Mars, I think your experience with condoms is really interesting. I find that when I have sex with queer identified people there is a lot more talk, though & action around safer sex (even when pregnancy is not a possibility, biologically) than with straight dudes in the days of yore.I think if everyone involved knows you are not being monogamous, it is pretty easy to say, "I have other partners I want to keep safe, too, so I'm religious about using barriers for (whatever activities you prefer to use barriers for)"Frankly, I love it when someone initiates this conversation before sex, because it means they want to have sex with me!

Yes it was super safe sex! He's actually a trans guy too, so in my experience that makes it even more complicated to be safe, but before we had sex he also talked about how he's really into being super safe, and it was pretty hot. Basically that meant he was in his underwear the whole time and forked me with his hands and a dildo. And! At one point he got out some black latex gloves and uses those for any time he wanted to finger my asparagus! And after every time he'd get his or my bodily fluids on himself but was switching up what we were doing he'd wash his hands. Dudes, it was so hot him being so confident and controlling about all that.

Yes it was super safe sex! He's actually a trans guy too, so in my experience that makes it even more complicated to be safe, but before we had sex he also talked about how he's really into being super safe, and it was pretty hot. Basically that meant he was in his underwear the whole time and forked me with his hands and a dildo. And! At one point he got out some black latex gloves and uses those for any time he wanted to finger my asparagus! And after every time he'd get his or my bodily fluids on himself but was switching up what we were doing he'd wash his hands. Dudes, it was so hot him being so confident and controlling about all that.

wow! Good safe sex. Sounds pretty hot too. This guy is gonna find himself all over this thread AND the crush thread.

(and you, more of being all over you!)

_________________Evolved a vascular system, so I went from bryophyte to lycophyte.

I have the flu and allergies simultaneously and have been popping boatloads of over the counter meds for both. I feel like shiitake. Is it normal for that to completely kill libido?

I hadn't seen my girlfriend in a few weeks (we were both away for the holidays) and we were fooling around today in spite of sickness because we missed eachother and I just could not get it to stay up at all :(

I have the flu and allergies simultaneously and have been popping boatloads of over the counter meds for both. I feel like shiitake. Is it normal for that to completely kill libido?

I hadn't seen my girlfriend in a few weeks (we were both away for the holidays) and we were fooling around today in spite of sickness because we missed eachother and I just could not get it to stay up at all :(

SO I had sex with Magic Crush again the night before last, so another guy getting me to the twice mark. (So far though, now the twice mark is still the most times with any one guy for quite some time)

Anyhow... It was again ridiculously awesome even though I was a gimp from my tailbone issues. Dudes... dirty talk, some spanking... ah man.

I kind of think I might have an allergy to something sexy time related, so like latex or something in lube. I get UTI's so often now since my breakup, always start the day after a sexual encounter, and in the relationship with my ex relationship it was all bare. Also, definitely never got it after the unsafe sex I've had since then. The only confusing thing is I think once or twice after safe sex since I have been a-okay. But mostly, not. So, I have to figure that one out. Thank jeebus for that D-Mannose recommendation in the UTI thread.

Maybe you could do some experimenting on lube vs latex. Do some latex rubbing around one day, maybe get a nitrile and try that another day, and try just the lube another day and see what happens. I suppose you could also do more cranberry juice too, as a preventative (after the experiments)

_________________Evolved a vascular system, so I went from bryophyte to lycophyte.

I kind of think I might have an allergy to something sexy time related, so like latex or something in lube. I get UTI's so often now since my breakup, always start the day after a sexual encounter, and in the relationship with my ex relationship it was all bare. Also, definitely never got it after the unsafe sex I've had since then. The only confusing thing is I think once or twice after safe sex since I have been a-okay. But mostly, not. So, I have to figure that one out. Thank jeebus for that D-Mannose recommendation in the UTI thread.

Back when I used condoms, I had UTIs alllll the time. I don't think I have a latex allergy, and it was worse with some batches than others, so I assumed I was sensitive to the cheapo water-based lube condoms come with. I still get some frequent discomfort even now that we don't use condoms anymore, although it's nowhere near as bad. My solution has been to pee+rinse (if I don't have time for a full shower, I use the shower head while sitting on the toilet) just after sex, systematically. It seems like a hassle, but honestly the lack of pain is worth it for me. I tried all the UTI prevention tips and this had been the only foolproof thing for me.

If I had to use condoms again, at this point I would try to use non latex ones with my fancy oil and silicon based lubes.

I had amazing sexytimes last night (extra amazing, they are usually pretty damn good)! It was the first time I used something to actually "tie" my guy's hands together... only a hair elastic and I didn't leave it on too long since I didn't know if it was tight enough to hurt him. And I was more rough with him than I'd ever been. Usually I let him take the lead or at least contribute to the progression of moves, but it was super nice to fully take control last night and I'm pretty sure he enjoyed it too!

Now I really want to get a nice piece of silky/slinky fabric to have around for blindfolding or easily knot around his (or my) hands. I have velcro things but I like the idea of being able to knot something. Plus the soft texture/gentleness in contrast with the binding that a wisp of slinky fabric provides seems way hotter.

_________________Did you notice the slight feeling of panic at the words "Chicken Basin Street"? Like someone was walking over your grave? Try not to remember. We must never remember. - mumblesIs this about devilberries and nazifruit again? - footface

I'm a little late to the game on this, but I'm pretty cool with whatever size junk my partner is working with. I've been with boys from 3-12 inches. My recent ex is not terribly well endowed, and has been, from the first time we slept together, one of my favorite sexual partners ever. A penis is one small part (so to speak) of my sexual attraction/experience with someone. I just have average junk myself, so maybe that's part of it?