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Topic: Should we go to this party? (Read 14798 times)

Nope, I wouldn't go. Given the intensity of all the "reminders", imagine what'll happen should you arrive without your silent auction item and/or leave without bidding on anything or putting a donation in the jar. Forget that.

(For the first part of the question, a going away party is a lovely idea. I don't see that anyone needs to have a proper event in order to host a party, so I don't see why it would be odd at all. Everything else is just ridiculous though)

One thought. Is it in anyway possible that the whole thing is a joke? I remember writing a letter of instruction to my mom about my wedding along the same lines "ie: The best best way of showing love is with large cash gifts and bills smaller than 50's make Baby Jesus cry" kinda letter.

Well, I can't explain that either, but in the hostesses words: "If you have not yet RSVP'd please remember to do so. We really need to know how many to expect so that we can plan for everyone." Plan what, i'm not sure... that's the best reason for it i've seen yet.

Plan for the number of thank you cards they'll be bringing, of course - they need to bring the right number, so everyone can fill out their own addresses!

Ya know, at this point it'd be easier just to throw in 20 bucks for a cab and have the guests of honor come to you...

Btw, forgive me if I just didn't see it in your posts, but where's this party being held? (... for some reason I just have an uneasy feeling that next, a sign-up sheet for the cleaning crew will be e-mailed out...)

Ya know, at this point it'd be easier just to throw in 20 bucks for a cab and have the guests of honor come to you...

Btw, forgive me if I just didn't see it in your posts, but where's this party being held? (... for some reason I just have an uneasy feeling that next, a sign-up sheet for the cleaning crew will be e-mailed out...)

They don't put that one out untill you get to the party. That way you can't escape "your duties"

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Doesn't sound like a very fun party, to say the least. Maybe if it were for handicapped children and they were providing dinner? Maybe? I think that an extra-long pleasure trip requires a verbal "have a great time" and that's it. A card or even a small gift if they're going away for an honorific event at a foreign conference or university.

I dug deep and the only instance I can think of that even comes close is when I was about 20 and going abroad for 5 months (plus an exciting position in a faraway U.S. city -- so total time I'd be gone was ~8 months). My parents asked me over for a laid-back farewell dinner where my mom made a favorite dish of mine and immediate relatives like my grandmother and aunt/uncle gave me gifts such as a travel guide. My uncles discreetly palmed some cash to me as everyone said goodbye and left.

My guess is that H&B know as much about it -- well, maybe more-- as you knew about your pre-wedding fundraiser. That is, they know enough to know it's too much, but not enough to take a stand and stop it. (Note: people absolutely should stop something like this in their honor). I wonder if they are going to be embarrassed as hell?

I almost want you to go just so you can tell us all about it. That's the dark side of us at ehell.