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Thursday, May 4, 2017

A bout of Bell's Palsy

“Are you okay?”

I’ve just completed my
weeklong “shift” of hostess duties: drafting and emailing a wedding
announcement for the local newspaper, ironing crisp white tablecloths and chair
covers, and decorating a spacious venue, to be exact. This is in addition to
pulling frequent all-nighters for a daily entertainment writer gig and defaulting
to a 24-hour nanny role that I never signed up for. So after the nuptials, I sit
quietly, observant near the dance floor in figurative retirement.

If I danced, I would’ve
sashayed to the dance floor. But that’s not my thing. I don’t like to be
watched and scrutinized, and as the tallest person on the dance floor, I’m
almost guaranteed to attract more attention that I can ignore. However, being a
wallflower was more noticeable, eliciting a countless “Come on!” with each
motion of a curved finger elevating my blood pressure five millimeters of mercury
at a time. I remain at the front table with the purses, fuming, while everyone
else shimmies, shakes, shuffles, slides, and steps across the dance floor. It
sways my response.

“If one more person
asks me…” I say before exhaling. “Yes!”

No one else inquires
about my well-being, not even the next day during brunch when my physical
features literally relax.

I happen to glance at
my reflection in a car window the next morning as I carry my plate of
breakfast. Since the inside of the house is still full of wedding guests and
it’s an unusually warm fall morning, some of us walk outside to roam the back
yard and socialize while we eat. I spot an image that doesn’t quite appear to be
symmetrical, but I attribute it to normal distortion because, after all,
doesn’t everyone’s face resemble that of a funhouse mirror whenever they look
upon the side of a car? It wasn’t until an hour later that I realize the answer
is “no.”

My cousin decides to
prepare made-to-order omelets for the guests. This time I sit in the family
room to enjoy my food. The wilted spinach and sautéed onion are tender, the sausage
savory and robust. Instinctively I lick my lips. My tongue touches the left corner
of my mouth and slowly circles to cleft before it gets stuck; it can’t quite
reach the right side, let alone the right corner. I furrow my brow, puzzled
that my tongue feels as if it’s somehow locked.

I attempt to complete
another circle, this time starting on the right, but my tongue and lips still
refuse to connect. I feel alarm warm the rest of my face, quickly burning to
straight panic as I rush to the bathroom mirror.

I turn my head left,
then right, carefully searching for some abnormality. I see nothing out of the
ordinary; I look like my usual self.

Smile, a small voice says.

I watch my lips spread
and curve upward – but only on the left side. The right side of my mouth doesn’t
move at all. I’m simultaneously displaying two emotions.

I rest my face and
repeat.

No change.

I try to pucker my
lips, but they only twist leftward, lopsided in a pinwheel fashion. The little
cleft moves off-center.

I try to wiggle my
nose.

It’s just as rebellious
as the right side of my mouth.

I tell myself that this
attack on my body is reversible despite what a particular little magnet on my
cousin’s refrigerator says. I can stop this thing before there’s any pain or
weakness in my left arm, dizziness and headache, or slur in my speech. And if I
don’t verbalize what I think is happening, then it won’t completely manifest.

I return to my seat to
finish my omelet. I chew in a way that no one else can detect a problem. I need
to think. I remind myself that I’m only 40.

Girl, justdrink some water, my
mind suggests.

I fetch a bottle and
take a few swigs. I chastise myself for indulging in sausage as if I didn’t
already consume bacon the prior hour, sipping one too many dark sodas, and
depriving my body of water frequently. I finish the 16.9 ounces in a matter of
gulps.

But
what if my face still never returns to its normal state? What if these symptoms do progress?

I look up and clearly see
that magnet from where I’m sitting: In case of a stroke, act FAST. Face. Arm. Speech.
Time. My mind wanders to the possible permanent effects if I don’t seek
immediate help. I realize I should do something, but I decide to not dial 9-1-1
because I don’t want to alarm the 40 or 50 guests who are presently in and out the
house. They’d definitely panic and further fuel my anxiety, so I tiptoe through
the crowd to locate the calmest relative.

“I think I need to go
to the emergency room,” I say to her.

I smile for emphasis.

“Lemme find my keys,”
she says.

We drive the 20 miles
in practical silence, interjected with a few words of small talk within the
final seven minutes of the ride. We continue the idle chatter in the waiting
area.

It’s fairly quiet in
my triage room, too, except when the first, second and third members of the
medical staff enter and ask me to repeat my symptoms.

“Has anyone talked to
you about possibly having a stroke?” the last one asks.

I pause before I
answer.

I wasn’t fully
prepared for that kind of validation; I still wanted to hear something
different. There’s life and death in the tongue, as my spiritual family members
often say. I haven’t seen a doctor or
taken a single test, yet here this woman comes to speak a stroke into my
existence.

“No,” I say instead,
“but the thought did cross my mind.”

She leaves me to my
racing thoughts, which briefly linger on my elevated blood pressure reading. I
beat myself up again in silence. I disconnect myself from monitors at least
four times to release the water that I must’ve drunk entirely too fast for my
body to absorb or that’s pooling in my abdomen every five minutes because I’m
nervous. I grow antsy between bathroom breaks and try my hardest to make facial
expressions. It’s during this wait that I realize I can’t blink my right eye
independent of my left; I have to close them in tandem. I wonder when someone
is going to actually treat me if I’m indeed having this stroke.

A young, petite woman
sporting a long ponytail finally enters the room. She introduces herself as the
doctor and asks me to repeat my symptoms and to perform specific exercises.

“Raise your arm,” she
says. “Make a fist.”

I lift it with a
swiftness and clench my fingers with a tightness. I need to prove there’s no
weakness or paralysis in these limbs. I can also raise my right leg and make an
“O” with my foot.

My doctor informs me
that she doesn’t think I’m having a stroke because my entire right side isn’t
affected – it’s only my face that’s uncooperative – and my speech isn’t slurred.
Unlike the previous staff member who utters a premature diagnosis, my doctor
prefers to hold her guess until after my CT scan.

I don’t like tight
spaces. I’ve entered the tunnels twice before this time: One was opened with
“windows,” but the other one was completely closed. The latter makes me
extremely uncomfortable with the blurs of buzzes and clicks and the closeness
of the machine’s ceiling to my nose. I want to blurt out “Forget it!”

I mention this to the
man who administers my scan, so he asks me about my weekend as he wheels me
down the hall. He tells me to close my eyes before the base that I’m lying on
glides into place. It’s not as bad as I’d remembered, maybe because my mind is
focused on the stroke.

The doctor and I
reconvene in my triage room.

“Just as I suspected,”
she says. “It’s Bell’s Palsy.”

I’ve never heard of
the disorder, although I later learn I know several people who’ve been
afflicted by it at some point: a friend’s mother, some cousins, at least two
classmates.

“I knew it!” says one
of my cousins when I return home. She had it in college and thought she
detected it in me during the reception. But we had such a quick conversation,
and my words were deliberate while the lazy motion of my mouth was subtle. Still
she had an idea of what was possibly happening, while mostly everyone else
could only say I seemed to be “talking funny.” Like me, they weren’t familiar
with Bell’s Palsy, either.

Bell’s Palsy occurs
when the nerve that controls the muscles on one side of the face becomes
inflamed and paralyzed, ultimately causing the facial features to droop. The
underlying causes can be a common cold, the herpes virus that causes cold sores
or shingles, or even stress. It is not related to a stroke.

The doctor tells me to
await the nurse for my prescriptions – an antiviral in case I picked up a bug and
a corticosteroid
to suppress the inflammation and simultaneously stimulate my facial nerves.

The nurse tells me
she’s been diagnosed with Bell’s Palsy three times, although I read it’s rare
one relapses.* She correctly assumes it’s highly unlikely I got this from a
virus. “Whatever stress you’re under,” she says, “I suggest you let it go.”

Eliminate it.

Press a stress-be-gone
button.

Except I can’t because
it surrounds me. It haunts me. I live in the midst of it.

“I know,” is all I can
say.

She explains the
purpose of the antiviral and steroid along with its potential side effects.
“You have to take this on time, exactly as prescribed” because you have to wean
yourself off of it in 10 days and not abruptly stop after 10 days.

She also recommends
that I buy a cheap eye patch for my protection since I can’t blink or make
tears. I later find that the elastic hurts the back of my ear, and the patch
itself protrudes a little and blocks the line of sight in my left eye. I suffer
from an occasional headache, and my vision temporarily blurs as my right eye attempts
to focus whenever I remove the patch.

I go home to find a
little bit more information on Bell’s Palsy such as a clue or two that indicates
the illness is about to strike. In retrospect, the dull ache behind my right
ear a day or so before my emergency room visit was one of the first signs.

I was at another
cousin’s house for the rehearsal dinner. As I stood in her kitchen complimenting
her on the spaghetti, I caught myself periodically massaging the area behind my
lobe.

“There’s this weird
pain behind my ear,” I say to her. I brush it off, though, disregarding it as an
everyday ache and pain.

Twos day before that,
a third cousin and I stood in a Walmart line discussing a quick run to the
local bakery. I was chewing gum while thinking about an airy chocolate éclair
and a poofy cream puff with a light filling. Those thoughts vanished when I bit
down on the inside of my lip. Hard. For the third or fourth time. By the time I
got my donuts, I had given myself two blister-like bumps on the inside of my
lip.

After reading up on
the illness, I perform a more scrupulous daily inspection of my face. I stand
in the mirror practicing my smile, looking for any sign of improvement, willing
my mouth to expand the way Uma Thurman’s character willed her big toe to wiggle
in Kill Bill. I puff out my cheeks
with air but my lips make the sound of a deflating balloon because they don’t
seal. I dribble when I drink because my bottom lip doesn’t fully grip the rim
of a glass. I sip through a straw for several months.

Around the same time
every evening, I get overheated. For about one long minute, raging warmth radiates
my face from the inside. I need an industrial-sized fan; I need some sweat to
escape my pores. It’s as if my face is straining with all its might to perform
some bodily action, but for the most part it can only remain immobile. The
right side of my face – particularly my lip and cheek area – involuntarily
twitches like that of a dog when he’s exercising his keen sense of smell. I’m
simply mesmerized by the visual.

My eye is the first
facial feature to start functioning again. I’m ecstatic to finally ditch the
pirate patch, but it’s winter before my full smile returns. Oddly I forgot my
minor affliction because worrying about my appearance wouldn’t help me heal any
faster. Besides, I adopted the attitude y’all
know what emotion I’m really trying to convey, anyway.

Sometimes I do worry
about a recurrence, though, because I constantly exhibit the characteristics
of a superwoman. I fall into the trap of trying to balance my wants and needs and
accommodate everyone else’s. I show no stress only because I hide it well, but
acting like it’s not present doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, and not all stress
is displayed as wild-eyed hair-pulling or nail-biting. Stress can manifest
itself in many ways.

A few Sundays ago, I
felt a familiar sensation behind my left ear, a probable indication that I’m once
again doing too much and neglecting to take care of me. I had a flashback to
the lip-biting, drooping, and drooling, so I immediately made a warm compress
and rested. However I didn’t have a
setback; I only ended up with a sinus cold – a minor outcome of a swollen lymph
node. But rather than exhaling a deep sigh of relief, I take it as my gentle reminder
that somewhere along the way I resumed sacrificing my well-being and forgot how
to say, “No,” to the things that threaten it.

*I do know of someone
who has a recurrence of Bell’s Palsy every time he gets emotional, whether
excited over a winning lottery ticket or upset over a death.

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Tee Elle brings back the concept of story time through a series of posts, projects, and personal essays. Through her narratives and perspectives, she hopes to teach, entertain, and inspire. Follow her stories here on the blog and highlights there on Twitter @pencilandchalk.