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Unlimited Freedom

“I find the best way to love someone is not to change them but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves”

~Dr. Steve Maraboli

At a certain point in our spiritual journey we begin to unlock our own inner truth. We no longer are looking to outside sources such as religions, gurus, self-help books, etc. to tell us what to do and how to be, but instead we begin to realize that the answers were inside of us all along.

Not to say that we still don’t read books or open ourselves up to learning from others, but rather we have a more clear connection with our own intuition, which allows us to FEEL the “truth” rather than intellectualize it only.

When we were at the point that we needed outside sources to show us the way, they were coincidentally brought into our lives, either in the forms of other people, reading material, or any modality of spirituality that best fit our own personal needs.

Once, we have graduated from needing the constant affirmation and validation from these outside entities, we most likely will find that we have become the “teacher” that has manifested in someone else’s life in the form of a way-shower.

Then it becomes our turn to be the light on someone else’s path. If you have found yourself in this position, consider your responsibility very carefully. Life is a constant journey of learning and growing, and just like there will be countless teachers on our path of growth, we will also find ourselves in situations that we must be the teacher.

So what is the most effective way of being the light and giving someone advice? How do we go about showing someone the way to their own inner truth while still allowing them to learn their own lessons without our interference?

“A teacher is never a giver of truth; he is a guide, a pointer to the truth that each student must find for himself.”

~Bruce Lee

The only person we will have the power to change is ourselves. No matter how much we want the best for someone, want them to be happy, want them to realize their inner light, or want them to be their best self, we cannot force them to do any of these things.

And just like we had to walk our own journey, complete with struggle, adversity, heartache, sadness, anger, etc.. we must realize that all these things are a part of the human experience, so they too will most likely have to go through all of them.

When we give advice to others we must always realize we are only speaking from our own inner truth, the truth as we know it given the situations and circumstances that we’ve experienced.

However, their life is not ours. Their truth will never be exactly the same as our truth because their mind is not our mind and their life has not been exactly as ours has. What we can do however is be in our own awareness and light so strongly that we become an inspiration for them to find their own awareness and light.

If a person comes to us for advice and questions we can’t come up with a million “You need to…” or “You should do this…”, directives, but instead, only point them in the direction of their own inner light and unconditional love. The only advice there ever is to really give is to accept the “what is” and love yourself anyway.

All arrows should point back to unconditional love of the self… no matter if the person is sad, depressed, frustrated, insecure, it doesn’t matter. As long as they have identified the feeling, felt it without resisting it, accepted themselves for having it and loved it, there can be nothing else to do. Without attaching ourselves to the outcome of whether they follow our advice or not, we actually free ourselves and them.

We don’t fear for them, because we trust that their journey is bringing them to the right people and situations that are perfect for them. And they don’t abandon their own inner self by blindly attaching to whatever we are saying as their ultimate truth, which may not always be what’s best for them.

However, if we find that we have been put in another person’s life to help them, guide them or show them something, we must trust that the Universe is speaking through us in the best and most effective way possible. Without doubting ourselves, we find that our inner light shines automatically and manifests in the best way possible for all parties involved, as long as we trust that it always will.

“As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others.”

~Marianne Williamson

We will sometimes be students and we will sometimes be teachers in life. Since we cannot ever know everything about everything, we will find that this role reversal happens over and over throughout our lives.

The most amazing thing about all of this is that as soon as we think we are giving someone else advice and showing them the way, as most teachers know, we realize that we were also giving ourselves the same advice.

Sometimes the Universe brings another person to us in the form of a student, but in actuality in our helping of them, we are actually helping ourselves with the same issue. By being in the form of another person, we were able to look at the situation in a different way, from a 3rd party perspective, that we weren’t able to do when dealing with ourselves and our own life.

As always, we must be the change we wish to see in the world. In doing this, we find that we always attract the right people into our lives, either to teach us something about ourselves or to be the teacher for them.

But if we really pay attention and become super aware of how things happen in this ironic Universe, we realize…. it is always both.

Consciousness is referred to as the state of being aware of yourself, your thoughts, emotions, and feelings and the relationship you have with the world around you.

In the evolution of consciousness, your soul goes through three transformational processes. That is, if you do your inner work.

A part of our purpose in coming into this world is to become what we are destined to be, to become fully conscious humans.

If you’re doing your inner work, you can check your progress by knowing the three levels consciousness goes through before enlightenment is reached.

When you find you’re stuck in level one, don’t get disappointed. Having that awareness is a milestone in your journey. We reveal the key elements of each level to move forward.

The 3 Levels Of Consciousness Before Enlightenment

1. Ordinary Consciousness

The first and lowest level of the evolutionary process of our consciousness is where we all begin.

This level of consciousness is mostly engaged in the past and the future, seldom in the present moment. All revolve around the past and the future.

The past is often looked upon as a tool for reminding what didn’t work and what should be improved in the future.

In this state of consciousness, the opinions of others matter most and meeting the expectations of others is highly valued.

You identify yourself with the role that you play in the society. Striving to be a good husband, wife or employee is of utmost importance. You don’t question your inner identity because you can’t see it except for the roles you’re expected to play.

The ego plays a bigger role in this state of consciousness, it’s the thing that pushes you to become much better and ahead of the game.

Yet, despite your accomplishments, you still feel empty and maybe even less confident than you were. You can’t see beyond the pre determined rules of society and your ego.

However, the moment you start questioning society, your ego and the shoulds of others, it’s the moment your consciousness starts evolving to the next level.

2. Awakening

The state of awakening comes when you come to the realization of your own self. Of your own reality and the ordinariness of your existence.

It’s when you peak behind the roles you play. You feel that there is something more to these roles and the thoughts that reign over your mind.

You become exhausted by the rules and start to long for freedom. Becoming more conscious and alert, you begin to find your own truth and the purpose you have in this life.

As you gain momentum, you discover the power hidden in self-control, not the one rooted in punishment and reward, but rooted in your own understanding of life’s meaning.

This self-control liberates your consciousness from identification with the world and provides you the space for your own personal experience.

And as you train and expand your self-control you slowly raise your consciousness to the third level.

3. Complete Freedom

The third level is the final liberation and the true celebration of life, the highest peak in the evolution of consciousness where nothing matters but the present moment.

This state of consciousness opens up a whole new world, new perspectives, and an entirely new dimension of existence where you come to embrace the duality of everything.

You start to accept that light and darkness are equally important in your growth, existence, and evolution.

You ultimately come into terms with life, seeing it as it really is, with no ifs and buts, shoulds and coulds. You realize it’s the present moment that is truly real.

You then connect to the peace and quiet within, unmoved by the good and evil, without judgment, and in full connection with other souls and life forms.

In this state of consciousness, you go beyond differences and become as one with others, celebrating life and being joyful of your existence and perfect freedom.