Girls Will Be Boys and Boys Will Be Girls

For a long time, I never really thought about feminism. Like many, I just casually shook my head saying “Well of course women shouldn’t be discriminated against” because that’s something with which hardly anybody disagrees. But alas, the Left, as usual, relies on a generalized statement to get the general public, who won’t look beyond a bumper sticker, to support their much more absurd notions.

I knew modern feminists were blowing things out of proportion, but I never realized the sheer lunacy behind the whole ideology. I thought things like “Of course women should get paid the same as men” as if there was actual pay discrimination going on. Except that it’s not and this is an incredibly misleading statistic. Plus, once you actually stop and think about it, it becomes absolute nonsense. If women are getting paid less then men for the same job, who in their right mind would EVER employ a man?

Then of course there’s the notion of equality that Lefties are always shouting about. Now don’t get me wrong, as individual human beings under the law, everyone should be treated equally. However, this has evolved to the point where feminists try to argue that there really is no difference between men and women, which is certifiably insane.

“That idea is known as ‘essentialism’: the belief that there are uniquely feminine and uniquely masculine essences which exist independently of cultural conditioning. Both actual (minor) and alleged (major) differences between the sexes have been used to justify inequities and constraints which harm women emotionally, financially and physically.”

Aside from the laughably obvious non-societal differences between a man and a woman, this belief just seeks to disrupt the order of society. It sees these things as “an injustice” to women, despite the fact that the natural balance behind these principles have proven functional since . . . forever. This leads to completely downplaying gender roles. As a result, women become more like men and men become more like women. Then on the extreme end, we have gender neutral insanity where parents raise a child to “avoid stereotyping” them as man or a woman. That is a feminist utopia right there.

Feminism is supposedly all about empowering women over the evil misogynistic chains of a man. This concept has seeped into our society so strongly, on so many levels, that it effects our everyday life and we don’t even bat an eye to it. Women feel they need to to be more empowered which is generally a turn-off to men, and men feel they need to be less empowered, which is generally a turn-off to women. To put it simply, in the constant downplaying and reversal of our gender roles, feminism has caused a gender-identity crisis.

I’ll be blunt. I’m a man and I love women. Unfortunately, while growing up, while I learned quite proficiently how to save women from the evil clutches of Bowser or Ganondorf, those skills didn’t translate into real life. Like many other guys, I learned the perils of being too much of a nice guy. In fact, I’ve accumulated enough frequent flier miles to the “friend-zone” that I could probably travel to the moon for free. I stumbled into relationships that would end due to dysfunctional behavior from either me, the girl, or both. It was only once I decided to pin down and address my “beta-male” inadequacies that I came to realize just how much the societal influences of feminism have infected both men and women.

Today, there are a lot of men who are afraid of women. Many men haven’t really known how to “be a man” because the feminism that is entrenched in our society has so negatively stigmatized . . . well . . . being a man. As a result, men place women atop pedestals. “She’s out of my league” or “I don’t know what to say, she won’t like me” are mere excuses for not taking charge. You shouldn’t be worried about whether she likes you or not. As a man you should be concerning yourself with whether you like her. But instead of making any effort, many men just do nothing out of a fear of something as meaningless as rejection. Then they justify their behavior, while still expecting things to change.

Come on guys!

What kills me is that men are expected to approach women, but feminism seeped into our society frames this behavior as “creepy.” There’s nothing wrong with approaching a girl and having a conversation with her. All you have to do is be confident, be yourself, walk over to that cute girl and say something to get the conversation rolling. I guarantee that the world won’t implode.

You can start with a circumstantial observation like “Hey you look really bored” or it can even be more direct like “You are absolutely adorable, I needed to talk to you” (You’d be surprised how well that works). Then just have a conversation. It’s really as simple as that.

What’s the worst that’s going to happen? Rejection?

So what?

Of course you’re going to get shot down. A lot. But we’re conservatives! We embrace the “failure is good” mentality more than any other group of people. Pick yourself up by the bootstraps, learn from the experience, improve, and try again. Those that never fail have never tried.

See, men are expected to lead, whether it be dancing or deciding where to go for dinner. Men have the reputation of being the breadwinners. Generally they provide food, shelter, and security for the woman and this fulfills a woman’s needs. In return, women fulfill the needs of men such as a emotional needs, desire for and nurturing of children, and sexual needs. As Jerry Seinfeld would say about the channel-surfing habits of men vs. women: men hunt, women nest.

Feminists would demonize this mentality in women as a “Stepford Wife” but they don’t realize that this doesn’t imply that women should do nothing with their lives except clean and please a man. If a woman wants to do more with her life in a job or career, nothing is stopping them. There are just specific roles that are built into different genders. As a result, men are more dominant and women are more submissive. This isn’t some misogynist dialogue, it’s years upon years of humanity functionally surviving. These things boil down to our natural instincts and trying to deny them is to deny the very fabric of our existence. Our society is becoming too overly-analytical for its own good.

There will always be minor deviations, but the overall balance should always be maintained. Everything in this world needs some form of order or else it won’t function properly, and society is no different. Feminism, as it stands now, only serves to create disorder and dysfunction in our gender roles and society as a whole.

What can you do to fight it?

Be a man! Be a woman! Whichever you are, embrace it!

And if you truly don’t know which one you are, try taking off your pants for once.

Comments

Excellent article. Whenever I read something like this dealing with men becoming more feminine I always think of the Tyler Durden line from Fight Club….a generation of men being raised by women. Each gender should embrace their uniqueness and their differences.

“Of course you’re going to get shot down. A lot. But we’re conservatives! We embrace the “failure is good” mentality more than any other group of people”
Thank you for that… spit my coffee out at work when I read that… SO GOOD!!!

I guess so, Crudo. Cause you know what? They won’t approach me. I dress fairly modestly with a bit of makeup to match, and they don’t act like I am alive. I have tried to ask them out, and have gotten a few slaps in the face in return. I have known men who take take your advice a little too well, but I would like to be able to be on a pedestal and not worry about it. That doesn’t sound too crazy, does it?

Run off the good men? Just saying, eh? L-o-l. I would say it runs off the cowards who can’t handle a woman who knows what she wants. What am I supposed to do, be a f’ing damsel in distress? I think not. I am not just going to hand control of my heart to whomever wants it but only whenever they want to actually get off their ass and do something. Do you just think I should be left on the sidelines if that’s what men want for me? Why do I get so little control of my own romantic life?

If a girl I was attracted to approached me and asked me out, I would absolutely oblige. Really, I see it as saving men a lot of hassle It’s not a social norm obviously, but something like that doesn’t have to change the dominant/submissive dynamic. In fact, one could argue that in that situation, the man is so dominant, he doesn’t even have to pursue the woman. He’s so good, the women come to him.

Hmm Crudo…it is good to see you are not a coward like many men that I have known. You are right in saying that it should be a compliment-I would think they’d all see it that way, no? But why is it that women have to be submissive? I cannot understand that. I do not describe myself as feminist, so you don’t have to convince me about the existence of some gender differences, but this freaks me out. I have to shut up and take it just to be married?

Ok, after this I am DONE, but what is so wrong with empowerment for women, and why is this a turn off for men? Why do you men want to fucking control everything, and get angry when a woman has the GUTS to assert herself? No one is saying go and adopt hardcore feminism, but your extreme offers little in the way of positives. Saying a man should only be concerned with whether he likes a woman, and not at all vice versa, comes across as incredibly chauvinistic.

I have no doubts that there are instances where a woman can be dominant, a man can be submissive and the situation would work. When it comes to social norms though that’s not something that regularly happens.Typically speaking, men are more dominant, and women are more submissive. We’ve been programmed into preferring things that way long before the society we live in had any grasp of influence. Most women aren’t going to approach a man and ask him on a date for example. In MOST circumstances, the man is socially expected to be dominant while that gender role is simultaneously being completely downplayed. I’m saying we should embrace those gender roles, not to extreme totalitarian levels, but to respectful common sense norms.

In regards to my perspective being “chauvinistic” I’m not saying that women don’t have a say in that as well. I’m talking about it purely from the under-empowered male perspective. I’m not encouraging it being taken to any sort of extreme. It’s just a mentality to get men into the framework where they think more like they should while screening for traits they like in a woman. Instead of being so focused on being some fake ideal trying to make the girl like them, this mentality help be themselves and determine if they even like the girl they’re talking to. Plus, a man can frame it all he wants under “Does this woman meet my needs?” but that’s not the end all be all, it’s just a perspective.The woman has to return the interest, be attracted, and feel like a man validates her needs, and she’s free to completely deny his advances, and trust me that happens ALL the time.

Well, why would you want to go out with a guy who doesn’t have the guts to man up and ask you out? Maybe it’s just my weird preference, but that sounds incredibly unattractive to me. And I’ve never met a guy I thought was worth having who I had to ask out. Any of the ones I thought were worth it asked ME out. And although it hasn’t worked out completely yet, that’s ok. I still think highly of the ones who had the guts to ask in the first place. It’s a rather manly thing to do, IMO.

Enjoyed this a lot. No one ever wants to talk about how crazy it is that women expect men to cave on one thing and lead on another…everything is so messed up now. We want to bitch that men don’t listen but then we get mad when they are indecisive over stuff we want them to take care of.

THANK YOU FOR THIS! Before I met my wife I was going crazy because every woman I dated wanted me to: 1) Be a “man” – Fix things around the house, know the solution to every problem with every car in existence, be able to forage or hunt for food, slay dragons before morning coffee; 2) Be a “woman” – Be gentle and caring, listen to her problems, talk about what celeb couple might break up in the next week…..

Then I realized, “THAT SUCKS!” So, when I met my wife I was very clear: I’m not a mechanic. If there’s a problem with the car, toaster, etc, call a mechanic! I AM a computer nerd, if there’s a problem with that, call me. I love guns, but hate hunting (ok, so I’ve never gone hunting, but to quote Ron White – “It’s really early in the morning, it’s really cold, I don’t want to go”), I listen to the loudest metal on the planet, but I’ll listen to Bach or Beethoven as well. I’m not a woman. It’s not that I don’t care about your problems, but if you want my advice, give me the 10 second run-down and I’ll give it you. If you want someone to listen to you complain, go for it, I’m going to continue watching TV. If you want someone to discuss your complaints, please call your mother, cousin, niece, friend, because I don’t do that. If you get your hair cut, don’t expect me to notice. I shave off my beard that you’ve been bitching about for the last 6 months and you don’t notice, don’t expect me to notice you’ve lost an eighth of a millimeter from your bangs. If you want me to notice, do something DRASTIC, shave your head, dye your hair green (not a slightly darker shade of brown!), men don’t do subtly, sorry.

You’d think – “God, she must be miserable”… Nope. She comes home every once in a while and I look at her and say to myself – “You have to listen, she needs you”, and I do. I know her about as well as she knows herself, so when she NEEDS me, I’m there, without question. When she just wants someone to talk to about the latest gossip, she knows I don’t care. How am I doing with all of this? I couldn’t be happier. I get to be ME. She knew who I was before we said “I do”, so she knew who I’d be 6 years later.

There’s something to be said for being yourself, and if you’re a beta-male…. I’m sorry, I truly am. If you’re not, don’t try to act like it, you just come off looking like a liberal “male”, and that’s pretty sad.