He didn't because I told him not too because I ended up going away for Christmas literally the next day. He didn't only text me...he called and went on video chats too.
No I'm not a teenager or younger than 20.

Well, no matter what he didn't mean what he said.

There are unscrupulous people out there who do things like this for their own entertainment. It's too bad nice people get caught up in these situations.

It would be better to meet and date local men who you can see on a regular basis. Having a relationship with your phone, laptop or tablet isn't nearly as rewarding as being able to see one another regularly in person.

You were wasting your time. Be glad he's gone so you can meet someone where you live and conduct your selves one on one, face to face where you can touch and there is no screen in between causing you to think you love some stranger who, for all you know stinks, has the clap or worse.

He is married and/or met someone who he is romantically involved with who would not want to see that he'd been texting with a woman who lives far away. Or she found out and he agreed to block you. Of course he could have been married or had a serious partner at any time. Watch the feet- what the person does -not the lips -what he says. I'm sorry what he typed to you was a lie -or at least probably was a lie -also could be he met someone very recently and was honest in what he said to you - meaning honest words but not backed up with actions since he didn't take the time to meet you. You won't know. That's a risk of typing and talking to someone who is a stranger for romantic purposes. He could have been anyone or several people typing to you.

He told me all the time that he would come to see me and live with me whenever I wanted all I had to do was tell him. He even told me one day that he would leave that same day to come see me. So there couldn't have been a secret wife or girlfriend. And he texted me at all hours of the day.
The whole thing just makes absolutely no sense.

Your thought process reminds me a lot of my own when I myself was duped by someone who told me all sorts of wonderful things. You are probably a generally honest person so you are having trouble understanding how someone could say all of that and not be sincere. Because you took it as sincere, it became a foundational belief for you - it became your very real reality. And having to possibly assess it as fictional proves incredibly difficult. But I promise you, when the day comes that you leave this situation behind, the deception will be strikingly clear.

I had a friend who was in almost the exact same situation. BUT she even met him in person and spent time with him.
She believed wholeheartedly that he was single and loved her. He texted her all day long too.

She eventually found out that he had a wife. He was playing both of them. He lied to her, and he lied to his wife.
Told his wife that he was texting for business purposes and that his trip to go see her was for business too.
To her, he lied and said he was single and had waited for her all his life etc etc.

I would guess that this man has played the same game and his wife caught on.
You have to be careful, don't trust so quickly and make sure you know who you're actually talking to.
People can pretend to be anything or anyone online.

I am sorry... but you may never know. married? met someone? got bored? total liar? who knows... but take this as a lesson learned... don't get involved with someone 6 hours way, on line. couple things to keep in mind:

1. until you meet in person you don't know the person at all

2. long distance is hard for couples that were already in a relationship, when they had to move away from each other for some reason. So starting out long distance is even harder.

You were used to having a friend to chat with and give you some emotional support. So you rightly, will miss those interactions. but this is a huge blessing. Now you can find someone local and have something better in real life.

He did you a favor. stay off Facebook for awhile focus on friends, family, and real life interactions.

This is a blessing. You don't know if this illusion is married, living with someone, catfishing, scamming, etc. The best thing to do is clean out and reset all your social media and messaging apps. Get rid of all the dead weight including this entity. Reset your privacy settings. Clean out your contact list. Post fresh pics and upbeat posts on social media.

Get out more in real life. Make sure you have a good social life including friends family coworkers, etc. Join some clubs and groups take some fun or educational classes or courses. Usually people who get caught up in and sucked into online things like this are lonely isolated and are avoiding real life.

Get a nice profile and pics up on a quality (paid) dating apps. Make sure you set things for local matches and only exchange a few messages then meet for a quick coffee within a week or so. People who won't meet in person or deliberately reach out to people at great distances usually have problems and are hiding something.

Originally Posted by slisa887

I've been talking to this guy for 7 months now. We live about 6 hours away from each other so we haven't met in person