Crying it out--- HELP!

My baby refuses to sleep in his crib, bassinet, basically anything other than my bed. I was wondering what everyone was doing when it came to letting their baby cry it out. My husband wants to try to let him do it, I am not sure that he is ready... He was 3 months old last Friday. I am willing to give it a try I guess. Just not sure on how long I should let him cry before I pick him back up. Anyone have any success with this? Or any advice? He is sleeping all night in our bed but it is really hard for me to get any sleep with him in my bed. So that is why I am trying to get him into his crib...

My baby refuses to sleep in his crib, bassinet, basically anything other than my bed. I was wondering what everyone was doing when it came to letting their baby cry it out. My husband wants to try to let him do it, I am not sure that he is ready... He was 3 months old last Friday. I am willing to give it a try I guess. Just not sure on how long I should let him cry before I pick him back up. Anyone have any success with this? Or any advice? He is sleeping all night in our bed but it is really hard for me to get any sleep with him in my bed. So that is why I am trying to get him into his crib...

I bought a fisher price ocean wonders sparkling sea soother . It has 2 settings with lights/without lights. It has fish and crabs that move around. My DD it distracts her and she just falls asleep. Maybe your LO just needs a distraction.

I bought a fisher price ocean wonders sparkling sea soother . It has 2 settings with lights/without lights. It has fish and crabs that move around. My DD it distracts her and she just falls asleep. Maybe your LO just needs a distraction.

I generally let my DS cry it out but only when he goes down for naps during the day. At night we will rock him or hold him until he falls asleep and then we lay him down. We sometimes will let him cry it out but if we do no more than 10 minutes. You can try letting your DS cry it out but set a time limit of if he isn't asleep in 5-10 minutes then you'll go hold him and soothe him. For us our DS will fall asleep after 5 minutes.

I generally let my DS cry it out but only when he goes down for naps during the day. At night we will rock him or hold him until he falls asleep and then we lay him down. We sometimes will let him cry it out but if we do no more than 10 minutes. You can try letting your DS cry it out but set a time limit of if he isn't asleep in 5-10 minutes then you'll go hold him and soothe him. For us our DS will fall asleep after 5 minutes.

Our lo sleeps with us every night and we love it! If you google the benefits of co sleeping it is so crazy! We were those parents who were against it, until we did some research. I would not have it any other way! But they also consider baby in your room as co sleeping. If your lo won't sleep anywhere else maybe she is just not ready. I don't believe in putting babies in their own room in a crib all by themselves anymore. That's just my opinion though :)

Our lo sleeps with us every night and we love it! If you google the benefits of co sleeping it is so crazy! We were those parents who were against it, until we did some research. I would not have it any other way! But they also consider baby in your room as co sleeping. If your lo won't sleep anywhere else maybe she is just not ready. I don't believe in putting babies in their own room in a crib all by themselves anymore. That's just my opinion though :)

Well since you didn't ask for people's opinions, merely advice, I'm going to go that route. Crying it out is a hard thing to come to terms with, but most nights it's the only way my dd will go to sleep. My first was the same way. The way I go about it is I start with a routine. Between 7 and 8 I give her a bath, then baby massage, then we do about 5-10 minutes of naked baby time which she loves, then I get her dressed, Swaddle, then nurse. Sometimes she falls asleep on the boob some nights she doesn't. If she does I put her in her crib and she sleeps for a good 45 minutes until she's up again. At that point, and on the nights that she doesn't fall asleep at the boob, I lay her in her crib (she doesn't like to be rocked to sleep...she just fights it) with her white noise and I put a binky in her mouth. She usually can keep it in her mouth for a few minutes without it falling out then she'll start fussing. So I wait 5 minutes and go and put it back in. When she starts fussing again I wait 10 minutes and go put it back in. Then add 5 minutes each time. Now this may sound harsh but remember I said fussing. If she really starts wailing i go in and pick her up until she's calm again and I put her back down and start over. A lot of moms on here won't agree with what I'm saying but this has been the only thing that works for me and my family so it's what I do. I also believe in vaccinating and spanking, so to each their own!!

Well since you didn't ask for people's opinions, merely advice, I'm going to go that route. Crying it out is a hard thing to come to terms with, but most nights it's the only way my dd will go to sleep. My first was the same way. The way I go about it is I start with a routine. Between 7 and 8 I give her a bath, then baby massage, then we do about 5-10 minutes of naked baby time which she loves, then I get her dressed, Swaddle, then nurse. Sometimes she falls asleep on the boob some nights she doesn't. If she does I put her in her crib and she sleeps for a good 45 minutes until she's up again. At that point, and on the nights that she doesn't fall asleep at the boob, I lay her in her crib (she doesn't like to be rocked to sleep...she just fights it) with her white noise and I put a binky in her mouth. She usually can keep it in her mouth for a few minutes without it falling out then she'll start fussing. So I wait 5 minutes and go and put it back in. When she starts fussing again I wait 10 minutes and go put it back in. Then add 5 minutes each time. Now this may sound harsh but remember I said fussing. If she really starts wailing i go in and pick her up until she's calm again and I put her back down and start over. A lot of moms on here won't agree with what I'm saying but this has been the only thing that works for me and my family so it's what I do. I also believe in vaccinating and spanking, so to each their own!!

I let mine cry up to 20 minutes before I go get her and try again. So far, she cried 20 minutes once and went to sleep, cried 10 minutes the next night, and now usually cries 5 minutes or less. I've only had to go get her once. She's 3 months and 1 week now and we started this at 2 months. Sometimes she doesn't cry at all when I put her to bed. Good luck!

I let mine cry up to 20 minutes before I go get her and try again. So far, she cried 20 minutes once and went to sleep, cried 10 minutes the next night, and now usually cries 5 minutes or less. I've only had to go get her once. She's 3 months and 1 week now and we started this at 2 months. Sometimes she doesn't cry at all when I put her to bed. Good luck!

Erin (30) DH (31) Lily born 9/9/10 after 13 cycles of trying. Owen born 3/10/12 after 9 cycles of not preventing. First had colic. Second is happy and healthy!!!

From:
LanieC711

To: mommyof2beauties2010

Posted: Dec-15 06:39 PM (9 of 11)

I let my LO cry/fuss for no longer than 10 minutes before I comfort him. I first try to comfort without picking him up. But normally he cries for a few minutes and then goes to sleep. I think he has a hard time winding down, and needs to fuss it out. One thing to remember...when LO is crying 5 or 10 minutes seem a lot longer than what they are! There are so many days when I want to go right in and scoop him up, but my husband reminds me we need to stay consistent, and within a couple minutes he stops.

I let my LO cry/fuss for no longer than 10 minutes before I comfort him. I first try to comfort without picking him up. But normally he cries for a few minutes and then goes to sleep. I think he has a hard time winding down, and needs to fuss it out. One thing to remember...when LO is crying 5 or 10 minutes seem a lot longer than what they are! There are so many days when I want to go right in and scoop him up, but my husband reminds me we need to stay consistent, and within a couple minutes he stops.

3 mos is a little early for crying it out (for me). We waited until 7 mos with my son & that was too long. The right answer for us is probably about 4-5 mos. I will be sad since I love to snuggle up with her at night!

3 mos is a little early for crying it out (for me). We waited until 7 mos with my son & that was too long. The right answer for us is probably about 4-5 mos. I will be sad since I love to snuggle up with her at night!

We had the same issues so we put a pillow from our bed in her Moses basket underneath her for the smell of us and try putting her in there straight after a feed. Sometimes she goes straight to sleep but if she doesn't we just put a hairdryer on for about 5-10 mins until she's really asleep. She sometimes wakes up again so we use the hairdryer again. It worked really well for us and she now sleeps in there every night.

We've found that letting her cry it out does work in the day when she's really tired and she normally only takes a few mins. We haven't tried it at night as the hairdryer works so well for us.

Good luck hope you get some proper sleep soon.

We had the same issues so we put a pillow from our bed in her Moses basket underneath her for the smell of us and try putting her in there straight after a feed. Sometimes she goes straight to sleep but if she doesn't we just put a hairdryer on for about 5-10 mins until she's really asleep. She sometimes wakes up again so we use the hairdryer again. It worked really well for us and she now sleeps in there every night.

We've found that letting her cry it out does work in the day when she's really tired and she normally only takes a few mins. We haven't tried it at night as the hairdryer works so well for us.

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