Why is Breaking Up So Hard? It Shouldn’t Be!

If you’re dating a sane, reasonable person, the break-up may be difficult, but it won’t feel scary or even impossible. After all, as long as you’re sensitive, honest, and kind, your partner should be OK.
However, if you’re having problems breaking up, there may be something more going on. Why is the thought of breaking up so intimidating?

Is your partner verbally or physically abusive?

Do you feel too much guilt?

Will your partner be completely devastated if you leave?

Are you scared that you won’t be OK on your own?

Regardless of the answer to the above, if you’re not happy and you want to leave, you must break up. If you don’t, you’re just wasting both your partner’s time and your own time.

Here’s what you need to know: You have permission to go. A relationship is always a choice. I’ve said it before: You can break up with anyone at anytime and for any reason. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been together 10 days or 10 years: There is always the possiblility that one partner wants something else out of life or a partner.

Remember: Heartbreak is part of life, and we all agree to the possibility of heartbreak when we get involved with someone. There are no guarantees in love. You’re not being cruel to your partner by leaving him or her. The truth is, your partner should not want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with him or her.