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Tuesday, January 5, 2010

I'll admit it. I don't play darts. I have never hunted or shot anything (nerf guns excluded of course, I do have a son). I do not own a bow and arrow. I do, however, understand the basic principle of a bulls-eye. It's the center of that ringed thing you are trying to hit. It's your target, and you aim at the dead-center with the hopes of hitting it dead center.

(now, folks, I realize I said the word "target" and some of your minds have just gone on a shopping trip--mine did too. we'll try to focus.)

Sometimes (most times?) you don't hit the bulls-eye. Sometimes you hit the other rings that circle it. That is still good...and you are obviously pretty close. Especially when you think of all the other places your arrow, bullet or dart could go.

Another confession: I don't like making goals. Never have. Even though I posted some New Year's Resolve thoughts...you'll see I wasn't real specific and I didn't use the word goal. Goals sound too absolute to me. They are measurable by definition and if you can measure it, you can see if you succeeded or failed. You either lose the 28 pounds by the wedding or you don't. You either do the 30 day shred for 30 days straight or you don't. You clean out your garage or you don't. I look at goals as a pass/fail...and I don't like those odds. So I rebel and only set "goals" when I have to. (read here: when a teacher or boss requires me to).

Okay bloggies, these thoughts are actually connected. Stay with me.

But in the last several years, I have come to think of goals as targets. There is no medal for hitting the bulls-eye dead-on. Hitting those rings that are close is still really good. But you don't hit those rings unless you aim...at the target. If you don't aim your efforts could land anywhere.

Losing 20 pounds by the wedding is still awesome even if you don't lose all 28! You would have lost very little if you didn't set your sights on the specific target. Doing 15 days of The Shred is still going to benefit you even if you don't do all 30 this time (I am assuming, I own The Shred and it is still wrapped in plastic). Cleaning out a portion of the garage is still helpful. See what I'm saying?

I realize that for me the p-words (perfectionism and pride) get in the way of setting goals. I am afraid of not hitting the bulls-eye. So I don't even shoot. Or I don't aim at anything in particular and my efforts land who-knows-where.

So, as we face a new year and we think of where we want to be when we are kicking off 2011...I encourage us to:

1)let the p-words go

2)pick a target or two (again, bloggies, not talking about shopping here)

3)set your sights and aim

Be encouraged even when you hit those outer rings--you wouldn't have even come close if you didn't shoot, if you didn't aim.

Today I am celebrating that no one is grading me on bulls-eyes. Aiming is the important part.

10 comments:

Whether you hit your goal or not, what's really important is the direction you're facing. You have to face the target to be able to even SEE where you should aim, and shoot. When I listen to the self-talk in my head that says, "you didn't reach your goal, you're such a loser!", I answer, "Yeah, but at least I'm facing in the right direction, and each day I'm getting closer to reaching that goal!" Practice makes perfect (only with God's help, of course)! You know, the whole idea of removing a mountain one shovelful of dirt at a time. But you never could remove it if you never pick up the shovel!I think that God takes pleasure in knowing that my heart is turned towards him even though I often fail in my actions, thoughts or deeds to be faithful to do what my heart wants me to do.I also wish I could put my thoughts into words as beautifully as you do my sweet daughter!!

I always like reading your posts, but I am liking this one especially. (Especially that you recognized my immediate switch to Target the store, lol!) The P's, perfectionism and pride, well, there it is. Gotta let em go. Perhaps we could share a coffee/diet coke and help each other take aim sometime soon? :)

What is that quote? Something like "If you aim at nothing you'll hit it every time." I like your idea ~ at least choose a target and shoot. If we keep practicing, who knows we might actually hit the bulls eye on occasion.

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I have been married to my best friend for 21 years. I am mom to a 15 year old daughter and a 11 year old son who keep life hopping. I also have another son, Aidan, who lives in heaven now after sharing four months with us on earth. I love to talk, love to laugh, and am a recovering diet coke addict. I love Jesus the most, and can't imagine living life without the Hope I have in Him. I have wonderful friends and family who put up with me well. I am extremely thankful for the full life I live...my Big-G-Good life.