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Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Originally Posted by Thefringedninja

I used to get REALLY pissed off at how over-protective my parents were, but since I've gone to university my relationship with them has changed quite a bit.
My sister used to annoy me so much, but I find that I miss her a lot now that I don't see her every week.
Also, university has made me realise that my brother and I are so similar in most ways. He's like my spirit animal xD

Don't worry, you can talk to us!
I was the same during secondary school (aged 11-16), but once you get to college I think you'll meet more like-minded people.
You should try and find anime clubs (if there are any) around you!

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Originally Posted by PhantomPhD

We don't have a bad relationship at all, although recently my dad and i had a physical spat because he thought i was coming at him offensively so we pretty much fought and he kicked me. Which a parent should never do so i was very pissed at him. Wow look at me venting lol. Okay basically my family isn't that bad.

Wow I dont even understand... why would your dad mistake you from coming at him with the intent of fighting and how does he react with a kick lol. That sounds strange ^^

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Originally Posted by Thefringedninja

I know that feel. My dad eats SO much meat. Literally at every meal. But he's a really kind guy.
My mum always makes an effort to not eat meat when we eat out together though, as she used to be veggie.[COLOR="Silver"]

Yeah, I'm really lucky, my parents have been very supportive of my decision not to eat animal products. My mum even cooks us a vegan dinner once a week. But the rest of my family are not very open-minded, and are always bombarding me with questions and arguments and such, so I just can't be bothered.

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Originally Posted by sunnyside

Actually, since it seems like bad relationships are more common than good ones, is there any reason why you think you have a loving relationship with your families? Something that you or they did? Just lucky?

In my country, we live in extended family, mostly. So that's why most families here are close knit. In my case, I have a big family living under the same roof (parents, 10 siblings (including me), 2 nephews, 2 nieces, 2 brother in laws) and you can imagine the hectic day I lead everyday. So that means we do everything together. Sure we fight sometimes as most siblings do, but we get over it pretty quickly. If I hang out, I usually go with my siblings rather than my friends. That being said, I'm not saying my family is perfect. I'm just saying that we're close, tolerant and loving to each other.

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

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Don't worry, you can talk to us!
I was the same during secondary school (aged 11-16), but once you get to college I think you'll meet more like-minded people.
You should try and find anime clubs (if there are any) around you![COLOR="Silver"]

Haha thanks! Normally there are 2 clubs I go to but I lost my phone so I can't go I'll be glad when I get to college ( I plan on going to an art school) so I think I'll meet a lot of awesome people, and I'm so glad I found this sight! so many anime fans in one place!

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

I live with my brother, and we get along reasonably well, mostly because we know to leave each other alone. I talk to my mother a couple times a week on the phone. I talk to my father once a month, and so long as no more often than that we get along fine (although we don't have much to talk about or much in common), mostly just due to personality conflicts. My sisters, well, I either talk to once a year when she wants something or avoid because we really do not get on (as in, physical violence is often a danger, much though I try to control my temper).

So, yeah. Complicated.

Thanks to all who helped me out with my research project! Really appreciated!

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Originally Posted by CrimsonMoon

In my country, we live in extended family, mostly. So that's why most families here are close knit. In my case, I have a big family living under the same roof (parents, 10 siblings (including me), 2 nephews, 2 nieces, 2 brother in laws) and you can imagine the hectic day I lead everyday. So that means we do everything together. Sure we fight sometimes as most siblings do, but we get over it pretty quickly. If I hang out, I usually go with my siblings rather than my friends. That being said, I'm not saying my family is perfect. I'm just saying that we're close, tolerant and loving to each other.

That actually sounds really nice. I have good relations with my family, but I ended up moving across the country.

Originally Posted by mayushii

Ohh please tryyy not to worry about the future, their teenage days are long away. For now just enjoy them the way they are ;> Its impossible to tell how they are gonna grow up.

I do try to not let it mess with the time I have with them. But one can't help but worry a little. I mean look at how things tend to turn out these days. And I don't have the family think around here like Crimsonmoon. Ah well, for now I'll just try and be thankful for Thanksgiving.

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

My mommy and I: We live in the same house, but I go days without seeing her because of her working/sleeping schedule and my school/working/sleeping schedule. When I do see her, our conversations are brief unless we're gossiping about our horrid neighbors or other family members. We get along rather well when I do see her, mostly because she knows I'm moving away soon. >_>

My sister and I: We see each other every day. We're jokingly mean to each other and gossip quite a bit. I rant to her about things from work and she rants to me about her high school life. We rarely argue, and when we do, we don't talk for days until it just blows over. Then we're straight back to humoring each other.

My brother and I: He lives in another city due to schooling. He used to be the spite of my existence and I couldn't stand him, but now that I rarely see him, his visits are refreshing and perfectly functional.

My dad and I: He lives five minutes away from us; drops my sister off every school day, and I haven't seen him for a good three or four months. We don't text or call each other unless he's the last resort to figuring out car issues (i.e. refilling coolant, replacing windshield wipers, etc.)

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Originally Posted by Jasanime

Yeah, I'm really lucky, my parents have been very supportive of my decision not to eat animal products. My mum even cooks us a vegan dinner once a week. But the rest of my family are not very open-minded, and are always bombarding me with questions and arguments and such, so I just can't be bothered.

Awww...I get that sometimes!
The other day my friend kept doing on about how soya was less environmentally friendly than dairy and how according to him just because our ancestors ate meat, we have to too. I felt so trapped, but I don't like arguing with people!

Haha thanks! Normally there are 2 clubs I go to but I lost my phone so I can't go I'll be glad when I get to college ( I plan on going to an art school) so I think I'll meet a lot of awesome people, and I'm so glad I found this sight! so many anime fans in one place!

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Though I have 2 wonderful parents, 1 sister, 3 brothers, and many aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, and one beautiful daughter, I am all alone in Japan. So my family now means everything to me. After March 11, they were all concerned for me though I was on the opposite end of the country at the time and kept on asking me questions about Fukushima, etc. My parents said it was up to me to come home, but my father told me he'd rather have me in Japan than in Iraq or Afghanistan and he understood that being Japan was in my dream. My mother was concerned for me too but after hearing my father's reasoning, she continued to support my decision.

My 7 year old daughter means everything to me. Unfortunately, I cannot have her stay in Japan. It would be too overwhelming for me and for her to re-adjust to not just a new country, but I move around a lot now and I do not want to force that upon her trying to start over and over.

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

My mother and I are too much alike, and like two magnets, we repel. There's often a lot of yelling and chaos in our house, because of our relationship, and her and my siblings's relationship. They're just ignorant fools who don't listen to anyone, and that irks my parents. Dad's never really home; the only times I really see him are all at work because we work for the same landscaping company, and it's only for a few minutes.

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

My father died this August after having first been diagnosed with an aggressive brain cancer in March of 2011. He actually just plowed right through it, with surgeries and chemotherapy, for about a year, but eventually couldn't do anymore. I was the one taking care of him from about April of this year through the sixth.

My mother is an absolute terror to everyone in the family, and in my opinion suffers from a host of psychiatric disorders. That being said, if you're not family, she can be the single nicest person you've ever met, which really just made the abuse heaped upon my brother, myself, my dad and other relatives that much harder to bear. She's gone so far as to blame me for inclement weather, for not being born a girl since she wanted a daughter, calling my dad selfish for getting cancer and dying, threatening to call police on me while I was taking care of my (eventually immobilized) dad because I didn't also hold down a job while taking care of him for roughly sixteen hours a day, and so on. She has held grudges for over forty years in some cases, and is perpetually firing off insults and wishing calamities upon her parents. She has made claims before that she is omniscient, and seems to operate by a philosophy that I have long called "I think, therefor it is."

If anyone is worthy of being called a certain four-letter word starting with the letter "c", it's her. The one incident I will never forget- and forgiveness is a missed opportunity between me and her at this point- was shortly before my dad was first diagnosed. He worked in Rantoul, IL, and had had a severe seizure at work, but was terrified of the hospital in the area, so his co-workers had frantically called both my brother and I to come and get him. My brother was in a class and didn't get the call, and I had the car, so I drove about an hour from Bloomington, IL to get him. Scared the hell out of me, and he was still having seizures on and off on the way back. After getting to the hospital, my mother and brother arrived shortly thereafter, whereupon she stated, verbatim, "I hope you have a brain tumor." Not in front of any nurses or doctors, of course, since that might cast her in a negative light, but just in front of the people most likely to be hurt by it. Vile woman.

After my dad died- and he was about the only one who could blunt her madness even slightly- I managed to tolerate about two to three weeks of her crap before I left for SE Wisconsin, where I am now and where other, much more rational and even inordinately helpful relatives live, like my uncle and grandparents. From what I hear from my brother, she has moved on to targeting him for all her insane rants and accusations. I wonder who she'll hate and blame once he's gone, too?

Everything- and I do mean everything- is much easier and less stressful when I don't have to live with that woman breathing down my neck, holding me accountable for all the stars in the heavens and the delusions in her mind.

When my dad was around, we got along quite well, I think mostly because we were always so blunt, and you always know/knew where you stand with either of us. My younger brother and I eventually developed a similar directness in our dealings, and we get along very well. If we have an issues, we confront it directly, and perhaps curse each other out for a bit, but the problem is over and done with after- tops- twenty minutes, and such confrontations are rare anyway.

My uncle is a screwball, but a helpful and well-reasoned screwball. My grandparents are a bit odd in that stuck-in-their-ways sort of way that you might expect, given that they're into their late eighties, but otherwise I get along with them alright.

With my dad gone now, though, my younger brother may be about the only person around who truly understands what makes me tick, how I think.

Last edited by TheAsterisk!; 11-26-2012 at 06:41 PM.
Reason: I really do hate her, in the most plain and resolute sense imaginable.

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

i have an older brother but after he kidnaped one of my neces hes dead to me. we got her back but that doesnot change the face that he kidnaped her. he says he doesnot rember kidnaping her but thats becouse he was so drunk. man i want to kick his donkey so bad every time i see him. skum like him sould be in jail il bet hel have fun in there. freaking drunks i swair

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Ok I guess. I don't really have anything in common with them. Its not even funny how opposite we are from each other. I'll have conversations with them about my day at school or what I did today but that's kind of about it. They don't like what I have to talk about sometimes so I just keep to myself when I'm at home. It's not that I dislike them but in my opinion we have nothing if not very few things in common which makes for some awkward conversations. Also when I do something wrong they have to tell me not only once but multiple times through out the day. And they wonder why I'm so quiet at home.

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

I never liked my family. My brother was a complete homophobe, so he didn't get along with me or my moms. I liked my parents fine, though. I simply wish they tried to keep him in line better. He got away with much more than me. Him? He'd come home acting like someone from the hood and verbally abuse me. He was very resistant to even coming home. Me? I was always the silent sensitive one who didn't show emotion to anyone. Yet if I tried to pull anything my brother did, I would get my radio taken away. Even though I'm an adult and shouldn't have to deal with then anymore, it's not that simple...

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

I have a bad relationship with my family. My mom and I get along but she will never talk to me when it comes to my interests. Me and my brothers fight all the time so I don't get along with them at all and the only time my dad talks to us is if he is yelling about various things..... my uncle makes fun of my interests and so does everyone else. I love my grandma though we always get along and we always talk about different things

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

il be honest. i could have gone without have the mom i had. she touched me gave me a scar on my eye when i was younger by throwing a plate at me becouse i couldnot stop crying and she would leave me alone when i was around 3 or 4 with my sisters

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

I have a decent relationship with my family, My mom is pretty awesome, and my dad was the best.
The only complaint I have is, I am going to school for something I am passionate about, and my uncle who is in charge on my college funds
well he says that I need to choose something that will make me tons of money rather then doing something I love.
Oh well. Family is Family

Re: What sort of relationship do you have with your family?

Il never do aneything for my younger sister after me and my older sister moved all her stuff she had the nerve to call me lazy and she could have used her sled to move her stuff which would have ben hell for her becouse she has 2 artistic kids a mean 2 year old and a baby girl. I moved her stuff and she said she moved her stuff. Next time she moves or needs me to do something for her il say im to lazy and see what happens next. She apoligized and said she doesnot want to get in to a he said she said fit. I know she says things behinde my back but il never hear it b cuz shes talking to mom about it. I would never do that so i expeted her not to talk trash about me behinde my back