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Advice needed

I'm in love with this most wonderful man. He is sweet and caring and very loving towards me. Except when he says that he isn't the right one for me. Or When he reminds me that he only wants to be friends. Can't handle a relationship right now. I understand this. He wants his life to be more stable. I have no problem with that. My friends who have known about us from the start that I talk to all the time say that he is just scared to admit his feelings towards me. That I just need to give him lots of time and he will come around.
He says he doesn't know what he would do with out me. Once he accidentally said I love you too. He says he doesn't want to hurt me. When I back off. He usually comes to me and brings me back into the picture like it was. So I don't understand. What I should expect. He said Let say I tell you I make you a garden and plant many flowers for you ,but when you come there is no garden and no flowers. He doesn't want to promise me a relationship and then it not work out I think is what he is saying. Any thoughts would be appreciated. I have never in my whole life felt like this about anyone. He just got back from New York from visiting his family. He was going to move there but I asked him to come back. While he was gone I told him I wouldn't call him or text him because I wanted him to enjoy his time with his family. But he called me and asked me to call him. We talked almost everyday sometimes 2 times a day. What does this mean? What am I to think? I think he loves me too but is scared he will have another break of a relationship if he admits he has feelings for me. He has been married twice. I know he is a really good man. Even my daughter approves of him. that is really something. Well looking forward to any comments or advice or suggestions. Pray for him(Hoss) and I please! Thank you friends! HUGS&LOVES GOD BLESS

Not even a month. It has been so sweet and seems almost perfect. We are together almost all the time. When we are apart it seems just like it is how things would be. When we get back together again it seems just like it is how it is supposed to be in a loving relationship except the rare comments he makes. Today he came home with a intimacy surprise for me. Wow!

A month isn&#039;t that long. I can understand that you fell in love with him in that short period of time (been there) but I think you should just enjoy him for now. Don&#039;t talk about any long term things with him. Live in the moment and things will work out the way they are supposed to.

Interesting point mummaof5plu Thanks. Yes I agree that talking about future or anything that is long term is a no no. It could just really scare him off. He wants a family and I have already had a family. In order for me to give him a child I would have to have surgery or be artificially inseminated. Which is fine I&#039;d be willing to do that. But not talking about any of those thing anymore. I&#039;ll do just that enjoy the moment by moment and day by day. Thanks for all the support HUGS Keep in touch!

Give him more time. Two broken marriages have probably scared him of deep, personal relationships. You may have deep feelings for each other, but if they&#039;re deep enough, they&#039;ll survive more time. Go slow. Enjoy your friendship and look forward to something more.

Hey Lovely,
Love takes time. I have learned that if ya takes things slowly, you will have a better chance of having a long-lasting relationship because y&#039;all know each other better. Just take your time and Love will find a way to bring the two of you closer.
Hugs, Niecy.

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