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what I’ve learnt as an adult

It’s three weeks until my 22nd birthday so I’ve been thinking about all the things that I’ve learnt so far since becoming an adult. Prepare for fuck-tonne of wisdom.

(This is also in video format and will be uploaded on my YouTube channel tomorrow at 4pm UK time).

Haters gonna hate
There will always be people who hate you, whether it’s for a reason or not. Whether they’re bitching about you to their friends, making snide comments on your Facebook page or anonymously trolling your YouTube videos, it’s always there. You can’t blame yourself, but instead just ignore those idiots, cut them from your life and just know that they are either jealous or bad people.

People change
As humans, we develop and evolve as people as we age, go through experiences and meet new people in new surroundings. It’s just what happens and it’s the beauty of existence. I’m definitely not the same person I was even 2 years ago, and no one I know has stayed exactly the same throughout their lives. It would be weird if they did! We all learn things and things happen and sometimes you drift apart from people because you’re too different. That’s okay.

You can’t compare yourself to others
Social media is totally to blame for this, but we look at other peoples’ lives and get jealous that theirs is perfect and ours is… well, not. But on social media people don’t share the bad stuff, they only post the ‘best bits’. So you might see that someone from your hometown has just bought their first house whilst you can barely afford rent but what you don’t know is that they are struggling with chronic fatigue after working 60 hour weeks for years to afford the deposit. All you see is the good part, because people don’t want to show you the bad parts. We’re all different, so don’t compare.

Life is fast
I sound like an old person, but life is insanely quick and many people – including myself – don’t make the most of it. I don’t want to go all Shia LaBeouf on you but you just gotta do it. Make it happen and worry about it later. You’re only here for a short time and so make it as positive and exciting as you can possibly make it.

Be nice to everyone
It’s hard to be nice sometimes, especially if someone is being an absolute DICK, but if you’re civil, at least, to people you dislike you’re going to feel a lot happier and you’ll be the bigger and better person. Don’t be an arsehole. Be nice.

Life isn’t fair
I sound like your mum, but life isn’t fair. Bad things will always happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. The rich get richer, there’s poverty everywhere and racism and sexism and so on. It’s a bad world. But you’re not going to get anywhere without working hard and sometimes, yes, you can do all the right things and still not get anywhere but that’s life and it’s not anyone’s fault. The sooner you realise it, the better!

You’re in control of your destinySimilar to the previous point, but you’ve got to control your own life. You can’t just wait for luck to hand you a winning lottery ticket and make you happy; you’ve got to make yourself happy by doing the things you like to do, growing, gaining skills, surrounding yourself with people you like – the only person who is going to make you happy is yourself. Instead of waiting for those lemons, go out and pick them yourself.

Know your mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes and it’s a natural part of life and learning. It can be hard to admit you’ve made a mistake but it’s crucial that you do, so you can learn from them and rectify them. It makes you a much better person if you admit to a mistake and apologise and learn from it, than if you ignore it and continue to make the same mistakes.

Your opinion is the only one that matters
So many people let the fear of other people’s opinions influence their lives. You can’t let that happen. Everyone has an opinion on everything and unless you’re being offensive, rude or just plain wrong (learn from your mistakes!!), it doesn’t matter what they think because you’re the only one who matters. Take opinion on board on certain things (like constructive criticism) but don’t worry too much about it if it makes you happy. Just don’t be an arsehole about it.

Love yourself
I’m a big believer in being positive about yourself. It’s something that I struggle with and it’s really difficult as we’re always told we should hate how we look and shouldn’t be vain, but you have to be your own champion. You should want to improve and learn to better yourself but you do need to learn to like yourself as you are as well. Ask yourself: If a friend was saying the same things to me as I say to myself, would I be their friend? My answer was no and so I’m trying so hard to be nicer to myself (and it’s difficult, I know). Life is so much happier when we love ourselves as much as we love other people.

I hope you agreed with my worldly wisdom! If you did, make sure to let me know and also let me know if you disagree as well. Basically just comment because I really love interacting with everyone ❤ See you tomorrow!