Christian Dating Tips

One thing I’ve learned in my experience with online dating sites is a lot of men and women could use some Christian dating advice and Christian dating tips on how to do the “online thing.” Over time, I’ll add more tips, and even some articles about Christian dating and relationships. For now, consider the tips below.

For Women

Do not reveal personal information until you are sure you can trust the guy. If you’re in the phone book, all a person needs is your name and the state in which you live to track you down.

If a guy pushes for a phone call or meeting before you’re ready, that’s a red flag. A godly guy should respect you enough to wait until you are comfortable moving forward.

Don’t initiate. Let the guy take the initiative in moving forward, whether it’s a phone call, meeting or whatever. Personally, I’d rather make the intial contact, too. He’ll respect you more.

I recommend using a temporary email address, such as Hotmail, so that you’re not giving out your permanent email address right away. Make sure you don’t put your full name on your whatever email address you use.

As as courtesy, you should respond to every guy who writes to you, even if you are not interested. Come up with a standard response like; “Thanks for writing. After reviewing your profile, I don’t believe we’re a good match. Thanks for writing, and God bless you.” In other words, let them down easy, but give them the courtesy of one response.

If you post pictures, PLEASE use discretion with the pictures you choose. Don’t select pictures that are “sexy” (eg. showing a lot of cleavage or an extremely revealing dress.) This can give the wrong impression and attract the wrong kind of guys. (Yes, even on Christian sites there are guys who want a phyical relationship or are only attracted to the physical.) Also, in my opinion, it is not a good idea to post pictures from “Glamour Shots” because they are usually not a good representation of the “real you.” Instead, post pictures that show you doing something you enjoy, and and that really depict who you are.

These guys are your brothers in Christ, so treat them that way.

For Men

Don’t push a women to move too quickly. Be willing to respect her enough to wait for her to be comfortable before moving forward.

Remember that these women are your sisters in Christ, treat them that way! That means honor, respect, kindness, gentleness, patience and self-control, to name a few.

NO SEX! You’re messing with God’s daughter, here. If you think it’s okay to violate God’s standard for sexual purity, you’re fooling yourself.
And don’t play the Bill Clinton game, defining sex only as intercourse. Sex includes intercourse, oral sex, touching of breasts or genitalia under or over clothes, simulated sex and masturbation.

If a women tells you she’s not interested, just let it go. You don’t need to respond. There are plenty of other women out there.

As as courtesy, you should respond to every woman who writes to you, even if you are not interested. Come up with a standard response like; “Thanks for writing. After reviewing your profile, I don’t believe we’re a good match. Thanks for writing, and God bless you.” In other words, let them down easy, but give them the courtesy of one response.

“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen.”
— Ephesians 3:20