INVITING PEACE INTO YOUR LIFEToday I was reading Parvati's blog and this excerpt really meant something to me:"This Remembrance Day, contemplate how you invite peace into your life in even the smallest of things: offering your seat to someone on the bus; choosing not to react when someone pushes your buttons; courageously following your deepest joys… Peace is a choice based on remembering your true nature. You are a divine child of the Earth. We are all connected as One Earth Family."quoted from http://parvati.tv/blog/remembrance/Although I have my eye on the end-goal of Buddha-mind (:)) where all is acknowledged as Divine; no good, no bad; I am not there yet and find that others DO 'push my buttons'. My reactions can vary from ungracious to (mostly) internalizing my reaction and letting it feel terrible within! But Parvati points out that you have a CHOICE! "Choose not to react" is a big change of mind. Not as easy to do as it is to write about. THIS is where my art journal comes in very handy to deal with my internalized angst/ anguish/ rage....you name the emotion of the time. Just an energy sketch one day, or a intricate work another I find giving myself some time to process 'stuff' in my art journal allows my ego-mind to turn off and I feel peaceful. For me this is where Peace begins. From within. Making a choice.

Frequencies Sound Vibration and CHANGE

I often consider what it has taken for an individual to get to a place where they seek out help from a therapist. It is an incredibly brave step because facing your inner Self and making changes in the way you view the world from within can be a lot of work, and be hard!

In my art therapy practice I often use an analogy about sand and how it changes when sound shifts. This was something I read years ago, and wish I still knew the source as I think it is so brilliant.

If you place sand in a beaker and put sound to it, the sand forms a pattern on the bottom of the beaker. If you shift the sound the pattern changes. There are some key moments within the shift where the sand forms no-pattern. No thing. Those are the same kind of moments in Life (and in therapy) where you experience some change in self understanding. It makes what you were doing in the past....even the moment earlier...seem null and void. Change must happen. You don't feel the same anymore because you now believe a new something.

The times I have experienced this myself have often involved tears and sorrow as I see how erroneous my perception was and what I had to let go of! It does not always feel good because it doesn't feel safe, and because we fall into judging ourselves for what we didn't know! What you knew was not working for you, but it was what you knew! Suddenly your future behaviours are in doubt, your 'safety net' feels gone, and you experience FEAR! As we all know fear has physical (visceral) responses in your body! Anxiety, nausea, indigestion, depression to name a few. Many of us judge ourselves for what we didn't know.

Here is where this sand analogy comes in. Watching this video will illustrate it beautifully! Whenever Change becomes obvious remind yourself that you, like the sand, are about to form a new pattern! No need to judge one pattern from another....just different. Because you are growing...evolving! That's a life well lived! Ultimately be excited! The next pattern will be just that much more exciting and beautiful. Perfect in its own way. Until the next change is revealed and another shift will happen. Once you can view life experiences in this more dispassionate way the more comfortable you can become in your own body. Then the fun can really begin!

Creative Spark!

Perhaps you've already seen this video? After one week it has 'gone viral' and caught the imagination of a continent! There are t-shirts coming and a scholarship has already raised more than a quarter of a million dollars for Caine, and also in support of creative programs for young people in the East Los Angeles area.

When participants start art therapy - especially private sessions, one of the difficult aspects is letting go of their Inner Critic to allow them to create freely. Having made the decision to give themselves a time out they get a quiet, uninterrupted hour (or more in a group) to allow their creativity some stillness and space to show up and be noticed. Once that begins there is much relief and some deep healing can begin!

It is interesting thinking about the story of Caine. He is 'our' hero as he gets into Flow and creates an arcade of his dreams out of cardboard. Wow! Every day he goes to work with his father - all through the summer - to make his dream a reality.

We see his enthusiasm and the loving support of his father. Some great parenting happens when Caine wants to buy a grappling hook of sorts for one of his creations, but his father resists the urge to help and get his son one. Instead, Dad lets Caine know he is confident that he can make it himself - and he does!

I think what really captures our hearts is the way Caine is ignored! He has no customers, and in the fall his schoolmates don't even believe him - and make fun of his arcade t-shirt.

Many of us can relate to a time when no-one else seemed to believe we could do something. The desire to create and share something was strong, but maybe we allowed that to be quashed because of lack of support and fear of failure.

Seeing Caine follow through and stick with it, even though nobody comes, is a vibrational match to what we envisioned for ourselves! He is the unsung hero!

Then there is the pivotal visit by "his first customer" and (Divine intervention?) a film-maker who asks permission to make a small movie about Caine and his Arcade....and the rest is unfolding in L.A. and online!

I hope for Caine's sake this is a spark in public awareness that raises some money for school and creative programs, and then settles down again so Caine can continue to create from a place of stillness and solitude. No matter where you are, with these key ingredients creative sparks fly....and your life continues to unfold as it should!

The Astonishing Results of Working with Clay!

More and more people are finding that tapping into their creative selves feels good. Not only that but it has a carry-over effect into other aspects of their lives if they stay with that creativity.

I have been running workshops focussed on discovering more of our true selves through non-judgmental art-making. I was offered the opportunity to present these workshops at the Gardiner Museum in Toronto using clay as the art material, and have been awed by the response participants have to and with the clay! (http://www.gardinermuseum.on.ca/education/adult-clay-classes )

If you have ever sunk your fingers into a fresh ball of prepared clay you will know what I mean when I talk about the intensity of feeling and emotional reaction one can have. In psychological terms you are experiencing a pre-verbal, visceral reaction that was developed when you were a baby exploring and playing with food and sand and dough...whatever you could get your hands on!

Now of course, you’re in a more verbal stage so playing with clay allows you to regress to a place where words are not necessary. You will likely still find the texture and responsiveness of it irresistible - as did your ancient ancestors who formed clay for utility and decorative reasons since the beginning of time. The exciting thing is that you are creating something out of nothing, and putting aspects of your self into what is formed!

In an open, unplugged, non-judgmental state interesting shapes can be formed. There is delight in the power we have to create three-dimensional expressions of our inner world AND our outer world. If we want we can pound it down to a simple ball, and then re-form or transform the original shape. You are absorbed in a state of creating where time stands still and your thinking mind has a reprieve. It is deeply satisfying.

Once created the three-dimensional piece has many sides to touch, observe and consider. You may well wonder at the power you have to produce images where the original intention was not clear. Where do these images come from? It is an expression of something beyond words.

“Dr Gene Cohen (Creativity Cracks the Aging Code. http://www.jewishjournal.com/50_Plus/article/creativity_cracks_the_aging_code_20100323/) says that as we enter our 40s and 50s, our brains start firing on all cylinders. We begin using both sides of our brain more (the logical and analytical left side and the artistic right side), which stimulates us to be more creative — and being more creative prompts us to integrate both left- and right-brain capabilities in a happy cycle of artistic energy. As an added bonus, we become more confident and comfortable with ourselves as we age, and so we may cast off the need to conform: After 40, we want to showcase our true selves through the way we speak, act, dress and the things we do. And we may shed the “should have” way of living we previously endorsed, embracing instead the life we really want to live.”

Clay work can evoke memories and fantasies, it facilitates change within you, and gives you access to a bigger picture of where you are. That is an astonishingly large offer from simple, humble material!

PAINTING TO FEEL BETTER

No matter what it looks like, I must say that I have found the making of art to be a great source of happiness and satisfaction for me. During difficult times I have turned to a paintbox and brush, or markers and pens and no matter what I've turned out, the making of it was a very soul-satisfying, emotional release.

Dr. Gabor Maté in his book "When the Body Says No" talks about how we all have to foster emotional competence in order to handle stress and stay healthy. He maintains that repressing our stress and ignoring our body's messages causes illness.

Depression is on the rise in our North American community and one of the big reasons is that chronic, daily stresses in people's lives are so harmful to our bodies, but we are not informed enough to know how to handle it.

I run a painting workshop every week where you can come and give free expression to your emotions and stress. Creating images without any rules about how or what is created is very freeing. It feels good to "create from your soul" and learn more about your own feelings.

Each week we start with a quick "de-brief" and mindfulness exercise, and then have 1.5 hours to paint. The last 15 minutes are for the group to have a discussion and share their experience with depression and emotions.

Consider coming to a safe place to explore your feelings and some of that trapped stress!

MONDAYS (except holidays) 1:00 - 3:00 o'clock, in the basement of 249 St. Clair Avenue West (side entrance) which is just west of of Avenue Road.$40.00 per session or 10 sessions for $300.00Drop-ins are welcome, email ahead is valued!

Einstein

Einstein put things succinctly when he said, “We cannot solve our problems with the mind that created them.” To change our world, we may need to think in new ways and develop a new story to live by. How often do we forget that the quality of our lives is not governed by how much we possess or how important we become? We're so "busy" it seems hard to take the time to acknowledge the unfilled space we feel within; or how much happiness we're experiencing. Giving yourself some time to think about that is a gift! A spa for your mind!

Embracing change

The goldfish in our outdoor pond are moving to a kind neighbour’s.These fish have developed great evasive skills and hardiness in order to survive racoons and other predators, over-wintering, and feeding on whatever falls in the pond.

Needless to say they are difficult to catch and yesterday I was having difficulty netting even one! As I emptied yet another net-full of leaves from the bottom I noticed one orange bit flipping in the garden! Rescued, the little guy settled very still in the pail.

Eventually he was taken solo to his new home. When the pail was tipped he was very reluctant to move, and held back in the pail. When the pail was fully tipped he stayed put and I wondered if he was injured.

Then – he made a hesitant move forward; several of his old buddies darted out and suddenly he was dashing around in this beautiful pond with lots of space, a waterfall, lilies and many other fish to live and play with! Fish heaven on earth!It occurred to me that this is such a metaphor for what goes on in our own lives! Change is resisted. We use evasive tactics to hold on to what we are, and what we have. Such resistance can injure us or make us emotionally, even physically sick!

Yet the times that we decide to just go with the flow and ‘swim with the current’ are when we discover that the change we were avoiding has opened new possibilities and new beginnings for us. In fact, considering all that we are presented with, our new perspective can allow us to see that there never was anything to be afraid of, we are enjoying ourselves, and the change result exceeds our expectations!

Keep this in mind next time you find change looming and yourself feeling like a fish out of water.