I don't know where else to post for help.
I use the Admired theme.
There is no inforamtion regarding my question on the theme's support page so please don't direct me there.
I want to change the template to name, email, website, and then what do you want to say.
I am a newbie to code and learning as I go. I have read the otto page as well but I don't want to change code until I know specifically what I need to change.

I can't understand. You want area "Comment" to be called "What do you want to say"? If you are talking about this theme http://wordpress.org/extend/themes/admired the comment fields are arranged exactly in the way you've written above - name, email, website, comment.

I haven't changed a thing. I don't intend to change anything until I receive some assistance at understanding the code. As above, the theme functions file contains code that looks like it should create the comment form I want. However, it doesn't. There is just a generic leave a comment with a box for text and a post buttom. I have already deactivated jetpack comments and that didn't do a thing.

I would appreciate it if someone could tell me how to resolve the situation completely. I am so frustrated.

Ah, I see, you are using JetPack or some other plugin. If it's so you can ask in plugins section about its behavior.
I would recommend you to deactivate the plugin and use default comment form built in the theme. It has got exactly what you want

@eknight74 - I'm thinking that you are actually asking how to add additional fields to your comment form? If so, that's not built into your (or most) themes - you'd need to add them. For sure, you need a child theme set up before doing that. This may be relevant:

@Wpyogi
Thank you for the links. The first one was helpful in understanding what I need to do. The code however is still a little confusing. Is there a source somewhere for the type of comment form I want. I don't feel confident in editing code.

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