I was recently told by a guy that, in a nutshell, I’m too out there for him with my ideas of what I want to do in my life. He’s not the bad guy I make him out to be, but I’ll admit that I was a little thrown off by his statement. Isn’t ambition supposed to be a good quality?

I’m a dreamer! I feel that amazing things are almost within my reach and so I’m always on my tiptoes trying to grasp them. And perhaps mystery man was right in his poorly-chosen words because I am at the point in my life where I’m going after the things I want even though it may be at the cost of my love life. But outside of this dating context, who is to say that being a dreamer is a bad thing?

Dreamers go for it. They tend to face rejection more than realists who are not as willing to try new things, apply for new jobs, etc. Dreamers visualize where they want to be rather than just being content (or miserable) at where they are. Dreamers are often the faces of innovative start ups that dare to create something new and exciting. They take risks and they don’t need certainties to act, but yet they are certain that they need to try. And maybe the best dreamers are a bit grounded to a certain extent in that they see their limitations sure, but they also aim to break past it.

If you are speaking my language, dream on. Don’t be so concerned with toning down what you really want to go after. Be smart in your choices but be daring, be bold, be a little out there. After all, no choice is a choice and by not acting on your hopes you aren’t allowing yourself the opportunity to attain them.

::steps off soapbox::

Phew! Ok, on a personal note, my friends and family make up a healthy mix of both of these types by supporting me when I explore in unconventional ways and giving me a hard reality check when I need it. I hope you too have people in your life that will balance you out in only the best possible way:

“There are dreamers and there are realists in this world. You think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists but more often than not the opposite is true. You see the dreamers need the realists to keep them from soaring too close to the sun. And the realists, without the dreamers they might not ever get off the ground.”