tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post7506131702146079008..comments2012-11-30T07:25:57.998-05:00Comments on Millions of Miles: Trauma is scary stuffMegan Terryhttps://plus.google.com/104981428464582090195noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-1346575390981442712010-08-20T22:17:38.194-04:002010-08-20T22:17:38.194-04:00Wow, this post is my life. Our sons and you and I...Wow, this post is my life. Our sons and you and I have ALOT in common. Our family has seven children, four are adopted. My youngest son, Ched is from Haiti and was born with extremely rare birth defects. While he is lucky to be alive and to be here in the US, he is so medically and environmentally traumatized that they believe his little brain has been rewired. He is now four and has had seven surgeries already. We live with PTSD, anxiety and rage on a daily basis...and you are right...PTSD is contagious. After our last hospitalization on Johns Hopkins, I had developed those terrifying symptoms. Hope you are able to find ways to help little Miles with his struggles. There is a great book that our child therapist is having us work through and it seems like a good resource for families like ours. I can share the info if you are interested.<br />FranFranhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06075867803060871003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-86003291919870903592010-08-20T13:41:39.859-04:002010-08-20T13:41:39.859-04:00I could see that tranquilizer coming from the get....I could see that tranquilizer coming from the get. It almost sounds like the nurses let it go a bit long, in fact, that might be something to do straight up for next time you go the doctor or something, give him a tranquilizer. There&#39;s no shame, plenty of medically traumatized adults do the same, I&#39;m sure. And maybe more lean meat protein in his meals and snacks would keep him fuller longer. Once he gets verbal and can talk about these things, you&#39;ll be in a much better place to work with him. Good luck!Hilaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12849614954016555691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-70794152585350213952010-08-17T20:56:10.204-04:002010-08-17T20:56:10.204-04:00Parenting triggers and their primal behavior is to...Parenting triggers and their primal behavior is tough and heartbreaking. Hang in there. It does get better.Jenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12512938254927024318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-43356234418331275172010-08-17T11:07:10.699-04:002010-08-17T11:07:10.699-04:00As always, thanks for sharing. I wish I had read ...As always, thanks for sharing. I wish I had read this BEFORE I brought Chad home. You think it would have been common sense that his tummy being a little empty would be a trigger. But it took me a while to figure out what was going on. I can&#39;t imagine having him not eat until 1:00!!! You are a wonderful Mama : )Storihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02193235115801284173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-56751167361578813912010-08-17T11:03:14.752-04:002010-08-17T11:03:14.752-04:00Powerful story... I don&#39;t think most folks rea...Powerful story... I don&#39;t think most folks really &quot;get&quot; the whole trauma thing (even our child psychiatrist mentioned that). We&#39;re in the trenches too, and it is good to hear / read others&#39; stories to know we&#39;re not alone. Thanks :)<br /><br />ChrisChris Prange-Morganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12076184754958801358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-56376624016306476462010-08-17T09:21:00.424-04:002010-08-17T09:21:00.424-04:00You are such a strong, real, loving mommy. I canno...You are such a strong, real, loving mommy. I cannot imagine how you felt in that moment. I hate it when Walker even has to get a shot. I know without a doubt that God has a special plan for you (ministering to all of us, to start!) and your beautiful family. Keep fighting for your children and keep reminding us to appreciate and fight for ours too.Rachie (Walker's Mom)http://www.blogger.com/profile/07818712920716036136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-56103106425633639252010-08-16T22:22:57.133-04:002010-08-16T22:22:57.133-04:00Thanks so much for writing this Megan...you are do...Thanks so much for writing this Megan...you are doing an amazing job...- michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12872157393625876620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-50343904442075019672010-08-16T21:48:51.309-04:002010-08-16T21:48:51.309-04:00megan--thx so much for sharing this with all your ...megan--thx so much for sharing this with all your readers. what a special mama you are. how poignant to say that he has miles to go...and how wonderful to know that he will never go them alone. He has you. He has a family that loves him. And he has a redeeming God that promises to walk with all of you.s a r a hhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06939393864538180481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-57382098664405227692010-08-16T13:00:52.044-04:002010-08-16T13:00:52.044-04:00Oh Megan, I am so glad Miles has you! I am so hap...Oh Megan, I am so glad Miles has you! I am so happy too that they didn&#39;t find anything with the MRI!Shawnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11929709613286929602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-52001261071511217182010-08-16T09:04:15.827-04:002010-08-16T09:04:15.827-04:00Thanks for writing about this, it brought back mem...Thanks for writing about this, it brought back memories of early on with Parker and how he would hit and kick and scratch us always at certain times during the day. I would get calls from the daycare saying that he had become aggressive with the teachers (at one point breaking one girl&#39;s skin), or there was a time when he tried to jump the fence and run away. Those times were so difficult (understatement), but as he became more used to his surroundings and routine and comfortable with knowing he would always have food, he became much more calm. <br /><br />Best of luck with little guy. We feel for him and for you.Matt, Sara, Parker, Lleyton, and Addis Ritzmannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02280268710852833400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-15165260448087900132010-08-16T01:40:21.767-04:002010-08-16T01:40:21.767-04:00Oh, Megan. I am so sorry! You have all been goin...Oh, Megan. I am so sorry! You have all been going through so much, it&#39;s no wondering it takes some time to process it all. I&#39;m thankful that Miles will not remember that particular experience, and I&#39;m praying that your broken Mama heart will heal right alongside Miles&#39;. God has all of you in His strong and capable arms.Andy &amp; Kiarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02106099721471687721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-76582058670193890422010-08-16T00:12:35.711-04:002010-08-16T00:12:35.711-04:00I&#39;m so sorry you and Miles had to go through t...I&#39;m so sorry you and Miles had to go through this. Glad to hear all is OK and I pray God continues to strengthen you both.Sandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15299582810770843666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-44860567144188845272010-08-15T23:41:55.125-04:002010-08-15T23:41:55.125-04:00That is so scary and I can&#39;t imagine being in ...That is so scary and I can&#39;t imagine being in your shoes while you watched your son go through that. Luckily you have some formative years left to try to undo some of the damage that has been done. You are doing a great job so just keep doing what you&#39;re doing.Katiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10876740727214259373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-49833652958912697682010-08-15T23:20:57.704-04:002010-08-15T23:20:57.704-04:00There is indeed hope. Good for you checking in on ...There is indeed hope. Good for you checking in on your own reactions and feelings when Miles is triggered with his PTSD. It can be overwhelming for you and hard for others to understand just how triggering &quot;normal everyday stuff&quot; can be for our kids.Mama Drama Times Twohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04935810256080795505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-83184361242972832242010-08-15T22:44:40.991-04:002010-08-15T22:44:40.991-04:00Wow...I also think and thank God for choosing you ...Wow...I also think and thank God for choosing you to be Miles mom. You are an amazing mom.<br />I look forward to meeting you.<br />Give that little boy a big hug from my family.Corrabellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09853973684596561966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-8271222032658032782010-08-15T22:15:38.358-04:002010-08-15T22:15:38.358-04:00Oh sweetie, I just don&#39;t have the words to exp...Oh sweetie, I just don&#39;t have the words to express how choked up I am right now. For you, for Miles, for Sadie and Noah. But I thank God that he picked you to be Miles mama. He knew that Miles would need someone to be the strongest, most protective mama bear ever if was to get through this and heal. I know that most days it feels like too much, but God gave you to Miles so that you could be just what he needed!Carriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05335155103752626792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2959924903705805464.post-25127238961454648192010-08-15T22:08:49.380-04:002010-08-15T22:08:49.380-04:00Megan, I don&#39;t even know how to respond to thi...Megan, I don&#39;t even know how to respond to this post besides saying that it takes a special kinda momma to parent a child that has experienced such trauma. You are such and inspiration and I pray that you continue to feel encouraged by the progress you see with Miles (no matter how big or small) and that you stay strong and persevere through the ups and downs. <br /><br />Happy Sunday :)Abbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15076952934764015215noreply@blogger.com