Another sad married man

Aug 19, 2007

I will donate but would love a response. Anyway i hooked up with a stripper and had unprotected oral sex with her. Blowjob,Vaginal, and Rimming. I noticed a few days later that I had bitten the inside of my mouth but not sure when so I'm not sure if it was open at the time. I would imagine that I would have felt something. But now 3 weeks later I have swollen glands, very loose stoll, sore throat and mucas. I am deathly affraid that I have contracted HIV. What do you think. (Right before i got sick i did party hard in vegas so kind of run down)

Response from Dr. Frascino

Hi Sad Married Man,

I can't quite tell from your post if just the oral sex was unprotected. If that were the case, your HIV risk would be negligible. If all the sexual activities were unprotected, your HIV risks would be as follows:

1. For unprotected cunnilingus, negligible.

2. For insertive fellatio, minimal.

3. For rimming, essentially nonexistent.

4. For insertive vaginal, there is some degree of risk for STDs, including HIV. The estimated per-act risk for acquiring HIV from unprotected insertive vaginal sex with an HIV-positive partner is 5 per 10,000 exposures. Your estimated risk would be less, as we do not know the status of your stripper.

Your "symptoms" are very nonspecific. Remember, symptoms are notoriously unreliable in predicting who is and is not HIV infected.

My advice is simple:

1. Level with your wife. It's not only the best way to cope with your guilt; it's also the right thing to do.

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