Show Notes

Today we’ll be talking to Holly, a fellow adoptee who’ll be sharing her reunion ups and downs. We also discuss parenting as an adoptee as well as becoming an adoptive parent. We’ll wrap up with some recommended resources for you.

Show Notes

Topics We Discussed

Reunion with birth mother

Regression in reunion

Adoption as trauma

Triggers for adoptees

DNA test for paternity

Biological siblings

Secondary rejection from biological father

Developmental trauma and attachment disorders

International adoption from China

Parenting as an adoptee; adopting as an adoptee

Thematic Processing Therapy

Recommended Resources

Reunion: A Year in Letters Between a Birthmother and the Daughter She Couldn't Keep, by Katie Hern & Ellen McGarry Carlson

Connect With Us

Holly: Twitter"I have a network of adoptive parent friends that I’ve been in contact with online (and several in person) for the last 10 years or more. They are the people who were (and still are) interested in my experience as an adoptee, as it helped them understand what their child might be working through. They have never shut me down or tried to silence me. They listen and some have even asked me personally about things in order to help their adopted child/ren. There are some AP's there that truly are willing to listen to the adoptee’s voice. Perhaps not many - but they are there.” - Holly"

Adoptees On

The podcast where adoptees discuss the adoption experience. Adult adoptees share stories of search, reunion, and secondary rejection. Adoptees On also curates recommended resources to encourage and educate the adoption community about adoptee issues.