Sex Magick for Ostara and Beltane.

Warning, this post is rated PG-13 for nudity, sensuality and sexuality.

From the Wiccan Principles of Belief:

4. We conceive of the Creative Power in the Universe as manifesting through polarity — as masculine and feminine — and that this same creative Power lives in all people, and functions through the interaction of the masculine and feminine. We value neither above the other, knowing each to be supportive of the other. We value sexuality as pleasure, as the symbol and embodiment of Life, and as one of the sources of energies used in magickal practice and religious worship.

The spring holidays for Wiccans are about the rights of spring, the need to plant ones love and let it grow to fruition. For Wiccans, this ritual is best done through Sex Magick, to use all our arts to create a mood and a pleasurable rising of energy to culminate, perhaps multiple times, within the fertility ritual. A sexual ritual is not to be entered into lightly, for if correctly done, it can last hours and be very physically draining. For this reason, it is not a good idea to do more than one per night. Several people in the past have asked for a ritual, so here is one that is a typical example of a ritual that I enjoy for fertility, as we are trying to conceive. I realize I hadn’t really covered Sex Magick much, so here is a PG-13 attempt. The ritual is not to be written in stone, feel free to adjust to your own pleasures, whatever they may be. 😉

Preparation is not difficult, just takes time to gather everything, but it is one of the most crucial parts. Candles, Bath salts or Bubble bath solution, Soft towels and robes, and any assorted sexual helpers that are enjoyed need to be put out for easy access. If you wish to also incorporate candle Magick, prep your candles before the ritual. Hunting for items in the middle of the ritual can ruin the mood and the rhythm of the rite. Also recommended is instrumental or Gaelic soothing music. A particular Celtic collection that I like can be found here on YouTube, Unfortunately it is one song at a time.

The first step is a cleansing ritual, a lot of other faiths also start this way, but I think ours is the most enjoyable. Each participant can do their own cleansing/bathing rite, but where is the fun in that? I always enjoy a mutual cleansing rite with your lover (s). The undressing of each other in a long and slow method allows for a careful inspection of your lovers body and where to concentrate later when the opportunity comes up. A warm bath with salts, can provide a relaxing start to the evening. If your more into a sensual mood, bubble are so much more fun, as each bubble sets off your nerve endings into overdrive as they float in the water caressing your body. As you wash every inch of your lovers body with your hands and water, imagine a cleansing light covering their body. Shaving each other before or during the bath can help with sensual aspects now, and latter. With every stroke of your fingers, you set off more nerve endings, which start both sexual and magickal energies flowing, and mutual masturbation can help with this. If you are able to achieve multiple Orgasms, feel free to take this as high as you want, as it will only help in the visualization of the pure/cleansing light of your partner. Once you are both cleansed, drying each other off is another way to increase the sensual and Magickal energy, however if you spent some of that energy already, not to worry, you will get it back latter. If not, then the little pause next can help in prolonging your enjoyment, orgasms and the raising of more energy latter.

If you wish, you may dress your lover in a thin robe, preferably a Black one since it is the most diverse color of the spectrum, but that should be the only clothing worn. Personally I prefer to worship Skyclad, i.e. Nude, as it is more natural and is better IMHO for sexual rites, and the robe will be removed anyway for the ritual. Once you and your lover (s) are cleansed, you will need to clean the area that the ritual will be performed in. Here is when the Witches Broom comes into play. We use the Broom to sweep out all negative energies in a room or home before a ritual is performed. Once cleaned, you can bring in the items that are needed. Bowls of the remaining elements for Earth, Water and candles and incense for Fire. Dragon’s Blood works well for cleansing and passion, as both are needed for the rite. Once you have both the Magickal and Sexual items needed, you can start the ritual.

The goal of Sexual Magick is to stir up ones sexual and Magickal energies to the maximum and to release that energy in a spell to ask the Divine to intercede into your life. Rites, such as this one, can be used for anything, but the above two holidays are for fertility and that is the goal of this one.

I like to start with a sensual massage, this is not to work out sore legs or arms, this is a very light and gentle massage of the whole body. One of the avenues of gathering and relieving Magickal energy is through the fingers and the finger tips especially. To excite the nerve endings in your lovers nude body through touch is a very good way to rise energy and sensuality and to get your partners motor running and juices flowing, especially in certain sexual areas of the body. The shaving during the bath really helps in this area of finger stimulation, and if you keep it shaved, the itching stops after a little while. 😉 Weekly shaving of each other also helps in getting to know your lovers lower pleasure centers very well. If you work with your hands a lot, you need lots of lotions to keep your fingers smooth, or a feather may be a better option, than your finger tips.

Now that we have a nice idle going, time to give it a bit of gas, as they say. Using a bit more pressure with the finger tips, and adding in your lips and tongue to all over your lovers body, will certainly take it to the next level for both of you. But, not always in the sexual areas, feel free to explore your lovers body. Kissing, sucking or licking behind your lovers ears, behind the knees, on the neck, etc, may prove to be better than the normal sexual areas, as the sensuality and Energy can be magnified tenfold. Now, there is a multitude of other non intercourse activities that can be engaged in before moving to intercourse, but the goal is to get your lover as far as you can, and if able, to have multiple Orgasms.

I think this is as about as far as I can go here with details and within the rules of the Chronicles blogs, and to keep it PG-13, but the obvious next step of intercourse is the joining of the Magical, Sexual, and Sensual energies into one force, at least for the time needed for the ritual. Don’t be afraid to experiment in that area too, as there are many areas with many nerves clusters that stimulating them can get the energies and sensuality going into overdrive. 😉 The Spiritual aspects of the joining of the two or more energies into a convenient for the goal of completing the ritual are intense and quite draining as well. The sex of your lover has no bearing on if the rite is successful, nor how many lovers are joining in the ritual. The number of Orgasms will have will of course control the time to get to the top and to finish the ritual. Once everyone is complete, you return the Earth and Water to their proper places and thank the Goddess and or the God that you called upon for their attention and the ritual is done. As stated earlier, this is just a starting point, you know your lover (s) better, so adapt it to the way you like it, these are just a few of the ways I do a ritual.

Last year it was pointed out that this post may be more about intimacy than magic, I have to say that intimacy is very much a part of Sex Magick. Sex magick works best when the people involved are intimate, when they care about each other in some way, not necessarily in a committed relationship, but they should at least care for the other person, IMHO if at all possible. Aleister used prostitutes when traveling abroad, but he also had his wife, mistress, and boyfriend when he was home for a more personal and intimate Sex Magick. Yes, Boyfriend, like me he was bisexual and in his writing, the best Sex Magick he said, was penetration between two men, especially the submissive partner, as he gets more out of it. Sex Magick is the most powerful of all Magick, and as so, should be used responsibly, the three fold rule can bite you very hard should you misuse it. In Perfect Love and Perfect Trust, you can only Trust those you know.

A Special Thanks to a dear friend for her help in this post, She is going through some very rough times, so it is much appreciated. 🙂