Bethenny Frankel's Love Advice: 'Find Out Who You Are Before Getting Someone Else Involved!' Exclusive!

Bethenny finally found the love of her life & now she’s telling you how to do the same!

Bethenny Frankel knows a thing or two about the dating world. After a brief marriage to her former best friend Peter Sussman in 1996, Bethenny had to play the dating game in NYC until she married the love of her life, Jason Hoppy, in 2010. Now Bethenny is sharing what she learned about trying to find Mr. Right!

“You have to find out exactly who you are and be honest with yourself,” the 40-year-old Bethenny Getting Married? star tells HollywoodLife.com exclusively Jan. 25 at the Pampers Gifts to Grow Spa Day at Oasis Day Spa in NYC. “Not until you really know what it is that you want, do you get someone else involved in your stuff nor should you look [until then].”

She also says you need to figure out what type of life partner you want.

“I don’t think walking into a bar or club and looking for a man is the way to go about it,” Bethenny explains. “If you want to sit on the beach for the rest of your life with some rich guy, if that’s actually what you want and that will make you happy, that’s what you need to do.”

If you want your own career, don’t kid yourself,” she says. “You have to be honest with yourself. Don’t pretend that being taken care of is going to make you fulfilled.”

Bethenny’s upcoming book, The Place of Yes, hits stores March 22, and in a chapter titled “Find Your Truth,” women will be able to find even more of her love advice.

“That chapter is about letting go of certain relationships and making decisions out of truth and not fear, and how sometimes we don’t take responsibility for other people’s feelings,” Bethenny notes.

Another chapter, “Go For Yours,” gives the details of Bethenny’s introduction to her husband Jason:

“When I met Jason, I’d finally accepted the fact that I probably wouldn’t meet someone and probably wouldn’t get married,” Bethenny teases. “But because I was so honest with myself, that’s how Jason ended up walking into my life.”