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Swinger party experience

Anyone's suggestions / thoughts,
Went to a party last Saturday and it seemed that the Indian gentlemen were, shall I say pushy, had body odour and Were following me around like I was literally a piece of meat! This made for the most unpleasant experience of swinging. I did not wish to be rude, but after a couple of ours my partner and I left feeling very disappointed! We could not play as we would have hoped. What should I have done.... Looking forward to some positive comments... Thanks

Sex clubs and parties

Oh dear! Parties can be very hit and miss I think, sometimes they can be good and other times not. Although I suggest you go to a few different venues before you rule them out totally.

I think sex clubs are probably better as you have a wider cross section of people and a lot more people to talk too & play with too as well as people seem to be a little better behaved. Well, in my experience people at clubs are happy enough when you say you are not interested in playing, where as at parties people tend to assume that you will play just because you are there (not all people but there is always one or two). Mind you I haven't gone to many parties so I am certainly no expert so don't take my word for it.

But I reckon probably sex clubs are the way to go... depending on what you are after. If it is bi-boy play then private parties catering to this are better.

Standard form

We too have had the same experience with Indian men at parties. They discard their wives/partners who have obviously been dragged along. It's difficult for the hosts to refuse entry based on race so it is a case of just of giving them a polite exit with a bloodied nose after one or two warnings. :)

Parties

We have only been to two private parties, one required a reference to get an invite. It was a great night. The other was open invitation with approval, there were a lot of single guys, a couple of couples and only one single girl slightly different to what the host told us to expect. It must have been disappointing for the single guys, we played in private with the single girl. No one was pushy.
We have also been to two clubs, one we got to occasionally the we would never go back to; too many guys and it felt like a meat market.
I guess like any night out you have good and bad experiences, don't be put of clubs or parties, just find the ones that suit you.

Meeks said it

Yes as club goers .....we may or may not have escorted Ms Meeks ...........We can only agree - we are not into parties or meeting in private unless we know the people from a club. To hit and miss. The club scene where there are no single boys. Yes it does happen with men with partners as well but much less in our experience. .Again guys like that are often told to "disappear" in the club scene pretty quick , but they do exist..Again larger numbers in clubs means more chances of winning the lucky dip..Brae ....escort ........er at times !!!

All about hosts

The only trouble we have ever had is with single ladies , not single guys. And occasionally couples probably 2 times have caused an issue between themselves, our single guys are awesome. All I can say is that the hosts need to not play and work the venue or party it is up to your hosts to make sure of the type of people that attend and that your night is a safe one. We are all rigged up with microphones, and we know exactly who is where all night and what is going on all over our venue.
Keep safe and have fun
Those clubs that have heaps of single guys make it bad for everyone else, and it is sad that a lot of couples use a bad exoerience to stop them enjoying the right place for them when they find it.
And it seems some people are scared of single guys and can't accept the fact that they are usually just as scared as couples or ladies.

Hit and Miss......If it get's beyond it be more assertive- agree with the Fuck Off response.

I had an rather strange approach by an Indian single guy on a single's night. I wouldn't say pushy just socially inept however he approached me twice. First time he cut me off walking and simply asked if I wanted to join him upstairs without so much as introducing himself or anything and then said that he was not so much in to sex just kissing and touching and was gentle- I wish I had said what I was thinking instead of being polite and just saying no thanks as I did I would have added..... you did't even introduce yourself , I am into sex and quite like it rough 2nd time he did much the same thing.

Swingers parties

Hi guys,
Well thanks so much for your valued input... At least I know that I am not the only piece of meat that has been pounded!!! It just felt so awful at the time... We will get to sex parties and give that a go... Any good recommendations for melbourne CBd ???
THANKS AGAIN
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PADI_69

"Clicky"

I have only ever been to one private swingers party and find that there are a group of people who attend these parties on a regular basis and only play within that group. They appear very "clicky" only engaging in conversation as well within the group. I call these the "beautiful people"

I DID meet a great couple who i have met again on another occassion. It was this meeting that made the night worthwhile.

Find that everywhere.

Quoting 'foreveryours2'

I have only ever been to one private swingers party and find that there are a group of people who attend these parties on a regular basis and only play within that group. They appear very "clicky" only engaging in conversation as well within the group. I call these the "beautiful people"

I DID meet a great couple who i have met again on another occassion. It was this meeting that made the night worthwhile.

Overall experience.

I think you are talking about people who are friends, i think you will find that in all aspects of life not just the swinging scene. There are people who go to clubs that know eachother and stick with eachother , that is there perogative and i say good for them if they only feel comfortable with those they know then so be it, it is not our problem and they are limiting themselves to only a few people. But you will find that everywhere, even in pubs and clubs ....everywhere..not everyone talks and plays with everyone...that is life .

Find that everywhere.

Quoting 'foreveryours2'

I have only ever been to one private swingers party and find that there are a group of people who attend these parties on a regular basis and only play within that group. They appear very "clicky" only engaging in conversation as well within the group. I call these the "beautiful people"

I DID meet a great couple who i have met again on another occassion. It was this meeting that made the night worthwhile.

Overall experience.

I think you are talking about people who are friends, i think you will find that in all aspects of life not just the swinging scene. There are people who go to clubs that know eachother and stick with eachother , that is there perogative and i say good for them if they only feel comfortable with those they know then so be it, it is not our problem and they are limiting themselves to only a few people. But you will find that everywhere, even in pubs and clubs ....everywhere..not everyone talks and plays with everyone...that is life .

Swingers parties

Well guys, once again thanks for all the valued comments... I had a phone call from the party organisers and she expressed her apologises for not noticing the body odour from the guy concerned. She said that if this ever happens again, tell them...and about the meat market! Her comment was... You are in charge! Well said.... Next time I will remember that :)

Policy of no means no...

doesn't always exist! We went to our first party nervous of course but were assured that no means no and we did not have to play if we were not comfortable. This particular party required a 'nomination' if you like to be invited. The hosts were more than welcoming to get us through the door then once we were in it was like a meat market and the host was the worst offender! Very pushy!! Not our scene. We found that going out to swingers/couples public events easier and also we didn't have an issue with most of the single guys...some of these guys are more open (and honest) than some of the couples ;-)