Another week has come and gone—and while there's still a chill in the air and (quite possibly), January is finally coming to an end. How did your first month of the new decade go, Mama?

It's okay if 2020 hasn't been your year so far, because there are still 11 months left to go to make 2020 the #yearofthemother in your own life. If your New Year's resolution is already old news, set a new goal for yourself and catch up on some of the new stories taking over the internet.

Here's what went viral in the world of parenthood this week.

See all the viral pics of this Starbucks + Target-themed playroom

If you're in the process of decorating or revamping your kids' playroom and need some inspiration, look no further.

Photos of the most amazing, creative playroom are going viral because this setup is just flat-out iconic. And the best part? It pays homage to some of our mama favorites! The playroom boasts mini Starbucks and Target locations (mind blown!) as well as some goal-worthy toy organization. Three-year-old Ariah is the lucky little lady who gets to enjoy this sweet setup, and it's all thanks to her mama, Renee Doby-Becht.

"There were so many comments and likes and all these positive comments," the mama told Good Morning America of reactions to the playroom. "It was mainly moms that were commenting...they were just blown away."

And so are we!

This mom's viral post about marriage is so raw and relatable

As mothers, we are constantly worrying. Worrying about our children and their safety, their happiness and their health. Worrying about our homes. Worrying about our other family members and friends. And sometimes, we're also worrying about something we're afraid to admit: The way our mental and emotional load affects our partners and how they view us.

One mother put this feeling into perfect words.

"I cried last night as I asked my husband if he was tired of me. Because I'm tired of me some days. Pregnancy and birth are hard. Raising babies is hard. But I think the hardest is losing yourself. After each babe, postpartum has gotten worse," Cheyenne Moore writes in a Facebook post. "I don't know if it's being in the trenches of raising multiple children, taking care of a home, working while trying to juggle all of these, or just the pressures of being a mom in today's world."

"Some days you look around and it hits you that you have no clue who you are outside of those things," Cheyenne adds. "That life is flying by, and you feel lost in the middle of it. Some days you get a glimpse of your old carefree self. Other days you're navigating the high emotions, the doubt, and the wondering when you will feel like yourself again."

Mama, if you're dealing with these feelings, know you're not alone. And to Cheyenne Moore: Thank you for putting these feelings into words. We know so many mamas feel seen when they read them.

The criticism was instant and intense. The 1,000-word job description was mocked, the woman who wrote it was mom-shamed and many suggested that her requirements (which included "can eat duck eggs" and "likes river swimming") were roasted as unrealistically specific and demanding.

A Guardian columnist concluded their critique of the posting by acknowledging the double standards inherent in the backlash but also suggesting that any nanny working for this woman should be pitied.

"Now, I know what you're all thinking: when a man outsources his childcare, nobody bats an eyelid—and here we are laughing at a single mom who made it and just wants to lean in. That's a fair point—but it shouldn't make us feel any less bad for the nanny," Poppy Noor wrote for The Guardian.

In an interview with Slate's Ruth Graham, the anonymous CEO explained she planned to pay $35 to $40 an hour, along with time and a half for overtime. Even without overtime that's a yearly salary of $72,800 to $83,200—with free rent and a car to use.

"And if the person wanted, they could live in our pool cottage, and the rental value for that is about $3,000 a month. They'd get a car that they could use exclusively for themselves; that's valued at about $800 a month. There'd be paid days off, paid holidays, vacation pay, health benefits and the person would get to travel with us. We do some pretty cool vacations. We go to Europe a lot. We always stay in really nice places and have a lot of fun. And we travel to Hawaii, Central America. And when that person would be traveling, that person would only be working eight to nine hours a day," she tells Graham.

The single CEO explained that what she's looking for is a "wife type" nanny, someone who can essentially act as her family's second parent. The ability to eat duck eggs or whatever isn't as important this person's ability to do "to do research, to make good decisions."

She rejects the idea that she's seeking some kind of imaginary unicorn of a nanny and insists the qualities she's describing are common in women in caring roles but undervalued by society.

"It's intelligence, education, analytical skills, thoughtfulness. That's not like a superwoman or super nanny. Most of the moms you know probably have all of that," she tells Graham.

The problem with this viral posting isn't that the female CEO in Menlo Park is too demanding, it's that care work is so undervalued by our society that it's not even seen as work. There's this expectation that mothers can do everything (while still working in paid jobs and contributing to the economy), but we can't. Not without help.

For a CEO, help looks like an $80,000 earning, duck egg-eating, river swimming nanny. For the rest of us, it looks like affordable childcare, paid leave, and addressing the cultural expectations that contribute to mental stress.

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Abbie Fox is a busy mom of a three and the owner of Foxy Photography. She's a passionate parent and an artist who tells stories from behind the lens, and now, she's using her medium to bring attention to a topic that so many mothers have stories about: mom-shaming.

Fox uploaded a series of portraits of children (her own three—8-year-old Maverick, 6-year-old Georgia, and Millie, who is 7 months—and clients' kids) posed with signs spelling out messages about "hot button" issues moms are often shamed for, like sleeping, feeding, and the decision to work full-time.

The photo series, which has now gone viral, was a passion project for Fox, who knows how it feels to be judged by others when you're just trying to do your best as a parent.

<p><strong></strong></p><p>"I was shamed for a lot of things, especially the feeding part," Fox tells Motherly over Facebook Messenger, explaining that when she was a first time mom her oldest, Maverick, had a hard time latching to nurse. For six weeks the family struggled, seeing doctors, nurses and specialists, and Fox cried herself to sleep at night. </p><p>"I was being told that I wasn't a good mother [unless] I could breastfeed him. And this was actually coming from people I thought were my friends," she explains. Fox had more success breastfeeding her next child, and nursed for three months, but it seemed there was always something else for people to be judgmental about. </p><p>"I also got shamed for allowing my kids to watch TV at a young age, I got shamed for being a working mom and then when I became a stay-at-home mom, just running this business [I] got shamed for that as well," she says. <br></p>

<p>So the photography series, "Anti Mommy Shamers Unite" was born out of the frustration of being shamed for her parenting decisions when (like all of us mamas) Fox is doing her best, and doing what is right for <em>her</em> family in <em>her </em>circumstances. She posed her three kids with a sign noting that they don't often eat dinner as a family—something Fox has taken flack for but refuses to feel bad about. </p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTUzMi9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyNjI4NzMxN30.kBrLgqddtnY7qAwb3zv777wmAS-wxVkNSXGPbUVO2UA/img.jpg?width=980" id="f698b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="5a4423a1c972fe1876fdd9477582f97b" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>Another photo of Fox's oldest is sparking perhaps the most controversy of the 37 portraits. In this one, Maverick poses with a sign reading: "My mom used the Cry It Out method for sleep training."</p><p>Fox believes parents should be able to talk about different approaches to parenting without putting each other down. But in training her camera's lens on mom-shaming, Fox has found herself in the eye of a major shame storm. </p><p><strong>"I've actually been getting nasty comments, Facebook messages, and emails that I am promoting child abuse by having that picture," says Fox, who isn't suggesting that CIO is for every family, just that it worked for hers. She's supportive of whatever way parents choose to deal with sleep in their own homes, as is evident in some of the photos she captured of her clients.</strong> </p><p>Unfortunately, Fox tells Motherly her clients have been dealing with some nasty messages as well, due to the messages in their children's portraits. </p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTU2My9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTU5MzY5MDI4MX0.2YsB3yQUWCUSfY6dCiji3ifi0b5V-xFCzy-1enKBLg0/img.jpg?width=980" id="01ec7" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="716edd24ba728771312b5be818c9c763" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>Shauntelle Yount and her son participated in the photo shoot because she was always told that co-sleeping was some horrible thing, but it was what worked for her family. </p><p>"My son was 9 weeks early and had many problems. After he came home from the NICU I decided co-sleeping worked for the both of us," Young writes. </p><p>"I stayed awake for days just to make sure he wasn't going to stop breathing. Co-sleeping let us both get the rest we needed and if there was a problem I was right there to fix it. As mother's we need to stop placing shame and start standing up for each other." </p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTU3Ny9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYwMjEzNTM3OX0.cG_uFa10HMMTdCmsMozz_TpPc-IRTUlk-Cwloj7HK7I/img.jpg?width=980" id="62001" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="8cf5585779510516839f9330a81dac09" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>Johana Decker's kids posed with signs saying that their mother used a safety leash on her toddler and doesn't stop tantrums. Together, the girls posed with another sign about their births, a choice many moms are shamed over. </p><p>"We decided for 2 elective c-sections because we were impatient to see how long labor was going to take, didn't want any disturbance to the lady bits and [were] maybe a tad bit scared of labor so major surgery seemed a better choice.............TWICE!! 🤷♀️🤷♀️," Decker wrote. </p><p>She continues: "My oldest would run away from me to explore the world that the only way I could turn my back on her to grab my keys, my purse, my mind etc was to leash her up."</p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTYwMS9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYwMTY5Mzc0NH0.2BR5PHx_fungv8n1qRFJOHy5XjdbhHTKHROrN-UlFWM/img.jpg?width=980" id="0187d" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f2cad34f26bfaa984c3ddaafa3b1a589" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>Sara Martinez is another mother who feels birth decisions should not be judged. </p><p><strong>"My parenting choices are my own. I don't expect others to follow me and I don't want to be expected to follow others. I'm an over thinker and take a lot of time to make decisions and research information when it's needed and then I make the best choices for my family based off of that. I believe other parents make choices that are best for their family as well. If it has no impact on anyone outside of my home, it shouldn't be judged or up for debate by others. My kids are happy, healthy, well cared for, and we are doing everything we can to live our best lives possible!" she writes.</strong> </p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTYxMC9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzOTc4OTc4Nn0.uHr2Of5wl09deMQjoX4_fDs8vj0_yaxcZx0I3S-kFoI/img.jpg?width=980" id="4d983" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="81a71ee21ae5793f02fc97aadb5b1cf5" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>Lakilah Bailey made a different birth choice, one that was right for her and her daughter but judged by others. </p><p>"I personally was shamed for several choices that i have made over the years. The most controversial one was my choice to have a home birth. Friends and family would call me crazy, tell me I was a hippie, say i didn't care about my child's safety, etc. At the end of the day, I knew it was the right decision for me. However, I did wish I had more support and less shaming during such a joyful time in my life. People tend to shame others because of their own lack of knowledge. As a mother, I have learned that we are all out here doing the best we can for our little ones. No mother deserves to be shamed for doing what she believes is the best for her child," she explains. <br></p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTYyOC9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0NTA0OTU3OH0.HxvAQ2MMcPo4JbMMEglhQYuANiEEG4GcwvlrZe3gQoI/img.jpg?width=980" id="76a2e" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1ce14260e82d5163f285b6d77d0efc94" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>A lot of mothers feel judgment over not giving their child breastmilk, but some are judged and shamed even when they do. </p><p>Abby John exclusively pumped for her baby, but found a lot of people were critical of her decision not to nurse. </p><p>"It was super important to me personally to give him my milk at least for his first year," John writes. "I was having such a difficult time getting Carson to latch that this was the next best thing so that he could still have it. People told me it wouldn't be the same type of bond but Carson and I have an amazing connection and I am so happy that I was able to provide him with this." <br></p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTYzOS9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxMTI2MDY3Mn0.Lmh1mzPzrtCBmUUuyzApV1O9yMkMYbpVM2WRxZfpOjI/img.jpg?width=980" id="27868" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="8b2ec2d3652260d521a84bf72cd653d4" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>Whitney Rae Hoskin says she wanted to participate in this shoot because after she had her daughter there were people who "couldn't believe that I was working and not taking care of my baby," she writes. </p><p>Hoskin continues: "My husband and I made the decision that we were both going to continue with our careers and have our good friend be Nora's babysitter. This has been such a blessing for us because Nora gets to interact with other children around her age and that greatly helps with social development and motor skill development." </p><p>She says it is "important for people to know that we as parents are making choices for our children that are good for us and that work for our family and our situation." </p><p>"Let's face it, parenting is already hard," she explains. "The judgment of others around you shouldn't have to contribute to the craziness we already face." </p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTY3NS9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYyMDkxNDE5OX0.OHdn7RlkfZGJUbTuQcS9ji748ykTt3Y0x25_iXfQN84/img.jpg?width=980" id="1520c" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="d2811919c7432000dba2524e42007bd1" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>Desiree Deittrick Perdichizzi's boys posed with signs about hot topic issues like ADHD and essential oils. </p><p>She says "being a parent, a mother specifically, is so hard and even more so with endless judgment or shaming that goes on."<br></p><p>"And I feel that, mother's specifically, need that support which can bring a feeling of peace to their lives instead of the fear, doubt, insecurity or shame that the judgment fuels. We (mothers) question and judge ourselves enough as it is. We are our own toughest critic. We don't need to be told what we chose or what we do is wrong or how we should have done it better - we need to be told and reassured that we are doing ok and that we are enough," she writes. </p>

<img type="lazy-image" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8xODM2NTcwNS9vcmlnaW4uanBnIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY0OTc5Mzg0OX0.xM2vNIBts6lkxwn9PXqe6nCVSuEalQmzJPOpNkFc_rY/img.jpg?width=980" id="02664" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="03e03ba756d2346afb6d9c54e1b98a7e" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" /><p>No matter how you feed your baby, how you put them to sleep, whether your baby watches TV or has never looked at a screen, we can all agree that we are trying. One mom's best may look different from another's, but it's her life, her child and her choices. And those choices (while they may not be the ones we would make) are made from a place of motherly love. </p><p><strong>That's what Fox sees when looking through her camera, and that's what she wants us to see when we look in the mirror. </strong></p><p>You're doing your best, Mama, and there's no shame in that. </p>