Re: what physical feature & personality trait do you hate most about yourself?

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Originally Posted by Mr. I'm So Rad

With me, it isn't even like that though. I'm usually indifferent toward people but I'll be polite when they talk to me. It's more of a general apathy toward life. Like I don't have any real life goals or desires for things like a family, a big house/car, etc. All of my motivation to do the little bit I do to get by stems from a basic instinct for homeostasis.

BTW you don't seem impolite to me lol. But maybe you're different in person.

Re: what physical feature & personality trait do you hate most about yourself?

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Originally Posted by ace23

Sounds like you've wanted to be something your whole life and failed.

That happened to me, so I became totally apathetic after...
Illness stopped me from playing pro ball and now I'm at third year of college, not trying at all. Barely passed my 2nd year and showing no improvement, just going through the motions...

Re: what physical feature & personality trait do you hate most about yourself?

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Originally Posted by JEFFERSON MONEY

Word?

Same here. "The deepest human need is to be appreciated." I thought that was some bullsh!t, just like love. I thought there were way too many exceptions to the rule (like the men who keep this society together without receiving any thanks) but its becoming more and more evident.

They say that in the act of giving is a way of expressing love and when you express that love it transforms BOTH the beloved and the lover. Therapeutically.

But when there's no reciprocation, that's when the act seems worthless.

I'm thinking that you would go to the ends of the Earth for your son and wife.. but if all of a sudden they were cold, and stingy with you.. it'd relaly make up the bulk of the thoughts huh?

Same thing happened with my roommate. Lent money, gave support, rides, and all that. Always thought reciprocal altruism and kindness were completely engraved and a facet of being human. Guessed wrong.

edit: Macho man. Nope, IRL speak concisely with necessity. weird.

You nailed it.

I'm that guy who pays for all the drinks, goes out of his way to make sure everyone is included, plans the sickest events...
Yet the moment something better comes along I'm the one left out. Maybe it's more the friends I keep. I've really became bitter towards a set group of friends because of it and stuck close to maybe a handful.

But my family is a different story. I ask nothing in return and am genuinely in love with my wife and give all I have to my son. I got criticized once on here for giving $50 every check to my son for allowance. I do it because I want to and it makes me feel good to provide that for him.

For the record, I think people like you are rare in which you can elaborate. Can roll with the jokes yet get serious and lay out concise thoughts. A very unique and admirable trait.

Re: what physical feature & personality trait do you hate most about yourself?

physically, I wish I could grow better facial hair, and I noticed my scalp is slightly thinning at top. I guess the latter is hardly noticeable, since I'm taller than everyone else, and wear hats everyday to work (which is perhaps part of the problem lol)

Personality-wise, I have a hard time getting close to people, and I have a bad habit of dwelling on past moments, and thinking about the future. Gotta do a better job of living in the present.