LET GO THE KITE IN YOUR PSYCHE

01-December-2018

RAJGOPAL NIDAMBOOR

We all go through a subtle process, knowingly or unknowingly. Philosophers call this condition ‘emotional release.’ Ironically, however, most of us tend to get ‘wedged,’ with a tight knot, just before we are able to release such an emotion, or emotions. A few who manage to reach and climb over this stage, and truly work on expressing themselves, may not be able to unwind fully too. Well, if any of us wishes to complete the whole process, we need to ‘let go’ of our unwanted emotional baggage. For instance, there could be a rigid emotion that has gotten deeply entrenched within our psyche. It is not easy to relieve this emotion at the speed of thought. To ‘let go’ the emotion, we ought to reach a higher level — a stage that helps us to rediscover who we are. It is not that you would feel contented in purging this emotion, but when you do, you will only be happy for it.

All of us have our fill of happiness, anger, sadness and disappointments. We all have a tendency to hold them close to our chest too. We are scared to let them go fully. Because, we feel we would not be what we are without them lodging in our mind and behaviour. This, in effect, means we will remain where we are — not move ahead. Yet, it frightens our inner workings. So, we cling, if not grasp, to our existing emotional condition. As days and months go by, we, instead of easing, activate such emotions to reach distorted levels.

Picture that you are just about to release your kite with a lengthy thread attached to it. The kite will fly and sail freely — so long as you are in control of it. Emotions are somewhat like mental kites. The best thing that we can do is to let go our emotions like a kite. If we do, which we are most prone to disrupt otherwise, we will help ourselves reach a state of emotional freedom — without even realising how we untied the strings and/or sequence.

To achieve a state of emotional release is in no way easy. But, there is a method — if only we become conscious of the emotion, express it, lock, stock, and barrel, and also allow it to scatter. If this does not work, you should ‘make your mind up’ firmly. Think of an emotion as excess luggage, not useful, a vicious loop — that you want to free — or, a bug. Your attitude will change. You will now try to cleanse it from deep within — from the centre to the periphery and out of your system. Quite like the homeopathic law of cure.

Letting go a radical emotion is not the end of this fleeting emotional story. It can upset your feelings; it could hurt someone else’s feelings too. More so, if they want you to carry the emotion for your own good — to do well in our competitive world, or on the sports field. To achieve complete release and to enhance your emotional health, you have no other choice but to go further on the road less travelled. You must overcome the emotion, get hold of it, heighten your compassion, discover what mistaken beliefs you embrace, and finally let your emotions go out of your mind’s window. Once this happens, everything will change for you. You will feel lighter, more vibrant, more energetic, and eager to go ahead full steam in everything you do too. It connotes the whole process of holistic healing — a process of feeling your breath, with your feet placed on the ground.