I post here a bit, but today I just wanted to ask whether anyone else's husband clams up when they have an argument and refuses to talk

I am in a very unhappy situation right now with my husband and we haven't talked for over a week - I just feel so angry with him and he never, ever wants to discuss feelings and brushes our problems under the carpet

His relationships with his family are also strange as he just refuses to talk through anything or even admit he has emotions

I am so, so sad and tired today and I know it takes two but I believe I have come to an end with him

I feel unwanted by him and that he has not got it in him to talk about our relationship

thanks for the replies, its good that you have changed Fenway - I know its not easy when its what you are brought up with but I just cannot see this changing as I have told him again and again how hurtful it is.

And I know its unhealthy Samade, but he would rather cut his leg off than try and talk to anyone about actual feelings

there is not physical relationship either - and never was too much of one either - he has problems there too and I just can't live like I am a block of wood any more

He also has kept things from me and tells lies - in the past and still does - it can be big and small things but I have very little trust in him - not about other women - as I genuinely think he has not much interest there, but to do with money and other things

I could ignore someone for days and if I'm honest, get a kick from the discomfort I'm causing by "winning".DH came from a controlling household where one parent dictated everyone's lives. DH is the total opposite. He's a talker. He refuses to be ignored and will just talk it out. As a result we have not had an argument in years, it just doesn't get to that point. With exes, I'd be stewing and have imaginary arguments which would eventually blow up when the conversation happened. It's a very unhealthy way to be imo.