We have all heard that opportunity never knocks twice, but in our society it seems that people don’t believe in all this because most of them think they can create an opportunity themselves. Like for example, people manage to have their own families by building relationships altogether to have a happy marriage life.

However, it is said to be true that arranged marriages are far more lasting than love marriages. In Pakistan, it’s quite unique to proceed for a hunt in order to search for a perfect match.

Here, I would like to share some of my thoughts on this matter in particular. I have tried to note here some of the interesting yet discouraging facts.

I would like to tell you a story of my friend, she was an amazing girl with a good sense of humor. She always wanted to have a perfect life. To get satisfied she almost did everything in her life to make it perfect in every sense. But the only question that always worried her “any plans to get married any sooner”?

In our society, when a girl reaches her early twenties people start asking if she receives marriage proposals and that question ruined my friend’s life. Every now and then she was asked about the different proposals from different families claiming to be perfect in every sense. However, she was a graduate but her qualification was not just up to the expectations of different families.

Most of the families would say “she didn’t make a perfect match”. It’s hard to understand what kind of instrument measures this perfection? Some families also said “she was bit overage”. It’s quite disturbing when you hear people say that they have lots of other options and they still haven’t decided to go for any particular one. Her family never got the reply from any of these families.

It’s quite natural for girls in particular to go to weddings and see couples walking together and having a perfect life. Every girl has an imagination about her future life. And my friend asks herself “would I be one of these girls”?

As the time passed, she was more depressed and that made her weep all night. She always asked me what people actually wished to have in a girl? What they actually need? Am I not supposed to get married? what if I am 28 and nobody wants to marry me?

I tried my best to calm her down but she refused to accept my words and she started to take sleeping pills. She actually got addicted to sleeping pills and one night after having overdosed, she left us forever. I want to say to all young girls not take the marriage issue so hard on you. Don’t underestimate yourself, it’s all about handling the life. Don’t rush yourself into a marriage.

At times people keep on waiting for the right time and it never happens. Writer has mentioned about his friend, I know a number of other similar people who kept on waiting for the right time and it never happens.

Gionna

i know of people who have married when they are well into their forties, thing is society dictates what is “acceptable” and what is not….i say be yourself, learn to accept and love you and you wont feel that much pressure…

FarihaRiz

Oh my. I’m sorry for your friend. Indeed, marriage is destined for each and would happen when the time comes. Quran says there is a pair created for every creature. Then why the fuss?

Musadiqkhan

I know a number of other similar people who kept on waiting for the right time and it never comes. It’s a fact

FarihaRiz

Yes, but even if that time has been delayed or never comes due to any reason, Allah swt is Merciful and can turn the fate with duas and pleadings. I believe that.

Musadiqkhan

Yes, Allah is the most merciful and we must pray and hope for the best because I think this is what we have in our hands.

rahuldua

Well,this seems to be an really interesting topic. It goes like this. If you get married you might be thinking, Ah! What if I was a bachelor? And other way around is. If you are looking to get married then you would imagine what would happen once I get married. It is sweet which everyone wants to taste after all. Some taste and some not. So, what’s your say?

Musadiqkhan

I believe most of us want to taste it no matter how it ends up, right?

rahuldua

So, who all are the people here who have tasted the sweet of marriage.

Count begins:

1. I have tasted it.
2.
3.
4.
5.

Musadiqkhan

I haven’t
How is it :D?

rahuldua

Well taste it and you might get the feeling of it. Initially,the things are really pretty and slowly, as time passes it becomes as if you have lost your freedom and living in a certain boundary. Loads and Loads of pressure and responsibilities I must say.

Gionna

then they should learn to love themselves n be happy…

john adams

its not possible

Gionna

society makes all the fuss n it gets to people’s heads causing them to second guess themselves…

john adams

marriage is important for both Boys n girls. therefore both should understand that there is some time required to get appropriate option for yourself.

Madiha

It is one of the hardest thing to wait just for the right rishta. I have been through this and I know how one feels

john adams

i think one should engage herself in constructive activity. coz its better to wait than get yourself in trouble.

Maira

Is marriage everything? You can still live a happy life without getting married.

Gionna

true

john adams

But you need to be married in order to live busy and happy in your life.

Asma Idris Mala

That’s so sad But a girl should not get depressed just because she hasn’t find her soulmate. We are strong enough to live our life happily and independently without depending on others.

john adams

girls need to be strong and should educate themselves so that she can be independent.

john adams

ooh I’m sorry for that girl ! girls should not get depressed when is she not getting married.