How to Enjoy 69: Getting the Most out of Mutual Oral Sexby Kiley OramCan you count to 69? Mutual oral sex can be super-satisfying for bothpartners because it's a great way to give and receive pleasure at the sametime. With proper timing and positioning, you can have a newfavorite number tonight!

Line Up: The "69" sex position gets its name from theshapeof thenumbers. The nine looks like an upside-down six and the two numbers fitsnugly together like puzzle pieces. So in order to perform and toreceive mutual oral sex, two bodies in the sixty-nine position need to be lyinghead to toe. Successful mutual oral sex comes from finding the mostcomfortable way possible for you and your partner to be, well,end-to-end. Taking your respective sizes into consideration, there arelots of different positions to try (have fun trying!). A basicposition involves one partner lying down on top of the other partner sothat you're facing each other?sgenitals. The partner on top can lean on his/her elbows for easiermovement of the head, neck and upper body. Lying on your sidesfacing each other?s bodies is another position which can allow for morefreedom of movement (you can rest your heads on each other?s thighs ? instantpillows!).

Around the House: Utilize furniture at home to make 69easier. Place pillows or cushions under your heads or hips and you'll have easier access to each other's sweet spots. Ramps and Wedges, angledfoam cushions made to be used for sex, can also help your positioning.

All in the Timing: One criticism of 69-ing is that splitting one'sfocus between giving and receiving oral sex at once can be distracting.While the concept of mutual oral sex is to give andget, it doesn?tnecessarily have to happen totally simultaneously. You and your partnercan take turns giving and getting stimulation for certain periods oftime, so you each get a chance to concentrate solely on creating orreceiving sensation.

Tune in to your partner. Check in with your partner to ensure that both of you aregettingwhat you want from the sixty-nine position. Listen to your partner for signs she or he is feelinggood ? moans, heavy breathing. Take a moment to ask quick yes-or-noquestions ? nothing complicated. A single-word question will do:"Harder?", "More?", "Faster?", etc. Encourage yourpartner to do the same for you, or just speak up to get what you want.

Accessorize! You can also mix things up by using your hands and toysalong with your mouth; try small wireless vibrators like the Finger Fun or the Fantasy Fingers (both fit right on a finger to easily use on clits, vulvas, penisesand testicles alike). You can also use dildos, butt plugs (try the Little Flirt for beginners), or sensation toys like the Starburst Tickler.

Enjoy the ride. Remember to take your time with 69 - it'snot a race to see who can comefirst! (And if you do come first, make sure your partner has your fullattention afterward.) Take your time and enjoy making your partner feelgreat andvice-versa. Make the act more of a tease and even a challenge with ablindfoldor Supercuffs wrist restraints. For handjobs or vaginal penetrationduring 69, try silicone lube like Eros bodyglide, which is super-concentrated to last and last.