(Closed) Pregnancy after miscarriage: first doctors appointment and really nervous

My fiancée and I suffered a miscarriage about 5 months ago. It was very early on but we both took it pretty hard. Last month I found out I was pregnant again and I think this time we both were a lot more cautious and guarded about being so excited and have only told one person. Don’t get me wrong we are both thrilled but last time we told everyone we knew (bad idea I know). Well today is my first doctors appointment and I’m terrified. Apparently I wasn’t as guarded as I thought because im already on the verge of tears and I don’t even know anything. I think I’m just expecting the worst. I know it’s probably still to early for them to see anything so I’m hoping that something they do will at least be able to ease my mind but I’m not sure what kind of tests they run because I miscarried before my first appointment last time. Anyone who can relate? Are there any questions I should ask?

JessicaBrooke926: I cannot tell you what to expect, but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I just lost my pregnancy at 6 weeks and I was like you: telling lots of people, etc. Now I am just trying to focus on getting healthier before trying again. I’m interested to hear from other people, because I hope to be where you are in the not-too-distant future! How far along are you now? Best of luck!

I’m so sorry you are going through that. I know how hard it is and hope the best for you.

I don’t really even know to be honest. I was always on top of my cycles but after the mc I didn’t get my period and then I finally had one and then got pregnant so I don’t remember the date. I’m guessing about 6 weeks

I miscarried last year at 8 weeks. It was horrible. I’m now 17 weeks pregnant and things are going just fine. You can ask them to do HCG testing to see if your levels are rising appropriately, I also had progesterone tested because I have a history of pre-AF spotting and it ended up being low and I was put on supplements. Some offices won’t do much extra testing even after a miscarriage because they are common and it doesn’t necessarily mean there is an issue. There is a great thread on here, Journey of Pregnancy after Miscarriage that might help you get through these first few weeks/months. It’s scary at first but hopefully everything will go well and this will be a healthy pregnancy. Good luck!!

I just had my first appointment for this pregnancy (after a miscarriage in January) and it went really well! I was absolutely terrified beforehand, though. It was at our first appointment last time that we got the news that baby’s growth was significantly behind, and I was so afraid that it would happen again. I was mostly okay when we walked in the office, but the longer I had to sit there staring at the ultrasound machine while waiting for the doctor, the more I freaked out. Eventually, Darling Husband and I passed the time by looking up dirty jokes on the internet and telling them to each other.

I started crying as soon as we heard the heartbeat. It was just such a relief.

There aren’t a whole lot of specific tests they will do in a pregnancy after a miscarriage. Having one miscarriage is sadly common, and it doesn’t mean your next pregnancy will be higher risk.

Also, keep in mind that six weeks is still very early, and it might be too early to see the heartbeat, so if you don’t see one today, that is not necessarily a bad sign. I’ve heard so many stories of women who didn’t see a HB at six week ultrasounds and went on to deliver healthy babies.

I’m about 12 weeks pregnant right now and had a miscarriage last March. I had similar feelings early on and to be honest I’m still nervous with this pregnancy. They did an early ultrasound (i think it was at about 6 weeks) which was reassuring, and at around 10 weeks we heard the heartbeat at my first OB appointment.

I hope for all the best for you! I know it’s hard to try to stay positive. The Pregnancy after Miscarriage thread on here really helped and still helps me. You are not alone!

JessicaBrooke926: tests and procedures depend on your doctor, but my best guess is that they’ll do a transvaginal ultrasound to determine how far along you are and a pap smear (which might cause spotting, so don’t freak out if that happens). They’ll give you progesterone, just in case.

Please try not to worry, most of us who have miscarried have gone on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies resulting in perfectly healthy babies.

Completely understand how you’re feeling. The same day I goy my super duper faint BFP I called my drs office and asked them to send a script to the lab so I could get my beta hcg levels checked. Results confirmed the pregnancy but the number was low, not low as is behind but low as in I must’ve caught the pregnancy at the earliest day possible. They had me go back two days later to get another round of blood work done. Those two days felt like an eternity. When I got the call from my drs office saying that my numbers more than doubled Darling Husband and I were so incredibly happy. We knew that didn’t mean anything for sure but already this pregnancy was starting off on a way more positive note than the previous which ended in mc. My first dr appt was at 6w1d and we were able to see the teeny tiny peanut, see the flickering heart and hear the heart beat. Many said we most likely wouldn’t be able to hear the HB so I wasn’t expecting it at all but to hear it was amazing. We didn’t tell share the news with family until 10w (after I had two normal ultrasounds). We wanted to wait until after the first tri but I had such bad morning sickness that lasted all day it was getting really hard to hide. I’m currently 32w and can’t wait for this little girl to get here. The worry never really goes away. There will be a point in your pregnancy where you will allow yourself to breathe a little more and get excited, it just takes time. One thing I can say for sure which I’m sure others can relate to is that after a mc it makes you appreciate your pregnancy that much more. You cherish every single day, every single kick, every single hiccup … it’s a one of a kind journey and I wish you nothing but the best! Keep us posted.

JessicaBrooke926: I’m so sorry for your previous loss. Your feelings are completely normal. While I haven’t experienced a loss of my own, my sister has experienced two MCs (one after her first baby and one after her second baby). I know her second pregnancy was a much different experience then her first because of the fear of MC. She does wish she had found a way to relax and enjoy her second pregnancy more, though. I know it’s easy to just say try not to worry, many people go on and have healthy pregnancies following a MC. But, maybe when negative thoughts pop into your head, you can try to catch them, stop them and say something positive instead. You deserve to have a positive pregnancy experience and you can have that despite having a previous loss! Wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy nine months.

So the doctors appointment went….ok well it went no where lol. Let me start off by saying I had to go to a clinic because I dont get insurance until next month and my normal doctor basically makes you pay for the entire pregnancy up front. So I get there an to be expected there was a lot of waiting and by this point I’m almost shaking. Everyone was incredibly nice except the doctor. I understand she sees a lot of people but so do the nurses and they were a lot nicer. She had no problem basically insinuating that they weren’t that bright and then started talking to me in the same tone because I didn’t know the date of my last period. Whatever she seemed to know what she was talking about so I can deal with a little snarkyness for the 5 min I saw her. She did a pap smear….and that was it. She gave me a script for an ultrasound because there’s is broken. So now I have to make an appointment at the hospital and then a follow up at the clinic. I have to say that although this rubning around might be a little bit if an inconvenience it’s actually taken my mind off of worrying haha