Loving the Unlovable

Providing a positive reflection to people who have behaviors that make them unlovable.

Problem:

Whenever we interact with another person we see ourselves reflected back. That reflection can be positive, like a mother with a child; or, for some people with mental or physical disabilities, that reflection can be distaste, irritation, or fear. This pattern is about befriending the more vulnerable members of society regardless of their outward appearance or behavior. It is about recognizing that certain off-putting behaviors are a manifestation of the disability or perhaps a coping mechanism built from past interactions.

Context:

People with mental of physical disablities can have off-putting behaviors that make them difficult/ uncomfortable to get to know or like.

Discussion:

Provide resources to teachers, parents, and peers about inclusiveness. Encourage others to look past abrasive behavior to see the person behind the mask. As an individual, approach people with an open attitude and try to provide and try to provide back to them a positive reflection.

Solution:

This pattern is about inluding members of society that may be hard to like / love and treating them with openness and respect.