My Husby Doesnt Want Me On Meds

I've dealt with depression my whole life. Before my pregnancy I started on Zoloft. I loved it. I didn't tell my husband until a couple weeks into it, he did notice a positive change. Then we got pregnant on accident. I weaned myself off the Zoloft during the pregnancy. I'm now 4 weeks pp, and I can feel the depression and baby blues so bad. I want to get on Zoloft again but my husband refuses to "let me" for lack of better words. He just tells me to get over "it", "stop being negative" and tells me I've made my life miserable in my head and then blames himself. We have 3 kids and I feel like such a failure and awful mother for even needing medication and therapy. Its difficult to have to convince my husband I need this. I BF my newborn. I don't want to pollute her tiny body with medication however I don't feel like I can function without it. Waaaah.

I've dealt with depression my whole life. Before my pregnancy I started on Zoloft. I loved it. I didn't tell my husband until a couple weeks into it, he did notice a positive change. Then we got pregnant on accident. I weaned myself off the Zoloft during the pregnancy. I'm now 4 weeks pp, and I can feel the depression and baby blues so bad. I want to get on Zoloft again but my husband refuses to "let me" for lack of better words. He just tells me to get over "it", "stop being negative" and tells me I've made my life miserable in my head and then blames himself. We have 3 kids and I feel like such a failure and awful mother for even needing medication and therapy. Its difficult to have to convince my husband I need this. I BF my newborn. I don't want to pollute her tiny body with medication however I don't feel like I can function without it. Waaaah.

It's a medical condition. You can't help it- it's not something that you chose. Unfortunately your husbands attitude is extremely ignorant. I took Zoloft thorough out 2 entire pregnancies because I simply needed to to function. I breastfeed 2 kids on it for 15 months each on the advice of a senior psychiatrist. My kids are fine - no side effects to them at all, it's such a tiny tiny almost negligible amount that gets into your milk. And now at age 2 and 4 they are happy healthy well adjusted kids and they have a mum who is free of anxiety and depression because I take my medication. It's a very personal choice but it's been the right one for me and my family. I wish u all the best.
Ps I've also just had my 3rd bub 4 months ago - I'm on meds, breastfeeding and he is thriving and I'm symptom free. Good luck. It would be good to get hubby on board. Educate him.

It's a medical condition. You can't help it- it's not something that you chose. Unfortunately your husbands attitude is extremely ignorant. I took Zoloft thorough out 2 entire pregnancies because I simply needed to to function. I breastfeed 2 kids on it for 15 months each on the advice of a senior psychiatrist. My kids are fine - no side effects to them at all, it's such a tiny tiny almost negligible amount that gets into your milk. And now at age 2 and 4 they are happy healthy well adjusted kids and they have a mum who is free of anxiety and depression because I take my medication. It's a very personal choice but it's been the right one for me and my family. I wish u all the best.
Ps I've also just had my 3rd bub 4 months ago - I'm on meds, breastfeeding and he is thriving and I'm symptom free. Good luck. It would be good to get hubby on board. Educate him.

Look up on LaLeche breastfeeding and antidepressant medication. They have a great article about how it is far more safe for a mom who is breastfeeding to be on meds and seek treatment for the development of the baby. Maybe share that with him. Sorry your DH isn't supportive, hopefully some knowledge will help him.

Look up on LaLeche breastfeeding and antidepressant medication. They have a great article about how it is far more safe for a mom who is breastfeeding to be on meds and seek treatment for the development of the baby. Maybe share that with him. Sorry your DH isn't supportive, hopefully some knowledge will help him.

So I snuck out and went to see a therapist my midwife recommended. She told me I needed to get back on Zoloft, and to hide it from my husband if I didn't want to tell him about it. Indeed it is helping me. But my husband heard me on the phone with the pharmacy, so he knows. We haven't talked about it, except for him asking if there was some vitamin, or herb I could take. I feel great except I found out some bad news, and normally I would have cried my eyes out....but I can't! I'm emotionless!

So I snuck out and went to see a therapist my midwife recommended. She told me I needed to get back on Zoloft, and to hide it from my husband if I didn't want to tell him about it. Indeed it is helping me. But my husband heard me on the phone with the pharmacy, so he knows. We haven't talked about it, except for him asking if there was some vitamin, or herb I could take. I feel great except I found out some bad news, and normally I would have cried my eyes out....but I can't! I'm emotionless!

So sorry your going through this. I've been on citlopram for around 4 weeks now and I debated taking them and telling my boyfriend I had been prescribed them. I started taking them and told him he also wasn't impressed and doesn't want me on them at all. He thinks I should just 'talk about' and 'get over it' as well. I've arrange counselling but for now the tablets are working for me.

So sorry your going through this. I've been on citlopram for around 4 weeks now and I debated taking them and telling my boyfriend I had been prescribed them. I started taking them and told him he also wasn't impressed and doesn't want me on them at all. He thinks I should just 'talk about' and 'get over it' as well. I've arrange counselling but for now the tablets are working for me.

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