I started going to a Mothers group when DD was first born. It was at a YMCA. Many of the moms stayed home, some were snobby others not. I hightly recommend going to a mothers group for first time moms. It is very supportive. You can ask questions of moms that just went through what you are going through. I received a lot of good advice. I looked forward to going every week.

Most of the moms from my group put together a group on meetup.com so that is how we still stay connected.

I think going to some kind of a mothers group it is a great way to meet new friends and get some good advice.

I've met some great mom friends through isis, destination maternity, and stroller strides classes. some are sahms, some not. also the breastfeeding support groups through hospitals are a good place to meet people. I would not have made it through the early weeks without having support groups like that. there are wealthy sahms in my area, most are very nice and just trying to figure out how to get their baby to sleep like the rest of us are. try not to feel intimidated and keep looking for groups where you 'click' with the other moms. there are so many options and places to try. what area do you live in?

I agree with the BF support group at the hospital - that was key for me in the early months - it was such a feeling of accomplishement to get our of the house the first few times! We didn't ultimately connect with any familes long term, but it was great until I returned to work!

I am a member of the mothers group near where I live and I am most active in the message board (I am sure this will come as a surprise to you all) but it's good knowing there are other local moms out there. Ours has a mix of SAHM and working moms, and good options for everyone (and anyone can plan an event) and also a great source of info on local resources!

I second the advice for meetup. I joined one in our area when I was home and met many nice moms. They have a huge variety of activities and also a variety of moms. When I was on leave, I did some nice walks with SAHM's. One night I went to a mommy's night out thing and met a bunch of moms who work. All it takes is meeting even one or two nice moms that, like lesal, said, you "click" with and you can connect outside of the group as well. Good Luck!