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Sex With Older Man - How to make him happy?

Hi people,
Need all the advice I can get. I'm in my early 30s and am having sex with a man who is in his late 40s.

I find him extremely attractive and sex with him, for me, is great. He is very fit for someone that age. I tell him all the time how hot he is in my eyes.

The problem is that, as with men that age, he cannot get as hard as before and he needs time to recover when he comes. I would like to make him feel comfortable and satisfy him. I give him head and don't mind swallowing. But he does not get hard from the BJ and he does not come when I am doing it since he does not get so hard.

Physically, I am at my prime. Sometimes, when he is needing a break, we lie together and he admires my body. I get a feeling like he feels pressured to satisfy me. How do I make him feel comfortable and assure him I am enjoying the sex irregardless of the breaks and the way he looks. What can I do to make him feel good about himself when we're having sex?

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Don't mind the younger dudes, when young girls talk about doin it with older guys it drives them "nukin-futz". When I was a young teen I thought any mid twenties woman was a grammaw but I sure found the error of my ways when I arrived at that age.

Tha't just a hang over from mid teen boiz watching the loves of their lives
leave them behind in the dust for older guys with cars, motorcycles,
jobs, their own place etc etc. They forget when they get these things together that they too will be boffing the younger girls who play up to them whether by then their cocks can get as hard as cast iron or not.

What would this early 40's dude encourage you to do for you new sweetie ? Realize it's more than just his cock and sex drive you experience with him. When a man cum's there is a release in his body of hormones that shuts him down for awhile. Women don't have that.
But it gives you a chance to let him rest while you go tend your personal hygene so you don't get any "opportunistic infections" etc. You can make coffee, a snack, or whatever as he rest to be ready for him when he awakens and feels rejuvinated.

On what you should focus on with the older guy......remember he's likely seen a lot of sex by his age. Certainly sex with a new partner is a turn on
but keeping it going like that is the challenge.

What you haven't mentioned is the stimulating of his (and your) mind sexually together. I don't know if you can sight read well or not but if you can read aloud to him....consider finding some of those XXX Paperback novels. He'll probably know where he could get them if you don't. The stories are amazingly sexual with about two good orgasm's per chapter. If you like to read consider reading it first by your self and
then trying to read different voices for the different characters. Then read to him in bed this way. Or if you two are driving home from somewhere you've been so that when you get home you'll be wanting to
head straight to the or if nice weather and after dark......somewhere outdoors.

Imagination can add so much to sex to make it good. If you want to invest in some of those inexpensive wigs you can buy online to have a change of hair color & style (you'll wear these while having sex) and lingere if you'd like.....then it can ramp up the tension. Perhaps dress like some girl you read about in the book. You can learn all the dirty talk
you'll want to say or hear from these little porn paperbacks.

For a real thrill, both of you visit a near by larger city or the other side of the town if you're in a big city to go to an Adult store. Some of these have XXX theaters, adult toys, and magazines & paperbacks. This is where it would be nice to have a wig to change your look.

In some parts of the country there are actually XXX drive inn theaters the two of you could visit.

If you can stimulate his mind (which is the largest sex organ of the body)
then you may find his cock getting harder. He may have more bountiful
orgasms for you too.

If you can find a good used Poloroid camera, they are making film for them again. This way there is only one image taken and nothing on the computer like there would be with the digital camera or web cam. Then the two of you could pose some shots you would like. Even a VHS cam corder could record your fun to sit back and watch.

Is there anyting you haven't done sexually ? Anal sex perhaps ? These Adult stores may have "butt plugs" in various diameters so you could
dialate open enough to try it. Just get a small bottle of Astroglide and you're set.

But I wouldn't let anyone discount the guys age to you. He may not be the Stallion he once was but he'll likely have experience he didn't have then. And you'll benefit from that.

Something you could get for cheap is one of those plug into the wall vibes
like WalMart sells. They are around $10 dollars and have a high and low
speed setting. If you straddle him while he's on his back...have him to hold you by your tits and you ride his cock while stimulating your clit with it you can have an explosive orgasm for him which I'm sure he'll more than appreciate.

But like I said, learn to stimulate his mind when having sex with him. Learning to ask him to take you and using "dirty talk" when you do it
can be such a turn on for a guy. Cause so few girls ever really learn to do it.

There is an old saying that a man wants his woman to be three things.
1) the wife & mother of the home, 2) the magician in the kitchen, and 3)
his "Whore of Babalon" in his bedroom. Guys will tend to come onto women first with lust for them, then hunger, and after they have eaten....they'll want to rest. (especially it they have gone to work that day)

One site I'll mention to you is "agelesslove com" which is for those age gap dating relationships. It is rather conservative in it's nature but
you may try it together.

If you want to read free erotic stories, there is "literotica com" where you'll both find plenty to read from the computer monitor.

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Hi people,
Need all the advice I can get. I'm in my early 30s and am having sex with a man who is in his late 40s.

I find him extremely attractive and sex with him, for me, is great. He is very fit for someone that age. I tell him all the time how hot he is in my eyes.

The problem is that, as with men that age, he cannot get as hard as before and he needs time to recover when he comes. I would like to make him feel comfortable and satisfy him. I give him head and don't mind swallowing. But he does not get hard from the BJ and he does not come when I am doing it since he does not get so hard.

Physically, I am at my prime. Sometimes, when he is needing a break, we lie together and he admires my body. I get a feeling like he feels pressured to satisfy me. How do I make him feel comfortable and assure him I am enjoying the sex irregardless of the breaks and the way he looks. What can I do to make him feel good about himself when we're having sex?

Help me out pls guys.

You both aren't in your teens. Why are either of you worrying about "performance?" Last time a woman asked me, "How was it?" I asked her why she would ask such a retarded question.

so consideration for cigarette smoking & alcohol get added to the list of things getting in your way

get him to a DR

LOL

He doesn't need to see a doctor.

lisae......

I'm 48.

It can take me a LONG time for the second one, IF I even want one, and when I do......I don't often finish, b/c it's getting late, or Mrs. JR is getting too tired/sore and had enough O's.

Most of the time, I'm satisfied with one O myself and prefer to roll over and have my back scratched while I fall asleep.

One of the often given reasons why some of us older men are better lovers, is b/c we're not in a rush to get our rocks off and will take the time to satisfy our partner until she doesn't want any more before we work on ours.

Like the old saying:

When we get older, we take all night to do what we used to do all night.

There's more to sex/intimacy than just banging a woman's bones all night.

We don't get to choose the life we are given, but we do get to choose how we live it

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Not to blow my own horn (I'd never leave the house if I really could!) bit I never had any problems with 'hardness' or a second go around. Sure it took me a bit to rest up, but after cuddling for a few minutes, having a smoke, her going to the restroom for hygiene purposes, it didn't take much on her part to get me going again.

(Btw, she would always bring a warm wash cloth to me when she was done in the bathroom and use it to wash me. I liked that too.)

She always started the second round with giving me oral so that's all it took to get me revved up.

And we tried pretty much everything. Butt sex, oral, vaginal, kitchen table, coffee table, outdoors in the rain, you name it.

She never did the strip tease thing, but she did like sexy lingerie. As did I! I used to love grabbing her stilhetto heels and having my way with her.

Mix it up, lots of oral (both giving and receiving) and a little patience.

Never failed to leave her breathless.

(Btw, if it's going to get hard, it's ROCK hard. Alcohol is the only thing that will keep him down, and that has to be in excess.)

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Not to blow my own horn (I'd never leave the house if I really could!) bit I never had any problems with 'hardness' or a second go around. Sure it took me a bit to rest up, but after cuddling for a few minutes, having a smoke, her going to the restroom for hygiene purposes, it didn't take much on her part to get me going again.

(Btw, she would always bring a warm wash cloth to me when she was done in the bathroom and use it to wash me. I liked that too.)

She always started the second round with giving me oral so that's all it took to get me revved up.

And we tried pretty much everything. Butt sex, oral, vaginal, kitchen table, coffee table, outdoors in the rain, you name it.

She never did the strip tease thing, but she did like sexy lingerie. As did I! I used to love grabbing her stilhetto heels and having my way with her.

Mix it up, lots of oral (both giving and receiving) and a little patience.

Never failed to leave her breathless.

(Btw, if it's going to get hard, it's ROCK hard. Alcohol is the only thing that will keep him down, and that has to be in excess.)

VM

Without trying to get too personal here.....

First off.....we have sex at least 4-5x/week (down from 7-8 due to stress in our lives right now), and right now while I'm getting testosterone injections as part of my physical therapy for the spinal cord injuries.....she's lends lends a hand another 4-5 mornings/week.

A few weeks ago, I "finished" too quickly (just like an 18 y/o kid would....since that's about where my test levels are) and the little soldier decided to go another round, and so did she.

It was the first time in a long time that we've done that.

About an hour later.....I gave up.

We were tired....it was late.....she physically didn't want any more Os (I lost count how many she had) and so I never had another until the next morning.

I'd rather take my time in the beginning to make sure she's fully satisfied, then have mine, and wait for morning to go another round.

It's not like I'm a camel in the desert who needs to store up on the water, b/c it doesn't know where/when the next oasis is going to come along.

We don't get to choose the life we are given, but we do get to choose how we live it