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A birthday party? DS's first birthday is in 2 weeks, and we had planned to have a party, but we can't find anywhere big enough for the gigantic family and those big enough are already booked out. So since he's not gonna remember it anyway, we're considering just taking him out to dinner (and getting a little cake for him) with close family (my mom and sisters and SO's grandparents).

Would you feel bad if you did this? Am I wrong? Does a 1 year old need an actual party?

in my opinion for 1st birthday you should celebrate it but on a small scale. They won't remember it, but it's more of a celebration for the family. It marks an important milestone in your baby's life. I had a party for all my kids 1st birthdays but it was at home and it was only the immediate family and some close friends, people who saw them on a regular basis not people that they didn't know or only saw once or twice in their little lives. Reserve big parties for when they're older and can enjoy it and remember it. Also keep in mind that the party is for the child not the people attending.

for both of my kids - I had a small get-together at my home with immediate family only - and it was AWESOME! Because we all were able to spend quality time with them and have some great pictures to remember afterwards .. I say GO FOR it!

I wasn't going to do a party because we live 700 miles away from our families (my grandparents are about 150 miles away) and we only have but a few friends here but one of them insisted I have a party and we did. There were about 8 adults (including DH and myself) and 5 kids - I didn't do a whole meal becuase I did the party between 1 and 4, but I did finger foods/snacks. It was fun but we did it more for the pictures to show her than anything else.

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