A woman I messaged replied, and I'm all Hallelujah about it, 'cause judging from the profile alone, she's an 11 on every scale.

So I most carefully compose a reply to her reply. Did a wonderful job making it sound like it was all off the cuff, even though I spent some time on it. Clicked send.

Then notice that a bunch of text that I thought I had cut was still there, so there was all this crazy repetition. I mean, it was inane.

Please tell me some of you have done that sort of shit. Please?

BH, now divorced

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Sad in AZ♀ 24239Member # 24239

Posted: 9:58 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013

Write back really quick and tell her your computer had the hiccups!

May your 2015 be more FUCK YEAH! than fuck this

Posts: 21011 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY

nowiknow23♀ 33226Member # 33226

Posted: 10:02 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013

((((OIAL)))) That stuff happens all the time. ALL the time. Keep breathing - you're fine.

You can call me NIK

“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön

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OnceInALifetime♂ 26023Member # 26023

Posted: 10:07 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013

Too late for damage control, Sad.

I wish these dating sites would give me 2 minutes to retract a message after I send it. So much carnage would be prevented.

BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009

Sad in AZ♀ 24239Member # 24239

Posted: 10:14 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013

FWIW, I've done that on job-hunting cover letters.

May your 2015 be more FUCK YEAH! than fuck this

Posts: 21011 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY

OnceInALifetime♂ 26023Member # 26023

Posted: 10:19 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013

FWIW, I've done that on job-hunting cover letters

Yeah, but you're *expected* to edit the hell out of those.

BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009

Dreamboat♀ 10506Member # 10506

Posted: 10:37 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013

Relax. Just today I saw on this site someone post FIVE times! Sometimes the phone or computer blips and shit happens. If t makes it better then send a follow up "oops...technology challenged" message. Seriously, it happens to everyone so just roll with it and make the best of it.

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17695 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)

OnceInALifetime♂ 26023Member # 26023

Posted: 10:49 PM, June 26th (Wednesday), 2013

OK, relaxing. :)

One other blunder as well, which was kind of funny. She asked what my summer plans were, so I told her it would be just occasional little getaways. Then I asked if she had any plans to make me jealous.

What I meant, in a playful sense, was did she have any plans that I would be jealous of.

But it's all OK. I figure if she responds I'll have gotten the necessary flubs out of my system early.

BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009

timeforchange♀ 27454Member # 27454

Posted: 12:16 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013

I had a similar cringe worthy moment.

I was on Match. At the time my son had a FB account and I did not have one. His was permanently logged in on my phone so I could monitor activity.

Well I searched for a guy I was chatting with on Match, via FB and had a good look at his account. Just to check he was who he said he was.

Whilst scrolling I accidentally sent a friends request to him ..... From my son!!!!!!!

I spent a few hours totally mortified and wondering what to do. My son has a different surname as I use my maiden name... But the guy would still have worked out who it was in about 5 mins.

So I bit the bullet... Emailed him, told him the story and he promptly said here is my number ....... Would you like to go for a drink this weekend.

We dated over last summer and whenever people asked how we met... He told them "she stalked me on FB". We always laughed about it together.

We are no longer together but have remained friends.

So my tip would be to send a message and be honest. She may appreciate it more than you think.

A guy who had clearly spent time thinking and choosing his words wisely would score points with me. And also one who is honest enough to admit he slipped up and who can laugh it off

It's never too late for damage control. "I logged in and was re-reading this and noticed that I sent part of it twice - not sure how that happened! sorry if it came across as weird or confusing" is a perfectly appropriate thing to send the next morning.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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gahurts♂ 33699Member # 33699

Posted: 10:33 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013

Please tell me you are journaling your escapades.

I can so see a sitcom about your experiences.

"Everyone Loves OIAL"

Tonight at 7 on the WB!

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

Posts: 3669 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia

thyme2go♂ 12908Member # 12908

Posted: 10:52 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013

Yup....send a message that your computer had a hiccup.

But it did not.

-t2g

BH - no longer 49
3 DD's - (29, 25 and 18)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9203 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington

OnceInALifetime♂ 26023Member # 26023

Posted: 11:53 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013

OK, riddle me this. After my inane response to her message, she responded with not another message, but a smile (similar to match's wink feature).

Translation?

Well, the ball's in her court. I asked her some questions, and a smile is not a response.

BH, now divorced

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Amazonia♀ 32810Member # 32810

Posted: 11:55 AM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013

Does Match show whether the message was read? Maybe she needs to time to respond but wanted to acknowledge that she read it?

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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She11ybeanz♀ 27457Member # 27457

Posted: 1:01 PM, June 27th (Thursday), 2013

Just write her back real quick and apologize for the errors but its hard to type when she is rocking your world!!!

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"