Hi, so today someone told me that they thought I was gay. Their reasoning was my style by this they mean't I didn't wear tracksuits. They also said that I was effeminate and sensitive. They say that by the fact I wear a turtle neck jumper I'm gay, (its not cause I'm gay its cause my neck is cold.) I'm shy and struggle to make friends except I'm friends with this girl whom I've known since nursery (so these people look at me as the gay friend) I'm not gay (just getting over a huge 4 year crush on a girl) it's just I'm shy and a bit more sensitive than other guys. I'm worried that I'll find it hard to find a girlfriend if I come across as gay.

(Original post by Robin Tripp)
Hi, so today someone told me that they thought I was gay. Their reasoning was my style by this they mean't I didn't wear tracksuits. They also said that I was effeminate and sensitive. They say that by the fact I wear a turtle neck jumper I'm gay, (its not cause I'm gay its cause my neck is cold.) I'm shy and struggle to make friends except I'm friends with this girl whom I've known since nursery (so these people look at me as the gay friend) I'm not gay (just getting over a huge 4 year crush on a girl) it's just I'm shy and a bit more sensitive than other guys. I'm worried that I'll find it hard to find a girlfriend if I come across as gay.

(Original post by Robin Tripp)
Thanks I don't know why this has hurt me so much.

I was told that wearing a polo neck jumper was 'queer' I didn't know this. It wasn't the reason I wore one, I wore one cause my neck was cold. In my opinion guys in skinny jeans are gay.

Right. So it upsets you that someone has an opinion about what you wear and thinks you are gay, but you don't mind having the opinion that guys in skinny jeans are gay?
Looks like you can dish it out but you can't take it. I have a gay son - he doesn't wear skinny jeans, he doesn't wear polo necks and he doesn't wear joggers either.
If you don't want people to make assumptions about you and generalise about you, then don't do it to other people.

Ignore them, move on. You know the truth so you can't be wrong. Its normal to feel offended, heck I'd probably give them a death glare if they said it to me. I guess its like whenever a girl hangs out with a boy, they automatically get assumed that they're going out. Best way I think is laughing at their comments, it gets them super confused

(Original post by Wisping)
Ignore them, move on. You know the truth so you can't be wrong. Its normal to feel offended, heck I'd probably give them a death glare if they said it to me. I guess its like whenever a girl hangs out with a boy, they automatically get assumed that they're going out. Best way I think is laughing at their comments, it gets them super confused

(Original post by Seamus123)
Right. So it upsets you that someone has an opinion about what you wear and thinks you are gay, but you don't mind having the opinion that guys in skinny jeans are gay?
Looks like you can dish it out but you can't take it. I have a gay son - he doesn't wear skinny jeans, he doesn't wear polo necks and he doesn't wear joggers either.
If you don't want people to make assumptions about you and generalise about you, then don't do it to other people.

To be honest, I get the same thing a lot for pretty much the exact same reasons. Idk if I'm effeminate but I certainly dont ooze masculinity.

In some ways it's been a good thing because those b*tchy girls pay no attention and you dont waste anytime on them knowing full well they're out of your league, if those are the type of girls you want to attract then yikes you do have a problem. But Ive noticed the girls i do click with are kinder and more caring, so in a way my personality attracts what I like. Just be you

(Original post by Zxyn)
To be honest, I get the same thing a lot for pretty much the exact same reasons. Idk if I'm effeminate but I certainly dont ooze masculinity.

In some ways it's been a good thing because those b*tchy girls pay no attention and you dont waste anytime on them knowing full well they're out of your league, if those are the type of girls you want to attract then yikes you do have a problem. But Ive noticed the girls i do click with are kinder and more caring, so in a way my personality attracts what I like. Just be you

My boyfriend is quite feminine, and all my mates joke he’s gay, so does his family. We don’t care to be honest. I’ve been with him for 2 years and 3 months.
He’s so caring and wouldn’t change him for anything! So just don’t care what they say 😊