How Keith Urban Knows He’s Married

Nic comes first. That just about sums up Keith Urban’s take on why his marriage to Nicole Kidman is just fine, People reports.

“Someone said one time, ‘If your marriage isn’t your priority, you’re not married,’ and I thought, for me, that’s so true. So as long as I keep her as a priority, everything else sort of seems to work,” Urban said at a recent Country Radio Seminar panel in Nashville.

“And when I don’t keep it as a priority, it’s … Jenga,” he added, referring to the fragile building game where one wrong move can undo all of your hard work and take your 54-block tower to the ground. Metaphorically speaking, obviously.

He credits his wife — and his team — with helping him keep his priorities in line while he’s juggling his duties as an American Idol judge and his career as a country music singer-songwriter. (During CRS week, Urban even debuted a very cool and very country new song titled “John Cougar, John Deere, John 3:16.”)

“I have a lot of people who help me … starting with my wife, who is extraordinary at keeping everything sort of scheduled and balanced,” Urban said.

He is also well aware this chaos that is his life right now won’t always be this way. And that one day, he might be sitting in the back row.

“It’s all fleeting — those moments where people like us get to sit on the front row,” he said. “You don’t sit on the front row your whole career. You start back there. You ease your way to the front, and before you know it, you’re working your way back again. That’s the way it goes. So I don’t want to miss it while I’m on the front row because it doesn’t last that long.”