Do you know how to create an unshakeable love?

Our relationships are so important to the quality of our lives. Often times, however, we aren’t putting enough emphasis on developing strong and lasting bonds. So, the question is: can you unleash the kind of passion that will last you a lifetime? Today, we’re talking about how we can shift our perspective to change any relationship.

My special guest today is helping change relationships alongside her business partner and husband. Stacey Martino is the Co-Founder of RelationshipDevelopment.org and RelationshipU. She is an educator and “Divorce Preventionist.” Through strategic coaching, online programs, packed live events, and books, Stacey and her husband Paul help transform love relationships. Their innovative focus on the power of the individual in any relationship has helped empower tens of thousands of people, and Stacey wants to do that for you too!

In this episode, you’ll learn more about the Martinos’ unique methodology and the relationship education “that no one ever teaches us!” You’ll also learn why Stacey and Paul don’t do “couples work” (because they believe couples work doesn’t work…), and why they seek to empower just ONE partner to transform the WHOLE relationship.

In This Episode

Stacey’s Story

Equal But Different, Men and Women

Trust and Fear

Relationship Education

Action and Transformation

Quotes in This Episode

“Paul was the one who came to me and said, ‘Look, I cannot watch another family crumble when they have kids in that house. If they had just been blessed to learn what we were fortunate to learn, maybe that wouldn’t have had to end.’” —Stacey Martino

“It’s kind of ridiculous that we’ve all ended up in this situation that we’re in where we’ve kind of been handed from generations past these broken relationships with patterns of relationship that just literally don’t work anymore, regardless of how hard we try.” —Stacey Martino

“Really we’re basically different species. And we’re equal, of course, but the same, oh, no, no, no. We don’t even apply the same meanings to the same vocabulary words.” —Stacey Martino

“We come from generations past where demand relationship tactics were really all that was used and all that was seen. One person’s unhappy and they ask the other people to change. One person is unhappy and they ask the other person to compromise.” —Stacey Martino

“People just have a false definition of what forgiveness really is. What they’re trying to express is, I’m not going to continue bringing this up with that person, I’m going to just hold it on within myself, until it either eats me alive or I explode. And that’s what people say when they say they won’t forget.” —Stacey Martino

“But the truth is and the beautiful thing is that it only ever takes one person to transform any relationship […] One person can change the situation at any moment. We’ve just never been given the tools to do it before.” —Stacey Martino