(Closed) what is WRONG with me??

These past two or three days have just been HORRIBLE! Not for any particular reason. It’s actually been really small things, like my hubby not giving me an answer instantly when I asked a question (srsly, I’m not a witch!). I’m sure it’s mostly PMS, it’s just never been this bad. I was watching the Simpons today and almost started tearing up. THE freaking SIMPSONS!! I don’t think I’m depressed, but the thought has struck me since I’m unemployed, just got married a month ago (post wedding blues, idk). But, idk. It just seems really bad. I had a job interview today and I was just totally dreading it. I just DO NOT want this job, though I’ve basically already been offered it. It’s nothing that I was looking for (I’m a nanny and was hoping to take care of a baby or toddler), but she has a 3yr old and 6yr old, and the three year old has a ton of food allergies (which I have no experience with). I was hoping for 3 days a week so that I could have some time to pursue other interests like photography, but it’s Mon-Fri, basically full time in the summer, but part time starting in Sept when they go back to school. Ugh, just nothing I want. It’s also late-ish into the evening, and I hate that, because as soon as I get home I have to start dinner. Hubby says he’ll try to learn, but one time I asked him to make a box of hamburger helper or something and I have to tell him step by step, even if it’s on the box! No way that will work! But, this has been the ONLY interview, and basically the only reply I’ve gotten in the past 2 weeks I’ve been looking for a job, so I feel like I have to take the job because things are so rough right now with the economy. My hubby makes enough to cover bills, but nothing really left over each month. But I also know that taking the job is a commitment and I don’t take that lightly. I know I have to commit for at least a year (afterwhich I intend on going back to school). I took a job once that was only on Sundays just because I wasn’t finding anything else and I was very miserable with it. Luckily I felt that they didn’t really need me (it’s Sunday for gosh sakes and she didn’t even work. Mostly I was there to take the kids off her hands while she sat around a pool with friends, played tennis, etc). I’m afraid this will happen now, take a job I’m not totally into and hate it for the next 13 months. They want me to start next week so I don’t feel I have time to think it over. I really think PMS is making me a bit irrational right now and I hate to commit or deny something when I’m all out of whack like this. I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I know hubby doesn’t love his job and that not everyone does and sometimes we just have to "take one for the team" but ugh. Sorry, this really isn’t even wedding related. I just feel so flipping stressed over nothing. I think the stress of the whole wedding planning and family issues is just starting to crash down on me in one fell swoop…

A year commitment is a huge deal! Is it possible to do temp work while you look for another part time job? I used to temp for years and while it’s not a ton of fun… you can’t beat it for commitment free employment!

I second the temp job. I have being doing temp work during the day and I have a job at night that allows me to sleep. It works pretty well. I found the main thing the temp agencies are looking for is a high wpm. My job right now is mind-numbing, but it helps pay the bills. The employer also realizes that you don’t have any commitments to them either.

As far as feeling depressed, I can totally understand that, too. The wedding which occupied all of your thoughts is now over and you have the real world waiting on the other side. Never a fun prospect with the economy in its current condition. I deal with depression, and I just need to remember to take a step back and put thing in perspective. Also, my therapist told me when I was looking for a job, even though a job is important, if I know for sure in my heart I would hate it, then maybe the money isn’t worth it.

This is totally not the main part of your post at all, but men need to learn how to feed themselves- and us! My fiance couldn’t cook when we started dating but now he surprises me with dinner sometimes when I walk in the door. It’s lovely, and assuming you want a family, it’s nice to have a dad that doesn’t just order pizza when mom’s not there (but we did love Dad-solo nights bc of that…).

Honestly, I’ve been unemployed for a while and I think you should you take the job. Having less financial stress will help you feel better, plus it’s only a few months until they go back to school. I used to work with 2nd graders so I know it’s tough sometimes with kids, but get hubby to learn some easy dinners (spaghetti and pre-made meatballs is an easy start, or chili, anything you can slow-cook. Just toss it all in and leave it) to help ease the transition. Just my humble opinion 🙂

If the thought of taking the job is making you this unhappy (or at least contributing to it), I would say skip it. You’re not supposed to be miserable until *after* you start the job. Just kidding. I do agree with the others, though, that you should consider doing temp work – a year is a long time to commit to something you don’t want, especially after you’ve only been job-hunting for two weeks.

Thanks for all the input guys. I’m feeling a little more calm compared to yesterday, but I can tell the PMS is still there though. My mom told me to take some Midol :p

Anyway, after much deliberation (but not too much because I can’t leave the family hanging), I decided to take the job, but hopefully I won’t have to start until after next week (she originally said July 6th in the first place anyway). This way I’ll have some time to teach hubby to cook :p It’s not the greatest, but, how many people have to take jobs and McDonald’s and stuff just so they can get some money so they can get to where they REALLY want to go in life? I don’t intend on making a career out of nannying, and a year of something you don’t like really is going to feel like a long time, but the job market REALLY sucks and there is a lot of competition in NYC for nanny positions, believe it or not (one craigslist poster said they got over 400 replies for position they posted…) so, I really should just be grateful and happy that I stood out enough to SOMEONE to consider me for a position. That’s an accomplishment, right? The summer will be lame, and even though I feel the hours aren’t ideal, at least I won’t be there ALL day and hubby and I still have weekends together, which I am infinitely grateful for because for a long time we didn’t even have that! Hubby made a point that I was probably spoiled by my last job so anything I find won’t seem great (I had a great boss and their little boy was not only wonderful, but he was super cute too!)

Plus, my mom is unemployed and has been since January and still has my two younger siblings at home to take care of (hasn’t been getting chid support either because my dad was laid of a week after her, and he also hasn’t found a job yet). I’d feel selfish and way too picky if I didn’t accept the offer.

Even if the job turns out DISASTEROUS (which I doubt), I have my wonderful husband to come home to!

Oh, I also applied for Children’s International and anyone in NYC would know how desperate I am if I applied for that job…haha! (they stand around on sidewalks outside, intercepting their victims telling them about their cause and tries to get them to donate while making it very difficult for the "victim" to just say no without just ignoring them and walking away).

Actually, I was thinking maybe you should take the job. So.. I guess I think you made the right choice.

See the way I see it, if you are committing for a year, and are really going to school after that, this is a great way to earn extra money, and save up for when you’re in school. And if they’re in school starting September, maybe there’s a way for you to eventually work Pt and go back to school.

As for the child with food allergies, I guess it might depend on the allergy, but hopefully the mom just doesn’t have the food in the house. That way you can be at ease with making them whatever, without owrrying too much. From what i’ve heard, kids with peanut allergies, can’t really be near it or they’ll react. So it probably wouldn’t cut it for her to allow older sister to have a a pb&j. But if it’s milk, maybe that’s a different story.

Good luck. I think it will work out just fine. And I bet once PMS dies down, you’ll feel a bit better. Hugs.

If it makes you feel any better, I had to take care of child with Celiac’s disease (no gluten products) and when you look at it on paper, it seems like if he eats anything outside of air, he could really be jacked up. In the long run, as someone pointed out, they will not have those products in the house or they will make it explicitly clear what is okay for him/her to eat in the house. They are probably also the type of parents that do not allow the child to eat a lot of foods outside of the house but will pack snacks for him. You’ll be just fine. I’m glad you found a job!

I know she says her son eats cupcakes and loves ice cream. I don’t know if they have a special brand in the house that she can have too, or if he just gets to eat it and she doesn’t, which is where the worrying comes in. I also learned that her reaction isn’t so bad that if I had an accident, she wouldn’t be in a life threatening situation where I’d need to use an epipen or call the paramedics. Just some benadryl or something a bit stronger if she gets bad hives.

Petco called today to set up an interview with me. I have been wanting to work at Petco since I was 14 or so 🙁 Ah well. I’m sure the job itself isn’t that great, but it’s literally like a 2 minute walk from where we live! Not to mention an interview is no guarantee that I’d get the job.