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Thursday, January 15, 2009

So I turn on my computer tonight and read the comments left after my post last night. And the last comment is an anonymous one. I was like, Heyyy never had an anonymous pot before so I read it. And am shocked and flabbergasted. Did I delete it? You bet your bum I did!

This cowardly person said I was often mean to my family and said things like calling my sisters white trash. I was like "what the crap?!", as I never recall, even in a state of Ambien, EVER saying something so mean and rude about my sisters. In fact, as far as I could recall, I haven't even had anything really bad to say so far about either, unless Sandy returning a Nintendo which made me cry is an insult, or that Katie sitting with me as I bawled is a bad word. This freaked me out so much, I just spent 2 hours going through ALL 178 posts I have, to make sure, to myself, that I have never done such a thing. And I haven't. I thought as I was winding down to the last 25 posts, hey make sure that nothing in the What Not to Wear could be misconstrued as that, and there wasn't. So I re-READ all my posts I have ever done, and don't see insults to my sisters anywhere. And I already said that I didn't find anything insulting about my few statements about my big brother, but erased the few things he and his wife had felt embarassed by. And there have been no big blow-ups between my Dad and I, so no big posts about him, and NO bad things about my Mom. And yes I was a little mad at Max for biting me, but I don't think that insults my dog.

So I have no idea where this rude person decided they were getting their information from. I wrote that last post FOR my brother and his wife, to make sure THEY knew my feelings. And I have had ONE misunderstanding with a bloggy BFF, but WE talked and worked it out. So where this person gets to claim I am mean to people and insult my family and call my sisters name, is crap. And it made me very angry and I am mad that they made me doubt myself so much, that I spent 2 hours going through my own posts to make sure to myself I never talked about them that way. Maybe these anonymous people LIKE to make trouble, rock the boat, create drama, but I am letting them know NOW, your comments WILL be erased and you are NOT welcome here if you are just trying to spread poison.I will do what I can to protect myself and my blog friends here from vipers like you!

Anyway, on to a less worrisome subject, movie reviews. I could not watch more than 15 minutes of "My Best Friend's Girl". I didn't even want to watch that much, but first I thought, okay once Kate Hudson appears, it will get better, then when it didn'y I was like, man this is a movie I am trying to watch with Kat, but at 15 minutes in, I said " I am sorry Kate I can't do it" and was relieved she felt the same. It was just so offensive and disgusting, I just give it an F. Dane Cook was decent with Jessica Simpson so I thought, Kate Hudson it will be okay. But I should have remembered he made a BAD movie with Jessica Alba too, so it does not matter how good the costar is, if Dane Cook is in it, it will most likely be GROSS.

Then I watched Mirrors with Kiefer Sutherland, who I still adore to this day. No I am not a 24 watcher, I am a movie Kiefer fan. And I really liked the movie, it had spooks, suspense, twists, but then the last 3 minutes happened, and that is what ruined it for me. I HATED how they ended it. If they had just given it a better ending I would have said I loved it! But the way they chose to end it, the depressing nature of it (and no I do not mean he is dead, that is the alternate ending) all, just ruined it for me. It is SO disappointing when they ruin a movie at the last few minutes, when it was SO good up until then!

I have not seen "Swing Vote" yet, but did start Tyler Perry's "The Family That Preys" and it is proving interesting. I am not bored at all, we will have to see how it ends though. Man Alfre Woodard's oldest daughter is such a .... witch! I just wanna slap that snotty look off her face! I mean, it's Alfre for crying out loud. Whenever I see her in a movie, she is a sweetie or a tough but loving momma bear!! She does not need an ungrateful brat of a daughter that uses her! Hmmph!!

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I'm over from BSU and I had a similar experience with a mean comment but it made me mad enough I quit blogging & erased my blog. Stupid! but it can be really upsetting. I decided to start over and to blank with anyone that feels like being mean. They need to eat a cookie.PS It is always fun to meet a fellow Ambien-lover :-)

You can make it so that anonymous comments can't be published on your blog. Argh, those types of comments are such a nuisance and so mean-spirited. Don't worry, you're not the only one who this has happened to!

I am the anonymous commenter from last night, and my comment was not mean or nasty. I chose to remain anonymous because I didn't want to have a post written about me on this blog. I stand by what I said, which was that I do think you have spoken very negatively about your brother, and actually, I went back and searched many of your posts, and there are still a lot of things I would find hurtful coming from a sister or brother that are still on the blog. and the family I was talking about was youre cousin and her boyfriend who you called icky and disgusting and did refer to as trailer trash.you said that they don't read your blog either but you just never know. Considering that you have had several people recently tell you that the things you write come off as hurtful and mean, I think you should maybe look at what you write and how it sounds. I also said that just becuase they are youre feelings doesn't mean that when you write them publiclly, people aren't going to be upset and that they should just get over it.I'm sorry if you thought that comment was mean, and you will probably think this one is too but you do seem like a nice person and maybe just don't relize how things come off here sometimes.

Wendy,I obviously don't know what the first anonymous comment said, but reading the second anonymous comment, it doesn't sound that nasty.

I am not trying to invalidate your feelings or say that you shouldn't be upset, but occasionally you do write things about your family (especially your brother and your extended family) that sounds unduly harsh.

I am sure that is not your intention, as you are quite soft-hearted. And maybe you even mean to be funny. But every now and then I read your posts about relatives and think, "Oh my...I'm glad I'm not that person," because I would hate to have those things said about me.

You may delete this comment if you want. I wouldn't ordinarily comment about your personal life, but you have opened it up to the blogosphere, and you have pretty much asked for feedback, so I thought I would be honest with you.

Please feel free to email me if you want, or feel free to cut me out of your friends if you don't like what I said. I would prefer, however, if you didn't do a whole blog post about my comment.

You are not a mean person, and I think sometimes things in print can just come across differently, so try not to sweat it.

I will say though, all of us could use a reminder that being nice is always the best way to go- and as was said before, find someone you can trust and vent to them in person. DOn't let this ruin your happy blogging life!

I agree with what's already been said. I also agree with Amanda. I know you would never intentionally be mean or hurtful, but I can understand why your brother would be upset by some of the things you have posted.

To be honest, I ended an 8 year friendship with someone recently. And the straw that broke the camel's back? Her blog. She would post rants about people and one of them could have been about me. It basically came down to the fact that I didn't want to know if I was going to be called out publicly, on her blog. It's too bad, but unfortunately, I didn't want to have to deal with that.

I do remember the post about your cousin's boyfriend, and calling him trailer trash, and I just thought, "Wow, I really hope they don't see that. I would hate for Wendy to lose someone close to her."

You have a lot of people who care about you here, and I think that feedback is always good and helps us.