Do you have a female friend who you want to become more than a friend? While knowing your friend well might seem like an advantage--at least you're not talking up to a stranger and asking for a date–it can be difficult to make the transition to romantic relationship. But it's not impossible. You can ask a friend out without bruising your ego and without ruining your friendship.

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Steps

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Look for signals that she likes you. Learn to read her body language. Is her affection towards you brotherly or potentially romantic? Does she flirt only with you or does she flirt with everybody? Is she interested in another guy?

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Find out what her interests are. You have a better chance of scoring a date if you're inviting her to an activity or event that you already know she's interested in. This also shows her that you're interested in her as a person.

3

Make her a CD. Choose some of her favorite songs or include one that lets her know how you feel about her. It's an inexpensive and easy way to let her know that you care.

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Wait for the right moment. It should be when you two are alone and feel comfortable and relaxed. You can slip it into a conversation casually. Suggest playfully that you can be her date for the night and show her how a real man treats a woman.

You should ideally ask her out in person, but over the phone is also an acceptable option. Do NOT ask someone out over e-mail or Facebook.

If you ask her out on a date in person, take the time to look nice. You don't need to get decked out in a suit and tie, but you shouldn't ask her out in your gym clothes either. You have a better chance at getting a date if you look presentable.

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Tips

Ask her alone. She may feel uncomfortable and embarrassed if her friends are around. That may cause her just to say no, regardless of how she feels.

Be well groomed and clean. Smell pleasant, but not overly scented. That is a huge turn off for most girls.

Too many people get caught up in asking a girl out the "right" way. Just relax and do it.

Then again, don't take it too slow. If she says she likes you and you told her you like her, then ask her out! Don't wait too long because that can be a huge turn-off. It might make her think that you are not confident enough to talk to a girl.

Compliment her on her laugh, smile or looks. But do not do this if it is not true.

Even if she says no, the fact that you asked may get her thinking about the romantic possibilities between the two of you. Hold out hope for the future!

Study dates are less uncomfortable and a good excuse to get together, especially if she has been dropping hints about failing a subject or just having trouble in class.

Take it slow. You don't want to ask her out after knowing her for three days. Love at first sight doesn't always work both ways.

If you must call her and usually see her during the day, say something like, "I wanted to ask you earlier but I didn't see you all day." Make sure you actually didn't see her much that day.

Try cracking a couple lame jokes to sugar coat it and then add in simply you want to go out; if she says no, then accept it; yes, ask her what she wants to do; if she says she needs to think, don't nag her!

Warnings

Don't act like a completely different person because you're on a date. Remember that she agreed to go out with you for who you are, not the person you're pretending to be.

Be prepared for rejection. It happens to everyone. It will look very good on your behalf if you take it calmly without bursting into tears or getting mad. She likely already feels bad about turning you down.

Be honest with yourself if she has been sending signals that she's not interested.

Never lead her on. Tactfully tell her right away if you find you are no longer interested in her. If you do lead her on, girls are pretty good about guessing. It will not go smoothly if she does find out that you were leading her on (and odds are that she will).

Don’t brag about something you've done recently. That can make you sound immature.

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