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A power struggle between a 13 year old and a 3 year old.

Posted by Anonymous

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Dd and her friend brought my other dd home a donut. Very nice gesture.

Well dd's friend(who is like a daughter to me) got a pink one and gave dd(3 years old) the white one. When dd saw the pink one she got so excited because she is obsessed with the color pink right now and thought it was for her.. So I asked if dd could get the pink one. They are the same flavor.

The girl refused to trade with a freaking 3 year old. There was no reason she wouldn't trade. She just said "no I bought this one for me and that one is hers"

Time for you to teach the 3 yo that she should be happy one was brought home for her, and she may not always get exactly what she wants. I side with the teen, here, because that was a thoughtful thing to do. My youngest kid never got special treatment because she was young.

Does she have younger siblings? She may just be used to always having the first choice.

by Anonymous 2
on Apr. 5, 2013 at 1:05 PM

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Why should a three year old get special treatment, they didn't need to bring her a donut at all. By three kids need to sart learning they don't always get exactly what they want and to appreciate when someone does something for them. They should expect to get what they want, the only difference was color and you wanted the 13 year old to give it up, basically telling her color doesn't matter. So teach your dd that.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Apr. 5, 2013 at 1:05 PM

She wouldn't be giving up a donut, she would e trading it. It would have just been a nice thing to do.

Quoting silverdawn99:

Why should she have to give up her doughnut? Its a good lesson for your three year old

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