Seriously considering changing midwifes

At booking I told the midwife I was under a consultant last time as I have fibromyalgia and was deemed high risk - I was never referred to a consultant and it wasn't until I went in at 18wks with hip pain and other pain that she said was SPG and I said I thought it was a fibromyalgia flare up that she said oh you have fibromyalgia (it's written in notes) speak to your consultant your due an appointment- turns out she never referred me so put in a urgent referral !

So today I thought I'd question the other bits they told me no on and that I argued with and have brought up at every appointment since !

GBS - had it last pregnancy
Was told last time around that I will be treated every pregnancy- this time midwife said no, not even going to test me and have to have private test if that's what I wanted to do.
Guess what - consultant said I definitely need to be tested at 34wks !!!

GTT - had the test in last pregnancy as hi risk for it and guess midwife said no this pregnancy. So I questioned this today too and the consultant said you should be getting this let me see your 27week bloods form - he tutted and crossed out routine on glucose and put GTT and by this point he was pretty peeved!!!

I really argued these points with my midwife and she failed me on all counts.

Plus I'm pretty sure it was her who when I was in agony breastfeeding my son and she failed to diagnose mastitis which turned into sepsis and I was in HDU for a week.

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What's scary was she was over seeing a student midwife at booking which is why I really pushed these points at booking and then every other time I've seen her which has been at 16weeks, 18 weeks with pelvis pain and then 19 weeks after a small car accident so she's has plenty of chances !!!

If I change I would have to get a bus for half an hour then walk 15/20mins instead of a 5 min walk - I feel punished 🙈

Oh hun sorry your being put through that, glad the consultant is on your side and helping. I know things seem to change in every area. I got diagnosed with group B strep and was told once diagnosed your treated every pregnancy (this is our first miracle baby) but other mums said its not the same in there area and same with other things like GTT. Hope you get it all sorted now. I would definitely speak with the midwifery team about it as it may not be the midwife bit new policies. But if your unhappy with her you have every right to ask to change midwife. ❤

Oh hun sorry your being put through that, glad the consultant is on your side...

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13/09/2017

Oh hun sorry your being put through that, glad the consultant is on your side and helping. I know things seem to change in every area. I got diagnosed with group B strep and was told once diagnosed your treated every pregnancy (this is our first miracle baby) but other mums said its not the same in there area and same with other things like GTT. Hope you get it all sorted now. I would definitely speak with the midwifery team about it as it may not be the midwife bit new policies. But if your unhappy with her you have every right to ask to change midwife. ❤

You would of thought that the midwifes follow the consultants leads.

He was really shocked that they didn't even put in for a GBS test - his exact words "well I don't agree with that" 🙈

I felt like a right tale tit 😂

They are also missing vol 1 of 2 from my notes from my sons birth which wasn't straight forward and I've my birth choices appointment next week 🙈

Sounds like someone or some people need there heads bashing together 🍑

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13/09/2017

Sounds like someone or some people need there heads bashing together 🍑

🙈
How I didn't lose it I don't know - it's been a stressful few weeks.

My anxiety levels over this birth are huge - I've waited ages for my birth choices appointment as no one could tell me why I had to have a emergency c section last time - dr said one of those things - the midwife last time said pelvis was too small.

I really wanted to discuss what's in my notes to make my decision but if vol 1 is missing how am I going to be able to do that

I'm not going to go trough another traumatic birth because my pelvis is too small but I'm not going through a c section with a 2yr old to look after and 2 flights of stairs if I can help it.

Is there not another midwife you can move to within the same place? I would put in a formal complaint about her as that is a disgrace! Good thing you have a good consultant. Hope you have a better experience going forward x

Is there not another midwife you can move to within the same place? I would p...

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13/09/2017

Is there not another midwife you can move to within the same place? I would put in a formal complaint about her as that is a disgrace! Good thing you have a good consultant. Hope you have a better experience going forward x

No each DR surgery has 1 mid wife allocated - the only other option is the same practice but quiet a journey away as I can use both or the local hospital with is even further away

Just feel really let down - I'm glad I stuck with my gut feeling though and continued to question

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