Has it occurred to anyone that possibly the woman and her fetus had medical issues that make her drinking a moot point? There are some medical conditions that cause a woman to have to carry to term (no money for pricey abortion) even though the baby cannot and will not suvive upon delivery (if baby is brain dead, etc.). Or maybe it was already dead and she was the lucky winner of 'waiting for her body to begin labor naturally to expell the deceased baby'....these are all very real situations....most pregnant women are not going to be sitting at a bar pounding drinks, even the alcoholic ones...people care about what other people think...except the ones who have nothing left to lose. Mind your own business, people usually have reasons for the choices they make, even if your mind can't conceive of it.

No, it isn't illegal to serve a pregnant woman, and if anyone had tried to deny me my glass of wine, I would have flipped. That being said, it sounds like you overserved her anyway. Who drinks 4 mixed drinks and 2 shot when they are out to eat?? Or was this at a bar?? Either way, you have the right to cut off service to anyone who appears to be intoxicated, regardless of their pregnant status.

Mom of the year right here people! Your are a moron, if you do not see a problem with this. That being said this is the nicest I can be. Sure a 1/2 a glass of red is fine but a whole glass or more. You do not need to breed!

The idiot here is you, Ashley. A half a glass of red is okay but a glass of a white isn't? Are you a buffoon? White is generally less alcoholic, sometimes half the alcohol. Most moscatos are something like 7% or under, where Reds can be up to 14% or so, and even more so with a fortified wine like a Marsala. Besides that, one glass of wine is NOT going to endanger a fetus. What this woman ordered up above, four drinks and two shots, that is irresponsible, but at the same time, this is a FREE country, people can do as they please and it is NOT anyone else's decision to police your life. I get sick of the constant nannying of women and their bodies and the way people think they know better is ridiculous and it is infantilzing. Besides that, we do not know for sure if this woman was really pregnant. She could've looked it, but I know there are some women ( and men for that matter ) who look it and really aren't. Unless a woman is fucking crowning, you do not ask if she's pregnant or not, and you sure as hell don't police her body, even if she is and is a fucking idiot. Her life, her problem.

Renee Heitman The red is considered better by many doctors because of the other health benefits, not the alcoholic content *smh* Don't even get me started on"what a woman wants to do with her body is her business" because when you're making children there is SOOOOOO much wrong with that statement.

Renee Heitman Exactly. I can count the number of people who actually know what they're talking about in these comments on one hand, so it's probably a bad idea to refuse service to someone based on ZERO knowledge of the issue.

Renee I think you're whole laissez-faire attitude is a bit ridiculous. I think you have the wrong idea what is meant by a "free country". It was founded on the basis that every person was born with free unalienable rights to do w.e they want but would have to give some of that up to form a society. This prevents me from stealing other peoples things so they don't steal mine. To make the connection, why should a person be able to harm a fetus without consequence( whether a fetus is considered a person is a different debate)? There is a reason why incest is illegal. Laws can change. Right or Wrong doesn't.

There's a corollary to the right to refuse service. Yes you *can* refuse service to any *person* you want, just not for any *reason* you want. If your state has anti-pregnancy discrimination laws in their legal code enumerating gender equality statutes, it is every bit as illegal to refuse to serve them as it is to refuse service based on race or gender.

Also, one drink isn't harmful to the fetus. It's not the policy to be no-alcohol in a lot of other places, but the reason I learned from a doctor is that most doctors don't trust Americans to have self-control. Pregnant women are sometimes ENCOURAGED to have half a glass of red wine a few nights a week. Having 1-2 drinks a week isn't bad for the baby. More than three drinks in a day is what causes the issues with alcohol.

You have no idea what you are talking about! Just saying, maybe you should research what you are telling people before you comment some random crap. It is NOT okay to drink by any means when pregnant and this is because scientifically we are not sure what the official causes of alcohol are to an unborn fetus (in any dose). Personally I think that if you are a mother who would even dare injuring your child by drinking in the nine months you are pregnant you should not be a mother. Being a mother means you're selfless and if you can't hold off on the alcohol for nine months that's pretty sad.

Its not illegal. However, pretty much all states give bartenders the right to refuse service to anyone they choose, for whatever reason they choose. Is a pregnant woman really going to do something like call the cops on you for not serving her? Because it would be hilarious if she even tried.

It's completely illegal in Canada, any establishment that serves a pregnant woman and gets caught loses their liquor license for 30 days, plus a $5000 fine for the server and a $5000 fine to the restaurant.

In some states it is seen as illegal to not serve a woman simply because she is pregnant and can cost you a civil suit and your job. It is seen as going against the rights of the woman, and God forbid if you are mistaken and she really isn't pregnant and is just fat or has a medical condition. Bottom line, it is always best to speak to your manager if you are uncomfortable with it.

I ordered a glass of wine once and was refused. I lost my mind and asked to speak to a manager who ended up buying me my glass of wine. Its NOT illegal and totally not your place to judge! Your job is to make drinks. IMO

It isn't illegal in Minnesota. HOWEVER, in MN, we can deny ANYONE service WITHOUT reason.

I have had many a pregnant woman order wine from me & I have asked my manager to carry out the order. I will not, in good conscience, serve a pregnant woman alcohol. Good God.... they'd probably find a way to sue me if something happened to their unborn child.

We do have the DRAM SHOP Law, for Pete's Sake. As if people shouldn't be held personally accountable for their own actions while being intoxicated (which is, mind you, self-inflicted).

Ah heck! Let's sue the bartender /server who served them last. *sarcasm*

I was in that predicament a few times with a regular customer I had. I made my boss serve her,because serving shots of tequila & margaritas to a very pregnant woman made my stomach turn. My boss respected my decision & served the woman herself. If you have ever seen the lifelong,irreversible,very severe damage caused by fetal alcohol syndrome,you would not ever knowingly serve a pregnant woman....and as far as that pregnant woman goes, I can just imagine how awful that kid's life will be.

My first question is how did you know the lady was pregnant? I've been a server and had an obviously pregnant woman order a drink. I served it to her and then told my co-workers that I couldn't believe the woman was drinking alcohol only to find out that she wasn't pregnant....she had delivered her baby several months before. In today's world it isn't politically correct to assume someone is pregnant unless they share that info with you.

That was my first thought too! How did the server know for sure the woman was pregnant? That being said, I'm glad I'll never be pregnant because I'm not sure what I'd do if other people didn't want me drinking for three quarters of a year... LoL

In Oregon, refusing to serve a pregnant woman can get you fired and sued. You can ask a manager to serve her, if you simply say you're "not comfortable" serving her, but you cannot discriminate against someone because she is pregnant. It's illegal discrimination.

It's not illegal to serve a pregnant woman alcohol, just like it's not illegal for a pregnant woman to drink alcohol. It's really, really stupid, but unfortunately not illegal (to drink while pregnant, I mean).

My doctor told me to avoid all alcohol in the first trimester when the fetus is doing the majority of its developing, but after that, a glass of wine a week is fine. I would be livid had a person denied me my glass of wine with my dinner. That being said, this person appears to have overserved this woman anyway.

It's not really stupid, Tara, because we live in a free country where we're supposed to be allowed to make our own fucking decisions ourselves, versus being reduced to incubators. If a woman who is pregnant wants to drink, then I guess she can suffer the consequences, but it's not for the law to decide. Besides that, what do you do when a woman walks into a bar and looks pregnant and isn't? Do you make her take a pregnancy test in the bar's bathroom? This is what the fuck is wrong with this country. Everyone has their noses in everyone else's business.

Renee I think you're whole laissez-faire attitude is a bit ridiculous. I think you have the wrong idea what is meant by a "free country". It was founded on the basis that every person was born with free unalienable rights to do w.e they want but would have to give some of that up to form a society. This prevents me from stealing other peoples things so they don't steal mine. To make the connection, why should a person be able to harm a fetus without consequence( whether a fetus is considered a person is a different debate)? There is a reason why incest is illegal.

It is not illegal to serve a pregnant woman alcohol if she asks for it. Just like selling them cigarettes. People are responsible for their own behavior. I can't believe I said that with a straight face!

It probably varies by state. But i know in Nebraska, it is not illegal, but you do not have to serve them, you can refuse. But the establishment cannot refuse service. You personally just do not have to be a part if it.