Friday, February 14, 2014

The Happy-Meter.

Before reading the article below take a minute and think about
whether you're happy or not with yourself.

...

...

The answer may not
come so easily, but you've definitely contoured a general impression. Contrary
to popular belief, happiness doesn't just happen, it centres on the conscience
of being happy.

A week ago I realised
I was happy!

This is an extremely awkward statement to publish so proudly, but
I can explain... What made me feel this way?

- Most of all, I think that I got tired of comparing myself
to those around me. Let's face it, we all do, even
though we admit it or not. The continuous, incessant comparisons and questions that
rose in my mind resulted in unnecessary frustrations. For instance, why should
I care about differences and unfairness? Life won't be as smooth as I
innocently thought it to be. There will always be people who betray, who
dissapear, who reappear... and I didn't know that it was up to me whether to
welcome them back or not.

I shouldn't constantly rapport
myself to them. Our steps don't have to be the same. We are not inseparable
pieces. Accomplishments, joy, grief- it all comes at different stages, depending
on individual.

- Then, I stopped for a second and wondered why I felt so
helpless. I was becoming a self-designed victim. However, there is no such
thing as "impossible". If something doesn't please me, I can change
it- immediately or gradually is just a matter of shades. For this reason, I
promise to stop complaining because most of the time nobody is guilty for my
unhappiness. I have to take action and not wait for a magic machine to bring me
back on track.

-Additionally, which were my
purposes? I kept thinking about the other ones mostly because I didn't have my
own direction. I was scattered. Not aware of my own path. And worst of all, I
was always preoccupied with pleasing the "audience", as though they
cared too much for me. Hardly did I realise how important was to make changes
and turn the tide in my favor. It's amazing how short a time it can take for
very wonderful things to happen...

Everything considered, you should take a look at your life
so far. Appreciate your achievements, pay attention to your own needs and be
honest with yourself.

Tip: Look people in the eye. Don't be afraid of this subtle
contact, it makes such a big difference.

Disclaimer: I don't say my life changed dramatically in one
week, but that revealing moment brought about major questions and,
consequently, changes in my way of thinking.