Baby shower for 2nd pregnancy?

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stephyRN85 wrote:

What are your thoughts and opinions on this? Anyone having their 2nd, 3rd, or even 4th baby and planning on having a shower or sprinkle? Or is anyone planning on doing something different such as a diaper party or nothing at all?

Typically the unwritten rule around here always was a shower for your first girl and first boy and then no more showers after that!! Lately a lot of women (at our moms church but we know them all well) have started having showers for every baby they have. I stopped going. That’s ridiculous. They shouldn’t expect people to spend money every time they have a baby! We’re talking 5 and 6 kids. Anyways this is my fourth and even though it’s been 7 years and I don’t have ANY baby stuff, I wouldn’t have a shower. I hate being center of attention anyways!!

I will not be having a second baby shower. I know many people with multiple kids and they all only had one shower. I feel the rule is you have a shower with your first to get you started and unfortunately multiple showers can be viewed as greedy.

We will have a diaper party for our second. Our first baby we didn’t find out the sex until she was born so we have a lot of gender neutral clothing and family and friends have spoiled her since with toys and whatnot, so just the diapers for us.

I think it’s up to each person. Some cultures throw one for every baby. I won’t be having one, but that’s my choice. If someone wants to have one, everyone can choose to attend or not. Even without a shower, in my family we always visit the babies after they’re born and bring usually diapers and an outfit or sleeper or something. Many people even bring food with their gift.

This is our second and I think we’ll do a bbq after 6 weeks to catch up with people and meet the baby. Nothing too formalised. That way we can celebrate our new addition, without it being a present thing. I don’t think anyone really wants to see me or my husband anyways! The baby is what people care about haha

I had a shower with my first (a boy) and didn’t have one for my second (a girl). I just didn’t want one. We were still gifted A LOT of things. I most likely won’t be having one for this baby. Just my choice! It will still be celebrated!

I am pregnant with my second. I had a boy first and my sister has girls so I don’t really need anything. But I think I want to do a party or something after baby gets here. Gifts/diapers can be optional. To me it is more about celebrating a new baby not stuff.

Just varies by area, family, person etc. I had one for my first. My second boy came 2 years later so I didn't need anything. This time around I'm not finding out gender. If I was finding out and it was a girl I'm sure someone would want to throw one. I'm pretty minimalist and even if it is a girl I don't need 5 million pink outfits. Idk. If you want one, have one!

I hope someone throws me one (2nd). I had my 1st baby preterm at 26 weeks and had two very small showers when my baby was in the hospital and I was a HOT mess. I’d love to be big and fat and pregnant and HAPPY and get pampered with baby at like 35 weeks. Sounds AMAZING. I hope it happens!!!

I had s shower with my first boy a baby celebration with 2nd boy we were Blessed 3 baby showers with our 3rd son and a very generous baby celebration with our 4th son and a baby shower for our 1st girl which was baby #5. Now we are pregnant with twins and my mom said she's throwing a baby shower, sooo it is up to you. I see each child should be celebrated no matter what number, he/she isn't any less special than the 1st. I will say gifts weren't expected but I was still asked so don't miss out on Blessings if someone wants to give it.

Call me old fashioned and I apologize if I offend anyone but I feel it’s socially unacceptable to have a shower for any other than the first baby. I feel it comes across as greedy. A big party or a special lunch with a request for no gifts to celebrate a new little life, of course! But repeatedly asking for gifts for littles tends to leave a sour taste with me.

I personally think its all personal preference. I had a large shower for my first 12 years ago and didn't have my next until last year. My mom insisted on throwing me a shower despite how uncomfortable it made me feel. I hadn't saved anything because I didn't think I would have more kids so it was nice to replenish some things but I just couldn't get the rule out of my mind. We definitely won't be having one for this baby. My husbands friends are slightly obsessed with the fact that we're having another one and that its our last, so they'll probably have a diaper and beers party or something silly like that. But I absolutely have no desire to have one for myself. Luckily one of my best friends is pregnant with her first and that will allow me to put all the attention on her and throw something great for her!!! on the same note, I know plenty of women who have had multiple showers - as in one for each baby. I feel like things are shifting with the times?? maybe? i dont know! haha

I think the general rule of thumb is have a shower for only the first one. However, some exceptions to the rule that may be taken into account are:

-Big age gap (I'm talking 5 or more years)

-It is the 1st child to either parent, regardless if the other has other children from previous relationship/marriage.

-Someone else offers to throw you one. In this case, your name should not be included as being a shower host or the number to RSVP or anything. Your name should only be included on the invite as "In honor of [insert your name here]" or whatever similar wording would be used, to make it obvious that you are not throwing yourself another shower for the subsequent pregnancy.