Why Stalkers Stalk—and What to Do If You’re a Victim

Being stalked can be paralyzingly frightening. Victims aren’t traumatized just once; they’re perpetually unsettled by attempts at contact and often begin to feel like there’s no safe place to go.

The Bureau of Justice Statistics reports that about three million people are stalked every year, most by people they know—often a former intimate partner. As many as 10% of stalking victims fear for their lives, and all victims face massive disruptions to their routines. While stalking, like domestic violence, has been around for generations, it has been only in recent years that the issue has been taken seriously, and many victims may be hesitant to seek help.

What Is Stalking?

At its core, stalking consists of repeated attempts to gain control over or terrorize someone. Stalking exists on a continuum. On the lower end, it might involve repeated phone calls, letters, or email contacts. In its more extreme manifestations, however, stalking might involve repeatedly going to a person’s house, making threats against a person, harming pets, stealing possessions, or interfering with a person’s relationships with friends, family, or coworkers. Stalkers may alternate between patterns of domestic violence and stalking.

Each state establishes its own legal criteria for stalking. Laws generally require multiple unwanted contacts and mandate that a victim fear for his or her safety. A coworker who comes back to see a person at his or her office daily, for example, would not be stalking, and a secret admirer who sends flowers once per week is not necessarily a stalker. Repeated contacts rise to the level of stalking when they’re designed to gain power over a person and cause emotional terror.

Why Do People Stalk?

Stalkers often emphasize that they “love” their victims and occasionally say they stalk to keep others safe. For example, an abusive ex-husband might say he stalks his ex-wife to ensure she’s properly caring for their children. Psychologically, however, stalking is a crime of control. Stalkers see their victims as possessions who are rightfully theirs, and stalking behavior is frequently activated by a breakup or an ex-partner’s new relationship.

Some mental health issues can lead to stalking. People with personality issues such as a borderline personality diagnosis may have trouble letting go of relationships and sometimes use manipulative tactics to control people. Erotomania is a delusion in which a person believes that another person—often a celebrity—is in love with him or her, and this can lead to stalking. However, not all stalkers have mental health conditions, and the overwhelming majority are men. Cultural and gender norms may contribute to stalking behavior.

What Can Victims Do to Get Help?

If you’re being stalked, don’t make excuses for the stalker or tell yourself you are overreacting. Tell a friend or family member what’s happening so you have a support person and a witness. If you are in immediate danger or are being followed, dial 911. There’s no price for overreacting, but underreacting to stalking can, in extreme cases, be fatal. Other things you can do to remain safe:

Change your routine frequently so that it is more difficult for your stalker to find you.

Instruct friends, family, and employers not to give out information about you without your express permission.

Keep a log of every incident so you have evidence if you need to press charges.

Seek a restraining order against the stalker, and call the police immediately if he or she violates the order.

References:

Help for victims. (n.d.). Stalking Resource Center. Retrieved from http://www.victimsofcrime.org/our-programs/stalking-resource-center/help-for-victims

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Melissa

April 5th, 2013 at
7:58 PM

I was briefly stalked by this person a few years ago. He was a former neighbor and started stalking me when I left the neighborhood. It went on for about a week and a threat from a few friends put an end to it. He would follow me around. Nothing big you might say but trust me it still makes me nervous to this day.

autumn

April 26th, 2015 at
7:04 PM

I am a victim of domestic violence of a extremely terrified, lots of verbally abused. My abused has been criticizing me and my family and my friends for a very long time. I’m scared of him. He has failed myself for goal’s that I had. I never gave him any information about myself but he found out anything of me. He has also has used the Tucson police department and the sheriff’s against me to. He has also abused me with my family with him saying nasty critical things to me. He would also abused me with my mental illness as well. He abandoned and neglected myself as well. He would put on the streets and he would do horrible things to me. My parents think that I was crazy. The law now thinks that I am crazy that he isn’t real. My reputation with the law and my family will never be the same ever again. Everybody I talked to about him, it’s like they don’t want nothing to do with me. And the safest thing is that he is a fed. He works for the government. I don’t know who I got myself involved with. I have ask numerous of times for his address but he refuses to give it to me. My parents are willing to help me with this abused. I have lost 5 years of my life with this guy who refuses to give me address and talk to my parents on his behalf. I have blame him for everything. He also would stalk me and harrassed me with work. He trick me this year…2015 he also told me that I’m not going to let you moved on due to what I did to my children. He has also called me a hoe, slut, and the town hoe, and hr also told me that nobody cares about you and thus is why your parents don’t want you. He also told me and been pushing me to get my social security, because he said that was all I do was called in. He also told me about a house a family and everything else sweet. And he also told me it will take a year for me to be good. Since he found out another illness against he had been abusing me with it. I’m really scared of him because I have no privacy in my home or when I go out in public. He also said to me that I was never a mother to my kids. My understanding threats about him is that he will never let me go and let me be and I just might have to end my life so he doesn’t come around me anymore. I have been suicidal and having lots of anger with this guy. He also hurts me with my own financial and about money. He has or never ever has been there for me but he has only been there with the harassing me with the cops, my parents, my children and my self and my past history. He has been controlling me since this happened to me. He has been abusing me at the beginning of this year. He also told me don’t be embarrassed. I’m over him, but he doesn’t stop. He also abused me by telling me to get a service pet and that I’m going to need one. He also fraud me with my mail. He trick me by receiving a gift in the mail, but he wanted to get information. He also wants me to blame myself for the borderline personality, he accused me of not having any friends. I had a great car, before I got myself involved in another abusive relationship with this one. My car was all paid off. And my dad spend lots money buying it for me. I was with a friend one evening and I put my keys on the couch, and there were missing. He made a copy of my keys and next thing I know, my car was vandalized and stolen at a friends house, that was behind of what my ex did. At the very same time at another person house he also record me having sex and put it on the air. At a medical center he also, had his family and his friends in to. He had me faced the wall, and told me to do nasty things with myself. He also would forced bananas in my mouth to see if I got fat or not. I went to ask the law for some gas money in his white car, who was with the guy who sat by him in my courtroom one day and they gave me dirty looks and drive on. I even been asking my own two parents for advice about this one. And they were right. He even called me a liar or even a used me of a liar with myself or with my past. He also told me that I burned bridges. There things that I will never tell a man, and since he is refusing to leave me alone I don’t know what verbal abuse that is going to come out of his mouth. He also comes back and forth with me too. There is nothing that I want or need from him either. I want to honestly kill myself so I can be the police victim anymore. And he also told me that I can’t work or a hold a job untill I retired. This is going to nasty, by the day. I feel really discomfort and disgusted with myself when I take a shower. Or when I’m naked. He also hurts my hopes for me and hurts anybody that comes in my life. He wants all my life to him, and he also thinks that I’m nasty and sick all of the time. But I remember what my mom told me, that I don’t need this in my life. It’s easier to get of myself and my dreams and what I want than be hurt and be in something that I really don’t want. Because I don’t want nothing to do with him . He’s not the one. There’s lots of abused, and it’s him more anything.

Biola

August 6th, 2016 at
11:48 AM

Don’t let anyone make you commit suicide that means you let them win
when. You know your enemy that’s. Means they can not kill you because, they know they would be accountable for their crime dust off and moving with your life there so many frustrated people at out and know the people you hang around with and be careful make. a new friend and moving on with your life

Kira

November 24th, 2016 at
6:47 PM

I’m going thru a very similar situation, where u able to get this monster off the streets?

Y

November 24th, 2016 at
9:24 PM

Hi, Many things you said are the same violence happening to me. Please file police reports and obtain an order of protection.

John

July 16th, 2017 at
2:42 PM

Wow i dont think your crazy and i believe you because im being atalked by 4 people and they like to hide and be quite whenever i call the police so i know how you feel

Karma

September 10th, 2017 at
6:07 PM

Hi not sure how long ago u wrote this but please don’t end ur life thousands apon thousands are experienceing same thing. Please know ur not alone I’m going threw same pretty much. Continue to share ur story and Google targeted individual. That’s what u are. Look at youtube as well. Lmk your OK.

Cheryl m

February 5th, 2018 at
12:51 PM

I haven’t read all 350 responses but I really believe that if you are being ganged stalked as I am you primary source of help is prayer and seeking GOD. The mentality of a group of people stalking you and your loved ones for breaking off a relationship with a family member that was abusive and cheating has taken me by storm. As a young girl when my brother or cousins wronged a girl I clearly took the side of the girl even though I still lived my family members. So who joins an abuser to further abuse a woman or man for money or prestige to say I stuck by my family . As sick as this sounds is as sick as it truly is. Young men young girls , children, old men old women are all in on following me to the grocery store, to the gas station, to the burger joints and then pass the workers things to put in our food. Un real . Our phones are tapped our internet is tapped in church masses of them sit to circle me to keep my Pastor from making eye contact with me. As my Pastor has been the only person that has refused financial bribes from my stalkers. Wasted energy for what? But I truly believe and know that this situation has brought me closer to GOD. My prayer life is extensive, my word life is extensive, my worship life is extensive my overall relationship of learning and know JESUS as the Divine Protector has grown. So even as I see them watching as I type this article GOD HAS ASSURED ME THAT THESE STALKING STRONGHOLDS OF THE DEVIL. ACTUALLY CONSPIRED BY THE DEVIL WILL COME DOWN. It’s a matter of time. If they have done this to me they have done this to others. My advice is to pray everyday every night and trust GOD. Then ask HIM to lead you to spiritual help. Some leaders are not totally subjected to GID and may accept financial bribes so you must trust GOD for who to go to for help. My pastor faithful prays and cry out to GOD AND ON BEHALF OF ALL TRUE SAINTS. He has faithful come into agreement with me against the enemy. He may have fallen in love with me but the major issue is he’s a Praying man with a heart after GOD’s own heart. Because he has way more known sources of help and not a sleu of fake friends such as I had it has been a blessing to get some spiritual help from GOD through him. And last but most important PLEAD AND APPLY THE BLOOD OF JESUS TO YOUR LIFE AND YOUR LOVED ONES LIVES DAILY. JESUS SHED BLOOD FOR ME TO OVERCOME EVEN IN THIS SITUATION.

anon

February 16th, 2018 at
5:40 AM

thank you so much for putting up enough with all the horror to help others like me who are victims of a terrible male driven system that tries to shut women up and tell them that they are the problem. look at the earth and its overflow of woman (cars, boats, etc.) and penis erection (buildings, skyscraper) symbols.
if you are a woman who does not get suckered into the male dominance system, you get called borderline personality disorder, you get bullied by the police like people of color who were forced into the us against the will and their anger kept under bottle by the state, and betrayed constantmy by sycophants, businessmen, slaves to the economic system, religious people, zombies who have given up.
i get a lot of trouble from people trying to shut me up and control me. the daily mail uk stalks me when I go online, reading my thoughts and then broadcasting it. so does salon and very strongly, talk show host conan o’brien stalks me because he is a white man and expects his minority to worship a white man. WordPress, owned by LinkedIn, does this also. it’s totally pathetic. the online stalking started with facebook, the most evil company on earth, and now it’s just terrible because rapists cannot bear to face punishment.
in college i met a male younger than me, douglas, who i did not like at all but tried to blind me over and it worked. now he is upset and following me with signs outdoors and online through websites and he is not in the right, it just is insecure and competitive. this website is about him, roughly. it says it wants to make a therapy film to help people but it is in denial and is not healthy or helpful at all. it stalks me and forced me to drink coke when I was in another country, through social maneuvering, bc its dad works for coca cola and coca cola is about the spiritual oppression of people of color (its dark, contains an upper, and the bubbles are like oppression which is slightly painful in your mouth when you drink it.) i get trapped and baited into reporting myself online to people i dont want to talk to, everyone from old peers to ‘family’ to teachers who were racist and competitive and used me for their own agendas.
another neighbor, john dalton morgan, when i was living in east palo alto, was the victim of child molestation by his father. being innocent i opened up to it and it subjected me to constant threats and mimicry through graffiti and other signs throughout the neighborhood and in the condo complex. even the apartment manager and its board, including lavonda williams, george kennedy, and ahren west, ganged up on me and i got removed from my unit before dalton was, although eventually dalton was removed. though i think i was slapped with informal to formal eviction, whereas dalton was not.
the fbi and us military follows my thoughts also, i used not to believe in such things because it was always homeless people talking like that, but then i experienced hearing them talk to me, and the mess around with my computer.
larry page, founder of google, also messes with my phone and many of the symbols in the android user interface, as well as company projects like tensor flow, relate to private details of my life and memory. i am the google play music icon, which is orange and yellow and has a donut shape in it. he should fired or investigated, except i don’t care for police or government either.
the relationship stalking is very bad, the online media stalking is very bad, the satire and lies including in the medical system and tracing maybe back to religion and the enslavement of jews is very bad.
i have talked to many therapists in the past, not bc i wanted to but bc i was persuaded to, with whom i talked not because i felt they were helpful but more like people wanted me to talk to them but under a pretense that they were the ones to tell me what to think and do. so i engaged in the baloney, and these blind people took it out in me for showing them for instance that yes you can read minds, for undermining their false sense of hierarchy, for not submitting to various forms of social rejection if done unjustly or on incorrect grounds. the medical system is totally wrong, they put me under lock and key as paranoid and having schizoaffective disorder for saying not even directly that i am greatly responsible for the origination of google, facebook, and now as it later turns out other online technology companies like uber, lyft and amazon prime, all of which i hate and consider exploitative.
i do not believe in god, the military, the uk, technology, or the money system, with the result that i get stalked and harassed constantly.

Susan

July 13th, 2018 at
2:21 PM

I live in Tucson also. Been stalked now for 5 years after a divorce. Not them doing much of it, but their friend. Been in my apt., all of my bank accounts, my car, etc. Been in front of the judge for 4 or 5 times. I have a lot of written proof, etc, but she wants pictures. I will tell you my best advice came from a very nice cop……if they are coming into your house, get a wifi camera and get it set up. Because I don’t see my stalker, they come at night when I am asleep, that way i WILL get proof.
Don’t tell them that is what it is for. Then, when you go to court, you will have proof.
Go to SSuperior Court downtown. No appointment, just walk in. yOU can see the forms online. There will b n/c for filing, as you were together with him. if you go to Superior Court, you can request a Sheriff serve him., Just tell them you cannot afford it. The filing is good for 1 year, or you can ask the judge since you are so afraid, can she make it permanent. I think they are on the 2nd or 3rd floor. Gt your proof and go. Be careful when calling police. the judge told me to call the police when they were here sitting in my car.
Well, it was every day,the cops decided that I was crazy because I know she comes in, but i DON’T S HER, so they me in the looney bin, because they are so short handed. Said things about me that were way NOT true!!! I am going to the judge again soon, as soon as I get some pictures. Good luck. If I can work thru this HELL, , you can do this, you can too!!!!! Smile and go for it!!!!

genius

August 20th, 2018 at
1:58 PM

try moving really far away, that might help

Tameka

July 16th, 2016 at
2:39 AM

When you have a neighbor that constantly sit outside of neighbors doors and listen to our conversation. (Me and a 70 year old woman.) He sneaking by my bathroom window and back door putting up plants and nevered asked me if it was ok. He always begging for money, tissue, food and cigarettes from all the neighbors. It is only 8 units in our complex. My bedroom is connected to his bedroom which he always making weird sounds so he can wake me up on purpose. He has no family or woman in his life. He so lonely and miserable that it shows how desperate he is. He lied to another neighbor telling her he is the manager and borrowed money from her which he never paid back. He parks his truck on the lawn sometimes. He comes outside with no shirt on and it is a disgusting site to see. He is a fat guy who has crusty feet and it just looks nasty. The other neighbor daughter had to tell him to stop taking advantage of the elderly mom. He is so annoying. He try so hard to steal my Joy. I leave my TV on all night to zone him out, but he just get louder. So I bought a tape recorder so I can record all his weird sounds he make and take pictures with his truck parked on the lawn. This man went as far as lieing to the owner and said I had someone staying with me because my friend didn’t let him talk to me so he got mad, then called the owner. I have had my own place since I was 18 years old and never stayed next to somebody that act this strange or weird. I don’t trust him nor like him.

Tamara

February 24th, 2017 at
6:25 AM

Have u heard of the new epidemic happening all over the world, called “,Gang Stalking” and electronic harassment? Well, let me tell u, ur not alone with these feelings. Being s T.I. ( targeted individual,) .I had no clue what was going on, but it was weird- like smthg out of the Twilight Zone! I encourage u to check out some videos on YouTube on the subject. Its like a virtual reality sport of dome kind that’s real sick and twisted bcuz they know everything u do and see. And know it before u do. Its done with these headsets that read ur brainwaves or something and they broadcast shit in ur ear, on the radio, even things u watch on YouTube are directed specifically for u, at a certain time which makes u feel like ur on The Truman Show ,( w/ Jim Carey) I’m jus getting to understand the dynamics of it, as well as who orchestrates these and funds them, if so. But I’m still shaking my head the deeper I getinto this subject

Adam

July 3rd, 2017 at
4:13 PM

yes tamara is correct. Gang stalking happens to me all the time

Karen

September 20th, 2016 at
3:24 AM

My husband and I have been harassed by these neighbors across the street from us for 20 years. I be had 3 restraining orders on them. I’m in the process of getting a 4th restraining I order against them.They keep us under surveillance 24hr,7days a week. Now they stalk my husband during the day,while I’m at work.

Fay C.

Juju

February 16th, 2017 at
7:19 PM

Yes I am planning the same thing. Would you share your story with me?

Elizabeth M

October 26th, 2016 at
8:52 PM

Im a victim of stalking,, Our Lord says He will never leave us or forsake us ,,this stalker,,, violated my personal information,, my spiritual growth,, my health and tried finance and I saw him today 10/26/2016, he told me,,don’t call the police,, they want help. This is a lie,,the stalker speaker negative impact ,,and believes every woman or man lies,,which may be true. Still they have no right to torture.

Barbara

October 29th, 2016 at
3:12 PM

I have had a stalker for 10 years. He is a different kind of stalker he has other people doing his dirty work. And he works for the government. I have never in my life seen some of the things this man does. He has the guy that works for him coming thru my vent at night sticking me in the heal of my foot with a needle. I don’t know what he is putting in my body. I think he is trying to kill me so that no one will know that he did it. He is in my phone,computer,even has hacked my car. They go up on the roof and come in my house thru the air conditioner vent to get in your house. This is crazy. I have been to the police and they tell me that that can not happen. I think the police is his friend. Because it is happening to me. So I know what the other lady was talking about when no one believes you because they have never heard of it. This man is sick in the head.does anyone know of anything that I can do about this please help me.

kira

November 25th, 2016 at
10:59 AM

You are correct, God won’t forsake you. No weapon formed will prosper. It not easy when the stalkers are spending their entire day to come up with ways to hurt or sabatage your life. I think it a 24/7 crime and clearly mental illness is invokved. I keep asking myself when do they say to themselves ” what am I doing” and how far is it gonna go. It’s disgusting and I wish there were more cyber laws to protect victims of this crime. We’re u able to get your stalker to stay away from you?

Barbara

April 8th, 2017 at
4:34 AM

Gang stalking is what it’s called, I know every detail about it. The CIA and NSA, military, motorcycle gang members, drug addicts, and skinheads are behind it. Sex slavery is one of the main reasons, but they are coming after the people that are non druggies, people who don’t support illegal activities.

Digit's Sister

June 6th, 2018 at
7:51 PM

I know I’m being watched almost around the clock as well as being monitored online. My stalker is a ranking officer. He’s married and at least I would assume that he’s happy. This didn’t just start. I realize now that he’s been making my life a nightmare since 2012 when my younger brother got into trouble with a girlfriend, he was sentenced and did 4 years in protective custody. I TRIED to get my family to leave this town but they refused to listen to me. So, he got out and was on parole and every plan that was made all of a sudden went wrong. There is a staffing agency here that promised him a job, the guy there said they believed in giving everyone a chance. He went and filled out an application. Once the guy found out who he was he told my brother that they stopped hiring felons and the company was closing BUT a few months after that another guy paroled out and that agency hired him and several other felons. His parole officer was included in this conspiracy. He didn’t document my brother’s visits and he claimed that it was an accident that a female felon’s mail came to our address. We’d never even heard of the girl so we questioned his parole officer about it he told us he made a mistake. Some mistake, a few weeks later another letter for the same girl showed up again. That wasn’t good enough; the local law enforcement offices worked together and almost caused him to kill himself and another guy in a high speed pursuit. I was told that “they wanted a reason to put him back in the penitentiary for a long time.”. They were successful but not uniquely creative. They put together THE WORST fairy tale on him and gave him 10 years for a phantasmagoric story that NEVER EVER HAPPENED but due to his criminal history THE WORLD believes it all. They threatened the guy that was with him by putting him in jail and making him sign a false statement, he’s a little on the slow side and he was easy. The female he was with cried because they told her if she didn’t help them to set my brother up they were going to her home and shoot her father in the face when he opened the door. Now, I know you’re reading this and probably asking what all of this has to do with ME BEING STALKED. Well, it has everything to do with ME. See, we had knew and trusted this officer for a lot of years. Along the way I lost weight and became a little easier to look at and a little more desirable. I would go to the mailbox and to get my neighbor’s trash container in for her, at that time I knew strange vehicles would be around and sometimes the driver would honk at me; they’d back the car in so that they could monitor our house and knew when I came in and out and even worse KNEW where I was going. I use public transportation and this small town is one of those “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours” places. They are instructed to tell this officer where I go and when I go. Several male cab drivers have lost their jobs because he wanted them out of the way. I’ve always been friends with males but all are and have been purely platonic. He watches me on YouTube and if I get too friendly or if he thinks I’m coping with the stress he is responsible for creating in my life he makes or signs in to a troll account and belittles me or so he thinks he does. I complimented a lady about how pretty she looked in red. I also shared with her that a very nice gentleman told me, out of the blue, how pretty I looked in red. He clapped back at me and told me that I would be pretty in a paper bag. I, of course, snapped back and agreed but only because “she’d” be in there with me. The following month he followed me to be sure that no one talked to me, not even a compliment. I found out that it was him and from there I said NOTHING more. He started all of this by obtaining my cell phone number. He would text me and even tried to call me. I didn’t know who it was and I’m not an easy woman. He approached me like I was a dumpster dame…a fall for all if he looks good or sounds good. He didn’t tell me who he was AT ALL. Well, after successfully putting my brother back in prison I was at the grocery store one day. My mother asked me to get some things for her. I had to go on the other side of the store and who did I see….yes, him. I was shocked and frightened but he was embarrassed, he was walking the store looking for me. What a horrible way to meet your stalker. Since then he has become furious with me. He has other people to watch me and let him know my EVERY move. He comes in my neighborhood and watches me from behind tinted windows. Why the tint now? I know who he is. Did I anger him because he was low key and watched me for several years until we came face to face? I know he’s using his tactical skills and technology to keep an eye on me. That’s not healthy. He knows EVERYTHING about me from my finances to my wellness woman issues, of which, I have none. He’s hurting me through my family. I’m humble and even sacrificial. If it’s me he wants then so be it but leave my family alone. I just need someone that knows how it feels to be at such a disadvantage. He has also fixed the phone so that if I call the police department my call goes straight to their automated voice messaging system. I asked my brother’s girlfriend to call just to see if she was able to speak to a dispatcher or if she too were automatically directed to their automated system she was able to speak to Someone. I’m not extremely afraid of him but as angry as he is he it to be, somewhat, feared. I mean who comes along behind you on YouTube and when you share that an old cartoon reminds you of your childhood the reply is a single word – sex?! We’ve got to move from this town, this state for God’s sake. Yes, I’m a believer and I do pray so I can at least sleep knowing God is watching over me. But, the question still remains. What happened to this once sweet, understanding, kind, rational officer?! And, why was I his target or am I his only target. He created the job of surveiling an apartment complex across the street from our house. Still…Why?

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Erica

December 21st, 2016 at
9:52 PM

I call my sister many times a day even when she never wants to see me, and show up knocking on her door when ever I want. I know she will eventually appreciate knowing that I love her.

rebecca

January 27th, 2017 at
4:20 AM

My only experience with stalking was horrific and lasted 6 months. After dumping my boyfiriend at the time, he basically commenced a campaign of stalking against me for six months. He used to walk by workplace and spit on the window and he’d pee in my petrol tank.. what he did to my pets I still cant talk about. Even though it has been many years, I found out recently that this disgusting man is still at it, tormenting other women. There are now 3 that we know about. Be warned. He is very dangerous. He is from Wyong, Australia and he will typically become violent while you are dating him – then relentless stalk you once you leave him.

being stalked!!!!

mark

July 13th, 2017 at
5:10 AM

What if everyone believes them over you and nobody cares to provide for you as the abusers have?

Love God

September 1st, 2017 at
5:55 PM

Melissa – You’re blessed, in having a friend to confront the stalker face to face, that’s so brave of your friend. I had a stalker follow me to school everyday also to my work place. This went on for four months, everyday my thought was, “this isn’t happening to me.” However, it was happening. I figured, if I just ignored what was happening it would just go away. Not! The stalker became very bold, by applying for employment at my work place, the stalker got hired. Upon my learning of the hiring, I became very uncomfortable yet outraged at the stalker. I had realized that my remarks stated, out loudly had definitely got the attention of every manager, every supervisor and all my co-workers. These staffers, at my work place approached the stalker and stated, “what you’re doing it’s not tolerated, and it’s not allowed here, therefore we are dismissing you permanently.” Two weeks had passed by, no more stalker I thought. The following Monday, on my way to school the stalker came walking up behind me quickly, out of nowhere as though an attack was about to take place. I became angry, got bold and brave, by turning around quickly to confront the stalker face to face. I’d stated, “if you don’t stop following me, I’m going to get all of my brother’s to whoop your a**. The stalker immediately, got the picture. This time, no more stalker! Melissa, do know that I have shared this story with you, so that you’re aware of the many options that you do have. In case there is nobody to help you to resolve these types of issues.

Fay

September 2nd, 2017 at
4:40 PM

Thanks, Love God, for your post. Good your ordeal is over. Do you know your stalker? I have two now. I know them both. The oldest one is kind of destructive. Damages my things, but in a small way. Otherwise he’s harmless. The new one tries psycological damage on me. I do not understand why they do what they do. But I would that they stop. I’m forever watching my back.

Love God

September 28th, 2017 at
4:59 PM

Hello Fay – You’re welcome, for thanking me on sharing my story and advice. To answer your question, “Did I know my stalker?” My reply to you is: “No. I had never seen him before. He was a total stranger.” However, I do have a suggestion for you, on resolving your two stalkers. You should invest in hidden surveillance equipment, aiming it on everything of yours, that this first stalker is damaging. Once he’s caught on camera take it to your attorney and the police. Don’t be afraid to press charges against your stalker, he will be ordered by a Judge to replace everything that he has damaged of yours, or he will face prison time. The second stalker to get rid of him. If you’re communicating with him in any kind of way, then that’s the problem. Bring all communication to a end! Here’s how. 1. If you see this second stalker in a public place where there’s many of people, or when you have some friends present. Great!!! Incase the stalker gets violent, you will have some support. It’s a perfect timing to state this to him, “I have to stop communicating with you permanently, Because I’m tired of your emotional abuse, it’s just not healthy for me mentally.” 2. Go and change your phone number, Address, Work Place, School, or Church and etc. This way he can’t abuse you emotionally no more, break all ties. 3. If he still don’t respect your wishes. Then get everybody involved by letting your family, boss, school, and your church know of what’s going on. Inform all that gets involved, by giving them the stalker full name (if you know his full name) then tell them the whole story. Also, Tell all of them, please don’t give out your personal information, to anyone that askes for your information. 4. Nevertheless, If the stalker still locates you after all these suggestion mentioned. Start recording all the verbal abuse that he’s saying to you, for evidence for your attorney and the police. Do this for your safety? Because if any harm comes upon you, then everybody will be able to inform the police about him stalking you. The police will pick him up immediately as their suspect, the law will take it from there. You don’t have to live in fear by watching your back, “you just pray and ask God to have your back and he will!” Trust and believe. And May God Be with You!

Sunny

September 4th, 2017 at
2:51 PM

Yes I’m being stalked, but they are trying to drive me crazy. I have never done anything to these people. I am aware. They even change their wifi to let know they are stalkers. I don’t know what they want from me, but I have made my friends, and family more than aware. I must have something they want that badly to have their spend all their time trying to figure out how they can hurt me. Go away loosers.

Carol

January 28th, 2018 at
10:00 AM

My male neighbor is stalking me threw some kind of camera. He knows and talks to someone else in his apartment what I’m doing. What kind of debugger can I get. If I’m taking a shower I can here him go into his bathroom our bedroom, bath, and kitchen are connected. But even knows what I’m doing when in my front room!
Help2

3 years and counting

July 14th, 2018 at
7:24 PM

This has been going on with me for three years. It started in my old neighborhood (three states away) and continued up again THE DAY I ARRIVED. I thought that if I just went about my business, they would eventually leave me alone. It has just gotten worse. I’m at my wits end.

BB Ovver

October 15th, 2018 at
11:25 AM

People who stalk other people and especially ifthe victim is innoence are crazy. I consider them to be mentally ill. Also I would never have sympathy because if I could ever get enough evident of the harassment and stalking. They a** are gone and I will never touch them. I want them gone…..because it is the cruelest, and nothing but animalistic behavoir. They belong out of reach from society. Many lives have been destroy because of these nuts. These kind of people are not well period!

Mahdi

September 14th, 2017 at
7:09 PM

I have been called a stalker many times. To me, this title is complete nonsense. If there is no stalking, then love is boring and just another business transaction. I have a very intense personality and I read people well and connect with them more powerfully than they do with me. Does this make me a criminal? While over the years, I have been dumbed myself down with the use of drugs and even allowed myself to be depressed on purpose just so I would leave someone “alone.” This is especially true with regards to women, I avoid them altogether now, not because I am not attractive nor intelligent nor kind, but because I am just too intense of A man. But I REFUSE to hate myself or have others belittle me and label me with a false title just because I am VERY perceptive and loving. It is none of anyone’s business who I am interested in, nor how I pursue it. I have never even hurt a fly, so if someone is afraid of me, that’s not my fault. I have learned to stay away, but I am only a human, not Jesus. I also have my OWN emotional needs.

Mahdi

September 14th, 2017 at
7:21 PM

I personally have never been stalked. But then again, I’m a guy who can scare anyone off. My sisters are both VERY attractive but they have never been stalked because they don’t feed into fear, and they know they have me and my brother around to scare off anyone who pursues them. We are Muslims, meaning we have courage and faith. This is the best way to avoid stalking. Don’t make yourself attractive to just anyone. Sometimes it’s good to lower your gaze and go about your life in a respectful manner. This was only the right people come into your life.

Dean

January 28th, 2018 at
11:37 AM

You’re such a big man aint you mahdi?how can you call anyone a liar untill it happens to you?u’m having the same priblems as carol,but my sin and neighbours are doing it,they watch every ****** move i make day and night,they get me followed everywhere i go,now i’m a bloke but i can’t take this lot on,so if you can then can you come and sort this lot out please?because i’ve had enough of it.

Alissa

February 2nd, 2018 at
9:38 AM

Big stalkers in the north of the UK and online, Richard C owns a CCTV service in York watched me for years and got students to harass me every where, abusive ******* might have been behind the transport police assault because his father is a police officer in leeds. Simon F and various actors and a theatre production called Redladder although they should have called themselves Redstalkers since they had some of the actors tormenting me and my family as some stupid project which I never agreed to. This website has been reported for miss using photos they shouldn’t

nate

PATRICIA

May 13th, 2018 at
6:52 PM

I live in an apartment building, the building is 4flights and I live on the 4th floor and my neighbor is on the 3rd floor.. She’s gay and lives with her gay lover and 2 kids…and she just follows me around from her apt…banging on pipes and slamming cabinets…just a lot of crap…she even tried tricking my son to get in my house…she told my son let me come in and see there is a leak… my son was 15 at the time… my son told her call the office or the super and closed the door…she watches me all the time when I am home. I don’t even know her name nothing. I pray all the time for her to go. One day in this month may 2018, the building management ordered her to go to court for I don’t know… but they moved furniture out and and the stalker stayed behind, so she’s just watching everything and listening to everything. I have no privacy.i am nervous for my kids.. I don’t know what to do!

Kelly

July 11th, 2019 at
6:07 PM

I experienced a similar situation as you. Your not alone on this one. He is more sick than you. That’s what I’ve been told about my situation. What I do is put your head up high like a snob and say to him that he’s jealous that he lost you…I do that to my stalker ex who’s a cop. Most beautiful successful women or men get stalked. Most victims get called a lair because most people do not want to face the truth about the person that’s stalking you. I hope this helps. When I was abuse and stalk by my ex of a cop that God bless me with our son in Heaven and I pray for his evil heart to change his ways to stop stalking and abusing to be a normal man. Once I let it go and let God handle the situation I have more peace about my life than I ever did before. Most Stalkers are exes or people who are obsessed to easily get jealous that they lost you. If those people in your life does not stand up for you than those people are not good for your life. Sometimes Church family is a better family. Sometimes better friends comes from people who experienced what you experienced. It’s how you response that counts.

anon

laurel

April 6th, 2013 at
7:20 AM

One of the best pieces of advice that I ever remember hearing about this is that sometimes in the beginning you have to ignore the stalking. For example if he calls you over and over again and you ignore it but then give in and take the 100th phone call then he knows that this is how many times that it takes to engage you so he will begin the pattern all over again. I think that you do have to report that this is happening to you, but you don’t need to engage with the stalker on your own because that is sure to lead to trouble.

Sybil H.

September 18th, 2018 at
6:16 PM

I am going through a different kind of stalking. I disconnected from toxic parents (i.e. narcissistic) and they won’t stop sending letters because they are stupid when it comes to computers. So my brother, who is a recovering alcoholic, has made it his hobby to stalk me on social media, trying to get me to return to the dysfunctional family life. I have reported him to Google as he has a gmail account. I have blocked him on my email. I have blocked him on Facebook. No dice. I look, and there is a message. I have threatened to report him to the FBI, no change. I forwarded the info. to the FBI but have received no reply. I recently sent a note to the toxic fu**tards instructing them to cease and desist. Will it work? I live only one state away so God only knows. They are extremely stupid and selfish, so only time will tell.

Gregg

April 6th, 2013 at
1:11 PM

Let me tell you something- any guy stalking a woman like this is certifiably crazy. You can’t ignore them because most of them Won’t be ignored. They are looking for ways to get under your skin, and if they see that it is unnerving you then they will keep on doing it. This is the time to shout from the rafters ladies that someone is stalking you because most of the time these are men that ultimately won’t be denied.

Jennifer

Calm down

July 15th, 2016 at
3:05 PM

Yes I agree on your comment.

Jack

August 30th, 2016 at
2:47 AM

Unfortunately your verbatim is one sided towards men who are stalkers . According to statistics women are more prone to use the internet to stalk and harass the targeted individual. Its a very real and disturbing scenario to be stalked by people for a variety of reasons . Its even worse to be stalked and harassed without knowing the reason for it. Controlling other human beings is slavery . Using the government and local authorities to accomplish this is the same as second class Citizenship. Its the same idealism. Yet it goes on today is very real and criminal ways. The sad thing is that it is totally unnecessary .The US has a media who continues to lie on a daily basis about a variety of subjects . I seen just about every ugly thing someone can do to another by manipulating a telephone , television and the internet . Privacy is a part of the issue but again when you have a local news organizations exploiting children by narrating false stories then that just about as evil as any thing I’ve ever heard of .

mark

July 13th, 2017 at
5:17 AM

Jack is right. I was born into a santeria cult and it took me 39 years before they purposely gave me back the memories of abuse as part of an agenda to frame me a threat to society. All 3 of my mothers abused me, even as a 39 year old man, with mind control, they could have their way with me. Now, even police have joined in using violence to lock me up and drug me despite my not doing anything to actually hurt anyone. I’m made to live in a house not even a mile away from one of my abusers and they wont let me leave this city, such a horrible city, it would take pride in arresting people for feeding the homeless.

Viola

August 14th, 2017 at
10:06 PM

Yes. Shout from the rafters. Let everyone know and don’t ignore it. Years ago I had a stalker for 2 years, and I even moved interstate! I watched a movie last night called Enduring Love where the primary story in the movie is about a stalker. In the movie he even said, “You started it”. That is what I had. A stalker is geared up differently in their head and “reads” what you do/say as engaging with them. Spine chilling stuff. Never, ever isolate yourself or not tell others if stalking happens to you.

SabrinaM

Morris Williams

May 19th, 2013 at
10:18 PM

My 4 year old son is being stalked by a woman who was his foster mother for 11-months! She wants him calling her “mommie” and has gotten way too personal on the leve@l of wanting him to spend weekends with her and when ever she chooses! I am trying to get her out of our lives because she’s gotten extremely creepy whereas, she actually thinks that she is his mother and offers way too much input in his life. The last straw was when she waited down the street from my house and took him off of his school bus before it got to my house. The bus had passed my house and when I looked outside she had him by the hand and when I went to get him from her she held his had tightly, would NOT let him go and when I went to pull her hand off of him, she proceeded to physically assualt me, following me to my apartment and actually forced her way into my apartment! She would not leave my front door, keeping it open insisting that I talk to her. She frightened my son in her actions and only left when comfronted by a relative. I am now afraid that she may try to take my son while I am not around. She and his relationship (my son) I felt was unhealthy for him, because she doesn’t take care of him the way that I do, she won’t let him grow up(constantly) babying him, by talking like he’s a baby, letting him do what he wants to do, constantly carrying him around and feeding him, letting him sit on her lap ALWAYS, etc, and I just feel that she is messing him up and that it is time to let her go. She called and said that, because of me not wanting him to see her, that she feels like “killing” herself and at this point I just don’t trust her anymore and want to be left alone! I am a single male with custody of my two sons, one age 2 and one soon to be 4, what am I to do to get this woman out of our lives????

Calm down

Mercinary

September 4th, 2017 at
9:57 AM

I agree with you 100%.

L

October 17th, 2017 at
2:21 PM

I have been stalked by a deputy for 3 years now I have reported him 15 times to the agency he works for and it just gets swept under the rug. I then get all these other assigned people following me around to see if he shows up where I am at. Well da guess what they tipped him off so he stays away from me. Then I see him pass me in traffic or he waits outside my work. They think its funny. Well I finally hired a lawyer and a letter was sent to the cheif of police from my lawyer. Miraculously – no more bein followed but…. its only been a couple of weeks. SOB should be castrated and sent to jail. All the crap they put me thru and thought it was funny. Here’s a kicker my fiance is a cop and do you think he helped me. NOPE, bro’s before *****’s. I hate the cops they are liars every one of them. I guess next I have to move out of state. What a scarey 3 years.

Lanaye M

January 20th, 2018 at
11:55 PM

I think that I am being stalked by the country and I am scared for my life.

Calm down

DeborAH

September 20th, 2016 at
3:18 AM

I am being stalked by a neighbor who wakes me up almost daily, banging on things. Creeps over the restroom, bangs again, and eerily hangs around over top the restroom when it’s in use. I cannot sleep in my room because he immediately knows (listens for when I go to bed, then creeps around all over my room, continuously, amidst more bumping noises upon entering the room at times. Creeps me out. I am ready to move. I know that I will because I have God by my side. Am a Christian. This man is [purely morbid] icky to the furthest degree. It just makes me want to puke just thinking about him. He doesn’t even even seem like a man anymore. I’ve told the police, they seem to think not much can be done, because he has not confronted me really, but did sit around and wait on the day he knew I had to go and pay bills, then rolled almost into me with his car, [which seemed very planned] to me. Yet nothing was done. But one comfort a Christian has is that God is watching, and he is just as tired as I am of this. As he says in the bible, he will never forsake us. God also knows that there is a camera on the street, and this will some day be detected, that he almost hit me, (whether I reported it late or not) something should’ve yet been done in this matter. I know God is finding me a way out of here. Meantime when he makes noise, I just tell him through the walls that he is violating my civil rights, and that I am recording everything he does, and I feel relieved in knowing, that (so is God).

Barbara

April 8th, 2017 at
5:21 AM

This is a creepy thing that is spanning America, as well as other countries. I know the major creep behind this, and he has this motorcycle gang following. I’ve been helping the real police, as imposters have been filling every job position across America. Motorcycle gang members have been impersonating police officers even on the Hawaiian islands. The corrupt CIA, NSA, military, drug addicts, dealers, traffickers, with the help of skinheads, are behind this. I decided to stand up to them, and helped the authorities to come down on this criminal organization. They were trying to sabotage America in preparation for a military run fascist government. The motorcycle gangs were there to help in drug and weapons deliveries. Drug addicts also played a major role in all this too. So much is going on in the way of the lawlessness of this group. I could go into all of it, but it’s a lot. The sickest part of what they do is the electronic torture using radiation and electricity. They go to the generators and raise up the high voltage electricity to fatal levels. Then they tamper with the power lines, and take your analog meter off and replace it with a smart meter. This results in astronomically high levels of high voltage electricity coming into your home, apartment, business, grocery store, etc. They really like to hit the big stores like Wal-mart, Costco, Sam’s club, K-Mart, etc. This way they can get a lot of people affected. The reason they are doing this is to make people sick and full of disease so that the medical industry will prosper, especially the prescription drug companies. By raising high voltage electricity people can get high blood pressure, heart attacks, strokes, cancer, mental illness symptoms, leukemia in children, glaucoma and cataracts, fatigue, hyperactivity, depression, achy joints, back pain, etc. The ambulance and emergency rooms have been exceptionally busy lately. The Fed-x and UPS trucks have been transporting much of the prescription drugs. Other crimes include human trafficking, sex slavery, prostitution, drug trafficking, weapons smuggling, child kidnappings, scientific research on people, electronic torture, sexual harassment, rape, break ins, bank robberies, property damage and tampering, implanting with microchips for torture and tracking purposes, and murder. They recruit new members daily, and they could be your neighbors, postal workers, taxi driver, doctor, nurse, co-worker; they are pretty integrated into our society – eyes and ears for the corrupt perverts. Perversion is a main factor, sexual perversion, and also they want to frame the victim, if things don’t go their way. They frame by keeping all their illegal activities around the one they’re stalking, to make it appear as though there is a connection between the victim and the crimes. They are arrestable, so let the authorities know, go to the FBI headquarters and write a report and meet personally with an agent. Also, report to your local crime stoppers, this helps tremendously. Don’t be anonymous, let them know who you are, and that you need help.

Susan

July 5th, 2017 at
11:37 AM

Oh, definitely not. You are much a stronger person if you seek out help. Just make sure that it is for real help. Look under the County or City pages in your phone book…….Be well!!!!

Sharon G.

April 19th, 2018 at
4:47 PM

This is in response to Barbara’s comment about electronic torture. She is telling the truth.
They can operate this by remote. I have radiation burns from this, that is burns under the skin where I lie in my bed. It is also colder under the blankets. It has taken me a long time to figure all this out. I know who did it…but, not their name so the police would not investigate. They get a big high from doing these things to people. It’s real…
Half the battle is knowing that it is real and not in your head. It’a physical…keep photo’s and dates in safe deposit box and any and all information, and don’t be afraid. It will all come to the surface before much longer…as it is headed in that direction. These secrets will be known.

Fay

September 29th, 2017 at
5:04 AM

Your comment that people would think you’re crazy if you mention being stalked is so true. Thank you. But, l know my stalkers, and right now the situation is under control. I even actually like the new one.

Love God

September 29th, 2017 at
9:24 PM

Fay – The first half of what you wrote on September 29, 2017. I won’t respond to that, because I didn’t make that remark. However, Fay you’re welcome, as for thanking me on the information shared about you having two stalkers. Do know that I only became concerned about your situation due to you saying, that you have to watch your back. Truth, is that upsetted me. Because nobody should have to live their life that way! Most Importantly, it’s your perogative that one of your stalkers you like him now. Therefore, reading what you had wrote about, “everything being under control now” it’s really cool and great to hear that!

Shay

October 21st, 2017 at
8:25 PM

your not alone, I’ve been stressed with this, I am a christian and want to be christ like, but it’s like people constanly stare or follow me when i catch the bus or go places, like i can’t peace, or privacy. Like im being stalked, while trying to get back into the workplace and not be like the world. People and the world hates me, cause i follow christ. And, you have to mind your surronding, like people are going to do something to me, or be near me, trying to take a picture of me with their phone, or text someone about me, haters, jealous jerks. Im getting tired of people in their cars they park outside of my bedroom window when i try to go to bed and got things to do, especially if i get up early. I can’t tell you how stressing that is, to not have no rest and can’t relax in your own place. Not do nothing to anyone but take care of things, go about my day and serve christ the best i can. Your not alone, God bless!

Kungfu

April 9th, 2013 at
12:18 PM

People do not just stalk because they think they are in love with the stalked person.
You can be stalked by anyone for a plethora of reasons. You can be stalked because you gave someone a bad look, said something offending, and a whole slue of other reasons.
Bottom line is if you have asked to be left alone, and someone continues, follows you, checks on you, calls you then its stalking.

Cher Redmond

Carrie

June 23rd, 2016 at
4:39 AM

Yes but when its someone you thought was a friend, who is mad because you’ve tried to get answers and call them out on their bs . Then they say to leave them alone or when you are right and they are in the wrong respond with leave me alone, its hard to take them serious because it sounds like a 5 year old saying it, but it wasnt the intention to torment them it was to clear things up that was tormenting me.
Which is why i dont consider it to be stalking of said former friend by trying to find out how she is or if she is even alive when the last thing that was going on was drama involving a guy who was supposedly stalking her and making death threats and she was afraid to go anywhere or leave her house, yet she goes to wal mart at 3am and claims the guy attacked her in the parking lot. A guy she met up north while working on a movie doing the website and other side job. A guy who wouldnt be here living nearby in a drainage ditch right by her house if she hadnt driven back up north to get him and bring him here. So she quit speaking to me after i had it with the bs and all. I think she may be a sociopath but in case im wrong i still care about her and want to make sure he hasnt killed her or he isnt being tortured by her as hes her new target.

Susan

Anonymouse

October 7th, 2013 at
12:47 PM

Actually, stalking law is unconstitutional. If you read through various appeals by individuals who have been on the defendant side of criminal prosecution for stalking, you’ll see the logic of their arguments. Stalking laws primarily are continually supported, despite being unconstitutional, under the guise of the concept of “public trust.” Not only that, but the unconstitutional legal fiction, the “reasonable person,” was made to over-ride the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution.

Harassment laws have also been a problem in relation to the first amendment. However, the main difference between harassment and stalking laws has to do with culpability. A person cannot KNOWINGLY stalk you. A judge or jury has to deem that something is stalking (IT’S A MATTER OF OPINION RATHER THAN FACT).

With that aside, stalking laws historically were made to deter, prevent, and punish behaviors that appear to be culminating in individuals, which were considered behaviors that would eventually lead an individual to murdering someone. It was a law developed in order to prevent murder. The irony of it all is that individuals now use it to push off people whom they don’t want looking into their private lives: Drug addicts, criminals, gold-diggers, and all kinds of people who don’t want to be noticed will allege that someone is a stalker in order to hide illegal behavior.

So, the concept of “stalking” is wrongly used by the majority of individuals here. None of you know WTF you are talking about. Study some law, would you?

Thomas

anon

July 14th, 2016 at
11:31 PM

Conversely, I was actually assaulted by someone who was dressed up like a cop in broad daylight. I was 13, he grabbed me off a bench in the mall while I was reading and waiting for my dad. Basically a pervert who tried to kidnap me almost got away with it because when the other shoppers saw someone hauling off a child who was screaming for help, he claimed that I was a prostitute. Everyone who had tried to help me backed off when they realized he was a cop. This same guy had made multiple attempts to communicate with me over a span of several months. And had been trying to get me to have sex with him by offering me money and drugs. Just some random stranger as far as I knew. But it turned out that he was supposedly a cop and had been going around my neighborhood getting information about me by spreading his slander about me being a prostitute. It was how he had learned my school schedule, the route I took home from school, and how more easily track me. Luckily one of the security guards at mall recognized me and stopped him. He wasn’t fired, but his other cop friends (and their friends) made being a teenage girl an absolutely terrifying and horrible experience. Even so, I don’t know what he would have done to me, or if I would even still be alive if that one good Samaritan hadn’t stood up to the creep and kept him from abducting me. Maybe it helped that he had his own uniform and wasn’t wowed by my stalker’s career. The point of the story is that no one should ever be stalked for any reason. No one should be harassed. And getting into some else’s life and trying to manipulate it in any ways (ie. stalking them) because you don’t agree with their choices isn’t anyone’s prerogative. It makes you the criminal. Just my opinion. Sorry if you disagree.

Mary s

November 17th, 2016 at
3:37 AM

You wouldnt happen to be a government employee by any chance? I have bèen told that multiple gov. Agencies have been set up with sole purpose of discrediting the bloggers or victims who are discussing gang stalking. Your comment would fit neatly into that catagory😊

Alicia

January 8th, 2017 at
11:08 PM

I have been stalked for six months now phone tapped changed my number but think its happening again they shine lights thru the windows at night I’ve covered all window’s couldn’t sleep for three months its a red laser point light not sure if they’re trying to hurt me or what so then they got into my ceiling fan somehow shining blue lights in it cops have been called I’ve seen them heard them so many noises and things I can’t describe right now tried telling friends and family and of course everyone just thinks I’m nuts I can’t sleep unless I keep my light on and I just don’t know how to stop the be if the cops can’t help then who can and sooner or later it will b too late and I know who it is

Nikita

March 15th, 2017 at
9:18 PM

It’s called “Gang Stalking”. Just from how you’ve described people who are involved with this use those tactics against you. I have been a t.i for 7yrs.. Meaning this particular circle of people targeted me for whatever reason I still don’t know why, but they have stalked harassed, intimidated, flashed car head lights through my windows at night, stepped onto my property when I’m asleep or when I’m not at home, rev their cars as they drive past to let me know their, there (like I care) beep horns, make noises outside my home so I’ll hear them, followed me, broke into my home twice, and assaulted me. These are all tactics these people use, to scare you.. Whatever you do don’t let them see your fear easier said then done I know, because I’ve lived it so I know exactly what it’s like and so do thousands of other t.i’s out there. For you, this is only the beginning their behaviour will escalate tremendously.. It’s a psychological mind game. Be safe.. Don’t let them break you down.

John

July 16th, 2017 at
3:14 PM

Well i know how you feel ive been stalked for the last 5 months by the same 4 people and have called the cops multiple times and tbey like to hide ans be quite when the cops show up but they wont dare aproch me becouse i always have two knives on me and am getting me a gun for self defense and thats the best way to get rid of some satlking piece of sh%t teouble makers if you ask me these crazy SOBs set out there and threten me and my girl with rape a d whenever shes gone aomewhere i worry to death about her they even got to where the two women will scream and pretend to be her and say my name and say for me to come save her but they have a gun and are always thretining me and ive heard them shoot off there gun and everything so i guess im saying you should do what im doing and get a gun for self defense and regester it so ita all legalized or get a friend to id you ca t own one

L

October 22nd, 2017 at
11:14 AM

Your not nuts, I hear your pain. I too am going thru this and this wont stop for me either,,, do I have to move to another state. I have told the cops too many times and it falls on deaf ears.

Cher Redmond

Richard

anony

March 27th, 2014 at
7:58 AM

I’am starting to feel stalked since I moved in a year in a half ago.These neighbors started out friendly but then started competing with stuff I was doing outside for no apparent reason.I would come outside they would come outside.I would water they would run outside .I have seen them hiding behind certain areas stalking and run off as they are seen.Lately I have changed around my routine as to avoid any of the creepy-wierdos and do stuff at different times.There are days they or one of them will still as I’am sweeping the back come out real quick and go inside or open their door for no reason at all.I have started to ignore them since they don’t matter to me.I have even seen a few of them come over to the gate as to push it over which they can’t anymore since I put some stuff there to support that fence and that angered them.I have seen them even copy stuff I’am doing and buying bird house I have they got one,colored clothes pins they got them.I feel creeped out as they are doing these things.I have been documenting this and want to put up some cameras they can’t see as to catch them everytime I come outside they are stalking me,throwing things in my yard.

TJ

m

July 19th, 2014 at
9:06 PM

I was sexually assaulted by a man I knew after the incident he started showing up at my workplace more often coming in the store everyday sometimes 5 times a day. Seeing him kept retraumatizing me. I realized his behavior was not normal he was stalking me and emotionally abusing me. I wanted to know why did he start stalking me after the assault and why did ge stalk me for so long I told him several times to stay away from my workplace when I’m working and that he was making me uncomfortable. I got a temporary restraining order against him and he violated still and continued to stalk me. I developed ptsd from the assualt and stalking and had to go to therapy and take medication to help me. Even though I moved away I still live in fear and i’m still traumatized by what happened I wont forget it.

Kenia

July 30th, 2014 at
4:00 AM

i gave my # to this guy cause i just wanted to txt he found me on this dating site he seem interesting so i decided that i wanted to txt him.but on that same day we txt for a little then i realize i didn’t wanna txt him no more i just wasent feeling him.and i didn’t told him anything i just stop txting him.because if would of tell him that i didn’t wanna txt no more probably he would start asking all this “why” questions. and i didn’t want to deal with that so then he txt me the second day and said that if i didn’t txt back and tell him if i like him or not he will find out the hard way. and that’s what scared me like he’s crazy i just txt him one day i don’t even know him at all.like it was just a few txts the day before he told me that.

Fran

January 9th, 2017 at
11:02 AM

Keep all texts as evidence. If it continues send text saying that you want no further contact. Then block his number. If he stalks you physically report each incident and keep your own record of dates times locations anything said etc. Take steps to let everyone in your neighbourhood know. MOST IMPORTANT SAFEGUARD YOUR HOME. This is rare but my stalker is currently in custody on arson charges for setting fire to my flat door. Luckily I wasn’t at home and neighbours were able to put out fire. So no one hurt and no lasting damage to my home.

Debbie

August 21st, 2014 at
2:48 AM

I have a stalker who I work with 22 years ago . He stalked me back then by following me. Then stopped I think . Now 22 years later I have found out that he lives down the street from me but i think this is a rumor. I’m not sure . I saw him in the MALL . WHEN i WENT BACK TO THE MALL TO SHOP AGAIN .he was going around trying to find things out about me from people in the mall who I worked with . now he as spread rumors about me to people in the stores . He tells the people he is trying to help me that he’s not stalking me but then i always see him watching me and following me . when he sees me he gives me dirty looks but he keeps watching me and following me . I confused , i think he is follwing me . what do you think ??

salome

September 5th, 2014 at
3:17 PM

I’m busy divorcing cause my husband got a bad temper and was constantly in the pubs and sometimes have affairs. Its been a year now and he kept stalking me.. Saying he will kill my friend and I mustn’t go anywhere alone.. As I will be availeble for men to date me. He also said that I am the only woman for him and he won’t stop. Spreading rumors of me. I lost my job and nearly everything because of his stalking. I went to get a court order but the people aren’t much help. Sending from court to police station and back several times.. My attorney cannot help me as I must get a order against him myself.. I am helpless and don’t know what to do anymore..

Donna

September 14th, 2014 at
11:26 AM

I am being stalked. He been message me on face book and phone my mobile number. He then began to follow me everywhere and my mom told him everything about me. He say he going to hurt me and make me pay he then start to say he will hurt my kids. he thinks I’m going out with him when I never ever did. my mom even told him I had a miscarriage and he took the piss. He is mad and crazy. He even smash a window to get into my house and smash up my house. I let it go on for over a year and a half until today. I went to police . I now found out my own mom was in on it and she wanted rid of me. My advice to people don’t let it go on go police.

Kenya

January 24th, 2016 at
11:32 AM

Well in response to Donna..I’m glad u found help..I am sorry ur mother was in on it…sad..but what can u do if the police are not helpful or accusatory towards you…and people that you have spoken to say you’re wrong or imagining this abuse..alotta people allow stalking did you’re own mother

Y

Mary

September 15th, 2014 at
4:12 PM

A childhood friend (will call him “Johnny”) connected with me thru online high school network on Facebook and prior to this, we hadn’t talked or seen each other in 25+ years. They were getting married and he said he planned to invite several of us childhood friends to the wedding and he couldn’t wait for me to meet her. “Johnny’s” girlfriend (will call her Sybil”) saw him talking to me me as a friend on his FB and has become obsessed with my personal and professional life. One year ago “Johnny” asked if he could contact me to tell me this scary news news. “Johnny” says “Sybil’s” family has direct bloodlines of schizophrenia, he thinks “Sybil” is mentally unstable, and he discovered info on her computer that she has stalked me in person and on the internet for over 2 years. I don’t even have a clue who “Sybil” really is, nor do I know what she looks like, nor do I want anything to do with either of them. This reinforces that this high school idiotic stuff is so far removed from the life I live and I want nothing to do with this nonsense. “Sybil” initially gained access to my FB thru “Johnny’s” account and then by checking my friends list and conning a so-called friend I knew in high school into using her Facebook login. “Johnny” alerted me of such and said “Sybil” gained access to me thru my Facebook by “Sybil” contacting a high school girl in our network and staying she needed to borrow her login to watch me because I cheated with her boyfriend “Johnny”. What kind of person would believe this crap story and then share their login for purposes of stalking. I realized I really don’t know this FB friend as well as I thought I did 25 years ago and removed that “friend” from my FB. “Johnny” said he was afraid for me and thought I should know because “Sybil” cut/paste my pics from FB onto her computer and has kept pics of me and pics of my grown children and their spouses on her computer. This is like waking up to a bad dream in a Lifetime movie. “Johnny’s” ex-wife went to high school with me and has confirmed that what “Johnny” says about “Sybil” is true and she isn’t surprised “Sybil” is stalking me as she is off her rocker and has been known to do crazy things. The ex-wife understands my concerns and remarks that “Johnny” must be off himself. What should I do besides document everything to the best of my ability? I live in a high rise building and have security but find this so bizarre. I can’t believe this is happening to me! But unfortunately this is real! Help! Please! Any organizations or non-profits I can document this with? How do I get help with this craziness?

Y

Jenie

September 25th, 2014 at
4:06 AM

My stalker, a male, stalks me everyday. I’ve caught him peeping behind bushes, and when I’m in the yard driving by over and over again. I had my husband sit with me once and he hurriedly passed by on foot and returned just to stare. The final straw was when I caught him standing about 50 feet away staring. So sick of this!

Jenie

SNAP

June 8th, 2017 at
4:41 PM

It’s more than just annoying what happens when you are organised gangstalked. Perfectly sane and normal people being treated like and/or told that they are crazy! People who take part in this vicious stupid backstabbing bull are the ones who are crazy ,not the victim!!!

TallGuy

Jennifer

January 25th, 2016 at
11:52 PM

The number of burgleries ive had in my place of work, home and car has to be at least that high of a number if not more
Amazes me these people get away with this this many times…the theft ive had is way off the chart in what some stalker has stolen from me over the years. How these stalker get away with this crap is beyond me.

Kathleen H

June 9th, 2016 at
12:48 PM

I’m so sorry to hear this is happening to you as well. I’ve been dealing with the same thing for over 6 years now. I know it is my narcissistic controlling ex and his family. He told me I would “pay” for divorcing him and now I’m in a living hell. The police think I’m making all this stuff up. For what purpose? No one wants to get involved when a good person is being terrorized by sick, cruel people. They are also stealing my financial records, credit cards, old passport, DL, social security card EtcEtcEtc. They also have to have cameras in my apartment and car since they always find my hiding places to steal what I’ve hidden. Had several journals keeping records of stuff taken…yup, they found and stole those too. Got most of my jewelry, good clothes, even household items. Stole my silverware few pieces at a time til I only had one or two of each left! Very cruel. Not sure where to turn for help. Hate being a victim. Hate feeling helpless.

Jenie

September 25th, 2014 at
9:01 PM

Looks like I spoke too fast. Clumsy stalker guy tripped over something in the bushes. Can’t figure out why he chose me.

sydneywaves

September 26th, 2014 at
5:19 AM

There is a guy in my Photography class in High school and he likes me a lot. He got my number and texted me and we made friendly conversation. Then he was asking if I wanted to go on family trips with him, if he could go to my sports games. Then the final straw was when he told me good luck at my game (i didn’t tell him) and he was standing in front of my homeroom. Luckily i was walking with my best friend and he walked away. I am so nervous. He even texted me “when can i text you at night because i want to know if i can text you after work” which included this creepy smiley face :p after every text. Can someone help me? I am going to text him today that i am uncomfortable and don’t want to be in a relationship of any kind. Help!

Juju

Susan

July 17th, 2018 at
3:14 PM

In a case like this, do an say NOTHING!!! When you say or text him, then he knows he is getting to you. See if there is a support group for this where you live now. The police haven’t been of much help to me either, where I live. Go to your courthouse in your county and get an order of protection or a restraining order against him, and while it is only a piece of paper, the police do react more quickly if you have that and he comes around. They can put him in jail or prison. Although, if you see him, take a pic of him with your phone. Start keepinng a daily journal of everything. That and pics is what the cops/judge want to see, and don’t go to court alone. Take support friends/family with you. I am on my 5th year of this s*** here. Just installed a wi-fi camera, because they come into my house. Good luck.

Jenie

October 7th, 2014 at
3:38 AM

In the beginning, I used to feel flattered that someone was actually taking the time out of their day to come see me ( I had such a big ego). I figured the guy was shy and that maybe one day, if given time, he’ll approach me and say hello. Wishful thinking on my part, its been 17 years and I don’t see anytime soon he’ll stop stalking me… What am I doing to encourage him? I’m married for Pete’s sakes. Am I giving off some kind of vibe? Any advice? Please don’t tell me to approach him and find out what his problem is. I’m already creeped out by this whole situation and my conscience is warning me to stay far away has possiblle. I find myself more and more now retracing my past for any clues that might’ve set him off and I think I found a few. I thought about apologizing but would that really matter since hes presumably carried this grudge for years? What if it’s not that? Sigh. Yesterday, it may have been a coincidence, I saw him against just as I was getting out of my car. The sight of him raised the hairs on my neck and made my skin crawl. I’m tired of this already, definitely tired of him! I’m determined though to keep living my life and this minor annoyance won’t stop me from enjoying it.

Jennifer F

September 6th, 2015 at
10:29 PM

I have a similar situation. I haven’t spoken to the man in over 15 years and he showed up in my town out of nowhere! We lived in different cities….I live in the smallest county in my state and he lived in the biggest county! We were never an item and never sexual at all. I am wondering how your husband handled this. My husband thinks I am paranoid…..but i’n not….just stressed and cautious now. I saw him at the swim center watching kids……he has no kids! Now I see him out and about and he was staring at my husband in the store. What do you do…..how are you handling this?

nicole

October 8th, 2014 at
4:41 AM

I got stalked by a female for not being a friend to her anymore. She started showing to places i was at then punched me in the face. I punched her in the face to defend myself then ended up going to court over it–not fun at all. Turns out she was one of those borderline personality types. Whats worse is she took me to court when all i was doing was defending myself. Stalkers suck.

Fran

May 31st, 2016 at
5:56 AM

Can totally relate. I am going through this at moment. To make matters worse she lives in my apartment block. So I have to creep in and out of my property. I live in constant fear fear for my life. Have severe anxiety and depression which I can’t control because of her. I am a prisoner in my own home. The council wont do anything. The police tell me I have to tell her I dont want to be friends before they can help.I am terrified of the consequences of doing this.

Fran

January 9th, 2017 at
11:15 AM

I went through identical crisis. My female stalker was a neighbour in my own block. That wormed her way in by saying she had anxiety. Reckon she probably watched me for several months then picked right time. She is currently in custody after being charged with arson (setting fire to my flat door) Case was adjourned to fight for a higher charge at a later date. She has borderline personality disorder. Star tattoo on cheek.

Anne Violet Smith

October 15th, 2014 at
6:15 AM

I engaged in mental health activities a worker was manipulating a lot of vulnerable woman I stayed some distence away when it was group’s of men he should interest otherwise not now I see him smug in places where I usually go I don’t want to get involved for my mams case

Brandy

October 15th, 2014 at
3:01 PM

I have a similar problem, as someone who could see my facebook wall at some point was putting me through the ringer. For example, she has copied my pictures and statuses obviously saving them for some reason apparently over a period of time and then manipulates them on a word processing program to make accusations to defame my character. The worst part is that this person hinges on my every word and cites any misspellings as evidence of my intellectual abilities. She degrades how I appear physically, how I mother my children, comments I make and any continuum of information to make it appear as I am degrading myself. And then, when she is satisfied with her remarks, she mails it to my home address. No return address. I cannot say with specificity who the stalker is, as she remains anonymous. However the fact she knows where I live and has sent multiple letters is quiet frightening. Ive called her out via facebook and deleted as many as 230 acquaintences, but the harassment stalking and fear inducing letters continue. Not one of the five agencies investigating has returned a single clue, and I am lost for words…

Amanda

October 29th, 2014 at
9:50 PM

I’m sure you’ve thought of this already, but have you contacted Facebook? You can also block people and make it so that only people added as friends can contact you, so even if she registers a fake Facebook account she can’t message you. You can preview what your page looks like to non-friends by clicking the “…” Next to “view activity log” on your page. It’s horrible, but usually the police can’t do much until something actually happens. The law makes it really hard for people being stalked.

Fran

January 9th, 2017 at
11:24 AM

It is true little can be done initially with stalking. Keep all records of forms of contact. Dates times Things said. Gestures Threats. Them turning up wherever you are. It will make a lot of difference to a case if they should commit a crime against you that can be charged such as assault or arson. Though I sincerely hope neither happens. Just mentioning it as my stalker is in custody on arson charges. Police are fighting for heavier sentence. Got to wait 1-2 weeks to see.

Brandy,This is so concerning, I wish I could really help you. I am a private investigator and have worked in the criminal courts for 18 years BUT I was stalked, threatened, harassed, followed by my ex. he got away with all of it. anyways, I am wondering if the FBI might be able to help you because of the mail you’ve received…the postal service is a federal agency. it’s worth a shot, federal agents are typically better educated and better trained, and the FBI has more resources than the local authorities. you need to determine where the closest bureau is and call them there.

Alena

June 27th, 2016 at
10:30 PM

I am also being stalked, harassed and terrorized by my ex and my entire family is being harassed as well. It’s been 3 years now and it will wing stop…he won’t take no for an answer and is now making threats…idk what to do anymore….cops are useless.

sakina m

April 4th, 2015 at
5:55 PM

i hear u believe it or not i been tryna gt advice about the same issues and others similar my phone is fused wth these stalkers google gmail n facebook its bn chngd several times n they still kp repeating the same thng stlkng my life from a to z i did evrythng contacted evryone chngd phones n companies n it still kps hppening my pics s erased off facebook n my phone or stolen to probably trick google gmail n facebook to mke thm believe they r me. its a big case of stalking n it s a very hard thing to ward off cause in a stalkers mind they will not stop if noone aint stopping them my name s exploited evrywhere lies exxageration n etc all i can say s kp chngn thm like me n unplug the internet n phone whn u had enough n do thngs u enjoy doing to gt it n thm off ur mind so it doesnt steal ur joy peace n freedom being a decent loving human being i do this all the time…

Jennifer

January 25th, 2016 at
11:46 PM

Facebook stalking is a serious problem. These stalkers have all the same afflictions towards there victims. Ive been reading all these victims complaints and stalkers have the same charactristics in how they stalk. Report it a 1,000 times and maybe they will get enough evidence to finally stop these idiots.

Fran

May 31st, 2016 at
6:11 AM

It is usually someone you know. Friend or work colleagues. Ex partner or ex friend. Rarely it can be a stranger. I dont use photo of myself on media sites for this reason. I hope this helps. In the meantime log all incidents of unwanted contact for evidence. Keep to well lit public areas when out. Tell everyone in your social circle and places you frequent. If you find out who it is dont confront them but do let them know you are not interested(as without this step the police wont do anything) Hope you get your life back soon.

Auris

October 22nd, 2014 at
7:11 AM

I am being Stalked by a person I have never spoken to,it is now going into the 5 year,I’ve gone to the Police and they made it worse by believing him,this parasite will drive up beside me and tell me ‘it wont be long before i;m dead,he is now sitting out side my home as I write this, I don’t go out any more, if I do and he catches me I get abused with Vile language and death threats,I am so scared at times I cant think, 2 of my cats have vanished,my dog has been poisoned 4 times, my friends are followed intimidated and abused,this parasite can do what he likes and the police wont do a thing to help,5 of my witnesses were not interview, in the early days when I did go out the stalker drove at me and my dog,pined me to the wall,still the police did nothing even with witnesses,this happened twice,both times the stalker was Drunk, I live by the sea, the stalker watches my home with binoculars all the time,if young people are getting dressed or undressed he watches them,he has been seen in full view of everyone withe the hands in the pockets rubbing himself,the police say the man has to fix himself somewhere….. I could go on and on about the intimidation and abuse day after day,even christmas day…….I dont know how many times I’ve been cautioned by the police,once was for being in my garden, the stalker went to the police and told them I was intimidating him…….. no justice till he kills me… and he will get away with it…..

Shantala

Mary s

November 17th, 2016 at
3:43 AM

Then he is probibly well connected within some masonic organisation. Masonics are literally in every profession…have no professional ethics or accountability…only loyalty is to their organisaton. Ultimately satanic in nature. You need to get the support of Jesus. Nothing else will help.

AnonymousOne

July 22nd, 2016 at
9:42 PM

Are you still alive? That man is going kill you if you allow him keep watching you! You need to move!!!!

Calm down

July 23rd, 2016 at
12:11 PM

Go Chase Parked Cars! Get a Job! Do something worth while.

Y

November 17th, 2016 at
10:51 PM

Dear Mary S,
Thank you for replying. The stalker/s is pretending/telling the police that helps them as an alibi to not be arrested by them, to gain their assistance in staking me, raping and many other crimes, to have police that he help them victimize me, keep each for prosecution, etc. For a period he made me look bad to the police so he could get the police to give him a police badge he used the bagde to victimize me more. The perp is a perp period, he is very wicked, cruel, and nasty. He and others doing this to me worship the devil.

Barbara

April 8th, 2017 at
3:36 PM

Every state, I believe, has a FBI headquarters, where you can fill out a form, and meet with an agent. Also, definitely, call the crime stoppers line and give them full information. Keep going to the police, but imposters are filling job positions everywhere. You’ll know the fake ones because they won’t uphold the law, and will be very off in mannerisms. Let your neighbors know, but perpetrators usually go to your immediate neighbors and spread lies and slander, and they will take up homes or apartments in your neighborhood. They are running a drug trafficking business and they’ll do this around the person they are victimizing. A lot of them are atheists, in the church of Scientology, but they will fill positions in any church. They don’t see themselves as the bad guys, and average citizens are often recruited into this criminal organization. There is brainwashing techniques and mind control used as well, microchipping and usually cellular radiation applied.

Amanda

October 29th, 2014 at
9:57 PM

When I was 18-19 (I’m 26 now), my best friend dated a very abusive guy, physically and emotionally, for about two years. As is typical, she disappeared and he drove most of her friends away. He tried to do the same with me, but I stuck by her, and when I found pictures online of him cheating on her (the girl posted them in a forum), she finally broke up with him.

When he realized he had lost control of her, he severely vandalized her dad’s house, abused and raped her, just generally terrorized her. In his mind, she couldn’t end the relationship if it wasn’t mutual. Well, he saw me as the reason for their breakup, and began to stalk and intimidate me as well. Death threats, lurking parked outside my house, trying to run me off of a dangerous windy road.

The good news is that eventually he moved on, and no one was hurt beyond repair. Eventually they will fixate on someone new. It’s just about trying to lay low and survive until then.

Anonymous

December 18th, 2014 at
2:50 PM

I think that most stalkers don’t see themselves as stalkers, or they lie to themselves. If they knew the person prior to stalking them, I believe they see the stalking as a joke. I guess they think that their previous title somehow validates them, and gives them a permanent place in the person’s life. They refuse to accept that they have an obsession. Maybe they convince themselves that there’s nothing wrong with trying to make a temporary relationship permanent. They don’t realize that if you’re no longer the person’s classmate, co-worker, associate, then you have an obsession, and you’re stuck. I guess with the ones that were never in a relationship with you, get stalking, and actually being in a relationship with the person misconstrued. I’m being stalked by an elementary school classmate, and her family. It’s a joke to them. They just simply dismiss the stalking, and they behave as though we still interact with them. The bizarre thing is she was never a friend when we were children, so you would think that you would be able to get someone out of your life that you never got along with. Her whole family stalks. They even have opinions on different aspects of my life, although they shouldn’t be in my life. They can be heard in the background of everything that picks up on a signal. It’s to the point where the family members/associates of theirs that I don’t even know behave as though the stalking gives them a valid place in my life when I never even met them. Sometimes they’ll even discuss me like they are annoyed, yet they’re the ones holding onto me. I’m twenty-seven. The former classmate is twenty-five. They don’t think the stalking is a problem. The problem is you become stuck when you continuously stalk people from your childhood. It’s not normal. The whole family dismisses the stalking. They have no intentions of ever exiting our life. It seems as though they’re trying to live a life that’s in conjunction with us. They’re not our long lost cousins. It’s not a marriage. Of course, it’s beyond being fed-up with them.

Anonymous

RIGHT ON. “Anonymous says” that’s what’s going on in my situation I’ve got some individuals who are kind of “looking” for me both from previous work situations and a living arrangement I use to be in with roomates I did online….it’s a little scary….random numbers keep calling…and they either say nothing or hello and then hang up….

colette

December 19th, 2014 at
2:49 PM

I need advice please so to know if I should go to police or not have man living next door on his own very creepy who has been bothering me for two yrs now leaves light on outside every night I gave a shower have tried to change this routine but he still does this every night he tots his car horn at me to get attention thought he was doing it for traffic now realize it’s not its aimed at me he parks moat days outside where he is in full view from my kitchen I close the blind he has appeared outside on one occasion at a shop up the road he has walked past my house a lot I wish he would go away my silly husband asked me if I went out with him I answered no he is affecting my mental state and marriage what should I do am I imagining all this need advice from someone out their who knows and has had a neighbor like this who threatens from a distance

MM

watcher

November 23rd, 2016 at
10:39 AM

you’ve just been red flagged. this person is a troll or gang stalker

Rae

December 26th, 2014 at
5:52 AM

I met my stalker after a failed romance. He tried making me jealous- that didn’t work. He’s hacked into my phone and does stupid stuff. He doesn’t scare me. I more so want to just punch him in the face. He’s annoying and a pest but that’s about it. I wish he would threaten me. Lol I have too many brothers for that. I’m probably going to get them involved at some point.

Yuki Unknown

August 20th, 2015 at
11:48 AM

Okay, I seriously need help with my stalkers. I have two stalkers in my life. One is a guy I went to High School with, the second one, well you wouldn’t believe me if I told you who the other one is. Help! My friend who is more like a brother and I are out of ideas. We have no proof and no way to get proof, any ideas?

Valerie T

July 20th, 2016 at
2:07 PM

I was being stalked by a man I knew in high school hevus ed to stalk my locker but I didn’t pay it any attention until 32 years later I saw him and went out on a couple of dates then it turn into being stalked everyday of my life cause I told him we didn’t mesh it took me two years to get him put in jail I had to go to my governor and atty general to get it into domestic violence court I still live in fear of him it is really a,long story but I wanted to tell how I void it cause the police doesn’t look at it as a serious thing but I did it if ever you want any help I know a lot resources that may help you

Jennifer

January 25th, 2016 at
11:40 PM

Amen.stalker is annoying pest..being rude doesnt work with a pest like this. Its learned to ignore your complaints…i have an someone like this also who continues to meddle in every area of my life.

D dub

December 28th, 2014 at
1:13 AM

Im being stalked by my neighbors.2 retired nurses who are “roommates” lol.I’ve been living in my place for 15 yrs.First time i noticed them following me was a little over yr after i moved in.I seen then circling around me in their vehicle,like 7 times in a four block area,when i was walking to a family members house.And numerous other times 1 of them seems to be the main culprit.I have noticed them following me and turned the tables on them and confronted them 3 times face to face when they tried to deek me out when i spotted them.And they claimed i was paranoid and we live next door so of course we will see each other around the neighborhood I convinced them I didn’t believe them.My wife went to their place and confronted them and they just try and play it off.Anyways i got dozens of stories of them trailing me or opportunistic following.And all of you other people on here I believe u.I got words of advice”You don’t follow a killer”Oh yeah they spread rumors about me and my family and Im gettin fed up I dont believe in hitting women but I think I gotta scare them badly or something I think they get some kind of cheap thrill from doing this.

angelina

My ex-husband stalked, threatened and harassed me for 18 months. I did everything I could to try to stop it-I begged him in tears, I contacted his friends and family and asked them to get him professional help, to no avail. Eventually, I contacted the police and filed reports, I went to Local agencies for advice and support, I filed for a protective order and in the end, even testified against him after he was finally charged, in two counties. None of this worked. He violated the orders over and over again and the magistrates refused to do anything about it. The prosecutors filed the wrong charges and in the wrong counties and didn’t even have jurisdiction. To make matters worse, most people did not believe me, including many of my own family members and friends. This is an important part of what I am trying to communicate in this message. It is difficult to understand what stalking does to victims if you have never been stalked yourself. I can tell you that after a few months of it, I began to deteriorate physically, mentally and emotionally and in a profound way. I ended up having a complete nervous breakdown and was hospitalized…in the psych ward. They told me I was in a catatonic depression and was severely dehydrated and malnourished because ny stress level was so high, I stopped eating and drinking. And, talking. And sleeping. I just stopped functioning. They fed me. stabilized me, and sent me right back to where I was. This is a very long story all of which I which I won’t relate in this format. So, one of the reasons why people did not believe me was due to the fact that I was a mess while he looked like the normal one…but that is actually, the profile. and then I ended up in the mental ward while he had been telling everyone not to believe me because I was crazy (what other defense do they have?). But, this is what happens, if no meaningful intervention takes place. He also used this nervous breakdown as his defense in court so I was not able to secure a 2- year protective order AND his criminal charges were dismissed. in the end, I
moved me and my daughter to the opposite coast, in the middle of the night, to get away from him. he found out where We were, took my daughter away from me by force and there I was, left with nothing. He destroyed my entire life, took the house and everything in it, ruined my reputation, drove my boyfriend away from me, took my child. I wanted to die. So, if you are being stalked, my advice to you is to MOVE far away, as soon as possible, leave everything behind if you have to, tell NO ONE where you are going and never, ever return. Protective orders don’t stop them. Criminal charges don’t intimidate them in the least, they have no respect for laws-statutory, constitutional or natural. And remember, stalking will break you mentally but you are NOT the crazy one, HE is.

say it

Luvmystalker

May 4th, 2017 at
12:52 AM

I hear you, but what if out of hurt and anger you said very mean things to your stalker. Things you didn’t mean and wish you could take back because you actually love that person. Somehow I feel responsible for the stalking and just really want him back in my life how we were before. Just don’t know how to talk to him

Elle

January 10th, 2015 at
1:13 PM

I was stalked for years by a police officer.
I’d like to thank this forum administrator(s) for offering an important place for stalking victims to share their experiences and learn about others. Stalking victims have few -if any, opportunities to safely talk/write about our personal stalking nightmare without being mocked, doubted, judged or dismissed, and my heart goes out to all who’ve been/are there.

The myriad of ways that stalkers damage our lives completely and eternally changes our perspective of that which we grow up taking for granted such as; we have the “right” to not be terrorized, believing there are people we can turn to for protection… and justice -people who actually take stalking crimes seriously, that the law (and those hired to enforce it) will protect us -and punish the ‘bad guys/gals’, that this could “never happen” to me… and more.

Because my stalker was in law enforcement there was literally no one on earth who would give me the time of day. It would take up too much space to list everyone I contacted/begged to just get it to stop. A few of them include; the stalker himself (and those he incited to participate), the police dept. (they literally laughed at me), the city council, city manager, mayor, DA, governor’s “victim assistance” personnel, and on and on. At best I was simply ignored. When I was eventually attacked by the stalker and 3 of his cronies (statistics show that a stalker will attack the victim 97% of the time -I didn’t believe the statistic, till it happened to me…) the police went to work like a well oiled machine -to protect their fellow cop.

While the attack was still underway, one of the attackers called the police -on me. Since the cops were acutely aware of the situation and had already been vigilant about protecting my stalker’s activities, I was yelled at screaming “I don’t care what happened” by our “finest” when I tried to make a statement. They took a statement from the attackers (men between 6-6’4″) who stated that I “snapped” and attacked one of them -it’s still not clear who I “attacked”, it was never specified in their ‘report’. I’m a 125 lb woman… The police didn’t question anyone at the scene and there was no standard follow-up investigation. The detective in Robbery, Homicide and Assault and Battery told me, and I quote, “I won’t let you file a complaint against these people”. A cop called my home 3 times in 1 day to inform me that dispatch had been instructed to ignore any and all calls from me, and that the cops would do absolutely nothing to ‘protect’ me. Well duh.

I couldn’t find an attorney who would touch it. They all said, “No one wants to fight city hall”. That is, unless you are ‘someone important’ who’s experience would draw attention, tourists and thus, money to the town such as the Koby Bryant alleged rape case that occurred very close to my town.

I’d already moved out of my home once before to save my sanity and did so again following the attacks, paying both mortgage and rent. I had to drop out of school (I was a PhD candidate), quit one of the jobs I was working and abandon all hobbies, interests and social activities. As victims know, stalking consumes you. Moving out of my home was worth it for my sanity and for my life. I still have my home and made back the money I spent fleeing my stalker-attacker, it’s the time (years), psychological and emotional costs that I’ll never recover and that which almost destroyed me.

I realized that this psychopath could bash my head in and claim “self defense” and the police would dutifully file their (felony) false reports and do their best to discredit me, as they were already so accustomed to doing. Regarding more statistics, they show that once your stalker has attacked you there is then a 95% chance he/she will murder you. I didn’t believe the ‘attack statistic’ and learned otherwise and did not want to test the murder stats. While I was renting elsewhere the stalker’s house went into foreclosure. He lives about 1 hour south of me and is alive and kickin’. I still get ‘messages’ from him in the form of calls (on my cell phone -it’s virtually impossible to obtain a cell phone number -unless you’re a cop), and vandalism. It has his signature all over it.

My life will never be the same and I will experience (as most victims of stalking and/or violence do) PTSD for the rest of my life. It lessens with time but will always be there. I work hard to keep it in check and (sounds crazy but…) actually take the ‘good’ from the nightmare. I’ve worked hard to keep it from leaving me bitter, paranoid and hateful. It changed me but I’ve forced those changes to work for rather than against me.

I’ve changed my definition of “trust” and learned who I truly can and cannot “trust” -to a degree, and who I can turn to for protection. Well, the latter would be me. When it comes to my personal protection, I will ‘turn to’ me. Heaven forbid it will happen again in my lifetime and of course I’d go through the motions of reporting (if “allowed”) stalking, threats, etc. for purposes of documentation only -along with my personal documentation.

Self defense skills can’t guarantee protection but it certainly doesn’t hurt. I wanted something an attacker couldn’t take from me. I took, (and still train) and highly recommend Krav Maga. I urge you to check it out on the net and join classes as soon as you can. Unlike other martial arts Krav Maga doesn’t take a lifetime to learn well enough to be of use. I’ve taken many forms of martial arts and have never seen anything like Krav Maga. It’s straightforward, brutal, crazy-effective, easy to learn and you learn it very quickly. On average, in 1 month’s time you’ll be at a point where you’ll be required to wear head, mouth and body armor for protection -it works ladies -and gentlemen.

In addition to Krav Maga I have non-lethal types of defense such as pepper-mace spray (be sure to get this combination!) and stun gun -people, especially women should have these at hand these days anyway. In addition to that (and I also strongly urge, particularly all former/current victims to consider) ‘the other’ (not so non-lethal) forms of self-protection. Learn your states laws, take the class, submit you application to the sheriff -all up-front and legal.

I for one will never turn to, or assume there are people who care about or will protect me. It’s up to me. It cost me a lot and there are ‘costs’ I’ll never recover but my nightmare-experience did make me stronger, smarter and extremely capable of protecting myself and as importantly, taught me to recognize and (maybe) preclude this happening again. Stalkers and psychopaths don’t need a “reason” to do what they do. How many times have we victims heard, “Well what did YOU do to ‘make’ this happen?” -one of the many forms of Secondary Wounding, often unintentionally but hurtfully doled out by the people we are the closest to. We don’t have to “do” anything to be stalked. We cannot control the behavior of disturbed individuals. We can however learn to protect ourselves, even when those who we pay via taxes refuse to do so. Thanks for letting me ramble endlessly. We can lean on one another for validation and emotional support and learn from one another’s experience.

Don’t be discouraged by those who doubt, mock, criticize and judge you. Don’t let these attitudes further wound you. YOU know what is happening/happened and you don’t need validation from those who don’t understand and those to whom this has never happened, and heaven forbid it does. You can protect yourself. You don’t need “permission” from ANYONE to protect yourself from stalkers. There is a saying, “For those who understand, no explanation is necessary. For those who don’t, none is possible”.

Ceci

Fay C

October 26th, 2016 at
10:07 AM

My stalker enlisted the help of my neighbor (with pay) and gave him a key to my place to go in and turn things over in the cupboards or take lids off…
Thanks for your stories, I believe you. The “why me” and “why should be so unfortunate” attitude has subsided since I now know I am not alone… some others have identical problems. The authorities in this town ignored me because the stalker is a former political figure. Be strong and do your best to continue with your life. Remember these stalkers are mentally ill. Manage it as best you can.

Vickie

August 22nd, 2017 at
7:49 AM

YES! I’ve been learning Krav Maga (created in Israel by the IDF) and I’ve already learned how to “disable” a stalker in three seconds. I’m not a violent person at all but I realized it was up to me to protect myself because no on else was going to help me. I also watch daily Krav Maga videos on You TUbe and write it all down and practice my skills at home. Also bought a book on Krav Maga. Very effective and brutal. I’m also more aware of my surroundings now when I go out. And especially in closed in spaces like elevators I am very aware of who is standing behind me so I get behind them instead to monitor them. Also don’t go to empty parking lots or isolated areas anymore. It’s terrible being stalked even when you realize it may be my people you know!!!! Try Krav Maga!!!

cherry

November 11th, 2017 at
12:44 PM

hi friend. I’ve been stalked for years and particularly the last 2 years by a public official and his family and friends. it has changed my entire life however I have grown closer to GOD, its unreal the things that this group of people have done to me.

Barbara M

January 26th, 2015 at
9:43 PM

My spouse has been stalking me for years and it has gotten progressively worse as he has enlisted others to participate in his sick evil terrorizing games on me. And I too sought out law enforcement to no avail. He kept me totally isolated in his home for 2 1/2 years. I had no car, and the $900 a month I had to live on was used for groceries and household supplies. When I finally was able to purchase a car , he immediately began vandalizing it in a very short time this auto has been ruined and I still have a payment of $270 monthly. He has hacked into every cell phone I ve bought and the I pad. I have no safe way to communicate with anyone. I was able to move out into a wonderful friends home but the terror continues on a daily basis. Naturally my husband has made me out to be the mental case and he has been successful at doing so . My family is estranged from me…my friends don’t understand and get frustrated by me… By chance I had an x ray taken of my right foot. The technician asked me if I had foot surgery as their were lead pins in that foot! I was flabbergasted . The owner of this medical practice has a daughter who is a friend of my former step daughter so next thing I m being told that I lied about not having a surgery! Can anyone believe this? My husband has made several attempts on my life that were scary but lead poisoning is most scary. If I told anyone every thing he did to me on a daily basis they would never believe me. He is the crazy one. When we first married he talked daily about killing his former wife and her Mother in great detail. I read a true story of a man who murdered his former spouse, even in lue of the fact that he was now happily married. After I read it, I told my husband if he ever spoke to me about killing these women I was going to law enforcement. That stopped it as his former brother in law is a high powered attorney and his wife’s sister is now a federal judge. I wish I had relatives in high places but he would still convince the world it is me not him. When we lived together he brought women into our home. U could hear them and smell them but I couldn’t get it on film as he was watching me via my phone. He humiliated me in everyway possible . Every time I found employment he somehow sabotized the whole thing. He got dental insurance on me yet I was never allowed to use it. He destroyed all my contact lenses, he gave me a foot fungus and I paid a fortune for the med and u have to razor the feet weekly and file the infected toenail daily. He threw the razors away blades and med. All the time knowing I didn’t have transportation to replenish what he destroyed or the $$$. His cruelty has no boundaries and I ll be lucky to survive it all. It has taken an unbelievable toll on my life and the quality of life I desire. No one understands so it’s terrible to be tramuitizedndaily and tell no one. I ll never regain the years I have lost with my children and grands. Basically he has totally destroyed my life without one consequence. Why doesn’t law enforcement get it and help us???
L.,

Fay C

Fay C

July 16th, 2017 at
10:35 PM

I am getting more and more educated about stalkers by reading this site. I think that the victims are being strong-armed. Don’t let them get you down. But the ones who torture, humiliate and destroy your meds and things, take away from you, bring women into the home for sex, l don’t know, l think they’re evil. What would be best f
or the victim to do? Take them leave them, mostly leave them. It’s their choice. One other thing l learned. A stalker can be (anyone) a brother or sister or a friend. Now, that’s incredible.

joan g.

February 3rd, 2015 at
3:58 PM

I’have been stalked now for about 2yrs by a new nexta
door neighbour. We started out has friends did’nt get
on with her much realised she had a spilt
personalety she nearly run me over twice tryed to kill
me. From then I kept my distance from her came out of
her friiendship. she started followining me round in the days s he lay waits me. I’ try to avoid her.

Anonymous

February 5th, 2015 at
9:51 AM

I was stalked by a group of former highschool friends. It started off with unwanted texts, calls and even visits to my house. Then it turned into cyber-stalking where my former friends would impersonate me and post nasty comments about me. One of the best ways to deal with a stalker is to let your family and friends know. And that’s exactly what I did. I let my family and close friends know that I was being stalked by my former highschool friends. Change your phone number if you can and ignore whatever they have to say. From my experience, some stalkers are crazy enough to follow the victim to work, gym, school or wherever you go and say nasty comments out loud to make you feel intimidated. I’ve learnt to not respond to their pathetic behavior but take note of it in case I want to file a police report. Sometimes ignoring the stalker will not work. However, my experience has taught me that stalkers just want to control their victims. They crave for attention and by responding to them in a civil manner, it will give them the wrong idea that you’re letting them back into your life. Don’t feel ‘sorry’ for them because their actions speak louder than words. Stalking is wrong period. And it can be classified as a criminal harrassment.

olivia

February 7th, 2015 at
11:33 PM

Hi i need help i met a guy online i gave him my number one day he whatsapp me he told me i must come work for him as a sex worker i said no…so i lost his number now this year again yesterday he whatsapp me he said his coming to my place he pretend to be some1 i know i gave him my adress and my room number as he entered the place start to call me names. if i tell u something i dont take no as answer…i didnt open the door he left he sai he will send his boys to come and kill me im so scared i dont know what to do and i dont know him

mason

March 2nd, 2015 at
8:55 PM

Hello my name is mason I understand your situation if I were you I would change my room emmediately do not wait. You hear me stay strong and call the cops. If you go to the cops they can trace that number that’s calling your phone harrassing you I’m serious girl. And stay off them got damnable websites there’s allot of sick mother tucker’s out there I’m serious girl its not worth it you only get one life protect it.

mason

March 2nd, 2015 at
9:02 PM

Do not wait Olivia go to the cops. Trust me no female is able to fight a grown man if hes threatening to come to your dorm. Since your a female his asa can go to jail. Anybody that messes with women espescially in today’s society its called menacing . For your protection id digest you stay off them got damnable websites. Keep it low key and don’t tell. No one about this people are shady now a days trust no one

mason

David S

watcher

not a coward ,…a mason. kind of how one could be a brave soldier but not good or a hero. not their fault at most points though we are all misled and misdirected at times

lisa

February 13th, 2015 at
12:55 AM

I’m being stalked by a brother in law on husband side. He and his wife stayed in my hone about week before I had to a.sk them to leave because he as they was trying to take over my home and left me to stay locked in my room. When I said this is not going to work out they need to leave he became abusive so I called fir assistants from police officer. Ever since then he will not leave me alone even though theirs a restraining order he keep calling so I blocked there numbers now he been driving by my house raising his engine and speeding down the road in front of our home he’s threaten to hurt me he’s threaten to shoot methe police officer said the second papers were mixed up but if does it again then they maybe able to do something I believe he trying to find me alone then he will make his move tonight he drive by lights off until he seen me then he took off even with orders he still watches my house trying to heiress me I have bought a gun and keep it loaded beside my bed but I never wanted to have to protect myself in that way. What can you say to make them just leave you alone.

katie

February 17th, 2015 at
8:07 PM

Hey my name is katie I’m being stalked by a guy named jason. he goes to the same school as me he’s in 8th grade so am i. I don’t know what to do i filed an incident report I’m a almost finished lots of evidence to put in. he’s blond hair and know he wears a denim jacket. he dated my best friend allyson. she broke up with him. he’s been stalking me ever since january 12. the day he was welcomed back from bringing a pocket knife in school. he goes to my homeroom class. I’m really scared. for my safety. i think he’s totally bossed with me he won’t take no as an answer. the only reason that i think he stalking me is because i dated his friend named daniel. he was jelous though.his friend broke up with me. i don’t know why. my friends say it might’ve been jason. oh well. plz give me advice. my parents know to. i tried different routes every mourning it won’t work. last time he showed up the same time as me early in the mooring with his car beside me. he was behind me. i started running.

Fay C

kimura

March 2nd, 2015 at
3:02 AM

Been stalked by neighbours and their children. Heard they’re playing personality changing games. Felt like they’re staring in my house to see my reactions and personality or character guess. Heard they even bet money on me. Like the kids were saying ” I’m right! Give me $10″ . Started since last year. Really long.

rafiqa

i met this person about 15yrs ago, at a local gym…we talked for several week, everything seemed to be clicking, our likes, dislikes, etc..feelings were growing between us.

then, i notice that he seemingly wanted to keep things at a level, of seeing him only at the gym, i couldn,t reach him directly unless it was his beeper. he would call me back from a pay phone.

i had receive info that he stayed with his mother, which, he never brought up, and i think, that was the reason he didn,t want things to tighten.

anyway, he would let me know when he would leave the gym, which i thought was polight.

then, i started noticing males, of different ages at the gym, eyeing me. not from a romance type of thing, it seemed as if i was being watched. i would test it, by moving to an area where it was just me, a couple of minutes later here is a male, looking in that area, then leaving.

i remember talking my acquaintance this, he responded by saying,,,”don,t worry about that, your hear to get your workout”. now that was his opportunity to tell me that he was having me watched, when he would leave the gym.

my frustration was building, because several weeks passed, and we were still on the same level, i game up to the gym on night around 6pm, to talk to him, about us, should we just be friends, he agreed he said he,d be through with his workout abound 7:30pm.

i notice that it was about a quarter to 8pm. i looked around and didn,t see him. he had left the gym.

from that night my feelings gradually dimenished for him.

but i kept noticing eyes watching me around the gym. at this point, i would see this person every now and then.

i enrolled in another gym. at that time, i didn,t know the extend of the stalking. there was a younman, that sat next to me, and said”hello”. i spoke back. i didn,t think much of that at the time. every-now and then, this happens. usu. a male, of different ages, approach me and say hello. as if, they were sent.

when i first taked to acquaintance.. we were 45yr. we are now, 60yrs. as of jan 2015.

bottom line is, he doesn,t stalk me himself, he get others to watch me, everytime i come out my door, til i go back in my door. if its him, it,s when its late like around 11pm.

he was a personal trainer at the gym and he had a part-time job else where.

i don,t think he his dangerous, but its very annoying to be watched and followed everyday. especially since we were never intimite, never dated, never considered as a relationship. so why the stalking, watching, following, i just don,t know. but i,m tired of it. he has people from my job that i notice is watching me, for him. its really studpid and weak, the very thing he is having others do… this is the reason, i would not have anything to do with him…he just doesn,t get it.

gaby

March 13th, 2015 at
12:27 PM

I know the feeling. This man would have his coworkers and friends show up at my job and spy on me. that is why i didnt want not one thing to do with this man. Even his ex would come to “check up on me”. That is the feeling i got like he was checking up on me through other people. Creepy to say the least.

nora m.

March 12th, 2015 at
2:12 AM

I’ need to speak to someone concering begin stalked for three and half years these people stalks me wherever I move the peoples changes up I have moved 5 times since 2014 now I am at this new place what they do is break down the trailor weaken the floors and I lived in an apt about 6 month they were in the attic next door to me I have mostly lived in mobile homes it seems I am a target wherever I live in Mississippi I am a disable student I was a perfect one to begin target because of my disability they have tried to burn me up saying I am crazy have labeled me it started in a certain town it was because I told someone I was renting from who it was they told me I should have kept my mouth shut I have bad nerve disorder from an abusive marriage and my ex-husband kill my baby and tried to kill me WITH GOD and the DOCTORS I am still here no one wants to help me even the police force they think I am crazy by saying they are under my trailor it is a joke to them looses up the foundation on it even some of my so call friends knows and they have people they know that is and has been involve but you think anyone cares to help me they are hoping it drives me crazy it is affecting my health I need to move from this state I need help to know hoe I can get away from Mississippi thank you.

Valerie

June 22nd, 2016 at
7:10 PM

I was stalked 2 years ago here is up for parole September it took me 2 years to get him in jail I had to get the governor and atty general to help because the police was laughing like it was funny I still fear this man right now l am trying to move out of the state l have written my government office in my state so I am waiting to here back have heard they like they are going to help me and cause he is a veteran he had more rights then me so if any one needs any help you can contact me through my email l have a lot of information

gaby

March 13th, 2015 at
10:14 AM

I had a car accident more than 4 years ago and i ended up being treated by a young married chiropractor. This lasted about 6 months. He seemed to have developed an interest in me. He would go out of his way to give me the best treatment. I think it was because i had really good insurance. He would make comments about how he wanted to marry me but that was strange to me because he was married. That i must be feeling better because i was smiling more. I started to feel uncomfortable. The therapy ended and i began to walk at a park to help me deal with the side effects of my car accident and to lose the weight i gained. When i started my walks the chiropractor would show up at the same time. I would go at different times and the chiropractor would see me walking and show up too. He would sit on park benches and just watch me. Then he would park in the parking lot of the park and just sit there and stare. He tried to talk to me but i never spoke to him again even when he passed right in front of me. This has been going on for 4 years and counting. He dumped his first wife and married a black woman who looks like a skeleton. Very skinny just opposite of what i look like. i still go for my walks and he still drives by. I dont think his new wife knows he does this. So sad to me. He parades her all over and in front of me like i would be jealous of them. lets see how long that lasts. I just want the man to leave me alone. Go and stare at your wife and leave me alone.

rafiqa

Beenthroughit

March 17th, 2015 at
11:00 PM

I was criminally stalked and harassed by a neighbour. I got a spy cam and rigged it up on my front door to show him besetting me and then relocated it to other windows to show him lurking outside. Finally it cumulated in me moving with Police help to ensure he wouldn’t follow me. It took months of repeated reports. I was beyond terrified and it took an incredible toll on me. Read the book by Gavin Debecker called the ‘Gift of Fear’, he profiles the types of stalkers and the tactics they use. I relocated entirely and cut all ties. I ‘lost’, that part of myself and my life in order to gain freedom and reclaim my life. The disgust and hate I feel towards him eclipses anything I have ever felt. Anyone who stalks is crazy. Period. The most striking thing from ‘The Gift of Fear’, for me was ‘ to engage is to enrage’, now I have been experiencing harassment by a degenerate nut in my area who frequents a store I used to enjoy going to. Now after reading all of your posts and remembering what I went through I realize I have to stop going there period. Be unpredictable. Stalkers thrive on your routine. Change routes, times, days. I wore a personal camera to record evidence. Having lived through it involving the Police takes months, in my case well over a year BUT any and all evidence you can get is more ammunition to protect you. Ultimately? Prepare what you can and leave. A friend of a friend was being stalked so one day she just walked away from her entire life. I was lucky but in retrospect I should have just left. A couple years of hard work and second hand shopping would have replaced it all anyways. Time is precious and we have just one life. If they harass you at work, leave your job. If they harass you at your home leave. What it comes down to is it is your life. Things, regardless of what they are cannot ever compare to the value of your life. Be careful who you let into your life. Walk tall. Take self Defense. Stalkers prey on those who are nice’, ‘too polite’ and like me timid. I know there are many cases that are the exception but in general predators prey on those they perceive as being potential victims. I have PSTD but I fight it every day. It has been quite a few years of being free but nip it in the bud, ( if possible), by saying you are not interested, not sorry, not anything else. Only that, just once, this applies for early on stalking behaviours, not long term stalking. I know every case is different but read up on it. You will be able to figure out what type of stalker you are dealing with. Unfortunately the laws aren’t stringent enough.it is a sinister way for someone to invade the life of someone and it is all about power and control. People who stalk are empty shallow and pathetic vessels of nothingness. Find a way out of your life. They will move on. Stalkers need something to ‘feed off of’. I cannot imagine how they justify their actions but that clearly only serves to emphasize the extent of their utter lunacy.
I hope this helps someone. Remember it’s your life. Cherish it. Protect it. Things do not matter. Only you do!

rafiqa

March 18th, 2015 at
3:24 PM

dear beenthroughit…we all want peace of mind and privacy…believe me, i agree…BUT…as you said, this is my life, and i,m not going to run from someone that,s trying their best to invade my privacy and take my power. i,m the victum, but i,m not the weak. i will not go down without a fight. this is my god given life, no one but the creator will deniey me my right to live my life to the fullest. that,s my stand to my stalker, and his little weak helper, who have nothing else to do.

cathy

March 22nd, 2015 at
7:06 AM

Hi, I have been stalked for 25 yrs. I’ve done every suggestion I’ve read. Change everything about me. Where I go, changed a job I loved, which payed very well. Finally relocated. IAfter all this advise, I am not happy. I live where I don’t like it. I loved my former home. Yes, I’m alive, but never have felt the fun loving person I was. I dealt with his friends, or I call thenm free employees. It’s incredible how many ppl will get involved doing someone’s dirty work. Periodically I go thru flashbacks. The latest has been since the internet. He hacked my email and sent disgusting pornography to all my contacts. And under investigation that may or maynot go anywhere. Using my ss number at will. I havent found a good job for the last 10 yrs. He has attached me being in a phych. Hospital. This is being looked into. Believe me, what he has done, it becomes so difficult to undo. I have never been in a hospital except for day surgery. The pornography lost me a dream I had wanted for years. Not to mention, the 20,000’s plus phone calls. Pretending to be an Indian telemarketer, from the u.s. gov, and just plain screaming profanities. Standing outside my bedroom window doing his sick thing. Having the police storm my place because I was using my phone. I still don’t know what thats about, but his stink is all over it. In hindsight, all the councilors I saw, were no help at all. The lawyers were spot on, but who trusts lawyers. My biggest mistake in dealing with this crime. Today, the drs are working with me to clear my ss number. I did not know you could change your number and name legally. This will be my next step. I used to be a ppl person, loved life, happy, had a plan for collage. Wanted children. Now, I’m so cautious, I’m more of a recluse.. He said he would destroy me and did. That’s the facts. I used to think noone could distroy you unless you let them. I was wrong. This is a war you fight alone also. No sane person can stand the constant battle. Stalking has yet to be a crime that truly has the punishment fitting.

autumn

March 27th, 2015 at
5:21 AM

I have been stalked for 5 years now. My ex has brutalized me with getting all the information that he wanted. I been wanting to leave and he kept holding back. I live in Arizona and I have called the police but there no use. I been stalked at friends house,my family house, my jobs,and everywhere I go. I have lost close people that I was closed too. I have been also hurting myself. The safest thing he will never give me or his addressed or nor turn himself in. He has been hurting me for years. He tells me that I needed counseling and get help but honestly it’s him. And now he has been hurting me with myself, and my family and hurting me with my kids. Trying to blame me and tell him what he needs to you. I have been wanting out of this abusive relationship since I have realized this guy that has put me through troubles
I regret him to the fullest. He has hurt me with my mental illness and tells me what I can cannot do. He tries to changed my life. But he’s honestly told me some nasty things about me. That was the first relationship and the first he has really abused me. He has slander me in my home. I have told him more than once to leave me alone and he refused. I do something that I want to do and he hurts me with me and my past and my life. I believe that this isn’t LOVE. You don’t do this to a person and think they will be with you. My stalker also told me that I can’t take care of myself and he has also been harassing me that I can’t hold a job and that I need to get on my s.s.i. M

sakina m

April 4th, 2015 at
5:27 PM

i definitely can relate and did mostly evrythng u stated also except chnge my name n ss number my emails and phone accounts s hacked continuosly n im tryna gt counseling myself cause it weighs on u after a long journey of restarting over n over n noone believes u u feel stuck and unable to get out the craziness… im tryna fnd new ways myself

jenny

April 9th, 2015 at
8:46 PM

Do you know who your stalker is?

rafiqa

March 22nd, 2015 at
9:07 AM

dear cathy…someone is going to have the power. either you or him. we must not give stalker any power from us, we are the victim, but not the weak. we must rally to KEEP THE POWER. god,s peace be with you

Molly

March 28th, 2015 at
10:22 PM

Am I horrible to admit that I am relieved there are others like me out there,You just wait for the other shoe to drop sometimes wishing it would to get the whole thing over with. I quit my good government job after my dog was was poisoned. he was my co-worker.I didn’t even understand what stalking was. I will never be the same. He believes God appeared to him and is telling him how to “heal” me. He was told to leave me alone his response ” Gods laws are higher than mans” “God is testing him” “God brought us together”. Things have been quiet since I quit work although sometimes I feel he is in the woods watching I live in the country)I know he did this with another person he focused on. a couple of days ago when I went to take care of the animals in the barn one of the doors was wide open and there was a dead bird in front of the other door. Because of my horses I am very obsessive about closing everything up is this just something explainable? Times past he would do little things like take my keys, get into my desk to let me know even though he was talked to he could still get to me. Is he starting things up again? There is just so much to say I know my story is not different than anyone else.While I was at work I sought help from a counselor when she read his letters she said he had 7 out of 10 markers for violence. I have stopped saying anything to anyone around me whats the point we all just want to get on with our lives so I just say everything is great, it is what people want to hear. So here I am on the internet desperate to find someone out there who gets this who maybe doesn’t think I am crazy when I say I believe in my heart he will have another mental breakdown and I will loose my life. Even to see those words I know I sound crazy. You know I go out to the living room to sleep after my husband falls asleep so if he does have a breakdown and come into our house he will find me first so my husband will be safe. I am not intending to sound melodramatic . Thank you for listening.

sakina m

April 4th, 2015 at
5:36 PM

i can relate to ur story more cause im still going thru ths now and i have several stalkers hacking my phone and emails erasing messages and blocking thngs i pt on facebook n who communicates wth me in facebook also it can b mindboggling especially if u dnt kno who it s like my situation these stalkers are feeding off us being upset and tht gives them amunition to continue it and kp doing it worse and worse because theres noone tht can or will stop them its ashame bt so true all i can say is kp striving and turn ur internet n if ur case is like mine turn phone off too and sound them out cause whn the internet n phones s off there s no stalking n no way to continue it.. why u unplugged their access… i do it all the time thts wht mkes thm madder. cause us being happy n sounding them out furiates them. try it it works….

Jennifer

January 25th, 2016 at
11:19 PM

Facebook stalking is insane. My hacker likes to block messages, hide pics and comments from friends accounts its hacked into. These people are nuts and obviously have no life but to be in yours and in mine. It will band together with other weirdos it comes across while stalking you.

clair b

December 24th, 2015 at
9:45 AM

You are doing the right thing by telling every one what’s going on with this stalker that was your co- worker and I’m so sorry about losing your dog.I had a jerk,stranger stalk me thank god he was afraid of my pets ,ger. Shep.& pit- bull .He would follow me around when I walked them until they tried to attack him.Keep family,friends any one who will listen informed about him and his actions.I would tell your former employer again about what he did to you all his behavior,call the cop’s if he shows up at your house in the country ,keep a journal.I finally got results when I had the mental jerk on video attempts to break in my house—-cops did something for a change. God will keep you safe,pray like I did.God bless.

robin

Ayla

April 10th, 2015 at
4:56 PM

I started recieveing calls from my stalker about a year ago, he started calling me I never rcoignzed the number and honestly just thought he was some guy I met at the club who I gave my number to when I was drunk. I slowly started to realize I’ve never met him, but he knows everything about me, my bestfriend and my close friend. I searched on all my social media websites to see if he got any of the information online, but I’m a very private person and don’t put any of my personal information like that online. He knew where I was whenever I called, he knew who I was with, he knew everything. Lately since I’ve become more suspicious and started asking questions, I think he realized I was onto him. I even called the cops but they didn’t help. Now he just calls me to masterbate to my voice. It’s disgusting. I’m scared to block his number because that could make him angry, I don’t know who he is, but I swear to god he knows everything about me.. It’s absolutely terrifying.

CSG

April 16th, 2015 at
7:12 PM

I am presently being stalked and harass and it has been going on for over 10 years of which I am aware. However, because of the anonymity of the stalker, I cannot stop their criminal campaign to control and destroy my life. The stalking and harassment have progress over the years into the areas of gang/community stalking and harassment, workplace bullying and harassment and psychological harassment, to the point of conspiracy, with planned techniques carried out by organizations and individuals recruited to take part.

To be vindictively group stalked and harassed is a very traumatic experience. My stalker and his perpetrators control my life and environments and take away my human rights, dignity, privacy and destroy all relationships and subsequently my life. I am willfully, maliciously, spitefully spied on, followed and harassed everywhere I go. I am target through indirect communication and contact instead of the typical direct stalker contact, by someone who has no respect, self-control or any moral conscience. They don’t regard what they’re doing as a crime, or even wrong. They have sociopath, psychopath, and sadistic, narcissistic behaviours and are mentally imbalance, but can also behave like a normal person when warranted.

My stalker obtained information about me over the years by spying on me. They observed my routines, habits, lifestyle, my activities, my private conversations in my home and in and around offices, workplaces, buildings and out in public. Through technology, intercepts my emails, phone calls or messages, texts, passwords, and hack my computer. I believe they even use psychic of every kind, telepathic, occult etc. to get information about me. (I can never find any spyware whenever I checked, I believe they know when I am checking and remove everything temporarily.) With these means my stalker is able to control my life to an even greater extent. They deliberately make it known what they are doing to me, by having people around me repeat all my personal and private information/thoughts from throughout the years to present day.

Currently, this behaviour predominately takes place in my workplace, Advantage Sales and Marketing Canada, where my most traumatic, bullying and harassing experience is taking place for years now. The majority of individuals are unprofessional, unethical, corrupt, and quite blatant about it to me, knowing that they have the power of the organization to protect themselves behind, as everyone/every department is involved with the bullying and harassment. There are certain groups of people who obtain personal information on me daily from my stalker and start the harassing as soon as I start work until I leave. Unbelievable to some, when I tell them the scale of the organization involvement, into spying on me and harassing and bullying me with my personal information.
Unfortunately, If I try to get another job, which I have in the past, they interfere with employers and agencies and if for whatever reason I do get a job offer, they would infiltrate the whole workplace and start the cycle all over again within the organization including any contacts I deal with through the company, as is currently being done.

They slander, ridicule and humiliate me to everyone, at the same time destroying my basic human rights to personal privacy, dignity, life and damaging my cognitive skills, causing mental/emotional torment and anguish, while continuing to be in control and destroy my life through various individuals, who shield them, while they remain concealed to carry out their criminal actions.

They maliciously and deceitfully manipulate my life and run interference everywhere I go, including with my son. My stalker went to the extreme of inserting them self into any type of relationships I have with others, including employers, co-workers, neighbours, family and friends, landlords, tenants, teachers etc. They even contact casual acquaintances and complete stranger I come in contact with including retail store clerks, mechanics, bankers, doctors, neighbours, students, kids, business contacts, waiters, government workers, lawyers, community agencies, my son school teachers, friends and their parents, principals, doctors, everyone they can. Their techniques are always the same, influencing people to use them, dispersing my personal and private information to them and have them repeat it in my presence to harass me and humiliate my every where I go. They even get strangers to sit next to me in restaurants, waiting rooms, offices etc. and repeat information from my life. They humiliate, slander and subsequently isolate me, leaving me with no support from anyone and them in control. With no one speaking up against their actions, I cannot obtain the evidence to stop them and get my normal life back, free of spying and controls.

They even went so far as to contact radio shows hosts that I listen to and get them to make certain comments during the time I listen. They even get callers to call in and insert certain comment into their conversation. (I don’t know how they know when I will tune it but they seem to). They even got involved into TV shows I watch and inserted certain comments into the dialog, that would be obvious to me. They even hack into my ebooks and insert phrases and sentences based on conversation I had or happened around me. It appears they also either hacked into other websites and did the same thing, or they convince the administrator to insert certain story/sentences/wordings etc. on their sites, or they put (too many instances of same conversations wordings and senarios to be coincidences). This conduct will be hard to believe by they lay person, and no, I am not schizophrenic or psychotic (which is what they want me to become). They even contacted doctors I went to see. How they are influencing these people, I don’t know, but no one is willing to speak up against them, to stop their perverse invasive obsession into my life and my son.

Some other techniques my stalker uses are to get people create various types of disturbances and interferences in my daily life normalcy, such as being crass, rude, loud, ridicule my lifestyle, my experiences and personal conversations. They follow me 24/7 in malls, public meetings, community centers, in offices, on public transportation etc. everywhere I go. They even have people imitate physical items from my life to show they have been spying on me and following me. Whatever their resources, they seem to anticipate my every move and plan ahead and contact the peoples I am meeting before I arrive, and get them to repeat various parts of personal information/conversations when speaking to me or have others around me repeat it so I can hear them. They spread information to slander me, embarrass me, humiliate me, destroy my reputation and character and prevent any relationships from forming and alienating me from others, thus keeping me isolated so they can remain in control of my life.
Tactics are sometimes so bizarre and trivial that it’s hard to believe when I tell people. Conversations repeated about me, scenarios and problems I encounter would appear somewhat normal to the untrained eye, but psychologically humiliating and destructive to me, as only I would know how the information/situation are related to me, when they are repeated around my environment, other than the perpetrators.
The perpetrators lie and cover up for themselves and the criminal stlker, self-righteously going about invading my privacy, bullying and harassing me with my private information, while they cover up their own behaviors and information.
My stalker also target my son since he was in early elementary school. They told his teachers, principals, friends, parents, strangers in the school environment about me and our personal life information and have them repeat various parts of information to harass and embarrass us whenever I went to his school. My son was too young to understand what was being done to him and around his environment, but no one spoke up to help a young child and protect him. I had to stay away from his school to protect him from getting further bullied by kids during regular school hours. I couldn’t get involved with school activities, parents groups, or assist him there in any way. I couldn’t take him to community programs or extra-curricular actives or expose him to various learning experiences, as I wanted. I believe the stalker eventually somehow inserted himself into my son life, and threatened him, so he can get my son to also say certain words around me based on conversations I had away from him. (This is the type of behaviour I have noticed over time). I believe my son is fearful to speak up.

Some ways it affected me was I got to the point of fearing going out in public due to unrelenting following and harassment. You cannot go out and form relationships or get help, because of their inference of constantly being slander and humiliated wherever you go. I had to constantly change jobs at one time until I couldn’t afford to do so. I had to hold down a steady job and then they infiltrate the workplace place and caused everyone to viciously bully and harass me with my personal and private information, along with demeaning and ridiculing me daily. My Job performance is affected along with my career and education progression. My lifestyle is changed and life plans are affected because of their interference. Your personality is affected along with cognitive ability. My relationships with everyone are manipulated and destroyed; anyone who tries to support me are eventually manipulated and turned against me. You get physically sick with stress and the constant violation and harassment, with no peace and normalcy around you.

“They isolate and ostracize you from the larger community and society” including even family and friends. You cannot escape the obsessive group stalking and victimization. “ Even people around who witness the harassing acts, will deny it is even happening and not speak up.”

Because of the “indirect way the personal information is repeated by numerous individuals to psychological harass” me when I tell people I am being stalked and harassed out in the community, it makes me “appear to be mentally sick and problematic, ensuring no one will believe me and help me”, allowing the stalker free reign over my life. I constantly live in a state of violation, intrusion, stress, anxiety, apprehension and fear for myself and son, with daily harassment at work and everywhere I go. No one will speak up to help me and my son.

stockholm

May 13th, 2015 at
7:30 AM

CSG, i have the same story in Stockholm in Sweden. I came to work before 1 month, april 2015, and everything being orginized and harasment start from first day, when step from apartmen every thing what you say hapening to me. When i go to walk in centar people start to diskretize me on every street, then in train all way till my home. This is posible coz dont have family and frends here. But i can not beleve how many people do it stalking coz this is sick, whay they do it this. I think Sweden have high protect for human right, so i hope there exist non-governmental organizations for the protection of human rights.

OMG if you are not kidding then I really and truly praise you for just stating that you have experienced what I too also have experienced (particularly work place bullying )…my healing can start and begin…but what can we do??? About it??

Out of all the MANY situations I have read about on here…my experience is most like yours..I was glad to find anyone speaking of the subject openly (being bullied/ harrassed) on here but boy….if you really have gone through these seemingly identical detailed horrors as I have then I am blessed to have stumbled across this website. …It seemed like NO ONE BELIEVED ME!!! Even those who care about me…..my life has never been the same sincevthese happenings…

Juju

Molly

April 29th, 2015 at
10:08 AM

Juju, Although I do not know how my story will end it is important for me to acknowledge that I did everything in my power once I realized what was happening to seek help. If my story is like yours, know you are not alone seek help, there are people who understand this sort of thing.In the beginning I was laughed at by my postmaster when I told him that I was frightened, I was blamed, accused of giving him the wrong signals, told I was weak,he told me to stop acting so afraid. He refused to read the letters this man had written me. I had a shop steward who saw what was happening she stuck with me during this whole thing having to hear crazy religious rants from my stalker and feared for her own saftey. All we heard in the beginning was silence from the Union and the higher ups in management. She stood up alone, we were desperate to find help and I will never forget the day my supervisor said ” I will help you”. I clung to that like it was my life line.I believe it was, no one will ever be able to tell me I would not be a victim of violence if he had not stepped in. My supervisor put himself between us and made it more difficult for him to get to me.Even my supervisor had limited options. Government agency’s work different than the private sector. The counselor I was seeing tried every avenue to report a potential threat believing if he continued his downward spiral it would very potentially be a murder suicide and would happen at work. I was told to contact postal inspectors. Nothing really happened until I got a temp stalking order at that point he was put on admin leave. It took a year and a half to get help. This man is still employed at a different office and there is a letter on file with the court system. Once the union president actually talked to him he became very alarmed and my name was put on a priority call list with the sheriffs office. I quit in part not because it wasn’t proven but because he knew my route and I had seen him watch me once on my route after court. Knowing it was just to hard to start all over with the documenting and fearful he would retaliate. That mngment would just think I was trying to keep things going by bringing it up again. The toll it took on my close friends and family and the concern that if he had another breakdown many people would be hurt. The horrible backlash from a group of co workers even though they did not really know. For many other reasons as well I chose to walk away from a 16 yr career. I sometimes wonder if staying working there would have been safer but honestly with an unstable person no one really knows. I have I guess they are called flash backs sometimes and I know I will never not look over my shoulder. I just don’t want anyone around me to come to harm if this man has another psychotic episode. Juju I’m telling you my story to encourage you to get help it is your best chance it doesn’t matter how long it takes. someone will listen. It doesn’t mean it will ever really be over or when everyone else moves on you can move on. It doesn’t mean this person will not commit an act of violence or retaliate against you. People might not believe you, in my case he had stepped up at work and was helping everyone so if I asked for help people would not believe me. Someone listened, it isn’t a promise that everything will be ok but it is your best chance that things will be.

Juju

February 19th, 2017 at
3:35 AM

To Molly,
Hi Molly ! I first came to this sight in 2015 where I read your story and commented on it . Then I lost it…I can’t believe it is now 2017 and i just now happend on your reply to me. Thankyou so much! Please let me know how you’ve been.

Juju

February 19th, 2017 at
11:43 PM

I have never told my story on a support site before . I came across this site 2 years ago but I lost it. I had responded to a womens story named molly. Just lastnight I came across this site and 2 years later seen her reply back to me. I hope she is ok. I have been looking for an online support group . All of your stories prove more and more to me that I haven’t been crazy all these years. I’ve done alot of research on stalkers . I needed to see how much danger I was in and found out as much as they can figure about stalkers they now have 4 or 5 catagories of different types of stalkers. It says though since they are so unpredictable it’s really hard to categorize all stalkers. I believe that because my nightmare had all of them. Mine started in 1995 which is really strange because doing my research it seemed like alot of stories I read about seemed to be in that year on forward . The stalker was a coworker. It is true how one thing you say or do can change everything as I did ,not even knowing. I worked in a factory on a 12 hour night shift. At first we had to work 7 months on day shift before being transferrd to nights. So as I was leaving that morning . He (the stalker) held the door open for me and as I walked out I popped off something Like wow ! There still are some gentleman is this world! And said thankyou…..and kept walking. That is all it took and my life had just changed forever. I was in a relationship at that time. And it wasnt a healthy one. So I was kind of down on men so that was why I said what I did. Eventually the stalker came to nights and became friends with a guy who was in my group of people I took breaks with. I believe now , to find out information on me. I didn’t think that at that time. As days went on the stalker oneday came up and asked me out. I politely told him no. I told him i had a boyfriend. I was on my way to breaking up with this boyfriend, but he didn’t need to know that. This is when I started listening to my gut feeling. Please listen to it . I listened to it during that time and I still do today. I believe that is what has kept me alive so far. I thank God for it. I also noticed red flags early on . He kept asking me out even though I told him I had a boyfriend, but I also confided in a person I thought was my friend. Now that I think about it I believed she told him that i was in a bad relationship. Another thing be careful who you trust. I really trusted this friend and after all of this while I forgive her,I have never spoke to her again . During work my friends and i would slip notes to each other. My friends then starting telling me the stalker was going through the trash looking for the notes we wrote to each other. Another thing shred your information. Things started getting worse as the days went on the stalker constantly asking me out . Then oneday he came to my area pacing in front of me asking me ,yelling at me why I wouldn’t give him a chance! This went on everyday for weeks. One morning after work he followed me to my car yelling at me and accusing me of sleeping with 3 different guys that worked with us! I yelled back at him . One night he asked me if I would take him home after work . I said no, I’m sorry I’m not going that way. He begged me for awhile and I just kept telling him no. I waited until my whole shift left and the day shift was about to come in. As I snuck to my car thinking I was in the clear. There he was saying hey sexxy will you give me a ride? I said you know what I will because we need to talk! Never do this please ! I was frustrated and was thinking I could stop it. When we got into my dad’s truck because my car was in the shop. I told the stalker this has got to stop! I am not your girlfriend and you need to stop yelling at me and accusing me of sleeping with other guys! His face changed and as we drove he said he knew my sisters were trying to set me up with a cop and I hate cops! he said. As we got off of the interstate to get to his house I was thinking what am I doing?! As we get close to his parents home we pass a small cemetary and he asked me do you see that cemetery over there? I said yes . He says that is where I’m going to bury you. I said what? And he said that’s where I’m going to bury you. The way he said it just so calm. I knew he meant it. He even had a half smile on his face when he said it. After that I realized how much trouble I was in…and it was going to get worse .I decided I was not going to talk to him at all no matter what. During all this time he was leaving notes and gifts at my work area. When he started to realize I was starting to save everything, he started snatching them back after I read it. He then started pacing in front of my work area every night screaming at me I was ——-history!!!! It was loud where we worked. Earplugs were mandatory. People could hear him screaming at me over all the noise! I remember being home oneday looking in the mirror and I noticed my eyes, where was the sparkle ? Where was the life in my eyes ? It was gone. Even as I write this after all these years it still makes me cry. I felt like I was a walking target. I had no idea when ,but I knew he was going to kill me. We had a company picnic. I had broke up with my boyfriend (after a year of trying to handle the stalking myself ,i finally asked for his help he blamed me ! He says what did you do?! That was finally the last straw and i ended it) so I took my big sister with me . The so called friend of mine whom I trusted told the stalker what time I was planning to be there! We waited until 8:30 at night.the picnic was held at an amusement park. My sister says let’s ride the log ride. So when we got there , there was the stalker with the guyfriend from our break group! He grabbed my hand and kissed it! My sister told me he looked crazy so we ran off into the crowd . Little while later we went back to the ride. And with no sight of them we stood in line. All of a sudden there they were again! My sister says when our log gets here we will jump in and loose them! Meanwhile I’m feeling something wet on my shoulder . I thought it was water from the ride. When I turned to look it was the stalker licking my shoulder like a french kiss! I yelled at him to stop! As I looked around everyone in the line was looking at him horrified ! I think he was feeling of himself as he was licking my shoulder! As my sister and I plan on jumping into the log the man moving the log was slow and the stalker and his friend jump in too, with the stalker right behind me ! As we go into the dark tunnel, I was in such disbelief that this is happening! He puts both hands on each side of my legs and kisses the back of my head . He says I know something about you and I’m kind of mad you didn’t tell me. I knew then he knew my boyfriend and I had broken up. We were about to approach the part where you go down the steep slope and plunge into the water and again the little voice inside said don’t give him the pleasure of hearing you scream and I was sitting in the front! But I held it in . After the ride my sister and I jumped out ran back into the crowd and went back to her house! Meanwhile looking behind us all the way to make sure we weren’t being followed. I knew things were going to get worse when I got back to work. The stalker was also on drugs crank I was told he never lined up the crank he snorted it with a straw straight out of the bag . Sometimes he would say to me were following you ….your plan won’t work! During this time I went to the OSBI for background checks twice 3 pages of drugs ,dui’s gambling. I had to know what I was dealing with….. he through a piece of paper with his phone number in my car with his number on it. He forgot I guess his s.s number was on the other side ,so I could use that to help me get the background check. My boss started noticing the harassment and moved me to the other side of the building to keep the stalker away from me and restricted him from going to my area. That did not stop him . He still brought over notes and gifts and started throwing things at me. One night he was running the machine I was working on. I didnt know it until he threw a part at me so hard when it hit my head it instantly gave me a headache. I had not talked to him in months except for when I yelled at him at the ride that night. I had enough ! It is not easy to work when your looking down but still having to look around to make sure not fixing to get shot or punched or knifed. Like I said I had enough and I flew around my table and went up to him and put my finger in his face and told him he better never throw another thing at me! He is 6 foot 1 he looked down on me and just smiled at me .I talked to him that’s all he wanted he didn’t even care it was out if anger. One night a women went missing from work she had to walk home because her kids had not shown up to pick her up . She had seizures and couldn’t drive. Posters went up . A few days later she was found after she crawled up to the road after being raped and I’m assumed beaten and then thrown off of a bridge. She said she didn’t know who did it because she had a seizure. I never seen her at work again. Later on one night I was sitting outside by myself when the stalker and this guy came out . The stalker took the chair I had my foot on and sat in it right in front of me and said did you hear about that poor women you know that was kidnapped ? wasn’t that terrible ? Wasn’t that sad? With the same smirk smile he gave me when he said he was going to bury me in the cemetery by his parents house. I just glared at him without saying a word because I knew if I spoke that was exactly what he wanted. I could tell when he jumped up and went back inside i made him mad from my glare and not saying a word. One night he was by my car and wanted to put this huge box in my car . I was leaving work early that night working overtime only 8 hours instead of 12. A friend went and got my car for me. He put the box in my car. When I got in to leave I was scared to death it was going to blow up! I got home it contained lingerie, a watch , a cd from my favorite band, a huge stuffed animal along with 2 small stuffed animals , condoms and 2 necklaces which I believed came from the kidnapped women who was raped and another women I learned about later who was raped and thrown off of the bridge next to a bar that the stalker went to. He called me from there one night. I often wonder if the rape happend that night. That lady’s neck was broken. I think the second necklace belonged to her. I had me an evidence box. Please do this! Keep whatever you get and document everthing. The stalker got my number off of a ins. Paper I filled out for work! He was looking over my shoulder ! When I seen him I yanked my paper away it was to late. Than the phone calls began! I would think it was my parents calling me from down the street. I would run down there each time to make sure they were safe. Things like the threats the notes the gifts kept coming. He was appearing at places where I’d be. He tried to make me crash into his car once when I was leaving work because I wouldn’t use my blinker to say which way I was turning so when I tried to make a quick right so he did too and i almost ran into him! He was asking people who knew where I lived offering them money to tell him! Please beware they do that pay people for information! One night finally I thought my nightmare was over! He finally got fired he came straight to my grinder to tell me about it . When my boss came over and told him I told you to get your things and get out! Again so loud in there but I could tell he was cussing and threatening my boss! My boss left and brought back the security guard who escorted him out! I heard there was a standing ovation. And. Clapping! Little did I know amidst all the relief I thought it was over ! Finally over! …….That it was never going to be over. That I would be looking over my shoulder for the rest of my life. That I would be closterphobic, have panic and anxiety, nearly an ulcer , shingles twice at an early age, nightmares , flashbacks , post traumatic stress disorder. After the stalker was fired in almost the year 2000 . People came up to me and told me that he told everyone he was my boyfriend and that he had went to my house and we got into a fight and he threatened to blow my house up. He had a shrine in his bedroom of a street sign with my name on it and other stuff . Then they told me if I knew everything he was saying and doing I would have never left my house. One night before he was fired he gave me a news clipping of a mother cat who had saved her kittens out of a burning building. Later a stray cat came to his house and she was going to have babies. She had 4 I was told. I was told he put these helpless baby kittens in a bag and threw them in fire and it was all my fault. I can’t tell you how that has tortured my mind all these years . I am a crazy animal lover. And I’m crying now just thinking about what those poor babies went through if this story is true. I have no dought he was capable of it. After he was fired he was put in jail for a high speed chase along with other things. For years I looked over my shoulder thinking he died of a drug overdose but I knew gut feeling he was in prison. Gut feeling said you need to do another background check. It was 7 pages long this time, assault and batterie with a dangerous weapon, assault and batteries on police officers and correctional officers, vpo that his own parents put against him, drugs, indecent exposure , grand larceny and more. Much later I even got the police reports. Very frightening. My life will never be the same. He is up for parole next year. He’s been in prison for 16 years. I hope they deny him again. I pray for it. He masterbates in his cell , out in the yard. He even masterbated in the back of the police car and anally sodomized himself violently . Please get police reports it will definitely let you know where you stand. I feel crazy still feeling this way after 16 years! But some stalking cases I have read about some have lasted longer! There is no dought in my mind he’s coming after me when he gets out. A few years ago when my husband took my evidence box out of the attic stating can I throw the crazy box away? At that time I thought it might be ok so I said yes I think it will be ok….for some reason we didn’t that day and I’m glad because a few weeks later got a phone call from an unknown number when I answered it was a voice that sounded like a computerized voice and they threatened me. So needless to say I kept the crazy box. THANKYOU so much for listening or reading my long story and I hope it has helped anyone reading this somehow. ……Please be safe

shawn

May 6th, 2015 at
1:52 PM

I am sick of it. After my then 7 year old daughter and testified against him twice for strangling me while I was holding my then 6 month old baby he harassed me staked me from the bushes across the street from my house.he would come in my house and make it well known to me that he was in there. He Put signs up about me and my daughters in my neighborhood and by my 7 year old’s school accusing me of having a sex offender hanging around my house (untrue of course) the signs had my address phone number the names of my children and of course my name. He messed with my car (slashed tires a rock through my windshield basically disabled it up to twice a week. Tried to slander my name. The list goes on. Now he is out of prison. I tried to be nice and allow him to see his daughter. …. now it is only out of fear that I have continued to because he started in with me right away trying to be with me and being a complete a-hole and trying to hang around.
I’M SICK IF BEING THE VICTIM I WANT TO FIGHT BACK but his personality type and with the situation his life is in now I know he will kill me if I get a Restraining order. He is hacking my phone now or again actually and my computer. Watching me ect. I WANT TO FIT BACK! I WANT TO REVERSE IT ON HIM! I WANT TO BE ABLE TO ALE HIM QUESTIONS LIKE ” WHAT TOOK YOU SO LONG IN YOUR BATHROOM THIS MORNING WHY WERE IN THERE FROM 9-8:40 a.m. Pacific time? ” or ” why did you call the library at 2 p.m. p acific time on Wednesday the 3rd of (whatever)” I JUST WANT TO BEAT HIM AT HIS OWN GAME. HELP! “PLEASE! is there anyone who would know how to do this.
Thank you so much.
Sincerely,
Shawn

Debbie

May 9th, 2015 at
3:03 AM

My stepdaughter is almost 40 and for years my husband kept telling me that she and her mother were extremely jealous of his second chance in life with me and our two children we have together. I’ll save all the misery details of how my husband’s ex wife use to stalk me, which did get rather bizarre and more increased with each of my pregnancies. Once even trying to harm my new born son at the time by breaking and shattering a glass window in the bedroom that she knew he was sleeping in! I was taught to forgive and keep it moving forward. Come to think about it, I forgave a lot from my husband’s first family. His ex finally found someone she fell deeply inlove with, which was a true blessing all the way around. For us it meant peace for her it meant happiness. During that time my stepdaughter and I were getting along. Everything seemed to be beautiful until the untimely death of my husband’s ex. After that is when I started to noticed the stalking tendencies in my stepdaughters actions with several failed relationships. Fast forward 15 yrs later and a failed marriage due in part by my stepdaughters actions she then gets involved with a married man who then leaves his wife and three sons to be with her. This man happenes to be a project manager at a home and business security cable company who specializes in audio and visual surveillance systems who has since been fired last September for stealing and yes you guessed it! My husband and I suspect they have been spying on several people, us included for what we are not sure but I have talked to his previous employer in what was going on with our phones and other internet devices not to mention my own family and they confirmed that my stepdaughters boyfriend was very knowledgeable in the cyber syncing and cyber spying. Is there anyone that may know how we can catch them? I have talked to a IT guy and it seemed like he hasn’t even heard of click jacking. The authorities say cybercrimes are very and virtually sometimes impossible to trace.

Sarah

KBev

May 25th, 2015 at
9:26 PM

I WANT YOU TO BE FULLY AWARE THAT THESE GANG STALKING CORRUPT COPS ARE LISTENING TO EVERY WORD WE SAY!!!!! MAYBE YOU TOO ARE GOING THROUGH THIS AND ARE ALREADY AWARE, I DON’T KNOW BUT THERE ARE AT LEAST DOZENS OF BUGS AND CAMERAS IN MY HOME AND THEY MONITOR ALLLLL OF MY HUSBANDS COMPUTER AND PHONE INTERRACTIONS THAT I USE TO COMMUNICATE WITH!!!! I WROTE TO HBO’S VICE TODAY AND WRITE TO PEOPLE DAILY ABOUT IT IN AN EFFORT TO SAVE OTHERS FROM HAVING TO DEAL WITH THIS MISERY! IT HAS TAKEN YEARS OFF OF MY LIFE ALREADY AND I HAVE TO CARE FOR A QUADRIPLEGIC SO PLEASE, DON’T WASTE MY TIME. NO OFFENSE, IF YOU ARE SERIOUS THOUGH, HIT ME UP!!!!!! I HOPE FOR YOUR MENTAL STATUS THEY AREN’T DOING TO YOU WHAT THEY DO TO ME, SERIAL KILLERS ARE TREATED WITH MORE RESPECT AND LOVE!!!!!!!
-YOURS, KITTY BEVERLY

Jennifer

January 25th, 2016 at
10:50 PM

Go to internal affairs. You have to believe that there is still good law out there that is against bad law. Ive been a victim of this also. These people get sick with power and control. Keeping going until you find someone that will help stop the insanity. Every job out there has its bad apples. Bad law is extremely fatal to a community and will not stop at just you

KBev

May 10th, 2015 at
12:36 PM

The police have been stalking my husband and I for more than 4 years now! I am handicapped and my husband is a quadriplegic, which makes being terrorized by the people who are supposed to “protect and serve” you that much more horrifying!!!! When I tell people they don’t want to believe it because it’s sooo scary and they’re afraid to get involved because they’re afraid they’ll be next! I’ve gone to both an attorney and a private investigator who both laughed at me and didn’t even offer me a tissue as I sobbed in their offices!!!!!! What was most horrifying recently happened to me as I left the private eye’s office. As we walked out I heard the PI say,”Oh, hi George!!!” When I turned around and saw the face of the man who had followed me there all the way from my home!!!! So, the corruption is sooooo deep here that they went to the attorney and PI before I did and told them to lie to me!!!! My home is completely bugged and camera’d to the hilt and I hear them terrorizing me 24/7,365!!! I’ve been keeping journals about the stalking for several years but I don’t know how to get out of this mental prison!!! No one wants to listen or help me!!!!! What can I do before they plant evidence while I’m gone, make something up or MURDER one of us??!!!!?? When will someone listen?!!? HELP!!!!! I found a website that completely outlines the hell they’re putting us through; policestalking.wordpress.com but can’t find any help!!!!! Thank you! KBev

Stephanie p

May 23rd, 2015 at
3:31 PM

I have been stalked for about 29 years, and the man was married with children whom he hurt and used in the whole thing , I want to just move on but over the years when I would think it was over he would show up again or his kids or letters or on my road way out in the country. Now I feel nuts because it has been 3 months sence the last letter and I told him once again I don’t need rescued ,and I’m happy and no letters but I feel like I’m the bad on because now I just can’t move on! I feel like bull crap he’s somewhere !! It has hurt me and my family and I feel so helpless sometimes and guilty that I feel like his kids ,not all but a few have followed his steps , though I really don’t know! I feel like I have no privacy ! Any where at any time ! Ilove God and believe he can change anyone but man !!! I can’t stand anymore ! Is he watching , are they watching !! I have sicurity cameras ,I have three big dogs , I’ve learnd how to shoot guns and crossbows ,but its in my mind everywhere I go I’m on guard , and I pray always !! I keep thinking they will change and see hey ! This is wrong and just stop ! But only God can heal me from the damage of been stalked for so long !! And I pray that it is soon !

Mannie

June 16th, 2015 at
12:36 AM

The same is happening with me from last 10 years. That guy wasn’t married he kept on stalking me. Then after 4 years he got married, begotten a son. Then he tried to murder his wife and went to jail for the next 4 years. These 4 years I was able to study freely and move out without any insecurity. I got engaged in this time. But yesterday only I saw him again. He saw me first when I was in market and again started following me. I am scared as this can affect my relationship with my fiancé who is living abroad. I am missing him more now. I want to get married soon and want to shift from this place :( that stalker guy hasn’t changed. He will do anything to hurt me. He never minds to stay in jail for nights. He will hurt my family. I am too scared now. On the other hand I am thinking of talking to him with patience to make him understand that what he is doing isn’t right. In case he might understand what I am trying to say that I do not love him. I wanted to discuss this with my fiancé but I couldn’t. I have only two options left with me: either to have a free life without any kind of terror or I’ll end this life. I am feeling so bad for my fiancé who loves me like anything and I love him too. But I have no other option left now :( sometimes i feel there’s no happiness left in my life.

GoodTherapy Admin

June 16th, 2015 at
9:22 AM

Thank you for your comment, Mannie. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

Warm regards,
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Tania

July 25th, 2015 at
2:05 PM

Hi do not end it contact your local police and file a restraining Order don’t kill yourself wait to get married and leave and don’t tell anyone you don’t know wjere your going

Jennifer F

September 6th, 2015 at
10:05 PM

Please tell us you are ok. I wouldn’t want you to hurt yourself. There are ways to shut him down!

Phyllis F.

June 2nd, 2015 at
12:11 PM

Why do people stalk and harass me almost like they hate me for no reason and it isn’t right someone is still in the attic and they don’t listen to me when I tell them to get away from my child and I ganging up on us and they hack the phone using my name saying they’re me and they are not honestly I feel there’s a heist going to happen where I feel these individuals are going to entrap me with some lie to kidnap my child and steal our identity and finances planning plots with the others that might be involved I am afraid what can I do these people to me seem like terrorist and have someone important helping them I feel helpless and believe they get their kicks off this terrifying my child and I all the time

voltimor

June 7th, 2015 at
4:01 AM

Well, I have been accused of stalking someone that I thought I was friends with. It just so happened after a major confrontation regarding a pretty major lie in my opinion which was that she was in a serious relationship with her music partner. OK so I had a gut feeling all along that she was. So what. But , by lying about that , and asking me to ask her out and showing interest in more than a friend and flirting a lot in subtexting , I can only conclude it was pure manipulation for whatever reason based on how coincidentally she would start to flirt a lot and text me talking more than a few words or lol ing a lot just before asking for something from me. I wont say what. Just that it wasn’t sex however she would act like she was wanting to go that route but I never made any move because as soon as I would see her and gave her what she asked for, the moment was gone , or like not even really ever there.
Ok so sorry long story less long. Point is as soon as I speak up about how her behavior is making me feel and how I see it for what it really is she gets really mad, then somehow makes me out to feel like an ass, stops talking to me and when its really bad , I still keep on trying to communicate but then she blows up and accuses me of stalking her.
Honestly , its not her , or whomever she has turned into at the time being , but trying to actually get her , the person I know and whom is or was a friend to talk to me.
I have to wonder if all the horrible abuse she suffered from in the past caused some damage that resulted in personality disorders
or maybe years of drug use and or both did.
I know I’m not crazy, well if I ever am its always intentional on my part and for good reasons , and just a mask, but I know I’m no stalker . and it really hurts a lot and is causing pain and confusion far worse than any other problems or disorders ive ever come across and so hard to deal with.
I have worked so hard to change any and all behaviors of mine that have hurt her that she has mentioned. Most of which were never I’ll intended , butvnone the less were taken as being so. Even after all that it seems she failed to ever even take notice or see those changes. It seems she still was seeing the bad even when I was actually being good and that made me have to start to wonder if perhaps it wasn’t me.
Very frustrating , painful and plenty of other adjectives that I can’t even come up with because my brain is still fogged up from my heart exploding . i truly love this woman , or who I thought she was. I dunno now because maybe it was all an act on her part because I was such easy prey. I care way too much , love too strong and ‘wear my heart on my sleeve” as she so once told me was one of the major things she liked about me. Well yeah, Duh! Of course she would. Now in retrospect after much reading and soul searching research , that is a major quality narcissists and sociopaths look for in their new victims. Figures as soon as I started to catch on with less doubts about her motives and question her about the ones I still have (ones being doubts) she pulled the plug on me and said to leave her alone. And I would if that request hadn’t come at the time that it did which was during an argument where I had just asked for clarification again about something she had said. She knows I have ADD, and I was only doing what I have learned from her many attempts and won ones at that which was almost like speech and debate tactics I was never good at because I just never let anything get that far, or get involved with anything involving the need for it. Not in friendships and not in religion either. Perhaps its my fault it has come to feel like a courtroom . no real and true friendship should ever feel like or come to that.
Anyhow , I can hardly wait for this “too shall pass” . I might just start running soon . that’s the only thing that hurts so much and cuts off my brain because all I can think about is air . how I need air.

annoyed

First thing first I know what is like to have someone bothering ( stalking) you.

I have had someone calling my mobile and as soon as i answered they hung up.

the phone calls got so bad i had to unplug my phones
I then did a star ten # on one of the calls and it end up being from a hospital.

( i asked them why they called it wasn’t anything to do with me it was one of the patients there)

i have lost count of how many times i have changed my number due to harassment.

I do not even call people yet they accused me of being a stalker.

because I was harassed I no longer want anything to do with mobiles or anyone for that matter

I even hate giving my e-mails out to web sites.
that’s why I change my e-mails a lot.

I have been accused of stalking when I haven’t done anything wrong!!!!!!!!

my neighbour was harassing me by stomping in the room above my head not just to grab something but in one spot!!!!

If you live in an apartment on the ground floor long enough you learn to tell the different when someone is walking to grab something or just pacing in one spot.

I talked to her about the noise!!!
she said she would do something about it like stop wearing high hills

but a-last she kept on stomping with hills on!!!!!!!!!!!
that very neighbour is now accusing my of being a stalker.
and put an avo on me.
I didn’t even know there name until we went to court.
i don’t want anything to do with them.
as they lack basic knowledge like what a stalker is.

stalker knows every little thing you do and want to know every thing about you i on the other hand want nothing to do with them.

I didn’t even know basic info like a name.

i think my neighbours are narcissistic.
( a person who thinks every ones in love with them the most dangerous people in the world as far as i am concerned )
so if you met them you might want to run away from them!!

Narcissistic people tend to become stalkers as they think everyone loves them and they think the person they are stalking is in love with them but just doesn’t know it yet.

even when the person is being rude to them and treating them like crap.

i know another person that was a stalker i feel sorry for the guy she is stalking but the police will not help him as he has been in trouble before.

he’s also in the wrong to as he keeps on answering apparently he calls her to. I think he is leading her on at one stage.

so it can be a bit confusing in that case
he asked me to get her to stop calling him at one stage.

but he came over to see her.
he would call her as well then she would ask me to keep him away.

so that above was an example of what not to do if you do not want someone bother you.

do not send mix signals to the person you want to get away from.

also when online you can not just assume that someone is stalking you.

someone might just like what you like. If they go out their way to bother you then yes be concerned but just block them.

unless they know its your website and the go out of their way to see it and you know they do not like that sort of thing.
Without an invite but you can just block them.
Also some people accuse others of stalking them without even knowing what the word.

Stalker means

If you know someone who thinks everyone loves them (narcissistic )

( provided there is no proof that anyone loves them)
they are more than likely to become a stalker.

as for my neighbours i hope they move out soon

i feel sorry for the next people they move in with.

i hope they move far away from me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

also do not accuse someone of stalking if they show up at the mall as they might be getting groceries.

if you work at a groceries store don’t assume they are stalking you.

if they show up at your house
they know what type of car you drive and they keep on harassing you then you have grounds to feel threaten.

I have now become socially recluse as a result of narcissistic people i hate narcissistic people as they are the type to become stalkers.

They think
” everyone loves me so that person over they must really love me”

when the truth of the matter is that person hates them.

the only place i feel comfortable is online so i can block them.

Also do not listen to bullshit like stalkers start off as loners.

People become loners due to personal reasons.

they might of had friends at one stage but chose to walk away or they had to move a lot so keeping in touch with people can be hard.

so learn what a stalker is before ruing someone life.

if i wanted to get close to someon then i would love to know more about them
but now i have turned agent the world as one to many bad things have happened.
im not talking on little thing i’m talking about stalkers and molestation

i also had bad things happen to me in docs so i lost all trust in the government.

i can not even trust my local police department as the police they lie and get away with it.

so don’t trust the Australian law system.
god for bid if you need help.

annoyed

June 8th, 2015 at
11:15 PM

also do not go to a therapist as they just drug you up and make you feel even worst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i take care of my own metal health
they just mess it up by forcing the following drugs

dexamphetamine = a from of ice

also i read an book that claimed the anti- depressant drug Prozac

was related to multi personality disorder

also i know there are so called psychologist claiming that stalkers have low self esteem when in fact someone with low self-esteem wouldn’t even be able to ask fro a number for fear of rejection.

stalkers are more than likely narcissistic.

also id like to add if you want to catch a cop lying brake the law

step one
record the crime or write down what you are going to do
( make sure its only something small do not hurt anyone )

then read the repot the police officer writes then if they have change it you caught a corrupted police officer.

I did it once and now I have proof that the police officer in question is a lair.

I thought this police officer was a lair so that is why I did it I just needed proof that they where covering up their tracks.

ADHDKIDDO

June 10th, 2015 at
4:55 PM

Speaking of Dexter amphetamines….only drs employed by the illuminati prescribe desoxyn of means on the streets.
Can’t tell if thats why you below are ANNOYED because in my experience on ADHD meds I was constantly annoyed like you sound today by noises and things most folks learn how to just tune out by having abity to hyper focus.
And then there is the people which whom that type of meds become easily irritated and

Miguel C.

July 3rd, 2015 at
12:45 AM

I’m scared because people follow me and watching me 24/7 i’m getting sick i’m losing so much weight i’m look like it skeletal i can’t even sleep. i’m scared to go to work or to the store or staid home a long i thing i have video’s of them i need help i’m feeling like it I’m gonna die my mine is going crazy they watch me thru the Windows night time.

Niecy

theytelizesowell

July 23rd, 2015 at
6:32 PM

Wow, so many things you habe written that I can relate too. One exception I believe my stalker (s) are my previous employer and ex staff. Imagine someone with never ending money doing these things and like you, making others beleven you are crazy. This is bad because i havw children also which this has effected. One of his majorn”careers software and servers. I am confident it’s him in journal things but the pages get removed and/or replaced with nonesense photos disappear. Luckily I have a lot of this secured on SD cards nowhere close to me. He has violated my privacy more imprtantly violated my children’s privacy. I believe he has had me drugged much like they (ppl un his kind of lifestyle” I believe he has paid ppl to keep quiet. I believe anyntime more than one person is involved in a crime someone always comes clean. We have been through hell. I do not have a support unit. I hope yours gets stronger. People that do this to others especially children are very mentally ill takes very mentally ill.I suspected him at the beginning of our ordeal but thought surely he would not spend time and money on something as crazy as this. I was qwrong. I have been a angry all of this time, now i am scared. It’s hard for me to.imagine a persons hatred would go this far. Mt dishwasher line was cut and flooded my kitchen, my.3 year old dryer caught on fire my air conditioner electric lines have been cut my survelliancemail cameras were flashed so much they dont work. My bank account, phonea and email accounts all compromised files deleted photos deleted etc. As I have tried to remodel my downstairs steadily someone has come in and damaged somthing (while i sleep) that I have worked on. So i found a way to.stay up. My car has been vandalized my home has been vandalized our peace of mind and any feeling of security has been violated. NO HUMAN BEING HAS A RIGHT to do this to anotherI don’t care how much money they have.

Kaley

Madeline

August 5th, 2015 at
5:11 AM

I have the same problem. This guy won’t go away and I don’t even like him. He was my sisters friend that got handed down to me. Luckily he thinks I live in the U.S. When I don’t, so that’s about the only edge I have over the situation. The harassment though is very tiresome and makes me angry. Especially that law enforcement won’t help. They really need better internet laws.

joseph s.

J Harris

August 20th, 2015 at
5:17 AM

In Missouri due to all of the publicity of the police the police stated that in order for them to do something to the stalker they would have to have someone dead or in the hospital before the court system will do anything. That’s justice!! Thanks Obama. You are a real winner! In the meantime a stalker has made my life hell for 9 months and continues everyday. O well no big deal but by god they want me to pay my taxes. Naaaa I don’t think I’m going to do that with the situation being what it is.

Darcy

August 23rd, 2015 at
6:47 PM

Missouri must have definitely changed over the years approximately 15 years ago I had a woman stalking me I had to finally get a restraining order she never physically touched me but she would call every store I was at and have me paged she would sit out my exit out side my home far enough away she was not breaking the restraining order I waited tables at the time and we had a lot of police that came in where I work she have a call and I have the officer come over to the phone and put it on speaker so he can hear what she had to say it it was name calling and threats finally it was enough for her get arrested and finally it got her to leave me alone I’m so sorry that the laws have changed because I know first hand how messed up people I hope it gets better or you

GoodTherapy Admin

August 23rd, 2015 at
12:59 PM

Thank you for your comment, Vannie. We wanted to provide links to some resources that may be relevant to you here. We have more information about what to do in a crisis at https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

Omg…I know you have probably tried everything but not to be like super religious and cliche sounding but have you really tried praying??!!. ..It wount necessarily stop everything immediately but I believe it can help you…I have been in a couple of really bad situations…I will post my story soon but that depressed me as well…I felt like It would Never end and I would always be followed….I still am currently in a situation. ..but don’t let it take your peace…you.still.get.a.right.to.live.life…..JUST BE CAREFUL….but live your life

Molly

August 23rd, 2015 at
12:53 PM

Yuki, Yes I do know how. Every single time he drives by you document, every incident that occurs, document. Time, date and incident. I was stalked for over a year before I was told to journal everything no matter how small. You might feel silly you probably feel like you are going crazy. I wish there was more knowledge out there with employers and the public in general about stalking. Yes there are probably people with a paranoia issue who are not being truly stalked but maybe have other mental health issues that need addressed but there are so many stalking incidents unreported where the victim lives in constant fear but says nothing possibly because they don’t want to sound crazy and feels like they won’t be believed. I wonder how many acts of violence started with unreported stalking? Every action or even no action has a consequence. When you take a step to get help you might not be believed and sadly you will be victimized again by some around you. Your life matters seek help . If you have a local women’s shelter that deals with domestic issues they should have training and be able to help get you started documenting. They will also help you with a security plan. A man that stalks is unstable and you often are left waiting for the other shoe to drop not knowing how far they will go. I believe if my stalker shows up at my house he will commit an act of violence. No matter what anyone thinks I know it with everything in me. I had to decide is my life worth getting help. When I did seek help and show the letters to a therapist I was shocked that they had a name for what was happening to me and that name was stalking. My stalker was the “nicest guy” at work, married, involved in church and his community. So yes, I would believe. Seek help, stalking can lead to violence. Your life matters.

Adele

August 23rd, 2015 at
7:37 PM

Just stumbled across this website, feel so desperate at the moment. I have phoned the police and even though my ex Husband has nearly killed me with evidence on cctv and had numerous injunctions which he has broken! Plus been to prison for Gbh against me
He still feels the need to stalk me within days of the last injunction expiring!!
Because he sat there behind me tonight watching me although everyone knew why he was in a place he would never normally be the police say they cannot help me!! As he has not committed a crime.!!
YET !!
Yes I will be spending the next week or so putting another injunction in place to try to ensure the safety of me and my children.
What makes me so angry is I attempted to renew the injunction just before it expired and the judge rejected it and stated she did not deem my ex as a threat anymore and I could not renew my injunction without notice and I would have to start again with a new application. I believe he will never rest until I am dead!! Told the police the same thing.mi do hope that they one day listen…… :-/

Mattie E

August 31st, 2015 at
1:14 AM

I HAVE BEEN A VICTIM OF STALKING SINCE 2012…EVERY TIME I GET IN FRONT OF A JUDGE I TELL THEM WHAT IS GOING ON.THE HEARINGS WERE ABOUT CHILD CUSTODY BUT NEVER THE LESS I LET IT BE KNOWN WHAT I WAS GOING THROUGH.SINCE THIS PERSON WAS GOING TO THE NEIGHBORS HOUSE EVERYDAY LOOKING OVER MY FENCE… DRIVING BY MY HOUSE…THREATENING ME AND MY FIANCE SO ON AND SO FOURTH,THE JUDGE TOLD ME TO GROW UP I WAS BEING CHILDISH AND MAYBE HE WAS LOOKING OVER MY FENCE TO SEE IF MY HOUSE WAS ON FIRE.THE SAME DAY THIS PERSON CAME BACK TO THE NEIGHBORS HOUSE AND SAID AS LOUD AS HE COULD…ITS A GOOD DAY FOR A FIRE… SINCE THEN I FEEL I HAVE NO POWER AND THINGS JUST ESCALATED.NOW SINCE I WAS SUCCESSFUL WITH OBTAINING A R.O HE IS TAKING ME TO COURT TO HAVE IT LIFTED,AND IS STATING HE WAS NEVER SERVER..I’M A LIAR AND MAKING IT SEEM LIKE I’M STALKING HIM….I ARE WHY A LOT OF BATTERED WOMEN STAY IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS.. CAUSE ONCE THEY GET THEIR POWER BACK..THE JUDICIAL SYSTEM BREAKS THEM DOWN,AND THEY ARE ABUSED ONCE AGAIN….SO SAD…WHAT ARE YOU SUPPOSE TO DO WHEN NO ONE WILL LISTEN….

La

September 15th, 2015 at
5:09 AM

My ex, who has been arrested in the past for stalking another woman, left me for someone else. It wasn’t working, it was good riddance, thought it was over. I moved on, got married, then recently found out he has been befriending ALL of my old friends in the state we used to live in. Is this a form of stalking? Even if its not, it’s weird as hell, no?

natarsha

Colleen

September 24th, 2015 at
9:15 AM

Make clear you want no contact. Log all actions with dates & times. Get a restraining order. Do not respond to them. Use helps on YouTube about “psychopaths”. Pray the Christ Jesus for divine help, he will protect you & guide you Natasha.

Voltimor

October 20th, 2015 at
7:51 PM

Yes. AMEN! I dont want to scare anyone sounding like a crazy Jesus Freak, but its so true how awesome he is when it comes to protecting us and keeping the evil away from us. By praying for these ememies as well its amazing what good can happen instead

shattered

September 23rd, 2015 at
7:47 PM

im being stalked by a gang member… I was mentally a child due to my childhood and needed a father figure in my life. i was on heavy drugs when i met him and i was on drugs other time with him…
hes taking over my soul, he is evil no heart no empathy probably imagines hurting me everytime i was face to face with him.
hes was outside the other day behind a fence and said clearly “now you listen to me”
i am scared of my self , i cant go outside the house because i might lose my life to this evil person.

Stalkedgirl

September 24th, 2015 at
2:51 PM

Hi,
I need advice from people who has the same experience.
A very good looking man, stalks on me, which means: in the last 8 years he passes by next to me on the street, or stands and staring at me, i saw him at different places in the city where i live so it is impossible that it is a coinsidence. He sometimes looks down and smiles a bit, or just passing by, even i saw him at some of my work places passing by or coming in by bike staring at me for 2 mins and go away. The thing: i kind of like him as a man, he is good looking, dressed nice, i mean he is attractive and he does not look scary to me, but he apears near me when i do not expect, suddenly he turns up and goes away, by bike, car, or walking. I saw him already so many times. Sometimes he disappears for weeks, months, and sometimes he turns up again twice a week.
Long ago my dad had an old friend, i went to his office to get a book copied by free there, and he told me: there is a man called Adam, he is good looking, tall, rich and saw you in a shopping mall, and he fell in love with you. He gave very precise descripition of him, and said he is better then me in everything, he has his own company, he has lots of friends, etc i will be always jealous of him…and wanted to give his number, i said no way i am calling a man i have never seen….later on my dad asked him about this he said it was a joke… now this friend the old man is dead, so i cannot ask him about this. So after he told me about Adam, and his love for me, after that i realised i was photoed on the street by strangers i got scared ( the old fried mentioned he gets photos of me, and videos from shopping malls) So weird, isnt it? So later on i also realised that he is stalking on me, passing by on the street… and at different places.. i got scared always and just left the place.
Half a year ago he came to me in the park suddenly and stood next to me, and staring and i looked his dog and he said his dog is stupid, as he went away, and i wanted to see the dog, only he said this, his dog is stupid, nothing else, and then he left , two old ladies were also there… i dont understand him, i mean if he loves me or has desire for me why he does not contact me, or why he does not try to get to know me ?????
I like him, and sometimes i have romantic fantasies about him, and i would like to get to know him, as he does no harm for me, only annoys me he does not talk to me, and how the hell he knows where i go, or where i am at??? He even came after me abroad, i saw him abroad in different countries also the same behaviour. Once i saw him next to my ex house abroad, he turned his back, but he looked really angry and i got scared of him… i think he was jealous or something. But he never really tried to get to know me?? So he has no right to be jealous, right? He never asked my for a date, or my phone number… I am curious about him, but also he scares me a bit also, though i know he probably does not want to harm me at all, but i am annoyed by him stalking and not telling me why he is doing that…i guess he liked me but i loose my mind when i see him and i am not able to go to him and ask, i am afraid i will go really out of balance… in the park he was okay, he did not say anything bad to me, but then why he is so afraid to talk to me and ask me out for a date or tell me he loves me or something ? What is the point in stalking me and not talking? It is not understandable for me.
What if i go there to talk to him, and i get so nervous or mentally sick or something… ? I do not want to take pills or go ‘mad” because of him, but i am single now so i would even give him a chance to be my friend, but as i have no idea who he is, i cannot contact him by facebook, and i personally i am scared to talk to him, and the years pass by like this…. when i see him i get nervous, when i dont see him i think what he will do next?? It is like all crazy… i am sick and tired of this. I think he must ask me out for a date or ask my phone number and tell me he likes me or interested in me, and stop stalking on me.
I am not rich, he is rich so it even bothers me, i do not like these type of rich businessman, and even i do, or i say i like him, he never say hello to me, i just dont know how to get to know him …. it is so annoying, because why he stalks me?? For 8 years ? I mean it is so crazy inst it? He loves me so much and shy ?
I have a therapist, even weird, and she told me maybe i see the same type of tall and handsome guy and i think it is the same person while it is not……………WHAT? I am a pretty 30 ear old girl, i do not need ot make fantasies of a tall and handsome man, and i would never make up such a lie , never! Obviously it is the same person i see !
So it is kind of like, my thereapist ( i meet her when i am stressed or had a breakup or anything, but i am mentally healthy i just like to have a psichologist to talk to thats all, so it is not that i am sick or something) and neither my dad , they dont really believe me…. :(((((( But i am 100% sure i saw him so many times…….. it is so weird all this , the old friend of dad talking about ADam at the first place, then Adam stalking for years, and half of the people does not even believe me………. i am not really scared of Adam, phisically not really…. in 8 years he did not harm me, so i think he does not even want to harm me……. BUT he comes again from time to time…… and it is like provokating me like , i am thinking: Am i crazy ? I like him, i want to know him, and i am not able to even say hi to him ??? I am not able to ask him, or talk to him, or ask his number or ANYTHING ? Why this goes on ? And it is the same: i am thinking i want to know him, but i cannot. Some people say avoid him, be scared of him, he is crazy, some other people say he likes you a lot and he is very shy and waiting for the moment to get closer to you or something …… but if i love someone, if i were in his shoes lets say….. how can a man stalk me and love me for 8 years without even trying to date me or talk to me ?? Isnt it so stupid, i mean it is like unbelievable and so uncommon … most people doe snot even believe my story and they think there is something wrong with me…. :(
Sometimes i see him passing by car and i think to myself: why the tell you do this, why dont u just send me a facebook message u wanna date me or something ??? Why you dont talk to me, why you dont say hi , make friends??
Because he is like this i am like a mirror, i am also not able to say hi or something…
My dad thinks he doe snot want anything from me, he is not stalking on me and it is only a coinsidence i see him and i like him so much thats why i talk about him and say he stalks, come on, i saw him abroad in several countries, it is 0% possible he is not doing it on purpose!!!! I am not that naive to believe he does not stalk me!
Pls give me advice…. it is not a serious abusive stalker, he is just a nice guy, but still i am impatient and want to know why , and why …
Thank you.

Carrie not scary

September 28th, 2015 at
1:34 AM

Im not an expert on anything , well except for caring , however not sure that counts for anything technical.
Anyway i believe what youre saying and no , dont think you are crazy. I believe in ghosts or spirits and not all of them whether here and alive or not are harmful stalkers. But im thinking you have more of a ghost although a real person for lack of a better term but i feel stalker is generally a negative term used to describe a person obsessed and who follows someone with their presence and energy even after being asked to not do so. There are good stalkers and bad i suppose.

Tara

October 17th, 2015 at
6:44 PM

Stay away from him. He could be handsome and good looking but he’s not worth the trouble. Guy stalked me at work and outside. Got fired from work more than one complaint. But now he’s just hanging in the mall. I don’t feel safe there in mall he’s around.

christina s

September 26th, 2015 at
3:40 PM

I have been with my husband 15 years 5 went back to school 5 years ago. They are on my email my home computerthey gotbin my work emai. I lost my job. He stoledvall my documentstion. I am so scared he gaslighted me so bad i just dont know what to do i jave proof hegot her house with are money. Ylhe is controlling everything keeping mo ey from me. I am so scared. He lied to the police he lied to the state. He has used our daughter he cussing at me in front of our kids he has chocked me took a knife to me. But i have him and his phycopath girlfriend stalking me. I need to get help oi am so scared. In woodstock ga police dont understand internet stacking

Stalkedgirl

September 29th, 2015 at
2:30 PM

Carry not scary, what do you mean?
That this person does not exist and he is a ghost? Come on? I talked to him in the park in front of people. Of course he exists!!!
One collegue of mine saw him, and also a friend of mine saw him.
Or do you mean he is not a bad stalker? He does not want to harm me ?
Anyhow, i already decided i want to get in tough with him somehow. I dont think he is a bad person, but shy and me too i awas shy, but i am going to change.

Carrie not scary

September 29th, 2015 at
8:04 PM

No i wasnt saying hes a ghost. I just meant hes not a typical stalker in the negative aspect. Actually not a stalker at all. Sounds like he just happens to be around in the same place as you. Sounds more like fate or destiny.
I just went off on a random tangent of how one can be stalked through people by ghosts. But thats my situation. Not yours

Rachel Berndt

Goldie

October 19th, 2015 at
8:24 PM

I have been stalked for 26 years by my ex husband who is a cop. I didn’t sleep for the first ten years. I had to accept that he could kill me any time and there is nothing I can do about it. After accepting the reality, I could sleep again.

Now that I am 65 in California, there are elder abuse laws and I am in that protected class. The last time I was stalked, I took the license plate and called 911.

This stopped the vehicular stalking. Now I need to address the parade of people that walk up and down my street if I dare step out front.

I married a stalker. I didn’t clue in when we were dating how he showed up everywhere I went. 😢. There is no such thing as coincidences. I know now.

Here it is. My entire life spent stalked. I know God will get him in the end.

Self

November 6th, 2015 at
6:30 AM

I am in this same position only I am not married to not do I live with this man. He is however the father of my one year old daughter. He drives by my house so many times every day that I see him every time I look out the window or the door. I don’t know what to do. He says he has to make sure we are safe. I know that is bs

casey

Godwin

October 20th, 2015 at
2:50 PM

I’ve tested my girlfriend twice and its occurred to me that she makes it point to read all my text messages when i leave my phone her place and afterwards she comes with a long list of complain about all the private chat im having with other women. Well i don’t like being stalked and I’m beginning to be irritated by it. Now she says she doesn’t trust me at all and i think there is no point to be in a relationship if there is no trust in it at all, its my fault and i admit it.

Voltimor

October 20th, 2015 at
7:47 PM

Im sorry, maybe i watch too much Judge Judy, because i have to tell you you’re an idiot.
First of all, what your GIRLFRIEND did is NOT frickin stalking , dude.
She obviously has a gut feeling that you are not the trustworthy one woman kind of guy you present yourself to be to her. Reading your messages only confirmed that to her. So yeah, don’t do that sh$t to girls who want a real boyfriend, and not a player. If you want to be a player, be a player. Nothing wrong with either. However, dont pretend you are someone or something you are not. Only Narcissists and psychopaths do that sh$t. If you are not narcissistic psychopath, well even if you are, still dont do that sh$t. Karma will still come hunt you dowm and kick your as%.
Now, if your girlfriend read any innocent messages to a sister or female family member or totally misread any of those messages on your phone and just flipped out and overreacted thinking something that is not even the case, disregard this message. Except for the part that says that is NOT stalking. That is still true

clair b

December 24th, 2015 at
8:56 AM

Thank you dear sir,to be stalked is to have someone follow you around; like a stranger or not, try to or break in to your house, mess with your car many times ,hide and watch you.I had a stranger do this to me; I found out who he was and started watching him ,reported it to the cop’s& finally had them question him,I had the freak on video.Then it was an act of God ,thank you lord,to get 5’0 ,to do anything.

tripper

November 3rd, 2015 at
10:13 PM

ppl call me too and say nothing random numbers!!! i thought it was some telemarket stuff but legit stalking $%^@^@.
also i was followewd by someone who i dont even know!!! twice now!! i moved away from that area tho
there are some fools out there who seem to obsess over other people to the fullest , its creepy as %^&%
good luck to everyone here

dude

November 6th, 2015 at
6:21 AM

I was able to get on this site by asking Google what I could do if I thought I was being stalked. I can’t go home after work without having to dodge some sicko who knows when my work day is done.I’m not afraid somebody will think I’m sick in the head. I’m afraid somebody will think I think I’m more important than others. I think it’s a conglomeration of people who drive for a living, people in authoritative positions,people who are looking for opportunities for sex with strangers, and haters who understand the nature of your work because It’s the same type of work they do, which enables them to watch and learn your schedule and habits. I’m frustrated because I don’t have the finances to move to a different location or environment. I pray to God that people can see what’s going on with me driving a public vehicle. I’m older now and I don’t want this kind of thing to contribute to my demise.

Jennifer

Deleah

November 7th, 2015 at
3:51 AM

Im being stalked but I went to the cops they are in process of charging the guy who broke in my home I think the cops are doing the best they really can because the guy is lieing saying he didn’t do anything but my whole nabore hood knows the guy did it he broke into my home and attack me tryed to rape me but then walk away strange guy I believe in god so I know the man will end up in prison for what he has pute thru karma that’s one thing not to play with its like playing with fire.god bless every woman who has been thru this .

Marta

Jackie

November 26th, 2015 at
9:35 PM

I am being stalked at work. A co-worker is currently stalking me. She is aware of all my movements the whole day by listening to my door opening and closing when I leave my office to go to the bathroom or to other offices. I have Q20 my door to make the door quiet but it doesn’t help, she is still able to listen to my door. 95% of the time when I get back to my office I see missed calls from her. Every second morning she wants to know where did a park my vehicle because it is not on its usual place. I have moved my vehicle to where I think she will not be able to see it from the street when she drives past. When she knows I am sitting by one of the other staff members she will phone to that office and ask if I am there. When the person asks her why? She makes up an excuse that someone is looking for me what she can’t remember who. I seriously don’t know what to do, she is really scaring the living daylight out of me. Does any one have any suggestions for me? Thank you.

Jennifer

January 1st, 2016 at
2:47 PM

Please go to your Manager and tell your Manager. If this happened in my office then I would handle it. If you feel you can’t go to your Manager then go to Human Resources. But, I would try your boss first so that it can be handled internally first.

Barbara

April 8th, 2017 at
6:24 PM

The perpetrators are assigned to watch the victim at all times, every move, because there are some really demented and paranoid weirdos behind the scenes. Like I mentioned in other responses, a “framing of the victim” is at work. Maybe you’re a Christian, called the police on one of their members, saw something, spoke to loudly in public, or you’re just beautiful and caught their attention, any number of things, could have brought this to your doorstep, no fault of your own. These perpetrators join this organization thinking it’s all fun and games, no rules besides theirs, with perks of friendships with the groups, free things, travel with expenses paid, potlucks, parties, big screen t.v.s, security clearance, role playing, and free drugs. At first, they are all into it, not realizing there’s a price to pay, the loss of their freedom. If, for instance, a perpetrator is told to sit in one location, drive around in circles around a victim, give up their holiday, they are required to do it. The consequences for not obeying would result in them becoming a target themselves, torture, and possible death. It’s a big price to pay, and after many years of this, it can become pretty old. I’ve met a lot of bitter, disgruntled perps, young and old alike. People don’t like someone telling them what to do and where to be all the time, and this usually is what happens to the perpetrators; this becomes their new life. But, with God, all things are possible. So perpetrators don’t need to feel entrapped, enslaved, they are free to walk away. Remember, we are all the property of God, and He will walk beside us when we make the right choices. We are told only to fear God alone, for He is the only one who has our souls in His hands.

Jb

December 2nd, 2015 at
4:05 PM

I’m a usmc vet with disabilities. The va may think that I’m psychotic but not in this case. I know I’m being monitored by someone I know an gang stalked by someone I know, family , brothers in fact. They harassing me stalking me , monitoring my every move and words an stalking me ,an sending shock waves to my whole body 24/7. I believe that they want to kill me. I’m 57 an have lived a great life. But, what if this is happening to other vets? Children or our seniors. Daughters. I know that law enforcement agencies need to be more aware of this crime, and the va need to not listen and judge , but listen and take action. And all victims need to make this evil crime manifested to the general population. Let’s pull the rug off this, because it is critical an real.we have to do this and the time is now to put the devil to shame.

shannon g.

December 5th, 2015 at
3:16 PM

Help
I movedin to a pla e that pay rent for a. Small room in garage my landlord xyreme stalker even in shower there ate cameras he has jacked 3 phones my friends phones ge hasput my face book responses on a skide show in thw numbers on the nieghbors house on a slide projector he has put chemicals in my room that i have had a reaction to and onablesd him to post words on my waljs and on my skin he has put slates of mettal and inprinted a poc of himself that in the dark shows a pic of him woth a gun pointed at ny door i have picturesof everything. Hi tapped into his camera system as he has a 5 fuse HDmI. Breaker box in my room. He doesnt. Have cable . help i dont want to go and look crazy to the pice he is good he has repeated conversations that i have had pufside this house i need help i am fearing for my life after the chemicals i tapped in to the photos. And i can see in other rooms of hos hpuse after i enlarge frame by frame of his vdeos. I have never been in the other rpomates room and can describe it to a tea even the pahanas she weaes and hrr actions how doi I prove it. Help Help Help

Jennifer

georgio

January 1st, 2016 at
1:29 AM

I am a married man living with my wife, I have this other anonymous woman who contacts my wife during the day when she is at work. She claims that me and her are having an affair of which I know nothing about and it seems like my wife believe whatever story she tells her. She sends her messages and make private cals now and then, and things that she tells her sounds like they are true. She claims that we chat on WhatsApp, contact each other and meet most often. All this things I never did and not doing, I seek help on what I should do in this instance because my marriage is in jeopardy and it’s driving my wife crazy, and we have a little kid who is 1 year old. Please help.

Jennifer

January 1st, 2016 at
2:44 PM

I wanted to respond as a wife… If it sounds true it would be difficult to ignore. However, what I would suggest is to have a conversation with your wife and prove that this woman is crazy and it isn’t true. After your wife agrees, I would Request that your wife turn the volume up on her phone and begin asking for her name, and try to get her to agree to give specifics. But, you can’t say anything or go off in the background….because this is to prove to your wife it isn’t true.

If your wife won’t blow it off as you really have a stalker then you could go a step further and do a police report and restraining order against the anonymous woman. I would take it a step further myself and ask the woman for proof. If you truly have a stalker then you should have no problem trying o prove to your wife.

It sucks when people do crap like this so I sympathasize with you and your wife. When doe this woman call your wife? Does she block her number? Does she know her name? Is she on FB? Is she a friend that is jealous of your wife? Do you know who she is? Do you work together? These are all things that should be thought about.

Lance L

January 4th, 2016 at
12:42 PM

I am stalked by numerous people. Divorce in our family has led to relatives stalking each other in attempts to monitor thier children and gaurantee they do not see thier biological or even step parents in some cases. It seems like a good thing to monitor your young children but when divorce turns into a giant ball of lies about who is actually who…well, i just cant respect that and i knkw divorce is not fair at all in terms of who gets the kids and most times im sure its all in a complex manipulation to make the other jealous or pursuant for any number of reasons. From apology to reclaiming the child as thier bioligical offspring. Its a cruel game and business and it gets deep. I still after 30 years find small lines where my parents have created skander against each other just because. I am seperated myself and i have no desire whatsoever to affect the status of that relationship and it was rediculous only due to health issues and what a sad and silly and unexplainable reason to establish a divorce necessary. But it worked i got healthy! Stalking is attention and usually they dont want to do it but theres these urges. So just steer clear and establish your connections to the law right off. If youre going to jail. Stay there and close when you get out. Your stalker is usually your ex- meaning exit to recovery and you dont want that. Get exemption from the law and court on yourself. Dont let them let you go backwards. That will cut off everyone even your partner and thats what you need. Youll find a long and exhaustive supply of resource behind a lie and a mystery and most relationships that result in stalking have them. Get help get clear of them and do not respond to offers or begging to respond or care for them. Care ends at court and the law can enforce a marriage and custody so dont waste your time or listen to friends. Cut them off too. This isnt every stalker situation but they are all generally the same…someone knows something you dont or knows something you dont think they should given circumstances. The law can stalk you too. Pay attention get clear do what you have to do and move on!

lynn

January 6th, 2016 at
7:10 PM

I’ve been a victim of organized gang stalking and electronic harassment since 2001. I’ve been keeping a journal off and on for many years now. The torture just elevates with each year that goes by. I’m quite sure the goal of my stalkers is to see my demise. People around me that see what is going on, step back from me and avoid me. I’m all along in this, and there’s no valid reasoning for the toture I’m being put through. If there’s help , I havent been able to find it.

Jb

January 18th, 2016 at
9:12 AM

Sell all ur belongings secretly. Bank your money and catch a bus ad far away as posdible and start over. You don’t have to live that. Just like everyone left u alone..leave them alone. Do not tell anyone where you are.

CA

January 14th, 2016 at
9:13 AM

I’ve been stalked by a man who I met online and never even met. I only entertained him because I dropped him for someone else initially as I wasn’t interested in him and felt guilty about it – I had no interest physically, psychologically or emotionally. He has been stalking me via Jonathan Cainer’s horoscopes which lie to him and put ridiculous ideas in his head, such as me being interested in him when I’m not and me being attracted to him which I never have been. I even tried forcing myself to like him at one point because I felt bad about not finding him in the least bit attractive when he was being seemingly so nice (typical). I had more important things to worry about and focus on which I usually do and ignored the warning signs. But then I saw he was constantly stalking me and posting delusional things on his Twitter – he wrote cryptic messages in Tweets and Favourited things as messages relating to spurious rubbish he’d read on horoscopes. Insane. And just because I wasn’t interested in him he started abusing me and my family, such as posting vile comments and jokes about my mum dying who’s in care with early onset dementia, my dad, myself and anyone else I knew. He’s never even met me, my family or anyone else I know. He hacked my Twitter account and stalked, abused and harassed me for months. Completely delusional and unable to accept reality. He is extremely low-class, unattractive and has low intelligence (despite thinking himself smart and attractive) and completely lacks perspective and self-insight. Typical stalker profile. Disgusting, repugnant, low-quality scum.

Gloria

January 20th, 2016 at
7:00 AM

I live unfortunately in HUD housing and in my building I have been stalked by creepy men and women. I have a boyfriend from church. They have played games with my mind and tried to use witchcraft and intimidation and harassment against me. In our building they try to persecute Christians. I am over50. I did put a restraining order against one and she broke mediation. I had a lawyer. The restraining order only lasts a short time. They and all their friends are all delusional and mentally challenged. The celebrity image is weird. I sing but am not a celebrity. I have had to contact the police. I cannot find safe low income housing and looking for work. They followed me on light rail and chased me at bus stops. Our building was so safe until they let a few criminally insane people in. They can’t seem to get rid of them. I have lived here for years. They need to leave. It is called abnormal psychology. I have many friends. They are all delusional and the lowesr scum on the earth. There need to be more laws. They try to cover their tracks. Demonic eyes. I pray alot and they leave before I can take pictures. It reminds me of gangs or the Mafia. I need to start documenting again. I wish I could afford to move. Our building in a nice southern suburb is being terrorized. They are victims of abuse and it wouldn’t surprise me if they had been in prison. Or they need to be there. I pray a lot and am busy. TThey need to give up. I wonder if they think they are the paparazzi or are getting paid by some organization to do this. One of my friends was chased and vandalized and there was some weird wealthy company who paid them. They have cell phones to target you. They pay low income and homeless people and pretend to know you. They are insane. I would never want to know them in any way. It must be profitable for them either psychologically or money wise. I unfortunately know what you mean. Where are the police and why can’t they stop them. Stalking should be a federal offense. They need to get help. I pray often. My church prays for me. I am looking to move but many of my friends feel the same way. Just want to be left alone forever. I used to be so afraid of them. Now I document everything have lawyers and many friends. These behaviors need to stop. I will pray for everyone who has ever gone through this. We need to stick together.

Kenya

January 24th, 2016 at
9:47 AM

Its amazing show these viscous stalkers manage to get away with it as long as they do…and the physical and emotional damage to the victims is horrific and in a lot of instances deadly..when we survivors reach out for help it fall on death ears and people who purposely deny the truth and allow this viscous abuse And attacks on us continue…. Three years is a horrible length of time to be harmed like that I mean aminute is too long….a stop to to the ignorance and denial and allowance to sexual predators is a must…

Jennifer

January 25th, 2016 at
10:14 PM

People like this cause extreme damage to the victim. Society just doesnt understand until its walked a mile in a victims shoes
They act like the victim is the crazy one. Its a sick and twisted mental game that seems to never end. Stalkers just cannot stop until they have conquered their victims…mine will not stop until its in jail and cannot stalk

Gloria

January 27th, 2016 at
11:29 AM

Exactly This same group of people played chicken with me by bus stops. There were two of them and their family who moved into our safe building. The building is trying to find ways to get rid of them. They brought in criminal activity and drugs.Unfortunately not men. Makes me want to vomit. Both of them have personality issues and are bullies. I now take other transportation and friends and go to church to see my boyfriend. I do tell people. Our whole building is being terrorized by a few crazy people. The same people are trying to raise grandchildren. Another crazy thing. I am not a celebrity and they freak me out. Also into witchcraft. I wish restraining orders were forever. They need to be get treatment or put behind bars indefinitely. I pray quite a bit. There need to be harder consequences for people who stalk. I also document. Are they making money somehow. Our building used to be safe. Our southern suburbs are being attacked and HUD housing. Thanks for being there. We need each other. I am sorry you are also going through this type of behavior.

Lindsay L.

January 30th, 2016 at
10:21 PM

I was stalked by two men in college, and both situations were terrifying to me. The saddest part is that I let these two men shut my voice down. I was active in writing groups, and my picture was published next to various poems. One guy took these pictures of me and blew up life size photos of me all over his house and sent me the photos. He wrote pages of dirty, sexual things he wanted to do to me. He is truly a nutcase. Ten years later, he faked an email response to my work email and wrote me a long letter about how he is married. He attached a website with a list of all these women’s names he had “lost touch with” over the years. Another guy broke into my house and followed me around. I am so proud of women who stand up to their stalkers. I filed complaints, but I didn’t have a support group back then. I ended up moving from that town. I hate it that it has taken me twenty years to finally start writing again. I’m doing it under a pen name though. I blogged about stalkers today, and that is in the website I posted. I could’ve written books many years ago, but I feared these two stalkers. Anyway, I put my first book out now. I am inspired by women who don’t let men like this destroy their dreams. I may be a little late in chasing my dreams, but I’m doing it.

Vickie R

December 4th, 2017 at
7:00 PM

Good luck to you. At least I feel better knowing I’m not the only one, but how would you feel if it was your whole COMMUNITY involved? Mobbing and bullying and on four different times I had my food tampered with in restaurants and came out with severe food poisoning. Some doctors tried to say it was the “flu”–not true at all. Chicken def tasted SOUR and I knew ASAP i was sick because of the restaurant’s food. SHould have sued the restaurant too. At least you had only ONE stalker, but look up gang-stalking or community mobbing. It’s a total nightmare. ALso had vandalism done to our house and windows, crank phone calls 24/7, it never stops. And they do it in such a quite way as to make you look crazy. I hear some of the stalkers can even be actors hired to harass their target. I learned that from Trump, (well it’s true!). I can tell that a lot of this seems organized. I had one neighbor who would always leave her house exactly 4 minutes after I walked out of my house. Been going on for 6 years??? I even laughed about it and said to her “Do you notice you always leave your house exactly 4 mins after I leave mine? Coincidence?” And she laughed and then got serious and said “Yes…it’s not a coincidence.” Chills ran down my spine. That’s when I realized even neighbors were involved. As a kid her son (now a doctor) threw a lit firecracker in my tent outside and I lost half of my hearing in my left ear. She still lives on the block and will often flash her headlights at me in the middle of the day to let me know she’s involved in the harassment.

Terry

February 9th, 2016 at
9:45 PM

I went to grammar school with this man, got friendly on FB and that was the end.. Never went on a date, never did anything. Last time I saw him was in 1976. This man has ruined my online career, my marriage and the police think it’s a laughing matter. He went from cyber stalking to stalking me in 5 years. He follows me. I actually called my insurance and told them if I get to an accident or maim or kill someone, he is libel. I tell my story to many people. The more that know, the better. I’m planning to go to law school, just for this lunatic to stop.

Kenya

February 10th, 2016 at
12:01 PM

I understand I am actually stalked right in the bedroom I stay in too the bathroom and my phone is also traced and so are my calls…I cannot dress or shower in private I step in tub they have managed to put cameras throughout this place…a man spoke up the drain at me after I stepped in.also in my bedroom when I remove my clothing throughout the place ewhen I try to eat…even I don’t get a moments peace..not even when I sleep…he and the rest of the perverts are peeping and recording me from the time I open my eyes..I am so humiliated… This has went on for a long while… They won’t go away my looks especially are being ruined so is my health…I am tampered with to the point I feel awful all the time…I don’t know how IMA survive… When they are following everywhere its really frightening.. I know one female who was recorded nude in her bedroom as well for one year she was alone and he harassed her until he finally got caught.. She was a white female..so was the famous news reporter who was stalked from and watched nude footages of her was put on internet and her predator finally was caught… I wish someone would get these horrible sexual abuses from my presence and put them underground dead or locked aeay the way I feel alienated loss of connection with people..when u try to explain people don’t believe you and some have to even turned violent towards me..because I speak the truth..I wish you well terry..my body is exploited sois my entire being damaged forever…maybe someone qualified with the guts to do OK will end this and it look like they tend to blame the victim all the time…you say the cops laughed at you I believe you..this is what a sexual abuser of me said what would happen if I called for help..and I know god is just he won’t live to derive much more pleasure from the suffering I endured.. I hope u get this predator away from you .. I know the neighbors are definitely part of what’s happening to me…

say so

May 21st, 2018 at
8:04 PM

This is most likely paranoid delusions and a minority of people here are having this. Who has extra cash to install cameras in your bathroom and for what benefit? Who has that James bond skills to install the surveillance systems from your licked house?
What you people need is a matching therapist to make your self importance disappear.

Vickie R

December 4th, 2017 at
7:05 PM

Yes me too! I even went to Trump because he listened to me. I was so desperate to have my voice heard that I went on TWITTER for help. No one could believe it was a GROUP of people stalking me, not just one person. GOOGLE gang stalking and organized community mobbing. It’s all true. Yes I felt police didn’t believe me when I first came in to report it so I try to tweet Chief Charlie Beck because 1 (he’s handsome HA!) and seems like a nice man. And he got me interested in going to a Dodger’s game when the stress has left me. I used to think the police weren’t my friends, but I think now they are just over-worked and maybe people have been lying to me about the police and some have even FAKED being the police. I had one therapist for 20 yrs who told me was an LAPD cop and it turned out not to be true??? So I was probably telling a perfect con man all my problems for 20 yrs and never knew he was a scam artist? Then I get calls from people claiming to be from the LAPD and it turns out NOT to be the cops at all. Someone did tip me off that these folks folloiwng me in gray tinted cars could be a private security firm working for somebody high up or important??? Oh well, good luck! I like this forum. Makes me feel tons better and I don’t hate the police so much anymore!!! HA. I might even do a documentary on police K 9s cause I love those dogs so much, even though I’m a cat lover.

Winter14

March 4th, 2016 at
11:02 AM

Hi my coworkers take turn stalking me. When ever I take a day off to do my personal stuff or do my personal stuff any other time outside of work time, but next day I come to work they are making comments of what I did. I do not know what to do but it is very stressful. When they are talking I tried to ignored them.

Mariah

March 9th, 2016 at
1:46 AM

It’s almost a year now since the first time I realized I have been stalked with a female who is menopausal and is claiming that she in love with my fiance. It’s just creepy because she is posting some pictures of her and him together every time they get a chance to go out for work. And just recently , because i tried to ignore her for 6 months because that’s what my fiance told me, she became worst! She seduced my man and contacted my relatives to spread the news that my man and her are together and i am just an idiot to still believed my man. I asked my man about the seducing and he said it was true but nothing happened that’s why this woman became more aggressive, dominant and desperate. And now she is even going on my brothers account and told every one in her facebook friendslist that my (brother) is my boyfriend and i am financing him on his cock fight career! aaaaarrrrggghhhhhh I am so annoyed because the whole thing is so NOT TRUE!!!
Also she is so immature because she is telling every one how ugly and big I am, Which I don’t really care because honestly that doesn’t make me LESS of a woman.
My boyfriend is very calmed about it, he told me that this woman is a psychopath and it is better to ignore her and not engage to what she want to happen because it will only leads trouble. I trust my man so much because we are very open to each other. I hope this will end soon . It is so stressful .

Dylan

March 15th, 2016 at
4:36 PM

I am currently in a really creepy position. Someone who’s been part of my group of friends has all of a sudden gotten obsessively interested in me. I see him staring at me, not responding, giving weird answers to questions… And he’s started emailing me. Creepy emails, telling me to get rid of anything I have on him (I have nothing?), and that he’ll know if I tell anyone about the emails. He took my profile picture for that email and used it to track me on all my social medias, and found one of my old videos. He says he wants to use the video as blackmail, and has shown people it. I’m not particularly proud of the video, but I’m fine with it being online. The simple act of it, however, is enough to arise suspicion. It’s getting really weird, and I’ve only told a few close friends about it. Ugh.

Olivia

March 18th, 2016 at
1:35 PM

In November 2014 my car was keyed not once but on two different locations. It was keyed again in December of 2014. We’re talking knife like keying . March 2015 my home was spraypainted with profanity . May 2015 my gastsnk was filled with sugar. June 2015 my gas tank was filled with water and my engine blew while I was driving and almost caused a major accident. Then there were no incidents until November 2015 when I had to finally buy a new car I had 11 days before it was keyed five days later it was keyed again two weeks later it was Keyed again. Dec 2015 my home was spray-painted with profanity.The last three keyings were done at my workplace. Police are involved . I live my life in fear . I hate leaving the house . I am in a constant state of terror and no one understands . I goto work and home and that is it . Has anyone else experienced something like this where they don’t know who is doing this ? I fear for my life and am sick of being physically ill from anxiety .

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Anonymous

July 4th, 2017 at
6:23 PM

I felt compelled to let you know you are not alone. My situation is a bit different but I also have become virtually a prisoner in my home. I go to work and back home. I have no energy for anything else. I struggle just to get to the grocery store to get petfood. I feel really guilty for my pets I think I should not have adopted them, if I have so little energy to play with them and spend time with them. My stalker is my ex and he will not leave me alone. The police do nothing except for telling me I need to do something about it because they are tired of being called by the neighbors to do a welfare check on me. They don’t want to come to my house anymore. It is very degrading to be treated this way condescended and made to feel it is my problem to solve. I asked for a Restraining order and they said I did not qualify for one. I don’t know what to do anymore I am losing my strength to fight this. I am considering to just leave my home and go hide somewhere in another state. This is not really an option with my pets. I have no one to help me. The family I had are dead. He has convinced everyone that he can get to that I am mentally ill. He also threatens me that if I voice any opposition to him bringing people into my house and my yard that he will have me hospitalized. He tells me daily that the police believe that I am mentally ill. I have never been diagnosed with any mental illness. I have never been on medication for any mental illness. I have constant air traffic over my house as though I am being surveilled at all times. I can watch whenever I leave my house the sky there will be at least one helicopter and it will follow me the entire time I am gone. I used to mention to him I think I am being followed he always says it is not true and it is my mental illness that makes me think that. I also think I am being subjected to physical harm either by poisoning or tampering of electrical currents in my house. Nothing electronic in my house has worked since he came here. The alarm has constant interference but he wont tell me what it is that is causing this. My car seems different I think there is a tracking device installed. He is very evil and I don’t know what it is that he is really here for. He tells me he hates me and tells me to leave him alone when he is in my house. I told him if you hate me and you don’t want me around you then its simple don’t come to my house ever again. It seems he is guarding the house. When I drive anywhere there are a million cars that chase me on the freeway. Then there are the ones that park on the side the road and wait for me then pull out once I have passed them. I have contacted lawyer but I have to give him 3500 retainer just to start the case. I also think he comes into my house everyday while I am at work. It feelslike multiple people have been in my house and have disturbed my belongings furniture mail fianancial information bills etc. It is very bad. When I tell him something has been disturbed he always says I am wrond he never even considers that this it could be true. I hope that I can continue to hold on to my job because I will be homeless if I cannot work there is no one to take care of me. He hasn’t paid any money to me ever for the expenses of mortgage and bills. He has cut my PGE main line to my house. He claimed it was an accident. My power has been shut off and he conveniently knows someone down the street who works for PGE. He also seems to be friends with the mail man, UPS delivery, and FEDEX. Also he has conversations with the garbage man. And my water has been shut off once aswell . HIe has family that works for the water company. He could leave anytime but he refuses to leave and he beaks the glass in the door to the garage if I lock it. II have already had it fixed 3 times. I have had the locks changed also 3 times. I cant see the way out of this. One time when the neighbors called the police they claimed they heard yelling and then a loud noise they thought it was a gunshot. I couldn’t tolerate his abuse and I left. When I returned home the back doors to my house had been broken open. He claimed it was the police they had to check to make sure there was not a dead body in the house. 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Fay

July 4th, 2017 at
9:00 PM

I am so sorry you have to go through this. Is it the house you’re trying to hold on to? Looks like both wants the other to get out. Let him have it, and move into something you can afford by yourself. I know it’s complicated with him cutting off utilities and doing damage. I wish I could help. I’m in Texas.

say it

July 4th, 2017 at
10:31 PM

Well.
You just cannot leave your home because of a jerk. You fight back.
Do you not have relatives that can help you fight back?

Fay

July 5th, 2017 at
12:32 PM

Maybe you and the jerk can come to some agreement regarding the house. You’ll need a lawyer and a realtor. You just cannot just literally fight. Get real, both of you and get out of this mess.

steven

April 3rd, 2016 at
12:26 PM

for years now a neighbor
and his family have stalked me and my family in a most unusual way any time of the morning I chose to get up and walk out into my front yard he does not usually leave his home he has already left and is waiting just a block or two down and when he sees me he and or a member of his family drive by now Iam the last person on this road for miles and miles he has no business up here and at night will often turn his headlights off and just sit. No one else have I seen here so often especially none at night. yet last night like so often my property was trespassed on and damage to it was done I can only consider this as implied guilt considering the years of activity their stalking has been going on and connect the two.﻿ we have our rights of association our rights of privacy,our right of private property,and other rights under law and under the bill of rights,and the Constitution, I also have my stand your ground rights.

nikita N.

April 24th, 2016 at
3:03 AM

I empathize with any person who some where in their lives have been subjected to stalking.. I tell myself everyday that I am not a victim of this torturous crime, I am a survivor. I have been stalked for the past 18 nearly 19 month’s by an individual who has relatives living within the same location as I do. At first, I didn’t know what to make of it because the very first time I actually saw him was the day he wove at me as I was standing outside my house talking with my father. What I did notice was how this person didn’t wave or gesture at my father. In return I wove back, for the sake of being polite. Few days later I saw the same person again, just hanging around etc he tried using intimidation tactics just to get me to go outside at night like parking up near my house either revving or flashing his front car lights through my kitchen windows. I became fearful, and did not know what to do and completely ignored him. His behavior escalated tremendously, and it felt like he along with other people from his circle were watching me. They seem to know when I was home? And when I wasn’t home and basically knew my day and night routines. Then the following started, on various occasions and I felt that I could not go anywhere to which I became house bound. The endless nights of knowing that someone is outside your house at ridiculous times of the mornings, anything from 1am to 5am? Sometimes he would just sit there in his car or walk up on foot either way? I knew he was out there. I started changing my routines and changed my whole pattern, I started having more people over at my house that helps reduce the isolation and control, because stalkers? Want to do just that isolate&control their prey it’s all part of their plan they have installed. I did other thing’s like switching on all the lights at night, because anyone who is creeping around at night? Hate..the lights. It was just little things I did, to let him and the rest of his circle that I was making a stand and if anything, the tactics they were using towards me? I was firing them right back. That took guts and a hell of a lot of courage, for me to do that considering I was in fear of him.. My strategies worked. But then he just went up another level, I got to the point of where I had enough and the biggest mistake I made was engaging with him.. Meaning, I thought if I talked to him? That he would just stop all this behavior. But he didn’t.. What he did was “groomed me” and then over Xmas of last year while I was away? I believe he broke into my house and purposely destroyed my alarm system.. And I think he did that, so it would give him more access to my house. A week after the break in, he came over invited and assaulted me. I now have to live my life surrounded with, motion sensors, cameras, and a brand new alarm system in my house. This person is one of the worst stalkers of all.. The predatory stalker. And he his still stalking me today, but I have become that much more aware and take so much precaution. I still keep changing my routines so he doesn’t become adjusted to everything I’m doing, and he doesn’t like it. Stalker’s hate it when the regular pattern of their prey? Is changed and keeps changing. My advice to anyone who is going through stalking? Don’t give up. Stand your ground and don’t engage with a stalker.
If anyone would like to share their experiences of being stalked please email me:)

Andrea

September 21st, 2016 at
6:28 PM

I pray for everyone going through stalking of any sort. Me and my son have been gangs talked from the government due to us having mental diagnosis whoever doesn’t believe in conspiracy theories has never been tortured by this ungodly clan of Devils . This has affected us in so many negative ways I’ll pray that someone anyone will listen and to help make this stop. Thank you

Juju

Fay

July 4th, 2017 at
9:22 PM

Thank you for information that may help. Especially turning on the lights and changing up the pattern of doing things. Evil does hate light. One other thing, when a victim talks about the stalking situation, it always sounds doubtful and crazy. Like she is mentally ill. I believe them that they’re stalked. We don’t make this stuff up. Would you believe my stalker is my personal care physician?

d.anne

April 27th, 2016 at
8:11 AM

I have been stalked across the united states. I am so tired of it. I have anxiety disorder so no one will believe me. I have been here less than 30 days and its beginning again. I am homeless currently so I am easily accessible. The last place that I lived they broke into my apt. The police did nothing. They said perhaps I left the door unlocked. This happened twice. My car was broken into three times, once again the police did nothing, no report, nothing. There were signs someone had been watching by my bedroom window, I called the police, once again they did nothing, no report or anything. So I moved to another state. Now I am homeless and living in my car and due to this, and now I am very easy to harass because I am homeless. Its like living in hell every single day. My faith in God and my service dog is the only reason I am still around.

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April 27th, 2016 at
9:37 AM

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Morgana

May 26th, 2016 at
6:54 AM

I wish I could help you. I’m in financial strain myself and am being helped by family. I pray God blesses you with a home SOON!!! He WILL!!! I have been there and through nothing short of a miracle he has delivered me out of that situation and He will deliver you out as well. He will also keep you safe. I pray that He gives His Angels charge over you to keep you in all your ways, I pray He preserves you from ALL evil and preserves your soul. I pray that He meets ALL your needs and gives you the desires of your heart according to His will. God has continued to meet my needs and He will continue to meet ALL of yours as well!!! Just tell yourself: “It is well!” And it will be!!! God Bless!!!!

Morgana

May 26th, 2016 at
6:48 AM

This is why women should NEVER give men they’re not interested in the time of day. I’m not saying this is the case for all women who get stalked. It’s NOT your fault by any means. But I have a rule that if a guy is not my type and he seems to be hitting on me I politely ignore him. Don’t feel sorry for them and never “mercy date” ANYONE. Sometimes even a polite “hello” is all the motive a stalker needs to try and obligate a woman to go out with them against that woman’s wishes. I NEVER date guys who are the opposite of my type and I NEVER Will. Never give them ANY reason to take on the “she misled me,now she owes me something” attitude. If you NEVER say a word to them and never look their way they will never have that excuse. Again, I’m not blaming. It’s NOT YOUR FAULT. Some guys are really sick. You don’t have to be cruel, but please bear in mind that as a woman you CANNOT be friendly to EVERY guy. If you want nothing to do with them, HAVE NOTHING to do with them. Sometimes complete silence and intentional lack of eye contact is the best way to go. It has always worked for me. God Bless!

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Stopsign

June 6th, 2016 at
1:38 PM

People willfully stalk people knowing their victims know who they are. It is rude, interrupting, crazy, and chaotic. I would suggest that before a stalker tries to validate his borderline personality disorder and use the law against victims, that he stop stalking the person. The police often report where they see stalkers and victims even if both parties don’t report it. If a victim is psychologically disturbed due to stalking and the factor is situational, then the stalker needs to be told to take responsibility for what they have caused.

Cattytatts

June 30th, 2016 at
10:29 AM

So my fiance and I have had this woman following us for months. She emerged on the local scene around here about 6 months ago. She has made friends with all of our friends and recently broke a good couple up. Then she started flirting with the guy that broke up with his girlfriend! It gets worse. When this woman emerged on the scene she asked exactly what unit my fiance and I live in which I thought was odd for anyone to do upon first meeting them. She also seemed quite nosey for a newcomer just having a drink. Then one night she tells my fiance and I she likes listening into our conversations and goes on to tell us how we’re her favorite couple shortly before she broke up the other couple. Then out of nowhere she began to take a shining to my fiance or myself and follows us around public places. She will position herself to make it easier for us to see her and attempts to gain attention which I find disturbing. Last night it got so bad my fiance and I hid. Luckily she didn’t find us and left before us (only the second time she left before us in 6 months). When we got out the door though, there she was again staring at us waiting to follow us or watch us walk home about a half block away hiding between garbage to try and stay hidden. I’ve caught her following us to store after leaving places at night. The worst part about this is this woman has followed us to my doctor appointments and even worse. .. went out of town to same town as us at the exact same time! I don’t know what to do or who to turn to because that woman has turned all my friends against me in the time she’s been here. I’ve been told there’s not much the law can do about something like this until something bad happens. For now, my fiance and I always go places together and always keep our wit’s about us. This is the first time I’ve been stalked while being in a relationship or engagement. Best advice is, be careful who you talk to and never talk about anything important in public. Keep talking out of the house small because you never know who might be out to get you or sabotage your relationship.

Fay

Nikita

July 25th, 2017 at
8:53 PM

Becareful of that person.. It sounds like shes been watching you and your partner for sometime.. I mean why would she randomly say “She likes to listen yours&your partners conversations”? The question is, HOW LONG has she being doing that for? I think she said that for maybe a couple of reasons:
1. She wants you both know what she’s doing.
2. To induce fear so both of you will be afraid of her.
It’s all about power. Control. Isolation. My advice is don’t give her the satisfaction! She wants a reaction and if she doesn’t get one? She’ll keep going up another level just to get her point across.. Take the control from her and don’t give her the opportunity for her to disrupt yours&your partners life! But at the same time, be safe..

scaredmouse

August 26th, 2016 at
12:14 PM

my daughter and i are currently being stalked by her ex caregivers there showing up at her school constanty looking for her after threating us on constant occasions that if i ever got her back they would kill us so we are terrified about what they are going to do to us we have told relatives and friends but no one believes us we keep running into them when we go to the store were afraid to leave the house.

Thank you for your comment. The GoodTherapy.org Team is not qualified to offer professional advice, but we urge you to reach out to local law enforcement. They may be able to offer you advice on how to keep yourself and your daughter safe.

Abby

September 27th, 2016 at
10:27 PM

I have been stalked by this man for over a decade. I didn’t feel I was in danger until recently. I am not sure what happened, but he sent me some messages that sound like he is at the end of his rope. He say he ran out of patience in waiting for me, to put it nicely. For the first time he sent me several messages about how he feels about me and he is not sure what is going to happen, if I don’t respond to him. This is totally out of character for him. He is a very well established person, both in his personal and professional life. That’s why I was never concerned about him, but now I had to close all my social media accounts, because his stalking for new information on me got out of hand. He has used many people to try to get information on me, so I had to distance myself from most people, just to try and stay safe. He’s a very powerful man in our community, so going to the police is out of the question. I just hope my husband and I won’t have to relocate and go into hiding, but I fear that’s where this is heading.

Molly

September 28th, 2016 at
9:35 AM

Isn’t that completely crazy! The man stalking me is married and active in his church and community too. I guess I just had a different picture of what someone who does these things might be like. I didn’t understand this when it all started so when I did go to court I agreed to a civil settlement which was basically if he left my family and I alone then we would agree not to press charges about prior incidents after 2 years. If we could prove that he was still stalking then we could immediately roll it over into a stalking order. Things did happen during the 2 years however it is difficult to know whether it was just a coincidence or if it was him. The agreement ended the end of July. Beginning of August I had very good reason to believe he was in my Barn then sadly my rabbits died one by one only on his days off and he has rotating days off the whole month of August. The coincidence is way to much to believe it wasn’t him. We did put cameras up in the barn but still need to get power to them. Originally 2 days after he was put on admin leave my dog was poisoned, the rabbits did show signs of rat poisoning but it was just to much money to get them tested and we would not have had proof that it was him. Abby I am just telling you this because it is really important if you do document and press charges do not settle this in a civil agreement. Take documentation to PD and to the DA and ask for advise. Don’t settle because you just think that that will be the quickest way to end it. You might just be painting yourself into a corner. I’m so sorry this is happening to you and your family. It can be a living nightmare.

Fay

July 4th, 2017 at
9:53 PM

You mean he’s stalking you and you have a husband? Unbelievable. But, l believe you if you say so. These so-called important about town types are just the ones who will do this sort of thing. Stalk. Would you believe I have added a second stalker to the one I already had? Now I have two separate, unrelated stalkers at once. Anybody ever heard of that? How unfortunate can you be?

Conor

September 29th, 2016 at
9:03 PM

So, I have a question about a situation if anyone would mind giving me their opinion. So I knew this lady from middle school when we both attended and it took a few years and remembering that she existed again but we started talking to each other and she seemed to be interested but seemed conflicted about her emotions the entire time, especially after i confessed my feelings for her. (all long distance btw) Something to note I texted her constantly and asked her a few times if it was too much and never said it was a problem. Well after awhile of moving i became severely depressed because of my situation and i leaned on her, started calling her all the time and so on. One day out of the blue, she tells me she has no romantic feelings for me, well, okay now i’m confused so we argue and i get even more depressed, contemplate suicide (don’t act on it) and basically guilt trip her friend without really knowing i was doing it at the time (I understand why they view it that way now though) well we stopped talking but I wanted answers so i would text her every so often and she just wasn’t having it for some reason and I still don’t get what I did wrong. So I have a dream about her that brings back all of these emotions i had for her awhile back (mind you this is all after having given great effort into forgetting her). So I get sad and text her this huge apology because i felt guilty and what not. She accepted it and the next day I ask her if we can be friends she says sure. I was excited we talked for two hours then she just stopped I guess i said something stupid, I really don’t know. I start freaking out asking her to call me and trying to understand the situation. I decided i needed to stop so i say goodbye to her through text and tell her that I don’t want her to view me as some “creepy stalker”. Okay, no response like expected, cool. Come to find out her friend unblocked me on facebook. I was going through my photos and reading the comments and contemplating posting a new one as i hadn’t had one of my face up in a long time (genuine truth there). So i’m like okay, i will message her friend tomorrow to see what’s up but i’m gonna be polite about it. Well, long story short she thought I was stalking her friend and apparently me noticing that i had been unblocked was proof enough to verify this. well I tried to explain myself to her and she just wasn’t having it she blocked me before i could get a word in edge wise saying that she wasn’t stupid and that knew i was indeed stalking my old friend. Okay well i text my friend telling her that her friend is being ridiculous and i get no response, well wtf is going on? idk. So i keep texting her like a fool then stop when i have said my piece but my mind drives me figure this nonsense out so one of her buddies still has me unblocked I remember so i message her politely asking if I could inquire about something and she tells me the authorities have been notified, well I don’t know why I’m receiving this treatment, i never threatened them, i never tried to make them feel unsafe, i even tried to make that clear that it wasn’t my intention to do so because, I like this person and want her in my life so who in their right mind would do something so stupid. I told her about all of the profiles she blocked me on and the faults that went along with their blocking system as a show of faith which i guess backfired. Then she texts me this warning/request to leave her alone lest she be driven to inform the police. Well, to my knowledge i didn’t do anything wrong, I even looked the s*** up to be certain. So i told her that i understand fully and will acknowledge immediately. I don’t know why she wouldn’t just talk it out with me that’s literally the only thing I was asking for, you know, tell me what I’m doing what i did that made you hate me so much. she just wouldn’t and I don’t get it. Why treat a person with such a great deal of affection and then abandon them? Honestly I just want to know if what I did was unreasonable or what she did was unreasonable. I tried to be as forthcoming about all of it as possible without giving too much info as to the personal nature of things. I appreciate the feedback, thanks.

Conor

Love God

October 6th, 2017 at
6:18 PM

On a spiritual realm when you reach out to help others, through passing on information that’s truth and pure honesty that comes straight from your heart. The enemy becomes angry in feeling defeated, he will seek revenge by sending his henchmen. The enemy’s henchmen will try to beguile you with enticing words. If their words doesn’t work, then they will take it to the next level. They will turn your words around. FOR EXAMPLE: The word undercover means –
secret work. The henchmen will turn the word undercover around on you, to make all who will believe them, think that you wanna get under the covers with them. Their deceit is to deceive you, as they work in groups trying to lure you into a spider web of sin. I had experienced this on October 4, 2017 into October 5, 2017, “I had shut them down with the assistance of God, by allowing his words to flow out of my mouth.” However, “I do thank God for allowing my parents to raise me up in the church.” Why? Because, I knew what this group was trying to produce, but their plan had failed. Nevertheless, I still remained standing due to: putting on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the enemy (Ephesians 6-11). No matter how wick or evil you’re, when you come near me, you better know that God is always present too! Also, know this:
(Revelation: 21-8) But the fearful, and unbelieving and the abominable, and murders, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burner with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. Therefore, everybody on this earth must stop doing destruction towards one another before it’s to late.

Mahdi

October 8th, 2017 at
10:48 AM

Whether you are a stalker or not has a lot to do with intention and whether or not you trust in God. Someone who stalks becomes obsessive and begins to see the person of their desire as an idol. This is the root of stalking. But if the stalker prays and understands true love, he begins to love that person with all his heart. Just maybe after this process, the two can become friends and even have a relationship. There is hope for stalkers to turn their obsessions into true love, so instead of being a demon for the person they stalk, they can turn into their guardian Angel. This is especially true for Soulmates. There is always Hope, and our responsibility as human beings is to fight off the fear that we have for one another, and to trust in God that He will mend our relationships, no matter how broken they may seems.

Fay

July 4th, 2017 at
10:02 PM

I think you are being unreasonable. Forget about her. No more contact, please.

Love God

September 30th, 2017 at
5:28 AM

Conor- It seems as though you have trouble expressing yourself. What I mean is: go back and reread what you’ve wrote. You had stated, “it took a few years and remembering that she existed again.” If she were to read this remark made by you. It would upset her all over again. Why? Because it sounds like you were trying to come off like a player. You should always admit to yourself and the female that you like the truth. Meaning since you like this female, then never pretend that you forgot that she even existed. Never be dishonest, just be yourself and always treat females the same way that you would like to be treated which is, with respect.” You see,” by what you had wrote. “I strongly, believe that the problem was your choice of words at times, the way you would used them towards her, that’s what caused the conflict.” However,” always think before you speak.” ALSO REMEMBER THIS: What all guys must know about females is, that most females prefer to move slowly by developing a friendship first, which is perfectly normal. In you, she was looking for a friend and you should had maintained being the best friend possible. Never confess your feelings for a female first. Why? Because you already know what you want. Always wait by being patient, let her confess first to you how she feels about you. This way you won’t never experience being closed out anymore. Instead, you will have a better chance at keeping the female in your life. “You see,” you didn’t realize it then, but you were being aggressive in a controlling way and most females don’t like that. You never tell a female what she’s going to do, but instead you ask her first if that’s what she would like to do. Most Importantly, never reach out for advice from your female friend that you like, friends. Never flirt with the female that you like, friends. Why? Because as soon as these females have a verbal disagreement, with one another her friends will throw in her face your infidelities. Nevertheless, with your infidelities being mentioned in their disagreement, it will produce conflicts towards you within that female that you like. Important Note: Females who have been friends for a long time, most of the time will continue their friendship with each other no matter what, over you! I’d noticed that another responder told you to stop texting the female. Yes, she did tell you the right thing. Conor, never be anxious for an response from anyone, just relax and wait for their response. However, if she never responds then just remember, that’s her choice. Therefore, that’s when you leave her be. Never make a female feel like you’re being forceful towards her in a controlling way, because she will more than likely make a decision to keep away from you. However, if you continue on in that destructive manner anyway, with many texts, and phone calls, that’s when she will start to think that you’re a stalker. Then of course she will get the police involved. Never let suicidal thoughts enter into your mind, for that’s what the enemy wants! Stay strong and prayful! Because there’s nothing in this world that’s worth committing suicide over! Go on Google type in: WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT SUICIDE- HOW TO PRAY AGAINST SUICIDAL THOUGHTS PASTOR’S BUD & BETTY MILLER THEIR MESSAGE TO YOU COMES STRAIGHT FROM THE HOLY BIBLE KJV, OT & NT. *THIS IS THE ONLY BIBLE THAT GOD HAS LEFT BEHIND FOR HIS SAINTS TO FOLLOW AND BELIEVE! Conor- I do hope that you understand, all that I’ve shared with you. I’ve taken the time to help you, because I care. Mainly, so that you don’t continue repeating the same patterns towards the next female. EVERY MAN WHO SAYS THAT HE LOVES HIS WOMAN, MUST KNOW THAT GOD WANTS HIM TO LOVE AND PROTECT HIS WOMAN ALWAYS, BUT NEVER EVER HARM HER! May God Be With You Conor!

Jackie

April 17th, 2018 at
6:07 PM

Hey. Just one part I want to say is this: it probably would have been better to leave them alone for a long period of time, just to give them space. Then, when you came back, if they still didn’t wanna talk, that means it’s over. Sometimes things are just over and that needs to be accepted. I had a stalker, and my main problem with them was that they never stopped messaging me, even when I made it obvious that I wanted them to stop. I’m not sure if you really did anything wrong, but you might have freaked them out the the shear amount of feeling and might not have given them their space like they wanted. That’s why I called my stalker a stalker after all.

Trish

fatima

October 23rd, 2016 at
1:31 PM

my ex or i donnu is stalking me

am a cosplayer, just an ordinary girl, am not a beautiful girl that either, i had a long distance boyfriend from indonesia..we both get into the relationship because of cosplay sh$t even am not in indonesia yet, but turns out, he went crazy, he contacts everyone on my personal even my family relatives, moy mom and etc. i feel like i cant move anymore, my phone calls, txts msgs, people who helds my phone, or anyone whoever likes me or whoever id like to have selfie with my phone gets dead like wtf, seriously..i have a stalker too from malaysia, now i donnu which person stalking me, is it from my country or what… am so bullied like so public, but i feel like being used to it, and now this sembreak, theyre trying to do the same, theyre hacking my phone so i could change into new one, i donnu what to do anymore, my friends says, get a personal boyfriend so that theyll stop or get married already but i still dont want yet, seriously, am already fine with shts, but theyre repeating it again.. hacking my phone to dead..its not new it doesnt hurt that much just, i still donnu why other people get obsess over person so much>?? are they just bored? or they just want someone to be bullied upon? i knw am not alone with this case, just i just donnu, what to feel, do i need to feel beautiful? or should i pity myself?? i honestly like it a little because ma living on it already, just, wow,, am all alone in my country but my hackers overseas sees me more than my parents, my parents r there too btw,, i donnu if theyre just monitoring me since am overseas too n here at manila just wow,,, posssively, i cant breath, its not sweet anymore, its suffocating. and also duhhh

Jennifer

October 29th, 2016 at
7:40 AM

Question: My H has an X girlfriend and they had a terrible break up about 16+ years ago and we have been married for 14 + years now. For the past 6 months or so she has been showing up where we are events that are for MY job. She started out with 4 mutual friends on FB and now she has 16 mutual friends on FB. She even sent the both of us a friend request! I personally feel bothered by her because she continues to appear and I feel she is trying to make a statement or scare me?! Am I out of line or should I even be bothered by this?

Jennifer

Y

November 23rd, 2016 at
2:51 AM

Dear Good Therapy,
I stalking case isn’t the usual, there are numerous people stalking me and committing other crimes on me and certain others and they keep the public informed on my every action. The stalkers have many public people eating out of their hands. The stalkers go-going tell people what crimes to do to hurt me, to coverup their crimes, to make it appear they innocent, that I am lying about everything, told the public my personal business, making me look like I just want to do ” ____ _____ ______ __________ __________ ________________________ _________________ (in other words bad things.). Stalkers most of my actions are twisted around and used against me. When I have an extremely bad day my actions are used against me more for my lost and their gain. : -(

Denise

November 27th, 2016 at
4:37 PM

I have had a stalker for 3 years now, possibly longer since i didn’t notice at first. Thankfully it’s only at work. But he comes in and walks past me, staring. Then leaves, staring. Stands outside the window and stares. If i’m walking around the store he follows me. I had to hide one time to make sure he couldn’t follow me. He was told in English to leave me alone and he stopped for a month, then started up again. So he was told in Spanish to leave me alone. Right aftwrwards i was talking to a coworker and he came up behind me and whispered in my ear, ‘okay, bye now’. I went and bought pepperspray after that. I filed complaint after complaint with my suporvisors backing me up but they said they didn’t have enough proof. I saw the file. It was nearly 3 inches thick!!! I found out the higher ups didn’t think i was really being stalked because i’m not skinny. Finally after another whole year of constant stalking he followed another girl, a 17 year old, out to her car. That was when they FINALLY banned him. And stupid me i thought it would be over. But there is a difference in banning someone and ENFORCING the ban. He still comes in and watches me. Follows me. But how do i go to the police when i don’t know who he is? He refused to tell the bosses when they banned him. Everything i found says you have to know all of that. I don’t want to quit my job and let him win. So do i just wait for him to kill me instead? I live close to my work, i’m scared to go home in fear that he finds out where i live.

K

November 28th, 2016 at
9:32 PM

I am being stalked by the boy (now man) that violently raped me when I was 12. It started by him contacting me on Facebook about a year ago, then started up again after I saw him in the grocery store. He has ran me off the road, called me hundreds of times, left me messages with heavy breathing, sat in my driveway, sent me flowers at work, hung a noose around one of the home security cameras I had installed, left me notes on my car, slashed my tires…there’s more. And writing it all out and seeing everything he has done in the past six months really scares me. The police are involved but can only do so much because he walks a very fine line between what is legal and illegal. I’ve been run out of my own home and have been staying with family members. I feel like I have no control over my life, and I see myself spiraling into a dark hole. I’m not sleeping, barely eating but then also binge, it’s affecting my child’s life and my marriage in more ways than I’d care to admit. I’m not sure how much longer I can go on like this. I have support but I feel myself pulling away from that too. It’s sickening to have to keep talking about this. My life is at a stand still. I’ve read almost every other comment on here and have to admit they don’t give me much hope. I keep asking myself what is the point of living when you have to be afraid of dying almost every second.

Thank you for your comment. We are sorry to hear of what you are experiencing. If you do not already have the support of a therapist or counselor, we encourage you to reach out. A qualified and compassionate mental health professional may be able to help address the emotional effects of stalking you mention and can also simply provide a safe space for you to talk.

Valerie T

New legislation has pass so your stalker can’t find you have to write a letter to the secretary of state and they will take it from there and your state recurved money to help youov

sue

December 27th, 2016 at
4:19 AM

I am traumatized everyday for 4 years now. it started as I thought I liked this guy cause he flirted and I have not seen a man to talk to but my glasses were not very clear. not sure what he really looks like. I told him in email from his work then he shows it to all his co workers. and makes me look crazy. he hacked my phone and fb account and saw my sisters pic and gave her a fake name. and text her said she was hot in pic of her I.in fb. then before even talking to me he tried to have me killed he told a friend he wants me gone , I told police and they to a record on itso now he has ask people to rape me steal from me. they stole a few things I now of/ police say I need proof before they can get him.since he tells his co workers I am delousinal since he had told everyone of text I sent. he told his india native friend to have his friends and friends of their friends to tormentme. he has contacted me on google plus in a fake name he went with different ones different times drew pics of a gang of guys raping me. then one carrying me off in a trunk. then he deletes them after he knows I saw them. so he is having me gang stalked he walks down my streetand to confuse me what he looks like he hashis relatives that resemble him walk down also. I kept writing on google plus that I have no feelings for him. we never touched eachother so he goes after my other sister with a name he made up.god only knows whoever in family he has not slept with. I had a harassment warrant on him he then put one on me then he demands judge to take harassment charges off hin so there was a court date and I ndid not get notice of till 2 days after one of his co workers probably had the clerk make me miss court date since he we works for state agency.so his restraint was dismissed mine I just did nothing cause I did not want to see him he has his coworkers buffaloed. then he said this is war he won’t stop tillhe kills me. all I do is complain to family they can’t do anything about it fear of being killed also. one of my brother had the first signs of alzheimers, him and neighbors behind me is in on circle of terror they used him for rides God only knows if they did anything to him or gave him the scabies he died soon after. I tried overdoseing to get out of this nightmere and he has been peeping in any nook or crany of window he saw me take all those pills ,but I woke up late the next day then he writes in google plus oh gee God saved you again, cause he tried to have a girl poison me that did not work so he has fridends threatening me. on this thanksgiving he told neighbors behind me to kill me. I heard from back yard. he has now hacked our locks if I moved he have me followed, I am thinking of getting gun cause I can’t even go in back yard without there threat of raping me. I had barbwire on fence they still jump it he also said on google plus that he owned me. I pray on prayerllines they pray for my protection.and when I got my car they scratch it every chance they getr 2 days after I got they tried to break in it.i could go on and on but ihave anxiety pills to help some.

Fran

December 28th, 2016 at
9:19 AM

Take steps to safe guard your property and get a fire extinguisher if you can. My stalker lives in same block of flats as me. She set fire to my door in Tuesday. Police involved. She’s been charged with arson. Don’t know what sentence set hot the court house never answer their phone’s. Tried two different numbers and no response. It has taken this cat for the police to finally take me seriously.

anonymous

December 31st, 2016 at
9:03 AM

STALKED BY THE BADGE:
After being stalked, harassed, physically assaulted, house broken into, and had my vehicle STOLEN by a CHP officer boyfriend/fiancé, some 20 years later a Cal Fire fire chief displayed these relatively same abusive qualities as a serial cheater/sexual (and financial) predator, kidnapper, stalker, who FRAUDULENTLY deceives female victims he targets, stating that he is “in the middle of a divorce.” WHAT A CON! His wife is an ATTORNEY FOR THE STATE, so they BOTH Are SERIOUSLY CORRUPT! He stated “my wife knows about my violence, but I have blackmailed her about her gambling/drinking addiction being reported to the State Bar,” in order to keep his CCW ISSUED by the SACRAMENTO SHERIFF, as a VIOLENT man behind a badge!
I know far too many TRULY HONORABLE MEN who wear a badge, to defy to TRUTH of what that BADGE STANDS FOR and HOW OUR INSTITUTIONS OF HONOR have been degraded by these dishonorable men who tarnish that image for the rest of the HONORABLE MEN WHO CARE ABOUT OUR COUNTRY AND OUR PEOPLE!!!
Shame on the government and institutions who HARBOR ADVERSE/CRIMINAL EMPLOYEES!
BOTH the violent criminals on the street, and the violent criminals INSIDE GOVERNMENT, NEED TO BE IN PRISON!
NO MORE VIOLENCE AND HARM should be allowed at the expense of LOSING GOOD AND DECENT CITIZENS of our country, or the further deterioration of our country’s institutions!
JUST BECAUSE THEY WEAR A BADGE does NOT MEAN THEY ARE HONORABLE, just like those criminals who have been released, MOST will STILL CONTINUE THEIR CRIMES!
FAR TOO MANY CORRUPT and ABUSIVE PLAYERS have conned the GOOD AND DECENT PEOPLE OF OUR NATION!
It’s TIME WE STAND AGAINST THESE CRIMINALS, from Main Street, all the way up to Wall Street It’s the ONLY WAY we can FREELY walk to INDEPENDENCE AVENUE!

Lulu

December 31st, 2016 at
1:14 PM

There are people who are on autistic spectrum like me who have obsessive compulsive tendencies or simply have trouble interacting with people. I became obsessive and it takes a while to get over it I never approached I text him and messaged him on facebook a lot to the point where he blocked me. Once I got over it I realized if I wanted a relationship I would have to look for one online in case I became obsessive again. I eventually met someone on a dating site we have now been together for almost five months. If anyone is been stalked by an autistic person if they approach you again tell them that you’re not interested and that if they are looking for a relationship they should look for one online to lessen the risk of it reoccurring. If you meet an autistic person again do not give them you’re number or any contact information just in case but let them know you’re social network if they don’t show any obsessive or stalking behavior and they ask for your number give it to them if you want . I am telling you this because I could have had a restraining order against me or arrested and I hope I can help both victims and autistic stalkers. While understand that it is against the law I see a way of handling autistic stalkers without involving police unless you feel you are in danger or have been threatened in anyway. I hope that this will give guidance to victims and I do understand that some are dangerous but people like me who are autistic don’t realize their behavior is a problem. Not everyone is aware there’s another away of handling people like me I hope this will help.

Valerie T.

January 2nd, 2017 at
12:32 PM

Please new legislation has passed to help please go to your domestic violence and advocacy center and they will help you or reach out to me I will help you with getting it done cause I am a survivor of stalking I sent my stalker to jail for 2 and a half years menacing by stalking 4th degree felony

glenn

January 5th, 2017 at
8:50 PM

I am being stocked , My phone has been tampered with ,they have contacted my sons school, and I believe it involves my former employer along with others involved , I am trying to go on with my life after everything I been through , I am also being slandered . if you are reading this and tampered with my computer , I AM ASKING YOU TO STOP ! I AM KEEPING A RECORD ACCOUNT !

Robyn

January 23rd, 2017 at
3:22 AM

There was a guy who stalked me for over two years. He worked at the same hospital where I am a nurse. He made me feel like I was crazy. He used to try to talk to me all the time, and in the start I was friendly to him, but after a while I began to realize that he wanted more from me and I didn’t want anything from him, so I knew be of eased back on the friendly chit chat because I did not want to encourage him. He started to act really strange,
He would smile at me, but it was a kind of evil smile, then people started telling me that he was talking about me, telling people that I was sleeping with all these people at work, which was simply not true. Soon I would see him driving past my house as I was coming home and pulling into my driveway. He would also be at the supermarket where I got my groceries, and he would sit in his car in the carpark of the gym I went to. Instead of feeling good at the gym I felt angry and frustrated.
But it was about to get much worse. One day I came home from work and I got the feeling that someone had been in there. Nothing seemed to be missing, but everything seemed to be moved 2 or 3 inches from where it usually was, even my couch, I could see marks on the carpet where it had been moved. I also had some chicken marinating in the fridge, and the bowl had been filled right up with water, it was filled to the brim, I couldn’t get it out of the fridge without spilling it, there’s no way I put it in the fridge like that.
But the worst was yet to come. I began to receive some calls and texts from various people, some I knew well, some I didn’t know very well. Some of the people were furious with me, some were concerned about me. Apparently someone had called them up and told the women I was sleeping with their husbands, or that I had picked their children up from school, all this weird stuff. I finally realized that my address book was missing and that he had contacted almost everyone in it. This went on and on. He called my boss, my friends, my parents. I told the police about all of this stuff, but for a lot of it, it was just my word against his, and the police said there was not much they could do. After about two years it kind of died away.
I recently found out that he was in jail and that he had stalked his former high school teacher for over 15 years.
Absolutely horrifying.

Adam

March 15th, 2017 at
11:04 AM

Some times people can stalk and not even realize that there actually stalking some one.
Like trying to resolve a problem in person or over the internet my sending e-mails when the victim dose not want any contact.
I’m Shure this was done before but the word “STALKING” has so many meanings to the name that its confusing for both the victim and the so called stalker.

Juju

April 5th, 2017 at
5:11 PM

Hi I wanted to add something…….to all of you who are fortunate to have a stalker in prison. You can register yourself with vine and they will text you or call you if the stalker is moved to another facility or escaped etc. IT even text me when their computers went down one night . I believe there’s one in every state . It is very easy to register just Google vine and it should go right to it. I wished everyone else who had or has a stalker now that is not in prison, had some kind of alert to let them know when the stalker was close.

Valerie

March 15th, 2017 at
7:20 PM

My stalker gets out on the 26th oh this month I am leaving the state and never looking back because I can’t live through it all over again so that my thoughts can’t live looking over my shoulder forever so I just packed up and left I know he is gonna be looking for me

Nikita

kayla

March 31st, 2017 at
3:38 PM

Dr Julian Abel Constantine Gojer of Toronto Convicted of Drugging and raping two woman and killing a third one with the drugs he used to render his victims unconscious before raping them. Date fall of 2000. Psychiatrist gets off with a slap on the wrist and works as a psychiatrist regardless of criminal negligence against him.

Sarina

April 5th, 2017 at
10:50 AM

I feel like this is an epidemic which is a way of controlling people. I am being stalked by high powered people and it has been very real, scary, intimidating, abusive and truly threatening to my life. They dart out in front of me while driving to my brothers house. They come into my lane while driving down the road they sit on the sides of the road texting their puppets who are watching my whereabouts. They are trying to make me commit suicide and they have threatened to kill me. I went to the police even though one of the officers seemed sincere nothing was done to protect me. I had to move and I’m being threatened when I go to relatives homes. I have a jealous sibling and she is making up lies about me and trying to get my inheritance. She has the entire family against me and is having me violently stalked. I pray for her and have taking secret steps to take back my life. The truth will come out and stalking is a federal crime. I do not underestimate anyone who is being stalked and do believe their stories and feel their pain my only advise is to live your life and don’t let them get a piece of you protect yourself, get any proof you can and start a journal of incidences so that someone will listen and bring their disturbed actions down. They should be in prison for doing this to innocent victims.

The GoodTherapy.org Team

April 5th, 2017 at
11:38 AM

Dear Sarina,

Thank you for your comment. We are sorry to read about what you are experiencing, and we urge you to reach out.

If you feel you are in danger from others or of harming yourself, please contact local law enforcement or visit the nearest emergency room. Crisis workers for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline are available any time of day at 1-800-273-8255, TTY: 1-800-799-4TTY. Additional crisis resources are available here:https://www.goodtherapy.org/in-crisis.html

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Barbara

April 8th, 2017 at
5:08 PM

An end of all this will come. I am helping to stop these crimes. The FBI have been thoroughly informed, so they know what they’re dealing with. I helped police officers in Oahu to fight them, and they came out winning. The motorcycle gangs were broken up, and a bar they owned was closed down. Also, a prostitution ring was busted, drug trafficking using bus drivers, closed down. So much was accomplished, and the police were fully aware what was going on. Some officers had informed me that they were approached by the military and told to update their software, so that they would not feel the effects of elevated cellular radiation and high voltage electricity. There is some seriously weird stuff going on, and I have the inside information on this too. God has been using me, like a David against a Goliath, and all this freaky, bizarre conduct using electronic devices , mind and stress games, will come to an end. Laws will be passed in the future. Don’t be afraid, trust God, and know that He has people fighting for what’s right. God is a God of justice, and justice will prevail.

barbara

October 23rd, 2017 at
9:33 AM

Thank you so very much. It is good to know that someone understand what i’m talking about. when everyone think that you crazy because you tell them what is going on with you. we need a law against these people that think you are above the law. i have wrote the president of the united states trying to get some help from this man. this has been happening to me for ten years. enough is enough i just want some peace in my life.

Noella P

April 8th, 2017 at
10:25 PM

I’ve been absent for some time, but now I remember why I used to love this site. Thank you, I’ll try and check back more frequently. How frequently you update your website?

Stalkers Suck

May 6th, 2017 at
12:55 AM

I feel for all of you. The problems of stalkers is caused by the breakdown of community action and accountability. The person being stalked is usually a good person, killing it in life, following their passion, and driving towards their goals. The stalker sees this and wants to bring you down to their level. Make no mistake they will stage bizarre incidents to make sure that you fuck up and get arrested. If you are someone that comes off as successful you also have to be careful who you date because the family of your SO will stalk you or attempt to cause problems for you.
However, you can also have a lot of fun with a stalker. Most of them are harmless. Once you realize what they are out to get you can cause them a lot of problems. Take for example my brother who gossiped around a city about me. All lies. Once I realized he just wanted to see me fail badly so he could control me, I started withholding information from him and/or setting traps. Make it look like you are a fuck up. Wear disheveled clothes around them, hide your skills from them, and most importantly guard your hard earned cash. The last they are after most of all.
Stalkers tend to be Gamma males

Axel

May 31st, 2017 at
3:10 PM

This comment section has helped me very much. I now see how we are not using the correct words when the stalker is near us. We must refrain from saying “stay away from me” because everyone has a right to go where they want to go. Instead say “leave me alone” because that allows the person to go wherever they want and just not bother me. I remember some mean guy at an establishment telling me to “get away from him” and I thought to myself “I’m not going to go stand in the corner. So using the magic power words 1: “leave me alone” allows the person to go about their life but to leave me alone. I have myself been telling people to “stay away from me” and I had not thought how that is not possible in public situations and it likely causes more stalking like behavior. So to all you stalking victims out there remember the magic power words 1 : “leave me alone / I want to be left alone”.

Valerie T

July 4th, 2017 at
1:29 AM

My stalker got March 26 2017 and started all over how his parole Officer thinks he should get a stern warning so I put a app on my phone called call record and taped the conversation and sent it to atty general office and the governor how he has a hearing to send him back to jail wish me luck case the was the speculation of his parole no contact

Jacob

July 8th, 2017 at
7:49 PM

Me and my friend were coming back from the mall, riding our bikes and noticed a teenager going the same way
as us, and would not stop. We didnt want him to know where we lived, so we passed our house and kept going in circles. After about 20 minutes of going in circles. He asked us questions like, why we were following him, (which we were not) and our names. He asked us weird questions, and after about another 10-15 minutes he left and went another way.

dani

July 23rd, 2017 at
6:56 PM

What do you do when you have been psychologically abused by your ex partner, then he finds the way to make friends at your work, these new friends of him start bullying you at work, and manage to put all the company against you until it becomes mobbing and you get fired? What if this company its a technology enviroment with people able to hack your computer and telephone, they take control of all your life and share it with your ex. You can go to the police, and they will do nothing. You talk to people, and they think you are crazy, because it sounds like fiction. Welcome to my life.

Fay C.

albert

July 31st, 2017 at
12:11 AM

Omg.. Stalking other is a crime hmmm never thought of that, I have been stalking some1 on fb more that 3 years but never did send friend request nor i have any attention on her, i just stalk at her wen I am online… Stalking is so dangerous now then lol. .

Juju

Brandon

August 29th, 2017 at
3:50 AM

I was just curious if anyone knew if what i’m experiencing is symptoms of PTSD from a stalking and assault situation I had a couple years ago. Story in a nut shell- I was stalked by a guy who was a stranger for 5 months straight and was stabbed by him out of no where the night it all ended. They guy was twice my age (me only being 24 and him 48) when it happened. Anyway I actually met him at a bar where he had come up to me several times very rudely and aggressive and by the 4th time I had went off on him. Now I am a male as well and it was at a gay bar so I did expect to be approached, but I don’t go to bars for “hook-ups”. I go for the atmosphere and fun. Long story short he had followed me home that night after basically being rejected and from then on it was a living hell. Most people somewhat know their stalkers from what i’ve read but this guy was an absolute stranger to me. When I caught on to him following me to work one day I got the police involved which I regret because when I did I started getting death threats on my apartment door in the middle of the night. After that I started getting things thrown at my window, then I started to noticed my apartment was being broke into while I was gone. At this point I would stay anywhere but my apartment but I always had to go back. Every time I called the police they couldn’t do shit because I didn’t know his name. So after months of repeated notes and death threats saying I was going to be shot, I started taking prescription adderoll from a friend to start staying up at night and that turned into severe depression and paranoia. I found out way later after he got arrested that if he wasn’t sitting in a car outside in one of the parking lots at my apartment complex he was at a near by motel. I mean this guy took everything to the extreme. I started becoming very reclusive and was so scared to go outside at anytime. The police were so useless, they wouldn’t do a stake out or anything for me. I would stay at friends houses but I knew he would always follow me. In one of the later notes on my door he stated which color my boxer briefs were that I had on that day. Which to me meant he had a way of looking in on me when I didn’t realize. Now with that being said I just want to stress what it is like to be a guy and know a older man is looking in on you while all you have on is underwear. I was so disgusted. I know if a woman has a man looking in on her it is awful too but to me being a younger guy and having that experience is just disturbing. Long story short, my performance at work started to suffer and I was late to work for 3 times in a row I got fired. A week after that I was taking my trash out and from behind me he had snuck up and stabbed me. I don’t remember much after that at all. I passed out and couldn’t breathe. He ended up FINALLY getting caught that night, even though the damage was done. I recovered in the hospital from a punctured lung fortunately but after that I was never the same. I had to go to court when he got sentenced to a BS 6 years. I found out later her was schizophrenic and that was one of the main reasons why he carried on relentlessly. The detective told me he thought the guy had a weird fascination with me and thought he had the right to do everything he did. So that was almost 3 years ago and now i’m dealing with it still. I am diagnosed with “PTSD” and I think i’m dealing with symptoms really badly. I don’t see a shrink or anything but i’m thinking about it. My biggest problem is the nightmares. I mean sometimes they are so bad i will literally wet the bed like a 5 year old from fear. Also my panic attacks are awful, i’m experiencing fainting spells from being so over worked when around a lot of people or i’m in a aggressive situation. I will go through weird delusions like someone is at my door or window. I constantly think i’m being followed too. I obviously have anxiety and depression too. So I think I should probably go see someone for sure. I was just wanting to know if anyone experienced anything simlar??

maria

September 19th, 2017 at
9:43 PM

I have this weird feeling in the back of my spine like im being followed its very creepy. I used to hang out with this guy but stopped years ago when he became increasingly controlling of me. I feel like hes watching me and i cant let my guard down every time I turn around hes there. i joined the military a few years back just to get away from him but as soon as i would come back for leave he would just happened to show up where he somehow knows im going to be. I cannot keep living my life like this it is bad for my health and no woman should have to deal with this. Im sorry but the past is the past im sorry if i offended him but i can’t keep living my life in fear but that’s what he wants to keep me under his thumb. I don’t know what to do I dont want to get the police involved but i doubt itll do any good he’ll probably just send people to harass me instead of doing it himself. I’ve been living with this for years Im just so tired I want to live my life in peace somebody please just make him go away.

Fall

Love God

October 8th, 2017 at
2:23 AM

The person in that vehicle was probably just filming you, into their low budget production film, that they were making. On occasions there are people who will drive around everywhere and anywhere filming. They’re the people who are interested in becoming movie producers, and will film others without their knowledge nor consent. However, this individual had took off once you had noticed them filming you. Because the individual knew that they didn’t get your consent to film you. However, it’s obvious that you’re uncomfortable with this individual’s behavior. Therefore, next time the filming happens again, try your best to get the license plate number. Go and take the information to the police station, have the police run the plate number to find out who the individual is. The police can contact this individual to question them as to why he or she were filming you. The individual definitely will have some explaining to do. Also, while you’re at the police station make certain to file a police report about everything that happened, do it for your safety. Also, make certain that the individual name is in your police report more than once. By doing this overall it will benefit you, by having a police officer that is aware of the whole incident. In case the individual does have wrongful intentions planned for you later on. The police will have some idea of who to pick up for questioning and arrest. Most importantly, for you to have noticed the filming immediately it’s so great, because some people don’t notice nothing until it’s too late. In this world, we all do have to always stay completely focused of our surroundings. For we are definitely living in the last days. Stay alert and be safe but don’t worry Fall God is with you!

barbara L

November 10th, 2017 at
7:39 PM

I have been and is still being stalked and harassed to this day by an next door neighbor; he started filming me from his property and then burgurized my house; I have the video and the cops arrested me vs him; so guessing it has ties; they’re from planet ‘uranus’ just make a lot of noise; they have mental issues and try to label me as the one with the mental issue. It has social disorder and OCD and is a nutbag. My health records show inaccuracies and was given medications for something I don’t have. I asked for my medications but they refuse. they took my house and my $ they are really something else. THEY. They are cowards. period.
picking on one old lady. tsk tsk tsk sHAME on YOU all! get some professional help.

J. K.

November 24th, 2017 at
6:55 AM

So for the last 5 months my girlfriends sister, her parents, my girlfriend, and me have been receiving phone calls and text messages from various different numbers, all most likely the same person. But this stalker basically can see inside my girlfriend’s house because he knows when she takes a shower cus he text me and my girlfriend’s sister saying how was her shower. Not only that but my girlfriend’s sister has changed her number three times and the stalker has managed to get her number Everytime. The stalker now as of recent knows where we go like my girlfriend and I were in the mall and he texted us saying in the mall, not only that but she works at Wendy’s and she was cleaning or eating and he text her you’re cleaning or text her hey that’s a lot of food. On Thanksgiving my dad, grandma, niece, sister, girlfriend and I all went on a walk down the road from my house which is nowhere near the stalker but yet he knew we were walking and there was no one else outside there were no cars that went by whatsoever. We have no idea who this person is at all yet he knows everything we do and threatens us. We have contacted the police several times also. Can someone please help us, and give us instructions or tips. Does anyone have any ideas on how he knows our location at all times.

Freedom

December 4th, 2017 at
6:28 AM

We’ve been stalked around the clock by our neighbours who park outside our house with a spy camera trained onto our home – despite having a clear driveway. They sit in the car for hours watching our home. They have shone floodlights into our sitting room, bedroom, back room and garden to film us at night in our home, thrown disgusting garbage into our garden and at the front of our house (I’m talking used sanitary products, used baby wipes, containers of take-out etc) stalked our movements to the point where their ‘friends’ follow us home, trespassed on our property and tried to break in at 05:00am. We’ve had to seal the windows and sit in the dark. They are disgusting cowards and are obviously really enjoying the misery they inflict on us. Has anybody successfully got rid of a stalker? If so, can you tell us how you did it please?

Vickie R

December 4th, 2017 at
7:42 PM

Yes please I want to know too. One man throw his dog crap into our just cleaned trash can whenever he walks by with his dog and he makes sure I see it. then poop sticks to bottom of barrel and i have to get it out? Neighbors always leaving their house five mins after I’ve left my house. Also smoking cigs on a windy day right in front of my window. Also flashing their head lights onto my car in the middle of the day!!! Not even at night but during the day which is so stupid and obvious. Also will whistle all the time when they walk by me or my home like a code to let me know they are in on it. Watch movie “Cape Fear” with DeNiro I believe. The scary whistling scene. Yeah why do neighbors care about what I’m doing? I’m not a spy or terrorist??? I’m just an out of work journalist working on a second book and I take care of my aging mother and cats???? Yet they don’t even say hello to me and treat me like I’m a criminal? Another girl came over and threw cat food in my face at my home yrs ago? She thought I was leaving cat food at her home? Why accuse me just because i own cats doesn’t mean I was the one leaving food there? Someone must be spreading lies about me or my family. Neighbors are COLD as ice and one kid even gives me dirty looks everytime he walks by our house. It’s like the Twilight ZOne here.

Lou

December 4th, 2017 at
9:06 AM

You have to go to the cops and complain alot. You have to go to your mayor, or write alot of letters to the mayor. I had to write a lot of letters to the cheif of police till i got some action. They finally had a squad parked by my house for 2 weeks. I tell everyone I see in the neighbor hood whats going on. It eventually stops as people keep talking and will embarass the idiots. What ever you can do to write about it to the newspapers and tell it on your face book page, I mean keep writing letters to the authorities. they will help eventually.

Freedom

December 6th, 2017 at
12:45 AM

Thanks for your reply Lou – I’m so glad your persistence paid off and you got rid of your stalker. It would be interesting to share profiles of types of stalkers here. Ours are a couple who live next door who went from nosy neighbour to peeping tom voyeurs to full-on stalker obsessives. They clearly relish the misery they’re inflicting, They are constantly try to set us up, running around to all the other neighbours to enlist support to their cause. If they’re not sitting in the car outside our house, they gather outside our house with their family and friends. They are desperate for a confrontation which we’ve avoided -but it’s hard when you’re a prisoner in your own home. We moved here from the city to take care of my mother who is frail and elderly. Locals don’t like outsiders and most people on the street are related. This is why we fear going to the cops – who might be a brother, cousin etc. It feels like Deliverance country here – he chats to the postman who also lives in the street. Our mail went missing; then there was an attempt to take out two accounts – a bank account and credit card in my name. Luckily, I was alerted by the bank and was able to stop it. I have a diary of events and evidence of the spy cam – gathering evidence is intimidating when you’re being watched & filmed around the clock.
Have a great day!

Freedom

December 6th, 2017 at
12:57 AM

Hi Valerie, Thanks so much for your reply – I’m really pleased you got your stalker put away – well done! Unfortunately, we don’t live in Ohio, we’re in the UK. Our stalkers are very cunning – and related to everyone in the area. We can’t move away so we have to try and ignore them, but the attempted break-in has taken it to a whole never level of risk…
Have a lovely day and stay safe.

Louann

Jillian

May 12th, 2018 at
3:54 PM

I thought I was crazy guess not but I did the wrong thing I guess quit playing. I think we have to do something my friends family are playing the other side. I have some ideas Hopefully someone will get it.

Vickie R

December 4th, 2017 at
6:53 PM

Thanks but it sucks when some of the people you’ve known for years are in on it. It’s called gang-stalking or community bullying and even some neighbors are involved. Went to police but I felt they were over burdended and didn’t want to bother them too much however I like Chief Beck of LA. I tweet to him a lot. I have tons of gray cars with tinted windows and no plates following me almost 24/7 and a few have even almost gotten me into accidents on more than one occasion??? Some have adivsed me to move out of Los Angeles, but I don’t have a job our of LA so how could I survive? I would be thrilled to leave here if I could. Gang stalking is sinister and they try to make you look crazy and paranoid too. Like the movie “The Snake pit” and “Gaslight.” You should watch those two great film noirs. Thanks so much for helping me. If I survive this nightmare I hope to turn it into a great screenplay or book on day, (If I live that long). LOL.

Shay J

Valerie T

December 6th, 2017 at
9:53 AM

Thanks for your reply I wish there was a way I could help you but I am in the same city where my stalkers is hide all tge time hoping I never see him my protection order isn’t up until October 2018 then I all going to get another one I all mm in counseling I still have triggers,allmmlll tge time

Lukas

mc deleon

January 5th, 2018 at
11:21 AM

I am being stalked by someone for almost six years now. He’s been invading my social media and e-mail accounts, including my work e-mail account and PC. He has gone overboard when he even sent this guy to get to me. He kept on hacking my cellphone, no matter how many times I tried to change phones. He always wants to keep his nose on everything in my life. I tried to talk to him on my own social media account, but it seems that there is no way to stopping this guy. I have tried learning to accept the fact that this stalker of mine will always be in everything that I do online, and that there’s no much I can do about it since the legal system where I live sucks and not much people are willing to help resolve the issue I’m having. But there will really come a point when he will get into your nerves, and still, I can’t do anything about it. Can somebody out here help me? I miss my privacy sooooo much!!! Please help!!!!

Louann

January 29th, 2018 at
8:30 AM

Make a new facebook account under another name keep it private and only have a few friends. I had to do that too. I have a scarey cop that follows me I have told everyone about it and I get no help. His boss knows and yet they cant stop him. I have to get a restraining order and move away. Who has that kind of money. Moving is very expensive.

Freedom

January 7th, 2018 at
4:17 AM

I have the same problem and I agree, you need to avoid social media. Mc deleon – I have the same problem – we’re being physically stalked and cyber stalked by an obsessive neighbour. Have an iPhone but that is hacked – as is my mac. Any advice on getting rid of hackers – Apple can’t help?

Louann

Freedom

January 28th, 2018 at
2:51 PM

Let’s be clear. Stalkers, Gaslighters – These are the lowest amoebas of society. They are a sub-species who are hatched on canine anuses. Laugh at their cowardice – they inherited it from the anus that they were hatched on. They have been doing this for 80 parasitical generaton. If you see a stalker whacking itself in a vehicle outside your home, pour disinfectant over it and seal your home.

Dannzabella

August 28th, 2018 at
6:19 PM

LOL. freedom you’re so funny. I like how you explained the psychos that play with themselves inside their cars :) Yeah these men were born to harass,rape, terrorize,defraud and murder their victims. you seem like you are a smart person so i am sure you already know that they’re thieves. They steal a lot of money by hacking into computers and stealing online banking passwords and defraud a lot of victims. They empty victims accounts through ‘wire fraud.’ They are fraudsters and murderers. They killed so many people using fake “heart attack” style murder! These people are savages who are out to make money at the expense of victims. The corporations (employers) who hire these scums are criminals who are trying to prevent their crimes from being exposed, so they don’t get sued! Narcissist corrupted criminals should be held accountable for the pain they’ve caused to humanity. we all should unite and fight the corrupt government using the “#metoo” style movement. otherwise it is very difficult to do it alone.

Never Let Anyone Steal your JOY

April 4th, 2018 at
5:24 PM

I am being stalked by a pastor who hires people to watch and follow me everywhere I go. These people follow me in the supermarket, gym, and wait outside of places for me to come out. He has borderline personality disorder and cannot accept that I am not interested in him. The more I tell him to stop, the more excited he becomes. He’s sick and loves any kind of attention from me which has only been telling him to stop stalking and harassing me. He has assistants that get paid to help him abuse me in this violent way. Somehow in his sick diluted mind he thinks stalking me would cause me to want to be with him. People listen, if a person shows you he is mentally unstable, mentally ill, emotionally sick and abusive, he or she is NOT the one. Don’t be flattered by their behavior or think it’s cute! It’s NOT, they’ll always get worse. Believe who they show you they are in the beginning because they will not get better. I am still dealing with this and have a restraining order which hasn’t stopped him. He thinks he’s above the law. The police don’t seem to care unless there’s a murder. It’s a really sad and unfortunate incidence. Mental health is prevalent in the church and people turn a blind eye when they see it. What do you do when the pastor is mentally ill? You go to church and listen to someone who seems to have it all together and has all the right answers. Behind closed doors they are sleeping with anything that moves, abusing people violently physically, emotionally, and mentally. If you are a believer in a Higher Power, know God for you people! It’s about a relationship one on one. The pastor of anything cannot save you or help you when some of them are mentally ill and struggling with bigger demons than you. Make sure you all pray before joining a church. Apparently, I didn’t do enough praying and it’s costing me dearly by joining the WRONG church. There are many good pastors and church is good but there are way too many bad people that pastor churches. This man still gets up in front of a congregation every week and pretends to be a man of God. People are clapping and cheering like he’s a saint and giving all their money to him so he can pay for tracking systems on my car, hidden surveillance in house, and private third party stalkers. Be careful people and remember The Lord loves you anyhow and there’s nothing you can do about it!

Valerie

Never Let Anyone Steal Your JOY

April 14th, 2018 at
11:52 AM

Thank you so much! I will definitely call them first thing Monday morning! He keeps hiding from being served with papers to appear in court for a restraining order. This keeps making my court date continue. Now I’m on my third court date. He has cameras so when my server comes he runs and hides like the coward he is.(most stalkers are cowards that’s why they do what they do) My server waited for over 3 hours for him to come out and he never did. I’m asking the judge to serve him by a certified letter.

Jackie

April 17th, 2018 at
5:38 PM

I’m being kinda stalked by a guy right now. I use to be friends with him, but he had a habit of ignoring what I wanted to push his own intentions on me. He rarely cared about the fact I told him not to buy me things. I told him to stop contacting me a few months ago and he didn’t stop, actually still forcing me to talk to him in public and on my twitch streams. I eventually realized I was being stalked and got a Cease and Desist on him through our college. He started telling our collective friends that I was being ‘unreasonable’ and that he ‘did nothing wrong’ and that he ‘was the victim’. Then he got mean. He started posting himself in my favorite hang out places, taking all of my friends and even using his signature jacket to ‘mark’ areas, leave to go be in another place I love for a few hours, and then go back to the first place to pick up his stuff and leave. He tried to chase me out of places, and one of my friends called him out on it. Now he receives glares from my stalker. Recently he’s taken up staring at me for long periods of time, even going out of his way to see me again. The worse part is that he’s expressed that he wants to break the Cease and Desist and make up with me. Another thing- he actually use to have a crush on me, and was upset that I turned him down because I have a great boyfriend. There were times he told me he loved me and I asked him to stop, but he refused. Other times he said I should have given him a chance, but I said I already knew that it would work out. His response was “You don’t know that! It could work!”. I actually learned from a friend that he told them he was thinking of a way to break me and my boyfriend up so he could have me. I live in fear of him, cause I don’t know what the hell he’s gonna do to me. I have nightmares about him corning me and forcing me to talk to him. Luckily I’m not scared of rape- he’s already expressed that he’s asexual (something I discovered). But that doesn’t make me fear for my life. He probably won’t do anything to me, but everything I’ve read says that it will most likely escalate…

Anonymous

May 21st, 2018 at
3:19 AM

I ve been stalked the last 4 yrs.
We believe its an ex landlord.
We had nothing but issues with this person we pd rent ect.
We moved to a different city as soon as we got utilities un our name it started again
We changedbour work route. I do have 4 different license plate numbers. Howver stress was so bad i ended up in hospital with a physical symptom. I believe it was because of the unending stalking. Police really dont want to help only if you know who and have exact proof. We will be moving soon not having utilities in our name post off box as our mail was taken also. A nightmare.

Stella

July 22nd, 2018 at
1:02 PM

Hi, I am currently being gang stalked by these former male and female groups of people who live opposite my flat. They shout b**** and skank everywhere i go and out side my flat. Even strangers call me a b**** cause of them shouting it. They bang on my door overnight and throughout the day and yell b**** when i don’t answer. They bang on it early in the morning wakening me up so am not getting enough sleep as they yell b**** and skank every time they come. They yell too disliked cause she is a lazy little b****. Am not lazy. They stalk me to the supermarket and yell the abuse there and follow me home and bang on the door soon after. They come overnight when i go to bed. Am too afraid to open the door cause of these men and women stalking me. I am worried about my safety each time i go out as they yell don’t b**** because i don’t answer the door to them. They shout she has a bad reputation for being lazy. They have made it difficult for me to make any friends with them calling me a lazy little b****.

Sasha

October 15th, 2018 at
11:27 AM

I am a victim of electronical stalking on all my electronics and this creep does everything from controlling my data to scrolling down to emails to open to stealing my photos to typing into my cellphone answers its as if this scum wishes they were me and pretends to be my manager. this is someone mentally ill and this creep breaks into my car and does weird crap to it. it is sick

say so

October 19th, 2018 at
5:24 AM

not to invalidate anyone here but I think a good number here are having persecution delusions. Thinking they are being stalked while no one has time energy or skill to be bothered with them.
Think of seeing a doctor first before you think your neighbour has free money to install a hidden camera in your house.

Jessica B.

November 11th, 2018 at
11:16 AM

I’m tired of the fibres, magnets,white hairs 5or 6 inches long appearing on my head over night or men touching my head and I instantly fall asleep and waking up with sore rib cages,surgical scars evidence of sexual activity,senses being altered like inability to smell ,drugged feelings like groggy or drunken feeling,dizzy,headache, equilibrium not normal ,color programing ,people steal everything,bring something’s back altered or plant things in my things to cause paranoia I’m sure, I feel like I’ve been hipnotised like on that movie Shallow Howl (not sure how to spell it but he sees fat women as beautiful models instead of fat after he’s hipnotised. ) Altered reality. Without being warranted. No consent ever given for this b.s and no explanation given as to why so this is terrorism.

Truth Is

January 12th, 2019 at
8:46 AM

Well with so many men being single today and all alone which may have a lot to do with it altogether, especially if they become very obsessed with a woman that they know already and would very much love to have a relationship with her. And there are many of us good single men that Don’t do that at all, but are very much hoping to find love ourselves since being single and alone all the time can certainly be very unhealthy and depressing for many of us too. The very sad thing for many of us men is that we keep meeting the wrong women all the time with a very bad attitude problem, and most women today as it is are just so very nasty with no manners and personality at all these days unfortunately to begin with.

David E.

March 11th, 2019 at
1:13 PM

Be very careful of gang stalking also , it’s usually done by law enforcement so in that particular case you have no resources to reach out to other than your second amendment, especially when it comes to your job and home life especially when these people are related to you , I had an uncle who was in the coast guard and took 5.5 tons of cocaine of the docks on the east coast his name was Patrick Maher and supposedly killed in 2004 in 2006 I was telling this story about this cocaine bust to a coworker when a man I worked with for 3 years walked over and said if I was you I wouldn’t talk about that anymore? I was like bro I live in America ( and my uncle is dead) so you can’t kill him , and I have the freedom of speech so suck it up buttercup , he was keeping me from seeking other employment he said we will ruin your name and you’ll never work in this town again I was like please !! So I told this story about this cocaine bust again to the next person I saw like what ? Afterwards he came over and said we will kill your dad and call it plausible denyability, I have a brother that works up in Tacoma for the NSA I was like so f***ing what I have all kinds of family that work for the government, they killed my dad that day his name was Kenneth Lee E. they killed him on November 10th 2006 at about 6:30 pm and removed all camera footage from the area so we couldn’t sue , little did I know this was just the beginnings of my troubles because now it was an uphill battle to speak the truth they use gaslighting false reports news articles pay off lawyers, and exploit your lives homes children they ruin relationships through slander , all to conceal their corruption and these are my family members who work in law enforcement, who are not dead and are in a VWAP program , it’s the most abusive subversive treatment of humans trying to build a family and friendships, and work productively towards personal goals and freedoms they will infiltrate your work , gang stalking is done by mostly the intelligence community and or its family members who are willing to go along with it for personal reasons or they’ve already been exploited and found cooperation with what’s wrong is the path of least resistance!!

sudha

Anon

June 29th, 2019 at
10:18 AM

I don’t want to sound paranoid but I think my partner is getting stalked by an “old friend”. I had overheard her asking his mother if she could look at files and she was told that she could if they did so together. This girl had liked him in the past and he would actually avoid her and go out so he wouldn’t be stuck talking to her. She’s had a bad relationship before and he basically “saved her” during an incident. A year prior to me and him meeting, she went away, met someone and had a kid to them. Since I come along, she found out and she’s been saying weird things that I had overheard. She’s tried to get the parents trailer at her place so my partner would have to pick it up. It’s just all f****** weird. Why would a girl do that if she’s already with someone? And it doesn’t help that the mother – both women, seem to be enabling her behavior. Her mother called my partner with her daughter’s number, so the girl would obviously have it unless it got deleted. I deleted her number because f*** that. I’m really wishing he would just tell her to stop. She’s bumped into him in the past and offered a helping hand – something she use to do when she fancied him and kept trying. She’d say the same thing, “the offer is on the table.” I’m thinking that she’s got an infatuation with him because of how long they may have known each other for. They hardly see each other at all. He’s only ran into her twice within a 3 yr period. His mother has said weird things about having friends over at her place one day. He’s turned down this girls helping hand and she doesn’t seem to be backing down. I also remember a time his mother told me how there was a cartoon pic posted on FB with two rabbits putting a bag over someone’s head and people were making jokes about it. This girl had even mentioned how she has a Nick name for him and told him about her favorite song. She’s done her best to try to gossip and put me off already.
Am I being paranoid or does this sound like she’s stalking him? How do I address this situation if I feel she may be starting to stalk me seeing as I’m his partner? I’ve already been getting prank calls. I have noticed a pattern with this girl, she will repeat how the offer for a hand is on the table and it’s the 2nd time she has asked about seeing her files from his mother – something she has done for people. Do I go to the police just to make sure I am not being paranoid? I am also concerned for my relationship, naturally because of how she has spoken in regards to me and how different she will act ( she gets excited when she talks about him & will grey rock me). I have tried to tell him everything of what she had said about me but he doesn’t believe it and only said that she is too busy with her partner and child.

Anon

June 29th, 2019 at
10:28 AM

I also forgot to mention how she has nick named herself Rabbit and her mother had invited me to go travelling out into the desert when I hardly knew her at all. She’s given herself a nick name and my partner a nick name as well. I find it odd because she already has a partner. I had posted on FB about everything I heard her say and basically told her to take a hint. The mother had started talking to his mother (I overheard) and had said how the girl read what I wrote (which means she was spying on me) and had complained. I have been getting prank calls lately, from an unknown number. I can’t help but feel alarmed because of the joke about violence regarding the cartoon picture and someone commenting, “It will be funny when it happens” – something along the lines of that. And everything else. It just seems odd to treat a stranger like she is treating me based on the fact that i am this man’s partner and they hardly talk or hang out. I wonder if she will attempt to knock me off so she can then swoon in and be the hero and soothe his broken heart?

CYBaker

August 14th, 2019 at
5:36 AM

This has been very helpful to read. My daughter is being stalked by an unknown assailant who uses an auditory device and has hacked her car, phone and now stalking at her job. We have started a paper trail with the authorities who have not been very helpful. But this seems like a safe haven to vent, and use as resource. Thank you all and May God continue to strengthen you all during these trying times.

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