“Motivating, inspiring, content-rich, practical. What more could we have wanted!” These power-packed topics are available as keynotes, breakouts and half or full-day seminars. SPEAKING & SEMINAR TOPICS: SEX, LIES & CELLPHONES: Becoming Self-Aware & “Other” Wise Relationships often show many symptoms before breaking out into something really uncomfortable, nasty or hard to recover from. Dr. Read More > >

A great enemy of loving relationships is that old phrase: “taken for granted.” It’s a sure sign of needing relationship help. Many folks who have been in relationship for a while are well-served by stopping to think about whether or not they might be taking their partners for granted. What does it mean, to take…

I just returned from a visit to family and friends in Canada. In twelve days, I spent time with many people in five cities. And stories abounded! Life stories, troubling incidents, and shared memories. The one unifying factor in all the stories was that everyone who experienced the story remembered it differently. Some of those…

Life is a continuum. It doesn’t go in fits and starts, even when it seems to be lurching from joy to crisis. Steve Jobs’ legacy for living was to help us see the bigger picture when we could choose to stay complaining in the dark. Have you ever dreaded meeting someone because you knew they…

In relationships, stuff happens. There are always relationship problems, and they range from incidental to mammoth. When you talk to other people about an issue in your relationship before you have discussed it fully with your partner, you are “dialing for drama.” Read this blog post to understand why that only makes things worse and is voting in the direction of bitter rather than better for your relationship.

Workplace Mediation – Managing Conflict in the Workplace because there is no question that things go sideways and upside down in the relationships, circumstances, conditions and situations at work. That’s why folks go home with their shoulders up near their earlobes! Both employers and employees need to look forward to and finish each day with Read More > >

When classes have not helped and relationship problems continue, you may know you are ready to part. Mediation is the best way to resolve issues regarding the marital settlement, either legal separation or divorce. Mediation takes you to the point of preparation and filing of papers. Divorce Mediation is the next best step when… differences Read More > >

Conflict in relationships happens! Unless we live in a vacuum, we will have conflict with others. And, even then, we would have conflicts within ourselves! That’s where mediation services are helpful! Conflict and confrontation are sparks to creativity, growth, clarity and depth…if they are handled wisely and well. Otherwise, they lead to conflagration, big fires Read More > >

Happiness maven, Christine Carter of Greater Good Science Centre in Berkeley CA, discusses the benefits of not being perfect… What do you think? Is perfectionism holding you back from happiness & personal peace? Discuss!

Resolve your relationship problems – are you ready? I’m Dr. Rhoberta Shaler and I’d like to help you develop the skills to have the conversations that resolve your relationship problems, within yourself, at home & at work. I offer relationship help to: manage relationship problems before differences become irreconcilable find solutions to your relationship issues Read More > >

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