2941’s music sounds like ‘80s porn, and more from Tom Sietsema’s chat

At 2941: Bow chicka wow wow. (Justin Rude/The Washington Post)This week’s chat with Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema touched on a number of interesting issues, including where to eat and drink in San Francisco, the decline of an old favorite and the stag film soundtrack at the recently renovated 2941 (the restaurant Sietsema reviewed last week). But no topic raised as much discussion (and ire) as a query about whether or not it was kosher to grab a bite between the ceremony and reception of an upcoming wedding.

Wedding food: Let's say I am attending a wedding next weekend and fully expect the food to be not-so-great. Near the reception site is a nice bar that has great appetizers/pub food. We are thinking of going there during the break between the wedding and the reception and eating, then pushing our food around the plate at the dinner. We invited some other guests with us, and they said our idea is rude. We aren't quite sure why it is rude: The bride and groom planned a break and we are using it to eat something that is good. How bad is that?

Tom Sietsema:

How long is the break, how far is the bar from the reception and is there any chance of being delayed -- or caught by the hosts?

Let’s just say that other chatters weren’t entirely impressed by the original poster’s plan.

Why it’s rude: Because the reception dinner has been paid for and is being provided to you. Not only is it rude not to eat it, it's incredibly wasteful as well. You should have said no meal when you RSVP'd. Otherwise suck it up. You're a guest.

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