Last Week Marked The Third Year Anniversary Since Ashburn Mother, Bethany A. Decker, Disappeared

Photo of Bethany Anne Decker taken shortly before her January, 2011 disappearance

Bethany Decker was a 21-year-old mother to a 4-year-old child and was pregnant with another when she disappeared on January 29, 2011 under suspicious circumstances at her apartment on Orchard Grass Terrace in Ashburn, Virginia. She was last seen with her former boyfriend, Ronald Dennis Roldan, who was living with Decker prior to her disappearance. Roldan was last seen in Annadale, Fairfax County, VA.

Bethany Decker had described Roldan’s demeanor to family and friends as “controlling and abusive” according to investigators in court documents.

Roldan’s attorney had said his client was being ‘cooperative’ although sources in the sheriff’s office say he eventually ceased answering questions.

After repeated attempts to contact Decker, her family contacted police on February 19, 2011 and filed a missing persons report. At the time, family members had thought she was with friends, and her friends believed she was staying with family.

According to authorities, there has been no activity on her bank accounts, cell phone, or email account. She was a student attended George Mason University but hasn’t attended any classes after 01/29/11. Kim Nelson, the missing woman’s mother, said her daughter was looking forward to completing her degree and only had 3 more classes left.

Investigators created a timeline which places Decker in Columbia, Maryland the day she went missing. She was there with family members, including her grandmother and her husband, Emile Decker. Her husband, Emile Decker, left for tour duty in Afghanistan on February 2, 2011, three days after his wife went missing. According to the Disappeared show on ID, the couple’s marriage was on the rocks and Bethany did not see Emile off prior to him leaving. Emile has since returned from duty.

Photo of Bethany Deck with former husband Emile Decker

The last person to have seen Bethany, Ronald Roldan, had his attorney make a April, 2012 statement saying that he believed Decker was alive and will return home safely.

Decker’s family and loved ones have been desperately searching for their daughter since her 2011 disappearance. Last week marked the second anniversary since she went missing and since then, her family has reached out to the public threw Facebook, and even met with producers of TV show Disappeared on Investigation Discovery (ID) channel to get their daughter’s name and disappearance out there. Click here to see a clip from the ID program.

Recently her family started the Hope Ribbon for Bethany project to keep the public’s attention.

“Our family has an empty place that was filled with Bethany’s laughter,” said Nelson to reporters when speaking about her daughter’s disappearance.

“Her 3-year-old son will ask ‘Where’s Mommy’ and all I can say is that I don’t know but God is with her,” Nelson said. “We are praying that someone has information on the details of her disappearance and will have the courage to come forward.”

There is no evidence in the case that points to foul play, but authorities are looking at all the possibilities.

Find Bethany Decker is a Facebook page created to update the public and share theories and support her family and loved ones.

Bethany Decker is described as a Caucasian female with brown hair and brown eyes. She is 4-foot-11 and weighed 130 pounds and had a baby bump due to being 5 months pregnant at the time.

I am extremely happy after seeing the Investigation Discovery special about Bethany Decker and learning that she has disappeared. She deserves everything that happens to her after appalling behavior and no regard for any consequences. Her ridiculous and undoubtedly privileged parents and grandparents. Her flippant and childish disregard for the gift of life resulted in the revocation of that gift. Try not to let it happen to her kids.

Young people (including us when we were younger) idealize how life will be. Bethany tried to grow up too fast, like we all do, and realized things weren’t the way she thought they would be. Bethany made some mistakes, as we all do. She was a young woman, a person, a fellow human being, who did not deserve to be judged callously by others. She made some choices that may have cost her her life. She did not deserve to be harmed. She only deserved love, compassion, understanding, and a chance to live her life, learn from her mistakes, and become the person she would have grown to be. Now someone has taken that away from her. She was one of us. Please do not judge God’s children too harshly. She meant no harm to anyone. She was confused…and now, she probably is gone. She did not deserve all of this,.

I just watched the ID show about Bethany. My heart and prayers go out to her family and friends. She could be anyone’s daughter. I hope she is found alive, but whatever the outcome, her family needs to bring her home.

I cannot believe that anyone who believes in a ‘god’ could sit there and say that they “…know that god is with her.” like her loved ones have said. Really?? Really?? So.. If she’s in a shallow grave somewhere, then your ‘god’ is in there WITH HER??!! Wow. Talk about ‘Stupid Beyond Belief’. 😐

Anyway, I don’t see her (Bethany’s) actions as ‘a mistake’. One does not simply slip on an unnoticed Banana peel and fall onto a Man’s throbbing member just before he climaxes, causing her to get knocked up unexpectedly. She knew FULL WELL what she was doing!! Did she make shitty decisions? DEFINITELY! Now, I do understand that, when we’re young, we think we’re ready to tackle some things that we really ARE NOT READY FOR, but.. All to often, women seem to ‘Forge ahead’ in situations where men’ Fear to tread’. Women are usually the ones who rush into having babies, getting married and other things that are very unwise to rush into, AND at a MUCH YOUNGER AGE than men do. After all, notice how qomen are usually YOUNGER THAN the Men that they get involved with?? I don’t mean to come across as a person who doesn’t care about Bethany’s. I’m just telling it like it is. She was NOT a total victim. She was manipulative, deceitful, unfaithful and WILLINGLY got involved with a guy who was controlling (which I’ve personally seen [and fallen victim to] all too often, myself.). I hope they find her corpse 😵 just to close the case, because I know that there are others out there yet to be found and dug up. That’s the kinda world we live in. 😕