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Sex Ed: The Raw Truth

Is there a lot you don’t know about sex? Are you still learning about all the different facets of intimacy? Don’t worry! You’re not alone, and quite frankly, there’s a lot of knowledge to be gained that you may not know and will surely benefit from. We discuss everything from sexual anatomy, sexual health, toys, anal sex, and more here!

What Is Cuckolding?

Cuckolding Terms to Know:

Cock = husband or partner seeking the cuckolding

Hotwife = wife or partner

Bull = wife’s lover/partner

So, what is cuckolding? Cuckolding is a BDSM fantasy wherein husbands enjoy and feel aroused by watching their wives have sex with other men. Sometimes, they even enjoy being dominated and fucked by the man as well. This arousal and pleasure often stems from the sense of humiliation in a kind of psychological sadomasochism. The husband will often enjoy men that are stronger and bigger than themselves to have sex with their wives and/or partners and they enjoy listening and watching, often times, but sometimes also simply get off from the fact of knowing that their wife or partner has been with another man and does not have to be present during the actual event. Others enjoy the mental anguish of seeing their partner being enjoyed by another and even seeing that their wife doesn’t “want” them anymore due to the pleasure with her new partner. Some husbands or partners enjoy wearing a chastity kit or cock cage to prevent them from having any kind of sexual activity such as masturbation, furthering the humiliation and “suffering.” Others might masturbate during the event and some just enjoy watching and some partners enjoy performing oral sex on the bull afterwards.

The Benefits of Cuckolding

Many husbands and partners who enjoy cuckolding lifestyles express that they enjoy a stronger erection and more intense orgasms having sex after knowing their partner was with someone else. Although not a requirement, the most common cuckold relationships are white men seeking black men to sleep with their wives or older men seeking younger men. Many in this lifestyle claim that it’s a largely mental experience for them and seek out other intellectual partners with whom they can fulfill their cuckold fantasies. Many swinger couples enjoy this lifestyle as it’s a way to maintain an open relationship while staying honest with one another and enjoying a fantasy fulfillment. If you are seeking a bull for your cuckold relationship, you can find potentials at local swingers events or even online hookup sites, but always remember: safety first and have fun! 😉

Your Guide to Pony Play

Pony play is a kind of yiff (furry) bondage roleplay in which the dom and the sub enact situations meant to humiliate and degrade the sub for sexual arousal and pleasure. All forms are considered BDSM and involve different role playing in which the dominant has power over the submissive in in various “pony” and “trainer” situations. The arousal for subs comes from being tied up and bound, mouth gagged, vision impaired, sometimes with toys inserted in various places, forced to (or willingly wanting to) role play various humiliating pony and trainer situations, and they are powerless to stop any of it. Dominants may gain pleasure from having this much power over their submissive.

The Different Kinds of Pony Play:

Forced – Forced pony play is where the submissive still considers himself/herself a human, but is “forced” by his/her Dominant or “handler” to act like an animal. This usually includes humiliation tactics by the Dominant.

Equine Roleplay – Equine role playing is where the submissive takes on a horse/pony persona and acts like a normal horse or pony would. There is no humiliation or mistreatment by the Dominant in this situation.

Therians – This kind of animal role play is wherein the submissive truly believes they are part animal. This persona may or may not transfer over into daily life.

The Different Kinds of Ponies

Cart Ponies – Cart ponies pull their Dominant or Mistress in a cart on either 2 or 4 legs.

Riding Ponies – Riding ponies are “trained” by their Dominant aka “handlers” to be ridden.

Show Ponies – Show ponies are used to model fancy tack and equipment by their Dominant “handler.”

Pony Play Tips:

Pony play usually takes places outdoors so it is recommended that those who wish to partake in pony role play own or rent private properties with barns or stalls in order to enjoy the most realistic experience. You could also go out to a local park and get hauled away in a horse trailer to enact pony role play without a farm or barn.

It is legal to go out in California and New York in full pony gear in public, but you must remained fully clothed. In other places, it may not be fully legal and is not recommended due to safety risks.

Safety Tips: It is highly recommended that you use safe words when engaging in any kind of bondage play. If you engage in pony play during the summer, be sure to stay hydrated and take breaks to avoid dehydration and heat exhaustion in extreme temperatures. For those embodying the role of horse or pony, it is SO important to use proper footwear and not go out barefoot or with hooves as both can be highly damaging in rough terrain. Whenever engaging in any kind of bondage, it is important to be careful with proper blood circulation, take breaks for stretching and moving around normally without restriction, etc. Refer to our rope bondage guide for more tips on how to use them safely.

What is Rosebudding?

Today’s post is all about rosebudding. So, for those of you who are not familiar, rosebudding is the act of stimulating your anal canal and walls to the point that the wall inside your anal cavity collapses and flips to the outside of your anus. Many people practice this as a kind of anal stimulation, but it can also be considered a fetish for others. Rosebudding is normally done by consistently using dildos and butt plugs, often leaving large butt plugs in for hours or even the entire day. The rosebudding normally occurs after having intense anal sex with an over-sized dildo or butt plug or via fisting. Some people also leave large butt plugs or dildos in all night and their anus rosebuds or “flower” blooms overnight.

Now, it’s important to mention that rosebudding doesn’t always happen for everyone; it really just depends on your body. I also want to mention that it’s extremely dangerous and we do not recommend that you try it at all. The reason is because deliberately destroying your anal wall opens your body up to bacteria and infections which can make you sick, cause permanent illness, and even death. Once the wall of your anus has been collapsed through the act of rosebudding, it almost never heals on it’s own. In most cases, it needs to be surgically restored and the surgery is considered a high risk. I don’t say these things to scare you, but I think knowledge is power and it’s important to be aware of how your body is affected by these acts, pleasurable in the moment, or not. Some things may seem worth it in the short term, but definitely are not in the long term.

That’s not to say you can’t enjoy fun anal stimulation, but don’t go to extremes that can potentially harm you and/or your partner. It’s just not worth it. Keep things safe, sane, consensual and fun.

xO

Disclaimer: I want to express that we don’t recommend rosebudding as it can be harmful and dangerous. Rosebudding can lead to dangerous infections and the anal wall being permanently destroyed which may need to be surgically restored at high risk. This post is meant to be informative only and does not encourage the act of rosebudding. Try at your own risk (but we recommend that you don’t).

What is Prostate Milking?

So, what is prostate milking? I’m glad you asked 😉 Prostate milking is simply an alternative form of stimulation for males that does not require stimulation of the penis. Of course, you can alternate between penis, testicles, and prostate, but these are not required for pleasure and ejaculation. There are many toys for prostate milking and stimulation, but today’s post is demonstrating how to do it, manually, without any toys at all.

Prostate Milking Tips:

Another option is to use latex gloves to maintain optimum cleanliness.

You will want to use lubricants to ease the prostate stimulation since your anal cavity is not self-lubricating.

Try different positions and see what works for you! Some fun ones include on all fours (doggy style), lying down with your back legs up in the air for ease of entry, and on your side is easiest if you plan to do this solo.

Stroke away and enjoy 😉

How to Milk Your Prostate for Pleasure & Ejaculation:

Feel around gently inside your anal cavity for what feels like a malleable walnut; it should be about 3-3.5 inches inside and feels a bit like cartilage. In order to begin prostate milking, massage and tap lightly. You will begin to feel arousal and stimulation. Repeat as desired or until ejaculation.

Please be aware: If the walnut sized prostate gland is too hard, it could indicate feces so you may want to perform anal douching before. If you’ve done an enema and it still feels hard, this may indicate a health issue so please consult your personal care physician before going any further.

Your Guide to Rim Jobs

Rim jobs or “salad tossing” is not just for gay guys. Contrary to popular belief, rimming is enjoyed by all kinds of couples and can be quite pleasurable. That said, there are a few things you should know before you jump into it including how to prep yourself beforehand, different techniques, and fun positions to try with your partner(s)!

Rimming Play Tips:

Shave + Enema: Before beginning, you or your partner may want to consider trying an enema AKA anal douching in order to clean yourself out. After that, it is advised to shower, shave and groom yourself to make the anal area as clean and trim as possible to avoid any unpleasant experiences during the fun.

Dental Dams: Consider using flavored dental dams while rimming to protect yourself and your partner from unwanted infections and irritations. Flavored dental dams also bring added enjoyment to whomever is doing the rimming by adding delicious flavors to the rim job play. Of course, this isn’t required; just a suggestion.

Lubricant: Lastly, you may want to consider having lubricant on hand if you think it will add to the rimming experience. Stick with non-toxic, unscented, and flavored varieties since they will be, inevitably, going into your or your partner’s mouth.

Keep Toys Separate: Any toys that you use during your rimming fun should be separated from your other toys. Whatever goes into the anal cavity should not be used for vaginal or oral play to avoid unwanted spread of bacteria. Clean and disinfect all your toys before using them for other kinds of erotic play.

Remember to Rinse! After all the fun has been had, remember to rinse your mouth out with an antiseptic mouth rinse to kill any and all bacteria. Both the anal cavity and your mouth can carry unwanted bacteria and it is important to protect yourself and your partner from any infection or irritation before resuming with any other kind of fun!

How to Perform Stimulating Rim Jobs:

Blow and breathe gently onto the anal area .

Use your tongue and hands to stimulate the outer and inner areas, as desired. Everyone is different so it’s important to see what your partner enjoys.

Using toys such as dildos and butt plugs, your fingers, and massaging other areas (including the vagina) while rimming increases pleasure for your partner.

Fun Positions to Try While Rimming:

Sitting on your partner’s face (optional: you may add pillows under your pelvis to facilitate play)

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Doggy style (on all fours)

Lying on your back (optional: you may add pillows under your pelvis to facilitate play)

Anal Douching 101

What’s the deal with anal douching? In today’s post, we’re diving deep into the why’s, how’s and all the ways you can use an anal douche. Read on for more 😉

Why Do People Anal Douche?

Many people who enjoy anal pleasures of all kinds find that anal douching is a great way to keep the anal cavity clean before anal sex, rimming, felching, or ass to mouth pleasure. Many people want to avoid the messy and unpleasant residue involved with anal play and therefore, opt to use anal douches as a way to keep the area as clean as possible.

How to Anal Douche:

Douching is easiest and least messy when done in the shower or hovering over your toilet.

It is important to clean your douche mechanism thoroughly before using to ensure that it’s been sterilized and disinfected.

Apply plenty of lubricant to yourself and also the douche mechanism before inserting.

Make sure you are within reach of your toilet as you will need to relieve yourself immediately after douching. Also, make sure the warm water is JUST water ONLY. Soap and other materials can cause irritation and discomfort.

Insert the douche 2-3 inches in and then let the warm water (Not too hot or too cold as extreme temperatures can be damaging) in either by squeezing the bulb, using a shower douche, or your water bag douche. Once you are letting the water flow, HOLD IT. DO NOT LET GO. Once you have a full feeling (like you need to use the restroom – listen to your body), quickly remove the douche, move to your toilet, and expel the water. Repeat 1-2 more times until the water runs clean.

3 Ways to Anal Douche:

Bulb Douche – The bulb douche is perfect for beginners. The clean you get from this kind of douche will be a lot more shallow and you won’t experience (as much) discomfort as with other forms, if any at all.

Shower Douche – A shower douche comes in a kit that attaches to your shower head. Many are easily found online. It is most commonly used for a more deep clean because it offers a constant flow of water to help clean you out more thoroughly.

Water Bag Douche (Douche Bag) – Water bag douches are traditional enema methods. They come with a bag and attached hose which can be filled with water (not in the shower) and offers a deep clean. This form is a lot more portable than the other douches available so it’s better for travel.

!Warning/Disclaimer!Please be aware that we are not doctors. We can only recommend what has worked for us personally and what others in the community have recommended in their experience. Douching is not for everyone . If you are unsure of whether or not it may be right for you, please consult your doctor before attempting. Do not douche too often because it can diminish good bacteria in your body that you need to fight off infection and stay healthy. It is recommended that you do NOT douche more than 2 times per month, only use WARM water when douching, and do NOT LET GO TOO SOON when douching. Also, do not overfill when douching as it can be harmful.

If you’ve never heard the term rubberists, then don’t worry; we’re about to broaden your horizons with a kind of bondage you might want to try! Those in the latex community, commonly referred to as rubberists, encompass anyone who enjoys a latex lifestyle. Those who enjoy wearing latex clothing, indulging in pleasure that involves latex in their sexual experiences, and have latex sex parties on the regular may consider themselves latex lovers at heart and many consider it a complete lifestyle.

What Is A Latex Fetish?

A latex fetish entails a person who is either attracted to those who wear latex clothing or one who enjoys wearing the latex clothing themselves and derives pleasure from doing so. The fetish gained popularity during the 60’s and 70’s, but has been around since the 1800’s and originated in Scotland. It’s rumored to have begun with raincoats and evolved from there. Latex fetishism is considered an all-encompassing lifestyle for many “rubberists” (or “rubbermen” for gay men). Latex fetishists always enjoy pleasure and sex related acts with latex involved. While it may seem strange to a non-latex lover, rubberists gain much pleasure from their latex-wearing lifestyles. In fact, many claim that latex makes them feel naked in their “second skin” latex outfits which is a turn-on. Others enjoy the tightness of the latex and practice a form of bondage, domination, and submission through the use of latex clothing and devices as they enjoy feeling confined and bound with latex. Enjoyment is also gained from any kind of rubber material, especially PVC sex toys. Some also find the scent of latex to be an erotic turn-on as well. Latex clothing is a great way to feel empowered or submissive, depending on the situation, and be a great way to let someone know you’re up for playing a little rough!

Where Are Latex Lifestyles Most Popular?

Latex lifestyles, including parades and local parties and festivals, are most popular in larger urban cities such as New York, Berlin, Montreal, and San Francisco. In some areas of these cities, you may even see rubberists out and about in their latex attire as it is considered a part of their life.

Popular Latex Accessories:

The most popular latex accessories include specially made latex clothing and quality is very important! The latex clothing should be sewn together, not glued, in order to be longer lasting and not fall apart during use. Aside from latex clothing worn directly on your body, other popular latex accessories and items include cloaks, gas masks, splash suits, sleep sacks (full body suits), vacuum beds, Mackintoshes (full-length water proof coats), and galoshes (rubber rain boots).

Latex Safety and Sex Tips:

First up, make sure you are NOT allergic to latex!

Buy some nice latex clothing, a few latex accessories, and PVC toys.

Take your latex play slow and steady – Take your time and explore what you like before jumping into full on latex sex parties.

Have Fun!

If you’re considering trying out some latex loving, there are a few tips we can share with you to help encourage and enjoy the experience more fully! Firstly, establish whether or not you will simply include latex in your sexual experience or if you plan on including BDSM practices. If you plan on incorporating bondage into your fun, you will want to follow the same BDSM safety guidelines (use of safe words, discussing list of acceptable practices, etc.) as any other kind of bondage play. On top of that, be aware of safety concerns when it comes to latex as hydration is so important with this kind of material since it can increase body heat and perspiration. On top of that, remember not to constrict yourself too tightly for extended periods of time as this can restrict your breathing. If you plan on using a vacuum bed, make sure you have a partner as they can be extremely dangerous when operated alone. Remember, also, that latex is easily affected by heat so avoid being near hot areas, heaters, etc. as the material can warp and melt. Be sure to use lubricant or talcum powder before attempting to put on your latex outfits as this will make it much easier to slip into. Keeping your latex clothing clean and in good condition by using a latex cleaner and spray and keeping away from oil, metal and heat. Be aware that when you are wearing the clothing or using accessories, your movement may be restricted so exercise caution and safety during use. You can also gain other insights and support from the International Association of Rubberists and Fetlife. And remember – have fun 😉

So, what is a fishnet fetish? The fishnet fetish is a sub-genre of the underwear fetish and largely pertains to those who gain arousal by someone wearing fishnet or wearing fishnet themselves. This can include masturbation onto fishnet, watching someone put on and take off fishnet, or wearing fishnet on their own body. There are many ways in which fishnet can be enjoyed and here are a few ways we’ve found most enjoyable!

Your Guide to the Fishnet Fetish

Determine Your Point of Arousal. Are you aroused by someone else wearing fishnet or just yourself? Do you enjoy seeing them on, taking them off, or touching them to your erogenous parts? Would you prefer enjoying this fetish alone or with someone else? Answering these questions can help you to fully enjoy your fun fetish!

Try Solo and Mutual Play with Fishnet. Depending on how you prefer to enjoy your fishnet fetish, you can try erotic fishnet play by yourself and also with a partner. By yourself, you can try them on or simply use them as a point of stimulation during masturbation. With a partner, your partner could wear them, you could wear them, or they can be incorporated into your mutual masturbation, foreplay fun, and even intercourse.

Experiment with Other Stocking Fetishes for Further Enjoyment. Once you’ve had some fun with your fishnet fetish, you might consider trying out other stocking fetishes to see if you enjoy them as well. This includes using nylons, thigh high stockings, and other stocking materials during your erotic play. It can add a whole new layer of enjoyment and pleasure!

Although we’re not all self-proclaimed vamps in bed, I think it’s safe to say everyone enjoys a little erotic biting now and again. Whether it’s on the neck, thighs, or someplace a little more intimate, biting can be a sign of passion, aggression and sensual pleasure. If you’re new to this kind of token of affection, our guide is just the thing you need to get a handle on trying it out for yourself and enjoying a little gentle (or not so gentle) nibbling of your own!

Your Guide to Erotic Biting

Test the Waters: If you’ve never tried erotic biting in bed with a partner, you might want to take things slow. Test the waters by gently grazing their neck or collar bone with your teeth as you kiss them. You don’t want to go gnawing away at someone who might not be into it so it’s best to ease into things. If you’re really unsure, you can speak with your partner directly and see if that’s something they’re okay with. Communication is key!

Where to Bite: Where you decide to dig your teeth in (however gently) is up to you and your partner, but there are specific erogenous zones that will act as pleasure spots for your partner. These are great places to start if you’re new to sensual biting. These pleasure hot spots include your neck, collar bone, lips, thighs, butt, and even breasts, vagina (if they’re okay with it!), and inner wrists. Be gentle until you know if you’re partner is into it and communicate what you both like to determine the best plan of action, intensity, etc.

How to Bite: As I previously said, you don’t want to go gnawing away at your partner without their consent. That’s the quickest way to kill the mood if they’re not into it. If they are okay with gentle biting, however, make sure your bites are quick, gentle, and don’t break skin. On top of that, intimate areas are completely off limits unless you and your partner agree it’s okay to do so. And remember: hickies are tacky.

Slowly Increase Intensity: Again, erotic biting is something you’ll want to ease into. Gentle biting here and there as you kiss and caress your partner is a great way to build up the intensity over time. The pressure and intensity of the bites all depend on you and your partner’s tastes so be sure to communicate how you feel, what you like, and what you don’t so that your partner can reciprocate their desires as well.

Sex on your period might be something you would never, ever in a million years consider or it might be something you enjoy on the regular. Whatever your stance on this interesting (and sometimes deliciously messy) arrangement, there are several benefits to having sex on your period and we thought we’d mention a few of our favorites 😉

5 Benefits to Having Sex on Your Period

Did you know strippers make more money on their periods? True story. Strippers tend to get better and more frequent tips during and around their periods because ovulation can literally be sensed by males on a primal level. Make it rain, ladies 😉

It represents femininity and womanhood. You might not feel very feminine during your period, but it is a serious representation of womanhood, femininity, and fertility.

It turns people on! Since it is a representation of all that is womanly, it may very well turn a lot of people on! Believe it or not, some people are extremely turned on by it.

It might save your marriage. If you only happen to give off a specific aroma during your period, it might help increase the bonding and attraction between yourself and your partner which, if there’s trouble in paradise, could really help save your marriage! 😉

Did you know it excretes through your skin and attracts others? It’s true. The scent of ovulation actually excretes through your skin (normally in the form of perspiration) and helps attract others to you. The scent is said to be similar to the scent of marigolds. Crazy, huh?

So, there you have it! You might be rethinking your no-sex-during-your-period rule and rightly so 😉

Stay Safe & Naughty 😉

xO

Disclaimer: We, here at Masturgasm, are not doctors (though we love dressing up as naughty ones ;-)). We do not claim to be healthcare professionals; we only offer the best advice and what has worked best for us. If you are unsure whether any of these tips are right for you, please seek care with a medical doctor or primary healthcare physician.