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February is the month of love, and this week is Valentine’s Day.

While it’s nice to have someone special in your life, I want to remind you to show YOURSELF a little love.

My clients are so good at taking care of the people they love, but it’s not always as easy for them to love themselves. Showing yourself some love is so much more than bubble baths and massages.

Here are 20 ways you can show yourself a little love, starting today!

Buy yourself some flowers. There are a lot of inexpensive flowers at the supermarket. Or if you’re into gardening you can plant some flowers in a pot. Either way, it brings a little joy into the day to see fresh flowers in our homes.

Listen to your body and rest when you feel tired. Taking a nap instead of reaching for food is the best afternoon pick me up ever. When you tune into your body and how you’re really feeling, rest is often what you’re craving, not food.

Make time to spend with friends. Being connected to others is what matters most. It’s easy to want to stay home, but it always feels so good to be with friends, even for just a little while.

Make time for your hobbies. Making time for things you enjoy is definitely part of self love. Reading? Sewing? Painting? Photography? No matter what you enjoy, you won’t be sorry to make a little time in the week for something you love doing.

Spend some time outside. Spending 10-15 minutes in the fresh air and sunshine (even when it’s cold) can completely change how you’re feeling. Get outside for a refreshing break from work or the kids and come back with a new perspective!

Eat well. What better way to show yourself a little love than by eating food that makes you feel good and energized. Tune into your body. It knows what it wants to eat.

Celebrate the little things. Notice all the things you do in a day. Give yourself a little credit and acknowledge all you do from getting yourself showered, getting the kids where they need to be, and stopping to get gas to finishing the big project at work. Celebrate more than just the big things. Celebrating puts you in a positive mindset. Who can’t use more of that?!

Speak kindly to yourself. Pay attention to what your inner mean girl is telling you everyday. It’s time for her to be quiet. Learn to say more kind, loving things to yourself. It takes practice, but it’s worth it.

Get clear on what matters most to you. It sounds silly, but it’s true...you can’t get there if you don’t know where you’re going. Getting clear on what your big picture vision is for your life helps you create a life you love.

Show up with a plan. Showing yourself love happens when you have a plan for your valuable time. Don’t just let life happen TO you. Take charge and make the things that matter most happen.

Get out of your comfort zone. Show yourself you can do things, even when they’re hard or you’re not sure you can. You’ll feel so proud of yourself for trying, even if you don’t fully succeed.

Give yourself some grace! Stop expecting yourself to be perfect at everything. It isn’t realistic at all. Stop holding yourself to a set of expectations you’d never expect of someone else.

Indulge! Have that piece of cake or that cookie. Savor it! Enjoy it! Let it satisfy you. I promise it’s so much better than deprivation.

Make time to read. This is one of my favorite ways to slow down and have a little me time. Reading, even if it’s only 15 minutes, takes you away from it all and gives you a chance to get out of work and mom mode.

Journal. Instead of keeping negative thoughts racing around in your mind where they can snowball into bigger worries and anxiety, get them down on paper. It will help you get some perspective on what you’re feeling, and it will feel great to vent all those frustrations.

Use the good china. Why should we deny ourselves the “good stuff” just because it’s not a special occasion? Being alive is reason enough to celebrate! How much more joy could be added to your life if you stopped denying yourself something special because there wasn’t an occasion to go along with it?

Say yes AND no. A big way to love yourself is to know what you want to say yes and no to each day. What do you want more of in your life? Say yes to those things! More laughter, more snuggles, more time outside. Yes, please!

What do you want less of in your life? Say no to those things! Less social media, less arguing, less rushing.

Make plans so that your days can include more of the things you want and less of the things you don’t.

Keep your promises to yourself. Love yourself enough to follow through with the things you promise yourself. Those self imposed deadlines? Meet them just like you would if it was for someone else. You are as important as everyone else on this planet.

Practice gratitude for what you can do and have done. Learn to love yourself and your body more by practicing gratitude for what you are able to do. Your legs help you get where you need to go. Who cares how big or thin they are? They’ve carried you through your whole life so far. How cool is that?!

Also, take note of all you’ve accomplished in your life so far. Focus on the good things you’re proud of. You deserve some acknowledgement and a pat on the back every once in a while!

Ask for help when you need it! Instead of trying to do it all and feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders, be brave and ask for help when you need it. Asking for help can take some things off your plate and make your day seem less stressed. When we’re trying to do it all, it’s hard to do any of it well.

There are countless ways to show yourself more love. I encourage you to be aware of the things that bring you joy and pleasure and add those to your days. Even the small things that might seem silly can add so much unexpected joy in your life.

Play the music while you get ready in the morning. Use cloth napkins and light a candle during dinner. Wear sequins on a Tuesday just because.

You deserve the very best you can give yourself, and learning to love yourself is important. After all, you are the one person you’ll be with for the rest of your life!

Keep the love to yourself going by joining my Facebook group, Live Your Legacy NOW where you’ll find TONS of support for living a life you love with other amazing women.

Hey Sweet Friend!

I show creative women how to reconnect with themselves and take care of themselves just as well as they take care of everyone else. If you've been feeling unfulfilled, I'd love to talk about how you can create a life you LOVE.

When you gather a group of women together, magic happens. I believe we are better together. Head over to my FREE Facebook group, Live Your Legacy NOW, where there’s tons of inspiration, support, tips & tricks for creating a life that feels more bold and fulfilling and where you can begin to plan the legacy you want to create.