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Ex Relationships Dream Meanings

What does Ex Relationships mean in dream?

Ex Relationships | Dream Meanings

Often when we are ready for a new relationship, or have begun a new relationship we dream about our exes. This causes many people distress as, even though it is only a dream, you can feel guilty and almost disloyal to your new partner. • However, dreams deal with emotions and memories and any new relationship exposes you to emotional vulnerability. This will trigger your dreaming mind to conjure up examples of when you felt similarly vulnerable which will tend to involve your exes. Explore issues of insecurity.

Sometimes we dream about sex as a psychological release when we’re not getting enough of it in real life. But more generally dream sex relates to your deepest desires and what you crave for in life. • Passion is our biggest motivational force. Sex is also about creativity. What do you most crave to manifest in your life right now? Are you being thwarted in your creative endeavours?

Dreams of an American Express card symbolize that you shouldn’t leave home without connecting to your spirit and to make sure that you carry your sense of self, spirit and purpose with you at all times. See Credit Card.

If you dream that you are anorexic, most often this signifies a true-life eating disorder that you have. But if you eat healthfully in your waking life, then this dream signifies your need of spirituality and fulfillment in your waking life. You need more love, friendship or pleasure because you are not getting enough.

If you dream of a friend being anorexic, again this could signify an actual eating disorder they have.

If you’re sure that’s not the case, then it could mean your friend is crying out for more attention and affection.

Many of the characters or elements of our dreams act quite contrary to what we wish ourself. This is why we often find it so difficult to believe all aspects of a dream are pan of our own psyche. Some drives or areas of self do act or express, despite our attempts 10 contain them. These are named autonomous complexes. Recent research into brain activity shows that in fact the brain has different layers or strata of activity. These strata often act independently of each other or of conscious will. Sensing them, as one might in a dream, might feel like meeting an opposing will. Integration with these aspects of self can be gained.

If a person sees himself or his clothes spattered with excreta of animals which are haraam to consume or he becomes the owner of the excreta or he sees himself guarding such excreta, it means he will receive unlawful wealth.

(Bank draft; Commercial) If one sees himself paying someone a fee to write him a bill of exchange, or a bank draft in a dream, it means that he will borrow some money to do business and that he will profit from his investment to become known in his field. In a dream, if by mistake, one sends the bank draft to the wrong destination or to another country that produces the same type of products, in this case his dream means that he will lose his investment or recover his capital cost after some hardship.

To dream that you bisexual, when you are not in your waking life, is a suggestion that you are holding back your needs and desires related to sex. Perhaps you are unable to communicate these needs properly. You may be perplexed or bewildered by your masculinity or femininity.

If you are not bisexual and dream that you are, then it may indicate some sexual repression. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have bisexual feelings in your waking life. You may simply be trying to compensate for your lack of sexual expression in real life, by dreaming about sexuality. Alternatively, this dream may represent general sexual confusion.

Within us we all hold both masculine and feminine potentials. One is more overt than the other and when there is conflict between the inner and the outer selves this can sometimes show itself in dreams as bisexuality.

Spiritually we need to have access to the characteristics of the unconscious. It will always take effort to uncover such aspects and this is symbolized by digging. Excavating, perhaps in the form of an archaeological or other professional type of digging, would suggest a more structured approach.

Psychological / emotional perspective: On a creative level we may have realizations that are hard to access and must be dug out. Excavating objects can also imply that there is ‘buried treasure’ which belongs to the past.

Material aspects: Often when we begin the process of learning about ourselves we need to uncover those parts we have kept hidden, and this is shown in dreams as excavating a hole or digging up an object.

If the act of digging is important then we are required to make an effort rather than simply wait for information to come to the surface.

Example: I entered a neglected garden adjoining a house I had formerly lived in. I was astonished that I had never noticed this garden before. I took a spade and hoe and began to work vigorously in order to put things nght, digging like a navvy. But wherever I put my spade I turned up live shells and hand grenades—highly explosive and very dangerous. I was terrified I would be blown to pieces and hurried away’ (from Organism of the Mind, G.R. Meyer, Kegan Paul, 1933).

The dreamer in the example was a man in his 40s who had taken up meditation on the suggestion of a friend. It shows him discovering and uncovering a pan of himself he had not known before. In doing so he meets explo­sive emotions and conflicts he is not used to dealing with. Digging usually depicts delving into hidden or buried areas of ourself. We may uncover feelings from our childhood—cre­ative realisations, features of the unconscious, even dead bod­ies or ancient creatures. Digging can also represent our work on renovating our attitudes, personality structure or habits. See garden.

To dream about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or that you and your ex got back together indicates that people currently in your life are reminding you of those same feelings. This dream could be warning you that you are falling into a repeated pattern in relationships. You should consider the harsh lessons you may have learned so you don’t repeat them. Sometimes, however, past encounters can be satisfying episodes in your life. This dream may also indicate things you have X’ed out within yourself.

To dream about your lover’s ex could be that you are trying to live up to their standards. This dream is warning you not to do the same thing you did in a previous relationship.

To dream that you are kissing your ex suggests that there are certain attributes about your ex that you enjoyed. This dream isn’t indicating necessarily that you wish to visit the relationship again, but that you should think about what your ex’s better qualities or attributes. These are the attributes you are finally coming to acknowledge within yourself.

To dream that your ex has died suggests that the emotions you had for your ex are finally over. You have moved on and he or she is now relegated to your past.

To dream about an ex-boyfriend from your youth indicates that you are currently involved in a more relaxed relationship. This dream guides you to a period in your life when your adult responsibilities were not important and wouldn’t get in the way of love. You might be required to grab onto the feelings of youth that are missing from your current situations.

To dream that your ex-boyfriend is offering you opinions about a current boyfriend indicates that you will be less likely to make the same mistakes you did in a previous relationship.

To dream that you are getting a massage from an ex-boyfriend indicates that you should let go of some of the barriers that you have constructed. Putting faith in others is difficult but necessary for your well-being.

To dream that your ex-boyfriend gave you a stuffed animal indicates that you are looking for comfort and attention within your current relationship. This doesn’t mean that you want your ex-boyfriend back, but this dream may indicate an aspect of the relationship you had with your ex-boyfriend that wasn’t mature or fulfilling.

It is very common for people to dream about ex-partners. Individuals that have been an important part of our lives continue to take up a part of our mind and heart. It is impossible to very dramatically shut the person out of thoughts and feelings. Just because the relationship ends does not mean that all is finished. As we go through relationships we learn and at times pick up “battle wounds.” You will continue to dream about your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend until you “let go” of them on a very important level, or until you learned your lessons from that relationship. Either way, dreaming about your ex-romance does not predict future involvement. It may be wish-fulfillment, reliving memories, or working out old issues. Dreams are very rarely prophetic. See also: People

It is very common for people to dream about ex-partners. Individuals that have been an important part of our lives continue to take up a part of our mind and heart. It is impossible to very dramatically shut the person out of thoughts and feelings. Just because the relationship ends does not mean that all is finished. As we go through relationships we learn and at times pick up “battle wounds.” You will continue to dream about your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend until you “let go” of them on a very important level, or until you learned your lessons from that relationship. Either way, dreaming about your ex-romance does not predict future involvement. It may be wish-fulfillment, reliving memories, or working out old issues. Dreams are very rarely prophetic. See also: People

To dream about your ex suggests that something or someone in your current life is bringing out similar feelings to the ones you felt in the relationship with your ex.

The dream may be a way of alerting you to the same or similar behavior in a current relationship. What you learned from that previous relationship may need to be applied to the present one so that you do not repeat the same mistake.

If you dreamed of getting back together with an ex, see “Reuniting.” If you dreamed about your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend, the dream is warning you not to make the same relationship mistakes that ended their relationship.

If you dreamed about your ex’s new girlfriend, you may be comparing yourself to this person.

To dream about an ex-friend means you wish for a time in your past when things were easier. Or, it could be a signal that it’s time to start acting more mature. You may also be missing this friend. Or, it could be that somebody you have just met reminds you of your ex-friend in some way.

The ex-lover is thinking about the dreamer intensely, and projecting telepathic messages towards her which she receives in her dreams.

Incompletions with this person that need to be resolved within the dreamer before he is truly free to move on to a new relationship.

Similarities between this past relationship and situations now in the dreamer’s life. Solutions to current difficulties may be resolved by the dreamer’s remembering how he dealt with the ex-lover. Astrological parallel: Venus-Saturn combinations Tarot parallel: The Lovers

Dreams of an ex are about venting, sorting and processing your ties to your former lovers. You are realizing that those relationships do not end when the divorce papers are signed. Often an ex represents a part of your shadow that you must face and embrace, erased and eventually replace. See Integration Dreams.

Vision: Hidden behind the dream might be the fear of having to make a long-overdue decision, or resolve confusion or tension on the job. Particularly in mens dreams, an exam symbolizes actual problems, such as the fear of standing up for yourself to your boss or on the job in general. These dreams are a challenge to face and resolve conflicts. They may serve to encourage us to learn and grow.

A wTenching exam dream is meant to strengthen your self-confidence and provide the energy necessary to do the task. Taking an exam and failing: don’t panic, the dream is a sign that you will pass. See Learning, School, Teacher.

Depth Psychology: The exam dream is testing your character and maturity. Passing the exam means you can move on to new tasks, be ready for the next test. Are you afraid of problems ahead? Do you doubt yourself: Is your belief in your own abilities on shaky ground? Build up your self-confidence!

Psychological / emotional perspective: We may be in the habit of setting ourselves tests of self-value, or habitually be concerned with our accomplishments.

To be late for an examination or to be unable to take it suggests fears and doubts about our own competence. There are many instances recorded of people having been abducted by ‘aliens,’ of having been examined, and then returned to earth. Opinions vary as to whether these were dreams or not.

Material aspects: Dreaming of examinations (particularly educational ones) is usually connected with self-criticism and the need for high achievement. We may be allowing others to set our standards of morality and success for us. Being examined by a doctor indicates concerns over our own health.

Difficulty at work. Passing a test points to ambition; failing a test points to inferiority complexes. Also, a symbol of differentiation and self- testing. According to Freud and Adler, memories of childhood misdeeds and punishment that are never forgotten. Today in psychoanalysis, the test is more indicative of life struggles.

One of the most common dreams is failing an exam. In the dream one is not prepared for the exam. In a variation, one is onstage and doesn’t know the lines. Both situations refer to a fear of failing in public.

The dreamer should examine his self-esteem. In the exam situation, usually the subject—or question one doesn’t know how to answer—gives an indication of the field in which one feels insecure. Onstage, the play or scene is sometimes a key to the field of fear.

If you find that the Examination is too difficult, then expect business worries. If, however, you can answer most of the questions, and dream that you are doing well, then some unexpected good fortune awaits you.

The date tree may be interpreted as an honorable Arab gentleman since date trees are mainly indigenous to arab countries. As for the walnut tree, it represents a non-Arab person since these trees do not grow in the land of the Arabs.

The same applies to birds.

If a bird is huge it symbolizes an Arab gentleman; a peacock represents a non-Arab gentleman.

The date tree may be interpreted as an honorable Arab gentleman since date trees are mainly indigenous to arab countries. As for the walnut tree, it represents a non-Arab person since these trees do not grow in the land of the Arabs.

The same applies to birds.

If a bird is huge it symbolizes an Arab gentleman; a peacock represents a non-Arab gentleman.

A date tree. This may be interpreted as total goodness and virtue since the date tree is regarded as a tree constituting total goodness as is known from the hadeeth. One the other hand a walnut tree may be interpreted as a person who is deceptive as well as quarrelsome. Why? Because it is by nature very hard and its core cannot be attained until broken or split open.

The nature of birds is to fly. Therefore, the one towards whom a bird is associated may be said to be traveling very often and widely.

A peacock may be interpreted as a wealthy non-Arab king who adopts much embellishments and who has many followers.

The same applies to a royal white falcon or eagle. But if it is a crow or a magpie, it represents an evil person.

As shown in the above examples, the Mu’abbir should be able to drawn analogies before interpreting a dream.

A date tree. This may be interpreted as total goodness and virtue since the date tree is regarded as a tree constituting total goodness as is known from the hadeeth. One the other hand a walnut tree may be interpreted as a person who is deceptive as well as quarrelsome. Why? Because it is by nature very hard and its core cannot be attained until broken or split open.

The nature of birds is to fly. Therefore, the one towards whom a bird is associated may be said to be traveling very often and widely.

A peacock may be interpreted as a wealthy non-Arab king who adopts much embellishments and who has many followers.

The same applies to a royal white falcon or eagle. But if it is a crow or a magpie, it represents an evil person.

As shown in the above examples, the Mu’abbir should be able to drawn analogies before interpreting a dream.

If a student is taking exams, this is a common anxiety dream meaning you don’t feel ready or prepared for the test.

If you’re not taking exams in real life then this dream is a metaphor for some kind of difficulty you are facing at work. • This is a fear of failure dream and reflects where you feel you are going to be assessed or judged by others on your performance. • The dream reflects your lack of confidence in your abilities. It can also occur with other kinds of tests in life from auditions to interviews to driving tests. Where are you being tested in your life?

1- Dreaming of examinations (particularly educational ones) is usually connected with selfcriticism and the need for high achievement. We may be allowing others to set our standards of morality and success for us. Being examined by a doctor indicates concerns over our own health.

2- We may be in the habit of setting ourselves tests of self-value, or habitually be concerned with our accomplishments. There are many instances recorded of people having been abducted by ‘aliens,’ of having been examined, and then returned to earth. Opinions van,- as to whether these were dreams or not.

Self criticism or attempts to live up to moral or intellectual standards; habits of concern over ac­complishments; worry about some coming test of self value, such as a new job or new sexual panner. Examined by doctor: concern over health; desire for attention. See test.

(Infuriation; Irritation; Jealousy) Exasperation without a reason in a dream means a sudden death. Exasperation in a dream also could signify involvement in a scandal or suffering from an illness that will help changing one’s attitude about life.

If one sees himself infuriated or irritated by someone in a dream, it means that he will suffer the consequences of his qualities or lose his money. Exasperation, infuriation or irritation in a dream all mean poverty and loss of money. (Also see Infuriating)

Vision: If you are digging up soil or a tree: a difficult task ahead. At the same time, such a dream indicates that you are working very hard and your task will be profitable. Dreaming of “unearthing” one (or more) dead people: a bad conscience. You are either surrounded by deceitful people or you are leading a less than honorable life. See Death.

Depth Psychology: The act of excavating can be proverbial in its meaning: the soul of the dreamer is “excavating” something from the unconscious, such as secret character traits—vour own or someone elses. Suddenly you are remembering something that was forgotten or repressed, which is the reason for your emotional difficulties.

Old emotions (submerged / buried) need to be brought to consciousness; psychological work on self. Similar to Taking Apart. Self-determination is asked for. It is important to note what it is that is being excavated (a submerged potential?).

Freud looked on the process of psychoanalysis as an act of excavation.

Strong or destructive power. Something has to be dug up from deep down. Uncover the foundation and dig for the treasure that is buried deep. Occasionally, this is a dream symbol for something colossal, as in Monster.

Dreams of an exchange reflect your opportunistic desires, as well as a desire for order and balance. You may be grappling with a need for fairness that has not been met, or you are having a “grass is greener” experience. See Barter.

Psychological / emotional perspective: In dreams, as in real life, to be making an exchange suggests we are not satisfied with what we had originally. Dreaming of the stock exchange signifies the excitement of taking a calculated risk.

In a dream, exclamation of God’s sovereignty, i.e., uttering the formula “La Hawla Wa La Quwwata Ilia Billah” (There is no will or power except that of God’s Almighty) means constant repentance in wakefulness and hope for salvation. It also means conquering one’s enemies. (Also see Exalting God’s oneness)

Technically, to be excommunicated is to be denied access to the sacraments, so in dreams signifies being prevented from communicating with the divine n emotionally, to find ourselves excommunicated in dreams suggests being cut off from a source of comfort.

Feelings of repulsion; emotions or parts of expe­rience which need to be let go of; infant level of self expres­sion and self giving; physical need to have a healthy bowel. Sometimes personal creativity; being able to let go of what you don’t need—so can link with money and generosity; the pri­mal level of our being; sensuality and infant sexuality. Shitting on someone or something: expressing desire to belittle them or to feel superiority; heaping unjust accusations on someone; bringing something which appeared powerful into perspec­tive. Idioms: in the shit; feeling shitty; talking a lot of shit; being shat on. See toilet.

Depth Psychology: Dreaming about “playing” with excrement: you have regressed—psychologically—to an anal phase (sexual immaturity). Also, you have gained new insight from past experiences. Passing stool: you will get relief from an actual situation. Feeling dirtied by excrement: a fear of not being accepted (or feeling disgust about yourself). Handling your own excrement: you want to get rid of emotional ballast or unpleasant situations. Seeing or stepping in excrement is a good omen: personal matters are resolved in your favor and to your satisfaction. See Intestines, Colon. Toilet.

You may not have progressed on a subconscious level beyond a feeling that anything to do with bodily functions is dirty and self-centred. There could be an element of rebellion in your waking life. Playing with excrement can represent your attitude to money and value, highlighting fear of responsibility, as well as anxiety about money.

If the excrement is transformed into living animals, maybe rats, you are accepting that you are responsible for managing your own impulses. Excrement in its more spiritual meaning belongs to the realm of feelings and you may simply be trying to get rid of bad feelings. Those bad feelings can be turned into something worthwhile. Evacuation of the bowel usually highlights our need to be free of worry and responsibility, or possibly the need to learn how to be uninhibited. It can also signify the sexual act.

Psychological / emotional perspective: Dreams of excrement suggest that there are certain aspects of our lives which we have used up and need to expel. Large quantities of excrement indicate that we may be feeling overwhelmed.

Material aspects: When we dream of faeces or excrement we are returning to an infant level of expression and pleasure in bodily functions. Experiences we have had may have been relevant at the time but we now need to let them go. More negatively, we may feel that we have to process other peoples’ negativity. You might like to consult the entries for excrement in body and for toilet.

(Ritual impurity) If one’s bowels discharge excess excrements in a dream, it means hindrance of one’s travel plans. Ifone discharges solid feces in a dream, it means that he does not spend his money on sickness.

If it is an abnormal discharge of liquid matters from one’s bowels in the dream, it means that he will squander most of his money.

If one uses a lavatory near a known ablution area in the dream, it means that his spendings relate to his passion, desires and wantonness. Ifthe location is unknown in the dream, it means that he unknowingly, but willingly spends his wealth in unlawful avenues, whereby he will reap no reward or benefit from it. Discharging feces in the open and covering it with dirt in a dream means burying money in a hole and covering it with dirt. (Also see Impurity; Feces; Urinating)

Psychological / emotional perspective: There is a sense of coercion – of having to – in the idea of execution of a task.

If we tend to be driven by our emotions this will come across in dreams | violence of any sort in dreams usually signifies that something is badly out of balance, so to dream of an execution may signify that we are acting (wrongly) more from an intellectual viewpoint than from a feeling perspective. You might also like to consult the entries for guillotine, punish / punishment and violence.

Don’t panic when you have such a dream. This is a symbolic expression and not a threat. In some cases, the image of an execution can be particularly positive, because something is finally dying that has bothered you for a long time.

If you are the one who is being executed, this symbol indicates strong negative emotions, self-doubts, and guilt feelings.

If somebody else is being executed, it symbolizes the Other—usually characteristics or behavior that you must urgently discard. See also Death.

Vision: Watching an execution: vou will either best your adver- sary or meet a new friend. Watching the execution of a person you know: you will lose a friend. Dreaming of being executed: others are putting you down and you feel ashamed. See Gallows, Hanging. Murder.

Depth Psychology: Your opinions or assumptions are going to change (or have already).

A dream about an execution suggests revising an opinion you have had about certain events. Put your changed attitude to work.

When a dreamer has a guilty complex it is not unusual to dream of death in one form or another. It is also natural that in face of grave disaster the dreamer would rather die being executed than to live a lonely life of deprivation.

If the dreamer is the executioner in the dream it signifies a desire to eliminate or overthrow the authority of another person.

Dreams of an execution symbolize rejection and punishment. Perhaps you are venting out your disdain for a person or an aspect of yourself of which you are ashamed. This dream might reflect your rejection of your intellect and logic (cutting off your head) in favor of your emotions and feelings. Keep in mind that a house divided against itself cannot stand. Integration of all aspects of yourself is the goal to -realization. Dreams of an executioner represents the aspect of you that is the most critically judgmental. There is an aspect of your life or a person in your life that you find want to reject and push away. See Critic, Cut and Integration Dreams.

Dreams of exercise represent a desire to get moving, to exercise your beliefs and thoughts, and get blood flowing in the areas that have been sedentary. This dream may be a message for you to exercise your rights, your vote, or your say in the matter at hand.

To dream about exercising is an omen of good luck if you enjoyed it. But if it was tiring or unpleasant, the dream is a warning to avoid forcing any issues - don’t push or try to get an answer out of someone for a few weeks. Also see “Treadmill.”

(Weariness; Tiredness; Fatigue) If one finds himself incapable of carrying a conversation out of exhaustion from speaking, or if he refrains from talking either about good or bad, and if this happens inside a courthouse in a dream, it means that he will give up his alibi and loses his case to his adversary, or it could mean that he will become poor and dependent on people’s generosity or that he will become childless.

Material aspects: An exhibition hall tends to be a place where similar objects are grouped together, so from a mundane perspective would denote such a situation in working life, possibly uncovering a difficulty with being managed too closely. Consult the entry for exam / being examined for further clarification.

(Display; Hearing; Honor guards; Inspection of troops; Military review; Portrayal; Presentation; Review officer; Show) Ifone sees himselfstanding before a high-ranking officer during a ceremony of reviewing the guards of honor or in a military barrack in a dream, and if the officer is displeased with him in the dream, it means that he will commit a major sin. Ifone thinks that the officer is pleased with him in the dream, then it implies God’s blessings.

The highranking officer or the review officer in such a dream also represents a compassionate person who cares, and who frequently asks about his friends, helps them solve their problems, and assists them in every possible way. (Also see Hearing board; Inquisitional court)

(Dig up a grave; Unearth) Exhuming the body of a deceased person and finding him alive in his grave in a dream means pursuing his tradition, knowledge, wisdom, trade or practices. It also means acquiring lawful money. Ifone finds him dead in his grave, then there is no benefit in his striving.

A grave robber or a body snatcher in a dream represents a deliberate and a premeditated scheme to unravel a mystery, or forming an expedition to search for a hidden treasure. Digging the grave of a renowned scholar in a dream means studying his school of thought and the restoration of his studies, life, traditions and prominence. (Also see Graue digger; Graue)

Spiritually an exit can suggest that we must consider leaving a situation that is not giving us the sanctuary we need. This may mean that we must consider our concept of death. This does not suggest death itself, merely the concept.

Spiritually exorcism depicts a rite or ceremony deliberately designed to get rid of negativity and evil. It was specifically designed to expel evil spirits, but now has the symbolism of getting rid of negativity.

Psychological / emotional perspective: When emotion becomes unbearable, specific action needs to be taken to exorcise the bad feeling. In dreams we can find ourselves banishing evil, which gives us the clarity to function properly.

Material aspects: Dreaming of exorcism suggests that there is a situation or occurrence in waking life that needs dealing with promptly. Whether we choose to use dramatic methods is a choice we must make.

To dream that you or others are being exorcised indicates your attempts to take back power within your life. Also, you may need to accept responsibility for the things you have done rather than seeking to assign blame.

To dream that you or others are being exorcised of evil spirits, often symbolizes the dreamer’s initiative to regain control and take steps toward the direction of your goals. However, this dream could also mean that you are not taking responsibility for your own actions.

To dream of being expelled from school represents shame about your actions in real life. No matter how much you tell others you are right, a part of you feels uncomfortable with the way you have been acting, because it goes against the values that you know are right.

Material aspects: An explosion in a dream usually indicates a release of energy in a forceful way, which will allow us to make changes in the way we express ourselves or in the life we live. Apparently destructive, the outcome may be positive in that the debris has to be cleared away.

(Traveller; Migrator; Nomad) In a dream, an explorer represents an outgoing woman from a wealthy family. Seeing an explorer in a dream also represents a morganatic marriage or a marriage for pleasure which is governed by duration.

To dream of explosions, portends that disapproving actions of those connected with you will cause you transient displeasure and loss, and that business will also displease you.

To think your face, or the face of others, is blackened or mutilated, signifies you will be accused of indiscretion which will be unjust, though circumstances may convict you.

To see the air filled with smoke and de’bris, denotes unusual dissatisfaction in business circles and much social antagonism.

To think you are enveloped in the flames, or are up in the air where you have been blown by an explosion, foretells that unworthy friends will infringe on your rights and will abuse your confidence. Young women should be careful of associates of the opposite sex after a dream of this character.

Emotional outburst, intense (inner) conflict. Repressed urges, as in Electricity, Attack, Surf, Abduction, Defloration* You really should allow yourself to “explode” now and then! It is important to look at what is exploding, and what form the explosion takes.

1- An explosion in a dream usually indicates a release of energy in a forceful way which will allow us to make changes in the way we express ourselves. Usually the emotion behind the explosion will be considered negative and we may have suppressed it for some time.

2- The forceful explosion of anger, fear or sexual release can accomplish a cleansing.

A dream may be a safe space in which to accomplish this.

3- An explosion in a spiritual sense would suggest a revelation of some sort.

Vision: Witnessing an explosion: you are threatened by an alarming, unexpected event. Suddenly waking up immediately after a dream: a physical problem. Seeing an explosion: your present restlessness is temporary. Seeing dead people after an explosion: escaping at the last moment from a dangerous situation, unscathed. This symbol is a sign of severe tension that is about to explode. See Bomb, Dynamite. However, anxieties and tension will just as suddenly disappear. Why are you about to explode? What kind of volcano inside you is waiting to erupt?

Exposing one’s hidden knowledge in a dream means exposure to inner knowledge and working a noble trade. Ifthe person in question is already a man of knowledge, then new spiritual revelations or those of material substance will be revealed to him and enrich his life.

Dreams of an express lane or express service represent that you are in a rush and are living life in the fast lane. This dream is giving you the message to take time to smell the roses and find balance in your busy life. Perhaps you are in the midst of a great growth spurt of quickened transformation where you are rapidly moving, shaking and processing in the blink of an eye.

(Banishment; Chasing away; Dismissal; Driving away; Eviction; Exile; Expel) Expulsion in a dream means imprisonment. It also means establishing the superiority of the one who gives the order and the proof of the subject’s guilt.

If one is exiled from his homeland in a dream, it means that he may enter a jail.

If one is expelled from paradise in a dream, it means that he may experience poverty. Ifone evicts a man of knowledge or screams at him, or bewilders him in a dream, it means that he will face an extraordinary misfortune and confront a threatening and a cruel enemy.

If a religious and a pious looking person is evicted or driven away from a place in a dream, it means that he is failing to fulfill his religious vow, or it could mean that he is avoiding to remain in the company of true pious people, ascetics, people of knowledge and noble ones. Expulsion in a dream also could denote misbehavior or ill conduct on the part of the evictor.

(Such as cousins, aunts, uncles) members of the extended family usually appear in dreams either as themselves, highlighting our relationship with them, or typifying various aspects of our own personality that are recognizable.

Material aspects: When we dream of extinguishing fire or light it is often worthwhile to look at how this is done. Dreaming of switching off a light suggests that we have cut off a source of energy, with the potential for it to be reinstated.

For instance dousing a fire with a blanket suggests suppressing a powerful energy.

Vision: Quenching your thirst: your dreams of finding love arc being fulfilled. Extinguishing a fire: a passionate affair (thank goodness) is coming to an end—otherwise, it would have devoured you. Sometimes the dream means you will escape from an unfortunate situation at the last moment. Extinguishing a fire in your house: you are engulfed in actual difficulties, but you will prevail!

Depth Psychology: The meaning of the dream depends on what you have or are trying to extinguish. See Candle, Fire, Lamp, Lantern, Light.

Extra-terrestrial beings in spiritual terms are those that do not have the same qualities as human beings. They are not ‘of the ordinary’. Such images suggest that we have access to other realms of being in the dream state.

Psychological / emotional perspective: Emotionally, anything that is beyond our normal experience may be depicted as extra-terrestrial. We need to give such emotions some kind of form in order to be able to deal with them. It is possible that in feeling different to others we sense ourselves to be alien and not of this world.

Material aspects: From a practical perspective, there is no reason to suppose that extra­terrestrial beings do not exist, or that there is no such things as ufos (unidentified flying objects). However, opinions vary as to whether the objects and beings we encounter in dreams are figments of the dreaming mind or aspects of our own personality, or are indeed extra-terrestrial.

(Grinding; Pressing) Grinding or pressing nuts or seeds to extract their oils or butter in a dream means money and prosperity. Pressing ripe olives in a dream represents one’s homeland. Pressing olives for their oil in a dream means relief from burdens or overcoming adversities, or it could represent true scholars, satisfying one’s carnal desires, engaging in wrongdoing, receiving guidance, seeing the light, walking away from darkness into light, or it could represent one’s earnings or benefits. Pressing sesame seeds or walnuts in a dream means prosperity and financial growth. Sesame oil in a dream represents a pious person who admonishes people and entices them to break their attachments to the world or to its temporary pleasures. Pressing sesame seeds in a dream also represents a successful businessman. Extracting hazelnut compound in a dream means money which is earned with hardship or it could mean money that keeps growing. (Also see Juice; Oil press; Wine press)

Dreams of an extraction symbolize that you are removing an undesirable habit, relationship or aspect of your life. This dream reflects that you are in the midst of major change and transformation. You are learning to saying, “No” to what is undesirable and non-supportive in order to bring in to your life that which is desirable and supportive. See Operation.

Dreams of FedEx represents your desire to have a message or communication delivered quickly, with a guarantee. Consider the message that is being sent and why it is so urgent. See Express and Instant Messenger.

To see a grave digger or excavator in the dream means death for the one who sees it provided any of the following happens; he pushes the grave digger away from his place; his animal tramples the grave digger, the grave digger falls on the ground; he himself is in the state of sakraat. But if any of the following happens then he will either lose his job or die; he rolls up his bedding; his turban or topi falls off from his head; his hand gets cut off from his body; his tongue is cut off; he becomes blind.

To hex someone is to cast a malicious spell and is not within the correct use of spiritual energy. It is a deliberately conscious direction of negative energy and is said to rebound upon the perpetrator threefold.

Material aspects: To hex someone is to unduly influence a person or result. Usually this has negative connotations so to dream of having a hex put on us will signify an instinctive dislike of someone, which may or may not be reciprocated.

If we are performing such an action in dreams we probably need to take a long hard look at our motivation.

When spiritually we attempt to reconcile two energies – the spiritual and the physical, or the active and the passive – we may experience that union in dreams in the form of patterns. One significant group of patterns are the hexagrams, said to have been discovered on a tortoise shell by an ancient chinese sage.

A hexagram consists of six lines and symbolizes the union of the spiritual and physical worlds.

Psychological / emotional perspective: Technically, according to the chinese system of i-ching, the hexagram is a figure of six lines on top of one another. Broadly, the three at the top represent the spiritual world and the three at the bottom the physical. These two forces unite together and seem to exert a profound influence in the ordinary world. In dreams the hexagram provides a diagram of how the two forces come together and with study can help us to live our lives successfully.

Material aspects: In the ordinary world we frequently become aware that two energies combined are far more powerful than each individually. When we need a boost in energy our dreams will often give directives as to how to do this.

Gives gender - specific: Yang is the masculine or active principle that controls heaven, the day’s activities, the sun’s heat, action and hardness. Yin is the feminine more passive aspect that controls the earth, the night’s mystery, the cool moon, softness and stillness. In both men’s and women’s dreams, when a hexagram appears some kind of balance is being established.

If you dream of being homosexual or that someone else is, this is about processing your relationship with your sexuality, your same sex parent, or exploring the realm of homosexuality. Depending upon the emotional context, this dream could represent -love and adoration, or fear/defensiveness/disdain of the opposite sex. Because we all contain masculine and feminine energy, regardless of our sex, this could represent an imbalance of an aspect of your nature, unresolved issues with your opposite sex parent, or the freedom and -love to explore beyond the boundaries of society’s parameters. Consider the feeling tone of this dream.

If you dream that you are gay (but you are not in your waking life), or hanging out with a group of gay people, it is symbolic of self-love and self-acceptance. You are becoming comfortable with your sexuality and femininity.

If in your dream you hate the idea of homosexuality, then it represents your fears and rejection of parts of your own femininity and sexuality.

If you are gay in real life, then the dream is simply a reflection of your own self.

If you dream that your real-life boyfriend or husband is gay, you could be feeling rejected by him in real life, either because he is physically cold or you sense he is keeping some of his emotions secret from you. Your subconscious mind might be telling you that he’s keeping a secret from you in some way. Or, you could just be feeling insecure about the strength and nature of the relationship. Communication is key to finding out what’s really going on.

Sex in many different forms is frequently the topic of dreams. Sexual dreams don’t always have sexual meaning. They are at times about power, control, identity and other non-sexual issues of life.

If you are homosexual, dreams regarding this particular sexual orientation are not atypical. They are simply the extension of your thoughts and feelings in the form that is the most familiar and meaningful to you.

If a heterosexual person is having a homosexual dream, it may have a variety of connotations.

The interpretation of this dream, as with all others, is very personal and generalizations are difficult to make. This dream may be about loving yourself, especially if the other individual in your dream is a stranger.

The dream may be about integrating ideas and attitudes, and in a few, rare cases may be about sexual orientation. Sexual dreams are either wish-fulfilling, compensatory, or non-sexual, but rather are about issues mentioned above. See also: Sex, Intercourse

Each of us has some element of homosexu­ality in us unconsciously. In one’s dreams it may suggest a desire for the father or mother’s love, perhaps because they were not demonstrative. So one was led to crave the love of a man/woman. Conflict or anxiety about one’s own gender, feelings of sexual inadequacy or inadequacy in one’s own gen­der, unconscious pain in regard to the opposite sex—this may be rationalised into reasons for being homosexual rather than being expenenced and made conscious; depicting an introver­sion of one’s sexual drive.

1- Dreaming of having intercourse with somebody of the same sex as oneself usually indicates a conflict or anxiety about otir own gender. We may find ourselves attracted to someone of the same sex in dreams because we are looking for parental love. We may also be looking for love of a different sort a nurturing rather than sexual love.

2- Very often, to dream of a homosexual affair is an attempt to come to terms with opposite aspects of oneself. It is understanding that, through the integration of a part of ourselves, we are making ourselves more whole and therefore more able to go onto successful relationships of any sort.

Psychological / emotional perspective: Very often, to dream of a homosexual affair is an attempt to learn to love a part of our personality that is not much used in waking life. Often when we come to terms with such a part it will enhance our ability to have successful relationships of any sort.

For some people it shows an inherent reluctance to relate fully to the opposite sex either through some trauma or fear.

Material aspects: Dreaming of having intercourse with somebody of the same sex as oneself often indicates a conflict or anxiety about our own gender roles. We may find ourselves attracted to someone of the same sex in dreams because we are looking for either parental love or a depth of mature love. We may also be looking for love of a different sort – a nurturing rather than sexual love.

Gives gender - specific: In a woman’s dream a lesbian affair does not mean the dreamer is gay, simply that she seeks understanding. In a man’s dream there may consciously be a degree of homophobia and a fear of his more sensitive side, but it is more likely that he is seeking approval of some sort from his peers.

(Sexual organs; Vagina) Lustfully looking at the vagina of one’s wife or that of another woman, or touching it in a dream means engaging in a rotten business. Seeing a naked woman without her knowledge in a dream represents common pitfalls and mistakes one makes in his life.

Dreams of a male who is man enough to care for his appearance is about the balance of masculine and feminine energy. You are allowing the masculine part of you out into the light of day to get primped and primed, sanding off the rough edges of your rugged masculine exterior and interior. Or this dream may be showing you that you are spending too much time caring for your exterior, and not enough time caring for your most essential, interior self.

A Mexican character may suggest adopting a passionate and rich lifestyle that celebrates life through a colorful cultural experience. He or she may mention the value of hard labor in supporting your family.

Dreams of Mexico or of a Mexican represent passion, music, devotion to family values and Catholicism, and an easy, relaxed lifestyle that includes a daily “siesta”. Your dream may be giving you the message to live for today, and to stop putting quality time with friends and family on the lay-away plan.

In a dream, a money exchanger represents knowledge, poetry, speaking the right words, richness after poverty, a school, the fellowship of a wise man, or a scale. In a dream, a money exchanger also could represent someone who has knowledge, though no one benefit from what he knows except in mundane matters. His work relates to scientific writings, scientific arguments, dispute of authority, or questions and answers. Perhaps his only balance or criterion is his own judgment. His balance represents his tongue and ears. His weights are his only instrument for justice and judgment. His measuring pennies are his fights with people.

A money exchanger in a dream also represents a religious doctor or a scholar who takes religious questions and interprets their definitions. He also could be a dream interpreter who measures everything he takes in and gives an appropriate answer. He takes a pearl necklace for a price and gives words in return, or he takes scattered words and gives a beautiful pearl necklace in exchange.

If one who is experiencing difficulties in wakefulness changes some money in a dream, it means that his difficulties will diminish.

If one buys gold coins and gives silver money in exchange in a dream, it means reparation, financial obligations or liability. Seeing a money exchanger in a dream also represents wealth, or quick richness from suspicious sources, or he could represent an accountant, a bookkeeper, or a ledger keeper.

If you dream of a multiplex cinema or shopping mall are about your multidimensional self, reminding you of how many opinions are always available to you. Your subconscious mind is telling you to get out of your rut and expand your possibilities in this infinite and abundant universe.

1- A nuclear explosion can be accidental (as, for instance, was Chernobyl). Such an accident can unintentionally have very far-reaching efTects.

To dream of a nuclear explosion can highlight our anxiety about great change in our lives. We do not yet know what effect that change may have. We do, however, know we must undertake radical change, but would prefer it to be a more gradual process.

2- When we have suppressed certain parts of our personality rather than handling them, there may be some type of synergy (combined energy) which can become destructive. We would be alerted to this by dreaming of causing a nuclear explosion.

3- Spiritually, a nuclear explosion would suggest a discharge of power which, if not handled properly, could be destructive.

Psychological / emotional perspective: When we have suppressed certain parts of our personality rather than handling them, there may be some type of synergy (combined energy) that can become destructive. We would be alerted to this by dreaming of causing a nuclear explosion.

The threat of such a huge explosion is enough to generate fear, sometimes unfounded.

Material aspects: A nuclear explosion is not always an act of war, but can sometimes be accidental. Such an accident can unintentionally have very far-reaching effects.

To dream of a nuclear explosion can highlight our anxiety about great change in our lives. We do not yet know what effect that change may have. We do, however, know we must undertake radical change, but would prefer it to be a more gradual process. Also consult the entries for apocalypse, atom bomb and bomb.

To dream of oral sex suggests eagerness to provide or accept gratification and happiness. It is a representation of your artistic vigor, and reaffirms that you are taking the correct path in life.

The dream may also be a retort on discussions about sex. You may have to articulate your sexual wishes and desires to your lover. It is also possible that your dream of oral sex is an actual manifestation of your sexual fantasies.

A dream about you performing oral sex on yourself symbolizes a yearning for self-satisfaction.

Example: ‘At about two or three in the morning my wife Brenda and I were suddenly awoken from sleep by a noise. As we lifted our heads to listen we identified it as the handle on our children’s bedroom door being turned.

The house only had two bedrooms, and the children’s room was directly opposite ours. Both of us had had the same thought—”Oh no, it’s the children again.” Much to our annoyance they had been waking in the middle of the night claiming it was morning and time to play. We had tried to suppress it, but here it was again.

As these thoughts went through our minds we heard the sound of feet clomping down the stairs. This was strange as the children usually stayed in their room. Brenda got up, de­termined to get whoever it was back into bed. I heard her switch the light on, go down the stairs, switch the sitting room light on, and I followed her via the sounds of her movement as she looked in the kitchen and even toilet—we didn’t have a bathroom. Then up she came again and opened the children’s door—strange because we had assumed it had been opened. When she came back into our room she looked puzzled and a little scared. “They’re all asleep and in bed ‘ she said. ‘We talked over the mystery for some time, trying to under­stand just how we had heard the door handle rattle then foot­steps going down the stairs, yet the door wasn’t open. Also, the door handles on our doors were too high for the children to reach without standing on a chair. There was a stool in the children’s bedroom they used for that, yet it wasn’t even near the door when Brenda opened it.

Having no answer to the puzzle we stopped talking and settled to wait for sleep again. Suddenly a noise came from the children’s bedroom. It sounded like the stool being dragged and then the door handle turning again but the door not opening. “You go this time” Brenda said, obviously disturbed.

‘I opened our door quickly just in time to see the opposite door handle turn again. Still the door didn’t open. I reached across, turned the handle and slowly opened the door. It stopped as something was blocking it. Just then my daughter Helen’s small face peered around the door—high because she was standing on the stool. Puzzled by what had happened, I was careful what I said to her. “What do you want love?” I asked.

‘Unperturbed she replied, “I want to go to the toilet.” The toilet was downstairs, through the sitting room, and through the kitchen.

‘Now I had a clue so asked, “Did you go downstairs be­fore?”

“Yes,” she said, “but Mummy sent me back to bed.” * (Tony C).

This is an unusual example of an out of body experience (OBE). Mostly they are described from the point of view of the person projecting, and are therefore difficult to corroborate. Here, three people experience the OBE in their own way. From Tony and Brenda’s point of view what happened caused sensory stimuli, but only auditory. Helen’s statement says that she was sure she had physically walked down the stairs and been sent back to bed by her mother. Tony and Brenda felt there was a direct connection between what they were think­ing and feeling—get the children back to bed—and what Helen experienced as an objective reality.

OBEs have been reported in thousands in every culture and in every period of history.

A more general experience of OBE than the above might include a feeling of rushing along a tunnel or release from a tight place prior to the awareness of independence from the body. In this first stage some people experience a sense of physical paralysis which may be fright­ening (see paralysis). Their awareness then seems to become an observing point outside the body, as well as the sense of paralysis. Then there is usually an intense awareness of one­self and surroundings, unlike dreaming or even lucidity. Some projectors feel they are even more vitally aware and rational than during the waking state. Looking back on one’s body may occur here. Once the awareness is independent of the body, the boundaries of time and space as they are known in the body do not exist. One can easily pass through walls, fly, travel to or immediately be in a far distant place, witnessing what may be, or appears to be, physically real there.

Sir Auckland Geddes, an eminent British anatomist, de­scribes his own OBE, which contains many of these features. Example: Becoming suddenly and violently ill with gas­troenteritis he quickly became unable to move or phone for help. As this was occurring he noticed he had an A and a B consciousness.

The A was his normal awareness, and the B was external to his body, watching. From the B self he could see not only his body, but also the house, garden and sur­rounds. He need only think of a friend or place and immedi­ately he was there and was later able to find confirmation for his observations. In looking at his body, he noticed that the brain was only an end organ, like a condensing plate, upon which memory and awareness played.

The mind, he said, was not in the brain, the brain was in the mind, like a radio in the play of signals. He then observed his daughter come in and discover his condition, saw her telephone a doctor friend, and saw him also at the same time.

Many cases of OBE occur near death, where a person has died* of a hean attack for instance, and is later revived. Be­cause of this there are attempts to consider the possibility of survival of death through study of these cases. In fact many people experiencing an OBE have a very different view of death than prior to their experience.

Early attempts to explain OBEs suggested a subtle or astral body, which is a double of our physical and mental self, but able to pass through walls. It was said to be connected to the physical body during an OBE by a silver cord—a son of life­line which kept the physical body alive. This is like the con­cept that the people we dream about are not creations of our own psyche, but real in their own right. Whatever one may believe an OBE to be, it can be observed that many people in this condition have no silver cord, and have no body at all, but are simply a bodiless observer, or are an animal, a geo­metric shape, a colour or sound (see identity and dreams).

The person’s own unconscious concepts of self seem to be the factor which shapes the form of the OBE. If, therefore, one feels sure one must travel to a distant point, then in the OBE one travels.

If one believes one is immediately there by the power of thought, one is there.

If one cannot conceive of existing without a body, then one has a body, and so on.

This approach explains many aspects of the OBE, but there is still not a clear concept of what the relationship with the physical world is.

The many cases of OBE which occur during a near-death experience also suggest it may be connected with a survival response to death; not necessarily as a way of trying to transcend death, but perhaps as a primeval form of warning relatives of death.

If there is survival of death, then the OBE may be an anticipatory form, or a preparatory condition lead­ing to the new form. See hallucinations, hallucinogens.

To dream about an out-of-body experience (also known as astral projection), suggests that you are looking at things from a whole new perspective. You may be feeling liberated and free. Alternatively, it may indicate that you are physically or emotionally disconnected from those around you.

(Bond; Connection; Liaison) To have important connections in a dream means compelling one’s enemy to retreat or to accept one’s conditions.

To have strong relationships in a dream cools the divine wrath, as does giving charity in secret. This is true unless one’s connections or circle gathers a group of evil companions, or if one is mingling with a band of conspirators.

It is common to dream about our relationships. You can interpret this dream by remembering the details and comparing them to the realities of your daily life. In your dream state you may be experiencing some wish-fulfillment or confronting things that you would normally ignore. Some say that relationships with strangers in your dream state represent the different sides of your personality. See also: Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend

To dream of sexual intercourse may be the result of having contact with a person influenced by a spirit of perversion. Sexual content in a dream may also result from being in a relationship with someone past or present

It is very difficult to name just a few possible interpretations for this dream. It is so complex that interpretations vary with each dreamer and situation in the dream.

A sexual dream may be about physical pleasure, but it may also be about power, control, manipulation, virility, and effectiveness. It may be a form of wish fulfillment or a memory, or compensation for a lack in daily life. In most cases, it is not a prediction of things to come in the near future.

in dreams Although sex is symbolised in many dreams, where it appears directly it shows that the dreamer is able to accept their sexual urges and hurts more easily. What is then imponant is to attempt an understanding of what setting or drama the sexual element occurs in. Our psychological and sexual natures, like our physical, never stand still in develop­ment unless a pain or problem freezes them at a particular level of maturity. Therefore our sexual dreams, even if our sex life is satisfactory, show us what growth, what new challenge, is being met.

Example: My lover was standing behind me, and John, my husband, was standing in front of me. I was asking John to have sex with me and at the same time thinking, “Oh, hell, if he does he will think we have something going between us.” I felt no flow towards John but felt somehow I was trying to tell my lover that I was desirable’ (Sally A). Sally’s dream needs no interpretation. Such clear dreams show that Sally is ready to be directly aware of what she is doing in her relationships.

If the sex in the dream is deeply symbolised, it suggests the dreamer is less willing to be aware of their motivations or connected painful feelings. Even though Sally’s dream was clear, it was still dealing with an area of her sexuality she was not clearly conscious of.

If she had been aware, it is doubtful whether she would have dreamt it.

Example: ‘I was in a farmyard.

A small boy climbed all over the bull. It became terribly angry. It had been chained without attention too long. Now it tore away and sought the cows.

The gates were closed, but the bull smashed through the enclosing fence. I rushed to the fence and sat astride it, but on seeing that the bull smashed it like match wood, I looked around for some safe place.

The bull charged the first cow to mount it, but so terrible was its energy and emotion that it could not express as sex. It smashed the cow aside as it had done the fence. Then it rushed the next and tossed it over its head, charging and smashing the next. I climbed into somebody’s garden, trying to get out of the district’ (Arthur J). Although this dream depicts Arthur’s chained’ sexual drive using the bull, it is still fairly obvious.

If we consider the setting and plot of the dream, as suggested above, we see that Arthur is desperately trying to avoid responsibility for, or try­ing to escape, his own sexual drive—figuratively ‘sitting on the fence’.

Example: ‘My husband and I were walking down a road. We were going in the same direction together. I started to sing with a very happy feeling but then felt I should stop because he would say the happiness was because I had had sex. I sensed he knew what I was thinking as I walked along. He then quietly began to sing and the dream ended with me smiling to myself. We had sexual cut off for four weeks but had made love that afternoon’ (Joan W). In talking about this dream Joan said she felt it slightly embarrassing to admit that sex gave her feelings of happiness. She liked to believe she was perfectly happy without it. It is probably out of the slight conflict between her conscious attitude and her feeling of well-being after sex that the dream was produced. See ani­mals; adolescent; affair; devil, Christ, Shadow under arche­types; bag; banana; bed; example in bite; black person; breasts and penis under body; bud; candle; cane; castration; ceremony, ritual; clothes; compensatory theory; cuckoo; cup; dam; dance; third example in danger; defence mecha­nisms; dragon; drum; emotions, mood; ejaculation; second example under evil; founh example under husband in family; feelings; homosexuality; horns; hostility; example in door under house, buildings; hypnosis and dreams; insects; jun­gle; kiss, left, right; lift; second example under light; man; masturbation; mirror; murder; nest; oval; pole; prostitute; purse; rape; refrigerate; religion and dreams; first example under reptiles; sadism; sex while asleep; wordplay, puns.

1- When a child is first born, its first awareness is of itself as an individual. It has to learn that it is now separate from its mother and cope with the separation. It begins to become ‘conscious’ of itself, and of its need for warmth, comfort and love. One vital stage of growth is the baby’s fascination with its own body and the ability to be physical. This is as much to do with what feels comfortable and nice how it feels to be in one’s own skin, as it were. It is at this point that lie or she learns about touch, whether il is nice to touch or be touched, and even if touch is permissible. If, for instance, the child is handled roughly, there may be a fear of being touched, which may later manifest as a sexual difficulty.

While the original trauma may be suppressed, it will often surface in dreams when the time is appropriate. Real growth takes place when the individual is not afraid of the curiosity which allows an innocent exploration of his own body. Dreams will often allow us to explore this physicality in a safe way.

2- Dreams highlight the whole range of the individual’s sexuality. Only if lie ignores his own sexual nature and fails to appreciate his own life force do the negative aspects make themselves obvious in dreams. This is a natural attempt to balance the waking state which may have been over-intcllectu- aliscd, or over-dramatised. Contact with others then bcconies necessary; and often this need will make itself apparent in dreams. Various aspects of sex and sexuality can be interpreted as follows: Bisexuality Within ourselves we hold both masculine and feminine potentials. One is more overt than the other and there is often conflict between the inner and the outer. This can sometimes show itself in dreams as bisexuality and a need for some kind of union with members of both sexes. Castration in a dream suggests fear of loss of masculinity and sexual power.

Clothes in sexual dreams can have particular relevance often to do with the dreamer’s perception of him or herself: being fully clothed would suggest some feeling of .guilt.

Contraception Dreaming of contraception can indicate a fear of pregnancy and birth. Ejaculation/Emission The images in a dream prior to orgasm can suggest the nature of the dreamer’s attitude to sex and sexuality.

The conflicts which arise in the dreamer because of his sexual desire for someone can be dealt with in the dream state through dreaming of emission or orgasm. Fetishes Fetishes arc a fixation 011 an external object without which there can be 110 sexual act. This is a little akin to a child not being able to go to sleep without his comforter. There is some evidence for the belief that, at an unconscious level, man would prefer a life of celibacy and, by projecting his energies onto an object, he abdicates responsibility. In dreams, therefore, a fetish can highlight fear, immaturity and lack of capability. Hermaphrodite (also see Individual Entry) Dreaming of a hermaphrodite (someone who is both masculine and feminine) suggests either bisexuality, which is an erotic attraction to both sexes, or androgy ny the perfect balance within one person of the masculine and feminine qualities. Homosexuality is taken to mean the desire for sex with a partner who is the same sex. More properly, it is a desire for someone who is the same as oneself. It is this aspect that comes across in dreams.

If the dreamer can identify what is similar to himself or herself in ways that arc not purely sexual, the dream can be fully interpreted. Incest (also see individual entry) in a dream usually characterises the need for expressed love that is, love expressed in a more tactilc way. In dreams incest can highlight guilty feelings about one’s parents or members of the family. Intercourse (or petting) The wish or need to be able to communicate with someone on a very intimate level can translate itself into intercourse in a dream.

If intercourse is interrupted the dreamer may have inhibitions of which he or she is not consciously aware. Often intercourse in a dream can mark the integration of a particular part of one’s personality; If a child is then born that integration has been successful. Kiss This can indicate a mark of respect or a desire lo stimulate the dream partner. It suggests we should be aware of what arousal we ourselves need. Masochism The desire to hurt oneself or to be hurt in dreams through sex arises from two causes.

The first is to be a martyr (to suffer for one’s ‘sins’) and the second to feel extreme emotion of one sort or another. We mav not allow ourselves to feel deeply in everyday life.

Masturbation The child learns to comfort himself through masturbation, so dreaming of masturbation is a need for comfort. Perversion When sexual perversion appears in dreams we are avoiding, or attempting to avoid, issues to do with closeness and bonding.

Phallus Any image either of or to do with the phallus signifies everything that is creative, penetrative and masculine. It is vitality and creativity in both its simplest and most complex form. It is resurrection and the renewal of life. Rape Any image of rape appearing in dreams can be as much to do with violation of personal space as with the sexual act. Sexual rape is unlikely to appear in the dreams of, for instance, sexually abused children. It may only appear as an image when the adult is ready to deal with the trauma. Sadism (also see individual entry) Sadism appearing in a dream would suggest that it is probably a counterbalance to the dreamer’s conscious way of being in the world. In everyday life he may be cither very timid, in which case the dream is an escape mechanism or. in having to be dominant and controlling in everyday life, the unconscious shows its need to be controlled.

Semen Dreams have an odd way of throwing up images of primitive rites and practices of which we may have no conscious knowledge. Many of these are representations of the sexual act. Semen is the sign of masculinity and of physical maturitv and is often seen in dreams as some other milkv fluid.

Sexuality in a dream, in the sense of feeling desire for someone else most often of the opposite sex is a basic primeval urge for closeness and union with that person. It is as though we are searching for a part of ourselves that we have lost.

The other character in the dream represents the closcst we can get to that part.

If we were a fully integrated human being, we would have no need for sex with someone else, but for most of us we have a desire to be united with everything which is not part of our own ego. Such a dream, which highlights the feelings we are capable of having, provides information to enable us to understand our own needs. Transvestism This signifies a confusion so far as gender is concerned in dreams. Venereal Disease In a dream this can suggest awareness of some kind of contamination. This need not necessarily be of a sexual nature, but could also be emotional.

3- Sexual activity is either the highest expression of love and spirituality between two people or. if purely physically based, is entirely selfish. It would be up to the dreamer and their understanding of themselves to determine which it is.

Dreaming about having sex may compensate for sexual inactivity. It may fulfill a desire for intimacy and sexual expression. Being caught having sex may mention that you feel exposed sexually or embarrassed about sexual feelings.

To dream of sex represents teamwork, stability, serenity, fulfillment, affection, harmony, matrimony, relations, and adoration. All aspects of your life are in perfect balance. It can also denote that you are satisfied with your home life.

Dreams about sex symbolize your desire, creativity, and passion. Erotic dreams are also helping you to balance out your unsatisfied or secret physical attractions, longings, and desires. You are feeling alive within your body temple, attractive or attracted to someone, and in touch with your body’s need for expression, attention and celebration. Dreams of intercourse represent connection, acceptance, affinity, love and the embracing and melding of the qualities of the person or people involved in the act.

If you dream of having sex with a particular person, then you are connecting to this person and/or what they represent to you.

Sexual dreams are often straight-forward representations of our desires for other people. Sex in a dream can also signify our need to bond with or gain power over others.

If you dream of having sex with a celebrity, you wish to be more popular or accepted by those around you.

If you dreamed of having sex with a friend’s boyfriend/husband, this indicates your wish to be a positive relationship and to experience the energy of love. It may also mean that you are jealous of certain qualities that your friend possesses.

If you dreamed of changing into someone of the opposite sex, read the explanation under “Gender” in this dictionary.

If you dreamed of watching someone else have sex, look up “Voyeur/Voyeurism”.

Dreams will often allow us to explore physicality in a safe way. Real spiritual growth takes place when we are not afraid of the curiosity that allows innocent exploration of our own body. When a child is first born, its first awareness is of itself as an individual. It has to learn that it is now separate from its mother and cope with the separation. It begins to become ‘conscious’ of itself, and of its need for warmth, comfort and love.

Psychological / emotional perspective: Dreams highlight the whole range of the individual’s sexuality. One vital stage of growth is the baby’s fascination with its own body and the ability to be physical. Only if later we ignore our own sexual nature and fail to appreciate his own life force do the negative aspects make themselves obvious in dreams. This is a natural attempt to balance the waking state, which may have been over-intellectualized, or over-dramatized. Contact with others then becomes necessary, and often this need will manifest in dreams. Consulting the entries for androgen / androgyny, castration, clothes, hermaphrodite, homosexuality, incest, kiss, masochism and sadism will help you clarify your dream.

Material aspects: In dreams, sexuality, in the sense of feeling desire for someone else, is a basic, primeval urge for closeness and union. It is as though we are searching for a part of ourselves that we have lost and the other character in the dream represents the closest we can get to that part.

If we were a fully integrated human being, we would have no need for sex with someone else, but most of us have an inherent desire to be united with everything that is not part of our own ego. Sexual activity is either the highest expression of love and spirituality between two people or, if purely physically based, is entirely selfish. It would be up to us and our understanding of ourselves to determine which it is.

Example: Many times in my adult life I have woken to find I have made love to my wife while asleep. Or I wake to discover myself in the middle of the sexual act. At such times I have usually been avoiding my sexual drive and it has burst through to fulfil itself while I was asleep or under the sway of dreams.

For instance most times this hap­pened I have been in the middle of a dream in which there is a sense of absolute imperative that I must make love/have sex.

It is like being lost in a storm of glamour and fantasy or vision in which I am totally involved.

The whirl of the “dream” is towards the wonder, totality of the need to have sex. As this imperative is expressed in my still spontaneous, dreaming physical action, the experience of sex is also visionary and enormous’ (Charles W).

This fairly common dreaming experience demonstrates powerfully how dreams are an expression of a self regulatory or compensatory action in the psyche and body. Charles says that he had been restraining his sexual activity. This shows the enormous gulf which can exist between what we will to do as a conscious personality, and what our being needs to do or wishes to do outside conscious decision making.

The ‘glamour and fantasy’ Charles describes are regular features of how these deeper needs make themselves known, or attempt to coerce the conscious mind, into fulfilling the need.

If we reject the fantasy, the unconscious processes will attempt a more radical approach, as in actual physical movement while we sleep. This may have given rise to ideas about possession or devils in past ages, when it was not understood that we can split our mind by such conflicts. Fear of the possessing’ influ­ence actually heightens its power through suggestion. It is much better to understand what one’s needs are, and seek an acceptable fulfilment. See abreaction.

(Adultery; Coitus; Fornication; Hugging; Instinct; Lesbian; Molesting; Sexual drive; Sleeping together, Sodomy; Tribadism) If a man sees himself having sexual intercourse with another man in a dream, it means that both of them have lost their moral dedication, that have become aimless, turned stingy toward their own dependents and generous toward others. It also means loss ofone’s capital, or divorcing one’s wife.

If a poor person sees such a dream, it means that he will fall sick, or attract an incurable disease.

To have sexual intercourse with a male in a dream also means falling into sin, committing the unlawful, or engaging in sexual intercourse with a female member of one’s own family, a blood relation, or a consanguineous person whom one is forbidden to marry. Molesting a child in a dream means suffering from a great affliction. Fornication with a young servant in a dream means suffering from continuous stress and a lasting depression. Sleeping with a beautiful woman one recognizes in his dream means profits. Sleeping with an ugly looking old woman in a dream means the opposite. Having sexual intercourse with an unknown woman in a dream represents the type of interactions and dealings one fosters with people in general. Accordingly, and depending on the condition of the woman one is sleepingwith in a dream, one’s actions will substantiate. Sleepingwith someone’s wife in a dream means engaging in a profitable business with the husband.

If a sick person sees himselfhaving sexual intercourse with his mother in a dream, it means his death, for the mother here represent the earth.

If a woman sees herselfengaging in tribadism, or a lesbian relationship with another woman she knows in a dream, it means that she will confide her personal life to her, or divulge all her secrets, become her intimate friend or a fan, shares opinions with her and emulate her actions and look in public. Ifshe does not know that woman in the dream, it means that she will indulge in sin.

If a married woman sees herself engaging in tribadism with another woman in a dream, it means that she will separate from her husband or become a widow. Engaging in sexual intercourse with a deceased person, be it a man or a woman in a dream means one’s own death, unless if one is travelling, then it could mean visiting that country where the deceased person is buried. Any sexual intercourse in a dream that culminates in ejecting semen and necessitates a complete ritual ablution in wakefulness represents disturbed dreams, or engaging in a forbidden sexual intercourse from the anus, or it could represent wet dreams. Having sexual intercourse in a dream also signifies paying one’s debts, or it could mean relief from pressures. Having sexual intercourse with a prostitute in a dream means love for the world, or it could mean profits. Having sexual intercourse with one’s wife in a dream means success in one’s trade. Having sexual intercourse with a heavenly woman in a dream means religious and spiritual attainment. (Also see Anus; Semen; Pleasure; Sodomy; Tears; Vagina)

Often unfulfilled desires. Generally, a symbol of meaningful contact and development of Self.

The male animus and the female anima are what the dreamer needs or wants to be connected with. Sexuality in dreams often refers to the secrets of life, such as birth, marriage, death (also life and the Devil). One of the strongest symbols of creativity.

If the sexual encounter is with someone the dreamer loves and desires, and who reciprocates his or her feelings, then happy times with that person lie ahead.

If the encounter is with someone whose feelings the dreamer isn’t sure of, it could mean the same, but it could also be nothing more than a wish-fulfillment dream. Look to other symbols in the dream in order to discern its true meaning.

If the encounter is an unpleasant one with either a stranger or someone whom the dreamer does NOT like, the dreamer is trying to avoid a distasteful choice or confrontation that perhaps should actually be faced.

If the encounter is a pleasant one with a partner that the dreamer does not know, then the dreamer is about to gain something that he’s been wanting for a long time. Again, to ascertain what it is, look to other symbols in the dream. Astrological parallels: Venus, Mars, Taurus, Scorpio Tarot parallel: The Lovers

Dreams of tantric sex symbolize your awareness of the sacred in the sexual and the sensual/sexuality of your spiritual devotion. This dream may also be reflecting the value of being able to properly channel your sexual desires and urges in the direction of your higher aspirations.

Dreams of a text message signify telepathy and a desire to connect and to stay in touch with someone from afar. You have a desire to get to the point, and to spell out what it is you want to communicate.

To dream about text messaging symbolizes that you need to reach out to people who may not always physically be around. It could also suggest that you have been spending too much time texting in real life, and this has carried over into your dreams!

To dream about getting or sending a text message, on your phone or computer, symbolizes that you need to reach out to people who may not always physically be around. It could also suggest that you have been spending too much time text messaging in real life and this has carried over into your dreams.

If you were messaging someone you know, this can also mean there is an issue you need to confront with this person.

If you dreamed of texting a crush you may be obsessing over this person a bit, and this has carried over into your dreams.

If you can’t reach someone by text in your dream, you must listen to your inner voice more closely for your life to move on the way it should.

If you dream of getting garbled or hard-to-understand text messages, you may be the center of some negative gossip.

To dream of reading or spying on someone else’s text messages signifies that you are mistrustful of others and you tend to poke your nose into friends’ business.

Dreams of a transsexual is about sexual expansion or confusion. Consider the feeling tone of this dream to discern its meaning for you. You are either embracing your opposite and/or dismissing or disowning your own sex. This dream can also be about the celebration of your of your opposite nature, feminine or masculine.