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Saturday, 15 June 2013

LADIES, LET'S TALK: HOW LONG BEFORE YOU WALK AWAY FROM A STATIC RELATIONSHIP?

I have heard and seen stories of ladies who stay in a relationship with a guy for 9, 10, and more years without any sign that their partner would ever propose. While I am in total support of a long courtship (I dated my husband for 4 years) because I believe time really proves character, I don't know when long is actually long enough.

I had a family friend who dated this guy for 9 years, doing all the cooking, washing his clothes and, sometimes, that of his mother and siblings, when ever she visits him. Along the line, another lady had a child for him. His family pleaded with her and her family and she forgave him. Eventually, after 9 years of courtship, his mother refused to allow him marry her, insisting he marries the mother of his child. They broke up. She met another guy and within 6 months, they got married and now they live abroad with their two kids. I can give you several other real life examples and I'm sure you know someone who has gone through something similar.

So I ask, how long is long enough before you walk away from a static relationship?

1 comment:

I think it depends on what you are looking to get our of the relationship. IF you're looking to get hitched, I strongly believe that 2 years is more than enough time to know if that's where you guys are headed. If after 2 yrs 6 months, You are in the exact same place you should walk away. If what you're looking to get nothing serious, you can be in it for as long as you want.I don't believe in playing wife to the guy when he hasn't made you wife. The fact that a guy calls you "wife material" doesn't mean he's going to put a ring on it.Why waste 9 years on some guy cos he has introduced you to his family?? I'm glad her story has a happy ending tho.