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Finding your Soul Mate, but….

We are all shocked and I think she is as well.. she used to always fight with us or her family if we told her that we want to introduce her to someone.. this was different… she thought about it for a while and then said ok..

The funny story is that his nephew was the one she was supposed to meet… both the nephew (who is only 4 years younger that his uncle) and the uncle live in Dubai, so when the unlce was coming to Jordan his nephew asked him to check her out for him without anyone knowing… The uncle checked out where she worked and visited her company as a Client.. what happend next? the uncle fell in love with her immediately…

he talked to his nephew and convinced him to let him (the uncle) go out with her instead.. and this is how it happened..

When she went out with him for the first time, they kept talking for three hours… she used to call us to help her escape after an hour.. it was not the case this time..

He is 11 years older than her, which is something she used to refuse before even meeting the guy, but this time she says he does not look it and it is making her feel young although she is approaching her big 30… he is sweet, honest, and to a certain point religious.. all what she was looking for..

Her only problem is with the way he dresses… he is not that good looking and that was never a problem for her, and this is tall with a nice body… but she hates his clothes..

We tried to tell her that this all can be changed but it seems that this is bothering her.. I kind of understood what she means.. i mean you try to over look this stupid thing, you should never judge someone from the way they dress but it does affect you..

She said she remember when he first came in to her company they all thought he was gay… too tight shirt with the first 3 buttons opended and a too tight jeans under it.. she tries not to care but she feels embarassed sometimes when she is going out with him..

She knows he might not like the way she dresses and she might get offeneded if he said anything but she doesnt know what to do… should she tell him? and if yes how and when is a propriate way?

I did not know what to tell her as I have never been in such a situation, and dont tell me she is shallow because believe me no matter how much you try to over look it, it will affect you..

wow I was so going to say the same as Qabbani!!
but then i was thinking maybe it is too soon for gifts?

she also can say let’s go shopping and point out nicer clothes but he might get the msg that she wants him to pay for her clothes!

hmmm i am thinking…
maybe she can pretend she’s meeting a friend at a big clothes shop like Massimo or Zara and then while waiting she can point out nice clothes

last solution! he’s in Dubai, she’s not going to see him for a while during which they will become closer over the phone and emails so then she can tell him or when he comes again, it’ll be more appropriate

wonders: I did think these solutions.. he does not go shopping in Amman and you are right he might think she wants him to pay for hers..
he is here now, he decided to spend 3 weeks in Amman to get to know her more !!! so you see, she is stuck!!!

Oh it’s simple. I was going to suggest what Qabbani and Wonders said, but since your friend and that guy haven’t reached that stage yet, here’s what I think:

I think they should go out to a mall or something, and when they pass by a shop, I guess she could tell him something like: “This jeans would look nice on you.” or “You would fit perfectly in this shirt.”

Taking that he’s in love with her, he should take the hint I guess and try what she suggested to impress her.

Or she could be frank and tell him that I think you should try different things, I’m sure he will!

well, she should tell me or somebody eventually should. Because not liking the clothing style is something, and a guy wearing tight jeans/shirt is something else !! This is not a clothing style, this is..too much 🙂

But see, it happens a lot, stubborn girls fall for older men, because older men usually experienced enough..maybe.

Jasim: their relationship is still unofficial, meaning he is still visiting her at her parents place and they do not go out for places like the mall… she wanted to start giving him hints but she was scared he would get offended… maybe with time she can use your suggestion.. thanks 🙂

wonders: I am into looks as well, but I guess nothing comes easy, he is the guy of her dreams, so i guess sometimes you have to overlook (minor) things to get what you want…

Abed Hamdan: so you think he wont get offended if she told him while they are still in the introduction stage?

مياسي: thanks for your comment.. i think my prince charming is lost somewhere and is too stubborn to ask for directions 🙂

loolt: I guess you are right, patience is all she can do right now.. thanks for your comment 🙂