What do you do if you are accused of being a helicopter Mom

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â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 04/02/2013

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Step back and evaluate yourself and your actions.

It's hard NOT to helicopter, but as a parent of one adult and one teen, with my job at University, it is extremely frustrating to watch you be overbearing and choose for your adult freshman student. It is extremely frustrating to speak to the student and have the parent answer. It is even more frustrating to watch a student make excellent choices with regards to his/her studies, only to see the parent undermine every choice because they either weren't involved enough, or didn't agree with student choices.

If you are overly pushy with teachers, if you insist on being involved in every minor decision given to your child, you are being a helicopter parent. If you cannot let your teenager make a few decisions on their own, you are being a helicopter parent. If you do not allow your kids to learn how to complete an application process, or you pester either an employer or school about their acceptance of your child (whether or not they're hired, can change shifts, can miss class) you're a helicopter parent.

So, if you've been told that you are a helicopter, evaluate your behaviour, and how you approach interactions with your child's/adult's teachers. If you see any of the traits, you may want to try to correct a thing or two.