Are we ready?? HELP!

aHey everyone! I'm looking for some advice and maybe someone who shared my general concerns! I just recently married my high school sweetheart. We are both still just 20 years old but have been together since we were 13! we have wanted to be parents for along time but knew we should wait until we were married. What do we need to consider before having a baby and what should we do to prepare ourselves? Thanks!

aHey everyone! I'm looking for some advice and maybe someone who shared my general concerns! I just recently married my high school sweetheart. We are both still just 20 years old but have been together since we were 13! we have wanted to be parents for along time but knew we should wait until we were married. What do we need to consider before having a baby and what should we do to prepare ourselves? Thanks!

Everyone is different, but for me I just had a feeling that I was ready. It actually came out of my mouth and it shocked me at first, but I knew it was true. I think at your age some things to consider are if you are finished with school, have stable jobs, and have a home (not a house, just a home). If you are in school will you be able to continue your school with a baby? Do you have insurance through your job (DH's job) to pay for the medical bills that will be associated with pregnancy?

And schedule a preconception exam with your OB/GYN to make sure you are in good health and to ask any questions you may have.

Oh, and start taking a prenatal vitamin. OTC ones are fine, just make sure they have at least 4 mcg of folic acid.

Best of luck!

Everyone is different, but for me I just had a feeling that I was ready. It actually came out of my mouth and it shocked me at first, but I knew it was true. I think at your age some things to consider are if you are finished with school, have stable jobs, and have a home (not a house, just a home). If you are in school will you be able to continue your school with a baby? Do you have insurance through your job (DH's job) to pay for the medical bills that will be associated with pregnancy?

And schedule a preconception exam with your OB/GYN to make sure you are in good health and to ask any questions you may have.

Oh, and start taking a prenatal vitamin. OTC ones are fine, just make sure they have at least 4 mcg of folic acid.

I agree with perduefan. Having stable jobs and a a home are really important. If thoes are rough going right now it can be really stressfull on both of you! If you think you are ready to grow your family I think that is great! I was 18 when my DH and I got married, 19 when I got pregnant and now she is 4 1/2. Our daughter are trying to convince him to have one more... So wish me luck! Best wishes on your marriage and good luck TTC!

I agree with perduefan. Having stable jobs and a a home are really important. If thoes are rough going right now it can be really stressfull on both of you! If you think you are ready to grow your family I think that is great! I was 18 when my DH and I got married, 19 when I got pregnant and now she is 4 1/2. Our daughter are trying to convince him to have one more... So wish me luck! Best wishes on your marriage and good luck TTC!

Thanks for the advice! Thats really comforting to see someone else who has been in my situation. We do have a stable home and my husband has a stable job, Its not an extremely high paying one, but its great for us and i know with the insurance he gets through his job we will have enough to comfortably pay for our living expenses plus a baby. We wouldnt have a lot of excess but we could do it. Thanks!!

Thanks for the advice! Thats really comforting to see someone else who has been in my situation. We do have a stable home and my husband has a stable job, Its not an extremely high paying one, but its great for us and i know with the insurance he gets through his job we will have enough to comfortably pay for our living expenses plus a baby. We wouldnt have a lot of excess but we could do it. Thanks!!

Then I say go for it! If you two want to have kids and think you are ready You should TTC when you think the time is right... Like you arent going to a wedding in a few months and have the dress already... or are planning to go on a vacation (personal experiance flying is NOT fun while you have "morning" sickness)!!! Good luck and keep me updated on things... or ask for advice! I am here for ya!

Then I say go for it! If you two want to have kids and think you are ready You should TTC when you think the time is right... Like you arent going to a wedding in a few months and have the dress already... or are planning to go on a vacation (personal experiance flying is NOT fun while you have "morning" sickness)!!! Good luck and keep me updated on things... or ask for advice! I am here for ya!

I think it's great you guys have been together for so long... and congrats on the wedding! My advice would be to enjoy being married for a little while. Go on some vacation and just enjoy eachother for a year or so. Then when you are all settled in to this marriage thing, take it to the next step. There is definitely nothing wrong with having a baby when you are younger and/or just married... but some good couple time is always a plus. Good luck!

I think it's great you guys have been together for so long... and congrats on the wedding! My advice would be to enjoy being married for a little while. Go on some vacation and just enjoy eachother for a year or so. Then when you are all settled in to this marriage thing, take it to the next step. There is definitely nothing wrong with having a baby when you are younger and/or just married... but some good couple time is always a plus. Good luck!

Thanks! That's the advice my mom gave us, but i think we have been together for so long already we feel like we've been married for years instead of months! :)...we have finally decided that we are going to wait about 5 or 6 months so that we can time it right that i will finish with school a few months before the baby is due. That way we have time to plan it and i wont have to take time off of school for the baby. So maybe we can get our couple time squeezed into there.

Thanks! That's the advice my mom gave us, but i think we have been together for so long already we feel like we've been married for years instead of months! :)...we have finally decided that we are going to wait about 5 or 6 months so that we can time it right that i will finish with school a few months before the baby is due. That way we have time to plan it and i wont have to take time off of school for the baby. So maybe we can get our couple time squeezed into there.

i know it seems like you have been together forever but give yourself time to enjoy being married. its a stage of its own that brings its own joy and sometimes issues. also give yourself time to really enjoy being your age and on your own. you may only want 6 months or you may want 6 yrs either way you have the time. don't forget that once you have a child you don't always have the alone time with dh. enjoy what you have and when you feel like you have experienced it and want a baby God bless. i am not saying don't have one now but make sure you have enjoyed what you have before you give it away first.

i know it seems like you have been together forever but give yourself time to enjoy being married. its a stage of its own that brings its own joy and sometimes issues. also give yourself time to really enjoy being your age and on your own. you may only want 6 months or you may want 6 yrs either way you have the time. don't forget that once you have a child you don't always have the alone time with dh. enjoy what you have and when you feel like you have experienced it and want a baby God bless. i am not saying don't have one now but make sure you have enjoyed what you have before you give it away first.

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