Saturday, January 22, 2011

Why the Prophet Muhammad Married More than One

From the Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs, Cairo, A.R.E.
published 1976

Chapter I

I. The Prophet’s Life

The prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be on him, lived in Mecca, among his people, for forty years before the Mission. This was the period of youth and manhood but he was the ideal in everything, conduct, chastity, purity, honour and good manners.

After the declaration of his mission, there was a conflict between him and the polytheists of Mecca. He reviled their gods and attacked their beliefs. They told lies about him and propagated seditious rumours to prevent the people from supporting him and shake their belief in him, but none of them dared accuse him of any violation of honour and chastity.

It is worth mentioning that the polytheists—after they had been overwhelmed by the Quran they accused him of being a poet. In this respect the Almighty says: Nay, say they, it is the medley of dreams; nay, he has forged it; nay, he is a poet; let him come to us with a sign (the prophets) of old were sent. Ch. 21, V. 5

They also accused him of being a sorcerer. Here the Almighty says: And they marvel that a warner from among themselves has come to them; and the infidels say, this is a sorcerer, a liar. Ch. 38, V. 4.

They claimed he was a priest; the Almighty says: It needs not that I swear by what you see, and by that which you see not, that this is verily the word of a messenger worthy of all honour; and that it is not the word of a

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poet…how little do you believe; Neither is it the word of a soothsayer...how little do you remember. It is a missive from the lord of the worlds. Ch. 69, V. 38-42.

They said he was mad. The Almighty says: Almost would the infidels strike thee down with their very looks when they hear the warning (of the Quran); and they say: he is certainly possessed. Ch. 68; V. 51.

They accused him of asking to have accessory to the writings of the ancients. The Almighty says: And they say, ‘legends of the ancients that he has put in writing, and they were dictated to him morn and even’. Ch. 25, V. 5.

But they could not propagate a single word that touches his chastity and purity. Had they found a means to do so, they would have done it, without hesitation or fear; they would have exaggerated, and propagated rumours. He never tried to commit a foul deed; his hand never touched a woman’s hand unless she was his wife or a near relative or a slave. Of his youth he said, “I have never done a thing of what people of Al Jahilia (period of ignorance) used to do except on two occasions, and God protected me; then he honoured me with his Message.”

“One evening I asked a boy from Quraysh used to graze with me on the highlands of Mecca: ‘Would you look after my cattle until I go to Mecca and have some fun, as young men do?’ the boy answered, ‘I will.’

I went with this intention, and when I reached the first house in Mecca I heard the sound of tambourines and flutes I asked: ‘What is this?’ They answered:

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‘Somebody is getting married. Then I sat and watched but God made me deaf and I slept and did not wake up until sunrise.

When I returned to my friend he asked, ‘What have you done?’

I answered nothing and I told him what had happened. On another evening I asked my friend to do me the same favour, and he agreed.’

I set out and when I reached Mecca I heard the same music but God made me deaf again.

By God, I slept until sunrise, then I returned to my friend and told him the whole story.

Henceforth I have never done evil until God the Almighty honoured me with his message.

A study of the prophet’s biography and character shows clearly that God’s messenger---May God’s prayers and peace be upon him---was quite indifferent to the luxuries of this world. Many men brought up by him renounced worldly pleasure as he did. Abu Bakr, Omar and Ali lead a pious ascetic life.

Al Sayeda (lady) Hafsa once said to her father Omar Ibn Al Khattab, after the conquests had been achieved: “You should wear the softest clothes when you receive delegates from far countries, and you should order special food for us and for our guests.”

Omar said: “You should know better.”

She answered: “I do.”

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He said, “For God’s sake, don’t you remember that God’s Messenger spent many years after the revelation when neither he nor any member of his family felt full at the end of a meal; but they were always ready for the next one? Don’t you remember that the prophet—may God’s prayers and peace be upon him---spent many years when neither he nor any member of his family were satisfied with what they had of dates until they conquered Khaibar? Don’t you remember that you once set the Prophet’s food on a high table, and he felt so embarrassed that his face changed colour, then he ordered the table to be removed and the food laid on a lower level or on the ground! Don’t you know that God’s Messenger used to sleep on a folded mantle; one night the mantel was folded four times for him and when he woke up he said, “You have prevented me from waking up part of the night by folding the mantle, in this way. Fold it twice only as you used to do.” Omar kept reminding her of these stories until she cried and he cried and sobbed.

This asceticism was not due, as some people thought, to lack of means or extreme poverty, but it was a kind of renunciation with a view to purify the soul, and sacrifice for the sake of others.

But if renunciation is the result of financial incapacity and lack of means it is then a compulsion and one has no choice.

A few examples of some aspects of his asceticism will explain matters.

A. He did not keep for himself any of the money that poured upon him from the spoils, tributes, alm taxes and gifts. On the contrary, out of all that wealth he

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retained only the fifth, which he spent for the causes of Islam and to help those in need. He said, “It does not give me pleasure to possess a mountain of gold unless I assign every dinar of it for my religion.” He fulfilled his promise, but he gave six dinars to some of his wives. He could not sleep until he got them back and distributed them, and said, “Now I am satisfied.” His clothes and dwelling were confined to bare necessity; expenditure was the bare minimum renouncing any excess. When he died, he left neither a dinar nor a dirham, nor a slave, nothing except his white mule, his arms, and a piece of land that he made public property.

B. His meals never exceeded once course. Thus if he had meat, he ate nothing besides it; if dates, he had nothing else, if bread, it would suffice him, and if he found milk without bread he would be satisfied.
He used to eat what was available and never refused what he was offered, while eating he never reclined.
Al Sayeda Aisha said, “The prophet never ate to satiation. He never asked his folk for food, nor did he long for it. If they gave him food he would eat, and whatever they gave him as food for drink he would accept.”

C. He was also simple in his clothes, his bed and his utensils. He used to wear whatever he could get hold of clothes, sometimes he wore wool, some other times cotton or flax. He wore Yemini cloaks, gowns, shirts, trousers, wrappers, mantles, boots and sandals. He never wore silk, and he forbade drinking or eating in gold or silver utensils. He also forbade wearing silk or sitting on it. Sometimes he slept on a mattress, other times

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on leather or on a mat. Sometimes he slept on the ground and some other times on the bed. His mattress was stuffed with palm fibers and so was his cushion, yet he was ideally clean.

D. He was not the only ascetic one among his people, but he induced his nearest folk to do the same. He imposed the same asceticism upon his wives and his daughter Al Sayeda Fatima, for the Muslim women to follow their example. Had he wished to be generous and extravagant with them he could have been; it was easy for him to allot more than his folks and his dire needs (out of the spoils and tributes). The Muslims would accept his decision; believing it to be sanctioned by God the Almighty but he did nothing of the sort. Thus he proved with his contentment and asceticism to be the perfect man, the great ruler, and the owner who disposed willingly of his possessions disregarding the pleasures of this world. He, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, uttered many traditions inducing to chastity, asceticism and modesty.

He married Al Sayeda Khadija who was elder than him; he was twenty-five years old and she was forty years old. She died after twenty years of a happy and faithful marriage. he never contemplated having a second wife while she was alive, as many of his people used to do marrying more than one at that time was a common procedure and an acknowledged convention, with no limit to the number of wives permissible. The limitation of the number of wives to four, was sanctioned in the eighth year of the Hijra (immigration) by His Almighty's injunction.

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"Marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four, and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice (to so many) then one (only) or (the captives) that your right hand possess." Ch. 4, V. 3

The happy life he spent with Al Sayeda Khadija, his loyality to her memory and his care for her relations and friends, would make us believe that had she lived, he would have never married another woman.

He had a strong will which protected him before and afer the message. His wife Aisha testified that he was unequalled in mastering hsi emotions and controlling his desires. In this respect she uttered the following comprehensive diction, "He was the most capable of controlling his passions and desires, the best in using his wisdom and handling his religion."

She also said, "God's Messenger--may God's prayers and peace be on him---used to fast until we thought he would not break the fast, and he used to eat as usual until we thought he would not fast. God's Messenger---may God's prayers and peace be upon him---I have never seen him complete a month's fast except in Ramadan, and I have never seen him fast more days than he did in Sha'ban." And she said, "His work was continous. Whoever amongst you could bear what God's Messenger--may God's prayers and peace be on him---could bear?"

Nobody can deny that the heavy responsibilities of the Message consumed the efforts of the prophet, occupied his time and possessed his heart, his brain, and

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﻿demanded all his strength. He used to receive God's Scripture, memorise it and dictate it, and when readers differed they would refer to him. He had to legislate for the Muslims, act as a ruler and judge for them. He also ahd to lead them in the five daily prayers and listen to their problems. he was devoted to God, often fasting and watching at length during the night, avoiding sleep so indulged in his prayers to the extent that his feet used to swell. His prostration during prayers was so lengthy, that he who saw him would have think he was dead.

He indulged in continuous wars against the polytheists and the jews.

As soon as one war was over, he prepared for another, in defence of his religion and his country. He---may God's prayers and peace be on him---was the bearer of a heavenly message, the head of a growing and new State, and the leader of a people who were ready to sacrifice their lives for his sake.

Could he then spare the time and hae the peace of mind and soul to marry several wives as a lustful man would do? Why did he not do that before the Message, when he did not carry the burden and the responsibilites of Al-Jihad; when he was not involved in the problems of thousands of followers whom he considered his loyal sons, and who found in him a good father?

The prophet---may God's prayers and peace be upon him---was not superhuman. On the contrary he was human. Like all other prophets; he ate, drank, slept, enjoyed good health and suffered from illness, was subject to pleasure and anger. The Almighty said, "And We sent not (as our messengers) before theee other than men whom We inspired. Ask the followers of the Reminder (Ahl Al Zikr) if you know not. We gave them not bodies that would not eat food, nor were they immortals." Ch.21, V. 7, 8

And He said, "Say, I am no Messenger of innovated doctrines; neither know I what will become of me or you. Only what is revealed to me do I follow, and I am only charged to warn openly." Ch. 6, V. 9. Thus he marreid and ha d children like his predecesors. Prophets before him married; his two grandfathers Ibrahim and Ismail, Noah, Isaac, David nd Soliman had several wives, and nobody commented upon their action or criticised them. The Almighty said, "Apostles truly have we already sent before thee, and we have given them wives and offsprings." Ch. 13, V. 38

The prophet married more than one for various necessary reasons which will be explained later, it is a mistake to attack the prophet and accuse him of seeking pleasure in having several wives.

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II. Marrying More than One is an Ancient Tradition

It is surprising that religious men of the medieval ages assumed that marrying more than one was a system innovated by Muhammad. Such men are greatly mistaken, or shamefully ignorant, because polygamy started hundreds of years before Islam. All the ancient nations practised polygamy, the Hebrews practised it ages ago, the Tourat allowed it, bu tdi dnot limit the number of wives; this was done by the Talmud. Solomon had one hundred wives. The Rabbis limited the number of wives to four, depending on the fact that Jacob had simultaneously four wives. The Jews preserved the practice of polygamy in Europe till the Middle Ages, and they are still practising it till today in the Muslim World.

The Athenians used to marry more than one wife without limitations. Demesius boasted that he had three classes of wives, two classes were legal and one not fully. The Ancient Egyptians practised the same tradition during the time of Theodaor the Silician; their nobles also possessed slave women. The laws of Zerduscht allowed the Persians to have more than one wife, besides mistresses and women friends, claiming that warlike nations were in constant need of young-men. Thus polygamy was allowed without any specific law either to forbid it or organize its practice. The Romans di dthe same thing, the dictator Sylla had five wives, Casear and Pompy had four each. Some Christians, such as Emperor Constantine and his son married more than one.

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Emperor Vlavius Valentian issued a law permitting all citizens the right to marry several women, if they wished to do so. No one in the middle of the fourth century A.D. ever protested. The emperors who succeede Valentian also practised this tradition, and his law remained in force till the reign of Justinian, when it was successfully prohibited. Few of the learned people obeyed it, but the majority of the people ignored it.

Men of other nations also used to marry several women, such as the Indians, Medians, Babelonians and Assyrians. It is therefore no wonder that in the Jahilia period this tradition was practised by the Arabs. Every Arab married more than one woman if he could afford it, or if the circumstances compelled him to, or if he found that some advantage would befall him. Al Munzir Ibn Al Harith Ibn Abi Gabla Ghassani, patriach and guardian of the Eastern Church had several wives; so did Al-No'man, King of Hira, even after becoming Christian.

When Islam dawned, there were men at Thaqif for example, who had ten wives each and when some of them were converted to Islam, such as Ghilan Ibn Salma and Sofian Ibn Abd Allah and Mass'ud Ibn Amer, each had to divorce six wives and keep four only. Quais Ibn Al Harith had eight wives, and Nofel Ibn Mu'awia had five, so the prophet asked them to choose four. Abdul Muttalib Ibn Hashem had six wives. Abu Sofian and Safwan Ibn Umayya had six. Al Mughira Ibn So'ba married quite a large number ranging---according to different sources---between seventy and ninety-three.

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Such information helped Abul Hassan El Mada'eni to write a book about those who married more than four wives.

This short review is, I hope, sufficient to refute the claims of the adversaries of Islam who assume that Muhammad--may God's prayers and peace be upon him---was the legislator of this tradition.

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Chapter II

The Prophet's Wives

Details and Reasons

A detailed study of his marriages---may God's prayers and peace be on him---giving the causes, circumstances and object o each will certainly elucidate matters.

1.Al Sayeda Khadijah

The biography of the Prophet shows that he spent the prime of his youth in Mecca, where he could easily enjoy the pleasures of his life, but he spent most of these days quietly, honestly, in contemplation and chastity. He did not marry or engage to be married until he was twenty-five years old. Had he been a pleasure seeker, as many claimants said, he would have sinned before his marrying. Had he felt any lust for women, he would have hastened to marry at an earlier age, as was the custom of young men of his days. But he did not marry till the age of twenty-five, when he traded for Al Sayeda Khadija Bint Khuwailed, who admired his honesty and good conduct.

Al Sayeda Khadija was a wealthy lady. She married twice from Bani Makhzoum, and as a widow, she was asked for marriage by many of the notable personalities of Quraish, but she refused them all because she was convinced they were after her wealth. She admired Muhammad's honesty and good conduct, she sent him her

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sister---or a friend according to other sources--to ask him, "Why don't you marry?"

He answered, "I have not got the money."

She said, "If you are spared that, and were invited to beauty, wealth, nd honour, would you accept?"

He asked, "Who is she?"

She answered, "Khadija Bint Khuwailid."

He asked, "And how is this possible?"

She said, "Leave it to me."

God's Messenger accepted the offer knowing that she was at least fifteen years older, and that she was married twice before. When they were married, he did not feel this difference in age; the happiness, loyalty, good companionship they both felt and the joy they had in their sons and daughters made them overcome this difference. Al Sayeda Khadija gave him two boys, Al Kasim and Abd Allah (surnamed Al Tahir) and Al Tayyeb and four daughters: Zainab, Omm Kalthoom, Fatima and Roqayya.

It is remarkable to note that while the prophet enjoyed the happiness of this conjugal life with Al Sayeda Khadija, he used to leave his home for several nights spending them in meditation and devotion in the cave of Hira. He was keen on religious purification in that cave every year during the month of Ramadan and lived on the least of food sent to him there. Had he---may God's prayers and peace be on him---been fond of women, he would not have abandoned his home to an isolated cave where he spent the night alone in meditation nd devotion.

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The happiness of the ﻿Prophet with his wife and what this reverend lady did for him made the difference in age between them insignificant. She was the first to believe in the message of Muhammad and to help establish Islam. She participated in person and supported the cause of Islam in time of agony and hardship. Whenever he was opposed by the infidels, she always solaced and comforted him making things easy for him until she died.

When the Prophet received his first revelation he returned home to her shivering and frightened, she hugged and comforted him and said, "You have nothing to fear. God will never let you down; you are kind to your relations, you are generous to guests, and you never fail to relieve those in distress." Then she hurried to her cousin Waraka Ibn Nawfal, who was converted to Christianity, read the Scriptures and listened to the people of the Tawrat and the Bible. She told him about Muhammad and expressed her worry. Waraka was silent for a moment then told her that what had befallen Muhammad was the Great Law that used to befall Moses; and he announced to her the good news that Muhammad would be the prophet of that nation, and that he should be strong and not panic. Khadija returned to the prophet and told him what Waraka had told her.

For twenty five years the Prophet lived with Al Sayeda Khadija, without taking another wife, when marrying several women was the common practice, and when he was still a strong man, and she was getting on in age. When she ws dead at the age of sixty-four or sixty-five, his grief was befitting a glorious loyal prophet.

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He remained all his life loyal to her, openly praising and admiring her and so careful to preserve her good memory, within the hearing of his later wives, that Al Sayeda Aisha said, "I have never been jealous of a woman as I am of Khadija; the Prophet frequently mentioned her and used to slaughter a sheep and call on Khadija's friends offering the its meat." She also said, "Whenever God's Messenger---may God's prayers and peace be on him---left the house he remembered Khadija, and then he would highly praise her. One day he mentioned her and I felt jealous, so I said, 'Wasn't she an old woman and God gave you a better one?' He was so angry that the hair on the front of his head shook and then said, 'No, by God, He did not. She believed in me when all the others did not. She trusted me when the rest considered me a liar. She lavished her money upon me when I was poor. She gave me children while others did not.' Al Sayeda Aisha then said, 'So I said to myself, 'I shall never again speak badly of her.'" Al Sayeda Khadija died three years before the Hijra.

2.Sawda Bent Zam'a Ibn Qais Ibn Abd Shams

She was among the first women to embrace Islam. her husband, who was her cousin, Al Sakran Ibn Amr Ibn Abd Shams became a Muslim as well. By so doing she rebelled against her uncle and her relatives, and she had to emigrate with her husband to Abbyssinia during the second immigration, fleeing from the persecution of the infidels. When they returned to Mecca, her husband died.

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Al Sayeda Sawada was old, heavy and slow; she could have never found a suitable man to marry her. She was of an honorable family and would not accept marrying below her. Meanwhile she could not return to her people after becoming a Muslim against their wish, lest she should be injured and become an apostate. The Prophet honoured her by marrying her two years before the Hijra, although they did not live together until they reached Al Madina, three years after the death of Khadija.

This marriage was to protect Sawda against the persecution of her harsh people, to honour her being one of the first to be converted to Islam and to compensate her for her perseverance in keeping her new religion and in sticking to her belief. it was also a consolation to her for the loss of her husband. On the other hand, it helped in reconciling and uniting her people, who became the inlaws of the Prophet. It was therefore an honourable marriage for the benefit of Islam, and not for pleasure or begetting children.

We should also remember that Sawda was old, heavy, and slow in movement and of a sharp temperment. She said to the Prophet---may God's prayers and peace be on him, "You have no obligation towards me. All I want is to become one of your wives and I willingly give way to Aisha."

God's Messenger kept Sawada until his death, leaving her with his other remaining wives.

3. Aisha Bint Abu Bakr

She was the daughter of Abu Bakr, the Prophet's best and closest friend; he accompanied him in his Hijra and

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supported him in his jihad. He often sacrificed his wealth and was ready to offer his life for the sake of Islam and God's Messenger, thus he deserved to be his bosom friends and to act as his prime minister. To show his appreciation to his beloved friend, to bring him closer to him and to bestow a greater honour upon him, he decided to marry his daughter Al Sayeda Aisha

The Prophet---may God's prayers and peace be upon him---married Aisha three years after the death of Khadija, when he felt he needed to get married. We already know that he married Al Sayeda Sawda Bent Zam'a to befriend her people, besides she was quite old and conscious of her state, thus she relieved him of any obligation to her and declared that all she longed for was the honour of being one of his wives.

However perfect the Prophet might be, yet he was after all human and he had to marry. He never claimed to be an angel, and the Quran did not attribute to him more than it did to other God's Messengers before him. They were all humans chosen by The Almighty to communicate his injunctions, and everyone of them married and had children. None of these prophets recommended monasticism. Their ulitmate object was to ensure the welfare of their people in this world and ther hereafter.

For three years, after the death of Al Sayeda Khadija, he remained a windower, so it was natural for him to marry again. Besides a wife was needed to look after his home, create a pleasant atmosphere for him; and with her compassion and love she could help with his message. Thus God's saying in enumerating some of His blessings to his worshippers is justified, "And one of His signs is

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that He hath created wives from yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and hath put love and mercy between you. Herein truly are signs for those who reflect." Ch. 30, V. 21

Some might argue that he did not need to marry again as many Muslim men and women were willing to serve him but none of them could ensure the comfort and peace as a wife could; none of them would fulfil the aim of the Holy verse as regards dwelling, compassion and mercy.

Moreover, his wives were given the opportunity to know more about his legislation and injunctions of Islam, to understand what was lawful, forbidden or permissible. They also heard a lot of his traditions (Hadiths), and this is clearly apparent in the detailed books of Tradition and of Legislation, to which we shall refer briefly in the conclusion of this book.

A wife in the house of the prophet---may God's prayers and peace be on him--would encourage women to call on her to enquire about things related to their religion, just as men did . They asked Al Sayeda Aisha about matters, which they would feel embarrassed to ask the Prophet himself about. Al Sayeda Aisha was an intelligent women, with a sharp memory, renowned for relating the Traditions (Hadiths) and for her skill in matters of religion. When the prominent companions faced a problem, they used to ask her and she always answered their queries satisfactorily.

Abu Mousa El Ash-ari said, "Whenever we, the companions of God's Prophet---may God's prayers and peace be on him---met with a Tradition (Hadith) that

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needed explanation, and asked Aisha﻿, we always found with her a satisfactory answer."

Masruq said, "I have seen the leading companion of Muhammad---may God's prayers and peace be on him---ask her about the ordinances of Islam."

Al Dhahaby said, "She was one of the most prominent scholars among the Companions of God's Messenger--may God's prayers and peace be on him--used to refer to her. Her excellence was not confined to relating the Traditions and Islamic legislations, but she was also eloquent and convincing."

She memorized many poems and Hisham Ibn 'Orwa said quoting his father, "I have never known anyone who is more well versed in Islamic jurisprudence (Fiqh), medicine and poetry, than Aisha."

Abu-I-Zinad said, "I have not met anyone more fluent in reciting poetry than 'Orwa and when he was told that his poetry was profuse, he remarked, "I am not to be compared with Aisha; she used to describe in verse anything that happened to her."

It was said that she could recite a poem of sixty and sometimes eighty verses. She was also clever in quoting poetry to give examples. She once quoted to the prophet--may God's prayers and peace be on him--two verses from Abu Kebir's humorous peotry and he was so pleased that he kissed her between her eyes.

She was thus capable of understanding, comprehending and memorising the prophetic traditions. She could also memorise many incidents of the private life of the prophet and his seclusions. She was better than any woman in comprehending legislations for special purposes.

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Thus the tellers (rowat) of the Traditions recorded many of the prophetic Traditions that she related, and wrote down many incidents she memorised. Scholars too referred to various views she was reported to have uttered, and to which we shall refer to in the concluding party of this book

The marriage of the prophet and to Al Sayeda Aisha was for the sake of friendship and to create a comfortable atmosphere in the Reverend House. On the whole it ws fo rthe benefit of Islam and the Muslims of both sexes.

4. Hafsa

Hafsa was the daughter of his other supporter, his second minister Omar Ibn Al Khattab. When her first husband, Kheneis Ibn Hadhafa El Sahmy, died of his wounds in the Battle of Badr, Omar told his friend Abu Bakr about her, in case he would think of marrying her, but Abu Bakr did not answer, and Omar was vexed. He suggested her name to his friend Othman Ibn Affan--whose wife Roqayya , daughter of God's Messenger had died, Othman said, "I do not want to marry for the time being." He wanted to marry Omm Kalthoum, daughter of God's Apostle; Omar felt hurt when his two friends Abu Bakr and Othman refused his daughter.

He called on the prophet, their resort, and complained to him of Abu Bakr and Othman. The Apostle with his big heart, realised Omar's feelings for this two friends and granted him more than what he had hoped for and immediately said, "She will marry Othman's better and Othman's better and Othman shall marry Hafsa's better." Then he asked

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Omar to for her hand, married her in the third year of the Hijra, and Othman married Omm Kalthoum.

This marriage was therefore out of courtesy to keep up brotherly relations among the Prophet's bosom friends who supported him in propagating and protecting his message. It was an honour extended to Omar, the same as his marriage to Aisha was an honour extended to Abu Bakr. It was also an act soothing whatever hard feelings Omar might have had as a result of the refusal of his two friends Abu Bakr and Othman to marry his daughter. The great man and honoured chief is keen on keeping good relations between his faithful followers and treating them equally and honourably.

Omar considered the marriage of the prophet to Hafsa an honour extended to him and when he heard that the Prophet had divorced Hafsa, he was deeply affected and said, "God will never care for Omar and his daughter after this." and he did not calm down until he eas sure that the Prophet did not divorce her. On the other hand Hafsa herself was honoured by this marriage, consoled and compensated for the loss of her husband at the Battle of Badr.

The Prophet married her in the second year of the Hijra, after the Battle of Badr. She was the wife of Abu Salma Abd Allah Ibn Abd El Asad Ibn Makhzoum.

This lady was one of the first converts to Islam. She and her husband were the first to emigrate to Abyssinia.

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and when they returned home, they emigrated again to Al Madina. Her husband took part in Badr and distinguished himself in the battle; he then took part in the Battle of Ohod and was fatally wounded.

Abu Salma was related to the Prophet through his mother, Barra Bent Abdul Muttaleb the aunt of God's Messenger on his father's side; he was also his foster brother.

When her husband died, Omm Salma was advanced in age and had many children. Abu Bakr and Omar proposed to her, but she refused on the grounds of her old age, many children and her jealousy. The Prophet, then decided to take care of her in return for what she and her husband had done to Islam. Similarily, modern States consider, perfer and honour the families of martyrs in various ways. To console her for her deep grief over her husband and to look after her children, he said to her, "Pray to God to give you strength in your calamity and to compensate you well."

So she said, "And who would be better than Abu Salma?" The Prophet married her and she knew he was better than Abu Salma. he looked after her and her children arranged for her son Salma to marry Omama Bent Hamza Ibn Abdul Muttaleb, whom Ali, Ga'far and Zaid wanted to marry.

When the Prophet proposed to Omm Salma, she said to him, "I have three inborn qualities: I am old, I have many children and I am extremely jealous."

He answered her, "I am older than you are. As for the children, they are God's charge. Concerning jealousy, I pray to God to relieve you of it."

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6. Zeinab Bent Khozima, of Bani Amer Ibn Sa'sa'a

In Pre-Islamic time, she was called, "The Mother of the Poor,". She was either married to Attofail Ibn Al- Hareth Ibn Al-Motteleb who died in the Battle of Badr or to Abdullah Ibn Gahsh who was killed in the

Battle of Ohod. She was neither pretty nor young.

The Prophet married her to protect her, to be kind to her children and to compensate her for the loss of

her husband who was killed in the battlefield. He married her in the third year of the Hijra, and she died

two or three months later.

7. Juwaireyya Bent Al Harith Ibn Abu Darrar Al Khuza'iyya

Her father was the chief of Bani Al Mustaliq; he rallied a large number of his followers to fight the Prophet.

When the two forces met in teh Battle of Al Muraisee' or Bani Al Mustaliq in the fifth year of the Hijra

(Emigration), the Prophet asked them to join Islam, but they refused. he therefore, fought and conquered

them.

Juwaireyya, whose name was Barra, wife of Mustafe' Ibn Safwan Al Mustalaqi, was captured by Thabit

Ibn Quais. He offered to free her for a ransom of seven ounces of gold, which she could not afford, thus

she appealed to the Prophet, "Oh God's Messenger! I am the daughter of Al Harith Ibn Abu Darrar, Chief

of Bani Al Mustaliq. You are aware of my plight. I hae been captured by Thabit Ibn Quais. I asked him

to set me free and I am here for your support."

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The Prophet said to her, "Would you wish for better?"

She answered, "What could it be, God's Apostle?"

He said, "I set you free and marry you."

She said, "Yes."

He said, "It is done."

The news of the Prophet's marriage to Bent Al Harith spread among the people, and commenting on it they

said, "They are now the inlaws of the Prophet---may God's prayers and peace be on him.---and it is not

proper to keep their women in captivity." Thus the Muslims released their captives from Bani Al Mustaliq.

On that occassion, Al Sayeda Aisha said, "No woman has ever been a blessing to her people than

Juwairiyya. Bani Al Mustaliq embraced Islam, and became its ardent defenders after having been its bitter

enemies.

This clearly shows that the Prophet's marriage to Juwairiyya was solely for the good of Islam and the power

and glory of the Muslims, besides increasing the number of its supporters.

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8. Omm Habiba Bent Abu Sofian Ibn Harb

Her maiden name was Ramia. She embraced Islam against her father's wish, and emigrated to Abyssinia,

with her husband, Obaid Allah Ibn Gahash. Where her husband was converted to Christianity again and

wanted her to follow his example. She refused to obey him, so he deserted her, and later he died.

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Her father was one of the strongest and bitterest enemies of the Prophet, so how would the Prophet reward

a woman who became a Muslim against her father's wish? How would he reward a woman who emigrated

from Mecca to Abyssinia, fleeing with her faith, defying the suffering of alienation, the risk and the need of

defending her religion? How would he reward a woman whose husband was converted to Christianity

while they were both abroad and away from home, and wanted her to follow his example, and refusing to

obey him, he deserted her and let her down?

The Prophet decided to reward her, to endear and protect her by marrying her when she was still in

Abyssiania in the year six or seven (of the Hijra). He wanted to save her the embarrassment of exile,

loneliness and poverty, to soothe the heart of her father who was one of the leading polytheists and enemies

of Islam.

She did not return from Abyssinia until the year of the truce with Khalid Ibn Said, in the year seven of the

Hijra, the day of The Conquest of Khaibar.

9. Zeinab Bint Gahsh Ibn Ri'ab descendat of Ibn Khozaima

She is the cousin of the Prophet, daughter of his aunt Omaima Bent Abd Al Muttaleb. The marriage of the Prophet to Zeinab was wrongly interpreted and some adversaries of Islam took the opportunity to attack God's Prophet--may God's prayers and peace be on him--but their falsehood were refuted.

It is understood that hypocrites tell lies about the marriage of the Prophet to Zeinab, but it is astounding

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to know that some Muslims have registered those lies as truth. Some of them said that the Prophet called on Zaid Ibn Haritha, Zeinab's husband, but did not find him at home. Zeinab invited him in, but he refused and left, muttering some words of which Zeinab could only hear, "Glory be to God the Great, Glory to Him who overrules hearts."

When Zaid returned home, she told him what had happened, so he went to see God's Messenger and said to him, "I have been told, O God's Messenger, that you called on me, but you did not go in, if you like Zeinab, I am ready to release her."

The Prophet answered, "Keep your wife and fear God."

But Zaid failed to keep her, so he divorced her, then after the period was over for a divorced woman to marry again, the prophet married her.

In another version, the Prophet called on Zaid's house and saw Zeinab sitting in the middle of her room busy grinding some aromatic herbs. When he looked at her he exclaimed, "Glory be to God, Creator of Light; Glory be to God the Best Creator." And so saying, he went out. When Zaid returned home, she told him, and he said, "Maybe you appealed to God's Messenger. Would you like me to divorce you to marry him?"

She answered, "I am afraid he does not marry me after I get a divorce."

Zaid wen tot see God's Apostle and said, "I want to divorce Zainab."

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The Prophet answered, "Keep your wife and fear God." Such versions and others simmilar to them should be refuted to protect the Prophet, the truth is:

A. Zaid Ibn Haritha Al Kalbi was a slave during the jahilia (ignorance). Al Sayeda Kahdija Bent Khuwailed bought him and offered him to God's Messenger---may God's prayers and peace be on him---he adopted him in Mecca, before the Revelation of the Messenge. Zaid was eight years old at that time.

B. Zaid's father, Haritha, knew of his son's whereabouts and set out to redeem him. He met the Prophet---may God's prayers and peace be on him---who said to him, "Let him choose. If he chooses you, he is yours, if he chooses me, I will not fail him."

Zaid recognised his father and his uncle, but he chose to stay with God's Messenger. Hence God's Messenger tok Zaid to the public square and called to the people to witness that Zaid was his adopted son and that they would inherit each other. Haritha and hsi brother were contented, and Zaid was known to be the son of Muhammad, until Islam dawned upon the world and the Almighty said, "Name them after their fathers." Ch. 33, V. 5. Zaid was henceforth called Zaid Ibn Haritha and all adopted children were called after their fathers.

C. The Prophet learned by revelation---as explained later--that Zaid would marry Zeinab, then divorce her to be married afterwards to the prophet, aiming at refuting what was customary among the Arabs.

The Prophet asked his cousin Zeinab to marry Zaid, but she refused, and so did her brother Abd Allah on

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the grounds that she was of a noble family while Zaid was a slave, freed by the Prophet.

The Almighty sent down the following sign, "And it is not for a believer, man or woman, to have any choice in their affairs when God and His Apostle have decreed an injuction; and whoever disobeyth God and His Messenger, erreth with palpable errors." Ch. 33, V. 36

Thus Zeinab and her brother had to submit to the will of God and His Messenger. She married Zaid and God's Apostle paid her dowry instead of Zaid. The dowry was sixty dirhams, a veil, a long wrapper and a shawl, as well as fifty loads of provisions and thirty loads of dates.

D. Zeinab could not overcome her pride, and was constantly boasting about her noble family; treating her husband harshly and hurting his feelings. It was even said that she denied him his right to touch her. One day he came to the Prophet and said, "Oh God's Messenger, Zeinab is becoming very harsh and I want to divorce her."

E. The Prophet knew by Revealation that Zaid would eventually divorce Zeinab, and that he woudl marry her, thus a wise and divine legislation was set repealing what was customary among the Arbs forbidding the father to marry the ex-wife of his adopted son, considering her to be in the same position as the wife of a son. The Prophet's marriage to Zeinab took place in the year five of the Hijra and it was a good precedent. Nobody but

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the Prophet was capable of repealing such a precedent in force for several generations. Such a repeal would need a srong and positive action to draw the attention of the people to the new legislation. Thus is was necessary that the Quran should come down with a sign forbidding this custom and asking the Prophet to give the example of himself.

Some may wonder why does the Quran forbid a precedent and ask the Prophet to give example. Such law of precedent was so strong and established that nothing could repeal it but a legislation to be executed by the Messenger himself, the Prophet, may God's prayers and peace be on him. He protected the religion and could give the example.

The Prophet did not reveal, neither to Zaid nor to anybody else what he had learnt by Revelation; he was afraid of gossip and felt the awkward situation. God the Almighty blamed the Propeht for keeping to himself waht he had learnt by Revelation fearing the people when he should only fear God. He should do, what God allowed him to do; thus when Zaid complained to him, he should have kept silent or left the matters to Zaid's discretion. The Almighty said in this respect, "And, remember, when thou saidst to him unto whom God have shown favor, and to whom thou also hadst shown favour, 'Keep they wife to thyself, and fear God; and thou didst hide in thy mind what God would bring to light, and thou didst fear man, but more right had it been to fear God. And when Zaid had made up hi mind to divorce her, We married her to thee, that it might not be a crime for the faithful to marr the wives of their adopted sons,

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when they have settled their affairs. And the best of God is to be performed."

The blame was followed by a declaration that the Prophet was not to blame if he executed what God ordered him to do; this was the way previous Prophets behaved. God's order is final and must not be questioned. Previous Prophets followed the divine path as shown to them; they used to convey His message, fear Him alone, and no one else. They were never embarrassed to execute what was allowed to them by God even if it was to marry and when they had wives both free and slaves.

The Almighty said in this respect, "No blame attacheth to a Prophet when God hath given him a permission. Such was the way of God with those prophets who flourished before thee, for God's behest is a fixed decree. Who fulfilled the mission with which God had charged them, and feared Him, and feared none but God. And God is apt to be feared." Ch. 33, V. 38, 39

With the help of this decisive legislation, enacted by God's Messenger, the Quran decreed the relation between a man and his adopted child, between a man and the wife of his adopted son. It is clear that an adopted son is different from a real one, although the Arabs used to consider him as such. The Quran proved the falsity of this allegation by giving two examples: the first is that God Almighty did not create two hearts in any one body, and the second is that one woman can not be both a wife and a mother to the same man, because in Jahilia when a man wanted to prohibit himself from pursuing normal conjugal love with his wife, he used to tell her that he considered her as his mother.

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Meanwhile a man cannot be the son of two men: his real father and his foster father. He can be the son of only one man, the one who begot him, and whose name he should bar. Thus the adopted son does not inherit the man who adopted him, and the ex-wife of the adopted son is not forbidden to marry the foster father of her ex-husband. In this respect God the Almighty said, "God hath not given a man two hearts within him; neither hath He made your wives whom you divorce to be as your mothers; or hath He made your adopted sons to be your own sons. Such words are indeed what you say; but God speaketh the truth, and in the right way He guideth. Name them after their fathers; this will be more right before God. But if ye know not who their fathers are, then be your brethren in the faith, and your comrades. And unless made with intent of heart, mistakes in this mater shall be no crime by you: for God is lenient and merciful." Ch. 33, V. 4-5

If Zaid Ibn Haritha was, once, known to be Muhammad's son, his real parentage must not be forgotten. Haritha Ibn Zaid was his father. In this respect, the Almighty said, "Muhammad is not the father of any man among you, but he is the Messenger of God, and the last of the Prophets. And God knoweth all things." Ch. 33, V. 40

F. The marriage of God's Messenger to Zeinab, however, was a compensation to her, for submitting to the decree of God and His Messenger by accepting to marry Zaid, the freed slave, inspite of her noble descent, and her society which highly esteemed and cherished nobility.

G. To those who spread seditious rumours and believe in falsehoods, the following questions are set:

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1. Did not the Prophet know Zeinab was his cousin and how beautiful she was? Was not he the one

that gave her in marriage to Zaid, and even compelled her to do so?

2. Why did he wed Zainabl to Zaid and did not marry her himself, considering that had he wanted, if

would have been easy for him?

3. Would it not be more becoming his social position to marry his cousin first, than to marry her as the

divorcee of his freed slave?

4. Is it possible that the Prophet should feel embarrassed by that marriage, which God decreed, keep it a

secret, and fear people's talk, when they accused him of admiring the beauty of his follower's wife then

marry her?

5. How could the Prophet with his heavy responsibilties, have the time for such admiration?

H. There is no doubt that this marriage was decreed by God the Almighty to legalise what people forbade. The glorious Quranic Signs reveal the whole truth and define the aim of that marriage thus refuting the false allegations of the ignorant nd the exaggerations of the adversaries of Islam.

10. Safiyya Bent Hayy Ibn Akhtab

Her father was the chief of Bani Al Nodeir. She ws a Jewess, married twice to two jews, Sallam Ibn Mashkam and Kenana Ibn Al Rabie' Ibn Abul Hakik. She was among the captives during the Battle of Khaiber

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in the year seven, and when Dohayya Al Kalby asked God's Prophet for a woman of the captives, he offered him one, Safiyya.

When he companions of the Prophet knew about this, they came to him and said, "Oh God's Messenger, Safiyya is the daughter of the chief of Bani Qorayza and Bani Al Nodeir, and you are the only one fit for haer. The Prophet told Dohayya to take another captive, and asked her to choose between going back to her folk or to be set free and marry him. She preferred to marry him.

When Safiyya was wife of Kenana she had a dream in which she saw the moon fall down in her lap. She told her husband about the dream and he sarcastically commented, "The only interpretation of this dream is that you wish to marry the King of Hidjaz, Muhammad." So saying he slapped her face so strongly that her eyes were swollen. When she was summoned to the prophet he noticed her swollen eyes, he asked her about them. The Prophet was not to blame for protecting a captive, the daughter of a chief. Had she been destined to someone else, she would have remained the rest of her life tormented by a feeling of bitterness, shame and degradation. One day the Prophet entered her room and saw her crying. When he asked her the reason she answered, "I have been told that Aisha and Hafsa are speaking badly of me. They say that they are better than Safiyya because they are cousins and wives of God's Messenger." The Prophet then said, "How about saying to them, 'How come when my father is Haron, my uncle is Moses and my husband is Muhammad'?"

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On the other hand, there is no harm in the Prophet marrying a captive, after giving her the choice of freedom and returning to her folk, or marrying him.

When her second husband died, Al Abbas Ibn Abd Al Muttaleb went to see the Prophet when he was performing the minor Hajj and said to him, "Oh, God's Messenger, Maymouna Bent Al Harith is a widow. Will you marry her?" The Prophet agreed.

In another version: When the Prophet finished with Khaibar he went to Mecca to visit the Great House in the year seven, Gaafar Ibn Abu Taleb, returning from Abyssinia, came to him and suggested he would marry Maymouna Bent Al Harith who accepted and he married her to the Prophet.

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There are three points to be considered concerning this marriage:

a) One of her sisters was the wife of Al Abbas, the Prophet's uncle, and one of her half-sisters was the wife of Gaafar Ibn Abu Taleb and another one was the wife of Hamza, the Prophet's uncle. Also, Al Abbas, Gaafar and Hamza were among the closest kin to God's Messenger and the dearest to him. They were also among the most loyal to him and to Islam.

b) Both Al Abbas, the Prophet's uncle, and Gaafar, his cousin, offered to mary her to him thus honouring Maymouna as well as themselves. The Prophet's generosity, his affection and loyalty to his friends and companions would not make him reject such an offer.

c) Both her sisters and half-sisters were wives of noble men, and such an alliance would support and benefit Islam.

d) The lady could not attract suitors, because she was married twice before.

3) It was she who offered to marry the Prophet. On that occasion the Almighty said, "O Prophet, we allow thee thy wives whom thou hast dowered, and the captives whom thou possesseth out of the booty which God hath granted thee, and the daughters of thy uncle, and of thy paternal and maternal aunts who had emigrated with thee, and any believing woman who hath given herself up to the Prophet, if the prophet desired to wed her---A privledge for thee above the rest of the Faithful." Ch. 33, V. 50

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This marriage was a support to Islam and the Muslims. When she married, her me was Barra but the Prophet called her Maymouna.

12. Maria the Copt

In the year six, the Prophet delegated Hateb Ibn Abu Balta'a to deliever a letter to Al Muqawqas, the

Governor of Alexandria and Misr, to invite him to embrace Islam. Al Muqawqas received well the

Prophet's delegate and sent several presents to God's Messenger---may God's prayers and peace be upon

him. The Coptic Maria was his personal present to the Prophet, her sister Syrin, a euoch and probably four

other slaes were sent as well.

The Prophet offered Syrin to Hassan Ibn Thabit and she begot him his son Abd Al Rahman, and the

Prophet married Maria and she begot him his son Ibrahim.

Al Muqawqas received the Prophet's letter and delegate well and sent him presents. He could not refuse

his presents when he was doing his best to propagate the cause, gain sympathy of the people and ralley as

many supporters as possible.

Maria was sent to him personally and the Prophet could neither send her back nor offer her to somebody

else. Had he done that, he would have hurt the feelings of Al Muqawqas and Maria; he would be either

refusing the present of too haughty to accept it. He had to marry her to please them both, and to be an

example of a Muslim marrying a believer in The Scriptures; such marriage would be an advantage to Islam

and an effective means to its propagation.

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Chapter III

Consequences

The study of the marriage of God's Messenger---may God's prayers and peace be on him---leads to the following conclusions:

First

The marriage of God's Messenger---may God's prayers and peace be upon him--was for the sake of religion and not for worldly pleasures. It was wisdom and not passion that determined his decision to establish the new religion and help it spread. When he married Al Sayeda Khadija he was like all human beings and all Messengers before him longing for a home, a wife and children.

When she died he married for the sake of Islam and the Muslims. He was always eager to rally the people round him, bring his friends closer to his heart and make them more loyal to God and his Apostles.

Marriage relations--at that time--were considered one way of supporting the Prophet and propagating Islam. On the other hand, he tried to convince the victorious Muslims to set free their prisoners of war and women captives of great tribes defeated by the Muslims, thus gain the sympathy of such tribes and induce them to be converted to Islam and support it.

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In one instance, he wanted to honour an elderly woman, who offered herself to him and by marrying her he fulfilled her ardent desire.

Sometimes his marriage was to honour families eager to be related to him e.g., Omar Ibn Al Khattab was very sad and depressed when informed that the Prophet had divorced Hafsa; he was not relieved until he learnt it was not true. Ali Ibn Abi Taleb, his cousin, his son-in-law husband of his daughter Fatima and brought up by him---wanted the Prophet to marry his sister, Omm Hani Bent Abu Taleb, but she refused lest she should not fulfil her martial obligations because of her numerous children.

The Prophet--may God's prayers and peace be on him---in some cases hoped that marriage relations would help abate the wrath of the enemy and appease them. In some other cases he aimed at consolation and compensation fo rthe loss of men as well as encouraging Al Jihad. His marriage to the widow who lost her husband and supporter while defending the cause of Islam is thus clear. Such marriage would be a help for her and her children, as well as an example to be followed by other Muslims, besides giving the warriors security as to the future of their wives and children, knowing that the Prophet and the Muslims would take care of them, in case they were killed in war. Such security would give them courage in fighting for and defending Islam, bearing in mind that martyrdom is the cherished wish of all believers.

When he married the Christian woman sent to him by a powerful Christian Governor, he wanted to

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promulgate a new legislation to propagate the Message, and prove the tolerance of Islam that Christian wife free either to become Muslim or remain Christian.

Second

When Al Sayeda Khadija died, the Prophet was in his fifties, and he did not marry again until three years after her death.

Third

All his wives---except Al Sayeda Aisha--were either widows or divorced, and most of them were elderly women. He could have chosen beautiful girls if he wanted. Any man would prefer a virgin to a widow or a divorcee. His marriage to widows and divorcess and to elderly in particular shows that the Prophet was not after sexual pleasure as said by his adversaries.

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There is no doubt that the Prophet's wives helped Islam in many ways. They related such details of the behavior of the Prophet as none but a wife could know. They were also the source of legislation concerning feminine matters known only to women especially those who are married and which vary from one woman to another. Moreover, they quoted the blessed traditions which the Prophet said in private, and nobody but his wives heard; they also rectified the wordings of other traditions heard and related by others. Some of the Prophet's wives had their own views concerning jurisprudence in Islam and the circumstances of the

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revelation of some Quranic Signs. this should not be surprising because they were very careful in quoting the Prophet, and acting in accordance with the Almighty's order, "And recollect what is rehearsed in your houses from the Book of God and the wise sayings, for God is kind and cognisant." Ch. 33, V. 34

Also in accordance with the tradition, "May God help a believer who hears my speech, memorizes it, understands it and rehearses it. For a bearer of knowledge may not be a scholar, and a bearer of knowledge may transmit his knowledge to a scholar." Thus we find that many traditions related by trustees, go back to the wives of the Prophet.

Conclusion

1. The Demeanor of the Prophet

Abd Allah Ibn Omar, one of the companions, used to forbid using perfume when setting out on pilgrimage. When Al Sayeda Aisha heard about this, she said, "God bless the soul of Abdul Rahman, I used to perfume God's Messenger one the eve of his setting out on pilgrimages."

She also said, "I remember seeing the traces of perfume shining on the forehead of the Prophet when he was wearing the Ihram (special clothes for pilgrims)."

Al Bukhari and Muslim both quoted Abul Kassim that she had said, "I have perfumed God's Messenger when on pilgrimage, and after terminating the pilgrimage rites before circumambulating the Great House." Ibn Abbas confirmed this saying.

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It is also related that she said, "I used to comb the hair of God's Messenger while I was having the menses."

She also said, "When combing his hair or performing ablution eh liked to use his right hand whenever possible."

Abu Horaira said that the fasting of a person who had sexual intercourse with his wife during the night was not valid if he, or she, did not purify himself, or herself, before morning. But Abu Horaira renounced this view when he learnt that Al Sayeda Aisha has said that the Prophet used to wake in the morning after sexual intercourse and continue his fasting.

When Abd Allah Ibn Omar said that the kiss necessitated ablutions, Al Sayeda Aisha rectified the statment by saying, "God's Apostle used to kiss when fasting and did not perform ablutions."

She also said, "God's Messenger used to kiss any one of his wives while fasting." She added, "Is any one of you wiser, controls his passions better and knows more than God's Messenger?"

When Abd Allah Ibn Omar mentioned that God's Apostle performed the minor hajj four times, one of them in the month of Ragab, Orway Ibn Al Zoheir asked Al Sayeda Aisha, "Oh, Mother of the Believers, do you
hear what Abu Abdel Rahman says?"

She answered, "God be merciful upon Abu Abdel Rahman he always accompanied God's Apostle on the minor Hajj, but never in Ragab."

Ibn Al Gousy commented on this by saying, "The silence of Ibn Omar only means one of two things: either he is in doubt and prefers to keep silent, or what Aisha has said reminds him, of what he has forgotten."

Anas said, "God's Mesenger performed the little pilgrimages four times, in teh month of Zul Ki'da."

2. Concerning Women's Affairs

When Al Sayeda Aisha was informed that Abd-Allah Ibn Amr Ibn Al Aas ordered women to undo their hair when having a bath to be purified, she said, "I wonder at Ibn Amr' ordering women to undo their hair. Why does not he order them to have their hair cut as well? God's Messenger and I used the same pot to have our bath and I never poured water more than three times over my head."

Al Nisa'i related the same speech, slightly modified by the following addition, "...and I did not undo my hair." This version ws confirmed by Ibn Khozaima in his "True Hadith" (tradition).

Muslim in his "True Traditions," reported that Omm Salma asked the Prophet whether she should undo her hair when having a bath for purification, and he said,

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"It is sufficient to sprinkle your head three times with water, then pour water over your body. And you are purified."

Omm Salma mentioned that Omm Selim, the wife of Abu Talha, came to the Prophet and said, "Oh God's Messenger, one shouldn't be ashamed of the truth. Should a woman have a bath is she discharges during her sleep?"

The Prophet said, "Yes, if she sees the discharge."

Al Sayeda Maymouna Bent Al Hilalyya said, "One of us would set the mat for the Prophet to pray while having the menses."

Abd Allah Ibn Abbas said that an expecting widow could marry again either after delivering her baby or four lunar months and ten days after the death of her husband, which of the two dates was later than the other; but as Abu Salma and Abu Horaira were of the opinion that this period was over with confinement, so they sent to Omm Salma, the Prophet's wife for clarification.

She said, "Sobai'r Al Aslamya delivered shortly after her husband's death, and when she asked the Prophet whether she could remarry, her ordered her to do so."

Al Sayeda Aisha said, "I went with God's Apostle on pilgrimage but I got the menses and I cried. He said, 'Do what the pilgrims do, bu do not circumambulate the Great House until you are purified.'"

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3. Concerning Relating of Traditions
Many reliable references are full of traditions reported by the Mothers of the Believers.

Al Sayeda Aisha once said, "The Prophet said, 'If a woman gives away discretely some of her household provision, she will be compensated for what she has given, so will her hsuband for what he has earned, and the treasurer is also recorded; each one of them gets his due shares.'"

Al Sayeda Safiyya related that she wen tto visit God's Messenger when in seclusion in the Mosque during the last ten nights of Ramadan, when the visit was over, God's Messenger accompanied her out of the mosque. On reaching the house of Omm Salma, the Prophet's wife, two men of the Al Ansar (the supporters) crossed their way.

They greeted the Prophet and hurried away. But the Prophet said, "Do not hurry."

They exalimed, "For God's sake." They felt hurt, so he appeased them and said, "Satan sometimes possesses a man and I am afriad he may lure your hearts." Meaning they might mistake the real identity of his lady companion.

Al Sayeda Hafsa said, "When God's Messenger ordered his wives to put an end to the restrictions of the minor Hajj, they said, ' And why do you not do the same, Oh God's Prophet?'

He said, "I have made my offerings and fixed my hair, so the rites are not over until I slaughter my offering."

Al Sayeda Omm Salma related that God's Messenger said, "You come to me for judgement some of you may

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be more skillful in defending their cases. I am only human and judge according to what I hear, so if ever I judge wrongly do not take what is not your right; this will be fire burning in you."

Al Sayeda Omm Habiba related that God's Messenger said, "Had it not been hard on the my people, I would have ordered them to use the siwak (a dry branch of a certain tree used as a tooth brush) in every ablution."

Sawda Bent Zam'a related that a man once came to the Prophet and said, "My father is an old man and cannot go on pilgrimage."

God's Messenger said, "If your father owes a debt and you pay it for him, would the debtor accept your payment?"

The man said, "Yes."

The Prophet said, "God is more merciful . Go on pilgrimage for your father."

It is quoted from Al Sayeda Hafsa Bent Omar that as soon as the caller for prayer terminated his call for the morning prayers God's Messenger used to pray two quick protrations before the prayers are held.

4. Rectifying the Relation of the Tradition

Al Tormadhi quoting Abu Dharr said that the Prophet had said, "If a man is performing his prayers without having something in front of him, the passage of a dog, a woman or a donkey within that distance would interrupt his prayers."

Some Companions, such as Abd Allah Ibn Omar, agreed to the meaning of this tradition in general, but others did not.

Al Sayeda Aisha, however, denied any of the

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three above mentioned would interrupt the prayers; she was angry for mentioning women together with dogs and donkeys and said, "Are we referred to in the same way as the dog and the donkey? I was reclining on my bed when God's Messenger came in and started praying in the middle of the bed; I hated to interrupt his prayers so I withdrew quietly." Abdulla Ibn Abbas agreed to what she had said. This proves that she did not believe that the Prophet said that otherwise she wouldn't have denied it.

When Al Sayeda Aisha that Abd Allah Ibn Omar stated that the lunar month was twenty-nine days, she refused his statement and said, "May God forgive Abu Abd Al Rahman! This is proves that she did not believe that the prophet said that otherwise she wouldn't have denied it.

When she was told that Abu Horaira said that God's Messenger said, "Evil is in three: the house, the woman, and the mare," she said, "Abu Horaira's memory failed him. He came upon God's Messenger while saying, "May God curse the Jews who say that evil is in three: the house, the woman, and the mare. He heard the last part of the tradition and missed the first part."

Ahmad, in his Mosnad, stated a similar version and added that she then recited the Almighty's verse, "No mischance chanceth either on the earth or within your own selves, but were We decreed it, it ws in a book, for this is easy to God." Ch. 57, V. 22

Some leading scholars (Imams) stated that Al Sayeda Aisha's version concerning this subject is close

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to the truth, because it conforms with the fact that the Prophet strictly forabde augury.

It is reported that the Prophet said, " To have your hearts fatally suppurated is better than having them possessed with poetry." Several scholars have tried to explain this tradition. Ibn Rashik said that a person whose heart is possessed with poetry is that he who is so engrossed in poetry that he neglects his religion, and does not fulfill its ordinances; thus he does not remember God the Almighty and does not read the Quran. Otherwise, when poetry is taken as a literary hobby or for a useful purpose, there is no harm in saying it; as a matter of fact several Caliphs, distinguished companions and reputed scholars said poetry. But the tradition as related byAl Sayeda Aisha runs as follows, "To have your hearts fatally suppurated is better than having them possessed with poetry that lampoons." Gaber Ibn Allah agreed to this last version. This explains the whole thing.

5. Concerning Jurisprudence

Abu Horaira stated that he who wshed the dead must have a bath first to be purified, and he who carries the dead must perform ablutions. When Al Sayeda Aisha knew of this she said, "Is a dead Muslim polluted? What becomes of a man who carries a dry branch?"

Al Bayhaki said, "These statments, related to Abu Horaira, are not well supported, owing to the ignorance of some of those who related them and the inability of others to relate them properly

Abd Allah Ibn Abbas did not agree with Abu Horaira

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and said, "We should not perform ablutions if we carry dry branches."

Al Sayeda Aisha was of the opinion that "marriage for enjoyment" (marriage for a limited period agreed upon by the parties concerned) is a sin, and gave proof from the Quran, "And those who preserve their chastity, except with their wives or those whom they possess, are free of any blame. And those who go beyond these limits are transgressors." Ch. 23, V. 5-6.

Companions and scholars disagreed as regards the flesh of certain camels, and whether it was allowed or forbidden. Those who were of opinion that it was allowed based their opinion on Al Sayeda Aisha's, reference to the words of the Almighty, "Say, I find not in what hath been revealed to me aught forbidden to the eater to eat except it be that which dieth not of itself, or blood poured forth or swine's flesh, for this is unclean or profane, being slain in a name other than God's." Ch. 6, V. 145. The verse does not prohibit anything more than what is mentioned therein.

Abd Allah Ibn Abbas agreed with her, but others did not.

According to Al Sayeda Aisha's jurisprudence, if the offerings are injured before they reach their destination, they should be slain and given away. The owners should not eat them. She relied in this on a tradition of the same meaning. If no poor people were available, on the way, shoudl the owner of the offering still abstain from eating it and leave it to the beasts of prey, or else

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could he share it whith his fellow men, in order to avoid extravagance?

6. Circumstances of the Revelations

The wives of the Prophet knew the circumstances of the of the revelation and understood the meaning of the Quranic verses.

The Quranic Verse 3, Chapter 4 says, "And if ye are apprehensive that ye shall not deal fairly with orphans, then marry among other women, according to your choice, as many as two or three or four; but if you fear that ye shall not act equitably among them, then marry one only, or the captives whom you have acquired. This will render justice easier on your part. Give women their dowries freely, bt if they give up aught thereof, of their own free will, then enjoy it as convenient and profitables."

Al Sayeda Aisha described the , "Orphans" as he girl still in custody and her custodian, is attracted by her beauty and wealth, so he wants to marry her without giving her the dowry, that any other suitor offers this, custodians are forbidden to marry such orphans unless they give them their due dowry, otherwise they are allowed to marry other women.

Another Quranic Verse states, "And if a wife fears ill usage or aversion on the part of her husband, then shall it be no fault with them if they try to reach mutual agreement, for agreement is best." Ch. 4, V. 128.

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Referring to this verse, Al Sayeda Aisha said, "This verse is revealed with reference to the man who dislikes or hates his wife and wants to divorce her?"

It is now clear that Islam is a turbulent sea that engulfs all that venture to defy it, and the Prophet is a firm rock repulsing any attack till Doomsday. Thus adversaries of Islam should cease propating claims that lack in evidence and spread seditious rumours that are easily refuted.

Thank you for taking time to learn about our beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.

For me, I enjoyed reading about his wives, blessings on them. They were also called, "The Mothers of the Believers." Each one holds an aspect of womanhood in their story.

I do want to comment that as I typed this out (from the little booklet I was loaned), I did disagree with one setence. I disagreed with it enough that I'm coming to the comment section to rectify what I think is a rudeness.

The author wrote on page 46, "Any man would prefer a virgin to a widow or a divorcee."

That is really subjective and he is making it be a universal truth. I don't think this is the case. As a divorced woman, I have been sought after MORE than before my first marriage. It really has more to do with what you can bring to the table. Yes, virginity is something to prize but so is experience and maturity.

If, indeed, the author thought for a minute about the facts of our Prophet (pbuh), he would remember that only ONE of the wives was indeed a virgin. ONE! Sayeda Aisha ONLY. So if that is indeed the ultimate for any man, surely the Prophet would have gone this route more often but he didn't.

I don't want divorced women reading this to feel slighted. I don't want men reading this to think, "Oh, is that how I should be feeling?" This is very SUBJECTIVE; it's his personal opinion and it's not mine.

Alhamdulillah! Seriously, jazakiallah khayr for the addendum! It was totally necessary!

"Any man," he says, yet The Best Man clearly did NOT, and he's the best of examples, so weirdly, how dare you even add such a subjective assertion of spurious consensus, as it pertains to male preference! Ugh, the bigotry in that statement is so gross to me. And it's so sad, because it's just so pervasive. Ugh. Anyway, I'm just ranting, being that yesterday my husband sat in a khutbah where the khatib was reminding men to remind their wives that their homes are what's best, and to discourage them from work and school, and their ultimate goal in life is to please their husbandz and make his job easier.

Seriously.

In America. In an affluent muslim community, too.

Won't touch on the ahadeeth related to this topic, and how things are misconstrued because I'll no doubt start rambling again and go off on twenty twenty-paged tangents.

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