I cut all my hair off in a crazy melt down in September of 2011. I have had only ONE trim since then. The thought of anyone coming near my hair with scissors scares the hell out of me. It is almost to my butt and whenever someone says “Oh my goodness your hair is so long!” I always without a beat proceed to tell them, yeah I only want another 3 - 4 inches. I think that was five inches ago. Lol. Send help.

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Thought the article does not relate to my personal experience with doctors, even more-so being on a different continent, but you are a Doctor and I want to say Thank You! It is a difficult job and I am sure you do not hear it enough. You continue being awesome and amazing!

Can I ask a question, in hopes of not sounding ignorant?
Why is the appointment only 10 minutes, is this a structured window or is the wiggle room? I have had appointments last less then 5 minutes and others that last over an hour. Never has it been, schedule a double appointment to get it all in. Not meaning to be insensitive, rude, or ignorant. I am assuming it is simply just a cultural difference. I am just curious. Thanks in advance. :)

I adored this movie when I was younger (and still do). I was 11 when the first one came out and I remember sneaking to watch it on tv, I think I even recorded it with my VCR. I thought it was a scandalous movie at the time, but I remember also thinking it was cute and I wanted a boy like Ian. In fact this movie made me want a very personal, low key engagement. Like ask me in the moment when it is just us future hubby. Cannot wait for this movie!!!

I have noticed it is different for everyone, which obviously makes it hard. I have two other friends who have lost a parents, coincidentally their mothers too and all at different points in our life. From what I see, we all handle it much different. My one friend, (Say her name is A) lost her mom very young, under the age of ten. She lost her to drugs and a heart condition. ‘A’ mainly grew up with her grandparents, and though she loves her mother upon her death she was/is more indifferent. She is sad she is gone, but she does not have many mourning periods in her life. Another friend (we’ll call him B) lost his mother in is early teens. This was a sudden loss, not expected. ‘B’ was always very sensitive to the matter, but understanding and private. He never wanted to go into who she was and how he feels. But he is certainly broken by her loss and shows that when the topic is brought up. And then there is me, my mother passed right before my 21st birthday to her 8 year battle with cancer. I am “somewhat” private about my emotions with it. I do not let people see who truly hurt I am, but I can discuss her loss and share stories without being too emotional, upfront. Since there are so many different ways your friend can handle her fathers death, there is no set rules on how to be the friend, so I can tell you what I loved from what my friends did. First: Friends A & B up there were amazing. They were the two people who would try to hold me up the most, while still making me feel like I wasn’t being babied, even to this day. Make sure that though you may want to give the world to them, the person who lost their parent may still want to do things on their own, just be there if they fall.
Second: My (now) roommate is very good at distracting me, and has told me that if I need to talk about my mom (my sadness) she is there for me, even in the middle of the night when I usually shed my tears. Though I personally won’t take that because I cannot open up like that, knowing it is there means the world to me, because one day I might take it. Be sincere with and and be prepared if that day comes. Provide the assistance that you offer and don’t shut her our. But distractions are the best, even more so when they are not obvious ones.
Third: Don’t make it weird. Obviously not in your friends case, but when someone makes a ‘yo momma’ joke to me, I get upset when they suddenly start apologizing and fumbling because they realize she is gone. We who loose parents can still laugh at these types of jokes so just keep moving and do not freak out. If something hurts bad enough, people can tune it out or exit the conversation. Its ok to talk about our parent(s) in a light context. A lot of times people can find a disconnect between jokes and the actual heartbreak (though some cannot as in my friend ‘B’).
Lastly: (More advice to you) Know that in reality, there is not much to do. There is no comfort, that can truly heal the wounds. Loosing a parent, even more so at a young age is not something I would wish on my enemy. It is any emptiness that will never be filled and I cannot explain the feeling when in one moment they are here and the next they are gone. Also, know that she would (at least I would not) never hold it against you if you say something to trigger emotions. They will always trigger and that is ok, most people learn to live with it and deal with it.
But I am sure all of us who have lost a parent can say, when it comes to them, hug them a little longer. Always say I love you, and be grateful for everyday because what I wouldn’t give for just 5 more minutes, one more hug, a kiss or a smile. To hear her laugh and sing a lullaby to me. Take it all in and love every moment. When I see my friends say they “hate” their parents, I just want to punch them because it feels like a slap in the face to me. Don’t take for granted what you have and that is the best first step in being sensitive toward your friend and those who have lost a parent.

You got: CrowleyCongratulations you got the British king of Hell! If you love gore and someone with a dark side, you two will hit it off wonderfully. He can be egotistical at times, but how smart he is will impress you and you’ll be happy together.YES. I am happy with these results.

Thank you for this, sometimes it hard. My friends get all awkward around me and they never know what to say when my mom comes up in conversation. I sometimes feel like it is my fault, even if the cancer took her away from me. Its on been about three years and I will still just randomly cry cause I miss her so much. It never gets easier, you just learn to deal with the pain. Hug your parents because I can promise you that hole is the worst feeling I know.

Sinus headaches are the absolute worst thing to every happen to man kind. They are worse than migraines for me. But you know what? I push through it, work on my regimen that works for me and keep moving because if I didn’t I would not be able to keep a job. People who have allergies are bad ass, because internally we are miserable days/weeks on end with stuffy noses, itchy eyes, pounding headaches, and overall head pressure. But we keep moving and brushing it off like no ones business.

What a rude, and small minded comment. I work in a call center while going to college. It has the hours, pay, and location I need to juggle school and work. I have met some of the most intelligent people working there, most having college degrees. Just because someone is working in an entry level field, does not make them any less than you. Even more so, 9 times out of 10 you are speaking with a young adult, working on their stepping stones into the career world. Why don’t you get off your high horse and realize that those people you are bashing at least have job and assist you when you need it, not vise versa.

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