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" thinking positive" is bulls***.

it does nothing. some people are just dealt a shitty hand, and it isnt going to change by being positive. people wanting change, and trying so hard, just to be repeatedly nocked down. at this point thinking positive is as pointless as praying. you can do it all day every day and it doesnt happen. nothing changes. things get worse. but oh, then theres the classic " you have to be patient!'

i HATE when people fricken say that, "you need to think positive" guess what? i have and guess what? i only ended up more disappointed than if i expected the worst! its nohting but false hope and people get SO MAD at me bc im so negitive, well i wonder why!

I think then you have to try even harder. You have to broaden your search. You have to take the crap jobs, the shit paying jobs, the jobs that no one wants. I'm not saying you aren't trying hard, I'm saying that you have to try harder. There is ALWAYS a way. It might not be a good way, or a fun way, or a way that lets you see your kids every day. It will probably be tiring and sucky BUT a year of that and you will be turning your life around.

Quoting Anonymous:

what if you are literally doing everything you can. jobs wont call you back, ect. what if NOTHING is happening and you are trying your ass off?

Quoting mem82:

You have got to do something to change your life. Sometimes, bad luck happens, and sometimes we just make bad choices. The more you make good choices, the less bad luck can knock you down.

I think believing something is going to change because you think positively is wrong. Thinking positively, or changing your perspective, is the key to being happy regardless of all the shit. You still have shit. You just think about it differently.

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