Preteens and teens performing oral sex is a national trend. Parents are alarmed and baffled. They believe that oral sex is appropriate only for adults. Most consider it a special sexual act that follows other intimate expressions.

Among many young people, oral sex is not considered to be sex. "It's a way to be together without, well, being together," one 14-year-old girl said. "It's 'hooking up.' "

As a parent, you can watch for opportunities to talk with your children about this sensitive issue. You can talk honestly without judging or criticizing. You can help them consider the physical and emotional consequences of their decisions.

Get the story to see what teens and experts say about oral sex among young people.