Q: Where is the G-Spot? Why can some women find their G-Spot, but I can’t? My partner says his past sexual partners found their G-spots and thinks there is something wrong with me?

A: The G-Spot is described as being a pleasure-producing area located approximately one to two inches on the top side of the vagina. It was named after a German gynecologist, Ernst Gräfenberg. Dr. Gräfenberg discovered this area in 1944 and referred to it as an erogenous zone. It became known as an actual spot (the G-Spot) in 1981, when Dr Addiego and his colleagues published an article in the Journal of Sex Research called Female Ejaculation: A Case Study.

Since then, it continues to be a huge debate in the field of sexology and sexual medicine. There are many experts that believe the G-spot is the female prostate and, when stimulated to orgasm, may lead to a discharge of fluid known as ‘female ejaculation’. Some experts believe it is a thinning area of the vaginal wall and that you are actually rubbing the wall of the urethra. Other experts believe the G-Spot is a myth and that it simply does not exist.

However, it’s important to remember, there’s no real evidence currently that the G-Spot exists in all women. Thus, many of us in the sexology field refer to it as an erogenous zone that some women find arousing when stimulated rather than an actual spot that exists in all women. So, when you think of it as an erogenous zone, some women will love it and find it extremely pleasurable, some will think it’s just okay and some will not like that zone stimulated at all. In fact, some women actually report feeling like they have to urinate instead of experiencing pleasure.

If you want to try to locate your G-Spot, lie on your back and relax. Spread your legs and bend your knees, so your vagina is open and accessible. With your palm facing up, insert two fingers into your vagina. You want to make a ‘beckoning’ movement and press your fingertips against the center of the upper vaginal wall. Continue to rub that area and if you have the right zone, you will immediately experience a desire to pee. This sensation should pass and soon, if this is a pleasurable erogenous zone for you, you will start to experience pleasure.

However, every women is different, thus it’s important to remember there is absolutely nothing wrong with you if you can’t find your G-Spot or experience pleasure from it. Focus, instead on the erogenous zones that do provide you pleasure and have fun!

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