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When I found out I was pregnant with ds (dear son) I was 18, my BF (breastfeed, or boyfriend) at the time (now dh) and I lived in two different states and the day I found out I was pregnant he was on his second day of his first job. I was in no way prepared to have a baby nor did I want want. Pregnancy was horrible for me and I felt very disconnected from baby.

But towards the end I started feeling a connection 7 months or so. And when ds (dear son) was born I instantly felt love for ds (dear son) but it wasn't what I expected. Though once we got home and settled in it got better. Also dh (dear husband) had to leave for work when he was barely two weeks old (he worked offshore) so I was home by myself with ds (dear son) and I think that helped our bonding.

This baby was a surprise and very unplanned. We were one and done. I didn't want any more kids but I feel very connected to this baby even more so than when I was pregnant with ds.

My second baby I did not want to be pregnant yet. My first wasn't even a year old. She still nursed all the time. I hadn't gotten my time to do wht I wanted to do before I was tethered to a newborn. Then I found out he was a boy. My world was crushed. Even in the hospital I was pretty whatever towards him. I knew I loved him but it wasn't the same connection I had towards my first. Then he was born. He didn't cry. He just laid on me and looked at me. He fell asleep almost right away. Woke up and grabbed my finger. From the first second that I held him I was in love. I knew that he was the one man that I could never live without.

Being pregnant is hard. It's complicated, scary and at times painful. It changes our moods and our thoughts.

I hate to actually put it in writing, but I didn't want my second. My marriage was shit (end eventually crumbled while I was still pregnant with her) and in general I wasn't super connected to her while I was pregnant.

She was born and I fell in love. She was the calmest newborn I've ever seen. She's my fighter. She's super sassy and I love her to pieces.

My second baby I did not want to be pregnant yet. My first wasn't even a ...

Posted
11/26/2016

My second baby I did not want to be pregnant yet. My first wasn't even a year old. She still nursed all the time. I hadn't gotten my time to do wht I wanted to do before I was tethered to a newborn. Then I found out he was a boy. My world was crushed. Even in the hospital I was pretty whatever towards him. I knew I loved him but it wasn't the same connection I had towards my first. Then he was born. He didn't cry. He just laid on me and looked at me. He fell asleep almost right away. Woke up and grabbed my finger. From the first second that I held him I was in love. I knew that he was the one man that I could never live without.

Being pregnant is hard. It's complicated, scary and at times painful. It changes our moods and our thoughts.

Hang in there. ❤️

This will be my third. I just had a baby turn a year old, and she is nursing still and so so attached to me. She is so sweet and happy and beautiful... the sweetest girl. We bed share, too. I don't want her to at all feel kicked out of her comfort when new baby comes. That, and it's just too early for my body. I was really just getting into shape again from my last pregnancy and I've been depressed for a bit. Things have been tough and I'm bipolar, I just feel like the transition will be tough for me to handle.

This will be my third. I just had a baby turn a year old, and she is nursing...

Posted
11/26/2016

This will be my third. I just had a baby turn a year old, and she is nursing still and so so attached to me. She is so sweet and happy and beautiful... the sweetest girl. We bed share, too. I don't want her to at all feel kicked out of her comfort when new baby comes. That, and it's just too early for my body. I was really just getting into shape again from my last pregnancy and I've been depressed for a bit. Things have been tough and I'm bipolar, I just feel like the transition will be tough for me to handle.

My littlest just turned 1.5 this month. I know exactly how you feel.
A week before I got my BFP (big fat positive (pregnancy test)) I was taking pics and sending them to my mom and friends. My abs were finally coming back. My jeans all fit how they should. Finally was starting to feel normal.

I bed share as well. My plan is newborn sleeps in the crib next to the bed with one side taken off. We shall see how it goes. My 3 year old also likes to snuggle to sleep. 😕

I was 17 when I got pregnant with DD (dear daughter) I did not want to pregnant but j didn't believe in abortion or couldn't do adoption the father was never there and never planned to be really the whole pregnancy was a low place for me but as soon as i held that 8lb baby girl I knew God had a plan for me I might not have connected to her while I was pregnant but had an instant connection to her when she was born. To be completely honest this baby was planned and I still don't feel like I have a connection with her it is weird it may have something to do with growing up with absent parents it is hard to let myself love and connect with someone without them physically being with me I can't explain it

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