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So i was single for years... Moved to Vegas and been having the time of my life! Ride everyday, workout, drink, hang with buddies, travel and generally live an awesime life. Been with quite a few woman here in Vegas and never wanted or looked for a relationship. But then i met this rad woman who was extremely gorgous, fun, and generally blew me away. We dated for a couple months because i was wary of vegas woman. Well she liked me and we decided to be official. Well everything is fine for awhile. Thing is she had a kid, recently divorced and had two beautiful roomates who are now single who love going out all week. I never had any issues with her going out with her friends and dancing in clubs and so on. Well at on of the local bars they do a bikini contest for money. Well her roomates convinced her to do it with them. She placed third and i was stoked for her. Thing is, this bikini contest became a weekly thing. The first couple times i didbt mind, but after awhile it started to bother me. Why does she need the attention like that and doing it for money. So i tried to tell her i didnt mind the contest but doing it every week for money was stripperish. Well she broke up with me after that conversation. Now i cant go to my fav bars because i dont want to run into her. I really liked her and now its been two weeks and i still cant get over it. I ride, wrench, workout, hang with buddies, other woman, but i cant get her off my mind. This is horrible...

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Sounds like she went through a life change and was probably looking for an excuse to be single. It happens, don't let it ruin your life. Doesn't sound like it was a terribly long relationship, dodge the bars for a while and you will get over her. Sounds stripperish to me too, btw, you're probably better off.

what is it youre worried about if you see her? having to talk to her? her ignoring you? seeing her with another guy? i think we've all been there but remember if its not her there will be another whether its soon or 10 years from now. maybe think about if thats really what bothered her or if thats just an excuse. to me it sounds like it ended too easy but then again i dont know either of you

one other thing ive found that helps is helping other people.. forcing yourself to think about another person in need..could be anything from donating time to a senior home focusing on a friend or family member that needs help. doesnt need to be just that stuff but i think you get what im saying. i know your in the military. maybe helping vets somehow or their families?

You need to live your life and not worry if you run into her. I would never let anyone steel my joy or life. She may need the attention because of the things that happened before you met and one day she will either get over it or not. It is easy money and she may need it. Who knows, you probably figured out using the word stripperish to a girlfriend is not a good idea. There are lots of great women out there and one will be right for you. This is not meant to be and be glad that you did not have more invested in it.

Let her go. Obviously she isn't ready for an adult relationship. If she flips out because you tell her how you feel.......????? She wasn't the one for you. Chalk it up to experience.
And Ralph is right....... stripperish IS a poor choice of words..........chalk that up to experience too