Wednesday Wisdom: Hard to Love

On Monday, one of my absolute best friends, who just so happened to be a co-worker, said her goodbyes at work. Her husband had joined the Air Force recently, and they were being located to Montana (aka 2,000 miles away)… Yikes! I have known for months and months, but I have allowed myself to be in denial over it. (Not one of my finer decisions.)

Obviously, this change has hit me hard. I have been in a weird mood, and I feel as though the only people in my life who have been sensitive to this change are my co-workers and close friends. I’ve reached out for comfort, but instead have been met with an “It will all be okay” and a dead conversation.

I have been extremely hard to love lately. I know that about myself. I am usually full of energy, bubbly, and positive. Lately I have been discouraged and felt neglected. If there is one thing I’ve learned, it’s those who are hard to love need to be shown love the most. Sometimes someone simply needs to hear a genuine reminder that things will get easier, instead of being brushed off.

At the going away party, the lady that is replacing my friend caught me alone and told me how hard she knows this must be for me. She helped me to verbalize my feelings and listened patiently as I talked. And that five minute conversation truly made a world of difference in my day.

One thing that I really strive to do every day is show the love of Jesus. He loves us when we are sinful, unlovable, and unworthy. So when you come in contact with someone that is obviously struggling a little bit, keep that in mind. I think if we were all (myself included) a little bit more loving, the world would be a better place.

I appreciate y’all’s patience with me as I slowly adjust to a different work environment and changing friend group. And you can guarantee there will be plenty of posts about it. Thanks for being such awesome and encouraging readers 🙂

5 Comments

Lauren Rose

April 2, 2014 / 4:55 pm

It will get better! I was so sad when I had to say goodbye to my best friend from high school because we were both leaving for college. But nothing has changed and we are still best friends! I'm sorry you feel like this, but it will get better with time! Feel better soon!xoxo,Laurenlaurenroseprep.blogspot.com

It is really difficult! I understand the feeling. My sister and I were hired at the same hospital and loved working together. A few months ago, I had to relocate across the country (marriage) and the change was difficult for both of us. Our relationship continues to grow stronger and more mature. 🙂 Praying for you and your friend!

It's so hard losing people we love to distance! You'll still remain friends, but not being able to see one another is sad =( I moved away from all my friends and family when I got married…honestly, it still isn't easy. People are irreplaceable.

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