How is my Golden Heart friend doing? Does he know that I always pray for his health and happiness?

Dear Behnam, I got my very first official salary about two weeks ago. It was such a wonderful experience, since I felt a bit more independent. At least I didn't have to ask mom or dad for money for some months or weeks and that was interesting I was like, now I got my own money, I can buy this or that without asking anyone to help me financially

Restaurants...oh no, not much of a restaurant fan when I'm busy studying. Especially that my sister left the town to her university and I'm a bit alone so...maybe some time later I spend my money on food but not now!

Uh...guess what? I bought some girlish stuff, and then two books. I already started reading one of them because I could not say NO to my appetite for reading One of them is war and peace, of course you know by who and the other is this new book of Paulo Coelho called Aleph, or maybe I think it's new! It's nice. He's such a comfortable author.

How are you? How is teaching these days? Oh I read your post right the day you wrote it but unfortunately in the afternoon when I wanted to reply to it I ran out of internet credit so I postponed it to now.I'm so sorry if it took me so long but anyway, I hope that by now you are feeling very well So let me introduce myself at first. I am from Iran and I live in a little town in northern pat of Iran.But I studied English Literature in a very famous university in Iran in Mashhad city. I actually learned to speak English from when I was 13 years old. I used to go to institutes which teach language in its four skills but they mostly focus on conversation and speaking competency, so to speak! Hmmmm....you know what? I used to teach English as a tutor since I was a little girl, say 15 years old. I taught whoever was eager to read and learn. But this year it is very different, I took part in an institute's entry exam which is mostly the TOEFL and was accepted in the interview section too. So I chose to take two classes, one with adults ranging from 16 to 23 and the other with little kiddos of 10 to 15 The experience was awesome, I'd never had a classes like this. I remember I used to teach in dormitory to a great many of my friends at the same time(like a class) too, but nothing is like a facilitated official class with grade numbers and papers you know what I mean!And you know what is so good and fun about teaching English? It is that you can use every method you enjoy to spice up the class. You can play music, work with colors, read stories, do riddles, watch a movie or cartoon or even play games. And they all contribute to learning so very well, right?

Now tell me about your students, how many are they? Girls, boys or both? What level is the book you teach? What sort of materials do you have to focus on more? What do you do to reduce the tedium of grammar parts?

(Please read this essay carefully!)A wonderful Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Rememberto give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.Remember to say "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Rememberto hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

Once again:Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Please share this article with all people who are selfish, arrogant, and think they are perfect in all aspects!

Thank for your post . This is a fact, and I am wallowing in despair to be far away from my love ones. This my job which spare more of my time. Very nice to see your writing .that is a signal that you have been released from doctor ,please don't squander more cash on hospital , come back to your sporting manner. I used to see Behnam as sport man.

First of all, I'd like to say I've missed you terribly. How are you my friends? I hope you are doing well, and enjoying this beautiful season.

I am going to the hospital 3 times a week to have some exercise like walking on treadmill, bicycling, etc. It is funny, no matter how much and how fast you walk, you are at the same point! It is similar to the life of the poor! No matter how much they work, they are in the dog-house! Apparently, misery is an unchangeable destiny of some people. I don't know, but feel so! Oh, sorry for digressing. I was saying that on even days I go to the hospital. It starts at 8:00am and ends at 9:30am! I don't go to work. I have to stay at home and take rest. I will go to work in November.

In the evening, I have a one-hour walk at the park. I have to lose some weight. I have to change my diet too! My wife does not put salt on the table and only pours a little bit salt into foods. This is what the nutritionist has said to my wife! My wife has to stop frying chicken and potato, etc. in oil. She has to use chicken instead of red meat in preparing foods!

Anyway, my life has changed. I have changed too. I am not the same person. I have lost my accuracy and concentration. My brain does not work like an atomic clock anymore! I know, nobody is reading this line, so, to tell you the truth, it didn't work like an atomic clock before! Once mullah Nasereddin( a comic person) jumped over a donkey to ride it. Poor mullah jumped from one side and fell down from the other side. He couldn't sit on the donkey's back. He sighed and said, "Oh, my youth you have gone, alas I am old now." He looked around and saw nobody was noticing his failure. Then he whispered to the ear of the donkey, "To be honest, I was nothing in my youth". Now, to be honest, my brain has never worked like an atomic clock!

Oh, something else from my PhD exam. Iranian Measurement Organization(I don't know what they measure, how, and what the unit is; meter, kilogram, sack, bag, buckle, etc.) has announced a report which shows my average(the average of verbal and oral exams) and my rank. My verbal mark was 9007 out of 10000, and my oral mark was 2500! I ranked 21st at the university, while the 20th person is accepted! How funny and unfair it is! They have given me a number(2500 out of 10000) to make me the 21st person, no matter how my talents, answers, abilities, skills, knowledge, etc. were! Now, I must sit and wish the death of one of those 20 students. If one of them dies or leaves the country, or stops studying for any reasons, I may get accepted! There is some light at the end of the tunnel, but I dislike it.

Let's stop bothering you. Good memories are always flying in the sky of my mind. I am breathing with those sweet memories.

Many thanks for sharing that Turkish music on facebook. Although I don't understand even one word of it, listening to it takes my soul to another world. As if I have lost sth and it reminds me of it!!!! Ohhhhhh, thanks honey for gifting me this great sense today, for these wonderful tears on my face, for reminding me of my old days, old memories, happy days, memorable hours in the past...........

When I opened the thread and saw you name, I thought that I had made a mistake and didn't read the name correctly, I thought that I was still asleep and dreaming of you! I was too amazed!

Dear Eli, Listening to music is something good. However, when it makes us cry it started to be a bad thing. I really like to hear that you are enjoying your time but I hate it when you cry. please please if listening to music makes you cry, pleeeease stop it!

I know that sometimes things remind us of old memories and days and we hardly can prevent our tears but let's let the past in the past and look forward to the future.

It is my favourite season and I am enjoying the special beauty of nature these days. Enjoying something does not necessarily mean doing something or having a particular activity. For me, walking, looking at trees and birds and the shades, breathing the air of autumn, friendly sunlight etc. are all enjoyable.

It is very nice to read your posts. Reading your posts makes me really happy and joyful. Thank you very much for keeping your contact with this thread and friends. There is a saying in Azerbaijani language 'Har zadin tazasi, dustin kohnasi'(هر زادین تزسی، دوستین کهنسی). It means 'every new thing is favourable, but when it comes to friendship, an old friend is favourable'! I couldn't translate it properly. You know, some phrases and expressions or sayings cannot be translated. You lose the meaning when you translate them from native language into another one. This saying is one of them. Anyway, I hope you'll get the meaning.

Amal's style of writing has made me amazed. I am not exaggerating at all. Her way of writing, and the structures she uses in her writings make me absolutely amazed. I wish I knew how she had made such a great improvement in her writing skills. I guess she is reading some novels.

As always, Elham is full of emotions and feelings. I guess she feels nostalgic about the past. She remembers some happy memories and wishes that things had not changed. I am not going to advise her, since (رطب خورده منع رطب کی کند)! In English it means, someone who has eaten date, cannot tell someone else to stop eating it! I feel nostalgic about the old days too. Old memories are like sweet dreams, marching in front of my eyes.

Kamelia and Shahrbanu are too stingy to write more! What they are doing is so similar to the action of a person who is aware of someone's thirst. S/he shows a glass of ice-water to that thirsty person and lets him/her touch the glass, but doesn't quench his/her thirst! You were lucky that I used water and thirst to explain the situation. You know, using apples and things like that to make myself clear is easier and funnier!

Where is Mohsen? I've missed him and his posts.

Finally, we shouldn't blame Elham for her feelings. Actually, she hasn't chosen that piece of music. Someone else has put it on her Facebook and she has listened to it. Let's suppose Elham has chosen such a sad piece of music. Even in this case, we have no right to blame her, because music is not selective. We cannot choice either happy or sad piece of music. As a matter of fact, our feeling makes decision about the kind of music we like listening to at a specific period of time.

Yesterday, I was talking to a friend of mine. I wanted her to listen to happy music! However, we listen to music which is in accordance with our moods or feelings. What I am saying is this: We enjoy listening to a piece of music which is compatible with our moods or feelings!

Hi Behnam,You did a great job , walking in autumn is fantastic ,you took important step to access your complete healthThe autumn is making the days short and the nights long , and you know that the night is belong to ladies , I should be beside my wife . so there is little time to write here .

Also my desire for sleeping has been doubled in autumn. I don't know why my mood has been change , maybe this is normal for all people !! what is your sense ? do you feel you would like to sleep more in autumn ?

I am nostalgic in fall , for what ? I don't know , maybe it is the guilt of my album which i was looking at ,the old memories comes to my mind ,...but it was worth and enjoyable.

It is really pleasing to find myself a little craving to stay in bed and watch a movie.I am able to remove all concerns from my mind and enjoy my life.

To be honest, in terms of sleeping, for me it does not matter which season we are in. I sleep 7 to 8 hours every day.

Mohsen wrote:The autumn is making the days short and the nights long , and you know that the night is belong to ladies , I should be beside my wife .

The night belongs to ladies! What do you mean? Which night do you mean? Well, suppose one night in a week belongs to ladies, what about other 6 nights? You might mean nights belong to ladies! If so, you have big trouble spending nighttime with your wife.

Make your wife busy with her personal tasks. Ladies have many things to do. When they are not busy, they either speak on phone or talk to their husbands(or to a listener)!

You know such things much better than me. I should stop sounding like an adviser.

A few seconds ago I was in the kitchen; talking with my wife about the strange things we see these days. When we were talking, I decided to share the main part of the story with you.

First, as you may know, apple is my first favourite fruit. My second favourite fruit is pomegranate. As you know, pomegranate ripens in autumn. About 2 hours ago, we were to the market to do the shopping. Some people were selling pomegranate. I bought a big basket of it. After getting home, I went to the kitchen and took a knife and cut one of the largest pomegranates. Strangely, the seeds inside it were whitish and dry! I cut another one. It was worse than the first one! I cut about 10 pomegranates, but they weren't eatable. My wife said, 'it is not possible to be crooks and frauds and to have good harvests." I added, "Why do farmers send such bad fruits to the market? Why don't they cut such useless trees down? What do they think?"

It is not fair to put the blame on farmers. No matter where we are living in and what we are doing. Everybody who doesn't perform his/her duties must be blamed. As a general rule, things are linked together like chain rings. The farmer is just one link in the chain.

This summer, before having heart operation, I couldn't buy sweet red watermelon. No matter in what size I bought, the watermelons were tasteless.

Three weeks ago, I was in Tabriz; my motherland. In the vicinity of Tabriz, on the road sides, people were selling different things. Somewhere some people were selling apple. Oh my God! Apples were really really really perfect. They were large, bright,watery and as tough as I love. They have pleasant smell and beautiful colours (a nice combination of orange, yellow and white). I bought two large basket of apples and brought them to Tehran. Oh, you cannot imagine how nice they were and how I felt when biting those apples. Some friends could hear the sound of my bites when talking to me on the mobile phone or Skype! You may say, "Well, Behnam you have paid a large amount of money for those large apples." Swear to God, the price of apple in Tehran is about twice as its price in Tabriz. However, the quality of it in Tehran is much less that its quality in Tabriz.

I paid a big amount of money to those pomegranates; mentioned above, but I burned the money actually!

My question is this: Hey farmers, salesmen, producers,... when you know your products are terrible, why are you selling them? why are you producing them? Simply and briefly, why do we all deceive each other?

hi Elham, how are you my friend? I hope that you are very well,the song that I have shared is about Sultan Sülayman as it s understood from its name , the song tells that ''nobody could stay in the earth eternally even Sultan Süleyman'' and so on...By the way it affects me deeply too.

I am writing this to say a warmHappy Eid-Ul-Adhato all Muslims brothers and sisters in all over the world. I hope we will follow the rules and laws of Islam and then will follow the path of perfection!

I'd like to say a specialHappy Eid-Ul-Adhato the friends who have performed Haj. They are called Haji Agha and Hajiye Khanom in Iran. I hope the big 'NO' which they have said to Satan-by throwing stones at its symbol- will guide them towards perfection all the time.

I may not find an opportunity to add something to Sharbanu's post. What she means is a Turkish ruler known as Suleiman the Magnificent, who greatly improved the Ottoman Empire in its government and culture. However, I am afraid I disagree with her. I think it mentions to prophet Suleiman, the son of David; one of the kings of Israel. His name has come in the Holy Koran. He could talk to animals, and had miraculous powers. In Azerbaijani language there are many poems which have similar meanings. For instance:

This world is transitory, Who is staying in this world? This world has brought Suleiman, the son of David down from his throne. [It means that when someone like him has left the world(has died) we will obviously die too!]

Heydar baba(this is a mountain's name in Azerbaijan, mainly in Hashtrud, where Shahreyar was born) the world is a big lie,(=is nothing),This world is inheritance of Suleiman and Noah, (it means that such important men have left this world, but it still is remained! This phrase metaphorically means that when such great men have died we will obviously die too),This world gives birth to son, and puts him into trouble and pain(metaphorically means that human beings are in pain and grief all the time),It has taken back whatever has given to anybody,Only a name is remained from Plato(an ancient Greek philosopher, who had a very great influence on European philosophy).

First of all, thank you for your posts, I really love your words and love learning from them.

Emm, Do you really think that my English is getting better?! Oh! Inshallah! Sadly, these days, I don't use it as usual and I rarely chat in English. In fact, I don't know how the time flies but it does! By the way, so sorry about leaving so fast in our last chat, but I couldn't stay more and couldn't wait, I really wished we could talk..

You know, your guess was right, I have bought a new phone and downloaded some books so whenever I have some free time, I read. I don't know how that will effects on my English but I am trying my best...

In the end, I wish you and other friends a happy Eid, may all your days are full of joy and happiness.

* In Syria now we have a long holiday started from Friday and will end on Saturday.

Thank you is not strong enough to say in gratitude for what you have done for me during the long friendship I have had with you. You deserve the most special and warmest 'thank you' from the bottom of my heart.

Your English is excellent, and your way of writing is impressive, effective, and profound. You are so creative. The most important aspect of your writing skills is that you play with words. You are riding the words; they are not riding you!

It is extremely important for English learners to be confident enough to look at the English from somewhere above, in a way that not to be imprisoned by vocabulary and grammar. In other words, learners should not let the complexities of a language dominates them!

Your posts say that the English language is flexible for you. Congratulations!

Thank for your congratulation message to your friends for Eid Ghraban (Eid-Ul-Adha).We had a party, and one of our family member who is Sayed ( a person who is descendant of prophet Mohammad PBUH) had invited us to his house. I enjoyed the Eid very much beside many relatives who was gathered in Sayed's house.

Also the day before Eid-ul-Adha is very important , it is called the day of Arafeh in Iran , and many people gather in mosques and read the Arafeh prayer. The Arafeh prayer was said by Imam Hussein ( the grand child of prophet Mohammad). This prayer is a miracle which said by Imam when he was in Haj pilgrimage 1400 years ago. It is the most beautiful prayer ( Dua) I have ever read . If you want to read it please go to the following website, it is written in Arabic and English translation.

Thank you for your advice , your writing is always practical , I try to make my wife busy , Tonight I incited her to read a book which I had borrowed from library. She read some pages and went to sleep , It is about 10 PM and I am sure she will be awake very soon.So I should finish my post soon.

Thank you very much for your reply. Thank you once again for sharing the address of that wonderful place. I really enjoyed reading some parts of it(Doae Arafeh). It was great.

Idleness can create some illness. That's why-maybe-Imam Ali(PBUH) has said, "Working is the best entertainment."

If a man would like to get completely rid of his wife's disturbance, he should make her busy with some routine tasks. The task must be routine, otherwise she will keep asking some questions when carrying it. This will lead to some other disturbance. Therefore, it's essentially important to give them some routine tasks.

If a lady gives birth to a baby, the man will become released from some prisons. However, a big amount of money is needed to spend on both the baby and the mother. Therefore, for a rich man, the easiest solution is making his wife become a mother! If a lady gives birth to two babies-like my case-she will forget her husband for a long period of time.

Joking aside, everything has got its advantages and disadvantages. Good sides and bad sides are always together. We cannot choose only the positive sides of something. They are always mixed. Nothing is perfect in the world. To say it in different words, there isn't any perfect situation in the world. This is a fact, however, our visualization of it is different. Everybody says this phrase 'Nothing is perfect', but only a few percent of people understand it.

Please spare time to read the below lines till the end. I loved it and hope you will like it too.

Pencil: I'm Sorry.Eraser: For What? You Didn't Do Anything Wrong.Pencil: I'm Sorry Cause You Get Hurt Because Of Me.Whenever I Made A Mistake, You're Always There To Erase It.But As You Make My Mistakes Vanish,You Lose A Part Of Yourself.You Get Smaller And Smaller Each Time.Eraser: That's True. But I Don't Really Mind.You See, I Was Made To Do This. I Was Made To Help YouWhenever You Do Something Wrong.Even Though One Day, I Know I'll Be GoneAnd You'll Replace Me With A New One,I'm Actually Happy With My Job.So Please, Stop Worrying.I Hate Seeing You Sad.

Parents Are Like The EraserWhereas Their Children Are The Pencil.They're Always There For Their Children,Cleaning Up Their Mistakes.Sometimes Along The Way... They Get Hurt,And Become Smaller(Older, And Eventually Pass On).Though Their Children Will Eventually Find Someone New(Spouse)But Parents Are Still Happy With What They Do For Their Children,And Will Always Hate Seeing Their Precious Ones Worrying, Or Sad.

I Found This Conversation Between The Pencil And The Eraser Very Inspirational.

I am still searching for some routine tasks to make my wife busy with. As you know according to Islamic rules the woman is a treasure at home and the man should admired her too much , a man is not allowed to force her wife to cook at home or force her washing dishes and clothe , a man is not allowed to ask her wife to take care of child.Because I have not enough money to employ a maid for my wife to help her for household chores , I have to do them myself most of the time.

Never think that I have not power to force her for doing the house holding affairs , I am not use to ask anybody to do something for me ,even my wife.

My wife has being fascinated by my characters , and day by day she love me more and more. If I want to give a grade to her love when we got married , I give 100 , but know her love grade to me is 1000.

Since her burning love to me , she omitted all of her friends and relatives from her life. She always says " you are the first and end of life for me." If I be late a little when coming back from office ,she calls me several times.see me off at morning and welcome to me at evening .Sometimes she has to go somewhere without me , she goes ,but with a wet eyes.

Her life is totally depends on me , if I die one day ,she will die the next day. How can I find for her an amusement which I have no rule in it , something that make her busy , God knows..!! Once you recommended me for having a baby , My wife can't bear the baby voice for a minute , I also recommended her to continue her education , going to gym , take part in one of women associations, but nothing satisfied her.

Now she is asking me for eating dinner and watching the Pejman serial movie on TV.