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My update for today: my ovaries hurt. At least I feel like that's what hurts. Mr. Chiveggie is supposed to go for his second analysis in a few days, but I'm thinking he should postpone it until next week. I think the clomid is cranking my body into gear and I am now thinking the timing if my ovulating is coinciding with his days of abstinence before the semen analysis.

Um, totally dumb question, but would I have a good chance of getting pregnant if we have sex the day before a postive ovulation (LH) test? It's only time we were able to have sex this cycle due to illness and travel. I'm new to this whole getting-pregnant-on-purpose stuff....

Um, totally dumb question, but would I have a good chance of getting pregnant if we have sex the day before a postive ovulation (LH) test? It's only time we were able to have sex this cycle due to illness and travel. I'm new to this whole getting-pregnant-on-purpose stuff....

Definitely! Especially if you had lots of stretchy cervical fluid for the sperm to hang around in.

Thanks! I read TCOYF a few years ago for BC, and used FAM successfully for 3 years, so I should be better at figuring out when we should get it on to make a baby. Breastfeeding seems to be screwing up my cycle though....

I'm 36, going to be 37 in a month. I have a 5 year, almost 6 year old girl with my ex-husband. She was not planned. Now, I am with my boyfriend who I've known since 1989, went to school together. He is 37, never been married and has no kids. We have decided we want to have a baby. I have not taken birth control in 6 years and have regular periods for the most part. We have only been trying for this month and have had sex many times this month usually first thing in the morning. Question is at my age do I ovulate every month? Of course I'm totally stressed out because I really want this and he wants it even more. I'm worried about being high risk and things happening because of my age and because I take cymbalta for fibromyalgia and do smoke. Just wanted to get some opinions from those that maybe can help me along the way? Thanks!

I'm 36, going to be 37 in a month. I have a 5 year, almost 6 year old girl with my ex-husband. She was not planned. Now, I am with my boyfriend who I've known since 1989, went to school together. He is 37, never been married and has no kids. We have decided we want to have a baby. I have not taken birth control in 6 years and have regular periods for the most part. We have only been trying for this month and have had sex many times this month usually first thing in the morning. Question is at my age do I ovulate every month? Of course I'm totally stressed out because I really want this and he wants it even more. I'm worried about being high risk and things happening because of my age and because I take cymbalta for fibromyalgia and do smoke. Just wanted to get some opinions from those that maybe can help me along the way? Thanks!

If you're having regular periods it's highly likely that you're ovulating regularly as well. The older we get the more likely that we're dropping eggs that aren't viable (I think at 40ish, only about one in four are.) That said, loads of women get pregnant in their late 30s. You should definitely check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility and learn how to chart and interpret your cycles. Knowing when you're ovulating sure can't hurt.

Oh man, I just ran into the two women who were in our birthing class at our midwifery center. They're both hugely pregnant and absolutely gorgeous. And suddenly, I really REALLY want another baby.

We're visiting Ezra's godmothers for a week in NYC this fall, and we've started to think that it'd be a really nice place to conceive our second child (is that a weird thing to plan or think about?) So we'll see...

My former colleague told me she birthed her gorgeous, perfect son at 49. Sure they used IVF, but his sperm and her eggs, and they had an uneventful, lovely pregnancy. He is turning 2, hitting all his milestones and cute as can be.

Sure, its not the norm, but it gives me so much hope.

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We're visiting Ezra's godmothers for a week in NYC this fall, and we've started to think that it'd be a really nice place to conceive our second child (is that a weird thing to plan or think about?) So we'll see...

PPK meet-up!

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I'm 36, going to be 37 in a month. I have a 5 year, almost 6 year old girl with my ex-husband. She was not planned. Now, I am with my boyfriend who I've known since 1989, went to school together. He is 37, never been married and has no kids. We have decided we want to have a baby. I have not taken birth control in 6 years and have regular periods for the most part. We have only been trying for this month and have had sex many times this month usually first thing in the morning. Question is at my age do I ovulate every month? Of course I'm totally stressed out because I really want this and he wants it even more. I'm worried about being high risk and things happening because of my age and because I take cymbalta for fibromyalgia and do smoke. Just wanted to get some opinions from those that maybe can help me along the way? Thanks!

36 is no big deal -- I'm 35 and trying for number 3 right now. My paternal grandmother had her 7th kid when she was 45. I have another friend whose mum had 7 -- she had her first at 29 and had her last child at 41. I hate how even people in their 30s are starting to get flack for being too old to conceive. I remember my MIL telling me when I was in my late 20s (and childless) that I'd be facing the fertility issues of old age "very soon." ;p~~~

I would, however, see if there are any negative side-effects for the cymbalta when getting pregnant and I'd try to quit smoking, too.

Well, I've been taking B6 and maca powder and it's day 9 of my luteal phase and my temp was still up this morning, which means I'm not getting my period today. This is the longest luteal phase I've had since having Raygold (mind you, I've only had 5 periods), so maybe the claims about maca powder and vitamin B6 are true. *fingers crossed*

Bah! Got my period today. My luteal phase was 10 days, though -- two+ days longer than it has been for the last 5 cycles -- and that was only after taking maca powder for 2 and a half weeks, so maybe this time it will be a little longer. Raygold is only nursing twice a day. Once at 7pm (bedtime) and again at 5:30am (he wakes up then every day like clockwork). I was nursing Beetroot much more than that when I conceived Raygold.

Crabby: Sorry that this cycle didn't work, but yea for the longer luteal phase

I got a positive opk test Saturday night and my temp was up this morning. It was our wedding anniversary this weekend and we lost power for several hours so everything was conducive to babymaking. Next week we are heading on a vacation with my family so I will be at that awkward two week window of coming up with excuses for not drinking. The good news with the close quarters in the family cottage is the lack of privacy will prevent me from wanting to test early, and from checking my temp each morning. I'm sure it will be the first thing I do when I return though. Mr. Chiveggie gets his second semen analysis before we go too. This is my third cycle with clomid, so it's on to the fertility specialist if this cycle didn't work. I certainly know that it is the clomid that is triggering ovulation though. Due to various issues I started the medication on different days each cycle, and it is obvious the later I took the meds, the later I ovulated that cycle.

Also I started acupuncture again. Most relaxing 30 minutes ever once all the needles are in. I'm not so good at meditating, but actually can when I'm there. Anyways, for the first time I actually had pain with one of the needles. The acupuncturist always tells me which "channels" she's hitting and she said one is often blocked with fertility issues and when she stuck that spot my foot felt like it had been electrocuted. The feeling went away in a minute or two, but wow it was weird, normally I don't feel anything but an overall relaxing feeling. I know not everyone believes in acupuncture, but if nothing else I find it as relaxing as spending that money for a massage.

Can you say you have a slight headache or something? Or make up a story about some kind of special diet/fast/etc.? I hate how some people are weird about not drinking. My mom has a drinking problem, so if I don't drink, everyone assumes it's in protest or something. (Not that I have seen my parents lately.)

So I had decided that this summer was gonna be focused on fun and whatever makes me happy, and putting baby-making out of my mind until I've taken off some weight. Totally fine, except that my wonky periods are kind-of forcing me to think about it. May: 35 day cycle ends in the lightest period I've ever known and no menstrual cramps. (My normal is unbelievable pain on a heavy day 1, 2 moderate flow days, 1 light day.) June: cycle day 40 and I get this old/brown looking discharge, and again no cramps.

I have no idea what's going on. I thought we had things figured out for the time being with the PCOS, so the plan was to enjoy the status quo until we came home from vacation in September and THEN start trying actively. But I don't know if I ought to worry about this at all. I really don't feel like going back to my doctor again.

_________________Yay, and verily he said unto them, "Eat this nooch for it tastes kind of like cheese, and drink this kombucha for it is awesome. And don't be a vegan hating douche because no one likes an asshat." - DancesWithTofu

I think I'm pregnant but I'm not sure. I'm three days late on my period but this is only my second cycle off the pill so what if my cycle is just longer? I took a First Response early detection test last night and again this morning and got a faint positive. I called my gyn to make an appointment to get a blood test and the receptionist told me that if I got a positive home test that she would just schedule me for my first prenatal and if I want the blood test done then I could request it. My appointment is next week. So until something tells me otherwise, like getting my period or the doctor, I assume I'm pregnant. I don't know why I feel so unsure.

chiveggie, just so you know, it is actually quite safe to drink in the first two weeks of pregnancy, because the zygote has not implanted yet, and therefore isn't going to be affected by alcohol in your bloodstream. after the embryo implants, it starts to use your body for nutrients and so on, that's when the risk starts. that is according to my midwife and some scientific information i read. then, as far as i can tell, it gets riskier to drink heavily from the 3rd week until the 3rd trimester, because at that point the fetus is able to do some self-regulation and reduce the effects of the environment on it.

anyway, i know drinking alcohol while pregnant is a touchy subject, especially in north america, but i've always felt comfortable having a half glass or glass of wine or beer. if you want to avoid comments, i think you'd be fine with nursing a glass of white, you know?

thanks littlebird, I always assumed that, but never researched it in detail. Especially since kids with fetal alcohol syndrome don't seem to be common. I think a lot of it has to do with our portion sizes of alcohol being so extreme over here doctors are scared women will go overboard.

It's on to the fertility specialist for us, and my husband was referred to a urologist. His morphology analysis showed only 5% normal shape (last time it was 14%) and normal is 15% or higher. From a cursory internet search, it doesn't look like there is a definitive treatment for that, but IUI is the way around it.

Of course with those results coming last week, I wasn't expecting anything this cycle, but I'm 16 days post ovulation and still no period so I thought well maybe we beat the bad percentages. But no. Negative pregnancy test this morning :(

biodancer, i am so happy for you! i got a very faint positive when i first tested with my son and later got a strong one. Congratulations.

Chiveggie, hugs, i am sorry that it hasn't worked out. I hope you guys can work it out.

I am finally going to get to talk to the doc tomorrow when i go back in. It turned out she was out of town when my test results came back and she hasn't gotten back to me. I am hoping for a positive feedback, but we are planning to start looking at adoption options if that's not the case.