You know what,i do say horrible things to myself all the time like...im ugly...im to fat....noone likes me.....i CARNT do this or that......and yes sometimes i definitely do not trust my own judgment as i dont believe in myself.Or i will see a wrong,act on it,then regret saying something,like my sister wore a coat,it looked bad so i told her nicely,she was so upset,so i backtracked to take away her pain...where really i should have stook to my word.I always feel bad when people are upset because of me.So i have allot to learn and gain confidence and learn to get tough in a good way with myself. I am a people pleaser,i see it sometimes,but i am learning slowly this is making me sad inside to be afraid of everyone all the time.try not to upset so they feel good yet i feel bad.How do i change this?I am trying.

Amanda.xxxxx

08-22-2009, 05:17 PM

Oluwa

I think each time we stand our ground, be firm in our convictions ..our values it will come easier Amanda....

It is okay to make people feel good but not at the cost of our own conscientious, our values...I think. I think each time we do that we lose a bit of our self...and some times our own self respect.

I've seen you snaps, you're a babe, a knock out..gorgeous smile, baby blues...a cute girl figure....I wish you could see it. And I do hope you see what we feel..your heart of gold.

Head hugs.
Love,
Oluwa

08-23-2009, 03:05 AM

Angel Oliver

hi

Ah Oluwa thank you and i so hope it does become easier and thanks for the compliment.

Love
Amanda.xxxxxx

08-28-2009, 09:45 AM

Saysusie

Wow Oluwa; I couldn't have said it better..I wanted to say the same things to Amanda but I'll just ride your coat tails on this one!!

Peace and Blessings
Namaste
Saysusie

12-19-2010, 06:58 AM

Nonna

This is an old thread. But I feel it's especially good and relevant to the here and now. Especially to me; so I"ll bump it to the top and maybe it will help someone else