This Week's Leaders

Wedding planning while states apart.

How do you do it. We talk on the phone and text consistantly, but I feel as if the stress just piles on and on the more we plan and see how much money this is all going to cost. We are both E-4 in the Navy, and I am on shore duty in CT while he is dry docked in VA. Is there any advice to get us through this without ripping each other to shreds after a few months?

We arent really "fighting" more like bickering every single time we tal on the phone. It has gotten to the point of not even planning. We havent talke wedding for a couple weeks

Our vision is the same. Small wedding Closefriends and family only, no longer than 2 hour reception with all the traditional things (garter/bouqet toss, first dance, cake cutting, ect.), and were making it as fun and untraditional as possible.

We just feel like its never going to get easy for us because WE are hosting AND paying for the entire thing unless we absolutely need help.

I think most people host and pay for their own weddings so just take a deep breath, it'll all come together...

Anyways, I think it'll be best if you just make a list of everything that needs to be done then complete the big things first - guest list, date, church/ceremony site, reception site, caterer. Everything else can come as you save for it. My now husband was in California for all of the planning, so I did most of it by myself via phone and email. It can be done, just have patience.