Helping A Friend Or Loved One Who Is Experiencing Violence

If you or someone you know is experiencing violence, you are not alone!

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Friday, July 12, 2019 | Updated Jul 12, 2019 10:00 am CDT

The majority of Americans know a survivor of domestic abuse or sexual assault, highlighting the importance of recognizing violence and supporting survivors. Do you have a friend or loved one who is experiencing domestic and/or sexual violence? If you are unsure, the following are some signs of an abusive relationship.

Isolating partner from family, friends, or activities

Extreme jealously or possessiveness

Checking partner’s cell phone or social media

Hurting partner physically or verbally

Pressuring partner for sexual behavior or images

If you recognize any of these signs, the following are some things you can do to help the person.

Be available to listen, ask what they need from you, and don’t assume you know what is best.

Don’t judge their choices

Assure the person the abuse is not their fault

Respect their privacy, don’t tell others about the violence without their consent

Take care of yourself too!

Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say when someone discloses violence. Following are some ideas to consider.

“It’s not your fault.”

“Thank you for telling me.”

“I am available if and when you are ready to talk.”

How about the things you shouldn’t do? Following is a list of things to avoid because they could increase the risk of danger and further isolate the person.

Don’t put down the abuser

Don’t confront the abuser

Don’t post negative stuff about the abuser online

Don’t push the victim into making a decision

If you or someone you know is experiencing violence, you are not alone! Embrace is here to help. You can contact Embrace for free, confidential support at 1-800-924-0556 or text 715-532-6976.