I starred it out, because I don't want anyone thinking it's OK to use that word. I used it once here specifically to try to shock everyone with its awfulness (in conjunction with the f-word for a gay male), but my intended effect was completely lost on so many. The main result seemed to be that people thought it was cool to use it now because I said it.

No one will arrest you if you say it, but I for one will decide then and there that you aren't worth talking to any longer. It's very traumatic for me to see it being used to describe trans people, because so often we've heard (or read) it hurled at us with disgust, anger, and clear intent to hurt.

So yes, I made a stink about it here on this forum more than once. It only took 3 years to get it banned. You just have to ask yourself: Is the word so important to you that you feel like you have a right to say it and use it whenever you want, no matter how much it might hurt someone who's never done anything to you?

And more generally for the board, is that the kind of forum and community we want to promote?

'Transgendered' flows off the brain and tongue easier, I think trans people are going to, in the end, have to accept that and not get so upset about the little things.

A person who has transitioned is how we have to think of it (at least for transsexuals, which is usually the topic at hand on here). So, the brain has that '-ed' in there that takes an effort to remove. Most of us don't have a reason to have a PhD in this, nor do most desire to.

I know some of you don't mean to offend, but I've started this a dozen different ways over the last three years, so I think I'm just going to have to bump this thread every few months.

If you're still confused, try replacing the word "transgender" with "tall" and see if your sentence still makes sense.

Correct: "I saw a tall woman at the mall today."
Incorrect: "I saw a talled woman at the mall today."
Also incorrect: "I saw a tallwoman at the mall today."

Correct: "I saw a lot of tall women at the mall today."
Incorrect: "I saw a lot of talls at the mall today."
Also Incorrect: "I saw someone at the mall today. I think they were talled."

Gender grammar, now that is funny. Because when one gets into the gender fluid and some other folks under the transgender umbrella, the English language rules are totally out the window.

In another post, referring to my friend, you asked, 'Do they know...?' It would need to be DOES they know? Which sounds motherfucking stupid and wrong, but in this case, 'they' is referring to a singular person. (Who is a she, but I understand that was not clear, and you were trying to not presume anything).

It's short for cisgender, which is a verb, apparently. Because that's the only kinds of words you add "ed" to to show past tense. At some point in the past, Sassy became cisgendered, like I became transgendered. I wonder who cisgendered her, or if she did it to herself?