Sex and Sexuality in Pakistan

Writing something about the society of Pakistan, I categorized
the Pakistani people into:

Elite class

This class includes government machinery, industrialists,
Ministers and armed personals.

These guys haven’t any thing to do with Islam. They usually eat
drink and remain happy.

There is no different between this class and westerners
socially. Because they live in Pakistan but adopt customs of the
West. So all the so-called "evils" that are common in West are
also found in this class.

Mediocre class

This class includes most religious concerning people because
they always have the need of God to remove their problems and for
improving their life standard. About 2% of people, who say Islamic
prayers, fall in this category.

Poor class

This class includes people who don’t know about Islam and
Mohammed. Their day starts in quest of filling their bellies and
ends with searching sleeping place. Mostly, students of Islamic
Madrassa belong to this category. Most of the Taliban, prior to
indoctrination, were among them. They are illiterate and can not
even recite Islamic prayer.

I noticed that Muslims living in infidel countries, enjoying
equal rights and facilities, view Islam differently than those
living in Islamic countries. This is because, they think Islam has
something that changes the society and life of people. But sadly,
Islam destroys family system, allows polygamy and support
dictatorship.

Many Muslims in the West think that wine, gays, pre martial sex,
abortion, porn and lesbians don’t exist in Islamic countries. But in
reality, I will say these things are probably as common in Pakistan.
I haven’t seen the West yet, but know well about Pakistan. I toured
a lot and having friends of different provinces I know a lot about
this.

Wine:

It is very common and easily accessible. I can have a bottle
while writing this article just pressing some numbers on my cell
phone. For the elite class, wine is like mineral water supplied to
their homes. About all the hotels have special supply of champagne.
For the middle class, being drunk seems "sin" and people use it
usually during celebrations and festivals. As shown in Indian films,
it is common in parties. Wine of every type is available in
Pakistan. Even villagers produce their indigenous wine to suffice
the need of local people.

Premarital sex:

Quest of fulfilling sexual desires starts quickly after the age
of puberty reaches.

I think it is natural because same behavior is found in animals.
But I am not here to write whether pre martial sex is good or bad. I
will only describe how it exists in Pakistan. Due to honor killings,
girls normally have to keep them restrained. The existence of
premarital sex among girls have comparatively smaller ratio than
sodomy amongst boys.

Sodomy

Sodomy
is very common in Pakistan. It is more common in areas of NWFP where
Islamization is stronger then in other provinces. Actually, every
one need to be sexually satisfied by wet dreams, masturbation or pre
martial sex. But, in Islam, masturbation can cause pregnancy of
fingers. Therefore, the only way left, prior to marriage, is sex
with any girl, boy or animal. Since, fewer girls are engage in
premarital sex in fear of honor killing and other Islamic rulings,
the only one way left for Muslim youngsters to satisfy himself
sexually. In Pakistan, people feel ashamed to masturbate or telling
about it. On the other hand, they feel proud of telling about their
sodomy. This is a fact. Despite all these activities, prostitution
is still flourishing. For whores, every hour is rush hour. And due
to technological advancements, you can now call "call girls" to your
apartment via cell phones. These cell numbers are very common due to
advertisement.

Most common term in Pakistan is "heera mandi" (sex market). Every
Pakistani reading this knows very well about it. This market is
flourishing in every town and village of the country. Police and
other law enforcement agencies take their "share" in this business.

Last week, all friends of mine were talking about what percentage
of people in Pakistan abstain from sex before marriage. We asked
this question to 100 boys from different regions of Pakistan in our
university. Frank with us, only four students said, they abstained
from sexual acts of any type completely. Amongst Muslims in
Pakistan, only 7% can fight their lust and don’t commit "zinah".
Every honest Pakistani can not but agree with these statistics.

Being a boy, I can not ask girls about this in fear of being
honor-killed.

Honor-killing is very common and an act of pride in Pakistan.
Every day I read in local newspaper about the honor-killings. But
the interesting thing is that those, who honor-kill girls,
themselves indulge in premarital sex—a tragic double standard.

It is man's monopoly in Pakistan. Men want to have all kinds of
relations with other girls. But when they discover or doubt that a
girl from their own family is doing such act of "sin"—then there is
only one cure for her, honor-killing.

Despite having such high rate of premarital sex taking place
behind the scene—Pakistanis, myself included, used to boast that
Western people are shameless and without any moral values for having
open premarital relationship. But now, I think it is everywhere in
one way or another. Muslims living in western countries—who think
that Islamic lands are pure and such kind of acts, which they
perceive as "evils", don’t exist here—should get rid of their vain
disillusion. They should never think that Islamic societies are
morally good than other societies.

So, if you are looking for a son-in-law or daughter-in-law from
Pakistan, there is no guarantee that he/she (particularly he) will
be chaste.