got a text from SD16......

Submitted by daisy0202 on Tue, 05/08/2012 - 2:07pm

So around 2:30 today i recieved a text from SD16 stating:

SD:
I can not believe we do not live with you anymore. I think this is crazy you even made us leave and now my dad is forced to go over and leave his family. I know you shut his phone off this weekend, I know you did not answer my calls just to keep me from my daddy. Well I have news for you its not going to work. So leave us alone. My daddy does not love you. He hates you to be honest so sorry to tell you that but its true. He told me himself. So again leave us alone!!!!

LMFAO....Kid you have issues!!!I didnt even answer the text but i did however forward that text to my DH, who immediately called me apoligizing and telling me ignore it, block her number, i am taking care of this and I will be there tomorrow for our date. I love u so much. please do not let tyhis set us back. I am so pissed at her right now. what is wrong with her?

IDK DH but you need to take care of this before you come back. Its time to become a father and stay firm. She has alot of issues here.

Agreed, but this girl clearly can't hide that she thinks she should be the center of attention. Some therapists aren't good at their jobs. And some therapists are better equipped to handle different types of issues. I have nothing against therapists, but sometimes they miss the boat. McCrazy's therapist was supposed to help deal with her anger issues. Apparently, they talked about me and my supposed "self-esteem" issues. THe woman never met me, but somehow I was the problem because McCrazy said so - despite the 5 other mental health care professionals who thought McCrazy needed individual therapy for her issues.

What is he doing to stop this behavior??? I would take her phone away. If she cannot respect boundaries such as not calling 100 thousand times when daddy is out of her view, or sending awful text messages to her daddy's real wife, I'd be taking that phone away asap. Doesn't sound like she has any friends, doesn't go anywhere, no need for a phone.

When I was 16 years what/where my parents were was the last thing on my mind!! This girl is not doing well, I agree she needs a new therapist. If that text don't open DH eyes to what she is doing nothing will.....

I think you did the right thing in ignoring ehr and forwarding her message. This is confirmation that his daughter is interferring in his life in ways he did not ever think she would and the murkiness that has become your marriage is clearing and he is seeing his DD exactly for who she is.

She has issues and her father needs to get these in hand very quickly.

Omg!!! The nerve of that lil brat!!! I'm so anxious to know what DH did? I agree with some or the others... She should loose the phone, and you go directly to the therapists office and personally show him the text!

I'm always searching everyday for your blogs.. I feel for you :/
Hang in there daisy!

TBH Daisy the next time you see her I would have something to say about what she did. Wouldnt care that DH is "dealing with it". In all honesty I wouoldnt have her back in my home, there are some lines you dont cross and this is one of them imo.

I know its hard because you are disengaging but when you see DH perhaps you ought to mention that DH needs to tell the therapist about SD's latest shennanigans? Difficult I know and am in two minds whether you should broach this as actually it is down to DH to either sink or swim over sd, and your dating time shouldnt be clogged up or tension caused by her actions as thats just giving the silly little girl exactly what she wants. However you also need evidence that DH IS addressing her behaviour with ACTIONS because otherwise how will you know he is making progress with his parenting?! :-/

BTW who at 16 uses the word "daddy"?!!! Who does she think she is...Miss cutie pie Barbie?...yeah on acid.

I think many of us have received at least one text or email similar to that in the past. In my case, I choose to overlook the obvious teenage angst and try to communicate with some rational talk. Big, huge, hairy mistake. In the years since, upon retrospect, I would have one response...

"If you've got something to say to me, grow up and come say it to my face. Be prepared for a 2-way conversation."

I'd blast them into out.er.fu.ck.ing.space if they said to my face what they have written to me. Which is WHY they would NEVER attempt the direct approach.