I was walking to my car after practice tonight & was suddenly aware of some unconscious tthings I was doing...good and bad..i was reading a text message until I realized I was walking alone in a darkish parking lot..so then I went into my normal "i'm alone in a parking lot mode"...which is gaze sweeping around..looking to see if folks are sitting in cars..stepping away from large vehicles...immediately locking my car as soon as I get in... I remember Rich Castanet mentioning that a local crime increase traced back, in part, to ipods...hmmmm What are some of your good/bad habits when walking in a parking lot, alone...day or night?

Shana,
"I'm alone in a parking lot mode" is a start but modes are something to move past as a lot could already be going on long before you switch to your IAIAPL mode. Start scanning when you drive into the parking lot and look for red flags before you park your car and check your six, I usually make a quick loop of the area before picking a spot; check the flow of the majority of the shoppers and park where they do, when walking from your car check your six; when you are at your destination keep awareness on as the bad guy may be interviewing you while you go about your business. To quote Auric Goldfinger, "Once is happenstance. Twice is coincidence. The third time it's enemy action," so if someone keeps showing up flag 'em.
When leaving, pause, check your six, and scan who's also heading out the door. Look for vehicles that are intersecting with your location. There can be a lot of different details but things always change.

Something to do for practice, people watch.
Find a place and watch how people behave and move in places like gyms, stores and parking lots, where ever. Watch their eye lines, the first place they look, how they move around the environment, etc, learn what the norm sort of looks like for a given area. If you know the norm then the other stuff can become more obvious.

Shana,
I just want to add that most of this stuff starts out as a conscious check list of do's and don'ts in specific conditions, then conscious habits, and with time and use they just become things you do almost subconsciously almost all of the time.

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Thank you Mike and Vicki, good stuff! Vicki, I particularly like the part about "attack back" and "anything is a potential weapon"....wow....I guess some folks would get deer in the headlights. does training help us to avoid this, or just being aware it could happen?

I posted this mainly as a general reminder to folks and to get ideas/tips from others. As a general rule, I am very aware of my surroundings, and have found myself more so as I grow in my training. That night, though, was a sudden reminder that it only takes a small lapse to put yourself in a potentially bad situation.

Mike, to your point about IAIAPL, that was word choice on my part. I normally...obviously not that one night, but normally....do unconsciously scan my surroundings, etc everytime I'm alone in an area...but particularly parking lots. I do check where I'm parking, etc. I have not, though, gone to the level you mentioned, but it's definatley something I will consider in the future.

This brings another thought to mind...do you regularly review potential situations as you go through your day?

A thread elsewhere got me thinking about this when I was in the elevator one night...how many times have I put my back to a person in the elevator, without thought? Now, I'm not wanting to get paranoid, but as a female, alone in an elevator with another person....it kinda makes sense to just keep that other person in sight, as a open gesture, nto a challenging one....but it made me think..hmmmmm

so.....do many of you run through potential...if not always likely...scenarios as you go through your day?

I am probably the worst at paying good attention...like I should and have been taught. I guess I get so darned focused, I am oblivious of my surroundings in non-threatening scenarious...but that is where the training should start.

We are more likely to notice in threatening surroundings but should be aware at all times.

As far as the back thing goes, I am fanatical about always facing people. At a restaurant I will find a table that facing the room with my back to the corner invariably. Another thing I have started doing is being aware of the entrance/exit points of where I am.

It creeps me out to be in an elevator with my back to people. I will always try to go against a wall to see everyone...and I make eye contact when I approach people. I always want to appear confident and sure...no crouched body language with my arms crossed in front. I like a positive posture in the body with my shoulders back & down and head up. When I shake hands, it is with a firm handshake...no wimpy hands while I looks someone in the eye. Body language is very important.

This brings another thought to mind...do you regularly review potential situations as you go through your day?

Sure do. If you're being aware you really can't help it. For example, you're walking along and see a group of males approaching and you decide to play what if; you start scanning their hands, how they're moving, distance, where's their focus, their eye-line, etc. You'll also at the same time start reacting to this, seeing what's in your environment that you can use as a weapon, barrier, obstacle, diversion; where are the people that you're with, are you between them and the threat. And if nothing happens, as is likely, you just had a good mental exercise and maybe an adrenaline dump. On the other hand if something does happen you're ahead of the game. Now all of this takes 2-3 seconds at most, and as a matter of fact is an exercise most of us do during our daily drive around town.

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At a restaurant I will find a table that facing the room with my back to the corner invariably.

I do the same Vickie, because if someone comes in and starts shooting at least my wife will take a few for the team first and give me a chance to hide under the table.

It does go to show that there are flaws to be found in a lot of our rule of thumb safe practices and most are trade offs between benefits and downsides. I personally like locations that give me more options to move rather than corners which make me feel trapped, it's just personal preference to me.

i am with you mike,
i do the same "what if drill"
hands out of pockets.
when walking , shift my wife to a safer postion for her and a better fighting one for me.

the only thing i would add is not to let this "what if" drill go on in your head and become dream like, thinking and daydreaming about the what if plot and what could happen. you have to do it "real time" alert and aware and for real.

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