Posts Tagged ‘goals’

It is a bit of conundrum that we have this Western culture desire to achieve a goal of enlightenment… and then we die. This is like rushing through a vacation and obsessing if we are ‘doing it right.’ What is ‘right’ anyway? We each are completely different people on our own individual journey.

After we achieve our life lesson and our chosen destiny for this life, we cross over. So really, what is the rush? So, we can get onto the next what? Vacation? Job? Lover?

Whether it is music, art, great food, lovemaking… we participate in these so we can be engaged and engulfed in a full, all-consuming, memorable experience – not an end result.

One of the reasons people enjoy doing something very physical or demanding (including creating crises or drama in our lives) is because a challenge (or crises) demands our full attention. It forces us to be completely present, completely engaged and this allows us to immerse our self in enjoying or engaging in the task at hand. Read the rest of this entry »

When I was a teenager, one of my more ‘vocal’ cousins said to me, “You don’t seem to stay in one place for very long… just five minutes and, poof, you’re off again!”

At that time of my life I could put this down to my musician father’s wanderlust. He was a Sagittarius, and we not only often moved towns and countries, but frequently continents too. Such an unsettling way of life is usually not ideal for a Cancer like myself, but I seem to have inherited my father’s restless genes.

Today, my husband and I are in a tranquil setting since our international relocation over two years ago from a more volatile environment. Still, the restlessness persists. My menagerie of pets – five dogs and three cats – at least keep me relatively at peace.

I do know that actions provoked by restlessness can involve inevitable stresses, as was the case with our most recent big move. Unlike the days when I was still doing things solo, or when I was still living with my parents, this time I had the many pets to consider. Their well-being moving from one continent to another was one of the biggest stresses I have ever experienced. Read the rest of this entry »

Charity does begin at home. Whether you think of charity as alms for the impoverished, or kindness to strangers, or perhaps non-judgment in times of questionable behavior by others, it is still imperative to look within first. Before you can be truly charitable to others, it is important to be kind to yourself first. Ultimately, you cannot give to others freely and easily that which you do not give to yourself.

You are a loving and giving being. However, sometimes you are your own worst critic and have nothing but fault to find when you come up short regarding lofty expectations of yourself.

Sometimes you have set this bar so high that you are incapable of reaching the goals within your estimated timeline. Sometimes life intervenes in your best laid plans and deadlines are missed. Sometimes you self-sabotage from fear of success, or failure. Each of these instances can cause undue stress, which is not only harmful to you, but also to the people in your circle. Read the rest of this entry »

When we think of abundance, our general thinking is that it refers to money and finances. It is true that with the energy of money we can create the life we love, and we can be in a place to support others or causes that we love. But abundance goes beyond mere wealth or financial prosperity. Consider the abundance of time, abundance of friends, abundant health and well-being, and the gracious abundance of love.

Sometimes we are just stuck and don’t know where to start in our desire to manifest abundance in the many areas of our lives. So let’s take a look at where to begin. Where in your life currently are you feeling the most conflict, or pain? You can begin there! From my experience and working with others, once you start examining your belief in this area and shifting it, all the other areas start to shift too. Read the rest of this entry »

Do you feel unfulfilled? Stuck in a rut? Try to live, laugh and love a little more… for these are the three L’s of fulfillment.

Live

Firstly, to attain lasting fulfillment it is necessary to actually live your life. This is especially important for anyone who feels stuck in their life or circumstances. I sometimes come across clients that are so bound by their routines that they are unwilling to see a different way.

To have a fulfilling life we must be willing to engage with life in a dynamic way. Take a proactive approach and shedding some of your routines. There are often very simple ways to engage in shifting stagnant routines. It can be as simple as taking the long way to or from work and appreciating the scenery of the new way. Read the rest of this entry »

Life is challenging. With the overwhelming ups and downs that everyone faces over a lifetime, sometimes it seems possible to feel euphoric one moment, and devastated the very next. But can one’s attitude really make a difference?

If you choose, it can be an admirable goal to attempt to mitigate the emotional roller-coaster ride of life to the best of your ability. There will be times of great happiness and deep sorrow, however, if you can stay the course for the majority of the time, it is much easier to cope with stressful day-to-day issues.

You have met people who seem hard-wired to see the sunny side of the street. Others focus mainly on doom and gloom. They let their current circumstances define their future. Don’t be one of those self-limiting people, who brings everyone down because they are miserable. Read the rest of this entry »

We can learn a lot from children, when we look at things from their perspective. There are five special little ones in my life: three granddaughters and two grandsons, who range in ages from 6 years to 1 month.

Many women in my age group, known as the Baby Boomers, were so busy trying to get a career going, as well as have a family. We thought we could do it all, but we missed many of the little things that our children had to teach us. I was not immune to this.

Now that I have grandchildren in my life, and I have the ability to take the time to see things differently, I have learned many life lessons.

Lesson 1 – Count Your Blessings

This past weekend, I had my two year old granddaughter here for the weekend. She has been diagnosed with Juvenile Arthritis and has a variety of medicines that she is taking. I am so sad when I watch this young child suffer needlessly, because of a disease that she should never have had in her life. She can be happy and running one minute, and then stopped in her tracks and unable to get up the next. Read the rest of this entry »

We should all take the time to visit a nursing home or a senior’s retirement village, and speak to the residents. It can be a life-changing experience. Recently, I have had the opportunity to speak to several seniors and one of the questions I asked them was, “If you had your life to live again, what would you do differently?”

Some said they would change nothing, as they had family, friends and lots of love in their lives. They also knew the true joy of being in the moment, and how laughter was the healer of most wounds in relationships, and otherwise. However, the vast majority responded that they would have been more true to themselves. These seniors told me they would have followed the original path placed in their soul, instead of living for what someone else wanted, or what someone else thought they should be. Read the rest of this entry »