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Really just need to vent. Anyone else having these types of relationship problems since they became pregnant?

Recently I have been feeling very unsexy due to my weight gain because of my pregnancy. I have been going to bed early every night this week since I started working again and am very tired. I have noticed that my bf has been watching porn every night this week and does not come to bed with me. Whenever I am not home he visits many porn sites. I have not been spying I just have my ways of knowing since every time I type something in the website bar this shows up. This really does a number on my self esteem and its hurtful. I know guys will be guys but do you think my bf is addicted to porn? Also since I started up my job I have been broke since my first paycheck won't be for a while. My bf has has to lend me money left and right. He says hes ok with it but I know this bothers him. I hate having to go through this much stress while I am pregnant.

My SO is addicted to porn. No biggie. He doesn't use it to replace me and I know I can satisfy him more than it can anyday, so its all good ^_^. Maybe try watching it with him (the ones HE likes and refrain from nitpicking and/or yelling "thats f-ing disgusting". You'll only push him away)

I know that you wont think so and it'll be slightly offensive for me to say, but it really is just your pregnancy hormones. They're making you over react and even though he isn't in the right in the least bit, your high emotions are probably playing a part in him not being with you and turning to porn.

To be clear, in no way is this really your fault, you just need to tone it down some and see if that changes things.

My husband did that constantly with our first. With our second, his sorry self left me alone in the hospital just to go home and masturbate while looking at porn. Sad thing is he denied it all, up until I walked in on him.