I’ve been dealing with this situation for some time now. I have found my twin flame; I wasn’t even looking.

The Universe works the way it does, not the way we want it to. The connection we have is unlike any I have ever felt. We are both in our mid 40’s.

Here is the problem. I am married, and she is the girlfriend of one of my best friends. This situation is far, far from ideal. Let me preface with the fact that I have never in my life, including being young and dumb, entertained being unfaithful during any relationship. This situation has me questioning everything!

I waited a long time before mentioning to her that I had “minor” feelings for her. She confided in me that she had been drawn to me since we first met, she can’t explain it.

Since then, we have become much closer, though we are both confused, scared, elated, happy, and sad, you name the emotion. We don’t want to hurt anyone but continue to have these feelings growing stronger daily.

When it comes to our significant others, I have to be honest that I love my wife, though, over the past years, we do not have the connection I thought we had. In reality, we never truly did. I am sad to say it aloud. These feelings have been there before I met my twin.

My twin has expressed that she feels very similar to how I do in regards to her relationship. We have agreed to take this one day at a time and do our best to navigate the path as best we can, with the understanding and promise that we will accept the end whatever it may be. We love each other on a level that seems to transcend anything we’ve ever experienced before.

Thank you for listening. It’s a quick synopsis of what I needed to put out there. I’m open to responses.

I totally understand you. I too am married and have met someone I have a deep connection to. I don’t like to label it, but the ‘Twin Flame’ label seems to be the closest thing to this madness that I can find.

It’s been 6 years now, and the pull is only getting stronger and stronger. I am a rational person and this isn’t even logical to me, but I can’t seem to let him go.

I have come to understand though that he was the catalyst in my spiritual journey, and only brought me closer to knowing my true self. So if nothing was to come from this relationship, I can still truly thank him for the lessons I have learnt.

I’m not even sure why I have turned to a forum, maybe it’s because I wanted validation that I wasn’t crazy and it wasn’t all in my head.

What we have put each other through, a solid relationship wouldn’t even withstand, but we still seem drawn to each other. I haven’t made contact over the past 2 months, but it only kills me inside. There isn’t a day that goes by when I don’t think of him.

I can so feel with you. I met my twin flame online about ten years ago. We were both very young and had no clue what we were heading into. In the end, he broke my heart, and after months of despair, I had to let go to get my life straight again. That’s when I met my actual boyfriend. He was so similar to him yet older and more mature. I fell for him, but I could not forget the other either. And every once in a while when I met him, I could feel that magnetic pull, and it freaked me out.

Yes, I was running. Until last autumn when I met him again and we talked for over an hour. I couldn’t help it, I thought, we could be friends again. Only to realize that I still loved him. After all these times. After all, we’d been through.

Just a month ago I finally came across the word twin flame and started to awaken. Since that time I can also feel our connection, the telepathy between us. And though I don’t know how much he understands the connection (we can’t talk about that) I know he’s the only one for me. As much as I loved my boyfriend (who is a soulmate, I think), his love eclipsed out everything. Last time I tried to sleep with my boyfriend, he was there, too. Now I’m trying to think about a way out of this because I don’t want to betray either one. But I know what my heart wants, and I won’t ignore it any longer.

Best wishes to you all and I hope all will find their way through this!

Same situation. I am married and I have a very strong conviction about loyalty and fidelity. I have always been very loyal to my friends, family, and relationships. I feel being disloyal is a crime.

I recently met my TV.i wasn’t even looking for him. The attraction was immediate. I was slapping myself mentally whenever I felt myself thinking about him. It was wrong and crazy. He is a polar opposite yet similar somehow. And his eyes, so familiar, gave me the chills.

I stopped looking at him, especially his eyes. I tried to think of his negative personalities traits to turn my attraction off, didn’t work. I tried shutting off my mind when it came to him. Didn’t work either. I started questioning my morals strongly. Mind you, my husband is the kindest, sweetest, most decent man I have ever met. He was there for me when I was at rock bottom. And I would rather cut off my own limbs than hurt him in any way. He doesn’t deserve this.

So, all in all, I am going crazy. I know I will always choose my husband but the hurt is sometimes too strong so much so that it makes me sick to my stomach. I wish I didn’t meet my Twin Flame.

Womankind and Mankind studied the flight of birds to calculate the angle of attack of planes and create better aerodynamics for vehicles, we’ve flown to the moon, have used the Earth’s wave energy to cook, clean, watch entertainment, communicate. We’ve come pretty far in life in what we’ve accomplished.

And despite all of this, the twin flame phenomena has baffled the majority of us into submission of understanding.

But we are a few steps to getting closer.

I’m sorry that you are one of the early-ish adopters (although I’m sure there are many records of Twin Flames dating back centuries).

The question is now, what would it take for you to stop going crazy with fear and what are the next steps. First, let’s deal with your fears. Is it one or more of the following:

1. Your fear of being able to love someone else? (not physically, but mentally).

2. Fear of your husband know what’s going through your mind?

3. Fear of your husband not being able to comprehend these phenomena you’re going through.

You are not alone on this journey or in these feelings. I recently married my best friend and lover of 7 years. This year will be our second year of marriage. Four months ago, I connected with what I believe to be my twin flame. I am a waitress and see many people during my day.

When I first saw and experienced my twin flames presence, it was a connection that I’ve never felt before. I don’t think I’ve ever felt this connected to my husband, but he is my best friend and the best thing that has ever happened to me and certainly a soul mate.

My TF came to visit me several times at the restaurant I work at. For over a month, he would come in, and we would make eye contact, but we would never speak. When our eyes met, I felt like I was staring into the depths of my soul and universe. It’s something I can’t even describe. I’m not even sure he is aware of the twin flame concept, but we’ve since discussed our intense mutual attraction, and he is very aware of our connection.

We’ve only hung out once but have exchanged messages over the internet a few times. Since speaking with him, I keep seeing synchronicities every day. 11:11, always. This is a sign from the universe, but I’m not sure what I can do at this point. I love my husband very very deeply but feel immense guilt and torment inside when my TF is always on my mind. I’m hoping I will just eventually forget him, but I doubt I ever will.

I hope one day we will feel free to address these feelings with our spouses, until then best of luck. Lots of bright light and love to you.

Wow reading all these stories it’s really what I came on here for because I’m going through a similar experience to the above.

I’m married but had an intense connection with somebody recently I don’t know if it’s Soulmates or twin flames, but it is completely turned me upside down. He’s also married, and we only met for a few hours but continue to be in touch for the last seven weeks. However, he’s made a choice, and his reasoning is right for both of us in that where can this go at the moment that we should cut the contact.

I was already pretty emotional about this connection trying to understand it and why it made me feel so intensely. Now I’m just distraught crying I’m finding it so so hard whilst trying to understand what this all means trying to be selfless and allow him to get back to his life but not quite knowing what to do with mine. Whether this is to make me look at things within my marriage, it’s not a situation that can go anywhere right now as far as a relationship, but that loss of contact is so hard.

I’m so trying to look after myself and be strong, and it’s not something you can talk to people about. As someone said, I almost wish I hadn’t met him.

Twin Flame. Never heard of the concept before, but right now it’s all making a LOT of sense. Let me backtrack a bit.

I met my TF about nine years ago through a mutual friend (however, this mutual friend had a major crush on her). From the very moment we met, I felt a strong connection, unlike anything I had felt before.

I knew then that I loved her but not in a romantic way, just in a way that I could not explain. The force is extremely strong and almost indescribable.

She had a boyfriend at the time, and I respected that; I did not get in the way of that at all. I just wanted her to be happy because when she was happy, it made me feel the joy that I never felt before.

Every time we went out together, it was the best night out, or if it just turned into a movie on the couch kinda night, we would always have the best night just chilling and chatting. She always had a boyfriend; however, she seemed to enjoy spending time with me and always made time for that.

Time went on, and a couple of months of friendship turned into two years, and then she told me she’s getting married. It crushed me, and I didn’t know why, but I still just wanted her to be happy. Years went on by, and I think I can honestly say that there has not been even one day when I thought how is she doing. Her marriage fell apart, but she did get two amazing little boys who she adores and is the best mom in the world.

Now, during this time, I’ve also moved on with my life, but there has always been “here” with me. I’m engaged and planning a wedding for next year.

This last weekend was my fiance’s birthday, and we decided to invite my TF. As the night went on, we started talking about the past, which started to bring up a lot of emotions. We admitted to each other that we love each other. We started kissing, and that’s when all this energy just released itself between the two of us.

We stayed over at the TF house. My fiance was drunk and went straight to bed. TF and I sat outside and just spoke about everything and how we were feeling for about 5 hours (until the sun started coming up).

I spoke to her, openly and freely about things that I would not feel comfortable even telling my fiance (we all have our deepest darkest secrets or things from the past that we need to deal with). There was no judgment from her only acceptance and advice. We kissed more and almost took it too far. She told me that I must think about my fiance, and I respected her for caring about the consequences of our actions.

I felt no regret for what I was doing. I have never in my life cheated on a partner as I always felt it is extremely unfair and disrespectful; however, this night, I felt only love for my TF. She told me she loves me, always has and that will never change, when she said it I felt like I had just been hit by a train, I thought I knew what love was before (I thought I loved my fiance) but when the words came out of her mouth looking directly into my eyes, it hit me hard. It is indescribable the feeling of love flowing between us.

We kissed each other good night, and I went to bed. The next morning there was zero awkwardness, just a complete feeling of calm and acceptance. I love this woman, truly love her, in a way that I cannot describe or even imagine being able to love another like this.

I’m getting married and now don’t know what to do. My TF insists that I don’t say anything to my fiance as she says I have made a life, and I must live it, don’t throw everything away just because of one night. She says we will have our time, in this life or the next.

I do love my fiance, but its not the same anymore. It feels like, after this one night, my world is turned upside down, and the decisions I make now will have big impacts on the people I love.

Any advice, please. This is driving me crazy. I literally can’t stop thinking about the night we had and what it all means.

1) When your TF had a boyfriend or was getting married, did she kiss you too during her relationship? (this opens up a whole load of other questions and avenues)

2) When you and your TF kissed recently, who initiated it first? Or was it mutual? Who made the first move?

3) Are you both (you and your TF) honestly in the union for you to feel that you could both move in together?

4) What do you think twin flames teach each other in life?

5) Do you think by not telling your fiance about that night, that you’ll now live a happy marriage?

6) Do you want the marriage to work with your fiance?

7) Would you like to start a family?

8) How long have you and your fiance been together? What are her values of relationship and companionship in general? (this may help us with a number of things: to understand the damage caused to her feelings, and how she’s been treated by you, etc.)

There is absolutely no right or wrong answers here, and the above is not designed to be trick questions.

Your post confuses me (in a positive way) because it’s so beautiful and yet has bad elements of betrayal, which I do not like. I love your story, but I am also annoyed at you.

So a little advice from me (given what I’ve read at face value), which I hope you can take with a pinch of salt:

This time it’s in order:

1) Firstly and most importantly, be open with your fiance. Take any form of communication with your TF out of the picture, and focus on you and your fiance. Be open with her as to what happened.

You can start from the beginning of how you met your TF. You can find the right time to tell her, but if you’re in contact with your TF during this time, you’re then starting to become a player. I can see that you seem genuinely the type of person that does not revel in cheating on someone. But the story you described above could indicate otherwise, depending on your next actions.

2) You should never consider your fiance as second best. Either you’re both meant to be together, or you’re not. And your TF has shone some light and beautiful darkness into your understanding.

3) If you truly love your TF, why did you kiss her? (might sound like a ‘duh’ type of question, but there are hidden answers within).

4a) Any outcome between you and your fiance will;

4b) If you and your fiance decide to separate and go your own ways, then;

4c) If you and your fiance decide to come to a mutual understanding of your relationship and what you’re going through.

From 4) onwards I’ve left many blanks because any decisions you make following 1) 2) 3) and 4) will lead to different paths.

To me, the true unconditional love nature in TFs is that they teach us how to become better people to ourselves and to others (and when I say others, it’s not just people, it’s everything that the earth has provided). I see beautiful moments and connections where both you and your TF are helping each other moving forward in life, but then you caused damage by giving in to your hormones towards her.

Hi Handsome. Firstly I would like to say thank you very much for your reply.

It’s taken me some time to reply to you like the questions you have asked me really struck home and forced me to really think about it.

The whole encounter and what transpired on the night, made me really think properly about the relationship I have with my Fiance and what that means to her and what it means to me, it made me think about life and what I like to call “pivot points” in life.

It made me look at myself and really question the kind of person that I am and who I want to be. I can say that from the night in question, something inside me “woke up” and has put me on this path. I’ve been in turmoil trying to understand what it all means, and yes, you are quite right.

My TF did shed some light and beautiful darkness into my understanding – only I did not understand that at the time, however, your reply has made all the difference. I feel like I’ve been naive and selfish my whole life up to and including that night; however, if we did not share that moment in time where our souls could connect, then I would still be “asleep” if that makes sense? I feel alive for the first time in a very long time.

With all the above said I’m going to answer your questions. I would just like to say that if I had been asked these questions before this whole ordeal (meaning from the night up until now).

I would probably have had different answers; however, after spending some really “quality time” with my fiance last night baring all that I have learned in the past few days, the answers have become much clearer.

1) When your TF had a boyfriend or was getting married, did she kiss you too during her relationship? (this opens up a whole load of other questions and avenues)

Whenever I came to visit, she would always give me a kiss (more like a peck) on the lips or cheeks. It was nothing romantic, and we never crossed that boundary. There was always a connection between us, but we did not, not even once, betray who we were with.

Note, I also had a girlfriend at the time; however, she preferred just doing her own thing and did not mind that I was going to visit. WE just enjoyed being in the moment together, and that was enough.

2) When you and your TF kissed recently, who initiated it first? Or was it mutual? Who made the first move?

To be honest, I don’t know who initiated it first. Neither of us can remember, we were just lost in the moment. But once it started, things did get more intense, and it felt like nothing else mattered.

3) Are you both (you and your TF) honestly in the union for you to feel that you could both move in together?

This was not even a discussion. TF told me that I could not throw away the life I have created just because of one night, which at first, I did not comprehend, but I see things more clearly now.

She did say that if I had proposed all those years ago, it would not even have been a question, she went on to say we could have had beautiful children by now. It hurt that the opportunity was missed, but I believe we both still have a lot to learn.

4) What do you think twin flames teach each other in life?

I don’t think I would be doing the question justice to answer that now in its entirety as there has been so much that I have learned from her, in the times that we have been together and even in the times that our lives took us separate ways (she has always been a part of me).

What I can say is I have learned what pure love feels like and what it feels like to have that kind of love for another. Its the most beautiful yet painful thing.

I’m sure that if I got to answer this very same question a week from now, or a month or a year, a decade perhaps even in the next life, my answers are always going to evolve as I learn more from her. I love her so much for this. I actually have tears falling down my face as I write and realize this.

5) Do you think by not telling your fiance about that night, that you’ll now live a happy marriage? Absolutely not, I know that I do need to tell her about this. The timing will need to be right. I have been asked by TF not to say anything as she says it will ruin everything. I will need to tell her first that I am going to speak to my fiance, and she will need to accept that.

I cannot just go against her wishes without her having knowledge of what I’m doing. Things have become so much more intricate and complex now.

6) Do you want the marriage to work with your fiance?

This is one of those questions that I would not have really been able to answer before I “woke up.” Reason saying that is obviously I want our marriage to work; however, I was just in a neutral mindset about it. Now, however, I do want it to work, we have planned our lives, and I want all of that to work out. We both have a lot we can learn from each other.

7) Would you like to start a family? Absolutely Yes.

8) How long have you and your fiance been together? What are her values of relationship and companionship in general? (this may help us with a number of things: to understand the damage caused to her feelings, and how she’s been treated by you, etc.)

Five years now. Only recently engaged, but we decided from an early stage that we both wanted to get married.

My fiance really loves me with all her heart. In her eyes, I cannot do wrong. She has always been there for me, and I have also supported her in any situation. She’s extremely open-minded and speaks her mind, unfiltered.

Over the course of our relationship, we have grown together. She’s a very strong personality. I love her a lot, and I do want a life with her.

The love I have for my fiance and what she has for me is what’s going to get both of us through life. The love I have for my TF, however, feels eternal, never-ending. Is that wrong??

I have a few questions based on your advice. And please know that I am not condemning your advice at all. At first, it was hard to read because perhaps it wasn’t the “validation” I was after, but the more I read your response and really thought about everything, the more I realize that without the advice you gave me yesterday, I could have made huge permanent mistakes.

On point 1) – I do know that my Fiance deserves to know the truth of whats happened, the whole truth. This needs to happen before we get married, or else our marriage will be based on a lie. I honestly feel like TF, and I need to discuss this, and I need her to accept the fact of what I’m going to do.

Am I doing the right thing here? It is going to hurt everyone, but I want TF to be prepared for that and not me just going against her wishes out of the blue. When I do speak to TF, I will never allow emotions and lust to cause more damage; it’s not fair on anyone involved in this.

2) This is very clear to me now, and I am going to thank her one day for showing this to me. Without that knowledge, I would still be lost.

3) If you truly love your TF, why did you kiss her? (might sound like a ‘duh’ type of question, but there are hidden answers within).

I believe why this happened is because there was just so much built-up energy between the two of us, and that just released the energy outwards. Whether we did something wrong or not, energy is energy; it surrounds all of us, its what connects the universe together. It was a moment of weakness in that what we were doing was wrong; we both knew it was wrong. The energy just exploded outwards from the two of us and manifested in the two of us kissing.

I know what we did was wrong because of the hurt that, as you said, has and will cause hurt too many. That moment though, is something I would never want to change; it brought on a new understanding of life that I would still be oblivious to.

4a) Any outcome between you and your fiance will;

4b) If you and your fiance decide to separate and go your own ways, then;

The path forward is unclear. Right now, I have a vision for the future, which I am working towards. If my fiance would separate, then I would say we have learned what we needed from each other and developed to become better people through our time together.

I do have the hope that my TF and I would then be free to live our lives together, and I say that unashamedly, however, I don’t take it for granted that our time would be right. If the time was not right, then it just means that either of us still has more to learn, but I will always be eternally ready. It’s impossible to predict the future.

4c) If you and your fiance decide to come to a mutual understanding of your relationship and what you’re going through.

My Fiance may very well understand and accept the fact. She may not. If truly does, then she will remain friends with TF and accept that TF and I will always be connected.

As I said, I would never allow my emotions/hormones ruin things any further. I will never be able to stay away from TF, life keeps pulling us back together, and if my Fiance truly understands that and accepts that, then things go next level.

On a side note, TF and I have been in contact for the first two days after this happened. I had no one else I could talk to without more hurt. We have consoled each other.

I have apologized for putting her through this situation, and her response is “Its just something between us that will never change, what happened just settled all the energy” Shes not one to wallow on about things and get caught up in things.

Even though she portrays this kind of attitude, I fear that I’ve hurt her, and I feel terrible about it now. Maybe it was something we both needed to learn from each other; maybe it was just years of built-up energy that needed to be settled. This path is new to me, and I have a lot to learn for now. I am extremely naive.

Thank you once again for the response, this forum has been a lifesaver, and you in particular really made it possible for me to think subjectively about the questions you posed.

I have answered them with truthfulness and tried to be as open as I can. Any further insights from your wisdom would be appreciated. I feel like whatever it is that has been awoken is just the cap of an iceberg. I hope that others out there will also be able to learn from all of this.

Geks, I am so so sorry. If my previous attitude was one that showed annoyance with you or made you feel unfaithful, then it’s only because I could see myself within your story based on what I’ve been through.

The friendship, the energy, the time apart from my other, where every minute of every day I feel her in my heart and mind from before I go to bed, to when I wake up. Your story is one of true love, beauty, and sadness in equal measure.

The only difference is that I’ve not been in a relationship with anyone since I met her, and I would be scared to enter into one for fear of not being able to remove my deep love for my other.

So. I’ve made it a mission, or a promise to myself that whoever I meet in life, I will be upfront to them about my circumstances. I will be an open book and tell them about my other. And if they choose not to want to be with me for that reason, then at least I’ve been honest with myself.

Because every story is different, it really is impossible to advise you on what is the best course of action. (If you read many of my posts, I’m always asking questions but never giving answers). Because, just to repeat again, every story is different. Even Twin Flame stories. I could, however, try to help to reduce or remove any suffering.

To turn any melancholic feelings into salubrity. And this is by helping you to how much you should be proud of yourself. Your openness and caring towards everyone is something to be proud of. You’re sad because you care. You cry because you love deeply.

You’re right regarding staying in touch with your TF for advisory purposes (I should have elaborated further previously, sorry). When I suggested removing any form of communication with your TF, I think it’s still okay to seek advice or friendship. She is your TF after all :), and no-one, bar no-one, can give better advice or genuine love. It only becomes tricky when you romance starts to intertwine with love. To me, there are conflicts between genuine love and romance.

To me, true love teaches freedom.

The spirit within me will always try to teach my other how to be free. To be happy. My spirit seeks what is best for my other (this is why TFs generally have a deep, deep love (and when I say deep, it’s wow) as opposed to romantic or hormonal desires). My surface, on the other hand, always wishes for the company of my other (partially because of the attraction and partially so that I know if she’s okay (a conflict of teaching her the meaning of freedom)).

I used to feel sorry for myself, and I am sorry for others who go through such deep pain — so many people, including twin flames who have felt betrayed.

But for you, rather than suggest techniques on how to detach, I am going to suggest the opposite. I don’t like detachment, and I don’t like the idea of priming oneself to try to forget about their other. (I’ll explain next time, it could take a while)

But I will say, try to embrace what you have. Beyond your pain, I see you as an extremely lucky person to experience this love. There are many who experience far worse in life.

What’s even is that if you do pursue your relationship with your fiance, but with the thought of joining your TF later in life, this also creates a feeling of betrayal, if not for the short term, then for the long.

Hi Handsome, don’t be sorry for how you perceive your previous message to me.

It was absolutely perfect; without your advice and input, I was spiraling out of control emotionally, and I probably would have made things worse for the three people I love most in this world (my other half, myself and my fiance).

My TF and I have been in contact a few times, electronically. Without knowing it (maybe even with knowing it), she has helped me in ways that I cannot explain or even begin to understand.

Every time she just says exactly the right words to make me feel better or look at a situation differently. She gives me encouragement and fills me with joy and happiness, just knowing there is someone out there that is so awesome.

She says she is proud of the man I am and me. Those words give me the strength to deal with what I now know are negative energies that I need to get rid of. When I look at her and the life she is living, it makes me super proud of her too.

I feel now that we have to speak to each other again about this, I need to know if she even feels the same way. I am in doubt at the moment.

At first, I needed an understanding of what exactly happened between us that night. Indescribable energy. The feeling of oneness with another person. I was feeling the love that goes beyond anything that I have ever felt. I felt an inner peace just being in her presence.

Time meant nothing; location meant nothing; the only thing that mattered was that he and I were together in that moment of space and time just being in the presence of each other. It completely blew my mind trying to understand what all of this means.

It has almost been two weeks since this experience, and in all honesty, it has felt like a lifetime and, at the same time, as if no time has passed at all.

I’ve learned a lot about myself in these two weeks, and I would say that I have been given a gift, some much-needed light from my TF. For this, I will be eternally grateful. I have had to deal with emotions I did not even know I had, some emotions (guilt being the most prevalent one) keep making a turnaround again. Each time I am hit with emotion, I cry. At first, I resisted crying; now, I have found that crying releases the negative emotion, and it’s getting easier.

I have come to accept that the attraction I have with my twin flame goes much further beyond the need for romance. The connection goes much deeper. It scares me to think that this can even be real, sometimes I doubt whether this is real or not. I am constantly reminded of the unknown, doubt, and overcoming it I can tell my next step/hurdle that I need to overcome.

My Fiance is the love of my life; she is my life partner and loves me for who I am. She, too, teaches me about love in the love that she gives to me. We have a life that we have planned together, and it is exciting that we are living the life we wanted.

I love her and want the best for her. I feel though that my fiance and I were put together in this life so that we can learn from each other. She has a lot of things that I feel she should work on, exactly the same can be said about me. We are there for each other at all times.

My TF, on the other hand, I obviously do love aswell. It’s just a much deeper love. She has taught me that self-love goes a long way. The more I find love for myself, the more I find love for my TF. Its the strangest phenomenon. I see myself in her, and I see her in myself. She is always going to be a part of my life. The connection keeps pulling us together, like gravity, the pull is always present, inescapable.

She will be with me throughout life, and although I want to be with her, I know in my heart that now is not the right time. I have faith that when the time is right, we will unite, it matters not if it is in this lifetime or not, my love for her will never be ending and unconditional. I don’t find this a thought of betrayal but rather love at its finest.

Our friendship that I cherish and the most sound and direct advice that we give each other will be something that I will always be grateful for. I will always have a love for her that I cannot deny.

Thanks once again for your insight. I came to this forum by chance (maybe) by luck (maybe) by divine intervention (maybe), but I came to this forum looking for answers, scared of what was happening to me, scared of the future that I had shattered into the unknown.

Your advice and insight have helped me tremendously, and I wish to return the favor. I can tell you are hurting my brother. Open up, let me know what it is, and maybe I will be able to help.

I am new to the concept of twin flames but have come to a conclusion after a year and a half of research and soul searching that I have met mine. Let me start off by saying that we’re both married Christians with a child each and would never leave our families.

My twin flame is a pastor with the Clair Senses abilities (psychic). I was invited to his church by a friend after I had a miscarriage. She wanted her pastor to pray for me and give me words of comfort. I came to the service.

I immediately felt a familiar feeling about him. He reminded me of my brother. The sermon he preached was very encouraging, but what happened afterward really blew me away. He did an alter call for those needing prayer.

When it was my turn, he was obviously overwhelmed and was feeling something from me on a level that he never felt (I later realized it was energy) and had to sit down.

He told me that I had the greatest anointing that he’d ever felt, then began to pray for me and tell me about my Godly character and that he knew what I had gone through with the loss of my child, but he told me in the next year God was going to bless me with a son.

This encounter blew me away, and I knew in my heart that he was telling the truth. I felt a connection to him that I couldn’t explain.

Sure enough, everything happened as he said, and as my husband and I visited the church during my pregnancy, I would notice him staring at me as if he had seen a literal angel and just couldn’t believe it. It wasn’t a lustful look; it was a look of disbelief. I believe then; he knew I was his twin flame, something I knew nothing about.

I had the child in 8/2016, as he said I would, and I got back involved in my church. I thought about this man regularly and knew we would always be in touch. I had no romantic feelings at that time, just a familiar feeling. But things changed in 6/2018 when I got diagnosed with cancer.

After my diagnosis, I contacted his wife for prayer regarding my situation. She gave the message to him, and he offered words of comfort via text message and asked if we could come by for prayer on a Sunday when we could. I came the following Sunday, and he prayed for me. He also looked as if my presence was physically overwhelming him, but still nothing lustful.

My family decided to leave our church and join this church because of the amount of support he’d given us over the years; my husband really liked him.

As we began to visit regularly, I began to realize something was going on between us. This man knew something and was going over and beyond to ensure that our family wouldn’t leave. After a few months, I knew he was falling in love with me, and so was I.

I began to feel the energy he felt for me from the beginning and began researching and came across twin flames and the light switch went off. That was it!

When I see this man, I see myself. I can’t believe it. We are so much alike, similar backgrounds, same desires, styles, our dispositions. It’s so funny at times. This man is my true reflection. When we’re around each other, I can feel the love of God radiating through me; I can feel him when we’re apart.

He can feel me. This is beyond anything I’ve ever experienced. I love this man in a way I can never love anyone else, and he is so in love with me. The funny thing is, we’ve never discussed this yet. He’s given me a few clues here and there but no full discussion. I do believe it’s coming soon. I don’t think we can hold it in much longer.

The dilemma I have is, we’re both in marriages where we both love our spouses, but we’re not in love. His wife is very jealous and controlling, and my husband is narcissistic. They’re both devoted to us, and we would never leave them, but we’re both struggling with meeting our perfect complements, being a church family together, but having such strong emotions for each other.

The only thing that helps me is being grateful for having him in my life, and if that and the inner healing that I’m experiencing is all I can get from this, then I’ll be grateful to God for bringing this angel into my life.

I guess I want to know the best way to manage these feelings going forward. The love and passion are growing like wildfire. I can’t stop thinking about him, and when we’re together, we’re like two goofy teens. I really do love him from the heart and miss him at this very moment.

Are we destined to be together in the future, and if not, what’s the best way to manage these emotions? I just want the best for both of us and our families, and I don’t believe hurting our children and spouses are best.

I know that this post is long. This is my first time talking about this and is feeling relieved to be able to express my feelings to others that understand and receive the proper guidance.

I am relatively new to all of this, and I know how hard it is, especially in the beginning, to process the feelings and the relative emotions that go with knowing you’ve met the most important person in your life.

A common “theme” that I have seen is that each TF will have their own difficulties and hurdles to overcome. These can be extremely challenging, especially because they will most probably cause pain to the people involved.

When my TF and I spent time together, it was completely under the wrong circumstances. However, the experience of unity in those couple of hours literally changed my life. In my previous post, I refer to “something woken up” in me. This is what has happened, and I was thrown headfirst into the unknown.

There was so much confusion as everything I thought I knew to be a certain way was now under question. My TF put me on the path of a spiritual awakening.

What I have learned most from my spiritual awakening is that everything we seek, every question we need to be answered, is literally within.

My suggestion, as this is working for me, is that you should look within you. The greatest tool to get this job done is simply Meditation; learn to observe your thoughts (don’t try to control them).

Once you are able to observe your thoughts and not react to them but rather observe them, it gives you the ability to see what serves you and what does not, anything that does not you will come to realize that you can release those thoughts and not let them have power over you.

Learn to love yourself, become the star in your own movie, believe in yourself, and most importantly, LOVE.

Become at peace with yourself. I know this all might sound a bit esoteric, but in all honesty, from my perspective, going on this journey has completely changed my life, and I will always be appreciative and thankful to my TF for putting me on this path.

Your TF connection will always be there, it is the most beautiful and true connection you will ever have so be happy about that 🙂 and always remember that your TF and you will always mirror back to each other your greatest strengths and weaknesses, it is up to you how you choose to respond to those lessons. Everything is a lesson; what you learn will depend on you.

I hope I have been able to give some advise, just remember the answers lie within. Always trust your heart; love always is the answer.

I found my twin flame, but I’m not married but been with my partner for 17years. Twin flame married.

We met at work, and he was so cold and instantly recognizable sign of the connection.

I was slow and just thought he’s married. That’s a shame. But he made the first move and anyway we telepathically told each other we loved each other and my twin flame asks me to wait for him which I am.

But here’s my problem is that I’m going to hurt my partner of 17years and break his heart and he will cry plead cry because I’m his soul mate.

But I do love my twin flame I love him unconditionally as he does meI wish I had met my twin flame and been single, but my life has always been about meeting my twin flame his eyes our the soul, and he said its destiny, and he meant every word of that.

You do not have all that much invested in the relationship about to turn to marriage. Think of those who are ‘hit’ with this situation after decades of marriage, family, obligations, a lifetime.

At that point, the possibility of change doesn’t even exist anymore unless you completely lose your mind and are OK with leaving lots of collateral damage in your wake – which no decent soul does.

Don’t marry a ‘second-best’ partner if your BEST is right there, under your nose. Many didn’t get that chance and went for ‘second-best’ knowing full well their BEST was simply not around and would be very unlikely to appear for many decades if not the entire lifetime.

Humans don’t have the luxury of ignoring timelines; why would you throw away this celestial grace where you actually have a choice?

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