My Hot Date!

Have I told you recently that I am addicted to podcasts? I cover a range of listening preferences from the New York Times, to health “gurus”, to parenting. Not sure if this is a healthy addiction or not since it is a ton of information, using up loads of data, and fills my already stuffed brain with random ideas, one of which I listened to about dating your children. Let me rephrase; having one on one time with your child following the regular rules of dating. So, you ask them out, set a date and time, let them choose the place, and share this time together mostly talking about what they want to talk about, or do. To be clear, this is not the kind of date I usually take my kids on which involves everyone on a trip to the gas station, the grocery store for an hour, and the coffee shop drive thru to pick up donuts as a treat promised for good behaviour. That seemed all fine and dandy to me, until I was presented with this idea.

I decided to take Jovan out on a date. I asked, he happily accepted. We set the date for a Sunday morning breakfast. The ten days leading up to our date he checked to make sure it was just the two of us going, and shared his upcoming date plans with everyone. I wasn’t expecting him to be so excited about it? I didn’t eat breakfast thinking we would go somewhere different, but in true Canadian form he chose to go to Tim Hortons and order anything he wanted. He ordered a regular size donut, (not the famous Tim Horton Timbit), a chocolate chip muffin, water, and tea for myself. We choose a table for two, and talked. He talked and talked about a variety of things including his birthday plans and wish list, Pokémon, why he hates cursive writing, and why some people wear turbans. It was random but cute at the same time. It reminded me of how little of my undivided attention I am giving all the boys, which I believe was the purpose of the exercise stolen from the podcast. We ended our date with a simple hug and a kiss and an expectation of another date, which I would call a success in the dating the world

Not the fancy breakfast restaurant I was expecting, but my date was excited about the donut selections.