Category: personal development

The poem Charlie Chaplin read in his speech at his 70th birthday party…

“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is authenticity.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it respect.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it maturity.

I heard on the news this morning that they have done an experiment on some starlings, to gather information on the impact of anti depressants (Fluoxetine or Prozac) in our U.K. water system, as a result of so many people taking happy pills and peeing it back out into the water course. (See http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/ampp3d/whats-in-our-water-4516573 for the full news article)

Just a quick blog post today as I have loads to do right now. But I felt moved to jot down some thoughts on whether Sound is an underrated healer – or damager!

Do you love the sound of the ocean or wince at another loud siren passing you on the street?

Do people feel better when you have been talking to them – or worse!!

Have you even ever considered that your voice is a sound tool that could be healing your listeners?

When I hurt my knee some years ago and was sent for some physiotherapy the therapist used a machine that buzzed on my damaged knee with first very low pitched sub-sonic and then very hight pitched super sonic sound waves.

If you are a Scot – you are about to experience a big change and I hope whatever the result of the referendum it turns out to be the best for you.

Many of the clients that come to see me in the clinic bring problems relating to dealing with big life changes of one kind or another. I, myself have had to learn how to adjust to children leaving home, the death of my husband, a major relocation, becoming a grandmother, a new relationship and re-starting my business in a new area – to name but a few. This week I have helped a 30 year old woman to come to terms with a recent divorce and a 50 year old man to cope with a redundancy from work.

I have always thought the ‘happier the better’ but I now hear, you can be too happy!

There was a piece of research which became known as ‘the Nun Study’ (by Deborah D Danner) (http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/80/5/804/) and was was carried out in a convent where nuns all eat the same food and work the same schedules and basically have a similar lifestyle – especially in terms of amounts of alcohol and tobacco consumed.

I often have clients come to me wanting to be helped to overcome a feeling of low confidence. Wouldn’t it be great to feel like George Clooney or Elle Macpherson! (Picture by permission of The Kobal Collection http://www.kobal-collection.com)

This post has been lifted from the JustBeWell blog – I wrote it a while back and reproduce it here for you And here is the link to the JustBeWell blog where there are lots of other NLP-ers writing about interesting things too!

p class=”p1″>The fundamental delusion of humanity is to suppose that I am here and you are out there. —Yasutani Roshi

Is there anything that we can truly know is objective reality? My answer is I don’t know. My internal jury is still out and deliberating!

What I do know is that my subjective experience is what matters to my life. If I think you hit me and I feel the pain, then whether you agree that you hit me really isn’t that important to me. I know science is all about proving what is objectively real and consensual, but how many times do Doctors fail to cure their patients? How often

Well, I have had a busy few months. At last, I am ready (I hope!) to start using this space in a way that can be useful to you. What I am going to do is to copy in any emails sent to me (send them to laura@laura-spicer.com and put blog question in the subject line) asking me for online help. I will then post the replies.

This way, I maximise the benefits to everyone and use my time constructively. In most cases, you won’t be the only one suffering with the same problem and so you will be doing others a favour by asking and getting a reply posted.

“We learn something every day, and lots of times it’s that what we learned the day before was wrong”. —Bill Vaughan

Have you ever made a mistake and learned from it? Then, like me, you are amongst the many who have learned how to make the best of a bad job.

I recently had to re-do my blog because it was ‘too wordy’ and through this I learned that blogging is an art form and had to be given the respect and attention it deserves if I am to create engaging and interesting content.

I have a lot to say – and to say it in a way that helps you, my readers, inform your life in ways that are helpful. So, here goes with the first of many and I hope you will allow me to help you focus on some productive thinking by sharing my thoughts in this blog.

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