Q I WENT out with Ben for three years and we split up six months ago after I discovered he had been cheating with someone from work.

He moved up North, where his family are from, met another woman, had a whirlwind romance and got married last month.

The trouble is, he and his wife are going to be at a friend's baby's christening in July. I'm the godmother so I have to go, but I don't think I can face seeing him with his wife.

I haven't dated anyone since we split and, to be honest, I don't think I've got over Ben. I still cry myself to sleep sometimes thinking about him. How can I get through this?

Lizzie

A I'M so sorry, Lizzie, it's going to be tough for you. Six months is no time at all when you've had your heart broken, is it? I think you have two options.

First, you could be honest with your friend and tell her that you simply cannot go if Ben does.

If you pull out now she may still be able to find a replacement or a proxy so that you can still be godmother. But she will be terribly upset, and I suspect that you would bitterly regret missing the big day too.

Do you really still want Ben ruining your life?

Get yourself a great hairdo, fake tan and some beauty treatments and go along looking confident and gorgeous.