How To Embrace The Slow Process Of Change And Maintain A Positive Mindset

We live in a world of instant. Your noodles, messages and downloads are all instant.

However, change isn’t.

Transformation is a process that takes time to complete. Anyone who has started a weight loss or body building program knows this. Forcing results will make you more frustrated and can dampen your motivation to complete what you started.

How do you overcome this problem? According to the latest Zen Habits article below, you need to change your perception. Becoming too fixated on the end goal can make you frustrated because you’re comparing your current state with the results. Instead, focus on the process.

In reality doing this is extremely logical. The process is the present and the end goal is only a fantasy until you achieve it. How has your mindset prevented you from attaining your goals? Share your experience with us.

The Frustratingly Slow Pace of Making Changes

There’s something in all of us that seems to want the changes we’re trying to make in our lives come as soon as possible.

If we’re trying to lose weight, we want those abs to show up within a week or two. If we’re building muscle we want to look like Hugh Jackman in a month. If we’re learning to meditate we want to master that in a week.

But none of that happens. What I’ve learned through repeated habit changes is that change comes much slower than we ever imagine.

How long does it take to find your abs? Well, they’re in there, but depending on where you start, it can take months or even years. Probably more than 6 months unless you’re already pretty close. That’s a long time to stick to a diet.

How long does it take to become a good writer? Years of practice. (I’m hoping to get there soon.)

How long does it take to learn programming? I have no idea, but I spent months learning and I still couldn’t make a real webapp.

When we start a change, we have an idea of how that will turn out — a fantasy in our heads, perhaps with a short timeline and a perfect result and an increase in happiness.

But that’s only a fantasy. It never happens as quickly as we’d like, we’re never perfect at it, and we tend to be mostly as happy as before.

So given that reality, how do we make long-term changes? How can you stick to writing or meditating or exercising for months on end, for years, to see the amazing results you’d really like to see?

Give up on the results. Instead focus on the step in front of you.

Give up on the fantasy. Instead be curious about what it’s really like when you try it.

Don’t be motivated by achieving the ideal. Be motivated by compassion for yourself and helping others.

Don’t be caught up in quick results. Savor the slow change.

Forget about the happiness of the outcome. Instead find happiness in the learning.

Don’t worry about perfect execution. The entire point is to learn about yourself.

And you will learn about yourself. You will have slow change. You will help yourself and others through this change. You will find out what it’s really like when you put in the effort. You will find happiness in each step, in the learning you experience along the way.

Change is worth the effort, and the results aren’t what you fantasize about — they’re much better, if you pay attention.

‘Perfection is attained by slow degrees; it requires the hand of time.’ ~Voltaire