Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Happy Anniversary to my One and Only

Today is my 8th wedding anniversary to Sebastian. He is the love of my life. From the first second I saw him, I knew he was the one for me, and never second guessed. Don't get me wrong, our relationship was not perfect, but I don't know how you can get any closer to perfect than what we have. He is the most amazing husband anyone can ask for. He has always done so much for me, things I don't even ask for. If I'm tired and want to sleep in a bit on a weekday, he would get the girls up and get their lunches ready and take them to school for me. Then while at work he would grocery shop, buy household stuff as well, clean up and make dinner too. I never have to go to the bank to get money, every few mornings it's just re-filled for me, as well as my gas tank! Same with all my car work, he'll take it for a day and get it cleaned, tuned-up, the works. He does so much for Paige and Reanna all the time too. He is always there for them when they need him. As much as I'd like to say more, he doesn't know what I'm doing and is making me log off so that I get some sleep :) I'll try to finish tomorrow :)

Ha Ha, I'm back, he's vacuuming while I blog right now. What more can I ask for. He just made a pot of coffee, so I know he'll be back with a cup for me and then something for breakfast as well. He has always spoiled me more than I deserve.

This Anniversary is different though. Unfortunately we won't be on a weekend getaway to Santa Barbara, Napa or anywhere else we like to visit. Late last year we even started to make plans with the Applebaums to do a weekend cruise getaway to Mexico. Sab & I were kinda up and down because we really didn't know what my health would be like, but I guess I'm glad we didn't book the flight, or even get our passports for that matter. Yep, I do not own a passport. I've never left the US (except for Mexico & Canada when you didn't need them). Because I'll be here, at our house, just celebrating it together, well and with friends and family.

Some of my friends/family love Sebastian, some - not so much. But you know what. I love him with all of my heart. I love all of his good qualities, and all of his bad. His bad qualities take me a bit longer, but eventually I get there. For one instance, he hates when we leave the front door unlocked. He gets furious everytime. Now, I'm used to it, and so are the girls. After several years of training - 95% of the time they remember to lock the front doors. What can be so bad about that. So whether you choose to love him or hate him, I don't care. He's mine for life and that's what matters to me. I love you SEBASTIAN!

Happy Anniversary!! True love is a real gift that few people ever get. You and Sebastian deserve the love you've found in each other in this crazy world. Congratulations to you both on your special day!

Wow,I can't believe it's been 8 years! I really like Sabastian.(sorry if you don't always hear that) Sometimes people put their two cents in where it isn't needed.The best kinda friends love my guy when i do, and then secretly hate him when I'm mad :)You guys are awesome.Happy Anniverary,please tell Sabastian I said so too. Love you auntie Linda

I had to comment one more time on the second part of your entry. My husband too is a fanatic about keeping the front door locked and it makes me crazy but I do it. Our daughters have always called our home "Fort Ridgeway" (the name of the street we live on). Ironically, now that they're married and live in their own homes guess what?...they too keep their front doors locked! Guess some habits really are hard to break! ha haI think I would like your Sebastian. :)

Again, we share something that we treasure ... we both married the love of our life on the same date! Jim and I have been married for 30 years today and it seems like we were saying "I do" just yesterday. It sounds like we both got lucky (in the big scheme of life) and married two of God's gems. I wish you and Sebastian a very Happy Anniversary ... congratulations!

One thing I can tell you Linda is that I will never understand what it is like to be in your shoes. And you will never know what its like to be in Sabastian's (or my shoes) during this time...its obviously bittersweet but there is a real comfort there in knowing where you both stand with your love for one another.

One of the nicest pieces of news I got after Brian passed was that the hospice champlain called me up to see how I was "doing" and I asked to her divulge what she and Brian had talked about.

She told me that he was at peace with his melanoma diagnosis. He was at peace with dying. But the one thing he was not at peace with was knowing he was going to leave me...and that I was a "perfect wife"

It was nice to hear that even though he wasnt totally at peace with his situation, that at least he and I felt the same way...because during that time I was so busy making him confortable, vacuuming, getting cereal...that we never had that full-blown bawling session.