What is “rape culture” even? It’s a word those feminist hug boxers love to throw around, that’s for sure! I mean, do we really think the culture thinks rape isn’t bad? We prosecute rape as a crime. Sometimes. And we put rapists in jail. For a little while. So, why are people so up in arms about it?

Sure, the term “rape culture” can be confusing. But put simply, it’s the idea that our culture ignores rape or blames the victims of rape instead of the rapists responsible. Rape culture is what leads police and prosecutors to ask the victim questions about their sexual history, what they wore, and if they drank, as if these things matter in any other violent crime. This kind of thinking puts the onus of rape on the victim, instead of the rapist.

But hey, that’s a lot to handle. So instead, let’s imagine rape as a bear and rape culture as Jake Johnson from New Girl.

Related to rape culture is the matter of consent. It used to means “No means no.” Which is a great catchphrase, but again puts the blame on the victim, who in some cases may not be conscious to say no. Now, sex educators promote “Yes means yes,” which emphasizes affirming and enthusiasm. Confused? Okay. Let’s talk tea.

Unconscious people don’t want tea. It’s not complicated.

Kristy Puchko isn’t so much an angry feminist as much as an exhausted one.