She's touring the facility/and picking up slack.--"For in much wisdom is much grief, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow." Ecclesiastes 1:18--I once believed in causes too, I had my pointless point of view --Life went on no matter who was wrong or right

I'm feeling sad, and I miss him, but this is not the right relationship unless he changes something about him.

Prayers for him to take care of himself and I guess to grow in wisdom as a Godly man.

Lord have mercy!

NEVER go into a marriage with the idea that you will change the other person.

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Question a friend, perhaps he did not do it; but if he did anything so that he may do it no more.A hasty quarrel kindles fire,and urgent strife sheds blood.If you blow on a spark, it will glow;if you spit on it, it will be put out; and both come out of your mouth

I'm feeling sad, and I miss him, but this is not the right relationship unless he changes something about him.

Prayers for him to take care of himself and I guess to grow in wisdom as a Godly man.

Without judgment, I encourage you to focus primarily on applying these concerns to yourself. Ask God to change you, and pray to grow in wisdom as a godly woman. Our peace does not reside in the actions and character of others, it resides only in our own spiritual growth. And please believe me when I confess that I'm still learning this lesson each and every day.

"Lord have mercy."

Selam

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"There are two great tragedies: one is to live a life ruled by the passions, and the other is to live a passionless life."Selam, +GMK+

For what it is worth, Women enter marriage hoping to change the man. Men enter marriage hoping the woman never changes. Both end up disapponted. If you can't love someone for who they are, move on - and don't be sorry about it.

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I would be happy to agree with you, but then both of us would be wrong.

For what it is worth, Women enter marriage hoping to change the man. Men enter marriage hoping the woman never changes. Both end up disapponted. If you can't love someone for who they are, move on - and don't be sorry about it.

For what it is worth, Women enter marriage hoping to change the man. Men enter marriage hoping the woman never changes. Both end up disapponted. If you can't love someone for who they are, move on - and don't be sorry about it.

Wise words. Pregnancy and age certainly do change women.

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I would be happy to agree with you, but then both of us would be wrong.

I'm feeling sad, and I miss him, but this is not the right relationship unless he changes something about him.

Prayers for him to take care of himself and I guess to grow in wisdom as a Godly man.

Without judgment, I encourage you to focus primarily on applying these concerns to yourself. Ask God to change you, and pray to grow in wisdom as a godly woman. Our peace does not reside in the actions and character of others, it resides only in our own spiritual growth. And please believe me when I confess that I'm still learning this lesson each and every day.

"Lord have mercy."

Selam

Explain how this works when someone you care about is doing something dumb/probably harmful for himself in the long run?

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Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation. (2 Cor 2:6)

I'm feeling sad, and I miss him, but this is not the right relationship unless he changes something about him.

Prayers for him to take care of himself and I guess to grow in wisdom as a Godly man.

Without judgment, I encourage you to focus primarily on applying these concerns to yourself. Ask God to change you, and pray to grow in wisdom as a godly woman. Our peace does not reside in the actions and character of others, it resides only in our own spiritual growth. And please believe me when I confess that I'm still learning this lesson each and every day.

"Lord have mercy."

Selam

Explain how this works when someone you care about is doing something dumb/probably harmful for himself in the long run?

There is no simple formula for such a dilemma. If only love could be reduced to a mathematical equation, it would be so much easier. I don't know "how" this works, or even if it "works." But I do know that if we focus on changing ourselves and begging God to remove sin from our own lives, then we will experience more peace than if we continue to focus our efforts on trying to change others.

Speak the truth in love, offer your unconditional assistance in their efforts to repent and mend their lives, and turn your worries into prayers (as much as you can.) None of this will remove the pain you feel as you watch someone you love self-destruct. Their harmful actions towards themselves and towards you will always cause you pain. If you didn't love them, you wouldn't hurt so much. So, don't seek ways to remove the pain, but seek nearness to God so that you will find peace in them midst of the pain.

As I said, I'm trying to learn these very lessons myself, each and every day. I apologize if I sounded insensitive before.

Selam

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"There are two great tragedies: one is to live a life ruled by the passions, and the other is to live a passionless life."Selam, +GMK+

There is no simple formula for such a dilemma. If only love could be reduced to a mathematical equation, it would be so much easier. I don't know "how" this works, or even if it "works." But I do know that if we focus on changing ourselves and begging God to remove sin from our own lives, then we will experience more peace than if we continue to focus our efforts on trying to change others.

Speak the truth in love, offer your unconditional assistance in their efforts to repent and mend their lives, and turn your worries into prayers (as much as you can.) None of this will remove the pain you feel as you watch someone you love self-destruct. Their harmful actions towards themselves and towards you will always cause you pain. If you didn't love them, you wouldn't hurt so much. So, don't seek ways to remove the pain, but seek nearness to God so that you will find peace in them midst of the pain.

As I said, I'm trying to learn these very lessons myself, each and every day. I apologize if I sounded insensitive before.

Selam

He doesn't want to repent. I was going to let the relationship slide, not go out of me way to have a friendship with him. That is sad too.

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Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation. (2 Cor 2:6)

God give you both wisdom, peace and strength. We should not try to change someone, we should respect the will of the person. However, st. John Lestvichnik writes in his book that we shall see that we have love when we suffer for the mistakes of the people destroying their souls.