11 failed IUIs, IVF #1- miscarriage, FET #1-nada, IVF #2-triplets but we lost them all at 9, 18, and 21 weeks in 2013. When all hope was lost a friend stepped forward to be our gestational carrier and carried in our twins... 2 years later we decided to try for one more baby with me carrying again...this is our story

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Please Pray for the Franz Family

December 17, 2013

Infertility is a very hard pill to swallow. To experience additional pain after "we think" we may have ended our childless days feels so cruel-I know this first hand.

I have been blogger friends with Kristin since the beginning of both our journeys. We both did IVF for the first time around the same time. After all the hell IVF offers, Kristin only had 1 embryo that made it. They transferred it but it didn't implant. After talking with their doctor, they decided to move onto embryo adoption and mourned the "loss" of a biological child. Kristin was disappointed, but I knew from her story she 100% was ready to be a mom.

She adopted 3 embryos (the other ones that had been adopted had a very high implantation rate) and transferred 3. 10 days later she was left with a negative test and a broken heart. They then mourned the idea of pregnancy but nothing would stop them from being a family. They moved towards adoption in the US.

After months of fundraising, they miracously raised almost 25K for their adoption. In faith they set up and adorable nursery and waited for the call. A few months ago they got the phone call that they had been selected by birth parents and that they would have a sweet baby girl around January.

Fast forward to now, their daughter, Rylie was born with complications and too early. Kristin has just got the news that there is a high chance this little girl will be blind, unable to walk, and on a feeding tube all her life. Just when Kristin was sure the fight was over, it has only just begun. They have to know make the difficult decision if they want to move forward with the adoption-if they are prepared or if a different family would be a better fit. This story is similar to mine-you think you have something, you rejoice, you embrace it and BAM it's ripped from you. Here story isn't over though.

PLEASE send Kristin some love and prayers. Pray for healing for their daughter. Pray for wisdom in the decision. Pray for guidance. Whatever she decides, we support her. Here's a link to her blog http://babyfranz.blogspot.com/

Any words of encouragment, prayers, etc may comfort her as she is facing fear, disappoint, confusion, anger, and sadness.

I've been following Kristin's blog since I started mine a few months ago. Their story is incredible and I pray they come out the other end of this trial as wise and full of God's love as possible. I love your blog. It's both heartbreaking and encouraging at the same time. My husband and I have been on a similar journey. Two years of fertility treatments, failed IVF, started the adoption process, miraculously conceived naturally, and then our daughter was stillborn last year. I know the pain of holding your still breathless child in your arms. NO ONE should ever have to experience that. We never stopped the adoption journey though and we are still waiting for our call. Hope springs eternal.

What a heartbreaking journey for your friend. It makes me so sad that so many of us have such heartbreaking stories. I continue to think about you , but I will also be thinking about your friend now as well. Hugs!

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Meet the Bensons

Hi! I'm Holly and Darren is my husband. We have been married 5 years; after our 11th fertility treatment in 2013 we lost triplets (2 were stillborns in the 2nd tri). It nearly destroyed us. The day I delivered my son a friend emailed us and offered to carry some of our biological remaining embryos. The transfer was a success and we had twin boys born almost exactly a year-to-the-date later than when I delivered my son. If I'm not blogging about our journey, I'm teaching high school Spanish, drinking Starbucks, hanging out with family, eating candy-and then working it off at the gym. If you ever need to contact me directly you can at hollybenson10@yahoo.com or if you want to see more into our daily lives, my instagram is hbenson10

How Long We've Been At It:

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Babies in Heaven

We have had two miscarriages and 2 stillborns (born 3 weeks apart). I'm 50/50 on naming the early miscarriages but it gives me a sense of peace and reality of their lives. In heaven, I will call for them.

Jaden lost 11/2012 blighted ovum (my sister gave me the idea for this name, it means "God has heard" and he had because it was our 1st pregnancy)

Isaac lost 8/2013 everything was perfect and then stopped at 9 weeks (my sister is law gave me this idea. Isaac means "laughter" and everyone's first reaction to us having triplets was laughter)

Stillborn daughter born 10/30/13

Stillborn son Jude born @21 weeks 11/17/30

Infertility Treatment Journey

Me: 31 I have mild PCOS and ovulate very randomly (I respond to femera and on that have normal cycles)