You Really Just Want to Date Yourself

Looking in the mirror is so hot, right?

Data nerd site FiveThirtyEight recently dug through a million of eHarmony's matches to see what people really look for in a match. In case this is your first day on Earth (welcome!) and you've never seen that old dude explain how eHarmony works, it uses 102 physical and emotional traits in a self-evaluation to match people up. FIveThiryEight's findings: opposites don't attract.

Almost everyone on the site was looking for someone similar to them, from the more obvious ways (income, education, looks) to the less obvious, like how many pictures they have in their profile. Creative people want to date creative types, dumb people want to date others that don't describe themselves as intelligent, and while all women want to date tall men, tall women like tall men more than short women do.

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When it comes to personality traits, couples also become more similar as relationships progress: one partner might teach the other to be more punctual, or better with their finances. But that doesn't explain the cute/creepy Boyfriend Twin and Couples That Look Like Siblings tumblrs. There are also ways in which opposites are still important: if you have a terrible sense of direction, you're more likely to pair up with a way more direction-savvy version of you.