Posted Aug 25, 2016

Reporting an inappropriate member is highly encouraged and available to both Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies/Mommies. If you are having a conversation with another member and they ask you for personal banking information, use derogatory language or send unsolicited private photos it may be time to consider reporting them. SeekingArrangement takes user reports very seriously and wants to be notified of any inappropriate activity taking place on the site.

How To Report:

To report a member look for this icon at the bottom of your message thread:

Once you click “Report Member” you will be able to provide details regarding the incident.

What Happens Next:

Once you file a report, SeekingArrangement’s support team will investigate the matter thoroughly. If the report is deemed accurate the offending member’s account will be immediately suspended.

Please keep in mind that reporting a member should only be used for serious offenses. A report should not be filed simply because a member was rude to you. If you receive a rude message it is best to block the member. When you block someone, they will no longer be able to contact you using the site and they will no longer be able to view your profile.

Remember: If a user has threatened or committed an act of violence, please contact your local law enforcement agency and report the member.

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167 Responses to “All About Reporting”

Be advisedsays:

Go4me – go4theOne is a fraud. I can’t have been the first one he’s done this to and I doubt I am the last. He abused me, forced me to do things I didn’t want to do, stole my money, and lied to my face for a month, he has no intention of ever giving someone an allowance and threatened my life. Please avoid him, for your own safety and well-being.

Krutika Singhsays:

I’m not really someone who can travel with my daddy and I’m also not at all confident about how i look. Seeing as I’m still 18, I’m not really allowed by my.family to be into these things. But I really do wish to earn something in order help my mother out financially. I would love to do an online only realationship because I’m scared that my daddy would not like me after meeting me. Is there any way possible for an online only relationship seeing as I am still a student who goes to college almost 7 hours a day and only has Sunday as free time.

Morgansays:

This woman that i met on here was really sweet and she and i agreed to make an arrangement. Everything was going fine and she gave me money and then her check bounced, it took the money that was supposed to be mine as well as overdrafted the account and got me locked out. Now she wont answer texts. I cannot believe…

But you’ve been warned not to give out your bank details. Please open a paypay account and insist on it. Sadly tgis site is full of scammers I’m very disappointed since they say they verify their members. I’ve been contacted by 2 scammers in 2 days asking for banking details before even meeting them. I only managed to block one of them, the other’s profile vanished into thin air before I could report him.

Zsa Zsasays:

Classyhonestman is a scammer he tried to get me to open an account so that he can get people to deposit money into it and I told him no he got upset with me I have no way of reporting him because he took down his profile he did state to me that he will be coming back on to seeking arrangements to find somebody else that will help him out. I hope seeking Arrangements keeps Closed profiles on file so they can see who this person looks like and if seeking Arrangements wants his phone number I will give it to them

I’m one of the gay boys and just learning about the “salt daddy” term. I know the differences between real and pretenders. Can a salt daddy be wealthy, but just doesn’t want to spend it, and rather date for free by paying for a meal ? I know real sugar daddies offer to help when they can tell you’re in a difficult situation, but do the salt daddies just disregard the subtly ? Just trying to understand the indicators.

It depends. At that rate, you must be very busy for sure. Call me if you need a scheduler. Lol

Anonymoussays:

Depends, but at that rate, you must be very busy.

SB Bluessays:

Encountered a SALT daddy. Not even Splenda.
He has NO money and is living off credit cards or at least that is what he just told me.
He never gave me the whole allowance we agreed on and now he is asking for some of it back!
Are you kidding?!
He and we are past all that him giving me allowance.
Our relationship has grown he says.
Sorry, but no.
I won’t be seeing him again.
All I’ve encountered on this site is rude men without money.

Tell him to get off the site and seek therapy or better yet, find a better paying job. Sounds he needs to be the sugar baby one.

Angry SBsays:

So many salt daddys on here .
So rude and offer $ 100 or $350 per “meet”. When you refuse their offer they act like children and either name call you or say things like “This is Harrisburg not Miami.”
What does that have to do with anything? Either you have money or you do not.

Anonymoussays:

They are idiots incapable of comprehending that people might have different expectations and are not OBLIGED to accept any offer. Ask yourself this, would any true, successful and genuine SD who is educated act like this?

Hi like it

Josephsays:

I would love some kind of review system, but I realize that might be difficult to implement when people’s feelings are involved. For example, I recently met a ‘nice’ woman who I made an arrangement with who then completely disappeared, blocked me on this site, and wouldn’t answer texts. With zero explanation like that, it would be nice to be able to rate their poor communication skills. So you wouldn’t need a review section like Amazon, just one based on a star system. For example: Communication: 1 star, accuracy of pictures: 5 star, etc. Something simple.

Now as far as the flakes go, which I seem to have extensive experience with in a very short time, can we require a fee to join for SB’s? It would be minimal, but might weed out the ones that are just curious or checking things out. You could even use that small fee to lower the fee for the SD’s since SA’s prices are absurd. haha.

When I know that every user on here had to make a sacrifice (albeit small), I’m more likely to trust that they are serious about meeting, and the chances are much better there aren’t as many flakes.

IWouldLoginButItsBrokensays:

Wow…

I would need to create a burner account on here in order to report all the SB’s that blocked me after I called them out for scamming for requesting a money-order before a meet.

If I’ve had good email banter, and a phonecall or 2, I have no problem arranging an uber for the POT for an initial lunch/coffee meet.

The rating system could work, but it’s still all subjective. I think you’d need quite a few things to rate someone on (Sense of humor, punctuality, felt safe, etc). Even if SB’s could only see how other SB’s rated SD’s, and vice versa…

Anonymoussays:

SB’s can request money for meet and greets but that doesn’t mean you should give it to them if you don’t want to. The wishlist is there for a reason, but of course you’d have to meet the person to give it to them.

AnonymousGirlsays:

SOOO many men on here trying to use this as a cheap craigslist! I am so tired of being asked.. “how many roses for the meet?” or “what are your rates?” RATES! Got to be joking right? And then when you tell them your allowance expectancy they laugh at you and offer 100$ for sex and say if they wanted to pay insane prices they would go to an escort service! Ummm.. we aren’t escorts anyways! So MOVE ALONG and check craigslist, the street or backpage. What happened to this site! These men smh…

Angry SBsays:

So far that is all I’ve encountered on this site. I have yet to meet a man who actually had money. I had one guy today that was very rude to me while discussing an arrangement. I have practical Lifestyle on my profile and he had willing to give substantial on his, but when I offered up my practical allowance he said “We are in Harrisburg not Miami.” Well okay then if you don’t have the money you shouldn’t be on this site.
Why have substantial on your profile if you can’t even do practical?
This wasn’t even the first time he contacted me. The last time I was speaking with him I stopped because he started low-balling me from the start saying things like I will give you $350 per meet.
I am willing to give my time and companionship, if I feel comfortable, to someone who is a true gentleman and really has the means to be generous.
Another guy who I’m actually seeing on and off currently has no money at all but he is doing other things for me that are a big help, but he is still on this site and is in credit card debt.
I think a big red flag is when they start complaining about the cost of having their SD account. That is what I’ve seen so far. Guys who have messaged me eventually start saying things like, “So,are we going to meet because I really want to close this account because the cost is too much a month?”

Sabrinasays:

I am having the same issue. I started out at what I thought was a reason per date meet at $500 but couldn’t find even one guy to agree to that. Most said $250 max. Nope! So I went to $400. Had a couple agree to it but never followed through. One did but I found out he is a total jerk so I no longer talk to him. Another guy, 30 years my senior, took me to dinner. His profile said substantial as well which is the only reason I agreed to the date to see if I could get past the age gap. Through dinner he only wanted to discuss himself and what sexual expectations he had. Then he asked me how much I expected a month. I said $2000 for as much as he wanted. He busted out laughing and said, “I’ll do half that and hire another girl for you to f*ck in front of me.” Oh hell no! Date over. Sleezy old man! I’ve also been stood up twice, had multiple guys trying to get my bank account info and nude photos. I would have better luck hanging out in places wealthy men go than on here. All I’m finding are rejects of society that think they are potential SDs or ones that know they are a catch and refuse to pay allowances (go to a regular dating site jerks).

Chrissays:

I have become very disillusioned with SA, Seems so many profiles are fake. Either girls or whoever running fake profiles with fake pictures trying to scam you out of money or the ones that I just can’t figure out. A girl will contact me and give me private access to her photos when I never even made contact to start then I reply and it shows she never reads the message. Or the girls that change their name slightly every so many months but still never read your message. I am beginning to think that a very large percentage of the girl’s profiles are fake and put up by SA to entice us guys to keep paying a membership. I am done when my membership runs out. I can meet young girls out around my college town easier with less BS.

So what do you do when your pot sd asks you to have an account at a bank that’s affiliated with his payroll issuer?

sd with open eyessays:

Run.

Anonymoussays:

away

niecesays:

For some reason every time I try to post with my account info it says I have to log in so I guess this will have to do. So I am assuming these blogs are used for chatting kinda instead of the actual topic. I’ve noticed a lot of what people are talking about. The worst pick-up line you can say to me if I want t go have sex I won’t even reply I’ll just delete the message and/or block you. I haven’t talked to many men on here just 4 and they all ended up being nothing to rave about. I’m an open person, but I think maybe they just wanted someone to talk to rather anything else and thats fine to, but geesh I like to eat and listen to live jazz.

joesays:

Talk about flakes. Try being a gay sugar daddy ( not old either) trying to get together with a SB….its all flakes and wannabes,almost no one is real or serious and for a paying website there should be more vetting of SB .

Too many salty men trying to have sex with women for $100 per meet. Out of your mind.

Anonymoussays:

You don’t just walk away from those, you run.

Anonsays:

Her
Sorry I work by pay per meet and it must start with a casual meet up then if it goes well on my terms we can meet again
FedUp
What’s the ppm amount?
Her
What would you pay for an hour or so coffee meet?
FedUp
A cup of coffee and a croissant

FedUpAnonsays:

Her
Sorry I work by pay per meet and it must start with a casual meet up then if it goes well on my terms we can meet again
FedUp
What’s the ppm amount?
Her
What would you pay for an hour or so coffee meet?
FedUp
A cup of coffee and a croissant

sd with open eyessays:

I think the new archive function is worthless. If you archive a chat and then delete the chat out of your inbox it will also delete it from the archive. So, there is no conceivable reason to use this function.

Just a suggestion, but what about an anonymous double rating sort of system like uber has. 1-5 stars? I never flake but damn these guys are driving me nuts lately with all the flakiness.

.yougottabekiddingmesays:

The thought of being rated is utterly disgusting to me.

How, anyway, could the validity of such rating system be verified?

Besides, one person’s 4-star could be another’s 2. Like a hotel I recently chose to stay in while traveling based on the rating (Google, I think)…and the price. Near-fatal error. It’s a miracle I didnt get eaten by bedbugs, and leave with emphysema and pubic lice.

Lesson:

Rating systems are highly subjective to the users experiences, standards and expectations.

Think of a place you visited that you thought was the best or worst place ever…until you later visited the best or worst place ever.

I don’t always get disgusted.
But when I do, I prefer to be utterly disgusted.

Laineysays:

Lol. Next thing you know SA will be the Erotic Review.. BUHAHAHA I can’t!

Anonymoussays:

Sure, there is no way that can backfire. I’m sure everyone will be honest in their reviews. Like some of my conversations that are in the vein of:

SB: Book me a flight to this place and a room to this hotel tomorrow. Then we can meet and discuss my allowance.
Me: Shouldn’t we meet first for just a coffee when I’m in your city next week? Just an easy date to see if we have compatibility?
SB: You’re such a salt daddy and fake!

Sugar daddies would be bombarded with baseless bad reviews.

Anonymoussays:

I can’t believe this really happens to the men. I mean I don’t understand how women say they want a good SD but cant even take the time to meet them without expectation but then get upset when the men want sex. I always opt for a quick meet – no dinner or anything unless he really wants to and I make it clear that this is just a meet up to see if there is any chemistry as there is no money you can give me to have sex with me if i’m not even attracted to you… something that happens over time not on a first meeting.

On balance I would like a ratings system. The reporting already has an option for not following through, asking for money etc…

Anonymoussays:

I’ve been on this site for a few years but never had the need to report someone. I have noticed however, that the guys are 1000 times flakier now than in the past. Making plans for weeks in advance only to ghost at the last minute. Too many options?

Seriouslysays:

Guess you women don’t like a taste of your own medicine

Anonymoussays:

Not everyone here is the same.

Sabrinasays:

I have been stood up twice now by SDs. I have never stood up anyone. I actually show up when I’m supposed to. So thanks for being a jerk and lumping all women together. I guess because of a couple bad experiences with guys I should just say F it they’re all POSs.

LOL I had one guy, steaming hot to meet, within days of making contact with me Suddenly he had a cruise to Cuba that he forgot about! Talk about a nut case. Indeed, tons of flakes on this site.

Anonymoussays:

I think that happens on both sides. Last friday I was stood up for a meeting after a couple of weeks of messaging, texting and video chat–said her friends cat died. Then she suggested the next morning and stood me up again—this time she was sick, I haven’t heard from her since. I traveled 500 miles for nothing, I guess it just comes with the territory, a sad truth: there are more selfish, rude people out there than the opposite.

The one who has never left is Josh!
But I am glad to see the always classy Lainey back (sarcasm).

Anonymoussays:

Haters gonna hate. 😉

Laineysays:

Yes Catcher22 ’tis I.. LOL! I see by the list so many people have gone. Heard the news about Kenna though. Me thinks some people on this blog owes me and apology. LOL.. jk we know that’s not going to happen!

Yesterday I tried to post for the first time in about 2 years, and I discovered I am blocked for some reason. I have never posted very often or anything controversial. It is odd indeed.

.yougottabekiddingmesays:

yes, it sucks ass

Anonymoussays:

I see a lot of posts that exude frustration with fakes, platonics,onlines, golddiggers, “curvy”, rude, and so on.
I do not understand. There are tons, literally tons (thousands) of SBs even in medium town America.
Just click next.

Anonymoussays:

The overall tone of this blog and many others the past 18 months is a direct reflection of dissatisfaction with SA and each other as SB and SD’s. Not so much SA, but us members that are fake flakes, don’t communicate well, and are testing the waters…. to those of us trying to be what SA is supposed to be about. Clear waters are muddied. What can we do? What can SA do? It all starts with one person doing the right thing. The right thing for some of you is to get off this sight, you do not belong. The rest of us need to raise our game and help some people do the right thing. Right Jaybird?!!

I often remove access to private pictures once I see that they’ve opened it.

sd with open eyessays:

However, I didn’t ask for the pictures, and permission was taken away before I looked at the message.

Anonymoussays:

I remove permission after I know they’ve looked at the pics and a few days pass without any reply. It tells me they are not interested so they don’t need to have access to my photos. I dont have anything provocative on there but if there is no interest then they don’t need my pictures. One SD requested my pictures a second time, I gave access and again no response….. I don’t know what it means but obviously he is not ready to move forward or simply playing games?

SouthernSBsays:

Ok here you go….
I want to have sex with you, but I will not give you any money because I am not an ATM and I do not pay for sex. If you want to go to dinner or lunch we have to go dutch because then I will just pay for you to have a meal and you will just disappear. No I’m not going to take you shopping or bring you a gift because like I said, I’m not an ATM and after all you should like me for me and not my money. If we do have sex and I like you then and only then I will come back for more and then we can maybe start an arrangement, that is if I don’t find someone I like better.
You guys bitch about fake SBs, but we have to put up with guys who don’t even want to pay for the price of dinner and drinks. Dutch!!! I wouldn’t go dutch with a crack addict, he’d better be at least bringing me a double cheeseburger and a one of those chocolate treats from Wendy’s.

thank you for this. i think i too shall post the just as delusional SDs on here thinking they can get young sexy women to fuck them without talks of financial assistance of any kind.

Oh yes! There’s Mark T33 in Tampa. He will not send pictures, talk about allowance, gifts, expectations of an arrangement other than face to face. He pushes for your phone number to set up a meeting. Okay, SBs should be understanding,sweet, adjustable to discretionary needs of a possible SD. We agree to public meeting. I will leave his appearance out, because that’s the nature of the site when it comes to SDs. He will give you a “salvation to heaven speech, talk about what his needs are right after, but still refuses to talk about yours. 45 minutes to an hour later, after pointing out his BS, he’ll propose time in his car or the dead end street.
There are flakes,fakes,salt on SA. We must admit that there are some creepy, crazy and plain evil men too.

Leading Ladysays:

We don’t all want a platonic relationship… Some of us want more than just a dinner date… If the chemistry is there… Why not?

Argenteussays:

Hello all,

I used to frequent these blogs by site a bit several years ago under the different moniker of Principium, but since I have let my hair go grey, I have earned my silver fox status as Argenteus (what can I say, I have a proclivity for Latin 😉 )

Anyway, as always nice to see old friends just as FatBastardo with his ever acerbic mind and his lashing keyboard-fu. Glad to see that he has not lost that touch! A quick survey and I don’t recognize anybody else but no to worry as the past is in the past.

I once knew someone who changed her tune in a single sentence about what her major was. If you’re going to lie, learn how it’s done.

kenshinshsays:

had a girl that told me her field of study was masters in medicine… LOL, i have no clue why they do this, because what they are studying in has very little to do with me but if your gonna lie, at least make it plausible, like giving a degree that actually exists instead of a bogus one

remember everyone school is about to be back in session so that means the usual new flood of “babies” that are studying at “university” in a major that university does not actually offer

FormerAnonsays:

well hum does this still allow an immediate post

Any physical violence MUST be reported to the police and SA should base any action on the results of THEIR investigation. Suspending their account on SA is NOT adequate.

What do you do if a SB (or SD?) Lies?
Is their account suspended due to the possible damage that has been done to their reputation?
What if an SD (or SB?) she uses derogatory language or sends unsolicited private photos?
Do we need to add “Safe Spaces” on SA?

Let’s get serious for a minute.
1. It’s very easy for a suspended SD (or SB?) to set up a new account and be back in business immediately.
I’ve seen several SB’s who have done this and actually have multiple active profiles (I don’t understand the benefit).
I don’t fault SA as it would be impractical to try and identify these with the volume you deal with.

2. If a SD (or SB?) does anything that a SB (or SD?) considers to be inappropriate, block them on the site.
If it’s via text, block them on your phone.
If it’s via email, filter their future mail as junk or just delete without reading.
If it’s via phone calls, don’t answer (I know this is a pain as I had a SB who called 10 times in a row several times when I didn’t answer. Is Phone Stalking a thing?).

3. One person’s rude may be another’s honesty.

Again ANY physical violence MUST be reported to the police so the perpetrator can be taken off the street.

Please report any inappropriately long posts.

It must be “Snark Week”!

ZZZsays:

Maybe GoFundMyBoobs?

Anonymoussays:

A general question:
why is that, when an SB says she made 20k in platonic arrangements, we must think it is a truth and applaud her?
And when a guy says he got 20 SBs to say: “it is ok, you do not have to do it [pay me]” – we all must be appalled and call it a lie?
Sounds very much like a double standard to me…

Today, platonic could mean anything. Maybe the $20k was for the hairdresser to get the glue out of her hair (extensions can be tricky). Maybe the $20k was for an exorcism.

Ricksays:

I don’t believe either of them

sbforsplendasays:

THIS^.

Anonymoussays:

From the many SB profiles I find in my search in my area, I have found several looking for that “online only relationship”. I do not think those profiles currently represent a significant number, but I agree they are just simply in the wrong site. And, since that is not for me, I simply skip them and continue my efforts on what I am looking for.

from SA’s own guidelines posted above”

“A report should not be filed simply because a member was rude to you.”

It applies both ways (or at least it should)

Yeah same happened to me. I’ve seen men who openly state that they want sex when escorts aren’t allowed on the site and yet they ban me for splicing sex when all the men have done are ask me for sex? Like who MODERATES these things? So fucking pissed…

anonsays:

sigh

Anonymoussays:

Didn’t you know, the SB’s pay too now if they want some of these ‘new’ features?

GRINCHsays:

They are like 5 Premium members in my city, of which 4 are college students. These are broke ass SB’s who won’t even come and to M&G until you mention a fee – they ain’t paying 30 dollars for any features.

College SBs used to get premium status if they provided their college email address. I am not sure if that “perk” still exists or not.

Yeah it works. That’s what I did before I got banned…

Fed Up Grinchsays:

What I’m Looking for

My ideal sugar daddy experience would be a non sexual companionship and mentorship. As I continue my education and pursuing my career, I would love to have a wiser man who can provide me with guidance and advice. I love listening to people, and spending time with friends. If you are looking for an down to earth, no pressure relationship, I’m your girl!

There are many other forms of sexual dysfunction that men seek help with as well.

So stick your rude comments up your pie hole and move along to the next profile already. This site is intended for respectful people that know how to converse.

Anonymoussays:

You certainly are on the wrong page. It is a well known fact that on SA men give women money for their smarts and beauty. This could be simply ascertained by looking at her SA phots and reading her profile. After that you shoud buy her items from the wish list…
Intimacy… what do you think this is, Backpage?

FedUpAnonsays:

I totally agree with the two posts above, and later today I will be Unicorn riding in the magical forest.

Whatever SBsays:

Same thing goes for those members who you have been provided proof that they are cat fishing. For you to tell your members how to report who and why to report them its bull. You don’t even follow your own terms and conditions of your own site.

Anonymoussays:

Lift your game SA, there are multiple SBs who have been physically assaulted, report it, and you do nothing to the “SD’s” account. I myself have reported several members for shocking verbal abuse on the site and have yet to see their accounts suspended. All you actually do is suspend the accounts of SBs who ask for money upfront.

GRINCHsays:

Read my comment below

Anonymoussays:

Its not relevant to mine..

Anonymoussays:

Physically assaulted and verbally abused are two different things. With that being said, I do agree that physical assault should actually be reported to the police, and not to SA. Don’t worry, SA will not only suspend them later but also give out relevant information that they have stored in their data.

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