sara smith

What should I do?

So I have an issue with my friend. Idk how to put this but the story is a few months ago when my mother assed away I was really upset and one of my bffs wasn't there for me (actualy quiet a few weren't) anyways I forgave her this past week she found out this guy she liked had a gf but she lied to him about her age but anyways she was upset like super upset and she expected me to be her shoulder to cry on. That kinda (excuse me but) pissed me of big time, idk wat to do. It aggravates me to know that I'm a good friend when she needs me but when I need her I'm nothing. So I just want dune advice on how to deal with this. Is it not a big deal, am I overreacting, should ignore it,address the prob. Pls help I have no idea what to do

Answers

U should talk to her..I got this a lot,but I just change my attitude.Just talk to her and explain what u feel,do not get into an argue,just talk..Maybe she's not so big on the words,but her presence is enough,but if she wasn't present also then it's a problem.Talk to her :))

In my opinion, when someone we love dies, it is hard for a friend to be there. Since it isn't their family they don't know what you are going through. But also, they can't read minds if you needed them there. If you needed her, you need to call her and such. In the real world, girls can be bff's, but it will never be legit unless it is a close bond that goes through life. Girls have other friends and problems of their own and over time the bond can get weak. They do have lives also and some would rather live their own life and do what they do on a regular basis other than going over a friend's house or comforting someone. In this world, though we have close friends, we will always think of ourselves first and resume our days of what we wanna do rather than maybe I should go over my friend's house because she wants me to. She did need you but in my opinion, that guy drama is stupid and a waste of time. She should have been a friend to you when your mom died, but remember, if you did really need her, you had to tell her. You can't expect people to read minds. I had many bff's whose loved ones died, but they never asked me to be there because they understood that I have my separate life still and that it wasn't my family so there was no need to get involved in the situation. Hope this helps clear things up.

We were really close and are families are really close they didn't even come to the funeral. All of my friends no I hate asking for things and I get that she has a life. I already gave her the other fish in the sea he doesn't deserve u speech earlier. Its doesn't bother me that she wasn't there it bugs me that I'm a good friend wen it's conveirnt for her