Wednesday, March 2, 2011

The Role of Catholic Parents

Back on February 8th, I gave a talk to the parents of students who were preparing to receive 1st Communion or Confirmation. The first part of the talk was just about the requirements that our specific parish has for kids to receive the sacraments. The second part of the talk, was about the role of Catholic parents. Below is a recording of the second part of the talk.

We also gave the parents a handout with a bunch of quotes so that they could follow along. The text of the handout is below the video:

Holy Communion & Confirmation: The Beginnings of Life in the Church

“He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me and I in him.” John 6:56

“On that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you.” John 14:20

“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in me, and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. If a man does not abide in me, he is cast forth as a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire and burned. If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you.” John 15:1-4

“I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me; and the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Gal. 2:20

Precepts of the Church

--"meant to guarantee to the faithful the very necessary minimum in the spirit of prayer and moral effort, in the growth in love of God and neighbor." [CCC 2041]

I. Attend Mass on Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation (even if you cannot receive Holy Communion) and rest from servile labor on those days--keep them holy.

Show your children (by your behavior) that Mass is VERY important.

Respect for the Nave (not a social hall)

Our demeanor changes to show how holiness of this space.

Stop all socializing when entering the church

Focus on God/prayer

Fast before receiving Communion--Eat nothing (except water and medicine as needed) for an hour before receiving Holy Communion--shows respect for our Lord.

Learn about how Mass is a sacrifice, offered by the priest, and how we unite with that sacrifice with our minds (during the offering) and bodies (in Holy Communion)--this is what Mass is about.

II. Go to Confession at least once/year

III. Receive Holy Communion at least once during the Easter Season.

IV. Observe the days of fasting and abstinence established by the Church.

Prepares us for feasts

Helps us acquire mastery over our instincts and freedom of heart.

Fasting - eating less than two full meals in one day (Ash Wednesday & Good Friday)

All Catholics 18-59

No eating between meals

Regular liquids are fine

Abstinence - not eating the meat of warm blooded animals (beef, pork, chicken, turkey, etc.--fish and other cold-blooded animals may be eaten).

All Catholics 14+

Every Friday of the year

In the US, outside of Lent, we can substitute some other comparable penance instead of abstaining, but we still must perform SOME penance.

V. Help to provide for the material needs of the Church.

Each according to his ability

“And all who believed were together and had all things in common; and they sold their possessions and goods and distributed them to all, as any had need. And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they partook of food with glad and generous hearts, praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.” (Acts 2:44-47)

“He sat down opposite the treasury and observed how the crowd put money into the treasury. Many rich people put in large sums. A poor widow also came and put in two small coins worth a few cents. Calling his disciples to himself, he said to them, “Amen, I say to you, this poor widow put in more than all the other contributors to the treasury. For they have all contributed from their surplus wealth, but she, from her poverty, has contributed all she had, her whole livelihood.” (Mark 12:41-44)

Tithing (giving 10% of your income to the Church)

Jacob to God: “Of all that You give me I will give the tenth to You.” (Genesis 28:22)

"All the tithe of the land, whether of the seed of the land or of the fruit of the trees, is the LORD's; it is holy to the LORD. If a man wishes to redeem any of his tithe, he shall add a fifth to it. And all the tithe of herds and flocks, every tenth animal of all that pass under the herdsman's staff, shall be holy to the LORD.” (Leviticus 27:30-32)

"You shall tithe all the yield of your seed, which comes forth from the field year by year . . . And if the journey to the priest is too far to carry seed . . . then you shall turn the seed into money” (cf. Deuteronomy 14:22-25)

“As soon as the command was spread abroad, the people of Israel gave in abundance the first fruits of grain, wine, oil, honey, and of all the produce of the field; and they brought in abundantly the tithe of everything. And the people of Israel and Judah who lived in the cities of Judah also brought in the tithe of cattle and sheep, and the dedicated things which had been consecrated to the LORD their God, and laid them in heaps.” (2 Chronicles 31:5-6)

“Then all Judah brought the tithe of the grain, wine, and oil into the storehouses.” (Nehemiah 13:2)

“Will man rob God? Yet you are robbing me. But you say, `How are we robbing thee?' In your tithes and offerings. You are cursed with a curse, for you are robbing me; the whole nation of you. Bring the full tithes into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house; and thereby put me to the test, says the LORD of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you an overflowing blessing.” (Malachi 3:8-10)

“With every gift show a cheerful face, and dedicate your tithe with gladness.” (Sirach 35:9)

Offering your time to help out with Church events/projects

Ask yourself:

“What does the Church need?”

“What gifts/talents has the Lord given me to build up the Church?”

Parents’ Roles in the Education of Their Children

“Since parents have given children their life, they are bound by the most serious obligation to educate their offspring and therefore must be recognized as the primary and principal educators. This role in education is so important that only with difficulty can it be supplied where it is lacking. Parents are the ones who must create a family atmosphere animated by love and respect for God and man, in which the well-rounded personal and social education of children is fostered. Hence the family is the first school of the social virtues that every society needs. It is particularly in the Christian family, enriched by the grace and office of the sacrament of matrimony, that children should be taught from their early years to have a knowledge of God according to the faith received in Baptism, to worship Him, and to love their neighbor. Here, too, they find their first experience of a wholesome human society and of the Church. Finally, it is through the family that they are gradually led to a companionship with their fellowmen and with the people of God. Let parents, then, recognize the inestimable importance a truly Christian family has for the life and progress of God's own people.” (Declaration on Christian Education 3)

“All members of the family, each according to his or her own gift, have the grace and responsibility of building, day by day, the communion of persons, making the family "a school of deeper humanity": this happens where there is care and love for the little ones, the sick, the aged; where there is mutual service every day; when there is a sharing of goods, of joys and of sorrows.

A fundamental opportunity for building such a communion is constituted by the educational exchange between parents and children, in which each gives and receives. By means of love, respect and obedience towards their parents, children offer their specific and irreplaceable contribution to the construction of an authentically human and Christian family. They will be aided in this if parents exercise their unrenounceable authority as a true and proper "ministry," that is, as a service to the human and Christian well-being of their children, and in particular as a service aimed at helping them acquire a truly responsible freedom, and if parents maintain a living awareness of the "gift" they continually receive from their children.

Family communion can only be preserved and perfected through a great spirit of sacrifice. It requires, in fact, a ready and generous openness of each and all to understanding, to forbearance, to pardon, to reconciliation. There is no family that does not know how selfishness, discord, tension and conflict violently attack and at times mortally wound its own communion: hence there arise the many and varied forms of division in family life. But, at the same time, every family is called by the God of peace to have the joyous and renewing experience of "reconciliation," that is, communion reestablished, unity restored. In particular, participation in the sacrament of Reconciliation and in the banquet of the one Body of Christ offers to the Christian family the grace and the responsibility of overcoming every division and of moving towards the fullness of communion willed by God, responding in this way to the ardent desire of the Lord: ‘that they may be one.’” (Familiaris Consortio 21)

• Have I been involved in the New Age, Yoga, Taoism, Buddhism, Hinduism, or any other Eastern philoso-phies/theologies?

• Have I been involved in any other false or pagan worship?

• Have I ever received Holy Communion in the state of mortal sin?

• Have I told a lie in confession or deliberately withheld confessing a mortal sin?

• Do I genuflect to the tabernacle when I enter a Catholic church?

• Am I respectful when other people are praying or have I tried to distract them?

• Have I told the Father that I love him for creating me and making me his son/daughter?

• Have I thanked Jesus for becoming man, dying for my sin, and rising to give me eternal life?

• Have I asked the Holy Spirit to help me conquer sin and temptation and to be obedient to God’s com-mands?

• Have I been rebellious toward God and his commands?

• Have I left the Church? (This is the sin of apostasy.)

• Have I ever rejected any part of the Catholic faith?

• Have I joined the Masons or another secret society?

• Have I gotten married by a justice of the peace or another non-Catholic minister (without first getting the bishop’s dispensation)?

• Have I ever desecrated the Holy Eucharist?

• Have I ever committed a sin with the excuse that “I can just go to confession to get rid of it”? (This is the sin of presumption—sinning because you are presuming on God’s mercy—basically taking advantage of the Mercy that God offers you.)

2. You shall not take the Lord your God's name in vain.

• Have I ever lied after "swearing to God" that I am telling the truth?

o Have I ever committed perjury (lied under oath in a court of law)?

• Have I ever used God's name out of anger, as a curse?

• Have I ever used any other curse words?

• Do I always try to show respect to God during prayers, in the church, and when I use His name?

• Have I failed to bury the dead? (“Spreading ashes” is not allowed in the Catholic Church—because it is seen as a denial of the resurrection of the body—the belief that God will raise our bodies and reunite them with our souls at the end of time.)

• Have I intentionally placed temptation before people who were weak to such temptations?

• Have I been a bigot (hated people because of their race)?

• Have I been involved in or supported human cloning?

6. You shall not commit adultery.

• Have I ever had sex with anyone (or anything) who is not my spouse?

• Have I masturbated (sexually stimulated myself)?

• Have I ever watched, read or listened to pornography either on the Internet or through some other media?

• Have I practiced any form of contraception (condom, pill, IUD, spermacide, Onanism, etc.)?

• Am I modest in dress?

o Do I cover the parts of me that only my spouse should see?

o Do I try to gain people’s attention by uncovering parts of my body?

• Have I looked at others lustfully (desiring to use them for sexual gratification)? (Thinking of giving oneself to one’s spouse in the marital act is good, but desiring to use anyone, even a spouse, simply as a sexual ob-ject is bad.)

• Have I sexually kissed or touched someone who wasn’t my spouse?

• Have I participated in in-vitro fertilization, artificial insemination, or surrogate motherhood?

• Have I been involved in types of fertility testing that involve immoral acts (masturbation, etc.)?

• Have I willfully divorced or deserted someone to whom I know I was validly married? (If a situation be-comes dangerous, it is permissible for a spouse to separate, but if the marriage was valid, it is a sin to di-vorce.)

• Have I had multiple spouses at once (polygamy/polyandry)?

• Have I cohabited (lived together) with someone of the opposite sex who wasn’t my spouse? (It is sinful for engaged couples to live together before they are married.)

7. You shall not steal.

• Have I stolen from my parents?

• Have I stolen from friends?

• Have I ever stolen from a stranger?

• Have I stolen anything from a store?

• In other words, have I ever taken what rightfully belongs to another?

• Do I respect what other people own by not taking what is not mine?

• Do I gamble excessively (more than what I could comfortably afford to lose)?

• Do I seek to share what I have with the poor and needy?

• Am I honest at school or have I cheated on a test or my homework (stealing someone else’s work)?

• When I borrow things, do I intend to return all of them? Do I return them?

• Do I respect people’s possessions, including my own?

o Do I treat my possessions well?

o Do I treat others’ things well?

o Have I done anything bad to another’s property like littering or writing on walls, desks or other things that aren’t mine?

• Have I stolen computer software, music or any other media? (All media that isn’t freely offered to the pub-lic must be purchased. Otherwise, we’re stealing from the people who produce the media.)

• Have I padded my expense or per diem account(s)?

• Have I taken advantage of the poor, simple, inexperienced, or less fortunate?