Interracial Dating

The Secret Dating Factor Every Man Must Know

Women demonstrate more fear and avoidance of men who are outside their racial group when they are ovulating.

Seal and Heidi Klum, David Bowie and Iman: All are famous interracial couples. Indeed, black/white, Asian/Latino and Indian/white couples are as common in urban America as Starbucks outlets. They’re not just dating; people of different ethnicities are marrying and raising families. Back in 2005, Michael Rosenfeld of Stanford University calculated that more than 7% of America's 59-million married couples were interracial. More recently, a Pew Research Center study showed that one of seven new American marriages are now interracial.

The study found that the most common configuration of interracial couple is a white male and an Asian female. For instance, in Canada, a country known for its interracial acceptance, about 75% of couples with at least one Japanese partner are an interracial union. The second most-likely ethnic group to date and marry outside their race is Latin Americans, and African Americans are third.

This is all the more reason to be open to beautiful women of different ethnicities — and one of the ways you can do so is through interracial online dating sites. But before you date outside your ethnic circle, there are two calling cards you must possess. One is a polite sensitivity to different cultural values, and the other is a confidence in your own racial identity so that sexual rejection won’t feel like racism.

To buffer the sting of a rejection, know that there are many factors that women use in mate selection, race being only one. Women also consider height, voice tone, pheromones, income, religion, politics, education, fitness — the list goes on. Add to it her fertility cycle.

A new study by psychology professors at Michigan State University found that women demonstrate more fear and avoidance of men who are outside their racial group when they are ovulating. The researchers, who specialize in evolutionary psychology, speculate that this pattern could be an anthropologically hardwired way to ward off marauding males who attacked groups of humans throughout history. One way to protect a village was to defend women from sexual coercion by an outsider. The researchers speculate that some modern women may unknowingly still carry this reflex.

But there is a silver lining to this study. Women who were raised in a diverse culture or raised not to fear different men did not show racial fears when they were fertile. If they tend to perceive men of varying ethnicities as threatening, then this fear was heightened during ovulation. My advice: If you suspect that race may be a big factor in a woman’s rejection, wait a week and try again. Ovulation only lasts a few days each month, so there are 27 other days to show her your winning personality.