Love and Logic Parenting

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Love and Logic is about putting the burden of decision-making on your kids shoulders instead of your own.
This leaves kids feeling both in control and capable.
Whenever possible, consequences replace punishment and are delivered as naturally and with as much empathy as possible.

There are 3 types of parents: (www.loveandlogic.com/pages/threetyp... )
Helicopter: A helicopter parent is constantly hovering over their children, â€œrescuingâ€ them from the natural consequences of the world and â€œprotectingâ€ them from any hardship. Itâ€™s hard for a child of a helicopter parent to learn about being independent in the world because their parent(s) are always there to swoop in and save the day. Uses guilt as a teacher.
Drill Sergeant: A Drill Sergeant parent is always barking orders, telling their kids what to do and making them follow orders blindly without understanding what the reasoning is behind why certain behaviors are expected. Uses pain, punishment and humiliation as a teacher.
Consultant: Helps the child make their own decision. A consultant might share their own decision process with something similar to help the child decide on his/her own. Allows the child to experience lifeâ€™s natural consequences. Allows the child to be his/her own teacher.

Parents should set strong boundaries in loving ways: without anger, lectures or threats.

When a child causes a problem, the parent should hand it back in a loving way:
1. In a loving way, the adult holds the child accountable for solving his/her problems in a way that does not make a problem for others.
2. Children are offered choices with limits.
3. Adults use enforceable statements.
4. Adults provide delayed/extended consequences.
5. The adult's empathy is "locked in" before consequences are delivered.