Partner drinking

Hi so me and my partner are expecting our first child together in July. I already have a child from a previous relationship and most of the tim everything is fine.

My partner sometimes drinks with friends and comes home drunk. The problem is when he drinks he is like a complete different person he turns angry and aggressive he can't control his anger and has been known to throw me down or push me he hasn't ever hit me however I am frightened of him when he is drunk. A few months ago we had a big fight and he told me he would never drink again especially around me. But there has been sometimes when I have noticed h had a drink and he's lied to me. I'm so scared of the drunk him that I made a rule if he drinks with friends or whatever then he doesn't come home to me. Today He told me he was going to see his friend and he promised no there would be no drinks involved and now I've just found out he is out drinking. We've had a big row and he's blaming me saying I'm unfair he's had a long working week etc but my argument is why is he lying to me and why does he keep choosing to drink when he knows what happens. Sorry for the long pathetic post. I need advice! Xx

Comments (36)

I'm sorry to say it but this sounds a lot like domestic abuse to me. The warning signs are there, especially if you're scared of him. It sounds like he needs help with anger management as well as his drinking.

I can see how bad my post looks. And if I was the one reading I would say the same as you ladies. I am 6 months pregnant and just don't know what to do I feel drained tired upset and stressed I just needed some advice.

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