Welcome to the Brooklyn Aikikai web log. Our purpose is to provide to our community and beyond an online account of weekly articles, thoughts, and community happenings. The web log is moderated by Ryugan and Kate Savoca. We welcome any submissions in regards to Aikido, Zen, Misogi and Iaido or weapons study. We would also be interested in receiving any thoughts on cultural activities or practices that support a healthy, organic lifestyle with particular emphasis on their relation to the above mentioned arts. Please send only serious submissions – we reserve the right to edit articles for content or length, however, we will work with authors to preserve the integrity of their thoughts. Thanks for visiting and please check back regularly!

-R. Savoca

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

A Memorial to My Father

Dominic J. Savoca (on right), Paris, France, August 30th, 1944

A memorial to the recently deceased is a highly personal
thing, and not something I would ordinarily post on the internet.But my father, who passed away last Tuesday,
will always be inextricably linked to this dojo and therefore I feel it is
appropriate to write of his life and of his passing in the context of this dojo
forum.Brooklyn Aikikai would not exist
without my father and I don’t mean that merely in the obvious way – in that he
brought me into this world.It is much
more than that.

For the many of you who have not met my father, he was born
in 1924 in New Jersey, to parents who emigrated from Sicily.He grew up in the Depression and lost his own
father at a young age, which impressed upon him the need to work hard early
on.At age 18 he was drafted into the
army for World War II.He fought in the
28th Infantry Division which was known as “The Bloody Bucket” and
fought in the Battle of the Bulge—one of the fiercest battles in the European
campaign.He considered himself lucky to
have survived.After WWII he attended
New York University and Columbia University, and thereafter was associated with
Transamerica Life Insurance Company for 58 years.

It is an understatement to say Brooklyn Aikikai would have
been different had I had a different father. I learned the necessity of
discipline, hard work and persistence from my father, and also my mother.Although I could not understand the urgency with
which my father educated me in the early years, I now feel blessed to have been
the focus of such a drive.It took me
many years to understand that he was truly from a different generation—the WWII
generation—whereas my friends’ fathers were the “baby boomers.” This distinction
alone had my sisters and me growing up in a different direction than our peers.

This direction led directly to me being impressed with the
traditional Japanese culture—one of hard work and trying to deeply penetrate
one thing.Giving your all to a
discipline, come what may.My father put
me into Judo at age 12, and from there I found Aikido and have continued to
stick with it to this day.

Who was my father, truly?A solider, a husband, a father, a businessman…and yet all of these fall
short of how I would describe him.As
one of my sisters recently said, he was a force.He didn’t believe in giving up, or falling
short.He did his best through many
impossible conditions and demanded we do the same in our lives.One time, when he had to have the only
surgery in his life (a quadruple bypass) I told him I loved him as the gurney
was pushed into the surgery room.He
looked at me directly and simply said, “Don’t waste your life.”I knew he meant to give all that I had to
each moment, and I was amazed that he could say this at that time.Such was the man he was.

He was also a deeply devout Catholic and his devotion
inspired me.He had a tremendous faith –
and I knew it had been tested.He told
all of his children that faith was essential, and this is something I feel must
truly be brought into our practice of Aikido.

Most important for me, however, is that I saw that my
father struggled with himself.It took
me a long time to see this, and I often judged him harshly when younger.But I know that he searched himself, and tried
to better himself however he could.Many
people were inspired by him and knew him to be the gentleman he truly was.As I get older, I can see a bit more
objectively who my father really was, and it astonishes me it took so long.

In closing, I would like to deeply thank my father for giving
me all that he could.Our dojo is what
it is due to his influence, my mother’s, and of course to all ancestors before
them.Perhaps it takes the death of a
parent to become truly grateful.