Buckytom You have one smart Dad!!!I thank him for sticking to his guns and letting the great person you are appear with some tough life lessons- I was going to say mature but,"mature" didn't quite fit! Seriously congrats on learning all the right lessons and now sharing them with our Texasgirl!! With lots of love and energy, Vicki

Well, seems I was wrong on the stealing part. Son just called and told me that roommate and another friend, stole the girlfriend's dad's truck and now is missing. Sheriffs from 2 counties are looking for them. I pray that they aren't hurt. I am so thankful and proud that my son did not go with them!! At least he made that decision right. Roommates dad is going to shut off their electric too, it's in his name. I told him that I can't help him anymore. We have done all that we can do. He said he'll figure it out. I told him that I was sorry and that one day he'll understand. He was crying when we hung up. My son never cries, so, I know that he understands that he has to do it on his own without me to bail him out this time. OMG, that hurt!!!!!!!!! Truthfully, right now, if I knew the phone number of where he, I think I would call him back so I could take him home. But, I don't.
I don't know if he makes enough to rent their place alone or not. Hopefully, if he doesn't, he has enough still saved to find somewhere else. He at least has the whole month, just has to figure out the electric.
I guess we'll see how he stands up.

Stay stong TG!!! You know in your heart what kind of a boy he really is. He will make it though this hard time and be a better person because of it. It will be hard on all of you, but you will all make it though this.

Thank you vicki and bucky!!
Vicki, I know that mine is not close to being as bad as your situation. I just know that it hurt's to let go and make him grow up. I pray that I can be as strong as you are!! Your one helluva lady!

Bucky, thank you for that! I know dh will stick to it, he's pretty hard when it comes to this. He was 16 when he got his first job, got his first car on his own and has been working everyday since. He has screwed up royally plenty of times, but, he's finally growing up at 42 :o) I'm the one that will have a hard time with sticking to it.

I just read through these posts and I am writing with tears rolling down my face. I wish I could give you a hug TG. i think raising children is one of the hardest jobs in the world, especially as they get older. I think all the tough love suggestions are right and you are doing the right thing now no matter how heart wrenching it feels now.
I know it was a long while ago that your mum died but have you considered seeing a grief counsellor? I saw one for a while after my mum died and it helped. i understand about the stigma of depression and your husband's attitude. My DH was a bit the same but after seeing how much different I became whilst on anti depressants for PND he realised that it really is a medical condition. My dad still doesn't understand, he says things like "but you're not that unhappy are you?"
I would try and see a doctor now cause sometimes you just need anti depressants for a short time to get through a depressing/stressfull time. Maybe try St John's Wart or a herbal remedy.

(((TG))) Sounds like the reality of life has finally hit home for your son (since he was crying on the phone with you). He is scared, but this will make him grow up fast and take charge of his life. I feel for you TG, it must be very difficult for you. I havent gotten to that stage yet, my daughter is only 15, but I'm sure my turn will come one day, so thank you for sharing your experiences with us. Be strong mom! :)

Please don't cry mrsmac. I just needed a strong front, that is why I came here. I have told all of you more about my life than some of my family know. LOL
I still have moments about my mom, but, I'm better. Some of the things that I go through, I just wish she were here. She was our brickwall and was always there to hold our hand through everything. It's very hard sometimes to know what I should do, but, I think of how she was with me and I try to do the same. Most of the time it works, sometimes it doesn't and I have to do what I feel is right. I'm just glad for the umpteenth time that I found you guys!!