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This blog is a personal account of my travels throughout the world as part of my journey to unconditional self love and in service and passion of women entrepreneurs that I have had the privilege of meeting, sharing and learning from!

The Answer is really in you!

We are blinded by looking outside of ourselves,
the answers are in you and there will be signs that ALWAYS point you back to
you! Deborah L Johnson
(author)

The concept of value came up yesterday. Value of self mainly! How
do you value yourself? What an absolutely beautiful question! Had me thinking
for a hot minute! “you people” Now when that phrase begins a conversation I
have learnt that a lesson is coming and to pay attention! “you people always
look to someone else to value everything you do, this is from the smallest
thing to the largest, you do a painting, the value is based on someone else,
your house is valued by someone else, your qualifications by someone else, that
is not my standard, I place the value on me and my work and that is all”

I thought about that for a moment and realised that I have been
guilty of that. I relied on external validation for many things. I was of the belief
that if my family, my friends, the status quo didn’t say hey well done, or you
are doing the right thing or having their approval then I was either doing
something wrong or should not do it; but I have learnt that living a fulfilled life
is to be 100% self approved. That to me means, following your gut, listening to
your intuition, doing your absolute best and letting go of the outcome. I have learnt
that although having other people’s opinion is important it is not what I have
to look to for approval. Even when done with the best of intentions, many times
people want you to live their own dream which in almost all cases is totally
different to your own. You alone know what your dream is!!

So what did I learn today?

There's nothing wrong with external validation. It's just that
external validation cannot serve as a foundation to internal validation.
Without an internal structure of self validation, one tends to spend too much
time searching. Seeking something never to be received from anyone other than
self.

Peace!!

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