“I find that since everyone's bodies are so different, you have to experiment to find positions that are more comfortable [and also] the more foreplay that's happening, the better the experience!” Drake says.

Double The Foreplay

Women don’t just love foreplay, they require it. “Foreplay is what helps them get ready for sex (both mentally and physically) and makes it more likely that they will achieve orgasm,” says sexologist Dr. Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily podcast, author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. Foreplay becomes especially important when dealing with a larger-than-average penis. “She will NEED to be extremely turned on; the more aroused she is, the more relaxed her vaginal muscles will be and the less resistance your oversized member will meet,” says Morse.

Load Up On Lube

If you've got a larger-than-average member, says Morse, lube will be your very best friend. “Even with a regular-sized penis, lubricant is proven to enhance sexual satisfaction and make sex more pleasurable, but [for] a big guy it is going to be your saving grace,” Morse says. “Lubricant will help with the initial insertion process, and will reduce friction and possible chances of tearing or stretching during sex,” says Morse. Overall, it just makes for a much smoother and easier experience.

It’s OK To Be Shallow

Pick positions that incorporate shallow thrusting, so you do not accidentally hit her cervix or cause her any additional discomfort. “And remember to go five times slower than you think you should. Be gentle and give her as much control as possible until she feels comfortable and is ready to go further,” says Morse.

Now, let's get take a look at some of those positions...

Girl On Top

“The woman on-top position is great for shallow thrusting because it lets her control rate and depth of penetration,” says Morse. It also helps, Morse says, for her to rotate her hips in a circular motion as she moves up and down on your penis, because the outer third of the vaginal canal is the most sensitive and will experience the most pleasure from your penis.

T-Bone

“We get so hung up on penis size, but if you’re putting the penis in a vagina, it’s really about fit as opposed to size. Vaginas also come in different sizes!” says Dr. Jess, Astroglide’s resident sexologist, who recommends the T-Bone as a great shallow position for larger penises (or just simply because you prefer shallow penetration).

“She lies on her back with her knees bent and her feet spread apart flat on the mattress. He lies on his side at a right angle to her body (to form the top of the tee) and slides his body under the bridge of her bent legs. She presses her hips up slightly as he slides in from beneath her. As they rock and thrust in rhythm, their fingers can dance over her clit or they can hold hands and gaze into one another’s eyes,” Dr. Jess explains.

Standing Missionary

Spooning

“Spooning is an optimal position for well-endowed men because it limits thrusting and gives you full control of penetration, allowing you to go as slow as necessary,” says Morse. It is also very intimate and will help you and your partner stay connected through the whole process. Plus, it gives you the opportunity to reach around and play with her clitoris while she becomes accustomed to the feeling of you inside of her, Morse says.

Tread With Care

Be sure to avoid positions like doggy style and wheelbarrow, or anything that involves her legs being in the air. “You do not NEED this type of access, and you run the risk of getting to excited and hurting her with your thrusts. Ouch!” says Morse.

No matter what positions you experiment with together, remember that communication is key, says Morse. “Every penis and every vagina is different, so what works for one couple might not be the best for another. Check in with one another to see what is working and what isn’t, to ensure that a good time is had by all!” Morse says.