Look into Each Other’s Eyes

The eyes are a window to the soul. Therefore, when you make eye contact with your partner, it is as if you can see their inner-most thoughts and feelings. A lingering look from a loved one can trigger feelings of love and happiness. In fact, it is a great way to initiate intimacy in marriage.

Eye contact is also an important part of communication in relationships. Studies have shown that looking into your spouse’s eyes during a conversation obliges him or her to pay attention. It also helps you to get honest answers especially when you are having a difficult discussion. Lastly, you are more likely to remember what was said if you maintain eye contact.

The Science Behind Eye Contact

Smiles and frowns can be faked but it is a lot harder to fake expressions from the nose up. When you make eye contact with your loved one, your body releases oxycotin – otherwise known as the “love hormone.” This is the same hormone that is released when you hug, hold hands or engage in any other intimate activity with someone with whom you are emotionally connected.

Oxycotin is what makes our hearts flutter when we are staring deep into the eyes of a loved one. For this reason, eye contact can be very useful for married couples who are trying to reconnect or rekindle their love. It’s impossible not to be attracted to someone who makes your heart skip a beat with a simple look.

There are Many Kinds of Eye Contact . . .

Peeking – This is the kind of eye contact that you make when you are flirting with someone. You stare at them until they catch you and then you quickly look away. This quick glance may be accompanied by a smile to make it less awkward.

Side to side eye contact – Staring is intimidating and far from romantic. You can avoid staring at your loved one by shifting your gaze from one eye to the other every 2 or so seconds. This keeps your eyes moving and eliminates the uncomfortable feeling of a stare.

Triangular gaze – This gaze is especially appropriate for married couples. It involves shifting your gaze between the left eye, right eye and lips creating a “triangle”. It is a flirtatious way of expressing interest in a kiss.

Extended gaze– This gaze is great for expressing attraction towards your partner. It involves looking deep into your loved one’s eyes for prolonged periods of time and can be used as an invitation to conversation.

If You Are Shy . . .

Some people have a hard time making eye contact, regardless of whether it is with strangers or loved ones. It makes them feel vulnerable and exposed and almost always ends in giggles.

If you are a shy person, there are a few tricks that you can use to overcome shyness when you are with your spouse. For example, instead of looking directly into your partner’s eyes, you can look in between their eyes. This way, you will still look as if you are making eye contact.

Making eye contact with your partner is one of the most romantic ideas. It makes communication in marriage easier and reignites the spark. Make a point of making eye contact with your spouse today and watch sparks fly!

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