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It seems we’ve arrived at a place where it is necessary to talk about the difference between flirting and creeping on a woman, and Jeff Goldblum has something to say.

Hollywood has been unraveling amidst accusations of sexual misconduct leveled against a number high flying actors and producers.

Harvey Weinstein gave himself up to police in New York earlier today and has been charged with rape, while Morgan Freeman has apologised after eight women accused him of inappropriate behaviour in a CNN investigation.

The #MeToo movement, created by Tarana Burke to bring together survivors of sexual abuse had a new lease for life as well, with actress Alyssa Milano sharing her own experiences with it.

And yet, in light of the many traumatic accounts of abuse, there persists a minority of men who say that as a result, they can no longer enjoy a simple flirtation without being accused of sexual harassment.

Speaking to British GQ, he said it’s pretty easy not to cross the line into creepville.

He said: ‘Yes, I am a flirt probably. But I hope not in way that would violate my otherwise deep devotion to my sweet wife.

‘With the climate as it is, and with the page turned as it should be in Hollywood now, one has to be vigilant. Never would I want to do anything that is disrespectful or diminishing and I am more than aware of that now than ever.

He added: ‘I hope I have always amplified people’s enjoyment rather than abuse it. It was never creepy and I hope my ways have been gracious and full of good will. And so far, it still feels like I can be me.’

He’s not the only one to draw a clear and distinctive line between innocent, mutual flirtation, and one-sided, unwelcome sexual behaviour that’s humiliating, intimidating and/or offensive.

Comedian Kate Willett spelled it out in a Facebook post about it.

‘Good flirting is fundamentally empathetic’, she wrote. ‘It’s about building desire and it’s often pretty subtle.

‘Sexual harassment is the opposite. It’s devoid of empathy and it’s about forcing your will upon another person without having any regard for their desire.’

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