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When would you call to see what's going on with DF?

So, it's been a crazy day. DF's hours have been cut drastically for the next two weeks so one of the people higher up in his department offered for him to come in from 8am to 8pm today to make up at least some hours. My daughter ended up needing to go to the ER (she's fine!) and so he had to leave work for 2 hours. He went back. He said he'd be home by 10pm..it's almsot 11pm now. I'm a nervous person by nature lol, so I try to hold back.

However, it's not the normal for him to be there this late. The store he works at usually want employees out by 30 mins or so. I'm not going to call and make sure he's alright yet.

But..just wondering when you ladies would give a call to see whats up?

Edit-- I gave it 2 hrs past when he should be home. I called, obviously the store is closed, but I hit the option to speak with the manager on call. Nobody picked up. Granted, like I said, today is a weird day. He wasn't even supposed to be there..his department head kinda..got him in. I know some big clients or somethin like that were coming in today, the store was in a tizzy.

BUT I'm legit starting to panic now. Hearts racing, nervous..yeah. Giving it another 15 mins or so and I'll be calling again (night crew probably didn't get to the phone in time). IF he just ended up having to work a crapload more than thought..he's in a lot of shit. He knows to call me if he's gunna be more than an hour late. Just because I get worried. I bet that's what happened though..he just didn't call.

He works down the road..I mean, about a 10 minute walk at most. Kids are sleeping, otherwise I would have been down there already :P.

Edit 2-- OMFG. I finally got through to whoever the fuck it was at the store. I was like, is DF there? (i didnt use Df though lol). Guy was like "um,who?" at this moment my heart sunk..then I repeated his name. guy goes, "what department?" I told him, he goes "..well they're still doing resets so I'd imagine he's there" ..the mannerism of this dude freaked me the fuck out..like he wasnt sure what to make of the situation..like he thought DF had already left. So I flipped my shit, called my mom. Seen as, you know, the dude didn't even CHECK. But in the middle of flippin out and crying on the phone with my mom (who started to panic too), DF called.

The first words out of his mouth, "you know all the guys are teasing me about my mommy calling" he was joking..now normally I'd laugh at it because this is how we are anyways, we tease. but not this time, i was like "WHAT THE FUCK..TELL THEM TO KISS MY ASS! WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU? YOU SAID YOU'D BE HOME AT 10" he's like "I'm sorry, I told you I didn't know when I'd be home" which isn't totally true, he said he should be home by 10..with the resets, yes, I knew it might be nuts..BUT 2 and a half hours late is well beyond the norm. The fucking store closes at like 9pm. so I told him "no, you said you'd be home at 10, and you should have fucking called! I was scared that something happened to you!" at this point I'm crying, more so at the *not trying to panic before* and then the relief that he was okay, all the emotions flooded out. Like I said previously..been an emotionally tolling day, with having a scare with my DD and bringing her to the ER, then this. Not to mention I have finals this week and next..oh im not in the mood lol. He kept saying sorry, and I mentioned again that those dude can shove it and he's like "they were just kidding, I swear. I'm sorry. I'll try to get home asap" cuz he knows I have trouble sleeping when he's not home..it's rare he's home late..and I'm just not used to it..maybe I'm a whimp. But at first I was like "yeah" but then I said "well no, you need those hours AND I don't want you fucking over your coworkers, you just need to understand it wasn't that you're late, it's that I had no fucking clue what was going on and nobody answered the phone the first time I called. Now that I know you're okay and you'll be home at whatever time, it's okay. Just needed to know!" so we said our I love you's and stuff.

I called my mom back, to ease her mind too.

I know he meant no harm, and I know if he didn't call he had to be busy as heck cuz he never does this..BUT I still don't think it's okay..he should have found a way. But once they found out the wife called, they sure got on his ass fast to call me back LOL.

Thanks girls for your concern/following along. I was just so scared. What a freakin day! I got class bright and early in the morning..well guess I'll be one tired lady ;).

Here's the kicker--both my kids just woke up asking for more juice..they never wake up at night..they share a room..them both being up at the same time? I sense shanigans :P. Oh I'm in for one hell of a night.

I do the same thing. DF calls me if he is going to be home more than an hour late because he knows I am a worrier. There are times he forgets though and it drives me CRAZY with worry until I hear from him. As long as he calls it doesn't bother me.

Same! DF used to work as a chef in a kitchen, that was part of the job..being late all hours and crap. So, we've been through this a long time ago and once he switched to a different carreer(Sp? im too tired lol) he rarely..I mean this is probably the 2nd time in 2 years, that he didn't call after an hour.

It drives me effin nuts too. Men, eh?

Quoting GoneBad31:

I do the same thing. DF calls me if he is going to be home more than an hour late because he knows I am a worrier. There are times he forgets though and it drives me CRAZY with worry until I hear from him. As long as he calls it doesn't bother me.

DF will forget once every couple of months. Funny thing...he JUST texted me and said he was working late tonight and he was stopping to get something to eat on the way home.

Quoting Angelicembrace:

Same! DF used to work as a chef in a kitchen, that was part of the job..being late all hours and crap. So, we've been through this a long time ago and once he switched to a different carreer(Sp? im too tired lol) he rarely..I mean this is probably the 2nd time in 2 years, that he didn't call after an hour.

It drives me effin nuts too. Men, eh?

Quoting GoneBad31:

I do the same thing. DF calls me if he is going to be home more than an hour late because he knows I am a worrier. There are times he forgets though and it drives me CRAZY with worry until I hear from him. As long as he calls it doesn't bother me.

I am a *don't really give a damn what you think* and *couldn't care less how you discipline and feed your kids/babies* and *pro-mind your own business* type of mom. Oh, and a very devoted and loving girlfriend:)

LOL..wow, working DF's think alike, eh? I'm glad he let you know! Hope he brings something for you :).

Quoting GoneBad31:

DF will forget once every couple of months. Funny thing...he JUST texted me and said he was working late tonight and he was stopping to get something to eat on the way home.

Quoting Angelicembrace:

Same! DF used to work as a chef in a kitchen, that was part of the job..being late all hours and crap. So, we've been through this a long time ago and once he switched to a different carreer(Sp? im too tired lol) he rarely..I mean this is probably the 2nd time in 2 years, that he didn't call after an hour.

It drives me effin nuts too. Men, eh?

Quoting GoneBad31:

I do the same thing. DF calls me if he is going to be home more than an hour late because he knows I am a worrier. There are times he forgets though and it drives me CRAZY with worry until I hear from him. As long as he calls it doesn't bother me.

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