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Do you share an online social media account with your partner?

I
have a few really good friends whom I love to death. They have amazing
significant others whom I also really like and enjoy chatting with --
when we're all together having dinner or drinks. But when it comes to
sharing social media experiences with my friends, I won't do it if
they've decided to merge their accounts with those of
their husbands or boyfriends. It's nothing personal -- like I said, I
don't have anything against their partners -- but chatting with
RebeccaPaulForever on Facebook defeats the entire
purpose of staying in touch with a person via social media outlets. And
the truth is: lots of people think it's just plain weird.

Oversharing online can work in several ways that aren't limited to couples creating one Facebook account. Some husbands/wives and boyfriends/girlfriends share online calendars -- which seems more convenient than odd to me -- as well as email passwords and even actual email accounts.
Couples who do it consider it part of the "nesting" process of settling
down with a partner. They feel that when you share one online presence,
you're letting the world know you are truly serious and committed.

We get it: you're in love. And it's a free country, so share away.
But you should know that it sucks for the rest of us. I don't feel free
to post a specific comment to my friend without acknowledging her
husband. It seems rude to do so. But I don't really have anything to say
to her husband -- and it seems weird to do that, too -- so I usually
just avoid posting on their pages altogether.

Based on an informal survey I conducted among my Facebook friends --
many of whom are happily married -- here's what others have to say about
the practice:

Sandra: "FB should be where you reconnect with
friends and follow up with family ... I have a few friends who share and
I never know who I am talking with ... I tend to not write to them as
much."

Elizabeth: "It makes me wonder about their
relationship. Do they not trust each other? Did one do something
questionable in the relationship?"

Diana: "I know someone who constantly posts through
her husband’s Facebook account. I never know who I’m talking to, her or
her husband."

Tommy: "If I get a request from a couples page, I
don't accept it. Or I don't ever talk to them because you never know who
you're talking to. Their couples page negates them altogether as far as
I'm concerned."

As far as sharing email accounts and passwords is concerned: a big no
to that. It just reeks of high school relationship insecurity.

Do you share an online social media account with your partner? How do you feel about the practice?

No we each have our own but are friends on all of them. It doesn't bother me when couples do that. It doesn't stop me from posting something either. I'm all about being out and open so if it's specifically for my friend I'll put that in the post but don't care if her husband sees it or not.

No, we don't share an account. I do have a couple friends who do, but I also know that the wife is the one who uses the account in both cases, so I know who I'm talking to when I talk to them. I also know that in both cases, the husband doesn't use social media at all, so the wives use the joint account as a way to keep them up to date. It works for them so I don't judge.

We used to share my FB account when I accidentally got him addicted to a game. So the largest part of my friends were added by him via the games. We separated into two accounts so he could play and I could have my account back.

I honestly never saw shared accounts as "annoying"! Thinking of it now, I haveat least ten friends who do shared accounts. We personally don't, but it never bothered me. Why do people read way too much into facebook?!! Honestly, folks, just calm down and catch up with friends and family!

At any rate, we have never shared. I would not like sharing. I only have one couple who shares like that in my friends list and it annoys me. My philosophy is - you are two separate people with two separate histories - have your own accounts.

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