PROOF

I have done this PROOF exercise with clients in the past and it is very effective in showing them that we can control our happiness. Here is how it works:

When you are in a bad mood, or not happy, or even just neutral, ascertain how happy you are in the now moment, from a 1 to 10. I have had clients say to me that they feel like they are at 5.

Great.

Then I ask them to envision a moment from their life where they were ABSOLUTELY happy, maybe the happiest moment of their life where they were physically laughing and having a great time. Maybe at a wedding, a birthday party. Out with friends on the town, It could be anything. Once they find this moment I ask them to go to that moment; BE in the scene. FEEL what you were feeling as you were actually there and then. Feel the laughter and the joy of the moment in your imagination, as our imagination is designed to make our mind believe that it is actually experiencing something, this is because we actually are. At this point I will often see the client smiling, very broadly, as they relive this memory experience. They are beaming and glowing with joy. And I ask, “are you there? Are you feeling the joy;” and they say “yes.” I ask them “how does it feel and they say “wonderful.” I ask “tell me, in general, what is going on. And they do.

I then ask them to open their eyes and tell me how happy they feel from a 1 to 10, and they will say 7 or higher. There is ALWAYS and increase in happiness.

I then discuss with them, that they went from a 5 to a 7, or higher, in a matter of 2 minutes. That’s an increase in 1 digit per minute. Imagine if we chose to be happy for a 30 minutes meditation like this twice a day. Imagine how that could change our life, our health?

I then ask, what was in control of this increase in happiness? And they come to the conclusion that it was just them changing their thoughts and their point of view, in the now moment. That THEY CAN control their happiness. 100% proof positive. And so they understand that happiness is not a THING that occurs OUTSIDE of us, that we have to seek. We don’t have to shop to be happy. We don’t need another person in our lives to make us happy; something that many people believe. “I can not be happy unless I have a partner who makes me happy. We can just choose to be happy.

We have the ability to do so by simply choosing it. BEing it. That is why we are called human BEings. All we can do is respond to what has ALREADY happened. By BEing a vibratory state or FEELING. We can only respond to what is HAPPENING. which is actually where the word happy comes from. Happy comes from the word happening because it is our natural state of being, in any given moment. We had just forgotten this.

And so now we see that any idea that we can NOT control our own happiness …is false. This falsehood came from people getting confused and believing that we were meant to control what is HAPPENING or HAPPENED. No, we were never meant to focus on controlling those. We can only control how we feel about what has already happened. And we can always choose to simply remain happy, and not leave this natural state of being.

In the words of Bashar:

“The human mind is not designed to make anything happen. It is only capable of perceiving what has already happenED. The higher self consieves, the physical brain receives, and the human mind perceives.”