One day a monk paid a visit to Tinh Khong (1091-1170), a Vietnamese Zen master, who was of the tenth generation of Vo Ngon Thong lineage, and asked:
-From old days it was talked about "direct pointing", what does that mean?
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Joshu addressed an assembly of monks: "The Real Way is not difficult;,
but it dislikes the Relative. If there is but little speech, it is about the
Relative or it is about the Absolute. This old monk is not within the
Absolute. Do you value this or not?" A monk said to him, "If you
are not within the Absolute, how can you judge its value?" Joshu said,
"Neither do I know that." The monk argued, "Your Reverence, if
you do not yet know, how is it that you say you are not within the
Absolute?" Joshu said, "Your questioning is effective. Finish your
worship and leave."

had to look up the words relative and absolute in the dictionary... but would seem that "relative" is a family member... and"absolute" a philosphy..since it appears as though we are not discussing a family member.. though may be the case (?) the term "absolute" was looked at.. and saying something to the manner of everydayness... not of what would be considered of... ??? am I getting this right? anyway it would seem that after a time (or two) this mode of being would be..just average dayness..., right..then absolute and relative (you know it)... would become... mute other than the times of oh lets say... experiences found to be "unique"... "whew" where'd that all come from.

Quote: "had to look up the words relative and absolute in the dictionary... but would seem that "relative" is a family member... and"absolute" a philosphy..since it appears as though we are not discussing a family member.. though may be the case (?) the term "absolute" was looked at.. and saying something to the manner of everydayness... not of what would be considered of... ??? am I getting this right? anyway it would seem that after a time (or two) this mode of being would be..just average dayness..., right..then absolute and relative (you know it)... would become... mute other than the times of oh lets say... experiences found to be "unique"... "whew" where'd that all come from.".........

One commentary suggested Joshu's last comment was a rejection (of the question(er)).

A monk asked Kegon, "How does an enlightened one return to the ordinary
world?" Kegon replied, "A broken mirror never reflects again;
fallen flowers never go back to the old branches."

... of what does not return?

But I think you're basically right. Think Joshu expected:

Hyakujo wished to send a monk to open a new monastery. He told his
pupils that whoever answered a question most ably would be appointed.
Placing a water vase on the ground, he asked: “Who can say what this is
without calling its name?” The chief monk said: “No one can call it a
wooden shoe.” Isan, the cooking monk, tipped over the vase with his
shoe and went out. Hyakujo smiled and said: “The chief monk loses.” And
Isan became the master of the new monastery.