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I just read that article about falling in love with her FWB. It makes absolutely no sense to me. She clearly states that the only time she sees him is when he rolls into her bed between 10PM-Midnight once a week. So basically, the only time they ever spend time together is just briefly for sex.

But then she goes on to talk about how she could always rely on him, how he was always there for her, a source of emotional support, blah blah blah. How the HELL can she know all that when she literally only sees him for two hours in the middle of the night to fuck and then he rolls over, gets dressed and leaves? LMAO.

She sounds like she’s 20 and doesn’t know any better. Girl, quit fooling yourself. You don’t love his dumb ass.

Right. I was expecting some kind of story where she thought she needed to end the relationship cause she fell in love with him. All I got is some girl basically telling us the D was good, and she fell in love with it then she got dropped cause he wanted to sex someone else.
Ugh. So disappointing.

And she’s clearly in denial about things. “He never said that he loved me back” but she goes on to say how totally ok she was with that and how she learned that didn’t need him to love her to be ok with her feelings for him…. Uh huh.

I feel like once you excuse your daughter’s attempted rapist, noted rapist Mike Tyson, there’s no hope for you. So I’m not shocked Bill Cosby would go on a “women are liars!” tour, but, you know, die in a fire Bill Cosby.

And how come Mike Tyson is a-ok with everyone now? He’s got a hipster show on Adult Swim, he’s just having a great time. I mean, he still insists he didn’t rape her. This is what he said at his sentencing:
“I’m not guilty of this crime. It’s something that occurred, but I didn’t hurt anybody. No black eyes. No broken ribs. When I’m in the ring, I break their ribs. I break their jaws. To me, that’s hurting someone”.

It’s fucking disgusting. He didn’t even deny that he had non-consensual sex. He just said she wasn’t beat up, so it’s not rape. He doesn’t even understand rape, which tells me that he’s probably done it more than once.

But I guess his show’s funny and the kids who are watching it weren’t around for that so now everything’s hunky-dory!

Why does Asian Ken have to have nerd glasses? That’s playing on an Asian stereotype. I’ve seen/met plenty of hot Asian guys that weren’t the stereotypical Asian nerd.
And why does Black Ken have to have cornrows? Again, incredibly stereotypical. Cornrows on black men haven’t been a thing for almost a decade. African Americans have a vast range of hairstyles. Dreads and fades are always in style and professional.!
C’mon Mattel, if you hare going to have diversity in your dolls at least do your research, and get away from stereotypical images of different races & ethnicities.
I want to give them props for trying to diversify but I really can’t right now.

From what I saw, not all of the black Kens have cornrows. I think that’s just one of the options. There seem to be varying skin tones and hair type available. I imagine its the same with the Asian Ken with glasses.

They only had one Asian Ken and he came with nerd glasses. So I’m still disappointed in that. And that Asian Ken looks sorta Chinese? Or maybe generic Asian? I feel that sends a subliminal message that all Asians look alike, and have the same culture which is so very untrue.
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Asians are so diverse in how they look that Mattel has to either define this particular Ken’s ethnicity or come out with a line of different ethnic Kens that fall under Asian.
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I think I take issue with cornrowed Ken because 1) his cornrows look absolutely terrible 2) they chose to specifically highlight cornrowed Ken as their attempt to represent African Americans, instead of a different black Ken.
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Is it me or does the guy in the glasses look white, like Clark Kent? I do see another Black Ken with short hair like a fade, and there’s a high-fashion one at the end with big hair that I can’t tell if it’s twists or dreads, but it looks cool. But it’s like there’s no Asian representation at all. They should have an Indian Ken, a Japanese Ken, definitely Korean Ken, etc. There are so many white and Hispanic ones of various shades.

I thought the man bun thing was passé. (If it isn’t it should be, although the brother in Get Out pulled it off) At least he didn’t have the man bun AND the annoying trendy beard. I would like to see the Asian without the glasses too. And Teddy Bear Ken maybe with some chest fur.
I have the original Ken in the striped robe. He sleeps with me sometimes.