Relationships matter. Everyone who works on church leadership teams recognizes this fact. We're designed for relational connections with other human beings, and everything we do as leaders is connected to the relationships we have with the people around us.Picture all the relationships you have with the people in your organization--a business, a church, a family--and imagine them all as bank accounts. You can make all sorts of deposits or withdrawals based on the time and energy you have invested into the relationship. You can make deposits into this account through a variety of ways: quality time spent together, words of encouragement and affirmation, or acts of service and gifts. Each of these relationship accounts is both unique and interrelated; a deposit or withdrawal in one account may have an effect on another. This isn't about spending time with a person in order to get something from them, but simply a tool to evaluate one's relationships with fellow human beings.While deposits always take a significant amount of time and patience to build an investment to a mature level, it only takes one misstep to bankrupt a relationship. A negative
withdrawal is fairly obvious—any breaking of trust or intentional harm quickly
causes relational rifts that require time and investment in order to regain what was lost. Deceive or manipulate someone intentionally, don't follow up on a commitment you made, or refuse to apologize for a mistake, and you're emptying your bank accounts.Take a minute
and list the specific leadership relationships you have at your church.
How much relational equity have you deposited into each of these accounts? How much quality time have you spent with each particular person? Relationships are mysterious and constantly in flux, but you can
make fairly accurate assessments on the depth and health of a particular
relationship simply through evaluating how much you’ve personally deposited in
the relational bank account.What are some ways you've built relational equity with others in your church or organization? Share in the comments!