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Sometimes people will hate you for just being you. But still choose to embrace it.

Truth can be so hurtful sometimes. But that truth can also set you free. Any denial to it would severely punish you one day and if by chance, bleed you to death not by the judgment of others but yourself. Do I sound rude? Or being so mean? I guess not. I’m just telling the truth.

My eyes were opened to the ludicrous truth of how the world entertainingly caters its “residents” and “wanna be’s”. By that, I meant people who seek the worldly approval. Just like what most of them say, ‘if you want to be in it, fit in it’. If you’re a type of persons who crave for the acceptance of this world we live in, then you might take that as an invitation, perhaps a privilege. I’m not sure about you but I’m aware of the sweet promises of this world such as success, fame, wealth, liberty and power. Again, I’m not saying they’re not attainable. I only think, it has become a propaganda deliberately announced to catch frail hearts.

While some succeeded to the pursuit of these, some have lost their lives to delusion. It a flipping coin game. Expectation versus reality. Truth against nonentity.

But it’s not what we will be discussing. It’s about accepting the the truth of yourself. And living the real YOU.

When was the last time you pretended to be happy when actually you’re not? Have you ever forcefully done a thing out of your will because you were too afraid to get judged? If so, welcome to reality. Our misapprehension of life is that we think and often assume that the world only needs perfect people! We’ve forgotten that we live in a world which is no longer perfect! The point? Ditch that perfectionism!

We all have our own story, we are in different chapters, and living in total different pages. Psychologically, there are reasons why people don’t want to show any defect of their personality. It might be fear of rejection and judgment. So we tend to wear different social mask to cope up and not to get bruised by the social offenders. And the result of this inception is enormous.

Even when there are people who hate us for being our true selves. There are also people who do the exact opposite. One thing I know for sure, the longer we masked yourself, we might die within. Clarify things up. This is our life, we live it not the way the world wanted it to be but the way exactly we want it to live.
Face the mirror and look at yourself. It’s been a long time since you see yourself. Lately, you were too busy living up for the expectation of other people. You don’t need their approvals to accomplish something. Don’t rely your happiness to this world’s standard.BE YOURSELF. Be free!

I do a lot of stuff. Actually too much stuff but I am totally woking on that saying “No” thing. Hey, I’m getting there. Two days ago I finally earned my fourth stripe on my white belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. For those who don’t know, in BJJ, you are a white belt forever. It takes anywhere from a year to a year and a half to earn a blue belt. My next level is blue belt and I am stoked.

In BJJ, the blue belt is almost as big of a deal as black belt because most people never get that far.

My Jiu Jitsu brothers.

But I constantly hear people say things like, “Oh, I’d love to write a book. I just can’t find the time.” “Wow, I’d love to do Jiu Jitsu. If I could only find the time.”

We all went to the phases of our lives where we met random strangers at random days. Those moment we can recall how did we have them. While smoking outside the lodge, a man besides me smokes too. I took the interest to talk to him, long ago we became familiar with our faces seeing each other everyday. That’s simple intention to assert friendship in a very simple situation might even seem intimidating for most of us. Everybody knows how uncomfortable it is to talk to strangers or go along with them with even a little talk. But that man I talked to? We became friends and constantly talked about almost everything.

Every man was a stranger from the very beginning. Until God sent down a good company for him. It’s the story of friendship that first occurred in the human biblical history and even biologically. The latter is what everyone, I guess, can successfully testify. And the story went on until they have made a family.

We all make friends for sure. But it isn’t the story. The real deal- what kind of friendship should you be in to? And who you should be with.

As we grow older, we realize it’s more important to have a few but real friends than to have many but are unreal.

They said there are friends to keep and some to send away. Which is true. Not all we called friends are meant to stay. And, of course, there are also friends who are worth saving the beer. You probably know what I’m saying. I don’t want you to suffer the loss I had in dealing with real friendship. So I’m sharing the thoughts I have to bring your friendship in its realistic scope.

1. Define yourself so you can define them. Ask yourself on these things; the way you treat your family, how you spend money, your educational goals, your relation with your environment, your hobbies, greatest frustrations, your dreams, and etc. Why? Imagine you’re in a headstart to build your dream house. But you hired the wrong servicemen. Do you think your house will be built? Perhaps hiring the right persons to this job can properly carry out your plan. Friendship is a matter of belongingness to an individual or a group who can support you in every way possible. Who see things the way you see it. Help you clear the way to move on. And accept ideas that will do you good. Won’t drag you in to the pit of misery and beg you to dig a grave so you can bury yourself in.

2. Check out your “good old folks”. By that, I really mean literally good folks. Remember your 5th grade classmate who would snap you out every time you napped in your most terror Math teacher’s class so you won’t get sets of squad? Or the guy during your sophomore who had lend you some bucks cause you’re family is too broke they can’t give you money? And the person back in your college days who would sit right next to you because he don’t want you to feel alone and excluded from the group? Where are they? Personally, they are the type of people you should definitely check out. They had been your life saver for a while. They reached out for you during those times when they were the ones who dare befriended you. They, I think, have a pure and good intention to you.

3. Real subscribers. You were on a blackout binge from a night party. The next day, you found yourself sleeping halfway your doorsteps in the morning. I’m not saying you were stupid for doing that. The point is, somebody could have at least walk you inside your house in the first place. As the famous quote says, “that’s what friends are for”. No, not that letting you asleep outside your house! Somebody who really cares about you even you’re not like caring for yourself. Let’s face defeat to the truth of having phony friends who were like only there for a season. They are predators. Stick with you when they needed something. Generally speaking, they exist! They quickly walk out the door when the favor won’t come to them. Getting an answer from them to your call when you’re broke can be like lining up for a seat in the train station during rush hour, really disappointing. So pray for real subscribers. A person or a group who can get along well with you through thick and thin. Who can celebrate your achievements and weep for your lose. Who laughs with you and not at you. Appreciates you and doesn’t degrade you. These are the type of friends worth keeping.

While you are still young, your circle easily expands in number but as you grow old, you start to notice that it’s getting narrow. Own up to your freedom to choose. Build a strong bond that any tragedy that will alter can’t break it.

The need of a friend is a major necessity to experience love.

I have the idea that God maybe created this vast population of mankind so we can create friendships. That out of this millions of people, you can find that person who God sent to be your friend.