I was lucky enough that a few of my friends from Terre Haute, IN made the journey up to Chicago to ring in the new year with me before I fly out. My flight leaves in two days, I cannot express the emotions I’m feeling right now. Please check out the video I’ve posted along with this blog, it will give anyone who has never been to Chicago an idea of the wonders this great city holds.

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So I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 24. We’ve known each other since we met last year when I was studying abroad in Nepal (he is from Nepal). But since I live in the U.S. we are basically in a long distance relationship.

Since coming back to the U.S. to finish my college education he’s asked me about 5 different times for money. Usually the amounts are in the $100-$300s. He tells me what he needs the money for and they are all for good, worthy things (such paying for rent, medicine for his sick father, medical check-ups–(he doesn’t have health insurance) and I believe him because I know the kind of person he is. I know for sure that he really is a good person with good intentions. We both know our love for each other is real and I know I can trust him with what he’s doing with the money, so therefore, I am always willing to help him.

However, I also did just graduate from college a few months ago and I still don’t have a job even though I’ve been trying my hardest every day to find one. So since I don’t have a job and I also have thousands of dollars worth of student loans to pay back, I’m not exactly in the position to be the provider of money to someone right now (other than myself). I moved back in with my parents so that helps with living expenses but I still have no more than $1000 in my account and I am trying to save it up for grad school and my own apartment. My boyfriend knows my situation and he understands but he still has many of his own problems.

So just yesterday my boyfriend has asked me for money again but this time I feel really uncomfortable about giving it. He’s asked me for money so many times before but he’s only told me he’d be able to pay me back only about once. I don’t know for sure that he will be able to pay me back all of what I gave him someday (which to date is a little more than $1,000). He also doesn’t have a job himself right now and what he earns from being a trekking guide is very little anyway. I’ve tried to help him with finding jobs but with no luck either. Most of his family and other people he knows don’t have much money so he really doesn’t have others he can turn also. Since I’m not even in the same country as him there’s only so much I can do too. I really feel that I should help him because he needs me (basically to stay alive) but at the same time my own resources are starting to run dry. If I don’t give him money though, then I’ll feel guilty because he might not even have enough money to buy food. And of course I don’t want him to starve to death! (His situation really is that serious).

I don’t know what to do!!! I just don’t want to be someone’s money machine and be taken advantage of, but at the same time I want to help someone I really love. This is giving me so much stress. WHAT DO I DO?

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