Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Controversy....

I usually steer clear of anything that could be of controversy. However, I just had to see others' opinion on what I watched today. Maybe I jumped the gun too quick in my own opinion or what you think may have me open my eyes and see his side...

A young man from Michigan had a girlfriend. She told him she couldn't get pregnant and was on birth control. (has he never heard that the only 100% effective birth control is abstinence?!)

Guess what happened.

She got pregnant.

He has tried to go to court twice to not have to pay child support and get the child out of his life forever (the court threw it out each time). Why? Because he feels it's in his "best interest" at this moment in his life to not be a dad; that he was tricked into being a dad, that it's not fair that he has to pay child support, that she should have placed the child under adoption.

He has never met his child.

He has never held his child.

He has no intention to be a father to her. Ever.

In my opinion?

He should have refrained from having sex if he wasn't willing to be a father/pay child support.

Maybe he should have also worn a condom. Why is it always up to the woman to be on birth control??

When will people start accepting responsibility for their actions?

I feel bad for this child.

Really bad.

What do you all think?

Do you agree with him that he isn't being treated fairly by the legal system and that because he feels at this time he doesn't want to be a dad that he shouldn't have to pay child support?

Or do you agree that if he didn't want to become a dad then he shouldn't have had sex in the first place?

I am so annoyed by this guy. Seriously.

Leo pays child support monthly. So I understand the whole child support side....

I don't mean to sound harsh....but just how this guy presented himself really got under my skin. Basically that it was this woman's own fault that she got pregnant. Ridiculous. I better turn off the show before I get too worked up!

Yes, you are right. And so is the system. I agree about people not taking responsibilty for their actions. I feel old saying it, but it seems to be getting worse with each generation! Have you seen Raising Helen? Not the best show in the world, but I love it because Joan Cusack is pregnant. She breaks up her neice and boyfriend having sex. She points to her stomache and says, "Are you ready for THIS? Are you ready to be a DADDY?" How is it people don't put 2 and 2 together? Okay, clearly I am heated about this as well. Good thing I didn't watch Dr. Phil, or my husband would have come home to a broken TV...

i am so with you. how annoying. i don't think i can watch it when it comes on here. thanks for warning me! i don't understand people who think they can have sex and not pay any consequences at all. i am totally getting all worked up right now i can hardly keep track of my fingers typing.

So glad to know that I was not the only one screaming at the tv! It just pissed me off! I had to change the channel!

And what about the couple who "chose" to wait to have kids until they were married, however he had a baby with another chic. I would say he "chose" to have sex right? Therefore, he chose to have a baby.

OH Lord. I totally agree with you. lf a guy can't keep it in his pants, then he needs to be ready for any consequences that may occur. Sounds like the guy is a loser. The worst part...it's at the expense of an innocent child.

I am so with you! I believe ANYONE no matter girl or guy has the responsibility to accept the consequences of their actions no matter what it might be. And if you are having sex you had better be ready to be a parent. End of story.

I don't necessarily think he should be forced to be in the child's life b/c I don't think it would be beneficial to either of them anyway with an attitude like that. I do think he needs to "pony up" though and take responsibility for his actions. Which it seems these days, so many people are NOT willing to do and THAT is sad...

He really went to court over this? What a ridiculous, foolish, little boy. And I mean boy in the sense that he is immature and stupid. I'm glad the courts threw out his request. He donated his sperm, therefor he is obligated. End of story. His wants and feelings are secondary. The idiot should have kept it in his pants if he didn't want to be a father. Moron, idiot. I'm right there with you. Glad I didn't see it, I'd be upset too.

i agree with you. If he didn't want to be a father, he should have NOT HAD SEX!!! and the fact that he has NO resposibility in his mind is completely a$$anine. just because the woman carries the baby doesn't make a difference... not sure how in the world people think it does. he needs to suck it up and realize that sometimes life stinks and take responsibility.