What both MAN and WOMAN should DEAL with BEFORE they get MARRIED!In order to have a blessed, peaceful, prosperous, and successful marriage, both parties have to deal with certain issues before getting married, and also be informed/educated on the DNA of a Marriage ACCORDING to the Word of FATHER YHUH (YHWH).

MOST couples NEGLECT to properly prepare for marriage and then have to deal with immense trauma during marriage that should have been avoided in the first place . . . Allow me to ask you a question - why do successful sport men/women go through so much hard work PREPARING before each championship, match, or game? It's simple - because they know and understand that without the necessary preparation, their chances of success will be LIMITED.

Will anyone run the Comrades marathon, ride the Argus, or swim the Midmar mile without taking the necessary precautions, and without the necessary preparation? The same principle applies to preparing for the Covenant of Marriage!

Where do you START?Make an appointment with a trained and spirit-filled Counselor who can assist and guide you with the necessary preparation before, and mentoring after marriage . . . and let me say without hesitation - one or two sessions are NOT enough!

Important ISSUES that should be DEALT with by both parties before COMMITTING to the COVENANT of MARRIAGE!Stay sexually SET-APART (PURE) and do not engage in sex or inappropriate touching (fondling) before marriage (Eze 23:3,8). The moment that you do this, you invite satan into the relationship & give him a footstool . . . through sexual sin, satan gets legal right to your relationship, and you unknowingly give him the right to kill, steal, and destroy (Joh 10:10).

Sexual intimacy is only meant for marriage. The Scriptures are very clear about this. The crucial mistake that most couples make when they are attracted to one another, is to engage into physical contact too soon . . . their focus is on each others bodies and their fleshly desires, instead of focusing on each others hearts - this eventually gives ground to the enemy to destroy the relationship . . . attraction is usually based on lust, not love. When the Ruach (Spirit) of YHUH pours-out a godly, set-apart love in two people's hearts, the love will be HONEST and PURE, without any LUST involved!

Love is honoring FATHER YHUH and His Word, with both parties willing to WAIT for sex within the boundaries and protection of the covenant of marriage, respecting each others bodies as a sanctuary of the Spirit of YHUH. Sex OUTSIDE of MARRIAGE will contaminate both parties and keep you bound through unhealthy soul/mind/heart/spirit/body-tie that was formed during fondling and sex!

satan is a master destroyer of relationships. He normally gets access to relationships through the lusts of the flesh, but he cannot kill, steal, or destroy in our lives if we do not open a door to him.

What Father YHUH through His Ruach (Spirit) taught me about the relationship between a man and a woman . . .BUILD a PURE FRIENDSHIPbased on clean set-apart love, trust, transparency, respect and honesty - this phase is known as {AGAPE LOVE} - (it is defined as a brotherly, friendship LOVE) . . . NO PHYSICAL CONTACT during this stage, including NO EXPECTATIONS or WRONG MOTIVES . . .

When and only [if] both parties become aware of a LOVE poured out in their hearts by FATHER YHUH through His Ruach (a CLEAN (PURE) LOVE, with NO LUST involved), they should share these emotions with their spiritual mentor(s). When and ONLY [if] both parties receive adequate confirmation (by 2 to 3 witnesses), confirming FATHER'S will that this friendship is His will, they begin with a COURTSHIP (first they become exclusive in a stable relationship and then it grows into an engagement/marriage) - both parties agree to still remain CLEAN, with very little FOCUS on physical contact.this phase is called {PHILEO LOVE or COURTSHIP LOVE} . . .

The {EROS LOVE} flows from the Phileo love. It commences when husband and wife have the freedom to engage into sexual intimacy inside theprotection of the covenant of marriage!Such a marriage will be BLESSED by our FATHER, as both parties were willing to wait, choosing to be obedient to the Instructions of FATHER YHUH, remaining set-apart!

Both parties should deal with ALL their PAST hurts and disappointments before marriage (NOTHING SHOULD BE KEPT a SECRET) - otherwise all these ISSUES are taken into the marriage. It can AFFECT and IMPACT CHILDREN BORN from the MARRIAGE and again gives the [devil] legal right to steal and destroy the marriage, including the family unit. This process includes BREAKING ALL Generational CURSES(from forefathers and mothers - see Exo 34:7 and Num 14:18), as well as the breaking with all MIND-BODY-SOUL-HEART-SPIRIT TIES of all former immoral partners . . .

Both parties should discuss and be adequately prepared in all of the following aspects BEFORE marriage:WHAT is the COVENANT of MARRIAGE?UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCEUNCONDITIONAL LOVEMUTUAL HONESTY/INTEGRITYMUTUAL RESPECTTIME MANAGEMENTEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATIONEFFECTIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTIONPOSITION of HUSBAND and WIFE in MarriageROLES of the HUSBAND and WIFE in MarriageLOVE LANGUAGESSPIRITUAL NEEDSEMOTIONAL NEEDSPHYSICAL NEEDSINTELLECTUAL NEEDSFINANCIAL NEEDSSOCIAL NEEDSCAREERSSTARTING with a FAMILY FAMILY and FRIENDS