As seems to happen time and again I attract current or ex-bodybuilders to me like a starving moth to a flame. Usually its rather casual but recently I befriended a female competitor and we became VERY close rather quickly. For the record, it was strictly friendship nothing naughty.

At first being around her positive energy was refreshing and I found myself being pulled back into that lifestyle. Then, as her show drew near she began to pull away and complain. The only time she'd initiate conversation was to whine or crab about something. But I have dieted for a show before and I know how draining it can be so I was sympathetic.

So her show came and went. I asked her how she did several times and never even got a response. Her facebook page was filled with bullshit posts like I'm a winner because I met my goals.... which to me sounds like "I really sucked but I"m going to pretend I didnt" So I looked up her placing on the website for the show.... she took 8th. Not a stellar placing in a field of 14. I posted "Bummer on the placing. Another year to dial it in." and it was promptly deleted.

What followed next reminded me with brilliant clarity why I left that lifestyle behind. I got a message through FB that I nearly had to scroll through to finish reading telling me how she's not bummed, how she's on top of the world and only wants to surround herself with positive people. My negativity serves no good, etc, etc.... I HATE that shit. You did what you did. Its human nature to be a little disappointed but bodybuilders get themselves into this robotic state where they cant' even acknowledge anything other than posititivity. I HATE fake anything especially fake positivity. Accept the truth, make it part of you and if its disappointing, use it to fuel your future efforts.

I basically told her to pound sand and with that felt the door to that lifestyle finally close for good. It was like exhaling to let go of that freakshow. So I guess I should send her a Thank you message, lol!!

_________________I have flying monkeys and I'm not afraid to use them!

Listen here sonny, there aint no disaster. There aint no shame in bein' beaten by a master!~ Johnny Lang - Rack 'em up

a very interesting post indeed... good riddance too, by the sounds of it. so is this going to factor into your potential unbiggity process?

_________________"When I die, they will put my body in a box and dispose of it in the cold ground. And in all the million ages to come, I will never breathe, or laugh, or twitch again. So won't you run and play with me here among the teeming mass of humanity? The universe has spared us this moment."

hehe, fair enough. got any specific physique goals or you just gonna improvise?

_________________"When I die, they will put my body in a box and dispose of it in the cold ground. And in all the million ages to come, I will never breathe, or laugh, or twitch again. So won't you run and play with me here among the teeming mass of humanity? The universe has spared us this moment."

Fri Aug 05, 2011 11:23 am

Freda

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Re: So THATS why!

Better to leave false people behind!

_________________I stopped fighting my inner demons! We're on the same side now!

_________________"When I die, they will put my body in a box and dispose of it in the cold ground. And in all the million ages to come, I will never breathe, or laugh, or twitch again. So won't you run and play with me here among the teeming mass of humanity? The universe has spared us this moment."

Fri Aug 05, 2011 12:06 pm

Knight_Errant

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Re: So THATS why!

Thing is, I'm really just getting into lifting, so discovering that bimikey is getting out of the whole scene is like a medieval villager discovering god doesn't exist :SBut I wish you well and hope you're happy in whatever you decide to do next.

_________________Dangerous, Dysfunctional and probably insane- but you know I'm right.

Fri Aug 05, 2011 12:21 pm

Fish Of Doom

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Re: So THATS why!

Knight_Errant wrote:

Thing is, I'm really just getting into lifting, so discovering that bimikey is getting out of the whole scene is like a medieval villager discovering god doesn't exist :SBut I wish you well and hope you're happy in whatever you decide to do next.

bigdavey.

proceed.

_________________"When I die, they will put my body in a box and dispose of it in the cold ground. And in all the million ages to come, I will never breathe, or laugh, or twitch again. So won't you run and play with me here among the teeming mass of humanity? The universe has spared us this moment."

Thing is, I'm really just getting into lifting, so discovering that bimikey is getting out of the whole scene is like a medieval villager discovering god doesn't exist :SBut I wish you well and hope you're happy in whatever you decide to do next.

I'll still toss out old school knowledge to those who ask for it, and I'll still be into lifting/fitness just not the staying huge bbing thing....

_________________I have flying monkeys and I'm not afraid to use them!

Listen here sonny, there aint no disaster. There aint no shame in bein' beaten by a master!~ Johnny Lang - Rack 'em up

and I'll still be into lifting/fitness just not the staying huge bbing thing....

So... like Arnie post Conan period...?

Fri Aug 05, 2011 12:42 pm

Fish Of Doom

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Re: So THATS why!

funnily enough i was about to post elsewhere cheekily asking something along the lines of "anyone else think i might be a little too cynical?", and lo, there i see a contact who's into bodybuilding posting something ending in "cynicism and bitterness are not desirable traits". L-O forking L. i'm still posting it

edit:d'oh, typo!

_________________"When I die, they will put my body in a box and dispose of it in the cold ground. And in all the million ages to come, I will never breathe, or laugh, or twitch again. So won't you run and play with me here among the teeming mass of humanity? The universe has spared us this moment."

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