I need help abusing this wonderful program. I went threw about 10 tutorials, I dont understand. Can I get some help?

Which program you are talking about and what kind of help you are looking for. If you are looking for any help with the usage of the forum you have posted in the right section or else try creating a thread with your query in the correct forum for better responses

Back Orifice is an Old R.A.T ( Remote Administration Tool)
Besides been old,it is well recognized by all antivirus companies.
And as far as your direct question, don't waste your time using BO,try to find another program for better chances to succeed.

I will not give out links to such softwares,but i take the liberty to recommend you
PoisonIvy (RaT)
Bifrose (RaT)
Those 2 are very complete,but google for remote administration tools,you'll find plenty.
Note: You are in the right direction,if you succeed to install a rat in a server /pc,you'll have access to view/edit/upload/download all files ect.
I hope it helps with your question