Wednesday, September 16, 2015

From the archives: How Ming and I met

view of Shanghai Pudong from the Bund, Feb 2005

I'm leaving China today! I first arrived at the end of February 2005 with CIEE. I spent my initial week doing training (well, it was mostly sightseeing, but I got to practice my Chinese in the markets) in Shanghai before being sent off to Chengde. My first few months in China were the most memorable months of my life. I felt like I was living in a movie. China amazed me and for the first time in a long time I truly felt comfortable in my own skin. It was not long after I arrived that I met Ming, my future husband. I actually kept a diary at that time and posted some of my entries on this blog several years ago. I thought I'd revisit them in a post today. They are pretty embarrassing--I was pretty clueless and maybe kind of a jerk--but I guess that comes with being in your early 20's. Ten years later, it's interesting to look back on my younger self, as well as those days when I first fell in love with both Ming and China.

with Liu Zhi, sweet girl who worked at the gym

Tuesday, May 24, 2005On Sunday night that guy at the gym (who always
attempts to talk to me in English) asked me to wait for him. Of course I
didn't because I had to go home and take a shower. Plus, what would we
do if we couldn't talk to each other?* But again tonight he pursued. It
is actually quite sweet because he gives English his best shot! He told
me that I am "a woman good" and that he likes me. Maybe I'll take him
out for a beer** with the other foreign teachers sometime. We'll see.

Wednesday, June 1, 2005The
last couple of days have been amazing. On Monday night my 'friend' was at
the gym and friendly as ever. When I finished working out I hung around
talking to him and the sweet girl who works there (not sure of her name,
but she can speak some English!). My friend went downstairs to shower
and I waited around for Nancy*** to finish. Coincidentally, we all ended up
leaving the gym at the same time. He, Tao Ming (I now know his name!),****
offered to give me a ride home on his bike. No, not bike as in moped or
motorcycle, but bike as in bicycle. Oh shit, I thought. . . I'm going to
hang off the back of this thing like all the Chinese girls do.But,
luckily, we just walked. He stopped and bought me a yogurt drink (very
popular in China). When we got to my apartment I ran upstairs and
grabbed my Lonely Planet phrasebook to help along our conversating. We
talked for over an hour. He can read English and is picking it up rather
quickly. He asked me about my family and told me about his family and
told me he was happy because he was with me. Aww! Oh, and on the walk
home we saw some foreigners--which I called "laowai" (which means
'foreigner' but maybe is a little derogatory) and he laughed like crazy.
He corrected me, evidently "waiguoren" is a more politically correct
term.

Anyways, as we were standing outside, about to say
good-bye, it began to rain. So we stood under the doorway of my
apartment and he gave me a kiss.

yes, it's me (Chengde, 2005)

***Nancy was the other foreign teacher at the school I worked at and we went to the gym together nightly.****Ha! No you don't, silly girl. Because his name is actually Zhao Ming!

More from Wednesday, June 1, 2005I finished yesterday morning's
lesson and guess who was standing outside the door? Tao Ming. He
managed to get in the school. I'm not sure how because usually the gate
keeper only lets teachers and students in the building. He took me to
lunch in a little restaurant by the old outdoor market. He asked me
what I wanted, "Chick?" [he asked]. I said chicken was fine. Rice and chicken,
after all, sounds safe enough, but in China you never know what you're
going to get.

It ended up being every part of the chicken, cut up
and cooked in a sauce. I tried picking through it to find the meaty
parts (I have a slight aversion to skin and fat, veins and feet.***** Such
things don't seem to bother the Chinese). He scolded me for using my
hands--a big no-no here. So he picked through the chicken with his
chopsticks, finding the meat for me. He told me he would not be at the
gym that night because he had to work (he is a train conductor******). I went
off to school for my afternoon lessons, disappointed I wouldn't be
seeing him again in the evening.

one of my classes at Chengde No. 1 High School, 2005

Shortly after I returned home
for the night, there was a knock at the door. . . he took off work to
spend the evening with me. He took me to KFC for more chicken. This
may sound like a pitiful first date, but KFC is fairly high class dining
in Chengde. Then we went to a movie; unfortunately it was in Chinese.
Ming went to talk to the manager and the movie was changed. It was
also Chinese, "God of Gamblers," but it had English subtitles. I found
it to be a typical Chinese film, somewhat crappy, but funny at parts and
violent at others. The theater was much different from an American
theater. We had our own little cubicle to sit in, very personal! After
the movie we walked home and he came up for a little bit.*******

Today
he stopped by after lunch and brought me a bag of apples. He walked
Nancy and I to the bus. I'm not used to all this attention! Now I am
in Beijing. Nancy went off to Qingdao tonight and I am leaving for
Guilin tomorrow.

*****I was such a rookie back then. I can now eat a chicken down to the bone.******He was not and is not a train conductor, but his job does have something to do with trains so I guess. . . *******Seems like I left out the juciest parts.