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Why do they care so much?

What is the deal with the male psyche and size of their you know what? My DH is average I would say and yes, I've seen a few that were signifcantly bigger (OK it was alot more than seeing ;) and yes, I considered them impressive at the time). Those were fun experiences but size alone did not make them better. My DH knows these details because asked...he hasn't made a big deal out of it, but I can tell its on his mind.

I've also seen a couple of rather small ones...and they were disappointing.

i dont think it matters you know but i had one guy who was small and that wasnt bad it was the fact he couldnt get it up at all! but my husband is the same way i dont tell him anything tho cause they will take it to personal! i have had equal pleaseure tho

LOL..sometimes smaller is not so good, but, anywhere around average is fine. My BF is not average...so, I am happy. But, smaller isn't always bad. And MOST guys are 6 inches, yet, they all seem to think that average is like 9. Crazy.

As far as the experience goes it can matter for better pleassure. However, like you said, the size of the penis alone doesn't mean everything. There's a lot more that goes into an experience then just that.

They care because they want to pleasure us and they feel if they fail at that, they're not worth a darn - at least that's how my DH has explained it to me. Just keep assuring him that you are being satisfied and it might help to express that satisfaction during and afterward as well. But I also think some guys also care a bunch because they also want to be your 'best' - especially if he's not the only one you've been with.

I don't know why they care - but I would never tell my husband that someone in my past was larger. Even if he asked. I would just lie. He'll never know. But fortunately, he and I have never had that conversation and my husband is a good size so he is not insecure about it in the least.

"men dont care anymore than a woman cares about the size of her tits. when a so/dh makes a statement that their ex's tits are bigger or smaller than yours thats when a woman worries so he believes it is the same for men."