seperated then got back together?

Has anyone separated and then got back together and had it all work out?

I just had a nightmare time on holiday with my now recent ex threatening to tell our son when he's older that I didn't want him and he was also saying he's getting a Dna test. I've never even kissed another guy

Both things are ridiculous and untrue, I did want our son and never cheated. I have no idea where any of it is coming from.

I've made him leave our home now that we are back from hols because I just can't cope with that level of emotional abuse

Is there any hope do you think? Have any other couples separated for a while then been able to work it out?

I am willing to work on it for the sake of the kids but... Atm I'm disgusted with him. Can't look at him. I don't like men like him and I know that you can't force anyone to change so I just feel a bit lost How do I make him realise that he's wrong? His excuse is that men are always looking at me so that's why he wants a Dna test now

Jesus, that's an awful thing to say to you child has be always being this jealous? He's willing to dump his own inane insecurities about you on to his child, I dunno that id be willing to get past that,never mind how nasty it is he's damaging your child by making those kind of statements there is something seriously wrong this.

To answer you question, sure some couples do separate and get back together there has too be good faith on both sides to work through the problems that caused the problems in the first place.

I don't now based on the small amount you've said thus far there is an awful lot worth fighting for. `Does he have any redeeming features.

Is is possible he's no real intent in sorting this out his words don't come across as someone looking to save a relationship.

Well what he said was... I will tell him when he's older that you didn't want him. This is our 9 month old he's talking about and that he's getting and dna test. Oldest child heard it all as well as his parents. So embarrassing and annoying since none of it is even based on a shred of truth.

He's wealthy. He and I both put a lot of money into the house, I'd get half the house but realistically I couldn't afford it on my own so while he can't make me leave I know I can't afford it and would have to move

I have loved him but I feel like no one deserves to be accused of crap like this and it's too much

Yeah I'm staying strong and continuing the separation. I just wish there was some way to make him see that it's not on he doesn't care about me that much is obvious but besides moving on and out, is there ever any hope?

Fully agree with Freda.ExH & I split twice & I went back twice (emotional manipulation & blackmail, basically) & we had a couple of even crappier years together before I plucked up the courage to end it for good.Don't waste years, please.

ExH and I separated, got back together. It was never what either of us hoped it would be and we did end up divorced in the end. I think once you separate, you know you can finish with him, and he'd have to be really fantastic for you to be convinced to stay permanently.