Dealing with depression and anxiety

I'm sorry that all this has happened to you. The DMV is a stressful place; I don't have my license yet, but I've been there enough to know it's not a fun place to be. Don't feel bad about not having your license yet; I'm sure you are a good enough driver to pass the on-road test and now that you know how many questions you are going to get, you'll be better prepared for the next time. I hope you get the quiet time to yourself to feel better soon. Good luck.

I hope things eased up a bit, just have faith that you have been doing a good job and you know what to do in these situations.

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Hey you got us your MC family we'll be here for you to offer as much support for you as we can. That's why I prefer animals over people their much more loving, and definitely listen better then people.

My anxiety had been fine for a while, but, since Friday my anxiety has been really high and well, its because on Friday I went to take my written drivers test and failed for the second time and I didn't fail because I didn't know the material, I failed because I was given 10 minutes to do 50 questions and time ran out, plus the lady who directed me to the computer never told me to put on the headphones there which read the questions to you! I cried for the longest time on Friday and pretended to be better a few hours later and have pretended to feel fine since then when I don't feel fine at all. I feel inferior because my best friend drives and so do many other of my friends and the ones who don't drive have recently gotten their permits. I feel stupid and slow. Also, I didn't like how rude the DMV ladies were! I'm very big on lets forget it and move on, but, I can't forget this, I feel sorry for myself and am wollowing in self-pty because I never had my chance to when this 'wound' per say was fresh. I just want to cry and let it out some more, but when I start everyone who sees me tells me not to cry, well, I NEED TO! I'd also like to scream, but I can't do that for several reasons, the main one being that I don't want nodes on my vocal chords (I have done my share of screaming over the years, trust me)

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Omg I call the DMV **** on earth! I hate that place!! I still have yet to go and get my maiden name changed to my married name and get my address changed but I haven't done it why?? Because like you said it's nothing but ignorant people up there who treat you like your stupid!

I'm sorry you didn't get your license if it makes you feel any better when I took my written I failed seven times before I finally past to get my learners. So I know how it feels. But I eventually got it. But getting my drivers license was even worse I failed the test and sprained my ankle all on the same day. And yes I sprained my ankle at the DMV. I swear I wanted to just press the rewind button so I could get out of bed on the right side! It was a horrible day!!! And the girl who I took my driving test with was such a witch I'd say other words but since this is a family forum I'll keep it rated "G."

I'm sorry that all this has happened to you. The DMV is a stressful place; I don't have my license yet, but I've been there enough to know it's not a fun place to be. Don't feel bad about not having your license yet; I'm sure you are a good enough driver to pass the on-road test and now that you know how many questions you are going to get, you'll be better prepared for the next time. I hope you get the quiet time to yourself to feel better soon. Good luck.

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Thanks Chris, I finally did get my quiet time and it was just what I needed, and its the learners permit test I need to pass, but yeah, Friday I'm going again and I'm going to try again! Thanks <3

Omg I call the DMV **** on earth! I hate that place!! I still have yet to go and get my maiden name changed to my married name and get my address changed but I haven't done it why?? Because like you said it's nothing but ignorant people up there who treat you like your stupid!

I'm sorry you didn't get your license if it makes you feel any better when I took my written I failed seven times before I finally past to get my learners. So I know how it feels. But I eventually got it. But getting my drivers license was even worse I failed the test and sprained my ankle all on the same day. And yes I sprained my ankle at the DMV. I swear I wanted to just press the rewind button so I could get out of bed on the right side! It was a horrible day!!! And the girl who I took my driving test with was such a witch I'd say other words but since this is a family forum I'll keep it rated "G."

Its my permit I didn't get, I don't have the license either way :/ I hate the DMV and always will D< I left the place in tears, the lady who told me I couldn't take it again the same day all but SCREAMED at me! Thank you for the support <3

Oh DQM I'm sorry about all that. Is there a way to let the DMV people know about the circumstances behind the test? Not the woman you talked to but maybe call management?
As for crying, don't let anyone tell you it's not okay to cry.*hugs*
I hope you feel better and that you're able to get things worked out with your dad.

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DQM, hope you can face the retest calmly. Like Charlie said, now you know basically what's on it (though they may give you an altered version of it, so don't expect it to be exactly the same test -- though it might be) you should be able to attack it more effectively. Yeah, the 10 min time limit seems harsh. Your state won't let you take it online? And yes...register a complaint...although DMV in every state is notorious for being rude and inefficient. I think they deliberately hire the worst possible people for what is blithely termed civil service!

Sorry your dad is moving your stuff...but it sounds like, with the open door, he's really just worried about you. Take a breath, get in con-trolllll, and try again. You can do this. Hey, I waited for even my learner's permit until I was 18 because I was intimidated by driving, even though all my friends already had licenses and some had their own cars! Just take your time and don't feel dumb.
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Oh DQM I'm sorry about all that. Is there a way to let the DMV people know about the circumstances behind the test? Not the woman you talked to but maybe call management?
As for crying, don't let anyone tell you it's not okay to cry.*hugs*
I hope you feel better and that you're able to get things worked out with your dad.

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Thanks <3 And no, I can't complain and even if I could, nothing would get done, especially in my state.

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DQM, hope you can face the retest calmly. Like Charlie said, now you know basically what's on it (though they may give you an altered version of it, so don't expect it to be exactly the same test -- though it might be) you should be able to attack it more effectively. Yeah, the 10 min time limit seems harsh. Your state won't let you take it online? And yes...register a complaint...although DMV in every state is notorious for being rude and inefficient. I think they deliberately hire the worst possible people for what is blithely termed civil service!

Sorry your dad is moving your stuff...but it sounds like, with the open door, he's really just worried about you. Take a breath, get in con-trolllll, and try again. You can do this. Hey, I waited for even my learner's permit until I was 18 because I was intimidated by driving, even though all my friends already had licenses and some had their own cars! Just take your time and don't feel dumb.
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Nope, my state is very anti-online driving test. Even if we do register a complaint, nothing would happen, trust me, when my Aunt was trying to get her license and all, she was screamed at until she cried for running over a cone when she was already told she had failed her road test! And I mean, I always joke I would be rude to unfriendly customers in a work situation thus losing a job, but, wow! Never had I seen DMV lady rudeness! Even with the lady who yelled at me, I was polite the whole time and asked a simple question in a respectable young-adult manner when my generation can barely form sentences anymore!

I got to start using this Friends and Family forum more. Yeah I totally know what it's like with depression and anxiety. I have PTSD myself (Post Tramatic Stress Disorder) My father and his wife were very verbally abusive, I've had a history of ex-friends who took advantage of me, even recently a guy I knew for 5 years. And even rediscovering my gender / orientation identity of androgynous. Plus being single all my life and never had the oppertunatly of being in a romantic relationship that I always hoped to have since high school and even today at 23. Trying to get art work out there, people steeling it online and them making bullying prank youtube videos and pretending to be me (cyberbullied and trolled) and them stumping on my work, public access TV show people critizing me. etc. I've gone though a rocky road. And always had a therapist since I was a kid and still today.

But recently I found some new hopes.

(1. Just for the record, and of course. lol The Muppets always make me smile, sometimes a happy tear. Even if I feel my worst, for some reason it's like they are there to make me smile for that moment of joy.

(2. Jim Henson's quotes. For the artist in me, Jim had this philosophy that's so making. I strongly recommend "It's not easy being green and other things to conciser.

(3. LoveTypes. This is more for people who are single. But I am so fasinated with Myers Briggs / Carl Jung Personality Science and Androgyny attraction to the point where I discovered what my true love looks like and acts like. Unfortunatly it's the matter of who and where. The science is often used to finding careers but there's this guy by the name of Dr. Avila who wrote this book called LoveTypes and for over 10 years he has discovered ways to get people to the right track in finding true love and even friends. I highly recommend it. A bit pricey at times, but he's super nice and flexible.

(4. Probably the best thing I can recommend. In fact LoveTypes told me about this. To back up for a second. I've had a long history of getting medication that didn't do anything for me but make me drowsy and sleepy and didn't help my depression and anxiety none. Therapists would make me feel better and be sympathedic but nothing stuck to my head. Nothing has made me get out of depression faster than "The Law of Attraction - The Secret", I STRONGLY STRONGLY (*a million times Strongly) recommend the book and DVD.

I'll explain briefly what it is. It's about energy. Humans, outside, electronics, are made of energy. Energy can be magnetic. If you feel happy, happy will come to you like a magnet. If your feeling sad, sad will come to you. If you feel super angry, more stress will come to you. It all starts with being thankful for what you like about yourself and focusing on what you like and not what you don't like or want. Then you make a wish to the universe and wish whatever you want even if it seems impossible, don't second guess, wish it. And focus on it "I'm going to get that, It's coming to me." and you kept doing it. There's no time limit and before you know it, it'll be right in front of you like magic.

Now I totally know that this may sound totally ridiculous, illogical and crappy. But when you check out the book and especially the movie, they answer all those questions of logic. Even I was like, WHAT? But you'd be amazed. I went into a post office thinking positive thoughts and they gave me one of their pens after I told them I liked the style of the pen they had there. I had a wild cat come up to me letting me pet him or her. I've even had Joe Murray of Rocko's Modern Life sending me an email wanting to see one of my short films. I'm still trying to figure it out. But it's starting to get to the point where it's going beyond coinidence.

Like I mentioned, I strongly recommended it.

One more thing. I've woke up full of anxiety and stress feeling the world wants to get me, the world wants to hurt, feeling unsafe, I had the urge to just stay in bed all day so I popped in my Secret DVD and forced myself to watch it and guess what. It's like nice, caring people talking directly to you as if they know who you are and how you feel. It's not "sorry to hear that" but "we know a way to make you enjoy your life to the fullest? We can make you get rich, find true love, true friends and do and get whatever you want".

There was a Jim Henson quote where he said that people sometimes in their lives feel like the world is after them and they are the victum but they need to realize that they are not the victum but they are the one's who's doing it. I remembering thinking WHA? But now it makes so much sense to me.

Remember, you can't change the world, you can't change people. But you can change yourself. My mother usually bugged me with "think positive" and I was like HOW? It all starts with thinking about what makes you happy, wish and dream, have fath, believe, then BOOM, there you go. One order of happy life coming up Sounds crazy, but I think there's something there. Good Luck

Thank you for sharing. I can relate to the struggles about dealing with self-identity and sexuality, as I am going through the process of coming to terms with my bisexuality and how I will approach relationships in the future. It's a tough things to have to deal with, because I've had to question a lot of my behaviors and even some feelings I had for people. Right after I came out to my friends I found myself crushing on someone who I knew could not reciprocate those feelings, and it was tough to deal with for a bit. I hope that you are able to continue on your path of positive thinking and that you will eventually find the right person for you.