Why the caged birds dont sing.

They pay their maintenance or house and car and then disappear. They dont interact with the kids they avoid the wife and the responsibilities that goes with being a parent.

If the women are lucky they do their one weekend per month.

These women take on the role of custodian, caregiver, father and mother.

They dont have lives, they dont have friends they dont have boyfriends or lovers.

We see these women struggle through life, sacrificing their lives, but where ARE the men.

They are always coping, always on time always at work, reliable and dependable. There for the kids.

The gilded cages of maintenance and responsibilities that the men abdicate upon these women keep them caged and dependant and depressed.

They cant escape, they cant hide, the kids and responsibilities takes its toll. In a lot of these cases there is very little or no support system in place. No time for themselves.

The birds in the gilded cages goes through the routines of everyday life, the monotony and drudgery of raising children all by themselves.

They are shunned by new boyfriends and lovers because no one wants to become an instant father of 2 or even 3 to 4 new children. Whole new family that becomes your responsibility now. So they become isolated and alone. Combined families are work and very few if any actually succeed. In an instant in extended families like these there is no time for love there is no time for getting to know the other new partner , there is no time for bringing someone else into your life there is just suddenly work. Suddenly added responsibilities for the new partner for you. They understand that no one wants this

They know this, they are not stupid.

They still in most instances have the dreams of young lovers that the white picket fence will come, the knight will arrive and release them from this cage that the previous knight has locked them into.