DISCIPLINE

What kind of discipline do you use on your 13 month old? She knows she is doing wrong because she looks at me everytime she does something she knows she is not supposed to do. I tell her no and go up to remove her from the situation and she laughs and "runs" to do what she knows she is not supposed to do! It is very aggravating! At first I thought it was for attention, but now that I am spending more "us time" with her she seems to be misbehaving more!!! I also just started to count to 3 and that works, sometimes. I refuse to spank her because I came from an abusive family and I am scared if I spank her it could get worse and I could lose control and I would hate myself forever if I ever hurt her. so spanking is not an option for me. Any advice would be appreciated!

What kind of discipline do you use on your 13 month old? She knows she is doing wrong because she looks at me everytime she does something she knows she is not supposed to do. I tell her no and go up to remove her from the situation and she laughs and "runs" to do what she knows she is not supposed to do! It is very aggravating! At first I thought it was for attention, but now that I am spending more "us time" with her she seems to be misbehaving more!!! I also just started to count to 3 and that works, sometimes. I refuse to spank her because I came from an abusive family and I am scared if I spank her it could get worse and I could lose control and I would hate myself forever if I ever hurt her. so spanking is not an option for me. Any advice would be appreciated!

Distract her or remove whatever it is that is causing the problem. I don't think that at 13 months older she should be disciplined (of course "no" is fine) ....She is only trying to figure things out and if it's something that could be harmful to her that u don't want her to touch for her own safety then try and block it... It's hard to give additional advice if I'm not sure exactly what she's doing.... I find that distraction works best in most cases :). .... im glad u see that spanking isn't the answer

Distract her or remove whatever it is that is causing the problem. I don't think that at 13 months older she should be disciplined (of course "no" is fine) ....She is only trying to figure things out and if it's something that could be harmful to her that u don't want her to touch for her own safety then try and block it... It's hard to give additional advice if I'm not sure exactly what she's doing.... I find that distraction works best in most cases :). .... im glad u see that spanking isn't the answer

I will tell her "no" then explain why, while closing the cabinet, removing the item from her hand, etc. If she reopens the cabinet, picks up the item again, etc, I repeat what I did before. I continue to do this, until she stops. Yes, it could take from a few seconds to 20 minutes for her to stop. But I have the patience. Claire does comprehend. I find that usually, I don't have to say "no" more than 3-4 times before she gets it. Sometimes, it only takes once. I believe in sticking your ground and early discipline (no, not beating or anything harsh). You can't wait until they are 5 years old to discipline and expect that they won't have behavioral issues.On the other hand, DH will just remove her from the situation. He does not have the patience. And therefore, she usually ignores what he says. If I say "no", she will stop (sometimes only temporary) and will look at me. When DH says "no", she acts like he's not even speaking.

I will tell her "no" then explain why, while closing the cabinet, removing the item from her hand, etc. If she reopens the cabinet, picks up the item again, etc, I repeat what I did before. I continue to do this, until she stops. Yes, it could take from a few seconds to 20 minutes for her to stop. But I have the patience. Claire does comprehend. I find that usually, I don't have to say "no" more than 3-4 times before she gets it. Sometimes, it only takes once. I believe in sticking your ground and early discipline (no, not beating or anything harsh). You can't wait until they are 5 years old to discipline and expect that they won't have behavioral issues.On the other hand, DH will just remove her from the situation. He does not have the patience. And therefore, she usually ignores what he says. If I say "no", she will stop (sometimes only temporary) and will look at me. When DH says "no", she acts like he's not even speaking.

I don't think it's a matter of patience. If saying no for 20 minutes works for you that's fine. I think most would agree that they are still very young at this age - exploring and figuring things out. I have 4 well behaved boys and at that age distraction works best. Patience has nothing to do with it at this point. Don't get me wrong - I think most of us will say something when we see our little one doing something they shouldn't - I actually find that the words uh-oh work best for me as opposed to no.

I don't think it's a matter of patience. If saying no for 20 minutes works for you that's fine. I think most would agree that they are still very young at this age - exploring and figuring things out. I have 4 well behaved boys and at that age distraction works best. Patience has nothing to do with it at this point. Don't get me wrong - I think most of us will say something when we see our little one doing something they shouldn't - I actually find that the words uh-oh work best for me as opposed to no.

If you all will notice in my previous post, it does not take me 20mins each time I teach her not to do something. The first time that I try to teach her not to do something might (in italics) take 20minutes. But after that, if later on she decides to do the same thing, I'll just say "no no" once or twice and she'll automatically move on. Example: she loves to pull stuff out of a particular cabinet in my bathroom. The first time I saw her doing it, I put the things back in the cabinet and said "No sweetheart, you can't play with these things." Of course she tried to open it again and I repeated myself. This went on for a while. Finally, she gave up and went away. Well today, she decided to hit up that cabinet. I went over and did the same thing. She stopped after the second try (less than a minute) and moved on.I believe that at 1 years old, they are exploring their environment and their boundaries. I am fully aware and engaged in her discovering her surroundings. At the same time, I'm teaching her boundaries and how to listen to me, when I say no. And so far, it's working for me. I'll keep my fingers crossed that it continues to work. :)No disrespect to anyone here. And I hope I haven't offended anyone. We all have our own ways of "disciplining" (or teaching) or little ones.

If you all will notice in my previous post, it does not take me 20mins each time I teach her not to do something. The first time that I try to teach her not to do something might (in italics) take 20minutes. But after that, if later on she decides to do the same thing, I'll just say "no no" once or twice and she'll automatically move on. Example: she loves to pull stuff out of a particular cabinet in my bathroom. The first time I saw her doing it, I put the things back in the cabinet and said "No sweetheart, you can't play with these things." Of course she tried to open it again and I repeated myself. This went on for a while. Finally, she gave up and went away. Well today, she decided to hit up that cabinet. I went over and did the same thing. She stopped after the second try (less than a minute) and moved on.I believe that at 1 years old, they are exploring their environment and their boundaries. I am fully aware and engaged in her discovering her surroundings. At the same time, I'm teaching her boundaries and how to listen to me, when I say no. And so far, it's working for me. I'll keep my fingers crossed that it continues to work. :)No disrespect to anyone here. And I hope I haven't offended anyone. We all have our own ways of "disciplining" (or teaching) or little ones.

To the OP:Don't give up hope. My DD is 14 months and just like your LO. "Keep doing what you are doing", is what I should've said in the beginning. Say no and remove her. But if she goes back, say no and remove her again. And repeat as often as you have to. If she smiles or laughs, obviously don't frown, but don't laugh or smile back either. And take a deep breath! It may take a while, but eventually, you'll make headway. (From one mother of a stubborn child to another. ;) )

To the OP:Don't give up hope. My DD is 14 months and just like your LO. "Keep doing what you are doing", is what I should've said in the beginning. Say no and remove her. But if she goes back, say no and remove her again. And repeat as often as you have to. If she smiles or laughs, obviously don't frown, but don't laugh or smile back either. And take a deep breath! It may take a while, but eventually, you'll make headway. (From one mother of a stubborn child to another. ;) )

Thank you to everyone who posted! Her favorite thing is trying to climb onto our (glass) entertainment stand! We kept removing her at first but we could not move because as soon as we set her down, she was running back to it!!! Now we have completely blocked it off and now she has learned that if she climbs onto things she can get over them, so now she climbs over the stuff or fights with it until she finds an opening!! She is learning from our (almost) 2 year old and has picked up alot of her bad habits and acts just like a 2 year old!!! She is very stubborn and VERY determined! If she wants to do something, she finds a way to do it! I personally think she is able to comprehend! Thats just me though! Again, thank you for all the posts! Oh yeah, counting to 3 quit working...she pretty much just ignores me now, even though I am following through!

Thank you to everyone who posted! Her favorite thing is trying to climb onto our (glass) entertainment stand! We kept removing her at first but we could not move because as soon as we set her down, she was running back to it!!! Now we have completely blocked it off and now she has learned that if she climbs onto things she can get over them, so now she climbs over the stuff or fights with it until she finds an opening!! She is learning from our (almost) 2 year old and has picked up alot of her bad habits and acts just like a 2 year old!!! She is very stubborn and VERY determined! If she wants to do something, she finds a way to do it! I personally think she is able to comprehend! Thats just me though! Again, thank you for all the posts! Oh yeah, counting to 3 quit working...she pretty much just ignores me now, even though I am following through!

Oh, you have a bigger problem. She's imitating her older sibling. Hmmm... You've got your work cut out. In order to stop her, you are going to have to stop your older LO's bad behaviors as well. As long as your older LO persists, it's gonna be hard for you to discipline and correct your younger LO.Good luck!

Oh, you have a bigger problem. She's imitating her older sibling. Hmmm... You've got your work cut out. In order to stop her, you are going to have to stop your older LO's bad behaviors as well. As long as your older LO persists, it's gonna be hard for you to discipline and correct your younger LO.Good luck!

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