Silent treatment

For all you co dependents

New Video

Check this new video on Thomas Sheridan site
Posted January 19, 2012 - 2:23am
unfortunalty it describes the x.
http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1484615843/psychopathy-and-why-you-n...
Posted by nomoredenial

Narcissist and the Opposite Sex

Here is another link to Sam Vaknin's site. He just knows so much on this subject. Even if he speaks of someone very pathological, if yours was/is not that clinically diagnosable like mine was, you can still get a wealth of information explaining why your narc did this or that.
http://samvak.tripod.com/narcissistoppositesex.html

Pathological Narcissistic Space - Their Playground

This is a great page on Sam Vaknin's site. He explains in basic layman's terms the behaviors narcs do and why they do them. For those of us witnessing our narcs behavior before, during and after our relationships, ie. we work with them, etc., and didn't understand what happened, he explains it very well. They are walking tornadoes and leave a path of distruction with their need for DRAMA.
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq59.html

How they create feelings of pity for them

Cognitive Dissonance

Loved this article! Well-written. I especially liked the term "backstabbing snake," to describe the Narcissist.
- healthy relationships don't end abruptly
- healthy relationships are NOT based on emotional abuse & domination
- healthy individuals don't hide a mask of maliciousness
- Healthy individuals don't threaten the other when a relationship ends
For us victims, it's difficult to accept the sad reality that the "man" who claimed he loved me - is a con artist & snake who did - not love me. As a result of this drawn out relationship that sucked the life and self-esteem out of me, I continue to suffer, i.e. experience intense, prolonged pain in my subconscious - in the form of constant nightmares & surface anxiety.
Accepting reality, i.e. the truth about my Ex PD (personality disordered) - is difficult for me to accept.
All of these facts outlined in this article - are painful to understand & face. Six months post devalue/discard I deal with the ebb of flows of this horrible reality.
But fortunately, I am feeling better here and there, minus the periodic metaphoric nightmares I experience.
Great article.
Lays it all out.
The painful feelings we go through.

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Submitted by Layla/Exposing the mask of insanity

I posted this last night in the Steps 1-3 forum for another member to look at but then noticed Lisa started this great new forum which is an EXCELLENT idea, by the way!
My offering to the favorites was originally brought to my attention when Scoop posted it a few months ago. While highly important in it's message and valuable information it provides, I still can't get over laughing at the comical electronic voices in it....I don't know why it makes me laugh but it does! Haha!
Anyway, this is a great video for people just coming to terms that they are dealing with a disordered one. Enjoy!
love~ Layla
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXEgzhMKGeg

Idealize, Devalue, & Discard/Submitted by Hunter

Somethings to consider from Spinning

http://www.narcissismfree.com/psychic-chord-cutting.php
http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000065.htm
http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/understanding-why-you-find-it-hard-to-get-over-someone-that-future-faked-and-fast-forwarded/
http://alexandranouri.wordpress.com/2011/08/09/how-to-make-a-narcissist-pay/#entry
Love and light to all who stop here from,
(not) spinning. BECAUSE I'M ON THE PATH FORWARD

Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl - Kindle version

cognitive dissonance...great article

http://psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com/2011/07/29/a-painful-increduli...
Other victims project the blame back unto themselves. They accept the psychopath’s projection of blame and begin questioning themselves: what did I do wrong, to drive him away? What was lacking in me that he was so negative or unhappy in the relationship? Was I not smart enough, virtuous enough, hard-working enough, beautiful enough, sexy enough, attentive enough, submissive enough etc.
When one experiences cognitive dissonance, the rational knowledge about psychopathy doesn’t fully sink in on an emotional level. Consequently, the victim moves constantly back and forth between the idealized fantasy and the pathetic reality of the psychopath. This is a very confusing process and an emotionally draining one as well. Initially, when you’re the one being idealized by him, the fantasy is that a psychopath can love you and that he is committed to you and respects you. Then, once you’ve been devalued and/or discarded, the fantasy remains that he is capable of loving others, just not you. That you in particular weren’t right for him, but others can be. This is the fantasy that the psychopath tries to convince every victim once they enter the devalue phase. Psychopaths truly believe this because they never see anything wrong with themselves or their behavior, so if they’re no longer excited by a person, they conclude it must be her (or his) fault; that she (or he) is deficient.
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