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I’m so sorry, I have no advice but just want to say I SYMPATHISE 100%!!! Currently sitting outside my little boy’s room wondering when it will EVER work to just say goodnight and go! My 1 year old has been asleep since 7 and I could cry! I’m so sorry that’s less than helpful but want you to know you’re not alone! Well done for surviving!! Xxx

No help either my LG won’t go to bed without me and this week we’ve even had to go for a drive to get her to sleep. It’s best when she doesn’t nap but sometimes it’s impossible to make her stay awake... I’m 20/40 pregnant 😫

I went through this with my son, and ended up using a sleep trainer. (My bf and I had conflicting views on what we should do, and the sleep trainer helped us to agree on a method) Prior to this, it would sometimes be a battle to get him to sleep, he would always wake in the night and we would bring him into our bed but he still wouldn’t sleep through.

3 nights of sleep training he was sleeping through, and it took about a week for him to not resist going to bed. He was also very reliant on milk from a bottle and that all stopped as well.

We opted for a version of controlled crying, the first night was the hardest, but if you decide to do this, stick with it as I promise it works. My son now sleeps 12 hours a night in his own bed

Bed time:

Do usual routine
Walk your child into bed and say ‘you are fine (child’s name) go to sleep and leave the room. If they start to cry, leave for 5 mins. If they don’t stop crying after 5 mins go in, walk them back to bed, and repeat the phrase. This time wait 20 mins and do the above. If they are still crying after 20 mins repeat for a further 20 mins( we didn’t have to do anymore then the 45 min cycle)

Hi Tangr
I went through this with my son, and ended up using a sleep trainer....

Posted
07/12/2018

Hi Tangr

I went through this with my son, and ended up using a sleep trainer. (My bf and I had conflicting views on what we should do, and the sleep trainer helped us to agree on a method) Prior to this, it would sometimes be a battle to get him to sleep, he would always wake in the night and we would bring him into our bed but he still wouldn’t sleep through.

3 nights of sleep training he was sleeping through, and it took about a week for him to not resist going to bed. He was also very reliant on milk from a bottle and that all stopped as well.

We opted for a version of controlled crying, the first night was the hardest, but if you decide to do this, stick with it as I promise it works. My son now sleeps 12 hours a night in his own bed

Bed time:

Do usual routine
Walk your child into bed and say ‘you are fine (child’s name) go to sleep and leave the room. If they start to cry, leave for 5 mins. If they don’t stop crying after 5 mins go in, walk them back to bed, and repeat the phrase. This time wait 20 mins and do the above. If they are still crying after 20 mins repeat for a further 20 mins( we didn’t have to do anymore then the 45 min cycle)

If you have any questions or want some more info let me know 😄

How much did you pay for a sleep trainer? ( if you don’t mind me asking)

He’s got a bit of bug, so I’m gonna wait for him to recover and then I will try your method.

No help either my LG won’t go to bed without me and this week we’ve even ...

Posted
06/12/2018

No help either my LG won’t go to bed without me and this week we’ve even had to go for a drive to get her to sleep. It’s best when she doesn’t nap but sometimes it’s impossible to make her stay awake... I’m 20/40 pregnant 😫

I have a 3 month baby that sleeps through from 10pm till 5/6am. So there is some hope.

Ah I definitely sympathise! My lb still needs me to sit with him for him to fall asleep. He has never ever self settled. Sometimes he sleeps through and sometimes he wakes, but as soon as he wakes he runs into our room and wants to sleep with us. He usually goes back to sleep fairly quickly unless he's poorly. But there is no chance he'll go back into his bed. We usually spend 1 or 2 hours with him every evening until he falls asleep.

We also have an 8 month old so we do whatever the toddler wants, just to avoid him waking his brother! His brother is totally different - nearly always sleeps through and doesn't need us to fall asleep at all (I literally put him in his bed wide awake and he goes to sleep).

It's very tough and I know how exhausting it is! I really don't like the idea of sleep training though. I remind myself that it really is only for a short time, and I just couldn't bear to make him sad. Someone once asked me how I felt when I'd had an argument with my husband and went to bed crying. I told them I'd hate it and feel awful even when I woke. I'd feel anxious and worried. I imagine that's how a child would feel if you let them cry to sleep. I just can't get that thought out of my head! X

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