Scared husband....advice??

Hi all. DH (28) and I (24) had planned on TTC next month after coming off my pill last month. I was telling him that soon we can go without protection and he went all weird on me. I know this is a big decision and I know that he is anxious and scared but isnt everybody? That's apart of the whole journey... I just want him to realize how his life will change for the better when we do eventually get pregnant. I know the day he holds our baby everything will change. How can I reassure him in the meantime.... Thanks xx

Hi all. DH (28) and I (24) had planned on TTC next month after coming off my pill last month. I was telling him that soon we can go without protection and he went all weird on me. I know this is a big decision and I know that he is anxious and scared but isnt everybody? That's apart of the whole journey... I just want him to realize how his life will change for the better when we do eventually get pregnant. I know the day he holds our baby everything will change. How can I reassure him in the meantime.... Thanks xx

Hi, think u need to find out why he reacted like that. Does he definitely want kids? It's never a good idea if 2 people are not wanting the same thing. It's really hard for u as it may not be what u want to here. Sit down with him an find out what his thoughts and fears are. U will be surprised when u ask how silly some of them can be. Good Luck

Hi, think u need to find out why he reacted like that. Does he definitely want kids? It's never a good idea if 2 people are not wanting the same thing. It's really hard for u as it may not be what u want to here. Sit down with him an find out what his thoughts and fears are. U will be surprised when u ask how silly some of them can be. Good Luck

Mine was too and we talked about it. He said he will be afraid to hold the baby in fear that he would hurt it and is afraid of the dogs tripping him or someing. i explained to him about how as soon as we get pregnant i want to set up the nursery and train the dogs at they should not be in there. I think his biggest fear (and it is such a guy thing) is that fear that we don't get pregnant right away. Anyways he got over it and decided that we should start trying earlier than we origionally thought. (It did help a bit when I said I was also afraid of holding the baby at first and mentioned parenting classes as a possibility) Hope you can get his nerves settled a bit. Good luckÂ

Mine was too and we talked about it. He said he will be afraid to hold the baby in fear that he would hurt it and is afraid of the dogs tripping him or someing. i explained to him about how as soon as we get pregnant i want to set up the nursery and train the dogs at they should not be in there. I think his biggest fear (and it is such a guy thing) is that fear that we don't get pregnant right away. Anyways he got over it and decided that we should start trying earlier than we origionally thought. (It did help a bit when I said I was also afraid of holding the baby at first and mentioned parenting classes as a possibility) Hope you can get his nerves settled a bit. Good luckÂ

Thanks guys. He assures me that he does want to have a baby but is just scared about the process. He has never held a baby before is just anxious about the "baby period" he thinks when they are a toddler and start to get a personality it will be better! Me, I think babies are beautiful. I know he will make a great dad. And I know that we can do this! I'm excited!

Thanks guys. He assures me that he does want to have a baby but is just scared about the process. He has never held a baby before is just anxious about the "baby period" he thinks when they are a toddler and start to get a personality it will be better! Me, I think babies are beautiful. I know he will make a great dad. And I know that we can do this! I'm excited!

My DH is scared of the baby stage as well. He likes them when they're at the toddler stage and become little people! I know he'll make a great dad tho so I just keep reassuring him :) I'm a bit scared of it all too, but know that when it happens everything will just fall into place and be second nature!

My DH is scared of the baby stage as well. He likes them when they're at the toddler stage and become little people! I know he'll make a great dad tho so I just keep reassuring him :) I'm a bit scared of it all too, but know that when it happens everything will just fall into place and be second nature!

Yeah girls don't stress the guys will make u proud! Im pretty sure my husband had never touched a baby before our son and he was the only one changing diapers for a few days .. I had to have c section and had to receive blood so I was down for a little longer than normal and was so worried but he stepped right up and took charge! I was so impressed!

Yeah girls don't stress the guys will make u proud! Im pretty sure my husband had never touched a baby before our son and he was the only one changing diapers for a few days .. I had to have c section and had to receive blood so I was down for a little longer than normal and was so worried but he stepped right up and took charge! I was so impressed!

My dh was exactly like that!!! So when I stopped the pill I didn't bombard him with ttc talk- instead I just enjoyed the 'process' with him and let him share in the excitement when I had a bfp. I think a lot of guys are like that... It's all new to them. They do much better once they can 'see' their baby on an ultrasound

My dh was exactly like that!!! So when I stopped the pill I didn't bombard him with ttc talk- instead I just enjoyed the 'process' with him and let him share in the excitement when I had a bfp. I think a lot of guys are like that... It's all new to them. They do much better once they can 'see' their baby on an ultrasound

My DH was the same way. I wanted to start TTC in may 2010. He wasn't ready and didnt even want to talk about it. Than September 2010 he bought me the WTE before you are expecting I considered it a sign and stopped birth control. Than he got weird. He is not a talker so communication wasn't really an option. So I bought condoms and told him he can continue to withdrawal he had never finished inside me ever. He used the condoms for about a month but that ended quickly because for years all we did was withdrawal and BC pills for protection. Than randomly in feburary 2011 he went inside me of the blue. When we were done I asked "does this mean we are TTC" he said "I guess so" we have been trying ever since. He is super on board at this point even asking me questions about babies and pregnancy ect. Sometimes men just need some time to process things. No nagging or drilling him when will you be ready? are you ready now? how about now? That just aggravated my DH. Talk here with these ladies to get things off your chest.

My DH was the same way. I wanted to start TTC in may 2010. He wasn't ready and didnt even want to talk about it. Than September 2010 he bought me the WTE before you are expecting I considered it a sign and stopped birth control. Than he got weird. He is not a talker so communication wasn't really an option. So I bought condoms and told him he can continue to withdrawal he had never finished inside me ever. He used the condoms for about a month but that ended quickly because for years all we did was withdrawal and BC pills for protection. Than randomly in feburary 2011 he went inside me of the blue. When we were done I asked "does this mean we are TTC" he said "I guess so" we have been trying ever since. He is super on board at this point even asking me questions about babies and pregnancy ect. Sometimes men just need some time to process things. No nagging or drilling him when will you be ready? are you ready now? how about now? That just aggravated my DH. Talk here with these ladies to get things off your chest.

Hey ladies! My DH and I had planned to start trying this fall, but his job has recently taken him out of town for 3months (we can still commute to see each other - he's about 2hrs away). Now he's been offered a promotion in his current job and also offered another excellent job opportunity but he'll be gone ALL the time for that one... I'm very happy for him with his career advances and increased wage, however I fear with all these changes in his life (& the prospect of being away) he's not going to be on board anymore with the whole make a family plan this fall!

Hey ladies! My DH and I had planned to start trying this fall, but his job has recently taken him out of town for 3months (we can still commute to see each other - he's about 2hrs away). Now he's been offered a promotion in his current job and also offered another excellent job opportunity but he'll be gone ALL the time for that one... I'm very happy for him with his career advances and increased wage, however I fear with all these changes in his life (& the prospect of being away) he's not going to be on board anymore with the whole make a family plan this fall!

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