Does the idea of falling in love on purpose seem crazy to you? Are you one of those who believe you can’t help who you fall in love with – that you are simply at the mercy of chemistry and fate? Well, read on and see how you can exert firm influence over your mind’s natural bonding process.

When you want more affection and romance in a relationship, it’s natural to feel the urge to ask for it or show more of it in the hopes that your efforts will be reciprocated. But doing this will usually work against you. A man will feel like you’re trying to force something out of him, and he’ll sense that you’re only giving to him because you want something out of him. This is called “giving to get,” and it does not inspire a man to be more romantic with you.