October072012

you’re doing it wrong if you don’t understand the legacies of colonialism and racism in beauty standards, in the states and abroad. if you don’t understand their relationships to eating disorders in poc communities. if you don’t understand how brown and black people struggle to love their racialized bodies.

you’re doing it wrong if you don’t understand how trans people, most especially trans womyn, due to the culture of absolute violence that is reserved specifically for them,
perpetuated even by other trans people, struggle to love their bodies in this cissexist world (thanks, white gender binary). if you don’t understand that sometimes, trans people just hate their bodies because they aren’t right at the time, that they will never be able to achieve the bodies that they want. if you don’t understand that trans people will always have a complicated relationship with their bodies.

you’re doing it wrong if you don’t understand that disabled people struggle to love their bodies in this ableist world. if you don’t understand that some disabled people view their bodies as being wrong or bad, and are struggling with making peace with that. if you don’t understand
that disabled people will always have a complicated elationship with their bodies.

you are doing your boring feminism so wrong if you don’t understand that you’re hurting the most marginalized.

August222012

I have two queer identities and they are at war with each other. I have one queer identity and it is fully integrated. I have one queer identity placed in conflict with itself by outside forces. I have to pick one. I refuse to pick one.
There’s always been a troubled relationship between the (cis) gay male community and the trans community. To the extent that when we say “the gay male community,” we mean, “the cis gay male community.” It’s presupposed within the language that “the trans community” and “the gay community” are discrete and nonintersecting entities.

I have two queer identities and they are at war with each other. I have one queer identity and it is fully integrated. I have one queer identity placed in conflict with itself by outside forces. I have to pick one. I refuse to pick one.
There’s always been a troubled relationship between the (cis) gay male community and the trans community. To the extent that when we say “the gay male community,” we mean, “the cis gay male community.” It’s presupposed within the language that “the trans community” and “the gay community” are discrete and nonintersecting entities.

I have two queer identities and they are at war with each other. I have one queer identity and it is fully integrated. I have one queer identity placed in conflict with itself by outside forces. I have to pick one. I refuse to pick one.
There’s always been a troubled relationship between the (cis) gay male community and the trans community. To the extent that when we say “the gay male community,” we mean, “the cis gay male community.” It’s presupposed within the language that “the trans community” and “the gay community” are discrete and nonintersecting entities.

August172012

I hate that we have to talk about our socialization in cis terms. I had female socialization because I’m female. But my experiences, and my continuing experiences are not the same as a cis woman’s. Much like how any marginalized (insert adjective - trans, neuroatypical, queer, fat, etc ) woman’s experiences are not the same as a skinny, hetero, cis, white woman’s experiences. And yet we hold that as some sort of standard to measure all others. What the hell.

the fact that you are even able to name one form of oppression and throw the weight of a prominent “die cis scum” tattoo behind it is as much a statement about your privilege as it is your oppression. The absence of “die racist scum” or “die colonialist scum” tattoos on your body is jarring

August142012

“I am not interested in situating myself personally in this book. There
are a variety of reasons to justify my position. First, autobiography is
the only discourse in which transsexuals are permitted to speak. An
academic text on transsexuality and the institutional world that does
not address the transsexual author’s personal history, then, is a
critical intervention in the existing knowledge paradigm.”

August112012

July132012

“I date women and trans men” is the definition of cissexism. It’s basing your frame for sexuality on the gender coercively assigned to a person by their doctor at birth, not on that person’s actual identity.

April232012

I do not identify other non-binary peoples’ experiences, and they don’t define mine.

Binary people do not get to define my or anyone else’s non-binary experiences.

I have the right as a non-binary person to refuse to accept people brushing me or any other non-binary person under the fucking carpet because our existences complicate their inaccurate (mis)understandings of gender.

April092012

homophobic – because of the stereotypical portrayal of lesbians as man-haterscissexist – because trans women and guydykes don't seem to exist or are nothing more than a laughable existencemisogynist
– because it repeats the stereotype that feminine people are just fooled by
their partners and don't make conscious choices (the usual narrative is
that femmes are “fooled” by butch lesbians “pretending” to be men, here it is the other way round)