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EXERCISE 10: DEVELOPING A GRAND VISION You may want to do this exercise alone, out in a natural setting somewhere. 1. See Your Interests, Values, and Abilities. The next step is to discover how your interests and your deep values connect into and form your mission. It can be accomplished by seeing a grand, whole, meaningful image of what purpose you could dedicate your life to. This will be formed from your interests, values, and present goals. Begin to play with the images that you see, which represent some kind of direction that you want to take. As you get a sense of what your mission can be, see various snapshots of yourself doing what you love to do, snapshots of your abilities. 2. Focus on Heroes and Heroines. Take a look at what your favorite heroes or heroines do. See yourself doing things that give you the same feeling you get when you think of them. See snapshots of the person you want to become. Any images you don?t like can fade away. 3. Direct a Movie of Yourself. See yourself the way you want to be?doing the things you love to do. Whatever you choose to put on the screen, you?re the Spielberg, you?re the director. See the images that you feel passionate about. You can play with the images in front of you. Pretend that you?re in the middle of an inner, three-dimensional movie theater. It?s a place where you can see and hear and feel with great fidelity. Notice how much you can see, letting the wisdom from within guide the visual display that you see in front of you. Visualize it, feel it, enjoy it. The images are often up close and in full, rich color. See yourself living out a scenario that gives you tingles in your spine. You can zoom in on that glorious, fun-filled, exciting future that you see. It allows you to do what you love to do and accomplish what you believe in. 4. Recall Your Deep Values. List your deep values as you watch your mission scenario. Notice how your values and your images can fit together with a remarkable consistency. 5. Ask for Help from Your Inner Wisdom. Ask for your inner wisdom, the higher powers, or God to guide your grand vision. This vision is going to be more of a discovery than a creation. Let it come to you. Ask and it will come. Take the time to see and hear those aspects of life that unify into a whole that you feel a powerful passion for. See some more images. See some time going by. See various bright, radiant, up-close, colorful images of what it is that you could create in your life. They can begin going in a certain direction, coalescing and representing many of your current goals, some of the things that you want. See them develop into a kind of grand visionary collection of images that represents your purpose and your mission. 6. Do What It Takes. Take whatever time you need?five minutes, an hour, a whole afternoon. This is your life, your future that you are creating. When you finish, write it down. Your images are so attractive, you have some glimpses of what your mission is. Now you can develop it more fully. Ask the visionary in you to give you the gift of this grand vision.

I just wanted to see if we could do it?like Christopher Columbus. When you do something that?s never been done before, sail on uncharted waters and don?t know where you?re going, you?re not sure what you?re going to find when you get there but at least you?re going somewhere?.

The feeling is much more important than the name of the feeling. These words are not the actual values any more than items on the menu at your favorite restaurant are the actual meals they represent. Values are sets of feelings that let you know what is important to you.

EXERCISE 9: REEXAMINING YOUR DEEPEST VALUES AND PRINCIPLES 1. Think of Some of Your Interests, Loves, and Desires. Look at the goals that you are pursuing now. Next, look into the future and see those goals being achieved. You?ve thought about them a lot before. Pick the most important ones that come to mind?there may be two, three?even five of them. These goals are your specific desired future. 2. Determine Your Values and Principles. In whatever way you find most enjoyable, hold them in mind. Take each particular goal in turn; see it, hear it, experience that it is a goal you own. When you?ve done that, ask yourself: ?What do I value about this goal?? If the goal is to travel, the answer might be ?learning? or ?fun? or something else. If the goal is a new job, the answer to what you value about it could be ?excitement? or ?challenge.? The answer may be one value, or it may be several. For Ted Turner, his values might be harmony, solving problems, and excitement. Susan Butcher seems to value love, caring, and perseverance. Usually the answers are single words or phrases like the words in the following table of values and principles. 3. List Your Values and Principles. Now go through the goals you?ve been holding in mind and ask the question: ?What do I value about this goal?? Make yourself a list. 4. Find Your Deepest Values. When you?ve finished, you will have a list of deep values and/or principles. Now ask yourself, ?What is important to me about all these values?? The answer that comes to mind will be a value that is even more important. Knowing your important, deep values is a crucial aspect of selfunderstanding. Realize how your values have been motivating you, your achievements, your every action. 5. Record the Name of Your Deepest Value or Principle. Write down these values and principles for future reference.

Be true to yourself. Make each day your masterpiece. Help others. Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible. Make friendship a fine art. Build a shelter against a rainy day. Pray for guidance, count and give thanks for your blessings every day.

EXERCISE 8: FINDING YOUR LIFE?S PASSION 1. Tap Your Inner Excitement. Like Steven Spielberg, Susan Butcher, and other great achievers, know your interests. Or as NLP cofounder John Grinder once asked: ?What do you love to do so much that you?d pay to do it?? 2. Know Your Passions, Your Desires, Your Loves. Only you know what you truly love. It could be tinkering, teaching, inventing, or hundreds of other delightful possibilities. You might find hints in a hobby you enjoy. You might love people or love computers, or both. As you think of those interests, those desires, those loves, and those passions, feel your own inner signals of excitement and interest welling up from the depths of your psyche. Feel them. Take an inventory of the most fun events in your life. If you had ten million dollars, what would you pay to do? 3. Focus on Those You Admire. See and hear your favorite heroes and admired people, the men and women who you most want to be like, whom you?ve emulated and imitated throughout your life. These heroes may have similar interests, desires, and goals. Pay attention to them and enjoy them. See them in the screen of your mind?s eye, in the inner theater, and feel the excitement you?ve tapped into. 4. Persist. Keep doing this over and over again until you have a rich collection of images of what you are passionate about doing.

EXERCISE 7: YOU ARE A LEARNER 1. Go Back in Time. Remember how, as a tiny child, you achieved fantastic learning accomplishments? Now, if you put yourself into an imaginary time machine, you can go back to that time of early childhood. Just pretend momentarily that you are in that time machine. Imagine you are going back to that happy time of accelerated learning as a child. Get a glimpse of what it?s like. Notice that the people are very big?you look up at them. There is so much going on. 2. Notice Your Learning Capabilities. You are actively and passionately learning. You are learning a lot of things, especially the language. You are learning fifteen to thirty new words a day. Without even thinking about it, you are learning hundreds of rules of grammar. And that ability to learn remains in you. 3. Inventory Your Gifts. You have 15 billion brain cells that together are twinkling with the circuitry of a thousand cities. Your ears can hear 1,600 different frequencies, ranging from 20 to 20,000 cycles per second. Your eyes can detect a single photon of light. And the 800,000 fibers in each of your optic nerves transmit more information from 132 million rods and cones to your brain than the world?s largest optical computer system. The more than 300 million tiny air sacs in your lungs provide oxygen to the 100 trillion cells throughout your body. Your 206 bones and 656 muscles form a more functionally diverse system of capabilities than any known creature. And these and other tremendous abilities to function and learn can be applied in many different ways. You can?t count all your capabilities?there are too many. 4. Form a Single Image. Now, when you picture your ability to learn, you can see these kinds of capacities as a whole, bright image of your human nervous system?a system of functional capabilities unrivaled in the known universe. If you ever doubt your own capability to achieve your mission, this image can pop up as a factual account of your gifts, turning that doubt into confidence.

EXERCISE 1: MOVIE MUSIC2 In this exercise you will learn how to change an unpleasant memory. This technique works best with everyday problems of low to medium intensity. 1. Watch Movie of Problem Situation. Begin by thinking of an everyday difficulty. For example, recall a time that you were disappointed or embarrassed, a time when you didn?t feel very good about things. Pick a specific and real event from your past. As you think of this specific event, notice what images and sounds come to mind and watch a movie of this event unfold before you. When you?re done, notice how you?re feeling. 2. Select Theme Music. Now select some ?theme music? that mismatches the feelings you got from the movie you just watched. Your memory is probably serious and heavy. So select something light and bouncy, like circus or cartoon music. Some people prefer upbeat dance music, while others like overly dramatic classical or operatic music, like the William Tell Overture?better known as the theme music for the old Lone Ranger radio and television series. 3. Repeat Movie with Music. When you have selected music, have it playing nice and loud in your mind as you begin to watch your movie again. Have the music continue playing all the way through to the end. 4. Check Results. Now, rewind that movie back to the beginning. Play it without the music and notice your response to it this time. Have your feelings changed? For many, the incident has become ludicrous or humorous. For others, their unpleasant feelings have been greatly reduced or at least neutralized. If your feelings are not yet satisfactory for you, try using different kinds of theme music with your movie until you find one that works for you.

EXERCISE 2: THE PICTURE FRAME 1. Think of a Problem Situation. Think of another, somewhat troublesome experience, or everyday difficulty. The more you use situations and feelings that recur often, the more quickly the NLP changes will begin to radiate through your life. If your negative feelings from the first exercise haven?t completely diminished or changed as much as you?d like, use that situation again here. 2 See Yourself in a Snapshot. Quickly go through your memory of this incident as if it?s a movie, but this time pick out one moment, like a frame from a film, that best symbolizes the whole experience for you. As you look at that picture, notice if you are seeing yourself, that younger you, at that time, as if you were looking at a snapshot of yourself at the event. If not, simply begin, in your mind?s eye, to pull back so you can see more and more of the scene until you see yourself, a younger you, wearing what you wore at that time. See it all as an observer looking on. 3. Add a Picture Frame.Holding that image in mind, consider what kind of picture frame you might want to put around this snapshot. Do you want a square or round frame, or perhaps an oval one? How wide should this frame be, and what color? Perhaps you?d like a modern steel frame, or maybe an old-fashioned gold one with swirled decorations and doves on it. When you?ve picked out a frame, add a museum light. 4. Make It into a Painting or Photograph. How could you transform that picture into something more artistic? You might even want to see it as an artistic photograph by Ansel Adams, or in the style of a famous painter, as if it were a Renoir or a Van Gogh. Now take your framed moment and place it between other pictures in the private gallery of your mind. 5. Check Results. Take a moment to clear your mind? Breathe. Now, think of that incident that used to trouble you. Your feelings have probably changed. If not, repeat the exercise using a different frame and a different style of painting or photography until you find one that changes your feelings in a satisfactory way.

EXERCISE 3: CIRCLE OF EXCELLENCE What could you accomplish if you had more confidence when you wanted it? Which positive feelings from your past would you want to reexperience if you could transfer them from where they happened in your life to where you really want them? The Circle of Excellence will do just that. 1. Relive Confidence. Stand up and let yourself go back in your memory to a time when you were very confident, abundantly confident. Relive that moment, seeing what you saw and hearing what you heard. 2. Circle of Excellence. As you feel the confidence building in you, imagine a colored circle on the floor around your feet. What color would you like your circle to be? Would you like it also to have a sound like a soft hum that indicates how powerful it is? When that feeling of confidence is at its fullest, step out of that circle, leaving those confident feelings inside the circle. This is an unusual request, and you can do it. 3. Selecting Cues. Now think of a specific time in your future when you want to have that same feeling of confidence. See and hear what will be there just before you want to feel confident. The cue could be your boss?s office door, your office phone, or hearing yourself being introduced before a speech. 4. Linking. As soon as those cues are clear in your mind, step back into the circle and feel those confident feelings again. Imagine that situation unfolding around you in the future with these confident feelings fully available to you. 5. Check Results. Now step out of the circle again, leaving those confident feelings there in the circle. Outside the circle, take a moment and think again of that upcoming event. You?ll find you?ll automatically recall those confident feelings. This means you?ve already preprogrammed yourself for that upcoming event. You?re feeling better about it and it hasn?t even happened yet. When it arrives, you?ll find yourself naturally responding more confidently.

EXERCISE 4: IDENTIFYING WHAT MAKES AN EXPERIENCE COMPELLING This exercise will help you find out how your brain ?codes? images to increase your motivation by making them so strong you?re naturally compelled to take the steps to achieve them. It?s important to give your full attention to this exercise. 1. Strongly Motivated Experience. Think of a task that is really attractive and compelling to you. Think of something that isn?t fun to do in itself, but whose rewards are so great that you really want to do it. When you think of it, you find it attractive and compelling. What?s important is that you find it attractive and you actually do it. And when you?re experiencing being attracted, look at the image in your mind the way a movie director might. Notice the cinematic qualities: the set, the lighting, the sound. See all this so clearly that you could make a movie of it, one with rich, vivid detail. Having done that, temporarily set aside this attractive experience. 2. Separator State. Take a breath, let it out, and look around. 3. Neutral Experience. Now think of something you don?t care about, such as a paper cup, a pencil, or a piece of paper. When you?ve chosen something, look at it in your mind?s eye. Experience the feeling of not caring about it. Again, be like a movie director and list the cinematic qualities of this inner image. 4. Separator State. When you?ve completed that, clear your mind again by taking a deep breath. 5. Compare Experiences. Notice the differences between what you found very attractive and what you didn?t care about. Our brains are designed to notice differences, and you need to compare things to appreciate the differences.

EXERCISE 5: INCREASING MOTIVATION 1. Valuable Task. Think of something that you know would be valuable for you to do, but you have a hard time getting around to doing it. 2. Check for Objections. Pause to ask all parts of yourself if any part of you has any objection to your actually carrying out this task. Be sensitive to any objections. If you can?t easily satisfy any objections that do come up, think of something else that no part of you objects to. 3. Results and Consequences. Think about the end result of getting this task done?not the process of doing the work, but the positive benefits to you. How will you gain in many ways from getting this done? How do you think about these benefits now? 4. hange Submodalities. Now use the list of elements you discovered in Exercise 4 to change how you think about the results of getting this job done. Make these images bigger, closer, more colorful, etc. Add in the pleasant sound, encouraging voice, or whatever else makes an experience attractive and compellingly motivating for you. Keep doing this until you feel strongly attracted to this task, just as you did with the ?very attractive? experiences in Exercise

EXERCISE 6: THE NEW BEHAVIOR GENERATOR 1. Preparation. Find a relaxed and quiet place to be guided through this technique. You don?t have to close your eyes to do this process. Just make yourself comfortable and begin by looking off to your right. In your mind?s eye, imagine seeing someone who looks just like you a short distance away. This ?other you? will do all the learning in this exercise, as you observe. Only when you are completely satisfied with this process will the new skills be integrated into you. To ensure this, you might even want to experience yourself as being in a Plexiglas bubble, so that you are truly separated and detached from the activities going on with that ?other you? out there. 2. Choose Task. Now, think of something you want to be able to motivate yourself to do. Pick something very simple. For example, it could be cleaning the kitchen sink, balancing your checkbook, or getting up in the morning. Something that you don?t enjoy doing, but you want very much to have done, because of the benefits you?ll gain as a result. 3. See Benefits. Watch that ?other you,? and see what it will look like when the task is completed, including the positive consequences of having it done, both the direct and immediate benefits, and the future benefits that will result. 4. Doing the Task. Now see that ?other you? doing the task easily. As that ?other you? does the task, that ?other you? keeps looking at that image of the task all finished and feels good in response to seeing it all completed. Notice that the internal voice of the ?other you? is enticing and encouraging, reminding you of the future rewards and of how much you have already accomplished toward the goal. Finally, see that ?other you? delighted with having it done and enjoying the reward when the task has been completed. 5. Review and Adjustment. If what you see isn?t completely delightful, you can let a mist cover your inner vision while the wisdom of your unconscious mind makes the appropriate adjustments or changes. When the mist disappears again, you will see the adjustments that have been made in a way that?s pleasing and good for you. Do you want to be that ?other you? who has just used a new motivation strategy? Are you satisfied that that ?other you? has mastered this new skill? Have that ?other you? do the whole process again with another task to demonstrate it to your satisfaction. 6. Integration. When you are fully satisfied, let that Plexiglas bubble fall away, and draw into yourself that ?other you? who has all these new learnings. Some people actually reach out their arms and imagine drawing that other self into themselves. Sometimes people feel a tingle or a release of energy when they do this. 7. Planning. Now take an extra moment to consider when is the next time you will have to perform the task you just motivated yourself to complete.

Pausing for a moment won?t cause you to lose someone?s attention. Always speak as if you?re making complete sense?even when you don?t think you are. The fact is, the way you communicate makes more of an impression than what you say.