Soul-Tied Up

“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexual immoral person sins against his own body.”

2 Corinthians 6:14

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”

Hebrews 13:4

“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and the adulterous.”

Proverbs 20:6-7

“Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them.”

1 Corinthians 6:16

“Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For as it is written, ‘The two will become one flesh.'”

Acts 4:32

“Now the full number of those who believed were of one heart and soul, and no one said that any of the things that belonged to his was his own, but they had everything in common.”

Featured Verse:

“So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.”

2 Timothy 2:22

Dear Beautiful Roses,

Let’s have a little sex talk. No worries, I’m not here to tell you you’re going to hell because of your sexual desires; I just want to know; Why is sex so vital– to the unmarried? I know that it’s human nature… or normal… or maybe even a need. Besides “Getting one off” or a “Post-D glow”; what’s the gain?

If I’m being honest, I’m beginning to see sex as a trend. We see sex marketed everywhere, everyday. In movies, on social media, TV shows, commercials, songs, books, apps, and that’s not even close to the end of the list. I guess in a culture that boosts and normalizes the appeal of sex it’s kind of hard to not desire it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying sex is bad at all, but just as everything else in this world, I believe that there are both good and bad terms for sex. I can’t speak much of healthy sexual relations within marriage; that’s not in my book of experiences yet. However, I can speak from experience on premarital sex.

I get it girl, sometimes it’s good! You feel all loved, bubbly, and warm on the inside; but did you ever think about what you’re really doing to yourself on the inside of your soul?When it comes to sex many of us disregard or are ignorant to the fact that sex has an element of worship in it. Blew away yet? Well hold on to them edges; if sex has an element of worship in it, and you’re committing the sin of fornication by having premarital sex…. just WHO are you worshiping–with your body and soul?

You see, God is the king of righteousness, and what is holy and what is sinful will never dwell in the same place. Lust is the devil’s playground, and maybe he uses our “It’s just sex” mindsets to steal worship for himself. The enemy knows that a child of God will never willingly submit to him, that’s why he slips in to deceive us into thinking that fornication isn’t really that big of a deal, because we are “forgiven”. God’s forgiveness isn’t to be taken for granted.

If you watched the video above Pastor Toure Roberts says that we only have one sexuality, not in reference to sexual gender preference, that’s another subject in itself; but he is referring to your body, your soul, the entity of yourself. When you get in bed with someone you are giving that person the most sacred part of yourself, and whether you realize it or not it is extremely VALUABLE.

One of the most common things I hear people say as their reason for premarital sex with their partner is that it makes them feel more connected. I can understand where the reasoning comes from. Again, I’ve been there, done that; I’ve asked myself the question, “Why in the world would I want to be connected to someone I haven’t yet walked down the aisle with?”

As I look deeper than the surface and realize that I’m not just “connecting” with this person, but we have become one. (As the Bible repeatedly says, “The two will become one flesh”) I will be able to see myself picking up their bad habits, setting aside my own morals, second guessing my truths, having crazy thoughts; I’m literally playing with this person’s demons, all for the physical satisfaction. Disregarding the fact that this person may not even be MY husband. (As Pastor Roberts says “If it’s a ‘may’ it’s an ‘ain’t’) until the day I say “I do”. So why has that become something I can sacrifice for a person who isn’t equally yoked with me with no true interest in God or even has the potential to enhance me spiritually, physically, and mentally for God’s kingdom? I don’t desire a soul-tie with the person who is not my soul-mate just because I couldn’t wait.

“I just can’t let go.” is one of the most dangerous lines. You wonder why “Mr. Wrong feels so right?” Not because he’s secretly the one for you and you’re going to change him, and live happily ever after. …It’s not fate honey, it’s a soul tie. The reason you feel so bound to him, when you know he isn’t right, may be a result of his strong demons within that are holding you captive. Next thing you know, you’ve wasted years upon years with the wrong one because your judgement has been clouded by sex. (It’s happened in many cases.)

I’m not trying to scare you from sex. After all, God created it, which means it is good. However, the Lord didn’t create sex for our own selfish pleasures. The Lord has beautiful reason for sex and it is a beautiful thing. It is for us to connect and become one with our God ordained husband, it is for us to be fruitful and multiply by bringing beautiful babies into this world, it is an element that allows us to worship God both spiritually and physically, and a way that we can show unconditional love for our life partner. However, we must not awaken love before it’s time. (Solomon 8:4)

God will never give us a challenge that we can’t face. So if time is your concern, try refocusing on God. When the Lord knows that you are committed to him and ready for him to use you for love he will bless you with the right person. Just as God needs your future husband to be a man of virtue (An Ephesians 5 man), he needs you to be a virtuous woman for him as well (Proverbs 31). You can’t have one without the other. This is not stating that you have to have your entire life figured out before God sends you the one, but it is saying that you must focus on him before he can trust you with the life of his anointed.

God wants to make sure that you are ready before he can fully give you the blessing and promise of love with the right one. He doesn’t want you distracted from the true purpose you come into union with your partner, and that is to be representatives to the glory of his kingdom. The Lord would rather you have a season of singleness than to destroy the union with the person he called you to marry because you weren’t ready.

Save yourself and allow God to guide you in your relationships. Spare your time, love, and body until the day you jump the broom. Don’t worry about “when”, you are the only one who can elongate the wait by not being prepared. Trust in the Lord and cling to him as you make yourself available to receive something more sacred than sex; true love.