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SAWH and I are now separated in house. I should have done this when I found out about the A. Probably would have prevented some Jerry Springer moments and him having to see my neediness.

This is helping me figure out what I need in order to move forward. Do I want to stay in the marriage? What do I need in order to stay in the marriage?

I need perspective, clarity, etc. I need to not wonder when he is coming to bed, what he is thinking, what I am thinking, 24x7. For awhile, I just need to BE.

It's been 4 nights and it's been pretty good. I told him I will no longer pretend we are a married couple. If he is going to treat me like a roommate, then that is what we will be until we decide what the next step is.

In House separation can become very tough when there appears to be no recourse on R. As you figure out what you need to go forward and if it is a D, then prepare to act in some way to be physically separated. I did 2 months of in house separation after filing for a D and it was awful. I hope things are still going well and that you are working on what your next step will be.

AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless