Studying a concept like the law of attraction more deeply can be very helpful in many respects, way beyond manifesting specific things like money or relationships.

Understanding it is a Universal law and not a ‘tool’ used expressly to get ‘stuff’ helps you realize how focusing on your ‘being’ and nurturing your energy can lead you to manifest all sorts of wonderful things that will help you become the best version of yourself, and allow you to do, be and have all you want in life.

Most people with an interest in personal growth feel a deep need to live a meaningful life; we want to find our ‘purpose.’ We have a sense there is a specific reason we are here, and until we find this reason, we may feel unfulfilled. We feel like all the time living not ‘on purpose’ is wasted.

This search can cause a great deal of anxiety. We feel a lot of pressure to ‘figure’ it out. And when we have a better understanding of energy and the attraction process, this state of being isn’t conducive to manifesting the insights we are seeking.

Here are a few thoughts that I hope will make you feel a bit better about this search.

What I Think Our Purpose Is

I think our primary purpose here is to enjoy our life and contribute to our human experience through our own experience and perspective.

Each of us is a unique slice of ‘all that is’ and the Universe experiencing itself.

So you are already ‘on purpose’ by the sheer fact of being here. Now does this mean that you should ignore that nagging feeling you are meant for something greater and better, find a way to be content with your life just as it is now, and keep chugging on with whatever you are doing?

Definitely not. This perspective is simply offered as a potential ‘salve’ to the anxiety you might feel because you haven’t figured out your ‘purpose’ yet, you worry you are making the wrong choices, and that your life isn’t meaningful or whatever.

When looking at ‘purpose’ in this way, you see it is more about ‘being’ rather than ‘doing.’

But because we are here in bodies, the ‘doing’ is going to be a major part of our experience here, and we are going to feel compelled to fill our days doing something.

We want to enjoy that ‘something.’ We want that ‘something’ to be an expression of our values, our passions, our skills, our talents.

I don’t necessarily think we have a specific purpose that we are tasked with figuring out once we take human form, and we best figure it out or else we will end up living an unhappy, unfulfilled life.

If our purpose is to ‘be’ then from there, we get to decide what is the best expression of that. The things we feel passionate about, the subjects that interest us,etc…can be great clues to help us figure this out.

I know this is a very cliched question, but it is really, really helpful for getting at the root of what we really want: If money wasn’t an issue, how would you want to spend your days? What would you do for a living?

What excites you? What are you good at? What makes you happy? What comes easy and naturally to you?

Being Paves the Way for Doing

If our energy is what determines what shows up in our life, then again, focusing on our ‘being’ is the best way to manifest all we need to help us on our journey.

Our energy not only determines what specific ‘things’ show up in our life, it also is the starting point for thoughts and insights. When our energy game is ‘tight’ we are in better ‘contact’ with our higher self. The clarity comes.

When we focus on the energy, the actions will reveal themselves. We will have a better sense of how we want to spend our days. The decisions and changes we need to make become clear to us, and we are more comfortable making them.

The best way to create an energy conducive to these insights is doing what you can to enjoy your life now, prioritizing your happiness and well-being.

At the end of the day, that is all you want anyway, and is something you can work towards at any moment–nothing needs to change first.

This energy will allow you to manifest more things that will make you feel good.

For many, a sense of purpose is tied to helping others in some way–there are lots of ways you can help other people now, that will provide a similar emotional benefit.

You can volunteer your time. You can help the people in your life in whatever way feels inspired.

Getting at the Root

Figuring out how you want to feel is the key to gaining clarity for living a purposeful life. Everything we want is because we think it would make us feel a way we want to feel.

Once we get a better sense of the feelings we crave in our life, the confusion we feel over our ‘path’ begins to dissipate.

When we pinpoint the feelings, we get a better sense of what kinds of work and experiences will provide these feelings.

When faced with choices between different options, we consider which ones will give us the feelings we are after, and we base the decision off that.

As we engage in experiences that allow us to feel the feelings we want to feel, that energy gets stronger, and we manifest more things that will give us those feelings.

If we are willing to follow our feelings, we will always be on the ‘right’ path.

So how do you want to feel? In your work or other activities, what specific ways would you like to help people? How do you want to make them feel?

This Will Look Different for Everyone

If our true ‘purpose’ is experiencing life from our own unique perspective, and being happy, and not necessarily what we are ‘doing’ this can make us look at ‘purpose’ in a very different way.

Living our ‘purpose’ may look very different than we envision it.

We often think of ‘purpose’ as a very action-oriented thing–it is something we are ‘doing.

And like I said before, living your purpose will most likely involve some sort of ‘doing,’ most likely in the realm of your career.

I imagine most people interested in living a purposeful life won’t find working a job just for a paycheck or spending all their free time watching TV very fulfilling.

This isn’t the sort of ‘being’ they have in mind.

What makes people happy and feel fulfilled is very, very different. Many people may feel pressure to pursue some really ‘big’ goal, or help people in some way that may involve some great sacrifice on their part.

With an interest in personal development and spirituality, you might feel like you must become a life coach or energy healer, and teach others these concepts.

If you feel drawn to these sorts of things, great. But if not that’s fine too.

Your purpose is to be happy–that’s really it.

Not everyone might feel drawn to pursuing some path where they are trying to save the world, or living in some third world country helping the most unfortunate of the unfortunate.

You may have found great benefit in pursuing personal growth, but may not have any interest in having that be your profession–no problem. If you feel passionate about sharing what you learned, great. But you are under no obligation to do so.

If you are happy, you are contributing to the betterment of the world–let’s not forget there is a collective vibration, not just individual ones.

If you are being paid for your work, that means there is some sort of need for your services, and you are helping people in some way, contributing in some way.

So, don’t hesitate to pursue any line of work that you would find enjoyable because it isn’t ‘spiritual’ ‘purposeful’ or ‘helpful’ enough.

Don’t think that your purpose must necessarily be expressed through what you do for a living.

You Can Get On Purpose at Any Moment

The great thing about viewing happiness as your purpose is you can begin enjoying a meaningful life even if you aren’t sure what you want to do yet, you feel like you can’t take the actions you want to take right in this immediate moment, or it might take awhile to get where you ultimately want to be.

You won’t hesitate to take that first step because you get overwhelmed thinking how many may lay ahead on your journey. That your life might not immediately change, and it will be a process, won’t feel so discouraging.

You can truly begin enjoying the journey, and won’t focus so heavily on the destination.

Don’t hesitate to pursue a specific path that appeals to you, or put your energy and focus into one particular endeavor, but know that ultimately no one specific thing is absolutely essential to your happiness, that there is no one thing you are pre-determined to be doing.

This more relaxed approach to being ‘on purpose’ is the very thing that will reveal to you more specific ways you can live a life that will make you happiest, that will feel meaningful.

The Importance of Knowing Yourself

So much of our confusion stems from a lack of self-awareness and self-reflection. We really don’t know ourselves very well at all.

We go after what we think we should want, not really taking any time to consider if it is what we actually want. We aim to please other people. We want to live a certain type of life so we will be viewed a certain way by others.

We don’t define success for ourselves, and go by other people’s definitions, and even if we have met these benchmarks, we often don’t feel like much of a winner.

We may have given up on our dreams even before we allowed ourselves to really take a crack at them because we didn’t think it was possible, we were scared or because we couldn’t see every single step right from the outset, we couldn’t bring ourselves to take that first one.

We may be embarrassed about who we really are. We worry we can’t be ourselves because other people wouldn’t understand, because of our culture, our parents, our religion.

Getting to know ourselves better–and giving ourselves permission to be who we are— is a crucial component of personal growth in general, and manifesting in particular.

The energy of authenticity is very powerful from a manifesting perspective. The better we know ourselves, the more successfully and easily we can align with the things that will bring us the most enjoyment, that will be the best reflection of the energies and feelings with which we want our lives to be filled.

When we know ourselves better, we have a better idea of what would truly make us happy. When we know ourselves better, it gives us the courage to pursue what we want because we know these things would make us happy.

When we know ourselves better, we more easily insulate ourselves from the opinions, judgments and criticisms of other people because we know we are doing what is right for us, and there is less insecurity and uncertainty to be triggered.

When we know ourselves better, decisions that seem hard to make don’t seem that hard any more, things that once seemed very confusing are no longer so.

So who are you? What do you value most in life? What do you want your life to look like? What do you want your life to feel like? What are your strengths? What are you good at?

If you were free of fear, doubt, worrying what other people would think about you, what would you do with your life? What changes would you make to it now? What would you add? What would you subtract?

These might not be questions you can answer fully right away. But asking them sincerely is the first step to manifesting the answers. It will actually open up energies that will allow you to start manifesting whatever it is you need to make this vision a reality.

Your Turn

What did you think of the post? Anything resonate in particular? What advice would you give for finding purpose and meaning in life?

8 Comments

The cool thing about your keen perspective is as we are being, then doing, we know we are on purpose. I see it like, there are no questions. Few if any judgments. All feels fun. All feels right. No matter what appearances pop up, you have the feeling all things are getting better and better as you embody your purpose, versus finding it. It find you. You be it. How neat. Whether it’s blogging or vacuuming, I feel the purpose pulse through me.

Very insightful post as always. I liked what you have said about getting to know ourselves and giving ourselves permission to be who we are. That really stops getting obsessed about figuring out life from moment to moment. Whatever it is it is. That very moment will let itself known to you and what’s next if you are aligned. And whatever it is will be temporary always. Either it’s a happy moment or sad moment. I want to ask you that Do you believe that we really have a free will? Sometimes it really amazes me how we get particular stream of thoughts without knowing what is creating that or who is sending that? How we all are unique in our perspectives. Thank you for your guidance.

Hi Rhea Thanks for your wonderful comments as always. I do think we receive ‘guidance’ from that spiritual, invisible part of us, but do have free will for sure as it is ‘human’ us who ultimately is making decisions. Either we work in harmony with that part or we don’t ,either by going against what we are receiving or not even thinking of that aspect of ourselves even existing. Very interesting point you brought up.

I loved this post. I wish I could give it a ‘like’ 🙂 Which reminds me, Kelli, are you on Instagram? I can’t see a link to it here. I loved the line your wrote that basically says ‘Your purpose is to be happy’. I spent a lot of time not doing what I wanted because I wondered what other people would say (feeling they would say I was stupid or hippy-ish 😉 ) but little by little, I started to follow my bliss and I am happier. Your post has given me even more ‘permission’ to go the way I want to go. Thank you 🙂

Hi Lape Thanks so much for your comment and I am glad the post was helpful for you. Freeing ourselves from the worry of what others think of us is one of the greatest freedoms we can experience, and even if it still bothers us sometimes, knowing we are doing what is right for us makes it less impactful. No, I don’t have Instagram but Facebook and Twitter and you can see those links on my sidebar somewhere. I also checked out your website and it looks like you are doing very awesome work helping people with something that many people could use help with, something they want very much.

Every one is unique and different in their own ways. We can not change one’s tendencies and force them to be other person.

We are supposed to know our selves and focus on being what actually we are. I often try to convince my self that I should not be doing the things I always wished to do it. What other will think of me, what they will talk about me in the society.

The prospection is overwhelmed. Before doing something, we need to think thousand time, as we fear. Fear what other people will think of me.

Gradually I started to do it, some little things which made me happier, and the result are very obvious as I learned to be happy. Now I am a more loving person and help to put some guidance for those who still fears.

Thanks so much for your comment. That is so great you are allowing yourself to live your life the way you want to live it. You are right that it isn’t always easy–we know we shouldn’t care about what people think but there can often be a gap between what we understand intellectually and how we are really feeling about a particular situation. The more confident you get, the less likely you will encounter criticism since the insecurity will not be as dominant in your energy, and therefore it won’t have to be mirrored back to you.

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About Kelli

Hi, I'm Kelli! Welcome to my blog. In a nutshell, I am a writer and coach taking advantage of my mobile sources of income to indulge in my passion for travel. If I can get an internet connection, it's all good, and since May 2011, my husband Ryan and I have been 'citizens of the world.'

This blog is a result of the wisdom I have gained on my own journey to becoming the person I want to be and living the life I want to live. It is my hope what you read here will inspire you to do the same.