Top 6 Ways to Add Colour to Vanilla Sex

A few “risks” can go a long way in changing your sex life from boring to mind-blowing.

Tie him up: Put that eye mask you picked up on your last flight to better use. Rather than induce sleep, let it rouse a deep desire for something darker than regular missionary/woman-on-top sex. Slip one on your partner’s eyes, or blindfold him with one of your silk or synthetic scarves if you think he’ll enjoy the sensation of being tied up. If he seems to dig the latter, go a step further by tying his hands together or to the bed post with satin ribbons. Don’t forget to inverse roles.

Ban the bed: If the bed is the only place that the two of you usually get hot and heavy, you need to step outside your comfort zone. And how. Ban the bed for at least the next few times. Try sex in the shower, in the kitchen, on the floor, against the wall...

Create a sex position calendar: Surprise him with a countdown calendar before his birthday or another special occasion. Come up with, say, one new position (a doable one, as opposed to one that requires you to be an expert contortionist) a week. Let him discover it just the night before the sex position day in question.

Play with food: Depending on whether he’s crazy about chocolate sauce or whipped cream, slather some on your breasts, belly, inner thighs... The sight of you parading around in your birthday suit — with some icing on, to boot — is sure to whet his appetite. For food and much, much more.

Take it outside: Ever had sex in a car? In the garage? On the terrace? On the stairs? In a swimming pool? If not sex, you need to indulge in serious simulating-sex foreplay in one of the afore-mentioned places, at the very very least. Keep your clothes on (just manipulating the bare necessities such as zippers, buttons, etc.). It’s easier to pretend you were up to no mischief if you get caught red-handed.

Sex isn’t just in-out-in-out: There’s much more to sex than intercourse. If 69 works for you both, put your mouth where all the action is. Else try mutual masturbation, where you take each other to the peaks of pleasure.