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Helen Ellis makes me laugh out loud. If you can use some of
that, you may want to read this book. Thanks go to Doubleday and Net Galley for
the review copy.

Southern Lady Code is a title that carries a code of its own. Some people use the word “lady” to describe
European royalty; some to describe a courteous woman, which is what I
anticipated here; and some use it to describe a well-mannered woman with a very
comfortable income, which appears to be the author’s operating definition. In
terms of the “code,” I thought I’d be reading straight satire, but discovered
that she has provided a combination of self-help tips and searing, sometimes
raucous humor. It works surprisingly well.

I have never made a cheese log before or wanted one, but
Ellis’s recipe sounds so persuasively delicious that I may try it. That said,
my favorite essays were short on advice and long on humor. I nearly hurt myself
laughing over the construction man she found masturbating in her bedroom—did I
mention that she gets a little edgy here?
And “The Ghost Experience” is massively entertaining. There’s a lot of good material here. Though at times her outlook is a little more
conservative than my own, I like the things she says in support of gay and
trans friends.

Ultimately, I suspect that I am not the target audience for
Ellis, who in her middle-aged years is dispensing life skills wrapped in
bountiful amounts of humorous anecdotes. She is writing to her peers and to
those women younger than herself. I am
ten or twenty years older than this woman, but I still came away impressed. So,
ladies and women, if you can look past the assumption of a greater-than-average
income, you’ll have a good time here, and if you can’t, try to get this
collection at the library and read selectively, because more of these essays will
resonate than not, for all of us.

I rate this book four giggles, and it will be available to
the public tomorrow, April 16, 2019.