I am a bit confused. If someone can help I would appreciate it. I do not have a BES server, but I do have microsoft exchange email. I know that you are supposed to have a BES server but someone has told me that there is something called "blackberry connector" that may be able to link my email and the blackberry w/o a $2000 server. Is this correct?

Blackberry redirector should come with your BB - its on the CD that was included. It is free and as the name sugggests, when running, re-directs (forwards) mail recieved to your BB.

There is replacement for "blackberry redirector" - a new tool called "Mail connector" and works with exchange to not only send email to your blackberry, but it can also "sync" in a sense, deleting mail you indicate to delete on "Mailbox and handheld". I have it for my Verizon 7130e BB, but not sure if you have it for Cingular (assuming that is your carrier). I downloaded mine from a Verizon Support website.