Son bit friends baby

I'm not sure what I'm looking to get out of this but I feel the need to post, maybe I could have done something different. I was with my new friend yesterday, she has a 9 month old son and mine is 13.5 months. She's really nice, we have hung out a few times and would like to continue to be her friend. We'll anyways, we had a play date and everything was going fine at lunch and our walk. We went to her house after and our sons where playing then her baby starts screaming and I noticed my son bit her sons arm- and hard! He had teeth bites, but wasn't bleeding. She quickly grabbed her son and I grabbed mine and apologized once or twice. She was kind of panicking but her son stopped crying almost immediately when he got distracted so I new he was fine. We'll after that the energy totally changed and I new it was time to go. I grabbed our stuff and left. She sent me a text a little after that said " I can't believe Harrison bit Blaine :(" I texted saying I was sorry again and that was it. How would you have handled the situation? Should I have spanked my son? How do I stop the biting? I don't think we will be friends again by the way age freaked out.

Yes my son bites and I have tried everything! I can't believe he did that either but I feel she totally over reacted!

I'm not sure what I'm looking to get out of this but I feel the need to post, maybe I could have done something different. I was with my new friend yesterday, she has a 9 month old son and mine is 13.5 months. She's really nice, we have hung out a few times and would like to continue to be her friend. We'll anyways, we had a play date and everything was going fine at lunch and our walk. We went to her house after and our sons where playing then her baby starts screaming and I noticed my son bit her sons arm- and hard! He had teeth bites, but wasn't bleeding. She quickly grabbed her son and I grabbed mine and apologized once or twice. She was kind of panicking but her son stopped crying almost immediately when he got distracted so I new he was fine. We'll after that the energy totally changed and I new it was time to go. I grabbed our stuff and left. She sent me a text a little after that said " I can't believe Harrison bit Blaine :(" I texted saying I was sorry again and that was it. How would you have handled the situation? Should I have spanked my son? How do I stop the biting? I don't think we will be friends again by the way age freaked out.

Yes my son bites and I have tried everything! I can't believe he did that either but I feel she totally over reacted!

Please don't spank him, especially at this age, he wouldn't understand the correlation. He's barely one, children this age don't bite to be malicious, they explore and learn using their mouths. His thoughts weren't "hey, I'm going to bite him to hurt him!" As far as the friend is concerned, maybe just text her tomorrow and ask how Blaine's bite is doing. Otherwise I'd just let it go. I used to work with kids this age and it's normal. Not saying it's a good habit, but it is normal. If they are caught in the act they need to be removed from the situation and told no firmly, but after the fact it's hard for them to understand. One of the boys my son plays with pulls his hair sometimes, but I know he's not doing it to me mean, his mom verbalizes to him that pulling hair isn't nice, but I know he's not doing it to be mean. It sounds like your friend doesn't have much experience with small children. Don't worry, your son isn't a bully. Whenever he bites just continue to firmly say "no biting! That hurts! Ouch!" And remove him from the situation.

Please don't spank him, especially at this age, he wouldn't understand the correlation. He's barely one, children this age don't bite to be malicious, they explore and learn using their mouths. His thoughts weren't "hey, I'm going to bite him to hurt him!" As far as the friend is concerned, maybe just text her tomorrow and ask how Blaine's bite is doing. Otherwise I'd just let it go. I used to work with kids this age and it's normal. Not saying it's a good habit, but it is normal. If they are caught in the act they need to be removed from the situation and told no firmly, but after the fact it's hard for them to understand. One of the boys my son plays with pulls his hair sometimes, but I know he's not doing it to me mean, his mom verbalizes to him that pulling hair isn't nice, but I know he's not doing it to be mean. It sounds like your friend doesn't have much experience with small children. Don't worry, your son isn't a bully. Whenever he bites just continue to firmly say "no biting! That hurts! Ouch!" And remove him from the situation.

Oh honey don't even worry about this! Unfortunately babies bite. Don't spank him! Here's the thing babies a as that's what they are still at 13-14 months- babies. Everything is based on instinctual reactions and her son probably took a toy from your son and he didn't like it or he got frustrated so because he can't say to his new friend "hey, you took that toy from me that's not nice and not ok! Please give it back." He just reacts and that reaction is biting. My oldest did it, my youngest is starting to do it too. If she's going to freak out every time her son gets bitten she's got a loooong lonely road. Find someone else to be friends with someone who gets it. Won't she feel sheepish when her son bites a baby a little younger than hers. All you can do at this age really is tell them no, not ok and redirect their attention. Corporal punishment is not the answer.

Oh honey don't even worry about this! Unfortunately babies bite. Don't spank him! Here's the thing babies a as that's what they are still at 13-14 months- babies. Everything is based on instinctual reactions and her son probably took a toy from your son and he didn't like it or he got frustrated so because he can't say to his new friend "hey, you took that toy from me that's not nice and not ok! Please give it back." He just reacts and that reaction is biting. My oldest did it, my youngest is starting to do it too. If she's going to freak out every time her son gets bitten she's got a loooong lonely road. Find someone else to be friends with someone who gets it. Won't she feel sheepish when her son bites a baby a little younger than hers. All you can do at this age really is tell them no, not ok and redirect their attention. Corporal punishment is not the answer.

I second the previous posters! My daughter never made contact, but she tried to bite some of the kids in daycare. It's passed, but doesn't mean she won't try it again. She seemed to be a little territorial with her space while she was sitting in the floor playing. Little Blaine will likely have a biting phase down the road too lol!

I second the previous posters! My daughter never made contact, but she tried to bite some of the kids in daycare. It's passed, but doesn't mean she won't try it again. She seemed to be a little territorial with her space while she was sitting in the floor playing. Little Blaine will likely have a biting phase down the road too lol!

She definitely overreacted. She's just feeling protective so don't stop spending time with her unless she won't let it go. Maybe just talk to her about it tomorrow. Her baby may end up biting some day soon, lol. And your son may not even have been mad at your friend's baby, maybe he just looked over and thought, that's cute I want to bite it. I know babies make me feel that way sometimes haha. I would just make sure to correct him by telling him no if he does it again and removing him from the situation. He won't understand spanking and you don't want him traumatized.

She definitely overreacted. She's just feeling protective so don't stop spending time with her unless she won't let it go. Maybe just talk to her about it tomorrow. Her baby may end up biting some day soon, lol. And your son may not even have been mad at your friend's baby, maybe he just looked over and thought, that's cute I want to bite it. I know babies make me feel that way sometimes haha. I would just make sure to correct him by telling him no if he does it again and removing him from the situation. He won't understand spanking and you don't want him traumatized.

I agree with PPs. Your friend over reacted. We have a baby friend who is four months older than tommy, so when tommy wasn't crawling yet, he was very mobile. The other baby would pull Tommy's hair, and smack him, but it wasn't to be mean, he was just playing and interacting. Yes, there were tears, and there will be many more. Tommy does his fair share of smacking and pulling now, and we are right there to intervene, but it still happens. It's not a big deal. They are learning how to play and be social.

I agree with PPs. Your friend over reacted. We have a baby friend who is four months older than tommy, so when tommy wasn't crawling yet, he was very mobile. The other baby would pull Tommy's hair, and smack him, but it wasn't to be mean, he was just playing and interacting. Yes, there were tears, and there will be many more. Tommy does his fair share of smacking and pulling now, and we are right there to intervene, but it still happens. It's not a big deal. They are learning how to play and be social.

I can see why she reacted the way she did though. It's really upsetting when you see your baby being hurt (even when it's another little one who doesn't realise what he's doing).

My LO was 'attacked' by another LO. Well in my eyes at the time it looked like he was getting bashed! The LO was on top of him hitting him hard in the head over and over and my LO was screaming hysterically.

To me it was the most upsetting and disturbing thing I've ever seen. It still is, but I now understand that the LO didn't mean to hurt him. Even though it appeared very savage :/

She was probably just shocked. I'd follow it up with a text and apology and maybe mention you have researched it and even though it was awful, that it is developmentally normal and you are working hard to ensure he doesn't continue biting :)

I agree with the other helpful posters :)

I can see why she reacted the way she did though. It's really upsetting when you see your baby being hurt (even when it's another little one who doesn't realise what he's doing).

My LO was 'attacked' by another LO. Well in my eyes at the time it looked like he was getting bashed! The LO was on top of him hitting him hard in the head over and over and my LO was screaming hysterically.

To me it was the most upsetting and disturbing thing I've ever seen. It still is, but I now understand that the LO didn't mean to hurt him. Even though it appeared very savage :/

She was probably just shocked. I'd follow it up with a text and apology and maybe mention you have researched it and even though it was awful, that it is developmentally normal and you are working hard to ensure he doesn't continue biting :)

First of all at this age spanking does no good so you were right in not spanking him and just removing him from the situation. You did fine. That being said your friends reaction as a FTM is also normal (if that had happened to mine...!!!) I'm a 3rd time mom and my DD is a biter as well she is 14 months old and still sinks her chompers in by surprise sometimes, not near as bad as when she started though. Hopefully your friend will be able to forgive and forget so you can have future play dates. Let us know how things go the next time you connect with her.

First of all at this age spanking does no good so you were right in not spanking him and just removing him from the situation. You did fine. That being said your friends reaction as a FTM is also normal (if that had happened to mine...!!!) I'm a 3rd time mom and my DD is a biter as well she is 14 months old and still sinks her chompers in by surprise sometimes, not near as bad as when she started though. Hopefully your friend will be able to forgive and forget so you can have future play dates. Let us know how things go the next time you connect with her.

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