2013/04/25

I am really ambitious, have two kids, moved to a foreign country one and a half year ago without their father, even though we are still married. We speak a new language, learn a new culture and above that we get sick, have three hours of homeworks to do, while I study the language as well.

I don't sleep well, I always feel stressed out and I escape this stress with watching a lot of movies and blogging. I am still very tired and I sleep late at night. I feel I don't have the right to sleep as I haven't finished the housework and everything. I don't have friends that can help me. I had, but I was always angry, because I felt they didn't understood me. I also have allergies (pollen, nuts, dustmite).

I try to avoid milk and dairy, bread and sugar. I have BMI 25 and don't exercise. Don't have the time or peace to do that. What shall I do? My stomach hurts, I think it is bloating and my liver hurts when I eat something. I am 33 years old. Am I doing to much? I can't ask for help!

Interact with other blogs. This helps create relationships with both the blogger whose blog you're interacting with and the people who follow that blog.
Make interesting, relevant comments on popular blogs. This will spark curiosity about your blog, and you may be able to pull followers.

Respond to every comment someone leaves on your blog. You want the person who is responding to your entry to feel welcomed, respected and deserving of attention. This will make them more likely to talk about and share your blog with other people.

Find blogs similar to yours to interact with - liked minded individuals will want to see your view on the interest you share.

Respond to popular, topical articles or blog posts on your own blog. People like to see how writers interact with each other and will be interested to see how you responded to someone whose opinion they care about.

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Cross blog! Simply share an entry from one of your blogs with another one of your blogs - either by providing a link or copy and pasting, or both. This is a great way to get multiple audiences interested in your material.

If you have more than one blog, cross post entries from the blog you want to become popular to your most popular blog. The people who follow you on one may begin to follow you on the other.

If you don't have more than one blog, consider creating another blog or two with different blogging programs - even if you end up just creating a replica of your original blog.

There are different sets of audiences who swear by different blogging programs. You can access these different bloggers and their followers by using as many blogging programs as possible to publish your entries.

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Submit your posts and links to your blog on tools like forums, discovery engines, peer-sourced news feeds and social networking sites. This is very natural way to create interest in your blog among bloggers and non-bloggers alike.
The goal here is similar to cross blogging - get your content out on as many venues as possible.

Consider using your personal social media accounts and email signatures to get people who are already connected to you connected to your blog.

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Write great headlines and subject lines. If people see an entry with a truly eye-catching lead, they're more likely to read it than something that seems dull or dry.
Consider how headlines affect the likelihood that someone will click on a cross posted or shared link. Interesting headlines and subject lines are essential to successfully gathering interest through third parties.

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Step back and analyze your blog as objectively as possible. Does your blog look poorly put together? And have people seen it a thousand times before? Are your images relevant to your topic? Content may be king, but if you present it in a bad way people just won’t read it.
Avoid small fonts, lousy contrast, poor design and difficult to read colors – they’re all turnoffs. Looks are important; first impressions last.

Make sure your blog is properly functioning. There are too many blogs with dead links, plugins that bug out, and other problems.

Clear out the clutter. Less is always more. No amount of widgets or other “cool things” will keep a person interested in your blog. It may even distract them away from your writing. Direct them to your content in an interesting and streamlined way.

Make sure you have a little introduction or indication of what your blog is about near the top of your blog's home page. This way people will know if your blog is relevant to what they're interested in. If you write it well enough, you may even convert people to your interests.

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Stay consistent. Don't lose followers because you failed to update for a while, or changed the theme of your blog unexpectedly.
If you're finding it hard to update at least weekly, look at similar blogs to yours and find entries that created a lot of comments. Lots of comments means that this person wrote about a controversial topic and you can use your response to someone else's blog as a foundation for your own entry.

If you want to post something unusual given the theme of your blog, consider mentioning that and posting it under a link instead - your followers will appreciate that you're thinking about their time and interest.

Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Make things easy! And do not make them complicated! Be cheerful! And do not be repulsive.” [Sahih Bukhari]

Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Teach and give good tidings! Make things easy, and do not make them hard!” [Ahmad ibn Hanbal]

These ahadith highlight the importance of being cheerful ourselves, encouraging others and making them optimistic. Imam Ibn al-Qayyim said that a believer should have two wings; one of fear and one of good hope in Allah. If a person were unrealistically optimistic, they would stop working to achieve their goals, thinking that things will come to them anyway. On the other hand, pessimism also prevents a person from acting, since they have no hope and see no good in doing anything. Therefore, as teachers we should encourage optimism at the same time that we discourage overconfidence.

The first hadith also points out that when a person is not cheerful, they do not possess the ability to draw other people to them, instead, they repel them. One of the ways to be cheerful is to smile. The Sahabah told us that nobody smiled more than the Prophet of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam). This is proof enough for us to smile.

Current research tells us that the physical act of smiling releases certain chemicals in our bodies that help us fight disease, produce happiness, and properly modulate sleep and appetite. In addition, when

the brain and heart activity of volunteers was measured, it was seen that a smile gave the same level
of stimulation that 2000 bars of chocolate would. Smiling encourages others to remember happy
events, feel optimistic and be motivated. So, smile to make others more receptive to your message.

I came over this article of a Jewish blogger. I support the Jews for their choice of staying in Israel/Palestine. I support the idea that the holocaust is a terrible thing that we shall never forget and I support every Jew in his or her right to be Jew. I admire Jews.

I understand why this Bosnian man, and author, compares himself with Israel. What happened in Bosnia is the same that happened in Germany and Poland. Most people have forgotten about Bosnia, but not the holocaust in Germany.

The people that did this in Germany re now dead, but other people have taken the same idea of building a country with the "best of people" and started to "defend" themselves against people who don't support their ideas. They are "saving the country and the people" and projected that idea in media, so that everybody shall say that it is okay to defend the country.

Was that what happened in Germany?
Did the Germans "defend" the country and their idea of creting a country from the "best of people"? Yes, they defended it against countries that didn't want their ideas. They didn't succeed. They failed in 1946. They have taken new targets (Muslims) and they are good with the rethorics.

Many countries, like Sweden, didn't defend the Jews. Why is that?
Sweden however defended Bosnia with the help of U.N.
Shall Sweden help Israel to defend themselves against Palestine?
Or shall they leave Israel to defend themselves against the holocaust people in Israel?

I came over this site and this really excellent article over the subject of Islam, Muslims and terrorism.

"On the heels of the week of terror in Boston, and with the dramatic death of one suspect and capture of his younger brother—two young men identified as Chechen Muslims—fears of Muslims being linked to terrorism are on the rise. But a local Presbyterian pastor says his research shows that link is a myth.

“I want people to not be afraid, because there is nothing to be afraid of," Daniel said. "In fact the opposite is true. There’s a lot of great happiness and joy when we actually get to know each other.”

In the book he writes, “(I)t would be impossible to overstate the extent to which religious violence lies outside the mainstream of Islam.” From his own research, he found that Muslims from all over the world, “insist that unprovoked violence is incompatible with Islam.”

Earlier this month he said that he wrote the book to help those who struggle with Islamophobia, and

to assure them that, "there's nothing to be afraid of." Fear, he said begets violence; his hope was that the book would help quell those fears.

That connection between fear and violence was evident in an attack on a Palestinian woman in Boston just two days after the Boston Marathon bombings. The Malden Patch reported that the woman, who was wearing a hijab, was punched in the shoulder by a white male who screamed obsenities at her, saying he hated Muslims because, "'You are all terrorists!'"

The chances of a randomly selected Muslim being a terrorist are “less than shuffling a deck of cards and dealing a straight flush,” Daniel said. While it’s possible, the odds are extremely long.

He said he hopes there will come a day when there is no longer a fear about Muslims. Just a little
over a week before the bombings, he read to the audience from the book's conclusion:

“While working on this book, I hoped and prayed that the words contained herein would become unnecessary before the writing of them was completed, that we would overcome out irrational fear and work to solve the real issues that affect us; but these dreams have not come true.”

Don't be shy to introduce yourself to new people. Greet people that come by, and when they see your recognition they will likely respond. Who knows, you may make a great new friend you could have never met if you hadn't stepped up and said hello.

Start a conversation. Talk about small stuff that you know the person would be interested in. If you don't know the other person well enough to know about their preferences, try to talk about things happening around you. (The meeting you've both been to an hour ago, the new guy in Math class, the fantastic new shoes your colleague has been wearing, etc.) Incorporating humor always helps, people enjoy someone who can make them laugh or has a sense of humor and can understand them. Dry conversation doesn't leave an impression.

Everyone loves compliments, so don't be afraid to say something positive about the other person. But be careful, though, not to flatter them too much. Too much flattery can give the impression that you are sucking up to them, and especially if this new friend is a superior, they will think of you as a lapdog or butt-kisser.

Make arrangements to meet or talk almost every week. Remember to exchange contact methods. Get her email, grab his address, ask for their phone number. Don't leave without getting their personal info if you really like him/her! (However, if they balk at supplying contact information, do not harass them trying to get it. Be nice, smile, and offer to run into them again some day.)

Get them something nice once in a while. And for holidays or birthdays, buy something really special that you know she/he will really appreciate. It doesn't need to be something super expensive. A box
of chocolates, a new notebook, if you really mean it, your friend will get the message and be nicer to you too.

Be polite to others. Help when needed, even to people you have never met before. That person might be lonely, and you may be the only one they have talked to that day. Imagine how happy they will be...and you will be happy also, knowing you have been nice to someone.

Don't cuss. It projects an ugly image of you.

Be nice to everyone, even those who have been nasty to you. Who knows? They might start being nice to you, too! And if they don't, at least you are being decent.

Be eager to offer help. Especially to those who have their arms full, children they are attending to, difficulty walking, carrying heavy articles, etc. One day, you might be like them, and they will offer their help to you. Lending others a helping hand is also a good feeling.

Offer to help clean up after a party or a get-together. The host might be tired, and welcome your help.

Always remember to treat people the way you would like to be treated. If you are nice to people they will treat you in the right manner, and if you are horrible and nasty to people they will think that you're mean and ignore you.

If people are nasty to you, always treat them nicely even though you don't want to. It will come in use one day.

If you have people who are very ill-mannered to you, never act the same way back, because you are bringing yourself down to their level.