A problem? Here are solution focused questions you can ask yourself:

When we’ve got a problem, it’s so easy to become stuck on it. We may spend 90 percent of our time reviewing just what went wrong, what’s not working, and why it’s happening. Really, we should probably be spending only 25 percent of our time focusing on the problem and 75 percent focusing on finding solutions. Instead of asking questions like, “What’s not working?” we should be asking questions that orient us toward solutions.

If I woke up tomorrow and by some source of magic, the problem was gone, what would be the first thing I would do?

If I started to become successful at finding a solution for this problem, how would I know?

What is one skill, that I already have, that can help me solve this problem?

In the past, how have I solved problems like this?

If my problem were solved, how would I know?

What is one resource I could use to solve this problem?

If my problem were solved, how would people respond to me differently?

What would I say to myself, if my problem were behind me?

How could I get one step closer to solving my problem?

What is one action I could take every day that would help me solve my problem?

What skill could I learn to help me solve this problem?

What is one thing I could do differently that would help me solve this problem?

How would I feel differently if I solved this problem?

Problems can often make us forget that we have choices. And one of the biggest choices we have is whether to be defined by our problems, or defined by our solutions.