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Am I too attached to my baby?

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Lately I've had a hard time leaving my 6-month-old for even a few hours. The older he gets, the worse this feeling becomes. Work is painfully long and on the weekends I can hardly stand to be away from him. It's not that I'm worried about my sitter -- it's my mom and I know he's fine with her -- but my heart just aches. Given a choice between a date with my husband and all of us being home together, I'd rather be home. Is this normal?

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I think your feelings are totally normal. Maybe not every mom feels that way, and that's fine as well, but I can assure you, given my own experience as well as conversations with a lot of moms, many feel the same way. I have a difficult time b/c I know I feel like I just had my son last week and it was actually four months ago. Time flies way too fast and I think it's completely valid to want to cherish these special times with your baby. My husband and I try to have a date 1-2x a month just us but, we also take him out with us. Often he falls asleep in the car and we have an hour or two to have dinner. Or, we've even made romantic picnic dinners at home while he's taking a nap. Don't underestimate fun times to be had at home. :-) There are plenty of things you can do to maintain a special connection with your husband and also be there to spend quality time with your baby. But don't berate yourself or feel guilty for not wanting to be away from your child. A mother's love is so strong and I think it's amazing.

I feel the same way. I count down the hours until I can go & get my daughter from daycare. I even visit her on my lunch break. I can't stand to be away from her for the whole 8 hours that I'm at work. We have such a strong bond & there is nothing wrong with that.

Whatever, your fine!!! I have a nine month old, and she's only a baby once. When I am not working I am pretty much with her and my husband, sometimes after work I will bring her to the grocery store just to spend more time with her. It's OK! When your comfortable leaving her more often, then do so. YOU know what's right for you.

You should 100% only do what you are comfortable doing. My MIL asks and asks and asks for my 5 m.o. daughter to sleep over and i just say "no". Don't feel guilty and don't think twice about it. I feel comfortable letting friends and family babysit and I do go out at least once a week with my husband but that is what I am comfortable with and works for me. Don't try to operate under anyone else's schedule or timeline. As your baby gets older you'll feel the need to get away. It'll come.
And as far as your husband goes, what could be more attractive than a woman completely dedicated to the family? Just increase the amouont of sex you have if necesary and your husband will feel completely taken care of.

I totally know how you feel. I stay at home with my daughter and we are both very attached to one another, which is wonderful, but can be difficult if I have an appointment or something. My husband works full time, and we try to maximize our family time and do things that are fun for us and our daughter. We re-connect at dinner and at night after the baby goes to bed. We do try to get out every once in awhile - it is important to have couple time too. But, we always leave her with someone she is comfortable with and know well (usually her grandparents), that way we can relax and enjoy our time together.

I know how you're feeling I feel the exact same way. I work full time and cannot wait until 4:00 p.m. to rush and pick up my 8 month old from daycare. He goes to bed at 7:00 p.m. and I miss him when he's sleeping. Weekends are spent with my baby - Whatever plans we may have they ABSOLUTELY include my baby. I don't want to be away from him even for a few hours on the weekends and frankly that's just the way it is. I will not apologize for it nor do I believe anything is wrong with it.

Denielle, Babies at 6 months are especially cute. My daughter is 6 months and I feel the exact same way. Looking at her picture at work makes me despise being there, and I always take her along with me everywhere when I can. My husband also seems to be attached to her as well.

It is so normal to be feeling that way. Your baby is the most precious little thing in the world to you. At 6 months he's only getting cuter and more fun. Who wouldn't get sad when they have to leave. I have an incredible marriage, but honestly, I don't think I truly new what love was until I had my baby. Nothing else compares. Just when I think I can't possibly love this little guy anymore, he smiles at me and my heart melts. Don't be so hard on yourself. My husband and I still get to spend great quality time together, with our son and alone when he's sleeping. At 6 months he should still be sleeping quite a bit. You can dedicate that time together until you're more comfortable leaving your son. Honestly, you should do what you feel is the right thing to do.You don't need everyone telling you what to do. You know what is right for you and your family.

I feel the same way. I count down the hours until I can go & get my daughter from daycare. I even visit her on my lunch break. I can't stand to be away from her for the whole 8 hours that I'm at work. We have such a tight bond & there is nothing wrong with that.

i think it is very normal i mean yes i am a first time mom and maybe it will be different after i have more but right now she is my world. i do miss dbeing able to just get up and go but i can not picture my life without her not even for one second. nobody can take care of her like i can, and nobody can love her like her mommy can so i choose to take her every where i go that includes work. my daughter is two months and has never actually left my sight for more than 5 minutes. i thought about leaving her at homoe with my husband but right after i said i would it brought tears to my eyes to even think i would have to leave her. she has never even been alone with her father i just miss her. i have wanted a baby for a long time and as i said she is my first so i suppose it is only normal.

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