We went out for dinner tonight, as it’s the only day off I get this week. We went to my favorite restraunt, talked and spent time with eachother. It was nice because I’ve been working so much lately and we haven’t seen eachother too much. We drove up to Sierra National Forest (we live very close) and had a desert picnic under the stars. My butt was getting wet so I moved up to a bench from the banket that I was on and he sat up (on his knees) and said he wanted to give me my present

He went into this speech about how we always want our loved ones close to us and he knows how much we mean to eachother. He wants us to always be together, even though sometimes we are apart. He pulled out the very ring like box and opened it and…it was a locket with his picture and our son’s picture

I started to cry. I couldn’t help it. I know he ment well but the whole thing felt like a cruel joke. He kept appologizing, saying he didn’t realize how it all looked & sounded, but it was too late.

Now I’m affraid I’ll get a proposal becasue he feels bad 🙁 He says he’s gonna tuesday off (My next day off) and “make it up to me”

Oh dear, I am so sorry. But let him make it up to you, even if it is a proposal after the fact. He obviously cares about you, so if he proposes, it’s because he wants to, not because he was “pressured”. Maybe your reaction was the real wake-up call for him. Let’s hope:)

I hope noone jumps on the “why can’t you just be grateful” bandwagon because that so itsn’t what this is about. You’re allowed to feel disappointed, especially with a build up like you had finding the box etc.

Ugh.

But I agree with 2TC, let him make it up to you, proposal or not, and you can put this behind you with no grudges…

But I agree with 2TC, let him make it up to you, proposal or not, and you can put this behind you with no grudges…

This!

He probably had no clue that it looked like a proposal. Men are so clueless sometimes haha. Dont stress over it. If he spent that much time on a birthday imagine how awesome your proposal will probably be!!!! I say just have an amazing birthday and relax! You will get your day! *hugs*

I’m sorry, I can imagine how disappointing that must be! Men are clueless sometimes. There should be a law that prevents an unengaged and unmarried man from buying jewelry that comes in small square boxes, unless it’s an engagement ring.

I hope you will get your proposal soon! I’m sure it will feel great, despite his little birthday faux-pas!

I was just as anxious and excited when I clicked on your link… and then my heart broke for you when I read the first line. Like PP’s said, maybe this is the wakeup call he needed. I mean everything that you told us (and when you showed us the pic) pointed towards what we thought was a proposal. You have every right to feel the way you do. Thank you for keeping us updated… And you know the Bees are here for you!

Im sooo sorry, i def agree with some of the other posters, let him make it up to you..Guys are def clueless most of the time and dont realize what us girls dream of how things should be, oh man guys need a school for this kinda stuff..

Men… it seems like other bees have had this happen to them including myself.

I remember the disappointment and sadness, as well. Hang in there, it eventually happened for me. I thought I would feel the same way with a proposal later on. But actually when he finally did propose (months and months later), once he got down on his knee nothing else mattered, I didn’t remember all of that sadness and everything that happened before. It was still truly special, so take that from someone that had a similiar experience(s). Best of luck to you.