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Another great article from my favorite magazine Conceive. This one discussed all of the hurtful, upsetting and sometimes stupid things that people say to you when they find out you are having a hard time conceiving. Although I realize it is usually because they don't know what else to say, it doesn't make it resonate any less. So let me share another fun list:

Things NOT to say to anyone experiencing fertility problems:

1. Just don't think about it, it will happen!2. Maybe you're trying too hard. 3. But I bet it's fun trying!4. Just start to adopt - then you'll get pregnant! That happened to my friend. 5. You're really lucky - you can do anything you want. We never get to get out anymore. 6. Don't worry, you're still young. 7. Why do you want kids anyway?8. Did you ever think about adopting?9. Pregnancy is easy for me. I'll be your surrogate.10. Anything new on the baby front?11. Are you keeping you legs up after sex?12. Are you getting drunk before sex?13. Is your husband wearing loose underwear?14. Are you taking your temperature?15. Are you using an ovulation predictor test?16. Are you doing it doggy style? That worked for us. (eww!)17. Are you doing it in public? That worked for us!18. You should have more sex.19. It's probably for the best. 20. Don't worry, you'll get pregnant soon. 21. You probably need a vacation.22. I get pregnant when I look at my husband. 23. Give it time.

Did someone actually tell you "Maybe it's for the best"??? How heartless! I can say I've been guilty of saying some of these things (the adoption one - we really do have friends this happened to) and the drunk one worked for us. Reading your blog really opens my eyes to how insensitive people can be without even thinking twice, and for that I truly am sorry. I really really hope this IVF is what it takes for you. (((hugs)))

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Over 8 years we have struggled through 3 IUI's, 6 rounds of IVF, several RE's, hundreds of appointments and the loss of three little angels. Now we find ourselves the proud parents of two perfect little girls and a wonderful little boy!!

Both of our girls struggle with some disabilities but that won't keep us down. Each day has it's own brand of insanity but we love it. Most days I am more monkey wrangler than mother but I do the best I can. Todays goal - getting to tomorrow.