What it\’s really like to be a phone actress from one point of view

You know, ever since I stared working the phone sex lines everyone who knows about my job is intrigued by the taboo nature of my work. There seems to be a mix of morbid fascination and sexual intrigue. I’ve noticed there are a lot of books about the subject and very few seem to cover what everyone wants to know. Who are the women on the other end of the line? This is a tough question to answer. It’s like asking ‘who is the average American?’ Really?!?! Is it Bob, the mechanic trying to pay child support for three kids? What about Maria, the Latin immigrant who wants to be a teacher? Or maybe it’s John, the middle manager trying to save up for both college and a dream vacation with his wife of fifteen years. You see; there is no such thing as the average American. And there is no such thing as the average phone sex operator. She could be a nineteen-year-old college student trying to earn some extra money. A thirty-something stay-at-home mom trying to make ends meet. Or he could be a twenty-something man trying to pay off debt. Yes, there are male phone sex operators. Or anything in between. I can only speak for myself, and I don’t mind telling you that finding another experienced phone sex operator to trade notes with is like trying to find that one needle, only in about a hundred hay stacks. The other problem is, no one really wants to hear about the nitty gritty of the industry. It’s sex, and sex sells. But everyone’s idea of sex is different. Except for the pure physiology of putting object A into slot B (and that’s open to interpretation) there is really a lot that goes into sex. And the intrigue is phenomenal. The mystery surrounding phone sex amuses me really. I mean, on the surface it’s very simple; a client calls to get off and the operator assists. The reality is, it’s a messy business. We’re humans, and as such we have emotions and emotions are messy. It really is an art form to perform for clients and not create some kind of emotional attachment. I have had clients that are so enamoured by my characters that they often ask to meet me. I have been offered marriage, money, plane tickets, jewelry, shopping sprees and just about anything else you can imagine. I’m not telling you this to toot my own horn, this is a reality. It sounds great, right? What woman doesn’t want to be offered these things? Every time I talk to a client that enjoys my services too much, I feel guilty. I shouldn’t, I mean they [should] know it’s a fantasy and they’re paying for that. I don’t mind telling you that if I was single I may have been tempted enough to take a few of those offers. And I have no doubt that there may have been phone sex operators who have. A lot of people think that being a phone sex operator is a lucrative job, it’s not. The pay sucks. The average PSO only sees about 5-7% of the profit made on a call that costs $3.99/minute. I once read an article that claimed the average PSO made $2000 per week! Ironically, there was no evidence offered to back up that claim. And by my calculations, a top performing PSO would have to take over 6500 minutes worth of talk time to make that kind of money, they would have to be talking almost 24 hours, a day seven days a week. Not very realistic, is it? However, if I could make that kind of money doing what I do, you can be damn sure I’d have found it by now and there would be a lot more phone sex operators. What a phone actress/actor gets paid for is just that, to act. You’re not getting the real deal. We are exposed to the underbelly of sexual desires, and it’s not pretty. It’s really hard to maintain a healthy outlook on sex while doing this job. As a woman, I found myself becoming jaded and angry at men in general. My husband bore the brunt of this. I came to believe that men are hedonistic animals with no regard for women; treating them more like chattel than humans beings. For a long time I was bitter and frigid to my husband thinking that when it comes to sex, all men are alike. Only treating women with some degree of respect to get in their pants. It felt like it took forever before I could realize that the act of sex itself is very animalistic, but that doesn’t mean it’s demeaning. Yes, there are men who are sexual predators, seeking women for one-night stands. On the flip side, there are just as many men, sometimes the very same predators, who want the companionship and trust of a meaningful relationship. The havoc this job has played on me psychologically is astounding. It’s not very surprising that the average PSO only lasts a few months. I started this blog to tell women, like me, who are considering this line of work what this job is really like. I am not here to romanticize the sex industry, there are more than enough web sites that do that. I’m not doing this to lure clients, hell, I don’t even know what number my clients call to talk to me! I have no idea what it’s like to be an exotic dancer, a porn-star or an escort, I’m a phone actress aka phone sex operator, and I write what I know. In this post I’ve highlighted the downside of this job. I know it appears to be a dark picture, but it’s real. I’ve decided to make this a two-parter. In my next post I’ll tell you about the upside, after all, there are two sides to every story, and this is no different.

I was just reading your blog, trying to find out what this is all about, as my husband has been going to great lengths to hide his phone calls from me, he stopped our paper phone bills from coming to the house and got a P.O. box. He was coming home from work and making these calls while I was at work, trying to help with the bills ( I had not worked in 5 years, so that I could stay at home and take care of our son, who is now 4 he goes to school this year and I don’t get to spend his last summer with him because we couldn’t pay our bills).. Now I see why since June my husband has spent over 3,000 dollars on these nasty lines and has been betraying me and lieing to me. Most of these calls were even made early in the morning while myself and our kids were home. I have been sleeping on the couch since last september, and was begging him to be intimate with me, I have gone to bed several nights crying because I didn’t know why he didn’t want me. My husband is supposed to man of GOD and is a preacher. These sex lines have ruined our marriage and our family. My children have to suffer because of this. As far as am concerned these lines should be against the law!! I don’t understand why women can’t just get a regular job and stop demeaning themselves. I am not here to judge you, you are the one that has to live with what you do everyday. I don’t understand why a man would want to call a sex line and risk losing everything that he has… I thought that we were happy, I am a devoted wife and mother I cook, clean, and care deeply for my family. I am a college graduate and am fairly attractive. I make sure that we always have family time and I EVEN GET ALONG WITH MY IN LAWS. Now come on I should get brownie points just for that right there. We are now seperated and I am filing for divorce. I just hope who ever he talked to got him off good enough for him to lose everything that he has.

Michelle,
I really feel sorry for you. You are a sad, naive, judgmental woman who obviously fell for the wrong man.
Do you really think that if these phone calls were illegal that your marriage would have survived?!?!? Your husband would have just found some other way to feed his desires (ex: an affair, a hooker, etc.).
My guess is that, either, your “Man of God”/Preacher husband married you in an attempt to cover up a much deeper, sexual issue OR you are just incredibly boring and a complete prude.
If I were you I would just move on from this and open up your small mind a little bit.
Good luck lady!

I hate to hear that you would leave your husband over such a matter.You guys have a family and over phone sex you would leave him. Marraige and family have to be worth more then that.
he may have issues but you seem to have a few yourself. only God can judge and I do not mean to be judge mental but there are alot worse things to break up a family over. you really should consider speaking to someone before giving up a family over something really simple. yes the money you are seeing being gone is considered a waste on your part. but let’s look at it another way it’s about $225 a month he spent on himself.
MARRAIGE IS NOT EASY. AND IF YOU ARE REALLY GOING TO END IT MAKE IT OVER SOMETHING A LITTLE MORE SERIOUS BEFORE YOU DISRUPT THOSE CHILDREN’S LIVES.
because right now you kind of sound like your ego is hurt and you are ms. perfect. he was not cheating on you. HE WAS NOT CHEATING ON YOU. men are strange when they think they may hurt the one they care about they do strange things. There is something he is not telling you. and the way you look or do your motherly or wifely things has little to do with the sex he reaching out for.
If he was perfect in your mind untill you found out about this make sure nothing else going on.
at worse learn to talk sexxy get 2 cell phone that only call each other so you know when it rings what’s it for. but please do not loss a family over moment in time. and please do not take so personal. he could have been spending that money on a live mistress instead a\of a girl on the line giving exactly what he wants and he could turn off.

in my opinion no one put a gun to his head to make those phone calls so dont even blame phone actresses plus you dont even know why some women choose this job field. one thing for sure , these women do not know your husband nor his relationship status , their job is to entretain and not to solve your marriage problems…

Wow. I wonder why this guy wouldn’t want a wife who was sleeping on the crouch, crying like a fool, and no doubtedly REFUSING to have sex probably because you feel like a fat slob, are too tired over parenting your kids, not sleeping well, and a complainer?! Why don’t you try EXERCISING instead of being a paranoid snoop? You’ll feel a lot better and no doubtedly have more sex appeal because you won’t have such a shitty attitude. Sounds like you need some Joyce Meyer teachings. I’m sure you’re the same wife who hides the receipt from the new shoes she bought too. You’re not perfect. Get a clue.

I say this because I am a phone sex operator AND believe or not I’m also a Christian. I agree 100% with the author of this blog.

I’m a PSO and I will tell you that you are pathetic. Your husband is an addict and probably called those lines because he was tired of being married to a judgemental, unimaginative prude. Then again, if he is really a preacher, you both have tons of sexual hang ups and guilt and I pity you both. God gave you free will, right? Well, it was HIS CHOICE to call, so why don’t you put on your big girl panties and solve your problems instead of scapegoating us?

Michelle-
I’m sorry for what you are going through, I can’t imagine the anger and hurt you must feel. It sounds like your husband has a very serious problem and needs professional help for his addiction. However, I will not apologize for myself or the industry. You stated you are not here to judge me, but in the previous sentence you wrote “I don’t understand why women can’t just get a regular job and stop demeaning themselves.” That sounds a lot like a judgement to me. Women choose this job for several reasons, the most common is that they can do it from home and make thier own hours. I no longer work as a PSO, I haven’t for some time now. Working this industry is hard, not just anyone can do it without a very thick skin and a strong sense of self. I wrote this blog to demonstrate that. Only your husband can be held accountable for his actions. If there were no phone lines, he would have gotten his “kicks” from another source.

I am attempting to find a reputable/safe PSO opportunity. I am disabled due to cancer, but obviously have numerous expenses. I can say I’ve been told I have a sexy voice, and I already do (regular) voice overs.
My boyfriends always enjoyed the PS talk.

Can you advise a good opportunity to match me up with?
Really truly need the help.
Thanks! :-)
And thx for the info on your site!

Hi there. I am a French girl studying in the United Kingdom and I have been thinking about work as a PSO to earn some extra money. Could you help me by giving me some sites such as phoneactress.com but in the United Kingdom? Hope to have a reply soon. Thank you and good luck for you.

Tasheena-
I’m sorry it’s taken so long to respond, as I’ve said I’m no longer a PSO so I only check my blog once in a while. As for reputable companies in the UK, I’m afraid I don’t know of any. I would suggest looking for companies that accept workers in the UK and try them out. Read my first post for more information about how I did this. Whatever you do, don’t get roped into a company that requires forty hours a week or makes you take calls on your own phone. A reputable company will have you log into thier phone system to protect your privacy. All companies worth working for put the safety and privacy of their girls first. Sorry I couldn’t be more help. Good Luck!

Unfortunately, that’s not a question I can answer. I never told my family, I kept my job a secret. My husband actually found my job and sent it to me as a joke. But everyone else was completely unaware of what I was doing and I never felt compelled or obligated to tell them.

I, too, was a PSO for awhile. I tried it twice w/two different companies. I have always been open minded about sex and thought I would give it a try to earn extra $. It was not worth it. You earn squat compared to the actual amount your company gets per call and the things you sometimes hear are exhausting and make you question men. I, too, became bitter towards men in general. Sometimes you do get a decent guy that stimulates you physically and metally and you have fun. Then there are the ones into incest and pedophelia. In my experience the majority of men into the “young” thing or the “Daddy” thing is astounding. These things are taboo & are illegal even w/phone sex, but then these calls drop your time – affecting your pay. They, also, gave me more reason to question my faith in men, love, sexual awareness & freedom, and the depravity of “man”.
I say if ur curious: Try it-make ur own supposition.

Hi there everyone! Wow I have been searching for a PSO sight to chat with other PSO’s. I have been in the industry for a little over a year now and you are right people do this job for different reasons. My children are my reason. I do my job at night while my husband takes care of them and then I take care of them during the day. We eat so much healthier now because I actually have the time to prepare food. My 3 year old knows how to spell her name, do her ABC’s, count her numbers and colors in English and Spanish not to mention much more. My stepdaughter the 5 year old is as smart as a whip too. My point is I don’t believe I would have the relationship nor would I have had the time to teach them all this had I had a regular job. I love my job, to a certain extent. There are those calls that get you a little upset. Speaking of which I am almost late now and the website you recommended is who I work for now and they are an awesome company! Glad to have met you!

when I found this site i too was looking for a sight to chat with other PSO’s, in order to just swap ideas and vent about the sometimes crazy things we are asked to do…..have you found a site? Please advise.

Hi, we run a website for ops by ops, and we give out advice and links to various companies we know of.
We are based in the UK. We give support and encourage women who are just staring out as PSO, we also discuss tips, and which company is best to work for.
Please feel free to look us up, and also help out with your experiances to, but only if you want to lol
debs xx

hi debs – please recommend to me a few Phone Sex Companies in europe that pays very well. I live the USA is that ok. I am looking for a european phone sex company that is very busy and pays a very high payout percentage rate.

Hi, I just started working as a pso this week and have only recieved nine calls. My chracter is sweet and sexy girl next door but a mojority of the calls were from men wanting to be dominated and humiliated. Anyway, I joined this site because I’ve found a lot of places including phoneactress.com do not hire from New York. Why is that? In order to be seen and featured on the home page I pay a bid fee which has eaten up all my profits. Otherwise I get buried in with hundreds of other listings. I was wondering if you could look at my page or offer any pointers to increase my clientel. Thank you!

I used to work for phone actress, then I found a place and work for a person now who created 2 characters that I currently work then I learned how to do basic web design and bought my own content and now work. I lost 82 lbs and took neck down shots and have myself as a character. I have made 2000 in one week before and make a few thousand a month if anyone wants help let me know and I can give you good info to get started working for youself

hi i was just wondering if someone can tell me what makes the most money, thats all im worried about, being a yong woman putting myself through college(its rough). i dont mind talking dirty. i even considered beind a escort before! im a sexy woman and dont mind one bit being paid for what i got!! lol…seriously though please someone help me. iv been in the costumer service field for over 10 years, and have been really considering the whole phone actress thing. but where is the best money??????

This post tries to put the blame on the caller. And tries to degrade.
People in this business are like a drug dealer supplying the drugs.
Go study, work a regular job sweating like everyone else. Women who go into the sex business have no morals and want an easy way out. This is pathetic. For that matter, the men that do this too. You people have contributed to the moral decay of America.
It may be legal, but it is unethical and an attempt for an easy way out. How dare you complain about your job, when you are the one who is responsible as well.

Dear Bob McJesusfreak,
First of all, I sure there is plenty of sweating going on in this job!

But anyway, do you really think these woman are contributing to the “moral decay of America”. Who are you to define what is moral and what is ethical?

Go have your vanilla sex (I bet missionary is your favorite position!) Saturday night and then take your judgments with you to church on Sunday and ask your God to have mercy on our pathetic, hypocritic, unethical souls… for we shall be far too busy demoralizing America!

LOL!!! It’s precisely these so called ‘holier than thou’ attitudes to our fellow man than contribute to hatred, discord and wars around the world. Your idea of god and religion Bob, is not everyone else. You need to open yourself up and be accommodating of others. You have absolutely no right to judge others!!!

On December 1, 2012 at 11:37 am idris said:

It is the callers fault! If he hadn’t called there wouldn’t have been a problem as far the phone calls are concerned. HOWEVER..there is the fact that he wold have just stepped out on his wife another way. Probably by cheating on her with another woman.. what would you prefer him to talk to a girl on the phone or for your ole man to start dating that 18yo girl in your church daycare who watches your kids, your neighbor’s daughter you watched grow up or your hair dresser. By far this would be the best option if you ask me not that being cheating on is favorable in way but at least it was with a “fake” girl and his hand. Also they writer of this post should look at her on flaws she is actually the reason her turned to a PSO.
The girl on the other end of the line just did her job and evidently did it very well. For all you know she is a med student and the angry wife is a slouchy frumpy B who pushed her man away. Or maybe the PSO is a single mom who is just trying to make ends meet. You know not all women have that awesome life where they have everything handed to them by their posh douchebag husbands. As far as those women who do have that kind of life with the perfect husband and they dont have to worry all the time well we all know a few who pretend its awesome for them but we know they are the most miserable hags on the block who cheat on their husbands with the lawn guy. So basically I’m saying get over it the caller is to blame as well as the crappy wife. I’m a chick and I have to say if my partner had been sleeping on the sofa for a year and not trying to seduce me or doing things to make want them or to rekindle the relationship I would have turned to a PSO its much safer than screwing the neighbor.

How about you not tell people how to live their lives? Also a lot of women who do this work are doing it to MAKE ENDS MEET and are sweating with a day job like everyone else, dumbass. Take your moral decay and shove it. America had no morals to begin with, it just seems like there’s a decline because technology made people more aware. Go back under your rock pretending that the U.S. was all unicorns and rainbows before PSO’s existed and leave the rest of us in the real world alone, loser.

What is the doctrine of this church, it must not be Christian for sure.

Rather amazed by the author’s attempt to justify a disgusting second job, when she is married with children. Thank God for giving me a mother who never did this. Man, I sure was lucky.
This is complete hypocrisy. I would not be surprised if she deletes all my posts for stating the truth.

What gives you the right to judge? You have no idea of the reasons that people have for choosing this job! I am currently trying to get into the industry myself and find it preferable to claiming benifits which is my only other option. I have worked regular jobs all my life and was half way through my degree when my son was diagnosed with Autism and ADHD. Due to his condition he only attends school for two hours a day and needs constant supervision. It is impossible for me to return to university and I have no one to leave him with whilst I go to work. I cant even afford a special needs childminder as they cost much more than a regular one and they wont take him. My only options are to work from home when he is asleep upstairs or claim benifits off the govenment. Which of these options contribites more to the moral decay of a country?

sex doesn’t make a person disgusting! Your nasty attitude and judgmental ways are what make a person bad. I’m atheist which I’m sure you hate too but I was raised Catholic my mom did well however in teaching me to hate people for their choices. Se may go to church I can careless but her job doesn’t make her a bad person.

Well, I just started this gig about a week ago and I have to say, I kind of like it. I can do my homework (i’m a sophmore in college), chat with my friends, all that good stuff in between calls. I do, however keep in mind that the man (or sometimes, woman) who calls is paying good money for my services so…. yeah, I do the best I can.

I understand people’s disdain for this, but you don’t know me or the author of this post. You don’t know what we’re going through, You don’t see us. How dare you call yourselves Christians and judge us so harshly. How dare you, when the Good Lord did not judge the whore, but instead faced her accusers. If Jesus Himself won’t judge me, how can You?

to psogirl, you said if anyone wanted help getting started on there own you would help,I am a pso now have been for over a year, would love to go on my own, Please any help you can give would be real nice

Hi,
I am curious to the author (or anyone else who knows) can someone give me an idea on the pay? I realize it’s by the minute- but maybe an average paycheck per week? Meaning, if I put in say 4 hrs a day everyday- an estimate? I dont’ expect 2K a week, or even 2 K a month, but if it’s enough to help out my family or groceries.. I’m in!

I just started in this business myself. I’m getting my first check this Friday, it’s $150. It’s not much, but I’m the only one employed in my household and someone has to earn something. People all the time tell me to go out and get a real job, but I don’t see how this is any different than being a regular actress. I mean, people pay a hundred dollars a ticket sometimes to go see a show. It’s not as glamorous, but its the same, people paying for some sort of fantasy. And that industry takes much more money than the phone sex industry. Just look at how much your spending for cable DVDs, theater tickets, movie tickets, posters, ect. ect. I’m not Christian, but I am religious and I know that God doesn’t care that I do this. I think he’d rather see me barely make ends meet, then spend my days searching for a job that I may or may not get, meanwhile making no income. No one tells these men to pick up the phone, they know full well that they are paying for it. That’s my opinion I guess….

peace & blessing,
what you say is real talk. I started in the business 198 something. I stayed for years. I actually travel the 40 of the 50 states on phone sex money I like to say. but all that you say is true. it can break you down as a woman make you really lose a lot of respect for men. ruin your sex drive. Mentally drive you places you may not understand untill you stop for at least 6 months. I always said I was an over worked under paid phone therpist.But truth is it is a job as with all jobs there are good days and bad days.
I wore myself out back then. I was working at two different places 4-12 and then 12 -8. 10 blocks apart then would do a double on the week ends. every other month I would take a long weekend and disappear. not answer or talk on a phone.I could proable count how many times I actually had sex the first 2 years. but I did make money.
when I got pregnant in 2000 I decided I wanted to be home with my child. I found it hard to make aliving. I had 2 phone lines in the home but could not get two regular business with steady work and paid on time.
I find myself in a position once again where I need to work from home. I am a student and a mother and I need to finish this degree. But I need to eat. the money is not what it use to be or rather it is about the same as it was 20 plus years ago (LOL) but it is one of the few things I do well and can work my strange hours.
my job now is to find two good places that pay with out or little problems that have clients.
YES I HAVE WAR STORIES SO TO SPEAK. but mostly it was a job and never forget that. you create a person that is not real that you can turn on and off but no matter what she is a part of you and that you can not turn off. Must always remember it is a job but have fun and when it is not fun any more get back to self

Wow, how insightful. Don’t really know if I want to pursue this. I have read so much about the job and in many ways it sounds demeaning. Do I want to trade my self-esteem for money. I am a widow of 3 years and could really use the extra cash.

If I do it at all, I will keep in mind all that I have read here. Here’s to all of us who are just trying to deal with this crazy hand we are all dealt in life. Good Luck and Health to all.

I am intersted in being a Phone sex operator but I have no experience in this field. I do cusotomer service and I am looking forward to doing this job.
I am fairly creative and open minded. I have done some research on this topic and I am stil reserching this topic. Any information you are willing to share would be greatly appreciated. Also, any sites that are hiring and are really good with working with newbies as well as pay well would be great to know about. thanks for all of your assistance.

I have been myself looking for a reputable phone sex company to work for can you help me out there are so many listed online, my email is dalonigekamama@yahoo.com I was hoping maybe you know of a few to throw at me. Thanks! Marilyn

To be completely honest the pay really depends on you. How much time are you willing to devote, how much research have you done, is your character interesting? Can you navigate a conversation or the first word about sex are you faking an orgasm? I personally make anywhere from $400-500 a week. I work 40 + hours a week and during peak times.

Hello, I just started getting serious about working as a PSO. Times are tough and I really don’t judge anyone in the sex industry- we just need to do what we can to survive. I spoke to someone from Universal Adult Chat (UAC) and the man I spoke with said they are a branched company from the UK-Universal Talk . I cant find anything on UAC found Universal Talk, Ltd site but doesn’t really look good to be their web page. I was also told I would get paid $20.00 an hour. Just log on the hours Iam available and regardless of how long I talk to someone I get $20 an hour-just log off when I am done with my shift. I’ve been researching on pay for this industry and no one else pays hourly. Another thing is that I was told that before I start I will be trained- so I will be having phone sex with my trainer until I show that I am ready for the job. DOES THIS SOUND CORRECT. Need advise, please.

Hi, ladies very interesting seeing all the comments. Phone sex is not hard (pardon the pun) I used to be a very successful mature sex worker traveling around to a few places here in Australia. But its not a career one can keep doing for obvious reasons – I have been told I have a nice and seductive voice even at my mature age so have decided to do PSO as I have been out of the workforce for a few years now. Don’t think working for a company is for me personally as I used to work autonomously in the past and all the profits where mine all the decisions of my business where mine, not someone else’s.
I used to talk to clients by phone making appts etc so its not an issue for me to fall back into that world of make believe, plus can pick the hours and days I want to take calls. Don’t be fooled not all men fantasize about young women, it would surprise a lot of people to know that the mature woman is very much in demand by a wide age group of men from the very young to older guys. Maturity and sexual experience pays of in a lot more ways than one imagines.

Hi am 40 and as you know am thinking about joining one of they phone sex companies so l can make the money to feed my kids and pay my monthly bills . I really don’t know where to start with getting into this work or what companies to go with if you can help me out with that also if l can do it from home as am a single parent. So can you help me out on how to get started and with who but has to be working from home. Thank you. So much x moe

I’ve been a PSO since 2005. I moved to a new state after the death of several members of my family,(all in one week) trying to get a new start. Boy did I! The first week I was there a young kid drove through a red light in the rain, flipped and totaled my car and inadvertently while being treated for something else completely I found out I had cancer. What a great start! Thirty days later ALL my nest-egg was gone to doctors and mounting bills. You would think at this stage I would have ask for government hand outs or something but I just could not bring myself to go there.

While crying on a friends shoulder one day she blurted out her deeply kept secret. She was a phone chat actress, single mom, and working/PSOing her way through college. No questions asked I got on board. Would I do it again, probably not.

When I first started money was not to bad if I worked hard, (remember I was very sick and this was not easy to do) I could pay my bills and tuck a few hundred away every month. But several things happened along the way. I started looking at men a whole lot differently. I would look at the local pharmacist and wonder which one of my callers he was most likely to be, the same went for the mail man, the grocery clerk, the teacher at the local school and the list goes on and on. I could not even look at a man and thing of trusting him enough to remotely consider dating him.

My skin would begin to crawl as I would silently replayed some of the fantasies these guys had back in my head. Everything from the guy who called me one Christmas morning and left me shaking and deeply sickened to my stomach. His fantasy was so horrid that I felt I had actually just spoken to jeffery dahmer. Just listening to what he wanted left me on the floor totally dumbstruck with the phone dangling in my hand. What the did I just hear?!?

Thank god some of the companies have tos. The calls for incest, bestiality and rape scenes never seems to end and I have finally learned how to hang up on some people. Which is deeply discouraged by the site owners and you can lose a lot of callers/money, and drop in rank (you would have to understand the business) over bad feedback if they did not get what they wanted.

Finally I opted for changing my persona from the girl next door to the Domme. You get less of the sick-o’s that way and talking to men who want to prance around in panties is fine with me. Some are even funny and can leave me laughing days later at just the thought of their antics. And the upside is I have a lot more control over the call. (The company says, “satisfaction is guaranteed.”

But what disturbs me the most is knowing that some of these guys, particularly the straight ones, have some very, very dark fantasies about women. And knowing that even in today’s society, no still means yes to a lot of men, I feel that working with the straight side of it reaffirms to some of the real perverts that there is nothing wrong with their thoughts and this is what women really want, what they really deserve and “playing” with kids is not such a bad thing. And so what if they are “playing” with random men and the one waiting for them has no clue they are on the receiving end of that! I hate these types of callers!

Long and short of it this is 2013. Since the day I started in the business I have never again so much as given thought to share myself with a man. I know that most women out there have no idea what they are really sleeping with. There is a hidden side. I have seen it! And I want NO part of it. I have literally seen and heard it all!
From doctors, lawyers, teachers, counselors, high business profile people you name it. They are your fathers, your brothers, your husbands, your grandfathers, friends and love ones and you have no idea.

And trust me phone sex ops ARE NOT the problem if they don’t get it on the phone they will get it where ever they can. I have also seen their confessions.

I had a guy that once confessed that he went to gloryholes and brought home strangers body fluids and served it to his wife in her morning coffee without her even knowing it; an act he found quite a turn on! And yet another who took pictures of his sleeping wife nude and in the most unflattering postures and posted them all over the porn sites. When I called him on it, he proved it to me by sending me to one of the sites. I cannot not even justify being with a man now. I know way to much, much more then ANY women needs to know and the thought sickens me. ALL trust is out the window.

To add to this….

Now that the industry has grown in leaps and bounds guys have decided to get into the act, often quitting their main stream jobs and opting to do the graphics, websites, and programming either for their significant others they now pimp out on phone lines and cam shows often showing their studly skills too or for girls they just pick up and offer “jobs” to. (Oh and they will do those on cam as well!)

Pso’s talk a good game but what they have to say in the forums and in private, when they are not trying to win favor or be politically correct, is quite another story. They will tell anyone who wants to listen about how wonderful the job is, what great money they make, and how they are their own boss. When actually, If anything the industry owns them, body mind AND soul!

I have to say I have only met a handful that I ever thought really had it all under some control, or as least as close to that as you can be and made a good/decent living at it.

Would I suggest this job to another women NO! Does it pay well? Well I don’t know what is doing a cam show (I don’t do those. Once it hits the Internet there is no taking it back.) where you preform everything and anything for 99cents to $2.69 a minute worth to you? Remember the site is going to charge you a connection fee, a percentage of your take, cam up to 50% and some even charge you to bid for your place on the site! Then you have the cost of hosting, for a domain name and pics, software needs, and if you are going to keep customers calling….advertisement! And that list can also go on.

And what is the cost of your psychologically well being? From my experience all those late night shows where PSO’s try to tell you what a great time they are having, and how well the business is providing for them is pure BS. They simply don’t want to admit what really goes on behind the scenes and that it is a dirty job that barely puts food on the table much less offer the perks they will try to tell you it gives them. It’s that dark.

To the author of this site, kudos to you my dear. You have finally said, what I have wanted to say for all these years. God bless you for your integrity and strength to bring it all to light and to all the PSO’s out there just trying to paddle through life.

And now that I have finally gotten this off my chest to my earlier question. Would I do it again? NO! I know that I would not. And I would say to other women it may pay the bills and it may help you in the short run but beware dear, the price is very high.

Those that are interested in becoming a PSO, or would just like to read what other PSO’s are saying about the work and how to get started – would benefit from joining a PSO forum creasted for phone sex operators, such as PSOBoards.com

What I want to know is, how do the people who are damning you for being a phone sex operator find this page? They are clearly searching for topics about sex so they can be offended. It really amazes me. Go out and do some charity work instead of staying home and trolling, you religious fucktards.

I am in a desperate place financially right now…I am disabled and scared to death…all my money has ran out…
A lot of women write this site and say they are working with a great company…but never say who they are…
I’m in the US…can someone please list the good companies here?

you may want to try LiveOps.com instead or Acddirect.com both have a $45 background chk fee, since you want to get into the phone actress biz im thinking you already have hm ph and you need internet and thats about it…I hope this helps :-)

To cover the criminal background check, you would be taking personal information over the ph from callers without immediate in house supervision, companies such as these (majority really) want to make sure the person they are hiring doesnt have a history /record for dishonesty and broken trust

Yes…I understand about the bg ck now…
I didn’t understand what the sites were…so they’re just taking infomercial sales calls?
Do I have a desktop? Home phn?
Ive googled the PSO stuff…problem is that there’s so much out there…I don’t know who’s a decent legit company…

On January 11, 2014 at 10:29 am Saushea said:

yes from “Free Money” calls to “Life Alert” all the way down to “California Psychics” calls you just read the scripts that pop onto the screen when calls come thru, yes you will need a home ph/landline nothing fancy (even with PSO you will need a standard landline) but you can use a laptop ; thats the tricky part, finding the legit PSO companies

On January 11, 2014 at 10:35 am MG said:

Yes…the reliable legit PSO companies is what I was told to look for…
:-(((

On January 11, 2014 at 1:16 am MG said:

I went to see ACD and LIVEOPS and there’s nothing there concerning PSO info…

you answer infomercial sales calls…all calls are scripted and you get paid per talk minute regardless if call hangs up or decides not to buy :-) trust me @ $0.28-$0.32 per talk min reading pays off ;-)

no its an alternative to pso, if you have never worked from hm b4 pso isnt the only pay-per-talk-minute job out there at one pt it was now its not but if thats the area u desire to work in good luck :-) and try googling Phone Sex Operators or Phone Actresses

Listen, at the end of the day the author makes some valid points and you do need a tough skin. I’ve been a PSO for a few years now and I’ll tell you sometimes I get the SLIGHTEST desire to call it quits, but that’s very rare. Please don’t let this line of work make you feel bad towards men in general though. There are plenty of good guys out there. You just have to realize that of the guys calling you, the GOOD ones will be in the minority.

I’ll be blunt. The VAST MAJORITY of guys that call those lines are maladjusted losers that couldn’t get a decent woman if they tried. They’re either mentally unstable, in their 30s+ and still living in their mom’s basement playing Madden Football, have had some past abuse or trauma that they can’t move on from or could otherwise have a normal relationship (i.e. good looking, well endowed with a good career, etc.) but they have some fucked up fetish that nobody wants to deal with. You have nothing to prove to them. They can’t even get a woman to talk to them unless they pay by the minute for it.

Don’t let any of these bottom feeders make you feel horrible and don’t project that stuff onto the GOOD men in your life. My man and I crack up regularly at some of the calls I take. Oh yeah, also if you’re a woman of higher than average intelligence, you’ll notice how dumb a lot of these guys are. And if they’re not normally, they will become stupid as soon as their dicks get hard. It’s not worth taking them seriously, and is part of the reason I do a lot of catfishing and crop my pics, don’t tell them my real name, location or anything like that. These guys need to be kept at bay just enough to not be a threat to you but also not so much that you can’t keep making money off of them. It’s a balancing act, but it’s possible. Just takes experience.

Remember: You’re MOSTLY dealing with the maladjusted dregs of society and the sooner you remember that, the better off you’ll be. Are you going to get sweet, nice callers too? Sure, and you’ll probably LOVE them as clients, but you need quantity in this biz, not quality, and here you’re not going to get much quality.

The range of posts on here (and I read ALL of them) is so vast. Now I’m thoroughly confused lol. Do PSO’s really like their work and/or make a good living, or are they traumatized and make pennies? I know of a friend that has done this type of work for years. Initially she made a great salary. She worked for US Love. Another PSO, angry at all of my friend’s clientele, outed her on social media and directly to her customers that she wasn’t the model that she advertised her character as. The calls slowed down for years. She has never given up though. She makes her own hours, and uses her cell phone. She is a stay at home mom, and cares for her mother who is homebound. . I believe this job works for her. I tried it for a brief moment, never had any wierdos, but wasn’t great at promoting myself so the calls were nill. I think that if I was empowered to choose what callers I would accept (no pedo’s or beatiality calls….hell no rape or snuff call either) I could do it. The irony of it is that most of these companies are no taboo companies and you have to agree to being “unihibited”. So that’s that.