It’s an unfortunate fact that sometimes, life’s just not fair. From accidents to breakups to misunderstandings to job losses and even death… bad things do happen to good people. So what do you do when you’re faced with a situation you didn’t see coming – and didn’t ask for?

Maybe it’s something that throws you off-course in a way you couldn’t have predicted, and brings into question everything you believe? The trick to surviving life’s injustices – great and small – isn’t in avoiding them. Rather, it lies in how you react once they’ve happened!

Step away
Sometimes in the case of an accident or incident it’s worthwhile to write down what you remember immediately – for a multitude of reasons. Trying to actually get some perspective on why it happened or what you can take from it is going to take some time. That’s because it’s nearly impossible to see things clearly in the immediate aftermath of something negative or surprising. Our heads are too clouded by anger, hurt, sadness or shock for a reasoned, introspective reaction.

So instead of stewing on the details in an attempt to unravel what seems like an unsolvable mystery, allow yourself some breathing room. Step away from what’s happened for an hour or a day or a week before attempting to take stock. You’re not losing your advantage or your chance to affect the situation by giving yourself a moment or 10 – you’re gathering your composure, and improving your chances of making the most of the mishap, or at least showing your best grace under pressure.

People always call me crazy —> my thoughts, my art, my poetry, my ideas, my books, my actions, but Eh, that’s life! They say that I’m different, I’m out there, the fact that I think outside the box and see things in a way that most others can’t grasp; plus my utter honestly seems to bother the masses. Ha, and they call me crazy.

FYI – If you cant handle real-talk, don’t read this.

Why is it that when a man and woman break up, the man feels the need to engage in sexual acts with any ‘skirt’ that will allow him to? Is it because he’s so insecure that the only way he can feel better about himself is to do this?

I personally do not get that about (some of you) men. When my relationship has terminated, I often times feel a sense of freedom and release, the weight that weighed heavily on my shoulder is gone, so the last thing I need is to be handing out my ‘lil girl’ to a bunch of other men. I finally feel a break from the stresses of being in a relationship and free from the taint of sexual relations.

Often times when I’m involved with someone I feel as if I lose myself, constantly having to cater to HIS needs, HIS emotions, HIS wants, and they always want to change the free bird that I am. The men in my life want to restrict the human being that I am, loud, outspoken, wild, fun, lets party kinda girl, the men just can’t seem to handle those qualities of me. every time I enter into a relationship I hope that HE can handle who I am and just let me be me, BUT that is never the case. So in the end we always break up. But after that break up, the last thing I need is for another man to come right along; I need a break. Its ME time, me, my friends, my life, the way I dress, the way I party and who i kick it with without any inhibitions. I don’t need another man right away, that doesn’t make me feel whole or complete. I just don’t understand what it is about men that make them have to jump right into the bed of another woman (as my x is doing).

yes, he is a total douche bag

Clearly, I recently terminated a relationship that I was in, and not even a week after, the man I was involved with was engaging in sexual acts with ANYTHING, and i mean ANYTHING that would let him, and I mean multiple women. About a month after we broke up we spoke and he told me that he was sleeping with about 6 different women all under the age of 18, and that he had another 10 on his list. I looked at him and really was just repulsed, the fact that the only thing that he can do to move on is to sleep around. Now mind you, sad but true, this man was younger than I, and really has nothing of his own to offer, he works for his father and lives as his daddy’s shadow, he clearly basks in the reflected glory of another mans’ success. Through our relationship, this never bothered me, because I don’t date someone for what they have but who they are, this situation however, has made me realize that what they have ultimately makes them react the way they do.

If he was a secure, independent man, I doubt he would have taken the post break-up path that he did. This situation has taught me that if I am to get involved with someone it most definitely has to be someone on MY level – my level of thinking, my level of success, my level of business aspirations, just on the same level of me; NOT someone who has done nothing for themselves. I can only assume that his reason for sleeping around is because of the fact that that is all he has, it’s the ONLY thing that really makes him feel like a man.

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As a Poet and Spoken Word Artist, I often tend to and feel the need to express freely, whether it be about myself or not. I am compelled to write and recite without much inhibition. I don’t hold much back in my work. As you indulge, free your minds of judgment. With modern technology I am able to upload videos from my YouTube Site and utilize them in my own website. Watch and Enjoy!
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