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Need help with daughters father...URGENT

Me and my daughter's father started out in a long distance relationship (florida/california) after dating for about 3 months we slipped and got pregnant (daughter almost 4) He stayed in Florida and just helped out financially...For the first year we talked and fought constantly over the strain of taking care of my daughter (physically) by myself..At the same time he was taking full care (physically) of his nephew who is 6 months older than our daughter. So it put a huge void in our relationship i made several attempts to express how i felt aboutthe whole situation and his responses were that he wanted to kill himself if i were to break it off..so we continued this trend for several more months. By the time my daughter was 10 months i decided i had enough of the long distance situation and i was virtually drained of emotions so i told him that i no longer wanted to be with him and that was that. Fast forwarding about a month and a half i was friends with a gentlemen i had met, my daughter's father broke into my voicemail and called him acting crazy which in turn really made me fed up! He came over for my daughter's birthday (two weeks) and acted like a complete lunatic (drank baby's laundry detergent in effort to kill himself) After the two weeks were over he chose not to go back to Florida but had no money or means to help me with our child he really never talked about her. After he realized that i wasn't going to be with him he left and stayed somewhere else but refused to help me with my daughter so i decided to just move on with my life (moved out on my own etc..we were 19 and 22 at the time) I talked to him a few times after but his attitude remained the same so he stayed living in California (15 minutes away) and had no contact with my daughter from the time she had just turned a year until recently i took the initiative to get them back as father and daughter in which he accepted greatfully. Fort the first couple of weeks it seemed like he was completely focused on my daughter but now as time goes on im noticing yeah he's very into the baby but his attention is really on us being together...Something that im not ready for and really don't want but i also don't want him to wain from his responsibility as a father. He's made comments about me not hurting him again and just comments in refrence to us being together. What should i do or what really can i do????? Im so confused now!!!!

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