What should parents do about grandparents who spoil their grandchildren?

"GET OVER IT," advises TODAY's Al Roker. A beneficiary of past grandparental spoiling, Roker fondly remembers how his grandfather always managed to pull a mint out from behind each grandchild's ear, much to their amazement. It was a carefully planned trick, he later discovered.

"My grandmother had sewn a little pocket in his coat that he could reach through his pocket, and it went into another pocket," Roker told co-hosts Sheinelle Jones and Dylan Dreyer in TODAY.com's exclusive "Off the Rails" digital parenting chat.

"Grandparents are supposed to spoil" their grandkids, said Roker, a father of three.

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"Absolutely," agreed Jones, who also has three children, ages 8, 5 and 5. Her own father was strict with her and her siblings, she said, but totally dotes on his grandchildren. "When I send my kids over there, they get chocolate, they get cake... for my son's eighth birthday, he just bought him an ice-cream maker!"

In other words, extra sweets are fine... not buckling the car seat is NOT OK.

Dreyer, mom of 9-month-old Calvin, fondly remembered learning to play cards with her grandmother — and, yes, being indulged a little. "That's what made it special, because you're allowed to get away with stuff."

While the grandparents may go overboard with her children on occasion, Jones said, "I actually embrace it."