It’s All About You

It’s All About You: Keeping Resolutions

For many of us, starting the New Year is an opportunity to hit the reset button and change things that are not working well. When you look back this year, do you see a list of good intentions that were never accomplished? Do you know why? Here is some solid advice for making New Year’s Resolutions that you can keep.

It’s All About You. Simply making a list of good intentions, does not solve a problem. To be effective, your resolutions must represent you and your resources. If you cannot reasonably achieve them, you are wasting your time and your commitment will only lead to frustration without results. When resolving to make change, consider the following:

Resolutions must be doable. By definition, a New Year’s resolution begins January 1. Be sure that a goal is within your grasp and that all the resources are available so you can start now.

The resolution must be within your control. You will not lose weight by asking others to give up cake for dessert. Likewise, resolving to help a child achieve straight A’s second semester is also a lofty goal, but you can’t control the final outcome. However, resolving to lose 5 pounds and to read 6 news books this year are goals that are totally under your control…as long as you are the one giving up the cake.

NYR’s must be specific and measurable. A resolution described in general terms leaves you with vague intent rather than firm commitment. “Ing” intentions like losing weight, exercising more, smoking less, or being happier are undefined with no end point. In contrast, “I commit to losing 10 pounds by exercising 30 min 3x a week,” or “I will stop smoking completely by April 1,” are both specific and can be measured. With an appropriate and measureable resolution, you will be able to answer yes/no as to whether or not the resolution was kept.

Accountability enhances success. Accountability can provide an incentive to actually make the change that you want. You can avoid the easy anchor of status quo and create accountability by attaching a timeline to your resolution. Ensure that your resolution is doable, under your control and measurable, and give yourself a deadline. After setting a goal of losing 10 pounds, resolve that you will lose 1 pound per week for the next 10 weeks so that by a certain date you will weigh ten pounds less. Important: Put your timeline on your calendar.

Share your intent with others. Telling others about your resolution is another means of accountability that puts you in a position to reach the goal and get praised, or to fail and look foolish. It’s even more helpful if a friend with a similar resolution joins you and holds you both accountable. If you mutually establish 3 workouts per week as your resolution, arrange to exercise or walk together several times a week.

Seek support on social media. Social media is another venue for getting accountability. Publicly sharing your goal and your progress takes courage and invites a large and connected community to cheer you on. Nobody wants to fail while their 400 best friends are watching, and by revealing your resolution, you may also generate support from your true friends.

New Year’s Resolutions mark the passage of time and open the door to opportunity. Create your list with confidence and use positive language by stating your goals like affirmations. Begin each item with the words “I WILL” and mean it, and if you lapse, don’t abandon your resolve. Double down and get back on track. Realistic New Year’s resolutions, combined with commitment and accountability, will ensure success.