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Emma White The inspiring mum of 6 who dedicates her time to supporting others. While battling with her own demons, she continues to be the voice for others unable to speak out. Her controversial yet heartfelt writing is a lifeline to many. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram.

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This was really tough to read, so god only knows how you managed to keep this bottled up. I do hope you have been able to find your deserved happy ever after. Thank you for the strength it took to share. Xx

Oh wow! That has really pulled at my heart strings! I can relate to the neglect (not be personally) but I am now a full time carer for my two nieces due to there mother my own sister neglecting them! But as for the rest… maybe in time you’ll be able to tell you wife and let a bit off weight off your shoulders, your a strong man by the sounds off things and you’ve made a massive step by sharing this storey with all thay read Emma’s blog, a massive cyber cuddle xxx

Oh you brave man….i found. It difficult to read let alone be the victim and carry it around with you!!! I hope you find the strength to tell your wife as it will help you lift some of the pain you have come this far to share it and that will help by talking about it…. I hope you can now move on and live your long and happy life xxx

I can resonate to everything you have written, my life was the same except it was my dad, drink was an issue also. Time doesn’t heal but you do learn to cope, your wife will understand it took ages for me to tell my partner as I didn’t want to taint our relationship but he loved me enough to listen and not judge, you sound strong and I bet your are an amazing husband and father

What a very strong person you are… anyone going through something like this may not of come out the other end like you have. My advice is no one will judge you on this talk about it but in your own time. You are an extremely brave man and your ability to get through this is a huge credit to you. Well done and your an inspiration to others that may have been through similar and may now feel they aren’t alone xxx

Thank u for sharing. I often feel its harder for men to talk about this sort of thing. I have a friend who was raped by his baby sitter. Lovely friendly lady but sadly thats how they get u. You are doing great. Be proud of yourself and all u achieve. Takecare of u and your family

Wow firstly well done for finally finding the strength to open up that must have been one of the worst this you have ever had to do. Secondly well done for making the choice to remove her from your life.
Talk to your wife, tell her what you went through, every single detail and tell her what it does to you mentally I’m sure she will provide you with the love and support you need to open up and let it out. A problem shared really is a problem halved. Just letting it out will allow you to let go and move on. It’s something that will stay with you forever and I can’t promise your ever going to understand any of it but u will learn to adapt to it being part if who your are.
So many people on the group will help and guide you with no judgement.
Sending all my love and strength to help you through this xx

Jesus this made me cry I can’t even imagine the pain you must have been through as a child. I too was abused as a child by my stepmother , she would beat me too but it was the psychological abuse that was the worst. When I was taken into care at 10 I spent most of my child acting up, partly because of the abuse but also because I was getting severely bullied and so I cut class, stole and did bad things, I didn’t understand what love was. I still have issues because of the abuse too but honestly I think you should tell your wife about the rape because it will feel like a weight has been lifted off your chest.

I salute your immense courage in bringing this terrible part of your life to light. While the actions themselves are despicable, the break in trust feels absolutely the worst betrayal as well as her inability to have taken responsibility for her actions. I wish you long years of happiness with your family and hope this is a first step to talking with those who truly love you.