MIL WANTS TO TAKE LO ON ROAD TRIP WITHOUT ME UPDATE

So my bfs older brother called and tried to convince me to let my only baby girl go on this road trip from georgia to nebraska. I calmly told him no and that my daughter will not be going anywhere with anyone who doesn't give a damn about me. He ended up hanging up on me.. about 5 minutes later he texted my bf telling him he would fly us there and to be at the atl airport on Sunday. NO THANK YOU. How awkward would that be.. me and my bf had a long talk and I think deep down he knows its wrong. So he didn't take it hard at all when we packed up and left this morning to spend a week with my mom. His mother has yet to say anything to me. Her weekly email photo subscription has completely ended and next week I will be completely done with her. Thank you to all the mama bears that gave me the strength to deal with this ridiculousness. I love you all. MY baby is staying with ME.

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I'm sorry, I may be the lone ranger here but she is your bfs mother, yours daughter grandmother...without her you would not have either your LO or your BF. I do not think she should be able to take your LO anywhere without you, however you are driving a wedge in her family and she's only going to get worse. You are asking your bf to choose you or her and that won't end well at all. And, your daughter deserves better than your petty feelings of resentment or hurt feelings that keep her away from her grandmother. She has a right to know her heritage, where her daddy comes from, who her family is, etc. I say this from experience. My MIL and I had a really rocky start and its still awkward but I tried to make my husband choose and it hurt him so badly and I felt terrible because I was wrong. So, we decided he was going to stand up for me and my feelings, tell her that we don't want to keep our children from her but of she didn't change we would only come to holidays, weddings and funerals. It hurt her feelings hut she came to an understanding that my family comes as a package. You aren't married so if yall break up, which of you keep this up it will happen, you have no say in who he takes her to see. My BIL also doesn't like me very much but we won't keep our kids from his because again, they are family. I hope I didn't offend you, I just know how you feel and I started to do what you are doing and it wasn't good, there were lots of hurt feelings, harsh words said and tears shed. Your LO deserves better, all of you do. Be the bigger person, have your bf bring the issues up, always be respectful no matter the dig, have your bf address ALL issues with his family, always. Never keep your kids from family. If you address the problems it forces them to make the decision to change or not. And if not they decided to limit their family, not you...so you dont look like the bad guy.

With her giving.my daughter medicine she doesn't need I won't have her for long either. I just know how crazy these people are and I'm not going to put my daughter in the middle of their unhappy family. She might accidentally crash the car because her husband doesnt love her. Thats the type of person she it.I appreciate your comment . I understand what you're saying.

OP, you are doing the right thing. If you don't feel your baby is safe, then don't leave her alone with them. Don't let anyone else feel guilty for your decision. If you need additional support, join the Dealing with the In Laws and Family of Origin board.

You choose who is safe to be around your child. If that doesn't include Grandma, then that's what you need to do. She has proven that she can't be trusted. Why would anyone willingly hand over a baby to someone for a second chance to endanger the baby?
If grandma has a problem with it, then she needs to change her behavior and learn to respect OP as the mother of LO.

The OP is not pulling the family apart, that is all her MIL! MIL gave baby chlorella at 3 months, Without OP's consent, and stopped talking to OP when being called out! She now will not allow OP to go on the trip.
I am all for speaking your mind on bbc, but let's get real here: the OP has nothing to blame herself for, she is simply finally standing up for herself and her baby.

Good for you. It's your job as a mama to protect your LO and do what's in her best interests, and by saying no to the long, cross-country trip you are doing exactly that. Glad your BF is coming around.

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You’re a good mom, I can tell. I like your kids, especially that one peeing in the corner. She’s my favorite. Carry on, warrior. Six hours to bedtime.