Happy 17th anniversary to Carrie Bradshaw and Ferris Bueller! But seriously, can you believe that Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick got married 17 years ago today? We’ve got to celebrate with more than a cosmo since they’re always honest about their marriage and look eternally adorable walking hand-in-hand in NYC (which I’ve had the fangirl pleasure of witnessing). So, we’ve rounded up six lessons to learn from them — including what SJP really wants as an anniversary gift.

1. Embrace the imperfections.

“I’m not saying it’s a perfect marriage,” Sarah Jessica told Barbara Walters. “And I’m not saying that we don’t disagree about things or that I don’t annoy him constantly, as I’m certain I do. And that he doesn’t, you know? And that there aren’t endless issues that enter into things, like the toilet seat or picking up his laundry. But for the most part, we seem to have, I don’t know, we seemed to have figured it out.”

2. Not every night has to be glamorous.

“Staying home with my family and my husband is the thing I love most in the world,” Sarah Jessica told Vogue. “Is it sexy? I don’t know about that, but it sure is fun, and it’s definitely unpredictable.”

3. Being friends is important too.

“That’s a marriage. That’s a relationship. That’s a friendship, even — relationships outside the marriage run the same course,” Sarah Jessica told Stella. “If you’re in it for the long haul and you want meaningful relationships you are going to go through lots of different periods.”

4. Gushing is pretty cute.

“I love Matthew Broderick,” Sarah Jessica told Harper’s Bazaar. “Call me crazy, but I love him. We can only be in the marriage we are. We’re very devoted to…our lives. I love our life… It’s because of him that there’s this whole other world that I love.”

5. The little things matter.

“Often my husband will say to me, ‘what do you want for a holiday or a birthday,’” Sarah Jessica told Parade. “And I tell him, ‘What I really want is a note.’ That is something I will have forever and it’s something I can pass on to my children.’ I think words of substance and words that really express feelings are invaluable.”

6. Sometimes, work gets in the way.

Most couples go on a honeymoon right after their wedding, but not these two. One day after they got married, SJP went to work on Broadway and Matthew started filming Godzilla, and they honeymooned in Ireland later on.