Dating in recent years has become very sophisticated in nature. Why? Young college girls are not only dating boys their age. Particularly popular today is young girls dating very old man most probably because of the financial security the older man provide. I am not saying it’s wrong. But for those teenage girls in college, there are many good reasons why it’s not appropriate for a college teenage girl to date a rich old man or sometimes called sugar daddies. There are good man out there, just hold your horses until you grab your degree.

If you can’t hold on any longer, why don’t you date a young man your age? Yawning age gap can mean lot of differences in life style and later create lot of tension in your relationship if you blindly date a sugar daddy for his money and other material possessions. I have researched meticulously for a good reason why you as a college girl shouldn't date a sugar daddy but I keep ending up with nothing. Maybe the girls who are actually involved in this game will give us a better reason why they do it. Here is my list of ten reasons why I consider it is not a good idea to date a sugar daddy. This article is a to guide blooming teenage college girls from falling into the trap of sex hungry sugar daddies out there.

Reason # 1: You can contract sexually transmitted disease (STDs)

What is the guarantee that you are the only one your sugar daddy is dating? You maybe his number 100th sugar baby. You are highly like to contract sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis and even AIDS.

Reason # 2: You will soil your education

You can become addictive to your sugar daddy goodies. Why? Sugar daddies know perfectly well how to keep you captive for their sexual gains. They will spoil you with all the good things you want. In a way they divert you education focus to accumulation of materials wealth. Why not focus in your education and earn your degree and you can have those material possessions from your own hard work and sweat. Nothing is more satisfying than those who do that.

Reason # 3: Spoil your reputation

Bad thing don’t remain secret forever. Sooner or later someone will find out your little dirty game you have been playing. When that happens, you will be the center of discussion in the corridors, in the mess, in the streets, in class. Too bad because news of bad things travels from mouth to mouth like wild fire than that of good things. You will be known as a girl who sells her body as a sex commodity in return for a rich old man’s money and other possessions.

Reason #4: Kill your potential

The time you could have spent studying to be the best lawyer in the country is spent entertaining a sugar daddy for money, beer and pleasure. More time you spend with the sugar daddy means depriving yourself from doing better things to better yourself. An athlete who wants to be the best in his event spends countless hours in training to reach his dream. Practice brings out your potential. We will soon talk about potential.

Reason # 5: It is ungodly

To the Christians, it is against biblical principles to have sex outside marriage. So if you are a Christian, it is not right to have sex outside marriage because obviously you are not married to the sugar daddy. To the sugar daddy, he commits adultery when he has sex with you. This again is against the moral principles of the Christians.

Reason # 6: Times waster

You are only wasting your time. Sugar steals your study time, your project time and even time you could use in finding a potential date who can be your future husband. More likely your sugar daddy will have a legally married wife and children. What makes you think he can walk out of the marriage just like that and marry you? He has to do a lot of explaining to the courts if he wants to marry you. If you think he is wasting his time, stop! Look carefully. Is it really him or you who will lose big time if you fail your semester exam, get pregnant or contract a STD? Think carefully.

Reason # 7: You bring disgrace to your family and friends

How will your mum, dad and brothers and sisters feel if words broke out in the neighborhood that you are dating and even having sex with a rich old guy for money and other possessions? After bringing you to where you are in college you decide to spit that shit on their face? You think about this very carefully my dear friend.

Reason # 8: You become a failed investment for your parents

You parents obviously spend a lot of money from your conception to where you are now. Because they wanted a brighter future not for them but for yourself.Now for you to blindly disregard this and date a sugar daddy that is more likely to do you harm than good is a total waste of time and money from your parents. Education in PNG has become very expensive lately. Little money your parents save goes into your education so don’t fail them by dating a sugar daddy.

Reason # 9: You will contribute to break a family apart

Mot sugar daddies have their wives and children. He asking you out doesn’t mean it is ok for you to date him. Even to the extent of having sex with him. It is legally wrong and if found you can be charged for that. It is ethically wrong for you to foster a sexual relationship with someone who is married and has children with women who are his legal wife. If the wife finds out, you can be bashed up and even killed. See how many women die in PNG fighting over man? You could be the next person stabbed to death by the wife of the sugar daddy you are dating. Sooner or later, someone will find out and your sugar daddies family will be broken apart. Children will be scattered. Lives will be lost. Simply because you didn’t do your part by standing on ground of sound moral judgments and saying no to the sugar daddy.

Reason # 10: You become a prostitute

By the way who is a prostitute? Someone who exchanges her body for money. Are you not doing the same? After having sex, the sugar daddy gives you money doesn’t he? You will say “But Ian, that money isn’t for sex, he just gave because he loves me” Fair enough. But if you refused sex to him, would he be so pleased and kindly give you a lot of money? As long as there is money generated in exchange for sex, it becomes commercial activity whether you see it or not. At best, this activity appropriately identifies you as a prostitute because you knowingly or unknowingly trade your body for sex.

Finishing words

Real life is out there. Don’t rush for money and axe your young life. You will see other equally aged young women married to handsome young man and you will envy them. Don’t rush. You don’t wanna be bogged down with a wrinkled rich old man with lots of money and miss enjoying through bliss of real love. Hope you found something important in this article.

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Ian D Hetri

5 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

zinhle

Thank you for the strong point made. I have to agree with you. Its something that is totally immoral but human, especially young girls today have embraced it with pleasure. So many dreams are destroyed and many potentials go to the grave without being realized. Dr. Myles Munroe once said "What a lousy life"... Thanks and again and kind regards

Ian

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Ian D Hetri

5 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Imange,

Unfortunately, its not only you. Millions are facing the same and its our duty to talk about it and put some sense into our young woman, the future leaders of earth. Appreciate you sharing your experience to add more value and depth to the article. You may have been fooled into that relationship but the good news is your mind is still on top of your head. That means you can always pursue your dream as you said but with a great lesson learnt. Go for it with might CHAMPION.

Ian

zinhle

5 years ago

No, sugar dating is COMPLETELY WRONG. Imagine if dat was yo dad being sucked out all of dat money and u ll b left home wit yo mum having no food or money for school coz its all spent on another "no respect for herself" gal,how would dat feel? Theres no "falling inlove" here. How can u fall inlove wit someone whos old enough to be yo grandpa? It is total rubbish and theres no excuse for dat. All d gals dat are sugar daddy dating are just a lame excuse for a women. You r all humilating us as woman. I mean,how do u sleep with yourselves at nyt knowng dat u are ruining some womans marriage? What u gals are doing is totally wrong and you should be ashamed of yourselves

Imange

5 years ago

I wish I had read this at the age of 21. I got into the same situation and to be honest I regret the good year I wasted with that man which cost me 3 years of my life. I was left with a child, had dropped out of varsity and I couldn't go back cos my sibling also had to and my parents couldn't afford all 3 of us in Varsity. What I'm trying to say is I wouldn't want anyone to make the same mistakes that I did. I'm hoping that I'll be able to go back to school and persue my long life dream of food technology so I can be independed and become a mom my daughter would be proud of

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Ian D Hetri

5 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Thanks DDE. Really appreciate your comments.

Devika Primić

5 years agofrom Dubrovnik, Croatia

Once your child goes to college so many things can happen and off-course meeting a sugar daddy is one of them. I totally agree with every point here the girl loses a big part of her and this can ruin her in many years to come thanks for such a wonderful write up

Kate

5 years ago

The New Madrid fault line is my sugar daddy the New Madrid fault line loves me all night

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

tattuwurn

We can't stop it. It happens. But at least we talk about it and make some sense out of it..It is indeed a sad situation.

Appreciate your comment

tattuwurn

6 years ago

Unfortunately, if the parents approve of their daughter's relationship with the older guy, especially if he's well-off, they wouldn't mind. In fact, they even support that kind of thing. It's sad, because it really does happen.

AUTHOR

Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

AM,

It is indeed a bad idea to make money, though it seems the easiest. Appreciate your comment.

Cheers

Michael Luckado

6 years agofrom Hawaii

It's definitely a bad idea if it's just for the cash. There are so many other ways to make money in this country.

AUTHOR

Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Kel.

Thanks for reading the hub. Maybe one day, the message will settle in well with you. Good luck with your life as you climb that easy step to the top, the fall of which comes faster and has detrimental consequences that lives your heart injured for life.

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Kel.

Thanks for reading the hub. Maybe one day, the message will settle in well with you. Good luck with your life as you climb that easy step to the top, the fall of which comes faster and has detrimental consequences that lives your heart injured for life.

Kel

6 years ago

I am 18 years old and need the money, so why not fuck my way to the top ? Young girls make sure you use condoms and flavored ones for oral. Keep it safe and make that cha Ching

AUTHOR

Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Hi Billy,

How you doing?

I am glad you read my article. There is nothing wrong with consentual sex you said. I totally disagree with that. The girls being young as 19 and easily giving in to your sugar talks doesn't mean its morally and ethically right to have sex with them. They simply don't know if its right or wrong. Money and material possession blinds them and you take advantage of that and offer your CHEAF SEX (Sex in the context of LUST).

You simply are an irresponsible 65 year old man.

Many of them, young girls come from broken or violent families and resort to old man like you for security. You take advantage of their insecurity and use them for sex.

You should rather be an animal than being a man.

How would you feel if another 65 year old version of Billy Bob used your very own daughter for CHEAP SEX?

Thanks again for having your say, that reflects who you really are.

Billy, STOP and think again the next time you get a 19 year old girl to bed. She is someones daughter, a potential wife to a good man, sister of someone.

If you were in my country, PNG and were found doing that, my friend, you balls will be chopped off.

Billy Bob

6 years ago

You are full of crap! I am a 65 year old sugar daddy and have dated college girls as young as 19! Nothing wrong with consentual sex!

AUTHOR

Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

sun.sush23

Thanks very much for commenting. Will read yours hubs.

Enjoy

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

sun.sush23

Thanks very much for commenting. Will read yours hubs.

Enjoy

Sushmita

6 years agofrom Kolkata, India

Ian, I appreciate your response to my comment. I guess that is one way of looking at the issue, but I also think peer pressure works better. If your words reach those girls who are levelheaded and practical without being too ambitious, and they get back to these gullible young women, probably that would be a help. I admire your ability to withstand negativity. :)

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

angelme655

Thanks for joining in the discusion. Appreciate your time. I wanted to stimulate discussion on this issue and find out the opinion of others.

From the discussion that has been going on, one can draw scetchy conclusions or give basic answers to the question "should young college girls date sugar daddies for their material possessions?

We will find out more as others join in and express their views.

Enjoy.

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

sen.sush23.

That girls are aware of the danger of dating sugardaddies. Like many writer have commented already, it is detrimental for both parties. It is pure ignorance that's driving young girls to do that. Again, some of us parents are just as ignorant as our kids or even worse those sugar daddies. We are ignorant and irresponsible if we assume our kids know everything and don't share our experiences with them or some truths about teenage dating and sex. Im obliged to share this information becuz this is one way I contribute to make this world a better place to live. I may not reach millions, but just 1 person, you reading this hub makes a whole world of difference. One positive thought, from one person, everyday from billion people! I can only imagine a world we can create.

Appreciate your comment but no thanks for being negative as I truly don't allow negativity to rule my life.

Bless.

Ian.

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Thanks JKenny for commenting. Appreciate your comments much.

Angelme566

6 years ago

All i want to say is being said by JKenny. Sugar daddies both ruins both families but let us not condemn the little girl , because we are not there in her struggles , we really didn't know the real story.

This such an eye opening hub ! Voted UP !

Angelme566

6 years ago

All i want to say is being said by JKenny. Sugar daddies both ruins both families but let us not condemn the little girl , because we are not there in her struggles , we really didn't know the real story.

This such an eye opening hub ! Voted UP !

Sushmita

6 years agofrom Kolkata, India

Ian, though I fundamentally agree with the lesson of your Hub, that dating Sugar Daddies is socially and otherwise detrimental to the young girls, I think there is a fallacy here in assuming that the girls going for it are unaware of the hazards. Social, familial and ethical grooming of the young people can sometimes be just so flimsy that they can trade it all for material comfort and a showy life-style. So the girls dating the Sugar Daddies are often quite aware of what they are doing and why- and is it only they who are to blame?! This is prostitution in a new name and prostitution has been an agreeable profession to the male-dominated society forever. What purpose does it serve to tell young girls to not prostitute for college-fees and jewellery? Sorry to be so negative, but I hardly believe you will ever reach your target audience, or they will gain for it. All college girls don't even think of opting for 'sugar daddy' dates.

James Kenny

6 years agofrom Birmingham, England

I agree with Christopher, in the fact that girls should avoid sugar daddies, because they could end up emotionally scarred for life. Think about it, if a sugar daddy is willing to abandon his wife and kids, what's going to stop him from abandoning a young girl when he gets bored.

AUTHOR

Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Hi Chris,

Thanks for reading and commenting. Infect this is one of my hub out of the many I have that is generating very insighful comments from writers around here in hubpages. I am glad to stimulate prolific discusion with this hub. Thanks again for commenting.

This is a real issue we have to be mindful of. Lets be responsible for one another by sharing what we know to help others.

Please keep the discusion going to educate our young women in college.

Christopher Antony Meade

6 years agofrom Gillingham Kent. United Kingdom

You are right to warn girls about these dangers. More of them should listen to you. Men rarely marry their mistresses. Also, if he cheats on his wife, he will cheat on his mistress as well.

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Hi mommiegie

Thanks very much for the wonderful comments. Appreciate much. Thanks again for sharing. Looking forward to reading your hubs and following you.

Mommiegee

6 years agofrom Alabama

I would like to applaud you for writing this hub and just telling it like it is. I will definitely be sharing this.

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Hi glmclendon,

Appreciate your time in reading and making a very insightful comment. I totally agree with you that its hard to change the sugar daddies. If you are a young girl and thinking you can do that, Im sorry to say that old habbits die hard. Both of you will end up getting into trouble and messing your lives. Stay right awy from them sugar daddies, young women. He is there to only to feast on your young, tender soft skin.

Once again thanks for commenting.

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Hi glmclendon,

Appreciate your time in reading and making a very insightful comment. I totally agree with you that its hard to change the sugar daddies. If you are a young girl and thinking you can do that, Im sorry to say that old habbits die hard. Both of you will end up getting into trouble and messing your lives. Stay right awy from them sugar daddies, young women. He is there to only to feast on your young, tender soft skin.

Once again thanks for commenting.

glmclendon

6 years ago

Good HUB. Both of you will suffer. The sugar daddy and the young girl. You are not going to change him but there is a good chance he will change you. What happened to the sweet kid your mom dad send off to school? The young girl with the beautiful smile that had a good word for everyone and was going to set the world on fire? This girl with the sharp mind has now been couped up by an old demanding man that thinks that because he is providing her with gifts he can control her. She no longer has time for church because of her shame, she don't go around her friends because they don't approve of what she is doing. What she has is a mess. Neither is really happy and the years are slipping away.

Stay Well

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

kj. Thanks for the insightful comment. That is the very message Iam trying to get across to the young women ou there. Like you said, our young girls must know that knowledge is more powerful than the sugar daddies. Knowledge opens the door to greater financial and material gains if one works not just hard but smart enough. That is why young college girls shouldn't teach themselves to rely on other, especially the so call sugar daddies. I know if one sugar daddy read this article, he might be sayin so what. My response is 'so what'. Let our young women leaders of tommorow read this and make informed decision for their future and the future of mankind.

Dating an older as you call them " sugar daddy " can be very detremental to a young girl, she may learn about life the hard way. It robs her of the innocence of youth and presents " love/sex " in a very clinical state, thus eliminating the emotions that accompany a normal relationship. Women today need to come to the realization that they can do for themselves and stop relying on others to be their foundations.....knowledge is power...

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Ian D Hetri

6 years agofrom Papua New Guinea

Hi Deborah. You are the first one indeed. Thanks so very much for the friendship and support. Greetings from Papua New Guinea.

Enjoy.

Deborah Brooks Langford

6 years agofrom Brownsville,TX

well I am the first one.. to comment.. lol.. well i do agree with you.. but if you fall in love you don't care what other people think.. it happens all the time.. that is unfortunate.. when your children leave the nest off the college if you are like me you do a lot of praying.

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