To be mildly concerned at school putting girl's knickers on DS1 after a toilet accident?

Despite being dry in the day for quite a while, he has recently started wetting himself - I suspect a UTI so will be booking him a GP appointment tomorrow.

After apparently having an accident at school, someone gave him a pair of girl's knickers. They are pale pink with a picture of a cute dalmation on.

Normally I wouldn't mind - they're only pants - but he had an after school sports club which meant he had to get changed in front of his classmates, some of whom would not hesitate to point it out and ridicule him.

Even worse - his own wet pants are nowhere to be found. DS1 thinks the TA might have put them in another child's bag by mistake. Mortified!

Well, I guess they hand out whatever pants they have to hand. I can see it would be horrid if other people then saw and teased him though. Perhaps you could send a spare pair in for him (in a bag to hang on his peg or to keep in his PE kit bag) in case of future accidents?

Dd1 came home in spare boys pants a couple of times, I just sent in some girls knickers for them to keep as spares for the class (I didn't want to send her with her own spares as I didn't want her to think I was expecting her to have an accident).

Surely to goodness they would have a spare pair of boys' pants and the sensitivity to use them. I would hope this is thoughtless and unintentional but they should appreciate the potential for humiliation, particularly on top if the wetting.

Obviously you look for boys/girls pants in an accident but it's not a shop! It's a school and there are only so many spare pairs to be had.

I have had to give girls boys pants and visa versa. They can't go without.

The wet ones may be still on the toilet floor In a bag, or your ds may have lost them changing for footie.

After school activities arnt supervised by TAs as most are only paid until 3.Don't overthink this op it happens all the time, so put a spare pair on his peg and don't worry. Hope he is sorted soon but honestly it's par for the course at 5.

Your poor DS, hope he didn't get teased. I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and assume that was all they had, perhaps they had a run of boys having accidents that day. My little boy often used to get sent home from nursery in girls' clothes (floral jeans not full on frilly dresses) I used to wonder whether they did it to make sure I didn't take a liking to them and pinch them! I had sent spares in for him btw but they kept going astray.

This happened to DS - it was at nursery but he was 4.6 so not much difference in age. He can't remember now if it's any consolation. Agree it was awkward re after school activity Def make sure he has some spares in his bag just in case

Why is there a difference between a boy in girls' pants and a girl in boys' pants? DS2 had been put in girls' pants after accidents at nursery/school (one or both, can't remember). I didn't think to worry. He just laughed about having to wear knickers because there was nothing else.

Once during toilet training at nursery they had to put him in a skirt because they'd completely run out of spare trousers in his room (and he'd exhausted the spares I'd sent in). I thought it was pretty funny rather than anything else.

I have worked in a school and we even sharpied in massive writing that these pants belonged to the school, and yet we don't get them back. Why a parent would keep pants with the school name emblazoned on them is anybody's guess.

So if you have a girl and boys pants are all they have, then that is what they are given.

As a lovely gesture, if children grow out of pants, please donate them to the school.