When I confessed to my EX’s questioning of my fidelity over a year ago, all she could say was “wow”. She seemed very taken aback by my answer. So today, when I was asked ‘why men cheat’ by a young lady during a Public Speaking event, I was initial hesitant to share the full conversation me and my EX had about her suspicion of my lack of loyalty.

“Can you tell me why all men cheat on loyal Women?” a curly haired PreMed student asked me today, during my public speak to a room full of 300 Women. My response to her question was,

“Males cheat on loyal women to boost their ego. A woman can be perfect for him. Beautiful, career minded, own money, cooks, does whatever he wants her to do in bed, loyal, intelligent, educated, faithful and…

I always find it so interesting the simple lessons that our cat keeps teaching us without even trying to.Two days ago my sister and I were having fish and ugali for lunch and after serving my plate I heard Pius meowing from the back door and instinctively ran outside through the front door where my sister was sand papering her bed. She obviously looked at me with that strange look of ‘what are you doing’ so I explained that I was running away from Pius, we all know how he gets crazy eyes the minute he smells fish and I wasn’t in the mood to start fighting with him over my meal. She of course thought I was crazy and got up to serve herself only to be running to where I was saying the exact same thing. Unlucky for us Pius is not stupid he knows when he has smelled fish and simply followed that smell and found us outside hiding like the cowards that we were. I could almost see the look of shame in his face going tsktsktsk oh how we let him down. Now that we were caught and the scorching sun was becoming unbearable, we went back into the house to face the dreaded Pius.
As usual he kept insisting with those fake huge- ‘am an extremely good cat’- eyes he likes to put on only when he knows u have something he wants, and we kept telling him to relax we will feed him(eventually). The sweet eyes tend to only last a few minutes before he starts to go wild like one of those tantrum children who cry in the supermarket coz they want some damn expensive chocolate( why don’t they just go for the cheep stuff, it always has to be something that will really pinch your pocket!). Anyway, as we were trying to explain to him why we had to remove the bones first because we dint want him to chock to death, saying that we were only protecting him and if he could just be a little more patient he would have his fish, it hit me how in that moment we were the higher beings understanding something little Pius could not. My mind spiraled out of control thinking of how if there are aliens out the(or other higher beings) then maybe that is how they look at us, like some idiots who just like Pius don’t understand how they are really helping rather than hurting us. That is when the big revelation came up; maybe that is how God see things too!
Just like Pius we approach God in prayer when we see something we want; we put on those sweet eyes and ask so politely while stating our case. When we don’t get it, just like Pius we go CRAZY meowing all over the place calling for as much attention as possible hoping that will work. Then we change tactic, just like Pius when we don’t get what we want when we want it, we go to the next extreme and keep quite, sit down and pretend we don’t want it anymore, in fact we don’t need it, we were fine without it so you can keep it! However just like him once again we go crazy the minute someone dangles that meat in our faces and start asking for it again. However the same way we don’t give Pius fish without first looking through the meat to make sure it is safe for him, which actually takes some time, God also has to ensure that whatever we ask for is given to us at the right time when it is safe for us to have it.
You have probably asked and prayed for something- for years even- and just like Pius u don’t understand why God isn’t gracious enough to give it to you knowing how much you love it or even need it. The truth is He, just like us, is probably sifting through it making sure it is safe for you and it takes time to remove those tinny bones. So don’t pretend not to want it anymore, because the same way we know when Pius is acting nice just to get something from us is the same way God knows you. Instead be patient and trust that just like us, God would never selfishly ignore your needs and wants but at the same time He will always have your best interests at heart first.
And there you have it, once again Pius gives us sound life lessons which left my sister and me with more faith that God will always come through for us, we just need to be patient when He is removing the tiny little bones from the fish.