Dear Michael: What about the ring thing?

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Sep 23, 2012 at 12:01 AMSep 23, 2012 at 8:11 PM

My significant other and I have decided to get married. We’re in our 40s, and this will be the second marriage for both of us. There was no grand proposal, no ring; we just decided that we love each other and want to be married. I was perfectly content with the situation until a couple of my girlfriends told me that I should be upset that there’s no ring. What do you think?

Michael Serode

Dear Michael,

My significant other and I have decided to get married. We’re in our 40s, and this will be the second marriage for both of us. There was no grand proposal, no ring; we just decided that we love each other and want to be married. I was perfectly content with the situation until a couple of my girlfriends told me that I should be upset that there’s no ring. What do you think?

Sincerely,

Second Time Around

Dear Miss Second Time,

Girlfriend, what are you thinking? You never pass up the chance to get more jewelry! Your girlfriends are just looking out for your best interest, honestly. Is there at least going to be a wedding ring? Maybe you can have the diamond and the band at the same time. I do think you should get a ring, but I don’t think that it’s necessary that it happens right away. Even better – convince him you need to pick out your own ring. You get exactly what you want, and then you can show off to all your girlfriends.

Love,

Your Diva Michael

Dear Michael,

I am a man in my mid-30s, and I love fashion. I love being up-to-date and sophisticated. I am always jealous of my female counterparts that get to have so much variety in their outfits. Do you have any tips for fall fashion for men?

Sincerely,

Style Guy

Dear Mr. Style,

Who says accessories are just for women? I, for one, have never abided by this rule, and I never will. While you may not be on my level of accessorizing, you can still look fabulous. First of all, I recommend a decent wristwatch. It is glitzy and showy, but still professional. Also, I think a scarf can make a big statement in the colder months, and they are so versatile. You can own a fairly large collection of scarves on a budget. Having different jackets for different occasions is nice, as well. I’ve seen more and more men wearing bracelets, usually larger than women’s, so depending on how much accessorizing you want to do, your options are endless!

Love,

Your Diva Michael

Dear Michael,

What do you think is the best hair color for a woman in her 20s? I have had all different colors, and I honestly can’t decide. I’m lucky enough to be able to pull off a number of different colors, but I was wondering if you have a favorite. What do you think?

Sincerely,

Undecided

Dear Miss Undecided,

Is this even a serious question? If you can pull of blond, then by all means, do it! What’s stopping you? Other colors are pretty, and different skin tones call for different hues. However, as I said, if you can make it as a blond, do it. It’s a little more work, but it’s worth it.

Love,

Your Diva Michael

Michael Serode is the owner/operator of Salon Serode in Pembroke, Mass., and your divine advice columnist. Send questions to salonserode@gmail.com.

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