Stop Putting out Other People’s Fires. Light Your Own Instead.

Ever been caught up in other people’s drama? Where you fix or put out fires that aren’t even yours? Is someone paying you to get tangled up in it? If so, it’s a big red flag that something’s off in your life you need to pay attention to.

The “something” is your purpose. When you’re unclear about who you are & where you’re going, other things take up space – arguments, relationship drama, etc. Soon, life feels overwhelming and confusing.

Today’s video gives you the fastest way to get out of drama: stoke your OWN fire instead of putting out other people’s. You’re here to feel powerful, strong, on fire, not to use your energy to keep putting out other people’s fires.

I spent two years putting out other people’s fires, avoiding the lack of clarity I felt inside of me, and using my creative energy to help others. It started fine, but soon I stopped focusing on my own dreams and life became small and dramatic. In the video I share how I saw the red flag too late.

From experience, my life feels smoothest and my relationships most harmonious when I operate how I’m meant to. It’s not just about the work; it’s about how I feel about myself. When you feel you’re moving in the direction of what you’re here to do, drama has a way of figuring itself out. Really.

Is something pulling you in the direction to feel useful and proud of yourself? Or are you letting other things encroach on your energy & creativity?

“Meh” is a choice. It’s my responsibility to change my life if it feels overwhelming, just like it is yours.

Let me know if you’re caught up in stress & drama right now and how you’ll STOP. It’s easy actually, you just stop. Period. Full stop. And when you stop, fill that space up with what excites YOU and what you want to do.

If I needed to stoke my fire, and you do too, your loved one may also need to. Send them this blog if you know they’re caught up putting out too many fires; you might be the spark that helps them reignite their own flame. If someone did that for me, I’d be really grateful.

xx Ishita

Ishita Gupta is an entrepreneur, speaker, and business breakthrough strategist. She publishes Fear.less Magazine and runs her consulting business helping people gain confidence, live without fear, and thrive as business owners. Since diving into personal development a decade ago, she’s spent the last five years helping people specifically build confidence and self-worth enough to pursue their dreams. Ishita speaks at conferences around the U.S. on entrepreneurship and leadership, including World Domination Summit,TEDx, Startup Princess, Next Generation Health, Business Growth Summit, Young Female Entrepreneurs, and more.. You can also follow Ishita on Twitter.