Media Exchange Hook Up Program

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this person as a media exchange partner. The first time we met, I felt sparks fly. Not sure if it was mutual but we hit it off immediately. Even though I’m married, I wanted something outside of my marriage to satisfy me. So I found someone as desperate as me, but she has no husband or family so it was easy to get close to her. I went to her country and we spent a great deal of time together. I was falling for her and she knew it and let me get close. On the last night, she invited me to her apartment (wife still doesn’t know what we did) I was reluctant at first but this was a true offer for casual sex! We talked for a few minutes then grabbed each other and went to town! I turned her around and fucked her from behind! It was awesome! The feeling was great! I came in her and she was really vocal! I know she was pleased. I just cheated on my wife of 26 years and didn’t care! I needed that sex. Of course, my wife found out I had feelings for her and has been on my case since! I feel bad I cheated but what’s done is done. I told my wife there was no sex but I lied. We saw each other again a few months later but we didn’t have sex that time but now it’s so bad at home I’m not sure how to make it up to my wife. She will never forgive me! I’m a good liar though so I always deny sex. the only way my wife will know is if my GF tells her. My wife would tear her apart! oh well, that’s that. She’s more important to me than my wife and kids! My job though is number one. This would be a reputation killer.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I instigated in 2015 when I met her casually with a media exchange group. She stood out. not attractive but I gravitated toward her energy, her lust for life!!! I want a job like hers! I couldn’t resist the temptation

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? No anal, just doggie style sex with her bent over a couch. Damn, that was hot! I have no more contact with her since my wife will go nuts

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt like shit, I just cheated on my wife and potentially risked a professional partnership!

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody I denied the act for 2 years now

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Because I betrayed my wife

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Quick sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating on my wife

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’m not cheating again!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No, glad it’s over

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If you’re married, do not cheat, it’s not worth it