Feeling sad like i lost my best friend in my toddler

My lg is 19 months old. Since dhe was born its alwsys been me and her. Her dad would be at work and we would spend the whole day togrther. She would want me to feed her, put her to sleep etc rather thsn anyone else. My baby is 6 days old. My big girl although loves the baby has been very difficult to deal with. One she has this cold going round, this new baby that has taken her mum. Anyway i cant hrlp feeling guilty. I get to spend hardly any time with her. When im feeding baby or gone upstairs for something i hear her calling for mummy and it breaks my heart. I dpent my whole day in her company and im missing that. Im even crying writing this. Yes im happy we have a new edition a little brother for her but when i see how she struggles with the change it kills me. She has starting hitting us and screaming. There are times in the day she is fine. But evenings she has melt downs and bad behaviour starts. I dont know why im posting this. Guess its something i cant say to anyone else. I miss my girl so much. Even though we are in the same house i miss her needing me and me being there for her. Maybe im being silly. Its just hurting me so much.

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It won't last, she'll be back once she's adjusted, just try to keep some time for her doing puzzles or reading together. My firstborn was a nightmare when I had my 2nd but he's still so so close to me. I have 4 kids all very close in age (4, 2, 15 months and 9 days) they all go through a period of adjustment but come out the other side unscathed!! I know how you feel though it does make you feel awful xx

Do you have a booby box?? All my boys have one, a special box, with special things in it just for them when I'm feeding baby. We have books, toys and puzzles in it, things we can do together sitting down and things they can do on their own if they want to. It really helped me out and made them feel special xx

I'm in the same boat. I've had a c section so I can't pick her up or play with her or do bath time or bedtime. All I'm doing.is clusterfeeding the new baby. I feel so so guilty. We used to snuggle on the sofa and watch cartoons. Now if baby cries she cowera away like it's something that could hurt her. I know she'll be OK but I worry so much xxx

Do you have a booby box?? All my boys have one, a special box, with special t...

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12/02/2018

Do you have a booby box?? All my boys have one, a special box, with special things in it just for them when I'm feeding baby. We have books, toys and puzzles in it, things we can do together sitting down and things they can do on their own if they want to. It really helped me out and made them feel special xx

I'm in the same boat. I've had a c section so I can't pick her up or play with her or do bath time or bedtime. All I'm doing.is clusterfeeding the new baby. I feel so so guilty. We used to snuggle on the sofa and watch cartoons. Now if baby cries she cowera away like it's something that could hurt her. I know she'll be OK but I worry so much xxx

Yes everytime baby cries she gets all shocked and serious. Trying my best to give her time too and get her dressed etc. I guess i just miss her

My boy is st nursery, but when he is home and I feed baby we still do things together like read a book, or watch some telly (he isn’t allowed much telly so this is extra special). I ask him to get certain toys and he will play in the living room with them while I sit on the sofa, talking to him about what he is playing. Or he will sit on the sofa with me snuggling... on his day off from nursery we try to do something he wants to do (like meet with his friends, take his scooter out), and at the weekend dad will take baby once fed and I do something with toddler.

Obviously not the same as before and still feeling guilty... but the best I can do.

I'm sorry you feel like this. I completely understand. My 4yr was my world and I was his, he's been amazing over the baby but that just makes me feel more guilty for not being able to play like we used to.

He's become so close to Oh (which is great) but I can't help but feel a bit jealous of them. I hear them laughing at bedtime while I'm stuck bf or he's upset and now asks for daddy. I feel like I've lost him

I'm sorry you feel like this. I completely understand. My 4yr was my world and I was his, he's been amazing over the baby but that just makes me feel more guilty for not being able to play like we used to.
He's become so close to Oh (which is great) but I can't help but feel a bit jealous of them. I hear them laughing at bedtime while I'm stuck bf or he's upset and now asks for daddy. I feel like I've lost him

Same for me. She never relied on oh first. Now i hear them together and fo feel a bit jelous. Or if she gets told off by him breaks my heart

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