This is something I don't quite understand.My husband and I are married, but we are definitely still two individual people with our own ideas, likes, and dislikes. In no way am I subservient to him - or he to me. We are partners and we work things out. Neither of us owns the other. Neither of us has to ask permission of the other for anything. We have separate bank accounts and separate investment accounts. We are equal partners. And that's the only way I would ever want it.