Joining QZ has recently reinvigorated my first musical love, so a quick Amazon visit, and i have some CD versions of my trusty and dodgy old cassette Queen albums. Tonight I play play Queen II and when it gets to Fairy Fella / Nevermore / Black Queen, I tell my wife, "..sit down and listen to this, it really is amazing, complex, beautiful..." blah, blah... So she sits, opens a book, and basically ignores the music (on my $3000 hi-fi!!!) - In frustration i ask, "..why aren`t you listening?.." "I don`t like this kind of music, I appreciate its complex but I want to watch American Idol..."

So thats what she`s doing right now.

Do I admit now, we are incompatible, and divorce? Is it possible to respect someone that can ignore timeless, classic music in favour of 3rd rate trashy performance? *dazed and confused*

It's frustrating but there's nothing you can do about it. You can't force anyone to like something you like. That's why we're here, when the people around us can't appreciate this kind of music, we share our passion with other queenzoners.

I'm presuming you're not *really* going to leave your wife over Queen II. LOL But you know there is a lot of truth in the feeling of wanting people we like to like the things we do. Music in particular is so often used as a means of connection and shared passion. Several years ago one of the most passionate and certain courtships of my life was conducted in no small part through the long distance sharing of songs. I was thinking about him just last night, and thinking that we were among the last people to do it like we did, before the YouTube generation made sharing music as easy as sharing a link. Then you had to wait to upload it, wait to download it, and there was a certain anticipation and commitment to the process that deepened the sense of a shared but private experience. Conversely, there have definitely been times I have perceived something like loneliness because my significant other wasn't moved or inspired by the things that evoke some sense of passion in me. So all in all I think it's just part of life.

ActionFletch wrote: Joining QZ has recently reinvigorated my first musical love, so a quick Amazon visit, and i have some CD versions of my trusty and dodgy old cassette Queen albums. Tonight I play play Queen II and when it gets to Fairy Fella / Nevermore / Black Queen, I tell my wife, "..sit down and listen to this, it really is amazing, complex, beautiful..." blah, blah... So she sits, opens a book, and basically ignores the music (on my $3000 hi-fi!!!) - In frustration i ask, "..why aren`t you listening?.." "I don`t like this kind of music, I appreciate its complex but I want to watch American Idol..."

So thats what she`s doing right now.

Do I admit now, we are incompatible, and divorce? Is it possible to respect someone that can ignore timeless, classic music in favour of 3rd rate trashy performance? *dazed and confused*

I'm not married, but I'd have just slapped her across the face. Sometimes ya gotta get yer message across, ya know?? Maybe mention the fact that you're wondering why you married her in the first place. ;)

J

"There are three kinds of people: those who can count, and those who can't."

Quality music is like quality food or wine. It is an acquired taste over many years of dedicated listening. It's not for everybody, and it's certainly no reason to break up a marriage ! Although it would be a great story to tell the kids..

"The more generous you are with your music, the more it comes back to you." -- Dan Lampinski

When I first got with my partner Phillippa, I told her instantaniously about my passion for Queen music - it's one of the first things I feel I *have* to do when getting involved with someone, just to let them know just how important the music, as well as the collecting, is to me. Her response - "oh, fuck no, not another one" (her dad is a big fan, and had pretty much all the albums). I thought "great", we're going to get on like a house on fire lol. But actually, we did, and still do. Her musical taste, AFAIC, is up her arse. Or , at least, I used to think that way! For I have started getting into some of the stuff she likes - like REM and Arcade Fire. On the flipside, I have noticed small things like her going around humming Innuendo, wanting to go to see WWRY and Gary Mullen, and waiting outside theatres for 5 hours in the cold to meet Brian May. It's kinda just worked it's way into her life. Eventually, it will with your mrs, too. And if it doesn't, then live and let live, as another poster has said.

Btw, although I spend a great deal of my time listening to them, watching them, reading/ typing about them and generally thinking Queen, there's room for American Idol and the X factor too!

It ain't about how hard you can hit, it's about how hard you can get hit: how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!

The story is genuine but the sentiment is a piss-take as you might have realised if you`d understood GratefulFans` comment or my original vibe. But after reading numerous threads, thats also the danger of joining QZ - there really IS a lot of "idiots"?

I assume you`re looking for a reaction? Like anyone (including myself) who posts on the internet.

I find it ridiculous, anyways. If people can't enjoy great music, then it's not so great... right? What's the point in having THE BEST SONG EVER if nobody likes it or if you really think you need some knowledge to appreciate it. Of course everything needs some knowledge to appreciate it better but shouldn't it be the only thing.

I mean, we're suppossed to like good music because it should be tasteful as well.

If 28734623345 persons like Somebody to Love, that doesn't make them people with good taste... it makes them "normal" xD

Benn wrote: THE most ridiculous title for a thread I've seen in a long while.

What do you care whether anyone likes it or not? And what's your response.......head home, stick the original vinyl on and wank furiously, screaming that you love this music?

Idiot. ============================================================================================= Whoah, steady on. Unlike your rather over-the-top response, the original post was only tongue-in-cheek. In fact, one of the first things I said to my mrs (ironically because she didn't like Queen II) was "what am I going to do with you?". It's just a saying mate, calm down.

It ain't about how hard you can hit, it's about how hard you can get hit: how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!