Momma raised a real good man and not only am I going to tell you
what makes me a real good man but I’m also going to tell you how to
get one of your own. I’m a father and when my dad found out that I
was going to have a son he told me “Real good men aren’t born;
they’re raised.” Keeping this in mind has allowed me to stay
focused as a father and as a result I have been raising my own
“real good man”.

My dad is a real good man: very ambitious and works harder than any
man I know but as a result he wasn’t home a lot when I was growing
up so I spent most of my time with my mom and three sisters. My
dad’s family is all women, he’s the only man, and my mom has four
sisters and one brother. I was raised around women who loved me and
would let me know when I was falling short of being a real good
man. As a result women are attracted to me and guys like being
around me.

You can spot a real good man by how he treats himself and others. A
man might open the door for you but did he keep the door open for
the people coming in behind you? When dinner is over does he stack
the dishes so it’s easier for the waitress to clean up? Did he
leave an adequate tip? You’ll be able to spot the good man (that’s
me) and avoid the bad men if you pay attention to the effect he has
on those around him and how he cares for other people.

Because you are reading this online you’re not in the position to
notice the way I treat others so I’m going to give you something to
go on. I’m the type of man who defends his country, graduates
college, and is raising a successful son and daughter. Because I am
the good man my parents raised me to be I give them pride. My
advice, based on my education, has helped many friends and family,
and my children are having the childhood most adults wish they had.
I strive to have a positive impact on those around me. . . and yes,
I’m the man who keeps the door open for the old couple behind us,
stacks the dishes for the waitress, and leaves a tip that reflects
my appreciation for her work.

If you’re major problems finding Mr. Right (that’s me) that’s
because your filtering mechanism needs an overhaul. What I mean is
that: I, being a guy, have an approach mechanism and you have a
filtering mechanism. If my approach mechanism was faulty I would
suffer approach anxiety which is nervousness when approaching
attractive women (that’s you). However, if your filtering mechanism
is faulty you are either always searching and never date or you
find yourself always dating or being attracted to the wrong men.
Either way you can’t find Mr. Right (that’s me).

You filter men through tests. I know because I am tested by women
all the time. You give tests for compliancy for example: On our
first date I take you Salsa Dancing. You later say “wait right
here, I’m going to the bathroom”. I’m not going to wait. I will
tell you, for example, to meet me at the bar when you’re finished.
You want a man who is confident (not c0cky). Many men fake
confidence because they know that’s what you want. But you have a
test for that too. You are going to do things like tease me, insult
me, and turn your back on me to see how I will react. When you do I
will either ignore the insult or turn the tables by making you
think I interpreted your snide remark as sexual innuendo (now that
is something funny to watch). Either way, the night is going to
turn out great for us both.

So, why am I telling you this? Because I realize that you can’t
test me, or any man, on an online dating site. When I took
Psychology in college I learned that communication is 55% body
language, 38 % vocal tone of voice, and only 7 % spoken words. In
other words: you can’t use your best judgment to find a real good
man when you’re only receiving 7 % of the information you need to
make a judgment.

I enjoy success in many aspects of my life and that includes
success with women apart from the internet. That being said, I’m
only going to have this profile up for a week then I’m taking it
down. A friend of mine said “don’t knock it ‘till you try it.” So,
here I am. What exactly am I looking for? One of the great things I
like about people is getting to know them. So, if you want to know
me you know what you should do.

I'm going to school full time for electrical engineering but I am
thinking of changing my major. To what? I don't know but I have
found that I really enjoy psychology, sociology, writing, and
comparative religion. I was writing a book on apologetics. I wrote
about 200 pages and had to trash it as college has broadened my
perspective. So, I'm going to rewrite it after getting more
educated so that it has my intended effect. Now I am writing a book
on premarital relationships and their progression into successful
marriages. As you can probably tell: I write and study a lot and I
want my partner and my friends to have things that they are
passionate about.

I have many things that I am good at. I am a neuro linguistic
programming practitioner and enjoy studying what make people
tick.

Other things I'm good at are soccer, I played in high school and
still play when I can;

Latin dancing (Salsa, Merengue, Bachata, Punta) I used to go about
every week until school started;

Saxophone. I played since 5th grade but recently lost it in the
move but I bought my son one and I play his;

Computers. Including computer repair, web design, application
development, and organizing the hell out of all the crap I have on
my laptop.

Martial arts. I have my second degree black belt in Tae-Kwon-Do and
hold several other belts in several other styles including
Shorin-ryu, Isshinryu, LINES jujitsu (military), hapkido, and
studies some Gracie jujitsu in the military. I was also the head
hand-to-hand combat instructor for the 102nd MI BN in South
Korea.

Magic. How I got into magic is a long story but I love performing
in bars, parties, on the bus line and just about everywhere. It's a
great way to meet people and I like to entertain.

Paintball. My son and I own all our own equipment and it's an
awesome sport. If you've never been paint balling and you would
like to go leave me a message. We're always looking for new
people.

Apologetics. I've been studying Christian apologetics since about
2002. If you ask me why I believe what I believe I will never tell
you "because the Bible says so." My faith is based on evidences in
science, astronomy, philosophy, history, archaeology, and math. A
word on this: you do not have to be Christian for me to date you
and I will never push my beliefs on anyone else. I believe that
what happens to people when they die is their responsibility and
not mine. I have many friends from many religions and they will all
tell you how much they enjoy talking about religion with me. I will
date you rather or not you're Wicca, atheist, Hindu, Buddhist, or
Muslim. Doesn't matter to me. I enjoy diversity and do not conciser
myself an authority figure on the subject however I am very
knowledgeable.

Sociology and Psychology. Took classes in college and loved it.
These classes, especially sociology, really opened my eyes to a lot
of things that are going on around me and helped expand my
sociological imagination. I notice thing, especially in
advertising, that most people don't notice.

Studying. I pretty much study anything that I'm interested in and
I'm one of those people that if someone gives me information I
usually have to look it up for myself. The good thing about this is
if were talking and you have something that you are passionate
about then I will most definitely look it up and soon be able to
hold a decent conversation with you about it. I absolutely love
learning.

And finally, I am a good father. I am a really good father and have
raised really good kids. I have made it my mission to teach them
everything I know to ensure they will be happy, health, productive
members of society. Both of my kids are on honor roll every quarter
and my son has only brought home one B. Both do volunteer work and
are involved with their school and church with my son being elected
as class president. They have manners and they respect their
elders. They have many friends from all walks of life and do not
discriminate. They have a solid belief in God and an appreciation
for their country. The thing I am most proud of is that their
mother and I have done this and they are genuinely happy.

Note: I have a son and a daughter, 14 and 13 receptively, and their
mother and I separated in October of 2011. They do not live with me
but I am very active in their lives and their mother and I have
been working well together to raise them.

My energy. Yep, I'm a lively one. Not always, I'm not alway "on"
but I do get in my moods and when I do it's usually the first thing
people notice about me. I love people and can talk to anyone
without having any discernible reason. I especially talk to people
I feel need someone to talk to and I'm really good at getting
closed off people to open up. Let me give an example. I once saw a
homeless guy shaking a cup begging for change while I was waiting
on my bus at Broad St. and High St. I introduced myself and asked
him how his day was going. He didn't answer. I then sat beside him
and continued to talk to him telling him what I had been doing that
day and how my family was doing. I tried to get him in on the
conversation but was pretty much ignored. I saw my bus coming,
thanked him for the conversation, and got up to walk away. After a
few steps he called me by name and when I looked back he had tears
in his eyes and just said "Thank you". I said "you're welcome" and
walked to my bus.

I don't think many people understand the positive effects we can
have on the lives of others if we just took the time to care.
There's a flip side to this coin because if I see bad ass kids in a
grocery store acting out I will tell the parent they need to whop
that ass. They usually don't take it too well and I get mixed
reactions.

My point is that people usually notice that I'm inquisitive and
outgoing.

The music I listen to really depends on my mood. The only genre I
can't get into is modern country though I have an appreciation for
older country but rarely listen to it i.e. Hank Williams Jr. and
Sr., Loretta Lynn, Conway Twitty, George Jones.

How I perceive the world, the root of my perceptions, the effects
of my perceptions, how to change the perceptions that have negative
effects in order to change my actions to better both my life and
the life of those in my world.

During school semesters I'm usually studying on Friday nights. But
I try to go Salsa dancing a couple times a month. When on break I
go Salsa dancing, out to Easton, go camping and/or have bonfires
and of course I'm always looking for a good party.