The stage is set. You have prepared a wonderful environment conducive to love. Now, how do you shed your clothes seductively? Should you run into the bathroom and emerge naked? Does that "slip-into-something-more-comfortable" cliché still work? Or should you just lie there and let him undress you?

When you plan to undress for your man, don’t wear those elaborate gowns that close with dozens of buttons.

Should he take control over your undressing? Some men love to remove your clothes (as they would love you to remove theirs!) Men vary in their styles when undressing women. One may unbutton you tenderly, as if you were a helpless little girl; another may take an almost fiendish pleasure in stripping you with a single stroke. If you do let a man undress you, be willing to risk an impatiently ripped seam or an expensive piece of clothing dropped or tossed carelessly to land somewhere in the room. Do not, in any way, shoot a man with a black look, or grab the precious piece of clothing and place it on its padded hanger! If you care that he might ruin your clothes, gently say, “Let me.” and disrobe your way.

You may take advantage of doing the striptease yourself. This way, you can handle the undressing more skillfully and gracefully. You may choose to stand in soft, flattering light (unless you are in the stark arena of a bright kitchen). With dramatic flair, you can disclose your best features first. This trick can de-emphasize your flaws. (If your thighs are floppy, reveal them last — show your best part first.

Move gracefully when you undress, enjoy showing your nice body in action instead of cringing and skulking over or under the bedcovers (unless this is part of your teasing drama). Look into his eyes, watch his responses. Here are some evocative striptease motions:

Lift dress or blouse high over your head with a long, lazy stretch. (This pushes your breasts high, and tightens midriff muscles.)

Bend languorously as you roll off stockings or pantyhose.

Arch backward to reach down for a shoe, or take them off sitting down, lifting each leg high in the air.

Lie down — then lift your legs, point them high, then ease out of your panties.

Slip your panties off while you’re still in a dress.

Hold a dress in front of you after you’ve taken it off, then drop it. Don’t rush to hang it up… drop it over a chair if you really worry about it .

Undress with a light at your back. This will make you appear as a supple silhouette.