Sometimes life doesn't go according to plan. Sometimes you find yourself on a road you never imagined you'd travel. Sometimes it can scare the pants off you. This is the story of how our little family came to be, continues to grow and how we (attempt to) manage the chaos.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Our waiting angel......

I started this blog back in 2008 to follow the adoption of our second child from Kyrgyzstan. In July 2008, we received the referral of our daughter. It was our hope that she would be home with us in just a few months to begin the life-saving medical treatment she desperately needed. Twenty-two months later, she is still waiting. She is waiting and suffering because of selfishness, bureaucracy, ignorance, and the heartlessness of "The Powers That Be." For nearly two years, we have been kept quiet and have been warned to be "politically correct". I am done. I am done protecting the people that are directly responsible for ruining the lives of so many children. We received pictures from the orphanage this past weekend and they were horrifying. We have submitted to every request, every requirement, paid every fee along the way and yet, these children are held hostage. We are constantly reminded that these children are not "OURS". They "belong" to Kyrgyzstan. Those people needs to be reminded that they are not possessions, but innocent human beings. I know there are people that will be angry for my posting this publicly. Get angry - I don't care. Frankly, MY daughter; MY innocent, little girl; is languishing in an orphanage. She is malnourished, neglected and being deprived of the care and love we have been committed to and longing to give her. There is no end in sight - she may never come home. I want to introduce her to the world - she deserves to have a voice and she deserves to be known.

11 comments:

Kevin Fenske
said...

Kudos to my wife!! I think everyone deserves to see our daughter and hope that others do the same thing with their children - shame on all government officials in the entire world! And...thanks for nothing.

Shannon, she is beautiful - I can't get over her gorgeous eyes! I simply cannot understand why the Kyrgyz government does not see the harm they are bringing to these children. You are so brave to walk this path and we continue to pray for your entire family. Thank you for sharing your daughter with us.

IT is so unfair - What is wrong with the self-centered, blind, political machine that doesn't even consider the needs of A CHILD when posturing about the needs of children. I HATE UNICEF!!!!! They are a bunch of cold-hearted bureaucratice MONSTERS!!!!! Good for you....putting a real, live (and extremely cute) face up against the cold, mechanical monster that is preventing so many children from getting the family and life they deserve!

YEAH!!!! You have been so patient. I agree. Complete disgust with the governments (yes all of them). We complained way back when. Chewie was our third--we pretty much knew that Kyrgyz government--and possibly the facilitators were "dirty". For good Gods' sake--these are innocent children. Remember--these children will someday be the adults that we will have to answer to--and someday, these government members will have to stand before God and answer to their lives. I hope God is more merciful to them then they are to these beautiful, innocent children.

Shannon,Love, hugs, and prayers! Your daughter is beautiful, but definitely needs the medical treatment you are so willing to provide. We are emotionally drained from waiting as well. We believe being in a loving family trumps "belonging" to a certain country. We appreciate your post.

Having a cleft kiddo ourselves from Kyrg whose surgeries were delayed, I totally understand your anger. Kenny STILL deals with the consequences of delayed speech and may never speak normally. It is imperative she get home so she can get the care she needs...and that is only for the physical issues, the emotional are also life long.

You are a wonderful, strong mom. You are the mom she needs to fight for her. Bravo for posting the photo of your beautiful daughter...no sense prentending anymore, give it to them with both barrels blasting!!

Oh Shannon, I am in TEARS reading this and viewing the pictures. Your daughter is a beautiful soul with the most fantastically expressive eyes! And I feel compelled to tell you that I have never been so proud to call someone a friend as I am right now. Nor have I ever felt anyone more deserved the title of MOTHER than I do at this moment. I pray that YOUR beautiful daughter comes home soon so she can embrace the LOVE and assistance that you and your beautiful family have to give. (((HUGS))).

My heart aches watching your video. Thank you for sharing it with us. I will pray for your beautiful daughter every day that she comes home to you soon. I just don't understand any of this. I don't know how some can bear to look at themselves in the mirror. This whole situation is truly abhorrent.

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