Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The Power Of Your Self Talk

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The Power Of Your Self Talk

As a
counselor, I teach my clients that the things they say and think will impact
their behavior. For example, if you say and think you are stupid, your actions
will play that out. If you say and believe you have value and that you always
give life your best, your actionswill follow. I know this may sound dorky,
like something comedian
and writer Al Franken's famous Saturday Night Live character Stuart Smalley would say: "I'm good
enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me," but our
self-talk really does affect our lives.

Before I
studied counseling, I had no idea how much a list of affirmations posted on my
bathroom mirror would impact my life for the better. I was a perpetual pleaser
who became unnerved and hurt if anyone showed the least sign of being upset
with me. Each day I read one or two affirmations aloud(“I don’t have to make everyone happy today”
or “It’s okay if I make a mistake”) and over time it made a huge impact.In short, you brain believes what you tell it
to believe.

Have you
ever paid attention to what you are saying, even silently, to yourself? My
pastor calls the mean messages you say silently to yourself, “manure-head
messages.” One day I was driving and trying to look at my calendar at the same
time. I hit a pipe with my brand new car. Immediately the manure-head messages
started going: “You idiot. What’s wrong with you? You should have been paying attention!”
But then I quickly took a bigger picture into account and began to ask,“Gee, who put the swing-set in the middle of
the road?”I immediately relaxed and even chuckled.

The
Bible is loaded with affirmations. To find them, just Google “scripture verses
affirmation.” Write them down, post them on a mirror, and say them out loud:

I have faith in
God. I will not fear. (Mark 4:40) God loves me so much that
He gave His only Son for me. I believe in Jesus, therefore I will not
perish. I have everlasting life. (John 3:16)

I have access by faith
into the grace of God. (Rom. 5:2)

Jesus Christ has given
all authority in heaven and on earth to me. (Matt. 28:18) The Lord delivers me out
of all my afflictions. (Psalm 34:19)

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