Is it psycho that I'm frustrated that this new guy doesn't text back for, like, an hour, even on his day off?

So I've been seeing him for a couple of weeks, but we haven't made anything official. Maybe that's why I'm sort of reading into the fact that he takes forever to reply to my texts.

I get it when he's at work, but this morning I texted asking if he'd like to do something fun this weekend and it was over an hour before he replied. He's off today, so why would it take him so long to reply? This is all the time, and I'm not sure I have the patience to deal with that long-term.

I kind of want to ask him about it because I'm genuinely curious, but I KNOW it'll sound psycho. How do I deal?

Most Helpful Guy

Well, if you wanted an instant reply, why didn't you CALL him and have a conversation on the subject?

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Because I'm at work, but also because millenials have our own weird communication etiquette. It would just be weird to call. But maybe I should more often, I'm case it turns out during that long pause he's trying to make sure he didn't make plans with other girls! Haha

The millennial etiquette seems to be designed to allow people to avoid personal interactions as much as possible, it promotes vague and imprecise communications, and your contemporaries wonder why they don't feel connected to others.

Most Helpful Girl

Anonymous

That may just be his texting style. I take a while to answer, especially when I'm at home since my phone isn't on me at all times. If he's leaving you on read, then that's possibly a problem, but if not it I look more into what he says when he does reply. If he sends one word replies or doesn't say he love to hang out or seams bummed that he's busy, that's more concerning than how long it takes to say it.

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Yeah, that makes sense. When he does reply, he's pretty sweet and eager.

What Guys Said 12

You've got millennial painted all over you. People used to have lives before technology. Yeah, we really did exist. We had to wait to get a call back from our friends. If we were lucky, they had the new and shiny "answering machine" technology that had just come out. I'm not trying to make light of your situation; I'm dating a millennial, I get it. But you just need to relax and realize life happens to people. Sometimes things happen that are beyond our control. Mom gets sick. The car won't start. We need groceries and the store has crappy Wi-Fi. Any number of things. Take a deep breath and realize he isn't going away. He'll be back as soon as he can, I promise you that.

Give him a break. If he responds instantly to every text, how is he supposed to get anything else done? Doing anything useful requires focus. It sounds like maybe he has a life, and you need to get one of your own.

Girls get annoying, guys don't get all into their partner like that. If you're texting him all the time and he hanging out with his buddies then he probably doesn't text you on purpose, hoping you'd let him live his own life.

What Girls Said 12

You need to relax. My boyfriend goes this long without texting me back too, and he doesn't even text when he's in work. There's plenty of things he could be doing other than looking at his phone all day, especially on his day off. If everything is okay between you two other than this then there's no problem here.

Not everyone is glued to thier phones all the time. Some people have hobbies, errands to run, chores to do, Maybe he was in the shower? Maybe his ex showed up for a quickie, maybe his mom stopped by to bring him breakfast or maybe he was cooking his own breakfast. He might think you're being nosey for asking but either way he wouldn't be honest if he was doing something "bad"

At least he texts you back. The guy I'm seeing atm doesn't always text me back. It's not that big of deal if he's at least texting you back maybe he just doesn't like to text

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I remember my ex husband used to tell me that he left his mobile phone at home (before meeting me) as he didn'''t see the reason to carry it. He did have family and friends but if you wanted to talk, you pre-arrange meetings or you devise a time when a call would be set. I'm one of the pre-millennials but get sucked in on occasion. There's this temptation to have a conversation over a text message however I miss hearing the person's voice, seeing their expressions and reactions. It does not flow as well eventhough getting that bing straight after you've written - may APPEAR to be flowing well. Live calls is cool but once again, you're not touching the person or even breathing in their air. It's so plastic! I'm personally against online dating and prefer the more natural approach. May take a little longer to meet someone but I'm positive! Just have to get out more:)

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Anonymous

Forget hour, my guy doesn't text/call me back for days sometimes even weeks

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I get frustrated too when someone doesn't text right back , considering I know they are online and their phone is in their hand. It just clarifies your position in their life. Someone who is genuinely interested will be reliable and and eager to text you asap

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