ended things with SO of 3 years today. It was not dramatic, no yelling, no fighting, basically me just saying that I want out. We have a house together so getting out will not be that quick but I want out. Now I am second guessing myself. I feel in my heart that this is the right move for us both but what if it's not. I am so lonely out here without my family and friends but is that a reason to end what has been a pretty decent relationship?

divorced!

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InnerLight♀ 19946Member # 19946

Posted: 8:19 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013

(((((GP))))))

So sorry, I know you loved this guy but didn't you discover him cheating? Sorry if I have your story wrong, I haven't read all the posts here lately.
What happened?

I'm sure this is really hard.

BS, 55 years
D-day 6-2-08
D after 20 years
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!

Posts: 6628 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California

jo2love♀ 31528Member # 31528

Posted: 9:42 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013

(((gardenparty)))

I'm so sorry. I hear you. Some steps aren't easy to take. Sending you strength and big hugs.

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nowiknow23♀ 33226Member # 33226

Posted: 10:23 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013

(((((gardenparty)))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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caregiver9000♀ 28622Member # 28622

Posted: 11:02 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013

hang in there (((gp)))

You are strong. You are not in limbo. Second guessing happens. I like to make lists. Somehow seeing the reasons WHY written down is concrete and somehow reassuring.

Are you comfortable with the reasons you ended it? I am sure you thought about it long and hard....and I am not sure what the reasons were....

I know it is easy to second guess yourself. But generally, when I end a relationship, I know I did the right thing. If you feel you did the right thing, then don't let the fear of loneliness or being alone change your mind.

(((gardenparty)))

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.