Friday, April 26, 2013

I've learned that I would not make for a very good criminal. My last post bragged told about my efforts to outwit, outsmart, and outplay my Mom in regards to her medication. Let the record show that while I thought she had eaten my concoction, she had actually washed it down the kitchen drain. Dessert scheme TANKED.

The next morning dawned "awful", and unless you've been around someone who is battling dementia you can't even imagine has awful the "awful" was. She hit. She cursed. She made a scene at the doctor's office. It was a bit embarassing, and a lot humiliating as she spewed all types of false accusations my way for the world to hear. So, to everyone we crossed paths with yesterday, I am either a good daughter trying her best to help her Mom, OR I am a horrid, awful person who has stolen all of her money and left her penniless. (*sigh) This is what 24 hrs off her meds looks like.

She is now spending a few days in an Alz/Dementia hospital as they work to get her back onto her meds. It sure helps to keep a sense of humor as we deal with this.

That's so tough when you know that she isn't the same person she used to be. Bless you for having the grace to not wear a sign that says, "Please ignore my mom's rants. She really doesn't mean it." Hugs to you. Hope that she gets back to being better with the meds.

I am caring for my mom, too. She isn't at the violent stage yet, but she does tell people things about me that aren't true. That and the times she doesn't know who I am are painful. I still think I can care for her better than strangers, though. I will as long as I can. God bless you and know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

I can only imagine how awful your awful day was. I can just say again how fortunate she is to have the care you are giving. Hold on to your sense of humor...if is your best defense to all the awful you are dealing with.

So sorry you are going through all this...just love her.....See what she loves to eat and put the meds in it...if it's ice cream all the time, so be it. Some one else spoke of Alzheimers on their post today. I wrote what a friend told me once. He goes everyday to see his dad, even though dad does not remember him...because my friend said he remembers and that is enough. xoxo,Susie

You certainly have your hands full. I have an Aunt with dementia. Her daughter won't visit her anymore because the last time she did, my aunt choked her. She didn't know who my cousin was and attacked and choked her. I can't imagine...

Your love and loyalty to your Mom shines through. Maybe you can take these couple of days as a little gift and have some personal free time with your family and a little time just for you. Praying they get her back on track and you can come up with some more creative ways to convince her about those meds. Keep on keeping' on.

I hope she gets her medication back on track and you can have a few days of rest. You are a good daughter and it doesn't matter what others may hear or think, you know the truth and you know your Mom would never be this way if she didn't have dementia. Hang in there..your doing good. Hope the weekend is a good one for you.

Thinking of you...I know how hard this can be, she is lucky to have the support and understanding. I worked in a nursing home before ad saw so many sad cases where their family never came anymore.... Keeping you both n my prayers.

About Me

We're not the typical family.
I've recently become Caregiver/Guardian to my Mom as she deals with Dementia. I'm married, have three grown children and also an 18 yr. old daughter who lives at home and recently made us grandparents to her beautiful new baby girl. That means that we have four generations of women under the same roof. Mister and I have been married forever. . .It's not the life we dreamed about, nor the one we would have chosen, but most days we find a way to laugh and bumble our way through. We're enjoying the journey, even with the unexpected side trips along the way. FOLLOW ME, if you dare! LOL!