BMI & Pregnancy

Hi all, I just have a quick question... we are ttc atm (just started) and I have a high BMI (approx 35). I know there are all sorts of extra risks so I am working really hard to improve my diet and exercise more.
Have any of you had any experience with ob / mid / u/s operators being rude to you about your weight? I had a bad experience with an anaethetist being very rude to be about my weight and it makes me feel anxious that I'll be treated badly during pregnancy because of it.
As I said, hopefully some weight will come off with the improved diet - but I refuse to crash diet just before I try to concieve a child. I'm just almost hoping not to get a bfp this month because I'm so stressed about how I'll be treated being overweight 😯

I have a higher than preferred BMI too. I've had one son and I'm currently pregnant with my second. I had the same fears as you, I was really nervous about it. I still do before most appointments because I'm so self conscious about it.

So far, I've not had any negative experiences. My BMI was marked in the hospital paper work but that's about it. Happy to answer any questions you might have!! Just pm me or ask here. ☺️

First pregnancy I had an internal for the dating scan. This pregnancy they saw everything from the abdomen, no internal needed. I was only 6+5. Just be prepared for an internal but it may not be needed.

The most they will likely do is refer you to see a dietician and also to see an anaesthetist in case you want an epidural in labour. Anyone with a BMI over 30 in our hospital gets an automatic dietician referral and anaesthetic referral plus if considered "high risk" for gestational diabetes you may be referred for an early GTT. If negative you'll still have to do the routine one at 26-28 weeks again. People of all shapes and sizes are having babies so it's unlikely they'll be rude. I would say at least 25% of women we see have a BMI over 30-35.

Thank you so much. I am going to try to see an ob that someone I know saw and she had a bmi significantly over 40 and he was really nice about it (didn't even weigh her, said that she just needed to monitor her own weight).

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