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Topic: I think i am destined to have this virus (Read 6758 times)

I would really appreciate if you could read through my story below and tell me if I have a probability of getting HIV!

I am a 28 male from India.I am a heterosexual.I dont have any History of homosexual relations and IV drug abuse.

Here are the points that are worrying me:-

1) In early 2000 I had sex with a prostitute without a condom.

2) In 2004 I had sex with a prostitute with a condom but she bled heavily on the condom.

3) From 2004 to 8th April 2006 I had sex with different prostitutes but all incidents were protected with a condom and lasted around 2 to 5 minutes.

All incidents were insertive vaginal sex and sometimes oral also.

Here is my testing History:-

1) I got tested for HIV and hepatitis on 24th May 2006 (after approx 7 weeks from 8th April) from two different clinics and the results were

ImmunoBlot = negativeMEIA = negativeEIA = negative.

2) I got tested for HIV on 4th November 2006 (after approx 6 monts and 3 weeks from 8th April ) by ELISA and the test was non reactive.

3) I got tested for Syphillis on 4th November 2006 (after approx 6 monts and 3 weeks from 8th April ) by RPR and the test was non reactive.

My questions are :-

1) Do I need any further testing for HIV and Syphillis?

2) Can I be sure I am HIV negative?

3) Can I still seroconvert and turn HIV positive?

4)The lab techinician told me that these tests will cover even if i had an exposure 14 days back. Is this true ?

some more concerns are :-

The condoms that I have used on prostitutes were all supplied by them.Now what if those condoms were expired or were kept in conditions not suitable for their storage e.g. heat etc. Can the risk of getting HIV increase by using such condoms?

I am also worried about the quality of the condoms.Does the risk of getting HIV increase by using inferiror condoms?

I dont know if the condoms worked properly thats why I am very worried !!!!

The condoms that I have used on prostitutes were all supplied by them.Now what if those condoms were expired or were kept in conditions not suitable for their storage e.g. heat etc.

Can the risk of getting HIV increase by using such condoms?

How much time does one take to seroconvert ? There is a lot of confusion regarding the Window Period for HIV. Also i have re occuring throat infections.I have always had them and had them before the encoutner as well. Since April 2006 I have been living in constant fear of HIV,AIDS and death.It reached a point where i could not take it any more and I began testing.

But I am so guilty of my actions. I hate it the way people look at me when they draw blood for HIV testing.

And what about Syphillis testing ? Shall i continue that. I did not see any doctor regarding HIV so far.

You have reliably tested negative for HIV. You ARE HIV negative. Period. End of story.

Since you have also tested negative for syphilis at more than six months, that's a reliable result as well.

Sex workers don't want to catch HIV. There's no rational reason to believe the condoms you received from them were not reliable. If it will make you feel better then bring your own in the future. Condoms provide very effective protection whether you are with a professional or a civilian. Just make sure you wear one everytime.

As far as your symptoms are concerned, they have nothing to do with HIV. Discuss them with your doctor if they continue.

This is not an HIV situation.

In general we do recommend that anyone who's sexually active ought to regularly have a full STD panel done. That means at least once a year and every six months is even better. Other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV.

After breathing a sigh of relief... testing negative at 7 months i think i have challeneged fate once more

Just 7 hrs before i had sex with a pros..

I used a condom.She was on top. I never wanted to have insertive sex but she forced herself on top of me.i pushed her off after about half a minute.She then gave me a hand job with the condom on. Things that are worrying me are :-

1.Some watery fluid was on my thigh and it soldified there.i think it was from the condom.

2.i think the condom broke.

3.i think i may have gotten in contact with her vaginal fluid that was on the condom while i was taking the condom off.

Right now :-

1) my back aches and i have got cold feet.my leg aches and i feel like shit

2) right after i came in the condom i sweat heavily.

3) Over all i am full of Lethargy with a slight stomachache.

Can i take any meds so hiv does not spread in my body ?

Please help i am so scared and think i am infected this time. what can i do i dont wanna die

It doesn't read to me as if the condom broke when you were in the woman. When a condom breaks it is not a subtle event. It really falls apart. So as far as I can tell you had protected intercourse. That means you are not risk for HIV during this incident.

As for whether her vaginal secretions got onto your thigh or hands or wherever that's all totally irrelevant. That's not how HIV is transmitted, even IF the woman you were with is HIV+, and you don't know that to be so.

So what we're really talking about here is more of you indulging in personal drama. "Take meds so HIV doesn't spread in your body"? That's more ridiculousness. Ditto with your sudden "symptoms."

If you can't let go of all of this emotionality then I suggest you see a mental health professional. Then you could discuss what the source of all of this totally unwarranted concern is about, because it has no reality basis whatsoever in HIV science.

I respect you and your knowledge.You have been very straight forward with your answers and i know you always try to help me out.Yesterday i had a chat with jfriend and he was very helpful too.But my causes of concern are :-

1.The condom was not all the way down to the base of the penis.

2.i have small pimples on penis can HIV have entered the body through them.

You only needed the condom to cover the head of your penis inwhich it did. Having pimples on the base of your penis doesn't not influence or change the answers you've been given. You did not have a risk for HIV.

i am sorry i am going through a lot of emotional trauma here. i just worried about the pimples... and i think the condom had a small hole in its side. i dont know what a condom break is... i am sorry i just need help and support..jfriend was right the thoughts will keep coming back only time will heal my trauma..

i feel like shit my back aches and my feet keep getting numb no apetite what so ever i wish i could kill my self

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Ann - Thanks for merging the threads.I am sorry if i violated the forum rules aplogize for that.

Andy and Rod - I admit the fact that I am having a mental problem about HIV.Unluckily after having mental peace on getting a negative result after 7 months of a protected incident I am again in mental turmoil since the 19th of November. I believe you when you say that i did not have any risk. But the cause of worry is this :-

If HIV is difficult to pass on from a woman to a man during insertive vaginal intercourse how come so many people in my country (India) have the virus. Here most of the infections are due to heterosexual activities.

I am just asking this coz I am willing to help and spread the word about HIV prenvention among my friends and society.There are people here who believe in all kind of myths and superstitions.

I have a learned a lot by reading the forum postings on this website. You people are doing a great job.

I wish you the best of health always. Thanks for having patience with me.

If HIV is difficult to pass on from a woman to a man during insertive vaginal intercourse how come so many people in my country (India) have the virus. Here most of the infections are due to heterosexual activities.

The odds are in the insertive partner's favour of not becoming infected from a one time unprotected incident. However, many people have multiple exposures. Also, we never said it was without risk. It is possible to become infected from one time, but it's just not that likely.

You did not become infected from your any of your sexual activities and you have the negative hiv test results to prove it. You do not have hiv. If you insist on using this forum to continue to doubt your negative results, I will have to give you a time out to encourage you to get face-to-face help with your sexual anxieties. We cannot do that for you here.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Encounter :- Few minutes (2 minutes to 5 minutes) of sex with a professional sex worker with a condom on.Encounter took place on November 19 2006.

Concern :- 1. Condom not all the way down to the base of the penis

2. I think the condom had a small hole on its side ()

Results :- NEGATIVE for HIV1 and HIV2 at 7 weeks (DAY 51)

Concerns :- Am I safe ? Can I relax. (For the past 7 weeks i have been monitoring my body temperature each day!) I asked them for a 3rd generation ELISA.But when the report came back it said on it "conducted through Screening Method".

Questios :- Do i need further testing. i tested today for mental peace.

You think there was a hole in the condom. I think I won a millon dollars. You don't think you know. Doesn't matter if the condom was down only half way. You didn't need a test and you sure don't need to retest.

Rapid I am sorry. I know i have bugged you guys. please i am sorry but answer just one question

What kind of test is the "Screening Method" ? Can it be done in under an hour ? I had asked for 3rd generation ELISA but they did this test.

again i apologise.maybe it is my anxiety coupled with guilt that is troubling me. I am working on it honestly I am but till them i do need your support here guys.... this website is the only thing I trust on the internet !!

Thanks very much for helping me out and being there when i needed you !

I'll have to let Rod or one of the others give you the full answer because I don't know all of the different types of tests. I do wonder two things, though: How is it so many of you folks don't have a handle on basic safe sex and risk concepts, but know of about every type of test under the sun...like to ask for certain ones by name? And also, I think you might want to take a breath and ask of yourself: Do you really think the people who did your testing would just pick some random unfounded testing method and wing it with your results just because...?

I admit I am very bad at basic safe sex practices. Though I always wore a condom but i never knew they can slip and break. Only once I had unprotected sex with a professional sex worker and I think I am lucky not to be infected.

Another concern in my country is the wide corruption which exists. They charge you for an expensive test and perform a less reliable test.

I have searched the whole of the internet and this is the only website I found which gave me correct answers.

I still have two concerns :-

>> What kind of test is the "Screening Method" ? Can it be done in under an hour ? I had asked for 3rd generation ELISA but they did this test.

The confidence with which you guys give answers and the posts which prove that they are true is what keeps me motivated and happy. You guys are doing a great job. Please let me know if you guys accept donations in Indian rupees. I would love to help you.

Wishing everyone on the forum the very best of health !

Thanks for helping me and I hope I will continue getting your support and answers.

If you have questions about what type of test was used, you need to ask the person who tested you. "Screening method" is a very general term and could mean any sort of diagnostic test.

We do not accept donations on this website. There are hiv/aids organisations in India and I'm sure one of them would be happy to have a donation from you. We would also appreciate this very much. If you help one person with hiv, you help all of us in some small way.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I believe you Andy. Honestly i believe you. The problem i am having is that my mind still has a lot of nagging questions. You must account for the fact that i am a resident of India a third world developing country where corruption is the norm of the day.

I am worried that i have an index = 0.26 in the p24 Antigen test.

What does it mean ? Does it mean i have some amount of the virus in my blood..?

I asked the guy at the clinical lab and he had no idea... in a country like ours it is very common they charge you for the diagnostic test and dont do it in real give a false report... so i am just trying to put facts together and the bad thing is the jigsaw is not fitting in...

How good is the p24 Antigen test ? I wish i had never gone to these PSWs....the guilt and anxiety is killing me

LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

The p24 antigen test is only useful in the first few weeks following an exposure.

The only incident you report that is of any concern is the unprotected intercourse you had in 2000. You have tested negative years after that incident and this mean you are without doubt hiv negative. You do NOT need further testing.

Intercourse with a condom is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv transmission and there are thousands of couples around the world who have sex all the time but the negative partner remains negative. This is because condoms work.

You do NOT need further testing. You are hiv negative and it's high time you put this behind you.

Ann

PS - read the Welcome Thread and follow the Testing Lesson link for further information on the various tests... not that you need further tests, because you don't.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts