4) Not overwhelmed since I think the premise of being with one person forever is ridiculous so why would I worry about it? Even in the longer relationships I've had I've never thought about being with that person "forever", and those relationships eventually ran their course and ended. I think it's nice to be able to look back at relationships and remember only happiness with a brief stint of sadness in the end in which at least one side realized we could no longer make one another happy and it was time to move on. I've very much so enjoyed sharing pieces of my life with someone else, and sharing in a piece of someone else's life, and you move on when it's over. I also very much so enjoy keeping in touch with people I've been in relationships with knowing that I've been very happy dating girls here and there and enjoying both my single and relationship cycles of my life... then to find out that the girl I used to date found "eternal happiness" after we were finished and is now 4 years later is in a crappy marriage with 2 kids and is miserable. To know that I've been happy and have never had a relationship drag me down or trick me into believing I can choose a single person for the rest of my life is a wonderful feeling.

2) I go through cycles... if I'm jealous of my friends in relationships it usually means I'm ready for another one... if I'm not then I'm very much so having fun and enjoying being single. If I'm in a relationship and it's going good I'm not at all jealous of my single friends because I'm happy with who I'm with... if I'm jealous of my single friends then that's usually a pretty good indicator that I'm ready to get out of whatever mess I'm in.

I kinda like shoujo and some romance stories, but I don't really keep it a secret. It's a little embarrassing, so I son't go around telling everyone. But I don't keep it from anyone if they ask. I have secrets, but it's not so much that I'm a man that I have those secrets. I have those secrets because I'm a person and people have things they don't want others to know. Whether that's good for them or me is an entirely different topic.

Before anyone caps on me, I like men, and am just trying to understand them. So please maybe add to the list, or comment on the list. I have a feeling this could get alittle rough.

5. No chance in Hades would this ever happened.
4. I really like the idea of monogamy. You know what's a really empty feeling? Watching relationships go by, really just temporary interactions that don't mean anything. Why wouldn't someone want to really get to know someone, partner up, and take on life together?
3. Women are different. What one woman likes, another one may not. That's why you ask. Men who do not ask either are afraid, prideful, egotistical, or generally not concerned with their partner's experience. And to be fair, I think this goes both ways. That is part of the learning process with a partner.
2. I have never been jealous of my single friends.
1. Some guys don't watch any! It depends on the guy, hormones, stuff like that. By the way, I know women who do this.

So I'm going to give you some secrets about guys (I'm assuming you are just talking about secrets related to relationships?):

5. While guys often talk of making monetary investments in relationships; having to pay for dinner, movies, so on and so forth, men secretly despise doing this. Many men will not even take out a woman if they have the slightest hint at being used. Women out there, you should be equally outraged if you feel men are investing in your affections.
4. The simple things count. A short note, a heart in the condensation on a mirror with a name in it, cooking a favorite meal, and a real embrace when meeting or coming home are all very much appreciated and noticed.
3. We like to be appreciated as men. No this does not mean fawning all over our man parts with platitudes. It means, if we like football, you don't have to know the players but if you would at least recognize Sunday at 1 o'clock (or join us for nachos, even better!), that's cool. And by the way, I'm not a football fan, I like hockey. Any woman who would go to a hockey game with me gets extreme cool points. Entertain our competitive energies.
2. We don't want to go through your scrapbook of old boyfriends. Never. Ever. Show your girlfriends instead. Do not take this as a sign of disinterest in the past of a partner, or that we don't care, or that shouldn't we be accepting of the past… take it as, we really do care, enough to not want to interject images of your past into what hopefully will be a nice future.
1. Do not ask us to be friends with your ex's. Has it been done successfully? Sure. But this should be an option, not a requirement, and don't push please. It's not jealousy. It's the same as number two.

Before anyone caps on me, I like men, and am just trying to understand them. So please maybe add to the list, or comment on the list. I have a feeling this could get alittle rough.

Maybe thats the majority.. but yes if my partner turned into my mother I kill over in rage.....I don't think I'd be overwhelmed with being with one person forever(if my partner don't mind at all either)....if we don't know what we are doing down there... simple solution.... just tell us want you want..... no harm in asking a questions about how you want it...... sometimes I do get jealous at single friends..... but thats not something to be worried about... that only lasts about 3 mins. and what about porn... came watch some if you want too.....

Before anyone caps on me, I like men, and am just trying to understand them. So please maybe add to the list, or comment on the list. I have a feeling this could get alittle rough.

Califcat, Please understand that trying to understand men is as impossible as me trying to understand women: we are all different...I am different from another man and would react to a situation in my own way, some men will tell you that we are simple, but its not true. Most men think-if I think this way then all men do, which is soo wrong...for instance I never ever cheated on a girlfriend because once we make that agreement that we are boyfriend and girlfriend I will honor it and would never cheat..no matter how drunk I am or how attractive the girl is...for me this is an absolute. one of my guy friends simply told me that if he is anywhere and a cute woman come up to him for sex he will cheat on the spot without hesitation, and he has a kid with his girl. He told me that I am the only guy that thinks the way I do, but I know that if I am the way I am there will always be other guys like me. I am not perfect, but I could never hurt the one I love...I say this to let you know that men are different from each other when It come to our actions.