Roughly, at what age does one get "feelings" for the opposite sex? (If they are hetro of cause)

Why if they are "hetero"? (Of course). Me, I'm an old fart so I got "feelings" for the opposite sex when Marilyn Monore sang Happy Birthday to JFK on TV. Feelings are feelings. Like seti it depends more on the listener than the sender.

It really varies from person to person. I did not hit puberty until I was nearly 16 and did not have any kind of a sex drive until I was 21. This kind of sucked as I had no interest in girls in high school and my first year in college, which now means I have basically no social skills. The good thing was before I was 21 I only had to shave only once a week, but now matter hard I try it always looks like I need to shave.

It is interesting that you mention heterosexuality because everyone used to think that I was homosexual because I had no interest in girls. Which is clearly not the case. I can't count the nubmer of walls or trees that I have walked into by not watching where I am going and lookng at girls instead. So don't worry if you don't have much of an interest in girls right now, it does mean that you are gay.

I imagine that _all_ of your post is in jest... Using such language can cause quite a lot of pain, even if you are only joking. But then I guess you goth types are used to that, what with all the devil worshipping and all...

But then I guess you goth types are used to that, what with all the devil worshipping and all…

Yeah, well... uh... 'scuse me... I gotta sacrifical goat and if you don't get the blood in the fridge quick, it goes off... ain't nothing worse that spoiled goat blood on your Wheaties...

Seriously, though, I do understand the severity and seriousness involved with martakz's post, which is the exact reason that I was trying to inject a little senseless humor... senseless as in "That boy ain't got no sense..." C'mon, admit it... you thought it was funny... I don't care who ya are, that right there's funny...

Really, a person is such a complicated bundle of different and often conflicting emotions, interests, desires, fears and distractions, that I wouldn't credit anyone who can say when you, personally, should be jonesin' for some jiggy-jiggy.

Best we can do is say when it happened for -us-, and in my case I don't remember. My interests involved from platonic crushes, to the messy stuff, to serious committments that go into the sublime.

The only advice I'll offer is DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. The more you fixate on it, the more you'll try to convince yourself that something's wrong when there in fact, isn't.

In my opinion, for just as long as you don't develop feelings for people of the same sex, you're still probably going to start being attracted to the opposite sex; it doesn't matter how long it takes, as long as you're not old and wrinkly by the time you work it out. But then, hey, I used to tell myself that, and look how I turned out.

The feelings will come naturally. I won't describe the exact feelings, because there different for specific people, and I wouldn't want anyone waiting for my specific description. You can be sure it will happen, but nobody can tell you exactly when. Hang in there. And when you do start to have those feelings, my advice would be to just have fun throughout your school years, whether it's with the opposite sex or without.

I hear tell that many women don't hit their peak until their 30's. You've got at least 13 years to go...

Maybe it's a good thing I was a late bloomer, and my wife was an early-bloomer. Our drives kinda meshed well. I had a passing interest in girls for years, I didn't get any serious drive until maybe 17 or so. Then, I got lust going about 19. I was maybe 5 years behind the curve. My wife, only 6 months younger than me ran about the same cycle. Not too unusual for women, but she seems to have forshortened the rise to peak.

It all comes in good time. The more you pressure yourself into fitting into a pre-defined mould, the more you're going to worry about it. The biggest piece of advice I can give is to *be yourself*. Listen to what your heart is telling you, listen to what your body is trying to say, cause those two components know the *best*.

I know what it's like to be labeled a homosexual unjustified. From about the time I entered grade 7 (12 years old - or so) I have quite enjoyed the music of Celine Dion (both English and French), but I have never found her *attractive*. I didn't really have an interest in females until about 16 or 17 to be quite honest. Everyone thought that I "didn't swing quite right". Let me just say this, when you find your calling, you will know it, and when you find the *one* for you, you will groove with her/him better than you ever imagined. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, and as long as you stay true to yourself, you've got nothing to be ashamed of.

NB: There is nothing *wrong* with being homosexual. Any indications that I took being called homosexual as an insult are not intentional. It is just confusing to be labeled something that you know in your heart to be wrong.

Well of course, if one were not a homosexual, and was called one by someone meaning to offend said person... THAT would be taken as an insult, not the idea of actually being one. It really would just depend on how the implications were intended...

If you're Japanese and someone calls you a Dirty Korean, you'd be kinda mad. Not that there's anything wrong with being Korean to most of us. But the Japanese tend to look down on them as a matter of culture which is still changing.

The above is true as written, and if you sub in "strait" for Japanese and "homosexual" for Korean, it still rings rather true...

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