Living in today’s society can be challenging. We often find that our lives can have so many struggles that it is difficult for us to find peace and serenity. Life has a tendency to throw us curve balls, causing us to wrestle with redirecting our own lives in order to feel like we are accomplishing something. Sometimes we wonder how in the world we are going to “make it”…and that has so many meanings to so many people. There are many of us who have stories of abuse, both physical and mental, financial loss, loneliness, sickness, and others, just to name a few. All of these events can make us begin to lose sight of our own true passion or purpose.

There are many of us who live in fear and in silence, for we feel as if our lives and our words are unimportant. You may also have feelings of frustration, despair and isolation that may impact your thoughts and life. All of this may paralyze the freedom that you yearn to have in order to live your own life to your fullest potential.

You must come out of the darkness and understand how powerful you really are. Healing yourself from your most traumatic life events can especially give you the strength and encouragement you need to help you evolve and reclaim your life—and your true purpose. Many times you may feel very alone and afraid; however, you must learn to start claiming the life that you know and that you still have a passion for living.

Oftentimes we try to find the strength in ourselves, and yet, we fear failure and lack courage as a result of life’s events. Being put down by other people’s words makes us doubt ourselves—and our strength. With all the pressures put upon us by society, family, friends and work, we would like to scream, “Uncle! I have had enough.” Sometimes we put a lot of pressure on ourselves unnecessarily, because we feel certain things are only our responsibility so we choose not to delegate the work to others or have other people take responsibility for their part in them.

In order to survive in this world, you must first learn to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. This will allow you to find out who you really are as well as understand the strength you have to conquer your fears.

Whatever has happened to you in your past, you have to consider that these past tragedies have already occurred and that there is nothing you can do to change them, except to give yourself credit and gratitude that you survived them and that you are alive today.

There are many people who worry so much about the future and what they will or will not have; yet there is nothing that you can do, for you have no control of what the future may bring. We can dream, but we cannot totally predict what will happen tomorrow, until tomorrow arrives.

The only thing that we have control of is this very moment (this very moment that you are reading this article!)—this very moment that you are living in right now because, before you know it, this very moment will no longer exist and you will go on to the next moment.

We all do our best to be able to appreciate our lives right now. It is NOW that you can find your inner strength and the passion that makes you complete, including the love of yourself and all that surrounds you. Despite whatever past tragedies you have had to face, you made it to today. You have conquered those memories and you now have a choice to live a more fulfilling life.

Being you is what is important. Oftentimes you may have a tendency to forget how beautiful you are. We look to the movies, TV, social media, or, for that matter, some other idealistic person who has been put into our minds. But it is you who is important. It is your life and you are your own hero. The fact is that there is only one of you. You have to remember how much courage and how many life events it has taken you to make it this far. Forget about feeling guilty or ashamed of whatever coping skills you have had to use to be able to survive, or the number of skeletons in your closet you think you have.

Everyone is in the same boat. Everyone has his or her own memories. You are not alone. Everyone has a story of events that have occurred in his or her life that they are ashamed of or feel guilty about. So do not despair. You are not alone. The only thing is that it is your “story.” It may be the most important thing that has happened to you, something that may have hurt you so badly or even crippled you.

Whatever it is, you have two choices really:

1) To remain a victim of your own story or
2) To find that inner power within you that gave you the strength to survive your past

You, and only you, have to learn to be your own cheerleader and give you the credit that you deserve to be able to live life to its fullest. You have a proven record. It is never too late to allow your dreams to come forth. It is never too late to show everyone your strength and courage.

Now is the time to be a role model to your children, friends, parents and coworkers. It is time to become that beautiful butterfly and soar.

I believe in you and your courage—and I can’t wait to see you soar,

Dr. Christina

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