Threesomes, Swinging & Kink: Utopia?

Getting your partner to agree to a threesome (extract)

There are quite a few pieces already written on this, but I’m going to try to break it down for you. Assuming you are with a partner in some sort of exclusive arrangement, and have met them via the vanilla world, it can be a worrying issue to bring up. If you are not exclusive, or met them via the swing or sex scene, you will likely be less concerned about how to discuss it. As women tend to feel more secure in raising the issue of adding a spare F for sex, this will mostly be discussed from the male perspective. This is not to say women are not the instigators: In a large number of couples, it is the woman who spearheads the conversation and is the more active unicorn hunter. These women just don’t really need advice on how to go about it.

There are a few different angles you need to consider, for which there may be trade-offs to negotiate:

One of the longest standing unexpressed desires can be the MFF threesome. Telling your partner can be tricky, especially if you are usually quite conservative or have fallen into a sexual rut. This chapter talks about all the different approaches you could take, to ensure a positive response and complete the first step towards making your MFF dream a reality.

Will they be upset that you asked for a threesome? Do they secretly wish for a threesome too? How can you convince your partner that a threesome is a good idea? How important is sexual compatibility in your relationship?