Greer says the thermostat — like the remote — is really a metaphor representing control.

“If somebody is the controller, if they are always setting the controls and the temperature being what they want, without considering their partner, that’s a relationship that’s out of balance and that is eventually going to have to resolve all the anger and resentment that’s going to go along with it,” Greer said.

“It’s a little disturbing because it always seems to go his way,” Rosenblum said.

“Um, I don’t know. You just have to go with it and hang in there,” said Shawn Web of Queens.

Greer says often one person feels like they must give in to the other to avoid an argument or a cold war, and this can lead to resentment in and out of the bedroom.

“You want to have a winning conversation with your partner, acknowledge how they feel, consider their feelings and empathize with them,” Greer said.

Greer says you can show you care by coming up with a compromise. In this case it may simply require that you layer or shed, depending on your comfort needs. At the very least — as a couple — you need to acknowledge your differences and try not to be so selfish.

“It will make all the difference in the world,” Greer said.

“That’s pretty much true,” Mike Early said.

Therapists say this advice works for arguments about other things big and small.