18 Marital Habits That Increase Your Chances Of Divorce

Marriage is wonderful when you are with a partner who is loving, caring, supportive, and makes you happy. But it takes two people to make a marriage work, and sometimes you might be unknowingly doing things that cause harm to your once happy union. There also may be some things you're not doing in your marriage that can increase your chances of divorce. As if there wasn't enough pressure post-wedding, right?

According to TIME, the factors that tell you if a marriage will last come down to your relationship, financial situation, and family history. Factors like whether you lived together beforehand and how much money you make as a couple can influence whether or not your marriage will last, and you have very little control over these outside factors. What you can control, however, are things like sharing chores and how you treat each other on a daily basis.

Caring about your marriage and its direction is important. Good communication about your wants, needs, and expectations is just one way to make things work. Read on learn about other factors that could be influencing your marriage in a negative way and what you might unintentionally be doing to increase your risk of divorce.

3You Don't Pay Down Your Debts

A University of Virginia study found that if you fight about money once a week, your marriage is 30 percent more likely to end in divorce. The same University of Virginia study also found that couples who don't pay off their debts or take on new ones have a dramatic increase in marital unhappiness. Additionally, if one person in a marriage is a big spender (and the other one isn't), a couple is 45 percent more likely to get divorced.

5You Don't Connect Lovingly Every Day

Connecting lovingly with your spouse every single day can prevent divorce, according to the website for The Today Show. Not spending at least 15 minutes a day together can lead to slowly growing apart, which is a top cause of divorce, according to the aforementioned Woman's Day article.

6You Don't Want To Quit Smoking

Being a smoker who is with a non-smoker can spell big trouble for your marriage. A study conducted by the Australian National University found that couples were 76 to 95 percent more likely to get divorced if one of them smoked and refused to quit. And unfortunately for women, the chance is higher if the wife is the smoker.

8You Don't Work On Your Communication Skills

According to the Cornell Marriage Advice Project, the largest in-depth study ever done of people in longtime marriages, most marital problems can be solved through open communication. If you are a bad communicator and aren't willing to improve your skills in order to talk with your partner, your marriage may be in trouble.

9You Don't Love In The Way They Want To Be Loved

You might think that red roses are the perfect gift, but to your spouse they might represent a waste of money and an allergy attack. If you don't agree on the ways in which you want to be loved and neither of you is responding to the way each other loved, that could be a problem, according to the aforementioned Today Show article. If you're not providing your partner with the kind of love they require and visa versa, you could have serious miscommunication issues and end up arguing over nothing. Instead, work on discovering your and your partner's love language so that you can give each other the kind of love each of you truly needs.

10You Don't Curb Your Alcohol Consumption

One of the factors that may lead to divorce is if one of you is a heavier drinker than the other or, even worse, if there are addiction issues in your marriage. A Norwegian study found that couples who drank very little had a better chance of staying together, while the divorce rate tripled when the wife was a heavier drinker than her husband.

13You Don't Spend Time Together — Or Apart

It's important to be able to spend time with your spouse, but you have to be able to spend time apart too, according to the previously mentioned article from The Today Show. Happy long-term marriages result because spouses regularly do things together that they find fun and exciting.

All that said, you don't have to love everything that your partner loves, and it's important to pursue hobbies outside of your marriage that interest only you. Allowing each other to have time apart will strengthen your marriage because neither of you will feel suffocated or limited to only what your spouse enjoys.

14You Don't Plan To Buy A Home Together

The economyhasn't recovered from the recession, which makes it difficult for some couples to make long-term future plans. If, however, you don't plan on buying a house, then that might be a sign that you aren't willing to commit to one another and build a future together, according to The Spruce.

15You Don't Admit When You Are Wrong

If you have a problem admitting that you are wrong when fighting with your spouse, that could mean disaster for your marriageResearcher John Gottman claims that the "kiss of death" for a marriage is contempt and seeing your partner as beneath you. You need to be able to admit to your mistakes and, most importantly, compromise.

16You Don't Make Happiness A Priority

Have you ever heard the phrase "happy wife, happy life"? It turns out that it might actually be true. A study conducted by Rutgers University found that the more satisfied the wife is in the marriage, the "happier the husband is with his life no matter how he feels about their nuptials." It seems that making happiness a priority in your marriage, especially your own happiness, might be the key to a lasting union.

17You Don't Say "I Love You" Every Day

According to the aforementioned article from The Today Show, saying "I love you" every day (even on days when you don't quite mean it and have to force the words) is an important part of warming both your and your spouse's hearts and keeping the two of you connected. Reinforcing your bond daily strengthens your relationship for the long-haul.

18You Don't Treat Marriage Like A Lifelong Commitment

According to the aforementioned Woman's Day article, divorce sometimes comes because you don't treat marriage like the lifelong commitment it should be. The gerontologist behind the Cornell Marriage Advice Project, Karl Pillemer, said that both spouses must have a "mindset [that marriage] is a profound commitment to be respected, even if things go sour over the short term." Otherwise, the voluntary partnership can end when the passion dies.