If you're dating online, there's a tricky situation you should know about... And it's even important to you if you'reNOT dating online!

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Question from a Reader: GET OFF THE DATING SITES...?

I have been dating a great guy for 1month. He says and does all the right things and appears to be very in to me.He is very consistent with his texts andcalling patterns. I only return histexts and calls, very seldom initiate any call or text.

It does not appear that he is seeing anyone else. I speak with him almost every evening that we are not together.We see each other twice per week. However, I do see that he is on a dating site ‘shopping’ or looking or something.I am on the same site and when I go to his online profile he is online every few days. I am doing the same thing Isuppose but mostly to see if he is on.

I really like him and do not want to see other men. I am meeting others however no one is comparing to him and what wehave. I am likely engaging in more flirtatious activity than he is. I want an exclusive relationship with him prior to sex of course.

He may bring up being exclusive before I do but how do I bring up the online dating site shopping if he still continues after we are ‘exclusive’? Or do I mention it when I say that I only have a sexual relationship in an exclusive relationship? I do not want him to know I am spying on him because he would find this stalker-ish. What should I say when the sex/exclusive talkcomes up which will be really soon?….

I also feel odd about saying that I don’t think he or I are ready for exclusivity since we are on track with a really great dating relationship. I feel if I say that I am not ready for exclusivity he will either think its a game or that I am a player. When we areout I tend to get alot of attention and ....

If you're dating online, there's a tricky situation you should know about... And it's even important to you if you'reNOT dating online!

Read on:

Question from a Reader: GET OFF THE DATING SITES...?

I have been dating a great guy for 1month. He says and does all the right things and appears to be very in to me.He is very consistent with his texts andcalling patterns. I only return histexts and calls, very seldom initiate any call or text.

It does not appear that he is seeing anyone else. I speak with him almost every evening that we are not together.We see each other twice per week. However, I do see that he is on a dating site ‘shopping’ or looking or something.I am on the same site and when I go to his online profile he is online every few days. I am doing the same thing Isuppose but mostly to see if he is on.

I really like him and do not want to see other men. I am meeting others however no one is comparing to him and what wehave. I am likely engaging in more flirtatious activity than he is. I want an exclusive relationship with him prior to sex of course.

He may bring up being exclusive before I do but how do I bring up the online dating site shopping if he still continues after we are ‘exclusive’? Or do I mention it when I say that I only have a sexual relationship in an exclusive relationship? I do not want him to know I am spying on him because he would find this stalker-ish. What should I say when the sex/exclusive talkcomes up which will be really soon?….

I also feel odd about saying that I don’t think he or I are ready for exclusivity since we are on track with a really great dating relationship. I feel if I say that I am not ready for exclusivity he will either think its a game or that I am a player. When we areout I tend to get alot of attention and ....

Being more is what life is about being for others gives you presents. Being authentic in Love is who you are in the soul

Men love toys. Women are not toys? When did that happen? Could you pretend to be?... we're really that simple. LOL

Quoting Euro2016:

Be honest with him and tell him how you really feel..Its time us women step up and put these men in there place; we are not toys we are women with feelings....If merriage is not a thought then why are people in realtionship???I got divorced last yr; after 24 yrs of marriage,,and this single life is crazy..Most of the men I have met ,,think they are so much better then women ,,who in the hell do some men think they are?? Sweet heart tell him how you feel and if he dosent resept your feelings leave his ass..Men look at women like a sport... it sickens me...Women are to quike to give their power away to a man..Dont give your power away

Quoting Euro2016:

Be honest with him and tell him how you really feel..Its time us women step up and put these men in there place; we are not toys we are women with feelings....If merriage is not a thought then why are people in realtionship???I got divorced last yr; after 24 yrs of marriage,,and this single life is crazy..Most of the men I have met ,,think they are so much better then women ,,who in the hell do some men think they are?? Sweet heart tell him how you feel and if he dosent resept your feelings leave his ass..Men look at women like a sport... it sickens me...Women are to quike to give their power away to a man..Dont give your power away

Men love toys. Women are not toys? When did that happen? Could you pretend to be?... we're really that simple. LOL

I'm simply ROTFL..... this is soooo funny. Roc - I do like your take on the fact that these sites ain't for minors! Refer them to their parents... the scenario is way funny...lol. What on earth is this?

Liv.

Jenk & Roc,

I'm simply ROTFL..... this is soooo funny. Roc - I do like your take on the fact that these sites ain't for minors! Refer them to their parents... the scenario is way funny...lol. What on earth is this?

As you are only as good as your word...you cannot control others words or thoughts ... you can only be responsible and control your intergity.

Then i also ask you... why take that presious time to read these bloggs then, when you clearly stat you are not interested?

If you are directing your question at me then my answer would be a question. How would I know that I am not interested in your blog if I do not read the content first? I read the content and came to the conclusion that I'm not interested. Take what I type with a grain of salt please. I asked you to answer the questions yourself so as a reader, I would know how you stand on it. If other posters also answer your questions, it may get more interesting.

Feel free to post whatever, I will also feel free to post my 2 cents. Okay?

Quoting mysterymastery:

With intergrity ... pure and simple

No games, no BS.. no gossiping.. all with integrity

As you are only as good as your word...you cannot control others words or thoughts ... you can only be responsible and control your intergity.

Then i also ask you... why take that presious time to read these bloggs then, when you clearly stat you are not interested?

If you are directing your question at me then my answer would be a question. How would I know that I am not interested in your blog if I do not read the content first? I read the content and came to the conclusion that I'm not interested. Take what I type with a grain of salt please. I asked you to answer the questions yourself so as a reader, I would know how you stand on it. If other posters also answer your questions, it may get more interesting.

Feel free to post whatever, I will also feel free to post my 2 cents. Okay?

Are you playing Dear Abby for onliners? I don't understand why you are using a blog here to refer to stranger's problems. No offense but I'm not into surveys or this type of stuff. You are not even using the friend of a friend theory which some people tend to hide behind. Turning your question back to you, the poster. How would YOU handle it?

Are you playing Dear Abby for onliners? I don't understand why you are using a blog here to refer to stranger's problems. No offense but I'm not into surveys or this type of stuff. You are not even using the friend of a friend theory which some people tend to hide behind. Turning your question back to you, the poster. How would YOU handle it?

He wants me all to himself which I like.We are both in the entertainment biz and are used to alot of craziness so I do not want to be perceived as any of that.Thought on what to say and/ or how to bring up the dating site shopping?

Thanks you so much.

Chris in Malibu, CA______________________

Chris, your situation is probably way more common than you think...

I actually ran into this situation with Jen, and she handled it in JUST the right way.

I've got to have a session of BRUTALHONESTY™ with you.

1) You want him off the dating site, but you're still on.

Hmm...

2) You say: "I am doing the same thing I suppose but mostly to see if he is on."

Hmmm....

3) You say: "I do not want him to know I am spying on him because he would find this stalker-ish."

Even though you think it's "stalker-ish" you're stil...

Can you read all this?

Do you know what is happening?

Do you feel this is similar in your on line dating?

How would you handle this?

andI see that he does not like it.

He wants me all to himself which I like.We are both in the entertainment biz and are used to alot of craziness so I do not want to be perceived as any of that.Thought on what to say and/ or how to bring up the dating site shopping?

Thanks you so much.

Chris in Malibu, CA______________________

Chris, your situation is probably way more common than you think...

I actually ran into this situation with Jen, and she handled it in JUST the right way.

I've got to have a session of BRUTALHONESTY™ with you.

1) You want him off the dating site, but you're still on.

Hmm...

2) You say: "I am doing the same thing I suppose but mostly to see if he is on."

Hmmm....

3) You say: "I do not want him to know I am spying on him because he would find this stalker-ish."

Even though you think it's "stalker-ish" you're stil...

Can you read all this?

Do you know what is happening?

Do you feel this is similar in your on line dating?

How would you handle this?

Being more is what life is about being for others gives you presents. Being authentic in Love is who you are in the soul