Has the damage been done?

I had sex for the first time on Saturday, and due to the fact that he and I live pretty far from one another, I mainly communicate via text with him. For some reason I feel that when we did it, it wasn't as emotional for him as it was for me. Anyway, I feel like I came off as extremely clingy this week, as expected after a first time (having started all the conversations, but what does that matter anyway? And almost skipping out on a competition to see him.) So I decided to take a step back, and of course he didn't speak to me - I wasn't expecting him to, so this doesn't really hurt me or surprise me. I know that I made a good choice in backing off, but my question is has the damage been done? Did I scare him away already and completely blow it although I realized my mistake?

He's a young guy, yeah? You said he stopped talking to you after you had sex, because you backed off? It doesn't sound like he has much interest in maintaining a relationship. Women usually want a deeper and more fulfilling explanation, but a lot of the time young guys work for the sex and then lose interest after.

He was fine a couple days ago is the thing - as in after the whole ordeal but before I got really attached. We've made plans for things that are a long time from now, but I get if those become obsolete after what happened. I'm just confused as to how he could go from being genuinely interested in me to just wanting me for sex - since I hadn't implied I was willing until it actually happened, anyway.

Here's what I have learned: a guy is programmed to chase girls. This ensures that they will talk to you endlessly up until the moment they 'get lucky'. Afterwards, they don't have a 'need' to talk to you. Mission is already accomplished. (Until a few days later when the next 'chase' starts.) Girls are the exact opposite. We don't worry as much about chasing them as we do about 'keeping' them. It's not a possessive thing; it's a biological thing. Historically, after mating with men, we wanted to keep them around to provide food and shelter for us and our/their prospective offspring. So they want to talk before but don't care as much about after; for us it's quite the opposite. We care less about the before and MORE about the after. It's been driving both men and women crazy for centuries!

@LostWolf you are correct; but getting married doesn't change anything. A woman still gets hurt and upset that having sex with a man doesn't draw him closer to her likes she wants it to. Just because he is her husband doesn't make him any easier to understand! Lol