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I've been in a long distance relationship before and it's not that bad. The only thing I hated is not seeing her. But we talked on the phone, even thought she didn't want to at first (she was shy lol), so that was good enough but it's nothing like being able to actually see their expressions while you are talking to them. I like to make eye contact when I talk to people and that was the only downside for me about it.

I guess I can say that it can work, but it usually doesn't because there are a lot of lazy people who become weak and fall. Honestly there aren't many strong people nowadays, so that's why something like this working out is EXTREMELY rare. I've been in two long distance relationship and in the end I became this crushed hearted person because we were both two week to handle it. That's why I only have respect for those who make it work because that means they're more amazing that most people so kudos to them. I'm just saying that it can work, but it usually doesn't.

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"They called me mad, I called them mad, and damn them, they outvoted me." -Nathaniel Lee
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Yes it is very possible i have seen it with my own two eyes. It all depends on the person and the type of relationshipp they have. For most people it would never work out but others find a way to make it work.

This. If you're in a long-distance relationship say bye-bye to a real social life. Some might try to argue with that, but I don't see how.

I'm not arguing, because this happened to me when I was in my second "long distance relationship." At most, we'd spend 14 hours at our computers chatting with each other and 3-4 hours on the phone talking about our conversation I went so crazy with this "relationship," that I ended up not sleeping for long, waking up really early waiting by the phone(like some dog waiting for it's master) for her to call. It drove us both nuts, until we decided to break it off. This "break up" happened to us twice.

Anyways, it can work out and like others mentioned above, it takes trust. It would be a good idea to meet that person sooner rather than later before the lack of physical intimacy eats away at you two. Just don't go crazy like I did, jeopardizing your whole future just to meet one special person.

had a relationship with a girl from germany just last year.
but she blew it off because she just didn't think it could work out.
long distance relationship is hard, you can miss her like crazy any moment of the day yet you couldn't see her face to face.

The thing about teenage relationships is that, ... they fail. It doesn't matter if they're long distance or not, -any- lasting teenage relationship is exceedingly rare. This goes for twenty-somethings as well.

The thing about teenage relationships is that, ... they fail. It doesn't matter if they're long distance or not, -any- lasting teenage relationship is exceedingly rare. This goes for twenty-somethings as well.

I see where your coming from I broke up since I felt like I was wasting my 20's on my ex, I just have 4 left you know.

When Dovi and I connected he was living in Portland Oregon and I in Fort Lauderdale Florida. I had a very active social life. I went out with friends regularly. It wasn't a big deal. As Fabala said TRUST and COMMUNICATION are the major elements of making a long distance relationship work. You have to be able to define the relationship, i.e. exclusive, open, still dating other people etc. and then stick to it. Just like every relationship it takes time and energy to make it work. No relationship should EVER be all consuming and take you out of your life, be it long distance or the person next door.

To be in a relationship you have to be two individuals choosing to be together, and wanting to be together... not two people trying to meld into on being adjusting your likes and dislikes to the other. Love is a sacrifice, putting the wants and needs of your love above your own, willing to give everything up for them, and do anything for their happiness. But its not a painful sacrifice, its a happy and willing sacrifice and the act of doing so strengthens your bond and relationship, as well as makes you happier.

I'd have to say that Fabala explained it nicely. Its not something that is difficult to do if you want to do it, and if you're ready for it. It takes a great deal of patience and maturity to make it work. As with Fabala, Dovi and I visited eachother as much as we could, spoke often on the phone/internet and he eventually moved to Florida. We've been married almost two years now, and just like Fabala and SGI, we're still madly in love.

Its not really something you can touch, but people know. When two people are in love you can see it. In the way they act, in the way they touch, and how they interact with one another. Its a natural state of being, its not something you can fake.

The thing about teenage relationships is that, ... they fail. It doesn't matter if they're long distance or not, -any- lasting teenage relationship is exceedingly rare. This goes for twenty-somethings as well.

Actually, that's very true. One of my past high school friends was always getting into new relationships, because none of them lasted more than a month. He'd always share it with everyone too. I'd just nod my head and say to myself, "Ah geez, not again." In fact, none of the relationships that I've noticed back in high school ever seemed to last

I think it's totally possible to have long distance relationships. True love has no boundaries!

True love has many boundries that can be crossed.

The only way that long distance relationships can work is if you are not apart for a for a long period of time, and I dont mean that you see each other on the weekends. If all you do is talk on the phone and the internet it wont work, but if at some point you decide that you realy want a relationship one of the two people involved have to move within the same town as the other person. This is just what I think and there may be people out there that can prove me wrong, but the biggest issue in a relation ship is trust and if you are not around that person enough, you cannot have real trust.

my first love was long distance, didnt work but I dont know if it was because of the distance or everything else lol.

I'm in a long distance relationship now, my husband is deployed, i kinda like it this way. I have a ring on my finger so no one can really try anything, but its like I'm single so I'm not to be weighed down.

Radda, well aware, I'm talking about the independance I'm given during theatre, being able to sleep alone in bed (to a certain extent, I sleep with lydia sometimes and I'm still washing his clothes lmao). Its a matter of personal space. besides there are so many marriages that you wouldnt even know they were married if it werent for that ring on their finger.

True when married you aren't single but...some individuals who are married freely decide they can go out with others just because their partners are far away from them. But as the others have said it all depends on both persons whether or not they are both committed on making their relationship function.