Not sure about baby having No.2

Am I the only one in doubt about having another child? I always said I'd have two to children, but I'm so uncertain. Hubby is very much for another. I had a great pregnancy and I'm so grateful for my GORGEOUS Son. Am I alone in this situation?

Am I the only one in doubt about having another child? I always said I'd have two to children, but I'm so uncertain. Hubby is very much for another. I had a great pregnancy and I'm so grateful for my GORGEOUS Son. Am I alone in this situation?

I don't have the problem with wanting another baby. I wish I was pregnant yesterday but my DH has been stationed in Japan for 14 months now and still has another 7-8 months left. I do fear that my current DS will always be my favorite and I won't be able to love another baby as much as I love my son. Or be able to give another baby the same time and interaction that I have given my son. I'm also afraid that when I do have another baby, my DS will resent me for taking all his mommy time away.

I don't have the problem with wanting another baby. I wish I was pregnant yesterday but my DH has been stationed in Japan for 14 months now and still has another 7-8 months left. I do fear that my current DS will always be my favorite and I won't be able to love another baby as much as I love my son. Or be able to give another baby the same time and interaction that I have given my son. I'm also afraid that when I do have another baby, my DS will resent me for taking all his mommy time away.

I had a great pregnancy with my DD but an awful labour that I cannot bear thinking about going through again.

Overriding that is my wish for my daughter to have a sister or brother that she'll love as much as I love my (5!) siblings and someone she will always have to lean on and vice versa.And I don't remember ever feeling not loved or getting less attention than my brothers and sisters and there are 6 of us, all 2yrs apart.

So, at the moment we are planning to start trying for no.2 in Jan/Feb 2013 and I just focus on all the positive aspects of it for my DD rather than my nagging doubts...

I'm in the same boat and have similar fears to sailorwife.

I had a great pregnancy with my DD but an awful labour that I cannot bear thinking about going through again.

Overriding that is my wish for my daughter to have a sister or brother that she'll love as much as I love my (5!) siblings and someone she will always have to lean on and vice versa.And I don't remember ever feeling not loved or getting less attention than my brothers and sisters and there are 6 of us, all 2yrs apart.

So, at the moment we are planning to start trying for no.2 in Jan/Feb 2013 and I just focus on all the positive aspects of it for my DD rather than my nagging doubts...

I feel the same way as kelznz10- I have similar fears of having a second. Also I have selfish thoughts- With 1 I still have a little independence but with 2 it will be so much harder to get 'me time'. Sigh.. But I have always wanted at least 2 kids. I really want my kids to have at least 1 sibling. So I'm trying to not think about my doubts and just go with it. We will also start trying around December this year.

I feel the same way as kelznz10- I have similar fears of having a second. Also I have selfish thoughts- With 1 I still have a little independence but with 2 it will be so much harder to get 'me time'. Sigh.. But I have always wanted at least 2 kids. I really want my kids to have at least 1 sibling. So I'm trying to not think about my doubts and just go with it. We will also start trying around December this year.

I really want a second but probably won't be able to. DH and I are potentially getting divorced so there goes any chanc of another and if we do manage to work it out I am worried our marriage will go sour again and whilst I could cope and afford 1 child by myself I don't think I could do it with 2! I really wanted DS to have a sibling but just can't see that happening now :0(

I really want a second but probably won't be able to. DH and I are potentially getting divorced so there goes any chanc of another and if we do manage to work it out I am worried our marriage will go sour again and whilst I could cope and afford 1 child by myself I don't think I could do it with 2! I really wanted DS to have a sibling but just can't see that happening now :0(

DS will be my first and likely only. DS is my husband's third and he doesn't want anymore and I hated being pregnant. Luckily DS has a lot of cousins and most of them are within a year of his age. He has no shortage of playmates.

DS will be my first and likely only. DS is my husband's third and he doesn't want anymore and I hated being pregnant. Luckily DS has a lot of cousins and most of them are within a year of his age. He has no shortage of playmates.

Yes i feel the same. I originally wanted 3 but now i'm not so sure. Dh is ready to go but for some reason (selfishly i know) i have the urge to get things in my own life done first. i feel guilty about this.I'm sorry to hear about the possibility of a divorce JLH. you never know what the future will hold though. hugs...

Yes i feel the same. I originally wanted 3 but now i'm not so sure. Dh is ready to go but for some reason (selfishly i know) i have the urge to get things in my own life done first. i feel guilty about this.I'm sorry to hear about the possibility of a divorce JLH. you never know what the future will hold though. hugs...

Thinking seriously about baby #2, DH is ready I'm slightly hesitant due to how young we are and not wanting the dirty looks and comments that we received with DD. But it all comes down to what's best for us I suppose. Every requirement I had set before we began TTC baby #2 has been met so nothing is really holding us back. So after this pack of pills we will see what happens!

Thinking seriously about baby #2, DH is ready I'm slightly hesitant due to how young we are and not wanting the dirty looks and comments that we received with DD. But it all comes down to what's best for us I suppose. Every requirement I had set before we began TTC baby #2 has been met so nothing is really holding us back. So after this pack of pills we will see what happens!

I only want one. It's for selfish reasons. I like sleep and me time and I really didn't like months 8 & 9 of pregnancy nor the first 3 months of babyhood. If I get the urge then hubby & I are thinking about adoption or fostering children. For now it's just us 3. I finally am getting the hang of timing naps and errands and housework and fitting a full time job in. I just can't do it to myself. Plus I like that we can afford to give our LO the things (in the future) our parents couldn't do having many children.

I only want one. It's for selfish reasons. I like sleep and me time and I really didn't like months 8 & 9 of pregnancy nor the first 3 months of babyhood. If I get the urge then hubby & I are thinking about adoption or fostering children. For now it's just us 3. I finally am getting the hang of timing naps and errands and housework and fitting a full time job in. I just can't do it to myself. Plus I like that we can afford to give our LO the things (in the future) our parents couldn't do having many children.

We just started trying for #2 a couple weeks ago....I feel the same way though as many of you. I had a horrible pregnancy and labor and then I didn't really start to feel like myself again until just this May. Now that I feel good, I'm really going to do this to myself again???? My DH really wants 2 kids though and he's older than me so wants another now. I used to want 3, but now knowing what I do about just having 1 and the work involved, I think 2 is all I need to make my family complete :) my mom was superwoman and made 4 kids look easy....I just can't do it all working full time and being in school too. At least I graduate next May!

We just started trying for #2 a couple weeks ago....I feel the same way though as many of you. I had a horrible pregnancy and labor and then I didn't really start to feel like myself again until just this May. Now that I feel good, I'm really going to do this to myself again???? My DH really wants 2 kids though and he's older than me so wants another now. I used to want 3, but now knowing what I do about just having 1 and the work involved, I think 2 is all I need to make my family complete :) my mom was superwoman and made 4 kids look easy....I just can't do it all working full time and being in school too. At least I graduate next May!

I want another one like yesterday. I will be completely satisfied with 2 and feel like DD needs a sibiling to grow up with. BUT reality is something completely different. DH already has 2 previous kids and is a little on the fence/hesitant about having another one, plus not to mention the expensive involved in having another child. I truly hope I get to experience pregnancy and childbirth one last time. I had a pretty good pregnancy with bearable symptoms and a not to tramatic birth. To be honest I miss being pregnant.

I want another one like yesterday. I will be completely satisfied with 2 and feel like DD needs a sibiling to grow up with. BUT reality is something completely different. DH already has 2 previous kids and is a little on the fence/hesitant about having another one, plus not to mention the expensive involved in having another child. I truly hope I get to experience pregnancy and childbirth one last time. I had a pretty good pregnancy with bearable symptoms and a not to tramatic birth. To be honest I miss being pregnant.

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