men dont understand

My bd won't let me sleep he says I sleep to much which I don't and when I get cranky and mean when he bugs me all through the day he wants to complain about my attitude he really gets on my nerves I love him but man through this pregnancy I'm really thinking we should take a break he supports but at the same time it seems as if he doesn't get it I'm carrying our baby leave me alone if I want to sleep let me sleep I'm tired and miserable give me a break

My bd won't let me sleep he says I sleep to much which I don't and when I get cranky and mean when he bugs me all through the day he wants to complain about my attitude he really gets on my nerves I love him but man through this pregnancy I'm really thinking we should take a break he supports but at the same time it seems as if he doesn't get it I'm carrying our baby leave me alone if I want to sleep let me sleep I'm tired and miserable give me a break

Don't sleep through your pregnancy! It's the most special time of your life- you should spend as much time with your husband and family and friends and be happy! If you are exhausted, you should tell the doctor at your next visit so he or she can check you for thyroid problems or low iron- both very common in pregnancy and make you feel wiped out. I found with my pregnancies, the more I sat around, the more tired I felt. Try to get out and do stuff. Enjoy this time- it goes by fast and you will miss it.And you are right- men really don't get it. I don't have any advice on how to help your SO understand- I gave up on my husband after the first baby and just acted like it was business as usual with the other two. Funny thing was, the more I pretended like I felt normal, the more I actually did. Kind of fake it till you make it.

Don't sleep through your pregnancy! It's the most special time of your life- you should spend as much time with your husband and family and friends and be happy! If you are exhausted, you should tell the doctor at your next visit so he or she can check you for thyroid problems or low iron- both very common in pregnancy and make you feel wiped out. I found with my pregnancies, the more I sat around, the more tired I felt. Try to get out and do stuff. Enjoy this time- it goes by fast and you will miss it.And you are right- men really don't get it. I don't have any advice on how to help your SO understand- I gave up on my husband after the first baby and just acted like it was business as usual with the other two. Funny thing was, the more I pretended like I felt normal, the more I actually did. Kind of fake it till you make it.

I agree w/ the previous post, enjoy the growing life inside you!! If you are really that sad & miserable that's something you need to talk to your doctor about. Pregnancy during the first trimester makes me tired too, but you have to keep moving, your LO needs you to be active, positive & healthy. Take a short walk to get some fresh air, it will rejuvenate you immediately.

I agree w/ the previous post, enjoy the growing life inside you!! If you are really that sad & miserable that's something you need to talk to your doctor about. Pregnancy during the first trimester makes me tired too, but you have to keep moving, your LO needs you to be active, positive & healthy. Take a short walk to get some fresh air, it will rejuvenate you immediately.

I agree with previous posts, but I do think you should allow yourself a nap during the day if you need it. Yes its important to stay active, spend quality time with your SO and family...butttt this is the last time in a long time you will get to sleep in and nap when you want. My 9 month year old still wakes up 4 times a night, you just don't know when you will get your sleep back. A half hour or 45 minute nap isn't hurting anyone and if that's what you need to feel refreshed, go for it. If its become excessive I agree that you may want to talk to your doctor.

I agree with previous posts, but I do think you should allow yourself a nap during the day if you need it. Yes its important to stay active, spend quality time with your SO and family...butttt this is the last time in a long time you will get to sleep in and nap when you want. My 9 month year old still wakes up 4 times a night, you just don't know when you will get your sleep back. A half hour or 45 minute nap isn't hurting anyone and if that's what you need to feel refreshed, go for it. If its become excessive I agree that you may want to talk to your doctor.

I have to nap every afternoon else I am no good to anyone and would definitely feel bad and cranky if I didn't! I feel for you as my DH is very understanding but if he wasn't i'd be feeling pretty rough and mad with him for not understanding! Our doc says there is nothing wrong with me needing an afternoon nap - just to take a rest when needed.

I have to nap every afternoon else I am no good to anyone and would definitely feel bad and cranky if I didn't! I feel for you as my DH is very understanding but if he wasn't i'd be feeling pretty rough and mad with him for not understanding! Our doc says there is nothing wrong with me needing an afternoon nap - just to take a rest when needed.

Yeah i understand I don't sleep the day away though I use to be up all the time hardly slept any so maybe he just can't get use to me actually getting some rest I don't sleep alot I sleep as much as I need to these days and now he just won't let me sleep to long he will wake me up at 8 or 9 in the morning telling me I'm sleeping my life away but we go to sleep after 12 midnight I just feel like he is being inconsiderate I'm still in my first trimester I just find my self getting tired of the way he's acting towards me

Yeah i understand I don't sleep the day away though I use to be up all the time hardly slept any so maybe he just can't get use to me actually getting some rest I don't sleep alot I sleep as much as I need to these days and now he just won't let me sleep to long he will wake me up at 8 or 9 in the morning telling me I'm sleeping my life away but we go to sleep after 12 midnight I just feel like he is being inconsiderate I'm still in my first trimester I just find my self getting tired of the way he's acting towards me

I stay in bed all the time. this pregnancy has not been beautiful. I'm 28 weeks!! I constantly ask when the beauty comes I think its the day I deliver. lol. Aw so I understand how u feel..my bf doesn't do that too me he just let's me sleep or tells me take a nap or take a nap with him. hey were together in the same place that counts as time together right? lol

I stay in bed all the time. this pregnancy has not been beautiful. I'm 28 weeks!! I constantly ask when the beauty comes I think its the day I deliver. lol. Aw so I understand how u feel..my bf doesn't do that too me he just let's me sleep or tells me take a nap or take a nap with him. hey were together in the same place that counts as time together right? lol

how old is he??? he sounds very immature. why dont u try showing him this website and the progress ur pregnancy is at and show him articles on how sleep is very important and most of all NORMAL!! men!!!!

how old is he??? he sounds very immature. why dont u try showing him this website and the progress ur pregnancy is at and show him articles on how sleep is very important and most of all NORMAL!! men!!!!

how old is he??? he sounds very immature. why dont u try showing him this website and the progress ur pregnancy is at and show him articles on how sleep is very important and most of all NORMAL!! men!!!!

how old is he??? he sounds very immature. why dont u try showing him this website and the progress ur pregnancy is at and show him articles on how sleep is very important and most of all NORMAL!! men!!!!

I have one of those at home...during my first trimester I always felt tired and he always gave me crap about sleeping too much!!! I'm now in my third trimester now and that worn out feeling is coming back...and god forbid I say my back hurts or I'm tired. I think it's like you said they don't like change...they don't like it when we're tied or sad or hurt...I think its because they don't know how to deal with it. You'll feel better soon enough and until then you just have to keep the peace as they say.

I have one of those at home...during my first trimester I always felt tired and he always gave me crap about sleeping too much!!! I'm now in my third trimester now and that worn out feeling is coming back...and god forbid I say my back hurts or I'm tired. I think it's like you said they don't like change...they don't like it when we're tied or sad or hurt...I think its because they don't know how to deal with it. You'll feel better soon enough and until then you just have to keep the peace as they say.

He's 21 and he has seen it he bugged me so much one day I just showed him and told him being tired happens I just want to pinch him lol everything he does irritate me especially snoring maybe because the man has to go through nothing and in some odd way kids tend to cling to dad more

He's 21 and he has seen it he bugged me so much one day I just showed him and told him being tired happens I just want to pinch him lol everything he does irritate me especially snoring maybe because the man has to go through nothing and in some odd way kids tend to cling to dad more

I slept the first 4 months of my pregnancy. I would sleep 8-10 hours at night then take a 2-3 nap in the afternoon. I would fall a sleep in my office. Sometimes I'ld wake up at work and have no idea how long I had been asleep. seconds,mins,or 1/2 an hour.I think a lot it was going from drinking a pot of coffee in the morning to zero. I recall DH telling me I needed to get off the sofa and try to do something.I said, " I am doing something; I'm growing a kidney". It became the running joke through my pregnancy. Don't worry the fatigue with soon be replaced with swollen ankles, constant trips to the ladies room and other lovely things. Tell you're SO he's in for a ride to be quiet and go get you some ice cream!!!

I slept the first 4 months of my pregnancy. I would sleep 8-10 hours at night then take a 2-3 nap in the afternoon. I would fall a sleep in my office. Sometimes I'ld wake up at work and have no idea how long I had been asleep. seconds,mins,or 1/2 an hour.I think a lot it was going from drinking a pot of coffee in the morning to zero. I recall DH telling me I needed to get off the sofa and try to do something.I said, " I am doing something; I'm growing a kidney". It became the running joke through my pregnancy. Don't worry the fatigue with soon be replaced with swollen ankles, constant trips to the ladies room and other lovely things. Tell you're SO he's in for a ride to be quiet and go get you some ice cream!!!

"men dont understand" No.. YOUR man doesn't understand. My stud was great through my whole pregnancy. I suggest going to bed earlier (say... 8pm? 9pm?) Then, when he wakes you at 8am or 9am you've had 12 or so hrs of sleep. Take 1 nap in the afternoon (1 to 2hrs)... And you should feel more awake. Also I agree with the majority of the pp's. If you LET yourself be tired and in bed all the time, you'll feel more tired than you are. Good luck! Hope your boyfriend starts to chill out.

"men dont understand" No.. YOUR man doesn't understand. My stud was great through my whole pregnancy. I suggest going to bed earlier (say... 8pm? 9pm?) Then, when he wakes you at 8am or 9am you've had 12 or so hrs of sleep. Take 1 nap in the afternoon (1 to 2hrs)... And you should feel more awake. Also I agree with the majority of the pp's. If you LET yourself be tired and in bed all the time, you'll feel more tired than you are. Good luck! Hope your boyfriend starts to chill out.

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From:
AnotherGreatRed

To: ashleyshana

Posted: Jan-12 04:47 PM (18 of 20)

My hubby started off not really getting it. But we trained taekwon-do (Korean martial art) together before i got pregnant, and because of that, I was able to explain my 1st trimester fatigue in a way he could relate to: that it was like how wiped we were after our 3-day training camp last year, except without the muscle pain :) That's how tired I was every day of the first trimester. He got it after I said that, and has been an amazing support. Don't underestimate how much sleep and/or rest you need at this stage: you're putting together a new human, *and* the placenta, the life support system for your little one, extra blood etc. It requires lots of energy. Your bd needs to inform himself on what you're experiencing. You take as much rest as you need! GL!

My hubby started off not really getting it. But we trained taekwon-do (Korean martial art) together before i got pregnant, and because of that, I was able to explain my 1st trimester fatigue in a way he could relate to: that it was like how wiped we were after our 3-day training camp last year, except without the muscle pain :) That's how tired I was every day of the first trimester. He got it after I said that, and has been an amazing support. Don't underestimate how much sleep and/or rest you need at this stage: you're putting together a new human, *and* the placenta, the life support system for your little one, extra blood etc. It requires lots of energy. Your bd needs to inform himself on what you're experiencing. You take as much rest as you need! GL!

Def go to bed earlier! I am right with you, have been absolutely exhausted for all of first and now my third trimesters. But I have come to learn that my body does well if I get 12 hrs sleep each night... Not even kidding lol. So I try to go to bed around 9 every night, even tho im a night owl usually and feel like im missing out sometimes. Its worth it. So if he's getting you up at 8-9, try going to bed around 10 instead of 12 and see how it helps. I mean, he cant complain about that right?! Its night time man,youre supposed to be asleep lol!

Def go to bed earlier! I am right with you, have been absolutely exhausted for all of first and now my third trimesters. But I have come to learn that my body does well if I get 12 hrs sleep each night... Not even kidding lol. So I try to go to bed around 9 every night, even tho im a night owl usually and feel like im missing out sometimes. Its worth it. So if he's getting you up at 8-9, try going to bed around 10 instead of 12 and see how it helps. I mean, he cant complain about that right?! Its night time man,youre supposed to be asleep lol!

I have a kinda simular story . My bf and I already have a baby on top of that im pregnant . All I want to do is sleep but he hangs out with his brothers all day so I barely get any rest because im home with the baby all day , I dont want to be with him anymore but I have nowhere to go :(

I have a kinda simular story . My bf and I already have a baby on top of that im pregnant . All I want to do is sleep but he hangs out with his brothers all day so I barely get any rest because im home with the baby all day , I dont want to be with him anymore but I have nowhere to go :(

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