Sexual frequency declines in all long-term relationships, just a bit more drastically for women with women. Is frequency the only measure we should be looking at? Blair’s research suggests not. For lesbians, it seems just as satisfying to have fewer sexual encounters, to spend more time on each one, and to know that both partners will have at least one orgasm when they do choose to have sex. For many women, exchanging quantity for quality may seem an exchange worth making. What’s so bad about that?

So I totally watch this show on Oxygen called My Big Fat Revenge and one of the women that appeared on the reality series was a comedian named Bo Sellers. After appearing on the show not that long ago, she came out as a total lez, which I’m thrilled about because she’s gorgeous and awesome. Anyhow, she’s been blogging about love and sex stuff for YourTango, and her new piece is called “I’m More Single Than Tom Hanks in Cast Away.” You’re welcome!

Speaking of womyn’s comedy, a new web series called Rods and Cones is about that very subject and coming our way soon.

“I was in high school when I came out. I was 17 and I heard that song and I was floored. I was so excited because it captured all of those feelings in high school: your first love, and they don’t even know that you exist and then they do know you exist. It captured that time for me, that first love time.”

She is so awesome. I’ve been doing parties for her over the years. She loves music so much that it makes her one of my favorite people to spin for. She loves to dance and have fun. I definitely sweat when I DJ for her.

The rest of the interview is pretty great, too. Sam says of being attacked on Twitter:

I get called “you fucking ugly dyke” and the ugly part bothers me the most. That is like calling me “fucking ugly Samantha.” I hope they feel better for throwing that out there. It is like someone calling me a “kike” because I am Jewish. I think we are in an age where people should be held accountable for the things they say. … get some of that but I usually just correct their grammar, like “Your an ugly dyke” and there is no apostrophe R E. They need to learn how to spell… When I am making music I like to get a message across. I wish it wasn’t coming from a place where I’m a minority. It has more of an impact when it is a straight person telling people that it is not alright to treat others that way. Sometimes I wish I had the voice without being pigeonholed into saying something because I am a lesbian and it is politically correct. When can I eat Chick-fil-A?

I love Au Revoir Simone‘s new dragtastic video for “Crazy.” Thanks to my ex-girlfriend for sending me the link! (She loves it when I call it that instead of “friend.” One in the same!)

This is from Heather Hogan so listen up:

See You Next Tuesday, an indie film about a single pregnant woman and her — capital “D” — dysfunctional family (including her lesbian sister and her sister’s girlfriend) premieres in New York this Saturday, December 14 at BAMCinematek at 9:45 p.m. The Guardian named the movie one of the “six excellent lesbian films you never got the chance to see.” And Filmmaker magazine called it “a genuine discovery, a whirling dervish of a movie, some kind of roiling central-Brooklyn freak show. If that sounds like your Girls-flavored cup of tea, you can buy tickets online now.