This blog won’t be any advice tips for relationships nor understanding emotions. Just random thoughts I’ve internalized over the last few years. It's always good to hit what I call the "mental treadmill" every now and then so you can purge those things that are dead weight and slowing you down. I tend to be analytical sometimes but only because people are so predictable. When I look at the world for what it is, I notice a lot of self esteem issues, soul searchers, and pretenders. Nothing’s ever what it seems. It sucks that you have to read between the lines with every conversation but everyone wakes up and puts on the mask that they want people to identify them as. I’m no exception. I know my true self, and I’ve been trained to hide it from the world that hasn’t earned the right to know more. We might call it our shell that covers and protects us from being exposed and hurt…but that’s just for convenience. Truth is we have a desire to be accepted and that’s at the root of everything we do outside of physical need. The way we dress, the way we talk, the things we listen to are all dictated by who we’re looking to be accepted by. For some reason we were born insufficient from one another. This could possibly be the driving force behind friendships, love, and different interest groups. It also imprisons us in a game of illusions and riddles rather than a world where our guard can be let down. We were equipped with the intuition to hurt one another and the self-defense system to protect us all in one. What if we were born with neither? What if you could do anything you wanted and be perfectly happy without needing extra effort to overcome the persecutions? Honestly it gets exhausting. No matter how good you’re doing, how many lives you impact, you’re always going to have to try a little harder to enjoy it because somebody will have a problem with it. But it’s not their fault, they were born that way. I guess it’s just another mysterious way that God chose to work huh. -Jaxn Share this:TweetShare on...

Women love to be met, but tend to neglect their responsibility to be ready. This comes from years of misguided advice from media and mentors who didn't have any more a clue than they did about how to attract the right guy. Being ready is to be approachable, not 'appealing'. I believe it starts at the first impression. For whatever reason, it seems like women want men to surprise them with their introduction, and call it being "original". If this was a talent show, fine, but in real life a bland "Hi, how are you?" may be as genuine as it gets. Women have to stop expecting men to jump through flaming hoops reciting Shakespeare. I can see how it's convenient for women to sit back and say, "Show me what you got", but keep in mind there's very creative assholes out there. Don't make the first cuts based on the 'hello' unless it's just way left field(i.e. "Ay yo bitch" is unnacceptable). Pick up on more subtle signs that are less voluntary. For instance, where does his eyes focus in the first 2 minutes of conversation? Being up close gives us a very tempting opportunity to see better what we couldn't from a far especially when we have a hidden agenda. Knowing what too look for speaks to your priorities and therefore what kind of men are making it through your filter. Also, be careful of the subtle signals you send as well. A man with genuine intentions will do everything but run the other way when an attractive woman rolls her eyes unwelcoming his presence. This brings me to my next point; The difference between Mr. Right approaching you and keeping his distance could also be your demeanor. Shake the whole "bad bitch" ora that you put on to prove how self-assured you are in public. You know the type; the road is her runway, nothing's cool enough for her attention, if it rained she'd drown for her nose being so high, etc. While nothing's wrong with looking and feeling great, men tend to feel more comfortable approaching women whos' heads are still on their shoulders. I've even found that some women get approached more when in their comfortable wear which could very well speak to that point. It doesn't mean he's not "man enough", but rather he doesn't need any more stress in his life. Long story short, confident not cocky is ALWAYS the way to go. At the end of the day, it all comes down to the kind of guy you're in to. You'll always be approachable to somebody, but who do you want that to be? Hint: Mr. Right -Jaxn Share...