Sunday, 3 March 2013

Past relationships

Humans can be very fragile when it comes to wondering what could have
happened if their previous relationships worked out. As a matter of
fact, some people might take a risk of ruining a current relationship
with the ghost of an old one. While others might turn to keeping busy
while single by looking up the news of an old flame, which is not as
harmful at the first situation. Women are mostly obsessed with moving
on; that’s why the more single the woman is, the higher the tendency of
wondering about their past relationships. I have heard many of my
friends confess that they would be devastated if they found out that
their old love got married before them even though no feelings are
involved.

Actually, you might think there is nothing wrong about
looking up an old relationship thinking you can turn to be friends after
all, but is this really possible? Can love be friendship? It’s a
question that was never answered. To me, friendship can turn to love but
it can never work the other way around. Everyone has at least tried
being friends with old flames at least once but I can truly say I have
never seen it work. However, like I said before its okay if you are
single but it is a deal breaker if you are in a relationship. On the
other hand, why would you look for a past when you are enjoying your
future?
If you find yourself looking for an old flame, while
living a happy relationship, then it's most likely you are not that
happy after all. It indicates that the reality of your relationship or
marriage is in some way disillusioning or disappointing you. That’s why
you might turn to creating a fantasy that this old relationship is what
you need for a perfect life. The reason behind this is probably the fact
that this old flame existed when you were much younger and therefore
more innocent, when everything looked and felt perfect. You are thinking
you just want your ideal life back.

Other women might be looking
for closure and if you are one of them thinking that you just want to
contact an old love to say you were sorry or to ask why they left, you
might not be expecting feelings to come back. Sometimes this might work;
however, if you or this other person is currently in a relationship
then you might be risking finding that time after time feelings do come
back with temptations to destroy your current relationship.

When
you are really enjoying a current relationship, don't jeopardize it by
looking for an old flame that might have looked perfect at the past when
you had nothing to worry about. Instead work on your current
relationship and put in your mind that at the beginning of it, it felt
as perfect as your past ones.