The authors of the research, from the University of Wisconsin, said films and television programmes had helped instill the idea that normal friends could become "friends with benefits" - that is, who have sex with each other.

Is there a single person left on the planet who really needs an explanation of the term "friends with benefits"?

miss diminutive:The authors of the research, from the University of Wisconsin, said films and television programmes had helped instill the idea that normal friends could become "friends with benefits" - that is, who have sex with each other.

Is there a single person left on the planet who really needs an explanation of the term "friends with benefits"?

What, like a friend who comes with dental and vision? Kids are into weird stuff these days.

Sure, maybe if you're 25...but if you're 45 with a wife and kids it becomes tiresome and annoying to think with your dick 24/7, so at that point you can establish perfectly good friendships with women but Ann in HR is bent over the copier and dear LORD what I wouldn't give to wreck that for twelve or thirteen seconds.

The only people that need to read this is 20-something women that really think the guys they hang out with wouldn't go for it if they could. Recently a pair of coworkers cracked my up with whole we're only friends when they snuggled up together while getting a smoke. The girl gave me a strange look, but later when I had the guy alone I asked him, how long before he ask her out. He tried playing it off, probably thinking I would run my mouth and blow it for him, but he finally admitted he was considering it. The other young guys usually admit to that alot faster, but follows up with 'she has a boyfriend'. Any woman who doesn't already knows this, should not be surprised when a guy-friend gets tired of waiting and walks away.

My wife doesn't always believe it either, but I watch the guys who talk to her at work. Some of them are pervs.

Rincewind53:My best friend is a woman, and the thought of having sex with her is like the thought of having sex with a sister. No. Thanks.

I'm curious, are you married or in a long term relationship with another woman? My friends and I were discussing this very scenario the other day and some of them said straight up that they wouldn't date a man who's best friend is a woman.I thought that was pretty extreme, especially since many of them are hypocritically best friends with other guys (who, according to this article at least, probably want to bone them).

Well, here's the thing -- either the women are unattractive, in which case I wouldn't want to have sex with them, or they're attractive, in which case they wouldn't want to have sex with me. That makes it quite easy to just have friendly relationships with women without any threat of sexual tension.

Incontinent_dog_and_monkey_rodeo:ranold: Rincewind53: Certainly true for some people, but the idea that men are only friends with women because they want to get into their pants is utter hogwash. Hogwash, I say.

My best friend is a woman, and the thought of having sex with her is like the thought of having sex with a sister. No. Thanks.

Rincewind53:Certainly true for some people, but the idea that men are only friends with women because they want to get into their pants is utter hogwash. Hogwash, I say.

My best friend is a woman, and the thought of having sex with her is like the thought of having sex with a sister. No. Thanks.

The majority of my friends are guys. We've known each other going on 23 now, all met as pre-teens. And as I do realize that each and every one of them at some point during that 23 years has wanted something more, it never happened; and everyone... you know, grew up. Since we did grow up together and became adults together we're all family. That same thought they had as teenagers would revolt them as incestuous now.

I've been friends with all sorts of guys. Different personalities, different goals and drive in life. Like from the "I wanna be a washed-up drug addict" to "decent guy with aspirations, wife and kids" kinds of guys, plus quite a bit in between. What does that say about me?

I have a couple of close women friends. Things have gotten... Awkward in the past, but for the most part, we've been honest about this kind of thing and decided that to pursue anything would be a remarkably bad idea and has the potential to ruin a bunch of innocent lives. That being said, if all spouses involved were raptured and my women friends and I were left behind, I don't think there'd be a lot of hesitation.

jennies1897:I've been friends with all sorts of guys. Different personalities, different goals and drive in life. Like from the "I wanna be a washed-up drug addict" to "decent guy with aspirations, wife and kids" kinds of guys, plus quite a bit in between. What does that say about me?

It says you're 116 years old and putting your phone number on bathroom stalls is not working.

lack of warmth:The only people that need to read this is 20-something women that really think the guys they hang out with wouldn't go for it if they could. Recently a pair of coworkers cracked my up with whole we're only friends when they snuggled up together while getting a smoke. The girl gave me a strange look, but later when I had the guy alone I asked him, how long before he ask her out. He tried playing it off, probably thinking I would run my mouth and blow it for him, but he finally admitted he was considering it. The other young guys usually admit to that alot faster, but follows up with 'she has a boyfriend'. Any woman who doesn't already knows this, should not be surprised when a guy-friend gets tired of waiting and walks away.

My wife doesn't always believe it either, but I watch the guys who talk to her at work. Some of them are pervs.normal males.

CapeFearCadaver:Rincewind53: Certainly true for some people, but the idea that men are only friends with women because they want to get into their pants is utter hogwash. Hogwash, I say.

My best friend is a woman, and the thought of having sex with her is like the thought of having sex with a sister. No. Thanks.

The majority of my friends are guys. We've known each other going on 23 now, all met as pre-teens. And as I do realize that each and every one of them at some point during that 23 years has wanted something more, it never happened; and everyone... you know, grew up. Since we did grow up together and became adults together we're all family. That same thought they had as teenagers would revolt them as incestuous now.

This is how women think. Guys know however that if it was offered they would hit it like the fist of an angry god simply because at one point they wanted to and that NEVER goes away until about 3 seconds afterward. Guys learn to say "Oh, I would never do that now, I think of you as a sister" because you would not accept any other answer and they have to say that if they hold a chance of keeping you as a friend and then over time getting into your pants.

Ninja Otter:Researchers found that single and attached women had the same level of attraction to their male friends - but attached women only wanted something more if their own relationship was on the rocks.

So... exactly the same as men.

Unless you believe men are the majority of cheaters... but then who are they cheating with?

It was written for the naive idiots who think that men and women can get along without involving sex somehow. Everyone knows that there is no such thing as platonic relationships between two different genders. Think about it, why do you think we held off on having women serve in combat all this time - they gunk up the works!

Bashar and Asma's Infinite Playlist:miss diminutive: The authors of the research, from the University of Wisconsin, said films and television programmes had helped instill the idea that normal friends could become "friends with benefits" - that is, who have sex with each other.

Is there a single person left on the planet who really needs an explanation of the term "friends with benefits"?

What, like a friend who comes with dental and vision? Kids are into weird stuff these days.

This study proved zilch other than the fact that men ADMIT to more on surveys. My best chick friend has a tendency to deny up one side and down the other that she has any interest in Guy X, right up until she's single and seeking him out, at which point she'll go on and on about how she's been wanting to be with him since they first met.

Women are just more used to hiding their true intentions. We need a study like this that actually measures arousal levels in the brain to see if women truly are so different from men in this regard.

Insaniteus:This study proved zilch other than the fact that men ADMIT to more on surveys. My best chick friend has a tendency to deny up one side and down the other that she has any interest in Guy X, right up until she's single and seeking him out, at which point she'll go on and on about how she's been wanting to be with him since they first met.

Women are just more used to hiding their true intentions. We need a study like this that actually measures arousal levels in the brain to see if women truly are so different from men in this regard.

I don't think we're all that different, really. I think the main difference I've noticed is that women (myself included) simply won't put up with being in the "friend zone" for as long men will. If I'm interested in a guy and we become friends I eventually move on and set my sights on someone else if things don't progress after a certain amount of time. On the other hand, I know guys who'll be friends with a woman they want for years and years even though it's been made pretty clear that she has no interest in pursuing a romantic relationship.