How to be your own Sexual Muse: Self Pleasure 101

How to be your own Sexual Muse: Self Pleasure 101

Do you give yourself permission to receive sensual pleasure from yourself?

Can you make love to yourself?

Are you able to muse yourself and witness the artistic sexual genius that is created?

Or . . .

Do you seek something outside of you to inspire you?

Do you expect someone else to bring you to orgasm?

Do you need someone or something external to arouse you?

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The other day when I was self pleasuring using my rose quartz wand, I found myself undulating on the floor, breathing hypnotically, moaning in ecstasy and completely dissolved in a time warp (for maybe an hour).

After I emerged from my solo sacred union, I thought to myself: ‘Wow, I really turned myself on then!’.

Without a vibrator on my clit.

Without a mirror.

Without porn.

Without even a fantasy!

Simply though my own breath, sound, movement and the hedonistic, guilt-free ability to receive and give pleasure to…ME!

I was my very own muse.

Defined, a muse is “a person or personified force who is the source of inspiration for a creative artist”.

SELF PLEASURE VS MASTURBTION

The beauty in this sweet exchange, aka Self Pleasure, is that you are both the artist and the muse.

The director and the actor.

The creator and the observer.

The dominant and the sub.

The giver and the receiver.

After an hour of relishing in my own sexual creative juices, I felt incredibly full to the brim of my own love.

I felt calmer, lighter, freer, more creative …

The same feeling I might get after a healing session, a massage, Tantric bodywork, a Kundalini yoga class.

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I never experienced this masturbating whilst using a vibrating rabbit I got from an adult shop.

I never experienced this masturbating whilst watching porn.

I never experienced this masturbatingwhilst fantasising about someone else turning me on.

If anything I felt a little dirty.

A bad taste left in my mouth.

A sense of ickiness.

THE BENEFITS OF SELF PLEASURE

Rather, this recent experience felt sweet, deep, enlivening and enriching for the soul.

Create a nest – an inviting creative space to spread out your ‘paints and brushes’

Allow yourself to turn yourself on!

Invest in a crystal pleasure wand (I started with Rose Quartz as it helps me amplify self love) and try using this internally as a way of gently revitalising sensations and sensitivity whilst setting an intention to clear your Sacral Chakra of any unwanted, old, stagnant energy

Use a beautiful coconut oil based lubricant like Yoni Elixir to anoint your yoni and breasts

Slow down the process and bring attention to your breath. Get into a hypnotic trance and go even slower…

Release attachment to fantasy – stay present – and just imagine if you had to ask that person permission/consent first to think about them whilst you self pleasure. Would that change anything?

Tune into the sensation and see if you can simply focus on that, whether it’s pleasure or pain, breathe through it to let it go.

If you do orgasm, at the point of climax send the energy up to your heart and then spread it all around your body like smudging paint on a blank canvas!

I can write about that in an upcoming blog, and I also have an e-book being released soon on how to use the pleasure wands for deeper orgasms 🙂 Do you have a wand to work with as it helps. Fingers aren’t long enough!

This is SO AWESOME. You verbalise so much between the lines of what you write: conveying what sex can be. Funnily enough my boyfriend asked me last night what the difference was between a dildo and a yoni wand. This article illustrates that difference in a way. Shared on Facebook 😉 the rose quartz wand is on my wish list!

I LOVED THIS ROSIE!! So real and raw, and I felt like this is a deeper dive into self-love and letting go of the shitty ideas of needing “sombody” to love, pleasure us and make us feel good, when actually us doing that for ourselves is where it’s at.

Hello, I’m Rosie

I'm on a mission to help every woman accept, love & embrace her naked body and celebrate her sexuality!