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I just can’t figure life out anymore. I finally think things are starting to settle down, I win custody of the girls, I buy a house, move to Maryland, have a good job, am dating someone. I go back to my maiden name. I still am friends with Teddy Bear and others from the CB and BAM! The world drops out from under me. I get laid off, the man I’m seeing becomes possessive and wants to marry me, but I don’t love him. I want to have passionate, in love feelings and I don’t have them for him. I know that I may be asking for too much, but I’m not settling for less. I’ve had that once, never again. There’s not a day I don’t think of Teddy Bear, I desperately want to be with him. I have to refuse his marriage proposal. It just wouldn’t work. He starts stalking me, calling me every hour on the hour in the middle of the night, he slashes my tires and then leaves flowers at my door begging me to take him back! He steals my bible out of my truck and then of all things, he throws a gallon of urine on the seats of my van. It’s totaled. The insurance adjustor never saw such an act taken on a vehicle before. And I have no money to buy another car, even with the insurance money for the totaled vehicle. The van is too old. I try desperately to clean out the truck.

The calls at night keep me awake constantly, but I don’t dare NOT answer, for fear it’s my mother. She has a terminal illness and I’m afraid the call may be from home. I have to do something. After a month of calls and I log each call, I notify the phone company. They finally trace them. I take him to court for the stalking. All the court does is slap his hands and tell him if he continues then they will press charges. On the way out of the courthouse he asks me to marry him again. Are you kidding me!?

I’m surviving this layoff on unemployment checks and the ex’s child support, it pays the mortgage. I’ve been looking for work all over town. It’s been so hard. I feel like I want so much and have so little right now. I hate to say this I’m getting home sick too, I want to go back to Kansas, but I can’t afford it. I’ve been unemployed now for five months and feel totally worthless. I haven’t seen Teddy Bear in so long and really need him. I miss him so much. Worthless and unlovable.

Finally, the ex has decided to make a reappearance. He finally came to pick up the children at the new house, now, however, with a new wife at his side. Yes, he remarried. He married the girl he was having an affair with, and when I say girl, she was just that a 17-year-old girl and she was very pregnant. Surprise! Visitation has resumed, my motto kills them with kindness. I was happy, to tell the truth, he’s her problem now and hopefully it will take some of the chaos away from me. But if glares and wicked looks could kill I wouldn’t be here writing this. At least there was no screaming this time. Once more I was left alone. This time after being a single mother 24/7, unemployed, broke and dealing with everything; I needed some time to myself. I needed a break.

Finally, the verdict came in from the judge, a judge who normally gave joint custody. He awarded me full custody of my girls. He saw through the lies and deceit. Someone finally understood what I went through with this man. He also ordered him to pay all legal fees and court costs. He did award him every other weekend visitation and Wednesday visits, which I thought was fair. I finally got the weekends to enjoy my children too. However, he did not raise the child support of $500 per month for the two girls. It was barely enough, maybe he thought it would be raised later? I didn’t care, the trial was over, I had my children, I could finally breath easy and I was ecstatic! Now maybe I could settle down and get down to living a normal life again.

The first Visitation Friday came and I thought since everything was settled we didn’t need the church steps tonight. Boy, was I wrong? The scene returned in full force. He was furious, agitated, absolutely in a state of rage. He pulled at the children while calling me every name in the book in the middle of the street. This time, however, I stopped it. No, this was not going to happen again, I didn’t trust his mood or want the girls to go with him in this state. I told the girls to go inside. They were crying and upset but they did go inside. I told him to go home and when he could calm down, he could come and pick up the girls for visitation. He turned around and sped off. I didn’t hear from him the rest of the night—or the weekend.

I tried calling his house to see if he was coming many times that night and all weekend, but he never picked up his phone. It just rang and rang. I figured he was ignoring me. Fine, it’s his problem. Him being childish is only hurting himself, but I hated trying to explain this behavior to my children. Why their father was not coming to see them. I had no answers.

Monday, I called his office and his secretary answered. I asked to speak to him. She informed that he had left for California Friday night and was planning to be gone for several weeks. Then it hit me! He had planned to kidnap my children. Planned to take them away from me last Friday night and I had thwarted his plans.

Neither I nor the children saw him for about six months after that. That doesn’t mean to say we didn’t have our issues. He fought the courts about the fees, he tried to appeal the judgment but failed. He had his parents try for custody of the children but failed. So my life was in constant turmoil. But all this time, Teddy Bear was there to calm me down and act as my sounding board when I was upset. He was my rock when I needed a shoulder to cry on. He was my best friend. I’d been working in the railyard now for over a year and was doing fairly well and felt stable enough to start looking for houses. I wanted a more stable environment for the kids and one that they felt more like home.

I found a little house in Maryland, it was only five miles from their fathers if he decided to ever see them again, so he couldn’t complain about that. It was 168 years old and it was affordable for me. I put in an offer and it was accepted. But as fortune smiled on me so did misfortune. The day I signed for the house, I got laid off from work.

Tender Touch and Teddy Bear

I listen intently on the citizen’s band radio, it’s quiet. She’s not on these days. I listen from the apartment across the courtyard with all the devices at my disposal. I hear her with the children. She is putting up a good front for them. She has managed this week to go the marriage home and day by day pick up few of their things that she could carry by herself. A small TV for the kids, their toys, more of their clothes, their personal necessities, her clothes, a coffee table, some blankets, some pots and pans, some eating utensils.

But at night, after the children go to bed, I hear her quietly crying, every night. He calls her every day because he notices things are out of the house. She reminds him, that it’s still legally her home too, she owns these things too. She decorated the home, she supported him while he climbed the corporate ladder, she supported him and played the good little executive wife. She was a loyal and faithful wife, these are her things too. He calls her a whore, he tells her she’s crazy and she should check herself into a mental hospital or why doesn’t she just go back home to Kansas to her mother’s because she’ll never make it on her own. He’ll take away her kids so she’ll never see them again and he’s going to come on the weekend for his visitation. She says visitation is only fair. But she will have joint custody of her children. He was never there while they were together he was always gone. Traveling on trips, at parties, gone. She was the primary caregiver, she was there twenty-four hours a day. He had no clue, but she will be fair.

The weekend comes and he comes to pick up the children on Friday night. She hugs them tightly and kisses them with tears in her eyes as she watches them drive away. This is the first time she has been without her children overnight, let alone a weekend. She’s devastated. She runs up to the apartment, this time, she doesn’t cry quietly. I hear sobs, resounding sobs of despair. She cries herself to sleep that night and wakes early in the morning to face a weekend alone for the first time in her life, she is totally alone.

I watch her get in the van and drive away. I get in my truck and follow.

“Breaker, breaker one-nine, breaker breaker one-nine, Tender Touch, you out there?”, I query, hoping she has the radio in the van turned on. Crackle, crackle, “Breaker, breaker, you’ve got Tender Touch, is that you Teddy Bear?” She’s on. I’m thrilled. “Yep, sweetheart, it’s me, how you doin’ today? Haven’t heard you on in a while.” She weakly says, “Ok, hangin’ in there, hey, how about that cup of coffee, want to buy a girl a cup?” I smile to myself. “I thought you were a happily married woman”, I radio back. “That was last week, darlin'”, comes the reply.

We finally meet at Rosie’s Diner for that first cup of coffee and I get to see those beautiful green eyes, although red-rimmed from tears, they were the kindest and most gentle eyes I’d ever seen. I ask her what she means by the last week statement knowing full well everything that has been going on.

I know things that she doesn’t. I know about her husband’s affair with the young girl and the drugs. I sold him the drugs, I hate to admit it, but I did. I’m not a nice guy. In fact, I’m a really bad guy when compared to most people. I’m the kind of person, you would not take home to mother. I belong to a couple of organizations that, well, let’s say, I can’t tell you about, or I’d have to kill you, you know what I mean. I’m a biker. I’m Italian. I live on the East coast. Let’s just leave it at that. She doesn’t know this about me. I’m a truck driver, that’s all.

Anyway, all she says is that she and her husband have separated and probably will not get back together again. She doesn’t say anything bad about him. She just leaves it alone. She does say he’s got the kids this weekend and she misses them terribly and she is looking for a job. But today, she’s got go to the garage sales to get her new apartment in better shape, to make it more like a home for the kids. She also has to buy a typewriter to start writing her resumes and sending out job applications. She hasn’t worked since she’s been married and although she has a degree she has never used it. She’s a little worried. She’s running out of money and soon summer will be over and she really needs the job before school starts. Her oldest will start kindergarten and the youngest will be in preschool.

I buy her breakfast and we just sit and talk for a couple of hours about absolutely nothing. She doesn’t talk about him or her problems. She talks about what’s she’s looking for, the kinds of jobs, I talk about my family and all that kind of stuff. I’m falling for her and beginning to feel guilty as hell at myself and angry as hell at him. We part and I watch her drive away in that big blue van, I smile. I want to see her again, personally this time, not professionally.

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