Girls dominate boys in education, from elementary through graduate school. Women are taking over the workforce. Hundreds of formerly male-dominated careers are becoming feminized. More and more wives outearn their husbands. Fathers are fading away inside their own families, and rising illegitimate births and single-parenthood are pushing them out of the child-rearing picture altogether.

Boys and men are passively watching it happen. Many of them, rather than working to stay ahead of or even keep up with women, are responding by waging something of a sit-down strike. They’re playing video games more than 2½ times as much as girls. They’re living with their parents at double the rate of their female peers. They’re dropping out of the labor pool in record numbers.

The result is effectively a reversal of a male-female dynamic that has existed for virtually all of human history.

Feminists may celebrate, but more and more people are recognizing that this trend has come with some steep costs we’re only starting to see. Even women are frustrated with today’s breed of spineless, ambitionless manboys. There is a genuine problem here.

The Ambition Gap

Women’s ambition is soaring. The facts are scrupulously spelled out in recent books like Hanna Rosin’s The End of Men: And the Rise of Women and Liza Mundy’s The Richer Sex: How the New Majority of Female Breadwinners Is Transforming Sex, Love, and Family. Women are pursuing higher education in far greater numbers than men. They’re remaining aloof from serious relationships so as not to derail their career aspirations (one college senior told Rosin that guys “are the new ball and chain”). Research shows young women expect higher earnings and better professional advancement than young men do.

And that is the flip side of this story. While women are surging with confidence and enjoying greater success, men are shrinking back. There is a growing ambition gap between the sexes. Women are increasingly driven to succeed in school, work and life; men seem ever more willing just to occupy a comfy spot on the couch.

“All my top academic students, my really top performers, have heavily been women,” Jeanine Mount, associate dean for academic affairs at the University of Wisconsin-Madison School of Pharmacy, told Rosin. “I don’t know why. They are not inherently more intelligent than the men. Maybe they bring a different kind of focus to their work.”

Mount calls the men at her school a “lost generation.” They tend to be less driven, she says; they don’t have the same “hunger.”

Not long ago, men had an ample supply of that “hunger.” Today it is broadly, demonstrably absent. It’s as if the fire in their bellies has been quenched, on a massive scale. Or, perhaps more accurately, it has relocated—into the bosom of women.

Mount notes that virtually all the leaders within her university’s various student groups—school government, service organizations, campus fraternities—are women. Regarding college students, Rosin writes, “Guys high-five one another when they get a C, while girls beat themselves up over a B-minus. Guys play video games in their dorm rooms while girls crowd the library. Girls get their degrees with no drama, while guys seem always in danger of drifting away.”

Measurements of men’s shriveling ambitions are everywhere. Consider the five milestones that sociologists traditionally use to define the transition to adulthood: finishing school, leaving the parents’ nest, becoming financially independent, getting married and having a child. In 1960, about two thirds of men had passed all five milestones by age 30. By 2000, it had dropped to half that. In 1970, four in five 25-to-29-year-old men were married. Now the figure is two in five.

What are these guys doing? Nearly six in ten of them—among 18-to-24-year-old males—live with their parents. Even among 25-to-34-year-olds, it’s still almost two in ten.

Lest you think this is simply a sign of today’s troubled economy, consider: Those figures are almost double the rate among women the same age.

And wouldn’t you know it, young men seem perfectly content with—or perhaps complacent about—their dependency. They’ve grown up in a world that praises them indiscriminately and teaches them never to judge. As a result, research shows, these “failures to launch” actually have ample self-esteem, and they’re confident success will come to them (though they’re not necessarily motivated to chase it down). They feel plenty good about themselves, living in Mom’s basement.

The ladies, on the other hand, aren’t impressed.

Marriage Dream Vs. Single Reality

For young people, the idea of marriage still holds considerable charm. A 2006 poll showed that more than 80 percent of high-school seniors expect to get married, and 90 percent of those assume they’ll remain wed to the same person for life. A survey of college students in England found 95 percent want to marry.

As to what that relationship would look like—well, that gets trickier.

The teen boys I spoke with last summer all said they’d like a spouse. Then I asked them an interesting question: Would you want to marry someone who was better educated or who earned more money than you? They all said no.

Some people may consider their thinking archaic, a byproduct of sexist socialization. Nevertheless, two truths remain: First, despite the fact that the male breadwinner model is actually seldom taught anymore—if anything, alternative ideas are far more aggressively promoted—remnants of it remain ingrained in the minds of both men and women. And second, wherever this thinking comes from, it is increasingly at odds with reality. As Rosin writes, “The men may cling to traditional ideals about themselves as providers, but they are further than ever from being able to embody those ideals” (emphasis added throughout).

You can see that something has to give. Every year in America, 170,000 more women than men get bachelor’s degrees. And while the average man still earns 10 percent more than the average woman, guess what? Among 20-somethings, women now have the edge in the wage gap. Men who hold the advantage in education and earning power are a dying breed.

The numbers of well-educated, financially self-sufficient women are mushrooming beyond the numbers of men who could be so described. In fact, men are trending in the opposite direction. Today, for example, we see the highest percentage ever recorded of men of prime working age who are not even working: about ONE IN FIVE. ONE FIFTH OF MEN. Compare that to 1950, when it was one in 20.

“Recent years have seen an explosion of male joblessness and a steep decline in men’s life prospects that have disrupted the ‘romantic market’ in ways that narrow a marriage-minded woman’s options,” wrote Kate Bolick in the Atlantic. “ncreasingly, her choice is between deadbeats (whose numbers are rising) and playboys (whose power is growing)” (November 2011).

Who will these women marry? The bar for what they want out of marriage is climbing, while the field is regressing.

Unsurprisingly, more and more of them, rather than “marry down,” are resigning themselves to the idea that their best option is just to skip it.

All the Single Ladies

Sure, they’d love to marry if the right man showed up. Yet, in their view—frustrating as it may be that Mr. Right isn’t around—marriage is, ultimately, unnecessary. I can take care of myself—I don’t need a man to support me, the thinking goes. He’d just be another person to take care of—another mouth to feed.

“[A]s women have climbed ever higher, men have been falling behind,” laments Bolick. “We’ve arrived at the top of the staircase, finally ready to start our lives, only to discover a cavernous room at the tail end of a party, most of the men gone already, some having never shown up—and those who remain are leering by the cheese table, or are, you know, the ones you don’t want to go out with.”

The question is on the lips of women everywhere: What’s wrong with all these guys?

Most people can agree there is a problem, but far fewer recognize its full scope. When you talk to the women and meet the men, when you read the stories and look at the data, you begin to realize: Bolick is not describing a minor irritant, nor a disappointment that a few women share. She is chronicling the collapse of a social order.

Social historian Stephanie Coontz says we’re experiencing nothing less than “a historical revolution every bit as wrenching, far-reaching and irreversible as the Industrial Revolution.” As she told the Atlantic, “When it comes to what people actually want and expect from marriage and relationships, and how they organize their sexual and romantic lives, all the old ways have broken down.”

It’s a crucial development. And what compounds the problem is that few people understand its true cause. As a result, most of these women are unwittingly participating in an unhealthy cycle that is doomed only to expand the ranks of underachieving men and embittered women.

A Relic

To get to the cause, we have to take a look at “all the old ways” that Coontz says have broken down. Regrettably, because of political correctness, this is treacherous ground.

What look like many different changes in “what people actually want and expect from marriage and relationships, and how they organize their sexual and romantic lives,” at their heart all trace back to one thing: the decline of the male breadwinner.

Historically, what largely drove men’s march through the milestones to adulthood was the expectation that they would fulfill the role of provider. A man who is serious about the responsibility of supporting a family approaches life with a special focus. He looks for a profession that will provide financial stability; he pursues his education with that end in mind. For generations, this commonly recognized duty propelled men into the workforce; it often served as a prod to men’s ambition and did much to shape society. Even today, it remains a strong motivation to any young man who accepts it.

However, for two generations now, esteem for this role has been fading—to the point where today it is ignored, if not treated with contempt. Rising standards of living have grown more difficult to sustain on a single paycheck. Two-income families are the norm, and few men expect to be a family’s sole breadwinner. The notion of devoting one’s life to a job out of a duty to others has grown passé. Today’s premium on individualism, self-fulfillment and self-expression often turns a job search into a long, meandering voyage with unpredictable compensation. Marriage and family are also fading from fashion; to say that pop culture promotes singlehood is an understatement. And though young people still say they want to marry, ubiquitous acceptance of premarital sex definitely removes their urgency to do so. This encourages men to brush breadwinning aside and removes the pressure on them to grow up.

These are just a few of the many factors that have turned the male breadwinner model into a relic. Two additional factors are worth special consideration.

‘Build a Bridge and Get Over It’

First is the influence of feminism. The movement for women’s equality is fundamentally opposed to an arrangement where a woman depends on a man’s provision. “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” goes the slogan, summarizing the drive to empower women to stand on their own two feet.

Under this banner, women have left their homes and stormed the barricades, filling schools, businesses, offices, clinics, battlefields and nearly everywhere else. And they have proven themselves spectacularly capable as productive workers, entrepreneurs and earners.

Now, however, a remarkable spinoff of this development has become obvious: Men watching it happen have gotten the clear message that they’re not needed.

It’s a proven, demonstrable aftereffect: In areas where they compete, WOMEN’S SUCCESS TENDS TO DISCOURAGE MEN. You can attribute this to chauvinism, sexist indoctrination or whatever you would like, but it is real, and it is powerful. “What happens when women outperform men?” asked Sandy Hingston in Philadelphia Magazine. “Men withdraw from the field” (March 2012). Once they see that women are providing for themselves, they lose interest in taking over that job.

“Gender identity, sociologists say, is developed oppositionally,” Hingston wrote. “If boys see girls behaving in a certain way—working hard and excelling in school—they define masculinity in opposite terms: A real man doesn’t work hard at school or get good grades.”

This effect is apparent throughout the workforce. As women enter a profession, men lose interest in it. As Rosin details in her book, men are abandoning more and more jobs while women rush in to fill the void. Women’s options for employment keep expanding as men surrender them.

The upshot of all this, Rosin says, is “the emergence of an American matriarchy, where the younger men especially are unmoored, AND CLOSER THAN AT ANY OTHER TIME IN HISTORY TO BEING OBSOLETE—at least by most traditional measures of social utility. And the women are left picking up the pieces.”

Unmoored. Obsolete. These are painfully accurate terms for far too many of today’s aimless, indifferent young men.

What to do? No one suggests that the solution is for women to underachieve so men don’t feel threatened. The standard response is that men simply need to change their thinking.

“Build a bridge and get over it. Don’t just sit and whine and carry on.” That’s the advice of one woman whom Rosin quotes in her book. Hers is a typical story: After her husband supported his family on a manufacturing job for decades, the plant closed. Now he’s struggling, she’s the family’s breadwinner, he’s nostalgic for the old days (“Probably no one has had their wife move up the ladder as far as I’ve moved down,” he says)—and she’s had enough of his brooding.

In cases like this, the man’s sense of duty as a provider is viewed as the source of the problem. He just needs to learn to be comfortable in his diminished role.

But this man is old-school. The young bucks never had that sense of duty, and a diminished role is cool with them.

Kay Hymowitz exposes this trend in her book Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys. She describes how it becomes a self-reinforcing cycle, with men responding to women’s progress by disengaging, which enables women to make even greater strides. When the two sides meet on the dating scene, strong women grow exasperated about childish men, “then in fear and disgust either give up on any idea of a husband and kids or just go to a sperm bank and get the DNA without the troublesome man. But these rational choices on the part of women only serve to legitimize men’s attachment to the sand box. Why should they grow up? No one needs them anyway. There’s nothing they have to do. They might as well just have another beer.”

There’s nothing they have to do. This is the void that is currently left where that sense of duty to provide used to be.

Feminist social architects would call that progress.

Pig Heaven

Men’s self-destructive tendency to retreat under female pressure has synchronized with a second powerful factor eroding the male breadwinner model: the advent of modern time wasters tailor-made to suck the life out of the male mind.

Today’s media have become a black hole for male ambition and responsibility. As Hymowitz writes, “Relatively affluent, free of family responsibilities, and entertained by an array of media devoted to his every pleasure, the single young man can live in pig heaven—and often does.” This too is a self-perpetuating cycle: A man with little motivation to become a respectable breadwinner is more liable to devote his hours to senseless pursuits, which renders him even less capable of ever fulfilling that role.

Two of the most toxic examples are video games and pornography. Their most voracious consumers are young men, and they are ravaging society’s manhood on an epic scale.

Video game addiction is about four times more common among boys than girls. The average American boy spends 13 hours a week absorbed in video games, compared to five hours for the average girl. Half of college students admit that video games preempt their studies “some” or “a lot.” By the time the average American youth reaches drinking age, he will have devoted 10,000 hours to gaming—enough time to have earned two bachelor’s degrees.

The valuable time and energy being swallowed up by these games is problem enough, but the ghoulish content many of them contain makes their effect far worse. Millions of young people are immersing themselves in realistic games that encourage them to become killers, sadists, mutilators and monsters that use every conceivable weapon for murder, torture, dismemberment, decapitation, impaling, ethnic cleansing and rape.

Pornography has become mainstream, pervasive, socially accepted, and, thanks to the Internet, devilishly easy to get. It is also intensely addictive. The demand is monstrous: For every two Hollywood movies produced, 45 full-length commercial porn films are. The average high school boy watches porn two hours a week. Researchers conducting a study in July 2011 on porn and prostitution had so much difficulty finding non-users that they had to loosen their definition in order to muster up a hundred men for a control group.

These perverted images and warped concepts filling men’s minds have devastating effects on men’s relationships and mental health. A Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study found that regular pornography users have higher rates of depression and even physical health problems than non-users. “The reason is that porn may start a cycle of isolation,” the report explained. “Porn may become a substitute for healthy face-to-face interactions, social or sexual.” Psychologists say video games also tend to desensitize a user to reality and to real-life interactions with people.

In their book The Demise of Guys: Why Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It, psychologists Philip Zimbardo and Nikita Duncan contend that these media influences are actually rewiring men’s brains. “The excessive use of video games and online porn,” they write, “is creating a generation of risk-averse guys who are unable (and unwilling) to navigate the complexities and risks inherent to real-life relationships, school and employment.”

Think on that. These influences are CRUSHING SOCIETY’S MANHOOD. One specific proof: Academics have uncovered a correlation between porn use and an increase in a man’s willingness to move back in with his parents. Risk-averse men who cannot handle life’s complexities are deeply disadvantaged if not crippled in ever being able to support a family.

It’s impossible to measure precisely, but this media assault has contributed significantly to the development of today’s Incredible Shrinking Man.

Watch the video by Mark Dice called Left Handed Screwdriver, men built the modern world and it takes men to maintain it. These jobs they have created where they are filled with women who are the bread winners serve no purpose. Women are just being used as idiot drones by the Old World Order.

Take the all powerful state out of the equation and they will beg for the help of a man, the system will collapse because it is a mirage built on cons and cannot be sustained for any long period I believe.

Western society's MO is to funnel as many resources as possible to women. This is really the only trend a man in the West needs to know now. If you're stuck in the West, your only goal needs to be escape.

These perverted images and warped concepts filling men’s minds have devastating effects on men’s relationships and mental health. A Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study found that regular p*** users have higher rates of depression and even physical health problems than non-users. “The reason is that p**n may start a cycle of isolation,” the report explained. “p**n may become a substitute for healthy face-to-face interactions, social or sexual.”

However, i think this confuses cause and effect. It's more like p**n is the only outlet for men not finding satisfying, quality relations, not the other way around. From personal experience, when i'm out of the chump-zone i don't feel the need to look at p**n anymore.

1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?

Moretorque wrote:Take the all powerful state out of the equation and they will beg for the help of a man, the system will collapse because it is a mirage built on cons and cannot be sustained for any long period I believe.

+1 Priceless

1)Too much of one thing defeats the purpose.
2)Everybody is full of it. What's your hypocrisy?

I have my doubts about this alleged shortage of marriageable men. Sounds like typical garbage journalism designed to get people excited and boost readership.

Anyway, the answer for men is not to pine for the past. That's the true weakling approach. The answer is to go forward. Women don't need men to do real work, but they still want them for sex. The way forward is for men to become pimps, gigolos, boy-toys, kept men, whatever you want to call them. PUA's are sort of doing this, but there's too much misogyny in the PUA scene to please woman over the age of 25. This isn't to say men should start wearing makeup, because women do NOT want poor imitations of a woman, not when they can simply turn lipstick lesbian and get the same thing. Women want men who are hyper-masculine, but in such a way as to please women. The pimp is the ideal: well-dressed, well-groomed, arrogant, able to turn from smiling to extreme violence at the flip of a switch. Or those muscular hunks at Chippendales. The wealthier women can keep harems of these studs, just as wealthier men currently keep harems of female beauties.

And what's wrong with porn? Everyone should follow the path of maximum pleasure. If men find porn better than women, that's a commentary either on women in general, or on the surplus of men versus women.

I like the input of lasttry. In evolutin there is always adaptation and maybe here is a need for adaptation for men. Think about it if ugly betas don´t get wifes and children their DNA become extinct. The good looking alpha guys or better the chippendale genes survive. It´s another kind of "brave new world" option.

When societies become to successful than structures change. Who knows in the course of the journey even ugly women genes will eventually become extinct. So we get a new race of super good looking people. In the meantime there is a lot of porn and hookers and sluts to come over it when one is beta.

I think the entire thing can be boiled down to 'you get what you incentivize.' Women made it their goal to not need men. They have seemingly succeeded. Congratulations! Their mistake came in assuming that men would still always need women. Every line in that article quoted from a women was filled to the brim with subtext; even if he no longer fulfilled a necessary role for her in return, he should still depend on her for his personal validation. Men who withdrew altogether were losers, man-boys, etc. It's even all over radfem rhetoric. "Why aren't you making sacrifices to impress me?"

I doubt that there was anything like a conspiracy to bring this about, just a catastrophic ignorance of how sociology and interpersonal relationships (or even gender dynamics) works, combined with 'I want more money/rights/representation!'

Not that rehashing this stuff that anybody who has read even a shred of feminist or anti-feminist writing on the web knows intuitively, if not directly, is necessarily helpful. While reading this kind of stuff is 'fun' because it supports our own thoughts, the only real benefit it has beyond the first 2-3 essays on the subject would be if you wanted to become a blogger or journalist opposed to feminism or something, and were trying to codify and crystalize your viewpoints on the subject. Otherwise, literally any pursuit in service of getting you free from it (practicing a marketable skill, studying a trade, learning a language, doing odd jobs for extra money, even just increased planning for what you're going to do when the time comes) would all be better uses of your time. Not trying to be condescending or anything, and not really focusing on any one person (more on the tendencies we all have). I definitely went through a phase where I devoured this stuff en masse. While it felt pretty cool at the time, it didn't give me anything at all I could use to change my situation.

I don't think this is going over with the women to well either, I read a article back a few years ago where it stated 84% of women want to be stay at home moms. The economy is going to become even more efficient so there will be even less work over all for sure. This new economy where a lot of these jobs are paper shuffling that serve no purpose and are given to women have been created on purpose to manage the masses by the state and what gives them their power is our stupidity to not see what gives them this ability is the bank con.

They want the women to worship the all powerful state rather than the male female family model to give them power over the whole world with this model but don't be fooled the women over time are seeing equal rights have just given them more work and a less stable family at the core.

Moretorque wrote:I don't think this is going over with the women to well either, I read a article back a few years ago where it stated 84% of women want to be stay at home moms. The economy is going to become even more efficient so there will be even less work over all for sure. This new economy where a lot of these jobs are paper shuffling that serve no purpose and are given to women have been created on purpose to manage the masses by the state and what gives them their power is our stupidity to not see what gives them this ability is the bank con.

They want the women to worship the all powerful state rather than the male female family model to give them power over the whole world with this model but don't be fooled the women over time are seeing equal rights have just given them more work and a less stable family at the core.

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[~} Your delusions are amusing ~ women are continuing to invade male territory and are totally ALLOWED to take over that territory by stupid males. Women in 90% of the world have totally destroyed all semblance of the societies that men had very carefully created ~ and NO COUNTRY cares. Astounding! The male species is also quite stupid regarding women. If I was emperor, I would definitely hang at last 50,000 MEN a day in each nation for being so foolish.

Our rulers have plans to kill more than 50 thousand at a swatch and probably for good reason as you stated but the crux of the matter is somebody is funding this female movement and that is what is delusional. I just had a talk with a friend who told me in the Marines practically none of the women can physically or emotionally meet the testing standards for combat and fail but somebody is pushing this agenda and it's not the women it' the people controlling the purse strings.

Anatol you need to realize you are a # on a spread sheet to be managed like cattle and if the herd cannot figure it out than so be it.

"Even women are frustrated with today’s breed of spineless, ambitionless manboys." I can't say I feel sorry for them since they created this mess. Let the reap what they have sown. They allowed themselves to be brainwashed to hate men and use the state to empty them of their wealth that they had built for themselves and the family over years. There is no reward for a man to lead, take charge, and be head of the family in this society. Just a 20 year or more punishment in alimony.

Amount of women in my welding classes... 0 The welding, carpentry, machinist, diesel mechanic, HVAC, and anything in the industrial tech part of the college is still dominated by men. Not very many women want to build or maintain things, at least not here.

Of course, I am not friends with any of them because they are blue-pill, white knight types who defend the types of feminists who caused this catastrophe in the first place. Let the divorce industry take them to the cleaners. Peter Andrew Nolan was right, many of these men don't deserve to be saved or want to help themselves. At least not until they wake up. I can't help them but I can save myself by go to a society where men are encouraged to take charge and be a leader. "Real men" who are leaders are still wanted and appreciated by most FSUW. It's time I took my place as head of the family.

?????? wrote:"Even women are frustrated with today’s breed of spineless, ambitionless manboys." I can't say I feel sorry for them since they created this mess. Let the reap what they have sown. They allowed themselves to be brainwashed to hate men and use the state to empty them of their wealth that they had built for themselves and the family over years. There is no reward for a man to lead, take charge, and be head of the family in this society. Just a 20 year or more punishment in alimony.

Amount of women in my welding classes... 0 The welding, carpentry, machinist, diesel mechanic, HVAC, and anything in the industrial tech part of the college is still dominated by men. Not very many women want to build or maintain things, at least not here.

Of course, I am not friends with any of them because they are blue-pill, white knight types who defend the types of feminists who caused this catastrophe in the first place. Let the divorce industry take them to the cleaners. Peter Andrew Nolan was right, many of these men don't deserve to be saved or want to help themselves. At least not until they wake up. I can't help them but I can save myself by go to a society where men are encouraged to take charge and be a leader. "Real men" who are leaders are still wanted and appreciated by most FSUW. It's time I took my place as head of the family.

That is the thing, our rulers know men built the world and you need industrious males to maintain it. They want to take us back to medieval times and the dummies who believe their propaganda is their ACE. People are waking up slowly however so they are attempting to dummy it all up as fast as possible.