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Dr. Gary Chapmanâauthor, speaker, pastor, and counselorâhas a passion for people and for helping them build lasting relationships. He is an internationally recognized marriage counselor and the author of The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, which has been translated into 50 languages and has sold more than 11 million copies worldwide. Now, Dr. Chapman has teamed up with health education specialist Deborah Barr, and physician and mental health counselor Edward Shaw, MD to write Keeping Love Alive as Memories Fade: The 5 Love Languages and the Alzheimerâs Journey. The book offers an innovative new application of the five love languages as tools that can help us sustain an emotional relationship with a parent or partner with Alzheimerâs. Please visit Dr. Gary Chapman online at www.5LoveLanguages.com.
There’s a touching scene between a son and his aging mother in the new movie, Collateral Beauty. She starts a conversation that lacks a basis in current reality. Her son does something I’ve never seen before. Instead of trying to bring her back to his reality, he joins her fantasy world and keeps their connection alive with his open loving heart. He took what could have been a frustrating and potentially anger-filled interaction and made it into a joyful one. Alzheimer’s is a growing problem. Forty-seven million people worldwide are afflicted with the disease. It takes an enormous toll on the care-givers, who are usually the spouses or children. Most cannot afford private care and do not have access to paid social services. The result is that 40% of care-givers fall into a clinical depression. The positive feelings from a loving act reduce the patient’s agitation, which lightens the caregiver’s burden. Please join us Thursday to learn how to share love in a way that benefits everyone.

This week, Lauren will be sharing self-care and maintenance of the Heart Chakra, or the 4th Chakra. It exists in the center of your chest. It is the central place that Love flows through. It is all that is Love and compassion, connection, and integration. The Heart Chakra resonates with a beautiful, bright emerald green. Balancing this chakra will help you find more joy and inspiration with interactions in daily life than you have been able to before.

Iâve been having conversations recently with a friend. He truly wants to find and enjoy a long term committed relationship. His relationship experience is dotted with disappointment and hurt. He recently met someone new and they clicked.
In one breath, he tells me about their amazing connection. They enjoy spending time together, talking, intimacy, just hanging out. They’re very attracted to each other, yet it’s much more than physical. He spends a lot of time telling me about their connection in some detail. They have similar values, think similarly, yet they also have some differences.
Then he says âshe is a unicornâ. By definition a unicorn is a fantasy, âa mythical animal typically represented as a horse with a single straight horn projecting from its forehead.â He follows this up saying âshe seems perfect for me. There must be something Iâm not seeing. I keep looking for what’s wrong with her. She is too good to be true.â
Have you ever met someone amazing and thought that very same thing? âToo Good to Be True?â It could be with a relationship, a friendship, a job, the way your life is flowing. Anything.
I had a time when I felt this way too. It wasnât when I met and dated my husband. It was later AFTER we married. Weird, I know.
When you say âitâs too good to be true,â You’re questioning what is coming into your life because of your own lack of or limited belief in self-love, self-worth. You feel self-doubt which causes you to resist change, looking for “the other shoe to drop” effect, instead of embracing change.
Your limiting belief is two-fold (or more):
1) You’re missing some of the enjoyment of your relationship by focusing on some unforeseen problem (fear, anxiety) that may not ever happen. That is creating fear in you and causes you to âping pongâ. Yes, I am in. No, I am afraid. Yes, I am in. No, I am afraid. The ping ponging changes the magnetic energy around you as well as your behavior and it can feel confusing to someone else without them understanding why.
For my friend, it comes out in his relationship when they discuss their relationship histories. He wants to know, he doesnât want to know. Then he hears something that concerns him and thinks he may have found âthe other shoeâ, but he doesnât really want to find the other shoe. And then these feelings drape themselves over his girlfriend and she becomes sensitive and upset. Meanwhile he doesnât understand why she is upset. This can lead to drama, unnecessary drama, instead of enjoying each moment and the now.
2) What are you truly afraid of? Why do you feel you do not deserve this happiness and love? He has been hurt in the past. Does that sound familiar? He says maybe he isnât meant to be with someone. Which is as close to saying âmaybe I donât deserve to be with someoneâ, âmaybe Iâm not loveableâ. My friend has a harder time going to this place. That is so common. Who wants to sit in feelings of âIâm not worthyâ and âIâm not loveableâ. And yet, even not addressing them, they take hold in your life. And they can decimate your relationships if you engage or speak from lack.
When you have full love and belief in yourself, you stop resisting, surrender and embrace change. Then you move past the âis this really happening?; Is this real?; Is this something I deserve? And you just say…YES.
If you feel âit is too good to be true?â or you wait for the âother shoe to dropâ? What do you do about it? Do you do anything about it or silently suffer?
You can put an end to these silent and shared conversations. You can quiet your fear. It is so possible. I didnât always believe it. Through my own healing and the support and guidance I share with and teach to my clients, Iâve seen and experienced it.
And if you are ready to look at your life from a possibility of: anything is possible and life has many possibilities. I invite you to a complimentary call with me Touching Your Inner Guidance. Just click the link below and weâll talk about what you are done with and ready to leave behind; what you want for yourself and can so have; and how what I do can support and guide you to those extraordinary possibilities.

September 7: True Friends
Most people underestimate how much others appreciate their friendship. Join the Kanes and relax into your ability to be inspired and be an inspiration without having to âdoâ anything. Callers welcome at Tel# 1-866-472-5795!

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How you train your body is how you hold your body in life. Spending the day crouched over a computer creates a crouched-over posture. This hides the heart, closes the solar plexus and tightens the hip complex. Stand in front of your partner with a closed-down heart, weakened power center and immobile hips and there will be an impact on the quality of loving energy available.

Implement daily exercise strengthening your back muscles to hold the heart open, increasing lung capacity bringing more life force into the body, and flexibility training to unleash the hips improving the grounded power of the lower body. Now show up in front of a loved one with an open heart, full power center and more life force. What might be possible in that love dynamic with all that energy flowing that was not possible when the key power centers were closed? This is one important aspect of the literal âyogaâ of intimacy.

Justin Patrick Pierce and Londin Angel Winters:
Justin and Londin are co-founders of Metaphysical Fitness, an online fitness company specializing in body, mind and spirit training. Both Justin and Londin are NASM Certified master trainers with decades of experience working in the body. They marry to this expertise a decade of study in the esoteric arts, including a deep focus in sexual yoga. They offer weekly in-person classes in Los Angeles, CA, as well as online programs training the divine feminine and masculine embodiments.
www.MetaphysicalFitness.com

Jennifer Henry is passionate about her ability to offer spiritual readings! A reading is a reflection of a personâs “inner process.” It will reflect back to them the deeper meaning behind whatever challenges they may be facing, and through that understanding, come to greater levels of self-love and compassion for others. Readings also offer reassurance about their soul’s journey, and guidance about their highest path and next steps.

They offer insights and understanding about whatever topic is on their mind, help them heal from hardships and loss, and also discover the emotional component that is contributing to health concerns. A spiritual reading also proves that there really is no such thing as death, and that our soul never dies.

Part 2 of practical tools to de-program and then reprogram the spiritual heart. We have already discussed the tool to heal energy issues through the body. Now we discuss the tools that targets the mind and spirit.

Do you keep lists of your partnerâs transgressions â or even of your own? Ready to live your life unencumbered by resentments and regrets? Tune in to Being Here and ignite the fire to burn those lists â no matches required. Callers welcome at Tel# 1-866-472-5795!

Award-winning actor, coach, and writer Benson Simmonds joined me on âTurn the Pageâ to discuss his recently published book, âSOULAR POWER Â â Unlocking the Eight Gates to Joy and Abundance,â which reflects his 20 years of study in the dramatic arts, Kabbalah, Eastern Philosophy, and Mysticism. Listen to this episodeÂ to access greater meaning, joy, and success in your life.

Benson expanded upon our conversation after the show, by sharing how you can apply the key tactics he offered to the process of making âgoodâ decisions. If youâre generally decisive and find yourself in new waters with an unprecedented anxiety or conflict thatâs causing you to feel âstuck,â this approach will help you to move forward with greater peace of mind. If you frequently Â have a hard time making decisions, Bensonâs âten stepsâ will teach you how to choose more quickly, and with greater confidence.

Hereâs what he taught me—in his own words:

Weâve all been there – gripped by fear when needing to make an important decision. Weâre afraid of making the âwrongâ choice, or one that will result in a negative outcome for ourselves or someone else. Whether youâre making business decision, considering whether to leave or stay in a relationship, making choices regarding your health, school, or even what color shoes to buy, the underlying constant is that feeling for fear. When in fear, you are in worrier (ego) mode, as opposed to warrior (soul) mode, that place from which you can tap into the power of your soul. You soul is your untapped brain potential, that part of you that is connected to a divine source of unlimited joy, love and expansion.

What about the old, âmake a list of pros and cons, so you can detach emotionallyâ approach? That strategy removes your emotions instead of inspiring you to use your emotional intelligence, which you actually need to make the best decision.

So what is the key to making a good decision? Shifting out of fear and into love, which is of course an emotional state. Shifting from ego to soul, from worrier to warrior. Here are the 10 simple and profound steps you can take to make your best decision.

STEP ONE
When you are in ego/fear mode the overwhelming message you receive is âlack and limitation.â This message conveys that there is never enough, and that you are not enough. To shift, take a deep breath and say, âI AM ENOUGH. THIS MOMENT IS ENOUGH.â As you do this, youâll immediately begin to slow down the ego/worrier self and connect with your soul. The overriding message of the soul is âYOU ARE ENOUGHâ and âthere is always enough,â so you WONâT be limited or losing out regardless of which decision you make.

STEP TWO
Realize that you can choose to tap into something larger than yourself, your soul. By making this choice and stating out loud, âI CHOOSE TO MAKE THIS A SOULAR POWERED DECISION,â youâll expand past the information thatâs available through your ego/fear. Instead, youâll tap into a power that has a wealth of data beyond the âfactsâ as you see them. Youâll surpass âblack and white thinking,â which limits your choices, to âFULL SPECTRUM THINKING,â which opens you up to new possibilities. Your decision will be informed by the deeper wisdom youâre able to access through this expanded view.

STEP THREE
Ask yourself: âWhat are five to ten things I LOVE about myself?â Â Be sure to state your answers out loud and use âI LOVEâ¦â in every sentence. For example, âI LOVE my sense of humor. I LOVE my intelligence. I LOVE that Iâm a survivor. I LOVE that I try to be kind,â etc. By focusing on what you LOVE, youâll shift out of fear and into love (become a LOVE GENERATOR instead of a LOVE SEEKER), which will help you to make the best decision.

STEP FOUR
Convey GRATITUDE STATEMENTS that express thanks for your shift to âwarrior:â âThank you (God, universe, the divine, higher powers, etc.) for the ease with which Iâve released my need to make the right decision.â By repeating this a few times, youâll liberate the pressure your ego/worrier side has placed upon you and begin to feel a newfound ease about the decision. Hereâs another version of a gratitude statement: âThank you God (divine, etc.) for the ease which with Iâve made the right decision.â

STEP FIVE
Envision yourself within the PYRAMID OF PROTECTION: Imagine that youâre sitting or standing inside a four-walled, three-dimensional pyramid. There is a wall slanting up to a point above your head on all four sides of you. The floor is the fifth wall. Divine light from above infuses the walls of the pyramid with unconditional love and joy. Feel yourself and the inside of the pyramid becoming enveloped in divine light. From inside the pyramid say, âI am now connected to and protected by the divine.â

STEP SIX
While in the pyramid of protection, say, âEVERY DECISION I MAKE IS NOW FOR THE SAKE OF THE DIVINE.â By repeating this statement within the pyramid, youâll take even more of the pressure off. You can also say, âEVERYTHING I DO IS NOW FOR THE SAKE OF THE DIVINE.â By doing this, youâll remind yourself, that itâs not about you; itâs about what you can contribute.

STEP SEVEN
When you make a soular powered decision, youâll CHOOSE THE OPTION THAT FEELS THE MOST EXPANSIVE. Simply stated, fear contracts and love expands. When you are afraid, your body pulls inward and in that moment, itâs all about you. When you are feeling love, you naturally expand your arms and want to share, celebrate and contribute. Now, take a moment to reflect on your decision. Which choice feels more expansive to you? The more expansive decision is the best one.

STEP EIGHT
ASKING EXPANSIVE QUESTIONS will help you tap into your soular power and make the best decision. Rather than asking negative questions, like âwhat will happen if I make the wrong decision?,â or âwhy am I a loser?,â ask EMPOWERING questions, like: âHOW CAN I EXPERIENCE MORE JOY WHILE MAKING THIS DECISION?,â and âWHY AM I A WINNER REGARDLESS OF THE DECISION I MAKE?â Your brain is a super computer and it will provide you with an answer to any question you ask. Most of us are unaware of the questions we are asking ourselves subconsciously. By asking yourself specific expansive questions, youâll receive answers that will inspire you to make the best choice.

STEP NINE
BLESS FIVE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE. Think of the person and say âblessings to your for health, happiness, abundance, etc.â Even if the decision is about leaving a boss or relationship, send that boss or current spouse/lover blessings. This will very quickly shift you out of fear and into love, opening up your divine channel of joy, love and expansion even more.

STEP TEN
When making your decision, eliminate the need to âbe good.â Trying to âbe goodâ can lure you into a decision that is based on self-sacrifice or martyrdom, which your ego convinces you is ânoble.â This leaves you stuck in worrier mode. Instead, SEE GOOD, the good in yourself and that of others. A true soular powered decision is a WIN-WIN for all parties involved.

In applying these 10 steps, youâll make the âbestâ decision and ENJOY the process of choosing. Youâll feel more joyous and loving, which will contribute to even better decisions as you move through your day.

Benson shares blessings for you to âembrace your soular power and open your heart to feel and attract more joy, love and abundance in every moment.â