Can we use this thread for non-internetz relationship stuff? I need advice but I'd rather it get buried quickly in several other pages of stuff. I want to break up with my partner, but how? The thing is, I don't think they're that into it anymore either. I feel like I'm always the one to text or call when we see each other. When the problems first became obvious, I was blaming it on stress from school/upcoming finals (we've been together 7 months, problems started in mid/late October). but finals are over now and they still don't seem any happier to see me. So I don't think they'd be devastated but what do I say?

lycophyte-- i'm so glad to hear that you're taking your own time with the relationship you're in and not performing on someone else's time frame. and bc she's been patient with you, i think that's a great sign. call it what you're comfortable with for now and if the "girlfriend" feeling changes (or doesn't) for you, meet the idea when it comes along just like you have w/ everything else.

strawberryrock-- i really think being able to talk w/ the people you're dating about the emotions you're having/ feeling for them is just one of those things that take a lot of practice... and then a little more practice. it's different every time bc every person you date and have interactions w/ will be different so it'll come with new challenges. but i really do think that the more you share those feelings, the easier it'll get, and-- most importantly-- the better off you'll be.

(i hope this post doesn't come off as preachy. i think i'd just like to live vicariously through all of y'alls relationships at this point)

Can we use this thread for non-internetz relationship stuff? I need advice but I'd rather it get buried quickly in several other pages of stuff. I want to break up with my partner, but how? The thing is, I don't think they're that into it anymore either. I feel like I'm always the one to text or call when we see each other. When the problems first became obvious, I was blaming it on stress from school/upcoming finals (we've been together 7 months, problems started in mid/late October). but finals are over now and they still don't seem any happier to see me. So I don't think they'd be devastated but what do I say?

I once had to break up with a fiance who had spent 4 weeks dodging me. I say just do it. "Hey, it doesn't seem like either of us is really into this any more, so let's just officially end things." Me ex proceeded to try and explain that no blahblahblah but the truth is at that point I was over it. He just didn't want to not have a GF, because everyone at his job thought he was gay (he wasn't).

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lycophyte-- i'm so glad to hear that you're taking your own time with the relationship you're in and not performing on someone else's time frame. and bc she's been patient with you, i think that's a great sign. call it what you're comfortable with for now and if the "girlfriend" feeling changes (or doesn't) for you, meet the idea when it comes along just like you have w/ everything else.

I actually called her "my girlfriend" whilst out with Johnp today! Eeee! Big step! But she is super awesome and patient so yeah, it does make me quite happy :)

Joyful- Yeah it sounds like neither of you are reallly into it right now and maybe ending it before they go super sour stinky instead of just expired is probably a good idea. I started the thread so that someday, it will be a place that will get buried like this one!

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Can we use this thread for non-internetz relationship stuff? I need advice but I'd rather it get buried quickly in several other pages of stuff. I want to break up with my partner, but how? The thing is, I don't think they're that into it anymore either. I feel like I'm always the one to text or call when we see each other. When the problems first became obvious, I was blaming it on stress from school/upcoming finals (we've been together 7 months, problems started in mid/late October). but finals are over now and they still don't seem any happier to see me. So I don't think they'd be devastated but what do I say?

I'd call them up and say I'm not happy in the relationship any more and it's over. There's no good way to end it, so just be short, to the point and stick to it. If you're not happy no point in hanging around. You can be nice but I think it's good to be real blunt and non-negotiable.

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Wow, some people misrepresent themselves. I went out for coffee with a guy I met on OKC, he was nice but he left out some really important information about himself that I only found out when I met him and it's a dealbreaker.

Guys, woah, something sitcommy has happened.So I've been actually taking OKC semi-seriously lately and made plans to meet two different people this week. They're both from the same city and mentioned they live with all vegetarian roommates and I was like, "Wouldn't it be funny if..." and then cut myself off because really, what are the chances?Well, one of them invited me to a show at his house last night, and, yep, they're roommates.They both figured it out too, so at least all the awkward is out in the open.