Haha, I may not have followed etiquette on this one… I sent out reminders a week in advance, telling people they had a week! Then I sent out reminders on the day of, asking people to respond to my email with their meal selection if they hadn’t dropped their RSVP in the mail already! I’m so impatient, but it worked!

Definitely wait a day or so! Nothing bothers me more than people who start bothering me for things before a deadline or immediately at the deadline. I know you’re excited but sometimes it takes a while for people to firm up schedules.