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Not To Worry
Nothing, not even the dreaded commute, was going to keep me from getting to my class on time. That’s just how it is for me: If I say I’m going to be somewhere, I’m going to be there. It’s not so much the hundred miles I detest as it is the hour, sometimes two, of dead time, in bumper-to-bumper traffic.
I figured I’d leave my office promptly at 2:55 p....(Read full article...)

"You cut me off like you cut off mommy when she died." Only four days back from a drug relapse, my brother Billy's statement would have charged me up for a week. This time I understood how entwined I was with him.I didn't feel the electrical surge in my stomach when my guardians were doing their jobs perfectly. They had blocked the seduction to get into a long drawn out saga with him. I no longer ....(Read full article...)

I'm Daniel. I'm heterosexual and (was)
homophobic.
I can recall my high school days when gays
were fags, pussies, dykes, freaks,
outsiders, non-entities, people you'd always get support for
abusing, the safest of scapegoats. I wondered why I (and others)
invariably reacted with avoidance, indifference and disdain, whethe....(Read full article...)

Are these the best of times or the worst of times?
For many, these are the worst of times. What happened? What is happening?
What is
going to happen? So many people, possibly more than half the country
are, to varying extents, casualties of the times and are standing
helplessly in the face of an extremely bleak outlook; a colder, dar....(Read full article...)

Intimacy is something we all want, yet it remains elusive, rare and mysterious. Some people have intimate relationships, but most don't. Lack of relationship fulfillment is the norm. Many of us want to know how to establish an intimate relationship-from single people who are wondering why they are still single to those in relationships who want a healthier, more nourishing connection with their pa....(Read full article...)

Introducing, The Relationship Model of Addiction
By Daniel Linder MFT
In inherent limitation of the medical model is ignoring the fact that a pathological dependence implies that a relationship, one that is emotional and psychological in nature, has formed with the substance or activity (i.e. alcohol/drugs, gambling, porn, sex and love addictions). By neglecting essential emotional aspects ther....(Read full article...)

Finding True Love Through Intimacy
By Daniel Linder MFT
A lot of people have been asking about true love; is there such a thing; if so, what is it? Is it attainable; if so, how attainable is it? If it were just love, I wouldn't have so much difficulty. But, true love?
Talking about true love is risky business. I can imagine taking a poll, going around asking people who are looking for true l....(Read full article...)

by Daniel Linder
As Robert Hare had indicated in an article written in 1996, "The distinction between psychopathy and anti-social personality disorders is of considerable significance to the mental health and criminal justice systems. Unfortunately, it is a distinction that is often blurred, not only in the minds of many clinicians but in the latest edition of DSM-IV."
The DSM-IV has both ....(Read full article...)

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About Daniel Linder, MFT

Relationships. I was born with a keen sense about relationships, was always assessing how close and intimate people are with each other. I had a knack for relationships. The importance of relationships cuts to the core of who I am. The combination of clinical training, 30 years of professional experience treating addictive, non-intimate couples and families, as well as rigorous self analysis has given me a lot to work with. I put what seemed to come naturally to me under a microscope in an effort to break the process of building healthy relationships down to concrete essentials: Understanding of Basic Principles, Communication Skills, Self-realization and Intimacy.