183726: Her Christian family are organizing a running contest in memory of their deceased loved one; what should she do about that?

I lost one of my family members this year, who was a Christian, as my family is Christian and I am a Muslim woman. Hence my mother wants to organize a marathon in honour of this deceased relative. I do not know the nature of this thing they want to do, but what I do know is that the teams will gather, and other people will gather with them; each team has a different colour and the teams will start running; whichever team completes three circuits first will be the winner and will be give a cash prize. I do not know the ruling on this, but they are going to do it in memory of the deceased person. What is the ruling on this in Islam? What should I do with regard to this matter?.

Published Date: 2013-02-24

Praise be to Allah.

Firstly:

If a person dies following a religion of kufr, whether he was
a Christian or a Jew, then he is one of the people of hell and will abide
therein for eternity. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says
(interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, Allah forgives not that partners should be set up
with him in worship, but He forgives except that (anything else) to whom He
pleases, and whoever sets up partners with Allah in worship, he has indeed
invented a tremendous sin”

[an-Nisa’ 4:48]

“Surely, they have disbelieved who say: "Allah is the
Messiah (‘Eesa (Jesus)), son of Maryam (Mary)." But the Messiah (‘Eesa
(Jesus)) said: "O Children of Israel! Worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord."
Verily, whosoever sets up partners in worship with Allah, then Allah has
forbidden Paradise for him, and the Fire will be his abode. And for the
Zalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers) there are no helpers.

Surely, disbelievers are those who said: "Allah is the
third of the three (in a Trinity)." But there is no ilaah (god) (none who
has the right to be worshipped) but One Ilaah (God -Allah). And if they
cease not from what they say, verily, a painful torment will befall the
disbelievers among them.

Will they not repent to Allah and ask His Forgiveness? For
Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

The Messiah (‘Eesa (Jesus)), son of Maryam (Mary), was no
more than a Messenger; many were the Messengers that passed away before him.
His mother (Maryam (Mary)) was a Siddiqah (i.e. she believed in the words of
Allah and His Books (see Verse 66:12)). They both used to eat food (as any
other human being, while Allah does not eat). Look how We make the Ayat
(proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to
them, yet look how they are deluded away (from the truth).

Say (O Muhammad SAW to mankind): "How do you worship
besides Allah something which has no power either to harm or to benefit you?
But it is Allah Who is the All-Hearer, All-Knower”

[al-Maa’idah 5:72-76].

“This is the Guidance of Allah with which He guides
whomsoever He will of His slaves. But if they had joined in worship others
with Allah, all that they used to do would have been of no benefit to them”

[al-An‘aam 6:88].

In Saheeh Muslim (153) it is narrated from Abu
Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) that he said: “By the One in
Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, no one among this nation, Jew or
Christian, hears of me then dies not believing in that with which I was
sent, but he will be one of the people of the Fire.”

As that is the case, if a person dies in a state of kufr, his
good deeds are rendered invalid before his Lord and none of them will
benefit him before Allah in the hereafter; similarly, no action,
intercession or supplication on the part of other people will benefit him.

Allah, may He be exalted, says concerning the situation of
the people of Hell (interpretation of the meaning):

“And it will be said to them: "Where are those (the false
gods whom you used to set up as rivals with Allah) that you used to worship

Instead of Allah? Can they help you or (even) help
themselves?

Then they will be thrown on their faces into the (Fire),
They and the Ghawoon (devils, and those who were in error).

And the whole hosts of Iblees (Satan) together.

They will say while contending therein,

By Allah, we were truly in a manifest error,

When We held you (false gods) as equals (in worship) with
the Lord of the Alameen (mankind, jinns and all that exists);

And none has brought us into error except the Mujrimoon
(Iblees (Satan) and those of human beings who commit crimes, murderers,
polytheists, oppressors, etc.).

Now we have no intercessors,

Nor a close friend (to help us).

(Alas!) If we only had a chance to return (to the world),
we shall truly be among the believers!

Verily! In this is indeed a sign, yet most of them are not
believers”

[ash-Shu‘ara’ 26:92-103].

Secondly:

Honouring the memory of the deceased by organising a marathon
is not part of the way prescribed by Allah; rather it is something that has
been introduced by non-Muslims according to their way of honouring the
memory of the dead. It is a false kind of honour for which there is no basis
in the religion of Allah. Even if there was some basis for it, we have
stated above that if a person dies in a state of disbelief, no deed will
benefit him in the hereafter; the deceased will not benefit because of his
disbelief and that of those who do this action. This is darkness upon
darkness.

In Islam there is no kind of honouring the dead or
celebrating their memory; rather what Islam prescribes is to remember the
deceased by praising him, praying for forgiveness for him, offering
supplication for him, giving charity on his behalf, and other kinds of good
deeds the reward for which will reach him, if he died in Islam.

Thirdly:

According to Islamic rulings, competitions fall into three
categories.

Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

1.
Those that are haraam, with or
without prizes, such as competing in something that is haraam.

2.
Those that are halaal if no
prize is offered and are haraam if a prize is offered, such as foot races
and the like, in which it is permissible to compete.

3.
Those that are halaal with or
without prizes, such as competitions in archery and horse and camel racing.

It is not prescribed to take part in activities to honour the
memory of the dead among the disbelievers, or to keep their memory alive. If
you cannot prevent that, then at least do not take part in that and try to
excuse yourself from your family whilst avoiding confrontation with them. If
they respect your religious feelings, then this is good, otherwise give them
any excuse that they will accept from you.