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SEX CRIME CAMPAIGN: Rapist tells of his shame and fear

A RAPIST who attacked his partner has told how he felt ‘entitled’ to sex.

The 41-year-old, from Oxford, admitted raping his girlfriend when he was drunk in 2001 following a “difficult” period in their relationship.

Calling himself ‘John’ he agreed to be interviewed by Thames Valley Police as part of its new Don’t Cross the Line serious sexual assault
campaign.

The campaign targets young men by encouraging them to think about the consequences their actions can have on their lives, particularly when drunk.

In an online video, ‘John’ talks about how he felt when he was charged with rape, what it was like in prison and how being a registered sex offender will affect his future.

With his voice distorted to hide his identity, he said: “When I finally sobered up from my state, I was overwhelmed with shame and remorse and fear.

“I was frightened and scared and I knew I was going to prison.

“I pretty much felt it was game over for me.

“As soon as you roll through the doors and gates to prison, you just know the door will shut behind you, and it will be shut for however long it is.

“For me it was three years.

“It’s daunting, you don’t know where you are going and what’s going to happen, I think it’s total fear about what’s going to happen to you.

“Most of the general prison population are hated. Sex offenders are really hated. Other sex offenders are segregated from normal prisoners for their own safety: paedophiles, other rapists and just
generally not very nice people.”

Speaking about his future, he said: “At the moment, getting a job is really important for me. I have spent a long time on the dole and employment now is really hard to get, especially when I have
to disclose certain information about my offence to people I don’t know. That panics me a lot.

“My experience is ‘No’ does really mean ‘No’. ‘No’ doesn’t mean ‘Yes’ as some people and I thought for quite a while. It was a distortion in my brain.

“I thought for quite a while: ‘I’m entitled to whatever I want and when someone says ‘No’ to me, it doesn’t matter, I have the right to take it’. But no one has, so be careful what you do.”

As part of the police campaign, officers have launched an online interactive video game called ‘Seal the Deal’ on YouTube and Facebook, in which participants can decide what actions to take in a
scenario similar to ones they might encounter when out in pubs and bars.

Comments

-With his voice distorted to hide
his identity, he said: “When I
finally sobered up from my stateI was overwhelmed with shame and remorse and fear.-

The first time.

-“I was frightened and scared and I knew I was going to prison.-

First time?

-“I pretty much felt it was game
over for me.-

No we pay to hide you now.

-With his voice distorted to hide
his identity, he said: “When I
finally sobered up from my stateI was overwhelmed with shame and remorse and fear.-
The first time.
-“I was frightened and scared and I knew I was going to prison.-
First time?
-“I pretty much felt it was game
over for me.-
No we pay to hide you now.Darkforbid

-With his voice distorted to hide
his identity, he said: “When I
finally sobered up from my stateI was overwhelmed with shame and remorse and fear.-

The first time.

-“I was frightened and scared and I knew I was going to prison.-

First time?

-“I pretty much felt it was game
over for me.-

No we pay to hide you now.

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Peterr Mcvey
10:18pm Sun 2 Jan 11

Not really a good example of a proper sex offender, somebody who had sex when his girlfriend did not want it. It is a mile away from a lady who is pulled off of the street, punched in the face, and half kicked to death, before the real attack. Oxford Mail if you are going to run these things please report the REAL problem, and not your own political agenda. This story is an insult to all the women that have had to endure a violent attack.

Not really a good example of a proper sex offender, somebody who had sex when his girlfriend did not want it. It is a mile away from a lady who is pulled off of the street, punched in the face, and half kicked to death, before the real attack. Oxford Mail if you are going to run these things please report the REAL problem, and not your own political agenda. This story is an insult to all the women that have had to endure a violent attack.Peterr Mcvey

Not really a good example of a proper sex offender, somebody who had sex when his girlfriend did not want it. It is a mile away from a lady who is pulled off of the street, punched in the face, and half kicked to death, before the real attack. Oxford Mail if you are going to run these things please report the REAL problem, and not your own political agenda. This story is an insult to all the women that have had to endure a violent attack.

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sparky123456
12:46pm Mon 3 Jan 11

i think ive been raped by my girlfriend dozens of times. she's always wanting it in the morning but im a bit of a heavy sleeper. if i don't give in she really nags me for the whole day. to avoid it i usually let her have her way.

i think ive been raped by my girlfriend dozens of times. she's always wanting it in the morning but im a bit of a heavy sleeper. if i don't give in she really nags me for the whole day. to avoid it i usually let her have her way.sparky123456

i think ive been raped by my girlfriend dozens of times. she's always wanting it in the morning but im a bit of a heavy sleeper. if i don't give in she really nags me for the whole day. to avoid it i usually let her have her way.

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oafie
3:37pm Mon 3 Jan 11

McVey

Just how would you know

and most women are raped or assaulted by someone they know.

McVey
Just how would you know
and most women are raped or assaulted by someone they know.oafie

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