12 people who were engaged but never got married explain what went wrong

1. "She withdrew from me after her father got sick."

"Was with my S/O for three years before we got engaged. Her father then was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she started to withdraw from me after finding out the news. I tried to be supportive and help her through it, but we started arguing about small things constantly. Mole hills started to become mountains and we started to fall apart. Not long after our four year anniversary she got the news her father had passed away. In our 5th year of being together and after a fairly large argument, I left work and grabbed a bottle of wine with flowers to try to signify a new beginning for us, but when I got home she had taken my son and all his things, and moved all of her belongings out of the house. She had left the engagement ring on the bed for me to find." [via]

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2. "Her daughter died."

"We decided to cancel the wedding after her daughter died at the age of seven. We're still together, but we just never rescheduled the wedding." [via]

3. "I didn't want to be a stay at home wife."

"We got engaged without fully discussing what would happen after I graduated from college and we could stop being long distance. As it turns out, he was not much of a city guy, and I didn't want to move to the boonies and be a stay-at-home wife immediately after graduation. Whoops! It worked out for the best for both of us." [via]

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4. "She made changes to our wedding without asking me."

"My ex fiancée and I kept disagreeing about stuff for the wedding. She comes from a wealthy family and I didn't have the money to have the type of wedding she wanted. My family offered to help out on some things and she agreed to give a little ground. I found out a week later that she and her mum had completely changed everything without telling me. Most of these changes I couldn't afford. When I confronted her about it, she asked me where I had heard that. I told her my sister had told me. She told me that I needed to choose between her and my family. It didn't take me but a few seconds to tell her that she could get all her shit out the house as soon as possible." [via]

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5. "My pregnant fiancée slept with my best man."

"Got engaged to my pregnant girlfriend. Four months before the wedding, she calls it off saying she doesn't feel the love anymore. A week after that, I came home early from my second job to surprise her and see if we can work things out and found her in bed with the guy who would have been my best man. Turns out they've been shacking up for six months and she planned to leave me for him as soon as he broken things off with his wife (who was to be her maid of honour). I decided to speed up the process by telling his wife what I found and instead of leaving her, the guy ditches my fiancée to try to salvage his marriage." [via]

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6. "He kept bugging me for anal."

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"Honestly, he kept bugging the shit of of me for anal sex and I couldn't take it anymore. After we got engaged he became obsessed with it and it's something that I just [don't want to do] also, he had a HUGE dick so I was afraid that it would hurt. I really, really didn't want to do it, but he persisted. I finally told him I would do it on the condition that he let me fuck him in the butt with a strap-on afterwards so he would have to feel what I was going through. That was a big hell no... He left me alone about it for about a month, but then it started again. He stopped having regular sex with me because I wouldn't do it, so finally I was like, 'fuck this, if you loved me you would respect that.'" [via]

7. "She told me during a fight that she'd had an abortion."

"I found out during a fight that she had an abortion while we were together. It was one of those petty arguments that people in their 20s get into. I wanted to take her out to dinner and dancing one night, and she wanted to stay home on the couch. She kept trying to rip me down, but every time she did I kinda clowned her back. She got so frustrated it came to the point where she came out with, 'Well FU I killed your kid'. It totally caught me off guard and when I asked what she was talking about, she said that she had an abortion and didn't tell me. So I stopped fighting with her and just started packing some stuff up. I told her I wasn't even mad about the abortion. People go through things. If the time wasn't right, it wasn't right. If she would have told me I would have driven her there and paid for it. I just wasn't going to spend my life with someone that would pull something like that out.. Just to win a fight over me wanting to take her out on a date." [via]

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8. "He fell for one of his colleagues."

"We were together for nine years. Set to be married on our 10 year anniversary. He started hanging out at work a lot more than normal (happy hour, company outings, etc). He started to develop a friendship with a female coworker. I've had platonic male friends my entire life so nbd. But one time my best friend and I were playfully teasing that this female friend was his girlfriend... and he got real mad almost instantly. After that I knew they were together but didn't want to admit it. About a month later he went to a work event and purposefully made it difficult for me to attend, to the point of saying, 'I don't really want you to go'. She posted a status on Facebook and tagged him in it and I went ballistic. Called him and demanded he come home. We talked, and he admitted that he's in love with her and doesn't want to be with me anymore. Eight months before the wedding. Three years engaged." [via]

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9. "She had leukaemia."

"My fiancée was diagnosed with terminal leukaemia two weeks after we got engaged in Jan 2016. She just died in my arms last Sunday. We never got to get married because every time we'd try to she'd get sick again. I miss her every day." [via]

10. "I couldn't see myself as a wife."

"I was engaged to a really nice guy. We never fought, we were very compatible but for some reason when we scheduled the engagement pictures I couldn't go through with it. I got a pixie cut and said I didn't like it so we had to put off the photos for a while. Eventually I just sat down with him and told him I really couldn't see myself as a wife but I knew he'd be happier with someone who could." [via]

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11. "He never made effort."

"I realised I was just comfortable, slowly realised that he never put in effort, and I couldn't do that for the rest of my life." [via]

12. "He moved to be nearer his daughter."

"He was in the middle of a custody battle with his ex, and it was in a different state. For Christmas he told me he was moving back. I spent months begging him to take me with him. Ultimately he left, to be closer to his child. While I loved him I recognised that he needed to fix his relationship with his daughter. I would never have been happy moving away from my family, so we split." [via]

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