Dilemma!

So MIL (mother-in-law) is 50 start of March is its been booked for over a year a big cottage in Wales for a week. I was due yesterday but know it could be two weeks before LO (little one) is here yet. Anyways she keeps going on about ‘when we’re at the cottage’ etc etc and I’m really starting to panic that if LO (little one) arrives the latter part she will only be literally 2 weeks old. It’s a 4 hour drive at the best of times! We would go for the full week if we went but I just am worrying now not

Only about baby but myself being in recovery too! She keeps saying how excited she is and that everyone will chip in to help (family and friends are coming and going all week it’s a 6 bed house!) how do I approach the situation by saying we actually may not be coming?!!! If she is born later in Feb I think it’s going to be too much, too overwhelming and too many people!!! Xx

Comments (6)

I personally would wait it out and see. To be honest with the labour and delivery I had with my first there is no way I would have managed a 4hr drive and time away somewhere new. You also need to factor in being about for HV/MW and hospital check ups post delivery. I had my sons hearing test at day 10/14. Could it be an option to stay for a night? You may be surprised and all the fuss and attention suits you post delivery. I’m sure you’ll make the right decision x

I personally would wait it out and see. To be honest with the labour and deli...

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I personally would wait it out and see. To be honest with the labour and delivery I had with my first there is no way I would have managed a 4hr drive and time away somewhere new. You also need to factor in being about for HV/MW and hospital check ups post delivery. I had my sons hearing test at day 10/14. Could it be an option to stay for a night? You may be surprised and all the fuss and attention suits you post delivery. I’m sure you’ll make the right decision x

It’s too far for over night else we would.
I’m just going to have to be totally

Honest and play it by ear I don’t want to be pushed into going somewhere. Yes you’re right about all the appointments etc! Thank you Just had to get it off my chest! Xx

Get your OH (other half) to tell him mum that you guys will have to play it by ear. That how you and the baby are doing comes first. Two weeks old is still very small.

As a stm I take all the help I can get with a demanding toddler so I would take the cottage as a holiday, 😂. But the first time round I wouldn't have wanted to go at all as I would have wanted to just be at home where I knew everything was etc and not feel suffocated by good meaning family.

I'd just go with how you feel at the time.
Get your OH to tell him mum...

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12/02/2018

I'd just go with how you feel at the time.

Get your OH to tell him mum that you guys will have to play it by ear. That how you and the baby are doing comes first. Two weeks old is still very small.

As a stm I take all the help I can get with a demanding toddler so I would take the cottage as a holiday, 😂. But the first time round I wouldn't have wanted to go at all as I would have wanted to just be at home where I knew everything was etc and not feel suffocated by good meaning family.

I think I’m gonna go for a coffee with her tomorrow and perhaps just say?

I’m eternally grateful of the help but I know things can get overwhelming, especially with a new born!! Thank you just going to play it by ear, the thought of a cottage break is so lovely but I just worry! Xx

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