I am forty years old, five feet tall and 250 lbs. I have two fail marriages and two children. I spoke to my husband's mistress today and she is convinced that my husband is only with me for his own benefits. I just moved to Georgia 8 months ago. I just started a new job a month and a half ago. My husband was supposed to move with the family but he came down for a couple weeks and went to Florida and left me with his three children and my two. I drove the children to their mothers. Now he has no reason to come back to our marriage.

In an effort to show his mistress how committed he is, he place me on three way phone conversation asking for a divorce. Do I want a divorce? Is it my choice? The fact is my husband sleeping with someone else and there is nothing I can do about it. I feel paralyzed. I love my husband, but lost respect for him. He told his mistress that he is leaving me because I am too fat and diabetic. I want to loss weight to satisfy my many failures. I just got baptized this past Sunday.

Wanelda, Hello and I am sorry for this terrible thing he is putting you through and humiliating you over the phone with his mistress, unthinkable! You deserve better than this, you deserve to be loved and to love someone at the same time. The relationship should be about the two of you and no one else. That does not seem to be the case here. How is he benefitting right now due to your relationship with him? Can you cut him off? I can't imagine how you are doing and handling this situation. Please take care of yourself and don't give him not one more minute. I will talk with you later, you have support here.....bye for now.....G