Why I Don’t Believe in Labels

As I’ve gotten older and wiser, I’ve become more comfortable with myself and who I am. I’ve grown to know what I will and will not tolerate and what I do and do not like in a significant other. I’m not sure if that came with bad experiences in dating/situationships or just truly being alone for the past 3 years.

My entire life, I’ve been dating men, but have recently found myself attracted to women and after this realization, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not going to label myself. Labels aren’t for me, it’s for other people to feel comfortable. I don’t need validation from other people or to normalize what I like. If I end up with a woman, that doesn’t make me gay and if I end up with a man, that doesn’t make me straight either. I don’t believe in labels. I believe that happiness with someone is about love not gender. When you don’t give yourself a label, you have the freedom to live openly and carefree. You’re not worried about checking a box. You’re not worried about what others have to say about you. You’re literally living free and open to love who ever you want. I also believe that not having a fixed sexual orientation can be an exciting thing to explore.

Sex and gender are fluid. If I considered myself to be anything, it’d be sexually fluid. It means that sexual orientation doesn’t fall on either end of the spectrum; it constantly goes back and forth.

All-in-all, gender doesn’t matter to me anymore. I care more about your personality, substance and whether or not you make me happy.