Last week we reported that Ali Fedotowsky andRoberto Martinez had officially split and called off their engagement. Well, Ali is speaking out about what went wrong in their relationship and why she decided to break things off for good!

“I wouldn’t be being truthful if I said this came out of nowhere,” Ali reveals. “We definitely had been having problems. But I had always believed that we could work it out.” Apparently the couple had a lot of conflicting ideas about life, as well as some pretty big personality differences.

Speaking to People, Ali reveals that the couple who met and became engaged on her season of The Bacherlorette were ready to wed “right away,” but started having problems almost immediately after moving in together! Shortly after announcing their relationship to the world, Ali and Roberto moved to San Diego, CA together where Roberto was starting his own insurance office. Unfortunately for Ali the move left her feeling isolated, she struggled to find a career and only managed to find part-time work as a news correspondent. So, being stalked by the paparazzi and being an ABC talking head isn’t a career? Good to know…

We were trying to establish ourselves individually,” Ali explains. “But a relationship should be solid regardless of circumstances.” Additionally, Roberto wanted Ali to be the stay-at-home wifey type instead of focusing on her own career. “Roberto seemed bothered that Ali was career-minded and had a social life,” an insider confides to the mag. “He is very old-fashioned when it comes to a woman’s places.”

Ali attempted to be who Roberto wanted her to be, but it left her feeling stifled. Aren’t these things you’re supposed to discuss, you know, before becoming engaged? “I helped him build his business, and I’d bring him lunch all of the time,” she shares. “I was so supportive of him.”

“A lot of times what I wanted to do and what he wanted to do didn’t match up,” she says, describing their opposite personalities. “One of us was always compromising with the other, or we both ended up not doing what we wanted and staying home.”

Unfortunately bringing Roberto lunch just wasn’t enough and the couple started fighting all the time. “In the past six months, he kind of lost it,” the insider adds. “He’d be really good and sweet in public, but their fights could be explosive.”

And Ali’s knee surgery was apparently the last straw in their already bumpy relationship! “It really affected us,” she reveals. “I couldn’t really be active like I wanted to be. I hit a low.”

After postponing their wedding twice to work out their issues, the problems actually increased and eventually the couple just decided to take a trial separation. Ali moved in with a friend and “at the end of the day we both realized we were unhappy more than we were happy.”

“And we both deserved more,” she adds. “I just knew that we needed to go separate ways. Something inside both of us said we still had more figuring out to do. We take marriage very seriously. It’s not something we were going to do and just hope it works out.”

Well, poor Roberto is apparently “devastated” that Ali called off their engagement! “He really thought this would last and that they’d get married,” a different source discloses.

While their chances of walking down the aisle are pretty much over, Ali is having difficulty returning the $50,000 Neil Lane engagement ring. In order to stretch custody of the pricey piece a little longer, Ali is still speaking to Roberto “daily.” Perhaps ABC is hoping they will work it out so another TV wedding can commence!

Ali has no hard feelings about appearing on the show and starting a relationship with Roberto! “I found real, true love, and I’m grateful that I had that experience,” she says tearfully. “There’s no hate. I still love him, and I always will. But what matters is how we feel, and we both knew it wasn’t right.”

Now that her time as half of a happy and surviving Bachelorette couple is over Ali has no idea what to do next! “I literally don’t even know where I want to live, never mind what I want to do.”

Hopefully she’ll figure it out! Roberto has yet to comment on the break-up, but according to his Twitter as of early November things seemed good between the couple.

THOUGHTS ON ALI’S INTERVIEW? ARE YOU SURPRISED THE COUPLE HAD SUCH DIFFICULTY MAKING THINGS WORK? DID YOU BELIEVE THEY WOULD GET MARRIED?