Friday, 16 October 2009

Some people have the gift of gab. They can talk about anything and everything. Give them any situation or kind of audience, they can talk their way into people’s hearts and make an impact. These people get noticed very easily and are usually the life of a party. You might have often tried to speak up just like those natural orators, only to chicken out even before trying. Being talkative is definitely something that will catapult you into the limelight and get you noticed in every walk of life. Talking is something that comes naturally, but there are definite ways to get rid off your shyness and become talkative. Check out these tips given below that will surely help you achieve what you aim for.

Tips to Become More Talkative

This first and foremost point that has been emphasized time and again is about confidence. You need to think high of yourself and believe in yourself. You need to think you are no less than anybody else in any respect and that will increase your confidence level.

Put a smile on your face every morning and start the day. There are many who will feel happy with your presence around and will come to talk to you automatically. Happiness attracts people and is a sure shot way of meeting new people and making friends.

Talk about anything and everything that you know. You don’t have to be Einstein to strike up an intellectual conversation. Rather, you could share opinions on a particular subject, discuss the latest news or just talk about a funny incident that might have happened in the morning. The more you share, the more trust and familiarity it breeds.

They don’t say ‘laughter is the best medicine’ without a reason! Laugh and smile often and you will yourself be surprised to see the reciprocation you get. Every moment you laugh will give you something to talk about the next day.

Try saying a casual ‘hello’ to everyone at work or college. You might start a casual conversation with someone with just a hello or a good morning. It will make you more comfortable with the idea of opening up and talking more to people.

Thursday, 15 October 2009

We admire those who know how to talk to people, or have the innate ability to easily engage in a conversation even in an unfamiliar gathering. Others believe that some are born with the natural ability to talk to people or they have what they call the gift of the gab. However, the ability to talk or convey ideas whether in a small group or up on stage before a large audience is not an innate ability but an acquired skill. It can be learned, enhanced, and perfected. All you need are the right information and the determination to do it.

Were you disappointed before because you were not born with the gift? Then worry no more and start to learn the skill. To begin with, here are some helpful tips on how to talk to people.

1. Be presentable. You do not need to get the best couturier in town to have you packaged. All you have to do is to be dressed appropriately. It is one way of building your self-confidence and it will help you to act confidently.

2. Keep a pocket full of information. Be up to date with the current events, and keep a mental list of good topics of discussion. These are handy tools to keep you ready to talk to almost anybody.

3. Get yourself centered and focused. This is a basic if we want to establish connection with the person or people we are talking to. Develop the ability to shake off recent events that somehow ruined your day. Take a few minutes if you need to before engaging in any conversation.

4. Be respectful. Respect the feelings, emotions and opinions of others. Everyone has the right to their opinion and it is healthy to agree that we disagree. Let every one have their moment to be heard and sincerely listen to them. That way it would give them a sense of importance.

5. Maintain eye contact. It is one way of showing interest in the person we are talking to. Women, they say, maintain eye contact more than men but men could acquire the skill through practice. Movements or stray thoughts tend to sidetrack a person. Be aware of them and learn to ignore them.

6. Listen. Listening is a serious business. It is easy to talk and talk but we defeat the purpose and lose the chance of establishing rapport. There are

situations that are more important where active listening is imperative. You will not miss the cue for your turn if you listen attentively.

7. Establish rapport. It is not an easy thing but sincerity is the key that unlocks the door in establishing rapport. Synchronizing behavior or mimicking the pose, facial expression, gestures, body language, and tone of voice of the other person are ways of building rapport.

8. Adopt a positive attitude. Make sure your words, tone and gestures are all saying the same thing. Find out what you have in common, or if you seem to have nothing in common, adjust. Try to become the other person for a short time.

9. Always ask an open ended question. This will help the continuous flow of conversation and will help you and the group to keep the encounter alive and flowing with information.

Discovering how to connect with others and employing these strategies will make one successful in talking to people. Talk means to express, exchange ideas by means of spoken words or to convey information or communicate in any way. Take these simple steps and you are sure to make the act of talking to people fascinating and memorable for all. One day someone may come up to you and ask where you learned how to talk to people.

Monday, 12 October 2009

Now hear this: No one can read your mind and they shouldn't have to. Open your mouth and say something if you are interested. Be honest and open because what do you have to lose? You may have just met this person and, if you don't communicate clearly, you'll lose even more.

2. Stop, turn and listen

Stop listening for what you want to hear and pay attention to what the other person is saying. It can save a lot of heartache and drama. And when you hear something reaffirming, provide confirmation so that your date knows you are listening and not off thinking of something else.

3. Actions speak louder than words

Show you care and do little things that show it! From calling to ask how the day was ... sending a sweet note, it's the thought that counts.

4. It's not what you say, but how you say it

She/he's only hearing 10 percent of what you are saying, but it's your body language that is saying it all. Show you care with a big smile and open arms.

5. There's no such thing as a poker face

Relationships are built upon trust and honesty. It's the bedrock that keeps things stable, whereas lies breed deception and resentment -- guilt too. And people can see it on your face regardless what card you deal.

Saturday, 10 October 2009

Positive thinking can yield powerful results to our lives. We are what we think, and negative thoughts can actually cripple our lives. In order to lead a satisfying life we need to think positive. All our feelings, beliefs, knowledge are based on our internal thoughts. We are in control of our conscious and subconscious mind, all the time despite our knowledge about it. We have the right to choose to be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive.

Here are some suggestions to help your thoughts to be positive

1. Make a positive commitment to yourself.

2. Make sure you keep your mind focused on important things. Develop a strategy when you are dealing with issues and obstacles.

7. Learn to embrace life’s challenges; this will increase your stamina to withstand crisis and stress.

8. During hard times try your best to focus on the positive side [at least the neutral] for an instance when after a break up just think of it as a signal for a new beginning for you or when you are temporarily unemployed you could take it as an opportunity for you to find a more satisfying job.

9. Good feelings can banish negative emotions. So don’t forget to not only feel good but also think about good things.

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln.

Monday, 6 July 2009

Of course, we’re taught this as children, but somewhere along the path to “grown-up-hood” we realize that it’s okay to engage the person in line behind us in Taco Bell in a conversation.

Soon there’s no stopping us. We talk in elevators, at the grocery store, in doctors’ waiting rooms.

But these conversations are very risky, because it’s just way too easy to get an idea from an impromptu conversation, and that’s the best way to be creative, getting an idea is.

Secondly, if you want to be as uncreative as possible, make sure you don’t go to new places.

The best new places not to go are art museums, galleries, and any place selling art supplies or books. If you go to any of these places, it’s a pretty foregone conclusion that Something Will Happen. That Something will probably be creative, and No Good Can Come of That.

But also avoid like the plague new places such as parties or meetings of new groups. These can be Idea Nesting Grounds, and we know what happens in places like that.

Third, never ask what if.

What if is the ultimate creative question. Just don't ask. Now, you may think I’m talking only about going into a meeting of creative people and saying, “What if we…”

Nope. I’m saying, don’t ask what if, ever. Don’t ask your mechanic, “What if we recharged the air conditioner? Would that keep the car cooler?” Don’t ask your waitress, “What if I substituted a baked potato for the fries?”

Don’t ask what if, ever, because if you do, you might ask it again, in less favorable (that is, boring) circumstances, and what would happen then? What could happen then?

Fourth, never think about the alternative.

This is basically asking what if, and we've already decided not to do that.

Let’s look at an example of this. You’re working in a job you hate, doing something with numbers, say. You think, “What’s the alternative?” Well, if you’re lucky, you’ll soon think, “None. I have to stay in this job. There is no alternative.” But if you’re unlucky, then things start getting sticky.

You might, for example, start looking at the want ads. And there you might find an ad for a different job, one not involving numbers, but actually involving something you like to do and are good at. Graphic design, maybe. And that’s just getting too creative.

So don’t think about the alternative. Better yet, just don't think at all; it's safer.

Finally, never ask "what do you think?"

...unless the person you're asking is definitely going to give you a negative, uncreative answer. Just assume they think what you think.

The problem with asking, “What do you think?” is that most people assume you really want to know, and they WILL tell you. This is a Bad Thing if you’re trying to avoid creativity, because if what they think is something completely different from what you think, you could well end up with a Creative Idea, and we’ve already talked about that.

There you go. Five great tips for how not to be creative.

The thing, of course, is that very few people have trouble with NOT being creative. What you were probably looking for when you started this article was advice on getting creative ideas.

There you go. Five great ways to get creative ideas.

Just turn them around and do everything I just told you not to do. Be creative. Take a risk.

Everyone has a creative side, whether they can paint great masterpieces, write classic novels, make effective decisions or solve problems. In some people the creative side is supressed, but in others it is closer to the surface.

Whatever you want to have more creativity for, you can develop your creativity through hypnosis and reaching inside yourself for your hidden talents.

The following eleven steps will help you to develop your creativity.

* Do crosswords and other puzzles that exercise your brain. The more these require you to access your creative side, the more you will develop that side of your brain.

* Create lists - you can increase your creativity and get that side of your brain working by making a list whenever you have a problem which needs some creative thinking. Write down as many ideas as you can to solve the problem and let your creativity flow. Don't question them as they come to you, just write them all done.

* Work as part of a team. Working and brainstorming in a group allows you to express your creativity, but to also learn from the other people in the group by seeing how they are creative.

* Make changes in your life so you can get past your creative blocks. Your personal or career life may not allow you to be creative, so make changes so you can express that side of yourself.

* When you try to be creative, you may find you are not coming up with amazing ideas immediately. Keep practising and develop these ideas and you will start to create great ideas.

* Instead of telling yourself you can't do it and you can't be creative, start telling yourself that you can. This will program yourself for creativity.

* When faced with a situation where you have to be creative, remember times from the past when you were creative - this will help get you into the right frame of mind.

* If your creativity is blocked then just take some time out and doodle - just let your mind go and you may be surprised just what you come up with.

* Hire a life coach or see a hypnotist to help enhance your creativity. An outside point of view can often help you get past the blocks that have been preventing you from being creative.

* Often the adult side of your brain inhibits your creativity. You worry about what other people will think and whether you are right or wrong. Unleash your inner child which has none of these inhibitions and will allow you to access your creativity.

* If you are stressed or tense then you may find your creativity doesn't flow very well. If you relax and let yourself stress go then you will find your creativity flows better. Take some deep breaths or do something else so your creativity can be allowed to flow.

Having more creativity can help you in your professional life and help you get ahead in your career. It can help you improve your personal life by finding creative solutions to your problems. These eleven steps will help you to be more creative.

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle by positive thinking will help you to neutralize negative thoughts, develop positive affirmations, build self-image and confidence in yourself and achieve success in life. There are situations sometimes which may find that your career is not going in the proper direction and your income is not according to your expectations.

This situation is worse, if you find that your career even after trying many is not generating desired results. In such hard times habit of positive thinking can help you to fill your mind with good and productive thoughts which will give you peace of mind. Then why not to use God's precious gift to create true happiness in life?

You must have observed that when you wish to do something creative in your life, and if you think that 'I can't do this', it is sure that you will not! But when you say that ' I can do this', automatically, your job becomes easy and also gets over soon. This is called positive attitude. 'I Can do this' is the secret.

Most of us talk to ourselves and 90% of it is negative. We do this in our bad times just due to fear or frustration. It is possible to overcome such situations by way of positive thinking.

There are 10 ways to do positive thinking:

1. Discover the amazing power of Positive thinking. 2. Develop the habit of thinking positive only. 3. Find out why particular thing is not working. 4. Never lose confidence. 5. Efforts and hard work changes worst situations.. Think it will work for you too. 6. Maintain friendly relations with others. 7. Request someone to help you in times of crisis. 8. Find ways to change adverse situations. Never give up. 9. Practice techniques of 'Meditation' to get control over your body and soul. 10. Think that your best time is yet to come and it will.