True Confession — I Cheated and Liked It

"Yes, I cheated, and I'm glad I did. I finally got to be with a man that cares about me, rather than a man who just randomly talks to me about soccer and video games. I'd go back again in a heartbeat."

I clicked on forgive. but trust me you are not a one to ask forgiveness. You say that you are sure to continue cheating on your boyfriend.
What prevents you from breaking up with your bf? trust me the answer is still the same that brought u two together: love. for old times sake, plz realize that you are only trying to take revenge and not actually desperate to sleep with some other guy. try understanding the fact that your boyfriend has a different stream of thought than you. You want to be loved and cared - he wants you to be his buddy with whom he can share his manly stuff.. videogames etc.. whatever u said. It is only you who must know what turns him on.. may be good food or a romantic movie-night at home. You can't have your own way out as it is a two-way deal and it needs to be dealt with from his point of view.

I clicked on forgive. but trust me you are not a one to ask forgiveness. You say that you are sure to continue cheating on your boyfriend.What prevents you from breaking up with your bf? trust me the answer is still the same that brought u two together: love. for old times sake, plz realize that you are only trying to take revenge and not actually desperate to sleep with some other guy. try understanding the fact that your boyfriend has a different stream of thought than you. You want to be loved and cared - he wants you to be his buddy with whom he can share his manly stuff.. videogames etc.. whatever u said. It is only you who must know what turns him on.. may be good food or a romantic movie-night at home. You can't have your own way out as it is a two-way deal and it needs to be dealt with from his point of view.

ure not forgiven. ure a total slut for cheating. dump the guy ure with if u would go back to that ass in a heartbeat. why stay with him? it doesnt sound like u deserve ure current bf anyway. just because he talks about random bullshit doesnt mean he doesnt love u or care about u. cheating is cheating. and because u liked it, i hope it comes back and bites u in ure ass. :) i hate cheaters

I think that not feeling remorseful makes it a not forgive. However, I do think that you need to either make a committment to fix your relationship or get out of it. I wouldn't say that you are a slut because I know nothing about the situation but you can't take your relationship seriously if you have cheated, don't feel bad and would do it again in a heartbeat. That should tell you something right there.

I think it's absolutely ridiculous that people are calling her a "slut" there are many different things that could be qualified as cheating. A kiss in my opinion is cheating, does kissing make someone a slut? You know a couple sentences about this persons relationship and you feel it necessary to make such harsh judgments about them? I don't agree with women putting each other down and calling them "stupid" and "sluts" esp. based on 3 sentences. Yikes.

I've cheated one time with my last relationship b/c I was getting abused mentally and physically! I know it was a wrong thing to do but I ended up leaving him for the person I cheated on him with. I understand with what your saying on the way he treated you but it still isn't far! I've been with the guy I cheated with for 5yrs now and I want even let him do me like that b/c I feel what I did may come back to bit me in the butt! Yes, I hear that saying all the time..... once a cheater always a cheater! Not true (for some) b/c some of us may have good reason's to do what we did but it still isn't far! I've been faithful in all my relationships but that one so I don't think that cheating would ever cross my mind again!

I hate this kind of thing. Pretty much all of the commenters here are dead on. If you are cheating, then it's pretty obvious you've checked out of the relationship -- why keep it up with your boyfriend? I feel really badly for him, no matter what your relationship is like. NO ONE deserves to be treated that way. Grow a pair, let the poor guy off the hook, and go be single for awhile.

Yeah agree with the above- even if the guy was threatening to kill himself (or worse-you) I would call the cops and some therapists and STILL dump him. And I certainly would not blame myself if he went and did something stupid because those are his choices. Just as I blame YOU poster for cheating when you could have done the mature thing and break-up with him.

"If your BF treats you as badly as you say he does and you stay, then it's YOUR fault, not his. You should not be forgiven for cheating. Period, end of story."
Hear, hear, Mykie7. Couldn't have said it better myself.
Even if this is a situation where the guy would threaten to kill himself or something if you break up with him, break up with him anyway. Get him a counselor if you want to go above and beyond. Don't stay and cheat and then try to paint it like staying at all is doing him a huge favor.
Just from the tone of those few sentences, it sounds like the topic starter has quite a bit of contempt for the guy she's with, so I don't think she'd neglect to mention it if there's anything else that makes her feel more justified about cheating. Like if he was somehow forcing her to stay with him.
But nope, apparently all she can come up with is that all he does is talk about soccer and video games. Ooh, yeah, that certainly makes it okay to possibly expose him to other people's STDs without his knowledge.
I don't know why sometimes people bring up open relationships as a reason why it's okay to cheat. She wouldn't be calling it cheating if she was in an open relationship in the first place, come on. I don't think there's anything wrong with open relationships where everyone knows what they're in for and are consenting adults - cheating is an entirely different matter. Don't get it mixed up with open relationships. I don't think that's fair to open relationships.
As for the "it's not naaaatural to only be with one person" spiel... It's also not natural to use computers and various other things that gives modern mankind great convenience and comfort, why don't we all just revert back to living in caves and hunting and gathering? The point is, natural doesn't determine everything we do, and I certainly wouldn't assume just because I live a certain way, the other 6 billion human beings on the planet must also be exactly the same as me or they would not be "natural".
Anyway, most of us living in modern societies aren't forced to be in relationships, so there's just no excuse to seek societal approval by getting in and staying in the typical monogamous relationship and then turn around and get all "Wah, this is all everyone else's fault, woe is me, all I want is to be free to looooove anyone I want!" THAT's what cheating is.
I have all the respect in the world for people who want to be free to be with anyone they want by staying single or being in atypical relationships. People who are honest with others about who they are and what they want. People like these have the courage of their convictions. ZERO respect for cheaters, who are wishy-washy invertebrates with ZERO courage and a sense of entitlement bigger than the universe itself.

i don't really understand this. i mean, you cheated with someone who "cares about you"? does the fact that your boyfriend talks about soccer or video games mean he doesn't? saying this sounds like a stupid excuse to make yourself feel like what you did was somehow justified. it's not. if you don't like a man that talks about sports and games then leave him. cheating is never a justifiable action.

Well why don't you answer your own question?
Say you found out that your boyfriend is really bored with you and only talks to you about soccer and video games because you have nothing in common. But he doesn't want to break it off and feel bad. So he cheats on you and loves it and doesn't feel bad.
Would you forgive him?

"Yes I cheated and I'm glad I did"
I'd hate to see what you would have done if he had the audacity to do something much worse than bore you with soccer and video games.So instead of doing the right thing you decided that cheating on him was a much classier alternative.What you did makes you look like a coward not a slut. Personally, I think you were stringing this guy along until something better came along.Which it did.
Yep,you sound pretty damn stupid to me......:oy:

I feel like to many people get too serious too soon and too young in their lives and that it just causes problems down the road.
I think in this day and age, people shouldnt be serious until they're around age 25 or so, but quite honestly who is going to do that?
People act like they're married when they start dating in highschool and college and its just not natural to be that confined and restricted all the time so young, but then again people are usually too insecure to be in an "open" relationship so I have no idea where the middle ground is. So I say forgive.