Brain in Love – Dr. Oz Show

What watching Dr. Oz on Wednesday and his topic was on “The Battle of the Sexes”. He had a guest on by the name of Dr. Daniel Amen, author of the book “Brain in Love.” Dr. Oz said that Dr. Amen is one of the leading authorities on study of the brain. He has studied over 50,000 brains. In his study, he has come to the following conclusions:

Women have trouble letting go of issues. And men have trouble focusing on the issues. Our brains are wired to act this way.

His advice to women was “to use less words” and you have to ask men more than once to do something. But you have to be careful in how you speak to your husbands.

His advice to men was “do not cut off their wives when they are talking (like saying, “Would you get to the point”). The reason is that our wives do not want us to solve the problem, they just want us to listen to them. And finally the best solution for a man is to help around the house with the chores and with the kids. And lastly never treat his wife as one of his buddies.

As I was listening to Dr. Amen, I noticed that he was confirming the simple truths of God’s word in marriage.

The apostle Peter (1 Peter 3:1-7) gave the best insight into husband and wives in the scripture. Peter was one of the apostles who was married (we know this because Scripture says that he had a mother-in-law, and men do not go looking for mother-in-laws, they come with our wives).

Peter said to women, “they (husband) may be ﻿won without a word by the behavior of their wives.” The behavior of the wife is “gentle and quiet spirit”. Gentle means staying under control and quiet means how you speak when you feeling safe in a situation.

Peter to the men said, “live with your wife in an understanding way.” It is the man’s job to be home when he is home. He is to make an effort to be close to his wife. And it is his job to understand her. Also Peter says, “show her honor.” She is more than a just a friend. She is your wife, your friend, your lover, and the mother of your children.

It has taken a while, but science has finally caught up with the Apostle Peter (took nearly 2,000 years). Marriage is not rocket science, it based on two principles: love (men love their wives) and respect (women respect your husbands).