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Sunday, 27 October 2013

A couple of years ago, I posted this blog post about my annoyance that I could find any religious chocolates during the festive season.

Alas, I stumbled across this advent calendar during a regular grocery shop! So excited by it. I doubt the chocolates come in baby Jesus shape but its definitely a step in the right direction for me! Hooray for the meaningful chocolate company! A star for me is more symbolic than Santa. In our house we like Santa, but we love Jesus and the Christmas story more ; )

I think I need to stock up on these calendars as gifts for the God-kids.

Friday, 18 October 2013

When Little was a baby, I'm pretty sure that few people heard her cry. If she looked as thoughbshe was about to cry, I carried her...if she started to make a pre-cry noise (you know, that snuffly noise), I fed her... I didn't put her into any kind of routine and she found her own rhythm by 3 months, but it was still pretty fluid. In fact, it was only at age 18 months when she began daycare 4 days a week that I can say we had 'a routine'. I didn't have any books like the baby whisperer etc, I just did what I felt was right at the time... I trusted my maternal instincts:

So, when I came across this article, I couldn't help but wonder if it was the 'African' attitude to parenting in me that led me to approach parenting in this way...? At the time, I was led by strangers and non-family members to believe that 'this is a fluke', 'you're so 'lucky'' and also that 'the second one will seem like a nightmare because to get 2 babies who are so chilled won't happen!'

Well, so far, baby no.2, Mini Miss O is just as chilled as her sister. She rarely cries. I read her, as I did with her sister. I can tell when she's hungry or tired or wants stimulating or is being over-stimulated by her excited sister. Tears just hardly come out of her little peepers. I guess I try to respond as soon as I can. I did the same with Little (in fact, my younger sister would laugh at how quickly I'd jump up and pick Little Miss O up) and she's no more impatient than other 5 year olds we know. Basically, I don't think it hurt my girls to respond to their needs when I can. That said, many people swear by the 'crying it out' method too. I don't have the balls for that. I physically can't handle hearing my babies cry without trying to fix it with my mammaries!

If you haven't come across incultureparent.com before- check it out. Sometimes looking at what others do, helps us reevaluate what we do ourselves. I'm all about being reflective and learning from those who've gone before me xxx

Sunday, 13 October 2013

So, having moved house recently and having dragged our feet with finding a new church- we restarted our church hopping adventure today.This time a baptist church. I'm one who finds it hard to get going with the church thing, but when I do-I get INTO it. Though the pace of the sermon today was a but slow, having my trusty Bible app meant I could make notes easily- and provided I don't lose them by next week Sunday, the learnings should serve me well for the week- until my next fix.

I'm not gonna try to re-preach; I'm but a baby neonate Christian. I will however share my notes/take home messages from this morning because as the Reverend spoke, I intermittently thought 'hmmm, this sounds like the 'plan', 'pray' part of my blog. Take home message for me was 'learn the lesson, acquire the skill, pray on it and then start planning yourself missy!'

I try to think of myself in God's shoes sometimes. I was made in his image, right and we're both loving parents, aren't we? So, take Mini Miss O for example. The girl is literally trying to run around. She is JUST 5 months, has just about sussed out 'sitting' never mind 'walking before you run'. Obviously I know that isn't how it works, yet she doesn't. If you attempt to move her, she starts trying to escape by foot! I just laugh at the irony of course. Maybe that's what God thinks...

'Mrs O, your 3 bed house is not even tidy, yet you want a 5 bed!'

And in my head I'm saying

'Hey but big G, if you give me a 5 bed without me having to work for it, I'm gonna hire a cleaner to keep it shiny as you like it!'

#God must be rolling his eyes at me! ; )

Today's message spoke to me. I got it.

The points made were (in my own non-pastoral vocab):* The road to nowhere is difficult to build- if you don't where you're going, how will you know how to get there. #aint that the truth!* Before God can use us, he needs to make us useable #duh! How can you make an omelette without first removing the yolk and white from the shell!* Believe in god despite our weaknesses #this is harder to digest for me* Ask God for help with addressing your weaknesses but don't sit around waiting for a flashing neon sign to guide you #pray-make a plan- do something productive!* Wait for God's time! #patience is a virtue indeed and like many. I suffer from hurry sickness- I want it all and I want it now. Trouble is, like many still, I'm probably not 'ready' for all that I think I want. I try to take something now from every experience-to learn the lesson in order to move onto the next. Easier said than done when you're neither feeling the lesson nor feeling patient but necessary all the same.