friend has bratty kid

One of my closest mom friends has a daughter who is unbearable! I've just been putting up with it but it's driving me crazy! She pushes (not just slightly, she pushed my dd to the ground today!) hits, rips toys away, and argues all the time and she's 4 1/2. I have a 3yo who is very non-aggressive and sensitive and a 1 yo who she bugs constantly. My friend just screams and yells at her all the time with no real consequences. My friend is always wanting to get together but i'm so annoyed with everything! Need advice!

One of my closest mom friends has a daughter who is unbearable! I've just been putting up with it but it's driving me crazy! She pushes (not just slightly, she pushed my dd to the ground today!) hits, rips toys away, and argues all the time and she's 4 1/2. I have a 3yo who is very non-aggressive and sensitive and a 1 yo who she bugs constantly. My friend just screams and yells at her all the time with no real consequences. My friend is always wanting to get together but i'm so annoyed with everything! Need advice!

Tell your friend that you are concerned. You are the voice of your children right now...if they are around someone that is violent, you need to protect them. If it hurts your friends feelings, OH WELL!!! Those are your kids! I went through this with my own sister and her son...needless to say, we parent differently and I have a very limited relationship with her and her child, bit it's for the best. Good luck!!!

Tell your friend that you are concerned. You are the voice of your children right now...if they are around someone that is violent, you need to protect them. If it hurts your friends feelings, OH WELL!!! Those are your kids! I went through this with my own sister and her son...needless to say, we parent differently and I have a very limited relationship with her and her child, bit it's for the best. Good luck!!!

Ouch, that sounds like a tough situation lilgirlies. It is my belief that we should keep close those who make us stronger and let go of those who bring drama/stress into our lives. Now, I am not about to tell you to drop your friend. That's not my job, nor is it my place. You need to decide what is best for you and your children.

I can promise you one thing. If you do decide to speak to your friend on her child's behavior, she will likely become very offended. Let's face it, most mom's will get upset if someone speaks about their parenting techniques or their child's bad behavior. If you do choose to speak to your friend, I suggest planning out the conversation ahead of time and choosing your words very carefully. You want to show your friend respect (she is your friend afterall!), however you also want to be clear that the constant exposure to bad behavior is not doing anyone any good. We all have different parenting techniques, however it seems clear that what your friend is doing to "correct" this problem is not working. Perhaps it's time for her to try something different.

Ouch, that sounds like a tough situation lilgirlies. It is my belief that we should keep close those who make us stronger and let go of those who bring drama/stress into our lives. Now, I am not about to tell you to drop your friend. That's not my job, nor is it my place. You need to decide what is best for you and your children.

I can promise you one thing. If you do decide to speak to your friend on her child's behavior, she will likely become very offended. Let's face it, most mom's will get upset if someone speaks about their parenting techniques or their child's bad behavior. If you do choose to speak to your friend, I suggest planning out the conversation ahead of time and choosing your words very carefully. You want to show your friend respect (she is your friend afterall!), however you also want to be clear that the constant exposure to bad behavior is not doing anyone any good. We all have different parenting techniques, however it seems clear that what your friend is doing to "correct" this problem is not working. Perhaps it's time for her to try something different.

Thanks ladies. I think I'll try bringing it up as the situation arises and ask if she'd like some suggestions on dealing w/ it. Nobody wants unsolicited advice! She is very sensitive and quick to feel attacked or hurt, that's why this is so difficult. I've tried giving her pointers in other things- she had potty training issues, has sleeping issues, food issues- that I have had success with with my kids but she never follows through. She complains all the time but doesn't do anything to fix it which has me sooooo frustrated! Maybe some of you are right, keep the positives and ease away from the negatives! I don't have room for added stress!

Thanks ladies. I think I'll try bringing it up as the situation arises and ask if she'd like some suggestions on dealing w/ it. Nobody wants unsolicited advice! She is very sensitive and quick to feel attacked or hurt, that's why this is so difficult. I've tried giving her pointers in other things- she had potty training issues, has sleeping issues, food issues- that I have had success with with my kids but she never follows through. She complains all the time but doesn't do anything to fix it which has me sooooo frustrated! Maybe some of you are right, keep the positives and ease away from the negatives! I don't have room for added stress!

My closest girlfriend has a son about 4 months older than my little guy. He hits a lot and wrestles too rough and my son is a very sweet little boy he doesn't like physical confrontation. He enjoys wrestling with his brother and what not but when her little boy wrestles with him it looks painful. She trys to punish him but he just doesn't listen. He has gotten a lot better in the last year and a half our boys are almost 4 now. But there was a point in time where I didn't see her for almost a year because of how mean her son was. I never told her this is why, I would go and visit her without my little guy

My closest girlfriend has a son about 4 months older than my little guy. He hits a lot and wrestles too rough and my son is a very sweet little boy he doesn't like physical confrontation. He enjoys wrestling with his brother and what not but when her little boy wrestles with him it looks painful. She trys to punish him but he just doesn't listen. He has gotten a lot better in the last year and a half our boys are almost 4 now. But there was a point in time where I didn't see her for almost a year because of how mean her son was. I never told her this is why, I would go and visit her without my little guy

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