Posted Mar 9, 2009

The surge in Sugar Daddy dating has brought all types of people into the sugar bowl, and with the sudden increase in membership, it’s important to ensure that you’re expectations and unique perspective on this type of relationship are stated clearly in your profile.

About Me:

This section is all about you, so remember to focus primarily on yourself and perhaps why you’re here in the “Description” text.

Arrangement I am Seeking:

Be as detailed or vague as you like, but do be upfront about what your ideal arrangement looks like. Whether your expectations are exact or negotiable, it’s important to show your “arrangement IQ” in this section, letting a potential SD or SB know that you are confident in your interpretation of an arrangement as it pertains to you and what you have to give.

What advice do you have for the new Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies wondering what to say in their profiles?

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with Sugar Daddy dating? Why or why not?

Nice post. There’s a similar topic thats related to this in Yahoo answers or Google groups, I think. I’ll find the link and post it back here.

Holly Golightlysays:

Hey Beach Girl – NSA=No Strings Attached

Holly Golightlysays:

So – here’s a question – Why would an SD put me on his favorites, Open the email I sent, and NOT delete it (the little green check is still there) – and yet, block me from sending anymore? This makes no sense to me. Anyone?

Young&Fabulous!!!says:

Ok well….theres this SB/Assistant job & it says the allowance would be 20k or more…I have the guys number & will be texting him tomorrow but i kinda think it’s 2 good 2 be true. I mean it’s a job & his profile says he’s a event promoter so i’m not really sure. I know this was prolly in another posting but what are some ways to point out a fake SD. & please if you have any suggestions on to whether or not to get in contact with him or ANYTHING please let me know. I need all the advice I can get!!!!!!!!! The jobs for being his assistant & he said some escort service is needed. Oh & he’d be my SD *l0l*

sweetredheadsays:

I have the sweetest SD I had a problem with my electric and I could not be fixed till the next day. Was going to have to be with no electric for the night. I told him about this and he joked about camping out lol. Sounded fun BUT I had to go to work this morning with no shower and no hair dryer ughhh lol. He was heading into a meeting so he said he would call me back. I was looking for a hotel but they were just to expensive for me and I wasn’t getting my paycheck till the next day. He called me back and told me to find a hotel I could stay at, he would take care of it. I found the only hotel that had any rooms available as it is spring break here. And some kind of conferences. He called the hotel and they needed to verify his CC so he had to fax them a copy of it. He had already left work and was on his way home. The sweet man found a place to stop and fax it to them. Mind you this is 8pm at night. He called me back and said it’s all taken care of. What a sweet sweet man!! I have not met him in person yet but we do talk all the time on the phone. I meet him in April when he comes to town and I can’t wait.
This Hotel was nice. It was on the beach. You had to see the yachts parked on the slips. They had suits with 2 bedroom rooms Jacuzzi’s, and 1,200sq ft . I told him to just get a room with 2 beds that’s all I needed. That was $159 a night. All I was going there to do was sleep. I did walk down to the docks after my boys went to sleep. They had restaurants and bars all over the hotel grounds. Talk about loud! I got a call from my older son, the little one was sick and threw up. I was up a lot of the night with him poor thing I am so grateful I was in a hotel and not in the house with no electric. Thank you my sweet SD!

Beach_Girlsays:

I’m all new here… Had an SD for a long while, not from this site, but now he’s gone and it sucks! I’ve been mailing SDs but, i only got a few responses.
I would like to know what NSA means too? someone ?
I’m a lot older than you all, and being an SB on here is hard, you girls are hot!
I work part time and most of the SDs here want a full relationship? is that normal? My last SD was part time 2 weekends a month and a few days one week a month, am I lost in this? please i need help
thanks to you all!

Young: if he said that to you, he’s an ass…if he liked you that much, he would have waited at least an hour! Come on…that’s childish.

Young&Fabulous!!!says:

I love reading sweet stories of Sds makes me feel like one day I will find one worth while!!!! I’ve had alot of e-mails….but….i’m not attracted to any of them well….there was one but I didn’t reply in a timely manner so he said we both just lost. You lost the 8k I was going to give you a month & I looked at your picture one last time & I lost the most….It was very sweet but kind of rude. I read it & was multi tasking & it took me like an hour to read my messages again. Ugh!!!! Sucks big time. I just can’t seem to find any SDs i’m attracted to physically. I feel like i’m never going to find one!!!!!! What to do….what to do?!?

Katherinesays:

Hi all! Just wanted to say I’ve enjoyed reading through all of these posts I’m a newbie (obviously), and so much of what was posted was helpful.
Joules! Good luck! That has to be exciting!!

I noticed some talk about verifying whether a guy is “real” or not.. to make sure you’re safety is first. Well, how exactly do you go about doing this? I know you can get pictures, and business info, and eventually a phone number.. but how do you know he’s indeed who he says he is & not some phony? It’s got to be more than a gut feeling, yeah?

This is ridiculous, it’s like my att dsl service has become dial up, I can’t even listen to music, I don’t know what to do. This sucks

Jamisen/305521says:

Lisa- Don’t worry about the second response you mentioned. He obviously wasn’t worth the time. It’s not a reflection of you.. It’s not you that “can’t even get someone that close to make the effort” it’s a reflection of him. He was clearly an jerk that was looking for a booty type arrangement.

lisasays:

One of the sds I emailed had his account deleted (he was one of those standard members that join and look at profiles it seems)

one responded but said the distance was too far for it to work (let it be know he lived about 50 miles from me) so see I can’t even get someone that close to make the effort. Still no word from the other 6.

lisasays:

weird I can get on some website, some not, checking to see if I can post here, been trying to post for about an hour

Jamisen/305521says:

Hi everyone, boy do I have a story.. one that only sugars will understand..

I met up with a potential SD today (not through this site).. one word- awkward. He said it was his first time looking for a SB.. but he was really nervous and just plain awkward. I don’t know about him, but on my end there was no chemistry at all. He also tried to make a move on me before we had discussed arrangements or anything. He was really good looking too… just goes to show that it’s more than looks.. for real or sugar dating.

Gail- that is possibly the sweetest story I’ve heard. It keep my hopes up that I’ll find someone like that.

Lisa- I put up my profile #! Also, your SD will come. These men are are busy.. give it a little more time. Or maybe they’re just so nervous they don’t know how to reply to your e-mails.

Hi OnTheWater

Well I just sent 4 more emails (this time to premium members only as free members never upgrade it seems) so we will see.

OnTheWatersays:

Good Evening Shhhhuggies!
How is everyone? Lisa- I’m thinking a move to a new city may be well worth it if not just for a new SD population! Juuust kidding. Hang in there. I changed up my profile a tiny bit today – when it is done being approved will you guys take a look and give me some feedback? I’d really appreciate it.

Let it happen Lisa….its all up to you:) Take the risk…stop making excuses…and as Nike says it…”JUST DO IT” ….ps…you know I want you to be happy:)

SuthrnExecsays:

CSB, just communicate honestly what happened to the pot SD and I bet he can be convinced to schedule another meeting. I mean, who would stand someone up on purpose and then ask to meet again? That wouldn’t make sense, but you need to contact him ASAP.

I like the new NitemareSD too

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

OMG…Something told me to look over my email communication with a pot SD and I. Wow do I feel stupid. I was so certain that our date was set for 1:30pm tomorrow but it was today. I feel really horrible as I would never want to be stood up by someone myself. I feel like a total jerk.

Oh…Hi everyone. Hope all is well.

Gailsays:

Nitemare…I love the new you:) How is you SB?

SuthrnExecsays:

Gail, the fashion show will have to wait – I don’t think OC is finished working her magic on me! Bless her heart, she has her work cut-out for her! As my grandfather would say, trying to dress me up is like puttin’ perfume on a hog! (or “hawg” as they say in the South)

thanks NitemareSD yes, yes, that’s it they are all blind or died suddenly. lol I want so to meet someone new, Have a little fun. I’m off tomorrow and friday and I will be spending it staying home.

Gailsays:

Suthurn-I think the best solution is not to take my phone with me while shopping… Shopping is not negotiable in my book…I just started shopping again:) Hey when are you gonna do a fashion show for us. We want to see what fashionista OC has you updated to:)

Lisa-I am not helping the economy…my SD friend is helping me shop…and in turn his Macy’s card is helping the economy:) And by the way Lisa….you can do whatever you want to do, you make the decision:)

No problem Lisa….we are here…we will chat with you:)

lisasays:

awww that’s a sweet story Gail

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Hello everyone, I can see from the posts that all is well in sugarland, lol.

I have some good news myself. I’ve been in contact with a potential SD and he emailed me this long email last night telling me a bit more about himself, what he’s looking for, etc. I think things could really click between us. Unfortunately he says he’s looking for a long term relationship which I’m open to if things go well enough between us. Anyway we’re supposed to talk over the phone later tonight and he wants to come meet me in my city sometime next weekend. So I’ll be sure to keep everyone posted.

ZenSugar I think that’s good advice about forming your own business. I was watching Millionaire Matchmaker again today (I love that show) and I was thinking, “hey I could do that.” So I’m going to do some research on getting my own company started. I could maybe do something like that but have it based in a big city like Miami (I think I fell in love with it after my visit). Just a thought.

lisasays:

Hi Gail

lisasays:

Good afternoon everyone. Home from work, tired as usual. Still not one reply from the six sds I emailed. Unread and of course those free members haven’t upgraded or been on the site since they signed up. I don’t think I will waste my words sending another email to someone who doesn’t have the common courtesy to reply.

Gailsays:

Oh Whoa is me….Why is it that I have phone problems shopping with a SD…lol….went to Macys 2 weeks ago…lost my phone in the dressing room…he bought me a new one…went too lunch today and went shopping at Macy’s again….This time went to the bathroom…and it fell in the toliet:(

I was so upset…he took it immediately to the ATT phone store..which was a few doors down…they opened up the back…took out the battery and told me to let it dry out for a few hours…SD to the rescue…lol….

Just wanted to let all of you know I have absolutely nothing to say.

Jamisensays:

Nika, you can read cyrillic?

Jamisensays:

Yes, I agree with everyone else. Although I am new to sugar dating, about half of the replies are pretty open that the relationship is going to be all about sex. I don’t think I got as frustrated as you did, Joicey, because it’s almost the same way with regular dating.

Look on a regular dating site or Craigslist… to “attract” women, men boast about their physical/sexual abilities and then throw in a line about chemistry/connection.

I know what you’re saying and trust me, it’s a common topic of discussion; however it’s cannot be regulated anymore than say a fake sugar baby/aka professional can.

Welcome to the world of ‘dating’…sugar or otherwise.

HenriLouis*294522says:

Hi Joycey K,
I like your post so full of joy(cey).
Darling please do not be bitter.
Life is full of struggle. Life dictates that you struggle, go under and come to the surface again. Then relax and breeeeaaaaath.
Life is full of suffering and in the end we get purified, catharsis as it was called in Greek antiquity.
Now you will find a good man in the end. The truth is even in underwear.
Calvin Klein “a good man is hard to find”.
Rejoice that there are so many swine here in the SD inferno.
Some day you will find your pearl among the swine.
Just relax and breeeeeeaaaath !
Life is like a commic strip, please laugh.
Create a nice scating reply for such picture collectors and mail it.
Actually Kitty is very good at it, as far as I can remember.
That is why to me, she is great fun.
But darling, do you think that it is only SBs that receive BS ?
I can assure you that SBs are also great at mailing BS.
I am a real man out there, as you put it.
Honey the ball is now in your corner.
SugarHenri

HenriLouis*294522says:

Hi Kitty,
It is good to see you in an abreviated version on the blog.
Sounds like a skimpy short dress that one of the girls mentioned here.
By the way, looks great on you.
I tried to scroll back all the way to find the name of the designer, but could not retrieve the information.
Was the fashion designer Moshino ?
SweetEuro can you help me here, please. You know everything on fashion.
Personally I never wear black, only at my own funeral.
My colours are marine blue and green.
Kitty, would you please send me a mail to my in-box ?
I would like to get some info on the NYC trip that you are arranging in May.
We could discuss it at leasure then.
BoleroHenri

joicey ksays:

hi…i don’t know if i am in the right place, but i really, really need to get something off my chest! WHY are some of these men allowed on this site? all they seem to want form me is SEX, SEX, SEX….they will not send me a pic, unless of course I send mine, which, by the way i have my pic’s posted there….I tell everybody that i am not a newbie, i have had a daddy in the past and i am well aware of their expectations….i absolutely hate endless emailers, pic collectors….idle chatter….can someone please give me a real sugar daddy site to enter? i really don’t think there is such a thing!
i have been on many, and i have yet to find a real man, let alone a real daddy! the man i was with, i found on a regular dating site….
i happen to be intelligent, have a great business and when they see that i am a real woman, they can’t seem to handle that….i am not a little girl, i am a woman….
i have had men that offer me plane tickets, there credit cards…yada, yada, yada….but when it comes right down to it, they say, oh my dear, i will have to get back to you!
PLEASE DON’T WASTE MY TIME…IT IS VALUABLE TO ME…NOW, I COME OFF AS BEING KIND OF RUDE, AND THAT IS NOT LIKE ME! I AM A GREAT PERSON, WHO HAS A LOT TO OFFER AND I AM BECOMING ANGRY AT THESE MEN…..WHEN I MAKE MY MILLIONS..HEHE….MAYBE I SHOULD OFFER THEM SOMETHING…LOL….WOW….I FEEL BETTER, THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT……IF THERE ARE REAL MEN OUT THERE….LEAVE ME A COMMENT….AND I WILL GET BACK TO YOU!!!!!~~~~~JOICEY

Joules*300035*says:

aight people, wish me luck! i gotta take a shower, finish writin these lyrics out and get ready and head outta here.

if all goes as well as i think it will, when i get back i will not only (still) have my own PR company, but i will have ‘inherited’ a new (several yrs old and well established) PR company based outta NYC!!!!!!

gotta get these lyrics finalized and down on paper so i can take them with me to the recording studio (DUH!!! almost forgot to do that!)

so glad to hear that so many of us are having such an awesome week!!!

Atalantasays:

Yeah, my parents always seem to be on the lookout for some extra gossip. Seriously, all they do is talk about people. Very annoying. So if my name is thrown somewhere, I know to steer clear to not give them any ideas.

So if SD ever gets me anything that doesn’t seem outrageously expensive, I bring it home and say I bought it myself. Other than that, I leave it at college. Parents always seem to pry…le sigh.

Joules, I am so happy for you! Your “SD” (no pots anymore, right?) sounds so nice, appreciative, and attentive. I hope you’re very happy with him!!!

Oooh sugar dust! Sprinkle some extra on me *smiles sweetly*

SuzieQ*297329*says:

HesAHotSB….I’ve got plenty of hugs to share, here you go!

SuzieQ*297329*says:

OMG!!!! Someone pinch me! Who said they feel like Cinderella! I just had the most wonderful phone call with my pot SD and he just emailed to say he thought we had a great connection, which I also felt. I feel so happy! (dances about sprinkling sugar dust everywhere!)

“I’m really glad I put myself on that site and that we’ve met. I think I’ll close it down after we meet, since it’s served its purpose in connecting me with someone special”

so doesn’t that mean that officially after we meet, he will go from my POT sd to my SD??!! teeheehee!!! i’m tickled pink!

Joules*300035*says:

the most interesting/funny part of this all is that I have no job, no car, no income, etc at this moment so yes, my mother is wondering where this money is coming from!

I had already told her that I have a meeting Sunday with a potential ‘business investor’ hahaha I don’t think she believed me until last night when I was telling her about the money being wired to me for a car rental for the weekend. I already made it clear to her about my business ventures but also with that I don’t think she beleived me until now.

As for my mother and the car rental, I just explained to her that my ‘business investors’ (potential) wanted to get me the car for the weekend so that i could meet a couple of my clients and try to close the deal so that I could report everything to them on Sunday; this way they could see the potential that I do or do not have!

But the cool part is that I DO see this first meeting with my pot SD on Sunday as a business meeting. I mean, it will be a mutually beneficial arrangement after all!

Things are dropping into place; one after another after another! I even told my pot….’do you see what wheels you have caused to start rolling?’ hahaha

He and I are both excited equally for me about everything but are more so excited about meeting on Sunday

YIPPEEEE!!!

Joules*300035*says:

I’M AWAKE!

I slept almost 8 friggin hours! my herbal sleepy pills worked awesome! i was out like a light last night.

I was awoken just a little bit ago by a telephone call from my pot saying he had wired the money to me!

my mother had been wanting to get her cellphone disconnected for a while now, as it’s outrageously expensive and is never used. She just didn’t realize she could do so over the phone 24/7 so I did it for her last night.

Then she started talking about upgrading the internet/cable and all that and well, just so happens that yesterday when i was calling to get highspeed quotes i went ahead and got a quote for my mother for the bundle package. so she left me a note this morning (after i told her about me doing the research on prices for her last night) saying to go ahead and start working on getting the regular phone shut off and get the bundle package installed.

on monday when i return my car rental i will be getting my $150 deposit back which was supposed to go to me getting highspeed internet for my business. So, I told my mother all of this last night and told her that even though she’s upgrading to the bundle package that I would still give her that $150; to go towards the internet part of the bundle package for like 4 months or so (which is what my original deal with my pot SD is).

I feel very well rested, motivated and TOTALLY psyched out!!! It was also nice being woken up with that telephone call. my pot SD said, ‘you sound so sweet when you just wake up’ hehehehe

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

HierswersCem,

you did WHAT to WHO for HOW many oreos???Where they double stuffed???

Damn dude you got screwed!

HenriLouis*294522says:

Hi sunny sugarland,
So many fellow bloggers with good news on the sugar scene !
Let me throw my bomb into the sugar bowl !
Hope everyone here will be covered with this magic sugardust after the explosion.
YES, it is a YES from the twins.
We are scheduling the first week-end.
Probably the last week-end of March
They are as excited as I am, so soon !
We exchanged mails and talked openly about our expectations.
I formulated the sugar offer for each of them.
Travel is easy. It is just a short direct flight for 2,5 hours.
Found this marvellous 5 ***** Hotel, and ancient chateau now renovated.
Just send them the hotel brochure over the mail with the simple questions: “Good enough”?”
Of course I made reservations for the mountain hall (Grieg) with that super kingsized bed.
Just for a minute I was tempted to get the bridal suite for us, found it so hilarious. Might embarrass them, so better not.
But I will carry them over the threshold. No girl can resist that.
Next meeting they will fly out to me.
Now for the question, who will be my companion for that week-end ?
We will cross that bridge when we get there I suppose.
Life can be pretty amazing.
Dating two SBs and they are twins.
My guardian Angel must have powerful medicine to accomplish this.
It is like in the song: Oh Lord, let the good times roll ………………
But seeing is believing, so I will let you know when everything is booked and so on.
I will let you in to a secret now. The best sugar music to be played on the first evening/night is the Bolero by Ravel.
Ever been in bed with her with those magical tones ?
It takes have an hour till at last the final crescendo !
Yeh, baby ! Mighty magic !
SugarHenriBoleroLouis

~*kitty*~says:

I shortened my name 😛

What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?

~Be true to yourself and be sincere. Don’t write a profile that resembles your myspace page. Put some intellect and thought into your paragraphs, that way it will convey more of “you.”

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?

~I really didn’t know that playing “the game” was acceptable within our society, the last time I checked, many daters still prefer, “no games.” With that, I do not think serious seekers like playing the “game” but is forced into it. Males, no matter what, are not transparent creatures. We have to strategize to get them to open up, or capture their attention. This is the “game” that must be played. “Mind Games” that plays with emotions are definitely not exceptable but the strategizing game is acceptable. Not voluntarily, but inevitable.

How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?

~By being genuine, realistic and sincere. Genuine SDs are interested in the entire package, not just the intimate aspect. They want to learn about you as a person and want to help you grow. Realistic SDs do not promise me the world. He offers all that he can and will promise to buy u a $500,000 condo before meeting you. Sincere SDs are caring….

SuthrnExecsays:

Hey Nico – it is great having a mentor that can listen and give you objective feedback. I have a couple that have been largely responsible for many of the good things that have come my way, but unfortunately they are not anywhere near me anymore so I don’t get catchup with them as much as I’d like. I suppose there is always the telephone…

Nicosays:

*HUGS* SE

Nicosays:

Good morning my sugar family! Been pretty busy with the business restructuring. Haven’t posted too much but have been trying to keep up.

My old SD popped into the picture last night. I sent him a simple e-mail giving him an ‘update’ and telling him about what’s going on in my world. He messaged me and wanted to meet for a bit before he headed out of town (he lives in my town part time). Anyhow, we met and talked. He is an amazing mentor and really makes me think about my life and the choices I’ve made and my direction.

Life is good….I am blessed and fortunate. I’m feeling very “Kum Baya”

SuthrnExecsays:

Good morning Peeps!

lisasays:

You misses OC, she was online yesterday evening

lisasays:

Good morning everyone. Getting ready to go to work. Still 0 replies to any of the 6 emails I sent out yesterday. Most have been online but only 4 messages have been read, the other two are non paying members so i’ll never hear from them.
Have a great day everyone.

He'sAHotSBsays:

hmmm…

I wonder where Bad bb/OCSug/VillaCyp is…

hmmm

Angela300373says:

Is it normal to have that disbelief of …is this really happening to me?
Well, not so much that but a nagging anxiety that somehow it will POOF ! disappear at any second cause its too good to be true. I can’t help but feel slightly like Cinderella and keep waiting for the Midnight toll!

Angela300373says:

Hey Fam!
I got the good pot SD news of the day!!!!!
I emailed my pot (the one I met on Sat) thanking him for a lovely time with the link to ticketmaster for the Jason Mraz I want to see in Vegas and the passport webpage. ( These are things we discussed on our date and he asked me to find out more for him.)
Got home tonight and he had replied (YA SAME DAY!) He says he will call me next week when he gets back from Mexico.
Things are definitely rolling smooth so far with him and we are compatible with chemistry and mutual respect.

Joules*300035*says:

I’M GOING TO SLEEP!!!

Joules*300035*says:

everything’s falling into place ladies and gents!!! and all cuz of my pot SD in which I haven’t even met yet!!!

because he’s sendin me the money for a weekend car rental, i decided to start touchin base wit all my clients out here….one thing lead to another, gotta new client last night and a new biz friend just now!……

headed to the studio tomorrow to see what kinda collab we can come up with!!!

Yay, good luck Jamisen…I think I’m going to drift off to dreamland in a bit. But first I’m going to look into getting some linen shirts for the summer. I love shopping.

ZenSugarsays:

Thoughts. Prior to meeting or traveling, I usually look for and expect small gift gestures.Oh, and attention to detail. In my experience SDs tend to be quite organized about their travel plans.Dates,times,etc. The pot with the offer- have you two spoken by phone yet? If not, I would be kind of weary. I have yet to start ANY arrangement without meeting first. Now, to show that they are sincere, I have had pot SDs do sweet things like pay for a spa day in my city, hire a personal shopper, send me to very expensive lingerie shops,send handbags. Things like that.

Jamisensays:

No! Your opinions were good, GND! I’ve got instincts, but it was nice to hear someone confirm them… And at this point I think I’ll take a little break from stalking this blog to start answering those e-mails.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Hey Jamisen, welcome to the blog after dark, lol. Ok I must admit I am not one to follow proper and polite ettiquette when it comes to replying to emails. If I’m not interested in someone I usually don’t respond. In some rare cases (such as the man who kept emailing me every 2 weeks although I never responded to one of his emails) I do write something simple and sweet back. Usually something like “thank you but I’m not interested, good luck in your search.”

Now as for the message about traveling to meet him. If it’s in an initial email I’d be a little wary. Most guys don’t offer you to come travel to see them in their first email. Now in the third or fourth one it could become a possibility, especially if you two seem to click. That’s just my opinion though.

Jamisensays:

Hi everyone,

I hope everyone had a good day. I was gone all day today in NYC, just got back. I found myself wishing that I had internet access to check what everyone was writing on the blog!

I opened my account to find my first e-mails waiting for me. Which brings me to ask for some advice: If there is someone that is just not gonna work (sounds like a creeper, one line reply, etc.) how rude is it to just ignore it? Should I still send a reply?

Also, one of the messages mentioned possible traveling out to meet him. Not super soon, but I wasn’t expecting any messages to have that type of offer. And from reading what you guys have been posting that should be a red flag, no? But then in his e-mail he makes an allowance offer.. nothing too grand.. but generous.. and from everyone’s posts that should seem like a good sign that he is serious? Thoughts?

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Joules you are lucky, I wish I had a potential SD sending me some moolah. Oh well, I’m trying to hint around to Superman that I have my eye on this wonderful little Tommy Bahama sundress. I think it would be perfect for the beach on my second trip down to Florida

i feel so overwhelmed though with all i have to do to get ready for friday. since i’m getting the car the entire weekend i need to go meet some of my clients and get some moola rollin in!

Young&Fabulous!!!says:

So my search continues. I feel like i’m never going to find a SD that I am attracted to. Yes they are nice & all that but…….I haven’t been attracted to any of them. =( Wish I was but i’m not. Guess the search must continue!!!

“He looks like my image of a sugardaddy, dress shirt, macbook, nice room, etc not exactly what I see in those who email me.”

Lisa & SweetEur. LOL and the 3 used tissues?

hehehe 😛

hmmm…

I can’t see… Bad BB…and VillaCypris…and OCSugarbaby…

hmmm…

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

That’s why I love this blog. All beautiful, intelligent and independent ladies that know what they want and refuse to settle for less. Some of us may have had a few hiccups along the way but we have goals and a plan for our lives. We’re looking to enrich our lives, not to be someone’s bimbo.

ZenSugarsays:

Chemistry
then
Personality
then
Finance

=perfect

ZenSugarsays:

I like the manly men as well. It was only weird for me because I’m quite the charmer. Disclaimer: I haven’t had an SD in a while. Was engaged last year to a regular guy.Hence, the curiosity. I feel like a divorcee’ sometimes. However, being an SB is like riding a bike.

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Ooooh CSB I can relate! You’re giving me a sweet tooth lol!

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

Zen: I’ve never asked for feedback. Honestly, I’ve yet to go on a date with an SD that didn’t feel instant chemistry with me (on his end at least). I think I’m just picky but some of these guys can be such a bore. I love a man that is warm, passionate yet aggressive. I want to intrigued by your personality. I love a manly man.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

It was helpful in the sense that it told me not to give up in my search…I told him that a SD had emailed me saying that I wasn’t cut out to be a SB, then he said well if that guy is looking to have a SB that’s a b**ch then I guess he’s right. Other than that no really helpful feedback other than on the blog.

HI Zen! I’ve asked on the blog, but never a pot sd…great idea though to get their perspective…let us know if you get any response!

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Yeah I’ve asked a potential SD for feedback before.

ZenSugarsays:

Since CSB mentioned sending off emails to pot SDs. I fired off 8 just now. I even sent one to a guy that I met once. I swore he liked me. I’ve been told that I come off like I could take it or leave it– sometimes. Maybe he’ll be candid and tell me something that can help me on my SD quest. I value sincere feedback. Has anyone else ever asked a pot SD or friend for feedback?

I love my family but only in small doses hehehe. I moved to a different city for university and live on my own. So the only people I report to are me, myself and I.

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Though my dear dad, who lives about 2 hours away, is starting to hint that isn’t it time I had a man in my life (been single and out of the dating scene for 3-4 years). He used to joke when I was an older teen that I should hang out at the doctors’ lounge at the hospital and catch myself a rich husband lol!

I know he thinks I should stop working so hard and make time for a good man in my life, but I’ve told him I’m really picky and am not settling for just any guy anymore…I deserve a really good catch! In the meantime, the sugar life really appeals to me. And, I suspect if I did tell him, he’d probably understand…I have such a cool dad!

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Ahh yes SuzieQ you are lucky…I’m starting to think telling my mother was a bad thing since now she seems to be more interested in my whereabouts. Good thing I stay on campus though, now it’s hard for her to keep up with where I’m at and who I’m with.

I’m lucky as I don’t think I’ll have to explain to my 22 year old son where I’m going…he’s past the age where it’s any of his business!

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Hey everyone, popping back in for the night. I’ve been enjoying my mother’s wonderful southern cooking since I got back home (biscuits, collard greens, ham..need I say more). Atalanta good idea telling them you were going out of town with some friends. I told my parents I went down to Miami with a friend when I left to visit a potential SD (after I was there, lol) and now my mom is on the hunt for my mysterious new “boyfriend”. *shakes head*

Atalantasays:

I made some asian style green beans and rice. Whatever tea/juice my mother made was awful. WAY too sweet. eck.

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Back….all sweaty and hungry lol! The air is cold and feels like more snow, I was playing hop scotch around all the ice patches on the ground, came home to find my fence blown down and had to prop it back up…great workout all around!

ZenSugar brilliant idea…but I have to agree it could potentially discourage some real SBs. Then again if I read your profile I’d laugh and move on…so who knows.

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

LOL…it wasn’t intentional but so funny. Well sounds like you have it all figured out then. I must admit I walk a fine line as I don’t let any of my friends in on my whereabouts. Then again, I haven’t had to travel further than twenty minutes to meet an SD and only in a public cafe or restaurant.

Well sugars, I am off…have a run on my training schedule that I want to get in before it gets dark and really cold. First race of the season is only 4 months away!

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Yes, he travels a lot for business and is asking me to meet him probably later this month. So I want to be sure everything feels right and I know exactly who I’m dealing with before I go anywhere. My best friend has already volunteered to be my phone check in buddy….she doesn’t want to miss any of the details!

Good for you Suzie. I know this blog has surely helped me in the short period that I’ve been on it. Will you have to travel to him?

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Silence…I’ll take that as a yes

So this morning I posted asking advice on a pot sd I’ve been emailing with. After he suggested we meet and I set some safety boundaries, I didn’t hear from him for almost 2 days. I was about to write him off…remember that?

Well I got several suggestions to send a polite follow up to give him a chance to respond. Turns out it was a good idea! He replied within 2 hours addressing all my concerns and we are going to be moving to the next step tomorrow and having a little phone chat.

I’m so glad this blog is here to get advice and feedback…thanks sugarland!

ChocolateSnowBunny it was a very hot day here in Houston and I have to have my airconditioning on. I will send you about 10 degrees and lots of sunshine

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

I’m jealous of your California weather. It was so gloomy out here today.

Atalanta: Good evening.

lisasays:

I wish I could move. My apartment is ok but i’ve been here over 3 years, it needs to be painted, carpet replaced, tiles replaced, etc. Everything was old when I moved in here, now it’s just plain dead. lol I don’t have alot of furniture so moving stuff around would be easy but the management won’t paint an apartment unless some new is moving in. Of course no one lives here long enough to need a paintjob. lol

Lisa-I move on the 21st. I was a bum all weekend and went to the beach both sat and sun. I still have not begun to pack. I have some great tan lines however! lol

lisasays:

Are you in your new apartment OC?

Atalantasays:

Welcome, Lurker! I must admit…that’s a “creeper” type of name. haha But I don’t judge! I’m sure you are wonderful!

Gosh, new blog and already 300 comments. I’m just going to answer the questions and read everything later.

What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?
I think that you should put everything you need to put. The more honest you are, the better response you will receive (not quantity, QUALITY). Of course, there will be scumbags, but when a true SD contacts you, then you can be sure that he paid attention to your profile, and he’s contacting you for what you’ve put.

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?
That’s a weird question. Personally, I play games with people I’m not interested in. It’s fun! (Sorry, boys!) With a pot SD that I genuinely like, I’m not going to focus so much on playing a game because I think honesty is important when you get into something like this. Otherwise, I think this all just depends on your dating style. Whatever works for you will work.

How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?
Another odd question, lol. If they’re chivalrous, smart, humorous, and sexy…I think we’re set!

GO L_I_S_A!!!!! Whoohoo (said with a British accent not a Texan one)

lisasays:

Ok OC I will get on it now. Later

OCSugarBabysays:

Lisa-OK then no more bad puns if you promise to email some hunky out of state SD’s and keep an open mind. You may not hear back from any or you may hear back from all of them! It is a gamble. I said pretty please…

lisasays:

personally I want the one in the picture above the topic, lol

lisasays:

OC I just sent out 3 emails today and none have been read. I even sent on to a nonmember who just joined today, hoping he will become premium and answer but honestly I’ve contacted just about everyone in my state that was within reason (no 20 year olds or obivous perverts) but most of the same guys are on here that were on here months ago, and so many of the new ones are nonpremium 1 day join, next day disappear member. I am open to out of state sds but they would have to come to me and it would have to be during the week when I have free time, weekends are horrible for me. Please no Texas puns either, lol you know I hate Texas yeehaw

OCSugarBabysays:

Lisa-Look outside of the Boot! You don’t have to commit, just test the waters. Do this for me.. Just email some that sound interesting call it the OC project. Yes, I know that you feel that most do not want to travel or have you travel to them. Try it, just search on some hunky ones that trip your trigger (Really bad Texas Pun). Pretty please???

To how many did I send an e-mail and waiting for an answer from ( I send a bunch – many as Lisa said: well thought ones)

And trust me, some of the bloggers aren’t so charming as they pose.

lisasays:

I have went through the list of sds for Texas and there isn’t anything. Same old ones for months and the new ones are either free members or way too young , or both. I have contacted everyone that was within reason. Some of these profiles are so old, and they never update them

Hi, Lisa,
of course it’s fake, that’s how it was suppose to be, unrealistic, but with a hint or realism ( the age is 61, could be retired/retiring, many residences…)

lisasays:

It does make me wonder how many of these sd profile posters in Texas are wearing panties, lol

OCSugarBabysays:

Lurker-I know you were experimenting, what a wealth of info you will find. Just wish we could do it without having others send emails and wait and wonder. However you did make it seem so unrealistic. I would have gone with occupation: Ruler of the Universe!

lisasays:

you are a fake sd

HenriLouis*294522says:

Hi Lurker,
Mata hari ?
So you study history.
Nice viewpoint on SDs, this dirty work.
But is will be fun for you to be on the bed side, which is better.
Sorry ladies, but I did not mean to sound like a male chauvinist pig,
just joking.
Come to think of it, what a challance, this bed side for and SD or an SB, which is more fun ? Please come back with a report in due course.
Have to sign off now as it is almost midnight here.
HenriLouis

Hi, OCS
Thanks for the welcoming!
I’m aware of that, but trust me there are more fake and some dangerous SD.
I’m trying to do no harm.
It was more like an experiment I intend to stop soon.

lisasays:

I agree with OC that you might be wasting other sbs time. What if everyone of the sd profiles are really women? Of course your profile does sound a little overboard and boasting which is a red flag to me as I have found that people of true wealth play down what they have to strangers. And an astronaut? wow

SweetEuropean*264271says:

Thanks….

LOL no way, I might have considered sending a message to that profile had I not known it was you, I live right near Monaco and there are only like 5 SDs there already! Possibly out of my age range though… lol

You should so pay for an upgrade!!

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

HenriLouis…your description makes me blush. Your world seems so idyllic. Don’t I wish I can escape the hustle and bustle of my busy city and roll around in the wonderful, green grass of the Scotland countryside. Until then, I will experience the thrill vicariously through your poems.

OCSugarBabysays:

Lurker-My one concern with making a fake SD account is that some TRUE SB’s may be emailing you and will they be left hanging….
Wish there was a better way for us to find out inside info on the SD accounts. Welcome!

Hi, HL
I’m more like Mata Hari, sexy-spying and using the information.
Sometimes you have to do some dirty work.
Now I’m on the bad side.

HenriLouis*294522says:

Hi Lurker,
I really like you, because you are Shakespearian.
You remind me of Portia in the Merchant of Venice.
A girl who dresses up as a man and acts in court like a lawyer.
Are you a law student ?
That would make it perfect.
HenriLouis

HenriLouis*294522says:

Hi ChocolateSnowBunny,
Thanks I enjoy your posts too !
By the way I love your name.
I know of a snow hare (in Scotland blue hare) but a bunny is more cuddly.
Saw one yesterday morning by the way when I was in the countryside.
Now chocolate refers of course to your charms, SDs will melt like warm chocolate into your hands.
It is a pity I am too far away, I bet we could have a great laugh together.
Your secret admirer.

Ahh HenriLouis, what would we ever do without you around here. Your poems are a delight to the mind and food to the soul. Hope you had a sunshiny day :).

HenriLouis*294522says:

Hi sugarland,
Hope you don’t mind that I join the conversation.
This new subject is very interesting as it turns up again and again on the blog. Let me approach it from a different angle.
Creating a good profile is nothing less than Direct Marketing.
You wish to promote something and it is YOU.
The laws of DM state that it is necessary to have a personal approach to the prospect. But who then is your prospect ? It is an SD, but what does he look like and how does he think and how does he view you ?
Ever sat down and thought “what does Henri think and how does he view me ?” Might be an interesting exercise.
So the purpose of your personal approach is to initiate response.
In DM, e-mailing is often seen as unwanted post (spam) and it rapidly disappears in the electronic shredder via the button “delete”.
All e-mails are very furtive.
You have to be really convincing to grab attention, so use an easy style of writing with a natural flow. Sentences no longer than seven words and every word no longer than seven letters.
First sit down and take a piece of paper and write your message down, lay it aside and next day have another look at it, change words and sentences, read it aloud ! Does it SOUND good ?
Yes does it sound good, after all you are talking through cyberspace.
Your reaction here ? Forget it, no way, much too much a waste of time and energy.
NO, it is not a waste of time. After all you wish to get his attention !
You promote yourself on this site. Are you a waste of time ?
Your SD is just around the corner, if only you pay attention to your presentation.
DM is created along the rules of AIDA ! Sorry, not Verdi’s opera.
Attention
Interest
Desire
Action
These are the things to look for in your Profile.
We know from the science of DM that within 5 seconds the prospect
(your SD) will read on or skip it or delete it.
Start with 3 nice photos, smiiiiiiiiiiile !!! Don’t look sour or angry.
Look into the camera (like Mona Lisa) and tilt you head a bit sideways, in body language this is asking “dont you like me ?”
Now your SD will read the text. The tone should be a happy message.
What the Germans (Freud, Jung) call “ein haha Erlebnis”, a happy experience.
The circle is the symbol of perfection. Any good story has a beginnging and then moves in all kinds of directions, swerves and turns and meanders, but comes back to where it started, the beginning.
The laws of DM dictate that the last line should be a nice farewell.
Sunshine on the page. Try it tomorrow, greet everyone with this:
I wish you a nice sunshiny day ! Observe the reactions.
They all look at you and smile and think you are a nice person.
Then the reader, your SD, would love to know more, you are sunshine.
I see words like “fakes, posers, time wasters, liars, con-artists” thrown at me in the last line of the SBs Profiles.
To the reader this is abusive. And what to think for a farewell like these famous last words: money, I just like money.
This goes completely against the grain of DM.
How about games. Yes, the process of seeking arrangement is like the dance of courtship. You e-mail and talk over the phone and meet
(oh gosh, have nothing to wear) and try not to be nervous and drink moderately. Your SD will try and put you at ease and in the end the dance will really turn into courtship.
You have succesfully attained the arrangement you are both seeking !
Yes and what about the notion excited. How can you get Henri excited ?
Very simple, just tell me you want us to have a black lab.
Now for the circle. I hope you don’t mind that I joined the conversation.
HenriLouis

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

This site works like a nightclub on opening night, let the girls in free because the more women you have the more men will come. Then charge the men a cover charge (or in this case a membership fee) in order to interact with the women.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

welcome to the blog Lurker, now are you a SD or SB???

lisasays:

there are probably more std’s than sds, lol

lisasays:

and there are only 1323 sds in Texas and half them are either non paying members or inactive premium members, or both. And a small percentage of that is in my city (Texas is a big state and I have found that most of the sds I have talked to won’t even travel a few hundred miles)

lisasays:

There aren’t that many sds in Texas that are a reasonable age for that I haven’t already talked to or sent an email to. And very few new ones that are paying members. I’m 43 so I would think my sd age range would be 50+ as I don’t think too many of the 20 and early 30 sds (a big percentage of the sds in Texas) are looking for an older sb.

OntheWater I have to agree with your friend. If I come across a SD who is not a paying, premium member I just keep moving it along. Especially if he “claims” to be worth millions.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Ahh back everyone…in this debate on whether or not you should upgrade I don’t think so. I’ve never upgraded and yet I’ve had some moderate success in finding potential SDs on this site. Personally though, I find that all the local SDs here are looking for out of town SBs. At first I thought it was odd, but then I decided to hop on the long distance bandwagon with them. I like traveling so for me hopping on a plane to go meet a SD is an exhilarating experience. In fact most of the SDs I talk to now live out of state (and can afford to keep flying me out to see them or flying out to see me).

Lurkersays:

Lisa, there are 5405 SB in Texas.

Better you send some e-mails more often, there’s a higher rate to be noticed.

lisasays:

sometimes it’s better not to know, lol

Ok everyone I just sent emails to 3 members so we will see if anyone writes back. It’s hard to find anyone that I haven’t already contacted since there is very little new blood in the sd population in Texas. I dont’ bother with out of state sds because they always want to come down on a weekend,and for the hundreth time, that just wont work with me. Without they want to spend time with a tired, backache, sore feet, ragged nailed woman that just wants to come home and relax that is. lol and I don’t think any sd that came into meet me for the weekend would be thinking of sitting around all day till evening to see me and then end the evening early cause I have to get up early on sunday to work all day. If I had that kind of thing, the sd would spend the whole weekend alone while I was at work.

The Vegas trip was just a meet and greet vacation for some SBs. sponsored by an extremely geneous SD who we did get to meet and thank

OnTheWatersays:

On the whole standard vs. premium issue…I have a male friend who is an SD on this site and he told me that it would be a turnoff for him to see a sb who has paid for premium membership. He also mentioned the other side of things, that if a guy supposedly wants to “spoil” a woman but can’t spring for a membership fee that should tell you something.

and most of the standard sds don’t bother to post a picture because afterall they just want to check out profiles, so they can’t even use the 10

lisasays:

I think they reply to 10 or something. The whole point is that if sbs can join and communicate for free, it will draw alot of sb members and that will attract sds and the way the site makes money if off the sds, afterall they are supposed to be the ones with the money. If they can’t pay 40 a month I think it is, they aren’t sds. Given a choice between the premium membership and being able to contact sbs or being standard and not, many guys chose the cheaper option, not a good trait

SweetEuropean*264271says:

I think it’s to encourage them to upgrade, i’m not sure how it works exactly but I think to be able to read messages they receive they need at least one photo uploaded and they can read upto 10 messages, but to send messages they need to upgrade…

Luckily we can just do anything, upgrade or no upgrade *grins!* We’re special 😉

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

Why can’t standards reply back to our messages? I didn’t know about that. It is interesting the things you find out around here.

lisasays:

I don’t bother with standard sds, they can’t write back so why bother. Most of them don’t become premium I have found. They want to look at women’s profiles, they gotta set up a profile to do that, so they do and then they’re gone. I find it hard to believe a wealthy man can’t spend a little money to become premium. I have heard some on here say they don’t need to at this time and that they have found a way to get around it and make contact with a sb. That to me is kinda like not parking in a way out place and walking to the show because you don’t really need to pay to park in a lot. cheap!

Ooops forgot to add to that, standard SD profiles also tend to make me think they aren’t serious because they can’t send messages without an upgrade, they can just browse profiles….

SweetEuropean*264271says:

Yeah you’re right Lisa..

When I was standard I had around 300-500 views and 100 messages, since becoming standard i’ve had over 1000 new views and about 50 messages

Just because more people check out your profile doesn’t mean more people contact you, being standard I had a better majority of people who viwed me contact me after.

Being premium will obviously make you easier to find because your profile will be priority but I think if your profile sparks a SD interest he will contact you whether you are premium or not. I think the whole preium Vs Standard thing is more of an issue for SBs concerning SDs profiles (like I tend to scroll past standard profiles because I think, you’re worth millions but you haven’t bothered to pay $50 for an upgrade? Hmmmm LOL) But that might just be me.. I dunno lol

lisasays:

I have sent out well thought out messages to many sds and most have been read (I do not waste time with free members though) but never answered. I stopped doing this about a month ago. It didn’t work for me and gets tiresome after awhile.

lisasays:

There is proof! A beautiful woman like SweetEuropean received more as a standard member. You probably get alot more views though don’t you? Views don’t equal contacts though. I think the guys should have to “pay per view” on here. I bet that would cut down on those looking for free pics, lol

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

Nika: you’re right. There are just too much profiles for SDs to go through. If you’re not proactive, you can miss your pot SD. I don’t mind sending out emails to men that genuinely interest me. I’m not one send a copy/paste email and see how bites.

SweetEuropean*264271says:

CBS – I’m premium and to be honest I received ALOT more messages when I was standard!

lisasays:

I just don’t waste my time and besides it’s the same old tired members in my state, very few new ones and alot of them are either free members or too young for me. As far as jobs are concerned, it’s funny because the last three jobs I have gotten were the first ones I applied for. I put in an application at the first place, then continue and never hear from any of them but the first. The job I have now is the first place I applied to before applying lots of other places. So I always get the first job I apply for even it takes a week or two but I have yet to meet a sd that I have first contacted.

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

I might opt for an upgrade should my potentials not work out. I’m not in a hurry because I think an upgrade will cause me to spend too much time sending emails etc. I log on a few times a week, go through some profiles and send a few emails. I don’t bother look to see who has read the email or not. If they’re not interested, ah well, their loss.

I have two pot SD meetings this week. I’ll keep my fingers crossed.

I have a question about the sugar baby Vegas trip. Did any of the ladies meet a pot SD? Is that the reason for the vacation or just a meet and greet?

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

Lisa, most of us that have found sd’s or have pot sd’s are the ones that initiated the contacts. instead of looking so down on things and take the initiative on contacting different pot Sd’s and keep up it up. It’s just like looking for a job you keep on until you find the right one

lisasays:

over half those who put me on their favorites list were no paying members who only logged on the first day after joining

lisasays:

I get messages from time to time but there is always an issue, like with Bob or the other two that I heard from this week. Bob was in a hurry to meet, I asked to get to know each other first, he agreed, he called me but I missed his call so he never called back or read my email about being sorry I missed his call.
Then of course the doctor who is well endowed, I mentioned allowance, he ran, lol
And another one I can’t even remember what happened, I think he just fell off the earth, lol

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

Exactly CSB. But personally I am going to try and get the upgrade when I can. That way I can see who has put me on favorite and send out a few more notes. That way I KNOW who has looked and are interested.

lisasays:

I don’t initiate contact anymore. When I joined way back I met a guy right away and the relationship lasted about a month. He moved and with his work schedule and mine, I didn’t work. He was just a regular working person so he didn’t have the money to see come see me all the time. I had one after that who stood me up twice. He was the one that wanted to meet several times a week in exchange for paying my phone bill, yeah right. Then I met two back to back within a couple weeks that took me shopping but didn’t want to persue anything else. I have sent out dozens of emails to get maybe 1% response and it was always (sorry we’re too far from each other even if they lived in my state and their profiles were full of how they liked to travel, they still couldn’t travel 200 miles to meet me).
I have contacted those who added me to their favorites list but most never wrote back and the majority were free members who couldn’t contact or read emails anyway. There are alot of guys that set up a membership to view profiles and collect pics. Often I will see 3 similar profiles come up on the same day and the guys have blank profiles and never log on after that day or they never upgrade.

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

Lol that’s true Nika because I do fave some SDs without sending messages. After all, you can’t send them all a message. Too time consuming. So far, I’ve had decent luck without the upgrade so I’ll milk that baby ’til it runs out.

But it makes it ALOT easier when you do message them if they put you down as a favorite..

Southern Bellesays:

no sleep for me.

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

Honestly CSB I’m in the opposite mind than lisa. I think it is worth the 20 dollars a month much for the reasons that Lisa stated but also should you find a SD that you wish to speak to you can also exchange personal information with the pot’s unlike if you have the free account, you don’t get as many views and sorry if I find out a pot sd has favorited me I’m going to message them in a heartbeat but that’s just me.

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

That’s what I thought Lisa. I figured it would be cool to see who faved me or viewed my profile. However, I won’t send them a message as they obviously weren’t interested enough to send me one. Thanks for the input. Not worth it to me.

Lisa, are you proactive in your search? Do you send a lot of emails or do you wait to receive one in your inbox? Why haven’t you had much luck for so long? Is it your location and your schedule?

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

hey that works for me GND~LOL~

and gives enough extra choices in the end~grins~ heheheh although might be a better pool to have an even 20 SD’s to the SB’s so that way the Daddies can know what the babies go through and even to give better odds

lisasays:

ChocolateSnowBunny I have upgraded one time, back in January and it wasn’t worth it. I joined way back months ago and had luck early on up till about sept, no dates since. I get moderate response but there’s always a fly in the ointment (picture collector, want’s me to travel to meet them, wants to meet on weekend, etc). The only difference I found (except for having less money after paying for membership) was that I had many more views and I could see who was viewing me and also those who added me as a favorite without bothing to even email me. I got no more response, just many more views. I did enjoy seeing who had viewed me but I feel I wasted the money.

lisasays:

Have a good afternoon girlnextdoor

lisasays:

Hi I’m back. Just had to have some time to be deep in thought, hard to do that when on the blog, lol. Looking at all this free time I have to waste and when I do get someone who wants to meet, it’s always on the weekend but I have to work every weekend and I’m much too tired to do anything else. Whereas today I feel great, rested and relaxed but nowhere to go. I would walk down to the mall but the sideswalks are still torn up and I don’t feel like walking in the street with all the traffic. Not worth wasting busfare for a 4 block trip to do nothing. Why can’t I find a sd that wants to meet on a friday when I’m always off? No I can’t do saturday, work 8 hours lifting heavy stuff, wait an hour for a bus, come home , exhausted, not in the mood to meet anyone, lol

I’m keeping my fingers crossed with both of them. Although going to be interesting as I bet going to have the suggestion of my swimsuit for a few shots..~LOL~

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

I know I’m anything but photogenic~LOL~ But my roommate is a damn good photographer, she made someone I know that is definitely not the best looking woman in the world look positively hot simply by the angles and such so hopefully she can work her magic with me and I can put up on good pictures besides the ones I have up now. including my “bodacious” shot~LOL~

And damn skippy although in competition with you and a few of the other ladies have a feeling I would be one of the first ones to be tossed off the show~LOL~

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Good luck with the photo shoot Nika and your potential SD, maybe he’s the one.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Of course Nika we’ll be contestants…but it’ll give us an advantage to choose the SDs as well, lol. 😉

I hate taking pictures because I don’t think I’m photogenic, but what I hate more than that is webcam chats. Argh! People seem to look like zombies when they type because they’re thinking and it affects their facial expressions, and you always have a tendency to come off as looking bored on those things.

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

GND,

Ooohhh hell yeah although I wanna be one of the contestants!!~LOL~

Well I finally take the quick snapshots with my webcam as you know the other day…and guess what? My roommate whom I’ve been BEGGING to take new and more professional photos of me for FINALLY sets up plans to do this on Friday morning/afternoon at a park that has some killer areas to take some HOT pictures…I might just see about holding those in the wings~grins~

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

CSB,

The Pot I’m talking to gave me his name through messenger, going to be taking the advice of one of the other ladies that I speak to through here and broach the subject of allowances and such before he gets here as he’s already made the plans for the visit around the 21st of this month.

It seems like a good idea to know what he is and isn’t willing to do a bit more although we are talking about if the right chemistry is there about where and when the additional times together will be, him coming out here more, me going out there to him as well, and even meeting somewhere in the middle, with him paying for the expenses in all ways and means.

So who knows??I am hoping to hear from him tonight although I doubt it to much, hopefully he is out with his camping thing already doing the second leg out into the Great Wilderness!!!That way he’ll be back even sooner~grins~

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

GND,

Hell yeah!!Hook me up with that one. They go through the SD/SB sites and pick the possibilities from there~grins~

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

CSB I personally don’t ask for personal info unless I’m travelling out of town…at least not directly. I also don’t usually agree to meet a SD until he offers to divulge some personal info himself. Like I told one of my potential SDs actions speak louder than words. Anyone can say “you can trust me”, but the question is can they show you that you can trust them?

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

That was me, onthewater. No kind of money will make me give up mu integrity in the process.

Good afternoon, sugar world.

Funny story, I followed the advice of someone on here about asking for full name, business info etc from a pot SD. I never do that because I always meet SDs from my city and at a cafe/restaurant close enough to my home. Well, he replied that he didn’t want to continue further. Ah well, I don’t really care but it does make me wonder. Do you ladies ask for personal info regardless of if you’re travelling out of town or just a meet in your city?

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

Ok and now onto a more filled out reply~LOL~

Angela Sorry about the short reply before was going to say more but the neighbors had the cops called on them and I had to be nosy and stuff~LOL~

He kinda looks like Bronson Pinchot but not exactly. And yeah I love to read just about anything I can get my hands on. I’ll keep my eyes out for the additional writers and the books. It’s been one of those days today I actually was able to sleep in during the week as I didnt have my normal wake up duties which was a shocker…

Now for the rest, you go JOULES!!! Here’s to hoping I’ve got a visitor coming myself in a few weeks as you well know.~grins~ Checking up on some stuff right now for the visit. Want him to have as much fun as I will while he’s visiting. All that good stuff. Hoping that the click is more like the POW that we have in messengers!!

Gailsays:

We already know the perfect SD…don’t we Sweet E? And he is all about saftey first:)

OnTheWatersays:

Basically, if he’s not someone with any concern for my safety, he’s not someone I’d want to meet. I read something someone said earlier about turning down great financial offers bc they did not agree with the terms….I’m on that boat.

OnTheWatersays:

Joules,
I was nice to this guy before. I have a good job, I’m not desperate for money so I see no reason to be overly polite to a man that clearly has no concern for my safety. I’m not negative about the site at all. I’ve met several awesome guys here. Maybe I should have expressed that with my disapointment. I think you’re so new to this you may not have seen the ugly side of some people…good luck and I hope you never have to.

Yes he is my image of a true sugar daddy, of course I think I met the epitome of the perfect sugar daddy for me (he’s the perfect age, has the perfect look, a perfect gentleman, etc.)

lisasays:

I know who he isn’t , lol not any of my contacts, lol
So many men trying to pretend to be sds when they just don’t have the means. Yes any man can be generous and therefore a sd, but the image is important too.

SweetEuropean*264271says:

I agree with Lisa, the guy in the pic looks like my image of a SD too…. and he’s soooo hot! I’d love to know who he is!!!

lisasays:

You will have to ask someone else about that. OC sugarbaby told me how, I followed the instructions but have since forgotten. There is some site you have to go to upload a picture. Does anyone remember how we did it?

The guy in the pic is very hot but too young for me

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Hmm never seen that guy Angela, but the guy in that pic is still hot

Angelasays:

Nika…you and I sound very similar. I love Stephen King and Anne Rice (especially the Beauty series as Anne Roquelaure) I recently discovered a new author Chuck Palahniuk. He wrote Fight Club. Check him out I think you would like him too. (But only if you have a strong stomach…lol)
About that guy in the pic up there ^
Am I the only one who thinks he looks like Bronson Pinchot ? (Balki from Perfect Strangers and perv on Surreal Life)

I’m hearing on the news that they found the body of a woman that was abducted about a month ago.

Joules*300035*says:

ALMOST time for sleep, i swear!!!! lol

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

I agree Mel, before I decided to join the site I looked at the blog…since it seemed to be pretty good I joined the site. Happy I did so also. Aww SE I wish it were warm here, it was for a few days but now it’s chilly again. We have strange weather over here for some reason, dunno why.

lisasays:

I was in Nice in April of 1992. Beautiful weather, not too hot, not too cold. But Houston is already hot. I am wearing a sleeveless sweater dress and got very warm just walking a block. Cold front coming in thursday though.
Funny thing is that the trees are losing their leaves now. I have leaves all over my porch and it’s hot out, a combination of fall and summer, lol

Melsays:

Hey everyone, I’m new here (kind of) and wanted to see what goes down here.

I’m LOVING this site, it has everything I’m looking for. Coincidentally, I typed in “sugar daddies” in Google out of curiosity, signed up here and within a week, all this talk and day-time shows on sugar daddies surface!! Too weird.

Anyway, I think people should be very direct in their profiles. Communicating what you want is key because people tend to assume or guess and it never ends too well.

In my profile, I described my hobbies, what I’m doing at the moment (school), my future goals and what I’m specifically looking for in my arrangement. Very simple.

I like it when people get right to the point, no beating around the bush. Some profiles seem a little too vague. Say what you need to say but don’t give too much away.

I think doing your research before you jump in will make it easier. I know it did for me.

SweetEuropean*264271says:

Hi Lisa!

SweetEuropean*264271says:

Hi Gail, how sre you today? I saw Sacramento mentioned somewhere earlier and it made me think of you!

Hi GND, I haven’t been on here much in the daytime either, it’s like early evening here in France right now LOL I always miss all the good stuff on here because i’m in bed while everybody is chatting away!

Gailsays:

Morning Lisa:) I hope it is hot here. The good thing is the sun is out. I have running around to do today(work:(…..and then my afternoon will be free. I am going to make the most of it….Enjoy your day everyone!!!

Good morning Gail, SweetEuropean, gurlnextdoor. I’ve been up for a while but just now having my coffee. Hot, windy day in Texas. Not much to do today though.

Gailsays:

Sweet E:) Miss you sunshine!!!

Gailsays:

Morning all…yes I have made my coffee and drank two cups. Its a beautiful day outside…I am not going to waste it:) Sounds like SBs have been living on the blog…lol all day and all nite? hmmmmm are you all puffy eyed and have you brushed your teeth? Have a great day!!!

Lisa that’s a good idea, hey Stephan are you reading this???

Joules*300035*says:

lol my sleeplessness is showing finally …. ‘because where we all be…”

i meant, where would we all be

Joules*300035*says:

i like the idea as well, Lisa. i think us bloggers should get an extra chance to shine and talk about ourselves in general because where we all be if it weren’t for those of us on this blog? a lot of us might not have such great success w/o this blog and the continued input of everyone on here!

I rarely drink caffeine. But today was a must. I hate getting no sleep.

lisasays:

I know we all talk about ourselves but it’s hard to keep track of everyone and I sometimes get people mixed up.

lisasays:

You know what be a fun idea for a topic on the blog? Wouldn’t it be nice if Stephan made a topic where we could all tell a little about ourselves, where we are, what we do, age, etc? Not an ad for a sd or sb, just bios about those who blog on here.

so anywho, i’m going to reply to my pot’s email lol

maybe it’ll be a little happier in here when i come back!

*grin*

almost 26 hours up!!!! fun fun fun; fun for EVERYONE!

lisasays:

It’s just discouraging when you get an email in you box (for those of us who get very fiew) and you open it and write a nice note back, and then you get a lame repsonse “do you have any more pics/” Wanna meet? When you coming to see me? What do you like in bed?

Lisa, I didn’t mean ‘kill em with kindness’ in that way, just that we all should try not to get so (negatively) worked up when we encounter a Houdini or a pic collector or a busy busy man.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

What kind of games have I encountered?

Well of course there are always the picture collectors who get a few pics and disappear. Then there are the no-shows, gotta love them. But recently I started IMing this one potential SD who seemed nice at first until he started to tell me what it was he was looking for in his SB. Basically he just wanted an escort. So I told him good luck in his search but that wasn’t me.

SuzieQ*297329*says:

OK, I have sent him a short email…will let you know what happens, but my gut feeling says no. He’s been online in the last couple of days but can’t reply to my email? Just seems he went quiet immediately after I set my safety boundaries. We’ll see….

lisasays:

Joules, killing them with kindness never worked for me. Any dealing with the same old lies and players gets very old. Being nice can get you walked all over as there are people out there that prey on that.

lisasays:

I am going to be generous and give them all to you OnTheWater, lol
These men need to step up to the plate and show they’re serious and worth it. On another note, I talked to my best friend last night and she’s considering replacing her boyfriend with a toy, lol

Joules*300035*says:

OTW, my thoughts on all that is to kill them with kindness. Just tell him AGAIN (politely) that you simply do not feel comfortable having an initial meeting outside of your ‘home turf’. Thank him for the generous offer to pay your transportation fares, etc. Thank him for previous conversations and let him know that when he’s available to meet you in your area then to let you know well in advance and then you would just love to meet him at that point.

maybe this is why i’m doing so well so quickly. everyone seems so grumpy and hopeless on here sometimes *shrug*

happy happy joy joy! *lol*

OnTheWatersays:

lol Lisa I think the same SDs are contacting both of us

lisasays:

Beware of those who say they’re busy all the time. Whereas it can be true with a businessman, it is also a great way to say “i’m not interested” and i’m not going to make time to see you. People make time for what they want. Most of my past relationships have began there end by the guy being “too busy” to see me.
A good question about being too busy is to think: If this man’s favorite celebrity, be it actress, playboy centerfold, sports hero, etc. was to come into town at the time that he is “too busy” to see you, would he make time to see that person?, chances are he would. And if he could make time to see some stranger who cares nothing about him personally, he could make time for that special person in his life, whether it be sb,girlfried, or friend

Lisa…nooooooooooooo no sleep for me! too much to do plus i love bein in this silly insomiac sleep deprived mood!

make for more entertainment for you all!!! *grin*

lisasays:

OnTheWater I once had a message from a sd from Florida that wanted me to jump on a plane that evening and meet him. Oh yeah, like i’m going to just run to the airport 5 minutes after someone contacts me, lol
How was he going to get the ticket to me? I think he expected me to pay and be reimbersed, yeah right. Anyway he was looking for someone to spend every other week with him (the entire 7 days). If you are going to give that much of your time to someone, which means you wouldn’t be able to do much else, hold a job, etc, you’re better off with a boyfriend, at least it could lead to something. His allowance offer wasn’t much for that amount of time either.

Southern Bellesays:

I understand.

Joules*300035*says:

Suzie, see my positive results from sending that ‘reminder’ email to my houdini?!! it’s been a week. He replied to my email within a couple of hours and apologized and we are now picking back up where we left off only now I have his yahoo ID and we will be exchanging pics later!

might as well ask if you have offended in some way or if he just got busy, won’t hurt; just make sure you mention that you would like some kind of response one way or the other

OnTheWatersays:

Morning Lisa!

OnTheWatersays:

Okay so some of the SDs on this site are just INSANE! I too had a guy that wanted me to fly in to see him. I told him I would never put myself in a position where I’d be flying to a city where I knew NO ONE, etc. He responded with “well what about if I pay for your travel?” Ummm I sorta figured that was part of the deal buddy. After e-mailing back and forth ( I was NOT changing my views on the safety issues) I finally was like look….unless you plan on coming to my city for the first meeting, this isn’t going to work. He also had JUST offered his real FIRST name, nothing else. So he disappears for a while…then yesterday I get an e-mail being like ooo baby are you still interested? Is this man insane or what? Did I miss something?

…haha sorry for the rant but I’m just really annoyed with these so called “educated” guys that can’t respect what I see as perfectly normal personal safety boundaries. Thoughts everyone?

lisasays:

Yes has been on this site since Jan 08 I think. I am a little suspicious when I read a profile and the guy has so much to offer but is still on the site after all this time. We sbs are outnumbered but there are more than enough sbs for the sds on here. I think to myself, he’s either lying, has some character flaw that drives women away, is impossible to please, etc. I would think an attractive rich doctor with a mansion and fancy cars would find someone just like that. But then again he is looking for someone to have alot of babies, and it’s doubtful many of the young college women on this site are looking for that type of glamour, lol

SuthrnExecsays:

Morning Lisa! You’re better off sending him off! Good for you!

lisasays:

As far as time between first contact and meeting? Well I have found that the sds that I have actually met have been within afew days or a week. One was over a month because he was from out of town. I have yet to meet any of the ones that were going to be in town in a month or two, those always just disappear.

SuthrnExecsays:

SuzieQ, it won’t hurt to ask if there was something that bothered him about what you said. What have you to lose?

SB, you will not come across with too many expectations to the SD that finds an interest in you for who you are. If a SD thinks that you have too many expectations or rules, then he isn’t right for you because that issue will manifest itself in other ways later on as well.

lisasays:

Good morning everyone. Sorry jamison, your brief note reminded me of some of the spam we get on here. Please post your profile number next to your name so we can check your profile out and give advice. It’s also nice to see who we’re chatting with here..

I slept late but am still tired. Stuck at home all day today. Joules, go to bed! lol

Well I lost that potential sd. One that had contacted me about a month ago and disapeared after alot of chat, sent me an email. He talked of his “assets” if you know what I mean, so I talked about my financial needs. Fair is fair. Well he’s read my message and disappeared. The way his profiled read, he was looking for a wife and kids, not a sb. He frowned on giving financial assistance for companionship, so what’s he doing on this site? He needs to go to e-you know what. lol

Southern Bellesays:

Well I agree as well. I think a lot of phone conversations would take place before meeting. I’ve been on this site, um, lol idk less than a week. But I got an email it seemed as soon as the profile was approved. Which was nice. And we exchanged email addresses. But we started talking about what type of arrangements we were looking for, and he said he preferred to say that over phone, and not an email. He gave me his number, and then asked if he could trust me with it (um…too late if you can’t?) It just didn’t settle right with me. I told him I wasn’t comfortable giving my number out just yet. I don’t want to be emailing for a year. But a swift move to meet is out of the question as well. I, hopefully, do not come across as having too many expectations.

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Hmmm…another disappearing act on my end

Have been having a great conversation with a pot sd and we got to the point of setting up a meeting. He’d suggested flying me out to his next destination (travels a lot for work) and I replied favourably, but said I needed more details from him first, was sure he must understand that my safety was important and that I wasn’t about to jump on a plane to meet him without even knowing basics like his last name. Haven’t heard a peep in 2 days.

(shakes head and rattles brains a little) Do they really think we’re that naive?!

So, my inclination is just to walk away and forget this one, but does anyone else have a different opinion? Like should I email and ask if I’ve offended him in some way, etc?

Southern Bellesays:

Seen your post about the pic thing over there too, i was trying to figure it out. it’s not working i don’t think

SuthrnExecsays:

SB, regarding your second question, I think you need to take as long as you need to feel comfortable. A lot of the SBs say that they are not into “endless emails” so that could be why some SDs press for moving quickly to meet. Just layout your expectations very early – if you want to converse via email to get to know someone, let them know that is how you’d like to do it. When you’re ready for a phone conversation, let them know. I would certainly have a phone conversation before meeting – but it’s about what’s comfortable to you. Do not feel pressured to go against your gut feelings on something – more times than not – a LOT more times than not – you’re gut feelings will be right. So resist the pressure and do things on your terms.

Southern Bellesays:

So I have a few questions.
1) First I had the wrong idea of the term ”games”. I was thinking, games. Ha silly me. So you mean head games. Ok are there tips to avoid that? What are some things to look for? I’m not one into the sex emails. So that would be a no for me right off the bat. Anything else that would be something to look after?
2) Say you have shared a couple of emails with a SD. What is an appropriate time to keep it online before meeting? I’m very cautious with meeting people from the internet. But I don’t want to scare them off because I’m taking forever just to meet for a coffee.

Southern Bellesays:

Joules, I figured as much. I used to love watching Tyra because she can be such a character. But I’ve noticed that not only does she do these shows about certain ”sensitive” topics, but she forms her opinion about it, making people feel very low and dirty for what they do (prime example, the pregnant girl feeling she had nothing else to do but to turn to the Bunny Ranch in Nevada. That was her choice to make, and not for Tyra to look down upon). I don’t think anyone should be made to feel bad for whatever they do and whatever choices they make. The glory of America, right?
So once I seen Tyra making this look so bad, I had to dig deeper.

Besides the girl that said, I googled sugar daddy and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done…..gotta give kudos to her. Cause she made me google sugar daddy *LMAO*
Nothing wrong with two people after something they want.

Joules*300035*says:

Ola Suzie!

well everyone, i’ll be back in a few minutes. I need to go ahead and pass this expensive news on to my pot SD lol

Joules*300035*says:

look, we ARE getting more people cuz of that hoochie Tyra!!!

SouthernBelle, welcome to our sugar land! you will find we are NOTHING like how Tyra portrayed ‘us’. a few of us even posted nasty comments on Tyra’s website over her show! I think I was one of the few (if not only) on here that actually watched her entire show; I was utterly DISGUSTED!

SE…I’ve had 3 pot SDs so far, one of which raised tons of redflags to begin with and as soon as i politely declined to get so sexually explicit in email he was gone. the second one, he mailed me, i mailed him; nothing afterwards (but i sent him a follow-up email a few hours ago). The 3rd pot I will be meeting sunday unless he bails at last minutes but i HIGHLY DOUBT this will happen. So that’s the ‘games’ I’ve encountered so far

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Good morning all!

SE, in regards to your games question, the one I’ve run across most is the one I referred to earlier, where there is a great deal of interest shown (and in my most recent experience even to the point of very detailed, personalized and well thought out emails), but as soon as I ask for information that would allow me to do a “reference check” they disappear!

I have to wonder what’s going through their head….do they really think an intelligent woman will just hop on a plane to come see them without even knowing their last name?!

I think I will take the advise of one of the sb’s on here (sorry gals, can’t remember who said it) to ask for this information right up front so I know they’re serious.

That and the ol’ picture collector game!

Joules*300035*says:

well, that was a rather disappointing 1 1/2 hours of phone calls in regards to me getting my rental car and high-speed internet. It’s going to cost a lot of money for my pot SD to make this happen lol a lot more than i expected

SuthrnExecsays:

I’d be curious to hear about the “games” that some on here have encountered. Is there a most common “game” that SDs or SBs play?

The game playing that I have encountered most (very early on) is the person that seems interested up to the point of meeting and then they are a “no-show”. How inconvenient, inconsiderate and just plain rude! Besides the obvious gold-diggers, that’s the best example of game-playing that I have encountered.

Anyone else run across any game players?? What did it “look like”?

Southern Bellesays:

Well I don’t want to dive into something without being knowledgeable on it. I understand what you mean when you say there are various levels. It can be from one extreme to the next, I’m sure.
And thanks for the welcome! 😀

SuthrnExecsays:

Welcome Southern Belle – glad you decided to come out from lurking and show yourself on the blog!

This kind of relationship is really tough to describe in a single sentence – or two even! There are various levels, shades, and degrees of all the things that make up a SB/SD relationship – it’s all up to the people who are involved.

Good for you for doing your research!

Southern Bellesays:

Hi all. I am very new to this site, and just as new to this type of lifestyle. I’ve never been big into blogging, but I’ve been reading the Q&A’s in this one and have found it very helpful.
I’ve always heard the term, Sugar Daddy, and never took it seriously until I watched the Tyra Banks show. I didn’t get to see the whole show, but from what I did see, seemed as if she was trying to shine the wrong kind of spot light on this kind of lifestyle. So I did my homework and listened to/read SB testimonials. I have not made my decision on whether or not this is for me. I do not see this as a form of prostitution, as some made it seem like on ABC news. I actually see this as something that could be very helpful in many aspects. Besides the financial assistance, what girl doesn’t like to feel special to a certain someone? It seems that it can get much deeper than just sex/money, but it doesn’t have to reach the level of commitment.
Anywhooo, I found what Summer said about stating clearly in your profile of the dollar amount expected very helpful (thank you!!). Now hopefully it will make my intention much clearer and I will be closer to finding the appropriate arrangement for me.

SuthrnExecsays:

What the hell, I guess I’ll address the questions…

> What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?
For SDs, be honest and upfront. And even though many SDs don’t bother reading profiles of the SBs, take the time to write a nice profile for yourself because most SBs will read it! I have found usually the SBs that don’t bother reading it are looking only at the $$ line in your profile. Express yourself, what makes you tick, what you enjoy, what you’re like. Be flexible, as much as possible, in as many areas as you’re comfortable.

> The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?
Everyday life is spent trying to maneuver and out-maneuver the game-players and I really don’t have the desire (or the energy) to continue the dance in any kind of relationship. Granted, you’ll probably run across several SBs/SDs that want to make a game out of this, but not me. If this is allowed then it becomes about the game and not about the people involved.

> How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?
Be themselves – be real. After communicating with someone for a little bit you soon learn whether they are being themselves, because if they aren’t, the inconsistency will become apparent. Be courteous and respectful. If you say you will do something, do it. Leave no question. Point out the good points – everyone likes to know what is attractive to someone else. Let them know! Be honest and be kind in your honesty. You don’t have to agree with me on everything, but don’t be disagreeable!

SuthrnExecsays:

Good morning everyone – as Nico said, welcome new-comers!

Nicosays:

Good morning sugar family. I’ve not met or chatted with many of you but welcome all the new faces and *waves* to the familiar ones

What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?

First and foremost ~ cut through the crap (blunt right?) I’ve discovered many guys don’t take much time (if at all) to read through a profile so, honest and good pictures and a clearly stated message. Show your flexibility ~ to the extent you have any.

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?

Personally I feel as though it works better in a SD/SB situation because expectations are generally discussed in advance….which is not the case in a typical dating relationship…

How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?

Ha ha….well, for me it’s simple. Follow through men…follow through. You make contact, you chat for a little while, you express your interest and then you disappear *sigh*

k, gotta finish reading this message from him now hahaha

*does her little jump up and down all giggly-like*

Joules*300035*says:

lol hey hesahotsb!

Joules*300035*says:

well, i’ve been up 21 hours now. i just thought of some new pics to add to my myspace site (not my facebook site for my SD/SB life tho lol) so i guess since i’m busying my brain then i might as well stay up for a while longer!!!

I actually just realized that after every initial contact/message that I send, it gets easier and easier to pick out something in an SDs profile to just try and strike up a conversation about!

Joules*300035*says:

well that was easier said than done, but i did it!…..

“Well, it’s been about a week or so since we had exchanged emails and I haven’t heard back from you!? I was just kind of curious if I DID end up ‘coming on’ too strongly or if possibly something I had said in my original reply may have been read wrong; heck, maybe you’re just super-busy or just totally changed your mind! Regardless, (of course!) it’s totally ok with me. I would just greatly appreciate it if it was something I said in my reply then if you would be so kind as to let me know please as it may have been a total misunderstanding (which sometimes I tend to say the wrong thing or just simply type it out wrong!).

I just wanted to drop-in though and let you know I was still wondering about and would love to get to know you more! I hope all is well on your end and I hope to hear from you again soon!”

so for my future use….did that come out ok? it’s already sent but does anyone have any input on how i worded it all???
(and crap, i forgot the word ‘you’ in the last paragraph! ggrrrr!)
PLEASE!!?

JC Welcome to the blog. My advice would be to email her. Face to face could be a little awkward. I would let her know you are interested and who you are. Honesty is the best policy. Good luck to you.

Joules*300035*says:

so i’m getting ready to put into play some of my previous advice.

someone recently had brought up the ‘houdini’ SDs that do so after several emails and I had mentioned to give them some time after you know they read your message and politely send them a new email to see what’s up and politely ask why they stopped contacting you.

so, i’m getting ready to do just that! I knew there was a second pot SD in my mix somewhere that I was forgetting about for some reason lol

Joules*300035*says:

woot woot! I finally got off my booty and sent out a couple messages to a few pot SDs that were on my favorite list! Jeez I’ve been slacking on that! I was doing one a day but it’s been like 3 days since I sent one out!

I’m so happy that I FINALLY got a few pics up on Facebook! *shew!* it sure took long enough!

soooo….I wonder what will happen when i put that addy into the nifty little ‘Website’ box under my name and mail info??!!

Joules*300035*says:

CSB, UHHHGG! I’m still awake!!! hahaha but not for long hopefully!

Tamara, Ola! everyone on here is looking for something different but in the end it will be the same; A MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL ARRANGEMENT! Whatever you want you will have! Just always remain clear as to what you want and stick to it!!! Good luck and welcome to our super-happy Sugar world! hahaha

Tamara: that’s entirely up to you. Don’t allow yourself to be forced into an arrangement that is not for you. Plus, there are lots of men that want more than just sex.

Tamarasays:

I am also a newbie…. Im on here looking to possibly find a pot sd or sm to just spend time with shop, dinner , shows, outdoors stuff, just a great relationship/frienship… but I am not into just sex with any SD right now…. Is that possible?

ok, going to try and get these last 3 pics uploaded to facebook then come back and check in b4 going to sleep

Joules*300035*says:

uhhhg, facebook don’t like dial-up at all!

Joules*300035*says:

GND, i actually have all the free time i need to travel and ‘be available’ for my pot SDs so i’d rather not be stuck with a boring monotonous (sp??) schedule!

Jamisen, avg length of convo b4 meet? Everyone has their own answer for that. I would personally like to just meet ASAP to see if we are going to click or not rather than waste everyone’s time chatting and emailing but I DO like the fact that my pot SD and I have had the opportunity to email back and forth for over a week now as we have just totally clicked and I KNOW when we meet, it will just be like two people that are already friends meeting up!

Joules*300035*says:

g’nite, GND!

Jamisen, of COURSE it’s awkward asking for money initially, before the first meet or probably at any point. I’ve noticed a lot of women on here say they won’t talk about money as everything is laid out in their profile on their wants/needs, etc.

As for myself, here’s what I told my pot tonight: “So, the only way around all of this unfortunately (as much as I hate to say it) is to wire me the money for the rental and I’ll have to take care of all the details myself.”

In general, the money issue, and in my opinion, is brought up slowly and gently lol

I started out just mentioning to my pot that i had transportation issues then once i saw we were def. going to meet then i began making it more clear to him and asking for his input as if i borrowed my mother’s vehicle then it would put me on a ‘car curfew’ lol

he and i agreed that would be no bueano! so that’s how the car rental came about

Good night! Thanks for answering all my questions!

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Well I’m off to bed, have to wake up in the morning sometime before noon.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Lol, umm I think that’s a personal question you’ll have to ask yourself. It’s whatever you’re comfortable with. For me it’s a few weeks to a few months. I’m not one who likes to continue on with the long, drawn out emails without a meeting taking place in the near future. But to each it’s own.

Jamisensays:

I have another question!

What’s the avg length of conversation time before there’s a meetup?

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Good question Jamisen, it can get awkward for me at least because it can lead to feelings of expectation on the SD’s part sometimes. In my case the SD always brings it up since I’m not one to talk about money, especially when it comes to asking for it.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

By the way I want everyone’s opinion on this…well all the SBs opinions. Would you rather have a SD who is there on a regular basis (meaning you know you’ll see him this week at this time, etc.) or a rich boyfriend who buys you whatever you want and need, but is extremely busy all the time?

Jamisensays:

Does it ever get awkward to accept money before you’ve met a potential? How does that type of offer even come up?

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Yay Jamisen, we didn’t lose you Yeah the blog can be addictive…Especially when alot of people are on here.

Joules good luck on your date. I’m sure he’ll send the money, plus this will help you to see if he’s serious about starting an arrangement. I once had a potential SD send me money for a mini shopping spree before we met. It was great since it helped me to see if he was serious or not. Too bad the chemistry wasn’t there when we met.

Joules- from what I learned from tonight alone it seems like he’ll do it. Whether or not you’re okay with it is another question entirely…

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Haha Joules, I know the feeling. Over the summer I used to stay up all night and then wait to watch the sunrise before going to bed. My parents thought it was odd, but I loved it. Night time is the most peaceful time to be awake I think. Not many people up and about which gives me more time to think and clear my head. Plus I love waking up to the sun shining in the middle of the day or in the afternoon.

Jamisensays:

Aww you guys, I just signed up today, my profile’s not even approved, and I think I’m already addicted to this blog. I’m learning so much just from reading what you guys are posting.. it’s giving me a lot to look forward to!

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Hmm yeah I hate when a SD has to send money to me. Actually I hate asking for money period, it almost killed me to ask for cab fare back to my university. But hey I wasn’t going to walk back there (it’s a 30 minute cab ride from the airport) so I had to suck it up and ask for the money. Plus I got more than I asked for.

I am truely more of a ‘night-owl’. I typically sleep until way after noon-time but there ARE at least several days a week where I only get an hour or two of sleep.

grrrr danged Houdini’s!!!

Joules*300035*says:

I think I lost Nika somewhere along the way about a half-hour ago though!

I’m just finishing up my email to my pot SD in regards to my research on getting me some high-speed internet and a car rental for the weekend. I have nothing really concrete on the high-speed internet though to report to him except that I can only get Cable internet out here.

As for the car rental, the person paying for it is expected to be the person driving it, picking it up, etc. So I had to tell him the only way I could possibly see that working out is for him to wire me the money (grrrrrr). I hate that idea…i mean, for him I hate that idea. I’d rather he be in control of the finances and not have to just ‘hope’ I will do as I say with the money and asking someone to wire me money before we even meet?! uhhhhg!

who knows, the way he’s been talking to me he will probably do it though.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Lol hey Joules, do you ever sleep???

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Talked to Superman again today and I’m now trying to schedule a time for me to come back down to go see him. He seems to like doing things at the spur of the moment which isn’t so bad since I’m not working now, lol. But I would like to know when he’d like me back down there so I can get some new heels, flip flops, and bikini in the meantime. Also this one potential SD sent me an email asking for my number and promising $2k a week. Then after I politely asked for his picture and that we get to know each other better before I give him my number, he disappeared. Hmm go figure.

hey everyone sorry I disappeared, anyone still up?

Jamisensays:

no, it’ll work. i’m just computer illiterate!

Joules*300035*says:

other than that, i have no clue but i’m sure you could if you had a premium membership and the person’s information of some sort. You’d have to wait around for someone to pop up on here w/more experience using this site (which isn’t for several more hours lol)

~snicker snorts~

Joules*300035*says:

holy crap guys! i can get a chevy malibu rented for the entire weekend for like $50!!!!

Joules*300035*says:

Jamisen, same here as for considering this for a long time. I had put a profile up online on another site probably longer than 5 years ago. It was B.S. though because it is a free site; you just can’t read or send emails w/o paying lol I get a reminder from them on occassion that I have unread messages and that’s what made me think to try again and only this time make sure to read all the fine print and make sure it was a free site lol

i’ll def. upgrade my account here though one day. just gotta get to that point financially where I can afford it!

GND, I’m always writing friggin books when it comes to my online profiles and even emails to pot SDs

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

yes it was helpful, I am always at a loss of words when people say to describe myself. I’m not good with vague questions because I answer them with vague answers. Now if it were more specific I’d have written a book lol, but thank you.

Jamisensays:

Honestly, I had been considering this for a loooong time but didn’t know how to go about it in a safe way. I hadn’t even seen all the news stories covering it bc of the horrible economy. I googled it tonight and the blog came up and it let me to the SA.com site!

it just seems easier for me to move paragraphs around and make my words flow smoothly

yes i’m wierd!

Joules*300035*says:

so jamisen, what got you into the idea of trying out our beautiful sugar world?

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Night CSB

Hey Joules just checked out your profile and it gave me an idea. I think I should put what my expected monthly allowance would be going to in “what do you want in a sugar daddy” (or whatever it’s called, lol)

Wow. I just re-read my last post and boy does that first sentence make little sense. That’s definitely my queue to exit stage left. Tired now. Been fun ladies and gents. Goodnight.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Ahh found some juice to sip on, not as good as my apple juice but it will do for now. I have to be better by next week since one of my potentials is trying to set up a second date for us. We didn’t talk about money or anything the first time, so I’m hoping to bring that up this time around.

Joules*300035*says:

Jamisen, sorry, misspelled your name a min ago, and probably will again in the future! lol

Here’s what my pot SD said… “Also, let me know what it would take to get you from dial-up to a DSL line. If that is possible where you live, maybe we can figure something out for a little while to get you started”

sounds like a done-deal to me! lol

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Yeah I’m with Joules and CSB, alot of the SDs I talk to are more than happy to help out a university student. I myself am one, and as I tell all my potential SDs that is what got me interested in finding a SD in the first place: to help pay for my college tuition.

Jamisensays:

Thanks so much Joules and CSB! This’ll probably be the third time I’ve said this.. but thank goodness for the blog and y’all!

Joules*300035*says:

Jamison, I’ve already gone to college once and getting geared up for a second time around. My pot SD has made it clear that he wants to make sure to help me achieve my degree and help me get a job in my career (physical therapy) once I’m finished with school.

i’ve also seen several profiles in my local area where the SD actually says he’s looking for a woman that’s in college and needs help with tuition, etc

you know what sucks you all? trying to search/do research online to find high-speed internet providers when you’re using dial-up!! hahaha

Jamisensays:

I literally joined tonight so my profile’s not approved yet. But I’ve been reading your comments and it’s giving me a lot of insight on how to beef up my profile so hopefully when I start interacting I won’t do the wrong thing.

I was wondering if there were many university students on here. I am one and want to know how receptive SDs are to students.

Hahaha GND. Gotta love family. I’m on my way home now from visiting mine. Love going there but always hurry to leave as I tend to overeat. Back to my five small meals tomorrow.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Welcome all the new SDs and SBs to the blog, there are so many of you that I’m starting to lose count, lol. Right now I’m quite sad since I’ve run out of apple juice to sip on and my dad has somehow managed to get me sick in the 4 days that I’ve been home.

Jamisen ask away, that’s what the blog is here for And yes Joules I agree, it’s a great change of scenery. Wonder if there are any SDs lurking out there who like like him???

Creepersays:

JC –

Definitely contact her, but do it online to avoid any rosy cheeks and give her time to reply – make sure to say who you are as it would be more embarrassing to her if she only found out after a few emails.

She’ll be surprised but hopefully happy to start an arrangement with someone familiar.

it’s such an amazing change of ‘scenery’ from that danged Tyra! hahaha

Jamisensays:

Lisa- I am NOT a spammer. I’m real and just overwhelmed by all of this since I’m new and all…

Joules*300035*says:

JC, Ola! Welcome to our grrrrreat! world of sugar!

i would email her and (gently) make it clear you think you know her and definately make it clear that you CAN AND ARE capable of helping out! I might personally throw something in there like ‘since we run in the same circles and we know one another already, if you are not interested then that is totally ok with me. you don’t have to respond if you are not interested (however I would appreciate knowing for sure either way). i will take it to no offense if you are not interested and if we see one another in the future then there will never be any mention of this or hurt feelings’

you get the idea hopefully

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

JC I agree with Angela, I would send an email first and she replies favourably to it, agree to meet in person and discuss having an arrangement together. SuzieQ I mistakenly hit send the first time so I finished my sentence in the second post, sorry.

Angelasays:

JC- I would drop her a line and tell her from the get go. I don’t think she would be embarrassed as you are “on this site” also so she knows you will not judge her. As an added plus, I’m assuming you are semi-near each other (to be in same circles) so it would be easy for Yall to meet and no one but you two would have to know how that came about…..
I have had a similar situation (someone I knew saw (naked) pictures of me on internet)
1. I am exhibitionist so I didn’t care, that is why I put the photos up (knowing millions could see)
2. He was the one looking at internet porn so he couldn’t look down at me for being the porn….LOL

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

JC,

Personally I would go through email, talk to each other a bit. if she recognizes you let her bring it up, and then go from there. Sometimes there are times when you will find someone you know on this site. It does happen it’s a small world and the internet is making it smaller by the minute.

his what GND, his what????!!!! Don’t leave us hanging! LOL!!!

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

haha I wrote the same thing twice, oops

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Ok first before I answer these questions…the guy in the blog’s topic picture is pretty hot. Now on to the questions…

What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?
Be yourself and be honest. If you have certain things you will not compromise on state it in your profile, it will help get rid of the time wasters and help you get closer to getting the SD or SB of your dreams.

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?
I’m not into playing games which is why I decided to try sugar dating. I can be completely upfront with a potential SD as he’s upfront with me. Games are for children and we are all adults here.

How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?
Oh I love this question. One of my current potential SDs got me excited by pretty much sweeping me off my feet. That’s what gets me excited and makes me want to have an arrangement with someone, the feeling of knowing I will be spoiled coupled with a few romantic and exciting surprises thrown in.

gurlnextdoor*274735*says:

Ok first before I answer these questions…the guy in the blog’s topic picture is pretty hot. Now on to the questions…

What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?
Be yourself and be honest. If you have certain things you will not compromise on state it in your profile, it will help get rid of the time wasters and help you get closer to getting the SD or SB of your dreams.

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?
I’m not into playing games which is why I decided to try sugar dating. I can be completely upfront with a potential SD as he’s upfront with me. Games are for children and we are all adults here.

How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?
Oh I love this question. One of my current potential SDs got me excited by telling me of h

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Welcome JC – I tend to agree with CSB on this one. I don’t think it’s a total disaster of an idea…after all you’re in the same city, and sounds like you know something of each other already if you’re in the same social circle. It could work out really well if you approach it right.

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

I think it’s best to do it online. That way, you can ease her into it. Maybe say you familiar. Tell her how you can help and be very specific. She’d appreciate that. Also, if she doesn’t respond, then you save yourself and potentially her from an embarassing situation than if it was done in person.

JCsays:

Hey I have a question for everyone. I’m a potential SD. Mostly just checking out the site/blog and deciding if I want to move forward.

Anyway, while browsing the site I saw a picture of a woman that I recognize and would be very interested in starting an arrangement with. We are both in the same social circle but not exactly friends.

Her face was blurred in the profile picture, but I know it’s her. I think she would be mortified if she knew people found out she was on this site. I also know she is going through a tough time lately and I could fix that.

So is this a total disaster of an idea to pursue?

If I do go for it to I send an email or approach her in person? Do I tell her right away that I know who she is and who I am or should I ease into it?

just ONE little itty bitty suggestion?? Don’t come close to comparing a SB to a prostitute, or even honestly try and breath a comparison in the same breath around here. It doesn’t bode well at times…

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

Fair enough Joules. Still a university student so when you’re asking for too much commitment, I pass. I don’t mind being exclusive but I want everything else to develop on its own. I’m sooo excited for you though. Sounds like you found a real gentleman.

JEEEEZ!!!! now i’m mad at myself for quickly typing that last part of my reply to my pot SD!!!

it’s short-hand typing, has a bunch of ‘LOL’ in it and just is totally not how i write my emails…it’s how i chat online with people

uhhhg

Joules*300035*says:

hey summer, i’m not trying to be mean, and this is my opinion, but you were talking about escorts in one sentence and prostitutes in the next. they to me are two different ‘types’ of ‘sex workers’ as you call them and DO NOT like to be confused with one another lol

other than that, loved your response!!!

CSB, makes total sense but my current pot has made it clear that a LTR is what he’s looking for…it’s not like it’s going to develope into that, it just has the SD/SB arrangement in it (if that even made sense)

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

Summer: Now that’s a lady that knows what she wants. I’m very selective of the men I go on a first date with. However, I haven’t gotten around to an effective way to discuss financial needs on the phone.I guess I’m weird but I’m comfortable doing so in person. Not that I won’t take ideas:)

sweet, i figured out how to finally finish that email to my pot….i just finished the sentence I was working on, changed the subject, asked about his day and sent it lol

i think i’m over-thinking everything (getting the jitters maybe?!)

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

Joules, I have no problem in it developing into an LTR. However, I don’t want that option taken from me in the beginning. If we’re both happy and both our desires are met, I would have no problem with it progressing to that. Btw, thanks ladies for keeping me company on this boring long a** bus ride. When my fingers get tired of typing on this Blackberry, I’ll be going to sleep.

Summer 98206says:

Great question, Susie Q, and very well-stated, I might add!

This is indeed tricky – how to let guys reading your profile know you’re too busy for games without coming across as too spoiled or negative?

One thing that worked for me is that I put a clear dollar amount in there about the range of financial assistance I am expecting.

Then below that, I wrote something like: “If you are not prepared to provide regular monthly financial assistance in the range listed above, please do not contact me.”

That tends to get the message across succinctly!

As for handling the issue in email communiations with a potential SD, one way to weed out the bozos and pretenders is what ChocolateSnowBunny does: always start the conversation by asking about what their past experiences as a SD have been like. That will tell you quite a bit.

I tend to be wary of the guys who say they’re new to SB/SD dating – not that I wouldn’t consider a newbie for an arrangement (we’re all new to this at some point, right?), but I do screen them much more carefully via email and phone to gauge their level of seriousness and financial ability before agreeing to a first date.

O – and one more thing – from experience – watch out for those fellas who don’t want to give up any of their pics or personal info. ESPECIALLY if they start talking about sex too soon. Most of them are “jilted johns” who can’t get an escort and have turned to SB dating looking for vulnerable ladies.

What is a “jilted john,” you might ask? It is a guy who wore out his welcome with escorts because he did something bad – abuse, STD, stalking, etc… – and now he can’t get a date with a sex worker.

I have girlfriends who are sex workers and let me tell you – most quality escorts will not meet a gentleman until she knows his personal info. So if he turns out to be a whacko, she warns other escorts to avoid him. They have backchannels where info on bad clients is circulated.

So, if a prostitute won’t even see a man without knowing his personal info, why should YOU?

Safety first!!! Always!!!! Never compromise on that!!!

Joules*300035*says:

Here’s the perfect explanation, too. this is part of what I wrote to him so far….

“Sometimes I feel to overwhelmed (in an awesome way!) when I read your emails. I just honestly can’t fathom getting this ‘close’ to someone and that person wanting to see me succeed so much and being able to help me as you and I keep talking about. I feel VERY blessed! I guess the best part, honestly, is how I feel you and I have just clicked and right off the bat, too! “

Joules*300035*says:

normally i can reply to my pot’s emails in a few minutes but today, i’ve just been staring at it and replying; sentence-by-sentence. it’s taken me hours to do this and i’m not done! i keep having to go back and re-read his email to me, re-read mine, type out a sentence or two then start over lol

Joules*300035*says:

lol Suzie…it’s already hurting!

the closer sunday gets, the more financially in depth our emails get! I liked it better when we were talking about or businesses, music and photography and the like. getting down to all the details of your first ever meet is scary and just, well, all detailed lol

CSB; NSA was exactly what i was looking for, but this pot SD that i’m meeting sunday is looking for LTR. I’m going to give it a chance and see where things go though *shrug* why not? especially considering how well we pretty much immediately clicked!

Also, I guess that’s another reason I should be confident about my pot is because he made it clear he had been in a previous SD/SB relationship hense he knows what he’s doing and how to do it.

Now that’s what I am talking about Angela. The “actions” of a gentleman and a potential SD. Happy4you. It’s nice to have an example of a great first SD date!

Joules*300035*says:

Angela, Ola! and congrats!!! I’m hoping my first meet on Sunday will go just as well as yours! I’m sure he’ll call. Why would he have come back the next day to fix your car if he wasn’t DEFINATELY interested!!

my profile only talks about me as a person and then goes into the ‘type’ of SD i’m looking for and my wishes in regards to allowance.

and suzie, your question has really made me get into deep thought! it’s a very good question though

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

Personally, I always ask if they’ve had an SB. I also ask what they’re looking for with this kind of “arrangement.” If I start getting responses about great sex or relationship mumbo jumbo, then I know he’s probably looking for a part-time escort or a real girlfriend. Not that this shouldn’t be a relationship, but I need to know that the SD knows I’m not looking for a full time man. I can find that without the use of this site. What I seek is a real SD.

Angelasays:

Hey Yall!
Sorry for disappearing for a few…I have been busy with work and this Sat I met my FIRST EVER Pot SD.
It went fabulously! We met at a coffee shop for chat before we went to dinner. As soon as he drove up in a Mercedes I knew it was a good start. He was very gentlemanly, opening doors, lighting my cigarettes. We went to a very nice restaurant where we had great conversation about life and spirituality. He is an Aquarius too so we understand each other easily (Aquarians aren’t the easiest to figure out). Then we went to a live music show where we kinda snuggled while listening to blues! When I asked him if he wanted someone to date while he’s in town or a travel mate (he travels 10 months out of the year) he asked if I had a passport and suggested I get one. He kept complimenting me during the night. When it came time to go home he took me back to my car. Well, the night before I had had trouble with my taillights not coming on. I just wiggled the switch to get them on but that didn’t work on SAT night. Since it was not safe to drive home, he got me a hotel room for the night in a very nice hotel. He kissed me goodnight and went home.
The next morning, he brought his nephew with him to get me and we went to my car. His nephew fixed it (It was just a loose switch) and I went home. I am sooooo excited. It seems (fingers crossed) that I met a “good one” on the first try!
I was trying not to “count up ” how much he was spending but couldn’t help but know some of the things (the hotel slipped the receipt under the door)
I love that he was all concerned about my safety and got me a room. It shows me his motives are not just about what he can get out of me.
Now, I just start the waiting game. I hope he calls again. I think he will, as he was very into me and I into him.
My first ever meeting has me positive and pumped for this new adventure!

I’ll think more on it though, just multi-tasking isn’t working well for me right now

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

I think mine does Suzie…but that’s just my opinion.

SuzieQ*297329*says:

So here’s a good question ladiess…what’s the best way to let a pot sd know from the get go that you’re not into being strung along if he’s not for real, without sounding jaded or listing a bunch of “must not’s” and “don’t want’s”.

I for one am a very positive person and I very much dislike any sort of whining or complaining, especially from myself. I think it’s a good idea to try to weed out the pretenders by being clear in the profile and/or initial email that we’re not into games and such, but I’ve read many profiles (from both sb’s and sd’s) that just sound so negative in this regard.

Has anyone read any good emails or profiles that handle this issue assertively without sounding overly negative?

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

~BOL~

Yeah that is kinda funny Joules…and yeah I know it was to the chill out part~BOL~ forgot to hit the enter key DOH!

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

I couldn’t agree more. That’s why I don’t talking about a pot SD promises until it happens. Part of me doesn’t want to jinx it. The other part knows that action speaks louder than words. Here’s to hoping that I’ll have wonderful stories to share after the weekend.

The word is “ACTION” Ladies! Its easy to get caught up in the excitement of a prospective SD. Watch and wait. Words get you NOWHERE.

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

That’s a reference to me isn’t it Joules?~LOL~ I don’t feel that my pot is BS’ing me just nervous as the time starts to get closer and closer to the big day. Funny part is I have just under two weeks til my big day!!!

Summer 98206says:

Hey Joules – you’re right to not hold your breath on any potential SD until he puts his money where his mouth is!

I’ve been dating sugar daddies for about 10 years now (long before there were way cool sites like these to find each other) and can tell you that a lot of these guys are just plain BOZOS who will make up the most outlandish stories…the kind that makes you question their sanity.

I mean, sane, successful people have better things to do than spend time writing overly-affectionate emails to strangers and promising the moon before they’ve even met you. I tend to see that as a red flag myself.

Not to say that there aren’t some real SD’s out there who will prove themselves before a first date (which is very impressive and desired!), but for the most part, you should remain friendly-but-skeptical until he has shown you that he is bonafide and serious.

And Lisa….I totally agree with you that the guys who won’t provide you a photo of himself, links to his website/business bio, and phone # are definitely suspicious and you should *not* agree to meet until your safety requirements are satisfied.

After all, YOUR SAFETY is a lot more important than his privacy!

lisasays:

Good night everyone. I’m going to go climb into bed and watch some tv. I am going to sleep late tomorrow.

Joules*300035*says:

Lisa, everything he’s offering so far is pretty much just ‘basics’. at first it was dinner and shopping, then i decided as for shopping i’d rather have a cellphone than clothes so i told him, then he told me he’d already planned on that. now he’s added to the list getting me a rental car so we don’t have to ‘watch the clock’ like we would if i were to borrow my mother’s vehicle. the DSL offer was a total shock to me (even though all along I had been hinting around to it lol). He point blank said, find out what it’ll take and i’ll get it for you for a while….he just knows that i desperately need it for my business. but again, it’s still just kinda wierd (in a great way) that there ARE men out there (well, SDs lol) that CAN and WANT to do these things for us!

mmmmm the concept of a MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL arrangement is just so grand!!

OCSugarsays:

Profile Advice? Put your best foot forward, keep it positive, not to essay-ish, let them know insight as to how others perceive you. State what you are looking for in a arrangement. Most importantly… Spell Check!

Games? Keep them for the bedroom!

Excitement? It builds from each and every day you know and begin to care about your SD. The thrill is learning about them in a nice slow and steady pace.

lisasays:

Just be cautious Joules and don’t let him pressure you into anything and don’t be alone with him. Men will tell you anything to get what they want. I personally have had some good offers (well way back when I first joined) but they sounded too good to be true, especially being that they hadn’t even met me, so I declined, or they disappeared after a few emails. I look at like why would some guy who hasn’t even seen me want to give me 10k in allowance? He is just trying to lure me and probably says the same thing to others he’s writing. I am more comfortable with a sd that offers dinner and shopping or a gift on the first date rather than telling me he’s going to do this and that. If my ex boyfriend would have done everything that he said he wanted to do when we first met, well i’d be living in a very nice house now with him. After we started dating, he dropped that and dumped me right before he closed on his new house. Just words

Suzie, my pot SD provided me with his full name and ways to check into his ‘credentials’ in his very first email to me!

Jeez, I’m feeling more and more lucky as you ladies talk about all this today!!

Joules*300035*says:

I figure that based on this new topic that’s for newbies….

It really did just kind of dawn on me just now that I’m starting to have doubts with my pot SD. (Just so the newbies know, this will be my FIRST actual meeting)

His letters keep getting better and better and he keeps offering me more and more and MORE AND MORE!!! It’s now to the point where I’m starting to wonder if he’s B.S-ing me or not!!!

I was already told to chill out, wait and see because IT WILL BE real. but still, I figured it would be something to bring about to the newbies attention as well for this blog.

The only thing making me calm down on this thought of mine is that I AM meeting a pot SD aka sugar daddy aka has money aka wants to spoil me aka CAN financially spoil me….so why would all of his offers be B.S.?

I guess it’s just a hesitation of mine from past regular dating that lingers in my brain. I just have to remember that SD/SB arrangements are totally diff. than reg. dating

lisasays:

Well said SuzieQ as I know i’m more relaxed when I feel safe and not pressured. I once met a guy on another site and talked to him for several months and meeting him for the first time was like meeting a friend.
I chatted with one sd on this site a long while back. We had been in contact for about 6 weeks, I knew he was a real person by our converstations, normal guy, divorced, children, hobbies,etc. When he was finally able to come into town I was competely comfortable with him. Chose the meeting place, we had lunch, he let me shop, and was pleasant the whole time. Dropped me home and we made plans for the evening but he cancelled. I guess he wasn’t into me or he was intimidated as he was the shyest guy i’ve ever met. Sweet but shy. A gentleman all along though as I guess he made his decision when he met me that he wasn’t interested but he kept his word and we had a very nice date. And since he decided not to carry it furthur, I don’t feel guilty about the shopping because I was interested in seeing him more.
But give me a shady character, no info, no picture, not even clothing description for first meeting , and I’m a nervous wreck.

Yes lisa, I agree! I’ve been talking to just such a pot sd actually! He walked the fine line between business and romance very well and impressed the heck out of me.

SuzieQ*297329*says:

Here’s my biggest rule: if he hesitates at all about providing more details (like photos if he ask for yours, full name, phone number, work info, etc) run. If he doesn’t first, that is!

I’ve had 3 or 4 guys sound promising and say they want to meet, but as soon as I’ve told them that I’d be happy to do that just as soon as I satisfy my safety requirements (ie check out his legitimacy), poof, they’re gone!

In my view, any man who expects brains along with his beauty -as most say they do – has to expect to be scrutinized a bit before his potential sb feels comfortable moving forward. After all, if we don’t feel safe how can we be expected to relax and have a good time?

lisasays:

women can get sex without joining a dating site, no effort needed at all. I want more

lisasays:

I haven’t heard of Garret. Actually I moved from Salem when I was 4. Lived in Chicago and suburbs and onto to Texas when I was 10. I don’t care much for Texas.

I dont’ think I answered the original question.
The way that a sd could impress me would be to bring up the whole arrangement without being nudged. Contacted me, letting me know what he has to offer, what he expects, and then ask me my wants and expectations. A self directed man whom I don’t have to play email charades with to help him understand this is not a dating site or a sex site.

Have you ever heard of Garret, IN? My older sis just moved out there from Fort Wayne and she talks about Garret like you talk about Salem hahaha

also, that was actually a good comment, Lisa; that if a pot mentions sex quickly then the SB should just as quickly mention her allowance!

lisasays:

Yes Salem, Indiana it’s actually the county seat, big place of 5000! Nice place though, peaceful, safe, low crime, people spend their time in their basements making that stuff out of cold medicine kind of town,lol
My relatives are all gone though as my mom was the baby of the family and now she’s 69 so we have no one left there.

I had mentioned before that a sd had contacted me that wrote me about a month ago. He sent me a message and in it he mentioned his endowment, you know, so I mentioned allowance and gifts, well he hasn’t wrote make. That’s a rule too ladies, he he mentions sex immediately, you mention allowance immediately, So many guys are quick to discuss sex but shy away from the spoiling part. lol

ooohhh you have one of those home towns that if the wind is right you could probably spit from one side of town to the other eh?(yeah I know the southerner is coming out with this description)

lisasays:

Good evenine Nika

lisasays:

I got it Joules. Not much going on in my hometown last time I was there. My mom still gets the newspaper which comes out once a week. She brings it over for me to read so I can find out who went to eat with who and who is planting a garden, etc. or who visited who, it’s that kind of town and believe me if you had a sugardaddy there, the neighbors would be watching, lol

I was just being a cute smartsy and correcting you! A pot SD is going to see a pot SBs pictures before actual profile info.

but now that i re-read your comment, i understand what you were saying so it kinda killed my cute comment *grin*

Summer 98206says:

I would advise the new SB’s to be careful about posting photographs of themselves which are too identifiable (that is, if they do not wish to be identified as having a SB lifestyle outside of the sugar family!)…

Remember, anything you post on the internet is there forever, and visible to your family, friends, employer, exes, stalkers, etc… So keep that in mind before you post! (ya never know if the guy on the other end of an email is your boss or a former rejected lover who created a phony profile just to “shadow” you online.)

Of course, profiles with photos get more attention, but it is recommended that you blur or crop your face from public profile photos. Once you have established contact with a potential SD who you feel comfortable with, you can always exchange uncensored pics privately between yourselves.

A real SD will understand your need for privacy and will not pressure you for more pics until you are ready to send them. Let’s face it, some of these guys are just picture collectors, but others less scrupulous will steal your photos and post them elsewhere all over the internet!

LOL CSB!!! It sure was *grin* but only a playful blow

Alicia! Ola!

Aliciasays:

I love this topic since I am new, it’ll be a good read!

ChocolateSnowBunnysays:

What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?

Honestly, I don’t know that I can give the best advice for this because I find this section hard to complete. I don’t like writing a long description and it’s difficult to sum up myself in a few lines. I guess just be straightforward.

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?

Hahaha Joules…was that a shot at me? LOL. It did work actually as we had a great convo today about my needs and wants. I won’t say much until it comes into fruition at the end of the week. Honestly, I don’t see it as paying games as much as making the right move in a chess match. That’s fair game when you’re trying to come to a good arrangement. I won’t, however, play games with someone’s feelings.

How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?

Long and thoughtful emails. Asking about my needs before I do. Fulfilling promises. I’m easy to please

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

My profiles Pictures?~LOL~

Was actually told by my pot SD that he liked the two pictures. The one with the dark shirt has it where I’m all nice and neat and put together. Like a hint to something, then the bodacious shot between and the shirt in the cream colored shirt gives him the “FF” as he put it look with my hair kind of wild and that little half smirk on my lips as if to ask I may or may not have done something. Do you have the nerve to ask?

Joules*300035*says:

I have to call B.S. on that first part Nika, your profile’s PICTURES will be the first impression! lol

Nika/WildCat/302039says:

First off YIPPEE Tyra’s gone!!!~LOL~

now for the rest.~LOL~

1)What advice to you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say on their profiles?

Be honest and be yourself. The person behind the screen will come out in your words. Your profile is the first impression that the daddy/baby will get of you. So simply have fun and be yourself. Don’t put yourself out there as something you aren’t most importantly. Also don’t put up fake photos on the profile if things get to the point of a meet, then your pot sd/sb will see what you really look like!

2)The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?

The games don’t always work with sugar daddy dating, because this is supposed to be a nsa style relationships although those strings to occur at times. But between the regular dating scene and that of sugar daddy dating, the sugar daddy dating is more honest and straight forward in comparison.

3)How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?

Now that all depends. But honestly when we talk and find out just how much we have in common and the planning of our first meeting and who knows from there?But the excitement of that first meeting and any pot meetings afterwards, doing something that would surprise me. Whether sending a surprise gift, or showing up at my home when I wasn’t expecting to see them. Just sending a note stating that they were thinking of me during the day, and how they might have missed talking to me. It’s more about the little things and the SD taking notice of those things that gets to me the most.

Joules*300035*says:

What advice do you have for the new sugar daddies and sugar babies wondering what to say in their profiles?

JUST BE YOURSELF! Also, be blunt, keep it happy, don’t whine

The concept of dating being like a game is widely accepted in our society, but does playing the game work with sugar daddy dating? Why or why not?

I’ve heard several SD/SBs on here talk about waiting to open an email and making the other squirm. So I guess it works?! However, I was never one to play games with ANY type of relationship (sugar or not). So my answer is NO it does NOT work with sugar dating. Why? Because it’s rude, thoughtless, childish and frankly, stupid! Why not just be blunt and say what is on your mind, what exactly you are looking for in your arrangement so there are no misunderstandings and no feelings ‘hurt’ in the end!

How can a potential SD or SB get you excited?

By doing what my current pot SD has done! (I’m sooooo excited! I get a rental car for Sunday, cellphone with service, shopping, dining, a night on the town, ZERO expectations (except of a good time) AND DSL service! And that’s all been ‘promised’ before we’ve even met!)

Anyways, it excites me when a pot SD goes out of his way (if even only via email) to make it clear to me that he is serious! My pot and I have been emailing every day, sometimes a couple emails a day. We talk constantly that way and we are just totally on the same track with everything in regards to our (potential) arrangement. He is constantly reminding me that he knows how to handle a SD/SB arrangement (as he has done so before) and that he wants to prove to me that he is serious.

So I guess in short, a pot. SD can get me excited by proving he is serious about the potential arrangement!

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