Saturday, 24 September 2011

Feeling left behind

I don’t feel left behind anymore.I just feel like I’m on a different journey, I’ve taken a different fork in the road, and I’m moving ahead, parallel to my friends with children, but not further ahead or further behind.Their road is well-trodden, well-signposted, and with lots of support stops on the way.It isn’t always easy – there are hurdles and ambushes and disappointments on this path, as there are on mine.But generally it is more populated, and the people walking this path are doing so with friends, and family.They’re getting encouraging messages from people who are a bit further up the road.They’re also encouraging people from my road to cross over, telling us how easy it is, and how we’ll regret it if we don’t, letting us feel their pity for walking our road.

But those of us on my road can’t, or don’t want to, cross over.And the view from our road is fabulous, but different.Sure, we have the occasional pothole, and we often walk this path alone, without the hordes of friends and family over on the other road.And, for those of us who had to veer off the other road, onto this one, not by choice, the way is initially very steep.But eventually it evens out, and we stop and take a breath, sit and watch the scenery.And it is amazing, unexpected, and breathtaking.And we smile.

I just loved this: "and we often walk this path alone, without the hordes of friends and family over on the other road. And, for those of us who had to veer off the other road, onto this one, not by choice, the way is initially very steep."

It is a less populated path, and I don't yet know which path I'll be on in 5 years, but this is my path now. Knowing there is another person smiling ahead, enjoying the scenery, is truly a gift. Happy New Year.

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This is my blog on living and loving life without children after infertility. Currently I'm a blogger, a self-employed businessperson, and traveller.

I blog on A Separate Life about my everyday life, but this is a space for thoughts on my No Kidding lifestyle, the good and the bad, remembering what was lost, and celebrating what I have.

My husband and I are the stereotypical couple without children who love to travel. I recently started Instagram where I am (at) travellingMali, and I'm posting photos of various trips (so far mainly our northern trip this year), and the occasional photo of where I live in NZ.

In 2013 I travelled in Europe and the Middle East for five months, and kept a blog at Lemons to Limoncello.

I also had a travelblog some years ago, but stopped posting in 2012, which you can see at Mali's Travelalphablog. I'm intending to start that up again, so watch this space!

In the meantime, I love to hear from readers, and you can email me at: malinzblog at yahoo dot co dot nz