Actually the one time I met someone from Grindr we didn't have sex until like four months later. Hah. This was adam4adam. Well, I'm back, safe and sound! Got pounded which is about 100% better than not getting pounded... But it really wasn't all that great. He wasn't really staying very hard for very long...

One of my most disastrous non-relationships started out with a booty-call and Star Trek Voyager. It ended up with both of us both seeing other people, for quite an extended period of time, but also sort of being jealously attached to each other, and both kind of hating each other at the same time. He was forking mental, and I think I probably was too at that point. We basically used to meet up, not have sex, end up not talking and just lurk around at his place until one of us got pissed off and we both stormed out.

But yeah, booty-calls that involve Voyager can lead only down a path of darkness.

Still, he had like a nine inch wang.

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Mars wrote:

Actually the one time I met someone from Grindr we didn't have sex until like four months later. Hah. This was adam4adam. Well, I'm back, safe and sound! Got pounded which is about 100% better than not getting pounded... But it really wasn't all that great. He wasn't really staying very hard for very long...

Hey, at least I got some Star Trek Voyager watching out of it.

Well that and dick.

Ive always been envious of the ease of casual sex for my gay brothers.

Random hookups scare the hell out of me! I know it's a part of gay culture though, so it's probably different and more safe than heterohookups. Be safe, Mars!

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Yeah, I mean, none of gay male friends would even bat an eye at it. It didn't remotely even occur to me to think of 'safety' (other than the condom kind) until my lady roomie mentioned it. But now that I now there are people in my life who would worry etc, I'll keep it in mind a little bit.

I remember the first time my old housemate (who is a queer trans guy) did a Grindr hookup, and I was really nervous for him. He texted me the address he'd be at, (I think mostly for my own peace of mind). Everything turned out totally fine. He had a bunch of others after that and it was always cool.

I think I was really only worried because of the trans thing - all the cis gay guys I know seem to be pretty nonchalant about online hookups. I think my housemate used to tell people beforehand, and it was actually never an issue whatsoever (which was a pleasant surprise to me).

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Yeah, the trans thing is like a 0% issue for all the hookups I've had. True, most have all known before hand via me being very open online about it, but there have been two that were met through more natural in-person scenarios, and when both started getting a bit heavy I'd be all awkward "so... (insert X trans conversation here)" and they both just kinda did the "wow, whoa!" and then quickly shrug and not act any different.

So in that way, pretty cool thing about many gay cis dudes. Only trans related bummer in these experiences is most (maybe all to be honest) have mentioned in one way or another something about their experience with [le vag]. Which is usually about them having been with a lady once. Or something. (about two were more gender neutral about it). Maybe if I was more into just butt they wouldn't; but I don't know, that other hole I got is kinda fun. So I shrug it off.

Yeah, shame he was emotionally childlike, indifferent to the feelings of others, flaky, possessive and standoffish.

Still, he had like a nine inch wang.

hah, this describes 90% of my "romantic" affairs in 2011. somehow I managed to find a boyfriend with a huge dick who is also an awesome person. which is awesome, because I had sort of given up on that.

Yeah, the trans thing is like a 0% issue for all the hookups I've had. True, most have all known before hand via me being very open online about it, but there have been two that were met through more natural in-person scenarios, and when both started getting a bit heavy I'd be all awkward "so... (insert X trans conversation here)" and they both just kinda did the "wow, whoa!" and then quickly shrug and not act any different.

So in that way, pretty cool thing about many gay cis dudes. Only trans related bummer in these experiences is most (maybe all to be honest) have mentioned in one way or another something about their experience with [le vag]. Which is usually about them having been with a lady once. Or something. (about two were more gender neutral about it). Maybe if I was more into just butt they wouldn't; but I don't know, that other hole I got is kinda fun. So I shrug it off.

sorry if this is totally out of line to ask about, but i am genuinely curious; you have never met a gay cis-dude who found vagina off-putting? I am really wondering because I have at least a few gay friends who are genuinely creeped out by vaginas. but maybe that is a rare phenomenon?

sorry if this is totally out of line to ask about, but i am genuinely curious; you have never met a gay cis-dude who found vagina off-putting? I am really wondering because I have at least a few gay friends who are genuinely creeped out by vaginas. but maybe that is a rare phenomenon?

Nothing's ever out-of-line to ask Mars.

Nope, never have. Here's the thing; I'm definitely a bit slutty sure, but still kind of a baby slut, lots more boners to go before I feel I have a really good size pool for these kind of answers.

Also, I strongly feel that a lot of gay guys might think this because either they've only ever experienced vaginas as 'trying to be straight' or not ever experiencing them at all and only seeing them in porn, on women. I think it's super super different with trans guys. When you are actually interacting with a trans guy as a gay cis guy.. I mean, if you find the trans guy attractive and arousing, it's really not going to matter what's in his pants, especially if you're a top ad he's a bottom. Also, most trans guys genetalia looks way different than a lady's genetalia due to a certain effect of T, and also more than likely we're quite hairy. (I've actually had a guy, after we had sex and were laying together, ask in confusion about my penis) (because the clitorus (I hate that word) grows quite considerably and really looks remarkably like an uncircumcised penis) (xtube has some good vids if you search 'trans guy'; tcubboy's vid looks like he's on T but with no surgery, iconoclastboy's vid's are awesome and very similar to what many trans guys are naturally like except he's had a surgery to attach the urethra to it, so in case you get confused that's why he can stand and pee)

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sorry if this is totally out of line to ask about, but i am genuinely curious; you have never met a gay cis-dude who found vagina off-putting? I am really wondering because I have at least a few gay friends who are genuinely creeped out by vaginas. but maybe that is a rare phenomenon?

Nothing's ever out-of-line to ask Mars.

Nope, never have. Here's the thing; I'm definitely a bit slutty sure, but still kind of a baby slut, lots more boners to go before I feel I have a really good size pool for these kind of answers.

Also, I strongly feel that a lot of gay guys might think this because either they've only ever experienced vaginas as 'trying to be straight' or not ever experiencing them at all and only seeing them in porn, on women. I think it's super super different with trans guys. When you are actually interacting with a trans guy as a gay cis guy.. I mean, if you find the trans guy attractive and arousing, it's really not going to matter what's in his pants, especially if you're a top ad he's a bottom. Also, most trans guys genetalia looks way different than a lady's genetalia due to a certain effect of T, and also more than likely we're quite hairy. (I've actually had a guy, after we had sex and were laying together, ask in confusion about my penis) (because the clitorus (I hate that word) grows quite considerably and really looks remarkably like an uncircumcised penis) (xtube has some good vids if you search 'trans guy'; tcubboy's vid looks like he's on T but with no surgery, iconoclastboy's vid's are awesome and very similar to what many trans guys are naturally like except he's had a surgery to attach the urethra to it, so in case you get confused that's why he can stand and pee)

oh, interesting! seriously, it's amazing what hormones can do (and surgery for that matter). and i guess there will be gay guys who are super square and others who aren't.. but i've just always wondered. i am happy you haven't had any bad experiences!

sorry if this is totally out of line to ask about, but i am genuinely curious; you have never met a gay cis-dude who found vagina off-putting? I am really wondering because I have at least a few gay friends who are genuinely creeped out by vaginas. but maybe that is a rare phenomenon?

Nothing's ever out-of-line to ask Mars.

Nope, never have. Here's the thing; I'm definitely a bit slutty sure, but still kind of a baby slut, lots more boners to go before I feel I have a really good size pool for these kind of answers.

Also, I strongly feel that a lot of gay guys might think this because either they've only ever experienced vaginas as 'trying to be straight' or not ever experiencing them at all and only seeing them in porn, on women. I think it's super super different with trans guys. When you are actually interacting with a trans guy as a gay cis guy.. I mean, if you find the trans guy attractive and arousing, it's really not going to matter what's in his pants, especially if you're a top ad he's a bottom. Also, most trans guys genetalia looks way different than a lady's genetalia due to a certain effect of T, and also more than likely we're quite hairy. (I've actually had a guy, after we had sex and were laying together, ask in confusion about my penis) (because the clitorus (I hate that word) grows quite considerably and really looks remarkably like an uncircumcised penis) (xtube has some good vids if you search 'trans guy'; tcubboy's vid looks like he's on T but with no surgery, iconoclastboy's vid's are awesome and very similar to what many trans guys are naturally like except he's had a surgery to attach the urethra to it, so in case you get confused that's why he can stand and pee)

Pssssst...not everyone's ding-dong grows on T. Some people's genitals (ahem, *looks down*) look exactly the same even after several years.

This has also not at all been my experience, as far as whether cisgender people will be attracted to me. It may also partly be because I'm actually not a man, so people who are oriented towards men are (probably) not attracted to me, but, just from my own experience, the incongruency between my genital configuration and the gender that people think I am definitely results in people not wanting to have sex with me.

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I have yet to meet a guy who wants it as frequently as I do. I mean, once a day is good but some days twice would be awesome. I'm okay with skipping a day occasionally, but is 3 times a day occasionally unreasonable?

I take care of myself when needed, but it's not the same as having sex.

YUP, I know just what you mean! I always resent the trope that guys want sex more than girls because this has never been my experience.

Ah, this has been my exact experience and it has occasionally been frustrating, to say the least.

Also, in the past few months I have bought an under bed harness and one of those cage bra things and have only used both of those things, like, twice. That needs to change.