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Well, one of the best things to do is to take some time out for yourself to do some things you enjoy, meet with your close friends and talk about what you need to talk about and find an outlet to express what your feeling. That might be journaling, art, music, sport, anything that you connect with that lets you feel like you again. After a breakup you go through a lot of things and you have to allow yourself to process it all, while finding yourself again.

Well, I'm mainly telling you to connect with friends and talk to people because I didn't do that when I've broken up and really regretted it. When you're spending a lot of time with your partner you don't see your friends as often, but it's times like these you really need them. I was sad a lot, I found that just writing out what I was thinking and feeling helped a lot. Doing some art work helped a lot, and praying and reading the bible did too (I'm Christian), I found it really encouraging. The time the break up was the worst, was when I did the opposite of the advice I gave you. I was just sad and shut myself away, thinking about them and how to win them back. It was ages before I expressed or dealt with anything and it was not worth it. So yeah, investing in interests, investing in others, investing in yourself.

I usually cry a lot at first. Crying can be therapeutic. Then I cut all contact and remove all traces of the person from my life. I go to the gym and keep busy and my mind focused on things other than him and the breakup.

To be honest, it depends from person to person. Of course you will feel betrayed, heart broken and angry... but thats all normal and part of the process of healing. It is really tough to get over someone you love. But if that person doesn't love you back it makes no sense. Life is once and you deserve to be happy. Maybe with someone else. Be open, learn from your mistakes, and dont let your past experiences influence your next relationship. I know it is easier said than done and I find it tough too... but thats all you can do and if you get a second chance to happiness, dont miss it. :)

its painful but i will not give up without trying. This will help in 2 ways, first to let him know that i am ready to try and that i love him still and second, if it doesn't work out, it will help me know for sure that he is not going to be mine, ever. This will help me move on. I have done this before, and believe me, I felt calm, stopped crying over him, and became determined to make my life better and find someone much much better than him. It took time, but I am really doing good now :)

I've gone on a big tear with my buddies, playing cards, chess, drinking is a common theme, eating whatever I want, and then after a few weeks of being a bachelor pig again and living it up, I'll just calm down, go back to being myself again and obviously you'll still miss them but if you force yourself to have a fucking party you'll get by quicker.

I tried to kill myself, but honestly, I've been on the wrong meds for years, and I didn't find out until the hospital put me on a new antidepressant... so in the end, it worked out for the better, because I feel better now than I have in my whole life.

I'm even planning to move to Europe in a few years and get a computer related degree, so I can do something useful with my life.

It's remarkably refreshing to see both genders having a similar split between moving on too quickly and moping.

For me, it very much depends on how we were when we broke up, but normally I feel intense loss and anguish, frustration and sometimes bitterness. Sometimes it's a case of good riddance to bad rubbish, though.

For me I take relationships nowadays very seriously, I will not hook up with and date someone, unless I really feel a connection with them. I used to be so afraid to open myself up for the fear of being hurt or rejected. All this said, I am currently single, but there is someone I see potential with, and I think that now if I were to get serious with someone and it ended up not working I would be really hurt and sad, especially because for me to hook up with anyone nowadays means I really loved them. So yes I would be heartbroken and hurt. I would eventually get over it, but it would take me sometime. I would be doing things to take my mind off the hurt though, like maybe going and hanging you with some male friends. I dont think I would be doing a relationship for a while after breaking up, it would take me some time.

Some get over it after a few days and some takes ages. It took me about five years, more or less. There isn't something that will fix your broken heart. It takes time. But you can keep yourself away from destroying your mind and body. Drinking is stupid. It takes your time, money and destroy your soul. It might numb you out for a while but it also freezes time. It doesn't give you time to heal. You can work and exercise like a mad man. After two years of sulking and drinking myself almost to death, I started working hard labor and rode my bicycle for at least 14 miles every day. Find something to keep you busy and active that will exhaust you by the end of the day. That way, you will jump on your bed and won't have any more energy to think of your ex. One day, some one melt the ice around your heart. Be strong and wish you a safe journey to the next chapter of your life.