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Many people have goals (whether or not they call them goals), thing they want to achieve in their life for example relationships, work, family or business.

A huge proportion of those people will not achieve their goals for many reasons, maybe their situation changes, perhaps the goal is not right for them … or there are surmountable obstacles in the way that stop people in their tracks.

So why do people not achieve their goal if the obstacle can be overcome? Well sometimes the goal is not right for them and they know it – or the fear of achieving their goal itself can be scary.

For example

Losing a significant amount of weight and becoming more attractive to others can be scary for some people with low self esteem.

Moving on after a relationship – starting to date again, worrying that the next relationship will end for similar reasons, e.g. cheating, violence, debts etc

Working in a job that makes you unhappy – but worried to leave incase you don’t get another job – or fear of taking another job and it not working out.

Business – setting up on your own and finding that you can’t get clients or sell your products

There are many situations where fear can hold us back but what can we do about it? Firstly acknowledge the fear then take action – books, coaching groups and 1:1 coaching are all great methods that can help you overcome your fears and help you move forward in life and in business.

My tips is:

Acknowledge the Fear – what exactly are you scared of

Rate it 1-10 (10 being really scary)

How ‘real’ is the fear?

Explore ways you can overcome the fear

Take Action

Celebrate you Success at overcoming your Fear.

There are some great books on overing coming fear and self doubt.

Susan Jeffers book ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’ is our Personal Development Book Club title this month (If you are interested – contact us or book your place on Eventbrite)

We also run regular workshops to help you deal with ‘Fear and Self Doubt’ – see Eventbrite for the upcoming sessions.

Having set your goals is one thing but keeping focused and on track is quite another thing altogether. If you are not working with a coach or extremely motivated to achieve your goal on time it is easy to lets things slip.

Often when we set goals we are inspired and motivate, keen to achieve whatever it is we want. However it is easy to sit back and expect things to happen, before you know it often time has flown by and little progress has been made. It’s not that we don’t want the goal .. just that it is not as motivating when having set a goal then you have to actually take action to make it happen

Most goals require some form of physical engagement, whether it be to write a book, lose weight, run a marathon, change jobs. It takes a lot of thinking and effort to turn your dream goal into a reality and it is so easy to start making progress then become complacent or become side tracked only to find that time has slipped by and your not making the progress you had planned or have lapsed with the progress you have made.

How best to stay focused and on track:

Write your goals down, make sure they are SMART goals and have a deadline.

Next chunk down you goal into smaller, achievable steps – working on one at a time makes it less scary if it is a big goal.

Chart your progress – it’s motivating to see what you are achieving as you go.

Work with a Coach – or if that is not possible join a Coaching Group. Meet with other people who have goals they are working on will help you feel motivated as you help and support each other.

If you are interested in our Coaching Groups you will find our sessions listed on Eventbrite

We also run GOALS sessions for people who would like to check in with a coach on a regular basis to keep themselves motivated and on track . https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/got-goals-keeping-focused-and-on-track-tickets-15899401538

Professional People North East are joining up with the Personal Development Circle North East and other meetup groups in the North East for their monthly pub night at the Fox and Hounds in Newcastle this week. Typically we have 15-30 people pop along and have something to eat and drink. It’s very relaxed and informal – so if you are at a loose end why not come along and join us.

Professional People North East

Professional People North East is a social group for single professionals in the North East who first and foremost want to build friendships and socialise – meeting someone special for some would be a bonus.

Not all single 40+ people want to hit the dating sites or have a friend, colleague or family member play matchmaker for them. So this group is idea for anyone who would like to get out a bit more, build friendships, socialise with other single professionals.

Great thing is that it’s so cheap to join – £10 a year and if you go to our events then you buy your own food, drinks and tickets so you have control of what you spend and can keep within your financial budget.

What do we do? We are an events website that run pub meals, coffee, cinema, friendship group, restaurants in the North East. Members log in – find out what events are on and if they want to go they click the RSVP button to let other members know they will be going – simple!!!

Where do we meet? Newcastle and Gateshead mainly however any member can add a social event to our calendar so if you are in Sunderland, Durham, Tyne Valley, Northumberland that’s fine – just pop up an event on our website (its free to add you own things) at your local pub, coffee shop or maybe a walk somewhere nice, dancing lessons, or whatever interests you. See who comes along and maybe you will be a new friend or 10.

The Personal Development Circle North East if for people who are interested in their personal self development, they have regular sessions most weeks. Workshops are called ‘Cafes’ as they are relaxed, informal and there’s plenty coffee/tea to be had. Sessions include life coaching, building positive relationships, improving confidence and self esteem, engaging the Law of Attraction, Spirituality, NLP, stress, stress management, time management and more. At only £15 a year for membership which gives access to so many workshops and discussion groups (many discounted to PDCNE members) this website is well worth checking out.

Both groups are sponsored by Newcastle Performance Coaching Limited http://www.geordie-coach.com a coaching, training and consultancy business that works with Professional People in the North East to bridge the gap to their success.

Professional People are going to see Sarah Millican in Newcastle in May 2014.

We have 5 tickets available for members to attend this event … check our website for details —> http://www.meetup.com/Professional-People-North-East/events/154485272

IMG_4938_sarah_millican_7 (Photo credit: the_eggwhite)

Why only 5? Well that is because we do small number events to members can get to know each other and build friendships.

Members only event (membership per year £10) so if you want to come along to this great show with us … check out our website today http://www.meetup.com/Professional-People-North-East

If you already have your ticket for this show … that’s fine you can still join us for pre-food meal/drinks.

Plan is to meet first for something to eat then head along to see the show. Hopefully there’ll be lots of laughs to be had.

If you aren’t sure who Sarah Millican is … here is a link to her website and tour dates … http://www.sarahmillican.co.uk Since Sarah won the 2008 if.comedy Best Newcomer Award for her debut solo show Sarah Millican’s Not Nice at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe, she quickly established herself as a household name, TV personality and her tours often sell out.

Are you single and over 40? Looking to vary your social life a bit and make new friends?

Join Professional People North East today.

Our next social is this evening in Newcastle city centre. A drink then onto a meal.

Limited numbers so members can get to know each other.

See website for details

We’re Pleased to Meet You – Newcastle City Centre

Thursday, May 1, 2014, 7:30 PM

Location details are available to members only.

6 Professional People Attending

Aim is to meet from 7:30 pm to eat at 8:00 pm.Restricted numbers so we get to know each other.Please RSVP early so I know how many I am booking for.No guests – this is a members only evening :-DDid you know you can ‘share’ our events on Twitter and Facebook? the buttons are above the event on the full website.Please keep your RSVP up to dat…

Professional People North East are out tonight for a meal on Newcastle Quayside, as with many of our events there are only 8 places available. Why? So members get to know each other and build friendships.

Professional People North East is a great group to join if you are single, professional and over 40. We’re not a dating group! It’s about building friendships and making connections with other mature single people in a relaxed setting.

If you are interested in meeting people, building friendships, doing something a little different why not check out our website and join us sometime?

We are a members led group – dining, meals, coffee, breaks, comedy … members are able to add their own events too 😀

Tonights event can be found here: http://www.meetup.com/Professional-People-North-East/events/172621662