Introduction

Many people want to spend eternity with their spouse in heaven,
especially if separated from them through death during their marriage.
Although Christian doctrine states that we (Christians) will be together for
all eternity, what does it say about our former marriages? Will we be
married to each other for eternity in heaven?

The real marriage

A marriage is described in heaven. The "bride" is composed of all
believers in Jesus Christ. The "groom" is none other than Jesus Himself.
This kind of idea seems okay for women, but tends to make us men a little
nervous. I find it difficult to consider myself as a bride. However, the "marriage" to the lamb
(Jesus Christ) is obviously a symbol of the unity of
believers with Jesus Christ in heaven (Revelation 19:1). We know that it is
symbolic, because scripture itself defines it as such:

"Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage
of the Lamb [Jesus] has come and His bride has made herself ready." It
was given to her to clothe herself in fine linen, bright and clean; for
the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints. (Revelation 19:8)

The "fine linen" of the bride (body of believers) are the righteous acts
of the saints. Obviously, this would make a rather poor covering. The
analogy of a wedding is given because it represents the most intimate
relationship that we can experience on earth. However, like all earthly
examples, it pales in comparison to the kinds of relationships possible in
heaven.

What will people be like in heaven?

The Bible says the physical laws will be vastly different in heaven.
From this description, it is apparent that our
current bodies would not be acceptable in such a place.1 The Bible poses the
question, "But someone will say, "How are the dead raised? And with
what kind of body do they come?" (1 Corinthians 15:35). The answer to the
question is given in a series of comparisons:2

Bodies in Heaven

Mortal Body

Resurrection Body

perishable

imperishable

dishonor

glory

weak

powerful

natural

spiritual

To a certain degree, we will be given some of the characteristics of God in
heaven.3 Without at least the dimensional characteristics of God, we
would not be able to see Him, which the Bible says we will do.3

Contrary to the Mormon view of heaven,4 it doesn't seem that
people in heaven will be either male or female. Jesus was asked a complicated
question about heaven by the Sadducees (a religious sect that did not believe in
the resurrection of the dead) that directly leads us to this conclusion.5
The Sadducees gave a scenario of a woman who married 7 men (sequentially,
since they all died prematurely) in her lifetime. They asked whose wife she
would be in heaven. Jesus answered:

"You are mistaken, not understanding the Scriptures, or the power of
God. "For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in
marriage, but are like angels in heaven. (Matthew 22:29-30)

In other words, there will be no marriage or sexual differences among those
in heaven, since reproduction is unnecessary. This concept is supported by other
biblical verses that indicate that males and females are spiritually equal.6
The same concept applies to the races.7 I doubt that there will be
racial differences in heaven.

The idea that we will no longer be married is disturbing to some people.
Personally, I like to be married. From an earthly perspective, the dissolution
of marriage in heaven doesn't sound like a good thing. However, in heaven, we
will be "married" to Jesus, who will be our spiritual
"husband."8 If you are not currently a follower of Jesus
Christ, you cannot understand what this will be like, and it will probably not
have any appeal for you. However, if you have experienced the "highs"
of following Jesus as He leads you, you will have a glimpse of how awesome this
experience will be. God would not take away something good if He did not replace
it with something better. Not only will we be changed, but Paul says that we cannot even imagine
the kinds of things God has prepared for us:

but just as it is written, "THINGS WHICH EYE HAS NOT SEEN AND EAR HAS NOT
HEARD, AND which HAVE NOT ENTERED THE HEART OF MAN, ALL THAT GOD HAS
PREPARED FOR THOSE WHO LOVE HIM." (1 Corinthians 2:9)

Besides receiving a new body, those who enter heaven will be given a new name9
and will be incapable of
committing sin.10 Therefore, all the problems we have by being mean to each other will be gone. We will be able to enjoy each
other's company without the fear of being hurt by anyone.

No need for marriage and children

Jesus made it clear that angels do not marry and have children.5
He also
indicated that we will be like the angels in that regard.5
God has allowed
the human race to increase dramatically in numbers, so that there will be
billions of God's people in heaven. There can be no further reproduction in
heaven, because it would violate God's principle of free will and voluntary
choice. All humans are required to choose to accept God or reject Him. If
children were born in heaven, they would have no ability to choose to accept
or reject God. This is because there is no allowance for rebellion and sin
in heaven. For example, we know that angels do not receive grace,11 but are
condemned on their first act of disobedience to God.12 Therefore, any children born would be forced to accept God -
something God never does. This does not necessarily mean that God is
necessarily finished producing spiritual creatures. It is possible that God
could create another universe to allow other spiritual creatures the ability
to choose God and enter into heaven. However, this is mere speculation.

Conclusion

Although marriage is good and represents the most intimate relationship
we can experience on earth, it should not be idolized. If you love your
spouse more than God then he/she has become an idol. The most important
commandment is to love God "with all your heart, and with all
your soul, and with all your mind."13 We will be with our
loved ones in heaven (for those who believe). However, we will not be
married to our spouses, since that relationship will be superseded by our
relationship with Jesus, since we will be "married" to Jesus. This is not
the description of a sexual relationship, but a description of an intimacy
that is only approximated by what exists between a husband and a wife.
Marriage on earth is merely a glimpse of the relationship God intends to
have with us in heaven. It is the purpose for which we were created.
Religion that substitutes marriage and family as an idol in place of God is
a false religion.

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References

Now I say this, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of
God; nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. (1 Corinthians 15:50)

So also is the resurrection of the dead. It is sown a perishable body, it
is raised an imperishable body; it is sown in dishonor, it is raised in
glory; it is sown in weakness, it is raised in power; it is sown a natural
body, it is raised a spiritual body. If there is a natural body, there is
also a spiritual body. (1 Corinthians 15:42-44)

Beloved, now we are children of God, and it has not appeared as yet what
we shall be. We know that, when He appears, we shall be like Him, because we
shall see Him just as He is. (1 John 3:2)

The Mormons (Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter Day Saints) believe that obedient Mormon men will become gods in
heaven with their own kingdoms and wives. In fact, a neighbor recently
offered my wife to become his queen when he becomes a god in his own
kingdom. The only thing she had to do was to be baptized in the Mormon
church. She declined the offer.

On that day some Sadducees (who say there is no resurrection) came to Him
and questioned Him, saying, "Teacher, Moses said, 'IF A MAN DIES,
HAVING NO CHILDREN, HIS BROTHER AS NEXT OF KIN SHALL MARRY HIS WIFE, AND
RAISE UP AN OFFSPRING TO HIS BROTHER.' "Now there were seven brothers
with us; and the first married and died, and having no offspring left his
wife to his brother; so also the second, and the third, down to the seventh.
"And last of all, the woman died. "In the resurrection therefore
whose wife of the seven shall she be? For they all had her." But Jesus
answered and said to them, "You are mistaken, not understanding the
Scriptures, or the power of God. "For in the resurrection they neither
marry, nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven. (Matthew
22:23-30)

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there
is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. (Galatians
3:28)

For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is
Lord of all, abounding in riches for all who call upon Him; (Romans 10:12)
--a renewal in which there is no distinction between Greek and Jew,
circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave and freeman, but
Christ is all, and in all. (Colossians 3:11)

for the Lamb [Jesus Christ] in the center of the throne shall be their
shepherd, and shall guide them to springs of the water of life; and God
shall wipe every tear from their eyes." (Revelation 7:17)
"Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage
of the Lamb has come and His bride has made herself ready." (Revelation
19:7)
And he said to me, "Write, 'Blessed are those who are invited to the
marriage supper of the Lamb.'" And he said to me, "These are true
words of God." (Revelation 19:9)
And one of the seven angels who had the seven bowls full of the seven last
plagues, came and spoke with me, saying, "Come here, I shall show you
the bride, the wife of the Lamb." (Revelation 21:9)
FOR THIS CAUSE A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE TO
HIS WIFE; AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. This mystery is great; but I
am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5:31-32)
"For your husband is your Maker, Whose name is the LORD of hosts; And
your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel, Who is called the God of all the
earth. (Isaiah 54:5)

'He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to
the churches. To him who overcomes, to him I will give some of the hidden
manna, and I will give him a white stone, and a new name written on the
stone which no one knows but he who receives it.' (Revelation 2:17)

... as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that He
might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the
word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having
no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and
blameless. (Ephesians 5:25-27)
But according to His promise we are looking for new heavens and a new earth,
in which righteousness dwells. (2 Peter 3:13)
"In that day you will feel no shame Because of all your deeds By which
you have rebelled against Me; For then I will remove from your midst Your
proud, exulting ones, And you will never again be haughty On My holy
mountain. (Zephaniah 3:11)

It was revealed to them that they were not serving themselves, but you,
in these things which now have been announced to you through those who
preached the gospel to you by the Holy Spirit sent from heaven--things into
which angels long to look. (1 Peter 1:12)

"Then He will also say to those on His left, 'Depart
from Me, accursed ones, into the eternal fire which has been prepared for
the devil and his angels; (Matthew 25:41)
For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but cast them into hell
and committed them to pits of darkness, reserved for judgment; (2 Peter
2:4)
And angels who did not keep their own domain, but abandoned their proper
abode, He has kept in eternal bonds under darkness for the judgment of the
great day, (Jude 1:6)

And He said to him, " 'YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD
WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND.' This
is the great and foremost commandment." (Matthew 22:37-38)

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