There are certain users that are incredibly passive aggressive. This is problematic to the community because it breeds hostility in a way that is difficult to defend against, but serves to invalidate and undermine the user it is targeted toward. The person engaging in the passive aggressiveness gets to hit the person they are targeting, and when the target expresses discontent, the aggressor gets to feign ignorance or deny any form of maliciousness.

It is clear that certain passive aggressive users are not as intelligent as they purport to be, yet their reputation on DDO is everything to them, and so they hide under the illusion of superiority.

Have you encountered passive aggressiveness on DDO? How did you deal with it and what would you recommend?

At 11/16/2015 8:09:21 PM, lamerde wrote:There are certain users that are incredibly passive aggressive. This is problematic to the community because it breeds hostility in a way that is difficult to defend against, but serves to invalidate and undermine the user it is targeted toward.

It's not that hard to defend against. You just treat them like a child and move on, fall into a flame war, and get the other guy banned.

The person engaging in the passive aggressiveness gets to hit the person they are targeting, and when the target expresses discontent, the aggressor gets to feign ignorance or deny any form of maliciousness.

True. It happens. Basically everywhere in life.

It is clear that certain passive aggressive users are not as intelligent as they purport to be, yet their reputation on DDO is everything to them, and so they hide under the illusion of superiority.

May not necessarily be true, but that's kind of passive aggressive, or at least non-committal aggressive which is basically the same picture in a different frame.

At 11/16/2015 8:09:21 PM, lamerde wrote:There are certain users that are incredibly passive aggressive. This is problematic to the community because it breeds hostility in a way that is difficult to defend against, but serves to invalidate and undermine the user it is targeted toward.

It's not that hard to defend against. You just treat them like a child and move on, fall into a flame war, and get the other guy banned.

The person engaging in the passive aggressiveness gets to hit the person they are targeting, and when the target expresses discontent, the aggressor gets to feign ignorance or deny any form of maliciousness.

True. It happens. Basically everywhere in life.

It is clear that certain passive aggressive users are not as intelligent as they purport to be, yet their reputation on DDO is everything to them, and so they hide under the illusion of superiority.

May not necessarily be true, but that's kind of passive aggressive, or at least non-committal aggressive which is basically the same picture in a different frame.

Have you encountered passive aggressiveness on DDO?

Yes.

How did you deal with it and what would you recommend?

I gif war and beat them so hard they cry.

+1

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I don't care about whether an ideology is "necessary" or not,
I care about how to solve problems,
which is what everyone else should also care about.

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In essence, the world is fucked up and you can either ignore it, become cynical or bitter about it.
Deep down, we're all dumbassses who act like shittheads

At 11/16/2015 8:09:21 PM, lamerde wrote:There are certain users that are incredibly passive aggressive. This is problematic to the community because it breeds hostility in a way that is difficult to defend against, but serves to invalidate and undermine the user it is targeted toward. The person engaging in the passive aggressiveness gets to hit the person they are targeting, and when the target expresses discontent, the aggressor gets to feign ignorance or deny any form of maliciousness.

It is clear that certain passive aggressive users are not as intelligent as they purport to be, yet their reputation on DDO is everything to them, and so they hide under the illusion of superiority.

Have you encountered passive aggressiveness on DDO? How did you deal with it and what would you recommend?

Youre late my friend. I already knew the truth about that situation, and youre just know realizing it.

At 11/16/2015 8:09:21 PM, lamerde wrote:There are certain users that are incredibly passive aggressive. This is problematic to the community because it breeds hostility in a way that is difficult to defend against, but serves to invalidate and undermine the user it is targeted toward. The person engaging in the passive aggressiveness gets to hit the person they are targeting, and when the target expresses discontent, the aggressor gets to feign ignorance or deny any form of maliciousness.

It is clear that certain passive aggressive users are not as intelligent as they purport to be, yet their reputation on DDO is everything to them, and so they hide under the illusion of superiority.

Have you encountered passive aggressiveness on DDO? How did you deal with it and what would you recommend?

This is probably one of the most passive aggressive posts I have seen on DDO in a while.

At 11/16/2015 8:09:21 PM, lamerde wrote:There are certain users that are incredibly passive aggressive. This is problematic to the community because it breeds hostility in a way that is difficult to defend against, but serves to invalidate and undermine the user it is targeted toward. The person engaging in the passive aggressiveness gets to hit the person they are targeting, and when the target expresses discontent, the aggressor gets to feign ignorance or deny any form of maliciousness.

It is clear that certain passive aggressive users are not as intelligent as they purport to be, yet their reputation on DDO is everything to them, and so they hide under the illusion of superiority.

Have you encountered passive aggressiveness on DDO? How did you deal with it and what would you recommend?

This is problematic to the community because it breeds hostility in a way that is difficult to defend against, but serves to invalidate and undermine the user it is targeted toward. The person engaging in the passive aggressiveness gets to hit the person they are targeting, and when the target expresses discontent, the aggressor gets to feign ignorance or deny any form of maliciousness.

It is clear that certain passive aggressive users are not as intelligent as they purport to be, yet their reputation on DDO is everything to them, and so they hide under the illusion of superiority.

This is also passive aggressive.

Have you encountered passive aggressiveness on DDO? How did you deal with it and what would you recommend?

Lol I was about to post this. Either call them out straight up or you're being passive aggressive too...

though to be fair, you aren't allowed to make call out threads anymore

I'm glad you brought this up because I feel certain users get away with calling other users out by making threads not directly at them, but by heavily implying the thread is about another user. Passive aggressiveness needs to be stopped.

At first, I had no idea who this thread was about. Clearly it was about someone, but I think I know who now. I'm curious if I'm right, especially in light of Maikuru's comment.

That said, I agree that passive aggression is generally bad, but as a rule people are aggressive and that can manifest either overtly or passively. This is especially the case where emotions are entangled with other things, like, for example, political ideology.

It would be good if people could engage in political discussions candidly, without subtle "attacks" on others. Perhaps there has been even more of that of late, and it's bad, so to that extent I agree with the OP.

At 12/13/2015 5:28:14 PM, lamerde wrote:Still as true today as it was then, and forever.

Agreed. If I may add, certain events have transpired. And I've thought about certain things. And I'm sorry for the way those certain events transpired. And I would just like to make some changes about certain things and certain situations.

"You assume I wouldn't want to burn this whole place to the ground."
- lamerde

At 12/13/2015 5:28:14 PM, lamerde wrote:Still as true today as it was then, and forever.

Agreed. If I may add, certain events have transpired. And I've thought about certain things. And I'm sorry for the way those certain events transpired. And I would just like to make some changes about certain things and certain situations.

At 12/13/2015 5:28:14 PM, lamerde wrote:Still as true today as it was then, and forever.

Agreed. If I may add, certain events have transpired. And I've thought about certain things. And I'm sorry for the way those certain events transpired. And I would just like to make some changes about certain things and certain situations.

When I grow up I want to be married and have 100 kids so I can have 100 friends and no one can say no to being my friend.

At 12/13/2015 5:28:14 PM, lamerde wrote:Still as true today as it was then, and forever.

Agreed. If I may add, certain events have transpired. And I've thought about certain things. And I'm sorry for the way those certain events transpired. And I would just like to make some changes about certain things and certain situations.

Then change them.

Am I going to tell them? No, I am not going to tell them. I don't see the point of that. As a doctor, you would not tell a patient if they had cancer.

"You assume I wouldn't want to burn this whole place to the ground."
- lamerde

At 12/13/2015 5:28:14 PM, lamerde wrote:Still as true today as it was then, and forever.

Agreed. If I may add, certain events have transpired. And I've thought about certain things. And I'm sorry for the way those certain events transpired. And I would just like to make some changes about certain things and certain situations.

When I grow up I want to be married and have 100 kids so I can have 100 friends and no one can say no to being my friend.

Would I rather be feared or loved? Easy, both. I want people to be afraid of how much they love me.

"You assume I wouldn't want to burn this whole place to the ground."
- lamerde

At 12/13/2015 5:28:14 PM, lamerde wrote:Still as true today as it was then, and forever.

Agreed. If I may add, certain events have transpired. And I've thought about certain things. And I'm sorry for the way those certain events transpired. And I would just like to make some changes about certain things and certain situations.

Then change them.

Am I going to tell them? No, I am not going to tell them. I don't see the point of that. As a doctor, you would not tell a patient if they had cancer.