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Where's the romance?

Is there such a thing as romance between gay men? I haven't seen much of it so that's why I'm asking. Is it possible? Do guys even like that stuff when amongst themselves? What are some of the gay romantic things you've been a witness too?

Re: Where's the romance?

I think it depends what you are looking for in a guy
If it is a quick shag then romance has no place
If you are looking for a long term partner then romance can be very important in establishing compatibility

Re: Where's the romance?

Romance is basically the love story of two people. It's not about public displays of affection or even romantic gestures, although they are part of it. You may not be wtinessing it between two people because it is a heart thing, first and foremost.

Have you ever seen two people together who even without outward gestures of affection, their love for each other was almost palpable?
You could feel the electricity between them.
You saw it in the way they looked at each other. There was just something so gentle and kind and intimate between them. You would be willing to bet that when they were alone, the lovemaking (not just the sex, but also the sex) was deeply passionate and totally exclusive. The problem is, we are so accustomed to looking for the obvious that we miss the unmistakeable reality of true love.
Romance is so much more than wine and roses and clinging to each other while whispering sweet nothings. Those things can be noticed by anyone, but they can also be part of nothing more than sexual seduction.
Open the eyes of your heart and you will see true love and romance. Sex is so blatantly in-our-faces, romance is private and spiritual.

An unfortunate fact of life, is that love takes effort. Romance can be lost in the busy-ness of life or the mundane day to day experience of life, like work or raising children.

Re: Where's the romance?

the romance is always in your left or right hand and cock between thumbprint and other fingers of your choosing, some stains from work and the rosy Palmer. That is your love. If that is lost then the right is left and the left is right.

Re: Where's the romance?

I experience deep romance very often over the years with my woman. I know the bond, the secret communication and the telepathy between two people in love. That has been my existance since I was 18. But the two relationships I've been in with men have been somewhat romanceless, so that's what made me ask.

Re: Where's the romance?

Originally Posted by mikey3000

I experience deep romance very often over the years with my woman. I know the bond, the secret communication and the telepathy between two people in love. That has been my existance since I was 18. But the two relationships I've been in with men have been somewhat romanceless, so that's what made me ask.

Well, lots of bisexuals have posted here that they see men for sex and women for relationship (romance), so you not an exception.
But I assure you that there is great romance between two men who love each other.

Re: Where's the romance?

Originally Posted by sixthson

Well, lots of bisexuals have posted here that they see men for sex and women for relationship (romance), so you not an exception.
But I assure you that there is great romance between two men who love each other.

Actually I WANT the romance with my guy, but he doesn't appear to be into it. . I try romantic stuff on him that my wife and I do, and he just yells at me. That's why I was wondering if it existed between men. I'm glad it does. But maybe it just won't for me.

Re: Where's the romance?

Originally Posted by mikey3000

Actually I WANT the romance with my guy, but he doesn't appear to be into it. . I try romantic stuff on him that my wife and I do, and he just yells at me. That's why I was wondering if it existed between men. I'm glad it does. But maybe it just won't for me.

Maybe because your idea of romance with a woman doesn't work with a guy.

I've dated a couple of bisexual guys.

I broke it off with one of them for awhile so he went back to dating some chick, and he bought her flowers.

I was like, "Why didn't you ever buy me flowers?"

His answer? "I don't know."

The other guy always treated me like "the chick" (even though I was the top in the relationship) and to this day still calls me "honey" and "darling," and "sweetie" and honestly it didn't do anything for me.

I like sixthson's reply in post #3 of this thread:

Originally Posted by sixthson

Romance is basically the love story of two people. It's not about public displays of affection or even romantic gestures, although they are part of it. You may not be wtinessing it between two people because it is a heart thing, first and foremost.

The sweetest things that my loves have done for me didn't involve "flowers" or "pet names," but rather the small gestures that they made; giving me a small gift because they knew that it was something that I like or collected, and only because they were thinking about me at the time that they saw it.

Allowing me to be the mess that I can be from time to time, and when I've calmed down nestling into me while we watch TV, or reaching out and taking my hand while we're driving somewhere.

Romance IS the little things that we do for each other, to acknowledge each other, to show appreciation for each other; eye contact, a touch, a kind and thoughtful word when we know that the other needs it, but would never ask for it or demand it.

You can't force romance.

Either it's there or it's not.

And both of you must appreciate and trust the gesture.

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Re: Where's the romance?

I don't think any man, gay or straight, wants to be treated like a woman. Don't spread rose petals on the bed, don't pull my chair out for me, don't baby me. I am a man in love with a man. I want to feel the maleness of our relationship. I kissed lots of girls before I fell in love with my man and while it was nice, something was missing. The first time I kissed him, I knew what it was. His body against mine felt strong and hard, his hug was firm and sure, his kiss felt hungry and maybe even a little aggressive. I knew he wanted me like I wanted him. I didn't want to feel softness, I wanted to feel his masculinity.
As nice as gifts are, that just is not romance to me. Anyone can buy a gift. But to be in a room with a lot of other people and to look up and see your man looking at you in a way that words could never express what his eyes are saying. One of the most romantic things he ever said to me was early on in our relationship. He told me that I belonged to him. I could not have felt more loved and over the years I have seen the look in his eyes that express those words. Romance is looking into my eyes during lovemaking and seeing passion that is much more than sexual, it's passion for each other and not just our bodies.

When my legs are wrapped around him and he is inside me, I don't need no stinking gift, I just need to hear him say my name like only he can say it.

Re: Where's the romance?

Originally Posted by thatgirl

Tbh, this is somewhat confusing.

You wondered why one guy didn't give you flowers in your relationship but gave them to his girlfriend (something that is typically done by the man in hetero pairings). But then you thought the other guy was treating you too much "like the chick" in the relationship? Wouldn't giving you flowers be making you "the chick?" going by your reasoning? IDK.