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So I'm currently seeing this guy who is funny and i enjoy the shit out of hanging out with hime, and find him sexually attractive. But the problem is he has a tiny dick. and its just sad, cause i want to have hours of sex, but i can't really feel a thing. He is such a sweet soul, and i feel bad. But i'm just so unsatisfied.

And that's cool... but he's still getting dumped and he probably doesn't want to hang out with you anymore. Which, of course, means you can probably say almost anything to him without fear because you're probably not going to see him again.

He knows it's small. Making him feel bad for something he can't control and can't help is pointless. Unless you're a monster. In which case, then just blurt it out and leave.

For all you know he wouldn't be hurt by it, as unlikely as the whole buzz surrounding dick size makes it.

If you'd like to keep having sex, you can always bring it up, but say that you want to have sex anyway, come up with stuff. You could have him rub it against your clit, you could do lots of oral, you could try toys, the possibilities are endless!

That said, don't be roundabout about it, having someone act suspicious is often far worse than being told something straight.

If his dick is that small, he knows. If everything is is amazing and you break it off, he'd know the reason. He either may not protest, realizing the problem. Or he may, pester you for a while and realize he's helpless, beg a bit and try again with someone else.

2) However, your preference is not his flaw. Some woman somewhere with a tiny vagina who is tired of having her cervix beat to death by Johnny Bigdick would love this guy.

3) This means you are very likely sexually incompatible. It's likely if you stay with this guy that you'll probably remain unsatisfied. The small dick apologist parade on reddit will probably suggest that you see if this guy can give you sexual enjoyment using his fingers and mouth, but honestly I don't see that solving this problem. Being unsatisfied by a small dick will almost certainly still be in your mind.

4) It's probably best to break up with him on the grounds of not being sexually compatible. There's no need to tell him he has a small dick or bring up that topic at all. He's well aware. Just end it now and give the guy time to find someone who he is better compatible with while he's still young.

5) The small dick apologist crowd is HUGE in this subreddit. I fully expect 10+ people from that mindset to swarm in here any minute. Don't write them off completely, but ultimately you need to do what's right for you. If a thick fulfilling dick is important to you, be honest with yourself about that.

There is a small penis apology crowd, but there is also a big "if you like big dicks shout it from the roof tops" crowd as well. Both can be equally annoying.

1 and first sentence of #2 is exactly what needed to be said. Just because you aren't attracted to an an aspect of someone, especially one they can't change doesn't mean you have to beat them over the head reminding them of it. Most likely he knows his penis is small and it really accomplishes nothing to tell him that's the reason.

Its like for anyone who has been overweight. You know you're fat, but sometimes when someone tells you that you are fat it still hurts.

I just want to re-iterate what /u/thenewguyonreddit said. There is absolutely no reason to inform him that he has a small dick. He already knows for one, and two it serves as nothing more than an excuse from anyones viewpoint but your own. It's also hurtful and subjective. It's also not something he can do anything about. Don't crush a man's self-esteem just because you aren't sexually satisfied and intend to leave him.

That's totally not fair. If she wants to stay with him she has a right to be satisfied. If she doesn't bring it up with him nothing will change. There are things they can do (penis extensions, oral, toys, etc.) that will allow her to be satisfied from sex as well.

There's a difference between crushing his self-esteem and bringing up a legit problem.

Let's go down the list shall we? Penis extensions? Those are toys which cover the dick and work no different than a strap-on. The man doesn't have to be hard, as he gets no pleasure. It's just a thing that covers the dick. If she wants to be fucked by a dildo, use a dildo.

Oral. Great alternative! What part about asking for more oral requires her to tell the guy "you have a tiny dick" exactly?

Toys. Also good, as mentioned above. Again, is there some magical "liar liar" curse placed on her that means that when she asks for oral or more toy-play that she has to preface it with "..because you have a tiny unsatisfying dick"? No? Good! It would be very unfortunate to be in that situation.

Etc. Good catchall. What is etcetera if I might ask? Oh, you say it's "I didn't have anything else to add here so I thought this would make it seem like the possibilities were endless. There are so many solutions to having a tiny dick you know." That's what I thought.

I go back to what I said originally, if he has a "tiny dick" - he knows it. You aren't surprising him with this information. Bringing it up like his dick is the problem is not going to help anything. "Oh I have a tiny dick? WHY I DIDN'T KNOW THAT! Thanks for telling me! Who would have thought that the person the tiny dick has been attached to for all its life would be so completely unaware that they do in fact have a small little baby penis!"

Long story short (pun intended), you can say "I would like more oral sex and for you to use all these nifty toys on me" without having to say "...because you have a tiny penis."

Its hard to tell what the intention of this thread was originally, I'm not sure if she's saying "He has a tiny penis and I want to break up with him because of it, how do I do that?" or "He has a tiny penis, poor me." or "He has a tiny penis, what can I do to make it not tiny?"

I got the idea that it wasn't her preference to only be with small guys, because the user mentioned that she was too small to even use a tampon. It seemed as if the person disregarded the fact that vagina's can expand more than you think.

Not sure and I dunno how big her husband is. But I doubt that a girl who can barely fit a finger in her in herself is not looking for a huge cock. If a dick is tearing the girl apart then she isn't meant to take someone that size.

Yeah, it's super unlikely that a woman with a medical condition that makes it painful to be penetrated wouldn't fantasize about pleasurable sex. No one with arthritis has ever wanted to sew and no one with Parkinson's ever wanted to paint either.

Of course they want to have sex. Pain doesn't stop desires, it just leaves people to get treatments for stuff like this. And the reason that you aren't as aware of women with smaller vaginas is because they are more elastic than a dick. They stretch to accommodate, but the more they stretch, the more potential there is for pain, so they would choose a smaller dick over a larger one.

It is probably a fair point, though, that when you get well below average, the amount of interest goes down a fair bit.

They're absolutely out there. They might be a minority, but they do exist. As a guy with a bigger dick, I've been with women who love it, I've been with women who feel like I'm hurting them, I've been with women who feel too loose to me, just right, and too tight.

There's 7 billion people on this Earth. Given the wide variance in people's appearances, body shapes, sizes, and conditions, any combination of genital fit is possible.

You have to expand your worldview my friend. There's WAY more genital variance then the amount you've experienced in your life.

A woman that prefers clitoral stimualtion over penetration might like a small penis. Of course you know everything, though, so you probably already knew that. Also, it doesn't matter what you believe. Nobody cares if you believe chicks don't like small dicks.

What? Sure they do, anyone who's been in a fair amount of vaginas could tell you they come in different sizes - some are super tiny, and some are huge. Most are around the same size...but so are penises. Because they're inside and can tighten and relax, it's just hard to perceive. The difference is that people on the internet are constantly talking about small or large penises, so you'd think you'll run into a significant number of 3 or 9 inch dicks...but you really won't. Same principle with vaginas, I would think.

Then fucking lie, like everyone else that is an adult and tell him you found someone else to fuck, or you are going to take a break and look for a serious relationship. Who gives a crap, but adding insult to injury is just bad taste and immature for no reason at all.

Yea I think when people say "size doesn't matter" they mean a little bit outside the norm. Most women are willing to put up with slightly less than average (maybe above 4-4.5 inches), but the number of women satisfied with a tiny penis is likely very low.

It depends on the woman. Some women have very small vaginas and prefer smaller penises to avoid pain. I think most women wouldn't mind a 4.5 in penis, but 3.5 and below is when it starts being unsatisfying to most women.

I haven't really had sex, so I suppose my opinion doesn't mean much, but small dicks can be absolutely hot, even if they possibly could not work for PiV, doesn't mean I don't want one in and all over my face, there's a lot you can do other than PiV, sometimes some logistics are needed.

With that said, small dick size is nothing bad, many girls have small vaginas and no one ridicules them. It's just simple logic that small x small and big x big works best, with small x big or big x small running into problems. It works both ways, and if there was something wrong with small dicks, nature would have evolved them away.

I think it is a big deal at an exponential level. For the most part it isn't much of a deal, small side of average up to larger side of average doesn't mean much as long as you are good at what you do. But when you get to micro status or breaking the cervix status then the magnitude of concern becomes large.

All right, so tautologically, penis size matters to women who enjoy penis-in-vagina sex with larger-than-average penises and for whom this type of penis-in-vagina sex is essential. You don't need a peer-reviewed study to draw this conclusion.

However, there is a vast range of sexual activity which doesn't have the main focus on penis-in-vagina sex. First, your fingers can probably do a pretty solid job. Your tongue probably works pretty well. You've got a rad fist and forearm if your fingers aren't enough. You could wear a strap-on for the occasions where the abovementioned isn't satisfying enough. You could wear a silicone dick extender. You could bring dildos and vibrators into bed, for use on the both of you And there is a whole repertoire of kinky shit you could do, if you or your partner are into that. Don't come and tell me that you're both 100% vanilla, have no sexual fantasies and have a genital size combination that won't work out.

There are partner combinations for whom the abovementioned would not be good eough. But not all people are compatible, mentally or physically. I'm just getting so sick of reading the insecure meme that dick size is such a huge hurdle. It breeds insecurity and it is just plain wrong. It also becomes a place for people to give up on self-improvement. After all, you can't change anything about your body. I have a smaller-than-average dick and my sex life is fucking awesome. Everyone else can do the same with the right partner and attitude.

Not banging on OP here, but for the small-dicked guys in /r/sex: Don't let this post ruin your self-esteem.

You know there are many types of toys and accessories you can buy at adult stores which can enhance your experience. I'm sure as everyone as stated he knows he is smaller than average. There is no need to bring that up in the discussion. But if you really love this guy and you are not happy with your sex life you need to have a discussion about it. Relationships are about communication. So do it the right way: as a , lately I feel like we r in a rut and I want to try some new things. Would you be willing to do that to make me feel good and turn me on? Not, you don't satisfy me so you better do something about it Good luck.

It's gonna be hard to break off the casual sex without him perceiving it as being harshly friendzoned. It's really hard to dial things back after sex has taken place multiple times. For most guys (being horndogs like we are) it's nearly impossible.

His insecurity over penis size will surely bring up a lot of fear, angst, and anger on his part. This is a pretty shitty situation all around. A clean break without mentioning penis size would likely be the least painful in the long run.

There's always the possibility of finding someone to hook him up with but that usually leads to more hurt feelings too.

As mentioned above sexual compatibility is a major part of a relationship both casual and serious. Try giving more focus on things other than PIV. Expand oral or fingering. Those alone can be a powerful combo. There are so many other ways to please a women than sticking a dick in her. You might need to take the rains and and guide things more towards what you need to orgasum. You would actuality be doing him a solid, his penis is not going to get bigger, he needs to learn other things to do or he will run into this problem over and over. Show him how to go down on you, how to properly finger you, how to play with your many erogenous zones, maybe introduce some toys (if he is intimidated by dildos bigger than his penis try useing an egg). Lesbians get each other of all day every day, and they have way smaller dicks than he does.

Clearly you are in a dilemma, you could just lie? Trust me, telling a dude his dick is small is a heavy blow below the belt and should be avoided.

If I were you I would act bored or distant during sex and eventually build that up to "Look this isn't working..." and when he says it's about his dick size, act surprised and say "What does that have to do with it? Look, I'm just not enjoying this, it doesn't feel right between us, I'm sorry"

He'll keep his dignity more or less intact, and you two can still talk but your sexual relationship is not meant to be.

This is my solution to the His-dick-is-unsatisfying-and-I'd-rather-not-destroy-his-dignity-that-much problem

Would toys be out of the question? Oral, anal (if you are into that) and toys can be very fun! Some of the best lovers I've had we're avg/ smaller side of avg. Not judging your preferences, just an honest question.

You can't tell him. He can't change it, so the question is what are you trying to accomplish by telling him? If you want to shatter his ego, you can tell him, but your post suggests otherwise. How would you feel if he said your feet/nose/ears are too big our your breasts are too small? Consider that and give him some alternate ideas on how please you. Also, consider trying kegels.

Well honestly think about it. How would you feel if he was like your vaginas too loose. Would be kind of a dick move. Your best bet is to be nice and just say you don't want a sexual relationship with him and just want to be friends

Transitioning from "friends with casual sex" to "friends who used to have casual sex but no more" is not an easy transition for most males. You're likely going to compromise the friendship by ending the sex. That said, there's no benefit from telling him its over because of his dick size...that would be the opposite of a friend.

So no one else thinks this is a troll post? It doesn't ping the troll radar that this post shows up, just perfectly worded to play upon male insecurities, a day after there was a top-voted "I have a small penis" thread?

Focus on what you want instead of what you don't. Ask for cunnilingus. As for hand jobs from him. bring in toys. Don't talk to him about something sensitive that he can't change... just tell him what you do want.

I see no reason you can't ask for what you want when it comes to casual sex. That said, you don't need an excuse to break it off with him, and you should stay away from insulting someone in order to say you don't want to have sex with them anymore.

You have not said whether your relationship with him is exclusive or not. If not, could you be a wingwoman for him and find a woman with a small vagina for him?
If you are exclusive, time to make a clean break or research into other techniques or positions. You also have not said what his stamina is for "hours of sex".

I fluctuate as to where I stand on white lies but when it comes to penis size I find them exceptable because it's something a man can't control but that have such stupid huge impact on him mentally. Since it's just casual sex you really just want to find a way to enjoy sex with him until you find a relationship and then have your perfect out, and are able to keep him As a friend. So here's a weird basket of ideas since you're not considering him as a long term option

1 - Get a good sized dildo and let him use it on you(probably after him not before hehe) it's not like you're in a Relationship and it's all you'll ever get forever. Seeing big dicks go inside girls they like is sometimes a bit of a fetish for guys with small penises. So it could be something you both REALLY enjoy.

2 - help this guy out! Since he has a natural disadvantage, take him under wing and try get him REALLY good at oral and manual stimulation. I shudder to call it charity work but it will certainly make you feel better about things when you find a guy you want to date seriously and want to call it off (assuming you're monogamous). Leave him better than you found him! And you'll also have a really grateful loyal friend for the rest of your life.

3 - And a white lie option for if you really just want to end things tell him that some kind rash popped up on your pussy and fuck no your not going to show him, you're embarrassed about it, and it's personal, and he's not a doctor. It's okay to get a little angry if he insists. But say you should both gets std tests (just a good fucking thing to do anyway) and make it take a while before you get results, like maybe have to go back in for more tests. Even if he gets his "all clean" in a week, you could probably stretch this out for a month or 2, during which he won't WANT o have sex with you cause he doesn't want catch anything. After all that time the sexual relationship and momentum will have defused and hopefully settled more into a friendship. Then you can just say that you feel your relationship has evolved and things just feel kinda weird to go back to sex now plus you still a little rattled about the std scare which turned out to be nothing.

3 might the most fucked up thing I've ever read on here. Terrify the guy that he has a STD for a week just to avoid a difficult conversation? That's beyond shady.

I would rather think I might have an std, and get that fucking euphoric orgasm of a clean result in one week, than have a girl tell me my cock is to small for her to want to keep having sex with me, and have it fuck with my head for much longer than a week.