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if you do not spank them, & the grandparents are, & you dont want them to ...you need to tell them so. i know elderly can be set in their ways, but these are your children. just because they're a grandparent-they dont have the right. Id let them know..'hands off my kids'!

No. My dad doesn't babysit my children and I would definitely not be okay with him spanking them. My mother, if she were alive, would be a different story. She believed in talking EVERYTHING out and rarely spanked me so no, I would not be upset if she spanked one of my children. My hubs parents, not even close. They wouldn't dare. They both think that I am too easy on my children and think that I should spank all the time so again, my kids don't stay with them because they have no respect for my parenting and would spank my children in a heartbeat. Sorry, you asked a simple question and I ranted, lol. :)

My Mom watches my daughter just as much as I do b/c I work full time. I allow her to do whatever she feels fit. She doesn't like to spank and will only do it in very extreme situations. But my Mom know that I trust her judgement and she lets me know if she has to do this, which has maybe been twice.

No. I don't spank my children, so it definitely isn't okay with me if anyone else does it. I believe a well-deposited swat on the bottom has its time and place, but I personally have never felt the need (yet...maybe...)