In your first paragraph you say that to make sure you both want the
same thing and are ready for a step as big as moving in together,
you asked your boyfriend whether he saw a longterm future with you.
One would presume that, since you were doing the asking,
you do see
a longterm future — possibly leading to marriage — with
this man, and that any answer from him to the contrary would mean
you don’t “want the same things,” right? Well,
your boyfriend truly does seem to be the “amazing guy”
you say he is because he gave you a huge gift — the gift of
honesty. He told you that he can’t see himself ever marrying
you or having a life with you. It must have been a real blow to
hear those words, but you are very, very lucky to have heard them
now versus one, two, three years down the road after moving in with
him and investing more time and energy in a relationship that
doesn’t have a future. I know so many women who would have
killed to hear those words before spending a big chunk of their 20s
— and 30s — with men who would never commit to them.

So, knowing what you know now, you have to make a decision —
one I really, really hope does NOT include moving in with the guy;
you have to decide whether you’re going to stay with your
boyfriend and enjoy the “here and now” or whether
you’ll spare yourself further hurt feelings down the line and
move on already. That’s a decision only you can make, but I
can pose a few questions for you that may help you arrive at that
decision a bit more clearly. First, can you truly enjoy the
relationship anymore knowing that your boyfriend likely
doesn’t feel for you the way you feel for him? Can you remain
happy with someone you may very well have started considering
“the one,” knowing he’s sure you
aren’t his one?
Would you just stay with him as long as he didn’t dump you
for someone he has stronger feelings for, or do you anticipate some
end date in the future you both agree on? If knowing your boyfriend
doesn’t see a future with you now, what would be your reason
for ending the relationship eventually? Obviously,
it would have
to end eventually. Relationships that don’t have a longterm
future always do. So, would you rather be the one to control when
things end, or do you want to give him all the power? By staying
with him indefinitely, you do know you’re opting for the
latter, right? If that’s something you’re OK with, and
if you’re OK knowing you aren’t your boyfriend’s
choice in a life partner and that you’re simply someone to
enjoy companionship and intimacy with until he finds someone he
likes better, then by all means, stay with him. But if you
aren’t OK with all of that, I think you know what your
decision needs to be. And really, the sooner the better.

It struck her that
this should feel strange, to be lying here, watching him, teasing
him.
To have done what they'd done, and be what they'd become.
But instead it felt natural
and comfortable. Inevitable. And only the smallest bit
terrifying.

God was thinking of you long before you ever thought of Him. His
purpose for your life predates your conception. He planned it from
the very start. you can choose your career, your spouse, your home,
hobbies & many other parts of your ife. but you don’t get to
choose your purpose n this world