I’m Too Fat, I’m Too Skinny, I Hate My Body, I Wish I Looked Like Her…7 Ways To Get Your Confidence Back

Nobody is perfect and everyone is insecure about something. Really. If that weren’t true why would advertisers spend millions trying to get you to buy their makeup, hair products, and diet pills? Matter of fact – men have to deal with male body shaming ads as well!! Each time you see one of their ads you are subtly reminded that you aren’t good enough. Well, it’s time to kick that thinking to the curb and get your confidence back!

Try these things to build your confidence:

1. Dress nicely…for you and not to impress anyone else. No matter what your size, you’ll always feel better if you look nice. No need to rush out and buy the latest expensive trendy style (unless you think you’ll love it) but pick something that you like and looks good on you. Some days a new pair of shoes or even some lingerie can completely turn your mood around.

2. Act positive. Even if you don’t ‘feel’ positive, you can act as if you are. You can say to yourself “I can’t help how I feel right now but I can help how I think and act.” Then do it. After practicing this over time, you will see how it boosts your confidence and gives you a ‘can do’ mindset.

3. Be kind and generous. While it might sound a little corny, being kind works wonders for your self-image because being kind reminds you that you are a good person. Doing something nice for someone feels good.

4. Practice positive self-talk. Make a habit of listening to what you say to yourself. You can change it with practice. When you hear yourself thinking something negative, rephrase it to something positive, and repeat it to yourself. If you wouldn’t say it to someone else, don’t say it to yourself!

5. Focus on solutions. When you shift your focus to solutions rather than problems you start to focus on the positive and build your confidence. When you hear yourself saying “I need to lose weight but it’s too hard” think “How can I solve that?” “I just don’t have any willpower.” “How can I solve that?” “I just don’t have time to exercise.” “What can I do about that?” If you are a complainer or focus on problems, try challenging yourself to focus on the solutions instead.

6. Achieve small goals. Doesn’t it feel good to set a goal and then achieve it? Start with small goals or habits. Not something huge but something small like getting to bed a half hour earlier *and not getting on your phone* haha, taking a fifteen minute walk, or making that doctor’s appointment you’ve been putting off.

7. Educate yourself. You can feel more competent by being more competent. You do it by studying and practicing. Studying doesn’t just have to come from books or self-help videos. If, for example, you are shy then find someone who isn’t shy and study what they do and copy it. Practice and do a little at a time. It works wonders for your confidence. Just ‘do’ something instead of thinking about how you can’t do it.

Okay, now it is time to concentrate on what you want and how you feel and stop comparing yourself to others. Be good to yourself. Nobody deserves it more!