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Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Being Who You Are: But, What if you're Dry?

I know some of the "driest" people. It's not their skin, or anything else physical. It's their expression. Their expressions/reactions are usually void of excitement, energy, & sometimes interest.

Example A: A very like-able co-worker announces that they are getting married. Everyone gathers in the office, practically jumping up & down with excitement...asking questions about the ring/special date/dress/arrangements/etc.; but the "dry person" says "Congratulations!", merely smiles & goes back to work.

Example B: The "dry person" is a friend/family. You invite them over your house for a get-together, & they sit in the corner of your couch, and generally appear aloof.

Example C: You are driving, and the "dry person" is in the passenger seat. A bad car accident happens just in front of you. You are (audibly) freaking out & the person in your passenger seat is silent.

It's not that they aren't happy for their co-worker, don't want to spend time with a friend/family, or aren't shocked about the accident. They just can't or don't convey this outwardly.

Some people are "natural conveyors" of their emotions; their energy, like a ray of light, can not easily be contained. For others, it takes work to show their true feelings; often times an "energy-draining" amount of work.
Two sides of the same coin; neither better or worth more than the other.

If you are dry, be dry.
Better to just be who you are, than to feign emotions that you don't naturally feel. Apparently, fake emotions can be detected; and you don't want to become known as that person with a fake...
laugh...Ever laugh at someone's joke, but their joke wasn't funny to you? Your laugh was more so for them; so they didn't feel bad for telling a not-so-good joke.
You're truly too kind.
It's okay not to laugh. If it's all for them, what's the point?
I digress.

Who's life are you living?

If it's for other people, continue conjuring up these fake emotions. Hopefully, they will satisfy those around you. Hopefully, those around you appreciate how hard you are trying to please them.

If it's yours, be you; and if that means you naturally get a kick out of Laffy Taffy jokes, so be it.
Laugh until your eyes well with tears!

3 Comments:

Wow, this is so true! I am definitely a natural conveyor of my emotions. I wear my heart on my sleeve and it is very hard for me to be phony. One of my coworkers of one of the driest people I know! She literally drains my energy!! Thank you for articulating clearly what I have always thought.

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