Last night I was sitting at our kitchen table setting a puzzle. I was very aware of feeling something…but not quite knowing what it was. After a bit this feeling really got my attention. I looked down and noticed how fat I felt…I felt like I was literally two times my size in weight. I mean that with my whole heart. I felt huge and I was aware of it. As I’m feeling this…I hear the mind saying, ‘I haven’t been eating much…I have not eaten much over the Christmas season at all. I wasn’t into all the baking and not once did I ever overeat to the place where I was sick over Christmas.’ I’m listening to this commentary going on in the head…at the same time I’m feeling agitated about this ‘fat feeling’ I’ll call it…becoming consumed with the whole thing.

I called my daughter and shared this experience with her. Don’t laugh but the first words out of her mouth were amazing…well amazing to me! She said, ‘well mom, what does that tell you? What you are feeling has nothing to do with food and what you physically eat!’ You have no idea how that hit me as truth…and so timely at that!

If I may explain…now that I’m heading off into the business world working by myself…my daughter shared with me…energetically I was feeling I had to be twice the person now…two times the healer…on the sharing went. You see for me…at this stage of my journey…my body mind and spirit are working with me to move me through whatever is there…communicating many things for me to help me unlearn, relearn and grow. The feelings I was feeling got my attention…an illusion for sure…and much has been healing inside me since.

I would also like to add, if I may….during the holidays, especially around Christmas and New Year’s…for most people there is a lot of eating and visiting and eating and socializing and eating and….well you know…a lot. Collectively….and I mean collectively we are all affected by the whole of what is.

A wonderful teaching came across my desk today and I’d like to share it with you… Sri AmmaBhagavan said, ‘We suffer because we falsely identify ourselves with our thoughts and the mind.” Play with that thought as you go about your day.

Let’s talk about the cheerleaders in your life…the ones that cheer you along in your journey!

Allow me to talk about the sport of baseball as an analogy. By the way, any sport, or facet of your life can be used as a substitute in place of baseball. You are a baseball player. It’s your turn to bat the ball and you step up to the plate. There is a cheerleader in the stands…cheering you on. The cheerleader yells, ‘you can do it; hit a homerun.’ The first pitch comes across the plate and you go to hit the ball. You miss and it’s a strike. The cheerleader in the stands yells…’you can do it…hit the ball…you can do it’. The second pitch comes across the plate and you hit a foul ball. The cheerleader starts to say…’don’t worry you can do it…keep focused and go for it’. You have a cheerleader who cheers you on to do the best you can do….and you eventually hit the ball out into the field leaving you on third base. That whole game goes great like that…you feel pretty good about your performance….your team wins.

Later that week you head to the ball diamond again…and it’s your turn up to bat. The first pitch comes across that plate and you go to swing and decide at the last minute not to swing…and the ump calls the pitch a strike. In the stands you have a cheerleader. The cheerleader for that game is different. The cheerleader yells….’come on…hit the ball…you can do it’. The second pitch comes across the plate and you swing at the ball and miss. The cheerleader is getting a little loud and says…’come on…don’t miss the ball…hit the ball…watch the ball closer.’ The next pitch comes and the next pitch comes and all the way through the game you hear the cheerleader telling you things like….’you need to loosen up…you’re pretty tense and tight…what’s going on, you need to watch the ball closer….your letting the team down by missing.’ Lots of cheerleading happening. Seems with every pitch or every miss or every strike…that cheerleader has something to say about how you could be doing it better or you need to do something different….whatever it is in the moment. There is a cheerleader who is all over you with every move you whether good or bad. The whole game seems to go like that…you aren’t feeling so confident about how you played…the team still wins that night.

In each of these two examples…you were the ball player…and there was a cheerleader in the stands. You showed up to play ball and someone or something was there to cheer you on. Now let’s take that analogy and apply it to your everyday life.

Do you have cheerleaders like that in your life? How do you handle the different physical people that cheer you on? How do you handle the mind and your Self when the mind and the Self talk to you in ways that don’t feel so good?

We may have people in our lives who encourage us to move forward using supportive words which ring as an ‘untruth’ for us…we may have people in our lives who encourage us to move forward using words which ring as ‘truth’ for us…and then we may have people in our lives who encourage us to just ‘be’ with whatever we are feeling in the moment. However those people show up….whether through the physical person or through the mind/the self…they are there for a reason. Those voices help us to unlearn, learn and grow as we journey along in life doing what we so perfectly do…live our life. There is no judgment…there is no good or bad…no right or wrong…it just is. An opportunity of awareness….

As you go about your day to day…start to notice the different cheerleaders in your life. The different voices that show up. Do the words that come through feel like truth for you? When I say that…pay attention to words people say about what they say about the situation you are in…or what they say you may be feeling…or what they say ‘could be’ the problem. Does it sound like a truth for you?

If I could give you an example of what that may look like…let’s say you have a stomach ache. It’s about noon time and you haven’t eaten yet all day. You’ve been really bothered about your son having to go to court on a charge that you know he didn’t do. You’ve been bothered so much that it’s causing your tummy to feel upset. Someone comes along and tells you your stomach ache is because you haven’t eaten yet today and that you need to eat breakfast because it’s the most important meal of the day and you need to make sure it’s healthy…and on they go. Does that sound like a truth to you? Maybe, maybe not.

With the cheerleaders, you will come to know what your truths are in life. If I may also add here…your truths will change in life. That your truths will change in life…I know for fact that is a truth. Life’s experiences have taught me that…..

I just received word that the radio show ‘The Best People We Know Show’ was awarded the ‘staff pick of the day’ on BlogTalkRadio. What makes a radio show ‘the staff pick of the day?’

This radio show has over a million listeners. Kudos on an awesome job to Deb Scott, Award Winning Best Podcaster and amazing Radio Host…I can’t say enough wonderful things about my experience with her as a radio host and as a person. Deb had interviewed me on the radio show that day talking about gaining a new perspective to see the challenging people, things and situations in our life as opportunities for exciting celebrations. When I look back at how the whole experience from beginning to end…from the connections…all the way to the celebration email today, I started to see how the divine plan is so vast and perfect!

A very precious business colleague and friend Shawne Duperon, Award Winning Networking, Gossip & Media Expert had shared my name with Deb (Shawne is another person I can’t say enough great things about). That started the whole ball rolling at the beginning of this year. The fruitful ‘gossip’ Shawne shared with Deb opened a powerful opportunity for me to be interviewed on the radio show. All of the steps Deb took to lead up to the day of the show…and then the steps she took throughout the interview paved the way for an unforgettable experience.

The radio show was under way and after talking with Deb for a short while, we were joined by two gentlemen who had called into the show sharing their uplifting insights. Both of these men added such value to the conversation. The gentleman Richard shared how he kept asking himself, ‘why me…?’ Deb highlighted how we could ask a different question. The next gentleman from New York, who identified himself as ‘The Daily Seed’ on Twitter talked about the doors that are open for us. We were touched by his words.

To share a little more about asking a different question…the mind needs a job! When we are stuck in a loop where the mind keeps playing the same thing over and over, give the mind something new to work with; give the mind a new question to answer! For example, when the mind tries to lead us saying things like, ‘why me… or why do they always….’ this is usually something unsupportive in nature. Unsupportive in the sense that the mind leads you to look for the answer to the question ‘why me or why do they.’ When we become aware of what the mind is doing, we can ‘lead’ the mind in a different direction. We can give the mind something else to think about, for example, ‘what is this really showing me…what is really bothering me about that…?’ The mind wants something to do and when we change up the questions, we are guided in different directions. These different directions lead us to the open doors that lie ahead.

How does a radio show like ‘The Best People We Know Show’ get picked as the staff pick that day? Consider this…all the amazing parts had come together as a whole…collectively benefiting the many listeners who showed up that day. Collectively this is a great example of how the divine’s plan is more magnificent than we could ever know. That divine plan is mighty! What an unexpected opportunity to celebrate. For all the precious gifts in this mighty plan….I am truly grateful.

Every day I see the unfolding of perfection! All of the situations in my life are being created for my own inner healing. Can you see how everything in your life is aligning perfectly for your own inner healing?

You bet there are times when things don’t feel so great, like maybe losing a friend or you don’t have enough money to pay your bills this month…and then there are times where you wonder how things come together so perfectly – almost effortless. Allow me to share this example of what I’ve experienced and how it may open the door for insights into what may be taking place for you.

Sharon and I did our live radio show on blogtalkradio the other day. We had a few minutes before the show and Sharon was telling me about her drive home from out of town, the night before. She was concerned about driving on the highway, in the dark, while it was raining. Sure enough just out of the city she was leaving, there was a coyote standing in the middle of the road. She hit her brakes and the coyote managed to move off the highway without any problems. She said in that moment she got to pay attention because there was 2 hours ahead of her…wake up!

We were chatting a little bit about how we ask the divine for help driving at night. I asked Sharon what was her message with the coyote? She commented that she had to look in the book to see what the message is for coyotes. I said, ‘what if your message was as simple as, ‘pay attention because there was 2 hours ahead of you…wake up!’ In that moment I was very aware that there was learning for both of us.

Sharon started to see how easy it is to give our power, our own inner knowing over to others, doesn’t matter who it is. For her, she got her message and was very aware of what it meant to her. I came along and in asking her, it brought up something for her about looking outside of her to see how she is wrong. There was so much healing for her – and yes….all of this before the radio show even started.

Now what does that have to do with me? Through being with Sharon that morning, I could see how there are times when I do the same. Sharon was a perfect messenger for me – not only to see how I need to look inside for my own insights…but also for me to appreciate and accept that in others. On my journey, that is something I’m learning and growing through. Life is a process and I’m so grateful to have someone like Sharon to learn with.

Are you in a place where you are resolving issues around controlling or accepting and allowing? The most important part is being AWARE. When you are aware that you are controlling others, just acknowledge that because it is in that moment where you start to see how your habits and patterns come to life. From there…the healing takes place.

If I could also add, just because someone says something, does not make it a global truth for every single person on the planet. Be with what feels right for you.