This guy (I talked about in another post) and I are hanging out again and I'm really confused about what he wants. He says he wants to keep it casual (I assume still fool around, but no sex) and when I'm ready and we have sex that we begin an exclusive relationship. He wants to see if he can handle no sex or see if things are going to work out. I didn't even think he wanted to pursue anything with me. I'm so confused. I feel like he's just going to be waiting around to see if he can talk me into sex and he still doesn't want to be with me. Ughhhh! Do you think I'm just going to be some chick he hangs out with for kicks while he gets the real deal from someone else?? I don't know what to think. I'm unsure about trusting him and if he's serious or not. I was so angry, sad, and disappointed last time. I think a booty call implies sex, so maybe that's the wrong phrase. What do y'all think?

wow...
im far from the expert on relationships, but it sounds like hes using the sex thing as a bargaining chip. u no, like as if sex definitely means a relationship. frankly i think its kinda bull crap, but thats just me...i mean u dont need sex for a relationship, really. there are those that want to wait til youre ready. i think those are the keepers.

Hough I have the feeling that we won't be good together, I still feel sad about doing so. I like him...*sigh* :frowning:

I also have this feeling of relief coming over me. I felt pressure, like he was trying to get me to give in...even though I told him earlier that I'm not on any birth control. I was going to start, but then I thought he didn't want to be with me in a romantic way...then he chatted with me again.... I've been so confused. I'm just glad that I won't be with anyone for a while and I won't have to worry about BC.