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Hair. It’s a four-letter word with so much “stuff” behind it you could barely scratch the surface in a two-hour documentary by the same name.

Or is it?

Just how deep is hair for Black women and who made it that way? Plus, do White women have some of the very same hangups we do when it comes to our manes? Check out this final episode of “I Always Wanted To Ask” as we peel back the layers on what hair means to women — Black and White alike.

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Black people certainly know white privilege exists because we live with the reality every day. But the question we’ve always wondered is do white people realize the position of privilege they’ve inherited or are they oblivious to the constructed reality and all the benefits that come with it? That’s what we asked the ladies of The Frisky in this candid discussion on race and the choice to acknowledge privilege.

Check it out and weigh in below.

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Black people debate over the n-word all the time and though there’s mixed opinion as to whether we have the right to use the word and should use it, one thing that’s unanimous is that white people should not use the word under any circumstances. Unfortunately, a lot of non-black people seem to have missed that memo. Consequently, they try to sneak in the word any chance they get, whether in a greeting, a rap song, or on the news. We can’t for the life of us understand white people’s fascination with using the n-word; so, we brought it up to the ladies of The Frisky to get their take on this phenomenon and fess up to whether they’ve used the word themselves and think they should be able to.

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Yesterday we unveiled our new series “I Always Wanted To Ask,” which garnered a lot of mixed reviews. Most people stopped dead in their tracks at the thought of being questioned about being jealous of a white woman but there was a lot of dialogue you missed between Madame Noire and the ladies of The Frisky.

Check out the extended cut of episode 1 in which we talk about interracial dating from the perspective of those who’ve actually had that experience. Watch as we delve into everything from assumed stank eyes, exoticism, and sexual myths about not just Black and White women, but also Black and White men. Enjoy!

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If there’s any topic that gets Black women riled up it’s interracial dating. Though most of us have tucked our reactions into the “I don’t care pile,” a number of us are still known for having a bit of a ‘tude when we see a White woman on a Black man’s arm. But why? Are we jealous? Do we think the chosen White woman sees herself as some kind of trophy? Do we want Black men all to ourselves? These are the types of assumptions that are being made on all sides of the coin, so why not get to the bottom of these misconceptions and address them as best we can? That’s what we did in our new series, “I Always Wanted To Ask.”

Tres interessant! I know I’ve had questions for years. I read it. These were questions black people all over America have pondered time and time again. I loved it. Then, as if this internet gem couldn’t have shone any brighter, I found the responses, T.D. Hurst, a white guy, provided. Nice!

As a woman who hasn’t had close, white friends since high school, some of the answers were surprising, some funny and I finished the post a bit more informed. Then, because I moonlight as a thief, I thought this is something we can do for Madame Noire…except with white women.

So, during one of our weekly editorial meetings the MN editors came up with questions we’ve always wanted to ask white women, before we even knew which white women we were going to ask. And believe us, we kept it real. The whole point was for the conversation to be to honest and helpful.

Then came time to find the white women we wanted to ask. That’s where the women of The Frisky came in. I’ve been a fan of their site for a while now, so naturally I reached out. We e-mailed a couple of the editors to see if they’d be interested in not only answering our questions but asking some of their own as well. We heard back within the hour.

Initially, we were going to answer the questions and make this just a print post. But then Amelia of The Frisky said they were going to answer some of the questions in their weekly video. *Ding! Lightbulb moment.* We should do a video too…with the ladies of The Frisky. We worked out our schedules and met to shoot our first video in what will hopefully be an ongoing series: “I Always Wanted To Ask…”

Well we did that thang and a short version of the video will air on Madame Noire tomorrow, Tuesday, January 8th and then the full version will air on Wednesday, January 9th.

Check out a trailer for the series and get to know the women who will be featured in the video, the editorial staff of The Frisky and Madame Noire.