I agree, it happens less so than in the 40s or 50s (thank goodness), but there are still pockets of American culture that are strongly anti-homosexual. It might come directly from their own families, their religion, or their town, but it's still out there.

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scandle,

"It is only as they feel safe enough to be honest about their orientation that they redefine themselves as lesbian or gay."

"ONLY" is pretty strong, perhaps more true in the 40's & 50's but certainly less so since the start of the sexual revolution in the 60's.

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s4t, "I hope that you never tell this crap"

Crap?

I've had similar discussions with G-B-L folks in the past and never felt threatened at any point, let alone made to cry. But that's me...your mileage may vary.

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Always, there also are women (and men) who enter into heterosexual relationships only because of their cultural/society norms and requirements. It is only as they feel safe enough to be honest about their orientation that they redefine themselves as lesbian or gay.

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Scandle,

For the sake of argument, I would say she could qualify as is the classic example of a bisexual woman with a preference for women. She did much more than experiment with men (or a man). She as likely had many sexual sessions with a man and has come to a place in her life where she decided she prefers a woman for meeting all her interpsersonal needs in a relationship. Since we all know there is much more to a relationship than sex.

As contrasted to a female who has never been attracted to a man and has no desire (up to an aversion) for sexual contact with a man.

This is only my opinion.

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PG, I have a friend who was married, had kids, and then divorced after the kids were adults. She is now in a committed lesbian relationship, and though we're not real close I'm pretty sure she is not bi.