Knowing when to turn off

Porn stars live on a whole other level of sexual activity to the rest of us. Porn people live on Planet Porn, where everyone has threesomes, group sex, rough sex, anal sex and Viagra sex. On this planet, spitting and choking is the norm, most of the women are bisexual and everybody does everybody else.

And that's off-camera.

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In Confessions Of The Hundred Hottest Porn Stars (Quiver, £14.99),

Penthouse magazine publicist Lainie Speiser gathered 100 of her closest porn-star friends together in one book to dish the dirt on the wild sex life of your average porn star. A fascinating peek into the sex lives of porn's gladiators. "My favourite porn stars have always been the so-called sex addicts or nymphos," she says. "They love their jobs." Porn star Ryan Keely confesses, "I had sex with five strippers at once in Las Vegas and they were all blondes. My jaw hurt the entire day."

Many of the porn stars' confessions took place, girl-talk style, at 3am in a hotel room while at least slightly intoxicated, which explains some of the random confessions. For instance, Ryan confesses, "The best sex I ever had was with Justine Joli. This girl knows her business when it comes to pussy," she says, before adding, "I'm like Octopussy because I'm so multi-orgasmic. My goal is to be fisted."

But many porn stars suffer from what psychiatrists call hypersexual disorder, a consuming and compulsive interest in having sex. Take porn star Little Lupe Fuentes, for instance, who describes a wild night out: "I went to a swinger's party with my boyfriend and porn star Evan Seinfeld. I watched him f*** eight women in a row, one after another. I was so wet watching him doing it, but not before he f***s me, of course."

What separates porn stars from mere mortals is the porn star maths. One 23-year-old porn star says she's had sex with more than 200 men. A 35-year-old says she's had sex with more than 2,000 people, give or take 50 or 100. And a male porn star confesses, "I've had sex with 16 women in the past two weeks." Not to be judgmental or anything, but his crabs probably have chlamydia.

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Sharon Mitchell, former porn star and now director of Adult Industry Medical Health Care (AIM) - a testing and information centre for sex workers in the adult entertainment business - says that the average life span of a porn star is "six months to three years. I see them come in when they are 18 and I try to tell them what they are getting themselves into." Young hopefuls think it's cool to be a porn star, but Mitchell says, "They are basically playing Russian roulette with their lives."

But living on the edge is what the lifestyle of the "porners" is all about. And judging from the confessions, the sex life both on the porn set and off is a little blurred to say the least.

Sunny Leone recalls an all-girl threesome at a porn convention that ended with her boyfriend finishing her off as a fourth. Meanwhile, Valentina Vaughn says, "I think my sex life is abnormal compared to everyone else's. If I sleep with someone, I never speak to him again, because I don't want to start with someone staying in my bed. I don't go for people who like one-night stands like I do, because those people are usually assholes."

Shelley Lubben, a former porn star who has since found God, says that as a porn star she felt "totally degraded and dehumanised". She says that the porn-star lifestyle leads to drug and alcohol addictions and that porn performers are often physically traumatised (too much anal) as well as psychologically traumatised (too many facials). She helps develop 12-step programmes for porn stars' drug, sex, and alcohol addictions. Shelley now crusades to help porn stars leave the business and find God, recruiting at porn conventions. "If I can get just one girl to leave the business," she says, "I've done my job." Shelley says that most of the girls were on drugs or alcohol while shooting scenes. "I've seen girls vomiting in a bathroom after a scene," she says. "A lot of the time when I was shooting I was intoxicated."

But alt-porn star Misti Dawn doesn't feel degraded in the hipster alt-porn world she lives in, where having sex with people you work with is fun. "I guess you would call it an orgy," she says. "It was James Deen, Joanna Angel, Jessie Lee, Draven Star, Nova and me. At one point James was f***ing me from behind while Joanna and Draven were going down on me, and the rest were playing with me at the front. I can't think of anything better than to have sex with two people with sexy accents who say dirty things while doing the hell out of you."

While female porn stars usually have a short shelf life in porn years, the few male porn stars in the business fare better. Nick Manning, who has been in more than 500 films, gives some insight into life as a male porn star and says, "I am self-centred because I concentrate on myself. Being a porn star takes a lot of dedication. My house is like the Playboy Mansion except I'm young [43] and healthy and can enjoy it to the fullest. I like having a lot of people around and, sure, I sleep with some of the women living in my house. Other times it's just people shooting at the house."

And one of the oldest men working in porn, the man who has seen and done it all, is Ron Jeremy, listed in the Guinness World Records for "the most appearances in adult films". His numbers are more than 2,000, so doing the maths on him would take it up to at least 4,500 sexual partners. At 57, he is "finally" ready to settle down and have a family. "I would like to get married," he says. "I would like to fall in love and have a child. I still think I can find that right person."

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But like all inhabitants of Planet Porn, old habits die hard. "Ideally," says Jeremy, "if I met a woman who brought other women home, that would be great."