It is all so ridiculous...

... inside my head. I want to talk about it but I don't think anyone would understand. I want to talk about it but it feels so very stupid and weak and embarrassing. I want to talk about it but I want constructive help not platitudes - I want someone smarter than me to help me work it out not a sympathetic hug. I want to talk about it and there is nobody at all I can tell.

... inside my head. I want to talk about it but I don't think anyone would understand. I want to talk about it but it feels so very stupid and weak and embarrassing. I want to talk about it but I want constructive help not platitudes - I want someone smarter than me to help me work it out not a sympathetic hug. I want to talk about it and there is nobody at all I can tell.

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I am always here to talk and you know how to find me. I am less sure about the "smarter than you" , and I believe very often we do in fact know the answers for ourselves. Sometimes it is less a case of not being able to figure it out for ourselves and more a case of not being pleased with the answers we come up with and the amount of effort required to enact the solutions we find- the positive constructive solutions. We ask for help, myself included because we are scared to make the wrong decision or want somebody to tell us an easier way. You likely know the best way to handle the problems for yourself or want somebody to come up with an easier way that simply does not exist. I am always here to listen or to support and encourage you as you put in the effort to make the changes you already know need to be done.

Take Care and Be Safe

Ben

ps :hug: - because even if you do not know you need it sometimes it DOES help

... inside my head. I want to talk about it but I don't think anyone would understand. I want to talk about it but it feels so very stupid and weak and embarrassing. I want to talk about it but I want constructive help not platitudes - I want someone smarter than me to help me work it out not a sympathetic hug. I want to talk about it and there is nobody at all I can tell.

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Freya, I can so relate to these feelings. It puts you in a hard spot, the feeling that nobody's there...the desire for help but feeling there's nowhere safe to turn.

Talking, whatever it's about, is not stupid or weak, though I know it often feels that way. It just means you have things bothering you & need to get it out...it means you're taking a difficult step toward meeting your needs. I hope you find someone you can start with, someone who will allow you to be real, w/o judgment. Is there anyone you think you'd be ok to take that 1st step with, whether it be a personal friend/family or a professional? Unfortunately, it takes time to build that trusting relationship. You've offered support to so many on here & I hope you find what you need.

We're here for you. I may not be smarter than you...wish I had all the answers.

You're not alone here hun. You've got all of us miserable buggars in chat (mainly me and Ben :laugh: *ducks and hides*). We do care a lot for you Lu, lots of :wub: and :hug: and a cuppa tea! And a stress ball, for all those stressful times in chat :laugh: