I want to share with you 3 enemies to your confidence that, if not addressed, will destroy your confidence.

I can literally guarantee that if you can describe yourself as a guy who lacks confidence that these 3 enemies are existent in your life today.

How can I tell?

Well if that wasn't the case, you probably wouldn't be reading an article called "3 enemies of confidence" would you?

ENEMY #1: HIDING SHIT

So your first enemy is the fact that you are trying to hide shit from people.

What do I mean?

Well, you're trying to hide your insecurities.

You're trying to hide the fact that you like the girl.

You're trying to hide your "real" intentions when talking to a girl.

Hiding will literally kill your confidence. Because confidence is the freedom to express yourself.

When you hide, it's literally like you're putting full gas with one foot, and slamming on the brakes with another.

The reason you hide shit is fear, that's obvious. If it wasn't for fear, you'd be freely expressing yourself and be REAL with everyone.

But fear stops you. Or so it seems.

The reality is that you have the power over things that you are afraid of. Scared that she might turn you down if you show that you like her?

How about trying it first?

Scared that she'll see your insecurities? Here's my invitations - be OPEN about them. Literally say to her,

"You know, I'm a bit insecure because of my heights and small penis, but I make it up with charm and an ambition to fuck your brains out tonight..."

I know, it's too ballsy. But I have a friend who uses that as, get this - his OPENING line to a girl.

Talk about myth busting.

So quit hiding. Come out of the closet. Announce to the entire world what you're about, what you're up to, and stop playing the sneaky-ass game. Be frank and open about who you are.

Here, I give you permission to do so. Don't you feel able to breathe already?

ENEMY #2: TRYING TO KISS ASS

Here's your second enemy - you're trying to kiss ass to women. Not literally, although that can be a part of it later in the conversation.

But anyhow, kissing ass in a from of over-complimenting the girl, of trying to win her approval by showing off how great you are is going to have a reverse effect on women. They will see that as a sign of insecurity, and will bail.

I want you to promise to yourself to NEVER, EVER again in your life attempt to kiss ass. Don't try to suck up, because it plainly doesn't work.

Man up, tease the girl, tell her what's wrong with her in a way that you're fun about it and get out of that ass-kissing game.

Don't kiss ass unless you're doing it like Simon.

ENEMY #3: TRYING TO IMPRESS

And here's your third enemy. And I see this with guys over and over again. They approach a girl, and I swear 3 seconds later they are telling her about their car, their job, their dick - yes, that happens too.

Here's the thing with trying to impress a girl - the more you try, the less she will be impressed.

Think of people who you are impressed by in your life. How did you get impressed? Did you listen to them yapping how great they are? Or did you NOTICE things about them as they were EXPRESSING themselves.

I heard this quote once - Don't try to IMPRESS, focus to EXPRESS.

What does it mean?

When you try to impress, you're trying to get somebody's attention. Your focus is OUTSIDE of you.

When you focus on EXPRESSING yourself, your focus is INSIDE of you. You express what's inside of you, without thinking if that's going to impress others.

And by some magical process, people get impressed by you.

TO RECAP

Be yourself. Don't hide shit about yourself. Be open, show to everybody that you have the balls to be who you are, and don't need to fake it.

Don't kiss ass unless you're kissing on an actual ass, in that case go for it. But kissing ass and sucking up through compliments and nice words in order to get something from a woman, will shoot your confidence down.

And finally, express, don't try to impress, because it plainly doesn't work.

Hope you enjoyed this article, leave me a comment below on your thoughts about it.

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Hey I'm Omir, the guy behind VC, the author of The Natural's Way book, and here to help you liberate yourself from your fears, limitations and insecurities, so you can become amazingly confident with women.