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Nic, I don't think it matters If you bd last night or not. If you ovulated the day of iui, then that should be timed perfectly and you should have an excellent shot this month! And I totally get your frustration. There were many nights when my dh didn't feel good or was tired or sore from work and refused to try to bd. I would get so upset with him. I have no real advise on it because I never really found a way to not get mad at him. That's the one less stressful thing about ivf is there is no timed bd! Hang in there, your time is coming and you won't have to worry about it anymore!

Afm- yay!! Cd 1 today! I can't even express how excited I am that the ivf process starts now! Please let this be my time!

Caitlin, I don't think Indiana has a plan like that. And I know my doctor's office didn't offer any kinds of guarentees like that either. They were actually even surprised that my insuranced covered as much as it did! Best we could do is take out a loan, but that's not really something we want to do.

However, the "Bank of DH's Mom & Dad" has been open since we started to struggle - my In Laws are so great! We just haven't taken advantage of it yet. They could probably get us the rest of the way when/if we're ready in May.

Cest - glad to see you check in. Sorry you're feeling down ((hugs)). I hate the financial stress TTC puts on some of us. Good to hear your inlaws are offering support.

Afm - so I guess I won't be trying in December. I met with a midwife last week. She's a traditional midwife who does home births. I'm thinking I will need to go this route since I want a vbac so badly. The ob I was seeng said he'd let me try for a vbac but I always hear stories from other vbac mommies with hospital deliveries and the hospital staff is not at all supportive in the decision to vbac.

So anyways, this midwife is an amazing woman. She gave lots of hugs and was warm. She said my ob was crazy, my uterus is nowhere near healed after the back-to-back D&Cs. She wants me to take more time to let it heal. I'm meeting with her next week and she's going to bring me some herbs to help with the healing. My DH is rolling his eyes over the herbs but also thinks waiting is a good idea. As much as I want to start trying again, I think more time is probably good. I want a healthy pregnancy and baby and I can wait a few more months if that will help.

I'll probably focus more on family and the holidays. I'm making the bulk of gifts this year since we are broke from medical bills. I read this on a message board somewhere else: "i had a miscarriage and all I got we're these medical bills ". So true.

I'll keep checking in here for you girls and hope you all get the bfps you've hoped and prayed for this year!

Melissa, good to hear you are letting your body heal. Sounds like the midwife will be very helpful.
I'm glad to find out I'm not the only one who gets mad/frustrated with DH. I was feeling guilty for getting mad, but now I know I'm not alone. It is hard sometimes preparing and timing everything just to be let down.

Melissa, that sounds like a great plan for you. It will probably make you feel better to let things heal first.

Emily yeah it's so frustrating sometimes. You aren't alone. In fact, pretty much every cycle we don't time things as well as I would like because DH is tired or whatever. I guess we just try the best we can!