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SANGJIT DAY (ENGAGEMENT)

12:34 AM

On April 24, 2017, as my boyfriend and I were celebrating our 8 years relationship, we also happen to held a very special event, a milestone in our very long relationship, our engagement. We really keep it as secret, no post mentioning about the preparation, we'd love to surprise people. LOL. Just kidding, no.

So, here I'm gonna share about my experience preparing the engagement parcel and so, I will try to explain in English and Bahasa. We held an engagement in Chinese tradition, it is also called Sangjit, seserahan in Bahasa. Basically, in the old Chinese or Buddhist tradition, Sangjit is an engagement ceremony where the groom present tributes to the groom, which is generally done after proposal and two month to one week before the wedding ceremony. And uh, we aren't going to get married in less than two months but in the next x months :P

Box of makeup, red dress and a shoes. The shoes here will be used in our wedding, it really help to sort of another unimportant things prior to the wedding. This box is a representation of the ability of a man who can fulfill the woman daily needs.

Box of one set of cloth fabric for grandmother, this is an additional request from my father. Since his root is Javanese, this box is named as Pesing in Java, seperti uang susu, ini adalah lambang terima kasih kepada Nenek dan Kakek yang masih hidup.

All of the box were prepared and wrapped by me :)

(Sorry for the bad photos, it was taken by a newbie)

And here is the list of stuff that I give to Hendra :

Box of red blouse, pant and a wedding shoes.

Box of sweet cake.

Box of two red syrup as the substitutes of the two wine. Di baki ini juga Uang Pesta dikembalikan ke pihak mempelai pria.

Sebenarnya tidak sulit mempersiapkan Sangjit, yang sulit itu kalau pihak keluarga banyak mintanya :D dan kami bersyukur sekali masing-masing keluarga "take it eazy" dan sama-sama tidak mau ribet, toh masing-masing sudah saling kenal. For us, this event is a formality and a commitment from ours that we were ready to take a serious path in the future, for a serious mark on preparing the big day. Menyatukan dua keluarga juga tidak mudah, butuh pengertian dan mengalah demi kebaikan bersama and we also encounter this conflict when selecting the date of our wedding. Geez, that's really take a lot of our energy but thank God we passed that hard time.

And, last but not least, this procession may different from each family. I said once again, it depends on each family tradition and never stick to one rule, so I open for any input from all of you who happen to celebrate in different way.

Notes in Our Sangjit Procession :

Red dress for every one in the event. This is undeniable, and no need for explanation. Ok, just kidding. Red is the symbol of happiness and all kind of positive energy in Chinese, not a strictly red by the way, any other color out of white and black is still allowed.

The Groom and his family came with the presents. People nowadays taking place in restaurant for a better environment or comfortability, but since my house is quite big and comfortable enough, the event take place in my house. The groom were not allowed to bring the boxes, it has to be brought by his family.