Dr. Warren FarrellFather & Child Reunion

Father & Child Reunion

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One of the Best Books on Father Child Relationships, February 1, 2008By Joel Bonvicini- See all my reviewsI recently met Dr.Warren Farrell, who was speaking on our behalf, Men and Women Against Discrimination of West Virginia, as we were trying to pass a Shared Parenting Bill into the WV House. www.mawadwv.orgDr. Farrell has disarmed this sensitive topic and shown plainly how important shared parenting is for any child and the benefits of a father in a child life, at any age or time. If you you are single, married or divorced, this book will show you how important a father is to a child's development is almost every aspect of life. You will not be dissappointed.12 of 16 people found the following review helpful:Overwhelming! , February 21, 2001By Adam Sacks(Calabasas, CA United States) - See all my reviewsWow, what a book! What truth! So seldom admitted... A masterpiece. Honest, informative. Should be read by men and women who must learn to stop screwing eachother over.10 of 12 people found the following review helpful:Finally, the truth of divorce, child custody, and single parenting, May 24, 2002By A CustomerThis review is from: Father and Child Reunion: How to Bring the Dads We Need to the Children We Love (Hardcover)I am a social worker, and was a social work graduate student ( I had to drop out of graduate school due to lack of funds and no assistantship.

I am also a divorced, non-custodial father.I have ready many books and research papers about social policy, child welfare, and child custody practices. Father and Child Reunion is the best publication I read to date about divorce, custody, child support, and social policy. Dr. Farrell writes in a clear, concise, and highly readable style. He has also done his homework. The book is well researched.This is book needs to be distributed to every family court judge, divorce court judge, and child protective custody worker in North America and the rest of the world.I have remained anonymous for two reasons. First because my profession is about 70% female and operates under many if not all of the assumptions that Dr. Farrell deconstructs in his book. Second because I want to complete my graduate education.Buy this book! Give it to your friends! Give it to sons and brothers and fathers and uncles and nephews!

This review is from: Father and Child Reunion: How to Bring the Dads We Need to the Children We Love (Hardcover)

This is an outstanding work and I thoroughly concur with the reviewer that wrote how it inspired him to be a better father to his daughter. I have a 14 mth old baby girl and this has similar impact on me.

Farrell ammasses a wealth of data and research to thoroughly demolish the false charge that men are either dispensible in raising children or that they prone to abuse or neglect. Neither is true. In fact men are just as vital as women and are actually less likely to abuse their children than women.

He also deals with ways that fathers can be encouraged to become more involved with their children and how divorce settings should be made to encourage close father contact.

12 of 16 people found the following review helpful:Overwhelming! , February 21, 2001By Adam Sacks(Calabasas, CA United States) - See all my reviewsWow, what a book! What truth! So seldom admitted... A masterpiece. Honest, informative. Should be read by men and women who must learn to stop screwing eachother over.22 of 24 people found the following review helpful:Bring Back The Fathers: Kids Need Dads , December 5, 2000 By Bought Copies for My Three Daughters(Vienna, Virginia USA)I had the privilege of reading a pre-publication copy of this book and I can't wait until January to talk about it. Warren Farrell has written many books about how to bring men and women together by ending gender warfare but this time he shows how the children are damaged by the warfare and demonstrates the need for all of us to work together to bring fathers back into the lives of children. Whether it is the runaway Dad who needs to be coaxed back into fatherhood or the disconnected Dad who is too busy for the kids or the pushed-away Dad who has been victimized by an unfairly restrictive child custody order, Warren Farrell marshalls the proof that Dads are needed for the well-being of their children and for the future of our society. Based on thirteen years of intensive research, Warren Farrell presents mountains of information on the importance of Dads, all of it cross-referenced to the original sources and scientific studies. As a true gender equality advocate (three time member of the N.Y. National Organization for Women Board of Directors and the leader of gender equality training workshops for thousands of men and women), Warren Farrell demonstrates the benefits of increased father involvement for women, for children and for the men themselves. Everybody gains from helping men to be good Dads and from giving them the opportunity to do so. Read More4 of 7 people found the following review helpful: Excellent Ballance , September 15, 2005 By Grayson Walker "AGW"(South Florida) - See all my reviewsI've known Warren for quite a few years, and I have always found his work to be well written and worthwhile. For masculinist, Warren Farrell is very even handed and fair in his treatment of a subject that invited polemics. He's a great guy, and I look forward to more of his work. This is highly recommended for the Non-Custodial and the Custodial parent.16 of 17 people found the following review helpful: A must read for every father, mother and ex-wife! , January 27, 2001 Lindsay Kenny (San Rafael, CA) - See all my reviewsThis is the fourth book of Dr. Warren Farrell’s that I've read and loved. "Father and Child Reunion", in my opinion, is his best and arguably his most important. From the introduction to the last page, it's full of eye opening revelations and fascinating stories about the incredible influence and importance of fathers to our children. As a woman, I've always taken for granted that mothers were the most "essential" parent... READ MORE2 of 4 people found the following review helpful:Great book , January 7, 2002 By Steven Jones(Tennessee USA) - See all my reviewsThis is a book well worth reading. I bought a copy for my father.3 of 5 people found the following review helpful: Warren Farrel does it again , August 17, 2001 By David Wilson(Massachusetts) - See all my reviewsDr. Farrell has done it again. He has been able to put into writing what I, and many other men, have known but have not had an outlet to express. That men are victims of overwhelming gender discrimination. And, in this book, he clearly documents how it's hurting both our children and our society. To paraphrase Harry Trumen, you can't keep one group of people in the gutter with out staying there yourself. Gender discrimination against men has kept, and will continue to keep, all of us in the gutter until we recognize it and stop it. Now is the time to stop it. Let's remove the road blocks to fathers getting custody of their children, to men staying home to raise the kids, to making sure we have more male teachers at the elementry school level, to our recognition that men are equally the victims of domestic violence, etc. My hat is off to Dr. Farrell for another excellent job well done.5 of 7 people found the following review helpful:Awesome!!! , August 20, 2002By tnhuskerfan "tnhuskerfan"(Nashville, TN) - See all my reviewsI wish...the Davidson County Juvenile Court would read this. This author is right on target about how non custodial fathers always get the shaft. This should be required reading for every family court judge and lawmaker.4 of 5 people found the following review helpful: Return of the Lost Fathers , January 14, 2001 Jed Diamond "The Men's Maven"(Willits, Ca. United States) - See all my reviewsI am a psychotherapist who has been helping people deal with drug and alcohol problems, family violence, and depression for the last 35 years. I believe that the key factor underlying these problems and many others is the lack of good fathering in families today.Dr. Farrell helps us understand why the absentee father has become the norm in our society today. He also shows us the devastating results when fathers are not present to assist in the raising of their children. Finally, he gives us solutions that will work in helping to return fathers to the children who need them.To be sure, I've worked with a few fathers over the years who are so damaged themselves, they should not be with their children. However, these are the rare exceptions. Many, many more fathers are caring, competent, and compassionate.If you are a father, a mother, a son, or a daughter, do yourself a favor and buy this book.6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:A Fanstastic Book , January 14, 2001By "doug3034"(Maryland) - See all my reviewsThis book is fantastic!! Warren Farrell is a masterful writer. He has a wonderful way of helping the reader perceive everyday events from a new perspective. For example, he makes the point beautifully that as men become more involved in the lives of their children, they need to be sensitive to the fact that some women may feel insecure, just as some men may have felt insecure about women entering the workplace. The way he discusses the "my body, my choice" reasoning concerning reproductive rights is another example of his skillful ability to help us reassess commonly held beliefs from a different perspective. Reading Dr. Farrell is always a thought-provoking and enlightening experience.

"But they're not trying to save everybody. Just other men who are vulnerable in this way. Here, men are behaving not like men, but like any other community. Like gay people. Like black people. Like women. Like a minority group. They are standing up for their own. The men's movement writer Warren Farrell once told me that "men's weakness is their facade of strength". And it looks as if men are beginning to drop that facade of strength. Which can only be a good thing, right?"

"“Gender” courses now study only liberal women’s view of women’s powerlessness, and liberal women’s perspective on male power. They don’t look at liberal or conservative men’s view of male powerlessness, or liberal or conservative men’s view of female power. Dissent is not tolerated and no administration will dare direct these closed courses to open up. It took twenty years for Boston College to do something about a rabidly anti-male professor who refused to allow males in her class."
"Are Men Society's Scapegoats?" by Vicki Larson, on the Huffington Post, July 12, 2011:

"But women, like men, lie, and the results can be devastating. And false reports of rape and sexual violence are not as statistically rare as Périvier and others may believe, according to many experts, including Dr. Warren Farrell, chair of the Commission to Create a White House Council on Boys to Men, who details the results of numerous studies in his books 'Father and Child Reunion' and 'The Myth of Male Power.' In fact, they occur often during divorce."
"The Incredible Shrinking Man" by Peggy Drexler, on the Huffington Post, February 22, 2008:

"Whatever the combination of reasons, there is a new dad in the house. According to Dr. Warren Farrell, the author of the book Father and Child Reunion, the desire of dads to be involved with their children 'is to the twenty-first century what women's desire to be in the workplace was to the twentieth century.'"
"Do Men Become Better or Worse Fathers After Divorce?" by Jill Brooke, on the Huffington Post, July 16, 2009:

"Dr. Warren Farrell points out that pop culture's parenting focus expanded the definition of a man's identity. In one study tracking data from 1965-1998, married men had doubled their direct child care involvement. 'More men put in the effort early which created deeper attachments that fathers didn't want to lose,' said Farrell, who is also the author of 'Father and Child Reunion.' Hence, more requests for joint custody."
An interview from Men's Health Australia by Greg Andreson of Sydney University.An appearance on The Tavis Smiley Show about divorced fathers' rights.

"In their quiet, harried, domestic way, all those single fathers are waging as much of a revolution as the 20th-century women who flooded into the workplace, said Warren Farrell, the San-Diego-based author of the book 'Father and Child Reunion' (Tarcher Putnam Penguin, 2001).
'Fathers' desire to be involved with their children is to the 21st century what women's desire to be in the workplace was to the 20th century,' Dr. Farrell said. And the analogy goes deeper, he said, in that just as past naysayers argued that women lacked the strength or ability to work, some now argue that fathers lack the nurturing attentiveness to have primary responsibility for children's care."