I used to be so shocked and disgusted when I’d hear about yet another woman who’d start cheating on her husband when he was off in Iraq. I really looked down on those women before. Well, now I’m doing it, too. My husband is on his second tour. After he came back from the first one, he was like a different person. He was always snapping at me and our kids and just acted like a typical jerk. He was never like that before. I know it’s the war that did this to him but eventually I just got fed up. I felt so alone even before he left again.

Then once he was gone I got all depressed. This friend of ours started looking after me pretty good. He wasn’t the one who initiated the sex. That was me. He didn’t resist but I don’t think he had any other motive. He’s being so sweet to me. I think he’s in love with me or something. I’m not sure how I feel. I’m pretty sure I’m going to tell my husband I want to get divorced once he’s back. But I’m not sure I’ll stay with this new guy. For now though it’s just what I need. It’s the only thing keeping me going. I want to get the hell off this base.

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45 Responses to “Cheating Military Wives Are Common”

is his name drewlo you are a dumb bitch you are giveing up all that for what your husband has done for you i hope you get ran over by a mac truck and live but are so mess up and he leave you and takes the kids and you are alone for ever or you do leave him and find you cant make it on your own and go back to him and he doesnt take you back and you are fucked and youll end up like your mom shaking up with any one that will take care of you but always treat you like the piece of shit you are

i am currently deployed and its hard for soldiers to deploy and leave there wife an family behind. know to go home and find some guy in my house sleeping in my bed telling my doughter what to do just becouse you got a little horny and can not control it how would u feel if i just went out an sleeped with some random girl

The door swings both ways. I personally know of a military wife out of Pendleton who was so distraught with fear over her husband’s 2nd tour of Iraq, and was so convinced he wouldn’t make it home, that that she had a nervous breakdown and drank bleach in an attempt to kill herself, rather than live without him. She survived, but it turns out he was cheating for years and he broke the news to her in the hospital that he was leaving her.

You are a disgusting shameful person. If you didn’t want to be with him anymore you could have made that clear and left. You did not have to go around behind his back and cheat. Leaving is always an option even if you have kids. And lets say you have kids, then what’s going to hurt more? Leaving and having split parents or having their father always look at their mother as a cheating whore, worse yet when they understand what that means.

I am disgusted! My husband has been to Iraq twice and now is in Germany and leaving for his third tour in approx. 2 months. I could never. Loneliness… yes but my love is stronger. It is unreal how you and others behave. I am a young, beautiful woman but the temptation for another man other than my husband is NOT AN OPTION. u people are sick and deserve what u get KARMA IS A BITCH…. that is pure selfish and disgusting on your part. u married the military and knew what u were doing when u did it, suck it up and live with ur decision or freaking leave

Hi I’m a married soldier deployed3 times, i’m now stateside, thank God, but me and my wifegot to an agreement, we know that sex is physical, c’mon we’ll need some. The agreement is that we can cheat on each other while I’m deployed we’ve been married for 15 years been in the military 16, my marriage is great, so is my military career, best wishes to you’ll, Happy Holidays!!!!

Vern, I think you dont know what the hell you are talking about. What do you know about the conflicts of the Iraq or Afghanistan campaign. I think you are a ignorant fool, you Know well that the american government makes decisions to go to a foreign country and make war. Being in the military it is not my decision to be here or not, I am just a soldier doing my job. You need to get your facts straight before you run off at the mouth, do not pass judgement on service members when you have no idea what the hell its all about. What do you know of loyalty, these mean and women despite their own convictions or beliefs put there lives on the line for their country everyday. They serve with loyalty to their country, whatever the reasons are for a war misguided or not, you should feel lucky you have men and women willing to serve and protect their nation and all that inhabit it(including people like yourselves who like to take advantage of the opportunities this nation offers, largely in part of these servicemembers you like to speak so ill of). Thats ok Vern because karma is a bitch and i sincerely hope you realize the error of your ways before karma bites you in the ass you ungrateful SOB.

Vern, I think you dont know what the hell you are talking about. What do you know about the conflicts of the Iraq or Afghanistan campaign. I think you are a ignorant fool, you Know well that the american government makes decisions to go to a foreign country and make war. Being in the military it is not my decision to be here or not, I am just a soldier doing my job. You need to get your facts straight before you run off at the mouth, do not pass judgement on service members when you have no idea what the hell its all about. What do you know of loyalty, these mean and women despite their own convictions or beliefs put there lives on the line for their country everyday.

CONT:They serve with loyalty to their country, whatever the reasons are for a war misguided or not, you should feel lucky you have men and women willing to serve and protect their nation and all that inhabit it(including people like yourselves who like to take advantage of the opportunities this nation offers, largely in part of these servicemembers you like to speak so ill of). Thats ok Vern because karma is a bitch and i sincerely hope you realize the error of your ways before karma bites you in the ass you ungrateful SOB.

I think its great these women are cheating on these soldiers!!! Keep it up!!! The majority of the male whores in the military are doing just that. Let them reap what they sew. Who the hell cares? I’m a military spouse and my husband has informed me of all the infidelity. I’ve seen some photos of it. I’m quite sure he’s guilty also. I can’t wait for his Karma to kick in too. Whatever you do will come back to you.
To those few faithful spouses all I can say is fret not. The cheating bastards will get their due and the scars will last a lifetime. I’ve seen it happen.

I got your back Vern!!! I did a tour in iraq, came home to a cheating whore, got a divorce and separated after 10 years of service so she didn’t get a dime of my retirement. I’ve been to baghdad so I reserve the right to say its as dishonorable as all the infidelity that ensues.

anyone who joins the service for this corrupt country has the IQ of a fence post. patriotism? of what? corporate greed, sexism and bigotry? and furthermore, military wives are mentally incompetent imbusills. and you people sucking uncle sam’s cock, are the same kind of filth that thinks marriage needs to be protected. protect what? this kind of insipid trash? heterosexuals are human garbage.

Lets step out of the fairy tale world for a second. I am a soldier and I can testify with my hand on any bible that 90 percent of soldiers are screwing around on there wifes as well. Can’t just blame her the ball rolls both ways! I divorced my wife after she admitted to cheating but I was doing the same thing as well as almost everybody in my unit!

Vern - You don’t know a damn thing I bet your one of the pathetic civi’s who sit around waiting for soldiers like myself to deploy and then wait for a girls night out and then go hunting, I’m even willing to bet that your education is less than my 12 year old daughter and you are a bit spiteful towards our service members because you were denied service…. Further more my wife is very loyal and she is also Army, Neither one of us are worried about the other and we support each other in all decision making, I dare you to make a pass at my wife, you’ll wake up with a really big head ache after she knocks your A$$ out!!!!

Of course there will be cheating. Come on people !!! Sex is sex and Love is Love.. Married for 15 years here and both very much in love, but we both realize that we both NEED sex. NOT love, Nothing emotional, but sex.
I’m on my 3rd tour and me and my lovely wife have an open marriage, she is allowed to have sex with other guys while I’m away. it takes all the temptation away, the frustration for being separated for that long. Our love, commitment and marriage is stronger than never, she tells me all about the guys she have sex with, she is honest and upfront with them, she tells them she is happily married and is NOT looking for love or to change her status, all she wants is physical fun, SEX.
Believe or not all you judging ppl, this is the best way to go. I love my wife, my family and she does too. There is NO cheating, no Lying, no hiding, therefore no hurt feelings..
I personally love to know that while Im away serving the country that I love, some guy of HER choosing is serving the wife that I love..

I was with a marine, faithful to him especially during this 1st deployement I had to endure. And it was HARD! The worst thing was not touching him, having him hold me and to see his face. Then I find out this snake cheated on me, lied to me and a bunch of other stuff. I can’t tell you the heartache I felt. So I know how it feels. I would’ve never done anything like that to him. But the feeling, fidelity and love was not mutual. He’ll get his in the end but I’m good knowing I was a good, no great woman and it’s hard to find that kind of love.
I wish you would’ve been able to work things out and your husband go to counseling but hey it’s your house and your life. Just be careful and I wish you luck and the wisdom to make the right decisions.

you know I’m sick of everyone acting like its the woman…. to the ones in the military… how does it goes… what happens TDY stays TDY? well it don’t stay TDY! and what happens while deployed in the sandbox? don’t act like it don’t… so to all the asses that act like its just the woman back home… your secrets are not always going to be safe… and they will come forward… if your in the sandbox or in Korea… lets hear how it really is.

If this second guy is smart he’ll dump you before your husband returns .All you want in a guy is between his legs and nothing more .You’re friend knows that, and you’re just another easy slut for him .You would make a good hooker,and could get banged 5 or 6 times every night .You would like that,I know .

My wife should be listed in this article… And so should 4 out of her 5 friends… Only one of the friends she told, had not cheated on their husband while he was deployed. Two were doing it when she told them about her affair. Im not saying that its ok for them to do it, but they want forgiveness, and claim that their ” needs werent being met”. Were in a war zone, our needs werent being met either… Yet if we had cheated on you, you would have been crying out about why arent we being courtmartialed, or kicked out…. Dunno what pisses me off more, the cheating slut, or the total hypocracy!

You fucking bitch, those men risk their lives to protect our nation and you go around screwing other guys while they are on duty. On most army bases during war there is no one for them to cheat with you dumb bitch. You better hope he doesn’t find out cause if it was me i’d kill you both.

I think you all, are a bunch of damned idiots. I mean, c’mon. If you truly love and care for someone, how hard is it to keep it in your pants??! I’m an Army Wife, my husband has been deployed, twice. And we’ve both been not only faithful to each other, but love each other all the more. Sex is physical yes, but that lack of physical intimacy -can- be dealt with. You just lack the will power and drive to actually cope in non-cheating ways, because let’s face it, you’re selfish. You want YOUR needs met, regardless of the other person. And cheating? Is not trusting your spouse to be faithful to you, nor even attempting the roots of your very marriage sacred. People need to realize this : what makes marriages fall apart? Cheating, Porn, and all the sexual imagery today. I proudly have a high sex drive, but I only share it with my husband, yes I get frustrated, but I either take care of it alone with pictures of him, or wait for him to get home. There’s also Skype and internet people! I know they have it! And trust me, it does work! It’s sad, that sex is just sex to you all. Sex is bonding yourself to someone, through physical intimacy. That’s only meant for your spouse. And regardless of what sacrifices you soldiers may make, you and your spouse should be able to keep it in your pants. It’s your fault for not keeping your bedroom alive even while your gone. That’s why there are military laws in place of adultery are in place, as well, to begin with. Because if you can’t be faithful to your spouse, what makes the military so sure you can be faithful to your chain enough to do your job? You want to know why so many wives cheat, as well as their husbands? The wives let themselves go, sitting on their husbands money, then the husband’s don’t want them anymore, so there becomes and issue of intimacy right there. Alrighty, I’m done, hope some of you take my words and think about them carefully, unlike being like most people on the internet and going “blah blah blah you don’t know what your talking about I cheat lol and it’s ok.” -_- Yeah. And that’s why more cheating happens, and good people are heartbroken and torn apart, and more and more soldier/family suicides happen. Listen well : Gahndi himself said,”Be the change you want to see in the world.” And I truly believe that. Unless change starts happening with YOU, nothing will ever change. Do what’s right, c’mon people, it really isn’t that hard. It just requires actual effort, instead of doing what’s easy. And if your marriage is everything and worth it to you, then do something about it. Have a good one.

I can really relate to this post. I have never had an affair but I can see how it may appeal to some military wives and girlfriends. When I married my husband I didn’t realize how difficult our relationship was going to be I mean we can’t travel without him filling out paper work first, he works 12 hour shifts, and he’s always on call. They even tried to call him in on our wedding day and it wasn’t the original date. Sometimes I feel like I drew the short straw. Lol. Military men complain about the affairs that happen when they deploy but have they ever really thought about what we go through as wives. My husband is about to deploy and I don’t know what’s going to happen while he’s gone or which state our relationship will be in when he gets back. We use to be so in love but now I don’t even know what my feelings are towards him. For the past 2 years all we have done is argue about stupid things, really stupid things. Since we got married he has been short tempered, snapping at everything and it only gets worse before he deploys. I never thought being married could make me feel this lonely. I feel like I gave up everything for him and instead of making sure we are ok before he leaves he goes to his friend’s party, and is fixing a car or another friend. He is securing the relationships he has with his friends instead of his wife.

Stef. I love what you said. I feel the same way. I don’t want to cheat and I don’t have any intentions to go out looking. My husband is about to leave as well. he is truly being a dick. I don’t thinks he realizes how hard military life is on me. I am use to having a life and doing my own thing. I gave up my friends for him and my family lives hours away. We don’t have kids. What make it worse and makes the thought of having an affair easier is that I’m scared.its as simple as that. If something were to happen to him I don’t know what I would do. I don’t support myself or even haave great credit anymore. It is easier to be with a guy that works in the U.S and travels for fun then one that travels and get shot at daily. An affair is a easy thing to take my mind off of things. Last time he deployed it was the guy they sent to our house every monthe to seeif I need help with anything who kept trying to get in my pants. Army and airforce men complain but its their friend that are hitting on their ived the most. They know when they are leaving and know when there coming back. That sucks.

Personally I don’t think it is wrong. You get lonely and sometimes there is nothing wrong with getting laid. as long as you are still with him when he gets home and dont cheat anymore than what is the big deal?

I’m so sorry for your loss. I can imagine how alone and broken you feel, and how detached you are from your integrity. You should go to a counselor asap, you need emotional support. Spilling your heart out on websites like this is only going to insight cruelty, and could lead you to self-destructive behavior. You also need to communicate with your husband, as much as it hurts you. Cheating hurts, but you can heal those wounds. Divorce is extreme and often times avoidable. Search your heart, if this soldier is the man you love fight for him. You’re not in touch with your emotions and that’s a very dangerous place to make decisions from. Much love to you!

Ever heard of sex toys? Porn? Sexual needs can be self fulfilled. Getting busy doing good deeds during the day volunteering or working a job to pass the time? I saw too much of this while I was in. Had it happen to me by wives of friends while their spouse were in the field or on TDY.Easy squeezy! No,I didn’t do the deed. One chick her husband was not gone even 24 hours before she was all about me. I saw wives prostitute themselves both officers and enlisted alike while their hubby’s were not around. My wife cheated on me multiple times as well. I was young at 19 and valued being faithful back then. Stupid me, right? It seemed military wives were all whoreish but like me some did value their wedding vows.

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