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That kinda has me worried because, although i always use a condom, i usually don't if doing oral. I dont always know the status of my partners so i'm not sure if i could have become infected by doing oral.

Well i wish the CDC would be more clear about this. I know they're particularly conservative when reporting numbers and possible routes of infection but their article almost seems to imply that oral sex is almost as risky as any other method..just from the tone of the article..so i got worried.

The CDC did what the Bush administration wants them to do - scare the bejeesus out of you.

There have been long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

We don't use scare tactics here, we don't moralise and we don't judge people's sexuality. We deal in scientific facts and studies, period.

If you're worried about hiv, then test. As long as you've been using condoms, consistently and correctly for anal or vaginal intercourse, then you can fully expect your hiv test to return with negative results.

ANY sexually active adult should be having a full sexual health care check up, including but NOT limited to hiv testing, at least once a year. You can test more often if you're very active with many partners or if you have unprotected intercourse.

Check out the three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence. Use them correctly and consistently and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

When looking at ANYTHING on the internet, it's always wise to consider the source and who pays their bills. In the case of the CDC, it's the Bush Administration - the same government who still insists on pushing Abstinence Only programs, programs which have been proven to not work.

Condoms, condoms, condoms. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. Use them.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I was with a guy the other weekend and the condom broke.. i didn't notice though, i'm not sure for how long. Well i asked if he was negative and he said he was, but you can never be sure. Right now, a few days later, i feel pretty lousy and just generally tired, and have for a couple days, although i dont seem to have any other issues...and this could be the stress of final exams coming up coupled with the anxiety over this. Anyway, someone tell me i'm going to be OK. I have to wait 5 more weeks to get tested Thanks..

OK...6 weeks, 8 weeks, 13 weeks..i've seen different numbers on here. But its still many weeks to go. I'm pretty sure i'm fine but it just really sucks to have to wait that long. OK i'm off to do something else heh.

I've merged your threads. Please follow our rules and keep all of your entries in the same thread.

13 weeks is the point at which you can get a definitive test result. The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the smallest number will seroconvert within 4-6 weeks after a risky incident. A negative a 6 weeks is unlikely to change but you should still re-test at 13 weeks.

You haven't indicated whether you were the insertive or receptive partner. The condom would have provided protection until it broke. So the odds against transmission during this brief, single incident are very good.

If it was your condom that broke make sure you are using the right size for yourself.

Insertive. Still feeling like poo but my throat hurts which could be the reason. I had a bit of a throat infection before the incident and this seems like a continuation of it. Probably unrelated...lets hope.

Thanks.. definitely keeping my fingers crossed and trying to not freak out. The mind is such a powerful force. I've learned the hard way to always use protection...sucks having to go through this again. I actually kinda like the guy and hope to see him again. He's only 23 though and i'm 27. Does this site offer dating advice? haha

Would it kill you to laugh or smile or are people always bitchy on these forums? I know this is a serious topic but, people, some of you are really jaded. It doesn't make or keep friends acting that way.

Well its either that or i caught my skin in my zipper or something. I havent been sexually active since the last occurance. Its a paper cut like thing. its open. its fairly small. its herpes cuz that's what my freaked-out mind is telling me.

Would it kill you to laugh or smile or are people always bitchy on these forums? I know this is a serious topic but, people, some of you are really jaded. It doesn't make or keep friends acting that way.

I just saw this. We aren't here to entertain you. I'm not here to make or keep friends with you, either. Excuse the minor rant, but I take offense at this. We're taking the time to try to help people like you and shouldn't be subject to your little commentaries here.An apology should have been offered.

Silence, this is not a place for you to get into firefights with others. It's an HIV information site. Consider yourself warned. If you get into any further angry exchanges you're going to get timed out and possibly be risk being banned from the site.

Despite a number of exchanges you've refused to get tested to put the HIV issue to rest. You also apparently are mistakenly diagnosing yourself as having herpes.

If you have all the bases covered so satisfactorily then I would say we've given you what we're able to do for you here. It seems not to have met nor satisfied your needs.

Perhaps you can find another site our source that will be more satisfactory. Whether you do that or not you cannot continue to engage in hostile exchanges here. If you have something to say about your HIV situation that hasn't already been covered that's acceptable.

But don't bother answering me back about the squabbles because that will get you timed out.