Shepherds in a world of change

Mike Couick

Last year, as I began to write in this column about the enormity of challenges facing our state, our nation and, quite frankly, our planet, I tried to bring forth a problem only when I could suggest a solution already “lab tested” in our local communities.

Thankfully, there are plenty of local solutions out there. One common theme I discovered is how community members are helping others deal with the inevitable changes during life. Rather than surrendering to the fear of change, these problem solvers, or “change shepherds,” view life challenges as opportunities for growth and development, and they respond accordingly. They share from the perspective of experience.

I wrote to you about college communities that help students recovering from substance abuse ease into new lives on campus. I wrote about groups like the Distinguished Gentlemen’s Club and its work helping boys grow into young men. And I wrote to you about my own trials with the changes that come in later middle life, and the wisdom I’ve gleaned from Bernie, my canine companion.

The Greek philosopher Heraclitus believed that “change is the only constant.” For many of us, our families, friends and faith communities help walk us through the difficult changes in life. And, for our children and young adults, teachers add another critical layer of support.

I recently shared a meal with a diverse group of retired York County educators. With an average of 37.5 classroom years per teacher, the room collectively represented more than 1,000 years’ worth of teaching experience in every grade level from pre-K to college. These retired educators meet regularly throughout the year to stay connected and engaged, enjoy each other’s company and reflect upon a lifetime of teaching.

Over a luncheon of chili and cornbread, I asked them what would be their prayer for today’s teachers and students. Touching on themes that ranged from parental support to classroom environments, these teachers also addressed the importance of recognizing the needs and life circumstances of each individual student.

With the hindsight that comes from a lifetime of classroom experience, these educators recognize the best legacy teachers can leave their students is the security and confidence that come from being known, loved and understood. By appreciating the unique qualities of each child, these veteran teachers developed true connections to help their students better acquire the knowledge and skills needed to move on to the next phase of life.

“I would pray that teachers have an understanding that children come from all backgrounds,” one of the teachers said. “I’d pray to give teachers understanding of that diversity, making sure the children know you care for all of them.”

Another educator with 29 years’ experience prayed, “I would like every child to have someone to tell them they are loved each day and that they believe in that child.”

Finally, a veteran of 35 years in the classroom offered this touching thought: “My prayer would be that all find a God of their understanding who would show them how wonderful they are—just as they are.”

At the start of their educational careers, our children climb onto a bus and head off to kindergarten, not knowing what to expect. When they are greeted in the classroom by a caring and engaged teacher, that moment is transformed from a point of uncertainty into an opportunity for confident growth. Throughout the school years, teachers help serve as a child’s life roadmap, giving each one the guidance and knowledge necessary to take on new terrain.

Even for those of us who have graduated to adulthood, life continues to be full of changes. Life transitions—whether they are job, health, family or relationship changes—can feel overwhelming. With that in mind, this year’s columns will focus on how we as South Carolinians are growing and changing through the support of our local communities.

Please share your stories and ideas by emailing me at Mike.Couick@ecsc.org, and then meet back here each month for the next installment.