Sometimes everything you try to avoid is unavoidable

I don’t remember the exact reason why I wrote the above title. I know something prompted it. Likely, I was trying to avoid something from happening and it happened despite my efforts.

I found it in my phone’s notes the other day. I wanted it to be a blog post. And now it is, but I forgot the story behind it. Oh well.

Sometimes fate is just that. Fate. And despite our best efforts to avoid it, Fate shows up anyway. Sometimes with a shit-eating grin and a hearty laugh while your face is in the mud and your pants around your ankles.

There are religious ideas of destiny, of pre-destination, of fate. Like there’s something out there in the invisible controlling it all. Our ancestors went and made up a bunch of fantastic stories about an invisible being and that this being controls all. It took me years to disrobe these ideas and send them packing. I wish that the process only took seconds. You know, the time it takes to determine if a movie is crap or a song is shitty.

These concepts of fate are, in a sense, very human. We have brains that look for cause and effect, for patterns, for results.

The brain likes to convince humans that there’s another ear at the other end of questions or requests that listens to and responds. “Where are my keys? Please help me find them,” you say to the universe. Some people think there’s an old bearded man at the other end of that request holding your keys just out of sight.

“Please let me pass this test.”

“Please let that person like me back.”

“Please get me to my rent money faster.”

“Please let me win this hand of black jack.”

“Please help me get through this investigation into collusion with Russia.”

Who are we talking to about the things we want to avoid or that we want to happen?

I know, a big percentage of you named it god. But that doesn’t make god real. It just gives a name to the same thing everyone seems to make requests to in a time of supposed need.

And if you don’t pass your test, we’ve devoted a way to declare that the invisible being is still in control, and that the invisible being had other plans. We’ve done that for everything. “We” being a lot of people, but not everyone.

If more people gave not believing in an invisible controlling force a try, I think it’d be great. Responsibility would be personalized and controlled. The outcome of a test or an issue wouldn’t be pinned on something invisible, but visible. Something everyone can agree on.

3 thoughts on “Sometimes everything you try to avoid is unavoidable”

I quite agree with you.It just doesn’t make any sense to be grateful to some invisible entity, even if you are tortured by the worst things that life can throw at you. Then there is the silly notion that the invisible entity knows best and has a plan with all of this. Life is life and you alone must live it and try to make the best of the good and bad.

PERDEBYTJIE … thanks so much for reading and for commenting. It makes me so damn happy. I read your comment earlier today while I was on a photo shoot and it warmed my heart. Big whopping appreciative thanks!