can't stop smoking! :(

My husband and I are expecting baby #3 in August 2012...With my first 2, I was able to stop smoking right away and not start up again until MUCH MUCH later...I'm only a social smoker, smoking when the kids have been put to bed while the hubby and i relax and that's it... Maybe in total 4-6 smokes in 7 days... But since we found out about baby #3 I just can't seem to quit any of my bad habits!Any suggestions??

My husband and I are expecting baby #3 in August 2012...With my first 2, I was able to stop smoking right away and not start up again until MUCH MUCH later...I'm only a social smoker, smoking when the kids have been put to bed while the hubby and i relax and that's it... Maybe in total 4-6 smokes in 7 days... But since we found out about baby #3 I just can't seem to quit any of my bad habits!Any suggestions??

I had the same problem. Go online research what smoking does to you and your baby. Look for graphic pictures that will totally turn you off and then every time you go to light up think of what you read/saw from your research.

I had the same problem. Go online research what smoking does to you and your baby. Look for graphic pictures that will totally turn you off and then every time you go to light up think of what you read/saw from your research.

It's not a craving that I have... A habit when people are around me... I never smoke on my ownI quit my anti depressants almost as soon as I found out (we weren't trying at all and only had sex once in December lol)But smoking about 1 cig a day, at night, seems to have replaced my body's need for ADs... And u feel better off them (physically only)Nothing phases me... Not photos or stories... If you knew and went through how I grew up... So that option is outI know that I'll be able to quit... But I can't see that happening before March :(So much stress with business, family etc...

It's not a craving that I have... A habit when people are around me... I never smoke on my ownI quit my anti depressants almost as soon as I found out (we weren't trying at all and only had sex once in December lol)But smoking about 1 cig a day, at night, seems to have replaced my body's need for ADs... And u feel better off them (physically only)Nothing phases me... Not photos or stories... If you knew and went through how I grew up... So that option is outI know that I'll be able to quit... But I can't see that happening before March :(So much stress with business, family etc...

Honestly, I do hope for your baby's sake u do quit. I know u know as much as the rest of us the implications. In the event that your baby has the negative effects of smoking (which he/she may or may not), it will change your life quick. May even cause u to be more reliant on AD's.You have 2 other kids, you've done it before. Gonna pray and root u on.If ur a social smoker...maybe take yourself out of that scene for now.

Honestly, I do hope for your baby's sake u do quit. I know u know as much as the rest of us the implications. In the event that your baby has the negative effects of smoking (which he/she may or may not), it will change your life quick. May even cause u to be more reliant on AD's.You have 2 other kids, you've done it before. Gonna pray and root u on.If ur a social smoker...maybe take yourself out of that scene for now.

Talk to your doctor because quitting too far along in your pregnancy can actually have adverse affects on the baby. It is better, so I have been told, to quit in the first trimester. If you can't quit then try to cut down as significantly as you can. Obviously quitting is difficult to do. There is a school of thought that says quitting cigarettes is harder than quitting heroin. But don't beat yourself up about it. Obviously you want to do what is best for baby, which is why I would suggest discussing it with your doctor. Also, you can use the patch during pregnancy which is something I just learned with this last pregnancy. Good luck:)

Talk to your doctor because quitting too far along in your pregnancy can actually have adverse affects on the baby. It is better, so I have been told, to quit in the first trimester. If you can't quit then try to cut down as significantly as you can. Obviously quitting is difficult to do. There is a school of thought that says quitting cigarettes is harder than quitting heroin. But don't beat yourself up about it. Obviously you want to do what is best for baby, which is why I would suggest discussing it with your doctor. Also, you can use the patch during pregnancy which is something I just learned with this last pregnancy. Good luck:)

I have a family member who continued to smoke through three pregnancies. What resulted is terrible. Her first child had to have surgery very early on in life. Her second child had as STROKE in utero. He will never hold a job or have a family of his own. And her third child has major issues with behavior. All a result of smoking. If those aren't reasons enough besides your poor helpless baby who relies on you.... I'm an ex smoker. I smoked a pack a day but if I had found out I was pg I would have quit immediately and my life has been hell too. Nothing is worth lighting up and if something is so harsh, seek counseling not lighting up. I wish you all the success in the world and quickly.

I have a family member who continued to smoke through three pregnancies. What resulted is terrible. Her first child had to have surgery very early on in life. Her second child had as STROKE in utero. He will never hold a job or have a family of his own. And her third child has major issues with behavior. All a result of smoking. If those aren't reasons enough besides your poor helpless baby who relies on you.... I'm an ex smoker. I smoked a pack a day but if I had found out I was pg I would have quit immediately and my life has been hell too. Nothing is worth lighting up and if something is so harsh, seek counseling not lighting up. I wish you all the success in the world and quickly.

Well, thank you to those who have actually answered with suggestions, that is what I needed!Again, more or less it is the social aspect.If I don't want to be alone, then I am around smokers... I guess then I'll be alone LOLBut it's been 4 days with only 2 smokes, I'm sure that i can do it as long as my stress level stays the same or gets better LOLThanks to the people who were of actual help who gave positive and suggestive replies :)

Well, thank you to those who have actually answered with suggestions, that is what I needed!Again, more or less it is the social aspect.If I don't want to be alone, then I am around smokers... I guess then I'll be alone LOLBut it's been 4 days with only 2 smokes, I'm sure that i can do it as long as my stress level stays the same or gets better LOLThanks to the people who were of actual help who gave positive and suggestive replies :)

I suggest reading Allan Carr's Easy Quit Smoking Guide (or something like that). I know it sounds silly that a book could help you quit smoking but it really does work and if you are lucky with minimal withdrawal symptoms. Good luck.

I suggest reading Allan Carr's Easy Quit Smoking Guide (or something like that). I know it sounds silly that a book could help you quit smoking but it really does work and if you are lucky with minimal withdrawal symptoms. Good luck.

Again, I am not an excessive smoker... I SOCIALLY smoke... Please DO NOT get me confused with someone that smokes a pack in a day or two... I do not have cravings for a smoke, I can go days/weeks with no smoke if wanted ... Again it's the fact that everyone around me is a smoker (AND NO THEY DO NOT SMOKE NEAR ME)... But when they are around I feel the need to be with them and so I grab a cig...At most it's maybe 4-6 cigs IN 7 DAYS...I have gone 2 days with nothing and I feel just fine, I have never been a chain or pack smoker... No bad withdrawal symptoms, just the one that if people are over, outside smoking, I want to join in

Again, I am not an excessive smoker... I SOCIALLY smoke... Please DO NOT get me confused with someone that smokes a pack in a day or two... I do not have cravings for a smoke, I can go days/weeks with no smoke if wanted ... Again it's the fact that everyone around me is a smoker (AND NO THEY DO NOT SMOKE NEAR ME)... But when they are around I feel the need to be with them and so I grab a cig...At most it's maybe 4-6 cigs IN 7 DAYS...I have gone 2 days with nothing and I feel just fine, I have never been a chain or pack smoker... No bad withdrawal symptoms, just the one that if people are over, outside smoking, I want to join in

Yeah so I recommend you read the book. It covers all different types of smokers. I don't know why you keep repeating that you aren't a heavy smoker. That is irrelevant, the fact is you are smoking and something is drawing you to have a cigarette.

Yeah so I recommend you read the book. It covers all different types of smokers. I don't know why you keep repeating that you aren't a heavy smoker. That is irrelevant, the fact is you are smoking and something is drawing you to have a cigarette.

If you're a social smoker then it should be easy to quit. I used to smoke a pack a day when I was younger, quit almost 3 years ago. I honestly believe that if one cannot quit smoking or drinking during pregnancy (even after seeking help for same) then do the child a favor and get an abortion. I've seen the results of casual smoking/drinking as a nurse, not pretty. I'm not trying to be nasty, I'm being 100% sincere.

If you're a social smoker then it should be easy to quit. I used to smoke a pack a day when I was younger, quit almost 3 years ago. I honestly believe that if one cannot quit smoking or drinking during pregnancy (even after seeking help for same) then do the child a favor and get an abortion. I've seen the results of casual smoking/drinking as a nurse, not pretty. I'm not trying to be nasty, I'm being 100% sincere.

If you're a social smoker then it should be easy to quit. I used to smoke a pack a day when I was younger, quit almost 3 years ago. I honestly believe that if one cannot quit smoking or drinking during pregnancy (even after seeking help for same) then do the child a favor and get an abortion. I've seen the results of casual smoking/drinking as a nurse, not pretty. I'm not trying to be nasty, I'm being 100% sincere.

If you're a social smoker then it should be easy to quit. I used to smoke a pack a day when I was younger, quit almost 3 years ago. I honestly believe that if one cannot quit smoking or drinking during pregnancy (even after seeking help for same) then do the child a favor and get an abortion. I've seen the results of casual smoking/drinking as a nurse, not pretty. I'm not trying to be nasty, I'm being 100% sincere.

I've never heard of a nurse giving the advice "to do the kid a favor and get an abortion". I would not want you as my nurse - shame on you. Pretty sure she was looking for suggestions not crazy person judgements.

I've never heard of a nurse giving the advice "to do the kid a favor and get an abortion". I would not want you as my nurse - shame on you. Pretty sure she was looking for suggestions not crazy person judgements.

I get the feeling from the OP that they want us to say "It is okay. You're doing something that is potentially harmful to your baby but it's okay because heaven forbid you have stress in your life. Oh no. If smoking affects your child for the rest of their life in a detrimental way then it wasn't your fault. It's okay to poison your baby!" but that's just my feeling. And nursetania I commend you for saying what others are possibly thinking.

I get the feeling from the OP that they want us to say "It is okay. You're doing something that is potentially harmful to your baby but it's okay because heaven forbid you have stress in your life. Oh no. If smoking affects your child for the rest of their life in a detrimental way then it wasn't your fault. It's okay to poison your baby!" but that's just my feeling. And nursetania I commend you for saying what others are possibly thinking.

Wow... Looking for help but being told to abort... Well **** you then. All I wanted were suggestions on helping to cut back my 'maybe one smoke a day' to none... But I see that even in the Canadian boards, some of you are no better then the American boards... Thanks for the 'concern' the some of you have however please read my question first and answer only to what I asked... Easy to judge and say **** behind your computer or phone... I'll just continue my one day at a time with no smoking and just consult my doctor ever visit on my progress... Thanks again to those who were actually helpful!

Wow... Looking for help but being told to abort... Well **** you then. All I wanted were suggestions on helping to cut back my 'maybe one smoke a day' to none... But I see that even in the Canadian boards, some of you are no better then the American boards... Thanks for the 'concern' the some of you have however please read my question first and answer only to what I asked... Easy to judge and say **** behind your computer or phone... I'll just continue my one day at a time with no smoking and just consult my doctor ever visit on my progress... Thanks again to those who were actually helpful!

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