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Discuss Maladaptive (disruptive and negative) behaviors, what the causes may be (underlying issues), what the behaviors look like and share thoughts on how to curb the behaviors and appropriate consequences. This is a "no judge zone".

Hi!I found this article, and I thought it was interesting. "When kids don’t follow social rules, others may think they’re self-centered or uncaring. Other kids may find their behavior annoying and…Continue

This is a "not so popular" post I posted earlier on FB. Figured I might as well share it here also lol

I need to voice my frustration. No, it's not with kids (this time lol),it's with most of us as parents. We are setting our children up to fail. Quit asking them questions you KNOW they are going to lie about. If you know the answer.. why ask? Why continue to put them in situations that will only lead to failure when they are not strong enough. These children are not strong enough to make rational decisions. Would we lay out a chocolate bar in front of a child with diabetes, knowing they are going to want to eat it and knowing that it could possibly kill them? If we quit wearing our hearts on our sleeves and telling our kiddos how much it "hurts us" when they (lie, steel, manipulate, urinate, defecate, smear etc.) then we take the power back. A misconception (primarily with adopted kiddos) is that "Love will heal all wounds". Face it folks... everyone that loved these kids before you- probably molested, raped, starved, abandoned, beat, humiliated...... are you getting the picture? Love = Pain, end of conversation. It takes years (and years) for a child to learn to love and most importantly TRUST someone that says they love and care about them. I'm not saying they don't need consequences and discipline. I'm saying they need to be given the room to grow, learn and heal. Sorry if I offended anyone, not my intention. I just think sometimes we need a gentle reminder and a bit of reality check. Shared in love