Singer Chris Brown needs help, and he’s been asking for it for a long time.

Now, there must be something worse than a man putting his hands on a woman in anger, but nothing comes to mind. Barring self-defense, there is no reason whatsoever for a man to ever commit violence towards a woman, I don’t care what D’Angelo says. Most troubling, is that I seem to be hearing a lot more about young men who think it’s OK to hit women, because they have seen their parents go at it. There even seems to be some blithe acceptance of domestic violence as just what normally transpires between a man and woman. The easiest thing is to blame rap music, but I can’t think of a rap song made in the last 10 years that advocates violence against women. Not one. It worries me that we live in a world where we are hearing about young men—just entering adulthood—who think violence towards women is acceptable. It speaks to a bigger problem.