RESPOND – My Life, My Marriage Project

04.06.2018

Research indicates that people with a learning disability can be forced into marriage and many cases can go unreported. We at RESPOND work proactively to ensure that vulnerable individuals at risk are supported and know their rights too.

Government statistics indicate that in 2017 advice or support was provided to 1196 cases of a possible forced marriage (statistics in this article are taken from the Forced Marriage Unit Statistics Report 2017). From this number, 125 of these involved individuals with a learning disability. Of these, 47.2% were female and 52.8% were male. This statistic breaks down the misconception that forced marriage only affects women, as men can also be victims.

RESPOND – My Life, My Marriage ProjectIn response to statistics like those mentioned, the ‘My Life, My Marriage’ Project, was launched in 2015 by RESPOND. This project focuses specifically on people with learning disabilities who have experienced or may potentially be forced into marriage. The project provides advocacy, direct support and training to individuals and professionals. Clients are given support, which is focused on their specific needs and understanding. The service also assists and supports professionals who require training in this area, providing them with the tools to identify and support vulnerable individuals.

What is a Forced Marriage?A forced marriage is when one or both individuals have been forced, manipulated or coerced into marriage by their parents, carers or close family members who believe they know what is best for the individual. Not only is this against their wishes, but their consent hasn’t been obtained either. In a forced marriage or relationship, the feelings, wellbeing and safety of the individual/s are not considered.

What are the motives for a forced marriage?People with learning disabilities who have been forced or coerced into marrying occurs for many reasons. A common reason is because a parent would like a carer for their child or even for themselves as they get older and are unable to look after themselves. This can potentially result in the vulnerable individual being abused financially as well as psychologically, emotionally, sexually and physically.

What support is there for people with a learning disability?RESPOND ensures that more focused support is provided so individuals with learning disabilities are equipped to make their own decisions and can take more control of their lives and relationships. One of the areas in which clients are supported is to understand what a positive loving relationship is, which can lead to a positive healthy marriage should they choose to get married. This not only helps nurture their development but also gives them a sense of independence too.

What does UK law say?Forcing an individual to marry is considered an abuse of their rights. The UK law is very clear on this matter and legislation states that in any marriage both parties should be consenting. Where consent hasn’t been obtained, then those involved who have forced, coerced or manipulated a vulnerable individual into a marriage are committing a crime. Therefore, if prosecuted, this can result in a sentence of up to seven years in prison. This important legislation along with the work being carried out at RESPOND sets out the clear boundaries between a forced marriage and an arranged marriage.

RESPOND received funding from the Forced Marriage Unit to produce several short films highlighting the serious issue of forced marriage in the lives of people with learning disabilities.

We strive to ensure that these vulnerable individuals are not forgotten and that they always have a choice.

If you would like more information on this important topic or want to book workshops for your organisation, please contact:

Share this page

Print this page

"I cannot fault the warmth, kindness and professionalism of Choice Support staff… putting the needs of my boys and myself first, putting us at ease through every step." Donna, supported through MyPA

"Investment in learning and development to deliver high quality services through well trained and motivated staff remains a key priority ..and is a strength of the organisation." Investors in People (Silver) report

"Miriam calls me grandma. It gladdens my heart that her needs are being met and when she goes and lives on her own the things she’s learnt she will put into practice." Bernadette, shared lives carer

"Living in my own flat means I can come and go when I want – nobody tells me what to do. I have my own key. I see my family more often… and my self-confidence has improved. " Neil, person we support

"At Choice Support we’ve been employing Quality Checkers since 2006 and have seen time and again the value of bringing the voice of experience into monitoring services." Sarah Maguire, Managing Director