Struggling today!

Sorry this is going to be a long one. I love my little girl to pieces but I’m really struggling today. My oh went back to work Monday so I’m still new doing this on my own as I’m a FTM, but I just feel like whenever my lo is awake she is crying from wind pain. I can’t put her down to sleep, as soon as I put her down she wakes up crying so I have to cuddle her back to sleep which can take 30/45 mins as soon as I think she is in a deep sleep I put her back down and she opens her eyes, I’m so tired I was basically up all night with her last night as she was wide awake. I can’t sleep when she sleeps as I don’t want to sleep holding her!. I’m getting really upset worrying that she is not a happy baby and it’s making me feel like a terrible mum like I’m doing it all wrong. I find myself occasionally getting annoyed because I’m tired when she is crying constantly but then I feel horribly guilty as I know it’s not her fault which then makes me feel like a terrible mum all over again. she just seems to cry so much. She struggles with wind and I think maybe she has colic, I’ve moved her on to comfort milk, dentinox and also size 2 teats, she’s 3 weeks on Thursday, I just feel like when she is asleep on me she is happy and content as soon as she wakes she cries 😢 I keep crying today I just feel a little out of sorts and want to make my lo happy I’m struggling seeing her in discomfort but I don’t know what else I can do 😫 - any advice would be appreciated xx

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My little boy doesn’t do much else but cry, poo and feed! He’s 5 weeks and has colic too, he’s on comfort milk and colief but spends most of his days moaning even when asleep!! What is she sleeping in? Could you raise the mattress a bit near her head so she’s not laying flat? Maybe put a top of yours in there too as a blanket, that way she can still smell you.

Do you get out much? Even just half hour walk per day does wonders for your sanity, hopefully she’ll sleep and you could even listen to some of your favourite music while you walk? Getting out and about is so good for you, I’ve just signed us up for baby massage and that’s supposed to be great for colic. You’re doing amazing, the first few months are the hardest and all baby wants is you and gives nothing back but things change pretty quickly and before you know it she’ll be sat up giggling 😊

My LG is 5 weeks and has days like this. Usually only 2 or 3 in a row, but that's hard enough, and coincides with growth spurts. I bought a sling and wear her on those days. It at least gives me my arms free and allows me to move around. And when OH (other half) is home i can even take a nap sitting in the recliner as he can make sure she can still breathe.

I could have wrote this myself I’m feeling exactly the same..my little boy will only settle once he has cried that much and worn himself out. It is so difficult and I find myself crying several times a day! Just have to remember it won’t be forever xxx

They way you are feeling is perfectly normal. My son was a very unhappy baby. I invested in a sling and had him on me asleep and happy for the first weeks. I think that helped him feel safe and secure and in no time he was a very confident baby that slept in his own cot from 4 months without any problems.

did you ask before putting her on comfort milk? im sure i read you should'nt use it unless told to. but some infacol and also give her a few sips of cool boiled water. speak to your HV (Health Visitor) or MW. have a look for HV (Health Visitor) drop in centres that you could go to instead of waiting for your next app. my LOs feeding habits have changed these past few days. qty & timing and she needs me more often now during the day which means i dont get my much needed nap to get me through the night feeds. i cry every day wondering if im good enough and worried ill let her down, im pertrified of going back to work because i wont be there to look after her, even though she'll be with her dad. BUT we're all good enough and this stage wont last forever. try and get out, im looking in to sensory classes or even a bumps & babies at the local one to one midwives shop. or even just a stroll around the block, get yourself & LO (little one) some fresh air. we went the shop today and just bought a can of pop and biscuits but it was nice to be outside x

My little boy doesn’t do much else but cry, poo and feed! He’s 5 weeks and has colic too, he’s on comfort milk and colief but spends most of his days moaning even when asleep!! What is she sleeping in? Could you raise the mattress a bit near her head so she’s not laying flat? Maybe put a top of yours in there too as a blanket, that way she can still smell you.
Do you get out much? Even just half hour walk per day does wonders for your sanity, hopefully she’ll sleep and you could even listen to some of your favourite music while you walk? Getting out and about is so good for you, I’ve just signed us up for baby massage and that’s supposed to be great for colic. You’re doing amazing, the first few months are the hardest and all baby wants is you and gives nothing back but things change pretty quickly and before you know it she’ll be sat up giggling 😊

Thank you, sorry your lo is going through the same thing, have you found the colief works? As that’s what I’m going to try next.

Yeah i am trying to get out as much as possible today I had a day in so that’s probably another reason why I feel worse as I felt stuck on the sofa! I’m out tomorrow with family so hoping jay will help lift my mood x

My LG is 5 weeks and has days like this. Usually only 2 or 3 in a row, but th...

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18/10/2017

My LG is 5 weeks and has days like this. Usually only 2 or 3 in a row, but that's hard enough, and coincides with growth spurts. I bought a sling and wear her on those days. It at least gives me my arms free and allows me to move around. And when OH is home i can even take a nap sitting in the recliner as he can make sure she can still breathe.

I’ve just noticed she is going through a leap apparently so that could also be why she’s extra unsettled!. What sling do you have as I think on days like this I need to wear her and then like you say I can at least move around? Thank you I feel better than I did earlier today, when my oh got in i nipped our to the shops to pick up stuff for dinner and those 20 mins have worked wonders I now want to give her a big cuddle again but she’s finally asleep lol so going to leave her to rest she’s had a busy day crying after all haha! X

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