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Puzzled by Denial?

Sometimes facing reality is too much for us to handle. We may find ourselves
ignoring a situation or denying that it even exists because the alternative is to
live in the discomfort of the pain. We retreat psychologically to protect
ourselves. When dealing with emotionally or physically painful situations,
denial can be self-preserving. In our denial, we may feel confusion, fear,
anxiety and even resentment as we know that something is not quite right. There
is suffering in denial.

I’ve
experienced a difficult situation that had me denying my reality. My denial was challenged by clues that I had
missed and began recognizing as pieces of a puzzle fitting together. And
when the puzzle formed, I had complete clarity and vision about what to do. When I had more information and understanding, I could no longer deny reality. Almost
seamlessly, a chain of events unfolded around taking action. There was no
resistance—only the path unfolding—as I was guided forward. The steps I took to crack open the suffering of denial and face reality, included:

Readiness to face the discomfort

Willingness to
change

Paying attention to my intuition

Detaching from the situation
and the outcome

Trusting in a greater good
and a grander plan

Gratitude and appreciation
for what IS

You
can apply these steps to any situation where you feel pain, uncertainty and
fear. There is great learning in suffering. And remember that moving from the
comfort of denial into the bite of reality is a process that takes time—its own
time.

Are
you in a state of denial that if you were to change, you’d experience greater
joy, alignment with your values and the abundance life
offers? What does moving from denial into action look like?

Coaching
with Kelly can help you break through the barrier of denial. Call now to schedule
your complimentary 30-minute coaching session.