My boyfriend was so pleased with me afterwards but I know I should be stronger.

I was weak to let him pressure me into going to that club. I’m so needy it’s embarrassing and I tolerate him behaving in ways I know I shouldn’t accept.

He has sex with his ex and with others as well as with me.

He says he uses a condom and that it means he isn’t cheating on me — that it’s no different from using a sex toy.

I know that’s rubbish and yet I don’t stand up to him.

Deep down, I know he’s not treating me well but I can’t walk away. The two years we have been together is the longest that any man has stayed with me, as they usually leave after just a few months together.

I have a beautiful daughter who I brought up alone. She’s 19 and I love her to bits.

I know that if she were in a relationship like this, I would be telling her to walk away fast.

DEIDRE SAYS:Your daughter may not know everything you have told me but she will know you are not happy. She probably has a good idea what this man is like and will see the way you are living your life is all wrong.

You are her mum and her most important role model. I know that it’s hard but for her sake, at least, you must be strong now.

You’ve clearly been hurt in the past and I would guess that goes back a long way. I doubt you had all the love and attention as a child that everyone needs – and that causes low self-esteem.

Let me be clear. The guy you’re with now is a user and cheat.

Please make a total break from him, as no one deserves to be treated like this. You will feel so much better.

Start by reading my e-leaflet on Raising Self-Esteem and talk to your doctor about counselling support.

This could be a wonderful new beginning for a happier life.

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‘Pal’ says he’ll tell hubby about my fling

Dear Deidre

I GOT close with a guy I met through work but now he’s menacing me on Facebook.

I’m 29 and am online a lot as my husband, who is 32 works shifts. My friend at work is 35, single and was really easy to confide in.

I had a drunken one-night stand with my manager after last year’s work Christmas party. My friend was really understanding and helped me calm down over it.

I’ve tried speaking to her about this but it seems like she couldn’t care less.

She’s spent £25,000 on cosmetic surgery for weight loss but she still doesn’t like how she looks. I love my wife but I can’t stand this rejection for ever.

She’s selfish and cold. I don’t want to go for the rest of my life without sex.

DEIDRE SAYS:She may seem selfish and cold but she sounds very unhappy.

She hates how she looks and that is affecting the way she reacts to you.

Tell her you love her but things have to change – that she needs to get help or you may have to leave. My leaflet Need Someone To Talk To? explains counselling help.

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Fear my boyfriend is cheating is giving me panic attacks

Dear Deidre

I HAVE been suffering panic attacks for a year and they are getting much worse, as I’m worried my boyfriend is cheating on me.