1. When you talk about future plans they suddenly become really quiet. Even if you’re only discussing what restaurant you’re going to eat at next weekend, they never give you a definite confirmation that they’re up for it. We are talking about next week, not the next 3 years.

2. When they talk about future plans, you’re not in them. It’s bad enough they don’t care what you’re doing next week, but when they let you know what they’re doing and...