It’s Not About a Baby

Did you know our journey isn’t about a baby? “Sayyyy whhhhhat.” Yup, that is right. It’s not about a baby. Yes, that is what we are waiting on, but our wait is about so much more than us having a baby. It’s about the journey, not the end result. I am not saying that our babies aren’t important because of course they are. But God is creating a work in us while we wait that is so much more important than what we are waiting for.

If it were just about having a baby, God would have made it happen already. Instead, he is making us wait on him. There is always purpose when he places us in the waiting room and it’s not tease us or to torture us, but he makes us wait because he loves us and he wants the very best for us.

“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;perseverance, character; and character, hope.And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Romans 5:3-5

It is through the trials that he is refining us to become more like him. He is producing in us perseverance, character, hope and so much more than that. He is teaching us patience while we wait and he is writing a testimony that is so much bigger than we can even comprehend.

What are you waiting for? You might be reading this blog because like myself you are also going through infertility. But, maybe it’s different. Maybe you are waiting for a spouse, a restored marriage, a job, or something else. Remember to seek Christ more than what you are waiting for and when you do your trial and time of waiting won’t be wasted, but instead it will be a time of growth as you are refined to look more like Christ!

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Thank you for this, Caroline. Your constant faith through this is so encouraging. This is something I needed to hear today as I wait for what God has planned next in my life. Your story is, indeed, writing an incredible testimony. I feel honored just sharing that testimony to others and pointing them toward your kind of faith!

Amen! I remember when Jason and I both said that it was worth the wait for the lessons we were learning on the way. Our growth during our journey far outweighed the difficulty of getting there. Not to say that I want to go through it again, but God IS GOOD. And He will surround you with his love and goodness and grace during this time which is so so sweet and rich.

You know, the past couple of days I’ve had a really hard time. And your post is the probably the third that I’ve read that talks about something super similar, and they have all really spoken to me. I think it’s God’s way of saying that I need to rely on Him, trust in Him and be patient.
My relationship with Him has definitely grown, but it’s not where I want it to be…I’m hoping our relationship grows over the summer and I’m able to get peace of mind and clarity.

I am waiting for healing, and God is teaching me a lot during this time, but it’s so, so, SO hard. As my body is ill and I do not know what from, I struggle with anxiety and depression, which I find so frustrating. I don’t know if I will be healed on this earth or not, and I really struggle with not knowing what’s wrong and the potential long-term-ness of this illness. When I am really honest with God, I tell Him: I want to grow in my faith but I want to be healthy, too!! I’ve been coming across a number of devotionals, Bible verses, etc, along the same theme as this blog post; that’s it’s good to go through trials. But it’s SO. HARD. when I don’t know if I’m going “through” the trial or if I will be here, in the same trial, for another sixty years.

I just love how your faith guides you on this journey, YES it is not about the end result, it’s the walk along the way that gets you there…strengthening your faith, your marriage and the faith of so many others who look upon you as inspiration. You are such an amazing woman and I pray someday I am able to sit beside you for coffee to talk!

To God be the glory. I had my Victorious Overcomer group night and the pastor spoke about the above scripture. It may be unpleasant now but overall it produces all the above. Thanks for sharing your heart. So happy to have met you and follow your encouraging posts.

Michelle Beckett

I love this post! Caroline, I love what God has put in your heart and allowed you and Cody to endure in order to show His love, grace and mercy to others. I saw it the first day I met you and I know He will give you a baby because He has said so. May your story touch the world.

Michelle Beckett

It is always such good fellowship to visit and watch your maturity (and the process) as you grow in a situation that so many could easily become bitter over. You are a blessing to me each time I stop by.

Wow! This is an awesome reminder! Thank you so much! “Remember to seek Christ more than what you are waiting for and when you do, your trial and time of waiting won’t be wasted.” That really hit me in some deep places. Thank You