Unladylike

Find out what happens when women break the rules - those unwritten but all too real bullsh*t expectations of how we should live our lives. Cristen Conger and Caroline Ervin (formerly Stuff Mom Never Told You) tackle questions through their trademark obsessive research, stories from rule-breakin’ ladies and a solid dose of delightful feminist rage.

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As the dumpster fire that was 2018 comes to a close, we're setting our sights on the New Year. Listeners share their unladylike resolutions -- from finding therapy to finding F.I.R.E. Then, Caroline and Cristen ring in 2019 with their own unladylike intentions. Hear our new bonus episodes about the best books to give as gifts on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.

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Y'all, we are on a mission to #FreeTheVibrator from society's ladylike hangups. Because even though women founders, designers, and engineers are increasingly claiming their space in today’s booming, $15-billion sex toy and sextech industries, the biz behind the buzz is an obstacle course of prudery, sexual double standards, and whole lotta dicks. Polly Rodriguez, co-founder of the sexual wellness start-up Unbound (unboundbabes.com), talks to Cristen and Caroline about the unexpected kinks of being a boss babe with vibrator career goals and what still stands between us and the good vibes our bodies deserve.

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Tis the season for gifting and holiday reading, but not sure where to start? We got y'all covered. E.R. Anderson, who runs Atlanta's oldest feminist bookstore, shares their favorite titles for unladies of all ages and interests, from baby feminists to tween poets to grown-up true crime fans.

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Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.

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Did you know that San Francisco, aka America’s queer capital, is currently home to ZERO bars exclusively for queer women? Ditto for Los Angeles, Portland, Chicago, New Orleans, and a growing number of cities around the country. So why have lesbian bars become an endangered nightlife species? Caroline and Cristen explore their complex cocktail of historical and cultural impacts and hear from y'all about what it means for communities when these near-and-dear, queer watering holes dry up.

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Hear our new bonus episodes about the best books to give as gifts on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial.

Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.

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To dunk or not to dunk? For women's basketball, this has long been the question. It’s the ‘wow factor’ that WNBA haters often point to as proof that the women's game doesn't deserve the fandom, fame and fortune that the guys get. But will more women bringing the slams settle the score? And, uh, how do you slam dunk anyway? Cristen and Caroline talk to dunking superstars past and present to sort through the courtside gender politics of stuffing the net.

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This is not another depressing AF story about the rape kit backlog. Instead, unladylike hero and sexual assault nurse examiner Trisha Sheridan tells Cristen and Caroline everything we didn't know we needed to know about what's in a rape kit and how could these forensic tools restore consent, dignity and justice to patients. Plus, we discover the very surprising funding source for America's first rape kits! TW for rape and sexual assault.

Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial.Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.

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Even if women sweep the 2018 midterm elections, they will still occupy less than a third of congressional seats. So, what does the political pipeline look like for today’s Tracy Flicks and Olivia Popes who are dreaming about running in tomorrow’s elections? To find out, C&C revisit the one place where American girls get to be president. Plus, they get schooled about political ambition and what makes or breaks a women's decision to run for office.

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As morticians, funeral directors, taxidermists, and all-around mortality enthusiasts, women of the death-positive movement are out to radically disrupt — and reclaim — our end-of-life culture and care. Order of the Good Death director Sarah Chavez helps Caroline and Cristen sort out what that means, how the male gaze haunts our corpses, and why reclaiming what happens to our bodies when we die just might be the ultimate feminist act.

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Thanks to Mean Girls, "Halloween is the one day a year where a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it." But this year, we're not sure we can take it. So we invited our podcast ghoulfriend Negin Farsad to help us reconcile costumes of our pasts and figure out what to be for 2018. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code ""UNLADYLIKE"" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.

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Women go to the doctor more often than men but our aches and pains tend to be taken less seriously by physicians. To learn more about why patients are losing their patience, Cristen and Caroline talk to Allison Behringer about how her mystifying experience with painful sex inspired her to create a new podcast called Bodies. Then, we'll meet a gynecologist who’s got some great advice for getting heard at your next appointment.

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Don't know jack about loosening lug nuts and swapping in a spare? You're definitely not alone. But why don't more women know how to change a tire? And where did the boys-only rules about car care come from anyway? Today, C&C investigate with one handywoman who fixed a flat but broke her date and another whose racetrack dates led to pro racing's first all-female pit-crew.

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The commercial sex work economy is ancient, vast, and constantly misrepresented by police and pop culture alike. With the help of Noor Tagouri, a Muslim-American journalist and host of the new podcast Sold in America, Cristen and Caroline explore the spectrum of the sex trade, what really makes it risky, and why legalization isn't the silver bullet for making it safer.

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Y’all pissed? Us, too. As America rings in a year since Harvey Weinstein’s comeuppance with a Supreme Court confirmation vote for Brett “I Like Beer” Kavanaugh, we humbly offer a pep talk for putting our feminist rage to good use.

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Ever feel lost in a patriarchal wilderness where ‘boys will be boys,’ but girls must be ladies? Then do we have a field guide for you! In a special behind-the-book episode, Cristen and Caroline sit down with senior producer Abigail to get up close ’n’ personal about the inspo, info and illustrations packed inside Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy & Claiming Your Space.

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Birdwatching is one of the fastest-growing outdoor hobbies, but don't let its daintyfied, kitchen-window connotations fool you. Point your binoculars in the right direction, and you'll spot a nest of unladylike passions, persistence and politics that have bonded women and birds for centuries. Join Cristen and Caroline's crosscountry flight from a competitive minivan of moms to a political mover and shaker in the nation's biggest birding organization.

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Just how messy is being a hot mess these days? It's easy to feel like one, or slap the title on your brunch friends after that third mimosa, but is there more to it than champagne and disorganization? C&C decided to ask an expert: drag queen extraordinaire Lil Miss Hot Mess! She explains why drag is the perfect medium for being a hot mess and how she stood up to Facebook defending her right to identify as one.

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In 2012, Franchesca Ramsey got famous overnight with her viral YouTube video, "Shit White Girls Say to Black Girls." She was instantly crowned a queen of internet call-outs about race, identities, and social injustice. So why did her dream-come-true also feel like a nightmare? Comic, activist, and new author of Well That Escalated Quickly: Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist, Franchesca talks to Cristen and Caroline about the unexpected side effects of celebrity, calling out, and fessing up.

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Abortion may be legal in the U.S. (for now), but that doesn't mean it's accessible to everyone who needs the procedure. In Texas, a huge state where clinics are few and far between, pregnant people can face days of travel and all the expenses that come along with it. That's where Fund Texas Choice comes in. Cristen and Caroline share an interview with "abortion travel agent" Natalie St. Clair, who helps people access the care they need.

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Women's friendships: life-affirming sisterhood or hotbed of mean-girlness? From pop culture to politics, galpals are all the rage right now, so why aren't they taken more seriously? With help from girls at Camp Farwell and friendship author Kayleen Shaefer, Caroline and Cristen discover an age-old battle against besties that often keeps us from passing the IRL Bechdel Test. Plus, a pep talk for making friends from comedian and writer Erin Gibson.

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Workplace fashion police are tough to please--especially for women and non-binary folks. But with the help of Unladylike listeners, Cristen and Caroline strip down the sexism of professional appearance standards and find out if it's possible for women to dress for success. Plus, comedian Kate Berlant helps us get dressed with an Unladylike Pep Talk!

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Moms aren't supposed to admit it, but loving your kids can also come with not loving--and possibly regretting--becoming a parent at all. Caroline and Cristen explore this taboo territory and its maternal instinct mythology with help from a couple bad mother-disruptors who are figuring out what motherhood means on their own terms.

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If you love the Unladylike theme song, you'll love the galpal behind it even more. In this Extra Unladylike, Cristen talks to singer-songwriter and BFF Madeline Adams about how her punk past inspired the podcast theme, why music is power, and what led to her current band, Flamingo Shadow.

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In a time of political panic, why is beauty and skincare booming like never before? During the first-ever Unladylike live show, Cristen and Caroline get way more than skin-deep with Buzzfeed writer and Thirst Aid Kit co-host Bim Adewunmi and New Yorker staff writer Jia Tolentino about makeup, morality and messaging and spill some beauty secrets from the audience. A surprise guest also makes her pep-talk return.

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If Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg could add anything to the US Constitution, it would be an Equal Rights Amendment (ERA)--and Cristen and Caroline are on a mission to make that happen. Today, we talk to filmmaker and activist Kamala Lopez about the century-long fight for an ERA, why we still need one, and the unladylike power we have to finally get a constitutional IUD to protect our rights from unplanned politics.

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The robot future is female, but can it be feminist? Gendered digital assistants like Alexa are here to make our lives easier, yet all this artificial intelligence comes with retrograde human baggage (and unnecessary boobs). Caroline and Cristen investigate what robots reveal about the real-world with two of the brightest human minds out there.

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Although it's as old as ovaries, menopause remains medically mysterious and more unmentionable than menstruation, something guests Nina Lorez Collins and Krysta Rodriguez are totally over. Today, Cristen and Caroline get hot-flashed 'n' bothered investigating what to expect when you're expecting menopause (or not).

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Are rape jokes having a #MeToo moment? Caroline and Cristen talk to comic Cameron Esposito about her new stand-up special, 'Rape Jokes,' and discover a history of this humor that'll change how y'all hear rape jokes today. Trigger warning: This episode contains conversations (and two very unfunny jokes) about sexual assault.

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You listen to Cristen and Caroline every week in your earbuds, but how well do you really know them? C&C take a turn answering your questions about the working on the show, being unladylike and whether they've ever sailed the bisexual seas.

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When you think "having the talk," you might think birds and bees. Far more cringe-worthy? Money. Today, things get personal as Cristen and Caroline chat with Bad with Money podcast host Gaby Dunn about how to talk about finances in your relationship — and why we all need to.

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As the Supreme Court rolls the dice with women's and LGBTQ people's rights, how do you channel your rage and choose your battles?Cristen and Caroline talk with Rewire News legal analyst — and self-described angry black lady — Imani Gandy about issues that are flying under the radar and how to keep your eyes on the balls that matter.

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Women overwhelmingly buy guns for self-defense, but statistics show guns escalate violence across the board. Cristen and Caroline talk with two firearms fans to find out how much that feeling of safety is worth -- and what's at the root of women's fear.

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Comedian Nicole Byer is single, loves sex and has the dildo Tinder profile pic to prove it. But she's starting to realize that getting laid can be way easier than going steady. Hear Nicole dish to Cristen and Caroline about being horny, hilarious, and hellbent on learning to love herself first--AND answer listeners' sex + dating questions!

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In our Extra Unladylike 4/20 bonus episode, we meet Becca Grumet, a member of the weedia. (Yes, that's weed + media and yes, we made it up!) Becca tells Cristen and Caroline about writing her magnum opus—Weed Shop: The Musical. And how her identities as a cannabis enthusiast and queer woman overlap.

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Legal cannabis is America's fastest-growing industry—and reportedly one of its women-friendliest. Cristen and Caroline sort the hype from the hangups around women and cannabis with help from three "ganjapreneurs" who are having their Big Weed Brownie—and rewriting its recipe, too.

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WTF does claptrap mean? Nobody seems to know. Even our senior producer, Abigail Keel, was stumped at first blush. In this bonus episode, she plays Cristen and Caroline YOUR slightly disturbing voicemail definitions and then our trusty hosts 'Unpack the Claptrap' on claptrap.

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Kaz Lucas wants to start a sexual revolution with her microphone. But is her native Kenya ready to listen? The host and creator of Kenya's ultra sex-positive podcast, The Spread, tells Cristen and Caroline what it means to really own your sexuality in a place where doing so is not just risqué... but also risky.

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Rosie Batty did everything victims of domestic abuse are told they should do. But it didn’t prevent her estranged ex-partner from brutally murdering their only child four years ago, in Melbourne, Australia. Our producer, Clare Rawlinson, returns home to Australia to investigate what happened next for Rosie, and for the nation. And what the rest of the would can learn from it.

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Behind every Sheryl Sandberg, there's a pink-collar workforce of caregivers and housekeepers who makes her success sustainable. So Cristen and Caroline want to know: what does "leaning in" look like for them? Ai-jen Poo and Allison Julien of the National Domestic Workers Alliance reveal the unsung power of nannies and feminism within domestic work.

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Major religions come with major women problems, but that hasn't stopped feminists of faith from trying to smash religious patriarchy from the inside. Today, Cristen and Caroline talk to Kate Kelly, who did just that in her most sacred community: Mormonism. Find out what happens, and whether Kate thinks feminism and faith are ultimately compatible.

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When showrunner and filmmaker Kulap Vilaysack realized that a part of her felt missing, she did what comes naturally and made it an onscreen project. Cristen and Caroline talk to Kulap about navigating relationships with her Laotian refugee parents and going the distance to unpack her family baggage. Plus, the premiere of Ask a Girl, where we hear from almost-10-year-old Courtney about the ups and downs of being smart, negotiating with boys, and how growns can relate to girls.

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In the premiere bonus episode of Unladylike, Cristen and Caroline swap stories of clapping back (or the times they wished they had). And then they LOL at YOUR creative catcalling comebacks. Hint: one involves dog poop.

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More than 90 percent of American public statues are of dudes, and that monumental gender gap persists around the globe. Today, Cristen and Caroline talk to Diane Carlson Evans, a veteran who spent 10 years fighting for the first memorial to military women on the National Mall. She tells us what it takes to break the bronze ceiling and why the fight still matters.

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Mystical vibes may be hot right now, but some career witches worry it’s a recipe for double double toil and trouble. Cristen and Caroline discover witchcraft lite, #witchesofinstagram and the “spiritual industrial complex” as they find out what happens when witches get down to business.

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When you scroll through yoga icon Jessamyn Stanley's Instagram feed, you'll see images that look pretty different from the average 'yoga' google image results. Today, Jessamyn gets real about how she embraced her yoga body and claimed space on the mat as a fat, black woman. Plus Cristen and Caroline unpack the yoga claptrap to trace the roots of yoga's whitewashed image problem back to it's unladylike source.

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Susan B. Anthony once called bicycles the ticket to "free, untrammeled womanhood" ... but can women really pedal their way to empowerment? Cristen and Caroline investigate the complicated history of bicycles and catcalling, and talk to a modern, badass bike messenger about out how to clap back at douchebags.

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In the premiere episode of Unladylike, Cristen and Caroline tackle one of life’s most unladylike practicalities: abortion. But even though one in three U.S. women will have an abortion, how much they cost is any uterus' guess. We’ll hear from three women with radically different experiences paying for this procedure, and unpack the dollars and nonsense that determine our access to safe, legal abortions.

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Hold on to your maxi pads y’all: Unladylike is coming on January 23rd! Find out what happens when women break the rules with hosts Cristen and Caroline’s trademark obsessive research, stories from rule-breakin’ ladies and a solid dose of delightful feminist rage. Subscribe now to get the first episode on January 23rd. Follow the show @unladylikemedia. More info at unladylike.co/podcast.