Why orgasms felt so different from when I first discovered them?

I'm curious as to why orgasms felt so different from when I first discovered them via masturbation, (with a shower-head, and various vibrating household items.) It seems like when I was 14, or younger, my orgasms could be felt throughout my body in waves. They were an emotional, even spiritual experience; although I didn't have that vocabulary to describe them this way at the time. It was just an unbelievably warm, fuzzy, pulsating and ecstatic feeling, permeating throughout my body.

They were all hands-free (I knew no other way besides vibration, or shower-head,) and it seems like once I discovered you could use your hand, the special feeling slowly disappeared, and soon became a "meh," feeling. Now, at 31, it's almost like an excretion: Do it, get it over with, and get on with whatever you were doing.

Anyone else have the same kind of experience, or even know what I'm talking about?

Note: The shower head--I would detach it, kneel as if crouched, and aim the water at my frenulum--the underside of my penis--and just wait... slowly, a warm elation would build; from my toes to me head, until this strong and overwhelming fuzziness would take over the nervous system--and my brain perceived a profound and mysterious pleasure that was almost unbelievable.

Clara Gunnernotch - Sat, 25 May 2019 15:53:47 EST 7EbovjzYNo.101163 Reply that one you used to have sounds like a normal orgasm to me, anyone else? I'm in my early 30s too but I'm a woman (and cis), maybe that makes a difference.

it could be hormonal or it could be that you need to do it a different way to how you are doing it

Cornelius Brembleman - Sat, 25 May 2019 19:36:31 EST 2JIyZpuFNo.101164 Reply >>101162I'm a bit older than you. I can have really meh ones that are barely fun and ones which are better than ever. It's not down to one single factor but just "doing it right". Don't rush it, be in the mood, the right headspace, take your time be excited about it. You approach it like a chore and so that is what it becomes.

Betsy Clayfuck - Tue, 10 Sep 2019 11:35:36 EST EQL9LtLdNo.101528 Reply >>101162Same experience here, 26.Masturbation feels like chores "here we go again...". Something I have to do to get on with what I really want to do.When having sex it's slightly different, I block everything until my partner gets one or two orgasms but chances are that I wont feel pleasure at it's maximum potential (timing is off or the feeling of her being "away" turns me off, I just feel alone with a meh orgasm). The only way I have to feel pleasure like I used to is having her do exactly what my mind and body wants without having to say anything, when the woman is not much of a giver it just doesn't work.

Truth is, I absolutely love sex but mainly because it feels good to give pleasure and sometimes I just prefer the adrenaline rush of stuff she'd say, trying "forbiden" things with someone etc. over the actual act of ejaculation.

Jarvis Dondlehick - Wed, 11 Sep 2019 23:52:04 EST NERjToieNo.101532 Reply One tip that has helped me, is to really relish the orgasm. Let yourself feel it, let yourself bask in it for a little bit. Instead of immediately heading to clean-up and thinking about what you're moving on to next, stop and just relax, enjoy and love yourself for a little bit. Even during orgasm, try to just slow that down and allow yourself to just sit in how really good you feel.

I think over time as it becomes more commonplace, we naturally tend to move on from it too quickly, so it can help to stop treating it like a chore or a quick snack, and allow yourself to spend some time with the joy of it, I bet it will be 10x better for you if you do.

Esther Gagglebit - Sat, 14 Sep 2019 13:37:19 EST q71sVuvxNo.101539 Reply >>101162Yeah you need to mix it up a bit. Discover something new about getting off. Edge, use toys, abstain for three months, try going back to hands free, freeze the hand you don't normally use, etc. I'd recommend autoerotic asphyxiation but maybe have a sitter if you go that route. Jerking off has never felt like a chore to me and every orgasm is amazing and different because I don't fall Iinto routines and I constantly push my limits, boundaries, and tolerances.