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do i give my baby the pacifier too much? and what makes a woman a &quot;bad&quot; mom?

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My son is 5 weeks old I wanted to avoid the whole pacifier experiance b/c i know so many kids that wont let them go when they are older, but it seems to be the only thing to help our son calm down, ever, we are constantly putting it back in his mouth though. -as soon as he pushes it out he cries so we stick it right back in, is that bad? unless hes eating it seems he always has that thing in his mouth! it makes me feel like a bad mom too b/c the main reason we give him the pacifier is b/c we cant stand to hold him all the time, when hes crying and wont stop i get so frustrated that i give up& leave the room, but i normally do that after just a minute, is that bad? or a sign of depression? i feel horrible but i cant take the stress, i think he has colic, i hear everywhere get a schedule... WHAT? i dont even know what that is anymore! my baby wont let me make a schedule, are you kidding me?!? we keep it dark at night and active in the day but he sleeps & wakes whenever he wants what 2do?

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i never said that i dont love him my child is my world i just get stressed because i will do/try everyything and nothin works he just keeps crying and sometime will only start crying louder when i try to help nobody could ever love my son the way i do though, stressed or not

hunny at 5 weeks old he wont be on a schedule. you need to find time for yourself to do some yoga and release your stress. you are not a bad mom just inexperienced. the passifier is fine some kids associate the pacifier with comfort and some dont. but dont just let him cry. babies need to be loved as much as possible. hold him whenever you can. if you dont love on him a lot he will grow up feeling neglected. if you cant handle the stress of a baby maybe you should think about adoption. my mom was the same way and i ended up being adopted at three months of age and i had a great life. just try to love him, if you cant maybe it would be best to give him up for adoption. email me if you want to talk boobu.peanut@yahoo.com my name is lindsey

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