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Why I Argue?

"Working with you is like working with a dictator, you never
let others have their way."

I am often accused of being argumentative. There are very
few people who haven’t blamed me yet, for challenging every single statement
they put in front of me. “You have to dispute everything”, “You always try to
impose your ideas” , "Why! Why! Why! You always do this Why! Why!" , “ Beta,
Har baat pe behas nahi karte” . After being on the receiving ends of all the
above and several other similar remarks for all these years made by almost
everyone I know and who knew me enough, this blog is my last attempt to redeem
my impression, on all, of a belligerent human being.

Yes! There are no doubts about me being inquisitive or
challenging others statement. I do that but the reasons behind my actions are
often misinterpreted. I frame my beliefs after a lot of introspection and thus
it is natural that I expect the same from everyone else. I suppose people should
know why they believe in something. Yes I ask ‘Why’. Not because I think you are
wrong but because I want to know why you are right. I believe ‘WHY’ is the most
important of all questions and If you can determine the answer of WHY, you can
somehow figure out all other riddles. Yes, I argue. However, I don’t wish to go
against you, I wish you to convince me with your reasons because I believe it
is not just important to perform right actions you must have right reasons for it.
I don’t wish to irritate you, to dominate you, I don’t wish you to kowtow to my
resistance; I want you to fight back. I don’t make arguments to win or lose; I
make arguments to rationalize results. I
don’t argue to make you believe what I believe,I argue to ensure you have
reasons for what you believe.

There are two contrasting quotes of mine (they are two
general can be anyone else’s) regarding beliefs which I have stated at two
separate occasions,

“Your belief is your faith. What’s a faith when you have
doubts about it?”

“Beliefs are not
meant to be absolute. They are always subject to reasoning and can change with
better understanding.”

Those who know me well enough and for long enough (very few)
know which of the aforementioned quotes I truly believe in. And, so, for
everyone else, I believe nothing is definitive (Read About Me :P).

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About Me

I believe nothing is definitive and thus, I can't really describe how I am. In actuality, how I am to X will certainly differ from how I am to Y. However, due to concurrence of opinion a majority of such X and Ys (my friends) I am forced to believe that I do possess certain traits which is witnessed by most of them. It is indisputable that I am more serious than I should be.
I am dogmatic(they all say and I always disagree, which eventually confirms their acquisition). I am weird and boring(disputable). However everything mentioned can be false as well. It depends on how much you know me..and frankly speaking you never know enough.
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