Carolyn Hax: Tell new friend you saw bombshell about family on Google

6:16 PM,
Nov. 22, 2013

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Carolyn Hax

Dear Carolyn: I met this guy in a different city, and we had a few great dates.

One night I was casually Googling his name. Very innocently - I swear - I just thought I could see his work projects or something like that. But I came across an article about the trial of his father for murdering his mother. I am absolutely sure it is him.

I feel like I invaded his privacy, and now he doesn't have a chance to tell me on his own time. But I also feel a little scared. He mentioned very briefly that he had a difficult family that he wasn't ready to talk about to me yet, but I wasn't picturing anything close to this. ...