Most Helpful Girl

Yes, I unquestionably would, if I found the right guy. It is not a turn-off, nor is it an embarrassment.

In fact, the only person that I am "crushing" on right now is a man with Asperger's. I really worry about making it obvious, though... I don't want him to feel trapped or controlled, I'm uncertain if he even likes me, and he has been a little difficult and confusing to read.

I looked at your profile pictures, and you're a good-looking guy, too! Find a nice girl, and nothing will matter.

Thanks for the compliment ;). Sooner or later you are going to have to make it obvious or he is never going to pick up on it. If it is not black and white, he is not going to get it. It is a challenge. Most of my girlfriends have not lasted because it is hard to adjust to someone who processes information in a totally different manner. Best of luck to you. You need help, which you are more than likely going too, I'm on here all the time.

One more thing. Aspergers is a sydrome that effects the thing you are trying to read. He probably does like you back, just is hard to understand because people with Aspergers syndrome lack social skills. So I would not worry too much. Now trying to find a nice girl has been hard for me. I seem to attract all the ones who are beautiful on the outside, but ugly on the inside.

Thanks for the words of advice. I have read a lot about AS, and much of what I need to do also requires me to simultaneously conquer my own fears. My personality type and nature makes it so difficult for me to open up-- but I have to if I want to get anywhere, like you said. He is with the patience, as I am sure you are.

--cafes, workshops, study groups, bookstores, farmers' markets, etc.). When people go to clubs or bars, while there are nice people, there is more often than not a mingling of a certain type of woman. Girls who spend there time partying don't tend to want to (or are able to have) true, lasting relationships. That also goes for women more concerned with material possessions.

Go out of your comfort zone, maybe, and talk to someone you might not have thought about.

What Girls Said 13

I don't want to jump to any conclusions about you.., so I'm not indicating I know what _you_ are like. only that the symptoms I am aware of belonging to persons qualifying under highly functional autism, tend to have character traits I find very appealing.

anyways I like people for who they r, which I can't know from one or two things about them. I'm certainly not going to toss out the idea of being with someone because he has AS. he'd probably have an interesting perspective on things. anyways plenty of people without AS are AHs.

what is your experience with it? in what ways do you think it manifests in your behavior.

My experience with AS has always been my blunt honesty, saying what is on my mind. I have to take the approach, you live and you learn. I have had a couple girlfriends that realized I was way too mature for them. I am ahead of my years. I have an alturistic personaity. I think that comes with it. My experience with it is usually good, just when some girls don't understand it. They think I'm totally wierd.

I actually find it funny that your 'symptoms' could be considered problematic. I really would be thrilled if most people were halfway close to your description of yourself. honestly. I was expecting you to say at least a few things that I might find difficult. but you really sound refreshing.

The positive side of things is you will attract people who genuinely care and have a low thresh hold for bs. you're like a litmus test for decent insightful individuals ;p

ive never tried it. but I don't see why not. if I thought the guy was sweet, and cute, he would be just as "datable" as the next sweet and cute guy. also, everyone has problems, if you are ready for a relationinship you should be ready to handle another person's problems

Thank you :). I appreciate your honesty and your answer. Maybe you should try it. One of my ex girlfriends (who is still a good friend of mine) said it was the most challenging but one of the better relationships she had. You made me feel great. :)

I have a few friends with Aspergers and anyone that would say it's a turn off is a jerk. Find a nice girl who was raised right and she will support you when you have an emotional melt down, and let you be alone when you need it. Basically, don't date a jerk! Good Luck! :)

Thank you :). I really appreciate your answer. Your answer hit the main point of emotional melt down. I have unfortunatly dated one jerk. You live and you learn. You ladies are really boosting up my self-esteem. Thank you :). Your making me feel great :)

No. I've had too many problems trying to date a guy with AS and even one with straight up autism. Not dealing with that again. It's not embarrassing. People with AS or autism can be very intelligent. But autistic people can be pretty annoying.

I feel bad, but I was with a guy who had autism last year. He was really clingy and possessive and he got mad whenever I would want to do something besides spend time with him. We broke up in March and he's still very angry with me. I don't think I could do that again.

I actually happned by accident. I was taken to the hospital for an attempted suicide. It was found that I was on the wrong medicine for many years for ADHD. The psychiatrist was an expert on the disorder, it all happned by chance. Why? I have to ask.

Because I am socially awkward (self-diagnosed social anxiety), but sometimes I wonder if it's something else because my one "friend" from college implied that I had a social disorder a couple years ago.

What Guys Said 6

I'm a guy with Asperger's Syndrome. I was actually born with autism (where I lost my speech for a year, and I was completely anti-social and unable to function socially until I challenged myself to improve). Now, virtually none of the Aspergers traits are noticeable in public. I act normal and people treat me normal.

My thoughts on this.

1. All Aspie men are different. Some have different Aspergers traits than others. Some Aspie guys are idiosyncratic and quirky in a loveable way. Other Aspie guys are just weird and bizarre.

2. Aspie men shouldn't tell the woman he's dating that he has AS too soon. Because he would be casting himself in a label, putting inaccurate and unfair expectations on himself. He should wait until they start to become exclusive and have feelings for each other.

3. While women should try to understand AS as just as possible, tolerate a few mistakes and give him space. AS is not a license to be emotionally absent or a rude d***head.