Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Please excuse the below which is not well-drafted, whiny and tends to the run-on sentences.

An ongoing issue: JD doesn't have opinions about things. Or maybe he does, but he really doesn't care, so it's basically a lot of, "Well, what do you wanna do?" But when I hear that, I think he really does have an opinion, but he's going with what I want so he can then throw it back at me that we never do what he wants to do.

Maybe I'm overthinking it.

Anyways, because JD has been without an income for a year and doesn't want to spend the money and is not a planner and even though I am a planner, I've been working my arse off, we find ourselves with no vacation plans. This stinks. A whole lot.

I am, however, determined to go on vacation this summer. Just where we go is the real question. Due to JD's issues with pain and his inability to walk for long distances, we can't go anywhere that we'd be sightseeing. So, strike off anywhere new.

I hate that we can't go anywhere new because, in my bring-on-the-parade-of-horribles mind, it means that we will never go anywhere new, never travel anywhere and be stuck at home forever and ever and never go on vacation and I'm just stuck. Plus, I really, ruheaallly need some time off and if I don't get it, I might start having to kill people.

Again, I might be overthinking this.

My parents have a house at the beach, so we may spend a week there, or, we may go to a resort in the mountains that takes our credit card points. I just wish that I didn't have to plan everything and that life was easier. Don't we all?

My best idea to try to make both of you happy would be a cruise. It doesn't involve much walking for JD, but for you, you could get off the ship and explore some at the ports. You'd have some space, and be able to enjoy the water.

E doesn't have ideas about things either. I think this is a boy trait. Then when he does have opinions I am not prepared for them and nor do I want them.

Are JD and E twins? As I am reading this I am thinking geesh Jendeis I think you are married to E's identical. Guess I never noticed that. E is not a planner either and it is driving me nuts! We are leaving for DC again in a week and he is like, ah, I am not sure what I want to do. Umm... we need a plan there buddy. I have IF sisters I need to see. Can you tell this is driving me nuts?

E travels so much for work that he has gone to all of these places that I'd love to go to (NYC, Maine, etc.) but E hates those places. So guess what? I am never going to get there. I am trying to work on Iceland but that is like pulling teeth- he's at least been there and likes it. We have to go to Toronto for a wedding in September and he is ho-huming over that (and guess what the plane tickets went up by $200 a ticket).

Sorry for the bitching.

You will not be stuck at home forever. I voted that you go to the Mountain Resort, although the beach house is good idea as well.

HUGS!

Stopping by for an ICLW visit...No. 95: The Unfair Struggle (male-factor infertility, good friends, neighborhood rumblings)

I am so with you on the whole opinion thing - it is such a tremendous drag on my energy sometimes. I'm working on learning to accept that I just have to be the decider and the planner most of the time and that he really means it when he says he has no preference. It is a struggle, but what else can I do? Fortunately, Manny does not throw things back at me - otherwise he'd be first in line for murdering.

Either of your ideas sounds quite good, but I have to say that a cruise sounds excellent if you can swing it. Mostly because it involves you doing absolutely no work once you're on the boat, and I'd really like you to get a true break. Basically my criteria for your vacation are all based on you doing as little as possible other than relaxing and enjoying yourself completely. So whichever option gives you the most rest is the one I'd vote for.

What about a hotel downtown in a new, big city? If you take Amtrak (to Philly, for example) you wouldn't need to do that much walking (they have wheelchairs) and you can just factor in 4-6 cabs a day to get around the walking issues. Then you can also spend some afternoons wandering if JD needs to rest and the planning would just be a couple of hours online booking a hotel and looking for restaurants (and if you want kosher ones, that will be a couple of minutes tops) and looking at museums, etc.

I'd go for the beach house--free, and it sounds like what you need most is not new adventures so much as TIME OFF, you know? With the money you save using a free accomadation, maybe you can do something crazy fun and new and not walking-intensive, like go up in a hot air balloon?