The Poly Closet

Everyone I'd been involved with deeply wanted monogamy, and they seemed to be part of an overwhelming majority. I didn't want to not be able to give that to them, but eventually I reached a point where I had to put my foot down, throw my hands up and say — I don't want to be monogamous. Never have. Ever. Ever. Just admitting that was step one, and step two meant that I had to get vocal about it from the jump, so that I wouldn't end up dating monogamous people and mislead us both about what was possible.