He's leaving?

Me and my boyfriend have been having problems the past few weeks. He told me yesterday that he didn't think we should be together and that he isn't ready to be a father. Today he texted while I'm at work and said he was getting all his stuff from our apartment. I'm so hurt and scared now to be a single mother. Just needed to vent that out. Prayers appreciated.

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Go get a consult from a lawyer and take your ex for child support. There's single mom groups where you can find support and maybe some new friends ( on social media sites, some local mom groups). Dont let it get you down. You can do this. Best of luck to you, OP.

Well im still with the baby father but we are having alot of argument alot like now we are good 5 mins later we not and im the one thats thinking about leaving. Just look at it maybe it was for the better.

You are capable of a lot more than you think. He doesn't get to not be ready, it takes two people to make a baby and I assume he was a willing partner in making the baby.

Look out for yourself now and find support systems to get you through this. File for child support when baby is born. And don't hope for him to come back. A man who runs like a coward and doesn't even have the decency to tell you in person is not someone you want to be with long term.

You can tell him he doesnt get to not be ready. If he walks out on this child he'll regret it for the rest of his life. He made the decision he was ready when he had sex with you. He needs to man up and be a father to the little life he created. You will be ok and you can get through this no matter how scary it is! You will find you have so much support if you reach out for it. I'm praying for you ❤

Well im still with the baby father but we are having alot of argument alot li...

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04/16/2018

Well im still with the baby father but we are having alot of argument alot like now we are good 5 mins later we not and im the one thats thinking about leaving. Just look at it maybe it was for the better.

You can tell him he doesnt get to not be ready. If he walks out on this child...

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04/16/2018

You can tell him he doesnt get to not be ready. If he walks out on this child he'll regret it for the rest of his life. He made the decision he was ready when he had sex with you. He needs to man up and be a father to the little life he created. You will be ok and you can get through this no matter how scary it is! You will find you have so much support if you reach out for it. I'm praying for you ❤

That's what I'm saying! I'm not ready, but I'm owning my responsibilities and I will love this baby with or without him. Thank you so much

That's what I'm saying! I'm not ready, but I'm owning my responsibilities and I will love this baby with or without him. Thank you so much

That's the shitty thing about this society. Men get to walk away with no qualms when they decide it's too much. But a woman puts her life into the child she helped create from day one. You weren't the only one that decided to have sex that night. He is just as much responsible but just becaus he doesnt have to carry the baby, means he gets to walk away. You're better off without him. And definitely go after him for child support so he can feel the repercussions for his immaturity to the fullest extent. You are entitled to have help even if he's decided not to be a dad.

I really LOVE when some men decide they don't want to be fathers and just walk away like it magically erases their responsibilities... UGH!

OP- I'm sorry you are going through this, pregnancy is hard enough as it is without having to deal with this bullshit. You got this though. Start looking up resources to help, make a list of what you need to do (child support for sure) and then build a good support system that works for you and LO.

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