Male daycare provider

Hi I'm Emily and new to the HT boards, but I'll spare you the long intro post. I apologize if this has been posted before, but my sister and I were discussing childcare options for my LO when I go back to work, and I had mentioned that there were a few home daycares that had been recommended to me. One of which, was run by a male. My sister scratched that one off the list immediately, and said that it's "creepy" that a man would run a daycare through his home. What are your thoughts on this? Would you be comfortable sending your children to a home daycare run by a male?Personally I was surprised at her reaction. As long as he was certified and had good references, I wouldn't think twice about it. It may not be the norm, but that shouldn't mean that it's sketchy.

Hi I'm Emily and new to the HT boards, but I'll spare you the long intro post. I apologize if this has been posted before, but my sister and I were discussing childcare options for my LO when I go back to work, and I had mentioned that there were a few home daycares that had been recommended to me. One of which, was run by a male. My sister scratched that one off the list immediately, and said that it's "creepy" that a man would run a daycare through his home. What are your thoughts on this? Would you be comfortable sending your children to a home daycare run by a male?Personally I was surprised at her reaction. As long as he was certified and had good references, I wouldn't think twice about it. It may not be the norm, but that shouldn't mean that it's sketchy.

I wouldn't have a problem with it. My DH has been home with our baby since he was laid off in February. He loves it & we actually have thought about looking into getting a home daycare certification. I say as long as there are good references & the certification is good, go for it!

I wouldn't have a problem with it. My DH has been home with our baby since he was laid off in February. He loves it & we actually have thought about looking into getting a home daycare certification. I say as long as there are good references & the certification is good, go for it!

my daycare lady younger always had her husband watch us when she ran errands imo he played the best games and pushed the best swings lol if he's qualified nothing in his back ground why not men are just as qualified as women..... and women are just as capable hurting a child as a man.

my daycare lady younger always had her husband watch us when she ran errands imo he played the best games and pushed the best swings lol if he's qualified nothing in his back ground why not men are just as qualified as women..... and women are just as capable hurting a child as a man.

my daycare lady younger always had her husband watch us when she ran errands imo he played the best games and pushed the best swings lol if he's qualified nothing in his back ground why not men are just as qualified as women..... and women are just as capable hurting a child as a man.

my daycare lady younger always had her husband watch us when she ran errands imo he played the best games and pushed the best swings lol if he's qualified nothing in his back ground why not men are just as qualified as women..... and women are just as capable hurting a child as a man.

As a home day care provider I would probably have a problem with it being a male. And thats all due to personal issues and past experiences. As a day care center worker I would have no problem with it. Due to haveing other people around, which would make me more comfortable.

As a home day care provider I would probably have a problem with it being a male. And thats all due to personal issues and past experiences. As a day care center worker I would have no problem with it. Due to haveing other people around, which would make me more comfortable.

I have a twist to this question that with all of the discussion. Â Would the sexual orientation of a care giver cause issues with parents. Â Would a lesbian be okay? Â How about a gay mail? Â Would it make a difference if it was in a center versus an in home care situation?

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I have a twist to this question that with all of the discussion. Â Would the sexual orientation of a care giver cause issues with parents. Â Would a lesbian be okay? Â How about a gay mail? Â Would it make a difference if it was in a center versus an in home care situation?

The only bad experience I have heard from a male daycare worker was my nephews who got thrown out for bringing a gun to work. Young men 18-22 are not thAt bright which is why their death rate is higher. I think people see girls as more mature and trustworthy. Look at those kids that build tunnels at the beach both boys. My hubby's cousin works at a day camp and he is great with kids but I still see him as a bit irresponsible so I wouldn't let him watch my baby. To be honest beside her dad most male relatives are irresponsible to me. None of them could watch her without help, my dad has a bad back that goes out and he wouldn't change her diapers, my brother is a irresponsible with his own kids and falls asleep when watching them, my other brother wouldn't change her diapers and is a little irresponsible. So from my experiance most men I know are not as qualified to watch a baby/ toddler. Maybe a 4 year old.

The only bad experience I have heard from a male daycare worker was my nephews who got thrown out for bringing a gun to work. Young men 18-22 are not thAt bright which is why their death rate is higher. I think people see girls as more mature and trustworthy. Look at those kids that build tunnels at the beach both boys. My hubby's cousin works at a day camp and he is great with kids but I still see him as a bit irresponsible so I wouldn't let him watch my baby. To be honest beside her dad most male relatives are irresponsible to me. None of them could watch her without help, my dad has a bad back that goes out and he wouldn't change her diapers, my brother is a irresponsible with his own kids and falls asleep when watching them, my other brother wouldn't change her diapers and is a little irresponsible. So from my experiance most men I know are not as qualified to watch a baby/ toddler. Maybe a 4 year old.

I was molested by a male babysitter when I was younger. So, due to my personal hang ups, my children will never have a male baby sitter or day care provider. If it was a man who worked in a day care center, I might let it slide because there would be other adults around, but honestly, I'd still be uncomfortable. My logical mind knows that I'm being silly, but that doesn't make me any less anxious.

I was molested by a male babysitter when I was younger. So, due to my personal hang ups, my children will never have a male baby sitter or day care provider. If it was a man who worked in a day care center, I might let it slide because there would be other adults around, but honestly, I'd still be uncomfortable. My logical mind knows that I'm being silly, but that doesn't make me any less anxious.

I don't have any problem with the care provider being male and i certainly wouldn't disregard someone based entirely on gender. To be perfectly honest my dad watches my daughter most of the time I am at work and he is fantastic with kids (even non-relative kids) he actually kind of thrives on all the craziness that comes with watching a bunch of toddlers....I am so thankful for it, but I really don't understand it. He also regularly bathes and changes my daughters diapers and there is definately nothing untoward going on there. I would also leave my daughter with my husband (of course), brother (he has 4 girls) and all but one of my brother in laws...they are all wonderful men and most of them fathers too... and my daughter absolutely LOVES all of them. I think it is being a little sexist to think men aren't as good of child care providers as women too, but perhaps my family is just blessed with extraordinary men

My only (personal) problem is leaving my daughter with strangers, especially in somebody's home where no other adults would be around. I still haven't left her in the care of anyone I don't know well and personally, I am also planning on cutting back at work when baby #2 is born so I won't need to put kids in daycare. It's not that I feel anything bad would happen, but I like the thought of my kids being raised by people that love and care for them on a more personal level (and I am lucky enough that that is an option for my family right now)

I don't have any problem with the care provider being male and i certainly wouldn't disregard someone based entirely on gender. To be perfectly honest my dad watches my daughter most of the time I am at work and he is fantastic with kids (even non-relative kids) he actually kind of thrives on all the craziness that comes with watching a bunch of toddlers....I am so thankful for it, but I really don't understand it. He also regularly bathes and changes my daughters diapers and there is definately nothing untoward going on there. I would also leave my daughter with my husband (of course), brother (he has 4 girls) and all but one of my brother in laws...they are all wonderful men and most of them fathers too... and my daughter absolutely LOVES all of them. I think it is being a little sexist to think men aren't as good of child care providers as women too, but perhaps my family is just blessed with extraordinary men

My only (personal) problem is leaving my daughter with strangers, especially in somebody's home where no other adults would be around. I still haven't left her in the care of anyone I don't know well and personally, I am also planning on cutting back at work when baby #2 is born so I won't need to put kids in daycare. It's not that I feel anything bad would happen, but I like the thought of my kids being raised by people that love and care for them on a more personal level (and I am lucky enough that that is an option for my family right now)

I'm completely in agreement with you HELMPec. I trust all the men in my family just as much as the women to care for our children. Men do tend to have a different style then women (more rough play, etc.) but, that isn't bad in my book.I have never left my children with someone who isn't family or a close personal friend and I might not ever. I'm lucky to live within 20 minutes of more than 40 family members so it has never yet been an issue.So anyway, if the caregiver was someone I trusted to watch my kids full time (most likely only family), then no, their gender/sex/marital status/gay/straight/etc. would not make a difference.

I'm completely in agreement with you HELMPec. I trust all the men in my family just as much as the women to care for our children. Men do tend to have a different style then women (more rough play, etc.) but, that isn't bad in my book.I have never left my children with someone who isn't family or a close personal friend and I might not ever. I'm lucky to live within 20 minutes of more than 40 family members so it has never yet been an issue.So anyway, if the caregiver was someone I trusted to watch my kids full time (most likely only family), then no, their gender/sex/marital status/gay/straight/etc. would not make a difference.

If I knew the man well, I'd probably be fine with it. If not, no way. It's not about qualifications for me, it's about which gender is more likely to molest children. Sad, but there are way more male molesters out there.

If I knew the man well, I'd probably be fine with it. If not, no way. It's not about qualifications for me, it's about which gender is more likely to molest children. Sad, but there are way more male molesters out there.

If the man was someone I knew personally I don't think I would have a problem. But the problem I would have with a male inhome daycare would be their attention to detail. A lot of the men I know just don't have the motherly touch that I think is important. I don't know how to describe it but men don't seem to have as good attention span or womenly touch. The little things like being as clean and neat with certain things. Personally I'd rather have a gay home daycare man the straight. I don't know, again I don't think I'm describing it right but it's late and I should be sleeping. I know when my DH watches DD she can't crawl around on the floor as much cuz he will get destractes by somethin too easily, and I can almost always tell what she had for dinner when I come home cuz there is a spot that he missed and there's still food on her somewhere, lol

If the man was someone I knew personally I don't think I would have a problem. But the problem I would have with a male inhome daycare would be their attention to detail. A lot of the men I know just don't have the motherly touch that I think is important. I don't know how to describe it but men don't seem to have as good attention span or womenly touch. The little things like being as clean and neat with certain things. Personally I'd rather have a gay home daycare man the straight. I don't know, again I don't think I'm describing it right but it's late and I should be sleeping. I know when my DH watches DD she can't crawl around on the floor as much cuz he will get destractes by somethin too easily, and I can almost always tell what she had for dinner when I come home cuz there is a spot that he missed and there's still food on her somewhere, lol

You are blessed with men who can take care of kids. My hubbies cousin who has worked at a day camp for 6 years almost cut gum out of a girls hair. Luckily someone was there to stop him and the scissors in his hands. He usually deals with little kids, but not babies. The men in my family do not put me at ease, even friends of the family. My hubbies best friend is a nurse has 3 girls and even he can be a little irresponsible, an his wife does a lot of the care taking. He's 2 year old broke a chair at my house spilled coffee all over my table while we went out for 15 minutes to the store. These are the type of things I worry about. They don't pay as much attention.

You are blessed with men who can take care of kids. My hubbies cousin who has worked at a day camp for 6 years almost cut gum out of a girls hair. Luckily someone was there to stop him and the scissors in his hands. He usually deals with little kids, but not babies. The men in my family do not put me at ease, even friends of the family. My hubbies best friend is a nurse has 3 girls and even he can be a little irresponsible, an his wife does a lot of the care taking. He's 2 year old broke a chair at my house spilled coffee all over my table while we went out for 15 minutes to the store. These are the type of things I worry about. They don't pay as much attention.

I loved reading all the sexist responses. But if we are being sexist, shouldn't you be home barefoot and pregnant and not needing daycare in the first place. And, I hope you never leave your child with your dad or husband because, well, they are guys and you know how guys are. In fact, just to be safe, make sure to kick your husbands out at night because who knows what happens when you are asleep.

I loved reading all the sexist responses. But if we are being sexist, shouldn't you be home barefoot and pregnant and not needing daycare in the first place. And, I hope you never leave your child with your dad or husband because, well, they are guys and you know how guys are. In fact, just to be safe, make sure to kick your husbands out at night because who knows what happens when you are asleep.

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