How to Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship

I’m not sure of the origin of this piece, but I was going though some old emails that I had saved and this was there. Upon reading it again, I looked back of some of the mistakes that I’ve made thoughout the course of various relationships. I’m sure that there is something there that we all can relate to. So I figured that I’d share it is a thought for the day.

How to Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship

1. Control everything and everyone

2. Never take the blame yourself; instead, make your partner wrong

3. Make it a habit to spend more money than you have

4. Win every fight, even the ones you couldn’t care less about

5. Keep score

6. Use threat often

7. Find your partner’s weak spot and use it against him/her.

8. When your partner tries to please you, find fault with their efforts

9. Hold fast to the belief: “If you loved me you would know what I want”

10. Demand your partner remain faithful but refuse to meet his or her sexual needs

11. Use silence as a weapon

12. Pretend that you don’t hear

13. When your partner tries to apologize, bring up more complaints

14. Refuse to give information

15. When you realize you haven’t given your partner some important info, insist that you did

16. Claim to be the only one interested in the relationship

17. Never ask for help

18. Confide only in friends

19. Take it personally when your partner wants time alone

20. Discount your partner’s physical complaints

21. Give advice where it isn’t welcome

22. Never pick up after yourself

23. Refuse to seek help for your depression

24. Refuse to talk

25. Focus on changing your partner

26. Focus all your needs on sex

27. Take all problems as further proof that the relationship will not work

This was well put together and much so needed…some of these things are so simple yet we often forget about them or just ignore the fact that we do these things ourselves…in order for something to really work, we MUST first look at ourselves and do something about our OWN issues and faults…and STOP blaiming other folks…

Thanks for the birthday wishes. I had a blast and fortunately lived to tell. (silly snicker). This is a great piece for BOTH men and women. I’m not a male basher, I only bash the ones necessary. Women (in my opinion) tend to be their own worst enemies in relationships and those this points to, need to take note. And for the men, yeah, you need to read up too. For myself, remain single so I don’t have to worry about the majority of this.