I think that's also the best approach when it comes to finding a job, or finding a band if you're a musician. Cast a big net and if you're a good fit, don't worry, you'll get noticed and some people will want to work with you. If you don't get noticed, well I'm afraid you're not as valuable as you think you are.

I wouldn't trust what they say, only what they do. I almost always went in for the kiss on the first date, and many times the girl told me "I never kiss on the first date". Well, you just did. That statement became so cliche with the years. Then there was the variant "I never have sex on the first date" while wiping my cum off their belly.

It's about playing around with her, you playfully test whether you can move forward or not, it's always quite fun.

We all have different sub-personalities depending on the situation and environment we're in. The hungry 'us', the horny 'us', the insecure 'us', the angry 'us' etc. When those girls are telling you about what they like and don't like about men, you're not actually talking to the person the men who banged them were talking to. Are you following me?

I used to make sex tapes with my ex, and sometimes I'd refer to what she had said during sex, and she'd be a 100% sure that she'd never say something like that, I had to be making it up, of course when I showed it to her, she was baffled. A girl being Chad's rag doll is not the same girl telling her beta friend that she just wants a guy who treats her nice.

In the same manner that we all like to believe that we're good people who'd never hurt anybody. It's BS of course, just wait to be in the situation that will push you over the edge, and we all get there more often than we like to think. Girls like to think that they're good girls who'd never be on their knees getting slapped by Chad's dongle, and sometimes they're still thinking that despite the fact that they already did it several times.

Anyway, watch what women do, well, if you can. I wouldn't trust anything they say. Keep pushing gently and see where you get, if she doesn't object, you're good to continue. It's simple, there aren't that many rules when it comes to mating, usually if you get the make-out, you can go all the way, at least that's my experience, unless she meets a guy she deems better than you between the dates.

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No way... are you really saying that women are dishonest & have no principles? Next you'll be saying water is wet!!

No way... are you really saying that women are dishonest & have no principles? Next you'll be saying water is wet!!

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It has more to do with human nature. Women, just like men, want to be this person they project in their daily lives. For men it would be qualities like being strong, witty, admired, a ladies' man, etc.

Men will try to hide who they really are as much as women. Inexperienced men will still pretend to their friends that they have all those options and that they're having sex with all those bitches.

For a girl, it's the other way around, it can be hard for them not to give it up to every Chad who gives the time of the day. They're not completely in control of themselves when it happens.

So yeah, they will be dishonest, they'll lie about how many men they've slept with or about their so-called principles, sometimes just to preserve their sanity.

Honestly you sound very intense and obsessive, that may be undermining you in real-life encounters, it gives off vibes of desperation, or possibly worse. I hope that you are not that way in real life. Please relax.

It is also the case that there is no single universal one-size-fits-all instructional manual for "women". I spoke to a few women friends when I was recently in Australia, during my self-imposed ban. One of them told me that she would feel uncomfortable if the man kissed her on the first date. The other told me that she doesn't date, she starts with fucking and if the fucks are any good she might date them. Are either of them lying? No, it's different women with different life experiences and temperaments. Social intelligence includes the ability to discern what kind of woman you're dealing with, distinguishing that from interest level, or alternatively, curating your encounters so that you only deal with people of a similar philosophy.

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@Afro_Vacancy, I said this before to you and it still stands. Once you meet a women who appreciates your intelligence and your many talents and interests( cooking, traveling, and certain TV shows and movies), you will finally know it. I can tell you from experience it's not so easy. I was discussing this with Johnson too. You have to meet someone on your level otherwise you will be bored. The two women you mentioned earlier in this thread represent what certain people will go for. One person will just screw on the first date and it's all about looks. The other will get to know the person before they make any physical contact. Of course, looks will always be a factor but some people will compromise a little on looks if the person has a dynamic personality. You have to compromise some. If you don't, you will end up single like me at an old age. I was way too picky with looks and it really made dating very difficult. And if I did find someone who was very attractive, I always found their personality to be too demanding or needy and it turned me off. I think alot of this stemmed from my BDD and low self esteem.

That's a good enough reason to tarnish the four million other women from Québec.

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I’m just speaking from personal experience, I don’t have a grudge on my ex or anything at all. But the French woman h re are usually the ones doing the grimiest shit, and living the grimiest lifestyle... majority of the pure quebec woman are on government assistance over here lol.

I find this sad DH but you're never alone you got us all here! I'm sure many women in their 40s and beyond would love to be with a man like you who takes care of himself so well. If you decide to put yourself out there, you'll have no shortage of takers. Get from life what you want in this present moment, there's nothing wrong with being single or not as long as you're happy.

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Thanks but don't feel sad. I am fine with it. I am blessed with a secure financial career and interact with people on a regular basis. I am hoping someday I meet someone as beautiful, supportive and caring as @Joan.

Thanks but don't feel sad. I am fine with it. I am blessed with a secure financial career and interact with people on a regular basis. I am hoping someday I meet someone as beautiful, supportive and caring as @Joan.

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Beautiful on the inside only, but thank you. I can't imagine what it's like to be single in today's world, and so I can't give any advice. All I can say is, with the right person, being supportive and caring just comes naturally. And as I've said, I struck gold with my husband and am very, very lucky. I'm hoping you strike gold someday too. You're always trying to be the best version of yourself, both on the inside and outside, and I think a woman will admire that (I would). Just maybe another older woman will join H.L.T. someday and you'll meet your perfect match--what better place!