Dear June: Two years ago, I finally met the greatest...

JUNE HALL I HEAR YA

June 9, 2001|JUNE HALL I HEAR YA

Dear June: Two years ago, I finally met the greatest guy. My mom even likes him, and we have a great relationship. He's a decent student and does well in sports. He got an athletic scholarship out of state and will be going away to college this fall. It's tearing me up because I hate to see him leave, although it's such a good opportunity. I'm going to college locally. We can't afford to send me away, but he wants me to go with him. He thinks he could work it out for us. My mom thinks that it's too much for me to follow him and that I should continue with my plans to go to college locally. But I love him and I am so afraid that I will lose him when we go our separate ways. Please tell me what you think I should do. Back and Forth in Pompano Beach

Dear Back/Forth: Isn't love grand? Well, it can be, but sometimes we have to wait and determine how grand our love really is. The point I'm trying to make is this. It's great that you have found someone wonderful. Now it's time to wait and see if your young love will grow into a more mature love. Following him out of state will not make your love stand. There is no guarantee that he still will not yield to temptations. You each need an opportunity to develop into your true selves. There are many experiences that come with going to college and going into adulthood. Give him, as well as yourself, an opportunity to deal with these experiences. Once you see what other people and opportunities are out there, you will have the chance to determine what it is you really want. Stay, get your education and let him follow his path. The path may lead you back to each other or it may not. If it does, great. Even if it doesn't, still great. You will have found out early with so much more of your life ahead of you to enjoy.

Dear June: Concerning your letter of 5/31 discussing infidelity, I appreciate your answer. Some individuals are so quick to say divorce or stay no matter what. It's an individual situation and choice. Nobody's circumstances are the same. She should follow her gut and not make a hasty decision. -- R.R., Boca Raton

Dear R.R.: I hear ya!

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