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I can’t believe it!

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Mommy_loraine wrote:

About two years ago my husbands ex girlfriend filed for child support against him. To make a long story short they had a DNA test and it ends up he’s not the Dad. She has tested a couple men since, and can’t seem to find out who it is. Now she is petitioning the court to order another test against my husband because she feels the first was inaccurate. Is this even legal? I thought we were done with this nightmare.

It just drives me crazy. The whole ordeal was such a stressor when it first happened. I got bashed by everyone including my husbands family when him and I were happy that he was proven to not be the father. Up until that point his family favored that child over our child together, and because of all that happened now they have nothing to do with any of us (me, my husband, or our son) but are still close with that child and her mother. I wish she would just leave my family alone.

Funny with all the Maury References. but that aside. Yes, it is possible that a DNA Analysis be 'Misread'. the chances are very remote, but Possible just the same. (are READ by Humans, the Expression "Its Human to Err' comes to Mind.)

Once that is said, if the Girl in question can't keep track of Who she 'interacted' with, for a Judge to re-issue an order for the test to be retaken, very hard, she really has to come up with some Solid Arguments to satisfy the judge to do so. But Yes, it is Legal, it is going to be hard to convince the Judge, but it has happened... Heck we have Carrot Top as C-n-C ... so even remote things do seem to be possible here in the US of A.

Why were you happy to learn a child wasn't his, to the extent your husbands family feels that way? Were you resentful for the child? Mistakes do happen and while she sounds like a mess, your attitude towards the child is unfair. There were relationships there that you obviously didn't treat well but for some people it's very hard to turn that off, and that's natural. His family believed (right or wrong) this child was theirs. To celebrate that the child isn't is off putting.

@dilly30 Why should we make her life easy when she has done nothing but cause chaos in ours. Our son doesn’t get to “have” paternal grandparents because of this woman and her fatherless kid. I actually would counter sue for monies paid if I didn’t think it would be more headache than it’s worth.

@twentysixpoint2 But for his parents to continue a relationship with that kid, who is not theirs, and shun our son is equally unfair. By the same measurements you used, no matter what my husband and I did should not reflect on our son. This child is their blood and even if we are a “mess” (your words) why take it out on an innocent child.

Why shouldn’t they be reimbursed for child support paid in error? I’m not saying hurt the kid or that he is in some way at fault. The fact of the matter is that money was paid to the mother in error because she doesn’t know who the father of her child is. Asking the woman to reimburse people who she maybe even intentionally misled isn’t wrong. If a person collects SSI or welfare fraudulently for their child and they are caught, they are made to pay the state back. Why should this be any different?

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