DH reads paper while I make dinner every weekend. V pissed off. AIBU?

DH works long hours during the week and so I do everything for the DC (3 and 5) and the house during the week, but think that it would be nice to have some help when DH is around. However, come the weekends, I still do all the cooking, house work and the looking after of the DC. I also do almost all of the getting up in the night, should my DC need me.

Here's how it goes at the weekends: I get the children ready to go out. DH rarely helps. We go out, then when we return home, DH goes upstairs to catch up on sport on his phone, while I sort the children out with snacks and drinks. I then start cooking dinner straight away. At some point, DH comes back down, offers me a cup of tea while he makes himself one, then goes to read the paper in the lounge. I then cook dinner and get the DC ready for dinner once it's cooked. DH only emerges once dinner is pretty much on the table. He does however then do the washing up afterwards, but he says he'd rather do the washing up than tidy up the toys with the DC after dinner.

I got really annoyed with it all today. When I asked DH if he was going off to read the paper while I was preparing dinner, he said: "Yes, I need a rest". I said: "Well, so do I". He then said: "Well..." and walked off. After 40 minutes, I went into the lounge and said: I'm not making dinner all by myself again." This prompted him to get up and start shouting at me, accusing me of all sorts of untruths.

What would happen if you stopped doing it? If you just sat down at the same time as him, for as long as him?What would he say if you cook for everyone but him? If he's choosing not to help then he's choosing not to benefit.

No, I don't have a job, as I what to be around when my kids are young. Also, my eldest has a disability, so I want to make sure I have time for him.

I wouldn't be happy not cooking dinner for DH and as for sitting down while he is, at some point, too late in the day, he'd offer to cook dinner. However, dinner would be late, which might then make bath time and bed time late... I like to have the DC tucked up by 7:30pm.

That's hardly the same. It's 4h twice a week so if he had 8-12 off Saturday n Sunday that would be same? Oh but he gets an hour for lunch say that's 5h a week off work so he's due 3 h off which by sounds a of it he gets Friday evening. So 50/50 weekend!

He needs to pull his weight. Does he ever look after the kids all by himself for a day? Tell him to do a day in your shoes one weekend to see how exhausting he finds it. Then see if he still feels it's reasonable for you to be his skivvy at the weekend too.