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I thought the "what's it like being a fat person?" thread spawned a lot of interesting discussion, so as a super skinny guy I wanted to have the tiny people weigh in (ha ha..).

I'm 25 years old, 5'5" and 110lbs as a guy, so I'm considered quite small. Literally every day I have at least 3 people point out that I'm too skinny or that I need to eat more.

I think for at least myself (and most guys), if you're too small and skinny it can be just as bad as being a girl who's overweight. Just like women are 'supposed' to be 'petite', men are supposed to be large and protective, not tiny mice. The ideal for a guy is tall, dark and handsome, and I'm pretty much none of those though my wife would say I'm handsome.

I used to be really self conscious about it and I still am to an extent. I tried to gain weight for a long time and got up to 115 by working out a lot, but I ended up accepting my body for what it is.

Believe it or not, I really like my body. I may not weigh much but I think I look good and muscular. I think the main reason why I wanted to gain weight was because of other people constantly telling me I'm too skinny. However, I would REALLY like to gain some height.. At least 5'8"..

Any other tiny people want to add anything?

EDIT I've had a few requests to verify that I am, in fact, skinny.. so: [pic taken out.. I got a little uncomfortable with having over a thousand people look at me.. haha sorry! If you'd like to see I'd be fine with private messaging it to you.] and also here is me riding a shark with longer hair for good measure I would have done them naked, you know, for science, but I'm sure no one wants to see that and my wife would be pissed.

I'd like to encourage anyone else to post a photo of themselves because you never know, you may think you look awful but people out there may have something good to say about you. I'd also encourage any of the people from the "What's it like to be a fat person?" thread to do the same, as I'm sure most of you look great as well!

And to anyone who is going to say I'm not too skinny or small.. you may not think that and thank you, but I still get harassed daily about it. I think that this shows us that many of us have hangups about things that shouldn't be a problem, yet the problem does exist regardless of whether you're too skinny or too large.

EDIT 2 Okay so I've had a few people say that I probably look malnourished and such.. so Here is what I was doing last summer and this and this. Not malnourished but not a large guy. I haven't been working out since November because my first child was born.. so I've lost a few pounds of muscle since these were taken.

Tl;dr: Just because you're skinny doesn't mean you can't be as self conscious as an overweight person.

There is nothing wrong with looking like a girl as a guy or looking like a guy as a girl.
I am a skinny Japanese guy with long hair; my friends tell me that I am like a Final Fantasy character.
It helps me feel badass especially because I possess no fighting capability what so ever except for running away.

Pretty much what you'd expect. We started to fight and he grabbed my left arm. I thought he was going to give me an indian burn, but he didn't. I struggled for a bit, then he flipped me over his back (I weighed nothing as a kid. Dangerously underweight.) while still holding on to my arm. It cracked and a bolt of pain shot through my arm. I screamed and he dropped me, startled. Half crying, half screaming, I ran home (a block away) while cradling my arm. My parents took me to the ER.

It's a pain, but I've accepted my position. I'm 5'7, 110 lbs. I eat constantly, and have a regular work-out schedule, but it hasn't done a thing in 2 years. People are always talking about how skinny I am and how I should eat more. Fuck em, they won't understand.

Finally, a thread I relate to where I can vent a little AND it can get buried so no one will ever know! (Apparently posting after 300+ comments before me isn't enough to deter you guys. Good on ya!)

Pro's to being skinny:

I can out-eat most of my friends and not gain an ounce, but I can also survive on next-to-nothing food wise and be perfectly content. This means I'm spending less on my lunches out and saving more money.

Being so light subsequently makes me light on my feet. Makes it easy to scare people and pull other pranks. I can creep past my cat without him waking up.

I can fit in tight places. This is extremely beneficial when hooking up electronics or your Hershey's Cookies and Cream bar gets stuck in a vending machine.

Cons:

Every muscle-guy I meet asks me how much I weigh and then wants to either A) pick me up or B) wrestle me. I'm 5'10 and 112 lbs with glasses so obviously I'm not going to be that much of a challenge in this kind of match-up.

I once sat down in a hammock and my girlfriend at the time proceeded to sit down next to me. It was pretty embarrassing when my side of the hammock rose up and I practically fell in her lap.

Greatest irrational fear:

My greatest fear in life is to marry a girl who balloons in weight over the years, then, while we're sleeping, rolls on top of me effectively smothering me to death. Even if I did wake up I wouldn't have the upper body strength to lever her off, but at least it's as far from dying alone as I could get (my other greatest fear).

My greatest fear in life is to marry a girl who balloons in weight over the years, then, while we're sleeping, rolls on top of me effectively smothering me to death. Even if I did wake up I wouldn't have the upper body strength to lever her off, but at least it's as far from dying alone as I could get (my other greatest fear).

See, I "light contact" spar my friends, and I understand the whole "machismo" thing; but what glory is there in challenging and beating someone who probably won't be much of a challenge?

That is not to say skinny people can't be a challenge (I know many who train and can kick my ass through pure skill). I just don't get the point of a challenge if the opponent isn't, oh idk, a
challenge.

Exactly. I'm 6'3 and around 150 (up from 142) and trying to find pants size 29x34 is impossible. But if I want to find pants for short fat people I am in luck. Always a huge stack of 34x30 sitting there.

I have an incredible metabolism and swim/play water polo most days. I simply haven't been dedicated enough to overeat to the point of gaining considerable weight.

Most comments about my weight go in one ear and out the other, and I'm quite self-deprecating about it in my day-to-day interactions. Every once in a while, though, I remember the few comments I've received from women about how I would look incredibly handsome if I "put some meat on my bones," and I have incredibly mixed feelings about it.

I've developed a weird superiority/inferiority complex with regards to my attractiveness because of these comments about my current versus potential attractiveness, and it definitely affects my confidence.

My husband is 6'2" and 140lbs. There is no clothing on earth that fits exactly right. Everything is too big or too short. Something I never thought about before I started dating him. He's tried to gain weight to bulk up for athletics in the past but it just doesn't seem to work for him.

I love the way he looks though. I've always had a thing for skinny men and the fact that the guy I fell in love with fit this type was the icing on the cake.

Im a girl 5'9 and 128lbs. I'm thin but within the healthy range and comments from larger people make me feel like an anorexic when I'm not. Obesity has become an epidemic in society and because of this, what we consider a "normal" weight is actually overweight a lot of the time.
I work with kids and when a normal weight kid comes in to see us we often get comments from other parents saying "look how skinny she is" when in fact, she is perfectly normal weight and it is the other children that are over weight. People need to be re-educated on what the normal weight range actually is and looks like.

I couldn't agree more.. I don't think people realize how much more normal it is to be heavy set than skinny nowadays.

The only people my size I see are teenagers or preteens.. so it's pretty ridiculous when people who are a healthy weight are classified as too skinny. As I said above, here where I work we only order larges or higher when it comes to company t-shirts so I have to special order mine.. The average of the shirts we buy for employees are XXL in a company of over 300 people.

Another interesting thing is that sizes are getting bigger; according to the Economist "a woman who weighs roughly the same as she did 20 or more years ago now wears smaller-sized clothes than she used to. The explanation is “size inflation”: clothes with the same size label have become steadily larger over time"

Peoples perception of sizes have quantifiably changed over the last few decades.

The average of the shirts we buy for employees are XXL in a company of over 300 people.

That's shocking. It's stats like this that make you realize the extent of the problem. I sometimes feel like the obesity epidemic being embraced rather than seen as a problem in many parts and really think a lot of it is down to lack of education (obviously not all of it). I think people would genuinely be shocked at how little it takes to be classified as obese. For someone who's 5'5, 180lbs is considered obese.

I totally agree with you. I think people are so used to seeing obesity that now its considered normal and people are embraced for being "a real woman" with curves. While women who are naturally slim are now accused of having eating disorders.

If you call someone fat, you're a bitch. But if you call someone too skinny, you are just stating the facts.

5'5"; 107. My main complaint is that people don't treat being skinny like they do being fat. Talking about being fat is taboo; but it's okay to call me a skinny white bitch, like the fact that I'm skinny means I have a better life and thus deserve to be called names. Recently on Facebook you see a lot of people comparing a picture of someone a little overweight and a skinny person and calling the overweight one beautiful and the skinny one disgusting or scary.. That pisses me off.

Exactly what I came here to say; 5'2", somewhere from 102-105 lb. Mentioning the fact that someone is overweight is the epitome of rudeness these days but anyone feels like they can draw attention to the fact that you're thin. You would never (or most likely never) hear someone say, "You're so freaking fat, so maybe you should stop drinking that soda!" At least every other day I'm told to eat a hamburger as if it's not insulting at all.

I also hate when other girls and friends give you the up and down and actually say something like, "God, you're so skinny," with this kind of angry, pissed-off sort of look. My genes made me this way (my mom's the same build), and I eat plenty so stop acting like I have a problem.

Other than that, it's getting really difficult to find clothes that fit short and thinner people. I have better luck in the kids' department finding jeans than anywhere else.

You're like a shorter, female version of me. I'm 5' 11" and weigh about 110 lbs (or about 50 kg). Being a guy, I imagine that I get treated in a slightly different manner than you, but I still get told every so often to eat more, or to go eat a burger. Other guys will put their hand around my bicep and tell me to flex, and then they'll marvel at how thin my arms still are. I'm pretty sure that some people think that I'm anorexic.

I can't really help being thin either. My mom is as thin as a rail, and that trait got passed down to me. I can eat like a pig and not gain an ounce. Once, for my birthday, a few friends and I went to a diner/ice cream shop and I ordered their signature sundae (which is 3 softball-sized 1-pound scoops of ice cream). I weighed myself before hand, ate the entire thing in one sitting, and then weighed myself again the next day. I had lost weight. ಠ_ಠ

Other than that, it's getting really difficult to find clothes that fit short and thinner people.

It's even worse for men. Super skinny jeans are pretty much the only way to go if I don't want to be swimming in my clothing. It's also thoroughly infuriating to go shopping, find something that you think looks good, and then discover that they only carry larges and up. And you would not believe how hard it is to find a suit that fits nicely. If your chest measures about 42 inches or more, then the world is your oyster; they have racks full of jackets in any style you could want. If you are a 36 (more like a 35, which they don't even make), then you'll have about 5 jackets to choose from, and that's it.

*I have a small everything. Although this is not the case for all petite women, I have small boobs. I have an incredibly hard time finding clothes, bras and swimsuits especially. I can never buy pretty lingerie because they never fit. I'm stuck with having to buy trainer bras for teenagers at target or walmart. Does anyone else know the feeling of embarrassment of a 22 year old having to lurk around the kid's section to buy undergarments? I also buy kid's undies too because victoria's secret size xs undies are way too expensive under a college budget. And I tried buying undies at costco. They don't carry xs so I bought the small size but they were too big... I'm tired of wearing kiddie underwear it's embarrassing and unsexy when I want to bump uglies with my dude. I'd like to be able to buy those sexy lingerie items that hang in front of victoria's secret too...

*Even though I'm 22 years old it's hard to be treated as a serious adult. Yeah, I get it. I'm only 22, but having a teenage physique doesn't help. My body doesn't embody any kind of real feminine confidence or maturity. I really envy other women my age who have a fuller body.

*I hate the slogan, "real women have curves." Cause hey! I am a real woman too. I understand the slander towards tall skinny models who look almost skeletal, but it goes both ways too. In no way do I fit in the conventional female beauty. It annoys me that my body issues and self consciousness is less valid because I'm skinny.

*Because of my size I'm more likely to be ignored and pushed around in a crowd, as well as when I'm walking about in the city. In crowds I get stuck with the foul stagnant odor of B.O. because of the lack of fresh air circulation. I can never see clearly in concerts unless I'm in the front, not to mention all the elbowing to my shoulders and head.

*In airplanes, people always choose to sit next to me. They see me and they're like "Oh! She's small so I'll have the arm rest all to my self and more." This has made me a fierce protector of the little space I have in flights. No way am I giving you the little space I have. >:[

*Even though I've always been skinny, since I was a child I always had a belly. In the past few years I've started to gain weight and it's most noticeable in that area. I'd be okay with it because I'm down with gaining weight, but because its concentrated in my stomach and I have really small breasts it just doesn't look right. It's worst after eating (and I'm a real big foodie) because I literally look like a petite pregnant woman.

However being skinny and short has its perks:

*In class or a lecture hall I can sit comfortably, even cross my legs (I do that a lot when I'm sitting in a chair).

*At concerts or crowds I have a pretty good ability to squeeze through people to get to where I want even though I do get a couple of elbow whacks to my head.

I've come to terms with my body. Although my insecurities will never fully go away, I'm not as self conscious as I used to be and slowly working on it. I understand there is less stigma with skinny people, but that doesn't stop someone from developing low self-esteem and confidence because of how they look. There are people with less body issues than others but it doesn't undercut the problem or make it less valid.

Overall, I'm pretty content with my body. It's always been this way so I can't imagine it otherwise. This may come off offensive to some redditors but I wouldn't want to weigh a lot more than I do now. I'm 5'2" and if I put on a lot of weight I don't know if I'd feel comfortable. I think I would always feel tired because of the extra weight my body would have to support.

Not sure what size you are but I'm a 34A (ish). I've had decent luck with H&M bras and Calvin Klein. I feel you though, everytime I have to go bra/swimsuit shopping, I want to cry it is so frustrating.

Oh god.. It's exactly everything I could ever have contributed to this topic. Especially the small boobs. I can't find any goodlooking swimsuit. I really love to swim in the summer, but I end up just looking for something that could fit me the whole summer, and I never find it. Most of it is so big and unfitting that if I bend forward it lifts off my boobs and everyone can see them...the feeling of looking for a bikini again this year makes me sick.. This and the "pregnant belly syndrome" are my biggest concerns. I want to gain weight, but when I try to I look like I'm pregnant. I'm starting to work out right now, to gain some weight that way...but I'm starting to suspect that I'll look like a funny bodybuilder lesbian in just a few weeks.

Also I've been told countless times that I'm probably anorexic, should go see a doctor (which I did), got bullied for my flat chest and laughed at school when all the other girls began growing boobs.

BUT if I could choose to be fat or skinny, I would take this one because at least I feel comfortable in my body. Sometimes my hands shake a bit, but except from that I don't have to carry around any extra weight..

I can shop in the women's sections and totally rock the fuck out of lady deep v's and girl jeans.

Of course this always leads to people calling me a 'silly hipster' and asking how I put I on pants. That's something that gets old - but I seriously have a lot of trouble finding jeans that are smaller than 30 (I wear a 28/29) that aren't at some designer store and cost way too much. I wear anywhere from a 6-9 in women's jeans... for some reason the number seems to fluctuate in what fits and what doesn't.

Also, FUN FACT! At Target the smallest shirt size they have available in men's is a medium. It fits like a large. (At least that's how it was a few years ago). My work shirt looks like a short gown because they don't have anything smaller available.

I don't think that it's worse than the stigma associated with being overweight by any means, though it does have its disadvantages. The most annoying thing for me is that people consider me skinny at all being 6'0" 160 lbs. I think that's a result of the obesity epidemic the country has dealt with over the past 20 years or so. People don't even recognize what's normal any more.

I've heard plenty of girls say they don't date skinny guys. Some don't like being with a guy who's thinner than them, and others like the idea of the guy being a protector of sorts. It's a bit of a hit to the ego because it seems like the girl is essentially saying, "Sorry- you're not man enough for me."

I agree with you - the stigma with being overweight is definitely worse.

But you hit the nail on the head. When you're a man you're expected to be a large protector sort, and all my life I never considered myself to be too attractive to girls because of that. That didn't stop me from trying though.. and I found my wife (who I'm bigger than).

So I guess the moral of the story is if you're a small guy, find a smaller girl.

Being a curvy girl, it makes us self conscious. I am not at all fat (I have a 27 inch waist, DD size breasts, and a butt) but a guy smaller than me makes me self conscious. Typically, he won't understand what it is like to worry about his thighs looking large or an outfit making him look fat because it doesn't show off his waist. When we cuddle, he is smaller and it makes me feel fat. I realize it sounds silly but when you compare the ratios it makes us feel odd.

It doesn't really sound that silly. Being the skinny guy in highschool I would feel self conscious being with a girl that was bigger than me (5'11" 120lbs lanky as hell) which was usually the case being as skinny as I was, and it would bother me in the exact same way that you described. Putting on a few pounds later in life definitely helped out but I also learned that people are attracted to all different body types and it really isn't as much of an issue as I made it out to be.

Chubby girl here: I never dated guys skinnier than me because I was so self conscious that I didn't want to envelop and suffocate the guy in my fat. It may seem silly, but growing up being the fat one (even though I wasn't horrendously fat) made me feel like I wasn't good enough to date skinny guys. Like I wasn't on their level and had no right to even try to flirt with them.

Exactly this! I figure that they couldn't possibly like me if I'm bigger than them, so I don't even bother trying to talk to them at all. They're just sort of "off-limits", which sounds horrible, but I've always thought that way.

I feel you. Im 6' 135. Its not underweight but close. I would like to be near 160 if at all possible. Being so skinny has its issues. I have a 27" waist which most of my friends are astonished both guys and girls.

I had an issue with my last gf. She was 5' 10" about 150 and it was obvious that she was bigger then me. Since this was obvious she was afraid of hurting me. It wasnt only an issue in bed but something as simple as sitting on my lap. She was afraid of hurting me by doing that. Im not a porcelain doll.

But now im kinda afraid to date someone bigger then me. Not to be shallow or anything. If a girl thinks of me as small they kinda try to be careful around me and i dont want that.

Everything else is great. I don't have to duck under doorways, spend less money on food as I don't eat as much. I don't the biggest car or room, I can navigate crowds with ease, I'm quick on my feet.

Now, as a small guy with dating, my dating pool is limited. I have no issue with dating women who are taller than me or women who weigh more than me. It just sucks that so many women have an issue with my size. They feel I can't protect them, or they want to have a tall, big guy to hold them. Even with a girl I'm confident around and have great chemistry with, I've been turned down because of my size.

I sometimes wish I was bigger simply because our tiny frames can only get so strong. I'm somewhat in shape, yet I have to get help lifting heavy things by other normal sized guys who move it like it's no big deal. That's a hit to the ego for a man, that's for sure..

I wish I could upvote you more. I get so freaking tired of people telling me to eat more. It makes absolutely no sense to me that because I have the kind of body that people seem to want (and work damn hard for it, mind you), I'm supposed to change to make them less self conscious..? Is that it? I don't know. The "logic" makes zero sense to me.

I wasn't very smart about my diet in college, but I have gotten much better in the last few years since graduating. EDIT: Largely because I was a lazy college student but also because I wanted to shred the "skinny guy" label.

Agreed so much. As a bigger gal myself, I hate it when I see large(r) women saying, 'real women have curves/only dogs like bones/having no curves are like jeans with no pockets, where do the hands go?'. Personally, if you identify as a woman, you are a 'real woman'. None of this curvy, skinny, fat, real woman shit.

I came on here to say this too. I'm 5'10 and 135 (female), and people feel that it's completely acceptable to come up to me out of nowhere and comment on my weight. Even my boss has made comments from time to time.

People think that because being skinny is desirable, that they're complimenting you by calling you skinny, or that even if they're calling you a "skinny bitch" you can't take offense because they're still telling you that you're skinny.

I am exactly five feet tall, I weight exactly a hundred pounds, and I'm a female. I work out 3 times a week, have a balanced and fat free diet, and take supplements for my iron deficiency. I'm extremely healthy and I absolutely love my body. I hear the "eat something" and "skinny bitch" thing a lot, and people throw in things like "miniature" and "shortie" jokingly about my height too, and I find none of it amusing. It really sucks to be happy in your own skin and have people constantly point out bullshit reasons for why they think you shouldn't be.

I'm the same height/weight as you are and people never gave me the time of day until my boobs suddenly started to grow around age 20. It was weird and very noticeable how differently people treated me after that.

EDIT: wow! this just blew up! i just posted a passive aggressive complaint that i had been harboring for a bit to get it off my chest (haha terrible pun!) and you guys have been AMAZING at helping my self-esteem! I hope i didn't come off as too whiny or too shallow and i'm glad that there are definitely quality men out there for whom boobs aren't a big deal. Also CROP TOPS. how did i not know this before?! Thank guys!

:) very often people will say "girls are girl, boobs are boobs, and i love them all no matter what the shape or size"

but when you're at the club and your friend which weighs probably 15lbs more than you but has melons and you have grapes, tell me which one attracts more men?

But i do appreciate the thought, thank you very much.

One thing that i dislike about small boobs that isn't linked with self-esteem, is that tops often don't look so good on girls with flat chests. I'd wager most tops look the best when you're at least a B verging on a C. I love clothes and I'm not materialistic but I like using clothes to reflect the way I feel. I can't ever wear strapless dresses, anything with low cleavage, or anything that accentuates the breasts and let me tell you, nobody makes tops that accentuate your flat stomach... :P

I feel exactly the same. I myself am flat chested. I wish I could wear the tops that accentuate that part. I love those v-neck tees. With a nice pair of boobs I think it looks nice, but at times it makes me feel a bit weird since nothing is there. Sometimes even finding a dress or trying on a certain top there's loose fabric. Sometimes I feel I can't really be sexy. I hate it. Sucks really.

Doing the ninja thing around the office is always a joy. I walk very light and don't make much noise when I move about so when I walk up to a co worker's desk I usually have to whistle or make some kind of noise to let them know I'm there or heart attacks ensue. Fitting into tiny places is fun, rabbit holes and chuck e cheese tubes!

Well yesterday in Russian class, my teacher was apparently teaching a word for "skinny" when I heard "At least I'm not as skinny as Twiggynoodle, I'd get carried off in the wind!"

I've also been called "emaciated" by her when we were learning appearance adjectives months ago, and sophomore year of college my teacher asked me what I eat in a week and shoved crackers into my hands. She also asked my boyfriend to make sure I ate dinner. I have no eating problems.

So basically:

People think it's okay to call skinny people things like anorexic, emaciated, or just point out their weight in casual conversation

People rant about how skinny people shouldn't be able to claim they're out of shape. It only shows that they're envious and makes them look bad, IMO.

I know it doesn't help, but I was guilty of #1 for a while and it stemmed from my own insecurities. After talking with friends who were the same we came to the conclusion that it's a defense mechanism to make ourselves feel not as fat.

25 and still maintaining the skinny and drink lots of beer. Though, my stomach is notably softer than it used to be and my dad has a gut... it scares me.

Also, I smoke weed and get reverse munchies (food often freaks me out when high, especially meat) and that makes for some goodness. I have a drug test coming up and took some metabolism boosting vitamins to give me super metabolism. Pretty sure I'll do alright since THC lingers in your fat cells.

Irritating. I'm 134, 6'0", & male. People feel like since I'm not fat that they can make whatever kind of comments they want to about my weight (I've literally had strangers in public comment on my weight). I've finally gotten sick enough of it that next time it happens....I'm bringing the smackdown!

I apologize on behalf of "fat" people. I've never called anyone a skinny bitch before, but I've thought it. I've thought it loud and hard. Being overweight is always on my mind. (as I'm sure it is with many other people) When seeing someone who has what I consider a good body, you being a person with possible horrible problems of your own is not what I'm thinking about. I'm thinking that my life as it is, would be far better with your body instead of my own.

That being said many of my problems will be solved when I am skinnier and therefore healthier. Would anyone here that has complaints about being skinny actually trade places with someone who is fat? I will never go back to the way I was once I get where I want to be. For someone who has never been overweight, what are your thoughts?

You are right. There is not one person who is thin that would trade places with a fat person, myself included. Why would I ever want to be fat? It's one of my biggest fears and I'm hoping after I have two kids I will be able to get back to how I am now at 24, 5'5 and 118 pounds.

We're all a victim to our own biases sometimes, and I'm guilty of it too. I think overweight people have a much harder time than skinny people, so I'm definitely happy with what I've got. However, there's always that grass that's always greener, ya know?

I'm a 26 year old female. I'm 5'11. I used to be 130 pounds and honestly, it is amazing how much nicer people are to skinny girls. Now that I'm a 170 pounds I never get hit on and guys don't hold the doors open for me.

I'm 5'3 and I weigh 97-100 pounds. People can be judgey. They assume I have anorexia or they try to find something else wrong with me, because if they can't be thin without starving themselves or exercising, then obviously I can't either. I feel like I have to have a disclaimer sometimes, because I don't starve myself just to be skinny.

I don't have a lot of energy. My kneecaps knock against each other when I lay on my side and it's uncomfortable. I feel like I have to finish meals all the time, even when I know it'll make me feel sick.

I'm a 5' girl, 88 pounds
It's not as much fun as it probably seems. As much as larger girls complain that guys want thin girls, we all know that curves are much more attractive. It's embarrassing to feel dried up looking and empty, like you're a shell and so many girls around you are soft and huggable.
I can't lift heavy things, I know that pretty much anyone I see could knock me down, people think I'm much younger than I am, and I just feel weak.
Fat people are usually seen as ugly, but almost everyone would prefer a little chub to a flat and dry girl.

Oh, and I hate that I can't complain about there not being a jean size below 0.

But in truth, I think we all do like it at least a little. I'm not a smug skinny bitch, but I do feel better than I used to (before I was skinny) when eating in a group setting and not having to worry about fat stereotypes or looking like I'm the fatty, eating all the food. I hated that.

Up until I graduated college I was considered too skinny (5'9", 140lbs). People would constantly tell me to gain weight, eat more, call me a stick, toothpick, etc. I personally just brushed it off and didn't let it get to me because I knew there wasn't much I could do about it. I was constantly eating fatty, greasy, unhealthy food and wouldn't gain a single pound.

It wasn't until I got a desk job after college that I actually started to gain weight. I think it's from sitting more (not walking around campus) and eating more junk/fast food. I seem to have peaked at about 180lbs for the moment and now people are telling me that I look healthier ಠ_ಠ

As someone who is slightly on the overweight side, I still couldn't agree with all of this more. Honestly each person has their own normal weight. There's different builds, different metabolisms, different weight thresholds for each. Everyone is going to have something different and I think generalizing what the normal weight should be is what messes with people's minds. I hate how it's considered bad to call out someone on being too fat but not too skinny. I also hate the assumptions that people make about someone being too skinny. I grew up with friends who were naturally very thin and struggled daily to gain weight because they didn't reach the norm. In all reality they were just naturally like that but they still had to put up with rude comments and assumptions from other people that didn't know them.

What I would like to point out, though, is that people tend to prefer pointing a finger because they don't want to take the time to think about the actual reality surrounding each person. It's like someone reading the cover of a book and judging how good it will be based on what the title and cover art is. More often than not, a person's weight is tied to several things, not just 'you eat too little' or 'you eat too much'. It is very much true that the norm is almost impossible to nail down. If you're too skinny, you need to be up to a certain weight, and if you're too fat, you need to be down to a certain weight. The fat percentage from person to person is different for normal and I rarely find people taking this into account.

What it boils down to, in my opinion, is that many people make too many assumptions based on what they see and never move beyond what they see to learn of/think on the actual/possible facts. Stereotypes can be often used to fill the blanks so people can gather their opinion quicker and be done with it, never giving it a second thought. There are going to be the cases where there are unhealthy thin people and unhealthy overweight people. That goes without saying. But using those cases to generalize everyone who appears similar is terribly unfair to those who are naturally so. That being said, I know this does not apply to everyone, but, especially where I live, people have you judged before they ever learn your name.

I used to be one in high school. 5'7", never higher than 135, often 115-125.

I got teased a lot and my mother was worried about me getting hurt or getting sick. At the same time I was terrified of gaining weight. One of my happiest moments was when I was able to squeeze between a desk and a wall without touching either.

As a woman you only feel skinny when you're being mocked and all other times you feel fat.

I've been called anorexic so many times in my life I honestly started thinking something was wrong with me. I'm female, 5'9 and 115lbs. In Jr. High I used to plead with the universe to just make my thighs a little bigger, give me a bigger ass and some boobs and all my life problems would go away! I truly do not understand how calling someone fat is so unbelievable horrid, but calling someone anorexic or too skinny is just a joke and 'no need to take it to heart'. Telling someone that they are unacceptable in they way that they look, whether they are tall, short, big framed, small framed, black, white, purple or green is wrong. But besides going through all of that, I can truly say that I love how I am built and every person who ever made me feel bad about being too skinny is now waaayyyy over weight. THE TABLES HAVE TURNED ;) but since I know how it feels to be told you are unacceptable, I would never say anything to a larger set person telling them they need to change.

I'm a girl, 5'4 and fluctuate between 105-115 lbs. I'm skinny, and when I do gain weight, it all goes to my bottom and not my bust. I would love to gain weight and be happy with a "fuller figure," but my genetics just make me look off proportion wise.

I'm 6'2'' and I used to weigh about 140lbs a couple years ago. It's not like I really watched what I ate or anything, I'm just naturally skinny as shit. Well, I got kinda tired of being that skinny, and i've put on about 30lbs of muscle in the last 2 years. It's definitely possible, it's just a lot harder, and you have to spend a lot of money and willpower to force yourself to eat.

That being said, I do enjoy being skinny. If it came down to being too skinny or being too fat, I bet most people would pick the skinny side.

I do have the problem with clothes not fitting, and I think most skinny people over 6 feet do, because American fashion sucks donkey dicks for tall, skinny people.

One more thing, when fat people used to tell me i'm too skinny and that I need to put on some weight, I was NEVER bothered by it. Why would I be?

I'm 5'6 and 115. I've always felt average, but I do notice that all through my life I've always been questioned about my eating habits. People, even acquaintances will inquire or judge how much I eat. I've never had an eating problem, and do actually ingest a lot of food. But I think people like to have something to attach the thinness too, rather than just genetics. I'd trade my tiny tits for a nice silhouette any day.

I am a 5'7" girl with a 28 inch bust. It looks like I never went through puberty. I look pretty much identical to my middle-school pictures. All of my cousins are (DD's) curvy and despite their ages they can pass for my older sisters.

I still view people that are more curvy/developed as "older" than me in my mind. If they say, "Oh I'm 4 years younger than you!" it's always a bit of a mindfuck. You'd think I'd be used to it by now.

I constantly worry that my husband isn't attracted to me. I have to order bras from china or shop in the training bra section of the little girls' department. I wear a 28a bra and size 12 girls underwear as a 24 year old woman. My husband actually is a bit overweight (not by much) and his pecs are larger than my boobs.

I also can't do much work as most people (physical labor) and I make minimum wage despite having years of retail experience. Freight kills me, and people think that I'm exaggerating. I've done five hours of freight before to come home and sleep for 16 hours straight. My best friend just gave birth, and when I was holding her 8lb newborn baby, my arms went numb so I had to put her down. I felt awful. My doctors say I'm just a small woman, and these things happen. I also couldn't carry my textbooks across campus when I was in college and disability and the health center refused to do anything about it. All of my professors wanted me to carry my books to each class (they were back to back) so I had about 35lbs on me for several hours a day and I was 100lbs. I wanted to try to break my legs so I could get a wheelchair, since that seemed like my only option.

I can't work with women, especially larger women around my age because they think my weight is a personal insult. They get catty and competitive. I had to quit my last job because of the comments and harassment regarding my weight and appearance. I might have to leave my current job too for a similar reason.

I'm about 6'2, 140 poinds. I've always thought i have a reasonably attractive face and hair, but i hate my body. I don't wear t shirts out in public because my arms are so skinny, i'd much rather go with a shirt or hoody (even in the heat). For this reason i hate beaches and holidays to hot places. I'm working out a bit now and have started noticing a slight benefit but nothing substantial. I try eating loads and i do quite often, but i just never put on weight.

Basically, it sucks being really thin. And if fat people hate being called fat so much, you wouldnt mock us skinny people because you know how it feels.

Yeah, I'm 5'10" and I'm only 120 pounds, so you're much closer to a reasonable body fat. I literally cannot gain weight. I drank that Ensure crap for awhile and exercized, but the best I ever got was 135. It's not like it's unappealing to girls, it's just more of a niche appeal, and I'm OK with that.

As a female, 5'8" and 130 lbs I've gotta say it's pretty awesome in general. I love being able to shop at designer sample sales and cute boutiques. I don't really exercise and I'd have to say I eat moderately well, but not insanely healthy.

The uncool part is it being socially acceptable for my friends to either make a huge deal out of me "pigging out" at times or "eating like a bird" at other times, or in-laws calling me and my family skinny bitches. Not funny guys ಠ_ಠ

My sis used to be 5'4" and 90lbs and would always have store clerks fawning over her telling her how they're SOOOOO jealous and they wish THEY could fit a size 1 as well. I think my family has it easy these days with skinny being "in"... my poor grandmother had a song made up by her classmates in the 30s to tease her about being so skinny, "Nan Jones, a bag of bones, floating down the river".

TL;DR it's pretty easy being a skinny woman these days, especially compared to the olden days, except when friends are jealous :/

As you'd expect, I get the "put some meat on your bones" shit all the time and have for as long as I can remember. I've always been skinny, and like most guys in my/our situation, there's nothing we can do about it.

I eat just like everybody else, it just goes straight through me. I've worked out (played hockey my whole life, lots of weight training) and it doesn't really matter. I capped out my senior year of high school at 155 then suffered a season-ending injury and haven't gotten above 145 in the decade since. When I hit 155, I was on a rigorous diet and exercise program to gain weight, and I only put on 15 pounds over the course of my junior year up until my injury, and I was extremely dedicated to the plan (basically meant varsity or cut, HS hockey in MN is brutal physically).

Anyway, you'd think the comments wouldn't really bother me, but they do. Hearing I need to work out more, eat more, etc. has always irked me. I don't like being skinny just like fat people don't like being fat. Sure, being skinny doesn't quite carry the stigma, but for a guy it does to a point.

Another thing that's kinda bothered me is the people who think I'm weak because of my weight. I may be skinny, but it's because there's no fat on me, not because there's no muscle. Obviously I'm not beefcake, but I'm pretty damn strong for my size.

And as everybody has mentioned so far, finding clothes that fit properly is fucking impossible. I'm either swimming in it or look like I'm wearing kids clothes.

I'm 5'9" and 130lb girl and I if I complain that I need to work out or my pants are too tight I get looks like I'm crazy. You know what just because I'm skinny doesn't mean I have some (I said some) of the same problems bigger people do. It still sucks if I gain weight and have to buy the next size up pants to compensate. Also, I don't eat the most healthiest things in the world, I could be more in shape. So when I say I need to work out, don't look at me like I have grown two heads. Also when people say I should gain more weight, that I'm too skinny, it could just be I'm at a comfortable weight for me personally.