Can I ask the mother of my flower girl to rush order the dress??

I sent out flower girl dress information to my friend, and the mother of my flower girl 3 months ago. She promptly replied and said she'd order the dress the next day. To my surprise I was talking to her husband a month ago and he mentioned that the mother hadn't ordered the dress yet. I sent her all the info again, and again she promptly replied saying that it was a done deal. Today I got a message saying "we need to talk about some things" and I'm freaking out because I think it means she still hasn't order the dress!! No brick-and-mortar places will be able to get the dress here for the wedding (It's in 10 weeks). I did find online sites that say they can rush the dress for $60. That means that this already expensive dress $180, is now going to cost $240 without tax. If she hasn't ordered the dress and said the stores won't rush it is it ok to say "I found this place online that will here are the links"?

**Note: there's more than one flower girl and the other flower girl already has her dress, and their dresses match mine....

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[QUOTE]I sent out flower girl dress information to my friend, and the mother of my flower girl 3 months ago. She promptly replied and said she'd order the dress the next day. To my surprise I was talking to her husband a month ago and he mentioned that the mother hadn't ordered the dress yet. I sent her all the info again, and again she promptly replied saying that it was a done deal. Today I got a message saying "we need to talk about some things" and I'm freaking out because I think it means she still hasn't order the dress!! No brick-and-mortar places will be able to get the dress here for the wedding (It's in 10 weeks). I did find online sites that say they can rush the dress for $60. That means that this already expensive dress $180, is now going to cost $240 without tax. If she hasn't ordered the dress and said the stores won't rush it is it ok to say "I found this place online that will here are the links"? **Note: there's more than one flower girl and the other flower girl already has her dress, and their dresses match mine....
Posted by slowlyfallingup3[/QUOTE]

If she hasn't ordered the dress you could just let her find the daughter something at a department store? There are really cute (and affordable) dresses out there for children.

maybe the mom thinks that $180 for a dress that her kid will wear once is insane.

My FG got their dresses from David's, and the staff told the girs to wait until 3 months out from the wedding to order so that they could have a better guess on the size. Our girls were both about 4-4.5, and they both had growth spurts around that time- if they hadn't waited, the dresses would have been too small.

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[QUOTE]I Today I got a message saying "we need to talk about some things" and I'm freaking out because I think it means she still hasn't order the dress!! Posted by slowlyfallingup3[/QUOTE]

I think you need to talk to the mom directly. The message you received from her today could mean MANY different things, like....
....we need to talk because I've reconsidered and my daughter won't be in the wedding.
.....we need to talk because I spaced off on ordering the dress and I can't afford to pay the rush order.
.....we need talk because we can't afford for my daughter to be in the wedding.

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[QUOTE]You asked more than one child to wear a $180 dress? Yowza. Listen to MNNEBride here. I can't form any other thoughts because I'm hung up on fg dresses being almost twice my bm dresses.
Posted by 6fsn[/QUOTE]

I felt terrible wanting the $100 dress & shoes my FG is going to wear (the one she picked out), so I gave my SIL half of the cost. My neice is sooooo excited to wear it, and the shoes! So I'm sure after the wedding she'll never take it off and we'll get our money's worth. Obviously, my neice has me wrapped around her little finger. :-)

And lots of department stores have TONS of really cute, appropriate dresses she can wear that are a little more budget-friendly.

BUT, I would talk to her before you freak out about anything.

edit: I think THAT dress might be hard to find at a department store. lol

However, IF I had a FG, I would have said to FG's mom "Get her something ivory and we'll tie a dark red ribbon around her" and left it up to FG's mom.

You wanna hear about ridic FG dresses? When I was 5, I was in my uncle's wedding and his (now ex)wife picked out this insane $250 pink thing with puff sleeves and a hoop skirt. I should find pictures . . .

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[QUOTE]spaghetti straps on a 4yo? you're kidding, right? I hope her mom is the one holding out - that dress IS NOT age appropriate.
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]
as much as I hate "the dress", that's your opinion. I don't find spagetti straps age innapropriate for kids. I find them more innapropiate on older gals with side boob and cleave.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I ask the mother of my flower girl to rush order the dress?? : as much as I hate "the dress", that's your opinion. I don't find spagetti straps age innapropriate for kids. I <strong>find them more innapropiate on older gals with side boob and cleave.</strong>
Posted by Cant_wait![/QUOTE]

<div>that's a question of fit/finding a flattering dress, not so much age appropriateness. </div>

That's true, I just don't find them any more innapropriate than a bathing suit. But I also live in CA where people are probably much more naked on a daily basis than in PA, so maybe I'm just used to it!