illustration (attribution, if any possible, is at the end of the article)

Detachment: not "freezing" the image of those you love, as if they came with a definitive "user manual," the same once and forever... Supporting their evolution: letting go of who they were, greeting who they become... Not forgetting why you loved someone just because they hurt you now... Not letting past hurt prevent you from loving them now... Detachment: past is past, now is now,
i.e.
practising (Buddhist) detachment is not disengaging from what's now.