Baby Shower gift delemma

I would like some opinions. I like & respect everyones thoughs on this. Recently I have been making baby shower quilts for family members, ( lots lately!) & I usually give the recipient a choice of blanket or bag, & ask if there are any particular color likes or dislikes. The most resent request is for a boy, who will be sharing a room with his 8 yr old step-sister who does not live in the home on a full time babsis, but they have painted the room "pepto-pink" for her. The problem is, I was requested to do a black & grey quilt "so as not to clash with the room" but I had found some construction worker fabric & some co-ordinating fabrics I think would have been great to make the baby a beautiful quilt in bright blue, red, green & yellow. Do I go with the mothers wishes, or go with mine, or I had also thought of doing a version of the log cabin but with a single colored square in the center with blacks on one side & greys/whites on the other. Each square would have a different color though-like one center would be red, the next would be blue, the next would be green, etc. Thoughts? Ideas? I really do want her gift to be used & cherished....

You need to respect the mother for caring so much about the stepdaughter's feelings. I would have a hard time making a black and grey quilt too, but would try to accomodate the Mom's wishes. Is there any fabrics in those colors with juvenile designs? Perhaps old time cartoon character prints would come in these colors...Good Luck with this project. Maybe you could make 2 quilts if time permits..one for the crib in the mother's choices and the other for the "security blanket" that the child could carry around as he gets older in your choices..

I don't ask what people want. I just make the baby quilt unless something specific has been mentioned in the shower invitation. After all, it is a gift. You know the circumstances go with your own best judgment. I would NOT feel compelled to go with black and grey. They may not use the quilt in the bedroom anyway.

How about making a double sided quilt - one side could be grey cammo (definitely masculine) and the other side could be scrappy in your choice of colors. That way you are pleasing the mom and yourself.