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Joking aside, this is sick. It's sad too. The ramifications of homophobia are too far-reaching - it makes me feel like we're doomed as a society. If it weren't for homophobia, there would be no need for this type of murderous denial and self-hatred.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Hotel corkscrews have a little knife to cut the seal on top of the bottle.

I dont think its at all clear if the model was hetero or homo. He was certainly a pretty guy and he seemed shy in his youtube clips being interviewed on his reality tv show. He was certainly also a rent boy so gay for pay, or troubled closet case, not clear.

I lost a close older friend, not unlike this victim here. Burned to death by his gigolo. The relationship doesnt have to be twisted, but alas, sometimes its really twisted.

Im not sure its homophobia. OK maybe the mother has some. One wonders which fact destroys her more - that her son is gay? Or a murderer? Or a gigolo? Or a straight boy willing to do gay for pay? Surely too much to take in at once considering the beauty boy she gazed upon for 20 years.

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One must wonder what will wreck dear old Mom worse, when it comes out that her son is indeed gay? Or will it really be better to be able to think,"Oh, well, ummm, since it was gay-for-pay, it still means he's straight, so it's all good." But the reality will still be the same: her son takes it up the ass, and the Entire World knows about it. Whether or not he was making money doing it is the biggest question here.

And again, what's ol' Mumsy to do when her "Golden Boy" gets shipped off for murder? Which given the circumstances, seems a foregone conclusion... But whatever rationale the old gal reverts to (and, I'm betting, a pretty entertaining series of logic-defying rationales), it will be will be incapable of hiding the naked sweaty truth: That now, even IF her "Golden Boy" really wasn't getting cornholed before, he certainly will be when he gets into circulation at Club Fed. And the Entire World knows this too. Fom the look of him, he should prove to be quite popular with the other boys. I would imagine he would be even more popular now than when he was an Altar Boy.

I willl be most curious to see the continued story, and how it plays out. Especially when the denial can no longer hold, and Mommy becomes the Train Wreck that we can already see the beginning of. Best of Luck to her, I think she's gonna need it...

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

you're totally killing the fantasy. my friends in palm springs are reeling because of this. this is what i was looking forward to in my golden years, sans corkscrews. that's right, no stis, a bitchy queen of a partner and the occasional weekend trick!

also, not all tricks are psycho! just most of them. and those that are don't take is this far. damnit...

Hey prostitutes and johns - it takes two to tango. I think ywe go a bit far in saying gigolos are for the most part mentally unstable.

Anyway these days on the Swiss gay chat seems like its not so uncommon for young gay to dabble in sex work.

Turning a trick for an hour or two or an evening isnt the same as being a "travel companion". If "golden boy" really uttered the explanation - trying to cure his victim of homosexuality - then we can imagine this was a pretty awful relationship for the two. Different agendas, misunderstood intentions, lack of communication.

Maybe hes a clever boy already aware that the "homo panic" defense is standard - that is, there was no homo panic on his part - its just a clever excuse. Maybe he went into it looking for "mentor" or svengali - related to this career he dreamed of - and misunderstood what was expected of him. Sex OK, but perhaps the john wanted too much - love. And sometimes the older ones can be delusional about the relationship as well. And not at all to blame the victim but we could imagine the older fellow should have protected himself, sensing after having spent so much time with the golden boy, that it was NOT a mutually rewarding relationship.

Maybe just a psychopath. I really didnt get the feeling of a cool, cut-throat hustler who killed because he "didn't get a luxury shopping spree". With his looks, that explanation would mean a really stupid boy cause with his looks he could pass on to the guy who would pay for what he wants.

This is a crime of psychosis and passion, or maybe drugs.

Its the oldest profession and there are tons of customers and workers pretty much satisfied with straightforward commercial aspect of it.

Something went horribly wrong in New York but not sure if "sex work" is the primary "explanation".

Its a tawdry tragic version of Lagerfeld and Baptiste.

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I'm always surprised that I'm still alive, considering all of the rough trade I used to procure especially during those Caribbean jaunts several that were right out of prison. I used to do annual repeats with this guy named Miguel including runs to the tin shack ghetto near the airport to score coke, totally shouldn't have been in that location. He ended up getting murdered years later. Was always very attentive and nice to me however, including the time another hustler tried to pick me up and Miguel pummeled him on the sidewalk as blood went everywhere.

Then there's that ex-trick Luis who is now serving time in a maximum security prison in upstate NY.

Yeah, I'm surprised I survived my jaunts into Spanish Harlem and the South Bronx to buy drugs in the early 80s. If I ever found out my daughter was doing something similar, I'd be horrified and extremely worried for her safety. When I was doing it, I never gave it a second thought. (Aside from maybe the time the derelict building where stuff was being sold got raided by the cops and I had to jump from the fire escape that ended at the second floor. Scary times.)

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I'm always surprised that I'm still alive, considering all of the rough trade I used to procure especially during those Caribbean jaunts several that were right out of prison. I used to do annual repeats with this guy named Miguel including runs to the tin shack ghetto near the airport to score coke, totally shouldn't have been in that location. He ended up getting murdered years later. Was always very attentive and nice to me however, including the time another hustler tried to pick me up and Miguel pummeled him on the sidewalk as blood went everywhere.

Then there's that ex-trick Luis who is now serving time in a maximum security prison in upstate NY.

You could have been killed or had your own episode on "Locked Up Abroad". You have certainly survived a lot.

I'm always surprised that I'm still alive, considering all of the rough trade I used to procure especially during those Caribbean jaunts several that were right out of prison.

Then there's that ex-trick Luis who is now serving time in a maximum security prison in upstate NY.

I feel you Ms. P. --- when I lived in DC, I used to cop in areas where the police wouldn't even go. This was back when Mayor Berry was in charge (well actually the Jamaican drug posses were running things) - and the Nation of Islam was called in to Paradise-Mayfair apartments - where I used to frequent - to calm down the violence because the police were afraid to go in. Then there is the Army buddy - Tony - who got shot in front of me over a deal gone bad - he lived and we were right back out on the streets a few days later.

And the tricks --- YIKE - when I first moved to Fort Lauderdale --- YIKES --- one is in prison for murder, the other for aggravated assault, a few for drug charges... and those were the nice ones. Luckily I made it out alive and relatively unharmed.

I'm always surprised that I'm still alive, considering all of the rough trade I used to procure especially during those Caribbean jaunts several that were right out of prison. I used to do annual repeats with this guy named Miguel including runs to the tin shack ghetto near the airport to score coke, totally shouldn't have been in that location. He ended up getting murdered years later. Was always very attentive and nice to me however, including the time another hustler tried to pick me up and Miguel pummeled him on the sidewalk as blood went everywhere.

Then there's that ex-trick Luis who is now serving time in a maximum security prison in upstate NY.

Yeah, I'm surprised I survived my jaunts into Spanish Harlem and the South Bronx to buy drugs in the early 80s. If I ever found out my daughter was doing something similar, I'd be horrified and extremely worried for her safety. When I was doing it, I never gave it a second thought. (Aside from maybe the time the derelict building where stuff was being sold got raided by the cops and I had to jump from the fire escape that ended at the second floor. Scary times.)

Ok if I ever find myself in a sticky situation I want you both at my back..

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Ok if I ever find myself in a sticky situation I want you both at my back..

Edited to add....I want Phil there too.

ArohaJan

I have your back too Jan --

Oh, and I also survived a robbery attempt 4 years ago (right outside the building I currently live in - North Miami) --- happened at 8:54 p.m. and the youngster and his friend decided they wanted to run up on me and put a 357 revolver to my ribs ---- needless to say, they got the money ($17) and two cell phones (as I was in no position to argue) - on a positive note, they didn't dig deep enough into my pocket to get my "stash" and they were kind of cute (in a thuggish, potential murderer type of way)

I got you all beat. I copped during the 1989 Miami riots, which came after Miami police officer William Lozano put a bullet in the brain of Clement Lloyd. Not even the closing of I-95 could keep my ass out of Overtown..... and the REAL Pork N' Beans in Liberty City; anyone from down here just mention the cross streets of NW 15 Ave and 62 St, they'll know what's up....

But hey, even more impressive than all that............ I jumped off a 3 story building when I was 8 years old with a broken parachute that my step dad gave me.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts