Wouldn’t It Be Nice

Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. -Leo Tolstoy

Except really, you just have yourself to blame. You’ve told yourself “I can’t change anything” or “They won’t let me do what I need to do” or “The problem is impossible.” The good news: yes, you can change something. They aren’t holding you back, you are. And no, it’s probably not impossible, just hard.

How do you change something, become free, expressive, and get hard things done? Stop blaming others. Stop holding yourself back. Realize that you are lying to yourself. You lied to yourself a long time ago, but here’s the worst part: you forgot you lied to yourself. You said “I’m not good enough” or “People are mean and uncaring” or “Life is unfair.” And then you forgot you told yourself that. Really, you did.

“Holy crap!” you say, “I did lie to myself! I forgot!” It’s ok. Here’s how you fix it. Now that you realized it’s a story, you can realize it’s not true. Because it’s not true, all that stuff that was hard, impossible, someone wouldn’t let you do? It’s gone. Now you can create a great testing framework so you aren’t obsolete or show people how much time they waste with their meetings to get your point across. You can do anything you want without all of that junk in your way, crowding up your head, eating up precious cycles.