Carolyn Hax, author of 'Tell Me About It -- Lying, Sulking, Getting Fat and 56 Other Things Not to Do While Looking for Love,' writes her advice column for The Washington Post. / Gannett

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Carolyn Hax
The Washington Post

Dear Carolyn: I have been engaged for a few months, and my parents disapprove of my fiance.

An extended family member is very sick and will probably not live much longer. When I was talking to my parents, my mother explicitly told me that my fiance was not welcome at the funeral, stating it should be "family only." It is worth noting that the visitation and funeral will be published in the local paper and open to anybody. ...