I know you probably look for a young, hot, beautiful, sweet and intelligent woman with a good set of life experiences…..…..Unfortunately there are not so many of them around, so you might as well keep reading….

I might not be one of the youngest sweethearts around, but on a good day I can look 10 years younger than my 44…..with a few layers of make-up, of course. And beauty can be bought with your money on a clinic, so that shouldn’t be any problem….….uhhh…..sorry, but thinking about it, I don’t think I want to go to that clinic anyway. It would scare me to death to look into a strangers face in the mirror…..I mean, come on, I’ve have seen those old stretched faces, looking like they are stoned on weed 24/7 with that strange grin on their faces…..*goosebumps*

So, what can I, Plain Jane, offer you that you won’t get from your dog, your call-girls, your family and friends?Well, for starters I would be a good companion for your dog while you’re out having fun with your call-girls….….and when you get home, I will greet you just as thrilled as your dog, wiggling my butt in total excitement….*no, I don’t have a tail*

And you can have all the mistresses you want in the whole world, because I know you will always come back to me.....Why? Because while they will become more and more needy, nagging and jealous….I won’t….….It’s not that I’m stupid….it’s just that I know that even though it’s nice and comforting with that good old MB (or rather a Fiat in my case) during weekdays, a guy has to let off some steam in a brand new sports car once in a while….you know….men are men….*reality check*

Also, I’m not one of those lazy women who just want to be rich so they can lay on the deck of your luxury yacht all day long…..give me ten minutes and I will be bored to death….

I will admire you deeply for all your long hours at work (even though you might just pretend to be there sometimes)….and I love to work myself, so I will be happy to contribute with my pennies to the household.

I won’t even grab one of your sports cars to show off in the streets…..I mean….I drive like an old lady anyway, and that would just be a waste of horsepower, wouldn’t it?….So I might just as well stick to my good old ’95 Volvo….

And I won’t bother you much at home either….give me a TV and a computer, and I’ll be quiet for hours….

Interior designing…..well, I’m not one of those women who will start a yearly invasion of designers, contractors and handymen to rearrange your home. It might look cool with the resent designs of plastic chairs for $10,000 a piece…..but it sure ain’t comfy for my butt….so I will rather move in with my puffy $50 fake leathers, if you don’t mind….

Hmmmm….thinking real hard about it….I don’t want your money to fix my face….I don’t want your money to lay around on your yacht…..I don’t want your money to drive a cool sports car…..I don’t want your money to show off a designers-dream-home….and I already have a TV and a computer…….

….so, what else can you offer me besides your loving smile, kindness and good sense of humor?......

…..Your dog, maybe?....Please?....

Yours sincerely,Plain Jane

To my dear future millionaire husband.

I know you probably look for a young, hot, beautiful, sweet and intelligent woman with a good set of life experiences…..…..Unfortunately there are not so many of them around, so you might as well keep reading….

I might not be one of the youngest sweethearts around, but on a good day I can look 10 years younger than my 44…..with a few layers of make-up, of course. And beauty can be bought with your money on a clinic, so that shouldn’t be any problem….….uhhh…..sorry, but thinking about it, I don’t think I want to go to that clinic anyway. It would scare me to death to look into a strangers face in the mirror…..I mean, come on, I’ve have seen those old stretched faces, looking like they are stoned on weed 24/7 with that strange grin on their faces…..*goosebumps*

So, what can I, Plain Jane, offer you that you won’t get from your dog, your call-girls, your family and friends?Well, for starters I would be a good companion for your dog while you’re out having fun with your call-girls….….and when you get home, I will greet you just as thrilled as your dog, wiggling my butt in total excitement….*no, I don’t have a tail*

And you can have all the mistresses you want in the whole world, because I know you will always come back to me.....Why? Because while they will become more and more needy, nagging and jealous….I won’t….….It’s not that I’m stupid….it’s just that I know that even though it’s nice and comforting with that good old MB (or rather a Fiat in my case) during weekdays, a guy has to let off some steam in a brand new sports car once in a while….you know….men are men….*reality check*

Also, I’m not one of those lazy women who just want to be rich so they can lay on the deck of your luxury yacht all day long…..give me ten minutes and I will be bored to death….

I will admire you deeply for all your long hours at work (even though you might just pretend to be there sometimes)….and I love to work myself, so I will be happy to contribute with my pennies to the household.

I won’t even grab one of your sports cars to show off in the streets…..I mean….I drive like an old lady anyway, and that would just be a waste of horsepower, wouldn’t it?….So I might just as well stick to my good old ’95 Volvo….

And I won’t bother you much at home either….give me a TV and a computer, and I’ll be quiet for hours….

Interior designing…..well, I’m not one of those women who will start a yearly invasion of designers, contractors and handymen to rearrange your home. It might look cool with the resent designs of plastic chairs for $10,000 a piece…..but it sure ain’t comfy for my butt….so I will rather move in with my puffy $50 fake leathers, if you don’t mind….

Hmmmm….thinking real hard about it….I don’t want your money to fix my face….I don’t want your money to lay around on your yacht…..I don’t want your money to drive a cool sports car…..I don’t want your money to show off a designers-dream-home….and I already have a TV and a computer…….

….so, what else can you offer me besides your loving smile, kindness and good sense of humor?......

Thanks for all your comments and opinions. Some of you might agree with me, some of you might not, but I appreciate every view on the matter just as much.

And yes, Windrider, I will give the Americans the benefit of the doubt, reality shows in Norway don't present the most clever Norwegians either....I mean, come on, young girls and boys who don't even know the name of the prime minister of their own country....or a young blond who thinks that the computer screen is the actual computer, and that the huge box underneath the desk is just some garnish.... *lol*....makes me proud to be a blond Norwegian.... 8-)

Thanks for all your comments and opinions. Some of you might agree with me, some of you might not, but I appreciate every view on the matter just as much.

And yes, Windrider, I will give the Americans the benefit of the doubt, reality shows in Norway don't present the most clever Norwegians either....I mean, come on, young girls and boys who don't even know the name of the prime minister of their own country....or a young blond who thinks that the computer screen is the actual computer, and that the huge box underneath the desk is just some garnish.... *lol*....makes me proud to be a blond Norwegian.... 8-)

Haven't had much time in the past weeks to more than pop on and read a few comments now and then before getting my lazy behind back in gear and to work. Since Spring has decided not to show herself yet...I'm still dealing with a lot of snow and, now that the temps are warm (30's - 40's in the daytime and teens to 20's at night) the ground that's been snow-ploughed is starting to thaw and I'm blessed with mud. If we don't get the promised 60 degree temps next week, I'm going looking for that pesky woodchuck myself. His cousin, Fred, lives in a burrow by an old oak tree in the upper pasture, and he hasn't shown his face since he went into hibernation late last fall. Pete must have a still in his burrow and came out drunk to predict an early Spring. He's probably passed out cold right now, waiting for that sensor he has tied to his foot to register 60 before his alarm goes off again!

Jen...

I feel badly for you that you can't see the humor in some things, but you're completely within your rights to express yourself any way you chose. There can be humor in everything if you don't take the conversation too serioulsy...why do you think there are so many comedians out there making big money with these subjects? It's not that we don't like your opinions, Jen...some of us just think you'd get more enjoyment out of some of the blogs if you were more open to off-beat humor.

I'm with you as far as fidelity goes. It's not about making a mistake...it's about breaking a trust, and trust is something that's almost impossible to be built back up once it's been torn down. Could I forgive someone I love for one quick affair? I don't know. I think I could forgive him but I seriously doubt if I'd ever be able to trust him again. Trust and integrity are the first things I look for in any relationship. A person who doesn't have those in their personal life will have none in their business life or friendships, either, and I don't think expecting that in a person is trying to control them. Without it, how can you any kind of a relationship that will last?

Pat...

You and I see pretty much alike on most subjects we've talked about. Maybe it's our age, or that we were raised in an era that demanded more of people and the values they live by. It saddens me to see so many people willing to settle for less than that. While I realize what I want out of life isn't necessarily what someone else would want, I wonder why they seem to want so little. I'm not judging them for their choices, but I'm very curious why they think the way they do, and it saddens me that values have become so soft.

Lady Di...

Do you really feel that demanding fidelity, telling someone you're worth more than just a part-time partner, is akin to controlling them? I guess I've just never thought of it that way. If a person really loves you, why would they want anyone else? To me that's just a man being controlled by the wrong head...or a woman never growing up enough to know her own worth. I concede it happens in a lot of relationships, but I don't understand how there can ever be any trust in that relationship after they cheat, even though you forgive them. You don't betray someone you love for nothing more than a few hours of physical pleasure. Once trust is broken, there's little hope of it ever being built up completely again.

I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that will disagree. I just don't understand the concept of loving someone and betraying them.

Quoting Naina...

"Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail."

Like you, I've never been jealous of anyone I was in a relationship with because there was trust, nor have I ever tried to control or dictate to a partner what he can or can't do. In any relationship, each person needs personal space...a time to center down and enjoy their own company. If the relationship is strong, that time won't be spent in hot pursuit of another playmate.

I don't judge what others find 'acceptable' in their relationships, but I do wonder why they make the choices they do. I've never seen a relationship yet that is "open" that survives for very long. That life is not for me, but then...my life isn't for very many others either. We all just have to find what works for us.

I enjoy your "corky Norwegian ironic humor". As for your social system...The Obamanation is seeing to it that the ones here who don't want to work are very well cared for, most of them making more money doing nothing than many who work their asses off. The few unions here that I've had personal experience with are about as worthless as tits on a boar. Quick to take your dues and very slow to do anything for you when it comes time for your contract to be renewed. Think we can match you on those two points! Grin...

OMG, Lady...please don't judge us by reality TV shows. I've only watched one or two...other than ones dealing with home improvement, cooking, etc. ...and they're about as far from 'reality' as you can get. If you want to do a bit of digging, just get to know some of the people on this site. Pretty eclectic lot, but most of the ones I've met are pretty down to earth and interesting individuals who are fun to get to know. Hope you enjoy your American adventure. ;-)

Hi everyone,

Haven't had much time in the past weeks to more than pop on and read a few comments now and then before getting my lazy behind back in gear and to work. Since Spring has decided not to show herself yet...I'm still dealing with a lot of snow and, now that the temps are warm (30's - 40's in the daytime and teens to 20's at night) the ground that's been snow-ploughed is starting to thaw and I'm blessed with mud. If we don't get the promised 60 degree temps next week, I'm going looking for that pesky woodchuck myself. His cousin, Fred, lives in a burrow by an old oak tree in the upper pasture, and he hasn't shown his face since he went into hibernation late last fall. Pete must have a still in his burrow and came out drunk to predict an early Spring. He's probably passed out cold right now, waiting for that sensor he has tied to his foot to register 60 before his alarm goes off again!

Jen...

I feel badly for you that you can't see the humor in some things, but you're completely within your rights to express yourself any way you chose. There can be humor in everything if you don't take the conversation too serioulsy...why do you think there are so many comedians out there making big money with these subjects? It's not that we don't like your opinions, Jen...some of us just think you'd get more enjoyment out of some of the blogs if you were more open to off-beat humor.

I'm with you as far as fidelity goes. It's not about making a mistake...it's about breaking a trust, and trust is something that's almost impossible to be built back up once it's been torn down. Could I forgive someone I love for one quick affair? I don't know. I think I could forgive him but I seriously doubt if I'd ever be able to trust him again. Trust and integrity are the first things I look for in any relationship. A person who doesn't have those in their personal life will have none in their business life or friendships, either, and I don't think expecting that in a person is trying to control them. Without it, how can you any kind of a relationship that will last?

Pat...

You and I see pretty much alike on most subjects we've talked about. Maybe it's our age, or that we were raised in an era that demanded more of people and the values they live by. It saddens me to see so many people willing to settle for less than that. While I realize what I want out of life isn't necessarily what someone else would want, I wonder why they seem to want so little. I'm not judging them for their choices, but I'm very curious why they think the way they do, and it saddens me that values have become so soft.

Lady Di...

Do you really feel that demanding fidelity, telling someone you're worth more than just a part-time partner, is akin to controlling them? I guess I've just never thought of it that way. If a person really loves you, why would they want anyone else? To me that's just a man being controlled by the wrong head...or a woman never growing up enough to know her own worth. I concede it happens in a lot of relationships, but I don't understand how there can ever be any trust in that relationship after they cheat, even though you forgive them. You don't betray someone you love for nothing more than a few hours of physical pleasure. Once trust is broken, there's little hope of it ever being built up completely again.

I'm sure there are a lot of people out there that will disagree. I just don't understand the concept of loving someone and betraying them.

Quoting Naina...

"Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail."

Like you, I've never been jealous of anyone I was in a relationship with because there was trust, nor have I ever tried to control or dictate to a partner what he can or can't do. In any relationship, each person needs personal space...a time to center down and enjoy their own company. If the relationship is strong, that time won't be spent in hot pursuit of another playmate.

I don't judge what others find 'acceptable' in their relationships, but I do wonder why they make the choices they do. I've never seen a relationship yet that is "open" that survives for very long. That life is not for me, but then...my life isn't for very many others either. We all just have to find what works for us.

I enjoy your "corky Norwegian ironic humor". As for your social system...The Obamanation is seeing to it that the ones here who don't want to work are very well cared for, most of them making more money doing nothing than many who work their asses off. The few unions here that I've had personal experience with are about as worthless as tits on a boar. Quick to take your dues and very slow to do anything for you when it comes time for your contract to be renewed. Think we can match you on those two points! Grin...

OMG, Lady...please don't judge us by reality TV shows. I've only watched one or two...other than ones dealing with home improvement, cooking, etc. ...and they're about as far from 'reality' as you can get. If you want to do a bit of digging, just get to know some of the people on this site. Pretty eclectic lot, but most of the ones I've met are pretty down to earth and interesting individuals who are fun to get to know. Hope you enjoy your American adventure. ;-)

I found your "letter" humorous.... I also found if you can survive with a laptop and a telly, don't care for a yacht, new car, face lifts, or finer things in life, AND, don't need much interaction from a man, and might even prefer his dog's company,,,, you might be best off single! They can be more trouble than their worth! LOL..

INFIDELITY? I understand about not "owning" anyone, but I do not see being upset over infidelity has anything to do with jealousy... It has to do with BETRAYAL... Marriage is based on the committment to remain FAITHFUL.. It is only natural for most people who love someone to want them to be honest.. and cheating is a form of lying. If the other side agrees, it would not be cheating..

Love should be UNCONDITIONAL, true.. But if both sides are not in agreement of one another's actions and it produces an insurmountable amount of pain, it simply isn't worth it. Eventually it catches up with the couple and rarely ends with the partners remaining intact. Too much hurt involved, regardless of unconditional love. That has nothing to do with ego's or jealousy.

I try religiously not to judge others, as I myself have been involved in areas I have had no business, so I understand your premise of not judging others on their choices. Just remember, if you desire a man to be faithful to you B/C you are committed to that and in agreement to this, you do not deserve for him to deviate from this committment, and if he should, you have every right to love him "unconditionally",,,, from afar...

WELCOME TO THE BLOGS! :)

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

WELCOME TO THE BLOGS CHERRYPOPS! ;)

I found your "letter" humorous.... I also found if you can survive with a laptop and a telly, don't care for a yacht, new car, face lifts, or finer things in life, AND, don't need much interaction from a man, and might even prefer his dog's company,,,, you might be best off single! They can be more trouble than their worth! LOL..

INFIDELITY? I understand about not "owning" anyone, but I do not see being upset over infidelity has anything to do with jealousy... It has to do with BETRAYAL... Marriage is based on the committment to remain FAITHFUL.. It is only natural for most people who love someone to want them to be honest.. and cheating is a form of lying. If the other side agrees, it would not be cheating..

Love should be UNCONDITIONAL, true.. But if both sides are not in agreement of one another's actions and it produces an insurmountable amount of pain, it simply isn't worth it. Eventually it catches up with the couple and rarely ends with the partners remaining intact. Too much hurt involved, regardless of unconditional love. That has nothing to do with ego's or jealousy.

I try religiously not to judge others, as I myself have been involved in areas I have had no business, so I understand your premise of not judging others on their choices. Just remember, if you desire a man to be faithful to you B/C you are committed to that and in agreement to this, you do not deserve for him to deviate from this committment, and if he should, you have every right to love him "unconditionally",,,, from afar...

I thought your blog was funny - in Britain, we call that Sarcastic Humour! It is ironic, giddy, funny and if you don't get it, you don't get! It could evoke some strong reactions as well. Well done, lovely Norwegian! I shall make a point to visit your country.

On the issue of infidelity in reality - I totally disagree with you. Infidelity comes along with too many complications......think about it......when you lie with a dog, don't be surprised that you awake with fleas...yuck, fleas are dirty! And I don't like dirty!

Liv.

Hey CherryPops,

I thought your blog was funny - in Britain, we call that Sarcastic Humour! It is ironic, giddy, funny and if you don't get it, you don't get! It could evoke some strong reactions as well. Well done, lovely Norwegian! I shall make a point to visit your country.

On the issue of infidelity in reality - I totally disagree with you. Infidelity comes along with too many complications......think about it......when you lie with a dog, don't be surprised that you awake with fleas...yuck, fleas are dirty! And I don't like dirty!

Sorry if someone doesn't like my opinions. It may be best for all of us if you ignore them, just as I ignore several opinions of others on this site. Clearly the infidelity is something she has thought about since she posted a second blog on the subject.

Seven important words for anyone online: I am not here to please you! Nor do I expect anyone, anywhere to please me. If you do happen to please me...great! If not then so what, get over it.

Sorry if someone doesn't like my opinions. It may be best for all of us if you ignore them, just as I ignore several opinions of others on this site. Clearly the infidelity is something she has thought about since she posted a second blog on the subject.

Seven important words for anyone online: I am not here to please you! Nor do I expect anyone, anywhere to please me. If you do happen to please me...great! If not then so what, get over it.

I know what I said earlier, but Jen, you really need to develop a sense of humor. Plain Jane/cherrypops is messing with your head when she didn't even mean to. She's being ironic; humorous; giddy; funny; sarcastic--all in the best possible way. She's a delight!!! And, sadly, you've missed out on that completely.

Come on, girl, put a smile on your face! Life is not black and white. It's full of shades of gray. And those shades of gray definitely should cause us to laugh our asses off now and again.

Quoting Jenkneee:

It's too bad OP that you have such little self-worth that you will allow your man to have mistresses. You do contradict yourself by using the Plain Jane term here but on your profile you state you are "very good-looking" so which one is it? Plain or very good-looking?

Let me make this loud and clear! There is NO WAY, that I will EVER let any man in my life to screw somebody and then come home to me. Emotional affairs, friends with benefits and hanging out with certain characters are not ever gonna happen and if any of it does then he is kicked to the curb!

Quoting Jenkneee:

It's too bad OP that you have such little self-worth that you will allow your man to have mistresses. You do contradict yourself by using the Plain Jane term here but on your profile you state you are "very good-looking" so which one is it? Plain or very good-looking?

Let me make this loud and clear! There is NO WAY, that I will EVER let any man in my life to screw somebody and then come home to me. Emotional affairs, friends with benefits and hanging out with certain characters are not ever gonna happen and if any of it does then he is kicked to the curb!

I know what I said earlier, but Jen, you really need to develop a sense of humor. Plain Jane/cherrypops is messing with your head when she didn't even mean to. She's being ironic; humorous; giddy; funny; sarcastic--all in the best possible way. She's a delight!!! And, sadly, you've missed out on that completely.

Come on, girl, put a smile on your face! Life is not black and white. It's full of shades of gray. And those shades of gray definitely should cause us to laugh our asses off now and again.

Windy, I think it's best if we don't order, or even ask, Jen to do anything! LOLOLOL. Jen will be Jen, and that's that. If she insists on being so deadly serious, well, we have to let her be that and just move on. At least that's my opinion.

Not that I disagree with your comments: I DON'T! But what the heck? Jen, as I said, is Jen.

Right, Jen? I think all of us should just let you rant and rave when you feel the need, and ignore such rants and raves if we have nothing positive to say about them. I think that would work just fine.

It is, however, a shame, a sad, sad shame indeed that Jen can't laugh with the rest of us when laughs are what has been inspired. Maybe one day. One day when she moves beyond whatever it is that has her treading on such a fine, thin wire. Right now she needs to be deadly serious. So, we should all just let her be what she feels she needs to be.

Quoting Windrider735:

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)

Quoting Windrider735:

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)

Windy, I think it's best if we don't order, or even ask, Jen to do anything! LOLOLOL. Jen will be Jen, and that's that. If she insists on being so deadly serious, well, we have to let her be that and just move on. At least that's my opinion.

Not that I disagree with your comments: I DON'T! But what the heck? Jen, as I said, is Jen.

Right, Jen? I think all of us should just let you rant and rave when you feel the need, and ignore such rants and raves if we have nothing positive to say about them. I think that would work just fine.

It is, however, a shame, a sad, sad shame indeed that Jen can't laugh with the rest of us when laughs are what has been inspired. Maybe one day. One day when she moves beyond whatever it is that has her treading on such a fine, thin wire. Right now she needs to be deadly serious. So, we should all just let her be what she feels she needs to be.

I found your "letter" humorous.... I also found if you can survive with a laptop and a telly, don't care for a yacht, new car, face lifts, or finer things in life, AND, don't need much interaction from a man, and might even prefer his dog's company,,,, you might be best off single! They can be more trouble than their worth! LOL..

INFIDELITY? I understand about not "owning" anyone, but I do not see being upset over infidelity has anything to do with jealousy... It has to do with BETRAYAL... Marriage is based on the committment to remain FAITHFUL.. It is only natural for most people who love someone to want them to be honest.. and cheating is a form of lying. If the other side agrees, it would not be cheating..

Love should be UNCONDITIONAL, true.. But if both sides are not in agreement of one another's actions and it produces an insurmountable amount of pain, it simply isn't worth it. Eventually it catches up with the couple and rarely ends with the partners remaining intact. Too much hurt involved, regardless of unconditional love. That has nothing to do with ego's or jealousy.

I try religiously not to judge others, as I myself have been involved in areas I have had no business, so I understand your premise of not judging others on their choices. Just remember, if you desire a man to be faithful to you B/C you are committed to that and in agreement to this, you do not deserve for him to deviate from this committment, and if he should, you have every right to love him "unconditionally",,,, from afar...

WELCOME TO THE BLOGS! :)

WELCOME TO THE BLOGS CHERRYPOPS! ;)

I found your "letter" humorous.... I also found if you can survive with a laptop and a telly, don't care for a yacht, new car, face lifts, or finer things in life, AND, don't need much interaction from a man, and might even prefer his dog's company,,,, you might be best off single! They can be more trouble than their worth! LOL..

INFIDELITY? I understand about not "owning" anyone, but I do not see being upset over infidelity has anything to do with jealousy... It has to do with BETRAYAL... Marriage is based on the committment to remain FAITHFUL.. It is only natural for most people who love someone to want them to be honest.. and cheating is a form of lying. If the other side agrees, it would not be cheating..

Love should be UNCONDITIONAL, true.. But if both sides are not in agreement of one another's actions and it produces an insurmountable amount of pain, it simply isn't worth it. Eventually it catches up with the couple and rarely ends with the partners remaining intact. Too much hurt involved, regardless of unconditional love. That has nothing to do with ego's or jealousy.

I try religiously not to judge others, as I myself have been involved in areas I have had no business, so I understand your premise of not judging others on their choices. Just remember, if you desire a man to be faithful to you B/C you are committed to that and in agreement to this, you do not deserve for him to deviate from this committment, and if he should, you have every right to love him "unconditionally",,,, from afar...

Actually, Jen, I am a little torn when it comes to accepting infidelity or not....

Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.

I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?

On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

Cherrypops~So well said! I agree with your sentiments about unconditional love and not being able to own another person.

Infidelity is not a deal breaker for me, as long as it isn't an ongoing issue and accompanied with lies and deceit. I'm not saying I'd like it.....but if I really loved him a lot....I would be able to find a way to understand and forgive him. If I didn't love him...I'd probably use it as an excuse to leave.

Quoting cherrypops:

Actually, Jen, I am a little torn when it comes to accepting infidelity or not....

Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.

I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?

On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

Cherrypops~So well said! I agree with your sentiments about unconditional love and not being able to own another person.

Infidelity is not a deal breaker for me, as long as it isn't an ongoing issue and accompanied with lies and deceit. I'm not saying I'd like it.....but if I really loved him a lot....I would be able to find a way to understand and forgive him. If I didn't love him...I'd probably use it as an excuse to leave.

My advice if you are torn about accepting infidelity or not is to lay the groundwork of saying no, you won't accept it across the board. It just makes life simpler for both you and your partner. Being jealous or not has nothing to do with it. If someone is jealous in a relationship then something is wrong in the relationship the two of you share. I am not a jealous person either, it is a wasted emotion.

Some can love unconditionally, as a mother I can do that but as a partner with someone, there has to be some conditions although I have put up with a lot in my previous marriage it was because I said vows and I took them seriously.

Morals in general are lacking ifor a lot of people in today's society. It's up to you to choose how you want to be. There is someone for every type of person in this world and being on this site may get you what you want, just lay down the rules first.

Quoting cherrypops:

Actually, Jen, I am a little torn when it comes to accepting infidelity or not....

Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.

I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?

On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

Quoting cherrypops:

Actually, Jen, I am a little torn when it comes to accepting infidelity or not....

Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.

I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?

On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

Hello OP,

My advice if you are torn about accepting infidelity or not is to lay the groundwork of saying no, you won't accept it across the board. It just makes life simpler for both you and your partner. Being jealous or not has nothing to do with it. If someone is jealous in a relationship then something is wrong in the relationship the two of you share. I am not a jealous person either, it is a wasted emotion.

Some can love unconditionally, as a mother I can do that but as a partner with someone, there has to be some conditions although I have put up with a lot in my previous marriage it was because I said vows and I took them seriously.

Morals in general are lacking ifor a lot of people in today's society. It's up to you to choose how you want to be. There is someone for every type of person in this world and being on this site may get you what you want, just lay down the rules first.

Actually, Jen, I am a little torn when it comes to accepting infidelity or not....

Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.

I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?

On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

Quoting Jenkneee:

Sorry windrider but No, I won't lighten up with I fully disagree with something someone posts. I love my freedom of speech and will use it sometimes in a public forum like this. Do I type a comment to everything I disagree with? No but I chose to do it here. I highly doubt this OP knew my views before her post but she does now on this one single topic and they probably won't affect her way of thinking in the least bit ,unfortunitely.

I thought this blogs were here to invite the reader to post something or else we would not be allowed tp post. Do I think someone else's post has anything whatsoever to do with personally with me. Not usually although there have been some, favorably or otherwise but they usually don't refer to me, that doesn't mean I am not going to state my opinion on something and nor will i sugar coat it for those sensitive readers. Opinions vary, sorry that you don't like mine on this topic but I won't change it, silence it or lighten it up for your behalf. I could even go further and state the ability of those to except other's negative ways contributes to the downfall of society.

AGAIN, there is no way in Hades or anywhere else that I believe anyone should allow their partner to screw someone else and then come home to them. It is wrong on so many levels and nothing to lighten up about or see as humorous.

Quoting Jenkneee:

Sorry windrider but No, I won't lighten up with I fully disagree with something someone posts. I love my freedom of speech and will use it sometimes in a public forum like this. Do I type a comment to everything I disagree with? No but I chose to do it here. I highly doubt this OP knew my views before her post but she does now on this one single topic and they probably won't affect her way of thinking in the least bit ,unfortunitely.

I thought this blogs were here to invite the reader to post something or else we would not be allowed tp post. Do I think someone else's post has anything whatsoever to do with personally with me. Not usually although there have been some, favorably or otherwise but they usually don't refer to me, that doesn't mean I am not going to state my opinion on something and nor will i sugar coat it for those sensitive readers. Opinions vary, sorry that you don't like mine on this topic but I won't change it, silence it or lighten it up for your behalf. I could even go further and state the ability of those to except other's negative ways contributes to the downfall of society.

AGAIN, there is no way in Hades or anywhere else that I believe anyone should allow their partner to screw someone else and then come home to them. It is wrong on so many levels and nothing to lighten up about or see as humorous.

Actually, Jen, I am a little torn when it comes to accepting infidelity or not....

Personally I am not jealous of anyone for anything, because I find jealousy to be a result of egoism and insecurity.

My life has tought me that I can't own another person. I can't decide what should be allowed to make another person happy, and I will never be that person who puts constraints to the happiness of the one I love.

I feel that I don't really love if I'm not able to love unconditionally, and who says that our Christian morality is the right one for everyone? There are other cultures were men have more than one wife, and if they are happy with that, who are we to judge?

On the other hand, if the infidelity is based on disrespect of the one you love, that's not okay either. There has to be a mutual understanding about the issue, otherwise the relationship is doomed to fail.

In Scandinavia we have kind of a different approach to the rich/poor issue than in many other countries, but that's because we have a social system that covers the needs of the people who can't/won't take care of themselves financially....meaning something like you don't have to marry rich to be lazy....*grin*

Also, "successful" people that are disrespectful to others, are being disrespected back...we are not dependent on rubbing the boss' back in order to keep a job. The unions are so powerful that he would lose in court almost no matter what anyway....*double grin*

....But seriously....people are meant to produce, to be active and/or to contribute with something to have a meaningful life....and I think I would be bored to death if I was to do nothing but being a rich guy's puppy....

I find this site interesting, though, because I'm really curious to get inside rich peoples head to explore their view on the world and the people around them....So far from what I've seen from American reality and documentaries about rich people....well, I'm not really impressed....but I guess they can't all be like that....

Love,Naina

Quoting Windrider735:

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)

Quoting Windrider735:

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)

In Scandinavia we have kind of a different approach to the rich/poor issue than in many other countries, but that's because we have a social system that covers the needs of the people who can't/won't take care of themselves financially....meaning something like you don't have to marry rich to be lazy....*grin*

Also, "successful" people that are disrespectful to others, are being disrespected back...we are not dependent on rubbing the boss' back in order to keep a job. The unions are so powerful that he would lose in court almost no matter what anyway....*double grin*

....But seriously....people are meant to produce, to be active and/or to contribute with something to have a meaningful life....and I think I would be bored to death if I was to do nothing but being a rich guy's puppy....

I find this site interesting, though, because I'm really curious to get inside rich peoples head to explore their view on the world and the people around them....So far from what I've seen from American reality and documentaries about rich people....well, I'm not really impressed....but I guess they can't all be like that....

Sorry windrider but No, I won't lighten up with I fully disagree with something someone posts. I love my freedom of speech and will use it sometimes in a public forum like this. Do I type a comment to everything I disagree with? No but I chose to do it here. I highly doubt this OP knew my views before her post but she does now on this one single topic and they probably won't affect her way of thinking in the least bit ,unfortunitely.

I thought this blogs were here to invite the reader to post something or else we would not be allowed tp post. Do I think someone else's post has anything whatsoever to do with personally with me. Not usually although there have been some, favorably or otherwise but they usually don't refer to me, that doesn't mean I am not going to state my opinion on something and nor will i sugar coat it for those sensitive readers. Opinions vary, sorry that you don't like mine on this topic but I won't change it, silence it or lighten it up for your behalf. I could even go further and state the ability of those to except other's negative ways contributes to the downfall of society.

AGAIN, there is no way in Hades or anywhere else that I believe anyone should allow their partner to screw someone else and then come home to them. It is wrong on so many levels and nothing to lighten up about or see as humorous.

Quoting Windrider735:

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)

Quoting Windrider735:

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)

Sorry windrider but No, I won't lighten up with I fully disagree with something someone posts. I love my freedom of speech and will use it sometimes in a public forum like this. Do I type a comment to everything I disagree with? No but I chose to do it here. I highly doubt this OP knew my views before her post but she does now on this one single topic and they probably won't affect her way of thinking in the least bit ,unfortunitely.

I thought this blogs were here to invite the reader to post something or else we would not be allowed tp post. Do I think someone else's post has anything whatsoever to do with personally with me. Not usually although there have been some, favorably or otherwise but they usually don't refer to me, that doesn't mean I am not going to state my opinion on something and nor will i sugar coat it for those sensitive readers. Opinions vary, sorry that you don't like mine on this topic but I won't change it, silence it or lighten it up for your behalf. I could even go further and state the ability of those to except other's negative ways contributes to the downfall of society.

AGAIN, there is no way in Hades or anywhere else that I believe anyone should allow their partner to screw someone else and then come home to them. It is wrong on so many levels and nothing to lighten up about or see as humorous.

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)

Plain Jane...I'm with Pat...you're a beautiful woman. Love your sense of humor...you're a delightful additional to the blogs. Welcome, and come visit some of the other fun sites. We can certainly find a position for you in Nothingville...grin.

Jen...Lighten up, will you? Can't you just enjoy this woman's off-beat sense of humor? She has an absolutely delicious sense of humor, why do you have to take everything so literally? It's not about you, and we all know what your views are on what you will and won't allow in your life. For once, lighten up and enjoy the humor of things. You have MANY fine qualities, but you're way too judgmental at times. Besides, you're much more beautiful when you're smiling. ;-)