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If you're just going through a moment, it will pass. I have felt on and off that way for 25 years. Sometimes things just get overwhelming. But in a few hours everything is back to "normal." If it's something you can't shake, you need a break, before you break. If you do walk away, you will regret it later on. Try and organize, it helps some. Don't try and get everything done all the time because when you don't, you feel you have failed. Sit down and talk to DH and tell him you're feelings and see if he can pitch in. Just stay with the kids while you visit a friend, grocery shop, go for a walk, or whatever your budget may allow. And as remark said, pray. God doesn't give us more than we can deal with. It may seem that way, but what you have going on, you can get through.

I honestly don't know why I feel this way. Lately, I have been questioning why I even choose this lifestyle. I'm not like other mothers who love every second of being a parent or love every second of being around my kids. The sad part about this whole thing is that I decided to bring 3 children into the world and I feel like this. I feel terrible because I feel like this. It's not fair to the kids.

Comment by
Anonymous
(original poster)
at 10:07 AM on Jun. 1, 2011

Break time for Mommy! Also, you might want to talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. Sounds like depression to me- that's what I felt like before I was diagnosed last year. Good luck!

I went through this as well, it was years of feeling this way and thinking about how much better life would be if my husband just died. I dreamt about packing up and leaving and eventually I hit a breaking point. I ended up leaving after many other things had transpired.
One thing I realized is that I was co-dependent (which I never realized I was). There is a great book called Co-Dependant no more...it was amazing how I had every characteristic (10 pages worth). When we stop taking care of us and putting everyone else's needs and feelings before us, and we are sacrificing our wants and desires it starts to become an issue. One thing I learned in counseling is I have to take care of me first, if I'm happy everyone else is happy and I'm better able to take on things I need to. I'd suggest counseling if this continues, I'd never recommend doing what I did. I was gone for 8 months, I'm home now.