The Real Reason You’re About to Lose It

Even when she looks remotely calm, you could look in her face and tell she was thinking about the type of things that raise your blood pressure.

She continuously drives herself nuts. She can't let anything go.

Once I was at her house, we were supposed to be cooking and watching a movie but her mind was preoccupied with something else. She kept making mistakes in the kitchen because she continued to think about everything outside of what she was actually doing.

She was making a dish but forgot the ingredient that holds everything together. It still came out okay but she was disappointed with it.

This turned into another point of distraction for her.

Every time she served it or someone else asked about it being done, she warned them of the missed ingredient then harped on her mistake.

No one complained but she did.

As she allowed herself to get wrapped up in one thing, something else happened that she could add to the list. She was literally driving herself insane and getting incredibly stressed out.

This all started from something that happened at work. She made some type of mistake there and carried it with her.

Now, if it were a few hours after her shift I could understand. But it was Sunday afternoon and she hadn't been to work since early Friday.

She had been stressing out over this all weekend.

Just imagine how many other mistakes she made over the last couple days because she was focused on one that she couldn't correct until Monday, at the earliest.

Her entire weekend was ruined. I honestly thought she was going to have a panic attack.

This was just one instance. Trust me there is more.

Becoming obsessed with the wrong things or expecting unrealistic results are just a few surefire ways to get admitted into the loony bin.

You can't relax and find peace when your mind is preoccupied.

If you can't be at peace you're probably doing one or more of these:

You Demand Perfection

Everyone makes mistakes and there will be times when you are on the receiving end of it.

Expecting constant perfection in an imperfect world is a bit of a stretch. Things are going to go wrong and that’s fine if you have the right frame of mind.

I used to be guilty of this myself. I always expected the most from everything and everyone. Once I realized that some things aren't going to perform at the level that I expect it became easier to move on.

Learn to adjust your expectations. When things look like they will not turn out as planned, adjust the plan.

There are still other solutions to get the outcome you were looking for.

You can turn the worst-case scenario into something unimaginable. Accept that there may be a few bumps in the road and make tweaks as necessary.

You're Fearful

Being afraid of things can trigger anxiety. The more you start to panic, the farther from peace you become.

You can either overcome your fears or you can accept them as they are.

Either way you will be able to be at peace with it and gain the balance you need.

You're Resentful

Are you still upset but something that happened a long time ago?

Do you hold grudges like it's an Olympic sport?

Choosing to hang on to ill feelings does more harm than good.

You might think that it’s effective in reminding you of something but it’s just keeping you in the past.

Bearing old anger or being upset for too long isn't healthy. You're purposely keeping yourself from a calm state of being.

It is normal to have these feelings but not to carry them around forever. Give yourself a moment, release these emotions and breathe easy.

You're Regretful

This is probably the most common way people drive themselves crazy.

Constantly thinking about the past, especially things that you can't change, is counterproductive.

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Entrepreneurs are trailblazers. They do things differently than other people. When you are working online, pretty much alone, it’s very stressful and can really drive you nuts when things go wrong… especially things you might not be able to fix by yourself, like getting your site hacked, or figuring out how to get buyers to your sales page etc.

It’s absolutely critical to build a team… a virtual team of techies, SEO folks, fellow bloggers… graphic designers… whatever you need to make your business viable.

Personally, I think hiring a good coach is about the single most important thing any online entrepreneur or blogger can do.

These are the things that can keep you moving forward and avoiding the crash when all seems lost.

I think I was probably like your friend on Saturday, stressed by technical issues on my blog again. Then my Dad said to me “Just go sit in the garden”. So I did! I took a book and just forgot about my blog for the afternoon. Well – more accurately I put in a support ticket to the theme developer and left them to it. The problems were still there the next day, but I felt better for a day off.

The other thing I do to calm myself down is a weekly yoga class. As well as making my body feel better it calms my mind – which I am very aware, I need to work on!

Oh yes! I sure do know someone like your friend, and it’s an emotional roller coaster. You’re absolutely right about how the reactions stem from regret and fear. All of those emotions fester in an individual and that’s when it leads them to losing their concentration on what the current task is. It’s frustrating when this happens. It’s very tough for people to let go of the negativity.

Isn’t it?! Being focused on the wrong thing can take everything away from you. You end up all over the place and even more aggravated.

Thanks for the feedback!

Lea

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