1. Identify the talents that come easily to you. Pay attention to those things you accomplish with ease for which people compliment you. These are most likely your natural gifts and talents. Ask yourself how you can best use them in all parts of your life: career, relationships, fun! Make a list of these natural talents and celebrate them!

2.Take responsibility for where you are in your life. Ask yourself what role you have played in order to be in your current circumstance. It’s easy to blame others and hold them responsible for your discontent. And as long as you continue to do so, you are playing the role of victim and it will be more difficult to achieve the life you want or deserve. Forgive others and yourself, let go of the past, and understand that you can only move forward from where you are right now!

3. Pay less attention to your negative self talk. When your mind starts fill up with ‘I can’t’ and ‘I’m not enough’ and ‘I’ll never get there,’ acknowledge the chatter, and then dismiss it (I hear you, now please leave me alone!). Then actively affirm yourself with positive thoughts, reminding yourself that ‘I can accomplish,’ ‘I am enough,’ and ‘I can reach my goals.’ The more you become aware of the negative self talk and practice positive affirmation in its place, the less it will invade your thinking. Like any habit, it takes time to break it and you can do it!

4. Decide what you can let go of in your life. Let go of what doesn’t serve you to open space for the good stuff you want to add. Clear out what is getting in your way, and focus on what you want to do or create in your life. It’s like cleaning out your closet to make room for a stunning new wardrobe!

5. Approach your day with an open mind. You cannot control everything that will happen each day, so how about approaching it as a new adventure, full of curiosity and innocence? Practice being flexible and open to what happens as the day progresses. When the unexpected occurs, let go of frustration and anger—and use that energy to find a solution or better way to achieve what it is you set out to do. Have fun with it! Whatever comes unexpectedly might be better than what you thought was going to happen.

6. Stand in a place of gratitude. Be thankful for all that is good in your world. Take a big picture view and name five things that are going right. Focus on the positive and the possibilities—what you focus on expands! You’ll get more of what you want when you focus on the good that is already present in your life! Say thank you often!

7. Create a vision for what you want your life to look like. What do you want most in life? Use all your senses to feel it, hear it, and see it. Don’t judge yourself or let the negative talk invade your thoughts—just be open to the possibilities, even if they seem impossible right now. Write it down in detail. Ask yourself, why is my vision important to me? Why is it important to others and the world? Revisit your vision often and focus on gaining clarity. The clearer your vision, the more likely it will happen.