My man loves strip clubs. I used to go with him a lot when we were just dating but now that we’re seriously committed I want him to stop. I mean, he wants to go every weekend. I refuse to spend my Saturdays there and he goes with his boys.

So, what should I do? Should I confront him about it? When he goes I pretend it’s okay though deep down I am upset. I have never told him it is affecting our relationship to the point I may not even want to be with him anymore. I need some serious relationship advice about this. Please help!

Sincerely,

He’s in Love with Strippers

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Dear He’s in Love with Strippers,

I wouldn’t be able to be with a man who is always at a strip club. It’s a bit childish. Besides, weekends are for couples, not guy or stripper time. Personally, this situation seems fishy. No pun intended.

Let’s forget the strip clubs for a moment. My question to you is: why haven’t you told him the deal? Why aren’t you speaking up about how you feel? Maybe your once carefree, stripper-watching ways have led him to believe that it’s all good. Your not saying anything about it doesn’t prove otherwise.

Have you lost your voice for fear of being like every other woman? For fear of losing him? I think you play the role of calm, cool and collected girlfriend. That’s why he feels free to watch naked women swing on a poll. You were once making it rain along with him! That’s why he isn’t considering your feelings.

I will leave you with this: if you do not speak up about your dissatisfaction, he will never satisfy you. So, speak up. Unless you’re planning a career as a stripper, you need to tell him his eyes should be only on you.

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