Fathers advice for parents is to read this article. Vaccinations what do we do??

Seven years ago, Staten Island, N.Y. woman Dina Check became alarmed when her young daughter began exhibiting rashes, infections and food sensitivities. Such conditions are not uncommon in infants.

But Ms. Check settled on an unconventional diagnosis: Her child, she decided, had been “defiled” by the standard state-mandated vaccines against mumps, measles, polio, diphtheria and rubella.

According to a local newspaper account, Ms. Check believes that “the practicing Roman Catholic believes the body is a temple, and contends injecting vaccines into it ‘would defile God’s creation of the immune system [and] demonstrate a lack of faith in God, which would anger God and therefore be sacrilegious.’ ” Last year, she sued the city’s education department, which had barred her child from attending public school until she received her vaccinations.

The example of Ms. Check is worth studying, because her case exemplifies the way that many people come to embrace junk-science-inspired fears about life-saving vaccines: They imagine a link between the vaccination process and some childhood malady, and then let their emotions, rather than peer-reviewed medical science, guide their response.

Ms. Check’s claims to have had a medical revelation around this time in her life. “Disease is pestilence,” she claims, “and pestilence is from the devil. The devil is germs and disease, which is cancer and any of those things that can take you down. But if you trust in the Lord, these things cannot come near you.”

Not all anti-vaccine activists derive their phobias from religion. In some cases, they are swept up by Internet-peddled “alternative medicine” cults, which promote the idea that all-natural diets and holistic medicine can cure any ailment. Or they are conspiracy theorists who believe the medical profession is seeking to harm (or even exterminate) ordinary citizens. On the right side of the political spectrum, anti-vaccine activists tend to believe that any state-mandated program must have some sinister motive.

In other cases, they are simply gullible people who get their health information from Jenny McCarthy and other ignorant celebrities. Or they are followers of disgraced medical frauds, such as Andrew Wakefield, who convinced millions of parents that there was a link between vaccines and autism. (There isn’t.) In all cases, these people torture the available data to suggest that vaccines are harmful — or even that the underlying deadly ailments these vaccines prevent are somehow harmless (or, more ludicrously, beneficial).

With their propaganda and impressive-seeming array of selectively-picked data points, these anti-vaccine activists can convince some parents to endanger the lives of their children by failing to vaccinate them.

Every Canadian pediatrician has stories about their dealings with parents such as this. It is absolutely heartbreaking that some children will pay with their lives because brainwashed parents are willingly turning their back on the most important public-health measure in recent human history.

To this day, the WHO estimates, more than 2-million deaths are prevented through immunization measures. And even those who are not vaccinated benefit from vaccinations, thanks to the abundantly well-established scientific principle ofherd immunity.

In this country, the group Immunize Canada reports, “immunization has saved more lives than any other health intervention, and has contributed to the reduction in morbidity and mortality in adults, children and other vulnerable populations.”

As for Ms. Check, she and her fellow New York State vaccine opponents have just been dealt a major blow in a federal court: Last week, a judge upheld a New York City policy that prevents unimmunized students from attending a school when a fellow student is exhibiting symptoms of a vaccine-preventable disease.

Ms. Check had sought a religious exemption from the law. But the judge correctly declared that a parent’s ecstatic religious visions should not provide the basis for broad exceptions to life-and-death public-health measures. Conspiracy theorists, eccentric medical skeptics, and religious extremists may believe whatever they choose.
But when it comes to policy-making, the state must rely on mainstream, peer-reviewed medical science.

For those Canadian readers who still entertain doubts about the safety of vaccines — including the combined measles, mumps and rubella vaccine that is most commonly targeted by fringe skeptics — I would urge them to consult the information at www.immunize.ca. Or simply consult your pediatrician. It’s a conversation that could save someone’s life.
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While many girls are taught to avoid confrontation, it is equally important they understand how to deal with their anger and assertiveness. It should really always be a father’s job to contend with his daughters conflicting situations. It is important that a girl can show her aggressiveness to her father. If she can not do this with him, she will not do it in the future with bosses, boyfriends, and other male figures. A father’s advice to his daughter can provide a foundation for the future, which will help her control her assertiveness in a way that is acceptable.

2. Healthy relationships.

One of the best things a father can do for his daughter is being a loving husband. It is so important that young girls see what a loving relationship is like, so they will strive to marry a man who is respectful and loving. A father’s advice to his daughter should be to find a man who has ambition and wants to take care of her. A father should direct his daughter to always be herself, that way a man loves who she is and not what she is trying to be.

3. Success.

A father should always encourage his daughter to figure out what she wants out of life, and to go after it. A daughter will be receptive when she has the love of her father cheering her on. A father should encourage his daughter to reach for her dreams. This will result in daughters who are ambitious and highly successful. This type of encouragement will build women who are confident in the person they are. This is certainly a quality that so many women lack, and that is why a father’s advice to his daughter can be life changing.

4. Self-sufficient.

Every woman needs to learn to be self-sufficient. She should depend on a man for nothing. She has to learn to work for the things that she wants in life, and fathers often want to give their little girls everything. However, this will only hinder them, and make them highly dependent on a man. A father should teach his daughter to work for the things she wants in life, and never look to a man for the things she needs. This too will help mold a woman who is confident that she can provide for all her needs.

5. Car maintenance.

A father needs to help his daughter realize that she can do anything a man can do, that includes maintaining her car. A father should teach his daughter how to change and check all the fluid in her car, as well as how to change a tire. These are skills that will be very valuable to a woman throughout her life.

A father’s love for his daughter is unconditional. There is so much that father

can provide. This advice will help mold his daughter into a woman who is confident, successful, ambitious, self-sufficient, and loving. These are all qualities that are important for a woman to have.

You can’t sustain a relationship that is based on deception. If lies, infidelity, or other deal-breaking behaviors are threatening your marriage or partnership, Dr. Phil has advice.

Remember that you teach people how to treat you. Your partner is doing what he/she is doing because they can. If you’re allowing the behavior to continue by making excuses for your partner and blaming yourself, stop. If you want to be treated with dignity and respect, stand up and require it.

You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. First, acknowledge that there is something wrong. If what is happening isn’t normal, admit it. You need to set some new standards of acceptable behavior and your partner needs to know what those standards are.

If you truly want the relationship to work, be real with yourself and your partner. Be completely honest and truthful with your partner about your wants and needs. People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. You should be an open book to your mate.

Be as forthcoming as you can be with your partner before entering into a commitment. If there are things your partner has the right to know before marriage so that he/she can make an honest and informed decision, tell him/her.

If you are the person who has damaged the relationship, make sure that you hear your partner. He/she needs to know that you have listened and understand the full gravity of your actions and how they have affected him/her. Acknowledge the damage your behavior has caused to your partner’s self-esteem, mental state and emotions.

Understand that any time you turn away from your partner to fill your needs instead of toward him/her, it’s a betrayal. It’s not just what you do — it’s what you don’t do. You can violate someone by withholding affection.

Look at your situation and ask yourself if you are willing to settle for this. If you knew that things would never change, would you stay? Never invest more in a relationship than you can afford to lose.

If you have children or are considering getting pregnant, understand that you have a responsibility for the effect that your choices have on them. Do not put your children in the middle of the fray and make them pick up the tab for your irresponsible behavior.

Don’t argue in front of your children. When you do, you change who they are forever. Kids tend to think that problems in the home are their fault.

If you need professional help, get it — not for one week or two — but until you have a clear direction.

Sometimes when you’re in an intense or passionate relationship, it’s hard to recognize when lines are being crossed. You can get comfortable with dysfunction and not realize when you are

being abused, especially if your partner hasn’t yet become physically violent. The National Domestic Violence Hotline has a quiz for indentifying abuse.

Go through the following checklist to find out whether your relationship is unhealthy and could be dangerous:

IF YOU or someone you know are in a abusive relationship, these are things to look for.It could save a person’s life.

SPEAK UP IF YOU SEE THESE SIGNS IN OTHER PEOPLES RELATIONSHIPS.

Does your partner:

Isolate you from friends, family members or supporters?

Embarrass you with put-downs?

Look or act in ways that scare you?

Control what you do or who you see or talk to?

Manipulate you with control of money?

Dominate all decisions?

Criticize your parenting and threaten to take away or hurt your children?

Prevent you from working or attending school?

Deny or downplay abuse or try to blame you for “provoking” it?

Destroy your property?

Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?

Shove you, slap you, choke you or hit you?

Force you to drop charges?

Threaten to commit suicide?

Threaten to kill you?

If you answered yes to even one of these warning signs, you may be in an abusive relationship. For support and more information please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY (800) 787-3224.

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Starting right now, you can begin to make choices and take day-to-day actions that will create nothing short of a phenomenal family. You can choose to have one if you just resolve to do it and know where to put your focus. That’s where the Five Factors for a Phenomenal Family come in. These factors aren’t inherited, but they’re not particularly difficult to implement. Creating these factors in your family begins with you. You must start by believing in yourself and your family’s right to be loving,and authentic.

Dr. Phil devotes an entire chapter of Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family to his Five Factors for creating a family where every member is a star in their own right. This involves having a new mindset, a new philosophy and personal truth as well as a plan of action. So start now with the attitude that you are going to re-parent your family. Resolve to get your mind right and your behavior on track. Here’s a brief look at the Five Factors:

Factor 1: Create a Nurturing and Accepting Family System.

The number one need in all people is the need for acceptance, the need to experience a sense of belonging to something and someone. The need for acceptance is more powerful in your family than anywhere else. The following to-do list can help you bring the spirit of acceptance into affirmative, interactive action in your family:

Put your family on Project Status.
This means you must consciously decide to actively and purposely work on improving your family situation every day. You may need to do such things as:

- Reschedule business activities to make time for your kids.
- Help your children set and achieve goals.
- Set aside an hour a day for the family, every day.

Bring out the authenticity of every family member.
Each child in your family came into this world with a core set of unique skills, abilities, interests and talents — all of which make up their genuine identity, their “authentic self.” Authentic children have a sense of hope, a feeling that today is as fun and exciting as yesterday and that tomorrow will be as fun and exciting as today. The following suggestions will help you get started on ways to discover and bring to the surface the authenticity and hidden talents and interests of each of your children.

Create a sense of security and peace in your home.
Your children look to you and your spouse as a solid and safe base of operations. Yet when they’re subjected to a conflict-ridden home, their base is shaken to the core. Here are some actions that will ensure that your family becomes and remains a secure stable base for your children and not a war zone.

- Take arguments private and keep them private.
- Stop being a “right-fighter.”
- Eliminate patterns of verbal abuse.
- Deal forthrightly with destructive behavior.
Factor 2: Promote Rhythm in Your Family Life.

Children need rhythm in their lives, and it is unsettling to them when they don’t have it. This factor is critical to the well being of your family, and here are some steps to help promote that rhythm.

Create a predictable pace of family life.
It can be difficult to schedule the events of the day or the week, but your family does need a pace — a rate of progress throughout the day built around key activities, such as:

- Specific times when meals are served.
- Regular bedtimes.
- A specific list of chores.

Be accountable for your choices.
The choices you make are 100 percent your responsibility, and they affect your interactions with everyone else in your family. Acknowledging your accountability means that you should be willing to ask yourself questions like the following:

1. Are there certain behaviors or bad habits I need to stop? if so, what are they?

2. Do I spend more money than I can afford, possibly jeopardizing the financial condition of my family?

3. Do I choose to live recklessly and without regard for my personal safety?

4. Am I having trouble at work, brought on by my own attitudes or behavior or by compromising my principles?

5. Do I consider the consequences, positive or negative, of a career change on my family?

6. Have I taken unnecessary risks?

7. Have I, in any way, treated my children unfairly?

8. Am I failing to take care of my health by simply not requiring enough of myself?

9. Have I failed to take my marriage vows seriously, being emotionally unavailable or even unfaithful? Have I considered how this behavior may affect my family?

10. Do I choose to put work over the priority of my family?

Answer these questions, and any others that may come to mind, to see how your choices have the power to impact your family. Let your answers identify for you what must become priorities for repair.

Factor 3: Establish Meaningful Rituals and Traditions.

Your family may celebrate rite-of-passage rituals such as baptism or bar mitzvahs, or bedtime rituals of a bath followed by story time. Here are some ways to establish rituals and traditions in your own family:

Plan purposeful celebrations.
Birthdays, Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, and other events are all opportunities to create a tradition or even a ritual.

- During the holidays, create traditions such as baking certain foods.
- Play the same music at birthday parties.
- Make sure your children either buy or make their own gifts.

Hold naming rituals.
Naming a baby blesses that child and welcomes him or her into a family and community. Renaming rituals allow the individual to connect with and express what is at the heart of who he or she is.

Tell family stories.
Build into family get-togethers special times for retelling these stories, complete with slides pictures and mementos. Bring out picture albums or old films to enhance the storytelling experience.

Worship together.
For many families, attending a worship service is a major family ritual. Family participation in worship is an excellent way to enact a family’s faith through rituals and lay a spiritual foundation for children.
Factor 4: Be Active in Your Communication.

The greatest things you can give your children are your ears and your voice. Meaningful dialogue takes into account each family member’s need for acceptance, self-respect, encouragement and security.

Change the backdrop in which communication occurs.
You’ll find that your children are much more comfortable, more receptive and tend to open up in “safe” environments, rather than if you “sit them down” in a chair or at the table to talk. Here are several strategies for encouraging active communication:

- Make time to talk in the car.
- Have discussions during game time.
- Listen to CDs with your children and share your thoughts.

Discuss sensitive subjects such as politics or religion.
These discussions are for the sole purpose of teaching children how to express their opinions and learn how to communicate. Providing a forum for your child’s self-expression is one of the ways you can bolster their self-confidence and enhance their communication skills.

Do some “quilting.”
This is a term used to describe family interactions involving a common activity. The object of “quilting” is to begin a group project together, such as:
- Painting a room.
- Cleaning the house.
- Washing the car.
- Building a playhouse or treehouse.
- Tending a garden.
Factor 5: Learn How to Manage Crisis.

When it comes to family life, it’s not a question of whether or not a crisis will hit — it’s a matter of when. No matter how smoothly your life goes, no matter how well you parent with a purpose, you’ll encounter some crisis, and it will impact your life together as a family. Maybe you discover that your child is addicted to drugs or alcohol. Or your family must adjust to life with a chronically ill child or parent. Your best chance to navigate the rough waters of a crisis is to have a consciously designed crisis management plan in place for overcoming the tough stuff — before it hits. Your plan might include any of the following.

Be prepared before a crisis strikes.
The crucial thing about crisis is preparation. Keep in mind certain Hot Warning Signs that can serve as clues that a crisis is brewing.

Remove danger.
This may mean calling the police yourself, confiscating dangerous items, keeping your child from having contact with certain people or removing him or her from a dangerous place — physically or emotionally.

Work the problem, not the person.
Never attack or blame the family member in crisis When you’re upset with a child, it can be terribly tempting to blame and criticize them. But when you do this, that child learns to “cover his tracks” the next time he or she gets in trouble. Aim your energies at solving the problem instead.

Close ranks.
When a crisis hits, family members tend to turn on one another, blaming or ripping into someone with personal attacks. You must resolve that your relationships will exist on a level above blame and personal attacks. If family members are unable to turn to one another, a crisis will shatter family unity.

Find meaning in your suffering.
Don’t allow yourself to be devastated for no reason, no meaning and no purpose. You’ve got to create some value to the pain that you experience in life. Should some injury or tragedy befall one of your children, you may learn from the event, and thereby protect him or her and your other children more effectively in the future. You may choose to take some social action to create meaning out of suffering.

This is just a glimpse of Dr. Phil’s Five Factors. For a more complete understanding of how to create the change you want in your family, see Chapter 3 in Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family.

I have come up with some thoughts about what it takes to stay close to our daughters through their growing up years.

1. Respect her mom. While girls like to love their daddies, their mom is really their number one role model. If you make an effort to show their mom respect, whether or not you are still married to her, it will help your daughter love and respect you more. If you demean her mom or make Mom seem smaller in your daughter’s eyes, you are just putting a distance between your girl and you.

2. Know her friends. Particularly in the later elementary years and early secondary years, your daughter’s friends become a really important part of her life. She will tell them things she won’t ever tell you or her mom. So make sure you know who her friends are. Host a few parties or sleepovers at your place so you can get to know them better.

3. Learn to listen. One thing I have learned is that girls need to be listened to much more than they need to hear what you have to say. Try listening without judging and without offering advice. Comment only in an effort to understand better what she is saying and what she is feeling. Reflective listening is an important skill for fathers to develop, and your daughter will appreciate your focused efforts to listen for understanding.

4. Read together. One of the things my girls comment on is the time we took when they were little to sit down together on the couch or the recliner and read books together. It not only helps them learn to love reading, but it gives you common ground for later discussions. For example, reading Alice in Wonderland together will help you later when you teach her about making good decisions, setting goals and getting and staying on positive paths.

5. Take her on dates. While I didn’t do it as often as I should have, taking your daughters on dates every other month or so is a great way to stay connected. Take her out to lunch, to a movie, or to the bowling alley. The one-on-one time a date offers, along with being in a more relaxed environment than at home, will be time you cherish and she will remember.

6. Get involved in her interests. If you daughter is into soccer, offer to coach the team or at least go to games and practices with her. If she is taking music lessons, listen to her practice and go to recitals. Complement her on her involvement in her interests, hobbies and diversions. Learn something about her interest so you can talk about it and so you can help her excel.

7. Help with homework. Now I have to admit, being stuck around the kitchen table for two hours doing geometry is not my definition of fun, but it has been a great bonding time for me with my kids. And it lets your daughter know that you value education and developing life skills.

8. Be there at the crossroads. At the important moments in your daughter’s life, make sure you are there. Schedule and keep the appointments for the rites of passage like her birthdays, first day of school, first day at junior high, first date, first dance, first prom, and so forth. These are moments she’ll remember all her life, and you will have been a part of them with her.

9. Make and keep promises. The way we build trust with our daughters is by making and keeping promises. If you commit to take her out on a date, let nothing get in the way. If you tell her you are coming to her dance recital, make sure you are there. If you promise to keep a confidence, don’t share it with others. Her seeing you follow through on your commitments will build your relationship, and will let her know that other men in her life are able to be committed and trustworthy.

10. Be a little physical. Sometimes for whatever reason, we are a little stand-offish with our daughters. They do tend to usually be a little more touchy-feely than we are, but you can add an important dimension to your relationship by giving her hugs, goodnight kisses on the cheek and holding her hand. Our girls need to feel our love, not just hear about it.

As we work to build these important relationships, it’s important to remember that our daughters need us to be a great dad and the most important male role model in her life. Helping her have a great relationship with you is good for both of you, and will help her be a better companion, wife and mother later in her life.

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Everyone gets angry sometimes, it’s a natural part of life. The good news is that you can learn to manage that anger and be in control, so you can use anger effectively and safely at home.

When your anger only lasts a short time, you’ll feel more in control and less stressed. As your stress management improves, your success is soon to follow.

Being joyful, instead of angry, is healthier for you and it’s better for the people around you. When you find that you’re feeling rather aggravated, there are things you can do to keep from getting frustrated and saying or doing something you’ll regret later. However, with that said, anger is okay to express when it’s appropriate to do so. The key is to be able to identify when anger is justified and when it’s unnecessary.

Work on Tempering Your Anger with Peace

Being peaceful can be hard work at first, but the hard work is worth it. Anger may feel like the natural response to stress, simply because you’ve been reacting that way for so long. The people who share your home may expect you to get angry, too, and they may respond to situations in ways that seem to trigger your frustrated responses.

Changing the way you do things is a process that takes some time. You may feel like giving up, but continue to work at cultivating a peaceful mindset. Challenges will always be a part of your life, but you can deal with them in an effective and productive manner when you approach them from a position of peace and control.

There are several ways to avoid anger at home. Practice these ideas or come up with your own. The important thing to remember is that learning to remain peaceful is a process that takes time. Be patient with yourself and enjoy the process as you begin to adopt new patterns of thinking and behavior that support your family’s well-being.

Try these strategies when you start to get angry:

1. Breathe deeply and slowly until you calm down before you say or do anything at all.
2. Think about the things you love about a person, instead of what makes you angry.
3. Talk things over with someone, instead of telling them what they will and must do.
4. Be sensitive to another person’s fears, goals, desires, and important differences.
5. Walk away for a while before you have a conversation with someone who upset you.
6. Be clear about what’s expected of everyone, including you, to lessen conflict.

Anger is a Roadblock to your Success as a Family

In some families, the anger people feel leads to yelling, unfruitful arguing, and an erosion of the relationships within that family. You can make a better choice. Instead of harsh words, choose to calm down and focus on solutions that take everyone’s needs into account.

Include your family in decision-making. Ensure that everyone’s input is taken into account when deciding on the best course of action to take. Consider the feelings of everyone in your family and seek to meet each other’s needs as well as your own. When you do, your family will be happier and closer, and you’ll experience less anger and more peace in your home!
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Does this picture describe your happy home? The baby’s crying while you hurriedly put the fast food on the table, the dog is throwing up on the floor, the hubby’s got the TV on full-blast, and your teenager just angrily slammed the door on his way out.

Unfortunately, it’s a typical scene for many of us. However, the good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way. There are, in fact, things you can do to ease this stress and create a more harmonious environment so that you and your family can look forward to coming home!

Although some degree of stress is inherent as you deal with the varying phases of your family members, if you strive to uphold a core set of values and go with the flow, you can maintain a happy and healthy home.
Here are some specific ways you can reduce the stress at home:

1. Get organized. Life can quickly become chaotic when you don’t maintain organization. An organized home runs smoothly, while an unorganized home leads to stress and lost time.
• A good tip is to start small with your organization efforts. Start with one room or even a portion of a room. The idea is to think of it as a series of small projects instead of one overwhelmingly huge one.

2. Communicate.

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Your family will certainly benefit from actively working on communication skills. When you fail to communicate effectively, you may not get what you want and can even cause upsetting misunderstandings. Working on communication will allow all family members to feel loved and appreciated and help the household run efficiently.
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3. Eat dinner together. Everyone in your family likely has a busy life of their own. It’s easy to suddenly realize that you have no idea what’s going on with your spouse or child. When you make it a point to eat dinner together every night, you make time to connect with your family. You’ll learn how to work as one even with busy lifestyles.

4. Have fun together. It’s important to schedule time to have fun together as a family, even if these times can’t be as often as you’d like. Schedule family nights in advance and allow each family member a chance to pick that evening’s activity.

5. Show unconditional love. Be sure to practice the art of unconditional love with your family. This leads to secure attachments and will ultimately keep everyone in your family happy and stress-free.
• Children and parents alike need to know that, when they make mistakes, they have a loving family that will back them up and forgive them.

6. Give support. Go out of your way for your family members. It might not be an ideal Friday night to go to your daughter’s art show, but just think of how they’ll feel when they see that they have your love and support. Actively express your support by really being there for your family – no matter what. Just thinking about how much you love them is not enough!

7. Family rules. Having a set of family rules will help with organization and allow everyone to know what’s expected of them.
• Schedule a family meeting to establish the house rules. Make sure everyone has a chance to participate and share his or her concerns. You’ll likely find a compromise that allows everyone to be happy.
A happy and stress free home is one built on love. Don’t be too hard on yourself and others, and you’ll have the basis for creating an excellent home life.

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Bill OíReilly, anchor of Foxís The OíReilly Factor, has co-authored a book, The OíReilly Factor for Kids, that does just that.

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Teen years are some of the most turbulent between a parent and a child. Often, you want to impart wisdom to them, but they donít want to hear what you have to say. After all, you ìdonít know what itís like to be a kid todayî. Wouldnít you love to have a book that could help bridge the communication gap?

Bill OíReilly, anchor of Foxís The OíReilly Factor, has co-authored a book, The OíReilly Factor for Kids, that does just that.

Subtitled A Survival Guide for Americaís Families, the book is written to teenagers addressing a variety of topics.

The first section addresses people in your life ñ including friends, or ìso calledî friends, as the case may be, who should be there when you need them and let you be yourself. Thereís getting along with your siblings and the benefits of helping each other out. And, finding out how to disagree with your parents in a responsible way.

Next, OíReilly tackles your private life ñ why it really IS uncool to do any kind of drug, why you should wait to have intercourse, why hours upon hours of TV isnít a good idea, and why listening to music with explicit language isnít really enjoyable. He talks about the importance of earning and managing your money and why and how to have fun. All the things youíve been trying for the last 5 ñ 10 years to say. The difference is that it isnít coming out of your mouth.

The third section focuses on school. Ladies, do you want to dress provocatively at school and if so, what does that say about you? Men, playing a sport in school is stupid, right? Is cheating worth the risk? If you read a book that isnít required, is it a waste of your time? Is it a good idea to make a bad teacherís life miserable? Youíll be glad to know OíReilly answers no to all of these questions and explains why it is NOT so.

Finally, the last section deals with things to think about ñ health, work, helping others, deathÖHe even brings up religion and the importance God has played in his life.

OíReilly comes out and tells the readers that ìLife Isnít Fairî. Just telling it like it is ñ and in a way they can understand. With a format that intertwines Billís Story with ìIMingsî (ìInstant Messages for those of us less ëwith ití î.)

When all is said and done, he has covered the important topics in a way that most parents would agree with. Like it or not, teenagers tune us out and we become a talking head. Take advantage of this resource to present another person ís point of view.

Teen years are some of the most turbulent between a parent and a child. Often, you want to impart wisdom to them, but they donít want to hear what you have to say. After all, you ìdonít know what itís like to be a kid todayî. Wouldnít you love to have a book that could help bridge the communication gap?

First Born: First born children are born as natural leaders. They also tend to be perfectionists, reliable and conscientious people. First born children do not react well to surprises and can be aggressive, however are often people pleasers. Children who are first born have a strong n…

Older sister, younger brother, or middle child are more than just labels that people have in a family; psychologist say that birth order has an effect on all aspects of a childís personality.

First Born: First born children are born as natural leaders. They also tend to be perfectionists, reliable and conscientious people. First born children do not react well to surprises and can be aggressive, however are often people pleasers. Children who are first born have a strong need for approval by others. Examples of first born children include Oprah Winfrey, Peter Jennings, Rush Limbaugh and over half of all U.S.A presidents.

Only Child: Only children are similar to first born children. The characteristics in an only child however are typically three fold. They are even bigger perfectionists, are more responsible and tend to get along better with older people than individuals there own age. Examples of only children are Robin Williams, Natalie Portman, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Frank Sinatra and Lauren Bacall.

Middle Child: The middle child is often the most difficult to stereotype. They are almost always guaranteed to be the opposite of their older sibling, but this can manifest in a variety of ways. Middle children typically feel as though their older sibling stole the spotlight from them, while their younger siblings could get away with murder. They tend to be secretive, more withdrawn and not prone to talk about their emotions. Since middle children feel as though they were overlook by their family they grow stronger connections with peers and are excellent people readers and peacemakers.

Last Born: The children who are born last tend to be outgoing, social butterflies. They are also the most financially unstable of all the other siblings since their primary interest is in having a good time. The youngest children of the family are often very charming, but can also be manipulative and spoiled. Examples of some babies of the family are Billy Crystal, Goldie Hawn, Drew Carey, Jim Carey and Steve Martin.

While these are typically characteristics of birth order, there are some exceptions such as a larger space between the children may allow for some crossing over of characteristics or if the first born is a girl and the next child is a boy he will have some first sibling characteristics since he was the first male child in the family. Deaths, adoptions and blended families can also have an effect on these characteristics.

Summary:
Older sister, younger brother, or middle child are more than just labels that people have in a family; psychologist say that birth order has an effect on all aspects of a childís personality.
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One of the first things you have to figure out when you realize that you want to stay home with your kids is whether or not you can afford to do so. You are probably used to living on two incomes, so making the switch to a single income may not be easy. However, it may not be as hard as you think.

If you have children already, the first thing that goes away when you decide to stay at home is the cost of daycare. However, if you work at home, part of that cost may remain, unless your work is such that you can keep the children home with you. Take a look at how much of your income right now is going to daycare. That cost alone may prove to you that you donít need a high-paying work at home job to stay home ñ a simpler one may suffice.

There are several other costs that will drop if you stay at home. Youíll be in a different tax bracket. Youíll probably drive less, eat out less often and you wonít need clothes for work, which can save both on shopping and on dry cleaning bills.

When youíre figuring out how much it costs you to work outside the home, donít assume that becoming a stay at home or work at home parent will cause you to stop eating out. You will have those days where you decide to take the kids out, more likely than not.

One thing many parents forget to think about when they decide to stay at home is to handle retirement planning. Now, if youíre just staying home for a year or two, itís probably not a big deal, but if you plan on staying home for many years, this can be a huge impact on you when you do retire. You may not have the finances to fund your retirement account well when your family is living on only one income, but you should try to do at least a little. See my article on retirement planning for stay at home parents for more information.

Use this information to figure out what you will need to earn while staying at home. Some will be fine as a single income family, but others will need the stay at home parent to earn some kind of income. Ideally, this will be a relatively small amount, as the whole point of having a stay at home parent is to have more time with the kids and benefit them, not maintain a freely spending lifestyle. However, if a single income isnít enough, a work at home job or home business will likely become necessary.

Figure out how much income will be necessary and how much risk you are willing to take. Work at home jobs are harder to come by, but home businesses are by their nature more risky, and it may take a few years to earn an adequate income from a business. Plan accordingly, and know that you might not be able to live your preferred lifestyle right away.

Fortunately, by the time you take out the costs of working outside the home, you will likely find you donít need to earn what you used to. Half or even less of your previous income may be quite adequate. It may require sacrifice, but thatís what being a parent is about.

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Sincere PARENTING ————————– WHICH Road DO I HAVE TO Consider TO REAR A Good Kid?

Becoming a first time parent is hard sufficient. Not to point out, you have to start operating on the baby’s nursery as well.THE Procedure OF Becoming A NEW Mother or father.

At the time conception, your gratifying occupation as a parent lastly starts. Becoming a parent is a lifestyle lengthy experience.

Here ARE THE Processes THAT YOU Ought to KNOW TO Become Skilled IN PARENTING.

>> Not all parenting info can be processed instantly by our brains in a day. Parenting will need a lifetime oeness studying, rejoicing and even suffering before you are successful.

What is important to keep in mind is that you ought to by no means give up on parenting. As lengthy as you are open minded when it arrives to parenting, you have guaranteed that you have gained the parenting race already.PARENTING IS A Never-ENDING Occupation.

For sure, we all want our children to have much better and happier life than ours were.

There is a time exactly where the good line of parenting is nothing but wide, easy and straight, that is when you know exactly what to do. Parenting is nothing but a continuous procedure. Parenting a child takes a lifetime. To be a parent, this demands you to walk in a good thin line

.Educate YOUR Children SELF-RELIANCE

A child’s independence is a important part for them to learn on how to make what they want and be empowered to make their personal true happiness.

You might nonetheless think that by providing your child things that they want is pleasurable. Do not be surprised if you uncover that you’re really looking for to fulfill what you lacked in your childhood. A child will start studying things like carrying their personal plates from the table to your dishwasher, placing products into the grocery cart (only with grownup supervision) and these are simple and superb takes for a two-yr previous to achieve.

GET More COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR Kid.

To be in a position to get to the subsequent location with your child, make it fun – If your child is the kind that has troubles with modifications and becomes oppositional, you can inquire him/her to hop like a kangaroo to the doorway, or even have their preferred thing waiting in the vehicle for them therefore supplying cooperation from you child. By using rewards – You can concentrate on your child’s positive attitude instead of the negatives by attempting to put a marble in a jar when at any time your child starts performing some thing for the first time that you requested which in flip offers much more cooperation from your child.

Usually relate your command as a assertion, and by no means as a your child a query – Most parents are susceptible to saying, “Would you like to star performing your homework now?” and other commands which ought to always be stated using a company voice this kind of as saying, “It is time to function on your homework now”, which can assist you gain much more cooperation from your child.Common Kid AND Mother or father Problems.

Kids are growing up quicker nowadays and at the average age of 10 or even eleven they’re nearly like young grownups already.

Mothers and fathers have the choice and the chance to curve your life’s path towards being a great parent. In lieu of the age that we now live in, a great deal of the parents have to keep a strict eye on their children.MAKE Recollections WITH Quality Family TIME.

Arranging family members dinners really is dependent on how chaotic your present family members routine is, this will then assist you determine how great of a challenge it will be for you to change your present technique considering.

THE Following Suggestions Make sure THAT YOUR Family TIME WILL BE Stress Free AND WILL Make sure THAT YOU WILL MAKE YOUR Family Recollections Final FOR A Lifetime:

>> Mothers and fathers have to first set up some positive uplifting factors or topics for dinner table conversations.

Steer clear of criticisms, arguing or squabbling during family members dinners. >> You can create down notes of positive and really inspiring tales that you listen to about in the media and then use those positive tales to start a dinner conversation with. __________________________________________________ honest parenting simple parenting methods that tame tough kids.

Frequently times it does not make a difference what you do with your kids, they just want to know that you are there for them and that you love them.

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As a mother or father, of program you have to discover how to say no, so that your child does not grow up to be a spoiled brat.

Stating no can be a hard factor to do especially when they appear at you with these cute small puppy canine eyes. How could you probably say no to that? As the mother or father, you have to stick to your guns so to communicate, and stand your floor. I know how simple it is to just give in to them and give them what they want so they will depart you alone and, that can have dire implications. If you need proof just appear at how numerous individuals are incarcerated in today’s culture.

That picture, is the immediate result of poor parenting in my viewpoint.

Keep in mind, you are the mother or father, you are in cost, and you make the guidelines. It’s your occupation to be responsible. Sure I stated it, parenting is a occupation. You do not get paid in a monetary feeling and yet, you do get paid in love, pride, and feelings of inner joy. You get to relate to an additional human being and be a residing example for your child. You get to be a role model and you get to display them every thing you know when the time is right.

I say when the time is right because there are particular things in life that are age suitable.

[a particular level of maturity for these things.

I believe it is important to relate to your child on their level. This teaches your child the importance of interaction and it will get them involved in something that is not just about themselves. This is all a expanding procedure for both you and your child.

You may only notice the kid’s growth and, other adults will notice the alter in you.

Some other things that you and your child discover, is how to communicate with every other. Every solitary individual is an person and that is an important factor to keep in mind when you are dealing with kids. I believe our culture has the habit of placing individuals into a stereotyped group with the assumption that they are all the same. Granted, they may be the same in a particular region or with a particular characteristic and, the important factor to keep in mind is that every 1 is an person with different wants and requirements, with different learning styles and with different values.

PIONEER IN RFID FOR THE MUSICAL INSTRUMENT SECTOR
TO SHOWCASE ATTRIBUTES AND IMPORTANCE OF HAVING
INSTRUMENTS IMPLEMENTED WITH MICROCHIP TECHNOLOGY

Although SNAGG has been present at virtually all the NAMM shows since its inception in the year 2000, Winter NAMM 2012 will mark the first time the company has been an exhibitor.

From Thursday, January 19 through Sunday, January 22 at the Anaheim Convention Center, various company executives will be on hand to talk about SNAGG technology and answer all questions at Booth #1580 in Hall E.

SNAGG is the world’s premiere musical instrument registry based on RFID (Radio Frequency Identification Device) technology and remains the only web-based system tracking ownership of an asset throughout its lifetime using a “peer-to-peer” transfer of ownership capability.

Since its inception in 2000, the company has been featured in such media as Entrepreneur.com (http://www.entrepreneur.com/slideshow/205899), PC Magazine (http://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,1612809,00.asp), Los Angeles Times, San Diego Union Tribune, San Diego Business Journal and all of the major guitar publications.

SNAGG continue to lead the industry and have recently made their acclaimed microchip technology available via its online store at Snagg.com (please see direct link at http://www.snagg.com/ezStore123/DTProductList.asp?p=1_1_1_1_0_0_521).

Earlier in the year, SNAGG entered other markets and began implementing its microchip into such products as bicycles, antiques, firearms, laptops and other tech devices.

GEOFF TATE “AND FRIENDS”
TO PERFORM SELECT, ALL-ACOUSTIC DATES
ON THE WEST COAST BEGINNING ON JANUARY 26TH

Shortly after Queensryche’s Geoff Tate heard that American Idol’s James Durbin was going to sing the band’s song, “Take Hold of the Flame” to his new bride, Heidi Lowe, at their wedding reception on New Year’s Eve, he started making arrangements to join the festivities.

A great way to end 2011 and bring in the new year!

Known to representatives, but unbeknownst to James and Heidi, Geoff and his wife, Susan, flew from Seattle to Northern California for the big surprise.

The Durbins walked into the reception where Geoff quickly introduced himself.

A dream come true for James, both he and Geoff hit the stage and sang “Take Hold of the Flame’ together with Heidi just a few feet away.

A truly memorable evening, indeed, for the newlyweds who had publicly stated that the song was one of their favorites.

See the People magazine coverage for more details – http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20557815,00.html / http://www.queensryche.com/2012/01/09/an-idol-rocker-wedding/

This was just the beginning of what promises to be another exciting year for Geoff Tate.

After touring extensively in 2011 with his band, Queensryche, Geoff recently announced that he will be doing a handful of acoustic solo dates billed as “Geoff Tate and Friends” beginning on Thursday, January 26 at Anthology in San Diego, California.

What can fans expect on the brief run of dates?

According to Tate, he’ll be “playing acoustic versions of all my favorite Queensryche songs as well as some songs from my solo album.” And that certainly gives him a lot to choose from…

Not one to remain idle, Tate is anxious to hit the road again next year despite an incredibly busy 2011 that found the band performing over 75 dates along their 30th Anniversary tour primarily in support of their 12th studio album, Dedicated to Chaos (Roadrunner Records/Loud & Proud), that was released in the summer.

Towards the end of the tour, Geoff and the band pulled out “all the stops” by performing Rage for Order in its entirety for the first time ever (New York City on Halloween) and Operation: Mindcrime from beginning to end on this year’s ShipRocked Cruise (with In This Moment’s Maria Brink handling vocal chores as “Sister Mary”) for the first time in three years. Both shows were a pure treat for fans!

“Mindcrime” (1988) is universally respected as a classic concept release about rock, revenge and redemption and, ultimately, regarded as one of the most important and essential hard rock records in the genre’s expansive canon. 1990′s follow-up, Empire, yielded a number one single, the Grammy-nominated ballad “Silent Lucidity,” which Queensryche performed at the 1992 Grammy Awards accompanied by a supporting orchestra.

In 2006, the band released Operation: Mindcrime II, a scorching sequel to their original. The band then hit the road performing both albums Operation: Mindcrime and Operation: Mindcrime II back-to-back in their entirety in an incredible theatrical presentation throughout the year. The final performance was recorded at The Moore Theatre in Seattle that October and the Mindcrime at the Moore double CD/DVD release debuted at #1 on Billboard’s Top Music DVD Chart and eventually reached gold status.

It’s hard to believe it’s been 30 years and more than 20 million albums sold worldwide later…

For 2012, Queensryche has plenty up its sleeve.

For more information, please view the official Queensryche website at www.queensryche.com.

TOUR DATES

THURSDAY, JANUARY 26 – ANTHOLOGY IN SAN DIEGO, CALIFORNIA

FRIDAY, JANUARY 27 – THE CANYON CLUB IN AGOURA HILLS, CALIFORNIA

SATURDAY, JANUARY 28 – SLO BREW IN SAN LUIS OBISPO, CALIFORNIA

SUNDAY, JANUARY 29 – THE COACH HOUSE IN SAN JUAN CAPISTRANO, CALIFORNIA

THE TURTLES FEATURING FLO & EDDIE,
THE MONKEES LEAD SINGER MICKY DOLENZ,
THE BUCKINGHAMS, THE GRASS ROOTS AND NEWEST
ADDITION, GARY PUCKETT & THE UNION GAP TO EMBARK
ON MAJOR U.S. TOUR BEGINNING IN EARLY SUMMER 2012

Here they come again to a venue near you!

Last year, the Happy Together Tour — which featured five incredible artists performing some of the greatest pop rock of the sixties — took to the road in celebration of the tour’s 25th Anniversary with many of the same artists that shared the stage together in 1985 including The Turtles featuring Flo & Eddie, The Grass Roots and The Buckinghams.

To no one’s real surprise, the sixties faithful would show up in mass to see the show, which also included Mark Lindsay, former lead singer of Paul Revere & The Raiders, and The Monkees lead singer Micky Dolenz.

For this year’s tour, The Association went along for the ride (while Micky Dolenz toured with The Monkees) and it, too, had similar success.

Both tours, encompassing approximately 20 dates each, played to many a packed house throughout the United States and, as a result, Happy Together is coming back for a third consecutive year with dates expected to begin in early summer of 2012.

Along with The Turtles featuring Flo & Eddie, The Monkees lead singer Micky Dolenz, The Buckinghams and The Grass Roots, new addition Gary Puckett & The Union Gap will be a part of the festivities.

Gary Puckett & The Union Gap was one of the most successful musical groups of the sixties. Gary’s unmistakable signature voice garnered six consecutive gold records and top ten Billboard hits such as “Young Girl” and “Woman Woman.” In 1968, Gary Puckett & The Union Gap sold more records than any other artist including the Beatles. Gary Puckett has performed on more than thirty network television shows and prime time specials during his career, even adding a command performance for the President and Prince Charles at the White House. The Union Gap disbanded in 1971. Gary continues to tour nationally and internationally.

“Happy Together” by The Turtles hit #1 on the charts in 1967 (displacing the Beatles’ “Penny Lane”) and remains a staple on classic rock radio to this day. Although their biggest hit and signature song, it’s just one of their nine Top 40 hits, which includes such popular songs as “She’d Rather Be With Me,” “Elenore,” “You Showed Me” and “It Ain’t Me Babe.” In 1968, far ahead of their time, they would release one of music’s first concept albums, The Turtles Present the Battle of the Bands, where they pretended to be eleven different bands with different names, each providing a song in a different genre.The album — which showcased their incredible range of vocal talent — spawned the hits “Elenore” and “You Showed Me” (both peaking at #6 on the Billboard charts). Mark and Howard have remained plenty busy over the years with both The Turtles featuring Flo & Eddie and their extracurricular music activities. In 2009, a new Turtles compilation CD was released titled, Save The Turtles: The Turtles Greatest Hits, which was issued on their own FloEdCo label. In all, the band has sold over 60 million albums worldwide to date.

In 1966, hot on the heels of their new NBC television show, The Monkees would release a self-titled debut album that would top the U.S. charts for thirteen consecutive weeks and sell an overwhelming 3.2 million copies in just three months. The single, “Last Train to Clarksville,” from the album would be their first #1 hit. Their second #1 hit came quickly with “I’m a Believer” (featured on the band’s second album, More of The Monkees), which had over a million advance orders. The band would continue to put out numerous hits such as “(I’m Not Your) Steppin’ Stone” and “Pleasant Valley Sunday” among others… In 1986, the four members got together for “The Monkees 20th Anniversary World Tour,” a 145 date trek that would become the largest grossing tour of the year. The band — who reconvened this year for a brief but memorable tour — remain as iconic as ever…

“Kind of a Drag” from The Buckinghams would also reach the pinnacle of chart success, yet mark just one of many popular hits from the band including “Mercy, Mercy, Mercy,” “Don’t You Care,” “Susan” and “Hey Baby (They’re Playing Our Song).” Their success in 1967 would lead them to be named “The Most Listened To Band in America” by Billboard Magazine.

The Grass Roots burst upon the scene in ’67 and would not only amass over a dozen Top 40 hits, but go on to perform in front of an estimated 600,000 people in Washington, D.C. on July 4, 1982 setting an all-time attendance record for an concert performance consisting of just one act. Between 1967 and 1972 — thanks to numerous hits such as “Midnight Confessions,” “Let’s Live For Today,” “Sooner or Later,” “I’d Wait A Million Years” and “Temptation Eyes,” the band would set a record for being on the Billboard charts for 307 consecutive weeks. Sadly, we lost lead singer Rob Grill this year but the music lives on…

Once again, fans can expect to hear many of their favorite hits next summer!

The Happy Together Tour 2012 promises to be another good time had by all.