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I am a male and 67 years of age and very healthy, my wife has had a hip replacement which went wrong, she also has back pain, she has a lot of pain when she tries to open her legs for sex, it has been 7 months since I have had sex with her, and I have to masturbate!! but I am sick of masturbating and want sex with her!! she told me she is not interested in sex any more because of her constant pain, she told me that she doesn't mind if I have a girlfriend, what do you think? please help me its a big decision to make!!

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22 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!I am a male and 67 years of age and very healthy, my wife has had a hip replacement which went wrong, she also has back pain, she has a lot of pain when she tries to open her legs for sex, it has been 7 months since I have had sex with her, and I have to masturbate!! but I am sick of masturbating and want sex with her!! she told me she is not interested in sex any more because of her constant pain, she told me that she doesn't mind if I have a girlfriend, what do you think? please help me its a big decision to make!!

My sympathy is with your wife. You may want sex but you don't need sex. Your wife is in pain and it is understandable that she does not want sex. What happened to for better or worse in sickness and in health?

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!My sympathy is with your wife. You may want sex but you don't need sex. Your wife is in pain and it is understandable that she does not want sex. What happened to for better or worse in sickness and in health?

Where is the love for your wife if you do 'go for it.' She is probably saying the 'go ahead' to you but hopes you will remember your vow to her as her husband. A suggestion is to change sex position from missionary and lie behind her. A pillow between her legs and go slowly, plenty of lube and be considerate of her.

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!Where is the love for your wife if you do 'go for it.' She is probably saying the 'go ahead' to you but hopes you will remember your vow to her as her husband. A suggestion is to change sex position from missionary and lie behind her. A pillow between her legs and go slowly, plenty of lube and be considerate of her.

Jonlor, CALL THE DOCTOR or you calling yet???? First see a doctor .....what can be done NOW to correct her hip replacement which went wrong, and also her back pain.If she has a lot of pain when she tries to open her legs; they should remain closed. Have you tried to enter her vaginal from the rear or another position. Do not be a dumb ass if your penis hurt to have sex. You would seek help.

Hump the pilow until you get treatment for your wife. At 67 the "69" would be great position. Do not waste your wife's money on another female, but spend it with a good doctor for treatments.

Always remember your penis is unique, just like every man.

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!Jonlor, CALL THE DOCTOR or you calling yet???? First see a doctor .....what can be done NOW to correct her hip replacement which went wrong, and also her back pain.If she has a lot of pain when she tries to open her legs; they should remain closed. Have you tried to enter her vaginal from the rear or another position. Do not be a dumb ass if your penis hurt to have sex. You would seek help.

Hump the pilow until you get treatment for your wife. At 67 the "69" would be great position. Do not waste your wife's money on another female, but spend it with a good doctor for treatments.

This may offend some of you women BUT, To a man sex is a need!!!! No, he will not die without it but sex is as much of an emotional need to a man as conversation is to a woman. If he said "she doesn't need me to talk to her" what would happen to her feelings for him? Yes her pain is a real issue and sex may not be possible but to dismiss his need so easily shows a lack of sensitivity toward men.

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!This may offend some of you women BUT, To a man sex is a need!!!! No, he will not die without it but sex is as much of an emotional need to a man as conversation is to a woman. If he said "she doesn't need me to talk to her" what would happen to her feelings for him? Yes her pain is a real issue and sex may not be possible but to dismiss his need so easily shows a lack of sensitivity toward men.

You must have ESP if you can tell that this man is a control freak. I also wonder how you know she has cooked, cleaned etc. from what was posted. I also stated that the pain was a real issue and maybe sex was not possible at this time. Get off your high horse and at least read the posts before you reply and reply to what is written and not what you assume.

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!You must have ESP if you can tell that this man is a control freak. I also wonder how you know she has cooked, cleaned etc. from what was posted. I also stated that the pain was a real issue and maybe sex was not possible at this time. Get off your high horse and at least read the posts before you reply and reply to what is written and not what you assume.

It seems unfair and sad that one partner is not getting physical intimacy because the other is incapable of feeling pleasure due to injury. But this partner is not 24 years old, but over 65. If you do not feel any sense of disrespect or "cheating" if you go grab a mistress or prostitute, then what you have with your partner is not a very deep emotional form of love. That is a problem.

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!It seems unfair and sad that one partner is not getting physical intimacy because the other is incapable of feeling pleasure due to injury. But this partner is not 24 years old, but over 65. If you do not feel any sense of disrespect or "cheating" if you go grab a mistress or prostitute, then what you have with your partner is not a very deep emotional form of love. That is a problem.

dfgbull, you are correct in the fact that I am not sensitive to men that show no respect for their wives or their wedding vows or those who act as their apologists. I also have similar lack of sensitivity to wives who act in the same manner. A person's true character reveals itself in times of adversity. It's easy to be noble in good times.

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!dfgbull, you are correct in the fact that I am not sensitive to men that show no respect for their wives or their wedding vows or those who act as their apologists. I also have similar lack of sensitivity to wives who act in the same manner. A person's true character reveals itself in times of adversity. It's easy to be noble in good times.

If my reply sounded like an apologist I missed the mark. I do not support adultery in any form. My only point was to say that to a man sex IS a very real need. I also noted that with her health issues intercourse may not be possible. What I think should happen is for both of them to realize that some adjustments may be needed (e.g. handjobs, blow jobs or getting creative). We all respond through the filter of our own experiences, and I know firsthand the emotional damage sexual frustration causes a man.

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Report This| Share this:Help!! I need sex , I am frustrated!!If my reply sounded like an apologist I missed the mark. I do not support adultery in any form. My only point was to say that to a man sex IS a very real need. I also noted that with her health issues intercourse may not be possible. What I think should happen is for both of them to realize that some adjustments may be needed (e.g. handjobs, blow jobs or getting creative). We all respond through the filter of our own experiences, and I know firsthand the emotional damage sexual frustration causes a man.

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