I think the one thing women want most in this world is "A man with loads of MONEY". Even though they have a income they still want more, sounds like "GREED"? Right. Sure it takes money to live and enjoy one's self. I've talked to women from all parts of the world and one thing keeps coming up " I want a rich white business man, because I am special". The only reason your special is that when you was growing up your "mommy" told you that, only because you were a "girl". I got news for you Your NOT special, you have the same equipment that the next woman has, some more, some less, nothing special !!

I think the one thing women want most in this world is "A man with loads of MONEY". Even though they have a income they still want more, sounds like "GREED"? Right. Sure it takes money to live and enjoy one's self. I've talked to women from all parts of the world and one thing keeps coming up " I want a rich white business man, because I am special". The only reason your special is that when you was growing up your "mommy" told you that, only because you were a "girl". I got news for you Your NOT special, you have the same equipment that the next woman has, some more, some less, nothing special !!

Did you ever stop to think that those women might have a reason? I personally don't care either way. But Yes, I'm hoping that when I fall in love that the man has a larger income than mine.
I am a single parent. I attend school currently and in the past when my children were younger,I have gone to school carrying a full load of classes and working full time while raising two kids on my own w/o child support. It is hard. I don't want my relationship with my partner to have to suffer even more because of financial reasons. I would love to stay home and be the homemaker and be there for my husband when he comes home from work to please him and be with him. But that is not the reality of it. I have one child at home now and one that has moved out.
Plus it is just that, FALLING in love. We don't choose who we love or it is not really love. We don't produce love like a product, it just happens. when we do have a relationship it is a job too! You can't just sit back and let it take its course. You have to work at it. At times its unbelievably hard.
Some women may be scared that there may come a time when they can't take care of themselves and they need to know that they will be taken care of if anything should happen to them. I don't know, maybe I'm just babbling.
But don't be so bitter that when there is love in front of you and it does have a complication or whatever, that you don't recognize it or take a chance on it.
Think of it as the lottery. You can't win if you don't play. But, when you do win, you are so rich with love and passion and frindship and eveything thing else.

Did you ever stop to think that those women might have a reason? I personally don't care either way. But Yes, I'm hoping that when I fall in love that the man has a larger income than mine. I am a single parent. I attend school currently and in the past when my children were younger,I have gone to school carrying a full load of classes and working full time while raising two kids on my own w/o child support. It is hard. I don't want my relationship with my partner to have to suffer even more because of financial reasons. I would love to stay home and be the homemaker and be there for my husband when he comes home from work to please him and be with him. But that is not the reality of it. I have one child at home now and one that has moved out. Plus it is just that, FALLING in love. We don't choose who we love or it is not really love. We don't produce love like a product, it just happens. when we do have a relationship it is a job too! You can't just sit back and let it take its course. You have to work at it. At times its unbelievably hard. Some women may be scared that there may come a time when they can't take care of themselves and they need to know that they will be taken care of if anything should happen to them. I don't know, maybe I'm just babbling. But don't be so bitter that when there is love in front of you and it does have a complication or whatever, that you don't recognize it or take a chance on it. Think of it as the lottery. You can't win if you don't play. But, when you do win, you are so rich with love and passion and frindship and eveything thing else.

Airemus and Lawsy58 .... my hats off to you both for your positive out take on this post. It's very easy to get a nose bent out of shape on some statement made in haste. Its harder to not take such a statement personally and step back and try to put oneself in their shoes to see how and why this person may have come to such a conclusion. Realistically, I dont find it difficult at all to see how any man cuold come to such an idea. Its out there! Many women are just out there looking for their sugar daddy to pamper and take care of them... and when the sugar runs out.. they move on.
Like Airemus said... keep your eyes open and learn to differenciate between that type of woman. They are out there, and in masses... just as the same is true with free-loadin men. The net is FULL of them. Isn't that what dating is all about? Learning and getting to know a person before a commitment is made?
I think far to many people now days think that "dating" IS a kind of commitment. And we wonder why there is often not a second or third date? Hmmmm.... Now theres a thought... just maybe dating means that you have chosen a date to meet face to face to see if you can stand to be in eachothers presence. The next date might be learning eachothers behavioral differences... the next sense of humor.. the next testing limits and seeing what tempers are like... and so on and so forth. Does that mean automatically that there is a commitment? No... it means your interested enough to put in the time to learn more about this person. During that process, it's not difficult to weed out the "gold diggers".
Naturally, as Lawsy58 said, at most of our ages, we've already been through the days when we had card board box end tables and concrete blocks and boards for shelfs. More often than not, due to circumstances of an enormous variety, some find themselves back in that place. Is it wrong to want to be comfortable? Is it wrong to desire to be where you feel life should have you at this point in the timeline? No, its not. Just be sure that your eyes are set on a realistic goal. No one wants a lazy mate... and not wanting such a person does not make you a gold digger. Let us not forget... our partners are a reflection of us. Be careful of the assumptions you make. I'm sure you've all see what happens when you assume???

Airemus and Lawsy58 .... my hats off to you both for your positive out take on this post. It's very easy to get a nose bent out of shape on some statement made in haste. Its harder to not take such a statement personally and step back and try to put oneself in their shoes to see how and why this person may have come to such a conclusion. Realistically, I dont find it difficult at all to see how any man cuold come to such an idea. Its out there! Many women are just out there looking for their sugar daddy to pamper and take care of them... and when the sugar runs out.. they move on. Like Airemus said... keep your eyes open and learn to differenciate between that type of woman. They are out there, and in masses... just as the same is true with free-loadin men. The net is FULL of them. Isn't that what dating is all about? Learning and getting to know a person before a commitment is made? I think far to many people now days think that "dating" IS a kind of commitment. And we wonder why there is often not a second or third date? Hmmmm.... Now theres a thought... just maybe dating means that you have chosen a date to meet face to face to see if you can stand to be in eachothers presence. The next date might be learning eachothers behavioral differences... the next sense of humor.. the next testing limits and seeing what tempers are like... and so on and so forth. Does that mean automatically that there is a commitment? No... it means your interested enough to put in the time to learn more about this person. During that process, it's not difficult to weed out the "gold diggers". Naturally, as Lawsy58 said, at most of our ages, we've already been through the days when we had card board box end tables and concrete blocks and boards for shelfs. More often than not, due to circumstances of an enormous variety, some find themselves back in that place. Is it wrong to want to be comfortable? Is it wrong to desire to be where you feel life should have you at this point in the timeline? No, its not. Just be sure that your eyes are set on a realistic goal. No one wants a lazy mate... and not wanting such a person does not make you a gold digger. Let us not forget... our partners are a reflection of us. Be careful of the assumptions you make. I'm sure you've all see what happens when you assume???

not nice man loved looking a the letters but as for me I'm not very good at it at Alli would love to meet a very kind man but lots of them have scars inside them and dint no how to treat a lady most r never taught there r thous who r perfect gents love to be treated like a ladylike if a bus is full and some guy will give up there seat u dint see much of that now ladyroseella

not nice man loved looking a the letters but as for me I'm not very good at it at Alli would love to meet a very kind man but lots of them have scars inside them and dint no how to treat a lady most r never taught there r thous who r perfect gents love to be treated like a ladylike if a bus is full and some guy will give up there seat u dint see much of that now ladyroseella

In your case Mr "easymoney" I think to get rivh is th eonly way. Let's face it, what you've shown of your personality so far won't win you any admirers!
Hope you get over your bitterness and find what you are looking for ... a rich woman perhaps....??

In your case Mr "easymoney" I think to get rivh is th eonly way. Let's face it, what you've shown of your personality so far won't win you any admirers! Hope you get over your bitterness and find what you are looking for ... a rich woman perhaps....??

Here's my view on this topic (which I have proved more than once in the relationships I've had in my life!)
I would rather be poor, in love, happy in a relationship...
Than to win the lottery, be rich, and alone, and miserable.
Not to say that having a little spare money every month isn't a nice thing! Sure, I wish I could take my child on a nice holiday. Sure, it would be nice to even have a car! I'm a single mum, working 53 hours a week to support us. Yes, I want someone that works. Whether its at McDonalds or at a law firm...doesn't matter to me. I agree with what a lot of other women have said...I don't want to support someone else. They have to pay their own way. Would I date a lawyer, doctor, etc? Yes! Would I date someone that worked in a shoe shop, grocery store, restaurant? Yes! Would I date a deadbeat that doesn't work? No! I seriously think that you need to get out there and meet some decent women.

Here's my view on this topic (which I have proved more than once in the relationships I've had in my life!) I would rather be poor, in love, happy in a relationship... Than to win the lottery, be rich, and alone, and miserable. Not to say that having a little spare money every month isn't a nice thing! Sure, I wish I could take my child on a nice holiday. Sure, it would be nice to even have a car! I'm a single mum, working 53 hours a week to support us. Yes, I want someone that works. Whether its at McDonalds or at a law firm...doesn't matter to me. I agree with what a lot of other women have said...I don't want to support someone else. They have to pay their own way. Would I date a lawyer, doctor, etc? Yes! Would I date someone that worked in a shoe shop, grocery store, restaurant? Yes! Would I date a deadbeat that doesn't work? No! I seriously think that you need to get out there and meet some decent women.

I'm sorry you aren't having any luck finding the woman of your dreams that will accept you. Don't lose faith. There are plenty women that are not looking for what you think. Just hope you have what they are looking for!

I'm sorry you aren't having any luck finding the woman of your dreams that will accept you. Don't lose faith. There are plenty women that are not looking for what you think. Just hope you have what they are looking for!

Dear Mr. Easy Money,
I think most of the women on this site aren't looking for a man with "loads of money" but for one with loads of character--something you have far too little of. Good luck fella--you're going to need a miracle to find a woman with an attitude like yours.

Dear Mr. Easy Money, I think most of the women on this site aren't looking for a man with "loads of money" but for one with loads of character--something you have far too little of. Good luck fella--you're going to need a miracle to find a woman with an attitude like yours.

Would that it was so simple.
I won't bother ragging on you for this narrow commentary of women. 1) cause I know that there are indeed women like this out there 2) cause your allowed a bad day and this is your blog 3) I can feel that you are in pain, and your pained worldview and its result in your life(i.e. the fact that these are the women in your environs) are enough indication for you that you need to deal, 4) I know that believing that money is the only reason your are single is a belief that is limiting and self defeating. I don't need to chatise you, your hurting yourself.
By being brave enough to ask your question aloud, you can get some feedback and get down to the question you really need to ask: why do you keep choosing women who judge you on this basis? And is this really the issue, or simply an easy excuse for you to hang on to?
Personally, I don't mind a man who's broke. I do however avoid those who are poor. Broke is a temporary state, brought on by the lack of material resources. Poor is a state of mind that speaks to a lack of spiritual resources. Failure is not in the falling down, it is the refusal to get back up. Thus I have no problem helping a broke man get over, but I am not going under with a poor one.
Interesting that you associate the fat thing with the broke thing. Reading your post, I felt like I was reading a "people don?t like me cause I am fat" post. I will say the same thing to you that I would to them. Get right with you!
Maybe it's just me, but when it comes to rejection, sure there is that momentary emotional let down, but for the most part, I really don't feel a way unless someone hits me where I feel weak.
Tell me your not into me cause I am fat, my reaction is ? oh well,not a match. Tell me you're not into me cause how I do what I do for a living, and I am devastated. Why? Cause I know I lack balance in that area, and fear I will never meet someone who will stand by me while I work it out.
The one thing I am sure about, is blaming men for not "supporting my career" would be a deadly excuse to accept. And looking my truth in the face make it easier for my partners to stand by me while I work it out.
You are never going to change "women" and if you make it your quest, you will live an unfulfilled life. Aim your quest at the one place you have control ? yourself. Ask yourself the hard questions and don't settle for the easy answers. You'll know when you got it right, for suddenly you will see the diversity in women and their values instead of just a tired clich?.

Would that it was so simple. I won't bother ragging on you for this narrow commentary of women. 1) cause I know that there are indeed women like this out there 2) cause your allowed a bad day and this is your blog 3) I can feel that you are in pain, and your pained worldview and its result in your life(i.e. the fact that these are the women in your environs) are enough indication for you that you need to deal, 4) I know that believing that money is the only reason your are single is a belief that is limiting and self defeating. I don't need to chatise you, your hurting yourself. By being brave enough to ask your question aloud, you can get some feedback and get down to the question you really need to ask: why do you keep choosing women who judge you on this basis? And is this really the issue, or simply an easy excuse for you to hang on to? Personally, I don't mind a man who's broke. I do however avoid those who are poor. Broke is a temporary state, brought on by the lack of material resources. Poor is a state of mind that speaks to a lack of spiritual resources. Failure is not in the falling down, it is the refusal to get back up. Thus I have no problem helping a broke man get over, but I am not going under with a poor one. Interesting that you associate the fat thing with the broke thing. Reading your post, I felt like I was reading a "people don?t like me cause I am fat" post. I will say the same thing to you that I would to them. Get right with you! Maybe it's just me, but when it comes to rejection, sure there is that momentary emotional let down, but for the most part, I really don't feel a way unless someone hits me where I feel weak. Tell me your not into me cause I am fat, my reaction is ? oh well,not a match. Tell me you're not into me cause how I do what I do for a living, and I am devastated. Why? Cause I know I lack balance in that area, and fear I will never meet someone who will stand by me while I work it out. The one thing I am sure about, is blaming men for not "supporting my career" would be a deadly excuse to accept. And looking my truth in the face make it easier for my partners to stand by me while I work it out. You are never going to change "women" and if you make it your quest, you will live an unfulfilled life. Aim your quest at the one place you have control ? yourself. Ask yourself the hard questions and don't settle for the easy answers. You'll know when you got it right, for suddenly you will see the diversity in women and their values instead of just a tired clich?.

Well Easy, I'd predict after that posting, meeting a woman on this site is going to be the farest thing from easy for you. Obviously you are not out to win friends and influence people. That post was not just a stereotypical commentary on women,it was the ranting of a misogynist ... ....!

Well Easy, I'd predict after that posting, meeting a woman on this site is going to be the farest thing from easy for you. Obviously you are not out to win friends and influence people. That post was not just a stereotypical commentary on women,it was the ranting of a misogynist ... ....!

This "guy" must have some very serious socialization and identity issues. Sure, there are some women who are like that (I know first hand from my Ex). But, the vast majority of women don't ONLY care about a mans wallet. Maybe Easymoney needs to change his social networking strategies and attempt to see each person, each woman as an individual.

This "guy" must have some very serious socialization and identity issues. Sure, there are some women who are like that (I know first hand from my Ex). But, the vast majority of women don't ONLY care about a mans wallet. Maybe Easymoney needs to change his social networking strategies and attempt to see each person, each woman as an individual.

Maybe Easy was just bouncing off a bad experience, but I have a single (under-employed) male friend who has the same impression. And on some deep level it's as hurtful to him as it would be for a large woman to be rejected because of her body image.
In defense of women, I think most of us are of the age where we want to be financial secure, and I think we're all attracted to people --men and women-- who are professionally-driven and have had some success and happiness in what they do. Men equate that to money, while I think women are more apt to see through the money and focus on the other. For instance, underpaid artists and writers seem to draw more than their fair share of feminine attention because the passion they feel for their art is so apparent.
I tell my friend to find a passion, or re-discover an old passion, and the women will find him.

Maybe Easy was just bouncing off a bad experience, but I have a single (under-employed) male friend who has the same impression. And on some deep level it's as hurtful to him as it would be for a large woman to be rejected because of her body image. In defense of women, I think most of us are of the age where we want to be financial secure, and I think we're all attracted to people --men and women-- who are professionally-driven and have had some success and happiness in what they do. Men equate that to money, while I think women are more apt to see through the money and focus on the other. For instance, underpaid artists and writers seem to draw more than their fair share of feminine attention because the passion they feel for their art is so apparent. I tell my friend to find a passion, or re-discover an old passion, and the women will find him.

I think its time we stop this stereotypical attitude towards each other. Far too often I listen to women who use the phrase "all men" are this and "all men are that" and then the men are equally as bad as the women - whats going on?? they are women out there who are quite categorical about wanting a rich man - but not all of us are the same although secretly I do feel that the majority of women would much prefer a man who has the potential to be a good financial provider to ensure security within the home. Many years ago it was the norm, and furthermore the man knew his duty was to provide for his family and he did so as best he could- the woman was also the nurturer and the provider within the home ensuring the children were fed properly, behaved well, dressed correctly and the man knew he was coming home to an organised environment. Nowadays unfortunately society has become so materialistic and everything is so expensive (especially here in UK) that women are driven out of the home and into the workforce- (some because they want to but others because they have to in order to survive). We are now left with dysfunctional families where no one is ever at home to give structure and stability . So often when women say that they want a rich man its not meant in the literal sense but a man who is able to give solid finacial suport therefore allowing the woman to look after the home and family. I have to add also that I spent 25 years with the full financial responsibility for my home - I never knew when my ex husband would simply give up his job and sit at home - it happened often and luckily I through my qualifications commanded very good salaries. I can assure you its not nice at all to be with a man who lacks the basic responsibility for his home. So do I want a rich man? NO - but neither would I want to fully support a man -because he cant be bothered to work or contribute towards his own keep. At the conclusion of this lengthy dialogue lets learn to compliment each other and perhaps try to define our roles better in order to avoid this senseless stereotyping.

I think its time we stop this stereotypical attitude towards each other. Far too often I listen to women who use the phrase "all men" are this and "all men are that" and then the men are equally as bad as the women - whats going on?? they are women out there who are quite categorical about wanting a rich man - but not all of us are the same although secretly I do feel that the majority of women would much prefer a man who has the potential to be a good financial provider to ensure security within the home. Many years ago it was the norm, and furthermore the man knew his duty was to provide for his family and he did so as best he could- the woman was also the nurturer and the provider within the home ensuring the children were fed properly, behaved well, dressed correctly and the man knew he was coming home to an organised environment. Nowadays unfortunately society has become so materialistic and everything is so expensive (especially here in UK) that women are driven out of the home and into the workforce- (some because they want to but others because they have to in order to survive). We are now left with dysfunctional families where no one is ever at home to give structure and stability . So often when women say that they want a rich man its not meant in the literal sense but a man who is able to give solid finacial suport therefore allowing the woman to look after the home and family. I have to add also that I spent 25 years with the full financial responsibility for my home - I never knew when my ex husband would simply give up his job and sit at home - it happened often and luckily I through my qualifications commanded very good salaries. I can assure you its not nice at all to be with a man who lacks the basic responsibility for his home. So do I want a rich man? NO - but neither would I want to fully support a man -because he cant be bothered to work or contribute towards his own keep. At the conclusion of this lengthy dialogue lets learn to compliment each other and perhaps try to define our roles better in order to avoid this senseless stereotyping.

Chill out dude! Not all women are like that. Some of us out there actually work for a living and support ourselves. My last relationship was with a man who thought he was too good to get a real job and I basically supported him with MY real job. I'm not looking for a man with loads of MONEY, I am looking for a man who brings to the table the same things I do. A job (I support myself and my son only), a place to live (No you can't move-in with me), his own car (I'm no ones taxi). I don't think that that is too much to expect from a man.

Chill out dude! Not all women are like that. Some of us out there actually work for a living and support ourselves. My last relationship was with a man who thought he was too good to get a real job and I basically supported him with MY real job. I'm not looking for a man with loads of MONEY, I am looking for a man who brings to the table the same things I do. A job (I support myself and my son only), a place to live (No you can't move-in with me), his own car (I'm no ones taxi). I don't think that that is too much to expect from a man.

We just want someone willing to work hard at their job... someone we can see as an equal and can depend on to work to earn their place in life, food on the table, and comfort for the future and support for any possible kids we might have together. It's not all about money but women have to be practical... especially when thinking about having a future with someone.

We just want someone willing to work hard at their job... someone we can see as an equal and can depend on to work to earn their place in life, food on the table, and comfort for the future and support for any possible kids we might have together. It's not all about money but women have to be practical... especially when thinking about having a future with someone.

Am I wrong to think that such an inflamitory statement was simply made to engender a responce be it positive or negative?
I dated a guy on and off for three years and ended up helping him financially. It was a lesson and it taught me that I really want to date a guy with a job or a prospect of getting one. It was a huge financial burden being a single Mom and bailing him out. I'm still trying to pay off some of the phone bills he ran up.
My good friend has been supporting a dead beat husband for seven years. She thinks she deserves better. I think she's right. Personally I don't want a rich guy to support me but I do want a guy who can contribute to the household income.

Am I wrong to think that such an inflamitory statement was simply made to engender a responce be it positive or negative? I dated a guy on and off for three years and ended up helping him financially. It was a lesson and it taught me that I really want to date a guy with a job or a prospect of getting one. It was a huge financial burden being a single Mom and bailing him out. I'm still trying to pay off some of the phone bills he ran up. My good friend has been supporting a dead beat husband for seven years. She thinks she deserves better. I think she's right. Personally I don't want a rich guy to support me but I do want a guy who can contribute to the household income.