In Praise of Lingerie

It seems for most men that what they want most is to see a woman fully nude and ready to do all sorts of unspeakable to them. I'm a bit different. I want a woman to do those unspeakable things to me and with me, but I want her wearing something more than her birthday suit.

Men like to see women naked. Even my gay friends appreciate the nude female form. They have no interest in touching that form, like my other friends, but they still appreciate it. Since the beginning of time, or at least since loin cloths caught on, men have been looking to get women out of their clothes. It seems to be hardwired into a man's DNA to attempt to get women out of their clothes as soon as puberty sets in.

So, that's why I thought I was such a freak for so long. Whenever I would see a sexy scene in a movie or swipe one of my father's Playboys growing up; I'd always be interested in seeing the women, but I was always more interested by the beginning of the scene or photo spread, usually. And that was the time that the women were wearing lingerie. They weren't totally nude, but dressed in some sort of lingerie, possibly even still in a skirt, or something of the sort. The scene or the photos would progress and the woman would come out of those garments. Now don't get me wrong, I still enjoyed seeing the naked woman at the end, but I found that when she was wearing the lingerie she was incredibly sexy, even sexier to me than when she was fully nude.

I grew up and kept my lingerie fascination. My first serious relationship, she refused to wear lingerie at all; she declared it demeaning to women and would go directly from clothed to fully nude. I was in college, so I didn't complain, much, but eventually we parted ways. The next few girlfriends would wear something sexy occasionally, but I'll admit I was always hoping for more. Then I met my wife as I was finishing college. She was a recent grad as well and had a few sexy pieces in her dresser, but had never had a boyfriend who'd really appreciated them. The first time we shared our thoughts and feelings about lingerie and such, I knew we were really compatible. There a million other reasons I married her, but the fact that she loves to wear lingerie with feeling gorgeous and sexy, is definitely a bonus for me!

Seeing a woman dressed in lingerie is always a thrilling thing. For me, it's like when a woman wears a sexy and revealing dress. You know there's more beneath, but you can't quite see it all, so it makes it all the more enticing to see what is underneath. There is also something special about a woman wearing lingerie. It shows that she put some time and thought into what is about to occur. If you're married or have been in a relationship for some time you've had those times where you're lying next to each other in bed and suddenly you have a quickie with no forethought whatsoever. Those are great, but when your significant other comes emerges from wherever dressed in some silky or lacy garment, you know that she put some thought into what to wear for you and for her. It feels really great. It makes me feel special when my wife wears something sexy and that she is especially excited for what is about to happen. When my wife wears a sexy piece of lingerie, I also always feel like I do at Christmas-time, that there is a shiny present just for me to unwrap. It's a fantastic feeling, and most of the time, when my wife is wearing lingerie, we both feel that our sex is more intense, exciting, and passionate.

I know there are lots of other men out there who feel the same way about lingerie as I do. But I was also curious about the female perspective. So, I went to my normal source for all things female related my wife. I asked her what she liked about lingerie and wearing it. The first thing she said was this: "I know how much you love seeing me in lingerie, so I like seeing your reaction and especially that look in your eyes when I come out wearing something hot. But I also do it for me. I like wearing pretty things and feeling sexy. So when I wear lingerie I feel beautiful and sexy. And then the look in your eye makes me feel even hotter!"

I also asked her about her previous relationships and if lingerie played any sort of role within them: "I was in college, so I didn't have a lot of money to spend on lingerie, but I did have some. None of my boyfriends were as interested in it as you were. But I liked wearing it even then, because it made me feel sexy. And they always liked it when we'd be on a date and I'd have worn something sexy under my outfit that they didn't know about, but saw once we got home!"

I only had two more questions, the first being what styles and outfits are your favorites? "My favorite things vary. I know what you like. If you had your way I'd wear pretty much the same type of things all of the time, corsets, bustiers, and stockings. I like those things and feel really sexy when I wear them, but there are times when a little chemise can be really sexy as well. It all depends on the mood I'm in, if I'm feeling sweet and romantic a chemise or a babydoll is good, but if I'm feeling really sexy; I'll go for the corset and stockings,"

My final question, before I ripped her clothes off was this, what is it about wearing lingerie that makes our sex seem hotter, more passionate? "I think it's the fact that I don't wear lingerie every day. I know you'd like me to, but then it wouldn't feel as special if I did. But when I do wear something special, you have that look in your eyes and it always gets me so excited. You also really treat me like a goddess and it really feels luxurious and sexy. I think all of that and the fact that it is something that is breaking up the daily routine makes it much hotter."

With that, I thanked her and put my computer down where I'd been typing my notes. Having her perspective was nice and really confirmed what I had been thinking for years about our feelings towards lingerie and its role in our relationship. It is definitely great to have to spice things up.

So, I'm an unabashed lingerie fan and I suspect that there are many other men out there who feel the same way. Not that we mind just seeing a woman naked either, it's just nice to have variety.

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I'm a guy who loves to talk and write about sex. A lot of what I write about is framed through my view as a happily married man who's now a father. I've always been very interested in sex and sexuality, moreso than anyone I have known. I also have harbored different fantasies throughout the years, some of which I am exploring through my writings.

I believe sexuality is a large part of who a person is and should be explored and delved into. I think society would be a lot more forward thinking if we embraced that we are sexual creatures and not try and repress that side, while also using sex to sell any item out there. I want to talk and converse with others who are forward thinking and willing to embrace this part that is within all of us.

I write here with EdenFantasys, and at my blog, www.http://husbandtwomindssexually.blogspot.com/. I'd love to hear from you about my writings.