I've always found it fascinating to watch NFPs scramble for INTJs. Reminds me of a wedding bouquet fisticuffs.

Maybe I am...

However, it's also just that my sense of humor has always been dark like that, even since late childhood, and I encounter so few people IRL that even appreciate it, let alone are capable of orchestrating that type of humor.

These lines annoy me for some reason (actually the lyrics of the whole song annoy me):

You're on the phone with your girlfriend, She's upset
She's going off about something that you said
She doesn't get your humor like I do

I mean I know why they annoy me and it's along the same lines that this thread annoys me.

This isn't directed at you necessarily marm, your comments have just triggered something in my mind.

Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.Interpersonal Communication Theories and ConceptsSocial Penetration Theory 1Social Penetration Theory 2Social Penetration Theory 3

My Daddy wasn't either. I can't imagine anyone looking back on his life and simply saying he was such a nice guy. Quite a few people, including his own family, laugh and mention (with love) what an asshole he could be. I have a hard time accepting the stereotype that ISTJs are "nice guys." However, he was very responsible, loyal to his family, and capable of deep love for particular individuals. That's nice.

[QUOTE=marmalade.sunrise;1021132]My Daddy wasn't either. I can't imagine anyone looking back on his life and simply saying he was such a nice guy. Quite a few people, including his own family, laugh and mention (with love) what an asshole he could be. I have a hard time accepting the stereotype that ISTJs are "nice guys." However, he was very responsible, loyal to his family, and capable of deep love for particular individuals. That's nice.[/QUOTE]