Tuesday, January 26, 2016

In my years in a 12 step program, I often heard the phrase,
“Fake it till you make it?” For me, it means even if you don’t feel ready, or
confident, or hopeful, you act as if you are by doing what you would do if you
were. Faking it by acting as if is
great practice until being ready or confident or hopeful becomes real.

I’m just beginning to realize how often fake it till you make it was a lifeline for me over the last 18
months. The day I was diagnosed with uterine cancer, a boulder of fear and
projection took up residence in my chest. Many mornings, that weight was the
first thing I felt when I opened my eyes. My over-active imagination and
sense of worry didn’t help. I’d cajole myself to close my eyes again
and instead of imaging the worst, envision what I’d feel like if I felt hopeful—as
if cancer had never happened. Then I’d try to act as if. Most days, faking led
to lessening the weight and genuinely feeling more hope.

One morning a couple of weeks ago, I realized it had been a few
days since I woke up feeling bogged down by that ever present stone.

Feeling almost-serenity
instead of anxious is new and fragile—I still don’t totally trust that it’s real.
One day at a time, I’m encouraged to keep faking it until I wake up one day to
find serenity has taken up residence and evicted worry and fear.

I hope you'll share in comments what thoughts and worries weigh you down, and what it would take to fake
it and act as if.

And, what experience can you share about how fake it till you make it and acting as if has worked for you?

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Always top of my gratitude list is my husband Jim, our marriage and living in Cape May. Writing non-fiction keeps me humble, helps me make course corrections, and see everywhere the opportunities to learn. Writing fiction lets my creativity come out to play. You can follow this link Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/dp/0615741010 to check out my novels, Peace by Piece and Cape Maybe