In a monogamous relationship, finding a sexually minded partner (as you've said you want) who is willing to wait years before going to bed with you...well, that's probably impossible. And even if you found someone like that, the chances of them cheating on you would be high. And you don't want someone asexual....because then they'll never want sex and you will, eventually.

This is really making a lot of assumptions about how 'everyone' thinks and feels on this topic. There are plenty of people out there who value waiting, even until marriage.