Women Who Flirt While Their Boyfriends Are Away

I met a girl at a nightclub whom I'm sure was interested. This was due to her body language, and the fact that she told me almost everything about herself within 45 minutes of the initial conversation.

I invited her to my upcoming graduation party and she accepted. We danced and talked for about an hour and as I was about to leave, I suggested that we go out together sometime. She said no because her boyfriend, who was out of town at the time, probably wouldn't understand. The fact that she had a boyfriend all this time came as a complete shock.

If that wasn't enough, what followed really confused me: she asked me to meet her at the club the following Friday night. I said, "OK" and asked her for her phone number. She gave it to me without hesitation. This is the same girl who shortly before didn't want to go out with me at all.

When I called her a few days later to meet for coffee, she refused again because of her boyfriend. She then asked me again if I was still meeting her at the club the following Friday. I said yes.

The following Friday at the club, she told me she was happy because her boyfriend was coming back the next day. She must have been scared of me, because she didn't want to leave the club with me to go for a friendly drink. Her sister later told me this was because she was afraid of what might happen between us if we started going out!

last call

Before I left, she asked me again if I was coming back to the club the following Friday. I told her I had to leave town for a month, so I would probably be packing my suitcase. She said I should give her a call before I left town. I replied that it was her turn to call, but only if she wanted.

Is there a chance this girl wants to leave her boyfriend for me? Should I call her again? Should I continue seeing her at the club on Fridays and wait for any opportunities or should I just give up on her? My female friends have told me to forget her, but my male friends have told me to be persistent but patient until she let's me know she's ready.

If she isn't interested in me, why would she give me her number and bother talking to me every Friday, being very friendly? On the other hand, if she won't even go out for cup of coffee, how could we possibly progress to the next step? Help me resolve this confusion, Doc.

Sergio - who wants to know what's going on

doc love's answer

Hi Sergio, I can see this girl majored in yo-yo Contests at the University of Womanese, with a minor in giving men false hopes - you would be more likely to get Fidel Castro to tell the truth than have her fall for you! Your male buddies were way off track on this one, but your female friends read the situation correctly: they knew you had a Queen Stroker on your hands.

The Queen Stroker is a sister of the Professional Dater, and like her time-wasting sibling, she has 40%-49% Interest Level*. In other words, she may go out with you, but only when it suits her purposes and never out of love for you.

The Queen Stroker will call you from time to time: she may need some furniture moved or her car waxed, but making you happy won't be on her To-do list. This species is a user, and like all users, she has no integrity. For this reason, I predict that your girl will end up breaking the date for your graduation party.