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I mean, for example, on a tube when someone pushes past you, kicking you several times in the process meanwhile saying "I'm sorry" as though the fact they're apologising makes it all okay even though if they were genuinely sorry about doing it, they just wouldn't do it in the first place.

It honestly feels like your sat here wating for me to start threads to leap on with some tired and pointless criticism of something you'd probably be far happier, you know, just not reading in the first place.

Yeah, I whine and gripe and some of my threads are entirely poinless. But, given you know that, surely reading them is even more pointless? And replying to them to complain about the fact you've read them more pointless still.

You're young, theoretically full of energy and have a job I imagine to be far less boring than mine.

Is this really the most exciting thing you can be doing with your time?

That took me much less than a minute to do so not really a big waste of time.

But obviously there's no point in any of this really. I think I speak for many on the boards when I say I'm killing time on the interent 'cos I can't be arsed to do my work.

It's entirely pointless but I'm stuck at this desk until 5:30 this evening and have to do something with my time. And I don't want to do the pile of filing I've been ignoring for the past year so here I am...

just annoys the hell out of me full fucking stop. The first apology means as much as the 50th - stop being so fucking pathetic. It's embarrassing. I also hate when people oversympathise, as if they have some kind of indepth understanding of my life. And then apologise for it when I tell them not to do it.

I did realise this as I was typing my shpeel. I think the type of apologising mentioned in subject of the thread is more acceptable - if it's someone you don't know and they are aware that they are causing somewhat of hassle to you, apologising for it shows compassion.

in these situations, I always automatically say sorry as well because I'm a massive pushover and apologise for everything, like when someone nearly smacks you with a door they've just opened and you're coming the other way.

how anyone could have a problem with someone over-apologising. Provided that it doesn't come across as fake or anything, it's surely a million times better than people strutting up and down the street to the tune of how great they are.

that if you're going to apologise, it needs to be sincere. Sincere the very first time you say it. Sincere & thought through the first time leaves no reason to babble on about how sorry you are again and again.
On another note, if you're not going to apply heartfelt sincerity to your FIRST (only) apology, then don't fucking bother apologising.

Yeah, apologies should be sincere, but I don't think apologising more than once necessarily negates any room for sincerity. In fact, imposing some sort of pre-decided 'apology word limit' seems to me far more indicative of lack of sincerity than someone who just lets the remorse fly as they see fit in any given moment.

I do see what you're saying though - I just felt the need to defend the over-apologisers!

Ultimately, it probably boils down to not much more than how any given person conducts themselves linguistically anyway (ie. stoic attitude to words versus an inclination towards verbal diarrhoea).

it also largely depends on circumstance, and like you say - how a person conducts themselves linguistically.
I try to be honest and upfront with people about everything as a life principle, so I guess if I ever have to apologise, there's not usually any sort of underlying build up of guilt that I feel the need to apologise relentlessly.
^5 for defending the over apologisers, though.
Wow - maybe I should apologise now, for coming across as some callous, cold hearted bitch. I'm not :)

if i have to push past you on the tube, even though the crowded situation necessitates it, i am still going to apologise to you when i kick you in the process. i would think you a prick for not apologising.

You're sat in a train and there's a person in the seat opposite you. Maybe it's one of those quiet carriages where you're not allowed to use phones or anything. Meanwhile you have a small child (perhaps a nephew or niece) with you who after a day of being hyperactive and infused with sugar, has now finally gone to sleep. You're reading a book and finally enjoying some peace.

At some point during the journey the person opposite apologises before whipping out their phone and having an insanely loud expletive-infused slanging match with someone on the other end for 20 minutes thus meaning you can't concentrate on your book and the small child with you has woken up and is irritable, hyperactive and can't get back to sleep.

Really fucking annoying and inconsiderable behaviour? Perhaps. But even more so because that person has acknowledged what they're doing is annoying and inconsiderable but feels their pre-emptive apology covers it.

That's the kind of thing that I'm talking about that really fucking annoys me. And I find it that little bit more annoying 'cos the person acknowledged how much of an arsehole they were about to be by apologising first.

my typings may well be, in this instance. However, I can assure you that I'm far from misunderstood as a person IRL. But then, no-one on here can vouch for that - nor do they have the ammunition to rightfully make the statement that I am misunderstood.