I wish that more people could just be real- be yourself because trying to be someone you are not will eventually lead to disaster. Money is great but can't buy love- looks will fade you have to love someone inside out- most of all you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. For men my age that want to date the young 20 something's I have to chuckle:) for the much younger men that would like to date women my age I have to chuckle! There is much to say about physical attraction this is true- but life stages are what they are- I embrace the different things I have experienced- was married 18 years having my daughter and growing my business-I have no regrets- life is about choices and finding mutualty with someone

I wish that more people could just be real- be yourself because trying to be someone you are not will eventually lead to disaster. Money is great but can't buy love- looks will fade you have to love someone inside out- most of all you have to love yourself before you can love someone else. For men my age that want to date the young 20 something's I have to chuckle:) for the much younger men that would like to date women my age I have to chuckle! There is much to say about physical attraction this is true- but life stages are what they are- I embrace the different things I have experienced- was married 18 years having my daughter and growing my business-I have no regrets- life is about choices and finding mutualty with someone

Yes, on the Internet we do often shed our normal dress of reality...sometimes politeness too.

With men and free to join, there becomes an accumilation of them at most sites, that feel a need to compete...with other men. That often creates a need to appear as at least, a little more than they really are.

If carried away with that as they say...soon he's really only a fantasy, in his own eyes. Yes, some have a right to celebrate...but not too much.

Women here are the opposite I think. That's the real draw. The women being buried in email, can reflect to us...just what and who they really are.

Yes, on the Internet we do often shed our normal dress of reality...sometimes politeness too.

With men and free to join, there becomes an accumilation of them at most sites, that feel a need to compete...with other men. That often creates a need to appear as at least, a little more than they really are.

If carried away with that as they say...soon he's really only a fantasy, in his own eyes. Yes, some have a right to celebrate...but not too much.

Women here are the opposite I think. That's the real draw. The women being buried in email, can reflect to us...just what and who they really are.

In real life we balance the pluses and minuses.One or two of the pluses might completely override all of the minuses presuming the minuses don’t include psychopath or some such.On the internet one or two trivial minuses can override all the pluses.

A perfect for you person never gets to display his or her goodside since that may include subtle stuff that you may not even know about

It takes time to really know someone, while internet dating tends to reject people before you even have met them based on superficial crap.

I like wwww12345’s blog, “Are you looking for the right stuff.”

You are not going to determine “the right stuff” from anyone’s profile.

RMac

In real life we balance the pluses and minuses.One or two of the pluses might completely override all of the minuses presuming the minuses don’t include psychopath or some such.On the internet one or two trivial minuses can override all the pluses.

A perfect for you person never gets to display his or her goodside since that may include subtle stuff that you may not even know about

It takes time to really know someone, while internet dating tends to reject people before you even have met them based on superficial crap.

I like wwww12345’s blog, “Are you looking for the right stuff.”

You are not going to determine “the right stuff” from anyone’s profile.

I hear ya... Problem is these days we are all so busy to meet people that the Internet becomes a quicker avenue to try to get to meet new people... And I think some may never intend to meet someone in person so they play what could be classified as games sad thing is for some having email pen pals may be enough

I hear ya... Problem is these days we are all so busy to meet people that the Internet becomes a quicker avenue to try to get to meet new people... And I think some may never intend to meet someone in person so they play what could be classified as games sad thing is for some having email pen pals may be enough

The problem with 'being real' though is partially the medium we're using to talk to others. Some will be honest, and some will be dishonest. It's the same as reality, but it's easier to hide who and what you are when you're behind a computer.

It's also easier for some to detach themselves from the fact that there are real live individuals, with feelings behind each of these profiles.

I've been online for several years, and one of the things I've personally found is that the closer you talk to people from your own area, the less likely they are to lie. This isn't always true, but it's been my experience. I think it's the likelihood of meeting up that keeps their 'artistic license' at bay.

I made the mistake when I first came online in believing that everyone would be as open and straightforward as myself. I was quickly removed of this notion *grins*, and I'm wiser for it.

Amen.

The problem with 'being real' though is partially the medium we're using to talk to others. Some will be honest, and some will be dishonest. It's the same as reality, but it's easier to hide who and what you are when you're behind a computer.

It's also easier for some to detach themselves from the fact that there are real live individuals, with feelings behind each of these profiles.

I've been online for several years, and one of the things I've personally found is that the closer you talk to people from your own area, the less likely they are to lie. This isn't always true, but it's been my experience. I think it's the likelihood of meeting up that keeps their 'artistic license' at bay.

I made the mistake when I first came online in believing that everyone would be as open and straightforward as myself. I was quickly removed of this notion *grins*, and I'm wiser for it.