Women's sexual fantasies less depraved than men's

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The novel Fifty Shades of Grey may have Britains housewives experiencing something of a sexual renaissance, but womens steamiest thoughts are still tame compared with the male imagination, scientists claim.

While men spend more time thinking about sex than their partners overall, a survey found that women have more fantasies which could be described as pleasant.
Men, on the other hand, are more likely to occupy their minds with wilder and more exploratory ideas such as swinging with other couples or taking part in an orgy, researchers found.

Women more frequently imagined being forced into submission in a sexual scenario  but they also took less enjoyment from the idea than men.
Nieves Moyano Muñoz, who led the study, said: These fantasies are not very frequent but compared with men, women have more. But they experience it in a more negative way.
The researchers, from the University of Granada, questioned 2,250 Spanish people who had been in a heterosexual relationship for at least six months about the frequency and nature of their sexual thoughts.
Their results, published in the Anales de Psicología journal, showed that almost all participants had experienced a pleasant sexual fantasy at some point in their life, and 80 per cent had also had a negative one.
The team said there were not significant differences between mens and womens racy thoughts, but that there were subtle differences between the sexes in the scenarios that they imagined.
Although men had more sexual fantasies in total, women reported having pleasant fantasies a few times a month  a greater frequency than men.
Men were more likely to admit having either positive or negative thoughts about experimental activities, such as being promiscuous, being a swinger or participating in an orgy, although most said that they only had such fantasies once a year or at some point in their life.
Ms Muñoz added: These are not very frequently experienced  in normal life men and women have very similar fantasies. They have this type of fantasy about one or two times in their whole life.Sexual submission was the least enjoyable fantasy among women, with most imagining it at least once in their life, while for men the most negative thoughts involved homosexual activities.

The survey was aimed at helping determine whether unpleasant fantasies harm the development of healthy sexual behaviour.
Researchers pointed out that imagining sex could be helpful in some ways, for example by encouraging sexual desire or arousal.
They suggested that therapists should not only ask whether or not people have fantasies about sex, but also consider their attitude towards them.

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I like variety. Sue me. At least it keeps me mentally, and (most likely) socially healthy; what the hell do the delusions of women give them?

Delusions, that's what. Pleasant is another term for 'possibility'. I'm sorry, but please stop expounding on your 'possibility'. It will probably not become reality. And that's unhealthy. Although...a lot of men have this problem too...where was I going with this? We're all fucked up. Done.

As Sartre noted in his contemplation on Hell in No Exit, the true horror is other members.

I have to agree with this, guys. We are the driving force behind porn, and I'm trying to imagine a woman fantasizing about puking in a bucket when her gag reflex is violated by one man while two more DP her corn-hole.

Generalizations always turn out to be untrue in specific cases, but I bet you could make this blanket assumption in everyday life and be right 85% of the time.

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I have to agree with this, guys. We are the driving force behind porn, and I'm trying to imagine a woman fantasizing about puking in a bucket when her gag reflex is violated by one man while two more DP her corn-hole.

Generalizations always turn out to be untrue in specific cases, but I bet you could make this blanket assumption in everyday life and be right 85% of the time.

Yeah.. there are a lot of things I think are real biology.... But homophobia isn't one of them. That's gotta be a societal thing. Something about, quote-unquote: "being a man"... You "do" others.. you can't get "done to".

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I can't fap to this. No, seriously. Every time I see porn with clothes on, I'll go, "Oh, COME ON!". At the very least there should be some unbuttoning action about a minute or two after I see them clothed. But porn where the actors are fucking with most of their clothes intact is a complete boner killer.

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Bullshit. Some women have some... sometimes scary and troubling fantasies. I want to know who these scientists talked to, and did they adjust their poll sampling for plain-faced bullcrap? The small possibility that people wouldn't divulge their more extreme fantasies, and some others (guys) might be more willing to publicly own up to more of what they fantasize about. Too simple to just say men are freakier because blah blah our surveys plus this new bestseller, something something "pleasant" bullshit, "I f-bang to fluttering butterflies and sunsets" and shit. Women can come up with some pretty out there shit. I'd start with Anais Nin or something earlier before I'd stick to 50 Shades as the prime example of female fantasy.

And as many women as there are that participate in BDSM, I'd say a lot more women are thinking about that more than once in their lives. I'd say this cultural differences thing is playing a key part in the findings seeming skewed.

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Then you are not as liberal as you think you are. Alternatively, your upbringing could be liberal but you yourself ended up not being one. Upbringing is only part of your sexual development. The people you surround yourself with aka your friends, also affects this. Also, I did also mention societal expectation, which you probably adhered a lot to. The fact that our societies still condemn people who are attracted to their own sex speaks itself.

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Then you are not as liberal as you think you are. Alternatively, your upbringing could be liberal but you yourself ended up not being one. Upbringing is only part of your mental development. The people you surround yourself with aka your friends, also affects this thing. Also, I did also mention societal expectation, which you probably adhered a lot to.