A Top's Eye VIew.
I hope this will be fun, funny, complicated, opinionated and occasionally irritating. Say what you will. Agree, disagree, complain, rant, rave. It's fine. If I say something that offends you, go somewhere else. If you agree with me or any of my musings, please share this with your lifestyle compatriots.

Monday, March 2, 2015

Why 50 Shades is Good for the Lifestyle

50 Shades of Grey made an "eye-popping" $85 million on its opening weekend over Valentine's, with $132 million in box office its first 10 days of release, according to Variety. Here's why it's good for all of us, Fellow Kinksters, regardless of what you think of the books or film.

With the wild success of the motion picture 50 Shades of Grey proving, at least, that R-rated adult-oriented films are popular again (after taking a decade-long hiatus from studio slates and multiplexes), there's an even more interesting phenomenon happening, and I contend it's good for the lifestyle.

Interest, even a passing one, in BDSM, bondage, spanking and D/s is good. Why? Because maybe—just maybe—we might be perceived as less freaky than we were a few weeks ago. And perhaps our predilections may seem just a little less strange, wicked, perverted or even criminal.

Who cares? you say. I agree. Fuck 'em. But if you ever were forced to come out to someone you didn't want to or weren't ready to (as I was a few years ago to some of my kids—that's a whole other story) it would have been a lot fucking easier to simply say, "Well, kids, you know that 50 Shades? Yeah, I'm like that." Even if they didn't read the books or hadn't seen the films, such an explanation (regardless of how superficial or incorrect) is now universally understood and instantly more widely accepted than it was just a mere three weeks ago.

Popular free porn site Pornhub released some rather astonishing statistics on the heels of the release of 50 Shades of Grey after Valentine's Day weekend. After the release of the film, Pornhub notes searches by women of just the word 'submission' alone increased 219%, 'dominate' up 196%, 'bdsm' up 186%, 'spanking' up 158% and 'bondage' up 131% (see charts).

Regardless of sex, the word 'submission' was searched 55% more, 'bdsm' 42% more, 'dominate' 40% more and 'flogging' up 33%.

You can see how the motion picture has influenced the interests of people in our twisted little universe. We read a lot in the community about how lame, vanilla, shallow and vapid the books and films portray BDSM, D/s and our lifestyle. All true. But just by bringing it to the forefront, making it ever-so-slightly more mainstream makes what we do less "perverted."

Hell, after all those searches, I'm thinking there may be a batch of noobs looking for their new soul Dom out there. Just go down to Find Us at the bottom of the page. You can contact me via the link. ;-)

About Me

Motto: Conversio Virium (latin for "exchange of forces")
I am a MDHL (Male Dominant Het Leather) and am a proud member of the Monarchs. I am a Master and daddy to Lizzie.
I believe discipline, caring attention, focused instruction and mastery of myself and my sub are the first steps in a meaningful D/s relationship. I'm enjoy bondage, impact play, spanking, erotic humiliation, humiliation & debasing, and scenes mixing sex and delivery of pain. I feel true protocol comes from respect, trust, communication and understanding.
Because of my work and family I live the lifestyle 24/7 as best I can and am happy to have the balance I have.
I enjoy not just finding play partners but meeting new people, making new friends and appreciating the connections that come from that. The serendipity I discover in meeting great people in the scene has been a pleasant surprise.