Hey new guy, I too am new at this and have had some difficulties with the use of this device. I am confident we can both overcome these difficulties and reach the euphoric state of the Super O. To derive some pleasure from the device, I like walking around the house with it in place. I put clothes on and go get the mail and everything. This is rather interesting and if your relax, there can be some pleasure derived from it. I have had the most success with the contractions after I do these little trots around the house. See if it doesn't help you out a little. It gets the pre-cum flowing a little which in and of itself is very erotic for me and I would imagine others as well.