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October 30, 2018

Anticipatory Grief: Experiencing Pain Before The Loss

(Taken from my Psychology of Grief research project)

Working through an impeding loss, or imminent death, gave rise to the term anticipatory grief by Lindemann in the 1950’s (Worden,
2009). Since then others have researched
this topic with mixed results. In fact,
anticipatory grief is still controversial in both what it looks like and if it
exists at all (Nielsen, Neergaard, Jensen, Bro, & Guldin, 2016) (“Grief,
Bereavement, and Coping with Loss.” n.d.).There are those who feel it is
not possible to grieve until there is a loss (Reynolds, Botha, 2006). However
since cognitive therapists believe emotions are often triggered by thoughts,
how we think is ultimately our reality. In any case, there is stress associated
with anticipating a death whatever the label it is given. With that preamble,
the definition of anticipatory grief in this paper is: When an individual is
anticipating an impeding loss, or death, and develops symptoms relating to that
expected event.

Not everyone who knows someone who is going
to die, will develop symptoms or go through anticipatory grief (“Grief,
Bereavement, and Coping with Loss.” n.d.). Anticipatory grief commonly affects
those dealing with loved one who have terminal illnesses such as cancer and
even long term illnesses such as Alzheimer's (Scott, 2009). Some believe it
can also affect the person who is actually dying (Shore, Gelber, Wientzen,
Koch, & Sower, n.d.). Symptoms range from physical one such as headaches, nausea,
fatigue, sleep and appetite disturbances, to emotional ones like anxious, sad,
helpless, disorganized, forgetful, angry or feeling discontented from others (Shore,
Gelber, Wientzen, Koch, & Sower, n.d.).

Due to the controversy surrounding
anticipatory grief and the limited research on it, there are three schools of
thought:

3.It is a separate event and has its own tasks or phases (“Grief,
Bereavement, and Coping with Loss.” n.d.).

The
University of Rochester (Anticipatory
Grief, n.d.) lists the phases of anticipatory grief as:

1.The person accepts that death is inevitable and there is no expectation
of a cure. Feelings of sadness, anger, and depression can accompany this phase
(Hogan, 2009).This corresponds to Task
1 and starts into Task 2 of Worden’s model.

2.Concern for the dying person.

3.Death is “rehearsed” and preparations made.

4.Person imagines what life will be like without the person.

While one might think knowing someone will
die will enable them to process unfinished business, research shows mixed reactions.Some grieve even harder after their loss,
while others feel more closure (Worden, 2009) (Reynolds, Botha, 2006). Variables are many, including some grow much
closer to the person dying than in their previous relationship and thus the
loss has an even greater impact, while others find they have dealt well with
the unfinished business and are able to go through the uncomplicated grief
tasks more effectively (Worden, 2009) (Reynolds, Botha, 2006).

An additional note about complications.Those whose loved ones have Alzheimer’s. One
person shared she felt she was experiencing a new loss each time her husband
forgot something else. Unlike a terminal
illness, a person with Alzheimer’s loseswho they are bit by bit (Scott, 2009) (“Feeling Grief and Loss While You're a
Caregiver” n.d.).

Assessment for anticipatory grief is similar
to grief in general except there is no death event that triggers it.Instead symptoms may arise after a diagnosis
or any time after.An increase in
anxiety is a common attribute of those suffering from anticipatory grief
(Worden, 2009).Questions, such as the
following, can be used to assess a client (Use a scale to rate each one.) These
have been modified from the grief assessment by Holly
G. Prigerson, Ph.D., Paul K. Maciejewski, Ph.D.:

Since
the diagnosis of ________ how often have you felt yourself questioning the prognosis?

Since
the diagnosis how distressing has the though been you will lose _______ ?

Has
this thought been disruptive to your daily routine? How often?

In
the past month, to what extent have you felt on edge, jumpy, or easily
startled?

In
the past month, to what extent do you feel that life will be empty or
meaningless without _____?

Do
you find yourself wondering what life will be like after _______ is gone?

Answers to these questions can help provide
insight as to further testing for depression and anxiety, and of course use the
standard rating scales (At each
session, in addition to suicide ideation exploration. These questions also help
determine how the client is processing the tasks of grief, such as Task 1, do
they accept this event.As such anticipatory
grief lends itself to really working on Task 1 and 2 of grief (Worden, 2009).Some of the treatment suggestions recommended
include:

·Normalize the clients emotions. What they are feeling is common, ok, and
real (Scott, 2009) (Hogan, 2009).

While experts
disagree on whether or not anticipatory grief exists and if it exists what it
really is, individuals do experience real emotions and stress when faced with
an impeding loss of a loved one.These specific
symptoms can be dealt with using various psychotherapy tools and techniques
regardless of the label attached.

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