Online Dating Tips for Men: 5 Things You Should Not Share with a Lady

If you want a lady, be a gentleman.

—In today’s world, dating rules change and evolve every year. Getting a relationship requires a careful balance of care and normality, as many singles find the hard way. Meeting someone online is easy while completing the task of finding a long-term partner is anything but. These dating tips for men will assist in maintaining a healthy equilibrium. And while there are a proverbial million ways to make a connection die, steering clear of typical mistakes will keep you ahead in this game. If you want to make it work, certain things are best to be avoided.

The typical things women find the most repulsive are not listed in priority order. This list simply outlines errors that are mentioned frequently by clients of online dating sites. However, it’s worth noting that ladies and gentlemen differ in what puts them off. This is why dating advice for men varies from tips for females.

1. Negative Comments about her Appearance

Specific points include the woman’s weight, makeup, hair, clothes, and looks in general. Unless you are a styling guru, avoid trying to point out imperfections. Some dating coaches used to recommend negative statements as a way to score with attractive females. But this practice is so well known today that a smart lady will pick on it in an instant. She has probably been approached by guys trying “negs” many times. Especially during the online stage of communication, avoid negative comments, which can be easily misinterpreted. Intelligent women prefer to be complimented, particularly on their personal qualities or achievements.

2. Your Ex

You cannot win with this one. Talking about your ex in a positive way will make her jealous and speaking about problems in the past relationship makes it appear as if you have some unresolved issues, commonly known as “baggage.” No matter how much it seems to fit the conversation, avoid bringing up your former partners.

3. Innuendoes

Certainly, men seek contacts with the final goal of being together in a physical way. It is normal. But hints about intimacy, special abilities or prowess come across as extremely cheesy and lame, the majority of ladies agree. Some guys start this type of innuendoes early on through texts and chats, probably thinking it would help them to get the girl.

4. Shirtless Pictures

Unless you already have a lively conversation and she is the one starting to show some skin in the photos she sends you, avoid emailing pictures without a top on. The same applies to your dating profile: Keep the shirt on. Countless young ladies stated that such photos make them feel as if the guys were just interested in getting a girl to bed. This is not what a decent woman is looking for in her potential date. Sure, she will enjoy your physique but it is not the most important part for her. What she seeks is a man with substance. If you would like to share some skin-revealing shots, ask permission first.

And absolutely, stay away of sending pictures displaying your endowment. This, in the eyes of women, equals visual assault. Guys posting this type of content unsolicited are blacklisted in an instant. Certain dating sites even have rules about it.

In a way, tips #3 and #4 are connected. This is because the largest number of women’s grievances on online dating sites is about the issue of intimate pressure, real or perceived.

5. Pleasing Yourself While Thinking of Her

Apparently, some men think that announcing to a woman that he was pleasing himself with her image in mind should win her admiration. Tragically, nothing can be further from the reality. Surprisingly, such statements are not rare, female users report. This what makes ladies sometimes wonder whether young men are able to think with their big head as opposed to the smaller one. On the other hand, if you are trying to find a sure-fire way to get rid of a woman and ensure she would run across the street every time she sees you, this could be a perfect method. No female finds a thought of her knight in shining armor performing activities of this type (while thinking of her) bearable.

General Guidance

It would be hard to mention all possible errors that a man can make while chatting to an attractive lady online. The simple tip would be to think before sending this text or message and certainly avoid getting too romantic while intoxicated. As dating coaches agree in their advice, building a good relationship is about doing a hundred things right but to destroy a fresh connection, you only need one thing gone wrong.

Because men are often the ones who take initiative, it’s certainly easier for them to err. Still, a woman who truly likes you would forgive you if you made a mistake and sincerely apologized. Watch her feedback and you will be able to correct unintentional blunders. Being attentive to your partner is the key to success in dating

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About Elena Petrova

Elena Petrova is the founder of ElenasModels.com and a dating coach with 17-year experience in the industry of relationships. She is married with 2 kids and lives on the breathtaking Gold Coast in Australia. In her spare time, Elena enjoys sailing, cruising, and studying martial arts.