I love this, because most of the things we get upset about aren’t “ours.” And since they’re not ours, they’re not ours to control or attempt to fix.

So, we can let…them…go.

For example, if we’re getting all worked up thinking about something the other woman said to us, and we know we didn’t do anything to deserve it, then it’s her stuff. The problem is hers, not ours. We can’t fix it, only she can.

Poof! It’s gone…OK, it might not be completely gone, but at least it won’t be monopolizing all your time and energy anymore.

Now, if we DID do something to deserve it, then it’s “our stuff” and it’s up to us to try and fix it. Make sense?

If you have recurring thoughts that are causing you pain, I highly recommend checking out Byron Katie. She has a great method for helping you move beyond the beliefs that are causing you grief.