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Obviously, everything this guy says is bullshit. We've discussed the whole "prejudice/racism under the pretense of personal preference" and I wasn't trying to bring up a discussion about the flaws of that argument. What I do want to discuss, is how we deal with this. How do you guys stay positive when crap like this is being spouted and these idiots roam free? How do you respond when your closest friends bring this up with a nonchalant shrug? How do you keep from letting it scar your heart because people are just so inconsiderate?

What do you do to remind yourself that you're awesome, that you're worth it, that you're beautiful?

I was thinking about this recently. I guess I just think to myself "But...I'm awesome...", lol. I just trust in my love of everything about black women. I know how amazing we are...everything about us. I know that there are people out there who appreciate our beauty, strength of character, our senses of humor, without denying us our moments of doubt, insecurity, anger, etc. I know that the people who spout awful shit like the author of that article are people I never want to surround myself with. I mean, look at what that guy wrote...would anyone ever want to date a guy like that??? He sounds like a complete and total idiot!

Bottom line: YOU are worth it! People are going to spew ignorant, racist crap like this because this is the society we're living in. I don't care if it sounds arrogant- black women are fucking amazing, and you have to believe it, because you'll be told every day that we aren't and then you'll start believing that!Do not settle. Don't be content to be with or around anyone who feels like they have the right to talk shit about you. You're a black woman- you know that you can't remove that aspect of your being. If whoever you're around can speak badly of that group of people, they either aren't acknowledging that that's a part of who you are, or they honestly don't care about you. Figure out which one it is and let that person go...life really is too short to have people surrounding you that think you're anything less than fabulous.

I don't know what else to say...I firmly believe with every fiber of my being that black women are incredible...it's like, at this point, I can't even think anything else. I used to feel the way you do- I wasn't sure if I could think of this group of people that I belonged to as feminine, classy, gorgeous, desirable, etc. I realize now how fucked up that is, and how lost I was...and I'm not saying you are, or anyone else is- that's just how I felt- I truly felt lost. But, not anymore, and I'm ecstatic about that.

So, again- love yourself. Just do it. You're a Black woman, and that makes you inherently awesome.

When someone's general idea of dating, as a grown man, directly correlates with "putting out" and finding someone to "get jiggy with", I find a quiet corner, close my eyes and Thank da Lord they aren't attracted to black women, and promptly keep it pimping.

People are allowed their preference, and frankly, that's their prerogative, and has nothing to do with me. Sure, it stings to be summarily rejected on the count of my race, but people who do that aren't attractive to me anyway...so...I'm good.

He can't keep his time, sperm, and "game". I hope he gets the Aryan princess of his dreams, whatever. Saves me the trouble.

I read that article and think "Sweet, I have a free pass from ever having to deal with this misogynist asshat in my life." Even if I knew him, he wouldn't bother to bother me. HELLS YEAH! \o/ Feel sorry for the poor white girls in his vicinity, though.

I stop reading when I saw the guy was Asian. In one breath SOME First gen Asian-Americans will say it's all about preferences then they will say their parents use to say things about black people that would horrify a KKK wizard. So ya, it's total BS the preference crap. But it's not worth the fight as the only way to prove it is racism not preference is to hook the fool's sexy bits to one of those machines researchers use to prove someone is aroused.

You just have to realize the person you're talking to usually has been royally fucked in the head by their upbringing. Plus the few Asians who think this way also see Asians below whites and spend their days chasing the allusive sparkly unicorn aka white women. So do you really want to be found attractive by a person that basically thinks all white people are better then themselves?

I think its so ironic too, because Asian men get portrayed in a fucked up goofy, non sexual way by the media and black women are portrayed as too dominant, masculine, hypersexual, and loud. Fucking stereotypes go a long way for the dominant group to sexualize groups into being jungle sex toys to play with or make them effeminate, goofy and non sexual in portrayal to keep them from their wimmins'. I'm looking at you white America.

The racism sucks, but I'm not trying to be desirable to every man out there, and I love when dudes automatically take themselves out of the running by being prejudiced douchebags. There are plenty of people out there who don't generalize us or write us all off as ghetto, uncivilized slobs.

One of the hallmarks of white women in this society is that they are attractive to basically every man out there. Black men, white men, asians, latinos, whatever: European beauty is the ideal beauty, and all other preference is considered a quirky "personal taste".

The unfortunate thing is that this blog post was the worst possible way to ask the question, "Personal Preference or Racism?" He's obviously a scumbag with a seriously perverse world perspective, which makes the core question far too easy to dismiss.

This guy sounds like a true idiot. While i'ts annoying to have to deal with racist shit from anyone, winning this guy over isn't really going to make the world a better place. He'll still turn right around and speak about a small butt like it's a "deformity". What an idiot.

I find it weird. Preference is one thing (as in, I prefer white women) but preference to the exclusion of all other races (I'm not attracted at all to this gorgeous black woman) just makes no sense. If you're straight, you should find all beautiful women attractive. Excluding an entire race is weird IMHO

As my friend says, he's a homosexual. He can't help what he's attracted to, its his nature. I tried telling him he should work very hard to not be so prejudiced against women, but he says he's attracted to men only. That he was Born That Way.

Im mixed. I know what I like and its personal preference, its chemistry, that attracts me to people. I can't like what I don't like. I have no problem if people aren't attracted to me because I have the self-confidence to know I AM beautiful. And that there are people who are attracted to me. Like all love, like all lust, Im going to be attracted to people who aren't attracted to me, that's life.

And I just remind myself that life is what it is, and I can't go demanding people want me, forcing them to want me, forcing them to love me. That never works.

Can you honestly say that you are sexually attracted to everyone of all races?

Well this doesn't make much sense...you're saying that no one can possibly be sexually attracted to everyone of all races, or a particular race. That is true...no one will find every single person of a particular race attractive. Yet you find it okay to make the blanket statement that you aren't "usually attracted to black women", as in every single black woman, ever. No black woman is attractive to you...isn't that what you're getting at?

I can't help who I'm sexually attracted to, that's a biochemical reaction that I don't have much control over.

I can't help who I'm sexually attracted to, that's a byproduct of socialization that I don't have much control over. FTFY

I voted for Obama and love Dave Chappelle... Doesn't that make me an honorary black person?

Just...no. Also, you forgot to mention your one black friend that you sometimes invite to barbecues and whatnot.

Having now read your blog, you are worth less than the dirt on my boots and your teeth deserve to be in its place. You are nothing. You are less than nothing. You are a pathetic waste of organic matter who correctly took the incessant bullying I'm sure you suffered as a child as incentive to make some changes to your life but incorrectly assumed that the reason they were bullying you was because of who they were instead of who you are. You should be required by law to personally fund the years of therapy needed by any woman who, for reasons unknown to science, condescends to listen to the verbal refuse that cascades forth from your face-asshole or, Kanye forbid, touch your penis. I feel bad for all white and Latina women of the world that one day, they may find themselves at the receiving end of your undoubtedly extra-strength creepy leer.

I hope one day you take your borderline-rapist ass--and that's me being generous--to some island where nobody else has to suffer knowing you exist.