Why are ppl ages 14-17 saying they are getting married to this person they are dating and they are engaged. i mean..you don't know if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. and you don't the decesion is made upon emotion, even though we all say we are mature and that doesn't go for those who are older than 17; it doesn't mean we are ready for that type of commitment.

i just don't get it..

09-14-2008, 06:49 PM

Diocletian

It's called Georgia.{You can marry at a young age}I don't know.Reality TV show?I smell one coming.

09-14-2008, 06:55 PM

Jose

It's an influx on overflowing sex hormones, they trick people into thinking they are in love, that way they are more likely to reproduce, which is pretty much the main goal of any lifeform in current existence (that's why they are still around)

I don't really understand what the whole age frame is for, pretty much all teenagers act this way, some are just better at controling than others. To be Frank people can never be absolutely sure they married the right person.

09-14-2008, 06:59 PM

ria1

Yeah, teens thinking about marriage are crazy, that's why kids shouldn't date until they're at least 17. But what about people in their twenties? Can they really spend the rest of their life with one person if they get married in their twenties? I think it's a big mistake, but I find myself drawn to men younger than me, and they're attracted to me too. I just think people in their twenties should spend time having fun, nailing down a career, finishing school, partying, whatever. But suppose I'm wrong?

09-14-2008, 07:00 PM

Acnologia

I noticed this too, its so freaking annoying. Marriage isn't something you just throw around, its a COMMITMENT. Stupid freak pubescent punks don't even know what the word means. I have a friend saying her boyfriend is her fiance, so shes leik "I'm going out with my FIANCE" I wanna bash her skull in. >.>

09-14-2008, 07:03 PM

kaori_tenshi

I'm only 14 and I'd never think about marrying my boyfriend. Why? Well, chances are I'm probably not going to be with him for the rest of my high school life probably. But also, I need to have a stable job or if I go to college, finish that before I even THINK of marriage. I think its bizzare that people my age range are thinking of marriage so early! O_O

09-14-2008, 07:03 PM

Diocletian

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Originally Posted by Cross Marian

I noticed this too, its so freaking annoying. Marriage isn't something you just throw around, its a COMMITMENT. Stupid freak pubescent punks don't even know what the word means. I have a friend saying her boyfriend is her fiance, so shes leik "I'm going out with my FIANCE" I wanna bash her skull in. >.>

You see in America we have something called over-confidence.We can just throw out money and say "I love you" like a sneeze.Divorce is very high priced and men and women will do anything for s3x, including marriage.The marriage your parents had will never be as beautiful as this day and ages.{I assume they are married}
Here is the divorce rate:http://www.divorcereform.org/rates.html

09-14-2008, 07:06 PM

Gizoku

O-o; They just jump the gun. Oh those pubescent kids, trying to get married before their prime. That and the love just blinds 'em.

09-14-2008, 07:07 PM

♫mëkÅ-chan♫

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Originally Posted by kaori_tenshi

I'm only 14 and I'd never think about marrying my boyfriend. Why? Well, chances are I'm probably not going to be with him for the rest of my high school life probably. But also, I need to have a stable job or if I go to college, finish that before I even THINK of marriage. I think its bizzare that people my age range are thinking of marriage so early! O_O

it happens! it nees to cut out and it's not just with the heterosexual couples, it the bi, lesbian, gay couples as well. but we can't control hormones like Jose101 stated and i think all they need to do is look into the depth of marraige in general, and will they do that?

lets see 1:100000000000000000000000000 would probably do that.

09-14-2008, 07:15 PM

44NekoStarr66

all i have to say is that it's most likely that they want you to believe this so you will be jealous because they have the "perfect" boyfriend or girlfriend so they say we will stay together so long we will get married. i think this is foolish and those kids should be told that they are just running nonsense through one ear out of the other when they tell people this stuff. ive never heard of people doing this before, but i can tell it's annoying by the way everyone is putting it. why can't anyone just be swingers in life?

You mean attention grabbers.
Most 15 year old girls might think kissing another girl grabs Todd's attention if she kisses Becca her "BFF".Not true.You can't be fully sure if your gay or bi unless your determined and don't find people of the opposite sex attractive.

09-14-2008, 07:19 PM

Fiery

A lot of kids think that the fun, bubbly, happy feeling they get when they are with their significant other is love. Those are called hormones. However, they think they are making a rational decision since they've been in a relationship for, oh, maybe, five, six, nine months - a year and a half. As you get older, your hormones stop rampaging your system as much, and that bubbly feeling fizzles out a lot faster. Real "love" takes work. (Paraphrasing parts of a conversation I had with Princess Minako) If you can still tolerate, even enjoy, the person you are around after those feelings fade and die out, then consider it. It's not until after those hormones settle down that you start to realize that those "cute" things your significant other does are not so cute. In fact they are annoying and drive you crazy.

Also, I don't advise marriage before the couple lives together.

<3 you Mina

09-14-2008, 07:41 PM

blueangel06661

I know a girl thats getting married soon. Shes in the 9th grade. She got preg. so "It's the right thing to do".. please. The right thing to not get that way in the first place..

09-14-2008, 08:03 PM

Beast

If the father doesn't propose for you with the shotgun... It was never meant to be

09-14-2008, 08:39 PM

~*Red*~

I agree - I reckon you have to get to know that person before you make sort of decision about getting engaged or marrying.

09-14-2008, 08:49 PM

Lord Fluff

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Originally Posted by blueangel06661

I know a girl thats getting married soon. Shes in the 9th grade. She got preg. so "It's the right thing to do".. please. The right thing to not get that way in the first place..

Welcome to the half of the city I live in. Seriously, girls are getting pregnant n freaking 8th, its disgusting.

I agree with the hormones thing, and also its that as a teenager your frontal lobe hasn't fully developed yet. The frontal lobe is what makes a person rational, so if it isn't fully developed then you don't realize that your stupid decisions are stupid, you think they're good.

09-14-2008, 09:00 PM

dream magician

Mycousin got married in our 3rd year in highschool, we were 14 by then. He got our teacher pregnant.
I do not know if he regretted that actions of his.

09-14-2008, 09:03 PM

Diocletian

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Originally Posted by dream magician

Mycousin got married in our 3rd year in highschool, we were 14 by then. He got our teacher pregnant.I do not know if he regretted that actions of his.

That's not wrong.That's cool.I wouldn't regret it.Why am I making short sentences?

09-14-2008, 09:11 PM

Yoko Littner

Yea, saying ur gonna get married at such a young age is stupid.

Like once a girl I know got pregnant when she was in 8th grade.

But maybe some of the people who say that are truly in love, like true love.

Some of them are, and some of them are not.

09-14-2008, 09:19 PM

Kitezer

Not everyone thinks they are going to marry the person they are dating. And I say 16 should be the age when you are supposed to date. But really age is nothing but a number. I am not really in any position to judge others so I just say they can do what they want and I just hope things don't turn out bad for them. It would be best though if the person they are dating doesn't expect to marry him/her. I was dating my ex when I was 16. Dec. 24, 2005 to Aug. 24, 2008 she dumped me. I am still really sad about it. But at least my ex is happy. I still talk to her daily since she wants to stay best friends at least. I was hoping to be with her forever at one point I was hoping to marry her as well. So I myself am at fault. It hurts a lot just thinking about it. I guess when you love someone so much you don't realize what you are thinking. And no the girl I was dating was not my first girlfriend but she meant a lot to me and she was my first kiss as well. >_< But yeah... I am just tossing my 2 cents of thought out there for everyone. But I can understand what you mean I know a few people who are dating and think they are going to marry that person. But anything can happen I mean yeah it sounds stupid but the person I know, their relationships are actually lasting a long time for them and I wish them good luck.

09-14-2008, 10:35 PM

vixen_wolf

eh they just think there in love and are ignorant it like will never work out. (never met one who it has anyways) dude they usually figure it out...hopfully. dont take them serious.....just smile and say yuh-huh im shure you will, good luck with that...most will get that yer leing

09-14-2008, 10:51 PM

MissAstaire

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Originally Posted by Beast

If the father doesn't propose for you with the shotgun... It was never meant to be

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My dad has a shotgun. He uses it for intimidation reasons. :<_<:

I don't know. I personally think it is ridiculous. Why anyone would want to get married before they themself have a stable life is beyond me... I don't want to think about who I spend the remainder of my life with, cos then I get very analytical about everything and I freak out about the future. But what I do think about is my life up until that point. But getting married is way down on my list of things to do anyway. 28, 29 years old at least.

[This is just my opinion. Please do not take is as an attack to those who have/are getting married young.]

09-14-2008, 11:03 PM

LittleGirl

I don't understand it either. After high school you're still figuring out who you are and shouldn't be even thinking about marriage.

My old best friend got married a few weeks ago. She just graduated high school this year. Only just turned 18. So, basically she was prom dress shopping and wedding dress shopping at the same time...but I do respect her decision, even if it's insane in my opinion. As long as she's happy I suppose.

09-14-2008, 11:06 PM

TherapeuticeVent

Well, even those who are older than 17 can call themselves mature and still not be. I know plenty of 19/20 year olds who think that they are ready to handle a "mature" relationship and then find themselves up a creek after about four months in and they aren't willing to do what it takes to hold onto the relationship.
It's ridiculous for people who have been dating for however long to just state that they are "going to marry" their significant other. But..sometimes, it's just how they feel. They can state it and believe that it's gonna be true, but they'll have a rude awakening when Joe doesn't love them "that way" or Sally "just loves you like a friend". It happens.

09-14-2008, 11:33 PM

My Name is Ian.

Uhm - I'd rather be single up till 40s since I have gigantic ambitions =w=; Maybe I'll be single for life. I'm more of a career person ^w^;

Well - somebody believe that they'd get "destined-lover' or whatever they call'em - during adolescent. I think it's practically silly, 'cause you'd actually have to go through your life of 50-60 over something years... And you'd be sinking underneath the seabed of hell if your lover ever leaves you in that particular time, and you'd be thinking "I won't get to love somebody ever again for the rest of my life" or blah-blah. It's really ridiculous, when you come to think of it. However, people tend to believe in these nonsense. Rationally, we should get a partner at the age of 20-40(X)s - it'll be a lot more safer, 'cause if your lover ever leaves you during Xs then you won't be lurking around your bed, thinking that you won't be able to get a lover again. People are mostly matured in the Xs so they wouldn't think of breaking up as the end of the world.