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Another of her clients is in her 30s, remarried and has a son from a previous marriage, Chemtob says. Three years ago, she lied to her new husband that she wasn’t receiving child support. She was. Now he pays for the child’s expenses and private schooling while the woman stashes about $7,000 a month in a hidden bank account.

In one of the most extreme deceptions Chemtob’s come across, a 20-something woman fabricated her entire financial history. The original lie happened on the first date. Because he was very well-educated, successful and high-earning, she didn’t think he’d like her when she told him she didn’t have a degree or a job. She lied, saying she had her masters and a salaried position.

The woman continued the fib while they dated and into their eventual marriage. When he left home for work, she left too. When he returned home in the evening, so did she. Because he was so successful, he paid for everything and never noticed that she didn’t have an income. Eventually he did discover the truth and promptly filed for divorce.

Boston-based family therapist Carleton Kendrick has been counseling couples for over 30 years and says money deception has become a huge issue in the last decade. He suspects the ease of using credit cards and purchasing online may make the act easier but doesn’t explain the lies.

Kendrick says the chief reasons people lie about money to their partners are pragmatism, control, guilt and fear. The pragmatic lie may result from planning an eventual split and not wanting the other to know how much money is available. Financial infidelity for control may include revenge spending, as one partner overspends to prove their independence or to get back at the other for something lacking in the relationship. Knowingly irresponsible behavior may cause guilt and embarrassment, so the person attempts to cover it up. Deceit may also occur because they fear their partner’s reaction to the truth.

Kendrick notes that how we are raised influences our money philosophies in relationships and can create some gendered behaviors or assumptions. “Girls still see their mothers at check-out, saying, ‘We won’t tell Daddy about this; it will be our little secret,’” he says.

The survey revealed that men and women are equally guilty of financial infidelity, though women were slightly more likely to say they’d caught their partner. Differences emerged in men and women’s perceptions of their partner’s guilt, however. Men were more likely to say their partners hid a minor purchase from them compared to women (59% vs. 44%, respectively). Women were three times more likely to say their partners lied about their earnings (23% vs. 8%, respectively) and also more likely to say their partners lied about the amount of debt they owed (38% vs. 26%, respectively).

NEFE’s Beck advises that couples have the money talk early–well before marriage–to avoid money lies in their relationships. If you are already married or in a committed relationship, he suggests using tax season as a nonthreatening way to ask your partner questions and gain a better grasp of shared finances. Those who suspect or discover that they are currently victims of financial infidelity should first figure out how deep the lies go and gather all the details.

One-third of those in relationships impacted by money deception say they have resolved to do something this year, with most planning to communicate more openly and create a shared budget for 2011.

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Lies are lies are lies, no matter how they are packaged. In an economy like this it is not a surprise that money lies are more common. Marriage vows are for better or worse, sickness and health, rich or poor. Anytime we lie to our spouse, it is a shortcoming of our own doing, forgetting that we took a vow to love one another regardless.

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My Ex-wife didn’t tell me here credit was destroyed, that she owed $20,000. When I got married to my ex, she has asked for a joint bank account, her logic she said was that she would pay the bills because I worked. Long story short, she had used a debit card for transactions at Target, no big deal in my eyes, we needed stuff from there because we had a family…issue was this, she would return everything for cash, next fun part was spending our mortgage payment around the 25th of every month, making our house payment fall onto the first pay period of the next month and then leaving us cash poor. Being foolish I still was trusting her, I’d not figured out she was doing the return for cash yet,I figured this out one month when my bank called me and asked me when I was making a deposit, I said “my wife just did” they said “we saw her come in and cash a check” and I think no big deal, easy fix right, noooooo!! They had already gone through my savings, and my checking account was -$9800! She had also changed my contact info at our mortgage company, I then find out she hadn’t made a mortgage payment in 4 months, the mortgage people said my telephone number didn’t work, surely they could mail me, they did mail me, she had been having the mail held at the post office, then putting it in our mail box herself. She had used our money on going out, Cocaine, her two boyfriends and had spent $4000 on dog outfits and dog bags! At our divorce hearing she said that I had ruined her, and she had to start over again because I has wasted all our money. she also said that I’d not given her any money for the kids, while I’d left her $5000 at our break up, this is while she is living rent free at her parents house.

Long story short, courts made me pay for her attorney, pay more child support and worse and worse…family courts here in the US are very broken, clearly their focus is on the federal cash incentives, not whats fair, or what’s best for the children, or even if allegations have facts! I’m now remarried to a genius, she has a 162IQ, and makes $240,000 a year, she is also the only female in a Director position at the corporation she works at. She is a financial Wizard, and at 38 has $600,000 saved for retirement, and $150,000 in stocks. I’m so happy to be with a winner, and not a whiner!!

My husband has been financially cheating our entire marriage but didn’t find out until my car was repossessed because he couldn’t hide that. We’re on the verge of a 2nd bankruptcy and definitely losing our home. I was mortified and so embarrassed but I tried to forgive him because of the kids and he said he change (what a joke). A little over a year ago, I discovered he was opening credit cards in my name so I went to see an attorney and started the divorce process. However, a month later he was diagnosed with cancer. So I’m still here and I hate it, but I don’t want to be the bitch who leaves her husband when he’s ill. I’ve started taking an antidepressant just to get through it. I haven’t worked in 16 years but I am looking. I feel so trapped, no one wins and everyone gets hurt. Financial infidelity sucks!

I can’t imagine, how someone could do that for his wife. I think, at the first time it was a strong sign to you to break down the trust in your marriage and take him to responsibility. I’ve never believed for any forgiveness in that kind of lies.

Cheating a spouse had remained a time-old crisis,whether it related to infidelity or money! If there is no bondage of true love based on trust,commitment and dedication of caring for each other,betrayals would become quite common.The present world is drifting apart at a faster pace,not only betraying their spouses,but are blowing all the true values of life.Even in the past,many rich men used to own different homes/apartments,to maintain illicit relationships with other women,and even would sire their kids outside the wedlock! What’s lacking in the present world is “Trust and loyality” that’s why many wedlocks are broken soon after their marital vows! Only some miracle can resolve the present malady which has overtaken the spouses lives.Trust-deficit is widening inbetween lives of the spouses.If a couple remains loyal to each other and bestow unfettered love and oblige the other with equal spirit of caring,no problem would arise.Author’s suggestion to take assessment of each-partners’ income/expenditure during tax-season,would still not be workable! The country has got a battery of CPA companies too well-versed to arm a willy cheater how to trick the spouse and still hide actual financial deals,the same way,the IRS could be fed with manipulated tax-returns!

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Funny thing is that lying about money to their wives doesn’t seem to them as serious infidelity as a love affair. Oh, and if lying emerges from guilt or fear or low self esteem, the best defence is to point at the other and find excuses for their behaviour (“wanted to protect”, “I can take care of it”, etc. Or /and, they will actually blame others (wife, market, life, etc) for their financial situation and lies. mmmmmmm…childish men never grow up…

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Money rules marriage relationship and couples fight over money matters as if they were strangers. Why has money assumed such an importance in marriage? Couples marry out of love, but as years go by their concentration is on money. Wife wants to save as she is worried about the financial future of her family, while her husband wants to spend as he is only focused on today. This contrasting nature between couples make them hide their financial dealings. Wife saves without the knowledge of her husband and husband hides the financial mess he is in because of his reckless spending. They should realize that money is just a tool to give them a good standard of living and does not bring in any happiness in their relationship. Transparency in money matters can do away with the stress you feel when you know that your spouse is hoarding money instead of pooling the family out of its financial mess.

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