Congratulating Nowrooz to you.Wishing you full of healty and peaceful days ....

and I have a question for all. I know what means Nowrooz but I want to know your thoughts about it . What Nowrooz means in your country? How do you celebrate it?I really wonder it, I think that some people in my country don t know what it means and how to celebrate it. That s why I want to satisfy my knowledge.By the way ,ı want to remind my county it is Turkey.

Hi Grincas,
Thank you for your kind message, Nowrooz means new day , it means that winter never remain , it means that if the nature changes , the nature of people should be change.
One of the custom and traditional which people do to decorate their home is Sofreh Haft Seen. Haft Seen in Farsi means seven “S.” and Sofreh is a cloth which is spread on the table or on the floor
The spread must have seven items that in Farsi begin with the letter “s,” specifically the letter “seen.”
1.Somagh (sumac) : symbolizes the color of sunrise
2. Serkeh (vinegar): symbolizes age and patience
3. Senjed (dried fruit from lotus tree): symbolizes love
4. Samanoo (sweet pudding): symbolizes affluence
5. Sabzeh (sprouts): symbolizes rebirth
6. Sib (apple): symbolizes health and beauty
7. Sir (garlic): symbolizes medicine

Additional items that begin with the letter “s” that are commonly seen on the Sofreh are:
Sekkeh (coin): symbolizes wealth and prosperity
Sonbol (hyacinth): a spring spring flower

Other items included but not begin with letter "S"
Mahi (fish): symbolizes life
Tokhmeh Morgh (egg): symbolizes fertility
Sham (candle): symbolizes enlightenment
Shirini (sweets): symbolizes spreading the sweetness
A book of poetry or prayer (Quran)

I never pay attention to Sofreh Haftseen. I don't want to spend my time to these trifling things ,but my wife prepare it and I respect her and follow her.

How are you dear? How is everything going on with you? Hope it is all perfectly fine
Thank you for the comprehensive post, I really appreciate it. You said:"To say the truth, sometimes while dealing with people I try to fool myself just to know what they want and think about. And sometimes I just do that to get what I want. "I am not sure that you get me but I hope so!"

Yes dear I do understand you and I have seen people doing this to see what others think about that certain matter.
You said you hate lies in general, I see to reason to ask you why since what I have seen of you during this friendship has all been pure honesty and true speeking of your heart out

You asked me the following questions and now I am trying to be as truthful as you have always been "what would you do if you intend to joke with someone but that person took it too seriously and thought that your action was "cruel or something" then it became a big deal?! Would you continue joking or would you just simply tell them the truth and that you were joking?"

"Do you believe that we shouldn't joke with every person "even if they were our friends or something"? Should we know their internal personality first then play jokes on them? And do you think that there is a limit for fun or playing jokes on others? "

Actually, I am a humorous person. I feel like joking around when in groupes of friends but not always. Sometimes I joke with my professors, dormitory staff ladies and so on, not too much actually, because you might get kicked out LOL

What you say is quite natural to me. I have got into troubles a great deal but then tried to justify myself since I did not mean to offend them. Mind you, the jokes were not offensive to me at all but as my university is in another part of our country which the accent and culture differs from my own city and my accent does not really match them so...they found my jokes quite dull, you know!

Then I learned a big lesson, do NOT "fool" around everyone! Because sometimes people might seem too smiley and humorous in appreance but in fact they might be too serious-minded to hate you even for the joke you cracked LOOOL

But well, to sum this up, I find jokes and fooling arounds quite fun. There is no reason to harden this life more than it is. You do not live much, so why not try to make a happy world around you and warm other people and yourself up!

What do YOU think? You think I was wrong to laugh with my own roommates and be funny without knowing they culture?

Hope to read from you so soon,

P.S. This is the first time I am using the quoting system so if you find any difficulties in reading my post, please let me know

How are you doing lovely girl? Happy New Yeaaaaar to you. How is it going there in your city? Your family? Everyone enjoying themselves and so on. You got guests? Are you invited to your relatives' houses? Will you take me too?
I am quite alone this year. I mean I am mostly with family not relatives or friends. Spending time with them since during the year I saw so little of them. I was either studying away in my college or was in library or at home again studying or reading. Did not see much of them LOL

Ellie jo0o0on, not at ALL! Silly? Oh Gosh, damn me! When I said the word I did not mean that YOU produced a silly topic, I meant I had problems writing about them, so the sillyness is mine! LOOL
But I see that you got over it very well. You wrote about butterflies, lovely paragraph! Ellie joon I love them in nature too. Oh and besides butterflies I love lady-birds and dragon-flies. You might find me quite silly on bringing out such interests but...believe it or not I am crazy about them!

Now let's change the subject...oh it is spring and new scents are smelled outdoors, why did I come up with scents? I want to know if Ellie chose a new one come on, tell me if you bought any new perfumes?

Ellieeee, speaking of scents, have you got flowers and trees in the yard? Which ones do you like these days?

How are you? How is the New-Years-life going on? Busy with guests and parties? Having fun? Or tired of buying groceries for serving guests?

just kidding, hope you are enjoying the holidays with family.

Dear Mohsen, I understand that you wrote your post with a cellphone but the font was, believe me, too hard for such a short-sighted creature like me, to read! So I had to copy it to word and so on. But I read it anyhow

Wow...you wrote of class differences, telephone banks (I hate them too man), headsets and aesthetism! Tell you what, although it fall loaded with topics it was comprehensive! Uh dear friend, complain is always there since most of things are not in their own places. Technology comes, people do not still know how to use it. Tech is there but there is no mannerism for it! No set of rules, it is all NOT TOs! You see?

Oh and aesthetism...you remined me of aesthetic movement, people who tried for it to achieve its real meaning. LOL Still you are reminding me of the lovely times studying for this year's konkur, Gosh! LOL Never mind of it...

Dear Mohsen, what do YOU think, what is it that modern people lack? Manners? Knowledge of beauties? Instructions? Values?

How are you? I hope all is going well with you and you are enjoying this lovely weather in this beautiful spring.

I heard that the most famous and effective religious leader who cared about his country and its people has been killed by enemies in a mosque. It was very sad.

Today, I saw in the headlines that the leader of rebels has resigned. This can be a piece of good news, but amazingly, strangely, ridiculously, till now, three countries; America, England, and Qatar has disagreed with his resignation! What does it say and mean? It says and means a lot for understanding people!

The main purpose of this post is not mentioning to some news. Surely, you know such things much better than me. However, as always, I was following the thread and read all posts carefully. Recently, I've found your posts a little bit bumpy! Particularly, I've found Wilzin complainant in his posts! This is not a good way to show sadness. This place is not good to share secrets. As a friend, I want you both to be patient and careful.

Dear Wael, a man should hide his negative feelings. When you feel lonely, nobody should know it! Why? That is obvious, since that is common for human beings to feel lonely. As you know, human beings were created to live in paradise. They were fooled by Satan and they did what they weren't expected to do! As a punishment, they were kicked out from that beautiful place. They are living in the Earth now. Well, being out of the right place, they all have a feeling of loneliness. This is common among people. However, a man should know the fact that he must hide his negative feelings. He must be like a mountain, alone and strong!

One of the reasons for the attraction and need of ladies for men is their loneliness. Naturally, at a particular age, they feel very lonely. They often find men soothing. This makes them be attracted to men. In fact, this is the philosophy of life. To put it simply, this is the trick of nature; to keep life and generation going. Therefore, as a man, you are supposed to support a lonely girl. Stop complaining about loneliness.

Oh Wael, the price of cats and dogs is increasing dramatically in some societies. Do you know why? Well, there are many reasons for this. One of the main reasons is either men are not soothing anymore(=they don't play their roles rightly), or there is a shortage of men! Consequently, ladies replace them with dogs and cats!...hehehehehehe LOL On the other hand, it shouldn't be denied that these days, the majority of girls who are affected and influenced by the negative effects of the west philosophy, are more interested in girlfriend-boyfriend relationship! These kinds of relationships cannot be lasting. Sooner or later, ladies will be the losers and they have to think of having pets; such as cats and dogs! Oh, I am sure, in the future, cats and dogs will be very expensive.

I am quite sure that my dear friend Wael will think I am taking Amal's side! But, this is not true. You are both my friends. I do care about you. I played the role of a mirror in this post. I reflected what I am functionally should do.

First of all I want to Thank you for your sympathy. In fact, I don't care if that person was the "most famous and effective religious leader" or not, at least he had a reason to be killed but what I care the most about is the innocent people who were there! What fault does they commit???!! Praying and hearing gods words???!!!

*Emm, let me make myself clear cause I don't want anybody to misunderstand me, I am not saying that I am not sad about that Sheikh since death in itself makes us mourn. Above that, I am not saying that he deserved it. No, not at all! In my ideas only god knows who is right and who is wrong these days here. What I was saying is that he was involved in political matters not like other people who went to that mosque just to pray!

Anyway, let's forget it. May god have mercy on them..

Oh dear, my post wasn't bumpy, the situation in my country is enough for me!

I was just saying some facts and correcting some of Wael sentences !
Moreover, I am not who shared secret things here or anywhere else! I was just surprised when I saw that Wael was "is" sad and it's obvious that he was blaming me. Although, I don't know why!

I tread to be patient and didn't want to say ANY WORD about this topic and moreover -as you said- I don't agree to speak about such things in this place since I love it and don't want to distort it BUT I couldn't see someone accuses me and stay silent...

Dear friend, look, when you always alert and warn someone and tell him that this is what going to happen, however, although that he agrees and ask you to continue your friendship normally
and he is satisfied and will bear the risk of things in the future. After all that the things you had warned them from happens so he come and blame YOU!!!! WHYYYY???!!!! Why didn't he let you go from the beginning???!!! Why is he complaining now??!! Why isn't he satisfied??!!! Why does he just judge you and your actions although you were very clear and said that you can't do it from the beginning??!!!!
Dear friend just say the truth does he has the right?!

By the way, thanks for your words and your posts, I agree with every word you have said in them! You just say what is it in my mind. :)

It's lunch time here so I have to leave and end this post.

Sorry about all this matter, I really didn't want to bother you with me and my stories.

Happy new year to you and your family. Hope you are enjoying your holidays beside your mom, dad and sister.

Oh thanks for you very kind post. I'm very well and everything is great. Specially last two days that my lovely cute cousins had come to our city and we spent almost all day together. We enjoyed ourselves a lot;at nights we would gather together and spoke till morning, then we had some rest and again! We really enjoy talking to each other, my cousins are very friendly, nice and funny.We match together very well.We talk about everything, we do have serious conversations about life, marriage, relationships, family members, job, study,.... , as much as we make joke and laugh. Oh last night we laughed aloooooot, thank god! I'm very happy and energetic. They left us today in the hope that next month we go to their city and again enjoy our time.

Oh sometimes I imagine Behnam,Amal, Kami, Setayesh and Elham visit each other in person. Woooooooow, what a wonderful gathering! Five lovely, wise, kind and nice friends meet together and chat and have fun, oh I love it!

I'm happy now, I love people of my life. My family members, my relatives, my friends,without them... oh noooooooo, I can't imagine it. I wish them all healthiness, happiness and success. Thankssssssssss God for gifting them to me.Thanks thanks thanks

I wish you could travel to Esfahan, so that we could meet each other. I'm very serious honey, please plan to come here, I'm inviting you and your family to Njafabad. I'm sure we will enjoy spending time together, specially now that weather is so pleasant.Think about it pleaseeeeeeee

Anyway, I enjoyed writing to you. I feel your kindness and warmth of your heart and enjoy it.Thanks honey.Oh Kami, please read my posts as a friend , not as an English specialist. I'm not satisfied with my English in this post and feel shy

You wondered "how we would know that our choice would be good". I think only the Mathematical results is a Hundred percent granted, but that doesn't mean we leave ourselves without doing our homework.

First: Always listen to your mind not to your heart.

Second: Keep your heart working 30% and your mind working 70% not the opposite.

Third: Always evaluate the relationship especially during the first period, because if you evaluate your relationship after a long time and found something bad with him , you will try to find many excuses for him to stay with him.

Fourth: Always listen to what your friends and your parents say, then think, don't ignore what they say, especially if all of them have different opinion.

Fifth: Don't take big decision unless you 100% sure. If you still hesitated take more time and more and more, because taking wrong step may destroy your whole life, and you will regret for the rest of your life.

Finally: ALWAYS leave anyone that when you are with him you fell happy and comfortable and when you are far from him you feel uncomfortable, that means he is Deceitful and you are in illusion, because when you are far from him your mind is working and when you are beside him your heart is working.

Always stay with the one you mean everything to him not the one that you mean a thing to him.

I hope you enjoy your new year holiday beside your parents ,Thank you for your post,sorry for using a fade font in last my writing to you. Although you wear a dominant eyeglasses (As I see in your beautiful picture),you hardly read it.
About modern people, people who use modern equipment . many people have lack of knowledge about their culture and belief , because they didn't study about their history ,their ideology ,so their mind is like an empty shell , so attracted and built their personality by what the technology feed them , they think if they match their personality with western style in life and appearance ,they are calling modern people, you see people with special style of hair ,or having a small dog in their car. Some people follow the western culture , like Valentine ( it is important for them that a priest in jail wrote a letter to daughter of warder and said I love you)
The modern people have lack of studying about their rich culture and belief.
What is your idea?

You cannot imagine how sad and amazed I am right now! I am not sad and amazed because of Amal's words or her sentences and reactions! I am sad about Islam and Muslim!

When I was at school, I used to think about the reason why the world of Islam is lagging behind the rest nations! During the studying time at schools and university I was always searching for a good reason to satisfy myself. The more I searched the less I found. Sometimes, I criticized our cultures which value laziness rather than hardworking. Sometimes I criticized the enemies. Sometimes I criticized the previous leaders, politicians and kings. These are only some minor reasons. After overcoming Prejudice which always prevents us from understanding and accepting facts, I tried to study the history of Islam and Iran. Finally, I understood why the world of Islam as well as Iran are lagging behind the developed countries.

As it is mentioned above, there are many reasons for this lag, but I'd like to write about one of them which is extremely important; I suppose so.

I am not a politician, and I dislike politics. However, I never close my eyes to facts. I cannot be alive and ignorant at the same time. Ignorance equals death in my life philosophy!

Considering things in a way they are either completely good(right) or completely bad(wrong) is called 'seeing things in black and white'. This is a simple way of judgement. In many areas of life, we must think in an analog way, not digitally. However, we should be careful, when there is a fight, one side is right and the other side is wrong! There is no third option! War and fight are black and white. There are no grey areas in those situations!

One of the main reasons for lagging behind is the lack of recognition! Muslims are terrible at recognizing enemy from friend! In order to put emphasis on it I'd like to write it in bold shape: "MUSLIMS ARE TERRIBLE AT RECOGNIZING ENEMY FROM FRIEND"! But why?

First we must accept this fact, since accepting a fact is half of knowing the reason for it! Books can be written about this lack of recognition. I am not in the mood for writing more about it, but if a wise Muslim read the story of Siffin war, s/he could drag many facts out of it. I strongly recommend that my friends read the story of Siffin war to get familiar with the philosophy of 'Abu Musa Al-Ashtar'i! Some Muslims who lack recognition put a lot of things after his name( Razi Allaho Anho, May God bless him, ra...)! If you asked them why, they might say; "well, he was a companion of the prophet; he had the most beautiful voice when he recited Koran"! Is that enough? A machine or a recorder may recite the holy Koran much better than him. Many people, animals, things were companion of the prophet!

For me, that person is known as the father of 'Third Philosophy'! After being fooled by the representative of Mawyeh he naively said, "Both Ali and Mawyeh are wrong"! Some naive people cheered and shouted 'Bravo, bravo, bravo..Ashari, Ashari, Ashari.." ! What happened? You know it.

In my opinion, when there is a war, a fight, one side is right and the other side is wrong. Others are supporting those two sides with accordance their own benefits. There is no third option. It is our duty and religious responsibility to think wisely and to recognize the right side and support that. If we lack recognition-we cannot recognize enemy from friend- we are useless! Useless people who cannot recognize enemies from friends are wasting food and energy. They are useless and dangerous!

The first paragraph of Amal's post sounds really strange! Oh my God! People are different with different ability, talent, intelligence, effectiveness, importance,...All people have nose, mouth, head, stomach, hair, etc. They eat, drink, sleep, etc. BUT, they are different. They are not the same. Einstein is a man. Behnam is a man too. Both are physicists, but the differences between us is much bigger than the entire world.

Her way of writing sounds beautiful. Some sugar coated words which are obtained from the Satellite TVs are put beside together to show that the writer is modern and thinks differently! Come on girl! Be yourself! Stop being like 'Abu Musa Ashari'; there is no third option. The enemy thinks differently, although it speaks beautifully. It is like snake in the grass!

In some events, for example, when a city is bombarded by an enemy; in order to misuse the emotions of other nations-to make others emotional and get benefits from it-they often say; "Hundreds women and children were died"! It doesn't mean that these people are more important than men. It means that these people were innocent. They weren't fighting, but they were died!

1- You are upset with me I know that and I'm very sorry for that and because of that I'm upset with someone here "It's me".
2- You invited me to this thread but we were not close friends as now, and when our friendship went more stronger and deeper and you told me more and more about the thread and the dear friends Behnam & Elham I wanted to be here and I asked you for the address but you didn't gave it to me so your brother gave it to me.

1- the most famous and effective religious leader who cared about his country and its people in Syria was "Albouti" who you can rate him as "Alkhomaini" in Iran. He saw what is happened in our country as a part of the holy war of the end of time and a preparation to the appearance of the Antichrist.
2- I didn't share any secrets, I just wrote general feelings and I didn't nominee any one or for what I was upset. Your last post rouse Amal to speak but it's ok and the situation shift to a higher level and it's good in general so don't worry.
3- Your words are wise and your approach is Inspirational, I'm envy you for is man. Your experience in life is so useful for me my older brother.
4- You and Amal are so precious to me, and if you were in her side that's ok dear because your words and ideas are welcome all the time.

First of all, I want to say sorry that I or my words made you sad and disappointed.

Dear, when people speak or discuss political matter or sensitive things both sides have the right to say their full and true ideas, therefore, noone should get upset and those words and thoughts shouldn't effect the relationship between their owners...

Anyway, In this post I want to make myself clear and explain my idea more for you, I am not saying that I am right and you are wrong or the opposite. I AM JUST SAYING MY OWN IDEAS which I am convinced with them and I don't have to put sugar on them even I don't have to make them sound beautiful since I haven't taken them from anywhere else, by the way, I hate satellite news channels... Hehe

I'd like to begin my main point by starting from the beginning...

In fact, in the past, I met our president and his wife in person, you can't believe how kind and great person he was, he was very simple and I am sure that there is NO president in THE WORLD deals with his people like he did, he were our brother. I was very happy of his efforts on building our country since it was developing very fast.

However, when bad things started to happen what they called it "revolution", I was against it and took our president side and believed that there wasn't any need for it. Moreover, all people knew that these actions are America's and Israel's actions. All people took this matter as a silly thing and said that they can't play this joke on us and we are stronger than what they think, all people were watching what is going in the country on TV as if it was a movie since all the things were a big lie! However, after some while things changed and killing had started when it wasn't
needed. So dear Behnam, although that person was great "the right or white side" and I believed in him BUT KILLING is against my beliefs so it was a black mark on a white area so that made the color grey!
How would I accept that he is right and ignore my beliefs and things that I believe in?!
In this way, I won't have a principle! And that will make me a useless and a two faced person!

My friend, believe me grey side is needed here, I can't be with a side which killing people. Even

though, he is right and he is against Israel our real enemy. On the other hand, I can't be with the rebels who I even don't believe at all in them and see them black!
Grey side isn't useless, it even isn't just about some modern ideas from a silly girl. No, not at all. It's a principle which Based on not believing in killing innocent people, it's about fighting and killing the right enemy. It's about making our dream come true, it's about being united, dear, there was nothing would prevent us from being united if that silly actions hadn't been made! we "my country and yours" have the power to make the dream comes true. Don't we?!
However, they choose to fight indirectly and this is what I can't understand!

From what I have said up, I think now, it's clear that I am not following Abo Musa Al-Ashtar'i or any other Philosophy even I am not taking my words from Satellite TVs. These ideas are facts!

If it is our duty and religious responsibility to think wisely and to recognize the right side and support that then I can tell you bravely that THE PEOPLE SIDE IS THE RIGHT SIDE! Is that good?! Clear?! Am I not silly now? Am I not a coward girl??!

Behnam! you don't know how we "the people" are strong, you don't know how patience we are, you don't know how much we have sacrificed, you don't know how much those who you called them "silly girls" has given to this country, to their home! They has given it their fathers', brothers', their husbands' and their sons', isn't that enough??!!! If it asks our souls we will give it to it, we accept to die in the hope to give the next generation a better future. But dear, what I am saying that our blood shouldn't be wasted by killing each other for silly things, it should be for killing our real enemy, in this way, I can proudly just say that I gave my blood and my body to protect my land! Which is my honor! Believe it or not, if any side, the black or the white just said that he is going to fight the enemy, I will be ready to go with them and I will support them, am I still a silly girl?! If silly girl is like this then I am proud to be silly!

Dear, let me give you an example to be more clear and let me use the family or the father example which we used in our chat..

Let us imagine that there is a father "our president" who have kids "the people" and a wife "Arab". One day, one of his son make a mistake and go to play out in the street while his father said no to him and didn't accept, so when the father see his son playing he immediately kills him!! Well, he made a mistake and in your point of view he deserves that! After the son had been killed, his brothers were so sad about their brother and didn't know why their father did that so they went to their father to ask about the reasons. However, instead of explaining the matter and tell them that their brother made a mistake, he killed them! The wife in this point couldn't tolerate him so she went and asked help from her family "America and France and and and...etc". Her family were ready to help her since they will get benefit from that when they win the fight! Again in this point although the father is still strong but he wanted to make himself stronger, moreover his family "Iran and Russia and and..etc" wanted to support him too...
So both sides "big countries" started to control the husband and his wife and playing with them like dolls! Now there is two ways to end this story:
1- The wife's family's side win, so they will take the money which the wife will take it from the dowry.
OR the husband will die so they can take the house "The land" too.

2- The father's family's side win, so the husband will see that he should reward his family and at least appreciate their job by start giving them his salary or even he can give them parts of his house "the land".

I hope the story was clear so now let me explain my idea and how I would solve the matter if I was the father there are a lot of solution like:

1- the father from the begging don't kill his son, instead, he try to explain to him why his action was wrong and tell him that if he did it again, he will punch him, or even let him punch him from the beginning BUT WITHOUT KILLING! In this way, his son will have more respect for his father and will be more responsible in the next time..

2- The father kills his son since he made a mistake. HOWEVER, he explain to his brothers why he killed him, in this way, they will have a life lesson and will understand their father. Moreover, in this way, the wife would accept her first child death and may say that her husband was right and maybe they think that they didn't raise him up well so they have to be careful with their other sons and raise them perfectly!

3- The father and the wife solve their problems alone, without any external interference from their families just to keep the family independent and prevent it from being destroyed!

Whatever matter to me in this story is that everybody "the father, the mother, the both families" cared about proving that they are the right side and forget the much important thing which is the FAMILY OR THE HOUSE, nobody cared if the father's and the mother's family will destroy even nobody were fighting together and forgot the kids "the poor people" everybody were forgot about the real enemy!!!!

Now let me return to your post, and say that I don't know why you'd find my first part strange, I really don't know!

Dear, of course all people have nose, mouth, head, stomach, hair, etc. They eat, drink, sleep, etc. However, they aren't different, they are all the same! Just the only thing which makes them different is their relationship with god; which is just known by HIM. For example, you made a comparison between you and Einstein. Well, Einstein is a great person and a famous one but how is his relationship with Allah?! Does you know anything about it? No, you don't cause you just know what it's written about him. On the other hand, you aren't a famous person as much as him and maybe people don't even know who you are. However, your relationship with god is very strong. Can we still say that Einstein is much

important than you???!!! If god say in the holy koran " لا فرق بين عربي و اعجمي الا بالتقوى و العمل الصالح" how would we say sth against that???!!!

What I meant in my first post is that there are a lot of hidden innocent people who were killed for no reason and nobody cared about their death, meanwhile everyone were busy with knowing who killed that shaikh!!!! Not to get revenge from his killer, no, but just to prove that the other side is wrong... isn't that silly???!!! He just simply passed away, who killed him will be punished by god since only him knows who he is..

it's 5 AM now, and my mind has stopped working and I haven't sleep yet so I have to finish this post now. However, I hope my words didn't bother you this time and I hope

Thank you very much for clear explanation. I really enjoyed reading your posts which are including your political points and show your main concerns. I know, it has taken you a lot of time to write those posts(the last three posts), but It's well worth the effort, since such things are informative. Your posts provide(or cause to provide) some useful facts or ideas.

First of all, it is vitally important to know that false assumptions result in wrong conclusions! In order to make good judgments, or to have strong foundations, we must be very careful with our basic postulates, basic concepts, and our assumptions.

There are many interesting issues in your posts. In fact, each of them can be a good topic for a long discussion. It will be very boring if I take all of them into consideration and write something about each one. However, I believe your analogy between family and country is really interesting. It won't be wrong if I say that the vast majority of your ideas(your conclusions) are based on this analogy(assumption). I'd like to write something about your analogy in the hope that it will help things become clearer to you and to people who think like you. Let's have a look at your analogy:

Let us imagine that there is a father "our president" who have kids "the people" and a wife "Arab". One day, one of his son make a mistake and go to play out in the street while his father said no to him and didn't accept, so when the father see his son playing he immediately kills him!! Well, he made a mistake and in your point of view he deserves that! After the son had been killed, his brothers were so sad about their brother and didn't know why their father did that so they went to their father to ask about the reasons. However, instead of explaining the matter and tell them that their brother made a mistake, he killed them! The wife in this point couldn't tolerate him so she went and asked help from her family "America and France and and and...etc". Her family were ready to help her since they will get benefit from that when they win the fight! Again in this point although the father is still strong but he wanted to make himself stronger, moreover his family "Iran and Russia and and..etc" wanted to support him too...
So both sides "big countries" started to control the husband and his wife and playing with them like dolls!

Why do you suppose the kid has been playing in the street?(actually, you have considered the rebels as an innocent kid who has been playing in the street. This has been against his father rules. Therefore, his father, who sounds wild and dictator in this analogy, has killed the kid cruelly. ).

Now, let's have another assumption: There is a successful family(your country). It has a good and effective relationship with its friends(With Iran for example). It achieves good improvement(as you have mentioned yourself). Other families(enemies) feel jealous and scared of it. The enemies put their mind together to find a way to destroy this family. All options are on the table! One of them says, "We should take military action". One of them disagrees and says, "Emm, I disagree with direct fight, because it is not economical. It is also dangerous to our solders' health and safety."

The third one is expert at Islamic families. It knows a lot about the differences, the desires, the attitudes, the values, the likes and dislike of Islamic families. Therefore, it says, "I also disagree with taking military action now. I have studied on the family members. The older boy is actually against his father. He has different views. He also likes to take his father's position in the family. He can be easily fooled if we speak privately with him. We will promise to support him if he agrees with our plan." One of them surprisingly asks, "What is the plan?" It answers, "We should highlight their differences. In order to make the situation complicated and critical, we will ask the older boy to kill his younger brother. He may resist, but we will tell him that killing your younger brother is the first step. I am sure, he will agree to kill his younger brother. When the younger brother is killed, the father will punish the old boy. He is strict. He may kill the older boy, because that is a law in the family to punish a criminal in the way that he has committed the crime. The mother is emotional. This will make her get angry with his husband. We can also send some private messages to her, in order to provoke serious debates. Right now, two boys are killed, and they are fighting with each other. Inevitably, three groups will be established inside the family: a) Father b)Mother C) Neutral members. Supporting mother, we can fool this group to kill someone from neutral members. At the same time, in the media, we will say the cruel father has killed that innocent person. The game will be played perfectly. The family will be destroyed automatically, sooner or later."

The father advises the family members, but it is useless. The situation is complicated. They don't believe each other. The father asks their friends for some help. He may say, "Oh my friends, although the problem is inside my home, your peaceful situation is not guaranteed. By the way, we have signed the support treaty. If the enemies destroy my home, they will destroy yours too. Help me!"

Dear Amal, I want you to consider this analogy. I am sure the conclusions will be different. The main drawback to this analogy which also makes me wonder is that why the father doesn't leave the family? What forces him to resist? If I were him, I'd leave the family when my younger boy was killed. I don't know. Maybe, I would be able to speak with all members and make all angles clear to them. They might follow my advice. The older boy might change his idea, but how could I tolerate his crime. He is a criminal! If I punished him, it would create another tension. If I didn't punish him, it was against the laws.

This was my reply to your political views. I hope it is clear.

I'd like to write something about your interpretation on the Hadis. Let's have a look at it:

I am not sure, either this is in the holy Koran or not. Maybe, it is a Hadis. It is similar to an Ayeh in the holy Koran that says, "...انّ اكرمكم عندالله اتقكم..." . Yes, that is right. However, we should know, it is mostly applicable in the other world. "عند الله", that is true, but what about "عند اابشر"?

In a society, there are many people. Only God knows who is a good person(in terms of his own criteria), and who is bad. He will give rewards to good people, and will punish bad ones. However, in the society, people are really different. Some of them are more effective than others. Some of them play more important roles than others. Obviously, from this point of view, people are different. They are not the same at all.

Thank you for reading. I'd like to repeat thatMUSLIMS ARE TERRIBLE AT RECOGNIZING ENEMY FROM FRIEND.

Me Again! Sorry to bother you. This is the final part. I'd like to take this opportunity to write something about misinterpretation of the holy Koran. As you know, the holy Koran is in Arabic. Therefore, it is different from my mother tongue which is Azerbaijani. This makes it difficult to read and understand. I am absolutely certain that you agree with me on this issue.

However, Arab people are supposed to understand it easily. At least, the holy Koran is expected to be better understood by people who speak in Arabic. This is reasonable, isn't it?

An extremely important thing, when it comes to interpretation of the holy Koran, is that its Ayat should be noticed together. It means when interpenetrating an Ayeh, we should carry out an overall review of the holy Koran. This is called 'Interpretation of Koran by means of Koran"!

"O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes,that you may know each other (not that you may despise each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of
you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things)."

In order to avoid making mistake(I mean Amalish mistake! ) we should also take a look at 4:34(Nesa): "...الرّجال قوّامون علي النّساء بما فضّل الله بعضهم علي بعض و بما انفقوا من اموالهم"

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means..."

This is a countervail Ayeh, although I do have faith and belief in it. Forget the first part, which is correctly against feminist, I want you to notice carefully to understand that people are different.

In the first Ayeh, the religious actions, the deeds, the righteousness, the rewording things are considered. However, it is a misinterpretation of Ayeh to think that people are equal.

In the second Ayeh, as you see, the social roles of people are considered. It is the most obvious reason that people are different, because they have different effectiveness, role, positions, duties, responsibilities,etc.

Actually I was going to write to Ellie and Mohsen but I saw your and Amal's posts in a row and I thought maybe it would be too rude of me to read all these words of wisdom and not utter a single thing so...

I really enjoy reading your posts since they are written in a very careful manner, ecceltic choice of words, a very clear way of treating political and philosophical subjects along with simple analogies so that people like me could understand them

First of all I want to thank you for the above reasons and much more than them, since it will be a long discussion itself to talk about your writing style, simplistic but quite polemical! Then I want to confess that I know no philosophy, I know not how to hover on these matters since I have not read about them, I have just heard, read news, saw propagandists' talk about them and then the specialists discuss them in details. I have just SEEN them, never did I try to dig deeply into them (oh please take it seriously) since its not really my area of interest. It is simply too hard for me, call me nuts, but I really can not

Now, what I am going to say as I have always said is that, when there is a fight others always dare to come in between and interfere with the matters so they can get benefits. But there are names, as masks, to these intereferences! Some do it so terribly apparent that others can see it as crystal clear that they WANT sth but some...they do it under "seemingly helpful masks"! You have to read between their lines. The true suffer's for people who are involved in this fight without even wanting it or taking any part in it from the first. They are involved, abused and then killed maybe.

Sometimes I think, maybe no one really understands what the whole matter's about, not even the people who started it. They start a fire, they make it burn and then make it worth but then it is like that no one knows what it was really about. The only ones who understand this might be the poor innocent people who live in this terrible situation.

I am not really taking sides, and I dont really know if I should. But that was the whole thing that I knew about it.

How are youuuu lovely host? I guess there is no need to ask this since Ellie is so happy these days and I can not say how happy she made me feel with expressing her feelings.

So seems like somebody here is accusing me of being a specialist Are we going to fight about it? Or you will surrender yourself? LOL
I am just a student, oh and between ourselves, not a good one

Ellie jooooon, I see you got a lot of lovely cousins to see and talk to, or even travel to their homes. Poor Kami's cousins are either too old not have kids and grandkids or have travelled or other cities and countries. I wonder if I could share your cousins with you if you got any extra ones Children under five are even accepted with great pleasure, I love kids!
Ellie, do you play Daf for them? Have you played it recently? Do you know that Kami thinks she almost forgot how to read the musical notes? Shame on me

So I see that they are awaiting your arrival, I really wish that you enjoy your trip there, and have a lot of fun.

Dear Ellie, I guess I wish that too. It would be awesome if we could, just could, gather somewhere, all of us, and then simply chat.

You wrote of so many good stuff and then you even invited me to Esfahan but then all of a sudden you got sad. It does not become you dear. Cheer up, world's been like this for so long as it is its age. We can not stop these fakes, can we? We have to bear them, but then we can make them simply easy for ourselves with trying to bear with them. Trying to improve our souls so that we do not get bothered or irritated so easy. Oh Ellie, you know these words better than me, I am just preaching like an old lady. You have always been to patient and kind. These little barriers and fakings can not turn your calm soul sad.

Elliieeeeeeeee, just guess how much I have missed Esfahan! You can not do it, that I bet! And Najaf Abad I have not seen, I really wish I could One of my wonderful memories is from Esfahan. I can never forget traveling there. It was a whole new experience. It felt like a real travel in Persia! You feel what it means to be Iranian Even the accent is wonderfully alive. It rings beautiful bells in your ears, don't laught I mean it!

Thanks for your posts, I really enjoyed reading them and enjoyed your angle.

This post is just to say SORRY, I MADE A MISTAKE, of course what I wrote isn't from the holy Koran! I am so sorry. What a big mistake!

Emm although, there is no need to give explanation about this mistake since I had did it and knowing the reasons isn't important for you.. But I am going to say them anyway and god knows that this is the truth, emm, when I reached to my final part in fact there were an Ayah in my mind but my mother caught me awake and this thing made me lost my mind so I mixed between the ideas and between the hades and the ayah!

In fact, the last part isn't written the way which I wanted and I couldn't explain it clearly. However, I couldn't rewrite it and even I couldn't not send the post because I had promised you to write about the matter...

Moreover, there are still some points in your first post to me which I haven't talked about it yet. Inshallah, I will write a post about it soon.

Finally, I really want to say that I am sorry about my mistake, it's really a big shame!

Hi Amal,
Thank you for your long post ,you spent one night to write it ,I read it not with enjoy , because I can feel the pains and hardship which the Syrian people are suffering now.

Dear Amal , we can't find perfect people , the people should be accepted along with their mistakes and weakness ,the leaders and religious people also are not distinct from the people, although we expect that they don't make mistake.
So in normal circumstances that we have good , bad ,worse and worst.
certainly we choose the good but sometime we have to choose bad ,because the other side is worse or worst.

You have written that 'THE PEOPLE SIDE IS THE RIGHT SIDE" but I want to say that it is not always a correct way, because they are not always in the right truck. We have many stories in Koran , I want to tell the story of Moses and Israelian.

When Moses went to the mount of Sina for 40 days, a person who was called Samery decived the Israelian, He made a golden calf and said to people that"He (Samiri) said: I saw what they did not see, so I took a handful (of the dust) from the footsteps of the messenger, then I threw it in the casting (of the calf); thus did my soul (nafs) commend to me." (Qur'an 20:96) so all Israelian believed in Sameri and started worshipping the Golden Calf except 5 persons who were in Samery 'opposition and 12000 people who were neutral ,but 600.000 people were deceived by Samery and forgot what Moses told them.
These people who had seen the Moses magic works , and how Moses parted the water for them to escape from Pharaoh's soldiers.

I don't want to confirm Asad as a perfect man ,but I want to say the Israel and USA made a Golden Calf ( They called it Freedom and democracy) for Syrian people to deceive them and if many people in Syria follow them it does not present that people side is the right side.
My idea is that each side that supported by USA is the black side , so it is better to accept Asad at present and leave your gray side and be sure that it is the right truck.
Fortunately people of Syria had a good resistance against USA for one year, although USA had a plan to control the Syria in few monthes.
Dear Amal , We had the same Golden Calf in Iran many times ,but fortunately with awareness of people they were neutralized also we had 8 years war against them.

If the people of Syria have unity against enemy ,be sure that USA can't do anything. This is what God promise in Holy Koran.

First, sincerely speaking, I'd like to take this ideal opportunity to thank Amal for presenting a great challenge to us. I'd like to thank my dear friend and brother Mohsen for making good points and illustrating them perfectly. I'd like to express my special thanks for my dear friend Kamelia for her positive words and encouragement. Thank you very much indeed.

In many cases, when I am writing something, I imagine myself standing on the top of a high mountain, speaking to all people in the world, although the post is maybe addressed to a friend! Sometimes, a name is just an excuse to start doing something!

Although the recent challenge in the thread has posed by my dear friend Amal's reply to a post, I really think of it as a golden opportunity to write about some issues. Therefore, those were(and are) my beliefs, thoughts, ideas, opinions, either my dear friend Amal had triggered the alarm or not!

We must know, these ideological and philosophical differences which provoke challenges and debates, have been among people throughout the history of human being. Therefore, we are not the first people who debate such issues.

These days, there are two dominant philosophies in the world; Islamic philosophy and Materialist Philosophy! These philosophies have got similarities as well as differences. An individual must be expert at both, in order to compare them, noticing all aspects. As you know, I know a little bit Physics and the meaning of some words in English. In other words, philosophy is beyond the reach of me. However, some differences between two philosophies are realizable, even to ordinary people like me!

One of the main differences between them is that Islamic Philosophy is God-centered, whereas Materialist Philosophy is Human-centered(humanistic). This is a big difference. In the first one, what God says is right, but in the second one what human says is right!

For example, In the Islamic philosophy, gay marriage is forbidden even though the vast majority of people vote for it! Drinking alcoholic drinks is forbidden, even though all people agree with it. Out of marriage sex is forbidden, even though all people go with it! ...These are some fixed rules. People cannot change them. In the holy Koran, God speaks negatively about the tribe(Lut) who used to enjoy gay marriage. They ignored their messenger's advice.God destroyed the city completely, after their insistence on the sin.

In an Islamic nation, there are fixed rules and changeable rules. People can vote for changeable rules, but fixed rules cannot be put to the vote.

The main purpose of this written is to mention that an Islamic society cannot be one hundred percent democratic! Fixed rules cannot be put to a vote. In addition to that, lawmakers are not free to make laws against our religious book; the holy Koran.

People are sometimes right, but not always. Therefore, in order to be always on the right side, we must follow God's advice which is said clearly in the holy Koran!

I am absolutely certain that what God says in the holy Koran is right. Despite all the majesty, the beauty, the simplicity, the advantage, the technological improvement, etc. of Materialist Philosophy, it will end in failure. It seems unbelievable, but God loves to act unbelievably!

It should be kept in mind that almost in all cases, human beings suffer the consequences of their own actions, deeds, beliefs, etc. To put it simply, God is not standing somewhere scowling, with a long stick in his hand, waiting in ambush, to hit a sinner on the head! This is not his way of punishing. He has set some rules in the entire universe. He has sent 124000 messengers to illustrate those rules. If someone follows the rules, s/he is successful, if not s/he results in failure. We should also bear in mind that Islamic nations will end in failure too, if they don't obey God's rules sincerely, because 'Actions speak louder than words'. In other words, hiding under word is useless, since God is wise, we cannot fool him and break his rules!

Thank you Amal for expressing your opinions, I do understand your worry and concerns about your people. Nobody wants people to be killed innocently. I have the same concern as you dear.
This question always bothered me that why many solders are killed in a fight between two kings or a war between countries. During 8-year-war between Iran and Iraq a great number of our men, women and children were killed. I always ask why? why? why?It was too hard for me to accept and digest it, yet it is!

But I have learned to bring sth into my consideration! We have to recognize what is more important, what we are living for! Our lives or our values and beliefs?
I know, sometimes many innocent people are killed just because of decision of two silly groups who fight for kingdom, for their own benefits, that is really sad and not acceptable. Thank god, we believe in the other world and judgement day and it calms us that there is a fare God who knows and sees everything.On the other hand, sometimes if we wanna take people's side we are giving this chance to enemy to win!Yes, if the righteousness could win without any blood poured, we all were happy and satisfied! Alas, it's not possible! In order to defend our beliefs, our religion, our country, our family.... we need to sacrifice our lives. As a wife, I love my husband but when it's time that he goes and fights, it's my duty to encourage him and revive his strength to attend the battle courageously. I have to sacrifice my love and my desires so that my belief wins. Oh, what brave women we've had in our history who have given hope and strengthened their husbands and sons to be a lion and fight bravely! If they wanted to sit and weep and keep their beloved ones at home, what would happen?

Honey, I do understand you and I strongly disapprove of killing poor people for silly desires but what comes to my mind is thatto let the righteousness win, however many people are killed is worth!

Dear please express your ideas and say whatever bothers you. I know you and your people are in a very hard situation, I know honey. Enshaaallah " HAGH" will win. Nobody wants this sad situation to continue. May god help you*

Dear Behnam, thank you very much for your great posts and comments. As always, informative, strong , wise and thoughtful. I do enjoy them.

Dear Mohsen, thank you very much for your great post. Who has said that people are always right and we have to take their side? You had beautifully pointed this.

1- From 2000 to 2010 Syria had a good shift in all domains and had a strong alliance with "Hezb Allah" and Islamic Republic of Iran. In 2003 Syria was against the occupation of Iraq and supported the national resistance there. Since that time the conspiracy against Syria is on.
2- In 2006 Israeli Crusader Zionist Masonic alliance tried to break "Hezb Allah" but the Syrian-Iranian support prevent that. Here the Global Arrogance alliance began to be more and more hateful on Syria.
3- In 2011 the Global Arrogance alliance began to put the final steps to start the revenge from Syria by buying the loyalty of many news networks around the world, severe sheikhs, humanitarian and human rights organizations, political and military analysts and experts, some of the Arab countries which are mortgaged to the West, traitor officers in Syria, and many other tools to achieve the success of their plans.
4- In 15 march 2011 the conspiracy on Syria "the revenge" started with a virtual popular motion, and the target of it was deception the world that the "Arab Spring" arrived to Syria spontaneously.
5- Some of the traitor officers in Syria had to do many purposed mistakes in the same time with the external incitement. The Simpleton protesters didn't understand what was happened, and some of the spies began to do criminal acts as burning state institutions, killing on both sides "protesters and police", request external intervention, and Asking to armed the insulation protesters.
6- After 3 months the systematic sabotage had begone in Syria under the name of "Revolution" with a slogan "Freedom... peaceful" but it wasn't. The Syrian "Regime" offered many repairs and did allot of them but the foreign opposition didn't accepted them and asked to establishment a external government.
7- At that time the whole world was Interfered and the both two axes "the Eastern and the Western". the Eastern ax stood in the side of The Syrian "Regime" and the Western ax stood in the side of The "Revolution" then the situation in Syria turned to indirect international war.
8- Terrorists entered on-line under the name of "Jihad" and they wanted to establish an Islamic emirates inside Syria, and for that target they did everything to encourage young people to "jihad". Mermaids of paradise, pleasure marriage, and more temptations had used for marketing the idea of "Jihad" in Syria.
9- The Western ax headlined the crisis in Syria as a overthrow of President Al-Assad and his "Regime" because he is the head of the Objection of Western schemes in the region and if he fall down their schemes will go on and achieve success.
10- The Syrian army found himself face to face with the terrorist groups in many areas in Syria, and they had been sheltering and hiding among civilians. The war was inevitably and in every war there are victims. The war isn't a civil war, it's an axes war. the negotiation is the only solution, but the war is required to strengthen negotiating positions.
11- The Ending of the situation in Syria will determine the features of a new world and new policies and axes in our world so Syria now is the key of ruling the world.

I didn't write my opinion about what is going on and I settled for present events as they are. Thanks for reading and have nice days.

Thanks for your sympathy. I read your post and I agree with you but there are some points which I want to make clear, you said:

Mohsen wrote:
You have written that 'THE PEOPLE SIDE IS THE RIGHT SIDE" but I want to say that it is not always a correct way, because they are not always in the right truck.

the Israel and USA made a Golden Calf ( They called it Freedom and democracy) for Syrian people to deceive them and if many people in Syria follow them it does not present that people side is the right side.

First of all, I want to define what or who I meant by "people", of course I didn't meant those terrorists or who called themselves "rebels", I even didn't meant those people who are with one side against the other... What I meant by 'people', I meant those who care about the country and want nothing but to build and develop it, who doesn't care about changing the government but who just care about living peacefully and protecting the country and keeping it independent, those people who are ready to give everything even their blood to keep their country far away from its enemies! Above that, we can't forget the poor people who want just to live, to find job and to feed their families, those people aren't interested in political matters but sadly those people are the most losers in this war, they have lost their homes, their jobs and their men. They have lost EVERYTHING!

I don't know how would those people be wrong???! I don't know if those people were killed then how the country will continue, by its bad people???!!! Moreover, I don't know if those people were killed then who the president will going to rule on??!!

I don't want freedom, I don't want democracy, and all this are silly words which has no meaning. We were free, we always have been free, noone can enslave the Syrian people. We were always proud of ourselves!

What I want is simple: " ASAD'S ARMY AND TERRORISTS SHOULD STOP FIGHTING AND KILLING PEOPLE, THEY SHOULD FIND A WAY TO DISCUSS TOGETHER TO END THIS MATTER PEACEFULLY AND THEN BE UNITED AND FIGHT OUR REAL ENEMY.".

Mohsen wrote:
I don't want to confirm Asad as a perfect man ,
My idea is that each side that supported by USA is the black side , so it is better to accept Asad at present and leave your gray side and be sure that it is the right truck.

Yes exactly, For now, I am with this idea, this is almost the right side.
However, Asad is OK but not perfect. To say the truth, I am 55% with his side, for sure he is better than who will come after him BUT killing matter doesn't let me give him my full trust.

How are you? My God, what a coincidence! I just realized that there is a slight relationship between the picture I had chosen and what you just wrote, or you wrote! I really did not mean to ironically put my message, so to speak. I chose it because I felt like I could sympathize with the picture LOL

Anyways, dear Mohsen, you wrote about people's lack of knowledge of their background culture. It is hard to open the discussion like this, but I guess you explained the whole matter in paragraphs just well.

I was thinking that the main problem might be as you said. That people in some cultures are unaware of their background culture or...there is an or here that I like to add, or they do not like it, that is why they try to mimic other people from other countries. But you were talking about our people that some just do as Westerns do and that is why you say they have forgot our culture.

You know what Mohsen? I was just thinking that maybe us...our culture, our people, do try to force everything in our young generations' mind. We do hurt them, make fun of their styles and ALWAYS try to tell them that everything beyond our boundaries is so wrong! I was not tyring to say that our parents are WRONG...I am just saying that maybe if we could reform the ways we try to teach and raise our kids and maybe if we could try to open our eyes and see the good sides then our children would stick to our culture and reconciliate with our values and traditions. Maybe they try to find all the good things we are trying to teach them forcily, maybe they learn them so deliberately! Hmmm?

Maybe you disagree with me or even reproach me for having such an idea but believe me, I have seen people trying to make their kids stick to what they themselves believe in just because they think it is right.

[amal] wrote:First of all, I want to define what or who I meant by "people", of course I didn't meant those terrorists or who called themselves "rebels", I even didn't meant those people who are with one side against the other... What I meant by 'people', I meant those who care about the country and want nothing but to build and develop it, who doesn't care about changing the government but who just care about living peacefully and protecting the country and keeping it independent, those people who are ready to give everything even their blood to keep their country far away from its enemies!

Hi Amal,

How are you? I hope all is going well with you. This is my last post about the under discussion issue. Actually, I was waiting for Mohsen's post to see his definition of people, since your post was written to him. However, he is late! I hope he is enjoying his holidays, visiting friends and relatives, walking on the 'Zayanderud' banks which can be really interesting and enjoyable.

I agree with Amal's definition of people, but I am afraid to say that some people don't fall within this definition. Syrian people should have come to the streets-in front of cameras-disagreed with violence, rebels, terrorists, fights, ..killing and destruction. However, they are amazingly coward and strangely silent! I am sorry to say straightforwardly that they are waiting to see which group wins, to congratulate the winner! These people fall into group 'C" in my previous classification. They are neutral. Neutral people are dead. They are not alive. They are useless.

Many photos and video clips show that the terrorists are firing throw holes made on the walls at homes! These houses belong to Syrian people, don't they? Why do they allow the fighters to use their houses as fort?

Qatar let's rebels open an embassy! So funny! This can be the joke of this century. Why do Syrian people keep silent? So called Arab Union gives the seat of Syria to rebels! Why do you remain silent? It is very obvious that the war in Syria is not on democracy; against dictatorship! Are rebels chosen by people? If the answer is no, why are people silent on this subject?

There is only one solution for this conflict. People should come to the streets and protest against the enemies! I called it enemies, you can call it war, fight, violence, killing, etc. Otherwise, a war of attrition will cause many destruction and death.

Some people may die, but that's worth being killed on the streets bravely-rather than at homes cowardly! Everything has its price. Peace and democracy have their prices. Sometimes, blood is needed to be paid for these valuable things.

Syrian people MUST come to the streets and protest against fighters. Otherwise, the enemies will implement their decision.

It seems the majority of Arab people-Syrians are included-follow a famous sentence quoted by a famous person ( الخير في ما وقع). This sentence has developed a useless negative philosophy! A philosophy based on this sentence lets robbers rob your pocket and whispers in your ear 'patience is a virtue' AND things like: ( انّ الله مع الصابرين) or (رتل القرآن ترتيلا). These are said by God in the holy Koran. Yes, they are certainly true, but their application depends on the situations we are in. When there is a war, God is no with neutral people, although they are patience! Recitation of the holy Koran, with a beautiful voice is good, but it cannot be an aim, or a normal action when the country is at war!

Thank you for reading. Sorry for making many msitakes. I have no time to check the post. My nicest friend is waiting for me to have a chat. I have to leave.

Hi Behnam,
How are you? I hope you are fine. I love Iranian people as I do with Syrian citizens.

I donot know how this love came to me or what are the reasons beyond it. I love the two counrties beside Lebanon and Iraq. You can say, it is because of their stand in the line of resistance. I may say that is true even if I have my opinion for these parties which rule thses countries.

someone will say I am a racial man. May be I am. So, could you please tell from where does this item come? May be from Turkey, may be. Or Saudi Arabia and its channels . That is another expectation, I think. However, there is a say which I side with is that Israel and its allies are against that.

It is a joke when you hear the U.S. ambassador last week announces in a press conference that the Iraqi government should say its opinion regarding what he called ' Iranian jets cross the Iraqi air to Syria carrying weapons for Assad's Government.'

I am hopeless and agitated when talking about the critical issue in Syria and also my beloved country Yemen. We have a special opinion upon the foreign policy of U.S.A in the Arab countries and also its League. Not to forget that, what so called Qatar, Turkey, Saudi Arabia are just the hands that implement the policy of U.S. I our region.

God bless and protect you all my friends. I am ready to answer any question requires me to introduce myself. But I think it is better to stay unknown these day. I donot know why but it is my heart's feelings.
All the best,
Naseh

You made me happy with your post. Welcome back! How are you? I hope you are fine.

You are not a new member, an unknown person. You are our own famous Naseh. Long time no see! Where were you man? You've been absent since last Ramadan. How is life? I hope things are going well with you.

I hope you and your family are fine , I hope people of Syria are in peace .In fact I can't judge about the your situation, because I am far from the scene, I can't make a decision like Syrian. At night sleeping in house in a place in Syria, where the rebels fire the area with mortars, What can her do to protect her life and her family? If she wants to fight against rebels , it is needed to give blood, but giving blood is not easy , does she dare to risk her life ? I don't know if I am in her place what will I do!!
Just Know I can say my idea ,there is proverb that say when the forest catch fire ,Wet and Dry burn together , So if people in this Syria stay neutral ,they will not be immunized ,but burning.
the rebels are attacking the cities, and when government army attacks to rebels'zone,it may some innocence people be killed.

I think the neutral people have the best service to rebels, because the rebels hide themselves between people , and the Syrian army can't attack them and finally the rebels overthrow the government .
This not the end , this is the first step for foreign country who help rebels , the USA army inter the Syrian lands and do like what the have been doing in Iraq and Afghanestan ( till now more than 1000000 people in Iraq have been killed).
Dear Amal , It is not time to think about jobs and home. Your people need unity against enemy, and protest against rebels.Don't let them to come closer to the cities; all people should be mobilized and shot down the rebels.

Thank you for sharing your posts , thank for your answer to Amal ,the last two days I was working in the office, and today I have gone to a picnic , tomorrow is the nature day in Iran , it is 13th of first month (Farvardin) of spring , because I don't accept the 13th ,today I went on the picnic for the nature day ,I recommend you to have a picnic on 12th day , there is a lot place for parking the car and many more beautiful areas are accessible

Dear Kamelia,
Thank you for you valuable post , I agree with you about the roles of parents. Yes you are right. But when people grow up they should not be a reflection the environment in which they have grown up.
They can restructure their personality , the adults are enough grown up to make decision about what is wrong and what is right.

I am sorry about my late reply but my mind was busy with other things.
I want to thank you about you your useful advice. These says, I am trying to let my mind decides instead of my heart. I hope the result be good this time!

Anyway, let us talk about something else... Emm, maybe music and singers, who is your favorite singer and which type of music do you love to hear? And why?

In Egypt there are a lot of famous singers such as " Om Kolthoum and Abd Alhalem", who had have add a lot of glory to Arabic music, Do you love them?

Thanks for your posts and your care, I said that I was going to write a post about Syria but in fact I changed my mind because I am very angry about the situation here so I don't want to write bad and negative things. I don't want you to be angry from my words..

However, I want to say somethings about Behnam's posts:

behnam wrote:
We should highlight their differences. In order to make the situation complicated and critical,

Dear Behnam, although Syrian people are different and have different religions but that never make us fight or kill each other, we aren't like Lebanon therefore it was hard for the enemy to play this plan and be successful. Therefore, the matter hasn't end yet and has took a lot of time because it's just a propaganda in media. Till now, we all still live together and deal normally with people from different sect..

behnam wrote:
If I were him, I'd leave the family when my younger boy was killed. I don't know. Maybe, I would be able to speak with all members and make all angles clear to them. They might follow my advice. The older boy might change his idea, but how could I tolerate his crime. He is a criminal! If I punished him, it would create another tension. If I didn't punish him, it was against the laws.

I agree with you, in the beginning if the father discus the matter with his kids it may be solved and there was no need to leave!

behnam wrote:
Syrian people should have come to the streets-in front of cameras-disagreed with violence, rebels, terrorists, fights, ..killing and destruction.

I agree 100% with you and this is my idea from the beginning. I believe that we should go to street and say our word even if we were going to die, I think it's better to die proudly with all Syrian people instead of sitting at homes and die one after another in this way we are just numbers but if we were united, we can make a difference! But sadly nobody cares.
*Although, I don't think that anybody will kill us if we went to street in front of cameras.*

behnam wrote:
Many photos and video clips show that the terrorists are firing throw holes made on the walls at homes! These houses belong to Syrian people, don't they? Why do they allow the fighters to use their houses as fort?

How would people prevent them? And the most important question is how does those terrorists enter Syria in the first step???!!! Doesn't the borders suppose to be protected by the cov???!!!

Thanks for your posts and your care, I said that I was going to write a post about Syria but in fact I changed my mind because I am very angry about the situation here so I don't want to write bad and negative things. I don't want you to be angry from my words and my bad manner..

However, I want to say somethings about Behnam's posts:

behnam wrote:
We should highlight their differences. In order to make the situation complicated and critical,

Dear Behnam, although Syrian people are different and have different religions but that never make us fight or kill each other, we aren't like Lebanon therefore it was hard for the enemy to play this plan and be successful. Therefore, the matter hasn't end yet and has took a lot of time because it's just a propaganda in media. Till now, we all still live together and deal normally with people from different sect..

behnam wrote:
If I were him, I'd leave the family when my younger boy was killed. I don't know. Maybe, I would be able to speak with all members and make all angles clear to them. They might follow my advice. The older boy might change his idea, but how could I tolerate his crime. He is a criminal! If I punished him, it would create another tension. If I didn't punish him, it was against the laws.

I agree with you, in the beginning if the father discus the matter with his kids it may be solved and there was no need to leave!

behnam wrote:
Syrian people should have come to the streets-in front of cameras-disagreed with violence, rebels, terrorists, fights, ..killing and destruction.

I agree 100% with you and this is my idea from the beginning. I believe that we should go to street and say our word even if we were going to die, I think it's better to die proudly with all Syrian people instead of sitting at homes and die one after another in this way we are just numbers but if we were united, we can make a difference! But sadly nobody cares.
*Although, I don't think that anybody will kill us if we went to street in front of cameras.*

behnam wrote:
Many photos and video clips show that the terrorists are firing throw holes made on the walls at homes! These houses belong to Syrian people, don't they? Why do they allow the fighters to use their houses as fort?

How would people prevent them? And the most important question is how does those terrorists enter Syria in the first step???!!! Doesn't the borders suppose to be protected by the cov???!!!

How are you dear kind friend? How is everything with you? I really hope that you are doing so fine.

Dear Amal, I was reading your posts and I thought to pay you some compliments, honest ones
I really adore the way you try to put your ideas forward. You are so brave to spill whatever your think is right and logical on paper. You write with clarity and simplicity while you add possible solutions to the matters ahead, every solution that you can think of. You also seem to be not giving up what you think is right. I honestly do not know if others believe it to be a positive thing, but I sure do! I like tough brave women
Anyways, dear Amal, there is something wrong here. I got some bones to pick up with you dear. I really envy Behnam, Mohsen and Elham since you write to them right away, sure I love you to write to me so soon, I mean who does not? LOOOOL

I was just kidding, I was going to say that I am leaving home today God willing, so I might be away from you and every lovely friend of mine here. I really am going to miss you all.

Uh I really felt like writing something in here. Tonight I am going to leave home for university. I really am sure that due to the shortage of time in this semester I am going to have such a hard time Not that I am so squeamish not to bear any difficulties, but I got two presentations ahead and a lot of mid-terms! oh God, please help me.

Dear Behnam, I did not find time to write to you so much in these Holidays. Half of it was for the sake of my not having proper subjects, the other half was, honest to God, the lines' problem

Kamelia's digressing in this post too much, she knows But she was just trying to write something to you since she might not be able to write in here for a fairy long time, just "might"! Hope that I really get time and find some internet there

I want to thank you for your holiday presence here. You know that I sincerely mean it when I say I really enjoy your posts and words. Hope you have had a relaxing time at home and now you are energetic for your univ life ahead.

Actually, I don't remember when we have talked last time. I miss you and I have no news from you.

Where are you honey? What are you doing? Is everything alright there? YOU had written you are about to decide about sth very important! Hope you have made the right one honey. I always pray for you my caring lovely friend.

Hi Amal ,
As I told you I can't judge the situation , I won't be angry to read your words , Syria is your country and you have right to have your idea about the situation which is exist in it.
I hope I didn't make you angry, and hear from you as soon as possible.
I think that some countries which are called developed countries would not like to see the other countries developed. It is like the time when people were living in a classified society , the poor never should go to aristocrat class. The Poor should be poor forever and aristocrat should remain aristocrat. A developing country which resist this policy will be punished.
Good luck
Mohsen

How are you? I hope you are happy and healthy. Thank you for your kindness and care. This is to let you know that-Alhamdolellah-I am OK!

As you know, there is a chat room on this powerful site, and I often go there to chat with people from different nations. 'Where are you from?' is one of the widely-asked questions in that public place. In answering to that question I often say, "I am from Iran, the land of love, beauty, and earthquake." Unfortunately, Iran is in an earthquake zone. Approximately every year, a destructive earthquake strikes some parts of the country and does a lot of damage to houses and people. Last year, for example, an earthquake killed 300 people in one of the small towns in Azerbaijan province of Iran in the north-east of the country. Yesterday, the earthquake struck a city and some villages in the southern part of the country. According to the newspapers, until now, 39 people were found dead. Rescue teams are still searching for more buried people. May God bless them!

Although Iran is a four-season country, its negative sides such as frequent earthquake, water shortage in some areas, hot and dry weather in central part which is quite a large desert, etc. threaten and bother people.

Dear Amal,
I am very happy to hear from you. In your last posts you told that you were very angry , I was worried about you , I thought that you took your gun and went to the fronteir... thanks God that you are in health. Thank you that you are worry for us . I am in good health , in fact the earthquaick had heen happen far from here , in Bushehr provice ( a city beside the persian Gulf) I have never been in Bushehr, I want to visit this city in winter ,because I can't bear the hot weather ,and Bushehr is not talorable.
My brother's child is playing beside me and doesn't let me to write well, he is an spoild child. some times I like to hit him , my brother and his wife couldn't train him well , they have treated him very very kindly ,so he is a spoild child now . I believe that parent should control their kindness to the child , if they are extrimist in affection to the child ,they child will be impudent and decay.
I told my brother , if you have a flower at home , and water it too much ,it will be rotten. you like your flower ,but you should water it sometimes.Am i right ?

Thanks for your sympathy, You are a value , a pearl ,although you write a short post ,but that is luminous.
Your writings are useful and amicable. There was an earthquake in Iran and as Behnam said there are number of earthquakes each year ,but I never have felt earthquake , I never been in a place which earthquake happened. Maybe one day Isfahan ( my city) will be punished by God. This is philosophy of God and human doesn't have enough wisdom to understand this philosophy

Thanks for your compliments. I am sorry I had to write a post for you earlier. Oh how bad I am!

I read that you were going to leave your home and you maybe wont find internet there. Therefore, I wish you the best with your study and hope that you could read my post soon. Above that, I wish we could chat more in your past holiday, I really enjoyed the chat!

Dear, last time, we were writing about playing jokes on others!
Let me tell you what happened with me yesterday!

Yesterday, as usual, I left my mobile in my room and sat with my family suddenly it rang so I went to check. There was a missed call from Elham and an SMS from an international number! In the SMS was written: "Dear Amal, I am in the hospital and I will be home after 4 days, pray for me and don't worry."

I was very worried since I read about the earthquake in Iran earlier and thought that the SMS was from Elham. -god forbid-
So I immediately went to my mobile's numbers list to check if that number was from Iran or not, thank god, it wasn't!!! So I felt a little bit better.
Then I became more crazy since I wanted to know who that person is, since s/he must be someone who I know! Uh!
I saw the number a lot of times and tried to remember the international code for every country, I thought the code was like Jordan, Lebanon or Egypt code... But it's belong to whom???!!! You know my problem is that sometimes I give my number to my friends then I forget to save theirs. Therefore, when somebody calls me, I don't know who that person is till I hear the voice.
In fact, I became very crazy and worried and while thinking, I kept saying " Who is this person!! Who is this person! Who is this person!". My brother was standing next to me and saw how nervous I became so he laughed and laughed and laughed!!!!
Ohhhhhhhhhh myyyyyyy god!! All that stress was for nothing, for a joke!!! Uh, I wished I could kill him at that moment!!!

After I calmed down, I knew that he was trying a program which send free SMSes to people and this evil idea came to his mind so he played the joke on me.

You know, maybe I wouldn't worry if I didn't heard about that earthquake or if the situation in my country was better BUT due those reasons I couldn't tolerate this joke..

Kami, do you agree with such kind of jokes? Do you think that it's OK to play with people's feelings like that? What would you do if you were in my situation?

I am so so so sorry about my late reply but you know these days I forget a lot of things -I don't know why- in your post you said that I said that I am going to to do something important. However, I don't remember at alll where and when I said that. Therefore, I reread all my old posts but I couldn't notice this sentences!

Dear, as I wrote in my post to Kami that I left my mobile in my room so when you missed called me, I didn't hear it. I am really sorry, I really wanted to chat with you. I love and miss your words verrrrrry much..

These days, I am crocheting a sweaters for my mother so it takes all my time, yesterday, I worked on it till 3 AM!
Emm, by the way, I want to tell you sth, after what happened near my home, my grandmother wanted us to leave our home and go to live with her, she has a big house with a garden, so it maybe safer or at least we can relax there. However, my father didn't accept to leave the house forever, BUT he promised her to come and sleep there for 3 days "from Thursday till Saturday". Although, I don't agree with this but now we are waiting my father to decide so if I didn't come online, please don't worry about me.

WiLZiN wrote:Forgive me if I bothered any one or tired your minds with some stories or feelings.
And Forgive me for my short, few, prosaic, and worthless posts in this thread.

Hi Wael,

Thank you very much for your sympathetic words. You are a kind-hearted person, and It is an honour to have you here. You belong to this community. Your posts are great, and I always enjoy reading them.

We are not competing with each other for writing long posts! A simple 'Hi' from you means a world to me. Please go on reading and putting posts, and having belief that you are an important member of this group.

As a man, we have to be strong. Be strong Wael! I am sure you don't get what I mean by saying 'be strong!'. Imagine, there is a farm, and the farmer is watering it. Where does the water go? It flows down to the shallow part of the farm! Be the shallow part of the land, water will come there. Be a shoulder to cry on, people will come and put there heads on it! You see, when you are the shallow part of the land, water comes, and when you are standing quietly, butterfly comes! These two theories are in agreement!

As you said "This is philosophy of God and human doesn't have enough wisdom to understand this philosophy" yes god is punishing us for what we did and still doing.
We are killing, stealing, scamming, forbidding, and hatting in the name of Islam. as Allah said in the holy Koran: (( وَلَكُمْ فِي الْقِصَاصِ حَيَاةٌ يَاْ أُولِيْ الأَلْبَابِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ )).

You are the most wise friend I have ever met, It is an honor to be here with all of you my dear.
I always read and follow your posts and replay, and some times I write replies in the same subject as my post about "Syria... What is really going on" maybe you didn't see it.
If you see me as a weak man, that isn't correct because I'm still here and working to achieve my goal despite all what is happening.
Dear... The water and the butterfly now are choosing the "Self-distancing" option, that's mean I'm alone in this story but I will not fall back.
Please pray for me my dear

You may take comfort in knowing that everybody in this forum like you.
God addresses the believers that the law of retaliation makes a security for the members of society, this law was prescribed that in case of murder, the murderer should be executed ,so nobody in the society commit a crime ,so God say that the law of retaliation makes the security for the society.
This is the interpretation of what God has said in Quran 2-179 .
God always have mercy on people ,and when he punishes the people he would like to aware people for avoiding of committing sins. For example may people committing adultery and he punish them by earthquake , flood , hurricane ,drought, activity of volcano …and so on
Furthermore sometimes God tests the believers to measure their faith in order to see who the patients are

Sorry, I wasn't at home so I couldn't reply earlier. Don't worry about me please, since I don't have to go to the frontier and fight, the fight is near my house!

Anyway, I want to write about spoiled children and upbringing. I think these days the parents need to learn about upbringing before they raise their children. They should know a lot about how to deal with the new generation since now the new generation is smarter but they don't use there smartness in useful things, they use it to deceit their fathers and mothers in term to get what they want.

The parents should know when to say "No or yes" to their kids requests and as you said they should control their kindness. However, these days most parents don't care, they just want to live their life and enjoy it, no matter what would happened to their children or how they will be in the future...

For example, my cousin is just 3 or 4 years old, he eats A LOT in unmoral way; he couldn't stay a minute without eating. However, if his mother didn't give him food, he keep crying till he gets what he wants!!!

Although giving him food isn't healthy for him but his parent keep doing it just to not hear him crying, they feel sad about him and there is another reason too; they don't want to tolerate his voice!!!

My family and me really feel angry of their actions because first of all it isn't healthy for him and he will get sick in the future above that giving him what he wants always, will spoil him. However, we can't say anything because he is just a kid who doesn't know his interest and his parents think that they are {pampering?} him!!!

My worries never be ended unless I see white color in Syria. I remember when my city was striking by missile and air fighters of Sadam forces ( Iraq regime), my parent took me to a garden 50 kms far from the city. One day my brother and I came back home to pick up some thing and took it to the garden. At home I saw that all of windows glasses were powdered ,and the house was full of dust ,the trees and the garden were dried. The color of death covered everywhere . we had a big house (650 sqm).I was very sad ,I never think that I could to sleep in that house again and felt the calmness again. But it happened ,thanks God. I hope it will happen in your country as soon as possible and you come back to your house.

Anyway let me say something about children and parents.

The parents' heart is the source of love for their children. The love for children has been `legislated' by God in the very nature of parenthood. It is normal for a parent to love his or her child; it is abnormal for a parent not to love his or her child. This is the natural law as well as the religious law.
The prophet of Islam said that The child is the master for seven years;but it doesn't mean that the child is free to do everything , it means that the parents are not free to do everything in presence of the child ,because the child is the master ,so when there is a master at home ,the parent should be very polite in front of him/her, the parent should be careful in their behavior.
,the parents should not shout and quarreling ,never use bad words ,not have sex when the child is near to them and …so on.
When parents follow their responsibility correctly ,the child never be spoiled. This is the meaning of the prophet Hadith , but many parent interpret it in bad way.

I am taking TOLIMO exam on 21st of June. TOLIMO stands for The Test of Language by the Iranian Measurement Organization. It is very similar to TOEFL. In fact, it can be said that TOLIMO is an Iranian version of TOEFL. It has different sections. I writing section, the candidates are given a topic to write an essay about it. Candidates must write their essays in 30 minutes. Then they are given 140 questions. Forty questions are about 'Structure and written expression', fifty questions are about 'Reading comprehension', and fifty questions are about 'Listening comprehension'.

About three and a half years ago, I took IELTS exam. It was easy, because in IELTS questions are designed to test candidates' language skills. However, like TOEFL, TOLIMO focuses on their knowledge of the English language. Therefore, candidates have to memorize some grammar points as well as the meaning of many words.

To be honest, I am practising and making myself ready for the exam. Today, for example, I worked on some models test with a very nice friend. We revised some grammar points. It was great.

To practise writing, I've decided to write an essay everyday. I've got a book entitled 'How to prepare for TOEFL essays'. I will copy essays down exactly as it is written in the book. This will help me 'and maybe you, with essay writing.

People attend college or university for many different reasons. Why do you think people attend college or university? Use reasons and examples to support your answer.

People attend college for a lot of different reasons. I believe that the three most common reasons are to prepare for a career, to have new experiences, and to increase their knowledge of themselves and of the world around them.

Career preparation is probably the primary reason that people attend college. These days, the job market is very competitive. Careers such as information technology will need many new workers in the near future. At college, students can learn new skills for these careers and increase their opportunities for the future.

Students also go to college to have new experiences. For many, it is their first time away from home. At college, they can meet new people from many different places. They can see what life is like in a different city. They can learn to live on their own and take care of themselves without having their family always nearby.

At college, students have the opportunity to increase their knowledge. As they decide what they want to study, pursue their studies, and interact with their classmates, they learn a lot about many subjects in their classes. In addition to the skills and knowledge related to their career, college students also have the chance to take classes in other areas. For many, this will be their last chance to study different subjects.

Colleges offer much more that career preparation. They offer the opportunity to have new experiences and to learn many kinds of things. I think all of these are reasons why people attend college.
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My comment: The essay is written beautifully and effectively. However, some words such as college and attend are overused. In somewhere, college could have been replaced with university.

As far as I am concerned, the introductory paragraph and the conclusion are written effectively. Some words, for example 'prepare', are used in different structures with different functions. Most importantly, the essay is written coherently.

I am taking TOLIMO exam on 21st of June. TOLIMO stands for The Test of Language by the Iranian Measurement Organization. It is very similar to TOEFL exam. In fact, it can be said that TOLIMO is an Iranian version of TOEFL. It has different sections. In writing section, the candidates are given a topic to write an essay about it. Candidates must write their essays in 30 minutes. Then they are given 140 questions. Forty questions are about 'Structure and written expression', fifty questions are about 'Reading comprehension', and fifty questions are about 'Listening comprehension'.

About three and a half years ago, I took IELTS exam. It was easy, because in IELTS exam questions are designed to test candidates' language skills. However, like TOEFL, TOLIMO focuses on knowledge of the English language. Therefore, candidates have to memorize some grammar points as well as the meaning of many words for preparation.

To be honest, I am practising and making myself ready for the exam. Today, for example, I worked on some model tests with a very nice friend. We revised some grammar points. It was great.

To practise writing, I've decided to write an essay everyday. I've got a book entitled 'How to prepare for TOEFL essays'. I will copy essays down exactly as they are written in the book. This will help me, and maybe you, with essay writing.

People attend college or university for many different reasons. Why do you think people attend college or university? Use reasons and examples to support your answer.

People attend college for a lot of different reasons. I believe that the three most common reasons are to prepare for a career, to have new experiences, and to increase their knowledge of themselves and of the world around them.

Career preparation is probably the primary reason that people attend college. These days, the job market is very competitive. Careers such as information technology will need many new workers in the near future. At college, students can learn new skills for these careers and increase their opportunities for the future.

Students also go to college to have new experiences. For many, it is their first time away from home. At college, they can meet new people from many different places. They can see what life is like in a different city. They can learn to live on their own and take care of themselves without having their family always nearby.

At college, students have the opportunity to increase their knowledge. As they decide what they want to study, pursue their studies, and interact with their classmates, they learn a lot about many subjects in their classes. In addition to the skills and knowledge related to their career, college students also have the chance to take classes in other areas. For many, this will be their last chance to study different subjects.

Colleges offer much more that career preparation. They offer the opportunity to have new experiences and to learn many kinds of things. I think all of these are reasons why people attend college.
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My comment: The essay is written beautifully and effectively. However, some words such as college and attend are overused. In somewhere, college could have been replaced with university.

As far as I am concerned, the introductory paragraph and the conclusion are written effectively. Some words, for example 'prepare', are used in different structures with different functions. Most importantly, the essay is written coherently.

Wowwwwww,I knew that you get the best of results, cause you deserved it. Hearing your good news about your exam's result made me very happy. Thanks for sharing your great success and happiness with me. Your happiness is mine too.

We have to hold a party and I'm going to take my " soor" from you! YES!
I'm not there to have your sweet victory confection, but I want it, I don't know how, but you HAVE TO give me the sweetest confection you can. How? I don't know!!!

*A million Congratulations from me to my dearest friend on one biggest victories of his life*

Iranian Measurement Organization announced the written exam results today. Among about 300 people, I ranked fourth. It means that I passed the written exam successfully. The result was beyond my imagination! Thank God!

The next step is choosing the universities which have my subject(Photonics) in their education program. I am allowed to choose all of those universities. Then, next month, they will invite me for an oral exam. It is like a job interview. Professors will ask me some questions about the subject. In fact, the interview is like a meeting. The professors will test my ability and knowledge. Then they will mark. Finally, in September, Iranian Measurement Organization will announce final results.

For me, it was a great success. Besides God's help and support, some people have played important roles in this success. First of all, I'd like to thank my wife for her encouragement, support, care, and patience. Without her support, it was impossible for me to focus on studying and preparing for exam. She has provided a friendly peaceful and calm atmosphere for me at home. Finally, I have got some wonderful friends. My friends have supported me emotionally. They have encouraged me in achieving this goal. I'd like to take this opportunity to thank all friends for what they have done for me. Thank you all very much indeed.

I am really excited. I don't know what to write. Please accept my apology. I do love you so much.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. This was a gift from God. God helps people who help each other. You helped me, and God gave us this happiness. I am happy to share this happiness with you.

Do you agree or disagree with the following statement?
Parents are the best teachers. Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.

Parents shape their children from the beginning of their children's lives. They teach their children values. They share their interests with them. They develop close emotional ties with them. Parents can be very important teachers in their children's lives; however, they are not always the best teachers.

Parents may be too close to their children emotionally. For example, they may limit a child's freedom in the name of safety. A teacher may organize an educational trip to a big city, but a parent may think this trip is too dangerous. A school may want to take the children camping, but a parent may be afraid of the child getting hurt.

Another problem is that parents sometimes expect their children's interests to be similar to their own. If the parents love science, they may try to force their child to love science too. But what if the child prefers art? If the parents enjoy sports, they may expect their child to participate in different teams. But what if the child prefers to read?

parents want to pass on their values to their children. However, things change. The children of today are growing up in a world different from their parent's world. Sometimes parents, specially older ones, can't keep up with rapid social or technological changes. A student who has friends of different races at school may find that his parents have narrower views. A student who loves computers may find that her parents don't understand or value the digital revolution.

Parents are important teachers in our lives, but they aren't always the best teachers. Fortunately, we have many teachers in our lives. Our parents teach us, our teachers teach us, and we learn from our peers. Books and newspapers also teach us. All of them are valuable.
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Thank you very much for your care. Mit, Eli, Wael, Amal, Seti, Mohsen, Mary, Kami, Roq, Roy, Ami, Vens, Heaven, Sofi, sumi, Shari, .. It is not possible to list all people who have congratulate me in different ways. Thank you very much indeed.

Nowadays food has become easier to prepare. Has this change improved the way people live? Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.

Food is a basic part of life, so it follows that improved methods of food preparation have made our lives better. Nowadays we can prepare meals much faster than we could in the past. We can also enjoy a greater variety of food and eat more healthfully, all because of modern methods of food preparation.

Microwave ovens have made it possible to prepare delicious food quickly. people these days rarely have time to shop and prepare meals the old-fashioned way. We live very fast lives. We are busy working, caring for our families, travelling, playing sports, and many other things. Because of microwave ovens, we have time to enjoy a good meal with our family and then play soccer, go to a movie, study, or do anything else we want to afterwards.

Modern methods of preserving food have made it possible to enjoy a wide variety of food. Because of refrigerators, freezers, canning, and freeze-drying, we can eat fruits and vegetables that come from far away places. We can prepare a meal one day and save the leftovers in the refrigerator or freezer to eat at another time. We can keep different kinds of food in the refrigerator or on the shelf. It's easy to always have food available and to be able to eat completely different meals every day.

Healthful eating is easier now than it ever was. Because of modern transportation methods, fresh fruits and vegetables are available all year round. Modern kitchen appliances make it easy to prepare fruits and vegetables for cooking. Bread machines make it possible to enjoy healthful, home-cooked bread whenever we like. We can eat fresh and healthful food everyday because modern methods have made preparation easy.

Our lifestyle is fast, but people still like good food. New food preparation methods have given us more choices. Today, we can prepare food that is more convenient, healthier, and of greater variety than ever before in history.

Hi Behnam,
In fact you got one of greatest achievement in your life ,that is your perseverance which have been proved.
I want to congratulate you for your great success. I wish that your recent success leads to real happiness and satisfaction as well, as you start making a new life. God bless you more!

How are you doing dear doctor? I used to call you ostad sometimes and you said something like don't Kami, don't! Now I am going to call you doctor and you can't say NO

Everybody congratulated you HERE and I could not so now I am making it up to my dear ostad, or maybe make it up to me, since everyone's talking of the confection so I thought like maybe I was going to miss it LOOOL
No but seriously, congratulations on your big success a million times and no doubt you will pass the interview even better

I cannot state how happy I felt the day I heard of the news, it felt like me myself had won a contest!!!

LOL I am writing this post to prove you wrong That I am writing before the next Holiday

Just kidding, dear Mohsen I was reading your post to dear Amal and I was especially attracted to the part where you talked of your parents' old house. I have not lived in old houses with the wonderfully Persian style of their decoration and structure but from what I have seen mostly in books and magazines and our old one which I lived in for nearly about 8 years I can say that no architecture is as cozy and as charming as the old Villa houses. One felt pretty comfortable in them. Now some days ago we were walking in certain streets of Mashhad which have lots of old houses. Some of them were occupied and some not vacant and pretty ruined. Still they were SO beautiful. The lovely colorful windows, wooden doors and windows sometimes, big yards, lovely little gardens, round plumpy columns, especially the type which has four columns on front. Now I wanted to ask you how your old house looked like. And tell me if you like the Villa type or the apartment complex ones?

How are you doing Ellie jo0o0on? How is everything with you? How does spring work on you? Pretty enjoying it or you feel allergic for the first few days?

Thank you so much for the lovely message of friendliness, I dearly appreciate it.

Uh Ellie joon Eid finished as simple as that, even Ab Paria finished and I could not watch the last session, did you? How did it end? But the days after the Holiday are like...uh...drags! I almost got a mountain of stuff to read and evaluate and then to come up with evaluation and critique papers and guess what? I have not even cracked a page, lazy me!

Hmmm...I reached the pc-room and I felt like I need to write to my friends so I just clicked to sing in. But now I am thinking what topic to bring up so that you could write something in return too
Oh wait...in our major we deal with poems a lot. Before this I never liked poetry, I could not understand what they say. I thought like they were just making up stuff so that they seem beautiful. This happened about not all the poets but some of them. It seemed like I could not read poetry on my own, I needed an interpreter like our high school times. But now, I HAVE to read them, it is not the matter of choice or like but a matter of MUST!

I was wondering if you ever felt like me or maybe you never did and were always a fan of poetry. Well in case you fit into the latter case, will you tell me why do you enjoy it? How is it different? Or is it any specially poet you want to mention whom you always enjoyed?

You wrote about how bad you were because you delayed writing to me and I was wondering what AM I comparing to you?!!! I keep writing with long long intervals and then I justify myself with not having internet access here ( not that I lied or anything) but somehow it is too bad to bring excuses everytime. You are an angel comparing to me honey, don't bother!

Oh concerning the joke somebody had played on you, I could kill her if you want me to ( ) , since I hate when somebody tries to play dirty or dangerous stress-causing jokes on my friends! You know what it is horrible when they give themselves the right to make somebody worried like that! It is unfair, because for a moment after reading that text or hearing a call even you could think of millions of things, God knows where your mind treads!

You know something, I think most of the times it goes back to your mentality. If you got a good mentality concerning the cell-phones and the textual jokes then it would be pretty easy for you not to mind them and dissmiss them one by one since you got a background of what MIGHT have been the real content, serious or jokingly. I mean you know that you got friends who might joke with you just trying to make you laugh or something. Now the reverse case, if you got a bad memory or mentality from these texts, like me, then they might be too painstakingly to bear. Actually the past three years and even this year was full of bad and good news that most of them reached me via cell phone. Now tell you what, the bad ones where horrifyingly sad or stressing like the news of my lovely classmate's death. So I got a very sour scene from texts. I am not saying that I am a total pessimist, waiting for bad news from my phone every minute, but that I feel like it IS possible if the person who is sending this text might be TRUE! Then comes the moment when my minds goes a hundred ways making up plots of what might have happened! Do you see what I am trying to say? Well maybe if I did not have those memories I would not think this way.

All in all, I am not saying that it is good that people try to joke with you like this and that it just goes back to your mentality. I consider it a very bad deed but in addition to that I believe in the effect of your previous experiences on how you interpret the texts.

Now tell me, to what extent do you think it right to joke with somebody physically and verbally?

This (forum topic) is really a very attractive invitation for English Learners. Congratulations to the organizer(s) and those who supported and still supporting this topic!
It is really nice to know that you have seen the good side of being on this site and how you can make use of what is being offered here to support your English studies.This site is really useful to all of us wanting to learn and improve our English.
I too, had been using this site to support my English studies and also, helped me a lot to improve my reading and writing skills. Though you will find some (most of the time new) members spoiling some board topics from time to time, just don't worry because eventually they will find their way and see for themselves that this site can help them too.
Good luck to all!

Welcome to this thread, and thank you for putting comment. Thank you once again for joining us. You've been on this site since 2007, and you've written more than five thousands posts! That's amazing! You are an experienced learner and writer. I'd like to know where you have put the posts.

Would you mind introducing yourself? What do you do? Your English is excellent. What level you are at?

Hi kamelia,
A man enjoy when incite a woman to prove something, I know that you want to say that no no … the fact is something else …

About my old house which I used to live ,it was a big house with ten big rooms, two kitchens, some rooms had arch roof ,and all doors and windows were made of wood.
A pool in middle of yard ,a stone fountain in middle of pool ,in the morning or evening we sat on benches which were around the pool ,eating fruits or tea while the water went to the air by fountain. The pool overflew to the garden. We enjoy swimming and play with water in summer, also cared about fishes not to fell in the garden when the water overflowed .there were also some big red fishes in the pool. The well was full of water; the water was pumped to water source on the roof and then leaded to the stone fountain.
Dear Kamelia , I never lived in the apartment, no experience I have , now I am living in a 200 qm villa house , it is a jail for me.

Women always prove that men are doing wrong .
See you after next holiday.
B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Hi Friends,
Once a ship got caught in a violent storm. It wreaked havoc and the waves cast its wrecks on the sands of the shore. Among them was a sailor who lay senseless on the beach. When he came to his senses, he cursed the sea saying, "The Sea is a cheat indeed. It attracts people with its cool and calm waters and once they are in its grip, it turns furious and destroys them."

Hearing his reproach, the sea felt pinched. But it didn't want to trouble the sailor anymore. So, it came to the sailor in form of a damsel.

"Who are you, O lovely lady?" asked the sailor.

"I am the sea and am as lovely as you see me now. You are blaming me for the wreck but it isn't just." Surprised, the sailor asked, "Who is just then?"

The sea urged, "The wreck was caused by the cruel winds that blew into gusts and gales over me and created stormy waves in my calm waters."

The sailor had nothing to say except feeling sorry for blaming the sea.

Almost all unhappiness in life comes from the tendency to blame someone else. - Brian Tracey

Are the Dzhokar Tsarnaev and Tamerlan Tsarnaev reponsible for Boston explosion .
They were from USA , originally they were from Chechen, They had no interest in Islam ,the had no faith, the were good cases for doing a new plan and making a new story against Muslims.

What people do for money ,when their minds washed by Zionists.
Are the USA people believe what the USA media are telling them !!!!

You news regarding being the forth among 300 students was for me another Iranian quake.
I think the quake came just as a result of the that news. Earthquakes come because of reasons. so, that news was another quake and made me instead of asking about your live to write to congratulate you!

Dear Dr., Forgive me for my late responses. I have tried many times to post here and suddenly fail. I don't know why?

Please accecpt my latest congrats on the occasion of your success! I kept it late on purpose. I want you to feel that your success is our success as a whole Ummah. You know what? If I was about to congratulate you with people, may be you will be happy for some moments then you will forget your great success. But I want you to stay feeling it longer and know that people are proud of your great achievement!

1. Burning DesireThe motivation to succeed comes from the burning desire to achieve a purpose. Napoleon Hill wrote, "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve." A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results.

2. CommitmentIntegrity and wisdom are the two pillars on which to build and keep commitments. This point is best illustrated by the manager who told one of his staff members, "Integrity is keeping your commitment even if you lose money and wisdom is not to make such foolish commitments."

3. ResponsibilityPeople with character accept responsibilities. They make decisions and determine their own destiny in life. Accepting responsibilities involves taking risks and being accountable which is sometimes uncomfortable.Responsible people don't think that the world owes them a living.

4. Hard workSuccess is not something that you run into by accident. It takes a lot of preparation and character. Everyone likes to win but how many are willing to put in the effort and lime to prepare to win? It takes sacrifice and self-discipline. There is no substitute for hard work.

5. CharacterCharacter is the sum total of a person's values, beliefs and personality. It is reflected in our behavior, in our actions. It needs to be preserved more than the richest jewel in the world. To be a winner takes character. George Washington said, "I hope I shall always possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most valuable of all titles, the character of an honest man."

6. Positive believing/ThinkingPositive believing is a lot more than positive thinking. It is having a reason to believe that positive thinking will work. Positive believing is an attitude of confidence that comes with preparation. Having a positive attitude without making the effort is nothing more than having a wishful dream.

7. The Power of persistenceThe journey to being your best is not easy. It is full of setbacks. Winners have the ability to overcome.Persistence means commitment and determination. There is pleasure in endurance. Commitment and persistence is a decision. Athletes put in years of practice for a few seconds or minutes of performance.
Persistence is a decision. It is a commitment to finish what you start. When we are exhausted, quitting, looks good. But winners endure. Ask a winning athlete. He endures pain and finishes what he started. Lots of failures have begun well but have not concluded anything. Persistence comes from purpose. Life without purpose is drifting. A person who has no purpose will never persevere and will never be fulfilled.

8. Pride of performanceIn today's world, pride in performance has fallen by the wayside because it requires effort and hard work. However, nothing happens unless it is made to happen. When one is discouraged, it is easy to look for shortcuts. However these should be avoided no matter how great the temptation. Pride comes from within, which is what gives the winning edge.
Pride of performance does not represent ego. It represents pleasure with humility.

The quality of the work and the quality and the worker are inseparable. Half-hearted effort does not produce half results; it produces no results.
Excellence comes when the performer takes pride in doing his best. Every job is a self-portrait of the person who does it, regardless of what the job is, whether washing cars, sweeping the floor or painting a house.

First of all, I'd like to say a warm welcome to you. Welcome to this thread! Thank you for joining us.

You've considered me a successful person in English, and you've said that my English is fluent! Thank you very much for paying some nice compliments. That's very kind and generous of you. However, I am an English learner. My English is neither good nor bad. I just can pull my own weigh! In chat rooms, I have no difficulty in making conversation with people, but I am not fluent at speaking.

About six years ago, when I started to learn the English language seriously, some friends of me used to ask me for the goal of learning English. They used to ask, "Behnam, what's your ultimate goal of learning English?" Once I answered, "A good action doesn't need any motivation or goal. It is a goal itself."

I planted a tree 6 years ago. I've been watering it(looking after it) for 6 years. I can easily say that at least 4 hours a day I've practised different English skills; listening, speaking, reading, and writing. I took every single opportunity to improve my skills and abilities in English. I spent a lot of money, energy, time on it. Some people wrongly think that learning English is easy. On TV, for example, sometimes I see some funny advertisements claiming to to teach English(the to learn it) in 10 sessions, in one month! I often laugh at those advertisements and at people who believe such ridiculous things. Learning a new language is a lifelong process.

After 6 years, in PhD entrance exam, I picked the fruits of that tree! People who are learning a new language must be patient. I believe patience is one of the most important factors in achieving our goals. Obviously, patience plus hard working result in success. Some people are patient, but do nothing. Therefore, it is necessary to be determined, patient and hard working when learning English.

In order to speak in public places, you need to have self confidence. Being confident about your ability is extremely important. Try it, little by little you will gain enough self confidence to speak in public. Don't worry about making mistakes. Even native speakers make mistakes. Try to learn from your mistakes. If we don't make mistakes, we learn nothing.

How are you doing? I hope everything is going on very well with you and your lovely family.
Oh come on! You do not mean that you were provoking me to prove you THAT! LOOL

Anyhow, you succeeded, what comes next? You did me the favor to put more time and write more often, half kidding actually Since I am a bit freer in this time of the year so...

Never mind about Muses stuff, so let's seeeee....your house was quite a dreamy old one! An old mansion with arch roofs and so on that must have been so interesting for you as a a child to wonder and search about the house. I am thinking that children in those eras (not that you are an old man, in no sense ) had much more fun because everything they needed as to serve their curious consciences were already provided by the lovely big house

Thank you so much for telling me about it. You know what made me ask you that? In the Noruz Holidays that we just passed I used to watch documentaries about Persian ancient styles of houses with the gorgeously beautiful architectural design then I kept wondering who could I ask more about it. Oh and most of the houses belonged to Esfahan, Yazd and Shiraz!

Hi friends,
How are you all? I have to tell about something very important for me and you . Of course, it means I need your help.

This is to let you know, I am going to present my presentation at the college tomorrow morning . My university subject's name is "Practical Research Methods. "

In this subject, our Dr. choose a topic for every student. Then, according to the time and the day you have chosen, you have to stand to perform your topic in front of your doctor and the whole class and according to your performance you can get your marks .

My topic for Monday is about "Participant Observation. " It is very short. but very important for every researcher. It is of two parts, the first one is direct observation. and the second is participant observation.

Participant observation is of two types: openly and secretly participation.

I want your opinions about this topic. It does not matter what it is, just write something you know about the topic .Also, I want to hear those graduated students who have well knowledge and enough experience.

I have gathered enough information and many videos as an example for these two types of observation. One is about an American citizen who have been in Yemen for long time. He is studying Arabic language. He is an example of participant observation who tried to immerse himself in the Yemeni society to know more about their behaviours, habits, and customs. He has entered Islam. But it is indicated from his speech that he is doing a secret research.
The second video is about a British citizen. An Arabic Tv have met him at the street of Old Sanaa. He was chewing Qat as yemenis do. He speaks Arabic good. He is an example of direct observation because he is a joournalist. and trying to gather news. Therefore, no need to immerse him sled in the Yemeni society . I was shocked when I saw this video. This British man was my friend. I have met him alot during the first days of Yemeni revolution. He is a journalist. He worked as an editor for a local English newspaper, Yemen Times, and at the same time was working for the British newspaper, the guardian. His name is Tom Finn.
I hope I can hear from you so soon so that you can enrich my topic. I am going to write to you as soon as I finish my presentation and get access to internet.

good for you Behnam.
I try to speak English and use it in every day conversation but so difficult when you are not in enviroment .because of that You forget so easy.
for example I have a lot of problem in my grammer and I need someone to correct my mistakes Just do not look at me.
I start learning English about two years ago when I was 16.(Safir Language Academic)
my father is upset that I can not speak English during these two years.
It is close to the June exams and this year I have a university entrance exam.
My mind is too involved and I do not know what to do.

a flower is beautifull for a day
but love a beautifull flower for ever

Many thanks for your reply. Safir institute has knowledgeable teachers. After finishing all courses in Kish institute, I went to Safir institute and took part in IELTS skills courses; listening, speaking, reading, and writing. The courses were really useful.

There is a saying in English, 'if you don't use it, lose it'! It comes true when we consider learning a new language. It is the same for all learners.

Obviously, when writing and speaking, we put some words beside together to make a sentence. We must know that putting words randomly beside together hardly creates a correct meaningful sentence. In making conversations structurally correct sentences are necessary. In other words, knowing grammatical rules is important in making effective conversations. There are many methods to learn English grammar. Self-correction is one of the most effective methods. How can we correct ourselves?

When putting words beside together we must care about some rules. In order to make it clear, let me give you an example from your own post:

Maniya wrote:I start learning English about two years ago when I was 16.(Safir Language Academic) my father is upset that I can not speak English during these two years.

These two sentences are written wisely. The first sentence indirectly mentions to your age. It says that you are 18 now! As you know, making conversations and communications in English is one of the main purposes of learning the English language. The conversation has been made perfectly, since I understood what you meant. However, you may intend to improve your grammar. You can do it-to a great extent- by self-correction, but how?

In the first sentence, you are speaking about something which was done in the past. So the tense of verb must be in past simple. Therefore, It must be 'I started learning English about two years ago.' You can ask yourself, which of the following sentences is correct and why?:

a) I started to learn English two years ago.
b) I started learning English two years ago.

Then you refer to some reference books and see that they are a little bit different, but for this case both can be used. When we say 'I stop(start) to smoke', the action isn't done before stopping. In other words, the action will be done after stopping(starting). However, when we say 'I stop(start) smoking', we are doing the action(smoking in this case).

In the second sentence, your father is upset because of something, so that's better to use 'because' instead of 'that'. Plus, 'can not' is a common mistake. It must be 'cannot'. In addition to these minor mistakes, 'during these two years' doesn't make sense. I guess you mean something like this:

Despite taking part in some courses and practising English for two years, I still cannot speak English well, and this has made my father disappointed in me. Or, ...and this has made my father angry with me!

When we use 'during these two years' we emphasis on the duration of time that the action has been done. In the second sentence, you are, actually, complaining about dissatisfaction with your spoken English. Speaking is considered as the result of your learning. In other words, your father expects you to speak quite well now. Therefore, it is incorrect to use 'during these two years' for this purpose!

I don't mean to correct you. What I am saying is that by spending some time on the structures and considering other possible options we can both correct ourselves, write more effectively and beautifully.

How are you dear friend? I guess I never got the chance to write to you. This is my first time and it is a little bit hard to start the posting since answering your post is a little bit difficult.

So I see you got a presentation. Tell you what? I guess most of my friends from Iran here are too much familiar with the presentations, or at least guys my age!
These lectures have become a routine way of achieving grades in Universities nowadays and they are really good BUT....only if they are presented in a very articulate professional way! Not by a sleepy tired student trying to finish it as soon as s/he can! Do you see what I mean?

Oh I passed research methodology course about two years ago. I new almost all the subjects by heart but unfortunately I never even heard of participant observation or maybe I was not as good at it as I thought I was!

Dear Maniya, I read your post and then dear Behnam's post to you. I was thinking that what I could help you with as an English learner. I am not a very good adviser but there are some stuff which I faced when I was your age and learning English.
Actually I remember my first and worst problem was that why could not I learn which propositions go with which verb! Next problem, why could not I speak fluently and stop pausing after each word I used? You see? There was a lot to go. I could not even write properly! What I thought was that I could NEVER learn them, like really hell NEVER!

Now, I am not as educated or as experienced as Behnam is in teaching or in English but I know something. You are never going to learn a language unless you give yourself SOME TIME! Try to level with your father that in two years you are not going to be a professional BBC news reporter! You see what I am trying to say?

Oh and something else, more than trying to speak, LISTEN! Listen to everything English that is available! Listen and then repeat them to yourself.

It is funny but I had a very fluent teacher in speaking who told me that he used to talk to himself! Alone! He used to bring up a subject for himself so then he thought about it and tried to discuss with himself. This seems a very easy way, right? Because we think of too many stuff everyday and then if we could just spit them out in English, miracles would happen!

How are you dr? Long time and no posts to you made me miss you so I am finding a little excuse to write to you here.

I was reading your post to Maniya. I still cannot express how much I liked it. You advise people greatly without even making them feel like you are a very knowledgeable person to whom they HAVE to pay much respect, do you see what I am trying to say? No pompous airs! While you ARE that great person!

I always look carefully to learn new tips and hints from you. Thank you for being so inspiring

Hi Kamelia,
How do you do? I am glad to know you. Please let's start a new page of friendship. I know only more about Behnam. So I am going to take the chance.

Thanks a million for writing to me even if my writings were broken. Since language is way of communication so it doesnot matter. In my opinion, nowadays, those who write free writings are better than those who write formal writnings. I think those mistakes are the one and only which can attract the attention of the reader. What does matter is the idea. If you have an idea and some rules that make you convey it in an understandable way.

Once again, thanks for sharing me your experience. Oh my God, sorry! Take it easy if I said you asked me a question I am tring not to answer. So, it is an obligation for me to answer since it is your first question. My major is Translation plus ..!
I hope to know more about you.

Dear Behnam &Kamelia
I am grateful for your helpful instruction to improve my language
but I think I can never be like you.
You and the other member are very good at talking.
I like successful people in their life and trying to be one of them .I think Behnam is one of that successful people Who makes life so much attention.

a flower is beautifull for a day
but love a beautifull flower for ever

How do you do? I am glad to know you! Have a big shout for joining this thread! I am happy to know the forth Iranian Friend. I know only the female ones, Mohsen and Behnam. But my beloved ones, Kamelia and you, I am sorry if I say I know not your gender. Fact must be siad, I have problem in recognizing names whether is it male of female. Since I think there is no rule in the English language to allow you to distinguish genders.

In Arabic, my mother-tongue, I can recognize a person through knowing his name. However, I suffer nowadays from a phenomenon of westernization of Arabic Names. For example, I know the old-male name 'Ahmed, Mohammed, Ali, Hassan', but couldn't recognize these recent names as : ' Barakat, Alawi, Faten, Sa'aoud', though these names are Arabic. The reason is that in every Yemeni area, some name a woman as "Barakat" and the others name a man as "Barakat", depending on the culture of each area. I don't know if there is scientist who can manage this problem.

Your English is very good since you are studying English at an institute. If I am going to compare your English with mine, as a university-student of English, it will be shameful on me. I am not flattering with you. This is what I see. Dr. Behnam has a good experience in struggling to get the language.

For me, I was studing English at an institute.I think, it is nothing if we compare the institute's syllabus with the university's curriculum. That is to say, academic teaching is the real teaching. Of course, there is something its name is "Distance Learning" that makes us rich of enrolling universities. In my opinion, universities are like paper-books during E-books. Paper- books has its beauty and characters.

Today, Our doctor was absent of his lecture. I was so nervous all night till I dreamed that I was doing my presentation in front of my doctor. It was hard for me since I saw myself nervous. I think that is a natural feeling every one have it if s/he is about to do something for the first time publicly, except some.

Now, I have lost that feeling. I am now comfortable. I have decided not to do it again. I hate doing things again. However, I love doing things again in one condition, that is if I fail doing it. So, since I didn't fail doing it, I am going to delay it or choose another topic while I hate alot being fail. I know failure is a friend of successful people but I hate it in my studying.

Of course, every one want to be the first one in everything. Every one want to achieve his goals in order to help his parents and his country. Sometimes I get some laziness. For one year or more, I have been addicting with Facebook. I spend more than 8 hours each day. Please pray for me to get rid of facebook. I spend most of time in politics. This is what made me leave this thread since I was active member in every thread that Behnam was trying to build. He was moving from one site to another untill he has stayed here. He was leaving those sites for some reasons. Anyway, I do love his obstinacy.

To conclude, everyone need to be stubborn in getting his rights and achieving his goals. I think it is the one and only tool that allow us to achieve what we want otherwise we may be eaten by others. We have a proverb in Arabic "كن ذئباً والا اكلتك الذئاب", its translation is:' Be a wolf, otherwise you will be eaten by other wolfs"

Happy to see you here these days. I check the posts everyday, I really want to write, a looooooot, but I don't know why I don't feel like writing. I've really missed writing long energetic posts.

I'm sorry for being late to reply to your post and questions you had asked me about poem! Honey I love to write about this topic, but I prefer to do this while I'm in a poetic mood!haha

There are times when I get terribly poetic and feel deeply in love! In love with what? Emmmm, different things, different persons.... I love those times,.............

Oh Kami I do love to write about this topic aloooooooot, alooooooooooooot, I miss writing.... but I don't know what's wrong with me...... ~.....

You know, There are bothering thoughts preventing me...

Kami? What has been your biggest loss in life? What's the worst feeling you've ever experienced? If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be?
What do you think is the saddest thing you may experience?