Is it possible?

I'm just curious on what everyone thinks. Is it possible for a man to be "just friends" with a girl who wants to be more? I've been with my bf for 3 years and we are expecting our first in three weeks. Four months into our relationship we ended up taking a month break per his request. During that time he got involved with another girl and then broke it off and we went back to what we had going. Ever since then him and this girl still talk and text. She always initiates it. But about two weeks ago I got out of the hospital after being there for three and a half weeks for pre term labor. During my hospital stay this girl called an they talked every day, texted all day. He told he had talked to her. Apparently last week she decided to tell him that she wanted to be more than friends and that she misses him every day. Mind you she has a bf that has no idea she is talking to another man she is romantically interested in. My bf tells me I have nothing to worry about. But nosy me. I decided to read his texts to her from today. And I wish I hadnt. Because it did the complete opposite of reassuring me that all is ok and just made me very upset. She apparently wants to meet with him and tell him how she feels in person and he agreed to it! Everything he told her made it sound very clear like he still has feelings for her. I just dont understand because we just talked about marriage and our future together. Is it possible he's jut trying to be nice to her? But then why would he not tell me everything that he says to her or what she says? I'm worried I've possibly just wasted the past three years of my life on a lie and will end up a single mom now.....

I'm just curious on what everyone thinks. Is it possible for a man to be "just friends" with a girl who wants to be more? I've been with my bf for 3 years and we are expecting our first in three weeks. Four months into our relationship we ended up taking a month break per his request. During that time he got involved with another girl and then broke it off and we went back to what we had going. Ever since then him and this girl still talk and text. She always initiates it. But about two weeks ago I got out of the hospital after being there for three and a half weeks for pre term labor. During my hospital stay this girl called an they talked every day, texted all day. He told he had talked to her. Apparently last week she decided to tell him that she wanted to be more than friends and that she misses him every day. Mind you she has a bf that has no idea she is talking to another man she is romantically interested in. My bf tells me I have nothing to worry about. But nosy me. I decided to read his texts to her from today. And I wish I hadnt. Because it did the complete opposite of reassuring me that all is ok and just made me very upset. She apparently wants to meet with him and tell him how she feels in person and he agreed to it! Everything he told her made it sound very clear like he still has feelings for her. I just dont understand because we just talked about marriage and our future together. Is it possible he's jut trying to be nice to her? But then why would he not tell me everything that he says to her or what she says? I'm worried I've possibly just wasted the past three years of my life on a lie and will end up a single mom now.....

To start I'm sorry your going through this...but your not alone. My bf and I are going through this. He talks to this other girl all day every day. I've already been a single mom once but am terrified to do it again...I'm just trying to take things one day at a time ...sorry I'm not much help...best of luck...

To start I'm sorry your going through this...but your not alone. My bf and I are going through this. He talks to this other girl all day every day. I've already been a single mom once but am terrified to do it again...I'm just trying to take things one day at a time ...sorry I'm not much help...best of luck...

I'm sorry you have to go through this at the last few weeks of your pregnancy, it's a horrible situation. I went through something similar with DH. A year into dating he wanted a break too, he started a relationship with a girl who was head over heals in love with him. He broke it off with her and we picked back up. One of the conditions was that he never speaks to that girl again, I suspected them of cheating. He agreed, but I still found texts from her in his phone! I confronted him and packed my things to leave. He chose to stop all communication and ultimately chose me. That is my recommendation to you. There is no reason why that girl had to remain friends with your BF. They were not friends before? And she clearly has romantic feelings forhim. That is an inappropriate relationship that is disrespectful to you and you need to squash it! GL and hopefully it turns out the way you want it to!

I'm sorry you have to go through this at the last few weeks of your pregnancy, it's a horrible situation. I went through something similar with DH. A year into dating he wanted a break too, he started a relationship with a girl who was head over heals in love with him. He broke it off with her and we picked back up. One of the conditions was that he never speaks to that girl again, I suspected them of cheating. He agreed, but I still found texts from her in his phone! I confronted him and packed my things to leave. He chose to stop all communication and ultimately chose me. That is my recommendation to you. There is no reason why that girl had to remain friends with your BF. They were not friends before? And she clearly has romantic feelings forhim. That is an inappropriate relationship that is disrespectful to you and you need to squash it! GL and hopefully it turns out the way you want it to!

Of course it is possible. Believe it or not, men --just like women -- can control their hormones and who they have sex with. But that really isn't the question you want answered. You want to know what you bf will do, and only he knows that. If you have questions, no one here has the answers, only he does.

Of course it is possible. Believe it or not, men --just like women -- can control their hormones and who they have sex with. But that really isn't the question you want answered. You want to know what you bf will do, and only he knows that. If you have questions, no one here has the answers, only he does.

I agree with PP. He needs to end that relationship. It is highly inappropriate and very disrespectful. The only thing I can say on your SOs behalf is atleast he's honest about talking to her....but I really only see this ending badly. He has a child on the way, there is no reason for him to be talking to an old fling.

I agree with PP. He needs to end that relationship. It is highly inappropriate and very disrespectful. The only thing I can say on your SOs behalf is atleast he's honest about talking to her....but I really only see this ending badly. He has a child on the way, there is no reason for him to be talking to an old fling.

It is not ok for your boyfriend to be continuing this relationship when he is starting a family with you. There will be more stress on the relationship after the baby comes so you better make sure he is 100% committed or you will end up very disappointed.

It is not ok for your boyfriend to be continuing this relationship when he is starting a family with you. There will be more stress on the relationship after the baby comes so you better make sure he is 100% committed or you will end up very disappointed.

Its definitely NOT OK. It's one or the other.. He cannot have both. If he has lied to you he will do it again. I don't see how it would be possible to maintain a healthy relationship with trust issues like that but maybe that's just me. There are plenty of men out there that would love you and treat you the way you should he treated. I would not continue the relationship!

Its definitely NOT OK. It's one or the other.. He cannot have both. If he has lied to you he will do it again. I don't see how it would be possible to maintain a healthy relationship with trust issues like that but maybe that's just me. There are plenty of men out there that would love you and treat you the way you should he treated. I would not continue the relationship!

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