How Criticising Other People Can Help You to Find Your Blind Spots

I am especially happy when I complain about somebody’s behavior. I don’t say that I like to complain about people. I just like to notice what I am saying and how it relates to my own behavior. I find very true what all the spiritual junkies claim: “When we look at others we are looking at a mirror. We observe other people through our own filters and we discover ourselves in them. The behavior that triggers us is the behavior that we have not managed ourselves.”

So I really like complaining about other people. It tells me a lot about my blind spots. The behavior that I want to see in others, but I do not want to see in myself.

I have plenty of stories related to that. It is such a funny game.

I was moaning about one of my bosses who was not able to give an honest feedback and I never told him this. I was irritated by my colleague he was always challenging solutions without suggesting a different option and then I saw myself doing the same in a different context. I was angry at my daughter because she never let me finish what I wanted to tell her and every time she started telling me a story I interrupted her with questions.

Enjoy criticizing other people and notice how it relates to you. You can not change the others, but you can certainly change your own behavior.