they are worth chasing after

As a teacher, I am always looking for ways to realize and release the potential in my students. When I was in university I was taught by, and later worked for, a man who was so similar to me that the relationship was often strained. However, it was largely because of the dynamic of this relationship that I learned a lot of valuable lessons that have shaped and formed me as an educator but more importantly, as a human being. I continue to pass along a nugget of wisdom he often shared with me to my students because I believe it to be true:

“People will often forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

Money, opportunities, prestige and accolades come and go. They are fleeting. Relationships are as constant as the sun. With that in mind, it’s important to take time for people, to learn to be an active listener and to regularly and intentionally be pouring yourself into others. Adding value to others is one of the most beautiful acts of kindness we can offer.

In a world that’s consumed by egocentric technology and increasingly unfamiliar with self-denial, meaningful relationships seem to be at a premium. They are worth chasing after. They are worth giving your all for. We are designed and programmed for meaningful relationships and without them we are deficient.

So next time you are impatiently waiting at the post office, or on the phone with a telemarketer or in the check out line at the grocery store – be mindful of how you treat people. Take the road less travelled and attempt to see the bigger picture of what your responses and reactions are capable of because behind the counter, on the other end of the line, and on the other side of the register is person who may forget what you say but will never forget how you make them feel.