Relationships and how to do them

Learning to understand the dynamics of past relationships can help you avoid making the same mistakes in the future. This big section of our site has thoughts about a wide range of topics such as how to create a blended family or whether it's wise to have sex with your ex and how to tackle the new post divorce relationship landscape.

Society, infidelity and divorce

Nearly every time we watch a soap opera we see infidelity used as a subject for storylines. Glamourised in the media we are fascinated and titillated daily by tales of others misdemeanors.

A rose by any other name: changing your name after divorce

The divorce is underway!You have decided upon your reasons for getting divorced, got the info on how to get a divorce and looked into your divorce finances and single parent benefits, organised the kid's new life after divorce and earmarked your share of the worldly goods.

Divorce, infidelity, adultery and monogamy

Adultery is one of the oldest sins in the world if not quite the most ancient. Infidelity is a broad church and covers a variety of behaviour and what may be considered acceptable to one person may be far from tolerable to another.

No sex with the ex!

Divorce is a time like no other for its ability to make us do the most unpleasant things to each other as well as the most inappropriate. Couples who have ‘fallen out of love' or ‘grown apart' can, almost overnight, fight to the death over the visiting arrangements for their children.

Right person, wrong time

You’ve been married and it ended in getting divorced. You met someone else and everything seemed perfect but after dating and spending lots of time together it all ended somewhat unexpectedly. So what went wrong?

To pre-nup or not to pre-nup? - that is the question

A pre-nuptial agreement is a written contract between a couple intending to get married that sets out an agreement as to how their assets would be split between them if their marriage were to end in divorce.

Losing is the new winning!

My friend's recently divorced husband rang her the other day on some obviously fabricated pretext (had she got the tin opener or he couldn't find the Dyson), whilst on the line he took the opportunity to share some of his thoughts on life after divorce.

Creating a new family after divorce

Becoming part of a stepfamily inevitably involves the breakdown of an old one e.g. via divorce. It is common to confuse the feelings children have about the breakdown of the original family with their feelings about being in a stepfamily.