It's Gettin' Serious: 9 Telltale Signs Your Hookup is More Than Just a Hookup

So you’ve been hooking up for several months. Maybe two, maybe three, and you’ve hooked up. Maybe it was even good.

So how do you know if this "friendship" is heading anywhere besides an awkward conversation about how someone isn’t looking for anything serious?

How do you really tell if your hookup is looking for something serious? Well, here are 9 telltale signs your hookup is more than just a hookup.

1. He’s willing to re-watch a pilot for a series he’s already two seasons into

If he’s on season four of Game of Thrones, and he wants to watch the pilot with you, it isn’t because he’s so hype about this upcoming season (the hype is so real).

It’s because he wants you to like what he likes. And he wants to be able to talk to you about it. No one wants to rewatch a pilot with someone they don’t care about, especially because of the potential vulnerability and scrutiny associated with showing someone your favorite show.

2. His friends have heard of you

The fact that you’re meeting his friends isn’t a sign in itself-- it makes sense that you and a few of your friends would meet up with him and his friends around last call on a Saturday.

But if his friends say something that gives it away that he’s been talking about you like, “Oh man, Mark said you’d wear that hat,” or “Mark said you love chugging Bud Lights,” that probably means you’re in. You should wait for the guy that talks about you to his friends.

Actually, better yet, you should wait for the guy that talks about you to strangers.

3. He remembers stuff about you

Like, you’re about to order pizza and he says, “You like buffalo chicken pizza, right?” Or he texts you to come over and says, “I’m wearing that cologne you like.”

Or, when he buys you a drink, he remembers what your favorite beer is. If he remembers details about you, it means you’re sticking in his mind. Which means he probably likes you.

If he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t be worried about remembering things about you. He’d just be worried about his you-know-what.

4. You hangout without drinking

Did you hang out sober? Did you do it sober? Was it good? You’re either great friends with benefits, or something is developing here. Who wants to hang out with someone they don’t like sober?

The answer is no one, obviously. If I were to hang out with someone I wasn’t interested in ultimately pursuing something romantic with, I would make sure there was alcohol involved.

5. He orders your favorite food

... Before you get there. It’s one thing to have hookup one night and then be like, oh... we forgot to eat dinner!

It’s another thing completely if he already has the food waiting when you get there. If he already ordered by the time you arrived, it means a couple things.

One, like I said, he’s remembering things about you. Two, he was looking forward to / excited for your arrival. Which is why he took steps to prepare for it. And three, he wants to make you happy.

And I know no better way to make a girl happy than food.

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6. You still hang out when you have your period

This is definitely the most obvious one. Did you agree to hang out with him while you were on your period?

And I don’t mean so you could hookup regardless. I mean, you were bloated and felt gross, and you invited him over anyway.

And all you did is cuddle and watch Unbreakable.

Doesn’t sound like just a hook up anymore, right?

7. You talk about other things than just plans

Like he wants to know how you are. And what you’re up to today. And did you see the crazy explosion in the East Village?

He’s also not just curious whether you saw it, he wants to make sure you’re okay. It’s the same with asking about your emotional state.

If he just wanted to get in your pants, he probably wouldn’t ask you how you are. He probably wouldn’t be interested in taking a pulse on your emotional state.

On the flip side, if all he ever says is, "Want to hang out on Thursday?" Then, at 3 a.m. on Saturday, "What're you doing?" He's probably not interested.

8. He pays

This one is obvious, outdated, and annoying, but if he pays, it’s a date. If he doesn’t, it’s not.

Here’s how we can subvert this anachronism: if you like him, go ahead and pay. It’s lame that girls have to sit around twiddling their thumbs waiting for the guy to decide if this is a date or not. If you want it to be a date, make it one.

The same goes for other things traditionally associated with only guys getting to do them. If you want to buy him flowers, buy him flowers.

Flowers are pretty, happy, living things, and if your hookup doesn’t feel happier after receiving them, you probably don’t want him in your life to begin with.

9. He’s willing to come to your apartment

Again, it’s upsetting the bar is so low, but if he’s consistently willing to make the trip to your apartment, it’s a good sign. Think about it.

If I wasn’t into someone and just wanted him to hook up with me, I’d be perfectly content with laying back and sending a text, and if he wanted to leave his apartment, ride the subway, then walk to my apartment, I’d let him.

But if I liked him, I’d be willing to travel to see him. That’s all there is to it.