Author: Wings to Fly

Siji Elza George is passionate about expressing her views about everything from books to politics. She loves to travel to new places and meet new people.
"It's alright to do things the way you want. There is no map to life, no blueprints to survival, you can create your world day by day if you have a clear vision and an unwillingness to give up" - John O'Collaghan

How do you want to look on your wedding day? Sparkly? Elegant? Dream-like?

Me? I just want to look good for one pair of eyes(i.e. my husband ofcourse ;)). Rest of it doesn’t matter so much or does it?

Now… I believe, wedding should be a celebration of the fact that you are ready to spend your whole life with someone. Rather than being on the criticism platform for the hundreds and thousands you invited.. How ironic isn’t it?

This happy day for the couple itself becomes one of the most stressful days in their life. No amount of preparation can prepare you for the criticism that you might have to swallow at the end of the day.

Don’t get me wrong.. Ofcourse! I want my day to be perfect but not at the cost of all the happy emotions, in order to make the ‘perfect’ wedding. Because in the end, you just want to have your ‘D-day’ remembered by you as a day when you felt loved… the most.

Please feel free to leave your comments below on this post.. Will be happy to hear from you..

Saw this today on social media and just wanted to share this with as many people as possible.

Transcript:

“There are no mistakes. There really aren’t any, because you have a supreme destiny.

When you’re in your little mind, in your little personality mind or you’re not centered, you really don’t know who you are that you come from something greater and bigger. We really all are the same.

You don’t know that, you get all flustered, you get stressed all the time, wanting something to be what it isn’t.

There’s a supreme moment of destiny calling on your life. Your job is to feel that, to hear that, to know that and sometimes, when you’re not listening, you get taken off track.

You get in the wrong marriage, the wrong relationship, you take the wrong job. Yeah, but it’s all leading to the same path. There are no wrong paths. There are none.

There’s no such thing as failure really, because failure is just that thing, trying to move you in another direction.

So you get as much from your losses, as you do from your victories because the losses are there to wake you up. The losses are to say, fool, that is why you go to school, so that CBS can call you!

So when you understand that you don’t allow yourself to be completely thrown by a grade or by a circumstance because your life is bigger than any one experience and if I had,

I always ask people on Super Soul Sunday to tell me, what would you say to your younger self?

Every person says in one form or another, I would have said, relax.

Relax. It’s going to be okay.

It really is going to be okay because even if you’re on a detour right now and that’s how you know, when you’re not at ease with yourself, when you’re feeling like oh, oh, — that is the cue that you need to be moving in another direction.

Don’t let yourself get all thrown off, continue to be thrown off course. When you’re feeling off course, that’s the key.

How do I turn around?

So when everybody was talking about, when I started this network, if I had only known, good lord, how difficult it would be. The way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself what is the next right move?

Not think about oh, I got all of this to, what is the next right move and then from that space make the next right move and the next right move and not to be overwhelmed by it because you know your life is bigger than that one moment.

You know you’re not defined by what somebody says is a failure for you because failure is just there to point you in a different direction.”

We have so many options but still we are confused of what we want among those options.

When we were kids, we knew what we wanted, when we had set our eyes on ‘it’. It was love at first sight. We just knew….we got to have that or we will just die.

There was that time and here is now.

We are so much mature than what we were few years back, and ironically, we don’t know what we want now in our life. Everything confuses us. EVERYTHING! There is a choice paradox -we are given so many choices and because we have grown up, we need to act like grown up. We need to look at the pros and cons of all the stuff that we think we want. The love-at-first-sight phenomenon doesn’t have its intended effect on us. We have become too guarded.

What should one do then? We can’t go back now… as we are all grown up.

We know that we are indecisive about our choices most of the time and “it depends” forms the answer to most questions that life throws at us. So let’s do one thing, at least we know what we don’t want in our life. Our years growing up has at least taught us this that somethings shouldn’t be in our life no-matter-what. Everyone knows that feeling right? So let’s just do exactly that and see how this choice paradox in our life gets little better, if not, solved completely.

I tried hard to not to pick up a goal and lived like that. But I realized that without a goal, am pretty much a couch potato (Useless).

So like the comments on my post about -Short and long term goals, I’m going to do the exact opposite of what I started out to do. I am going to create some short and long term for myself:

Going to learn a new language: I always wanted to learn a new language. So I will just randomly pick on one language and try to learn at least the basic syllables so that I am able to, at least, converse at a basic level. Are you getting a Geek alert from me ?? Sorry am not one!

Learn to be with a pet: I know you’ll be thinking what a weird person. I must tell you I am literally afraid of all kinds of pets. So I am going to be with a pet and be very friendly with it. Fingered crossed !Will complete this without freaking out.

Learn a musical Instrument: This will go into my long term plan, as I know from my experience that learning a musical instrument takes practice -lots of it. So I have a keyboard at home, I’ll get it from my hometown when I go for Christmas. So sadly, it will shift to next year.

Go for morning walk: I have always been very health conscious. Evening jogs are my favorite. But recently, because of my work that is not possible and I am not a morning person. So somewhere drawing a line between my laziness and my work life, I’ll get up at 7:00am for morning walk from Monday (I can sleep till then, a girl needs to have her reward right?)

These are the goals that I can think of right now. It will evolve, I know with time, as I grow, as I go to new places and as I get to know more people .

Let me know about your goals and your struggles surrounding it. Will love to hear from you guys.

Today as I was going for lunch, I was thinking about the project I was working and planning how to do the best in it. Thats when i realised that i was always planning about future, I mean, every sec of the day!

I am person who has been always focused in life. There has never been a time when i dint have a goal in my mind. In childhood, it was to become a doctor(dint happen! ouch!)but well i has a goal. Smaller ones we tend to forget as we achieve it like winning that sprint or getting spared from punishment.

From graduation till today, I had always some or the other goal in my mind, to keep me working towards it and to avoid being lazy basically.

But i wonder what would have happened if I had let go. What would happen if I dint think about tomorrow and just live(That’s what all the quotes now-a-days are about. right?) what if I did just that–I wonder will I succeed /fail /get lost?

I stay alone so that I can come back to a peaceful home after a tiring day and after that, all I want to do is sip a cup of coffee and curl to watch my favorite movie or read a book I have been dying to read all day.