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Monday, January 21, 2019

Human Beings are Destroying Life on Earth but Deluding Ourselves that We are Not

By Robert J. Burrowes, New Age Islam

17 January 2019

It is easy to identify the ongoing and endless
violence being inflicted on life on Earth. This ranges from the vast
multiplicity of assaults inflicted on our children and the biosphere to the
endless wars and other military violence as well as the grotesque exploitation
of many peoples living in Africa, Asia and Central/South America. But for a
(very incomplete) list of 40 points see ‘Reflections on 2018, Forecasting 2019’.

However, despite the obvious fact that it is human
beings who are inflicting all of this violence, it is virtually impossible to
get people to pay attention to this simple and incontrovertible fact and to ask
why, precisely, are human beings behaving in such violent and destructive ways?
And can we effectively address this cause?

Of course, one part of this problem is the existence
of many competing ideas about what causes violence. For example, some
ideologies attribute the cause to a particular structural manifestation of
violence, such as patriarchy (which generates a gendered system of violence and
exploitation) or capitalism (which generates a class system of violence and
exploitation). However, none of these ideologies explains why humans
participate in structures of violence and exploitation in the first place.
Surely a person who was not violent and exploitative to begin with would reject
such violent and exploitative structures out of hand and work to create
nonviolent and egalitarian structures instead.

But most people really just accept the
elite-promulgated delusion that humans are innately dysfunctional and violent
and this must be contained and controlled by socialization processes, laws,
legal systems, police forces and prisons or, in the international arena, by
such measures as economic sanctions and military violence. It is a rare
individual who perceives the blatant dysfunctionality and violence of
socialization, laws, legal systems, police forces, prisons, economic sanctions
and military violence, and how these institutions and their violence serve
elite interests.

Hence, humans are trapped in a cycle of attempting to
address the vast range of manifestations of violent human behaviour – the wars,
the climate catastrophe, destruction of the environment, the economic
exploitation of vast sectors of the human population (women, indigenous
peoples, working peoples…), the military dictatorships and occupations –
without knowing what, fundamentally, causes dysfunctional and violent human
behaviours and draws many people to participate in (and benefit from) violence
in whatever form it takes.

Well I, for one, find it boring to see the same
manifestations of violence repeated endlessly because we do not understand or
address the fundamental cause (and so even well-meaning efforts to address it
in a variety of contexts are doomed to fail). How about you?

Moreover, I find it boring to listen to (or read
about) people endlessly deluding themselves about the violence; that is,
deluding themselves that it isn’t happening, ‘it was always like that’, ‘it
isn’t as bad as it seems’, ‘nothing can be done’, ‘there is another
explanation’, that I am ‘doing enough already’, and so on.

To illustrate the above let me write some more
frequent examples of people deluding themselves about the cause. You may have
heard delusions like these expressed yourself; you may know some of the many
others.

1. ‘The child deserved the punishment.’

2. ‘She asked for it.’

3. Violence is innate: it is ‘in our nature’.

4. ‘War is inevitable.’

5. The people in Africa/Asia/Central/South America
‘have always been poor’.

6. ‘The weather hasn’t changed; it was like that when
I was a child.’

7. ‘We can’t control Mother Nature.’

8. ‘Nature is abundant.’

Of course, the most common delusional state is the one
in which most people are trapped: they are just not paying significant
attention to critical issues and have no knowledge (and informed opinion) about
them but allow themselves to be distracted from reality by the various elite
channels used for doing so, such as the corporate media.

So why do most people delude themselves rather than
carefully observe reality, seek out and analyze the evidence in relation to it,
and then behave appropriately and powerfully in response?

Because they are (unconsciously) terrified.

‘Is that all?’ you might say. ‘Surely the explanation
for dysfunctional (and violent) human behaviour is more complex than that!
Besides, when people I observe doing the sorts of dysfunctional and violent
behaviours you mention above, they don’t look frightened, let alone terrified.’

So let me explain why the explanation above – that
most human beings live in delusion, behave dysfunctionally and violently, fail
to observe and analyze reality and then behave powerfully in response to it,
because they are terrified – is the complete explanation and why people who are
utterly terrified don’t ‘look frightened’.

At the moment of birth, the human individual has a genetically-embedded
potential to seek out and powerfully pursue their own unique destiny by
progressively developing a complex set of capacities to observe and listen, to
think and feel, to analyze and evaluate, to plan and strategize, and to behave
with awareness and power in response to their own astute insight into reality
and the guidance provided by their conscience.

However, rather than nurture this potential so that
the child grows up deeply in touch with their conscience, sensing capacities,
thoughts, feelings and other faculties necessary to seek out and powerfully
travel their own unique path, the significant adults in the child’s life
immediately start to ‘socialize’ (that is, terrorize) the child into conforming
with culturally and socially-acceptable norms of thought and behaviour on the
basis that one human is more-or-less identical with another (give or take some
minor variations among races, languages….).

The idea that each human mind might be unique in the
way that each body is unique (while conforming to a general pattern in relation
to shape, height and other physical characteristics) never even occurs to
anyone. The idea that their child could have the potential to be as creative,
powerful and unique as Leonardo Da Vinci, Mary Wollstonecraft, Sojourner Truth,
Albert Einstein, Mohandas K. Gandhi or Rosalind Franklin never enters the mind
of the typical parent.

Instead, we parent and teach children to conform to an
endless sequence of beliefs and behavioural norms on the basis that ‘one size
fits all’ because we are literally (but unconsciously) terrified that our child
might be ‘different’ or, horror of horrors, unique! And we reward most highly
those individuals who do conform and can demonstrate their conformity by
passing, often literally, the endless series of socially-approved tests, formal
and otherwise, that we set. See, for example, ‘Do We Want School or Education?’

The last thing we want is an individual who fearlessly
thinks, feels and behaves as they personally decide is best for themselves,
perhaps even because their conscience dictates. But when they do act out of
their own volition, we punish them to ensure that behaviour that is generated
by their unique ‘Self’ is, if possible, terrorized out of them.

Of course, there are ‘good reasons’ for doing this. If
we want obedient students, soldiers, employees and citizens, it is the perfect
formula. Terrorize the child when they are young and obedience to a set of
parentally/socially-approved beliefs and behaviours is virtually guaranteed.

Equally importantly, by starting this onslaught
against the child from the moment of birth, they will grow up utterly unaware
of the fact that they were terrorized out of becoming their ‘True Self’ and
seeking their own unique destiny so that they could be the slave of their
society, performing some function, menial or even ‘professional’, after they
have submitted to sufficient training. The slave who never questions their role
is truly a slave. And that is what we want!

Equally importantly, the person who has fearfully
surrendered their Self at the alter of physical survival cannot observe or
listen to the fear expressed by anyone else, including their own children. So they
simply ‘fail to notice’ it.

So what, exactly, do we do so that each human being’s
individual Self is crushed and they are rendered too terrified, self-hating and
powerless to pursue their own life path, to honestly observe and listen to
their own children and to mindfully consider the state of our world and act
powerfully in response?

We inflict enormous, ongoing violence on the child,
starting immediately after their birth.

‘How?’ you might ask. ‘I don’t scream at or hit my
child. And I never punish them.’

Well, if that is true, it is a good start.

But, unfortunately, it is far more complex than these
obvious types of violence and, strange though it may seem, it is not just the
‘visible’ violence (such as hitting, screaming at and sexually abusing) that we
normally label ‘violence’ that causes the main damage, although this is
extremely damaging. The largest component of damage arises from the ‘invisible’
and ‘utterly invisible’ violence that we adults unconsciously inflict on
children during the ordinary course of the day. Tragically, the bulk of this
violence occurs in the family home and at school. See ‘Why Violence?’ and ‘Fearless Psychology and
Fearful Psychology: Principles and Practice’.

So what is ‘invisible’ violence? It is the ‘little
things’ we do every day, partly because we are just ‘too busy’. For example,
when we do not allow time to listen to, and value, a child’s thoughts and
feelings, the child learns to not listen to themSelf thus destroying their
internal communication system. When we do not let a child say what they want
(or ignore them when they do), the child develops communication and behavioral
dysfunctionalities as they keep trying to meet their own needs (which, as a basic
survival strategy, they are genetically programmed to do).

The fundamental outcome of being bombarded throughout
their childhood by this ‘invisible’ violence is that the child is utterly
overwhelmed by feelings of fear, pain, anger and sadness (among many others).
However, mothers, fathers, teachers and other adults also actively interfere
with the expression of these feelings and the behavioral responses that are
naturally generated by them and it is this ‘utterly invisible’ violence that
explains why the dysfunctional behavioral outcomes actually occur.

For example, by ignoring a child when they express
their feelings, by comforting, reassuring or distracting a child when they
express their feelings, by laughing at or ridiculing their feelings, by
terrorizing a child into not expressing their feelings (e.g. by screaming at
them when they cry or get angry), and/or by violently controlling a behavior
that is generated by their feelings (e.g. by hitting them, restraining them or
locking them into a room), the child has no choice but to unconsciously
suppress their awareness of these feelings.

However, once a child has been terrorized into
suppressing their awareness of their feelings (rather than being allowed to
have their feelings and to act on them) the child has also unconsciously
suppressed their awareness of the reality that caused these feelings. This has
many outcomes that are disastrous for the individual, for society and for
nature because the individual will now easily suppress their awareness of the
feelings that would tell them how to act most functionally in any given
circumstance and they will progressively acquire a phenomenal variety of
dysfunctional behaviors, including some that are violent towards themself,
others and/or the Earth.

From the above, it should also now be apparent that
punishment should never be used. ‘Punishment’, of course, is one of the words
we use to obscure our awareness of the fact that we are using violence.
Violence, even when we label it ‘punishment’, scares children and adults alike
and cannot elicit a functional behavioural response. See ‘Punishment is Violent and Counterproductive’.

If someone behaves dysfunctionally, they need to be
listened to, deeply, so that they can start to become consciously aware of the
feelings (which will always include fear and, often, terror) that drove the dysfunctional
behaviour in the first place. They then need to feel and express these feelings
(including any anger) in a safe way. Only then will behavioural change in the
direction of functionality be possible. See ‘Nisteling: The Art of Deep Listening’.

‘But these adult behaviors you have described don’t
seem that bad. Can the outcome be as disastrous as you claim?’ you might ask.
The problem is that there are hundreds of these ‘ordinary’, everyday behaviors
that destroy the Selfhood of the child. It is ‘death by a thousand cuts’ and
most children simply do not survive as Self-aware individuals. And why do we do
this? As noted above, we do it so that each child will fit into our model of ‘the
perfect citizen’: that is, obedient and hardworking student, reliable and
pliant employee/soldier, and submissive law-abiding citizen.

Moreover, once we destroy the Selfhood of a child, it
has many flow-on effects. For example, once you terrorize a child into
accepting certain information about themself, other people or the state of the
world, the child becomes unconsciously fearful of dealing with new information,
especially if this information is contradictory to what they have been
terrorized into believing. As a result, the child will unconsciously dismiss
new information out of hand.

In short, the child has been terrorized in such a way
that they are no longer capable of learning (or their learning capacity is
seriously diminished by excluding any information that is not a simple
extension of what they already ‘know’).

Fundamentally, the child is now incapable of carefully
observing reality, analyzing the evidence in relation to that reality and
responding strategically so that conflicts and problems are moved closer to
resolution. That is, the child is now unconsciously trapped, believing and
behaving precisely within the spectrum of socially-approved beliefs and
behaviours that society terrorized them into accepting, no matter how
dysfunctional and violent these beliefs and behaviours might be.

So how do we nurture children to become the unique and
powerful individual that is their birthright? Someone who is able to clearly
identify what they need and what outcomes work for them, and who does not learn
to progressively compromise themselves until there is nothing left of their
unique identity. Someone, in short, who is so powerless, that they are
incapable of considering themself, others and the state of the biosphere.
Someone who lives in delusion.

If you are powerful enough to campaign for change
against one or more of the ongoing manifestations of violence in the world,
consider doing so strategically so that you have maximum impact. See Nonviolent Campaign Strategy.

And if none of the options I have offered immediately
above appeals, ask yourself if you are serious about helping to end the
violence or just deluding yourself like all of those people I described above.

Robert J. Burrowes has a lifetime commitment to
understanding and ending human violence. He has done extensive research since
1966 in an effort to understand why human beings are violent and has been a
nonviolent activist since 1981. He is the author of ‘Why Violence?’ His email address is flametree@riseup.net and his website is here.