Its been ages since my last chat if you remeber my msg about being worried about going to this new school and all that.

But I have been going since (but I didn't go once for one week cause I was too stressed out an all) and I haven met one person who seems nice and we do hang together in school, so I guess that is a good point.

But today she didn't come in and I was just freaking out. (in my head an all) but when stuff like that happens I cannot think straight and I become really really really really shy. And so becuase I am doing hairdressing and every girl their is mostly all in your face, I find it so difficult to get by. And then I get nervous and I just want to go home, but I can't act like a kid anymore becuase they won't give me second chances now that I am 16

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darn I hate socity!!! Just becuase your age is a number, doesn't mean that you are that wise or unwise. I am 16 but I still am to young to do things. The law says that I can do things but in myself I am not able to.

However I did cope but sometimes it gets to too much.

Like when I look at the calender and I realise that half term is SO far away. I just have to try and go day by day, but then I contemplate on things too much.

My life is just too difficult sometimes. I can't bere it. People are scary things, and I am too afraid and shy to properly deal with them. And I get jealous when others can, so I isolate myself even more.

I am sorry that you are going through a rough time. Refresh my memory, are you in therapy or on any meds?

What do you mean by your 16 now and you don't get a second chance? Are you speaking of school?

I am glad you met one friend but please do branch out and try to make some other friends. One person cannot be the only one to count on and call friend. IMHO you need to work on building your self esteem. Please don't worry about the number or the other people. Concentrate on you and how you can grow from this experience.

Your self-esteem is the way you look at yourself. In order to be happy you need to like yourself. If you believe that you are not OK, or if you are constantly putting yourself down, you are more likely to feel depressed, anxious or miserable than someone who has a positive view of themselves.

Turn those thoughts around and believe you are a wonderful and capable person.

I am so happy that you are revisiting HealingWell. I know that you were so nervous about making some friends at school. I am glad that you have found one, I bet that this is your very best friend. But like Kitt says, you should have more than one friend. Even if they are just acquaintances. You can still have one best friend. But you have to learn to believe in yourself. Just because she wasn't there today, doesn't mean that you can't enjoy your day. Just start smiling at people and saying hi. You are always going to find some people that aren't as friendly and somewhat intimadating, but just ignore that. They are miserable inside, that is why they are up in your face. Just do your thing and don't let them get to you.

I hope that you are having a wonderful day,Hugs, Karen Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia

Hi there, I'm a bit older than you but I understand what it's like being really shy. One of the things I did in high school to make small talk was to ask someone in my class who seemed nice, "What did you think of the test?" or "Can you believe how much homework we have?" etc. And sometimes those people became acquaintance or even friends; and even if they didn't, at least I could say that I opened up and tried to be nice.

I had two cousins that were really shy. They would go to parties and stuff and never talk to anybody. But everybody thought that they were stuck up and thought that they were better than anybody else. They couldn't have been farther from the truth.

Sometimes when we are quiet, people think that we don't want to talk. So try to make small talk, or just even smile once in a while. That really helps.