Mel B is having a hard time with her divorce, you can just see it in her hair. Whenever we see her at an event, her hair looks like a different melted crayola retrieved from a box under a minivan seat. She just escaped from an abusive ten year marriage and then almost immediately took up with a married Beverly Hills cop, whom she reportedly didn’t know was still living with his wife. The guy’s wife trolled Mel on Instagram, alerting Mel to the fact that he wasn’t actually separated. Mel ended up breaking up with the rebound guy, which is a good thing, but she’s got to be stressed out now that she doesn’t have that distraction. I’m being sympathetic to Mel because I read her request for a restraining order against her ex, she went through hell. That doesn’t mean she’s a perfect person, that she wasn’t sleeping with her family’s nanny, or that she didn’t use drugs. That’s all background to this story that Mel is under investigation, according to TMZ, for trying to influence a witness in her divorce proceedings not to testify against her.

Rapper Siya, who starred in “Sisterhood of Hip Hop,” filed a police report Monday, claiming Mel B sent her texts last Saturday threatening her if Siya dared testify against her … this according to law enforcement sources.

We’re told Siya was prepared to contradict Mel B and testify Belafonte never physically abused his wife. Siya claims she was a close friend of both Mel B and Belafonte. Sources connected with Mel B dispute that, saying Mel B only met Siya a couple of times.

We’re told in addition to disputing Mel B’s claims of abuse, Siya is prepared to testify Mel B frequently used illegal drugs. She’s also prepared to testify about the 3-ways between Mel B, Belafonte and their nanny, Lorraine Gilles. Siya claims Mel B was the one who called the shots in the 3-ways.

None of these things mean that Mel wasn’t abused. The fact that she’s not a perfect victim doesn’t nullify her story. She could have simultaneously been manipulative to the young nanny she was sleeping with AND been physically and emotionally abused by her ex during their marriage. Also, I think this woman Mel allegedly texted is one of the people Stephen pulled into his orbit. (See: Flying Monkeys.) In no way does that make it OK if Mel tried to intimidate her into not testifying, but it gives it context. Stephen is a charming POS and I’m sure he convinced a lot of people that Mel was the one who was crazy and that she was calling the shots. That’s what narcissists and abusers do.

The Daily Mail has an exclusive interview with a 22 year-old Swedish student who claims that she had a threesome with Mel and Stephen back when they were married. The woman tells the DM that Mel contacted her to say she would pay for a flight so that she could testify on Mel’s behalf. In her recounting of her conversation with Mel, she states that Mel encouraged her to say that Stephen forced her to have sex with him, but that wasn’t the case. I think this is Stephen’s team trying to smear Mel and get ahead of this story. I could be wrong but that seems to be his MO. There’s also an Australian stripper who had a threesome with them who is prepared to testify on Stephen’s behalf that “Belafonte was a ­’gentle giant’ while Mel was the boss in the relationship.” This guy is overplaying his hand.

Ugh. Does she not have an attorney? It’s infuriating to have someone come out of the woodwork to “testify” to things s/he has no real knowledge of (like this Siya person), but her attorney should have told her that they can mitigate the damage by pointing out – in court – that Siya has no intimate knowledge of the relationship and doesn’t know what went on behind closed doors. There was no need for Mel to contact this woman.

This very complex affair is totally messy and disgusting. Almost any time I read something about it, there is something coming out of the woods. Another three-some? So many intimate details exposed. I feel sorry for everyone involved.

Oh, yes, the stripper. I remember reading about her accounts two or three years ago in one of our trashy magazine. The story was side-by-side with a glowing article about Mel, hubby and the girls (all dressed up in beautiful outfits), telling us what a blissful life they had. They were living in Australia for a time while she was co-host on Dancing With The Stars and (I think) a judge on The X Factor.

She sounds like a mess. It’s one thing that Stephen is obviously paying people to get on his side but what on earth does Mel think she’s achieving by playing into his hand with witness intimidation??? That’s completely her mistake. Add to the fact she’s still cavorting with that married cop and having her children around him (it’s was Phoenix, her daughter, taking a picture during lunch) and it’s clear to see that Mel is toxic too and needs therapy as she consistently makes mistakes in dating and cannot be without a partner.

I don’t think she was abusive and controlling whereas I 100% believe Stephen abused her as he’s a POS but these facts aside, Mel and Stephen seemed to have enjoyed a relationship where Mel was free to indulge and recruit their partners which could makes sense as a woman would be less creepy to approach the ‘targets’.

Relationships are not black and white and even DV relationships have ‘good times’ that keep pulling the women back thinking the partner can change if they can be ‘good’ for awhile. I don’t know, I work with DV victims and I see the grey areas, I feel sorry for the children the most. Adults can sort themselves out if they choose to work hard.

I don’t know. I’m beginning to give her the side eye. Maybe the smear campaign is working but manipulating an 18 year old nanny you are sleeping with is also abusive behavior. I think it’s becoming clear that BOTH of them are not very nice people. He’s worse, clearly, but she may not be much better.

I feel so sorry for this lady. Absolutely idolised her during the spice girl era. I pray she pulls herself together for her daughters’ sakes and her own sanity. This hot mess bird of gutter paradise thay she’s in is terrible to witness

Oh gurl. I think Mel is one of those people who have great lawyers but she doesn’t listen to them. She needs to step back, let her lawyers do their thing and get into therapy. How she’s handling this is not working and she needs to stop-now.

I’m confused. Hopefully, one of CB’s lawyer posters can enlighten me. Do their bedroom antics have any bearing on the divorce? I was under the impression that California had “no-fault” divorce, as we do in Australia. If this is the case, why is all this sordid information linked to their divorce proceedings? I can understand why it would be relevant in child custody matters, and also if she’s seeking to have him charged with domestic violence. Perhaps I’m misinformed, so am very interested in any information you can provide.

This has become really filthy. MB needs a better lawyer. As Had To Change My Name said, these people coming out of the woodwork cannot possibly know what went on behind closed doors. My sister was in a DV situation all her married life. I was the one closest to her, yet I never knew. I had suspicions, but until she finally spoke up, they remained suspicions and speculations only. I couldn’t have taken the witness stand and expected to be taken seriously. She needs to keep quiet, lay low and focus on the well-being of the children and herself. That should include some therapy. All this is not good for her daughters.

I haven’t been following this case super closely, but my understanding is that Mel is trying to get a permanent restraining order against her ex and the nanny. One of her claims against him is that he forced her to participate in threesomes, where as he’s trying to counter that she was the one who organized them.

I’m confused a little bit didn’t the DM have pics of her with the married guy the other day at some restaurant eating? I think the ex hubby is everything Mel says he is , but I also think Mel is messing up bcos she is so desperate to get away from him and is willing to do anything to do it. Desperate people do stupid things sometimes.

They both seem like awful, awful people. I believe she was abused, but I also believe a lot of what she is alleging now regarding all of the other sex partners is manufactured drama to sway the spousal support issue in her favor, and trying to manipulate witnesses to testify falsely is a crime. I can’t understand why any family show would want to retain her as a host, and I can’t understand why the fathers of her other children haven’t tried to retrieve them from her cesspool life. And yes, someone can both be a DV victim and also be a dreadful human being.

Feel really bad for Ms Mel B here…. but I don’t think “She set up the threesomes” = she was 100% willing participant in those threesomes. She could’ve been forced to set them up, or set them up out of fear of abuse if she didn’t.

And it’s BS that someone who is not either of the 2 people involved can say with certainty that she wasn’t abused or that a court would even hear witnesses like this.

I will say – Mel must be 100% honest in all of her statements/interactions. If she was willing then she should not be saying she wasn’t to try and get custody. It will only diminish her credibility.

I think she is a genuinely awful person. Yes Stephen is a POS but I also completely believe the Nanny. I think Mel is an equally controlling and manipulative person. There have never been glowing reviews about her awesome personality. Wish she would just go away and do this quietly. But unfortunately she is still chasing fame.