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I am in an advanced 5th grade class, and all of the girls exclude me from just about everything. I am a tomboy, and tend to hang out with the guys who are all really nice to me. According to my mom and dad I am more mature than the girls and I am doing nothing wrong to the girls in my class and they are excluding me for no good reason. I don't care what they think of me, it's just that I get bored at recess and there is nothing to do. These girls are in a little 'clique', and all they do is talk and gossip, which I find the most boring thing in the whole entire universe. I like roleplaying games, (not dungeons and dragons, and if you want a more childish sounding term, playing pretend.) and so one day they start playing this game which sounds cool and I say 'Hey, can I join this game? And they say "Uh, no, sorry we have to many people okay bye.' and then later I see them playing with an extra person. What's going on and what can I do?

Dang . Well, you could try finding out why they don't want you to play with them. I think it depends on how bad you want to play or how bad you want to join them. You could just ignore them too so...
I don't know if that helped. But I sometimes find myself in that situation a lot and all I do was ignore them and do my own thing.
Good luck with it anyway.

These girls seem like the type to just stick to there friends, and no one else. You could always hang out with the guys, or make friends with other girls. They do not have to be in your class, or even in your grade.
Most of my friends we're older than me, sometimes younger, and not even in the same class as me.

Ignore those girls, and make other friends, they aren't worth your time, and effort if they just continue to be like that.
Good luck.

You are doing nothing wrong at all. These girls sound like they only stick with each other and don't want anyone else joining in. I think you should try and hang out and play with the boys or find other girls to hang out with. The kids I hung out with were mostly younger than me. So they don't have to be in your class or your grade even.

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Sorry girly! it absolutly SUCKS to be excluded from a group of people. Trust me you aren't doing anything wrong! They are the ones doing things wrong not you. I would say hang with other people or friends... Cause girls can be mean and rude.. And those are the ones you wanna stay away from.. When it comes into middle school and stuff.. So make other friends they don't have to be in you class or anything.

You remind me A LOT of how I used to be Like... That's exactly how I was. So you have earned yourself a free hug! :'D *Hug*
Anyways, speaking from personal experience, screw them. You'll have awesome friends one day. As for getting bored, try reading or drawing or something that only needs one person After all, it WILL get you ahead in school, and who will be the one laughing when you actually get your dream job?
I promise you, it hurts now but it really does get easier

"Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means standing alone." - Andy Biersack.There's only a thin line separating dreams from reality

No point wanting to join a group that doesn't want you in it. You can confront them and ask why won't they let you in. I suggest going to the library and reading/sketching/using the computer or hanging around with the boys who are nice to you. All goes down to who was there and never left you from the start, think of someone.

There's no point in trying to be friends with them if they don't want to be friends with you. Maybe there are other girls you can be friends with, like other girls your guy friends are friends with in turn, or girls you meet at extracurricular activities or around your school.

I had the exact same thing happen to me for years. I'm sorry because I have no good advice for you, but if you ever need to talk to me about it please feel free to send me a message. It's not you, I promise. They're snobs and you probably don't even want to be friends with them anyway, although I know that's not a very comforting thing to say. I'm sorry.

I'm sorry that happened to you. They sound very cliquey. It isn't fair to you and I know that you might not want to do it, but I think it's time you start making new friends. I promise you that in the long run, what these girls do to you won't matter. Show them that you're a lot more mature than they think you are and simply walk away.

If you were like them they'd "include" you more naturally. But you're not. And pls don't try to be like them. They're all probably trying to be like each other... and you'll avoid a lot of shit and hassle in the future by staying away from those insecure types. Although on the other hand, you can't avoid such people forever. Learn to deal with them, somehow.

If I were to guess, I'd say that they exclude you because they're threatened. But that's a vague guess. Personally I never cared enough to think about it too deeply myself.

In conclusion... go find other friends with whom you mix a bit better.

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These girls seem like the type to just stick to there friends, and no one else. You could always hang out with the guys, or make friends with other girls. They do not have to be in your class, or even in your grade.
Most of my friends we're older than me, sometimes younger, and not even in the same class as me.

Ignore those girls, and make other friends, they aren't worth your time, and effort if they just continue to be like that.
Good luck.

Recently I have found another girl in my class who shares my opinions and net another girl in a different class (same likes, etc.) so I think things are going well. Thanks for the support!