Stop When You See Red: Revised Edition

Your actions or reactions to people are motivated by how you perceive them. Through understanding the four perceptual styles, the Empowering and Limiting Tendencies, and how to defuse your hot buttons, it’s possible to live a richly rewarding life—guaranteed.

Abstract:
Through this powerful book, you will learn why your actions or reactions to people are motivated by how you perceive them. It includes:

The Four Perceptions Self-Appraisal, which reveals how your perceptual styles influence your perceptions The Comfort Zone Thieves Self-Appraisal, which illustrates how and why your comfort zone is shrinkingThe Hot Button Reaction Assessment that shows you what to do when your reactions drive you up a wallThe Wall of Fears that fuels your reactions Charlie Finn’s poem: Please Listen to What I’m NOT Saying, which exposes the masks we hide behind

Customer Reviews

Excellent self-help book...one of the best I have read. I actually met myself for the first time and did not necessarily like all that I was introduced to. Good Work Carol, keep them coming!!

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Goes Beyond The Rules
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06/01/2007

Reviewer:
Susan Haley

In the plethora of 'self-help' books, finally one that actually breaks down behaviour into personality differences. We all know that certain behaviours are less than desirable, but this is the first work I've read that goes further into the realms of personality. It helps us to evaluate 'why' we, or those with whom we have relationships, act and react how we do. It then offers insight on the different ways to approach a set of circumstances depending on the personality type you are dealing with and being aware of your own propensity to what just may be an errant reaction.
Carol Welsh points out in a most interesting manner, that there is no 'one size fits all' in the realms of behaviour. There simply isn't a 'do' or 'don't do' solution to dealing with important, or difficult, relationships. Even our most prominent personality quirks are also subject to three other layered factors. What works for one may only fuel the flames of another.
I found the concepts most fascinating, both in evaluating my own behavior patterns as well as those with whom I deal closely. This work gives you a 'hands on' approach to individuals rather than a 'clinical' application of psychology that tends to lump every trait as universal to all who portray it.
I recommend it for anyone, age and gender not withstanding, who wishes to function 'comfortably' in any social environment beyond solitude. That would include your family unit if living with parents and siblings, a spouse, a child, a work environment, or simply shopping in a customer filled store.
Susan Haley, Author
RAINY DAY PEOPLE

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Be in the Driver's Seat of Your Life
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07/29/2007

Reviewer:
Lois W. Stern

Although most of us already have some insight into our perceptual strengths and weaknesses, the self-appraisal test toward the beginning of this book helps us identify just how strong or weak each of our empowering and limiting tendencies actually is. The remainder of the book teahes us strategies for cooling our "hot buttons", interacting effectively with various perceptual types, and readjusting the way we act or react by adjusting the way we perceive the actions and reactions of others. The true stories shared within the pages of this book from the authors personal experiences, as well as those from her friends, colleagues and workshop participants, serve as clear illustrations.
Once you understand that the choice is yours, you place yourself in the driver's seat of your life. By expunging yourself of negativity, you will gain the magical powers of a happier, more effective you.
Not only will you want to read this book, but afterwards, you will want to sign up for one of Carol Welsh's workshops.
Lois w. Stern
Author of Sex, Lies and Cosmetic Surgery

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09/25/2009

Reviewer:
Rob Miller

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