In this personal essay, a Black woman tells Jezebel that she has resigned herself to having a lower chance at love, passion and companionship in the U.S. because of racist dating attitudes here. Is it fatalistic thinking now that Black women are confident in themselves more than ever?

For reasons that no rational person will ever be able to work out, a specific strain of Black men have intensified their campaign of railing against an oppressive white regime, proclaiming that #BlackLivesMater, while promoting hatred of Black women.