it's up to you to be you.

The advantage that women have over men, other than being superior in sex (according to Dr. Masters), is that we talk to each other A LOT, and in detail. Thus, we know when things are normal, we know when we’re being crazy, we know when we need a hug, and when we need a kick in the butt. Every time I get together with really good girlfriends, and especially when we start talking about our relationships, I start laughing, because it’s so funny how we all go through the same things, which can be a huge relief. Today I met up with an old friend at the beach. When she showed up, I told her right away that I had had an incredibly stressful week, and I was finally tired of talking about it, so I just want to hear about her life. As soon as she updated me on everything in her life, I suddenly felt like, okay let me tell you what’s been going on, and though I thought I had talked myself to death about everything this entire week, I still felt quite a bit of relief after updating her on everything. So of course, we get to talking about our boyfriends and we started laughing when we realized that many of the issues we have in our relationships come down to the mere fact that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. I told her how even when I’m really mad at him, I still need him to hug and cuddle me, and obviously he doesn’t want to, but I need him to. Then she started laughing and said, “ME TOO!! I do the same.” And then she told me how sometimes she tries really hard not to say something and start a fight when she knows she should hold back for a sec, but she can’t and she can feel herself about to burst and she’s telling him this, and he’s telling her to just wait it out a little longer, and then she bursts. I laughed so hard, because I was like, “O MY GAH, I did that this week!” So yeah, we women definitely have the upper hand here, because we talk so much about everything, that it's easier to realize and know when things are normal, and we admit when we’re crazy—well, at least some of us admit when we’re crazy. It’s the ones who don’t that you should be aware of. I suppose men will always think we’re crazy, and we’ll always think men are idiots. But hey, can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em. BIG LOVE & HUGS Love, Justine