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By Dr. Deanna Brann, Clinical Psychotherapist and author of Reluctantly Related Revisited: Breaking Free of the Mother-in-Law/Daughter-in-Law Conflict
The holidays are approaching, and you know what that means—family time! Whether you are hosting your son and daughter-in-law or spending the day in their home, even the best of relationships can be challenged during this stress-laden time. But what happens when your relationship with your daughter-in-law is, how shall I say, prickly or problematic? Have you hoped that this year things will go differently? Are you thinking, Why do we always have to have drama and tension? Can’t we just this once have a sane holiday together as a “normal” family?
The key to going from dread to delight is as simple as shifting your perspective slightly, which in turn makes it easier...

By Peter Jones, founder of Jones Myers family law specialist
With longer lives and longer health, vigour and mobility, it is unsurprising that separation and divorce rates among seniors are rising too.
Long suppressed little irritations and tensions, that might have niggled for many years, but whose impact may have been lessened by the demands of children and busy lives, could achieve greater importance once the nest is empty or people start winding down to a life after work.
It might be that one or both partners only stayed in the marriage until the children had flown and, unable to face the often daunting prospect of spending every waking moment together, now want out. People are living fuller lives longer and a husband or wife may simply meet somebody and want to spend...

By Vanessa Fox,
Having battled with breast cancer and divorce in the same year, I understand from personal experience how the stress and anxiety of a diagnosis can take its toll on the most robust relationship. As more women survive the disease, there is likewise a greater recognition of how it impacts on couples’ lives and partnerships – both during and after treatment.
The stress and anxiety of cancer will be a turning point for many marriages – especially those that were already under strain pre-illness and not best positioned to withstand the disruption that its treatment and management will cause.
The unwelcome seismic life event and the daily emotions, challenges and decisions it forces couples, especially those with children, to face, will severely test any relationship. It can also...

Article by Jan King
EU and YOU – The Parting of the Ways
For weeks, the media has been likening Britain’s decision last week to leave the EU to a divorce. And leaving the EU is certainly similar to a domestic parting of the ways. First the rancour, accusations and recriminations, then the decision to part even though on balance one half of the partnership wants to stay together, followed by the dismantling of a past way of life and rebuilding a new one.
Of course, just as with our economy post Brexit, making sure you have enough to live on and that there’s a roof over your head is vitally important, but one of the most important tasks for people over fifty newly on their own is to...

First date nerves? Dress or skinny jeans? Heels or trainers? Red lipstick or natural lipgloss? First dates can be nerve wrecking, especially over 50, and we can take a long time to prepare.
However, it’s not only our look that can boost our confidence. We asked our Nutritionists to tell us, what are the best foods we should eat before a date to look and feel fabulous.
To de stress yourself
We all get the first date jitters. “One of the key things to realise is that stress and anxiety can be fuelled by eating the wrong types of food. Stick to snacks that don’t raise your blood sugar too quickly such as nuts including almonds, brazil nuts, hazelnuts and macadamia nuts, as these contain some protein...

Article by Sandra Baker
Ah, the internet. The place where people go to find information on anything ranging from how to solve quadratic equations to answer why the sky is blue to waste time watching adorable cat videos. Other than it being used to look up useful (and many times not so useful) information, it’s one of the main ways people are dating; and it isn’t just for young people! Why, if you look on any of the international dating sites, you’ll find countless younger women who are interested in dating an older man, seniors searching for love, and everything in between. Needless to say, the online dating world is booming.
Be that as it may, you heed our advice and be selective with the information you share on...

Article by Sandra Baker
It’s only expected that when you join a dating site, you’re going to want to make use of all the features the site has to offer and one of the favored features are the chat rooms. In the chat rooms, you’ll be able to meet and connect with people much quicker than if you were to wait for them to respond to your messages. Why you can even bypass the whole message system if you truly wanted to! By using the available chat feature on the website, not only will you be able to communicate to someone in real time, but you can have multiple conversations going on simultaneously. Think about it; you could have a local flirt with someone in one chat window...

Article by Naomi Webb
All good grandparents want the best for their grandchildren. Of course, this extends to supporting their learning and development too, but not all of us know how to go about doing this. For instance, what’s the appropriate way to get involved? What role should we play? How can we take on responsibility without treading on parents’ and teachers’ toes? Well, here’s a few suggestions.
Quality time
First, recognise that quality time is one of the best educational gifts you can give your grandchildren. When you manage to get some one to one time with your them, do what you did with your own children: show them interesting things, introduce them to a range of flavours and textures, play imaginative games with them and encourage them...

Article by Therese
With British Mother’s Day approaching I have been thinking a lot about my own relationship with Kate, who is not only my beautiful daughter she’s also a consultant for my promotional work.
The mother daughter relationship is a complex one but like any other, when the chemistry is right, it can make for a great partnership. We might be divided by the Atlantic Ocean (I’m in LA and Kate is in London) but we have some clear rules of engagement that make for a powerful dynamic.
Mum’s Point of View for Working Together
Therese:
Dress for success. At home I’ll be at the computer writing in my pyjamas, but I do my best to look pulled together when I’m at meetings. Kate always looks polished and professional. This helps set...

Article By Faye Watts
Divorce. New Relationships. Remarriage. Life over fifty has the potential to get messy not only emotionally, but also financially. How many of us have heard horror stories about women conned out of their life savings after falling head over heels for someone they met online? Or just the day to day messiness of entwining two families and their financial responsibilities.
Faye Watts, founding partner at www.fuseaccountants.co.uk, looks at how to keep an eye on what’s yours when you move on.
Why be cautious
While it’s lovely to put on those rose coloured spectacles, many of us will have been through more than enough to hold onto what we could after our first marriage, and want to be a bit more careful this time around. Even if you’re a...