9 Tricks to Feeling More Comfortable in Bed

After a few years of marriage and baby or two, your body's changed. But, don't let this natural course of events kill your self-esteem. If getting it on is getting you nervous, these surefire ways will amp up your between-the-sheets confidence.

Speak up outside the bedroom

Speak up outside the bedroom

You've gotten comfortable — maybe a little too comfortable — with your sex routine. Certain er, books have got you thinking about adding some kink, but you're afraid to mess with something that works. "Try broaching the subject in a different setting where you can express your desires in a more relaxed way," suggests Emma Taylor, coauthor of Buh Bye: The Ultimate Guide to Dumping and Getting Dumped. "Cuddle up to him while watching a sexy scene on TV and whisper, 'I hope we'll try that tonight.'" He'll be receptive to your feedback, no matter when you offer it.

Fake it till you make it

Fake it till you make it

You used to be wild when you first started dating your guy, but lately things have turned tame. Transform back into the tigress you once were by playing a game of pretend. "Even if it scares you, just do it — make the movements to get on top, pin him against the wall, whatever you'd like to do," says Taylor. "By simply going through the motions, taking charge will start to feel normal, and you'll be more confident for real."