question for pro-choicers

I have a serious question. If you want an abortion b/c you don't want the child, why don't you carry the baby and then give it up for adoption? I mean, assuming you can carry it without medical problems. I'm not trying to start a debate, be rude or condescending, or anything else of that nature. I just really want to hear why you would choose that route.

I have a serious question. If you want an abortion b/c you don't want the child, why don't you carry the baby and then give it up for adoption? I mean, assuming you can carry it without medical problems. I'm not trying to start a debate, be rude or condescending, or anything else of that nature. I just really want to hear why you would choose that route.

I'm pro-choice, but I could never have an abortion. pregnancy is a huge strain on the body; my last one almost killed me. I don't think a woman should have to go through that ordeal if they have no interest in it.

I'm pro-choice, but I could never have an abortion. pregnancy is a huge strain on the body; my last one almost killed me. I don't think a woman should have to go through that ordeal if they have no interest in it.

The answer to this question is almost as varied as there are people who are pro choice. Here's the short list:If a woman doesn't want the baby, why go through the hassle.Pregnancy is hard on the body and always comes with health risks. It is often too emotional for a woman to give up the child once it is born.Criticism for getting pregnant in the first place, personal image, fear of repercussions.It requires a major lifestyle change.The cost of prenatal care and delivery.A fetus isn't yet a human and therefore at the discretion of its host.

I think that covers the basics.

The answer to this question is almost as varied as there are people who are pro choice. Here's the short list:If a woman doesn't want the baby, why go through the hassle.Pregnancy is hard on the body and always comes with health risks. It is often too emotional for a woman to give up the child once it is born.Criticism for getting pregnant in the first place, personal image, fear of repercussions.It requires a major lifestyle change.The cost of prenatal care and delivery.A fetus isn't yet a human and therefore at the discretion of its host.

What if being pregnant caused you to loose your job. Happened to my cousin, she was a bartender and was a surrogate for her best friend who couldn't conceive. She lost her job Only because she was pregnant.

What if being pregnant caused you to loose your job. Happened to my cousin, she was a bartender and was a surrogate for her best friend who couldn't conceive. She lost her job Only because she was pregnant.

Out of the three groups of people who become pregnant unexpectedly (the ones who abort, the ones who adopt, the ones who keep), the ones who adopt out end up having the most emotional/mental problems. There is also the problem of "adoptable" babies, the perfect white infants. That means minority babes and babies with "defects" are much harder to adopt out, sometimes spending their entire lives in the foster care system, going from group home to group home.

Out of the three groups of people who become pregnant unexpectedly (the ones who abort, the ones who adopt, the ones who keep), the ones who adopt out end up having the most emotional/mental problems. There is also the problem of "adoptable" babies, the perfect white infants. That means minority babes and babies with "defects" are much harder to adopt out, sometimes spending their entire lives in the foster care system, going from group home to group home.

Pro choice does not mean pro abortion or that someone would have an abortion. Pro choice means you believe that a woman should have the choice to carry carry a pregnancy or terminate a pregnancy. As to why would someone choose abortion over adoption, PP have addressed that well.

Pro choice does not mean pro abortion or that someone would have an abortion. Pro choice means you believe that a woman should have the choice to carry carry a pregnancy or terminate a pregnancy. As to why would someone choose abortion over adoption, PP have addressed that well.

I am pro choice, but I can never picture having an abortion; however if I was raped or the baby is a product of incest, I can understand. The emotional toll is brutal. Yes, the morning after pill is available, but it's only 86% effective IF you are not already pregnant.

I am pro choice, but I can never picture having an abortion; however if I was raped or the baby is a product of incest, I can understand. The emotional toll is brutal. Yes, the morning after pill is available, but it's only 86% effective IF you are not already pregnant.

<gimmeahint>Sorry. I didn't finish answering the question. I am pro choice but not necessarily pro abortion. There are only a few circumstances that I *might* consider aborting based on the baby being unwanted. The only ones I can think of right now are if I was raped or severely ill to the point that I knew I could not care for the child.

<gimmeahint>Sorry. I didn't finish answering the question. I am pro choice but not necessarily pro abortion. There are only a few circumstances that I *might* consider aborting based on the baby being unwanted. The only ones I can think of right now are if I was raped or severely ill to the point that I knew I could not care for the child.

Got preggers by accident (condom broke) while working for a conservative private school. Boyfriend who always talked marriage prior to pregnancy decided he didn't want to get married now that I was pregnant. School would have fired me when I started showing being unwed and all.

Got preggers by accident (condom broke) while working for a conservative private school. Boyfriend who always talked marriage prior to pregnancy decided he didn't want to get married now that I was pregnant. School would have fired me when I started showing being unwed and all.

I only can go on what you write in your OP. Your question was for people who are pro choice and you asked why we can't go for adoption instead of abortion. There is an assumption there that if you are pro choice you would get an abortion yourself.

I only can go on what you write in your OP. Your question was for people who are pro choice and you asked why we can't go for adoption instead of abortion. There is an assumption there that if you are pro choice you would get an abortion yourself.

Because being pregnant is a lot of work, pain, suffering, struggling. What it does to your body is intense (stretchmarks saggy tummy saggy boobs, hemroids, ripping, scaring, months of morning sickness, ect). If you are going to keep a baby those things mean nothing but if you aren't that's a lot to ask of someone. In fact I almost didn't get pregnant a second time because pregnancy and I don't mix so badly it hurts. I get deathly sick, I'm super athletic and the weight and uncomfortable feelings are like torcher to me. I'm weight obsessed so every pound I gain stresses me and I'm bound to gain at least 30. 50 with my first. Abortion makes perfect sense to me if you have no intention of keeping it.

Because being pregnant is a lot of work, pain, suffering, struggling. What it does to your body is intense (stretchmarks saggy tummy saggy boobs, hemroids, ripping, scaring, months of morning sickness, ect). If you are going to keep a baby those things mean nothing but if you aren't that's a lot to ask of someone. In fact I almost didn't get pregnant a second time because pregnancy and I don't mix so badly it hurts. I get deathly sick, I'm super athletic and the weight and uncomfortable feelings are like torcher to me. I'm weight obsessed so every pound I gain stresses me and I'm bound to gain at least 30. 50 with my first. Abortion makes perfect sense to me if you have no intention of keeping it.

I think adoption carries much longer emotional consequences than abortion. For me personally their would be almost zero chance I could carry a baby to term, see it and then give it up without becoming emotionally invested. I would have the rest of my life wondering what became of the baby and if it was adopted by a good family or not.

I think adoption carries much longer emotional consequences than abortion. For me personally their would be almost zero chance I could carry a baby to term, see it and then give it up without becoming emotionally invested. I would have the rest of my life wondering what became of the baby and if it was adopted by a good family or not.

Some people just don't want to be pregnant. If you feel like you can handle carrying a child for nine months and then giving it up for adoption all the more power to you, but to be honest if you don't want a child there is no sense in carrying it to term and putting yourself through all the hassle of being pregnant.

Some people just don't want to be pregnant. If you feel like you can handle carrying a child for nine months and then giving it up for adoption all the more power to you, but to be honest if you don't want a child there is no sense in carrying it to term and putting yourself through all the hassle of being pregnant.

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