Just Jane: My sex sheikh-up

EMBARRASSED: I’m very upset because I’ve been told he’s been bragging about our games to his mates [GETTY/PIC POSED BY MODELS]

He said it would be fun and I was delighted to oblige. Our sex life had been flagging for ages and I was desperate to shake it up with something spicy. It worked really well. I pretended to be a sexually frustrated princess in a packed harem.

He was the domineering sheikh and the resulting sex was mind blowing. The next day I invested in some naughty underwear and we went again. As I danced, he played the role of the hotshot millionaire looking for action in a run-down strip joint.

He shoved fivers in my garter as we played out private dances. Again, the eventual sex was redhot and so horny. I orgasmed five times in a row and was left limp and exhausted. But now I’m very upset because I’ve been told he’s been bragging about our games to his mates.

He's also boasting I’m saving him a fortune because he doesn’t have to splash out at his favourite lap dancing clubs any more. I feel used and ridiculous. I thought he was genuine about wanting to save our sex life. Now to discover he’s also been spending good money at a sleazy haunt is insulting.

I had no idea. Does this also mean he’s been paying for full sex too? I’ve asked him but he won’t say. All he cares about is finding who spilled the beans. Who "betrayed” his secret? Was it his best mate? What kind of monster is he?

“All he cares about is finding the mole who exposed his grubby secret”

JANE SAYS:

UNFORTUNATELY you have to conclude your man is not the person you thought he was. You assumed you were dealing with a trustworthy individual. Instead he’s revealed himself to be a chancer and opportunist.

When the money ran out for trips to a lap-dancing club, he persuaded you to perform for him instead. You thought he was suggesting role play to inject some spice back into your love life.

But all he really wanted you to do was give him a free show with sex thrown in for good measure. Now he’s not even sorry or embarrassed about being found out.

All he cares about is finding the mole who exposed his grubby secret I suggest you tell him today that you don’t appreciate being used or lied to. Is he serious about making this relationship work or is it all one big joke to him?

If someone gave him £500 tomorrow, would he go straight back to his favourite strippers or would he share it with you? I worry that you’re wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn’t deserve you.