He's almost 6 and wants to move out to nana and grampies!! I yell at him and it hurts his feelings :( but im sick of him writing on my table on 'accident' for the 50th time today. I know it's because he has no boundaries over there but it still hurts my feelings after I do everything I can for him. I know he's going through tough age and he wants a dad so maybe that's part of it too, needing a male figure.

Ftr we have a very good relationship and are close so this is a new thing and idk how to take it

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TOTALLY NORMAL.... I used to "run away" all the time to either my Grandmother's or Aunt's house. We lived VERY very close to each other! I'm sure my mother would just roll her eyes at me.

Gramma would make me some apple pancakes and tell me- well, ya know you have to listen to your mother- now go on home and don't complain now!!! Auntie would give me chocolate but say Heck no you can't stay here- I'm too busy for kids.. you have to go home!

It would stink if your parents feed it, however! I pray that they just treat your son the same way- say well, son, you know you have listen to your ma.

Phew thank goodness it's normal, it made me feel like oh my goodness what am I doing so wrong?? That's funny tho about your auntie. They will probably just say tough luck (my mom will atleast) and tell him no way jose the house is too small but my dad babies him and lets him get away with so much cuz he was the only grandchild until 2 weeks ago

Quoting Destiny907:

TOTALLY NORMAL.... I used to "run away" all the time to either my Grandmother's or Aunt's house. We lived VERY very close to each other! I'm sure my mother would just roll her eyes at me.

Gramma would make me some apple pancakes and tell me- well, ya know you have to listen to your mother- now go on home and don't complain now!!! Auntie would give me chocolate but say Heck no you can't stay here- I'm too busy for kids.. you have to go home!

It would stink if your parents feed it, however! I pray that they just treat your son the same way- say well, son, you know you have listen to your ma.

If possible, plan more things he can do one-on-one with his grandfather... a strong male role-model is great (if his grandfather sticks to your rules for the most part)! However this will only be beneficial if the grandfather supports your discipline... if your child only likes to be around them because they are lenient, then that isn't building a solid relationship, it's just fun lol.

You didn't become a parent so that someone would love you. You became a parent so that you had someone to love. When my kids defiantly stomped their tiny feet and declared that they 'hated' me for having rules, I simply told them, "That's okay, dear. I love you and those rules keep you safe. That's all that matters around here.". If I felt ambitious, I might add that ink from pens is toxic and could poison their food and that was why I had implemented the 'no writing on the table rule'. The real reason they could not write on the table, of course, was because it made my furniture look shitty and I had paid a great deal of money for that furniture. I could, at any time find the most dangerous example of why a rule was in place to terrify them into obeying it. Of course, if the Loop-hole Queen (HouseOfFeast) began to rationally chip away at the logic of my rule, I would firmly declare that this year's Christmas might be cancelled so that I could replace the furniture in question. Then I would tell the children to 'thank' her for cutting back on their Christmas gifts that year.