Matthew56 saidRight someone who I am friends with on Facebook recently made a status saying that two ex gay men that he knows are now happily married to women

So got me thinking has anyone ever thought about leaving gay life and having a future with a wife. As they get older

I have a better idea. Instead of living a lie and dragging a straight woman down with you... How about you leave your bags at the curb (where they belong), then learn to love yourself, so you can allow someone else to love you too.Find a nice guy and marry him. I think you'll find it a lot more fun and enriching.

Matthew56 saidRight someone who I am friends with on Facebook recently made a status saying that two ex gay men that he knows are now happily married to women

So got me thinking has anyone ever thought about leaving gay life and having a future with a wife. As they get older

For starters, your Facebook friend is gullible for believing such baseless bullshit. As for the two ex-gay guys being happily married to wives, yeah until the novelty of being married to the opposite sex wears off. Than you will see both these ex-gay guys reverting back to their natural sexual orientation of being attracted to their own sex. Than their loving wives will start wondering were their wayward husbands are later in the evening.

Matthew56 saidRight someone who I am friends with on Facebook recently made a status saying that two ex gay men that he knows are now happily married to women

So got me thinking has anyone ever thought about leaving gay life and having a future with a wife. As they get older

For starters, your Facebook friend is gullible for believing such baseless bullshit. As for the two ex-gay guys being happily married to wives, yeah until the novelty of being married to the opposite sex wears off. Than you will see both these ex-gay guys reverting back to their natural sexual orientation of being attracted to their own sex. Than their loving wives will start wondering were their wayward husbands are later in the evening.

Hey it can happen a gay man can fall for a woman and just as a straight man can suddenly fall for a man. Has it ever occurred to you that sexuality for some people is fluid and tastes can change overtime

I've only known one or two guys who did that, and only one of them well. Very unusual, but interesting.

There are a few famous examples. There was gay adult movie star Jack Wrangler, who always considered himself to be gay but was married to famous lounge singer Margaret Whiting from 1994 until Wrangler's death in 2009. And there's the English theater director, who is gay but platonically married to a woman. It would not be my choice, but that's no way to judge another's life. Can't believe how many angry haters there are on this string, making assumptions about others' deeply personal choices and using those assumptions to judge them. Not pretty.

Left out of the info on this situation is the set-up of the marriage - open? monogamous? play together? abstinance on both parner's parts? Don't confuse emotional love and sexual attraction as being one and the same. Also, don't downplay the importance of emotional love in someone's life. Having gone through a similar situation when I was coming out, my last gf (who, to this day, I still fall in love with when we meet) is still my most sound and strong emotional bond outside of the one with my sister. This woman is a soul mate in my emotional world. Before we 'broke up', we discussed the possibilities of marriage - an open and honest discussion of what each of would want and possibly need in such a relationship. We both acknowledged uncertainty about the sexual side and how to deal with it. Our decision to honor our emotional bond is one that to this day has helped each of us in our ensuing relationships.

Matthew56 saidRight someone who I am friends with on Facebook recently made a status saying that two ex gay men that he knows are now happily married to women

So got me thinking has anyone ever thought about leaving gay life and having a future with a wife. As they get older

HOW long have they been happily married to women? Unless it is five years or more, I'd be skeptical.

There are many men who have asserted that they have changed their sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual then, a few years later, stated that their original assertion was simply wishful thinking and that they have not actually changed. Men who are somewhere in the middle may be able to shift slightly and there may be rare cases where men who are very fluid have made more radical changes. It's a good idea not to be too sure.