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Chronicles, Musings and Debates about Interracial & Intercultural RelationshipsTue, 12 Dec 2017 22:10:35 +0000en-UShourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.123522080Black Media Swoops In to Remind Us Meaghan Markle Is Marrying the Slave Master. Why??http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-media-swoops-remind-us-meaghan-markle-marrying-slave-master/
http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-media-swoops-remind-us-meaghan-markle-marrying-slave-master/#commentsThu, 07 Dec 2017 03:46:46 +0000http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43638Did you see the article published in The Grio today, about their “concern” over the idea that a mixed race woman of African American decent is marrying into the royal family and people FORGETTING about England’s legacy of slavery. Oh…really?? Here’s what they said… The British royals may be set to welcome a Black member […]

Did you see the article published in The Grio today, about their “concern” over the idea that a mixed race woman of African American decent is marrying into the royal family and people FORGETTING about England’s legacy of slavery. Oh…really??

Here’s what they said…

The British royals may be set to welcome a Black member into their family, but that doesn’t mean they’re off the hook for hundreds of years of colonizing and enslaving Africans and dark-skinned people around the globe, all while amassing a ton of wealth in the process.

Sorry to be the one to throw cold water on the recent announcement of Prince Harryand Meghan Markle‘s engagement, but somebody has to do it.

Hmmm…let’s see what else…

The British royal family presided over the exploitation of untold millions of people in Africa, India and around the world. Britain’s national wealth, and the riches of the royal family were built off the backs of slaves, making the Industrial Revolution possible.

Oh wow! That’s TERRIBLE!! They really, really HATE slavery. And-and-and-and this organization is being very specific about reminding black people that those white English folks are white supremacists too, and probably Meaghan is a bed wench. That is what they like to call us black or mixed race women with African ancestry when we don’t fall in line, now isn’t it?

Do you notice that when a black man marries a white woman, nobody is rushing in to do DNA tests and ancestry forensics to see if that woman is the decedents of slaves? That’s so weird…

I’d rather them STOP trying to remind us of ancient history and focus MORE on the slave trade that is happening RIGHT NOW in Libya. They’ve written a few articles, but can we please get some more, maybe organize and mobilize your vast audience to march on Washington to free our black brothers and sister? Maybe ask Prince Harry and Meghan Markle to pitch in our something?

Ladies, don’t be so gullible. See the game that’s being played on you.

]]>http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/black-media-swoops-remind-us-meaghan-markle-marrying-slave-master/feed/24543638Proof Black Media is Responsible for Manipulating Us with #BlackLovehttp://www.beyondblackwhite.com/proof-black-media-responsible-manipulating-us-blacklove/
http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/proof-black-media-responsible-manipulating-us-blacklove/#commentsMon, 16 Oct 2017 02:59:17 +0000http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43410Since 2010, my critics–many of them in so-called “black media–have argued that a site like Beyond Black & White don’t need to exist. If black women want to interracially date and marry, they have the freedom to do it. Just swirl, and shut up and go away. Don’t promote it. It looks so desperate. But […]

]]>Since 2010, my critics–many of them in so-called “black media–have argued that a site like Beyond Black & White don’t need to exist. If black women want to interracially date and marry, they have the freedom to do it. Just swirl, and shut up and go away. Don’t promote it. It looks so desperate.

But it’s not considered “desperate” that black media outlets like BET openly shade ABC’s First Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsey, because she didn’t choose Eric Bigger, the guy this outlet can’t stop licking (the feature is like, ridiculously long and fawning). It’s another multi-page ego stroke for black men and a pretty overt message to black women that they should, in fact, always be checking for the brothers first. This, despite the absolute irrefutable FACT that black men date and marry interracially at TWICE the rate of black women, and upwards of 30% if they are educated.

Here’s the shade:

Lindsay stunned America by nailing the title of America’s first Black Bachelorette and then epicly failing at scoring the love of her life, first by breaking up with crowd favorite Peter Kraus (also a trainer… we’re sensing a pattern) and then by dumping Bigger and choosing a reality TV show veteran who promised her a proposal. She and her new beau are currently flaunting their love on the press circuit, hitting up everything from the morning shows to New York Fashion week. Believe me, we were just as shocked when Rach sent him packing on that three-hour marathon of a final episode and even more shocked when ABC finally revealed he wouldn’t be the one giving the roses away for season 22 of the blockbuster franchise. But then again… maybe we shouldn’t be.

Coming off the high of ABC crowning its first-ever Black Bachelorette, we were 100 percent rooting for #BlackLove all the way (hello, we’re Black Entertainment Television), so f*ck yeah, we ride with Issa Rae on that bias. The fact is healthy Black couples don’t get enough airtime on mainstream TV.

First off, Bryan is a chiropractor. He isn’t some reality show loser. And he didn’t promise a proposal, he actually followed through. And as far as “flaunting,” what…BET, are they supposed to go hide, like how you think all black women in interracial couplings should do?

This is why I hate you.

You know damn well black women are in a relationship and marriage crunch. You know damn well black men are dating Mei Ling, Harnisha, Maria, Jessica and (maybe) Keisha, and make absolutely NO APOLOGIES. You know damn well that black people have the lowest marriage rates and the highest divorce rates, and there’s a mismatch when it comes to eligible black men who are also degreed and comparably employed. You know this, because no doubt you were nodding in agreement when a host of comedians and self-proclaimed “relationship experts” told black women to lower their standards because degrees don’t keep them warm at night. Well here’s some news–black women want more than a hump of flesh stealing the covers. We want builders. We want protectors. We want providers. We don’t want to be beasts of burden who should just be happy with any old piece of a man in the name of #BlackLove.

Luckily, many black women in the comments section caught on to the shade against Rachel, so that gives me a sliver of hope.

“I guess Eric Bigger left out the part where he admitted that he hasn’t dated a Black woman in the past 5 years before coming on the show because he lives in LA! Which is fine, its his dating chioce….BUT! That’s pretty ironic and typical for the author of this bet article to try to tear down Rachel, a Black woman for her non Black love choice & not chosing Eric, a Black man who has ADMITTED not dating a woman LIKE Rachel (Black woman) in 5 years!!!!! This double standard is pretty disgusting BET…smh!”

This is what I’m talking about. All the passes are given to black men who make excuses why they pass up legions of available, beautiful and accomplished black women for other races, and it is NEVER questioned. Do these outlets think we’re that stupid? I guess so.

“Thanks Bet for the article, however, if Rachel Lindsey were not the lead on the show, no one would have gotten to see or know Eric. She allowed him to remain on the show to get the explosure he needed to build his brand. Let’s celebrate them both and not try to tear her down. No he wasn’t the one to get away from Rachel, she’s with the one she wanted.”

“The least you could have done was write an accurate article. Bryan didn’t just promise Rachel a proposal. He proposed. You could have sung Eric’s praises without attempting to denigrate Rachel. Rachel selected a fiance for herself, not Black America. Ms. Ortiz, I suggest you start living your life according to the whims of strangers. Practice what you preach.”

“BET you cheapened the interview with Eric by trying to bring down a Black woman. Shame on you. Your so called readers deserve better than this crap. But then we all know you’re not really for AfrIcan Americans since you’re owned by VIACOM. The least you could have done is ask Rachel AND Bryan for an interview this way it could have been an INFORMED interview instead of this article full of cheap hate and envy towards someone you obviously don’t know.”

Guess it’s too much at this point to ask the black media to stop guilting and manipulating black women so that black men can continue to exploit single, desperate black women who buy into their bullshit. Guess I shouldn’t expect much from a network that promoted the degradation of the black woman’s image for decades through (c)rap music. It’s clear who who you favor. We see you.

]]>http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/proof-black-media-responsible-manipulating-us-blacklove/feed/11643410Anti Swirlers, Please STOP Sending Me Fake News!http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/anti-swirlers-please-stop-sending-fake-news/
http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/anti-swirlers-please-stop-sending-fake-news/#commentsTue, 19 Sep 2017 22:43:16 +0000http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43276I recently got not one, but TWO emails from a hysterical woman… How sad is this???? Watch “BEAUTIFUL WOMAN HATES MOM BECAUSE SHE BLACK. SHE WISH SHE WAS WHITE” on YouTube I hadn’t looked at it right away, then circled back to look. At first I was outraged, but then I became suspicious. The entire […]

How sad is this???? Watch “BEAUTIFUL WOMAN HATES MOM BECAUSE SHE BLACK. SHE WISH SHE WAS WHITE” on YouTube

I hadn’t looked at it right away, then circled back to look.

At first I was outraged, but then I became suspicious. The entire scene looked like someone out of “Imitation of Life.” The things that she said, and how her flat accent “suddenly” changed to a country twang, along with using a lot of 1950’s Jim Crow talk and I immediately knew something was fishy.

Didn’t take long for me to discover I was right. All the answers to everything can be found in the comments section.

Looked up the link, and…yeah.

Take note of her television credits.

Funny I was just reading this morning about how the Russians used bots, fake news, and social sharing to propagate made up conspiracies and outright lies. The New York Times piece said we are a In this paranoid, polarized and ill-informed subset of American news consumers, and this is proof of it.

News like this is able to propagate because there are people who WANT the news to be true, so they don’t cross check. They just hit the share button and spam email folks like me in order to elicit some hysterical response. Because surely…my work with Swirling will create more monsters who hate their dark-skinned-domestic-worker-country-fried mothers. Surely this is proof I should just pack up and leave.

I’m gonna need for folks to use the brains God gave them and begin to think critically about the news they consumer and help distribute. Stuff like this only serves to cause discord between the races, which was no doubt, the objective. Shame on “Justice with Judge Mablean.” I will never, ever watch that show for appealing to the darkest, base emotions of humanity.

]]>http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/anti-swirlers-please-stop-sending-fake-news/feed/4643276Turns Out ‘Hot Cop’ Micheal Hamill Hates Jews!http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/turns-hot-cop-micheal-hamill-hates-jews/
http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/turns-hot-cop-micheal-hamill-hates-jews/#commentsSat, 16 Sep 2017 15:47:24 +0000http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43260Last week we reported on a selfie of three good looking Gainesville, FL police officers who were out on the streets assisting with hurricane relief. Turns out officer Michael Hamill, 28, who looked especially sweet, is wearing a mask. After someone scrolled through his social media pages, an alarming discovery of anti-semitic comments popped up. […]

Last week we reported on a selfie of three good looking Gainesville, FL police officers who were out on the streets assisting with hurricane relief. Turns out officer Michael Hamill, 28, who looked especially sweet, is wearing a mask. After someone scrolled through his social media pages, an alarming discovery of anti-semitic comments popped up.

One of the screenshots from Hamill’s Facebook page, posted in 2011, read: “So I find it funny that people will talk about how our government needs to do something about our economy and in reality its YOU who needs to stop taking advantage of our system and get a life and do something with your life. Gotta love reality when it hits you in the face. Stupid people annoy me. put them in an oven and deal with them the hitler way. haha”

Another screenshot of a 2013 post reads: “Who knew that reading jewish jokes before I go to bed would not only make me feel better about myself but also help me sleep better as well. here is one for everybody ‘what’s the difference between boy scouts and jews?’ anybody know? well it is because ‘Boy scouts come back from their camps.’”

Hamill joined the force in 2016, three years after he made the alleged comments.

Three years before he was hired, huh? People don’t realize that your social media rants, racism, and risky lifestyles will come back to bite you. The internet has a short attention span, but a long memory. The department is shocked…SHOCKED!! that the cop’s remarks weren’t discovered through a traditional background check.

]]>http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/turns-hot-cop-micheal-hamill-hates-jews/feed/2943260Confederates Vs. Patriots: Why I Think Our Founder Statues Should Stay.http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/confederates-vs-patriots-think-founder-statues-stay/
http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/confederates-vs-patriots-think-founder-statues-stay/#commentsMon, 21 Aug 2017 06:01:03 +0000http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43125Le (big old) sigh. I can’t believe I’ve been driven to write this, but I think it needs to be said. First, I’m all for the recent initiatives for the removal of Confederate generals on state and public property. But the suggestion by some black activists to remove statues of George Washington and Thomas Jefferson […]

]]>Le (big old) sigh. I can’t believe I’ve been driven to write this, but I think it needs to be said. First, I’m all for the recent initiatives for the removal of Confederate generals on state and public property. But the suggestion by some black activists to remove statues of George Washington and Thomas Jefferson are not only arrogant and ill-thought, they might even be dangerous. This is why the left keeps losing–they go too far.

Let’s face it. Countries evolve. No country on earth has escaped both benevolent and sociopathic leaders. There are no leaders anywhere who have not spilled blood. But perhaps from all those leaders, there were legacies of greatness that lead to the country’s longterm success, and thus allows for the people to commemorate such heroes. So they get statues, okay?

Confederate generals lead an army that sought to dismember the United States so they could continue a practice that brutalized and dehumanized millions. Confederates are losers. And if they’d won, black people like me could have still been in chains. And forget about the coming together of races for friendship, marriages and working relationships. The lack of progression into technology (e.g. the cotton gin) might have stalled the meteoric rise of the country to the superpower it became. Historians argue that the Civil War was both about the question of slavery and the economic and technological future of America.

What’s the point of having a statue of losers who sought to tear apart the very fabric the nation? Are there any statues of Saddam Hussien being erected since he was killed? Did Mussolini (aka El Dolce) get a school named after him? Does Pol Pot have a monument somewhere? Then why are we paying homage to leaders who lost and would have run our country into the ground? Losers, psychopaths, and traitors shouldn’t get statues.

To me, this is only common sense. But then the left takes it too far, and are suggesting that all statues of past leaders who were once slave owners come down. Let’s put this into historical context, shall we? Slavery was commonplace with wealthy landowners who needed to work people into the ground for free. Yes it was disgusting, and many wealthy men like Thomas Jefferson wanted slavery abolished even though he directly benefitted from it. Both Washington and Jefferson sexually exploited their slaves, and their progeny has proliferated (thus all the Washingtons and Jefferson last names black folks have). But both of these men, despite their flaws, worked incrementally to create a more perfect union. Abraham Lincoln freed the slaves, but he thought blacks were unequal to whites and frankly didn’t care for them very much. Should the Lincoln Memorial get a wrecking ball? Again…the men were not perfect, but the worked incrementally to achieve to a more perfect union. Confederate generals literally tried to do the opposite.

The demand by loud-mouthed television shit-starters to remove all our nation’s flawed men who moved us a little be closer to perfection is not only dangerous, but polarizing in a way that non-blacks who might agree with Confederate statues being removed into siding with the Alt Right, all because because black leftists just want to get rid of everything that tells the story of the United States in a way they don’t like. You alienate your allies because you push too far, and you’ll be left cleaning up a lot more than salty tears because you keep losing elections. You might be cleaning up blood in the streets.

STFU. All of you.

Be sensible, lefties. Taking down statues of Rebels who literally wanted to form a different country makes logical sense. Taking every statue down of the dead white men you don’t like will leave you with a very weak well to draw from.

Seriously. Pick which hills you’re willing to die on, the STFU about everything else. We don’t become perfect by re-litigating the economic decisions of dead men. Now it’s up to us to carry the torch and evolve to a more perfect state.

]]>http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/confederates-vs-patriots-think-founder-statues-stay/feed/9043125Charlottesville Riots: Is This Where We Really Want to Be?!http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/charlottesville-riots-really-want/
http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/charlottesville-riots-really-want/#commentsSun, 13 Aug 2017 04:07:44 +0000http://www.beyondblackwhite.com/?p=43079By now the world has witnessed the violence that has occurred in Charlottesville, Virginia, where white nationalists clashed with protestors during a “Unite the Right” march. It was heartening to see that protestors of the intolerance were made of all colors and backgrounds–this certainly isn’t the 1950’s. But with one woman killed and two police […]

]]>By now the world has witnessed the violence that has occurred in Charlottesville, Virginia, where white nationalists clashed with protestors during a “Unite the Right” march. It was heartening to see that protestors of the intolerance were made of all colors and backgrounds–this certainly isn’t the 1950’s. But with one woman killed and two police officers dead from a helicopter crash, and our “dear leader” trying to spread the culpability around instead of taking some fucking responsibility for the rats his rhetoric has emboldened to crawl out of their corners, I have to ask…was nixing Obamacare worth all this?

I have a dear friend who is married to a black woman that I know voted for Donald Trump. He didn’t really like the guy, but his distaste for Hillary Clinton was much worse. He like his proposed policies about immigration and overturning Obamacare, and basically held his nose about all the other racist dog whistling, sexism, and dumb-assedness. After it was clear what a train wreck this man was, I asked him again about his decision after three months of bumbling idiocy. He told me that the things he’s done really doesn’t affect his everyday life, so he doesn’t really care.

I wonder now, with hate groups proudly asserting that they are there because Trump has emboldened them, and our president, in turn, yet to explicitly call these hate mongers out, what he thinks now.

I also wonder how hispanic people who voted for Trump feel about seeing their friends, family, mothers, husbands and wives being deported. I wonder how gay and trans people now feel that he’s banned them from the military. I wonder how Muslims who voted Trump now feel about his position on refugees and the “Muslim ban” that tried (but failed) to restrict even LEGAL residents.

All the people who thought “it wouldn’t be them” are now getting a wake up call. And even the people who are interracially paired must also be held to account for ignoring all the racist dog-whistling that CAN affect the people you love. Your wives. Your children. Your in-laws and extended family.

When will you care?

And as I close, I want to leave you with this poem that a fan posted on my Facebook page that I think is quite appropriate.

First they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist
Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist
Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist
Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew
Then they came for me
And there was no one left
To speak out for me
—Martin Niemöller