Hoping4Love2000, let the games begin. BTW being in trouble for speakings your mind can be a good thing. It suggest to me, a person isn't afraid to say what they think. Fear often takes away your freedom to decide.

There is no doubt the world is a better place with you in it. And at the end of the day I will always be a fan.

With that said, let's get ready to rrrrrrruuuuummmmble. In far corner wearing the pink gloves, Hoping4Love2000 AKA Erin B, in the near corner wearing the blue gloves.......

This may be difficult for some to imagine... BUT MY MOUTH AND THE CANDOR THAT COMES OUT OF IT GETS ME IN A LOTTA TROUBLE!!

IE: I do NOT recommend you tell a cop he is a LIAR after trial.. IT DOESN'T ALWAYS SIT WELL W/ the JUDGE!! Bwhahahahaha! Yep! True story! Perhaps I am related to Erin Broackavich?? I am a lot to handle at times!! :)

LOOK.. I can give people lots of excellent advise on what NOT to do!! At least I am good for something! HeeHee~~

Pretty simple. IMO Of course I cannot stereotype every single gorgeous woman; however, I can say this...

Many women have been raised to think very little of themselves. Media in general blasts them almost from birth with unrealistic images of what true beauty is. Airbrushed, perfectly lit, perfectly angled, flattering images.

They are trained to believe that they need to qualify themselves, and "measure up" to an unreal standard. They are taught to cover up blemishes, and accessorize… Even enhance, or surgically improve. As human beings we naturally aspire to perfect ourselves so it feels quite natural to want to be our best selves. Nothing wrong with that. What’s wrong is when a woman feels less than so much so that she fills her closet, make up arsenal, jewelry, cars, homes etc. instead of loving who she is and being the best her. Eat right, exercise, educate herself, love, and live! She will buy pampering, attention, agreement, and creature comforts of all sorts. She becomes entitled.

Getting back to your question… Many grow to feel that if they can check off more of the attraction boxes in terms of having their stuff together it entitles them to a better man. They feel entitled to experience the life that they’ve been accustomed to, being catered to, and accommodated. They’re beautiful people after all!! Why shouldn’t the world cater to them? I’m not mad about it. I’ve been blessed to be constantly surrounded by gorgeous people of all types. I work in the entertainment industries and I find outer beauty quite common. Inner beauty however…

I am so in love with one of my friends. She is beautiful inside and out. Pure perfection. She is happy with herself, and it shows. She is the type of person that lights up a room, and is grateful to be in YOUR presence! Don’t change “L”.

Hoping4Love while I consider myself to be smarter than your average bear, I am very aware of my limitations. Having said that I would say if I could pick one person to have in a foxhole watching my back, you would be my first choice.

You candor is quite refreshing, not that I can always handle hearing the truth. I do have a great appreciation for those who remain true themselves inspite of what the rest of the herd is doing.

So, if you will let me win sometimes for the sake of my very fragile ego, I say let the games begin.

YO MACHEVILLI.... Come SPAR w/ me!! I think I could take ya on!! Esp. after my 2 day nightmare trying to post my blog on CHEATING!! As if the punches I receive from that BLOG aren't gonna be enough.. Bwahahahahaha!!!

It is really only 2 parts.. but looks like 3.. But i always try to appear like I am more to handle than I really am anyways!! HaHa!! It has been a long evening to say the least!! :)

And I AGREE with you.. MINKYKEKA made a great observation... I would have to expound upon that and say.. How many of us prefer to be single for what reason? Fear of another FAILURE? Or do we really want to be single? I just single handedly destroyed something I thought was to be very POSITIVE in my life.. Does this mean I WANT to be single? or that I am just another dumbass who messes everything up? I'm not sure.. but I'm gonna take Dianas advice and go hide the shit box in the garage!! LOLOL

its not just about beautiful women - sorry but thats just a POV - if we are honest with ourselves then we (me included) would come to realise the reason why we are all single is that we choose to be, our sub conscious directs us to this, to be with someone you should first love yourself ( i hear you ) - oh but i do - i really do - but the truth will always be if you love yourself then you will find an avenue to share that love with another..and until you either realise or achieve this state then this www will stay in your heart, which is not that bad a place to be..

You made some very good points, it isn't just about "beautiful women", although the media is obsessed with this image. I am remined of Oscar Wilde who said "To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."

I do agree that being single is to a large degree is a matter of choice, our sub conscious is merely a construct of our owm making suggesting if we are "truly" honest...

I submit that there are few who know the truth of the answer to the question and I am not one. In my very humble opinion it requires insight, reflection, knowledge, and enlighten that I continue to work on every day.

HOPELESSLY..... Everyone has a different take on movies.. What was yours? I see you are new to boards, as am I.. WELCOME... and may you have better fortune in the "Love arena" than I have!! I think I'm trading in my heart for set of boxing gloves now! A man might appreciate the gloves more!! :)

I must say you have a great attitude, and a nice sense of humor. I enjoy hearing your thoughts, comments, wit and wisdom. You really had me cracking up with the boxing gloves.

its not just about beautiful women - sorry but thats just a POV - if we are honest with ourselves then we (me included) would come to realise the reason why we are all single is that we choose to be, our sub conscious directs us to this, to be with someone you should first love yourself ( i hear you ) - oh but i do - i really do - but the truth will always be if you love yourself then you will find an avenue to share that love with another..and until you either realise or achieve this state then this www will stay in your heart, which is not that bad a place to be..

HOPELESSLY..... Everyone has a different take on movies.. What was yours? I see you are new to boards, as am I.. WELCOME... and may you have better fortune in the "Love arena" than I have!! I think I'm trading in my heart for set of boxing gloves now! A man might appreciate the gloves more!! :)

So you are sayng you don't want the man in the suit huh?? WELL THEN TAKE IT OFF!! Does wonders I've found!! HeeHee~~ Objects in the mirror may not be as boring as they appear! LOL (but only after you fix his toilet, build him a deck and mow his lawn!!)

I dont have much, so I am not high maintenance, prefer the rough outdoors and extreme sports, mechanics, oil, dirt, building, plumbing....and what - all the millionaires want to spend all day shopping for crap you only want, dont need and like to stay in the suit all DAY, boring!!!
...OK I've got it....no men here for me....whats new!!

I dont think this is entirely true, alot of men tell me that i am intimidating.. and i am NOT high maintenance. I am still single ONLY because I choose not to settle. I am not asking for much from a man i just want an honest, respectful man,hardworking man , who can be faithful!! Now if thats alot to ask for then im better off single.LOL.. I just think it depends on the person you cant put ALL woman in the same category as being to high maintenance (picky) or whatever why can a female just be single because she is waiting for the right one?

Hoping4Love2000... You make a good point.. and even though I am always full of ideas, this never, ever came to my head: MY CAR IS TOO LITTLE!!! I think a dump truck would do it, so it can serve two purposes! ;)

OMG! U hit the nail on the head for me!! I read your words.. Apparently I can't sleep.. w/ a man.. or w/out one.. yet "another issue" of mine.. LOLOL.. but when I read "safe and protected" and emotional and financial security.. WELL.. THAT described what I seek .. hands down!!

People ask me all the time why I drive a big truck.. I'm not a "car" girl.. I always respond w/ same answer...... "I feel SAFE and PROTECTED" ...

Years of therapy.. (well actually the first session) taught me that since my mother didn't protect me as a very small child and through my teens... (Fill in blanks...) I learned to try and protect myself.. So obviously.. I hold "trust" issues w/ men in general and have admittedly made some poor choices along the way.. The absolute amazing beauty of it all however is that despite my lack of relationship w/ my mother.. I have been tremendously blessed w/ the most beautifully sculptured women in my life in all areas and shapes and sizes... I have women friends who are like moms, big sisters and little sisters in my life.. I think God planned it that way... :) I just wish I could find a man I am attracted to that could guide and love me in the same manner.. Men are just not from what I have found... "emotional creatures".. therefore they may feel badly about things.. but they still don't "get" me... I find women much more responsive to reading a persons heart... (NO OFFENSE to men)

And I guess since I haven't found "emotional security" in a man... I have chosen it in a vehicle...

Lots of people have said great things about this topic. I will just add this: I think it's a two way street. For a great relationship, men and women should give each other what they need. If the guy need to feel appreciated, valued, affirmed, encouraged, supported.. then he should have it. In return, if the woman needs to feel safe and protected, emotionally and financially, then he should give her that. Like someone said, it's a two way street.

Although I have never achieved "financial security" as it appears many/most? women in this forum have .... I have a "strong-willed and independent nature" that can't be rocked w/. It's there.. I call it as I see it.. and MANY men I have met have held issue w/ this!

So I guess it doesn't matter if a woman is of "average looks and successful financially"... or a "pretty girl they expect to keep her mouth shut".. Many men are intimidated by a woman who has achieved any level of independence!

I've thrown 3 inch stern lines off a 4' jump deck in 8' seas while backing up to a platform in the middle of the gulf just months ago, so I had food on the table.. (It was actually FUN.. but I admit... I was scared!) But if a 105lb woman can and will do a "man's job" to survive...I'd call that about as independent as it gets!

Nice to meet you! Don't work too hard on your 16 hour day... And may a man come your way who "APPRECIATES" and "EMBRACES" you for who you are!

Wanted to respond to a couple of posts I found interesting.. so we'll see if this goes through. (Last night even MM had difficlut time getting my post to sync in.. it messed up the page for few hours! What a way to say HELLO to everyone! Kind of like being new on the ball field and throwing the ball over the fence! LOL)

You are correct for sure... a MAJOR bottom line is "acceptance" of who your partner is and the "willingness" to allow them to grow in their own rights. Sounds like you didn't have this. I'm sure in the long run.. you will be better off.. (as we all are after divorces..) BUT.. doesn't it make it any easier..

Oddly you say "What attracted him to me in the beginning".... he didn't like in the end... My girlfriend always told me.. "Whatever brings you together in the beginning will pull you apart in the end!" NOW I understand what she meant! (slow learner.... ADHD? LOL)