Going Out with Elevator Girl?

Michelle just sent me an email inviting me to a movie. This is totally weird. I asked her if I should bring a date. Was Dan going to be there? She said, no, just the two of us.

Well, I’m fine with seeing a movie [singlepic id=158 w=320 h=240 float=right]but I can tell you right now, there’s one thing I’m not going to do, is listen to her cry on my shoulder about her fiance. I mean, I have no idea if she actually is having problems with him or not. But why else does she want to see me without him? I’m willing to be friends with her, but I’m not going to be some poor sap who listens to a girl he likes complain about some other guy she’s sleeping with.

I hope you can live up to your own promise to yourself … it’s hard not to listen to people you like talk, regardless of the topic. And when it’s a pretty girl they can recite the tuning specifications for a full Javanese gamelan and you’d still be hard-pressed not to listen with rapt attention.

I wonder, though, why she’d invite you to a movie if she wanted to talk about her fiancee … you certainly can’t talk during the movie, and if she doesn’t want to make Dan suspicious she can’t be spending a lot of time with you before and after the movie … unless she lies to him about “going out with her girlfriends” or something, which still seems odd to me because why would she be bitching about him to you instead of her girlfriends? If she wants sympathy she has to know it’s not going to come from you.

EG’s always seemed a little wacky to me so I’m reluctant to hazard a guess on her motivation here, but stick to your guns. If she just wants to bitch tell her you’re not interested and/or can’t help. BUT, Trevor, don’t yell at her if she goes down that path. There’s no sense in getting all riled up and it would just make both of you angry and petulant.

Enjoy the time with a pretty girl you like, and don’t get too invested.