Do you feel a desire to hold him and tell him everything is going to be okay?

Are you showing up for your husband with compassion, caring and kindness?

Are you allowing yourself to be pleased with him?

I feel that men get overlooked so easily when it comes to relationships. Men have deep emotional needs just like us women do. They may shut down easier or push their desires aside but they long for love, approval and acceptance. Men actually long for this emotional connection with their wife. She has the power to make him feel as thou he is on the top of the world, arriving full of confidence, power and passion. She too has the power to make him feel as small and worthless as a tiny grain of sand. Men want to feel needed, wanted, cared for and approved of. Men long for unconditional love, a great sexual connection and a satisfied wife. This is what he is built for. His natural instinct is to please.

I know that this may not feel like the case. It may feel more like he is constantly withdrawing and retreating. It may feel like he is shutting us out and living in his own reality. It may feel like he is there but not there.

To him, this is the way he copes with the feeling of disappointing his queen.

So lets start rebuilding the relationship between husband and wife.

Here are a few things that I have found that allows my man to feel loved and approved of. Some are super easy and some are creating a more vulnerable experience.

Serve your husband breakfast, lunch and dinner. I know that this may seem old school but this is a tradition that still takes place in our household and it is amazing how this small gesture creates feelings of love, appreciation and connectedness. I love taking care of my man. The feminine is soft, sweet, sensual and kind. Show him you love and care for him with this small, easy gesture.

Ask him how his day was and no matter what the answer just listen and acknowledge. Be there for him. Love him and try to understand him. After he shares then ask him if you can get anything for him? This small gesture of kindness will allow him to feel your caring nature.

Ask him questions about the things that excite him. Listen and share your thoughts and feelings with kindness and compassion. My husband loves college football, golf and he enjoys being educated when it comes to politics. So I will ask him about these things, even thou they are not my favorite things , I know they are his and he is one of my favorite things:)

Touch him and caress him. Most men love the feel of touch. They long for the feminine energy we have to offer. Sit by your man and softly brush his arm with your fingertips , or squeeze his shoulders with some good pressure, or run your fingers through his hair. Show him that you long for him to be pleased physically.

Show him that you want to please him sexually. Men have a deep desire for an intimate connections. Ask him what he would like in the bedroom? You will be amazed at how simple his request will be. If you don't want to ask then slowly rub him, undress him, seduce him. Men enjoy sex. Women enjoy sex. You are a woman and he is a man so go and enjoy sex together.

Men are truly amazing beings. They long to please us. They want to please us. Their deepest desire is to have a woman by their side that is a proud queen to the most amazing king.

Take time and show up for your man. I promise you will both be pleased with the results

​I have heard and witnessed some videos on YouTube showing people experiencing an energy orgasm. During this experience the woman is not physically touched. Her partner is just taking his hands and gently moving the energy around her body. This takes place for 5-15 minutes and these woman are having an orgasm. WOW!!!

​I believe that we are beings that can feel great pleasure if we allow ourselves to.

​Soft, Slow and Sensual!

​We get to decide how to expand our own sexual energy. For the longest time I HATED a soft , gentle touch. I wanted to feel pressure when my husband was caressing me. I didn't want his fingertips to softly glide up and down my body. I want his fingertips to dig in a bit. I wanted to feel his hunger for me not his softness.

​I was lying to myself

​I craved his soft, slow, sensual touch.

​I craved the deep connection that gets created with soft, slow, gentle movements.

​I craved slowing down and being fully present in my body. I craved feeling his wants, needs and desires while allowing him to penetrate me on an emotional level.

​Sex is energy. If we do not allow ourselves to open up and feel the sensations we are experiencing during our intimate moments as well as the not so intimate moments we will cut ourselves off from the deepest of sexual pleasures.

​I am practicing being fully present with the sensations in my body. If these sensations are full of love and light, I allow myself to feel them. If these sensations are full of hate and darkness, I allow myself to feel them. If these sensations are full of happiness and peace, I allow myself to feel them. If these sensations are full of sadness and despair, I allow myself to feel them.

​We must dedicate ourselves to feeling all the sensations inside of our bodies. When we do this we can start feeling on a deeper level. When we tap into this deeper level, energy orgasms are something that we can all experience. ​​My husband has softly caressed my leg and up my inner thigh and I feel this sensation of orgasm. It is not this intense orgasmic feeling but this soft, expanding orgasmic feeling in my body.

​We all deserve to expand our sexual energy. We must feel all the sensations inside our bodies and become keenly aware of our sexual sense. Maybe this is our 6th sense?

Here's a thought I was having today...Does my husband love my pussy more than I do? And if so then maybe that is why I feel angry with him at times. I want to love my pussy. I want to love her in all her beauty and all her glory. She is truly a goddess. I believe the relationship I have with my pussy directly affects my relationship in life.

She is a powerhouse of love and pleasure. She both gives and receives. She can transform any energy into something absolutely amazing and she can be soft and gentle or she can be fierce and fabulous. My pussy has immense power and yet I have shunned her most of my life.

WHY??? Why have I been shunning her?

In a society that is over sexualized and under sexually satisfied I created some deep beliefs about my pussy.

She should remain hidden and unexplored. She is not to be let out and never fully explored. She should show up for work but she should never go out of her way to exceed expectations. She should remain quiet and calm. She should be seen but not felt. She should be a good little pussy who minds her business and stays out of trouble.

My husband feels the exact opposite when it comes to my pussy. He absolutely loves and adores her. He puts her on a pedestal. He loves to touch her. He loves to taste her. He loves to be close to her. He longs for her. He dreams about her. He longs to discover her wants and desires. He wants her to come out and play whenever she can. He is extremely excited when he gets to see my pussy. Its like his little treasure chest and he truly values it in a deep way.

This could be creating a disconnect when it comes to my marriage.

We have all heard the statement " If you can't beat him, join him.

So I am on a mission to fully love my pussy. She is truly a gem and I am so excited that I get to create an amazing relationship with her.

My pussy longs to feel loved and accepted by me. She longs to be seen and valued for all that she is. She wants a deep connection with me. She wants to serve me and give me all the pleasure I desire in life. She deserves only the best. She deserve for me to open my heart, mind and soul and to fully show up in life.

My pussy is not pandoras box. She screams out to me that she wants to be open. She wants to receive. She wants to give. She wants to exceed expectations. She wants to be seen and felt. She wants to be a pussy that is fully enjoyed and appreciated for all that she is.

I no longer choose to shun my pussy. I choose to love her. I choose to value her. I choose to cherish her. I choose to honor her. I choose to embrace her. I choose to trust her. I choose to allow her all the pleasure she deserves.

Author

My name is Cameo .I have been married for 16 years and with my husband for 17.5 years. I know that the sexual connection in a marriage can create strength and happiness and I also know the lack of a sexual connection can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied. Lets get real open and become sexually satisfied in our marriages!