@emmuhlee You have my sympathy. My daughter is 18 months and she has never been willing to sleep in her own bed @ night time. She just recently started showing interest in at least pretending to go to sleep in her big brothers bed so I decided to try converting her crib to a toddler bed. It has worked out really well so far. I lay down next to her or at least with my head next to hers on the pillow and she falls asleep that way. If she wakes up in the night I just go and lay next to her for a few minutes until she falls back out and then go back to my own bed. 2 nights ago she slept in her own bed until 3:30 am and last night she slept in it all night. I can also tell that she just has a lot more confidence in that sleeping arrangement. I think she knows she can get to me if she needs to. When she was in her crib she wouldn't even be comforted if I sat right outside of it and tried to hold her hand. In the toddler bed when she is trying to go to sleep she is comfortable enough with the idea that I can get up to go to the bathroom or check on her brother without her having a meltdown as long as I tell her that I will be right back and don't latch the door when I leave. Before I didn't think I would ever get her out of my bed, now even though she still needs my help to get to sleep I definitely see a steady progression towards being able to do it all on her own.

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EmmettsMom

@emmuhlee I wish I had advice but I really just want you to know you're not alone. My 18 month old refuses to sleep in his bed so he always ends up in my bed. Then he always wants to be held for naps. DH and I are ready to TTC again but I'm hesitant because DS won't sleep on his own. I feel your pain!!

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72baby

@EmmettsMom I'm in the same boat too! =(My 17 month old has trouble sleeping in her own bed. Winds up with us around midnight. We also have number two arriving in July...not sure how to fix this!! It can be so very frustrating!

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akarel

@emmuhlee Wow, so many women with toddlers around my daughter's age (15.5 months) with another on the way (I'm due May 22nd) with the same problem we've been having (toddler waking up over night refusing to sleep in his/her crib and wanting to be in mom/dads bed). If our daughter wakes up overnight she is absolutely inconsolable until we bring her into our bed. We've finally decided that if she falls right asleep as soon as she hits our bed then it's back to the crib for her...she'll cry for a while, but we assume there is nothing wrong. If she's tossing and turning, though, we let her stay or give her a bottle, and obviously check her diaper. It's counter intuitive to use that approach because the tossing and turning is annoying, but we give her more slack when she seems to be having a real issue sleeping. We're down from her in our bed 90% of the time to about 50% and declining.Oh, and this started just before a year. Prior to that she want ever in bed with us.

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BabyMonkeyToes

@emmuhlee I had to lay with my older daughter until she fell asleep and she would wake up again around 3 am and I'd go lay with her again. It sucked because I was pregnant and it was hard for me to get up lol but eventually she got over needing us.

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EmmettsMom

bump, anyone with other helpful hints/tips?

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brenda22222

Im in the same boat. I have a 2 year old, she is great going down to bed but every night she winds up in our bed( all different times ) . I am due in march and really want her sleeping through the night before then....anyone have some really good advice. And crying it out doesn't work. We tried for a solid week and she was crying for a good hour. Please help!!!!!!

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jenni1213

@brenda22222 My DD is gonna be 3 in april and she suddenly does not like sleeping in her own bed. The last couple of weeks she gets up in the middle of the night. Problem is she doesnt just come sleep in our bed or even go to sleep on the couch, she does that after she has demolished everything she can get her hands on in the living room. I work 50+ hours a week 6 days a week and now my only day off is spent cleaning up the huge mess she just made, I feel like im never able to get to the stuff that really needs to be done because im busy with these unnecessary messes. I am seriously to the point of just shutting her bedroom door at night so she cant come out but i know she will wake up and scream her head off if the door is shut... any advice?

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Catrina09

@brenda22222 Same problem! My little girl is 2 I'm 28 weeks with newest LO. Great sleeper till I put her in a big bed at 21 m. She was climbing out of CRib safety issue. She goes to sleep in her bed but gets up to mine at least once every night! Hel!!

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