tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post9020524988622179802..comments2015-07-02T13:02:17.254-07:00Comments on Queen Crocodile: How to deal with a Narcissist MotherDave Hawkinsnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-61074856576238609592013-09-27T10:18:33.795-07:002013-09-27T10:18:33.795-07:00Holy cow. I&#39;m just starting to discover that I...Holy cow. I&#39;m just starting to discover that I have a NM, and found this post and just had to say thank you. It is, verbatim, how my mother acts toward me. Right down to the weird presents (I have gotten thong underwear from the thrift store from her . . . my friends get around on my birthday to laugh at the presents). It&#39;s like . . . it&#39;s the personality and not actually my mom how exact she is.<br /><br />And now that I know this, I have no idea how to deal with it. I want to talk to my siblings and dad about it but I don&#39;t think our dynamic is such that it&#39;s a good idea. Erk.<br /><br />Thanks for doing this. I notice you haven&#39;t added anything so this project is over, but I appreciate you getting it out.All Out Eventshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02812075649057427151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-60388039522749811132013-09-19T10:42:48.409-07:002013-09-19T10:42:48.409-07:00haha &quot;Salve&quot; ~ not &quot;slave&quot; my...haha &quot;Salve&quot; ~ not &quot;slave&quot; my apologiesKindspirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17431121572518692140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-49700598382389085722013-09-19T10:40:31.852-07:002013-09-19T10:40:31.852-07:00It&#39;s a definite to have to plan ahead to self ...It&#39;s a definite to have to plan ahead to self - protect against queen croc, and I greatly admire the humour and quick thinking of the adult child.When grandchildren are old enough to see the dysfunction and recognize that it&#39;s not normal behavior, becomes a healing slave for that adult child that managed to find her way through it all and change things for the better in the next generation. That&#39;s what has worked for me and my own family. My own queen croc had henchman help from a physically abusive father, and they are still a team. I feel sorry for the little girl that had to go through it all, and proud of the woman I am today despite everything. There can never be a fix for what happened in the past generation, but the future glows golden for those who can change it up.Kindspirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17431121572518692140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-2719371008481135262013-09-10T14:29:18.671-07:002013-09-10T14:29:18.671-07:00strange as it seems all these things are so close ...strange as it seems all these things are so close to my mother, and i dont want to be like that <br />Kasandra Factohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06942606162813799375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-72289138381983885262012-07-02T10:08:06.170-07:002012-07-02T10:08:06.170-07:00I warned my husband early on not to ever EVER tell...I warned my husband early on not to ever EVER tell my mother if you were going to return a gift. In his family, this is perfectly ordinary behavior, and he thought I was exaggerating. Until he did it once. My mother had bought our infant son a horrible outfit that was also not his size. My husband proudly showed her what we got instead, and he was stunned by the look on her face.<br /><br />I told him that the rule was, she did not get the wrong size YOU are the wrong size.vicariousrisinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-4683350550102757532012-06-22T23:59:14.855-07:002012-06-22T23:59:14.855-07:00Hi Cassandra
No 5, is a weakpoint for my NM. My Fa...Hi Cassandra<br />No 5, is a weakpoint for my NM. My Father was having an affair throughout my teens. NM&#39;s conclusion was to blame me, things could get a bit scary, hysterical rages etc., even tricking me into visiting a child psychologist, which backfired on her completely. But she has the ultimate defence, by having a close friend who&#39;s a very successful psychotherapist in Los Angeles. <br />This little lady has weird theories for just about everything, is extremely protective of my NM and constantly tries to get into everybodies heads, possibly on behalf of Queen Croc.<br /><br />Jessie<br />If you look closely, NM&#39;s don&#39;t actually know when to laugh, you might see a little dart of the eyes to see others reactions, before launching into the loudest shriek. My Gran noticed this, when NM was a teenager and it&#39;s the same today.Dave Hawkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11969754189605721233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-33239424660481125862012-06-22T17:31:17.955-07:002012-06-22T17:31:17.955-07:00Heh, Number 5 is good!
It also reminds me of anot...Heh, Number 5 is good!<br /><br />It also reminds me of another outcome to suggesting professional help. They will tell you ad infinitum how hard life is for them, how something is wrong that makes normal experiences so difficult, how someone in their past screwed them up... but the minute you recommend a counselor, a doctor, or anyone else outside of the people to whom they&#39;ve been complaining without improvement for years, suddenly there&#39;s nothing wrong with them! They&#39;re normal; <i>anyone</i> would react the way they do after undergoing All They&#39;ve Been Through!Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15946844298660263710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8266450673363171733.post-30187106451375001912012-06-22T14:31:40.674-07:002012-06-22T14:31:40.674-07:00It is so sad to me that as ACON, we have to take s...It is so sad to me that as ACON, we have to take such measures to be around those that we should feel most comfortable and loved around. But, it is the reality. I also have &quot;master plans&quot; and escape routes planned with my husband, in case of emergencies. We plan get togethers at places of least &quot;potential&quot; for crap. I am the bad guy in these situations, too protective of my kids, blah, blah, but I&#39;m really learning to not care (especially now that I know I am not the crazy one).<br />As for the &quot;screeching laughter&quot;. I can hear it in my head, it is the same obnoxious noise that comes out of my MIL. She uses laughter to counter all her &quot;jokes&quot; and teases. She laughs at EVERYTHING in order to look like she fits in. Often she doesn&#39;t even know what the hell she is laughing at. It is so often inappropriate that it is laughable in itself. She laughs so loudly and so often that it can only be deemed phony. It is like nails on a chalk board for me, but many other folks just see her as &quot;fun loving and happy&quot;. Ha.jessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06399613921768190064noreply@blogger.com