How to Make Wedding-Night Sex Feel Special

If your wedding night will be your first time with your man, then congratulations--it's guaranteed to be special. If waiting til marriage wasn't right for you (definitely wasn't for me! sorry, Nana!), here's how to make newlywed sex different from all those other nights.

If your wedding night will be your first time with your man, then congratulations--it's guaranteed to be special. If waiting til marriage wasn't right for you (definitely wasn't for me! sorry, Nana!), here's how to make newlywed sex different from all those other nights.

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Change your birth control method.

This simple switch can make it feel (almost) like you're losing your virginity all over again. TMI alert! We removed condoms from our repertoire for the first time that night. And it definitely was different. So swap rubbers for pills, sponges, diaphragms, whatever, and you'll notice a change.

Wear an accessory.

It's a little silly, but it'll make things interesting if your sex tends to be prop-free. Besides, that veil only gets so much play at the wedding…and that bowtie could return for a second act.

Choose a new venue.

I know, I know. You always imagined wedding-night sex on a bed. Who says it has to be that way, though? If you normally get it on between the sheets, try a romp in a tub, on a couch, or against a wall to spice things up.

Have a soundtrack ready.

OK, here's another dose of TMI: Paul and I never do it while music's playing. Maybe it's because the only option we've ever had in our bedroom is a clock radio, and slow jams mixed with static aren't major mood-setters. So had we created a playlist for our hotel room, it would have been unlike our past encounters. If you're too busy to create a soundtrack, yourself, you could ask a bridesmaid to make one for you--I'm totally kidding! Don't farm out sex-related tasks!

Are you worried that wedding-night sex won't be so exciting because you've gotten it on before? Or is sex on your wedding night special in and of itself without any tricks to make it different from your other times? Would you try any of the above to separate your wedding-night nookie from previous shags?