Lecture 2 – Emotional Intelligence–Part 2

#1—Domain & Directive: “I want to be _______ by _______”
#2—Goal-Centered: “To become a _____, I must reach _____, then _____,etc.”
#3—Action Planning (checklists): “I must accomplish the following: 1. ___, 2. ___, etc.”
#4—Existential Planning: “We’ll see what happens…and we’ll get there”

Recognize the Learning Agenda (Discovery #4) and its Four Planning Styles. (Sect. 9.3.4.4)

Tool #2 – Learning Styles
Learning involves two major processes
The way we TAKE IN information
The way we USE information

Recognize the Kolb Learning Style Inventory and its two continuums. (Sect. 9.3.4.5)

No plan (learning agenda) is useful UNLESS you start doing something different
- Experimentation is TRYING something different to see if it worksFeedback is critical
- Trusting and Supporting Relationships consist of people who can be trusted to give upfront and frank feedback
- Not threatened by criticism – live by “TELL ME MORE”
- AAR’s (After-Action Reviews) – Military approach to learning and adjustments without blame
- Don’t forget your own reflectionsThere is value in experimenting in a “safe” environment
- Consider different context (home, etc.) to avoid default mode traps

Recognize the aspects of Experimentation (Sect. 10.3.1–10.3.3

10.4.1 Once you find something that works (through experimentation), do it over and over again until it becomes routine
10.4.2 “Amateurs practice until they get it right. Professionals practice until they can’t get it wrong.”

11.2.2.1 Daily complex decisions that affect people’s lives and are made in an environment of uncertainty
Unavoidable part of being a leader
Routine, not periodic.11.2.2.2 General isolation of pastors and leaders
Fewer genuine and honest friendships and supporting relationships
People behave differently around the

Pastors and leaders are constantly sacrificing themselves – it is a FACT

Recognize the results of Power Stress

Core values erodeIncreasingly operate “in the moment” – everything is a crisis or a threat
-Burnout & depressionPhysical deterioration
-Ulcers, high blood pressure, risk of stroke or heart attack, suppressed immune system and increased frequencies of sickness all statistically correlated to power stressLoss of resilience and an inability to recover resulting in a downward spiral (like the loss of air out of a balloon)Loss of Emotional Intelligence
-Slide into Dissonance
-Tired, restless, brittle, can’t “hear”, focus narrowed, unrealistic view of reality

Recognize the consequences of Power Stress. (Sect. 11.3)

Understanding the Cycle of Sacrifice and Renewal

Recognize the solution to Power Stress and the components of the Cycle of Sacrifice and Renewal. (Sect. 11.4, including diagram) **SEE NOTES FOR THE DIAGRAM**

Mindfulness, Hope and Compassion

Recognize the three components of Renewal. (Sect. 11.5)

Intentional and conscious awareness:
-Of God
-Of Self
-Of OthersIn the context of our livesNot born in us … but can be learned … and can be lost