Sucky Sister In Law

Dear Sugar
Help, I hate my future sister in law. We used to be friendly but nowadays, we just don't see eye to eye. It's a vicious cycle - she makes a comment so I make one back. Her wedding is next month and mine is 5 months later - One upping each other is at an all time high. Our future husbands are brothers and are very close. When I talk to my fiance about my feelings for her, all he can say is "find a way to work it out, you are going to be family." Should I have a sit down with her or just keep pretending that nothing is wrong in hopes this will all pass? Up In Arms Angry

Dear Up In Arms Angry
It's a fine line between taking the high road (letting things go) and feeling like a pushover. In my opinion, you've got to take the high road. If you want to talk to her you can, but it's going to turn into a debate and considering you have 1 month until her wedding - do you really want to open those floodgates? My suggestion is to kill her with kindness. The one upping isn't getting you anywhere. She's getting married first. Make her feel like the special bride she is. This way she has nothing to complain about and your fiance will feel indulged. Maybe it's wedding stress. I would wait it out until after the wedding to see if she chills out. If not - talk to her about how you can have a contented relationship moving forward.