Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

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Posted Apr. 27, 2013
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Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

Posted May. 20, 2013
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tillieh

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

As an adoptive mother, I identified with Caroline although I had a very hard time with her "not-so-motherly" feelings. I identified with Tia because I could feel her pain although I had a very hard time with her inability to pick herself up by the bootstraps and move on. Juliette was a bit too obsessive for me and although she came across as the one person who seemed to have a lot of strength, she was too insecure in her marriage. I think she would have been better off to have divorced herself from Nathan when she found out about the affair.

Posted May. 20, 2013
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laurap

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

One of the things I least liked about the book was that I couldn't really identify with any of them. I was really put off by the fact that none of them seemed to be focused on the welfare of the child. Each was so involved in her own issues that the child's situation seemed totally secondary.

Posted May. 21, 2013
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mariannes

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

I identified most with Juliette because I'm married. I'm not an adoptive mother and I haven't had a child out of wedlock,or given one up for adoption. Juliette wanted Savannah to be part of their family and to know her father, brothers and grandparents. I could understand those feelings, although I agree with laurap that Savannah's welfare should be the first consideration.

Posted May. 21, 2013
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lynnw

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

I saw a lot of myself in Juliette. I had a husband who strayed and I can still feel the hurt of the whole situation. Juliette was truly kind for wanting to include Savannah in her family. I'm not sure I could have done that, but it was a kind thing to so. Children should not be punished for the sins of adults.

Posted May. 21, 2013
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LilLizzy1487

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

I personally could identify with all three of the female protagonists. Like Tia, I am an only child and I can relate to her being a lost little girl. There have been many times in my life where I have felt and acted like a lost little girl.

Like Juliette, I have tried to hold on to a relationship that was over long before I let it go, never sure whether I should really be fighting for the relationship or letting it end.

I have always wanted a child. Ever since I was a little girl myself, I would dream about being a mommy. But I also have a strong, sometimes stern, personality. And I wonder often if this part of my personality will be a negative thing in the relationship of my future child(ren).

Posted May. 22, 2013
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Sharlene

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

I could not identify with any of these women even though I have an adopted child and have encountered some of the same problems as Juliette. I'm not certain her motives in wanting to have the child included as part of her family life were all that noble. I'm not so certain it wasn't her way of continuing to "rub Nathan's nose in it." It would have been a difficult situation to explain to the boys and one I think they would have been better off not knowing about, at least until they were older. It was also her way of testing what the relationship really was/had been between Nathan and Tia.

Posted May. 22, 2013
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bestmartin

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

I agree with Laurap and sharlene. I had a hard time identifying with any of the women. There was some fundamental mother's instinct missing.

Posted May. 25, 2013
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dianem

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

I identified with Juliette because I went thru a similar situation in my marriage. Her emotions were what I was feeling. Even though there was no child involved, I don't you ever get over it. I think Juliette was really kind about the child, but I didnt quite understand her motives. I dont think I could have done that.

Posted May. 25, 2013
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Sharlene

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RE: Of the three female protagonists, which did you most identify with, and why?

I don't really think Juliette's motives were all that noble. It certainly would have been confusing for a young child to have so many "families" to deal with. When she is older, if she wishes to have a relationship with her father and her father's family, that's her choice and a different story. I'm not certain Juliette wasn't pushing the situation to test what Nathan's real feelings were about Tia. She certainly would not be able to put the affair behind her with the child in her life.