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We’ve Been Busy!!

I didn’t intend to drop off the face of the earth during the Christmas/New Year season. But then, when I think back over the last 10 days, I really didn’t have any time to do anything other then clean my kitchen, do loads of laundry and enjoy some pretty magical moment’s.

First, December 22 we got a text from a friend who was supposed to stay at our house from the evening of December 25 until the morning of December 27. They changed their plans and were arriving 3 full days early. In fact, they’d be at our house shortly. Ummm…. we had no groceries or even clean bedding ready. So much for enjoying the evening at home quietly. And, while it took all the courage I could muster I actually told her they were welcome, except the morning of December 25th is reserved for just Mr. MPB, Baby MPB and I. I truly felt horrible, and basically told them their was no room left at the inn for Christmas eve. She understood and they stayed with her family for the one night. But, we still had to get groceries and clean the entire house in a matter of hours.

Then, while our friends stayed at our house without us, we went to my parents December 23 and came home on December 24th late at night. And to make it extra fun, we drove both ways in a horrible snow storm. One way is typically just over three hours. This time, each way was over 5 hours. Oh, and we stopped counting the cars in the ditches because the number was just becoming too scary. Honestly, because of the road conditions we should have just stayed home. Baby MPB didn’t sleep well at all at my parents house, and it was generally just a bad scene, with a few adorable first Christmas moments with Baby MPB and his cousins and grandparents thrown in to make the visit worth it. We got home on December 24th at about midnight but thankfully we had already wrapped and built Baby MPB’s Christmas gifts so we didn’t have to keep our eyes open much longer.

December 25, our first Christmas morning as a family of 3 people and 1 dog. I felt like I was living in a dream coming true. Then our friends arrived and we made a great Christmas dinner – roasted partridge with sweet potatoes and pears with a caramelized pear for dessert (a play on partridge in a pear tree). We had such a great visit and I’m so glad Baby MPB was able to spend part of his first Christmas with these friends. It was perfect. It was the magical first Christmas I had been wishing for.

December 26 and 27 were our “calm” days with our friends here. They are generally self-sufficient so it wasn’t terribly stressful. Just no real down-time. In fact, our Christmas tree and all the Christmas decorations came down on December 26th. Our tree was the very first tree at the tree recycling drop-off spot.

Then, all the crazy broke out on December 27th when Mr. MPB’s parents and sibling’s family arrived and have been staying at our house since. (We decided to put them all in the basement, and the siblings who arrived first asked to put the grandparents in the office so that they could also have their space. So all the people with babies had comfortable beds and space). Once everyone arrived, the crazy hasn’t stopped. Seriously, I mean pure crazy. At one point we had over 30 people in our house, which we fed and cleaned up after, but also had lots of fun with. But, at another point, Baby MPB’s grandmother stormed out of the room because Baby MPB wanted to be held by me and not her (he’s now sick and super clingy/cuddly and like almost all sick babies just wants to be with his mommy). At another point Baby MPB’s grandmother aggressively pushed our dog to the side within 6″ of a young child’s face – I told her sternly not to push our dog, especially around children as it’s not safe. This resulted in her refusing to speak to me for nearly a full day, which wasn’t awkward at all for everyone in the hose (sense the sarcasm). But, I still maintain I was in the right because let’s be honest pushing a dog is never okay, but it’s especially not okay when she pushed a dog into a child’s face. (Our dog has basically spent the rest of the visit in our bedroom, because we simply cannot risk that type of behaviour causing our dog to react negatively with a child around). At another point my sister-in-law and I were asked not to be in the family photo because we are not real “MPB’s”. Oh, and I’ve had 3 migraines since the 27th, so I’m also really just not feeling my best. In fact, my New Years Eve consisted of going to bed at 10pm and snapping at Mr. MPB to go to the guest room when he came to bed (not my best moment, and not the ideal way to end the year).

Truthfully, right now, asides from the return drive home after dropping some people off at the airport, this is the very first moment I’ve had to myself since December 22. And my quiet moment has been created by a family outing which I did not join.

I’m overwhelmed and I’m exhausted. But the worst part is that Baby MPB is also overwhelmed, exhausted and now sick. In fact, last night, he freaked out in a way that we’ve never seen from him before – throwing food, refusing to eat, crying and screaming uncontrollably, etc. At that point, mamma bear came out and I took him upstairs to his room and just the two of us played together until he went to bed. I didn’t even bring him back downstairs to say good night to the extended family. I didn’t even attempt to feed him dinner again. Instead, he had a bottle, and lots of snuggles and went to bed. And, he slept for the entire night.

Mr. MPB and I have been communicating better with each other this trip then we did when his parents visited last time. Which has made a tremendous difference to my sanity and hopefully his too. And, we have already decided we are absolutely not doing this amount of crazy again next year. Somehow we have to find time to see family/friends, but not for 10 days straight. Please, please, please remind me of this again in 10-11 months time!!

But, I have to admit, I’m holding onto the magical memories of our first Christmas with Baby MPB. And even with all the overwhelming crazy, I am beyond thankful to be this little boys mother. He truly has made all my dreams come true.

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I feel like there’s almost always some sort of drama when family is together for any prolonged period of time!! That being said…I feel like your MIL needs to grow up. When a baby is not feeling well, of COURSE they want their mom. She should know that!! Also, to ask you guys to not be in a family photo…I’m shocked your husbands didn’t stand up for you on that one and insist you be in it. But I’m so happy that you’ve had some fun and magical moments through it all. Hopefully once everyone heads home you will regain some of your sanity!

Yes, there is always drama!! Always! And I agree, sick babies always want their parents! As for the husbands standing up for us, we all (husbands and wives) know there are some battles just not worth having and this was one of those. I definitely wasn’t annoyed at Mr. MPB over this incident, because that’s just what his mom is like.

I’m sorry his mom is like that. That at least is the one thing I will say about B’s family…as annoying and frustrating as they can be sometimes, they have at least always welcomed me as part of the family, from when we very first started dating. All families should be that way! When does everyone head home?

I’m so glad for this. I’m glad that the guest accommodations worked out. Also, good for you for sticking to your guns about Christmas morning. I know that probably helped with the impending craziness that was about to commence. Michael and I had a communication malfunction at Thanksgiving and it got better at Christmas, so I know how wonderful and necessary that can be. And being that I’m a dog trainer and pet sitter, I cheered in my seat with the way you handled the dog issue. I hope you have a less drama-filled chaos this month so you and Baby can recooperate!

Oh wow it sounds very overwhelming to have company all the time, but good job for accommodating your friends while being firm on what you wanted for your family. Happy that you still had the magical moments that you wanted for and with your baby. ❤

Um, what to you and your SIL not being included in the family photo?! That sounds crazy. I would not have taken that well. But loved lots of this update – I totally related to the feeling of having a baby at Christmas as a dream come true. ❤

Oh wow, what a Christmas!!! Sounds crazy busy but glad you also got some good times in. I freak out at hosting even for a few days when all the people are well behaved so the fact that you did so long with a crazy MIL is super impressive. Wonderful to hear you and Mr MPB navigated it well too 🙂 Happy Holidays and a wonderful new year ahead for the MPB family xx

Sounds like a whole lot of beautiful memories and madness, but really, isn’t that life!?! LOL! I’m, glad this was the Christmas you always dreamed of, because we all know how swell dreams can go. And Callie and I have given ourselves permission to just sorta skip all of the Holiday hoopla next year since all of the kids are out of their “1’s” and no one can say, “but it’s his first christmas!” (since Austin had a Hospital Holiday) last year. Next year, I’m pretty sure it’ll just be the six of us at home…

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