justt want to let u all no .. bf still hasnt came home or spoke to me :( so guess im in this on my own now ... made an apointment for the doctors next week ... was so sick at work this morning .. it isnt very good when im a dental nurse .. have to keep leaving ...:( but oh well everythin happens for a reason ryt ?x

Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:30 pm

sam_marshall

Joined: Tue Aug 25, 2009 12:43 pmPosts: 0Location: Nottinghamshire

Hiya hun, I haventbeen on for a couple days so bit out of the loop.

Just want to say we are all here for u and if u need to chat then go rightahed.

Men can be a complete waste of space sumtimes, b4 my lo was born i kickedmy partner out for cheatn on me, 4 days lter I gave birth. Was very hard but I did it and a few weeks later I looked back and thought oh my god Ive done it and lovin it.

U'll be fine huni x

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:32 pm

amber_11

Joined: Tue Jul 21, 2009 10:28 amPosts: 0

thanx means alot ... going out now be back later tho thanx everyone for all ur help speak later xx x x

Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:34 pm

wbamom

Joined: Tue Jul 21, 2009 10:25 pmPosts: 0Location: west bromwich

Hi hun bear in mind it's still early days and men take faaaaaar longer to process things. When I got pregnant this time my husband and father of my 1st child wasn't overly pleased and barely mentioned it for ages - he didn't leave or anything. He started acknowleding it and looking forward to it at about 30 weeks. I've been with him for 9 years!

And if worse comes to worse you will cope - it's one of the fab things about us women!! Good luck with everything and keep us updated X

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:37 pm

beautifulnightmare

Joined: Mon Jun 29, 2009 7:04 pmPosts: 0

Hiya hun, don't worry about your boyfriend - he may have found this a very big shock (although this is NOT an excuse) but he may just need time.

I know he's going away next week, maybe text him and ask him to come over and talk?

Have you decided what you want to do about the pregnancy? I think once it really sinks in, you will be fine hun.

Massive hugs!

xx

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:37 pm

Leanneb205

Joined: Thu Apr 09, 2009 9:06 pmPosts: 0

Hi hun i dont know your story but im doing this alone as i left my OH 6 weeks ago after he cheated it seems like the end of the world as first but it does get easier and now i realise im doing better on my own than i was with him Hope your managing okay, theres always some1 on here if u need to talk xx

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:50 pm

selinag1986

Joined: Sat Jul 11, 2009 2:20 pmPosts: 0

hi hun i dont no whats happened but i just want to say we are all here for u and u will be fine what ever u decided to do xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:54 pm

laurapeskett

Joined: Thu Dec 04, 2008 3:56 pmPosts: 0

I agree with everyone else. My OH barely spoke for days and flat out refused to talk about the pregnancy for a couple of weeks. When he finally agreed to talk about it, and I made my point clear that I was keeping the baby with or without him, he eventually came around and was 150% supportive.

He's now a fantastic daddy. If your OH won't do the same for you and your LO then he doesn't deserve to be a daddy and you're far better off without him.

Stay strong for you and the baby and remember there's always someone around on ED to give you help / advice / a chat!!!

xxx

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 5:56 pm

MrsK1986

Joined: Mon Feb 16, 2009 10:40 pmPosts: 0

100% agree with the other girlies hun. Men take forever to come round to these kinds of things so you never know.

If you need to vent about him we're all eyes We've all been there with blokes!

xx

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 6:31 pm

jtk87

Joined: Thu Apr 09, 2009 1:24 pmPosts: 0

Hiya hun, I'm Jo I just caught up on your situation (I wasn't on yesterday when you posted) and just wanted to say well done for being so positive.

Your OH might come round yet - it was probably a massive shock and we all know how men can behave totally stupid sometimes when things go 'not to plan'. He will probably be stressing to cos he has to go away and that will be on his mind too I'm sure.

If he doesn't come round, then he wasn't worth it and it will only be him who misses out - you will still have your precious baby and it will be so worth it even if there is a lot of heartache first.

I hope he comes round! Whether he does or doesn't, we are always here if you feel the need to talk

My situation...ive wanted a baby for ages but OH flat out refused. Then, one day, as if by magic i was pregnant!

I was ecstatic and thought my OH would be pleased once he knew. I was wrong. He hated it. he wouldnt talk to me, he wouldnt hug me, kept going to his mates and told me i should have an abortion.

I had to make a desicion, and as much as i love him, i told him that i WANT this baby, and if he cant support me, id rather do it alone. Id rather get rid of him than the baby!! (in actual fact - i dont know if this is true, but i HAD to say something to let him know how serious i was. i did even think about getting rid once - to keep him hapy).

Once he knew that - a week later, OH tells me he was scared and was a lot to get his head around, and really waned to keep the baby. now we are happier than weve ever been b4 - in 5 yrs of being together.

I dont know your situation, how old you are or how long you and OH have been together..but its HIS baby too. And i think, if you stay strong, hel come round. After all, its his son or daughter that youre carrying! its a scary time..but if you want to keep your baby, stay strong. I nearly gave in and i know that i would hate him and would have left by now if i got rid.

Its your baby and your choice...follow your heart.

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 7:06 pm

sabinaarcher

Joined: Thu Jul 09, 2009 9:41 pmPosts: 0

hi babe, hope he does come round, sure he just worried and shocked still... and babe, if he dont , then its his loss...........

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Thu Oct 01, 2009 7:22 pm

amber_11

Joined: Tue Jul 21, 2009 10:28 amPosts: 0

.. thankyou all for your support he finally rang me tonyt and was like im sorry ... i was just so worried about everythin and i hate my self for having to go away and leave you to deal with all this on ur own .... he was like in tears and that toatly broke my heart ... he was going on about how scared he wud be that he cudnt be there for me ... or if anythin happend to him that he wud think of him self as a bad bf/ dad ... he was explaning how he had to right his will and stuff and that it toatly broke his heart because he is " so in love" with me ... and that he wants to be with me forever ... and then my door bell rang ... and he was there.. and he asked me to marry him lol !!! i feel so bad for going on about how much of a s*** bf ( now finace ) ... he was ... i think it was just my hormones getting on top of me ... i feel so lucky tha i have the most amazing man in the world lol ... sorry for going on i just cant take the smile off my face ... so i guess now is the time to just chill out and enjoy everyday as it comes ... thankyou to everyone who has helped me ... i will be on here alot from now on with jamie going away .... im startin to get really excited about it all now lol hes bein reallly really nice with me ... startin to dread him going :( ... how are you all tonyt ? x xx x x x

Thu Oct 01, 2009 9:34 pm

beautifulnightmare

Joined: Mon Jun 29, 2009 7:04 pmPosts: 0

Thats brilliant news hun!!

I am so glad he came around and CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy AND your engagement!!