If you're like most women, you sometimes wish for a guide map to finding love. Why? Because women often find men are incomprehensible, particularly when it comes to what they want in relationships. Read on for tips to make him fall in love with you…

We are often told that chivalry is dead. We’re also told that some men prefer independent, self-confident women, while others still prefer an earlier model of women as nurturers whose primary jobs are supporting men taking care of the children.

You know which type of man you want, but how should you set about finding a partner who’s just right for you?

At one time, it was expected that couples were simply dating or not dating. Relationships followed a linear path from one date to many dates to “dating.”

Dating implied exclusivity and monogamy. Now it’s common to toss around terms like “hooking up” and “friends with benefits” and earnestly discuss the benefits of polygamy.

In this confusing environment, it’s easy to wonder how anyone manages to create a successful relationship.

What you need is a road map to romance.

Follow these tried and true guidelines to give you the best chance for turning a new relationship into the one you want.

1. Maintain your independence
Early in a relationship, your hormones and biochemical responses are on overdrive. Everything feels effortless and exciting, according to the University of Texas at Austin Counseling and Mental Health Center. To build a solid foundation for the long run, it’s important to be honest up front about your needs to spend time apart hanging out with your friends and family.

Avoid the urge in the beginning to withdraw from other areas of your life in order to focus on him. Although it’s important to spend time with a new love interest, it’s equally important to tend to your own work and outside relationships.

2. Build a foundation
A relationship foundation starts with appreciation and respect. Focus on the positive, not negative, things your partner does that make you feel happy and secure. If he checks in to see how an important meeting or presentation went, thank him. And do the same for him.
Pay attention to each other, especially at the beginning. Silence your cell phone when you’re together and avoid distractions. Be punctual when you’re meeting him and return calls in a timely manner.

3. Explore interests
Find out what interests you have in common so you can explore them together at first. Then expore his interests to expand your mutual horizons; and he can experiment with the activities you love.

4. Take care of yourself
As a relationship progresses, it's normal for nights out on the town to give way to nights in front of the television with a pizza or Chinese takeout.

However, during the early phase of a relationship, it's important not to treat a night in with your man as you would a night in with the girls.

Save the sweatpants and T-shirt look for later. Be sure that you are showered, made up and dressed for your nights in just as you are for your nights out.

5. Take your time with physical intimacy
Remember the “bases” in middle school? There is a reason those bases were carefully defined.

Letting the physical side of your relationship develop gradually over time accomplishes a number of goals.

It allows you to focus on getting to know each other in nonsexual ways.

It allows you to build trust before intimacy.

It also allows the two of you to get to know each other’s bodies slowly.

6. Discuss your individual futures
A discussion about your futures shouldn't be a relationship discussion.
Rather, take the time to learn what each of you truly wants as an individual.

Too often, we begin relationships that are doomed to fail simply because each partner wants something very different out of life.

This can lead to resentment and bitterness as compromises are forced.

If you both know what each partner wants from the beginning, you have a much better chance of developing a relationship that truly works with both partners’ life goals.

Knowing your partner as a whole complicated individual will allow you to deal with his downside from a place of understanding. This will shine through the entire relationship.

7. Suggest creative and action-oriented dates
While you don’t want to move from girlfriend material to activity partner, many men are used to being active and have trouble spending hours just sitting and talking.Create bonding opportunities by teaching him to dance or having him teach you rock climbing.

Whatever the specific activities are, those shared moments will draw the two of you closer together.

8. Be yourself
This is the most important love tactic of all. You will not be able to hold up an illusion forever, so eventually you will have to come clean.

Down the road, if you have made him fall in love with an illusion, he will be understandably angry and disappointed.

Let him know who you are from the beginning and never apologize for being yourself. He will respect you much more for being honest.

Obviously, there is no guarantee that these love tactics will work in every situation.Sometimes a guy simply is not interested in you. In those cases, you should be able to gracefully withdraw and move on.

If the initial interest is there, however, then following the above listed love tactics will help you take the relationship to the next level.

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