hmmm go ahead after being a bad gurl you will expect a goodman to come around and marry you abi. all the yanshn u did wt dat guy is not enough you have the guts to say you want to offer it to the public smmmwwwtt. Sorry by the time you realiuze it, it will be too late. Life is a school do not bein a hurry to graduate okay! rather learn everyday and keep your mind open. with an open mind you dont hv to suspect every fly. if you r clean expect and accept everybody dealing with you as being until otherwise proved. what you give is what you get. my babe cannot poo on me if i dont poo on her and even if i catch her in the act, i will consider it a minor human error and move on with her unless if she does not want to move on with me. refrain from attaching too much importance to sex and you will not hv this hurtn feelings.

You truly sounded like a good girl. You only need to move on with your life. I believe it is wrong to put up another woman's photo as profile picture for whatever reason. The reason should have also been discussed, but since he refused to talk about it, it must be something fishy, or something sinister. He has another girl or is into 419, brandishing a girl's picture as a bait. Neither of them is commendable. Just move on. Life goes on. Don't be bad. Someday, you will find the perfect man.

geezyk:You've just said everything I intended saying,IMO going through breakup is just another step in life's enormous teachings,

You must have a fair share of the bad before you can be able to appreciate the good that comes your way..

I've had my own fair share of breakups even in this past year 2012,I lost a relationship that was really dear to me,that didn't make me decide to be bad at all other girls... Infact it taught me more about how to respect and treat girls the more...

My candid advice

If you feel insecure about the relationship,feel free to sit him down and talk about what you've been thinking.. Listen to what he says carefully and review/compare it with what you've seen,from there you'll know the way forward either by staying or leaving him Finally @cutejay... You're still very young to be feeling this way there are a lotta people in the outside world looking to have you as a wife to be,don't waste your time on wishful thinking cos it hurts much...

My 2cents

ensure, u re not loving him out of pity; otherwise it becomes a burden to you; thats when u wud decide to pull out!.. buh he might ve eatn u deep!; there after goin back or forward becomes a problem...

@ Poster,my dear dnt kill ur self wit worry.Guys will always be cheats.They will always fink they are smart.It is obvious ur bf has something wit dt girl if nt he wuldnt have gone behind u back 2 open another fb account so as 2 paste d girl's pics.I had similar experience n wen i digged deeper,i found out dt my bf was dating d girl n was even planing marriage wit her.My cadid advice is dt u make hay while d sun shine.Dump him now b4 he dumps u.Dat was exactly wat i did and d said girl later dumped my ex-bf cos she found out d guy is a complete womaniser.Move on wit ur life besides d girl already has a baby 4 him n dt will always be a point of connection b/w them.

Cutejay: I am in a confused state right now infact am tired of getting my heart bashed this is the 2nd worst hit.I need your advice please friends! In one of my post i talked about a guy i was dating who has a kid,after everything i agreed to stay not minding if he has a child or not cuz he pleaded with me not to leave cuz he loves me and wouldnt marry his baby mama cuz he doesnt love her and i truely love him so i agreed. It started in december last year after the child ish,i checked his facebook account and there was a lady he used in his profile picture,i asked him he said she was just a friend i said ok. Then on the 12th of december he opened a new facebook account without informing me which i later found out, i asked him why he did that and he didnt respond,i let it go. On the 1st of jan this year i logged on to facebook and decided to go through his new account though i am not his friend there i went to his wall,only for me to see the same lady in his profile pic. I got upset and asked him who she was and he said why am i disturbing myself over nothing,untill now he has'nt told me who she is to him. I sent him a text today only for him to call and say i shouldnt worry that nothing is happening but its obvious they have something together and he doesnt want to say i suspect something. My annoyance now is that when we started dating 6months ago i asked him if he had someone and he said no, i asked that cuz i wanted 2 clear my concience and i was single at that time i met him and i just graduated from the uni when i met him he is 34 and i am in my early 20's,i didnt mind the age difference cuz i loved him. I have never cheated on this guy,i trusted him,i was everything but content with him,i never asked him for anything he does it at his will,i was ok with that. Now this is all i get BETRAYAL. Why are men like this? I have decided to let him go though it hurts i will try. I am a good girl but right now i want to be bad cuz my goodness hasn't paid off i dont need anyman around me anymore. Please advice me before i take my final decision.

You wouldn't be d first that such will be happening so don't bulge too much. I suggest you clear ur mind off guyz 4 now and focus on how to build ur career. It'll help.

Just take it as a learning experience and trust your gut next time. You saw the signs and you choose to ignore it. This guy probably does not give a damn about you and he probable thinks that you are not going anywhere after because you do nothing about it. My advice is to leave because he will keep doing it again. If you accept nonsense, you wil get nonsence. There are more and better fish in the sea. The ball is in your court now.

Bokoharam: You truly sounded like a good girl. You only need to move on with your life. I believe it is wrong to put up another woman's photo as profile picture for whatever reason. The reason should have also been discussed, but since he refused to talk about it, it must be something fishy, or something sinister. He has another girl or is into 419, brandishing a girl's picture as a bait. Neither of them is commendable. Just move on. Life goes on. Don't be bad. Someday, you will find the perfect man.

U have tried since he dont want to come out clean my advice is dis find a guy for urself i mean u too should double date him and put d guy picture on ur facebook or be more commited to d new guy u've found in much way that he will sense so thing suspicious...it will triger out all d truth u will no if he truly love u in return if he didnt ask u who d guy is dont mind just play along cos he has turn u to a pawn d whole love affair btw both of u has become a game dont conclude yet and leave him totally and wit this u will get some evidence to live him totally self just try dis

You are too young to muddle yourself in a "baby daddy" situation.Isn't it obvious that the lady's pic you see popping out from his profiles obviously meant something to him?Have you considered a possibility that this man might be married?

Let go of this baby daddy and move on with your life cos with him,there is bound to be drama and unpleasant surprises.Remain the good girl that you are,it pays when you least expected.

geezyk:You've just said everything I intended saying,IMO going through breakup is just another step in life's enormous teachings , baba u av said it all.

You must have a fair share of the bad before you can be able to appreciate the good that comes your way..

I've had my own fair share of breakups even in this past year 2012,I lost a relationship that was really dear to me,that didn't make me decide to be bad at all other girls... Infact it taught me more about how to respect and treat girls the more...

My candid advice

If you feel insecure about the relationship,feel free to sit him down and talk about what you've been thinking.. Listen to what he says carefully and review/compare it with what you've seen,from there you'll know the way forward either by staying or leaving him Finally @cutejay... You're still very young to be feeling this way there are a lotta people in the outside world looking to have you as a wife to be,don't waste your time on wishful thinking cos it hurts much...

Cutejay: I am in a confused state right now infact am tired of getting my heart bashed this is the 2nd worst hit.I need your advice please friends! In one of my post i talked about a guy i was dating who has a kid,after everything i agreed to stay not minding if he has a child or not cuz he pleaded with me not to leave cuz he loves me and wouldnt marry his baby mama cuz he doesnt love her and i truely love him so i agreed. It started in december last year after the child ish,i checked his facebook account and there was a lady he used in his profile picture,i asked him he said she was just a friend i said ok. Then on the 12th of december he opened a new facebook account without informing me which i later found out, i asked him why he did that and he didnt respond,i let it go. On the 1st of jan this year i logged on to facebook and decided to go through his new account though i am not his friend there i went to his wall,only for me to see the same lady in his profile pic. I got upset and asked him who she was and he said why am i disturbing myself over nothing,untill now he has'nt told me who she is to him. I sent him a text today only for him to call and say i shouldnt worry that nothing is happening but its obvious they have something together and he doesnt want to say i suspect something. My annoyance now is that when we started dating 6months ago i asked him if he had someone and he said no, i asked that cuz i wanted 2 clear my concience and i was single at that time i met him and i just graduated from the uni when i met him he is 34 and i am in my early 20's,i didnt mind the age difference cuz i loved him. I have never cheated on this guy,i trusted him,i was everything but content with him,i never asked him for anything he does it at his will,i was ok with that. Now this is all i get BETRAYAL. Why are men like this? I have decided to let him go though it hurts i will try. I am a good girl but right now i want to be bad cuz my goodness hasn't paid off i dont need anyman around me anymore. Please advice me before i take my final decision.

my candid:stop close marking this guy*he might be your mR right**dunnooooo* all you needed to do now is to learn how to stop stressing yourself up over nothing*meeee! I never bother to check my GF fone always*coz when u start checking everything your gf/bf does,to be honest wif u, it could led to high BP.learn to discard anyfin dat could make you sad*

Thanks guys for the advice i will move on, i asked d lady in question on fb and she said she is his fiancee. I did that cuz i wanted to know the truth,now i know its not easy for me though but i will be ok. Thanks ya'll.

Cutejay: I am in a confused state right now infact am tired of getting my heart bashed this is the 2nd worst hit.I need your advice please friends! In one of my post i talked about a guy i was dating who has a kid,after everything i agreed to stay not minding if he has a child or not cuz he pleaded with me not to leave cuz he loves me and wouldnt marry his baby mama cuz he doesnt love her and i truely love him so i agreed. It started in december last year after the child ish,i checked his facebook account and there was a lady he used in his profile picture,i asked him he said she was just a friend i said ok. Then on the 12th of december he opened a new facebook account without informing me which i later found out, i asked him why he did that and he didnt respond,i let it go. On the 1st of jan this year i logged on to facebook and decided to go through his new account though i am not his friend there i went to his wall,only for me to see the same lady in his profile pic. I got upset and asked him who she was and he said why am i disturbing myself over nothing,untill now he has'nt told me who she is to him. I sent him a text today only for him to call and say i shouldnt worry that nothing is happening but its obvious they have something together and he doesnt want to say i suspect something. My annoyance now is that when we started dating 6months ago i asked him if he had someone and he said no, i asked that cuz i wanted 2 clear my concience and i was single at that time i met him and i just graduated from the uni when i met him he is 34 and i am in my early 20's,i didnt mind the age difference cuz i loved him. I have never cheated on this guy,i trusted him,i was everything but content with him,i never asked him for anything he does it at his will,i was ok with that. Now this is all i get BETRAYAL. Why are men like this? I have decided to let him go though it hurts i will try. I am a good girl but right now i want to be bad cuz my goodness hasn't paid off i dont need anyman around me anymore. Please advice me before i take my final decision.

Hey at your age is this what you should be talking about. Must you ruin ur life because a man said u shld stay? Sorry o I pity ur parent.

My dear I will advice u to clearify tins before u quit so that Ur conscience will b clear....find out who dat lady is...press him to open up if he really loves u...b be wise in reading his words..plz frnds folo me on twitter @wisper2raw

Am so sorry. What a douche bag. Some men just make me sick. You will be fine ok. Time heals all wounds and pls b more careful in future.

Cutejay: Thanks guys for the advice i will move on, i asked d lady in question on fb and she said she is his fiancee. I did that cuz i wanted to know the truth,now i know its not easy for me though but i will be ok. Thanks ya'll.