Having a loved one in the field is a detriment to combat effectiveness, thats the reason that women and men should be separated in the military and why the Don't ask don't tell policy, while incredibly homophobic, had some basis to it.

Roman military strategists encouraged their men to have roman orgies, because you fight harder in combat for those you love. Their military won more battles than you can count, and their country lasted longer than any one today.

TL;DR- You are incorrect, and when you have an unpopular opinion, you should log in and say it like a man/woman.