Recently after pregnancy yoga classes I was chatting with other Mum about how nice it is that the children have bigger year gap between them. Then they seem more take a part in a waiting. The other Mum shared that her nearly 2 years son isn’t interested in changes and doesn’t pay much attention to her pregnancy. Also that she is a little bit worried how to prepare her son to changes, because the changes will be, whether the family is expecting the second or fourth child. Changes will experience the whole family, and it will again be a lesson for all to understand the new roles and find the way how to emerging each other need best.

We belong to a family in which all the major life events are experienced together. Especially, in another child’s/ sibling’s entry into the world. I find it hard to imagine that we wouldn’t share news with boys as soon as possible, and be honest that there is always a possibility of not best outcome, but we all believe that everything will go right.

Our boys found out news about new baby when I was 6 weeks pregnant, because I feel that they are our closest family members and I wouldn’t like if they would learn it from relatives or friends. Also it was a way how to explain to Markus (3 years), that Mum will try to avoid lifting/carrying him and I wanted that Lauris (7 years) feels special about getting our new member of family. I think it is just fair, and I have always been about openness, honestly, no matter that 20 years ago it was no, no attitude. My belief is that baby entering into the family is a normal part of life and there is nothing to hide from other siblings.

Yes, we are happy and pleased that the boys are happy about news and according to age are interested in processes what are happening with my body, how babies are growing and how they will born. It is so beautiful that they give daily belly kisses, speaks with baby in the belly and listens what he is ”saying”. Of course, still we will all need to learn a new experience how to live together when the baby will arrive, but I believe that Lauris and Markus will be at least, a little bit more prepared to welcome our third child in our family. I hope so!