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TTC after a prem

my daughter was born at 25 weeks and spent 10 months in hospital and im worried about the same thing happening again ( no known reason for her prem birth )
im currently TTC and wondering if anyone had a prem then a full termer? not sure how i would cope with another prem. visiting a nicu with a disabled child might not be so easy

Morning Claire, I can see by the time that you posted this that it is really preying on your mind. My first daughter was born pre-term (36 weeks) rather than premature so the situation doesn't compare at ll, however if you are interested, our second daughter went to just shy of 38 weeks.

I don't have any wise words to give you from personal experience but just wanted to wish you a warm welcome to the site and reassure that this is a great place to get advice and support.

My ds was born at 30 weeks, and this often preys on my mind too. We haven't formally starting ttc, but do worry about the reasons you've mentioned.
I know the cause for my sons prematurity was an abruption, and I know that theres about a 50% chance of it recurrring, so I'm cautious.
However as you've said, there is no known reason for your early birth, and there are many women who do deliver early, and then go on and have a full term birth next time.
Try speaking to BLISS ( http://www.bliss.org.uk/) they have a message board, and advice line if you feel that may help. We found them really useful after my ds was born.
Good luck
x

Claire, personally, if you have the time, I would wait until your daughter is at least 2.5yrs old before trying again.

With two healthy boys (2nd was prem) it is hard work with only 18 months between them. JJ (the 2nd) does have health issues. If the first also had health issues I would find it overwhelming. It is only now as my 1st (PP) approaches 3yrs old that life is getting easier.

If your first does have health issues or is disabled you will know how to cope by the time she is 2-3 yrs old. Then I would suggest is a better time to think about whether you guys can cope with a new baby.

my wee girls approaching 4 now so thier is quite a gap. my partner does worry about how i would manage a newborn with my daughters care ( she has cerebral palsy, chronic lung disease/asthma, reflux, heart problems and autism ) i think now that her care isnt as intense as the first 2 years that coping with 2 children would be no problem and i dont want ruqayyah to be an only child

its the whole nicu situation that worrys me as i would want to be on the unit with baby if that happened but no one else knows how to work R'S machines. hmmmm maybe i should start training others in her care, maybe that would ease the worrys?