9 Things to Let Go of in 2019

And all of a sudden it’s 2019! Last year I wrote a similar post to this that seemed to resonate with many of you so now here are the 9 things I’m letting go of in 2019. (19 was just too many, let’s be honest!).

Rather than set myself up with some new years resolutions I have no chance of keeping, I’m instead focusing on simplifying my life by letting go of some stuff.

Some are emotional, some physical – but all are things I need to quit, leave behind, ditch from my life.

It’s decluttering for the soul!

Let me know if you are letting go of any of these 9 things from your life this year?

9 Things I’m Quitting in 2019

1. Negative Self-Talk

Over the last 12 months, I’ve become really REALLY good and talking badly to myself.

2. Focusing on the wrong health goals

Yes, I would like to lose 15-20kgs but the outcome I actually want is good health, a stronger body and to be a better physical role model for my kids.

The scale will help me track how I’m, well, tracking, with my weight but the focus needs to shift to Good Health and not simply the number on the scale.

I’ll be sharing more about this in the coming weeks so subscribe here to stay tuned.

3. Ditch the Scale – more often

And while we’re on the subject, this whole ‘weighing myself everyday’ thing really needs to stop.

The number on the scale has determined my mood for the day for years now.

A ‘bad number’ sets me up to feel like a fat, useless and hopeless failure for the day and it’s crazy. A 0.5kg overnight gain is not worth the amount of self-beating up that follows.

It’s going to be a tough habit to break but my goal is to try to weigh myself once weekly – or just a lot less frequently.

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4. Letting anxiety define me

My anxiety does not define me – or, at least, I do not want it to.

2018 brought anxiety into my life with a bang and whilst it helped to name the new thoughts and behaviours that I had started to adopt (pre-cancer), I have started to let the term name me too.

I am an anxious person. Except I am not an anxious person but a person who sometimes has anxiety.

I’m not ashamed of it – I talk about my struggles with anxiety frequently on this space and in my Instagram stories. Anxiety is something that I know many of you struggle with too – and it helps me so much to know that I’m not alone with this.

However, as much as I know it’s something I will always struggle with, I don’t want having the anxiety to become a part of the negative self-talk in my first point.

If I’m honest, I’m struggling to articulate this to myself, let alone to you. I’ll keep trying in future posts – let me know if this is making sense to you though?

5. Being too still

It’s another health-related one – but I need to move more.

Apart from the fact that moving more will help me achieve the better health I’m seeking, I also realise I spend too much time inside.

I want to be more conscious of stepping away from my desk, walking and breathing in the fresh air. Feeling the sun on my skin, smelling the roses.

6. Decluttering

I have re-read Marie Kondo’s “Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” for the third time and have even got the husband on board too. He’s a bit of a hoarder so it’s always been a challenge to get the whole family involved in getting rid of clutter.

I’m excited to remove the things we don’t need from our home to create more space for movement and energy.

6 Comments

Brooke

/ 8:26 pm

If you don’t have one already I recommend getting a Fitbit to help you move more. You can set it so it prompts you to move if you’ve done too little in a one hour period. I found it worked really well for me

This is a really cool way of approaching new resolutions/intentions in the new year. The things you want to let go of, and be free from. I think a big thing for me at the moment is (trying to) let go of (trying to) be so in control, particularly around stuff at home… when bub was born, hubby took a while to shift from a “my time is my own, I can go out with friends whenever suits me, spend as long as I want on my hobbies, etc” type headspace to a, “actually, I too am responsible for our small person and that means life has to change” headspace. Which I think is not unusual for fathers. I’m a naturally independent, driven person, so I just kind of got on with everything instead of asking for help. But then that became my default setting, sort of. So now that bub is 6 months old, and a lot more interactive, and my husband is starting to want be a lot more involved…I’m finding it hard to shift to being open to taking that help. Or, when I do, with not feeling guilty about it! I feel like I should be doing it all, even though academically, I know that’s not true, or helpful for any of us. Ugh, it really wasn’t until I became a mum myself that I truly *got* how easy it is for “mum guilt” to sneak in and set up camp, often tagging along with very reasonable wants & motivations.
I’m looking forward to hearing which books you find helpful/recommend, in the coming weeks/months!