Exploring Gender Identity

What Next Cont.

by Sequoia Elisabeth on April 23, 2010

By loving a transgender person you have embarked on a grand journey of discovery that has no bounds. We are all on a journey to discover who we are. In the process of thinking and doing, we see who we are not. Along the way many personas emerge, and with each step you are closer to who you really are. In the end we discover that there is really only one, and this is GOD.

Who you are attracted to guides you closer to discovering your inner self. Since the world is an inside job, we must look within to find the source. We do this by looking around us and discovering what we are creating! It is much like a house of mirrors that distorts and exaggerates our true nature. This is where we resort to our feelings and let them guide us because our eyes betray.

Close your eyes and connect to your feelings right now. I will wait. …. Take a least a minute to feel deep inside. Identify each feeling and simply acknowledge it. Maybe it is calm, maybe it is anger, maybe it is affection but no matter what it is say “I see you, and all is well”. Be careful not to judge here, but simply observe. Make a list of all the feelings you observe and yes this may take longer than one minute, it is worth every second. The deeper you look the more you will find, so let consciousness flow. Now set this list aside for later use and go about your day, still making no judgments. Anger is not bad and loving affection is not good, unless you say so, which just happens to be the next step.

Somewhere in that soup of feelings are desires and dreams. Get in touch with those next and this can be done at any time, but usually best when things are quiet. Notice what feels good and what seems to cause pain. Certain thoughts or dreams will excite you and make you feel lighter, write these down. Other thoughts will scare you and can be painful, write these down also. Action is not required at this stage so just relax and feel. Take your time and keep these writing in a journal or diary. It is important to come back to them at some point though.

The next step is to embrace these feelings and explore each one all the while being aware of your thoughts, emotions and feelings. If you are male but have the desire to dress as a woman then do so and get help if needed there are links onmy website. If you are female but feel that you should have a penis then try one on, most XXX video stores have strap-ons you can purchase(for adults only!). Take your time and notice how you feel along the journey. If you are adolescent then it is even more important to take your time and not to run from your feelings. Write to me if you need someone to talk to, I am happy to help.

This process of looking within and feeling your feelings can take a lifetime, so do not get discouraged. Remember it is about loving all of your aspects and simply being who you are. Let go of expectations and relax, simply be yourself!