I don't know how I feel about this.. for you.. On one hand, it's sorta nice not getting those calls.. you aren't dragged into the drama and forced to make a choice of what to do. On the other hand.. it would be nice if you knew what's up and why... but bottom line, she is safe, she is paying her consequences, and although it's not the ideal place for our children, at least we know where they are. I hope you can stay balanced during all this. Hugs, Kelly

I was the same way. Noone in our family has ever been in jail. It was a first for me. We did not bail her out and she spent 4 months there right through Thanksgiving and Christmas five years ago. I went to see her every week and it was the heardest thing I ever had to do. It is a double edged sword, being in jail. On one hand they are safe but on the other they learn so much from the other inmates, stuff that is not necessarily valuable information for us nonaddicts. One thing she told me was: Mom, I will never ever go to jail again. So far, she has not been back. Hang in there, I know how tough it is.

I’m sorry to hear about your daughter. As parents, we can only watch over them. What they do with their life is still entirely up to them. I just hope she’ll learn from the whole incident. Stay strong, Anna!

This matter is truly sensitive to tackle as it touches the life and future of our children. But as a parent, we are the ones who should be looking after them and ensuring their welfare. Whether or not you bail her out of jail is your decision and what you believe is best for her. But, please, don't rebel along with her. Soothe her and make her feel your love. You, as her parents, are the ones who can pick her up, and make her treasure the life she's been given.Buford Embry

About Me

I am in transition to retirement. I retired two years ago at age 55. At that time, I was emotionally recovering from a very hard patch. My mother, mother in law father in law and two very close friends all died within that year.
Now, I am 56 years old and working part time as an adjunct profesor. I am enjoying my semi-retirement.