My evil bride

I don’t love her, I don’t even like her but I don’t know how to get away from her.

She’s booked our ceremony and I’m aware that I’m about to make the biggest mistake of my life.

In the past few months the scales have fallen from my eyes and I’ve finally started to see her for the control freak she really is.

She refused to let me see my kids over Christmas, she banned my mum from my home and made me cry when I dared to answer back.

She and I first got together at my old job. She knew I was married but she pursued me relentlessly. I didn’t know what had hit me and we fell into a sexual affair.

A few weeks later she rang my wife and told her that my marriage was over. My wife was devastated.

But by then I was so far under my lover’s spell that I wasn’t thinking straight. I allowed her to start my divorce and boy, did she go for it. She was utterly ruthless. She hired a private detective to check my wife out.

She ordered me to ask for the children’s medical records so I could accuse my wife of neglect and abuse (I still hang my head in shame at that one) and she did everything in her power to discredit my wife and rip her off.

I now realise she was bloodthirsty. It was my family but it was all a big game to her. Now I’m divorced. My wife is a shadow of her former self and I hate myself.

Since her “victory” my lover has started treating me like dirt and I virtually have to beg for sex.

She insists I owe my “freedom” to her but I think I’d rather be in a padded cell.

JANE SAYS: LOOK, you can’t possibly marry a woman you neither love nor respect. Your lover may be a powerful force, a bully and a controller but she doesn’t own you.

For once in your life, you have to stand up and say “no”.

Shamefully, you allowed her to run your divorce, destroy your wife and devastate your children.

There’s no getting away from the fact you have to take full responsibility for that. You have a lot of bridges to build and apologies to make. First off, you need to make it clear the wedding is off before your new partner spends money or makes any new plans.

Then you must go back to your ex-wife and say “sorry”. Arrange to see your children and make them your priority now.

No doubt your partner will kick and scream and try to order you to “heel” but this is one battle that you must find the guts and courage to fight.