“Yet, this one far cousin (which my mother insisted on inviting because she invited me to her wedding years ago) has decided to bring her less than two years baby.”

I think the OP ducked out of this thread a long time ago.

Since she didn’t mention an exact age, I’m taking the above quote to mean the child is less than 24 months (could be 23 months?), but not a newborn, not an infant, no longer exclusively breastfed, etc. I’m thinking of a toddler/pre-schooler who is capable of being very mobile and very vocal.

I have to say you were pretty harsh in describing your hatred for children and probably shouldn’t have gone that far into detail, but then again you may have been typing this in a sarcastic kind of way. I do, however, agree with your stance on no children. Not to say I couldn’t tolerate a child or baby at my wedding, but it definitely would not be favorable to me. Hopefully, either your cousin will realize that this is not the time for the baby to meet the grandparents, or, unfortunately, the grandparents will be so wrapped up with the baby that it stays away from you? I don’t really know what a win is in the situation if he baby does come.

I’m childfree by choice, and I’m very much like you, OP. I’m nervous and uncomfortable around children, and frankly, I just don’t like them or the lifestyle that comes with them. I’m actually trying to get my tubes tied! I wouldn’t hurt a child or anything like that, but my husband and I always try to keep children out of as many aspecgs of our lives as possible. We go to restaurants that aren’t child friendly, stay away from child friendly events, etc. I hate it when people try to make me hold a baby – I have to say, “No, I’d rather not” or “I’d prefer not to” multiple times (once I counted 8 times…) before people give up and leave me alone. I don’t understand when people expect everyone else to be as enamored with their child as they are. Not everyone likes children, just like not everyone likes dogs. Why is it a big deal with some people? Your cousin is being an asshole.

If you’d like some recommendations for childfree message boards, PM me! Your vent would be quite well recieved, and no one would bash you for your preferences.

sweetpink: I don’t think it’s that serious… I think that poster was just venting as her wedding video got ruined by moronic parents. If anything, she actually hopes that the kid turns out better than his/her idiotic parents. Usually evil-child-haters-from-hell don’t wish good things like that on a kid.

Also, I don’t know who these people are that force their baby on you. Seriously. I didn’t want anyone holding/touching my kid, even family. I certainly wasn’t just going to drop her in someone’s lap. Especially if they showed the kind of interest you say you do.

I think the OP is very dramatic, especially if she claims she wants kids one day.

petitsummerbride: you are ok not weird at all I have two kids practically adults (17 and 18) and I don’t want children at my wedding I don’t really like the company of little ones for an extended amount of time 2 hours tops, that being said call your cousin and just say wish you could come but understand if you can’t.

sweetpink: I don’t give a damn what your invisible sky man thinks – or rather doesn’t, as he/she/it doesn’t exist.

Something I forgot to mention in my original post – myself and H (who actually does hate kids, with a passion) had made it crystal clear that no child under 10 was invited. His moronic cousins obviously can’t read.

They arrived 20 minutes late – ceremony had already started – ruined our vows and then fucked off. 15 years later and I haven’t fucking forgiven them and my Mother-In-Law (who died 4 years ago) never spoke to either of them again.