Must-read for partners having sex for the first time!

First-time sex with a new partner can be exciting; but, if you’re not careful, you can ruin the fun because of some lapses here and there.

Indeed, many questions are likely to race through your mind: Will you be sexually compatible? Will this new partner be into the same bedroom fun as you? And can you make the first time good enough that she/he will want a repeat?

To start with, don’t overanalyse each other’s bodies, as this can kill the fun instantly. As both of you undress, take in the view and pass simple compliments without appearing to exaggerate, feel disappointed or overwhelmed.

During foreplay or sex, let go of the expectation of coming or making her come, says sex and relationship coach, Tatiana Dellepiane.

“That way, both of you can relax into the experience and feel more pleasure. It also helps the woman to feel safe and to know that you are not selfish,” Dellepiane says.

Look into each other’s eyes, thereby creating increased intimacy and connection, which can be playful and sexy, says Dellepiane.

For more intimacy, try caressing. A feather-light touch actually elicits more sensation and pleasure than being grabby. The more often you caress, the more you feel. Touching in this manner raises the anticipation of sex, says Dellepiane.

Don’t be too aggressive or presumptuous the first time you have sex with someone new. You may want to avoid anal sex, unless she’s directing you that way.

Aside from missionary, a good position to try is her on top. This way, she can feel like she’s in control and you can reinforce how sexy she looks and feels from that vantage point, says dating and relationship expert, Andrea Syrtash.

Depending on how far you both wish the encounter to be, you can engage in a few more experiments if you have the time and strength.