Bad listeners/parallel conversationalists. I hate meeting up with people who ask a question about me, then start talking about themselves. Then I bring up a conversation, and they start talking about something else. No connection.

Oh, that’s SUCH a good one! I hate bad listeners. Parallel conversationalists! Haha! That’s the perfect description.
What about when they’re looking around for someone better to talk to while you’re talking? So rude!
My sister went on a date with a guy that did that and he also looked in every window they walked by! Haha!

I agree. Sneaky, manipulative people are a big turn off. I think those are the same people who don’t stop at the pedestrian cross walk in the parking lot. They think it’s THEIR America and the rest of us are insignificant

On a serious note, it is about their desire to make it about them, they will lie with a smile, take what they want, lie to get more–then disappear. I don’t understand that kind of behavior. I think we’ve discussed this–with me what you see is what you get. Period.

“I hate myself, sometimes I look in the mirror and I think about ending it all. I tried slitting my wrists but I only had a wooden spoon and a spatula. I can’t even kill myself right. Why doesn’t anyone like me?”

*STAB STAB STAB*

There you go!

Man those people annoy me. People who compliment me too much annoy me too, this German guy I know keeps hanging on every word I say, I know I’m pretty great but I’m not Captain Big Bollocks of the 25th Century or anything, he keeps telling me someone needs to write a book about me, which while true, I don’t need to be told every bloody time I see him.

That’s so annoying. I can only think that guy has really low self esteem. Sounds like he has no boundaries and is uber needy. Sick! People who smother you with compliments repeatedly are always suspect in my book. You want to just shake them off.

Okay–I compliment, but, I mean it each time. My Granddad always said it takes 10 seconds to say something nice, and 2 minutes to be mean. Take the short road, it’ll make you feel better. So, I’m that person who will tell total strangers their scarf is lovely or what a great pair of shoes. And, I MEAN those things.

They’re really good at pretending, saying the right words or responding in a way that makes them look normal. They’re usually aware that they’re different. Scary. I’ve worked with enough pedophiles to understand how they operate.

Unfortunately I think in certain areas, such as work, people can be rewarded for being really cut throat and not caring about who they hurt. Our media does a good job of promoting self-involvement and making it seem good.
unless you become an actual criminal, it’s hard for people to detect that you have no conscience. Do you ever watch Dexter? I highly recommend it. Extra creepy.

I heart Dexter, even if I am creeped out by he and his sister possibly doing the deed.

Never enter the dating pool (I would hate to see you divorced!)–they abound.

Pedophiles. Hrumph. I think all pedophiles should be sat backwards on a log, over an ditch. Nail their bits down with a clean nail (we don’t want them getting tetanus–rights and all that) or two, then, push them backwards. After you brush them off, toss them into GenPop (can you tell I watched Oz?) and turn your back. If anyone hurt my child in any way, I’d do it myself.

I’m with you on that. Pedophiles can’t be “rehabilitated” which is something the courts have yet to learn. They keep slapping them on the wrist and putting them back in society.
My idea is to give them mega doses of estrogen and if that doesn’t work, castrate them. One of my clients set his children on fire. Nice, huh? Same guy opened up a daycare and systematically molested all the children. He sat across from me and told me that they liked it.
Lock ’em up and throw away the key!
The sad thing is, he was brutally abused by his own father, so the cycle just keeps going.

I am far from a prude but there is a time and a place for it. I used to work in a furniture shop which had something of a building site-esque feel to it. When we unloaded huge deliveries of furniture it was non-stop swearing and that was fine.

Guy who I used to sit next to here in the office was constantly moaning and swearing about the slightest things. Drove me bonkers so I just ignored him most of the time. Which then prompted more moaning.

Actually this guy is insane anyway. He is paranoid, needy, always moaning and told the most horrendous jokes.

Ugh! I hate swearing. It shows such a lack of intelligence. Very lazy, indeed. There are so many better ways to express yourself.

It’s interesting which work environments breed that kind of behavior. I’ve been told that restaurant workers, in the back room, have foul mouths. And it seems that emergency workers tend to be mouthy, as well. maybe it helps them to feel tough so they can get the job done?

Have you ever considered confronting this guy about any of his grating ways? How do you respond? I couldn’t take that for very long without saying something.

I guess you can always make him into one of your characters! Grist for the mill, as they say!

An excellent list. I would just add that it’s people who are like that all the time. I wouldn’t cut off a friend who suddenly pulled off something and was being unbearably smug/arrogant about it for a while. (and i think most people are guilty of some of these behaviors at one point or another…)
And as far as the 17 items in the 10 item lane, Addie – there should be a special circle of hell for them.

The problem I have with drugs and castration (except my version) is they still find a way to abuse.

How you sat across from some (I have to curse here) biological f’d up freak of human waste (harsh, I know) and didn’t stab them with a pencil proves you are a better person than I. I grew up with way too much violence to ‘solve’ things, so, I immediately go to violence to deal with these walking seepage ponds.

The ONLY way to get through it is to remind yourself that he was once an innocent little kid, too. This particular person would sadly tell me that he couldn’t feel anything and that no amount of pleading would appeal to any part of him. Chilling.
Some people are like the equivalent of a shark in the water, we’re swimming with them and we don’t even know it.

Absolutely not. 99.9% suffered sexual/ physical abuse when they were children. It’s an insidious cycle. That’s the only thing that makes me able to ” work” with them. But for the most part it’s an act of futility. They’re hard wired to act out and over power other people. So much here, I could write a book.

Haha! Part of re- defining myself is figuring out who I am without all this “stuff”. I’ve been in that world for far too long. I’m so tired of taking care of people! I just want to be un-therapeutic Lisa, from here on out.
But thanks for thinking that I could write a book! Always nice to have encouragement.

AGL, write the book, seriously. You approach things from a point that is not meant to incur hostility, regardless of the subject. I usually see red when the subject of pedophiles comes up, and, for the first time–I was willing to see them as victims themselves.

Besides, I want to wear little suits and have a pencil stuck behind my ear (hopefully one I’ve stolen) and be able to use colored highlighters and page markers and paperclips. You are my own hope, AGL Wan Kenobi!

That’s kind, Miss Addie. I’d love to write a book if I had the energy. I have a lot to say on those subjects. If only I could snap my fingers or twitch my nose and have it done. I’ll just put it on the back burner for now…. Haha!

I feel like you have a book inside of YOU! You’re an Incredibly gifted and fluid writer. Do it Addie! I’ll make sure everyone stays in line at the book signing. I’ll work the crowds.

I don’t like people who try to talk me down, i will not let it happen no matter who it is.
I swear at times, but i find that some young people can’t open their mouth without swearing, it must be something to do with their mental attitude.

I feel the same way. People who take the wind out of my sails or act like a wet blanket don’t make me happy. I don’t care for negative people or anyone who tells me I can’t do something.

Swearing is best used economically. I only break it out for special occasions! haha! Young people just sound unintelligent because like you said, it’s every other word. I think it’s a lazy way to express yourself.

Someone probably mentioned it but Know-It-Alls annoy everyone. As long as you’re not described as any of the ones you listed first before anything else I don’t think there’s anything to worry about. We’ve all got flaws, don’t let them be the definition of you.

It usually takes me a while before I realize a person is humorless. I just figure all my cute comments are falling flat and then I try harder to be more charming. When that doesn’t work I get sort of spooked, like what kind of robotron am I talking too? Haha!

People who act superior get under my skin, too. It must come from low self esteem, but it’s just SO REPELLING. Haha!