you become a prostitute and charge... that will work as well...

it would be easier if I saw what you were like in real life. Honestly, if someone comes across as a good girl (healthy), I think a lot of guys tune them out... e. g. you may have to toss out more of a sexual vibe or hints. I ran into this scenario where I talked witha girl and she seemed like a great girl... and I didn't ask her out... doh... what an idiot. I knew she was quite a bit younger, she was bar tender and I had doubt I should ask her... so I didn't. that was the only reason.

I would have if I could go back and redo that. can I ask you a question about that?

When you consistently have the same response from guys that you date, there are two possibilities:

1. Everyone else is the cause of the problems.2. You are the cause of the problems.

Logically, #2 is much more likely. The problem is not necessarily that you are "too nice." The problem is probably what you are doing to attract and choose guys for dating. Do you see any concerns with the patterns of what you do in that process?

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I've always been too nice in the past. It's not a bitch if you are just demanding consideration of your feelings. When you are in love then you start to care about stuff you wouldn't if you weren't so invested emotionally. If you are emotionally detached you wouldn't care. But relationships are about caring and being involved emotionally and then you start to let things bother you. And some girls get messed with because the guys want to make them fall in love to get sex. SO yeah they get upset.

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Its honestly not very hard. you're making it seem conplicated but being a bitch is easy and every girl can be a bitch. Just dont give a shit about what people think and if someone gives you shit; you give them shit. The goal here is to not let people take advantage of you and to keep your dignity and confidenceif someone is speaking ill of you either to your face or behind your back. Being reserved. Not smiling very often. You dont have to be nice to everyone.

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Thank you for MHO lol

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It depends on what kind of guy you're looking for. Many prefer her to be innocent and submissive.

Anyway, from the way you express yourself (excessive swearing), you already sound like one, to be honest.

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Nothing is sexier than the innocent look you describe strutting around in some stiletto pumps putting her hands on a guy and looking sweet while he bones the hell out of her. Just step it up a notch.

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guys hate bitches we love sweethearts aka nice decent girls perhaps its because the so called "bitches" actually approach guys they want vs the girls who are so called "nice" and don't show interest etc. and expect the guy to do everything.and fyi its not the same with girls they do everything by choice most guys dont. because guys are constantly rejected vs girls who usually don't get rejected. plus girls just notice and hang around the "jerk player" type guys and not the nice shy ones that want to commit.also based on your post you've got some before so quit complaining and since you got some already nice type guys won't want a non-virgin. so based on your history you might be labeled as a booty call or slut (im not trying to be mean) I hope this helps ;)

I have the same problem, but resting bitch face helps no one, resting neutral face is the one you want to sit with. Being open to the surroundings and if you can smile a little from time to time, or just pretend to look at your phone and pretend there's a joke that you read or something you watched on YouTube. Then you may find beter results.

I have never dated, but I knkw that being down and depressed isn't going to help. Only people who knkw you will help you in that state

No being a bitch doesn't get you laid. I think you are looking at it all wrong. The reasons that you are giving for not getting laid aren't actually the reasons. Its something else.

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This is, simply put, a load of bollocks. If you want to get laid you simply have to be open about it. Very much unlike how it works for guys, any girl can get laid by any guy.

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Nope, not true. I can't be more opened about it trust me. Why is it so hard for a guy to believe that a sweet, nice and innocent girl WON'T care if you just fuck her and disappear? Because it makes you less guilty to do that to a bitch then to a nice girl.

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And if you tell them, then they know and will want you. Whereas if a guy said that to a girl, they will get a slap in the face.

Yeah but if a nice girl gives the impression like she's too sensitive, you're gonna pick the bitch because she doesn't have the sensitive impression and therefore you're gonna pick her because you're gonna feel less guilty bailing out later. It puts less pressure on you and you will sexually perform better, carefree. Because no one wants to deal with nice girl's emotions.