Q. I have been with my partner for 17 and a half years now. Just recently he has become secretive. He deletes things off of his cell phone, and goes to a different room when he talk's. Could he be cheating or hiding something?...

A.26 June 2018: After 17 plus years together you should be comfortable enough to ASK him what the heck is going on. Sure you can have a relaxing dinner but you guys have been together longer than the average marriage. Ask him straight up.
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Q. I started dating my ex husband when I was 15, he was the only guy I dated. We got married shortly after high school and had five kids together. I love him but neither of us were really in love with each other for years but we had kids and we were ...

A.26 January 2018: You are just separated from your husband, not divorced. This is the time you should be focusing on what effects the pending divorce is going to have on the children's lives as well as your own. A very important time of adjustment. The time to ... (read in full...)

Q. I'm an atheist (born to Christian parents) and my fiancé is Christian. We both want kids. She recently asked me if I was willing to give them a Christian upbringing when they arrive. I want them to make the decision about a deity when they can think ...

A.13 December 2017: Two of the main causes for divorce are disagreements over money or children. You are having one at the get go. It does not bode well for you.... (read in full...)

Q. Ok lame idea or not? I posted before about the fact I completed my masters degree in creative writing recently, and I choked whilst writing my final project. As I suspected, my grade for that project was terrible and while I still passed, I’ve bee...

A.15 November 2017: Actually a thank you note sent after an interview, whether or not one gets the job, is almost required by professionals these days. It just shows appreciation for the interviewer's time. It is common courtesy. By all means write one. Good luck on ... (read in full...)

Q. Hello, We live in one of the bigger cities on the West Coast. Met my ex-fiancee (wow, writing that still hurts) 5 years ago. I run a couple successful tech companies so for the last two years I've been traveling back and forth (spending together...

A.31 October 2017: According to the Urban Dictionary "the definition of insanity, is, doing the exact same f#%king thing over and over again, expecting shit to change. That. Is. Crazy." ... (read in full...)

Q. I've been going out with this boy for 2 months now and it's a LDR situation. I knew it was going to be hard to not spend all that time together but I felt I could handle it. Lately he's been asking me to send naughty pictures to him and it m...

A.25 October 2017: As far as meeting up with him on the 4th, make sure you bring a friend and it's in a very public place. Also make sure others know that you are meeting up with this guy. This guy has sent out some red flags BE SAFE until you have really gotten to ... (read in full...)

Q. Hi. Last night my bf got so mad at me and left my place at 2 am. He fell asleep on the couch while I was watching a movie, around 130 am I noticed on his phone maybe like 10 phone calls then like 10 messages, his phone is always in silence so he ...

A.25 October 2017: I agree totally with Cindy and Honeypie. And I don't even think cultural differences are a component here it boils down respect for privacy, period. You, OP, had no right to do what you did. Hopefully an apology and a promise to never do it again ... (read in full...)

Q. Looking for some feedback, especially the guys out there, interested in your take on this. My relationship has very recently ended and was a long time coming,This man made me feel uncomfortable, disrespected, less than and so much more. The worst ...

A.11 October 2017: You didn't say how long you put up with this ridiculous behavior but one evening of TV viewing would have been enough for me. You are definitely going in the right direction and leave him in your dust. Your life and future just got brighter.... (read in full...)

Q. why do people have friends and when you talk to them and you say you love them and I got a friend he got's a girl friend and I know them for quit some time they are in a relationship and me and my friend his girlfriend are friends put I would love ...

A.3 July 2017: Since you are good at waiting I suggest you keep waiting until until your male friend says he is cool with you hooking up with his girlfriend. Keep on waiting my man keep on waiting.... (read in full...)

Q. Hi. I am a married mom mid thirties. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, married for 13 years. We have 5 children together. We have had a wonderful marriage up until recent. Back in Feb 2015 my husband started to receive texts fr...

A.8 June 2017: You wrote: "My husband said he said to himself if you don't want this to go away (the compliments) you have to go do this. I know it sounded crazy to me too but he said it was the truth." He had sex numerous times with her just so she would ... (read in full...)

Q. my husband had an affair a couple years ago, he says it is over but I have my doubts. She does not live near us anymore. I want to write her a letter and ask her if he has called her or written her a letter. If he has what has he told her, did he...

A.7 June 2017: Go ahead write a letter. But I doubt you will feel any better about the situation IF and when she writes you back. The problem is you don't trust your husband. I recommend that you and your husband seek some marital counseling. That is if you want ... (read in full...)

Q. Why do some men think it ok to show obvious attraction and lust for women in porn yet not ever tell their wives or partners once that they are sexy or attractive in any way what so ever ? So they not think a woman will begin to feel hurt that he ...

A.4 June 2017: I'm with the owl, I think you have just met the wrong men. If your partner prefers porn to you then get rid of him don't hang on hoping to change him and bellyaching about it. Lots of fish in the sea.
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Q. Hi guys So I am 29, engaged and pregnant. To be honest life couldn't be better right now. My summer wedding is around the corner and everything's great. Here's my question. Me and my fiance are having a girl and have come up with the best n...

A.4 June 2017: You better be sure that you are the only one whose knows the history of the name and that you can keep your own mouth closed or it could really bite you in the butt if it ever comes out. I wish you the best whatever you name that bundle of joy.... (read in full...)

Q. Hi cupids..I might be all over the place but thank you for reading this. So..I keep calling my ex lately and he hasn't been picking up the last few random times. Of course.. he is probably annoyed since I block my calls.. We broke up 8 months ago. ...

A.31 May 2017: Some times a relationship is so close to what we want and need that we settled for it. Close but no cigar kind of thing. What you had with him might have been something like that. He most likely didn't quite feel as much for you as you did for him. ... (read in full...)

Q. Hi guys So I am 29, engaged and pregnant. To be honest life couldn't be better right now. My summer wedding is around the corner and everything's great. Here's my question. Me and my fiance are having a girl and have come up with the best n...

A.31 May 2017: If the name reminds you of your previous boyfriend then don't use it. If your boyfriend gets an inkling that the name may involve a past love he may have some serious doubts about your commitment to him. Not worth the chance as far as I am ... (read in full...)

Q. Hello everyone, through common friends I met a guy at a dinner and we clicked instantly. I have been single for 3 years and I'm very hard to connect with someone immediately. We spoke the entire evening and exchanged numbers. The next morning I had ...

A.31 May 2017: You do realize you are heading down a dead end street don't you? The rejection you fear is right on the horizon. Settling for some man's sloppy seconds is no way to live. Time to cut your losses and take back your life. ... (read in full...)

Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 yrs. our relationship was the result of an affair that started as friendship. He is 20 yrs older than me. We have been incredibly happy for 8 yrs. He recently turned 70 and now seems to need attention ...

A.22 May 2017: If this all started from an affair then it can be assume that one (or both of you) is a cheater and destroyed a relationship(s) to be together instead of going about being single through the honorable channels. Now I am not a believer in "once a ... (read in full...)

Q. I honestly think this is fate. I'm a college freshman, I was dreading my 4hr class with a professor I heard was tough and moody. I get to class and it's this young beautiful short girl with big curly hair. I immediately raise my hand and tell her ...

A.17 April 2017: School Girl Crush google it and learn.
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Q. My boyfriend and I been together 0ff and on, but now we been together for 8 months and when we out and about he dont hold my hand. He still tell people that i am his friend and we live together and he only holds me when he want sex. i can sleep na...

A.8 March 2017: My husband has never been a hand holder and we rarely kiss in public. In April we will celebrate our 42nd anniversay. But you can bet the farm that he couldn't wait to introduce me as his girlfriend when we were dating. He will cuddle with me ... (read in full...)

Q. I'm struggling to make a decision. I don't want this to sound like first world problems or like a brat. I've been dating someone for nearly 6 months now. We're starting to get more serious and have had a really great relationship so far. The ...

A.8 March 2017: Definitely take the trip over the wedding. Your boyfriend should absolutely understand. It may be a once in a lifetime trip with your family and he should realize how important that is. In fact, how he handles this will certainly be an indicator of ... (read in full...)

Q. I am coming to social media rather late in life and am confused by the protocols that seem to liberally litter posts with kisses and hearts. So when my girlfriend posts a pic of an event she attended where I wasn't present and someone responds...

A.20 February 2017: Everything on Social Media has to be taken with a grain of salt. Just like emails/texts, things people say can be totally misconstrued and even have resulted in tragedy. People who get so wrapped up in Social Media will eventually lose some common ... (read in full...)

Q. I have a friend I've known for several years. She has a very frustrating habit in which she will set a day with me to meet up, and then not show up. I really don't understand how you can simply disregard to tell a person you are not coming and let ...

A.8 February 2017: I'd do what Youcannotbeserious suggests or you can be classy and listen to Honey and Tish but what's the fun in that?... (read in full...)

Q. Hiya I've just found out I'm pregnant I haven't told my partner because just last week we were talking about kids and he said no way does he want anyone especially this time we have a 2 year old son I'm so scared of how he's going to react I would ...

A.7 February 2017: In this day and age accidental pregnancies between consenting partners should be the rare exception. How did yours occur?... (read in full...)

Q. My 16 year old daughter revealed to me a little over a month ago that she and her 17 year old boyfriend have had sex. They have been dating for two years and I support their relationship and like her boyfriend a lot, so I am not really surprise...

A.7 February 2017: How well do you know the boyfriend's parents?
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Q. I want a prettier girlfriend. I've been with mine for a few years now and it seems wrong to leave. I love her but the lack of effort (exercise counts) is making me less attracted to her. Bringing it up makes me the bad guy. What should I do?...

A.2 February 2017: I totally agree with chigirl. Short and sweet and to the point. No comment on your less than appealing attitude towards women just sound advice. Please follow it. We can delve deeper into you issues down the road when you hit more road blocks which ... (read in full...)

Q. Do married men who cheat, cheat with more than one mistress at a time? Or do some men stay with just one? I am interested in everybody weighing in with their opinions. ...

A.28 January 2017: You must enjoy all this drama or you would have actually heeded all the great advice you have been given over the years.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-hid-a-recorder-and-heard-breathing-is.html... (read in full...)

Q. My boyfriend will spend more time with my Brother and Housemate then he does with me. My brother and housemate has been committing on my body appearance lately and my boyfriend doesn't say anything. I use to be extremely under weight but i'm now ...

A.23 January 2017: Maybe it is time to trade up Honey. Holed up in a room is no life especially at your age. You should be out meeting people and making memories. If you aren't having fun and enjoying life then it's time to change.... (read in full...)

Q. How does an older woman ever feel good enough or sexy enough especially when her partner is obsessed with watching women twenty years younger than her. I know the usual answer is to ' realise he is with you and if he wanted that he would have that ' ...

A.23 January 2017:
Does he look at porn or is he an ogler when you two are out and about or is it both?... (read in full...)

Q. I've never done it before but I would like to have sex with this guy I know, I think he is bi,but I can't be sure, I stop by his house every one in a while,I never known him to be with a woman since we have been friends five or six years,he spends a ...

Q. I think there’s something going on between my mom and my husband !! I know this sounds impossible but it seems true !! And I want to get to the bottom of it but don't know how !! My mom's visiting us and it has been here for the past 2 months !...

A.21 January 2017: Yep time for mom to pack her bags, visiting time is over. She has over-stayed her welcome besides her behavior 2 MONTHS is still way too long for a "visit". Unless she, God forbid, has permanently moved in. If she has a home tell her you would ... (read in full...)

Q. I am in quite a new relationship with my girlfriend (just over 6 months) and things have been going well. Although recently she has started to decorate my bedroom with photographs, love letters and little trinkets. It is sweet, do not get me wr...

A.20 January 2017: Tell her you have decided to turn your bedroom into your Man Cave. Get a couple "Man Cave items" (google it for ideas) maybe even a new paint job, then box up her stuff like Ivy suggested and you should be good to go.... (read in full...)

Q. I've always been a woman that holds myself with dignity and believe that I have a lot to offer a man in a relationship. I am in no way saying this to brag or boast myself but my personality has always shined and others have told me so as well. ...

A.20 January 2017: Honeypie is right about the pitfalls of FWBs. Many women don't get the rules and there are rules. There is a heap of difference between having no strings sex and being used for sex. Whether there is a double standard in play here or not, some men ... (read in full...)

Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...

A.18 January 2017: I think you realize that you need to spend some time on yourself, and so you can focus, you need to let go of this relationship. It is only exacerbating your symptoms which indicate a deeper problem(s). Let him read what you have written here so he ... (read in full...)

Q. My boyfriend is in Cuba for one week on a guy's trip. I am beside myself with worry that he is going to cheat. I have read that prostitutes are around every corner there and they are dirt cheap. The anxiety is hard to take. I contact him a...

A.18 January 2017: You know that some people are actually happier and enjoy life more if they stay single, right? What exactly does it take for you to feel relaxed in this relationship? I mean can you let him go on a night with the guys without a panic attack? Or are ... (read in full...)

Q. It's a long story, but I got laid off from my job last year and I live at home with my mom. I feel like I've failed at life and this wasn't how I thought I would turn out, but this is just background information. What's going on is that I'm ...

A.18 January 2017: I think Ruby really nailed it when she said your Mom most likely experiences the same level of anxiety if the mess is cleaned up as you do living with it. So the only thing you can do is to try and focus all your energy on finding a job and then ... (read in full...)

Q. I need your help. I need to know whether I should end a 3.5 year relationship. My boyfriend is traveling outside the country with family. He has been in touch by text because it's expensive to send texts and make phone calls. So his texts...

A.17 January 2017: He will never give you all the attention you feel you need. Give him up and find yourself someone who can.
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Q. I need your help. I need to know whether I should end a 3.5 year relationship. My boyfriend is traveling outside the country with family. He has been in touch by text because it's expensive to send texts and make phone calls. So his texts...

A.16 January 2017: If you are indeed the poster that Cindy thinks you are then you already know we think you need to end this relationship. You of course will never do that because of your issues which you refuse to address. Venting is good but therapy is better. Keep ... (read in full...)

Q. Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...

A.15 January 2017: oh and that includes all PAST child support all 8 years minus 7 months... (read in full...)

Q. Hello everyone. I'm a single mum to my beautiful 8 year old daughter and I have struggled in the past but I have always got by. I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with her, and at the insistence of her dad, I went through with the pregnanc...

A.15 January 2017: Talk to a lawyer. Set up child support payments and when he is totally caught up with them then you can address visitation rights. I'm betting he will do another disappearing act and that will save your daughter any further disappointments from her ... (read in full...)

Q. Hello, I am slightly put off and rather upset at the moment. I live in a small town with my boyfriend of almost six years, and he... Well he is always dragging me over to his ex's place, making me spend the night, doing all her "to do" lists, and ...

A.15 January 2017: Let me get this straight, you are "slightly put off and rather upset at the moment"? Honey you have have been hoodwinked for 6 years. You can stay and let it go on for another 6 years I mean since it only slightly angers you OR you can sort out the ... (read in full...)

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