I just found out this morning after reading some weird messages on my Girl Friends phone that she has been cheating on me for a month with some guy at her work...............

We been together for 5 years and had a wedding day planed out... She was my first EVERYTHING.... Down to being the first girl i even held hands with... And i was proud to have her raise my children one day. And she has ONLY ever said the same.

Then i get a message to a false name which was her best friends name, that she loves him and cant wait to kiss him, AS we were coming back from my sisters wedding, and after we spent like a month out there and wanted a wedding just like my sisters....

I dont know if she is just a crazy bitch or what because i dont usually allow emotions to cloud my judgment but i NO WAY IN HELL saw this coming...

I literally found out this morning and i already threw all her shit in begs and tossed them in front of her parents house because i truly believe once a cheater always a cheater.... Oh and she has been texting me to take her back ALL day, and saying shit like she doesn't want to live anymore.

And all i could say is Good, then u feel half of what i do u cheating bitch.... Probably a little harsh but after 5 F***ING YEARS i could give a rats ass!

I dont know why im even making my emotional baggage in a thread, but i need to get it out some how, i already flipped a driver off, and stopped my car and called him a Ugly F*** (because he was)

Anyway if you all hear a depressed MK then u know why... Life F**king sucks right now

M.C

01-26-2011 06:53 PM

That sucks man.

It happens to the majority of people at least once in their life, though, so you're not alone that's for sure (even on this forum we've had multiple people make threads like this).

The very best thing to do is to keep perspective. This is what humans do, it's part of who we are as a race. Humans were not meant to be with 1 person all our life, there's a reason why the vast majority of people cheat or have been cheated on at least once in their life, and the ones who claim they haven't probably have not realized that they have been cheated on, they are just unaware. It does not help you emotionally, but it helps you keep perspective that you are not alone, it happens to the vast majority, as that's what humans do.

Second of all, life is WAY too short to get caught up in emotions like this. Again, you can't help it, but to keep perspective - You need to either move on or take her back, if you choose to move on as you seem to have, then do exactly that - move on. You will still feel bad, but do not let it halt your life for a second.

Third, look at it as a blessing. If someone cheats on you, then that's that. They are cheaters, they have broken the "law" of relationships and clearly it's a major issue and a relationship breaking one. You will still live for a long time my friend, move on and remember that 1 girl can't and shouldn't control your life. There's much, MUCH more in this world to look at than another person.

Just try to relax, be calm, and realize everything you do daily you can still do, life goes on, and you will find someone else.

xeberus

01-26-2011 07:14 PM

Man that sucks dude. It's going to suck for a bit and for that I'm sorry. Do you have some friends to vent to about this irl? Get some drinks and just let it all out. Is there a single female friend with whom you've experienced sexual tension with? Call her tell her what's up and see if she wants to meet for coffee/food/talk/justifiable pity **** session etc. Bro hang in there, and remember blessings are sometimes disguised.

coldcall420

01-26-2011 07:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by M.C
(Post 1348304)

That sucks man.

It happens to the majority of people at least once in their life, though, so you're not alone that's for sure (even on this forum we've had multiple people make threads like this).

^^^THIS^^^

This just happened to my buddy and it happens to guys once at least in their lives.......they get burned by love. The thing that will make you feel the best over the next few days and up comming weeks is "strange" .....go out and live it up man, sleep with a few different chicks have them on "stand by" when you feel lonely or dont want to be by yourself. This reduces temptation to get back with the old cheater which i promise you will consider over the next weeks....

I just helped a personal friend through this and while he was a little old to have his heart broke for the first time its always the same....get new females in front of you, go to the titty bar, stay active so you dont dwell.

AS FAR AS THE GIRL, YOU GOTTA CUT HER AND NOT LET HER BACK IN, DONT TEXT HER BACK AND FORTH AND ALL THAT CRAP....

Good luck buddy we are here for you keep us informed....:thumbsup:

DONT TAKE HER BACK SHE IS A CHEATER SHE WILL DO IT AGAIN!!!!!!!

EDIT: Also you are not being harsh as you stated above, if anything you have all rights to be, you cant have that mentality or she will worm her way back into your life...

Relavate

01-26-2011 07:39 PM

Shit sucks bro. Been there done that. Did she admit to it tho or come up with some bullshit story?

Just live the single life bro, go out have a good time. If you train live your life at that gym, thats the way i get my shitty feelings out is to just throw people around and choke them then maybe go hit the big bag.

Anyways just keep your heard up bro.

Machida Karate

01-26-2011 08:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by M.C
(Post 1348304)

That sucks man.

It happens to the majority of people at least once in their life, though, so you're not alone that's for sure (even on this forum we've had multiple people make threads like this).

The very best thing to do is to keep perspective. This is what humans do, it's part of who we are as a race. Humans were not meant to be with 1 person all our life, there's a reason why the vast majority of people cheat or have been cheated on at least once in their life, and the ones who claim they haven't probably have not realized that they have been cheated on, they are just unaware. It does not help you emotionally, but it helps you keep perspective that you are not alone, it happens to the vast majority, as that's what humans do.

Second of all, life is WAY too short to get caught up in emotions like this. Again, you can't help it, but to keep perspective - You need to either move on or take her back, if you choose to move on as you seem to have, then do exactly that - move on. You will still feel bad, but do not let it halt your life for a second.

Third, look at it as a blessing. If someone cheats on you, then that's that. They are cheaters, they have broken the "law" of relationships and clearly it's a major issue and a relationship breaking one. You will still live for a long time my friend, move on and remember that 1 girl can't and shouldn't control your life. There's much, MUCH more in this world to look at than another person.

Just try to relax, be calm, and realize everything you do daily you can still do, life goes on, and you will find someone else.

Yeah your right, i guess im a emotional person.... She seriously was my best friend / girl friend, and to think this has been going on while she said all that ******* shit my entire trip, its enough to make me sick....

But i agree with what u say, and ill try not to dwell on all this shit, it just doesn't feel real yet....

Quote:

Originally Posted by xeberus
(Post 1348313)

Man that sucks dude. It's going to suck for a bit and for that I'm sorry. Do you have some friends to vent to about this irl? Get some drinks and just let it all out. Is there a single female friend with whom you've experienced sexual tension with? Call her tell her what's up and see if she wants to meet for coffee/food/talk/justifiable pity **** session etc. Bro hang in there, and remember blessings are sometimes disguised.

Yeah your right bro, this could very well be a blessing in disguise... I hope i dont take shit this ******* ridiculously hard when i break up with some other girl... This is like losing a best friend / the girl i wanted to spend my life with... Totally Surreal...

But like others said its better i found out the bitch was a skank now....

Quote:

Originally Posted by coldcall420
(Post 1348327)

^^^THIS^^^

This just happened to my buddy and it happens to guys once at least in their lives.......they get burned by love. The thing that will make you feel the best over the next few days and up comming weeks is "strange" .....go out and live it up man, sleep with a few different chicks have them on "stand by" when you feel lonely or dont want to be by yourself. This reduces temptation to get back with the old cheater which i promise you will consider over the next weeks....

I just helped a personal friend through this and while he was a little old to have his heart broke for the first time its always the same....get new females in front of you, go to the titty bar, stay active so you dont dwell.

AS FAR AS THE GIRL, YOU GOTTA CUT HER AND NOT LET HER BACK IN, DONT TEXT HER BACK AND FORTH AND ALL THAT CRAP....

Good luck buddy we are here for you keep us informed....:thumbsup:

DONT TAKE HER BACK SHE IS A CHEATER SHE WILL DO IT AGAIN!!!!!!!

EDIT: Also you are not being harsh as you stated above, if anything you have all rights to be, you cant have that mentality or she will worm her way back into your life...

LOL Good advice ColdCall, yeah i kinda already failed on the texting back and forth thing LOL.... But nothing i said was pretty... Lol to say the least...

And I WILL NOT TAKE HER BACK, and im a full supporter of the relationship "law" that she broke, and i could never for a second trust a cheater so why even try

But like u said i need to stay active and the shitty thing about the girls around here is that i live in central California where there isnt a movie theater for 45 miles, or a chain store anything for 30 miles.

So its a very small town so u pretty much know everyone lol, thats why the guy she has been with needs to watch his ass because all my buddys want to whoop his ass hard...

Quote:

Originally Posted by Relavate
(Post 1348329)

Shit sucks bro. Been there done that. Did she admit to it tho or come up with some bullshit story?

Just live the single life bro, go out have a good time. If you train live your life at that gym, thats the way i get my shitty feelings out is to just throw people around and choke them then maybe go hit the big bag.

Anyways just keep your heard up bro.

Yeah she admitted to it because i acted like the guy told me everything over the phone already, and she was like what did he say? And i was like that u ******* made out and fooled around! And she just dropped her head in shame and i was like :sarcastic06: Wow....

But yeah man my buddys are saying the same shit, that we need to go work out and wrestle to blow off some steam...

Sounds refreshing just thinking about it....

And thanks to everyone that replied i felt retarded even leaving a thread but im glad i did great advice all :thumb02:

Rusty

01-26-2011 08:31 PM

Hate to hear the bad news man. As stated, don't take her back although you'll want to. If you do she'll know she can get away with it.

Good payback options would be, sleep with one of her friends, tell her mother what she's done, put a wedding announcement in the paper in a week or two with your most attractive female friend, rub one off on her luffa(sp), or you could claim you only dated her to hook up with her prettiest gf:) It'll work out:thumbsup:

limba

01-26-2011 09:08 PM

Sorry to hear that buddy!

It really sucks when this happens to you.
Sometimes it's better not to know, but if you dsy you had a wedding planned also, than maybe it's definitely a good thing you found out now.

Imagine getting married and then you finding out she is cheating on you?! That would be devastating.
My advice. Forget her.No woman is worth it after she does something like that.
The guys before me pretty much said the right things.
Take some time to refflect on this, one week, maximum two weeks, and then move on.
I've learned that life is too short to hang on to one thing or one person, especially when that person is a F'n cheater!

We should enjoy life as much as we can, because it can end in a heart beat.

Try to see this as a good thing. You will move on, have some fun, meet other women, enjoy yourself and who knows?!
A last advice for you and everyone else...men or women.
A friend used it once, although i don't think he invented this:

Quote:

"Don't let someone become your everything, because once they're gone, you have nothing"!

Best advice i can give you!
This will just make you stronger.

coldcall420

01-26-2011 09:17 PM

Lots of good advice in this thread.........don't ever feel wierd about posting your business bruddah. We R here for ya! Like MC said, your not the first this happened to and u won't be the last. Xeberus used to put all his girl problems on here and we would follow them with the intensity!!!:thumbsup: it's good to have a place to vent........

Machida Karate

01-26-2011 09:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RustyRenegade
(Post 1348362)

Hate to hear the bad news man. As stated, don't take her back although you'll want to. If you do she'll know she can get away with it.

Good payback options would be, sleep with one of her friends, tell her mother what she's done, put a wedding announcement in the paper in a week or two with your most attractive female friend, rub one off on her luffa(sp), or you could claim you only dated her to hook up with her prettiest gf:) It'll work out:thumbsup:

Lol her mom did call and ask why the hell is all her daughters shit on there porch and she got a nice rundown on the sitch lol!

Then told her its probably in the jeans...

Quote:

Originally Posted by limba
(Post 1348381)

Sorry to hear that buddy!

It really sucks when this happens to you.
Sometimes it's better not to know, but if you dsy you had a wedding planned also, than maybe it's definitely a good thing you found out now.

Imagine getting married and then you finding out she is cheating on you?! That would be devastating.
My advice. Forget her.No woman is worth it after she does something like that.
The guys before me pretty much said the right things.
Take some time to refflect on this, one week, maximum two weeks, and then move on.
I've learned that life is too short to hang on to one thing or one person, especially when that person is a F'n cheater!

We should enjoy life as much as we can, because it can end in a heart beat.

Try to see this as a good thing. You will move on, have some fun, meet other women, enjoy yourself and who knows?!
A last advice for you and everyone else...men or women.
A friend used it once, although i don't think he invented this:

Best advice i can give you!
This will just make you stronger.

Very well said limba, and yeah i hear this often but i never thought it would happen to me because i thought i knew my girl front and back.... I never felt so secure...

Girls can be serious nut jobs if there able to do half the shit she did...

I cant wait to be completely over this shit and move on... It just hits me off and on so far.

But ill try to stay strong 8)

Quote:

Originally Posted by coldcall420
(Post 1348386)

Lots of good advice in this thread.........don't ever feel wierd about posting your business bruddah. We R here for ya! Like MC said, your not the first this happened to and u won't be the last. Xeberus used to put all his girl problems on here and we would follow them with the intensity!!!:thumbsup: it's good to have a place to vent........

Good to know i have close friends even on here :thumb02: and glad to see your posts more and more, glad your feeling better with your whole ordeal