Should I Swing?

Tue, Mar 31st 1998

I am 38 and my boyfriend is 25. We had been seeing each other for two years. In January of this year we bought a house together and moved in February 1. Up until this month we had a very active and erotic sex life, but now things are changing. Three weeks ago he asked me what I thought of the swinging scene; I hadn`t really given it much thought, so I said I`d have to know more. He must have taken this as a yes, because I found out we are in an ad looking for swinging couples. To make things worse, he received an answer to his ad from a couple wanting single sex, three-somes, and even four-somes. We are fighting because he wants to send a picture of me naked to them, when I didn't know about the ad in the first place. Why didn't he bring this up before? Why did he wait until we bought the house? All he talks about lately is which women he finds sexy. I am starting to think that I am no longer woman enough. What do I do ? I feel that if I don't swing, we'll break up. I truly believe he will even if I don't. How do I save my relationship ? What do I do ? Thank you.

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