Q&A Why Isn't She Remorseful After Her Affair?

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Question:

Hi Rick,
Our D-Day was mid-July and my wife ended her affair after an ultimatum about a week ago. I've been doing my best to help my wife navigate the tough waters we are in. My wife is a good woman and has always been a remarkable person in the eleven years we have been together. I'm having trouble understanding her lack of remorse for her actions. She states she feels bad for hurting me but has yet to experience remorse for her actions. Is this a common occurrence? I don't want to base my reactions and decisions merely on a lack of remorse but it has me concerned she could fall into the same trap if there is no remorse.