Why am I always getting a boner?

Why is it that whenever my girlfriend teases me (like sitting in my lap or acting really sexy when I know she's not even thinking about sex) I always...
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Why is it that whenever my girlfriend teases me (like sitting in my lap or acting really sexy when I know she's not even thinking about sex) I always get a boner but it sometimes goes away right before I'm about to go in? And why can't I get a boner whenever we're making out trying to have sex.

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You have yourself a little psychological hangup about sex, bro. Probably not physical, because it sounds like your more than capable of boning up, just can't bring yourself to enter the pearly gates so to speak.

Which one do you have? I don't know. Some classics are "madonna/whore" and "repressed abuse" and "latent homosexuality". Or there are precisely 311 others that only your therapist can help you uncover.

(madonna/whore: you love her so much you've put her on a pedestal. You don't want to spoil her with your nasty man-juice because she's so much more worthy than that. )

(repressed abuse: intercourse reminds you of the time your parents were having a party when you were six and this drunk party goer slipped into your bedroom and fondled you against your wishes. You can't even bring yourself to face this right now, but your penis and subconscious remember all. )

(latent homosexuality: you might not be gay, but your certainly uptight about it and you WANT to be straight so much more than your brain actually says that you ARE that you freak out whenever its time to prove whatever you are. )

Regardless, you got a classic sex issue inside you so go talk to a counselor, or a trusted friend, or even your doctor about it.

Its probably because this happened to you once, and now you are thinking about it all the time. This then, makes it happen again. Unless there is some physical problem, its all in your head. Try relaxing, and don't try to make it happen with your girl. Just let it happen, when you are in the moment.

Maybe different things turn you on, like foreplay or teasing...try different things to excite you, like role playing or having her dress up, also it could have to do with you thinking too hard or not enough foreplay...its different for all people. tell her you are interested in new ways of foreplay and if you need ideas go to spencers