i have that and i heard the talk about how venus in aquarius is detached; does anyone know much about this/that?
in this case ;would being with an aquarius man be?
was only with one aquarius male who was very secretive.

I'm a Capricorn, with Aquarius rising and Venus in Aquarius. I don't know if it's detachment, insecurity, aloofness, whatever. I'm pretty happy-go-lucky, diverse interests, interesting, but the Capricorn (triple cap too) needs the security that the Aquarius in me doesn't want to ask for, which probably sends some seriously mixed signals.
The Cap sun/Aqu venus definitely is a strange combo -- being grounded at everything (seemingly) but love. I guess if you had fire placed well in your chart, it might off-set the commitment to being aloof.

did you know that venus cant move more than 45 degrees away from the sun (as we see it) therefore if your a cap sun then you will either be a venus:
scorp, sag, cap, aqau or pisc (with only the 15 degrees into pisces and 15 degrees out of scorp) i think.

We are very detached us venus in aqua people, and this is magnified by having a cap sun.

This is because aqua rules a few things including science and technology which is vastly different from your venus which rules senuality, relationships, beauty etc

So you have a bit of a clash straight away, but you also have a combination of the two eg maintainence of relationships (romantic and friendship) over technology - this is happening throughout the world due to the age of aqaurius.

The use of technology also helps for detachness, and this isnt anything bad, some people just dont like the lovey dovey overly flowerly stuff. Some people want to experience a different side of relationship that differs from the norm (us aqua venuses love to persue relationships that are outside the norm). So we are probably being detached from the norm, we just dont want the same thing as everyone else and thus remove ourselves from it.

Also remember that venus is also about posessions, beauty (how you dress yourself?? etc) values and so on - its not just about relationships and it never is for us, theres more to us then that.

Being with a aqua man and having a venus in aqua would help you to understand them, you unerstand there need for space, and freedom, - its not them rejecting you but them wantin to feel like there not tied down.

Just appraoch things a diff way, variety is a great thing.

Just a handy hit, a moon to venus connection is great i have found - people with a air moon i seem to click with straight away, however just remember the lack of emotionality that comes with air signs and have a look to see if they have water signs to balance this out.

With Cap Sun, Moon and Mercury I notice that it's more the people I surround myself with and am comfortable with that have the Aquarian traits rather than myself. I don't know if it's my Scorpio Asc./rising and/or Sag Mars that keeps me from being completely detached but I can feel an urge to run off if I feel I'm being confined or controlled.