How to Recognize When You Are Getting in Your Own Way

We all get in our own way from time to time and the first step to solving this problem is to recognize when it is happening.

Let’s talk about four ways you can identify patterns of self-sabotage to learn how to reset those patterns. Once you know where you are getting in your own way, you can rewire your brain for success and step into ownership of being the powerful, recognized leader that you are meant to be.

1. You recognize that you’ve left something on the table. You aren’t filled with the satisfaction of a job well done because deep down, you know you could have done better. Or perhaps you are unsatisfied because you feel you are destined for something greater.

2. You have competing beliefs. You may have a belief that drives you forward, while at the same time having one that holds you back. For instance, you may believe that you are capable of great success and can make a lot of money but at the same time, you are holding onto an old hidden belief that money is the root of all evil. Or perhaps you believe that people with a lot of money are less enlightened, or greedy, or you have some other negative association with having a lot of money. Your drive for success is at constant odds with your unconscious belief that having a lot of money or success makes you a less worthy person. Perhaps you believe that if you are successful, you will have no time to spend with your family or won’t have any time for things you enjoy, so you hold yourself back.

3. You see others who are less qualified than you and have more success than you. This is a clear indication that you are getting in your own way. The difference may simply be that their path is clear from the barriers created their beliefs. They not only believe themselves capable but they don’t have any subconscious reason to not be successful. Perhaps there’s work here to capture your focus.

4. You’re prone to procrastination. This often happens when you know that action is needed to move yourself forward, but you just can’t seem to make it happen. This particularly gnarly form of self-sabotage haunts many of us and is a clear indication that you are getting in your own way.

I invite you to begin thinking about the hidden beliefs that are holding you back. Your subconscious brain will sabotage your efforts to grow to protect yourself from change. Ask yourself what your beliefs are surrounding money and success or any other areas where you think an old message may be lingering and sending confusion to your subconscious brain. Learn to discern if these beliefs serve you. Figuring out how your hidden beliefs impact you is the first step toward addressing them.