Wife caught me posting...it's mostly women!

The last thing I need is advice on lifting weights. One of my twin two year old sons is 70 percentile for his weight/height, the other in the 90+ percentile. Big, tall boys. So I'm lifting 30+ pounds on a regular basis in all the ways you can imagine and in several that you can't (e.g. laying down in bed, barely awake and then lifting a two year old about to break your glasses from the floor, over you and to the other side of the bed). Add to that fixing up my house in my spare time with 40 pound bags of mortar and 60 pound bags of concrete and weights just...er....turn me off.

Besides, none of that ever kept me in shape. I had to adjust what was going into my mouth and how I think/feel about that. And this is where this forum helps me.

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Seems that a lot of men who want to lose weight tend to post in forums like weight lifting or body building forums. I'm not sure why that is. Like, they have to be MACHO while losing weight.

While I'm all for strength training, no one needs to be a body builder to be in shape or to look good.

But also to be fair, weightlifting boards are just for weightlifting, not necessarily bodybuilding. Even bodybuilding dot com isn't JUST for bodybuilding. Its for people who want to be healthier and fitter. Fitocracy is for people who want to log their fitness, make goals, and get support with regards to exercise.
Weight training boards are for weight training. Some want to gain weight, some want to lose weight, some want to change their body composition. What they all have in common is weight training. 3fc is for people who want to lose weight. Some are cardio nuts, some love strength training, some don't workout at all. What we all have in common is just that we want to lose weight or maintain the weight we lost. The different boards are good for different goals.

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I visit a lot of message boards on many different tooics. All of them are mostly female posters. Could be because the things I am interested in are typically female things. Or maybe forums and message boards themself attract females more than males. Not trying stereotype too much but women do tend to be more communicative and more into talking out our problems. Combine that with society being more acceptive of bigger guys than women and that probably accounts for some of it, too.

It's be said twice now, so I will pipe up. Society just isn't more acceptive of men being fat than women. It's the same deal, except that men may care less what others think of them. I certainly never used to give a **** (translation available upon request).

But nobody sits next to the fat girl on the train. They don't sit next to the fat guy either. And both are the subject of jokes.

I was even poked fun at at the last work dinner I went to. Fortunately I am able to roll with the punches but a very sweet, slim girl (not my wife) also stuck up for me... That's a way to a man's heart. Ouch!

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Like others have said, the name, for one, I'm sure. And because I'll venture to say most men don't want to just lose weight. They want to have a broad chest, and muscular legs, and be able to bench X amount of weight, and have a 6 pack. Most fat guys want to be buff, not just not-fat. While many women don't care about strength or muscles, they just don't want to be fat. And most(?) of them still seem stuck on the idea that weightlifting bulks you up, or makes you look like a dude, etc. It seems to be just recently that the media has started to catch onto the fact that lifting more than barbie weights is great for women. It's why the ratio is skewed in the opposite direction on those weightlifting sites, and we women are in the minority.

Sounds reasonable. But statistically, average build/height men do better at attracting women than above average tall or musclely ones so winner for the three chicks on a diet site for those single guys that do frequent here.

PS Don't tell the weight-lifters that.

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Sounds reasonable. But statistically, average men do better at attracting women than above average tall or musclely ones so winner for the three chicks on a diet site for those single guys that do frequent here.

PS Don't tell the weight-lifters that.

Heh. That depends on what the woman likes, and what the guy is looking for. I cringe at "statistics" like that. Why stop at mediocrity if you want more?

And bargoo I am seeking out those guys. But it's not always easy as a lot of posters are gender neutral. Some even have a picture of a male as an avatar but who knows? It's dangerous to make assumptions. Wouldn't always want to advise a dude in the same way as a dudette.

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And bargoo I am seeking out those guys. But it's not always easy as a lot of posters are gender neutral. Some even have a picture of a male as an avatar but who knows? It's dangerous to make assumptions. Wouldn't always want to advise a dude in the same way as a dudette.

Have you met JohnP yet ? I think he posts a lot in Weight Loss Support

It's just a shame I clicked on his signature link to what is working for him 17 years too late.

Every fat guy needs to read that.

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If you keep posting names you will magically summon these gents to the men's corner!

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