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Monday, October 8, 2018

What I was looking for in a life partner were two main things, One was to find someone that would love my oldest son and be a great role
model for him.Two, was to have someone
that really had family values that would put our immediate family first.

At 29 and being a single mom for over 10 years, I thought
marriage may just not be in my future at all.Then I met my husband.We were
friends for a few months before we went on our first date.I knew by the second or third date that he
was the one, about six months later we were engaged. A year later is where our
story began October 9, 20004.

Marriage is about two people growing together and having a family
if that is what you choose to do, but it’s important not to loose yourself during
the journey, because if you are not happy with yourself, how can you make others
happy.

Each marriage is different and what keeps my marriage healthy
is based on our relationship, but I wanted to share a few things that I feel
have helped our marriage reach to 14 years and counting.

1.No matter
what the argument is about, who started it, who ended it, never go to sleep being angry with each other, or sleep in separate beds for the night.

2.Even if you do not have two extra rooms in your
home, always let your other half have his man cave and you can have your lady
den or some small dedicated desk, corner, or nook, where each of you can
retreat and have your own things or knickknacks.

3.Respect each other‘s time, when wanting to do
things on your own or with or friends from time to time.

4.Date night can get very challenging when raising
children.I tried to put things on the calendar and it
wouldn’t work out, so once a quarter I’ll put a reminder date night and then
try to fit it in.I feel like we already have so many schedules,
appointments and deadlines that we shouldn’t have to be so stressed out if we couldn’t
make our date night work out.

5.Find at least two things that you can do as a
couple together it can be as simple as watching a show you both enjoy, walk
your dog together or take a dance class.

6.Last part and probably for him is the most
important thing on this list, which is very simple.Yes, ladies we are tired, we juggle 10
million things from the minute we wake up, but at the end of the day at least
once or twice a week you have to keep him satisfied in the bedroom.

7.When you met him, he may have had some annoying quirks
that you may still be trying to change.Give it up, use your energy to work on something that makes you both grow
together.

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

I started this blog in 2017 to share my journey of living my life to the fullest as a wife and mother while following my passions to do things that I love to do for myself.

I had commented to a friend a few weeks ago, that since my dream of pursuing a career in event planning has kept me very busy in a really good way, I have not posted a blog post in a very long time.

She asked me why do I even want to continue blogging with my hectic schedule, and I immediately responded that if at least one person read one of my blog posts and could relate or help them in some way, then making a little time to write something to share with others has been worth it.

MY GUARDIAN ANGEL

As we go into the Fall season this weekend I have noticed for some years now, that I go through a transition from a less hectic summer schedule with longer days to do things with the family and projects, to a rushing around September getting back to the school schedule and other activities.

My anxiety during this transition usually runs really high and last week, I had to have some hard family adult conversations, that I have been putting off with some family members that has me in a down cycle funk this week.

As I have gotten older it has become easier for me to really listen to others and help them talk out their issues but when I have my own feelings to sort out, or make myself accept things in my life that I do not have control of, I tend to just look the other way and not deal with the emotions, but last week, this one issue I have had tucked away for a long time finally had to be dealt with.

Long story short all of the emotions and anxiety from last week, made me feel physically ill and could barley get out of bed today. By mid day I was coming around and a dear friend of mine popped in my head. I realized it would have been her birthday next week.

Brenda is truly my Guardian Angel, who I met almost 18 years ago when I was in my mid 20's as a very introverted single mother. We met at work and she quickly became a mentor for me. She was a confinement, warm person that was married to an amazing man that adored her. Brenda introduced me to so many new things from Barbara Streisand movies and songs, good wine and so much more but what was the most important was how she helped me talk through some tough decisions I had to make during that time. Even though I was already a mother of a five year old, I still needed a lot of growing up to do and she was there for me.

With time Brenda opened up to me like I had so fast after we had met. I admired her so much for how brave she was for overcoming so much from her childhood. I was blessed to know her for about two years and all that I was able to learn from her. The last time I saw her on that Monday, June 1st so many years ago, she asked if I would go to happy hour with her after work, but I couldn't because of a friends birthday dinner.

The next day her husband came to our job desperately looking for Brenda who had not come home the night before and had left him a good bye note. The police,me and all of her other friends helped with the search. A week later she was found, Brenda decided for her own reasons that some did not understand, but I did, she felt it was better to leave us.

For many years I felt so much guilt for not hanging out with her that night, that maybe if I had been with her, she would have decided not to go through with her suicide.

I am at peace with it all now and know that she is my Guardian Angel and from time to time she pops in my mind just because, or when I'm going through tough moments and need to make decisions.

As I was home today not feeling so great, I was sitting in my chair wrapped in a comforter and I suddenly realized that the comforter used to belong to Brenda and that next week would have been her

birthday. Just like that, I knew she was there with me and I knew that things were going to get better.