Unload Your Sex Luggage

5 Things To Think About After You Get Out Of A Relationship To Ensure You Aren't Carrying Around Sexual Baggage

Think about your kinks

OK, so you're ready to jump into bed with your new girlfriend. If you're asking yourself if it’s time to break out the handcuffs and girl-on-girl porn, the answer is a resounding “no.” Each woman can and will want different things done to her and for her. These things include positions, porn, fetishes, role playing, mirrors, videos, erotica, and toys. Assuming a woman's preferences will spell your downfall if you practice a particular kink without her knowing consent. For example, if your last girl swore by anal, don’t spring it on your new lover and expect the same response. If you’re lucky, she won’t throw you out of her apartment before you have your clothes on.

Learn your limitations

Limitations are learned, and they can be self-imposed or instilled by the ghost of your ex-girlfriend. Self-imposed limitations due to an overly controlling or unadventurous ex-partner may have lingering effects in your new relationship. You may not realize it, but your unacknowledged limits developed in your previous relationship may forbid you from trying that position, kissing her pink umbrella, taking her on the bathroom countertop in your friend's home or surprising her with some steamy role playing.

If you find yourself only doing certain positions in a certain order and having an utter lack of provocative or steamy sexcapades, then your creativity might be on hiatus. Your next partner may not like such reserve and boring vanilla sex. Having a night of sexual games may pique your creative interest and adventurous spirit. Get a box of toys for both of you and fill it with role-playing books, porn, silk scarves, and sex games — don’t forget to bring an open mind.

Don’t make assumptions

Maybe your ex liked fast and rough sex; this doesn't mean that your new girlfriend enjoys the same thing. Among the most common complaints that women make about their lovers is that the sex was too fast, too slow, too soft or too rough. What’s a guy to do? Every woman has her peculiarities and preferences, and women can and will change their minds about how they want sex from night to night or from hour to hour. One minute, she may be writhing under you and aggressively flip you onto your back, mount you and release a guttural growl. The next minute, she may urge you to flip her onto her back and take her slowly.

The likes and dislikes of each woman vary greatly; what you learned in your previous relationship may not apply in your new one. For example, your ex may have loved it when you nibbled on her nipple, but your current girlfriend may find it painful. She may prefer her ears to be blown on. Would you want her to do something to you that she obviously learned from her ex-boyfriend? To assume that her body will respond like another woman’s is a true folly. Take your time and concentrate on the woman in your bed — no other woman exists. With that kind of mentality, you're sure to focus on her and find what turns her on.

her body is disneyland

The most important point to remember is to treat each woman like a new playground. It does not matter what shoots and ladders the previous park had. Remember: Sexual experience or lack thereof shouldn't dictate what you do with your girl now. So, release yourself from your sexual past and create a most indulgent future.