cervical cancer

gravance77

Posts: 2
Joined: Nov 2008

Nov 13, 2008 - 3:15 pm

my wife is 31 she has stage 4 non responsive cancer i am scared and don't know what to do she stopped doing chemo. If anyone has any info. about alternative medicine or anything i would greatly appreciate it. we have 4 children i fear she is giving up.

Did she stop chemo on her doctor's recommendation? Or did she just stop going? You poor thing! That 'non responsive' diagnosis has to be so disheartening for her, and the treatments can be just awful; surely you understand how she could want to give up? I am only 5 months into my battle with cancer, and looking ahead to scheduled treatments (chemo and radiation) that won't be over until July. Although I tell myself I am ready to endure whatever it takes, who knows how I will feel 3 months from now, or 6 months from now? It is hard to be brave. And it's hard to watch your family's life savings threatened by uncovered procedures and treatments and costs. Especially when you are worried that none of it will matter, that you may not make it any way. Try not to be angry with her. She may be depressed (who wouldn't be in this situation?). She may need to talk to a therapist or counselor. My heart breaks for you and your children. I hope that she will resume treatment if there is any hope. And if there isn't, I hope you can live with her decision. BIG HUGS, buddy. I weep for you and yours.

I'm not angry at all i am scared i cant imagine how she is feeling. Her doctor didn't argue with the decision to stop chemo. we are tring to make the best of every day and we are not ready to give up on her. i know she needs my strength and i need her. It's hard but you really have to stick to your treatment schedule and eat the right foods i'll pray for you and yours

Are you able to talk to her oncologist? (Did she sign a paper allowing you to have open access to her medical records and advocate on her behalf?) You need to know WHY her doctor wouldn't argue about stopping chemo; is the cancer progressing and winning even WITH chemo? What about radiation; would/could she try that? Do you think she might be worried about the financial burden on the family, or do you have good insurance coverage? (I worry about the cost all the time; even with my insurance we've paid out $10,500 already for uncovered things I needed and my deductible and my treatments just started. If I thought the treatments wouldn't save me, I can't imagine leaving my family with a lot of debt and a second mortgage on the house.)

I wear a baseball cap to my chemo that says "I love the smell of chemo in the morning", and on the back it reads "Smells like remission". I believe that. I hope your wife has reason to believe that also. You and yours are in my prayers. I wish I had an answer for you. I just couldn't leave your message unanswered.

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