lose lose situation!

I let my husband go out and get all this party stuff out of his system but I have to sit there and worry " when will he be home" he lies about it too! If I go out with him he'll say just for a lil while and next thing I know I'm miserable and we are walking through the door at two in the morning !! Wtf! I just can't win!! There's also other issues why I don't like him out alone...

I let my husband go out and get all this party stuff out of his system but I have to sit there and worry " when will he be home" he lies about it too! If I go out with him he'll say just for a lil while and next thing I know I'm miserable and we are walking through the door at two in the morning !! Wtf! I just can't win!! There's also other issues why I don't like him out alone...

My SO went out one time during this pregnancy. He said he'd be home before midnight and didn't get home until 3:00. He was up the entire night puking his guts out and all the next day. I was livid. All I said to him was how disappointed I was in him. He hasn't gone out since.

My SO went out one time during this pregnancy. He said he'd be home before midnight and didn't get home until 3:00. He was up the entire night puking his guts out and all the next day. I was livid. All I said to him was how disappointed I was in him. He hasn't gone out since.

Please mine is 36 and needs to get it out of his system somedays I want to scream and cry... For the most part he has been really good and supportive but when he does go out with the boys wow he over does it everytime

Please mine is 36 and needs to get it out of his system somedays I want to scream and cry... For the most part he has been really good and supportive but when he does go out with the boys wow he over does it everytime

Men need to be encouraged to be men not boys. They are designed to lead, protect, and provide not the other way around. Praise all advances to that end and respect it, appreciate it. Ladies marrage is not a gamble its a commitment! Men like knowing they are needed & we trust in their dependability. Sending them off to get drunk and free is folly and tests all boundaries that are sacred in marriage. Marriage is a union of fidelity, commitment, trust, work, and love. Being "open-minded" to behavior that unleashes anything contrary is hogwash and will certainly reap pain. Creating a security of love and dependability is a must between you in order to pass on that wisdom to your little ones. If your spoonfeeding your spouse...stop. Smile, laugh, hug, play, touch, words of affirmation as though it already were and yet there is a balance to the daily grind. Build unity. He shouldn't need a leash or watch dog or mommy. Be his companion, confidant, and cheerleader. Fight for what's right.

Men need to be encouraged to be men not boys. They are designed to lead, protect, and provide not the other way around. Praise all advances to that end and respect it, appreciate it. Ladies marrage is not a gamble its a commitment! Men like knowing they are needed & we trust in their dependability. Sending them off to get drunk and free is folly and tests all boundaries that are sacred in marriage. Marriage is a union of fidelity, commitment, trust, work, and love. Being "open-minded" to behavior that unleashes anything contrary is hogwash and will certainly reap pain. Creating a security of love and dependability is a must between you in order to pass on that wisdom to your little ones. If your spoonfeeding your spouse...stop. Smile, laugh, hug, play, touch, words of affirmation as though it already were and yet there is a balance to the daily grind. Build unity. He shouldn't need a leash or watch dog or mommy. Be his companion, confidant, and cheerleader. Fight for what's right.

My husband and I aren't big partiers. Neither of us drink/smoke so I guess I am pretty blessed that he doesn't feel the need to go out and go crazy. Besides most of our friends and siblings are married and have kids already so we hang around a pretty tame crowd. Sorry that you ladies are having to deal with that though.

My husband and I aren't big partiers. Neither of us drink/smoke so I guess I am pretty blessed that he doesn't feel the need to go out and go crazy. Besides most of our friends and siblings are married and have kids already so we hang around a pretty tame crowd. Sorry that you ladies are having to deal with that though.

DH likes to party more than I do so I've been really accommodating this Holiday season. After DS arrived we were too tired to go out and spent a lot if time at home. I'm looking forward to getting back to that with this LO. DS works so hard, he deserves a night away from his family every few weeks.\\. On another note, don't sit there waiting for him to come home, look at it as an opportunity to have some quiet time at home, watch a girly movie or read a book...

DH likes to party more than I do so I've been really accommodating this Holiday season. After DS arrived we were too tired to go out and spent a lot if time at home. I'm looking forward to getting back to that with this LO. DS works so hard, he deserves a night away from his family every few weeks.\\. On another note, don't sit there waiting for him to come home, look at it as an opportunity to have some quiet time at home, watch a girly movie or read a book...

"Before you assume, learn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before you speak, think."

From:
JHof76

To: MMJ1014

Posted: Dec-29 09:28 AM (11 of 20)

After reading the rest of these comments I'm thinking some of you live in dry counties or something. We live in WI and we love our beer, as stereotypical as that sounds. Alcohol is not the devil as long as you can control yourself. My SO and I enjoy going out with our friends and indulging once in a while. It doesn't make him less of a man or me less of a woman. Sorry, but to say that was a little extreme.

After reading the rest of these comments I'm thinking some of you live in dry counties or something. We live in WI and we love our beer, as stereotypical as that sounds. Alcohol is not the devil as long as you can control yourself. My SO and I enjoy going out with our friends and indulging once in a while. It doesn't make him less of a man or me less of a woman. Sorry, but to say that was a little extreme.

"Before you assume, learn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before you speak, think."

From:
Kristaalexis

To: JHof76

Posted: Dec-29 10:00 AM (12 of 20)

@JH, I'm with you on this one, having a few beers is hardly cause for alarm. DH and I have always had our separate interests, I would never equate him playing hockey with the boys with him not protecting or supporting his family.

@JH, I'm with you on this one, having a few beers is hardly cause for alarm. DH and I have always had our separate interests, I would never equate him playing hockey with the boys with him not protecting or supporting his family.

Before our first came, we loved going out and having a few drinks together. I agree there's nothing wrong with that. It was in moderation and once, maybe twice in our entire relationship did he overdo it. I guess what I don't understand is the need to go out and get it out of your system--- THAT mentality. Like I said before, life does not stop because a baby is coming. I also don't get overdoing it either. Why? Enjoy a few responsibly. Sheesh. I sound like a commercial. Maybe it's my age but I just don't get getting so wasted that the next day is a write off. Who enjoys that?

Before our first came, we loved going out and having a few drinks together. I agree there's nothing wrong with that. It was in moderation and once, maybe twice in our entire relationship did he overdo it. I guess what I don't understand is the need to go out and get it out of your system--- THAT mentality. Like I said before, life does not stop because a baby is coming. I also don't get overdoing it either. Why? Enjoy a few responsibly. Sheesh. I sound like a commercial. Maybe it's my age but I just don't get getting so wasted that the next day is a write off. Who enjoys that?

Apparently we are old farts for 27 and 28. I encourage my husband to go out and hang with his buddies, I LOVE quiet time at home. But he has no desire. I think both of us know our time with just the two of us is limited with only 37 days left. But I would love a night alone for watching Magic Mike or The Lucky One or any movie with sexy shirtless men that he would grumble through!

Apparently we are old farts for 27 and 28. I encourage my husband to go out and hang with his buddies, I LOVE quiet time at home. But he has no desire. I think both of us know our time with just the two of us is limited with only 37 days left. But I would love a night alone for watching Magic Mike or The Lucky One or any movie with sexy shirtless men that he would grumble through!

My hubby is 30 and he's also step dad to my two boys who we have 365 days a year ;) and he has not gone out 1 during my pregnancy and wouldn't go out without me. If its wasn't out of his system I'd slap it out. Jk lol. He actually quit drinking for me ;)!!! I just like normal sober men , not to say a drink is bad mine just drinks alot if he drank at all so it was best to let it all go.

My hubby is 30 and he's also step dad to my two boys who we have 365 days a year ;) and he has not gone out 1 during my pregnancy and wouldn't go out without me. If its wasn't out of his system I'd slap it out. Jk lol. He actually quit drinking for me ;)!!! I just like normal sober men , not to say a drink is bad mine just drinks alot if he drank at all so it was best to let it all go.

Im 20 and hubs is 22- so needless to say out lives did what seems to be come to a stop for us. Not that we didnt want this baby or werent ready, we wanted to get pregnant...were just young parents so ofcourse we were going out. However now with pregnancy my hubby enjoys staying home with me while he drinks a few beers and watches football or does whatever! And it helps that we live in a small town with nothing to do lol. He is usmc so its a MIL town. He is very responsible and has been outstanding throughout my pregnancy. When we would go home to florida he always wants me to go out with him and his friends and i dont mind it- be there DD and let them have fun. Because we dont see our closest friends much being as were both from the same place yet live in a diff state where he is based.

Im 20 and hubs is 22- so needless to say out lives did what seems to be come to a stop for us. Not that we didnt want this baby or werent ready, we wanted to get pregnant...were just young parents so ofcourse we were going out. However now with pregnancy my hubby enjoys staying home with me while he drinks a few beers and watches football or does whatever! And it helps that we live in a small town with nothing to do lol. He is usmc so its a MIL town. He is very responsible and has been outstanding throughout my pregnancy. When we would go home to florida he always wants me to go out with him and his friends and i dont mind it- be there DD and let them have fun. Because we dont see our closest friends much being as were both from the same place yet live in a diff state where he is based.

If u girls allow it. U really can't ***** about it. U agree its ok for them to go party. I'm only 28 and I got it out of my system years ago. If my hubby felt that need , I'd feel the need to leave. I do understand some country places love to drink but its your choice if u allow it or not. My hubby is content just chillin w me. We go out to movies dinners lunch we shop we travel snowboard there's lots to do besides drink.

If u girls allow it. U really can't ***** about it. U agree its ok for them to go party. I'm only 28 and I got it out of my system years ago. If my hubby felt that need , I'd feel the need to leave. I do understand some country places love to drink but its your choice if u allow it or not. My hubby is content just chillin w me. We go out to movies dinners lunch we shop we travel snowboard there's lots to do besides drink.

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