If the child can withstand the alienating parent’s lies and manipulations, then bad parenting is certainly taking place, but Parental Alienation Syndrome is not. It becomes Parental Alienation Syndrome when the child capitulates and begins to participate in the campaign against the targeted parent. This is where the real damage occurs to a child’s developing personality and young mind and heart.

Dr. Richard A. Gardner did pioneering work identifying Parental Alienation Syndrome in the mid-eighties. He characterized the disorder as a cluster of symptoms:

A campaign of denigration waged against the target parent.

Weak, absurd or frivolous rationalizations given for the deprecation.

The child’s lack of natural ambivalence for both parents.

The child displays “independent thinker” phenomenon.

The child reflexively supports the alienating parent throughout the parental conflict.

The child displays no guilt about cruelty to and exploitation of the target parent.

The Alienating parent will exhibit specific behaviors, signs and symptoms than those of the children and the target parent. The following examples of Alienators behavior are called Red Flags. The more of these a parent exhibits or enacts, the higher the probability of PAS occurring. Below is a list of over 150 most often used tactics to alienate children from a parent. A score of 10 or more is an indicator of PAS

Denigrating the other parent in front of anyone who will listen, including the children, as well as calling the TP or step-parent derogatory names in front of the child.

Filing allegations of abuse while constantly dragging the ex into court for child support or alimony. (Note: A truly abused individual wants to have nothing to do with the abuser, making face-to-face confrontation out of the question.)

Stopping any contact with the children and the ex’s extended family or friends who disagree with them

Believing that they are above the law, and that all orders/laws were made for everyone else but them.

Impeding Communication with the children, including blocking access to school records and meetings and events.

Grilling the children about their visit, asking the children to spy or collect evidence.

Refusing visitation because the ex spouse has been unable to afford the child support or not made a payment.

Statements of constant hatred and vengeance about the ex-spouse

Refusal to disclose their home address

Refusal to supply or keep the other parent in the loop on medical issues, educational issues, events pertaining to the child/ren and so on.

Continually referring to the child as their own children and not the spouses.

Continually not enforcing the visitation with the other parent by claiming the children do not want to go (Barring no true abuse is truly going on) and using the excuse that they are not going to force the children to go see their other parent if they do not want to. (Appendix A, No. 3)

Preventing the children from contacting their father by pulling the phone out of the wall, changing their phone number, refusing to allow them to accept calls, refusing to allow them to make phone calls or lying and claiming the children are not home or are asleep.

Discussing and involving the children in court, child support and other legal matters, which they should not be involved in.

Insisting that the children call the new person in the AP's life "Mom or Dad"

Escalating PASing behavior if the NCP commences a new relationship

Insisting that the children NEVER call a stepparent “mum” or “dad”.

Hanging up the telephone if discussions do not follow “their” agenda

When the child is allowed to speak to the TP on the telephone the PASing parent will oversee the call, instructing the child on what to say and how to respond to the TP and force the end of the call if either child or TP fail to conduct the call as the PASing parent deems appropriate.

Deliberately pulling the children away if they meet the target parent out i.e. at the shops.

Avoiding children’s activities i.e. school events as the target parent may be there

Previous evidence of anger management issues

Poor family support network or a family network that supports the PASing behavior

Refuse to communicate via fax, email or letter as to do so will provide evidence in the form of a paper trail of their activities.

Will wait until the last minute to inform the target parent of changes to visitation.

Will feel it is their right to provide the children for visitation late but insist the children MUST be returned to the exactly on time.

Will not provide any information to the target parent about the children’s day-to-day activities but will insist on knowing exactly what the target parent will be doing with the children whilst they are with the TP.

Will choose to pay others to provide childcare and not utilize the TP even if it would be more suitable for all parties.

Will claim the child is too sick to visit the target parent.

Will claim the TP is not capable of parenting the child “Properly”

Cause the child to feel guilt about wanting to see their other parent

Avoid, at all costs, using a neutral drop off / pick up location

Refuse to allow the TP any contact with ‘Professionals’ who are in support of the PASing parent

Not allowing the children to participate in activities, where they may come into contact with children associated with the TP.

Will instruct the school that the TP is not to be trusted, inferring or clearly stating that the TP has lied to others about the PASing parent and children, including putting notes in school files about not allowing contact or pick up by Targeted Parent.

If cornered about providing TP’s information for school records, Protective Services or any other official, the PASing parent will give false or misleading information.

PASing parent has removed pages from a child’s classroom journal that fail to support PASing parent’s ideology and/or support the TP.

Totally controlling the children’s social life

Becoming overly involved with the children’s activities i.e. cub leader, parent support worker so that they are constantly with the children and keep the other parent from attending these activities.

Lie to the children about the separation/divorce including by giving details that are ‘obviously’ untrue which deliberately impede the child’s ability to love the other parent i.e. dad spends all his money on his girlfriends so I can’t afford to let you go to camp.

Involve the children in all the aspects of the separation, divorce and on going legalities whilst claiming the child has the ‘right’ to know what is happening

Claiming the TP is victimizing, stalking, abusing, and harassing them to the point of actually involving the police. Filing of false allegations of abuse, making false and repeatedly harassing complaints to child protective agencies, police and others so as to constantly put the Targeted Parent under attack and investigation.

Encouraging the child to support the PASing parent to lie to authorities on how they are treated when with the TP even though there is no evidence of poor treatment, but just the reverse.

Encourages the child to be defiant, to go on strike, to not comply with the reasonable rules when in the presence of TP.

PASing parent deliberately organizes ‘activities’ for the children on the TP’s visitation time i.e. parties, outings and social gatherings.

The PASing parent will use bribery and enticements to prevent a child from visiting with the TP, and make the child feel guilty for wanting to be with the TP rather than attend an event the PASing parent has organized to happen during TP visitation time.

Not allowing the children to have photos of or objects provided by the TP in the house. The PASing parent will destroy any gifts, photo’s etc should the child bring them home.

When the child receives gifts from the TP and takes them home to show the PASing parent, the PASing parent refuses to allow the child to take them back to the TP’s house or keep them.

PASing parent refuses gifts from the TP and his family, actually making the children return them saying they are no good or cheap or useless and so on.

PASing parent will deliberately condemn the target parent’s gifts or purposely purchase them ahead the target parent so that the target parent’s gift is meaningless.

The PASing parent changes the child’s surname to the ‘new dads’ name without asking or notifying the birth father.

PASing parent will attend TP’s family functions without prior invite despite ‘knowing’ that their behavior will be viewed negatively. The PASing parent will use this negativity to inform the children of the TP’s family’s hatred of them.

Refuses to pick up the telephone when the child is calling from the TP’s residence.

Insist that when the child is with the TP that they have the ‘right’ to excessive telephone contact with the child, yet allow the TP to have little to no telephone contact.

Deliberately changed the telephone number and maintaining a ‘silent’ number without notifying the TP or providing the TP with the number.

The PASing parent tells the child that ‘they hope they will be OK when with the TP, that they shouldn’t need to go to hospital, etc. thus creating an image of fear for the child when with the TP.

Telling the child that “Something” may happen to the PASing parent whilst the child is with the TP.

Alienator blames TP and new partner for stealing home, food, resources from the Alienator and child(ren).

Alienator ignores the child(ren) when they discuss activities with the TP.

Alienator becomes angered when the child(ren) discuss activities with the TP.

Alienator becomes angered when the child(ren) express a desire to see/phone the TP.

Alienator becomes angered when child(ren) engage in mother’s/father’s day activities at school which are focused on the TP.

Alienator becomes angered when child expresses desire for contact with TP to school teachers/mates/colleagues.

Alienator removes child from school and relocates child without cause if the child expressed a desire for contact with TP.

Alienator informs child(ren) that TP is happier without them.

Alienator informs child(ren) that TP does not love them anymore, is never going to see them again, does not want them any more.

Alienator accuses the child(ren) of causing rifts/separation in the marriage.

Alienator informs child(ren) that TP is leaving THE CHILD(REN) rather than the marriage or the alienator.

Alienator accuses the TP of infidelity in earshot of the child(ren).

Alienator writes letters ‘on behalf’ of the child(ren) claiming that the child(ren) have had input.

Alienator actively seeks to ensure that children believe that TP sends no letters, gifts or monies.

Alienator removes and destroys any items sent to the child(ren) through an outside facility (ie. School, grandparent). This usually occurs on leaving the facility and appearing publicly to accept the items for the child.

Alienator actively destroys and discards any gifts or letters that the child(ren) do see.

Alienator insists that the child(ren) refer to TP using only a derogatory term (ie. The Bastard)

Alienator presents school teachers/principals with falsified documents/letters from practitioners or the AP.

Refusing to allow child to bid TP goodbye after visitation with any affection shown in front of Alienator.

Makes derogatory noises/comments when child or TP exhibit affection in presence of alienator.

Accuses TP of displaying affection to child(ren) for ulterior motive.

Accuses TP of PAS behaviours.

Denigrates new partner or partner’s children to PAS children.

)Makes accusations of abuse against TP’s new partner.

Makes accusations of abuse against TP’s extended family.

Makes accusations of abuse against TP’s consequent children or children of new partner.

Contacts TP’s extended family in presence of child(ren) to make false allegations of abuse/neglect/PAS.

Refuses to allow child to give gifts/notes/paintings/letters to TP, new partner, children or extended family.

AP is constantly rude, nasty, controlling and dictates when, where and what the TP can do with the kids during their time. This attitude is also permeated to the children who are rude, nasty, controlling and dictate when, where and how they will spend their time with the TP.Source Link: www.klothconsulting ... attachment

The difference between Parental Alienation and Kidnapping is with Parental Alienation, there is a negative brainwashing campaign against half of the cultural, genetic and heretic side of the child. Parental Alienation comes with life long consequences for the child, in every case.

Doc says, "Need criminal courts to prosecute alienators!"
The parental alienation epidemic is out of control. it is destroying families by the millions! We need tax payer funded criminal courts to recognize and prosecute this terrible crime against the civil rights of children and parents everywhere. This could possibly stop the outbreak of family destruction. #parentalalienation #kidnapping #childabuse http://thechildpriority.com
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Obnoxious ‘Renegade’ Justice ~ Family Courts

The abuses of parents and children by Family Courts, social workers, and family law attorneys have harmed parents and children for far too long. We intend to end that abuse

Family court is designed by its makers to be probably the most dangerous life event parents and children can endure. It enables and profits from every inhumane instinct known to man—greed, hate, resentment, fear—resulting in abundant cash flow for the divorce industry and a fallout of parent and children’s misery.

And behind the curtain of this machine of misery we’ve uncovered its cause—the multi-billion dollar divorce industry, populated by judges, attorneys, and a machinery of tax-dollar fed “judicial administrators,” social workers that George Orwell would marvel at.

We’ve been delivering that message kindly for years now, yet the tide keeps rising on families in crisis. We’ve appealed to the county courts, state and local politicians, state judicial oversight bodies, United States Representatives, and just plain old human dignity, but the harassment and abuse of parents and children has only increased. A resort to federal court intervention in the widespread criminal collusion in state government was the next logical step.

It’s time to recognize Family Court for what it is—a corporate crime ring raiding parents and children of financial and psychological well-being, and devouring our children’s futures. And its not just divorce lawyers—its judges, “judicial administrators,” psychologists, cops and prosecutors—people we should be able to trust—in a modern day criminal cabal using county courtrooms and sheriff’s deputies as the machinery of organized crime.

Since state officials’ hands are too deep into the cookie jar to stop their own abuse, we’re seeking the assistance of federal oversight.

The present-day suffering of so many parents and children has and is being wrought within a larger system characterized by a widespread institutional failure of—indeed contempt for—the rule of law.

Family courts, the legal community, professional institutions such as the state bar, psychology boards, and criminal justice institutions have in the recent decade gradually combined to cultivate a joint enterprise forum in which widespread “family practice” exceptions to the rule of law are not only tolerated, but increasingly encouraged. Professional behavior that would only a few years ago be recognized as unethical, illegal, or otherwise intolerable by American legal, psychological, law enforcement, or social work professionals has increasingly achieved acceptance—indeed applause—from institutional interests which benefit from a joint enterprise enforcing the unwritten law of “who you know is more important than what you know.

In this lawless behavior’s most crass infestation, Family Court Judges are regularly heard to announce, in open court, “I am the law” and proceed to act accordingly with impunity, indifference, and without shame.

The effect on parents and children seeking social support within this coalescing “family law” forum has not been as advertised by courts and professionals—a new healing—but instead a new affliction: an ‘imposed disability’ of de rigueur deprivation of fundamental rights in the name of ‘therapeutic jurisprudence’ funded by converting college funds into a bloated ministry of the Bar Associations leaving families and their children with mere crumbs of their own success.

Many family court judges regularly administer such obnoxious ‘renegade’ justice every day, in open defiance of the rule of law. ‘Sober as a judge’ these days has a whole new meaning.

We need reform toward a more humane family dispute resolution solution

Many of our members are mothers, fathers, and children who have withstood abundant hardship resulting from the current practices of what is generally described as the “Family Law Community.”

These injuries and insults include fraudulent, inefficient, harmful, and even dangerous services; an institutionalized culture of indifference to “clearly-established” liberties; insults to the autonomy and dignity of parents and children; extortion, robbery, abuse, and more, delivered at the hands of eager operators within the divorce industry. ~~ CPRW Vid1 - 2016

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It’s just not possible that intelligent lawyers like judges don’t understand exactly what goes on in their courtrooms, yet they allow it to continue.

This judicial collusion is far more serious crime than even the fraud of divorce attorneys themselves.

We need reform toward a more humane family dispute resolution solution. They’ve treated us as enemies of the state. When we thought we’d be welcomed, or at least heard, we’ve instead become targets of prosecution and terrorist threats. They've assaulted us, harassed our members including threatening “gun cock” and death threat late night phone calls, attacked our businesses, professional licenses, and threatened to jail and extort us with further crime.

It’s outrageous that our own government allows this to happen, and we’re asking the federal court to protect our members as we pursue the civil and criminal charges against the courts. A complete set of filings and exhibits is available from CCFC’s Facebook page at www.Facebook.com/ccfconline ~~ Grandparents and Grandkids World4Justice2016 ~ GR Vid2 -- www.facebook.com/Grandparents4Justice

Jury trials have been unlawfully eliminated as an option in family court by unelected adminstrators, leaving judges to do whatever they want and control the cases completely. The checks and balances of the judicial system have been removed and profit motives win by the gravity of money over decades.

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