You lost them and now you want them back. Whether your breakup happened a day ago, three months ago, a year ago or even if she's seeing someone else now, you may not be able to just move on if you feel she was really the one.

Winning your ex girlfriend back isn't really the hard part. The hard part is keeping them.Take some time and go through these steps and you may find yourself getting a second chance at something you need to pursue. It might seem to be a hard work, but its worth it.

1. Take Some Time Apart

The No. 1 rule to any break up is to take some time apart.Don't contact her for at least two weeks. This is because breakups can be emotionally draining, and you need some time to put things into logical perspective.

Time apart will allow everything to cool down and be less emotionally charged. Plus, it gives you time to evaluate how you feel about the breakup, where things went wrong, and whether or not you really want to get her back.

2. Focus On What You Want

During these weeks away, take time to focus on you. Be single and enjoy it, and take the time to live your life free of compromise and really evaluate who you are and what you want.

Even though this time is for you, there are no harm sampling who else may be out there--unless you are 101% sure that you ant her back. If after two weeks of 'you' time and you still want her back, move on to the next step.

3.Understand What Went Wrong

The first step to getting her back is to really take a long time to think about what went wrong. The key to making things work is to fully understand the original issue so as to be able to build on your mistakes and prevent them from reoccurring. No woman is going to take you back if you don't fully understand why you broke up.

Try finding answers to questions like; What was she saying to you before the breakup? were there any sings you were heading for a breakup? did she say why she didn't like or love you any more?

Of course, you can go on thinking that she simply just changed , but she most likely had been dropping hints near the end of your relationship as to what she needed from you and what she wanted to change.

4.Reach Out And Contact Her

After you must have taken time to yourself and must have thought and understood some of what you feel went wrong, you still want to get her back, then its time you get back in touch.

Whatever you use, make sure you keep the message light and playful. A message saying "We have to talk" or "I want to get back together" is way too heavy and is not going to make her eager to see you. Show her the person she knew you to be the first time you started dating.

5.Fix A Meeting and Keep It Casual

The first time you see he post-breakup can be pretty overwhelming, but remember to keep you cool. Whether it's been two weeks or two years, you want to keep it casual. Always meet up with her during the day for lunch or coffee, like you're meeting up with a friend. Anything more involved will apear needy and like you're trying too hard to impress her.

Make sure to still keep it light, flighty, and fun, the goal here is to show her the guy she fell in love with, not the guy she broke up with. If after your first meet up with her you still want her back, then continue having casual meet-ups.

6.Go For It

After several meet-ups, if you still feel that you want to get back together, you can tell her what you've learned from your weeks apart.

Tell her what you have realized about why you broke up, and say you're working on things because of it. You want to show her you've grown and really heard what she's said.

7.Do The Work

After all the getting-back-together glory haze is over, it's time to really step up and start working on the relationship. Things you acknowledges while you were apart are now things you actually have to work on. You want to show her that you're willing to be a better you by changing your ways. This time around, you need good communication and lots of patience. If you have have this things, this time the relationship will last.

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