Wednesday, May 10, 2006

If you put up with abuse of any kind, it's time to walk on...teach people how to treat you.

One day, out of the blue, a good friend of mine said she needed to lose 20 pounds. I found this a little peculiar because she never says stuff like that. She is a beautiful, confidant young woman. She works hard, knows what she wants, and knows where she's going. So as you see, this came as quite a shock to me. Hearing that this ambitious young woman is having self-esteem issues made me wonder what the source of the problem is. A MAN. Did you already guess that?

My wonderful friend started seeing a guy who began criticizing her body about a week after the relationship started...a week! Now imagine the kind of criticism she would get after a year. If a man starts abusing you, in any way, during your "pink cloud" period, you gotta walk on!

As the wonderful Eli Davidson once told me: the guy you're dating is a reflection of you. Relationships are like dental mirrors; they reflect how you feel inside. Stop and think about it. Is your man treating you the way you want to be treated? Does he bring out your insecurities? Is he afraid of commitment? If he is any of these things (although the list goes on and on and on...), it may be a reflection of how you feel inside..if that is the case, then dump the loser and take care of you first! Dump him even if it isn't how you feel inside because if he makes you feel insecure about yourself, then he is a loser and you deserve better.

Take care of yourself first. Know what you want and deserve. Write it down and use it as a template. If the guy you're seeing doesn't fit that template, then he is not the guy for you...and he never will be because YOU can't change someone...they have to want to change themselves.

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Eli is a dazzling inspiration. Her upbeat attitude and personal story of going from challenge to champion encourages people to take that first step to overcome their own obstacles. Her unique approach combines her “I’ve been in your shoes” manner, playful humor and deep compassion. By breaking positive change down into bite sized morsels she assists her audience to implement those steps immediately. As an actress, she worked with Christopher Walken, Kiefer Sutherland and Michael J.Fox. Eli coached Oscar Nominees, Golden Globe winners and leaders in many industries. Her recent appearances include, "The Today Show", NBC, USA Network Featured Coach, "News in the Mornin", KTBC Fox News, Austin Texas, "Firstcast" KXAN NBC TV, The Dr. Sidman Show, KRLA Los Angeles, California, and “Dr. Andrew Jacobs Sports Psychology Hour”, 810 WHB, Kansas City.Eli received her Master of Spiritual Psychology degree from The University of Santa Monica. Ms. Davidson lives in Los Angeles with her domineering cat, Cleopatra Jones.
Today, she is a nationally recognized woman’s business expert who shares her ‘Turnaround Techniques’ in her new book, Funky to Fabulous.