What makes someone like this...ridiculously calm

There's this work colleague that works in my office. She's been here 6 months now. 'm not in love with her (honest) 😂

But I find her fascinating to watch! She just has very very serene mannerisms and an incredibly calm presence. Her movements are completely soft and seem to just flow! She reminds me of a calm breeze!

I've never met anyone like it before. She's so calm she had a calming effect on others too! I find myself feeling calm in her presence and when she works with distressed angry service users she has managed to turn them all into polite, calm young people within a few meetings with her. If people do get angry with her it's like speaking to a brick wall. She shows NO emotion and quickly people feel bad and apologise to her or make an effort to be normal/nice again. She simply doesn't do conflict. If someone talks badly about her, betrays her or generally does something most people would shout at them for, she literally doesn't react at all. Just continues being friendly to the person and forgets about it.

I've never met someone like this. I've met shy people who are quiet because hey lack confidence. But she doesn't. She is extroverted and chatty. Likes to have a laugh but just has completely and utterly calm mannerisms and way of speaking. It's almost like she is in slow motion!!!

Has you ever met anyone like this? What makes someone like this? Upbringing?

I've met someone who was utterly nice to everyone. You really wanted to spend time with her as she was so delightful.At the same time you'd want to shake her because, say, the irritating twat at work didn't bother her! Nothing seemed to bother her and she could excuse any behaviour. Partly, I think, because it didn't happen to her because she was so nice!

She's sounds wonderful - no wonder you are in awe of her. We need more calm, serene people like this on the planet. Why are they so few and far between. <you can be forgiven for having a crush on her!>.

Actually, I know someone who is almost exactly as you describe. Possibly even the same person. Underneath it all she's incredibly self centres. Literally centred on herself. Other people can't irritate her because she thinks so little of them (in the sweetest possible way). Therefore the stakes are very low for her when other people blow up at her. Easy to remain calm when you literally don't give a shit about the other person's opinions about you. I imagine thats The Queen's secret too!

I do actually get a bit flustered at times, but I am told it never shows. I don't do anger, although I am confident and assertive.The way she appears is maybe not how she feels- it may not be deliberate though.