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For three years, the home I longed for was fixed in my mind. Images of every room that I lovingly painted, upgraded, designed, and loved was etched into my third eye. Whenever I needed home, I would close my eyes and roam from room to room, visiting memories long held dear. This is not just any house. This is our first home. We purchased it ourselves, and we labored with love over every square inch. She is ours. She shelters us from the elements of the sky and of man. She envelops us with her quirky doors and bumpy walls. She’s not perfect, but she reflects us. We left the essence our joys and sorrows with her when we left. We fretted over her. We ached for her.

Arriving in the States after living for three years in Germany, we were experiencing a sudden case of dementia. What should be familiar felt foreign. We felt foreign–or at least I did. Being married to a United States Soldier, dependents (the family), have developed an amazing ability to set up camp and make the temporary familiar. We are used to being a foreigner every time we move to a new Post. When we bought this house, we put down roots. Our first sets of real roots. You know, not the kind that runs shallow and uproots easily. These were the beginnings of tap roots. The kind that runs deep and refuses to be blown away in the hurricane.

We became the caretakers of a home that would live on with our memories forever part her. She will be witness to the joys and sorrows of those that come to her long after I am dead. She holds the memories of those that came before us. We painted over those memories. We altered her. We made her ours, not theirs. Because we loved her and we tapped our roots in, we left her in the care of others with the intention and hope to come back to her.

Before we left, we prepped her for a new family. We gave her kitchen and family room a major makeover. We covered the evidence of family photographs hanging on the walls. We prepped her yard for a major overhaul that would occur five months after we left. We trimmed her strawberry plants. We trimmed the rosemary bush and the tree. She was freshly manicured and ready to go. A blank slate for a new military family to transform a temporary residence into a home. I left with the images of my home.

Because of the care and respect that I gave to all of my temporary homes, I never expected my home to be abused. I least of all expected such mistreatment from a military family! They left the essence of disdain. They left the odor of rotten meat, dog piss, and puke. They left behind the evidence of every family photo that had hung on those walls. They left behind the evidence of animal abuse. The stench of anger hung thick in the air. Evidence of a toddler let loose in every room with a crayon, pencil, or pen is stamped into the walls. The color of a tan cave has spread onto every wall in every room except the children’s rooms and the office. The paint eats the sun and reflects the hopelessness of a couple who appear to have reached the edge of the cliff.

As I sit among my possessions that create the stage of home no matter where we reside, I feel like a foreigner. I am a temporary visitor in my own home. Throughout our twenty years together, my husband and I have always moved forward–from one new dwelling to another. Always forward, never backward. Until now. Is it me or is it the house that has changed? We both have changed. I brought new possessions into her arms that she has never known. She was abused and broken. All she had to offer was her strength, and even that was damaged in the wind. She looks to us to make her shine again. She looks to us to make her a real home. A forever home.

We came together as strangers for a second time. We were both a little worse for wear. We were both three years older. We both had new scars. We met in my office. We came together as equals and as friends who have been living apart for a while. We can both be comfortable here, where a child’s writing on the wall is the only mark of the former residents. She likes the new desk and shelves and eagerly awaits a fresh coat of paint, boasting my art on the walls, and a cup of tea with me and my Muse. We are combining the old and the new while planning for the future. We are both home now.

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I am alive. I am so very glad that I can say that because I nearly died this year. Having a genetic condition that nearly killed me in June made me face reality—Life is but a fleeting moment in time. We all know this on some level. Some of us have had either friends or family die from disease, accidents, or self-inflicted causes. Some of us have had friends or family die from old age. Either way—we know that life is short. But, not all of us have faced our own mortality. Not all of us have said to our children and spouse “I love you” while lying on the floor, thinking “this may be the last time I say those words.”

If you have the time, I’d like to share my story with you. But first, you will need to understand the genetic condition from which I suffer—or just skip it and get to the dying part if you prefer. I will be brief on the specifics of the disorder.

What is HHT?

I have a genetic disorder called Hereditary Hemorrhagic Telangiectasia (HHT) that affects about 1 in every 5,000 people. It is an indiscriminate disorder that affects all genders, races, and ethnicities.

HHT is a mutation of the genes that are responsible for the growth pattern of arteries and blood vessels. As most of you know, there are two types of blood vessels: arteries and veins. Arteries carry blood under high pressure (pumped from the heart) and veins carry blood under low pressure, back to the heart. An artery does not usually connect directly to a vein. Usually there are very small blood vessels called capillaries that connect an artery to a vein.

A person with HHT has a tendency to form blood vessels that lack normal capillaries between an artery and vein. This means that arterial blood under high pressure flows directly into a vein without first having to squeeze through very small capillaries. The place where an artery is connected directly to a vein tends to be a fragile site that can rupture and bleed. A blood vessel that is abnormal in this way is called a telangiectasia (tel-AN-jee-eck-TAZE-ee-ya) if it involves small blood vessels. Telangiectasias most commonly occur on the skin of the face, hands, and the lining of the nose and mouth. The telangiectasias on the lining of the nose cause recurrent nosebleeds—the most common symptom of HHT. An abnormality that involves a larger blood vessel is called an arteriovenous malformation (AVM). Some people with HHT will also have AVMs in one or more organs. AVMs occurring in the lungs and brain and can lead to serious complications.

Pass Her Along

I have had an AVM on my tongue burst in the past, and knew how to judge when one was getting large enough to burst. Three years ago, I was denied treatment for an AVM on my tongue that I knew would burst within the next few years.

I guess both the Doctor and HMO (Tricare) wanted to pass me along to someone else. In the military, we move an average of every 3 years. When something is wrong that a doctor doesn’t know how to treat, they can easily ignore you, knowing that eventually you will move and become someone elses problem.

I was right. In early April of this year (2014) the AVM on my tongue burst. At first, it bled for maybe 20-40 minutes every day. About one week later I had an episode of bleeding that lasted for over an hour. My husband drove me to the nearest ER in Amberg, Germany. The language barrier made the whole ordeal much worse as we tried to explain that I had a bleeding condition and not an injury. After much conversing, gesturing, and google translating, a doctor finally understood what was wrong with me. Germans use the old name, Olser Weber Rendu, for HHT. They simply call it Osler’s. However, that didn’t make much of a difference, because I was told that they could not treat me there and that I needed to go to Regensburg instead—that’s about 1.75 hours away! Well, the bleeding finally stopped while I was at the hospital and they sent me home.

I tried to make a doc appointment with my primary care physician, but because the Army is so understaffed, I could not get an appointment because a bunch of soldiers had just returned from Afghanistan. “Soldiers first” was all I heard from the appointment line operator for two weeks. I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, hateful, or even disrespectful, but in this case I think I should have come first! The soldiers were getting post-deployment check-ups. It’s not like they were sick, dying, or injured!

Once again, I was passed along by not only the doctors at Amberg Hospital, but also by the clinic on post.

Though my tongue bled off and on for a few weeks afterward, I gave up on seeing the doctor. The bleeding finally stopped entirely in early May—for a short time anyway.

Because of the frequent bleeding, I became anemic. Not terribly severe, but anemia is never a good thing. I continued to go on as if nothing was really wrong—wrong choice.

As I Lay Dying

In mid-June, the AVM on my tongue started to bleed a little. It got progressively worse every day for 4 days. On Thursday, June 19, 2014, my tongue began to bleed substantially at around 7am. I used an entire roll of VERY absorbent paper towels to try to stop the bleeding. I can honestly say that Viva paper towels are the best on the market. I held the paper towels onto the top of my tongue and squeezed, trying to create a clot. The paper towels became soaked through and useless before a clot could form. After about 2 hours, I gave up and just let it flow—swallowing and spitting out blood for another 2 hours. Remember, this is an AVM, which means that it is arterial blood under high pressure pumping through a smaller vein—in other words; the flow was steady and squirting with every beat of my heart. You may be wondering why I did not go to the ER after 2 hours. I didn’t bother for two reasons:

1) I thought it would stop eventually, and I assumed that it would most likely stop in the ER like it did before.

2) The doctors told me that they could not treat my disorder and as far as I could understand, I was not to go back for treatment of my AVM.

AVM Photo taken on June 19, 2014 after 2 hours of bleeding.

After 4 hours of steady bleeding, I started to feel light-headed. I called my husband and told him that I needed to go to the hospital. At this point, I was starting to get scared. I figured that at the very least, they could give me blood if I needed it.

My husband happened to be on the other side of the tank trail—30 minutes away. The situation rapidly worsened within 15 minutes of my initial call to him. I was half way up the stairs to gather a few things for the trip to the hospital when I suddenly became nauseous, dizzy, and my vision became fuzzy and spotted. I was suddenly hot and broke out in sweat. I sat on the stair landing and leaned against the wall with my eyes closed. I told my daughter, Erin, to call her father and tell him that I needed an ambulance. I noticed at this time that I had finally stopped bleeding.

Being the spouse of the NCOIC (Non-commissioned Officer in Charge) of the DES (Department of Emergency Services) is quite a benefit. Neither my daughter nor I knew the “911” number for Germany.

Lesson: Memorize the emergency services number immediately upon moving to or visiting a foreign country!

My husband called the Desk Sgt. and told him to request a paramedic.

Meanwhile, as I sat on the stair landing, I suddenly had the urge to pee. So, I gathered all my strength to descend the 6 steps and walk 5 feet to the bathroom. I made it to the bathroom entrance—and immediately collapsed.

The linoleum felt so nice and cool. It felt good to lay on that cool linoleum with my eyes closed. I wasn’t afraid. The pain ended. I could sleep and it was good. Somewhere in the distance, as if at the other end of a long tunnel, I could hear a voice.

“mom”

I opened my eyes and saw my daughter standing over me. She is so brave, I thought. She is so calm. I wanted to get up, but I had barely enough energy to lift my head, which caused too much dizziness.

This is the moment when I realized that I might be dying.

I wanted my kids to know that I loved them. I wanted to tell my husband that I loved him. I wanted them to know it was okay that I was dying and I was not afraid.

I no longer had enough energy to talk to anyone. I was tired. I wanted to sleep.

I was not and am not afraid of what comes after death, but before this experience, I was afraid of the dying part. I am no longer afraid of the dying part of death.

Dying isn’t so bad.

As you can see in the chart above, a bp rate of 74 over 50 something is VERY bad. The EMT arrived and I was quickly moved from the bathroom floor to the ambulance.

Thinking back on that day, I am certain about one thing—I do not want to die on the bathroom floor!

The EMT’s were concerned enough that they had a doctor flown in a helicopter to my house. That helicopter landed in the field behind my house.

I really wish I had a picture or video of that.

My daughter told me that my neighbors all stood out back, watching the helicopter land. One of my less tactful neighbors made a joke about it, and my daughter turned to him and said “that helicopter is for my mom” while giving him the evil eye.

The EMT started an I.V. solution for dehydration and to add fluids into my veins and arteries.

The bleeding only stopped because there was not enough pressure to pump the blood out through the AVM.

I vaguely remember the trip to the hospital in the ambulance. I vaguely remember those first couple of hours in the emergency room. I was so very tired.

Over the course of the next 5 hours, my bp rate slowly increased thanks to the I.V. solution.

The diagnosis was hypovolemic shock.

Hypovolemic shock, also called hemorrhagic shock, is a life-threatening condition that results when you lose more than 20 percent (one-fifth) of your body’s blood or fluid supply. This severe fluid loss makes it impossible for the heart to pump sufficient blood to your body. Hypovolemic shock can cause many of your organs to fail. The condition requires immediate emergency medical attention in order to survive. Source

I was told that if emergency services had arrived any later or waited too long to begin the I.V. solution, I could have died.

I may not have been as close to death’s door as I thought, but that is as close as I want to be until I am an old woman.

I vaguely remember the ambulance ride to the hospital. What I do recall is the EMT trying to keep me awake. He spoke clear English with a lovely German accent. It was soothing, but persistent enough to keep me awake. I also recall a lecture about waiting too long to go to the hospital. I promised him that I would never wait more than an hour, to which he replied—“no. you go right away. You have lost too much blood. An hour is too long.” So I promised him that I would not wait at all and I would go to the ER immediately if the AVM bled again.

Here’s another thing that I learned through this experience:

It is true that near-death experiences make the world seem brighter (i.e., colors are more vibrant). It makes food taste better. It makes every moment precious. It makes one re-evaluate their life and their goals for the future. It is also true that after a while colors are normal, food is food, and every moment is not as precious.

What is not true: your life does not flash before your eyes.

Recovery and Surgery

At the hospital, doctors and nurses swarmed me. I honestly do not recall much of what happened. I was admitted to the hospital. The staff wheeled me to an elevator. I think we exited on the third floor, but I am not certain.

It amazes me how different hospitals are in Bavaria as compared to the ones in the States. My room was stark. It was cold too. Though that is not uncommon in most U.S. hospitals, the most noticeable difference was the crucifix on the wall.

Crucifix across from my hospital bed

Though I am not Catholic, I must admit that this little plastic crucifix gave me hope, comfort, and a feeling that everything would be okay. It reminded me to pray and give thanks to God that I was still breathing.

Amberg Hospital Room

I admit that germans know how to make a person cozy. The pillow and comforter were stuffed with feathers! Once the radiator was turned up and I was snuggled into that feathery softness, I was warmer and felt pampered. Sleep was coming for me, and I was grateful.

I will not bore you with the all of the crazy details, but I did eventually see a slew of doctors over the next 2 months. After lots of work, the wonderful staff at the Tricare office secured the best care possible. I had an echocardiogram, an endoscopy, and an MRI.

The results:

I have a Pulmonary AVM, and a small AVM on my duodenum (the first section of the small intestine).

Though I am not currently at risk of internal bleeding, I know that eventually—when I am much older—these AVM’s will bleed.

In August I had a laser treatment on various telangiectasias in my mouth and nose as well as the large AVM on my tongue (plus a smaller AVM on the tongue).

This is me when I got out of surgery in August

This is what I ate for two days while in the hospital.

Hospital Food–YUM! (Not!)

That porridge looking stuff was absolutely disgusting!

The recovery was long. Iron supplements and healthy eating were imperative. I lived on homemade protein yogurt smoothies for the first 2 weeks and then slowly added soups, stews, and soft foods such as mashed potatoes to my diet.

It was months before my iron levels, red blood cell count, and plasma were normal. I lost about 20 pounds from my inability to eat much in the way of solid foods between April and September.

It was not all terrible though. I did manage to have some fun before my surgery. I attended the German-American Volksfest the weekend before my surgery. I drank lots of nutritious German beer and ate plenty of bratwurst.

Beer and Brats–It’s what the “Doctor” prescribed.

I finally have the same energy levels as I did before the bleeding started and am ready to get back to a normal life of DIY projects and exploring Germany.

I hope you will join me for my next project–the guest bathroom make-over on a $20 budget.

If you made it to the end of this post, Thank you! I know it was long and tedious at parts, but I just felt the need to tell you why I have not been around, and to let you know that dying really isn’t so bad.

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Sunday was such a beautiful day in our little corner of Bavaria, so we decided to explore a local treasure, Parkstein (literal translation is Stone Park).

Geology: The Volcano and the Basalt Formation

Millions of years ago, a volcano sat at the center of what is now called Parkstein.

Basalt Formation

Basalt Wall

The mountain, peaking at about 595 meters above sea level, was formed about 24 million years ago. The basalt wall itself is about 38 meters (124.6 feet) high. The hexagonal basalt columns were formed by large eruptions of basalt lava. It is considered one of the best basalt formations in Europe and is a sight of interest for geologists and those who are fascinated by geology.

Medieval History: The Castle (or Fortress)

Stairway up to the summit.

On the way to the summit, the ruins of an early medieval castle tell the story of time. The castle was first mentioned in documents in 1053 and tells a rich history of its occupants from 1052 until its dismantling in 1759.

The legend of the emergence of the Stone Park castle says that a young count was hunting boar in the woods around the basalt formation. He saw a magnificent boar and he pursued him up to the summit and killed the animal. Attracted by beauty of the place, he decided to build a castle on the summit.

View of Parkstein from the Castle Wall.

However, the first record of the castle from 1053 states that the original keep was owned by King Conrad II and burned to the ground by his half-brother, Duke Konrad of Bavaria, during the Christmas of 1052.

The fortress was rebuilt at the turn of the century by Emperor Henry IV and became an imperial seat. Though the castle changed ownership of the course of several hundred years, it reached its glory years in 1278 and 1435. A 30-year war ravaged the fortress and was eventually abandoned and left to the hands of nature and time.

Castle Interior: The Courtyard

By 1798, all that remained were ruins. However, the town of Parkstein blossomed with the new country courthouse and became a judicial district. On October 1, 1808 Parkstein became magistracy to Neustadt. The basalt formation, rich in granite, sandstone, and quartzite became a mining zone.

Remains of Exterior Wall

Turret

Arrow Loop in the Turret

Recent History: The Church

Mosaic Station of the Cross

Dispersed around the park are these beautiful mosaic Stations of the Cross. I could not find any information as to when these were installed, but they look fairly recent–perhaps sometime in the mid-late 20th century, but I am no historian so cannot be sure. Regardless of when they were placed here, they truly are beautifully made.

Throne of the Fey King

This “throne” is a very recent addition. The wood is not overly weathered and you can see swirls from a chainsaw on the seat.

Just think, in 300 years, people will visit this park and think “no what on earth? I thought Germany had no ‘kings’ in the 21st century?”

I call it the Throne of the Fey–yeah I am aware that the Fey are from Irish mythology.

This is the King of the Fey–and he IS Irish!

King of the Fey

And this log is the home of the little faeries…

Faerie Home

Christ, Mother Mary, and Mary Magdalene

Unfortunately, I was unable to find any information on these beautiful statues and was only able to glean a little bit of information about the church. There is, however, a museum at the foot of the formation–which I found out about while doing my research for this post. I am hoping to have more information for you in the follow-up post: Parkstein, Germany Part Two.

Right Side of the Church

Front of the Church

Looks like the door is open…Let’s go in shall we?

Church Door

Don’t you just love old doors? I was fascinated by this one in particular.

I would love to show you the beauty hidden by these unassuming simple wooden doors. I would love for you to see the Priests “throne” and the gold gilded ceiling. I want you to see the golden Illuminati symbol on the ceiling above the Priest’s “throne”, but alas, I cannot.

This was the very last picture I took before my camera shut down. I really MUST remember to bring extra batteries with me.

At least Parkstein is just a 30 minute drive through beautiful countryside. I will be headed back very soon and will share the beauty within the simple exterior of the church with you.

Welcome to the second post in the series: Turning Drab Army Housing Into Our Home! As noted in the series introduction and the first posting of this series, I am a coffee fanatic and am lucky to have the perfect area for a Coffee Station. Here is my first general draft drawn up on my Galaxy Note.

As much as I would love to hide or move the water cooler, it must stay for two reasons: 1) There is nowhere else to move it that makes sense. 2) We use this water for making coffee and tea and for hydration. I am looking into some creative ways to at least “hide” the ugliness. You can read more about my ideas for the water cooler here.

Notice that my Idea drawing said “Wallpaper?” WELL…I couldn’t find any of that removable wall paper that was either cheap affordable or in my style. I am seriously trying to avoid painting, but after taking over 60 photos of this area, I realize that it NEEDS more panache. Therefore, I will consider this space almost finished.

Organizing the Coffee Station:

I used Ikea’s Grundtal Kitchen shelving system instead of a separate shelf and hook system because it offers more versatility.

Grundtal Wall Shelf

The hooks are Fintorp hooks. I used these because they will not come off without unscrewing the Grundtal rails and the hooks have a sort of knob at the tip–which prevents the cups from falling off easily.

Fintorp Hook

Grundtal Also has great storage add-ons for the shelf system

Grundtal Hanging Containers

One of the things I love most about this area is the storage!

Here is the Coffee Station Cabinet–I hope it stays this organized!

Top Shelf in the Cabinet

Bottom Shelf

Loving the Organization

I purchased these Krus storage containers at Ikea as well, but they are only available (as far as I can tell) at the Ikeas in Europe. They feature removable dividers and come in 3 sizes. As you know from my Family Command Center post, I LOVE organization!

Which brings me back to my Grundtal storage containers–which by the way feature an airtight seal…

Coffee Beans & Tea

Adding Style:

These lovely airtight containers store our loose leaf teas.

Pretty Storage for Loose Leaf Tea

And these lovely ladies are for brewing that perfect pot of tea.

Blue Ceramic and Brown Betty Tea Pots

It took me a few days to figure out where to put the sweeteners for tea and the coffee filters…but then I remembered that I had this cute little basket in my bedroom.

Storage Basket

It was important that the cups we use every day were readily accessible–Hence the hook system.

Hooked on Coffee

Yup, those are Ikea cups…50 Cent Euro each 🙂

Magical Machines:

And now for the magical machinery that makes my addiction possible.

The Magical Machines

Because the only outlet in this area is a 220, we had to buy a new coffee machine, water boiler, and coffee grinder. I prefer a mill, but can’t spend the 89 Euro just now. So, the tiny grinder that you see peeking behind the coffee maker is our temporary solution.

I LOVE this coffee maker! If you a photographic memory, you noticed that the coffee maker in the first photo of this post was black and red. So what happened? A teenage boy, a ball, and a dog. Yup. The boy somehow managed to shove my coffee maker off of the counter and it slammed against the Command Center wall. After that…it didn’t work. So, we bought this one. And the bonus is that we now have two carafes! For some unknown reason the carafe was not inside the coffee maker when the boy had his little spaz moment.

So there you have it, my Coffee (& tea) Station! Simple, practical, and down right awesome*!

*Not tooting my horn–I am just so excited to have this in my kitchen!

Coffee Station Reveal

Cost Analysis

Now come on over and enjoy a hot cup of java or a lovely pot of tea with me in my little sitting room.

At first glance it is just a cool political billboard. But then I noticed the US Airforce Bomber–on the side of the corrupt government. Further observation led me to the sign that says “Nobelpries fur Snowden” (Nobel Prize for Snowden). As an American stationed by the US Army, this was not a pleasant reality check. I saw this campaign ad shortly after finding out that Bavaria will no longer issue International Drivers Permits to US Department of Defense personnel or dependents–which means that we cannot drive beyond the borders of Germany.