Tag Archive for health

I was happy to say goodbye to 2016. I think so many people were. It was like a whole internet thing. Now 2017 is here and I’ve stepped on a few rakes already. I guess perhaps no one should blame an entire YEAR for what is actually LIFE.

So I have a surgery date on the map , 2/9 – this month will be filled with pre op tests and also focused production for a final push in my shop before I go on a hiatus. I have NO idea what that will look like. There are so many questions, but all of it is unknown. I must get to the other side, and I will.

There’s a quiet calm right now flowing through my fingertips. This is where great design comes from. I know that the beauty in my life comes from source. There was a lot of loss this past year for me. In bad and good ways.

Some of those ways purely sat on my attitude. I hardened. There were moments coming up in this business where knives went into my back. I am still climbing, always climbing. There’s always a new view to find and there’s always unstable ground.

With all of this the blaring message is clear to me and where I want my work to continue to evolve towards. SELF CARE is paramount. The items I create are rooted in self care and the take away is that no one can be whole, without nourishing their minds, bodies and souls. My customers come to me for this and I want to bring more than ever to the table in this sense. But first I have to take care of my health and see where I land. Its totally a crapshoot waiting game. I am planning things, with beautiful people and I feel really confident that in 2017 I will have a HUGE announcement.

Follow me at SELF CARE CAFE on Instagram. My dear friend and alliance with this project Michelle will be co hosting this with me. The goal is to promote healthy self care rituals, products, meals and brands, for now ;).

Do you ever feel like you are tired of having to explain yourself or stand up for your emotions? Do you find yourself in social situations just feeling out of place, like no one could possibly understand how your mind works ? Have you ever had to defend what you’re doing in your line of work or your passions?

You are not and have never been alone. At some point there has to be a moment where you accept your light and don’t feel the need to explain it to anyone who isn’t open to receiving it. That is a gift we have to give ourselves. All you have inside of your special projection is exactly that, a special and unique projection. It’s not meant to mirror or be like anyone elses, despite how comfortable that feels for you and for others.

Why am I writing about this? Well for one, I am going to write more. As my social networks grow I notice each platform attempting to cash in on that success by forcing me to promote my content. I view that as a form of corporate bullying so I’ve vowed to try to just sprinkle my magic wherever it’s going to be received openly and if writing what’s in my heart is that I’m going to do that.

Someone came to me recently upset about being bullied in their life. I had these flash backs of being a small child in our old townhouse neighborhood. Sitting on the bathroom floor while my father dug gum and suckers out of my hair with ice and peanut butter. Truthfully I was teased endlessly by neighborhood children. They called me “goofy” and it was the hood nickname for me whenever I walked by. “Oh here comes goofy!” Then began the small tortures. I never really complained, I just accepted it and came sulking in with shit in my hair from these rude little rapscallions. Sitting there on that bathroom floor my dad would quip me out on all of the things I was supposed to say to come back to these kids. There was one line that he would remind me of through adult hood when coworkers would get to me, or even family.

“I’m very sorry, but you must have mistaken me for someone who has to put up with your crap.”

I smile now when I think of it, I don’t often repeat it but it’s a mantra for sure. It might not be sweetest sounding of phrases but when you remind yourself that whoever is projecting awfulness onto you, just for being yourself is coming from a place of misunderstanding and really misalignment. You can refresh yourself knowing that you are not obligated to agree or engage. You’re not obligated to explain or anything either. I never fought those kids back, and actually was relieved when we moved away but that obviously has it’s own host of challenges. That’s not to say I haven’t fought back in my life, or am saying you never should. I am saying however, that at a certain point the need to engage becomes less and less.

We make an agreement to allow ourselves to be pushed around even from a young age. We are so open to receiving and pleasing sometimes that it makes us targets – additionally sometimes we are so closed that we are targeting without knowing it. I don’t blame those kids, I know they had a lot of pain too.

I was weird, I was different. I had trouble communicating from some hearing issues I had and have always been highly sensitive. That means I am interested in a lot of things that others are missing and bringing those things to the surface all the time. It seems strange and out of place, often. In my adult life this “weird” outsider cloak remains. I have done my best in my life to embrace this and show others joy from this place of mine. That feels like a duty to me to communicate through this lens I’ve been given. The beautiful part about this is that anyone can do this and has the lens too.

The next time you feel like being different is the wrong thing because someone has something to say about your path, remember the words of my father digging candy from my locks – You are NOT obligated to put up with the negativity of others about your journey. Simply find your graces, and exit. Make the agreement that you are more important to yourself. It’s OK. Yes, it is!

Rocked out Skullboy’s Punk Rock Flea market yesterday. What a fun event to do. In a serious reflection phase right now heading into winter. A lot happened over the summer, and now the fall is going to slip away soon enough. My work evolves and things fall away, relationships and ideas that sounded so awesome as first go to the back burner. What’s my biggest priority?

What’s yours?

Glad to be able to get out and do events. I am naturally inclined to stay home, I think most people are now. Kind of a pity. This is my friend Geraldine, she’s an amazing artist herself .

So onward into winter – new scent notes came in and I am busy mixing those into some potions of the season. Those will emerge soon enough.

I hope that you all are enjoying fall and settling into things. Thank you to those of you who came out to support me at all of the events that I have done over the last few months. It means a lot to me. Truly.

Harvested the last of the marigolds and felt overwhelmed to be where I am right now. There are so many obstacles in life, and wellness and health is one of those things you cannot compromise on. I am looking forward to spending more time on my health and inspiring the health of others while I continue to make close to earth products. I’m eternally grateful to the fistful of people in the business I can trust and support my successes. As you grow – it’s harder to find people who genuinely support your happiness. When you find those people, treat them well and hold them close.

Please take a minute to view my updated Butterfly Wellness tab – on this site. I added some new details about that project and would love for you to join me on the facebook community I created for it. I need your support and would love to support your own transformation!

Working on a few collaboration promotions with awesome artists and wellness giveaways in the pipeline soon so make sure you are tuned into @BETHKAYA on social media!!