(Closed) Lets get life going already

After years of trying to persuade Darling Husband to go back to college for a better career in the medical field he woke up one day and said baby I’m going back to school. After years of flat out saying no never. So thats all good and I am grateful because some men get too comfortable and never strive for better. I am just a little antzy because I’m ready to buy a house and start my career. To make matters worse (better actually) I am going to school to be a dentist and I’m not even finished with undergrad. Sometime I feel like quitting and applying to dental hygiene school but I know I would resent myself for it later. Ugh when will life start. I’m so tired of living check to check. We have a daughter who is 2 and I just want her to have the best life I can give her.

@brownfam11: First, breath. Take life one step at a time. It’s great that your Darling Husband is ready to go back to school and strive for better. Though you may feel ready for a home, are you two financially prepared to buy a home (even if your Darling Husband doesn’t go back to school)?

@bmo88: No we are not. We decided that we won’t be buying a house until years after I graduate dental school. I just want to be more stable. It seems as though everyone else already has there stuff together.

@brownfam11: Don’t let appearances fool you! It may feel this way because you are still in school.

We both graduated 3 1/2 years ago (DH finished his master’s last year) and we have stable jobs, but Darling Husband still wants to switch career fields. We are financially prepared to buy a home, but he cannot decide what he wants to do/where he wants to live!

Perhaps consider taking a year or two off between undergrad and grad school to work and gain more stability. It really gives you a better perspective and makes you a better candidate. It is also a breather 🙂

I know exactly how you feel! I only have two semesters left of undergrad, but I’m seriously having the hardest time finishing it. I just want to be able to buy a home, get married, start a family, etc. without having to worry about a combined $60,000 in school debt between the two of us. It’s just so difficult when you know what you want in life, but you have to put it off for months or even years to get there the “right way.”

That’s probably the biggest problem. You know that you want to be a dentist, and you know that your Darling Husband is planning on going back to school. You now know what your future is going to be like, and it’s hard to imagine spending the next few years working to obtain that goal, but how else can you get there without working?

@bmo88: I wish I could take time off but I started late as it is. Its my own fault because I screwed around for 2 years instead of going to school. Darling Husband has been out of school for 4 years. High school that is. We are 21/22 so its not that bad but I feel like Im slacking on the providing department.