My Favourite Opener

It’s Friday which means a lot of you lads will be going out tonight and over the weekend in a hunt for some girls.

I thought I’d write up a quick post of my favourite opener when talking to girls. The great thing about it is that it works whether you’re day gaming on the street, if you want to chat to a girl in a coffee shop, at the supermarket, at the STD clinic OR even if you’re doing night game and want to open a girl at the club or in a bar.

“So what is this magic opener?”, you may be asking yourself. Well, here it is:

“Hey”

Bit of an anticlimax?

Well, I’ve been using it for quite some time now depending on the situation I’m in with the girl and it hooks them almost immediately. It’s so simple and is a great go-to line if you can’t think of anything else to say to the girl and it’s more often than not met with a nice smile from the girl.

But that’s not down to the line.

We’ve had Google hits coming back to us looking for “best openers to game girls” and other such searches but at the end of the day, how you display yourself to the girl is what wins her over.

“Hey” is so simple, yet so effective if done right.

The only downside for you is that you will have to be at a certain level with your inner game that allows you the confidence to pull it off. It’s not so much a simple “hey” and then on with the conversation, but you have to be able to display your worth as a man to the girl and with absolute, unerring confidence that it doesn’t phase you that you’re in her presence. I wouldn’t recommend it for new guys because there will still be a lot of nervousness to pull it off and it may phase you, but if you feel that you’ve got the balls then go ahead.

The most effective way I’ve noticed with it is this:

“Hey”

Then pause for a reaction from her. Maintain eye contact. Do not speak for a couple of seconds. Then hit her with the standard “I saw you over there” or whatever line you like to use.

This is a great way of building attraction straight from the off and it makes you look boss as fuck. If you have the balls to go up to a girl and say “hey” whilst holding your body frame and looking at her in here eyes all throughout the silence you create, then you’ve nailed it. Your approach will be so much easier.

You’ll get a couple of different responses, but they will all say “hi” back. The first is that she’ll keep looking at you in the eyes and says nothing. This is good because she’s thinking about what kind of guy you are, and you can almost feel the chemistry with her as two strangers locked together in a gaze. Don’t keep the silence too long, only a couple of seconds after she’s said hi. This is my favourite response as it has brought me the most success, but it means the girl has to be quite confident too. You can feel the sexual tension with her straight away.

She might instead say hi, look into your eyes, then look away shyly with a little giggle. Also good because she’s put your value as higher than hers straight away. It’s an uphill battle for her to win back any value, if she’s so inclined to do that (I’m looking at you, English girls).

She could also ask “what?” with genuine curiosity with a little smile on her face. You’re making her a bit uneasy like you would be the first time you approach an 8 or a 9, and she is also filled with interest as to why you’ve come up and said hi without saying anything else.

Another response will be a bit more negative but in no way a rejection. It may be “what?”, “what do you want?”, “can I help you?” or something like that. This is salvageable, don’t think that she’s bitchy or rejecting you, but this is where your game has to be super tight. You want to remain staring at her eyes, talking coolly and not thrown back at all keeping your body language at a minimum. This is why I wouldn’t recommend this opener for new guys.

There are varying ways you can say it. My favourite way is to say it deeply, calmly and slowly with a little nod up with my head. Then my interaction has to follow the same way, with minimal body movement and no over the top reactions to anything she says. I’m normally a playful kind of guy, but when I’m relaxed and in a really good, untouchable state then this works a treat.

As I said, you can do it in any venue whether it’s day game or night game, but if you’re day gaming it’s not best to jump out in front of them from behind and use it. I save it for girls that are stood still by a building or who’s walking towards me where I can just put my hand out to stop her in her path.

There are so many ways it can work, whether it’s grabbing a girl by the arm in a bar as she’s walking past, if she’s sat at a table in a coffee shop or restaurant by herself, or if she’s scanning the ready meals for one section in your local supermarket.

Experiment with it, find out what works best for you. It’s not about the line, it’s about how you use the line.

Yeah, it’ll take a while to get it done right. Experiment with smiling, experiment with looking cool as fuck. You’ll have to try find what feels most comfortable. As I said, it’s more the confidence that pulls it off while coming off as non-threatening. You’ll get there.

I use Hey if nothing else comes. Particularly if I’ve got to walk over in a bar, kind of strange to walk across the dance floor to ask her if she likes horses.(For those that ever read Magic Bullets).

Although, last week was in a noisy club and the girl suddenly asked, ‘hey, can you get to the point please?’ So make sure the intent is communicated in some way. I think that’s cos I was winging my mate and having no interest in the girl doesn’t set up the right sub communication.

Yeah, it takes practice. As I said, the “hey can you get to the point” isn’t a rejection or her being bitchy, just treat it like a shit test. It’s a numbers game remember and different girls will react differently. I don’t go to clubs and I imagine girls get approached more there than the bars I go to so maybe you’ll have to switch it up a bit depending on the environment. Just remember to hold your frame and not be shaken up by what she said. If a girl told me to “get to the point” then the last thing I would do is get to the point. I’d tease her about being part of a generation about wanting everything at her fingertips now, now, now.

Man, clubs get ridiculous after about half midnight. They pump the music up too loud so people have no choice but to get drunk. And in an environment where every dickhead with a hard-on has alcohol fuelled confidence, the girls switch over to attention grabbing mode. Early on it can be pretty chill and then bump and grind when the music gets louder but otherwise they’re not a great place to pull. Random makeouts, yeah, just get pissed and it happens.

Yup venue changed. I’ve also found a phenomenal wingman for bars. He’s an absolute muppet and has a tendency to keep calling girls beautiful, but has no fear and will happily take my lead. I’ve just left him at some girls house, (leaving the bars to wing him back) and am getting an early night / waiting for the +1 text.