something she wants you to know…

In my lifetime, I have played all three possible roles in the game of cheating. I have been cheated on, I have cheated, and I have been the accomplice to the cheating. People will give you all types of reasons why people cheat. And if that list is longer than one singular item then the list is erroneous. There is only ONE reason why people cheat, at least initially- it is what they wanted to do when the opportunity presented itself. All the other reasons are pish-posh!

Here are some common beliefs about cheating that I feel are really myths.

1) Men cheat WAY more than women.

2) Men are so sloppy with their cheating and that is why they always get caught

3) Women are much smarter cheaters and that is why they hardly get caught.

I am going to let you in on a little something. If a man is caught cheating it is because the side chick wanted to send a message to the main lady. The side chick has to leave a trail for the dude to get caught, plain and simple. As long as side chick is content, she will do her part to make sure he never gets caught. She will keep electronic communication to a bare minimum. She will have him home on time, collar clean, and shirt pressed. Most important, she will grossly limit the usage of his name both publically and privately because you never know who knows who.

The reason women are not caught cheating as frequently as men is because men have too much pride to seem pressed enough to go through the effort of making his presence known to another man. It’s just way too much work. Unless he gets “hooked on the venom,” well, then men can become worse than women.

Much like the list of reasons why people cheat, the reason why a side-chick wants to make their presence known is also relatively simple. It is the result of growing discontentment- emotionally, financially, position, etc.