Say you've been with a girl for awhile, and your about to move in together. She goes to the bars with a few friends once every week or two and doesn't like you to come with. Her friend meets a guy and they start hanging out with his friends, and after a few weeks your girlfriend is going to a movie alone with one of the friends but she says its "just as friends". What would you do or think?

I would never go out with a girl that my wife is not familiar or comfortable with because I respect her. In turn she wouldn't do the the same to me. That is how a successful relationship works. If she can't respect you that way then maybe she isn't the right one for you. There are plenty of nice young ladies out there that are ready for a real relationship if she is not.

I would never go out with a girl that my wife is not familiar or comfortable with because I respect her. In turn she wouldn't do the the same to me. That is how a successful relationship works. If she can't respect you that way then maybe she isn't the right one for you. There are plenty of nice young ladies out there that are ready for a real relationship if she is not.

As I've said before, take her out, get her really drunk, take her back to her house, use her like a roll of paper towels, steal $40 from her purse, take a dump in her fridge crisper bin, disappear, never call her again.

Ten years from now she'll be a smile on your face that your wife won't understand.

I had a buddy that did things like this. He'd crap in the hamper and then grab the gals VCR on his way out the door.

I agree with you about letting them off the leash to run with the girls every now and then. There's nothing at all wrong with that. But I don't think that's the situation here. He didn't say she was going out with the girls. He said it was with friends. Betcha $500 casino cash it's a mixed bunch. And I'll bet she's doing as much sniffing around as the swinging dicks in the group are.

I agree with you. Guarenteed mixed group, if she doesn't invite you along...there is a reason for it.

Girls/Guys nights out are one thing.

This is another. She is going out with another guy, even if it IS in a group setting, she is checking the stock, flirting and trying to test the waters of singlehood.

As soon as she has hooked another guy, you are going to get hurt.

Cut bait and run. You'll come out feeling better about yourself. She is in no way shape or form ready to move in with you.

All the psychobabble bullsh*t about feeling smoothered and wanting "her own time" is lipservice to justify it.

Say you've been with a girl for awhile, and your about to move in together. She goes to the bars with a few friends once every week or two and doesn't like you to come with. Her friend meets a guy and they start hanging out with his friends, and after a few weeks your girlfriend is going to a movie alone with one of the friends but she says its "just as friends". What would you do or think?

Unless the girl you are dating is 16 or retarded... she is f-ing you over. She may not be cheating, she may not be thinking about cheating... but she is being completely selfish and naive (AT BEST.. let's not even touch upon what she is AT WORST).

You can confront her and hope it works out... but odds are... you do NOT want to continue on with her.

Easier said than done... but best advice is to cut ties as soon as you feel you can.

Sorry for being so harsh, but the fact is.. I know this situation and you need to be very careful about making excuses for her. It is an easy trap to fall into.

Could not agree more with everything that has been said by you guys. The only way something like this would be permissible in my books is if she were going with a long-time friend who I also knew. In that case, it would be different. But some dude from the bar who is clearly trying to dart her mitt??? No fing way.

That said, you've got a golden opportunity here. You essentially know that this is prolly not someone you want to be serious with (unless there is some remarkable explanation for this type of behavior that I cannot think of) and you need to take advantage of that fact.

You need to to anything and everything that you've ever wanted (anal, on a pool table, underwater, alligator **** house, etc). Really push the envelope with things, and see what kind of crazy shit you can do. Basically, do all the things you would not want to do to someone you care about. If she gets offended, who cares, you're not serious anyway.