Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

does this ungodly pain ever stop?

i have always considered myself a strong man. but since i found out about my wifes "friend" i have been running the gambit of emotions. cring one minute, enraged the next, then numb, then lost. the only thing that remains the same day to day is the pain of betrayal. im really new to this whole flood of emotions thing. can anyone tell me that the pain goes away? please

I'm on month 20 now. Yes. The pain lessens but it doesn't go away. My situation is a little different in that I believe my H is still seeing this tramp that calls herself a woman. He's just trying to be a little sneakier about it. He'll hang himself sooner or later. So, my pain is on and off and on and off and on and off. He professes his love for me. Tells me he doens't want anyone else and says he feels SO bad but then turns around and cheats some more. I'm not sure why he does that or the better question is why I tolerate it.

Anyway, the pain lessens. The emotions you are having are totally normal and they can hit you at any given moment.

The pain does go away, eventually. It takes a lot of time and tears. Its not an easy thing to overcome, and it plays over and over in your mind. If youre spiritual prayers really does help. But whatever you do don let her actions make you do something you will regret later, always be true to yourself. The one thing I realized was that people who cheat are not really happy with themselves and there actions have nothing to do with you. Learn to be happy with yourself and take it one day at a time. Life is to short to be unhappy.

It does eventually, but it will never go completely away. It's been 6 mo. for me and there are still times when it feels like i have just been hit over the head with it all. You learn how to go on and function again, but don't feel like you don't have a right to feel the way you do. You just found out something that is a complete shock and it's alright to feel out of control for a while.

It lessens with time and less and less things bring on new waves of greif but it is a hard row to hoe. I haven't died yet so I can not tell you if it ever completyey goes away.
stay strong keep busy take care of yourself. You will at least overcome enough to start living and being happy again. Once the pain lessens she will no longer have power over you,

I don't know if I have any advice that would help, considering I'm in the same type of situation as you. It hasn't even been two weeks since I found out.

I have not been a highly religious man, but my faith was strong at one point. I pray pretty much constantly now. I pray my heart and my wife's heart to be healed. I pray for the anger, fear, jealousy, and sense of betrayal to leave me.

When an image pops into my head, you know the kind I mean, I try to take control of it. I tell myself to stop thinking about it, and I think of some nice time my wife and I spent together. I have to be positive about her right now.

thank you all for your replies so far. i havnt been this confused and lost since i returned from the gulf war (the 1st one).

when i met my wife i knew right then that i would spend the rest of my life with her. i could picture us together as an old retired couple riding on my motorcyle all over the country. since then we have had our ups and downs but now i seem to have lost that picture of the future. for that matter ive lost any picture of the future. ive never hurt like this before.

Good question. It's a damn nightmare. It's a rollercoaster. I've known for only four weeks. One day I think I'm gonna be okay and the next a song or a simple comment sends me into a tail-spin of emotions. Journaling here has helped me feel like I'm not crazy - just in a really bad situation. This too shall pass - I hope:) Good luck.

It has been 2 years for me and I am going to say no, i HURT extremely every day. But I bet that depends on your spouce. Mine is a loser that could care less about me. He is detached and I think he just doesnt want to deal with a divorce now.

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

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