Single Lady Brags About Using Match.com to Get Guys to Buy Her Dinner

I wasn't going to write about this, but it started making me madder and madder, so here I am. Business Insider today writes of a woman named Jessica Sporty, who, at 23, was simply too poor on her $45K salary to take care of her $1,475 a month (ahem -- Murray Hill) apartment and also her extra $500 or $1000 in credit card bills, so, she took to Internet dating on Match.com to essentially get dudes to buy her dinner and keep her out of debt.

One million sighs. O.K., for the sake of the argument, let's just say this story is for real; that Sporty does not have some angle in publicizing it (like a book deal? A dating guide, mayhaps? A hilarious new rom-com?); and that we're going to give her some slight benefit of the doubt. New York is expensive, and Match.com is not, after all, known for its overall high caliber wonderful, charitable, always honest people. Not to specifically call out Match.com -- the INTERNET, in fact, is not known for always being the most moral playground, and yet, ironically, is known for railing on anyone who fails to meet our very high standards. And dating, in fact, is not known as a situation in which everyone behaves perfectly and wonderfully.

But a comment like this is just disgusting:

"Before I barely had enough money to pay for food," said Sporty. "After using Match.com I found I wasn't going into debt anymore."

Yeah, New York is expensive. Yeah, you have high standards and you want to, like, buy shoes and go out and have fun. Yeah, this is a hilarious little tale to share with your girlfriends, the way you would share tales of bad, hilarious dates. Men use women far more than women use men, that's the stereotype, right? And bankers "were thrilled to woo her with extraordinary restaurants like the underground taqueria La Esquina and a Japanese restaurant, Megu, in Tribeca. One guy even took her to a champagne bar and purchased a $200 bottle."

Ha ha. What a gas. Further, what an economic windfall:

Sporty went from easily spending $500 a month on dinners alone to having someone else dole out an average of $60-plus per night. She also stopped eating lunch and opted for a light breakfast to save even more.

Her roommates joined in, and, there were spreadsheets made, and well, now we have a trend story. Women who use men to feed them. How progressive. During the "experiment" the ladies "soon learned how prevalent the online dating scene had become in New York City."

Wow.

Sporty eventually gave up on the game and according to the story, has a boyfriend. But the problem with this is not with one girl, or even with a girl and her roommates. It's that there are actually people in New York City who do want to find each other and form some semblance of a good, honest, loving relationship. And people like Sporty make it that much harder for any of them -- any of us -- to trust each other. It's hard enough out there; we don't need this sort of crap that makes everyone suspicious and jaded and fraught with doubts and indecision. God, please say we're not this awful.

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Sporty was just doing what they call "sporting", except she was getting chumps to pay meals instead of just for drinks. I never, EVER take a woman out for dinner unless a physical attraction has already been established, so I have no problem with what this smart gal is doing. Her story would make a great Lifetime movie, especially if she really fell for a guy who turned the tables on her and put her in her place, which is what she wanted all along.

I just watched an interview of her on Good Morning America. She claimed she didn't go out with all those men simply to get free meals; it just so happened that none of them asked her to split the check. She said if any had, she would have thought, Hmmm, that's not traditional, but she would have agreed. She later described herself as a traditional girl and thus expects the man to pay for the date.

So I can't say with certainty that she was deliberately running a scam. What I can say, though, is that her nose is quite asymmetrical and she applies her makeup with a trowel.

so what!?!?! Men go out on dates and if they get "the one thing" they want from a woman, they bail. They use women for their bodies never caring if they put women at risk for pregnancy or STDs as many of them treat 'protection' like an after-thought once the woman brings it up. And being used for your body (because he said all kinds of BS about liking you and wanting a relationship, etc) is waaay worse than being used for $60 or even $300. Thankfully, I realized around age 25 that all men want is to "chase skirts" so I dont even bother to date anymore. I'm 33 yrs old. I make good money, have an awesome body, I still model part-time, have great friends (men & women) but I wont date any one. I have a toy and lots of C-batteries...so who needs a relationship anymore. In two years I'll adopt or go the artificial insemination route - so I'll have a kid and again, who needs a relationship? Weak people who are too afraid to be alone or just dont like themselves enough.

Her name is Jessica Sporty. She has a twitter which she has probably recently locked due to the shit storm raining down on her.

You play with matches and you get burned.

She's also essentially fucked for life now because regardless of whether or not business insider changed her name due to her probably calling up and crying, once you google her name this story pops up since it was run in multiple online publications. At least there's some justice in the world.

my buddy's sister makes $72/hour on the laptop. She has been fired for 9 months but last month her paycheck was $8210 just working on the laptop for a few hours. Here's the site to read more... CashHard.cöm

My favorite part of this is the implication that a $1,475/month apartment is, somehow, her only option. Sorry, baby, I pay less than half of that in rent and get by just fine. It's called a budget, honey.

These poor saps are not looking for someone to buy dinner for, they are looking for a relationship. If they wanted to feed someone, I'm sure they could find a homeless person that is way more deserving.

If she was being honest about it, sure. Doesn't really sound like she was, which makes her a terrible person. And the guys shouldn't expect that every date will lead to a full time relationship, but making guys pay for dates when she has absolutely no intention of being in a relationship at all is totally dishonest.

If she acted in a manner that suggested more interest than one would exhibit on a first meeting I'd agree with you. But its not necessary to do that. Both parties are non committal at this stage anyway. Some people stay that way for a long time.

Keep in mind that was meeting a number of people this way. And apparently she eventually met someone she wanted to commit with.

The word "date" in the general sense, implies that she was interested in meeting a person in order to possibly enter a relationship with, not to use people in a cold and systematic way in order to get free food and a night out.

But she wasnt looking to "date" anyone. This wasnt her intention from the get go so your statement is not applicable to her. She was looking for a dupe to buy her a free meal and that's it. Let me get this straight too; you're condonining her coniving, unconscionable, behavior? Is this some kind of feminist solidarity thing? Either way you've taken moral relativism to a completely new level.

She's essentially a predator. It's unfortunate she didnt wind up on a date with a serial killer.