Ending a relationship is never easy. We once thought that it was everything, but the relationship didn’t work out. Finally, you decide to separate. It’s really hard, but life must keep going. We also try to move on and escape the shadow.

However, the fact that moving on isn’t that easy. Actually, how is move on viewed from a scientific point of view? Find the answer here, let’s!

1. It takes 11 weeks to feel better after parting

How long do we need to feel better after separating? The study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology shows that the average person takes 11 weeks to accept the situation, explained the Independent page.

Different studies are published on the Bustle page. Based on a survey conducted on 2,000 people, on average it took 13.5 weeks to start a date with a new person after breaking up from a previous relationship. However, not all of them do serious dating, some are dating new people to escape from the grief of a previous relationship.

2. The best way to move on is to think about our ex’s bad

Which is the most effective way to move on? Based on a study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, the best way is to think of the ugliness of our former spouse. This study involved 24 people from the age of 20-37 years who had a long-term relationship. The average relationship they have had is around 2.5 years.

24 of these people were divided into three groups. There are three strategies applied to forget their ex-lover. First, they are asked to think of bad and annoying things from their ex-spouse. Second, they are asked to read statements that encourage them to receive what they feel. For example, “It’s better to be loved but end, than never to be loved at all.”

The third method is to give distraction. When participants think of ex-lovers, they must turn their attention to other things, such as discussing weather or television shows. As a result, the most effective strategy is to think about the ugliness of our ex-spouse! However, it should also be noted that they also experienced the worst mood from the other two groups, explained the Elite Daily page.

3. The loss of a loved one is tantamount to losing yourself

The presence of lovers turns out to have a big influence on our lives. So is the loss. Because he used to do everything together, his loss brought a big blow. According to a study published on the website of The Atlantic, losing a lover is like losing yourself. In fact, we can also lose our sense of confidence and self-esteem.

Not only that, studies show that separation affects us in looking at ourselves. Not infrequently, we are haunted by the shadows of the same thing in the future.

It makes us afraid to establish new relationships because we do not want to feel the same wounds happen again. We also have insecurity and not feeling good about ourselves.

4. Listening to sad music helps in the move on process

Yes, you didn’t read it wrong. In fact sad music can help move on! Based on the Science Alert page, sad music can trigger memories and can lift our mood. Apparently, melancholic music is related to the hormone prolactin, a chemical that is able to overcome sadness.

In addition, listening to music also releases the hormone dopamine which is associated with pleasure, a sense of peace and happiness. From here, we get a sense of happiness after listening to sad songs. On the other hand, sad music can also make us more creative, you know!

Who has never experienced a broken heart? Left by loved ones is indeed suffocating, not infrequently we vent emotions by crying for days. It seems, the world turns gray and colorless as usual. Sob!

But, do you know? Apparently, heartbreak can be explained from a scientific point of view, you know! Want to know the explanation? Check this out!

1. Broken heart has its own scientific name!

In the medical world, heartbreak is known as stress-induced cardiomyopathy, says the Heart.org page. This syndrome can attack anyone, even if our physical condition is healthy and fit. Broken heart causes intense pain in the chest and is triggered by painful emotional experiences.

For example, the closest person who dies, divorces, breaks up, is ignored or experiences rejection. The Heart.org page mentions that women are more susceptible to this, because of the reaction of excessive stressful hormones.

2. Changes to the heart when experiencing a broken heart

Broken heart is often misdiagnosed as a heart attack, because the symptoms are similar. The test results showed that there was a dramatic change in heart rhythm and blood pressure similar to the symptoms of a heart attack, explained the Heart.org page. The difference is that a broken heart does not cause a blockage in the heart arteries.

When broken hearted, part of the heart will enlarge temporarily and not pump blood properly. Meanwhile, other parts of the heart will function normally, or even experience stronger contractions. The bad news, heartbreak can cause heart muscle failure when we drag on grief.

But, don’t worry! Broken heart can always be cured! Over time, the wounds that we suffer will recover and heal by itself.

3. Get to know these symptoms when you are broken hearted

Our body changes when it breaks heart. Common symptoms are angina (chest pain) and shortness of breath. In addition, we are also at risk for arrhythmias, where the heartbeat becomes irregular.

Cardiogenic shock can also occur. This is marked by a heart that suddenly weakens and cannot pump enough blood to meet the body’s needs, says the Heart.org page.

You must be alert, because this can be fatal if not treated immediately. Because, when a person dies of a heart attack, the cause of death is mostly due to cardiogenic shock.

4. These are the hormones that the body releases when broken hearted

When we fall in love, the brain secretes happiness hormones, like dopamine and oxytocin. However, when the heart breaks, the brain secretes different hormones, cortisol and epinephrine. What are the effects of these hormones?

Too much cortisol can cause muscles to swell, headaches, stiff neck and chest tightness, bright Hey Sigmund’s page. In addition, other problems can occur, such as abdominal cramps, diarrhea, sleep problems and loss of appetite.

5. Can a broken heart cause death?

Apparently, heartbreak is more dangerous than we thought. In fact, heartbreak can cause death! In some cases, heartbreak triggers stress and can cause physical damage to the heart, said the NBC News page. This is also known as takotsubo cardiomyophaty or broken heart syndrome.

Historically, this syndrome was first known in Japan in 1990. Cardiomyophaty makes the heart muscle weaken, but on the other hand it can cause heart swelling and stronger contraction of the heart muscle.

The real case where a broken heart can cause death is the death of Debbie Reynolds, mother of actress Carrie Fisher, who died one day after her son’s death, explained Satjit Bhusri, cardiologist from Lenox Hill Hospital, New York, on the NBC News website. Allegedly, a strong emotional bond between mother and child is a trigger of a sense of excessive loss and can have implications for death. Yep, heartbreak is not only about romance, but it can also be from losing family members.

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