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Not knowing all the facts or all sides of the story, I could be wrong. But I'm a cynical person, not too proud of it, but there it is. I doubt if the birth mother will change her mind or her heart. I suspect that her world revolves around herself and not that innocent child. I doubt if she cares what trauma she inflicts on the baby as long as she can stroke her own ego by being "a mother".

Judy you are so right! She gave up her other three children to be with the guy that is the father of this child. Who knows what she will do when she gets tired of this man and child. I think it is criminal that the county puts the child's needs last. I speak from experience having adopted a 5 Year old who was Put through hell and 8 foster homes due to a crazy mother..

Raleigh, NC

I've worked for CPS. One difficult problem we had was people calling in to make reports to us, after there was no longer evidence of abuse. And when we were able to get involved, a court system that was reluctant to take away parents rights and extended the time period for the parents to make improvements. But I worked with a very good team. We did see successful adoptions and successful reunifications with birth parents. But those cases involving drug or alcohol abuse by the parents were the most difficult and most likely to lead to permanent termination of parental rights. Also frustrating were reports of sexual abuse by parents fighting over custody. There are parents that make these reports fraudulently and they were the most difficult cases to determine what was true.

Always contact Child Protective Services as soon as you suspect abuse or neglect. Even in the middle of the night. Even if the one report is not enough to do something, it can add to other evidence. Reports can be made anonymously.

It is very unfortunate about the little girl who being given back to the birth mother. I hope that if children's services has been involved that they will keep close watch over the child. But if the case was solely determined based on whether the birth parent had a right to change her mind, children's services may not be involved at all.

It is a very beautiful quilt. That quilt very well may have an important impact on the child's life. What a wonderful message in the label.

Elizabeth, the quilt is beautiful. Did the words " You are Smart, You are beautiful, you are loved" come from the movie The Help? That is what one maid said to the baby girl she brought up because that child's mother was more concerned with herself. Which sounds like the mother of this child. Sounds like she just wants attention and if that baby will get it for her, she wants it. So sad. As a mother of an adopted child, I just can't understand how the state looks past a mother's bad behavior and not at the good for the child.

Judy, beautiful quilt made with your fall fabric swap fabrics, totally my colors. Love the quilt on the chest as well, love the blues and browns and golds also. My DD has my sisters chest very similar to that, it was called "Waterfall".