Wednesday, April 27, 2011

W is for Whining is for sissies, sort of

So yesterday I may have talked about positive and negative vibes but we never touched on the whining aspect.

Life is full of choices and sometimes you make the wrong one and it’s too late to change it. Do you let it bother you or let it go?

Answer: You should let it go.

However that’s much easier said than done. When you’re fighting with family it’s hard to let it go, you take it personally. When you send out your query without the requested 5 pages and you KNOW they’ll delete because they said so but you’re unsure if you should re-send… yeah that’s hard to let go of.

So you whine.

I’m guilty. I want to stomp my feet and pull my dress up over my head to hide from my humiliation (yes I’m pretending I’m young enough to get away with that). I want to make everyone listen to how awful my life is and have them console me and tell me that in a week it won’t matter.

Here is the difference. I don’t let the WHOLE WORLD KNOW. You don’t want to come off as some whiny baby or people will think you’re a sissy and frankly annoying. It’s okay to vent, talk it out, and whine a little but after you’re done you need to get over it. Don’t dwell on the bad, just whine a little.

46 comments:

The only time I whine is when I know it's something other writers are sure to experience. That why they will have something to say instead of, 'Oh poor you.' Also, I think it's fine to vent now and again. It's human nature. It becomes a problem when that is ALL you do.

Everyone's entitled to a little whining every now and then, but you've got to think about who is going to be listening. I'm very careful with what I post about. My family gets sick and tired of me whining about my job or uni, but I leave it just there. When I post online I don't really want the entire world to know what's happening at home.

So true, no one likes a whiner! Sure vent & let it out but then accept your part and move on to make it better, change it or just let it go. I try to do that daily, it's not always easy that's for sure! Stop in & read W is for Waffler

Great post Jen! I don't whine on my blog often, if I do its very short and done with in a few seconds of reading. I do vent to my friends- specially if things are really getting to me, but it doesn't last long- my friends call me an "ever optimist" lol

I try to keep my blog as upbeat as I can. I'm a firm believer that people don't want to read about negativity -- and as an author, no-one wants to hear 'poor me, waaah'. I do whine quite a bit to Mr TR. Poor guy!

Oh, I totally whine on my blog because I can't whine to my friends or my family. They don't wanna hear it and they don't understand. So when it gets so rough I start wondering what the hell I'm doing here, you guys are the first to know. And the first to help me put things into perspective. Maybe I should stop whining so as not to mess with the positive vibes BUT at the same time I swore that I'd be honest about how hard this is on my blog. I am creepy query girl afterall. People have a right to know that its not all flowers of hope and rainbows of 'I can do it!'. If they get unsettled by reading about how disgruntled and frusterating querying can get...they probably aren't ready to go through it themselves.

I vent to my husband. He knowingly and willingly took vows to put up with my whining, LOL! We've known each other since we were little kids so he knew exactly what he was getting himself into, heehee. ;)

I don't whine over much...well at least I don't think I do. I feel much reassured when I read another writer expressing some angst with their writing especially when I identify with it. It makes me shake off my gloom and move on, because I am not alone.

I had a good old rant yesterday with a friend (poor friend). Nothing wrong with that - I felt much better afterwards, although I can't vouch for my friend. The only problem with whining is that awful high-pitched voice it takes on. Avoid that. LOL

I whine in private. Occasionally I'll blog about something that annoys me, but I try to do it in a humorous way, because I don't want to inadvertently rain on somebody else's happy day. So I totally agree with you - there's no reason to let the whole world know!

Never a good idea to whine publicly. People who know you can put it in context (they know you don't whine all the time)--but people who only know you by your blog and Tweets? You don't want them to get the idea that you're negative. I whine to my dearest friends, and they are really patient with me!

I'm a very passionate girl, so when something bothers me it bothers me to the core. I try not to whine on my blog, but it happens. Usually I'll confide in my bestie, but if it's something really pressing I'll share it with my blog friends.

A little whine now and then gets it off your chest and if that's done on the blog then I hope my followers are tolerant enough to put up with it. A whine with a touch of humour thrown in is the best way. It lightens the load.