Shared Parenting Gaining Steam Across The Nation

Posted December 12, 2017

The every-other-weekend dad, born from two generations of soaring divorce rates, was once a conventional part of American culture. In recent years, more couples have been agreeing to parent after divorce as they did in marriage: collaboratively.

Now lawmakers are accelerating this trend toward co-parenting, with legislatures in more than 20 states considering bills this year that would encourage shared parenting or make it a legal presumption – even when parents disagree.

Kentucky this year passed a law to make joint physical custody and equal parenting time standard for temporary orders while a divorce is being finalized. Florida’s legislature overwhelmingly approved a bill last year to presume equal time for child custody plans, but it was vetoed by the governor. And in Michigan, lawmakers are considering a bill that would make equal parenting time the starting point for custody decisions.

The legal push for custody arrangements is in large part a result of years of lobbying by fathers’ rights advocates who feel alienated from their children and burdened by child-support obligations. These groups, including the National Parents Organization, are gaining new traction with support from across the political spectrum, as more lawmakers respond to this appeal for gender equality and, among some conservatives, the frustration of a newly emboldened constituency of men who say they are being shortchanged.

Critics of the bills, including women’s rights groups and some legal associations, contend that stricter laws will roll back important protections against abusive or controlling former spouses and take discretion away from judges who are tasked with deciding what is in the best interest of children. They also say that the bills, which would directly apply to only the 10 percent or so of divorcing parents who cannot come to an agreement, are unnecessary because more divorcing parents are already choosing shared custody.

Laws that require joint physical custody could also lead to the elimination of child support in some states, women’s advocates say, disrupting a system that was designed to help women who have historically been paid less in the workforce while performing more unpaid labor at home.

Angie “Rockstar” Lantry didn’t win Big Brother (#BB20), but she is winning at co-parenting. In a blog post called Co-Parenting she writes: Here is the thing about divorce with kids, you are still family. You will always be family…Your children love both of you. You are both their family. You chose to have children together. My Ex-husband […]

In Georgina Dent’s Sept 2 “An inconvenient truth & the solution to ‘having it all’ we cannot ignore” she writes: Having just spent a month immersed in the subject of fathers and caring I cannot overlook the transformational impact of shared parenting not just on gender equality but on the quality of life that men, women and children […]