Hii, I am a Malayalee working in UAE. I am visting US in an year,as it is a totally new country I am looking for sincere and good malayalee friends in USA who will guide me in settling down. Pls. Email- anilrij@rediffmail.com

Dear Anil, Sincere and good friends are a rarity these days, and the post-Sept. 11 situation in the US has made everyone very cautious in dealing with strangers. A few tips to you though:

1. If you are planning to settle down in the US after arriving there on a visit visa, be prepared to find a lot of newly erected hurdles. By definition, it is going to be a tough process. Don't ever fall for "social security number" scams which involve false declarations. Verify, cross-check and authenticate every "offer." Make absolutely sure that all the particulars you provide are correct, including the spelling of your name and address -- that is extent of scrutiny-oriented precautions you got to adopt these days. 2. Turning an H category documents into an approved residence status visa stamped on your passport could not be done within the US. You have to leave the country and get the visa stamped on your passport from either India or the country where you have a proven residence record of more than two years. Do not be lured by anyone who thumps his chest boasting it could be done. It could not be done unless you are hired by the US government or some of its agencies like the CIA, the FBI, NASA etc. 3. Be wary and exercise caution while dealing with Indian "immigration specialist" lawyers in the New York and New Jersey areas. There are of course excellent lawyers, but some of them "specialise" only in fleecing new arrivals and often end ! up showing little for your money and leaving you high and dry with suffocating legal jargon that would make no sense except that it is too late for anything to be done. 4. I might not need to tell you this since you seem to have visited the US earlier. In any case, spend your first days observing people's behaviour, including the right of priority of others in every situation. Some could really get violent and nasty if you try to jump queue, even unwittingly. Always remember, individual freedoms and rights in public places are most sacred among Americans; indeed, it works both ways - you respect others and others would respect you. Well, my friend, I would not want to assume myself as a immigration consultant, except to add that the current period might not be the right time to seek to settle down in the US unless you have a fully endorsed residence visa. Best of luck.

Another thing, never trust ANY Malayalee in the U.S., infact don't trust any malayalees! They are low theetum-eating b*stards who are two-faced! All they do is gossip, fight in palli, politics, and other stupid things. Most immature people on this earth! (A good example are Malayalees in LAKELAND, FLORIDA!) Because of these ignorant theetum dwellers, I am ashamed of being Malayali! Just be careful with Malayalees in the U.S.!

CAN WE HAVE DIRECT FLIGHTS FROM KERALA TO USA INSTEAD OF MUMBAI OR DELHI? KERALITES ARE PUNISHED TO GO THRU MUMBAI OR DELHI OR GULF SECTOR?

WHY NOT DIRECT DAILY FLIGHTS FROM KERALA TO NEWYORK, ATLANTA, HOUSTON OR CHICAGO???? WHAT IS THE GAME BEHIND THESE KERALITES HAVE TO GO THRU MUMBAI OR DELHI OR GULF TO COME TO USA OR EUROPE? KERALITES IT IS TIME TO HAVE DIRECT FLIGHTS FROM COCHIN ! OR TRIVANDRUM. IF YOU ALL STAND TOGETHER IT IS A BLESSING FOR EVERYONE AND HELPS TO REDUCE THE TIME AND CHANGING AIRPORTS AND FLIGHTS.

IF YOU ALL GET THIS MATTER FIXED WHAT A RELIEF IT WOULD BE!!!!! GOOD BYE TO BOMBAY LOBBY!!!!

We all malayalees in USA need a daily direct flight to Kerala and back without touching Mumbai or Delhi or Chennai airports.

The lobbies against this plan should be diffused in India. Malayalees wake up please..!! Your passive mode is lobbies success mode. Do not give chance to these dirty crooks to kill this plan. Bad Politics and Lobby for how long are they going to stop Kerala flights to USA???? Mathews Kalapurackal

Ref:to Robz comment.. You are quick to blame the younger malayalee generations. But u know we do understand that older generation! s that are here have lotz to adjust to coming from a different culture and traditions. But the thing is having to adjust to this country dont mean you have to become World class news provider of Malayalee gossips. Most malayalees out here be all nice to you and then turn around and talk about you to the other families and most are like scavengers(always looking out to catch whatever gossips coming their way so they can make it 9 kilometers longer and spread it around. I am talking from real life experiences. It's ok to Associate with malayaless in US as long as you keep your distance. Most malayalees anywhere in this world cant be trusted fully because they make Gossip their main priority.

dont think all malayalees are low class..most of the young generation thinks malayalees are low class and dont know how to act infront of other peoples.we came from a different culture and its hard for most of the malayalees to adjust the living style.

My name is santhosh and i live in NY city, any malayalees above 30 yrs old interested in a decent friendship? Only matured people pls. -------------------------------------------------- Date: September 20, 2006 at 11:10:34 From: gane, [ool-182c1456.dyn.optonline.net] Subject: Any Malayalees From USA? hi santhosh i am gane.i like your maturity wishes.I hope u have a lot of matured friends.any how best wishes. bye -------------------------------------------------- Date: August 08, 2006 at 23:30:19 From: Paul, [207.91.218.167] Subject: Re: Any Malayalees From USA? Hi Santhosh, I am Paul, 38 yo and live in West Bloomfield, MI. I grew up in Trivandrum, and am a graduate of Trivandrum Medical College. Keep in touch! -------------------------------------------------- Date: November 30, 2005 at 07:29:46 From: crowning glory, [83.110.233.138] Subject: Re: Any Malayalees From USA?

y only abov 30yrs...r u a kid???????? -------------------------------------------------- Date: August 04, 2006 at 03:27:26 From: Santhosh, [147.24.35.104] Subject: Re: Any Malayalees From USA? Hope you 'd be reading this message;

I am Santhosh and over 30 but often question myself about my maturity.

Keep in touch -------------------------------------------------- Date: November 26, 2005 at 21:58:11 From: Binny, [adsl-69-226-232-214.dsl.pltn13.pacbell.net] Subject: Re: Any Malayalees From USA? Hi I live in Santa clara ,aged 43 working as an IT auditor. Stay in touch.

I am working at the Technopark in Trivandrum as a Team Leader. What r u doing in NY? -------------------------------------------------- Date: February 26, 2007 at 21:43:02 From: mat, [hhcfwfshrd-pat.nychhc.org] Subject: Re: Any Malayalees From USA? HI FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME. I WORK IN NYC AND LIVEIN UPSTATE.

I am a Keralite born and bought up in Mumbai, India. Currently working in the telecom domain with a total work experience of 14 years in Sales. Trying to migrate to USA for good, will appreciate if i can seek information on the best and correct way for an immediate migration.

First of all, not all malayalees are like that..some of them are very nice and can be trusted, depends where they were raised and their views, there are some I know who are like that, but what is said is true, many I have seen spread shit and turn their backs against you..yes they will be nice, but then they proudly gossip! Many of them brag about themselves and put down others who don't meet their standards either. They also compare their kids and trash down those who don't meet the typical malayalee "standards". If your kid is not a doctor or nurse which many claim all malayalees have to be=failure in life. Even a teacher, lawyer, accountant..etc is not acceptable! Does not speak malayalam or marry a non-malayalee=means you hate Kerala. I like everything about malayalee culture, but I don't follow everything in it like those living Kerala, which people think they can make their kids into if raised abroad. I was never raised there so I can't live like them, but I have tons of respect for it. My views will always be different from theirs and they need to understand that, but don't. And I can't enjoy the culture w/o being hounded on!

I am malayalee by ethnicity but born and raised outside Kerala. I got lucky there. Kerala would have been God's own (not country) ...because not to forget mallus are first recognised as Indians. It would have been an okay culture to put-up with if the people didn't shove their beliefs and traditions down the throats of their children and other ethnicities in India and the world. These traditions they believe in usually spread hate, gossip, racism and unfair practices and a love for the sand. Most I have seen trample even their sibblings to win a peace of the family property. I am a victim of this from my paternal and maternal relatives and heard from most mallu family friends.

I am a Malayalee having IT background. I have spent my quarter life in Northern India. Now i am back to my native village with family though we were planning to migrate in NZ once! During my stay in North India, I seldom hear from malayallees saying that they were willing to re-settle to native place to lead a homely life if they had a choice, but for some reason or the other only few of them could materialise it!. I was also one of them withough a choice till recently! While in outside Kerala, one can keep a CV to get a job for his livelyhood but it is irronical that no CV with lifetime experience has got any takers here. Also that vast experience become nil experience to unerstand the re-settlement process. As we know, due to IT advancement, it is not at all necessary to go US or any other country for that matter by facing all hussiles to find a job for livelyhood. The realtime example is in fornt of us. Most of our call centers in our country are depending/undertaking other countries job and is being done it in India as if we are in their countries.

Being from the IT field, I was always thinking of finding good ideas (even the advaced version of callcenter-but to setup a callcenter like office at home)- the World's Greatest labled ideas - through which every Keralite living outside can settle back to their native village by utlising such advanced learning so that they can experiance their presence at both the worlds. In gist - Integrating IT with farming in homeland - An idea that might revelutionise us for the period to come!

Incase if you are feeling and thinking like me I can share you one such World's Greatest labelled ideas that i have come across in my life and I am satisfied with it. You can send me a mail to share more details at mailid for your study: callmekom@yahoo.com

Hi malayalees, i am subeer, and i am a keralite looking for any job in usa.i have completed only plus two. Now i am working in mahindrasatyam chennai.i am ready to do any job in usa only if any nice malayali will offer me or arrange me a nice job. With regards subeercalicut1@gmail.com

Hi malayalees, i am subeer, and i am a keralite looking for any job in usa.i have completed only plus two. Now i am working in mahindrasatyam chennai.i am ready to do any job in usa only if any nice malayali will offer me or arrange me a nice job. With regards subeercalicut1@gmail.com

Hello, Am jomy abraham am a green card holder i am living in oklahoma but like to move to houston any one is there for me to help to find out an apartment,i also like to live in malayaly communities.. please help..

me too.. where can i find resources online to learn malayalam ? it's for my own kid who's currently abandoned by his mallu father for reputation and money purposes i believe. (not to offend anyone but i know not all are like him...)

just to share:

My ex boyfriend reasoned out about being disowned and all. He wanted an abortion but I do not want to do it so I end up alone. I am not regretting because I now have a son. I'm just thankful that I am highly educated and my finances are not a major problem to think about. He's doing nothing in his life now. He said he wasn't allowed interracial marriages and if ever he would be disowned, he knows he cannot survive without his parent's money. He's got no balls and he has no shame because he continued his other relationships to some other girls (from my race - take note: he claimed that he's not allowed inter racial stuffs but look at his actions)while being an irresponsible father to my kid (by the way, he 2-3-4-nth timed me). He was not disowned but he hated me much for informing his family. I do not understand why people need to act clean in front of everyone else in Kerala even if they are really rotten inside. I don't want to mention names but it really damn hurts to be left out. Having no money isn't an excuse. A guy's greatness is not measured by the amount of his paychecks but by the effort he exerted. In this case? He never even asked about the baby. Shame on him. By the way, he wanted to have a clean reputation in my son's eyes as well as to his future arranged marriage wife and in laws if there are any Indian girl he and his family could fool. (actually, one girl wrote to me : pretended to be his wife and she received harsh words from me). His parents? I think they are acting as if they know nothing. They are well educated but I cannot see the democracy in their lives. Is that really harsh in Kerala? He is such a black sheep. What do you call a guy who's willing to turn his back to his firstborn son? Is it because that it's outside wedlock? Gosh.

Hey ifellinlovewithamalayee, We have something in common. I wouldn't say I fell in love, but I had an affair with a malayee. He also refused to acknowledge our son. He was only giving me child support to shut me up. Finally, the filthiness of it got the best of me and I used Facebook to tell his family. They are all scumbags. His cousin tried to bribe me, everyone else refused to communicate with me. His parents have made no effort to inquire about their grandson. He begged me to tell everyone I was lying and promised he would tell after he got married. SO PATHETIC!!! He got engaged and didn't tell the poor girl. He blamed me for all his problems with his fiancee and parents when it was his own fault for keeping it a secret. He's a spoiled, arrogant, immature, chavanistic scumbag. I hope I destroyed any chance of him getting married. I hope he lives a life of loneliness and regret for not embracing his beautiful son. I have not received child support for this month and I fear he has run to india to escape his financial obligations. If this is the case I am planning to write another round of emails. This time I will include ALL the embarrassing details of our encounters. As a liberated American woman, I am not ashamed to embrace my sexuality and have nothing to hide. There's no revenge too great when a man deprives his child of the love, support and pride of his own creation. This Mofo is going down harder than he already has.

By John Mathew Kothazham on Tuesday, April 24, 2012 - 07:00 pm:Edit Post

To 'Ifel...' and 'emilyokam' I WAS a malayalee. I understand exactly what you both are feeling. I feel your pain. These guys are cowards. And this community mostly is fake, disloyal, arrogant and hypocrites. I hated this community and I have ended all my relationships and associations with this people long ago. These people go all over the world to make money and have no loyalty towards the countries they migrate to. They don't like America except its Dollar. Then they go back to India and build their concrete mansions. Now they are realizing that their own kids that growing up here doesn't lke their two- faced dirty craps. They are just low life gossippers and air- heads. No other communities in the world are good in their eyes, but them. Back-stabbing is their hobby. Consider you lucky to be away from them. It is not just the men, women are not all that good either in that community. Liberated American women ,at least, don't fake like these "modest" ones. They are mere actors and pretenders, again mostly. Yes they are rotten inside like white-washed tombs.

You go girl, emily, it is not revenge but justice for you. Expose these cowards.

hi all.... my name is john.. iam frm kerala ...i am working in a It firm in cochin.....i saw some peoples comments...i never say that its wrong.....its happened in someones life and they said.....i am telling about the attitude of malayalees....those people who criticize malayalees,pleasee think think that there are good ones also....but when something bad happens to their own life it counts...not for that particular person but for all of us also..because bad rememberances always stays in our minds always....one of the bad things i agree and to see more in other race is staring at people,and teasing......and our people are little bit selfish than others .......i dont know for what they r fighting for ..as we all have to go the heaven once........dear viewers , i need a help from u all.....is there is anyone who can help me to get a job in america....i know its difficult...but need a job i mean any job so that i can make a living....i beg u dont give me leads...at the same time i dont have money to pay u also....i can only give one thing ...i mean be with u as a good friend till my deadth ....a friend whom u can trust blindly at any situation.... i only earned one thing in my life that is trust ,care , and love....that is not at all valuable in life...mail me in johnslovee@gmail.com

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I am Sudi Ram from Trivandrum. I am a MCA Graduate. I am not interest to come over USA. Now I am doing project work at home. My wife and I have a single girl child. I have lot of business ideas. Especially many cemented direct contact between land owners. This is the prime political and useful situation to purchase building and plots in Kerala, especillay Trivandrum and Cochin cities. If you are interest I can help you with full support.

To John Mathew Kothazham and EmilyOkam Okay I'm a malayalee. I can't believe you said that about malayalees. I'm talking to all of you people who are saying bad things about us. Just because some people did something wrong and they are malayalees doesn't mean that you can say bad stuff about all of us. What makes you think that all people from Kerala are bad. I mean yall are americans. There are bad americans. So can I assume that every single american is bad? No! So that makes you a horrible person, doesn't it? I am actually a young girl not really old okay im in middle school well now I am because its summer but anyway it hurts me to see people writing about us like that. So stop. Stop saying other people are bad, you haven't met all the malayalees in the world.

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i'm sorry for what he did but you can't judge everyone in kerala by this! not ever man in kerala is an arrogant b****rd. alot of them are sweet and nice. alot of them are proud, yes, to an extend.

why they ignored/mis-treated/broke-up with you is probably not becasue they don't love you. keralites are not that mature enough to tolerate inter-caste marriage, let alone inter-racial. this situation is slowly improving but you gotta understand that such things take time. it is a taboo to date, even. it is frowned upon and we don't encourage these either.

when we reach the age of marriage, our pARENTS decides who we marry (in most families). we do not have the freedom to choose our own life partners. it's not, like, we're not ALLOWED. they (the society) just don't LIKE it. they label us as rebels or... jobless or what they call 'alavaladi' (someone who doesn't have anyhting to do and wanders here and there doing 'bad' things). he (ur ex) is scared of the society.

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