When the affair is over – with your job I mean …

It is so common to reach that point. The point when the zing is gone, when the excitement and drive is lost. When it just isn’t fun.

No, I am not talking about your relationship with someone special. I am talking about the relationship between you – -and the company you work for. Yes, we do fall out of love with a company, and not necessarily our job.

What causes this:

Changing culture of the company – A huge cause for so many. The company is acquired. Management may change. The spirit just changes and the culture that drew you to the company is gone or radically changed.

A new set of characters to work with – Some of your most special and deep relationships are formed on the job, and sometimes, those folks just leave for new and better things. You are left, without the connection that kept you there or motivated you.

Lost connection with leadership – The boss you thought was the best ever all of a sudden is gone, reassigned or given a new role, that doesn’t include you. You find yourself reporting to a new boss who you do not respect. Disconnect with leadership is one of the major reasons people move on from a company.

And the big one — you just don’t believe anymore – You lose the passion for what you do with an organization, and you question your purpose. You learn finally that work is not just about money. It is about passion, doing good, giving back and growing. Money is far down the list (and to some reading this I can hear your mind churning Man, Moran is nuts) and you will come to that realization.

So what do you do if I am describing you?

Give yourself permission to move on. Giving yourself permission is a defining moment in your life and career. It is the point when you accept that the relationship has ended and it is time for a new beginning. This is the one step – the most important step – that will release you to experience new options and possibilities. You just have to accept that it is okay to do so.

You will form new relationships. You will connect. You will find the passion again.