A relationship has a better chance of flourishing long term, leaving the two partners contented, when each of the partners has their relationship needs met

September 20th, 2011 admin

A relationship has a better chance of flourishing long term, leaving the two partners contented, when each of the partners has their relationship needs met. Particularly, when you have already been through you a break up, you will appreciate the importance of having your relationship needs met to keep the relationship continually vibrant. In fact it is often the case that relationships fall apart because the two partner’ needs are not met.

If your relationship needs are to be met, the partner must be aware of what they are. You have to let them know what these needs are. It is important to communicate openly or your partner will be left guessing, so let them know your needs, and let them tell you theirs. It will not be surprising for you both to discover that often your needs are quite different.

You may find that one partner might like being told they are loved whilst the other may prefer the little acts of appreciation that that show they are loved.

Just talking things over between yourselves will improve the quality of your relationship. If you are shy about discussing certain matters, you have to learn to overcome your inhibitions. Talking openly is more effective than talking around the subject or leaving your partner to guess your thoughts.

Something else you may need to learn is how to ask your partner when you need his assistance to participate in the menial household tasks. Complaining he doesn’t help you and persuading him begrudgingly to do so, or getting angry because he does not participate, or other passive aggressive behavior is usually a total waste of time. When you take the trouble of explaining that it pleases you when he helps you, you take away his guilt complex, because he does what you ask to please you.

This principal applies to all aspects of your relationship. Ask for it when you want something and reply to your partner’s demands when they ask you, to be certain that all your relationship needs are met.