Hearts in the Wind is the Blog for Radiant Nursing - celebrating The Radiance Technique®. We cover an eclectic range of topics integrating TRT® into our lives. There's something for everyone.

This blog covers an eclectic range of topics for information, fun, and all the ups and downs of life. For students who have studied with me The First and/or The Second Degrees of The Radiance Technique® – there are suggestions for integrating TRT® into daily living. There's something for everyone.

Saying Goodbye To The Neighbor's Kitty

Moving can include saying goodbye to the neighbor's kitty.

Ariel, a long-haired grey cat, came into my life a couple of years after I moved in to my place in California. The neighbors in the two-story house behind me moved out and soon after, she started to appear in my backyard.

"Hello! I'm heading over the fence to hang out in your backyard."

Whose Kitty Is This?

I visited the people in the house behind me, to check if the cat was theirs. I was deeply concerned this might a situation of people moving and abandoning their pets. But, fortunately, they confirmed the cat belonged to them and that her name was Ariel.

I have to say I don't "approve" of outdoor cats. Veterinarians agree that cats are healthier, safer and live longer lives when kept as indoor cats.

A Backyard And A Kitty

But, when Ariel decided to make my backyard, her backyard, it didn't seem appropriate to lecture the neighbors on my views of proper care for cats.

Trying to chase her away would have been silly, as we're all familiar with the challenges of herding cats.

I certainly couldn't wish her harm. In fact, on the contrary, I fell in love with her as my friendly neighbor and frequent visitor.

"Meow! I'm at your sliding glass door. Are you there?"

Enjoying The Backyard

Ariel and I both enjoyed the backyard. She would pop over the fence early in the morning and spend most of the day there. She had a couple of spots that had been worn smooth into comfy lairs by her body.

She would greet me with a soft meow and come out from under the bushes when I entered the backyard. She'd come to the sliding glass door to say hello in the evening.

Being a cat lover, I wouldn't dream of resisting her sweet face and freely shared TRT® hands-on with her. I talked with her.

What a sweet, loving kitty. I could pick her up and hold her; she loved being petted. She was always kind and gentle with me when I handled her.

I consciously made a decision to never feed her any food so she wouldn't think of my place as her real home, but she, nonetheless, made it her second home.

She would head over the fence, sometimes late at night, back to her own house. I'd tell her that she should be home with her family.

"My name is Ariel, and there are secrets within my eyes."

Saying Goodbye

I told Ariel, more than once, that I had to go away for good, that I was moving. Trying to explain that is not so easy even with other humans, much less animals.

I left a note for the new homeowners about her and I hope they will be kind to her.

When we have to say goodbye, students of The Radiance Technique® (TRT®) are able to apply TRT® hands-on as they are preparing for the transition. Loss and grief are a natural part of leaving, even when you know you must go, even when you might look forward to departing for new adventures.