Why do guys(and girls) watch porn?

I know I look at it but sometimes I wonder why. I mean I am in a healthy relationship and would never want to cheat on my lover or desire the porn stars more than them, so why even bother looking at all? I just was also wondering if when a guy watches porn does he desire that girl over the one he is with? Or maybe fantasize about that porn girl while doing his own lover? I'm not persecuting men or anything I am just curious. I mean I do it and I don't even know why,. I just want some understanding. So please share your stories and if you can answer my questions too that would be awesome.

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I just wanted to say one more thing. When my boyfriend watches porn he is very specific on the type of women he watches. He likes Spanish women, you know the latins/lolitas. So what does that mean? I'm white so I feel kind of you know inferior to them

because they are exotic and very beautiful and all that. I'm not saying he doesn't appreciate me or anything. But if he watches those women all the time, then why is he dating a white girl like me? I don't know it might just be an insecurity issue

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I too watch porn on occasions. I like it but I hate 98% of it because its so fake. But, we watch it because everybody has a natural attraction to watch sexual activities. We are aroused by it, we are curious, we are naturally interested. This is true for both sexes, its natural. I don't lust for any of the girls, they are not part of a relationship because there is no interactions. If in a healthy relationship, sometimes its helpful to watch a little porn to build the mood for the real person in the relationship. Of course all of the this is within "normal limits", I amd sure someone somewhere misses the point, perhaps they somehow have to have it to get off? These people have issues.

As for the content of the porn itself, mostly its fake, ohh-baby crap. And one would likely get smacked by their partners if they were to actually try many of the things in the porn. I mean like, I would think of smacking certain sensitive areas as they often do in the porn, not unless I am thinking to kill the mood.

Sometimes something "real" comes along, like in the movie "9 Songs", where the sex is real. A turn on, even if the persons are not the greatest looking. But again, I don't lust for one in the film.

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Thank you very much for your answer it has helped me out. I just didn't want to be a freak because I was with someone but still watched porn every now and then. And I didn't want to seem like I was no being faithful or trustworthy by looking at it.

What Guys Said 16

Do you like movies? I'll assume you do.. I'll also assume you have a favorite movie. So, do you ONLY watch that movie? I'll assume not. (I'm assuming a lot today!) Watching movies other than your favorite movie doesn't detract from how great a movie your favorite movie is. Likewise, watching porn doesn't make our real-life relationships any less meaningless.. unless it replaces that relationship.

Also, porn doesn't make you want to cheat. Nor does it make you forget your current lover -- for long. I say this because.. well, we forget things all the time when we're focusing on something else. I can be worrying about my garden one hour, and watching reruns of BSG the next.. and for that brief period of time, I'll forget about the fact that my lettuce is drowning in weeds. Does that mean I'm gonna quit saving money by growing my own food? Nope. It just means I'm too busy watching some scifi sexiness to think about it at *this exact moment*.

Anyway. A little fantasy never hurt anyone, as long as you know how to step away from the computer and frak the crap out of your girlfriend. Oh. And, in my defense, I do actually have more going on in my mind than.. the garden. And BSG. They are just the two things that came to my mind first when I was trying to think about things that might be occupying it. xD

I can't speak for your boyfriend, but I can tell you that I am a happily married man and I'm very satisfied with my sex life and I still look at porn on a fairly regular basis. I have no desire to cheat on my wife and or do I have any desire to seek out the porn actresses or do I fantasize about them when I'm having sex with my wife. The best explanation I can give you as to why do I still watch porn then? Well it represents a fantasy, the fantasy is that the women in the porn represent they are attracted to me and excited enough by me to show me the things they are doing (most of the porn I prefer is solo porn) in turn I imagine all the ways I could please them in return. I have actually used porn to help please my wife in adding a little variety to our sexual conduct. The other thing I use porn for, which is a little less admirable is just for a quick release. I still Masturbate as well, again not because I'm dissatisfied with my wife, but because it feels good and I get a great sexual release from it, and I know my wife isn't always in the mood for sex, which I'm completely OK with. I hope this helps a little bit, and if you have any other questions, feel free to ask.

The girls in the video aren't real. They are also "bad". Most men don't like total sluts. Contrary to the fantasy porn girls are probably harder to lay than regular girls. They expect 1500 just to do a scene what would they expect from a boyfriend? Just like people admire criminals without wanting to be one men admire sluts. There not real, even though they are. They put no pressure on you. I look at porn sometimes, my justification I probably either want sex more than my girlfriend or don't have one. I think it is preferable to going to a bar and trying to pick up a drunk girl or string a girl along that's looking for love for a one night screw. My justification is its just taking care of a thirst that's just too strong in a relatively harmless relaxing way.

people really need to stop drawing all these connection between porn watching and relationships. when someone watches porn it never ever has anything to do with what they really want. I watch tons of porn and I never want any of the girls more than my girl and I never think about them or porn when I have sex with my girl. they are completely separate worlds and I don't know why people don't just see this and keep it that way. I like to watch porn with nasty sluts who have big oversized rock hard implants and all that stuff but I would never want a girlfriend like that. there is no relation between the two. one is porn, the other is girlfriend, no connections.

just because they are both sexual activities doesn't mean there is a relation. when I play soccer I don't wish it was basketball. I can play both and they really don't have anything to do with each other.

Tastes change, there was a time when orientals would have been my taste, but this was to by no means to exclusions, take me to any country and I can spot a gorgieous girl. Today I do not favor Orientals, who knows what that was about. My dad presented the "bird and the bees" with a condom and magazine featuring orientals, aybe it was his fault? LOL.

All I am saying is if you boyfriend with within :normal" parameters you don't have much to worry about. This maybe worth a inquiry tease and perhaps a request to ease up a bit, othewise threaten to start brining you varieties...

Insecurity is not attractive, don't let this get the better of you. You are real, "those" are not.

Dont be jealous of your guys interest in another style of girl... but you should be consciously aware that it is his sexual preference.

That doesn't mean he doesn't love you, want to care for and be with you, or anything else negative.

Use this knowledge to your advantage - especially if you find the latinas attractive too. I'm not saying become swingers, just have fun talking about things that you both like, that's all...

Let him fantasize about them when he's banging you and it will seriously reduce a lot of temptation he might have if presented with an opportunity - if he's the faithful type of guy - because sharing these types of things are serious bonding moments.

If he's not the faithful type, then you're bound to lose the loser anyway. Better to find that kinda thing out sooner than later.

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I wouldn't mind letting him watch the porn and fantasizing about it and all that, he can go crazy with it. But when it comes to us having sex I am not going to let him think of another woman. That's just an insult. It is pretty much cheating if he's just using you to get off while thinking of another girl. Fuck that.

hey look girl.the answer to ur 1st qs about watching porn is : as we are in young age,and alone.obviously we feel our sexual impulses,and they always say us to b active all the time.in that way only we can get pleasure .no other thing in this age may b so interesting rather than sex ,

so all the young boys and girls out there watch porn,it's very common and nothing wrong in that too.it's my personal opinion. and the answer to ur 2nd qs abt ur boyfriend is: he is just telling about his opinion that he's attractive to those spanish girls.it doesn't mean that he hates u. don't think like that and b happy always..

In my experience, not at all. I watch porn with my girlfriend pretty often, but never think of the girls from the porn while we're doing it. We mostly just do it to get both of us turned-on before we do it.

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I should probably incorporate it into my sex life with my lover so I don't feel so bad or guilty or wrong about it.

Here is your answer,film can be a great way to see a different technique,watch the film and listen to music and talk.now most important you pick the film,yesterdays female porn stars now make movies for women,you can also find film from universities on the why and how useing regular people.Find your fantasy or something you have wanted to see and learn more

I was in the adult bookstore business for 8 years not the block but county stores,some women let their hair down and have a blast.if you are looking at bullets,vibes for both of you,remember he has a hole to,I could suggest but it would take hours

Human nature to be interested in porn, and it gives us something to watch while masturbating.. and no we wouldn't want that girl over ours because we know she's getting paid to do it, year not. thus we know year doing us because you want to, not because you have to

I wouldn't worry about it. Yeah, he finds them sexy, but if he wanted a latina, he'd be with one, right? I personally don't fantasize about the girls in the porn movies, but that could just be me. I think we watch them because a lot of people look down on it as being bad, and people are often exhilarated and turned on by doing things that they shouldn't. (:

You have to understand the difference between relationships and porn. Guys usually don't go out with girls just looking for sexual pleasure. and guys don't watch porn to become intimate with the porn stars. Don't feel jealous of those latina porn stars, your boyfriend thinks of them as sexy, nothing more.

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It is a disgrace to the entire human race that people would take sex, something that once was secret and mysterious into an utter humiliation called perversion It ruins the lives of the children that stumble upon it and porn has no purpose what so ever.

Opinionated is one thing but you are also wrong. Modern sex (including porn) can still be special, intimate, secret and mysterious. You are making generalizations that are completely inaccurate. You sound like you are driven by religious frenzy. Now THAT is what is ruining the world.

What Girls Said 9

It is perfectly common for healthy, happy and solid couples to enjoy porn together. I really don't think it begins to count as "cheating" unless one person in the relationship strongly disapproves of the other one using porn but they use it anyway in secret. For many reasons, this secrecy is bad for both parties and for the relationship in general. That being said, I find it frustrating how many people still have such closed minds about porn, sex and romance. I am thankful that this puritanical attitude is becoming more rare but it is not yet enough. For far too long, people have been sexually repressed.

I personally love to watch porn. I have a huge DVD collection and about 80,000+ pictures and video clips on my computer. I like all kinds of porn, mostly hard-core and kinky stuff but I also really love artsy nudes too (like MetArt, FemJoy, HegreArt, Breath-Takers and other beautiful erotic photography). In my movie porn, I am very picky about the "realness" of it and I avoid fake stuff and fake women like the plague. I watch it for many reasons. I find it visually very stimulating and I also identify with the "fantasy" aspect of it. I often watch porn with my lovers (both male and female) and we never feel jealous of each other's interests in the models/actors or scenes. I encourage all my lovers to enjoy, look at and appreciate other sexy people--I believe that it is natural and healthy to admire everyone's beauty. I usually have a DVD playing while having sex because I think it is a great enhancement to the sex (even though I usually miss most of these movies because I'm busy). I obviously think of porn as a great appetizer before an evening of sex. And of course I love porn to masturbate to (which I do very frequently).

Porn is made for entertainment,it helps people get off.Being in a healthy relationship doesn't mean you can't watch porn.Watching porn doesn't mean you prefer the porn starts over your partner/lover(of course unless you're a porn addict).Porn helps with new ideas,whether it be positions or simple new things to try.Watching porn is not cheating either,it's simply allowing yourself to become aroused watching sexual acts(which is normal) and you can pleasure yourself

Some guys like to watch porn with you, to get you horny or try positions out. Others wont,its just personal just choice what turns you on AND him. When guys are with you, mostly they want to love you and enjoy it and not think of porn stars

its called voyeurism. Sometimes we just love to watch! I get really turned on when I see two other people going at it, makes me want to give it a try myself. I never want to be with the porn stars, I just want to try what they're doing.