BEWELL---- I hope you have a wonderful day!! If he does happen to show up, seriously.... Do what makes YOU feel at ease... Just remember, answering his questions is NOT the same as "engaging" in conversation. Some men do need more of a HINT than others...

BEWARE however, if you see a scene like this! I hear librarians are losing control all around the nation!!

OMG!! What a flippin RIOT to wake up to!!! I am laughing soooo hard!!

LULU has the answer!! RUN HIM OVER!!! You can talk to him while you're in the ambulance with him!!

I can't stop laughing! "Library Guy" has now turned into the best blog on here!

Now BEWELL.... You can program MM on your phone ya know... and then you can give us step by step DETAILED ACTION.... (umm....delayed action)

I can see it now...

Post 1) Survived parking lot... NO OLD LADIES TODAY!!!!

Post 2) Bathroom to double-check lipstick and add MORE spray!! (This way, if he doesn't notice me.... THE SCENT ALONE WILL DEF KNOCK HIM OUT!)

BEWELL---- I hope you have a wonderful day!! If he does happen to show up, seriously.... Do what makes YOU feel at ease... Just remember, answering his questions is NOT the same as "engaging" in conversation. Some men do need more of a HINT than others...

BEWARE however, if you see a scene like this! I hear librarians are losing control all around the nation!!

Thanks everyone for helping me with my second chance at getting a date with the totally handsome library guy who was almost run over with me by the 90 year old crazy lady on the parking lot last Tuesday.

Tomorrow--Tuesday, February 19th at 2:00pm Central time-- I will be at the library all dolled up in my short skirt, sweater and black stilletos with 4" heels. I'll be wearing my brightest red lipstick, hair curled and all blown out, and I'll be in a cloud of Eternity perfume so he'll remember my scent.

I'll bring my armload of movies to return of which I'm going to clumsily drop them on the floor near him so he'll come over to help me pick them up, and then I'll make my move...

With a script of questions in hand (so I don't forget in the middle of a senior moment) I'll ask my totally handsome library guy if he's married or in a relationship, and tell him I want to go for coffee up the street at Panera's and I promise to say "Yes" after he asks me for the date.

I will be carrying my deep sea fishing rod to hook him and reel him in. I'll be wearing shin guards in case he kicks me back after I kick him in the shins. I'll have an ambulance and EMTs on hand in case he doesn't recover after I've both kicked and stilletoed him into asking me out, and gassed him with all the perfume.

Now I hope he shows up for his second chance!!!!

Did I get everything right? Am I missing anything? Any last minute suggestions?

Love you all sooooo much......;-DDDD............BeWell

Thanks everyone for helping me with my second chance at getting a date with the totally handsome library guy who was almost run over with me by the 90 year old crazy lady on the parking lot last Tuesday.

Tomorrow--Tuesday, February 19th at 2:00pm Central time-- I will be at the library all dolled up in my short skirt, sweater and black stilletos with 4" heels. I'll be wearing my brightest red lipstick, hair curled and all blown out, and I'll be in a cloud of Eternity perfume so he'll remember my scent.

I'll bring my armload of movies to return of which I'm going to clumsily drop them on the floor near him so he'll come over to help me pick them up, and then I'll make my move...

With a script of questions in hand (so I don't forget in the middle of a senior moment) I'll ask my totally handsome library guy if he's married or in a relationship, and tell him I want to go for coffee up the street at Panera's and I promise to say "Yes" after he asks me for the date.

I will be carrying my deep sea fishing rod to hook him and reel him in. I'll be wearing shin guards in case he kicks me back after I kick him in the shins. I'll have an ambulance and EMTs on hand in case he doesn't recover after I've both kicked and stilletoed him into asking me out, and gassed him with all the perfume.

Now I hope he shows up for his second chance!!!!

Did I get everything right? Am I missing anything? Any last minute suggestions?

Ah..... I wasn't planning on it, but I guess I'll get out my black stilletos with 4" heels for the occasion. Which means a change in wardrobe. Can't wear stilletos without a short skirt and a tight sweater, and my hottest, reddist lipstick too............ ;-D.........BeWell

Hoping,

Ah..... I wasn't planning on it, but I guess I'll get out my black stilletos with 4" heels for the occasion. Which means a change in wardrobe. Can't wear stilletos without a short skirt and a tight sweater, and my hottest, reddist lipstick too............ ;-D.........BeWell

You have me laughing so hard! I shall do what's comfortable for me, and yet still try to let the library guy do the asking after I sort of ask him. ;-D And I'll be sure to wear my best perfume too!........................ BeWell ......;-D

Quoting Windrider735:

BeWell...

Don't you believe that silly Princess for one minute...she never has her facts right! I did not ram my shopping cart into his car. I gently bumped the back of his knees so he fell backward into my cart...slipped him into the back of my truck...tightened down the topper, and offered him a ride home. Is it my fault I got lost 50 miles from town and he still had an active cell phone on his person? (Slight oversight on my part. Note to self for the future...throw the damn phone). Anyhow, after the misunderstanding about kidnapping was straightened out...he bolted like a rabbit with a hound on his tail. Maybe in the future I should let them ride up front?

You just do what you're comfortable doing, but I think the suggestions given here by the men are great advice. There's no harm in letting someone know you're interested in them. Our Princess likes the men to do the hunting, but I think she forgets if the woman doesn't lay down a scent, that dog won't hunt. (Easy, guys...just an expression...grin) Sometimes men, like women, are shy about letting the other know there's interest. If there was a strong attraction, I'd rather let the guy know and risk being disappointed than wonder what might have been.

Quoting Windrider735:

BeWell...

Don't you believe that silly Princess for one minute...she never has her facts right! I did not ram my shopping cart into his car. I gently bumped the back of his knees so he fell backward into my cart...slipped him into the back of my truck...tightened down the topper, and offered him a ride home. Is it my fault I got lost 50 miles from town and he still had an active cell phone on his person? (Slight oversight on my part. Note to self for the future...throw the damn phone). Anyhow, after the misunderstanding about kidnapping was straightened out...he bolted like a rabbit with a hound on his tail. Maybe in the future I should let them ride up front?

You just do what you're comfortable doing, but I think the suggestions given here by the men are great advice. There's no harm in letting someone know you're interested in them. Our Princess likes the men to do the hunting, but I think she forgets if the woman doesn't lay down a scent, that dog won't hunt. (Easy, guys...just an expression...grin) Sometimes men, like women, are shy about letting the other know there's interest. If there was a strong attraction, I'd rather let the guy know and risk being disappointed than wonder what might have been.

Windrider,

You have me laughing so hard! I shall do what's comfortable for me, and yet still try to let the library guy do the asking after I sort of ask him. ;-D And I'll be sure to wear my best perfume too!........................ BeWell ......;-D

I guess it would be wise to just come out and ask him first if he's in a relationship or marriage. Thanks for your pointers about being considerate and polite too............. BeWell

Quoting Dakota35:

BeWell,

First, I would make some small talk to find out if he's married or in a serious relationship. Then go into your question for him. He may ask you without you having to ask him. Times are different, I see no problem with a woman asking a man out. I'd rather it be the other way, but it's how it is. As for me, I just walk up to a woman, that I'm interested in, and ask her out. Most of the time she says yes, then if she's not serious she'll avoid me...which is really immature on her part. Then I realize that she is immature and I wouldn't want her anyway. For any woman that is reading this that avoids a guy after accepting a date...Just tell the guy that you're not interested. Don't say yes and then avoid him, that's so lame. He'll respect you much more if you shoot straight with him and I'm sure if he's not like 15 y.o. you will not damage is ego. The sun doesn't rise or set with anyone in this world so it's not a big deal. Everyone gets rejected once in awhile, we shouldn't take it personal.

Quoting Dakota35:

BeWell,

First, I would make some small talk to find out if he's married or in a serious relationship. Then go into your question for him. He may ask you without you having to ask him. Times are different, I see no problem with a woman asking a man out. I'd rather it be the other way, but it's how it is. As for me, I just walk up to a woman, that I'm interested in, and ask her out. Most of the time she says yes, then if she's not serious she'll avoid me...which is really immature on her part. Then I realize that she is immature and I wouldn't want her anyway. For any woman that is reading this that avoids a guy after accepting a date...Just tell the guy that you're not interested. Don't say yes and then avoid him, that's so lame. He'll respect you much more if you shoot straight with him and I'm sure if he's not like 15 y.o. you will not damage is ego. The sun doesn't rise or set with anyone in this world so it's not a big deal. Everyone gets rejected once in awhile, we shouldn't take it personal.

Thanks Dakota,

I guess it would be wise to just come out and ask him first if he's in a relationship or marriage. Thanks for your pointers about being considerate and polite too............. BeWell

I love your advice! I'll work in the kick in the shins after I'm both direct and indirect with my coffee date suggestion. Maybe I should call the paramedics ahead of time and let them know what's going to happen. In case my library guy doesn't recover immediately they will be there to revive him............. ;-D..... BeWell

Quoting rmac22:

Hi BeWell,

I think I like a direct approach. Ask him to go for coffee at Panera's with you. Otherwise, if you want the other approach then say, "I would love to for coffee at Panera's with you, if you ask me of course."

Actually, I don't know if that is better. You have to be comfortable saying whatever you say.

The whole thing is awkward.Kick him in the shins and yell, "ASK ME!"When he recovers he might.

RMac

Quoting rmac22:

Hi BeWell,

I think I like a direct approach. Ask him to go for coffee at Panera's with you. Otherwise, if you want the other approach then say, "I would love to for coffee at Panera's with you, if you ask me of course."

Actually, I don't know if that is better. You have to be comfortable saying whatever you say.

The whole thing is awkward.Kick him in the shins and yell, "ASK ME!"When he recovers he might.

RMac

Dear rMac,

I love your advice! I'll work in the kick in the shins after I'm both direct and indirect with my coffee date suggestion. Maybe I should call the paramedics ahead of time and let them know what's going to happen. In case my library guy doesn't recover immediately they will be there to revive him............. ;-D..... BeWell

Don't you believe that silly Princess for one minute...she never has her facts right! I did not ram my shopping cart into his car. I gently bumped the back of his knees so he fell backward into my cart...slipped him into the back of my truck...tightened down the topper, and offered him a ride home. Is it my fault I got lost 50 miles from town and he still had an active cell phone on his person? (Slight oversight on my part. Note to self for the future...throw the damn phone). Anyhow, after the misunderstanding about kidnapping was straightened out...he bolted like a rabbit with a hound on his tail. Maybe in the future I should let them ride up front?

You just do what you're comfortable doing, but I think the suggestions given here by the men are great advice. There's no harm in letting someone know you're interested in them. Our Princess likes the men to do the hunting, but I think she forgets if the woman doesn't lay down a scent, that dog won't hunt. (Easy, guys...just an expression...grin) Sometimes men, like women, are shy about letting the other know there's interest. If there was a strong attraction, I'd rather let the guy know and risk being disappointed than wonder what might have been.

GIRL!! You crack me up! HaHaha!!

I only agree on ONE POINT...

We should all do what makes us feel comfortable! For me, I'd rather "lay the scent!"

I prefer more aggressive men. Just the way I roll.... "Shy" or "timid" men, or men that are unsure of themselves are not strong enough personalitites to handle mine. I hear I'm a real "pistol," or "fire-cracker" and I know I need a strong, yet calming hand for me... I just know what works....... FOR ME... Doesn't mean it will work for everyone however. Most women are far more docile than I am.

When a man is "too shy" or unsure to ask a woman out or take the lead, it's a turn off for me. Too passive.. ICK! The last guy I dated semi-seriously wrote me ...... OVER ...... AND OVER...... AND OVER...... I finally told him I didn't think I would be attracted to him since he had a short beard. (WELL I WASN'T TRYING TO BE MEAN,,, BUT HE WOULDN'T LEAVE ME ALONE!!) He STILL remained persistant!! I asked him later, (we are great friends now, though neither is in the position to commit) ... I asked him, "WHY did you keep writing.. even AFTER I said "Sorry, I don't sense a connection."

He said, matter of factly, "I know what I want and I go for it. I always get what I want."

THAT ATTITUDE IS JUST A "REEL" TURN ON FOR ME!! LOL

There is a fine line between CONFIDENCE... and ARROGANCE... I PREFER CONFIDENT MEN!! ;)

Now Marvelous MTSUNNY---

The Black Marlin actually did NOT sink the boat... Marlins do NOT sink boats people... Just an FYI... Pictures are not always as they appear! What happened was the captain of the vessel was "backing down" on the Marlin.. A big wave came, he lost balance and hit the stern throttle for FULL REVERSE! HA! Now anyone who has ever Marlin fished, or fished "the big ones" knows, it is "TIRING" battling the fish!! But that's exactly WHY I like playing the "big game fish" routine..

By the time the guy lands me, he's so exhausted.....

it's easy for me to pin him with my stiletto! Heeheehee~~~ ;)

Now admit it WINDY!! YOU ARE NO LONGER ALLOWED AT THE SUPERMARKET!! XO

NOTE TO BEWELL!!

TOMORROW IS TUESDAY!!!!! ;)

Quoting Windrider735:

BeWell...

Don't you believe that silly Princess for one minute...she never has her facts right! I did not ram my shopping cart into his car. I gently bumped the back of his knees so he fell backward into my cart...slipped him into the back of my truck...tightened down the topper, and offered him a ride home. Is it my fault I got lost 50 miles from town and he still had an active cell phone on his person? (Slight oversight on my part. Note to self for the future...throw the damn phone). Anyhow, after the misunderstanding about kidnapping was straightened out...he bolted like a rabbit with a hound on his tail. Maybe in the future I should let them ride up front?

You just do what you're comfortable doing, but I think the suggestions given here by the men are great advice. There's no harm in letting someone know you're interested in them. Our Princess likes the men to do the hunting, but I think she forgets if the woman doesn't lay down a scent, that dog won't hunt. (Easy, guys...just an expression...grin) Sometimes men, like women, are shy about letting the other know there's interest. If there was a strong attraction, I'd rather let the guy know and risk being disappointed than wonder what might have been.

GIRL!! You crack me up! HaHaha!!

I only agree on ONE POINT...

We should all do what makes us feel comfortable! For me, I'd rather "lay the scent!"

I prefer more aggressive men. Just the way I roll.... "Shy" or "timid" men, or men that are unsure of themselves are not strong enough personalitites to handle mine. I hear I'm a real "pistol," or "fire-cracker" and I know I need a strong, yet calming hand for me... I just know what works....... FOR ME... Doesn't mean it will work for everyone however. Most women are far more docile than I am.

When a man is "too shy" or unsure to ask a woman out or take the lead, it's a turn off for me. Too passive.. ICK! The last guy I dated semi-seriously wrote me ...... OVER ...... AND OVER...... AND OVER...... I finally told him I didn't think I would be attracted to him since he had a short beard. (WELL I WASN'T TRYING TO BE MEAN,,, BUT HE WOULDN'T LEAVE ME ALONE!!) He STILL remained persistant!! I asked him later, (we are great friends now, though neither is in the position to commit) ... I asked him, "WHY did you keep writing.. even AFTER I said "Sorry, I don't sense a connection."

He said, matter of factly, "I know what I want and I go for it. I always get what I want."

THAT ATTITUDE IS JUST A "REEL" TURN ON FOR ME!! LOL

There is a fine line between CONFIDENCE... and ARROGANCE... I PREFER CONFIDENT MEN!! ;)

Now Marvelous MTSUNNY---

The Black Marlin actually did NOT sink the boat... Marlins do NOT sink boats people... Just an FYI... Pictures are not always as they appear! What happened was the captain of the vessel was "backing down" on the Marlin.. A big wave came, he lost balance and hit the stern throttle for FULL REVERSE! HA! Now anyone who has ever Marlin fished, or fished "the big ones" knows, it is "TIRING" battling the fish!! But that's exactly WHY I like playing the "big game fish" routine..

By the time the guy lands me, he's so exhausted.....

it's easy for me to pin him with my stiletto! Heeheehee~~~ ;)

Now admit it WINDY!! YOU ARE NO LONGER ALLOWED AT THE SUPERMARKET!! XO

Well, back in the dim distant past, my sisters advised me, “When a girl asks you for a date, you will accept, you will be nice, and you will have a good time.”This was on an occasion where my younger sister advised me that one of her friends was going to ask me to take her to a party.My older sisters then gave me the above advice as I was contemplating not accepting.So I did, I was, and I did.Did not ask the girl out later. Should have, but that is another story.

We, the girl and I in the above story, were both in high school so I do not think I am out of line using the term “girl” rather than woman or lady.

RMac

Well, back in the dim distant past, my sisters advised me, “When a girl asks you for a date, you will accept, you will be nice, and you will have a good time.”This was on an occasion where my younger sister advised me that one of her friends was going to ask me to take her to a party.My older sisters then gave me the above advice as I was contemplating not accepting.So I did, I was, and I did.Did not ask the girl out later. Should have, but that is another story.

We, the girl and I in the above story, were both in high school so I do not think I am out of line using the term “girl” rather than woman or lady.

I'm going with RMACS "Shin Kicking" date!!! Then when he falls to his knees, stick your stiletto in him to pin him down!! LOL...

DAKOTA made an excellent point... MAKE SURE HE IS AVAILABLE!! .. WOOPS! ;)

As a woman, there is NO WAY IN "H-E DOUBLE HOCKEY STICKS" I would EVER ask a man out on a date! A woman has far too many ways to show a man she is interested in him than to be so forward and ask him out! If she can't figure it out, she doesn't deserve a date!! I mean seriously.... If you ask him out... ARE YOU PAYING? WELL, YOU BETTER!!! REGARDLESS OF HOW MUCH OF A GENTLEMAN HE IS!! Because ladies, we all know, 98% of men are going to offer to pay... even after a woman just put him on the spot!! Most men I know don't generally want to hurt a woman's feelings! My ex husband sat and ate lunch with a woman he said was at least 40 pounds heavier than her pictures! AND HE PAID AS WELL! Even when he felt she was FRAUDULENT, he STILL chose to be a gentleman!! Men are not bad people who like to hurt women!!

It isn't that difficult ladies... It works the same way it has since the beginning of time... BAT YOUR EYES, SMILE COYLY AND TALK SWEET. If you really want to put yourself out there, stand in his "personal space" so he can feel whether or not there is true magnetism between the two of you!!

Personally, I feel this is part of societies problem! We have Jr. High school GIRLS calling boys and chasing them around!! NO WONDER MEN ARE CONFUSED!! I taught my daughters if a guy is really interested in you, you had better wait for him to come to you! Otherwise you appear to be throwing yourself at him and then you are no different than all the other girls and will be dismissed in the "non girlfriend" arena!

Here's the deal for me...

Males all operate in the same realm, regardless of age!! They LOVE females!! They LOVE the attention! And they LOVE being fawned over!! But I have seen males go to GREAT LENGTHS to ask a woman out or get her attention. THAT'S WHAT THEY DO IF THEY ARE REALLY INTERESTED!! And for me, if they can't muster up the gonads to ask, I DON'T WANT THEM ANYWAY! I WANT A MAN WHO KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS AND GOES FOR IT! And with the prevalence of cheating, etc.. in society today... honey you better make darn sure a man is REALLY interested in you or you may quickly become a "booty call".... all because YOU pursued him.. You set the stage when you meet! Do you want that stage to be as YOU were the pursuer? Or the man found you so irresistible, of all the women he meets, HE selected you!!

An article in COSMO dealt with the same issue, only the woman saw it incorrectly. SHE thinks HE was wrong! *****BUZZER SOUNDS!!!! TRY AGAIN CHICK!!

Scene: Launch Party for IPHONE

SHE saw a man SHE was very attracted to at the party, so SHE APPROACHED HIM. (MISTAKE #1... Bat eyes, smile, walk to his area for some plausible reason.. but NEVER take the lead! IF he is interested and available, HE will come to you...)

They chat and he says he sells insurance. (No brainer... he can't be trusted! LOLOL... Just Kidding!!) She gives him her card and they email. (MISTAKE #2.... Wait for HIM to give you HIS number.. Then you can give him yours if you like.... I personally DO give a man my # after he gives me his, but I will never call.. HE must do the calling!)

They dated about a month.. (what is this, 3, maybe 4 dates?) 10, maybe 20 hours of time together???

Then, she slept with him, (MISTAKE #3)

He didn't call til 2 days later! SHE was SHOCKED! Ummm... REALLY? YOU approach a man, date him a few times and then sleep with him and are now SHOCKED he waited 2 days to call? She never returned his call.

KNOW WHAT HAPPENED HERE? ARE YOU READING THE SIGNS???

SHE was sooooo attracted to him, SHE became the aggressor from the start! Due to HER forwardness, SHE read his signals wrong, and slept with him long before he was ready for commitment. HE, I'm certain, due to HER forwardness, felt it was fine to "try and go all the way." SHE read it as more than it was!!!

THEN, 2 months pass, he texts her. Asks her if she wants to meet for drinks? Now here is what she says.. "Normally I don't write back to guys I've ditched, but I was bored, so I did." Ummm... Sweetheart, HE DITCHED YOU as he zipped up his pants that night!!! (Jeez.. this is almost as unbearable the idiocy of Ana in 50 Shades!) Then, HE tries to sell her insurance. SHE is appalled! (I guess she thought he was going to apologize and start over?)

No honey, (I smack her!!) When you throw yourself at a man, don't be surprised when he takes the bait. Then when you think you have him hooked, don't be surprised when he spits you back out!

Men prefer to fish for Marlin, Tuna, Grouper... and even little BASS... over bream or perch!!

WHY? Because men prefer a good fight!

That's what makes a woman worth it! ;)

I'm going with RMACS "Shin Kicking" date!!! Then when he falls to his knees, stick your stiletto in him to pin him down!! LOL...

DAKOTA made an excellent point... MAKE SURE HE IS AVAILABLE!! .. WOOPS! ;)

As a woman, there is NO WAY IN "H-E DOUBLE HOCKEY STICKS" I would EVER ask a man out on a date! A woman has far too many ways to show a man she is interested in him than to be so forward and ask him out! If she can't figure it out, she doesn't deserve a date!! I mean seriously.... If you ask him out... ARE YOU PAYING? WELL, YOU BETTER!!! REGARDLESS OF HOW MUCH OF A GENTLEMAN HE IS!! Because ladies, we all know, 98% of men are going to offer to pay... even after a woman just put him on the spot!! Most men I know don't generally want to hurt a woman's feelings! My ex husband sat and ate lunch with a woman he said was at least 40 pounds heavier than her pictures! AND HE PAID AS WELL! Even when he felt she was FRAUDULENT, he STILL chose to be a gentleman!! Men are not bad people who like to hurt women!!

It isn't that difficult ladies... It works the same way it has since the beginning of time... BAT YOUR EYES, SMILE COYLY AND TALK SWEET. If you really want to put yourself out there, stand in his "personal space" so he can feel whether or not there is true magnetism between the two of you!!

Personally, I feel this is part of societies problem! We have Jr. High school GIRLS calling boys and chasing them around!! NO WONDER MEN ARE CONFUSED!! I taught my daughters if a guy is really interested in you, you had better wait for him to come to you! Otherwise you appear to be throwing yourself at him and then you are no different than all the other girls and will be dismissed in the "non girlfriend" arena!

Here's the deal for me...

Males all operate in the same realm, regardless of age!! They LOVE females!! They LOVE the attention! And they LOVE being fawned over!! But I have seen males go to GREAT LENGTHS to ask a woman out or get her attention. THAT'S WHAT THEY DO IF THEY ARE REALLY INTERESTED!! And for me, if they can't muster up the gonads to ask, I DON'T WANT THEM ANYWAY! I WANT A MAN WHO KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS AND GOES FOR IT! And with the prevalence of cheating, etc.. in society today... honey you better make darn sure a man is REALLY interested in you or you may quickly become a "booty call".... all because YOU pursued him.. You set the stage when you meet! Do you want that stage to be as YOU were the pursuer? Or the man found you so irresistible, of all the women he meets, HE selected you!!

An article in COSMO dealt with the same issue, only the woman saw it incorrectly. SHE thinks HE was wrong! *****BUZZER SOUNDS!!!! TRY AGAIN CHICK!!

Scene: Launch Party for IPHONE

SHE saw a man SHE was very attracted to at the party, so SHE APPROACHED HIM. (MISTAKE #1... Bat eyes, smile, walk to his area for some plausible reason.. but NEVER take the lead! IF he is interested and available, HE will come to you...)

They chat and he says he sells insurance. (No brainer... he can't be trusted! LOLOL... Just Kidding!!) She gives him her card and they email. (MISTAKE #2.... Wait for HIM to give you HIS number.. Then you can give him yours if you like.... I personally DO give a man my # after he gives me his, but I will never call.. HE must do the calling!)

They dated about a month.. (what is this, 3, maybe 4 dates?) 10, maybe 20 hours of time together???

Then, she slept with him, (MISTAKE #3)

He didn't call til 2 days later! SHE was SHOCKED! Ummm... REALLY? YOU approach a man, date him a few times and then sleep with him and are now SHOCKED he waited 2 days to call? She never returned his call.

KNOW WHAT HAPPENED HERE? ARE YOU READING THE SIGNS???

SHE was sooooo attracted to him, SHE became the aggressor from the start! Due to HER forwardness, SHE read his signals wrong, and slept with him long before he was ready for commitment. HE, I'm certain, due to HER forwardness, felt it was fine to "try and go all the way." SHE read it as more than it was!!!

THEN, 2 months pass, he texts her. Asks her if she wants to meet for drinks? Now here is what she says.. "Normally I don't write back to guys I've ditched, but I was bored, so I did." Ummm... Sweetheart, HE DITCHED YOU as he zipped up his pants that night!!! (Jeez.. this is almost as unbearable the idiocy of Ana in 50 Shades!) Then, HE tries to sell her insurance. SHE is appalled! (I guess she thought he was going to apologize and start over?)

No honey, (I smack her!!) When you throw yourself at a man, don't be surprised when he takes the bait. Then when you think you have him hooked, don't be surprised when he spits you back out!

Men prefer to fish for Marlin, Tuna, Grouper... and even little BASS... over bream or perch!!

Don't you believe that silly Princess for one minute...she never has her facts right! I did not ram my shopping cart into his car. I gently bumped the back of his knees so he fell backward into my cart...slipped him into the back of my truck...tightened down the topper, and offered him a ride home. Is it my fault I got lost 50 miles from town and he still had an active cell phone on his person? (Slight oversight on my part. Note to self for the future...throw the damn phone). Anyhow, after the misunderstanding about kidnapping was straightened out...he bolted like a rabbit with a hound on his tail. Maybe in the future I should let them ride up front?

You just do what you're comfortable doing, but I think the suggestions given here by the men are great advice. There's no harm in letting someone know you're interested in them. Our Princess likes the men to do the hunting, but I think she forgets if the woman doesn't lay down a scent, that dog won't hunt. (Easy, guys...just an expression...grin) Sometimes men, like women, are shy about letting the other know there's interest. If there was a strong attraction, I'd rather let the guy know and risk being disappointed than wonder what might have been.

BeWell...

Don't you believe that silly Princess for one minute...she never has her facts right! I did not ram my shopping cart into his car. I gently bumped the back of his knees so he fell backward into my cart...slipped him into the back of my truck...tightened down the topper, and offered him a ride home. Is it my fault I got lost 50 miles from town and he still had an active cell phone on his person? (Slight oversight on my part. Note to self for the future...throw the damn phone). Anyhow, after the misunderstanding about kidnapping was straightened out...he bolted like a rabbit with a hound on his tail. Maybe in the future I should let them ride up front?

You just do what you're comfortable doing, but I think the suggestions given here by the men are great advice. There's no harm in letting someone know you're interested in them. Our Princess likes the men to do the hunting, but I think she forgets if the woman doesn't lay down a scent, that dog won't hunt. (Easy, guys...just an expression...grin) Sometimes men, like women, are shy about letting the other know there's interest. If there was a strong attraction, I'd rather let the guy know and risk being disappointed than wonder what might have been.

First, I would make some small talk to find out if he's married or in a serious relationship. Then go into your question for him. He may ask you without you having to ask him. Times are different, I see no problem with a woman asking a man out. I'd rather it be the other way, but it's how it is. As for me, I just walk up to a woman, that I'm interested in, and ask her out. Most of the time she says yes, then if she's not serious she'll avoid me...which is really immature on her part. Then I realize that she is immature and I wouldn't want her anyway. For any woman that is reading this that avoids a guy after accepting a date...Just tell the guy that you're not interested. Don't say yes and then avoid him, that's so lame. He'll respect you much more if you shoot straight with him and I'm sure if he's not like 15 y.o. you will not damage is ego. The sun doesn't rise or set with anyone in this world so it's not a big deal. Everyone gets rejected once in awhile, we shouldn't take it personal.

Quoting BeWell:

Hi Brew444,

Thank you for helping, and I appreciate your input. I have an idea and I'd like your opinion as a man.

If my library guy shows up Tuesday, what if I say to him something like, "If you were to ask me to go to Panera's for coffee I would say YES!". That way he would know I am interested, and it allows him dignity in the act of asking me out for a coffee date. (Panera's is the closest place for coffee nearest the library.)

Do you, or anyone reading this, think this might be a good approach?........... BeWell

Quoting BeWell:

Hi Brew444,

Thank you for helping, and I appreciate your input. I have an idea and I'd like your opinion as a man.

If my library guy shows up Tuesday, what if I say to him something like, "If you were to ask me to go to Panera's for coffee I would say YES!". That way he would know I am interested, and it allows him dignity in the act of asking me out for a coffee date. (Panera's is the closest place for coffee nearest the library.)

Do you, or anyone reading this, think this might be a good approach?........... BeWell

BeWell,

First, I would make some small talk to find out if he's married or in a serious relationship. Then go into your question for him. He may ask you without you having to ask him. Times are different, I see no problem with a woman asking a man out. I'd rather it be the other way, but it's how it is. As for me, I just walk up to a woman, that I'm interested in, and ask her out. Most of the time she says yes, then if she's not serious she'll avoid me...which is really immature on her part. Then I realize that she is immature and I wouldn't want her anyway. For any woman that is reading this that avoids a guy after accepting a date...Just tell the guy that you're not interested. Don't say yes and then avoid him, that's so lame. He'll respect you much more if you shoot straight with him and I'm sure if he's not like 15 y.o. you will not damage is ego. The sun doesn't rise or set with anyone in this world so it's not a big deal. Everyone gets rejected once in awhile, we shouldn't take it personal.

I think I like a direct approach. Ask him to go for coffee at Panera's with you. Otherwise, if you want the other approach then say, "I would love to for coffee at Panera's with you, if you ask me of course."

Actually, I don't know if that is better. You have to be comfortable saying whatever you say.

The whole thing is awkward.Kick him in the shins and yell, "ASK ME!"When he recovers he might.

RMac

Quoting BeWell:

Hi Brew444,

Thank you for helping, and I appreciate your input. I have an idea and I'd like your opinion as a man.

If my library guy shows up Tuesday, what if I say to him something like, "If you were to ask me to go to Panera's for coffee I would say YES!". That way he would know I am interested, and it allows him dignity in the act of asking me out for a coffee date. (Panera's is the closest place for coffee nearest the library.)

Do you, or anyone reading this, think this might be a good approach?........... BeWell

Quoting BeWell:

Hi Brew444,

Thank you for helping, and I appreciate your input. I have an idea and I'd like your opinion as a man.

If my library guy shows up Tuesday, what if I say to him something like, "If you were to ask me to go to Panera's for coffee I would say YES!". That way he would know I am interested, and it allows him dignity in the act of asking me out for a coffee date. (Panera's is the closest place for coffee nearest the library.)

Do you, or anyone reading this, think this might be a good approach?........... BeWell

Hi BeWell,

I think I like a direct approach. Ask him to go for coffee at Panera's with you. Otherwise, if you want the other approach then say, "I would love to for coffee at Panera's with you, if you ask me of course."

Actually, I don't know if that is better. You have to be comfortable saying whatever you say.

The whole thing is awkward.Kick him in the shins and yell, "ASK ME!"When he recovers he might.

Thank you for helping, and I appreciate your input. I have an idea and I'd like your opinion as a man.

If my library guy shows up Tuesday, what if I say to him something like, "If you were to ask me to go to Panera's for coffee I would say YES!". That way he would know I am interested, and it allows him dignity in the act of asking me out for a coffee date. (Panera's is the closest place for coffee nearest the library.)

Do you, or anyone reading this, think this might be a good approach?........... BeWell

Quoting brew444:

You should have ask him out, some guys are friendly and nice but just feel uneasy about asking a woman out. I speak from experience, being frinedly and talking is easy but to ask a woman out she would have to make it perfectly clear that she was interested. Hope you see hm again and get a second chance.

Quoting brew444:

You should have ask him out, some guys are friendly and nice but just feel uneasy about asking a woman out. I speak from experience, being frinedly and talking is easy but to ask a woman out she would have to make it perfectly clear that she was interested. Hope you see hm again and get a second chance.

Hi Brew444,

Thank you for helping, and I appreciate your input. I have an idea and I'd like your opinion as a man.

If my library guy shows up Tuesday, what if I say to him something like, "If you were to ask me to go to Panera's for coffee I would say YES!". That way he would know I am interested, and it allows him dignity in the act of asking me out for a coffee date. (Panera's is the closest place for coffee nearest the library.)

Do you, or anyone reading this, think this might be a good approach?........... BeWell

You should have ask him out, some guys are friendly and nice but just feel uneasy about asking a woman out. I speak from experience, being frinedly and talking is easy but to ask a woman out she would have to make it perfectly clear that she was interested. Hope you see hm again and get a second chance.

You should have ask him out, some guys are friendly and nice but just feel uneasy about asking a woman out. I speak from experience, being frinedly and talking is easy but to ask a woman out she would have to make it perfectly clear that she was interested. Hope you see hm again and get a second chance.

Just out of curiosity, why didn't you ask the librarian for his name and see if s/he knew if he was married? If it were me, I'd go back to the library and read there several times a week until he shows up again. Then just grab a pile of books, hold your head down and run into him. You can ask him out for a cup of coffee to repay him for helping you gather up the spilled books. Would he see through that? Of course, but if he had a sense of humor he'd enjoy the fact you made that much of an effort to meet him...or you could just go over and ask him if he had to 'dodge the old lady again'.

'Course, Hope will disagree with me. She doesn't believe in making the first move. First moves have been some of the most entertaining times of my life. I'm not talking pushy here...just flirty, teasing fun! Some of the best friends I have in my life were met this way. It doesn't mean they aren't the tale-charge type of men...just that they appreciate a woman with a sense of humor who would go to that length to get to know them. A person can never have too many friends, and it doesn't always involve wanting to get to know someone as a potential mate, but rather just someone you'd like to get to know as another human being. If something should develop on down the line...fine. If not, both of you are enriched by becoming a part of each other's lives.

Okay, so maybe Hope's right...I am an oddball, but a very happy, content oddball with a cornucopia of friends that have made my life a rich tapestry of diverse interests and learning.

I found out where WINDY really has been hiding the past couple of weeks!! She was in jail!!!

Turns out.. She had a recent "fancy" to a guy at the supermarket....

She decided to "flirt"... the "WINDY WAY...."

Here's the evidence!

She smack dabbed a shopping cart into this guys car to get his attention!! Bwahahahaha!

Oops! Wrong blog!! This is a serious blog! ;)

But in reality, yes WINDY and I have held many conversations and believe it or not... The crazy Princess is FARRRRR more "reserved" than WINDY is. I am my own enigma! ;)

I think at the end of the day--- We all must just do what makes US feel comfortable... and we don't all wear the same shoes.... I am, and always have been, more reserved when it comes to men.

BEWELL... Glad you have thought it through and feel confident you reacted the way you are comfortable with.

I would say though.... due to how you described it... It does appear maybe you ONLY RESPONDED to his comments. Should you see him again, or take a liking to another "fellow,".... Try to initiate him into conversation. There IS a difference between responding and initiating. (If this makes sense.) He had already initiated previusly, as well as several times before.

If he shows up Tuesday, ask him, "Is the parking lot safe today... or do I need to make a bolt for it when I leave?"

HI RMAC---- I AM one of those ladies that will yack all day with anyone behind, in front, to the side.. Doesn't matter. Man, woman, child.. I speak to people all the time wherever I go. And if no one is around... I just talk to myself ;)

MEN----- IF A WOMAN EVER TOUCHES YOU, YOUR SLEEVE, ETC... THAT IS A COME ON!!! ASK HER OUT!! I see between DAKOTA and RMAC-- we have some men who are OBLIVIOUS to women's advances!! (My ex was that way!)

HI MTSUNNY, HI LULU!! HI EVERYONE!

HAVE A GREAT VALENTINES!

Quoting Windrider735:

Hi BeWell...

Just out of curiosity, why didn't you ask the librarian for his name and see if s/he knew if he was married? If it were me, I'd go back to the library and read there several times a week until he shows up again. Then just grab a pile of books, hold your head down and run into him. You can ask him out for a cup of coffee to repay him for helping you gather up the spilled books. Would he see through that? Of course, but if he had a sense of humor he'd enjoy the fact you made that much of an effort to meet him...or you could just go over and ask him if he had to 'dodge the old lady again'.

'Course, Hope will disagree with me. She doesn't believe in making the first move. First moves have been some of the most entertaining times of my life. I'm not talking pushy here...just flirty, teasing fun! Some of the best friends I have in my life were met this way. It doesn't mean they aren't the tale-charge type of men...just that they appreciate a woman with a sense of humor who would go to that length to get to know them. A person can never have too many friends, and it doesn't always involve wanting to get to know someone as a potential mate, but rather just someone you'd like to get to know as another human being. If something should develop on down the line...fine. If not, both of you are enriched by becoming a part of each other's lives.

Okay, so maybe Hope's right...I am an oddball, but a very happy, content oddball with a cornucopia of friends that have made my life a rich tapestry of diverse interests and learning.

I found out where WINDY really has been hiding the past couple of weeks!! She was in jail!!!

Turns out.. She had a recent "fancy" to a guy at the supermarket....

She decided to "flirt"... the "WINDY WAY...."

Here's the evidence!

She smack dabbed a shopping cart into this guys car to get his attention!! Bwahahahaha!

Oops! Wrong blog!! This is a serious blog! ;)

But in reality, yes WINDY and I have held many conversations and believe it or not... The crazy Princess is FARRRRR more "reserved" than WINDY is. I am my own enigma! ;)

I think at the end of the day--- We all must just do what makes US feel comfortable... and we don't all wear the same shoes.... I am, and always have been, more reserved when it comes to men.

BEWELL... Glad you have thought it through and feel confident you reacted the way you are comfortable with.

I would say though.... due to how you described it... It does appear maybe you ONLY RESPONDED to his comments. Should you see him again, or take a liking to another "fellow,".... Try to initiate him into conversation. There IS a difference between responding and initiating. (If this makes sense.) He had already initiated previusly, as well as several times before.

If he shows up Tuesday, ask him, "Is the parking lot safe today... or do I need to make a bolt for it when I leave?"

HI RMAC---- I AM one of those ladies that will yack all day with anyone behind, in front, to the side.. Doesn't matter. Man, woman, child.. I speak to people all the time wherever I go. And if no one is around... I just talk to myself ;)

MEN----- IF A WOMAN EVER TOUCHES YOU, YOUR SLEEVE, ETC... THAT IS A COME ON!!! ASK HER OUT!! I see between DAKOTA and RMAC-- we have some men who are OBLIVIOUS to women's advances!! (My ex was that way!)

Good perspective! I never thought of it compared to shopping. Maybe next time I should be the one to make the first move.... and if he doesn't work out, I can always return him in 30 days. LOL!!!......... (I wouldn't really do that. That would be mean. LOL!)

Many thanks for giving me something to think about.............. BeWell

Quoting Mtnsunny:

A opportunity, can never be recaptured if missed. For instance when you don't buy something that you felt was a great deal.... most likely, it will be gone when you go back, you'll end up regretting that you didn't buy it when you had the chance. Same with reaching out to new love...if you don't take a open opportunity when smiles are exchanged, you will never know if it was "the one" that got away. The bright side, opportunity...still knocks. :)

Quoting Mtnsunny:

A opportunity, can never be recaptured if missed. For instance when you don't buy something that you felt was a great deal.... most likely, it will be gone when you go back, you'll end up regretting that you didn't buy it when you had the chance. Same with reaching out to new love...if you don't take a open opportunity when smiles are exchanged, you will never know if it was "the one" that got away. The bright side, opportunity...still knocks. :)

Mtnsunny,

Good perspective! I never thought of it compared to shopping. Maybe next time I should be the one to make the first move.... and if he doesn't work out, I can always return him in 30 days. LOL!!!......... (I wouldn't really do that. That would be mean. LOL!)

Many thanks for giving me something to think about.............. BeWell