General Question

Can dreams be enough to keep someone alive?

I was talking to another Fluther user and thought about something. I have been depressed for a while, but since my friend died I have just been a suicidal train wreck. Anyway, in my dreams I have my perfect life and everything is just the way I wanted it. I’m married to my friend who passed away, we have our kids, and like I said… everything is perfect. I was wondering if I find nothing great to live for in reality, can dreams be worth it? I mean in our dreams everything is how we want it. I know that they are just dreams, but at least I can have my “wanted” life there for a little while. I feel like I’m not making sense..

Obviously they keep you going, and it is written that, “Without a vision the people perish”. But getting swept up in your dreams is a good way to keep from moving on. Enjoy your dreams, but don’t forget to live. :)Are these dream-dreams or daydream dreams?

I think if you find solace in your dreams I would be comfortable with that…sit with it and you might find that they help you come through the grief…but I would be mindful of the length of time you stick with this… xx all the best xx

When McCain was in Viet namn He visualized home, and what he would do there. Dreams, and separation like this significantly improves the odds of the personality surviving intact. When the Jews were in concentration camps, they were robbed of everything except for their integrity. They could close their eyes and know that they were still good people.

Your “sense of self” – that you can say “this is me, this is what I am, why am worthwhile, regardless of what may happen in life” – in a hole in a jungle, in a concentration camp, after separation from job or lover – is what gives you mental strength.

Grief is normal. Lepers have no pain – so their parts eventually fall off. Diabetics can develop the same problem. Grief is a signal that helps keep groups together. When a member becomes separated we will do everything possible to recover them. This is good for the group and the individual. Death unfortunately doesn’t fit – except in a Hatfield versus McCoy sense.