IMPORTANT: RE- JDATE SITE REDESIGN

Ladies and gentlemen, if any of you have profiles on JDate, you may want to review them. In addition to the inevitable deletion of several paragraphs of my essays, which I suppose I was expecting with the site redesign, it appears that all profiles have been reset to default to “I do not plan on having any children.” As if Jewish continuity didn’t have enough problems…

So if you do plan on having children, and you have a JDate profile, take another look at it to make sure it still reflects “the you” that you want reflected.

And as always, if you’d like a profile rewrite, go to E-Cyrano.com and tell them that Esther sent you…

16 comments

People seem to get very addicted to JDate as a kind of cybersex. I cured myself by finding some NG’s and blogs to post to. And trying to do some writing on paper even…

I bet some people are so addicted that they keep their profiles up even after they’re married. You could have a web site specifically for people who wanted to cheat online (don’t tell my Rabbi I posted this), and call it “A-Date” (A as in Hester Prynne’s scarlet A…). Don’t tell anyone I said this. Simcha

I am now on hour 32 of my withdrawal from JDate. First time without being a premium member in 3 years. Every time I feel that urge to login…I have to go…WORK! When I have logged in and seen my mailbox blinking I have to resist the urge to renew…after 6 months of not paying $33.00 a month I will have saved enough for a new Apple Nano, which will be much better company than the men I have met on the site. I have always been a staunch supporter of JDate but their price is just WAY to high compared to Match for, trust me, the same men.

Well any default position that precludes children is just silly. Most women will marry a dn have children. The Census tells us that despite non encouraging trends, upwards of 85-90% of women will wind up with children. Now couple this with Stats. that tell us about 1/2 of all pregnancies are still ‘umplanned’ and we come up with rampant confusion.

There’s plenty of things I’m doing today that I did not plan for 5 & 10 years ago. Some of them are supremely unpleasant, (seeing another idiot put onto the Supreme Court by another Bush), some of them more pleasant, (getting my taxes cut by the same robbing crew of plutocrats).

So I think it’s a poorly conceived of assertion. A simple; ‘Want kids?’ ‘Yes, No, Maybe’ would probably suffice. Often the question boils down to who you are with, which has many, many factors to take into account.

Geez was that that last post buggered. Too much rush. Should have been ‘Most women marry and have children’, and of course ‘Unplanned’ pregnancies. Stats. from the Alan Guttmacher Inst. Always useful folks to have around. Cheers, ‘VJ’

Hmm, I’ve got a JDate profile but I never really lavished much attention on it (not being officially Jewish and all). I mostly set it up so I could view and give feedback on friends’ profiles. I never even put up a photo.

What is it about JDate that frustrates regular users so much? (besides weird resets like this one)

What is it about JDate that frustrates its users? How much time you got, Tyler?

AL, I hear ya, as usual.

Simcha, believe me, it already exists, sorry to say. There are MANY opportunities for cheaters to find other cheaters online for discreet or flagrantly unfaithful marrieds. Sad, but true.

Chutzpah, let me know how that new savings plan works out…

Marty, I feel ya on the improv in the chat room. It’s definitely good as an experiment in social interaction. But is that enough of a yield to stay current with your membership?

Jennifer, I would have thought that, too. But maybe it’s a reflection of the aging of the singles population: we’d say we’re not into having children to keep our expectations low…that’s just one thought. But I think it’s fair to say that Judaism centers hugely on family life, and most of us, when we picture our Jewish futures, picture some little rugrats runnin’ round.

VJ, thanks for the stats. And of course, I agree with you.

And Tyler, by “not officially Jewish,” I assume you mean your mother’s not Jewish, right? Can we coax you over?

What is it about JDate that frustrates its users? How much time you got, Tyler?

As Dr. Frasier Crane said, “Iâ€™m listening”

And Tyler, by “not officially Jewish,” I assume you mean your mother’s not Jewish, right? Can we coax you over?

Not really a family thing, more of a cultural assimilation thing. Over the past several years, lots of Jewish friends, some relationships with Jewish women, and a few bar mitzvahs, weddings and funerals have given me a substantial education in and familiarity with Jewish culture.

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