Suddenly finding yourself attracted to a girl you have thought of only as a friend is pretty common. You might find yourself looking at her a little longer, hoping to see her more often, or becoming jealous of her relationships with other men. Falling for a longtime female friend can be a great thing, but finding out whether she returns your feelings can be much more stress-inducing.

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There are many signs given off by women when they like someone. However, when they know the person well, it often changes the game strategy a whole lot.

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The first way she will signal that she likes you is really universal; she will begin to behave differently than she usually does. The best example of this would be allowing you to participate in aspects of her life that she usually didn't ask you to or that she didn't even allow you to know about. These could be small things like going shopping for shoes or big things like making life choices. This first sign is easily misread as being a strengthening of the relationship as friends.

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The second sign that she is interested in you as more than a friend is that she starts to become slightly more flirtatious with you. Think of flirting as a method of testing the temperature of the pool water; if the water is cold, you wait, if it's warm, you get in slowly, and if it's hot you dive in head first. When a female friend starts flirting in an obvious way or just letting you flirt with her, it's a good sign she is interested in you. If this is the stage you find yourself at, it's best to relax and take your time, don't push so hard that you scare her away. You want to test the waters yourself and make sure that playful behaviour isn't just part of who she is. Often times, when a guy likes a girl, he will read her playfulness as flirting because he wants her to like him so badly. So just play nice and think about what you're doing.

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Third sign she likes you is a change in the physical contact that you share. Women aren't stupid. They know that men like human touch; this means that they can use this as a signal that they like you to some degree. Physical touch is a sign that is sometimes so subtle that it is missed. Physical touch maybe as simple as letting an arm or leg rest against you instead of moving it away or as blatant as a hug or delayed release of a handshake. This sign is one that you want to observe, but don't be speed racer and go off trying to hold her hand. Think of it like this, she is nervous about the fact that you're friends and a change as big as dating could have a big impact on the two of you, and so she wants to see how warm things are, not start something right then and there.

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Last sign that she likes you is a change in eye contact. We all, hopefully, make eye contact when we talk to a person; this contact allows them to know that we are paying attention and that we are confident enough in ourselves to look them in the eye. Eye contact, when used as a sign, is a unique form of communication all in itself. Women look at men to study them in a sense of the word, learn something about us, and strangely a lot can be learned from our bodies. The point of the matter is if you find that a female friend is looking you in the eyes a little longer, doesn't break the stare, or is glancing at you when you're not looking, take note of this, because it means she may certainly be into you.

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Finally, just do what you have to in order to make yourself feel like you made the right decision. Nothing will hurt you worse later in life than seeing a good female friend married to someone that is half the man you are when you never even told her how you felt.

Know the difference between what's really there and what you make there. When you like a person, you often will make a slight bump of hands a sure-fire sign she likes you. If you like someone, try to determine the difference between an accident and a subtle hint and make sure you only go by a large number of occurrences.

Women are sometimes confusing; I can't tell you how many women say to me, "I wonder if I'm giving off mixed signals. I tell him I would like to hang out and then he goes crazy." Keep it in the back of your mind that women do things that they don't see as leading on when it really feels like it to a guy.

Think every move you make out. Friendships are built on years of learning and attention. Don't let something like the desire to push things to the next level jeopardize a friendship.

Play games back. If a girl is playing with you, maybe pushing something back and forth across the table with you, play back. The best way to tell her you're not interested is to ignore her small gestures designed to get your attention focused on her.

Women are far more leery of starting relationships than you think. Many men think that women are needy and always want a man around, and as true as this may appear, sometimes they have a personal agenda that you don't fit into. Just be willing to accept the fact that you may not be the right person in her life.

Also, if she asks you to go see a romantic movie with her, she definitely wants you. This is her giving you clues that she likes you. Really pay attention to the movie, she could be hinting you that you and her are the main characters in the movie. :).

If you really want to feel better about this whole deal, watch the movie "A Lot Like Love". I know it's a chick flick of sorts, but I think you'll go to bed feeling more confident than ever that your decision to act on your feelings is worth it.

Warnings

Women can inflict a lot of emotional pain if things go south. When you start seriously thinking about a relationship with a female friend, just remember that a lot of dating relationships end with two really upset off people.

Keep it in your pants. A lot of men find a woman attractive and desire to get physical with her. Women in real life are not like porn stars in any way, shape, or form. Women want to be loved, not used. If you are looking for a way to be a douche, the best way is to try to get in a lady's pants right away. Respect her and you will find a gem that many men only dream of.

Think about the way things are. If you decide to try to take a friendship up to dating, you may never get what you have back. Just decide if it is worth it to you to possibly lose this person forever just because you wanted more.

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