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Reddit Help I am a 28 year old male and find myself attracted in every possible way to a 19 year old woman I know. I havn't acted on it and am inclined not to but get along really well with her and get the sense the attraction is mutual. Any advice?

I think its the social implications OP is worried about. A friend of mine is in the same situation. He's 30 she just turned 21. She's a great girl and while everyone points out the age difference no one looks down on either of them for it. She's mature for her age and he's immature for his. Works well.

My grandpa was 9 years older than my grandma. He died last week but not after spending 69 years with that woman. It all depends on who YOU are. If your a good person then there is no issue in my book. I'm 24 and dated an 18 year old. I think the only thing you have to worry about is her hurting you. She is young. She doesn't have the same life views. This was my problem and I had to break up with her.

this is the one. pre-21 vs post-21 is completely different. Back when I was 19, all I (and most of my college) wanted to do was drink/party and have fun... Then I hit 21 and it became legal and I absolutely hated college parties and that lifestyle. Now a fun Friday night is a big bottle of wine and watching Shark Tank on demand...and sex.

Keep in mind you might be experiencing chemical/biological urges to reproduce, which may be clouding your judgement (i.e. She might just think you are a nice guy, but you read that as "SHE WANTS TO MAKE WITH THE FUCKY FUCK NAOW")

Many women are more attracted to older, more mature men. Just keep in mind that she's significantly younger than you, and so you'll have to be patient and supportive if you two do form a relationship, especially at times when her youth starts to poke through in her personality.

Be prepared to take a guiding role; she may be independent and intelligent, motivated and competent, but she'll benefit from your wisdom if she'll allow you to share it.

Just don't make big deal of her age, and don't condescend to her and you'll be fine. Don't make any commitments until you've been hanging together awhile, and don't lead her on if you just want to fuck her.

I'm 29 and I dated a 20 year old for six months. It DID NOT work. Two completely different places in life. I'm focusing on my career, all she cared about was alcohol and the best parties. Plus, once she turned 21, it got even worse. I would suggest that you not pursue a relationship with her.

Just realize you two are in completely different phases of your life. I was 27 when I met my ex who was 18 at the time. We dated for two years and it was the best relationship I've ever had. However she split up with me because she needed to find out who she was (religion, work life, family issues, etc.) That one hurt man. One part of me knows she was young and needs to find her place in the world, just like everyone else. The other just misses having someone to connect with like that. I'm just saying be careful, this isn't an easy road to travel...

I speak from experience. I'm 33 and have been together with my 20 year old girlfriend for 1 year. Definitely go for it. Age shouldn't matter (as long as you're on this side of legal for the country you live in). I've loved every minute of it and wouldn't change anything. It helps that I'm a youngster at heart. As long as you have enough in common to keep it up, I wholeheartedly suggest you take the dive.

I'm 11 years older than my wife. Age is not an issue. The main question you need to ask is whether this is infatuation or if you believe that this has a chance to be an actual relationship. If you do decide it's worth the shot, make an effort to communicate.

Yes, don't feel bad about it if it's a mutual thing. I'm 33, soon to be 34, and currently talking to a recently 20 year old girl. Age is just a number, IMO. Be careful of becoming to attached though. She is going to be coming up on major life changes. I've been treading lightly in my current situation for this very reason!

U should be attackin that... Keep in mind there's an age gap... Not that 9 yrs is much, but how mature were u at 19? If its for the slam, do it big... If not, really analyze the situation... Don't wanna have urself fucked up

I am frequently in this situation with women. Mostly because I look the age. If it's legal consenting age, then go for it. I'll have to warn you though, women at that age aren't in for the long run. Good luck.

Don't worry about it! Age is just a number, IMO. That being said, you do need to realize no matter how mature she is. She hasn't been through the life experiences for said maturity level. That may or may not be an issue down the road. It was once for me, I was 25 n she was 19. 3.5 years later, we went separate ways because she needed to figure out what was important for her.

I happen to be in a similar situation as you currently. Recently met a girl. I guess you could say we're on the friends with bene's level. She just recently turned 20, I'm 33, soon to be 34... I'm treading lightly until I see where this relationship is going. I normally date younger girls since I don't look anywhere near my age. So girls my age normally assume I'm much younger. I can't complain I guess...

I've only ever heard people use this rule as a joke, but I find it to be extremely valid and use it in my life. I'm 24. I wouldn't date an 18-year-old. Up it to 19 I miiight date her, with much caution.

My dad's 54. I wouldn't screw my face up that much if he dated a 34-year-old. It's a good rule. I move we make it law.