sounds like someone at the office must have filled things in or something - wait, do you know when the profs have to have grades in? i had a problem like that with a class i took my last semester of my master's. it was a photography class i was taking just because i wanted to learn darkroom techniques, i was just taking it pass-fail. the professor didn't get the last assignment graded by the due date, and he left immediately on vacation, so he just marked everyone whose project he hadn't graded as 'incomplete'. which wouldn't have been a big thing, but i was applying to phd programs - and they couldn't send out my transcript because i had an incomplete. which was a) not correct, because i had turned in the assignment; b) contrary to university policy anyway, because the student has to request an incomplete, have a reason for wanting one, and have a schedule set up for completing the class; and c) just really stupid - i would have passed the class anyway, even without that project. so i spent a good chunk of the summer trying frantically to get ahold of the professor, or get someone in the department to take the issue seriously (my complaints were pretty much laughed off with a shrug and an 'oh yeah- him' - seems he did this sort of thing all the time).

ANYWAY - at least in this case, sounds like the prof is on top of it._________________aka: neverscared!

Had a meeting this morning in another building. While I was gone, the police called my daycare center and told them to get everyone off the playground because there was a known person armed in the neighborhood that they were trying to apprehend. So my center was in lockdown for about 2 hours. Luckily the person was caught and we got the all clear._________________Eureka00: "Reminding you of your addictions" since 1982.

A few days ago I had a conversation with a coworker that was earnest and personal. I mentioned that I was going through a divorce for reasons that cannot be "fixed", she mention that she doesn't mind living with her grandma because she's saving herself for marriage.

A few days pass and today she hands me a printout with several highlighted passages from Hosea. For marriage advice. At work.

On the one hand, totally inappropriate and possible grounds for dismissal working in a state-run organization. On the other hand, everything about this girl's personality just screams innocence and I really don't want to be the harsh reality check that is probably coming her way. If I was in any way responsible for her, IE: her parent, I'd feel that she'd need to learn this harsh lesson sooner rather than later, but as it stands, I barely know her and it's a difficult job market out there. She's in a position that is incredibly low on the totem-pole and could be let go for much less.

Urgh.

Edit: Bonus horror: My AC is old and failing at home. The type of freon it needs has been determined to be harmful to the environment so production of it has halted in an effort to force people to switch to newer units. So either I need to pay four times as much to top it off as last time, or five times as much to replace the unit. I don't think I even had enough to pay the original price...

well, you can try to educate her without being harsh - take her aside and say something like, "i really appreciate your concern and your effort to help, but you should be aware that doing this sort of thing (and be explicit - handing out religious material?) is inappropriate in the workplace...in fact, you could even be fired for it." and if there is something in an employee handbook or something that that you can show her, even better. sounds like her only fault is that she doesn't know any better; she can learn without having to be fired.

and i don't know what to say about the AC. i don't know where you are - but i'm assuming a fan isn't sufficient?_________________aka: neverscared!

Regarding the AC, personally, I don't mind sweating a little. I even worked some jobs where dripping sweat was the norm. My wife is another story altogether. I'll stop there except to say that going without AC is not an option for her.

Yeah, after reflection I realize that there are ways that I can talk to my coworker and inform her of the inappropriateness of the gesture in a polite way, but at the time of writing that I was still kind of dumbstruck. I still kind of am, to be honest. I read through the highlighted passages and the message that she was emphasizing was basically, "Love even those that wrong you," which doesn't have anything to do with my pending divorce. I feel like a little kid handed me a rotting fish and said, "This will fix everything."

I'm sorry you are going through a divorce Trevor. I think what the girl was trying to tell you was to forgive your wife? That is what it seems to me, anyway._________________"Her kisses left something to be desired -- the rest of her. "

Yeah, the thing is that I'm not mad at my wife and I don't feel wronged by her, it's really just the unfortunate, delayed realization that I don't want to spend the rest of my life with her having a direct influence on it.

And Gary, oh man have I been there. I've been unemployed three times in the last couple of years and had nothing but temp jobs when I wasn't. My dad has been unemployed for three years and feels that his career is basically being an interviewee.

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growing up in a sheltered, religious environment can really warp someone's worldview. she's most likely sincere in her intentions and probably thinks of it as the "friendly christian" thing to do, but if her behavior could cost her her job you should explain things to her._________________FormerlyGreen_Finn

I had intended to talk to her about it yesterday but had such a horrible migraine that even talking was difficult. Didn't have the opportunity today, but I will tell her that I appreciate her concern, the gesture itself was inappropriate and needlessly risky.

In the last week:
* got unreasonably cross with a co-worker, who happens to be a woman I like I little too much
* got a sunburn from doing yardwork
* yet again did not get any response in a realistic timeframe to job applications, which at this point was pissing me off even tho I know most jobs aren't going to bother talking to any but the best candidates
* continued to ask sister-in-law to leave me alone when I'm pissed (I've been living in my brother's house for the last year plus, because of job problems)
* went to work on Friday still pissed, and almost immediately had a stress meltdown over all the shit I've been failing at for the last two years
* ... so I took a sick day, which is unpaid, and I badly need the money
* meltdown took two hours to recover enough from to just go home
* and in the evening the SIL tried to give me more unsolicited and useless "advice" so I blew up at her

... so I was kicked out of the house, and had to spend Sunday moving my stuff to my sister's house (as I have no other options available, I don't have real friends here), instead of going to the comic convention that I've been looking forward to for MONTHS to meet Jeff Smith._________________Currently experiencing: summer.