The Friend Zone Destroyer: How Do I Get Out Of The Friend Zone?

I have no idea why, but I’m getting this question more and more these days…

How do I get out of the friend zone?

Guys are for some reason falling into the friend zone trap and getting stuck… just watching the girl they want most go out with other guys.

Well today this is going to stop my man! I’m going to show you what I like to call “The Friend Zone Destroyer”.

Once you use these tips on the girl who has you firmly in the friend zone, you will be able to bust out of that bitch super fast.

Are you ready? Cool, let’s do this.

By the way: If you use my Stealth Attraction techniques which you can see right here… you will NEVER be in the friend zone, ever!

Understand the psychology behind it

In order to get out of the friend zone, you need to first work out why she might be doing it and this will give you a better understanding of how you can stop it from happening any further.

If she has a boyfriend (or even if she doesn’t) she still likes the comfort of having a guy like you pandering to her. You buy her drinks, call her and listen to her moaning about stuff for hours, buy her dinner… and give her the attention she craves.

She doesn’t want to start a relationship with you mainly because it could ruin the relationship she has going with you. The easy ride.

Break the pattern

By breaking the current pattern, you will kickstart feelings she wouldn’t have felt for you before (the same feelings you have for her)… but you need to cool throughout the process. Don’t turn into that needy little bitch that she uses.

When on the phone, make an excuse to end the conversation mid flow. Like “Hey listen, I need to go I’m cooking at the minute and something is burning, I’ll speak to you in a bit”.

When you’re busy, don’t meet her or make special plans for her. Treat her like a normal friend “Hey, yeah sorry I have plans already… maybe another time though”.

When you hug her, hug her like a friend would… no creepy needy stuff. Pat her on the back, hug her with one arm and throw her off the scent.

Make remarks about other girls when you’re with her. “Oh she’s hot” and “Do you have any hot friends you can introduce me too?”

Talk about dates you’ve been on with other girls (don’t rub it in too much though).

Show her you’re a high value male

Be the guy that’s in demand – When she tries her usual tricks, block her and make her think that you’re a high value in demand man. This will make her want to chase you and work for you.

Stop being predictable – If you speak at a certain place… stop going there. If she calls you at a certain time, don’t answer the phone. Don’t reply to texts too quickly, just make her feel like you’re cool without her and have a life.

Getting her interested in you

Now you’ve thrown her off the scent, you want to spark some interest and make her think about what it would be like if she dated you.

Look for signs of attraction – Is she asking you whether she looks good in a dress? Is she touching you a lot more than she used to? Is she flirting? These are all signs that she’s starting to like you more than a friend.

Meetup with her – Now that she’s interested you need to create a situation where you’re both alone having a drink together so you can escalate physically, but in a playful way.

Kiss her – Mid-way through the interaction, give her a quick kiss on the lips (hold her face and do it in a sensual way) then say “Hold a minute, we shouldn’t be doing this… this is so bad”. Then kiss her again and say the same thing. She will begin to justify why it’s a good thing which is what you want.

So there you have it, my friend zone destroyer technique. Never again will you be in the friend zone!

Hey there! Love your content but I’ve got a specific problem with one girl; I know she doesn’t like me more than a friend and I’d like to implement some of these techniques because they’ve worked in the past, but she never leaves her house and doesn’t answer her texts to me very often. Usually it’s because she’s fallen asleep (insomnia) but if I can’t get in contact with her, I can’t even think about implementing one of these moves! So really my question is what can I do to make her more interested in me and make her want to talk to me more?

Hey Rich,
Your stuff is always very usefull for me and lets my improve my game pretty fast. But not this time. Cause I think my case is different.

I have a female best friend. She’s smokin’ hot. She’s every man’s dream. We both are married and have many other things in common. We can talk for hours. Most of the time about sex. There is very strong sexual chemistry between us. We date for a couple of months (bars, clubs, weekend trips). There are only two men in her life: me and her boring husband. And I’m sure that no other man can get closer to her than me. We send each other very sexual emails. She often gives me a fantastic BJ and she knows that I dream about sex with her. She said one day that she knows that it would be fantastic to make love with me but…. we are just friends. What should I do? How to convince her that I’m the best option? I would easily find another girl just for wild sex cause I’m really a high value man (good looking, good job, high social status) but I can’t stop thinking about sex with her. Is there any hope for me? ;-)

Hey thanks for the video Richard it was really useful! However I still to know how I can keep her attention on me and how to get a reaction out of her. I care deeply about this girl and I really need your help to get her….PLEASE MAKE MORE VIDEOS ABOUT THIS!! YOUR MY ONLY HOPE.

My prob is with a neighbor that’s smokin hot she has a live in bf. She’s a very sexy confident business woman type, with a killer bod. Anyway, I sometimes stop by her place and usually end up speaking with just her on the back porch. She tells me anything and everything. However, she never looks straight at me as a confident woman would. The posture she takes is that of a lil girl that is telling daddy she stole the candy. I’ve watched her when we go to bars as a group and she always approaches and talks to people confidently even men she has attraction to. Her posture when talking to me seems to show no interest, however when she gets even the slightest bit tipsy, she says sexual things to me, but always from the (lil girl stealing the candy posture).
I thought maybe there was no attraction, So I decided to play the I LIKE GAME many puas tout. My 1st like was a boring football, blah blah blah. Her very 1st one was, “I like ice cream cones dipped in choc an lots and lots of nuts, I like to lick an nibble them till they’re all gone, Then take a spoon and shove it deep down in the cone. pull it out and put all that yummy cream in my mouth and eat it up.”
Still from the posture, turned to the side, looking away and downward. WTH.
It has me baffle, this is a sexy confident woman, that otherwise never shows any indication of interest in me whatsoever. Its like shes telling me, I don’t want you, oh god But please don’t make me be a dirty girl for you. I’m confused.

Thanks Rich,
I really need your help, I’ve used much of your advice from the Master Pickup Artist University. I find your advice to be the best and have had success with it, however the case above has me really confused.

“I like ice cream cones dipped in choc an lots and lots of nuts, I like to lick an nibble them till they’re all gone, Then take a spoon and shove it deep down in the cone. pull it out and put all that yummy cream in my mouth and eat it up.”

“lick”, “nibble”, “shove it ‘deep’ down”, “yummy cream in my mouth”. For just describing eating an ice cream she is using language which for those with social understanding know they have sexual connotations. It might be her showing interest in you or it might just be her enjoying herself being the “naughty girl” and getting off (not literally) in saying sexual things to someone not her partner.

” However, she never looks straight at me as a confident woman would. The posture she takes is that of a lil girl that is telling daddy she stole the candy. I’ve watched her when we go to bars as a group and she always approaches and talks to people confidently even men she has attraction to.”

Just because someone is socially extrovert (or domineering) and takes the lead does not mean she will want to do the same with sex. Sexual activity is often escape where people can be something different (and anything repressed is let out) so why she might be (or present herself as) the empowered business woman when it comes to sex in this case she likely desires to be submissive and let the man take charge. It’s like the quiet lady who works in the library and goes to book clubs is also into BDSM and dominating guys. It can be very much opposites.

“however when she gets even the slightest bit tipsy, she says sexual things to me, but always from the (lil girl stealing the candy posture)”

Unless she’s discusses stuff like that in social situations normally I would say it’s an IOI (identification of interests). However she might just be getting off being a tease (in her submissive ways). Lead her with questions “do you feel like that often?” (I dont know great questions). Of course read the situation, see what her signals are and play it how you want to.

Of course depends on what you want. She’s your neighbor, she’s got a boyfriend so depends if you want to try and make her have an affair or steal her. If you decide not to go after her keep up the relationship (with her being subtly sexual) use it to perhaps get her to introduce/tell you about her friends as if she thinks your hot she would tell her friends (and maybe possible for you to get with them).

I think you said very well at the beginning. There are a lot of advantages of having female friends too. Like playing precious wingman… Or helping to understand/deal with other women,etc.. Keypoint is to set the mind straight, considering the risk of bringing things to a level and losing all of that. Because once she is taken into bed, and she has great time with it, probably it may end up in a relationship, where you wish you had that girlfriend back again, and there’s a point without return.

Awesome video Richard! Can you please make more videos about getting out of the friend zone? This video was really helpful but I would like to see more strategies on this topic. PLEASE MAKE MORE VIDEOS ABOUT THIS!!!

Very cool video, Richard. I’m a client of yours already and I always appreciated your advice. I have to say that, even I’m not in the friendzone, I followed that strategy instinctively﻿ couple of times and saw the results as you said in the video (“does this dress/trouser make me sexy” or others kind of questions). Again, very useful stuff.
Thanks for sharing :)

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