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do you think my roomie is bi?

hes also a friend of mine too and both go to school together and we're in the same class. he's VERY feminine acting (yes, i also am aware that there are feminine guys who are also straight) and he recently tried to get into a relationship with one of our classmates, but she didnt have the same feelings for him so it didnt work out.

its just that lately whenever he comes home drunk, he gets very touchy with me. i dont mind it; i have a very relaxed personality and i know that touchiness is a way to convey emotions, but the difference is that he doesnt get like that with our other room mate (maybe because he has a girlfriend?). also when he's sober, hes not touchy at all, or with any other person for that matter. Whenever he comes home drunk, he likes to come in my room first thing and we'd talk about anything and everything. he also likes to comment on how comfortable my bed is (not sure if this is suppose to mean something). just last night, he came home drunk/tipsy, did the usual (touchy, get in my room, comment on my bed), but before he left my room, he gave me a neck hug and kissed the top of my head, which is the reason it started to make me wonder

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I'd say he just might be.

Do touch him back and tell him, "It is comfortable! Why don't you stay here?" The neck hug and forehead kiss is hot, btw. If he does that again, make sure to look him in the eyes after. I wouldn't be too aggressive though and kiss him. That might do damage.

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I definitely think he may be throwing you hints. If he does bring up the bed thing again just do what others have already said do. If he's not into it just be like dude it was a joke. Do tell what comes of this.

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He may be bi...curious. I know straight guys that are touchy though, especially after they've been drinking, so it's not an automatic indication. The just get playful and silly...but it never feels like they are coming on or making any move.

It seems obvious you want to pursue a drunken quickie with him so, when he comes in at night and wants to talk and he tells you how comfortable your bed is, and all that...just say to him "yeah, it is comfortable" then shift over and throw open the covers as if to invite him in. See his reaction. Be prepared for him to either slip on in or to jump back with shock. If it's the latter, then throw the covers closed, laugh and call him a chicken shit.

Re: do you think my roomie is bi?

Originally Posted by shadowfang156

Will it be a bad idea if i hint at him when hes sober? How will i know that hes interested in me when hes sober?

Hmmmm he not admit it when sober, though. If you want, you could tell him you're bi while he's sober and see where that conversation goes. In that aspect, the info is out there for him to do something with...

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Like usual this is all great advice...next time he comes in your room you should def say something to the exemt of if my bed is so comfy why do you always leave it see what he says ... Def please keep us posted on what happens : )

Re: do you think my roomie is bi?

Think through it first! Is a sexual relationship with him what you want? Will it change things in your living situation? Maybe you just want to keep it in the "flirtatious" manner it's in now. Decide what you want first then go after (or not go after)it! Good luck!

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Next time he goes out drinking, be sure you are in your briefs when he returns. Then say "boy, am I horny. I need to jack off." if he is gay, he will take it from there, but haven't given any thing away if he is not interested. If you want to take the lead, say " why don't you help me.."

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The dude wants it, whether he's really aware or not.... he's sniffing around and looking for a response from you. You just have to react is all. You'll never know if you don't just do it, because apparently he's not going to break the ice - he's waiting on you to do it. You know the answer to your question already before you came here and asked it. So, make it happen. You'll be glad you did and if you're really interested in hittin it with this bro, you'll hate yourself if you don't do it and then never get the chance to find out.

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I finally hooked up with my roomie a couple nights ago lol. We both came back home from a party...he was drunk/tipsy and i was plastered. We started out with small talk in the living room, then i invited him to come in my room to continue on with our convo. While we were talking, i noticed that he wasnt in his usual touchy self so i started to carress his arm and he reciprocated. The way he was touching my arm kinda gave me the impression that he wanted the D. After the hint i got, i asked him if he was bi and he says yes. He then asks me what i was and i told him that im bicurious (which i really am). Then he gets on top of me and started to kiss me (i could tell he was pretty inexperienced because he hit my teeth a couple times lol and he was kinda passive/didnt really know what to do while he was kissing). We then both undressed each other and he rubbed my chest for a little bit before we continued the make out session. While we were kissing, he kept moaning in my mouth lol and after some time he whispers to my ear that im a good kisser. This went on for like 30 min. I even asked him if i could fuck him that night but he said next time since hes not ready for it yet. We kiss some more, and before he left my room, we both assurred each other that we wont tell anyone and that it wont get awkward while were sober

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i kinda wanna pull another quickie with him, so how should i go about this when we're sober and alone together in the apartment? he's been giving me compliments on my appearance lately so does that mean he's still interested in me?

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yeah but how should i start seducing him? ive never done this before...

lol Dude. That train has already left the station. You're way past seducing him. He already did that, quite successfully.

You need to give back some of what he's giving you. Compliment him. Make conversation with him. Touch him! Sit next to him on the couch and slowly get closer. I guarantee this is equally as awkward for him and he's probably wondering the same things. Especially since you seem to be playing hard-to-get... except your just nervous. If you're alone together in the house, grab a few beers for both of you and start drinking while doing whatever. That will help loosen you both up.