My guy says he wants to stop but he just finds himself falling into it over and over again. I’ve seen him struggle with this and I really want to help.

I feel he needs me now than ever. I don’t think it’s too much if I stand by him and offer my assistance as his girlfriend. I just need advice on how to go about this._____________________

Dear reader,

OK I have to admit that this is quite new for me, and at the same time, appreciate your honesty and admire your unflinching support when others would have just walked away.

Without missing the point here, let me say that much of the work rests on your boyfriend. The battle to overcome this starts with his determination to do all he takes.

If he’s determined to stay away from friends that do the same thing, to close his heart and shut his mouth to other women, then I think he’ll be alright. It won’t be easy, and that is where his determination to be better disciplined comes into play.

You can only help by pointing out these things to him. He is the one to do the bulk of the work. One more thing, I think making yourself available to spend as much time as possible with him, and keeping the communication channels open between you will also help.

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