Every day we make a choice to either be grateful and happy,
or we choose to see the bad in everything and be miserable. No matter what may
come our way, we choose how to react and how we allow it to affect us. It’s
okay to be sad and unhappy sometimes, but it’s not okay when it becomes a
habit.

This state of mind unfortunately does become a habit if we
allow it. Many times, unhappy people are stuck in that way of life, thriving on
the pity and sympathy of others. When someone is unhappy or just plain
miserable it’s pretty hard for them to see the good around them or even see
that they are in this negative cycle caused by only them. Instead, they blame,
complain and moan at every chance they get.

They are the victim

In every story an unhappy person tells, they are the victim.
To them, their lives are too hard to tolerate or control, and that’s everyone
else’s fault. They will never accept responsibility for their actions. Feeling
helpless doesn’t make things better and subconsciously, unhappy people start to
thrive on others pity and sympathy.

They love to complain

Unhappy people love to moan about how terrible their lives
are. In fact, almost all they ever do is complain. All Unhappy people focus on
are their problems and the negatives in their lives rather than seeing the good
or finding a solution to what they are complaining about.

They Fear criticism

Worrying about what others think is a huge habit of unhappy
people. While many of us are concerned, to some degree, about what people think,
the unhappy person takes it a step further and goes to any length to shut down
critics and they refuse to accept any form of criticism.

They love to gossip

Unhappy people are unsatisfied with their own lives, so the
focus on others’ lives and try find fault in them. Saying negative things about
others makes the unhappy person feel a false sense of betterment. Happy people
don’t have time to talk about other people’s lives and downfalls; they are far
too focused on the good in their own.

They love drama

Whenever there’s drama, rest assured the unhappy person will
be there. They want to be a part of it so that they can ensure the drama
continues. They like to add fuel to the fire, exaggerate situations to make
things worse and then compare others drama to their own miserable lives so that
others can be stuck in an unhappy state of mind with them.

They struggle to trust

Even the most introverted people need friends; we need
people to love and to love us. That’s what life is all about! Love! But unhappy
people struggle to form bonds and maintain friendships because they fear being
hurt, they don’t like when people won’t feel sorry for them or when they
disagree with their negative points of view. When friends and loved ones try showing
them that life isn’t so bad, they see it as a betrayal and think nobody
understands. This means they end up lonely and even more miserable, thinking
the world is out to get them.