We’re taught, as heterosexual men, that only certain modes of sexuality and sexual practice are acceptable, and that anything else reflects poorly on our ability to be manly enough. This is all blown to pieces in the BDSM scene, where everything is about pleasure, consent, and open-mindedness. One think we have to admit that we’ve discovered in the scene is the use of toys specifically geared toward men. If you’re new to the scene, which you probably are if you’re reading this article, maybe the most experience you’ve had with toys in general is using a vibrator on a girlfriend or two. That’s just the tip of the iceberg, and these days, we couldn’t even maintain a relationship without the creative use of toys. BDSM also involves implements the vast majority of the time, whether they’re penetrative, for impact play, or just restraints, so you should get used to seeing things around. Here are some things that will blow your mind, if you can get past the social stigma.

Chastity Devices

Chastity devices are hot because they force you to hold back your orgasm. That might sound like the worst idea in the world, but trust us, it’s the best one. BDSM is about control and trust, so when the woman that you’re with is in control of your orgasm, it can take the act to mind-blowing levels. There are male chastity devices made for everyday use, which are basically cock cages specifically designed to be worn under your clothes, if you’re into taking the BDSM lifestyle out of the dungeon. These types of devices basically fit around your dick, and are usually made of some type of clear synthetic. The device will have literally have padlocks on it, and because of the shape of the enclosure, it will become impossible for you to have an erection or for you to jerk off.

The other main type of chastity equipment is devices that are intended to be used during play, and control the time and ability to orgasm or maintain a hard-on. Something that would meet this definition would be a cock ring, which basically fits over the base of your penis and prevents you from coming. Until the woman using it on you says you’re allowed to remove it, you’re basically begging to release, which is a great way to take your orgasms to new heights.

Anal Play

“Indulge in anal play”

You may have seen this headline and balked, but we’re men of the 21st century, we’re telling you the truth: things in your butt feel great. First of all, the prostate myth isn’t a myth – it’s totally real. If you stimulate your prostate, which is located in front of the rectum toward the front of the body, you can get some mind-blowing orgasms. There are curved anal plugs that are specifically designed to press against the prostate and can be used during to play to heighten the experience. Another type of chastity here is using an anal plug as a way to keep you in line, and can be a sort of disciplinary action. However you might use it, it can be really hot.