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Monday, 16 January 2012

Men, Women and Chauvinism!

Before i begin to write my 'theory' on how chauvinism could have come into existence, if you find anything offensive, either ignore it, or stop reading it... thanks

Women, I feel are in a way responsible for the very trait they hate in men. Thus Chauvinism, accordingly, cant be blamed solely on men…!

It is intriguing to note that men are seen as the more important sex in humans… Although men are physically more powerful than women, Women ought to have been the more ‘important’ of sexes, thanks to her ability to produce a new life… Its true in any species that life wudn continue if it weren’t for the female… Infact, there is a particular species of lizard (I forgot in which island it lives….), which reproduces asexually… n thus, there is no male animal of that particular lizard that has ever been documented… Besides this, there are several instances of animals (snakes and such…) reproducing asexually… For those who don’t see what I am trying to imply, a species could probably thrive without a male member, but not without a female….

This, should have been the case with humans as well, and it probably was, when humans evolved… A study of early ‘religion’ would reveal that ‘woman’ was worshipped across all cultures, and without geographic boundaries… Almost all cultures had its share of the Mother Goddess, such as the Toci of the Aztecs, Ninsun of the Mesopotamians, Ashtart of the Sumarians, Ninhursag of the Sumerians, Gaia from Greece, Anu, the Irish goddess, amongst other cultures, and ofcourse, the Mother Goddess of the Indus Valley Civilisation, to the various forms of Shakti worshipped all across India even till date…..

The concept of Arthanaarishwara, the ‘Star of David’ with both the ‘Blade’ and ‘Chalice’ shown as equal and opposite, and even the Yin and Yang from China, all have emphasized in varying degrees of subtlety that men and women were and will always be an equal and opposite… the Dual nature of life, positive and negative! But how did religion change into a male bastion and how did women lose their importance, so evident from the pagan times…?

This, I feel is probably because of genetics. The female sex, in all animals (atleast in most of the species), does the mate selection. This has its perks. The female has to make sure, the mate she chooses would be stronger, n preferably, the alpha male, there-by ensuring that her offsprings get the best combination of genes.! Humans, aren’t any different. Infact, in animals such as the elephants and the hyena, the herd/clan is headed by a matriarch. (And, as some might note, in India, this happens with people in Kerala and as I have heard, in Nagaland too)

The stone age woman, however would have had a lot more reasons than any other animal of her times… Unlike most animals, human babies aren’t (atleast to my knowledge), able to fend for themselves for until a few years after birth. This has a great implication on the safety of the woman, as she probably has to go through the mating ritual again, in a few years to make sure humanoids atleast in her geographic locations maintain their volume! This necessity implies that she has all the more reasons for wanting a strong male who can provide for her, both in terms of food, and security.

I, therefore feel, it isn’t surprising that most powerful kings probably had a harem as large as their armies!

But once the idea of a society and family was created, life was a lot easier. This implied that there were a select few who took care of the security etc. This made sex more of an entertainment, than a necessity for procreation.

Also, like someone once said, men’s biggest weakness is their testosterone..! Women, did use that to their advantage (Thanks Uday for pointing that out!!!). This helped women, gain a considerable control over a lot of issues and men.. Although men were important in the society, there have been lots of instances where women have played a major role behind the scene as well as upfront! I cant help but mention Cleopatra in this context! Although am not trying portray her in any bad light (am not doing her character analysis), it is a known fact that she was able to manipulate Emperors!

Given the considerable improvement in physical security, women no longer had to be dependent on men the way they were in stone age times! This along with varying degrees of manipulation they have inflicted on men, must have indirectly led men to think of ways to subtly dominate women. There probably was no better way than to alienate her from God. This is in complete contrast to all pagan faiths. Given this idea, the entire story on Adam, Eve and the Forbidden Fruit is probably a well planned lie! And, should I take references from the ‘Da Vinci Code’, there could probably be a lot more events and incidents that I could quote emphasizing my point here! This added to the fact that she menstruates made her “impure”.

I am curious here., as to how blood makes someone impure.. If a man can probably go into a temple (I am not sure about other cultures in this regard, n hence cannot comment. However, inputs are welcome) when he’s wounded, or even bleeding, am sure menstruation should pose no danger to the sanctity of the temple! Afterall, it’s the same!

Anyways, all these reasons, coupled with the dependence during and after child-birth still helped man exert his dominance once again!

Maybe, the idea to dominate has been ingrained in man’ genes like the ‘need to seek out the best man’ in ingrained in the woman’s. Things, I feel would have started to go haywire when this delicate balance was affected, as women tried to take control and dominate. (Maybe not all, but sufficient enough for men to find ways to set the balance right again!)

I would probably sound very Chauvinistic myself when I say this, but still I feel women are responsible for this trait, for it is them, who seek out the DOMINANT MALE! Men need sex like they need food and water and sleep. Women, on the other hand are probably, and I say PROBABLY(so that none ve u women out there jump on me for a fight!) are wired in a different way. So, when men need sex, they need to woo the female, and she’d probably be interested if and only if he s the dominant one among the lot available for selection. Hence, I feel its only natural that the need to dominate has come so far as to try and strip women of all her rights and try keep her dependant! So, in a way, women are responsible for men being Chauvinistic.!

I would like to reiterate that this is only my opinion, and I don’t imply that I am correct. Feel free to give in your comments. And, as for my take on why Men need sex as much as they do, while women seem to be different, I shall come back with my next post….

"Although men were important in the society, there have been lots of instances where women have played a major role behind the scene as well as upfront! I cant help but mention Cleopatra in this context! Although am not trying portray her in any bad light (am not doing her character analysis), it is a known fact that she was able to manipulate Emperors!"

- Lol, you are basing a theory on female deception based on this?

"Given the considerable improvement in physical security, women no longer had to be dependent on men the way they were in stone age times! This along with varying degrees of manipulation they have inflicted on men, must have indirectly led men to think of ways to subtly dominate women."

- I feel so bad for men, seriously, any person who forces another person to subtly dominate them is truly horrid.

"I am curious here., as to how blood makes someone impure.. If a man can probably go into a temple when he’s wounded, or even bleeding, am sure menstruation should pose no danger to the sanctity of the temple! Afterall, it’s the same!"

- Sigh! Its not the same, a cut in the hand for a man is not the same as a menstrual cycle in a girl. A cut in a man's **** plus a few kicks in the same area myt come close to the experience.

The theory behind it is not alienation. Devotion wasnt just a visit to the temple those days, it meant hard work. Since women are subjected to some amount of pain, they are excused from the rites and work involved under a cloak of impurity.

"Anyways, all these reasons, coupled with the dependence during and after child-birth still helped man exert his dominance once again!"

- !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

"Maybe, the idea to dominate has been ingrained in man’ genes like the ‘need to seek out the best man’ in ingrained in the woman’s."

- so what youre saying is men will shag anything, whereas women have better taste??

"So, when men need sex, they need to woo the female, and she’d probably be interested if and only if he s the dominant one among the lot available for selection. Hence, I feel its only natural that the need to dominate has come so far as to try and strip women of all her rights and try keep her dependant!"

- dependability (is not equal to) dominance

" And, as for my take on why Men need sex as much as they do, while women seem to be different, I shall come back with my next post…."

um, i dont know who u are...! agame? and although my reply to the prev reply is still pending... i wud like to clarify that i dont imply women have the taste to choose, instead, i mean women have the need to choose!!!!

I do not want to get into everything you have tried to explain. Cos each and every example you had quoted can by itself have a long explanation and might not be relevant to the topic itself.Chauvinism to me is simple n don think has such a big evolution process... It is very much true that women were important and protected for their ability to reproduce long back. As the population increased, family n community system evolved, a common lifestyle was also evolving. There was segregation of job to avoid overburdening. This i guess was done also condisering the fact that men were physically more stronger and women might have security issues working outside home. Thus i guess the work for the normal living was split the way it is (Men will be the bread winner, and the women will be the home maker). Through time men started dominating as their job is paid n the woman’s is not... Their Physical strength and the woman’s dependency and helplessness helped them even more. This was the norm... Every child born was thought and brought up to live life this way when they grow up... Where guys have least or no restrictions and women are controlled or overlooked in everything they want to do. Anything that goes wrong when a guy does can be ignored... but if its the girl, it affects the whole family... All this has given a sense of superiority complex in the male gene itself.In the current world, when men see women as equals or even better than them, they are not able to take it. Trying to dominate comes spontaneously. Mentally or Physically. (Sometimes even a sense of insecurity makes them dominate women. It is the fear of loosing the girl in a relationship. But not many realize that this way of reacting could by itself end the relationship sometime....!)I find the main reason for this chauvinism to be women herself.... Every mom has put this in the guys mind with the way they have brought them up... Very much, the Society looks at men and women in their respective places a lot of times. Any change is wierd to a lot of people even today.But i guess things are changing... Two three generations down the line no guy can be dominating women as they are doing now... Men have started realizing already. Women need to make their male child realize this. All the best to all the MOMs reading this...! :D