Why Women Fake Orgasms

Why Do You Fake Orgasms?

Eighty percent of women have faked an orgasm, according to a new study. While it only asked 71 women, the study made up in depth what it lacked in breadth.

Researchers broke down sex noises into categories, such as "silence," "moan/groan," "scream/shriek/squeal," "words" (such as "yes," "more," or a partner's name). They followed up by asking women why they made each noise, and it rarely had anything to do with orgasms. Most of the time women were faking sounds to influence or, in the study's words, "manipulate" partners, but not necessarily in a devious way. In short, they wanted to speed things up.

Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire in England said "boredom, fatigue, discomfort," and "time limitations" were all reasons women artificially enhance the moment. Sound about right to you? Remember, you can log out to comment anonymously if you want!

yes i have faked orgasms, i mean, we came clean some days ago, and he has faked some too, of course, it wasnl't a loot of orgasms I've faked, Its mean on one side, but on the other its, well.. kind. LOL i know how this sounds, but i mean we have to keep our men going anyways right?

I orgasm every time we have sex. No need to fake it. I wouldn't anyway; the guy needs to know he's not doing it right! And I'm pretty loud, which I don't think I exaggerate, I just let go and make whatever noise I want to make, it makes me feel free and uninhibited.

5 years

And of the numerous times we've been intimate, I can't say for sure that I have orgasmed, but he sure has. Would it be so cruel if I accidentally let this slip during an argument?

Uh, I try not to. I like reaching my orgasm. and If I don't I usually get bothered and finish myself off. lol. But when I have, it's usually to get it over with, just because the partner I was with, was not doing it for me.

Uh, I try not to. I like reaching my orgasm.
and If I don't I usually get bothered and finish myself off. lol.
But when I have, it's usually to get it over with, just because the partner I was with, was not doing it for me.

5 years

I've never faked it, but one time recently I over exaggerated my orgasm. I tend to be very quiet in bed, even when I'm orgasming it's pretty much just heavy breathing. My guy was a bit bothered by it, he asked me why wasn't I getting more into it, did I not enjoy it? Thing is I definitely enjoy it, he gives me more pleasure in bed that any guy I've ever dated. I wanted him to know that, so the next time after he said that I gave him a performance.
The sad part is that I was so focused on the moans and "oh baby's" that I didn't really enjoy my orgasm. I'm going to have to find some sort of middle ground.

I can't because I'm afraid he'll figure it out. I'm not an actress. I've always been a bad liar. So I'm usually honest. When I'm really tired or just can't get into it, I've told him I kinda just want to be done with it, haha... he doesn't like that.
Chrstne, I often feel the same way. I do like foreplay, but I'm not all that interested in the actual act. And then it bugs my bofriend when he wants to know what I want, and my response is usually, 'what do you want?'. Blah. Maybe I should start practicing my fake squeals.

I can't because I'm afraid he'll figure it out. I'm not an actress. I've always been a bad liar. So I'm usually honest. When I'm really tired or just can't get into it, I've told him I kinda just want to be done with it, haha... he doesn't like that.Chrstne, I often feel the same way. I do like foreplay, but I'm not all that interested in the actual act. And then it bugs my bofriend when he wants to know what I want, and my response is usually, 'what do you want?'. Blah. Maybe I should start practicing my fake squeals.

5 years

I used to fake them because the first guy I was with would keep asking, did you cum yet? and pressure me until either he would cum or I would fake it. Since then its hard for me to be patient with myself. I don't fake it any longer but I do let my more recent lovers "assume" I'm satisfied.

I have faked orgasms, and I'm not proud to say that I do nearly every time I have sex. I don't know why, but sex for the physical gratification does not interest me. Perhaps because I am stuck in that mindset, I just can't really derive pleasure from it. I like the ACT of sex, I like the closeness, and I like when my boyfriend has an orgasm...but I truly don't feel like I need one, and I don't even desire one. I mostly fake orgasms so my boyfriend knows that he DOES satisfy me. I don't know how else to convey that unless I have one...and since I really just *can't*, it feels like, I fake it.
I really want to stop, but I am unsure about how to approach the conversation with my LIB.

I have faked orgasms, and I'm not proud to say that I do nearly every time I have sex. I don't know why, but sex for the physical gratification does not interest me. Perhaps because I am stuck in that mindset, I just can't really derive pleasure from it. I like the ACT of sex, I like the closeness, and I like when my boyfriend has an orgasm...but I truly don't feel like I need one, and I don't even desire one. I mostly fake orgasms so my boyfriend knows that he DOES satisfy me. I don't know how else to convey that unless I have one...and since I really just *can't*, it feels like, I fake it. I really want to stop, but I am unsure about how to approach the conversation with my LIB.

I've faked them, I'm not going to lie....most of the time it was to save the guy's ego. If he hit the wrong spot and caused me pain, or did something else that irretrievably killed the mood/moment, it was better than saying 'I quit', while tearing up and/or craddling my genitals. I never did it out of malice. I regret doing it now, of course, and no longer do it.

I never have faked it and never will. To be honest I think faking it is worse than having sex with someone else when you are in a relationship!
And I bet my comment above has put the cat amongst the pigeons!

I never have faked it and never will. To be honest I think faking it is worse than having sex with someone else when you are in a relationship!And I bet my comment above has put the cat amongst the pigeons!

I'll only do it to speed things up - for sure. I agree with this article.

5 years

I've never faked one.

5 years

yes - i have a really hard time reaching an orgasm (on my own and with my boyfriend) but he gets really really self conscious unless i pretend to once in a while. it's actually a really big problem because i get nervous then don't want to have sex, then he gets upset, etc. and it's a horrendous cycle.