rant- sahm worst job ever!

This a rant .... Before anyone says anything no there is no one to help no I cannot find a babysitter to take my kids no my husband cannot help more because he is always gone. I have 4 kids 5 and under 6 weeks being my youngest I love my kids but I'm exhausted I haven't slept in more than 3 hours in months ... My husband is never home and when he is, he is leaving the next day and I can't very well expect him to get up with him because he has to drive a semi - I need him alive. My kids are ungrateful of me .... Yes I realize they are young, but I get screamed at all day, no one eats anything I make I always get its gross, disgusting and more f*cking food wasted. Why bother. Tried letting them help make it or choose instead I got fighting and screaming. I mentioned to a friend that I missed working and my oldest pipes up and says who would clean the house ... Are you kidding me?!?!?! I take my kids places all the time and they aren't even happy I ask if they had fun and its always no, we wanted to do this we wanted to do that. This is not what I signed up for to be a maid, cook and a punching bag. I can't go back now thanks to the cost of child care. So now I really feel trapped.... At least before I had the option now it's not. So done and wishing I was anywhere but here today. Yes it's a gift to see your children grow but this feels like a sentence now, this is by far the worst job i have ever had ... i would never be treated like this anywhere else, I just want to be appreciated by my kids. Like I said this is a rant I'm sure tomorrow of I get a few hours of sleep I will feel differently right now I'm b*tchy and tired.

This a rant .... Before anyone says anything no there is no one to help no I cannot find a babysitter to take my kids no my husband cannot help more because he is always gone. I have 4 kids 5 and under 6 weeks being my youngest I love my kids but I'm exhausted I haven't slept in more than 3 hours in months ... My husband is never home and when he is, he is leaving the next day and I can't very well expect him to get up with him because he has to drive a semi - I need him alive. My kids are ungrateful of me .... Yes I realize they are young, but I get screamed at all day, no one eats anything I make I always get its gross, disgusting and more f*cking food wasted. Why bother. Tried letting them help make it or choose instead I got fighting and screaming. I mentioned to a friend that I missed working and my oldest pipes up and says who would clean the house ... Are you kidding me?!?!?! I take my kids places all the time and they aren't even happy I ask if they had fun and its always no, we wanted to do this we wanted to do that. This is not what I signed up for to be a maid, cook and a punching bag. I can't go back now thanks to the cost of child care. So now I really feel trapped.... At least before I had the option now it's not. So done and wishing I was anywhere but here today. Yes it's a gift to see your children grow but this feels like a sentence now, this is by far the worst job i have ever had ... i would never be treated like this anywhere else, I just want to be appreciated by my kids. Like I said this is a rant I'm sure tomorrow of I get a few hours of sleep I will feel differently right now I'm b*tchy and tired.

:( I'm so sorry you're having a bad day! My plate isn't nearly as full as yours is, and I still have days like that where it seems like everyone is naughty and unappreciative all day and the whole thing just seems like a thankless, overworked, completely unpaid job. I think being a mom is the hardest job there is....even when you HAVE help....even when the days are good...it's just NEVER ending...even when my kids aren't with me, I'm worrying about them....I think it's impossible not to have a breakdown day every now and then with a job that you NEVER EVER really have a break from and that at times can be really really difficult!

I'm sure you're a great mom! Hang in there, and I hope tomorrow is better for you! Usually I only get one day like you're having in a row, and then things will be better at least for a few days...it's like the kids, or maybe God, can tell that you need everything to be better so you can regain your sanity or else you'll lose it completely!

I feel you mama! Go to bed early tonight! (hugs!)

:( I'm so sorry you're having a bad day! My plate isn't nearly as full as yours is, and I still have days like that where it seems like everyone is naughty and unappreciative all day and the whole thing just seems like a thankless, overworked, completely unpaid job. I think being a mom is the hardest job there is....even when you HAVE help....even when the days are good...it's just NEVER ending...even when my kids aren't with me, I'm worrying about them....I think it's impossible not to have a breakdown day every now and then with a job that you NEVER EVER really have a break from and that at times can be really really difficult!

I'm sure you're a great mom! Hang in there, and I hope tomorrow is better for you! Usually I only get one day like you're having in a row, and then things will be better at least for a few days...it's like the kids, or maybe God, can tell that you need everything to be better so you can regain your sanity or else you'll lose it completely!

Maybe you could hire a mother's helper for a few hours a week. It wouldn't have to be someone who is willing to watch all four kids, just willing to help. Maybe even a high school kid who could come by after school.

Maybe you could hire a mother's helper for a few hours a week. It wouldn't have to be someone who is willing to watch all four kids, just willing to help. Maybe even a high school kid who could come by after school.

So sorry to hear you are feeling down. I second the mothers helper. I was one when I was 13 and it was a great experience for me. (A three your old and 3mo old twins). Even if she just took the kids outside for an hour for you to have a refresher nap or some you time. As for the kids at meal time set a timer for 30 mins what ever is left in there plate goes back in the fridge and when they are hungry (snack time or meal time) they get their plate from their last meal and they can't have anything else until that is gone. And only water to drink no juice or milk. This works really well if you have fresh chocolate chip cookies right out of the oven. ;) But be prepared for fits and tantrums, you have to be strong and stick to your guns or it will never work. Take a hug! Be strong I know you can do it.

So sorry to hear you are feeling down. I second the mothers helper. I was one when I was 13 and it was a great experience for me. (A three your old and 3mo old twins). Even if she just took the kids outside for an hour for you to have a refresher nap or some you time. As for the kids at meal time set a timer for 30 mins what ever is left in there plate goes back in the fridge and when they are hungry (snack time or meal time) they get their plate from their last meal and they can't have anything else until that is gone. And only water to drink no juice or milk. This works really well if you have fresh chocolate chip cookies right out of the oven. ;) But be prepared for fits and tantrums, you have to be strong and stick to your guns or it will never work. Take a hug! Be strong I know you can do it.

Oh I second that idea about mealtime. If my son doesn't want to eat lunch, I don't make a big deal about it, I just put it aside, and if he gets hungry between lunch and dinner I don't offer him anything else except the lunch until its gone. If he doesn't eat it by dinnertime I throw it out and he can have dinner instead, but no snacks in between....I do that for all meals, and he almost always comes around and eats whatever I made before the next meal. :)

Oh I second that idea about mealtime. If my son doesn't want to eat lunch, I don't make a big deal about it, I just put it aside, and if he gets hungry between lunch and dinner I don't offer him anything else except the lunch until its gone. If he doesn't eat it by dinnertime I throw it out and he can have dinner instead, but no snacks in between....I do that for all meals, and he almost always comes around and eats whatever I made before the next meal. :)

Imagine when your kids are grown into wonderful adults, you'll be able to look at them and proudly say, "I did that!" it's not much help now but maybe something to look forward to. :) I'm sure it will get soo much better when they start school, too.

Imagine when your kids are grown into wonderful adults, you'll be able to look at them and proudly say, "I did that!" it's not much help now but maybe something to look forward to. :) I'm sure it will get soo much better when they start school, too.

I can sympathize lady! I do get more help from my hubby when he's around, but he also has a crazy sch in law enforcement. I have 3 yo twins, a 16 mth old and just found out I'm expecting #4, so in that super tired stage. The children aren't going to appreciate you until they're adults probably w their own kids! I do make mine use manners and if they won't say please they don't get what they want. I the twins are pretty good abt saying thank you, but if they forget I just say "thank you mama" and that reminds them. If they scream at me, which kids will do, they get in trouble and they don't get what they wanted, until they ask nicely. As far as your child who suggested "who would clean the house" I say that one is old enough to do some simple chores-wipe off table, dust etc. you might check out a book abt strong willed children by Cynthia Tobias-very helpful. Hang in there lady-we've all been there! By the way, you'd be surprised abt being able to find a sitter-I've found 3 now and theyre willing to watch 3 crazy boys!

I can sympathize lady! I do get more help from my hubby when he's around, but he also has a crazy sch in law enforcement. I have 3 yo twins, a 16 mth old and just found out I'm expecting #4, so in that super tired stage. The children aren't going to appreciate you until they're adults probably w their own kids! I do make mine use manners and if they won't say please they don't get what they want. I the twins are pretty good abt saying thank you, but if they forget I just say "thank you mama" and that reminds them. If they scream at me, which kids will do, they get in trouble and they don't get what they wanted, until they ask nicely. As far as your child who suggested "who would clean the house" I say that one is old enough to do some simple chores-wipe off table, dust etc. you might check out a book abt strong willed children by Cynthia Tobias-very helpful. Hang in there lady-we've all been there! By the way, you'd be surprised abt being able to find a sitter-I've found 3 now and theyre willing to watch 3 crazy boys!

That's a lot to handle all at once, hang in there, they will get over it. Maybe they're acting out a little about the new baby. Once things settle down, I'm sure it will get easier for you. I have 4 kids as well, not as close in age though, and it is HARD. Sometimes when everyone just seems to be having a really bad day, I'll plug a movie in and we all just relax and take a minute to snuggle or veg for a bit. It usually always calms them down and after our down time things are a little more relaxed. If you have a yard, maybe just kick them outside to burn off some energy. I'm also one of 4 kids, all within 5 years too, so I know how hectic a household that can be. As often as we drove our mom CRAZY, it was worth it. We are all now strong independent women, and mom putting up with the chaos that was our house is a large part of that. She is a great role model, and that is what you need to be for your kids. So if you have to take an extra long 'bathroom' break just to take a breath and calm down, take a little time, your children will thank you for it down the road, when they realize how hard being a parent actually is.

That's a lot to handle all at once, hang in there, they will get over it. Maybe they're acting out a little about the new baby. Once things settle down, I'm sure it will get easier for you. I have 4 kids as well, not as close in age though, and it is HARD. Sometimes when everyone just seems to be having a really bad day, I'll plug a movie in and we all just relax and take a minute to snuggle or veg for a bit. It usually always calms them down and after our down time things are a little more relaxed. If you have a yard, maybe just kick them outside to burn off some energy. I'm also one of 4 kids, all within 5 years too, so I know how hectic a household that can be. As often as we drove our mom CRAZY, it was worth it. We are all now strong independent women, and mom putting up with the chaos that was our house is a large part of that. She is a great role model, and that is what you need to be for your kids. So if you have to take an extra long 'bathroom' break just to take a breath and calm down, take a little time, your children will thank you for it down the road, when they realize how hard being a parent actually is.

I have an 8 and 5 yr old and now preg with twins. I will be a SAHM b/c of the child care cost as well. I understand how you feel about the kids not appreciating what you do. I hear myself fussing all the time "you could say thank you" or " yall never eat what I cook so why do I bother" sometimes i make them eat cereal for dinner just cuz i know if i cook, it won't get eaten!! God is our refuge and strength!! When you are in the shower or at any point and time during the day, just talk to God like you would a friend and tell him how you feel. He knows where you are at this difficult time in your life and I speak strength, peace, and power into your home. I pray that God will supply the strength you need to carry on, the power and authority to be a great mother, and the peace to unwind and keep your sanity. May his angels be activated in your life and into your home. We all have bad days and sometimes weeks and months! You can do it!!! Keep your head up and keep on keeping on!!! Hopefully you will look back in 10 or so years and know that it was hard, but it was worth it. God bless you mommy!

I have an 8 and 5 yr old and now preg with twins. I will be a SAHM b/c of the child care cost as well. I understand how you feel about the kids not appreciating what you do. I hear myself fussing all the time "you could say thank you" or " yall never eat what I cook so why do I bother" sometimes i make them eat cereal for dinner just cuz i know if i cook, it won't get eaten!! God is our refuge and strength!! When you are in the shower or at any point and time during the day, just talk to God like you would a friend and tell him how you feel. He knows where you are at this difficult time in your life and I speak strength, peace, and power into your home. I pray that God will supply the strength you need to carry on, the power and authority to be a great mother, and the peace to unwind and keep your sanity. May his angels be activated in your life and into your home. We all have bad days and sometimes weeks and months! You can do it!!! Keep your head up and keep on keeping on!!! Hopefully you will look back in 10 or so years and know that it was hard, but it was worth it. God bless you mommy!

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