How to Handle a No Show On a Date

By Miranda MorenoMar 17, 2020

We've all had to suffer through a friend or a family member being late to meet us for a meal or drinks but what if you were waiting for a date who NEVER SHOWED UP?

This happened to Listener Theresa who wrote to us on Instagram to ask for Simon's advice. Listen to the clip below to find out what he thinks and also read on for some tips on how to deal with this should it happen to you.

BE STERN

Look, no one wants to be a jerk but if you just smile and brush it off they'll think you're a pushover. You can very kindly but firmly let them know that you're upset and won't accept being treated with such disregard. Innocent mistakes happen but you'll feel better in the long run if you stand up for yourself.

DON'T BE TOO QUICK TO RESCHEDULE

If your date flakes on you and gives a lame excuse like they lost track of time or mixed up the days they'll likely try to reschedule to attempt to save face. If you're interested in giving them a second chance, go for it, but not too quickly. Tell them that you need to check your schedule and that you'll get back to them when you can. Let them simmer while you gather your feelings and decide how you'd like to move forward.

FOOL ME ONCE...

When you get stood up, it might be a sign that you need to move on from this person. Now, I don't know the dynamic of your relationship or the details of your situation but in my experience, if someone is a flake, they're a flake. Your date might have their reasons for bailing on you but to forego a text or phone call is rude and takes advantage of you as a person.

Have you ever been stood up? Have you ever stood someone up? How was it handled?