Make this change to your sex life and reap the orgasm-producing benefits, says YourTango.

As much as I've written about spoiling sessions, extended sex dates, and becoming an expert on your partner's sexual arousal, there's something that I feel like I've left out of the good-sex equation: quickies. Bypassing foreplay in favor of having a quickie can be great for both your sex life and your relationship.

It's easy for quickies to get the cold shoulder because they might not open your heart as deeply as longer romps, but on the bright side, they also don't take hours of planning, warm-up, or communication. Sometimes squeezing in some sex against a wall is just what the doctor ordered. Or in a stair well, or in front of a mirror, or on the kitchen counter…you get the picture.

Maybe you and your partner are about to go your separate ways for work and the mood strikes you, or maybe they walk past you in a certain way when you were trying to concentrate on reading your book. Perhaps you haven't seen each other in almost a week because one of you was traveling, and you just need to have each other as soon as you reunite.

Really, it doesn't matter what the reason is. Quickies are simply amazing. Need some convincing to occasionally skip the extended foreplay? Here are the top three reasons why you should incorporate quickies into your sexual repertoire more often.

1. The lack of foreplay can actually be the foreplay.

Imagine this: You step up to a ridiculously high-quality buffet where every single piece of food was created by a world-class chef with three Michelin stars. In scenario one, you have three hours to browse, sample, and nibble on all of the various tastes available to you. It's incredible. You feel so fortunate. And at the end, you're completely full and satisfied. In scenario two, you have access to all of the same high-quality, chef-prepared foods, but there's a timer going and you have FIVE MINUTES to stuff your face with all of this deliciousness. You don't even get cutlery or a plate. Just use your hands and cram it all in there.

The first scenario is what an all-evening, extended sex date feels like. You and your partner both get to take your time and truly savor the experience. But while the second scenario is likely going to be a lot less satiating in terms of total caloric intake, it's also going to feel like one of the most beastly, ravenous gorge-fests in your recent memory. You'll be left sweaty and messy, thinking, "That was amazing. I'm so glad I just dove right in there." That is the nature of the quickie. No planning. No napkins. Little to no manners. Just a sexual pleasure free for all. (This actually might be my favorite metaphor I've come up with to date.)

2. It's that much easier to be selfish.

I've talked before about the light side and dark side of our sexual desires (à la yin and yang). Neither side is wrong, right, or better than the other. They are two halves of the same whole. Most people tend to have a deeper and easier relationship with their light side. So, what does this mean and why is it relevant? It means many people tend to have a bit more reluctance being selfish and taking care of their own sexual needs. That's where quickies come in.

They're one of the best ways to get real, raw, and honest about your sexual needs. Again with the gourmet buffet analogy: If you only have five minutes to grab whatever most appeals to you, you're going to have that much easier of a time being forthcoming and assertive with your desires.

Grab that body part of theirs that you love so much. Touch yourself where you need it to climax as quickly as possible. Put your lips all over them and be greedy about it. Because really, being selfish can be great and healthy sometimes!

3. Quickies reconnect you with your raw desire for your partner.

Whether the majority of your sexual play with your partner is either of the 10-20 minute formulaic lovemaking set or the two- to four-hour extended exploratory style, you may have started to take certain parts of their body for granted just because you're so used to them. In reality, there can be something extremely sexy about "objectifying" your long-term partner. The thing is, the word "objectify" tends to have a demeaning hint to it, which isn't what I'm advocating. This is one thing that I picked up during my years of being in the BDSM/play party scene. It is absolutely possible (and easy, and hot, and loving) to perceive each other as physical beings that bring each other pleasure. Because, let's get real, when you're in the middle of a quickie, you aren't thinking about how moral and kind your partner is, you're latching on to whatever parts of them you need to to get yourself off as quickly as possible. And that's beautiful.

Quickies can be a totally healthy part of any sexual relationship, and even easier to fit into your schedule than longer sessions. Not to mention the bevy of health benefits from having regular sex (healthier skin, better sleep, increased creativity, and overall heart health, just to name a few). On the relationship front, increased sexual frequency also correlates with better communication, and more highly ranked overall relationship satisfaction for both men and women.

So give quickies a shot, especially if it's been a while since your last one. Try it in the morning upon waking, when they've just gotten out of the shower (or while they're still in it), or when one of you is about to go off to work for the day. I would say to put it in your calendar and 'make time' for it, but that's barely even necessary.