I is for Infertility

If you are new here you may not know that I cover a lot of difficult subjects. This is no exception. Infertility is often something that many people don’t think about, but I have been thinking about it a lot lately, not because of my own issues, but because of friends who have struggled with it.

Since this is an A to Z post and I haven’t been doing very good at keeping it short, I am not going to talk about the specifics of infertility. Honestly, if I go in depth it could easily be 3 or 4 posts. For today I am just going to talk about being sensitive to those who are struggling.

First of all, many people who struggle with infertility don’t talk about it much because it can be painful. Not just emotionally painful, but physically painful. Chances are, unless you are a part of the couple, you may never know that they are struggling.

Depending on how bad the couple wants kids, they may have to go through a lot of physically painful tests and procedures, not to mention injections at home.

If the couple doesn’t have the money to go through these treatments they may just give up on having a family. They may not want to talk about this out in the open.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I have friends and family who struggle with infertility and I know what questions pop up the second someone get married. Everyone wants to know when you will have kids.

They never take into consideration that you may not want kids.

No one ever thinks they will have trouble conceiving. No one wants to think about it.

I know when people ask when you will have kids they don’t want to be mean. They think they have the best intentions because many people want to have a family or maybe the couple has talked about wanting a family.

The thing is that it comes up at almost every family function until they have kids, and even after they have kids everyone want to know when the second one will come along.

I am bringing this up because I want to make you aware. Many people don’t realize what they are asking until they have asked it. I am asking you to think twice about asking when a couple will have kids. You never know what is going on between them and they may not want to talk about it.