Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the abuser. Make a copy of this and put it in a safe place or with a safe friend.

Change locks, if the abuser has a key.

Avoid staying alone.

Plan in advance how you can get away if confronted by an abusive partner.

If you have to meet your abuser, do it in a public place, like a shopping mall, coffee shop, or restaurant.

Vary your daily routine if possible.

Notify your school and work contacts about your situation.

Contact a local shelter for battered women (www.tapintohope.org).

Open up a checking and savings account in only your name. Do not continue to use your joint account.

Important Papers to Gather
If you leave the relationship or are thinking of leaving, you should take important papers and documents with you. This will help you apply for benefits or take legal action.

Call Roanoke County Police Department’s Domestic Violence Division at (540) 777-8699, (540) 562-3265, or email us at for assistance. We can help you obtain warrants, orders of protection and counseling.