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Trondogs

Well things are looking better for me. Long story (some already know) MIL took me to family court for visitation and it was denied and also filed false criminal charges against me which I found out today are being DISMISSED!!! Almost 7500 dollars later things have done a 360. MIL made a idiot out of herself in both courts and had attorneys, mediators and even the prosecutor making passive snarky comments and snickers in front of her and while discussing things with my attorney. So next court date I will be cleared of all charges and be able to move on without MIL involved any longer. Thanks for all the great advice and hopefully things will continue to get better. I am putting this all behind me, not filing a civil suit for anything because it will only keep MIL in our lives longer. I have decided to be proactive and withdraw all my energy and thoughts regarding MIL's problems and the things she "could" still continue to do. For me MIL has passed.

You're welcome. Your MIL makes all of those horrible MIL stereotypes look like sweethearts! Better days are ahead, T. You are so wise not to take her to court to reclaim your costs, thus keeping yourself in her negative energy. I would do a ritual of some kind…but maybe you aren't into that kind of thing. I'd probably write down her name, her date of birth and the date you won and closed the door. Them I'd burn the paper and bury the ashes. (Guess I'm a little 'woo-woo…' but symbolism often helps me.)

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Trondogs

That sounds like a good idea, it will bring me closure. I just think it is not worth the time or energy. We just got denied a restraining order and we had over a years documentation of calls, emails, texts, mail, and MIL was even caught on our security cameras driving up and down my street many times in a row. At this point it's like she files, we file, she files, we file, and ultimately it becomes sort of a one-upmanship contest. Honestly we are tired of the courthouse and just want out even if it means ignoring the crazy lady driving up and down our street and biting the bullet on trying to recover any money we dished out. If the state wants to bring charges against her for fabricating this "criminal" ordeal the they can deal with her, not us.

Trondogs

Thanks Pooh. I am trying. It's hard when deep down inside I'm "waiting for the other shoe to drop." Really though I'd like the house to drop on the shoe HAHAHAHA (wicked witch of the east, in my case) HAHAHAHA. Hopefully this is the beginning of the end.... My therapist tells me it probably isn't but dont dwell on it or anticipate it.