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Wedding Decisions You Need To Make As A Couple*

As anyone obsessed with F.R.I.E.N.D.S. will know, most girls obsess over their big day from the moment they discover fairy tales. Just look at Monica’s wedding book, which doesn’t just have her dream wedding written down in great detail, it also has contingency plans should her future fiance not be 'Plan A' wealthy. However, the reality of getting married is somewhat different. Sure, you want your dream wedding to become a reality, but probably not at the expense of your marriage, which is why you need to accept that there are certain decisions that both you and him need to make together, as a team.

In order for you to make it through the whole wedding planning process without any awkward silences, little fall-outs, major blowouts or sticky situations in general, we’ve come up with a list of the wedding decisions you absolutely need to consult one another about before signing on any dotted lines.

1. Your Wedding Rings

This is the visual reminder of everything; your love story, the day he proposed, the day you stood at the altar and said your vows, the times it was just the two of you against the world, the times you stuck together and toughed it out and the times you smiled all day and all night in each other’s arms, and you’ll wear it everyday from now until forever. So decide on what you want together. Decide whether you like the idea of trilogy diamond rings more than a zirconium band with a different kind of gemstone. Decide whether you want them engraved or not, and what you would like them engraved with. There are so many nuances that need discussing, so don’t do it alone.

2. Your First Dance

Thanks to the cocktail of euphoria, adrenaline and champagne, there are going to be huge chunks of your wedding day that you absolutely won’t remember. However, the song you first dance to is not going to be one of those moments. This is the song you’ll share a moment with in front of all your loved ones, wrapped up in each other’s arms. Basically, it is a pretty big deal, which is why you need to come up with your song together. If you already have a song, then this is easy. It could be the song that was playing when you first met, or when you first said the three little words to one another. If, however, you don’t have a song, then the best way to approach the selection process is to individually write down songs and then compare them. Hopefully it will then just be a matter of choosing from the ones that overlap.

3. Your Venue

This is one of the most important decisions you can ever make, which is partly because it’s going to be the most expensive but mainly because it’s going to be the backdrop to your big day. It is going to be that place that sets the tone and creates the vibe, and it’s going to be a huge part of every photo that gets taken. What’s more, it will also play a big role in creating the atmosphere or theme you want. You might want to have your reception in your garden pavilion in an enchanted garden, or you might want to use an industrial mill, or maybe you have your eye on a nice castle or manor house or a marquee in your parent’s garden.