My 5’oclock shadow was soaked in tears.

I cry more often than is ‘normal’ for a guy. This week I bawled while reading a Harry Dresden noir-mystery, and teared-up staring at the heart-racingly beautiful ex-pornstar, Bree Olson.

Not. Normal.

Some people would say it makes me ‘girly’, but to me, decisively owning this side of me is pretty badass. I love myself & enjoy it this way. Being open to all life’s emotions makes me a more passionate, sensitive, creative dude, all things I love about myself.

Many of world’s great legends have all wept.

They’ve shown emotion. They’re passionate, and so am I. 🙂

But I wasn’t always like this.

Some people numb themselves to hide from feelings… I know I did.

For decades I believed ‘guys don’t cry’ and ‘logic beats emotion.’ I became cold, arrogant, and repressed.

But that just wasn’t me. I love humanity. I care about people. I’m usually warm & welcoming but can switch to cold when I feel disharmony. That’s all me, but all that stuff went away, when I shoved certain traits of myself in a box ’cause they were ‘too feminine.’

Now I consider myself an authoritative alpha-dude, but one who listens to and expresses his feelings, back then I was a guy who was obstinate, conceited, and dogmatic.

And I attracted girls who meek, wishy-washy, and indecisive.

I wonder… might they have put traits like confidence and decisiveness in a box called ‘too masculine?’

The more I thought about it, the more the boxes were obvious to me. In every culture there’s traits that, on some level, are understood as more feminine or more masculine.

This stuff’s our primal, emotional DNA.

And we have access to all of it, no one says you have to be 100% one side or the other. People are complex, capable of being anything at any moment, including both masculine and feminine.

And it’s not about being a man or woman or trans or neutral. It’s not about lesbian, gay, or cis.

It’s about being whatever’s inspired.

From Jesus to Jay-Z, Cleopatra to Beyonce…

…I studied.

I read Deida and Osho, examined legends like Donald Trump and Eminem. I contrasted Marilyn Monroe and Ellen.

Looking at these accomplished people who embraced their traits, it was easy to that I could choose any quality I wanted, be whatever I wanted, any time I wanted.

I learned some qualities are ‘better’ at certain times & situations for me.

I learned that though I lean noticeably towards ‘masculine’ qualities, I’m sensitive with a huge heart, and I like it that way. I also love variety and the ability to choose any trait I feel life calls for.

It’s just my preference.

If you’re like me, then no one taught you anything about this stuff. Maybe your life could be better, especially in relationships (business or personal). Maybe I can pass on my experience and what I learned.

I wanna help, so here goes.

I’m sharing my top 24 traits they don’t really teach you about ‘em in school. You could be missing out on some that’ll create amazing results in your life, just ’cause you’ve never tried ‘em out.

Tune in to your personal qualities.

This very moment, can you feel how developed your ‘depth’ is? Or how ‘radiant’ you are?

Some people have never even seen those words.

Others get it, though. They’re aware of what qualities they currently bring to the table.

It’s possible to feel if we’ve developed certain traits well or not-so-well.

This stuff matters, and for me, it was scary to admit it.

But so worth it.

Give yourself permission.

Let yourself try the traits below & feel yourself #ryze.

READY TO EXPLORE 12 MASCULINE &amp; 12 FEMININE TRAITS?

Scroll for feminine traits, starting with ‘Surrender’, or click to jump right to masculine traits.

“The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy.” – Meryl Streep

RADIANCE (FEMININE)

Related To Radiance:

Glow, Light, Shine, Brilliance.

Radiance Story-Bite:

She made whatever she wore enticing. The room lit up when she walked in. She smiled, and the world sighed in bliss. She laughed, and the world laughed with her. She wept, and the world would instantly comforted her.

Every emotion Vanessa had was radiant.

“Be still and let life happen – that stillness becomes a radiance.” – Morgan Freeman

“You should allow life to unfold as naturally as possible. Just go with the flow.” – Shania Twain

SENSUALITY (FEMININE)

Sensuality-Related:

Physicality, Eroticism, Pleasure, Enjoyment, Indulgence.

Sensuality Story-Bite:

Everything about her appealed to the senses.

Her golden hair glinted and a light seemed to come from her when she smiled. Wisps of cloudcloth accented her flawless curves. I inhaled sharply when she touched me. I could taste her deep rich wine. She was haunting like a siren and her voice…

“Valor is stability, not of legs and arms, but of courage and the soul.” – Michel de Montaigne

PASSION (MASCULINE)

Passion-Related:

Fervor, Intensity, Zeal, Joy, Energy.

Passion Story-Bite:

Dante loved being a teacher. He loved it with a white-hot, firey, never-ending supernova of passion. He immersed himself in anything that would improve his students. He followed his passion everywhere, learning art, design, music, writing, storytelling, technology, culture and more, with the full understanding he’d teach the knowledge to others.

“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me.” – Walt Disney

WHEW! THERE YA HAVE IT!

12 feminine and masculine traits that matter.

And you matter. A lot.

Who you are as a person, inside, creates & elevates your life outside. If you want a more fulfilling life, you need to be more fulfilling qualities.

I put this page together to help you get free & clear to create your own personal blend of qualities that suit you. And to even let them change as life goes.

And it’s not even all of ’em. I haven’t touched on clarity, intuition, etc., lol.

And hey, this stuff can also help you get the relationships you want, ’cause if there’s a trait you’re interested in attracting you need to a) appreciate it b) acknowledge that you have it somewhere inside you already, and c) be a match to it.

Like attracts like.

So can you get real and raw with yourself?

You gotta look at yourself and see what suits you.

For many it’s scary to say “I enjoy surrender. I’d love to surrender more often (in safe environments).”

For others it’s scary to say “I enjoy freedom. I do what I want when I want, consequences or not.”

Like many scary things, if you can psyche yourself up by imagining the new, improved, better version of you, and start taking the steps — the rewards are great.

“Of course once you are enlightened, you have gone beyond the discrimination of sexes. Beyond enlightenment, you are simply human beings. But before that…. Be proud of your qualities. Increase them, refine them because they are the path towards godliness. Man is not in a better position than woman as far as religious experience is concerned.” – Osho

#TogetherWeRyze

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