Thursday, 7 February 2013

February Collage Photo Festival - Day 7

Today's photograph is of my Grandmother's parents. John Matthews and Mary Elizabeth, nee Elstone. I mentioned them earlier in the challenge; as it was their grave I talked about on day 4.

They both died in the 1930's, John in 1931 and Mary in 1937. My Grandmother always spoke very affectionately of her parents saying her Dad was a real joker, which is something I think passed down to my Grandmother. Her mother was a real stickler and took no nonsense from her boisterous sons.

Mary was a bit of a worrier and from listening to my Grandmother, her youngest daughter I think was troublesome and caused a bit of worry. Probably nothing more than going out with friends and meeting boys, which is perfectly acceptable but these were different times and My Great Grandparents were born during the Victorian era, when things were different and "proper"

John Matthews was born in Rugby Warwickshire and migrated to Surrey with his sisters, Mary Anne and Edith; father and step mother. His father had been a coke dealer in Warwickshire and so far I have not been able to establish what work he did in Surrey. John though worked for Frank’s Coal Merchants in Guildford as did his sons. Their house was owned by Franks Merchants and after John died in 1931 Mary remained in the house looking after her children. When Mary died in 1937 my Grandmother looked after her brothers, her eldest sister had married and moved to an address in Guildford and the younger sister was intermittently at home.

One day my Grandmother came back from shopping, which in the 1930's was a daily event, the days before refrigeration, to find a wagon outside taking the furniture. Her eldest brother had given up the house and was moving out. My Grandmother never forgave her brothers for their lack of honesty, trust and respect and was deeply hurt by the situation. She went to live with her older sister and at some point in the 1930's met my Grandfather, who in turn met her brother Ernest who was only 11 months older than my Grandmother in the pub. Ernest went on to marry my Grandfather’s sister.

It is dreadfully sad and really indicates why my Grandmother apart from the relationship with her older sister turned to her husband’s family. She did write to a younger brother who lived in Wales, but had very little contact with the rest of her siblings, and whilst that is very sad, it was the way she preferred it.

6 comments:

Thanks Carol. From what I have learnt and been told about her, she was very much a take it or leave it kind of person and not much bothered her,therefore any worrying was does so in the importance of things. Knowing what we know of what became of the youngest daughter her worrying was justified.

Hi Julie... Interesting post and I'm wondering if there is somewhere that the posts from eveyone contributing to this "February Collage Photo Festival" are being collated. I thought that you were the Curator but must have "got my wires crossed". Cheers, Catherine.

Catherine, thanks for stopping by. Perhaps I should have organised a way of collating the individual posts. Those who signed up are listed at http://anglersrest.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/february-collage-photo-festival.html

What I might do after the event is list all my individual collage posts and perhaps others could do the same then we can collate them all together.

It does seem to be fairly successful and I thought I might do a similar one that would run over the week or so leading up to Remembrance Day in November, but more on that later!

I can't say I blame her for walking away from her brothers. That was a pretty low thing to do, especially without even talking to her. I've been using your linky to drop in on the other FPCF bloggers. My posts for the series show up in the tags on my sidebar.

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I am a Surrey girl, who is very proud of her roots, which go back almost 300 years in Surrey, Sussex and Hampshire. I currently live in the West Country of England, but Surrey is always home! I am also half Italian and thus have an interest in Italian culture and genealogy.

After a career in pharmacy management spanning more than 20 years, I made the decision to look at my options as to where my professional life was heading. I wanted to expand my work portfolio within the training and writing arena; to utilise my historical and research skills along with other qualifications and years of experience. I created The Book of Me, Written by You back in the Autumn of 2012. It threads together the focus of my interests and qualifications. Enabling me to encourage others to think beyond the obvious as we analyse our own lives and those of our close family members.

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