Do your partner's exes ever bother you? PRIVATE VOTING

Ex girlfriends/boyfriends /wives/husbands always seem to be a pain in the ass for people. But on the other hand, it doesn't ever come up with some couples. I actually know two couples where the brother and the sister are dating their sibling's ex husband/wife. They even live together and share children. It's so awkward! At least the way I see it.

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I am a wife/girlfriend and...

92

I am a husband/boyfriend and...

18

I am constantly bothered by my s/o's exes

11

I am sometimes bothered by my s/o's exes

41

I am on a friend basis with my s/o's exes

10

I have never met any of my s/o's exes

40

I would be bothered if I met my s/o's exes

18

I don't really care about anyone from my s/o's past

51

My s/o's ex comes around occasionally and I don't mind

5

My s/o's ex comes around occasionally and I don't like it

6

My s/o's ex rarely ever comes around but it bothers me when they do

5

My s/o's ex rarely ever comes around but it doesn't bother me when they do

It's been so long since either of our exes became our exes that I don't think any of us would care if we ran into each other again now.
I *did* have a boyfriend before Alan whose ex girlfriend keyed my car though, which turned out to be funny because he called her out on it in front of her oh-so-religious family (major shame factor for her) and then made her pay for it.

Thank God my partner's ex girlfriend is not in his life. He doesn't associate with ex's and neither do I. I don't think it'd be very respectful and it wouldn't be a good situation, things just aren't the same after you've been with someone. I think to keep things on the safe side & keep people from being hurt, ex's are best left in the past! I know first hand what an ex can cause. I once dated a pretty nice guy and his ex was always around. She'd randomly show up at my house even though she'd never met me & lived and hr and a half away, her & her brother would just show up when my bf who was her ex was over. Then she'd call and leave I love you baby on his voicemail. Bet you'd never guess he ended up cheating with her! Ha Ha. The bastard even done it while wearing the t-shirt and BOXERS I bought him! Ugh! He's tried to get back with me ever since my partner and I have been together, but I eventually changed my number so he'd leave us alone. Nothing good hardly ever comes from ex's being in the picture. Either the ex wants revenge, or the person you're with is just trying to make them jealous, or the ex is jealous. Either way that's too much jealousy for me! Lol. I'm so thankful that my partner put me first from the beginning. His ex desperately tried getting back with him & even when we did have to see her, he NEVER let himself be alone with her. I asked why he always insisted I was with him when we had to see her & he said he preferred that I was able to see the kind of person he was and that he didn't think it'd be very respectful of him. He always makes sure he's not in strange/awkward situations where things could just get ugly. I just choose to leave the ex's out of it. I didn't mind when we first got together and his ex was around. She would come to his house & say she still had belongings there. He gave her everythign she left and when she kept showing up he told her to leave that nothing there belonged to her any longer.

I haven't yet met my SO's exes, but I know he regular is in contact with at least two of them, since they're the mothers of his kids. I'm sure I will meet them at some point or another, and I'll probably be bothered by it, but it's not because of them, it's because of my jealousy.

I know that he slept with his ex wife after they were divorced for some time, only because they still sort of loved each other in a way. Other than the two babymamas, I don't think he's in contact with any of his other exes.

For the record, I'm not in contact with any of mine, and I don't think he'd have a problem if I were, as long as it remained platonic.

It's been so long since either of our exes became our exes that I don't think any of us would care if we ran into each other again now. I *did* have a boyfriend before Alan whose ex girlfriend keyed my car though, which turned out to be
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It's been so long since either of our exes became our exes that I don't think any of us would care if we ran into each other again now. I *did* have a boyfriend before Alan whose ex girlfriend keyed my car though, which turned out to be funny because he called her out on it in front of her oh-so-religious family (major shame factor for her) and then made her pay for it.

I only met the last girlfriend before myself (of course) and I cannot stand her. My husband walked in on her having sex with 2 guys.. needless to say they broke up. She treated him like crap and because he "loved" her he stayed friends with her. Well when we started dating, she got unhappy and jealous and still treated him like crap. I wasn't fond them staying friends but didnt stop them, and he finally came to his senses and stopped seeing her. I dont have any ex's as my husband was my 1st boyfriend. But my husband hates one of my guy friends. Im not entirely sure why....

His ex cheated on him three times in one night at a party and is now heavily into drugs. She really messed him up emotionally. I met her once and didn't really care for her, but I'm happy she's not in his life.

I don't really care, there's one specifically that I don't like cuz she's such s whore and it grosses me out that he hooked up with her. And I'm not just hating on her because she is an ex, she truly is gross. I'm nice to her and talk to her since I run into her frequently but I don't like her.
As for my husband, he's ridiculously possessive and jealous. The second he sees an ex of mine he puffs up and grabs me, it's so damn annoying!

My man only has one ex and I've never met her, but we have lots of mutual friends and I periodically hear updates about her through my social circle. I'm not bothered at all - most of the time the comments are that I'm a definite upgrade so I really can't complain.

Ex girlfriends/boyfriends /wives/husbands always seem to be a pain in the ass for people. But on the other hand, it doesn't ever come up with some couples. I actually know two couples where the brother and the sister are dating their
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Ex girlfriends/boyfriends /wives/husbands always seem to be a pain in the ass for people. But on the other hand, it doesn't ever come up with some couples. I actually know two couples where the brother and the sister are dating their sibling's ex husband/wife. They even live together and share children. It's so awkward! At least the way I see it.

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Sigel and I have been together since we were 15 so while he DOES have -exs they aren't in the picture. What bothers me is those women who sleep with him and then think that he must not love me anymore and decide to be rude or ignore me. The thing is that is the quickest way to get him to walk away...but they never learn. They believe that I must not know and call him at all hours on his work phone...which he tells me about. I mean for gawd's sweet sake he TELLS them that he is in an open relationship and invites them to meet me before he does anything with them if they have concerns but the women would prefer to believe their romance stories.

I was Arch's first so no -exs there. Sigel was my first so neither guy has any problems with my -exs....LOL (sometmes they have problems with each other but they work the problems out quickly and with lots of male bonding shit....)

I've never met his and he's never met mine. Sometimes when my partner talks about them, I feel insecure or inadequate. But I think that it's mainly a part of who I am, rather than anything to do with his actions.

Ex girlfriends/boyfriends /wives/husbands always seem to be a pain in the ass for people. But on the other hand, it doesn't ever come up with some couples. I actually know two couples where the brother and the sister are dating their
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Ex girlfriends/boyfriends /wives/husbands always seem to be a pain in the ass for people. But on the other hand, it doesn't ever come up with some couples. I actually know two couples where the brother and the sister are dating their sibling's ex husband/wife. They even live together and share children. It's so awkward! At least the way I see it.