I used to have a terrible time with talking dirty, but I've found that it comes easier the more I do it. A lot of times it's not terribly creative, but it does the trick . Sometimes my husband prompts me with what he wants me to say, and I'll tend to incorporate that into other times we have sex.

Talking dirty doesn't have to be hard or complicated. It does help to give it some thought before hand, so you are on the right track. Part of the appeal of it is the taboo of it, saying things that you would never say in any other setting.

Think about what you want him to do, or what you want to do to him. Keep it simple. If you know he likes things on the vulgar side, it can be as simple as "I want you to fuck me."

If you are interested in giving him a blow job, tell him. Whisper it in his ear "I want to suck your cock." I can't imagine many men not being immediately interested in making that happen as soon as possible after hearing his lover whisper that in his ear.

Even a simple, PG rated "I want you," can be a good place to start.

The point is, it doesn't have to be long, drawn out or even original. Start small, easy, even obvious and I am willing to bet you will be pleased with the results.

My husband is into the dirty talk - but in the heat of the moment - I can't come up with anything good. Any suggestions?

I agree with Laurel on this. It doesn't have to be explicit. I've been with a guy who just liked me telling him how much I was enjoying sex with him. Let him know what feels good, like if he's playing with your nipples, tell him, "I love it when you rub my nipples." Simple things like that can satisfy his need for dirty talk without getting too explicit. I'd find out what he likes while you're not in bed, so that way you can formulate what you want to say the next time you're having sex.

I agree with what has already been posted just start from basics and go from there. What I have always done is once a girl is talking dirty, if there is something specific I want her to say I lead her there in some way. Statements like "Don't you love my cock" are not for you to just say yes to, but to get you to repeat it and tell him how much you like it, so pay attention to clues that he might give you.

I think old school porn, that was somewhat of a 'movie' did have scripts. I think now there are scripts that are more about mapping out what you want to capture in the scene. Although now my mind is drifting and I am picturing Star Wars type story-boarding for porn.

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04/29/2010

sweet sally

I'm not very good at dirty talk either, but I enjoy it when my bf does it. Since about 75% of the time we have porn on in the background, one of use will catch a glimpse of it and tell the other what's going on.

I'm with trios--I am ALL about dirty talk! I especially love to be 'talked off' when I'm alone, or use it as foreplay, or to 'guide' a situation along.

For me, it isn't about being 'good'--it is only about showing enthusiasm. I don't care if it sound silly, or corny, or makes me laugh and I can't take it seriously. As long as my partner is sincere, I enjoy it. I will try to use prompts if my partner is struggling ('how does that feel?' 'do you like that?') and there is nothing wrong with going in circles if you run out of material ('that feels so good!'). At this point, it is difficult for me to get off without it. It is a true mark of success if I am left speechless!

Tons of great stuff offered above. Here's what works for me: the more I think about "Oh my God, will that sound stupid?"... the less I find myself focused on what I'm doing and I *don't* want that. Afterall, I want to *add* to the sexual experience, right?

I basically just try to relax and let it flow, whatever comes out... comes out! If it sounds stupid, then laugh it off! the way I look like it is, if I'm comfortable enough to let you put your penis in me, then I'm going to be comfortable enough with you to laugh off a stupid remark during sex!

I love when my girl tells me what she wants to do me, wants me to do to her, or that she likes what I'm doing. Especially in that breathy-moany voice. That's one way to get his blood flowing! Works for me!

Hrmm... I know I am into it...but I am the same way with havibng trouble coming up with anything much! :O And when I can come up with it, I can get "reactions" from Him like moans and groans, but He seems to have an even harder time coming up with something dirty to say back, whether it's being too distracted or unable. Which, in turn, makes me a little discouraged. So sometimes I just try to keep saying what I can think of now and then, and hope He will throw something in to help! lol. Sorry I'm not much help. ^_^;

I have a hard time talking too, I too am busy concentrating and letting my mind wander. I know my hubby would like me to talk and I try too but I find it hard too. I will try these tips and see how it goes for me, thank you.