I'm so surprised with the nearly 100% gay population here we don't have a dating thread. This isn't a gay dating thread just dating in general. We all rant rant and vent about dates, boys, girls, relationships. Relieve your stresses here. Ask for advice, we will judge honestly and harshly and attempt to make you a complete mess, but that's best part

Two rules(that most of you will disregard):

1. Rant away but it would be great if we could see who you are ranting about. Pics are always welcome.
2. Don't bash other posters for their decisions or choice of guy.

Recently I've been having the same issue. I've been going on some dates and finally 2 of those dates were good ones good guys. But communication is not a much as I would like I guess? I'm int that phase where I'm looking for that reassurance that they really do like me. And I always find the guys that text seldom throughout the day and then naturally I think that if they don't text me for a while they've lost interest. Yeah I'm pretty much a mess already But whateves. Why is it so hard for guys to just be like "I like you, talk to ya later when I'm free." or just give some kinda message that gives some type of security.

Because that would be too damn good.

My advice here is clear, I think you should call some of these guys instead of just expecting them to call you.

Omg I battle with myself all the time about that. I want to but I don't wanna come off as too needy and fuck shit you. I want them to want to talk to me as equally bad as I wanna talk to them. It's like I create my own mind games. I've been getting much better but still. And with Justin it's horrible because he will take initiative and text me and talk but sporadically and I've still yet to get that "I like you, don't worry" assurance so i try and space out my text. The worst is when it takes them like 4 hours to text back and you sit and question life.

Omg I battle with myself all the time about that. I want to but I don't wanna come off as too needy and fuck shit you. I want them to want to talk to me as equally bad as I wanna talk to them. It's like I create my own mind games. I've been getting much better but still. And with Justin it's horrible because he will take initiative and text me and talk but sporadically and I've still yet to get that "I like you, don't worry" assurance so i try and space out my text. The worst is when it takes them like 4 hours to text back and you sit and question life.

That's me most of the time too.

So you basically just had 1 date with the 2 and just been texting each other since then?

I think if you want to know their feelings you should arrange a second date making it sure to whatever guy you choose your romantic intentions and see what happens, if it doesn't work with one at least you have the other, lucky you

We were talking a bit before the date and still after. The chemistry is there. I'm pretty sure I made it very apparent I'm into them. I know they like me, but I just want them to be much more apparent.

Omg backtrack to different guy, similar situation: Bout to weeks ago me and this guy Mike had been doing more or less the same thing and I initiated the second date and let him choose the time. Douche bailed and never texted after that. The worst part is the guys that always do that are the ones youre into the most. He fit the physical description to a fucking Tee, tall dark, perfect cuddler, kisser, the works. I was fucking LIVID!!!

Recently I've been having the same issue. I've been going on some dates and finally 2 of those dates were good ones good guys. But communication is not a much as I would like I guess? I'm int that phase where I'm looking for that reassurance that they really do like me. And I always find the guys that text seldom throughout the day and then naturally I think that if they don't text me for a while they've lost interest. Yeah I'm pretty much a mess already But whateves. Why is it so hard for guys to just be like "I like you, talk to ya later when I'm free." or just give some kinda message that gives some type of security.

Want my honest advice? Stop being so needy!

Don't take this the wrong way, but you worrying about them liking you could be more to do with your insecurities than their communication.

I guarantee you if one of them were to text you all the time & throw themselves at you, you wouldn't want them. You always want what you can't have. Play the mind games.

If I got an "I like you, don't worry" text, I'd piss myself laughing. I thought straight guys were supposed to be the ones with bad chat?

Don't take this the wrong way, but you worrying about them liking you could be more to do with your insecurities than their communication.

I guarantee you if one of them were to text you all the time & throw themselves at you, you wouldn't want them. You always want what you can't have. Play the mind games.

If I got an "I like you, don't worry" text, I'd piss myself laughing. I thought straight guys were supposed to be the ones with bad chat?

I wasn't being literal as in they need to say those excat thing. And you're absolutely right I don't want them texting me all the fucking time. But I want to have time set aside or something for conversation. And i want to obtain that feeling of security that they will make that time or at least want to. It's not that I'm overly needy, i'm just in that "assurance phase." After I get it I'll be fine but I need it

The worst is when douche bag guys tell you they have nothing planed and neither do you and they don't take the obvious opportunity to make plan or at least carry on a conversation in that down time, they disappear.

My advice here is clear, I think you should call some of these guys instead of just expecting them to call you.

This is good advice, it takes two to tango! You can't expect him to put all the leg work in. It's hard to tell, not knowing the ins and outs of the situation, but it's possible he's in exactly the same situation & isn't sure if you're into him.

This is good advice, it takes two to tango! You can't expect him to put all the leg work in. It's hard to tell, not knowing the ins and outs of the situation, but it's possible he's in exactly the same situation & isn't sure if you're into him.

If thats the case I'm so screwed for life

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Tell me these "sporadic" texts don't come late at night or in the early hours of the morning, and generally lead to sex? If so, I've got bad news for you, you're a booty call!

Bitch please. I may be a twink, but not a dumb one. That's not what I'm on the market for. I set rules with guys quick. They have to understand what my intentions are before a date and their intentions must be similar. I have no time for tricks and games.

I'm confused! You say you're really into them, but there are two guys.

You're obviously not that into either of them, if you're already considering another option.

uh, calm down. How into either of them can I be? We went on one date. It takes me a few dates to really have a feel for a guy and if they are the right guy for me. Everyone is on even playing ground right now.