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Sunday, June 23, 2013

Absolute Faith

How far would you go to have the life you desire?

We have
been told to visualize all the details in the picture of one’s desired future.
To make the picture so real and rich and clear that you can literally inhale
it, breathe it in and feel it. For a person with a creative nature that is not
the hard part. The difficulty is once the feeling is alive in you, to let go of
the picture entirely and simply live in that feeling that your imagination
generated. If you want joy act as joy
would now!

That is our part of the dance of co-creativity with the
universe. Act as if you already have what you say you want.

And I wonder if this
is enough. Is there more I am called to do in my invitation to the world to dance
with me and meet me in my heart’s desire, in my calling and purpose? I had left
room in my future picture so it wasn’t so full of my little old imagination that
the unknown had no space to express itself.I opened to this idea readily and am still clearing out the old to make
room for the new. And…what else? I can feel an inclination to action yet am not
sure what that action is.

When I was young every move I made that altered my destiny was
a result of bold fearless steps. While I was following my heart tugs I never
knew exactly where I was going. I left
being an on air DJ at a classic rock station without a safety net. I was at the
top of my profession and turned down offers of money and notoriety in order to pursue
my longing to act. Instead of feeling the fear of leaving something successful and
certain, I felt excitement. I don’t think I had one thought of trepidation as I
launched myself head first into the unknown trusting that my path would open up
as I kept doing what I felt called to do. Impractical…perhaps but in retrospect
I followed impulse and I regret nothing.

So why does this state of mind seem to get harder as we get
older? Do we see the risk of taking chances as somehow more dangerous and
fraught with an increased potential of failure? Does our relationship to failure
change as we age and we become more nervous about leaping into the unknown
because we have experienced numerous crash landings in the past? Do we think our
opportunities are limited as if we have used up our dance card? Or the worst
case scenario…does believing anything is possible have an expiry date. Best
before …

I have been teaching for a personal development company for
the past sixteen years and this year will be the first that this won’t be the
case. Saying no to another teaching year was not easy. I feel the pull of
relationships and my love of teaching and wonder if I am going to regret this decision.
And yet I know if I let the fear of regret guide my choice I will be strategizing
my life and living a code that is not in alignment with my true nature.

Freedom of expression, creative expansion and boundless possibility
are values that are crucial to my well being. This is as true around work
choices as it is in relationship. I haven’t compromised yet and am not about to
start. I know I can’t start the next chapter of my life by reliving the last
one and while life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful, it does have to
be moving in the direction of expansion. It has to inspire you. It has to
excite you. You have to know your commitment is to live fully. When you know
that then waiting for the right time to make a change becomes meaningless. Waiting
is actually the very act that perpetuates stagnation. It is your contribution
to not living the life you desire. It’s
like sitting at the train station watching trains go by and never getting on.

Sometimes you just have to dare to jump. You have to trust
you will land on your feet. There is no perfect time. There is no perfect
place. The leap itself may be the step that ignites the unfolding of one’s
destiny. The leap into the unknown is the accelerant.

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Our sons were friends. Like brothers really. We mothers had never met but both our guys kept saying we should. Then Duncan passed away. It was through Marty's support of Buns' grieving her son that a deep friendship was forged.

Duncan inspired us. If his life, at 22, could get snuffed out like that, without any warning, then why wouldn't we live each day to the max ... grateful for every second, whether mundane or profound?

Really, we're not interested in writing just about the happy times. We are interested in also using the pain, the sorrow, the disappointments -- the realities of life -- to stretch and grow.

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