As far as gay couples or singles adopting; What are we thinking? Being gay is being sexually deviant to begin with. Why do we think that they are not going to molest their adopted children? I think though,that molestation would be more of a problem with the men. I think that women gay or otherwise, have an innate sense of just wanting to rear children.

When my oldest son was just 3 years old, my gay brother asked if he could take a walk with him. Now as far as I know my brother has never molested any children. At first I didn't find the request strange and let my son go with him. After all they were just taking a walk around the neighborhood. While they were gone though, I got this terrible feeling. It may have been the Holy Spirit giving me warning or just maybe my over sense of protectiveness. But I decided that if they were not back in a few minutes I was going after them. They did come back in just a few minutes, but I never got over that feeling. I determined right then and there that I would never let my young son alone with him. Now, if I could feel that way about my own brother, who I love, then something is just not right. I just don't trust gay men to not try and molest little children.

Now, if I could feel that way about my own brother, who I love, then something is just not right.

Yes, something is obviously not right. That \"something\" would seem to be that you don't really love your brother and that you lump him in with the preconceived notions you have of what gay people are like. If you were to, say, judge him on his own merits, then perhaps that \"something\" would go away.

Then again, so very many people have trouble evaluating things individually. I can't really ask for people to learn to think critically, since I already know they won't.

Papabear: I would love to know where you got that statistic, because if we can verify that, we have a ready made answer to every last post linking homosexuality with child molestation. Great statistic (if, of course, it pans out).

Ha ha. This one made me laugh out loud. \"I had a feeling something was true and it turns out it wasn't, but I'm going to go with the feeling anyway.\" If this isn't the dictionary definition of mental retardation, it should be.

<< Ha ha. This one made me laugh out loud. \"I had a feeling something was true and it turns out it wasn't, but I'm going to go with the feeling anyway.\" If this isn't the dictionary definition of mental retardation, it should be. >>

Funny... this post isn't so much \"fundamentalism in a nutshell\" as \"fundamentalism metaphor.\"

Just another example of how the Holy Spirit or Jesus or whatever conveniently gives a message only that person can detect that fully \"justifies\" their actions.

IMO, people should retain a degree of mistrust even about their relatives. Too many kids have been molested by the loved and trusted uncle or family friend, and the parents have refused to believe it. But this should just be as a back-of-the-mind acknowledgement that it wouldn't be impossible for X to abuse children, not banning loved and trusted family members from seeing your kid when there is absolutely no reason or evidence for doing so.

Hopefully, \"yes.\" I know you're not thinking that. At least you have the internal consistency to bar singles from adopting as well.

Being gay is being sexually deviant to begin with.

Assuming that by \"sexually deviant\" you mean \"different from you,\" then yes.

Why do we think that they are not going to molest their adopted children?

Hmm, lesse. The fact that pedophiles are almost exclusively heterosexual men? The fact that pedophiles represent a very small percentage of the population? Innocent until proven guilty of a crime? Take your pick, I've got more.

I think though,that molestation would be more of a problem with the men. I think that women gay or otherwise, have an innate sense of just wanting to rear children.

It's true that pedophiles are almost exclusively men, but where do you get the idea that all women just want to raise children? I think you've been painting with your Nadir Broad Brush. As a representative of the Acme Corporation, I'll be happy to sell you an Acme Broad Brush which is retractable (for those occasions where only a narrow brush fits) and has a Safety Bar (tm) to prevent unwanted broad-brush generalizations.

When my oldest son was just 3 years old, my gay brother asked if he could take a walk with him. Now as far as I know my brother has never molested any children. At first I didn't find the request strange and let my son go with him. After all they were just taking a walk around the neighborhood.

*music from Jaws*

While they were gone though, I got this terrible feeling. It may have been the Holy Spirit giving me warning or just maybe my over sense of protectiveness.

I'm going to take a wild stab here and say that was your hyperactive sense of protectiveness combined with your bigotry that led you to believe that your brother was a threat to your child.

But I decided that if they were not back in a few minutes I was going after them. They did come back in just a few minutes, but I never got over that feeling.

I've had those feelings too, but I've gotten over them. I used Xanax; maybe you should. It works like a charm. Plus, after a month or so, you stop getting the feelings in the first place.

I determined right then and there that I would never let my young son alone with him.

Ooh! Bad idea! I've had a brief bout of panic disorder myself, and I can assure you— it's never a good idea to rigidly avoid the perceived causes of anxiety. It only reinforces the idea that the anxiety is justified. Trust me, there will always be a new cause, no matter how many you avoid.

Now, if I could feel that way about my own brother, who I love, then something is just not right.

YES! SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT! Listen to Maronan. He's telling you that you might wish to see a psychologist. Or a psychiatrist. They won't kill you.

I just don't trust gay men to not try and molest little children.

It's sad that your symptoms match your pre-existing bigotry. This will only reinforce them both.