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Thursday, 23 June 2011

It’s Pavlovian, I can’t help it

It doesn’t apply only to dogs you know, when you have been burnt and scorned repeatedly, your heart broken so many times, you develop a defence wall around you, the kind of permanent guard that needs superman to take down.

When pain always follows happiness, when your heart is always broken after opening up, you become conditioned to expect pain after pleasure (and not in a good way), you always wait for the catch or for the disappointment, sometimes you expect it knowingly and sometimes you precede it by sabotaging the relationship in an attempt at gaining control and saving your grace.

You have become conditioned just like the dog salivating at the sound of the bell; my stimulus is the slightest attention I get from men, guards are up.

You know DZ-Chick, when the right man finds you, no matter how high your walls are, no matter how maby doors you closed on your self, no matter how you shut your self, the right man will break thru, he will know how to get to you and just get you out of that, just like that, I am saying " when the right man finds you"If he is not the right one then you know.You will be happy, I just know it :) ( InchaAllah)

The last time I heard, Superman was on a special trip to Chile as they have some issue with a volcano...On a more general matter, pain does not ALWAYS follow happiness and love is not about having her/his guard up/down. Of course there will be some bad times but that's how you know there are more good times!Cheer up and have a Pimms! Weather is nice!

funny you would say that Anon le Grand, i had a bit of an adventure with job interviews not too long ago.in a nutshell, in a process that lasted about 6 months, 4 stages/interviews, of which 3 on the phone and 1 in person, i was congratulated at the end of that process for being successful and told to wait for the offer to come through from the HR department.HR called me and told me the offer was pending approval by fuck knows whom.7 weeks later, still waiting and having sent them loads of emails asking what the situation is, i got told that it is unlikely that they would be extending an offer for some bullshit corporate reason.

my feeling is that i have been corporately buttf***** (excuse my french) and treated like shit.

now my question is: should i send a pissy email to them for wasting my time, effort and even money (since i had to buy some massive book) but mostly time and effort and put through stress over a fairly considerable amount of time or just let it go?Anon? DZC? anyone you corporate peeps?

TDW Just phone HR and ask them the about reason? 6 months is a long time, and anything can happen,headcount might have been initially available, but then they might change their mind, if they are cutting costs/heads ect or changing their business plans .It is unlikely they change their mind because they find someone more suitable. Usually most respectable companies will not pull out of a verbal offer.Anyways don't go for companies with long hiring processes, they tend to be beaurocratic and still stuck in the 70s way of management. Take it from me, it is not a good sign!Also most companies speed up the process for people they want to snatch quickly.

If you are a recent student, allude to the fact that the company is well regarded at your Uni and that you have always recommended them, they should get the indirect threat. Even though they hold the power at the moment in this climate.

I would never wait 6 months to be hired by some bogus company with bureaucratic and lenghty procedures, 6 months would be acceptable at a very senior level but for an out of Uni position, it shouldnt take more than a month and that is long as it is.

As ATO said, headcount might have been given to someone else and now they're scrambling! either way move on TDW!

funnily enough this is a massive company (well-respected with leading products) and the role is not a graduate scheme or entry-level position; the reason it took 6 months (ok maybe about 5) was because the process had different stages, from online application to final in-person interview, some of them being gruelling and technical and required me to actually spend time reading and doing stuff while in full-time employment already. so i didn't mind that it was taking a while to get through every stage.

the HR lady is the one who got in touch with me on the phone to inform me of their unlikeliness to proceed with me 7 weeks after i got told i had succeeded.i didn't want to say something brash and stupid over the phone so i sort of left it.

but then every time i think about it it's pissing me off pretty badly since i invested a lot of my own personal time to prepare for it.

so pissy email to the HR (or maybe try to get some senior management person's email address from google)who will probably just ignore it anyway or just let it go?

Yo lo se hermana and I absolutely love your sarcasm and cynicism as they are part of the ingredients that make this blog the best one I have ever read! I have never ever read a blog so much, I do prefer literature but you have captivated my mind and my heart.