Ugochi

Dream For Your Marriage

Starting anew can be done at any time or season, not necessarily at the beginning of year only. However the beginning of year is one good time to reflect and reposition for positive changes and better results.

As with every other area of our lives; our spiritual lives, our jobs, our finances, our dreams and aspirations to achieve greatness… our marriages SHOULD NOT be left out.

We should also have set goals, dreams, aspirations and targets towards a better marriage. Need I emphasize here how our marriages affect every part of our lives? If any marriage is sick, no husband or wife or child will be at peace.

This is a good time to reflect on what went wrong in 2013, why it went wrong and how to stop it from reoccurring.

It is a good time for every husband and wife to look inwards to how they have contributed to the low points in their marriages and set personal goals on how to become better and be a positive rather than negative team player in their marriage.

It is a time also, for couples to reflect on the high points of their marriages in 2013, why it was a high point, how they both contributed and how they can keep it up, multiply it and and make it even better.

Now is the time for couples to get very intentional about their marriages. Time to sit down with pen in hand and discuss on practical steps they both can take to take their marital relationship better than it was last year.

Personal DevelopmentPersonal development is very important for every husband and wife because if they grow spiritually, they would grow mentally and in character too. Their perspectives will take on a new and better shape and this will affect what they bring into their marriage. No one can give what he or she does not have, what you are and have in you is what you will give in your marriage. Every couple should then be encouraged to take on a personal development journey so that they can bring in positivity in their marriages this year.

Start Growing Your MarriageI have seen that if anything stops growing it will start dying. If we do not intentionally work on growing our marriage from where it is, it will stagnate and with time begin to experience decline. Just like when fire goes out if wood is no longer added to it, a marriage will lose its fire if “wood” is not intentionally and continually added to it. The “wood” to add depends on each marriage.

No matter how hard your marriage was last year, you can start afresh with God this year and watch Him turn your marriage amazingly around. If yours was good or great, working with God, you can make it better and greater this year, that is God’s dream for you.

But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day. Proverbs 4:18

Have you dreamt of what and how you want your marriage to be this 2014? Have you set personal and team goals with God to make that dream come true?

10 Comments

Jolomi January 20, 2014 at 4:53 AM

Thank God for the awesome insight he has giving you to write this very crucial and interesting topic. I just stumbled on this website going through some stuff on the internet. This discussion is an eye opener for couples especially women. In reality the ups and down of life sometimes hit us so badly that we many a times forget our focus in marriage, and I admit its not very easy to perform most of these duties, that makes us good partners but like ugochi has written lets keep observing and practising the above write up things will work out. Remember the journey of a thousand mile starts with a step

This is important for both husband and wife, it takes both of them to make the marriage and home work. It is important to begin, with a step like you have stated. Thanks a lot for coming by and leaving your thoughts. Hope to see you more often. Do have a super blessed week!

This is a great reminder, Ugochi! I haven’t really thought about doing an inventory of my marriage and setting new marriage goals with my hubby. I don’t know why, but I’m grateful that God has used you to nudge me toward that worthy process. Hugs to you, my friend! Grateful for your friendship and support too! 🙂

I understand. Who doesn’t get tired sometimes? lol! But the trick is to get up and just do it because it is very vital to our moving forward. Evaluation and repositioning. Thanks a lo for coming by. Happy New Year to you too! Love