Once in a great while I come online and think maybe I would date... I update my profile.. I look around and I usually do not come back! I do not know if I want to date or not! I like being single but I miss some of the things that you have in relationships... I guess I just do not know and probably even believe it wont matter. If the right one pops around it will just be.

What I’m doing with my life

I dont know... it changes daily, only have one, why plan?

I’m really good at

most everything

The first things people usually notice about me

My red hair and my smile

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Ishmael is my favorite book for a short quick fix. Terry Goodkind The Sword of Truth series is great. I love to read but find it hard to do so being a single mom and taking my spare time to write.

The six things I could never do without

Awwww, My kids, my coffee, something to write with, lots of pillows, Tylenol, and silence. I would like to say sex but I do live without it just don't want to! I don't want numbers when it comes to partners I want the right partner.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

The webs we weave. The future and how to get there with the most friction I can muster. Chocolate gummy bears (why not?) Tim Hortons drive through outside my window. Writing a bucket list and finishing it. Watching my children grow and learn, what each lesson will teach me and if I find that person to share my time with, will he think I am totally nuts, and man I hope so!

On a typical Friday night I am

Home with the kids seeking out an episode of House or Dexter. I like dark men who are smarter than all others. I like men who are difficult to please because I do not want a man to fall in my lap. I want a challenge and I want to be a challenge to him as well.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit

Whats the point of privacy if your willing to spread it all over the internet? I am a private person. I enjoy being that way. Gossip about the neighbors with a different neighbor because I am busy not caring who did what to whom. Tell me your secrets when you want me to know them and by then I hope I am ready to tell you mine. The most private thing I can admit is that I do not believe I am ready for more then friendship. I do not want to chat voice and I do not want to meet anyone yet. I will follow my own drum and when its right for me I will let you in on the secret!

You should message me if

You want to be friends and understand that it will be months of hard work getting anywhere with me. I do not believe in instant love and know people can trip often and get hurt just as often so I am not willing to trip on a first impression and will not follow an impulse to run out to the local coffee shop and see who took my breath away. I want something deeper and more intellectual. I want to know the other layers of a person and the person who wants to know my layers will read my profile to the end and then message me if I am worth the trouble to them. Online has made it too easy for people to jump the gun and rush. I do not want a rush, I want something to be right. I will sift through profiles, maybe write to someone who grabs my attention but feel free to write to me if you want mine.