"Fuck and flee" implies (to me anyway) that you want to have sex and never see that person again. We are not looking for best buddies.....but would like to at least go into it thinking you would at least want to speak with them afterwards

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Your right..........why can't we.........I think it is because most people want to meet and greet...............

Let me know what you think.

Las Vegas NV

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Or don't say anything at all about that. Leave the options open for everybody, and then just "go with the flow."

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Because we live in a small town with no other larger towns near by, the number of people to meet is somewhat limited. We have several "friends" that live 1-2 hours away. Usually when someone has to travel that far, if we meet and click, we are not hesitatnt to take it further that night. Many of these people we keep up with online, and see at various swinging parties in the area. They are "friends" in a way, ut we certainly don't hang out together. With people that far away, it can be difficult to meet multiple times before having fun. We meet with the intent of having sex, if we do, great, and hopefully stay in touch and have fun later.

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Ditto for VALovers. Mrs. VALovers is one heck of a woman! Very sensuous and sensual. And a great hostess, too. Mr. VALovers is a lucky guy.

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Phil,

After sex with YOUR wife, I'm too breathless to talk! ROFL

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This is an interesting topic. We were involved with a swingers group in SE Virginia before moving to Maryland two years ago. Interestingly, we developed some extraordinary friendships with people we did not play with. We also formed the kinds of friendship/playmate relationships where we did "mundane" events with no prospect of play. The key thing, I think, is that regardless of the level of the relationships, we always try to meet people with whom we have some things in common. That way, as was previously said, you have the ability to interact with the other couple as human beings in addition to the sexual. Not to say we haven't been smitten and reacted lustily! That does happen. But for the most part, we're looking for people we would likely enjoy even if they didn't offer the prospect of carnal delights! As my lovely wife says, "After the sex, you have to talk sometimes!"

Phil

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The main thing is to be true to yourselves and others. My philosophy is.....to each his own, some people like chocolate, some vanilla and then again, we have some strawberry fans. You are responsible for your own happiness in life and that involves being honest. If you are looking for best friends then there is nothing wrong with that.......if not, there is nothing wrong with that either.

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We are the classic seeking friends with benefits type. Although we don't have the demands on our time many people do, we are very active persuing a variety of interests. At this point in our lives "just sex" really doesn't interest us. We can have plenty of sex with each other. We're in a spell where the club scene doesn't do it. So we do seek people we can share a variety of activities with.

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We are with expo969 on this issue. Our swinger friends co-mingle with our vanilla friends (some of them know we are swingers) and also meet our family members. Our swinger friends know how to act according to who they are around and we have no concerns about something inappropriate being said or done.