OT: husband hanging on to Ex's stuff

Is it too much too ask to want my DH to have all of his ex wife's **** out of my house? Her dishes her linen her books, EVERYTHING!!!!! He even wanted to keep old baby stuff they bought for their son, my step son, and use it for our baby! I can't stand that ***** first of all and him defending keeping her things "if they help us" is really pissing me off. He just will never get if they had anything together I don't want anything to do with it! I'm just gonna throw away everything I find. I'm tired. Of asking. Vent over.

Is it too much too ask to want my DH to have all of his ex wife's **** out of my house? Her dishes her linen her books, EVERYTHING!!!!! He even wanted to keep old baby stuff they bought for their son, my step son, and use it for our baby! I can't stand that ***** first of all and him defending keeping her things "if they help us" is really pissing me off. He just will never get if they had anything together I don't want anything to do with it! I'm just gonna throw away everything I find. I'm tired. Of asking. Vent over.

You go girl!! I guess the clothes didnt bother me too much. When the ex moved out she.left all of ss old babies clothes. I washed em and seperated to good ones. Now i like that we have pics of all three if tge kids in the same jammies. I feel like it is another connection for them.

You go girl!! I guess the clothes didnt bother me too much. When the ex moved out she.left all of ss old babies clothes. I washed em and seperated to good ones. Now i like that we have pics of all three if tge kids in the same jammies. I feel like it is another connection for them.

I'm in the same boat... All of SO ex's stuff is in our guest bedroom closet. She had a daughter and my SO thinks it is good to use her old playpen and high chair for our ds and it drives me insane... I have had problems with her a lot in the last 3 years. I bug him about throwing it out, because it makes me feel like there Is still a spot in his heart that he can't let go of. So I gave him an ultimatum. Either he throws it out this week or I'll do it myself :) if it's in here for another week or so, I think I'll go insane.... I don't really have advice, because it's been there for 2 years, And 1 year in storage. But I know how you feel.I hope he gets that stuff out soon. It's stuff from the past....

I'm in the same boat... All of SO ex's stuff is in our guest bedroom closet. She had a daughter and my SO thinks it is good to use her old playpen and high chair for our ds and it drives me insane... I have had problems with her a lot in the last 3 years. I bug him about throwing it out, because it makes me feel like there Is still a spot in his heart that he can't let go of. So I gave him an ultimatum. Either he throws it out this week or I'll do it myself :) if it's in here for another week or so, I think I'll go insane.... I don't really have advice, because it's been there for 2 years, And 1 year in storage. But I know how you feel.I hope he gets that stuff out soon. It's stuff from the past....

i havent been in this situation before but i can see how this would be annoying! if he is really just hanging on to baby stuff to reuse and save money, why no suggest selling it (craiglist? or see if there is a swap board on fb for your area?even if you just get 20bucks for theplay pen etc) and using that money towards new stuff for your baby? then everyone wins! someone in need will get cheap baby items, youll save money on new stuff and it will be out of your house :) just throwing the idea out there :) good luck!

i havent been in this situation before but i can see how this would be annoying! if he is really just hanging on to baby stuff to reuse and save money, why no suggest selling it (craiglist? or see if there is a swap board on fb for your area?even if you just get 20bucks for theplay pen etc) and using that money towards new stuff for your baby? then everyone wins! someone in need will get cheap baby items, youll save money on new stuff and it will be out of your house :) just throwing the idea out there :) good luck!

I guess I'm of a different mindset. I still have a set of nice pots and pans from my DH's first marriage. I think they were even a wedding gift. I look at it like "screw you, I've got the guy and the nice pans :)" Besides, they were his too and I don't think he looks fondly and the skillet while he is making us breakfast dreaming of his ex!!! Anyway, no offense to you, just wanted to throw that out there!

I guess I'm of a different mindset. I still have a set of nice pots and pans from my DH's first marriage. I think they were even a wedding gift. I look at it like "screw you, I've got the guy and the nice pans :)" Besides, they were his too and I don't think he looks fondly and the skillet while he is making us breakfast dreaming of his ex!!! Anyway, no offense to you, just wanted to throw that out there!

Growing up my parents were divorced and they pretty much kept things from their marriage, I'm pretty sure my dad still has the blender they had and for awhile my mom had couches, the bed frame they had and so on. They had 3 kids together and these Were things that we were used to having around. I personally think its immature for you to expect him to give these things up. They had kids together, he has already bought items for his older kids that are still good. Just because his ex wife used them doesn't mean they aren't still good items. I could see if it was the mattress they used.

Growing up my parents were divorced and they pretty much kept things from their marriage, I'm pretty sure my dad still has the blender they had and for awhile my mom had couches, the bed frame they had and so on. They had 3 kids together and these Were things that we were used to having around. I personally think its immature for you to expect him to give these things up. They had kids together, he has already bought items for his older kids that are still good. Just because his ex wife used them doesn't mean they aren't still good items. I could see if it was the mattress they used.

Ok I'm just gonna ignore the immature comment. Thanks everyone else for the support and good ideas to help with the situation. I just think when you make a house your home together with someone it shouldn't involve others things from a home you created with someone else.

Ok I'm just gonna ignore the immature comment. Thanks everyone else for the support and good ideas to help with the situation. I just think when you make a house your home together with someone it shouldn't involve others things from a home you created with someone else.

When my boyfriend and I moved in together he brought many items from previous marriage. I replaced them all slowly and gave away what I felt it was unnecessary in our home. Silverware (new), dishes (new), sheets (threw them out immediately), kids clothes (kept and he loves to see our son wearing his boy's clothes), t.v (kept but we are buying a new one next month..yay). In the long run it has taking me about 2 years to get rid off the stuff but he never made a great remark o memory about the items. Hope it gets better.

When my boyfriend and I moved in together he brought many items from previous marriage. I replaced them all slowly and gave away what I felt it was unnecessary in our home. Silverware (new), dishes (new), sheets (threw them out immediately), kids clothes (kept and he loves to see our son wearing his boy's clothes), t.v (kept but we are buying a new one next month..yay). In the long run it has taking me about 2 years to get rid off the stuff but he never made a great remark o memory about the items. Hope it gets better.

thank god im not the only one. im tired of hearing ugh i bought that for maddy but ashli took it. well oh wel i wouldnt have used it anyway so she can use it this is my first child i want to pick things out spend the time

thank god im not the only one. im tired of hearing ugh i bought that for maddy but ashli took it. well oh wel i wouldnt have used it anyway so she can use it this is my first child i want to pick things out spend the time

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