CBT for Relationship Issues

Relationship Issues and CBT

There is a continuing crisis within the marriage partnership with the statistical average of forty per cent of marriages now ending in divorce. At the heart of this conflict are 7 areas that have been identified.

CBT works to improve these in relationship counselling: –

Communication

Empathy (understanding)

Intimacy (closeness)

Expressed affection

Trust

Acceptance

Forgiveness

When couples come for CBT they are given a series of diagnostic tests which measure the above variables to get a clear blueprint for therapeutic treatment. The therapist first looks at what brought clients together and the first stage or honeymoon period of the relationship.

Clients become aware that there were a series of expectations which each person brought to the relationship (often unexpressed), and it is only when there is a relationship breakdown that this script or internal contract becomes apparent.

Relationship Issues

In the second stage of the assessment clients identify the presenting problems in the relationship, and five or six things they would like to change in themselves, their partner and/or the relationship. This problem list forms the basis of the aims and objectives for treatment.

The third part of the programme is to design a new marital contract in all areas of marital life i.e.: –

finance

household chores

shared-child rearing

physical intimacy

time together

time apart

holidays

which better reflects each partners expectations in the marriage. Each of these is negotiated between partners. Then this is drawn up as a document which both clients can refer to.

CBT couples counselling lasts sixty minutes per weekly session and have both behavioural (doing) and cognitive (thinking) components. There is a series of techniques used which clients practice at home to augment what is learned in each session.

Emphasis on challenging misconceptions, bias and prejudice in thinking using standard CBT for negative automatic thoughts greatly improves communication in the couple and improves relationship skills.

Virtual Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Convenient, private and secure

Online Therapy is available to anyone, anywhere in the world at home or in the office using a tablet, mobile phone or laptop / computer and a good internet connection.

This service would appeal to client's for a variety of reasons.

Clients location would make it difficult / impossible to access Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy.

Clients time-pressure, work deadlines, and work-based travel make it difficult to commit for the normal counselling time-scale.

Clients family commitments make it easier to have treatment on-line at home.

Clients prefer an initial face to face assessment, and then combine both treatment modalities.