Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse

By Eve Lorgen, M.S., C.hT.

“There are instances in which a healthy, normal kind of person can get targeted by these types of predators, leaving them bewildered and absolutely shocked at how awful and traumatized they could feel. Narcissists fit the profile of personality disordered people, often with psychopathic traits…”

Narcissistic abuse is an increasingly widespread issue these days, especially for those who have endured any kind of emotional abuse in their childhood family of origin. This is common for abductees, milabs, ritual abuse survivors, MK Ultra victims and those who have strong family ties to the occult and military-industrial-complex careers. As many of my readers know, narcissistic abuse is part of the phenomenon of “the dark side of Cupid” relationships, where, in addition to the basic traits of narcissism, the super manipulated partner was perceived in some way to host a paranormal type of “entity”, which I believe actually drives much of the energy vampirism behaviors well known in these kinds of horridly abusive and shocking relationships.

Recovering from the trauma of these kinds of relationships requires a comprehensive approach, and unless one truly understands the inner dynamics of narcissism as a full-blown personality disorder, and the addictive quality of obsession that often accompanies such relationships, a survivor may not be able to heal as quickly. It can literally be a soul destroying experience.

“Victims take hostages. They create drama and fights – and they absolutely create their own ongoing pain…. There is no closure with narcissists.”

What I have come to understand, is that the pattern in becoming a target of these types of abusers, is also rooted in ones own conditioning, core shame issues and deep seated feelings of unworthiness that can occur with histories of abuse. But, there are instances in which a healthy, normal kind of person such as a successful career woman, who can get targeted by these types of predators, leaving them bewildered and absolutely shocked at how awful and traumatized they could feel. One professional therapist and famous author I corresponded with told me in confidence that when she had such a “dark side of Cupid” relationship with a man like this, the trauma and emotional devastation was worse than a brutal rape she experienced many years earlier in her life.

“...these persons work by deception and will manipulate accordingly, without conscience or empathy... just for the sake of them feeling alive and getting attention to feed the false sense of self.”

Narcissists and the types of partners described in much of the NARC Abuse literature, fit the profile of personality disordered people, often with psychopathic traits. One has to remember that these persons work by deception and will manipulate accordingly, without conscience or empathy in order to extract “energy” or narcissistic supply from their partner – just for the sake of them feeling alive and getting attention to feed the false sense of self. Their false sense of identity is like an outer shell personality that changes to whatever traits are necessary in order to extract energy.

What is underneath is often a deeply shattered, shamed and self-loathing core, that is buried. It feels like nothing is there literally, like a black hole whose only goal is to suck you dry. What I believe happens in many of these narcissists lives, is that once they abandon their true core self, they are ripe for a type of demonic or complete archontic mind parasite takeover. This is when the more lethal types of psychopaths start emerging. I believe it is many of these types of narcissists who run some of the most powerful, global military-industrial-complex and banking corporations.

Unless you have had a personal relationship with such a non-human-pretending-to-be human person, you really cannot understand the needed strategies for healing, recovery and freedom from their damage. Personally and collectively.

Without being overly sided with “victimology” ideology, I do believe that both perpetrator and victims work together, even if it is unconscious on the victim’s part. The paradoxical thing about perpetrators, victims and narcissistic abuse is the tendency towards the trauma-bonding “Stockholm Syndrome” that takes hold of the victim who has had longstanding abuse and conditioning by such perpetrators in their lives. We see this a lot in cult abuse and even within the alien abduction and contact experiences.

Step this up a few notches to what we now globally seem to “normalize” with our lives in this Matrix of global control. I think most of the worlds population is in a mesmer of Stockholm Syndrome, having been exhaustively distracted, overworked or numbed out to such an extent that they no longer believe they have the power to change their lives, in the face of the global “powers that be” who are essentially running the show.

I believe one way to create a solution for this is to do it one individual and relationship at a time. We must have the self-respect to heal, get into recovery and say NO to the narcissists who entitle themselves to our energy and our attention. But the healing and recovery process is specifically tailored to those who are recovering from narcissistic abuse, not just simple “co-dependency issues” or other more benign issues people may want to heal from.

Positives to Adopt – Negatives to Avoid

“Do not seek to add more and more people from denser realities, i.e., jail system, judicial system, lawyers, media harassment. Do not promote it in any way. Put yourself out of it completely, learn energetic causes of things, adopt it before negative physical incidents can even occur. This is utterly wrongly given by the new age idea of law of attraction.It does not work that way. Keep yourself, chosen people you interact with, and common objects you use, absolutely clear of negative, vampiric, depleting psychic energy.”

Eve Lorgen is a dedicated counseling professional, UFO/alien abduction researcher, Anusara yogi and writer. She began her pioneering work with alien abductees while earning her Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology in 1992. She also holds a BS in Biochemistry and worked in the Biotechnology industry for 7 years. Eve started a support group in 1994 in San Diego County, CA for experiencers of anomalous trauma and continues to consult with anomalous trauma clients worldwide today while living in Western North Carolina.

Eve Lorgen was a close associate of the late Barbara Bartholic and is dedicated in continuing and expanding the work of the late Dr. Karla Turner.

Anomalous Trauma is defined as traumatic events that are out of the normal range of human experience. These experiences may include alien abductions, near death experiences, shamanic initiations, military abductions (milabs) mind control, spiritual warfare, demonic and psychic attacks, cult involvement and narcissistic abuse.

Early on in her career counseling alien abductees, she discovered a plethora of unusual experiences that often accompanied those who reported alien encounters and milabs. The most prominent aspect of Eve’s counseling and support is with those who are experiencing some form of alien or paranormal orchestrated love relationship issues, or what she calls “the love bite”. The love bite is a misunderstood and highly taboo aspect of the alien abduction experience: alien engineering of human love relationships and alien manipulation of abductees’ lives. However, as more people have come forward to share their unusual “orchestrated love relationships”, Eve discovered that this is not exclusive to the “alien abductee subpopulation” and is much more widespread.

Eve authored The Love Bite: Alien Interference of Human Love Relationships (E Logos & HHC Press, 2000) and is a contributing author to all three volumes of the Universal Seduction by Angelico Tapestra. She is currently writing a self-help book on love relationships related to the paranormal themes discussed, so that seekers may be able to recognize, deal with and heal from these engineered “trauma drama” love relationships, and be able to discern between a true soul mate and a counterfeit one– orchestrated from questionable “otherworldly” sources.

Eve Lorgen has written numerous articles internationally on the alien abduction phenomenon in magazines such as X-Times, Nexus, JAR, MUFON Journal, Enigmas, Unknown Magazine, independent E-zines, newsletters, blogs and web sites. Many of her articles have been printed in Spanish, Italian, French and Croatian. Eve is also an excellent poet. She is a frequent guest of talk radio shows, independent film documentaries, and a former radio show host for NSPN Night Search Paranormal Radio Network of out Memphis, TN. She has publicly lectured across the US for MUFON groups, annual conferences, independent paranormal & UFO discussion groups and Brian Hall’s Conspiracy Conference.