to get married now or wait??

Hello , my fiance and i have a wedding date set for 9-21-13. I just found out that i am almost 9 weeks pregant. Which makes my due date 7-20-13. Fiance wants to go to the courthouse and get married and have the vow renewal in september so i can have the wedding i wanted. what would you guys do wait to get married in sept. or go to the courthouse now? thanks

Hello , my fiance and i have a wedding date set for 9-21-13. I just found out that i am almost 9 weeks pregant. Which makes my due date 7-20-13. Fiance wants to go to the courthouse and get married and have the vow renewal in september so i can have the wedding i wanted. what would you guys do wait to get married in sept. or go to the courthouse now? thanks

First of congrats on being prego & the engagement :). Secondly that has to be up to both of you guys. You should not fell like you have to rush to get married now because of your pregnancy unless of course if your ready to get married. My husband and I eloped and got married at the court house we didn't tell anyone until afterward (got married 2-14) then we had a wedding later (6-25).

First of congrats on being prego & the engagement :). Secondly that has to be up to both of you guys. You should not fell like you have to rush to get married now because of your pregnancy unless of course if your ready to get married. My husband and I eloped and got married at the court house we didn't tell anyone until afterward (got married 2-14) then we had a wedding later (6-25).

Don't feel rushed! However, the hubs and I got married at the court house 12-20-06 and then had a wedding reception later. We opted out of a vow renewal and just opted for the huge party! Lol. I wouldn't have done it any other way!

Don't feel rushed! However, the hubs and I got married at the court house 12-20-06 and then had a wedding reception later. We opted out of a vow renewal and just opted for the huge party! Lol. I wouldn't have done it any other way!

If you plan to get married anyway I say you should go ahead and do it before the baby comes. One day it might mean something to him/her to have married parents on the birth certificate. I don't think anyone should get married just because of a baby. But, if it is in your short term plans anyway go ahead and do it now.

If you plan to get married anyway I say you should go ahead and do it before the baby comes. One day it might mean something to him/her to have married parents on the birth certificate. I don't think anyone should get married just because of a baby. But, if it is in your short term plans anyway go ahead and do it now.

We have been planning out wedding for 3 yrs now, we want the date 1-23-?? Jan 23 as it is out anniversary of when we started dating a well as my daughter passed away and was with us for 123 day so number really means a lot for us. Wedding again postponed till 2014 as I'm 18 wks.

We have been planning out wedding for 3 yrs now, we want the date 1-23-?? Jan 23 as it is out anniversary of when we started dating a well as my daughter passed away and was with us for 123 day so number really means a lot for us. Wedding again postponed till 2014 as I'm 18 wks.

We did a JP wedding in January and then had our huge wedding in August! We mainly did it because he is military and that was the only way we could live together and get the extra money (from the housing allowance) to help pay for the wedding. I see no problem with getting married by the court first, but just make sure y'all are 100% sure about doing it!

We did a JP wedding in January and then had our huge wedding in August! We mainly did it because he is military and that was the only way we could live together and get the extra money (from the housing allowance) to help pay for the wedding. I see no problem with getting married by the court first, but just make sure y'all are 100% sure about doing it!

I like his suggestion and I think it's a good idea. If you were planning on getting married anyway then there's no harm in moving it up a few months, no-one can accuse you of a shotgun marriage when you had already booked in a date anyway! Having the big renewal in Sep is a great idea as well, that will be lovely and romantic.

I like his suggestion and I think it's a good idea. If you were planning on getting married anyway then there's no harm in moving it up a few months, no-one can accuse you of a shotgun marriage when you had already booked in a date anyway! Having the big renewal in Sep is a great idea as well, that will be lovely and romantic.

There is no need to rush into marriage. My fiancé and I have been engaged for almost two years. Our son is two years old. I have no desire to have a courthouse wedding and I'm not ready to plan a big wedding. Our relationship is the same regardless.

There is no need to rush into marriage. My fiancé and I have been engaged for almost two years. Our son is two years old. I have no desire to have a courthouse wedding and I'm not ready to plan a big wedding. Our relationship is the same regardless.

Thank you for the replies. we have been together for 4 years now and have a 3 year old boy so this is our second baby. we had planned to get married in oct but something came up so we had to push it back a year. so im def. not rushing into getting married.

Thank you for the replies. we have been together for 4 years now and have a 3 year old boy so this is our second baby. we had planned to get married in oct but something came up so we had to push it back a year. so im def. not rushing into getting married.

I don't see any negative about getting married before/for the baby. I always say "why wait for eventually". You're going to do it anyway and it could at least get the benefits of being considered married from a tax perspective for all of 2012 if u do so before 12/31. BUT if there are any personal hesitations, go at your own pace.

I don't see any negative about getting married before/for the baby. I always say "why wait for eventually". You're going to do it anyway and it could at least get the benefits of being considered married from a tax perspective for all of 2012 if u do so before 12/31. BUT if there are any personal hesitations, go at your own pace.

You clearly had plans to get married pre-conception! I think it's totally adorable your hubby-to-be wants to make it official now. Id say why wait! It may actually be easier just to have a celebration wedding down the Road when you have baby as the stress of huge wedding plans will definitely overwhelm with an infant in tow!

You clearly had plans to get married pre-conception! I think it's totally adorable your hubby-to-be wants to make it official now. Id say why wait! It may actually be easier just to have a celebration wedding down the Road when you have baby as the stress of huge wedding plans will definitely overwhelm with an infant in tow!

I think your fiancé has a great idea. My body is still a mess 8 months pp and I wouldn't want to be in a wedding dress so soon after birth (just me you may go back to fabulous right away :). Also it is practical for legal things and insurance stuff.

I think your fiancé has a great idea. My body is still a mess 8 months pp and I wouldn't want to be in a wedding dress so soon after birth (just me you may go back to fabulous right away :). Also it is practical for legal things and insurance stuff.

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