i tried being the bad boy controlling the relationship telling her what days we would go out what the plans were and i just took the lead
that ended after awhile
i tried being the sensitive guy who would wait for her to want to have to have sex who ran out to catch her coming home from work to give her a jacket because it was raining i got dumped for being to into her
i tried being myself i tried being cocky i tried being funny
end of the day here i am and i have no idea what women want

i want a little sports car and new clothes for every day of the year and a man who cares more about my orgasms than his own and who does the dishes and doesnt leave a mess and picks up after himself and doesnt grab my ass in public and isnt drunk every night of the week and never disagrees with me and listens when i talk and is always on my side and protects me and is rich and doesnt have an asshole friend who is always hanging around hitting on me behind my boyfriends back and my boyfriend will believe me over his friend when i tell him about it
hows that for starters

thats a big a list can a boyfriend who could and would spend hours watching you sleep listening to your heart beat
and is thinking about you when your not there
and telling you your perfect when you are not do

I agree a little of it all combined is a good start...someone who can hold their own in a conversation and not back down if I am being bitchy one day..I don't want a guy who is a wimp yet not a big bully either but someone who would stick up for me regardless of if the other guy is bigger, someone who has manners and is kind and considerate and occasionally romantic...I say occasionally cause if it's all the time it's not as special and sweet when you get surprised then. Sexually I want someone who is considerate of me, willing to try new things and not be close minded and if I don't finish before him he will make sure I finish after him, just as I would for him. I want to feel appreciated when i go out of my way and told I look hot or sexy from time to time...little things like that...but it goes both ways you can be the perfect guy and some girls will just walk all over you so it takes two to make it work. Sounds like you have a pretty good start just have to find the right girl

friendzone sucks ass......but, you will NEVER find a good match if you arent yourself.......
i have only landed ONE awesome relationship being myself, and the bad thing is, i have talked all about it HERE but basically we havent dated yet

what Pink said is true..we don't what we want. Just be you not just a stereotype.
Couple tips : call her just to say hi, tell her that she is beautiful, write letter letting her know how u feel, give her flowers randomly, make supper or lunch, breakfast in bed, open doors, go for walks, be open and willing to talk about anything and everything, teach her new things and learn from her

My boyfriend has done all of these things and I love it when he does. It makes me feel good about myself and shows that he cares. He has gotten me interested in fishing and yes even into hunting, and is working on cars(which isn't happening)But the main thing is to be you!

Sounds like a good dude. Same stuff I like. Bottom line is, you have to be yourself. Don't overthink things. The best relationships start with two independent people who just mesh together naturally... no adjustments needed. I'm happy with the girls who like me for who I am, and I never change. Stop thinking you have to tailor the way you act to get a certain girl. Because in the end, the truth comes out. Good luck man