Friday, February 28, 2014

If he did he would see that sitting behind the safety of a computer screen tucked behind the walls of your own home lends a false sense of anonymity. He may think he can confidently pound out his hateful spite on someone who has done nothing to him, and he'll have immunity from any accountability for what he does. And he would be wrong.

Just this week on MSN comes a story about an arrogant JobBank Moderator who got the smack down from the public for unleashing her distasteful sense of superiority over some younger woman who was seeking to connect and gain employment opportunities. And her temper has cost this woman dearly.

Just last night, I got a series of hateful messages from someone named coffeexplorer. I guess he figures he's god's gift to women because before he started spewing outrageous and aggressively malicious emails my way, I'd never viewed his page, never heard of him and never made any attempt to contact him. I guess this is his way of dealing with his life disappointments: by vicious attacking women online who are seeking love.

Take a look at what he wrote to me:

“Wow, you are a case study for feminist attention whoring.
Another 7 who thinks she is a 9. Don't get me wrong I like your passion, but
average girls cannot make super model demands. The world is corrupt and you are
pretending its good because you have been protected by white knight beta males
who have protected you from true horrors and brutality. Women twice as hot and
bad ass as you are mixing Molotov Cocktails for their men in the streets of
Ukraine right now and you are demanding that American men buy you cocktails and
open doors for you. Lol

You are on a public forum publicly emotionally streaking with
your life story and sexy photos. You love thus sh*t

And believe this, no other man read or cares about what you
wrote about YOURSELF, we all just want sex and will do and say anything to get
it. Who you are and what you like and dislike is of no importance to us.
Everyman you have ever known secretly thinks this... gasp! Oh the horror, huh?
Yep everyman has to lie to get all your required "right" answers and
win the golden key to your high maintenance golden chastity belt."

I really cannot know how this guy can assume that he is a "nice guy." I am very glad that I have had the pleasure of knowing LOTS of truly nice guys who's friendship I value very much.

It's just really sad that this jerk seems to think that he's somehow been wronged enough to deserve to be horrible to anyone whenever he feels like lashing out. It makes you question whether he would likewise physically take out his vicious temper on any random woman who had the misfortune to meet him. He seems like the type would find whatever female who crosses his path and destroy her life just because he's obviously an angry and bitter person.

To all the honorable, good hearted and chivalrous men (and outraged women) out there, feel free to let this guy know that this is not how you treat your women and that you won't tolerate him treating females in general this way. Thank you for helping keep the world (online and off) a safer place for everyone.

Friday, February 14, 2014

Valentine's Day is considered by many the most romantic day of the year. It's certainly one of the primary days where restaurant expect to fill up, flower shops anticipate being emptied and jewelry stores try to convince you rocks and metal will solve all your relationship problems.

And that is why, for most people, they should absolutely NOT plan a date for February 14th.

Saturday, February 8, 2014

Your profile says that you're new to this state, and
while that shouldn't matter when it comes to internet dating sites, which are
all over the world, I'm gonna cut you some slack and let you in on a little
secret.

Girls who are fit, reasonably attractive and have
their life together get a LOT of mail. I'm not
bragging. If I could get 90% of it to STOP..I would. I feel like I'm
wasting my life rummaging through 50+ messages a week from guys who aren't fit,
aren't attractive, don't have their life together and don't even want a real
relationship. It's depressing!

So...girls cut through the crap by just eliminating guys. A LOT of eliminating. Let the deleting begin! They will:

1) Delete anyone who doesn't have a picture.

2) Delete anyone married, in a relationship or just
looking for an intimate encounter.

3) Delete anyone who is very much outside the desired
age range.

4) Delete anyone they're not attracted to even a
little.

5) Delete anyone who doesn't bother to write anything
about themselves in their profile.

6) Delete anyone who can't type/ speak proper English.

7) Delete anyone who lives further than 50 miles away.

8) Delete anyone who doesn't have a job, a car and at least one normal hobby.

10) Delete anyone who's first message is ONLY (any
variation of) "Hey what's up?" or "Hi, how you doing?"

Now I realize you probably were nodding your head over the first 9 points and then probably stopped at #10 thinking "Now hang on a second.... I DO that... that get's my messages deleted?? But I'm completely solid on all the other points! That's not fair! Why does just saying "hello, how are you?" going to get my message deleted?"

Before you get all flustered over what seems like an injustice, consider this: If you get ten messages from people and they all say nearly word for word the exact same thing... wouldn't you get tired of responding to them??

Wouldn't you get to a point where you would hate to have to keep responding to those same short, dull messages with just different faces, day after day, week after week, month after month, possibly for years?? You'd want to scream too. Or crumple something up and throw it. Or just take a deep breath and delete them all. Screw it. It's too boring and tedious to be bothered.

BECAUSE......

One line sentences say.."I didn't read your
profile, I don't know anything about you, I just looked though your pictures,
thought were attractive and wrote you a really lazy message to see if you'll
pay attention to me without my taking any real effort to know you."

So people...if you are guilty of writing these obnoxious and impersonal one line messages (and we all know you send to
about a dozen girls every week or so) and are annoyed that they almost NEVER get responded to, you should know it's because they
just deleted them. But there is a way to STOP getting deleted!

If you want to get the attention of a woman who is being
bombarded by tons of guys on a regular basis...you HAVE TO STAND OUT. If you do
just the bare minimum... you'll get the bare minimum....basically they might
glance at your profile and delete your sorry message.

I'm really just trying to help you guys. I know you
have a lot of competition. And I know there aren't too many girls who are in
shape and who aren't crazy or have a ton of drama going on. So take this advice
and stop having your messages get deleted.

Have an original subject heading. Trust me, it will
get her attention over the typical "hi" or "hey".

Try humor. Even just having a joke in a subject
heading or a message will get WAY more attention than the hundreds of "hi
how are you?" that a girl has to read over and over and over again. Be
original. Even weird is at least more interesting than boring.

If you make her smile (or better yet laugh) chances are good she'll come back for more. Everyone likes people who make them laugh.

Say something about HER. Even if it's just a short
sentence/ observation.

And for the love of Pete, DON'T say she has pretty eyes,
a pretty smile or "seems smart/ laid back / down to earth/ or really
cool". (I swear, if I had a nickel for every time some guy said those things in an email to me... GROAN.... DELETE. ) Mention something she said about herself IN her profile. She gave you stuff to talk about... so talk about it!

DON'T talk about yourself in your message to her. If a girl feels like you're
just saying hello to get her to read 5 paragraphs you wrote about how great YOU
are, why should she read it? She was hoping you were writing her because you
noticed HER out of all the other girls out there!

Write about you in YOUR profile. That way after you've
impressed her with your funny message that says something about her that shows
you actually read her profile...she'll be eager to get to your page and read
all about YOU.

But it HAS
TO happen in THAT ORDER.

If you can get a conversation going because you were
the ONE GUY who made her smile or laugh, she might not care if you don't some of the other criteria
she's looking for. If nothing else, you'll at least get a conversation going
and possibly a meet. And that's the first step to finding a romantic
relationship (or even a really great friend). Right?

I've read soooo many "What's up?" "How's
is going?" and "How is your days?" that sometimes I want to just
give up talking to people online altogether.

So sorry, but the "How are you?" that you
just sent... is going in the garbage.

Just think about this from the stand point of a girl
for a second. Unless you write something to stand out, you all sound like
robots. So if I can't find a smart, funny, clever guy online, I might as well
hold out for the tallest, handsomest and riches robot in the bunch right?