Is It Shallow To Want Your Guy To Be Well-Dressed?

We've all seen those rare specimen of menfolk who look too suave, too fashionable and too darn good to have dressed themselves... Okay, I kid. Fashion sexism aside, Fi and I are still struggling a bit over what he's going to wear to our impending nuptials. It's not so much a question of taste as...

...planning. Fi is a last-minute, laid-back kind of guy—and he hates shopping. Add that to a personality that's more comfortable in flip-flops and cargo shorts than a tie and sports coat. He's 29 and does not own a sports jacket. I swear he's been self-employed for almost ten years for precisely the reason that he can work from home in his flannel PJ pants. So when it comes to our wedding, he has not exactly been on the ball in terms of choosing his outfit.

After he threatened me with tuxedo T-shirts and then zoot suits—he also has quite the sense of humor, that's why I'm marrying him!—we compromised on a vest suit (tie, no jacket). Two weeks ago, I realized he hadn't ordered the one we found from J.Crew, which was of course now on sale and rapidly selling out in his size. Yikes. Yup, I promptly ordered it for him. It arrived and it fits, but the pants need to be hemmed. Has he taken it to the tailor? Of course not! Adding to my stress, we still have no clue what he's going to wear with the suit: the shirt, the tie, the shoes, as well as outifts for his groomsmen, all of this is completely TBD. I am so freaked out about all of this—our big day is less than three months away—that I called on the guy's style experts over at Boutonnieres & BowTies.com to "style my groom". Check it out and let me know what you think!

Overall, I would say I'm pretty "whatever" about Fi's style, but for our wedding day e.g. one of the most important days of our life...people, is it shallow of me to care so much??? How much do you put on guy's style versus your own?