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Lost all Motivation in Life, in Fun, in Health.?

I guess this has been going on for a long time now, I just haven’t dealt with it because I have been self medicating in Alcohol for years.
I’m 24 years old.
I’ve went from a 5 year emotionally abusive relationship full of lies and unfaithfulness to a 2 year physically abusive open relationship to now where I am completely unhappy in my relationship of 1 year.
I have recently been diagnosed with Borderline Personality, but I do not take medication, I feel it dulls me, where I cannot think…which sometimes is nice, but that fog that clouds your mind on a daily basis is not the way I want to live my life.
I have no motivation for life, no motivation to be awake, to go to sleep, to stand up, to go to work, no motivation to eat healthy, to exercises, to go to work, to go shopping. Everything I seem to pretend to find joy in just to get by. Even when I am around people I feel alone, so alone, I feel there is no one to call no one to text, no one to tell how I feel without feeling as if I am constantly complaining, I am turning into that person who is always angry, always negative, that’s never how I used to be.
I was always the happy social person all throughout my life, I do not understand where this came from, I’ve formed such an attachment to my current boyfriend that everything he does disappoints me, he can never do anything right in my eyes, I’m always upset with him even when I shouldn’t be. I feel as if he is lazy, worthless, I feel less this his ex (his babies mom) I feel as if he’ll never love me how he loved her, even though he reassures me daily that he loves me more then he ever cared for her.
I want a family, I want to be married. Why did he want that with her, why not with me ?
I do not understand, I feel so unwanted – unloved.
I work over nights, all alone. Not one worker with me from 7pm to 6am, four nights a week.
My boyfriend is always asleep, he won’t talk to me, he is so sick of my complaining, how could I blame him. I’m sure he secretly hates me for how I treat him, he sleeps just to get away from me.
I have no sense of right or wrong, I feel I am above everyone. No one can measure up to my standards.
I say such hurtful things to the person I love, and I can’t stop. I can’t stop comparing myself to his ex, thinking he wants her.
I make up scenarios in my mind on how I think things are happening, when they are not and I get upset over them, and freak out for hours.
Always angry, always upset, always negative, always worrying.
Is he going to hurt me, is he going to leave me? Should I leave him, I’m unhappy HE’S THE REASON. The man, the evil man. He’s getting the brunt of all my ex’s damage. It’s not fair, but I can’t stop. Can’t stop my pain causing him pain. I am so sorry but I can’t convey an appropriate apology.
I am writing this and still can’t stop thinking about all the negatives about him, but I love him so much and won’t leave him. I don’t have one friend. NOT ONE. I have no one. Just him, just my parents. That’s it. I isolated myself, I ruined every friendship with my negative opinions on how they live there life, because again I felt as if they did not measure up to me. That they were losers, that they were nothing and I didn’t need them. Now I’m all alone.. so alone.
I just want to be happy.
What can I do to be happy? What can I do to motivate me to want to have a good life, to want to have fun, to want to be positive? To not hurt the person I love, to accept everything in life good or bad. TO BE HAPPY.
Please help.

admin answers:

You’ve taken the first, maybe biggest and most important step: You’ve recognized you have a problem and you are doing something about it. That’s extremely commendable. No one will ever understand how hard it is just to do that, so congratulate yourself.

Your life is not over yet, which means there is time to find a way to deal with your problem. It means you still desire happiness, which is a good thing.

Everyone has their own challenges to overcome; this is yours. One of the best things you can do is find professionals who can help you. There is a type of therapy called Dialectical Behavior Therapy, which is specifically for people with borderline. Also, there are a ton of communities out there, both online and in the real world, with people who have borderline who can relate to your problem and help you with a lot of your questions. Also, just simply being open with people around you about your problem can be a huge relief to you and those around you; just understanding what is going on with you can be a big help to your family and/or boyfriend, or any friends you might make from here on out.

Also, if you have any specific questions for me, feel free to contact me about them. I’m not a professional, but I’ve had some experience dealing with borderline, so if nothing else, I hope I can help.

Good luck.

Linda asks…

I keep feeling like i may faint!! please help….?

Thursday i had to leave work an hour early because i felt really really faint
(i work on the checkout in a big store)
i almost keeled over as i was serving a customer and she said “do u want me to tell someone for you?”
My eyes just filled up with water and i nodded. ( i couldnt speak as i was so embarrassed )
Another colleague came to take over…
Cut a story short – i went to my locker and had some water to drink + then attempted to get back to work but i just felt the same so they allowed me 2 go home.
The journey home was awful, i felt so dizzy.

I was the same on friday but i still went to work coz it was only a 3 hour shift.
Today i had my 1st day off in 10 days and ive been okay, until about 2:30 now i feel the faintness again.

Ive been like this for at least for at least a week and a half.

I think im just exhausted, i haddent had a day off in 10 days and cashier work is a LOT more stressful + tiring than people might think. Doing the same stuff repeatedly again and again and again!
Its enough to drive you insane!
i will admit im not at all happy in my job – in fact i hate it.

on top of that theres the house work to do and i am a total gym-aholic.
I go there 4 nights a week even when i dont want to (its kind of an obsession)
I tell my self im being too hard on myself but i feel guilty and lazy if i dont go.

Im trying 2 take it easy, but im back at work tomorrow (my next day off is tuesday)
I know its purely up to me to get myself feeling better again and im seriousley going to try but in the mean time im so scared i might acutally faint.
Apart from the sleeping, Are there any foods or vitamins or even some sort of breathing exercises that will revive my body and mind and make me feel alive again?

So sorry to go on and on btw!!!

admin answers:

Many factors can cause or contribute to faint or near-faint feelings.
Maybe your blood pressure is low(especially when you stand for a while),or maybe you don’t eat right or on time.
Emotional factors also should be considered: stress,depression
In my idea, your blood pressure and your heart should be clinically checked up.
You may email me.

Jenny asks…

Need help with changing eating, sleeping and studying habits for life?

Okay, so I’m nearly 16 now and I want to change my lifestyle habits.. quite a lot. My current habits include:

- Bedtime around 11-12 at night, wake up at 7am in morning for school. On weekends, bedtime is 1-2am or later, and I attempt to sleep in. I’ve been like this for over two years, I’m a “night owl” you could say.

- I’ve been trying to get more sleep and and become a morning person for ages. Even if I go to bed at 9:30, I’ll still just lie awake until 11-12 before I fall asleep. When I wake up in the morning, it takes me over 40 minutes to get out of bed. I’m always yawning, and I’m always tired.

- The only healthy meal I ever eat is dinner, because my parents cook that for me. Every other meal is unhealthy. On school days I never have time for breakfast – I haven’t had a proper breakfast in two years, I always skip it. At school I just eat complete junk food (chips, lollies, cake, chicken, chocolate milk – EVERY single day), and at home I completely ignore fruit and only eat what I want.

- I don’t play sports and never do exercise. I look healthy because I’ve got a high metabolism, and I can’t gain weight – I’m always perfectly thin. But when it comes to exercise and food, I’m about as unhealthy as you can get.. even though it isn’t affecting me in appearance, I’m always lacking energy and sometimes feel lethargic.

Due to all of this, I’ve got black rings under my eyes, I’m always yawning, I’m extremely tired and fatigued, I can’t concentrate on anything. The main problem is my study – I can’t concentrate on any of it, and I’m so tired that I just couldn’t be bothered studying. When I don’t understand something (specifically math topics), I just get frustrated and angry with myself, lose concentration and feel like giving up. But I’ve got major exams coming up, and so I’m forcing myself to do more hours of useless study and less sleep to make up for it. All of this is just getting worse.

I don’t want to eat healthy food, but I know I have to. I don’t want to exercise because I’m lazy, but I know I have to. I want to be able to wake up at 6am and be out of bed for the entire morning. I want to have plenty of sleep, and not be so tired. I want to study effectively and get good marks.

Can anyone give detailed advice on how to change? How can I suddenly begin waking up at 6 in the morning and not be tired? What should I be eating for breakfast and lunch every day? How can I improve my studying and prepare for exams effectively?

Most importantly, how can I keep these good habits for life? I’m not a routine person – I hate routine. I’ve tried in the past to discipline myself and eat healthy, exercise, go to bed earlier.. but it never works. I feel like I don’t have the commitment. If you can answer all my questions and give detailed advice, it would really mean a lot! Thanks!

admin answers:

First thing I would try to change would be your eating habits. Before trying to change what you eat, change when you eat. Do not skip breakfast, get yourself into the habit of eating a little something after waking up. A bowl of cereal will suffice. Even junk food is better than nothing.

Ideally you want to eat 4 or 5 smaller meals a day, rather than 2 big ones. Note that when I say “meal” it doesn’t have to be anything huge. An apple and some chips (weaning yourself off of junk food comes later) or a sandwich would constitute a meal. What this does is boost your metabolism throughout the day. Don’t eat until you’re stuffed, eat until you’re no longer hungry.

After getting into this habit (even if you think you aren’t a routine person your body will disagree), then start to focus on changing what you eat. This will be difficult. You can either go cold turkey and totally cut out junk food, or slowly wean yourself off of it. In this case I would recommend the former, because if you can successfully stay away from junk food for about a month your tastes will change and you won’t have the cravings you do now. To do this, try to limit your access to junk food. Your parents can greatly help in this regard. Also do simple things like not keeping snacks next to your computer. It seems obvious but is worth pointing out.

One final piece of advice concerning diet change is hydration. Drink plenty of water. You’ll also notice that you’ll have more energy because you’ll have to keep on getting up and going to the bathroom. Sounds silly but it’s true.

The other factors (exercise, sleep, and studying) come afterwards. Changing your diet will make working on the other three areas much easier.

Best screen for saving my the eyes?

Does any one know any good monitor or laptop screens that are good for the eyes? I am a student and software developer as well. For my eyes this means I have to spend almost 80% of my day in front of a screen.

My main problem is stability of vision. I got blurry vision some years back because of playing games on Ethernet that gave me my present spectacles. The condition has been deteriorating. And now working for long long hours at the screen, I feel my vision getting less stable and further deteriorating.

I know taking regular breaks and rubbing the eyes with the palm helps. Is there any other information you guys can give me? w.r.t screen or exercises. Appreciate your help.

Thank You.

admin answers:

With your computer monitor, I would suggest you use a lcd monitor. Lcd monitors apparently reduce the glare of the screen, hence making it friendlier to the eyes.

There are not many eye exercises which help improve vision. However, make sure you take enough of vitamin A and visit your eye doctor regularly.

Steven asks…

What’s going on with me? Can anyone please diagnose all of this?

I’m a 17 year old male. I try to live a very healthy lifestyle. I exercise, I eat well and in good portions, I sleep about as much as anyone else my age does, and I live a pretty happy stress free life. But recently, probably ever since I turned 17 back in May, I’ve been experiencing this very annoying mental issue that has stumped me and doctors since I started noticing it. I’ve also been experiencing many different kinds of other health issues along with it.
The head issue is very difficult for me to explain to people… But everything just seems to not seem real anymore, like it’s no longer my life or something. It all just seems like a big dream. I’m not performing very well cognitively, every time I try to analyze a problem or question in school, it feels like something is stopping me from figuring it out to my full ability. Recent memories, seem like dreams I had long ago. While talking to people, I sometimes say things that are completely ridiculous and stupid out of nowhere, and I don’t even know why I would say those things.
I went to see a psychiatrist/psychologist not really sure what they were called, I was just hooked up with them through my family doctor when I told him about the problems I’m having, which he also put me on a large waiting list for an MRI and CT scan. The head doctor told me that it was most likely because of all of the activities I involve myself in, stretching my brain in all different directions. I told her about this fantasy book that I am writing, that I have spent months on creating the mythology behind it all, also about my guitar playing, piano playing, my singing, I have been in several bands and jam with my friends a lot, about how often I play video games, how I can speak French like 50% fluently, and am starting to become fluent in German. She told me that all of these things, including school, were making me feel this way because I am stretching my mind in many different directions that overwork it and put a lot of pressure on it. So I stopped with the games as much for about a month, other than Call of Duty recently, I stopped writing my book, am trying to get more sleep, but none of this is making me feel better.
I am also very concerned about the head problem, because just recently (which I am going to the clinic tomorrow to get this checked out.) My right pupil has been about 2/3 dilated than my left pupil, and always stays this way. My eyes have been giving me many different feelings; dryness, soreness all around, lots of veins. Which brings me to another problem. My sight has gradually been getting worse for the past few months. I used to have perfect vision, but now everything that is far or even mid length away from me is blurry. Digital clocks, text on TVs, all blurry with halos around them. It just seems to be getting gradually worse. I have a eye doctor appointment for two weeks from now, so I will get the report on that. But I am just worried that I have some sort of serious brain problem that ties both of these problems together. Like a tumor, or an aneurysm. I’m really scared. I’m afraid to even sleep, because I worry that the aneurysm will go off or whatever happens, and I’ll die or go into a seizure and have serious brain damage for the rest of my life (I don’t know much about aneurysms). I’m just scared…
Other problems include serious back problems, my spine is bent sideways and I have to see the chiropractor every two weeks, I recently seemed to have developed lactose intolerance which was confirmed by a blood test, I get strange headaches a lot, I am very badly flat footed, and I’ve had to go to the doctor’s for a number of random infections, cankers, or any other simple thing, but this all just seems to be happening way too often.
Thank you so much for reading all of this, if you did. I’m just really scared and can’t sleep right now, but can’t do anything else about it at the moment.
None of this! used to be a problem about a year ago or so. None of it. This all has just been happening within that time line.
I also do not do drugs, or drink.

admin answers:

I’m not trying to be rude… But do you do drugs? Heavy drug use can permanently damage your brain in this way. If your answer is yes, then I’d say that’s what is causing these problems (minus the back and foot problems). If your answer is no, then I wish you the best of luck in finding the answer to your problems.

Mark asks…

I am half blind and I have a question.?

Dear friends,

Two years ago I was driving my car down the road and I was on the stop signal waiting for the green light. In that few minutes of waiting I started to stretch my neck leaning forward and sideward and then turning my face to the left and to the right. Normally when I am turning my face to the left and right I have this habit that I will give a little push with a help of my fingers on my chin and I normally apply a little force by pushing sideways and this way I can hear cracking sound at the back of my neck that gives me a little feeling of relief. But I am doing this action not because of I am feeling fatigue or tired but I feel it has become my habit of stretching my neck and sometimes I am stretching and cracking my fingers as well.

On January 4, 2007 something has really happened different after stretching my neck and this is the time when I felt my vision turned into like a scrambled TV Channel it looks like a horizontal lines that is moving up and down so fast. Then I tried to close my eyes for about 30 seconds then when I opened my eyes the scrambling vision was gone. I thought I can continue to drive so I stepped on the gas pedal and the car started running slowly but I was feeling of so much discomfort and worried about what is going on. After about 50 meters I am approaching a corner when my brother who was sitting next to me grabbed the stirring wheel and turned it to the left and in that, I was surprised and I break the car abruptly realizing that something is in front of us that I can not see. When I turned my whole face to my right side I saw that there was a car parked on the side of the road and I could have hit it if my brother wasn’t there. This is the point where I came to realize that I lost my peripheral vision. I also lost my balance but I can still walk, I am feeling drowsiness and vomited few times during the time when I was admitted in the hospital. I was in the hospital for about a week and I have been monitored and tests were also conducted such as Blood full profile, CBC, Absolute neutrofil count, CT scanVision field analysis, ECG, Carotid duplex scan. All the test have shown normal with some which is little above high level and this is the cholesterol level. The findings from the doctors show that I had a mild stroke which I am still doubtful to believe and so I am seeking for other opinion.
After two years my vision is still the same, but I don’t feel too much of drowsiness anymore which is a good improvement, I am doing exercise regularly and taking multi vitamins more on B1, B6 and B12, Aspirin is also required as blood thinner.
I need your help what is the best test to find out the actual problem? Can MRI test find the exact location of nerve which is affected? And what is the cure and prevention for this problem? I really appreciate your help and thank you in advance..

admin answers:

I have to agree with your doctors. I would like to reserve judgement as i haven’t seen your scans of course, but the symptoms you describe are pretty convincing for a small stroke affecting the occipital area of the brain, which deals with vision. A CT scan will often display evidence of a stroke, especially 24 hours or more after the event. MRI is an excellent modality for imaging the brain, but may not give any information not already gleaned from the CT. However if your CT was normal and the symptoms have persisted, it may be worth an MRI.
It is unlikely that you will recover the lost vision. If, as seems most likely, it was a stroke, the area of the brain has died and will not regenerate. Having had one stroke, you are at increased risk of further strokes, so no cigarettes, low fat diet, exercise, continue on aspirin, and get regular check ups with your doctor.

Did I just see my friend’s aura?

I have been trying to learn how to see auras for the last couple of days. I have been doing eyeexercises to train my eyes and this morning I was practicing with a friend of mine. I put her in front of a white wall and concentrated of her brow chakra and after a minute or two I could see a shiny outline around her head. It was in my peripheral vision and when I tried to shift my focus to look at it, it went away. I could get a good enough look to say what color it was but I THINK it was kinda bluish purple with green and yellow around it. It kinda looked like a puddle of water in a parking lot that has gasoline in it or whatever causes that iridescent sheen. If you know what I’m talking about. Anyway, I’m excited! Did I see her aura? And if that’s what it was, what do those colors mean?

admin answers:

You did see her aura! Congratulations. Blue means relaxed, or at ease. Green is at peace with nature, and purple is spiritual. However it depends on the shade of the color. Yellow is happiness.

George asks…

Very sudden decline in vision? Should I be worried? (im only 14)?

In about a year and a half, my vision has gone from -2.75 in both eyes to -4 in one eye and -4.25 in the other. My opthamologist said this was very strange because i have not had any growth spurts or anything like that. He has requested i get a blood work up and be sure to have my bloodsugar checked. I am not sure if this is relevant but i have also been having stomach aches lately. I was sick on sunday and monday with what I thought was the stomach flu but I have not been able to eat anything sense then without getting an upset stomach. Last night, my stomach randomly started hurting so bad i was ready to cry. A little back-round info about me (im not sure if it will be helpful): I am just under 5ft 9 and i weigh about 105lb. I have always been tall and slim. I started wearing glasses in 3rd grade and then started wearing contacts last fall. I have gotten a few migraines before but not recently. I don’t eat the most healthy diet (i eat a lot of sugar and crap) but i get quite a bit of exercise (i ride horses and i am starting rugby). I drink A LOT of water and i normally have a pretty good appetite (i just have super high metabolism). Also, i have mitral valve prolapse but it has not caused any problems for me. My cardiologist considered the idea that i might have Marfan syndrome but that was ruled out two years ago. Any ideas about why my vision declined so quickly? Anything I should be worried about?…I will add to this if anyone has other questions. Thanks!

admin answers:

If your ophthalmologist recommends lab testing for diabetes and such, there may be other reasons beyond what you’ve stated here why he thinks you need a work up. I can’t think of why your stomach aches could be related to your increase in nearsightedness, but it does sound like you need to get it checked by a doctor. Drinking lots of water is one of several symptoms that may indicate diabetes.

That said, based on your prescription alone, and the change that you report has occurred over a year and a half, there is a very real possibility (probability) that it is completely normal. Folks who are nearsighted tend to get more nearsighted through the teenage years and usually stabilize in the late teens/early twenties. Some years there may be small changes, but some years there may be big changes. Overall, 1 to 1.5 diopters of change is not unusual for someone your age with your prescription. I see this all the time in my practice and try to prepare young patients and their parents that the magnitude of their nearsightedness will increase as they grow.

Betty asks…

Upper foreskin of the eye enlargement? Accompanied by risen temperature and occasional headaches.?

My right eye‘s upper foreskin is bigger than that of my left eye‘s.
I’ve recently been having my vision turn blurry for a few seconds before it adjusts, near-sight and far-sight. My eyes feel uncomfortable, generally. My head hurts slightly once in a while and I think I might be lagging (short pause, like ‘FPS’).
Short information: I’m a male of 17. Don’t exercise (much), don’t smoke. Rarely drink.

Well, I guess this is as much as I can say for now. Thanks, Yahoo members. Good day. *Goes to watch Sliders*

admin answers:

You may simply have a swollen eyelid. I sleep on my right side and when I awake in the morning I have slight swelling in my right eyelid. It goes away as the day wears on.

You could be rubbing your eye which can cause swelling, or allergies can do it. If you are a computer geek, or play lots of computer games, you could be suffering from eye strain which will cause the blurred vision.

How can one improve his/her eyesight?

admin answers:

Has anyones eyesight naturally improved?

Mine has but for some reason no one believes me, at one point I almost needed glasses and now I don’t

admin answers:

My brother needed glasses for being farsighted when he was a kid. He doesn’t need them anymore, his eyes improved.

My eyes improved once. The doctor said it happens sometimes that people’s eye get better. But they said it is more likely that I was overscripted.

Joseph asks…

improving eyesight naturally? or lasik??

ok, obviously, naturally is easier….but does it work?? besides…i cant get lasik til im 18 so thats a 5 year wait…..

the thing is, if anyone out there tried either of those solutions 4 bad eyesight, plz tell me if they work and if so, where u got it

thanx!!

admin answers:

You cannot naturally change the focal length of the eye, there are no muscles that you can exercise that will change the shape of the eye. When you squint, looking through narrow slits, you artificially change the focal length by narrowing the beam of light entering the eye, but that is a very unnatural way to look at the world. Lasik works by changing the shape of the eye permanently, but because your eye will be growing as you do, you cannot do it until you stop the accelerated growth in adolescence. Personally, if you can wait till you are 18, Lasik worked for me and I have had no problems since, no longer would I walk into walls if i didn’t have my glasses on.

Eye exercises to Improve Vision – is it possible?

admin answers:

Eye exercises to improve vision – is it possible that after all these years of glasses and contacts prescriptions, that if you could have simply made a few changes to your daily routine you would be able to see clearly again? According to some rumors floating around the internet and other places in the public domain, the answer is an indefinite “maybe.”

Michael asks…

Eye exercises to help improve vision?

Lately I’ve been trying to figure out why my vision is worstening and im looking for a natural way to help solve this problem..if you know of any eye exercise that may help improve my vision id really appreciate the help! thanks! :::::serious inquiries only:::::

admin answers:

As you can see, many people have different opinions on causes. But since you asked specifically for eye exercises, here are some I found useful for myself and some patients who are willing to follow through. I worked with computers a lot for a few years and my vision got really blurry and tear often, so you can see I needed to help myself, too.

What I did was to, as someone mentioned, to occasionally look into the distance. Then refocus back to something close in front of you. This retrains your eyes in focusing in all distances.

The second exercise is to relief the strains of the muscles that actually move the eyeballs. They do have some impact in the vision. Move your eyeballs slowly in all directions by simply looking into all corners without moving your head.

Lastly, close your eyes and massage them with your hands. Slight pressure induces some parasympathetic activity. That may reduce some stress. Also, massage your facial muscles can be quite good because as we stare for a long time at a screen, our facial expression tend to be “stuck” too.

Maria asks…

How do you do eye exercises to improve your vision?

I was wondering the CORRECT way to do them, because my eyes aren’t perfect but near perfect and i wanted them to be perfect so yesturday i tried doing them, only to find that afterwards they actually made my eyes worse than they already were. My eyes are sort of back to normal today, but I was wondering what was the correct way of doing them. I tried googling it, but you had to purchase all these books and stuff which I didn’t want to do.

p.s I have done eyeexercises before and they have made my eyes better, but the site I read it on (which I forget) said not to do them everyday, should I do it everyday and what were some of the ways that you got your visiontoimprove?

admin answers:

Eye exercises are a bit difficult to understand and if you do it wrong it may have a bad effect (of course not permanent, except for the sun exercises which I don’t like)…

Still, if you are 100% sure you want to try these exercises you should be at least ready to work with a professional who does the exercises (at least online). There are some teachers in USA, one pretty good in Utah, the rest I don’t really know where they are from but I could make a list with contact info for you with those who I spoke with.

I am a Bate’s Method teacher from Israel, usually I only give advice.

Exercises are only a small part of the whole method. You should practice it everyday all day long… Not focusing on the exercises but on the breathing, diet, posture and overall health improvement. Our body is a whole body, working only on a small part of it wouldn’t be that beneficial if the rest of it isn’t functioning the right way.

You can do exercises as much as you want, but remember to focus on the rest of the method.