I have gotten several messages from female members here using the phrases "old fart", "old geezer", and "old bastard." I don't need this from anyone! This is difficult enough for me as it is. If you cannot be polite then move on.

Now, I have a question for the real "ladies" on this site. Do you like for a man to contact you first. or do like to make first contact yourself?

Please don't let those people discourage you...There are many nice women on here. Name calling isn't necessary, if they aren't interested why not just say so in a polite manner?

canuhelpme258

Oct 15 @ 3:09PM

Belle probobly because they get so many e-mails from rude men, they started getting rude as well. As I said in the forums, the best thing to do, is be yourself as publicly as possible, blogs, clever tastefull blog comments and picture comments, they will seek you out. It may take a bit but stay the course be true to yourself. Believe me, if things had been slower with me gaining friends I would have been forced to sky dive nekked.....

JJN4Fun

Oct 15 @ 7:19PM

Belle probobly because they get so many e-mails from rude men, they started getting rude as well.

I'm sorry, canu, but I beg to differ; there is never any excuse for being rude to someone who hasn't been rude to you simply because someone else was. That's like going home and yelling at your kids because some little shit at work pissed you off.

On behalf of my gender, I apologize for anyone who has been unnecessarily rude to you!

ponme

Oct 17 @ 12:38PM

Who makes the first contact is irrelevant to me. It's all in HOW that contact is made. I tried an experiment a week or so ago where I answered every wink I was sent for a week. (yeah I think I broke the wink back button) I learned that there are some really nice people out there who are just too shy to start off with a note. I also learned that most want to 'f*kk' me like the dirty .. . I am..

So, by all means approach first, but be sure you have read everything that person has to say in their essay, blog, any posts you can find in the forums.. anything they have to say to see how you should approach that individual.

StraddleMyNose

Oct 21 @ 9:58PM

lol....I have never gotten any emails like that, but then i'm still kinda young enough at 39 to where it doesn't draw that much attention on these sights. People who are rude like that in the first emails to you tells more about who and what those people are, and even though I can see where you're coming from, try not to let those kind of people ruin your day, they're not worth it. Just hang in there!