can't say I'm completely apalled. But do you think he did it in a fit of stupidity or is this something he would normally expect of a wife? Either way man, dammit what the hell?!? Actually I did have this one manager one time at this movie theatre I work at... He was nuts, kinda like this guy seems like. He was a madman. He was interrogating our asst. managers telling them to tell him who smoked pot (long story basically he was doing all kinds of unethical things which he thought were standard operation or whatever fucked up thought process he had goin on in his head was tellin him so, and I never liked not from the start and finally he was caught stealin money so the cops were called and the home office came down to our location and kicked his ass out!!! ah ha hah ANDY PETH beware... last I heard he was workin at a casino as a security guard. So if you go to a casino in colorado watch out!

Um... is this normal in the states cause you guys kinda freaked me out by being in your usual state of sarcasm, or atleast I hope you were cause this is what horror movies are made off. Fuck this guy, he shouldnt exist.

OK, now obviously not to that extreme, but how many people believe this is something they at least think.

I mean, you hear about people saying they let themselves go after marriage.

He nips that in the butt with the hygiene rule.

Sex stops after marriage or at least isn't what is used to be.

He tries to head that one off at the pass.

Typically if the either makes their significant other happy through any means (including sex), they will reap benefits like more eagerness overall to pursue activities and things similar to GBD.

So essentially, this guy just took what all men or women fantasize and worry about regarding marriage, and went too far with the whole idea.

But take out the specifics and the premises themselves make sense.

And yes, my earlier response was sarcasm, but this is certainly nothing shocking. Simply someone taking too far the typical fears that accompany the 'sacrifice' associated with marriage and perhaps his age also.

This all sounds like the wrong reasons to get married. Its like your saying writing it down is going to far, but I would be more fearful of a guy who expected these requests without stating them and therefore showing his/her insanity before things went to far. I knew Americans had its weirdos but with this kind of support... actually im just going to stop it here.

Which is A LOT more than you can say about most of the fucking men on this planet.

His expectations aren't anything that I would consider "way out there." Now if he said, you will bathe in pig blood once a week and parade around the neighborhood clucking like a chicken" then yea, I'd be like...hmmm. His requests aren't anything too demanding though.

Most of the shit he asks for are things that every woman should do anyways. I don't want a man who doesn't take care of himself, I wouldn't expect a man would want a woman who didn't take care of herself. Hygiene and otherwise.

Sleeping requirements, I sleep naked anyways, wouldn't bother me. I like to be naked. Much more comfortable that way.

As far as the sexy nighties/panties or whatever, I personally also like that kind of shit. It makes me feel sexy to know that my guy thinks I'm sexy. Hell, this dude is my match made in heaven.

What is so wrong with getting your expectations out there before marriage? At least she knew what she was getting into. It's not like he decided to drop this on her after they were married. No surprises. She knew what she was getting into. It is something that should have at least been discussed, in my opinion. All the expectations of the marriage. Will we have kids? who will cook dinner? how often will we eat out? who will take care of the bills? who is going to do what chores? ...it goes along with all of that kind of stuff.

This is the problem with American marriages today. People just jump the fuck in and then it's like "yea, so...we're married. Now what?" You should have all of that shit figured out BEFORE you get married, then maybe half of marriages wouldn't end in divorce in less than 2 years. If you know what you're getting into it wouldn't be such a damn shock.

I was not sarcastic, She saw it before marriage. No she di not sign, but she still married him.

Plain and simple, people are freaks. In the bed and out of the bed. People are odd and we all have various defrees of oddity. What many fail to remember is some women like a man to dominate them. Some men like a woman to dominate them. Like I said we are all freaks.

For all you know she was totaly down, then as women do... changed her mind. Now he is such an a-hole. There is allways 2 sides. Now if he is a pedofile...

Take his nuts and feed him to a pack of wolves. Not a figure of speech. Seriously, rip(not cut) off his nuts, and feed him alive to hungry meat eaters.

I just don't get why someone would put together a list that is required to be followed. He's trying to manage her like he's a CEO or something that's what marriage should be like. The differences in character should be accepted, sure maybe she'll be yelling at the guy and the guy wants something to come home to but damn man all that should be done out of respect. To put some kind of list of rules... well this lady apparently accepted it which is nuts! She needs to lay down her law, like, "Mofo! I do what I want, when I want, and how I want it!!!" And that guy is just freaky. Anyone who expects another human being to follow a set of their rules for personal conduct is just sick. The point is not in her accepting of it (I think that's a little sick but whatever) but of his presenting of such a list. Maybe if she wrote the list for him and willingly followed it then it would be an average sick that you just accept, but damn.

First, no theft was mentioned at my termination from that theatre. I've never stolen anything in my life.

Second, I was asking your assistant managers about whether anyone was smoking pot DURING MOVIE SCREENINGS, since that would violate company policy. Since I favor legalization of pot, why would I care if people smoke it privately?

Finally, the manager who fired me approached me recently and apologized, since she never agreed with the decision. I've been at my current job for almost 6 years, with a good record of honesty and integrity.

I was terminated for "Insubordination." The reason given to me for this was my refusal to report to a certain member of Home Office.

I knew this man to be corrupt. Unfortunately, this man was a close personal friend of my predecessor at the theatre (whom I foolishly criticized at Home Office), and he was also working together with the assistant managers to get me fired.

As for the Assistant Managers, I believe they were both good people who were fed bad information. I also believe they were frustrated at changes I had made (cleaning projects, cutting payroll, increased upselling), so they quickly jumped to the worst conclusions about me, no matter what I did, or what I said. It was hopeless.

But as for theft, let me give conclusive proof. I now own a key license for Gaming in Colorado. This requires a 2 month, $1250 background check. HAD I EVER BEEN FIRED FOR THEFT, THERE IS NO WAY ON EARTH I WOULD HAVE BEEN GIVEN THIS LICENSE.

Look, I know you disliked the way I ran the theatre. I respect that. But I feel you too were fed some bad information. I tried very hard to make the theatre a happy place to work, but within higher profitability. My predecessor ran far higher payrolls and expected far less work. I don't say that out of spite, as I like the man, but I do say it out of fact. And I'm sure you were close to him. But I changed many things--all within the approval of my Director--and this caused terrible animosity on the staff, no matter how well I treated everyone.

Today, it's 6 years later. I hope you're doing well, and I hope you can one day look back upon that time with an open mind. I wish you well.