Post by New_me on Feb 26, 2015 13:28:20 GMT -7

My husband of 27 years is a sex addict in denial. I have confronted him and he continues to deny, minimalize, rationalize, gas light and is acting out. I have watched as this has progressed over the past 4 years and I have had enough and am preparing to leave and take care of myself. I pray that he comes to his senses and realizes the damage he has done and the pain he has caused . Protecting his secrets and acting out are more important to him than to seek any help to keep his family together. Your prayers are appreciated.

Post by KevinesKay on Feb 27, 2015 0:24:16 GMT -7

Dear Lord,

We lift up New_me and her husband before you. I pray that he comes to his senses and reaches out for help. Find a way, Holy Spirit, to shatter his pride and shame so that he longer keeps this secret double life.

We also pray for strength, wisdom, and guidance for New_me. Help her through this painful process. We would like to see this marriage restored. Thank you for hearing and answering our prayer. We receive. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen

New_me,

Please let us know if we can help in any way. Please be good to yourself, and continue to seek out the Lord through prayer, fellowship, and the Word. Thank you for sharing.

Post by Nikanor on Mar 1, 2015 8:43:34 GMT -7

New_me,I too will be praying for God's intervention in your husband's life and for His support for you during this time. As a moderator here at BG I want to Welcome you to our forum. Reach out often and know that no question is too outrageous or stupid here. This is a safe place to vent and seek help for both you and your husband. You have already met a couple of our members and there are more who will help and respond.Denial is a very common reaction by addicts. Until he decides to seek help it is likely that his behavior will continue to degrade. But don't think that he doesn't want to stop. Most men in this addiction want to stop but don't know how, particularly because they don't want anyone to know of their addiction which they see as incredibly shameful and embarrassing. See my article in the Resources section titled Why Men Won't Seek Help. Do you have a church or pastor who you can talk to? Both for your own support and for hopefully some counseling for your husband. Does your husband have any close friends? Often when deep into their addiction men have few friends and become very isolated. He needs some one-on-one to begin with but ultimately he'll need a support group or accountability group. Keep us in the loop and up to date.Blessings and God's peace be with you,Nikanor

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