Gotta get somethin off my chest...

and I'm always hearing how one is suppose to write their feelings out,so I'll type mine. I'm a lil peeved tonight cause a neighbor lady who is 79 needed some help tonight with her grandkids.She's as straight and honest as they come. I have Bible Study with her on Monday nights and she has expressed how much she enjoys me taking the time.Shoot I don't mind I love to be able to do it.Well I got a phone call from another neighbor lady and she was wanting details cause she gave the elderly lady $15.00 for gas in the car. There is a very much needed Doctor's appointment to attend in the morning.So anyway I get this phone call,and I flat out told this woman,cause I teach her too; gossip is wrong. I said " Look I admit I know something is going on behind the scenes but I said I'm not telling you cause it is confidential" I just hate Gossip with a passion. I told her just because you see a picture does not mean YOU KNOW about the entire picture and you should not presume you do know,ya may find out your wrong. Thanks I had to say that so I can sleep tonight!:angry:

Many of the otherwise finest people in the world are the most horrible destroyers of families and homes through gossip.I do believe it is the widest door to hell,as it has to be to handle the volume of folks who will be using it.Anyone who passes on something that they were told in confidence or tells "white lies"is untrustworthy and a lier.I have never met anyone that I have known in my 62 years that that did either,that would not lie about anything that suits them.They will also lie about their lieing to themselves and everyone else.If you hear gossip,do you go ask the person that is being talked about?If you don;t you are helping the backbiting,lieing and dishonest people that make up tales to hurt people that they dislike and envy.Do gossips like you?If they do,that says everything about what kind of person you are.If you ever want to know what gossips are saying about you,just listen to what they are saying about others.Walk off and it is your turn.Thank you sweetheart.I respect your stand on gossip.We all have done it,That don;t make it right.I love you Brothers and Sisters.peewee

things these days get blowen out of porportion because of gossip. i asked my gradma once, "what is the secret to living a long life" her reply was,"minding your own biz" so i do when gossip starts it changes from person to person ect..... till someone's life is so uncomfortable some no longer whant to live it. thank you for your post. food for thought for all!

John, that is great advise. One way to stop folks from telling you their gossip is to take out a small pad or notebook and when they ask what it is for, tell them you just want to get it right so as not to tell others wrong and who said it and when.

John, that is great advise. One way to stop folks from telling you their gossip is to take out a small pad or notebook and when they ask what it is for, tell them you just want to get it right so as not to tell others wrong and who said it and when.

I know first hand about it. Trust me thats why I do not talk to my family. It's like the color is red and when it gets back to ya did ya hear about so n so sleeping with? There ya go.
Pat i am glad ya typed that off your worrys. We are hear as a family on the BOC, that you can talk to. I love this online family. Good Day.:big_smile:

I had to think about this post before I could respond. I find that I do, indeed, gossip. However, I do not relate anything that would harm another person.

For example...

I have a friend at work. We have known each other for 5-6 years. I've been with her through a lot of lifes trials and successes.
She had been married for only about a year to her present husband when they found he had stage four lung cancer. Talk about devastating news.
Now these folks are Christian. Prayers were abundant, even between us in daily chat. Thier positivity in God's will was unbounding. Six months after the diagnosis, with the help of prayer and medical treatment, he was found to have NO signs of cancer. I'm telling you this man was pronounced "terminal" and they could find NO signs of cancer!

Okay.. my "gossip" doesn't stop here. He has been cancer free now for almost a year. The chemotherapy, they were told, would make it impossible for them to conceive a child. Well, you guessed it. She is pregnant! They are just overjoyed. I do believe that she and her husband share a true miracle. And, when it seems like a good thing to do, I share it! By definition it is gossip.

I do not, however, enjoy the sharing of a nature that is harmful to others. That is what I believe Ephesians is speaking of.

I understand what Pat is saying. She is right. Gossip for the purpose of being "nosy" or hurting someone is just wrong.