PARENTING

Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics by Karen Kolp gives practical advice and easy to implement strategies with real life examples of ways we can parent our children in a positive and respectful way. Karen gives easy to implement strategies to meet our children where they are, notice and encourage their passions and make time for play.

Sitting Still Like a Frog by Eline Snel - Super quick and easy read all about mindfulness. Lots of hints for how to start practicing mindfulness as a family, and for your kids too. Lots of great activities to try and there are some great audio links too.

1-2-3 Magic by Thomas W. Phelan, PhD 1, 2, 3 Magic was recommended to me by my pediatrician when my son was having some behavioral issues at home. I read the book, then shared it with my husband. We started implementing the recommendations, and it’s been amazing. There was an initial period of testing (and that was tough!) but once we got through that, our lives have changed. We’re less stressed as parents and we are enjoying when we are together as a family. I highly recommend this book!

Bloom: 50 Things to Say, Think, and Do with Anxious, Angry, and Over-the-Top Kids by Lynne Kenney and Wendy Young. Bloom tackles challenging issues facing families today in an easy to understand and practical way. The HeartSmart conversations and activities are wonderful ways to build positive connections in your family through play and communication. The BrainSmart Mantras help adults stay positive and re-focus on what matters. What a great resource!

The Parent Backpack for Kindergarten through Grade 5 by ML Nichols: The mother of one of my daughter’s classmates recommended that I read The Parent Backpack. I’m so glad she did! This is an excellent resource for parents of elementary school age kids. Wonderful ideas for interacting with the school, understanding education today and transitioning into school.

The Incredible 5-Point Scale by Kari Dunn Baron and Mitzi Curtis is a great resource for people to use in a school setting, a social group setting or at home. It can be used to address a number of different issues, and it’s a great resource for working not only with kids on the spectrum, but for all kids who need a little extra teaching around social and emotional concerns. Read my review here.

How To Be A Friend by Laura Krasny Brown and Marc Brown - This book is actually divided into several different sections on different parts of friendship including how to handle some of the more challenging aspects of friends like manage arguments, how to handle bullies, etc. Sometimes what I’ve done is just read certain sections of the book at a time to focus on a particular friendship skill.

Have You Filled a Bucket Today? by Carol McCloud - A great way to visualize the impact one person's behaviors can have on another. Some school districts use this book to encourage kind and respectful behavior. You can use it at home to encourage kindness too!

Rafa and the Mist by Kade Baird - This beautifully illustrated book is about Rafa, a little boy who is having a hard time. Kids are mean to him at school. Two of those mean kids live close to him and bother him at home too. One day these two boys chase Rafa, and he finds himself in the woods surrounded by a Mist. This Mist protects him and helps him begin the process of solving this big problem. I love this book because Rafa gets support from his family and teachers to solve the problem, but it’s clear that this is a process - it’s not solved by the end of lunch or the end of the week. However, over time, it does get better.

Cliques, Phonies & Other Baloney by Trevor Romain - I love this author, he tackles serious issues like bullying and anger in a way that kids find humorous and relatable. I used to have kids borrow his books all the time from my office because they wanted to read more. This book is focused on managing cliques and the importance of being yourself.

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Friendship Troubles by Patti Kelley Criswell - This is another great American Girl book. I would often recommend this book to girls when I was a school counselor to help them understand that friendship troubles are common and there are things that can be done to help manage those difficulties. It helped kids focus on what a good positive friendship looks like and how to get there.

For Parents

It’s So Much Work To Be Your Friend - I LOVE this book. It is full of so much helpful and practical information for parents with kids struggling with social aspects of life. The social skill autopsy is such a great resource to help kids that I would highly recommend it if your child is struggling in social interactions.

The Unwritten Rules of Friendship - Another great book for parents with some practical advice for understanding what’s happening with their child and with some advice for what to do to help support them. It’s divided into different personality traits/behavior characteristics (the shy child, the little adult) so you can just pick what you need to focus on and read that section. Read my review here.

SENSORY

Understanding Your Child's Sensory Signals by Angie Voss. The book lists the different sensory signals that a child might demonstrate and is designed to be used in conjunction with Angie’s website, A Sensory Life. I've worked with a lot of kids who have difficulties with sensory input and this book and website had a wealth of information for parents whose kids struggle with sensory issues.

When I Feel Angry by Cornelia Maude Spelman This is part of “The Way I Feel” series. It explains how different things can make you angry, and that feeling angry is an expected part of life, but it’s what you do when you’re angry that matters.

Late Elementary School/Early Middle SchooL

Don’t Rant and Rave on Wednesdays by Adolph Moser It mentions the consequences of having unchecked anger, and acknowledges that adults struggle with this too. A large part of the book explains different strategies kids can use to express anger in a safe way, which I think is great.

Anxiety

The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn Classic about managing separation anxiety when kids start school. My daughter’s kindergarten teacher read this on our visit to school the first day.

When I miss you by Cornelia Maude Spelman This is perfect for little ones who have a hard time dealing with the fact that they are away from their parents during the day. It suggests a couple of things they can do to help and reassurance that parents will come back at the end of the day.

Wilma Jean the Worry Machine by Julia Cook I love that when Wilma Jean’s physical reactions are described, they’re also illustrated. When is says she has knots in her stomach and her knees lock, her stomach really looks like it’s tied in a knot and there’s a real lock around her knees. I love the activity she does with her teacher, going over worries she can control and worries she can’t, it’s a great way to help kids manage their anxiety.

David and the Worry Beast by Anne Marie Guanci David’s anxiety is a beast, and the more anxious he gets, the bigger it grows. David learns to control his thoughts, and his beast shrinks. There’s also a couple of pages for parents and kids in the back.

What To Do When You Worry Too Much by Dawn Huebner, PhD This book goes through several ways that can help kids manage anxiety, including setting a time for worries, thinking about things that make you happy and resetting your body with activity or relaxation. There are some interactive places in this book, where a child can write down their worries, draw some images of things that might help, etc.

What To Do When You’re Scared and Worried by James J. Crist This is one of my favorite books for kids to help them deal with anxiety. Near the beginning of the book is a checklist that helps kids narrow down what they are anxious about. The beginning of the book covers the basics of what anxiety is and how to help manage with coping skills. The next section of the book goes into detail about different types of anxiety kids might experience, including Separation Anxiety, Phobias and Panic Attacks.

When Worry Takes Hold by Liz Haske. Maya is struggling with worry. As her worry gets bigger, she has a hard time with things like going to school, or to a birthday party, or playing at the playground. Over time, Maya finds courage and learns how to shrink her worries. This book is excellent story for those kids who need help managing their worries, plus the illustrations are gorgeous!

Dealing with Divorce/Shared Custody

Going Back and Forth: A Joint Custody Story by Marian Camden, Psy.D.From the author - Ethan loves both his mom and his dad, but going back and forth between two homes is hard! Joint custody allows children whose parents are divorced or separated lots of time with each parent, but the actual transitions back and forth can be tough. Children will relate to Ethan's changing feelings as he goes from his dad's house to his mom's house. Parents get nice modeling on how to help their children.

Where Do My Brother and Sister Go? by Marian Camden, Psy.D.From the author - There are plenty of picture books for children whose parents have gone through divorce. But what about the children that come later? These are the little "ours" children in the "yours, mine, and ours" families of modern times. These little ones have questions of their own about where their older half-siblings go, who this other parent is, what makes a "real" parent versus a "step" parent and so on. Where Do My Brother and Sister Go? is written just for them! With simple language, and heartwarmingly beautiful illustrations of contemporary family life, this book answers questions, explores feelings, and reminds everyone in a blended or stepfamily what really matters the most.