Haiku – close silence

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Find your Middle Ground

Being held in close silence

That is all we need

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… And what we all need.

I read an article about a retired man who volunteers at a local hospital in the ward for premature babies. All he does is hold babies close to him in silence. Nothing more is needed. In the arms of a loving human being, they thrive.

I get it.

Sharing our whole presence and open heart with an other, is nourishing and healing.

No words are required, just our wholehearted presence.

Perhaps hugs are the short version of this. Next time you hug someone think of it as holding in close silence.

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About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago.
At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all.
This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

A four-year-old child, whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife, saw the man crying. The child went into the neighbor’s’ yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his mother asked the child what he was said to the neighbor, the child just said, ‘Nothing, I just helped him cry.’

Yep. This reminds me of a client who, on our last meeting, said she had done nothing but cry for two years and had I not just let her she would never have come back. This was, of course, an exaggeration, but I loved the point

So funny you post this. I visited with a young woman today and talked far too much. I am like a spool of thread that has become unwound, only in my case, it’s wound me up! And here I am, awake from the sound of rain after midnight. Not a usual occurrance, for sure. I like my sleep! So I have been pondering, among other things, the value of silence. Which is how I mostly live my life now. The obligation to share verbally is an old habit – years of counseling, radio, raising kids. And I’d rather it didn’t kick in so automatically when meeting others one on one. Groups shut me up just fine – no compulsion to join in, there! Always something to learn, always opportunities for yet more mindfulness. Aloha, Val ❤

What a lovely reflection Bela. 💛 It’s so good that we are still finding a new edge of discomfort to learn from and grow into. Perhaps it is our underlying need to help others that shows itself up like this…. or how we want to be seen. May you sleep well tonight 🙏

This is a beautiful thought …and post, Val! Made me think of a precious memory of a dear friend of ours who hugged me many years ago…just holding me in silence for a long time. That was the last time I saw him and three weeks later his spirit moved on.