Menopause Support Group

Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.

Low Libido and Partner Management

We are all experiencing some of the 35 symptoms of menopause. We share the struggle with our bodies and the changes taking place. It has been good to read what you all have to say about various topics. I pose the question: What/How are some of the ways you have discussed these changes with your partner, so that when it directly affects your sex life, he understands and does not take things personally? I have tried to explain, offered articles for him to read, and even read some outloud. YOUR SUGGESTIONS AND HELP ARE APPRECIATED!

CMP-That is a loaded question to answer. I know it has been a struggle with my husband also. I went to the library and taken books out on the subject. We constantly talk about having sex and I told him he has to give me notice so that I can prepare myself. It does take to spontaneity out of it, but it has been working for us. My husband is in the medical field and he talks to a lot of female doctors and female coworkers about perimenopausal and menopausal symptoms that I am going through, so it helps him understand more. Take you husband/partner to see you OB doctor and have him ask questions that he needs answers to. I think hearing it from someone seeps in deeper than reading in a book. Let him hear about other women experiences if this is not embarassing to him so he can get some insight. With everything else going on with out bodies, its a wonder that we can do anything these days. Hope what I said help and good luck. Its hard I know, but hopefully it will get better to bare with. Have a good holiday season.

Low libido hasn't been one of my issues yet, I have always had a high sex drive and still do. However when the vaginal dryness and atrophy started, pain became a big issue for me.

Even after treating the atrophy there is still the issue that things just don't feel the same anymore.
I don't think I really went out of my way to try to explain it, because I think the more we talk the less men listen.

I just told him straight out that what worked in our 20s doesn't work for me anymore and that's life. That he will need to be more patient, more gentle, or that we will be having a lot less sex than we used to.

Thank you for sharing. I was discussing this topic with my cousin. (She,at age 35 began a &quot;baby project&quot; that produced quadruplets at the age of 40 - her babies are now 11 years old.) She agreed that sex is the last thing she thinks about, and that her husband is always eager! She expained, and I agree; All spiecies are designed to pro-create - from fungi to human. Men can &quot;make babies&quot; until the day they die. Women, on the other hand, have only a window of childbearing years. After that, their bodies no longer require any of those hormones or desires to pro-create. Sex becomes unimportant - hence low libido. Of course, today, there is still the physical closeness and connection that couples need and desire. For us, women, to want to actively engage in intercourse our partner must make a mental, loving, connection to activiate our desire to be in a committed fulfilling relationship. I discussed this with my husband....I think he finally gets it!! Thanks again for your response. We women need to stick together and discuss all topics, because that is what we have always done. CMP

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