Everyone’s talking about the confrontation between Nicki Minaj and Miley Cyrus at the VMAs. Here’s why this author’s on #TeamNicki – and what you need to know to avoid being part of the problem of tone policing.

Thanks, Stan, for sharing this article.

See also: this video about how to apologize after getting “called out.” I put “called out” in quotations because more and more, I am finding myself favoring “calling someone in” over “calling someone out” — as in, calling someone into a conversation or a learning experience.

OK…one more: this video by Jay Smooth on how to talk about race (touches on multidimensionality, on how important it is to remember that we are good people AND we have unconscious biases/prejudices so we can continue grappling with race issues).