I Have The Power

We all have power in everyday decisions, whether we believe it or not. Its whether we let every decision that we make effect our future for better or for worse. I can't change any of the decisions that I made earlier to day or yesterday, all I have is now and the future. Its time to take control of the time that we have for what we want. We should live our lives according to how we see fit. Some rules may be needed, but we shouldn't be forced into any situation that we don't want to be in. I want to have the freedom to live my life to the fullest as I see fit. I don't want to dwell on past mistakes as a basis for my future, because thats how people end up disappointed. Thinking that what happened in the past will somehow change because of a decision you made years ago is uncalled for. Whatever decision you make, good or bad, right or wrong, etc. is your decision. It's too late, learn what you can from that experience and move on with your life. Carpe Diem! You may only have today so don't spend it thinking about yesterday.

Our power of influence, is in the NOW. The question is, are we allowing ourselves to be chained to our past, or are we releasing attachnment to limitation, and allowing ourselves to more fully live our lives?

What you said is very true, we should only think about and plan for today and future days when making decisions, but also learn from our past. In order to have successful lives and not feel regrets about our choices, we need to recognize our accountability towards our heavenly father who gives and sustains our lives. The scriptures tell us that humans need guidance from God in living, according to Jeremiah chapter 10 verse 23 which states, " I well know, O Jehovah, that to earthling man his way does not belong. It does not belong to man who is walking even to direct his step." The best advice for good decision making is found in the bible in Proverbs chapter 3 verses 1-6 which says, "My son, my law do not forget, and my commandments may your heart observe, because length of days and years of life and peace will be added to you. May loving kindness and trueness themselves not leave you. Tie them about your throat. Write them upon the tablet of your heart, and so find favor and good insight in the eyes of God and of earthling man. Trust in Jehovah with all your heart and do not lean upon your own understanding. In all your ways take notice of him, and he himself will make your paths straight." If we pray to God to help guide us we will not only have his blessing but we will benefit ourselves as well. This statement can be found in in the bible as well in Isaiah chapter 48 verses 17 and 18 which states, " This is what Jehovah has said, your repurchase, the Holy One of Israel. I, Jehovah, am your God, the one teaching you to benefit yourself, the One causing you to tread in the way in which you should walk. O if only you would actually pay attention to my commandments. Then your peace would be like a river, and your righteousness like the waves of the sea." I hope you will take this scriptural advice into consideration as you make decisions from now on into the future.

Decisions ! Decisions ! Its day to day ! Yes we do have the Power ! Its the power of decisions ! This is life,we make bad and good decisions. Yes,the bad decisions,can really make you"re soul burn and be tormented. Yes,people say the past is the past,can't do nothing about it ! Because of pride,and shame, i live alone in a one bedroom apartment. Yes,i stand my ground,do what i please,i am my own man.But it has its consequences. Every day i cry alone,thinking of my bad decisions. Trying to never give up,but to carry on ! Peace and love to all !

i really do want to live like you said and for most parts i be able to establish this but there is sometimes to many bad desicions that have been mad horrible memories that hunt me in my dreams and sometimes in my daily live...i hate that they control me sometimes i wish someone could just burn them out of my soul and mind....so how to you manage not living in the now and tomorrow not let bad past influence you???I believe in past was called because it past us...but why is it hard and why does someitimes time heal wounds...:-(Unfortunalty some brain expert found out that our human partly memory brain remembers bad memories longer then good ones...wow that is mean..how do i fight nature??!!

That is how I feel. There are aspects of my like that I don't have much control of but I am going to find something that I can enjoy doing for a living. Every career that I am interested in is a bit intimidating for me to pursue. However, there must be something I can do to increase my chances of being successful. I will fight in order to achieve my goals, l don't want to just go to the work just for the money. I just need time to regain my confidence.

My past is who I am today, open-minded ready for change, learning, living to the fullest, yes making some mistakes alone the way but not giving up. Yes I am human I do get stuck sometimes however not for long. Its not easy! God has me on a Journey right now I have no idea where he is taking me. I was laid off in Nov, since Nov I have lost my place and now homeless living out of my car and friends once in awhile. Honestly I am scared, I am networking with friends doing anything I can to get myself out of this hell. I never ever thought I would be homeless, hungry, cold, lonely and afraid all at once. I was married over 20 yrs own my own business, had toy haulers, nice trucks, couple Harleys, toys living the American dream. Money, had plenty of it. What happened?

i know we have the power. i have felt it many times in my life .... but the problem is that my power is wasted in wrong choices ... i think so. so i dont know when to use my powe and when not.. more important is that i want it to be used ... so that i can feel that i am alive...

The best way to change the way we think and feel is to change the way we behave. It's hard to change the way we think directly ... e.g. it's hard to replace negative thoughts with positive ones just by choosing to .... and even harder to directly change the way we feel. But we can always choose our behaviour. So the trick is to accept whatever's going on inside and choose to behave powerfully anyway. "Accept the feeling, choose the action". Behaving powerfully will create a feedback to the mind and we'll soon start to feel more powerful.

best to live each day to the fullest... and we learn best, when we push ourselves beyond what's just comfortable... for what might have already happened, that one feels they wish they could redo, better, or simply change, in that since then, they've learnt something that makes them uncomfortable with the direction they're going in, better to just admit, that what's done is done and just begin in whatever that new direction might be, even though others might not appreciate... life is just too short to be stuck in a relationship or a life path that just doesn't feel good anymore... for those who either don't appreciate y'all's change, or simply don't understand, if you really are important to 'em, they'll want to discuss it... and if y'all feel that indeed, their respect or their opinion is indeed, important to you, then y'all will approach them, before the change, so that they'll, at least understand the reasoning, even though their feelings might never quite repair...

Life is a roller coaster ride......sometimes high ,sometimes low..........problems,troubles ,fear are the most active forces,at times what I feel is that they are just like gravity,an unseen but really an irresistible force...Its more of a troublesome world but i tell you decision just add to the life.You know that past is history ,tomorrow is mystery and today is a wonderful present so just use it...make the best of the choices....take a deep breath ,think in deep....dont be a fool to just dump yourself in trap.......Use your present and choose the best of your choices.....You are you,no one is held responsible for your decision,you are!!!Its we who make life.just dont waste it....if past decision was a mistake,make this new one the best oppurtunity because you know everyday begins with new oppurtunities.......LEARN FROM THE PAST DECIONS AND MAKE THE BEST ONES TODAY......AND NEVER SAY NEVER!!!!!!! JUST ROCK AND ROLL

Right on! Enjoy your take. I am new at this site and do hope that I will on it find the type of communication that I desire. What you write is a truth and it is also a very simple concept. In Time there are three parts the past, the present and the future. As a teacher when a young person would ask me how old I was I would reply I am NOW. .

Thank you for sharing that,as I am recently widowed,it has truelly been challenging moving forward! Lots of regrets.... loss... having to forgive and let go if the past! But God, who had truelky kept me and my mind. So once again...thank you,from the deepest of my heart!

Yes, these words are pure poetry and very true. It's the "If onlys" that keep me and many others from creating and fulfilling our wildest dreams. The only "If" that matters is the if of now.If we act, as the writer says, as if there was no past; we would all be a lot happier. This work reminds me of John Lennon's "Imagine"- all the people living just for now. Thanks.

Excellent advice. My own life with Bipolar has been filled with many challenges, disapointments, and failures.I have been through a lot, learned a lot, and write about it here. http://mentalhealthlivingwithbipolar.blogspot.com Please stop by and make sure to say hello.

It's nice to be that way. It does get a little harder though as you get more "yesterdays". If I could go back a do it again or give someone advice I would say don't do anything too bad or too big that you can not forget.

Well said, I suffered from severe depression many years ago and I am lucky with counseling and family support I managed to come through the other side, with hard work and determination, the past is history, the present is a gift, and the future is a mystery, my daily quote to myself,.

I tend to agree with the saying that we need to change the way we look at things first before our now decisions. What I mean is that if we continue thinking like we did years ago then we are not heading any where but that we tackle the problem of our attitude, the way we look at things (prioritizing) our future then will be able to change our future. Also making un influenced decission will help us.

I tend to agree with the saying that we need to change the way we look at things first before our now decisions. What I mean is that if we continue thinking like we did years ago then we are not heading any where but that we tackle the problem of our attitude, the way we look at things (prioritizing) our future then will be able to change our future. Also making un influenced decission will help us.

Yes I have the power. I've always known about this, but I guess I've always also known that it ain't easy. It ain't even going to be. We embark in a journey of using choices we never had as children hoping for somebody to make it easier, maybe by becoming a friend, but as we do sometimes we find empty people. As some are so beat down by life, loveless childhood and upsent fathers, such that they have nothing to give but pain for it may be all they know. Personally, my father was there so both my parents were present in my upbringing, this gave me a great sense of identity. Through cancer and other traumas I never lost my sight on The power within, not all my friends realized the power they have, but I do. I just hope that as a parent(in future) I instill in my children. Four days ago I discovered I may have a damaged heart and some neuropathy .... due to chemotherapy so even I am still trying to wrap my head around the choices I take, it just doesn't get old. I do trust myself in making the right decision for my health & happiness.

This sounds real nice and positive,unfortunately is not changing this situation. I'm sorry,but with this attitude will will watch another generation of these psychopaths grow!! Stand up and tell someone !!demonstrate,and I'll join in.

i would like more people in my life.i have no family to speak of.my 3 grown children have lives of there own and i have no one.how can i bring people into my life.good people that is not users.i,ve known too many of those.

I'm so sorry to hear you feel so alone and without friends. I'm having a very hard time now accepting the death of my husband. I know in time God will see me through this horrible time. Please seek God and he will provide you with your needs. I am here for you to listen as your friend.

i never got on with my mum and dad now im 37 and still dont there never want to no when im happy only want to no when im unhappy it has been like this all my life but now and then i allways think to myself why me

The only thing we can change in life is our own 'attitude'. It is incredibly sad that your parents have their own problems that stop them relating to you in a good way. All you can do is try some 'acceptance' of 'their' problem and move forward.Keep telling yourself that you are a worthy person, do the best you can to be kind to others and look after yourself. Toxic people should be avoided.I know that will be hard, but why keep putting yourself up for sacrifice?Find people that enjoy your happiness and enjoy theirs. Try and be civil with your parents, - it would be hard to completely refrain from talking to them - but keep your distance, and share yourself with those that care, any problems you have. Reciprocate by being there for those in need. Best of wishes.

I really like this post. I totally agree to live everyday to its fullest, because you never know what is going to happen tomorrow. I used to regret a lot for the things I did in the past and wish tomorrow to be a better day, but never really live in the present. One day, I just realized that I can't change whatever happend in the past, and tomorrow is unknown. Why should I put energy and time onto the things that I have no control over. But I can control today, and now. I can choose to be happy at this moment and be the best I can be at every moment. Then I am truely living and not wasting my life.

My childhood has ruined most of my adult life being raised by an abusive alcoholic mother. Overcoming eating disorders and severe depression. Now I find myself depressed again . Its so bad I'm reaching out to the world. God bless and I hope one day I can write a story like this <3

I'm not so young , old enough to know I need to get out of this rut. I just wanna throw in the towel . I feel so lost and the people around me are toxic. I get my feelings hurt easy so I'm a target. I love " friends are the family you have chosen" I had to cut ties with some family I chose to do that . I need good people to surround myself with :-) just got to muster up energy . Ty again for caring it made me cry HAPPY tears. Sometime u don't know how one word can change a persons day or put a smile on their face . Xoxo

I believe that everything happens for a reason. Your past will always creep up to you, but it's just to remind you to make the best of your future decisions. Yes, sometimes I ask myself: "what if", and then I write down all the pro's and con's about that "what if", that alone makes me shrug off my past. Each and everyone's path has been writen since birth, it's all up to you to make the best of it. Sometimes you will feel that you went down the wrong path, but somehow, it was suppose to be that way, maybe to make you stronger for what is yet to come........

Two years ago I would've had a problem relating to this. I was an honor roll student and I had already gotten my acceptance letters to college. Instead of getting the support from my parents that I expected I got parents that had control over me in a way I never realized how until now. Through these two I've struggled with my trying to find my true identity, (what's my purpose in life) I've had a beautiful baby girl whose father left me after she was born, and trying to become independent. Now that I realize I have power over my decisions I have many refers and have made many mistakes but I'm moving forward beyond the negative aspects of life piece by piece. Finding who I wanted to be, who I'm meant to be, and who I'm going to be.

I often get myself into a hole. Just when i start to believe in myself i start to question my self worth. What mistakes i have made do not define me. The good things I HAVE DONE MAKE ME POSITIVE.a black hole is just for the debris you need to throw away

I fully agreed with you to leave the past and past lives alone but the problem is that it keep on popping up now and then. I believed that whatever happened in the past will influenced the present life, good or bad. The question is, are we aware of it ? If haven't , then it is going to repeat and repeat. Most of us have been undergoing many rough situations and to me these tests are spiritually inclined and with a purpose. There is a thin line here and this counts a lot between understanding it or otherwise. I believed our degree of acceptance helps a lot the situation we are in, for or against us . So trust and love our self first before others as we sometimes forgot to love our own self.

I enjoyed this, becouse even though sometimes i dont think about what i can do an just dwell on the past. Reminders like this help me out, help me think positive for the time being, and gives me some kind of hope for that moment and a moment is better then no moment.

i do this quite frequently even when i am feeling good. i feel i need to keep reminding myself that what i have done will never define me, only the positive things will determine my self belief. I need this belief when i get in a hole.

I feel the same way past is past live in the present, but he can't get out of the past. So I'm trying find away to live with it or leave but I do love him when he nice but when he gets into his moods its a night mare.

You are a wise person. I have never been this weak in my personal life. I was strong I always walk away from a bad experience, but this time different I'm scared and have know one to give me strength. I know I need to find the strength in me and I'm starting I got a new job and saving money, and we are starting counseling and insist that he tells the truth about everything just not what he wants the counselor to know. Because I know why the counseling hasn't been working and this time were going to a man. Because women stick together like he tells me.

Very inspiring and so true! We can't dwell on the past. We have to continue on. I have learned from personal experience about this. Thinking about what I had done olny mad it worse, but once I let go and moved on I became happier. This is great of you to put it out there. People need to know about this. Thank you.

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we can never really change the past but we can do something to make our future better. If you are really into it you can do it..You can do something to make your future brighter . As they say tomorrow is a chance for us to change and make things better.