Carolyn Hax, author of 'Tell Me About It -- Lying, Sulking, Getting Fat and 56 Other Things Not to Do While Looking for Love,' writes her advice column for The Washington Post. / Gannett

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Dear Carolyn: I'm a newlywed, and sometimes I get unnerved (by problems in other marriages). Is it stupid to ask how not to end up in a bad situation? I love my husband very much and I would really like him to tell me if something is wrong, rather than be miserable for years. I would like to think I could pick up on his unhappiness if it ever happened, but I wonder if that is possible. - Grass Is Greener

Dear Reader: That depends on how good he is at concealing feelings and how good you are at spotting them - and how good both of you are at not rationalizing away any ...