18 year old won't finish high school or get a job!!!!!!!!!

Kathy - posted on 09/17/2014
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We have done everything possible, and he has signed on for a great opportunity at our hospital to help with his anxiety, depression, child abuse, credits, and he now says he wants to go on HIS timing. The schedule is too hard etc....ARGGGHHHH!!!

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Lori - posted on 09/18/2014

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you are no longer responsible for an 18 year old and some have to learn the hard way. there comes a time when adult children can no longer live with their adult parents. it may be time for someone to leave the nest.

Furthur to my last post, what I did with my daughter was cut down on what she was getting from me without her knowing, I didnt make it obvious because I didnt want her to get anymore stubborn than she was being .. so I cut out internet to a lower plan so we ran out of internet before the month was up, I cut off the foxtel, cut out the takaways, cut out the treats in the grocerys and brought everyone including her the 99c tooth brushes (which she had a huge issue about believe it or not) and blamed it all on financial problems, which wasnt actually a lie due to my husband being laid off at the time, it took some time but eventually the need for more grew in her and 3 months later she finally brushed herself off, decided to move to her Grandmothers and when she got the same rations there she finally got herself a job. I think for my daughter, everything came to easily for her and she never developed the drive to want for more until she was cutoff so to speak. Im not assuming this will work for you or that our situations are the same, I just thought I would share my story because I know how much of a struggle it watching your child show disinterest in living their life to the fullest!

If he doesn't want to work, he's not going to. So you can either support him--provide food, shelter, and clothing for him--or not. Up to you.

If you can find out WHY he doesn't want to work, you can probably work toward fixing that, and thus encourage him to work, but you can't fix symptoms, only problems, and refusing to work is a symptom, not a problem.

I feel you pain! I just went through something similar with my 18yr old daughter… it’s a nightmare, cant force them because they will just dig their toes in. My girl ended up in Emergency after collapsing for severe dehydration after refusing to eat or drink enough for long periods of time, she just didn’t want to work. I’ll be interested to see what others suggest for you.