25 year age gap

Me and my boyfriend have a 25 year age gap, things are very hard right now, he is leaving his girlfriend and we are moving out in a few months, coming up with the money is hard and telling my family is even worse, donít know when to tell them or what to say, Iím 18 heís 43, anyone who has experienced this please give me advice on how to tell them

I too advise you to rethink this. This guy is old enough to be your father. I suspect he sees a sweet young thing he can get into bed and have a good time with, sexually. 25 years is too far apart for it to have much chance of working out. You've got stars in your eyes. Your life is all ahead of you, you should be finishing up high school, heading to college or uni, dating various people, going to parties, hanging out with friends, travelling wherever you fancy. Not planning to live with some much older guy who will probably cheat on you before long and you will wonder what the hell happened. You are making a big mistake. Your family will have every reason to freak out and be angry with you.

I too advise you to rethink this. This guy is old enough to be your father. I suspect he sees a sweet young thing he can get into bed and have a good time with, sexually. 25 years is too far apart for it to have much chance of working out. You've got stars in your eyes. Your life is all ahead of you, you should be finishing up high school, heading to college or uni, dating various people, going to parties, hanging out with friends, travelling wherever you fancy. Not planning to live with some much older guy who will probably cheat on you before long and you will wonder what the hell happened. You are making a big mistake. Your family will have every reason to freak out and be angry with you.

Yeah youíre right, Iím working full time at the moment, Iíve been denying my feelings for so long they are so hard to shake..

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My son is almost 21 and if a 43 year old woman went after him I would kick her butt up between her shoulders. This is the time in your life to be carefree . Not manipulated by someone much older and much more skilled at manipulating and controlling people .

Oh my goodness..so many wrong things with this. Why on earth would you want a man who could be your father? Did you know that age gaps this far apart have a 99% chance of not working?
Why?
Because you are not in the same place in life what so ever. You will want different things, you have different life experiences, different thoughts on things, different perspectives, you were born in completely different times.
As time passes you will grow further apart and those differences will become more and more.

He cheated to be with you? Very high chance that he will cheat on you down the line as well.
Obviously you're going to do what you want, but you will see that what I am saying is correct. This will eventually fail.