10 Success Secrets Bosses Never Tell You but Should

No one knows better about making it big than Cathie Black, president of Hearst Magazines — Cosmo's publisher. In her book, Basic Black: The Essential Guide for Getting Ahead at Work (and in Life), she shares her awesome tips for a kick-ass career.

Most people see taking risks as opening themselves up to unnecessary, maybe even dangerous chances. But
the truth is, avoiding risks won't keep you safe, nor will it guarantee a smooth ride at work or in life.

In fact, the opposite is often true. It's like the monkey parable: A monkey sees a nut in a hole and reaches in to grab it. Once he's closed his fist around it, he can't get his hand back out of the narrow opening. Now he's stuck. He can't free himself unless he lets go of the nut, but because he's afraid to lose it, he won't let go.

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Trying to avoid risks is like clinging to that nut. You may think you're playing it safe by holding on to what you have, but in reality, you're just hindering your own progress.

2. Failing = Success

The consequences of failure — just like the potential consequences of taking risks — are almost never as terrible as they seem. Just about anyone you can think of who's a huge success has overcome failure to get where they are today — think of Michael Jordan, who was cut from his high school team, or J.K. Rowling, who was turned down by a number of publishers before one decided to take a chance on her manuscript about a young wizard named Harry Potter.

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3. Heed the Two-Step Rule

Anyone can go the extra mile. Try to make a habit of taking the next step or two beyond what you've been
asked to do.

A couple years ago, an article in one of Hearst's magazines, House Beautiful, misidentified the legendary Estée Lauder chairman, Leonard Lauder.

Argh! It was an innocent mistake but an incredibly stupid one, and once I was told about it, I knew we needed to fess up immediately. It was a Friday before a holiday weekend. I got on the phone to Leonard's office and learned from his assistant that he and his wife, Evelyn, were traveling in France. Hearing my desperation, the assistant gave me the number of his hotel in Paris.

"Leonard, I'm sorry," I said. "And most of all, I'm embarrassed." Leonard laughed and told me all was forgiven. And as he later told an interviewer for a magazine article profiling me, he was pleased I'd gone
to the trouble of tracking him down to apologize.

4. Give Up Control...

Sometimes In any office environment, there are many factors you can't control — the trickiest of which are often interpersonal. People get on each other's nerves, step on each other's toes, vie for each other's jobs, and sometimes, at the other end of the spectrum, get inappropriately involved with each other. At one point much earlier in my career, I had a boss who was having an affair with a subordinate of his, an awkward situation that made all our lives more complicated. It would have been easy to get upset about the situation, but to what end? The only thing you can do is accept what you can't change and work around it. That allows you to have a modicum of power over it.

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5. Show Your Ignorance

The act of asking is one of the most important elements of success. All too often, people fear that asking
questions reveals ignorance, yet the opposite is true. The root of the word ignorance, after all, is ignore. The minute you ask about something, you've taken a step toward understanding it. On the other
hand, if you just ignore the fact that you don't know, believe me, you won't get away with that for long.

6. If You Think You Know the Answer, Check Again

There's an old saying among journalists: "If your mother says she loves you, check it." And in fact, you can be sure that the minute you take something for granted, it won't be what you thought it was.

Take my name, for example. When I was in junior high, a skinny, awkward preteen with big
dreams, I decided I wanted to be different. So one day, I changed the spelling of my name from Cathy to Cathie. Silly, I know...but what can I say?

I can't tell you how many times over the years I've received letters addressed to Cathy Black or Kathy Black or Kathleen Black. It seems like a little deal, but it's a big deal to me...and it's the quickest way to lower my opinion of the letter writer.

7. Sometimes You Have to Boss Your Boss

When I watched the movie The Devil Wears Prada, one scene that stuck in my head was when the assistant, Andy, stood behind her boss Miranda's shoulder at a party, whispering the names of guests as they approached. Smooth as satin, Miranda greeted each person, coming off as an attentive and caring hostess rather than the frosty, bored snob she really was. There's no quicker, easier way to earn your boss's respect and gratitude than helping her look good.

8. Have a No-Surprises Policy

Never surprise your boss. If you have bad news, tell it. If you have good news, share it. For one thing, no one likes to feel out of the loop. And for another, hiding a crisis from someone who needs to know virtually guarantees the problem will be compounded. Think of your boss as a small woodland animal — make no startling moves or strange gestures. Do the work to make things easy on him or her.

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9. Be a Little Naughty

Rule breaking is an underappreciated and underutilized skill. If you look at any list of highly successful people, it's invariably populated with rule breakers — from college dropouts like Bill Gates to female trailblazers like eBay's Meg Whitman to Internet wunderkinds like Google cofounders Sergey Brin and Larry
Page, who refused to believe that a little startup couldn't take on the biggest, richest companies in cyberspace. All these people trusted their ideas and themselves enough to know which rules they could break. You can do the same.

10. It's Not PC, But Looks Count

The way you present yourself makes
a huge difference in how people perceive
you, and not just in a superficial
way. People make judgments about
your abilities, self-confidence, and
savvy based in part on what you
choose to wear and how you choose
to carry yourself.

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When I was just out of college and
looking for my first job, I wrangled an
interview at Condé Nast, then one of
the biggest magazine-publishing
companies in New York. I dressed in
a nice, conservative suit and felt pretty
good about how I looked — right up to
the moment I stepped into the elevator
at the Condé Nast building.

I immediately felt the penetrating gazes of half
a dozen fashionably dressed
young women as they looked me up and down, several
of them clutching their Louis Vuitton
bags. Suddenly, I felt like a complete
hayseed. I couldn't help but be self-conscious —
exactly the opposite of
how you want to feel going into an
interview — and all because I hadn't
given enough thought that morning to
how I should dress. The experience
taught me a lesson I never forgot.

Your Burning Work Questions Answered

Here, Cathie Black lends career-related advice to a few of our readers.

Q: I recently landed my first job. Now I'm looking
toward my first promotion. When can I expect
to move from entry level to midlevel? —Kathleen, 22

A: Wait a minute! How about concentrating on doing the
job you were hired to do and making sure that you are doing it really,
really well? Ambition and drive are very important attributes, but experience
is also essential. Have a conversation with your boss about her
goals for you. When you have achieved the goals you have both agreed
upon, have another meeting with your boss, and express your desire
to grow within the company.

Q: I work with a lot of men. I wear skirts
often but find stockings to be uncomfortable.
Is it appropriate to go without them? —Christine, 31

A: It depends on what is acceptable in your industry.
For example, bare legs may be de rigueur in the worlds of fashion, beauty,
advertising, and publishing, but at a very formal law firm, they could be
seen as inappropriate. You never want to feel uncomfortable or make
anyone else uncomfortable with your appearance at work, so look around.
If your coworkers skip the stockings, you can too. If they wear them
religiously, toe the line or invest in a fabulous pants suit!

Q: I just started working at a new job in a laid-back
place and noticed that a lot of my
coworkers listen to their iPods while they do
their work. Is it okay for me to do this if
other people are? —Megan, 19

A: It is always a good idea to take cues from colleagues if it is clear that
their behavior is acceptable to management. Some people find it easier to
concentrate if outside "office noise" is blocked by listening to an iPod.
Personally, I would encourage you not to work with earphones. If you are
in the early stages of your career, it is important to keep your eyes —
and ears — open to everything. You'll be surprised at how much you can
learn just by being alert and engaged by the world around you.

Q: I'm content in my job, but I feel like I could
probably be doing more to be successful.
What's the best way to really shine? —Jessica, 31

A: When you start off your question with "I'm content," it
makes me think you are possibly becoming complacent in your work. Are
you bored? If so, then it is time to reassess your goals. But if you feel that
you still have more to contribute and if you are still engaged and happy
at your current company, rather than looking for opportunities elsewhere,
I recommend a conversation with your boss and the HR department to
map out a plan for your future growth.