Is everything you learned as a child the be all and end all to what makes you tick? We would say those ideas instilled at a tender age are those which will carry you far throughout the course of your life. These are your core lessons to be learned. These are the ideas which will rise up when you reach the age of thirty-seven to bite you in the behind as you attempt to move past them. Valuable lessons. Life lessons. Pay attention. This is not pass or fail. This is your life. So, when your mother said to you, "Now, be nice." You took that to mean you would never offer your opinion on anything. If you need to practice this, opine in front of your bathroom mirror.