Girls, just one “little sin” could derail your destiny and cause you years of great pain!

DEAR Aunty Temilolu, I just came across your article for the first time today so I decided to send you an sms and seek your advice. I am 26 and a Christian so to say. I know I should not engage in any form of sex till my wedding night and I ensured that did not happen till early this year. For a long time, I avoided being in any relationship however; before long I began feeling I had a problem by staying away from guys. I always wanted to have a Christian partner I could date God’s way. I found one in one of my colleagues in the office in 2014 and we dated – God’s way – just for three months because I soon got tired of him, got bored of talking to him and stopped picking his phone calls. Though he was all over me and still pleading for us to get back together early this year, I refused because I just wasn’t in love with him any longer. Early this year, I got into another relationship with another Christian. I thought we would date God’s way but I was wrong. We began engaging in sexual intercourse and after each act, I would ask God to forgive me over and over again. It continued until I got pregnant. I was scared to death and ashamed at the same time. I terminated the pregnancy. I was so sad and angry at myself. I never believed I could end up that way; not ever, because I have always been a very decent girl people around me could vouch for me. I decided to move on and take a closer walk with God.

Just last month, I met a Muslim guy whom I love so much. I had sex with him twice and told him we had to stop because I was tired of falling in and out of sin. I got scared I had run out of grace. He told me that wasn’t a problem for him as he loves me for who I am and not for sex. To my greatest shock, this morning I discovered I am pregnant. However, when I told my boyfriend, he said he would give me some pills to terminate the pregnancy as he isn’t ready for a baby yet. I just got an admission into the university and can hardly afford to pay my school fees. How do I take care of my baby? How do I cope with this pregnancy in school? There are too many questions driving me crazy. I need you to wade into my matter please!

My heart breaks as I write you. In fact, I had a troubled night when I eventually spoke with Risi. I keep wondering how she could allow the devil into her life after she had abstained from sex and kept herself till 25+ years old. This is what happens when one commits other sins while staying away from sexual intercourse or even when one remains a virgin. What one considers a little sin could open doors of doom. She not only got herself contaminated, she also killed an innocent unborn child – perhaps one of God’s prophets. Who knows what that child was sent to this world to do; this is a very serious matter! And the devil knowing how glorious Risi’s destiny is decided to stop it by setting her continuously against God.

Girls, indeed we have a merciful God, however, He shouldn’t be taken for granted because He is quick to forgive. I keep telling you, you never know the type of destiny you carry and the magnitude of your greatness. The greater your star, the greater your battles. The devil doesn’t attack non-entities. He attacks people of great worth and value who are destined to leave their footprints in the sands of time. Alas, too many of such people are roaming the world today in great shame and pain, dejected, rejected and rendered useless by wicked devil just because they never understood the language of their star. You don’t know what the enemy has planned to befall you in future. His specialty is to stop great destinies by causing them to fall into challenges that would divert their trajectory and which they may never be able to overcome. Sin, no matter how little you consider it is what gives him access to turn a beautiful life to a nightmare.

Dear Risi, I wish you had been reading this column long before now. I really feel terrible about the state of your life right now but can only encourage you to keep the pregnancy and be strong, please. The whole situation – your schooling, inadequate finances, disappointment from your boyfriend, the pregnancy and other pressures attached to it – is a very unpleasant combination; however you are better off just surrendering to God COMPLETELY! May God in His infinite mercy send you help from His sanctuary and strengthen you in Jesus mighty name! Amen!

To be continued.

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