Month: October 2012

“Dear James, I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now and things are going great…generally. However, I’ve discovered that he talks to his ex at least once a week. Should I be worried? He says they are just friends. Sammy”

Hi Sammy,

Thanks for your question. Ex boyfriends and Ex girlfriends often get in the way of perfectly good relationships. The trouble is that at one point they were an important part of their life. So it’s hard to let go. They were once close friends and he might not see it an issue.

This is absolutely fine as you are both allowed to have friends. Just as long as you are both comfortable with it.

However, he needs to realise that you should now be the most important person in his life. You are his best friend and the one he should talk to if he has any problems.

Tell him you aren’t happy about but don’t be accusative. Explain why it worries you and see how he reacts.

Please remember that he with you because he chooses to. He stopped dating her because it didn’t work out!