Accepting My Gay Son

Dear Yeti,
A few days ago my 14 year old son left a note in my room. In this note it stated ''im sorry mom but i am gay and i dont like girls'' and i lost it. I cried for hours til he got home from school. I thought it was a joke from my older son. For close to 3 years the older son teased him about being gay and i told him to stop the name calling,i hated it too. My older son texted me he didnt write any note. When my 14 year old got home i asked him did he write the note and i was anticipating a no he stated ''yes'' my heart just dropped and i began to cry again. so many thoughts ran thru my head how did this happen, its a nightmare i'll wake up soon but no i just cried. I had asked him why or how he came to this conclusion since he is so young and he does not go out alone only to school.He told me for a whole year a boy in his school at lunch time would tell him how handsome he is, i call it brain washing! He stated he is still a virgin and in someway was a relief to me.I let him know how society is sometimes harsh and many people like bashing and verbally abuse the gay. I told him i could not accept his decision, i didn't bring him up this way. He knows how i feel about the gay people.I love my son and would do anything for him but i cannot stand around and see him kiss another man. I am old fashioned and was brought up with good moral values.I sometimes wonder where did i go wrong. It goes to show our kids are not safe even in school. I want to take him to counceling, my older son claims he doesn't need it and he is embracing his brothers decision which i find crazy in a way. I never expected this happening to our family.

G

Dear G,

The name of this column is ask a yeti, and Iâ€™m confused because you havenâ€™t really asked me anything? Your letter is just you outlining your youngest son dropping the gay bomb on you? All that you seem to want to do here is talk about you and your experience throughout this event. I think you do have a question, but you are probably too ashamed to say it out loud. I think your question goes something like this.

â€œI just learned about my gay son. How can I deal with this, and what does this say about me?â€

Well this isnâ€™t really about you, not really and if so only a little bit. Even though this is true I want to help you put your feet back on the ground and begin to understand this situation. Let me first remind you that you are not a victim here, you are the mother.

Let me go over a few facts before I get to the information that I think can help you. In a quick review on recent studies done on biology and sexual orientation itâ€™s pretty easy to conclude that homosexuality is genetic. To understand this best imagine two sets of twins one set identical (same DNA) one set fraternal (different DNA). The identical twins if one is gay or straight the other is too, they are the same. They are the same sexual orientation because their genetics are the same. Translation, sexual orientation is dictated by genetics, requiring genes, genes given to the child by his parents during conception. If homosexuality is a breach in â€œgood moral valuesâ€ as you put it. Technically you are not the victim here, he is and you the perpetrator. Technically speaking but lets back up a little here because no one has done anything wrong here, especially not you, yet.

Let me first address the elephant in the room. I get the feeling you are writing me from a more rural community which may have a little more â€œJesus created the dinosaursâ€ â€œlife in a vacuumâ€ type vibe to science and general world view. Which makes me think you may have a gut response to look for one of these â€œhomosexual reversalâ€ type counseling scenarios. Which in your mind will help him understand that heâ€™s been manipulated and that really, deep inside he is strait just like you and I. This is a mistake which originates from your in ability to accept the reality that you have a gay son. Your first challenge in dealing with this and probably the most difficult hill to climb is acceptance. Your boy likes other boys. I know, I know itâ€™s too much for you to take in at once. The reality is too intense and confusing for you but maybe this will help. It doesnâ€™t bother me at all that your son is gay. I know I donâ€™t know you, but if I did, it wouldnâ€™t bother me at all and Iâ€™m sure many other people in your life will feel the same way. It is ok that your son is gay, itâ€™s ok to accept that your son is gay. Your sonâ€™s orientation and life path isnâ€™t really about you at all. So lets look deeper into this stigma of gay men and women that is so potent it has the potential to turn a loving parent away from a vulnerable child.

Because homosexual communities were mostly underground before the gay rights movements of the 1970â€™s I say we really only have around 40 years to draw from. In that time gays and lesbians have been linked to deviant or criminal behavior without supporting evidence. This paired with homophobic ideology has unjustly reenforced that homosexuals are inferior. Probably the most damaging is the outbreak of HIV/Aids in the 80â€™s and early 90â€™s which stigmatized homosexual men as a danger to society. Thankfully this build up of prejudiced against the gay community is easing. Groups like GLAD are working hard to enforce the realization that homosexuals are a valuable community to add to the rich tapestry that is modern society. There also appears to be a large generational gap on this issue, something that is evident in your situation as well. Your oldest son is more conditioned by diversity in his surroundings, much more than you probably were at his age. This should clue you in a little more about the reality of the false stigma against homosexuals and should help you bridge the gap of accepting the fact that you are now the parent of a child with a non traditional gender role.

I think your newly outed son does need counseling for this but not by someone who has an agenda or by someone who wants to change him. If he feels alone and rejected by his mother, family or community than yeah he will definitely benefit from counseling. In case this wasnâ€™t clear in the subtext of this letter Iâ€™m not at all concerned about your son. He clearly has a loving mother and coming out so early shows very strong character. Once you learn to accept him your old perceptions of him will drop away and make room for a newer more accurate understanding of who he is as a human being. This will help you create new goals for him as a parent. If heâ€™s to growing into a healthy well adjusted gay man he is going to need your help. Help him to navigate through this very confusing and potentially traumatic period in his adolescence. You donâ€™t have to like it and thatâ€™s not really ever going to be the goal, but to move forward in your life you do have to learn to accept it. The sooner the better.

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To the mother—as stated above/he needs your love and support.I used to come down hard on gays—then realized what an idiot I was.I’m a macho guy who loves women/bikes/martial arts/John Wayne–you get the picture.But I also have the utmost respect for your son.I salute him+++and I don’t do a hell of a lot of saluting to anyone.period.You be there for him.I wish all of you the very best.

What is up with you americans? How can you be so ignorant? I’m a gay woman from Denmark, and I gotta tell you, we don’t have these problems over here at all. Denmark is a Christian country too, but we don’t read into the bible like you guys do. Come on, it’s written ages ago. Shouldn’t we have evolved since then, you think? I can’t even imagine what your son is going through right now. Cause of the fact that I’ve come out myself once, I know that you go thruough a whole lot of scenarios before telling your parents. You fear the worst. And hey, your reaction was exactly what he feared the most. He probably doesn’t think you love him any more, your relationship will be damaged for life if you don’t start showing the unconditional love that a parent is supposed to show her/his kids. Have you any idea what harm you are causing in his life? Your response means everything! If you want to pull the religious stunt (God intended man and woman to be together ect ect.), then reconsider if you are being a good Christian by hating this much! Did God indent that? How can a Mum even consider not to accept and love her son? I’m sorry to say this, but come on US, everyone else has moved on from this debate years ago!! Don’t be idiots!

I can’t see how someone can be BORN gay. Homosexuality is a choice like everything else. Me personally I was born a normal girl, but when I reached my adolescent years (10-, 12- 14) I was introduced to porn ( always thought women were sexy, which we are = )). I grew up with two brothers and guys were all i knew so I tried to fit in and be like them in a strange way. I liked sports, I played basketball, baseball, etc and I was rough. My older girl cousin called me a little boy I brushed it off, but a bit of it stuck. I started believing it. My brothers would compliment girls and talk about girls around me….I questioned myself but I brushed most of it off. I guess through these stages of my life not speaking on this stuff I allowed the confusion to fester. Which lead to me finding girls attractive and feeling that I was a bit masciline. i’m 24 and I had one sexual encounter with a girl. Did I like it? some of it …. the part before it became sexual (the thought). I think about it (being with a woman and how it can make me feel) but it’s the thought I’m infactuated with …. not the actual experience. No I don’t think I’m gay, but I know is a root to the issue. It’s all about getting to the core and getting the right help whenever that will be.

Where is your husband? That’s the problem men needs to stand up and teach these boys how to be men. Kids need to see mothers md fathers in the home!!! GOD does not make mastake he made men n women. Why can’t a man have a baby ? Stop dealing with feeling and emotion tell the boy he is wrong. We need to start teaching our kids at a youn age. I tell my 5 year old son GOD men and woman , husband and wife botton line. Lets wake up. I don’t hate no one but I m sick off all these gays sayin I was born hs way!!

Mandy and Ivy, you 2 are absolutely ridiculous! Mandy: you call yourself a Christian!? READ THE BIBLE! In it, it say we as humans have NO RIGHT to cast judgement on other humans. We are all human and inferior to The Lord. Do not try to speak on behalf of him when in reality, we don’t know how he really feels of gay people. In the bible, it says leave judgement day to him, and it also says all sins are equal in the eyes of The Lord. By casting judgement on others, you have sinned, therefore are NO BETTER than a gay person. In fact, you may be worse. A good Christian does not cast hate. They may not accept things, but they have no right to speak on it.
Ivy: you have made Christains look terrible! Your illiterate and down right absurd comment has embarrassed me and I’m sure countless others to no extent. I honestly had a very hard time following what you were trying to get across, but I picked up on the judgement and rash decisions based on “opinions.” Just because you get a tattoo, doesn’t make you a bad person or means god hates you. I have a tattoo, and it is a religious symbol that I believe god appreciates! I also don’t think people that drink are non-religious. Jesus drank, and he was the son of god. I wold love to get a beer with him and talk about his experience on earth and future plans for us humans. So how are gay people affecting god? I know gay Christians who go to church every Sunday and practice regularly. And it is NOT a choice. They do not just wake up one day and decide “I think I’ll be gay!” Why would they do that?! Then they have to deal with people like you! Why would you decide to live a life full of judgement and un-acceptance!? God has made us ALL in his image! That’s also in the bible!
In conclusion, before you try to “decide what is supposed to be in the eyes of The Lord,” know that you really don’t know.

First all of I want to say that you are a horrible mother. I dont care if he is the nicest most respectful good mannered kid you fail as a parent. The fact that you cant accept your son for being gay is disgusting. Your his mother your supposed to be there for him doesnt matter if hes gay straight bi sexual it shouldnt matter. How do you think your son feels knowing that you dont accept him. He trusted you and turned him away.

Yeti also your information is wrong, just because they are identical twins if one is gay the other could be straight

Remember when you gave birth , the very first time you set eyes on your baby boy……he is still that beautiful baby boy……….Teach him to be strong and know his own mind, to be a good, careing, loveing and happy person and have values in his life. My son is 7 if I got that letter at 14 from him I would be so proud of the courage he possessed. He sounds like a good son that cares for you and your opinion…Well done mum for he sounds like such a polite and strong child. Love your baby…he will need it from ignorant people in this world xx

Burn in hell, sorry to be blunt.. But old fashioned get over yourself.. So you realise the pain he going though not being the same as 83% of the population, and it not just that. But its not being accepted.. all the emotional abuse, conciling, Please, I think that’s for you.. Not him, it ant gonna send him straight. Stop being a bitch, and take him to get a facial..

Being a parent is such a challenge and when least expected, full of landmines. The greatest thing we can do is to raise our children to the best of our ability, learn from our mistakes, and help them develop their own lives. I have a good relationship with my daughters (15 and 18) and they tell me of their friends and their parents. We are so lucky as I have heard far too many stories of serious drinking and drugs, teen pregnancies (15yr old) and we all know there is far worse out there. My wife and I help raise money for a local charity that helps teen moms get a good start in life.

If your child is straight; love them. If your child is gay, love them. As a practicing Christian myself, we are taught that we are all created in God’s image. That includes you, me, and your child. As are all children. If anyone considers themselves to be a Christian knows this quote:

But Jesus said, Allow little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.

im straight, and a believer of course, as well. so many people here have given christian or “old school” point of views most of which aren’t wrong. but keep in mind as well that in the times we are living, a child at this age is prone to experiencing new things with new people. by this i do not mean i am pro-gay, but im not against them either. the term “gay” is singling people out as a sinner like rapist, or murderer. i do believe that homosexuality is a sin, but who named me jugde? love your son. pray to God Almighty to have mercy. John 3:16 doesn’t say “for God so loved the perfect”. no, it says, “for God so loved THE WORLD” including every race, and age, and sexual preferance.. i will be praying for him as well.

You are such a homophobic woman. You should love your child and support the decisions they make about love. Not cry like it’s a unhumanly disease. It Is something that has been here for a while now. It is a beautiful thing to see two people love each other; won and man, man and man. Love is Love. Sexuality shouldn’t stop you from choosing who you love or lke, or find even the slightest attractive. Yes, i’m a Christian also, and was raisd of morals and family values, but one moral that shall be forever be important is ‘Treat others the way you want to be treated.’ So, if you really love your son, you shoud act no difrently from when he didn’t tell you. If you really love him, support his Loving.

The bible says being gay is wrong. thats one of the reasons sodom and gomora was destroyed. Ifyou truley care about ur son you should love him for who he is but also tell him you do not accept it as right and you will be praying for him. the bible says homosexuality is an abomination to god.

There is nothing wrong with being gay. I have several gay and straight friends and family members. They will all enter the kingdom of heaven if they accept christ. I however am a Wiccan and will not enter the kingdom of heaven but If it is filled with morons like you. I am just as fine not enterig heaven.

Being Gay: OK
Practicing Safe Sex: OK
Pushing a child away for being gay: NOT OK
Trying to “reverse brainwash” a child with a counselor: NOT OK
Not realizing that gays and lesbians have been around since the time of christ: SHEER IGNORANCE!!!

I am a proud lesbian and I’m catholic. Yes. There are gay men and women that believe in God. Your reaction to your son coming out is pretty much disastrous. Your son came out to you. Not the most direct route but he did in one way. He obviously was scared to tell you in person for various reasons. Your son is gay. You can’t change him, God can’t change him and counseling can’t change him. You have to learn to accept your child the way he is or you will risk losing him in the long run. He needs your support and love. Coming out at a young age or any age is difficult, but you new to be supportive whether you like it or not. He’s your son and that’s what should matter. Not worrying about changing him so he’s the way you want him. God made your son the way he is for a reason. He made us all the way we are for a reason. The reason is we have a purpose. Our purposes in life are different but in the end God judges us on the good and bad, not the way we differ from one another. God created everyone with love and will love everyone in the end. If he didn’t love gays then we wouldn’t be here. I’m not a bible preacher but my version of religion is different from what others see it as. I see God as a person who loves and cares for everyone no matter there way of life. If they have done good they will be accepted in heaven; If not, they will e sent away. Keep a healthy relationship with your son. He needs it. Otherwise he may stray away from you. He’s your child and you should love him no matter what. Trying to make him change to your standards or hating him for being gay only makes you fail as a parent.
Just remember that.
It’s his life and he will live with homosexuality his life not you. Love and be supportive of him.

The question is, do you want to be one of the hateful faithful & loose your son in the process, or do you want to be in your son’s life. Homosexuality has been with humanity since the beginning, they have even discovered representations of it in pictographs also known as cave paintings. Humans all start out as females in the womb, so its no surprise there would be some variability in human sexuality. We have seen this same variability within nature. The suicide rate amongst gay youth is 3 times that of their strait peers, due to bullying, rejection from society, a lack of role models, & lack of family support. Don’t let the faithful who claim you can pray away the gay, heal his homosexuality, etc, fool you as undercover investigations have shown the programs that claim to heal gay people are guilty pf physical, emotional, & even sexual abuse, & simply shame people back into the closet. Unfortunately, many of those who go through such programs who go back to their gay life, are never the same, some fall into depression feeling they have failed family, God, & themselves, & some are so devastated they by the whole experience they commit suicide. You must remember, some of these same people who claim homosexuality can be cured, have sent representatives over to Uganda to push for the passing of a bill that will imprison anyone who doesn’t report their gay family & friends for 10 years, & calls for imprisoning gays for life or even putting them to death. Now, does that sound like an act Jesus who defended a hooker & asked for anyone without guilt to toss the first stone. The Hateful-Faithful choose what to focus on, they ignore stoning disobedient wives & children, for waring mixed fabric, etc. Be thankful, your son could be on drugs, could have gotten a girl pregnant, or could have broken the law. The only thing you son has done is being born attracted to his own sex, researchers have found actual structural differences in the brains of gay males and strait males. The brains of gay males are wired more like the brains of strait women, this makes a lot of gay men more feminine, but many are not feminine which is why the stereotype is simply that, a stereotype. There are hundreds of actors, musicians, athletes, politicians, police officers, & other public figures who are homosexual. Provide your son positive gay role models, & support him, & he will grow up grow up self confident & do well in life. Without your support, he will be more prone to addiction, depression, etc.

First of all being “GAY” is perfectly okay!! i have tons of gay friends and im a girl. they pretty much think like us and sometimes act like us but if you cant be the adult and caring mother you’re supposed to be then how is ever gonna be able to stand up for his-self!?!?! i mean for real im “BISEXUAL” my parents dont like it but hey they cant change the way i like people. my mom tells me all the time that God doesnt let “Gays, Lesbians, or Bisexuals” into heaven and that means HE doesn’t LOVE us for us!!! i like guys but i also like girls! i dont find any harm in that at all…. you need to grow up and be there for him not because he’s your son but because he’s “GAY”!!!! it will affect his life knowing that “I’m GAY but my mom doesn’t like it :(” he is standing up for him and what he believes in!!! and if you want to have a son be successful in life you need to be there for him and support him no matter what sex he is or what sex he likes!!! be the adult and take charge and tell him “I may not like “THE GAY PEOPLE” but if that is your life decision i’m gonna be there for you and im not gonna be against you.” then if you tell him that he will know that you letting him and his sexuality inside of your heart soo he knows you still love him!
~All Advise From A BISEXUAL Girl!!!!! :p

You are entitled to your opinion as is everyone, but don’t pick and choose quotes from the bible to suit your pinion. The bible is there as the teachings of Christ and also states “Judge not lest ye be judged.” It is not your job to judge it’s God’s. just treat EVERYONE with the same courtesy and respect you would want to be shown, and avoid giving God a reason to judge you.

okay, I understand that homosexuality isn´t what god wants right?
but people are born the way they are if they have those feelings then their real!
i mean, if they wanted to be gay?! ofcourse not thats why its so hard to come out for them i have respect for this young boy if i was his mother christian or not i accept my son no matther wat gay straigt bi i don’t care he is my son and i would love him for the way he is.

Look my child us gayand yes I do support u but the only thing is I’d that many don’t believe in god and that being gay is ok in some people’s eyes you can’t expect everyone to go by what you believe and what you don’t believe it is only a matter of time that someone gay is going to rule this country (America) and it won’t be long

One of the responses on here was stating that Christians get a bad reputation because others dont read the bible. I’ll say it Christians get a bad reputation because they choose what and what not to preach about from the bible. Don’t judge your neighbor. Well you all do that! Your a women you better not be caught dead going to church while your on your period. But none of that is ever looked at because we all accept it as being ridiculous. I am a gay man and prayed about it for a long time. Didn’t fix it because I’m not sick. God knows what’s going on with me. Maybe a few people need to find out what’s going on with themselves before they tell others their wrong for not reading a bible.

Holy shit. Right, you lot need a serious check on your life. I am a Christian, yet I am bisexual. Yes, I like girls. I like to TOUCH girls and KISS girls and play with girls and I am a girl. There is nothing wrong with it. Being gay is fine. You can’t change it. Would you rather he kept the biggest secret e could ever have from you? He doesn’t have something wrong with him, he isn’t a victim, you aren’t a victim. He is still your son. He is exactly the same. He’s been like this his entire life and you two have only realised this now. You are his mother. Grow a pair and support him. He’s gunna go through shit when people find out and YOU need to be there for him. Counselling? Counselling wot change who he is attracted to. Counselling helps you if you are emotionally unstable. Not if you’re fucking gay. He loves boys. He will someday give a boy a blowjob. He will one day have anal sex. Get the fuck over it. There’s nothing wrong with him. There’s something wrong with YOU. It’s his life, you can’t change him or force him to be someone else. You should be old enough to know this, surely.

let your son be who he wants to be. my dad acted the same exact way you did and i hate his guts for the way he acts now. if you are a real father you will exept your child no matter what happens. if he got in a car crash and died tomorrow would you still love your son. you can’t exept certian parts of someones personality or traits. you have to except them as a whole. the next time you catch yourself thinking about you might have done wrong to make him this way just remember that he wiil choose the way he lives once he moves out and is in control of his own life. theres no point in trying to stop the inevitible. as for the counseling i think your going to need it more than your son if you cried once you found out. what if he gets married to another man. what then. are you going to go out in the backyard and shoot yourself. no. so dont try to stop him hes already blooming.

im just here to say that if hes gay you need to slap that lil ass nigga. hes 13 thats some bullshit show that nigga some titties and let him play lil cuz and another thing u need to find that lil ass nigga at school and tell him to shut his damn mouth around ur mentally fucked up son god dang yall some niggas.

what? that wont help what she needs to do is accept him if she wants himto be happy youre off by alot. he will refuse to change and runaway thats all or just pretend hes straight yet dream about naked men or secretly have sex with men. and she doesnt have to accept it what did he do youre wrong she has to for the next 4 years she cant do anything

Hello all,
What I have to say is directed toward the negative comments as well as the mother. Ready?……….
How DARE you!? How dare you use God, and morals to hide behind. God loves us all for who and WHAT we are , what HE made us, and don’t you DARE cry in front your son agian, what kind of mother are you! He trusted you to love and protect him, he trusted you to accept him. You had ONE job, one simple job, it’s really not that hard, you hug them, you teach them right from wrong, you tell them bed time stories till they get to old to listen anymore…and above all….ABOVE ALL ELSE…above God and morals and feelings and social acceptance, you LOVE them for what they are. Let me promise you this I would tear down the walls of heaven, run through the darkest layers of hell, kill, break the law, I would do anything, to protect my babies, and if my son told me he was gay, I would pull him into a hug, accept him for what he is, MY CHILD!
Oh and Mandy, Joshe, and ivy… You lovely holy rolling, bible thumping heretics can kiss my….well you get the point, because I have no doubt that one day, mabye not tommorrow or the next day, it may 50 or 60 years from now but I know where I’m going when I die….hell because I am far from a good person, I drink and have tattoos and yes I have been known to fight, but I can take comfort in the fact that I will not be alone, because people like YOU will always be there to greet me!

I am a bisexual 16 year old. Being gay or even bi is NOT against the bible. If God did not want us this way then why were we born this way? I say leave him be. If he loves the same sex it does not matter. Be a real mother and comfort him. Im not trying to be rude but he is your son. Given to you by God. If you truly love him then love him as the way he was born. Dont just take him to a spiritual person to pray for him. Thats just showing him you dont approve of who he is or the choices he will ever make.

I think you should embrase your son. God doesn’t shut one door without opening another. What the problem is that you won’t let Him open the door. If you’re all about the bible you should know that Mother is the name for God on the hearts of all children, and what you’re doing is wrong. There’s a reason why we are all here and you will see your son’s reason soon. But just to be clear love your son for who he is. God loves His creations so why can’t you?

Everyone in this group should just be ashamed that a mother is turning her back on her son that she raised. Homosexuality is not a choice more like a personality trait. If he does seek counseling, his teen years miserable because his mother is forcing him to become someone is is not. She will not make mother of the year. God loves his creations. Though he sends the sinner who partake in drunken orgies to hell, he see those who honor each other in a different light. The bible is not all black and white. Once her son grows up gets through school and eventually finds a life partner, Jesus wants him to be happy.
Love thy neighbor

I am a mid-20 straight male from a city suburb;growing up with people of several religions and backgrounds.

Yes a man and a woman should be together. But the Bible also says that we should not judge, everyone has a choice to choose his path in life, whether it be gay or straight. Being gay is not genetic it is a choice. We can only educated we cannot change a person. I have children and the possibility of them being gay/lesbian is there. If they turn out to love the same sex, I will love and support them, it is their choice, it is what makes them happy, and happiness is what I want for my children. I teach them what the bible says, guide them and leave them to choose. I was given a choice to choose who my partner is and every one should be able to also.

I am a straight male and want to point something out to people. First off, I am a devoted Catholic, so yes I do understand the bible. The difference between me and the gay haters out there is that they are scared and weak. I don’t care what religion you are, or what holy text you follow, the bible, was written in a way to apply to all time, past, present and future. Also, the sacred texts of many religions were written using common knowledge of the time period to fill in the gaps. I can sit here all day and manipulate the words in the bible to state women are property, they were made to serve me like slaves, and they belong in the kitchen, etc., yet usually its women who use the bible to discourage gay relationships. Selective reading I guess, same thing that was done by terrorists that interpreted the Koran to mean death to America, and killed so many individuals on September 11, 2001.
Misunderstanding gay relationships had led to many myths. Gays don’t cause aids. Much of the aids virus was spread when we didn’t understand how it was transferred between people in the 80’s and 90’s. Sex was the answer. You see, men and women use protection, not to protect from STD’s but babies. No one wants to get knocked up when they don’t pre-plan. Gays don’t have the fear of getting pregnant and never thought a condom may be a good idea until recently. Aids doesn’t just appear as a curse, it’s transferred, just an FYI to the individuals reading this who were born when the earth cooled.
Everyone needs to learn to support all individuals of all walks of life, orientation, and culture, because so many individuals kill themselves due to society, and family reactions. Imagine yourself with the idea of feeling alone in a scary big world. The devil behind their death is you, the unaccepting mother, the bullying teenager, etc. You caused their death, and bible references would show that you pushed someone to their death. You killed them, a sin that shows true hate for God’s kingdom and God’s creation of man. People in third world countries are killing people in the street for being different. How is sinning at such extent ok, and letting someone live their life in love of themselves and love of their creator so bad? We are pushing them to death and away from the church, away from being able to form a relationship with Gog. Trust in God for he will lead you in life.
Lastly I just want to illustrate that gays are the modern day leopards as mention in the bible. Society kept away, didn’t understand them, and condemned them to death saying it was a curse from God. Yet Christ would go to them, and loved them so much that he would heal their illness, he would accept them into the kingdom in heaven. Why can’t we support gays as Christ supported the leopards of his time? Let God make the decision of who will join him as his table one day. This is God’s choice, not yours, not mine. I have a friend who would do anything to help out at a soup kitchen or donate to charity, he is a better human being then I and yet he is gay. So does that mean that I, who make so many mistakes in life, have the right to condemn him to hell? He gives himself and his charity to those who would be the first to cast him away. Judge yourself before you judge others.

oh..and since you know too..that God love all his earhtly children, adn forgives all sins…for the condition of your heart and relation with GOD are what determines our worth for entering a heavenly life…For do not judge ye..let not your own faith and “good” moral values” not go unchecked..everyday I hear people gay bashing…sin IS sin and none no less thatn any other. Hell, if enerybody would quote all of the bible, there is more than homosexuality that the bible mentions..I am just saying..do you live a perfect life. What is it about about “gays” that offends people so much..noone is perfect….Gods purpose for “us” is greater than to condemn and judge…for we are not able to do so with discernment and unbiased feelings..Only the highest judge has that an that love and forgiveness and greater that anything…

I agree with garret. My brother didnt come out til he was 20 years old and he was a very sad, depressed guy before he came out.I was the first person he told and i already had gay friends so i helped him with the coming out process. He waited so long becuz he knew my dad would not accept him. Finally he couldnt take it anymore and came out to the rest of the family. Today hes so much better knowing that he can be himself. Dont reject him or it could end in tragedy. Ive known gay people before in your sons situation and it ended in suicide becuz his family didnt accept him and disowned him becuz he loved men and not woman. It shouldnt matter you should love ur kids regardless.

Theres so many things that i see wrong here i dont even know where to start. First, your son is 14 and he left you the note while he went to school. obviously he was scared by the way you might react. but that takes guts to tell you at such a young age. its not a feeling or a stage or whatever. if he’s gay, he’s gay. your not going to change it. when you confronted him and he told you it was true and you broke down and cried in front of him? thats rediculousss! your the mother! he needs your support. this is why the kids like tyler clementi (from rudgers that was spyed on and he killed himself) do stuff like that. they don’t have support where they need it the most. if you love him and you’d do anything for him and you where brought up with “good moral values” then those ‘values’ should tell you to suck it up and be there for your son. no one can help him like his mother and father can. and hopefully you figure it out because i think you have a long way to go since you refere to gay humans as “the gay people” like they have the flu. you need to figure it out and help your son find a healthy way to transition into life. lastly, id hope that you sighed with relief when you found out your son was a virgin because hes 14. not because hes gay. it seems to me like your prioritys are all messed up. you have a healthy, happy son with potential for living a full sucessful life and all you can think about is he’s gay and i can’t accept it. hopefully you can find a way through it.

You’re ignoring the fact that gays are also human beings, and God loves all human beings no matter what they are like, because God made them as equal. Homosexuals are born to be homosexuals, and God made them like that. If you are saying that gays are sinners, then you’re saying that the almighty God either made a mistake or he’s a hypocrite who doesn’t give a damn for the creatures he had created. I mean, who wants to be born with a sin he/she did not intend to commit? It’s rubbish that being gay is a sin.

I would like to say a few things. 1: people have no right to judge someone based on what gender they like. If a guy likes a guy, that is fine, that should not be a reason to look down on them, and think them inferior. 2: please stop using the bible as a weapon against homosexuals. I am not saying that the bible is stupid, I am simply saying that it should not be used to determine everyday life. And also, would god punish a himan beig for his natural attractions?3: it is not straight people’s right to judge homosexuals. You are different, neither is “better” you are different people with different attractions. They are not evil, they are human beings, just as human as you. There has been a prejudice against homosexuals for years and I do not know why. You can say anything you want but straight people have no right to decide what happens to homosexuals. It’s that simple. 4: you are his mother. You cannot think about “where you went wrong” obviously you have raised a strong child, this is shown by him telling you. He was scared of what you were going to at and how you were going to react. It ou reacted exactly as he feared, you cried, brought him to counseling, and obviously thought your child inferior due to his homosexuality. He needs support, there is Jo way to change his homosexuality, and that is extremely cold to even think of doing. Your son has strong character, and he was born with homosexuality, except it. Some people commented that its “not ok to be gay” and “you’re not born with it.” The first is an opinion, no matter how strongly I disagree with whom I quoted, the second thing he said is untrue. Their are scientific studies that your genes and DNA determine if you’re homosexual, it is a natural occurring thing. As maybe back when you were raised you thought that you were being raised with “good moral values” but ask yourself which is kinder and will help the person more long term. 1: your reaction, crying and trying to change this via counseling (it is not a physiological disorder, but an acquired trait), or 2: accepting it and helping your son, letting him know that you love him. He will stray from you eventually if you keep acting like this, although the way you are speaking I’m having trouble telling whether you would mind it. Also, be proud of your older son for eventually, accepting his younger brother and loving him for who he his (after the initial teasing). Maybe to should readjust your thoughts and accept your son.

OK…. I am going to try and be civil about this in the nicest way imaginable. I personally made my mistakes as a youth. Im prolly going to be jumping around in this post so bare with me.
1.) Theirs a reason why “SCIENTIST” believe in science! Science will always make a person feel in control of their lives, all science is and will always be is theoretical concept and design(Guess as we go and hope we get it right through formulas and history). Science will always be in front of you never giving you the chance to acknowledged whether or not its real or fake.
The bible however, Speaks to the soul. It tells us of a higher power that is beyond our feeble mind. It encourages us (Everyone) to believe in something that does not necessarily have to be in Physical form. BIBLE Refers to B.I.B.L.E. (Basic Instructions before leaving Earth) I am sure it has other terminologies! Hope, Prayer, the Dream of a future(Regardless of who its with) are just some of the things that came with gods gift of free will.

Before i continue let me explain something about myself. I am not homophobic!!! I am not a Bible Thumper! I am not one of them people that will say “your going to hell for each mistake you make in life(which some people consider atrocity’s)” I am 30 years old, married with 5 children. Step-son (Son one) My son (with his mother) My twins, 2 years old, and the new edition to my family! 7 month old little girl.
“Homosexuality is an abomination to god”, and “the wicked will never see the gates of heaven.”
However, God gave us one thing that made us different then all of his other creations. The power of Free Will! God wanted his children to love him out of devotion and love rather then enslavement or forced worship.
He gave us the ability to believe in what we want, when and how. He gave us ***Free Will***. All Science does is allow those of weak will and weak beliefs a reason to acknowledge science as the answer to anything and everything. Now i am not saying that you should put homosexuals up on a steak and burn em. It is our job to teach our children what is right and what is wrong. Homosexuality is WRONG! however, they know this! It is not us to condemn them. God will do that for us! God is all creations judge! No human has the right to judge another!
Now i am not saying that you should never stop loving your children! However, you should encourage them to understand the RIGHT way to live. Not live under the son of sin! Rather live under the the Kingdom of clouds.

Homosexuality is NOT IN DNA!!!! Homosexuality is developed though the years of ones upbringing. Just because one people is clean freak, talks with a lisp does no mean hes/ she is gay. Society has put a label on people for so long that a person has an automatic impulse to label someone, or to say that’s gay, or the way your acting is very Homoish! It is because of these people, Kids and man have began to doubt the things they have been taught! It cause them to doubt who they are, and open up a mind of sin!

As for that 15 year old Boy. Listen up kid! because that’s what you are! To say you would leave home because your parents would not except you is… well, Immature, idiotic, moronic and rather shows your ignorance to the world. Now that may be harsh but, i am not a tactful person! i am just bluntfully honest! To furtherly, for a 15 year old to say that a parent does not love their children… Boy your sadly mistaken. But you will never know due to you being gay and all! You will never reproduce, never bring new life! so for you to say something like that. Your the type to talk just because you can, because the subject talks about the gay community you feel the need to stand up! Sit back in your chair and keep reading Kid! ***NUF SAID*** “BTW that boys parents need to woop his a$$”

Mam, (To the original poster)

My worst fear is that my children would travel up that ally! My heart goes out to you! Im sure i would be baffled too. Im sure i would be completely speechless. Counseling is diffidently one option! Probably not the right decision tough! Talk to the boy, Ask him the who’s, whats’s, why’s and where! I say this because, I don’t remember my parents doing that! I wish they would have! I Noticed in your post, You never mentioned the father… Is he passed on, out the picture? I think you need to have your son educated in the word but, mostly educated in common sense when it comes to the word. You are a Mother! as is my wife. love your children till you pass, and then even from the grave still love them. That is our job as parents! To love our children Eternally.

I know how it feels because im 14 years old. The defference is my parents dont know about me. But if i will be the parent I’ll accept what my child feels. Your child doesnt need to be coucil and no one can change him because this is how he feel. All you have to do is to accept him. And trust your child he wont do anything rude or have sex with other brcause he dont want to bring you down

Something is very wrong with you if you think being GAY is ok because its not. GOD brought a flood upon this Earth for a reason God brought that flood because there was kids and adults like say this 14 year old boy that are gay. Well any way God brought the flood because there was gays and lesbians quearing eachother if u were smart you would think that be gay is COMPLETELY against God if u think its ok for ur son/daughter to be Bi you are completely wrong. This is the reason God flooded the Earth. How are you going to have children or grandc hildren when ur Bi or your son/daughter is Bi. If God wanted us to be Bi the humans would have been wiped out since day ONE. This is what I think. GOD BLESS

Totally disagree… yes we should love our children regardless but this makes it sound like 1. Being gay is ok and 2. You can be born like this!!!! Neither is true!!! The parent has done nothing wrong but should counsel the child on what the Bible says! ” A homosexual WILL NOT enter the kingdom of God”

i think that we live in a society were us as people can make our own desitions with out having to judge for them. i know that you are not perfect and yoou made a lot of mistake on your life and the only thing that you want is pfor your parent to suppor your decitions. i think that you are verry liky to have a family that trust you. maide it is only a phase but you being againts it would not help you or him at all. love your sons and just be ther when they nedd someone to halp them and youe belive are not worth the lost of your son. if you dont they will grow up to hate you……….

In the 17th-18th centries, the bible was twisted to accomodate the slave owners. They would use specific scripture to show that slavery was accepted in the bible. Now, we see that slavery is wrong. People today rape, murder and beat gay people of all ages, then they use the bible to justify it. Do you agree with the fact that people use your religion to beat, rape and murder other people just because they love the same gender? Is it really so wrong for someone to love someone of the same gender? We all search our whole lives looking for someone to love. Who are we to deny that to anyone? Your son is gay. Even if you dont support it, how would you feel if a group of guys were to beat him, rape him, kill him or all of the above? How would you feel if they did all of that then on top of it, they twisted your religion against you to justify it? He already has a world full of ignorant people waiting to tell him all about how he is dammed to hell, do you really want to be another one of those people? Youre his mom. You raised him, watched his first steps, heard his first words, took hundreds of pictures of him, dressed him up in cute little outfits, laughed at him when he did silly things, picked him up when he fell, wiped his tears and kissed his boo boos. There are a million things a loving mother does with her child. Disowning them and neglecting them is not on the list. There are mothers of serial killers who refuse to turn them in because they lobe them so much and they want to protect them. Is your son being gay really as bad as if he were a serial killer? I dont know you either and clearly, I am completly fine with him being gay. This whole thing against gay people is just like slavery. One day we will look back and see how wrong we are for this. Your son deserves a chance at love just as much as you, or I or any other person.

I am a 40 year-old gay man. I applaud this young man for having the courage to come out at his age. I couldn’t manage to do it until I was 21 and out of the house. My mother initially reacted the way this one did and told me she didn’t want to have anything to do with me. After some time passed she realized how ridiculous she was being and we are now extremely close. Try educating yourself mother and get some counseling for yourself as well. And for you bible thumpers out there, you have every right to your religious beliefs but COME ON! Have you read the entire bible or just the parts that suit you. God DID NOT write the book and there are SO many things in it that are preposterous and all written by humans with there own agendas. So ladies go sleep outside when you’re on your period and stop having premarital sex if you want to take the bible literally… just sayin’

I believe the reaction to your son Is disgraceful. Regardless of religion or social resentment against ‘gays’, he is still your son. I don’t believe in ‘tradition’ in this sense, you must live for the now, to neglect your sons feelings at this fragile stage of development is inconsiderate and if you ask me shows aspects of you being a bad mother. Each human being is an individual with individual feelings, to ignore those of your own son is a stupid decision on your behalf. Parenthood is about supporting and encouraging your child to peruse their own ends, I could understand if he was out robbing the shops and selling drugs, but he isn’t. He is a 14 year old boy who is responding to positive compliments from another boy, as any teenager probably would. If he feels strong emotions towards boys then that is his choice, in no way should he be put down by someone who is supposed to love him, just for wanting to be appreciated. There is nothing wrong with being homosexual, maybe you should drop the old school ways and wake up to the fact that you have an insecure son who needs your love, attention and support.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with bein gay. If he were meant to be straight, GOD WOULD HAVE MADE HIM STRAIGHT.

I am a straight girl. I have a homosexual friend. Saying ‘I’m straight’ is pretty much the same thing as saying ‘I’m not straight.*’

One of the Greek gods (Zeus, if I remember correctly) was bisexual. If a god is bisexual, why would it be wrong for a human to be bisexual?

Being gay is in no way a sin. To say that would be to say that being a human is a sin, as plenty of humans are gay/lesbian/bisexual.

This comes from a debate I did in college:

What somebody said:
“Being gay is wrong, because it’s not what God intended.”

My response:
“Well I don’t believe in your God.”

You have to respect everybody’s beliefs, whether you agree with them or not. Just like you wouldn’t hate somebody for being a different religion than you, hating somebody for being a different sexuality than you is rude. How would you like it if, on principle, a gay/lesbian/bisexual person came up to you and said “I hate you because you’re straight.”

*I say ‘I’m not straight’ because I don’t want to make it seem like I’m pro homosexuality but not pro bisexuality. Love=Love.

I want to ask the writer of this letter: is your son a totally different person now you’ve found out he’s attracted to men instead of women? Or is it your view on him and his future that has been turned upside down?

He is still the same person from where I stand. Does it matter if he loves a man ? No, the only thing that should be asked is: is he happy? And will the person he will fall in love with make him happy? Im sure you are a loving mom and loving your kids means, imo, also: accepting your son for the beautyfull person he is.

The more you push him away from you, by not accepting who he is the more you guarantee yourself that you will lose him within 5-7 years.

I must say reading you just took 32 years of homophobia and gave me a new perspective. Reading just the mothers submission I must admit I felt I would of reacted in the same way (90%) First I would of tried to beat it out of him……… Just kidding…..I thought it’d be funny to make some people cringe. lol But as I was saying, my reaction would of been in par with hers. But after reading your enlightening response I think I get it. See I’ve always hated racism in every form except when it came to gays. I guess it has to do with how I was raised and what my father and GP led me to believe was weak. So here I would knock someone out for calling another person a racist remark except when say somone would call a gay man a Fagot or something like that. And truthfully it wasn’t until Howard Stern did a segment are you a racist, I passed with flying colors up untill the very end. (He must of knew what he was doing & wanted to awaken people like me. Cause he broke it down to you don’t like gay peoplel….your a racist. lol I’m like shit I’m a racist. lol So i realized that I was a racist against gays. (Gay men) I always enjoyed lesbians (Yea i’m one of them) But to sum this up, My son’s 13 and a fear I’ve always had is one day he would come home and say dad I’m gay. This would be also be a popular topic when hanging out with friends. The what would you do…. stunners. i would of tired to change him, But now I’d accept him with open arms. You made me see how selfish I was being with the way you replied to this mother. Here your kid drops a bomb shell on you about his life and your worried about yourself and how your taking and what your going to do to change it. Not really concerned about whats really going on with him. So thank you for waking me up the rest of the way. Now I just got to work on accepting the flamboyant ones lol

I am a gay 15 year old boy and if you were my mother and did not approve of my sexuality then i would leave home. If you do not let your own son choose how he wants to be then you obviously do not love him for him. you are wrong for not letting him choose whether he wants to like boys or girls. you are in the wrong. ‘Nuf said.
T.B.

Well, everyone thinks we christians are the bad guys all the time if you knew what the bible says and beleved it you would under stand why it is fround apon. For 6 to 9 thousand years men and weman have both kown that the penis is surpost to go in the vaginia it’s what science and the bible says , And we all know you can not reproduce throught your anus ‘god said to follow the creation mandate’ . Sin works like this, sin feels good at first but there are problems with this when your gay why do you get aids why when you have sex out of marrage or with someone other than your partner you have a child
thay might have birth pills but what if the next time you dicide to do it you dont . I know that even in a marrage you have a baby but thats what you want.
To concluded i have to say that when we say geting tatoos are a sin , drinking is a sin getting persings is a sin cusing is a sin we really mean marking your body witch it gods temple .and a tatooed up person dosent make a good witness .getting drunk and acking like a fool or a jackass can be a sin if you are hurt or cause someone to have mixed feelings about you and causeinf them to fall short is a sin and so is being gay . Why? Because if gives ppl mixed feelings and your not following the creation mandate your hurting gods temple .

ARE YOU KiDDING ME! I’m Gay always have been and always will be. Didn’t choose it and at one time was not happy about it. Parents were not estatic about it but never turned thier back on me and in timecame to totally accept things. As for medical reasons. There is a school of thought that suggests its the enviroment within the womb. Eg. TOO much testostorne believe it or not which explains identical twins where one is gay and the other isn’t. I have about 5 friends that are twins where this is the case. As for genetics it does seem to prevail in some families and there have even been studies that suggest the more older male children a women has in combination with being right or left handed. I can’ t remember which the chances of the younger sons chances of being gay go up exponentially. As for you churchies it seems to me the arguement always comes back to the bible which the roman catholics put together at the council of nicea around the 3rd century. So if your not catholic you got nothing to say cause you have your own disagreements with the 1st church. and if your catholic your refering to a section in leviticus that the jews wrote and that some rabbis will tell you is about abstaining from anal sex not homosexuality, as this section is about health tips.So straight people that have anal sex take note. Its very specific and you will notice no mention of sex between women there.It also mentions about not eating pigs and shellfish like lobsters. I always find it funny how people pick and choose when it comes to the bible. In short I love God and his son jesus as they love me. And i love Me just the way the creator intended . I try to live my live in the way jesus taught us ! “To love one another” and live by the golden rule that christ taught ” to do unto others as you would do unto yourself”. As for gays we have always been and always will be. Theres millions of us. Don’t like it too BAD we are not going anywere.

I can understand that it may be hard for you to understand but just because you don’t like the same sex doesn’t mean no one else can. You should accept and talk with your son, because your not the one that has to live with homosexuality. It doesn’t effect your life-it effects his.

By the catholic bible, this woman is completely correct and has extremely great moral values. You’re the one that has so many things wrong about yourself. You may want to rethink what you stand behind if you want to have a happy, everlasting life in heaven.

You are completely correct, I’m glad the are Christians like you left in this world. You must love your child and be kind to everyone no matter what, but being gay is absolutely not okay. It is going against everything God has said in the Bible and we mustn’t support it.

fret not about the sexual choices our children make, save safe sex, your boy likes men … where in lies the problem ? that he like human contact on equal ground is healthy … there is nothing wrong with him … i like ladies he likes guys … teach him safe sex just the same … hes not broken unless you tell him so, (just make it worse) … hold him close Mom, you only know he is gay cause he wanted yu to know … he loves you … all this advice is from a straight guy

I think your son is very courageous for telling you something that MANY, MANY people keep secret, some for their entire lives. These are boys and girls and men and women that keep this big secret mostly because they are afraid of being rejected or punished by the person they tell. When actually speaking the
words might be too scary, some people write a note. I applaud your son for coming the one person who’s known him from the very beginning, the one person in the universe that he felt safe to tell. He is very brave. Mother, you need to get your heart ready – you must be brave and open your heart to your son. You love him. You cannot turn that off (or on either), and if you won’t love him, what does that say about you and your heart? Your Lord & Savior, your Father in Heaven loves all of us, forgives all of us, blesses all of us, and commands us to do the same. Get with the program, Mother.

First of all id like to remark that this is a great article, however reading comments I have further been disgusted with the self-righteous and ignorant. Whoever wrote this article used real facts and logic in his response in order to help this mother and her poor misunderstood son. Meanwhile all you self righteous folk out their are in support that this young boy must be sinful because he’s gay, let me ask you this scripture parrots if you remember your lord saying that it was good when he made the earth the heavens and the skies and it’s inhabitants such as this gay insect http://www.wired.co.uk/news/archive/2011-07/19/insect-incest

This insect is either a creation of your biblical lord or by random creation either way you have lost this battle homosexuality is not some disease it is a way of life that people who were created in the image of your Devine savior if your still holding onto that story. I don’t need to hide behind scripture to attempt to validate my argument or beliefs I have knowledge and science to corrilate with the scripture to show you the errors of your ways if everything came from god then everything we now see in this world would be acceptable to the all knowing omnipetant being if not he would be a hypocrite

It is a good thing that the mother in this told her son that she dose not accept this, it is good to hit them with that reality hard early on. Homosexuality is NOT NORMAL, don’t weave some BS to me about “Other animals do it in nature” They also kill each other for food and throw there own excrement around for fun.
Humans where created in God’s image, and we have a higher sense of cognition, (we know right from wrong) If men and men or women and women where meant to be together they would be able to reproduce together but they CAN’T! They were not meant to do this as it goes against nature.
Should this mother completely disown her son, no.
Should she try to get him to see how this is wrong by talking to a councillor, or priest, yes.
Will him being homosexual mean that he won’t go to heaven, no, and that’s something else, Humans should not judge, that’s why in all Christian Bibles it states that God’s word is the final Arbitration of our souls, not the social judgement of our community’s, we as man are not perfect like Him air-go we have no say on who is and who is not going to heaven. Love your son and lead him down the right path, fulfil you duty as his mother and lead your son to the righteousness that is God.

God created men women and the universe. God made us what we are and we do not have a choice in it when it come to our sexuality. I am not gay nor do I have a gay child but if I did I would not love him or her any less than if he or she were not because it was GOD’s choice that it happened this way.
Let’s not be ignorant nor bring up religion because we can go on forever. If you really want to follow the bible start by looking within yourself and your home before you start to preach. No one is prefect nor like GOD.

i am an open minded person and yea, whats so wrong about liking the same gender, i im impressed about him because he had the courage to tell HIS OWN PARENTS that he is like that. people have their own way of things. just as ling as he isnt stepping in someone else. . .then ,for me, its fine.

Ur a bitch ur son is beautiful the way he is u asswhole i ttally disagree i my self am a bisexual and u r somone that needs to rot i hell u homophobic bitch i hope ur son hates u and adopts little babies and sends u pictures of them flipping u off with a letter that says fuck u u homophobic slut bag

U really r stupid ppl so what hes a gay 14 yr old I’m 18 and I’m gay so who cares if ur gay straight or bi its not really anyones bidness except for the family’s now then mom and dad still haven’t excepted me I really don’t care since I’m going to live in London next month far away from nc but u really cant live by the bib’s. Humanity mad up God a drunken idiot wrote the Bible hes gay let it be ppl today need to except the gays and soon we Arnt in the 20’s any more GET WITH THE TIMES AND GET OVER IT

dear mum you have encountered a serious problem with your young boy , i think there is only one way to bring back your son onto the right way . This is done only when you could make your son to believe that sex is not essential recquirement for life as like as feeding, dinking and sleeping also as a male when your son says i donot like girls ok no problem but he should know that those boys who love him as a gay they also act as gays your son remain in a an absolute confusion and disappiontment if he would continue on this manner because he will never find himself to make a family and have children or at least have some beautiful moral values. the most powerful way and stright one that your son should follow is islam . islam is not very kind religion and not very hard one but its moderate so islam brings back all persons to the nature and the laws of nature

what u saying is wrong madame if she makes her son feel ashamed of who he is he will grow resentment and disrespect for himself which in return can cause more damaging decisions from his end. if you do not have a gay son you should not speak of this matter because you have no idea what it is. you have the rights to your beliefs no doubts about that. but what you do not have the rights to is to judge others based on them. use common human feelings and love as your judgement.watch the movie prayers for bobby it will help you understand. i m am someone’s gay son who have not seen his parents for 4 years. and i am in my early 20s imagine what you would feel if you dont see ur son for 4 years 4 of the best years of his life because of something you have done.
the Lady here is asking what has she done wrong the answer is she has not done any. but this is a wake up call to be wary of what she may do . exchange counseling is one of the most hurtful things a parent can subject their kids and beloved children to it should be stopped. as when it comes to prayers feel free to pray to make that child the best man he can be in the future and not directed as a target specific prayer toward his homosexuality god knows best if he wants to change that aspect of him to be better he will otherwise he still can be the best future him with being gay.

I am a 12 year old girl. You may not think I know anything about this but certainly, I do. I am growing up in a democratic family that does believe in people being who they are. Bi, Straight, transexual, whatever. Your son is probably just as confused as you are. All he really needs is someone to understand and accept him for the great son he is and that person should be you. I am still not sure why you want to take him to couseling. Maybe its because you want someone to talk him out of his sexuality or its because you cant accept him and you are the one who needs counseling. Good luck
12 YEAR OLD GIRL

God this and god that…he may be real but if that kid is gay god wanted him to be. god makes everyone and brings them to earth.and there’s nothing wrong with being gay…almost half the people on this world are!God makes people so they can be themselves not to hold a grudge over them because they are gay…being gay is weird for some people but it’s NOT bad!

just tell the mother that he was gay and it’s hard not to imagine how I want to be now the poor child, will go ahead is only a matter of time for both, but for the mother who fear going faster than you require any further than ever …

I dont have comment against the abnormality of a person, We should accept what is the reality as both concerns are happy. Its the well of God and that s our nature that we belongs to. Thats our natural way of Life. we cant change what has been develop on us since our child hood growth.

dear mother
accepting sone T brotherT husband as a gay is painfull. but whereas he is 14 years old . u can change his ideas. u can ask a intersting lovely girl attract ur son. maybe he left his idea about being a gay . ofcourse he must nt understand u ask that girl do such thing. that if he undertand may he reject. surly in his school boys effect on him / motivate him for abusing . u can change his school buut he hasnt understand for such reason . changing his school must have a nice reason that ur son like and accept with open arms

I hope you still love your child, and can work on your feelings. Your son is so strong, how long do you think he’s questioned these feelings and carried this burden and hidden it for fear of rejection?He had enough courage to confide in you, and you blow it. I think you should tell him that you’re sorry. And that you love him very much. If he is/wants to be gay that is completely his choice, and you can never change that. And dont push your beliefs on him, because it will only drive him further away. But love him. How he live his life and what he makes of it is his choice, and you need tobe that pillar of love and support to him. And he is God’s child, and when/how he will be judged is completely between him and God. And if you believe otherwise it’s not your place, nor anyone else’s to say so (they are poor examples of christians). Please dont be a hypocritical christian. Just love abundantly.

If your son is gay, there’s not much you can do about it. If you don’t accept it you will lose him for not accepting who he is. Being gay is not a sin regardless of what it says in the Bible. If your son is happy you should be too. He needs your love and support through this and being mad at him isn’t worth losing him. I agree with the 15 year old boy that commented…if I were your son and you couldn’t accept the fact that I was gay I would leave home. There’s nothing worse than feeling like the outcast of the family…it’s bad enough society will be putting him down and it shouldn’t have to happen at home. Your his mother, you need to be there for him and stop being selfish…this is not about you, it’s about him and the upport he isn’t going to be receiving because you have your head too far up your ass about it. I want my children to be happy no matter if they’re gay or straight…it doesn’t matter to me as long as they’really happy. He could also be going through the “experimental” phase and not be gay after all, but for him to have to feel the need to write a letter to u to tell u is telling me what kind of parent you must be. But for him to tell u regardless is very brave and I respect him for that. Now it’s ur turns to be the bigger one and accept it.

Take that boy to church, with just enough faith the spirit of the devil will be released from him. I know if i had kids i would want to see them in heaven living happily for eternity. And i hope you all know if you die gay the spirit of the devil will send you straight to hell to burn till the end of time.

Yes, G, your son was scared of your reaction, hence the note. But, you are his Mother, and needs your acceptance. Denying his orientation, or, trying to “cure” him are the WORST things you can do. He has not been brainwashed, and it is nothing you “did”, or “didn’t do” He is who he is…your son…bottom line. If you are uncomfortable with him kissing another man, don’t look.He needs to know that you love him, and will be there for him…no matter what. My daughter is bi-sexual, and I, and my wife are fully acceptable with it. One of her close friends, when he told his parents he was gay, simply could not accept it. 2 months later, not being able to deal with his parents’ denial, and “we’re going to “cure” you” proclamation, took his life. My daughter, and his friends were devastated. All because his parents couldn’t accept their son was “different”. We are all different. We are all unique. That is what makes me “me”, and you “you”. You are strong. I know this because you are a Mom, and that is the hardest job on the planet.

you did nothing wrong, all you can do is try to accept the fact. for my best friend realized he was gay at a young age as well. it was hard for him growing up because yes people did bully but now a days its not as bad because there are more gays out there. my friend unlike your son didn’t tell his parents that he was gay until he was 18 hoping they would understand but instead they didn’t they disowned him and now unfortunately he is dead because he couldn’t take his parents harsh actions. and please don’t think your son made that decision for it is scientifically proven that it natural for some people to be gay. its manly in the genes, my advice to you is don’t treat it like an illness please you will only be pushing him away and i don’t think you want that. you may not be able to accept the fact that your son is gay but do show him that you love him its what is best and what he needs from his mother.

The mother is awful. If you are so ignorant that you cannot except your son because he likes men that is awful. If he never told you that you would not have thought any different but because he did you think you have to fix him and that is wrong. And to all the people always talking about how gay people cannot get into heaven i find that very offensive. If it is indeed genetics that causes people to be homosexual than isn’t it god who made the genetics that create us? And also i find it disgusting that you would think that he was brainwashed. Its not fair for you to tell someone if they can be happy or not. He will do either of two things unless you accept him. Leave, or pretend that he is “cured” of his homosexuality and never be happy. You need to accept him and not try to change him because the result will not end well.

You’re son is only 14, have you asked him how he chose homosexuality over hederalsexuality without trying either or? Being young and convinced there is only one god can lead to a rebelious stage in a young teen which can lead to questioning his/hers sexuality. If he can bring himself to try the opposite sex, he can ultimately choose weather he wants one or the other, or in some cases they choose both. In conclusion either accept it or offer the idea of trying some good ol vagina

I’m a 14 year old gay teenager and came out two month ago and my parents did not accepted me nether my life has been s harsh with my parents accepting who i am. The time my dad and mom said that they did not like that they said i felt like killing my self it was horrible. The only once that did accept me were my true friends and my ants and uncles till this day they still don’t accept it and its killing me i feel like my life is a true nightmare. What i’m trying to tell u is that just accept him for ho he is and not for who you want him to be because if u don’t something tragic will happen my dad and mom hate me my only boyfriend lives in Stockton, California. i’m probably moving there and yeah just let him be him self you will accept him with time and his brother accepted him because that’s his brother and not some stranger like you treat him just accept it you will love him for who and what he us.

im 21 years old and i am gay, i told my friends i was gay at age 13 none of them seemed to care if i was gay or not, neitehr did my school.

yes their was jokes and name calling but i just laughed and even came up wtih jokes about my self.

even when i told my friend who is straight that i had a crush on him, he jsut smiled hugged me and said thanks for the intrest.

the point im trying to make is these days gay bi straight lesbian it doesnt matter, a study has proven of a 35% increase of young people addmiting their choice in partners anotehr study has proven 45% of religious families will have gay bi or lesbian children, even more so among the catholics.

i knwo change is hard to accept or the idea of something, ‘diffrent’ is worrying but everythign changes at somepoint you can wnge cry and moan about it, or accept it.

Please, hurry visit an expert !!
Becareful, gays are more sadistic than heterosexual people. Your son could be their victim or could be a doer, we never know. Remember that serial killers tend to be gays.

You are a big fool!!! Ediot!!! How dare you speak against the BIBLE. GAY’S HAVE NO PLACE IN THE KINGDOM OF GOD. For the 14 year old I pray that God reveals to him the end result of all gay (lower than dogs and pigs)

Any person who judges a child for the color of their skin, religious views, or sexual orientation is not a logical thinker. For the parent of the child to also pass judgement on their own child is despicable. You may have been the first person that he had opened up to about being gay. You have made him feel trapped in his own skin. That is not except able from a parent I personally feel the parent in this situation is wrong. How could you be so inconsiderate of your own child and his well being. If he is gay or chooses to be gay, it is his life and you should help him through his life. Breaking down crying, telling him he is brain washed, telling him your getting him help is not supportive nor being a responsible parent.(Have you researched the suicide rate in young gays?) I am gay and I was brought up to believe that all gays are horrible, deserve death, go to hell, what ever the crazy people are saying now. I agreed with these people even though deep down I knew I was gay. I knew since I was a very young child. I was attracted to men. There is no mistaking sexual attraction. People being such harsh critics and passing so much judgement on individuals trying to come out of the closet is what has caused the depression and suicides with in our gay community. I for one will defend gays every chance I get. We are not all strong enough to stand up for our selves. I will stand for you. Be proud of your son, let him be proud of him self. Quit always bringing up the bible because you are just as much a sinner as the gays. You choose to make being gay a huge sin, why? There are so many other sins and not one is greater than the other, right? Please understand that we evolve through time. We learn things we didn’t know before. We invent and understand. Why are you still persecuting individuals to your religious beliefs? Get a clue and understand that there are far more people in this world and your way is not the only way. Look at the foundation that America was built upon. Give us the same respect and rights. Stop persecuting innocent Americans. Innocent people.

I hope that your son does know that there are people that do care. There are people that except him. There are people like him. He is not alone. Everyone can’t be a good parent and hopefully he will be able to look past your flaws as a parent and still love you when he is grown.

Well when i came out everyone knew but my father my mom asked me if i was. I didnt really want to tell him he was old school. One day i was sitting at the table with him and he said there is nothing you can say that would piss me off. So i go ok im gay. He sat there for a min. And goes your right that did piss me off. He asked me if i was happy and safe and well if it was true. He just told me not to bring my bf around. (He broke on that and actually really liked my bf.) Gay or stright your kids are going to lead there own lives all you need to be concerned with is are they happy safe and loved thats all.

You need to chill out. Your son is gay. Its not the end of the world. When I read this… it broke my heart to relized that people actually do this to their children. You have done nothing wrong. But- your son just came out of the closet. To you. The one person (besides his best friends of course) that he can fully trust. That’s why children are killing themselves these days. Its because they think that their parents will understand and they don’t. Now he probably thinks that hes a freak or something. Hes not. Hes human like everybody else. Just because he likes chicken while everybody else likes beef doesn’t mean his mother should of had that reaction. You need to own up to your son.

look i dont want to sound mean but your kind of a horrible mother for the road you took

first to cry when your son tells you he is gay show you dislike it

when you ask him why or how or is it my fault shows you dont understand it

and to send him to therapy was the biggest mistake right there show him you
don’t want to understand and that you want the “problem” fixed

to mean people like you are sick you say you have good moral values and then bash on people for who there in love with I’m sorry but if there is a god i don think your going to heaven and another thing you admit how life is hard when your gay and then you go and sign him up for therapy…..arent you the one making his life hard? you said it yourself “I love my son and would do anything for him” then you should accept him if he is gay or not it shouldnt matter how you feel about the gays HE IS YOUR SON!

first well address “it’s what science and the bible says” first only the bible says it there are species that only have one sex(which mean one day the gay will be able to reproduce you just dont believe it because you dont believe in evolution) not only that but in mating season if the male does not find a female the often mate with other males

also as a person with tattoos i take offense to this “and a tatooed up person dosent make a good witness”really because the court of law will still take me a a witness so if god wont well i think he is fucked up thats right said it GOD IS FUCKED UP when i read the ten commanments it said no where that if your gay you dont go to heaven also to quote the bible is stupid seeing as how it was writen by man and have you ever seen the original bible they have it in a museum in the holy land its only about 40 pages you know why because that all it ever was all that other shit was added over time so the church could keep power so just remember that book that you worship with your life is stain with power, blood and hate but its ok because it was all in the name of god just like how you carry his word to the gays to let them know there a sin

god hates homosexuals, lesbian, and other sexual disorders.
remember, God never created man with homosexual desires

A person may be born with a tendency toward homosexuality, just as people can be born with a propensity to violence and other sins. This is not an excuse for living in sin with a desire to follow their sins.

Pray and ask for guidance from God, He will show u the way. Thats the absolutely answer..

My name is William and I have been a counselor for LGBT youth for over 25 years and in that time I have seen my fair share of suicides because of ignorant out of date mothers like yourself. I had one boy you’re sons age jump off a four story building and land three feet from me. I was so close that I felt the wind from his last breath as he hit the ground at 90 MPH. I just want to tear the hair out of you’re head when I hear stories like yours.

When you’re son left you that letter, you should have taken him out of school that day and took him to lunch to celebrate his great coming out event. He was depending on you for a positive response. That response was critical in his labeling of himself and will show up in many different areas in his life over the next 12 years or so. Because you labeled it a negative, he in turn labeled it a negative, and for that he will suffer dearly in ways that you cannot even comprehend. You need to march into his room right now and tell him how much you love him, and get on board with it so you can hopefully undue some of the damage that has a,ready been done.

i believe that this mother has every right to be worriied about her son .. having grown from a family of high morals and honestly with a high ability to tell the difference between right and wrong, i mean the first ever people to step onto earth were adam and eve not adam and steve.. we should all remember what type of a family this boy was raised from , and even tho being gay is not a problem but we are addressing the situation at hand, before a mother can even start to accept such a decision she will have to consider weather the son has for a second accepted any moral values that he has been taught for the last 14 years.. i dont blame her for the way she reacted ,for me it was the most appropriate reaction after 14 years of walking down a path hand to hand agreeing with eachothers decision then the young boy decides to take his own route i would also feel abandoned as his mother..

as I read this I was thinking how could a mother react this way, crying is ok, because it makes you realize the unease he had about thinking it himself. I also read all the comments posted,

Some where really shocking, as Mandy said..no ”homo should enter the kingdom of god” SCREW HER, there is not only Christians in this world and I’m tired of people bringing religion in every aspect of life, I know more than one homosexual that are more spiritual and with the a mind of the most righteousness I’ve ever know. Who are you people to judge without knowing, to estimate the value of one only to his sexual preference.

I’ve seen people accept some horrible facts without blinking, and the same people pissing on homosexual as it was the plague.

You want to be a good mother, accept his choice, see his moral values, cause what you thought him was probably not, DO NOT BE GAY…but some right moral acts that he will follow the rest of his life and make him a good man.

decision? it is not one, if it was he would not have “decided” to take abuse from you, hurt your feelings, or abuse from others by “deciding to be gay”

He is 14 years old, he was not brainwashed, he is hitting puberty and knows now what he is attracted to

It has nothing to do with how you are raising him

If you bring him to counseling you are going to push him away

We are now living in a world where it is becoming more acceptable to be that identity, if you emotionally abuse him and treat him in that way, that will only lead him to resent you once he is free to leave your home at the age 18 in four years

if you TRULY LOVE YOUR SON, YOUR SON, you will accept him for who he is, why does it matter who he has sex with, it is none of your business anyway
he should be able to love who he loves

if you want him to stay around after he is free to leave, I would suggest you get over your homophobia real quick and stop treating your son like you are

From what I see, it is you that has the problem here not your son

Therefore I think that maybe YOU should receive counseling not your son, since you are having trouble coping with this so much, and accepting your son for who he is.

You have no right to decide who your son wants to be with.

If you send him to one of those camps too where they physically abuse and mentally abuse kids….you are even worse than he is.

I think your son will be just fine as long as he has parents who support who he is.

It’s not about you, it’s really about him. Think that his sexual preference is only a 15% of him as a person. He’s much more than just “GAY”. He’s still your wonderful boy, the one you brought to this world. He’ll need your support to become the amazing human being that God expects him to be.
Take this opportunity to take this lesson of love, understanding, tolerance and grow in your humanity, and spiriruality and see beyond the Holy Books.
I can understand that it may be hard for you to understand but just because you don’t like the same sex it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. You should accept and talk with your son, because your mission as a parent is certainly not done. From one that’s been there as a parent. Much luck.

This is very hard to accept as a mom, franckly you never expect something like that to happen to your family and your son, not only he need counselling but you need to pray for him and ask God for guidance. I heard and I know a lot of people that doesn’t beleive in the word of God, they better follow whatever the scientists came up with, like they’re the ones that create science.
Homosexuality is condemned by God, that’s why he created man and woman since the beginning. All the animals have a male and female, have you ever seen two male dogs having sex, or two male horses doing it, nooooooooooo way, why because even they’re instinctively active, they know it is wrong. Why us humans, created by the image of God has gone so low, lower than animals that cannot differentiate right or wrong. The exemple of Sodom and Gomorrah isn’t enough for you (gay/lesbian).
That’s why this country is going down the drain every day, ever since they turned their back against God and embraced the deeds of evil.
Our forefather Georges Washington, at a moment during the war against the colonial England stopped and kneeled in front of God with his horse by his side and pray to ask for strength. What have we become these days?
We’re so called the most powerful and wealthier nation on earth, but we’re the most stupid. I guarantee it, watch, if this nation doesn’t stop all the crazinest, madness stupidities and recognize their transgressions in front of God, 50 years from now, we’ll be (United-states) in the deepest shit. Read Matthew chapter 24 verse 4 tru 13 and Romans 1 verse 24 thru 32.

Your son is gay and yes people do make fun of gay people but if you love your son then you will be ok with it its his decition and this comes from a girl how knows shes bi. You should be happy if your son is happy it should be the only thing that matters IF you love your son

how can this be when the first thing you want to do when your son runs into a hard patch is take him to counseling to make him understand that the person he really is isnt good enough for you. and you call his situation that social brain washing? isnt that what you have planned for him through this counseling of yours?

if homosexuality really is “nurture” over nature what made the first homosexual reach out and “NURTURE” another individual to become homosexual when it goes against everything that NATURE has set forth.

people who play the religion card on this really have to take a look at the grass roots of their argument before they run around spouting anti-homo propaganda everywhere they go.

For all those bible readers who think this book should rule their lives and that of others: the same writer (Leviticus) also states you should stay away from blind humans and women in their period, you should not eat shrimps or lobster, wear clothes with a mix of fabrics, and many other ancient rules to live by. But many of these and other rules in the bible are nowadays considered “outdated”.

As soon as you start choosing which rules to follow and which not, it’s your own decision, and your belief becomes your own interpretation of this bible. You personally handpick the rules you want to adhere to. So you can’t simple state anymore “gays are wrong, because it’s in the bible”. You should state: “gays are wrong, because I want to adhere to that specific rule” (and probably not to many others).

I’m not a christian, I’m gay, and I oppose fiercely against all religious “reasoning” to discriminate gays. It’s your decision to judge me and your son, based on some ancient book of rules. It was not a decision for me to choose a gay life style. You can change your decision – I can’t, and according to worldwide legislation I don’t need to.

So it’s up to you to change your decision what to think of your son. You can and should not rely on some bible with a set of outdated religious rules. What does your heart say ?

Anyways,so i read all the letter and i was thinking,if i would be father and my son who is 14 and informs me that he is gay the way your son did,i think that i would do the same like you did,i would cry,because it would be the real feeling like your
son just got murdered,its very sad moment. I would take a break from work and
would not talk to my friends for a long time, untill i will get the solution for this gay
problem.but my REAL PROBLEM IS THAT I have strong beliefs that beeing gay is WAY not normal,but when you deal whit your own son,the human that is your own flesh and bone i REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO……..
but first would be mentaltest and lots of help and more help untill there is no way i can make my own son normal again,i will have no chance but to let him go.

really just because hes gay your afraid fuck the bible I bet those were corrupted priests sayin I have the will of god will of god my ass being gay isn’t bad nor good but its either you got so drunk enough to do a women instead of a man or a man doing another man cause of the thoughts of being “curious” is maybe why your son is gay my friend is gay but I don’t complain cause hes a human bein like the rest of us his life doesn’t mean it has any less value than ours and it shouldn’t be hard for you if your not a stuborn stupid person because hey shit happens and no not for a reason but by events that occurred an you didn’t seem to worry about it now stop cryin andbe there for him that is all i have to say

You should be happy your child cares enough to tell you. Some people don’t care enough about their parents to ever come out. Would you rather he lied? Im a gay 25 year old woman my parents said they would be kinda grossed out if i came home with a man. Because thats my genetics. I am gay. Now go and give your son a hug and be thankful you have him on this earth.

having gone through the concern of this mom and the various responses by people , i think the mom have alot to do here not just talking to men because they will get you confuse the more but talk to God about your son .Tell God what you want ,just as you said that you are the old school type yes that is good the Bible say He which made them at the beginning made them male and female matthew 19:4 so male perfering male to female now i think that is confusion and alot of people in the world to are in this state of confusion .
We have never seen two male dogs meting be4 or two he goat so why is this happening among human that God created in His own image i pray God will help us in Jesus Name .ma you have lot to do on your knee ,you alone with your God and He will deliever your son from this terrible bondage in Jesus Name

Okay, I think you need a few things about your faith straightened out. From one Christian to another, what you had to say was just ignorant, and possibly even idiotic. Judging from your lack of grammar skills, I doubt you have even READ the Bible except here and there, so I’m going to explain a few things WITH BIBLICAL REFERENCE as to what a stupid, arrogant person you look like.
First, you talked about homosexuality as if it was a choice. It isn’t. It never has been a choice and it never will be. People cannot control what arouses them and what doesn’t, it’s part of who they are. You might mention that Leviticus 20:13 said “If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.” THERE IS A PROBLEM WITH THAT QUOTE. Leviticus is in the Old Testament. If you haven’t noticed, the Bible is laid out IN CHRONOLOGICAL ORDER. The Old Testament is the book of the Jews, not the Christians. As Christians, we believe that Jesus is our lord and savior, but some, like you, get so wrapped up in the fact that he died for our sins that you forget to pay attention to what HE taught us in the gospels. So what did your lord and savior have to say about putting sinners to death? Let’s see…John, 8:1-19.
To shorten it to the best of my ability (without taking anything out of context), the Pharisees walked up to Jesus with an adultress and said “Moses in the law commanded that such should be stoned, but what sayest thou?” JESUS answered “He who is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” After they left her alone, in verse 19, he said “Ye neither know me, nor my Father. If ye had known me, ye should have known me Father also.”
Since you probably can’t understand it, what He was saying is that man has no right to do God’s work. It’s called God’s work for a reason. It’s His work, not yours. If you don’t believe it, then why did Jesus say “Judge not, that ye be not judged.” (Matthew, 7:1)? Here’s another quote from Him:
“Ye have heard that it hath been said, ‘Thou shalt love thy neighbor and hate thine enemy.’ But I say unto you, love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you; that ye may be children of you father which art in heaven: for he maketh his sun on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? Do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? Do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” (Matt. 5:43-48)
You said that people think Christians are the bad guys. The only reason for that is people like you. You judge others when it isn’t your place, let alone your business. You talk about tattoos and drinking hurting God’s Temple. Here’s something, If Jesus was against drinking, (preferably in moderation of course) why did he bother to turn water into wine at the wedding in Gailee? If you want to call yourself a Christian, Take what your Lord and Savior had to say into account. I read the Bible for myself because I don’t trust the southern gentleman in the three piece suit wearing the $4,000 pinky ring to tell me about God.
I salute the young man for telling his mother the truth about his sexuality, and I hope when he’s older he finds the love he deserves and lives happily. As many know, one cannot find happiness of they aren’t true to themselves.
And as for creationism, It was 6,000 years ago, the Jews had to write something. If you want to be a better Christian, follow the Ten Commandments, love your enemies, salute your fellow man, regardless of race, creed, color, religion and sexual orientation, and shut up when you don’t know what you’re talking about.

In this particular case my perception is totally different from the other people. I think your son has been brain washed. See I believe you really need to be born gay to be a gay person, you dont only need to feel sexually attracted to people from your same sex but you need to have it in your genes. Your son is very young and is exposed to society in so many ways. I suggest you give your son some time and try to talk to him about sexuality (it would be better if you take him to some professional in this topic so that you wont mess things up).

hi , i’m gay of 33 years old , i had always been gay and no body knows even my parents , i’m happy to live secretly my sexuel orientation , i did not find the need to tell my mother that i’m homosexual juste to make her sad ,

if i were at the place of your boy , i wouldn’t tell you i’m gay , i would rather wait or live my homosexuality entirely without let you know , and if you asked me if i have a girl friend , i shall answer ” i did not find my style momy ”

hope you can accept your son , because he need you to build his self confidence

prevent him to fall in the debauch , it doesn’t mean gays are rooten , we are just need to someone to love and care

i advice to to make a research on google concerning the causes of the homosexuality , you will learn too much amazing facts about this issue

With all due respect to your religious beleifs, that was one of the most ludicrous displays of nonsense I have EVER heard. You refer to science, yet all of your facts are incorrect or invalid. The disease AIDs, (which my religious, and happily married aunt suffers from) originated from a disease called Simian Immuno Deficiency Disorder (no not from people sodimizing primates, when infected animals bit healthy humans) not from homosexual men having intercourse (either). At this point I must sound like a jackass trying to poke holes in a “sinking ship” so to sum it up, brush up on paleontology, (fossil records don’t lie) and I find your statement, “The penis goes into the vagina” very crude and vulgar.

Sincerely,
Some one very concerned about what your mental capacity is.

P.S. How does it feel to be 5 times less intelligent than a high school Freshman?

Like I’ve said before, with all due respect to your religion, you sir (or mam) are ignorant, obviously full of unwarranted hatred, and at this point in time, you are thoroughly irritating me. Both your statements, briefly summed up as, “It’s not okay to be homosexual,” and that homosexuals essentially chose to be hated and shunned by their parents, are based on nothing but your sad little mind vomiting up twisted facts beaten beyond recognition. (That I admitt was a little offending, I’m just trying to get the point across) I’m not familiar with the research behind “The Yeti’s” “Gay Gene” statement, but it seems to me that it’s correct. As the saying goes, “Don’t argue with idiots, they’ll drag you down to their level.”

Wow, you really ARE stupid, I’d like to remind you that you’re equating homosexualality to being possessed by a demon, and you’re proposing that exorcisms should be given to all homosexuals. Your video of a man screaming at a poor teenager about Satan and corruption, (I don’t even speak Spanish, Latin make’s it fairly straight forward to pick up on) was fairly entertaining, I especially enjoyed when he screamed “EL DIABLO!!!” a few times and the kid collapsed.(actor taking a stage fall? Or an overly superstitious person?) The fact that it looked like it took place in a barn kinda gave it away.

Sincerely,
Someone seriously concerned for your mental capacity.

P.S. How does it feel to be 5 times less intelligent than a high school freshman?

That is a sad experience but the suggestion is even worst. Who is YETI? God is the only way out. “Accepting my gay son” what a crack of YETI!!!!
If being a homosexual person is right and exepted as a way of life, then why ther’s a man and woman? why we are not only men or woman? Why man and woman procreate? Why are here to multiply and the only way to do that is being straight. We both need each other to survive and ptocreate. It is that simple. Gay is generic!!!!!! moron, really? babys are born gay? bla bla bla bla. God bless you to.

Don’t chastise your son, or imply that there is something wrong with him, because there isn’t.

He has had the courage to make a decision to tell you something VERY personal to himself and you should be proud of him for trusting you with the news.

You have done nothing wrong, and at the end of the day, you have to stand by his decision.

Your younger sone does not need counselling, but he WILL need support to allow him to develop and an individual. In time you will come to terms with it also. Remember, he still the same boy he has always been, except he’s now heading towards manhood.

You’re right saying he’s still young, and fairly inexperienced, and he may just be ‘testing the sexual waters’ as he’s at the age where teenagers are not yet ready for forge permanent personalities.

Whatever happens, you will continue to love him for who he is, and not what you want him to be and he will always love you.

The parent child bond will be with you for life, so embrace it as much as you can

Well G, A Yeti sums your situation up the best for me. Firstly, he is your son, love him and be there for him. Secondly, nobody has a choice over their sexuallity, you are who you are. Yeah the note would have been a major shock to you. I have to wonder though if you are more concerned about yourself and how your friends and family are going to react. Your son is the some person he was before you read his note. Think of your son and what he is dealing with now and in the future, he has a bit of a road to travel coming out. Do yourself a favour and stop thinking gay sexual acts, dam sure he’s never thought about what you have got up to in the past. He is your son, love him, support him, be there for him. Don’t let him be another suicide satistic.

I don’t know why i was shocked by some of the comments on this page today but I am! Ignorance in 2012 is still shocking. The Bible says “My people perish because of the lack of knowlege”!!!! You say the Bible says and you have no clue what the Bible even says! Don’t use God and the Bible to misrepresent the truth! This is a long long topic and would take too long to go into here but I can tell yoyu that the Bible says NOTHING and Jesus said NOTHING against homosexuality! Jesus named all the other sins one by one but NEVER said anything about Same Sex Love Or Same Sex Marriatge! You’d think if it was wrong HE would have said something at least once! I will tell you this RELIGIOUS people! Jesus never condemed anyone but one perticular type of people, who was it? Hmmmm??? Let me tell you, it was the religious people! It always was! There was anothe time it said in The Bible it was not ment to give the meat (Gods word) to the dogs! Who were the Dogs? The dogs were people who claimed salvation through and by Christ but lived by the law! The law can’t save you! If living by a bunch of laws could save you then Christ came in vain! Jesus did away with the law! remember the rich young ruler? There was one thing he lacked and he went away and wept bitterly, why? Because he tried to live his life by the law! The law and Grace don’t mix! There are only six scriptures in the Bible that mention homosexuality, we call them clobber scriptures! People love to clobber people over the head with The Bible! Please understand this has nothing to do with Homosexuality as we know it today!!!! One you have to know what was going on back in the Bible day during that time! Straight people would have sex with people of the same sex in WORSHIP of the female fertility GODDESS named Phebe! God will accept no worship of other Gods! Also number two words in the Bible in our english do not mean the same thing as they ment back then. We speak modern contemporary english! and Third you can’t read the Bible like a book it doesn’t read that way! Now i’m trying to be short cause I can’t say everything in detail and do it justus here but the Bible says we must rightly devide the word of truth! if everything we read was for us today we would need no devision! Back in the old testiment it says to stone your children for disobediance, stone you if you ate shell fish so on and so on…. thats not for us today! Read your Bible the laws were the laws of MOSES! Not God! Think about it before you get mad at me. Do you think a holy God full of love would ever force people to kill you for eating shell fish or kill a woman after giving birth if she came out of her hose before 90 days? And if you try to debate me be careful there are hundreds more! You are making God a monster! No wonder people don’t want to go to church! Their blood is on your hands! Stop misrepresenting God and his word or trying to play God. The Bible says “Judge Not” it also says to study to be quiet and mind your own business! We can not get by these two scriptures!!!!! No way around it! We have to love everybody! Not hate! The Bible says sin is sin!!!!! NO MATTER WHAT KIND OF SIN IT IS! THERE IS NO BIG OR LITTLE SIN IN GODS EYES!!!! So why uplift and make homosexuality the biggest one in the whole world? Why harp on that one? Have you ever told a lie? Now be careful, harmless or not? Yes you have and maybe one or two a day! “Honey do you like my new dress”? and you think ewwww that things so ugly, but to keep from hurting feelings you say what? Oh yes that looks great…..well let me tell you what your Bible says about that….It says ALL LIERS shall have teir place in Hell fire! Boom! Wow? Thats plain and simple! yet you make Homosexuality the worst! What about alcohole? we dont try to make laws about that and constitutional amendments about that! But yet every day thousands die as a result of alcohole! somethings wrong America!!!! we’ve got a big problem! You need to change the name of your churches and take off Grace Church or Mercy Church cause those are two words that you do not understand! In closing cause I cant get everything in here today but Gay persons let me talk to you a second, Jesus loves YOU!!!! He died for you, He created you just the way you are. The Bible says you are fearfully and wonderfully made! Don’t let anyone tell you God hates you or you are going to Hell for being Gay. The only thing that can send you to Hell is dieing lost without Jesus Christ! Jesus said you must be born again! You can pray this little prayer with me and say Jesus I come to you now just as I am and ask you to forgive my sins and wash me clean. come into my heart as my lord and Savior and i’ll live for you for the rest of my life! Lead me and Guide me in the directions you would have me to go and i now know that I am save! Thank you Lord Jesus. If you prayed that prayer said with your mouth that you confess Christ as your Lord and believe that god has raised Jesus from the dead and the bible says you are saved! Don’t let anyone tell you other wise! Beisng saved is not about laws and rules to follow its about Gods grace and mercy and love!! Love thy neighbor as thyself! You can’t love some one by hating on them. Stop trying to make laws to force your religious tierany on people! God said in his word we are to be spirit led not driven. If God does not take away free will then why are you trying to do something that God doesnt even do? Let God be God! Last note, Jesus said there were three types of Enochs those that were BORN that way, those that were made that way by men and those that were made that way by themselves…. No wait a minute hear what the Scripture is saying…. The definition that the church uses for this word is a casterated child or person….. Well let me tell you what that can not be true by asking a quaestion to you….. How is a baby born casterated???? iT CANT BE! So I’ll leave you with that…… If you are truly saved you will study and research and pray to get to the truth! Stop believing everything you’ve been taught and study for yourself! Syudy to be quiet and to mind your own business! That pretty much says it all! May God bless you all and it is my hope that all of you would come to the knowlege of God’s truth and love but I know all of you won’t! Some of you will reply with nasty messages and then my friend we will all know the truth about you that you are the DOG God was talking about because you confuse Grace with the law! If anyone has any questions please email me at info@mywebn.com . Our website is www.mywebn.com. Thanks for reading, Yours in Christ, Pastor Scott Flippo

Well I’m bisexual my mother is fine with it I new at a younger age that I like girls .. There is nothing wrong with that and be thank full he’s gay and not dying because of cancer there’s worse things out there than being cute love is love no matter what sex its with

its better to accept it and love ur son as before… u can not change your son… you have to be frind white him.. then u will be the best father in the World for ur son… i live in IRAN the country thant goverment KILL the gays and do NOT accept them…. but my father accept me as a gay and i love him. now… so many abuse treats may happen… but when a good Dad is behind me.. i feell good… You have to accept GAY and do not scare of anyting(that)
Wish the best things For U and Ur Son..

Being a father of 7 and having a gay brother and also having friends who struggle with homosexuality gives me a bit of a different perspective. I’m also a Christian pastor, so my faith obviously colors my convictions and beliefs to a significant degree.

Mom, I completely understand your heart and your concerns for your son. He is struggling and you’re the mom. Moms are supposed to help kids when they struggle. And you CAN! But, not by shaming him or making him to feel like a disappointment to you. He was honest about his struggle with having a same sex attraction. That took a lot of courage for your son to do. How about if you do the same. How about you share with him your honest, deep concerns for him. Not from a position of judgment and not from a critical spirit. Just a mom telling her kid how deeply she loves him and how she longs to see him be the man he was designed to me. You don’t want him to get hurt. You don’t want to see him struggle, etc. etc. Then, he’ll better understand you love him unconditionally, and that you’re concerns about his admission is birthed, not from a posture of shame and guilt, rather it comes from a posture of deep love and concern for your son. Make sure he understands that your love for him is completely unconditional. You love him the same whether he is straight, gay, confused, sad, happy, mean, silent, hyper, disrespectful, etc. You love him because he’s your son, NOT because of what he does or doesn’t do. And, apologize for not responding to this the way you should have. Does that make sense?

Next, for those of you misguided bible thumping, pharisees… The bible has MUCH to say about sin. It also has much to say about the consequences of sin and what happens to people when they die, both those who repent and those who don’t. But, let’s not mis-quote the bible. Mis-using the bible is dishonorable to God, damaging to people, and ultimately, destructive to God’s sovereign plan of redemption.

Does God hate the homosexuals? If you listen to Fred Phelps (the whackjob in Kansas that pickets soldiers funerals and proclaims that God hates fags), then yes, God hates fags. There are lots of Fred Phelps’ out there wielding their heretical views of the bible, and misrepresenting God’s heart. Listen, God doesn’t hate “fags” anymore or less than he hates teachers or lawyers or pastors or stay at home moms or pilots or doctors. God doesn’t “hate” people. What He abhors is sin. And before we go throwing our stones and shooting our arrows, let’s make sure we’re on the same page here. Sin is sin is sin is sin. My sin is not better or worse than your sin. The sin of a critical heart, a bitter spirit, being lazy, coveting, gluttony, etc are sin just like murder is sin. But hold on here, remember when Jesus said that the man who looks lustfully at a woman has sinned just as bad as the man who actually cheats on his wife? Adultery is not just a sin of commission, where a man has sex with a woman other than his wife. A man (or woman) sins, even when he only “thinks” about and looks lustfully at another woman, or another man. The sin isn’t just the action, it’s the posture and offense which starts in the heart. That’s why Jesus said that if you hate a man, you’re guilty of murder. Hatred in our hearts is a nasty sin just like murder is. Both belittle God and expose our wicked and sinful hearts. I see a lot of preachers on TV pointing their big fat religious finger at people and condemning all kinds of obvious sins (you know, like lying, stealing, smoking, doing drugs, drinking, having sex, etc), yet they never mention the sin of gluttony and the sin of not exhibiting the fruit of self control, which they conveniently fail to mention each Sunday when hundreds and thousands of people see that they are 50, or 60, or 100 pounds overweight. Doesn’t God care about that too? Isn’t being a glutton and being overweight just as sinful as being a thief or an adulterer? Read the bible. They carry equal weight before a holy and just God. The consequences are different, but God’s heart is equally grieved by someone who has made food their god as He is about someone who has made cocaine their god.

Where does same sex attraction come from? There are a wealth of books documenting scientific and medical studies on this topic. There are lots of books in the Christian book store on this topic as well. And as you know, people have very deep convictions/judgements/beliefs about this. Who’s right, who’s wrong?

I don’t know. But what I DO know is this. Every human being is born with a wicked and deceitful heart. We do not teach our kids to be selfish or stubborn. They come out of the womb with this bent. Kids are not born “good” as so many attest. Kids are born sinful, with hearts bent on disobedience and rebellion. I had an alcoholic mother and father. I was conceived while both of my parents were heavily liquored up. I have 2 brothers who have committed suicide. Several uncles who died from drinking. I don’t drink myself. I used to when I was in high school. But no more. I don’t do drugs either. But, I’m selfish. I’m prideful. I’m lustful. I covet things that aren’t mine. I’m often times discontent with my surroundings. So, what’s my point? My point is this – people are born with all kinds of sinful bents. Could a kid be born “gay”. I’d say a kid could be born having an attraction for the same sex, much like a kid could be born with a propensity to drink, or smoke, or be fat, or lazy, or chemically imbalanced, etc.

I strongly believe that engaging in sex with someone of the same gender is sinful. I believe lying is sinful. I believe drunkenness is sinful. I believe being ungrateful is sinful. I believe having a bitter heart is sinful. I believe having unforgiveness towards another is sinful.

We are ALL sinful and many of us have certain propensities towards sinful things. But, struggling with sin and wrestling with it, is not sin. Acting on it is sin.

God knows our heats. He knows our desires. He created us, so He, better than anyone, knows us inside and out. He is compassionate and patient. But, He is also holy and just. He cannot turn a blind eye to sin, as we so often do. If He were to do that, He would cease to be holy and righteous and perfect.

He doesn’t turn a blind eye to sin. He offers grace and mercy and forgiveness to those who repent of their sins and believe that Jesus is the only One who can make us right with God.

To the mom who wrote the original letter….I’d encourage you to call Focus on the Family and ask them for the name of a Christian counselor in your area. Set up an appointment to talk to someone who can help you navigate your way through this season. There ARE tools available for you. There are also great resources available for your son. Before he just blindly chooses to practice this lifestyle, challenge him to think about it, in light of God, the Bible, eternity, pro-creation, etc. Don’t offer easy answers. There are none. Offer to walk through this with him. Learn together.

A few books that I think will help you are The Bondage Breaker by Neil Anderson, His Image, My Image by my friend Josh McDowell, Inside Out by Dr. Larry Crabb, Desires In Conflict by Joe Dallas…just to name a few. You might also check out Exodus International.

My heart is heavy. I wish I could share all of what I’m thinking. I wish you, your son, A Yeti, and all those who’ve posted in response to your letter, could all sit down together and hear God’s heart about this. I think we’d all walk away with a much different perspective.

Don’t give up. Your son is far too precious. And God is much too worthy.

I disagree no matter what the bible says, whether I’m Christian or not if you are gay then so be it. Nobody should care whether he is straight or gay. Nobody can change that but him. How would you feel if somebody cried in front of you after they found out you were gay? That’s how he feels now and he can’t let anything effect they way he feels and believes.

Where is this young mans father! Conspicuously absent, and not a word was spoken about it because its OK today to be a dead beat dad too! Yea, lets beat the crap out of dear old mom for being an ignorant old fashoned fuddy duddy. Is this letter really a cry for help because he is a fatherless child? Is this the real elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about?

A lot of you people need to be more open minded. I’m a christian, and I would never think of treating someone who is gay differently. It is not a decision for someone to be gay, neither is it a sin. God made that young man exactly the way he wants him to be, and he loves him just the way he is. It takes a lot of character for him to stay true to himself, and his mother needs to accept him for him, or she could damage their relationship forever.

You clearly do not understand the concept of unconditional love. The bible and religious teachings are supposed to be about being a good person and embracing others, not condemning them to hell or judging them as if you were God himself.

Whoa. Okay. Can we PLEASE all just calm down?
First and foremost- those of you who posted hateful comments towards those who are not heterosexual: WORDS HURT. You are most definitely allowed to have your opinions and beliefs, but there are others who are Gay, Lesbian, Trans, Pans, Bi, Ace, and all other sexualities who can find this website, read your comments, and be hurt by your words.
Second- those of you who supported the gay 14 year old that was the topic of the letter, good for you, but the same thing goes for you that goes for those that posted hateful comments: anyone can read your comments and be hurt hy them, especially the mother, who is obviously very distraught and unsure of how to react to her son’s sexuality. However, I will admit that her reaction was unneccessary.
I personally believe that a person can indeed be born gay, or lesbian, or any other sexuality. I also believe they have a choice, and that choice is whether or not they accept it. The boy should be proud of himself for accepting his own sexuality, and, even if his mother is not, I can truthfully say that there are a lot of people who are proud of him for being brave enough to announce his own sexuality to his family.

dear G,
I’m not really good in English but let me express how i feel about your letter and your story. your son is on adolescent stage, maybe he never know what it means to be a gay. he is a Gods master piece as you are, being a gay is not a crime or sin… in not a choice but an orientation. all you have to do is to guide him and be the best parent for him, teach him a good values, teach him to love his self, teach him to love his neighbor, teach him to dream, teach him to hope, and teach him to have faith in our almighty God. i think those advice will take him in to right path of life and will makes Him better person than a real man. God bless you Mrs. G

Don’t say shit about the bible because its fucking written by man and this pisses me off how people want to follow every single word. man kind will always have flaws. we can agree or disagree on whether we follow them or not. a decision is a decision. I do not believe that people are born gay but with that being said who cares if the end up gay. if you love someone and they make you happy then be with them. male or female. just do what makes you happy. as a mother you should always want your child happy. and if your child wants men to make him happy then don’t fucking ruin it for him. he will always be gay. nothing you can do. quit whining about your morals and how YOU feel because its not about you. family is there for love and support so just shut your mouth unless its supportive toward the decision. being a parent I would think you would know this by now but no. a straight nineteen year old here seems to be a little more mature than a mother that cant support her son. some of the people on this world make me sick. best wishes to your son. I hope he can forgive you in the future.

I am 33yrs old and a mother of 2 girls. My girls are not at that age to understand the whole being homosexual thing. But what I do know is that I will always have their backs no matter who they decide to love. My job is to love them and support them. but good for you young man for speaking up and say what you feel. We are nobody to judge anyone else. we need to worry about the sins that we ourselves commit and ask for forgiveness instead of worrying about others decisions! IT”S CALLED LOVE AND RESPECT!!!

Hi,
Just a little FYI to a lot of people on this subject…I have one child. A boy. When my son was 15 he told me over the phone that he was Gay. I did not Cry, I was silent and thought about things Before I opened my mouth.

To take into consideration of how my reaction was going to affect him. Yes I said that Him not ME! The only thing that it has to do with me is I was the one that gave birth to him. Am I Catholic you say? YES! Maybe this is hard for some to understand. For every religion there is a certain path they need to follow, But in REALITY the path is what your son makes of it and just because someone of a Religion says it’s not right??? Well lets just say close mindedness creates a monster and you WILL Lose your son forever.

This is his choice not yours. How does this really affect you and the love you had for your son before he told you? Do you love what you and another created any less than before you got the letter? I guess I am trying to say, Most parents are supportive of their children. That is why they might choose to tell use things that might not sit well. But you adjust to the situation and your feelings do not change for your young.

In regards to the genetics part of this. There maybe some truth to it. My sons father’s brother is Gay. I think it would be interesting to do a thesis on the subject, but until then listen to your heart and cherish that your son believes in you so much he told you something that some take to the grave with them.

I agree with the “ask yeti” and The first reply!!!! I cannot believe some of the replies on this subject. Those who think that “its the spirit of homosexualisim” you should be ashamed of yourself and may I ask what rock you climbed out from? Homosexuality is not an abomination, it is not wrong, or untaught in the bible, however a lot of people see homosexuality as a sin, when really the only sin in homosexuality is people who damn people that are Gay,transgendered, lesbian, or bisexual. I believe when parents break down because a child comes out they break because they are straight and could NEVER understand what it means to be gay. I myself am a 35 year old mother of two and I myself am Gay, When I came out to my mother some odd 12 years ago she couldn’t believe it however she wasn’t shocked. I got the reply “your not gay, you have no signs of being gay” HOWEVER I WAS JUST LIKE THIS 14 YEAR OLD BOY, I WAS ASHAMED TO BE SO DIFFERENT. However I did not choose to be so different, but after some time my mother realized that I was telling the truth, When I had relationship after relationship with men and they all failed because I just simply wasn’t in it, I had a longing that I couldn’t ignore. She welcomes me with open arms and accepts me for who I am and I hope this boy’s mother will get there some day. The worst feeling is knowing your gay and your family not accepting or believing you. I am now Married to my soul mate and I could not feel better, I am who I am, and for those who can’t accept it are the ones that need counceling.

WTG!!!! T.B. your reply makes me so proud. I am a 35 year old GAY woman myself and from your comment I hear a very grown 15 year old I hope that all these comments show this mother how much acceptance and how much evil there is in this world, and hopefull she will not be futher “brainwashed” (as she said) with evil..

Mandy let me guess you live in a little house out on the prairie. Where the woman is property of the man. It is you wifely duty to summit to your husbands sexual advances. You where close of only one fiber, never work on Sunday, and have never eaten shellfish. I guess also you think it is ok to own a slave as long as they are from a different county (Canada excluded but Mexican ok). I also suppose you don’t allow you family to play football or wear work gloves because the flesh of the pig is unholy. Just thought that you might appreciate some serotypes. I all reality you probably are sitting at the kitchen table this morning in you poly-cotton blend MoMo having your eggs and bacon so you can get ready to go to the church Sunday BBQ where they are having shrimp and ham. Then you will come home and hurry up and take out your bake beans so you and your family can watch the football game. Or maybe you are doing none of this because you have to WORK to feed your family. You can’t pick and choose what you follow from the bible. If you follow it do it! Also I think it said somewhere in that ancient book written by man with the “inspiration” of god thou shall not judge thy neighbor. Looks like you are not going to enter those gates either Mandy!

Hi …G… foolish, hurtful, cowardly and vicious … G
But honestly G, mainly you’re just a selfish, self centred nasty piece of work, who should never have accepted the responsibility of having children. You have a hurting, vulnerable child struggling with some major issues, not least of which is poor parenting, and you only think of yourself.
I am drunk right now as i write this… and have made spelling and grammatical errors as a result of drinking and a short education, but i can’t help but notice that the written abilities generally displayed by the idiots condemning your brave child are wonderful indicators of how intelligent you and your narrowminded supporters are.
Good luck to the young gay man who commented, i hope your parents weren’t as moronic as this fellow’s

I’m gay, and came out when I was 21 years old. I had a very difficult time when I was a teenager. Being raised catholic and going to church every sunday I didn’t accept my sexuality. In our house no one spoke about sex or sexuality, let alone homosexuality. I had tried to push myself into believing that if I’d find the right glrl it would all get better. I had a few girlfriends. But I can tell you the feeling didn’t go away. It’s then when I realized sexuality is not a choice, religion at the other hand is. You don’t get to choose if you are attracted to blond or dark haired, big or small, gay or straight people, but you do get to choose to believe in God, Alah, Budha, reincarnation, heaven, nothing etc, etc. I chose to believe in myself. And you know what? when I came out to my parents they accepted me as I am. I’m soon to be married to my boyfriend, we have a lovely home, good jobs, great friends as well as a lovely family who supports us in every way. So if your 14 year old son says he’s gay please give him a big hug and a kiss, tell him you love him and let him choose his own path.

While I have never had an issue with gay people I have an issue with this statement, I have a twin that is gay and I am not. I have been in a hetro relationship for 12 years ^_^

There probably is some truth to the sexual orientation and genetics however I do not think that this would be the same for everyone.

“In a quick review on recent studies done on biology and sexual orientation it’s pretty easy to conclude that homosexuality is genetic. To understand this best imagine two sets of twins one set identical (same DNA) one set fraternal (different DNA). The identical twins if one is gay or straight the other is too, they are the same.”

Wow, i did just read all these comments, and i think allmost all of you need to go and look for some help. If a 14 year old boy tells him mother that he is gay, is’t that great, i think every mother wants her child to be honest, and if this boy is telling that he is gay, the you have been done a great job, becuse he is honest with you. And to all you biblepersons, jesus that that we shuld all love all, and dont think les of someone just becuse they were not as you…

I’m a Christian and I have a lot of friends who are gay. I personally have no qualms with them. Most of them have read the Bible and know they arent going to Heaven. I think that as long as they know that they wont be accepted into Heaven, then let them live their lives. Trust me! I have a friend who was bi and ran away from home becasue she was bi; your son will become really rebellious unless you prove that you’re there for him at all times!!!
B.N.J.

God I’m getting so tired of hearing people say being gay is a choice.
1) If you can tell someone is gay most of the time, if they have characteristics of a typical gay, how are you going to accept that similarities between so many and then deny the fact that they are probaby biologically the same and different from the normal?
2) If there is a choice, it’s a choice of either living a lie, ending up alone and a virgin forever, or being happy. Is there really even a choice here?
3) And this one is going to be graphic, but I feel it’s
so vital to my point. HOW ARE YOU GOING TO DECIDE WHO YOU GET A BONER FROM? Seriously, that’s not a choice (and obviously same for girls but who you get wet from I guess). It’s not the person, it’s their body. Their body has a natural sexual response towards the same sex, how are you going to say that’s a decision? It’s obviously not.

Also, obvviously being gay is more then about who your body is sexually attarcted too, it’s about love also and who your body releases those love hormones for, but you can’t deny that there is a sex aspect to SEXuality

Jesus loves the sinner, hates the sin.
For example, if you did not accept the fact that your son loves to hurt people… Does that mean you do not love your son? Of course not. You just don’t accept his actions. In the same way, homosexuality is a sin. Not accepting it does not mean you do not love your child.. You just don’t accept the sin.
Homosexuality is like any other sin. The sinner needs to be freed from it, repent of it, and Jesus will forgive and save.

Your gay son have decided to show you who he really is, Let him show it to everyone, if you dont want ur son end up hanging himself in a rope, since you cannot accept the real him,.. Let him be happy, thats the real meaning of life on earth..HAPPINESS..

Ok, not even sure why this site was on my computer today in the first place but I decided to read it anyways. I was shocked and outraged by what you wrote. Not trying to be rude to you at all but you are one selfish individual. If your son is gay, thats absolutely fine. Its his life to live, and whatever he feels and thinks is completely up to him. The only reason I feel bad for him is cause he has a parent like you!! And where did you go wrong???? haha I cant even believe you would write that. This is how he feels. It has NOTHING to do with parenting. I think you need to go ahead and get yourself some therapy!!! Let your son live his own life. This isnt the 1900 anymore!!

Mandy, you wrote: “Totally disagree… yes we should love our children regardless but this makes it sound like 1. Being gay is ok and 2. You can be born like this!!!! Neither is true!!! The parent has done nothing wrong but should counsel the child on what the Bible says! ” A homosexual WILL NOT enter the kingdom of God” do agree. Homosexuals will not enter the Kingdom of God. ”
I totally agree with you.

My brother is a doctor, he made some research in this feild.
Some kids may show soft tendency, as their female hormons are a bit to the higher level, however that doesnt make them gay, its the community that he lives in may influence it badly, like bad friends, a brother calling names every time.
Becoming gay:
The kid gets seduced by some evil kids or men, then he ends up going wrong with an excited sensitve membrane inside his Colon, which will have the same effect as if you have a sensitive skin somewhere, it keeps itching. Colon is not designed for foriegn objects to get in there. By tim, it calls for change in hormons, so he ends up with even more of female hormons.
Cure:
The patient should be councelled against it, and made to understand process above, and “no” its not natural to be a gay.
I know many people, that were framed, and now they have cured and becoming straight people, with a wife and kids.
I am not a christian but I can tell you, you are the people of the book and to it you shall refer.
For Yeti, please stop making fun of religions and people’s beleives, you know its wrong within you, and one day you shall be asked about every word you said and you will carry the burdon of others that you have driven astray.

@Ivy
There was one clever person, but the moralfags xD
Such idiots
I’m a straight male and personally, see nothing whatsoever wrong with homosexuality.
It’s not a choice or disease. You are or aren’t. It’s still human to human contact.
I was a bit disgusted on some of the people opinions on this like “you’re making it seem like homosexuality is not a choice which is not true” and referring to them as ‘the gay people’ does make me feel like you are a bad person
But you just need to accept that he is a homosexual and that it wasn’t his choice, nor was he ‘brainwashed’.

I know you love your son or you would not have written this letter, but I will tell you after having worked with the LGBT community for over 20 years, what is vitally important is that your children know that you love them – unconditionally. I see all too often people who have lost their families after coming out. Do not let that happen. Know parent likes all that their children do – gay or straight – but being a supportive parent to be a support to them in life will help them. The advice given by the Yeti is solid advice.

I’m a born again Christian – Evangelical. I would tell you any reparative therapy group or ex-gay group would be harmful. They simply do not work which is why their parent organization has gone out of business. After 40 years they president of the ex-gay group agreed – it doesn’t work. Sadly, after 40 yrs they have left a lot of people on the roadside broken and have done nothing to help them bind their wounds. As an Evangelical Christian – I’ve learned the bible does not condemn your son nor homosexuality. In ever case that is used by the church against homosexuality – it had to do with rape, pagen worship, or idolatry. Not one instance has to do with same sex loving relationships. You just will not find it.

There are many evangelical who are gay affirming and supportive and have not bought into the lie of some Christian who claim homosexuals are going to hell. People do not go to hell for being gay. They go to hell for not accepting Jesus as their savior.

Check out this group: The Evangelical Network – www.theevangelicalnetwork.net

I would just like to point out first of all that there seems to be a correlation between those who have the atrocious spelling and grammar being pro Christian and anti-gay, and I just think that that’s really funny.

Secondly. I recently attended my cousin’s wedding in Toronto, Canada. She is Lesbian. The woman she married is truly a spectacular person and a real asset to welcome into our family. Everyone at the wedding was crying when we were listening to all the speeches given. I work as a video editor for a small wedding videography studio, I see dozens of speeches in a summer. Let me just say, I have never seen so many emotions at any straight couple’s wedding as I saw at my cousin’s. Everyone was just so unbelievably elated that Sarah and Katie were declaring their commitment to one another. It’s really a beautiful thing to see two people who love each other so much make this type of commitment. The point is, the U.S. is SO BACKWARDS when it comes to this subject. All the other western countries are sitting back and wondering what the hell is wrong with America, why are they so dumb? Two people loving each other, whatever gender they may be, is a beautiful thing. Not a “sin”.
God created man in his image and likeness, and God is all in all. How could God create mankind and make ANY mistakes? Has it occurred to any of you Bible lovers that perhaps God’s plan is too magnificent, too incredible, for you to understand? And that when God creates a gay man, or a lesbian woman, or a bisexual, or whatever, that there is a reason? And that your puny human mind has no real hope of understanding that reason? If you are a true Christian, you understand that God’s plan is his and his alone, and you have no say in the matter, other than to accept or reject it. If you choose to reject it, that’s your choice, but you’re just going to make yourself miserable when you realize on your death bed that you lived your life hating someone just because they were made in a different way than you were, which probably means you’ll not be getting into Heaven.

I would also like to say, yes there is scientific evidence that homosexuality is genetic. As the Yeti mentioned, identical twins share the same genetic code and therefore are likely to either both be straight or both be gay or both be bisexual or whatever orientation. BUT there is also the choice factor. My cousin Sarah made the choice to love Katie. Katie was born into the Lesbian section of the human race, but Sarah made the choice to join it. And there’s not a damn thing wrong with that choice. These women are my family and they are loved.

To the mother of the young man who is gay: the choice is yours. Are you going to love him no matter what as you said you did? Or are you going to make exceptions? It’s up to you. God made your son through you and his father. Are you going to try and say God was wrong? Or are you going to grow up and realize, your son is perfect just the way he is?

Like Jesus said on the cross…”Forgive them for they know not what they do”. Love him, but hate the sin!!! Stick to your guns, and don’t condone it. Love and continue to pray for him, allow him to come and see you as usual, but keep the partner away. That’s what i would do. Bless you!
Tait

Get a f”ing grip. He has differnet taste to you. If he longed for impressionisism and you longed for modern British would you weep? Hell no, so pull yourself together, hug your boy, and tell him you support his choices…

Please read the bible…..It says that a man shall not lay with another man…..(same for women) Therefore we as Christians are not judging we are following Gods word and praying for these individuals. God does not make mistakes….Therefore this is NOT a genetic thing, this is a person thing trying to make it ok in their own minds. The more we turn away from God the more immoral this country gets. God Bless Us All

Why do people find it so hard to accept people who are gay?! The only differences between heterosexual and homosexual relationships are biological. How does your son’s sexual orientation change anything about him? Or his personality? Or his relationship with his family and friends? It changes nothing. And people expect homosexuals to come out of the “closet” an tell others their sexual orientation… Do heterosexual people tell their family and friends they are straight? No. Times are changing and the people need to change with them. This society sucks.

Having a gay son may be hard for you to accept but when u have a child u have to love him or her unconditionally and that means accepting him no matter what he is and who he likes. When he see you crying inside he is crying. No child wants their parents to try and change them because they will feel unworthy which leads to depression. What will happen after u take him to counseling and it doesn’t work? Would you continue to do so after it doesn’t work or until he either 1. Lie to you and hide his life style or 2.kill himself because he doesn’t live his life up to your standards. It may be hard for you to understand him right now but the thing you do not want to do is turn your back on him. I would rather go through this any day then to bury my heartbroken son in the grave because I felt to listen. Wouldn’t you?

You should accept your son for who he is. He chose who he wanted to be just accept that. You don’t need to send him to counciling just take him for who he is. Just accept it whether he likes girls or not he still loves you.

As an evangelical christian, and a person, I have to disagree with the fact that gay children/teens/adults were born that way. It is definitely not genetic, but a spirit of sin that is taking control over said person. I am not God, nor am i judging anyone for choosing their sexual orientation, but there is a reason God made Adam and Eve, a woman and a man. This is just my honest opinion on the matter of a 14 year old child, who knows nothing of love, telling their mother of their sexual preference.

I really cannot fall for this idea that homosexuality is a genetic trait. I am not a scientist, but I do possess a fair amount of knowledge regarding genetics and genetic traits, and I also possess a good amount of common sense. Here is my argument. If sexual orientation is something that is passed down from our ancestors in their genetic code, then ultimately it does not make sense that the genetic trait would survive, and now be flourishing. The reasoning is simple. Evolution teaches survival of the fittest, if a genetic trait is weak, or cannot be carried on, then ultimately is will cease to exist. If sexual orientation is a genetic trait, then it would have to follow that homosexuality would have long ago ceased, because people that are homosexual cannot reproduce through homosexual intercourse. Therefore the genetic trait could not be carried on to off spring. In today’s time it is possible for homosexual couples to have children as long as they do it through heterosexual methods for example a homosexual man could provide his sperm to a woman, in order for her to become pregnant. However, this process is currently possible, but when humans were first evolved this process was not present. Therefore, there would have been no method of reproducing the genetic trait, unless sexual intercourse between a homosexual individual and another homosexual individual of opposite sexes took place. However, this seems very unlikely, because after all homosexual means that you are sexually attracted to your own sex. And it seems further impossible that early humans would have done this process on purpose, because they would not have had the knowledge to know what they were doing. In the end, since evolution basically revolves around survival of the fittest, it does not make sense that the homosexual genetic trait would still be in existence today.

And where does it say this in the bible. Please tell me (and be prepared to defend it) Being gay is ok. Judging others and condeming them is whats wrong. You are a fake christian. Wanting to believe you follow the word of god but just go around judging others. Worry about yourself, because i am P-o-s-i-t-i-v-e you have sins in your life that you have convienently swept under the carpet. If you want to follow gods message then love and except all.

OMG! I am a mother of 3 children and yes I may be a little taken back if one of my children came out and said they were gay but u know what they are all my children and I would except their decision! All I want if for them to be happy and that is what u should want for your son and except him for him, and yes you need to be telling him about safe sex no matter what his sexual preference is. He loves u and trusts u enough to tell u so why don’t u except him for the great young man he is! And as far as “good moral values ” go who says your son doesn’t have them just because he chooses to be gay. Be the support he needs and except embrace for the person he is, because just how he chose to be gay, he can choose to not have u in his life.

Hi I’m Eddy. i know this post is old but to be honest about this topic, im not a supporter of the gays but i am a supporter of human kind and its hard to accept n deal with a situation as delicate as this. i use to always wonder how i would react if my daughter or son told me they were gay. Would i snap, throw them out my house, disown them? i didnt know until i pondered on it and i came to my conclusion that i love my children more then life its self n no matter what they do or what they are matters none to me. theyre a piece of me n if they prefer the same gender then ill support them all the way, right or wrong, good or bad. theyre my babies n always will be. i learned this from my mother. i was nothing but a scre up n gang member all my child hood. im 26 yrs old n been in jail since i was 15. ive been out of prison 2 yrs. but every time i did something wrong or in trouble with the law, to my mom i was an angel never wrong even if she knew i was wrong. my loving n caring mom always supported me no matter what, n to those parents that cry when their kids confront u n tell u theyre gay n u react in the negative way, im sorry to say, shame on u. remember theyre your babies before they r anything else. PLEASE REMEMBER THAT!!!!!!! n if u r worried about what other people say or friends n family, DON’T!!! Real family n friends will be supportive n if not then ur friends arent real friends. BEING GAY IS NOT A SICKENESS SO DONT TRY TO TREAT IT. can u treat how women like men n men like women? No!!! Why?……Because it comes naturally right. If u read this please take it into consideration. n for current n future parents, if ur child is still young,prepare yourself for the possibility that your child might grow up n prefer the same sex n dont make them afraid to approach u about how they feel.

Actually, if you’re a Christian, then homosexuality is just another sin. You can get accepted into heaven if you’re a sinner, and if you couldn’t, we would all be burning in hell right now. It’s not like he murdered anyone.

Dear G:
1.You are a whore!
2.Leave your son alone – his sexual preference is none of your business.
3.”God” does not exist, and if he did, I would never worship him if he could turn his back on someone, simply because they chose a different path to happiness than he would wish for them.
4.It is your son’s life, and ONLY your son’s life. Let him live it.
5.You are a whore!

I do not know why this morning my browser was sitting on this page, but reading through the story, the yeti’s reply and then all the comments stirred up my emotions. I cried at the yeti’s answered agreed with those people with acceptance and intellectual growth. But those people how have a limit approach of acceptance because of a book and heritage drives me crazy. Do not look at a book for the answers to life. Look at life itself. GOD as state create all living things and within the living world love is not a sexual act. Love is universal acceptance between all living things. In Isaiah 11:1-6 “And the wolf will dwell with the lamb, And the leopard will lie down with the kid, And the calf and the young lion and the fatling together; And a little boy will lead them.” This describe love between different living creates that in human eyes have no right to be with each other. Love is universal, embrace it, regardless of the members involved.

Let me just point out that Mandy’s comment leads me to believe that the plague which is bigotry in our society is still alive and well; however, the mental retardation of Mandy, illustrated in her comment, also leads me to believe that this country has yet to deal with the mental health of folks like her.

Mandy claims that being a homosexual is not ok. Being a bigot isn’t ok either and she plays that part really well! To back up her retard argument with some “supporting evidence” she decides to turn to a misquoted yet fairly good representation of a biblical passage concerning homosexuality.

If folks like Mandy are in Heaven then I’m on the next flight, first-class to Hell as it sounds like Heaven’s has some demons heading up its way soon (Mandy = Demon).

Mandy, once again displaying her lack of understanding proven concepts has decided to ignore results of testing that shows that homosexuals wouldn’t just choose, out of the blue, to be homosexuals and deal with mental retardation patients like Mandy? Who would choose that life?! I know perfect Mandy would not.

People like Mandy should put a bible down and pick up a work of non-fiction or else I can make a strong case for the “resurrection” of lobotomies.

I am a 50 year old male. I was raised in a strict southern Baptist home, became a Christian around 14 years old. I was raised to beleive what the bible said, take it on faith and never question it. God’s word is the final athority. I was Married when I was 20 years old and eventualy we had two children. We went to church and did al the things that two adult Christians are suposed to do.
I prayed very hard all those years for God to change me and take away the feelings because I knew they were wrong and I knew he could, I had faith! But he never did. It took me years of prayers to finally understand that he had already given me a plan but I wasn’t listening. I was trying to make Society, my family, friends, and my church happy by doing what they all thought was the right thing. They were all happy with the fantacy that was going on but my wife and I was miserable. it also caused years of hurt down the road for my children and I.
For those People who say God don’t make a person Gay! I say this. You don’t know what your talking about untill you have walked in that persons shoes. All I ever remember as a child growing up was and attraction to men. There was never anything there tor a woman. No matter how hard I prayed and wanted it to be that way. It would be like trying to change you to Gay! Just think about it and consider how impossible that seems to you. Try to have an open mind that Maybe, Just Maybe you could be wrong about something!

Ignorant asses always hiding behind religion!!! I am Catholic. I believe God created ALL of us. Being homosexual is not some perverse choice. Stop hiding behind the bible and do some research. It is genetic, in most cases. I cannot accept that the gracious God I believe in would close the gates of heaven on someone who has lived life as a good person simply because of their sexual orientation. I am a straight, married man with children of my own. Should it happen that one day either of them tells me they are homosexual, I will not look at them as if something is wrong with them. I have homosexual relatives and friends and treat every single one as a person, not as some sexual deviant. The times are changing and ripple who are gay no longer have to hide away. Deal with it!!!

In the grounds of fairness and logic. A human is free to do as he/she pleases with his/her life. Yes our social stigmas have taught us to look at the uncommon as something that presents danger,but it is not more than an irrational fear. For Christians, I believe what your own god has told you in the bible is to love and understand everyone just to fill this world with love and comprehension, then why hate a man who wants to be the way he is? why to stop the destiny that god or science have determine for this kid? who are we to determine what is good or not for him? If love is sincere and truthful from a human it breaks all types of obstacles and taboos that society has created. Christianity or science do not have anything to do with this sincerely. It is about the right thing to do , which is to let the guy decide his own destiny as a sentient being. If you sincerely expect to have an opinion about ethics and understand what this boy is going through I think is important for people to start informing themselves more about what true science and religion is about. Thank you.

There is a story behind every gay persons choice to be gay. An environmental factor has caused him or her to make that choice. And until homosexuals are willing to come out and admit to the cause or causes behind their choice homosexuality will multiply exponentially. As a society we must admit that sexual deviancy is a huge problem in gay society and many young boys and men are victims of those unnatural desires. By saying you we’re born gay and not coming forth with information on the real causes could very well doom many other children and young adults to the same fate. This organized cover up of the real causes of homosexuality must stop. Our children deserve the right to a normal life, being gay will never be the norm, ever.

Being gay is perfectly normal. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with it. What is wrong, however, is acting like you are a victim and flattering yourself by being incredibly selfish. Oh, what did I do wrong? ME,ME, ME,ME, Me!! It’s pathetic! As his mother, you should be worrying about him—genuinely worrying lovingly about things not having to do with his sexual orientation—things like his education, his health, etc, not judging the fact that he’s gay. Being gay is something he did not choose. No one chose their sexual orientation.
You did nothing wrong to “make him gay” like some people say. However, you are doing wrong by putting down gay individuals and by, for even a nanosecond, thinking of your son as inferior, which you obviously did. I don’t know what kind of values you were taught, but if I had children, I’d NEVER teach them “values” like that. I was raised in a very strict Christian household and was basically taught to hate anyone who wasn’t white and Christian. My family are extremely racist, I am not. They hate gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender individuals, but i am not like that. Just because someone was raised a certain way, does not mean they have to stay that way. Someone’s gender identity and/or sexual orientation is not defined by their up- bringing. I’ve babbled on and probably repeated the same things several times, but I am VERY passionate concerning this subject.

i totally disagree with u you is a unaceptable idiot that cannot accept your son for who he is you r not ready for moltherhood lets say it was you wat would you say then stupid you r wrong for disowning uuuur son like that u r the type of people that should not be on this earth you r a nonunderstanding mother i am bisexual tell your self u r bullying you son like that please stop diowning your son oh and tell his brother to accept his brother for me please hey kid u r not the only one affraid to tell ur parents wat u r u r a brave kid for telling ur mom i will tell my mom to thanks bro but ur mom is mean isnt she

ivy i dont like that comment it may be a sin in your eyes but my whole family is bisexual meaning likeing both if he wants to make that sin he dose you can not stop him from that get over your self wat if you were like him wat would u have 2 say then think on that for a while write when you can

My 19 year old son is gay….Funny, I knew it when he was about 3 or 4. I was raised Catholic but realized a while ago that those teachings only went so far. When my son was born, my parents were dead already from awful circumstances. They could not see how beautiful this baby was. How could I not love my son unconditionally. He is my flesh and blood. His being gay was so small of an issue. You should be ashamed of yourself for feeling that you could reject him for being gay! This world is a shithole sometimes and family is the only thing that makes it worthwhile. If you dont believe it then you never should of had children in the first place. You are going to hell for not loving him unconditionally. I hope I could be there when God asks you why you would let something as trivial as being gay make you disown your own son! I would want to see the look on your face. Someday you will realize that Jesus just wants us to love…the way he did. Pull your head out of your ass.

Hello!! Xcuse me!! ooh you dont have the memo???!! being gay is a decision! the above scenario that happens, happens precisely as it happens like that, the way the lady descibes how another boy in the school was saying how beautiful he looks, thats what he wants to be telling girls or have a girl tells him that but he doesnt know how and the girls ofcourse are too shy, so repressed desires leads to longing. which-if an already corrupt species or dangerous elements who have fallen prey as a result of lack of moral fiber, they too has now made that infantile, blurred decision, now they must coopt the vulnerable among them creating a zombie apocalypse of gays. without proper trickle down training of generations, centuries past, Imagine his age? 14years, without what he has been brought up with, he has no defence from advances like that, he was young, he like girls but he lack the nerves to go to these girls and start a conversation that can lead to sex, thats it!! moreover since his parents have not told him that sex is wrong and why it is wrong which he can think and say yeah that makes sense and i want to do it like that when a corrupt apple come around offering him an oppotunity for sex, for fun, for xciting but not popular adventure, being very curious in an exciting way, he wants to taste what sex is like no matter how dangerous or risky the process, because he is not convince about the excuse being offered by his mentors, his rearers, his blood whom he trust thier judgement but on this issue he was not convinced because he feels attraction for the tarnished apple, which is normal, alas he is not sure thats normal, because the parents again dont sit at home saying if you feel attraction for a person of same sex thats normal because both of you have similarities and you admire some of his attribute, knowing some of these things, if an offer comes out like that he would feel the wrongness and shy anger or friendly warning depening on the person, he would shut it down with quick and friendly retort, he just wants to find out that secret love story with lots of sex that adults do, without getting pregnant or otherwise, his infantile mind would take the alienation for it, insult because of the thrill of sex, lack of a spiritual faith from a young age, lack of proper moral home training on whats right and whats wrong whats really a taboo.because television educate kids these days,if you dont as a parent work through those filters using what your forefathers have used to rear you to these times of course, other influences bigger than yours will do things like that, from a young age you should cultivate spirituality, a strong one look for one fits your moral upbringing, if you feel areligeous look for philosophies and try to instill them with a stubborn will that echoes ur personality, these are the foundation to steer them from dangerous whispers of gays, your first reaction to gayism as a child should be a strange, far outlook somebody you can never become but can tolerate, if you dont build such policies in your child, you will never be able to convince them that you are sure of what not being gay means, they must understand that it is not how you look or how you sound that should make you gay or not, it is a decision usually taking at a young age or at an age when curiousity have taking over or the thrill in thier personal life is dull, deciding to be gay is a decision taking not because it is right because the right option is to do what the bible or scientist have proving the men cannot give birth and women semen cannot impregnate another woman, saying it trigger an awakening that if you are morally upright, you would not go down that route with because you have the fear of God, tradition and culture, so take your decision wisely, i will blame all gays on thier parents, it is a lack of parental upbringing plain and simple….

People should not judge other people. If it were my kid, I would ask him if he was sure, and that I wouldn’t judge him. Kids today would not judge someone based on their sexuality,race or gender. America has grown up, where people are much more accepting of others.

Now after reading this article, I request to all western countries for god sake please make a cause against gayism. Save the humanity even animals dont do this…..we are human, think on it, it’s not a freedom it’s a trap and it will gives a hilarious results in future.
Think on it Please.

“Pray the gay away”??? It doesn’t work! I tried for years! First if u want to take the religious side of this discussion, who are we as man to judge another? Yes I believe in god. Religion has done nothing more than pushing away homosexuals than anything. If you as a father truely love YOUR son this should only bring u closer to him. He has chosen to reveal his inner-most, deepest darkest secret. u may not accept the act but u should always accept and respect your son. Inform him on safe sex practices, discuss how he knows he is gay in a nonthreatening way. As a gay son, the only thing I want is for my dad to say is “I’m proud of the person you have become!” You have to remember he is NOT your gay son, but your son that just happens to be gay. Maybe therapy is a good idea, but ONLY to learn communication with him. If u try and “convert” him he will resent you and loose all respect for you.

Don’t try to control ur kids life just by one decision he has made.
.that’s what makes kids not like their parents. Ita good that u r being honest with him, but u should always love ur kid though anything n everything, not matter what! Even if u don’t like it!

I do not understand these supposed feelings of one of the same sex feeling sexual feelings towards one of the same sex. But I do not condone or criticize anything. I understand the frustration of men in America because of American women who do not have any respect or integrity anymore about honesty or vows of commitment towards marriage. I think many men just give up and pretend to be gay?, as it is now acceptable and an easy way to not deal with multiple personality American women which is the norm. I think women are fun and a necessary component to keep men aligned properly. Men can get along great also. In don’t understand what the big deal is or fascination with gay people is all about. I have been getting my hair cut for years from a known gay person. he does not do parades naked in the streets or scare any children. There have always been gays. Big Deal! Just live and let live! Enough said.

Your son is probably one of the strongest kids ever if he can stand up to you and tell you he likes guys.. i honestly think you should let him be who he wants to be.. lkke when a baby bird flys out of its nest… you dont want to let him go and make his own decisions but as the momma bird you have to let him fly from the nest and live and make his decisions on his own dear, then everything will be alright..

It amazes me how many idiots are still in this world. I am a gay male. I was born gay! You can not take me and pray the “gay” out. I am this way, god made me this way! Grow up people and stop thinking gay is wrong. IDIOTS!

you are all wrong the original text of the bible never says anything about homosexuality. The NIV translates male prostitution to homosexuality. i am a Bible scholar and have studied for nearly 6 years. nothing is wrong with your son you need to look at yourself and realize he is yours and you are wrong for not accepting him and i completely agree with stephan