I have learned from fellow humans that it doesn’t always matter what someone thinks of you. I have learned in the perspective of challenges we have always faced in our evolution as a species that despite gender, cultural, society, or moral differences that in fact perhaps we do not always need to worry too much about what some people think. Perhaps some of it is just chatter. We must learn to listen intelligently in order to survive, but I understand that we are entitled to our own reactions.

Whilst researching a neuroscience journal this week I was able to glean from the research that some creatures may not all have it in them to be perceptive, gentle and empathetic. There are people and animals whose areas of the brain simply do not and cannot think compassionately, perhaps not forever, but they do pose a particular challenge. They can in fact even betray their own family or species if they do not have as much empathy for each other. As much as I thought it would be wise to teach others what it would be like to learn other people’s motives, if a person didn’t really care, they would never be able to learn to care. This also meant they would never truly be telepathic or empathic. This is good news for us out there that don’t want judgmental people snooping in our emotional vulnerabilities.

This emerged this week to me as a sad biological fact. The only problem was that the study was on captive subjects (primates) and they had too many abnormal stressors for this to be a true reflection of their capabilities. Nonetheless, as we are in a stressful environment too, the same may be true for now.

This also meant some people could be perceptive , but not empathic or understanding – and not able to use their abilities for their own advantage. In other words they could know some things, and not use it well. ‘Healthy advantage’ in these studies meant the survival of their own species – a monkey without this forethought or active area in their brain were unable to help their family survive, and without the benevolence of their more empathic family or species members, would not have survived the wild. What I mean by this is that some people will not return the thought, love, or intentions – they cannot feel it. Perhaps they feel a version of what they see as compassion. Nor do they worry about their actions on you or how it could even affect them. They lack forethought or intelligent planning. The area in their brain ( the Occipital frontal lobe ) was not functioning, and as this area was the area of reason, if broken, could not survive nor plan for their own survival.

The person’s own bias obscures their ability to judge you realistically or fairly, so in a world where our bias is being adjusted through a myriad of lenses. Does it really matter what everyone thinks of you? Is it possibly to please all the bosses, colleagues companies, countries, religions and personalities? Now in a global economy I would say that logically we have to try – and we need to try to respect their inability to understand us.

This means that you can safely move on from judgement and rhetoric if you have fairly assessed your situation through guidance, therapy and over time – and you will learn to allow people into your lives that will adjust to your worldview. I would wish during all these difficult times for a place for all of us to have our own little worlds, whilst respecting the ill-wishes and displeasure of others. This is a place people have had to carve for themselves over history, and this is the humanity in us that wisely understands the need for all of us to express our displeasure. It is also the humanity in us that makes us want to talk despite differences, and this must be respected too.

Once you have discovered how a person feels about you, you can safely assume if it is illogical, alien or foreign to your thinking; it may be an erroneous viewpoint. The problem I have with this manner of identifying motives is that it takes a very long time. For me it has taken four years of intense introspection. What did I do? Well – What I have done is reorganize my friendships, find new ones, closed and opened email and blog accounts, closed and restarted my business, relocated, attended counseling, gone to the gym, changed my diet, attempted to make peace with my family, sought out the forgiveness of the people I wronged, seeked and listened to supportive and even critical voices , educated myself on world affairs, delegated with people I found difficult despite my displeasure. After all this serious effort I found the same answer. I still love people, but cannot get on with all of them. If my abilities helped in affirming this truth, patched together with careful, realistic, real-world, detective work, research and affirmative actions, by following certain steps, having attempted to follow the book, the book of man, the book of God, and having attempted to followed my human family – I have come to the conclusion that I am a good enough person, and that indeed some of society was not correct about me.

The problem we all next come to is how to live with this adjusted worldview. Let’s say they are wrong – what can I do to not worry about their misjudgements? With the above realization, through patience and time, I was able to note that their own paths will take as long as mine, and I have seen improvement even over a shorter time-frame with people I would never have expected improvement from.

Most people would not agree that this world is a better place right now, and I would have to maintain the idea that it is traumatizing and difficult. Yet, I have to say, I have never seen more offerings of love, understanding and international cooperation. These gestures have never been witnessed in history on this scale as now. I don’t see the accidents and failures; what frustrates me is us not being able to see our successes despite the mistakes that were made.

I have come to the conclusion: it matters not how good people are – as many of us are – but instead what we can do about the way we feel about ourselves, and what our future will be from this point on. There will always be humans I will agreeably not understand, even whilst I really do feel them and for them. Morally I will never agree with them, and I have used my own grey matter and emotional therapy work to attain this place of peace. It took a long time, and I would not have been able to complete it without the help of other humans, and I genuinely laud and thank them for teaching me too.

About The Author: Carmen’s waking dreams have provided accurate glimpses into the future for celebrities as well as political and international figures. Her non-judgmental, Empathic approach, as well as her unique method of Tarot reading, affords her the reputation as a groundbreaker in her field. This European born Canadian is the first online psychic to promote the idea of Empathy and emotional thought transference, and she has written a great deal on the subject. For a comprehensive Intuitive reading that will transform your life, you can find Carmen at PsychicAccess.com.