We’re an open book – or so we think. Believe it or not, there are some subjects women are guilty of indulging in – but don’t admit to, especially to men. Sometimes, even to one another: How about peeing in the shower? Wearing the same bra over and over again – and never washing it? And sneering at elaborate YouTube wedding proposals, but secretly wishing for one.

Don’t be fooled by the ‘I eat everything and anything I want’ combined with ‘I never exercise.’ According to Mecklinger, “they’re part of the secret skinny women’s club who don’t ever tell anyone how they starve themselves. Their stomachs growl in solitude.”

Size matters:

“Women arm themselves with clothes that are two sizes too small as they line up for the change room only to shake hands in private with their real size,” adds Mecklinger, an executive coach. Call it size shaming – “it seems that asking a woman what size her jeans are trumps the offence of asking her age.”

“How many, for how long – who, what, where when and why. For every man who brags about his sexual conquest there is a woman who keeps hers a secret,” says Mecklinger, coach and mediator.

Women think about the ‘one that got away.’ According to Mecklinger, those closest to them will never know how much women fantasize about that special mister. “Women let men believe they are the ones who have cornered the market on fantasies.”

Women keep secret how many sizes they have in their wardrobe.

“More women have clothes not categorized by occasion but rather by size. Fat pants, skinny pants, pizza pants, ultimate goal pants…. the list goes on,” says Mecklinger. And you can bet on an abundance of sizes of the same item.

The time they blew it:

A lot of women are terrified of failure – and even more terrified of you seeing them fail, says Amy Pearson. “The thing women need to know is failure is a good thing. Each time you get it wrong, you learn a little more about how to get it right. Most women stop at the first setback. As they say, don’t slash your tires when all you have is a flat.”

Feeling like a fraud:

Most women secretly feel afraid somebody will “find them out,” says Pearson, who runs a free class at Ifeellikeafraud.com. That’s because they may actually be acting like a fraud – “you’re trying to be something you’re not and it’s stressing you out.”

The bottom line: you’re going to feel terrified when you’re playing big. Get used to it!

Women’s relationship with money:

Women talk about sex more than they talk about money, says Pearson. But ignore it, and it will likely go away. That’s not good. “Money is a relationship as important as any other.

Do you expect money to be there for you, but you want nothing to do with it in return? Do you tell money it’s not important? Well, if you don’t want to talk about money, then it makes complete sense to me why money doesn’t want anything to do with you either.”

Women’s seething resentment: You missed your massage because your mom needed you to do her hair. You got up early to make brownies for the school bake sale. You said yes to a boring dinner party but would rather be in bed with a good book. You do it all but nobody ever seems to notice, let alone thank you, says Pearson.

“Here’s a suggestion: Stop. Do start saying ‘yes’ to yourself and the resentment will go away. Promise.”