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confused need a lady point of view???

been in a rocky relationship after tha baby was born she's 3 now we broke up in july but for some reason things are better now that we are apart . and im finally over him the thing is he just moved back in becuse he had no were to go his family lives out of state we get along so better now but i wanna ask him were do we stand but at the same time i dont want to get back with him but its weird living together and not knowing im just so confuse like do we need a title or should i just let it go im drained after tha long relationship and dont no were to turn

Put a time limit on his stay. Treat him like a family member that needs a place to crash for a bit and then send him on his way. You don't want to re-complicate your life or your babies life. Make sure he pitches in and is respectful and try to stay on good terms for the sake of your child, she will thank you for it later.

Put a limit to your stay. He can FIND somewhere else to live if need be. He can get his OWN place, he doesn't HAVE to live with you. If you don't want a relationship don;t sleep with him or he might get other ideas and consider you his free ride.

You were together on & off for 3 years and broke up only 4 months ago....I don't think I would have let him move in. It's hard without knowing details...I agree with other posts. Put a time limit on how long he stays...he has to get his own place soon...Did you live with him before? If yes, Did he support himself while living with you? Where has he been living for the last 4 months? He can be part of your daughters life without living off of you.