I’ve had several nights this week where I’ve been awake for ages, feeling other realities waft through me. I’m able to discern they’re not mine, but I’m not fully able to pinpoint whose they are. But boy, some people are having a really difficult time!

Several people are crippled with anxiety. A couple folks are in the depths of despair. One gets me as they’re mired in resentment, and I can go there myself all too easily in the wee hours.

It’s almost always a loved one who’s emotional energy I tune into, they span 6,000 miles and several time zones. But I often forget about the most obvious one – my husband right beside me in bed.

A devout Buddhist, he has a practice of praying for people, so during his wakeful hours he’ll start thinking about different groups that are suffering. Which sounds oh so holy and lovely but for the empath next to him it’s pretty gruelling.

I’ll have no reference point or clue that he’s focusing on starving Sudanese, or someone who is ailing. But I’ll feel their emotional resonance.

It occurs to me that we’re all influenced by other people’s density, now more so than ever before. As we collectively go through the shift in Consciousness, our sensitivity is increasing. But our first reaction is to think it’s our own reality.

Certainly, feeling other people’s struggles colors our own experiences, but you don’t need to stay stuck in their stuff. It doesn’t help them to match their level of discomfort, and you can still have compassion while being detached.

Someone I know who is married to a psychic, created a technique for being able to sleep at night when his spouse is dealing with different vibrations. He uses an imaginary lead curtain (like the aprons they put on you at the dentist office when you’re having x-rays).

You can also imagine yours frequency to be a 1/2 step above the vibration you’re dealing with. It allows you to separate from the density without totally detaching.

If you’re visual, you can imagine your energy field to be a different color than theirs. If they’re a dark blue or grey, yours can be yellow or pink.

An ancient technique is to imagine a rose at the edge of your energy field, creating a defining line between your space and others’. I think of it like floats in a swimming pool that let you know where the deep end is.

Of course, at 2am I didn’t think about any of these suggestions, or I would have gotten a better night’s sleep!