I haven’t posted in a while since I have been so busy with buying a new house (yay) and wedding planning on top of that. Since my wedding is creeping up VERY quickly I need some advice with something I have started thinking about recently!

So here it is: I have both a MatronOH and MaidOH because I couldn’t pick one. My MatronOH and I used to be super close and we were best friends, until she introduced me to her brother (my fiance) and now we have grown apart, especially since I moved ten hours away from her to be with her brother. Not to mention I have changed a little and become a lot more logical and less emotional so I don’t feel we get along as well anymore. I was the MaidOH in her wedding a few years back too.

My MaidOH is my best friend- we are super close (even though we live far apart- I also moved away from her when I moved) and I talk to her about everything! I know I will be her MaidOH whenever she gets married too (she’s not engaged or anything though.)

I have no idea who should 1. Stand next to me at the alter? 2.Sit next to me at dinner? 3. Sign my marriage certificate? I was thinking that whoever stood next to me at the alter could switch with the other to sit next to me at dinner but then I forgot about the signing of the marriage certificate part! I am by far closer to my Maid of Honor, but my Matron gets offended easily and is going to be my sister-in-law…. HELP PLEASE!

BlondieBee28: I picked your future SIL to stand beside you, then your Maid of Honor sits beside you at reception and signs the certificate. My reasons:

Your SIL gets the ‘honor’ of standing beside you at the ceremony, and will be in the pictures that way – surely she can’t expect to do it ALL since she knows you also have a MaidOH, so hopefully she won’t be offended.

Since you and SIL aren’t as close anymore, maybe you’d have more fun/be less stressful for you to sit by your Maid at the reception, and she gets the honor of signing the certificate. You would have less direct interaction with your SIL this way . . . (i.e. you won’t have to talk to SIL at all at the ceremony, then you can have fun with your Maid of Honor at the reception, when you will have plenty to talk about, while still being able to interact with SIL but in a less direct way)