How do you know if you are being abused in your relationship? All relationships have ups and downs. The information on these pages is meant to help you explore what might be happening in your relationship. If you have any questions about what is said on this website, you can always contact a HAVEN Advocate who will be happy to talk with you further.

Does my partner…

Put me down and make me feel bad about myself?

Intimidate me or make me afraid?

Call me names that I don’t like?

Pressure me to have sex?

Blame me when things go wrong?

Tell me what to do, what to wear, who I can and cannot see?

Make me feel like I can’t do anything right?

Control my access to money and/or keep me from getting or keeping a job?

Control me or pressure me to do things I don’t want to do?

Push, hit, hurt or threaten me?

If you answered yes to any of the above, you may be in an unhealthy or unsafe relationship. Help is availableHAVEN services