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Talk to a lawyer. That's the only way you will really know your chances.

by Anonymous 3
on Sep. 24, 2013 at 5:21 AM

Most states are very sympathetic to parents so even if she's unfit she still has to be willing otherwise it will take years to prove she's unfit enough for the state to remove her rights. The best option would be to get guardianship over the child and hope the mom over doses or stops contact all together and you can pursue adoption by abandonment.

by Anonymous 4
on Sep. 24, 2013 at 5:41 AM

This.

I hope CPS is better than they are here. SDs BM was doing Meth and we were very lucky to have a good lawyer and had her removed from the home but when we made calls to CPS for concerns about her other baby all they did was call her, no home visit, no nothing. She still has that poor baby. I really hope for that baby's sake you can get custody of her.

Quoting Anonymous:

Most states are very sympathetic to parents so even if she's unfit she still has to be willing otherwise it will take years to prove she's unfit enough for the state to remove her rights. The best option would be to get guardianship over the child and hope the mom over doses or stops contact all together and you can pursue adoption by abandonment.

by Anonymous 5
on Sep. 24, 2013 at 5:46 AM

how's your bond with the baby? Have you spent alot of time around her/him? If you can prove she's unfit and no other family members in the area can take the baby you may have a chance.

by Anonymous 3
on Sep. 24, 2013 at 5:50 AM

See but in your case he as a bio parent this is a second cousin. Their family circumstances are a lot weaker than yours I don't see the state taking the baby away permanently and sending the baby several states away. Parents, especially mothers, still have rights

Quoting Anonymous:

This.

I hope CPS is better than they are here. SDs BM was doing Meth and we were very lucky to have a good lawyer and had her removed from the home but when we made calls to CPS for concerns about her other baby all they did was call her, no home visit, no nothing. She still has that poor baby. I really hope for that baby's sake you can get custody of her.

Quoting Anonymous:

Most states are very sympathetic to parents so even if she's unfit she still has to be willing otherwise it will take years to prove she's unfit enough for the state to remove her rights. The best option would be to get guardianship over the child and hope the mom over doses or stops contact all together and you can pursue adoption by abandonment.

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