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You came as a blessing, your presence became a bling... all my dreams came true, life suddenly was a stew --- thoughts of every woman on becoming a mother.

Mothers are creators and nurturers, who spend every moment of their life and every part of their being striving selflessly for their children. Nothing in the world can compare to a mothers’ love.

Komal Gupta

​Published on

2 February, 2019

“The minute my son was born, I was instantly transformed. It was no longer me, I was a Mom and that is the most powerful feeling in the world, as I could see myself as the creator of my baby, a life. We start seeing the world in a different way, as our perspective changes after having a child.”

Mothers are truly referred to as creators, the creator of life and its purposeful existence. Only mothers can understand life, as it grows inside them. Mothers give up a lot to have a child but gain even more from having one.

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Identity of a woman changes to a mother, once she gives birth to her baby. It is a gradual and lengthy process, starting from conceiving and does not end until she exists.

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She is a creator as she plans to have her baby

Preparing for motherhood ……

The plan to have a baby is all in motherhood state of mind, which starts developing since the day a woman mentally and physically prepares herself to be ready to have a child. This state of mind does determine her thoughts, her actions, priorities, sensitivity and her values too.

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Thus, it is said that a happy and healthy mother gives birth and
raises a healthy and happy child.

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I created our family goals ……

We both decided to plan for a baby at least after a year of our marriage. We wanted to give our marriage some time, understand each other well and then plan for family. While planning to have a baby, not only emotionally, but financially also we needed to be secure. Raising up a child is not easy in the present scenario. Before getting married, I had discussed with my husband that I would like to quit job whenever we would have our baby, as I want to be with my child during his early stages of life.

She is a creator while she is pregnant

Undergoing magical transformation …...

During pregnancy women faces sea of challenges, physically and psychologically but her determination enables her to magically transform to confidence & rear the new life in womb with love and happiness. This is the most celebrated beginning in human progression. Pregnancy is believed to be a social responsibility as well.

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Confidence, love and happiness are the essential creative values during magical days of pregnancy.

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My pregnancy & My dreams ……

The day I realized that I was pregnant, my planning started the same moment. Varied thoughts flashed in my mind in a fraction of second. It took me a day to actually accept the fact that I would soon become a mother and that my life would not be the same as it was earlier. My future life flashed in my mind and I could virtually live in my dreams. I started planning in advance. My excitement knew no boundaries and I was on cloud nine. All I cared was about how to raise my child.

My plan for my little one coming soon to our home ……

My due date was coming near. I wanted to provide a healthy environment to my new born and it had to begin with our room. We made sure our room was healthy enough for a newborn baby, not posing any hazard for him/her. With a baby coming in a room, various other things find their way too. To be specific, we placed a side table on my side of the bed where things could be kept handy, we changed one of the lights to a dim light bulb as we knew we would require dim light during the nights with the baby, we kept a bin also along my bed side so that we do not need to rush to the washroom every time we need to throw anything, we collected hand sanitizers and placed in various places in our home just to maintain hygiene. We knew a newborn would not be attracted by the decorations but it was our wish to decorate the room when our child first enters his/her room, we did not go for a cot for our baby as we wanted our baby to sleep on our bed with us. These were few of the things we planned in advance. Finally, the day came, and I got admitted in the hospital for a C-section.

She is a creator of her baby

She is the architect of building blocks of her child ……

Once becoming a mother, everything starts revolving around baby. All care is about baby’s needs. She, as a person, will never be the same after having a baby. As a creator of a life, she become fully responsible for her child’s life. As a mother, her primary responsibility is to help her child grow and thrive.

Motherhood changes a woman’s identity, her emotions and love. Her interactions and interventions are crucial for her child’s holistic development. It is one of the many responsibilities of parents. Social, physical and emotional development of a child plays an important role in the life of an individual. The stronger the bond of a mother with her child, the better the child becomes in his/her life afterwards. A healthy relationship should be created where child could express him/herself in front of his/her mother. It is the duty of mother to make her child comfortable in her presence, where they could say their hearts and minds out, without any fear.

My baby was born ……

And finally, the day came. I saw my baby for the first time. Next came the moment I held my son in my arms. All my dreams and hopes came into my arms. All the pain, fear, anxiety evaporated at that moment. I held my baby in my arms. I had given birth to a life. That was the moment I considered myself blessed enough to be a creator of my child.

My baby and my plans ……

We, as a couple, started planning things. We started collecting basic requirements of a newborn. This actually took a lot of time and effort, as the requirements were infinite – clothes, diapers, booties, mittens, baby products, and a lot more. From financial point of view, we started saving a fixed amount of money every month for our baby. This was something which only we both knew. According to our planning, everything started very smoothly. We were not in a rush to buy something or make room for anything.

Unfortunately, I was unable to breast feed my child. This was not in our plan. I tried every possible way, medication and everything, but my newborn was on formula milk from the day one. Nevertheless, we made sure we provide him with the best of everything we can. We had planned to take care of our baby ourselves, no nanny and no crèche.

Other than collecting basic requirements for a baby, imparting good habits and routines also comes under the planning part. Habits imparted at a younger age goes a long way, transforming a baby into an individual with moral values. Having a kid makes us much more patient, not only with day-to-day things but with future too. Before kids, we would just buy anything we see, and now, we learn the joys of saving, budgeting for important things in life for our childlike college funds, etc.

The fulfillment in creation

Every mother should be empowered enough to get the respect and dignity she deserves. It is mother, who is always there for her child. She holds the gateway to minds and hearts, and she knows it all. She offers infinite amount of true love and affection and comfort. Mothers are best friends forever. One intimate conversation with mother brings her child back on feet. She has all the potential to turn things around and make her child smile. The love of mother remains unchanged until she lives. Her love is the purest of all, deep and genuine. She only expects happiness of her child more than anything else.

Mothers are the emotional backbones of the family. She works hard and make sacrifices to make her children’s lives better and happier. She supports in their dreams. Being a mother is difficult, world's toughest job, however rewarding and demanding at the same time. Mothers love is unconditionally. She has limitless patience but is brutally honest too.

About Komal Gupta​

From a working woman to a full-time mother, I am loving and living every phase of this new life. Leaving job was my decision as I wanted to be with my child during the early stages of his life. I wanted to witness his every action, from first cry to first word. I am happily employed as a full-time mother, whose remunerations are my child's hugs, kisses and laugh.

This is personal experience and point of view of Mrs Komal Gupta as a mother. Happy Motherhood does not take responsibility for the contents and those not necessarily represent point of view of Happy Motherhood.

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