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05.08.2014 15:13 EDT

Love is inherently free. It cannot be bought, sold,or traded. You cannot make someone love you,nor can you prevent it, for any amount of money.Love cannot be imprisoned nor can it belegislated. Love is not a substance, not acommodity, nor even a marketable power source.Love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiablemass or energy output.One can buy sex partners and even marriagepartners. Marriage is a matter for the law, for rulesand courts and property rights. In the past, themarriage price, or dowry, and in the present,alimony and the pre-nuptial agreement, make itclear that marriage is all about contracts. But aswe all know, marriages, whether arranged or not,may have little enough to do with love.Sexual stimulation and gratification, whether byway of fingers, mouths, objects, fantasy play, whipsand chains, or just plain intercourse, can certainlybe bought and sold, not to mention used to sellother things. Whether sex should be for sale isanother question entirely, but love itself can not besold.One can buy loyalty, companionship, attention,perhaps even compassion, but love itself cannotbe bought. An orgasm can be bought, but lovecannot. It comes, or not, by grace, of its own willand in its own timing, subject to no human'splanning.Love cannot be turned on as a reward. It cannot beturned off as a punishment. Only something elsepretending to be love can be used as a lure, as ahook, for bait and switch, imitated, insinuated, butthe real deal can never be delivered if it doesn'tspring freely from the heart.This doesn't mean that love allows destructive andabusive behaviors to go unchecked. Love speaksout for justice and protests when harm is beingdone. Love points out the consequences of hurtingoneself or others. Love allows room for anger ,grief , or pain to be expressed and released. Butlove does not threaten to withhold itself if itdoesn't get what it wants. Love does not say,directly or indirectly, "If you are a bad boy, Mommywon't love you any more." Love does not say,"Daddy's little girl doesn't do that." Love does notsay, "If you want to be loved you must be nice, ordo what I want, or never love anyone else, orpromise you'll never leave me."Love cares what becomes of you because loveknows that we are all interconnected. Love isinherently compassionate and empathic. Loveknows that the "other" is also oneself. This is thetrue nature of love and love itself can not bemanipulated or restrained. Love honors thesovereignty of each soul. Love is its own law