Sometimes infertility feels like an out-of-body experience. It is like you are looking at yourself experiencing feelings and hormone changes and saying, "that is not me." Sometimes it seems like other people see emotions in you that you really aren't experiencing and then when you do experience that emotion it surprises you unexpectedly. It is out-of-body, because you say to yourself, "I am not really experiencing this." At times it seems as others experience your pain more than you do and the pain you really do experience no one else understands. It is like certain emotions are imposed upon you while other emotions that are real are left unacknowledged.

We lost our baby and now people express care that is long overdue. We've been grieving this baby the last five plus years, it just has now become tangible. It now is real for them in a way it has been real for us all along.

There are some close friends who get it and have been incredibly supportive …