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Question about adoption?

I had a post yesterday asking why people that had over two children of their own didn't adopt. Most said that it was expensive and/or they didn't qualify. Honestly, I doubt any if them even looked into it.

One lady compared adopting instead of having the child on your own with the difference between getting a pure bred dog and a rescue dog. I think that's kinda harsh when talking about adopting a baby.

What are your views on adoption? Do you think that someone who can't afford to adopt or doesn't qualify should be allowed to have 4+ children?

Adoption through foster care is not expensive. It is not overly difficult, and adopted family members are NO DIFFERENT then biological family members. I come from a family where my grandmother is adoptee, an uncle is an adoptee, and 4 of my siblings are adoptees, and Hubby and I plan on adopting once we get into a bigger place. We agreed on a total of 4 children 2 biological and 2 through adoption. All the ignorance out there about adoption really makes me ill....

I would never adopt because I CAN have my own children. We are having our fourth within the next two weeks!
Adoption is a messy process and I wouldn't wish it on anyone who doesn't need it.
I think people who aren't going to take care of their kids shouldn't have them... that would lessen the amount of children who are available for adoption in the first place.
I love my kids and there is no reason that I shouldn't be able to have them just because I don't want to pay someone for a kid.

Dh and I compromised on this, he wants two kids, and I just wanted to adopt. I am currently pregnant (we were trying) and I'm hating being pregnant I'm constantly morning sick. I told DH he better hope for twins if he still wants two children because there is no way I going through this again. So he brought up adopting, so we are planning to adopt our second child.

I looked into it just for the heck of it once and from what I saw it is pretty expensive. Not to mention there are a lot of legal hassles and whatnot.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 3:01 AM on Jun. 24, 2011

I'm actually planning to adopt if we want more than two. Cost really is a factor for us, but it's so worth it to give a child a home. I don't really want to get a baby though since the older ones are less likely to get chosen ad loved. I want one of them.

I can't believe that either OP. And if I had been in that question then I probably would have gone off on somebody and maybe got kicked off CM. My brothers and sisters are NOT comparable to dogs! They are my brothers and sisters. It doesn't matter if they were born to us or came through foster care.