7 Tips to Successfully Introduce Bondage to your Marriage

Are you interested in getting kinky in the bedroom? Dream about getting into bondage but are afraid that it could hurt your marriage or relationship, then there’s a lot to consider.

The good news is that introducing bondage that is healthy, safe and satisfying to both parties is possible. Just keep these 7 rules of thumb in mind.

Start by talking about it

One of the keys of BDSM is communication. It’s important for both partners to be on the same plane in order to have a truly satisfying experience. Bondage is all about consensually exploring the kinkier side of your sexuality.
Before you start, make sure you talk about it. Do some research, read books, and talk to each other about your likes, dislikes, fears and hopes for the experience. Communication is the first skill to master. If you can’t trust each other enough to talk about it, then you won’t be able to trust each other enough to experience it.

Make sure there is a balance of power

Whether you feel like you want to submit or be in control in the bedroom, in real life you need to feel like equal partners. It’s important to be clear about finances, chores, childcare and all the areas where a power imbalance might occur. You can’t go into the bedroom holding on to resentments from your life. The point is to explore each other in safety and without aggression. You don’t want these issues showing up while you’re at play.

It’s ok to do a “Switch.”

A “Switch” is a BDSM word that refers to a person who enjoys being dominant and being submissive. You may have your preferred role, but your partner might not. It’s ok to switch it in order to have a truly whole and satisfying experience and to truly find out what works best for your relationship.

Communicate about your desires.

You can’t be vague when it comes to BDSM. You have to be specific about what you want and what you do not, under any circumstances, want. Two partners who are not communicative about their desires might end up in disaster.
Do you like it rough or do you want to be adored? Are you looking for humiliation or do you want to be praised? Do you like being spanked? How hard? These are discussions that are of most importance.

Set and Stick to Boundaries

It’s important to remember that during BDSM the erotic power exchange is temporary. While you play, you adhere to your roles, but once you are done, the role playing is also done.

You may be submissive in the bedroom where there is a consensual agreement, but that does not mean that your partner can take advantage of that rule during everyday life.

No matter what goes on in the bedroom and how kinky the two of you get, it’s important that you are respectful and balanced with the rest of your relationship.

Start of Slow

You don’t have to become an expert dominatrix in the bedroom on the first day. Your BDSM practice might never even involve any kind of pain. Just remember, that when starting something new, taking baby steps is ok.
Try a couple things to explore kinky sex; maybe use a blindfold or some handcuffs and then take it from there. Too much, too fast can be extremely overwhelming.

Get School

Seriously. This may seem a little crazy, but you can learn a lot about BDSM by reading the right books, listening to the right speakers, and even attending some classes that can give you specific skills to use in the bedroom.
Learning how to do intricate rope bondage , for example, with an expert is a sexy way to spend time with your partner and ensure that you practice in a safe manner.

BDSM can take your sex life to new heights. Just remember to follow the tips above to successfully make it a part of your marriage.