Boobs are a menace. Rant.

Yep, that’s right. I went through YEARS of thinking I was a 36 C, recently I went and was refit to a 34 D, no biggy really. But recently, I’m sitting here wondering how in the heck people get bras to fit perfectly with no giant wad of cleavage showing in every single bra they own. I’m just thinking, hey maybe I was born to forever have cleavage wadage. Then I look it up, and I may be getting to all this late (course I’m only 23) but, I had no idea cup sizes are pretty much all different. No A, B ,C ,D, DD, DDD, E…etc, cup is the same size! Now, I know if I actually thought about it (aka no boob or body size is really the same), it might have made sense, but here I was thinking you only went up in band size and up in cup size. Not up in cup, down in band, or vice versa.

So after looking up how to PROPERLY fit a bra, I found a great site if any ladies are interested and lacking in knowledge like I was, I went and decided to try the tips they gave on the site. When I was finally finished, I went from 34 D to 32 DDD. To say the least my husband (who generously offered to come and help lol) was pleased, but I am definitely shocked. The difference in the fit and comfort was absolutely astounding, and it made me wonder, how long have I been treating my breast so badly? Binding and squishing them?

That is, until I tried looking somewhere other than Victoria Secret for nice bras my size. Oh I found some. All at pretty much comparable prices to them and styles. But the problem lies in finding some CHEAP plain white (yet not completely terrible (look and fit wise)) bras to trade with the ones I bought for when I leave in a month. I like underwire, and support, but just because I have DDD’s does not mean I’m a size 40 around (not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it seems to be the average I’ve seen), and that I want as much coverage as possible, and still be cheap. So now, my boobs have become a menace. lol

Have any of you ladies ever had boob and or bra fit problems like this? Any suggestion on places to look for good, relatively cheap bras (already knocked out Target and Walmart)? Anyone else not actually know there own TRUE size?

I have the SAME problem! I’m a 30DD and it’s really that every bra maker must assume that when you go over C cup you must have a large band size. It’s so frustrating.

I’ve had decent luck with Soma. They don’t necessarily go down to my band size, but they do have a couple styles that fit as a 32D. They do go up to 32F if I remember correctly. They’re not necessarily cheap either, but the straps are very nice and sturdy and the whole feel I’ve gotten so far is sturdiness and longevity. I dislike VS for that very reason – tried them, the girl told me I was a 30DD but could go “like a 34 C that’d work too” (chyeah….right, as it flies off into the night) and the straps are so thin they hurt.

I still can’t find good sports bras. No matter what I do, the boobs come and whap me one in the face. *sigh*

As a side note – one of my close friends is very large busted and refers to any large breasted woman as bursty, as our breasts tend to burst out of anything.

@NellieBelly37: This sounds like me today! I finally got the nerve to get fitted for a bra, like, really, really fitted. Turns out my 34dd was TOTALLY wrong, I’m actually a 32G (aka 32dddd)! I know the pain of shopping for bras at the regular places (eg: Victorias Secret) but I found that Nordstroms is AMAZING at larger sizes.

They also told me that sometimes when a store “measures” you, they may tell you a wrong size, or the size that best falls into what they can sell (like Victorias Secret who told me I was a 34dd) because they may not carry your size. Imagine how it would be to go to a store and have someone say “oh yeah, sorry, we don’t cary that”

Anyways, moral of the story is, find some place that can deal with larger bra sizes and get a proper fit. Having a 32G has been an amazing difference from my 34dd

@gillykat824: Bursty. That’s hilarious lol. See, the strap thing doesn’t bother me, mainly because the support is supposed to come from your band and never the straps of the bra (go figure), when I tried on the right size at VS, it was totally comfortable, but then again maybe I’m partial to small bands, I like that they can be easily hidden. Course that all goes out the window when you’re a triple D anything. They think triple D means, “Oh the wearer must want cups that cover the entire breast, nearly up to their necks!” So small easily hidden straps really don’t matter when you cup hangs out of ever semi low cut shirt. I hate when bras “cover”, kind of defeats the purpose to me, well the sexy purpose anyway lol.

@gillykat824: Also, I know you dislike Vs, but I just tried on their best loved sports bra the other day and it was magic. I NEVER wear a sports bra without a regular one underneath it, they just don’t support enough but themselves, but that one I put on and truly felt I could go running/p90x-ing and all that jazz, and the girls wouldn’t get mad if give me a black eye for mistreatment. It was a great feeling, but then again, that’s my experience!

@bitsybee: I honestly don’t mind the prices (only do now because I need new ones, but they’ll be more than likely trashed 2 to 4 months from now, so thus not pretty frilly ones, but still would like relatively cheap plain ones I don’t mind tossing out), but that doesn’t sound bad, I looked at Nordstrom then clicked away the site at the prices lol. Just not what I what to spend right now. I’m totally going to splurge and revamp once I get settled at my first duty station in a few months though.

@Orion: Oh yeah,, I was told you’d be hard pressed to find anything under a 30 band, anywhere. You must be tiny! I’m a 32 and tiny myself, I think I would just put duct tape on to keep ’em up if I got that low around lol, its hard enough at a size that’s normal (at least in band if not cup), I got so frustrated the other day looking, I can only imagine how you feel.

@MrsBPhD: Honestly, I know most women won’t feel this way, but I believe if shops actually did a bare-breasted measuring, they’d get a more accurate read. Having the wrong size bra on when you are fitted throws off any possibility of ever getting fit PROPERLY, I would go for it In a heart beat lol, now with knowing that I’ve been wrong all these years and finally feeling what is feels (fff!) Like to have something that’s perfect for your body anyway.