One of my good friends is getting married, I can't be happy for him?

Seriously, marraige is such a f up. The guy just sealed his fate. It's like..."here, have a contract to seal your probable divorce" anyway, maybe that's just me. Anyone else think the social construct of marriage is stupid?

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At least if he's your age, his chances are a little better, but not much. If his bride is under 25, it could be worse.He still has almost 44% chance of being divorced within 5 - 10 years, and being left to wonder why (women don't need a reason for it, and often can't give one). Chances are that within 4 years she will have turned off the sex and affection (50% of women do). Even if he's a better man than ever before, that won't change.The chances of him having an affectionate wife in 20 years time (if they stay married) are about 20%. It doesn't matter how much he loves her, that will be the case. It doesn't matter how much she loved him in the beginning.* Men love women* Women love children* Children love guinea pigs* The guinea pig pig wins, no-one loves the man, and he just pays for the whole deal.

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Honestly, you're a being a selfish dick. Who cares if they get divorced? He's made a choice and is wanting to celebrate with friends. If you can't respect his decision, then don't participate. Don't talk to him about it, don't go to his bachelor party, don't attend the wedding, because, apparently, this is all about you and the fact you feel he's ruining his life.

Plenty of people survive marrying the wrong person. He's found someone he's willing to risk that for. Congrats to him. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't.

However, deciding that you obviously know better is fucking patronizing as shit. He's a god damned adult. Put your big boy pants on and grow the fuck up.

Interesting article. They stay because it makes logical sense. I know some educated swingers. They are married but open minded to share partners. I also liked the "many people are not marrying" which decreases the divorce rate.

I wouldn't say incapability... more my negative views on marriage. But you right I shouldn't. But it's still hard, I think it's stupid. I just have to smile be nod. I don't "feel" happiness for him and I can't stop thinking how fucking ridiculous the expenses for this marriage is. Damn it's an upmarket thing. Better have a free bar! Or then it will be a truly shit wedding.

Love doesn't exist whether for myself or another person. It's biological processes that we define as love. I am poly and think monogamy is a delusion therefore voiding the concept of marriage. Thing is, this guy is an atheist too so I don't get it.

Lol.., you the first person I met who doesn't know about it. You seriously telling me none of your friends or family, or somebody gets this? I may have to send you a link as it's an extremely common thing and will take me 5 secs to give you it you?

Thank you:) you don't get it because you don't have it. My ex never got it with me either. Only when the sore comes out, then it's dangerous for transmission. But once it's gone, it's fine. There are two types: one on the face and one on the genitals. The face one is very common and can be hereditary. My mom has it and passed it to me and my brother. But it's a dormant virus that someone may or may not have. Only if you have the virus, will you get it. So you won't get it if you stressed or in the sun. Me on the other hand, if I have flu or amIn the sun for a long time, it's triggers the virus, bringing the sores. That's why fair skinned people especially slap serious sun lotion on their face because if not, it will trigger those sores (if they have it) hope that helps?

Lol... good for you, I think it is more a white mans thing. That's why those fair skinned and usually red heads have to seriously cover up, the sun fucks the skin up. I sat at a cricket match one day, the whole day and it triggered such a bad outbreak, I hid away from the world for a week. Seriously when you at the beach or outdoors, look at the seriously white man, you almost feel sorry for the skin.

No... my real name is very British:) I had a beautiful coloured colleague that I worked with at standard bank. She got cold sores too. Pissed her off because she was a hottie and obviously it threw a spanner in her day if she got them.

Why you all infected with the herpes virus? ewwww... I work for one client. She had a break out not long ago. I didn't get skin on skin contact with her.. Thank god... :P I tried not to stick too close to her either. Yikes.

You making me laugh, not all whites have it, but many do. I know some coloureds that have it and I never knew a black to have it. But I could be wrong. I do know that when the skin or immune system is knocked, it triggers the virus. Obviously white mans skin gets nailed by sun (us red necks) so it would cause more damage. Herpes is a similar style virus as hiv in the sense that it hides in cells until triggered. That's why hiv only comes out after a while and nobody notices it. Herpes is one fucking irritating virus!

Look.., when you see a person with a cold sore, never kiss them and don't shake their hand. When I got it I hardly even touched my ex. For a week or so, you are very contagious and I hate that shit and never wanted to spread it. No skin contact basically:-) that's how genital herpes spreads. Some guy or girl with a cold sore goes down on you! It gross.

Yes and i couldn't believe she never told me about it. She told me when she has coldsores, she says away form men. She did get a bit close talking to me a lot. I don't shake hands or touch when I talk to people... :) Only whites seems to do it to only whites.

Not true, my parents is entering their 22nd anniversary this year. Of course they fight over some things sometimes, but they never even had a single thought of getting a divorce. They still love each other, my dad always puts my mom and his daughters first above everything and my mom always puts my dad and her daughters first above everything; my sister and I would testify that love.

That's good for you and your family;-) You are a rarity though and I thought the same things about my family at your age, time though taught me otherwise. I do however wish you and the family all the best.

just respect and accept his happiness in marriage and stop being too pessimistic.I myself think that social contract is not a real sacred marriage thing but I am open with others idea about it since they have their own mind and happiness.

Uh... no. My own parents have made it work for thirty years. None of their siblings have divorced either. None of the friends from college or high school who I'm still in touch with have done so either. Some people get it right.

Super-religious? No. Some of them are, I admit - OK, two of those couples are, but the rest aren't.

It comes down to the right people getting together, making a commitment and meaning it. These days too many people are afraid to open up to each other no matter how physically intimate they've gotten, and keep holding out for the chance to get in the pants of "someone better."