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Understand Men. Find Love.Tue, 31 Mar 2015 17:56:20 +0000hourly1http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1By: judyhttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/letting-go/how-to-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-986063
Fri, 01 Nov 2013 20:15:13 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=10341#comment-986063Karl 23 – Hi, lovely to see you on here and I so enjoy your comments.
On Zaq 11 – I reckon that a person who gets on far in life is perhaps the child of educated parents, OR, the child of at least one optimistic parent, an encourager. Maybe also, contact with a teacher??
For me, religion and science help in the respect that religion (not necessarily organised religion) CAN open the mind. Ditto science. Both can lead to the truth. The way of looking isn’t necessarily the same, but it doesn’t mean that either are wrong (or right). Both can show at least one way of finding happiness.

Zaq 20
If “x” exists then you would expect to see “y”.
That is why science is so successful.
Ah, but a scientist will not just stop because he found one answer, now will he/she???? If “x” exists, you would expect to see “y” and you might just end up finding c, a and b or whatever, or a combination thereof.
You might expect the guy “x” to behave like this and end up finding that you’re………….totally mistaken or…..partly right/wrong. Substitute the word “woman” and you’ve got yet another factor. (We women are gentle creatures…..kind and sweet…….unless you get on our nerves……which is where both sexes might just surprise you (there’s another factor for you).
It’s called……………………………………the unknown factor. Atheist, scientist or believer.

Optimists can be manipulated, but so can pessimists. That’s because people can be manipulated. Anything with enough brainpower can be manipulated (including animals, excluding the dead ones).

Zaq said: (#11)“Those that are rich, are far more likely to have been those that were very unhappy being poor.”

People like Bill Gates and Warren Buffet?

Your rags-to-riches theory might sound nice, but successful people usually had the advantages of educated parents … and parents who were successful enough to provide educations for their children.

Zaq said: (#11)“Those that are attached are far more likely to have been unhappy being single.That is because these are the people who are highly motivated to change their condition.Those that are ever aware of the dangers that lie ahead, are the ones most likely to avoid them.”

Both pessimism and optimism can be motivating factors. Dating requires a mix of both … each in the appropriate situations.

You’re standing next to a woman at the DMV. What are your chances of striking up a conversation, getting her phone number, getting a first date, getting a long-term relationship, getting engaged and getting married?

Realism says your chances are rather low. Because your chances are so low, pessimism says you shouldn’t bother trying. But optimism says that you only need to succeed once, so a small chance of success is good enough.

Which motivates you to take action?

Unhappiness can provide a motivator to seek change, but only if you believe that you can make yourself happier … and that brings us back to optimism.

I was happily single. But I also believed that I could be even happier in the right relationship. And that’s optimism. My happiness as a single didn’t prevent me from getting married.

Pessimism has a place in dating:
If your boyfriend/girlfriend is abusive or neglectful, pessimism suggest that the situation will not improve and will potentially get worse. That is certainly a great motivating tool to get you out of a bad situation. Optimistically hoping that things will change back into the magic of the first weeks of the relationship … that’s just a recipe for disaster.

You get the best outcome if you use both optimism and pessimism … and you use each in the appropriate circumstances.

This is one situation where happiness worked in my favor. I was happy being single. I was unwilling to accept a relationship that made me less happy than being single. That provided a lot of incentive to leave mediocre relationships and keep looking for a good one.

That’s not optimism. That’s foolish naivete. Women are people, just like me. They will be flawed, just like me.

If you want to make intelligent decisions, you’ll have to actually apply some intelligence to the decision-making process. That’s going to be more important than optimism or pessimism.

Zaq said: (#17)“I read somewhere that 93% of the members of the National Academy of Sciences are atheists.97% of the members of the Royal Society (the British science organisation formally headed by Sir Issac Newton) do not believe in God.Those people whose job it is to question how things work, overwhelmingly reject religion”

I strongly suspect that I have studied far more science than you. Furthermore, I’m absolutely certain that I have studied far more religions than you have.

And your statement is what I’ve come to expect from people who don’t believe in religion, but can’t be bothered to learn enough (about religion or science) to know what they’re talking about.

A scientist is seeking the truth that leads to great knowledge. A theologian or spiritual-seeker is seeking the truth that leads to great wisdom. A person is unlikely to discover scientific knowledge by studying religion. A person is equally unlikely to discover wisdom by studying science.

Implying that either religion or science is false because you can’t learn it by studying the other? That’s just as ignorant as believing all women are gentle, beautiful creatures.
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Fri, 01 Feb 2013 06:00:46 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=10341#comment-684227I’m really glad this is a blog about dating; that stopped me from going into Christian apologetics mode. Think I’ll see what’s happening on The Poached Egg now.
]]>By: Katarina Phanghttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/letting-go/how-to-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-295158
Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:47:04 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=10341#comment-295158Spot on, Evan! I wrote about how men fall in love and commit to happy women as well.

My ex told everyone he fell in love and married me because I always woke up happy. And we went through a rough patch because mainly he wasn’t a happy person in general. Unhappy people bring you down.

The guy I’m dating tells everyone that I’m the easiest woman a guy will ever meet. Always upbeat and positive and easy going. After two months he just told me he loved me last week. So being happy pays!

I’m the happiest in my life these days and it brings about more happiness. Happiness is contagious. Try it.

You cannot over intellectualize truth. Science works on evidence. Confidence is gained in ideas (postulates, theories) by their ability to make predictions.
If “x” exists then you would expect to see “y”.
That is why science is so successful.

An idea cannot be true just because you want it to be.

]]>By: Kurthttp://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/letting-go/how-to-be-happy/comment-page-1/#comment-294514
Wed, 25 Apr 2012 06:46:20 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=10341#comment-294514Do you go out of your way to make sure that each man who goes out with you has a positive experience?
I know from experience that some women definitely don’t practice this one. Some are just real ball-busters doing some annoying things to get a rise out of a man apparently to test his reaction. I once went out with a girl who took me to a bar on the third date and then left to go grind on some guy. I thought this was very disrespectful and I essentially told her that it was rude and if she ever pulled anything like that again, that would be it. Of course, she responded that I was being unreasonable and that she had not done anything wrong. The crazy thing is that she wanted me even more after I put her in her place and actually started saying we would get married, which seemed like a nutty thing to say on a third date. However, I was disgusted that she had out me in a position where I had to call her out, and so I never asked her out her again. She should have followed Evan’s advice to make dating a more positive experience.
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Tue, 24 Apr 2012 02:42:01 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=10341#comment-293872Zaq, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a God. It could mean that these various scientists have over intellectualized the notion until they will simply not allow themselves to believe in the truth.
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Sat, 21 Apr 2012 22:36:46 +0000http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=10341#comment-292683@Saint Stephen
Yes thought someone would question that statement.

I read somewhere that 93% of the members of the National Academy of Sciences are atheists.
97% of the members of the Royal Society (the British science organisation formally headed by Sir Issac Newton) do not believe in God.
Those people whose job it is to question how things work, overwhelmingly reject religion