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I will start off first by saying that my son who was 3 was sexually abuse by one of my family members, he is 7 years old now... because of what happen to him he and my other 2 children had to go to counciling and being of young ages all of them they all learned about things they shouldn't of had to learn...

While in counciling we were all sent to another group of all abuse related issuse there were many walks of life in that group one of which was a neighbour that lived 2 doors down, now, her cercomstanses where totally different then what my children and i went through... but, like all meetings "who you see here, what you hear here, let it stay here" i follow that rule i honour that rule... but other do not... unfortunatly... this neighbour has moved now... however, she has taken it apon herself to let other ppl know on my street what my child had indured... sad... anyway, one Mother on this street when ever she sees my son.. she screams out he's a pervert and a basterd and no good for nothing apparently her car is worth more then him dead.. she has screamed that if he were to go anywhere near her yard she will kill him... now i have not heard her say that i was told.... my son has done nothing to anyone on this street... sure he is active... he can act out like any kid, sometimes worse then others and i have been trained on how to handle that when it happens...NOw, my problem is what do i do... cause being in the AA program and learning that some ppl are sicker i feel sorry for this Mother on how she can be so abusive and mean to a child.... all i say to my son is stay away from her she is not well (sick)... Then i think how its gotta be hurting my 7 year old tramedasly,,, he says he understands its words and he also understand that words hurt.. but says he can take it... my thinking is to go slap the shit out of this Mother.... who the hell does she think she is... so i guess i will pray for her... cause really what goes around comes around but i would never want somethng so terrible like that to happen to anyones child... basicly i guess i am saying she needs to be ashamed of herself.... thanks for letting me vent....

Maybe you could simply write her a letter. Explain the circumstances and the feelings being brought up. You will have time to think through your words and keep them to task. What she does after that is on her... at least your side of the street is kept clean.

you goface to face it will turn into confrontation. Apparently TO much is out there already however it has become twisted. Tell her what YOU think she needs to know then tell her what you are seeing and then how it makes you feel. Keep it about you. No blame or anger. Ask your HP to help you write it. Just be calm. The trick will be for you NOT to expect an answer or even one that acknowledges your feelings. Remember your taking care of yourself and your child. DO NOT antagonize the situation. Invite this person for coffee or something at the end of your letter. Like you said... she is sick... reach out the healing hand not the gauntlet.

If I were in your shoes I would drive to my local police station, and file a retraining order against her that states that she is not allowed to speak to your child or you will press charges. She threatened your son, and victimized him and you have that right. She's not a nice person, and her behavior is so bad that no amount of conversation will help, but inflame her. If you are willing to share the story with the police officer, he may be willing to give her the &quot;lecture&quot;, and make her undo her damage. Good Luck!

I agree with Rewind. If anyone was talking to my son that way I would have the police involved.

Now, since you haven't experienced it first hand, you need to know that these things have actually been said. If another adult told you, get them to go to the police with you. If it was a child, and you trust them, I would speak to her face to face very calmly. NO ONE has a right to speak to ANY child that way!!!

Your son and children need to be protected. They need to know that you will protect them. Get your story from a completely reliable source and deal with her. If she doesn't want your child around, she must deal with it as the street is a public place, as is the sidewalk. If she treats a child like that (even calling over the lawn) that is harassment. Police will deal with it.

Your children are worth the effort, as you well know. Seeing as how they've been through so much already, you need to be even more protective.

As for the person who &quot;tattled&quot; you need to tell them to keep their mouth SHUT. Minors are NEVER outed. It's illegal in the newspapers, and should be in general. NO ONE needs to know what happenned to your son unless you or he tell someone.

Don't bother praying for people of this ilk, protect your own, and help your own. G-d helps those who help themselves. Simply turning the other cheek doesn' do justice to your child.

I would be VERY CAREFUL about speaking to this woman face-to-face. You don't know what might ensue and you certainly don't want any fight to start. If, in fact, she DID say these things, she's a very unbalanced person and she might attack you.

I'm not even sure if the Judge would grant you a restraining order, since
it's only the child's word that she said these things. If you can find out if an adult heard these things, maybe you can get one ~ but without more proof, I doubt you can get a restraining order.

I'd instruct my child to stay away from her home; I realize she lives close by but have him try his best to avoid her. Keep an eye on him when he needs to pass that way. Best of luck and God bless.

I can get a NO Trespansing, wright down the reasons that she is receiving the order from me. Saying from this day as of ___2008 you may be charged with harrasment if at anytime you use any form of slander or false information towards the k children from the residence of ____. A copy of this Trespasing Order has been placed in your hands, a copy to the police and the courts....

If you slap the shit out of her, she will just be an empty bag. People who hurt kids, gripe me to no end. Your son sounds more mature than the bag of s(*&amp;*t. If you can get a witness who has heard her threaten to kill him, that is a terroristic threat. Keep your side of the street clean. Don't bring yourself down to her level. Please let us know how this plays out. Hug your boy for all of us. May be we could get her to sit in nodp2days chair lol Seriously though push this to the limit legaly. Hugs Randy

If i didnt' have this place to talk it out,,, the Mother Tiger in me would have turned her into that emty bag,,, that too made me laugh... just goes to show you the power of sharing can really help keep a person in the now and how to handle things without hurting another.... cause if i would have went face to face with this chick,,, i could have had charges layed on me.... I am so glad i shared and very greatfull to everyones replys....

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