In May 2014 McRaven addressed the graduating class of the University of Texas at Austin with an inspiring and practical commencement speech. He shared his most ‘notable nuggets’ he learned during his Navy SEAL training that supported him through all aspects of his life. Not long after the speech went viral with over 10 million views. This tiny book packs quite a punch and is applicable to all ages. It is filled with wisdom, but the following resonated loud and clear…

Notable Nugget:

Life’s Not Fair, Drive On! – McRaven shares an invaluable anecdote about being a ‘sugar cookie’ (diving into the water followed by rolling around on the beach covering every inch of his body with sand) during SEAL training. This typically occurred for absolutely no reason other than quickly learning the lesson that life is not fair. Sometimes you’re a sugar cookie and sometimes you’re not; accept it and move forward. Hooyah.

]]>https://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/07/04/page-10-make-your-bed/feed/0MakeYourBedthelongdistancelibrarianPage 9: Wild & Girl in the Woodshttps://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/04/03/page-9-wild-girl-in-the-woods/
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“At twenty-two, Cheryl Strayed thought she had lost everything. In the wake of her mother’s death, her family scattered and her own marriage was soon destroyed. Four years later, with nothing more to lose, she made the most impulsive decision of her life. With no experience or training, driven only by blind will, she would hike more than a thousand miles of the Pacific Crest Trail from the Mojave Desert through California and Oregon to Washington State—and she would do it alone.” -Publisher

“Girl in the Woods is Aspen Matis’s exhilarating true-life adventure of hiking from Mexico to Canada—a coming-of-age story, a survival story, and a triumphant story of overcoming emotional devastation. On her second night of college, Aspen was raped by a fellow student. Overprotected by her parents who discouraged her from speaking of the attack, Aspen was confused and ashamed. Dealing with a problem that has sadly become all too common on college campuses around the country, she stumbled through her first semester—a challenging time made even harder by the coldness of her college’s “conflict mediation” process. Her desperation growing, she made a bold decision: She would seek healing in the freedom of the wild, on the 2,650-mile Pacific Crest Trail leading from Mexico to Canada.” -Publisher

Notable Nuggets:

Grieving – Both female authors were, in part, inspired to hike the PCT in order to deal with a personal hardship. Although these hardships were different, death of a mother and being a victim of rape, both women describe their journey of emotional and physical grief. It manifests itself in a variety of ways and in unexpected moments. Grief and working to overcome it is an individual process and a very human experience to be respected. Throughout both books I found myself relating and empathizing with these women and accepting that it’s okay to grieve all types of losses in our lives.

‘Flying Solo’ – In a hyper-connected and communicative society we rarely find ourselves alone, or as I like to say, ‘flying solo.’ The author’s attempts to manage their grief prior to hiking the PCT are relatable and involved other people. I found it fascinating how each decided on their own to go it alone. I think it took bravery to make that decision, develop a plan and execute. Although being with and interacting with others is human nature, spending time with yourself can be just as fulfilling and meaningful.

Ove is a surly, recently widowed neighbor in a Swedish housing community. He takes a daily inspection of the neighborhood to ensure signage and rules are appropriately obeyed. Ove judges his neighbors by how well they follow the rules as well as by what type of car they drive. After the death of his wife and forced retirement he decides he is done with life. Each time he is about to end it all he is interrupted by a quirky neighbor’s request, emergency or idiocy. Eventually he pushes his final day off while these annoyances work their way into his life giving him another reason to live.

Notable Nuggets:

The Gray Area – Ove lived in a very black and white world driven by his principles. I often found myself relating to him and understanding his point-of-view. However, at times, he missed the opportunities for new friends, experiences and happiness. I’m constantly reminded that life is not always black and white, embracing the gray area can bring about great things.

Layers – Ove found it difficult to relate to or understand most people. He often found them very irritating. However he ended up helping them regardless. The reasons are a bit unclear but he did good for others. Which I think he had done daily for his wife as she was the center of his life. He lives for her and when she was gone, he stopped living. It took a pregnant Iranian neighbor and a unique clan to give him purpose again. Once they peeled back Ove’s layers they found his generosity. There are a whole slew of sayings regarding prejudgement, first impressions and giving others the benefit of the doubt. How well do we apply these to our daily life and interactions? People may not be exactly how they seem; there could be positive potential where it is least expected.

During 1940 in New York City an American painter, Alizée Benoit, working for the Works Progress Administration, vanishes. Fast forward 70 years to Christie’s auction house, where the Alizée’s great-niece, Danielle, is working. She comes across a few anonymous paintings she believes are the work of her long lost great-aunt. The author takes the reader to the past and returns to the future following both Alizée and Danielle’s stories. Along the way Alizée becomes acquainted with Eleanor Roosevelt and her close companion, Hick.

This was the first I had heard of Hick and found myself doing some research. After completing The Muralist I coincidentally read a review of Eleanor & Hick (great timing). I got my hands on it as soon as possible and quickly realized how well these two books paired.

Do not be deterred by this non-fiction, dual biography. Many of its peers can be dense with detail and difficult to complete. Not this one! Quinn keeps the story fast-paced and engaging all while including heavily researched, and never-before-shared details. Similar to The Muralist the book flips between the lives of both Eleanor Roosevelt and Lorena Hickok, including their childhoods, early friendship, careers and the evolution of their relationship. A fascinating and thought-provoking book with a variety of topics for discussion.

Notably Nuggets:

A Person For Others – Eleanor Roosevelt was a doer, a quality I find admirable. She used her large network of family, friends and acquaintances to make things happen not for herself, but for others. She met a plethora of people throughout her life and managed to help those who needed it in any way she could. More times than not she used her level of influence for the good of others, a quality highlighted in both books and quite inspiring.

Determined Women – Although women today continue to break through glass ceilings and advocate for women’s equality, Eleanor, Hick and the fictional Alizee lived through strenuous times. They each worked within their industry (politics, journalism and art) and means to forge the way for their successors. Each left a postive and unique wake behind them; how would you describe your wake?

]]>https://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/03/06/page-7-the-muralist-eleanor-and-hick-a-love-affair-the-shaped-a-first-lady/feed/1eleanorhick_muralistthelongdistancelibrarianPhoto Op 1: CT Waterfallshttps://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/02/26/photo-op-1-ct-waterfalls/
https://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/02/26/photo-op-1-ct-waterfalls/#respondSun, 26 Feb 2017 22:29:23 +0000http://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/?p=181]]>Nugget Sensei (my father) and I spent a photography day together. We geared up for a sunny day shooting the snow-covered waterfalls. The previous few days had been unseasonably warm so the falls were flowing fast. Although the day produced about 200 pictures, below are a few of the best. Nugget Sensei says if you end the day with 2 or 3 great shots, it was a success.

These falls are a few short steps from the parking area and easy to access. We made this stop first in the morning and we ended up shooting directly into the sun; not the ideal situation. Nugget Sensei has these awesome lens filters to cut the light and get the nice smoothing effect. I took one shot with his lens and then I had to improvise. Next time we’ll try the afternoon/evening for better directional light.

Lunch Locale – We stopped at an excellent hole-in-the-wall deli (Lino’s Market), grabbed a sandwich and headed over to the Goodspeed Opera House lawn. Not only is it a perfect place to take a break, the scenery and swing bridge are great photo ops right on the Connecticut River.

These falls are also easily accessible and close to the parking area, however this park offers more trails and acreage, and is very well-utilized. Again, Nugget Sensei comes through by thinking outside the box on how to get the shot, i.e. sometimes fences need to be hurdled. After shooting the falls we ventured down to a covered bridge, a New England classic.

Notably Nuggets:

Grey Skies = Better Waterfall Photos – While the blue bird day we had was good for our vitamin D intake, it was nasty for shooting photos. The reflection of the sun off of the water was tough to combat. However, it forced some improvisation, experimentation and education. As Nugget Sensei says, “It’s about the journey.” FOR REAL. I learn a few new tricks every time… and somehow find a need for additional equipment.

Three Legs – A tripod was key for successfully capturing these waterfalls, which was another lesson learned. The three-legged steady assistant pulled through for me in more ways than one. Lesson learned: ALWAYS bring the tripod along. It now lives strapped to the side of the camera bag.

The film Gleason documents the life of Steve Gleason, a popular and successful safety for the New Orleans Saints, following his diagnosis of Lou Gehrig’s Disease (ALS) in 2011. Within weeks of his diagnosis Steve and his wife Michel learn they are pregnant. Initially the footage was taken to create a video journal for the Gleason’s son, Rivers, but evolved into an awareness-raising film. For five years the cameras followed the Gleason’s through their journey of becoming parents and adapting to Steve’s increasing needs.

Wow, the power of this story is overwhelming in various ways. Not only is this diagnosis devastating and heart-wrenching, the way in which this family manages and reacts is real, human and inspiring. Michel is a superhero, constantly caring for her husband and son, all while adapting to her new ‘normal’. I am sincerely in awe. Meanwhile, Steve immediately begins his journey as a father and advocate for ALS patients via his video journal and foundation, Team Gleason.

Notable Nuggets:

Mortality & Purpose – Life can change in an instant and Steve Gleason is living proof. Throughout the film he works to understand and accept his own mortality, which is coupled with one’s purpose. He focuses on his relationships, being a father and husband, as well as growing his foundation and its advocacy. Simultaneously, Michel takes a slightly different journey and her honesty in the film is admirable. While contemplating these themes I immediately thought of The Travis Roy Foundation, created by our close friend’s cousin. [Tissues should be handy before watching.] Travis is another hero and inspiration.

How Do We Act When Things Are Difficult? – The officiant at the Gleason’s wedding asks this question during their wedding ceremony; very unforeseen foreshadowing. What an important question for marriage since challenges and stress are shared with a partner. How will we handle this difficulty together? This amazingly strong couple have found a way to fight challenge everyday. A true inspiration and reminder to keep life in perspective.

]]>https://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/02/23/reel-3-gleason/feed/1img_1408thelongdistancelibrarianSlope 1: Sugarloaf Mountain Resort – Mainehttps://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/02/09/slope-1-sugarloaf-mountain-resort-maine/
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Worth the Drive. Laid Back. Varied Terrain.

We planned a ski weekend last month with a few friends up at Sugarloaf in Maine (#theloaf) and we had a blast. The over four hour Friday night drive up to Carrabassett Valley was a challenge, but well-worth the trip. Sugarloaf offers classic New England skiing and claims to have the most terrain east of the Rockie Mountains (highly disputed by Killington, of which we are frequent visitors). Being at a higher elevation than many other Northeast ski areas Sugarloaf typically gets a ton of snow. We lucked out with perfect conditions and weather: decent snow base, very little ice, blue skies, no wind, and temps around 30°F. All around an awesome ski/snowboarding day on the mountain, topped off with a round at The Widowmaker Lounge (perfect après locale). Oh, and be sure to take a run down Windowmaker trail.

Notable Nuggets:

On-Mountain Lodging – Sugarloaf is pretty remote and the resort is self-contained. We chose a condo within walking distance of chairlift, which was super convenient. This eliminated driving for the non-equipment-renters. Side note about parking: The lots closest to the base lodge are reserved for hotel guests and permits, all other lots are on a shuttle route. We found the (slow) condo lift to be great for stopping in for lunch (a huge thank you to our non-skiing, chili-making friend).

Chair lift from the condo to the base area.

Quality Over Quantity – Our approach to a day on the mountain may differ than most, but we abide by two general rules: attempt to avoid crowds and stop skiing/snowboarding when it stops being fun (simple, right?). To play by these rules we are rise early to beat the lift lines and head up to the mid-mountain area in order to hit the summit first. This worked to our advantage and we even had a few discussions about this on the chair lift with our friends. Would you rather have more runs, regardless of quality or fewer higher quality runs? We had mixed answers, but after reflecting on this a bit more, I think this idea relates to other areas of life…We are fortunate to have this group of quality couples we call friends.

This wonderfully different documentary tells the story of Owen Suskind, A.K.A Protector of Sidekicks, who is an admirable and amazing autistic young man. Life, Animated provides viewers a beautiful and inspiring coming-of-age story based on the book by Ron Suskind, Owen’s father. We learn about Owen’s challenging childhood and how he found solace in Disney movies, particularly the sidekick characters. The events and emotions experienced by each character resonated with Owen and eventually helped him navigate human interaction and his world. Although autism presents itself in various ways, there are many families and friends who can relate to Owen and his family. The daily and yearly challenges and successes are evident but I promise you will find yourself rooting for the Suskind family, particularly Owen, and feeling proud of each achievement. You may laugh or shed a tear, but you will most certainly find this enjoyable.

Notable Nuggets:

Growing Up is Difficult – There are a couple scenes where Owen comments on how hard it is to be grownup and asks why life has to suck sometimes. He really nailed it, huh? This reminded me of a scene from my childhood. One morning, when spending the summer with my grandparents, I was eating breakfast with my grandfather while he listened to the weather on the radio (typical morning routine). All of a sudden I turned to him and said, “Papa, I never want to grown up.” (To be honest I have little memory of this event but he’s told me the story quite a few times.) Although Owen has faced and overcome a myriad of challenges I never experienced, I can appreciate his sentiment. But always remember, the journey is the reward.

Defining a Successful Life – After Owen was diagnosed with a form of autism his parents were concerned about the kind of life he would live. Although the film only briefly touches on the subject, it is great fodder for reflection and discussion. How do we define a successful life? How do we know Owen will have a successful life? As the film progresses we learn that Owen’s goals are just like most people’s: graduate school, live on his own, have a girlfriend, get a job. Although Owen’s successes may be on a different scale their our own, I think many of us would fundamentally like to achieve the same goals. Beyond that, contemplating your personal definition of success can be an important exercise. Think about it…

]]>https://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/02/08/reel-2-life-animated/feed/0life-animated-posterthelongdistancelibrarianPage 6: A Truck Full of Money: One Man’s Quest to Recover from Great Successhttps://thelongdistancelibrarian.wordpress.com/2017/01/31/page-7-a-truck-full-of-money-one-mans-quest-to-recover-from-great-success/
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Biography or entrepreneurial business story? Well, it’s a bit of both. I was stumped on how to describe this book and finding the best way to convey it was a challenge. I was sharing my difficulty with my husband and as I was explaining, there it was, an ah-ha moment. Here it is…

Firstly, a Tracy Kidder book is always engaging and well written. In that respect you’ll be satisfied. Secondly, Paul English turns out to be pretty interesting if tech startups and entrepreneurship is your thing. Definitely not my first choice but the book kept me engaged and curious. Not only do we learn about Paul English’s Irish Catholic childhood in Boston (this hit close to home as my mother was raised in a very similar family on the south shore of Boston.) and successful career, we get a look into the beginnings and present situation of the tech world, particularly coding. This was another title we listened to on the road to the mountains. When the final disc ended we both glanced at one another a bit puzzled. I thought, “That’s it? That’s how it ends?” In short, I think the ending caused the difficulty in getting this post moving, but it called for deeper thought, which never hurts.

Notable Nuggets:

Timing – The saying “Timing is everything.” has validity, particularly for Paul English’s career. While he was in middle and high school computers were in their infancy and he took an immediate interest. When he entered the workforce the development of software, the internet and websites was growing. It was ideal timing for someone of his skill set, passion and talent. Timing cannot be credited to his amazing success of kayak.com, but it played a part. Although timing is mostly out of our control it’s something to consider. Food for thought; feed your brain.

Entrepreneurial Spirit – Paul English has this nailed down. His ability to keep thinking, dreaming and developing is fantastic. Regardless of how off the wall an idea may seem he pursues it or files it away for later. It’s his routine and a constant activity. There’s an interesting lesson there, at least I think so. Keep the ideas flowing, you never know what your next best thing may be.

Thunderstruck is another fascinating true tale by Erik Larson. Although this is not my favorite Larson book, it was great for listening during our drive up to the mountains for the weekend. My husband and I share an interest in mysteries and some non-fiction subjects, but we typically agree on Erik Larson, one of our favorite authors.

Thunderstruck tells the story of two very unlikely lives intersecting during a transatlantic criminal chase; Guglielmo Marconi, the inventor of wireless telegraphy, with Hawley Crippen, a mild-mannered homeopathic doctor in turn-of-the-century London. The two men’s stories are told simultaneously and initially reveal zero connection. The reader is given a slow buildup with detailed descriptions and events of each man’s life, both professional and personal. Eventually we learn Dr. Crippen is suspected of murdering his wife, which is when the real excitement occurs and the connection of the two men is revealed.

Notable Nuggets:

Give It A Chance – Initially I was not interested in listening to this book, but my fandom prevailed. We had a tough time getting into the story, but it was well-worth the wait. I found it amazing how Larson connected these two completely unrelated men in history. Moral of the story, the reward can be worth the wait. I’m also working on broadening my genre and subject-area horizons. Although this title was not my first choice I ended up enjoying the story and learning a thing or two about the invention of wireless telegraphy.

Listen – Audiobooks are one of my favorite ways to ‘read’ a book. It requires a different type of focus and offers a varied way of ‘experiencing’ a book. It’s also a good way of having multiple books going at once; one in the car and one on the nightstand. Think about all of the times you could be listening while doing something else… exercising, commuting, cleaning, cooking, shopping… multitasking at its finest. I recommend giving it a try either on CD in the car or downloading to your mobile device. Check your local library to see what digital downloads they have to offer.