Uni Life Series Part 5: Top 10 Things I've Learnt

So here it
is, part 5 of my uni life series: the top ten things I’ve learnt over the last
3 years. The previous posts covered living in halls, friendship, holidays and
the academic side. This post pulls together the whole experience as I look back over my
time studying for my degree. Some are directly course-related, and some are
larger life lessons that I’ll be taking away with me.

Read widely

This has
always been a bit of a motto for me, English geek that I am, but my degree has
taught me even more the value of reading. I have learnt so much from the pages
of the novels we’ve studied, be they about different countries, experiences or
time periods. Reading widely challenges you to ask questions, and that’s something
we all need to do more of.

Take the support on offer

I remember
sitting in the talks at the beginning of university and wondering why I’d ever
need ‘welfare support’ or help from a supervisor for any more reason than filling
in forms. But then your degree runs away with you. I was very lucky to have a
brilliant supervisor. Friends of mine have sat in her office sobbing that they
don’t know what to do with their lives. When my Nan passed away during my
second year, she was there with exactly the words of support I needed. Even if
something hasn’t necessarily gone wrong, it’s comforting to know someone is
there watching over you throughout the course of your degree. Knowing there is
support there if you need it is definitely nothing to be ashamed of.

Don’t leave essays until the last minute

This is a
mantra that’s been drummed into our heads throughout school, but never is it
more important than when you’re at university, with nobody chasing around after
you and a huge volume of work and conflicting deadlines. Yes, there will always
be the people on Facebook the night before the deadline joking about how
HILARIOUS it is that they still have thousands of words to write… but it’s just
not worth the stress. Pace yourself, and just get it done.

Take opportunities to build your CV

University
isn’t just about the academic work, especially if you’re studying a degree such
as English, which doesn’t lead directly down a certain job path. I’ve jumped on
opportunities to build my experiences. I’ve been student manager for my
department, working on the organisation of open days, and have worked during
international orientation week. These skills of organisation, meeting a variety
of people, and general confidence can only be an asset when embarking into the
job world after university.

Don’t worry if you don’t have your entire
life planned out

I only
really decided the path I want to head down work-wise during my final year, and
it’s vastly different from my plans during sixth form. But that’s ok. People
change, people learn, and people discover their own assets. University has
allowed me to realise where my strengths lie, and what I enjoy, which have then
helped me form a plan of what I might want to do next. Realistically, people
change jobs numerous times throughout their working life. Use university to
develop those skills that will allow you to have choices.

You can choose your friends

Not
everybody you meet will be your best friend. Not everybody you meet is meant to
play an integral part in your life. Some people will be your closest, closest
friend, but just for a short space of time. Relationships change as people grow
up and learn more about themselves, and I’ve learnt that I’m fine with that. I
have a cluster of friends that have been around for years, and some I’ve met
during university. There are people I was really close to in sixth form that I
barely speak to now. It happens, and it’s nothing to stress over. Spend time
with the people you want to, and the people who make you happy.

Make the effort with the people that mean
something to you

This is
really a continuation of the previous point, but make sure you look out for
those people that you do care about and want to stick around. Remember
birthdays, get a thoughtful gift, or send them a text on the morning you know
they have that horrible exam. What are friends for? You know you love it when
they do the same back.

You’re not the only one that isn’t having
‘the absolute best time of your life’

All we ever
hear is that university is ‘amazing’ and ‘the most fun years of our lives’.
Parts of it are. But nobody is happy 100% of the time, and it’s nothing to be
ashamed of. As I mentioned in part one of this series, I found myself in a
difficult position with the people I lived with in first year, and I found it
really, really hard. I would then feel almost guilty that I wasn’t completely
loving the experience. Months later, when I spoke about those feelings with
friends, it was all revealed that we’d all felt the same way. Not exactly the
same, but everyone had had their issues or bad days, yet felt like they couldn’t
speak about it because it’s not ‘normal’ for a fresher. Be true to yourself: if
you’re having a bad day, week or month, talk to someone. I promise it’s ok.

You can’t be the best at everything all the
time

At school,
you can juggle a lot of balls at once. You can get As, you can perform in shows
or be on the netball team, you can go to lots of parties, you can be a prefect,
you can…. You can do a lot. But as you move through your university life, the
pressures of each element of your life increase. You have the workload of a
degree, a social life, extra-curricular activities, job applications… You’re
suddenly pulled so hard in so many directions that something has to give. You
have to learn to prioritise. Don’t completely sacrifice huge parts of your
life, but be prepared to bring certain things to the forefront at certain
periods. You cannot do everything and be the best at everything every single
day.

Do what makes YOU happy, not everyone else

The biggest lesson I’ve learned at university is to listen
to myself. I’ve learned to do what is right for me. I was having lunch with a
friend last week, and we agreed that moving into the world of work feels right
for me. I like routine, I’m quite homely, I love going out or going away and
doing things, but then I absolutely love getting home again. For other people,
student life is ideal: they can arrange their own time, cram in as much as they
like, and pull all-nighters to finish essays if they want to. Some friends will
graduate and then spend months and months travelling before deciding where they
want to settle. And we need to all do those things because they are right for
us. I’m learning more and more who I am and who I want to spend time with and
what I enjoy doing. And that is just fine.

Comments

As a second year student I've really enjoyed reading your uni life series :) it's helpful to know that not everyone breezes through uni as well! Are you on Bloglovin'? I would love to follow your blog! x

Aww thank you! I know, I just don't think people think it's ok to admit it's not all just parties and plain-sailing for 3 years :) I keep meaning to sort out bloglovin but I've just not had time yet, it's on my to do list! I'm on twitter though (Sophie_Hawker) so always tweet the new posts xxx

That's quite alright :) I think it's become uncool to admit that it can be a pretty stressful and somewhat difficult experience at times. Definitely do, it's so good for reading and finding new blogs too! If you fancy taking a look then my blog is www.keepitchic.blogspot.co.uk x

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