How Do Men Feel About Women Earning More

So, How Do Men Really Feel About Our Salaries?

In a recent poll of 66,000 men in the UK, 54 percent of them said their perfect woman wouldn't earn more than £25,000 a year. She would also have blue eyes and be of medium build, be good in bed, and have an optimistic outlook about life. The poll was run by UKDating.com, and their 66,000 poll takers must have been a completely different pool than the men surveyed by Elle and MSNBC. That survey found that only 12 percent of the men resented women who earned more. So, what are we to conclude from these mixed results? No matter how men feel about how much women earn, the average gender-pay gap worldwide is 16 percent, and here in the US women earn 22.4 percent less than men.

When I was in college. My ex was an aspiring business school student who worked part-time and he was helping me (girlfriend-who-did-not-have-a-clue-about-payslips) with my tax returns. As soon as he saw my wad of forms he said "wow, you made double of what I made last year"... Fast forward a few years. A second ex broke up with me and told me "you know, you're amazing, you just get things done and charge forward in life.. and here I am almost thirty with nothing to show for it"... I thought about it and realized I cannot give up my career for the sake of inferior men, period.

I make more money than my husband and he isn't the slightest bit concerned. I couldn't deal with a man that had issue with me making more than him. I'm smart and very well-educated...I deserve to do as well as I can for myself!

well neither of these polls were random samples. So the 66,000 men were probably just guys that would come to the dating site - which I'm sure is not representative of the UK men in general.I hate how these nonrandom polls can use huge numbers and everyone takes them as such a great study because it was more than 50,000 people surveyed. Grr.

well neither of these polls were random samples. So the 66,000 men were probably just guys that would come to the dating site - which I'm sure is not representative of the UK men in general.
I hate how these nonrandom polls can use huge numbers and everyone takes them as such a great study because it was more than 50,000 people surveyed. Grr.

I have no idea how accurate my views are, but from what I've gathered from living in the UK is that men here still want that 1950s idealized wife -- nice, pretty, good in bed, cooks dinner, brings him his slippers, etc. Reality is obviously very different, as many women in the UK and around the world have to work in order to make ends meet. But I guess the myth still holds on strong.

I hate that the concept of the gold digger can exist alongside men who hold this pathetic view. I remember a male colleague talking about how he'd kill his girlfriend if she quit her job and stopped pulling her weight in paying their new mortgage. The very same day he brought along two homemade cakes that he'd asked her to bake for our morning tea. Does anyone understand why this type of thing bothers me? It seems there are still a lot of guys out there who expect (or at least place a high premium) on women who traditionally make desirable partners (good in bed, cooks often and well, feminine physique) like their 1950s counterparts. However, unlike their 1950s counterparts, men are less and less willing to financially support women. We're expected to stand on our own two feet and not be "gold diggers", but we're not allowed to earn more money than you, lest you feel emasculated?? They want to have their cake and eat it too, just like my colleague. How's this for a thought - men still earn more than women, so I suspect those men who don't resent women earning more in fact DO earn more than most women, and so there's much less reason for it to bother them. Of course, I also like to think there are plenty of men out there who are simply secure and rational enough for this issue not to bother them.

I hate that the concept of the gold digger can exist alongside men who hold this pathetic view. I remember a male colleague talking about how he'd kill his girlfriend if she quit her job and stopped pulling her weight in paying their new mortgage. The very same day he brought along two homemade cakes that he'd asked her to bake for our morning tea. Does anyone understand why this type of thing bothers me?
It seems there are still a lot of guys out there who expect (or at least place a high premium) on women who traditionally make desirable partners (good in bed, cooks often and well, feminine physique) like their 1950s counterparts. However, unlike their 1950s counterparts, men are less and less willing to financially support women. We're expected to stand on our own two feet and not be "gold diggers", but we're not allowed to earn more money than you, lest you feel emasculated?? They want to have their cake and eat it too, just like my colleague.
How's this for a thought - men still earn more than women, so I suspect those men who don't resent women earning more in fact DO earn more than most women, and so there's much less reason for it to bother them. Of course, I also like to think there are plenty of men out there who are simply secure and rational enough for this issue not to bother them.