Female and male decisions implicating on intimate relationships and dynamics

Saturday, 22 October 2016

Why women forgive unfaithful men

“If you don’t
know somebody, you know somebody who knows him.

Or, you know
somebody, who knows somebody, who knows him”.

There
is a lot of talk about who cheats more – women or men? This subject has even become a popular
conversation opener for men who have the bollocks to approach women they don’t
know, and although it is now lacking in originality, it is a far better start
up than leading in telling her how beautiful she is.

When
you partake on more than a few internet searches regarding this topic, it isn’t
easy to pinpoint which sources are the most worthwhile. You may find one that abides by research
showing men commit infidelity more, with others showing that women are slightly
higher in adulterating habits. But after
a bit more tapping, a fair average would illustrate an approximate even
scale. Therefore, a rule of thumb
conclusion is that 20% of women and men cheat, or have cheated, on their better
halves. Men may be reading at this point
in thinking that an 80% chance of his female partner remaining faithful is more
than decent odds. I advise you to read on.

This
20% figure stacks up, because women and men also file for divorce on infidelity
grounds at a similar percentage of roughly 15% (of all divorce instigated
reasons). It is easy for naïve people to
be washed in by how so many more women file for divorce because they have been
cheated on, but women outweigh total divorce instigation by 2 to 1 over and
above men, so only the percentage is relevant.

When
you dig deeper, there is enough evidence to conclude that women think about
cheating more than men, without actually carrying it out.This shouldn’t come as a
surprise to anyone who understands how life works in this respect. Women are the sex who are more in a hurry to
get married, who are consequently more “settling” in order to attain the big
wedding day, who have a greater need for external attention to be projected
onto them due to the by-product of a wedding and spectators either at the venue
or subsequently on social media, who require greater status validation of being
a wife/fiancé/girlfriend, and who ultimately, because of all the reasons given,
become irritated, bored and fed up with their male partners at an earlier
stage. As the saying goes, women are the
first to want into marriage and the first to want out. So women are far more likely to be on the
lookout for a suitable “next” partner, without cheating per se.

This
isn’t to say men’s eyes, minds and penis movements in the face of other women
do not stray. Far from it. If no obstructions or consequences needed to
be dealt with, more men would cheat.
However, as most men up until the age of 35 are to be found with better
looking women (at least when the women are done up in public) than their own
looks grade, most men develop a mentality that she is the best he can do. When a man develops this mindset, he is less
likely to, or believe he hold the tools to, attract other women and consequently
cheat.

So
if it is a fair bet to say that both sexes cheat at more or less the same rate,
and women think about cheating more than men, why is it that, if you have lived
in the same world as me, do you find that more women forgive men who cheat than
the inverse situation? I offer some
reasons:

Women are always on the lookout for signs that a man is more
desirable than the level she actually sexually desires him herself, and this is
linked to how most women settle for men who they are content with at best. If this man cheats, although it may tear her
heart into bits at first, after the tears have dried and the heart is less
achy, it has actually proven to her that other women find her man attractive. Ironic as it is, a man who has cheated on her
is now a man she finds more attractive than before.

A high percentage of men who cheat will be high calibre men
holding plenty of options with other women.
Similar to the above explanation, a woman doesn’t consciously want to be
cheated on, but she is turned on by a man who could cheat on her with equal or
better looking female rivals. With this
in mind, a high proportion of women would rather be with a higher calibre man
who cheats, rather than a loyal, but unwanted, male partner alongside her.

As women pass their mid 20’s, their appeal to the opposite sex
starts to decrease. Knowing they have
fewer options, they may turn a blind eye to a man’s first offence of adultery. “Can I do any better?”, she asks.

Jealousy and a lack of trust are emotions women use positively in
finding men sexually appealing. Even
after she has found out about his adulterating misdemeanours, a woman can use
this experience to weirdly find him a more valuable catch.

On the other hand of jealousy and trust deficiency, a man does not
use these habits productively, and it only manifests in him actually being
detached from a woman who has caused him these feelings. Women primarily need to look as physically
attractive as feasibility allows them in order to keep their man interested,
followed by loyalty, honesty, personality, sexual appetite, and good
girlfriend/wife material instincts or processes.

Women love competition with other female rivals (and other female
“friends”) in out-doing each other, becoming the most desirable, and in essence
attracting the best quality men. So when
a man has cheated, a woman can use her forgiveness as a mindset to do one over
the woman he shot his load inside. “I’m
the one he stayed with”, she may be saying to herself in vain or truthful hope
she is the better woman.

Despite belief to the contrary, men are in fact more sensitive in
emotional (and some other) failings than women.
Women may dramatize, shout, scream and cry frequently to exploit victimization,
but this is all for show and attention.
It’s no coincidence that more women threaten to commit suicide, whilst
more men literally commit suicide. So
when this man - who based his love on loyalty, purity and faithfulness – finds
out another man has deposited seed inside his all so perceived innocent female
partner, the only way to erase all memories and hurt is to walk the other
way.

When
the tables are turned

Much
of the above is most pertinent to out of wedlock relationships. Only just behind this is whether the woman
and man have children. Once married
and/or with children, you may find that a considerably smaller percentage of
women forgive men who cheated on them than prior to being husband and wife or
mother and father. With irony once more
acknowledged, you may also find that a larger percentage of married men forgive
women who have had it off with another male counterpart.

Why
is this the conceivable case? Pure and
simple, men, by clear majority and in the usual course of events, have more to
lose if a divorce occurs, whilst women have far less to lose and more to gain
if the marriage breaks down. So although
the man, if cheated on by his wife, is just as disgusted as he ever was before
walking down the aisle, the financial implications and fatherhood
responsibility that cannot be ignored may just reluctantly lean him towards
forgiveness and hope for a better day.
Most men who get married also believe they cannot do better anyway, but
this is another story for another day…

On
the other hand, whilst a wifed up woman is still just as aroused by her man
cheating, in comparison to as his girlfriend, she actually now has a hold on
him to get out. Her ego, reputation and
wife credentials have been damaged by him not keeping his pants on, and the
retribution she can inflict on him will often be a stronger lure than staying
with the man she now finds more sexually into.

Q-tip:

This all gives further
reinforced advice that, for men, there really is no sensible, beneficial,
rewarding or necessary justification to get married. Not only do you place yourself at major
future risk, with no actual plus points to balance against, but you will also
find that the wife you marry is less likely to take oversight to your willy
wonker finding its way inside another woman, than before you verbalized the all
so genuine vows. As the wife and mother
of your children, she also finds you less sexually attractive. In true summary, the only link between love
and marriage is paper and legal based. There
really is nothing a modern day man in the western world can’t have outside of
marriage, in analysis to what he takes inside of marriage.

1 comment:

Hi Vi Nay I read some of your posts and I find it quite insightful. Congrats!

In the past two years I have read a lot of red pill material and focused in improving my looks and got a cocky attitude.

The thing is in the last months I get many IOIs girls flirt with me and still can't close the deal (with the women I really want).

I do get many complimments and I am labeled as a player very often. I'm start to realize I'm focusing too much in attraction. At the beginning I thought I wasn't good looking enough but I think this isn't the case. Should I just be a "nice guy"? I do live in a small town.

Another question- Which countries in europe have the best ratio of cute women to good looking men?

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