The point is you shouldn’t panic. Assume your message was forgotten about for one of these dumb reasons.

This carefree attitude will come across in your next messages and she’ll be less likely to think you’re butthurt about being ignored.

2. Wait

Women want to date guys who have active social lives. Her dream man would have too much going on to notice some girl ignoring his message.

With this in mind, please wait at least 24 hours before following up on your first message. Doing so any sooner makes it seem like you have nothing better to do than text her.

The only exception to this rule is if you have arranged to meet her that day. In this case, simply text, or even call, to confirm your meeting spot.

3. Ping texting

Once it’s clear she’s not getting back to you, send a ‘ping text’.

A ‘ping text’ could be a meme, a funny story from your day, a photo you took while out and about. Anything that communicates ‘I saw this and thought of you’.

The golden rule of ping texting: no questions.

This type of message doesn’t come across as desperate because it’s not asking for a response. It simply communicates that you’re a fun guy sending a fun message. If she’s interested in you, she’ll reply.

Even if she doesn’t, it doesn’t look needy to send two or three of these over the next few days. Once one hooks her in, continue the conversation as normal. Click the link for some detailed examples of successful ping texting.

4. Faux panic text

If the ping texts fail to capture her attention, a ‘faux panic’ text could be your final shot. This is an over-the-top message worrying about her whereabouts.

Some examples include:

‘You’ve gone missing. Should I send a search party by helicopter or SWAT truck?’

‘I’m assuming you’ve been kidnapped. Let me know if I need to put on my cape and tights.’

The faux panic text acknowledges that she’s ignoring you in a fun and playful way. If she actually wants to keep in touch, she’ll get back to you sharpish.

5. Goodbye text

If you’ve got this far down the list, it’s pretty likely you’ve been ghosted.

If you like, send a final text telling her you won’t be messaging her anymore. This could potentially wake up the small percentage of women ignorant enough to miss your first few texts. At this point, you have nothing to lose.

‘Hey, you seemed like a fun girl. It would have been cool to get to know you, but I understand if you’re not interested…’

6. Find new girls

A great way not to worry about a girl texting you back is to have loads more messaging you.

With the emergence of apps like Tinder, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel etc, you can find hundreds more women to speak to within a couple of taps of your smartphone.

Open up your favourite app and find the women who actually want to meet up with you.

Bonus cheat code: swap social media instead of phone numbers

If you want to stay in contact with a woman, be aware that swapping phone numbers is nowhere near as effective as exchanging social media details.

Using Instagram, I’ve been able to revive dead conversations multiple times – and get girls out on a date months after meeting them.

About Joe Elvin
Joe Elvin is a lifestyle writer and confidence coach currently living as a digital nomad across Europe and Asia. You can download his FREE e-book 'How To Conquer Social Anxiety' at https://bit.ly/2MBxm4N

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