Sane Sex Life and Sane Sex Living eBook

Be it said, then, first, that it is the duty of every
bride and groom, before they engage in sexual commerce
with each other, to acquaint themselves thoroughly
with the anatomy and physiology of the sex organs
of human beings, both male and female, and to make
the acquirement of such knowledge as dispassionate
and matter-of-fact an affair as though they were studying
the nature, construction and functions of the stomach,
or the digestive processes entire, or the nature and
use of any of the other bodily organs. “Clear
and clean am I within and without; clear and clean
is every scrap and part of me, and no part shall be
held more sacred or preferred above another. For
divine am I, and all I am, or contain.”

Now the normal young man or woman would do just this,
would pursue a study of sex in this way, were it not
for the fact that they have been taught, time out
of mind, that to do this is immodest, not to say indecent
or positively wicked. They have longed to be possessed
of such knowledge, all their lives; in most cases more
than any other form of wisdom that it was possible
for them to make their own. But its acquirement
has been placed beyond their possible reach, and it
is only by the most clandestine and often nasty means
that they have attained what little they know.
But the quotation made in the last paragraph, sounds
the key note of what is right in this matter,
and the first effort made by the reader of these pages
should be to establish in himself or herself the condition
of mind which these lines embody.

And it had better be said, right here, that for most
young people this will be found to be no easy
thing to do. Nor should the reader feel ashamed
or chagrined, or at odds with himself or herself if
he or she finds such condition of affairs existing
in his or her case. For it is nothing for which
they are to blame. It is a misfortune and not
a fault. It is only the result of inherited and
inculcated (the word inculcated means kicked in)
ideas to which all “well bred” youths
have been subjected for centuries; the idea being that
the closer they were kept in the realm of innocence,
which is only another name for ignorance, the better
“bred” they are. And to pry one’s
self loose, to break or tear one’s self away
from such a mental view and condition as heredity
and such years of rigorous restraint have developed,
is no small task. Indeed, it often takes months,
and sometimes years, wholly to rid one’s self
of these deep seated and powerful, wrong views and
prejudices.

Remember this: that to the pure all things
are pure. But do not make the mistake of thinking
that this much abused sentence means that purity means
emptiness! It does no such thing.
On the contrary, it means fullness, to perfection.
It means that one should be possessed of the right
kind of stuff, and that the stuff should be of supreme
quality. So, in studying to obtain a knowledge
of sex organs and sex functions, in the human family,
the reader should not try to divest himself or herself
of all sex-passion and desire; but, on the contrary,
to make these of a sort of which he or she can be proud,
rather than ashamed of, rejoice in, rather than
suffer from.