Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no! it is an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken; It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken. Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle's compass come: Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

No... but yes? Why choose someone with a lack of character? And does there really have to be power in a relationship? I'm curious today.

No, meaning, it wasn't the full on love..I felt it coming...but, never happened. Either due to her personality traits (lack of character) or mine. Lack of character to me, means someone who flip flops or doesn't stand by their word. I've ome to find out, that a lot of youg women today, say one thing, but do another. You know, the "I wouldn't...", or the "Girrrrl, you know...." . Which is frustrating to me, because my character is the one thing that I can count on. So when a woman reveals herself to be shysty, due to the fact that one can see from the jump who I am, and what I'm about (I've learned to not give a woman what she asks for-esp. "honesty" ), that "feeling" evaporates like water on a hot brick.

I think it not so much as me choosing someone who lacks character (many of the women I have dated, have approached me), but more so in the physical traits and personality traits of the woman and me. I am a giver, a straight-arrow. I have been told one to many times that I would "make a good husband". The women tend to be those who either need structure in their lives, or those "bad girls". I attract the opposite of what I am, and now I am resigned to live with that fact. Those that need structure tend to put on a front like they are are grounded individuals, but as time wears on, you find out that the woman is really a fallen angel, and you see the reasons why.

Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no! it is an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken; It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken. Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle's compass come: Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

No, meaning, it wasn't the full on love..I felt it coming...but, never happened. Either due to her personality traits (lack of character) or mine. Lack of character to me, means someone who flip flops or doesn't stand by their word. I've ome to find out, that a lot of youg women today, say one thing, but do another. You know, the "I wouldn't...", or the "Girrrrl, you know...." . Which is frustrating to me, because my character is the one thing that I can count on. So when a woman reveals herself to be shysty, due to the fact that one can see from the jump who I am, and what I'm about (I've learned to not give a woman what she asks for-esp. "honesty" ), that "feeling" evaporates like water on a hot brick.

I think it not so much as me choosing someone who lacks character (many of the women I have dated, have approached me), but more so in the physical traits and personality traits of the woman and me. I am a giver, a straight-arrow. I have been told one to many times that I would "make a good husband". The women tend to be those who either need structure in their lives, or those "bad girls". I attract the opposite of what I am, and now I am resigned to live with that fact. Those that need structure tend to put on a front like they are are grounded individuals, but as time wears on, you find out that the woman is really a fallen angel, and you see the reasons why.

I understand your ways, Venom.

I think you've given up on love and finding a good woman in general and that's a shame.

The best strategy is to be real and stay straight because that is who you are and at the very least you can say that you are who you appear to be.

People reveal themselves to be what they are over time and through consistent patterns.

Give a woman enough rope to hang herself, enough time to show that she is the type of quality woman you deserve or just another scandalous type who is hoping to drag you down in the gutter.

As soon as you start to figure out who has more power in a relationship, the relationship is doomed.

I see a relationship like birds in flight. Everyone takes his or her turn as the leader. One person's strength is another's weakness and vice versa. If you insist on control in certain areas, then you are asking for trouble. And if you allow domination, then you too are asking for difficulties. I'm not talking sex here. I'm talking the relationship itself.

As soon as you start to figure out who has more power in a relationship, the relationship is doomed.

I see a relationship like birds in flight. Everyone takes his or her turn as the leader. One person's strength is another's weakness and vice versa. If you insist on control in certain areas, then you are asking for trouble. And if you allow domination, then you too are asking for difficulties. I'm not talking sex here. I'm talking the relationship itself.

As soon as you start to figure out who has more power in a relationship, the relationship is doomed.

I see a relationship like birds in flight. Everyone takes his or her turn as the leader. One person's strength is another's weakness and vice versa. If you insist on control in certain areas, then you are asking for trouble. And if you allow domination, then you too are asking for difficulties. I'm not talking sex here. I'm talking the relationship itself.

Not that I figure out who has the most power. Never that simple, nor do I wish to dominate a woman within the relationship. I used to be a "follow the river" type of person (in college). And as a woman , I think you 'd probably find it a turn off if a man can not and does not define himself within the relationship. Being, "a straight arrow" type of person, I tended to cater to the woman ( a good and a bad thing), plus I had to watch to make sure I was not being taken advantage of (nice guys can surely be taken for a ride ).

I believe in that "50/50 Love" that Teddy P sings about. But realistically it is 70/30, 60/40. As you talk about strengths and weaknesses, I have tried making my weaknesses my strengths and kept my strengths, making myself good all around. But it doesn't play out like that when, lets say one is a better cook than the woman (who can't cook), one is more disciplined with money than the woman, and one has more interests and knowledge in many different areas than the woman, even though she might have a Masters or is an Attorney.

As soon as you start to figure out who has more power in a relationship, the relationship is doomed.

see the problem with me is i let the other person take charge if they wanna. I see it as a security thing...i'm secure enough in my masculinity and my self (read ..looks character .etc) that i'm always very happy go lucky. Which puts me in a situation where i need a woman secure enough herself that she understands and apreciates my laid back attitude and does not miatake it as me being a push over.

soo many times woman do just that and then are susprised when i end it (the look on their faces being " but i thought i ws in charge")...for a woman who plays hierarchy games is insecure and insecurity is the biggest turnoff.

I'm aggreeing with ya here jodes!

i've had women tell me " juni..you r just too nice" and i've replied " honey...you r just too insecure" ...now i'll put this in bold " only insecure women mistake an asshole as alpha male behaviour....a truly secure man should not sccumb to this and all of a sudden start being an asshole and deviating from his normal behaviour , just to get those women...in doing so he will lose his pride...and at least to me..my pride is worth much more..even so than love"

see the problem with me is i let the other person take charge if they wanna. I see it as a security thing...i'm secure enough in my masculinity and my self (read ..looks character .etc) that i'm always very happy go lucky. Which puts me in a situation where i need a woman secure enough herself that she understands and apreciates my laid back attitude and does not miatake it as me being a push over.

soo many times woman do just that and then are susprised when i end it (the look on their faces being " but i thought i ws in charge")...for a woman who plays hierarchy games is insecure and insecurity is the biggest turnoff.

I'm aggreeing with ya here jodes!

i've had women tell me " juni..you r just too nice" and i've replied " honey...you r just too insecure" ...now i'll put this in bold " only insecure women mistake an asshole as alpha male behaviour....a truly secure man should not sccumb to this and all of a sudden start being an asshole and deviating from his normal behaviour , just to get those women...in doing so he will lose his pride...and at least to me..my pride is worth much more..even so than love"

Let's face it, lil' Junaids....

You're too advanced for most women as it pertains to your security in your masculinity.

Most women aren't ready for someone like you until they're in their 30's.

Honestly, many men don't reach your stage of enlightenment until they're too old to care...

I'm striking a balance, because while I am secure in who I am, there are some situations that demand alpha male/thuggish-type behaviour and I won't back down from those either.

I've been around too long and seen too much to believe that how other people perceive me won't factor in, and in those instances there is no way I can be laidback and easygoing.

You're too advanced for most women as it pertains to your security in your masculinity.

most.. i'm seriously considering going back to my (g)olden days where i did nothing but date russian and eastern block women...sorry to say it but American women up untill now have been a big dissapointment ( some amreekan republican woman is gona take this personaly...which is EXACTLY why i'm sick of yall )

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Most women aren't ready for someone like you until they're in their 30's.

and i'm not willing to date a woman in her 30s seriously...too much emotional and physical mileage for me ( the 'lose' women here will be indignant at this point and try and chime in telling me i have a small penis or smething similar or something... )

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Honestly, many men don't reach your stage of enlightenment until they're too old to care...

dood...if u were a girl ..i'd totally date ya! ( yes i've been watching waaayyyy 2 much scrubs...Dr Cox is like my hero!...i'm totally aware of how gay that sounds...)

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I'm striking a balance, because while I am secure in who I am, there are some situations that demand alpha male/thuggish-type behaviour and I won't back down from those either.

you r nAaturally an ass sometimes...its not a deviation from norm behaviour...which is fine...

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I've been around too long and seen too much to believe that how other people perceive me won't factor in, and in those instances there is no way I can be laidback and easygoing.

the only people i do give a flying f**k about are the ones that do factor in about my preception of myself...so i agree with ya there bro!

the only woman i'll lower my pride for is one...well you know the drill...