Are they really your friends?

Not everyone we meet will stay in our lives forever, not everyone we
meet can be called friend.

Some people take more than what they give and we´ll get to a time where
we can´t give anymore, some of the people we meet will seem to be good friends
they´ll even say to us that we´ll be together no matter what but when something
happen they are the first to disappear.

Some people will only take from us everything they can and they won´t
give anything and even when it´s good to give there are times where we also
need to receive, there will be relationships that are only holding us down or
keeping us stuck in that same level or even some that are pulling us down or
drowning us.

We all have though moments in our lives where we need someone and those
moments are the ones that will show us who our real friends are, the ones who
care and are there for us. Real friends will be there when we need them in
those tough times even if there´s nothing they can do physically they will show
up to listen to us and they will travel the journey with us to build us up.
This are the ones we can trust and the ones we can count on.

Sometimes this real friends are the ones we least expect, we´ve been so
busy with other relationships giving everything from love, attention, caring
and time only to find out that when we need them those were the ones who leave
first and the ones we didn´t pay too much attention are the ones who stay there
with us and go through all the ups and downs of that difficult situation with
us.

Once we find out who really cares, who was there for us even when we
haven´t showed up that much in their lives we can´t forget them and we can
start building from there a meaningful relationship that will carry on over the
years.

There are people in our lives that come and go, that´s normal not
everyone we meet will become a friend, we meet them and live amazing moments
with them memories full of laughs and great times but in tough times they´re
not there for us. We need to accept this and realize that not everyone is
willing to give as much as we give or do as much as we do for them, they won´t
support us in any way in those difficult times so we need to let them go. The
same happens with the ones who are holding us back or who try to pull us back
we also need to let them go.

It´s hard to let go someone to whom you give so much and find out that
they won´t do the same for you, one way to avoid this pain is to not get
attached to any relationship, this can be hard to if you are the type of person
who almost instantly trust everyone.

Building deep meaningful relationships takes time and it can be
difficult to find out who is going to be there for us until something bad
happens but there are some signs we can consider like who are the ones who showed
up only for fun times like parties, dinners, or others type of events where we
can have fun but they didn´t show up for some serious stuff. Who only calls us
when they need something but when we call them for whatever reason they don´t
seem to be so interested? Who doesn´t is willing to give as much as we do, and
here we´re talking about spending time together, listening and paying attention?

Real friendship means spending time with people we love and care about,
listening, being there in their darkest times, accepting and understanding who
they really are, supporting them and we need to show it not say it. Everyone
can say it but not everyone will show it, the ones who show up are the ones who
matter.

We need to realize that in some cases when things go wrong the first
ones to leave are the ones we consider friends and the ones closer to us, this
happen with friends and family and the ones that show up are the ones we least
expect so even when it´s hard to realize that the ones we trusted more are the
first one to leave we need to move on, let them go and focus on those new
people who appear in our life.

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