To have felt patronised by the man in the deli today?

I went into the deli and asked if the feta in their salads was made with pasteurised milk (currently pg). the man said no, it wasn't, and that he obviously wasn't a woman (well, er, no) but that he wouldn't take the risk even with pasteurised feta.

So then when i said something about how come it was all the nice things that we weren't allowed he said 'well maybe it's a good lesson in thinking about something other than ourselves, isn't it?'

Perhaps he is a churchgoer and that is the way he lives his life thinking of others? It does sound like something my ex-step-mother would say and she is overtly religeous (which I don't have a problem with I just want to state for the record!).

Well, it's true - parenting IS about taking care and thinking of needs other than your own - and as well as your own obviously but yes, sometimes putting other needs over yours. imo he was dead right in his sentiment, so I guess it comes down to how he said it did he speak slooooowly and in a slightly high tone?

What's it got to do with him? How does he know you aren't the least selfish person in the local area? Why should there have to be a "Lesson" at all and why is he the chosen one to remind you of it if there is, when actually, you just went in there to buy some farkin feta?

Does he have a sign up saying "Moral lecture - Free with Feta Cheese"? Who appointed him head boy for the day?

D'ya know, I cannot stand preachy do-goodery moral high grounders in the guise of delicatessen staff. It is a pet hate.

Ah yes. Had a bit of a 'debate' - asked the same sort of question 'is this pasterurised?' and he made snide comment, so I reminded him that actually the only reason I was asking is that he is obliged, by legislation, to distinguish non - pasteurised, which he clearly failed to do.