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How should I discipline my daughter?

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Okay my daughter is being kicked out of her pre-school. Some of the things shes been doing at home and at school are kicking, screaming,
hitting, throwing toys, throwing plates/ bowls of food. She even put u huge hole in the drywall of her bedroom. I have tried everything everyone has suggested and nothing is working. And when I try to talk to her she just says shes going to keep being bad because she doesn't want me or her father to be in charge of her. What on earth do I do now?

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Could people please stop arguing over petty things? Someone is merely asking for help. Who cares what other people on here think!? No one on here knows anyone else, we simply offer advice if we've been in a similar situation or have an idea of what might work. Its for the Asker to determine whose advice she will take or not, so enough of the bologne please. No one who sees this page will even see the good advice that people had in the first place.

Mommasherman, are you OK? I see one person suggested she seek help from her church, etc and she gets immediately attacked. It seems you are pushing your antireligion as is the other attacker. Last I knew I live in a free country that was established by people seeking to have freedom of religion not people who had none. Do you know why the first colonists came to this country? Arent you ashamed? Believe me if you aren't now, you will be when your time comes. I have been involved in witchcraft and religion. I have seen the things you can only imagine and I know there is a God and a Satan. Satan preys on people like you and you commit a double sin by trying to bring others to him with you. The church organizations are free too and more likely to help you than social workers and other organizations who will report things they feel is "bad for the child" and she could lose her child if they find something rather than try to reeducate her like the religious organizations.

Okay "church lady".....the OP has already said what she was gonna do for her kid. So no one really needs to listen to any of your "preaching." And you stated that the woman who mentioned going to church "getting attacked"...did you even read all the posts???? I merely mentioned that "you don't HAVE TO go to a church to learn morals"...and then I WAS ATTACKED!! LOL!! Other super-religious folk started calling me "anti-church" and "free sex"!! I have stated before that i am NOT "anti-church" i've been to church and KNOW that there is a God and a Satan, but again, you don't have to go to church to KNOW that. And no one even SPEAKS for God or Satan, not even the Pope or a Minister. God and Satan will ALWAYS be the ONLY ones that speak for themselves, and the ONLY ONE i will EVER listen to is God Himself :)

Mommasherman, are you OK? I see one person suggested she seek help from her church, etc and she gets immediately attacked. It seems you are pushing your antireligion as is the other attacker. Last I knew I live in a free country that was established by people seeking to have freedom of religion not people who had none. Do you know why the first colonists came to this country? Arent you ashamed? Believe me if you aren't now, you will be when your time comes. I have been involved in witchcraft and religion. I have seen the things you can only imagine and I know there is a God and a Satan. Satan preys on people like you and you commit a double sin by trying to bring others to him with you. The church organizations are free too and more likely to help you than social workers and other organizations who will report things they feel is "bad for the child" and she could lose her child if they find something rather than try to reeducate her like the religious organizations.

I would contact YMCA Resources and they can put you in contact with one of their therapist who can observe your child at school and home and try to help you. I suggest this route because Co-pays can be expensive and the YMCA is usually free.

WOW! Someone asks a question and it gets turned into a religious discussion. WOW! Talk about pushing religion down someone's throat. How her daughter is acting has NOTHING to do with religion. She is at her wits end and has asked for help. It seems like she has been given good guidence here and is going to seek professional help. I hope it all works out. Please let us know.

Some of the answers on here are hilarious. Seriously, shes a child! Not an adult don't take a child to a psychologist!
I mean it sounds like shes trying to see how far you will let her go before you take control. Like shes trying to take control over you. Shes trying to show you whos boss.
Im so glad when I threw my temper tantrums my mother busted my tail. I respect her so much and I will do the same with my son.

You've been letting her get away with to much. time to set the rules and stick to them very hard. we use the 123 method. 1 ( I told you to do it) 2 ( I mean now) 3( time out.) don't say any other words but these numbers. do it all the time every time and even in public. in time out she stays away from everything not aloud to touch anything. time out does not start and restarts everytime she talks or makes noise. such as screaming. if she starts kicking and hitting in time you hold her arms and legs in a big bear hug. to show you it works I have a 6yr old with adhd. I rarely have to count to 2 for anything. It will take a while for it to sink in this is the new rules but as long as your firm and consistant it'll do wonders.

Being a psychology professional, it is a great profession and asset to people who find they cannot deal on thedir own and require support. However, only you know what is the right course of action to take. Personally I would say it is really early to just run to a psychologist. It may just be a matter of switching daycare. You don't see what goes on in the daycare personally. We had a day care at our college I was observing and I found there was an abusive staff member, at the same time my friend was dropping her son there. Just one of the screwed up things they were doing was to send children into the bathroom stalls for time periods to punish them. My friend pulled her son out from there and they were saying he was "a problem" too.

I think that your decision to see a child psychologist is absolutely correct. It sounds like she is having a really hard time for some reason, and no one here is going to know what exactly your personal situation is, or the details of how things are in your home. In the meantime, a good thing to do would be to sit down and look at a couple aspects that may be contributing to this behavior. (1) Do you and your husband/sig. other fight a lot in front of her? (2) Does she get the attention that she needs? My brother was a child who sought to get any kind of attention he could, and negative attention was easiest for him to get. (3) Who is she around regularly other than you and your husband/sig. other? Could they be having an effect on her? (4) What do you do for discipline? Are you consistent? Do you sit down and talk to her about why she did that specific action? Maybe she needs to learn how to deal with anger and frustration in a different way.

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