To get some answers, we went straight to the source: Two real guys, Balazs Alexa and Jean Meyer (those great names are Hungarian and French, respectively), who generally don't hate dating. In fact, they like dating so much that the Columbia University classmates co-founded online dating site DateMySchool, which hooks you up with fellow students or alumni, back in 2010. The site has over 200,000 members nationwide and is responsible for more than half the dates at schools like Columbia and NYU. Plus, cuteness alert: Balazs himself is dating the first girl he ever met through the site. Adorbs!

Clearly, these guys love love, so why the V-Day fear? Let's hear the five reasons they gave for why V-Day feels more like D-Day to men.

1. Knowing whether or not to celebrate it. They might not be going out of their way to avoid it, but guys get really confused about how to properly Valentine it up in a new relationship.

Straight from the men themselves: "If we've just started seeing each other or have been keeping things casual, then making a big deal out of the day feels like too much commitment—but then again, we don't want you to think that we're not into you if we don't make a big deal out of the day..."

Fair enough, dude. This sounds awful: Balazs recalls, "This one time, I had just started going out with a girl like the week before—we had only met up twice for drinks—and honestly, it didn't even cross my mind to do anything on Valentine's Day. I also had to work late that night anyway. Well, out of nowhere, she texts me on Valentine's Day and says she has to stop seeing me since I obviously did not value her or our time together. But I swear, I did. I just didn't think we needed to gaze into each other's eyes over a candle lit dinner with heart confetti on our plates... yet."

2. The pressure to act extra romantic. If you're clearly in an established relationship, he probably knows to do something, but that doesn't mean he likes being expected to produce romance on demand.

Straight from the men themselves: "Even when we are seriously dating, it feels inauthentic and very pressuring to be the superhero version of Most Romantic Boyfriend Ever. The truth is, we're the same guy we were yesterday and we'd rather just be our normal romantic selves."

3. Being single. Oh, you thought you were the only one who felt crappy about being alone on February 14th, ladies? Think again. Jean and Balazs are both attached these days, but they know that single guys don't love being Valentine's bachelors.

Straight from the men themselves: "It's really annoying to watch a million couples making out in front of us when we don't have anyone special, but luckily, there's still time to find someone cool. Since DateMySchool users tend to land dates within 30 minutes, you should take advantage of that if you want a valentine. (Yes, we're also biased. It's our site.)"

4. Finding the perfect gift. Even when he wants to say something special with a present, the problem is he's not really sure how to do it.

Straight from the men themselves: "A dozen roses or box of chocolates is super convenient, but we know it's not original. However, we're still trying to figure out what the ideal gift is, so ladies, please let us know in the comments below, thx! :)"

They're right, this IS confusing: Jean says, "My friend wanted to get his girlfriend an Hermès scarf this year, but I told him he should get her something more sentimental. So, he ordered these handmade necklaces on Etsy that I think have her birthstone or something... either way, it was very specific to his girlfriend. Anyway, her best friend finds out and tells him, 'Are you crazy!? Of course you should have gotten her the Hermès scarf!'"

Straight from the men themselves: "Of course we want to take you out for dinner and get you a nice gift, but we also want to make you happy without going into debt."

However, this one's debatable. Witness the disagreement below:

Balazs: "I can't rationalize spending hundreds of dollars just to be romantic on a day that isn't even naturally romantic, like it's so contrived, I'd rather do something special on a day that actually means something to me and my girlfriend."

Jean: "OK, Balazs is obviously wrong. I will spend anything on a woman I care about for Valentine's Day."

Awww, Jean, that's sweet. I think you'll find most women don't actually care about the money spent, but our opinions might be divided between that Hermès scarf and a necklace. I'll take either, if anyone's asking.

For the love of love, ladies, tell these fellas what to get a girl for Valentine's Day! And your turn to complain: What do you hate about the holiday?