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Question Posted Monday February 20 2006, 10:24 pm

I need your advice...
Well, my friend(John)is gay and he just found out his bf was cheating on him. So, I invited him to see a movie to get his mind off of the situation. Well, of course he wanted to see Brokeback Mountain. So I went with him and what do you know? His ex bf was there with another guy. He asked me if I could pretend to be with him to make his ex jealous. I didn't know anyone in there so i agreed. I didn't think he would do anything extreme. Well during the movie he held my hand, and i felt akward. He even leaned over to kiss me and we actually started making out. I actually enjoyed it and I invited him over to stay the night. Well while were bed one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. The next day at school his ex started telling everyone that he saw me and john making out. Now everyone thinks i'm gay and they aren't being nice about it. Just because i had sex with a guy does that make me gay? And if i am should i try to have a relationship with him? He wanted me to, but i didn't know if i was ready.
Thanks

geeseimme53 answered Monday March 6 2006, 11:04 pm:well to answer these questions we need to know if you like females still. but even without i will say this think it through dont rush into anything you may not be comfortable with. i know if a guy would have sex with me n then say yes i wont a relationship and then fore him to decide hes not comforetabe with it i would b wrather upset so makeshore your ready.

christina answered Wednesday February 22 2006, 6:32 am:I think you're gay [don't take that in a mean way...]. Either that, or bisexual; depending on whether or not you still like females. Did you like the sex? And, did you have intimate feelings for him? If you did, then just go for it. He likes you, obviously, and you obviously like him too by what you tell me. And if people aren't nice, well then fuck them. Who cares what people think about you? If they don't like it, too bad. It's your life, live it how you want. That's what I do, and if people wanna talk, then fuck, I'll give them something to talk about! I hope I helped you.

xoMarisox answered Tuesday February 21 2006, 1:27 pm:The only way to be gay is if you have intimate feelings for the guy. If you do have feelings for him, then go ahead and have a relationship.. it will stop the teasing at school. Just do what YOU want to do.[ xoMarisox's advice column | Ask xoMarisox A Question ]

ScratchesOnTheWall answered Tuesday February 21 2006, 12:47 pm:For a start quit with the labels, you don't have to decide you're anything right now and it's clearly messing with your head. The only question you need to focus on is do you want a relationship with this guy? If you like him as a person and enjoy sex and making out with him that's a pretty good start. The fact you say you're not sure if you're "ready" and the fact you guys were (presumably) sharing a bed in the first place seems to imply you think you do fancy this guy and are just having a hard time dealing with it, which is understandable.

If you decide you don't want a relationship, or aren't ready yet, that's fine, if you decide you do and are, that's fine too.

In the meantime tell everyone else to mind their own goddamn business and put their minds at rest by assuring them, straight, gay or anything in between you've no interest in dating them so they needn't trouble themselves with your lovelife. Arseholes.

BabbiD0LL answered Tuesday February 21 2006, 10:33 am:Well maybe you arent gay, you could just be bisexual or even not gay. You could had just tried it once. So tell everyone it was a one time experiance. && if you are gay its nothing you should be ashamed of.

ThugGirl041790 answered Tuesday February 21 2006, 6:54 am:Sounds like your gay or maybe bisexual depending on whether you still like females..

Umm Yes hun having sex with a guy and liking it means you are something and straight isn`t it hun..

I think if you aren`t ready for a relationship with a guy you shouldn`t have one.. I think you are confused on what you want with him or with anybody.. So i`d sit down and think about this for a while.. Like think if you want to be with him,Do you like him just a friend or as more..

LadyGoodman answered Monday February 20 2006, 10:47 pm:Just step back from the situation a bit. Ignore those people getting into your business because they really have no place in it. If they ask, just ask them if they are back. They'll look at you funny and you can pull the "If it's so weird for me to ask you, then why would you ask me?" card. (Yeah you could be "mature" and say mind your own business, but I know that just doesn't always fly). I don't think you should get with him because he's probably just on the rebound. Hooking up to make someone jealous isn't the greatest way to start something. In the future, make sure not to get involved in plans to make someone jealous again. It almost always backfires. And if you don't want someone to spread rumors about you, probably not the best idea to make out with someone right in front of them. It's playing with fire.

Solemnstar answered Monday February 20 2006, 10:44 pm:perhaps it was just pity...that may even be what you hope.

Or he tricked and lied to you to get back his old BF he may have used your emotions to gain what he wanted.

Or he truly cares for you and was unsure how to get to you. that may have been a fantasy that you inacted.

you need to speak with him about your feeligns, not us.

but what kind of adive would it be if all we said was talk to him.

I think he manipulated you.

But if he does care for you. then you may truly be gay or bi.

now for your questions.
1.Not for sure doe it make you gay.

you say that as if doing a gay act will convert you into a gay person.
you are still you.but you may have woken up a better part of you,or a worse part. you need to ask yourself about this in order for the true awnser.

2. you cannot have a relationship unless you are sure.you don't seem to be.I would aviod this for a while until you are sure

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