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Passion. Polarity. Purpose. Presence.Tue, 15 Aug 2017 15:08:40 +0000en-UShourly1He’s A Man, Not Your Girlfriend Part Ihttp://www.richardandnamaste.com/hes-man-not-girlfriend-part-i/
http://www.richardandnamaste.com/hes-man-not-girlfriend-part-i/#respondTue, 15 Aug 2017 15:07:59 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27604Relationship Lessons- He’s a Man, not your Girlfriend darling. Part 1 Good morning lovelies, I awakened this morning thinking about relationships. One of the biggest mistakes a woman can make is to try to make her husband/boyfriend into her best GIRLfriend. Don’t get me wrong my loves, my King is definitely my BESTfriend and Favorite …

I awakened this morning thinking about relationships. One of the biggest mistakes a woman can make is to try to make her husband/boyfriend into her best GIRLfriend.

Don’t get me wrong my loves, my King is definitely my BESTfriend and Favorite Human… But He’s not my girl friend and there’s a distinction with a Huge difference in that.

Many women don’t understand or realize how they do this nor are they conscious of why they do this or the eroding this does to the relationship.

Let’s start with why…
In a time where Masculine and Feminine distinction isn’t really recognized and where even those who do recognize it often also suggest that everyone should cultivate both, many women don’t consciously see or respect the distinction between the Masculine and the Feminine beyond genitalia.

Many women grew up without seeing examples of masculinity and the examples they saw were dismissed as irrelevant, incapable or impotent. None of which creates a good ground for understanding in a deeper way Masculine/Feminine distinction. Instead there is a misformed belief that all love looks like Feminine love. As if Feminine love is the ONLY way that real love can look.

Feminine women now desire a Masculine Man and yet continue to expect and demand Feminine behaviors from him and call it support, care, love.

In other words, many women only recognize feminine support (even in Shadow) as BEING support and love.

Anything other than this is deemed callous, toxic, narcissistic and other incendiary and pyschopathologizing terms.

This doesn’t give men any acceptance for their innate way of being, the cost of her love being his emasculation, (and even then she will often find herself less and less attracted to him the more he gives.)

Add to this the tendency to expect one’s partner to substitute for Self Love… And you end up with Feminine women who want Masculine men who are also Feminine…

Unfortunately, my love, while this pattern of belief is based on a deep wounding, many have convinced themselves that this is really an evolved state for men which just further solidifies the problematic thought structure…

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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/on-gender-norms/#respondFri, 04 Aug 2017 14:13:22 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27601You may have noticed the idea of having or expressing gender normative behavior has become somewhat of a pejorative. I hesitated to share this due to the sensitivity of the topic and my desire to not wound those whose biologic sex and energetic gender are are not the same. That said I’ve been told that …

]]>You may have noticed the idea of having or expressing gender normative behavior has become somewhat of a pejorative. I hesitated to share this due to the sensitivity of the topic and my desire to not wound those whose biologic sex and energetic gender are are not the same. That said I’ve been told that this is important enough to need saying and so I ask that it is read in the spirit of love, life and compassion that it is offered.

There are many incorrect and nonbeneficial beliefs associated with gender norms so let’s begin to unpack and clarify it.

“Gender Norms” or gender normative is the name for a set of behaviors associated with ones born “sex” within a specific culture. Each culture has its own set of gender norms that correspond to the gender designations of that culture.

What this means is that in cultures where there are two genders, there are behavioral signifiers for both, in cultures where there are three or four genders, there are signifiers for each of those genders.

Contrary to popular belief, there is no evidence to say that gender norms evolved to oppress women in any way. Quite the contrary, gender norms are NOT about the individual at all but are about the stability, furtherance, and sustainability of the tribe, group etc;

If gender norms are not about oppression what are they for… Are they good?

Yes, gender norms are actually very needful as can be shown by their being present in every culture globally and throughout human history. Before agricultural models, before democracy, before many religions, there were gender norms. Why?

Because of what they give to us, and this is the Hidden Alchemy in plain sight.
Gender Norms give us a fundamental and foundational human identity framework upon which we can build. Studies show that when given too many choices our satisfaction, contentment, sense of well being and happiness goes down.

This happens when it comes to even small things, however, the degree to which the choices cause stress increases with the size of choice we need to make. In other words, you experience some stress when making a dinner choice from a large menu. Your stress will increase when you need to choose where to live from a large menu of places, or how to raise your children from a large menu of perspectives.

The more potential outcomes and longer lasting the outcomes of a choice the more difficult and stressful it is to make a choice when you are presented with too many.

In the other hand, if your choices are narrowed down… It becomes easier.

Now take a young child and provide no clear gender identity. Expose them to no clear models or examples of Femininity or Masculinity … How will they choose? What will they choose? Do they have the wherewithal to make that choice?

You can likely see the problem.

One of our foundational needs as humans is for Place. The ability to know what is our position and place within our relationships, family, community, and society. We long for this more than anything. While there are times when the idea of “place” is pushed upon the individual in ways that are oppressive, by and large, this need for an understanding of place- for both ourselves and others serves us at a gut level.

To this end, Gender Norms give us clear models and identities that we can then use as a template to our joy, contentment, and interaction with one another.

If I know the position and framework of my gender then I need only add my brilliant uniqueness to this frame; the doing of which is appreciated by all, as it is needful. This is also true of my gender polarity compliment.

This also serves those who find that their biological sex and energetic gender do not align, as it REVEALS the truth of this non-alignment as opposed to obscuring it behind a lack of gender. In fact, in cultures where there are more than two genders, the third gender or fourth gender is typically revealed by the way one engages with the other two.

All of which is to say that the rise of a lack of Gender Norms, and the obscuring and erasing of gender normative ideas are not serving our culture nor our identities as Feminine Women. This is due to the dynamic polarity that exists between the Masculine and the Feminine. If there are no gender norms we create a neuter based culture. Neutrality means without power.

It basically disempowers and detaches us from the innate power available within our Feminine (or Masculine) essence and the ability to express and manifest that power through our Femininity or Masculinity.

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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/lessons-alchemy-cosmic-compersion/#respondFri, 21 Jul 2017 02:54:50 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27597Those on the Path of “Conscious Mastery” and “I Am Embodiment” as the consciousness expands beyond the little “self” consciousness and the connection to the collective and I Am consciousness (that is always present but not always known) becomes known and visible then have the ability to know more clearly the distinction between what they …

]]>Those on the Path of “Conscious Mastery” and “I Am Embodiment” as the consciousness expands beyond the little “self” consciousness and the connection to the collective and I Am consciousness (that is always present but not always known) becomes known and visible then have the ability to know more clearly the distinction between what they are experiencing and what is in the mind and heart of others.

No longer running and being blown to any and every idea, they are aware of what is for them and what is, in fact, an emotion attached to an idea that is not for their direct localized individual experience at this time and place but belongs to another localized expression (person). Once this distinction begins to occur… Everything changes.

Much frustration lifts as you start to fall in love with the feeling of observing others excitement, with the feeling of loving others uncovering…
You experience what I call cosmic Compersion, where the act of others living a well-lived life feels for you… Satisfying, delightful… Even glee filled. You fall in love with others actualization.

On some level, you recognize that they ARE you…
Feel into that.

You can feel if you allow without the need to rationalize, the expansion.
Suddenly… Things like striving, hustling, run run run… Must do… Fall away…
And from that depth, the reality of what your Being Knows and Desires begins to arise, take form and inspire movement.

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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/the-way-through-duality/#respondMon, 17 Jul 2017 01:27:53 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27589Teaching.. Consciousness and expansion into True Self as All… And the place of Masculine and Feminine essence within that paradigm… Based on my comment to another post…It is long but worth it …. The distinction between Masculine Essenced beings and Feminine Essenced beings is part of my great Work at this point in the space …

]]>Teaching.. Consciousness and expansion into True Self as All… And the place of Masculine and Feminine essence within that paradigm…

Based on my comment to another post…It is long but worth it
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The distinction between Masculine Essenced beings and Feminine Essenced beings is part of my great Work at this point in the space time continuum and it is typically not discussed in many consciousness oriented circles beyond saying that everyone has both and does both if they get to high enough consciousness- which is true in part when viewed through one facet but incomplete in many ways and definitely does not make other facets less relevant or lower in consciousness. It’s as if what is being expressed subtly is “we are one with everything” while not acknowledging that the expression of my localized self, a table and a chair each have distinct and valid positions in their current form in relationship to each other, and that distinction is also a facet and actually an expression of the Absolute not a departure from it.

In short (or long…lol) Yes my Seeing is that the Masculine is the lens and direction through which many of a (specific teacher) teachings take place. It is very palpable. That doesn’t make them irrelevant they simply hold the Masculine pole and I know that the expression of that same energy will look substantially distinct through my essence and embodiment than it does through his, and that distinction does not lessen it.

Yes, most consciousness teachings, and spiritual modalities come through Masculine Essence beings and also hold that frequency, but many will say it does not matter. Of late there is a rising of many teachings coming through feminine beings and holding feminine frequency as well… But the issue still remains in that it is taught that it doesn’t matter. Rather than the belief that it doesn’t matter and if we just know enough, evolve enough, do the work enough -it won’t matter, my Knowing says… The distinction matters, it’s not oppositionally polarized but rather polarized compliments.

I also know as one who has been immersed in this work for decades and also living in life partnership for 14 years with one who has been doing this work for 40+ years, that teachings will shift as a result of the experience of living in partnership with a Polarized essenced being.
There is a reason in most traditions partnership was necessary in order to attain certain levels. You simply can not grok certain understandings without it. More interestingly one often can not access the Awareness that those understandings even exist without it. (Hence why it is denied, ignored or neutralized by many)

I have found that It is good to reCall and ReMember -Everything that is being taught now has been taught before and will be taught again… None of it is new, and if we look back through eyes not clouded with judgment we can see.

Lastly, I would say that yes the Feminine does Descend down… We go down as our route towards Absolute down into deeper Embodiment Physically which is where the gate (imprecise word, but it will do for now) lies for us, the Masculine goes up for the same experience. Hence differences in expression with huge distinctions and yet arriving at the same space.

They are both valid and distinct paths… It is not (as has been expressed by some) a “goal” to obtain Neutrality with Polarity being irrelevant for we live in a Universe (actually a multiverse) of Diversity. Why would we deeply understand this truth in all ways and yet deny it as Evolved or expression of Highest Self when it comes to Masculine/Feminine essence? It is because this Truth as expressed in Masculine/Feminine polarization shows us Viscerally the expression of that which we tend to try to internalize logically. The Mystery that diversity is not simply an aspect of the Absolute it is its expression, and we literally are incomplete in our individual localized expression without coming into close Companionship with our Polarized compliment, just as the All is incomplete without… All.

The way through duality is then not through neutrality but by Understanding the hidden… That the two must be one… Distinct and United.

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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/leave-her-soft/#respondFri, 14 Jul 2017 01:45:12 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27585For all the little girls that will be born tomorrow and the little girls crying within the women of today…. …… If you love her… Leave her Soft. Don’t harden her and toughen her up. Let her be a princess, a ballerina, let her wear tiaras and tutus. Being Feral is just another word for …

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If you love her… Leave her Soft.

Don’t harden her and toughen her up.
Let her be a princess, a ballerina, let her wear tiaras and tutus. Being Feral is just another word for being neglected and living without love. Don’t demand she hustle and grind and “use her head”.

Let her learn to relax, at a young and tender age.. Model for her the kindness of slowing down and the Sacred Way of Heart leading head.

If you love her leave her Soft

Don’t make her into the son you never had oh Father, attempting to make a man out of her so she won’t miss you when you’re gone, sewing Competition and Coldness into a heart that longs to weave love.

Don’t project your disappointment and bitterness on her dear Mother. Being offended by her youth, her innocence a painful reminder of dreams you aborted. Her tears and tenderness a signal of Vulnerability you’ve tried to hide from.

I know dear parents you want her safe, you want to know she’ll be okay on her own. But the world doesn’t need more warriors and intellect, it’s not bleeding for lack of money or high priced degrees.
And here is what you may have forgotten…Your role is not to keep her safe from her own heart. You are not here to prevent her from feeling the ache of disappointment by the cultivation of cynicism.

Teach her the resilience that comes with hurt and loving again, the healing that comes with forgiveness. The fulfillment of following your heart and caring for others. Teach her the stillness of midnight and the newness of dawn. The perfection of mystery and the wonder of the unknown.

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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/great-king-pick-womans-clothes/#respondThu, 13 Jul 2017 17:29:39 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27580Great King Live Forever!!! Great King – Do you pick out your woman’s clothes? I love this article – it talks about the pleasant surprise that this woman received when she let HIM pick out what he wanted her to wear, for an entire week. Initially, she was extremely worried – but that quickly turned …

I love this article – it talks about the pleasant surprise that this woman received when she let HIM pick out what he wanted her to wear, for an entire week.

Initially, she was extremely worried – but that quickly turned to joy as she realized that he actually knew what he was about.

I’ve learned that this is a fantastic opportunity for deepening pleasure in your relationship that is often overlooked. People often comment on how beautiful my Namaste is attired – what they do not know is that I select and purchase everything that she wears. When I say everything – I mean EVERYTHING.

All her beautiful, colorful Sari’s – all imported from India, I handpicked each and every one. All her outfits, shoes etc. I buy them all. I don’t do much accessorizing – I generally leave that part to her, but if it’s clothing related, I definitely make the purchase.

Why, you may ask? Because I love her and this is a way of showing love in a tangible fashion! (pun intended)

Also – I know the colors and textures that I love and I’ve made it my business to learn what looks good on her.

Initially, when we first started this experiment there were as the saying goes, ‘unknown unknowns’! I literally didn’t know what I didn’t know – but I was seriously motivated by what I loved to see on her!

Along the way I’ve learned a TON about fabrics and quality stitching and a host of minutiae about women’s fashion, my wife is an incredible fountain of wisdom and we’ve had the most amazing conversations about color theory and the alchemy of adornment while I search out wonderful things to accentuate her frame and bring joy and pleasure to both of us.

The bottom line? When she has a closet full of things that I’ve hand selected for her, it is literally impossible for her to put on an outfit that isn’t delightful for BOTH of us. Her attire becomes a source of love and confidence – she already knows that whatever it is, I already LOVE it, and that makes the wearing of it so much more fun!!!

And as much as we love all y’all – the most important thing is that we find delight in each other…and THAT is the secret ingredient that allows us to pursue our life’s work helping relationships grow and thrive because we can give from our overflow!!!

So, Kings – talk to your Queen and get that wardrobe rocking!!! As the guy on the suit commercial says…You’ll Absolutely LOVE it….I guarantee it!

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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/with-great-power/#respondMon, 10 Jul 2017 15:06:45 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27574“With great power comes great responsibility.” Ladies, when you understand the great power of the Feminine you’ll begin to understand the nature of the responsibility that comes with it. When you begin to embody it All dialogue about victimization will disappear. The change you desire resides within your own body, it lies dormant in your …

Ladies, when you understand the great power of the Feminine you’ll begin to understand the nature of the responsibility that comes with it. When you begin to embody it All dialogue about victimization will disappear.

The change you desire resides within your own body, it lies dormant in your being. It is not your howling at the wind nor taking up arms, but feel free my love to play that game as long as you desire to. It is not your judgment nor gnashing teeth. It is so much deeper.

Your place in the world is so much more than you realize, and how it is actualized is so much other than you think. That which you have rejected is in Truth the cornerstone of Creation.
Remember…
Remember
REMEMBER.

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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/try-soft-seven-days-1day/#respondThu, 22 Jun 2017 21:06:51 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27550The post Try SOFT For Seven Days For $1/Day appeared first on Richard and Namaste.
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http://www.richardandnamaste.com/feel-safe-sharing-greatness/#respondWed, 14 Jun 2017 20:40:34 +0000http://www.richardandnamaste.com/?p=27540In the Sacred text there is a story, sit a bit, my love, here’s tea and pastry….and let us open our Eye to it… The Divine showed Yosef his greatness, and Yosef in his innocence shared with his brothers, who were angry at his arrogance, bound him, took the symbol of his father’s favor, and …

]]>In the Sacred text there is a story, sit a bit, my love, here’s tea and pastry….and let us open our Eye to it…

The Divine showed Yosef his greatness, and Yosef in his innocence shared with his brothers, who were angry at his arrogance, bound him, took the symbol of his father’s favor, and sold him into slavery.

There are deep layers we could go into here, and perhaps we will another time, but for today….What is here for us as Feminine women specifically?

In the story we are everyone. We are Yosef and the Brothers. And there is a drama playing out today in like manner.

When the Divine in you gives you a Vision of your Greatness, do you feel safe to share it? I’m not speaking of the Great things you want to do (although that occurs on occasion as well) I’m speaking of the Radiant Beauty you ARE.

For the vast majority of women, the answer is no.

In women, we are by and large wonderful at offering support when our Sisters are down, but one of the greatest wounds that women carry is the wound of being Great and Radiant in the presence of each other. You can see it in many of the statements and memes that are written, feel it in your own body…

We do not desire to have ourselves torn apart by our Sisters, to be placed in bonds and told to be smaller, or that we are arrogant, or have our Sisters come against us.

We are also the Brothers, seeing the statement of our Sisters as a put down of ourselves, wanting to be seen as great ourselves without a willingness to share that with others. Believing that binding her will give us something.

It is time to understand and to Embody true Sacred Sisterhood. To celebrate and rejoice and hold space, not only for our Sisters brokenness but for her Beauty as well. Not only for when she’s doing bad but for when she is Fabulous… And she KNOWS IT. Often we can celebrate if a woman has some greatness if it’s come through her overcoming an obstacle or some challenge as if she’s earned it. But what about if it’s given to her? What if it came through pleasure instead of pain?

Are we willing to mature in this way?

Let’s begin here, I want to see you…

* Tell me something amazing that the Divine/Source has told you about yourself? Share your Vision of the Greatness you ARE!
* Tell me a celebration of the Greatness in ANOTHER woman, not her trials or struggles, but her Beauty alone.