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Saturday, September 29, 2012

Learning to Forgive

Jacob De Shazer

Learning to Forgive

To live above with those we love

O yes that will be glory…

To live below with those we know

O that’s a different story!

It’s true it will be
glory to live in heaven.That’s what the
Bible says.In heaven there will be no
fighting, fussing, gossiping, or hating!Everyone will love everyone and live in loving community!Scripture says that when we die “We will be
changed” (1Corinthians 15:52)changed
by God so that we will fit into that loving community.

Even though we will be
changed when we die, the Lord asks us to allow Him to start changing us
now.Often we don’t want to be changed
and hold on to our fighting and fussing and gossip and hate.But God is calling us to do our part.He’s calling us to “live below with those we
know” and love them.That’s the hard
part!

Our pastor preached a
sermon last Sunday about learning to forgive. I wanted to hear it since there
is a person I am having trouble forgiving.He began by saying that forgiveness is the process of letting go of an
old reality and opening up the possibility of a new reality.Here we go again – off with the old and on
with the new.

In Ephesians 4:25-32
we are told to “put off” lying, stealing, saying corrupt words, bitterness,
anger, clamor, and malice. And in Romans 13:14 we are told to “put on” the Lord
Jesus Christ.I think this verse is
saying that we are to accept His moral standards, and depend on His strength to
love and forgive others.

Our pastor continued
by saying that he had a formula for forgiving and we could remember it by the
word R-E-A-C-H.

R- Stands for
recall.We are to recall the hurt.Remember what happened that caused us to

be angry – to need to
forgive.

E- Means to
empathize.Try to put yourself in the
other person’s shoes.See things

from their viewpoint. Feel their pain and
understand their fears.Perhaps they

had a difficult childhood. Could they be
under the influence of drugs? We don’t

have to agree with them to respect them as
persons..

A- Stands for
altruistic.The act of forgiveness is a
gift.Give the altruistic gift of

forgiving. Give this gift to God, to the other
person and give this gift to yourself

as well. Your heart will be lighter and
your health better if you aren’t carrying

around the heavy burdens of resentment.

C- Commit before God
your vow to forgive. Tell others that
you

have made a decision to forgive.Act kindly to the one you have forgiven.

H- Hold on to your act of forgiveness.You may want to forgive but then you begin

slipping
back into your old patterns of resentment. Forgiveness is hard work. It

may take time. Ask God to give you the
strength to forgive. And keep relying on

God.

When I think of a
Christian who learned to forgive others I think of a man named Jacob De
Shazer.Jacob was a young American
airman in 1941 when the United
States first got involved in World War 2.
When he first heard the news that the Japanese had attacked Pearl Harbor he was
so angry that he volunteered to join a special secret unit, the “Doolittle
Raiders” and be one of the first to bomb the cities of Japan.

In early 1942 Jacob,
along with the other pilots in the raid, flew low over Nagoya, Japan
carrying out a surprise bombing attack which shocked and terrified the Japanese
people. But later that night he was forced to parachute into enemy territory when
his plane ran out of fuel. He was injured in his fall and along with the rest
of his crew, he was captured the next day by the Japanese.

For 40 long months Jacob De Shazer was held as
a prisoner in a Japanese P.O.W. camp where he was forced to live in filth and
stench and was tortured day and night. For 34 of those 40 months he was locked away
in solitary confinement. Nearly every day he received a severe beating and he
became so malnourished that he looked like a skeleton. Several men in his crew
were executed by a firing squad while he was forced to watch. He barely hung
onto life while many of the prisoners around him died slowly of starvation.

During his captivity
Jacob persuaded one of his Japanese guards to loan him a copy of the
Bible.Although he was only allowed to
keep the Bible for three weeks, its message changed his life and he became a
devout Christian. Most of the men in prison with Jacob hated their Japanese
captors because they were being treated so badly.But Jacob felt that the Lord was telling him
to love the Japanese people and to pray for them.

The war came to an
end on August 20, 1945 and the victorious American soldiers parachuted into the
prison camp to free the prisoners. Overjoyed, Jacob and the other prisoners
were finally released. Upon his return to the United States, he was awarded the
Purple Heart and several other medals for his part in the “Doolittle
Raid.”

But Jacob De Shazer
believed that God wanted him to go back to Japan. He entered a Christian
college and began studying to become a missionary.In 1948 he returned to the same city he had
bombed, but this time he went there to serve the city as a missionary.He and his wife Florence
spent the next thirty years of their lives building a Christian church and
serving the people of Nagoya,
Japan. They had
five children while they were there.

While he was in Japan as a missionary, Jacob De Shazer met
Captain MitsuoFuchida, the Japanese pilot who had led the main attack on Pearl Harbor and the two men became close friends. The
Japanese captain could not understand how Jacob could forgive the Japanese
since he had been treated so harshly in prison.And Captain Fuchida had also heard that the Japanese soldiers who had
spent time in American prison camps had been treated very well.

None of this made any
sense to Fuchida since he believed that it was “the responsibility” of an offended
party to carry out revenge in order to restore honor.Captain Fushida found himself being drawn to this
strange message of Christianity!This
message of forgiveness! How could anyone treat an enemy with love and
forgiveness? Why would anyone not stand up for their “honor” against an
offending party? He must find out!

But Joseph De Shazer loved his former Japanese
“enemy” and this greatly influenced the captain. Finally Captain Fuchida became
a Christian in 1950. And when he became
a Christian he discovered that Jesus Christ was his “honor” and his reputation
and his strength. Fuchida didn’t have to
protect himself by acts of revenge any more since God was his protection. His world was turned upside down.

Our worlds can be
turned upside down too when we learn to forgive.When we give our reputations to God and love
the enemies who smudged our honor. When we stop living into the old story where
we stay angry because they aren’t treating us right, and we write a whole new
story where we give our resentments to God and forgive. It’s our choice whether
we stand up for our “honor” or whether we let go and let God. It’s our choice whether we keep our enemies
(and ourselves) bound up with our hate or whether we loosen and free up our
enemy (and ourselves) with forgiveness.

Colossians 3:17
reads: “And whatsoever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord
Jesus Christ, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.”The Bible is telling us that everything we do
– our words and our actions- should be done in the name of our Lord Jesus
Christ.So when we hold a grudge against
a friend, can we hold that grudge in the name of our Lord Jesus?When we are resentful against that person who
didn’t treat us well, can we be resentful in the name of our Lord Jesus?And when we criticize our enemies, can we
criticize them in the name of our Lord Jesus?I don’t think we can.Then we
know what we have to do!