I don't know how old the both of you are, but I'd be careful not to invest everything you have in this girl. Based on some admittedly limited but valuable experiences, most worthwile girls will not get close enough to make out with you on the first date. I would say that in all likelihood, your relationship will be temporary.

You are the guy, you're supposed to be in control. Number one you have to be assertive and not give her that type of decision to make, dont give her the power. Number two thats just way too formal a way of putting it. Since things were going well, you could have just let things develop to the point where theres no need for anyone to say it explicitly?

What are you talking about? Women control mating, that is a fact. It was her deicision to go out with him in the frist place.

Now dont get me wrong, but from the sounds of it, the girl seems to be a braindead. Remember that good genes are both looks and intelligence. I wouldnt think it is a bad iea to try someone else. Some people just cant be fixed.

She's playing games with you. I wouldn't waste anymore money on her until you know she's serious. Here's what I'd do. Ask her out again but tell her you feel like staying in tonight. Order pizza and you guys go rent a movie but you pick it. Now after you eat your pizza and watch your movie just go on with your normal making out. Get her so turned on that she wants all of you and stays the night. Once you blow her mind in bed she will be begging you to hang out all the time. hell she will probably move in with you if you let her. She talks about all the boyfriends that didn't work out because they moved too fast. I say have her prove it physically by turning you down. My guess is she won't if you do it right. I read this as she wants you to take what you want. So take what you want.

Also, if you are serious about her tell her in person not online. Messages don't have the same impact as words do.

Take a great big Chill pill , mellow out ! She is with you , she likes you , see where the ride goes , dont try to control it too much .... + It sounds like your a little insecure , like you want guarantees ...

+ Are you at school or working ?
Sounds like she has plans for the future , whether your part of those plans or not ???? Your young , enjoy the ride , mellow out !

Probably a thousand guys here whom would trade places with you in a heart beat ... Dont blow it !