Christian girl dating non christian guy

What do Christian single girls look for in a single Christian guy when contemplating a soulmate or marriage partner?This question always seems to percolate in any singles groups I have ever attended or led.

Are you a Christian single girl or guy with a different take on the issue?

It bugs me when people say there are things you can and can’t do in Christianity.

There’s no can’t in Christianity [well, if you rearrange the letters a little bit…], and I’ll always go back to “everything is permissible”.

However, as I grow a little older, I’m starting to realise the reason Paul tagged a “but” on the end.

“But, not everything is beneficial.” Well, Paul’s hit the nail on the head, because dating a non-Christian, I gotta say, fits into that category.

I’d like to point out here that this is a post for Christians.

If you’re non-Christian, you’ll probably be happier dating a non-Christian- just reverse all of the reasons I’m about to list.

And if you’re a Christian, this is just a suggestion from personal experience, as most of the things I say on this blog are.

But I ignored a lot of advice before I started dating, and I got myself into strife I realise I could have avoided. Basically, the first problem I came across was morals. I don’t think that any of them mention who you should or shouldn’t marry, but they do say that these guidelines for how you should live your life are pretty darn important.

There is the common misconception, as I’ve talked about, that Christianity is just a set of rules. “Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.” Deuteronomy [NIV] The Bible says we ought to stand our ground, albeit respectfully and in love, so when it comes to choosing the person that you’re essentially looking to spend the rest of your life with, it was never going to be easy picking one who does not have these same guidelines.

I fought, tooth and nail, over everything, because it was important to me, and a part of me hoped that maybe something would go off in the guy’s head, and he’d see a light.