10 Signs You Should Leave Your Job

Does Your Job Make You Cry? Know When to Jump Ship Before the Ship Sinks

We've all faced the tough decision of deciding whether or not we should quit our jobs. I know I've Googled " Should I quit my job?" recently, as you may have. This article will go over some reasons that may indicate you should leave your job.

Keep in mind that quitting your job is definitely something you should think long and hard about. If you do decide to quit your job, leave your company the right way.

For those experiencing that daunting feeling that you might need to quit your job because your boss might can you or maybe you're so miserable that it's starting to do a poor job, I suggest job hunting immediately, on the down low. This way, you can keep your options open, and potentially find a new job, before you get the pink slip.

10 Signs It's Time to Quit Your Job

Below are 10 signs that, in my personal experience, tell you it's time to quit your job and start looking for a new one.

You're so stressed out at work that you are turning into an emotional employee. This is a huge sign that your current job is not working for you—your emotions and body know best, so if you're feeling the urge to cry or actually are crying at work, take this as a serious sign. I recently burst into tears at work, in front of my manager, and now I regret it. Before you get to your breaking point, be aware of your stress levels, if they become unmanageable. Look for a new job ASAP, before your emotions get the best of you and you get fired for being unprofessional one too many times on the job.

Time drags. Hopefully all of you have experienced working in a position where time just flew by, either because you had so much fun doing your job or because you had enough work that was important enough, in your eyes, to keep you busy. If you find yourself bored at work and are constantly checking the clock, this is a huge sign that your career has turned into " just a job" and not the right career or gig for you.

You get pigeonholed into a few tasks that you do really well at. This has happened to me before, and I've seen this happen to co-workers. When you get labeled a "specialist" or an "expert" in something, you're always the first up for those tasks you're known for being good at. This may seem flattering at first, but can quickly go sour. When you become the go to person for only a certain task(s), your boss and co-workers will fail to see that you're competent at doing anything else. Thus, the scope of your job becomes mundane and you are deprived of developing new skills and getting new projects to show off your abilities.

You've become angry and bitter towards your job. For one reason or another, you just don't view your job, your boss, or a few of your not-so-favorite co-workers (or all of the above) favorably. This may come across in your humor and people will start to notice. Believe me, I can think of at least one co-worker who fully admits to being very sarcastic, and has even said she notices people think she's being serious, when she's really just being bitter. Either way, people have started to talk about her in a negative manner, even though her skill set is above and beyond the other co-worker in her group. Before you end up getting complained about, realize that even when you're being sarcastic, and some might find it funny, others are taking it seriously. I've found that having a sense of humor in the work place, especially a more cynical or negative one, is not worth it. It may be telling of something more.

The entire office knows about a conflict that you're involved in. Maybe you've had a spat with a co-worker that escalated into more of a fight and the entire company knows. This has happened to me and even though we were both in the wrong, I seemed to be more blameworthy because of my defensiveness. Years later, I still hear about it, and I was lucky I wasn't fired. Maybe your conflict with a coworker isn't as severe, but if you had to have a manager mediate the conflict, it's probably a good sign you should start job hunting. You may not experience any immediate consequences, but trust me, it will be remembered—in a bad way. However, little disagreements that turn into small spats are normal and should be worked through. This is common and easily fixable. Be professional and do whatever you have to in order to put the small fires out. It's the bigger ones that may be a cause for concern.

You're having a difficult time financially. First things first, realize that we're all there when it comes to money being tight, so you can't feel bad for yourself. The economy is tough and it's hard for all of us. However, also keep in mind that no matter how much you make, it will never feel like enough. If you have spent time revising your budget, have tried to get small side jobs, feel that a second job is impossible, and you are still having trouble making ends meet, I suggest you start looking for a higher-paying position. Money isn't everything, but when you're consistently stressing out about it, action is needed.

You've caught whim of a "reorganization." Maybe you've heard of a large budget cut happening, or your company has recently been bought or sold. The above aren't necessarily immediate signs that you should jump ship. Rather, they signs that there are going to be big changes ahead. In turn, if you feel that these changes are going to affect you or your position in a negative way though, I would recommend looking for jobs in your spare time to be prepared in case the axe falls.

Your co-workers are have been acting differently around you. At one point, you may have had a good amount of office friends but lately, you've had the feeling you're being avoided—people seem less patient with you, no one goes out of their way to chat with you, and so on. This could be a sign that there is office gossip going on about you, or that you did something to someone to make them aggravated. This won't immediately be anything other than puzzling and annoying, but if your co-workers start to dislike you, they could start to hate you and it could fester into something much larger. In fact, don't be surprised if your boss writes that you "aren't a team player" on your next review. If you feel as though you haven't wronged in this position, this may be a sign that you need to look for a new team to play in.

Your boss has been acting differently around you. Be cautious in assessing your boss or supervisor's behavior—it may not be an indicator something is wrong and could be something that doesn't concern you, like higher ups giving them a hard time. Or, they could be dealing with their own personal stress. I always advise people to not take their boss' behavior towards them personally. However, there are some obvious signs that you're in deep doodoo with your boss. For example, if your boss is all of a sudden on your case, micromanaging almost to the point where your workload is unmanageable, you're faced with unreasonable deadlines and you feel like you're getting set up for failure. If your boss has chewed you out about seemingly trivial things, recently and frequently, this is a sign that the eagle eye is focused on you. Your boss pulling you aside into their office beyond your regular weekly time is usually not a good sign. Finally, if you're getting assigned mostly busy work, and unchallenging projects, your boss may have lost faith in you.

You have a gut feeling that you might need to quit for one reason or another. Trust your instincts if you're feeling uncomfortable at work. If you feel like your position has been tarnished beyond repair, or if you have been sensing something bad is going to happen at work, that feeling isn't paranoia, it's your gut feeling that it's time to move on, and you should listen. Simply put, if you're just plain unhappy at work, don't ignore that sign.

If It's Time for You to Leave Your Job

If you're feeling undecided about whether or not to quit your job, I can't say it enough, start job hunting quietly right now. That way, if something does happen at work, you'll have options. There is nothing worse than staying in a rocky position for too long, and having to leave on your employers terms and not by your own better judgement.

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Jim 2 months ago

I am currently in a job that cares for the elderly and I am 63 yrs old ! I am finding that I get very little support to carry out my duties and I am being agitated to look bad in the eys of my superiors who I feel are behind it as they do not give me any time to talk to them about it ?

Jennifer 2 months ago

Unless if you are deaf, It's much harder than you think to have a job. If managers don't care about you, like managers don't talk to you or check on you but tell you to have to get a job done before deadline. Also managers don't provide you more training to learn new skills but just do one position on a job, nothing else to do something else.. That is so bad.. Quit your job and go home and collect government check every month and you will never get rich or able to go on vacation at all. Stay home and watch TV till you die. Life is doomed.

prettypenny22 6 months ago

Hello. I am a first time blogger. I have been at the same company for 27 years and in the same office position for 18 years. I have shared the same position with 1 coworker for the last 18 yrs as well. I hate my job and everyday I scream in my car as I drive away. Not the job per say as much as the office politics and bullshit. I know now at age 53 if I had just went to school for an education I would not hate my life so bad. Everyday I come home and look for a job online that would pay equivalent but I know it is impossible. I am only talking about the 50K range but without the education nothing will match. I am so depressed. My coworker is a horrible human being most days. I have always taken the high road and the final knife in my back happened yesterday when she received employee of the month for doing the same job as me. If it had come from my boss I would have been okay with that but it was from another supervisor who is not even involved with our team. I am so damn angry over the favoritism. I cant get past my anger.

Barbara 8 months ago

I love the part about "go find a higher paying job." If I could find a higher paying job that easily, do you think I'd be working in this hell-hole?

half life 9 months ago

I just dont see the point.The slave and master bullshit is alive and well - only you get a few pennies for the daily 10 or 11 hours of crap you endure every day. Jump through hoops to impress a suit for money which isnt enough to survive on, just to impress another suit for a stupid house with 5 fiths of NOTHING for yourself. Who's bloody life is this!?

L 10 months ago

Totally agree know when to give up. I was like a dog with a bone came across conflict didn't deal with it asked to be moved but aren't any happier as I never resolved the situation. I ran from it instead too many negative thoughts became so miserable and the worst of it, is I never took a new job opportunity so feeling stuck again. To Eric you need to watch out you don't flip out I totally did, not thinking of the mortgage etc. Feel like I have gone crazy over my job and should have jumped ship no idea why I didn't maybe fear but can assure you staying is probably worse as I feel like I am dying everyday. In my heart I know I need a change and not doing the job justice.

SJ76 10 months ago

I can't stand my job, its too boring, I was hired on as an IT Intern, and no one is teaching me anything, what a joke this job turned out to be, never again will I accept such a low pay job, regardless of the times. I was happier driving for Lyft, at least I had my own schedule and could sleep in if I needed.

Thandeka 10 months ago

I have been working at his job for more than five years now. and my bosses had no complaints. I got a new supervisor a month before I went on maternity leave. Before I left we got a recommendation from some1 from an external laboratory who came to give training and some advice that I should be made senior technician, my supervisor then said that she will make me senior technician when I got back from maternity leave. When I got back from maternity leave I was told that I had to compete with my junior for the senior tech post, so we were going to take turns as the senior tech and she would then decide who she gives the post to. She started giving training to the other guy, but when my turn came she said she has to go on maternity leave then after that she will train me. Now she's back from maternity leave she want to permanently place the other guy as a senior tech without having given me a chance to prove my self. I have more experience than this guy ( 5 years and he has 1 year ) I am more educated than him, and I taught him all the ropes of the job. Now all I want to do is quit I just hate my job. the only reason I am still here is that I have financial problems, I have kids, I am a single parent and I have bills to pay.

DukeChestnut 10 months ago

I have two part time jobs, one I do from home, the other is a tutoring gig at Sylvan. I absolutely hate the Sylvan job. The kids are fine but the pay is a joke, the hours are lame and I can't stand my boss. I've looked on and off for a different part time job but I can't find much that suits my career goals. I totally understand how some of the other posters feel - there are so many times I wish I could just walk in and give my two weeks notice but the small pittance I earn feels like the only way I can get any money. Ack. So frustrating.

stressedout 10 months ago

I have been working in the same company for over 15 years. I have gone through many changes at this company, many changes in management..some good some bad. I have thought of quitting a few times but things turned around. I love the team I work with. A little over a year ago we got a new upper manager. Since then things have gone completely downhill. This person takes every opportunity to make you feel stupid. They say one thing and then when you attempt to do what they asked they tell you that is not what they told you. sometimes this person will totally contradict themselves. you are set up to fail. getting reprimanded and belittled in front of your peers has a horrible impact on your self esteem. I have started looking but haven't found anything I want yet. I hate to leave my pension plan and benefits because of this one person but have started having health issues and crying on the way home and dreading having to return to this job each day is no way to live.

John 11 months ago

I was at a job for five years and was treated like dirt. I was ran down by a co-worker and the manager liked him, so he joined in and ran me down to despite me being in the right. Many times, the work environment all comes down to who is the best buttkisser and skill goes out the window. The job itself was very stressful, and the fact that the workplace became hostile only added to it...i ended up quitting that job, though i hated it soon after i began working there. Im mad at myself for staying there for five years in a job that didnt appreciate me or my time. All I can add is that for anyone who truely hates their job, its best to find another job first but if you cant and can afford to do so...Either quit OR suck it up and take a deep breath and fight back. If you get fired you can file for unemployment atleast. But staying in a nasty atmosphere just drains energy from YOU and gives it to whoever is causing you grief.

Isaac ssembatya 12 months ago

i have worked with bosses for five years. my bosses act as facilitators because they do not working permits, but they perform my responsibilities. something that make uncomfortable to the extent feeling that my be am not proactive but iam, they are good at listening to rumours and belive in them. fun enough they have decided to sponsor me for my master's degree what does that indicates and now i have been residing at place of work with my co-workers but what they decided is to make me stay out of place of work. Is it that they are sending away indirectly or they are tired of me ? for any advise i will be very greatful

Nikijoe9 12 months ago

I was approached by the director of my current Company to see if I was available for work (I contract) The job he was offering was PA and office manager as well as looking after HR (they have an HR consultant). The job is just what I'm after at the moment and everyone is lovely here. The but is the bosses wife and here friend that she has just got a job for within the Company. The friend is hopeless at her job and has made numerous mistakes and isn't well liked by other member of Company at all her manner is awful. The bosses wife is having secret HR meetings with the HR consultant and she also keeps telling me to do things that I know aren't right but it's her way or no way. This is only a very small company and she has visions of grandeur and it's just not working things are impossible. The friend has recently decided to just work when ever and it would appear that this is OK because she is the bosses friend. It doesn't seem to matter that I am the office manager and I don't know what is going on in my own office. I know you must think speak to your boss, but his wife very much wears the trousers and that isn't an option

khioko23 12 months ago

I had two jobs before and after I graduated from college. The first job that I had, I worked as an ESL educator-trainee to Korean students. I cried on the second day when I was going home from work for no reason at all. I just kept crying and crying so my parents told me to quit my job and so I did that the next day. And the second job was when I was a sales associate in a hotel. My former job was very far from what I learned in college since I took International studies as my course. My mom got me that job since she's friends with the officers there and I just agreed to it because it made my mom and dad happy. I had a hard time adjusting, I'm always bored and feeling sad since the people who were supposed to train me weren't even around so I was always stuck in the office with no one to talk to. Then one day, when I just finished texting my friend, I looked to the clock in the room then I just started crying again for no reason. I immediately went to the locker room and locked myself there to keep myself calm. Then I called my mom to come pick me up at the hotel since I'm not feeling good anymore. After that my parents and I decided that I quit my job there since that was the second time it happened. I realized that I have to stop letting the negative thoughts and opinions of my coworkers influence me because it affects my mental and emotional state big time. So now I'm currently working as a home-based tutor. I'm doing what I like without the worry of some negative coworkers surrounding me and my job keeps me happy.

Leftandhappy 13 months ago

To be honest, I have left my old job since the manager who was doing a great job found something better and had to leave the project. My SV since then, turned into a complete arrogant and smug person. People with very little experience were advanced in TS positions, work performance was done if you were a nose brown, abide to anything she said. The environment turned into something so negative that people were stressed to the point of not being able to remain calm at any point. Mistakes were done due to being overly tired, stressed and pressured. My colleagues started to be divided, there were a lot of backstabbing, lies etc To top it off, the SV made a huge mistake that almost costs us our jobs. She is so arrogant that couldn't even recognize and apologise for this mistake that almost left 80 people jobless. She just required to everyone doing extra hours , in order for the situation to be remedied it and lied saying it's a backlog in the work. Only very few of us, realized what happened, the rest were like a herd abiding blindly to what she ordered. I decided I had enough, when my monthly performance was downgraded so low that endangered my position. I went and spoke to her directly, and she stared me in the eyes lying to me saying I'm wrong,smiling at me like nothing is wrong. How can I be wrong, when I have more experience than you in the field?

I took the matter in my own hands, and required assistance from two other SV's who agreed with me. Of course she found out, and started witch hunting me, setting me up for failure, stating that due to my performance she's considering if I am good enough for this job or not. I had thought about leaving the job, long before all that happened and applied for a new position for a whole 2 months now. All the recent events, made me realize my gut feeling was right and I had to get out as fast as I could. Luckily, I received an approval for a new job. And just like in the article, I felt sad that I was leaving, spending 3 years of my life there, meeting some great people but who also eventually left. At my new job, even if the schedule is a bit tough, even if I make 2 hours to get to work, I feel calm, happy. That's how I realized, there's no point in staying at a job just for the people, the ones who cares will keep in touch.

ejj 2 years ago

I have two horrible superiors at work and I can relate to this post so badly. This is not the first time I have felt like this in a job and I am sick of it. If I didn't need the money I would have already quit. I have been crying and disruptive at work, arguing particularly with my management. I feel foolish but justified and sometimes wish they would just shoot me down but it never happens. I am sick of moving from job to job and feeling like a loser. I am a competent and intelligent person but I feel like I am going crazy.

Mike 2 years ago

You know, sometimes, its not always the job or the coworkers who cause us to be stressed out. Sometimes its the boss. I mean, let's face it. There are people who work as managers, or supervisors, (personally I don't really see the difference between the two), but there are some people who have no business in that type of position. They abuse their power and make employees want to just throw in the towel and quit. Why? because some people don't know how to, or just can't manage people. As to showing emotion at work, hey, we're humans. It's a natural emotion to act that way when we're stressed. At least for some people. I'm not saying you should go overboard and take it out on everyone in the office, no, don't do that. All I'm trying to say is, if the job starts to get you down, maybe you should leave and look into the possibility of working for yourself. Working under the iron fist of Corporate America is certainly not for everyone. Yes, you do have to work and earn a living, but there's no law that says that we have to work for a boss.

Interesting article..Here's my situation. I get paid well. My job sucks. I can't quit because I have no other skills that would allow me to get a job that pays as well. My kids and wife are happy where we live,which is BFE!,and they don't want to move. I can afford my mortgage now but moving would not only make me have to buy a crap house in some crap neighborhood with a huge crappy new mortgage but I would also have to somehow try to sell my current home. I am totally screwed! I drink heavily now and have picked up smoking...again! And if that isn't enough, I have tried every antidepressant on the market. Seriously. You name it, I have tried it. NO PILL can make you love your job! Period! Now you tell me,what are my options! Zero. Just 13 more years of B.S. If this author was able to make a move then God bless her. She is one of the lucky ones. I believe that my story could be written by millions of others. I am not alone and yes I drank lots of alcohol before I wrote this!

Amethyst 3 years ago

What do you do when you have over half these signs, but can't quit because you're getting back to school money from the company? I have had a couple of interviews for other jobs within the company and not much luck. Can't afford to move, either.

Used to love my job but due to office politics, our old dept. was dissolved, my old manager took another job in the company, and the new manager is the micromanager from hell. The manager will not listen to any of us. He plays so many office politics, he is too well-protected. None of us who were in the old dept. like the new dept. or him.

Linda Bryen 3 years agofrom United Kingdom

What an interesting hub, good job. Voted up and shared.

carozy 4 years agofrom San Francisco

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sabrina 4 years ago

There's this guy at my job and something is a little off about him mentally. He is so weird and stares and to be honest he grosses me out. There are 5 employees in the place i work we are forced to share a bathroom with him the bathroom is 10 ft away from my desk and everyone can hear him take an explosive diarrhea crap at least 2 times a day. He is so disgusting he leaves crap splaters in the toilet and sometimes there is some on the floor i can not go into the bathroom it is very disgusting i have to hold it all day from 9-5 or in extreme cases i have to put atleast 3 seat covers on the toilet. This makes me feel so uncomfortable I can not even feel safe at work he is beyond disgusting the other girls in the office do not even feel safe staying in the office bythemselves with him. I got a uti from holding it in for so long. What can I do about this?

me 5 years ago

I feel like I need to quit my job. It's only part time (my first job aged 20) but I hate every minute I'm there. I don't feel I use my brain at all, the managers are useless and I feel that whenever they need staff to cover they come straight to me (they used to just rota me in without asking.) If I'm asked to work extra I fall into the "say yes...it's only 2 more hours..or only 1 whole day" and I regret that every single time. I decided I didn't like it there on day 1. I'm still there 8 months later. I want to leave but don't feel I can until I have another job to go to (which is proving hard to get).

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Audriana 5 years ago

I'm currently working for IHG (Holiday Inn) at the reservations office, basically a call center. It is my first full time job (I'm 21 by the way). When I got hired everyone in upper management said that there was so much promise for growth. I've been working here for 2 years and have applied for several positions within the center to try to grow my career. I've been shot down for all of the positions that I have applied for and the employees that got those positions weren't anymore qualified than myself. I decided that I would just do the job that I have and to it to the best of my ability. I've gotten better stats at work and improved my ranking in the center however no promotions. My manager tells me if you apply for more positions then you wouldn't have being operating the phones this long. I just want to slap her for telling me that because I have applied for all the jobs that I'm qualified to do. My job has no freedom, I have to maintain a certain percentage of compliance, meaning I have to super glue my behind to the seat if I want to get my commission. I HATE my job!!! I have applied to other jobs in my area hopefully I'll get one of those. But even without a job offer in the near future, I'm still putting in my two week notice.

Marisa 5 years ago

I thought everyone felt like this at work (at least at times) but this article has made me wonder..

Marisa 5 years ago

Also, unfortunately I can say yes to more than half the items on the list. I was unemployed for 3 years and then got this job that wasn't my dream job, but I would have taken almost any job at this time. The job pays pretty good, and I do have healthcare benefits which I really need due to preexisting conditions. Now all these issues is coming up at work (items 1, 2, 3, 5, 7, 9 and 10). Poor me! ;)

Marisa 5 years ago

I would like to add to the list if you have slept with or made out with a coworker or boss it is also time to move on ;o

Neicy 5 years ago

Oh my god I see myself in some many of the articles. I have hated my job for years, if you have a problem their you cant go to management because they are in on yrs ago I had a supervisor that was best friends maybe even a relative of HR lotta good it did me when I had a problem with her they are both gone now but I still have problems. THe reason I havent quit by now is my husband doesnt make that much money so I stayed and I suffered but now Im feeling like I cant take much more, I really feel like Im going to have a stroke, the last straw for me was something very personal happenend in my life that got to the job somehow involving one of my relatives, do I know where it got started from yes I do, but the worse part is everytime I had to be out as a result of this everybody knew my every move I dont like that, even the supervisor was in on it. I stopped scheduling my days off just randolmly called out, didnt matter they still knew my business. And to those wondering did I trust someone an accidently tell, no not at all, I beleive it was some kind of report for my county that comes out periodically or a police officer related to a person at my job or something to that effect but it went viral, for a person that tries to remain so private that pissed me off that people get some much joy out of other peoples pain

donna lopez 5 years ago

am working for a good boss but since a problem in the family arose, my boss has changed, seldom goes to work and off late i lost some benefits i used to get feigning better benefits . still got increase though . Is this a sign of letting go,

Trapped101 5 years ago

I recently started a new job and thought it would be great because it was good hours and slightly more pay than the one I left. Since being there my confidence has nose dived, I finish work on Friday afternoons for the weekend and dread the thought of Monday, I am anxious to the point I shake and stutter when I have to talk to someone. I am so afraid of making mistakes because I feel my job is in jeopardy. I got very upset at work due to everything getting too much and rather than showing sympathy I was warned I could lose my job. My boss ignores me entirely yet talks to colleagues. If anyone else makes a mistake she is quite reasonable. If I make a mistake I am looked at and spoken to like I'm stupid. I suffer with social anxiety but my job makes it a thousand times worse. Don't know what to do.

Cher 5 years ago

I have been in the same company for 11 years. I have taken a position that I hate just for 1 year to cover another persons maternity. I would like to go back to my previous position. I have only been covering for 2 months,but the boss is sending me for more training and is forcing my hand to do so.

slapmesilly 5 years ago

I too have the privilege of working for douche bags at this very moment:) after ten good years the company i work for has been sold and "Re-structured" ahem! i work in manufacturing and am very good at what i do, some would say amazing lol! but seriously i used to enjoy going to work until they shut that part of the company off. Not because it wasn't making any money but simply because it was cheaper making these products somewhere else.. i was upset at first (naturally) but as the months went by and now that im a circus monkey in another part of the business it made me laugh to hear that, that overseas company just can't do what we did to replicate the quality in what we have produced Haha! now our client wants to sue for lost productivity lolol! although i must admit i do not enjoy the indentured labor i now endure;) but i can't help but scream inside IN YOUR FACE BIATCH LMFAO! ahh! i am still thankful that i do have a job and the second job is yet to be desired but im getting a pretty good deal for it. and now im just on the look out for something new to learn and earn from. what i have realised for myself is that no matter how dark it may get, keep searching for that light in the darkness and have faith that what you hope for comes to be! so take a deep breath and have a crap lol! but most of all my friends find something that does not detach you from your happiness!! Good luck and God bless;)

Viv 5 years ago

Ever since i joined my company 8 months ago its been a day@work full of stress, excess workload n poor pay! I come from a country where getting a job is imposible and in a way a miracle and after years of job searchng i got a job n thought that was the end of my stress, bt no its not, its so stressing, i got sick just because of stress. Im definetly handing in my resignation next week, il be jobless in a place where jobs are got in order of who do you know, but i trust that, I know God will help me get another job but the thought of starting over again is demental. No matter how hard times get, dont stay on a job thats pushing you to a sick reck!, so long as we are alive and healthy we can make it..

HopingforTHEjob 5 years ago

Dunsie-

I always say that a boss can make or break your job. No money in the world is worth having anxiety attacks over. It seems like your boss is extremely high maintenance and until he hires the employee who will NOT be at his beckon call 24/7, yet performs her tasks well during working hours, this little privilege bully will continue to treat his employees like dirt.

The market is getting better, fix up your resume, start networking and never loose faith. God wont leave you high and dry,,,,, trust me (been there done that - walked out when I had zero savings!) and I'm still standing. :-).

You'll be fine!

Dunsie 5 years ago

I walked out from my job yesterday after almost 6.5 years!! Now I have no money and I am not getting this month's pay check! I was practically dying on the dire amount of workload and kept getting panic attacks. Should have left many years ago but the anxiety and stress that built up over the years was the last straw. I was a top notch PA working for a financial advisor. My ex boss is an absolute jerk, he paid me a really good salary BUT he never allowed me any time to focus on MY work, I even had to reply to the emails HE got from HIS clients. He would interrupt me, call me into his office or phone me about 100 a day! No I am no joking! I would even get 2-3 voicemails if I visit the ladies room or pick up stuff from the shared office printer. He’s insane! One time he called me at 8pm – I was at a party and he wanted me to go home and find something on the internet for him, he's so incapabble of doing things on his own. He even needs me to put a piece of paper into his draw in his desk! Me and my ex colleague (she's left 2 years ago) spent 2 hours one morning on a presentation for a client and when we finished he told us he changed his mind and didn't need it anymore!!! All his previous assistants left after a few months, I still can't understand why I stayed so long, it must have been the incredible pay but I only just realised my health and my sanity comes first. Screw the money, I'll just eat bread and water for a few months until I land myself a much better job. I AM SO ELATED RIGHT NOW AND I CAN BREATHE...............

So you guys out there who are thinking of leaving just GO and let destiny bring happiness back into your life!

my 1st week, kimberly 5 years ago

Dear Fed up and Hurt,

I hope you are keeping a log of dates and comments of what she has said to you. If this continues, you should contact the EEOC The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission and file a complaint if you are fired.

You did the right thing in avoiding her. However, the argument of yelling did not due you any justice. I would go to work and feel sorry for her, she must be having a terrible life and needs to vent at someone.

Have a meeting with your boss and explain to her or him the situation and that you will not tolerate any form of intimidation or harassment of her. However, you love your job and do not want to be fired, but if you are fired. You would have to seek legal advice regarding her comments and suggestion, including the violent yelling at you in front of colleagues.

I went through the same thing with a physician assistant at a medical practice from the very first day. I went to the EEOC and now the company has to pay me for the sick days due to the panic attacks and including the company has to post on the employee board what has happened regarding the EEOC. I also received the 3-day pay that I missed due to the illness of this man. The EEOC is filing charges regarding the statements from this person saying I am dyslexic and slow.

So, I do understand how you feel. You are the better person in this situation and don’t lower yourself to her standards. Go to work and put on the smiling face and if she does say anything to you. Tell her if she continues then you will have to seek legal advice. Tell her that when no one is around to hear you. She will not have a witness to back her up.

Explain to her that you are a professional and you do not have to tolerate any violent out burst or intimidation from any one. Good Luck… Keep Positive!

Thethere'snothingtodojob 5 years ago

I think that 9/10 of the jobs in the economy suck my soul out and leave me with a meaningless meek existence whereby I go to my grave never having lived a creative, happy life. Some idiot thinks that I should take up roofing, ooooh doesn't that sound like fun! (the last carpentry-like job I had paid only $6.00/hr.) I don't even have a car or any tools how am I supposed to be a roofer? And the fact that that's my only prospect is in and of itself telling of the absurdity we live in today. Gosh if I could I think I would be a street musician. But I think with that I would make just enough to buy a pack of cigarettes.

FedUp&Hurt 5 years ago

These stories are all very heartbreaking as I am going through some of the same things pretty much ever since I started working at my present job. I am 25 and working in a very small office of people who are all over the age of 50. There is one woman in particular that has been trying to hurt me since day one. I remember coming in for an interview and her looking at me with the worst look of hate and talking about me under her breathe. I ignored that and took the job because why give up a potentially great job for someone who doesn't even know me and is so quick to pass judgement. I have been here a year now and I can say I have done all I can to try and be friendly towards her and everyone else. No one else has any issues with me, just her. She criticizes me for everything from my handwriting (which is actually very legible even though I am a lefty), to the way I cut my hair, to the clothes and accessories I wear, to how I do my job (which is very well and efficient and completely unlike her), the way I speak, if I am quiet some days she calls me weird and says I have issues, when I feel upbeat she says things like "What has gotten into this one? Who does she think she is?". It's all very hurtful. Even when I am sick she never believes me and always makes fun of my situation to my face once I come back to work. I don't have health insurance and she knows that, yet she always asks how come I don't go see a doctor and get better already. I had tried once before to talk to her and make peace in a professional manner. She accepted but continued with her harassment. I never went to my boss because I didn't want to be the bad one trying to start trouble with someone who has been in this company since day one. A few days ago a huge fight broke out in the office because she started screaming at me for being a few minutes late. That was the breaking point. I told her off. Then we both got called into my boss' office on separate occasions to try and resolve the issues. I agreed to be the better person and apologize first. All she did was ask my boss to get rid of me. I did apologize to her and she screamed at me again and said she will never accept it or talk to me again. I asked her to be civil so that we can work together in a peaceful atmosphere but she wouldn't have it. Now my boss is actually considering firing me because he obviously prefers her over me in terms of seniority. I do like my job, my boss, and everyone I work with with the exception of her. She has been the only reason I have felt the need to just walk out and never come back. I started looking and applying to other jobs in hopes that I will get a call-back and be able to say goodbye to this miserable woman. I dread coming in when she is here (everyday unless she takes a day off.) When she isn't here my workload automatically feels lighter, my spirits are higher, and I generally feel happier. I never knew that one horrible person could ruin an entire work experience. I am very sad at this point to leave my job, but I do not want to get fired because of her. I am torn apart and don't really know what else to do but quit. I need some words of encouragement and advice. Someone please help me out.

confuse.com 5 years ago

I'm handing my notice in tomorrow best feeling ever!!!!!

Pip 5 years ago

My first day of work was today and my boss introduced himself by saying I'm the third person he's hired in the last year for my position and the last one left crying....should I run?! (Should also probably mention that its a two man office, so just me, the boss, and one other guy. No real direction, kinda trial by fire.)

my 1st week, kimberly 5 years ago

Junebug,

Sorry about that problem. But, You just might have to go back to school and receive an associate degree in your field. There are a lot of billing and coders out there with certificates. If you live in Fl try, Southern Technical College.edu. During your time in school, the career advisor will be able to help you get a job of the same nature. It’s a try. Good luck.

Junebug 5 years ago

I have been in the medical billing field for the past 15 years, when I started there wasn't any certifications. I am working for an ortho surg. Up until this job I had no problems bringing in money, but with this guy, it has been a battle. He likes to code the highest level but doesnot document to support it. He waives co-pays and balances for people (nurses, ect) that he worked with many years ago. He doesn't seem to realize that effects his bottom line and he complains constantly that the collections are low. His office mgr. has been with him for 10 yrs, she spends most of her day on her cell either texting, or on personal calls. She hired a friend from her church for the front desk, someone who has never worked in doctors office and doesn't know anything about health ins. and such. Whenever our boss has a meeting with the office manager, when she comes out she immediately gets the front desk person and the go out shopping, or lunch. They ask me to cover the phones. I have been with this office 3.5 years and last week my boss asked for a breakdown of collections from jan. 2011 to april 2012. According to him once he looks at his numbers he will make a decision on whether he or not I will keep my job. I have taken training but do not have a degree. My office coworker and boss do not speak to me. My co-worker and boss spend a great deal of time surfing the net, watching videos and texting. I am usually a very calm person, but I have become a nervous wreck. I am looking for employment but have not been successful, I think at this point I will try to get a job out of my field while I decide which direction I will go as far as going back to school.

my 1st week, kimberly 5 years ago

To Tommy, an education is a plus..It seems you have a great plan. Stick to your plan and attend college. I have been in school all my life and worked since I was 14 years old. I am 51 years old now and just finished my fourth career. I have my associates in Nursing.

You should always look ahead. Never stop dreaming.

Your world is like a apple, Take a bite and enjoy life.

tommy 5 years ago

HI,i have been to canada 7years ,but i still working at the fast food restaurant ,and i felt not really enjoy my job everyday,and i have english preboms ,does anyone knows what should i do ? go to school learn some skills ?then be a technicain or business man ?or keep looking new job position? but i dont didn't finished my college education ..so life allways let me thinking about life ....

Hungry4success. 5 years ago

I suffered from depression and stress for so many years through my journey of dealing with countless difficult people at previous jobs. I even received painful injections on my head to treat alopecia areata due to so much stress. It wasn't until I met an honest dermatologist who gave me the best prescription of the world. She said no medication can cure stress. The solution was very simple... She prescribed me to go back to school and learn new skills and to stop worrying about things that were out of my control. She asked me to stop demanding so much from me looking for that perfect job. She said that no matter I would go, I would always feel the same emptiness if I don't change my perception. That was the best prescription that I ever received from a doctor. At this moment, I don't have the perfect job but I am working obtaining a degree. It is uncertain if I would ever find that perfect job, but one thing for sure that I learned after painful injections is the fact that life is too short and I don't want to miss out a bit of it. Yeah my job stinks, but it is not my family's fault. I go back and think how much I missed out with my family and the wonderful things that I could've done instead of whining and complaining about my reality. Life is full of options. A job is a must-have, but we were not born to work. There's another world after 5 pm. If you're not happy with your job, don't let it dominate your life. Work towards solutions to improve your skills so no one can say you're worthless. Define your goals and don't waste time looking for that perfect job. Go up to the mountain and mentally prepare yourself like those ninja movies. Your current job is not your final destination. And remember, stop demanding for so many expectations. Do what you can and learn to enjoy life.

kingforaslave 5 years ago

I agree with the one who said ,"If you wake up and realize that you are reluctant to get out of bed for work then,your job is not worth it".A healthy job is one you enjoy even if you are not paid (there are even volunteer jobs around which bring sheer happiness).But if you apply for a job you enjoy and you feel you need a salary commensurate with it and you are justified that the organization you are working for has the capacity to meet your demands ,go ahead and ask for it.And If asking for it can get you fired then,fix your house first,make a contingency plan and then make a swift exit.You need happiness,food and air to breathe and not a job.As of me currently, I am on this job,I have no pressure at all,I know my stuff and am good in delivering results in exchange of zero appreciation,people here appear to be good on the outside,wear golden plastic smiles,and sometimes send you nasty emails which you feel the urge to detonate bombs in reply to show that you are not a rag doll type.But I put that surge of adrenalin to good use by thinking positive.The salary I get is meager,only enough for decent meals and a monthly DSTV subscription(to watch Zone reality,national geographic and discovery to be specific),a decent flat share in an upmarket suburb(am still single by the way), which would be a wish for someone homeless and destitute but no way near my aspirations. Not worth enough to buy myself a car or enough buy me a single one way ticket to the World Cup in 2014.Not enough to help the ones who are oppressed and don't have the voice to speak fearing to burn their fingernails.

The best employer who can treat you well and pay you enough is yourself. For any sucking job you are in right now,use that opportunity to see how things are done,get the necessary experience required and use all the negativity you get to make you stronger.Set deadlines to achieve realistic goals of with the little resources you have and if it is time to go,its time to go no looking back, even when at the time you are leaving, the employer then promises to treat you like a diamond and promises to pay you 100 times more.The world we are living right now is a scary place,you complain for a salary increase or better treatment and another guy who has been grounded for ' say two years', will be ready to take your place at 3 times less than what you are currently getting(which would ignite an evil grin on your employers face).You can get a five digit salary a month which will turn you into a walking lifeless zombie.I have personal friends of mine who now breathe work,eat work ,think work and sleep work and the amazing thing is that is 3/4 of their salary will go to their medication due to stress.I marvel when I see a guy cleaning the streets or the the public toilets,humming melodious tunes but with happiness radiating in his/her eyes.Isn't that sweet!!!!!

Applying for a job in this world is like you are saying

I am applying to be a slave for your company and I know this is a tough call as I will be in an endless battle with you my Master.God was there when the Israelites were slaves in Egypt,he was there when He rescued them out of bondage and He is still there!!!

mechanic not miracleworker 5 years ago

I think sometimes I work for the worst boss in the world...

I work as a mechanic for a small truck fleet, and every day the boss/owner changes the priorities (fix this versus that)and then wants explanations as to why the original project is not completed. His other employees (hereinafter refered to as the buttmonkeys) talk about this guy like he is god or something. I am in my 40's and there are times when I think I am one more stupid comment away from bursting into tears or losing my cool.

This guy's idea of emploee morale improvement is posting ads on craigslist listing my position and then lying to me about it.

Paranoid, possibly bi polar, and frankly i suspect some drug use on his part.

God help me.

my 1st week, kimberly 5 years ago

Just an update, the EEOC is looking in to my case.

The Equal Employment Opportunity Employment Commission.

They are investigating the treatment I had at my work place. Now, lets see who gets stressed!!

eugene 5 years ago

I have made a job change, because of certain reasons. One reason is stress is an sob. Sometimes I think a pay cut is ok if your new job is less stress. It is important to be happy when you get home. When you dream about work or loose sleep; the work place status quo is not working for you.

Tiredofnonsense 5 years ago

There's nothing worst than to work in a place where the HR Director favors race and blames it at head quarters there's no budget available to get you compensated properly. No matter how hard you work during the year, you will always face this racial wall when it's time for your annual review. The work environment is great. A lot of wonderful people, but ultimately when there's a lot of red tape involved they will screw you either way. They always have a way to bend the labor rules no matter what. That's why I'm quitting my job. I'm tired of their nonsense.

A good read 5 years ago

This was excellent to read because I knew after a month something isn't right and my gut was telling me they were not honest during the interview and the two people I met during the interview are his good friends! All above fit except money and reorganization. I love what I do and have been told I have done more in 3 months then my boss has seen in the past 5 years. I've been here 6 months and now looking elsewhere, the time goes by slow and when I asked where the business is headed, where to focus next I get a bland answer. I am under utilized and hang out for more than half my day and told I can't work on anything else?!?! I do what I can for the project but there is so much lag time I can do other things! Unfortunately the atmosphere is high school and a person that started with me concurs so it's not just me. I was also told by HR the concerns I have are the same as the person before me and he hated the boss and company! So another impact to justify my gut. I think my questions for a future employer will be better than last time. Live and learn, move on and nobody wants to be a job hopper, but when it's not working what do you do? I wonder if the future with longevity in professional positions will become less and less? I go to work as most of us to do a good job and see results, and enjoy working on different areas.

Zack 5 years ago

I have applied for a job at a higher grade internally(as advertised) in the company at Jhb to replace someone who left. I had gone through the interview process(for 5 months) and in a strange situation. The company is interested to hire me for the position but are not considering to give the grade until i work for sometime in that role and prove myself.(Currently i am fulfilling that role for the 5 months). Has anyone of you been in a similar situation and any suggestions on the options we have at this stage as an employee.

confounded 5 years ago

our new administrator just told me that she can't afford to pay my usual wage. I teach part time at a private school and love what I do. i've seen 3 different directors come and go in my 12yr.s. I gave an hr.ly rate when I was hired to teach more hr.s and it was accepted. Every year I get a small percentage raise.now i make more than some of the full time instructors. This director wants to drop my hourly wage by 50%. I would then make less than i did12yrs. ago. She has asked me to think about it. I need to work! what should I do?

Sadand confused me 57 5 years ago

I don't understand how things can change so quickly at work , the boss said to me , hope you stay I will get a key cut for you all was well. Cos I have a confidence problem with my self and certain things I m not a quick learner either. I am over a certain age and finds new tasks hard to grasp at first. Now I get odd comments and sarcastic remarks from the boss. Have I got two heads or something. Why can't people be honest and explain why they change their idea about someone . Ii try and be pleasant and take her comments, not answer back but maybe I should .

Why o why do some people in authority take a dis like to me , don't get me wrong m I have many friends and seem popular with the others, it's just there is atmosphere when she is around.me.

cigarman 5 years ago

Just lost my job of 2 months a few days ago. The place was insane. I did 128 service calls in a 2 month period!The stress was just unbelievable! Was bad mouthed by the owner to fellow employees, and he didn't relize that I could hear him. When it came to his attention that I was hearing him in the next room, no apology ever came from his lips. The next day he was proved to be a fool, 3 weeks later, I was terminated. It'll be rough, but there is no way I could've lasted there.

my 1st week, kimberly 5 years ago

Bull..Sh..!, or people will think that they can get away with it. Due to the stress and illness of the hostel environment, I am seeking an attorney. I had to see a doctor due to the hostile environment and prescribed meds for panic attach. So, let us see who gets hostel now, you so called doctor. (Physician assistant) What's even more disturbing, the doctor kept asking me if I am ok, after this physician assistant yells at me. I told him NO!, I will not put up with the tyrant of anyone at this doctor practice. I am one person, but I have lots of friends and lots of business acquaintances that I know who will not use their medical practice. Let’s see who income drops now!!

Hardworker123 5 years ago

Hi everyone. I m a lead on my job .Everytime we hired someone my manager would interview first then she would send the person to my office and I would interview also.This time we both interview a person but she hired him behind my back.I heard later the person was an X boyfriend of one of the doctors . They didn't give anyone a chance to interview or apply.I confronted the chief of staff and let him know how upset I felt about how it was handled .later I was called to the office and met with my manager and director. They advise me that the doctor told them he did not like my tone of voice.Get this he said I also put a patients life in jeopardy by not checking the equipment. I believe he setme up to get fired .I believe he punctured a hole in a bag that supplied oxygen to the patient. Why I believe he did it is that every morning when I check my machine I'm required to inflate it for 10 seconds and if it doesn't it's defective.if it passes then I proceed to calibrate the machine .If the bag has a hole the machine will say fail and not let you proceed.I check 11 machines every morning for the past 19 years and never had this problem.I went back to the machine with the bag the doctor had and it failed the leak test.I put a new one and it passed. I checked that machine this morning and it passed. I believe he tore a hole in it to get me fired .I have plenty of evidence.What would you do?

have had enough 5 years ago

I am currently in a middle management position where I have been expected for over 6 months to do a higher managerial role, I have not signed a contract dictating anything about this but as my line manager got an extended role mine also became moreso. I have been assured that this will be recognised and a bonus paid in a couple of months time. But I am not sure if i can stick it that long, another employee lost out to the original job when it was offered to me she has made my life a misery spoadically for the last 4 years, I am a trusting hardworking and honest person, I am not confrontaional but I am on the verge of wrecking the place to be honest I am a strong person I have had to be but today I left work for the first time ever in tears, to the point where people in the street thought I was a lunatic sobbing in public, I could not control it.

Do i try and see out the next couple of months in the hope that I get this bonus or do I cut my losses and lower my risk of a heart attack, everything is suffering, my marriage, relationships with friends, its crazy I love the job with all my heart but I cannot carry on like this for much longer. Help people what would you do ?? PS It's all gonna kick off tomorrow if there is anyone out there I'd really appreciate some advice.

kev 5 years ago

Hi, I too am not happy and thinking of quitting right away. There have been some changes at work recently and the store manager was let go for some reason. I've been at this job for 5 and a half years and have seen some people come and go. I used to have a descent schedule where mostly I was working during the week which was great then I could see some of my family and friends on the weekends. Occasionally, not too often I would have to work a saturday or sunday. I was happy then, now that there are new and different managers I'm not sure what to think. Plus now they seem to schedule me a lot on the weekends. So it's hard to see any of my friends and family. I have other desires and whatnot but never feel like I have the time to really pursue them which would make me happy because of this boring job. I like to be a hard worker and I try my best but none of the managers ever say you are doing a good job. They say nothing and it makes me feel bad. Like I'm not doing something right or they think everything is easy or something. I don't know really. I have mentioned to them in the past that I've had learning disabilities and was in special ed before but they don't seem to care. I feel and know that I'm a hard worker and just like to go to work and do my job but some of the managers always have something to say. What one of them said to me the other day in a way kind of upset me because she said you need to step up. What does that even mean really?? The way she said it and the way she looked at me I got this bad vibe for some reason. As I'm writing this, or actually typing, lol, I think it's time for me to move on. What do you think?

righttoworkgirl 5 years ago

God help us in these right to work states. Been working since I was 18 and boy are things different from up North.

Clark 5 years ago

I have had many different jobs in the past 35 years of working, and I yet to find a job that I'm really happy with. I have become addicted to career searching and this seems to be my life purpose. Maybe once I can finally retire I'll have it all figured out. Ha, Ha,

prakhar srivastava 5 years ago

i want to become actor but i haven't got money

beans 5 years ago

Last Friday was my last day of my "new job" I was there three months and after 2 weeks I felt like I made a mistake and I did. I came in with energy and enthusiasm and ideas and didn't realize that in the culture of the company that came across as irritating and implying that the way they had been doing things wasn't optimal. I basically then shut up and didn't offer anything and just focused on my job but I was very nervous. I had typos and made some stupid mistakes due to stress and trying to do things too fast. I had a co-worker who was the worst communicator and instead of asking me things would email from 3 feet away cc'ing my boss for anything. Not to mention that my boss was not in this state. After making a few more mistakes and being told that they "had concerns" I gave my notice. I expected 2 weeks and was out of there in 2 days. It was a great location, campus and good pay but I was not a fit there. I worry it will hurt my career but the culture, team and me didn't work. I felt like if the quality of my work was better things would have worked but I was so nervous and defensive that it was a vicious cycle and I quit. Now that Monday is looming I feel stressed and worried and bored and all that. I'm very lucky my husband has a great income but I feel like a quitter and a little kid which I most definitely am not. I think I should of stayed and at least if fired would get unemployment but what's done is done. I was miserable for over 2 months feeling stigmatized and unliked by my group and under a microscope which made me crazy. The director of my group actually said this "We were very surprised to see someone with a MA have a typo." Really? I know Phd's with the occasional typo. Yes, I have issues with run on sentences and comma neglect :) Arrghhh! On the positive side I'll have time with my 2 and 4 year olds and they are awesome in the right amount! My rant is done.

nazza 5 years ago

Hiya. To everyone who is not happy in ur job, trust me LEAVE. you will be so happy you did. no job is worth ur health. i was in a job where i got so stressed i nearly killed myself bc my linemanger was such a bastard! i am so glad i left it was the best thing i did... good luck all xxx

Dome Cap 5 years ago

Thanks - I love peace. Yes you are right God works in mysterious way and I know a door will open for you.As god was there for me and made sure I kept my job aftyer the lie,because something bigger is coming. I am happy you are looking at the postive:)it is also nice to talk to other who feel confused or unhappy at their job I am not alone as i can see.

"What we THINK about and THANK about… we BRING about."

I Love Peace 5 years ago

Dome Cap - Thank you for your kind response. I'm currently in the process of moving about 1 hour from where I live now. Moving to a newer suburb of the city that I'm in and fortunately it looks positive for new jobs there. God works in mysterious ways. Will try hard make the most of my stay at my current job and work to develop a stronger sense of tolerance and humility. Best wishes to you DC.

Dome Cap 5 years ago

I Love Peace - you need to start looking for a new job. You will not make it at this job you will never be right or understood. Go with the flow and get out as fast as you can. At my job it back fired they lied on me but forgot if you make up a lie you have to back it. That was the big red flag for me when it did not work and that they went that low to make me look bad so i would not be able to do the work i do. What you worte is clear you can not stay there and it is not worth your fight.

I Love Peace 5 years ago

I feel for all those who are not happy in their jobs. The one thing that I haven't seen a post on yet is working for a family run company. I've currently employed by a family run company, left my last position in order to take this job. Two days before my start date, my boss had me sign not one, but three versions stating that we live in a "right to work" state and that he can terminate me at anytime without cause. I knew by my third day on the job that I had made a huge mistake coming to work her. I sit next to a family member who is in his 50's and is mentally challenged. The problem that this causes is that he has the mental capacity of a very young boy. He talks loudly and incessantly every single second of the day about cartoons and the things he did at summer camp as a boy. He talks on Face Book and text messages constantly. If I ask him to let me concentrate on my work, he will divert his attention to talking to himself or just making noises with his mouth. I'm under the gun to get assignments done that he doesn't have the mental capacity to complete. I am the fourth employee within the last four years. Once a non-family member, such as myself, complains or asks for advice or assistance from the owner, they get canned. To make matters worse, I found out that this individual makes a whole lot more than I do.

Dome Cap 5 years ago

I just got set up at my job, but the set back fired it was all lies and now i am afriad to give a 2 week notice fear they will do something to make me look bad. As I have many things they have done to me and I think they are worry I will get a lawyer. Get me before I get them. Plus I told them something they needed to do, because it was the law and they did not like that.

ATL in Big 4 5 years ago

I am a typical Type An overachiever, and have worked in stressful work environments my entire career--trading, consulting, etc... For the first time in my career I work for a Director I don't trust and who has a very bad history with firing managers. Recently, my instincts have been telling me to look elsewhere---which I am acting on. I have two final round interviews this week. Good thing I listen to my instinct---I sas a job posting for my position today! Glad I am one step ahead of my ruthless director! What a horrible work experience.

Craig Guet 5 years ago

If you have made decision to quit and if it turns out you feel more stress than before, just keep in mind. When things get thougher, it doesn't mean you have made a wrong decision. Learn to make decision as an adult and deal with it likewise. Be positive, there must be a blessing in disguise. Dont give up and let yourself down, there must be a good job for you somewhere. Take it as a hard test for you to build up a better career. Dont waste your time, whining and complaining, if the job doesn't suit you, just pack your things and move on! Live healthy!

Meg 5 years ago

My boss met with me and a colleague who has the same position. He told us the head of our company thinks out jobs could be a 1person job. To prove her wrong he wants us to write a job description and include the amount of time each task takes. I feel this is ridiculous!!! We work very hard and now have to prove it. So many people in our office do nothing. Needless to say I have started looking for another job. If the person who signs my checks thinks I'm worthless what's the point of staying.

my 1st week, kimberly 5 years ago

Mary,

Dont give up. That is what they want you to do. Just stay low and dont say anything to anyone or agree about anything. Keep your distance until things blow over. In the the end the company will see who is causing the trouble. If all else fails there are plenty of other companies who would glad to have your experience. God Bless and you are in my prayers.

Mary 5 years ago

I just recently got promoted 2 months ago and took a position where I had to move 200 miles away from my family. I love the job and with the promotion I felt happy. It's been 3 weeks since I have taken over my group of employees since the other supervisor has been handling my group until I got trained. My peer who is another supervisor is giving me wrong so I can mess up at work. My peer is suppose to be my trainer until I get familiar with all the protocols of the position.

Employees under his supervision and mine have made accusations that I am being confrontational and that I want to change the work environment which are all false. I have only managed them for 3 weeks and have had only 1 staff meeting with them. My peer is constantly telling me he can't lose his job. My employees are telling me how they do not respect the other supervisor and are always saying that they are glad I am there.

I just got a phone call from my regional manager who was the one who promoted me and he stated that I needed to lay low otherwise I will get fired. He has told me that everyone is against me at the work site and that I need to build an alliance otherwise I will be gone. I felt so terrible and cried when he told me this. My regional manager knows me and is aware that I have never been confrontational with no one as I have worked under his supervision for over two years.

I am so disappointed and feel as if I have no option but to leave on good terms or get fired. I love the job itself but feel as if the other supervisor is threatened by me and somehow the employees don't want me there and are doing everything in their power to get me out.

My gut tells me to just quit. But I feel as everyone will think I couldn't handle the job and quite honestly I am embarrassed to go back home jobless.

Depressed in the Maritimes 5 years ago

I just wanted to say thank you to those who answered my plee. I was really feeling down which is really unlike me! I am usually one of those really annoying 'glass is always half full people.' If I was not pregnant, I know that I wouldn't let people walk all over me, but when you're not just thinking of yourself, it is amazing how differently you process situations. Another work day has gone by and as predicted, 'worse and worse!' I am very tempted to jump in with both feet for the online job opportunity, but I am a little skeptical. If anyone has tried this personally or know someone who has, I would love to hear about it.And thank you again!

my1st wee 5 years ago

TO: Depressed in the maritimes:

Hang in there, don't let your job effect you or your baby..

Keep a note book of everything that has happened. If you are fired,, seek and attorney. I did when I was 3 months expecting.. and this was 25 years ago. My hours got cut so I was told it was not worth my drive to to work. I showed them. Just keep looking a head to you new baby and take a deep breath, and a long exhale when someone say's something to you. God Bless and take care

sayus2884 5 years agofrom Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines

it's not limited only in US because you can see the 'country' drop list and i haven't actually tried it but i'm planning to. and i think you can use paypal to pay for the package.

Estella 5 years ago

Sayus, that home package only for those who stay in US only? How about Thailand? How to ask if i dont have credit card can i pay thru cash deposit?

sayus2884 5 years agofrom Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines

Usually, when your boss gives you tougher jobs it means you're on your way in a promotion. It's what we sometimes call tough love. But when your boss does more harm than good, I suggest telling the higher ups or find another job(if all else fails). For depressed in the maritimes, try working in an online job. Here is a link that you might get interested in http://www.career-chronicle.com/job-news/in-breaki...

depressed in the maritimes! 5 years ago

In every position I have ever had I have always been labeled as an excellent employee. I have never quit nor have I ever been fired! I have a strong work ethic and personality! And none of these qualities have ever clashed with a manager or co worker until now! In general, I am not a confident person. However, when it comes to my work ethic I know that I do my best! I have a feeling that my current manager is threatened by my strength and knowledge in the industry and that is why she is making it unbelievably difficult for me at work. She began taking things I say out of context, making false accusations and gossiping with co workers about me. The worst thing though has to be that one month ago I personally noticed that product was missing off the shelves. I immediately told the manager about my findings and told her that she should contact head office to go thru the camera evidence. Come to find out now, she blamed me, basically calling me a thief, thank god there is a camera system to prove me innocent! However, I am to the point now that enough is enough! I am 7 months pregnant and all I want to do is quit! But If I do that I will not be able to get maternity leave and who is going to hire a pregnant woman! I despise going into work, I am not sleeping and I find myself bursting into tears for no reason! I keep saying that tomorrow will be better but it just gets worse and worse. What are my options? I know the stress is not good for the baby but neither is no imcome! I feel so alone!

my 1st week 5 years ago

To Sayuss:

I must say in most jobs it’s not for the money, I have chosen my employment, due to the compassion I have for the ill. I worked in home health and took care of hospice patients. I became very attached to my patients and their famililies. Then I decided to become a Medical Assistant and to work in a Doctors officehte pay is only $2.oo difference. Sure, my pay is low, but the rewards of helping people, out way the money.

DaveYoung 5 years ago

Wow!! Mr/ms frustrated, are you for real..quit for others? Didn't you love your old job? After 10 years? Really? So, hows your business? Tell you one thing I dont think I could do what you did especially at the time like this?

sayus2884 5 years agofrom Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines

Sorry, I didn't emphasize the kind of people I'm talking about. I understand the parts where others love the environment and want to gain experience but those people are not the people I'm talking about. I'm talking about those people who wants to earn money but they're choosing a job which they know that it can't produce enough salary to sustain them and their family.

Orchid 5 years ago

Sayus, for some people, it's not all about money. Some stay for experience and some just happy the way it is cos the environment is good. You must ask where your heart is, which one is more important. I know someone who got heart attack in his office bcos of workstress. It's just not worth it. You will understand when you go to work one day.

sayus2884 5 years agofrom Cagayan de Oro City, Philippines

Hi. I'm still a student but I would like to know why would other employees stick to their jobs when they know that it has low pay? How do you persuade them to quit?

frustrated 5 years ago

I was a senior in my office, i had 12 number of staff under me and treated them fairly cos they were my responsibilities. Long story short, one of my staff was cheated by the management and been accused for something he didn't do. I stood for him and confronted with my boss but surprisingly, my boss took the management side and even asked me to just close my eyes and asked me to let him go. I decided to leave my job of ten years the next day and now am doing business on my own.

my 1st week 5 years ago

Am I being over sensitive? This is my first week on my new career as a Medical Assistant for a great company and its closer to home, the office is like a mini hospital. One of the PA (physician assistant), I call them want to be doctor. He complains that I am too slow getting his patients to the room. I have to walk a long way to the front, and then take the patient to the triage center. Hopefully no one is in there , or I have to move to the next one. Then take the patient back to our hub which has 4 rooms. 2 for the real doctor, 2 for the (PA) want to be doctor. The PA stated to me in front of his nurse, and the doctor’s nurse. The PA stated “I am too slow bring his patient’s to his room”. Then he went to the administration and stated to them I am too slow. I know, because I saw him around the corner talking to them. So, I went in to the administration and told them that I am trying to get his patient’s to him in timely manner, but I have to use other triage centers to do vitals.. I started to cry.... The administration lady told me that this is my first week, and not to worry.. I only need to worry about the Doctor if he complains. She stated to me that “she told me that this is a fast pace doctor”... I do understand.. But, it’s not the doctor, it’s the PA (physician assistant)..By the way who sits at the counter waiting and tapping his pen and stares at me. I tried to fit in and talk to him and the other nurses who work there in the small section of the min clinic. Only the doctor's nurse is helpful and shows me what I need to do ,and what procedures that I need to perform. Mind that I have just got out of school, and at this job I was not even shown the computer system until Tuesday including, and then told not to get to used to the computer system. The company is changing over the system.. Now I feel like an idiot crying.. I have never cried at a job before. Oh, I did have several people say to me this week, glad to see your back, as if people don’t come back. That was confirmed by the administrators who hired me. Some people do not come back. Am I being so sensitive that I am taking things to seriously? I do know that on Monday I will bring his patients to him faster, to the point, this will make his schedule back up, and I will hear him complain that I am bring them back too fast, just like he did on Tuesday. I am not going to let this little man rune my career. He sits at his high chair talking about his party for his wife this weekend and invites the nurses sitting next to me and wants to make sure that they will arrive early. That is rude!!! I would have not gone to his party anyway… Nevertheless, at least have some tack about manners. he could have said “ I know you are new, but however I am having a party this weekend for my wife., And I have already have sent out the invitations’..I will invite you for my next party”…I would not go anyways… Now that I have written this out.. I feel better.

I would like suggestions on how to handle this.

Angela 5 years ago

I just recently quit a job I was at for 7 months (a long term temp assignment which could have lasted another year) because I hated every minute of every day being there. We were micro-managed to the extreme, and even though I learned new tasks and requested to learn more, I was stuck doing the same thing everyday.

We had meetings everyday which felt like a cattle call. The meetings consisted of looking at spreadsheets of our numbers and giving us instructions about cleaning up after ourselves and such. Every desk had instructions on it for how to keep the desk neat, we couldn't decorate the desks at all though we sat there every day. Walking into the office you wouldn't be able to tell anyone had ever sat at one because all of the cubes and desks looked the same. According to our sign: No more than 2 beverages, nothing personal on the desks, bags and purses under the desk on the nasty dusty floor, always clean up after yourself, and always change your "andon". We had a little flip thing at each desk called an andon that we had to change whenever we went on break or lunch or if we were away from our desks for any reason. We also tracked this on our computers and were measured on time away from our workstations and it all was accounted for on our happy weekly meeting spreadsheets as adherence to our schedules.

My friends (who kept leaving for better things before I finally did) and I all called the office kindergarten. I related to most of the things on this list. I made sure to find a new job before leaving (for slightly less pay but a shorter commute) and just started it on Monday. What a difference! One of the first things I was told is "I don't micromanage here, you go on breaks and lunches whenever you want..." that was one thing that I really wanted and didn't have at the job that I loathed. I worked at a big bank working on mortgage loans, doing data entry, and we had assigned breaks and lunches and had to account for every single thing we did. Even people in other departments said the same thing about being micromanaged.

If you feel miserable at work like I did, and dreaded going everyday and found yourself depressed because of it, look for something else as much as you can and just LEAVE. Get out! The difference in my amount of happiness is amazing. For the first time in a long time, my day flew by. It's great being treated like an adult. I wish the place I worked at before realized that people who are treated like adults act like it. I love my new job and the new office I work in and am so happy I took the cut in pay, and the risk, to find something I will enjoy doing. And who knows, this job is a contract to hire opportunity and I may end up making more than I did at my previous job once hired on. Good luck to everyone who hates their jobs like I did and I hope you can all find something better that you will like and be happy. :)

Nightmare situation 5 years ago

I have been working for my boyfriends dad for 7 years in a small retail shop. I say small because I am the only person working there. I do the cleaning, the sales, purchasing and the accounts. In 7 years I have never been granted leave, sick leave, never been paid double for public holidays. I work 6 days a week, 9 hours a day. I have not even received a letter of appointment from him.... I want to leave this job now, but because I live in South Africa, it's very difficult to find a job. I have been sending my CV to every job that's been advertised. I also ask people that I know to let me know if they know of a job somewhere.......Most of the jobs is Affirmative Action, or BEE. Anyway my boyfriend supports me about my decision to leave and he says that he will support me, but I have always worked and don't want to be depended on him. I have asked his dad on numerous occasions, about the situation, but he always have to leave or are too busy. He will also tell me, that the shop is not doing well and blah blah blah. I am so frustrated, irritated, emotional, and moods that's one moment up and the next down. Anyway just thought I put my post on this site, maybe I will get a more clear thinking of what to do...

A Happy Worker 5 years ago

Every place I have worked I have seen many people that are not happy with there jobs.

I think the main reason (not the only but the majority) is they have been at the same place for too long. Ad they have been there so long (say 3 years and more) - they become a little institutionalised.

The longer they stay the harder it is to leave psychologically and also they lack skills set. They lack skill set because they have been too busy moaning about there jobs and also there attitude has become so bad its noticed at job interviews.

Further these people need to make it a better place to work instead of moaning. if there is something that you don't I bet there are many others with the same problem. People don't speak up - but they should share ans resolve these issues.

Go to work and instead of moaning in your little group of people - get together and fix the problem. That why you wont have to leave for another job which will have likely the same problems.

'I've found that having a sense of humor in the work place is not worth it'...... hmmm maybe think about changing your career path. no wonder you hate your job!

Sheri 5 years ago

I work in home health and had a dream job for five years

as a nurse. Our director who was wonderful, quit, and

thus the owner became a walking nightmare. He hired and

fired people right and left. He hired inexperienced directors to cut costs, and the staffers and employers

under her were telling her what to do. We had four directors within one year, and one of which was not even

licensed. One of the directors was vey competent, but

naturally had a backload from the previous employer. He

decreased her hours from five days to four because she didn't know about billing, which was definitely not anywhere near her job description. A biller is a separate entity in home health. I wish Medicare could

close agencies like this. Receptionists were fired on a

regular basis as well as supervisors. Every three months

or so around benefits time. EVIL

TheChief 5 years ago

Get on with the job without complaint...collate everything that is done by people to piss you off especially when it goes against employment procedures. Then once you have the dirt, share a little of the details over time, just mention in dead pan when conversing with the chatty people and it will spread that you've got the measure of folk and People will back off in fear of you being smart, strong and able to make their lives very difficult with all these things that you can remember if they forced you. Nobody has to know you have it all noted but that can be your safety net should you get shafted by the company. Show them a tear and they will make you cry oceans to keep you down. Show them that the devil lurks and they will tread carefully to avoid getting burned !For the most part these bullies can be unravelled and deflated with some clever tactics because the bullying, the abuse is just terror tactics because they fear your brains. Observe them, figure them and if they deserve it...show that they are down the pecking order on the intelligence scale. If its the bosses that are thick, the business is doomed anyway so get smart and get working where the bosses are genuine mentors and idols instead of plonkas. Another option is to get in with the other offices within the organisation. If you make good connections, you may get a transfer if it appeals or at least open their eyes to the state of affairs in your place !

Bare Grylls 5 years ago

'Bare in mind' means naked in your head....just a heads up

Pankaj 5 years ago

Today my boss told me that I have to work on whatever task he assigns to me. I am seriously thinking to quit my job since the tasks he assigned are not at all related to my skills.

Dhanalakshmi Kannan 5 years ago

More than the post, i was reading the last comment by Never-ending :)

Wish you all the best, there is a lots of good jobs out there, you def can find one ... My Wishes..,

Neverending 5 years ago

I'm glad I found your post today. I nodded to so many things you said.

I literally found out a few hours ago that my boss has been talking behind my back. I'm a starting new straight-from-college engineer.

My boss literally gives me no work to do. He invites me to go to meetings, but that's it (I believe to show everyone else I do something). He has shown no initiative and no interest in me at all. Everyday I pretty much half-play on my phone (without them knowing) and half-study by my own decision. I ask plenty of questions about certain things and try to better myself by studying, but you can only do so much for the company when no one even talks to you at all.

Anyway, today I found out from a senior engineer that my boss said I don't ask any questions and he expects me to go to the field more (essentially to learn what low-pay technicians do). This is exactly what I did back in my last job I quit, expecting to better myself, I fell in the same exact hole. (Note: both jobs are in the same company but different units in the plant)

This boss is super-passive. Doesn't talk to me, doesn't ask me even one question. Heck, today, I don't think he said one word to me when we were in the same room for pretty much the whole day. This guy pays me so much money to be an engineer, yet he doesn't feel like he needs to get me on the right path by saying something? It's so frustrating. And then, he has the nerve to talk behind my back.

Honestly, I envy people with strict, mean bosses. At least you get feedback, and understand what is right and wrong. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT MY JOB IS!!

I seriously can't stand all these hillbillies and their fishing and hunting talk. A guy that came in a few weeks later than me that has these hobbies has become more friendlier to them than me. Don't get me wrong, I've been receptive to their hobbies and listening to what they do and try to talk in; but when I explain what I do and what I love, they literally turn the other way and ignore me. (I play games competitively and am more of an internet guy. I love technology.)

For the original article, I can agree to:

(10) Especially today, my eyes got wet 3 times when I talked with the senior engineer, explaining how difficult and frustrating it was working with my boss.

(9) I definitely am bored. Time only doesn't drag when I'm playing on my phone, and it's because I have nothing to do that I do play on my phone.

(8) Yep. They give me small pathetic work every now and then. What's funny is the senior engineer says "we don't know what you know, so we can't properly judge you". I would expect this if I had like years under my belt. I literally got out of college 6 months ago and you say this to me? Throw projects at me! Give me something to do! How hard is this to do?!?!

They also call me the "Computer Guru". All I did was build my own computer. If this makes me a guru, I can already understand how low the knowledge level is in this company.

(7) Because my co-workers and employer are hillbillies, and ignore my interests. I can only hate them. Did you know, they dared asked me about my personal love life? They know I'm only 22 and I'm obviously a skinny asian nerd that loves games. Yet, the start asking me "Are you married?" "Do you have kids?" "Do you have a girlfriend?" "ARE YOU A VIRGIN?". They purposely asked me these questions to spite me. This may only be my second job, but I'm pretty sure talks like these are frowned upon. Yeah, I HATE them all.

(3) Yeah, they at first welcomed me with open arms, but after that things fell quickly once they learned who I was and what I do. I get a "Hi" every now and then, and they throw a "What are you doing this weekend?" every now and then when it's SO OBVIOUS that they don't care.

(2) This is what I fear. Learning about what my boss is really like today (I didn't know before cause I didn't talk with him), it seems like he really wants to get rid of me. Purposely talking negatively about me behind my back instead of telling me upfront so that I don't have a chance to improve myself can only mean he wants me to fail.

(1) Yep as described in all the reasons above. I always knew I was going to leave, but today was a huge change for me. As of now, I'm searching for a job elsewhere. I have a few places in mind where I want to work, and hopefully take my competitive gaming to the next level.

If I was my boss, I'd be trying to show me how cool engineering is and talk about it and neat things, more communication. Ask me about what I've done before or in college. Nope, my boss wants nothing to do with me. Only reason he ever comes to my unit is to chat with his hillbilly friends or just relax and enjoy the rest of his day. He does NOTHING!

Thanks for reading it all if you did :) Needed to get it off my chest.

TL;DR

My boss and co-workers are hillbillies, no one talks to me. They look down on my interests in technology and competitive gaming. Boss is super-passive, gives me no work to do, and then uses this to talk negatively behind my back.