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Why Dating a Man With Female Friends Could Be Bad For Your Health

Okay, so it’s not literally bad for your health like that. But it is indeed a stressful endeavor to take on when you decide to date a man who has not just a few female friends, but many. Been there, done that, and I wouldn’t recommend it. But hey, there are some fantastic guys out there who have female friendships that are innocent. Good luck finding those fellas though. While it’s nice to see man be respectful and caring of women and get in touch with his sensitive or feminine side, it’s a shame when it’s shared with a bit too many outside parties if you know what I mean. Not all guys with female friends should come with a caution sign, because as long as they’re honest and up front about them then you at least know what you’re getting into. But there are some men that should. Here’s a list of things you might have to worry about when you fall for a man with more girlfriends than you.

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Agitya Robson

I don’t know how to deal with it, I’m already feel sick of it especially with my long distance relationship with him, and knows he is always good with his female friends,maybe my attention not good enough for him or he is really enjoy to talk to lot of girls, I respect him more than he knows, but he doesn’t know that. always try to be fine and let my heart break every second I do thinking about it,

Lara Smith

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Rachel

NEVER date a guy who has even 1 female friend. Men and women cannot be platonic friends EVER. Women need to date and do relationships with men who do not have any female friends (which is the same thing as sex friends). Men claim they do not sleep with their female friends, but some of us know that’s totally false. A woman should pick a guy who focuses on her, makes her a priority, and who values loyalty. A guy who has female friends will cheat and will not make a gf a priority whatsoever. Men always want the harem of female sex friends but they want the gf too. Doesn’t work that way with some of us.

joe

Men who are in relationships who claim to have female friends are having sex with them usually, almost always. Women who are in relationships with men who claim to have male friends are usually cheating too, almost always.I see way more women pull this bullshit than men.

Girls having all guy friends is worse than a guy having too many”female friends, for these reasons:1) Men will have sex with just about anything that moves. Men always wanna bang their female friends. The reverse isn’t true. So a woman having guy friends when she’s in a relationship = her purposely hanging with guys that she knows want to bang her. HOWEVER. If a guy is in a relationship, and isnt the cheating type? His female friends are less likely than a girls male friends, to want to hook up with him, have sex, trash the girlfriend, etc.2) Women tend to do this for attention and validation. When a taken man is friends with women? He’s more often than not simply doing it bcuz she’s fun. That’s it. He isn’t looking to get his validation from someone other than his girlfriend (whereas girls with boyfriends who have all male friends, tend to get their validation from multiple guys, and almost always cheat)

Prewtychic

from above experience it is a lot of hard work to date such kind of a man coz some women with intentions will do things to make you feel less a woman or invisible, this kind of men who mostly keep alot of women friends sometime its more of covering their insecurity or else they are men who are weak and they dont know what to do when women throw themselves to them my now soon to ex boyfriend has like 20 women friends and still making more!!!!!!!

BlackLoveisfading

what about the woman with all the male "friends"??? OH I guess us guys will have to be SECURE and understanding and accept that end of the bargain BUT not the other way around?? A woman that has mostly MALE friends under the FALSE pretense she can't get along with others females is a bigger RED FLAG than what the coaches use in football!! HMMMM

D Lo

I just got out of a long term relationship and it’s been really painful for me. My ex has a lot of female friends, most not of the highest caliber, and trust me I am not saying that out of jealousy. The majority are truly all drama. I don’t trust them but I trusted him. We were on and off a lot, and when we were “off” I definitely worried about the women he hung out with. But when we were together I never worried about these b****es. I still didn’t like them, but when we were together he wasn’t with him all the time like he is now….Basically if a man is happy at home he won’t stray. A lot of men are pigs and will cheat if they can get away with it but there are good ones out there too.

Ashley

Just had a breakup with my first "love". He was just like this, I assumed it was very normal, I was mistaken. He's friends with SO many girls, and has tried to date SO many girls, many being girls im good friends with. Sometimes it seems like he flirted with any girl that had a pulse. And he told me about them, but not EVERY detail, obviously. He would always ask for advice from other girls, when these stupid girls had never even HAD relationships before, how would they know?! And worse, he'd drag his parents into EVERY argument, and ultimately always take their side (whether or not they knew the whole argument). Although I know he was faithful, and wasn't afraid of being with me in public, and loved me, I also think he was too nice to everyone. And a little immature. Glad, i'm aware now.

Ashley

AND he's friends with every ex… all 5 before me. (that he breaks up with for random reasons about a month into the relationship… i.e. he apparently did for someone being not intellectual enough, a girl being mormon. Keeper, right? : P

Smartypants

What if one of these female friends is an ex-wife??

African_queen

Both males and females can have friends of the opposite sex, as long as they each know where to draw the line with those friendships. His female friends shouldnt call at all times to get help with manly chores or complain about their man or lack of. And why would anyone in a serious relationship seek anything extra from outside?

grace

my bf had two ffs and at first i was ok with them unitl one of them call everyday asking for fovarites and is start to better me so i told him and he not worry so i was like ok and 3yrs went by and she kept calling asking for this and that i got fed up one day and told to her to backoff she never call again and he dont care

HeadSmackeroni

Anyone that is willing to drop a friend they've had for years because of a jealous, insecure boyfriend or girlfriend of the moment isn't someone that is going to be dating you for a long time. He will meet someone that makes him 'not care' about dropping you soon enough.

The only reason my fiance' comes before my friends now is because she is going to be my wife, and the mother of my children one day, but before that? Um no.

Victoria

Oh yeah & let's throw in what "wow" was talking about too because contrary to what many ladies believe, if you ask *ANY man of any age (the ones who have experienced puberty solet's say 14 & above) or race, they will tell you that *all "friendships" they form with ANY female (unless you are related by *blood) started because they intially found you attractive at some point. doesn't necessarily mean they're waiting in the shadows ready to bang you at the drop of a dime (well *some are lol) but that's just how men think. they see you, the #1 reason they intially started the conversation was because you were cute. turned out after speaking to you, you had other qualities they liked besides your looks. and *That is how you became their friend. in *their minds anyway.

Victoria

lmao prissy said we had female/male friends in elementary and middle school. the *key thing to remember is that those times were before *puberty. then -ish got complicated lol. is it possible for a male or female to have friends of the opposite sex? yes. but how long does it take for one or the other to become attracted to their "friend"? at what point does the line between "friend" and love interest become blurred? when exactly does the moment happen when your "friend" stops being your real actual friend, and instead starts pursuing you? and does the status of your actual relationship really mean anything to your "friend" once that attraction (in *their mind anyway) has been formed?

Ding ding ding! This just shows that men themselves who have no problem with men who have a lot of female "friends" are questionable in their judgement as well (cough cough the men who have nothing better to do than talk down to women and write on female sites).

#kanyeshrug

Teflon Mom

Whatever happened to balance…that's what really comes across as fishy, a person who doesn't have any friends of their own gender. Same way guys are suspicious of the woman who "doesn't get along with females"…women are suspicious of the dude that rolls primarily with women. Just says something about your character.

I figure if you can't tolerate him having females friends that it's Your Problem, not mine. Just goes to show that women never believe what they say about other women. Many of you always say "Women are precious and deserving of respect and trust". Yet, when your man has female friends none of you trust those females further than you can throw them. This only highlights that women cannot be trusted, especially when we add men into the equation. Many of you wouldn't trust your girlfriends around your man for five minutes( Well, those of you who have men. Only 4% of you I suspect). Nonetheless, women understand the nature of other women and are fully aware of what happens behind the scenes. Why many of you come on here and continue to promote the idea that women are sweet and innocent is beyond me. Sadly, females cannot be trusted around men. We all know it, but most of you deny it.

As HeadSmackeroni said, disliking your man having female friends stems from a SELF Esteem issue. I have plenty of female friends and I wouldn't get rid of them for any woman.

Teflon Mom

I don't really disagree with you on this, but I do think you're being very general when it comes to typecasting women. It's unattractive for either side to have a big base of opposite sex friends. That's why a lot of the folks who do it have a ready made list of excuses, followed up by a little "take it or leave it" shrug. The reason for that is simple (and it's not that women are inherently untrustworthy. They're human, and humans are flawed.): when you are in a serious relationship your s/o IS your best friend. Even if you have a big group of friends, those friendships begin to take a back seat to your relationship. And let's face it, there's usually some level of flirtation or desire going on, which also needs to stop if you're going to be respectful to your significant other. That's true for men and women.

Elaine

Fantastic and accurate reply.

Shannelle Thomas

I’m a woman who dates a guy with female friends and I’m fine with it. Plus he is two hours away. it’s not all women that can’t be trusted

Sharon Lockhart

I disagree. I’m not sharing my man with any other girls. And it has nothing to do with any self-esteem. I am the only girl around here. And if he doesn’t like it, bye bye.

Sharon Lockhart

Oh and she’s right, they do multiply like cockroaches; that’s why this one is out of the door.

Holly Botsford

I agree with you, Sharon Lockhart. I am currently divorced, so I don’don’t have to wotry about it right now. But if I was in a relationship, I would not want my man havimg othet female friends. I have also come to the conclusion that I should not be friends on facebook with guys whjo have girlfriends bevause I feel that it is very disrespectful to the girl he is in a relationship with. I ised to not care about this stuff. But I am one of those women who wants her man all to herself. I had a no strings attached situation and am ashamed to admit that I got very possessive and jealous of all the women that were friends with the guy I was spending time with. We were not even in a committed relationship. I did something recently on facebook that was very difficult but I feel it was the right thing to do. I did not “unfriend” anybody or block anyone. But I decided to “unfollow” every guy friend I had if he is in a relationship or has just startef one. I decided I.would NEVER disrespect another woman again by “being frienfs”with her husband or boyfiend, whether on facebook or not. I don’t want to ahare my man. No girl should have too. And I don’t want it done to me.