What men and women want

Beauty is such an ambiguous term. This is because everyone has their own definition of beauty and indeed beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The beholder can be interested in the hips or muscles and do away with other beautiful things. The beholder might as well be fascinated by the works of plastic surgery.

A fellow TC writer, Rob Fee, recently wrote a piece entitled “8 Things Men Will Always Find Attractive In Women.” It consists of the typical feel-good crap that is peddled everywhere you go and does not take anything but an anecdotal perspective into account. No offense to Rob—he’s probably just the average “nice guy” who grew up in a society devoid of strong male role models. I don’t expect any hard truths from a guy like him. But I was too disturbed by what he wrote not to respond, so what I will do is lay down some truth up in this hizzouse by telling you what men will REALLY always find attractive in women. Here we go.

1. Wide hips

Wide hips are a sexually dimorphic trait. During puberty, women’s hipbones widen to facilitate childbirth. Hips don’t lie—wide hips in a woman are a strong signifier to men that she’s a mature adult who’s very much capable of reproduction. (She can push out little critters with ease.) Since we men are all about putting our seed in fertile ground, it’s not uncommon to see us fawning over Iggy Azalea and her ilk’s “parted like the Red Sea” hips.

2. Big, full, and red lips

Big, full, and red lips are a strong sign of good genetic quality. Full lips are often a sign that your jaws have grown correctly without misalignment—a very good indicator of genetic health. It’s no coincidence that people who have a perfect teeth and a perfect bite often also have full lips. But what of the redness? Lipstick doesn’t exist in nature, so why would men find red lipstick attractive? When women apply red lipstick they’re unknowingly mimicking a big sign of arousal in primates. Upon arousal in female primates blood rushes to their lips, creating a red sheen. Naturally, male apes are going to want to get with someone who’s putting her willingness on display. This is no less true in Homo sapiens. Red lips are universally attractive because they signal arousal and willingness to engage in sex. So ladies, perhaps you should be a bit more careful with what you smear on your lips if you don’t want to look like you’re actively looking to get a piping.

You might see a woman today and tomorrow she is someone totally different. Plastic surgery has made the fantasies of many men come true while it has also ruined the lives of many women. There are beautiful women who thought they were not beautiful enough. Some even decided to imitate celebrities and things turned out ugly. In the search for beauty others died.

So you think you need a boob job. With the standard of beauty becoming more and more man-made, who could tell you you’re wrong? Kim Kardashian didn’t have a nose job? She did? Although it may seem having doctors build a perfect body is only natural, your best bet might be to keep it natural. Here are some examples:
Breast implants can go horribly wrong. It is not rare to see porn stars with downright bizarre looking breasts. Men do not care how small their chests were before, it’s not worth it. And, by the way, Kanye West mother died in breast augmentation surgery.
Nose jobs seem to always be obvious, even the good ones. Just google Kathy Griffin to see how damaging a poor one can be. Plus, noses are noses, nobody really cares unless you have a giant ungodly nose like Gonzo.
Collagen lips and facelifts turn once cute natural girls into circus clowns. There’s no denying that full pouting lips is an attractive feature , but those enhanced with collagen or other products look like a result of several punches to the mouth. Botox, the most performed cosmetic procedure in the world also have bad results in attracting guys, we really want to be with a person that can at least make some facial expressions.
On the other hand, the popularity of plastic surgery nowadays appears to be its own worst enemy. Like tattoos, having some cosmetic procedure done is very common today and the options are endless; but not all tattoos are appealing, right? The same happens with plastic surgery, making men wanting to be with a natural beauty.

One can truly conclude that beauty isn’t what it used to be. As the world becomes a global village there are well known figures who are working hard to become the epitome of beauty but maybe just maybe we should go back to the phrase that beauty is in the eye of the beholder meaning no matter how huge your butt or boobs are beauty standards will never be the same because every beholder has their own values which determine what they behold.

While Kim Kardashian — who’s displayed her Armenian roots proudly over the years — has continuously denied plastic surgery rumors, it’s hard to ignore the physical transformation she’s gone through since bursting onto the pop culture scene over a decade ago. From lasering her visible baby hairs, to her massive role in popularizing the time-consuming and expensive contouring craze — which has been known to alter the appearance of shape and bone structure of women’s natural faces — 2006 Kim and 2016 Kim are vastly different women. All in all, Kim’s stunning beauty can be summed up as “ethnic, but still accessible to the West.”

This, by no means, puts all the blame on these cultural figures, but in fact points to a larger problem: the globalization of beauty standards.

In her documentary, The Illusionists, filmmaker Elena Rossini takes an eye-opening look at the globalization of beauty ideals. Elena, who filmed in eight countries, across four continents, tells Teen Vogue that the issue goes beyond idolizing beauty icons on Instagram and the like.

In the doc, Fashizblack, editor Paola Audrey Ndengue points to the whitewashing phenomenon, saying that “Everywhere you look, you see black women who are not ‘too black’ so that they can be accepted by mainstream media.”