Good man, I'm glad you're moving in the right direction and your wife is being supportive.

People underestimate how much women like a good body. I consider myself pretty average but compared to most I'm like something out of 300.

I can't tell you how much attention it can draw and my current girlfriend fancied me before we actually spoke to each other and its a very powerful thing to your wife/girlfriend to know that others desire you.

I am genuinely a believer that when in relationships we have to constantly make an effort for each other, after all sex is really primarily something that is based on attraction and its important you can remain attractive in that way to your partner. This isn't shallow (like all fat people say) its reality.

Although my motivation for training is very different from the above even if I recognise the power of it. I personally sit behind a desk all day and just love to go and do something physical once a day and push myself.

There you go with that reverse boasting again. You are a 16 stone bodybuilder that looks like the epitome of the men on the covers of the magazines yet you claim yourself to be average. How arrogant of you, do you realise how you make lesser men feel!?

Good man, I'm glad you're moving in the right direction and your wife is being supportive.

People underestimate how much women like a good body. I consider myself pretty average but compared to most I'm like something out of 300.

I can't tell you how much attention it can draw and my current girlfriend fancied me before we actually spoke to each other and its a very powerful thing to your wife/girlfriend to know that others desire you.

I am genuinely a believer that when in relationships we have to constantly make an effort for each other, after all sex is really primarily something that is based on attraction and its important you can remain attractive in that way to your partner. This isn't shallow (like all fat people say) its reality.

Although my motivation for training is very different from the above even if I recognise the power of it. I personally sit behind a desk all day and just love to go and do something physical once a day and push myself.

There you go with that reverse boasting again. You are a 16 stone bodybuilder that looks like the epitome of the men on the covers of the magazines yet you claim yourself to be average. How arrogant of you, do you realise how you make lesser men feel!?

Ah you're back again......

I'm quite the opposite of men on the front cover of magazines.

Anyway I think its you my friend with the chip on your shoulder with your passive aggressiveness towards me.

It may seem that Ordinary_chap is "reverse boasting" or whatever it was called, but I can see where he's coming from. After years of training and dieting and trying different things, I finally found what works for me and actually look pretty good now. However, I feel average compared to what you see on the telly and what's shoved in your face in adverts etc.

99% of men in this country look like a sack of sh*t without any clothes on, and to one of those 99%, anyone who looks half decent but claims to be average will come across as boasting. But it's not like ordinary_chap's posting pictures of himself every 2 minutes (at least I haven't seen that).

It may seem that Ordinary_chap is "reverse boasting" or whatever it was called, but I can see where he's coming from. After years of training and dieting and trying different things, I finally found what works for me and actually look pretty good now. However, I feel average compared to what you see on the telly and what's shoved in your face in adverts etc.

99% of men in this country look like a sack of sh*t without any clothes on, and to one of those 99%, anyone who looks half descent but claims to be average will come across as boasting. But it's not like ordinary_chap's posting pictures of himself every 2 minutes (at least I haven't seen that).

Thanks.

Don't worry about the troll, he only ever posts to insult me anyway.

I had to stop posting pictures of myself every 2 minutes as Hoofy was starting to worry me with his comments.....

I hope I've changed my attitudes to my own amazing greed, and that the exercise is sustainable.

If you are able to fit the exercise into your life, and even with life getting in the way, are able to get the required exercise done, then it is sustainable.

As for food intake, if you're not going crazy with the stuff you really like ie not doing big binges, then I don't see why you can't sustain your new eating habits in the long run. Remember, cheat days are allowed (although the goal of cheat days isn't to cram as much food in as you can in a 24 hour period but to just enjoy the food you are going easy on).

Last Tuesday I caught sight of myself in the mirror and realised things weren't good. I hopped on the scales and found myself at 14stone 4 pounds (91 kilos) the heaviest I've ever been. Im 5 foot 10.

This week I've had a bit of a chest infection so havent been able to do much exercise, but ive cut out as much sugar as possible from my diet, eaten weetabix for breakfast everyday, avoided too much red meat and drank loads of water. Im also lucky to have inherited a sauna from when we moved into the house, so Ive been doing that for 30 mins a day.

I weighed myself yesterday and managed to get down to 13stone 5 lbs (85 kilos) in a week.

This has really inspired me. I know that almost a stone in a week is possible too much initially. but I started at a point where I felt quite bloated and haven't done anyting too extreme in the first few days. My body seems to be relaxing into a comfortable weight and I imagine it will get harder as the weight drops.

I now have a goal to get to a steady 13 stone in the next 4 weeks and then to 12 before the end of August and 11.5 (72kgs) by my 40th in October.

This has really inspired me. I know that almost a stone in a week is possible too much initially. but I started at a point where I felt quite bloated and haven't done anyting too extreme in the first few days.

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According to a mate its like digging the garden in a new build house. You can dig through the top soil easy enough, but it takes months of determination to get rid of all the rubble, once you get it looking okay, it needs constant attention to keep the weeds at bay.

51 days into this process, I'm averaging a weight loss of 1.023456782 kgs (approx) a week, and I see that as more or less sustainable for the next 6 months which will take me to my 80 kg target not by the end of august (as was my original plan) but by christmas.

The thing I've noticed is that this week I've not cycled to work or exercised (off out in a minute to climb) because of having to get parts for cars and fix the car in the evening, and I have lost more than in the weeks when I ramped up the exercise, which isn't odd when you consider that muscles weigh more than fat, and you must just be converting the fat the muscle, so loose a bit less than if you stopped eating and lost fat and muscle together. So whilst I'm not 95 KG this morning, I'm thinking it's a hollow victory.

If you go crazy and try to achieve too much, you'll run out of puff because you're either exercising to a level that is not sustainable or eating so little that you will break at some point and binge. Or what hobby dieters call "yoyo dieting".

You want to do something that is sustainable in the long term (think 20 years), not some quick fix that means that you're twice as fat as when you started out in 10 years' time.