Elopement Etiquette Gifts

Myself and my fiancee are getting married overseas in a few months time, just the two of us. I have family all over the world so getting everyone together is tough, plus we get a weddingmoon!

We are looking at having a party on our return and a few peopl have asked us about gifts. My question is around what is the etiquette??? I have family overseas asking what we would like as a engagement/wedding gift and I am not sure how to respond! We have lived together for 4 years and bought a house together 3 years ago so we have everything we need!

If it were me, and we didn’t have a registry, I would just say, “Oh, no gifts necessary! We are just ecstatic to be getting married and your congratulatory well wishes are gift enough!” or something to that effect. They will ultimately decide if they want to send you something, whether it be a crockpot or a card with check. We had a destination wedding and only did a honeymoon registry. Most people put checks/cash in cards (no actual wrapped presents).

@CartersMum: We did a weddingmoon too. My MIL kept badgering me about making a registry. I did not care to, but she was saying that her sister was going to get us something so we might as well get what we want. OK fine, I’ll make a small enough one that doesn’t embarass me. Turns out several of her friends – people I’ve never met – bought us items on our registry. MIL shared that info with people she knew and who asked, even though we’re not in the same states. I kept them small like sheets and blankets.

But when people asked me flat out, I don’t think I had it set up yet, so I just said, “That is nice of you! Your congrats are plenty!” I don’t think my family knew of the registry because they never asked.

Actually the girlfriend of one of my uncles found it all on her own (probably because said uncle’s son was getting married, and she was searching for his registry – same last name.) She did buy us something.