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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!

I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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im 20/f and i've never been on a date, not even one. however there's this friend who i would like to go on a date with. we're not that close but he's really friendly when we see each other. I don't wanna go on a date because i like him. i just wanna go on a real date for once. is it okay for a girl to ask for a date, or should i just be implying it? and how should i do that? im also reaaaaaaallly reaaaaaaally bad at flirting! plz help! (link)

If he isn't currently dating someone, there is nothing wrong with you asking him out. Simply ask him if he would like to go to a movie with you, or whatever you would like to do.

There is one thing that I'm not sure about & maybe one of the younger advisers could help with. Who pays? I'm thinking you would probably both pay your own way. Though would it then really be a date? I wish I had an answer for you on this part.

As far as flirting goes, if you aren't good at it, don't do it. I think flirting just comes naturally to some people & for others it just doesn't. So you are better off just being yourself.

how do i ask him though? i think my prob is i never give guys any vibe more than friends and so, even if i ask him to go to a movie it wont feel like a date (if that makes sense). and i read that for the first date, the guy pays if he offers, but the girl has to at least show an effort to want to pay.