6 Signs Your Girlfriend Has Emotional Baggage

You can be sure that almost any woman you've met in your life has had her share of hurt from relationships before meeting you, unresolved issues from the past and are possibly even still reeling from the negative effects of past problems.

You wouldn't be far-fetched for thinking this can even include things like sexual and physical abuse. So now that you've met the woman of your dreams but can't seem to shake the doubt that there's more to her than meets the eye, here's your first step to dealing with her possible emotional baggage--identifying if she has any at all.

Here are a few signs that your girlfriend is (probably) dealing with some emotional baggage.

She Has Compulsive Habits

This may seem a bit odd in your mind as many people have strange habits but if your woman does in fact indulge in compulsive smoking, eating, drinking or even obsessive cleanliness chances are she's got some sort of unchecked emotion that she's compensating for through such behavior. It's unfair to assume that only due to such formulaic behaviour she has emotional baggage but when combined with other red flags, it's often a pretty good sign.

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She Is Emotionally Closed Off Or Unstable

Such women behave either one of two ways. The first variety are the kind who are so bottled up about their emotion she makes even you, a man, look like an emotional fool. Heartfelt conversations usually lead her to choke up or avoid you. Then there's the other variety who swing from one end of the spectrum to the other sooner than you can say 'emotional baggage.' They're basically on an emotional roller coaster and completely unpredictable with their moods and behavior towards you. All of these are signs of confusion, conflict with past issues and an inability to deal with their problems in a calm and collected manner. This is not directly their fault as it is due to the circumstances they've faced in the past.

She Avoids Dependency

Often such women even tend to run in the opposite direction the nicer you get or the better the relationship is getting. This is almost textbook 'emotional baggage' type behavior. She is basically afraid of believing things can actually be good, despite having all the urges to be in a normal, healthy relationship, as everything in the past has taught her that this isn't possible. Worse still, your niceness may even drive her back into the arms of another idiotic male who will only serve to sustain this negative cycle.

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She Hates Men

Ah, the man haters. Such women tend to blame men for all their problems and have trouble admitting they can be anything more that 'dogs.' Unfortunately, many don't realize that it is their own willingness to compromise or poor choice in men that has led to such labeling.

She Has No Long-Term Friends

This one's a huge warning sign. Women with an untraceable social past usually mean only one thing--something big happened that made her want to change all patterns, cut away from old ties and forget about the past. That's emotional baggage gift-wrapped and put under your Christmas tree for you.

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This can also be extended to women who refuse to speak about their family and have close to no relationship with them. As we mentioned earlier, emotional baggage need not always be related to her past relationships with men but could easily point towards some other grave issue with parents, siblings and friends. Whatever the issue though, the end result of having emotional issues in a loving relationship stay the same.

Her Past Is A Mystery

And finally, if your lady love finds it impossible to open up her troubled past for whatever reason there are definitely things in there she's sure will frighten you. Even though all past relationships are touchy subjects for most people, if she never budges on the topic you can be sure she's either hiding something devastating or has too much pain still remaining around the issue to openly speak about it.

That's all we have for you as far as signs go but know that if your girl displays many or most of these you're dealing with an unpredictable woman and most likely, one with a ton of emotional baggage.