It's Friday, Let's Go There: Is a Small Penis a Deal-Breaker?

Every new guy is kinda like Christmas morning. You're super excited to open his, um, package, but what if you discover that Santa left you a small lump of coal this time instead of your own...North Pole, if you will? Do you ditch him?

"I dated a man for about four months who had a really, really tiny penis. Probably 3 inches," recounted a friend. "I wasn't sure I was attracted to him in the first place, so when he turned out to have a really small penis, I decided I wasn't that into it."

"I stuck my hand inside his pants to get a better grasp on the situation. But frankly, the situation was a bit nonexistent," recalled another gal. "I'm not a size queen, but there was just nothing one could have done with that...situation."

"A friend of mine did date someone whose penis was so small that she couldn't feel it' when he was inside of her. The relationship did not last," added another.

A piece of friendly advice: when you do encounter one, please don't talk about it, pleads every man.

"If he's not the guy, just move on to the next. Why hurt his feelings? He knows," one guy friend told me, while another thought it would definitely be hitting below the belt: "I think it would be kind of mean. It's not like the guy can do anything about it."

But what if you really like him?

"A small penis doesn't have to be a deal-breaker at all," promises Claire Cavanah, Babeland cofounder and coauthor of "Moregasm: Babeland's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex." "Great lovers do it right because they pay attention to our responses, care about what we like, and are as enthusiastic about giving pleasure as they are about receiving it."

You know what they say, it's not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean.

Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, agrees, saying that plenty of women have partners who are smaller than average, and they have enjoyable sex. "Many guys who are smaller than average learn other pleasuring skills, such as oral sex, and don't rely on penis alone."

Cavanah suggests adding a vibrating ring to a small penis or using the We-Vibe 4, which hugs the clitoris and G-spot during intercourse for added stimulation. Also, experiment with different positions, such as you on top or doggy style, she adds. Queen recommends trying good ol' missionary but with your legs squeezed together for extra pressure and stimulation. Plus, it'll help make his penis feel bigger.

What's your take? Is size irrelevant as long as he's over 5 inches? Do you prefer a "big" guy (6 to 7 inches and up)? Or is it all about the girth? Take our poll: