I was at work talking to a coworker that I know well. She seid that I am to picky about guys and that I should consider guys that are less attractive looking. Well first of all, THEIR IS NO SUCH THING AS UGLY! Ok, everyone has something about themselves that makes them attractive, I happen to be attracted to a certain type but I don't chose all the men I talk to based on that. I do have some ground rules and if that makes me picky then oh well. If you don't like it fly a kite...
RULES FOR DATING THECURVYTIGERESS-
1) Be brave enough to ask, If I asked you out once that means I found something about you interesting so if we have fun on a date go ahead and go out on a limb and ask me out for another date... I might say yes but if you don't ask don't expect me to come beging for more. (or at lease indicate you want another date, I'm not a mind reader)
2) PERSONALLITY- Great personallity is nessasary. If you don't bore me and we git along together it's good... if your boring, mean, cold hearted,rude, ect... then their is no way in heck I'll go out with you.
3) Slang is a no no - if I don't understand you and you sound like a uneducated idiot just because you think you need to talk like a homeboy, well... I am not going to be impressed, it's a fast way to annoy or bore me.
4) Trying to hard is dumb... be yourself... I like individuals not ghost and zombies.
5) Physical Attraction- If it goes as far into things as a actuall relationship I have to be attracted to you on a mental, emotional, and chemical level... people seem to think that I can just decide to be with someone just because I have one type of attraction to someone (mostly they say pay attention to personality not looks, I can't help I'm attracted to good looking guys... I have a friend that admits ugly guys turn her on, is that any diffrent?), Hello... it has to be on all levels to be a true romantic relationship. Shure some things are more important but I don't want to git physicly involved with a guy without being attracted to him as an individual I'm chemecly attracted to as well as all the mental and emotional attraction...instead of just because he has something between his leggs and I'm in the mood and I like him as a person (thats called a f buddy), If I wanted that I would just play with a B.O.B. and stay single for the rest of my life while making interesting freinds instead of trying to find a boyfriend with possability of becomeing more.

I was at work talking to a coworker that I know well. She seid that I am to picky about guys and that I should consider guys that are less attractive looking. Well first of all, THEIR IS NO SUCH THING AS UGLY! Ok, everyone has something about themselves that makes them attractive, I happen to be attracted to a certain type but I don't chose all the men I talk to based on that. I do have some ground rules and if that makes me picky then oh well. If you don't like it fly a kite... RULES FOR DATING THECURVYTIGERESS- 1) Be brave enough to ask, If I asked you out once that means I found something about you interesting so if we have fun on a date go ahead and go out on a limb and ask me out for another date... I might say yes but if you don't ask don't expect me to come beging for more. (or at lease indicate you want another date, I'm not a mind reader) 2) PERSONALLITY- Great personallity is nessasary. If you don't bore me and we git along together it's good... if your boring, mean, cold hearted,rude, ect... then their is no way in heck I'll go out with you. 3) Slang is a no no - if I don't understand you and you sound like a uneducated idiot just because you think you need to talk like a homeboy, well... I am not going to be impressed, it's a fast way to annoy or bore me. 4) Trying to hard is dumb... be yourself... I like individuals not ghost and zombies. 5) Physical Attraction- If it goes as far into things as a actuall relationship I have to be attracted to you on a mental, emotional, and chemical level... people seem to think that I can just decide to be with someone just because I have one type of attraction to someone (mostly they say pay attention to personality not looks, I can't help I'm attracted to good looking guys... I have a friend that admits ugly guys turn her on, is that any diffrent?), Hello... it has to be on all levels to be a true romantic relationship. Shure some things are more important but I don't want to git physicly involved with a guy without being attracted to him as an individual I'm chemecly attracted to as well as all the mental and emotional attraction...instead of just because he has something between his leggs and I'm in the mood and I like him as a person (thats called a f buddy), If I wanted that I would just play with a B.O.B. and stay single for the rest of my life while making interesting freinds instead of trying to find a boyfriend with possability of becomeing more.

i feel you about being picky.people think cuz you are plump,you should be glad to get any man.who wants a no job having,living with his mama,the world is holding me down man.keep your eye on the prize.

i feel you about being picky.people think cuz you are plump,you should be glad to get any man.who wants a no job having,living with his mama,the world is holding me down man.keep your eye on the prize.

I agree, I'm picky too and your list of must haves are pretty much everything I'm looking for too(just add in that the man has to be as tall or taller than me.) I see no reason that I should settle when dating because ultimately I'm looking for the man of my dreams that I'll be with forever.

I agree, I'm picky too and your list of must haves are pretty much everything I'm looking for too(just add in that the man has to be as tall or taller than me.) I see no reason that I should settle when dating because ultimately I'm looking for the man of my dreams that I'll be with forever.

32KK2e6 you do have a point...Hummm... what he should expect from me? Well that would be his opinion but as a girlfriend I would be loyal, caring, sexy (I kind of feel sorry for the guy I finally get, I'll probably exhaust him... all that pent up sexual frustration and all.), Loving,... In short I would try to be the best person I can be within our relationship while still being true to me. Your right, it is about compromise and I will compromise to a certain degree but to give up all my expectations and standards would compromise my true self so I stick to my rules to a certain degree and bend and twist like a tree in the wind... lets just hope I don't break from the force of it.

32KK2e6 you do have a point...Hummm... what he should expect from me? Well that would be his opinion but as a girlfriend I would be loyal, caring, sexy (I kind of feel sorry for the guy I finally get, I'll probably exhaust him... all that pent up sexual frustration and all.), Loving,... In short I would try to be the best person I can be within our relationship while still being true to me. Your right, it is about compromise and I will compromise to a certain degree but to give up all my expectations and standards would compromise my true self so I stick to my rules to a certain degree and bend and twist like a tree in the wind... lets just hope I don't break from the force of it.

so you're picky...why not? It's everyone's right to start out looking on the A List for someone. Then as 32kk said...the search turns into a menu..one from column A and one from column B..etc. Would be way to scary to find someone who would meet all of our parameters straight off

so you're picky...why not? It's everyone's right to start out looking on the A List for someone. Then as 32kk said...the search turns into a menu..one from column A and one from column B..etc. Would be way to scary to find someone who would meet all of our parameters straight off

CurvyTigeress -
Your dating rules are descriptive -- EXCEPT I'm not seeing anything in there about what your date might expect from YOU. Ever hear of COMPROMISE? I know I'm pretty set in my ways, but every relationship (boss, kids, coworkers, church, etc.) MUST include compromise. Not that you have disregard or lower your standards, but you should allow for the unexpected. Or you just may be dating BOB the rest of your life.

CurvyTigeress - Your dating rules are descriptive -- EXCEPT I'm not seeing anything in there about what your date might expect from YOU. Ever hear of COMPROMISE? I know I'm pretty set in my ways, but every relationship (boss, kids, coworkers, church, etc.) MUST include compromise. Not that you have disregard or lower your standards, but you should allow for the unexpected. Or you just may be dating BOB the rest of your life.

I think that it scares most people that TheCurvyTigress has stated OUT LOUD what most of us have been thinking all along. We ALL want someone that stimulates us (not boring), attractive to us (who wants to date someone that reminds you of your father/mother?), brave enough to ask (we all want to feel wanted!!!), etc. It just seems natural to me.

I think that it scares most people that TheCurvyTigress has stated OUT LOUD what most of us have been thinking all along. We ALL want someone that stimulates us (not boring), attractive to us (who wants to date someone that reminds you of your father/mother?), brave enough to ask (we all want to feel wanted!!!), etc. It just seems natural to me.

hmmm not sure why i end up commenting on tigresses blogs but may be that they are articulate and well thought out and make loads more sense than a lot of them i have read. that said, i dont think your too picky, i think you know what you want and are willing to look hard for it. on the comment about your number one rule, you seem to have enough sense to know whether or not the person is just uncertain and im sure you would give him all the reasonable signals you can to help them out. lol. best of luck and keep up those standards.

hmmm not sure why i end up commenting on tigresses blogs but may be that they are articulate and well thought out and make loads more sense than a lot of them i have read. that said, i dont think your too picky, i think you know what you want and are willing to look hard for it. on the comment about your number one rule, you seem to have enough sense to know whether or not the person is just uncertain and im sure you would give him all the reasonable signals you can to help them out. lol. best of luck and keep up those standards.

MrGW, the attitude is because I have repeatedly gotten the comment about my pikyness from someone with a low self esteem that sees me as a younger her(fat). I'm not her, I like myself, have confidence and want to find someone I can respect, love, and have a physical relationship with, not someone to put up with cause I am lonely. I have friends and guess what? friends have their own life, they go home at night, I want someone who is going to be more to me than that. If that's rude or full of attitude then you must hang around a lot of people who don't know what they want. I know who I am, what I want, and am willing to do what I have to to git their. One question I have is- do you or anyone who would question my attitude really know those things? see my comments as full of bad attitude? well you obviously are a liar- you lie about yourself and what you want to yourself and the people around you. I am truthful as much as I can be considering truth is in the eye of the beholder. I kid around a lot about stuff, whine and complain like everyone else, and am a happy person in general but I git tired of people pinning their own shortcomings on me or inventing them to explain away some thing they see in me that doesn't fit what they think. Well I am me, not someone else, the attitude? me trying to be heard above the buzz of everyone trying to push me into their mold.

MrGW, the attitude is because I have repeatedly gotten the comment about my pikyness from someone with a low self esteem that sees me as a younger her(fat). I'm not her, I like myself, have confidence and want to find someone I can respect, love, and have a physical relationship with, not someone to put up with cause I am lonely. I have friends and guess what? friends have their own life, they go home at night, I want someone who is going to be more to me than that. If that's rude or full of attitude then you must hang around a lot of people who don't know what they want. I know who I am, what I want, and am willing to do what I have to to git their. One question I have is- do you or anyone who would question my attitude really know those things? see my comments as full of bad attitude? well you obviously are a liar- you lie about yourself and what you want to yourself and the people around you. I am truthful as much as I can be considering truth is in the eye of the beholder. I kid around a lot about stuff, whine and complain like everyone else, and am a happy person in general but I git tired of people pinning their own shortcomings on me or inventing them to explain away some thing they see in me that doesn't fit what they think. Well I am me, not someone else, the attitude? me trying to be heard above the buzz of everyone trying to push me into their mold.

(Sigh)fustration... I git a little fustrated, I usually don't take it out on people or even express it in person... I don't have an attitude in person. Most people think I'm extreamly polite... I think I put up with to much... Real women say what they mean and say it loud enough to be heard.

(Sigh)fustration... I git a little fustrated, I usually don't take it out on people or even express it in person... I don't have an attitude in person. Most people think I'm extreamly polite... I think I put up with to much... Real women say what they mean and say it loud enough to be heard.

Your "standards" seem to be quite well thought out and are presented quite well. That being said; I'm sure that you're a very nice girl and all, that sort of attitude will certainly alienate anmost any man whom I could imagine. Maybe some other kids put up with it but..............

Your "standards" seem to be quite well thought out and are presented quite well. That being said; I'm sure that you're a very nice girl and all, that sort of attitude will certainly alienate anmost any man whom I could imagine. Maybe some other kids put up with it but..............

Amen, to what you said. I talked to a really good coworker. And she gave me advice on people calling me picky. She told me I had standards. Why should you drop your standards and values? I truly hope, men read you blog, because I am so sick and tired of men and/or homies, trying to pick up on me in street talk. It sounds so uneducated. Save it for the court. Be yourself, who would you take home to mom and dad!!

Amen, to what you said. I talked to a really good coworker. And she gave me advice on people calling me picky. She told me I had standards. Why should you drop your standards and values? I truly hope, men read you blog, because I am so sick and tired of men and/or homies, trying to pick up on me in street talk. It sounds so uneducated. Save it for the court. Be yourself, who would you take home to mom and dad!!