Not sure what to do/how to feel?

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I was in a five year relationship that wound up being abusive and destroyed most of my self-esteem. After getting out I started hanging out with one of my best and oldest friends who introduced me to her group of close friends. One of those friends is a guy who at first I didn’t think to much about but now I kinda maybe like? Not sure how I feel really, but he seems to be maybe interested in me? It’s weird and complicated because he used to date said best friend, but for a short period of time. He also talks about other girls, being interested in other girls, etc while around me and yet we keep catching each other staring and I just get that “vibe” I guess? I don’t know how to explain it. From the girls he talks about I don’t think I’m his type. He’s not really the guy I usually go for either, and I don’t really know how to feel. We connect on an intellectual level and like the same things. Am I just finding something that’s not there?

I’m only 3 months out of my abusive relationship, though I was trying to get out for a few months before that. I have since major hang ups about intimacy and basically this guy is sweet and gentlmanly. Supposedly he broke up with a girl he was kind of dating and insinuated he was interested in another girl. My friend suggested a girl I guess he’d liked before who didn’t reciprocate it but he mentioned this shortly after I’d been getting the “vibes” and the stares. I really don’t know what to make of this… Like I said I have low self esteem so I’m not looking around for guys who might potentially like me and making assumptions. At the very idea that I kind of maybe thought he was cute I decided he probably wouldn’t be interested in someone like me anyway so I shouldn’t even attempt to pursue him. I’m mostly worried about two main things, that he might actually like me and then what do I do, and how do I even being it up to my friend? I still don’t know why they split.

“He also talks about other girls, being interested in other girls, etc while around me ”
If a guy were really “into you” he wouldn’t be having discussions with you {about other women he’s interested in}.
Based on what you’ve said here you shouldn’t get your hopes up for anything beyond a “friends with benefits” scenario.

“You’re traveling through another dimension, a dimension not only of sight and sound but of mind.
A journey into a wondrous land whose boundaries are that of imagination.
That’s the signpost up ahead – your next stop, The Friend Zone! ”

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