Amid all the Facebook posts about the heart-rending violence taking place at this moment in Israel and Gaza, this photo of a bomb shelter door in Ashdod leapt out. It says that the bomb shelter is only for men and boys.

In countries that were bombed during World War II, those who were alive at the time always saying how being in the bomb shelters brought people together and created a sense of community. Not everyone saw things this way when Israel’s bomb shelters opened during the recent Gaza offensive.