The Campaign For DA

8.25.2011

I'm minding my own business up at the courthouse this morning and got sucked into a conversation. One fine employee was talking about how her parents wanted to be cremated. However, I knew for a fact that those parents are over-planners and have already purchased burial plots at a local cemetery. They've even gone so far as to have had their names engraved on the headstone. (That's some serious planning.) So I asked this fine employee why they wanted to be cremated when they already had plots. Her answer: They planned on burying the ashes in the plot.

I said that's crazy. She said I was crazy and that it "happens all the time."

54 comments:

You do hear about people being cremated and still having a grave site for the family to come and visit.Supposed to save money by not having the casket, the vault, etc.Also, lots people being cremated still will use a casket at the funeral-anything goes.

My dad had a military funeral. At the time they did not do it with ashes. My dad bought two plots when he knew he was dying of cancer. My mom now wants to be cremated. She doesn't want people looking at her dead body. (Another topic)So we're going to bury her ashes next to my dad.

That's what my father chose to do......my mom's ashes are buried in the local cemetery, they have a headstone with both names on it already......I asked him why we couldn't just spread mom's ashes here at the farm under the oak grove, and he said that in the future, if distant relatives do any research, they will be in a documented resting place. I had to agree with his thinking. By the way, we dug the hole for her ashes ourselves with a post hole digger........had to carry water from the farm just to get the soil moist enough to dig. That was a beating. And P.S., my Mom was a hypochondriac and she actually said she wanted that very same epitaph on her monument "I TOLD YOU I WAS SICK". We didn't do it.....I'll bet she is really pissed.

My mother-in-law's brother was creamated and the ashes were given to her. She was totally creeped out by the ashes and buried them next to her parents in the cemetery. (And for those who will question it, it was a graveside service that was attended and known about by the proper authorities. She wasn't out there buring the urn in the middle of the night or anything.)

The dead and buried thing is a beating for the family. The question on cremation is what to do with the ashes, which a plot seemingly answers. If you don't spread my ashes in the sunset inn parking lot (which is where I more than likely caught the stuff that finally kilt me) then I will probably end up on a closet shelf prior to being moved to the storage shed and then repossessed for non payment. The dead and buried thing is a beating for the family. The question on cremation is what to do with the ashes, which a plot seemingly answers. If you don't spread my ashes in the sunset inn parking lot (which is where I more than likely caught the stuff that finally kilt me) then I will probably end up on a closet shelf prior to being moved to the storage shed and then repossessed for non payment.

I am going to be cremated because I don't want to be buried. Burying ashes kinda defeats the purpose of being cremated.I spoke to a funeral home owner in Dallas and he told me that the flesh burns completely and the ashes are actually the bones (all that is left aftr cremation) ground into a powder.Anyone confirm this??

I don't have a problem with that, IF - they have a smaller size plot to hold the ashes. I can't see using up valuable real estate for a full-size plot when the ashes take up only a square foot or so

Plus, you get the whole traditional cemetery-visiting experience (the survivors, that is). I've never understood peoples' desire to keep their late relatives' ashes on the mantel at home. Kinda morbid!

My family has been one that does not like funerals. So, cremation, and ashes spread. Never saw a reason to gather around together and be depressed and sad. Some feel they need to say "good-bye", but you can say good bye on your own. It does not take a body in a casket to do so. That is just the empty container..... The soul is already gone.

Kind of the same with having a body or ashes placed in the ground for family etc. to go "visit". We've just felt it was not needed.

With the internet, and record keeping becoming so easy to access as to births and deaths, not sure the cemetery records are as important as they used to be.

But all this is very personal decisions, and there is no right or wrong.

I too choose to be cremated. I’ve given instructions to have the ashes spread at a particular location that most of those I know find to be peaceful and serene. The instruction further provides that after the ashes are disposed of, a party is to be thrown for all in attendance in a well known establishment located nearby.

My husband and I both have donated our bodies to science then cremation, he passed away in Aug of 2009, I don't think I really comprehended the fact of getting the ashes back because when the post office delivered them day after Labor Day I think I went into shock knowing this was all I had left of a wonderful husband. Still in shock I think at times.

Oh for sure, I know of several people who plan to be creamated put in a tiny little casket or urn and then buried in a plot, husband and wife both, most of them.Some people just can't go anonymously or apart. They want that headstone so they will have a place for their peeps to mourn them.Not me. Burn me and throw me to the wind. I don't care.

JUST GOT BACK FROM VISITING WHERE I WANT MY ASHES...ELEVATION 12,600FTTOP OF STONEY PASS IN COLORADO...49 DEGREES ON AUGUST 4TH...20 FEET OF SNOW JANURARY...4WHEEL DRIVE A MUST...THE FAMILY KNOWS WHERE TO FIND ME...CHEF

1:11 -Maybe you are taking the "resurrection of the body" thing a little too seriously. Why would the physical embodiment of a person need to be resurrected when the soul has already reached its destination? If all things are possible, wouldn't the ashes be reformed into a body? And if the body is resurrected "as is", that would be pretty disgusting, don't you think?

I've already made my plans (57 yr old) so my kids don't have to do it. I want to be cremated after science is through with my body, and they are to dispose of the ashes and not send them back. NO NEED FOR A PLACE TO VISIT. That's just dumb. My ashes will go to the dump with the other ashes from the medical school and my fam can remember me ALIVE AND KICKING. No funeral either...they're morbid and a waste of money. Just a nice dinner at home with friends, a lot of alcohol, funny stories, divide up the crap that's left behind, and get on with life.

1:11, If you are calling native Americans pagan, then I must be one also. I'll take their mother earth religion over your book of fables Christian religion anyday. Now must go smoke peace pipe. Ooongawaaa

2:08, I like the way you think. My family has been informed to release my ashes on top of Engineers Pass. I got snowed on up there on July 4th. The sunset that day was a religious experience. Ain't nothing wrong with Stony Pass either. I got rather stony there a few times.

People who view dead bodies and believe in funerals are morbid. I, for one, prefer to remember the person alive. NO need for boo-hooing, putting on a show. Dead is dead, so time to move on. the person is NOT in that body, so who cares what is done with it?

Funeral home in Grand Prairie charged my family $500 to "rent" the casket for the funeral - then the body was cremated and buried. I cannot believe they charged to use the casket for 2 1/2 hours at the most! Pitiful!!!

Rage, No, I'm not a Christian. See my post @ 2:51. You have no problem responding to criticism but any logical discussion you respond with psycho babble that only Chris Mathews or Joe Biden could understand. The next time I watch the movie, "Up In Smoke" I'll be thinkin about ya.

I told my family to take me to the back pasture and set me against a tree, at least give me a chance to walk back to the house. If I don't show up in three days forget it because the coyotes and buzzards have disposed of me in a green type of way

Funeral Homes rip you off man. 500 for this 1000 for that. Just throw me to the hogs. Or burn me up and throw me i the chili at the wake, but first cut off my junk and put it in. 6 words you don't want to hear."There's a dick in the chili. DF Rodney Carrington