Tuesday, August 24, 2010

So my friend wakes up this morning to ask me 'What's your take on Lawrence Fishburne's daughter issue?' Sure i am aware of it, being that every time I open my computer I would see it somewhere on the internets. Funny enough, I've had no take on it...strange.

My friend goes on to argue that it was perfectly ok, and normal. 'But you see even that brings up the questions, What is normal? what is ok? and many more' I tell him, adding 'One thing i do know though is, people are hypocrites'

I say that from the Father's perspective I would hurt, because She was once a little girl with other dreams.

My friend is unconvinced. He says he believes the general reaction, have been more of disbelief than outrage, people asking questions like 'Does she really think she needs to do that???'. Possibly, I think, i also don't think she was forced into it.

My friend says he doesn't pity the father, and I. don't think its about Pity. I look at my niece, as a 1yr old child, i can't imagine the transition. It cannot even cross my mind (before yesterday). I guess its possibly the same emotions that run through a Parent's mind when their child 'comes out of the closet' It doesn't fit the pattern of 'Normal'

My friend sticks to the notion that perhaps Lawrence himself wasn't a good father, because he doesn't understand how ones child could be involved in such and doesn't know until everyone knows. He said if one is that close to their children they ought to have picked up such. I only agree to an extent, because i know teenagers when it comes to such matters, parents are sometimes the last to know, no matter how close they are.

The girl claims that Lawrence hasn't spoken to her since, maybe He doesn't want to listen. My friend does raise a very valid point at this time. 'What some parents do, bad parents'. He begins 'When their children do anything they consider 'shameful' they react in the stupidest way possible by cutting them off . If the child was wayward and confused when things were 'ok' , when you were talking, when you stop talking, what do you expect? If your child has bad friends, won't cutting him/her off just drive her back to those same friends?'

I agreed with that, and he left my messenger saying 'since you've agreed..'.

I didn't know he was just trying to prove a point! lol. But he did make me think about the issue (and blog it!)

But yeah, I cant understand her mode of thinking, and as a parent, the only thing i would be able to do is love her as i've always done.

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This just reminds me of Toni Braxton and her father's drama just on a larger scale..true its hard for parents to imagine their child all grown up and thinking for themselves but turning away when they go towards what is considered a wrong direction is not the right approach..just makes the situation worse..family is family..like d mafia peeps..lol

lol. yeah.. See why true love is hard to come by. Watched a movie 'School Daze' today, L.F was so hot in it, i bet he has had his own share of women, nobody has a right to really judge anyone else. *sigh*