Message Boards

Topic : 08/05 If People Really Knew ...

Number of Replies: 4

New Messages This Week: 0

Last Reply On:

Created on : Thursday, July 28, 2005, 03:45:22 pm

Author : DrPhilBoard1

(Original air date: 05/20/05) What do you think people would say if they knew "the real you"? And who in your life is hiding a shocking secret? Sherie thinks she's just a "fashion queen" and a shop-aholic. Now that she's been arrested for embezzling about $50,000, will she get real about her problem before her next outfit is a prison uniform? Then, Tanaiya and Ed are the envy of everyone they know. But behind closed doors, Tanaiya walks on pins and needles around her husband. Find out why. And, behind Jennifer's tough exterior, she's silently fighting fear and terror every single day. Talk about the show here.

As of January, 2009, this message board will become "Read Only" and will be closed to further posting. Please join the NEW Dr. Phil Community to continue your discussions, personalize your message board experience, start a blog and meet new friends.

Obsessive Compulsive Personality segment

It appeared to me (a certified psychotherapist) that Dr. Phil left Ed with the impression that Obsession/Compulsion Personality disorder was NOT his a problem even though Dr. Phil read to Ed the characteristics of OBP. Having had clients like Ed, I'm aware that it is rare that he can change enough to salvage the relationship with his wife who probably will never trust him again--even if he says he'll change and tries to be different for a while.
I'm really interested in a follow-up to this piece. With so little information about this couple except what was shared on television, I almost didn't post this message. But the more I thought about the ambiguity of Dr. Phil's message to Ed and Ed's misunderstanding just WHAT Dr. Phil was saying, I had to write.
My son-in-law is also a textbook OBP and he is creating both personal and professional havoc for my daughter. The general public has NO idea of what goes on in that home. My concern focuses on how this havoc is impacting on their two children: a boy age 5 and a girl age 3.

It really can get better!

I know how Jennifer feels, I have suffered from severe depression, anxiety , and ptsd for 17 years; Although my traumatic event leading to ptsd was not as horrible as hers, the outcome is the same. For 16 of the 17 years I did nothing but bounce from therapist to therapist and Psychiatrist to psychiatrist until I continued to have alot of pain and other symptoms and was diagnosed with Fybromyalgia. It is then that I was sent to Janet the therapist I see now who is teaching me EMDR and thought Field therapy. If this effects anyone I urge you to go online and put in the words Roger Callahan,PTSD or Francine Shapiro,PTSD You will find A ton of info on these two techniques if talk therapy isn't working for you. good luck Jennifer!!!

Living with someone like This Father and husband

I saw this show for the second time and listened more closely to this segment because Ed was like my Mom - nothing was ever neat enough, clean enough or done well enough to suit her. I thought it fit the description Dr. Phil gave of OCD personality disorder. If this woman gets a knot in her stomach when he comes home ,how do you think the kids feel? I still get a knot in my stomach when my mom calls on the phone although I understand her behavior as something she cannot change and she needed to be tightly in control of everything. But it is very abusive to the kids and the wife. I would have separated from him. The best part now is when ever my Mom comes to visit she cleans the refrigerator!!!!:>) She's done it for years but we live far away. I actually relaxed when I moved to a different state and got fewer headaches. Another town wasn't far enough. Dr. Phil, Please have a show about clean freaks or perfectionists and how this can be abusive. Perhaps an update on this couple. I know you can't tell every couple to split but when you said you thought he didn't have OCD and that they had a lot of good things in their marriage, I looked at the TV and thought Lord, she's probably plotting to kill him slowly with arsenic or one day he'll pick on her and she'll snap!!! She's keeping all her anger in. By now she has an ulcer if she hasn't done him in already. I think he snowed you with his long list of her good traits. It made him look good. I think he was more a Jekyll and Hyde type.

I know that feeling too

I know how Jennifer feels, I have suffered from severe depression, anxiety , and ptsd for 17 years; Although my traumatic event leading to ptsd was not as horrible as hers, the outcome is the same. For 16 of the 17 years I did nothing but bounce from therapist to therapist and Psychiatrist to psychiatrist until I continued to have alot of pain and other symptoms and was diagnosed with Fybromyalgia. It is then that I was sent to Janet the therapist I see now who is teaching me EMDR and thought Field therapy. If this effects anyone I urge you to go online and put in the words Roger Callahan,PTSD or Francine Shapiro,PTSD You will find A ton of info on these two techniques if talk therapy isn't working for you. good luck Jennifer!!!

I had issues after a robbery and a few other things. The robbery was just kind of like the straw that broke the camels back, i believe. I remember the next job I took, I actually hit the floor twice when I got spooked by people that came in, and ended up quiting because of an incident where I couldn't llock the door after closing(someone had taken the keys). I still am spooked easily.

I just recently realized that I had convinced myself, somewhat rightly at the time, that the world was a scary, unpredictable place and I wasn't really safe anywhere. Only recently have I realized that that isn't true. It was so ingrained in me for so long to protect myself that getting over it felt like setting myself up for something awful to happen again. It's terrible the amount of stress that put on me from being so diligent, when the whole reason my mind adopted it was to make me safer. I felt so awful hearing how that's affected her. I can imagine. I did. I remember when the sight of a young man pulling out his wallet literally had me hitting the floor in anticipation of a gun. I realized I've spent alot of years waiting for and expecting that gun to go off. I hope she doesn't spend so many years before she realizes how self-destructive instead of helpful that kind of hyper-diligent state is.

Good luck Jennifer,
I know what you have gone through, I hope you find the world really is the same world it was before. It's just really hard to see that after having witnessed the worst it had to offer.