Role Playing For Beginners

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Role plays for beginners to avoid

For starters, stay where you are both comfortable. There is a high degree of trust when role-playing involves things like light bondage. Always make sure to talk about what you plan to do prior to engaging in role plays if there is a chance someone may feel less than happy and anything other than really turned on. It is important for both participants to be equally into it.

Rape role plays

Women often fantasize about being raped, but this doesn’t actually mean they want to be raped in real life — they are very distinct and different things. It is more about the power and strength of being taken against her will, and for him, the power of control. A rape role play is something that could possibly be done later after you have built trust and know exactly what is required. It could end very badly, so don’t rush into it. Safe words are needed so when one person is crying out “Stop! Stop!” you know when they actually mean it.

Bondage and discipline

This can be tons of fun, but care has to be taken to not embarrass, hurt or offend your partner in real life by the treatment of them in a role play such as this. The rules have to be explicit and discussed prior to starting. Tying somebody up and teasing them with a feather is a bit different to putting a gimp mask on them and leading them around the house like a dog and forcing them to lick your boots and drink out of the toilet. Whipping and physical pain can also be pleasurable, but bear in mind there are special tools for spanking — drawing blood is not the point. Fetishes are normal and fun, but just be aware of what lengths you are asking somebody else to go to fulfill yours.

play it up

Role playing is a fantastic way to deepen and enrich your relationship. When both parties feel safe and secure, this playing often results in you both finding out more about each other — what you want done to you and done for you. Sexually, it broadens both of your horizons and allows your rich fantasy worlds to be unleashed (slowly!). If developed correctly — that is, comfortably and with sex appeal — role playing can become a successful way to get what you want out of your sex life without having to leave the house. Explore, laugh and enjoy — you’ll both be better for the experience.