Happy New Year to both you and Jane. I have been following FMF for some time now and your posts are giving me, an adoptive mother, much food for thought. It is so important that the Birth mother is heard, that the pain is acknowledged so that balance can be brought to the adoption relationship.I have read your memoir "Birthmark" and it rooted me to the spot. I hope to contact our health authorities in Ireland to have it included with other recommended, must-read, reading material for adoptive parents.I wish you joy, peace, health and success for 2013.Mari

Mari G, so nice to hear warm words right now...and from an adoptive mother. So often we are read by others who are adopting or have adopted and they are totally freaked out and put words in our computers we did not say, or interpret us in ways that are amazing.

A beautiful song from a Korean adoptee

From the New York Times

"Lorraine Dusky, a writer who relinquished a daughter as a young single mother in New York State in 1966, supports opening the records. She reported in her 2015 memoir that in the handful of states that offered women the opportunity to remove their names from original birth certificates, only a small fraction of women — fewer than 1 percent — chose to do so." --Don’t Keep Adopted People in the Dark by Gabrielle Glaser, June 19, 2018

Who Are We?

From the New York Times

"On FirstMotherForum.com, a blog that discusses issues among women who had given children up for adoption, Lorraine Dusky, one of the site’s authors, praised the series (ABC's 10-episode Find My Family): 'Maybe this will be heard by people who think it is unloyal somehow for a person to search out his or her roots, parents, family, when it is a most natural desire of consciousness.'--Two Reality Shows Stir Publicity and Anger"--Dec. 6, 2009.

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