(Closed) No cold feet here

I keep waiting for cold feet to show up, but with three weeks until our wedding, I haven’t had a hint of it yet. I had a moment of clarity regarding our relationship about a year ago, and I’m continually impressed at how strong it’s held up. I’m wondering if anyone else has had the same experience. Let me explain…

My Fiance and I have been dating for more than three years now, and we’ve known each other for nearly ten. He is very different than me – he’s laid back, outgoing, social, and doesn’t take life all that seriously. I’m very goal-oriented, organized, financially conservative, et. We’ve gone through our ups and downs, and starting a couple of years ago, we hit some pretty rough patches. As of April/May 2009 or so, I was about ready to give up. I remember telling my brother that we were most likely breaking up, and literally packing some of my things to move out. I just didn’t see our relationship making it. This went on for a few months, and I really had no idea what to do at that time. It was a pretty miserable part of my life.

One day in August, I unexpectedly had a moment of clarity about our futures, at least from my perspective. Something just told me that it was right. Who knows where this came from, but I all of the sudden had a very clear understanding that we were meant for eachother, and that whatever obstacles we were experiencing or would experience would/should not get in the way of our larger purpose of happily spending our lives together. There was no doubt in my mind. There wasn’t anything in particular that happened that day, or even that month, but for whatever reason this hit me smack in the face one day. It’s funny, because I’m REALLY not an emotional/higher-being believing type of person. This is something that I don’t completely understand, and I’m not sure where the persistent source of strength comes from. Ever since then, the thought of us not continuing down the path we’re on has honestly never crossed my mind. There have been fights – bad fights (let’s not talk about the $26,000 motorcycle he just bought…) – but it’s all relatively minor and temporary when we look at the big picture. Before, this type of bad fight would have been accompanied with thoughts of breaking up. Now, it’s more “ok, what’s the best way of getting through this.”

Has anyone else had the same or a similar experience? I know that I’m very lucky to not be dealing with cold feet right now. There are so many things going on in my head that I’m not sure I’d be able to handle it. 🙂

I never did, and I’m super impulsive! For me, being with H just seemed so natural, even from the beginning. It was the one thing I never once questioned, as there was nothing to question. At first it was scary, but my parents had a train wreck marriage, and my father continues to have many horrible (and failed( marriages/engagements.

I never had cold feet either and neither did my husband! My husband and I just “knew” that we were meant for each other after we had only been dating a month. We were engaged 6 months later, and married 10 months after that. I’m glad neither of us ever had cold feet, because I think it helped us see things more rationally for the health and well-being of our relationship. Instead of seeing everything as a relationship-breaker, we saw it as an opportunity to improve our relationship and make it stronger. And I wouldn’t trade that for the world!