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Can you be too nice?

After years of being single I've got back into the dating game, if rather grudgingly. Met someone online and she was well quite frankly amazing . Dated for a couple of months seeing each other a couple of times a week and texting back and forth.

Unfortunately I got the " your the most lovely bloke in the world but there's no spark " talk last week.

She texted me the following day as well saying how lovely I was and wants to be friends .

Now I can understand some of it as I was very nervous with it being my first even short relationship in a long while but from what I can make out it was because I was too nice / polite / gentlemanly .

Whilst it was only short and not going to kill me breaking up with her I am gutted because she was great.

Re: Can you be too nice?

Re: Can you be too nice?

She could just be looking for some excitement. I'm not sure. It is possible of being to nice. But without knowing some personal details about her, its a bit hard to tell. I would move on like Duke mentioned.

Re: Can you be too nice?

If your niceness comes from being totally sincere, the world could use a lot more people like you, RFTA. Continue to be who you are and don't change for anyone. As long as you are true to yourself and accept who you are, you will find and have who and what you need, IMHO.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

True love is wanting to give to another person without any thought about
who’s getting the better of the deal.

Love always creates, it never destroys. In this lie's man's only promise