Husband or hormones??

Before you read- this may be TMI. Anyways, I am so aggravated and upset right now. My husband and I were finally able to have sex last night (multiple attempts but too much pain) and it was great, but he pulled out right as I was about to get off...he insisted we get in the shower afterwards instead of finishing me. (that's our thing, take a shower together instead of cuddling) I mind you that it has been about 8 weeks since we've had sex bc of complications and I have only gotten off once in that time period. (I'm going crazy!) On the other hand, I have made it a point to supply his needs so that he didn't go without. As if that wasn't selfish enough...I have been taking care of our 5wk old all day and managed to cook a huge dinner this evening while LO was FINALLY sleeping! He comes home with an empty mcd's bag with a filetofish box and large fry in his lunch box that I fix every day!!!! And yes, i always fix something whether its small or a buffet! Needless to say he doesnt want what i fixed bc he is full...but dont worry he said he would eat later! Seriously?? What can I do to get a little gratitude?? I feel like this crap keeps happening! Should I suck it up and stop being a baby or should I go off?

Before you read- this may be TMI. Anyways, I am so aggravated and upset right now. My husband and I were finally able to have sex last night (multiple attempts but too much pain) and it was great, but he pulled out right as I was about to get off...he insisted we get in the shower afterwards instead of finishing me. (that's our thing, take a shower together instead of cuddling) I mind you that it has been about 8 weeks since we've had sex bc of complications and I have only gotten off once in that time period. (I'm going crazy!) On the other hand, I have made it a point to supply his needs so that he didn't go without. As if that wasn't selfish enough...I have been taking care of our 5wk old all day and managed to cook a huge dinner this evening while LO was FINALLY sleeping! He comes home with an empty mcd's bag with a filetofish box and large fry in his lunch box that I fix every day!!!! And yes, i always fix something whether its small or a buffet! Needless to say he doesnt want what i fixed bc he is full...but dont worry he said he would eat later! Seriously?? What can I do to get a little gratitude?? I feel like this crap keeps happening! Should I suck it up and stop being a baby or should I go off?

Talk to him when you cool down and just tell him how you feel. Don't yell or get mad; most likely he has no idea how his actions are affecting you. Don't go off on him, it will just cause a fight and nothing will be solved.

Talk to him when you cool down and just tell him how you feel. Don't yell or get mad; most likely he has no idea how his actions are affecting you. Don't go off on him, it will just cause a fight and nothing will be solved.

Like others said. Tell him how you feel once you have cooled down. I would stop making him lunch however and if he asks why tell him its because he doesnt eat it any way. Next time you have sex, if you don't finish during, tell him you want to finish and he can either help you or your going to help yourself instead of taking the shower with him. You shouldn't have to ask for gratitude so if he isn't showing it I don't know what to tell you.

Like others said. Tell him how you feel once you have cooled down. I would stop making him lunch however and if he asks why tell him its because he doesnt eat it any way. Next time you have sex, if you don't finish during, tell him you want to finish and he can either help you or your going to help yourself instead of taking the shower with him. You shouldn't have to ask for gratitude so if he isn't showing it I don't know what to tell you.

Tell him he doesn't get any until you get yours. And then stick to it. New baby, you both are tired, and probably crabby. Let the food go, it's probably not worth it. I feel completely comfortable with my partner, so I could say to her that she "owes" me an O and she would be more than pleased to oblige. Keep it light. No one wants to be nagged into having sex, but tell him what you want. A little dirty talk could help. (I can't wait to have you do dirty dirty things to me, and tell him how you want him to get off and call on your inner Dom and tell him he can't come until you do. ) and then once you get off, you probably won't even care about the food.

Tell him he doesn't get any until you get yours. And then stick to it. New baby, you both are tired, and probably crabby. Let the food go, it's probably not worth it. I feel completely comfortable with my partner, so I could say to her that she "owes" me an O and she would be more than pleased to oblige. Keep it light. No one wants to be nagged into having sex, but tell him what you want. A little dirty talk could help. (I can't wait to have you do dirty dirty things to me, and tell him how you want him to get off and call on your inner Dom and tell him he can't come until you do. ) and then once you get off, you probably won't even care about the food.

Thanks everyone. I'm calm and collected now...just needed some sleep. We are really good about talking to each other and i am not really one to nag (I'm bad about silent treatments) but lately I haven't felt like I can talk to him bc I'm afraid he will blame everything on being tired and hormonal. Oh and he didn't get lunch today :). I've got my big girl pants on today and am going to tell him how I feel!

Thanks everyone. I'm calm and collected now...just needed some sleep. We are really good about talking to each other and i am not really one to nag (I'm bad about silent treatments) but lately I haven't felt like I can talk to him bc I'm afraid he will blame everything on being tired and hormonal. Oh and he didn't get lunch today :). I've got my big girl pants on today and am going to tell him how I feel!

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