Exercises

Change your state - change your behaviours - get better results

Start with the end in mind

This is a very powerful exercise and one that will feel incredibly difficult if you've never stoped to give yourself permission to dream of the life you want. Perhaps before doing this - it's worth thinking about the life you want to live. If you stepped into your dream life - what would it look like?​

DETERMINE YOUR CHRONOTYPE WITH DANIEL H. PINK

The online version of the Munich Chronotype Questionnaire (MCTQ), which until recently existed here, is in the process of being moved by its creators to another location on the web. A useful alternative is the Horne-Ostberg Morning-Eveningness Questionnaire, a version of which you can find here.

BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM

Meet yourself - You might really like you.- Spend time with people who make you feel good- Turn up the volume on your positive thoughts and press delete on the negative ones- Start to tell people around you what you like about them- When you receive a compliment just say Thank you!

Reconstructing your values

It is one thing to recognize what values you possess and to admit that some of them may not bring you meaning, fulfillment, or happiness. It is an entirely different thing to understand what values will actually bring you the life you want. This process involves aligning your values with your "ideal life" in the future.

Have you ever had a conversation like this: Monday morning coffee with a friend: She asks: "How was your weekend?" You say: "It was great, thanks." And she says: "Nice, what did you get up to?" And you say: "Well... hmm... let me think. Err...

HOW TO BE HAPPIER

MANDALA DESIGNS AND PRINTABLES

A Life Question is a powerful spiritual practice that helps you to live your life in a more conscious and creative way. The idea is to choose a question and live with it for a period of time – a day, a week, a year, a lifetime.

The Austrian poet and novelist, Rainer Maria Rilke coined the term “living questions.” He encouraged us to “love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language.” In other words, don’t try to answer your life question too quickly. Rilke said, “Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”

Here are five reasons why a spiritual practice of a life question can be of benefit to you.

1. Lens of AttentionA great life question acts like a magnifying glass or a microscope that helps you pay attention to the details of your life. What is the new story emerging in your life right now? What is life asking you to pay attention to?

2. Clarity of FocusMost people don’t need more therapy; they need more clarity. We aren’t broken; we don’t need fixing; we just need more clarity. A great life question helps you focus and get clear on what’s important. For example: what is real success?

3. A Guided LifeIn my daily journal, I write at the top of each new page, “What would YOU like me to know today?” Throughout the day, I stay tuned for guidance from my soul, my angels, butterflies and robins, and other Divine messengers.

4. Dancing with LifeA life question is like the solo violin that dances with the whole orchestra during a concerto. It connects you with the One Infinite Intelligence that is expressing Itself through everything and everyone. How could I be enjoying my life more right now?

5. A Living ConversationA life question can be the inspiration for a rich conversation with a friend, a partner, a parent, a coach, or a mentor. We evolve through the conversations we dare to have. Who appeared in your mind first and what life question would you like to explore with them?

design your life

Defining success

Our fundamental human needs

Cognitive biases

A cognitive bias is a systematic error in thinking that affects the decisions and judgments that people make.

What Causes Cognitive Biases?If you had to think about every possible option when making a decision, it would probably take a lot of time to make even the simplest choice. Because of the sheer complexity of the world around us and the amount of information in the environment, it is necessary sometimes to rely on some mental shortcuts that allow us to act quickly.

Cognitive biases can be caused by a number of different things, but it is these mental shortcuts that often play a major contributing role. These mental shortcuts are known as heuristics, and while they can often be surprisingly accurate, they can also lead to errors in thinking. Social pressures, individual motivations, emotions, and limits on the mind's ability to process information can also contribute to these biases. (info from here)

Common cognitive biases

The four tendenciesclick here to take the quiz​​Gretchen Rubin devised the “Four Tendencies” framework to describe how a person responds to inner and outer expectations. By getting to know your tendency you can find ways to harness the strengths and discover how you can really get things done. ​​

The 21 day project - Gretchen Rubin

Day 1: Write your personal commandmentsDay 2: Ask yourself the five fateful questions:What am I waiting for? What would I do if I weren’t scared?What steps would make things easier? What would I do if I had all the time and money in the world?What is the worst, and the best, that could happen?Resolve to: “Ask the five fateful questions”—they’ll give you some insight into what might be holding you back.

Day 3: How well do you know yourself, ask yourself these questions:

If something is forbidden, do you want it less or more?Is there an area of your life where you feel out of control? Especially in control?If you unexpectedly had a completely free afternoon, what would you do with that time?Are you comfortable or uncomfortable in a disorderly environment?Are you motivated by competition?Do you find it easier to do things for other people than to do things for yourself?How much TV do you watch in a week (and yes, this includes computer time spent watching videos, movies, YouTube)?Are you a morning person or a night person?What’s more satisfying to you: saving time or saving money?Do you like to be in the spotlight?Is your life “on hold” in any aspect? Until you finish your thesis, get married, lose weight, move to a new city?What would you do if you had more energy?If you suddenly had an extra room in your house, what would you do with it?If at the end of the year, you’d accomplished one thing, what’s the one accomplishment that would make the biggest difference to your happiness?The process of answering these questions is meant to help spur ideas for possible change. I often find that once I start paying attention to an area of my life, it becomes natural to make helpful alterations in my everyday habits.Resolve to: Ask yourself “How well do I know myself?”—and try to answer questions that will help you grasp your own nature.

Day 5: Are you a radiator or a drain?We’d all like to be radiators—but are we? Here are some questions to consider:

Do people seem to rise or fall in energy in your presence?

Do they speak in an animated way, or in a dull tone?

Are they eager to make plans and seem to trust those plans can be carried out?

Do groups tend to break apart when you join them?

WOOP my life - Woop exercise to get things done

WOOP is a practical, accessible, evidence-based mental strategy that people can use to find and fulfill their wishes and change their habits. WOOP stands for: wishing - outcomes - obstacles - planning.

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

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36 questions to fall in love with anyone

This is meant to be something you do with someone else - but I would encourage you to ask those questions to yourself and get to know yourself a little better.

HUMAN DESIGN THINKING

Your values - how can you work with your values and implement the good and change the bad

It is one thing to recognize what values you possess and to admit that some of them may not bring you meaning, fulfillment, or happiness. It is an entirely different thing to understand what values will actually bring you the life you want. This process involves aligning your values with your "ideal life" in the future.

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