What She Thinks When She First Sees Your Penis

I've been giving sex and dating advice for years now. Something I've learned: Guys are really obsessed with their own penises. The most common questions dudes ask me have to do with their dongs: How do I make it bigger? Does size matter? What size penis do women want most?

To sate your curiosity (and maybe give you even bigger complexes, sorry about that), I reached out to real women. The question: What goes through your head when you see a man's penis for the first time? Here are some of my favorite responses:

• The first thing I look at is always girth. For me, width is way more important than length. Even if he's got a short penis, if he's really thick, I get really excited about sleeping with him.

• I'm always amused with the colors of guys' members. I mean, circumcision can affect the coloration a lot! I slept with this dude who had what my friends and I call a "neapolitan dick:" tan at the base, really brown around where he was circumcised, and super pink at the tip. Huh. That said, even though it looked kinda silly, the things he was able to do with it were incredibly hot.

• This might sound totally paranoid, but I take a look at the obvious signs of sexual infection, just to be safe. If I'm playing with his balls with my hands and getting him hard, I'm probably also using that as an opportunity to check for any sores, bumps, scabs, etc. just to be safe.

• Penises are really quite fascinating. Because I don't have one, I just want to look at my partners' - regardless of size, shape or color!

• Chances are if I am seeing your penis it's because I actually like you, so when I first see it, it's this kind of anxious moment when I'm conscious of actually holding my breath—because there's a small risk I might not like it. Then again, I'm not super picky. I mean, I'm willing to work with you here.

• First, I assess his size, but not in a judgmental way. Just a casual comparison to past partners. As long as it's proportionate to his body, it doesn't matter.

So there you have it! For more tips on how to use that penis of yours in a way that'll please her, be sure to download CFG: Cosmo For Guys on your iPad. It's everything you need to know about pleasing women, straight from the source.