struggling, 1st night

So, my lo gp just over 24 hours old and by day was settled, even went in moses basket for a bit. By night she isn't settling, having a bit of boob but more suckling than feeding, then dropping off and as soon as I think about getting comfy she cries. Any advice?

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It's not really advice but i just wanted to assuure you that it is perfectly normal and you've both been through so much you deserve the cuddles. However, sleep is a must so can you try co-sleeping safely? Or either you or oh stay awake while giving lo cuddles in shifts.

You're doing really well to be feeding and it's frustrating when they seem to play around but she is putting her order in and unfortunately you need to go with the flow. It will get easier I promise!!

Hello lovely! My first night home my princess was the same. If I tell you what we've done it might help?

She was all settled between 4-10pm and then 10pm till
The AM the next day constantly on the boob so I couldn't sleep! Fighting so hard not to fall asleep! If I took her off and lay her in her bed she would want to just latch on again and cry! So basically had her on me all night long. Oh managed to watch me for a short time while she suckled so I could fall asleep but we were both shattered. But get your OH (other half) to watch you / stay awake next to you while YOU sleep. Then he can move her if needs be or wake you up.

(We are now a few nights in she was born Monday)

She is constantly just suckling from around 1-6am so at that time I'm awake with TV that's my day time. And then I get my OH (other half) if I'm feeling like I'm going to fall asleep or I Really want to sleep.
when she is at the point of coming off and sleeping this is in the day.. I give her to my OH (other half) and I go to bed and she will sleep on him. I got a full 3 hours non stop this morning (Thursday) and then again a few hours later in the day. She just won't settle on her own.

I asked the MW (midwife) who said this is all soooooo normal! Baby is still so new! So needs the contact and she is always 'feeding' as she is bringing through the milk! When the milk comes through baby will be more content so should have longer sleep sessions or just more of the shorter ones either would be amazing. And I can start to be strict on putting her down to sleep too.

Sooooo in short! Use one another in helping you sleep! Even if it means she is on your boob and he is watching but he has to be alert. And once when she is happy and come off the boob pass her to daddy To sleep and you run for the bed ha ha.

My little girl had a really tiring night number 2 and I was so sore from c section. Midwife said to try stripping her off and blowing on her to keep her feeding as she was doing exactly the same as yours, having 5/6 gulps then dropping off and I could feel my head lolling I was so so so so tired! But that seemed to work, she fed for about 20 mins with lots of encouragement then fell asleep. I only managed 1 HR sleep that night in total but it paid off as my milk came through and she's now feeding well. Keep going, it's really tough as she is still learning but it's worth it in the end. Also, honestly in the day you must sleep whilst she is, treat it like a 24gr clock where it doesn't matter how long/ how many hrs at once you get, just try and top up your own sleep whenever possible! In fact, curtains are being shut now for me to catch 30 mins xx

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