I
have a BF and BFF, who’s a guy. They both asked me to our spring fling. Of course, I really want to go with my boyfriend—but
I don’t want to hurt my bud’s feelings. What should I do?

Dave:
Seems pretty clear cut to me, which in relationship lingo translates
to, “Danger! Potential for serious trouble.” If your buddy is
truly your buddy, then he should understand your desire to be with
your beau on the big night. Explain that to him…delicately.
Remember, like serving a nice meal, presentation means everything.
Assure him this doesn’t mean you two don’t have a strong
friendship. Why not hook him up with one of your friends for a double
date? That way, you can all have a good time together. Warning: This
plan will only work if he truly sees you as a bud. If he has more in
mind, all bets are off.

Bill:
First off, your BF is a pretty cool guy if he’s OK with you having
a guy BFF. And you’re pretty cool for thinking about your bud’s
feelings. Now, if your bud is cool (and he probably is), then he’ll
understand why your first priority would be your BF. I’m not saying
you should always pick your BF over your friend. But this is one time
when you need to acknowledge that your dance card is already full.