This is a discussion on Sexual Promiscuity? within the ENFP Forum - The Inspirers forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Psycho Steve
Okay, what about something slightly lesser a big deal than sex.
Say for example; you ...

Say for example; you like someone but every time you go clubbing you see them making out with a different person. What would you think about that?

I would worry that they might catch a lot of colds.

; )

I mean yes, I think when people go through a ton of hookups/make outs, it usually coincides with trying to get "something else" from sexual experiences. That they might better get another way. But sometimes people have stuff to work through and I don't want to hate on that. I think that defining "slut" doesn't really help anyone.

When do you consider is the point at which men become man-whores and women become sluts?

How easy do they have to be?

Do you think there's a difference in the way men and women are treated in this subject?

I also don't consider anyone those things. I don't give a shit what other people do, especially when I'm affected in no way whatsoever. I don't label people. It's arbitrary.

These terms, like most, are all about perspective. Most people call those who are more sexually liberated than them "sluts", and those who are less liberated "prude" (more so for females, of course). It's all laughable to me.

Worse than a cold! Did you know that you can actually contract a form of HPV for the mouth and it causes cancer of the throat? Furthermore, mononucleosis is pretty awful if you don't get Mono it can set up camp in your Bcells and cause Bcell lymphoma later in life.

Worse than a cold! Did you know that you can actually contract a form of HPV for the mouth and it causes cancer of the throat? Furthermore, mononucleosis is pretty awful if you don't get Mono it can set up camp in your Bcells and cause Bcell lymphoma later in life.

Not only HPV, but an increasing number of people (Because it used to be less common to engage in such activities) have genital herpes on their face/mouth region from, well, you get the idea, with diseased individuals.
BE YE WARRRRNED, YE SCURVY DOGS!!!!!!! THERE BE PIRATE DISEASES AFOOT!!!!!! (And they get much much worse than herpes and mono)

Hmm... I don't think the question so much is whether society's opinion on sexual promiscuity, but rather, what makes us jealous when the person we're intimately with interacts with others. Not that they cannot talk to anyone or cut off contacts with all friends.

To be more concise, how much is not too much?

Hmm, in that case. I would say that I'm a pretty chill when it comes down to this, cause I'm most attracted to female ENFPs. I know they need their space to go explore and run wild.

I would say speaking, minor flirting and what not doesn't bother me. Even contact with others (touching) I'm fine. But no hand grabbing, pretending to be a couple with friends.

If it looks intimate, not only to me but to others as well, that's where I draw my line. Not only cause I would be very jealous, but because it others can see it, then the person they might be sending these signals might get confused as well.

I've never called anyone a "slut" in my life. In fact, I came across this: SlutWalking gets rolling after cop's loose talk about provocative clothing | World news | The Guardian - and I was extremely proud of the women in question to stand up and be counted. If a male wants a number of sexual partners in 3 figures, that is his prerogative, ditto if a woman wants a number of sexual partners in 3 figures. If it interferes with their life to the point of addiction, then it is also incumbent upon them to seek help. Further, if one contracts an STI, then, well, stand up and take responsibility for yourself. If you are sexually active, you have taken a choice, and all choices carry consequences; thus have as a corollary, responsibility.

I personally, do not indulge in 1-night stands, I don't find them fulfilling. That doesn't mean that others shouldn't. My last ex asked me how many girls I'd slept with, I told her no problems; however, I never asked her. Simply put, I do not care how many sexual partners you have had, it's not my concern. All I ask is that you come to my bed (no pun or double entendre intended) with a clean bill of sexual health. What people get up to is their choice, if you don't want to have 1 night stands, don't; if you do, do. Neither side has the right to judge the other, simply because they are not anyone to do so.

If you are with someone, then once again, obey the rules. I've been in an open relationship before, and no, it is not all about the sex... they call that swinging lol, but I digress, the point is obey the rules. Cheating is cheating and therefore reprehensible. It hurts so many people that it simply isn't worth it. At least a break up will only hurt both parties for a bit. Cheating can devastate someone's self-image.

If I see a girl who makes out a lot, then she's probably a good kisser... that's basically the entirety of my opinion on that. Once again, how someone conducts their romantic life is entirely up to them. As @hmwith said earlier, it's perspectives anyway. I've been called a "man-whore" by a friend of mine, who is devoutly religious and so no doubt, by her yardstick, yeah I am pretty slutty. Compare that to another of my friends; he thinks I'm a "proper romantic prude", simply because I don't like one-nighters. You can't win, but that doesn't mean you have to join... LOL

I dont think its a number of people, i think it's when you have sex because you're insecure rather than because you like someone. so i think most north americans have been whores at some point. but i also don't think it's a brand you're stuck with forever. get over your "being a slut to feel like you matter" phase, and i'll respect you again. probably. ;)

I've never called anyone a "slut" in my life. In fact, I came across this: SlutWalking gets rolling after cop's loose talk about provocative clothing | World news | The Guardian - and I was extremely proud of the women in question to stand up and be counted. If a male wants a number of sexual partners in 3 figures, that is his prerogative, ditto if a woman wants a number of sexual partners in 3 figures. If it interferes with their life to the point of addiction, then it is also incumbent upon them to seek help. Further, if one contracts an STI, then, well, stand up and take responsibility for yourself. If you are sexually active, you have taken a choice, and all choices carry consequences; thus have as a corollary, responsibility.

I personally, do not indulge in 1-night stands, I don't find them fulfilling. That doesn't mean that others shouldn't. My last ex asked me how many girls I'd slept with, I told her no problems; however, I never asked her. Simply put, I do not care how many sexual partners you have had, it's not my concern. All I ask is that you come to my bed (no pun or double entendre intended) with a clean bill of sexual health. What people get up to is their choice, if you don't want to have 1 night stands, don't; if you do, do. Neither side has the right to judge the other, simply because they are not anyone to do so.

If you are with someone, then once again, obey the rules. I've been in an open relationship before, and no, it is not all about the sex... they call that swinging lol, but I digress, the point is obey the rules. Cheating is cheating and therefore reprehensible. It hurts so many people that it simply isn't worth it. At least a break up will only hurt both parties for a bit. Cheating can devastate someone's self-image.

If I see a girl who makes out a lot, then she's probably a good kisser... that's basically the entirety of my opinion on that. Once again, how someone conducts their romantic life is entirely up to them. As @hmwith said earlier, it's perspectives anyway. I've been called a "man-whore" by a friend of mine, who is devoutly religious and so no doubt, by her yardstick, yeah I am pretty slutty. Compare that to another of my friends; he thinks I'm a "proper romantic prude", simply because I don't like one-nighters. You can't win, but that doesn't mean you have to join... LOL

Hey man, good post! There's this girl that I quite like that has been making out with a few different guys recently, guess it made me abit green around the gills!

Hey man, good post! There's this girl that I quite like that has been making out with a few different guys recently, guess it made me abit green around the gills!

Ahhhh... mate! I feel your pain. It's never easy watching someone you like going crazy for other people. Especially when our natural reaction is then to label the people she's making out with bastards, and the girl in question can easily become the target of our embittered unhappiness. However, dude, if you're both single, and she isn't biting the bait, well... diverting your attention even a millimetre could land you the woman of your dreams. Don't forget, Romeo was in love with Rosaline before his cousin dragged him to the house of Capulet.... Keep the faith mate :)

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