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When should I tell my boss I'm pregnant?

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I'm eight weeks pregnant and I just started a new job about two weeks ago. I've been putting off telling my boss because I'm afraid he'll fire me when he finds out. I like my job and I want to work up until the baby is due. What are my rights? When and how should I break the news?

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I'm 4 months pregnant and only told my coworkers and immediate supervisor. My immediate supervisor is one of 8 and then there is our department director above all of them and us. The immediate supervisor is very ruthless since she just got the promotion to management, plus she FLIRTS with the father of my child. The other 7 supervisors will without doubt look down on me, seeing as I'm 19. The main department head though desperately wants a child but is single and consumed by her career. She just gave me the shift move I wanted at work so I'm afraid to tell her. I'm afraid to tell any of them. They're all judgemental and I'm emotionally unstable right now. I couldn't deal with the looks and comments. My company is VERY outspoken.

I am in a similiar situation, only mine is a bit worse I am a temp! I know once I tell them they won't hire me on. I am a single mother and I need this job, I only have about 5-6 more weeks before my probationary period is over.. I don't know if I can hide it that long. This is my second child and I am still carrying weight from the first.. I could just say I'm fat.. but I hate the deception.. I would wait as long as you can before telling them, and when you do, have a good plan in mind. Don't let them do any talking until you're done. Tell them you can do your job regardless of what is in your stomach.. and before you tell them, make sure you make an impression for the work you're already doing. Everyone says that its illegal to fire you for it, and yea it is, but companies don't want the liabilities that come with it, and they will find a way around it. I know.. it happened with my first child where I was working.

I am 13 weeks pregnant and I start got a new job tomorrow. I didn't mention to them I am pregnant. I knew probably if I did they woulndnt of hired me. I don't know when is the best time to tell them. What are my rights?? Can they fire me????

I start a new job on Wed and I just found out I'm 10 weeks pregnant. They have a 90 day probationary period. When do I have to tell them by law that I'm pregnant? Should I wait after the probationary period? Can they fire me for this? I know some companies will try to find any excuse to fire someone sometimes for this reason. What are my rights?

I found out that I was pregnant with my first child literally 3 days after starting a new job. I was fired a week and a half later. My boss had made comments about "we don't need another pregnant chick working in here," and "I'm still looking to fire a pregnant chick... who is it gonna be?" Not only were these comments (stated in front of fellow employees) considered sexual harassment, but he also made a crude stick figure drawing of a pregnant woman and then took a big red marker and crossed it out. Now, not only are his actions illegal, they are ludicrous. I called the Civil Rights Board of Michigan and told an investigator what happened. She was attentive and after the conversation, she asked me if I would like my job back at this company. I replied with a yes, because that is what is right and I earned that job, plus, I never wanted to file suit on anyone, ever. She notified my former employer of my concerns and told them that all I wanted was my job back. The owner of the company concurred, and agreed to the investigator that he would bring me back into the company. I know some of you are wondering why I would want to work at that company still. Well, in reply, I tell you this, I CAN DEAL WITH TENSION, ESPECIALLY WHEN I AM RIGHT. When I went in for a meeting with the owner and the idiot manager who hired me and fired me, they (and two other people in the office) told me that I was not going to be brought back because of my previous performance on the job. I was never repremanded for anything job related. These performance reports are bogus. So, here I am filing suit on a large company that could have wiggled their way out of legal fees and possible financial redemption in my favor, had they just done what was right and hired me back, or not fired me in the first place. All this for an $8.00/hr telemarketing job and an unplanned pregnancy. I wouldn't do it any differently and am very proud for how I handled the situation. Upon completion of my pregnancy (I am 8 weeks) my child will have the word JUSTICE in their name. For all you women struggling with this, there are civil rights laws that will protect you.

I'm 11 weeks pregnant and I've been at my job for 4 1/2 months. The girl who used to work here had a baby with complications and had to quit. She said when they found out she was pregnant the office manager started treating her poorly. I'm starting to show a little and I think the manager is a little suspicious. What do I do?

How about this one? I worked for 5 years as a director in sales and was so good at my job that I became recognized nationally and was titled President of the Directors association...in Dec of 2002 I found out I was pregnant - about 3 weeks after I told my boss about it he saw fit to terminate my employment. The father of the my unborn baby didnt want anything to do with me or the baby - but atleast I thought I had my good paying job - I started dating my now husband - when I found out I was pregnant, he said marry me anyway! Which was a good thing but my employer loathed this person (in the same business as me but at a different location/different state - an hour away from where I worked - he used that as his excuse and told everyone that I just decided to up and quit my job - after firing me behind closed doors! It was months later that I found out my first prenatal visit with blood work was unpaid by my group health insurance - I kept my appointment which I scheduled right after I found out I was pregnant - but was set for the end of January the 31st - he saw fit to fire me on the 28th...Why was my doctors and blood work visit not paid for ? Because my employer and his wife secretly excluded maternity from my policy! Secretly? yes - because the entire time I was working there they told me that because I was of child bearing age I had to pay premiums that would cover me should I become pregnant... what's worse is - I never called the insurance company because I wasnt thinking about that part of it - but about a week and a half after I disclosed my pregnancy to my employers - Mrs. Employer came back to my desk with an insurance folder from our Group health plan with all these prenatal brochures and an invite to enroll in the wee-call program for pregnant women! So as late as December they had me believing I had the coverage - I went to my doctors on the 31st and it was months later that my claim was denied... To make matters worse - after I got fired, being pregnant and recently engaged with no wedding date set - he fires me and tells me to just go and work for my fiance's location - I tried to do that because that was my only other alternative to sustain myself and pay for upcoming events - I went to work that Saturday and when Monday rolled around the owner of the new location came to me to tell me that I was not allowed to work there because my ex-employer invoked a corporate ruling that prevents any employee from working at any other franchise for a period of 6 months!!! so in one breath he fires me and tells me to go work elsewhere and then prevents me from doing just that!!!! I am suing !!! It will be 2 years on January 28th 2005 that I was fired - and they have just been served!!! I hope they lose sleep at nite and are so upset like they've made me feel for the last two years!!! Every single day it's on my mind and I will not quit til I have my day in court! I have some pretty good evidence that he was intending to fire me - a written statement from the owner of the new facility - he told her I was done and would be out of there by the end of the week! This statement was made the day before he actually fired me - yet he's saying that I just quit my job - okay - so I'm pregnant I think I'll go and shoot myself now !! get real!!! He's going to pay for what he did to me!!! one way or the other!!! that's a promise!
What do you think about all of that?

I just found out i am 7-8 weeks prego myself and am struggling with telling my boss too, not in fear of loosing my job but just taking how she will react. She's know around the office as the over-reacter and tends to lash out, my gal freinds know and it seems that she will soon find out through the grapevine, should I give her the courtesy of telling her myself or wait until I show even more so that she will ask me? I also found out today that as of Monday, she won't be my boss anyfurther so should I bother waiting to tell her considering????

I am a police officer and 8 weeks pregnant. I don't know if I should say something now or wait a bit longer. I am still working out in the streets and my last call i went on dealt with fighting men and guns. I don't want to put my baby at risk of any harm especially since I had an ectopic pregnancy before this one. I just don't know what will happen when I say it or should I wait until I am 12 weeks along?

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