The current issue reports that if you post a straight-haired pic of yourself on a dating site, you will get twice as many hits as if you post a curly version!

It also says that 20 out of 22 kids prefer the straight-haired version when showed the same woman straight or curly.

I'm ashamed to admit that yes, this did dampen my feelings about transitioning. But when I told my husband he said, "Well, they're losers."

itsiliii

08-07-2011 12:48 PM

wowwwwwwwwww talk about discouraging curly heads! Ah well I dont care about page hits or kids choosing me LOL :D I wanna be all natural and kind to my hair :3

SusieSuze

08-07-2011 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by harmonyd
(Post 1736726)

But when I told my husband he said, "Well, they're losers."

You have an awesome husband.. listen to him because his opinion matters, while the opinions of people you don't even know do not matter AT ALL.

You've got a keeper there, be good to him. :)

ninja dog

08-07-2011 01:06 PM

I say that "In Style" and its surveys can kiss my wavy @ss.

supersoup

08-08-2011 11:07 PM

And do you know what I say to that article? If my curly hair really negatively influences someone's opinion of me that much, it probably wasn't a person I'd want to know anyway :wink:

Brinstarr

08-09-2011 03:42 AM

Ah, the good old beauty standard! You'd think people would get bored of straight hair all the time. Maybe think about what sort of hair at least fits their face whether straight or not? But no...

openseason

08-09-2011 11:53 AM

And do you know what I say to that article? If my curly hair really negatively influences someone's opinion of me that much, it probably wasn't a person I'd want to know anyway

+1000 on the above!!

openseason

08-09-2011 11:57 AM

Why would a magazine test this sort of thing using children anyway?? The "standard of beauty" nonsense strikes again!!!

EdenRose

08-09-2011 12:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by harmonyd
(Post 1736726)

I'm ashamed to admit that yes, this did dampen my feelings about transitioning. But when I told my husband he said, "Well, they're losers."

Your husband sounds awesome.
And that article sounds kinda sad i mean how many people did they actually test and if they are actually polling people on if they like curly hair or straight hair , its a waste of time and resources even for a fashion magazine

KurlyPrincess

08-09-2011 06:08 PM

um, wow. if someone didn't like me just because of my hair...then they aren't my friend. :-| it's soo shallow

WavyTina

08-13-2011 08:11 PM

The testing children thing is kinda ridiculous, but I'm wondering what exactly they asked them. Did they ask the kids which looked friendlier, or which looked prettier?
If they asked which looked more friendly, I bet most kids would choose curly, but, since most kids have been fed the beauty standard all their lives, if they asked which looked prettier, the kids would definitely pick straight.

supersoup

08-13-2011 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by WavyTina
(Post 1742538)

The testing children thing is kinda ridiculous, but I'm wondering what exactly they asked them. Did they ask the kids which looked friendlier, or which looked prettier?
If they asked which looked more friendly, I bet most kids would choose curly, but, since most kids have been fed the beauty standard all their lives, if they asked which looked prettier, the kids would definitely pick straight.

And we all know how important it is for us curlies to look attractive for the children! :facepalm:

Dedachan

08-15-2011 09:47 AM

Children like unicorns, barbies, Justin Bieber... who cares what they think?

:binky:

ThickHairedQT

08-15-2011 10:31 AM

Why does it matter what kids think about curly or straight hair? Can we just let them frolic and play in peace without pushing beauty standards at such a young age. And for the dating thing, if you don't like me just because my hair isn't straight then your just shallow ass and I wouldn't want to talk to you anyway. Get to know me first and then decide whether or not you like me or find me attractive.

This whole debate and research on straight hair being superior is silly.The definition of good hair is healthy hair. Not straight, curly, kinky, short, long, just healthy, well kept, and moisturized hair. So don't sit there and tell me the natural hair that grows out of my head is bad and wrong for society. When I do have kids, they will not be allowed to have any chemicals added to their hair. I will show them how to love, care, and respect their hair,mind, and body.

I think what's implied is that kids have fresh eyes. Their idea of beauty is more instinctive. If they like straight hair, then straight hair is "naturally" more attractive. I think that's BS of course. Our standard of beauty is very much shaped by culture. Men, women, kids have all internalized that standard whether they realize it or not, but this does not mean it could not change. It did for me... I find myself admiring other curlies in a way I didn't use to.

Anyone noticed that most old paintings and sculptures favor curlies? I'm convinced curly hair was the prevailing standard through most of history. If we assume straight hair is more beautiful because it's an instinctive thing, then we're trapped in a vicious circle.

supersoup

08-15-2011 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Dedachan
(Post 1743410)

I think what's implied is that kids have fresh eyes. Their idea of beauty is more instinctive. If they like straight hair, then straight hair is "naturally" more attractive. I think that's BS of course. Our standard of beauty is very much shaped by culture. Men, women, kids have all internalized that standard whether they realize it or not, but this does not mean it could not change. It did for me... I find myself admiring other curlies in a way I didn't use to.

Anyone noticed that most old paintings and sculptures favor curlies? I'm convinced curly hair was the prevailing standard through most of history. If we assume straight hair is more beautiful because it's an instinctive thing, then we're trapped in a vicious circle.

Generally, a healthy appearance is something considered attractive across every culture and time period, and a thick head of long hair is a good indication of health. Malnutrition and illness would be manifested in thinning hair, so the thick hair is sort of a biological sign that says 'I'm healthy! I'm able to carry a child!". Stick-straight hair generally has the appearance of being thinner than wavy or curly hair, so that would explain it's predominance in paintings of beautiful women.

littlemonster8

08-18-2011 03:43 PM

I've heard that since straight hair more easily reflects light, it looks shinier and therefore at a glance seems more healthy than curly hair, and we are attracted to features that show good health, like white teeth and clear skin.
The thing is...when I see a head of shiny curly hair, I think THAT'S the jackpot. That's the best you can ask for :)

TripleThreatXoX

08-21-2011 02:06 PM

i saw that too, when i was in the car with my curly mom. when i informed her that 60% of men prefer straight hair on a woman, according to instyle, she grinned and said well then that means 40% of men do like curly hair. i said, right and 100% of me says i dont care if they like it or not, they're gonna deal wit it! :)

blissdrops

08-21-2011 02:19 PM

Just sounds like the old cliche the less ethnic looking the better thought process.

Unfortunately some still cave in to that false line of thinking even though in reality it isn't true.

I make an effort not to give into that false line of thinking but I won't lie it has taken quite a bit of effort at times. I have huge curly hair and not to toot my own horn but I have pretty hair. It's shiny, bouncy, voluminous and curly that's a good thing right? But I have been very embarrassed of it at times and I try not to give into that because when I look in the mirror I can objectively see it's prettier like this then wearing it bone straight, there is nothing wrong with it and I shouldn't hide it which I've admittedly done in the past. There is nothing wrong with my ethnic kinky curly hair and I'm not going to let others falsely make me believe that there is.

testimony777777

08-29-2011 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Dedachan
(Post 1743321)

Children like unicorns, barbies, Justin Bieber... who cares what they think?