Bisexuality Support Group

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

does this make me bad? :/

the thing is i date guys and have had relations with a girls too but my problem is that i see myself only with girls yet I'm always going with guys. It's like I'll 'like' a guy and will go out with him but i know it wont last because i like girls too much. i then end up feeling really bad because the guy ends up really liking me but i don't feel the same. i end up just using him. It was only recently this guy said he was in love with me, which scared me off and resulted in my dumping him, which hurt him. i can't help it i just end up doing it over again.
I've only fallen in love with girls (two), never a guy, so why do i keep going out with them, and using them... like I'm a player or something. i don't mean to. i get attracted to them physically (guys) but i know emotionally I'm not with them... does this make me a bad?

That actually sounds really similar to a problem I'm having myself. I'll find myself attracted to men, physically, but only see myself getting involved in a longterm relationship with a woman.

I don't think the feelings are wrong, as long as you're open with them about your feelings.

Leading someone on, in a relationship, is always the worst thing to do...and the easiest. 'Using' them for your own purposes is wrong, in my opinion. Being upfront about your needs and where you hope to go with the relationship...well, if they're willing to continue, then there's no problems.

A friend of mine has this problem, she finds it way easier to pull guys but just doesn't get the emotional connection with them. I agree with Jessie, if you go into the relationship telling a guy that you just want it to be casual, nothing serious, then its not a problem. I guess the problem is when one person is more invested than the other. Perhaps it would be better to concentrate on looking for a relationship with woman as it appears at least that you have more meaningful relationships with women than men.

My goodness, I felt like I was the only one who felt this and experienced this. It is probably why I have limited my dating experience or have been reluctant in starting a &quot;relationshiP&quot; with another, specifically of the opposite sex for fear that once with him I'll realize I'm just no longer into him...I certainly can empathize with the emotional investment involved with a relationship with woman. Though I've never crossed the foray into that realm, working mostly in a field that is dominated by women, I can see how we each support each other in our worst moments as well as in our joys. (Setting aside the expected cattiness, but I tend to avoid those people -lol).

So, no, I guess it doesn't make you bad. Just human with other kindred spirits out there in the world who feel the same feelings too :)

No it doesn't make you bad. I feel similar to that. I love messing around with girls, but will never enter into a relationship because I know it will never last. I gain more of a connection with guys. I would love to be able to have that connection equally, but it's not for me.

YOU ARE NOT BAD, MEAN, OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT !!
As a male there is a lot of trouble. If I get involved without divulging my truth it causes lots of difficulty.
So I tell any female or male interested in me that I am Bi-Sexual. For some reason it seems to run hot and cold with most women and men. Some act like it is a turn on, others treat me like I have the plague.
I had two honest, real good best male friends who wouldnt (didnt) care about me being Bi at all. I just lost one of my male friends, he died a week ago Wednesday. I still havent got over it, lots of sadness lately.
Please dont get me wrong, both my male friends are (were) straight.
I just started divorce proceedings with my current wife. We both agreed that it was the right thing to do. She is also Bi and I think she needs time to explore, more power to her. I support her truth and I am glad she was honest with me. Who am I to stand in her way.
This is a good example of what happens when a woman falls in love with a man and really, secretly, desires a female. I think my soon to be ex has real emotional pain. We still talk every day and we really do love each other yet I know that she needs to accept herself for who she really is, I think she is really trying.
As for me, I am not on the down low. I wonder who came up with that phrase. I have had male lovers and found them to be easy to get along with for the most part. Sure there was the typical drama, some of us seem to live and thrive off drama. Not me I would rather have a man who enjoys the same things I do and has the ability to be mellow. I dont think that I would like to wear a banner saying Bi-Male.
I found that most gay men are suspicious of Bi-Sexual males. We are often looked down upon by the greater gay male community. I have been told that Bi males are more promiscuous than straight or gay men.
I dont believe that. I have always stuck to one person straight, bi or gay, one person only.
It also has been stated to me that there is no such thing as Bi-Sexual people, just confused people. Whoever came up with that concept is nuts.
I find it easy to love a man or a woman. I guess sex isnt really it for me. Its all about the person, can I care for that person, am I able to communicate in a real sort of way with him or her, do we share the same interests, is the person negative or positive. Things like that.
Its not easy. I understand that. I am 48 years old. I guess I have learned to accept the grass is always greener in the other persons bed thing. Sure I see people I want, male or female, I am only human.
None of this makes me bad, just Bi.
Sincerely,
D.

wow thats so me at the moment, I've discovered my sexual attraction for guys but I jsut can't get my head round the emotional thing. If i went out and got a guy I would probably only use him and I don't want to do that. Your not bad!

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