My friend feels trapped by his current girlfriend. Anytime she doesn't like something she'll threaten to commit suicide and will cut herself and blame him for it. Once he was on his way to our friend's house and she told him to visit her at a park even though his mom told him to go straight to our friend's house(it was also late at night.) He said no and she treatened to kill herself if he didn't come right away. So he obviously disobeyed his mom for her and what not.She's that girl that's always like, "I love hims so much, he's the love of my life and all I will ever need." The moment they broke up she got with someone else and started saying the exact same things to that guy. After a few months they broke up and she got with my friend again and tried to pretend nothing happened. "It's my blank anniversary with my babe, I'm so glad we're together I'd never get with anyone else blah blah blah." Even now she occasionally pulls the suicide card and what not.

I truly feel he shouldn't have gotten back with her since she was the one who dumped him and he wouldn't be at fault, but he still feels trapped, Another note, they both turned 18 this year and this has been going on for a while.

I grew up in the suburbs, great life, mom and dad divorced, it was the worst shake up of my life. I was probably bullied in high school, but other than that, life was a piece of cake (+1 if you got the joke/reference).

It's good that you're doing better at least. I've never been in a relationship like that so I apologize for not being able to say too much about it. So I think you might've already answered my question in this post with, "You don't notice it getting worse" but was another reason you stayed because you thought it'd get better, was it hard to leave, or was you not noticing it getting bad the only reason? Again, I can't begin to comprehend that situation, so my bad if these are insensitive questions to you. And good, don't let anyone take advantage of you like that again, you deserve better. You gotta put yourself first and be confident in yourself.

Its a little more complicated. There is that feeling that "if only this happens" it will get better. I held out on them getting a job or maybe if we got another pet it would be better. Things that sound silly now. Or they used to get mad at me for chores or whatever if only I had done that right. The problem with relationships is that we as a species have a tendency to attribute the deeper and more complex emotional issues to the mundane superficial problems we face at the moment. We blame the fact we burned the food or that we didn't take the trash out on the abuse rather than the source of the abuse.

If anyone here is in that kind of relationship you have to realize it. But that is only half the battle. I stayed with them up to a point for that. After a while I had accepted that it wasn't getting better. In fact I even thought for a while that this was okay as it was. It didn't need to get better because this is just as good as it gets for me. And its not true. Never let people walk on you. I was dumb at the time and I felt like I couldn't leave them. IT was the most painful thought possible. Dunno if you ever watch cartoons as well as anime but there was an episode of Steven Universe where one of the characters expressed how they "missed" an abusive person even though they knew it was unhealthy. And the problem is you really really really love your abuser even if its bad for you.

I didn't even have the guts to do it. They in a fit of rage said they wanted to break up. They only said it at the time I think because they thought it would hurt me but I took that as my chance out of the relationship and said fine. They tried hard to get me back but thanks to family I said no. I bought them a god [email protected] plane ticket. The last thing they said to me in person was that I ruined their life. My brother took me back home from the airport and the whole time I thought. "What have I done?". I had dreams for a little while where I felt like i had screwed up somewhere. It wasn't until later that I really felt right with my decision and understood it was what is best. So if your friends, family and even deep down you know whats best...let that happen. It hurts. It sucks. Its painful and its messy. Its like cutting out a tumor from your body. But damn is it worth it to remove it.

Wow this was long winded. Never thought I'd vent like this on the crunchyroll forums. Sorry for the drama.

Its a little more complicated. There is that feeling that "if only this happens" it will get better. I held out on them getting a job or maybe if we got another pet it would be better. Things that sound silly now. Or they used to get mad at me for chores or whatever if only I had done that right. The problem with relationships is that we as a species have a tendency to attribute the deeper and more complex emotional issues to the mundane superficial problems we face at the moment. We blame the fact we burned the food or that we didn't take the trash out on the abuse rather than the source of the abuse.

If anyone here is in that kind of relationship you have to realize it. But that is only half the battle. I stayed with them up to a point for that. After a while I had accepted that it wasn't getting better. In fact I even thought for a while that this was okay as it was. It didn't need to get better because this is just as good as it gets for me. And its not true. Never let people walk on you. I was dumb at the time and I felt like I couldn't leave them. IT was the most painful thought possible. Dunno if you ever watch cartoons as well as anime but there was an episode of Steven Universe where one of the characters expressed how they "missed" an abusive person even though they knew it was unhealthy. And the problem is you really really really love your abuser even if its bad for you.

I didn't even have the guts to do it. They in a fit of rage said they wanted to break up. They only said it at the time I think because they thought it would hurt me but I took that as my chance out of the relationship and said fine. They tried hard to get me back but thanks to family I said no. I bought them a god [email protected] plane ticket. The last thing they said to me in person was that I ruined their life. My brother took me back home from the airport and the whole time I thought. "What have I done?". I had dreams for a little while where I felt like i had screwed up somewhere. It wasn't until later that I really felt right with my decision and understood it was what is best. So if your friends, family and even deep down you know whats best...let that happen. It hurts. It sucks. Its painful and its messy. Its like cutting out a tumor from your body. But damn is it worth it to remove it.

Wow this was long winded. Never thought I'd vent like this on the crunchyroll forums. Sorry for the drama.

Wow, that's quite the post. I'm truly glad you're out of it though. I guess in a sense it was a good thing that they were getting too far ahead of themselves. It's also good that your family supported you and helped you decline that person. It's extremely sad that their life was ruined the moment they had no one else to abuse, quite sad. Also, don't apologize. I'm sorry that I can't share any of my own stories/experiences while others are putting theirs out there. Hopefully you stay well though and continue going forward.

But on a more detailed note, I would get replaced for another girl because I don't give myself up that easily, and because the other girl is easy. Then when they get tired of the other said girl, they would come back crying to me. Fun stuff. It's something that I can look back on and laugh villainously at.

My friend feels trapped by his current girlfriend. Anytime she doesn't like something she'll threaten to commit suicide and will cut herself and blame him for it. Once he was on his way to our friend's house and she told him to visit her at a park even though his mom told him to go straight to our friend's house(it was also late at night.) He said no and she treatened to kill herself if he didn't come right away. So he obviously disobeyed his mom for her and what not.She's that girl that's always like, "I love hims so much, he's the love of my life and all I will ever need." The moment they broke up she got with someone else and started saying the exact same things to that guy. After a few months they broke up and she got with my friend again and tried to pretend nothing happened. "It's my blank anniversary with my babe, I'm so glad we're together I'd never get with anyone else blah blah blah." Even now she occasionally pulls the suicide card and what not.

I truly feel he shouldn't have gotten back with her since she was the one who dumped him and he wouldn't be at fault, but he still feels trapped, Another note, they both turned 18 this year and this has been going on for a while.

Well we only have a shallow reading in on the situation but anyone who threatens self harm to get what they want most likely won't do it. Its also not his job to stop her from doing it. Its not just a red flag but like...a neon red flag that glows in the dark and blinks s.o.s. in morse code while the fabric of said flag is actually just microscopic loops in the shape of "NO". A little extreme but its as big as physical violence threats to the other person.

"If you don't do this I'll kill myself"
"If you don't do this I"ll kill you!" are almost equally bad.

But on a more detailed note, I would get replaced for another girl because I don't give myself up that easily, and because the other girl is easy. Then when they get tired of the other said girl, they would come back crying to me. Fun stuff. It's something that I can look back on and laugh villainously at. :lol:

I'm sorry for stalking you.

But yeah, seeing people crawl back after trying to get rid of you is always hilarious.

My friend feels trapped by his current girlfriend. Anytime she doesn't like something she'll threaten to commit suicide and will cut herself and blame him for it. Once he was on his way to our friend's house and she told him to visit her at a park even though his mom told him to go straight to our friend's house(it was also late at night.) He said no and she treatened to kill herself if he didn't come right away. So he obviously disobeyed his mom for her and what not.She's that girl that's always like, "I love hims so much, he's the love of my life and all I will ever need." The moment they broke up she got with someone else and started saying the exact same things to that guy. After a few months they broke up and she got with my friend again and tried to pretend nothing happened. "It's my blank anniversary with my babe, I'm so glad we're together I'd never get with anyone else blah blah blah." Even now she occasionally pulls the suicide card and what not.

I truly feel he shouldn't have gotten back with her since she was the one who dumped him and he wouldn't be at fault, but he still feels trapped, Another note, they both turned 18 this year and this has been going on for a while.

Well we only have a shallow reading in on the situation but anyone who threatens self harm to get what they want most likely won't do it. Its also not his job to stop her from doing it. Its not just a red flag but like...a neon red flag that glows in the dark and blinks s.o.s. in morse code while the fabric of said flag is actually just microscopic loops in the shape of "NO". A little extreme but its as big as physical violence threats to the other person.

"If you don't do this I'll kill myself"
"If you don't do this I"ll kill you!" are almost equally bad.

Honestly, I'm not even sure what information would help you get a better reading but I'm also not sure what else I can disclose though I can easily ask. Other friends and I would tell him that he should leave and what not as well as that this is one of the biggest red flags but he always gets offended by it and is sort of in denial in a sense. Idk how to explain but he feels as if he should leave and he knows he made a mistake going back but he feels like he has to stay.

I'm just glad I'm not in that situation, nor will I be. I agree with what you sad at the end as well, about those two being almost as equally bad.

But on a more detailed note, I would get replaced for another girl because I don't give myself up that easily, and because the other girl is easy. Then when they get tired of the other said girl, they would come back crying to me. Fun stuff. It's something that I can look back on and laugh villainously at. :lol:

I'm sorry for stalking you.

But yeah, seeing people crawl back after trying to get rid of you is always hilarious.

What!!!
When did you stalk me lmao --but hey, they never get rif of me, I'm always the one who officially gets rid of them on my terms.

It is funny to see grown ass men crying and begging, knowing it is their full fault. :P