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Should we have a baby shower for our third child?

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Years ago my husband and I decided that two children was enough for us, and we gave away most of our baby gear. Now we're expecting a third child -- a welcome surprise. Most of our friends don't think it's appropriate to have a baby shower for a second or third child because they feel the old gear should have been saved. But not only do we want to celebrate this baby, we need help getting equipped for his or her arrival. Help!

I have 2 boys ages 12 and 10 and now expecting baby boy #3 so of course I have nothing to pass down. My best friend wants to throw me a shower, I had one with the first not the second so I don't see the problem.

My sister is having a shower for us. We had nothing left my last shower was 14 years ago and my youngest will be 11 when the baby comes. This was an unexpected blessing so i am grateful that my sister is throwing a shower. even though I was worried it would be tacky

I think if you want a shower have one, who cares what others think. Even if you throw it yourself, again who cares what others think. We are expecting our third child and our other two are 7 and 9. I donated all of our baby items to charity years ago. Despite faithly use of BC we ended up being blessed with baby # 3. I also think if you want to tell people that you are registered some where than go for it, if they choose to give a gift atleast they can pick something you may actually need or save you from getting duplicate items. Just because you have a baby shower does not mean your asking or expecting other people to give you
everything you may need.

I agree that a baby shower is to celebrate. I had a baby shower with my first child(girl) and since my son was born 13 months later we didn't have one with him but now 20 yrs later and pregnant with our 3rd baby my daughter has insisted on throwing me a baby shower!!! I say go ahead and have a baby shower.....especially if your children are far apart.

Oh. my BFF had three little girls pretty close together. I really wanted to throw her a shower for the third baby, but I read that it's taboo....so I threw her what they call a 'Sprinkle' - which is where you tell everyone who you've invited not to buy any big stuff, but instead to 'sprinkle' the mom necessity items such as diapers, baby lotions/powders, formula (if they are not breastfeeding), etc.

YES!!! ALL babies deserve to be celebrated!!! If you feel that akward about it, throw it after the baby is born as a "meet & greet." Just because he or she is your 3rd, 5th, or 10th, doesn't meen they don't deserve to be celebrated! :)

Hi, I am surprised at how many people think it's okay to have a bunch of baby showers! Here's my opinion: It is completely inappropriate to have someone host a formal shower (where the main purpose is to provide gifts and money for the family) for anything other than a first child, regardless of the years between. However, I think it is fine to host a "welcome baby" party yourself where you encourage people to either bring a dish or a box of diapers while they meet the new baby. If you invite a lot of people, some will bring gifts or money and it's certainly fine for close family to do so, but guests should not feel obligated. Good luck!

I am on baby number two after 7 YEARS. I have nothing really left from my daughter with the exception of her nursery set and changing table. My best friend (also baby's Godmother) is throwing me a baby shower. It has been 7 years. People are never required to purchase gifts, but they are more than helpful. Who cares what anyone says about it not being appropriate? I like what one lady said about every baby being special, and deserving some kind of celebration in thier honor. I am mostly looking forward to getting all of my family and friends together. But let's face it ladies, babies cost money. Lots of it. And some of us are not lucky enough to have two incomes. In my case it is due to my husband being overseas. I can afford the necessities (crib, co-sleeper, bottles, etc.), but it's always nice to have help from people close to you. Who better to turn to than those close to you? And how fun is it to open things for your new bundle of joy? Every baby deserves to have everything humanly possible, and if having a shower will help with that then go for it! You have fun at your shower! I hope you get everything you need to start over, and have a blast with your family and friends! Good luck with your new little one!!!

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