A letter to myself as I try to become healthier

Posted on February 4, 2018

Dear Lucy

I’m writing this letter to you because you have recently embarked on a challenge to become healthier. This is a noble challenge. And something that is very much needed (as I sit here typing you are nursing your fourth cold/ illness in so many weeks).

I’m also writing this letter because I know what you’re like as a person. You’re an all or nothing person and a perfectionist. You give your all to something but then at the first sign of things getting difficult, you walk away. If you think you are going to fail or can’t do a job perfectly then what is the point of even trying in the first place.

Well, Lucy, there are two very important reasons why you need to start leading a healthier lifestyle.

Reasons to try to become healthier

For your family

Lucy, you have a gorgeous family and they need you to be healthy and happy. When your physical health is poor (and you’re plagued with minor ailments) then your mental health is affected. So if you start making your physical health a priority, it will have a positive effect on your mental health.

Your family also need you to be around. And you can’t continue eating the amount of saturated fat and sugar that you do and not expect there to be consequences in the future. But you want to see your children grow up. And you want to grow old with Mr H.So you need to do everything that you can to make sure that happens.

As a result of eating sugary snacks, you have mood swings and are often low in energy. If you start thinking about the food you are fueling your body with this can change. You will be more patient with the children (and Mr H). And you will have more energy to keep up with the kids and take them to all the activities that they deserve to go to.

Lucy, you have a wonderful family. And they need to learn that you value and love yourself. They need to see that you value and love yourself so much that you are willing to make the changes necessary to put your health first.

For yourself

Lucy, you’re not immortal and you are getting older. You can’t continue to lead an unhealthy lifestyle and expect to remain healthy. That is just not going to happen.

You need to start putting your health first. You’ve got to make it a priority. And you need to start thinking about the food you are fueling your body with. Chocolate, cakes, biscuits and sweets may be good in the short term. They may pick you up when you’re feeling down. But in the long-term, they are bad stuff.

It is excellent that you have started to work with Lamorna and are three weeks into the Gold Transformation Programme from Lamorna Nutrition and Fitness. That is great! But there are going to be days when all you want to do is reach for a chocolate bar (or 10). You’ll want to give up because making healthier choices is hard. Nothing worth having in life is easy to come by.

So, Lucy, I’m here to remind you that you can do this. Lamorna is lovely and she understands you. If you’re having a wobble or if you feel like a failure then talk to her. Don’t give up! There is too much at stake. Remember…

“…you don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be better.”

As a perfectionist, I know that is a concept you find difficult to grasp. But you need to understand it.

I know that you often wish that you could be a different person. One who is prettier, thinner, has a flatter stomach, has more self-will and who gets shit done. I hate to say it but that is not going to happen. But you can become the most awesome version of yourself.

To do this you need to make some changes. It will be hard. You will feel like giving up. But it will be worth it. And I know you can do it.

This year you and Mr H will celebrate your tenth wedding anniversary. And nine days later you turn 40. These are big milestones. These approaching milestones have made you think about ten years ago and how you were then.

On the day you got married you were the happiest and healthiest you’d ever been. You had worked hard to look the best you possibly could on your wedding day. And you felt beautiful. And everyone who saw you saw a beautiful, healthy and happy woman who was marrying the man she loves.

I can’t promise that you will look like that again.Your body has been through a lot since then. Six pregnancies. Two babies. And you don’t want to forget what you’ve been through to create your wonderful family.

But if you try hard and do your best; if you don’t expect to be perfect and just aim to be better; if you ask for help when you need it; and if you don’t give up at the first sign of failure; if you do all these things then I am certain that as you celebrate your tenth wedding anniversary and fortieth birthday you will once again feel beautiful, healthy and happy.

I have every faith in you.

You can do this!

Hugs

Lucy

xxxx

Disclosure:

I’m working with Lamorna from Lamorna Nutrition and Fitness for 12 weeks. I’m getting this programme for free in return for regular features on my blog. However, as always all words and opinions are 100% my own. And I honestly love working with Lamorna and I already feel so much better just from being on the programme for a few weeks.

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About Me

Hello. I'm Lucy, a former fundraiser, wife and mum to two rainbow babies. I write honestly about recurrent miscarriage, mental health and finding happiness in the little things in life. I do this to show mums who are struggling that there is always hope and that a rainbow can appear after the darkest storm.