Have you ever caught yourself making a dreaded, dum dum dum,....comparison. Yes, ugh. The dreaded comparison. It seems like everyone you know is married, in a relationship and you are alone. What happens after that is always a downward spiral.

Comparison leads to more comparison, leads to more comparison...and so it goes. Know this, not one ounce of comparison is going to bring you closer to Mr. Right.

So, what´s a girl to do? Stop, catch yourself and flip it. You aren´t anyone else but YOU. You are the only one with the unique recipe of awesome goodness that is YOU. When you waste time comparing yourself you only do yourself harm.

In attracting love, the goal here is to radiate love and trust all the gifts you have to offer and that you are right where you need to be. (I´m not saying that this is easy to do everyday, but I´m saying it IS necessary to move you towards love.)

What to do the next time doubt creeps in?

1. Start being a detective - What are you saying to yourself when you see other couples, family, strangers, or friends in what you perceive to be loving relationships? Are you comparing yourself and or putting yourself down? Catching yourself is the first key.

2. Take a deep breathe, ground yourself, where are you feeling that annoyance or discomfort in your body? what does it feel like? Acknowledge its presence your body, but drop it down. This means, no more stewing about it, I repeat...drop it down to a feeling in your body and continue being a detective.

3. If you´ve having trouble shaking it and the comparison is bringing you down, ask yourself, Is that really true? I mean REALLY now! Be completely honest.

4. Flip it. How can you take what you´re saying to yourself and flip it into a positive. What would be the opposite in a positive statement towards yAcknowledging yourself for the gifts, skills, qualities and traits that make you who you are. This is where you want to concentrate. This is what allows you to radiate.

Let me know what happens the next time you catch yourself comparing. Were you able to shift it? What makes you radiate and a magnet for lasting love?