Deep breaths. Take a deep breath right now. Can you? When we lose a loved one we often can’t breathe deeply. I don’t know about you, but I felt like I would forget to breathe when I was in the throws of my deepest grief. Since I have had to get through grief, and now [...]

Experiencing the death of a loved one takes a lot of energy. Energy builds in your body as you stress and stay in your head thinking and “hold yourself together” (as my grandmother used to say). When you act like you are fine and you really are not, and when you hold back your tears [...]

Why Is It Impossible to Recover After A Death? It’s impossible to recover after a death of a loved one because you don’t have the right information or the vehicle for doing it. You were given all the wrong information and you are trying to do something that is impossible with the vehicle and information [...]

Are you trapped in grief? I was trapped in grief. And I desperately wanted to pass through grief. It was two years after my husband had died. When he died I fully expected that in two years I would be moving on with my life. The two-year anniversary came and went and I felt as [...]

Early Memories in Grief The first year after my husband died, when I thought of him my heart ached a pain I had never known so great. My memories of Peter were only of those final years with him sick, in pain, desperate and dying, and those horrible memories consumed me. My memories while in [...]

Processing grief takes COURAGE! It takes incredible courage. Do you know that many give up on the journey through grief? And many choose early on that they are meant to grieve forever. They sit down in it and make a home in grief. Others start with hope that they will move through it. They give [...]

Fireweed. Have you ever seen it? It’s beautiful. Here’s a photograph of it. I took this picture years ago when my husband and I vacationed in Alaska. I was so captivated by the beauty of the extensive purple fields of this flower. At the time I did not know the history of it and it’s [...]

Sunday early morning I was thinking about the day ahead of me and about what would bring me joy this day. I made a fire, got my cup of coffee and talked with friends while enjoying my fire. Sitting by my fireplace always brings me joy. As I sat by the fire I got thinking [...]

Driving this morning the fog was thick. I could hardly see 100 feet in front of me. Some other cars appeared to speed right by me. But I had to reduce my speed. I saw car tracks that had slid off the road. I had to proceed with caution. I felt my body tensing up. [...]