Need to vent, bfn 14dpiui

maryb3 wrote:

So today I'm 14dpiui today and got yet another BFN with hpt. My clinic does not do blood tests until you have a pos hpt. I had an IUI after first round of follistim and ovidrel. Previous 2iuis were clomid. I only had one follicle but it looked really good. I'm just devastated, I felt really good about this one. We are completely unexplained infertility and it just seems so wrong to get negative after negative. I just keep thinking "why does this still not work when there is nothing wrong with either of us!" We have to take next month off due to traveling and money and I don't know what I'm going to do with myself waiting so long. I'm just really down and needed to vent. I have to stay on progesterone for 3 more days, which just seems cruel right now. (Oh and idiot me peed on an opk this am first,saw 2 lines and got really excited. I really thought this was it! then i Realized my stupidity and took 2 hpts to be sure, both neg. injury to insult). Ok, thanks for listening. I needed to get this out.

I think it's really strange that some dr's don't give beta tests. When I did my clomid iui (which was perfect as well and I was convinced it was going to work) my dr said even if I started bleeding to do a blood test on day 14. I've heard of women getting negative hpt's but positive beta so you never know. If you are out this month though just know that it's ok to be angry and disappointed but it will work out eventually!! Good luck hon

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SleevedMommy

Why do you have to keep taking the progesterone? I stopped mine at 12dpiui when my test was negative and then it took 3 days to get my period. It's discouraging especially when there is nothing wrong. We have secondary infertility and our first iui didn't work. Hang in there!

I'm in your shoes... Perfect iui and unexplained if, and thought for sure all the little cramps and funny feelings I've been getting were from me being pregnant, but nothing. If perfect cycles don't work, then what? But. My re always does a blood test before he takes me off the progesterone.

I feel your pain. Everything looked perfect, but it didn't work. It really is like a cruel joke. We just have to push through this and know that one day it is going to be worth it when we are holding our little babies ((hugs))

Same shoes here hun. I'm finally keeping my chin up again after my BFN 14dpiui and AF started 15dpiui on 2/25. We went into our IUI with three perfect follicles and hubby's count was 96 mill post wash. Didnt seem like things could be any more perfect. My salt to the wounds was when I went in for my next baseline US and they found a large cyst on my left ovary which I've never had before. We have to sit this cycle out :-( I've decided it's time to get back to my regular exercise/workout routine and see where that takes us. We have completely unexplained infertility as well, so can't help but think maybe some of the good hormones released while working out might do something in our favor. Keep your chin up, we WILL get our BFPs one of these cycles!

Same boat here! I'm only 12 dpiui but it's still a bfn!! I've done this so many times I know the bfn is going to stay a bfn!! We have been ttc for 3.5 years! Several rounds of fertility treatments, thousands of dollars later and Notta!!! No answers, no bfp!! I have went as far as seeing a chiropractor, reflexologist, herbalist and massage therapist!! This round I had 5 follies, 3 which were great!! Not sure where to turn!! Wish we all lived closer so we could have a day out to just effing vent and drink, lol!! I know that's not the answer but I'm drowning in hurt and trying to hide it is growing harder and harder!! Keep you all in my prayers!

MN, I think not working out sucks! Between severe cramping before and during af, then feeling horrible on femara, then being afraid to move after iui, I haven't worked out in forever, have gained weight, and am not too happy with myself... I did everything I should and no bfp, so I'm back to working out. I do think that the endorphins make a difference in everything!

I'm 14 dpiui too and just got another bfn... My dr makes us take a blood test at 16 dpiui and you have to stay on progesterone until then. I was so sure, SO sure this would work. I had a septum removed in October after it was discovered in my pre-ivf work up. So my re told me I should try iui again since I've gotten pregnant before, just ended in mc which she thinks was a result of the septum. I had cramping this time from days 7-9 after iui so I was think it was implantation but obviously that was not the case. It's been over 7 years for me. I'm almost out. It's devastating.

I was told to keep taking progesterone until 17dpiui and then take a test. I obviously couldn't wait that long and tested at 14dpiui.

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maryb3

@ trying2bamom2012, kimmie1124, and mnmomof2 I think it's just crazy how we all had such good looking cycles and none turned out. It is discouraging, but at least we can say we did all we could for right now. Although money is running low, love for that future child only grows. It's nice to have you guys in the sane boat to talk to about all this. I'm all about the starting to work out again too! I had been doing great until I had to stop after my iui. So it will hurt, but it makes me feel so much better emotionally. It's time to get back to ourselves!!

Infertility happy hour!! Love it! If only we weren't scattered across America or the world! :-) I did go out with the hubs last night & had two margaritas! Fresh squeezed lime juice and tequila, yum! I'm sure he loved being my sober cab while I Chatty Cathy'd him all the way home later! :-)

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