Archive for August, 2016

You are an independent woman. You have a successful job that others would kill for; you have a fabulous home and supportive girlfriends. You are the personification of the perfect 21st-century woman, yet you can’t shake the feeling: your life is incomplete. Why?

Women have a natural desire to feel secure. We want unconditional love without judgment or criticism. We long for affection and affirmation. We want to feel protected and be financially stable.

There is nothing wrong with these desires.

Somehow we allow our self-worth to be determined by whether or not we’re in a relationship, and unfortunately, a lot of women look to the opposite sex in search of this false sense of security. Feeling lonely, we force ourselves into unhealthy relationships. Fear of being alone can cause a woman to make foolish choices. Many will fight to keep a man close even when it’s obvious to everyone around her he needs to be let go.

First dates have changed over the course of the years. Things that were customary in the past are considered old-fashioned, creepy, or just not safe. It’s a sign of the times, and to be successful, you need to roll with it.

Here are some guidelines to make sure your first date is a success.

First Dates Do Not Include…

Picking her up at home — While this used to be customary, the world is a scarier place now. Unless she specifically asks to be picked up, assume that she has her own ride.

Flowers or gifts — This is also an old-fashioned custom. Nowadays, most girls will find this a bit too forward and a tad creepy. If you’re an old-fashioned guy and insist on presenting her with something, buy a single rose in pink (admiration) or yellow (friendship).