How do you get over someone that you love?

I've recently gotten out of a relationship. I love this woman more than I ever thought it was possible to love someone. She was my entire world,
every part of it. I really believed we would spend the rest of our lives together, have kids, everything. She was all I ever wanted and then some. And
now its over.

I haven't eaten since Monday, haven't slept since then, and I'm a wreck. Physically and emotionally. I couldn't tell you which way is up or down.
She's the only thing I can think about, and no matter what I do I can't stop that. We genuinely had a soul to soul connection, and that is such a
rare thing to find. How is someone supposed to start getting over something like this? My instinct is to drink, but I realize that will probably only
make things worse. And the last thing I need to do is send her some crazy drunk messages.

I dont know. I've been in love before but it was never like this. I've never loved anyone as much as I love her, and now it feels like my world is
completely broken in half.

I feel like there is no future or hope for anything at this point. She was my light at the end of the tunnel, and now it's gone. How do you even
begin to start letting go of someone that means that much?

Those are the currently accepted stages of grief. You can't rush them, you can't really fight them you just have to get through them. A broken
relationship is very similar to a death and the way we react is also very similar.
Allow yourself to grieve and at a certain point, there is a flicker of light & hope and you come through it all before you know it. The pain gets
less, thoughts get easier and you can say his/her name without tears

Just focus on yourself... you gotta eat man.... relax and deep breaths... and realize that the sun will still come up tomorrow...

15 years, 2 kids.... she left me for another guy... I ended up in jail for DUI.... that was 20 years ago... she has broken up with all her
"boyfriends"... lives at her sisters house... I am happily married and 16 months away from 32 years of my union pension...

Those are the currently accepted stages of grief. You can't rush them, you can't really fight them you just have to get through them. A broken
relationship is very similar to a death and the way we react is also very similar.
Allow yourself to grieve and at a certain point, there is a flicker of light & hope and you come through it all before you know it. The pain gets
less, thoughts get easier and you can say his/her name without tears

Thanks. Seeing it all typed out like that helps me see where I'm at and what to expect. That makes it a little better.

And thanks to everyone else for your responses. Internet strangers are more kind than the people I know in real life.

Time. I have been fortunate enough that the first "love of my life" stayed around long enough for me to also hate her. So letting go was alot less
painful.

Honestly I kind of wish it had ended that way. It would have been a lot easier.

Well when you rather drink with the boys almost every night bitching about her, you sort of come to a realization. Also her yelling at me everytime I
saw her or arguing about nothing forever and ever was kind of tiring. Same as you, I eventually got with something much better. Of course we all say
that dont we? HEH.

I mean my first love didn't do so bad for herself, just found a man that could be lorded over is all. That is what she wanted really. She did however
do a number on my oldest son (only had him with her). He is a mess. And she has disowned him when he needs them. It's weird, but I mean that's the
kind of thing she was capable of. I mean it isn't as if the kid is Charles Manson. Just made a bunch of mistakes. Is trying to change (not hard enough
I admit)...but just to totally shut off like that - to your own blood. Hard thing for me to understand.

Those are the currently accepted stages of grief. You can't rush them, you can't really fight them you just have to get through them. A broken
relationship is very similar to a death and the way we react is also very similar.
Allow yourself to grieve and at a certain point, there is a flicker of light & hope and you come through it all before you know it. The pain gets
less, thoughts get easier and you can say his/her name without tears

Thanks. Seeing it all typed out like that helps me see where I'm at and what to expect. That makes it a little better.

And thanks to everyone else for your responses. Internet strangers are more kind than the people I know in real life.

There is a whole book on that. Some lady from the 1970's? Judith something or other I think. I read that book back in college and it really is
helpful. Helped me with my father passing away.

I have to agree.... Time. It sucks. It seems the pain will never go away. But you will wake up one day, and it will be easier. Take up a new
hobby, that will help your mind, even if only for 5 minutes at a time at first.

Oh, and if your going to drink, Take the battery out of your phone. At least shut it off and put it somewhere out of reach.

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