(Closed) Plus one questions

And now comes the drama. I am from a large family and am the first of my 19 cousins to get married. Only a handful of them are adults, but my granma really wanted to have everyone together so I agreed and now even my 2 year old cousin’s son is coming.

My cousin (we will call her Mary) texted me today to ask why she didnt get a plus one. Mary believes that “everyone else did.” I gave a plus one to family that was over 21 and in a significant relationship. Defining significant as I have met the person and could tell you their name if asked. Mary is over 21 but not in a relationship. After explaining this she informs me that our cousin Joe Schmo had broken up with his girlfriend and he got a plus one. It turns out that even though I didn’t give him a plus one, my mother did not realizing he was single.

I don’t think it would be right to take away his plus one, but I don’t think I should be forced to give her a plus one.

BiddyC23: If you’re sure she’s not in a relationship, then you’re totally justified in not giving her a plus one. Doing so may set off a chain reaction and cause more cousins to ask. I would say “I’m so sorry but we are only able to give plus 1’s to those in serious relationships due to number constraints. But we can’t wait to see you!”

This is kind of crazy–“I heard through the grapevine that so-and-so got a plus one and I didn’t so you owe me”?? The MANNERS.

I like julies1949:’s response, but I might also add that I don’t think that this should be your issue to iron out, if you can avoid it. It’s probably something your mom should discuss with her–when uppity guests get a stern response from the non-honorees, it tends to carry more weight.

BiddyC23: its your wedding you SHOULD NOT have to explain to anyone about plus one and who you chose to invite! Tell her she better be happy she’s inviteddd! (NO don’t tell her it like that, thats mean)

But seriously, just tell her that there’s no more room for additional guests and leave it like that …