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I lost a friend tonight to suicide

and although I am going to miss him, I am not overly sad about it. He was 86 years old and in good health, but I think he was weary of living and I know he was lonely. His wife died of cancer in '02 and he lived alone after that. He knew a lot of people, and he was close to his kids, but it isn't the same as living with the same person for many years.

I'm not so sure it's a bad thing, when you've lived a long and productive life to make your own decision about when and where and how.

I know that one of my biggest fears is to be that old lady in the nursing home who has outlived her friends and some of her children, who has decubitus ulcers and then is rushed to the ER where they do everything they can to save you, no matter how painful or futile.

My friend avoided all of that. He was able to leave some property and instructions for how he wanted things done.

and although I am going to miss him, I am not overly sad about it. He was 86 years old and in good health, but I think he was weary of living and I know he was lonely. His wife died of cancer in '02 and he lived alone after that. He knew a lot of people, and he was close to his kids, but it isn't the same as living with the same person for many years.

I'm not so sure it's a bad thing, when you've lived a long and productive life to make your own decision about when and where and how.

I know that one of my biggest fears is to be that old lady in the nursing home who has outlived her friends and some of her children, who has decubitus ulcers and then is rushed to the ER where they do everything they can to save you, no matter how painful or futile.

My friend avoided all of that. He was able to leave some property and instructions for how he wanted things done.

God Speed friend...

I am so sorry...prayers sent.

It's only when a mosquito lands on your privates that you realize there is always a way to solve problems without using violence. fb meme.

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. I think people should be able to make that decision when they are tired of living. The quality of one's life is more important than the quantity and I don't want to be that person in the nursing home being kept alive on life support either.

I know that one of my biggest fears is to be that old lady in the nursing home who has outlived her friends and some of her children, who has decubitus ulcers and then is rushed to the ER where they do everything they can to save you, no matter how painful or futile.

A DNR (do not resuscitate) will take care of this concern but it must be a legal DNR.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Your friend decided to leave when he felt his time came, so this way he will not have to survive through the sometimes degrading and diminishing last "extra" years that we get. I'm sure many people would want to go this way.

I don't "celebrate suicide," if you will, but I think it's great that he went out on his own terms after a good long run. I am sorry for his kids, but he may very well have spared them YEARS of watching him go down, down, down, quite possibly or probably to the point of not even recognizing them any more while also possibly depleting savings so that he could merely exist as a shell of the man they once knew him to be.

I have had several friends who have chosen to end their lives due to several reasons, but mainly so as not to be a burden to others.

I watched the final pain-filled years of my parents where they were ready to go long before they finally passed. We did not feel remorse at their death, but an appreciation of the lives that they lived to their fullest.

Recall the note that George Eastman left when he took his own life after several pain-filled years: "To my friends: my work is done. Why wait?"

I had to euthanize my elderly dog on Monday. It was time, and though I am sad I know it was the right thing. But I always think of the disparity with human end-of-life issues. I supported Dr. Kevorkian.

I've said before that there are two conditions under which I would absolutely take my own life: diagnosis of either Alzheimer's/progressive dementia or ALS. Both progress to a point where existence is no more than a sheer living hell, and I refuse to be a burden to my family and loved ones. I'd end it before the disease robbed me of the ability to do so.

One of my best friends just took her own life. It has been heart-breaking to those around her (although her circumstances are much different that your friends). She left behind a 13yo, 11yo, and 2yo daughters and many unanswered questions. I firmly believe if someone is of a sound mind, they should be able to take their own life. However, in many cases Depression clouds their judgement and makes the situation in their mind far worse than it really is.

I also agree with the comment about the dog being put-down. If people were animals, many of us would cry out about prolonging a life that is filled with suffering. However, because we are human beings, we are expected to carry on no matter if every day is a living hell.