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If you know Virtuous Oak (that’s her name on Instagram) then you would agree with us that her humility and sincerity is remarkable. This month on our Beautified Woman of the Month, we feature this incredible woman and learn from her wealth of experience. Now if you are thinking of going into the ministry or marrying someone in the ministry you need to read every line of this interview more than once. Argghh there’s just so much to learn.

Please introduce yourself.

I am Adigun Titilope .I have an acronym for my names (given by my parents and my husband) Titilope, Hadassah, Adetola, Didun Adigun. – THADA. I am a daughter of a king, wife of almost 6 years to Dr. Love, mother of three graced nations, pharmacist by profession. My husband and I coordinate a Ministry to teenagers and young adults, MINE TEENAGE MINISTRY and pastor the church arm of the ministry – The Ark.

In one sentence, how would you describe yourself?

Titilope Adigun is work in progress who is being and doing her best to enjoy the life that Jesus gave her.

What is your definition of purpose and how did you find yours?

Purpose, the reason for my existence is becoming like Jesus. Scripture says in Romans 8:29 (please read in as many versions as you possibly can for understanding) that I was chosen to conform to the image of Jesus. In my days in the university and a few years later I got really confused because of the wave of discovering purpose. It then occurred to me that since I did not make myself, I would have to ask the One who made me why He did. This scripture just seemed to be it for me with this definition. Being and doing what Jesus would be and do per time and in everything has been my driving force. I have found purpose in being Oluwatimilehin Adigun’s wife, found purpose in being David, Esther and Samuel’s mom and found purpose in being a blessing to the younger generation so they don’t make the same mistakes.

How would you describe the ideal Christian woman & wife?

The Ideal Christian and wife is one who understands her true identity in God lives by the Word and the Spirit and exudes the love, wisdom, grace of God. She understands she has limitations and that she cannot please everyone so she serves well but also knows how to take good care of herself. I think balance is the word that best summarizes her life!!!

How are you able to manage your ministry and family without either suffering?

Before I answer this question, I have to say this. Before now I used to say that if I knew that my husband was going to be a pastor, I would have said ‘No’ when he asked me out. I just wanted it cool and steady though there were experiences along my journey through life that were training in disguise for such a time as this.

Managing ministry and family with neither of them suffering was not exactly easy from the start especially because of birthing and nurturing our three great nations. I had to combine this with a 8am -5pm job.

The first thing I did was quit my job, maybe I did not have to but I must confess it was overwhelming and I felt I was being unfair to my children.

One thing God has really helped us to do is build young people and give them a platform to harness and express what God has graced them with so by God’s grace there are responsibilities that can be delegated to some of them and over time they have gotten better at carrying out these responsibilities excellently. With that in place, I have learnt the importance of delegation and monitoring and thankfully these amazing young people are willing to help. God bless them for me. This has helped me focus on family and our children as they are still in their formative years and they need extra care and attention because of the different species of young people in our world.

Please give some practical tips for women who are overwhelmed by the same situation.

Dear sister let me start by celebrating you for the journey so far. It is a higher calling that you have and I believe God knew your frame before He called you into this thing called ‘ministry’. I know so many young ladies who would say no to being called into ministry especially as a pastors wife . Please know that to a large extent you can not really compare yourself with other women. The demand placed on you is more and on different fronts so my advice to you is :

Ask God to teach you how to make things work as your peculiarity demands. You need a large dose of wisdom to balance many things.

With your priorities in place , you will need to define the things that are important, things that are urgent and otherwise. This categorization will vary per time but it will help you plan your time well. Please do all you can to give God first place n your life everyday and keep in touch with Him through out the day, this makes the burden easy to bear

Please get help!!! By all means I consider myself a hardworking homemaker and in a bid to keep everywhere in shape I get exhausted and don’t get to do some very important things. There are days I’m so drained and irritable and the whole house is under mummy’s tension. My husband tells me that if I continue like this, I would loose out on so many defining moments that would create a lasting impression in the minds of my children . So if you are like me please get help, many times you have people offering to help with different things please allow them to help and get their blessings from God.

Virtuous Oak and Doctor Love

How does it feel being married to a Pastor?

Laughing at this point is so inevitable. Like I said earlier, my desire was to just have my husband and children living in a cute home loving and serving God without too many people around, if you know what I mean.

When this came, my husband took time to break the news of God telling him to start a church because we had even planned that we were not going to do the compulsory classes that would qualify us to be ordained in the Ministry we were attending at the time.

God has worked on me and enlarged my heart to take in more people and to love them. Being a Pastor’s wife has come with mixed feelings for me but the good times far outweigh the not-so good times. I have known the joy of seeing people find a reason to live their best lives. I count it a great honour to have a husband who lives his life loving people and this love has changed countless lives and salvaged destinies. Oh, what a joy to know that the young ones have found shelter from the storm under our roof ,where they can love God, serve Him and give expression to the greatness inside them while preparing to be launched into the world for exploits!!!!!

Complete this … Pastor Timi is a …

Pastor Timi is a God crazy young man who loves Titilope deeply, amazingly fathers David, Esther and Samuel and who just like Jesus is an expression of God’s love to humanity! An Advocate of Sexual Purity and Love Never Fails.

What do you love the most about being married?

The best part of being married for me is the knowing that you are greatly treasured by at least one human who has got your back anytime any day, I’m second ONLY to God in his life- such a sweet thought!

How are you and Pastor Timi raising your children to stand out for Christ in this perverse generation?

What a challenging question. You really cannot imagine how much this means to us because of how perverse this generation and these times are. I believe parents in these coming generations would need a higher level of parenting grace.

That said God has been helping us lay eternal foundations. By God’s grace, they know and attend devotions (we try to make sure they are awake and alert at those times ) and they are in as many spiritual meetings as they can be with us . In between they’ve heard a lot of praying in tongues and they try to do it once in a while.

My husband lays his hands on them (and me) every morning (as much a possible) and pronounces a blessing. Intercession is key for these little ones because prayers cover s them at those times when we can’t be there with them. Very importantly we have been media conscious for them.

I can’t remember anyone of them ever singing a secular song. Guess this might not be a big deal to some parents but I am so grateful that at this age we have a (have a 4 year old King, 2 year old Queen and 8 months old priest) they have an idea of who God is and what worshiping Him means. There is still so much to do in this regard because there are so little alternatives especially in cartoons.
Parenting is one course for us in this marriage institution that my husband and I by the help of the Holy Spirit hope to pass excellently. Let me add that I am also reading books on parenting which I believe would help.

Virtuous Oak, King David and Queen Esther

You are a mentor to many young ladies. Apart from those you have mentioned, can you share any other practical tips young ladies need to live by?

Recently, I have been burdened to tell as many young people, especially ladies that they should seek to know God for themselves, cultivate and carefully nurture a relationship with the first love himself. In my few years of living I have come to know that nothing in this world can ever satisfy. Jesus is the cup that won’t run dry and one of the greatest revelations you can ever have is the revelation of God’s love!!! You need to know that you know that God loves you. Nothing you do wrong will make Him love you less and nothing you do wrong will make you love Him more. Knowing this will help you in the good and not so good times.

Then most importantly building this relationship helps you sharpen your ability to discern with clarity, God’s voice especially (though not exclusively) when it comes to making big life decisions

Secondly, please gain value as much as you can, seek knowledge, read books attend gatherings that make you better. Grab opportunities to learn new things, skills, dishes, etc. we really cannot ignore the possibility of the need to quit a 9-5 job when it becomes inevitable (and many times I think most women are wired to do something we don’t like being idle. ) we don’t just sit at home. At such times the productive things we learn outside the four walls of a school become very handy.

This is very important for ladies who will be in Ministry or married to men in the ministry especially itenery ministers. But you know many times we don’t have the full picture and you will agree with me that it is wiser to learn and not get to use a skill than not being able to deliver. Ignorance is horrible please seek to know all you need to know and become all God created you to be.

Thirdly please prayerfully build friendships. True the world is full of all sorts of people and some people even believe that no one is to be trusted. But there are some amazing people too (just like the scripture talked about a remnant generation) we were made to need people and people need you too.

Find your own friends and be a great friend too. There is so much to say but let me say this finally. Do not fall into the trap of competition and comparison. Just like the Yoruba adage says that the sky is big enough for all birds to fly with it disturbing each other. Please celebrate your uniqueness. Be the best you were created to be.

What do you love about the Beautified Network?

The Beautified Network is a blessing indeed. I visited the blog sometime in January and I was greatly inspired. I read the interview with the beautified woman of the month, Eziaha and I knew how blessed we are in this generation with amazing women loving Jesus and blessing their world. This is my first interview and I want to say that these questions are really deep I had to search deeply to answer them correctly and I confess that they made me realize things I need to pay attention to. God bless Funto and The Beautified Network Team for this. Greater grace and enlarged sphere of influence in Jesus name. Amen.

Priest Samuel when he was just a few weeks old!

What would you say is your biggest achievement so far and how has it shaped you?

This is one of the most challenging questions in this interview. I’m not sure what to say my biggest achievement is but when I looked at the second part of this question, I will like to say that God has helped me support my husband in the ministry more than my imagination. I really did not know what to expect at the beginning but this journey has built my faith indeed. More than anything else I have grown in my ability to believe God for the impossible.

What’s your advice for young ladies going into ministry?

Dear lady please know and never forget that you did not call yourself. God called you and He would take care of His ministry. You need to stay with Him for instructions, stay faithful, stay trusting, stay obedient and very importantly stay humble. Ministry is a call to serve God and be a blessing to people. Please be excellent at it. Abide in Him so you can bear much fruits and your fruits can abide.

Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you!!! Thank you to The Beautified Network for this honour.

We think we should be the ones thanking Virtuous Oak for this wealth of wisdom she just shared with us. We don’t even know where to start from. Is it the way she made us see what purpose means from a different point of view. “I have found purpose in being Oluwatimilehin Adigun’s wife, found purpose in being David, Esther and Samuel’s mom and found purpose in being a blessing to the younger generation so they don’t make the same mistakes.”

We think its also important to note what she said about how she and Pastor Timi have been media conscious for their children. By now you should know that no matter how busy you are your family is super important and your children should always be priority, next to God and your husband. What do they watch on TV, what songs do they listen to?

There’s so much more to learn and we think you’d have to be visiting this page regularly to remind yourself of all these salient points.

We are super excited to feature the uber amazing, devil stomping and fab Coach E’. She explodes with joy and every bit of her interview is loaded. Although she shares her life experiences on social media, there are a few things in this interview you may not have heard before, including her biggest business failures and how she jealously protects her friends .

You will love this one!

Hello Coach E, we hope we can call you that. Please introduce yourself and tell us what you do.

Hey People. Thanks for having me on. I love this platform so it is an honour to be here. That said, I am Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo, and I actually prefer to be called Eziaha outside of Coaching. I am a UK Certified Health and Fitness Coach and I am CEO of CoachE’Squad…SavedFitFAB. I run an awesome Christian blog www.eziaha.com, an Online Mentoring Academy for Chicks called The FAB Sistership (TFS), and I am also an Author. I love being ALL of this, but my greatest privilege and assignment is being a Wife to my Perfect Slice of Heaven, Bolaji Olojo, and Mama to my kids.

You always seem so excited and pumped, why?

Hahahaha. I actually burst out laughing at this. Oh well, I’ll say first of all, I do have a combination of the two extroverted temperaments, Sanguine and Choleric, so let’s say a lot of that comes from my blood, and the breastmilk I grew up on. Haha. Oh, but there are days baby. There are days. Those days when I feel as deflated as a tyre. Those are the days I now tell my feelings to keep on feeling that way, but i’m gonna act in the exact opposite way, and it better hurry and catch up with me. And they always do. You see, satan is just a bastard and when the Bible tells us to call those things that be not as though they are, it is inclusive of feelings. I learned from my numero UNO mentor Joyce Meyer that we don’t let our feelings vote, so whether I feel like or not, a good Leader, which I am, does what needs to be done. Plus by the time I start to sound high, pumped and stoked, I soon start to feel that way.

A cheerful spirit doeth good like medicine but a broken spirit crushes the bones. (Proverbs 17v22)

I prefer the former so I faith it (fake it to the world) until it becomes my reality.

You talk so much about your single life and how you dedicated it to God, what’s your advice to a young lady who just married and is finding it hard to focus on God?

I do? Well, interestingly, I spent some time this morning thinking on my single days and how seasons just change with marriage and so do the expressions of our service and worship to God. The simple truth, whether we like it or lump it, is that marriage changes service in some way. The Bible is explicit and I’ll quote The Message.

I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 MSG

Domestic life is REAL (especially kitchen work, sweet Lord baby Jesus!!!), and when you get married, you are trying to make sense of running a home and strike a balance, whether you are a Domestic Queen, or you work outside the home, especially as most brides don’t exactly begin marital life with a home-help. I recall having this convo with one of my 700 best friends, Ayo, after we got married (within weeks of each other) that girl, why does it seem like I am praying and studying the Word less? Like all you wanna do is stare at your ring, plaster all your wedding highlights on Social media and have sex all day and night, especially if you abstained. She said that was her reality too but soon, we strike that balance and we get back in with God.

You may NOT be able to attend all the meetings and programs that you used to, or pray all night, as a Single anymore, cos you gotta cook and have sex, so adjust cognitively, and that doesn’t say STOP completely. Trust me, Jesus understands. (See scriptural ref above). You know part of what submission amplifies into includes ADAPT. Marriage means a lot of Adaptability (is this even in the Dictionary???), especially from the woman.

And if you have married a good God man, soon, you both will strike a rhythm that works. And the crazy thing is the man is going through the same thing so yawl be easy on yourselves. It all comes together over time.

Plus don’t you dare compare!!! Girl, let me just save you. The last thing you wanna do is compare with another Chick’s marriage. I did that a whole lot in the first year of being married. I desperately wanted my husband and I to pray LONG hours together but we couldn’t. I had spent a night with this couple whose tongues woke me up as they prayed together physically. I was like this is sooooooo gon’ be my home yo!!! Oh how I used to harangue hubs. Like, you are NOT spiritual enough. Haha. Till one day, Jesus in His infinite mercies, decided against whacking me over my head, and instead made me stumble on Joyce Meyer my HERO, say she and Dave don’t pray together everyday because they simply can NOT. But rather they make sure they are connected in the knowledge of what each is praying about individually and as a family. I would hear my own Pastors say same too, and then my brain reset. Hallelujah!!!

So dear newly-wed, pace yourself. It will all fall in place.

Either ways, I will say, make sure you keep your intimacy with God, as your current season allows, and stay connected to Him. Marriage was NOT made to run on human strength or you will self-destruct.

Why did you start your business?

I kinda started mistakenly. I had my baby, had stopped work and even relocated, and all that angst of moving from being a First Class graduate, to working my dream job in the United Nations, and then leaving to be a full time stay-at-home mama, led me to over-indulge in food and TV, so I put on a lot of weight.

Someday, I had my reality check, repented, and cleaned up my diet. Lost all the weight, started helping Chicks for free, and then God started to nudge me to ‘do business with it’ and then He used several people to speak to me and all, including my Pastor Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo, and my friend Stephanie Obi. I really was afraid cos I wondered if anyone would pay me, but it got frustrating doing it for free, and that was definitely God’s way of saying ‘Honey, I’m done with you here…’ I obeyed, went premium and here we are, almost 7months in and it has been absolutely a miracle. I still don’t believe my life today cos, imaginative as I am, I could never have come up with this life for me.

NEVER!

What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made since you started the Coach E squad and how did you make things work?

Two major mistakes.

Not having a proper time structure. Gurl, I could be coaching at 2am. I absolutely LOVE this job and I’m pretty much a passionate Chick but the Bible held my answer in Proverbs 19v2

Zeal without knowledge is not good…

Thankfully, God used my sister and co-laborer in the Fitness business, Bumz mama of Shredder Gang, to teach me about a proper time structure. Now I have a structure, a pretty enviable one, and it has made me all the more fruitful, and for the kind of life I am building, fruitfulness is not negotiable.

Looking to man not God. You know, when I just started, I would get a lot of ‘Oh I’m going to pay for this service from you’ or ‘I referred XYZ persons to you’. Whenever anyone told me that, I would become so expectant, waiting for them to pay up, or the referrals to come. If they don’t show up, jeez, I would harbour some kind of grudge in my heart for the person. Until God checked me and let me know that flesh is just what it is… FLESH, and I am to put NO confidence in it. It doesn’t matter who promises what, I don’t take my eyes off Him. Today, I don’t even put NOTHING on man. I thank you for your kind heart and intention, but I look to HIM as my Source alone. That way, I am NEVER disappointed. Plus sometimes, we humans have the right intention but things happen. So best to stay looking to the One to whom ‘things’ don’t happen.

You are holding a conference for stay-at-home mums who want to deliver their dreams, tell why you are doing this.

I’m doing this as a give-back because I was this frustrated Stay-at-home mom, who was mad at the world, and especially her husband at how her life turned out. I hated that season and I so desperately wanted to be a #WorkingMom too like ‘all’ my ‘mates’ on IG who popped kids and went back into the corporate world like they never left. I was idle, lazy, spent all my time on gossip blogs, totally discontent, and indulged in self-pity parties, the exact four ‘breads’ the Proverbs 31 woman didn’t eat.

‘…the bread of idleness, gossip, discontent and self-pity she will not eat…’ (vs 27 AMPC)

Which is the Scripture the meeting is themed after.

It was such a dark time in my life, but somehow, God delivered me from myself, before I self-destruct. In that season, I learned the POWER of ‘Domestic’ and how God can birth the dreams He deposited in us, right from home. I started my business from home, and God has spread us abroad. I want to help some women get through this season too, and deliver their dreams. I know how the average stay-at-home mom is looked down on, sometimes even by their husbands, and it looks like they are not worth much. I went through all that, and I overcame. God really helped me and it is my privilege to be a vessel to help many more Domestic Queens

There’s so much talk now about women supporting women, tell us how you support your friends and their dreams.

First I pray. Next if I run into any info that would help them, I am quick to pass it across. Sometimes too, I have learned that living fully and passionately is inspiration to my friends to go after their own dreams. I know a lot of my friends tell me that I inspire them to go after their goals and dreams as they see me go. Another reason to not shrink or play small. My playing small serves nobody.

You hinted in a post about 3 years ago that some people had issues when you married from another tribe. Can you tell us about it and how you worked things out?

Some people ke? It wasn’t ‘some people’, it was my parents’. I’m Igbo and I was marrying into a Yoruba home. Something that had not happened before in my family, so it was quite a struggle. But consent was eventually given, thanks to lots of prayers, wise counsel and interventions, and we are now in our 4th year of marriage, and both families are still enjoying a happy relationship.

You are definitely a protector of friends, give us practical tips on how to protect and maintain a great relationship with girlfriends.

I think I’ve been lucky too with my friends. My sanguine nature (thank You Jesus) makes people drawn to me, but I have also been the ‘asker’ some times.

First thing I do to maintain is to define the purpose of the friendship, and this is very important to me. I didn’t do this in the past so I screwed up some relationships. I believe godly friendships are divinely orchestrated, so once I prayerfully determine why this Chick is in my life, I work that friendship mostly to that purpose. Now at the Base of it all is Christ, but Chick A may be my ‘everyday gisting buddy’, Chick B may be the one with whom my huge faith projects and prayers are shared when we talk once a fortnight.

Another may be my wife-buddy, with whom I can share wifey challenges. Another my confessor who I know is gon’ whoop my butts with the truth if I’m messing up. And so on. Oh and there are some with whom my super-emotional side is sufficiently supplied, so we are very mush, lovey-dovey and romantic.

Lol. You see, that’s why I have 700 best friends. Haha. You can’t put all these on one Chick. I’m too much for one. While one friend may fit more than one purpose, only on rare occasions do you find a friend who fits all these (and there’s research to support this), but I’ve been told I can pretty much fit into a lot of ‘purposes’. Even then, that’s still too much pressure for one person.

Challenges start when I want to make my fortnight-friend my daily-gist buddy. When purpose is not known, abuse starts.

I also am truly interested in the lives of my friends. If I know you have a challenge, I do everything I can to help, whether spiritually, financially or otherwise. Sometimes covertly. Some of my friends will NEVER know that for some ‘testimonies’ they have, I pretty much flat out let God use me anonymously. These seeds are priceless and they leave your bank account with them ‘healthy’.

In recent times, my schedule has gotten busier and so I’ve started to actually SCHEDULE time to either call or visit, or I may forget. So it is not out of place to see ‘Call Dumebi’ on Tuesday in my diary. And then if there is some challenge they have shared with me, I pray AND actually ask them for regular updates. I’m that annoying friend that poke noses into your matter. Haha. I have a day I set aside to just pray for my friends. Also I’ve learned and stay learning to both grace and forgive my friends, unlike before when I would be quick to dump and move on.

Phew, I think I’ve been lucky for the most part cos God has definitely restored the ones I screwed up.

Per ‘protector’, one thing I make sure I do is I don’t spill secrets. If you share something with me, even if we quarrel, I just shut up. I don’t even use it against them. Plus nobody bad-mouths my friends in front of me. Nah. And if I see you doing nonsense, I correct as God leads me. Cos I don’t want you to get into trouble

What will you say is your biggest achievement as an entrepreneur so far?

Two things I’m pretty much looking forward to…

Hosting my own TV show, The CoachE’ Diaries…SavedFitFAB.

Having my CoachE’ Fitness&Word tees worn by Staff of Multi Nationals in their THOUSANDS as they take long Fitness walks and I give talks to them too

Until both happen, I’m not considering anything that. I stay pressing on.

We know you are a fitness coach, but Fit-fam aside what food will you eat all day? (Confession time)

That’s easy. Anyone who knows me knows I’m a Noodles fan!!! I popped a baby out, and requested for Noodles and fried eggs immediately. For how ’empty’ nutrition wise, and ‘full’ calorie wise Noodles is, you would think I would give it up. There are days I’ve had Noodles for BLD. Like Noodles is BAE!!! That said, it doesn’t have dominion over me. No food does or can!!! Matter of fact, when I was actively trying to lose weight, I stayed off noodles for 3months, a miracle second only to the Immaculate conception.

When you are not blogging, coaching or praying? What are you doing?

Hahaha. Praying ke. That’s my Romantic Covenant Sister, Funto’s forte. She is the Prayer warrior. Anyways, I’m usually planning and projecting my life. I really do want my life to make Jesus famous so I don’t slack. Then I watch tons of videos from my fave teachers, and music videos on YouTube endlessly. I’m a ‘Tube junkie haha. Thank God for YouTube. These days i’m obsessed with Terri Savelle Foy and she is the reason doing the dishes or laundry is no longer as annoying. For fun though, really my daily routines are fun for me. My life is pretty exciting, but Desperate Housewives is still my fave go-to series so I watch re-runs since I’ve seen it all.

Complete this statement, One day Eziaha will

Hear ‘well done good and faithful servant. You really did make me proud and lived driven by eternity’ from God. I’m looking forward to and doing what I can to hear that.

Wow! We certainly loved this interview and we hope you did too.

Did you notice what she said about not comparing your marriage / home to somebody else’s or when she said “marriage was NOT made to run on human strength or you will self-destruct.” These are things we should not toy with.

Now one thing we absolutely love was what she said about defining the purpose of a friendship so you don’t screw it up. Many of us chose our friends carelessly and end up screwing things up. Well, it is time to do things differently. Choose your friends wisely, and guard your relationships jealously.

Whoosh! It’s the first Wednesday of the month and time for another #BeautifiedWomanOfTheMonth series. We have featured three exceptional women already but this month, our Beautified Woman took things to a whole new level. Her answers to the questions were spot on, we didn’t want the interview to end.

Are you ready to learn valuable lessons from Dolapo?

Here we go

Hello Dolapo how are you doing?
I’m great, thank you.

You are a filmmaker, producer, editor screen writer and entrepreneur? How do you juggle all these brilliantly?
First of, I’m a creative entrepreneur well in the production aspects, and so all these things you mentioned, I do them under the scope of my production company Doreen Media Africa. To be honest, it’s simply the grace of God. It can’t be anything else. Even I ask myself the same question sometimes when I sit back. There is definitely an oil of grace over my life which I do not and will never take for granted. Like I’m so happy doing all those roles, I don’t even see it as work. Its crazy!

We know that about 9 years ago, you were involved in an accident that changed the course of your life forever; can you tell us what your biggest fear was at that time and how you overcame it?
My biggest fear would be I thought my dreams were over. I wanted to be a popular presenter and philanthropist. Like I was a huge fan of Oprah for a while and I just thought I would one day host the biggest show in Africa and then this accident came and affected only my face, like not even a scratch on my neck. The way God just re-positioned my mind, my dreams- now I look back and I’m like you are definitely the master planner! I totally prefer God’s plan to mine. Mine was very small and self centered, compared to the things God is going to do through me. And it was in my pain I found purpose. It was a very painful way of finding God’s purpose for my life. The passion for being in front of TV is so dead like I can’t even imagine. But the passion I have for building by God’s grace one of Africa’s biggest Production empires and philanthropic activities-I can die for it. Literally.

Your definition of beauty must have changed after the accident would you please share it with us?
It didn’t change funny enough. Beauty is how you see yourself. Beauty is very perspective in nature. But it surely does radiate from within.

You shared your story last year and you mentioned giving a speech in the university about why you had scars on your face. Where did you get the confidence to share your story?
Me I just wanted people to stop asking me questions so i can have a good time at school. That was my motive and it worked perfectly.

Did you ever ask God ‘why me,’ did you get answers?
Why me is a question I asked over and over. But now I know why me…hehe! The world will definitely know. #Prouding

In an interview you said motivation cannot always talk someone out of pain so what can we do to help people around us going through one kind of pain or the other?
Sometimes just be quiet and let your presence alone speak. Don’t try to ‘put yourself in someone’s shoes’ cos really that can’t ever happen except you go out there ram your car into a cement and have scars. Then I’ll know you know what it feels like. Just be there for the person. Just be there. It’s not always by words.

You desperately wanted to get rid of all the scars but you couldn’t. What’s your advice to people who have scars that can’t be removed and feel like their beauty has been altered?
Yes I wanted to but that was when I was younger and still somewhat vain, and short sighted. You grow older, you are wiser and you realize beauty is like one of the least things in this life. There are other challenges way bigger than how you look. Won’t you still age? Remove your focus from beauty. Dress well and all but let that not be the focus. See the world, your world through God’s eyes and you will no that scars are too small to alter beauty. Beauty is more than the facial. It’s everything, your personality, your work, family etc.

Were you afraid to open up to love because of your scars?
Lol. Never. Girl, I even had the pleasure of choosing between hot men. I chose the very best.

Please tell us why.
I saw and see myself as still beautiful that’s why. How you view yourself is a magnetic force.

What super power would you love to have and why?
I’d love to know tomorrow. Literally even when I’m watching movies i hate suspense. I will watch the end first then it will give me motivation to watch the whole thing! Super weird right?

You are an advocate for nurturing potentials and goals what have you done in the past 3 months to improve your abilities or learn a new skill?
Research research research. I research and study people a whole lot. I take on projects that aren’t within my comfort zone, so it stretches me.

Inner scars are usually he toughest to fight. How are you dealing with this?
Dealing??? Girl I’m past all this accident o!

You had friends and family support you all the while, what’s your advice to people who do not have such a support system?
They don’t support me because I was involved in an accident. here is no pity party. They’ve always been a support system before the accident and will forever be.

Please complete this statement. One day Dolapo’s movies will … cause a movement, touch lives, families, inspire and makes billions of people happy. My movies are all about the very personal touch.

What has been the place of God in your recovery?
The centre.

What would you consider as your biggest achievement yet?
Registering my company in 2011 and churned out celebrated works so far.

You know firsthand what it feels like to have crushed dreams, what can you say to somebody who is handling a tough blow and seems like all hope is lost?
Crush is a strong word. First of, if your dream is crushed then it’s your dream. Find out your God-given dream. No devil, above or below the waters can crush. Mark my word on that.

Now how intense was that interview? We can’t get over her last answer. Nothing can crush your dream, well except you allow it.

Now one thing you have to learn from this is that God’s plan is different from yours. Yes you have your dreams, and goals but God has his way. Nothing he does is a mistake and if you are going through a rough patch know that He knows, He’s there and He has it all figured out. Everything will make sense.