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Thursday, March 30, 2017

Why do men choose polyandry(a woman with multiple husbands)?
What's the appeal? Is their jealousy? How does sex work? Is it akward knowing that the other husband has had sex with your wife?I'd like to understand how polyandrous relationships work, especially from mens point of view. Could you handle your wife having another husband?

Why do men choose a monogamous marriage? Why do men choose not to marry at all? Why do some men choose a polygynous marriage, or a group marriage? It’s going to be different for different people, but you can find some common reasons that pop up frequently. It is a combination of needs and wants, including social, emotional, financial, sexual, etc.

A man may choose polyandry because he is bisexual, or because he enjoys seeing his wife with another man, or because his wife has a higher libido than he does, or for reasons that are entirely nonsexual.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Cousin relationships are on the edge of the issues addressed by this blog, facing somewhat less prejudice than relationships of closer relatives. Widely different laws from place to place and much ignorance and prejudice linger even as many places accept these relationships. In about half of US states, genetic first cousins (your parent's sibling's child is your first cousin) can legally marry. There are a few states with laws against consensual sex
between first cousins, including North and South Dakota, Utah, Texas,
Nevada, Kentucky, and Mississippi. The states that neither marry nor criminalize will
generally allow first cousins to be together without marriage, as second-class citizens. There is much confusion and ignorance about these matters, so even people who are generally educated might not be aware that first cousins can legally marry, or might be unaware that people are actually thrown into prison for loving each other.

In the US, there is a false notion that marriages between first cousins in a Southern thing, but the varying state laws do not support that idea. Rather, these relationships exist in every region and in every class.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

Cheryl Hockey, Assistant Producer, Sugar Films http://sugarfilms.co.uk/ is looking for cousins in relationships with each other.

I'm
working on a documentary about cousin marriage for a British
broadcaster. As I'm sure you know, marrying your cousin is legal in
Britain. It is still fairly popular among the British Pakistani
community here and the documentary will follow a young woman, from this
community, who's considering the possibility of marrying one of her
cousins.

On
her journey she is keen to meet cousin couples from all different
communities, and possibly countries. She understands there is often a
taboo around this topic, especially in other communities, so hopes it
will raise awareness and also help to reduce prejudice around cousin
relationships/marriage.

All
initial conversations would be confidential and by people getting in
touch with us it wouldn't commit them to taking part in any filming.

She says the best way to contact her is via her email or her office number:

cheryl@sugarfilms.co.uk /00
44 2031464533

As always, we advise careful consideration as it would be great to have increased visibility and media representation, but if you've been closeted there may be some risks, and of course you don't have control over how consanguineous relationships will be portrayed in the finished production.

Saturday, March 18, 2017

The Polahi nomadic tribe living in isolation in the forest of Indonesia’s Gorontalo province practices incest, permitting relationships between father and daughter or mother and son, a report said in Jakarta on Wednesday.

There's not a people group on the planet in which consensual incest doesn't take place. The difference is, it is usually kept in the closet these days. With this tribe, the relationships are official.

The tribe roams the thick forest of Humohulo in the Boliyohuto mountain range of Boalemo district in Gorontalo on Sulawesi island.

It is considered normal if a father marries his daughter or a son marries his mother.

The former head of the tribe, Baba Manio, who died in April, had two wives, Mama Tanio and Hasimah.

Babuta, the son of Mama Tanio and Baba Manio, replaced his father. Babuta is married to his sister Lailya, who is the daughter of Baba Manio and Hasimah.

So he's married to his half-sister. This is very much like the leaders of ancient Egypt and much more recently, Hawaii, as well as many nations and people groups.

Marriage rites are also simple, with the couple taken to a river and water thrown on both of them while mantras are read out.

Kompas online quoted photographer Ebbi Vebri Adrian, who often has contact with the tribe, as saying that despite their intermarriage, the tribe did not appear to suffer from the genetic deterioration usually associated with the practice.

“What is strange is that none of their descendents appeared handicapped, as is usual with intermarriages,” he said.

It's a matter of genes, diet, and environment. If those things are all good, the children from these relationships are likely to be healthy. The communal and familial bonds are no doubt quite strong as well. I'd be interested if they know how many generations back they have been doing this, and other sociological results of their relationships. Maybe we can learn something from them, whether from a biological perspective or sociological.

In many US states and some other countries, it would be illegal for the leader of this tribe, if visiting, to have sex with his wife. If his father had visited, one, if not both of his wives would be insulted by a denial of the recognition of their marital status. That's just one of many reasons we need to adopt full marriage equality sooner rather than later.

Jane has an update on a case we last covered here. The bad news that consenting adults were criminally sentenced for the "crime" of loving each other. The good news is that they're weren't given prison time.

There is no good reason for denying any consenting adults their right to be together.

Share the links with other people who want to support civil rights
and human rights in general, who think it is outrageous or just plain
wasteful to prosecute and imprison adults for loving each other or to deny them the right to marry.

Monday, March 13, 2017

This blog has featured scores ofexclusive interviewswith lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love
and are, by law, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage
treated
equally under the law.Thewomaninterviewed belowis, and was, clearly able to consent to her relationship. Along with her lover, she should be free to decidewhether or not to legally marry, yet they could be harassed, persecuted, and prosecuted if they were open about their love.
They are consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone; why should they be denied
their rights? In much of the world, including all but a couple of US states, they could be criminally prosecuted for their love.Read the interview below and
see for yourself what they haveto say. You may think her relationships are shocking, interesting, or you might find it incredibly sexy, but whatever your reaction,
should these lovers be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights?

*****FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe yourselves.

Daughter:
I'm usually shy at first, but once you get to know me, I'm pretty
outgoing. I like watching sci-fi movies, and I love learning about
history. I do a lot of jogging in the park, and I love the ocean. Once
my dad taught me how to swim, I couldn't stay away from the water. I
also love dogs, and we actually have a dog name Snow for it's the color
of the dog. She's a big part of our life.

Father:
I do a lot of landscaping, and building houses too. I love swimming
whether it's in the ocean, or river. I introduced the ocean to my
daughter, and she fell in love with it. I have a boat, and two jet skis,
so usually on our spare time, we will go to the beach.

Thursday, March 9, 2017

[This is a popular entry from a few years ago, being bumped up because it is still relevant.]

There are people who would have everyone believe that there are no happy consanguinamorous relationships. That romance or eroticism with a close biological relative can only be a bad experience. Over at PFI [a site that doesn't exist anymore... go to Kindred Spirits for an existing place to talk], one discussion participant asked a question and answered it first…

If you could go back in time to where it all started and have the knowledge you do now about what lay ahead of you in this thing called incest, would you still go through with it ??

i've thought about it many times, and the answer i come up is yes i would, sure there are many tears and hard times you go through, but for me the good has always outweighed the bad, life is what you make of it, and we've made a very good life for ourselves....

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

All women should be free to be themselves, to have their basic human and civil rights, whether they are cisgender, transgender, or noncomforming or fluid; whether they are asexual, heterosexual, lesbian, bisexual, polysexual, or pansexual; whether they are aromantic, celibate, monogamous, or ethically nonmonogamous. Whether they are questioning or they are certain. Whether they are raising children or have raised children or not. Whether they are a married or partnered or single.

A woman, regardless of her birth, sexual orientation, relationship orientation, race, or religion, should be free to share love, sex, residence, and marriage (and any of those without the others) with ANY and ALL consenting adults, without fear of prosecution, bullying, shaming, or discrimination.

We have another casting call, this time for cousins of any degree who are together, and also for stepsiblings who are together. As always, it would be great to increase representation and visibility, but I also generally advise caution in dealing with media. Only you and your partner(s) can decide what is best for you.

Here is the message...

*****

I'm writing to you as a result of seeing your blog. I'm a producer at Sirens Media and we're developing a docu-series about cousins [and stepsiblings] who are in happy, healthy relationships. The goal of our program is to feature a handful of couples and tell their love stories.

...

I can be reached directly at tullman@sirensmedia.com or on 773-610-5493. Sirens Media has created a number of docu-series and reality programs for virtually every television network, including TLC, Discovery, A&E and History, just to name a few. You can read about Sirens Media at www.sirensmedia.com. Here is my LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-ullman-b7a8a42/, just so you know I'm legit.

...

Yours truly,Tracy Ullman, Development Producer

*****

If you decide to check this out, please keep us updated on how it goes (in so far as you're allowed).

In New Mexico, it's illegal for certain adults to simple be affectionate with each other, so please sign this petition
now! Share the link with other people who want to support civil rights
and human rights in general, who think it is outrageous or just plain
wasteful to prosecute and imprison adults for loving each other.

My mom and I are involved in a relationship. My dad had an accident and
became bed ridden. My mom was always busy taking care of him and also
doing a lot of works to make the ends meet. In this period I tried to
help and support her as much as possible. Eventually we became very
close and open to each other. Gradually we started building up
attraction to each other. We started acting on that and becoming
intimate and we realized what we both want. Though at first it was going
on behind my dad's back but my and me both felt guilty about deceiving
him so we confessed to him.

Full Marriage Equality

About This Blog

I argue for marriage equality. By that I mean that society and all local, state, federal, and international laws, institutions, and programs should recognize any marriage registered by any persons without restrictions on the basis of race, color, creed, ancestry, national origin, sex, gender, sexual orientation, or religion.

The global definition of marriage should be as follows: "The uniting of consenting individuals in a witnessed ceremony."

We believe everyone has the right to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adult(s) of their choice, regardless of birth or sexual orientation.

The Fine Print

The focus of this blog is consenting adults. This blog does not advocate anyone engage in activity that is currently illegal in their jurisdiction; it does advocate changing or repealing any law that prevents the freedom of association, love, and full marriage equality for adults. This blog condemns rape, sexual assault, and child molestation, and frowns in the general direction of cheating. This blog exists mainly to evaluate information and direct others to information about current events; it does not provide medical, therapeutic, legal, financial, or cooking advice. This blog links to other sites for informational purposes; it does not necessarily support everything at those links.