Getting the Right Person

When you ask why single ladies and men are single, they say they have not met the right person. A big proportion insist that they’d rather be single than be in the wrong relationship. This is a very sensible argument.

As they clock thirty, most of these singles start a serious search for the right person. We have all heard about searching in church, weddings, social gatherings and some discouraging comments about how you cannot find the right man or woman in a club.

All these theories are about timing, there is no right or wrong place. Someone however gave me what I would call sensible advice to all single people. Instead of searching for the right person, why don’t you concentrate on being the right person?

Most of singles probably have a list of the traits they would want in their partner. The question is, do you have traits that could be on someone else list? You are the person that determines the people that come to your life. Be the person they would want to attract. Others go to the extreme on these traits and look for factors maybe only would be available in angels. I am not saying you should lower the bar, just take stock of whether you would be in a position to provide the same thing you expect from your partner. If not, then that would be selfish of you.

In this case, concentrate on being the right person. Have your goals set, know what you want, have your baggage dealt with, deal with your trust and insecurity issues. If a great person comes along before you have dealt with yourself, the above are likely to sabotage the relationship. If you are right, Mr/Mrs right will fall right in place.