Category: Neuroscience

A common thread in my couples therapy practice with those who struggle to make change is a strong negativity bias. The needle on the “Geiger counter” of their relationship is bouncing up and down in the red. In the worst… Read more »

Linda Graham MFT looks at recent research in social neuroscience from the new book, Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect. Not being connected socially is literally bad for your health. The need to connect goes back to being… Read more »

Linda Graham, MFT looks at how to make relationship changes by more clearly seeing your role in the dynamic and better able to tolerate what you see. She lights a path towards the goal of relational intelligence while rewiring your… Read more »

Linda Graham, MFT offers this powerful tool to help get through and actually rewire challenging relational experiences resulting in emotional pain. There’s a teaching story in the Buddhist tradition that can guide us in repairing and rewiring any troubling experiences… Read more »

Linda Graham, MFT looks at the “how” and neuroscience of boundary setting in relationships. Developmental psychologists have found that the human brain is capable of distinguishing between self and others by six months of age. The capacity of theory of… Read more »

Rick Hanson, PhD looks at the importance of being open to love, which is as natural as breathing and is woven into our DNA. Take a breath right now, and notice how abundant the air is, full of life-giving oxygen… Read more »

Do you and your partner ever dwell on the positive in your relationship? Maybe you should. It’s really easy to dwell on the negative in our personal lives and relationships. The brain is wired to have a negativity bias. In other… Read more »

There’s a myth that won’t seem to die in popular understanding of anger. Back in the 1960’s, psychology (doing the best it could as a very young science) put forth the notion that “venting” your anger, letting it all hang… Read more »

From your nervous system’s point of view, there are a fairly limited number of ways to respond to an argument. You can find yourself in one of the knee-jerk reactions such as fight, flight, or freeze. You can roar and… Read more »