I'm sure you've seen my name in the dailies, and if you haven't then something must be wrong I'm you friendly neighborhood text-based bacon, and I've come back to you now at the turn of the tide (hehe!). I hope everyone's having a fabulous day, I for one am, and so should you! Remember that you're still alive and there're plenty of D2 builds out there to test and try if you have nothing better to doâ€¦ carpe diem as they say in Greece (methinks), and is there a better way to do this than play D2? (well maybe workout but that's a different matter...)

As the dailies returns to normal, many people have asked for the possibility to start an off topic thread, where we could discuss personal issues and problems for people frequently visiting the SPF. Problems with life in general, love issues and the like. I know this is not exactly related to Diablo, but several people have appreciated the thoughts and experiences I and others have shared in here, and we feel the need for a thread dedicated to this topic.
We are here to help out, and will try our best to understand your troubles and help you out. For references, you can contact both Nacaa and MethodOne (and I do hope you guys will continue to provide updates).
Anyone can join in. Anyone who would like to share their personal thoughts, opinions and real life experiences. This was meant for the entire forum and not just for a small group (so you married people, this is where you can talk )

Standard SPF rules apply to this thread and I would ask you to follow these rules to make this thread last forever. First and foremost remember this one, as it is otherwise easily forgotten:

- No useless spam. This is not a spam thread and should not be used for chitchat better suited to ICQ or AIM.

This was your host, the bacon of hope, speaking. Now start feelingâ€¦
And by the way. This is not just meant as a place to share your problems. You are also more than welcome to let us know about a great day or if something wonderful has happened (so you married people, this is where you can brag about your newborn child ). Good news is always appreciated.

Regards
Rizzo

Thanks to AlterEgo and DougTheHead2 for making this possible,
RoninDOG, Nacaa, oapwm, MethodOne for the talks we've had in the dailies,
and amalthea for providing girlish viewpoints.

Ahhh, the feel of a good OT daily once more...well I suppose its not daily but great nonetheless.

Thanks AE and DougTheHead2..... :worship: we owe you one. Another thanks to Rizzo for putting this one together. You deserve a :drink: .

Now lets get down to business....MethodOne are you mad? I gotta say that Im not liking the direction this is heading. Let oapwm have the email you sent me to see what his opinion on the matter is. I sure he will agree with what I am about to say. My thoughts are this:

1. A girl always breaks up with you for one reason - she doesnt like you anymore. If she says anything else at all probably its a lie. Its good to hear that it wasnt for the dubious reasons we originally had suspected but she did what she did.
2. While it is nice to have her back (into you that is) being friendly and sociable with her is in a sense showing her that you have condoned what she has done. She will now think hey I can dump my bf, hook up with another guy (btw hook up, since we are pretty much adults in here is probably not just a peck on the cheek), and then when I have had my fun I can go back to him anytime I want and he will always take me back.
3. Doing this will feel great because you have her, what youve been missing, but you will basically be allowing her to walk all over you....in the worst way possible. This was another reason why I said no contact....basically because if she comes back most good men wont have the nerve to send them away. Not to mention it helps the purging process while at the same time hurting them for your lack of attention.
4. Now she will do it again when shes "tired" and wants to "try something new" and she knows you will just take her back after shes had her fill.
5. No good M8.

@oapwm, sign on we need your thoughts.
@Rizzo, nice work again bud looking to hear your opinion.
@nacaa, well miss you in the conversations bud. hope to see you soon.

Heya folks, small update from me this time, no 6 pages of scrolling this time, I promise.

Me and my ex sorted a few things out, we're all square with how we feel, and with what happened surrounding our splitting up and such, and I feel a much better person for it.

Anyways, the people that helped me sort through the mess, you know who you are, and I wanna thank you all even if it was just for listening to a lovesick muppet like me

Everyone, keep on smiling..

*hands out the cookies*

Edit: Oi, ronin, I appreciate what you're saying and all, but it aint like I'm back together with the girl, we're just friends, and that's all it'll ever be, she doesn't want me back, and I can deal with that, but it doesn't mean I have to treat her like a ghost. Like I said, this is a small town, I can't even go shopping without seeing her at least once, it's for the best if we at least remain on talking terms, and that's all it is.

I respect your opinion on the matter, you know that, all I'm asking is that you please respect mine, whether you like it or not.

Thanks for the cookie Method. We don't mind scrolling by the way.. it gives us something to do haha! I'm glad you're feeling better, and I hope it helped you in some way to talk to us here at the SPF. There were other problems too I remember, how's it going with that?

Well, I've certainly started talking a lot more than normal, but I think I need to get back into a working environment full-time, that way I'll always have those random "how's your day been?" conversations on tap for when all else fails me.

Even though I only met Sam and Andrew on saturday, I guess we kinda got on ok, I even found myself enjoying the wandering about town and chatting with folks, meeting old friends in passing, talking to some old work colleagues(sp?), all in all I think I've made some progress.. even managed to have a laugh with the guy that's been installing the radiators around the house today.

Hell, when the guy from the benefits office called this morning, he seemed happy, willing to help, and was very apologetic for how I'd been treated by the previous people who dealt with my claim, even though it was nothing to do with him. Gave me the hope that there really are a few decent people left in the world. It suprised me even more when I finally twigged that it was an american accent he had, not for the fact that he was so nice, but for the fact that the british people I've had to deal with, were all complete *censored* about everything..

Says something about the country you live in when the other people that live there are only out to look after themselves, and it takes someone from halfway around the world to actually apologise for all the mishaps when it's absolutely nothing to do with him.

Im glad that your doing well method, it seems that things have picked up for you. The fact that your opening up to people is really great....shows that you are getting past your old barriers. Did you by chance read my previous post in the thread? The way your ex is acting concerns me, and should concern you too for that matter. Worried about you getting hurt again to be more specific. Anyone else read it?

The way your ex is acting concerns me, and should concern you too for that matter. Worried about you getting hurt again to be more specific. Anyone else read it?

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Hey Method couldn't you mail roning that long email that I got? Then he could be more up-to-date? I have it in my inbox still, and would be happy to send it, but I won't unless you tell me to. After all, it *is* your life

Doesn't anyone else have something to say? Come on people, don't be shy...

Hey Method couldn't you mail roning that long email that I got? Then he could be more up-to-date? I have it in my inbox still, and would be happy to send it, but I won't unless you tell me to. After all, it *is* your life

Doesn't anyone else have something to say? Come on people, don't be shy...

DougTheHead2: Having a fun day with the inlaws then are we?

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@ Rizzo, he sent me the email, and that is what I am talking about in the post right after yours....the fact that his gf is all friendly and trying to be close with him, even though its possible she has not dumped the "other fool" :lol: to quote method. My concern here is that Method might consider getting back with her/letting her off the hook now that she has decided to be "friendly" with method again. IMO method should not overlook the fact that she got tired of the relationship and hooked up with another dude. While it is good to forgive and forget I think it would be bad to continue to remain close friends because it seems that a rekindling might be on the way...which would lead to the problems I described in my post at the beginning of the thread.

Rizzo - I PM'd him the major parts earlier, had to cut a little out here and there for the 6000 character limit, I was over by about 1500 characters before I started editing

Ronin - I caught your earlier message and responded in an above edit. Looking at it now, it looks like I'm berating your opinion, and I dont mean it to look that way. Honestly, I really respect and appreciate your input, though ultimately it falls on my shoulders to decide what I think is best for me at present.. If I'm wrong, and I get hurt, I hereby give you permission to say "I told you so" and slap me with the biggest and slimiest trout you can find

Doug - Inlaws? ugh.. soooo glad I dont have to deal with any of that..

Rizzo - I PM'd him the major parts earlier, had to cut a little out here and there for the 6000 character limit, I was over by about 1500 characters before I started editing

Ronin - I caught your earlier message and responded in an above edit. Looking at it now, it looks like I'm berating your opinion, and I dont mean it to look that way. Honestly, I really respect and appreciate your input, though ultimately it falls on my shoulders to decide what I think is best for me at present.. If I'm wrong, and I get hurt, I hereby give you permission to say "I told you so" and slap me with the biggest and slimiest trout you can find

Doug - Inlaws? ugh.. soooo glad I dont have to deal with any of that..

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Oi Method, (I love using the word oi because Im American) yes you dont have to ask me to respect your choices bud. I always will, theres no need to ask. I hope I didnt sound to insistent, to the point where you thought you needed to tell me to chill. It didnt bother me that much. I thought friendship was fine, just the kiss/reeling thing, burying head in cheast at Shaun of the Dead (which is my favorite movie of all time). I didnt know you posted the edit above and was just giving some thoughts....with that I will leave it be.

If you understood how scared she gets over films, you'd understand that one

Honestly, she *really* freaks out over horror movies, even comedy ones.. but the ultimate one is, the Daddy-Long-Legs, if she sees one, she's paralysed with fear.. dunno why.. they dont eat much

As for the kiss thing, she made an honest mistake there.. 's something that always happened when I left her place, and that's the first time I been there since mid July, she just got carried away in the moment and forgot we'd split up was all, didn't take her but a split second to realise her mistake, and dont worry, she's just as adamant as I am that we need to move on, and that we'd never get back what we had together.

I guess we just gotta make sure we keep reminding ourselves of that.

I'll admit, I probably could find it in me to take her back *but* I know that in my heart of hearts, it would be folly, nothing but more hurt would come of it, and it'd never work anyway.

You seen Shaun of the Dead then ronin? hehe.. that film was so damn funny.. the extras on the DVD also kick ***, and if you get hold of the DVD, watch the "Funky Pete" clip, you'll understand why when you watch it

This weekend I was in my mothers summerhouse (sp?) with my girlfriend. I was really nice, the weather was great, though a bit chilling. Waking up with the girl I love by my side, while looking at beautiful countryside right outside the window was amazing. Sunrise over the green hills and the blue water in the distance.

We had a great time. Walking in the wild, counting stars and watching falling ones (I have no idea what this is called in english, but in danish it's called a "stjerneskud" which directly translated is "starshot" ). Playing games, talking about subjects we had thought about... all in all a great weekend, plenty of rest and recovery from last weeks tedious work.

Just a little story about how I spend my weekend. I hope yours was as good as mine. It's great sometimes to get away from everything. Away from the internet, from the television and from all the things that sorround you on a daily basis...