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https://www.thrivingnow.com/rick/#commentsThu, 10 May 2018 11:11:08 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/wp/rick/Gliding scale sessions for All. Rick Wilkes is an EFT Tapping Expert who coaches people of all ages and lifestyle orientations to transform their emotional world so they can live, laugh, and love with confidence. He's a leader in the development of simple and profoundly effective emotional technologies like EFT Tapping that release emotional and physical pain. He loves helping clients in over 77 countries by phone, Skype, and internet to feel the clarity of their own inner guidance.

Gliding Scale Coaching & EFT Tapping with Rick

Any questions before we get started? Feel free to email me personally at Rick@Thrivingnow.com. Looking forward to working with you!

Rick Wilkes, Emotional Freedom Coach

Do you want to live, laugh, and love with clarity and confidence?…Yes? I do, too! Yet, it is painfully clear that with all of life’s emotional stresses and strains, each of us needs support and tools and skills if we hope to live a thriving life. And that’s my specialty.

Do you have lots of time to spare?…No? Good, I don’t either! It’s why in sessions together we’ll use a simple, quick, and profoundly effective emotional technology — EFT Tapping — to release emotional and physical pain. (If you don’t know how to tap, I’ll show you how. It’s easy.)

I love helping each person find the peace and clarity of their inner YES. Over the past 24 years I’ve worked with thousands from around the world — from 4-year-olds to 90 year-olds and across the spectrum of lifestyle orientations. Today, I call myself an emotional environmentalist. In practical terms, those of us who are stepping up to clean up the emotional world we share are crucial to the well-being of our intimate relationships and our planet.

Does this sound intriguing to you? If so, you can get started today by scheduling a gliding scale session below. If you have questions, email me personally at Rick@Thrivingnow.com. If you’d like to be Thriving, and you’re ready to have expert support and a powerful emotional tool at your fingertips, let’s engage together!

Warm smiles,

Gliding Scale Coaching Sessions by Telephone or Skype

Thriving Now is a worldwide community with members from diverse backgrounds and economic situations — so it is clear a single “standard price” cannot work equitably. If you choose to work with me, you will pick a gliding scale payment for each session that is generous and balanced for us both from a range of options. Learn Why Rick Does Gliding Scale Sessions

You may request recording of your coaching sessions for your private use at no extra charge.

Visa, Mastercard, American Express, Discover, Paypal, and Checks are accepted.

As an Emotional Freedom Coach and Trauma and Pain Relief Specialist with over 24 years of experience, Rick Wilkes uses intuition and a deep understanding of human nature to bring relief, clarity, and insight to those looking for a better way. He delights in co-creating with clients in over 77 countries through phone, Skype, and internet.

Connecting body, mind, and spirit, he helps clients in private sessions and in his group coaching programs to move out of suffering to a place where they begin to feel surprisingly calm and confident. From there he teaches them how to shift to vibrational states of THRIVING in every respect… physically vital, emotionally free, financially abundant, and spiritually connected to Source… and enjoy feeling light, playful, eager, and curious!

Rick lives and loves in Asheville, North Carolina where he can be found doing contact improv dance and playing river otter in the pristine streams of the surrounding mountains.

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https://www.thrivingnow.com/rick-gliding/#commentsWed, 09 May 2018 11:11:07 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/?page_id=13267Some of the most Beautiful Beings on the planet simply cannot afford $180 for a private coaching and tapping session. That’s reality. If you are one of them, Big Hugs… and Welcome. I’ve engaged with the hearts, minds, and emotions of those with millions in assets… and those who are struggling. One Truth is clear […]

]]>Some of the most Beautiful Beings on the planet simply cannot afford $180 for a private coaching and tapping session. That’s reality.

If you are one of them, Big Hugs… and Welcome.

I’ve engaged with the hearts, minds, and emotions of those with millions in assets… and those who are struggling. One Truth is clear to me:

The readiness of a person for transformation and emotional freedom is NOT pre-determined by their current financial status. Period.

Courage and Willingness are personal qualities, not financial ones.

If you are ready (even if you’re anxious, too!), and your intuition says that a session with me is a good next step, let’s see if we can make it EASY to glide towards a YES-YES for both of us.

Next Steps for You To Take

Take a few moments to both reflect on the reality of your financial situation and check with your heart what number feels right to you right NOW, that feels both generous and balanced for us to engage.

If this is hard for you, start at the full price of $180 and then go backwards and “try on” :

P.S. Please KNOW this… no matter what number you come up with, I will not find it “insulting.” I am very clear my “value” is not based on what someone can afford to pay. I’m blessed with heart-generous and appreciative clients… and always have been.

P.P.S. I call it “gliding scale” when the standard is “sliding scale” because GLIDING to me evokes a feeling of ease and flowing towards an experience consciously and with grace.

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Tue, 01 May 2018 11:11:19 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/wp/privacy-policy/Privacy Policy for Thriving Now, LLC. We are strongly committed to safeguarding the privacy of our visitors and customers. We operate under the following strict privacy policy...

The information and coaching we provide is intended to educate, inform, amuse, and inspire you on your journey towards optimal health and a thriving life. It is clearly not intended to replace a one-on-one relationship with a qualified health care or legal professional and is definitely not intended as medical or legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are under the care of any health professionals (or should be), we strongly encourage you to discuss modifications in your diet, lifestyle, exercise program, nutrition, or use of EFT Tapping with them prior to making any changes, and never discontinue or reduce prescription medications without consulting your doctor or pharmacist.

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This Privacy Policy describes how we collect, use, process and distribute your information, including Personal Data (as defined below) used to access this Website. We will not use or share your information with anyone except as described in this Privacy Policy. The use of information collected through our Website shall be limited to the purposes under this Privacy Policy and our Terms of Use for customers.

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We collect personal information from you so that we can provide you with a positive experience when utilizing our Website or content. We will only collect the minimum amount of information necessary for us to fulfill our obligation to you. We may collect:

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Please note that the information above (“Personal Data”) that you are giving to us is voluntarily, and by you providing this information to us you are giving consent for us to use, collect and process this Personal Data. You are welcome to opt-out or request for us to delete your Personal Data at any point by contacting us at support@thrivingnow.com.

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Note that whenever you voluntarily make your Personal Data available for viewing by others online through this Website or its content, it may be seen, collected and used by others, and therefore, we cannot be responsible for any unauthorized or improper use of the information that you voluntarily share (i.e., sharing a comment on a blog post, posting in a Facebook group that we manage, sharing details on a group coaching call, etc.).

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Personal Data that you provide to us is stored internally or through a data management system. Your Personal Data will only be accessed by those who help to obtain, manage or store that information, or who have a legitimate need to know such Personal Data (i.e., our hosting provider, email service provider, payment processors or team members).

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https://www.thrivingnow.com/do-you-hate-your-body/#respondThu, 18 Jan 2018 00:42:39 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/?p=17035Do You Hate Your Body? Would you be surprised to hear that a lot of people say “no” to that question… at first? So many of us have been hating at least some part of our body for so long that it’s like that old fish in water… It seems so natural and “normal” that […]

Just be with those areas for a minute. And if you have trouble with that, just notice that it’s hard to be with parts of you.

It’s a basic survival mechanism to be able to tune out a part of us that is injured temporarily… so we can escape danger or take care of more urgent needs. But we’re also designed to tune back in and address the issue “soon” if we can.

Yet, many of us were taught there were… and this may be hard to hear… defective parts of us that we couldn’t fix. That parts of us were unacceptable, useless, unlovable, or definitely not good enough.

And it wasn’t anything we knew how to fix… so we stayed tuned out.

We’ve been dragging that negative energy and dislike along with us for years, maybe decades… And wondering why we feel heavy, unlovable, and numb so much of the time.

We’d love for you to reconnect and help those parts of you feel loved… and to heal deeply and completely.

Here’s a recording of the free coaching call we did on I Hate (Parts of) My Bodywith tapping and guided visualizations:

]]>https://www.thrivingnow.com/do-you-hate-your-body/feed/0https://www.thrivingnow.com/do-you-hate-your-body/Got Clutter?http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThrivingNow/~3/LIShhSriDr8/
https://www.thrivingnow.com/got-clutter/#respondTue, 05 Dec 2017 22:39:12 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/?p=17019I bet you’ve tried to clean the clutter up before… and I bet that didn’t last long! It’s so frustrating when you put such effort into cleaning up and then 2 weeks later the same piles reappear. Do you know why those piles just come back? I’ll tell you in just a minute. First, I want to […]

(If you’re new to Crowdcast, you’ll sign up for a free account with your email and simple password. All your information is kept confidential.)

Okay, so why do those piles just come back?

Because it’s not about your stuff!

Clutter is a symptom of an emotional conflict. And until we resolve the inner emotional conflicts, the clutter will stick around.

Whether your emotional conflicts are about grief, loss, fear, love, or security, they need to be validated and healed. Then, and only then, will you make significant progress in your clutter challenges.

We know how frustrating the clutter cycle can be:

You make promises, clean it up… pile it up again… feel discouraged.

Feel overwhelmed!

So you make even louder promises… clean it up a bit… pile it up even more than before… feel even more discouraged and ashamed.

Rinse and repeat.

We want to help you break this cycle. That will be our focus next Monday. We invite you to…

]]>https://www.thrivingnow.com/got-clutter/feed/0https://www.thrivingnow.com/got-clutter/I Am Not Allowed To Change… I Am Bound By Family Ruleshttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThrivingNow/~3/YcdYlYAlMx0/
https://www.thrivingnow.com/no-changes-allowed/#commentsWed, 15 Nov 2017 12:11:38 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/wp/no-changes-allowed/What are family rules? They are the generational “laws of the universe” as your family understood them. There may be other levels of rules, but these are the ones we consider the most insidious because they are often unconscious and powerfully impact our lives. Changing these beliefs requires making them conscious... and then using energy tapping (EFT) to release their steadfast hold on our subconscious actions.

]]>Family rules… we pick up on them before we can even talk. How are we SUPPOSED to look, feel, and believe? What SHOULD we do in this circumstance?

Before, during, and after the time we spend with family gives us an opportunity to examine and even consciously change the rules. And tapping is a huge help!

What are family rules? They are the generational “laws of the universe” as your family understood them. There may be other levels of rules, but these are the ones we consider the most insidious because they are often unconscious and powerfully impact our lives. Changing these beliefs requires making them conscious… and then using Tapping (EFT) to release their steadfast hold on our subconscious actions.

What are family rules?

There may be other levels of rules, but these are the ones we consider the most insidious because they are often unconscious and powerful.

Generational “laws of the universe”

Passed down for generations and seem as solid as the “law” of gravity.

Great-great-great-great-grandma Josephine believed that life was hard and involved suffering and struggle. As a dynamic person, she convinced all those around her. Even many generations later, we grew up in a “marinade” of this belief. And we attract and focus in such a way that we prove her right over and over again. (law of attraction at work).

Circumstantial Rules and Childish (mis)-interpretations

Often a 3 year old will make a decision about something and hold onto it “forever” unless is made conscious and shifted energetically.

If mother was overwhelmed and tired a lot, the child may have interpreted that to mean “I am a lot of work. I am difficult.”

If she preferred quiet people and criticized noise, the child can figure out “I must be quiet or people will judge me”.

If the child’s having fun, and independently the father goes into a drunken rage, the child may decide that play equals pain.

Family rules limit us.

Family rules are what was decided in the past, they are not guidance for today.

They can block abundance and joy in our lives.

Families have all kinds of unspoken rules.

This is the normal and natural way people in society interact.

It helps the group function in a more efficient manner.

But how many of those rules are unexamined and have no purpose?

How many have been handed down for generations and no longer apply?

People often use guilt to reinforce these rules, and you can tell you’ve hit one when you feel guilt or shame for what you “should” or “shouldn’t” have done.

Some of the rules we live by are extremely out-of-date, or might have been misinterpreted when we were small.

When confronted about a rule they may say, “we never meant that!” Because it was either misunderstood or not conscious, only energetic.

Example: a small child is playing with his toys and runs over his dad’s foot with a toy truck. The dad, half in exasperation, half joking says, ‘you are a pain in the butt’. The boy internalizes that “rule” and knows he is a pain in the butt for the rest of his life. He carries it with him and sees everything through those “glasses.” He may find it harder to get close to people or ask for help, because of a casual comment.

We often follow family rules because we think it’s the cost of safety, acceptance, and love.

Not following the rules causes disturbance in most families.

Even “violating” an unhelpful, painful rule can cause others to be afraid. Especially if they think you must follow the rule to be safe

From a viewpoint of lack, our family (or we might have interpreted it this way) may have decided that you can’t have everything…

So one daughter can be the smart one, one can be popular, and one can have more money. It has be parceled out fairly.

If one tries to have abundance in other aspects, she may be seen as selfish, greedy, depriving her siblings.

People pass on what they honestly believed is true.

What are the family rules that hold you back?

“It’s hard for us to lose weight.”

“It’s in the genes.”

“We just don’t do well in business.”

“Our family is susceptible to illness.”

“Our family is just not happy or lucky, that’s for other people.”

“We’re just not good looking.”

“We have to work hard for everything we get.”

What are your family rules? Share below!

If we can remember the specific incident when we learned the rule, we can go back and tap on it.
Sometimes we’re not sure, we just seemed to absorb it from the air around us, doing EFT on the belief can help us see it from a new perspective.

Some family rules are wonderful and supportive.

Sure, some rules now seem outdated and limiting. Others you will recognize as being core to your character and integrity. You have the freedom to choose which ones you follow and which ones you can toss out and start fresh.

]]>https://www.thrivingnow.com/no-changes-allowed/feed/2no What are family rules? They are the generational &#8220;laws of the universe&#8221; as your family understood them. There may be other levels of rules, but these are the ones we consider the most insidious because they are often unconscious and powerfullThriving Now LLC What are family rules? They are the generational &#8220;laws of the universe&#8221; as your family understood them. There may be other levels of rules, but these are the ones we consider the most insidious because they are often unconscious and powerfully impact our lives. Changing these beliefs requires making them conscious... and then using energy tapping (EFT) to release their steadfast hold on our subconscious actions. The post I Am Not Allowed To Change… I Am Bound By Family Rules appeared first on Thriving Now. EFT,Tapping,LOA,Law,of,Attraction,Trauma,Relief,Pain,Relief,Coachinghttps://www.thrivingnow.com/no-changes-allowed/NO! You Can’t Make Me!http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThrivingNow/~3/f0ZO5zNGmqg/
https://www.thrivingnow.com/no-you-cant-make-me/#commentsFri, 11 Aug 2017 09:27:35 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/wp/no-you-cant-make-me/When we demonstrate our own personal power to resist and say NO, we feel in control. And that feels good. Yet, sometimes we resist that which is our own stated best interest. We say NO to ourselves! We say NO to our own positive choices.

Do you like to be in control? Who doesn’t! Ever since we discovered the power of the word NO as a child, we’ve used NO to keep away that which we don’t want… or at least that is the theory.

When we demonstrate our own personal power to resist and say NO, we feel in control. And that feels good. Yet, sometimes we resist that which is our own stated best interest. We say NO to ourselves! We say NO to our own positive choices.

There is nothing wrong with “NO.” We all need to be able to say NO and mean it. And we want to have the emotional freedom to say YES! to life as well. The suffering comes when NO fights with YES within the same mind. My mind. Your mind.

Most of the time, we get really upset with ourselves when we say we want one thing but our behaviors demonstrate we’re actually saying NO. Instead of getting angry, what if we have some fun with this conflict? What happens if we love and accept ourselves even with the conflict? What if we use curiosity and playfulness rather than deep seriousness as we tap? Let’s try an experiment and find out. Tap with me as we do some rapid Tapping. (See our free e-book on Learning EFT Tapping if you need to review the tapping points first)

(Karate chop) Even though I want to do this, I don’t want to do this, and you can’t make me!

(Karate chop) Even though I don’t want to do this, and I want to do this, and I can’t make me, I’m okay anyway!

(Karate chop) Even though I don’t wanna and I do and I don’t and I will and I won’t and NO NO NO NO NO! You can’t make me! I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway!

(Top of head) No! You can’t make me!
(Eyebrow) I don’t want to!
(Side of eye) Yes, I want to!
(Under eye) No, you don’t!
(Under nose) You can’t make me!
(Chin) No! No! No! No! No!
(Collarbone) Pulleez! Don’t make me!
(Under arm) I have to! I just have to!
(Top of head) I can! I can’t! I will! I won’t! I must! I mustn’t… or I’ll die!

Take a breath…

(Karate chop) Even though I am not healthy, I want to be healthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am clearly not healthy, I intend to be healthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am confused about health, I choose to be healthy!
(Eyebrow) No I don’t, and you can’t make me!
(Side of eye) I want to be thin and have lots of energy!
(Under eye) No, I want to be bigger! Comfortable! Fat & happy!
(Under nose) You can’t make me be thin!
(Chin) You can’t make me fat!
(Collarbone) No wonder I’m confused!
(Under arm) You can’t make me be sick! I choose to be in control!
(Top of head) I say YES to health, today, right now!

Take a breath…

(Karate chop) Even though I am not wealthy, I want to be wealthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am clearly not wealthy, I intend to be wealthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am conflicted about wealth, I choose to be wealthy!
(Eyebrow) No I don’t, and you can’t make me!
(Side of eye) I want to have lots of money!
(Under eye) No, I want to be poor. I love debt! Who would I be without bills I can’t pay?
(Under nose) You can’t make me have money!
(Chin) You can’t stop me from making lots of money!
(Collarbone) I am so torn!
(Under arm) You can’t make me be poor! I choose to be in control!
(Top of head) I say YES to wealth, today, right now!

Take a breath…

(Karate chop) Even though I’ve been stuck, I want to live my dreams!
(Karate chop) Even though I’m not taking enough action, I intend to live my dreams!
(Karate chop) Even though I’m stuck and it’s my fault, I choose to live my dreams anyway!
(Eyebrow) No I don’t, and you can’t make me!
(Side of eye) I want live a fulfilling life!
(Under eye) No, I want to be miserable and lonely!!
(Under nose) You can’t make me have joy!
(Chin) You can’t stop me from living my dreams!
(Collarbone) I’ve been so stuck!
(Under arm) You can’t make me stay stuck! I choose to be in control!
(Top of head) I say YES to life, love, and peace… and to the biggest and best I can be, today, right now!

Take a breath…

(Karate chop) Even though I’ve been arguing with myself, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.
(Karate chop) Even though I’ve been saying NO to myself, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.
(Karate chop) Even though I’ve been focused on being in control rather than being creative and flexible, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.
(Eyebrow) It’s okay to say No.
(Side of eye) It’s okay to say Yes!
(Under eye) I’m sick and tired of saying Yes and No at the same time!
(Under nose) I’ve decided to be clear.
(Chin) It’s okay to be safe, and say Yes.
(Collarbone) It’s my choice.
(Under arm) I’m in control.
(Top of head) I love feeling safe, free, and in control of what I choose for my life, today, right now.

Take a deep breath… and another… and one more big one…

Now, say to yourself in your best imitation of a three-year-old: “No! You can’t make me!”

Does it feel different now? Is there a sense of silliness to it?? You can make it silly. You can choose to make all your indecisions silly, a comedy of confusion. And in the deep breaths that follow after you use EFT Tapping on the confusion and resistance, ask yourself for your truth. And put your YES! energy behind your truth. What Dad told you, what Mom showed you, and what society insists is ultimately just noise, distracting us from hearing the voice of our Higher Self.

I believe that in your heart, you can connect with the highest truth of Who You Are. You will know it by a feeling of YES!, a profoundly beautiful feeling in the center of your being that guides and nurtures your optimal energy and health from a source of love. Even if you don’t feel it yet, it’s there. And it is worth saying YES! to… if that is your choice. No one can make you, except you.

]]>https://www.thrivingnow.com/no-you-cant-make-me/feed/74no When we demonstrate our own personal power to resist and say NO, we feel in control. And that feels good. Yet, sometimes we resist that which is our own stated best interest. We say NO to ourselves! We say NO to our own positive choices. The post NO! YouThriving Now LLC When we demonstrate our own personal power to resist and say NO, we feel in control. And that feels good. Yet, sometimes we resist that which is our own stated best interest. We say NO to ourselves! We say NO to our own positive choices. The post NO! You Can&#8217;t Make Me! appeared first on Thriving Now. EFT,Tapping,LOA,Law,of,Attraction,Trauma,Relief,Pain,Relief,Coachinghttps://www.thrivingnow.com/no-you-cant-make-me/Limiting Your Talents and Geniushttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThrivingNow/~3/7oc9YCmeZtw/
https://www.thrivingnow.com/limiting-your-talents-and-genius/#respondWed, 09 Aug 2017 15:14:06 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/wp/limiting-your-talents-and-genius/What I see from an energy perspective is extremely gifted people energetically making life harder. We are so free, we can absolutely challenge ourselves (to near death even)! We can attract to us really dramatic experiences and beat the drum of them to show, “Hey, it wasn’t easy for me either!!!” I have no judgment about that, yet I ask my clients whether that is truly their heart’s desire. Are they willing to consider allowing it to be easy?

]]>I’m smarter than the average bear. And I’m cool with that. Yet, many times when growing up, it seems that I focused my attention on painful examples where potential friends were not comfortable with my genius—and were even intimidated. It stopped being fun to be smart.

One of my personal joys with EFT Tapping was returning to a place where my gifts feel natural and enjoyable to me. I did this by looking at specific events where teachers, friends, employees, and others interacted with me in a way that *I* started limiting myself.

Isn’t that what a limiting belief really is? Isn’t it a way to put a governor on our potential?

“Nope, you can’t make it easy. Your brother/sister/mother/father/co-worker/lover/friend has to work HARD for their success.”

Indeed, we have such a cultural bias that it has to be hard that we do NOT celebrate how easy it can be for those whose gifts and energy are in alignment. Sure, we talk about flow and being in The Zone. But the T.V. specials are about heroic overcoming of impossible obstacles.

Frankly, what I see from an energy perspective is extremely gifted people energetically making life harder. And we are so free, we can absolutely challenge ourselves (to near death even)! We can attract to us really dramatic experiences and beat the drum of them to show, “Hey, it wasn’t easy for me either!!!” I have no judgment about that, yet I ask my clients whether that is truly their heart’s desire.

Or, rather than making it hard, how about if it were surprisingly easy? I mean, if you’ve spent a lifetime making it hard on yourself, allowing life to be easy, allowing your creativity and genius to flow forth… will be hard! At least initially. That is where EFT Tapping can help. We look at the limiting beliefs, and we consciously decide whether they feel good to us. And if they do not, we take steps to shift the energy.

If you are reading this, it is my assumption that you have powerful creative gifts. Allowing it to be easy is a skill you can remember. If you want some coaching, consider becoming a Thriving Now Tapping Support Circle Member.

The following article by Ron Ball gives a specific example of a learned limiting belief.

I had a business client, Jerry, with some stress and success blocks that he wanted to explore. We tapped on various beliefs and fears around unworthiness, guilt, rejection, greed, and scarcity. There wasn’t much of an emotional charge to any of these.

Then I suggested to Jerry to tap on the different EFT points. While doing so, he was to ask his subconscious or creative mind what the block might be. Jerry was to relax and be receptive. In less than a minute, it happened. Jerry had an “aha” experience and an emotional reaction when he uncovered his limiting belief. The intensity of his feelings was quite high—a strong 10. After tapping a few rounds of EFT, he smiled and had a calmness about him. What was Jerry’s limiting belief?

Actually, it’s one that many people have without realizing. The belief is:

“You shouldn’t think you’re better than other people.”

Jerry remembered hearing it from his teacher in the first grade in elementary school. Since an authority figure said it, my client believed it as a “universal truth.” The word “better” is loaded with subjective meanings. Although the teacher may have intended to teach Jerry to have humility or respect for others, it was a negative affirmation that stayed with my client all these years. What if the teacher had flipped the negative, limiting belief to a positive one. For example, what if the teacher had said:

* You have unique talents and abilities and so do other people.

* Diversity is wonderful. You’ll find more things to appreciate in people.

* Each of us has our own brilliance. What’s yours?

* You’re so good at [talent]. Isn’t that exciting?

People are more talented than other people at some things. Or at least they believe they are and isn’t that the foundation for creating it their reality?

* Barbra Streisand is a better singer than most people.

* David Copperfield is a better magician than most people.

* Emeril Lagasse is a better cook than most people.

* Alice Walker is a better writer than most people.

Each of us are “better” at some things than other people. It may be an innate gift. Also, some people put more effort into things. Some people hone their talent. Some people have more passion. Some people are more willing to go out of their comfort zone than others. Some people exert more energy into achieving their potential. And the list goes on.

If you have this belief, here are some EFT setup phrases, you might try. Or discover your own:

Even though someone told me a long time ago not to think I’m better than other people, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though [whoever it was] told me not to think I’m better than other people, it was that person’s issue, not mine.

Even though [whoever it was] told me not to think I’m better than other people, I choose to express my talents and skills to the maximum.

Even though [whoever it was] told me not to think I’m better than other people, I choose to express my personal genius.

Even though [whoever it was] told me not to think I’m better than other people, I choose to know that I have marvelous skills and abilities.

Even though [whoever it was] told me not to think I’m better than other people, I am “better” at some things.

The beauty of EFT is that it’s a superb tool for helping you uncover limiting beliefs that you’re not even aware of. You can erase limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones of your choosing. EFT gives you the power to change your life.

]]>https://www.thrivingnow.com/limiting-your-talents-and-genius/feed/0https://www.thrivingnow.com/limiting-your-talents-and-genius/How do you deal with the stress of disappointment?http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThrivingNow/~3/X2beL0Fgu_Y/
https://www.thrivingnow.com/deal-stress-disappointment/#commentsWed, 18 Jan 2017 19:25:32 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/?p=15929 Our Stress Relief On Tap program goes LIVE on Thursday! It’s about turning mental, emotional, and physical distress into calm understanding and confidence. Join us here. How do you deal with the stress of disappointment? Or do you deal with it all? Being able to handle disappointment is KEY to having confidence and […]

Disappointment can feel overwhelming and just shut people down, and sometimes it leaves relationships in tatters. Learning how to deal with the stress around disappointment, not just the disappointment itself but the stress we feel, can be really powerful.

Rick- I’m someone who has a very little capacity for disappointment. A disappointment tends to be a big deal for my system. Part of it is I’m a very passionate person. I set my intentions very strongly, and I’m very sensitive. You may be, too. One of the things that I needed for my own well-being is a way to look at disappointment and feel it in a way that didn’t cascade into a bunch of negative stories.

Cathy- I think for most of us, our families didn’t know how to teach us how to handle disappointment. I learned not to ask, because my mother would get so upset if I was disappointed that I just learned that it was bad in general. I think that we sometimes go back to “Okay. I was four, and I was convinced I was going to get a pony for Christmas, and I didn’t, and I threw a fit, and Christmas was ruined.”

We treat disappointment like this red hot poker that we need to stay away from, but the truth is we feel it all the time, and we’re disappointed about different things because we, humans, develop expectations. We have this plan, and that serves us so well. That’s why we have skyscrapers and electricity and… All kinds of good things.

Yeah. They’re great, and sometimes plans get broken.

Right, and when a plan gets broken, I believe that there is an intelligence in us that says, “Let go.”

Part of that is if you imagine that you’re trying to get something and you’re really engaged with it, but it is not going to happen, that there would be a biochemical and emotional and energetic signal that says to your body, “Hey, don’t keep after that the same way that’s not working.”

That’s a really natural thing that happens to all of us, but the stories that we weave afterwards like:
– I don’t deserve it,
– I wasn’t a good boy,
– They don’t love me enough,
– I was on Santa’s naughty list.

Whatever story cascades out of that, is a way for us to make sense of a feeling that most people don’t know how to deal with. To me now, when the let-down … It literally is a letting down, shutting down kind of feeling.

What I seek to do is to do some tapping for it and land on neutral. If you were trying to reach the apple in the tree but could not reach it no matter what you threw at it no matter how long a stick you tried to get, that apple is not going to come down. You kind of imagine saying, “Okay. Yeah. Not coming my way from that tree, that apple,” and you imagine just grounding yourself in a place of neutral peace. “It’s okay. I’m okay.” Can we do some tapping on that?

I’d love to look at, too, what you’re talking about you want it from that tree. We might suddenly, if we do some tapping, realize that we’re on an orchard and maybe not that tree but that tree-

And there’s a grocery store right there. There’s a farmer’s market there. Sometimes, and I’ve done this many times myself, I get attached to getting it from that one person or that experience. That one way.

The pain is often not about now, but all the old pains that we had before.

Let’s tap on feeling disappointed.

So if you can, take a nice slow, deep breath.

Feel your feet on the floor, wiggle your toes, and even though we say this all the time and you might be tired of hearing it, we encourage you to do it again and again. It anchors it. It gives you a pattern for your body to flow through and a way to get back in your body really quickly. Notice your butt in the chair. You’re supported. The universe loves you, has you, is holding you right now.

Gravity’s working.

Karate Chop: Even though I feel the stress of this disappointment … And it really hurts… I wanted that so badly. If I got that, I’d be okay. I know that I’ll be loved if I got that thing. Whatever it was.

What if it’s not about that thing? Maybe it’s about feeling loved and winning.

What if I can love myself… And let myself win by being there for me?

Top of the Head: I didn’t get it that way.Eyebrow: I really wanted to get it that way.Side of the Head: From that specific tree.Under the Eye: That specific apple.Under the Nose: I don’t even know if that apple has worms.Chin: What if the universe is guiding me to a different tree?Collarbone: Or something else.

Top of the Head: I choose to be present with myself.
I choose to be present with this emotion.
And love myself through.
So I can find even better solutions.

Nice deep breath.

SO much of disappointment is about stories we tell ourselves. The pain and suffering of disappointment.

It does hurt, but often we’re bringing in every disappointment we’ve ever felt rather than “Oh, you can’t go to the movies today? I was really looking forward to going to the movies with you tonight.”

“Okay. We’re not going to the movies. My life is not over.”

It’s not, and I’ll tell you I think disappointments have a way of concretizing in our system like rocks in a rain barrel.

What I did is I wrote down 12 disappointments that really felt like they had some emotional charge, and I went through each of them as a tapping story and helped address that feeling in my body of where the disappointment was.

My capacity, the things that feel disappointing to me, now are very different. Almost everything that didn’t work out the way that I had fantasized that it might used to be felt in my body as, ouch, a disappointment.

Now, even though I still say my capacity for disappointment is not where I’d like it to be, it’s one of the beauties of doing emotional work for ourselves is that we do build greater resiliency.

That shows up where it’s like “Oh, okay. So that’s not happening. What might be a yes for us tonight?” or “What might be a yes for me?”

You see how that “Oh, that’s not happening.” There’s even a little uplift where you’re able to redirect energy rather than be shut down.

Your body starts to trust that it can signal that as “Hey, what about finding some other yes’s,” instead of you’re so disappointed in your job. You’re so disappointed in the project. You’re so disappointed in whatever. You don’t have to be shut down to quite that level.

I also like to look at what is the story I tell myself about it. Using the example of going to the movie, “Oh, if my friend went to the movie with me, I feel loved and accepted and part of the community. Oh, wow.” You know what? If we went to the movie and I have that fear and that soothed it momentarily, that fear is going to come up again.

So if you notice what you’re trying to solve by having this experience and then tap on the pain underneath of it, that lets you go to the movie with fun and without any agenda. Because agendas can pull a lot of joy out of it. “Well, you didn’t buy me popcorn. I was expecting you to buy my popcorn. I would have felt loved then,” versus “Oh, my God. You bought me popcorn” or “We’re having a great time.”

If you can get down to the story behind it, what you’re trying to solve by the experience, because often something that means so much to us is about a story.

This is the kind of thing that having someone else coaching you and helping you parse through this … You know, a lot of these are in our blind spot. Disappointments, I would say, of all the things that were in my blind spot, those stories, those were things that talking about it with someone who’s gifted at finding the underlying emotional need can make such a huge difference. It makes the tapping more effective, too.

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]]>https://www.thrivingnow.com/deal-stress-disappointment/feed/3https://www.thrivingnow.com/deal-stress-disappointment/How Do I Know If I’m Tapping On Stress “Right?”http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThrivingNow/~3/GsuSCSeSYFM/
https://www.thrivingnow.com/know-im-tapping-stress-right/#commentsSat, 14 Jan 2017 19:43:06 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/?p=15875“If I did this work really right, wouldn’t I get to my intensity down to a zero right away… and it would just stay GONE forever? Am I doing something wrong?” No. The thing is our society does expect that. You take this pill, or you do this thing and all of a sudden you’re perfect. If […]

Honestly with tapping… about 5% of the millions and millions of things that people tap on around the world every day… the feeling goes completely away. You move on. Your energy moves on to something else.

It’s different when you look at something like grief, or you look at a major transformation that’s happening in your life. Or, a long term trauma.

Or a postural thing that’s changing in your neck… now that you got the person who was a pain in the neck out of your life. Now, all of a sudden, your neck is hurting in new ways.

We believe that emotional technologies like tapping are just like a massage or a warm shower, or talking to a friend … brushing your teeth or taking a nap.

These are things that are good and healthy in the way that they exercise and tap into your emotional body.

The exercise of tuning in and feeling for the trend can build resiliency … We do believe in the benefit of moving the intensity from a nine to a seven when it comes to physical pain or emotional pain.

It’s hard to focus on anything at a nine. If my primitive brain and my body feel that shift from a nine to a seven, that’s amazing.

In the moment it can feel like a miracle.

But if we have beliefs that it should be gone gone gone, or it should be down to a zero, then we can give up on something that’s really working towards our THRIVING.

Just like if we’re going to the gym and we’re noticing our body beginning to feel stronger, and it’s easier to get up the stairs. Like, “Wow, this is working. But, you know what? I don’t look like that woman in that magazine, so I should just give up.” A lot of people give up like that when we’re actually doing something that’s really miraculous.

Cathy: EFT saved my life. It helped me clear things that I had not been able to clear in 20 years of trying everything else I could think of. The fact that we can take something that might be a 12 down to an 11 or a 10 or even a 7 in a few minutes or an hour, that’s huge. That really is miraculous. The only thing I know that people do that sometimes can work like that is popping some drugs, but that’s short term, or, they take alcohol or other addictive behaviors because it temporarily numbs them.

Rick: Right. Tapping is a technique for engaging with and unwinding the suffering. Unwinding the trauma of it, unwinding the tension of it. Even right now, tune into your body and feel for some place where there’s a tension, because, hey, life creates tension.

Whether you’re doing something great like fooling around with a loved one, or you’re building a rock wall that you’ve always wanted, or you just finished an eight hour shift and you made enough money to feel your family. That’s going to create some tension.

Tune into your body. Feel for where there’s some tension and just tap gently.

Eyebrow: Hey, tension.Side of the Eye: I send you love and acceptance.Under the Eye: Thank you, body, for all you’ve been doing for me.Under the Nose: I’d look pretty funny without a body.Chin: I’m sending attention to that part of me that’s tense.Collarbone: And I’m inviting it to relax.Under the Arm: I’m willing for my body to unwind right now… Just a little bit.Top of the Head: Just the right amount.

Take a deep breath.

Notice if the feeling changed. This area of tension in my neck, the feeling changed. It feels warmer. It feels a little softer.

Is the pain completely gone? No, I’m sitting in a hard backed chair and I’m doing something I love and I’m focusing my energy on being present for you, wherever you are and whenever you are and being here with my co-creator.

That activity creates tensions. Yet, having something at our fingertips that can quickly get the energy moving for a stress and strain in the body, in the mind, in the heart, it’s so useful.

Could we do a quick round on perfectionism? Like, “It’s not all gone.”

Karate Chop: Even thought it’s not all gone … And, I worked really hard at this … and I thought if I did it perfectly right … it would be gone. But, maybe my body doesn’t work that way. Maybe it’s pretty amazing how far I did come.

Top of the Head: I tend to discredit myself.Eyebrow: It wasn’t enough.Side of the Eye: It’s never enough.Under the Eye: I did do something.Under the Nose: I took action.Chin: And, I improved my life.Collarbone: If I keep doing little things like this.Under the Arm: Who knows where I’ll be tomorrow?Top of the Head: Imagine next year.

Deep breath.

I think the biggest thing is not discouraging ourselves when we get forward motion but it’s not enough.

I’m pointing, three fingers pointing back at me because I’ll be like, “Wow, I got that whole room done. I organized that whole room. Oh yeah, but you didn’t get the other closet done. The whole house isn’t done.”

We need to catch ourselves when we have those mind patterns. Like, “Wow, I worked really hard today and I actually got something done that I’ve been wanting to do for a long time.”

If we celebrate and encourage ourselves more, we’re more likely to move forward with it.

Absolutely. This kind of practice you’ll notice that by practicing on accepting … The essence of tapping is “I deeply and completely accept myself.”

When we practice acceptance it allows us to celebrate more. It allows us to not take the things that would nourish us, and then drop them on the floor before we get a chance to really savor them. That emotional nourishment, changing the pattern of how emotions nourish you, also gets reflected in your body. It gets reflected in your vitality and your sense of yourself.

We want that for all of us to be able to share in that mutual nourishment and celebration.

We’d love to know what you think. How do you encourage yourself and how do you stop yourself? Sharing out loud can help you get more conscious and allows other people see it and go, “Oh, I’m not the only one.”

And if you’d like to have the support and guidance to release your stress, check out Stress Relief On Tap and join us when we bring together amazing minds and hearts to clear stress, teach our bodies new levels of resilience, and bring peace and vitality back into our lives. Learn more here.

]]>https://www.thrivingnow.com/know-im-tapping-stress-right/feed/4https://www.thrivingnow.com/know-im-tapping-stress-right/Dealing with the Stress of Isolationhttp://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ThrivingNow/~3/YoEhojuznTk/
https://www.thrivingnow.com/dealing-stress-isolation/#commentsThu, 12 Jan 2017 21:50:34 +0000support@thrivingnow.com (Thriving Now LLC)http://www.thrivingnow.com/?p=15856Have you felt stress because you feel lonely or alone? The stress of isolation can be really powerful. If you feel alone or unsupported it can be incredibly stressful… even if it’s just for a short time. For example: Someone wrote in and said, “I feel like there’s no one to support me in the evenings […]

The stress of isolation can be really powerful. If you feel alone or unsupported it can be incredibly stressful… even if it’s just for a short time.

For example: Someone wrote in and said, “I feel like there’s no one to support me in the evenings to help me watch my kids. I just feel like I have to do it all myself.”

That can be really distressing feeling… And there are some things you can do to ease that isolation and reduce the stress you’re feeling.

The primitive brain wasn’t designed for us to have to do everything on our own.

We’re capable of doing it as a survival mechanism for a short period of time, but it starts activating distresses inside the body.

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One of the essences of tapping that we like is that we can speak a truth of how it feels to us, notice where we feel it in our body, and also choose a direction for our energy towards acceptance, towards loving ourselves, toward being open to change.

A lot of times when people have been isolated for a long time, there’s a safety aspect to it, too. People have been let down in the past!

Also, different people have different levels of desire to be around other people.

Sometimes we look at other people or what society says and shame ourselves. It’s okay to tune into yourself and say, “Hey, I need an hour with people but I don’t need to spend a full day right now.”

Whatever your needs are okay and valid. If you’re feeling really alone just tune into that. Remember, sometimes we get numb to these feelings. We encourage you to tap along at least once and see if it resonates for you.

Feel your feet on the floor… and take a nice slow deep breath.

When you think about being lonely or isolated, tune into your body and notice where you feel it. I often feel kind of a tension around my heart or my shoulders and neck get kind of stiff.

I can also feel it up in my throat as I’m remembering times when I felt more isolated and alone. Sometimes that can be even when you’re surrounded by family.

Whether you’re feeling it actively strongly right now, or it’s something from your past that feels big, tune to it, just touch on it, that feeling and notice where it is in your body, and give it a number zero to ten. Zero being no intensity and ten being very intense.

That gets your analytical brain involved and it also just gives you a sense of the scale of it. It’s useful to know that it’s a six… or a ten.

It’s useful to know, too, as you do the tapping work, is it dropping off? Sometimes these get a little more intense when you first look closely… Just like if you’ve worn tight shoes all day, your feet get kind of numb after a while…. When you take the shoes off the blood flow returns and it initially hurts more, but you don’t want to put the shoes back on. You want to keep moving through it. Monitoring the way it’s flowing gives you some feedback.

Wherever you’re feeling it… just tune in and notice it. One thing I like to do is send love to that part of me that feels lonely. A lot of us feel deeply ashamed and feel like we shouldn’t feel this way, there’s something wrong with us, we tell ourselves stories about that.

Write this down. I’m feeling this tension in my heart or this feeling in my throat, it’s a six today. What is the mind chatter about it? “Oh, if I was really lovable I would have people around me,” or “I must be a horrible person to be alone.” Whatever it is write that down, too.

Just be with it for a minute.

Imagine sending love to that part of you, the part of you that believes that. There’s part of our primitive brain that believes something because at the time it’s the most logical explanation.

Sometimes we made these decisions when we were very small. Our parent or someone else said something to us, or we just came up with this explanation to understand what might have been just simply overwhelmed parents or things that aren’t actually true about us, just the situation we were in. We generalize because we’re little kids and we didn’t know any better.

Just noticing that part of you is holding that message from a long time ago… I like to just close my eyes and imagine sending love to that part of me.

Just take a moment to do that.

Just say something like, “Hey sweetheart, I hear you, I understand you feel that way and I’m right here with you right now.”

Then take a nice slow deep breath. And let’s do some tapping for that.

Karate Chop: Even though I’m feeling stressed…Because I feel alone…I feel it in this part of my body…I think that I’m not lovable…I choose to be here with me now… I choose to send love to that part of me.

Top of the Head: I do feel stressed.Eyebrow: I’m not getting my social needs met.Side of the Eye: I don’t feel supported.Under the Eye: And I can support myself right now.Under the Nose: And calm myself.Chin: So I can make good decisions about what I want to do next.Collarbone: It’s okay to soothe myself.Under the Arm: It’s okay to love myself.Top of the Head: I choose to be here loving me right now.

Now take a nice slow deep breath.

If you have trouble saying you love yourself right now, it’s okay! I had to start out with “I kind of am willing to try”…. Or “Kind of willing to try to possibly someday love myself.”

Whatever you can say… coax yourself in a positive direction, even “I might be willing to understand where this came from,” or “I might be willing to be kind to myself no matter why I’m feeling this way.”

Some positive direction will help you start moving in the direction you want to go. It took me I think six months before I could say I was willing to love myself. It’s been a really powerful shift, so be gentle with yourself if that’s where you are.

Tune back in and notice where the stress level is for you on this, how intense is that feeling either in your heart or wherever part of your body.

Know that it doesn’t have to go to a zero. Our inner well-being responds to a trend. A baby step in the direction of self-love and self-appreciation activates energies that are able to connect with others, too, and are able to feel connected even when we’re in solitude.

Releasing stress and these distressing beliefs are key to having a better relationship with yourself and with others.

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