Dear Amy: I need an objective opinion. Two years ago I ended a brief relationship with a gentleman I met on an online dating site.

Since then, I cannot help thinking I made a mistake. We were a great fit together and I had hopes that with time it could have been a wonderful relationship.

He invited me to meet his family after only three dates and I could sense that the gentleman felt the deal was sealed. At this point I was still just getting to know him and thought this was too soon. I realize I was being immature, but I ended the relationship because of this. I am now contemplating contacting him to try to renew the relationship.

My family says I should move on.

I wonder if I don’t take this chance (and potentially be disappointed) I may never know if this relationship was meant to be? — Sleepless in Chicago

Dear Sleepless: I agree with your family that you should move on, but you have already established that you don’t want to move on.

So you might as well dive in and get this over with.

You say you were being immature, but your guy pushed things too far too soon (for you, anyway), and his inability to read you correctly doesn’t bode well for you two as a match.

You should reach out and prepare yourself for the probability that he has already traveled at warp speed with another partner.

If you do get together, continue to listen to your own instincts. I have a feeling that seeing Mr. Speedy again would remind you of why you ran from him in the first place.

Dear Amy: The father of my children and I have just recently split up after five years. We have two young children.

There were problems with the relationship from the start and I had thought about leaving quite a few times, but he always convinced me that we could get through it and work it out, so I always stayed.

One particular day my boyfriend lent me his cellphone. His phone received a very inappropriate text message from a girl that I don’t know. I subsequently found out that he had been having an affair with this girl for about a month.

This was my tipping point, and I left.

Now, a month later, my ex hardly sees our kids, and when he does he insists on having this girl around, too. I do not think it is appropriate for her to be around when my kids.

He says it’s none of my business who he has with the kids during “his” time.

Am I overreacting, or am I right in wanting to keep the kids out of this? — Upset Mom

Dear Mom: I agree with you that it is probably best for these young children not to face the confusion of too many people coming and going in their lives right now.

I have to add the caveat that it all depends on the people involved.

It is tough to see your children spend time with a new partner, but there is also the chance that this other person can be a positive influence.

You should be objective about what is best for these children.

I suggest you make sure you have a legal separation agreement, which would outline visitation.

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