How To Handle Destructive Criticism And Be A Confident Woman

We are usually surrounded by destructive criticism, and this can bring us down. To be really successful in life, it is necessary to be able to deal with this.

Humans fear criticism more than cancer.

The dictionary defines criticism as a form of expressing disapproval regarding something living or non-living. People criticize others or get criticized regarding their work, lifestyle, habits and many other things. The ability of a person to handle criticism is a big determinant of their future.

Criticism can be classified in two ways:

Constructive criticism: Opinions expressed with the right intention and presented in the right manner that encourage a person to aim for self-improvement.

While constructive criticism (which helps us grow) is usually offered by the select few closest to us or those who are enlightened, it is destructive criticism that we usually encounter that prevents us from moving forward in our lives. As women, in fact, we are most subjected to destructive criticism, the extreme cases of which can be mansplaining, gaslighting, and gossip.

It is important, therefore, to be able to handle this destructive criticism in our lives. The art of soldiering on despite destructive criticism is a key component to success in life. This art can be mastered by learning how to confidently handle criticism.

How do we do this?

Increasing mental strength

Good mental strength is a huge confidence building tool which enables easy handling of destructive criticism. The best way to improve your confidence and mental strength is by increasing your knowledge and improving your already-existing skills. This can be relevant both at the workplace and in the home.

Newly acquired knowledge and skills will provide you with the necessary weapons to tackle any kind of situation with confidence. Knowledge helps to counter and disable the negative critical comments provided by the opposing individual. Such difficult situations can be turned into conquests when dealt with the requisite knowledge and skills. Every conquest increases your mental strength and confidence by leaps and bounds.

Improving body language

Body language is a key indicator of your confidence quotient to people you meet. The body language of a person indicates whether they are oozing with confidence or down in the dumps. The future of any kind of meeting or deal negotiation is dependent on the kind of body language exhibited by all parties involved.

Some of the most common indicators of confident body language are:

Uninterrupted eye contact especially while speaking

Correct posture

Confident tone while speaking

Firm handshake

Appropriate attire

Avoiding nervous gestures like clutching your palms or fidgeting

Avoid unnecessary pauses

Incapacitating intimidators

Destructive criticism is generously dispensed by people with the intention to intimidate or scare others. Such people use intimidation as a cover for their own underlying insecurities. Many people mistake this intimidating attitude for confidence and cower down or get discouraged.

The best way to incapacitate such intimidators is by appearing unaffected by their comments. Continue maintaining uninterrupted eye contact with them despite the derogatory comments they have made. Avoid replying immediately and take a deep breath as this will buy some time in which you can collect your thoughts and correctly process what you have just heard. Your silence is the best way to incapacitate them as they expect you to have some kind of knee-jerk reaction like getting upset or even crying and stomping out of the room.

Once you have regained your composure and mentally formulated your reply, start speaking slowly in measured tones and this will disarm the intimidator as he will be caught completely unawares. A diametrically opposite reaction to the one they expected is enough for them to concede defeat. It is quite likely that they will think twice before trying to intimidate you once again.

A whole new world can be conquered by simply incapacitating these destructively criticizing intimidators who are the biggest hindrances in your confidence-building journey. Once this form of criticism fails to have an impact on you, SKY IS THE LIMIT.

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