Birth debrief and rebirth

Every person deserves a positive birth experience. To have their wishes respected and to be treated as an individual. To be helped when help is asked for and guided be make the best decision for them. Having a healthy mum and baby should be the very basic of expectations from giving birth.

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Sometimes birth doesn't go the way we planned or it wasn’t like we expected it was going to be.

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You are allowed to feel dissapointed or sad. Your feelings are valid and real and you deserve to tell your story and be heard.

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A birth debrief or birth reflection gives you this opportunity. To provide a safe space for you to reminisce about your pregnancy and tell your birthing story. The main focus is on bonding and healing any negative energy left over from the birth, helping you to make the way for release and closure.

Some people would like a rebirth experience, which is an opportunity to recreate parts of the birth you really wanted and can be a very healing experience. For example, if you were planning to give birth in water then you may want to recreate this. Getting in the birthing pool or bath with your baby is a wonderful way to promote bonding. Skin to skin contact with your baby helps release oxytocin (the love hormone) and can promote breastfeeding. Herbs and flowers can also be added to the water, candles lit and music played to create a soothing atmosphere.

Some mothers recite a poem or blessing, telling their baby how loved, wanted and special they are, and how hard they worked to have a peaceful birth for their baby. Some simply spend time cuddling, looking at and talking to their baby, taking the time to notice every feature and detail.

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I have also worked with those who have older children, not just newborns. Having the opportunity to tell your story is so important, no matter how long ago the birth was.

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I offer a free 15 minute skype or facebook messenger consultation to help you decide if I am the right person to help you. Your investment is £40 per hour (plus mileage expenses if over 5 miles from my address). Debriefs are held in your own home for your privacy and convenience, unless your would prefer it elsewhere then this can be arranged.

*If cost is a barrier for you then please contact me. I would like to be able to help as many people as possible and in most cases I can find a way for us to work together. Payment by installments can also be arranged on request*.

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You may feel this is enough to begin you on your journey of healing, acceptance and ownership of your birth experience. However, some people choose to go through the 3 step rewind process to lift the lingering negative emotions. Get in touch to see how I can help you.

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The 3 Step Rewind Method is a gentle and safe way of working with parents and birth professionals to lift the heavy feelings and symptoms that can remain after a difficult or traumatic birth, postnatal or breast feeding experience, or any other perinatal trauma. This technique for lifting trauma and phobias works by activating a persons natural ability to heal themselves using deep relaxation, guided use of their memory and their imagination.

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Sometimes, births leave people emotionally scarred. Symptoms of trauma can include panic attacks, nightmares, flashbacks, anger and irritability, numbness, tearfulness, avoidance of all reminders of the trauma, problems in relationships, feelings of failure and more.

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The fight or flight response is one of our most primitive survival systems and is designed for to allow us to act in the face of life threatening danger.

The highly aroused emotions of fear and helplessness present during the trauma become inextricably, biologically linked to the memory of the event.

From a neurological point of view these symptoms can be compared to a faulty burglar alarm that is triggered and goes off for no reason. A person suffering from PTSD symptoms is triggering their fight or flight response unnecessarily when there is no present danger, constantly reliving what happened and igniting the feelings all over again each time.

The rational, thinking part of our brain (pre frontal cortex) can be thought of as the policeman in this scenario. He tries to reassure the owner (the traumatised person) that nothing is wrong but he can’t be heard over the alarm.

This is why sometimes well intentioned advice to ‘move on’ or ‘get over’ what happened is pointless because the connection has been made and so it is extremely difficult to rationalise or to wilfully stop the thoughts or feelings.

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I offer a free 15 minute skype or facebook messenger consultation to help you decide if I am the right person to help you. Your investment is £120 (plus mileage expenses if over 5 miles from my address) to take you through the full 3 step rewind process. It is typically done over 3 sessions but can be condensed into 2 if needed. It is held in your own home for your privacy and convenience, unless your would prefer it elsewhere then this can be arranged. I also offer the 3 step rewind via skype.

*If cost is a barrier for you then please contact me. I would like to be able to help as many people as possible and in most cases I can find a way for us to work together. Payment by installments can also be arranged on request*.

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The simple but effective steps move someone through their past traumatic experience, through to understanding it's current impact on their day to day life, before looking ahead to a future that they desire.