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Upper lip tie... I feel like an awful mom

So I always noticed that my daughters upper lip looked a little, eh, pointy in the middle? but I just thought it was the shape of her lip. There were never any problems, so I didn't think anything of it. (She's 9 months now btw).

I was just changing her diaper and she yawned and for the first time I noticed what appeared to be an upper lip tie. I didn't even know what it was but vaugely remembered reading about it a few times on here.

She has no problem nursing, bottle feeding, eating solids and it doesn't appear to be bothering her. Is this something I need to take care of or can I leave it? I'm not sure what to do! And I feel like an awful mother that 9 months has gone by and I never even noticed it!

Most medical professionals don't know about them, either! The concern is that lip ties can cause tooth decay because food particles get trapped very easily and are hard to get out. In addition, most lip ties are accompanied by posterior (deep) tongue ties, which can cause speech and food texture/swallowing issues.

How would I know if she has that also? And who do I see about her lip tie? How is it fixed? I don't even know where to go for information about these. I'm just so mad and shocked that it took me this long to notice that.

Quoting MusherMaggie: Most medical professionals don't know about them, either! The concern is that lip ties can cause tooth decay because food particles get trapped very easily and are hard to get out. In addition, most lip ties are accompanied by posterior (deep) tongue ties, which can cause speech and food texture/swallowing issues.

I didn't notice DS1's ULT until he was 18 or 19 months, by which time it had caused severe tooth decay. It took about 3 months and 5 practitioners until one (3 hours away) finally agreed with my and was willing to laser his lip tie. He ended up needing dental surgery, he had his front 2 teeth capped and laterals filled under General anesthesia a few days after he turned 2.

OMG your poor little man! What a trooper he is though. Wow, I'm glad I caught it when I did then. So, the remove it by laser? Did you see a specialist? I'm not sure where to begin with this.

Quoting Cruz-s-mommy:

I didn't notice DS1's ULT until he was 18 or 19 months, by which time it had caused severe tooth decay. It took about 3 months and 5 practitioners until one (3 hours away) finally agreed with my and was willing to laser his lip tie. He ended up needing dental surgery, he had his front 2 teeth capped and laterals filled under General anesthesia a few days after he turned 2.

I'm just worried about bringing this up with her dad. While we're by no means 'non-doctor' people, he is much less trusting of doctors than I am and really doesn't like going to them unless your sick. I'm afraid that if I bring this up to him, he's going to say well she's eating fine, etc. etc. lets just see what happens because I know that he WILL NOT want to put her under anesthesia unless it is an extreme emergency... I just don't want this to turn into a fight or him thinking I'm crazy.

Quoting Precious333: Yep, we are going through the same thing. I am lookong to get her lip tie fixed, her tongue tie was already clipped.

I am like that, so is my dh. We dont do anything unless its necessary. I would gather all the information along with the doctor that us recommebded and show him all the facts :)

Quoting KristinD1988:

I'm just worried about bringing this up with her dad. While we're by no means 'non-doctor' people, he is much less trusting of doctors than I am and really doesn't like going to them unless your sick. I'm afraid that if I bring this up to him, he's going to say well she's eating fine, etc. etc. lets just see what happens because I know that he WILL NOT want to put her under anesthesia unless it is an extreme emergency... I just don't want this to turn into a fight or him thinking I'm crazy.

Quoting Precious333: Yep, we are going through the same thing. I am lookong to get her lip tie fixed, her tongue tie was already clipped.

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