Friday, April 29, 2005

To UNDERSTAND and to be understood

“I know… you never get what I mean…“ - sounds like a statement made by someone who is really angry and sad. It is not very rare that all of us, at some point or the other, speak such harsh words.

No matter whatever may be the reason we always expect others to understand us. It’s like “how can someone think like this about me “or “say such words behind my back” or “I never meant what you interpreted”.

But have you ever given a second thought to your conduct when you say such stuff. Not only do these words indicate lack of communication but also lack of trust. It’s very important to know that to be understood by someone, first you need to understand that person. Being self-centered is what you should avoid.

Relationships are about “give and take”. Have you ever pondered why don’t we say “take and give”. Every mother in the world “gives” unconditional love, that too, without expecting anything in return. But it is up to the child to “take” all the love and blessings and “give” back love and respect. See, here again the cycle ends in “give”.

The very fact that you can “give” somebody shows that you are an able person. It’s wonderful to be independent in life rather than depend on somebody for your existence. In the same way, it’s essential that you place yourself in someone else’s place and think from his/her perspective. If you even make a slightest effort to listen to your dear one, believe me you have made that person’s day.

So do recollect all the moments you repented in your life. Most of them were due to lack of understanding – be it a fight with your friend. Don’t you feel that if you had broken the ice and be the first one to say ‘sorry’ and, try to think on the same lines as he/she was thinking, things would have been better. Perhaps, the other person would accept the mistake (if at all that person was at fault) and thank you for understanding and handling the situation correctly.

Life is beautiful and not worth wasting even a single moment. Live it to the fullest and live it for others. So first understand so that you can be understood.

********************************************************I look at flowers and ponderThey are so beautiful I wonderI believe they teach us the great lesson“He has given us life for a reason"