Team green no more...

So here's my story. My DH didn't want to know the sex of the baby so with a lot of thought I decided that I would honor that for him. I was actually almost really excited about not finding out. So I go for my anatomy scan today and I brought my best friend with me bc DH couldn't get the time off work. I immediately told the lady that I didn't want to know and se said ok but she had to measure the babies "parts" as part of the test. When she went over it my friend said she thinks she knows what it is. While I was in the bathroom she asked the lady if she was right and she told her!!! I'm pissed at my friend for even asking but she said she didn't think she would actually answer her. But how dare the lady do that!!! So of course I wasn't going to let my friend know what my baby is and not know myself. Soooo.... We're team pink!!!! Charlotte Olivia it is :) But I'm still really mad. And now I have to pretend I don't know and keep a secret from DH. He would be so mad if he knew :/

So here's my story. My DH didn't want to know the sex of the baby so with a lot of thought I decided that I would honor that for him. I was actually almost really excited about not finding out. So I go for my anatomy scan today and I brought my best friend with me bc DH couldn't get the time off work. I immediately told the lady that I didn't want to know and se said ok but she had to measure the babies "parts" as part of the test. When she went over it my friend said she thinks she knows what it is. While I was in the bathroom she asked the lady if she was right and she told her!!! I'm pissed at my friend for even asking but she said she didn't think she would actually answer her. But how dare the lady do that!!! So of course I wasn't going to let my friend know what my baby is and not know myself. Soooo.... We're team pink!!!! Charlotte Olivia it is :) But I'm still really mad. And now I have to pretend I don't know and keep a secret from DH. He would be so mad if he knew :/

I'm sure that is disappointing and you have a right to be irritated with your friend. But I would tell your husband what happened and let him decide whether he wants to know. Just like you, he would probably be very upset if your friend knows and he doesn't. And it sounds like she's likely to let something "slip" so he'll find out anyway. Better that he feels disappointed rather than betrayed.

And I love the name.

I'm sure that is disappointing and you have a right to be irritated with your friend. But I would tell your husband what happened and let him decide whether he wants to know. Just like you, he would probably be very upset if your friend knows and he doesn't. And it sounds like she's likely to let something "slip" so he'll find out anyway. Better that he feels disappointed rather than betrayed.

Oh that sucks! Totally inappropriate both of your friend and the tech. But I agree with PPs. Tell your husband what happened and ask him if he wants to know. My husband would be furious if it slipped out that I knew and lied to him about it. Right now, it's not your fault. If you lie to your husband, though, it becomes your fault.

Oh that sucks! Totally inappropriate both of your friend and the tech. But I agree with PPs. Tell your husband what happened and ask him if he wants to know. My husband would be furious if it slipped out that I knew and lied to him about it. Right now, it's not your fault. If you lie to your husband, though, it becomes your fault.

honestly, I'm not sure the tech should be sharing that info with your friend without your permission - there's still confidentiality attached in my mind! But I'd be honest with your husband, he might choose to wait to find out, but I think he'd be way more mad if he found out you knew and pretended not to... besides, do you think you'll really be able to hide it until December?!

honestly, I'm not sure the tech should be sharing that info with your friend without your permission - there's still confidentiality attached in my mind! But I'd be honest with your husband, he might choose to wait to find out, but I think he'd be way more mad if he found out you knew and pretended not to... besides, do you think you'll really be able to hide it until December?!

I agree. It wasn't really your fault that you found out. Tell him it accidentally came out and now you and your friend know. That u didn't want to but now u do and give him the opportunity to know. He will only be mad at you if he finds out u knew and didn't tell him. And there's a HUGE chance of that happening when u start setting up nursery or shopping.. Just tell him :)

I agree. It wasn't really your fault that you found out. Tell him it accidentally came out and now you and your friend know. That u didn't want to but now u do and give him the opportunity to know. He will only be mad at you if he finds out u knew and didn't tell him. And there's a HUGE chance of that happening when u start setting up nursery or shopping.. Just tell him :)

I would tell him the lady slipped and said "she" or "her" at one point and u took it from there. When i was going that route of team green i wanted at least one person to know to pack a hospital bag for baby of outfits and bows if needed. But i dont think lying for so long would do good. Hes probably looking forward to sharing that moment and will be bummed if it was all a lie.

I would tell him the lady slipped and said "she" or "her" at one point and u took it from there. When i was going that route of team green i wanted at least one person to know to pack a hospital bag for baby of outfits and bows if needed. But i dont think lying for so long would do good. Hes probably looking forward to sharing that moment and will be bummed if it was all a lie.

they never need to 'measure' the genital area... that's weird. I'm pregnant with my 4th and they've never done that or even mentioned that. and also if you said you didn't want to know they shouldve/would've moved the screen so you couldn't see. I've had surprise genders and that's what they did for us.

they never need to 'measure' the genital area... that's weird. I'm pregnant with my 4th and they've never done that or even mentioned that. and also if you said you didn't want to know they shouldve/would've moved the screen so you couldn't see. I've had surprise genders and that's what they did for us.

It is very irritating. I am very mad at her. But I told DH and he's not mad... But he won't let me tell him. So now I have to figure out how I'm not going to slip. You guys are the only ones that know other than my nosy friend :)

It is very irritating. I am very mad at her. But I told DH and he's not mad... But he won't let me tell him. So now I have to figure out how I'm not going to slip. You guys are the only ones that know other than my nosy friend :)

I think the hardest part is going to be getting all gender neutral stuff even. though you know its a girl! I'm glad your husband took it ok - it definitely wasn't your fault... but I'd also mention something to your OB/midwife, that tech was way out of line!

I think the hardest part is going to be getting all gender neutral stuff even. though you know its a girl! I'm glad your husband took it ok - it definitely wasn't your fault... but I'd also mention something to your OB/midwife, that tech was way out of line!

I wouldn't have taken my friend in the 1st place especially if I didn't wanna know. when I went for my 1st scan I went alone I wanted only me God and the tech there when I seen my baby. and incase I wanted to keep the gender a secret I didn't have to worry about anyone telling because only I knew

I wouldn't have taken my friend in the 1st place especially if I didn't wanna know. when I went for my 1st scan I went alone I wanted only me God and the tech there when I seen my baby. and incase I wanted to keep the gender a secret I didn't have to worry about anyone telling because only I knew

I wouldn't have taken my friend in the 1st place especially if I didn't wanna know. when I went for my 1st scan I went alone I wanted only me God and the tech there when I seen my baby. and incase I wanted to keep the gender a secret I didn't have to worry about anyone telling because only I knew

I wouldn't have taken my friend in the 1st place especially if I didn't wanna know. when I went for my 1st scan I went alone I wanted only me God and the tech there when I seen my baby. and incase I wanted to keep the gender a secret I didn't have to worry about anyone telling because only I knew

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