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Soulskill
on Friday July 05, 2013 @10:42AM
from the it's-all-bright-and-annoying-outside dept.

fantomas writes "The BBC reports on the Japanese phenomenon of Hikikomori: young people, mainly men, who are holed up in rooms in their parents' houses, refusing to go out and engage with society. 'A conservative estimate of the number of people now affected is 200,000, but a 2010 survey for the Japanese Cabinet Office came back with a much higher figure - 700,000. Since sufferers are by definition hidden away, Saito himself places the figure higher still, at around one million. The average age of hikikomori also seems to have risen over the last two decades. Before it was 21 — now it is 32.' Why is this happening? And is it a global phenomenon or something purely due to Japanese culture? (We're all familiar with the standing slashdot joke of the geek in their mom's basement, for example.)"

I've heard time and time again, that Canadian (and American) men are highly desired by women in Japan. I've also heard time and time again, that the reason is because too many Japanese men are downright useless and misogynistic assholes.
Are you a genuinely nice North American dude with a real job? If so, it really is remarkably easy to meet wonderful women in Japan.

You've heard. The reality is quite different however. There are about 50,000 Americans living in Japan. There are about 40,000 US military personnel in Japan at any given time. Being a military wife might be attractive to some, but for most families in Japan it would be an embarrassment. Because of the high number of US military compared to general Americans living in Japan, if you see a white guy wandering around who isn't wearing a suit, it isn't a bad guess to think he is in the military, and therefore undesirable. The stereotype bleeds over a bit into any american, even if they have nothing to do with the military.

American men are different than Japanese men, but it would be a huge mistake to think or imply that one is more desirable in Japan than the other. And reporting that American men can find a lady in Japan with little or no effort is completely wrong.

The karoshi stereotype exists in Japan for a reason. The whole culture seems to be built around working yourself to death. A friend of mine visited there and described life as non-stop work. Guys basically work all day, then face social pressure to go out with the boss at night. Basically, they are "on" all the time. So of course there is a large segment of the population that sees that life and goes "screw that!" and decide not to play the game.

1) I are not, in any means, the "default guy". And this is like a "social death sentence" on my city. I are not rich, not powerfull, not beaultiful. ergo, I are a "outcast" for the average woman;

2) I tried the "social game", I really would like to have friends and girlfriend and in a good way (no "macho" man). But, soon I figured that either you become this despicable "macho" man or nobody will want to know about me. And, I preffer to do not be that;

3) The average woman, trust me, is know to says "A" but actually want "B", and maybe does "C". Of course not all are like that, but so far I have not found one out of this pattern, and I searched a lot;

4) Finally, I REALLY do NOT like confusions. If a woman says "no" I'm leaving, even though she was actually saying the opposite (who said that the "mating ritual" is simple?). Because I do not want to pass in any way by the hassle of having to deal with an enraged woman.

In short? I just weighed all variables obtained over time and came to the conclusion that in the end is not worth it.

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This is a case in Sweden where CP was planted in a politicians machine using a remote desktop software, causing failed re-election, stress, and millions of dollars in legal fees: