November 22, 2012

So many reasons to give thanks

On this Thanksgiving Day in 2012, I feel not only very pregnant with an active and (from all indications) healthy fetus, but I am pregnant with much good fortune. Although my life is far from perfect, I know that it suits me and my so-called problems are manageable, particularly when I think about them in juxtaposition with the legitimate hardship and challenges facing so many others in America and around the world. The opportunity to give thanks should not only be about counting one's blessings but also about thinking creatively and with generosity through the myriad of ways to pay forward one's good fortune. Whether it be through volunteering, through monetary or material donation, through kindness, or through key moments of empathetic exchange with others, there are very many avenues through which to do just that.

I love this holiday for a bunch of reasons that I've counted
in previous posts. But to reiterate, I love that Thanksgiving is a
secular national holiday. If we discount Black Friday's growing
encroachment, it's not at all about material acquisition (more on that
tomorrow). Thanksgiving also involves an inordinate amount of food, side
dishes, and desserts. But most of all, it encourages people to linger
in the space of gratitude for longer than they would otherwise. And for a
lot of us, that practice of giving thanks gets ritualized and shared
around the table with loved ones. Since I was a child my family has been
in the habit of going around the room and talking about the aspects of
life for which we're grateful.

This year I am so thankful for my loved ones who have been incredibly
enthusiastic and supportive of this new family-friendly venture that my
partner and I have decided to pursue. I am thankful to be adequately
insured and have access to capable medical care. I am thankful for my
job and for understanding coworkers (who treat me and my impending
maternity leave as something to celebrate rather than be burdened from).
I am thankful for my students who not only motivate me to want to learn
more, try harder, be better, etc., but who have been very sweet and
caring in response to my "delicate' condition. I am thankful for my
partner who is as kind, generous, supportive, and loving as he is
hilarious, whip-smart, and hardworking. I am thankful for our parents
who will give our child a grandparenting experience 6-persons strong! As
someone who grew up knowing only one of her grandparents, it is not
lost on my how unique and lucky she'll be. I am thankful for so much
more than I can articulate in such a confined writerly space.

Most of the time I believe that the world could use more gratitude and more hefty helpings of empathy. But on this particular holiday it feels as if we collectively come a bit closer to reaching our "thankful" and reflective potential. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!!