Mindset: "If I can make (us) have an orderly & pleasing lifestyle, I can keep up and escalate all this merging/intensity."
Internally conflicted, inconsistent behaviour
SX blocked by SP, brooding, troubled
Isolation vs. emerging
Strictly personal outlook, not concerned with social consensus
Searching for missing piece, soulmate, form a secret bond
When stressed, severe sexual tensions may manifest as erratic behaviour
Restless, torn between stable home and urge to wander/explore intensity
Want the intensity of partner/pursuing personal interests with the stability and comfort of a home sanctuary
Archetypes: The Alchemist, shaman, self-injurer, cutter, tattoo artist
Missing Social, fresh air/sunlight, when you take away air you get death
Shrouded/hooded quality, cave dweller
Oblivious to the collective good
Communications are intimate, personal, no aura of the collective
Friend-of-the-dark, non-judgemental with people’s underbellies/corruption
The elements as metaphor: Upward death, rebirth, metamorphosis, burned to death and born again from new elements
Losing self to die in the other in upward peak of flame and ecstasy
A lightning bolt captured in a bottle. The energy is always there but it's contained in a glass jar and only breaks free once in a while. The SX/SP is boxed in energy, self-contained, cutting, and focused. SX/SP types will often look angry even when they are not. There is a certain reality of emotion which they display that is due to their social obliviousness. Most SX's will be honest almost to a fault. SX/SP want to choose their friends wisely. A "with me or against me" attitude reminiscent of 6 and 8s. The least inhibited of all stackings. Cares less of what others think of them. The most likely to get into physical altercations, and may even enjoy fighting. Healthy SX/SP's will display a playful selfishness.
SX/SP have a inner confidence which is not usually found in other stackings. However they may lack social confidence or just may not pay any attention to social rituals at all. Put a SX/SP in a busy bar and they will be confident in themselves. But make them sit at their parent-in-laws for a formal family dinner and you won't see that same confidence. It's inner confidence rather than social confidence of the SX/SO. May be very popular without knowing or putting emphasis on it, unlike SO types.
SX/SP does create a kind of isolationary tendency though even in extroverted types, an in-their-own-world vibe, kinda oblivious sometimes. But ironically they can also be extremely insistent and aggressive on issues they feel strongly about, which they go on about in the SO realms in ways that will cause stronger SO's to cringe, it's so rough and undiplomatic. They can fall in love with their soapboxes. They can tune out of conversations, reacting suddenly when someone says something interesting, then snapping back to their inner focus whenever it gets boring. Also, making the odd crude joke, in bad taste. Or a faux pas, where they don't know it's the wrong thing to say until afterwards, or don't care.
SX manifests as strong drives towards pleasure, new experiences, personal transformations, spontaneity, being provocative and in the spotlight, flaunting to impress, extravagance, and unrealistic romantic fantasies and whims. But SP counters with worries, fears, practical downers, erecting walls, a need to hide and be secretive, and needs to conserve time, space, and energy.

i guess i haven't considered my sx/sp as directly linked to one aspect or another... if i was to break it down a bit, i would do so like this: 9w1 sx/sp 5w6 sp 4w5 sx...

Could you expand on this one: Friend-of-the-dark, non-judgemental with people’s underbellies/corruption?

08-27-2017, 04:02 AM

Neokortex

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Originally Posted by BlackCat

Well just because someone is ESFP doesn't mean they have lots of friends... but that said I find it pretty easy to make acquaintances. I suppose it is normal for people to zone out of convos if not interested, but as far as social skills go being able to maintain any situation would be ideal. That's more what I was getting at. I know people who can carry on convos about anything and everything, not something I want to dedicate the energy toward.

As far as being a lonewolf goes, it's pretty simple how ESFPs become a lonewolf. Once you find that the people around you are not the right people for you, assuming there are zero, I would rather do my own thing than maintain fake relationships like that. I have done the lone wolf mode a few times in my life.

Yea but who hasn't done it a few times at least, in their life?
People say that in an ideal world they'd have more sincere relationships. They'd rather do their own thing if they didn't. But does that mean they oppose these people willingly? Actually? After all, one needs connections to survive. I also know people who can't and wouldn't carry out convos about anything and everything bc they already have their group that limits them. Each social type is different, dedicate their energy towards where they fit in.