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Best Guide on the Market for men getting back into Dating after Divorce

Dating is difficult for all of us and especially once you are divorced, out of the scene for quite a while and have children like I do. It is difficult to deal with. And there is a lot of confusing signals women send we guys have a hard time to understand.

Christie Hartman’s previous book „Changing your Game: A Man’s guide to success with woman“, already gave me a whole new perspective and chance to view not only woman and their needs differently but also my approach.

This new book here “Back in the Game: Succeeding with woman after Divorce” connects directly to the previous one only with the main focus on divorced man with/or without children. Since being divorced and having a child is one of the most difficult basics for dating Christie’s book is the best guidance a man can have.

Christie does not focus on the average “Back in the saddle no matter what pick up tactics” but rather approaches all the difficulties a man can face, offers amazing easy approaches, opportunities and strategies to choose from.

It is witty, filled with personal experience and research experience what makes it “Out-of-life”, easy to read, and even if you don’t have time to go through the entire book right away once you started you can’t stop or wait to continue reading, it is polite and still to the point, and written in a language a normal guy understands easy.

Once you read this book as a divorced man you are actually eager to get back in the dating scene because you feel way more confident, and equipped for the new challenge of dating then you have before.

A book I can only recommend but also urge every divorced man no matter if you are ready to date or not to read. You never know when you need this advice. I wish I would have had this book years ago.

About the Author Dr. Christie Hartman

Dr. Christie Hartman is a dating expert, behavioral scientist, and author of five dating advice books. A recovering academic and closeted nerd, Christie has refocused her overactive, analytical mind on unraveling the scientific and psychological mysteries behind dating and attraction. Catering to both men and women, she deconstructs all that is baffling about dating and makes it easily digestible to singles.

Christies latest book is “Find the Love of your life Online”, a must-have guide for every woman navigating the dense jungles of inline dating, in which she shares the secrets to avoiding the online dating mistakes most woman make.

If you are, like me, for a long time in the dating scene looking for the right one, you might have experienced it all: From a few success stories to plenty of rejection and disappointment. And if you are, like me, not the whiner and complainer, or worst I-know-it-all-kind of-guy but rather the problem solver you might have looked for advice and found plenty of useless online dating advice from self-declared “Dating Guru’s” or worst even some woman who tried to tell you that you have to use seduction and be the bad guy to get you somewhere.

Also there is plenty of advice out there for woman but only a few advice books for man.

After reading Dr. Christie Hartman’s book “Changing your Game” I can assure any man to stop looking for false advice – THIS BOOK IS ALL YOU NEED.

What makes this book better than others even perfect

One thing I like about this book is that it is fascinating written. Even if you have a long work day and cannot read it all at once – the chapters are written in a form that you find yourself eager to see how it continues.

And on top of it, this is the kind of book that you DON’T want to put in a corner once you read it – ON A CONTRARY – whenever you find yourself in a difficult situation and look for advice all you need is this book to see what solutions are the best suitable for the situation.

This book also covers a broad spectrum of what a man wants and needs to know about woman and dating (conventional and online). Let’s face it though my old grand pappy used to say man can never understand woman, or some guys think they know it all – this is nonsense; just as it is nonsense that all woman “tick” equally. Women just like man are individually only their genetic programing is similar and in order to become more successful one needs to understand the basics.

Another reason why this book is fascinating written for me – most psychologists use language that is far beyond understanding and in “Doctors language” makes you constantly feel like you are dumber than the rest – NOT THIS ONE.

Dr. Hartman uses some clear language, easy to understand, reject the overuse of psychological loanwords and uses examples out of life and sometimes out of her own experience.

She makes clear statements without the finger pointing. What she does is, in her own professional way she points out the facts without making a man feel like a moron.

This Book is perfect for every problem solver and those who want to learn how to solve their problems in dating and as a continuing reference book.

All this from a woman’s perspective without feeling the need to put man down and give you the impression that only bad guys get the girls. After reading her book now I know that even a good guy with old fashioned morals and manners can get the right woman (even hot ones) if he stops making the same mistake over and over but rather solve the problems.

And Dr. Hartman’s book is the perfect guideline for that.

Who should read this book:

Problem solvers of all kind: Now we man tend to think two dimensional and based on our profession (Lawyers like Lawyers, Engineers like Engineers) and tend to approach the problem solving in a way we work. “Changing your Game” however shows you different perspectives without making you feel like you suck. Just from the woman’s perspective based on real life examples and her own experience during her own dating time.

Complainers who are tired of complaining and finally want results, and learn how to solve the problem; and the problem is the man not the woman.

And last but not least Woman to understand the hassle man go through during dating and why they react how they react.

Like not all woman are the same not all man are the same and woman might want to know how to read a man and there is no better way to understand what man go through then getting it from THIS BOOK where Dr. Hartman gives man advice on how to deal with sometimes more and sometimes less difficult dating situations and more or less difficult woman situations.

At the same time every man should read Dr. Hartman’s book “It’s not Him, It’s YOU: the truth you may not want – but need – to Hear” to understand what woman go through when dating and get a better understanding.

What I don’t like about this book

It did not come out or brought to me 5 years ago I would be finally married by now and not have made so many mistakes.

Overall

This is a book I suggest for every guy out there who is in the dating field and sometimes gets really tired of it because of lack of success or he feels used.

This is a book every dater wants and needs to have and once he is finished Dating and caught in the blessing of a relationship and/or marriage this is a book he wants to pass on to his friends.

Christie Hartman, a graduate of the University of Colorado is a behavioral scientist, dating expert and author of four dating Book (see above). She also appeared on national television, including “The today Show” and “Fox News Live” as well as on several local TV Shows.