Exploring Gender Identity

Polarity Speaking

by Sequoia Elisabeth on October 18, 2014

Relationships can be complex with all the drama, expectations, and emotional turmoil involved, however they don’t need to be. Simplicity is a welcome approach in all your best relationships. Sometimes we need the drama in order to work out karma and to get to know ourselves better, so these relationships usually happen early on in life. The quicker you learn your lessons the less you need the complex relationships.

Each person has many facets to their being and we are here today to discuss the sexual aspect. “The second chakra is the sacral chakra associated with sensual movement and with sexuality. The information contained in the second chakra relates to relationship, emotions, intimacy, sexuality, creativity, work and money.” (Candess, 2014)

One part of sexuality is attraction; some call this sexual orientation, although we are going to be a little more specific. Polarity is “the state of having two opposite or contradictory tendencies, opinions, or aspects. The polarity between male and female” (Google, 2014) What we are speaking about today is the energy between us which we either find attractive or repulsive just like in a magnet.

Each person generates their own magnetic field which fluctuates over time and some can see this as their aura. This can get a bit complicated so no worries if you don’t get it all first time through. I am also not going to get terribly deep with this, so if you need to go deeper I suggest doing your research, meditating on Polarity, and experimenting with these principles.

Have you ever been with someone who you were intensely attracted to, who just ‘turned you on’ by being around them? This is what I am talking about and I call this polarity. If not, then perhaps you have negative polarity or your system just needs to be charged. If you remember from high school, magnets are either (+) or (-) charged and attract their opposites. On the human scale feminine is (-) and masculine (+). Notice I did not say male or female here because sometimes males are (-) and females (+), we call this transgender. Transgender also is often neutral or neuter in sexual terms.

So you can see the bit about sexual orientation is off base here, because this is set at birth. You are attracted to opposite, same sex or somewhere in between and this is hard wired and cannot be changed. What can be changed is your polarity! Those who are good at this are bisexual or pansexual as I prefer to call them. Bisexual as a word is deceptive because it implies only two sexes and as we all know by now that sex and gender are spectrums or scales, not either/or.

Polarity is really simple for heterosexuals because they are strongly charged and usually specifically attracted to certain people and as the scale shifts it gets more complicated in the middle and less complicated again on the other end of the spectrum at homosexual. Remember that Gender, Sexual Orientation, and Polarity are separate aspects of second charka energy. Where this becomes really important to understand is for the transgender person or Gender Queer who can find this very confusing. It has taken me years to understand it!

What makes this information valuable is if you are neutral, potential does not exist for you. Think in terms of electricity and magnets. If your polarity is neutral you neither attract nor repel, so in relationships this negates any possibility for sexual attraction. On the orientation scale this would be asexual. So what I am saying is without potential, no work gets done. This aspect of your life remains idle. Sexual energy transfer is how we charge the system (by having sex). Being charged up gives us energy and purpose driving our actions. The masculine shares physical energy in this transfer and the feminine shares mental and emotional energy so if you have one in excess or deficiency this will drive your attraction toward those who can balance your energy. A person can be strongly charged and still in balance which is the goal here I suppose. Meaning you have an abundance of all three energies.

Test these concepts as I present them here and see for yourself how they are true for you. I share from my own experience and understanding and certainly do not claim to know all. I do find this fascinating though and encourage others to get to know themselves better also.

The question for me arises; did I transition to balance my energy? Being male born and attracted to neither sex, I first was attracted to females (with some mental coercion from my psyche as to what is proper) and then later to males (so again the psyche pushed me to be of opposite sex). As it ends up I identify as Pansexual, but then identity is just your perception of reality (if there really is one)!