8 Ways to Contact the Dead!

I’m not a medium nor am I a psychic, but I have managed to interact with the spirit world because this ability is something we ALL have. We all have it because, when you boil it down to the nitty gritty…we are all Spiritual Beings! Now, some are fortunate to be naturally well connected to their spiritual self (like mediums and psychics!) but some of us are not. If you are in the “are not” group like me, that just means we have to work a little harder, exert a little more effort, to make spirit contact happen. And that’s because our BELIEFS are often holding us back. If you don’t think you can talk to spirits, you probably won’t. But, if you are interested in giving it a try, I’m going to give you a few ways to go about it that have worked for me.

In all honesty, I’m doing this post to celebrate my first book BE STILL, MY LOVE! (the picture on the left is an older book cover and not the one currently being used but I like it so thought I’d use it for this post). It’s been published since the 13th of December 2011 and has had over 24,000 downloads! Amazing. Truly amazing. I think the spirit world helped me write it. Okay…I think the spirit world helps me write everything I write but that’s another story. So anyway, I am getting ready to take it off Amazon’s KDP Select Program so I may offer it to KOBO readers and NOOK readers and whoever else wants to give it a go! BUT, before I take it off the program, I’m offering it for FREE today and tomorrow only (28 and 29 Sept 2012). If you are interested in ghosts and you don’t mind references to God (how do you leave God out of a spiritual interaction?) then you might like it! At the very least, it’s FREE so it won’t cost you anything but some time to check it out.

Okay, NOW for those ways to talk to the dead!

1. The Ouija Board. Now before you start cringing and making signs of the cross, let me just say a few things about this EASY form of spirit communication. It really does work but the problem is it works whether you BELIEVE it or not, and that makes it a little dangerous. Meaning this: whenever you make contact with the spirit world, you are sort of opening a portal between our world and theirs. You MUST be responsible about this. Before using a Ouija, you need to be in a positive frame of mind and please…don’t be under any drug or alcohol influence! Before you begin…PRAY. Yes, pray. I say The Lord’s Prayer because I think it’s a pretty powerful prayer and it has never let me down! Which means I’ve had no negative experiences with the Ouija. I haven’t had negative experiences because I am being responsible, positive, I pray for God’s protection, I don’t do drugs and I am not buzzing on alcohol! As in every form of spirit contact, you must make it clear that you are allowing only positive energy forces to come through. You are looking to make loving contact with someone you know or someone who needs to communicate who has nothing but positive reasons for doing so! When you are done, you thank the spirits, make it clear the session is ended and you put the board away. Portal closed.

2. Table Tipping. Now this one is sort of fun. It actually works as easy as the Ouija and it must be treated with the same respect. Pray first. If you don’t want to pray to God (spirit contact can happen no matter your religious beliefs) then at the least imagine yourself, the table and the others around you, as being surrounded by white light. This is a protective light and is as real to the spirit world as it is imagined in yours. The table should be round or square and not very big. A small end table works great! The lighter the table, the easier it is to “tip” and that’s only because it takes less energy to get it going. It must be a sturdy table though because it can really get to rocking and a weak table will probably end up getting broke. It also works better if the legs are not even with the edge of the table (for the square ones). I’ve used a lightweight card table before but I prefer to use round tables, they work best. So, you and whoever is doing it with you, all put your hands flat on the top of the table. Don’t press down hard, just lightly rest your hands on the table. After your prayer has been said or you’ve all imagined your white light, you then make it clear to the spirit world that you are looking to make positive, loving contact. Then you wait. The table should start giving off a silent “hum” of energy. Hard to explain, but you feel “something”. It might begin to shimmy a bit. This means energy is building in the table and a spirit is preparing to come through! Encourage the spirit to communicate with you, this encouragement helps increase the energy. Tell them to tip the table when they are ready to talk. After awhile, it should start rocking! Yes and no questions work best…tip once for yes, twice for no…that sort of thing. But you can have the spirit spell out words by going through the alphabet with each tip of the table. It really is a lot of fun to do with a group of people. But remember…it’s serious business. It’s not a game so be RESPONSIBLE! When you are done, make it clear you are done. This closes the “portal”.

3. Flashlight. Yes! You read that right. This one is a little harder but it does work. Take a flashlight (the twist on and off kind work best) and twist it just before it comes on. Set it down on a flat, solid surface (nothing that vibrates easy) then invite a spirit to come speak to you! Yeah, that’s it. But again, it’s best to say a prayer and/or imagine the white light (I do both). Also, make it clear you are looking for positive spirit communication. Nothing negative! You can only do yes and no with this one…positive responses will make the flashlight come on when you ask a question. Or maybe negative responses will make the flashlight come on…you need to make it clear to spirit how to communicate with you. Clarify it with them…for yes responses, turn on the flashlight or tell it that you want the flashlight to come on for no responses. Whatever you prefer.

4. Automatic Writing. This one is actually pretty easy too but so many people think they are doing the writing (making it all up) that they don’t believe they are truly talking to spirit. You need lots of paper for this and a good pencil or pen. Sit quietly with your pen in hand and resting on the paper. Do your usual preparation…prayer, white light, intentions…and wait for the pen to start moving. Spirit will come through and talk to you. Their words will enter your head like a thought and if you are relaxed and concentrated enough, your pen should start moving along with your thoughts. You sort of have to be in a meditative state to do this so keep that in mind. This one takes a lot of patience but once you’ve done it and it gets going, it’s pretty easy.

5. Scrying. This is sort of like crystal ball gazing. You can use a crystal ball, or a mirror or any shiny surface. People in the days of old used small bodies of water. This is another one that takes patience. You have to be in a meditative state to make this work. Once you’ve done your preparations, you must then put yourself in a very relaxed state. Your conscious mind must be quiet to make this work and that is very difficult to accomplish! Do we EVER shut up? Seriously. Even during sleep my mind is active…dreaming to beat the band and all that. So anyway, this also works best in a semi-darkened room (less distraction and mood setting) with a candle (preferably white just to keep with the positive theme…you know, white for the light of God and black for darkness and things not in tuned with God). Though honestly, I don’t think the candle color matters unless it matters to you. So anyway. You sit relaxed, quiet your mind and stare at the clear surface…the mirror or the crystal ball or whatever it is you are using. Let your eyes relax too, they will sort of go out of focus. Eventually you will see a haze and then, if you can keep calm and not get excited and start your mind chatter back up (which often happens to me, darn it!), you should be able to access the spirit world successfully. You might see images of people you know who have crossed over or you might see past or future events. If it’s spirit contact you are hoping for, you should see the person you want to talk to. Really, this form of spirit contact should be for specific people you are hoping to connect with and not a “free for all” like with the Ouija and Table Tipping.

6. Meditation. Though mediation is mostly used to relax your mind and enjoy being one with your spirit, you can also access the spirit world while in a meditative state. This will all happen through your imagination and there’s nothing wrong with that. Our imagination is a direct link to spirit! We just don’t think of it that way and we certainly don’t often use it for conscious spirit contact! When I go into a meditative state, I feel closely connected to the spirit world and I often have a gentle spirit come through. I call her my guardian angel. The energy around me has a warm, energized buzz about it and I know she’s coming when I start feeling that. Her thoughts enter mine and are very distinct and separate from my own internal voice. I’ve had some of the most profound experiences during meditation! I just don’t do it enough. I usually don’t have the time or the patience. Sad that.

7. Digital Recorder. If any of you have anything to do with the paranormal, you’ve seen or heard of this. Take a digital recorder (and yes, I’ve even used a hand-held tape recorder though those are pretty much going out of style) and turn it on. Do this after you’ve made proper preparations…we’ve gone over this before so I won’t repeat it all. It’s very important that you put your mindset in the right place when using a digital recorder or you probably won’t get anything. Make it clear you are hoping to communicate with the spirit world, invite the contact, open your mind to allowing it to happen…your personal energy can block spirit contact if you are not open to it! In other words, if you don’t believe you can talk to spirits, that negative energy will probably block the contact. Using a digital recorder during a seance is a great idea so keep that in mind! The premise of this form of contact is that the digital recorder can capture spirit voices. Our ears aren’t sensitive enough to pick up on certain frequencies. The spirit world operates in a higher frequency than us so we often can’t hear them.

8. Seance. With this you are getting a group of like-minded people together and when several people get together for a common purpose, it raises the energy vibration and allows contact with the spirit world to occur. People often hold hands during a seance and this is just to help focus the energy. You don’t have to hold hands but it seems to help people concentrate better. It is also reassuring to be holding someone’s hand when spirit contact takes place. It’s not a typical occurrence for many of us and it’s a bit scary. So, hold hands if it makes you feel better! The only reason spirit contact is often severed when hands disconnect is because the concentration is usually lost. Someone has pulled their hand away because they are afraid or in denial and this often stops the contact. It’s best to have one person control the group because this helps everyone focus. Focused concentration and a common goal is what makes seances work! Always start a seance with a prayer or whatever you do to feel safe, ask everyone to imagine a white light surrounding the group and explain that this is positive energy and nothing negative can penetrate it. Make it clear that you are out for making contact with loved ones or with spirits who mean no harm or have negative intentions. Be open to the communication! Allow it to happen. Be patient. Thoughts usually start coming to you and often those are thoughts from spirit! Unfortunately, you will probably pass them off as your imagination. Again, I must stress this…the imagination is a DIRECT LINK TO SPIRIT. Our imagination operates in the spirit world and manifests in our own if we give it enough focus. All creativity comes from God, Infinite Intelligence, a higher power, the Universe…whatever you want to call it and the imagination is creativity at work. Just remember that!

So there you have it! Have you tried any of these things? What was your experience? Are you going to try any of these things? Let me know how it goes or how it’s gone!

Before I close out this post, I want to mention that Be Still, My Love and it’s sequel Hidden Voices are based on some of the things I’ve learned during my own paranormal experiences. The lead character in those books…Tess Schafer…is a medium and through her I share a lot of what I’ve come to learn and understand about ghosts, hauntings and the spirit world in general.

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Absolutely amazing, I’ve never been one to meditate, or even be able to relax, never had a massage, but I’m interested much in the paranormal. I am going to try one or two of these suggestions, and I want to thank you for sharing!!
God Bless!

You can contact anyone you like. Sometimes the spirit might choose to not talk to you, but you do not need to know a spirit personally (when they were alive) to try to make contact with them. Just as it is up to you whether you want to speak to someone in spirit, it is equally up to them to speak back! Blessings!

Hi, Deborah! My friends and I have been playing with a ouija board recently and we have tried taking all the necessary precautions. For example, we always have candles lit, we use salt, we have sage, and even have tried lavender spray. We also follow all of the rules like don’t ask how they died, don’t ask about the future, always say goodbye, never play in a graveyard, never lay alone, don’t remove your hands from the planchette, don’t let it go in four corners/figure 8s, etc Recently, we have gotten more calm with our session talking to the dead and we asked how old they were. We have done our research and when the planchette went over the number 0, we knew we had to end the session right away because this meant that it was never born, therefore it must’ve been a demon! So we said goodbye and asked them to leave us alone and not contact us again.
We all went went our separate ways that night and slept in completely different houses yet, we all had an experience. We all had the same dream! The dream was very vivid and was fairly short and simple. We dreamed of ourselves sitting at the table that we had the session at except, something was different. All of the extra chairs were pulled out and the candles and sage were gone. We all had the same reaction and was very confused. We looked around for what felt half an hour but was too scared to move in our dream. Eventually, a tall dark figure of a older man appeared sitting in a chair across from us. He mumbled a few words that were hard to understand and they seemed to be in some foreign language. Around this time we woke up and thought nothing of the dream.
We went about our morning as if it was just another day, trying to ignore our nightmare. We met up with each other at lunch like we do everyday. We conversed with each other and realized that we had the same dream. We were all panicked but didn’t go to extreme measures right away to figure out why our dreams were identical. We met up again the next weekend to ask the board more questions. We ended up getting a different voice through the board and had a normal session of cliché conversation for a ouija board.
A few weeks passed and we decided to bring the board back out and try to meet some new voices. We talked to a few friendly-seeming spirits but one in particular stood out. Their name (didn’t identify as male or female) was Zozo. We knew this name and figured it must’ve been a joke. But the spirit claimed that it knew everything. We asked questions that only one of us knew (such as our parent’s middle name or the color of tank top that we were wearing, etc) and it seemed to guess everyone right. Then it offered us a deal. The deal was that if it could answer any two questions correctly, then we would give the spirit our lives. We were not stupid enough to say yes to this (fortunately) and we tried to say goodbye but it insisted that we talk to it more. We asked how old they were at one point and it head straight to the number 0. We were then curious as if this would’ve been the same spirit that we were talking to not that long ago. It said it was (but as far as we know it could’ve been lying). We dared it to give us all another dream that night and in that dream, one of the two friends I was playing with was being too sarcastic and told them that “if they were so powerful, then she gave them permission to kill her in her sleep”. My other friend and I were slightly concerned but knew that nothing too terribly bad, other than nightmares, would happen.
We went home that night and we did end up having another dream that was about the same, but just slightly more intense. So when I awoke, I received a phone call from my friend. We were both crying over the phone and we were scared to death. We tried to call the other girl but she wasn’t answering. We thought she must’ve just still been asleep since she is indeed a pretty heavy sleeper. We went to school and planned on talking to her at lunch like always. However, she was not in school that day. The rest of the day went by fairly normally and the dream was quickly forgotten.
Later that day, we went to her house to see what was wrong but, no one was home. We got slightly more concerned at this point but could’t do much. We went home and received a call from her later. Turns out, she actually had a seizure that morning around the time that we called her. We told her mom about the game and she was obviously upset at us but, also grateful for the truth. We went to go visit her while she was in the hospital (since they wanted to keep her overnight for one night to try and pinpoint the cause of her breakdown). When we arrived, we could tell that she seemed different (to say the least). She was in the hospital and all, yes, but was saying many concerning things. We asked her about the dream to insure that she actually did have it.
Turns out, she did have about the same dream but, there was one major difference. Right when she saw the dark old man, he reached across the table and started to strangle her. She was able to give us very precise details about how she was feeling with a hand around her throat. She swears that she woke up but could still feel the large, cold hand around her throat. That’s the last thing she remembered before being found by her mom trying to go in her bedroom and wake her up for school. Suddenly, as we were talking to her, she began to get very lightheaded and we had to leave again.
She is out of the hospital now but she has become very depressed and has been having very concerning thoughts lately. Her mom refuses to believe anything is wrong with her and has at most put her on antidepressants, but doesn’t want anyone else to see her (regaurding the spiritual matters). She has become slightly obsessed with satanic ideas and has been trying to learn how to write Hebrew online.
So, I guess my question is, is there anything that we can do for her regarding this matter since we know that doctors can’t help her and her mom refuses to have anyone else see her? I just want her to feel better and don’t know exactly what to do. Please help!!

Gabby, I have to tell you…this all sounds like a plot to a movie or a book! But to take you at face value…I have to be honest and tell you that I have never dealt with persistent negative entities. The haunted farmhouse that I lived in had a bad entity there and I dreamed about it all the time…still do on rare occasions!…but I’ve never become physically ill or anything. I think my constant prayers for protection and using the “light” has helped to keep me safe. I still believe it is the only thing to keep anyone safe when it comes to negative spirits. As for “0” being restricted to demons…not so! Most angels…specifically guardian angels…have never been born into physical life. They prefer to stay in spirit and help us from there. The problem is this…and it’s a REAL problem…if we BELIEVE we are possessed or that an evil spirit is after us or messing with us…it is very hard to break the mind from that belief! This is why dealing with the spirit world shouldn’t be done by people who aren’t trained by professions to do it. Including me! I’ve not been trained by professionals either. I have only my past and present experiences to draw on…and that of spirit when they speak through me. The Ouija board is so powerful it can truly bring anyone and everyone from “over there” through to our world! This is why most people involved in spiritual work warn against using it. Despite it being marketed as a game…it is NOT a game! Somehow you need to come up with a positive, loving ritual that your friend will “buy into”. If she beliefs something negative has attached to her then you need to figure out a way to give her something more POSITIVE to believe in! It would be best to get help from someone who actually works with this sort of thing especially as the mind and emotions is not something to mess around with. I send loving light and positive energy to her and to all of you! Blessing to you. I hope you figure it out. I truly do. Just remember to always, always keep your spiritual light shining bright within you whenever you are frightened. Also, your guardian angels are always with you and ready to help…you need only to ASK!

I do not give my number out and I don’t do personal spirit work. Sorry!! You can reach your brother all on your own. Go somewhere quiet where you will not be interrupted. Pray, be at peace and fill your thoughts with him. When you have a clear picture of him, allow yourself to feel his presence! He WILL be with you! Strong thoughts of someone in spirit draws them to you. Have a conversation with him in your mind. Let it all just flow natural. Nothing negative should be said! If you get a negative discussion, a bad message or you feel terrible… then you are NOT in communication with him. All spirit interaction with those who love us in spirit is LOVING and ONLY loving! Their messages are ALWAYS positive! Blessings to you! Good luck!

I’m not gonna have a long talk but yes I have
experienced
a ghostly situation I basically think my house is haunted and I had a radio say over and over “I want you” not creepy but like weird….and well I heard plates clattering but my family said no one was downstairs at the time. Overall I belive ghosts are somewhere in this world trapped and cant get out and well I think ghosts are real and people have visited this nasty world of ghostly figures and have been terrified and I think you may be able to summon some if you dare and please be safe and smart.

An ex of mine committed suicide a few weeks before I gave birth to my son. We met on the internet and dated in our younger years. Even though we never met physically, we loved each other deeply and had plans for the future. He was my rock and I was his but unfortunately lost touch. He promised to come see me and it never happened. He found me on Facebook after we lost touch for 10 years. I feel he tried to reconnect but I didn’t reciprocate the feelings. A few months after he found me I met my now husband. I feel so guilty! I go through periods of grief and anger. I miss him. I’ve prayed for him to visit me in a dream and nothing has happened. I really feel like I will never get over this and will never forgive myself. I feel like I cannot shake him off. I love my husband and love being a mother but I cannot get over him. I do not know what to do. I mind myself visiting his Facebook just to look at his pictures and I honestly feel like I am going crazy. What can I do? I’ve also seen a huge black shadow but I thought it was just my imagination. It’s rather tall. He was 6’1ish.

Gisel, I know you wrote this a long time ago and for reasons I can’t explain or are even acceptable, I didn’t get back to you. How are you doing now? I pray you are doing well and are happy. Blessings.

hi… i lost my 2 year old daughter in heart ailment, she is too small to loose, i just want to know how she will be in another world withour her mother and me… please help and suggest some tips to connect with her, it wil be of great help…

I am so sorry for your loss! I can’t imagine losing a child. It must be the worst sort of emotional pain. Please know that children are very well cared for in the spirit world! In spirit, we are not children…we are very old souls and have been around a long, long time! Your daughter will “wake” up in that world a beautiful old soul (though age has no place in spirit. We use the reference to age here in the physical world because it is all we know. Even saying “old” soul is misleading for it simply means the soul has been around for a long, long time (as we understand the concept of time). In spirit there is no time. Your daughter is now an amazing soul and she wraps you in the glow of her love. The fact is…she knew as a soul (before her birth) that she would not spend long in her earthly life. She agreed to those conditions for whatever reason. Someday…when you join her in spirit…you’ll learn why you all had to go through that very painful experience. Also…when spirits “cross over” (enter awareness of their spiritual existence), they are greeted by many, many loved ones…souls they’ve known a very long time! Her passing into spirit was very special and wonderful. For you, though, it is a terrible nightmare. It is heartache and loneliness and a hole has been left in your life. You can fill that hole with the awareness that whenever you are thinking strongly of her…she is at once with you. We NEVER lose our connection to loved ones…either in spirit or in physical life! Your emotions draw her to you. Be still and know she is near. Be still and you will FEEL her love surrounding you! She’s a very special soul. I send you blessings and loving light.

Does this also work for pets? My dog Fred who is my best friend for 5 years was taken away from me by cancer at a way too young age. I had to put him to sleep to end his suffering and I’m feeling terrible guilt compounded by my broken heart/profound loss. Have you ever had luck contacting pets? Would one of these methods be more effective than the others?

So sorry to have missed this comment! Did you ever make contact with your dog or have you felt his presence? Animals stay loyal to us even in death and for sure you will one day be reunited! Blessings!

Hi Deborah, I found your blog through searching how to contact my son. My 11 year old son died 6th February this year. He died tragically from an alergic reaction and my husband was trying to rescusitate him infront of our two other children. It was a horrific sight for them to see their brother die infront of them and especially as an ambulance did not arrive (but that is another issue). You see he wasnt just my son, we are a really close family and he was my best friend, everyone loved him because he was such a compassionate boy and had a thirst for knowledge you would not believe. It is almost 6 months ago now and I meditate and burn incense, a friend of mine in another country does remote crystal healing and I have acupuncture regularly – these help me to get by. But I desperately need to speak to my boy, I miss him sooo much, grief is such a painful non descript thing to go through. With the meditation I tend to dismiss my imagination and even though I am quite a spiritual person, my head talks me out of it. I ask my guardian angel to help me as I still have a beautiful family who need me, but it hurts so. It sometimes feels sureal that it is a bad dream, then I realise he is gone forever. He will never get to enjoy all the plans he had for his future. He was even starting a journal because he wanted his children to read it when they were older. A clairvoyant told me that I should scatter his ashes as I need to disconnect my thoughts of him in a physical state. I just dont know what to think, we need to move on, but packing away his things feels like packing him away. Sue x

Hello Sue, I am so very sorry for the loss of your son. I recently lost a nephew and I find the world a different place without him in it. Losing someone we love changes everything. I can’t imagine losing a child. I feel for my sister who is having a tough time (as you can imagine). Death of a loved one is the worst experience for us to go through. It is the hardest for us to deal with. You imagine all the things your son does not get to do…but remember this…he is in a place where he is now doing far, far more than any of those things. HE is fine. HE is well and happy and thriving. I do understand, though, that even knowing that, knowing how fantastic he is doing, it doesn’t ease the pain of missing him. I do believe, though, that since your pain is still so great, he is not going to come through for you. The experience would be extremely emotional. I finally connected with my grandmother (whom I absolutely adored) after 25 years of missing her and it was the most emotional thing I’ve ever gone through! I could not stop crying. I was happy, overjoyed, filled with love and it was almost too much. I know that I wasn’t ready for that until it happened. I’m not saying you have to wait that long, I’m just saying that it’s hard to connect with a loved one who has so soon passed, no matter how much you want it. What it will do is make you miss him more. He IS with you, though. The thing about death is that it is a choice…on a SOUL level, it is a choice. His SOUL was ready to return to spirit. His mission here was done. I’m not sure what his lesson was that he finished it so soon, maybe the lesson wasn’t for him but for his family…the lesson of dealing with loss. When he was in spirit…before his birth, he knew what he was going to do and why and he agreed to it. He entered this life knowing (on a SOUL level) that he was not going to stay long. He had a thirst for knowledge and felt so much compassion because he was packing in as much as he could in the short time he had. He kept a journal because his SOUL knew what was going to happen. The journal is for you and his siblings, whoever reads it. Whenever you are thinking strongly of him, he is with you. You can imagine his arms around you, his head on your shoulder, his arms squeezing tight and know that spiritually he is doing those things. Only time can help ease the pain but you will never stop missing him. It’s been 40 years since my grandparents died…I miss them to this day. BUT, whenever I am thinking of them really strongly…they give me signs that they are near. If you suddenly hear a song, or see a book he loved, or see his name on something, or experience something that makes you think of him…that’s how he gets through to you that he is near!! If he just suddenly POPS into your head out of the blue…he just came by to see you! He’s busy in spirit, they have a lot going on, but he is psychically connected to you so he is never too far away!! Pack his things only when you are ready. Right now, those are your physical connection to him. We are in a physical world after all and so we find comfort from the physical. My sister won’t give up my nephew’s ashes. He requested to be buried somewhere specifically but she can’t bring herself to let “him” go. It’s fine, he doesn’t mind, he knows she’ll do it when she’s ready. Maybe she won’t ever be ready and that is fine too. Don’t let others pressure you to do what you are not ready to do. But please, do not be sad for HIM. He honestly, truly is very happy! He’s got a big smiling face and a huge, shining spirit! Ask your angels to give him a hug for you…they will! It always seems that the truly good souls die young…and they do. That’s because those wonderful souls are usually very special…and they come here, into earthly existence, for a special reason. Whenever you are feeling sad, fill yourself with the essence of his spirit, FEEL his soul mingling with yours and know that he is well and loves you very much. You have had many lives together! You will have many more. Blessings and loving light to you and your family.

Hi. My name is Anabel Stephenson. Im 20. About 2 years ago, i tried to contact my dead boyfriend. he killed himself after i broke up with him so i felt responsible. i used a candle. At first nothing happened. But then, i heard crying, and i thought it was me. but it wasn’t. What do think happened. The crying was masculine and sounded somewhat like him. Is it possible that i heard him or was it just my mind playing tricks on me?…

It wasn’t him. He would not be crying. People who commit suicide are taken care of when they cross over. They are surrounded by love and they quickly realize the truth of things…that what really matters is the state of our soul and not the state of our physical life. You can’t make yourself responsible for a decision HE made. YOU did not make that decision. HE did. That’s on him. He is responsible for the choices he made, for the way he responded to the choices YOU made. Too many of us like to make ourselves responsible for what others do. You can’t live your life for someone else. That’s not why we are put here. We are here to learn and grow and to depend on no one. To learn that all we need is our SELF…everyone else is extra…bonuses! Now, I know it’s easy enough to say. We get attached to people and hurt like heck when they cross over and leave us “behind”…here in the physical world to go on without them. But the fact is, they don’t actually leave us. They are transformed to spirit and they stay close to those they love. They don’t stay close to terrorize or make you feel guilty or to annoy you. They truly do just watch over you and hope that you learned what they did not. If you heard crying, it was probably the crying that goes on in your own soul. You are sad for what happened. That is understandable. Please know, though, that he truly is okay. He’s not suffering. Go on in peace. It’s truly what he wants for you. As for contacting him. You need only think about him…imagine yourself meeting with him. Get a clear picture of him in your mind’s eye and then have a conversation with him. Say what you want to say, ask what you want to ask then WAIT for the answers to come to you. Don’t try to GUESS what he’d say. You’ll just get a quick reply and they should be very UPLIFTING! If you get anything that makes you feel bad…it isn’t him talking, it’s your guilty mind speaking. Honestly, interaction with spirit, especially with people we care about and want to speak with, it is ALWAYS a positive, loving experience. It can be no other way. If you feel good about what is happening…then it’s real! Emotionally we are very connected to spirit. Blessings to you!!

My friend has always been able to talk to spirits, and for a couple of years these certain spirits have been reaching out to both of us. At first we thought they were harmless but now we know they have bad intentions and they won’t leave us alone. Do you know how to get rid of a spirit or possibly destroy them? Thanks

You can’t destroy them. BUT you can protect yourself from them. When spirit interaction turns bad, then you are not dealing with the initial spirits you were talking to. Bad spirits are always bad and they don’t play games by pretending to be nice. What often happens is you’ll be dealing with good, peaceful spirits and the bad ones will become attracted to the interaction…whenever you open the “door” to the spirit world, you will attract all manner of spiritual interest! The bad ones will be bad right from the get-go and you’ll think it was the ones you’ve been dealing with because it happens so suddenly you don’t notice the difference. Once you are focused on the bad ones, their energy is drawn to you via your focus on them. Anytime a spiritual interaction doesn’t feel right and makes your uncomfortable, make it clear you want to deal only with loving spirit entities and then mentally picture yourself closing the door to them. This visualization helps you to cut off their interactions with you. Each time you set out to spirit work, always make it clear what sort of spirits you want to talk to…the loving ones! Also, always ask for protection from negative entities. Your spirit guide, your guardian angels and of course God will keep you safe when asked! The adage “Ask and you’ll receive” really works that easy. I also like to envision loving light surrounding negative entities whenever I feel one around. Who knows…maybe they just need a little love. In any case, it will keep them away from you. Negative entities avoid positive energy in any form! One other thing…spirit work should never be conducted while angry or depressed or while under the influence of drugs and alcohol! Blessings and good luck!

I asked My Angel or Sprit to wake Me up in the morning, It did by dropping straight chads n pins on the floor by My bed and by the desk across the room.,the Sprit is always near Me.I’m at Peace with its Presence As a Child I played in the Cemetery by Our House…I have been talking to Sprits My Whole Life….Right now I must lie down.All Sprits are all talking a once……and It Comes over as Chimes almost like water in crystal drinking glasses… Very Soothing,I’m of Irish n Welsh decent….

hi, ever since i was little ive done this thing where i listen to music in a dark room while i rock to the beat and kind of zone out. a while ago i was doing this (this sounds crazy by the way) and i saw a scene in my head of a gold colored van coming straight at me and then there was a bright flash of white light. it scared the crap out of me so i zoned back in and looked around for a second and the next time i blinked while my eyes were closed i saw the face of i think an african american man i had never seen before. naturaly i turned the lights on and ran upstairs where there were lots of windows. any ideas to what that was all about?

I thoughtI answered this but it’s still in my pending comments section so I’m not sure if you asked twice or my reply didn’t go through. In any case, the fact you were “zoned out” means you were in a sort of hypnotic state…while in that state, you can experience a moment beyond your usual conscious awareness. Meaning you tapped into another dimension for a moment! I’ve had a similar experience and it was the most bizarre thing I’ve ever had happen to me! I had just awakened from a nap but was still sort of “out of it” and when I got up to cross the room, all I could see was a wide highway and cars were zooming at me at high speed. But when they got to me, they just went through me and went on to wherever. Life is full of mysteries! You experience one! Let me know if you have more! Thanks for sharing.

hi I am 11 and me and my friends tried to contact a spirit. we tried the Charlie Charlie challenge and it worked e didn’t use a straw or anything. my friend Ryan did it as well and was communicating to it for a long time and it was very confusing because it only worked with Ryan’s pencils. anyway after we stopped I was sitting next to my friend ruby and I was apparently playing with my hair and making sounds but I don’t remember anything about that moment do you know what happened

Hi Serena. The problem is that dealings with spirit is not a “game”. It is real stuff and should not be taken so lightly. Also, NEVER ask questions about the future. Spirit has no control over YOUR future and can no more tell you what is going to happen than your best friend! Some people are more open to spirit interaction than others. Maybe Ryan is more “open” to allowing spiritual interaction. Maybe he has less fear. Fear hinders interaction! It messes with the communication. As for having something happen that you are not aware of…honestly, that happens to most all of us all the time! For a moment you “zoned” out. People “zone” out all the time! It’s nothing to worry about. Just please, don’t treat the spirit world as a FUN thing to mess with. If you don’t know what you are doing or how to control what is happening…it invites all sorts of situations that can only make you scared. I can tell you that you are fine. Nothing is possessing you! Blessings to you! I send protective light your way to keep you safe.

Hi I recently lost my Gran 2 or 3 weeks ago she had a heart attack in her sleep I want to communicate with her & Tell her how much I love her & ask her lots of questions that I need to know I have thought of doing the Ouija bored before but I have a fear that a evil spirt will come through, my mother & her friend done the Ouija board years ago and that told her friend that she would die in a couple of days and she did, I am scared in case I communicate with the wrong Sprits, is writing better than using a Ouija bored is it safer or just the same I have never done anything like this before and I would like to just to talk to my Gran for the last time

The Ouija is so effective at opening the door to the spirit world that you do indeed let “anyone” in. It isn’t the BEST way to communicate with loved ones. Writing is definitely one of the best and safest ways to communicate with spirit. BUT, you don’t even have to do that with someone you are emotionally close to! Go somewhere quiet and think of your gran. Imagine her when she was at her BEST because now she is in spirit, she is definitely at her best! Feel your love for her fill your heart and invite her to come talk with you. She WILL get your message because those in spirit that are emotionally connected to us will FEEL our invitation and come at once! Just imagine her coming to you and sitting next to you. Start talking to her, tell her all that you want to share and then wait to see how her answers come to you. You might think it’s wishful thinking making the answers come but SHE is influencing what you “imagine” she is telling you! The way IN to the spirit world is through our imagination! Where do you think all inspired thoughts come from? Spirit! That is the best way to have a conversation with a loved one who has crossed over. Sadly, too many people think it is just their imagination…which it is BUT influenced by the loved one they are talking to! Writing down the answers that come to you is best because you will forget! The interaction is spiritual and you will think you’ll remember but it’s like when you dream and wake up…eventually the dream fades. Your interactions with loved ones while doing this “imaginary conversation” will also fade over time! Blessings to you! Good luck and many blessings to your gran…who I see smiling. She is at peace and happy and wants the same for you!

I’ve had a lot of strange things happen in the past to me, one i could never figure out is when i was in middle school i was talking to a friend at home; we had finished playing a video game and we were talking. as we talked i felt like something literally grabbed me from behind and lifted me up. next thing i know i’m waking up on the floor and the front door wide open, when i spoke to my friend the next day or so he had said that he saw the back of my shirt being grabbed and that my feet were one foot off the ground, and that he had ran scared cause of it.

anyway what brought me here is that i was searching for ways to communicate with the dead, my father had passed last year and i think he’s trapped here. cause he told me specific instructions to spread his ashes int he river so they’d return to the ocean… and i let my sister talk me into only spreading half, and burrying the other half so that my niece/nephews/ and littler brothers have a plac to feel like they can visit with him…

i want to know because my fiancee and mother have both smelled the incent smell that he use to burn when he was alive. the only person he told about spreading all his ashes in the river was me, and when i told my sister well,she handled the cost of the cremation… i guess he told me cause she likes to add her own things into the mix, or because he trusted me more… either way i don’t want him to be trapped here and it’ll just be something that i can’t shake off if i don’t know the truth

Hi Michael! Honestly, once people cross into spirit, the things they THOUGHT were important are not important at all. What happened to the vessel that housed your father’s spirit is of no concern to him! BUT, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to come through to let you all know that he is “alive” and well. Once people cross into spirit, the first thing they want to do is let their loved ones know that they are fine. He especially wouldn’t want you worrying about his ashes and what happened to them. You can definitely communicate with him, though, if that is your wish. Sit quietly some place and be at peace. Pray for a peaceful interaction with your dad. This shows INTENT. Imagine your father coming to you and sitting next to you. Talk to him as if he’s there…but you can do so in your “mind’s eye”. WAIT for his answers to come to you. They will just pop into your head and could even startle you a bit. You should feel this sense that the answers are coming from him. The interaction should leave you feeling very much at peace. Loved ones do NOT create drama or bad feelings. They truly are at peace and they operate only through peace. If you feel anything else, that is your “ego” getting in the way. It’s the job of the ego to keep us grounded in physical life so it’s really hard to get around it. We can’t be upset about that…it’s the ego’s job after all BUT, this exercise in imagination should have the ego relaxed and out of the way. That’s why the Ouija works so well. The ego thinks of it as a game so allows it to happen! If your ego thinks it’s “just your imagination talking”, then the interaction will be allowed to take place. Remember that the imagination is our way IN to the spirit world! Blessings to you and your dad! Good luck!

Hi Deborah.I really really loved ur writings.
I’m Rakesh ,23.
Last month my mom passed away in her 40’s leaving behind me & my dad. She was suffering from high blood pressure but was normal and recovering. Even she was very happy just before her death. it was all sudden that she got senseless and within half an hour we lost her before reaching medical.
We r so lonely without her. I feel heart broken because she made so many sacrifices throughout her whole life and it was a matter of months for me to get a good job and provide her a better life cuz i finished my study recently . But she’s gone just before the ocean of happiness arrives for her.
I wanna know if she’s happy there & who else r with her and will wait for us to be with her ?
I wanna know if she’s watching over us and never go away ?
I wanna know from her if heaven is more beautiful than our home ?
I wanna know if she’s wants to tell me anything… ?

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother! I can’t imagine losing a mom so early in life. There is nothing that can fill the void created when a loved ones passes into spirit. The only thing we can really take comfort in is knowing they, at least, are in a great place! The hardest thing for us is to imagine that our loved one passed into spirit unwillingly, that their life was taken from them against their will. The fact is, from a SOUL standpoint, your mother was ready to go. Not consciously, no…our egos are in place to ensure we have a strong desire and will to live. That’s the job of the ego, to keep us here and grounded in physical reality. But, from within her soul, she knew it was time and so she crossed over. Understand that for her it is a wondrous thing. She is “home” where we all belong. And when it’s our time, when it’s right to do so, we too shall cross into spirit. Your mother does not regret her life. She does not regret her sacrifices and holds no ill will for things that didn’t quite go her way when in physical life. Now she understands the whole picture, now she sees the reasons behind all the things that happened to her in life. She is so proud of you! Truly, her feelings come through so STRONG, so CLEAR! I can see her smiling. She wants now for you to have happiness! Her love surrounds you and it shines so bright! YOUR happiness gives her great joy! Her crossing over was actually very easy. It is for all of us though many of us think it is a traumatic experience. In fact it is not! One instant they are in physical life, the next they are in spirit and feeling love, joy…relief even! All those who love her…during her physical life with you and from lives past, her spirit guides and angels, they all wrapped her in their love. Of course she will wait for you for her, you see, there is no such thing as “time”. There is only NOW. For her there is no waiting…only for you. We are all connected spiritually and so you have only to think of her and she is with you! Be still in mind and you will feel her…you will know this is true! What she now experiences there are no words to explain. It is beyond her wildest dreams…far, far beyond them! Our life here, she now realizes, is so limited in so many ways and she actually feels a little sad that you are so restricted. There are colors there we can’t even imagine. The thing she most wants you to know is that she loves you and wishes, above all…that you find happiness in your life. That you are courageous and kind…to your self and to others. She wishes for you to know that she is with you always, in your heart, in your soul and that never will any of you be alone or apart from each other. She’s a special lady, is your mother and you are most blessed! I send you loving light and energy! Blessings.

I saw a man enter my room. I was lying down. He had on a hat and old clothes. I felt as if I startled him. He slowly turned and looked at me. I tried to scream, but nothing came out. I heard my parents downstairs and saw daylight. I tried to yell. He said, “you’re momma can’t help you now”. I struggled and eventually broke free of his imaginary bonds. I never spoke of that for years. What was he?

Gosh, I wish I knew! Sounds like a very scary experience! The fact is this…we need no one’s help but our own. Each and every one of us has all the power we need to be safe in life. Although that was a scary experience, no harm came to you so always remember that! It is often when we are in the throws of a spiritual vision that we cannot move. I think it is just a reflexive, perhaps safety related feature in our bodies. It also could be that he was responding to a moment in his own past and you were like a “ghost” to him! Conditions were just right in that one moment for you to slip between world and have the experience that you did. No worries! Life is full of mysteries! Blessings to you!

To be honest, i have a really wide imagination, but i never came to think about it’s resources. I usually get scared easily, but you convinced me that the spirit world is mostly peacful (i thought of it differently because all of the horror movies and stuff). After reading all this, i thought maybe why not try contacting the spirit world through imagination. So there i am, relaxed, i closed my eyes and mentally prayed for peaceful interaction. I really did not believe it at first, and i thought it was my mind playing tricks on me. I saw a person or a spirit or whatever you call it, i saw it at a distance at first, then it came closer. I got so scared but i kept the positive thoughts eventhough it was difficult.. It was wearing black. It had a white face with big eyes. I heard a sentence that i thought i was saying to myself, but after i opened my eyes i knew it was real since it used a term i never do. Now this sentence is something very special and personal and is something i will remember always. I’d like to share it. It said: “don’t be afraid, Rita, you are in a safe place”.
This is pretty much my experince and i’d like to thank you for it 🙂

I don’t know how I found your link, but it was insightful. Through the Internet, I found out on July 2, 2015 that a former flame/soulmate died in Turkey on 5/3/15. Of course I had a panic attack and just broke down. His brother wouldn’t tell me how he died but recommended me to move on and keep him in my heart. I have received what I consider two signs possibly from him or from God. The biggest one was that when I found out that he died, I sent him a long text message expressing my remorse and apologizing. It turned out that the person who has his cellphone number is a widow who lost her husband at 32. (Bora died at 30)

I am still consumed with guilt of how I ended the relationship with him (right love at the wrong time). The last time I tried to communicate with him, he requested that I never talk to him again. (I wish I didn’t respect his wishes and tried to talk later on) I hate that I don’t know if he knows that I still love him, and of course I want to communicate or see him as much as possible. I’ve seen my deceased grandmother once and seen one of my guardian angels in a dream. I’m still baffled that I haven’t seen him in a dream although every night I look at an image of him with hope that I can talk to him in the dream world. To me, dreaming is my safety route in communicating with people that I love.
You bring up that spirits forgive you because they’re in a better place. I hope it’s true, and maybe it’s just a waste of time of crying at night or thinking that someone who you are still in love with possibly doesn’t love you the same way anymore which is why he won’t see you in dream world.
Keep up the wonderful work Deborah and God bless you.

Hello, Liz! I’m sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Truly, when they cross over, so many, many things become crystal clear to them! Love is an emotions that transcends all barriers, especially spirit! So, once he was in spirit form, he most certainly will KNOW your love for him! Even if he was truly saddened and hurt by your breakup, once he’s in spirit, he learns that all things happen for a specific reason…by divine design. You were not meant to be together (for whatever reason) and now he’s in spirit, he’s going to learn why. Knowing what he knows now…that might make him stay away spiritually from you. Maybe it was the “plan” for you to be separate, even in death. Maybe there is a lesson to be learned from your relationship with him and until you “get it”, he must stay away. Know this though…he KNOWS now how you feel! When we think of people in spirit, it connects us to them. He may not interact with you, but he is very aware of what you are feeling. So, go ahead and think of him, imagine him with you…tell him all you want to tell him and let it all go. He’s fine. However he died…he is now well and thriving! Someday, down the road, when you are truly free of guilt and sadness concerning him, he will come in your dream and it will be a joyous reunion. Blessings to you!!

Hello, Deborah. Thanks for all of the detailed options and explanations for contacting the spiritual world. It’s all very interesting. My problem is that I’ve tried many different ways of contacting a ghost however none of them have been successful (I haven’t used the infamous Oujia board though). Still, I do believe that there is a spiritual world out there. My closest friend, that lives in the Philippines, said that paranormal activity is very common there and that he comes into contact with spirits in his every day life. I know him very well. He never lies, especially about this subject, and I’ve read many reports of strange occurrences happening in his area. I’m sure I can believe him…however I just simply have no luck. I’ve tried many times in different ways, but I’ve never seen the slightest signs of any spirits around me. My friend told me that it’s just the way the world works, and that some people just cannot contact spirits no matter how hard they try. I don’t know whether or not to keep trying…but I truly want to since there’s someone I’d like to talk to one last time.

The way IN to the spirit world is through your imagination. So, IMAGINE yourself in a place where you are inviting someone from spirit to come talk to you. Imagine someone coming forward..make it up, that’s fine (where do you think the imagination comes from? SPIRIT!). Let the situation play out in your thoughts, imagine the conversation. It will get easier as you go along. Now, you will think…but this is just my imagination, it isn’t real. And I say this…what exactly is real? The spirit world is REAL and yet we must IMAGINE it to experience it! The thoughts that come to you while “playing” in this manner are truly from spirit! THIS is how you connect! Give it a try. The problem is that your Ego, that part of our selves that rules over us in the physical world has many defenses in place to keep you feeling like you are not connecting to spirit. BUT, when you are using your imagination, your Ego relaxes. It thinks “Oh, they are just playing” and so the interaction is allowed! You will sense the truth in the messages coming to you through this exercise! Blessings! Good luck!

hi there, i am hoping u can help me, well i have been trying to contact spirit through meditation mainly but i asked that my friend come through into dream state, well he did come through but when he came through my friend was really angry, he was my best friend and i dont understand why he would be angry with me, what does this mean ?

Is it his anger or yours that you sense? Whatever issues lies deep within us will come out in the dream state. Trust me, your friend is NOT angry. He is in spirit and it is a beautiful state to be in…it is our NATURAL state! If there is a reason why you want to connect with your friend, determine first just exactly WHY you want to connect. To have a better interaction with him, IMAGINE him coming to you and talking to you. Make up the conversation, let it flow. The words will just come to you. You will see the scene in your mind’s eye. Watch it play out. What you are influenced to “make up” is coming from spirit! Explore all the issues between you in this manner and know that truth of what you seek will come through. You’ll just FEEL it, SENSE it and it should bring you peace. If you don’t feel peace, your Ego is still getting in the way. That’s it’s job…it keeps us grounded in the physical world where we are supposed to be focused. Keep making it up, the conversation between you…keep it loving and his message will come through. Spirit works through the energy of LOVE. Blessings to you! Good luck!

Hi Deborah
I lost my very close friend last month, still i am not in a mental state to believe as he went all of sudden. i just wanted to have a word with him if possible i am not able to move on as we used to talk for ours & now all of sudden m alone here & depressed. Please give me a way out to see him or to have a word with him. Waiting for your help!

His physical body is gone…NOT his spirit! He is in fact, closer to you now than when he was alive physically! In spirit, they can mingle with our souls and honestly that is far closer than hugging! Sorrow often blinds us to their presence so it might be hard but give this a try. Know that he is well, happy, and spiritually alive. Know that he is connected with you because we are all connected in spirit and when we focus our thoughts on someone, we are actually interacting with them! So, imagine him coming to you. See him healthy, happy, vibrant with life (because he is!). Picture him sitting beside you, listening, eager to talk. Start talking to him in your mind and then listen for what is said back to you! You will know when you are forcing the words for they will sound like YOU but when you just let it go, let the words come without trying to anticipate them or “guess” what he’ll say, you will have an authentic communication! You will feel it inside that it is him talking to you and that is how you’ll know it’s real. Your ego (conscious mind) might try to tell you that it’s your imagination but the imagination is the way IN to the spirit world. Where do you think thoughts and ideas and dreams come from? Spirit..via the imagination. So, using your doorway into spirit (your imagination) let him talk to you!! Eventually you’ll find yourself doing this quite easily and you’ll be having little conversations with him all the time. You’ll think they are just yourself talking but then something will come through that makes you stop and say…that is so like him to say that!! (smile) Good luck. Blessings to you!

hello , so I lost a family member that I didn’t usually visit often but I still loved her . she died recently and I wonder if I’m able to talk to her alone . I’m kinda scared because I hear it’s dangerous . but I wanna see if I can speak to her by myself but I don’t wanna do anything dangerous . can you give me a suggestion on what I can do to talk to her by myself ?

I don’t know why people think it is dangerous to talk to spirits alone? Perhaps to ensure if something negative comes through it is nice to have some help. I’m not sure. I do know that when you want to talk to a loved one in spirit…you can most definitely do that alone! Make sure that is your intention when you start. Be at peace, in a quiet pleasant atmosphere. Make it clear who you want to talk to, say a prayer, activate your spiritual light (imagine a light glowing in and around you), then invite your loved one to come talk to you. Imagine them in your mind. See them approach you. Use your imagination for it is the doorway in to the spirit world. Things should flow easily and leave a pleasant feeling within you. That is how you know you are having a legitimate contact. The feelings are pleasant and it all comes easily. The answers you get sort of just pop into your head and sometimes even surprise you! Good luck and blessings to you!

I was reading a book in my grandmothers house.at that time i saw a boy who looks like a shadow ie, full black in colour and my grandmother also saw this thing.he was running really fast.i dont know what made me look at it what to do? and is it dangerous?

Well if it was dangerous, you wouldn’t be asking, you’d KNOW! MOST spirit activity is NOT dangerous. If you ever see anything like that again, send it blessings! Wishing blessings upon others….even spiritual beings…is positive, loving energy in motion! Thanks for writing in!! Blessings to you!

Hi Deborah I am open to this possibility because i feel a great longing to communicate and thank my teacher who opened an entire pathway to me and ask his blessing and guidance through the world of academia. I saw him at the Ascension cemetery and hope I can meet him again. The great man cared nothing for the riches of the world and gave his belongings to the poor and bequeathed us with the tools we take for granted today. I really want to connect with him. Can you pray for the poor souls some of the brightest minds in human history G.E.M .Anscombe and others in the graveyard where he sleeps like a beggar. I am talking of Ludwig Wittgenstein. It feels like we have been in touch for a long time he stormed into my brain a 3 years back and I did not know much about him. I am asking you a mad question can I ask for his guidance by giving those sparks of thought,protection and blessing as a young academic making his way because the times we live in are different from his. I feel connected with him in a strange way best not shouted about. May my teacher live happily wherever he is such people served with all their heart. W can we talk?
Raman

i mean i hadn’t consciously read or known much about him. But it seemed the continuation of something we had left behind. Such people like Ramanujan, Beethoven, Wittgenstein the world thought they were mad are gifts sent by god to the world typically their lives are very sad no body understands them. they are not after money or fame. I need his guidance apply his work better because i want to be faithful to his word.

The fact you feel a connection to him tells me that you have known each other in spirit…two souls traveling a similar path! You connect with him through meditation and through study of his writing. When reading stuff written by people you admire, you connect with them spiritually! Their thoughts meld with yours and things come to you…understanding comes to you…clarity on issues come to you! Blessings to you and your studies!

I lost hope of seeing a reply. I taught W to the class and he makes me feel like Janis Joplin in concert. The academia all over is mine full of petty people. People like Wittgenstein did not give a damn and cared a fart for all the petty mind games this tribe plays. All its compassion about the world goes only as far as the next tenure track chess board game and book project or tier publication.

He believed passionately about what he did and he gave his soul into his work and expected that his students followed[if you read the way he taught his students]. His dedication is an inspiration for young early career researchers like me. I am not so equipped as you. Please do help him reach me. I want my teacher to guide me and I want to bring him back to the academy’s discourse. But i need his help. I do not have the courage to say that we have known each other. It is 200 percent genuine. Please spend a minute and ask him to guide me through thoughts. Working on him requires patience and the outcome is not immediate which is quite difficult at my stage. But i will persevere. Please take a minute to say a big thanks from his student. Thank you very much Debroah. I do not have the extrasensory capacity which you have, so a minute of your time in reaching W would mean a lot to me.

The thing is…you DO have the ability! He IS with you when you are thinking about him! But you dismiss it as your own thoughts! You want to communicate with him? Do this…FOCUS on him. Be at peace and in a quiet place. Have paper and pen ready. Ask him a question and WAIT…soon your mind will fill with thoughts and you’ll think…is the me? is this my imagination? BUT HE is influencing your thoughts. Just relax and do not judge, do not question what comes to mind. Write it all down. Just go with it. When you are done you will be amazed at what comes through! All in spirit are available to us…we need ONLY THINK of them! They come and then will communicate if we just open the channel and start talking to them. Our IMAGINATION is our WAY IN to their spiritual world! Be at peace! Blessings to you!!

hi Deborah
I’m from India, I lost my father,I love him very much than anyone else,I already contacted him through ouija board but didn’t satisfy so,please provide me some other possible methods with pictures(if possible) Thank you

I am sorry for your loss. Living in the physical world without those we love is very hard. A very sad part of life for us. Not for THEM, they are in spirit and happy…but definitely hard for those of us not yet in spirit! The easiest way for you to connect with your father is for you to imagine it. I say this over and over because it’s the simple truth in most all spiritual matters. The way IN to the spirit world is through our imagination! So, when you are at peace and comfortable, you are open to loving, spiritual interaction. If you are not at peace but irritated and sad, it keeps the connection unclear for us…clogs our senses. So, being at peace is the BEST way to open the spiritual door. IMAGINING it is the equivalent to walking through it! So, once you are situated in a comfortable position and you are most relaxed (deep, slow breathing helps!) then you can activate your spiritual light to strengthen the connection. Our connection to spirit is ALWAYS possible but again, it is often clouded from our awareness. By imagining yourself glowing in your own spirituality, you widen the door to spirit! Now, imagine your father coming to you. See him in your mind’s eye. Imagine he comes and sits beside you. see him as he always sat, as you remember him. Pretend you are talking to him and make up his answers (what you THINK he might say to you at his most loving and gentle of moods). What you are INFLUENCED to imagine is coming from spirit! He IS with you and he will help influence your imagination to say what he wants to say to you! It is as real as the world around you. Deep inside, you will KNOW this! You will feel peaceful and loved. That is confirmation that it REALLY happened! Blessings to you and good luck!

The BEST way to talk to a loved one in spirit is by inspirational writing. The Ouija board works well but it brings through so many spirits and it gets confusing. With inspirational writing, you are INSPIRED to write your answers. So, you get some paper and a pen and you think about your grandmother. Invite her to come speak to you. Feel your love for her in your heart. Pray for a peaceful interaction. Ask the angels to only let your grandmother come through and speak to you. Imagine you have a light all around you and invite her to enter your light and talk to you. Mentally ask her a question then write down whatever comes into your mind! The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Don’t try to THINK what she might say to you…just let the thoughts drift into your mind and go with it! Blessings to you!! Good luck.

My father’s already dead, four years now. I miss him so much. Everytime I have a problem, I call him. But no responses. Can he possibly hear me? Now, I’m in a huge trouble, I want to ask him ‘What should I do?’ and I’m desperate to see him. Is there any way? Email me please. Thank you.

Your father is with you always. Love is a bond NEVER broken. You are so busy TRYING to contact him that you are not hearing his replies! Or you do hear his replies but don’t like what you hear! So, be still and at peace, be calm. Relax. IMAGINE your father coming to you, sitting beside you and speaking to you. Make up the conversation you are having. Pretend to speak for him. This is the EASIEST way to connect with spirit because the Ego thinks you are just playing around and so allows it to happen. Our Ego is very hard to deal with on a spiritual level because it is designed to keep us grounded in the reality of physical life. Our imagination comes from spirit! It is influenced by spirit! So, when having this imaginary conversation, know that the words you are influenced to say for him are from him! BUT, a word of caution…if his words are condescending, angry, disappointed…THAT is coming from YOU, from YOUR ego. Words from Spirit are ALWAYS loving and encouraging and uplifting…ALWAYS. Pretend you are giving an uplifting speech from him to you…what words come to mind? THOSE are the words HE is influencing you to say! You should FEEL loved, you should FEEL great and blessed and energized. This is your confirmation that you had a true, honest interaction with him! Blessings to you!

Hello deborah ,
my name is Navya ,i’m from india ! i have a elder brother named “veer” , he had a girlfriend named “slaghya” . she loved him truly , cared him like mother , she always wanted to marry him , but my brother didn’t want to marry because he doesn’t have a good career , he thought he cant take good care of her ! just yesterday at 5:30 , she died in accident , she was on bike , she fell down and truck went over her head , she was coming to meet my brother , she was bringing gifts for him , just before 10 mins of accident she talked to my brother . now it is killing all of us with her thought . she was always kind and sweet to me like a sister 😦 ! i just want to contact her , is it possible ?

my boyfriend just passed away and I miss him dearly. I am so afraid that he is not at peace.. please help me how do I get in contact with him? I am so lost without him.. I just want to know that he is okay.

Hi Cassie! I’m sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is NEVER easy! I do wonder, though, why it is that you do not feel your boyfriend is at peace? One culprit, of curse, is your ego, that part of you that helps you operate here in the physical world. The ego often leads us to feel things like that! Why? Because our ego is designed to believe that ONLY living in the physical world is BEST. Our ego has us believe that death is BAD. Our ego leads us to worry, to fear, to doubt…yeah, all those negative traits we have as people…they all come from the ego. It’s part of our physical reality I’m afraid and hard to dismiss!

So, let me tell you with all certainty that your boyfriend is fine. All of us, when we pass into spirit, are at once surrounded by those who love us. They help acclimate us back into the “REAL” world…our TRUE existence. People who pass into spirit through violent means or through suicide have a harder time sometimes transitioning into spirit because of their mind set at physical death…BUT, even they are surrounded by loving angels and souls they’ve traveled through time with.Eventually even they come to understand that physical life is an illusion of our soul and all things done here are not the sum total of our soul. Our conduct as HUMANS in the PHYSICAL world is not WHO we are. Our lifetime here in the physical world is but ONE PART of all that we are. An experience and nothing more. Now I’m not dismissing bad conduct done while in the physical world. Not by any means! Not at all. Those who conduct bad things during their earthly life will account for it in spirit…they will go through what we think of as hell. In the end, though, the angels (God’s helpers…beings who have never come into earthly existence) will help them realize that they are precious spiritual beings and they will know peace. Many people don’t believe this. I realize that and it often gets people riled up when I bring it up. Some people believe that evil people go to hell and stay there for eternity. I say what is the purpose of a soul living an eternity in a hellish existence for doing something done during what to the soul is more like a “dream”? And again, I want to make it clear that I am NOT belittling our earthly existence! The BETTER we conduct ourselves here (in the physical world)…through acts of LOVE, the more advanced we become in our understanding of our highest potential as spiritual beings!

So anyway, I’m getting way off course. I just wanted you to understand that even the worst of people can eventually be “saved” and know peace. So, given that…your boyfriend is well. You love him…and God loves him more than you!! That’s the wonder of it all.

The best way for you to connect with your boyfriend is to be at peace yourself! Be still, quiet your mind, EXPECT nothing, be at ease and LET him come to you. Let him drift into your thoughts, into your heart and into your very soul! When he does, you will be filled with his love…it will wash through you, flood your system and make you cry! Or it did me anyway when I connected with my Nana that way! Spirit speaks without words because words belong only here in the physical world. In spirit, all is communicated through emotion. You will FEEL like you are having a conversation though not a single word will pass between you! BUT, if you want to break the feeling down into words…then speak to him with words. Ask him whatever you need to ask him and then WAIT for his reply. You will FEEL it first and then if you must, put into words as best you can what you are feeling from him. There is really no easy translation for spiritual communication! That’s why mediums have a hard time bringing messages through sometimes! They are trying to put into words what they are FEELING, what they are SENSING. And of course the communication is happening through the EGO and that makes it even harder! The ego is always interfering but that’s it’s job. It’s supposed to keep us grounded in physical reality and so it will constantly interfere with all things spiritual! Once you accept something, though, and no longer question it…then the ego relaxes its “fight” and allows the “belief” to become knowledge to you. Once you KNOW something, the Ego stops fighting it! So, be still and know that your boyfriend is with you when you think about him. When you are feeling sad and lonely and needing him. He is with you! Many blessings to you!

Hello deborah ,
My name is meenakshi. my unbcal die many years ago, I wanna talk with him. Plz tell me the right method, How can i contact with him, I need to talk with him. I wanna know my future. I m in big trouble. i really need to talk with my uncal, his tell me what can i do.

You should not look to those in spirit to tell you what to do or to have them tell you your future. YOU decide your future with the decisions you make and the things you do. Those in spirit can only show their support to us, let us know they are well and with you and that you are never alone. They cannot change your life or determine your fate. If you are in some trouble and need to know what to do…then you must ask your own SELF what is BEST for YOU to do. Be at peace, in a quiet place, reflect on what is wrong and ask for divine guidance in helping you make decisions that will help resolve the negative energy in your life. Your spirit self…your SOUL (or higher self) will gently bring to you the answers you seek. As for talking to your uncle…you have only to envision him in your mind and ask him to come to you BUT do not EXPECT him to fix your problems. He might guide you to the answers you seek as you imagine a conversation between you…he will help to influence the conversation as it takes place in your mind and you can know he is with you BUT if he tells you what to do…that is coming from you, not him. It is usually easier for us to figure out a problem when talking to others, so talk to him if you wish, just don’t rely on him to fix what you have done with your life. Only YOU can do that! Blessings and good luck!

Hey ..this is nehul..from India..I m just 17..
I had a guy frnd… he loved me too much .I did too…but coz of some issues we we not together ..1 month ago he died in an accident by drowning in the water… I will always have a guilt that I gave reasons to hate me.. but I still love him….I just want to tell him …I just want to talk to him… tell him I am Sry… plz help me..

He knows. Believe me. He knows. Your love for him is a spiritual thing and he is now in spirit so there is nothing to stop him from getting the message. He knows and he is at peace. Truly. He understands why you did what you did and he loves and forgives you for all of it. In spirit, they hold no grudges, they understand what we don’t understand while alive in the physical world. He sees it all now. He is clear about everything. He’s with you when you think of him and wants to you be still and KNOW he is there! Blessings!

Hi Deborah,
I want to thank you for publishing this site & for all the time you spend replying to people in need of closure.
I really need advice; help.
My Husband of 15 years & I went through a turbulent couple of years. I moved out, in a confused state of mind, not knowing what I wanted or even what I was doing. He asked me to come home, told me he was depressed (which he NEVER had admitted before). I told him I was moving back in with him – and I meant it. I procrastinated. He tried to kill himself. I found him, called 911… Dr.’s gave him a 25% chance of living. He survived. I should have packed all my things & come home that very day. His life was at risk & I was aware of that, yet STILL did nothing to save him. He was heartbroken. I found him again 2 weeks later, again called 911, but this time he was brain dead. I watched him suffer for 5 days before his parents made the decision to take him off life support. He was just 38. (Which coincidentally was his favorite number ever since I knew him when he was 17) I carry this deep rooted guilt with me everywhere I go, but feel I can’t speak of it.
I feel him with me & am very close to being able to communicate with him, I believe.
I had a, “dream,” a few weeks after he passed, where we were both laying there (it was strange though because neither of us had bodies, it was what I can only describe as a sixth sense that we were together. All we could see was this beautiful bright, warm light coming from every direction. It felt very similar to laying next to each other on the beach, soaking up the rays. Without one word ever being spoken we coexisted in this beautiful place and exchanged loving thoughts, but never words. I think he wanted me to see where he was. Either that, or I’m crazy.
I’d give anything to be able to have these dreams more often, or to learn to speak to him and communicate better.
I think he told me something today which prompted me to come to your site. I was laying here, thinking about him & wishing he would communicate with me, then it hit me – I was relying on him coming to me, him to initiate communication. Why should I expect him to do all the work? So, here I am trying to make better sense of all of this.
I’m sorry this is so long.
I miss him so much. Any pointers you could give me to help us communicate would be so very much appreciated.
I did read everything you write above & plan to try the crystal ball & possibly a Ouija board, but I have no one to do it with. & my understanding is that it is not safe to do alone. Also, it seems that spirits seemed bothered when contacted via Ouija board. Do you know anything about that?
Thank you, Deborah.
God Bless.

Hi Lauren! I am so sorry about your loss! First of all, though, I have to tell you that his decision to do what he did is not your fault. You can’t control what other people think, or feel or do! If he was that needy for you, then even your being with him wouldn’t have been enough. People who suffer a need so great they can’t live with themselves are hurting in ways that you cannot help. He is definitely in a good place…a peaceful place and you DID experience with him the “world” he now lives in. Now, I know telling you that someone you love is in spirit and in a great place doesn’t ease the hurt, but we must keep things in perspective. We are so focused on how sad we are that they are gone that for US, the one left behind, it’s the worst possible thing that happened. For HIM, though, he was done here. He didn’t want to stay and he was using you as an excuse to go. But don’t carry that guilt with you. Each of us are responsible for our own actions. We can’t blame anything we do on anyone but our self. He made that decision…NOT YOU. He’s now at peace, but not you! He knows you feel bad and that’s why you had that dream. He wanted you to see he’s okay and there is nothing for you to feel guilty about! In spirit, words are not necessary! Almost all communication from spirit is done through feelings! Words are very limiting and here in the physical world, we suffer many, many limitations! The BEST way for you to contact him is not through the Ouija…the best way to communicate personally with someone you love is through automatic writing…or as some call it…inspirational writing! Sit quietly, THINK strongly about him, IMAGINE him sitting right next to you! That will bring him to you. Then, let the words come. Don’t try to make them up what you THINK he might say…just write whatever flows into your mind. FEEL his presence within you! Souls mingle, he will be part of you during that moment. He will INSPIRE you to write his responses. Think of a question and then wait quietly. Eventually you’ll want to write and just let it go! Don’t worry about the way it’s written or if you spelled it right or anything like that! Spirit doesn’t worry about spelling or proper grammar. Spirit thinks in emotion and then YOU are trying to put the emotion into words you understand! Every time you think strongly about him and are missing him terribly, he is with you! He’ll give you a sign if you ask him to! Then you must be patient and wait for it! I hope this helps! Peace be with you! Blessings!

Hello Deborah, my dad passed away 8 days ago and I hadn’t seen him in 10 years. I live in San Diego and he was deported to Mexico so it was hard to go over there. He kept on asking our family members to get a hold of my sister and I so we can see eachother. We were my dad’s joy and he loved us very much. I’ve been in pain ever since I found out that he passed away and I can’t live with the fact that I didnt take the time to go visit him.

I’ve been experiencing things that seem confusing to me and I would like your opinion please. Last Friday I was driving to work and I started crying and yelling his name telling him that I love him. As soon as I did that, an oldie song that reminds me of him came on so I started laughing thinking that he did that so I stop crying. The next song was weird, they lyrics said that “he’s on the outside looking in” so I felt as if that was the message that my dad was conveying. Now, this was on the Pandora Radio Station so I dont know if it’s possible for a spirit to control what song is played next or just a coincidence? Also, I was carrying his ashes with me. That same day, I told him to give me signs that he is with me, that I wont be scared. Then later that same evening, I was opening the trunk of my car and looking inside the car when a CD ejected by itself. I talk to him all the time and carry his ashes with me.

Do you think that was my dad? What is he trying to tell me with these signs? Do you think he forgive me?

Hi Elizabeth! I’m sorry you were not able to see your dad before he passed into spirit. But know this…once he was in spirit, he made a beeline for you! (smile) Of course he is not upset with you! He loves you and now he is with you all the time…when you are thinking about him or in times of need even when you aren’t thinking about him! Believe me, he is not upset that you were not able to go see him. Once we cross into spirit, we realize that our time on earth is very brief! There is no time in spirit. They don’t recognize it or notice it because there is only NOW. Most certainly it is a sign our loved ones are with us when we are thinking about them and suddenly a song comes on that reminds you of them or is special to you in some way! NOTHING is a coincidence! Coincidences are signs of divine plans in action. Everything happens for a reason. Everything has meaning and the spirit world is constantly trying to make contact with us. They hope we’ll notice something out of the ordinary, something that makes us stop and think, something that is related and yet SHOULDN’T BE (such as a coincidence!). Continue to talk to him, it makes him very happy! He loves to see you happy and hear you laugh. He doesn’t think there is anything to forgive so there’s not need for concern. Truly, he is now very happy. It cannot be otherwise in spirit…all is well there! And now he wishes to let you know that too! First thing our loved ones want to do when they cross over and realize how wonderful it is…they want to connect with us and let us know. Signs of his being around will be all around you. As soon as you even THINK it…then that is when you KNOW he’s there with you! Blessings to you!!

Hi Deborah
My father died just four days before my birth. Im 23 years old now and i really miss him because my present father(his younger sibling only) hasnt been much loving or caring towards me. All i know about him is the things that i hear from my other family members like i resemble him alot and all that stuff. I feel a very strong connection with him and i really am curious to know how he feels about me in his other world and how he actually was in person. So is it possible for me to talk to him?

You certainly can talk to him! You think about him so strongly because he is with you all the time watching over you, loving you. You feel his nearness though you aren’t really aware of it. Every time he suddenly pops into your mind…he has come near to be with you! Also, when you are thinking about him, you bring him to you. I am so sorry that he passed into spirit before your birth. That must be hard to grow up without him. Especially if you did not get what you needed from the man who has taken over the father role in your life. Sit quietly with pencil and paper if you wish…though you don’t need to…why it’s a good idea is because you’ll forget stuff afterwards! Be at peace, soft music maybe, a candle to help you focus. Relax your body and then invite him to come to you. Imagine you see him in your mind. You don’t even have to picture what he looks like…he’s not really in human form anymore anyway! In any case, he can appear to you in your thoughts however you imagine him. Don’t force the issue, just LET it happen. Wait quietly. Then picture him coming. See him in your mind sitting down next to you. Start asking your questions. Write down whatever first enters your mind. Don’t analyze it or edit it or try to figure it out or anything. Just write. Even if it’s gibberish at first…go with it. Usually gibberish is how it starts until you learn to let go and they learn to communicate with you through writing. You will “hear” his answers in your head and think you are imagining them. Your imagination is how he communicates with you! Our imagination is our way IN to spirit and their way IN to our physical life! Whatever you are moved to write…it is HIM influencing the answers! You can tell if you are interfering with the answers and saying what you WANT to hear. You’ll just know that you are restricting him. When you realize that you are…relax, ask the question again, wait for the answer that will just suddenly enter your mind and flow through you. His answers will feel very natural and you’ll even start wondering where they are coming from…you’ll be having two thoughts going on in your head at the same time…his and yours! Write what you are moved to write because later, when you are done, you will forget most of it! Your dad has given you many signs to let you know he is with you. You’ve even thought it was him a time or two and then you maybe dismissed it as wishful thinking? He’s very proud of you! Even I can feel that! Blessings to you! Good luck!

dear deborah,
although I have posted already i have missed one thing that i want to talk to my wife alone . completely alone as i am the only one in my rent house after her departure. please give me a solution. I have full faith that she is around me.

dear deborah,
i have lost my beloved wife recently on 29/11/2014. both of us were attached with each other heartly nothing was getting importance ( any objective) other our love to each other. but unfortunately she has departed. and the most saddest part is that at the right moment i was absent there. it was our 2nd anniversary. both of us had a dream of a cute baby girl. which was not fulfilled and our relation ended with deep sorrow. i want to talk to my beloved’s spirit. is it possible. i hope she will listen to me. i want her to take rebirth and will memorize all the things .now I want to know in which way I should call her spirit? i love her too much. i am unable to control my feelings after her departure.

I and my my wife love each other and understand each other very much but unfortunately she has passed away on 29th of november 2014 due to kidney failure complications. at the right time of her death I was not there. in the living days she used to say that she will be with me and around me after death too…both of us believed each other blindly. now I am very keen to talk to her spirit alone. can I call her spirit alone in my home. as I am the only person after her departure in the rent home. i want to talk to her and I want to say her to take rebirth so that she can memorize all i will wait for her.

Hello! I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing can really be said to make it easier. But I can tell you this…she is with you still! Your strong love will keep her near until she knows you are okay. When you think of her, she is with you! I don’t know if you know this, but many people like to cross over when the one they love is not around! I’m not sure why but it happens quite, quite often! Maybe because they think it will be easier for you to let go of them if they depart to spirit while you are elsewhere. Some may do it because it’s easier for them to cross into spirit when their loved ones aren’t around. But please do not feel guilty about it. She chose the moment she wanted to cross over and it happened exactly as she wished for it to happen! Now, if you want to talk to her…sit quietly. Invite her to come talk to you. Imagine her coming to you, see her in your mind. Your imagination will be her way IN to your thoughts, your soul! She will mingle with you and you will be filled with lovely, wonderful feelings! The spirit world does not communicate with words. That’s why it’s so hard for mediums and Ouija boards and the like to work properly. All is done through emotion. But, your soul recognizes the communication and you will feel like you are talking…though you are not using a single word between you! If, however, you need to communicate with words…then speak to her. Once you feel her emotionally, then ask her your questions and wait for the reply to come to you. Don’t try to guess what she’ll say. Just let it flow gently into your thoughts. The answers should feel right and bring you peace. Those in spirit will do nothing and say nothing to cause us sorrow or pain. She wouldn’t do that. She wants you to know she is well and she wants you to be well! Give it a try! Be at peace! Try lighting a candle to help you focus on quieting your mind for the contact! Blessings and peace to you!

Hi Deborah
I lost one of my closest friends through suicide 6 months ago and I want nothing more than to have some form of contact with her.. I am a spiritual person and I believe that she is still here with my but I need to hear from her.. we hadn’t talked as much in the months coming up to her death and this is something I feel a lot of guilt over.. we had such a strong connection in the physical world and I just need to know that she is okay and whether she still loves and cares for me I miss her so much and just want to hear from her x

Hi Rachel! The fact that you are thinking about her so strongly is a pretty good indication that she is indeed around you! When those we care about cross over into spirit, they actually become more connected to us than they were when they were alive! In the physical world we are limited in many, many ways…in spirit, we are not limited by anything to do with our self. BUT, we are limited in spirit to connecting with those in the physical world because of THEIR limitations! So, when you think of someone in spirit, they “hear” you because your focus on them brings them to you! So the more you think about her, the more she’s around…the more you think of her! Those who commit suicide do so because their life just didn’t turn out the way they had hoped or wanted and it just becomes too much for them to deal with. They are overwhelmed and though you might think you could have prevented it…the fact is, the only person who can make any of us better are our selves and only our selves. You can’t overcome another’s will. You can’t make someone feel what you want them to feel. Your love can surround them and that is a good thing but it won’t make them better because only they can make themselves better. Often, those who are feeling bad will deliberately avoid those they love because they don’t want them to know what’s going on with them. They don’t want anyone else to feel guilty or bad for the way they are feeling. The good thing is that people like that are immediately surrounded by loving spirits when they cross over and they have great support while they work through their issues. They see things more clearly on the other side and most will regret their decision to cross back into spirit because they see what they could have done to make things better for themselves! They also understand that those left behind are sad and shocked and they are concerned about that. So, to free her of any guilt for what she’s done…send her love. Let her know you don’t hate her for what she’s done. Just love her and you’ll feel her love and you’ll both be free of the pain the situation has brought upon you. You’ve no need to worry about her. Honestly, she’s in the BEST hands!! (smile) Your prayers for her will also help in her growing understanding of things and help her along with her spiritual growth!! Just remember when you focus on someone who is in spirit…they “hear” you and are at once with you. Once you feel that connection, talk to her! Although they don’t use words anymore…in spirit all is done through emotion…she’ll understand you because of the emotion that goes along with your words! In fact, once you feel her near…then just experience that…just FEEL her presence! You can have an entire conversation without a single word passing between you!! And moreover..it will be a satisfying conversation!! Blessings to you both!!

Good question. I’m not really sure. I’ve never tried it. I know if you use a scanner radio that you can talk to them…you set the radio to scan and then speak to the spirits you are trying to contact and sometimes they can talk to you through the scanner…words will form. It’s pretty cool!

Hello, I am kayla I’m 21 I have a daughter named ava she’s going on 2 yrs this nov. When my fiance and I were living in our apartment months back, I always felt like there was a presence there with me. I am a stay at home mom so most of the time it was just my daughter and me at home. I noticed multiple toys would go off at the same time by them selves and sometimes I heard voices or just unexplained noises. I then began to notice a lot of the pictures I would take of my daughter turned out very weird. The one that concerns me the most is a picture of ava with a black shadow person in the background, floating that appeared to be carrying rabbit. My question is could that be a guardian angel of some sort? Or could it be something dangerous following her? When I felt the presence I felt scared rather than happy and peaceful.

Hi Kayla! The fact is this…spirits are around all of us all the time! But included in the mix are angels! Angels, however, do not move things or cause toys to go off or anything of the sort. Angels are simply around to watch over us and help when we ASK. For angelic help, you MUST ask them! So asking the to keep you safe from negative energy is certainly something they can do. So, whatever is causing the toys to activate and is showing up in your pictures…those are not angels, those are spirit entities. Just because one is dark doesn’t mean it’s bad! The fact you were scared does not mean it was bad either! Fact is, it’s natural for us to be scared of something we don’t understand! I don’t think you have a bad spirit around you. Something is trying to get your attention when they activate toys or you hear voices and noises. If you don’t want that sort of interaction then send out the mental command for them to leave you alone…to leave your home. BLESS them! Blessings someone is positive energy in motion so when you send blessings out to a spirit, that is a show of faith to them that you mean well and the positive energy is always a great thing to have going on. You can also imagine yourself and your daughter as glowing bright with light (your spiritual energy!). This is VERY protective. Negative entities will not enter your light when you are focused on it like that…they can’t. Since our child can’t do that on her own yet, when you activate it for her…it’s just as effective! You are spiritually connected and her soul will respond to your imagery. LIGHT will ALWAYS win over negative energy. Always! Blessings to you and your daughter!

I was just wondering, if a spirit couldn’t speak English when they were still alive, would they still be able to communicate with us during a ouija board session? I did a ouija board session the other day and the words that the spirit was spelling out all were spelled wrong, and usually they would spell maybe the first three to four letters correctly, and then there would just be seemingly random vowels and letters. (It made it hard for us to understand what they were saying at times) So I was thinking, what if the spirit’s native language wasn’t english? Would they still be able to spell english to communicate with us?

Also, is it true that if a ouija board spells words wrong and tries to predict the future when we ask it to, that it’s a demon? I was doing research on the topic of ouija boards and one of the sites that I came across stated this. But I do remember reading on another website that it is normal for ouija boards to have bad spelling and use shortforms and such, and sometimes will even be gibberish or words spelt backwards.

Hi Marty! Great questions! Language is something we need only “here” (in the physical world). The spirit world is not divided in any way by language. There is no “language” in spirit and thus no barriers. Communication is not done with “words”. Spirits actually communicate with feelings. It’s hard to explain but their spirit energy sort of mingles with your spirit energy and there is an exchange of communication that occurs that you fully understand though not a single word will pass between you! When working with the Ouija, spirits you are talking with must put to words…using letters…that they no longer have anything to do with in the spirit world and so their messages come through rather garbled. Since your souls (of everyone operating the board) are actually mingling with the spirit’s soul (of whomever it is you are talking to), you are actually receiving the message spiritually…and then trying to relate the message via words on the board. Your subconscious goes to work and tries to spell out the communication by moving the planchette about the board. BUT, you are not the only one operating the board and so you have several people trying to spell out the message at the same time, and of course, as usual, we all receive messages differently and express the same message differently. This combined effort by each of you to spell out the words is not going to happen “in sync”. Not usually anyway. That’s why yes and now questions are best…there’s nothing to interpret but a positive or negative reply! Although I say your subconscious takes over and tries to relay the message by moving the planchette about the board, it does not mean you are consciously, purposefully pushing the planchette. Your subconscious mind…which is communicating with the spirit…is actually moving the planchette by using your personal energy field rather than your muscles. This is why you only have to “go with it” as the planchette moves about.

What happens most often when using the Ouija is that someone will get a reply in their head (they know the word being spelled before it spells anything) but they might stay quiet to see if it’s going to spell out what they “think” it’s going to say. Only all the operators are doing the same thing! Next time, when operating the board and the planchette begins to move…meaning a message is being communicated…pay attention to what your mind is telling you! Have everyone share what they “think” the message is instead of staying quiet about it. I know you all think this will influence the answer but the fact is…the answer is already being influenced by all of you based on your own interpretations of the message. We don’t need a Ouija board to connect with spirit but most of us think we do. The Ouija board actually frees our mind from the strict controls of our consciousness. The board ALLOWS us to receive the message when we would otherwise call it just our imagination. We limit ourselves a lot when it comes to spirit contact. For some reason, we are more free to accept the idea that the Ouija board can help us communicate with spirit. Fact is, you can communicate with spirit simply by sitting still, concentrating on who you want to talk to, and then inviting them to come talk. A conversation will take place in your head but you’ll say it’s just your imagination. Fact is, the imagination is our way in to spirit! As for the other question…about predicting the future. Yes, some spirits will mess with us and give wrong information. People don’t just die and become instantly good and so if you hook up with a spirit out to cause trouble…well, that’s what you get, messages that mean nothing. Spirits of that ilk will most often try to frighten us (I always shut down communication with spirit when I get anything that frightens or worries us…loving entities will do nothing of the sort! Loving entities will only spread messages that are useful and helpful and NOT worrisome or scary. If really bad stuff comes through…then you have hooked up with a negative spirit and you need to close the communication. Order them to stay away, BLESS them (a great way to make them retreat from your awareness!) and then end the contact.

The thing about predicting the future is the future is always changing! Every time we make a decision on something…we change the course of our future. So, even the answers you get from well-meaning spirits regarding your future are based on things as they stand IN THAT MOMENT. BUT, just by giving you an answer might create a different future for you because you might now make a decision based on their answers that will change the course your future takes. Predictions that are going to occur SOON or actually more accurate because it’s probably a good expectation that things won’t change too drastically within a day or two. Trying to say what will occur months or years from now…all based on current decisions. The likelihood of them happening…slim. Or good. Depending on if you stay on the current course or not. Every moment of our day presents before us numerous possibilities. Once we take a course of action, or make a decision…we lock in on one of those possibilities. This is a never ending process. That’s why sayings such as, “If you don’t like the way things are going, CHANGE your mind, your thinking and you’ll go a different way!” are so true! Does any of this help with your questions? Thanks for writing in!! Blessings to you!

Yes! In spirit there are no “babies” and pets are not “just animals” but spiritual beings as well. When you’ve made an emotional connection to an animal, that brings their spirit energy out of the general “pool” of collective animal spirit and makes them an “individual” … in essence, they become divided from the “pack” (animals are part of a collective spirit energy unless they have human interaction…this pulls them from the collective pool into their own spiritual existence!) So yes, you can interact with pets that are now in the spirit world. It is all done through “emotion” but you can loosely put the experience into words though it’s hard to explain, even to yourself. You just sort of understand the communication you enjoyed with each other. As for babies…their spirit selves are mature…it’s only when entering physical life that they begin as a baby then mature into an adult. Their SOUL, however, is always what we would consider “mature”. So, when babies go back to spirit, they are not babies anymore, they are fully aware “adult” spiritual beings. You will recognize their energy when they come to commune with you (which happens when you think of them with concentrated focus). You might get this sense that it’s a “baby” and the one you are trying to connect with. The experience will leave you with a wonderful, loving feeling! Babies that come into the world and then quickly leave it are very special spiritual beings. They knew coming in (to physical life) that they wouldn’t be here long and yet they do it anyway…to fulfill some sort of purpose we probably won’t understand until we too are in spirit! Blessings to you! Thanks for asking!

I have, as many others have, lost many loved ones in this life. Some days I wonder if I am the last one left in the family tree, outside of cousins and such. I’m an art student making his way through college at the age of 22 and I have recently been noticing more and more happenings in my life. Almost day to day. A few of the most recent encounters have been whispers or blowing in my ear where there is no one there, as well as feeling a hand glide down my skin when I am still. I have attempted to reach out but haven’t heard anything yet. I am comfortable and unafraid, and believe that despite a depressing past I have a very positive state of mind about my life and those around me; essentially I just love everyone and everything I ever meet and have more or less let go of hateful ways over the years of growing up.

I guess what I’m asking for is advice perhaps. I would like to know who is near me and around me, and if I’m being followed. I have a good friend who reads cards and a few times when we’re together she mentions there is someone else with me, without me even bringing it up to her. I’ve considered a Ouija board, but I’m open to try anything. I also count signs from daily life such as crows and ravens, for some reason they always get my attention and I believe they carry good and bad omens more or less, one just has to open their mind to what it may be and what’s going on.

Anyways, thank you in advance if you do reply, and hopefully between school breaks and graduation I may be able to sit down and read some of your work. I also love to write a lot myself and find it to be a very therapeutic method of dealing with stress and troubles of the mind and heart.

Hi Jeff! Thanks for sharing with me about your experiences. I get good energy from you just reading your words. The fact you are an art student tells me that you are quite connected spiritually. Creativity is spirit in motion. You are channeling spirit when you are creating. Since you mentioned that you like to write, you might find automatic writing will work really well for you! It can also be called inspirational writing. Although they are slightly different, both work on the same idea. What you are experiencing is quite common. Thus, that means you are encountering a pretty “normal” occurrence. You are indeed surrounded by loving entities. None of them mean any harm by you. The fact you are open and aware encourages them to try and give you a sign now and then. Unfortunately contacting spirit and having open communication with them is not easy. It IS easy, but we make it difficult. And that’s probably because we were brought in the world to focus on our physical life and not the spirit world but being spiritual beings, when we encounter a spiritual situation, we are more interested in that than our physical life! And why wouldn’t we be? Our spiritual life is so much better! So, what you can do to try and make contact is sit in a quiet room (unless you like soft music in the background!) and relax. Have paper and pencil ready and when you get any thoughts come to you, write them down. Ask a question and then write what comes to mind. Don’t worry if you think it is YOU making up the answers! Because you have invited the contact, they can help influence your thoughts and so what you write is truly inspired by your spirit friends! If, though, you get anything negative in that message…something you don’t find positive and reassuring…then that’s your ego talking. Our ego’s were placed within our physical body to help us operate in the physical world. and this, of course is best done without inviting the spirit world to interact with you! So, if you can set the ego aside and let go…spirit will talk to you. They will inspire images and possibly even inspire you to create something that expresses how they feel about you or the message they hope to get through. I like to burn incense because it’s relaxing to the mind. Also, if you have a candle to focus on, it give the conscious mind something to do. Besides, candles represent LIGHT which is love/spirit. Best of luck to you and let me know how it goes! And if you like writing…you ought to indulge yourself now and then. Blessings to you!!

Not to take away rom the rest of it, but that flashlight thing does not really work. I am a paranormal investigator, and a believer. But the flashlight trick is just a trick. What happens is that the batteries have energy in them, and it builds up until the flashlight will blink on. If you time between the light flashes, you will probably find they are fairly evenly spaced…so not really in response to questions. We do not use that method for investigations since we do not find it to be legitimate. We have tried a touch lamp…but did not get any results with that so far.

Hey there! Thanks for giving us the “down side” on some of these techniques! And not to start an argument or anything…I have received immediate responses after asking a question…even after spending various times between questions discussing what to ask or discussing what was just answered! I don’t believe in “coincidence” for everything is designed to happen intentionally from spirit. So, given that…ANYTHING can work for spirit communication but that doesn’t mean it WILL every time. We did have occasions where I would say that your explanation is exactly right. But then we had occasions where it just didn’t fit that explanation at all. For instance…we had one session where we fired off like five or six questions and got IMMEDIATE yes responses…longer “on” times. No answers were quick…like a flash on and off. Is it coincidental that it would flash quick to some questions…right after asking, and then turn on for longer times for other questions? I think the energy has to be right and the channel open really well for it to work. There were some occasions where we would sit and wait for long periods of time before the flashlight came on. I think spirit boxes are similarly “up to chance” on actually making communication. Getting random words coming through when it’s scanning the millions of words floating “out there” in the air around is actually bound to happen…whether you are trying to make contact or not. BUT, having said that…again, I don’t believe in “coincidence”. So, it certainly stands to reason that spirits CAN use that method of contact if they feel moved to do so and can manipulate their energies enough to bring through a desired word or words. To tell the truth, I don’t particularly care for the flashlight or the spirit box to spirit communication. I prefer to use a medium, table tipping, spirit boards and automatic writing. But there can be plausible arguments for all those as well! This is what makes spirit communication so difficult to prove. There’s too many POSSIBLE explanations to counter the validity of a contact. Maybe you’ll share an experience or two with us on one of your investigations? That would be pretty cool! We are all here to learn, discover and explore! Blessings to you!

My name is tracy and I lost my grandpa 3 days before Christmas also lost my cousins mom on New Years how may I contact with them again I miss them and want to tell them I love them one last time? Call me 1-843-592-4610 thank u

Sorry for your physical loss. Though it’s hard to adjust to life without their physical presence, our loved ones do remain spiritually close after they cross over into spirit! In fact, they are probably MORE involved with you in this way than they were in physical life! I’ve a few posts that I’ve done with suggestions on some things you can try: https://deborahjhughes.com/2013/10/29/ghosts-spirit-contact-and-paranormal-activity-ghostly-dramas-post-roundup/ Check out the ones that interest you and then try what you feel comfortable with trying. You should ALWAYS feel good and SAFE when connecting with spirit. If not…stop! If you know what your intentions are…connect with your grandpa for instance…and do so with love in your heart…then you should experience a really joyful emotional experience! Good luck and blessing to all of you!

My mom passed away last April. I continually had dreams about her. 4 days after her death, I dreampt that I picked up the phone and heard her muffled voice from far away saying “hello.” After that, she never spoke in my dreams and I couldn’t touch her. My son had friends over one night and they brought a ougi board over. I didn’t learn about the board until the next day. The night that the kids were playing with the ougi board, I dreampt if my mother, we were able to speak to each other and hug each other. I was do happy to be able to touch her again. Since then, I randomly feel her presence and smell her scent. Could the ougi board have anything to do with it even though I wasn’t personally using it?

The Ouija board acts as a “doorway” for which spirit can come through into our “world” (dimension, plane of existence). It’s very possible she used it to raise her energy so that you could become aware of her. Yes, she IS with you. Every time you think about her, you draw her energy to you. The fact you think the Ouija board let her come through is actually WHY you are getting a better connection with her! Your acceptance that the board can do this is what ALLOWS it to happen. The Ouija works so well because our Ego treats it as if it’s a game. Thus, the ego (that part of our personality that guards our self from spirit) is relaxed from guard duty and the spiritual interaction can take place. It’s not a game, though, so be sure the kids understand that! When not properly controlled, it can allow all sorts of things through. Good and bad! Prayer and POSITIVE intention will keep the “doorway” safe from negative spirits. Blessings to you and to your loving mom!! (smile)

This is how I contacted my grandfather. I sat quietly with a candle lit (just to set the mood and give me something to focus on). I had a pencil and paper before me. I did a light meditation to calm and relax me and then invited my grandfather to come talk to me. I focused on seeing him (in my mind’s eye) and then imagined him coming to me and talking. I wrote down everything I imagined him saying to me. And guess what? That was him talking to me! Spirit can connect with us spiritually through the power of our imagination. You might say it’s just wishful thinking but SOMETHING put those thoughts there! (smile) Now, if you get anything negative out of that experience…you did NOT connect with your grandfather. Whenever you interact with a spirit of a loved one, it is ALWAYS a wonderful, positive and loving experience. NEVER will it make you feel bad. Give it a try. The fact is, whenever you think of him, he is there with you, putting thoughts in your head that you probably dismiss as your own thoughts. And they are…he is just connecting with you THROUGH them. hard to explain but it’s real! Trust me! blessings to you!

I lost my grandmother three yrs back but I still miss her n I really wanna talk to her can I still make contact with her coz its been so long wat if she has already taken birth somewhere else
plz help!
Thank u 🙂

Even if your grandmother was reborn to a new life, you can still contact her spirit! Our soul has many “lives” and all exist at once. This is why, even with reincarnation and the fact that all time is happening NOW…we can still make contact with loved ones who “live” in other lives. Her spirit is with you always…especially when you keep her fresh in your mind. In fact, when she suddenly pops into your head … that is probably her come for a visit! When her spirit is near, you pick up on it and she comes to mind. So, yes, you can still talk to her. Do so during a meditation or invite her to come visit while you sleep! Good luck!! Many blessings to both of you.

Hi Deorah I have seen a lot in my life ,thing that u people would like to see .and the bad things that use wish use never seen .just asking u if u can help me control it , cause I tried to forget it but it always comes back. I just want to feel better and injoy my life.

It’s a fact that bad things exist along with the good! BUT, we can promote positive things to happen more often by empowering our own personal energy…in a positive way. The best way to do this is to constantly “brighten” your inner light. As a spiritual being, our “light” is bright and filled with love. But as a physical being…we have darkness surrounding us. The thing we all must learn is to brighten our personal light enough to break through that dark barrier! You can do this by surrounding yourself with things that promote positive feelings within you. By listening to uplifting music and watching uplifting movies/shows. Sing, dance, create…whatever makes you feel pleasure in being alive! Mentally imagine your light growing bright within you and bursting forth into your immediate surroundings. Pray for help. Ask your constant companions…the angels…to help you keep negative energy away. Whatever you FOCUS on, that is what you will encounter. Focus on bringing positive energy into your awareness and that is what will happen. Now, negative stuff will still come around…its the way of this world…but combat it with your own personal power! Energize yourself and use your own “light” to dissipate the dark energy bothering you. It sounds a little crazy but it really works. I do it all the time and I am never disappointed. And I’ve been through a LOT. Look up “Chakras” and learn how to mentally activate yours. This helps empower you. Many blessings to you!

Hi,my self Bijayalaxmi I have recently lost my younger brother who died by swallowing poison I cant live without him I want to communicate with him to know why did he do so?And where is he now?
Thanking You
sincerely
Bijayalaxmi

I am so sorry for your loss. I know for you this is a horrible tragedy and I feel your pain. When I lost my beloved grandparents, I wondered how I shall go on without them in my life. But then I learned they are still very much a part of my life! Now more so than before because distance cannot separate us! (smile). Your brother is still spiritually connected to you and when you are thinking about him, longing for him…he comes to you. How sad for him and for you that you don’t realize it. We maintain a connection that functions on an emotional level. You could be thinking about him and suddenly just feel this overwhelming sense of his presence…because his spirit self mingles with yours! I have experienced this with my grandmother. Words are not needed when conducting spiritual communication. You just know as do they what you feel and what you want to convey to each other. The best way to feel his presence is to meditate. To get comfortable, breath clear and deep, focusing on your breath, pulling in spiritual energy, letting go of your pain, your sorrow and your stress. Feel the spiritual love come in and spread through your being. Then when you are feeling comfortable, relaxed, and good…invite him to come to you then wait. Wait for his spirit to mingle with your own. It will be like a tidal wave of emotion spreading through you and it’s quite wonderful!! Know he is sharing that special moment with you. During this time, you may come to understand why his passing had to happen. Now, the problem might be that you won’t want to hear the answer. If you block what he wants to tell you then you will not know why his death happened. Know this…we all die when our SOUL is ready to return to our spiritual awareness. It’s very hard for us who must remain in life…to carry on with our birth plans…plans we set in motion prior to our birth. I send you peace and blessings! Good luck and many blessings to your brother. His spirit energy is high and I can understand why you miss him. Now, though, you can enjoy him in a different way. Blessings to you both.

Hi,
i lost my granny this Feb..since then in my dreams i have been seeing her..as if she wanted to come back to us..after that we did some puja at home. and since then all is fine.
now that i am planning for a baby, i really want my granny to come back as my baby. how can i know whether this is possible? bdw, i was her most favourite granddaughter and till her last breath she loved me most.

Your granny will always be with you…you have a bond and physical death does not sever that bond. In fact, now she is in spirit, she can be with you more! I think she will want to be your baby’s guardian spirit rather than come back so soon. Physical life is so challenging. I don’t believe we are so eager to return once we are back in spirit! But how nice to know your baby will have such a special guardian angel! Whenever you suddenly think of her for no apparent reason…when thoughts of her suddenly pop into your head…that is when she is near, checking on you, giving you her love. Blessings to you and to your granny. She seems very special. Even I feel her peace. May the new year be a joyous one for you and yours!!

Hi Deborah. … a few years i lost both my parents i tried doing meditating i dont know if i actually connect with them or was just my imagination. Would like to know if they are both together and fine… thanks….

If the experience was a POSITIVE one for you then you most likely did indeed connect with them! Our loved ones respond to us quite quickly when we set out with the intent of contacting them. This is why mediums can do what they do…their intent to connect opens the communication to those they are trying to connect to! I bet you have this “feeling’ they are together and happy don’t you? Go with it. Our FEELINGS are our soul’s way of communicating to us!! Your parents are close in spirit…to each other and to you. They have very loving energy and I think you actually feel them quite a bit but aren’t sure if it’s real or wishful thinking. It’s real!! Blessings to you and to your parents! I can see them smiling. It makes me smile. Your mother touches her heart…a sign for love! I know this doesn’t make you miss them less but I hope it helps give you some peace. Whenever you think of them…they are with you. If you want proof…ask for a sign and then be open to it! I do this all the time with my grandparents. They never let me down. I feel them around me whenever I am thinking of them. It’s very comforting. Wishing you joy in the new year ahead!!

thanks for sharing your experience! I’ get so high everytime I read your answers. I’am working towards becoming a psychic medie. I went to a course to see if I had any psychic skills. It was so awesome and I was able to “see” and feel this person from the other side. And the data was correct! Now the course has ended I want to know how to keep training? I´am still novice but I am willing to train hard. Love Anders

Hi Anders! I too took a course in mediumship! My problem is not trusting myself enough when out around people! I get shy and hold back. Unless I am palm reading, or table tipping or tarot card reading…for some reason, I can go with “spirit” quite easily when doing those things. I have channeled but with only a couple people at most in the room with me. I trusted they enough to let go and go with the flow of spirit that moved through me…an awesome experience!!! I use my spiritual connection to write to everyone who contacts me on this blog. I never know for sure what I am going to say until it is typed. My stories are like that as well. I feel they, too, are channeled from spirit. By creating a character with medium abilities, I think I can explore my own ability! Creation is manifesting spirit and we all are in creation mode every moment we are alive.

I am reading a book “Mediumship Made Simple, A step by step guide for communicating with spirit.” by Lynn Lloyd and she said something that really hit home to me. She said that we shouldn’t worry about the information coming through when doing a “reading” (channeling from spirit!). The fact is, whatever we are moved to say…THAT is what is needing to be said. Think about that…where from did those words you speak come from? Where do thoughts come from? The one thing to keep in mind is that we can only allow information to come through that we can accept. Spirit must work within the allowances of our mindset when bringing messages through. Our mindsets are based on our beliefs, our knowledge, and our experiences. If we have a “Christian” mindset, for example, then what we bring through must be acceptable to our christian beliefs. As for me, I don’t like to limit myself to a particular religion so I allow thoughts to come through that can go along with several different mindsets. But that doesn’t mean I’m unlimited…no. There are some mindsets I don’t go along with and so information or ideas that might work within those mindsets won’t be allowed through my thought processes.

Keep searching for answers, looking for guidance…and the universe will bring into your experience what you need! Sending you many blessings! Wishing you a very merry, loving Christmas season! (and if that isn’t YOUR mindset…then I wish you whatever it is you need!)

Hello my name is destany i really dont know what i want but le me tell u about my life i was born march 27 1993 in brawley california i had a pretty good lifeup untill i was 12 .i lost my mother to cervical cancer it has been very hard living life without her i always find my self wondering if she has passed over if she is in a better place and if she is proud of the decisions i have made .my teen years were tge hardest for me i had a baby boy when i was 18. And it hurts not beeibg able to see the look on my mothers face when she sees her grandson . Also when my mother passef me and my younger brother lived with my great grandparents . My grandparents were in my life since i was born i was always my grandpa little girl since my father was not around my whole life . So basically he was my dad i loved him with all my heart i think it was because of him that it wasnt so hard loosng my mother .i always went to him for guidance and comfort. On the october 2 my grandpa passed away and i feel like its my fault that he is gone i never got to say good bye or see him one last time and it hurts so much i just wanna know if he is also proud ofme and ask him if it will ever get easier without him cause right now i feel that things will never be better im just asking for your advice and help i hope you can help i know you probably get this all the time but it never hurts to ask for help …
Thank you!
Sincerely, Destany.

Hi Destany! I am sorry about your mother and grandfather. Please know that they BOTH are definitely in a happy place…they BOTH are still watching over you and they are filled with love and pride! Your mother does see your son! In fact, he probably has had interactions with her though you don’t know it and he doesn’t realize what’s happening. Have you ever heard him laugh or jibber jabber as if talking to someone though no one is around? The fact is, once we pass into spirit, we are free to be anywhere, at any time! Every time you think about your mom or your grandfather…or anyone else who has crossed over to spirit…they “hear” your call and are there with you. If you took a moment during these times…when you are really thinking hard about them…you will feel their presence! You can even ask them for a sign! I lost my grandfather over 30 years ago and I still miss him! My nana too! One time, a few years back, I asked them to show me a sign that they were still with me. SECONDS later, a car comes speeding around me (which annoyed me at first!) as I was pulling out of a drive thru…and the license plate was LAFAYETTE…that’s it…one name. My grandfather’s!! Coincidence? NO! So, smiling, I thank him for letting me know he was with me. Then I said, “What about you Nana?” And about a half mile down the road, on this big sign all lit up in lights was “ADA” Nana’s name! The other words were not lit up…only those three letters were working! I don’t ask them for a sign anymore because I know they are with me. Try it…then be very vigilant looking for their “sign”. As for you being at fault for your grandfather…well, I am SURE that is not the case but I do know how you feel. The day my grampy went into a coma (from which he died a week later), I had called to tell the family that I was getting married. Although my Grampy was visiting my parents and I wanted to tell him the news, my mom thought it would upset him so she wouldn’t let me tell him. She told me to call Nana and ask her what she thought. So while I was talking to Nana, my parents ended up telling my grandfather the news and he suffered a seizure! When I called back, he was being taken to the hospital. So, I know about feeling guilty. I thought my news must have upset him so much that it created the seizure that eventually took his life. Many years later, I was lucky enough to get hold of my Grampy and talk to him through the process of Automatic Writing. He told me that he was ready to go and it had nothing to do with me. In fact, it was knowing I was going to be okay that he could let go and get on with it! Of course, I was not ready to let him go but it isn’t for me to decide his time…it’s for him to decide. None of us die “Unwillingly”. God doesn’t just take our life away. Our SOULS decide when it is time to return to spirit. And really, can we blame them? We are spiritual being living here in a temporary world of the physical realm. But our true life is in spirit! There is not pain and suffering in spirit. Now, some might go through some pain and suffering if they have conducted evil deeds…which they’ll be horrified about once they cross over and review their actions! But even their punishment is something they take on themselves. Your mother and grandfather do not fall into that category! They were met by loved ones when their spirit left their body. Even pets were there to greet them! After a happy reunion and a period of time to readjust to their spirit life…the come looking for those of us they love. Many of them want to let us know they are around but we just don’t notice!! So…when you want some “guidance” from those in spirit…think about them. Picture them in your mind. Tell them what you want to share with them and then wait for their answer. It will flow gently into your thoughts. Often a warm, loving feeling will accompany it. You’ll just KNOW in your heart what they said! Spirit, by the way, does not talk in words. Words are for those of us in the physical world. Spirit communicates through feelings. The following post I recently published has links to other posts I created that will give you some guidance on how to do automatic writing if you are interested in giving it a try! https://deborahjhughes.com/2013/10/29/ghosts-spirit-contact-and-paranormal-activity-ghostly-dramas-post-roundup/. Blessings to you!

Recently my Afi passed away following the passings of all my other grandparents and while we were cleaning out his house my Amma’s rings were pulled out all of us grandchildren got to have one. When I was wearing mine I felt really close to my Amma but now it’s lost I just wonder if getting in contact with her could help me find it again. It’s the only thing I have that brings me close to her

I am so sorry for your loss. Even though you know they have crossed into spirit and are not really gone, it doesn’t make the pang of missing them being physically in your life any easier. The hole loved ones leave in our life when they enter into spirit can never be filled. We just learn, over time, to live with it. Concerning the ring…ask your angels (you have guardian angels watching over you at ALL times!) to please bring it back into your life. Then TRUST they will do that and forget about it. Stop worrying over it (worry suggests that you don’t really BELIEVE they will help you in your request!) and it will show up. But let me tell you, although I understand how the ring helps you feel close to her…you don’t need that ring to bring her loving spirit close to you! Just thinking about those you love who have passed on will “call” to their spirit and they are with you! And once you “feel” them, ask them to give you some sort of sign and then be vigilant! The sign will come and if you aren’t paying attention, you could miss it! But you will feel them when they are near for your heart will experience some comfort. Many blessings to you and good luck!!

In situations like this, it sometimes is hard for us to “objectively” contact someone we love because we do so with the expectation of hearing what we want to hear. If you can leave your personal thoughts aside concerning his death and simply let him come to you…then you can have an honest connection with him. Spirit can only do what we allow them to do and if our minds are made up about certain things…they cannot do anything to “change” your mind. You and only you can control your thoughts. So, with the intention set that you are open to whatever he wants to share, try to sit quietly in a meditative state. Light a candle, lower the lighting (light is distracting and candles are great for setting the mood!). You can even play soft, quiet music in the background if it helps you relax (nothing with words, though, because then you might focus on what is being sung rather than simply enjoying the music). Invite him to come to you. Just send out a mental invitation. Then picture in your mind a scene where you are simply waiting for him to come to you. Set the scene in your thoughts and then WAIT! Don’t force anything. Images will just easily happen without any conscious thought on your part. “See” him come to you. Ask him your questions and WAIT for his reply. If you can’t accept what he says, then you are not having a real conversation because you will feel at peace. When talking to spirit…to those we love…the interaction is very peaceful and loving. There is no discontent and upset. Your own spirit will recognize that you are having an honest conversation and will just signal to you a sense of peace and acceptance. If you feel anything but that…you need to stop and again quiet your mind and let go of any preconceived ideas or just try later. It might help to visit a medium as well. I know some of them are pricey though. If you can locate a Spiritualist Church anywhere nearby, they often have psychic fairs and their mediums attend. The fees for their services is nominal and all Spiritualist mediums must go through a strict process of confirmation before the church will accept them as legitimate mediums. Which mean you can trust them to be honest!! Many blessings to you!! Good luck.

Hi my name is katie when i was about four years old i lost my little william spayd the reading eagle and investigators say he died of injuries to his stomach and that he had cuts bruises ad cigarret burns to his body and sexual assault. that was ten years ago 2003 im 14 now and in 2004 i was adopted and now i been diggy and trying to find the reporters to get details but i never found them as im gettin older im determined to find out more about what happened and my birth parents. i want to be able to contact him something like writing or speaking a way i can talk to just him. i will not stop looking for answers or ways to contact him without having to meet up with a medium just something simple i can do on my own. if u could give me some advice or let me kno a way to contact him i would really be greatful.

My husband was murdered in 2010 i just want him to know that i love and miss him. The other day i could have sworn he was in the car with me. What do you think the best way to communicate with him would be.

If you could “swear he was in the car with you” then he WAS!! Those in spirit are automatically drawn to us whenever we think strongly about them. When we are feeling particularly sad or are just really missing them…they come! When you think about them and feel them near, you can then talk away and they will hear your thoughts! Their spirit mingles with yours and they actually can “feel” what you feel and you can have a conversation without words! I say try it through meditation and visualization. This works really well and if you think it’s just your imagination…well, fine…it is through our imagination that we can connect to spirit!! I wrote the following post as some ways in which you can talk to those in spirit. You night check that out as well! Good luck and blessings to you and to your husband. By the way…he KNOWS you miss him and still love him and he’d love to tell you that he is never far away when you need him. Those who go through a murder cross over quickly and the trauma of it falls away…it doesn’t stay with them. They sort of get “special” treatment. (smile). The worst thing for them is not being able to let their loved ones left behind know that they are fine! https://deborahjhughes.com/2012/09/28/8-ways-to-contact-the-dead/

Hi Deborah,
I just came across your article now and I really enjoyed reading it. I lost a friend in December due to murder. She was only 2 years older than me, and I never got a chance to say goodbye. I have been having a hard time coping and coming to terms with her death, and I really want to communicate with her. Nothing major, I just want to know she is there and possibly say goodbye. Is there anything that you can do yourself, or what I can do? I have never tried talking with the deceased, it’s never been something I have been around, but I need a little bit of closure to get this stress off my life.
Any advice would be wonderful! Thank you!!

Hi Amanda! I’ve tried twice to answer this and my computer froze up…makes me wonder if maybe I wasn’t saying the right thing! So, if those replies did come through after all and you are getting yet another…well, I guess there’s more that she wants said! Even something like this can be a message from spirit. First off…your friend is with you whenever you are thinking about her really strongly. Spiritually we are all connected and so a strong thought about someone will get through to them…be they in physical life or on the other side in spirit. Just get yourself in a comfortable position and think about her. Imagine yourself meeting her and talking to her. Tell her how you feel and you will get a response! You’ll feel her emotions come through and thought will filter through your head. You might feel a bit overwhelmed and that’s okay. It’s quite an experience to go through. You won’t even have to use words! Your spirits will mingle and it is the most thrilling thing to go through!! Give it a try…I think she would like for you to do that. And know this…though it may have been a horrible death…for her it actually went fast and her crossing over was quick! She was instantly at peace when her spirit left her body and people were there to help her adjust to the sudden change! I send you blessings and to her as well. Good luck!! Let me know how it goes!

hey i lost my niece poppy on January the 9th this year… she was only 2… she died when a van ran over her…. i really miss her and even though she was young she was so brainy… i just want too know that she is safe up in heaven.. and i want too send her a kiss and cuddle.. miss her so much xxx

Hi Lisa. I’m so sorry about your niece Poppy. Death is doubly hard to deal with when a child is involved! I can’t imagine there being any worse loss. What I can tell you is that their passing is peaceful to them. Angels are swift in helping children cross over and they are immediately surrounded by love and care. I’ve read from others who have had communications with spirit (and whom I believe to be legitimate!) that children will mature in spirit (age really isn’t an issue “over there”). Poppy is a spiritual being in a physical body and when her physical body no longer could house her soul, she once again became a spiritual being and all of us…in that state of “self” are “mature”. So, with that being said…when you think about her, you call to her spirit (for we all truly are connected and can hear the call of love). She will come to you and because your thoughts are focused on her…she can “hear” (know) your thoughts! Talk to her, imagine in your mind’s eye that you are giving her a hug and she will get it! Although you are thinking of her as you remember her, it matters not to Poppy! She’ll take all the hugs and loving thoughts you send her way and treasure them! Blessings to you and to Poppy!!!

Deborah,
My mother passed away when I was 11, five years ago, and since then I have tried relentlessly to come in contact with her spirit. Of all the techniques I used, most of which you listed above, meditation has done me the most justice. However, like you said, I believed they were merely figments of my imagination and I was left as desperate as before. But after reading your article and the simple, down to earth way that you explained that one’s imagination is linked to the spiritual world, it gave me hope again! (I know, it sounds silly..) I look forward to trying each technique you listed above but until then my mind will be at ease knowing that I may have already came in contact with my mother. I thank you so much for your helpful post and wish you a blessed evening! 🙂

Hi Kayla!! Oh yes, you have indeed been in contact with your mom!! She feels like a very gentle soul. So glad you have found some help from my writings!! Yay!! I believe spirit helps me write everything I write. Since I write from my imagination…I guess it all is coming from spirit isn’t it!!? Good luck with your interactions. Also…take into account how you feel when communicating. It often feels like a “swelling” sensation in your chest when talking to loved ones who have passed!! This is spirit energy increasing your heart chakra’s energy!! When you are in communication with a loved one on the other side…you will feel them in a very special way. you feel connected to them and words are not necessary!! Blessings to you and to your mom!!

Hello, About a month ago I lost a very good friend of mine and I would give anything to know where he is now and if he is safe and happy. I saw that you helped someone talk to a spirit, did it work out? I could really use some help. Thank you.

Hello, Teah! I am sorry for the loss of your friend. His passing into spirit is not a terrible thing for him (spiritually) but that doesn’t make it easy for us that are left behind! Have you had any “feelings” on how he is doing? When you think of him…do you “feel” good thoughts, positive ones? Or, do you feel uneasy and concerned? Those in spirit can often connect with us through our “feelings” because their spiritual energy can combine with ours and this generates feelings which then generate thoughts! So, calm your mind into peace, put yourself mentally in a place where you would feel relaxed and happy. Imagine your friend coming to you…how does he look? Does he appear happy? Upset? Don’t project your worries onto him…just let the image develop in your mind. Do your feelings match the expression on his face? This will tell you how he is. Your imagination operates within the spirit world where your friend now flourishes!! If he seems worried…send him love and blessings and wrap your love around him. This will help him find his way. If he seems happy…then share in his joy. You will feel it even more so and it might even make you cry! I’ve had some wonderful interactions with loved ones on the other side and the feelings those interactions generate is overwhelming! I’d love to know how it went! My feeling is he is urging you to try this as he wants to tell you himself how he is!! Blessings to you and to your friend!!

Ready for the second seance through my blog tomorrow night. Excited! Of course, it takes a long time to do the analysis on it, so I haven’t posted anything yet. I’ve researched and read about all of these things, including some classes. But, I’m still making my way down the list as far as actually trying some of them out. Of course EVP is what I’m the most experienced with, and next week I start some bi-location experiments with another EVP researcher. After these seances in the next month or two Ill document my very first experiences with the ouija board. Can’t wait!

Meditation is great to do whether it’s being done to connect with a person in spirit or to just connect with your own spiritual self! Some of the most amazing experiences occur during mediation. Best of luck to you! You know, Automatic Writing is very close to Inspirational Writing! You can google both to understand them a little better!

I just got back from doing a bit of table tipping myself! We had a great time, talkede to a few family members…always great to reconnect with them!! Works better with three or four people! Let me know how it goes. Glad you enjoyed the post. Thanks!!

Your older cover is lovely – so haunting.
I would like to be able to talk to some spirits such as my nana, but I know my fear of the unknown would hold me back if I tried.
I used the ouija board when I was a teenager but I didn’t like it. I felt scared and was too creeped out to ever go near it again.

I like that cover too! But was told it was too busy and that I needed to keep it simpler. But, since I had it and I like it, I wanted to use it for this post. Talking to the spirit world can be scary. It’s always best to do it with someone who is of like mind…wanting a positive experience. It’s very uplifting to talk to someone you love who now resides in spirit. You can really feel their love wrap around you. It’s pretty awesome.