i've heard that guys have a spots but i'm not sure cause i want my girl friend to finger me in my ass but i dont know how she can get to rub my prostate cuase i hear it's the best pleasure a man can get and my girlfriend wants me to feel it help

The short answer is no, guys do not have "G-spots" the same that women do. At least not in the same sense or intensity. However, guys do have several areas which are vastly more pleasurable and sensitive than others, which are sometimes considered male G-spots. The male G-spots are the prostate, the frenulum on the underside of the penis below the head, and for some guys, the perenium, which is the area between the anus and the back of the scrotum. Not all guys have the same sensitivity in these areas either - one guy may find he can cum just from touching his perenium area, while another guy doesn't get any pleasure at all from that area. The prostate typically gives a more powerful orgasm if it is massaged during normal penis stimulation at the same time. A few lucky guys with sensitive prostates can reach orgasm from prostate stimulation alone. The frenulum is generally the most pleasurable and sensitive part of the penis, and typically brings on orgasm faster than the glans (head) can.

For your girlfriend to reach your prostate, she needs to insert her well lubed index or middle finger all the way into your rectum, then push forward with her finger quite a bit, towards your penis, and she should find your prostate there. It feels like a walnut sized and shaped gland, a bit firmer than the soft rectum walls up there. When she presses on it, you will probably feel a nice warm sensation deep inside you, and you may get a bit of a 'need to pee' feeling, which is normal.

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It'll be easier to feel if you're aroused while someone does it, because it will then increase in size. Heck, you can probably reach it yourself to feel what we're talking about. Should help you in knowing how to guide your gf later if she'd be willing to do it. Also, it's important to keep in mind you probably need to be aroused already to feel good from it. Don't expect to feel anything special if you just poke around in there -- as said above, only a lucky few do that. I can definitely say that it can increase the strength and feel of your orgasm a LOT if you have a finger in there while you cum.

Its not that easy to find - it can feel a little confusing up there as to what is what.

You should definitely practice yourself with your own finger, so you know what it feels like, and so you can describe what she needs to feel for better. There is nothing gay about anal masturbation, so don't be ashamed to try it. Most guys do it, and most are straight.

It doesn't really matter which lube you use, but if you use petroleum based, just make sure everyone's hands are clean before putting on a condom. They key is to use lots of lube - the more the better. Make sure both the finger(s) and your anus are well lubricated before you go inside.

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