It never fails on any disto's, if I add programs there is a problem. This one is I lost my sound.

It would help if the deb distro would allow only deb installations. And depending on which desktop you are running the install software programs would allow only installing software that ran on the installed desktop.

From your apparent frustration, I'd say that the first thing to adjust is your expectation.

Linux might not be an immediate and easy replacement of XP for you. It isn't for me, yet I know that Linux is capable of doing virtually everything I want to do with my PC -- but I approach it as a project. It's affordable. It's interesting. And it's a pastime with promise of freedom from the likes of Microsoft.