EMBRACING SAME SEX MARRIAGE

I am going to be really honest and open about this incredibly controversial topic. Controversial is a word that really shouldn't even play into that sentence, but unfortunately it is!

Three of my very closest friends are gay. Forgive my candid terminology and political incorrectness, but they don't mind me using the term 'gay', so rather than pretending to speak in a way I wouldn't usually, I am just going to roll with it.

To me, it has nothing to do with the almighty quaffer wording of #lovewins, or the fact that the US are ahead of us in our political decisions. It has nothing to do with the fact that I, as a Christian have beliefs built on different foundations.

As far as I am concerned, marriage is interpreted by the individual. What marriage means to a Christian, or a person of certain faith is entirely different to what marriage means to a person whom is not Christian, or who is of a different faith. It is not anyone's position to judge or instill a rule, or regulation about who can, and cannot be married. As someone mentioned recently in the social media outrage on this topic, marriage has been around for centuries – far longer than any particular governmentry rule, or any court system.

My interpretation is that marriage is the commitment of two people to one another. Be they in the 'Eyes of the Lord', or in the eyes of one another, marriage is about committing to one another in a public {or sometimes very personal} forum. Many of us don't even care about the 'piece of paper' that supposedly 'seals the deal' on a marriage ceremony. Heck, most of us don't even care about the actual ceremony these days – bring on the party I say!

My partner and I are not married. We may one day in the future. We may not. Our commitment to one another, and our super cute kid; Frankie Joy, and our goofy oversized Great Dane; Duchess are a pretty good indication of our priorities and focus.

Don't get caught up in the fight for or against same sex marriage. Get caught up in the reason you want to get married. Get caught up in the real reason we are fighting for equal rights, for equal love, for same sex anything.

Whatever your personal opinion is on the topic - don't be the douche that ostracizes someone else for who they are, and their right to share the same opportunities that you may have taken for granted. Respect and appreciate how that person may feel on the topic, regardless of your own opinions, beliefs, circumstances – particularly if you are single!

Lead by example. Don't judge, and as far as I am concerned – "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all!".

And, from a professional stance – I say bring on the world of same sex marriage. Can you imagine incredible creativeness that we as wedding planners and stylists will have the pleasure of indulging in?! There's a whole new world of awesomeness waiting out there!

My job and my passion is wedding styling and planning, so, come at me, I say.

The Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Quid Pro Quo.