Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Getting Up After Being Knocked Down

It’s not uncommon to have life circumstances knock you down. So much is out of your control. The people who ran in the Boston Marathon, or came to watch it, didn’t expect a bomb to go off. People get knocked down in other ways every day. It can make you want to stay in and avoid life. Or you may want to run away from your life when something that meant a lot to you tanks. For example:

• You put your hopes into getting the perfect job you applied for and someone else gets it.
• Your romantic partner leaves you.
• You’re in an accident that leaves you injured and it interferes with your ability to work.
• Your business fails.
• Your investments lose their value
• You lose your home.

Many people are going through tough times as the economy continues to knock us all down a bit. It’s how you handle it that counts. It’s your decision to let it break you or to get up when you get knocked down. Life isn’t over until it’s over. Plenty of boxers get knocked down over and over but get up –often bruised and bloody—and get that one punch in that wins the match. If you stay down it’s hard to come back swinging. If you feel like life is knocking you down, stand up and yell:

I’m still here!!!”

You’re still here. You didn’t die from what happened. Maybe your ego or sense of security did but you’re still here. And while you’re still here you can pick yourself up and do your best to move on from the knockout punch life gave you. You can lie there and retreat into misery or depression or remember that you’re still here and can find your way out of it.

Steve Jobs “Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.”

There are always options. There will be other job opportunities and romantic partners, you can heal from your accident, you can save to start another business and rent a home for a while. I know it might not be easy to get through it but if you keep your faith strong and affirm, “Things are getting better,” they will. It’s your choice to wallow in the darkness of how your situation makes you feel or let the light of faith in.

We all go through tough times at some point. When I had some, I’d have never imagined being where I am now. But I kept affirming that everything happens for a reason and faithfully put myself into God’s hands. It took time to get myself together but I never quit. Getting out of DoorMatville, where I often felt knocked down, was the hardest and best thing that I fought to do. But I did it and you can too. When life knocks you down, allow yourself a few days to grieve, then start looking for ways to get up. It takes perseverance and faith, both of which you can muster if you want to get your life back.
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About Lessons from a Recovering Doormat

Welcome to my self-empowerment blog. I used to be a wimp and never got taken seriously. When I became one of the first women to start a record label, I learned to navigate the male dominated music industry and earned respect, without raising my voice or getting overtly tough. I transferred those skills into all areas of life and now get what I want from most people. I'll share those lessons here by talking about my observations of situations and habits that hold both men and women back from being as empowered as possible. I'll also give tips for more effective communication, handling yourself with more confidence, and in general, how to come across as more serious--whether it's at work, dealing with an annoying phone company, your mother, a romantic partner and anyone else you want to feel more in control with. Everybody can use more tools for taking control of their lives, like in my latest book, Nice Girls Can Finish First.