TIFU by swiping on my girlfriend’s phone NSFW

So this happened a few days ago and I’m still not sure I’m 100% ready to tell the story but here goes.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for about a year and I already know she is the love of my life. She’s perfect for me. We’re perfect for eachother. We’re getting ready to move in with eachother and I want nothing more than to start a family with her and spend the rest of my life with her.

We went on a short vacation last week and when we returned she gave me her phone to look at some photos from the trip.

She went to the bathroom while I had her phone, and as I was scrolling through the pictures it kind of jumped to a period that was about a year and a half ago. If you have an iPhone you know what I’m talking about, you scroll a little bit too fast and all of a sudden you’re back at the start of the photo album. It’s annoying as hell.

But some photos caught my eye. Some photos that I really shouldn’t be seeing, of her and a previous boyfriend.

There she is, the love of my life, TRYING to get her mouth around the biggest dick I’ve ever seen in my life. I’ve watched porn - a lot. I’ve never seen a dick like this. I’m talking bigger than 2 coke cans stacked on top of eachother. Longer and thicker. As far as I could tell she was unable to get her teeth around it.

I could see another thumbnail of her comparing the size of his dick to her forearm with a look of wonder and glee on her face.

I closed the pictures and I’ve acted like nothing has happened, but I cannot get these images out of my mind. I’ve never been self-conscious about my dick size - in fact if you believe the stats I’m significantly above average, but this has destroyed my self esteem.

We haven’t had sex since. I can’t concentrate on my work. I just wish I had never seen those damn pictures.

TL;DR accidentally saw some pictures of the love of my life sucking the biggest dick on earth and my stupid male ego is destroyed

UPDATE: There’s a lot of people assuming that this was a one-night-stand. It wasn’t. She was with this guy for 3 years.

But also in all honesty It's fine dude. You just really need to get over it and not think about it. It really hurt at first but then I just had to remember everyone else on earth has had a past and lived their lives before you came into the picture. Just leave it at that. Past in the past. Work towards a positive future

But also in all honesty I've see a video of my girlfriend having sex with her previous boyfriend. It's fine dude. You just really need to get over it and not think about it. It really hurt at first but then I just had to remember everyone else on earth has had a past and lived their lives before you came into the picture. Just leave it at that. Past ik the past. Work towards a positive future

I can confidently say from experience that deleting things may cause them to pop up in your head far more often than they otherwise would. Better to trap the memories outside your brain, so you don't think about them.

I'm one of those people who consider discarding memorabilia and deleting photos the same as denying it ever happened. I have every little object, every photo, even some conversations stored in dedicated places. I don't obsess over them, but the shared past played a positive part in my personal growth. It doesn't matter whether I still look at them, and I rarely ever do. I just detest discarding, because to me it's an action associated with expressing negative emotions.

Idk it depends on if there are other pics from before and after that time frame still on there. My girlfriend's still got all photos from the last 3 years when she got her current phone, so it's not that unbelievable.

That is right. But OP says he swiped forward one too many times and arrived back at the start of the photo album. So that means that GF explicitly deleted many other pics but kept an assortment of dick pics. She knew and she knows she has the pic. She might not know that OP would be able to see it, but yeah, she mindfully made the decision to keep that dick pic and their related pics.

I’m thinking more like a don’t ask don’t tell kind of thing. Not an obsession over old nudes, just using them as masturbation aid, whenever good ol porn becomes boring. I don’t know, just playing devil’s advocate.

I would not be okay with my gf masturbating to her ex’s dick. I know different people have different standards but having the picture altogether is already borderline crossing the line (as in, I’ll give the benefit of the doubt and believe she forgot about it) but getting off to it? That’s gonna be a no from me dawg.

I absolutely wouldn't either. If you're being exclusive, that's simply not done.

Can't (and shouldn't be able to) control what your partner thinks about during sex/masturbation, but it would be incredibly inconsiderate to intentionally wank to past partners. Even ones which are never going to be in their life again, like that guy's dead wife

I had a girlfriend who was kinda punk/emo looking, and I helped her realize taking nude pics really boosted her confidence. Long story short we ended up selling a couple shoots to Suicide Girls.

We had a rough breakup, and I deleted all the pics I had. A few times in the first couple years I really wished I hadn't, but since then I've tried looking at her sets available online. I can tell you, it's not arousing. I took those pics. I remember that day, and the way she looked. She broke my heart. All I can think of is cute little memories we shared, and the smell of her hair. All the love and happiness and joy and pain and anguish after.

She's hot, and the pics are sexy, but it's just not possible for me to masturbate to them. They can't be porn if they are also scrapbook memories.

u/verylobsterlike, I can relate. I’ve been separated from my wife 7 months or so. We were together 11 years. I love her, but our relationship fell apart as we evolved in different directions. Every argument turned into a fight. We used to grow each other, gardeners sowing seeds in each other’s minds and souls, but we became overwhelmed by the weeds we ignored over time.

I’m often gripped by memories. Sometimes they’re sweet, rarely erotic but always bitter. Occasionally I wake up from a dream and fantasize about her. But the pictures do nothing but make me sad.

Nah, because OP said she wasn't able to do it. S-ing that D is her white whale. At work, she watches Nat Geo vids of snakes unhinging their jaws to eat entire eggs. At night, she lies in bed awake doing mouth stretches. Just waiting for the chance to capture this legendary beast.

lol or she keeps the picture as a memory of that one guy that was just so hilariously large she couldn't even wrap her mouth around. and very rarely shows the friends that were around at the time about that one time yadayada.

alternatively, she might have backed up her phone when she got her new phone. all the old pics loaded up from the cloud, and she didnt even know it was still in there.

I’m just replying to this so OP might have a better shot at seeing this. It sucks man, but it’s out of your control and she is with you for a reason. I have an above average size but not monstruos like your gf’s ex and sometimes women don’t like it because it hurts. A lot of women I talk to don’t want a small penis but they don’t want a humongous one either. She is with you for a reason man and if you didn’t notice problems in the bedroom before, then there probably aren’t any coming from her end. I would definitely confront her about this in a mature way, like “hey I saw your photos on your phone and noticed you kept some of your ex.” Don’t treat her like she did something bad, just ask if there is a specific reason she kept those photos. If she is the love of your life, you have to be honest about your feelings together for it to work. In the end she might have kept the photos because that is an unbelievable massive dick but she doesn’t really care to experience that again since it probably wasn’t the most pleasurable sex. I guess to sum it up, there will always be bigger/better penises for your gf, it’s just a question as to whether you are the better man. This is your test.

Packing just below 8 inches I would gladly lose an inch to open up the selection of positions I can enjoy with my girlfriend without having to be careful not to hurt her.
If shes in the mood but not for a good long warm-up session before, she has to be on top and in control.

I genuinely think he may be making something out of nothing I had an ex who was hung, way too damn hung. It was fun to play with and give oral but anything else was miserable and painful. Didn't help he had no idea what he was doing with it.

Can confirm. Am attractive, fairly confident but I have absolutely no idea how to flirt, but people seem to find that cute.

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It has its cons though, looking 10-12 years younger than you actually are can be a bit frustrating sometimes when people gauge their expectations of you based on how you look, even if they know your age.

I feel you! I'm 30, lesbian, 5'2", look 16 at most. I constantly get mistaken for a high school aged boy. =(

I have a very feminine face and big boobs, people just don't look past hair length. If someone looks confused, I usually just grab my boob and shake it a little. It really confuses people. I think it's important to have a little fun in life instead of getting upset about everything and their reaction to that always makes me laugh

Edit - I'm assuming the gold is because I made someone laugh. I hope you can't breathe friend. But like, in a good way.

I have a very feminine face and big boobs, people just don't look past hair length. If someone looks confused, I usually just grab my boob and shake it a little. It really confuses people. I think it's important to have a little fun in life instead of getting upset about everything and their reaction to that always makes me laugh.

Another con is if you ever let yourself go, you won’t be able to pick up chicks anymore (or dudes, I don’t know you). I grew up a handsome athlete and never really had to try, girls would approach me, then the 5 or so years after college weren’t so kind (I got real lazy without a competitive sport to play and practice every day, and I gained weight).

Decided it’s just going to be easier and healthier to get back in that shape than to develop an actual pickup game.

Or, they know that’s what feels best to them maybe? I feel like we have a tendency to automatically view what’s best for the woman as implicitly best for everyone when the guy’s there doing his thing, feeling feelings and shit too. Maybe that’s what he likes. If what a person likes comes at someone else’s expense, that doesn’t sound like the best sex anyways.

When we talk about sex I feel like discussing performance is almost male exclusive, which is fine I guess, but I wouldn’t hate it if a man’s pleasure could be worth a damn every once in a while if he’s expected to give everyone he comes across the night of their lives.

Just gonna throw it out there, performance might only be discussed with men, but it is definitely not an issue exclusive to them. From my experience at least, it's the same concept with women - the more attractive they are, the less they feel like they need to try, or do anything beyond laying there.

There isn't even a 10 inch dick in porn. Dick sizes are exaggerated by the males ego. You can make a 7 inch dick look like a 9 inch dick on a petite female. Most female pornstars are under 5'4. There was also some guy offering $100,000 if someone would prove they were 10". Nobody has yet to claim that reward. Measuring your dick from your asshole doesn't count. Or starting at 1-2" doesn't count either. Or measuring from an angle does not count either.

Dude you have no idea, I've been in the whole size queen scene for a long long time now and dear loving god if penis size isn't the most lied subject ever. I've told this story a few times before but I sometimes got in arguments with women claiming I was at LEAST 9-10 inches while I am no more than 8. They even get pissed off about it, it's really not only a male ego thing but also a tool for the opposite gender to brag about. The whole penis size thing is just crap in general and dominates a lot of people their lifes. Admittedly, mine sometimes a little bit too...

If your dick is big enough that it hurts most partners you'll soon learn that you cannot get much more creative than simple in and out unless you want to hurt them. It's really hard to experiment and learn some tricks like that.

The rapier is unimpressive as far as blades go, and it requires a level of mastery to develop rhythm, precision, and thrusting technique. You can bestow the little death in a scintillating showernotagoodmetaphor of shimmering strikes if you are skilled.

The zweihander by contrast will intimidate all comers, but is unwieldy and the size and heft of the blade lends itself to sweeps and overheads, but good luck trying to guide a thrust. Most dueling partners fear the zweihander but a select few enjoy the challenge and feel no fear of it's length or girth.

As a guy with a very mediocre penis it does just read as blatant humble bragging with an occasional actual real comment. My ex fiance had a small vagina+vaginismus so I can empathize with what it must be like to actually have a giant dick. It was definitely overrated. Hurting someone with your penis is not particularly fun if they arent in to it.

Its not that fun. No humblebrag but honestly having sex with a big dick is mostly a lot of anxiety. You're constantly worried about hurting whoever you’re having sex with.

When you're with a partner for a while it gets easier. But with new sexual partners, it can definitely be a struggle. Every vagina is different...and it’s a tossup what each girl can take. Can't count how many times I've been asked to stop in the middle because they were uncomfortable or in pain. A depth that is fine for one girl might cause another to feel like they're getting punched in the stomach. Nothing ruins the mood more than realizing she was uncomfortable the entire time.

I've also physically not been able to have sex on more than one occasion. Like, we tried to fit it and the girl straight up said nope after some struggle.

Then afterwards, a lot of girls end up so sore they don't want to do it again for a long while, if at all.

Yea it’s a bit of a novelty/ego boost comparing to other guys just since we’ve been accustomed to do that. And yea some girls like the idea of it or the visual aesthetic. But it’s not practical for a fulfilling sexual experience.

Its not that fun. No humblebrag but honestly having sex with a big dick is mostly a lot of anxiety. You're constantly worried about whether you're hurting them.

When you're with a partner for a while it gets easier. But with new sexual partners, it can be a struggle. Every vagina is different. Can't count how many times I've been asked to stop in the middle because they were uncomfortable or in pain. A depth that is fine for one girl might cause another to feel like they're getting punched in the stomach.

I've also physically not been able to have sex on more than one occasion. Like, we tried to fit it and the girl straight up said nope.

As a man who is pretty decently sized myself, I am hella glad it's not any bigger. At times I've hit the cervix? of certain women, and it's not a good feeling for either of us. I've also heard the words "too deep!" more times than I'd care to. Luckily, it's actually quite easy to avoid those situations. I mean I could definitely be bigger and still have things work out great, but I consider it nice to have the leeway to be able to go at it pretty hard and not cause the woman pain, while still having good size. Huge dicks are overrated for both sexes!

You seldom take a photo with a dick without the person attached to the dick around to see.

And I've never looked anything less than excited about a dick. You just don't fucking do that. It's like if I undressed and a guy's reaction was "Oh."

I've looked excited about all the damn dicks I've ever come face to face with, and a dick the size of a horse's is certainly something if only for the novelty. But I wouldn't change my partner's statistically average dick for anything. Because you know what? I have a statistically pretty average vagina, and those two go together like magic.

Really? As a dude who had an ex find pictures of me and and another ex, she put it into terms i really understood and felt bad about. Seeing the person your in love with sexually pleasure someone else is pretty damn heartbreaking, no matter if its in the past or recent. Whether it was fun or not, your committed to a different person, so having pictures of that time really makes it feel your not fully invested in the new person.

This is too true. Once had sex with a guy who had girth. It took a good fifteen minutes just to get him inside me, by which time I'd kind of... Dried up. No matter how much he kissed me or touched me, it took too long and it was too much.

Yep it’s not great from the other perspective either. I’m above average and it actually makes sex less enjoyable. It is easier to make women happy, my wife enjoys it, however from my side of the sex coin it’s not awesome. You can’t go to fast or deep bc you hit the cervix and hurt her, try it from behind and I have to be careful and slow or it hurts her. There is no real hot, heavy fast action bc I will end up hurting her. So for me it’s not really enjoyable. It’s boring normal sex but she’s having a great time.... lame.

I've heard this being a big dick problem, but now I'm wondering just how big are we talking about?

I'm 8" and with the few women I've been with I do feel like I end up hitting "the end" often. Especially from certain positions. Whenever I ask about it they claim it's fine. That at times it's painful, but a "good kind of pain."

Have I just been lucky with my partners or is this a "baby's arm holding an apple" problem?

Hey look. If you meet the right person and you click and it's all good... Then the size of your dick won't matter. 5 inches isn't even small. Nobody is going to judge you for having an average sized dick. Big ones are overrated anyway.

Because my friend group was pretty promiscuous back when, I happen to know, via a girl that slept with him then with me, that one of my friends has a very small dick. She told me it was about the size of the end of her little finger. That same friend has now been married to the same, great woman for 20 years, and they have three kids.

edit: not saying that NOBODY uses them for such, some women do... but I think you’ll find the market for massive furry/anthro (lmao my phone autocorrected this to anthropological) dicks skews male. Worked in a sex store for a bit. Also, purely anecdotally, while both gay men and straight women and bis everywhere like a decent sized dick, gay men are some of the most size queens I’ve met. This might also have something to do with pain tolerance, seeing it as a challenge to conquer, and popping muscle relaxers though.

I drilled a few kids in the dick as a pitcher in high school. I got the nickname cupcheck and a school record for ejections from games. Never once on purpose, I just had a good fastball and no control.

It is.
It's kind of a novelty. Like the first time you see it you're like "holy shit, what do I even do with this giant thing? That's amazing." And then you're like "no seriously, what do i do with this thing? I can't fit it in my mouth, and everything beyond missionary hurts. Get it away from me."

So, OP, let this be a consolation. Her massive dick ex was a novelty and a good photo op, but nothing worth keeping around. So really, you should be grateful, and proud- you do have the superior dick, the pleasurable one that
IS worth keeping around. So FFS, go fuck her with it.

Edit: typo

So, OP, let this be a consolation. Her massive dick ex was a novelty and a good photo op, but nothing worth keeping around. So really, you should be grateful, and proud- you do have the superior dick, the pleasurable one that i
IS worth keeping around. So FFS, go fuck her with it.

Edit: And I know you're trying to make him feel better, but he'll see right through this. Maybe he broke up with her? Who says she's the one who dumped him. 3 years with a dick that big... taking pics and everything... I'd be done. The best he can hope is that she cheated on her old boyfriend, and coke can dick guy was a one night thing.

I feel like this is the kind of thing I’d forget on my phone too.
I have my iPhone synced to iCloud or w/e it’s called for additional storage, so I never delete anything.
If I hadn’t set the account up after I married my husband/got my most recent iPhone, I’d be like panicked and scrolling through all my photos right now.

Sorry you’re going through this, OP! Like others said - there is such a thing as too big. Read some of those Adam & Eve toy reviews if you don’t believe us!

A lot of people in this thread are saying it makes for fun oral but any actual sex isn't so great. I could see her taking/keeping pictures just for novelty. Sort of like getting a huge potato chip. Yeah, it's neat. Maybe neat enough to take a photo. Doesn't mean it's not fucking annoying trying to fit the whole damned chip into your mouth at once.

And I don't really think it's a platitude- if she has chosen him, then she's clearly decided that the sex being worse, assuming it even is, is worth the rest of the relationship with him.

Definitely man, this kind of stuff gets in your head and sticks. This is something I know I wouldn't be able to get over. My entire opinion on them would be rocked and I wouldn't be able to view her the same way again. I purposely even avoid any questions about previous partners or sexual activities in a relationship because I know that conversation will only lead to me having more insecurities and jealousy. This would end up being a deal breaker for me.

Had a similar situation happen roughly six months ago, that soul destroying feeling comes back a lot when the images pop back into my head.. It just hurts seeing it, even if it was prior to her knowing me.

Yeah man, reminds me of that one dude, who thought he was cold as hell, found out the chick he'd been banging was actually his aunt. Something he just couldn't get over, despite the fact that she was HOT as hell and was the first one who GOT him high as a kite. Anyway, turns out he probably dodged a bullet though as that chick ended up going mad. Not all the alarm bells in the world could save that relationship.

It’s worth having a conversation with yourself and trying to analyse why you’d feel like this. Everyone has a past, and worrying about it just seems needless. You’ve arrived at a point in your lives where you want to be with each other, why does it matter how you got there?

I say this as someone who used to think like this, until I realised what a waste of time it was. It’s just your own insecurities. If things had worked out with coke can dick she would still be with him, but you know, she’s with you.

Haha, yeah Piper Perri is probably in the top 5 tiniest female porn stars of all time, and Dredd is probably in the top 5 biggest male porn stars of all time. That’s a hell of a formula for HOLY FUCKING SHIT!!!

TIFU by opening that picture in a room with 10 people, waiting for a meeting to start. i snorted and quickly closed it, and everyone asked me a million times what i was looking at. but i’ll never tell them.

edit: update, the first guy i saw in the office this morning asked me again what it was.

Yes, have sex with him. Then when you feel how painful his giant dick is in your asshole you’ll know that your girlfriend couldn’t have enjoyed that pain. Or it opens up new doors to your sex life and you can both fuck his thicc cock as a couple.

Honestly, that would be a red flag for me in and of itself. I feel like out of respect for your partner you put in the work to make sure shit doesn't happen. You get rid of old nudes/sex tapes. You go through your clothes and make sure random panties aren't buried. You care about them so you put in the effort to ensure there are no issues or misunderstandings. The fact that they didn't do this would make me question our compatibility.

Everyone I see on reddit is usually like “YOUR PARTNER SHOULDNT BE SO INSECURE!! If you have memories of your ex they should respect that!! Blah blah blah.” It’s like they have never been in a relationship

For how much relationship advice gets knocked around on this site, you’d think more people would be aware that a ton of the folks here have no real life experience on matters like this, and yet, everyone’s got an opinion.

That is how real life works when you find the person you’re going to marry. A lot of people marry someone even though they can not sort out their differences. Sometimes it works out a lot of times it doesn’t. You have a nice philosophy

I hope one day I'll meet the right gal.Sorry to dump this out here, but im a bit worried at this point. I graduate college in a month and I've never had any romantic exchange of any kind. Idk, it feels like im losing a huge opportunity here. when else am I going to be in the same place as so many people around my age who are open for relationships? and reading about dating after 30 on reddit is just depressing

doesnt help im not good at approaching people. but if they came to me, it wouldnt be that bad. I guess i suck at starting conversations and keep them going lol

And people will tell you to "go out more. Talk to people". As if that's not the challenge here.

Only thing I can "advise" is, you do you. Do things you enjoy. Maybe a bit differently. You like sitting in a couch and watch a movie, do it. Or the alternative of going to the cinema. Or you like to collect anime figurines? Do it. Hang out at conventions occasionally.
Chances are, you'll be meeting people like yourself.

Memories and photos of trips together or memorable times are okay in my book. Pictures with your ex’s cock in your mouth are not. Use the “would I put this on Facebook or want my mother seeing it?” rule for pictures with ex’s.

Along the same idea but I always purge my phone after a relationship has ended more out of respect for my previous partner. I don’t want to be in a position where nudes or videos end up making the rounds and my device was the source, seems like a good karma kind of thing, secondarily I don’t have to worry about a new partner dealing with watching or seeing it.

Straight up. I know me. One minute I'm fine, sudenly I see a nude picture of an ex and I'm going to down a rabbit hole of Facebook stalking and hitting the spank bank up for those dangerous memories and what ifs. Best to just purge it all in the first moment of post fap clarity available.

okay, so when i got with my now fiancee, some stuff went down that required my mom packing up my room. My girlfriend offered to help.

I learn later on that while cleaning she held up a pair of panties and asked if it was hers. It wasnt. Akward.
Well, i knew what those panties was! it was my upstair neighbors, and they had gotten in with my clothes while washing. I saw them there, but never returned them and just threw them in my close hamper and forgot about them. Ofcourse she didnt believe me.

I guess, but no one is perfect. And now with autosyncing that shit lives forever. I'm sure people I've had one-night-stands with have photos of me that will live forever, just because even if it gets wiped from their phone I'm sure it's somewhere on Google or Dropbox or iCloud or some shit.

Basically no one should ever send a nude they're not comfortable with sticking around for literally ever, anymore.

If she's like me, her photos are disorganized and her phone is full of them. I don't use folders and also have a tendency to save every gif/photo I see that's funny/cute/etc. If I had a specific photo like that sitting somewhere, it could easily have been forgotten/missed as I deleted the old photos of my ex.

Both are easy to forget. Or missing a photo while deleting them. I found a picture of an ex from 3 years ago last year on my phone. Google photos had backed it up and synced to my new phone without me realizing. So when I deleted it it was still in cloud storage.

I feel like Reddit is showing how shut-in most users are. I have totally forgotten about sexy pictures on my phone that include just me, just a girl, and both. I don't know why this is so hard for people to believe.

This is where I'm at. My gf has found stuff like old dating site accounts because they never stop sending spam messages. It's not like I'm using them, I just never bothered going out of my way to delete them. Deleting won't stop the spam anyways because they already have the email address.

...why would you assume this instead of the more likely explanation that she just didn’t remember to delete them or care to make the effort cause she didn’t think it mattered?... Like, you seriously think the more likely explanation is she kept these random photos on her phone because she was hoping one day her new boyfriend whom she presumably loved would accidentally scroll back and see them and be hurt?

Also, I don’t care who you are but if I encountered a pornstar novelty-sized monster dick like that in the wild, no way those photos are ever getting deleted — and I’m a lesbian

And let’s not forget he was the one who “accidentally” scrolled back years on her phone and decided to poke around. I’ve had the thing happen where it scrolls me too fast and it literally takes .2 seconds to scroll right back down to where you were. The thumbnails are also so small, you gotta be scanning that shit to see 50-100 photos at once. Hawkeye over here saw nude flesh and couldn’t help himself

I hope that if I’m ever with the love my my life it’s in the type of relationship where she would gladly show me the pics of a two coke can sized dick she once sucked. Cuss I would want to see that shit.

But in all seriousness, people assume malice WAY too much when it comes to others. Want a reality check? How often do you yourself do something out of malice compared to idiocy? Give other people a break in your own head and your outlook on life will generally be much better.

That's a rather big assumption to make about someone you don't know. Also, if she has cloud sync on the photos would still be on her phone unbeknownst to her. It was a year and a half ago. I've found pictures I had no idea were on my phone, only because I was clearing space and found them.

I just thought it was common courtesy to delete nudes after a relationship ends. I personally wouldn't terribly mind an ex keeping them, but I feel like if it's not explicitly said that it's okay to keep them it should be assumed that they should be deleted

If a photo hits the cloud, my iPhone shows it on my phone if the phone hooks up to the cloud. Apple makes it ridiculously time consuming to delete those pictures. Last time I wanted to, I had to go onto a desktop computer and manually delete whatever I didn’t want.

She probably figured deleting it from her phone deleted it, which is what makes fucking sense. I didn’t realize for the longest time I had to remove pics from the cloud, and then I had to look up how to do that.

I used to own a gym & one of my regulars had broken up with his wife & went off the radar for a year or two.

He popped back one night for a chat & a catch-up. He said that at one point he’d got a new girlfriend who was a screamer- she shouted & threw herself about & was ridiculously vocal in bed.

He reckons he’d had sex with her about 3 or 4 times & whenever he was banging her he was the king of the world.

...Until half way through their next performance when she stopped all the histrionics and said something along the lines of, “ I fucking love shagging you- my last boyfriend’s cock was too big & it used to hurt me. But yours, yours fits just fine.”

And that was the last time they had sex.

And then he told all his mates thinking they would sympathise. Oh how they laughed.

I hope this doesn’t end up on r/IHaveSex, but my fiancé and I used to go for a long time, but I started not lasting as long, and she told me that she was fine with it. She said after a while, she would just be waiting for me to finish (I usually take care of her first in the event of me not lasting as long as I’d like). After a couple of years or so, she told me that it was because her body wasn’t able to keep lubricating and it didn’t feel good anymore. So, longevity stopped being a big issue. Everyone is different, but as I understand, it’s more common than you think that a lot of women don’t mind it not lasting super long. After a while, it just gets uncomfortable and there can be a lot of soreness later. As for size, so long as you make an honest effort to take care of your partner (do it because they like it, and enjoy it for that same reason), then it probably doesn’t matter. Find the little man in the canoe, let her communicate what feels good, and don’t rush it.

I feel like the majority of people who care about dick size and length of time are other men. There are exceptions - and a lot of women will unfortunately tease men about those things - but the majority of women I know seem to prefer quality over quantity.

Generally, women don’t want to be rammed in the cervix for a bajillion years. Especially if the guy is incapable of bringing anything else to the experience.

I'm one of those who goes for hours and didn't know it was unusual. Always been that way since I lost my virginity, and had to really work hard to get my way down to half hour "quickies," since my mates (I'm straight, not that it matters) complained of soreness, lack of sleep, etc cuz I'd want to go 2-4 times a day.

Even now, later in life, it's the same and it's really a curse and a blessing. Some partners were thrilled and others said dude, it's just too much. There's an up and down side to everything.

When I owned a live music, art gallery, beer and coffee cafe the staff and regulars had lots of long talks about sex, and the female regulars all talked about this one very sweet cute hippy boy that everyone liked. But they'd all laugh behind his back... turns out he was teeny in size, as they'd share by waving a pinky whenever his name came up. .

This lovely young Korean woman wasn't laughing, though. She said I think it's great, he's heart great, and he's great in bed. The other girls were really surprised and asked why and asked if she needed an extra, extra small guy. She said yeh, in my butt! The other girls who had previously all been nervous but curious about attempting that act ended up giving it/him a try and he became very popular as the butt guy...

Pros and cons to everything, my friends

I'm one of those who goes for hours and didn't know it was unusual. Always been that way since I lost my virginity, and had to really work hard to get my way down to half hour "quickies," since my mates (I'm straight, not that it matters) complained of soreness, lack of sleep, etc cuz I'd want to go 2-4 times a day.

Even now, later in life, it's the same and it's really a curse and a blessing. Some partners were thrilled and others said dude, it's just too much. There's an up and down side to everything.

When I owned a live music, art gallery, beer and coffee cafe the staff and regulars had lots of long talks about sex, and the female regulars all talked about this one very sweet cute hippy boy that everyone liked. But they'd all laugh behind his back... turns out he was teeny in size, as they'd share by waving a pinky whenever his name came up. .

This lovely young Korean woman wasn't laughing, though. She said I think it's great, he's heart, and he's great in bed. The other girls were really surprised and asked why and asked if she needed an extra, extra small guy. She said yeh, in my butt! The other girls who had previously all been nervous but curious about attempting that act ended up giving it/him a try and he became very popular af the butt guy..

Literally had this happen this morning. I had places to be at 8:30, so set a sex alarm for 7 (is that a thing other people do?). He didn't finish til quarter to 9. Dude doesn't even have trouble cumming, he's just really good at controlling it and I couldn't think of a nice way to hurry him tf up. I was over it at least half and hour before he was.

Thats what happens when society turns it into a constant thing whether by joke or not. Females complain about expectations tbey cant meet, same things happen to males, like this, but they dont talk about it because society paints it as embarrassing if you dont have a massive dong.

How many times have you seen videos of women joking about dick size or even just seen the joke made in films and everyone laughs. If a guy cracks jokes about flat chested or loose vag chicks then hes a scummy asshole.

Eliminating the double standard doesnt seem like its going to happen anytime soon.

Thank you, I have a friend casually dropping that she doesn’t want any guy hitting on her unless his dick touches his belly button. Like damn girl, if I started posting about a 32D boob minimum I’d be socially cratered.

Exactly. Men want big dicks to impress and intimidate their buddies, not the women. If they cared about what women thought they'd learn pretty quickly that women all have different tastes and likes/dislikes. Like that's somehow a surprise.

Only if you have a fragile ego. My current gf's ex-husband had a huge dick. I have a normal sized dick. She says the sex is better with me because he didn't even try to make her feel good, no imagination, just rammed it in and it hurt. Not sure why anyone would be jealous of that.

Kind of shit mates, yeah? I would hope that if I came to my friends to talk about something that made me insecure they wouldn’t laugh in my fucking face. Sure, maybe I could understand poking a little fun at me before getting serious, but not helping at all is just rude and I would seriously consider getting new friends.

I don't think they should've laughed, but I'd have to chuckle at a buddy. More so because he's an idiot for cutting off a perfectly good relationship and what sounds like amazing sex.

If your SO has had sex with multiple men, chances are she's seen a dick bigger than your's. I'm just glad my SO is very much done and over her exes. She says she doesn't compare and only looks for improvements. Does that mean she never compares me to her past partners? Hell no, I'm not naive. But it's comforting to have someone at least actively working to make every new relationship it's own relationship.

I brought this thread up to her and thought about asking her what's the biggest dick she's ever seen. Then I thought better because it doesn't matter and it's only going to make me feel insecure.

Agree, I can't believe how many people put so much value in the size of their dick.
Are people seriously affected by someone having a bigger dick than you?
I can understand seeing a video of them having much better sex being hard on you, but just seeing a big dick? Man some people put worth in the stupidest things.

See, I get what you're saying, but it's just not something all that necessary to say. Like yeah, it's technically a compliment? But a bit of a backhanded one if that makes sense. Like what sounds better: "I love having sex with you because your dick is smaller than my exes" or "Of all the people I've had sex with you're the best". Just an example. One leaves out the unnecessary detail of having a smaller dick.

Similar example but not entirely analogous: I had an ex who dated nothing but extremely athletic, in shape dudes who objectively were quite a bit more buff than I. I was in the gym, I just wasn't quite at the goal I wanted. One day when talking about those goals, she said something along those lines of me not needing to look like that, she's dated hot guys before. I was like umm yeah ok so I'm not hot? You don't find me attractive like you do your exes? I get that she didn't mean it that way, but is it really all that irrational to be upset that someone says something partially negative about you, even if unintentional?

It's just one of those things of choosing your words wisely, and I think a lot of people take that for granted.

Of course there's nothing wrong with saying the sex is better, but to say that an ex was larger, and to do it during sex is just thoughtless. It's not bizarre at all to have a negative reaction to that.

Also it's all relative. I've heard people say they don't like big dicks and prefer something more normal size. Ask them what normal is and they still say things like 7-8 inches. Now maybe they really mean 5-6 and they're just used to dudes telling them their 5'er is actually 7 or maybe they've just really been with only above average dudes.

It's actually more like "your boobs are much smaller than my exes and I like them better".

Like I prefer A- to C-cups. Everything beyond C is just too big for my personal taste. I might even prefer B over C.
But I know that a lot of girls with small boobs envy those with bigger ones. Even tho a lot of men don't.

She should have waited to say something like that. And if anything, you guys need to get rid of your male egos. I personally can relate to the girlfriend because shit happens sex doesnt always feel good because someone has a big dick. It's not the size that matters, it's the moves!!

i had some pics of my ex and i having sex that i didn’t even realize were still in my phone until about a year into my current relationship when i was looking back through my photos, granted i have like thousands and thousands of photos. i deleted them when i remembered they existed but idk

edit bc ppl are mAdDddD: i DELETED THEM. WHEN I FOUND THEM. they were an entire TWO photos taken when my ex asked if he could when we were having sex once. i thought i deleted everything when we broke up and i got a restraining order against him. found random straggler photos for some time after, deleted them when i came across them. my current boyfriend never had to see the photos. i found them, remembered they existed, said ew, deleted them. it’s not that fucking deep

It boggles my mind how many people here are so ready to play the victim. Most reasonable explanation is the photos are old and she doesn't remember that they're there. OP had the right attitude about it. His ego is hurt, but he's not blaming his girl. Pretty well-adjusted, unlike a lot of people in here lmao

Sometimes starting a relationship is full of so much excitement and other emotions that you forget shit.

Years ago (2013) I was on OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, and Tinder. Tinder was one of those "ugh I feel dirty, I'm just gonna delete it" knowing I'd come back later. The others seemed more innocent.

So eventually - I meet my girlfriend. We dated, and it wasn't until we agreed to be exclusive that I deleted my accounts.

First, I deleted okcupid (actually suspended my account because I always thought it'd be cool to go back to our original chats for some anniversary gift or something). Deleted Plenty of Fish.

At the time, I didn't have the Tinder app installed on my phone, and didn't think anything through, so there it sat.

5 years later, one of my female friends just shoots me a friendly but accusatory PM on Facebook "So - my roommate found you on Tinder...what's up with that?"

The first thing that went to my head was that I was drunk and activated my account. It wasn't on my phone nor was it in my search history. Okay. The next thing was that it was someone who looked like me.

"Nope, it was definitely you - the picture from Mike's wedding is the top picture."

Fuck - okay...so was someone fucking with me?

She offered a solution: "Did you not delete your account from years ago?"

I doubted it. Feeling dirty, I installed the app, was able to log right in after a quick verification, and there it was - my old debaucherous account with some cheesy pickup line from 2013. Luckily it was crystal clear that there were no shenanigans; I was fit and bearded in those pictures and since dating my girlfriend, I lost the beard and gained the weight.

I feel like no explanation is perfectly believable, but I didn't realize that I was still "live" on Tinder. I'm terrified of the day when one of her friends goes "hey, so...we know about your tinder account." So far, so good.

Yeah, well, sometimes you just have to tell people to mind their own fucking business. Our society is basically in the teenage years of the information age, and we haven't grown up yet. Every one of us has things we're not proud of. It should be no big deal. Glass houses and all. Nobody has any right to act pious. We are all fuckups about something or other. Even your heroes.

This was my assumption as well when this happened. All I can think of is that somehow this didn't happen for me or i was somehow logging on unbeknownst to me. The only time I know I logged in was to hop on during a friend's bachelor party to find people for the single guys to party with - but that was in early 2014. This was New Orleans, so come to think about it, I'm positive I suspended my account when I began dating my girlfriend, so it may have come active at this point without me doing anything other than deleting the app.

Happened to me with bumble. My fiancé and I had been together a year, and a mutual friend asks me while he’s there why he saw me on bumble. I was totally confused, admitted that yeah, I had used it prior to my SO but had deleted it. Immediately re downloaded, and permanently deleted. Basically deleted the app while we started to get serious but never bothered or realized I had to fully delete because it wasn’t yet at the “holy shit I’m marrying this one someday”.

So. I get it, it blew over, he found it hilarious since he had used his fair share of dating apps as well. It happens, if you have a good relationship it blows over because it’s modern dating.

Because it’s massive? I could despise my ex with a passion but if she had 38ZZZ titties you bet your sweet balls I’d keep photographic proof of such a thing. A dick that size sounds almost useless anyway unless she has clunge like an alleyway so I wouldn’t be bothered by it, it’s more of a freakshow kind of thing by the sounds of it. If it was 8” and the girth of a red bull can then I might be bothered but that beast just sounds like an impossibility and probably a major reason why they broke up.

However, if one person feels one way and has a certain perspective on love and sex, and their potential partner feels so differently that they literally don't get the other's point of view, maybe that sort of thing in itself is a bit of a clue that the two people are not compatible.

Like I'm not saying it's an actual bad thing to feel one way or the other. But there are two types of people on this thread. Those that feel that this would be a huge problem and would seriously hurt them. And those that seem to not understand why.

Maybe all that says is that there are two types of people with very different views on relationships, and maybe relationships between these two types of people might not work out so well.

I was thinking this but I've kept pictures of my ex simply because I completely forgot about them. I delete them when I find then but I take so many pictures and screenshots that my library fills up really fast and I don't scroll that far

I have over 17,000 pictures in my phone. If I don’t immediately delete them, they’re never getting deleted. I have some pictures and videos from when me and my best friend tried to date for about a week. We both want to forget that happened. I never want to see that again. It’s better to just have them buried where I’ll never find them than to specifically search them out to delete them

I dunno, I'll find myself missing my ex's pillow forts, but I had the sense and decency to delete nudes of her when we broke up, let alone when I started a relationship with someone else.

Size comparison doesn't mean shit because you need to be happy with the person you're with or what's the damn point.

If you're with someone and don't like the sex or want a partner who looks different naked? Fine. Do your thing. But trying to hold onto something else is just shitty. PARTICULARLY if you're at the point where the person you're with is taking you on vacation.

Honestly, I've deleted a lot of pictures that appear back on my phone because they were backed up to the cloud. Sometimes it's hard to go through all the pictures I have backed up because there are so many and from so long ago.

I've tried multiple times to delete all the sexy pics I have of my ex-wife, only to have one randomly pop up again when I'm scrolling through my gallery.

Usually I would agree with you, but I cant really blame her for potentially wanting to whip those pictures out anytime a guy approaches her and says he is big or her friends are going on about that good D they got last weekend.

Seriously, mad sympathy here.
If it happened to me, I don't think I could continue on in the relationship. I struggle with jealousy over dumb shit anyways. Having that image burned into my brain would just fuck me up.

There's always a bigger dick. There's always a faster car, there's always someone stronger, there's always someone smarter. It isnt about that. Its about doing what ever it is you do, the way that you do it. And a lot of times in relation to relationships, it's how you be you. They're attracted to how you are around them.

Bring it up. Make it known that knowing they're there makes you uncomfortable. You didnt mean to see thel but she could easily delete them. Hell she might not even remember they're saved still.

I think your feelings are very valid. It's not just about the dick size. Often times, when you find out that your current SO's ex had better income, better job, bigger dick, bigger boobs, or more, you are bound to compare yourself with him/her.

If you truly love your girlfriend and wish to continue the relationship, just sit down with her and be honest. Tell her that you accidentally stumbled upon previous photos with her ex. Don't mention anything about the dick size. Just ask her why she kept those photos. And if she says anything along the line of - I forgot to delete them and all she cares about is you, then you should feel confident that she loves you as a person and everything about you. Of course, you will still have a bit of doubt in yourself that you will never be as good as her ex, but there is a reason why she broke up with her ex, right?

Edit : Words

I think your feelings are very valid. It's not just about the dick size. Often times, when you find out that your current SO's ex had better income, better job, bigger dick, bigger boobs, and more, you are bound to compare yourself with him/her.

If you truly love your girlfriend and wish to continue the relationship, just sit down with her and be honest. Tell her that you accidentally stumbled upon previous photos with her ex. Don't mention anything about the dick size. Just ask her why she kept those photos. And if she says anything along the line of - I forgot to delete them and all she cares about is you, then you should feel confident that she loves you as a person and everything about you. Of course, you will still have a bit of doubt in yourself that you will never be as good as her ex, but there is a reason why she broke up with her ex, right?

I wouldn’t lie about your feelings towards them. Just explain that you understand it’s entirely in your head and there’s no reason why she should feel like she did anything wrong but it just is something he needs to deal with but wouldn’t mind her support. At the end of the day she’s with him for a reason. Likely what it would take is a bit of talk about why she’s with him and not her ex for him to feel more confident again in his relationship.

The LAST thing he should do is try and bottle it up and have it lash out in some way like a snide comment next time they’re going at it and him making a remark about how she clearly has had bigger or something.

People have insecurities, men or women, doesn't matter. Plenty of men are insecure about penis size, and plenty of women are insecure about breast size as well. Everyone has something to be insecure about their body. The point of having a loving healthy relationship is to talk about it and feel safe and comfortable doing so and working together to get past your insecurities and into a space where you're comfortable with yourself and your partner.

I agree with most of what you said, except telling her that it’s just in his head. I don’t care about the dick size, but she better have a good reason why those pics are still on her phone. He’s already thinking she’s the one he wants to spend the rest of her life with, while she’s still keeping(knowingly or unknowingly) dick sucking pics of her ex. Nudes and sex pics are not something you just forget you have.

Except for the fact that she keeps explicit photos of an ex boyfriend and her on her phone. I'm not the guy that thinks that couples should bottle up their past sex lives (in fact, share away and grow a thicker skin if that bothers you) - BUT - hanging onto those pictures in such a convenient location seems kind of like she's still hanging onto that relationship (even if she's not - it's just something you get rid of).

"I was devastated, I mean, I've never seen a cock that fat. I used to think about it all day, just thinking of ways to cram it in me. My mouth just salivating at the thought of trying to get that sucker down my throat. Ah... those were the days. Thanks for asking babe I appreciate it. I needed that outlet, kinda like how he used my vagina as the outlet for his ubercock. Love you babe. So, want to see Endgame tonight?"

Just so you guys know, a big dick is cool when you first see it cause of the novelty. However actually having sex with a big dick is not fun for most women. It’s painful. Maybe some women like pain but most women do not like it when it starts hitting their cervix. Plus forget about quickies, sex becomes this whole ordeal where you have to get super prepped first for it to be tolerable. Knowing what to do with a clit is much more important than dick size.

Same reason lots of guys still have pics of girls with giant boobs or an insane ass they used to date, but we're not breaking up with girls because their boobs are smaller than the biggest we've ever seen. Hell, if I saw a dudes dick that was bigger than my forearm I'd probably take a picture too.

Edit: I made this comment below but I'm going to paste it here instead of replying to everyone.

I would say as long as you're faithful and devoted to your SO you're free to look at whatever porn you want. I don't see any issues with it. That's all they are now, pornographic pictures of someone you used to have sex with. Doesn't compete with the love of your life, even for a second. I wouldn't care if my girlfriend or wife watched videos of her getting gangbanged by body builders, if she wants to be with me after that then that's nothing but an ego boost for myself.

Everyone is entitled to feel how they want about it, but just because you deem something to be gross or unfaithful or whatever doesn't mean everyone's moral compass is wrong for disagreeing.

Edit#2: great, 18 notifications (:

I'm not talking about dumb relationships where you're like oh idk if this person is going to stick around or like shit I hope farting in front of her isn't going to end things. I'm talking about real, honest to god love where you trust that person with a loaded gun to your head. I'm talking about someone who looks like a 10 to you no matter what. Someone that feels the exact same way back.

If you have something real then you know this person isn't going anywhere, you're meant for each other and nothing is going to change that. Not some T-Rex cock she got years before you met, not some pornstar tits you remember from college, not that body builder Chad who goes to the same gym as her, not the flirty new receptionist at your office, nothing. So who gives a good god damn about some photos on your phone? Everyone commenting about what a breach of trust these pics are has never been in a relationship like this, because I promise you won't feel an emotional connection to anything else once you're in it.

...but I also just went and deleted all of my ex photos, because I convinced myself typing this out that they're pointless to keep anyway. Thanks guys, I'm glad we had this journey together. I'm gonna turn off notifications from this post now.

lots of guys still have pics of girls with giant boobs or an insane ass they used to date

This is called being a fucking douche-nozzle and OP’s GF is also guilty of it.

Not all dudes do this. Not even a majority. If they do, it’s in a SECRET FUCKING FOLDER THAT REQUIRES A FINGERPRINT TO OPEN YOU BLOODY AMATEUR so that your SO doesn’t happen across it while swiping through random, easily accessible photo files.

pretty much this. Doesnt matter if the pics are time stamped a decade before you two met, that is a potentially relationship ending argument right there.

My porn folders are hidden in a gaming folder that ready has a thousand folders, and its labeled as some nondescript thing so it blends in, and the first couple pics are all generic programs, unlike some folders that show a preview of the pictures that are inside it.

It is entirely possible she forgot about it. I don’t comb through my photos from 1-2+ years ago often at all. Most memorable photos are in special folders, uploaded to the computer or on social media. Maybe she was drunk and didn’t remember taking the pic. Who knows?

You can’t be sure of that either. A lot of women aren’t visual in their porn. I would rather read smut than watch porn. Obviously can’t speak for all women, but there’s a good deal of possibility here that she took photos of a spectacle not happy fap fodder.

Depends on the girl to be honest. Current GF vs previous relationships tells me I lucked out with her in this manner. I would say she has a miracle one, for many reasons I wont go into it's perfect!

Yes though, many women do find a penis of such size painful and if the guy isn't an asshole he feels bad about it too. Although, she was in a relationship with this guy for 3 years and took photos with her phone, I'm thinking she might not have "not enjoyed" as much as reddit is assuming she is.

Having a big dick is a constant burden. Do you know what its like to have to keep your bits ontop of your lap while shitting so they stay out of the water or off the porcelin? Not all toilets, but it happens to you once and you are scared for life.

I mean, particularly if she can't get her teeth around it, but aside from that...

I'm not big in the downstairs department, but am pretty tall and while this is apparently something people look up to(lol), I wish so much that I were shorter and I could fit in normal places and not have to be a big gangly/scary freak.

OP, if you guys were non-monogamous and she had another partner with a giant porn dick, do you think she would ditch you for it? It sounds unlikely to me.

Anyway, I hear you and as another male-raised person, I know that very special kind of pain you're feeling right now. It's programmed in by society to make boys into violent little soldiers who knock each other down rather than build each other up, and it's a traumatising heap of shit.

In another world, Mr giant dick could be your friend who you respect for their personal qualities rather than feel negatively toward because of their body.

Yikes. Isn’t the mainstream argument now that no one can help what they’re aroused by? He can’t just make himself like that. This guy has perfectly valid feelings and he doesn’t need to be told to deal with them in such an unhealthy way.

I knew this guy who had a huge donkey dong. Like seriously big, he had won competitions (he was in the army and they did that kind of thing). Well one night he got drunk and he confided to me that it was "a f***ing curse". He told me how women he was about to be intimate with would see it and immediately call it off. Or how he wasnt able to have sex that was pleasurable for girlfriends he was in love with, and that roadblock to normal intimacy ruined the relationship. This big, tough, hung like a gas-pump, soldier was in tears telling me this.

A giant cock? No siree, not for me. I'll stick with my average sized, fits in pretty much any hole, comfortable in my pants, penis ❤

Have you tried bringing up you accidentally saw the pictures, how they made you feel, and talked through it? Your head is an echo chamber so you really aren't going to get beyond this on your own. I'm sure she'd even be willing to delete the photos if you asked. There's a chance she doesn't even remember the photos are there - I can't even remember the last time I looked at the older photos in my gallery from 6 months ago, much less over a year ago.

*Edit: Wow, thanks for the unexpected gold anonymous stranger!

Have you tried bringing up you accidentally saw the pictures, how they made you feel, and talked through it? Your head is an echo chamber so you really aren't going to get beyond this on your own. I'm sure she'd even be willing to delete the photos of you asked. There's a chance she doesn't even remember the photos are there - I can't even remember the last time I looked at the older photos in my gallery from 6 months ago, much less over a year ago.

I used to play rugby with a guy that could wrap his cock around his wrist twice. Girls swore up and down that I fucked them better, he consistently left them with what they could only describe as cervix bruises.

Personally, I’m happy to be average and know what balls deep feels like.

Agreed 100%. If you want a long-term relationship with babies and houses n'at, you need to learn how to work through the bumps in the road together. That's straight-up healthy marriage shit. You're gonna have worse problems than this once in awhile, and you're gonna have to work through them with patience, understanding, and a good sense of humor. Now go talk about some massive dong with your partner.

Weird that this comment is close to the bottom. No one else is bothered that she still has those pictures within arm's reach? I saw another comment mention that she probably forgot all about it. Yeah, right. Like she'd forget that.

I only just got my first non-flip ancient phone recently in March...and every time I try to sync to my computer it keeps redownloading images I already downloaded and syncing up and it's like a nightmare trying to make sure I don't accidentally REALLY delete all copies while trying to navigate/delete/remove some of them.

It's eating up all my hardrive space and for the life of me I have no idea what I'm doing LOL. I thought the sync would be nice but I'd rather go back to the old tried and true USB plugged in to download manually after the horror of syncing I'm dealing with. So many copies of the same hundred pics, ahahahha. HELP. XD

Google photos- unlimited storage (though compressed, but for most it's fine) Plus it's amazingly searchable. I was looking for pics of my dog in a superman coatume the other day, and searched 'Superman' and every single one came up. Even ones where you couldn't even see the 'S' on the cape. It was really cool.

Yeah to be fair, if you're dating someone who still has pictures of their ex, and when you bring up that it makes you uncomfortable and they turn it around to getting mad at you, that's a sign you probably shouldn't date them anymore. That's a person who has no respect for you or your feelings.

I mean, in fairness, I would probably keep any nudes I was sent, ex or not. If not my phone, somewhere.

Maybe that's weird too, though.

Either way, from the sounds of it, it sounds like the dude was legitimately freakishly big, to the point it might not even be enjoyable to women. Maybe she keeps them as "proof" for her girl friends. Or maybe she really hasn't cleaned up her phone since then. Whatever the case, I'd hardly think it's some damning evidence. Women have a past; you just happened to see part of hers.

At the most, maybe consider something like "Hey, sorry, I was swiping through photos and accidentally came across some of your old ones. I'm kind of uncomfortable with you still having pics like that with another dude. Would you have any problem deleting them?"

I honestly don't think there's any benefit to their relationship from her knowing he saw those pictures. Even though he wasn't snooping, she might wonder if he did, and they'll both have to think about it rather than just him (who will hopefully forget about it in time). It's an unfortunate situation but confronting her would make it worse. He might, however, reconsider letting her take or keep any pics involving him the future since she obviously can't or doesn't know how to keep those types of pictures secret.

It takes me back to when my ex forgot to log out of her facebook on my computer.

Saw a chat with a guy from her work. Curious as one are, i scrolled a bit. Saw some explicit texts, scrolled further, even more of that and eventually pictures of her and suddenly a dickpic from the guy. This was not a old chat either, it was during the relationship at around the yearmark.

Stuff like that physically turns your stomach around. Twists it.

But in OPs case, these pictures shouldn't have been there. That's something you delete when you feel things are getting serious, which is way earlier than one year.

I'm not sure what I'd do if I was OP. How the hell do you delete such images from your mind? It would boggle my mind.

That's is horrible. Reminds me of when I realized my baby's mom was posting nudes on tumblr and receiving dick pics. Not that I have a problem with girls posting nudes, I highly appreciate that actually, but I was not privy to said nudes and we hadn't had sex since before the pregnancy. Needless to say, she'd been cheating and we broke up not long after that.

Yeah. Am kind of in the same boat. I knew she posted nudes on Tumblr. Wasn't super keen on it, but whatever, you do you. But then I found out she was actively seeking dick pics in return and it's really fucked me up.

Didn't help that she literally held a pic she received next to my dick to compare them 😕

It seems to be a universal reaction. My first girlfriend cheated on me after five years with a close friend (like, for a while...). She asked me to text her Mum whilst she was driving one day, and the rest is history.

I didn’t eat properly for days my guts were so twisted. I think it’s all the adrenaline telling you to go and bash the usurpers head in with a sharpened rock or particularly hefty stick what you found.

Dude.... She's with you. Not with him. That says a lot. Size doesn't say anything. Boobs are the same thing. It's not the size that matters. It's the whole package. Treat your woman like it should and she'll return the pleasure. Unless she complains, then it's something different

I remember that the girl I dated 2 girls ago had really nice big boobs and sometimes think about them, but it doesn't come close to meaning that I still want to be with her. You don't date someone for the size of their genitals, and even if she does fantasize about that dick from time to time, it doesn't mean she loves OP any less, or wishes she could be with that guy any more.

Having a mental picture vs an actual picture is a pretty large distinction.

If she still has the picture and thinks about it, she can literally just go look at it. If doesn't, then delete it.

But she does. 100%. That's why you keep pictures.

Now whether she's keeping them for proof to show her girlfriends, or as leverage on that dude, or as spank bank material, is all conjecture, but it doesn't seem very cool towards OP regardless, and a partner should respect that.

True.... But don't we all have pictures of former relations? Oh, not nude.... I'll give you that. But try not to let it eat you up too much. And otherwise.... Ask. Tell her you accidentally saw it. And try to approach it lightly

What's healthy varies per person. Similarly, someone who stays in constant contact with exes and unable to move on from them in their lives could also seem unhealthy. Context is key.

When me and my fiancee broke up, I never saw her again and don't talk to her. She lives in a completely different state so there was no reason to contact. I'm not going to intentionally seek her out on Facebook to stay in touch. It's over, it's done, move on (in that instance).

Not really, one stole from me then tried suing me ( case was dismissed immediately by the Judge) I've been in some dark places and just was desperate and ended things when I saw it for what it was. There was one relationship that wasn't terrible but when I didn't hear from her for two days and she admitted she was turning back to heroin we both agreed a relationship between us was not in the cards.

Oh god grow up. Why is she supposed to delete pictures from her past. Theyve only been dating a year. A year is not that long. His dick sounds insanely big maybe she keeps it as a WOw this dick is crazy.

Dude, you're looking at this all wrong... she chose you over Bobby TwoCans...! You won! You might not quite be there in the size department, but you're obviously doing something right! Maybe he was a 1 minute wonder? Maybe he had BO? Maybe he was good... but apparently not as good as you....

Pull your head out of your ass, go home, bang your chick, and the while you're at it remember that Joey ThirdLeg is probably sitting at home alone online shopping for extra spacious boxers. And even if he's with a gaggle of supermodels, the one place he isn't it with your girl, because she's with you, and staying that way.

If you're worried you're not pleasing her, then have a talk with her and see if there is something more you can do. If she was so happy with that guy, then she wouldnt be with you. You are her choice. Now get in there and make her cum until she can't take it anymore and revel in it!

“Listen, im sorry i scrolled too far and I wish I could unsee what i did. Maybe I saw it too quickly and scrolled off, but I am a little upset that you have photos of your ex’s meatstick. And frankly, I’m upset because I’m worried that I am not adequate.

Firstly, could we discuss out sex life, and whether or not it is enjoyable for you, and

Second, could you please delete the photos of your ex? It’s upsetting to me that you want to keep them to remind yourself of whatever.

I’m glad we can have open discussions - it’s what makes us strong. And I’m sorry if I come as as sensitive right now. But, i hope you can see why it concerned me.”

My current wife was brutally honest about the big dick experiences she had.

She said it is different since the larger size means you godda watch out and chance of cervix smashing is high (if long), and stretch is painful and irritating and you're uncomfortable and sore afterwards. She did say the benefit is that you can do positions you normally can't really do with a normal dick.

That one in the movies where you're kissing passionately standing up but still getting good penetration. Also your dick has to be shaped like an "L". Every guy hollywood is like that. Huge and bent, so they do sex scenes like that.

I wouldn't consider this a hard question. It prob go something like. Guy: I saw pics of you sucking that giant dick thats why i cant concentrate. Girl:Oh shit. Yeah im sorry i forgot they were there ill delete them right now. And its still not going to get it out of hes head

Then feed your ego, man! She gave up that big D for you. That guy got her then, but you got her now, which is so much better. That guy wishes he was you, not the other way around.

My gf is a total babe and guys hit on her at bars all the time. I just had to find a way to deal with it. The best thing was that I go home with her every night. I sleep in the same bed with her every night. My less-above-average-than-you sized penis spends infinite amount of more time with her than those other guys ever will.

I knew a guy with this exact attitude about his wife. She was hot, he was a normal guy, so when they went out she would get attention. When you talked to her you get a real sense that she was madly in love with him, and I believe that she is. Just so happens she loves him emotionally while, also love fucking other guys. Poor guy has no clue, and he thinks he’s hot shit for catching such a prize. I’m coworkers with her btw.

The crazy thing is she’s a great mom, she’s a great coworker and the stuff that she does for her husband makes me think that she genuinely loves the guy. Her one flaw is that she likes fucking other guys once in a while. It’s a big flaw that can potentially undue everything she’s built in her personal and professional life, but there she is. I have my own flaws so I don’t judge try not to judge, but life is shitty. I love my wife, and I think she’s beautiful, but I don’t use her to build up my self esteem. I’m with her because I love her, I want to fight through life’s shit with her on my side.

Opinions needed. I keep a folder with pics and a little text document explaining what was good and bad about the relationship with all my ex's. I make them when we break up. I find it helps me not think of them with rose tinted glases, and I can read that text document and look at the pics and remind myself of why we're not together anymore.

I'll be honest, that really doesn't sound healthy. Once it's over, it's over, and how do you think your next SO would feel knowing you had an itemized list of the pros and cons of each person you've been with?

It's an individual opinion whether or not that's bad. All the people here need to remember what works for one couple doesn't apply to all. Long term - wise, to be safe I would say delete it. After all, you should already know in your head why you're not with them versus your current S. O.
HOWEVER, if you really trust the person you're dating, you could ask them how they feel about it too.

That sounds like a healthy journal to keep to me. Understanding why relationships have failed is a critical step in ensuring that you don't make the same mistakes with current and future partners. As long as you have no plans to publicize these candid assessments or private photos, I don't see the harm.

Hey, we can't fault her like that! We don't know her side of the story. I think OP should talk to her and find out. She might even know she still has them. Like I've mention before in a previous comment, I have been with my partner for 4 and a half years and I only JUST found pictures of my ex that I didn't realize I still had.
But for sure, double standards aren't cool and you should talk to her about it to find out regarding where she stands.

Bi guy here. You prob won't read this as it's too far down, but I think my perspective might give you some comfort: from my experience, guys with big dicks usually have trouble staying in long term relationships. While it's an exciting thing to look at in porn, it's nearly impossible to have sex with a large penis. Oral sex, as you describe it, is impossible. Vaginal sex will hurt immensely, and don't even talk about anal sex. I'm also above average and most men won't even consider anal sex, some women have complained about pain after vaginal sex. And I can understand why. I dated a man who had a 10 inch dick, also very thick, but I didn't find out until 2 months into the relationship. Three months later I had to break the relationship because we could not have any sex. He wasn't a bottom and I couldn't bottom for him. Our only sex was jerking off. I hurt him immensely by breaking up the relationship, and I myself was hurt. I felt like shit finding out all his relationships ended because of his dick size. He must go through every beginning of a relationship thinking that it may end sooner rather than later because people get tired of how difficult it is to simply enjoy sex. Think about it? You got the girl.

Seriously why does she still have that on her phone? Most normal people in newer and better relationships delete that shit. I certainly don't keep photos of my old gfs on my phone after a breakup and certainly not after I get with someone else. I'd let her you saw it on accident and ask why she has it on there. If she is a good one she will see it upset you and delete it.

Looking forward to hearing how you bring this up with her, and how the conversation goes. Hopefully you keep it chill, there's plenty of reasonable explanations (like forgetting to delete an old pic).

Also remember that the obsession with dick size is very much a guy thing. Sort of like girls with tits- you can find all kinds of tits hot, right? Any shape and size. Big tits have a cultural thing about them (in this specific culture, for this brief period of time) but they're not inherently superior in any way. Aesthetically, probably an equal amount of guys prefer small tits to big ones. And that's just aesthetics, once you throw personality/emotions/love into the mix the whole thing goes out the window and a historically big boob tiny ass preferring guy could be chasing the girl with the biggest ass and smallest tits because he loves the way spending time with her feels, he gets a boner from the way she wins at Settlers of Catan and her fucked up driving habits. She could rock his world to degrees that would be unreachable by any previous big titted gfs of his. But some chicks get really jealous of other girls with bigger boobs, they have no idea the complex and varied relationship men in general have to boobs as a whole.

Same with cocks. For women, as far as I understand, all kind of cocks are great. If she's cumming when you're fucking, you're good.

I recommend opening up the conversation with telling her what you saw, and then just leaving it. Look at her and see how she responds. And then tell her how it felt to see that. Don't mention the bigness, just talk about how it feels like she's not giving herself entirely to this relationship if she's still holding onto pics like that.

Every guy wants to have the biggest dick in the room. It's a normal part of our western 21st century masculine socialization, makes you achieve great things and push yourself emotionally/intellectually/spiritually/physically, but once that desire to be the top dog is fucking with your happiness and mental health it's time to pump the breaks and take a moment to reflect on what really matters. Let it back in when you are past this temporarily difficult issue.

I went through a sort of similar situation with my wife, I found out that she’d been with a guy with a big dick before me and like you I’m above average and I had to just talk to her about it because it was playing on my mind way too much.

talk to her about it. according to you you didn't do anything wrong, and neither did she. just let her know how you're feeling. you're ruminating about this and if you let it stick in your brain its only going to get worse.

Give it time, and you should be able to get over it. Know that girls don't care about the size of a dick nearly as much as we think they do, and accept the reality that she is not with that guy, and she chooses to be with you. Most people are with someone before they're with us, and it's okay because that was their life before us. It happens. People have sex. People have different things that they like and dislike in each relationship.

Maybe you've been with a girl with bigger boobs, or who's more adventurous in bed. Maybe she's been with a guy with a bigger dick, or who makes more money. It doesn't affect your love unless you force it to, and you should fight very hard to not let it.

A girl can be completely satisfied by a 4" dick if it's used correctly, and with love. You are plenty for her, even if she does prefer a gigantic baseball bat dick, but chances are good that you're doing just fine.

I encourage you to talk to her about it. Stuff like this being a secret held by just one person never resolves well.

I would take a average-to-small size dick over an enormous one any day and I think most women I know would say the same. What you are describing sounds absolutely horrific actually. Dont even worry about that shit.

Dude if she's been with you that long and you guys are perfect for each other, then yours is the one she wants. I'm really sorry that you saw that and totally understand that it upset you, but she's with you for a reason. She wants YOU. If it makes you that uncomfortable, you should talk to her and explain that you saw it accidentally. You can't bottle up feelings of discomfort. I'm sure she'll give you the reassurance you need.

Idk about that...maybe normal pictures of a sunset or puppies or something, but I am very aware of any lewd pics I have on my phone, especially if it's of an ex. Because of exactly this kind of situation

I would be too. But it doesn't say how long they were together. If it were a while and she went through and thought she got them all, it's possible she missed a few. It's also possible she kept them but why wouldn't she put them in a hidden folder if she was up to no good?

I've got 3 ex's in my life that would choke a horse and one guy I flat refused to even touch (it was like an elephant baby leg)... They best orgasms I've ever had, the best sex I've ever has with "average" men...

Those ex's have all turned into bad jokes when I'm drunk or Reddit posts... What she did before you brought her too you.... We get into all sorts of good and bad situations that make us who we are today, if you love your like you said you do who cares what her ex had it's obvious she's into you and trusts you enough to leave her cell in your hands

Try to see it for the novelty that it is. If its really a prehistoric sized dick then that shit should be put in a museum for display. If that was my girlfriend I'd tease her about it and then ask if she wanted me to rollplay as a pringles can.

Since apparently only one other woman replied, here some actual basic knowledge – dicks that are huge like that aren't fun! They hurt! It's your genders imagination that that is what women want. That's nonsense. It's not very mature to believe that porn-reality is actual real life reality. It's porn.

Was about to comment the same. It gets painful fast after a certain threshold, and I promise he was beyond that. My thought is maybe she kept them because it's honestly kind of funny. I don't know that, of course. I can only say that if I'd saved them, that would be why.

That said, I do think a chat is in order. Is she normally okay with you going through her phone? The time to learn good communication is now.

And to add - even if they're fun to take pictures with - they aren't something to build relationships around. If she feels the same way about you, like you about her - it shouldn't really matter there are some pictures on her phone. Focus on life.

Dude, it was a rough time in my life basically ages 19-30. I'm now with the love of my life, he's clean, he's got a job, he's not addicted to anything unless you count caffeine, he's fit and smart and social and not attracted to kids.( never thought that I would have to say "don't be into kids" on my tinder profile but you know.... ) I'm doing better now, don't worry :D

Kinda fucked up of her to keep those photos. Hate to say it but my moneys on dude broke up with her and she still has a thing for him. You need to talk to her about why she choose to keep those photos because 1. That’s not something you forget you have on your phone unless you are projared and 2. this is a bad sign for your relationship and you seem pretty oblivious to that

I think your biggest concern is that she still has the pics on her phone. You're talking about settling down and starting a family, and she's still got ex-cock saved. I don't think she's as into this relationship as you are. You need to have a talk and figure out where things are.

Dude. This is why we don't scroll in other people's phones. Just know that guys with big dicks does not mean they know how to please a woman. Sure it's exciting but not very sustainable for most people. I've read an article where men with huge penises actually have reported difficulty maintaining romantic relationships and article where women statistically prefer an average size penis for long term partners.

You gotta be confident in yourself and stop comparing yourself to other people. Accept that she is now with you and try to let time pass. I don't think it's a deal breaker but I think this is a good process to help you just accept it and move on with the love of your life.

I don’t see how people don’t think this is wrong, yeah maybe it’s okay to have like pictures without doing sexual stuff but to have pictures on the standby on your phone like that wtf. When I jump into a new relationship I delete all my stuff if the girl I’m with is in it for the long haul that’s basically cheating.

Honestly I'm guessing she keeps it around for the same reason dudes keep pictures of big fish they reel in. It's like a trophy catch that she cant exactly put up on a mantel but wants to be able to show off when out with the ladies and they get to swapping random stories. I'd also guess it wasnt nearly as pleasurable as your making it out in your head.

She couldn't even get her mouth around it. Imagine how uncomfortable that was to try to take into her vagina or ass (if she's into that sort of thing). She probably loves sex with you because it doesn't take hours of prep work to even make attempts. Regardless, she chose you. Believe her choice.

(Also, she probably kept the pictures because it's like a freak show, and she wants to be able to show her friends from time to time how ridiculous that thing was.)

I too saw my gf's ex's dick. He sent her a picture a few months after we'd been dating. She opened the text on the phone while we were in the car, looked horrified and immediately turned her phone off. About an hour later, told me her ex had sent her a picture and asked me to delete it for her. So she wouldn't have to look.

It too, was literally female forearm sized. And it was soft. Hanging down to his knees. OH yeah, and dick aside, he was shredded. Not more shredded than me in my prime, but 100% more shredded than me at my at-the-time (also current, but I'm getting my abs visible again) fitness level.

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This is the real test bro. Are you man enough to ngaf? Do you have the confidence in yourself not to compare?

This may shock you, OP, but you can find another woman. One that doesn't keep photographs of her sucking dick on her phone. This is not a high bar. Don't let people convince you otherwise. You're going to move in with this girl and start a family with her, even though you'll never, ever forget what you saw? You're doing yourself a huge disservice.

Who gives a shit? If she is sucking your dick now, who cares what she sucked before? Like I don't get this insecurity? Someone OUT THERE will ALWAYS be bigger then you, and ALWAYS be smaller then you. She is with you now, so who gives two shits. Let it go, or it's not going to work out well.

Maybe from a woman’s perspective... most gals who aren’t porn stars and are stretched from years of big sick pounding, would prefer your size. I’ve had partners who were on the bigger end and it hurt. I could only get comfortable in certain positions and didn’t want to attempt other things in case I got hurt. A regular size is much more fun, I can relax and get adventurous because I know it will feel awesome and I don’t have to be scared to get hurt. Yeah a big dick is a novelty, but not as pleasurable long term, so don’t let this get you down. Are you happy together in the bedroom? That is ALL that matters. Now go rage fuck her.

Look at it this way - she was with a County Fair Winning Dick and kept some photos with The Devastator. Even minus any real attachment, that’s a heck of a memento.

I’ll also recommend sitting down and calmly explaining that you accidentally scrolled down to photos of her ex, and it’s got you feeling shook and insecure. Just be honest and non-confrontational/non-defensive. If it bothers you that she keeps it, tell her that and talk about it.

Bring it up to her, tell her how you accidentally saw it and how upset you are and awkward it's made you feel. If she gets overly defensive or has a problem deleting it then that's a huge red flag for you

I once dated a girl who explained that while her ex husband was bigger than me, she was amazed to find that I was way better in bed than him. She felt it was because since he knew he was well hung, his size was enough and he didn't have to try. There's something to be said for performance as opposed to size I guess. I wouldn't worry about it from that aspect but I would come clean about finding the pictures and finding out why she still has them. Plus it could open a dialog about what she likes in bed. Communication is key there.

I had a close female friend years ago that’d jump on nearly every hard dick she could and she hooked up with a double coke can dude. She was impressed, but scared of that anaconda.

Thing is, once you’re past a certain size, shit hurts. There’s a novelty to it, but this guy told her that most women wouldn’t sleep with him more than twice because... it hurt.

She said there was a little blood, and while she enjoyed it... it also hurt and she couldn’t do it again.

Fact is - every woman that’s had multiple partners has probably had bigger dicks than yours inside her, just as she’s had smaller dicks inside her. Just as you’ve played with bigger boobs, smaller boobs, saggier boobs and perkier boobs. If you’re anything like me, within a certain range you’re just glad they’re in your face, especially if you really like the person they’re attached to.

She likes you, she wants you inside her. If she had a problem with your dick size she wouldn’t.

Does she have sex toys? Are they closer to your size, or his? I’d be willing to bet she does, and they’re closer to yours....

I’m gonna say this is a karma grab.
If this is legit tho, I’m gonna say the only way to deal with this is openly . Tell her what happened . Let her know you would feel better if those pictures didn’t exist .

Tell her your sorry for not sharing sooner . If she’s a decent human your apology should prompt her to do the same . She may be upset that you looked deep into her Kong cock files but that’s for her to sort through emotionally .

She may not know they’re still there. She may know and it forces her to examine why.

She's with you... Not him. Despite this guy holding a howitzer in his pants. If she wanted a high caliber bang-stick she'd be with him and not you. And for over a year... Just because this guy is sporting a pool noodle doesn't mean he does a better job at making her happy.

If dick size was that important to her and you were at all insignificant like you believe you are I doubt she'd care to move in with you or pursue the relationship. Size also isn't everything (coming from a woman here), dude could have the biggest dick but if the heart ain't with it where's the fun in it. Also even if your gf was/is into that sort of size, that sounds terrifying to me, and I'll just happily return into the depths of the internet thanking the lawd my husband doesn't have a penis that could murder me if misused.

As long as she’s not cheating on you or seeing someone else I don’t think you should care. It’s weird that she kept pictures like that but there are a lot of people who don’t delete pictures and don’t even go back that far. I know I don’t although I feel like females always go back and reminisce through their old photos. Yeah as long as she’s honest and not cheating on you I wouldn’t really care but I can see how something like this could fuck with your mental. It’s possible that she even knows that, that could have happened and would want to see your reaction.... which would be an asshole thing to do but some females love to see what you would do.

Men care more about another man’s dick more than women do. The only thing that matters is who she is wrapping her lips around right now. Everybody has a history. If you keep your focus in the rearview, you’re never going to see what’s in front of you.

You know you don't have the biggest dick in the world. You know she's seen other dicks. If she can't get her mouth around it, sounds shitty for him, a life with awful blowjobs. There's such a thing as too big. Speak to other women. Too big / too small is shit. They're looking for a nice middle ground.

It makes her bad girlfriend material because she takes pictures of herself in compromising positions in a world where everything you do will come back and haunt you. She'll be PTA president and running the bake sale and somebody will find that picture on the Internet and send it to your 13 year-old. Poor decision-making skills. I'd find somebody confident enough not to need to do that. But that's me.

Well honestly such a penis is irregular, it’s no wonder she kept it. But remember they are with you and not them.

You said it yourself you’ve never seen something like that in porn chances are she has not ether, hence keeping it.

Also their sex was probably shit. My friend has a dick longer and thicker than a Arizona iced tea can.

He has trouble maintains relationships and almost never has a good time with hook ups. Ether he literally does not fit or puts the girl in massive pain ( one girl cried off and on for 3 days after) and he’s had girls get there then flat out refuse because of it. I mean I’m under 8 in and I’ve bottomed out in my gf a few times. It always is very painful for both of us ( think bruised cervix).

I will bet money there’s never a time where she’s thinking about that snake when with you. ( unless she owns a bad dragon or some shit)

If it's any consolation, dicks that big are completely useless for sex. Personally, I prefer the 5-6in range with regular girth or it can be painful. but that's all beside the point; she shouldn't have kept those photos after getting into a new relationship. I know you truly love her and want to spend your life with her. So please talk to her about this. Ask why she kept those photos (and remember to tell her you saw them accidentally). You don't want to marry someone who has reservations about forgetting her ex.

A dick that big is too much for almost anybody. If things are great as it is, try not to stress it because your size is quite likely more than good enough. Besides, women consistently rank many other things higher up than penis size when it comes to men.

If you didn't see it attached to someone, I'd actually suspect a dildo.

There is no upper limit on the size that can be manufactured, and some are so large that their use can only be "novelty". They can be in flesh tones, they can be molded/sculpted to look realistic. Etc.

While there might be some men actually that big, that's so many SDs away from the norm that it's just unlikely as hell you or anyone else you know has ever met them.

But this part might make you feel even better. Suppose it was real. How much enjoyment do you think she got out of Mr. Cervix-Rupturer? Sounds like she tried and couldn't even complete the deed. That escapade couldn't have been anything but disappointment for both parties.

Listen, you need to communicate with her. If you think she's the one and you want to marry her, you need to talk with her. Tell her what you saw, join her in being mesmerized by Mr. Horse Cock Johnson, and ask her why she keeps the pictures. You may not like the answer but that doesn't mean avoiding it makes it not true.

And maybe ask if her vagina needed realignment after fucking that thing (I'm just kidding :))

My ex is way bigger than my current boyfriend in the penis region and imo, I prefer current boyfriends. When they're too big theres not much you can do with it and it's more painful than pleasurable (depending on the person/hole). Don't feel too bad about it, she obviously loves you and if dick size mattered she would still be dating her ex.

2) He's her previous boyfriend. Not current. If dick size was the only important factor then she would still be with him.

3) You have two choices, bring it up or don't.

If you don't then you will have to forget about it and move on. If you don't think you can do that then you'll need to discuss it. If you do bring it up with her then be civil about it. Give her a chance. She may honestly never considered deleting the photos. She may never look at them. Either way, you should probably discuss it.

Lmao sometimes my guy, you just gotta be happy with the gear god gave you. Girls have seen other dudes, just like youve seen other women, it doesnt matter when it comes down to it, just remember your own experiences and dont sweat it

I think i would've of owned it. I would've said "good fucking lord, thats a big dick, how the fuck did you fuck it". The truth is that every one has a past and they probably were with bigger or tiny dicks. Own it, laugh about it and move on. Its not that big of dick.. i mean deal. If you care about her then dont worry about it because if you dont, it will eat you a live. I was with this chick who slept around probably 200+ guys. She was so fucking cool but what ate me was we would bump in to some guy she fucked every weekend. Random places too. I couldn't do it and broke it off

1) it was probably too big for her to even enjoy
2) there’s no way she’s expecting you to be the biggest dick she’s ever had

Compartmentalize it and move on. You’ve probably been with women who’ve had larger tits, or maybe were hotter than her. Same shit. How could you know if it was her ex based on the dick? It could have just been a fling that she forgot to delete.

I’d feel extremely insecure if I was scrolling through my girlfriend’s pictures and saw this. But you always have to remember, she’s with you for a reason, if that guy had something more to offer than being hung, I’m sure she wouldn’t have left him.

To be fair a big dick is just novelty for women it's not what they want long term and aside from the bragging rights it just hurts during sex. So if you're in the long term game best to be a one can man. Also easier to buy pants.

She is with you. That says something. Sure, maybe a monster dick was fun for the novelty, but you need a good person attached that good dick.

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Seems like she has that with you. Be honest with her. "Baby/honey/sweetie/whatever, when you were showing me photos the other day I accidentally scrolled too fast and saw some things I probably shouldn't have, can we talk about it?". The makeup sex will be A++

I've had big and it's not all it's cracked up to be, I definitely prefer average.

If your girlfriend was only interested in size then she'd still be with her ex, except she's not that shallow; she's with you because she loves you and because you satisfy her in the bedroom. Don't become fixated on what you saw, otherwise it'll ruin your relationship.

I'd also consider mentioning what you saw to your girlfriend; hopefully the only reason the pictures are still on her phone is because she forgot. If she remembered about them she wouldn't have left you alone with her phone. Sounds to me like a genuine oversight.

Hey, so there are probably two things going through your head. One: Why does she still have them on her phone and two: She seemed so much happier with his dick. Well, let me try and clear some things up.

First, she probably still has then because she's forgotten about them. I know I don't go into my photos very often and I take a lot of pictures and screenshots. Chances are, she's forgotten about them. If she hadn't forgotten, why would she trust you with her phone?

Second, she may have seemed happier at the time but I almost guarantee you that she is more happy with yours. A friend of mine said she wishes her (current) boyfriend was a little smaller because it's hard to have passionate sex without hurting her. Average/slightly above average is optimal (speaking from friends opinions) because it's much more enjoyable and less painful. I guarantee she's just as happy, if not happier, to be with you.

Dude, try talking to her. Be honest about it. Maybe she doesn't even remember having them.

Personally, I'd think it's a bit weird to keep photos - especially like these - from/with exes on her phone. I mean, when you break up with someone you'll want to wipe away everything that reminds you of them – just like pictures.

Talk to her about it. If you REALLY love her and want to build a future with her, you have to have a foundation of communication. Apologize for looking at the pictures but point out that it was an accident. Admit that it made you uncomfortable. But at the end of the day, remember that if she wanted to be with someone else, she would be, but she’s not. She’s with you for a reason.

Most girls don’t even like schlongs that big. The female vagina on average is 6inches deep if that. The average male penis is 5-6inches so there’s that. If you’re girl was a penis champion at one point so be it, now she’s yours. Maybe tell her to delete that shit if she’s going to let you freely look through her stuff. Man I’m sorry you had to see that shit but I think you’ll get over it in due time

Ehh imagine if your ex gf had the most perfect tits ever and you had a pic of them on your phone. Maybe it was to show your friends, wank material for when your single, etc. BUT then your current small tits gf found the pic and suddenly felt inadequate. Let’s be honest - we date girls more for than just their tits, and similarly girls date guys for more than just their dick. There’s a guy out there who’s smarter than you, bigger biceps than you, better looking than you, etc. The reality is your girl is with you for who you are and that’s all that matters. Let her keep the pic - a two coke can cock is impressive and worth the memory

Holy shit dude..... I have a similar story that I won't share, it haunted me for years. My wife and I have been together for 20 years so fuck that guy. Clearly dick isn't the most important thing, she chooses to be with you. Remember that.

Ffs have her delete that shit tho, she doesn't need stuff like that while commiting to someone else.

That’s rough my dude but I say you just let it go. No big deal, you’ve got a fat cock of your own. Just tell her “hey I saw some pics I shouldn’t have of you and an ex. Why are you keeping those? Delete em or somethin” and move on with your life. Keep slaying. There’s always a bigger dick. All that matters is that you guys are happy.

Bigger isn't always better. That sounds freakishly big which is not always a good thing cause it hurts. If youre above average and youre decent in bed then who cares?? I know which I would prefer, and its not tuna can sam

Trust me, most women dont prefer a size like that. Sure it's nice to look at, but not fun to work with during sex.

There will always be someone that's bigger than you, so don't worry about it. Also communication is key. Talk to her. Ask her if she's truly happy and also it might be worth it to try and get the reason for why she still has those pics on her phone.

I would say just talk to her about it dude, just tell her what happened and "maybe" ask her why she still has the pics? But this isn't going to get any better if you keep it inside, you need to talk to her about it.

Dude, that guy is jealous of you. His dick is a "nice to try once" size. And he can't get a proper blowjob from anyone. Nor can he ever go balls deep. She tried it once for her bucket list. You've probably tried shit just for your bucket list too. Dude wishes he could land a girl to date, like real emotionally deep relationship dating, get a proper blowjob, and go to town on a girl in bed. He'll never be able to do any of those things. He's totally jealous of you.

OP, she’s the love of your life, so with that said, she’s with you, she spends her time with you, she talks with you, she watches tv shows with you, goes out with you, cuddles with you and likes your ding-a-ling.

Not some other guy but you, so don’t put too much weight on some last guy just because he had a schlong the size of a freight train, right now , and if you play your cards right in the future too, it’s your thing that will make her giggle in a good way so just let it go and enjoy your time with her.

You just gotta get over it. You aren't the best looking, biggest dick, wealthiest, smartest, most charming, etc that she's ever had. Stop thinking about the past and just be happy you are fucking her now.

Whelp, the only thing you can do now, is find that man and fuck him in the ass. Its the only way.
But seriously, put your ego aside, and talk to her about this. The last thing you want to do, is allow your ego to start dragging you and your relationship down. Just take some time to think about things, and just sit down and talk to her about it.

It's a dangerous headspace to be in where you become consumed with what your partner was like before you came along. I'm sure there are parts of your sexual history that may bother her. It doesn't matter. If you claim to really be in love, like actual adult love (forgive my gatekeeping), that comes hand in hand with trust. If you are feeling insanely jealous, then you need to dig deep and find where your mistrust is coming from. There's no other reason for jealousy.

That SUCKS. I’m glad it was prior to you guys meeting. Shit happens dude. There’s probably a girl you’ve fucked that would make her feel like an ugly awkward fat girl if that helps at all? You gotta let it go. Everyone has a past. I’d probably just own up and tell her how it happened so you guys can talk it out. I’d want my partner to talk to me if he saw some crazy shit like that. Also- don’t feel bad about your dick. If I’m being curt, I always liked it better with an average to a little above average guy going to town than some giant guy that hurts with every thrust. Sex with someone you love is mind blowingly good. Let it go. And fuck the shit out of your girlfriend. You’ll feel better.

Dude... I can almost guarantee she was hurting from that, and not a good hurt. Plus, guys who are abnormally large like that count on the size of their dingle to do the work instead of putting any effort into it. Spoiler: size/girth is not a guaranteed way to make a girl have the big o. In most cases, guys like that are boring in bed. They expect to just show up, but they’re usually terrible lovers because of it. That dude is almost guaranteed to leave partners unsatisfied and in pain, because screaming “Ow!” as their uterus gets the battering ram taken to it is not a good noise.

TL;DR: guarantee she’s more satisfied with yours and is keeping them to show her girls in stories of “You’re not going to believe the size of this guy I used to date.” Not in a good way either.

Chances are the person you're with has been with others before you, probably many in different shapes and sizes. I don't think about this and just make our experience unique in it's own way. Being with a virgin can come with other coincidences that you might not foresee either. They might want to try other things, or people. Some people have the taste to try new things and being in a committed relationship doesn't help that. My ex turned out to be a lesbian, not just bi like she thought, and that's okay.

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If you think about it, it's going to ruin what you got. Are you guys happy? Do you feel like you do satisfy her in bed? If you can say yes to both then move on and don't think about what other dicks have rented that space.

It's a little difficult to believe no one else has said this yet, but that... doesn't sound real to me? I'm with you, I've seen some shit in my day but not being able to even fit her teeth around it? Too big to enter a human mouth? That would have to be like... multiple feet long, right? Unless she was dating Shaq or something, is that even possible?

Am female. I have seen a penis that big and none of my friends really believed me. I’m telling you I passed on it, didn’t even touch it! It looked like more pain than a good time! It’s entirely possible that after the novelty of a disproportionately sized penis, she went looking for something more pleasurable-you! I know I can’t empathize with your situation, but remember she loves YOU! She chose YOU! She had whatever that was and she WANTS YOU! Wish you a speedy recovery from this!

Talk to her about it, in a nonconfrontational manner. Try not to prejudge her or have expectations-- just let her know what you saw, and see where that convo goes.

If you do, the worst that could happen is that you learn something that ends the relationship now, instead of two kids, a dog, and a house from now. It's more likely, though, that it will be a bonding experience and you'll be laughing about this in no time.

If you don't, though, your secret will eat away at your relationship before it has a chance.

Also, I bet your dick is amazing, as is the rest of you. No woman worth her salt marries a dick; she marries a life-mate-- and right now, that appears to be you!

At the start of my relationship with my then girlfriend now wife. Previous boyfriends dick sizes came up. With time you'll learn to forget, but stories like this bring those memories flooding back... cheers.

NB: I was bigger than her ex but smaller than her casual blow job 'friend'. It took over 15 years for the memory to fade...

Honestly, I’m a woman and getting a dick that size shoved up your hoo ha is not as good as you might imagine. It’s more of a novelty thing that makes a funny picture next to your forearm, but can be really uncomfortable actually dealing with that during sex. I would assume your SO is satisfied and happy with you and your sex life unless she has expressed otherwise and if she has expressed otherwise, it probably has nothing to do with your penis size.

Even though he has this massive member you´re talking about, she still left him and is with you now. Believe me or not having a dick that big isn´t that good after all, sex is a pain in the ass (heh) and it´s definitely a problem most of the time, you said you´re above avg so you´re good.

There is literally nothing you can do about it. Yea you will be have the image in your mind but then again you went looking through something you shouldn't. basically a double edged sword where it is basically wrong for you to feel the way you do because you did something you weren't suppose to do. All you can do is move on and bring it up maybe 20 or 30 years down the line and surprise the shit out of her haha.

Just tell her what happened and try to get over the fact (for yourself) that your girlfriend might have previously been with other people, and some of them might have been better than you in some way or another. She chose to be with you, and that's what matters.

I can actually relate to your experience. My wife and I worked together in a restaurant for about a year before we started seeing each other. She had a boyfriend during most of that first year. We’d sometimes go out for drinks after work with coworkers and one night in particular the conversation got around to dick size and she had had a lot to drink apparently. She proceeds to brag about how huge her boyfriends dick was. She even described it as you did, couldn’t fit her teeth around it. Everyone laughed and I never gave it much thought again until we started sleeping together. I felt terribly inadequate. And I didn’t realize I was doing to but I was fishing for validation, I needed reassurance that I was enough. She eventually asked me wth I kept asking her for to which I brought up her story from that night 6 months prior. She didn’t even remember and was super embarrassed and couldn’t believe she said that in front of me. Apparently she had a crush on me even back that and she was really mad at herself for telling me that. Anyway, her knowing that I knew made a positive difference. I get the occasional positive validation. And get the consolation prize of being second biggest (am also above average), and well, not being a huge asshole, the father of her children and all that.

A lot of these people are trashing your girl for still having these pics, DONT listen to them. People forget about pics, and honestly I doubt she even remembers them. It does happen that way, do don't let these people make you panic.

Sit down your girl. Talk to her about it and how it made you feel. I'd you too really are as tight as you say then whatever she says is going to make you feel better and more confident. Just remember, even if his dick was bigger, there's something, probably more than one thing, that makes her stay with you.

We aren't pristine cars right from the assembly lines - she's sucked dick(s) and you have had yours sucked too. That's life

As harsh as this sounds, don't make this into something that you will regret later. Shes the love of your life- hold onto that and get over this. I know its easier said than done but a real TIFU would be you escalating this into something altogether worse

Do you know for sure this is a previous boyfriend that she had feelings for, and not a single night she had for novelty? I obviously don't know anything, but the pics described sound like results of a hookup with pics because of the guy's size, not a relationship, putting you leagues ahead of this random that she might keep pics around of to show other girls and laugh at in disbelief.

To be faiiuhhh, she probably keeps it as evidence for when other girls don’t believe her. Don’t take it personally bro, everyone has a past, including you. It’s nothing to feel bad about, especially since,according to you, you’re well endowed yourself.

You should probably check out some of the posts on /r/bigdickproblems and realize that having a dick that big is problematic for a lot of girls. It might be fun to try, but it's not gonna last...pain after sex everytime, if it's even possible, is not fun for very long! If she is with you, yours is probably much more enjoyable and compatible with her.

Men and their dicks! Most women do not want a dick that big trust me, it’s painful. She’s with you now, not him. She wouldn’t be making future plans with you if she didn’t care about you, and seriously unless you have a micro penis most of us really don’t care. (Sorry if you do have a micro penis).

As a girl who dated a gifted guy before my current boyfriend; i found my ex to be too big. I’m more comfortable with the size my man has now. And besides, if you two have had sex already and she’s stuck around this long then it doesn’t matter how big you are.

Us girls usually get the hoe-ing out if our system before we pick Mr. Perfect. Don’t worry about it.

I know it's easy to say but harder to do, but you just got to power through and do your best to forget that. She's with you, she's obviously happy, and it sounds like your well endowed anyhow. Don't let this get in the way of your love life. That can kill a relationship.

I think you might just need to bring it up and have it out, my dude. For better or worse. Either you break up because of it or she reassures you and you maybe end up ok, but I'm not sure you can logically become "ok" with this all by yourself. I think there needs to be a back-and-forth.

Dude, all that matters is she is with you now. I'm sure she's not the only woman you've slept with and you probably have some very fond memories of those other women, but you love her and that's what matters. If she still wanted that other guy she could probably have him, but she has chosen to be with you.

Dude. I've had dick in my mouth that was thicker than my wrist, and yet, I'm not together with that person. Why? Because the size of their dick isn't anything compared to the sex I get from someone I love. Your girlfriend could've stayed with Mr. Hung Like A Horse and she didn't, she chose you. She chooses you every day, just like you choose her. Forget it, it's in the past and the past only matters if you let it matter. Your dick is her favourite, trust me on this. She probably hasn't looked that far back on her phone for a while and that's why the pictures are still there.

Now go give your girl a good dicking and tell her how much you love her.

Hey bro, if she cared only about dick size she would still be with captain cock. She's not, and she's with you. There's a reason for that. You've probably dated girls with bigger boobs than her, but that doesn't mean her boobs aren't great. It's the same thing with your dick. As long as you're not like a 2 inch Andy I'm sure she's fine with it, and you're probably thinking about that guy's dick more than she is at this point.

My ex did something similar once. We were having good conversation and out of nowhere just mentions how one dude she dated had a 10 incher and it destroyed her throat. Why the fuck would I want/need to know that.. I feel you on the male ego destroyed part brother...

There is a chance that you'll take hundreds of pictures of her sucking your dick all. And you'll take even 100 more tomorrow. And perhaps 10 the next day followed a new record of 200 pics by the end of the week.

You should confront her about it. You weren't snooping - she gave you her phone to look at some photos from the trip and you accidentally jumped to the photos in question, which she shouldn't have anymore. The dick size isn't really relevant.

The way I look at it you need to ask your self 2 questions. Do you love her, and does she love you. If the answer to both of those is yes then you need to work through it. Like another user said, shes with you, not the walrus dick fools she left. My guess is she forgot about him and the pictures dont mean anything to her so she forgot about them.

IMO keeping that secret is just gonna be bad for both of you. Imagine you get into an argument and you just spurt it out angrily as if it was something she did purposefully to hurt you. She just probably never cared to delete her really old pictures. Just my 2 cents, but it’s always best when you’re able to talk it out with your SO.