Follow Us

Bed time for a 13 year old?

If you're keen to compare notes with other parents of a tweenager or teenager, post here to get advice and support from other parents. Please note as a peer-to-peer discussion board, Netmums has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. For more info and inspo when it comes to raising tweens and teens, see our dedicated tween and teen content section .

Bed time for a 13 year old?

sophie k(26)

Posted on 16-05-2011 at 7.55PM

Hi all, what time is your 13 year olds bed time? My SD will soon be staying with us once a week on a school night, I know at home she goes to bed when she likes, but DH and I don't think thats right! Don't want to be too strict on her, but do need some idea as to what is an acceptable bed time for a 13 year old. Thanks.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

(Advertising)

Your browser cannot play this video.

Sharon S(164)

Posted on 16-05-2011 at 8.31PM

ds is 13:

school night 9.30

weekend 10.00 or 10.30 (a right he has to earn during the week):D

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Fiona M(256)

Posted on 17-05-2011 at 10.32AM

My daughter is 13 and goes to bed at 10.00 on a school night, she normally reads till about 10.30 (she's usually nodded off before 10.30 tho !) at the weekends shes usually goes about 11. She's really good at getting up in the morning so we don't have any problems there

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Tina H(105)

Posted on 20-05-2011 at 3.58PM

Our 13 year old goes us to bed at 8.30 and reads until 9pm when its lights out. Weekends its the same time unless there is something specific going on like a party. Can't believe some 13 year olds are up until 10pm on school nights! My daughter wouldn't actually want to stay up later as she loves her sleep!

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Deleted profile

Posted on 20-05-2011 at 4.12PM

My 2 nieces are 13 and they go to bed on a school night at 10pm and 11pm at the weekend. I think this is reasonable as my 9yr old has lights out at 9pm.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

rebecca y(17)

Posted on 20-05-2011 at 9.54PM

ive a 14 year old but when she was 13 id put her bed at 9-9.30 with half hour read on a school night but at weekends we stayed up till like 1am but that because im a single mum and she keeps me company and we curl up on sofa with soaps, films girly catch up, and just do anythink we wanted really. but my daughter always was a early bird.so getting up in morning is never a promble. its me with the promble,lol, but a lot of the times she fall to sleep on the sofa by 10pm.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

hayley a(4)

Posted on 20-05-2011 at 10.01PM

My son is 13 he goes to bed at 10pm on a school nite but it's more like 10.30pm b4 he goes to sleep, and around 11pm on weekend i also have a 17 year old so think i am quite lenient with the younger one as older one is up later anyway.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Ally Y

Posted on 20-05-2011 at 10.16PM

My son is 13 and goes up at 9.00 lights out at 9.15 on school night - not usually asleep til 9.45 and weekends 9.30.Kids of this age still need a good 9/10 hours sleep a night. But I also need my space as well.

If you set some rules/boundaries when SD comes to stay and try and find a happy medium.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Deleted profile

Posted on 20-05-2011 at 10.25PM

my daughter is 13 she is in bed by 9.30 and sleep by 10pm on a school nights weekends and holidays she gos to bed when she wants.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

emma b(592)

Posted on 28-05-2011 at 10.23PM

My son is 12 and goes to bed around 8.30 on a school night & 9.30-10 on a weekend

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Jen K(3)

Posted on 29-05-2011 at 9.05PM

my 13 year old ds is lights out at 9 on a school night, apart from Mon and Wed when its 10pm as he goes to cadetsWeekend its whenever we go to bed. He does have to be in his room by 8.30 though as I NEED adult only time in the evening (well apart from having the baby strapped to my breast!)

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

emma h(1006)

Posted on 29-05-2011 at 9.19PM

I used to go to bed stressed and knackered trying for years to get my son to go to bed. I thought I was doing what was right but I let him stay up one night then got him up for school the next day He is nearly 13 he goes to bed at 10 which is the mount of sleep he feels he needs.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Michelle N(5)

Posted on 29-05-2011 at 9.32PM

My soon to be 13 year old goes to bed at 9pm on a school night, usually asleep my 9.30pm. Weekends vary, depending on what we're doing, sometimes she goes to friends for sleepovers too.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

aileen m(62)

Posted on 29-05-2011 at 11.32PM

Hi. My 13 yr old is in bed for 9.30 during the week and at the weekend she is in bed at 10.30 at the latest. we have tried the later time of 10./10.30 (the same as her friends) on school days and after a week she wants to go back to 9.30. Her behaviour suffers and she cant concetrate on anything. She still needs her sleep.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Kate I(29)

Posted on 29-05-2011 at 11.36PM

my DS has just turned 14, she goes to bed at 9pm on a school night and reads until 9.30 - that sounds about right according to what everyone has written so far, well done me lol

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Annette R(68)

Posted on 30-05-2011 at 1.55AM

My DS goes to bed on a school night at 9:15-9:30pm and on a weekend it can vary from 10pm-11pm depending on what we are doing.

There is absolutely no way I would let him go to be whenever he wants he'd still be up at midnight!!!

We do have similar issues surrounding my SS and SD though as they rule the roust at their mothers but not at ours!!!!! Bed at 7:30-8pm for the 7yr old and between 8-8:30pm for the 10yr old school nights, sometimes you CAN'T have the same rules at both houses, it just doesn't work, especially if you dont agree.

Stand by what YOU think is right, they are just as much your children as the ex's.

Our 13 year old goes us to bed at 8.30 and reads until 9pm when its lights out. Weekends its the same time unless there is something specific going on like a party. Can't believe some 13 year olds are up until 10pm on school nights! My daughter wouldn't actually want to stay up later as she loves her sleep!

Show more

Show less

Tina h have you actually asked her if she likes sleeping/reading and you need to give her more independence and choice.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Becky (6)

Posted on 10-12-2014 at 10.25PM

My son is 13 and has adhd/asd.... i give him a 10pm bedtime but im lucky if hes asleep before midnight. Hes schools only 5 mins away so we dont get up till 7.30/7.45 on a weekday. I would love him to go to sleep earlier though x

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

Sue B(208)

Posted on 10-12-2014 at 10.30PM

My ds 13 ( almost 14) goes to bed at 10.30 pm. There is never any problem getting him up so he must be getting enough sleep.

0

Like this post

Log in

Add an account

joanne m(490)

Posted on 15-12-2014 at 2.30PM

Mine bed by 8.30 lights out by 9pm and no gadgets or phone in room then either. Weekends up to 10pm. School hols maybe a bit later. They need more sleep as teenagers than an average 11 year old.