paulflexes saidFor me it was a group, but only because the dude I started seeing (coworker at the time) was already locally known as a gay man.

That could work. Now if only I knew a guy who would pretend to be my bf. But did you tell your family all together as well or individually?

Family didn't find out till two years later, when my dad walked in on me and the bf and caught us in the act. By then I'd already become comfortable with being out to others, so his anger/rage didn't bode well for him. I stood my ground well.

CuriousJockAZ saidDo whatever is within your comfort zone. You will probably find once you come out that it was a way bigger deal to YOU than it is to anyone else.

This! Everyone is different in their approach to coming out. I came out very quietly and it was a very personal journey so I've never shared it with people outside my friends and family. I have a good friend who came out about the same time and he couldn't find a mountain high enough to shout it from. It was interesting to see the two opposite approaches. Our day to day lives also reflect the same type of style and we're both totally comfortable with how we approached it.

WestCoastGuyThat could work. Now if only I knew a guy who would pretend to be my bf. But did you tell your family all together as well or individually?

I would jump on that grenade! I'm only compulsively lie about stupid shit all the time. That I am your boyfriend would be pleasurable.

On a more serious note, I came out in a more haphazard way. By that, I mean I never really told anyone, but I just started bringing men to events. My friends shrugged. My mother had been phrasing things as "I know you're not gay but, what do you think of (clothing/colour/cooking thing)." since I was twelve, so... I kinda didn't really come out to anything at home.

WestCoastGuyThat could work. Now if only I knew a guy who would pretend to be my bf. But did you tell your family all together as well or individually?

I would jump on that grenade! I'm only compulsively lie about stupid shit all the time. That I am your boyfriend would be pleasurable.

On a more serious note, I came out in a more haphazard way. By that, I mean I never really told anyone, but I just started bringing men to events. My friends shrugged. My mother had been phrasing things as "I know you're not gay but, what do you think of (clothing/colour/cooking thing)." since I was twelve, so... I kinda didn't really come out to anything at home.

Alright boyfriend. I'll start bringing you to functions with me. Hey if it works in straight romantic comedies it can surely work for us too lol.

But yeah that's good that you just let it happen naturally and integrated being gay into who you were.