Ryan Reynolds and his wife Blake Lively are very private about their relationship (they got married in a totally unexpected wedding, remember?), but for once, the actor is spilling some details about his plans for a family with the former Gossip Girl star.

“We’d love to have a big family,” he said in a recent interview. “We both come from big families — my parents did four, Blake’s did five. A lot of people say it’s crazy, but we’ll only know when we’re there, you know? We’ll walk through that fire pretty happily, I think.”

It isn’t just his relationship with Blake that Ryan has been private about. In fact, when he was married to Scarlett Johansson from 2008-2010, he kept equally as quiet and low key as he does now. “I don’t intentionally try to be evasive about that stuff,” he explained. “If you asked me to describe my relationship, I mean — words are too clumsy to accurately describe how I feel in that regard, particularly in an interview.”

The R.I.P.D. star added that he understands the industry he’s in, and that people are curious, but said, “It’s just tough and emotionally violent — for anyone, I think — to see your personal life summarized in a sentence.”