Why must Schrader submit to stereotype and sully an otherwise touching account of love?

Published 02/18/13 6:10am

Editor’s note: This is in response to the column “Never let your love go unheard,” published in Wednesday’s Daily Lobo. In his column, Don Schrader reminisces about his lover who died in 1989.

Mr. Schrader,

I am very sorry for the pain you have experienced, and I applaud your telling people to be mindful of showing love to the people in their life. I was taken aback, however, near the end of your essay when you described your visits to the cemetery. Was it really necessary to say you kiss the grass “above his cock?” Whether a relationship is gay or straight, it’s best to keep your sexual feelings about each other private. You obviously had a deep, loving relationship with your friend, but you kind of just walked into the homophobic stereotype that gay relationships are “all about sex.”