His Girlfriend Robbed Him Blind

March 19, 2013

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Toxic Sister?

Rebecca says her sister, Pamela, has repeatedly betrayed her by sleeping with the important men in her life, including her ex-husband, her child's father and even her current boyfriend. Rebecca confides that she feels so scorned that she now has a difficult time trusting anyone. Pamela admits that she has made mistakes but says she's tired of feeling guilty, and she feels Rebecca needs to forgive her and move on.

“The betrayal began when I was 19 and has been going on for 20-plus years.”

Dr. Phil has a problem with something Pamela says during a commercial break.

“You are being your own worst enemy,” Dr. Phil tells Rebecca. “You are being your biggest obstacle. I intend to change that today. I intend to set you free. I intend to give you a new playbook. I intend to give you what you need to win and win big in your life.” Dr. Phil explains to Rebecca that she’s blaming how she feels on her sister, when it’s really up to her.

He tells the siblings, “You two have a toxic relationship. It takes two to have a relationship, and you two have defined this as toxic.”

Dr. Phil tells Rebecca, “If you want to win in your life, you’ve got to change the way you’re playing the game. Sometimes, we engage with people who just don’t have characteristics that merge well with us.” Dr. Phil explains that these people, whom he calls BAITERs, are outlined in his book, Life Code, and they include backstabbers, takers and exploiters. “If you’ve got people like this in your life, what do you need to do?”

“Get away from them,” Rebecca says.

Dr. Phil outlines the 16 tools that successful people use to win big in life and how Rebecca can apply them to herself. “You deserve better.”

Robbed Blind

Steve says that over the last five years, his girlfriend, Megan, has stolen nearly a half million dollars from him. Megan admits to taking the money but says she did it for a good reason.

“Are you a slow learner?” Dr. Phil asks Steve.

Steve isn’t the only one Megan stole from. Is she remorseful?

Dr. Phil asks Steve, “What do you want to know?”

Steve asks, “What about the money? When is it coming back?”

Dr. Phil answers, “It’s not coming back. You can kiss it goodbye. You’re not ever going to see it again. Embezzlers don’t pay money back.”

Dr. Phil tells Steve, "You’ve got some illusion here that there is a virtue in tolerance of toxic behavior." He explains that Steve may feel like he’s being nice, but really, he’s enabling Megan to continue to do something that may land her in prison someday. He tells Steve that he’s probably not the only one Megan has stolen from, and Steve agrees, saying someone once told him, “Be careful with her; she’ll rob you blind.”

Learn why Dr. Phil says you should never give people the benefit of the doubt. And, what can Steve do to protect himself?