Thursday, April 28, 2011

Do you ever have a moment when you say to yourself, "Did s/he really just say/write that?" Well I found myself having that moment a few days ago. I decided not to blog about it immediately, fearful of what I might have permanently put out in the blogosphere.

Am I too sensitive? Am I too quick to bite my tongue? Why are people so damn rude? These are all questions that I asked myself after the encounter and continue to ask myself.

Respect. I am firm believer that not everyone is meant to be friends and we will not all hold hands and sing Kumbaya with one another. But there is the idea of mutual respect in the absence of "like". As I get older and interact with different personalities, belief systems, cultures, values etc., I have really learned the meaning of "you don't have to like me, but you have to respect me."

Will I make someone respect me? No. As I have gotten older and more mature, I have learned that my actions speak louder than my words. I carry try myself a certain way and treat others how I would want to be treated; granted I am not perfect, but I am trying to be better every day. What I won't do is make someone like me or respect me. Gone are the days of trying to fit in. What I will do is distance myself from these toxic people and keep it moving. There are many people I respect on different levels, for different reasons, but I don't like them... and that's okay.

So back to my moment of "almost losing it". In such a high stress environment, it is very easy to get caught up and stay/do things that are out of character. I have truly learned to take the high road and let it go. But in letting it go, I don't forget.

Thursday, April 21, 2011

It just seems like yesterday that I uprooted my life, and the life of those close to me, to move to Ithaca to pursue my MBA at Cornell University. January 2010 marked the start of a new chapter of my life, including acceptance to schools, scholarships, new friendships, moves, and most importantly a surprise proposal :)!

Going Away Party

Over the past 9 months, I have learned so much about myself and about being a leader. I never knew that I could push myself so hard and actually learn and do well in subjects so foreign to me. I've also learned a lot about myself personal leadership style and what it really means to be a leader.

My Honey

As I finish up my first year and get ready for the yet another transition (starting my internship and living in NYC for the summer)I feel so blessed to have been given the opportunity to experience all that I have. I wouldn't have been able to quit my job and become a full-time student again if I didn't have the support from my family and friends and my continually strengthened faith in God.

Sorry for the sappy/deep post. Just had to get this off my chest! I have been so emotional over the past few days thinking about the last year and what my future potentially has in store for me. I'm so happy, so grateful, so blessed, and so excited!

Sunday, April 17, 2011

I love too cook and I try to do so every Sunday. Today, I decided to make stew since I'm not feeling well. So I went to one of my faves, Ms. Paula Dean, for a yummy recipe.

I made a few modifications to the below yummy recipe. I added a 28 ounce can of crushed tomatoes and cremini mushrooms (I didn't measure) because I wanted a heartier broth. Per some of the comments on the Food Network site, I think that I'm going to use water and beef broth next time for a heartier broth. My gut is telling me that this stew tastes even better after a few days. I will definitely be making this again soon. It was yummy and filling!

Friday, April 15, 2011

I just tried the sample of ExfoliKATE that I got from Sephora. I. Must. Have. It. Now! This product is AMAZING and now I can see why it's so damn expensive.

Maria, the skin specialist at the 42nd Street Sephora in NYC, told me that this product acts like an exfoliator and chemical peel in one. At first I was skeptical, but as soon as I started to massage the product into my skin, I felt an intense, warm sensation. I let the product stay on my face for about 2 minutes. After I rinsed it off, my skin looked rejuvenated and had a healthy glow (I'm all about the glow. I want to be able to leave the house in the morning and just radiate)! I can only imagine how my skin would look with regular use.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Day #4 of our Marketing trip and I am so sick of jumping from hotel to hotel. Tonight, I am in Ft. Washington, PA. Ever heard of it? Nope. Neither have I.

Picture this. A toll plaza. A gas station. A Holiday Inn down a dark road in the distance. Then there is us at the Hilton Garden Inn next to the toll plaza. We have no cars and are forced to eat room service or yucky delivery.

Okay, I just realized that was a string of complaints. There is plenty to be happy about. We head back to Ithaca tomorrow (never thought I would be happy to head back to Ithaca) and I had a wonderful few days spending time with my linesisters and an impromptu international phone conversation with my one linesister in Honduras!

I guess I will go make myself happy and go "play" with my new skin care products! Bonne nuit.

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

I am on a Marketing trip with my classmates in NYC. As soon as I saw the black and white stripped façade, I knew that Sephora was a "must stop"! With 45 minutes of free time, I planned on spending the entire time basking in the make up and skin care products at the store. I honestly think that I could spend all day in a Sephora.

A little back story. So I turned 30 in January. I have to admit, I had a mini-freak out for a few weeks, but I have started to embrace my new mature status. I heard that when you turn 30, you should start using anti-wrinkle and anti-aging creams, potions, and serums. Ok well... maybe I read it in Glamour. Anyways, I want to preserve my sexy.

Back to today. I met the most wonderful skin specialist, Maria, at the 42nd Street Sephora. She was soooooo knowledgeable and recommended some great skin care products for me (sidenote - the Sephora employees are so much more knowledgeable and helpful in NYC. Who knew?). So let's talk about what I bought.

So Maria recommended products by Ole Henriksen, an all natural line, and Boscia, another fantastic line. She also gave me a sample of ExfoliKate - an exfoliator and light chemical peel - that retails for $85. I'm anxious to try this out to see if it's as great as she said it is; for $85, it better be!

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

So the idea of a Bridezilla is crazy to me. And I admit, I get sucked into the show on WE tv and wonder how women get to that point of obnoxiousness (granted some of it has to be staged, but still...). I can't help but think, someone allowed these women to act this way and someone fed into this idea of "it's my wedding and I can act however I want". So family and friends of these women, I blame you. Yup I said it... I blame you.

My mom has been saying "I hope you don't turn into a Bridezilla". I honestly don't see how it's possible. Between my family, bridesmaids, friends, wedding planner, and most importantly, my fiancé, I will get checked with a quickness!

Our wedding isn't all about me. It is about us, joining together as one and professing our commitment, love, and dedication to each other, in front of God, our family, and close friends. As much as I love to be the center of attention at times, this is one day that I know and really believe that it isn't about me; our wedding is much bigger than me.

So yes, I am particular, want our day to be perfect, and want to create a moment that we will all remember. But I refuse to act like a spoiled, bitchy, brat and damage relationships with the people close to me. But if for some reason, I get out of line, I am counting on my inner circle to check me. And if I morph into a Bridezilla, I will partially blame you :)!

Some of you may be familiar with my hair blog, From Dyed and Fried to Happy and Nappy. I have hit a writers block when it comes to my experiences with natural hair and am at a bit of standstill. But my life has certainly been anything but boring.

I'm almost married. I'm almost done with business school. I'm almost starting my new career. And the list goes on.

Life is about constant transitions, so why not blog about it? This blog will be about... well, my life. Hopefully you will find my experiences intriguing, funny, sad, and most importantly relatable.