Ask Dr. Marcia: Bride-to-be, fiance both acting like spoiled kids

I've been married four years. My only sibling - my younger brother - is single but has been living with his girlfriend for two years. It's not often we all get together as a family since my brother and I travel a lot for our jobs, he lives in Manhattan, I am here in Morris County, our parents are in Middletown, my in-laws are in Scranton, Pa., and the girlfriend's parents are in Westchester.

Easter this year was my mom's thing, so we were all there for the day. I found out just over a month ago that I was pregnant, but my husband and I decided we did not want to tell anyone until just after the end of my first trimester. Since we were all going to be together for Easter, I thought it would be a wonderful surprise to tell everyone then.

Shortly after we all arrived at my parents, my brother announced that they got engaged last week and were getting married in October. We all screamed with delight, hugged, she was showing off the ring, and we were asking them with a million questions about their wedding plans. I was truly thrilled for them, especially my brother. He's a great guy, and we all like her a lot, too, and they seem great together.

We were all so excited and happy about their news so I waited until just before we would be leaving to tell everyone I was almost four months pregnant. My mom, of course, was thrilled to tears, and everyone was happy, I thought. My "sister-in-law" gave a half-hearted hug, we all said our good nights and left.

Right when we got home, my brother called me and said "Sara" was hysterical and wanted to know why I had to ruin their announcement by making mine the same day. I explained why we waited and that we wanted to share when we were all together. He said it was selfish of me, and I owed them both an apology. I said I was sorry Sara was so upset, and it was never my intention to "steal the show" as she said I did, and again said how thrilled we all were for them. I heard her in the back screaming that the wedding was ruined, too, because everyone will be asking us about the baby.

My brother said, "I hope you're happy," and hung up. I am shocked at this reaction and don't know what to do.

Shocked

Dear Shocked,

You did nothing wrong. She acted like a spoiled child, and your brother was not much better. Leave this pre-bridezilla alone, and hopefully, they'll both calm down.

They say every family has one - and she's going to be it for yours. In my book, they both owe you an apology now, but don't hold your breathe.

Your brother is going to have his hands full with her!

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Ask Dr. Marcia: Bride-to-be, fiance both acting like spoiled kids

I?ve been married four years. My only sibling ? my younger brother ? is single but has been living with his girlfriend for two years. It?s not often we all get together as a family since my brother

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