Cracking the Code: How to Attract Everything You’ve Ever Wanted

“All things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation to all things.” — Stephen Covey

Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Melody Fletcher on how to attract everything you want in life.Melody has a wealth of experience from managing multi-million dollar restaurants in San Francisco, to working as a dealer in several Las Vegas casinos, to selling fiber optic network components in Germany, to running a Global IT service center for a large multi-national corporation in Spain. Whatever she tackles, she tackles with a passion.As the voice behind the Deliberate Receiving Blog, Melody helps people find their find empowerment, freedom and happiness. In her blog, she explains the Law of Attraction in a no-nonsense, pragmatic way. In fact, she’s used the Law of Attraction in her own life to lose 100 pounds, find a way to travel the world, work only when she’s inspired, and enjoy true happiness on a daily basis.I’ve asked Melody to share her insight and approach that everybody can use to start attracting more of what they want in their life. Without further ado, here’s Melody …

We’ve pretty much all heard the phrase "You create your own reality". Maybe it resonates with us to a certain degree. We like the idea of being able to control our reality, of not just leaving it all up to fate. We like the idea of being able to deliberately feel better. But isn’t the Law of Attraction just another term for positive thinking and goal setting? Can we actually create our own reality, or is it just about being able to look at a pile of crap and deluding ourselves into calling it a pile of roses? If we do actually create our reality, how exactly does that happen? Prepare yourself. You’re about to find out in nitty-gritty detail.

Everything is Energy

e know that everything is energy. Everything, including us, can be broken down into subatomic particles and waves. What we don’t always think about is that all those particles aren’t just independently bumping around in space. They’re all connected. We’re all part of a massive energy field, like a giant network – each of us with our individual energy signature and yet also tapped into and able to interact with the whole.

So, there you are, an energetic being, vibrating at a physical frequency, with all these other energy frequencies around you. You can interpret these frequencies using your brain – a magnificent transceiver that can translate these frequencies into signals you can understand – sight, sound, taste, smell and touch (and other senses, but we’ll get to that in a second). So, when you look at your breakfast, you’re actually interpreting a pool of energy as eggs, bacon and Orange Juice (or whatever). But you’re not just floating about, hoping that something nice will drift your way inadvertently. You have the power to draw energy to you at will by locking on to its frequency. You just have to remember how.

You Get What You Expect

We’re conditioned to look at our reality and draw our conclusions from what we see. If we get rude service in a restaurant, for example, we may well decide that most servers are rude in that particular city, especially if we have more than one bad experience. The servers are rude, therefore we expect bad service. But here’s the thing: It’s actually expectation of bad service that causes the servers to be rude, not the other way around.

Provide the Right Input and Get Your Desired Output

Let’s say you’ve written a computer program that remotely controls a robotic dog. But every time you tell the dog to sit, it jumps up in the air. You would not look at the dog and conclude that it’s simply incapable of sitting or following a command. You wouldn’t say "Oh well. I guess robotic

output. If the output isn’t what you want, you go back and fix the input – you fine tune your code. You keep working because you know that if you get the code right, you’ll get the result you want.

Fix the Code

This is exactly what manifesting your reality is like. If you don’t like the output – your reality – all you have to do is fix the code. Here’s how:

I said that your brain is a transceiver. That means it not only receives (and perceives) energy, but can also transmit it. The way you transmit energy is through your thoughts. Your thoughts actually have frequencies, and you can match a thought’s frequency to the vibration of what you want. Transmit at the exact frequency of what you want, and it will be drawn to you. That’s what the Law of Attraction is actually all about. But how do you know if you’ve locked on to a frequency?

Emotions are Your Feedback System

You have a built in feedback system, kind of like a testing program, which is looking for the bugs in your code. This feedback comes to you in the form of your emotions. Your feelings give you valuable feedback about your thoughts. The closer your thoughts are to the frequency of what you want, the better you’ll feel. If your thoughts are going to lead to the desired outcome, you’ll experience positive emotion. If there are still bugs in the system, if you’re going to get a malfunctioning robotic dog, you’ll feel negative emotion.

Our Reaction Causes the End Result

Note: You will feel this emotion in response to your thoughts about the subject, not in response to the manifestation. We’ve been taught that it’s the end result that causes our reaction (being poor causes you to feel bad), when in fact it’s our reaction that causes the end result (thinking thoughts of poverty causes you to feel bad and causes you to be poor.) So, in theory, in order to manifest the reality you’ve always wanted, all you have to do is think good-feeling thoughts. But how does that work in real life?

Debugging Your Thoughts for Better Results

Let’s say you’re a single guy and you want a girlfriend. You know there’s something off in your code, because the fabulous woman of your dreams isn’t there with you right now. So we have some debugging to do. Now, you’re not just going to have one positive or negative thought about having a girlfriend, and this is where it can get a bit tricky. The idea is to figure out what thoughts and beliefs you currently have about this subject, isolate the ones that aren’t serving you and change them to thoughts that feel better.

How to Attract Everything You’ve Ever Wanted

Here’s a summary of the key steps to debugging your thoughts and attracting everything you’ve

ever wanted:

Step #1 – Test Your Program.

Step #2 – Find the bugs.

Step #3 – Fix the bugs.

Step # 4 – Make sure you’re running the right program.

Step #5 – Receive your manifestation.

Let’s take a look at each one…

Step #1 – Test Your Program.

Do a visualization. Visualizations are like a dry run for life. You may think that you have perfect control of your fantasies, but your current vibration will come through. Think of it as running your program through a testing environment. Imagine yourself with a girlfriend and pay attention to how you feel about every aspect of the situation. Does it feel real, or is it a fantasy that seems like it could never happen? Do you feel good about yourself in your imagined relationship? Are you exactly as you are right now, or have you made improvements to yourself (perhaps you’re taller, richer, have better hair, etc.)? How does it feel when you get rid of all the fantasy elements and just try to imagine a relationship with a nice, normal woman, with realistic traits who truly loves you just the way you are? If anything about that scenario doesn’t feel good, you’ve just found your bugs.

Step #2 – Find the Bugs.

Isolate the thoughts that don’t feel good. What was it about the realistic visualization that didn’t

feel good? If it was uncomfortable for you to imagine yourself being in love just the way you are, without any embellishments, perhaps you don’t feel that you’re good enough for the love of your life. This isn’t true, but if you believe it, you’re not going to attract Ms. Right. You won’t be able to lock on to her frequency. If you can’t imagine a real relationship without seeing yourself getting into a fight with her, perhaps you have some beliefs about women not really understanding you or being mean, aggressive, or having some other negative character trait. That’s just a belief too, one that isn’t serving you. It’s just another bug in the code.

Step #3 – Fix the Bugs.

I’m going to offer you two methods for shifting your thoughts to a better feeling place. The first

is to take each limiting thought you’ve identified and shift it incrementally to a better feeling place. This works well with big, deeply ingrained beliefs. Let’s take the belief that you’re not good enough to attract the woman of your dreams. You’ll want to shift that to "I am good enough", but you can’t do that all at once. Break it down into steps and spend some time getting comfortable with each level. Don’t move on to the next thought in the sequence until you’re stable in the last one. You’re actually shifting your vibration – changing the frequency that you’re transmitting. The progression could look something like this:

"I’m not good enough to attract the woman of my dreams." (Feels horrible. I’m a total loser.)

"I have attracted some women in the past." (Feels a bit better. I haven’t always been a loser.)

"There are some women that like me." (Feels even better. Maybe I’m not a complete loser.)

"I’m not intimidated by ALL women." (Further evidence that I don’t always screw it up.)

"I’m good enough to attract some women." (I do have a little bit of game.)

"I know that deep down I’m a really good guy." (I’m not broken. Maybe not everyone sees that, but I know who I am.)

"If I find the right woman, I’ll adore her." (I would actually be really good for the right girl. The relationship wouldn’t just benefit me, it would benefit her, as well.)

"I actually have a lot to offer someone who shares my interests." (I’m actually a really interesting guy! Not everyone shares my particular interests, but I’m passionate about the things I like and it would be great to share that with someone.)

"The woman of my dreams will see me for who I am. That’s part of what makes her the woman of my dreams." (I don’t have to change myself to attract the right woman, I’ve just been attracting the wrong women. They haven’t been a match to me.)

"I can see how a woman could be attracted to me, especially once she gets to know me." (I can see now that it’s possible for a woman to really like me.)

"I’m good enough to attract the woman of my dreams." (The fact that I haven’t isn’t because there’s something wrong with me, but because I’ve been thinking about this situation all wrong. I just have bugs in my code, that’s all.)

Now granted, this progression is a bit simplistic, but you get the idea.

The second method of shifting your vibration is to simply change your visualization over time.

This is a fantastic and gentle way to shift all of your thoughts on the subject, but can take longer if you have some really ugly, deep seated beliefs. Simply spend some time every day visualizing your relationship with this perfect woman. Try to be as realistic as possible – you are who you are right now, warts and all, and she’s a real woman (not unrealistic perfection) without any major flaws (if your fantasy girl is very vulnerable, for example, it points to a belief that there must be something wrong with her for her to like you. That’s a bug). While paying attention to anything in the scenario that feels off or uncomfortable, begin to change your visualization to what you want it to be and keep focusing on that until it feels good. You might begin by seeing yourself as more financially successful than you really are at this moment. But if you want to attract a girlfriend now and not in five years when you have more money, you’ll want to begin to change the situation in your visualization until you can see the girl of your dreams actually liking you just the way you are today. When you can see this scenario and feel comfortable with it, you’ve shifted your energy on that point.

Keep practicing your visualizations until you can comfortably run through a loving, passionate relationship with a woman who is your equal, who adores you and whom you adore, who you can really talk to and open up with, who shares many of your interests, who makes you feel safe and who feels safe with you, who lets you take care of her, who takes care of you, who you can laugh with, who doesn’t take life too seriously, and whatever else is on your wish list. Once the visualization feels really good, you’ve found the frequency you’re looking for. Keep focusing on it and the energy of that woman MUST be brought to you.

Step # 4 – Make Sure You’re Running the Right Program.

Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. We have a tendency to describe our desires in terms of what we don’t want. "I don’t like girls that are too tall", "No fatties", or "She can’t be an idiot." We do this a lot more than we realize. But that’s like designing the program for the robotic dog and listing all the qualities you don’t want it to have. "When I tell it to jump, I don’t want it to roll over" would not be part of the design process. It could take years to list all the results you don’t want! We don’t do this when designing a program, a building or anything else. But we do it when we’re creating our reality. And then we wonder why we get so much of what we don’t want! Focus all of your energy on what you do want. Whatever frequency you transmit will be drawn to you, whether you like it or not. You might not feel good – your emotional feedback system will be screaming at you the whole time, but you can certainly attract all kinds of horror into your life. However, you can also choose to manifest what you actually do want. Remember that you can run more than one program at a time. Whichever one you give more attention to is the one that will show up in your reality. It’s up to you what you want to focus on.

Step #5 – Receive Your Manifestation.

Now that you’ve locked on to the frequency of what you want, it’s time for you to receive what you’re attracting. Pay attention to synchronicities or coincidences. You might notice a lot more

attractive women than you did before. Women in general will be nicer to you. You’ll find it easier to talk to those women. The quality of the women in your life, even if they’re not there in a romantic way, will begin to rise.

This is also the point at which you want to take action. Get out there more. The Universe will have a hard time bringing you together with your dream girl if all you do is sit at home. Sure, the pizza delivery girl could be the one, but why limit the distribution channels like that? Expect that you’ll meet that awesome woman and start to take action that aligns with that. If your intuition tells you to go and talk to a particular girl, do it. Notice that the action part comes last. You’re not going to bars in desperate search of love, while believing that you’re never going to find it. You have to get your mindset right first, and then take action from that place. When you take the time to fix your vibration first, the action part is less about "making it happen", which is hard and frustrating, and all about giving the Universe more chances to bring your manifestation to you, which is much easier and more fun. Take it easy, don’t force yourself to do things you don’t want to do. If you’re terrified of talking to women, for example, practice making eye contact first. It’s all about taking baby steps and getting comfortable with each one before moving on.

Pay attention to how your reality is changing and be open to it. This is the beginning of your program’s output – evidence of what you’re attracting. The more successfully you’re focusing on the frequency of what you really want, the better these manifestations will be. If there are any unwanted elements, you can still fine tune your input, make small adjustments. You might meet a woman who’s a little bit controlling, for example. Then you can focus on the fact that you want an easy going woman in your life. Add that to your visualization. As long as you keep focusing on that good-feeling frequency, and refrain from focusing on the bad feeling frequency, the energy of what you’re locked on to must come into your physical reality. That’s the Law of Attraction in action.

Create Your Own Reality … The World Will Open Up for You

So, have I convinced you that you create your own reality? Why not give it a try and see what happens? This way of thinking takes a little getting used to, but once you wrap your head around the "input = output" model, you begin to see evidence of it everywhere. The negative co-worker who complains all day long has more to complain about than anyone else (instead of the other way around). The friend who keeps telling you that all women are users somehow keeps meeting nothing but gold diggers. You’ll begin to notice the patterns in others and eventually, in yourself. When you begin to view everything in terms of energy, it all begins to make sense. And once you realize the degree of control you have over your own experience (it isn’t about seeing crap as roses. You can actually shift your focus from the crap to the roses that were there all along), the whole world opens up to you. You can create anything you want. All you have to do is remember that you have the ability to change the code.

30 Comments on "Cracking the Code: How to Attract Everything You’ve Ever Wanted"

Hi Melody, you didn’t have to convince me. I was convinced when I started reading your excellent post. Many have made fun of using attraction but I haven’t seen an alternative philosophy that’s anywhere near as effective.

You’re right there is always a fix that we’ve overlooked that is causing us to vibrate frequencies of what we don’t want. Thanks for the reminder to use the incremental feel a little better tool. It always works well.

Excellent! You have such a gift for interpreting the laws of the spirit in such practical, usable and obtainable methods. When I read your blogs, I can visualize and apply it to my life immediately. If people are a reflection of what/who they attract, that means I’m definitely on the right path with you in my immediate space.

This does leave out the question of figuring out what one wants. For example, if I’ve spent enough years believing, “I don’t know what I want,” this eventually becomes real enough that I have to wonder how does one get past that. I know that when I was young I buried my dreams though it did take me a few days to recognize from a visualization practice that that was what I had buried. While I can do experiment after experiment and think, “How does this feel?” and “How does that change tweak the feelings I have now?” I’m tempted to believe in the existence of a better route. Now how do I find that? That is where I still struggle with some of this idea as I tend to live more in questions than answers.

“You will feel this emotion in response to your thoughts about the subject, not in response to the manifestation.”

I’m always stunned when I remember that my reaction is to my thoughts, not the actual circumstance that has appeared in my experience.

I learned this principle first from Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Ultimate Search for Meaning. When I learned that I control my reaction and response to any circumstance, I realized that I can choose. I always have to power to choose…every time and in every situation.

@Kim – thank you so much for your kind words! I have no plans to stop anytime soon.

@Justin – I do think that the time will come when our education system will look very different than it does today. Kids don’t really need to be taught this stuff, they just need to not be trained out of it.

@JB – First, it sounds like you’re doing brilliantly and that you’ve come a long way. Figuring out your passion can take a bit of time. My suggestion would be to relax about it and focus on feeling good and having fun. When you get into that high vibration, your passions (which are in the same vibrational vicinity) will reveal themselves. Also, there’s a great book called The Passion Test, by Janet Bray Attwood, which has helped a lot of people define what they’re passionate about. Thank you so much for sharing your story here.

@Vitaly – Thank you!

@Steve – You’re so very welcome. Viktor Frankl’s message is so incredibly powerful. I remember reading him and feeling this amazing sense of control. Also, it really puts our “problems” in perspective, doesn’t it?

Melody,
This is just excellent!!! And I love how you’ve laid out a specific example and how to move through the process – which can be applied to so, so many parts of life!

And this reminds me of a book I read recently, by Mike Dooley (Manifesting Change). The basic premise: it’s about our thoughts, and then just putting ourselves out there, and not worrying about the cursed hows of how it will all happen.

What an enlightening,inspiring post that empowers everyone to be better and influence the world around them by exercising the virtue of positivity in initiating a good input so as to get a good output no matter the atmosphere sorrounding.

I loved reading your post !
Does LOA work when we use it to have people we desire in our family ( not about boyfriend or husband ), I mean someone to be our son in law or daughter in law ?
Congratulations and thanks Melody !

JD thank you for the introduction and for sharing Melody’s ideas with us.

I was just working within the flow and overcoming the ego resistance and bam along came this huge “cold” I figured I was too excited and only focusing on one part of the whole package – I must have needed to slow down….the teacher kept saying baby steps…baby steps….I always think I must be stung by a bee before I can find success…wham

and then I come to the body….I am really stuck on shape shifting – it is easier to be ill – it’s not about being stung by a bee – it’s where did this monster wall come from…and why can I not find a way around..

? lots of questions…at least the first part has a lot of joy and fun in it’s efforts…the wall is just cold and hard and I am tired of trying

Great sharing about how the law of attraction works. I like how you’ve also broken down your explanation into easy-to-understand steps. It’s really about fine tuning and moving closer and closer to the vibration that matches with our desires.

@Patricia – The wall you’re describing is resistance. It’s some kind of belief that you’re having trouble shifting. Try getting off the subject altogether for a while. Just go do something else that makes you happy. This will raise your vibration and give you access to solutions (ways around the wall) that you weren’t aware of before. Thanks so much for the comment and see you at Deliberate Receiving!

@Evelyn – so true. Most of us don’t realize just how close we are to the things we want. A lot of this work really is just fine tuning.

I admire how Melody has explained her 5 steps in attracting what we want in life to detail. I guess for now, I am still in step 1, which is basically knowing what it is exactly what I want. I am trying to achieve this efficiently through meditation, enabling me to be more mindful about my desires, needs, and ultimately my goals in life. I think there is no other way to finding happiness than to know what exactly makes you happy in life, and I find that the most difficult part. I want to be grounded accordingly so that I will be able to course through the next stages easily, life finding the bugs in my life (also through self awareness), fixing them, and making sure that I’m on the right track. Thank you for this post! I appreciate it very much!

Very inspiring post. I honestly believe that we can create our own reality, but I don’t agree with the notion that everything we have now is through our own creation. I don’t believe that people who have struggled in life have brought all the struggles to themselves or that the likes of war victims manifested their own situations. If you don’t believe you can create your own reality, then that may simply be fear kicking in and an excuse for you not to take action in your life. “Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so. – Belva Davis”

WOW.God bless you,Ive been to alot of other websites were they want you to spend a fortune for these insights. How wonderful it is to see someone who want to help benefit others instead of profit from them. Also Ive never read a clear description of the process like yours. Thank you for actually getting in depth with this process. You have really changed peoples lives. I hope you receive all the happiness in the world.

Ps. Now that we have the forgotten knowledge lets create a peaceful and heavenly world! 11-11-2011

I have to say that in my research of the law of attraction. This is the most explanatory, let’s you know that the person behind the story knows what she is saying, and that’s assuring. This is a wonderful post

Melody you’re amazing! This concept is amazing! Could you help me by breaking down what I would need to do start losing weight. I have struggled with weigh issues all my life, I would love for once and for all lose the weight I need to to remain in a healthy weight range.

Thank you for example. I am listening to Your wish is your command and it relates to so much you said. I can say its one and the same thing. Do you have some powerpoint presentation or few notes or reminder as LOA and mainfestation.

Hi Melody
There is this kind of guy that I really wanted to be with who entered my life. We are talking about arranged marriage. However suddenly things have come to a standstill. He said he needs time to think. We have met just once.
Knowing him and the life he leads he is very much the kind of person I would have liked to live my life with. Ofcourse I have been scared that the response could have been negative.
Am I going wrong somewhere and is there anything I can do as per the law of attraction that can make things better?

So I used your example of ‘your dream girl’ and changed it to a specific boy that I had liked and pined for for just under a year.
Our tension-filled text-only based relationship had never been clear before even though I had liked him almost immediately.
I was about to give up on him again when I came across this article.
Literally 2 days after ‘running the right program’ he was flirting with me, asking me to meet him and telling me he had feelings for me.
We met, and we started dating.
I don’t know how much of a coincidence it is, but it can’t be if I had been trying to get him to like me for an entire year and three weeks after reading this we were dating.

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m going to apply it to other aspects of my life and see how things turn out.

P.s. I told my best friend about this and she tried it out for her ex-boyfriend problems and things started working out for her and him for awhile afterwards.

You have described what and how, LOA works,excellent, which i have never read any where till now, with simple and fully powered words, which was very much help full for me.till now i was not able to exactly find out where was the real bug in my program,

you can contribute a lot to others who are in search of real information,

Hi Melody,
One night last week I could not sleep. It was 3AM so I took out my iPad and searched the web for something positive to read. I cannot say why I began searching for Laws of Attraction, but I did and found your website. I found it fascinating and decided to bookmark the site. I read it several times to get the concept.

My life had been a roller coaster for many years. Recent events have left me very lonely and searching for a new life. Two weeks ago a friend called and said she found the perfect guy for me and we had a lot in common. I hate fix-ups and blind dates and she knows this. She is a very good friend and I know she would only do this in my best interest, so I agreed, which is totally out of my comfort zone. I did however decide to take baby-steps and asked her to give him my email address and/or my phone no. I don’t know if she did but she did approach him. He said, “he was interested but concerned because he did not have much time working full time and taking care of his mother.” I I understood his concern because I too was a caretaker for my mom for ten years.

However, this guy sounds very nice and I would like to get to know him. So, I will be using the methods for ”attracting what you want,’ stated on you site. I will let you know the end results.

Thank You for enlightening me!
Cynthia

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