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“My husband (let’s just call him Clyde) recently pushed for us to get web cams for our computers. The idea of being able to see each other while talking from long distances was a big turn on to him, as I discovered. Need some dialogue about whether or not video chatting or exchanging with my husband videos of a sexual nature is advised. Trying to brainstorm creative ways to stay connected in anticipation that one or both of us may be deployed with the Army. Thanks!”

Web cams are really cool to utilize when one of you is away. My husband has taken a web cam on his business trips before, and I plan on taking one myself on an upcoming trip where I will be away from home! Video chatting is basically just conducting an Instant Message conversation while having your cams turned on. By using the camera, you and your husband will be able to type back and forth to each other and see each other at the same time. Some programs even allow you to use your microphone so that you can hear each other, and there is no need for typing. This makes it even more intimate!

Being away from your spouse is hard, and web cam sex can indeed be something spicy that you can add to your marriage until you are reunited again. It’s like phone sex, enhanced! 🙂 It’s wonderful for people who are visually stimulated, because you get to see your spouse doing those things for you that blow your mind!

My only caution is that both spouses make doubly sure that absolutely NO ONE can/will walk in on you while it’s going on. Privacy is very important here. Hotel rooms are one thing, but if your spouse is deployed overseas… it may be harder for him/her to be able to guarantee absolute privacy.

You asked about “exchanging videos of a sexual nature” with your husband. (Of course, I assume here that you mean sending your husband a sexy video of yourself.) Again, my only concern with this is your privacy and making sure that no one other than your husband will have access to it. Personally, I would feel better with the live feed on the camera instead of emailing him a video to open on his computer. Because if he doesn’t get that video deleted then his friends may accidentally come across it 😯

You wrote to us back in April, so one of you may be deployed by now. I hope you have come to a safe agreement about what you will do together to keep your marriage bed sizzling while you are apart! God bless!