Anxious flyers of reddit, how do you overcome your fears when you need to fly?

I've always been a very nervous flyer, and it has started to become problematic for me. I don't want to miss out on any family events/vacations, etc, and I'm looking for any tips that can make air travel easier for me.

I know someone who has an admittedly irrational, illogical, but none the less deathly fear of flying. She deals with it with a small dose of xanax. She went from literally clinging to my thigh screaming to "ooh look, clouds.. snore" It's worth every penny.