Moms of Late Preterm Babies, emergency c-section and the NICU experience

Hi everyone. I would like to reach out to other mom's who are handling or have...
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Hi everyone. I would like to reach out to other mom's who are handling or have handled a similar experience (emergency c-section, grieving the loss of a natural birth plan and initial bonding experience, having a baby in the nicu, pumping and more pumping, and caring for a late preterm baby). I am using this as an outlet for myself and hope we can connect and support one another. This is not a blog but an online journal and support group to help us process and cope with our experience.
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Hi there mama's. I am updating my message as it's been a whole year since I started this little page. I can't believe my little preterm boy is now a one year old. I've always heard people say how their kids grew up so fast. Now I understand what they were talking about and I'm making every effort to slow down and enjoy every moment.
If you are a new mom with a preterm either at home or in the hospital, I am here for you. Those early days were the most challenging of my life. I cried a lot. Each day things will get easier and you both will be stronger for it. I know I am a better mom because of my Nicu experience. It's made me more determined to be informed and learn what is right for us. The conventional parenting ways of mainstream America aren't best for everyone.
I've posted a little about AP (attachment parenting) and consider myself a part-time AP mama, not because I only parent part of the day (my boy who was briefly sleeping through the night is lately nursing at 12:30, 3 and 6am - oh boy!). I call myself a part-time AP mama because some commonly known AP methods work for us and some don't. The reason I identify with AP is because my son is our priority, his needs come before our own, and I strive every day to read his cues and learn what he needs, instead of doing what is easiest for me.
If you are a new mom I highly recommend you check out "Beyond the Sling" by Mayim Bialik or peruse any Dr. Sear's book. These resources taught me some new skills but also helped me listen to my instincts and gave me a lot of confidence in what I was already doing (very important for a mama whose confidence was cracked by her birth experience).
I found that a lot of the techniques that we instinctively gravitated toward in caring for our preterm baby were praised by the AP gods. For us on-demand breast feeding, baby wearing, skin to skin holding, and some co-sleeping really helped us bond with our son and contributed to him being the smiley, independent, affectionate, curious and determined little boy that he is today.
I created this page as an emotional outlet for myself and hope this is a safe space where we can all share our experience so we know we aren't alone in this challenging journey.