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Can you get a day nurse (govt programs. or ask the hospital for help especially to talk to someone. How about a family member of hers to help and talk to you and your wife and help around the house ? I am sure someone here will have better ideas than my ideas. Check this out >> Hospicenet.org..>> a lot of stuff.....Stay Strong....Kiss Nation is behind you bro !!

Yes, do hang in there. You and her both are going through a very tough time. When it starts getting aggravating, step back for a moment and take a few breathes. Even if it means doing it several times. Trust me on this one. Stay strong for you and her both!

Caring for someone with a chronic health condition can be VERY stressful for the caregiver. It is common for a serious illness to cause so much stress for a spouse or family member that their health is effected too. Talk to her Doctor, and talk to your Doctor about this. There are resources and people who can help. You don't have to carry the burden alone.

In the areas where she isn't able to function, you must do it for her. You are learning the details of one so stricken. I would hope her medical team leader would give you details of what to expect, and how to best deal with it.

You must hang in there even no matter how bad it seems. Be very patient and remember the kids as well. Cancer can destroy familys but do not let it destroy yours. Pray and ask for help and it will come. Reach out to family and stay strong for you and the wife and kids. I have been there and i realize how tough things can get.

My dad put his life on hold when my mom started going downhill to take care of her. Was a lose lose situation. Couldn't really afford other options was challenging for him to quit work. But it was the right thing for him to do as a devoted husband and head of the family. We are all much stronger because of it. But it took many of us helping out ot give him a break as needed. Do either of you have family that could help occasionally?

Hang in there, it's God's plan. This might sound a bit smart @$$ but it's really not meant to and it's one thing that helps me out. When you get aggravated try as hard as you can to put yourself in her shoes. I'm sure you understand it, but what's this putting her thru? It's inevitable that each of you will have those days and that's when you just have to try to step back for a few. Go organize some tackle, just peter around in the boat, cut the grass, whatever to get your mind off it for a few minutes. Remember, she is dealing with all the same stuff as you PLUS the tumors. On top of that she needs your strength to help push her to be strong. God knows your strong enough to handle this but rely on him for the strength

Hang in there, it's God's plan. This might sound a bit smart @$$ but it's really not meant to and it's one thing that helps me out. When you get aggravated try as hard as you can to put yourself in her shoes. I'm sure you understand it, but what's this putting her thru? It's inevitable that each of you will have those days and that's when you just have to try to step back for a few. Go organize some tackle, just peter around in the boat, cut the grass, whatever to get your mind off it for a few minutes. Remember, she is dealing with all the same stuff as you PLUS the tumors. On top of that she needs your strength to help push her to be strong. God knows your strong enough to handle this but rely on him for the strength

There is some great advice in here. Empathy is something that we all must practice....you never know what someone is going through until you take a few steps in their shoes. It can be a tough thing to do but it can bring great peace. Also...you fell in love with a person at a certain time....that same person is still there, you just have to remember why you fell in love with that person in the beginning. Those reasons are still there.

I feel for you and hope and pray that you and your family have much better days ahead!

I went through some of these same things with my wife and her fight with cancer. You have to step back and take a moment to reflect on your commitment to her " For better or for worse, in sickness and in health till death do you part " I am sure you are aware of this already but she needs you more now than ever .As tough as it can be sometimes for you it is tougher for her . You are her "rock" . PM me if you would like to talk. I don't mind at all.