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Hi there! I wanted to ask a question to you. I am dating this girl (Ange) that I am quite interested in. We have been dating for about 9 weeks. I have met her sister twice and get along well with her. I was thinking about asking Ange for her sister's phone number for two reasons: 1) to ask about advice regarding Ange's specific taste because I want to do a little surprise for her. 2) just to generally check if her sister thinks we are on right track and if she has any specific advice etc. I know Ange is into me and that we are progressing but she is also a bit back and forth so would be good to know if she thinks that things are on right track etc. My question is: would it be ok for me to ask Ange for her phone number and would it be ok for me to ask her sister these things?

In Oct./11 I met a woman and we started dating. Before long we were spending all of our weekends together and were intimately involved each weekend. We talked about long term plans. We each met the others family and friends and bought tickets to be used during the next two years for entertainment. During the 8 months from Oct. to June we never had any arguments, we shared great intimacy, lots of fun activities and had trip planned to visit family and friends around the province. Many time we told each other we loved each other and wanted a long term relationship.Three weeks ago she came to my place on Friday , spent the night together with intimacy shared Friday evening and Sat. a.m. We had been invited to an anniversary of a daughter of one of her couple friends. In the morning she dressed in a light summer dress and I told her when we came back I wanted to take a picture of her.

As we came into the anniversary everyone greeted each other with handshakes or a light hug and kiss on the cheek. I bought us wine and asked her where she wanted to sit. We placed our wine there and mingled. About half an hour after all had arrived the husband of one of her girlfriends in my prescence and his wife, announced to my girlfriend, her name I need a hug.She moved close to him, let him put his arms around her and she put hers around him and they shared what most would describe as an intimate embrace which men share with their wives or girlfriends in private. I have no doubt what he felt as he pulled her close to him and no doubt as a man believe that he may have begun to have an erection which she may have felt. She showed no resistance to his holding her and actively, willingly participated. I did not say anything to him or her and did not want to cause a scene.She and I sat where we had decided to sit and not long after we sat down the guy who gave her a hug who was sitting about 5 seats to her right who had his wife sitting on his left and she had me sitting on her right called to her by her night and said " her name come sit here, her name come sit here". Instead of telling him that she and I had decided to sit where we were, she turned to me and asked if I wanted to move to essentially move with her so she could sit beside him. I declined and told her that we had come as a couple and decided where to sit as a couple and that we should stay there. I knew she wanted to move but she couldn't move to sit beside him on her own without everyone else being aware that she had moved away from me to sit with him.

After having lunch people on both sides of us had left so one of her girlfriends came to sit on her left and the other girlfriend sat on my right. The three of them proceeded for 20 minutes or more to carry on a conversation across in front of my face without involving me and preventing me from any communication with my girlfriend. After a while I got up to go to the washroom and when I came back the girlfriend on my right had moved her feet and legs on the side of her chair in the space where my chair had been. When I came back I was unable to sit down beside my girlfriend.

After the event was over, we went back to my place. Within a minute of entering my gf went to the bedroom to change from her dress to slacks knowing full well that I wanted to take her picture in her dress, hold her and touch her which she knew I liked doing when she infrequently wore a dress.

We went back to her place for supper, played some games, slept together, made love and woke up Sunday morning together in her bed. In the afternoon we went to see her son at an activity, came back to her place for supper and ended up in bed for a while before playing a game until I left at 11 p.m.On Monday I did not see her, but talked with her on the phone. We had made plans for me to come to her place on Tuesday afternoon and to stay for supper.

On Tuesday morning I woke up at 4 a.m. and began thinking about what had happened at the anniversary. I couldn't go back to sleep. I waited and at about 6:45 a.m. I called her. I obviously woke her. She asked why I was awake so early. I told her I couldn't sleep because I was concerned. I told her that I needed to talk with her.

Her response to me was: "Don't come this afternoon, I'm not going on the trip, It's over Goodbye" and then she hung up.

The guy who hugged??? her and his wife had been friends of my gf and her late husband for many years. Her husband had been sick for 3 years and had passed away 4 years ago.

I suspect that :1. he and she had been involved for some time2. there was an attraction of both of them to each other3. when he saw her in the beautiful dress he couldn't resist wanting her close to him as they probably had been in private many times before4. she realized that he had let the cat out of the bag in front of me so ended things with me now that she thought I knew she was involved with himI have not talked with her nor seen her in 3 weeks.What's going on?