Tips for a romantic marriage

One weak point of marriage in this part of the world is lack of romance. To most married people, the language of romance is so foreign that it is hardly spoken. Or when spoken by one partner, the other one misrepresents or misunderstands it. A romantic marriage is one that will not lack sex. Rather, it is the breeding ground for good sex in marriage. It makes sex real, exciting, spontaneous and non regimented. Couples should therefore cultivate the habit of romance in the marriage, which is the focus of this edited write-up I got from one of the social media platforms I explore. It provides some romantic tips that are helpful to married couples, who may be willing to learn the language of romance.

Can I do “pillow fight” with her in the bedroom? Married folks should be free with each other enough as to chase one another about in the living room.

I was once in a female teacher’s house while I was a boy. Her police husband arrived home. They exchanged greetings. Later, while the woman was teaching me Maths, her husband threatened to give her injection.

The man took a pen and gave a short chase. The woman giggled while she ran back and forth. She said “Where did you even get your injection?” She came to me to continue the lesson. In my very young boy heart, I wondered; “How sweet marriage is.”

When the only meaning of “romance” in marriage is “sex”, that’s crap to me. When the only time one gets romance in marriage is before, during and after sex, that’s not “good enough for the marriage.

Everything isn’t sex. Let her put her head on your chest and gist you about some challenges at work. Discuss your itinerary as a couple while loosing her hair.

Tell each other how it is that one of you is finer than the other and laugh about it. Let the wife pick her husband’s legs, nose or fingers and deride him for it. Both of them should be able to laugh freely at themselves over “his long nose”, “her thin legs”, or “pot belly.”

Whoever says marriage shouldn’t be run like friendship is being run? Must everything be formal and official? When the only time the man and wife talk intimately is only when there’s a serious issue, that’s marital crap.

Some never hear of what happened to their spouse until a third party discussed it. That’s not healthy for marriage. That’s why the 60-year-old wife leaves her 75-year-old husband later in life, and forgets herself with her granddaughter. Some have become a nuisance to their son/daughter in law. The other side is why the 60-year-old wife tell her married daughter, “Please I’ve played with your baby enough. I miss my husband.”

Romance is important in marriage. Sex isn’t for baby alone. Can’t we sing into each other’s ears? But I’m just tired of this so called African tradition. Everything is too formal.

Can’t the husband act like he’s still trying to “toast” his wife even in marriage? Can’t the wife just loosen up and not be too “cranky?”

May the Almighty Father save our marriages and make us dwell together in love in Jesus mighty name I pray, amen.

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