After 5 years my wife is coming to the end of her Journey as you can see by her signature information she put a real battle. she has been in the hospital twice in the last two weeks, Feet swelling ,fluid in the lungs , her kidneys functions has drop off the last 7 days the Dr. said

I had a meeting with the oncologist today , No good news..No clinical trials.. her health to so compromised ..so talked on wants next??? Hospice care is what he recommended ..We have a meeting tomorrow with Hospice...

I did ask him how much time is left ..he said about a month.. I know no one can predict how much time is left but after 5 years I can see the big change in the past few weeks so I believe time is short. after our meeting he did come up a talk to her in the room about her condition , also saying it was time to look in Hospice and she agree. She never ask about time left but I know she knows it short.

I want to THANK everyone on the Colon Forum for all the help and information I got over the past 5 years, I didn't post a lot but readied almost everyday.

Hospice care is what he recommended ..We have a meeting tomorrow with Hospice...

Hi there,

I am sorry to hear about your relative and now approaching hospice. I live with my 89 year old uncle and I got to experience Hospice with him for one year. He was fortunate and graduated, he does not have cancer, he has CHF.

I can tell you that with hospice and cancer, it can go fairly quick. My neighbor down the street was put on hospice and he passed within two weeks. They do make them as comfortable as possible. Do you know if he/she wants to do it at home or at a hospice center? My mother mentioned to me that her choice would not be at home, my uncle says he wants to leave this earth at home. Everyone has their own choice in life. My choice would be at home with my loved ones but not with everyone.

I encourage you to read the "Blue Book" that hospice offers. It is a detail oriented book about the last journey. Prayers and hugs. Message me for anything.

Praying for your wife, you and your family. Thank you for catching us up with all that's going on. Your wife has put up a courageous battle. Hoping she, you and your family can have as many peaceful and non-stressful days possible. All the best...Andre

May your leave-taking be gracious,Enabling you to hold dignityThrough awkwardness and illness.

May someone who knows and loves The complex village of your heartBe there to echo you back to yourselfAnd create a sure word-raftTo carry you to the further shore.

May there be some beautiful surprise Waiting for you inside death,Something you never knew or felt.

May your heart be speechlessYour heart breathlessIn the light and lightnessWhere each and every thingIs at last its true selfWithin that serene belongingThat dwells beside usOn the other sideOf what we see.

Nothing can be said or nothing can prepare us for the loss of a loved one. Say your thank yous, I'm sorrys, goodbyes and I love yous and try to laugh a last time together if you can. We all departure some day from this life, but what we leave behind still matters.

I'm am sure that within you the love and strength of your dear wife will carry on and will remain a light in this world of ours.

Your wife has been fighting a courageous battle. I wish you both peace in the days to come. I hope the time left is one that would give you something to treasure always. My heart and prayers go out you both.