FRIENDSHIP - friendship series at pengaze.com; one (01)

If life is a garden, then good friends are the flowers that
beautify it, so never turn your back on friends because of wrongs; the
sweetness of the bee never goes out of honey even if it stings; respect the
knees that say sorry.

We live in a world in which judgment is more important than
getting to know that person; it’s worse when you’re the one judgmental about
yourself. How on earth do you expect love from others when you dislike yourself.
When you’re at peace with yourself, it flows to others; to love is the
beginning of a lifelong romance. Not everybody riding with you rides for you;
let the gas run out and see who helps you push; it is worse when you aren’t
really for yourself by actions. Clean up the past, pack, arrange and repackage
the present for a much better future. Never you surrender your destiny to human
opinion or belittle your efficacy; you can still become what God wants you to
be.

Loyalty is a two way street; if you are asking it from me,
then I should be getting it from you. A relationship with no trust is like a
phone with no service; what do you do with a phone with no service? You play
games. As we grow up; we realize it is less important to have lots of friends
and more important to have real ones. The sages say, “Honesty is an expensive
gift; don’t expect it from cheap people”. You don’t need to be mean with what
you say to say what you mean. In any case, don’t just say what you mean but
mean what you say; it shouldn’t just be about the present but about a consequential
future of an ever new tomorrow. Sometimes, those who don’t socialize much
aren’t actually anti-social; they just have no tolerance for drama and fake
people. Get honest with people about who you are, what you want and how you
expect to be treated; standards only scare off people not meant for you. Say
how you feel without being or sounding desperate; be painfully honest and save
people the stress and trouble. You can’t force people to love you; maybe you could
only show them what they’re missing; love defies hatred, inspires emotion and
increases passion.

A pretty face gets old, a nice body will change but a good
woman/man will always be a good woman/man. People tend to value memories rather
than actual people so the vulnerability in friendships should never be taken for
granted; sometimes, you miss the memories and not the actual people. There are
always two sides to a coin; never jump into conclusion so easily. Everyone goes
for the rose but only a great heart can include the thorns; learn to love with
all your heart and accept the unlovable sides of others too. People may forget
what you said or did but can never forget how you made them feel.