You can hear it anywhere you go. It may even make intuitive sense to you. It sits below YouTube videos and news articles, echoes around stadiums, and frames conversations around water-coolers and at barbecues. But it is destructive, and we must be able to recognise it.

What I am referring to is camouflaged, regressive rhetoric emerging whenever privilege is challenged. The arguments range from barely concealed prejudice, to pseudo-rational reasoning, but their intention is to defend the status quo without appearing as such.

I’ve found that as a general rule, people believe their lives are pretty challenging. Maybe it's a Western thing, or maybe it's a human thing. Sometimes it manifests in a belief that others are taking advantage of them, or free-riding on ‘the system’. Other times, it appears as the belief that because other people have more or live better, they must be struggling. I've found that some people take offence at the idea that they are privileged.

This logic is slippery, and therefore dangerous. You can have a life with challenges and still be the beneficiary of privilege . If any of the following terms apply to you, you benefit from privilege in Western society:

white

male

heterosexual

educated

employed, or

able-bodied.

There are many others, but I wanted to point out some of the obvious ones. If you were surprised to see something in the list that applied to you, you may have felt anger, guilt, or disbelief. That’s OK. I'm not here to guilt or embarrass you. But let me say this unequivocally before we go any further. If any of the terms in that list applied to you, you benefit from privilege in Western societies. This is beyond question; incontrovertible, irrefutable, unarguable.

There is a litany of recent examples where privileged individuals and groups are highlighted as such and have chose to push back in unreasonable ways. Let’s begin with a series of troubling incidents in the video game industry, broadly known as “Gamergate”.

The Gamergate controversy concerns sexism in video game culture. It garnered significant public attention after August 2014, when several women within the video game industry, including game developers Zoe Quinn and Brianna Wu and feminist cultural critic Anita Sarkeesian, were subjected to a sustained campaign of misogynistic attacks. The campaign was coordinated in the online forums of Reddit, 4chan, and 8chan in an anonymous and amorphous movement that ultimately came to be represented by the Twitter hashtag #gamergate.

So what set off this controversy? Quinn made a video game and was accused of using a relationship with a male video-game journalist to solicit a positive review from a popular gaming website. Purportedly acting in defense of ‘ethics in video-game journalism’, the group subsequently expanded its targets to include anyone took a stance against sexism invideo-game culture or stood in support of others who did.

Anita Sarkeesian

It was later identified that the male journalist involved didn’t even review Quinn’s game, but the group continued to use this as a pretence for launching vicious and hateful attacks.

The harassment included doxing [leaking of personal details online], threats of rape, death threats and the threat of a mass shooting at a university speaking event.

A small subsection of gaming culture reacted violently and viscerally after feeling threatened by successful and activist women pointing out institutional issues within the industry. It is a truly frightening story.

Some privileged people fight to defend their position. In doing so, they often use false pretences to justify actions against those seeking to restructure an unjust system.

This is the framework that we can use to understand some elements of the resistance to progressive movements in our culture. That people will fight to defend their privilege to the disadvantage of others is sad, but unavoidable. We must see this behaviour for what it is: an uncomfortable few desperately clinging to advantages that were never rightfully theirs. This is what the last gasps of privilege look like. This is progress.

During recent matches, Sydney Swans champion and two-time Brownlow medallist Adam Goodes received audible boos from opposition fans. As a footballer, this would usually not be noteworthy, but Goodes does not just play. Goodes is a proud indigenous man who consistently highlights issues of racism in football and Australian society. The highest profile example of this was the night he drew a line in the sand during a match at the MCG.

…the 328-gamer fell victim to a racial vilification incident after being verbally abused by a Magpies fan, who was then escorted from the venue…

Goodes, with security staff around him, had stood only metres away and pointed to her following a verbal clash with the fan…

“To come to the boundary line and hear a 13-year-old girl call me an ‘ape’, and it’s not the first time on a footy field that I’ve been referred to as a ‘monkey’ or an ‘ape’, it was shattering.”

Goodes was subsequently named Australian of the Year in 2014 for his work with indigenous youth programs and for his efforts in the fight against racism.

Some fans argued that the recent booing was because Goodes was a diver and that he often complained to umpires in search of free kicks. Undoubtedly some of the boos were motivated by this alone, but even a cursory look at social media turned up hundreds of examples of people complaining about Goodes’ action on racism.

‘‘People just don’t like Goodes, especially since he was so undeserving of an AUSTRALIAN of the YEAR award. What a joke,’’ said one respondent to the Baum column. ‘‘Can I get the gong because I am white.’’

Another reader opined that Goodes had been booed, in part because he: ‘‘points the finger at a little girl who called him an ape’’ and ‘‘vilifies all white-skinned Australians as being responsible for the ‘genocide’ of the Aboriginal people may be we’re all a little over this sanctimonious ‘role model’.’’

One castigated Goodes for being ‘‘a precious little petal, everything is racist to him. he has lost the plot big time and i have lost all respect for this guy!!!!’’

There’s been people talking all week about, why are people booing Adam Goodes? Like there was some mystery about it. There’s no mystery about this at all…It’s about the fact that Australia is generally a very tolerant society until its’ minorities demonstrate that they don’t know their place. And at that moment, the minute someone in a minority position acts as though they are not a mere supplicant, then we lose our minds.

The pattern is similar to Gamergate. In the face of privilege being highlighted, an uncomfortable few denigrate the messenger and obfuscate the reasons why. This time the change agent is a diver and rough in the tackle, rather than an unethical journalist. But it never takes long for these pretences to dissolve and for the true, unjust arguments to rise to the surface.

The long-term trend of social development across Western societies is undoubtedly progressive, with societies moving towards greater equality and understanding year after year after year. It may seem like a glacially slow process, particularly for those suffering under the weight of disadvantage and prejudice. Humane individuals and organisations will continue to advocate for and implement progressive social change in spite of these challenges. Regressive obfuscation must be identified and dismantled using thoughtful, empathetic arguments. This is the path towards a more just future.

It might have only occurred to me as I was leaving, but I eventually realised that Thai culture has had a disproportionate cultural influence across the world. For an ostensibly third-world country with a population of sixty-six million, few cultures have spread ideas and practices as broadly and thoroughly as the Thais.

Think about it: there's a Thai restaurant in every town. Sure, there's a French restaurant; maybe Indian, too. But India has a billion people and France is a rich, imperial power. Thai cuisine spread around the Western world because it is awesome. As a first time visitor and lover of Thai food I'd eaten at home, I had high expectations. They were exceeded. I was overjoyed and humbled to stand in a fresh food market in Bangkok and see something I love so much in motion. I smiled as I watched a stall-holder grinding out the coconut milk and a grocer stacking up the fresh herbs for the day's trade.

Muay Thai kickboxing continues to shape the way Westerners exercise and fight. Both violent and technical, Muay Thai added explosive kicks and gruelling clinch-fighting to the traditional Queensberry boxing that we all knew. Men, women and children throw punches and kicks to get in shape and to defend themselves. The discipline underpins my favourite combat sport, mixed martial arts. All MMA fights essentially begin as kickboxing matches and all MMA fighters must have excellent Muay Thai just to be competitive. Kickboxing is as important to modern fighting as any martial art.

When you mention that you are visiting Thailand, some people chuckle or snigger. Thailand is renowned for its more expansive approach to sexuality, particularly in regard to homosexuality and transsexuality. Thai culture has undoubtedly raised Western awareness of these branches of sexual life, which is a net positive for everyone. For instance, ladyboy culture seems to have become a part of the fabric of mainstream Thailand, particularly in the northern regions. I write this hesitantly because I am no authority on this subject. Similarly, I am sure that Thai homosexuals and transsexuals still experience vicious prejudice in a multitude of forms, just as they would in any country the world. But it does seem that Thailand's more laissez-faire approach has shined a light on difference aspects of the human sexual experience, and that is valuable.

Thai culture has punched above its weight in terms of global influence for decades. The ideas and practices of Thai people have spread around the world not by force or imperialism but on merit: because they were more spectacular, tastier, more diverse. So how did this happen? Thais are creative and optimistic people, first by nature and then by necessity. Generally unburdened by entrenched conservative psychological constraints of the Anglo-centric West, they approach problems and pursuits with fresh perspectives. I enjoyed wrapping myself in such a vibrant culture and look forward to doing so again.

A sport I love is being eaten from the inside out by performance-enhancing drugs. It's crawling with them, like a flea-bitten dog scratching at clumps of knotted hair. I know this, the MMA community knows this, and the authorities that loosely govern the sport know this. Perhaps the tragic part is that it might just be too late to save its credibility.

The man widely considered the greatest mixed martial arts fighter of all time, Anderson Silva, recently tested positive for two performance-enhancing drugs in an out-of-competition test. This is easily the highest-profile positive test that I've experienced in my time as an MMA fan, and it leaves me questioning the integrity of every single MMA competitor. What always takes my breath away about these results is the bald-faced lying and deception that they uncover. Here is Anderson Silva, four months ago:

“When the guys test for the steroids, (they should have) no more fights,” Silva said. “When you use the steroids, you use them for a long time. When you use the steroids for a long time, you have a problem. It’s a drug and it’s not good for the sport.”

“People around the world love the UFC, but the kids love the UFC, and the families love UFC. It’s bad for the sport. I don’t think this is good because the sport can change the lives of the kids and the people in the world.

He's not going full Lance Armstrong here, but it's pretty fucking galling nonetheless. Maybe I'm naive to be surprised at this given Lance's spectacular fall from grace, but there's an emotional difference between having a nebulous understanding that any competitor could be using these substances to having one of the highest-profile and most revered fighters get busted.

I was critical of cycling fan friends of mine who defended Lance even as the circumstancial evidence against him piled higher and higher. I stand by that criticism; I wasn't questioning why they continued to watch the sport, rather why intelligent people sided with emotion in defending the man rather than siding with logic. The difference for me in this instance is that I know this is happening and I don't believe that we can seriously exclude anyone from suspicion, failed tests or otherwise. Up until this point I hadn't seen one of my favourite fighters test positive so I never fully understood how it would affect my view of the sport. I just might be about to find out.

Take a look at this scorching infographic from the New York Times. The faces you see belong to cyclists who were found to have doped or admitted to doping while finishing top ten at the Tour De France. This shows a stolen decade from what should be one of the world's great sporting events. If the UFC randomly blood-tested every fighter on their roster tomorrow, the situation would be far worse than this.

As much as any other organised, mainstream-ish sport, prizefighting is the Wild West. In administrative and regulatory terms, it is far more decentralised than your favourite football code or more domesticated individual sports like tennis and golf. In this game, all thinking is short-term and money talks, and the serious changes needed to rebuild the sport from the ground up would probably destroy it. So instead the UFC must rebuild the plane while still flying, all the while convincing the passengers that this is only minor turbulence and that normal service will be resumed shortly.

News like this doesn't make me want to abandon the sport. But I suspect it will chew away at the foundations of why I enjoy it. MMA is the most unpredictable, technical and demanding sport that humans participate in. Believing that fighters are just like me humanises the sport, closing the distance between the couch and the cage. Maybe that is more of a fiction than I otherwise cared to imagine.