How to Parent with a Bigger Vision {teaching our children to shine like stars}

… So that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky… – Philippians 2:15

I don’t want to parent just for the sake of raising well-behaved children. I want (need) a bigger vision. By God’s grace, I want our children to “shine like stars in the sky.”

The goal of being “good” is that lives are changed, eternity is different, and God gets the glory. Jesus says in Matthew 5:16, “Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” It’s easy to let the means become the end. If we’re not careful, we can make raising well-behaved kids the goal.

We need to parent with a bigger vision.

It goes without saying that we want our children to live righteous and holy lives in this “warped and crooked generation.” As long as I have breath in my lungs, I will direct them toward the path of wisdom, where real life is found. But I don’t want to just pass on a faith that is built on moralism.

By faith, I want our kids to walk after Jesus to the places where kingdoms are still being conquered, justice is being administered, the mouths of lions are being shut, flames are being quenched, and battles are being fought (and won). I want our kids to live. by. faith.

The Christian life is anything but boring. The following are three simple ways to inspire a bigger vision in your family and your children.

1. Read your children stories about heroes of the faith.

As we teach our children the Bible, we need to help them understand that the Bible isn’t only what has happened, but it’s a Story that is still unfolding. Teach them to enter the drama. It’s a script that still needs men and women to step onto the stage. You just might be raising a man like Daniel, a woman like Esther, or a kid like Josiah.

2. Teach them that all things are dangerous things when done for Jesus.

Radical obedience to the Spirit’s leadings – anywhere and everywhere – has an inherently adventurous quality. Even the small things are great things in God’s Story. Help them to see that their lives will echo well into eternity – their life matters!

One of the most powerful ways we can instill a bigger vision in our kids is to live with one ourselves. What is your faith costing you? Is your faith stretching you in uncomfortable ways? Where are your kids seeing you depend on God to come through right now? Give them a desire to live for something bigger by showing them what it looks like!

While we only have One Perfect Hero, He calls us by His grace and through the power of His Spirit, to get our hands dirty in the drama. He charges us to live – really live – for what will last.

May God give you the grace to inspire more in your family, and through your family – to parent with a bigger vision!

About Patrick Schwenk

Patrick Schwenk is a father, husband, pastor, and author of The Dig for Kids and The Warrior Weekend. Patrick and his wife Ruth are the founders of For the Family. They met while attending the Moody Bible Institute in Chicago, IL, have been married for sixteen years and currently have four children ages five to thirteen. They love serving in ministry, spending time together as a family, reading, drinking lots of coffee, and resting in God’s grace.

Comments

“By God’s grace, I want our children to “shine like stars in the sky.” amen. I would not have said this better if I wrote it myself. This is my pray, my cry and my hope everyday. As you stated it is not only good to tell but to live by example, to show our little ones how to live for God.

Thanks Elissa! Praying that God would give you grace and strength to be the example of Christ to your family. Keep pressing on!

Hey there! Thanks so much for stopping by our blog. We are absolutely thrilled you are here! We are a crazy church planting couple who loves Jesus, our four kids and loads of coffee! We are giving God the glory every step of the way and love sharing our journey with you.