Separated from the Spousal Unit - AKA XSU - with two daughters, it seems to make sense to move on from ennuie to some new phase. Restructuring seems to be the way to go to with life. Starting anew. Here's how I am doing it.

Moving on .

I've been blogging for a few years now. Sometimes sporadically sometimes daily, but almost regularly. I have finally separated from XSU and starting to live a new life on my own. The original blog helped me get through the painful process of the end of the marriage, along with some bumpy roads dealing with a critically ill child in the midst of the end of marriage mess. Now this blog will see me through the new paths and adventures that life has to offer. Restructuring my life. My way. My experiences, ventings, musings on that whole big and not so big deal.

November 14, 2010

Sunday Snippets. Idiots everywhere!

"I did not give her a copy of my cartoon. I mentioned it in conversation along with several other ideas (hers as well) that we talked about for cartoons. She drew the cartoon herself. I have not seen it. Do you think that other students are not talking to their friends and maybe even their parents about ideas for cartoons?"

This was the response I got from XSU in reply to an email I sent him telling him that Rebel Junior took an idea of his and made it her own for her philosophy class. The students were told to either write an essay about something or come up with a cartoon that had a philosophical bent to it. When RJ told her father about the assignment he *pulled out* a sheaf of drawings he had - one of which RJ made her own. NOt really plagiarising but not her own original idea either. XSU showed her his drawings, so he's lied. I think that RJ has taken the easy way out by *embellishing* on his idea rather than coming up with her own thoughts and he sees nothing wrong with that. UNbelieveable! sigh... IDIOT!As usual, he completely missed my point. That being said- she should have come up with her own ideas instead of using something of his. I already see him "helping" her with university essays down the road.I'm reading a novel called "The good divorce guide" by Cristina Odone. A British novel - chicklit kind of thing. Mostly enjoying it and would love to help the main character throttle her ex the man who left the stay at home mom for the flashy woman at work. IDIOT! And Rosie finds a man.... post divorce. But then again, she's not yet 40 never mind a tad over 50. Not that I am looking because I am not. Not yet anyway. I am of the opinion what will be will be. I am still learning to be on my own, even though it's been a year. I had dinner with a friend of mine who separated last year as well. She's been in two relationships already. Both have been a bust. IDIOT factor at work again. We had a long heart to heart about her experiences. I suggested to her that she needed to stop worrying about having a man in her life and start figuring out who she was as a person, as a woman and think about getting to know herself. Turns out her counsellor had had her come to the same conclusion that week as well. Pay me the $150 an hour instead! AND her best friend also echoed our thoughts. It is tough though because one worries about being alone But I mantain that if you know yourself, like yourself, and are comfortable in your own skin, the type of person you attract will be very different that what otherwise comes to you if time isn't spent reflecting. The sore back has been slowing me down. The physio therapist told me - not the sacroiliac joint at all but rather a compressed disc at the bottom of my spine that is causing the radiating pain. It seems I will now have to do back exercises for life. So I move slowly. And carefully. No high heels for a while either. THAT'S really cramping my style. I am hoping that this year I can manage to get the house decorated for Christmas a little earlier than a few days before Christmas Eve, my usual M.O. The Christmas boxes are in the far corner of the basement, surrounded by a bunch of other crap. It will take some moving of stuff around, and perhaps it will mean actually getting some of it cleared out instead. Will see how that goes. Now to find someone to hang the outdoor lights before the weather gets really ugly. Hope your week goes well.

1 comment:

Anonymous
said...

Wow. What a loser he is. But you knew that. And what about worth ethic for the young one? geez. Lovely.

I agree. When the time is right your life with develop as it is meant to be.

I hope your back is feeling better at this point. I am relatively pain free after a week of a lot of pain. This getting old bites. And don't even get me started on that whole meno-stop thing. {I refuse to call it menopause. Nothing is pausing, people. It is stopping. ;-)}

Last year I didn't do much decorating. The girl has decided that we should all help each other deco this year. We shall see. I am just happy that Rudy will be here for the holidays! Blissfully happy about it to be exact!

Restructuring by...

About Me

I was stuck in SpousalEnnuie for what seems to be a monumental amount of time. The story started there. Now, that the wrenting of the 25 year relationship is a fait accompli, it is time to move on and deal with a new life - a restructuring. This is the story continued.

Who are the characters?

Marie - that's me. The formerly married, now happily separated, soon to be divorced blogger.XSU- that would be the former spousal unit. AKA SU from my other pre separated blog.FrenchyThe delightful exchange student from France who lived with us for three months. I am sure that RJ corrupted her something fierce.Rebel - the oldest offspring. She was quite sick, had a heart transplant. That too is detailed in the former blogRJ AKA Rebel Junior Offspring, the younger. Somewhat like her older sister, but not really.VNN the new player on the blog. The Very Nice Neighbour. Did I mention he's a widower and we've started dating?