Wednesday, March 11, 2009

We met with our Social Worker M* today. I enjoyed getting to know her. The visit went smoothly. Mostly she just observed us and we chatted about the adjustments our family has been making. She noted his preference for his daddy right away, though she and I both agreed that it was a positive for Jonas to be so willing to identify and attach with him.

M* reassured us that the decisions we had been making with regard to promoting his attachment to both of us were the right ones. Attachment in adoption requires concentrated work. It can be tiring to keep up such a demanding regime. Hearing positive feedback from someone who is actually educated about the intricacies/challenges/struggles instead of a random person just spouting off their opinion meant a healthy dose of encouragement for me and Dustin. We knew we didn't have anything to prove with her because she already understood where we were coming from. There was no having to explain. It was just a 'this is what we are doing about it' kind of conversation. That was a welcome relief. M* made it clear that she felt very positive about our progress. Even though her job is not to grade us, we felt like we had gotten aces on the big test. It was nice to get a two thumbs up from her.

So, that's it for our three month post placement visit. We'll see M* again in another three months.

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Aren't adoption social workers the best? Love them! They've always been so helpful and supportive and encouraging! And, you're right, it's so nice that they "get it" and you don't have to educate them about all things adoption.

That's great Jen! We felt the same way when we had our 3 month visit. It was good to hear we were doing things the "right" way for attachment to occur when other people had all kinds of opinions on what we should be doing differently.