Real Hookups are Nothing Like Porn

"We have a distorted view of our fantasies ... because we don't talk about them enough."

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Some of the story lines in porn make hooking up seem so glamorous but hooking-up can oftentimes turn out to be a nightmare. Ask any gay man and each one has a hook-up nightmare story that will either have you laughing your brains out or running for the hills in disbelief.

When I watched this video I couldn’t help but think back to a time when I hooked up with someone. It wasn’t a nightmare, but it will make you say, “Oh, snap!” He and I meet in a very loud club and from what I thought we had a great conversation. We chatted for hours until we decided to head to my place. We had a great night. However, the next day was where the story takes a twist. As he was in the shower getting ready to head out, I yelled out asking him whether he wanted some coffee. He never responded. Curiously, I wandered into the room once he came out of the shower and asked again. He looked at me puzzled and with a hand gesture he requested a pen. I proceeded to give him a pen and he wrote, “I’m deaf.” I could only stand there in disbelief because I honestly thought we had a conversation. Maybe he read my lips all night but, like Jamie Fox says, “blame it on the alcohol.”

Unfortunately gay men often learn how to have sex from porn. They also have been given a false idea that sex should be something like a scene out of a porn movie. Men are men whether they are gay or straight and we love sex. When gay men think sex should mimic a Chi Chi Larue film they are often unsatisfied sexually. Gay men often try to have sex with a hook-up, boyfriend or husband like they saw a guy having sex in a porno movie. Porn teaches gay men to expect things that are just not possible.

Personally, I’ve never been interested or had the desire to watch porn. Yes, there are some gay men who don’t watch porn. I believe my imagination is so enriched that I find porn boring and a distraction. Ironically, I dated a guy who appeared in a few porn movies but when he wanted us to mimic his scenes from his star roles while the scene played in the background, porn became even more of a turn off.

The hook-up tales gay men have are hilarious. Here is a video of the reenactment of a gay guy’s kinky hook-up gone wrong. It proves hooking up is not always what it’s cracked up to be and nothing like a porn movie.