8. Be Patient

When we surveyed women on things that they find sexy, a lot of women said that they pay close attention to how men treat service workers. Ces, 29, distills exactly what quality this embodies: patience.

"OK, my thing is patience," she begins. "Not in the "love is patient, love is kind" sense; day-to-day patience. nobody enjoys waiting in traffic, in a queue, for a package, at the bar, for a text, for service at a restaurant, et cetera, but when a man handles that kinda stuff gracefully, it's a huge turn on."

"It's a sign of two things to me," she continues. "The first is emotional maturity. You're a grown man, so you don't tap your card on the bar waiting for service; you don't huff and tut and stamp your feet at the post office. You wait patiently and be courteous, because you know that waiting is a part of life. The second thing it shows is empathy. Again, you're a grown man, so you don't click your fingers at a waiter or bark at customer service rep for how long you waited on hold, because you know that the people serving you are people just like you who are doing their best and that if you were in their position you wouldn't want to be treated that way."

Patience might seem like one of those things you either have or you don't, but that's not true at all. Like all of the qualities on this list, it's possible to cultivate it with deliberate practice. "I know that everyone gets frustrated, but the way I try to be better at it is imagining how my reaction is going to look to a stranger before reacting," Ces suggests. "No woman is going to see you stamp your feet at a cafe and think "that's hot". I also think about how much it actually matters. Is a date going to be ruined if your drinks take an extra ten minutes? Smile and make a joke about it. It's gentlemanly. Clark Gable wouldn't have a tantrum at the post office, you know what I mean?"