If you have/had Christian parents, help.

My mother is a very religious Christian. I mean, VERY religious. If she knew I've been Atheist for about 4 years now she'd have a coronary. I do want to tell her eventually, but I'm afraid of losing her.
All the way up until about 5th grade, my dad lived with us and he was abusive. It still gives me nightmares and I've been battling unipolar (its real, bipolar without the manic phases) for 4 years because of him. My mom has been all I've had, and she's the only person I've ever been able to rely on for anything. If I lost her, I'd have nothing anymore. I do want to tell her eventually (as mentioned earlier) but I'm scared of the loss. Also, I'm scared of how she'll treat me after I tell her. She'd rather me be a Christian lesbian than a straight Atheist. How do I go about this and just tell her? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

My mom is rather religious, it's a fluid scale of religiosity we're working with, so I'm not sure how the cases compare. I told my mom that I don't believe in any god, but I haven't gone into just how averse to religion I am. When I told her, she cried and told me I'm going to hell. My lack of belief has caused a lot of friction in both my immediate and extended families.

Here's where the difference comes in. I have a few family members who don't care that I don't believe and so I get a sort of safety net.

I'm not saying that you should necessarily just alienate your family if you still need them when I say this, people should love you for who you are, not what you believe. Once you can support yourself though and you don't need to rely on anyone, I recommend being your own person. Lying about who you are and trying to live a double life is harmful and I wish the very best for you as you decide about this.

The decision to wait or tell her right away would be entirely base on how well you know your mother. If she's going to flip out, it is safer to wait. I was able to talk to my mother while I still lived with her and our relationship did not change. The thing you'll have to get used to is that she is going to try and convert you back. Be firm and if she tries to talk about it let her know its not open for discussion. If she tries to send you off to a camp or something firmly tell her that you're not going (and stick with it). Keep any discussion calm and if things get emotional, take a walk and let emotions cool down (if there's yelling, that's a good sign to postpone the discussion).

If you think that she really won't be able to handle it or that she'll go to extreme lengths to try and convert you back, wait until you're out of the house.

I was lucky it worked out between myself and my parents but they still send me God stories and ask if I'll go to church. Something you can't avoid if you want to stay close with her.