If God teaches us to love and accept one another, and to not judge thy neighbor,
then why is it that we still have hate and are ashamed of our children, friends,
and family when they make mistakes or do something that another does not like? How
can we overcome this and learn to love everyone and carry on God's original intent
of his teachings?

These are very good questions an actually not easy to answer. Questions
in which a lot of people can associate with, I’m sure. What’s funny is a lot of people
don’t even understand why they respond the way they do. We may think we understand
the ‘love thy neighbor’ and ‘do not judge’ concept, but to most of us, the opposite
is a natural way we respond when someone does something we “do not like” as you put
it. Let me also mention, the “do not judge thy neighbor” commandment is not a commandment
to ignore someone or not to point out to someone when they may be doing something
that maybe sinful or even harmful. Also, let me suggest to you that it may ‘seem’
like it’s a ‘hateful’ response. Yes, there are those that outright do respond that
way, but I like to think for most of us, it’s as I said’ an unknowing of why we respond
the way we do’.

As you have essentially asked two questions; first about our hateful nature
and secondly ”how we can overcome and carry on with God’s intention”, I’ll try and
give my honest responses based upon my beliefs and study of God’s word.

First let me speak about our nature. It explains a lot. Because of our fallen
and sinful nature, these judgmental tendencies will usually come to light before
any of our more rational responses come into the picture. Basically, we just can’t
help it. Our ego’s, our personal beliefs and upbringing all come into play with our
responses to the actions of others. When we do respond in a ‘hateful’ manner we are
in fact sinning;

“for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of
God,” Rom. 3:23

“All these evils come from inside and defile a person.”
Mk. 7:21

When it is someone close to us that we have an issue with, its more likely because
we care about the person and if we have a understanding of scripture and God’s requirements
for us, we want to lovingly correct them. To point out their decision is a sinful
one. One which, depending on the issue could hurt them - eternally. There’s a difference
between hating a person vs. hating their actions.

Now you may respond to this by saying “well that’s the way I feel and you
have no right to think or feel that way because of what you believe”. Well since
you have asked a Christian these kind of questions, you are going to get responses
based on their beliefs of God’s word. The bottom line is, if a true Christian knows
the person is doing something that is a sin, they are obligated to lovingly tell
that person. There is a difference between “judging” vs. rebuking a person in a
true Christian manner. Scripture is filled with verses of loving rebukes of one’s
actions such as;

“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore
be zealous and repent.” Rev. 3:19

“Open rebuke is better Than love
carefully concealed.” Pov.27:5

“ …….My son, do not despise thechastening of the LORD, Nor be discouraged when
you are rebuked by Him; Forwhom the LORD loves He chastens, And scourges every
son whom He receives.” Heb.12:5-6

When these things are about our family members or friends, we need to remember what
God’s word says;

And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach
them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. Deut. 6:6-7

So for the first part of your question- “Why”?, it’s because of our natural
sinful being, a realization of the evil that is in this world which is simply Satan’s
way of keeping us from practicing God’s teachings, and finally realizing that we
are not in God’s grace from birth.

Our actions go against God’s original intent for us to “love one another”. This is
why He finally sent Jesus to teach us these things. This theme was the main intent
of Jesus’ ministry.

As far as your other question as to how can we “overcome this and learn to
love everyone and carry on God's original intent of his teachings” ? Simply, or maybe
not so simply, by understanding what it means to be “made in the image of God” as
it says in Genesis 1:27 To truly know the teaching of Jesus when He states to “love
one another, as I have loved you”. Only by prayer, by constantly being aware that
we need God in our lives by asking Jesus to come into our lives to truly control
our responses, and ‘change’ the person we are. I can tell you from personal experience,
there is no other way I know that will work. It is a matter of lovingly correcting
them as Scripture teaches us to do.