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Saturday, 29 January 2011

i had a successful ubac on january 14th 2011, at 12.45 pm indonesian time.

it was on our 17th wedding anniversary.

i/my uterus gave birth to a baby girl, her name is sophia blandine-later we fixed it into: madeleine sophie blandine.

now we have 3 boys and a sweet baby girl!

i had early srom on january 12th at 00.30 am.

24 hours later (january 13th, 00.30 am) i had great regular contractions until 3 am but they were gone after 3. (before that there was a contact friend from a ubac ygroups reminded me that active labor will start after 24 hours of srom/early rom but not always). some contacts from the forum suggested me to rest when i told them that i was a kind of worried about the lost contrxs.

i finally let myself to rest and had bfast at 5 am. at 5.30 am i felt contrx again, the mild ones. after that i went into my bed and took some rest - right lying. (as i let my contact friends' posts strengthened me and HELP me to be a good manager to the great mystery of the DETAILED REAL DUE DATE before me).

they told me to relax, rest, bathe, eat, drink and ENJOY instead of to trigger the active labor by walking til i waddled. One told me that that day could be my day! The phrase i remembered and helped me a lot was from patti ramos' blog:

"We know the motion of our true nature by the open embrace and empty surrender and acceptance of everything as it is."-julie sarah powell-. this phrase was being with me during the walcher trochanter position i did.

when the contrx went stonger, i started to walk and walk and squat and blow (slow to fast blow) so many times and everything was manageable. eventually i felt so comfortable. eventually i knew the exact measures my body needed/to respond the pain from the contractions properly, such as to do lots of side to side rocking, double back pressings and blowing and making sexy sounds/moaning, low pitch ones. i also tried to respond the feedback mechanism from my body by doing the hula hoop but my body in labor told me it was not the right one. it made my tail bone clicking and worsen the communicative pain from the contraction.

i was quite sad this time because my husband had flu so we couldn't be that close to each other like when we were on my 1st ubac labour until i asked him to press my back/double hip pressing and it was ouh soooooo goooood!

at 11 am (35,5 hours after early srom) after i checked my cervix with my sterilized fingers (with iodine solution), i could feel my cervix was asymmetric and something hard inside. i blew (fast blow to more quickly ones) and squatted a lot, and had a lot of side to side rocking and a little more double back/hip pressures in the bath room.at 11.45 am i wanted to walk around and it was getting harder to walk. i decided to stay in the bath room but my husband offered me to stay in our bedroom. he said that the bathroom will be too cold for the newborn. so i agreed with my husband to go back to our room an tried to take a walk again.

as it's getting harder and harder to walk, i then knelt and did the blowing (super fast!) again as i felt my body/uterine doing its job with my baby. this feeling was amazingngngngng! when i could, i got up and i walked again until i felt another intense pressing down inside me.THIS TIME, I COULDN'T GO ANYWHERE ANYMORE! yay! FUNNY BUT TRUE, i still gave myself a try to walk forward and backward, but my feet just moving on one spotted ace! so i knelt again and i asked my husband to close the door and the window. we were ready for the birth!

i blew and blew as much as i could along with the contractions-my uterus' and baby's movement, i felt greattt cos i was 100% conscious and obviously could feel the uterine was working intensely as i blew. i then moaned deliciously! (my husband told me it turned him on, too bad he had flu lol!)

my husband didn't want me to have a tear in my perineum, and or on my portio i had on my 1st ubac, by telling me softly he prudently reminded me not to push if there is no urge to push. eventually there was an urge to push and i did a GENTLE push, the head was out/crowning, i took a deep inhale and i did another long finishing exhaling as i gently pushed my baby out and moaning til my baby was fully born.

my husband was wearing a mask to prevent the flu infection to my baby. our baby was born very smoothly. he finally did catch the baby. later he said that it was so great to witness our baby came down from the birth canal with both of her hands in crossing position on her chest.

my baby cried right away that was why i didn't use the suction.i asked my husband whether it was a girl or a boy it was too dark for him to see the genitalia.he told me that it was another baby boy until i lifted my baby up to breastfeed her ... IT IS A BABY GIRL, HONEY!!! i whispered the announcement strongly to my husband face to face.

my husband and i were very happy to know the great gift god gave to us on our 17th wedding anniversary! clear crying voice, black hair, rose pink complexion.very feminine look.

after the birth, i called my family doctor, she asked me whether my baby was blue after almost 36 hours srom and she was so surprised to hear her crying before i answer her question and she congratulated me:

"your baby's apgar's score is 10!" she shouted by the phone lol! we said a prayer of thanksgiving by phone. the doctor also told us that her whole family was in intense prayer for the safety of my birth. she also announced the birth as soon as i told her by the phone that our baby was just born healthy. my husband almost cry while he was holding the phone in front of me.

i nursed my baby after i found a good position to nurse her. i bf her for exactly 1 hour long, after that i felt another strong contraction. too bad that i didn't experience the breast crawl. i sat down on the floor after the birth on my knees with the cord between my thighs. twas a short cord. my husband cut the cord with a pair of sterilized scissors and i went to the bathroom right away. i sat over a bowl and pushed the placenta out.

a chunk of it splashed into the bowl and the biggest part of it was hanging outside my vagina-between my thighs like a ball inside the amniotic sac. i looked at it carefully and closely because i didn't want to tear it on the blood vessels/to hurt myself inside.

what i saw was a clear hanging tore membrane of it and the rest of red placenta within. i soon realized that twas retained placenta's membrane. i was gladdddd, very glad for it wasn't an accreta!

so i held the ball like of it and asked my husband to sterilized a pair of scissors again, and then i cut the visible membrane and i got the ball like thing cut from the retained membrane. honestly i laughed briefly when i saw it came out of my cervix like a ball, hanging there between my thighs until i realized that i could've had an accreta.

my perineum was intact, no tear at all. i obviously could feel it when the baby was crowning, it stretched just like that perfectly as my body was ready for the birth.

after that we had a lot things to do, i felt very tired but at the same time the birth was so energizing me just like my 1st ubac! we did the laundry and the announcements, we took care of our two kids and the baby, and of course we couldn't wait to see our big family coming to visit us.

i learned that :

i had a posterior baby before the birth/during certain timing of the labor (the early srom),

the evidence of an anterior placenta: from the visible retained piece of placenta's membrane, as its retained side looked tend to hang outside my vagina anteriorly.

a cervical lip during labor, it made my labor took a quite long time to progress into the active labor;

a short cord-that was why my baby was still high during the last trimester and labor and twas quite hard to bring her near to my chest to nurse her.

i also thought that my baby might have been born over due date as i saw her extra long bended nails and peeled off skin and almost no vernix.

i learned that i had a natural, spontaneous, normal labor and birth AGAIN, at home AGAIN! it was an OP labour to die for that helps me to heal my unnecessary c/s' past.

the next day after the birth, we had a visit from two doctors-GP from a prolife community. they were following my labour progress from the beginning until the birth of the baby by text/sms-a lot of worrying sms to my husband considering my srom/almost 36 hours of srom.

as doctors, they were very worried about srom that last for more than 10 or 24 hours.

after they saw my healthy baby, they finally agreed that srom within more than 10 hours is still safe for mom and the baby as long as there is no (infectious) insertion into the vag. they also asked me that if my perineum was intact after the birth. they said that episiotomy is a kind of routine in the vk-verlos kamer/delivery room in many provider in indonesia. there was a 'wow'-like on their faces when me and my husband told them that my perineum was intact, no tear at all.

they led a prayer of thanksgiving with us and took some pictures of us. they intended to share our birth story as a testimony about my faith in ubac and the goodness of natural-normal birth even after cesarean/s thru their fb's page. now they know my 2 successful v/ubacs at home (the first was on july 17th 2009).

yesterday evening i finally had no more retained placenta's membrane because i breastfed my baby girl as much/often as she wants. i had contractions every time i breastfed her and it made my uterus easier to let go the rest of the retained membrane.

today, monday-january 17th 2011, my uterus is getting much smaller than before it expel the retained placenta, yesterday. together with my husband, i can calmly do many more things today as my body recovers from the labour and the birth activities.