4 Ways You Are Self Sabotaging And How To Stop It

We all want to be successful in life. Whether it be that you want to get your dream body, obtain your dream career or succeed in relationships. Success is the ultimate goal for most people. Yet even though we may dream of it and feel passionately about it there is often a subconscious drive within us to self sabotage ourselves. We want that fit body yet we stuff ourselves with junk. We want that dream career but we don’t put in the work that is needed. Which puts up unnecessary obstacles to our success. So why are we self-sabotaging? I decided to delve deeper and look at the ins and out of self sabotage and the ways in which we can shake it. Are you self-sabotaging yourself?

1. Put the phone down

As I write this blog post I can see at the corner of my eye my phone lighting up with notifications. And no matter how hard I try I feel my concentration fading and my urge to look at my phone take hold of me. I bet this sounds familiar? As wonderful and useful the smart phone innovation has been it has turned us all into phone addicts desperate for our next hit. Try to limit your time on your phone as hard as it sounds, and turn it on airplane mode when you need to do something productive. You will be able to concentrate better and will not be distracted and end up spending your valuable time scrolling the pages of Instagram.! I am turning mine off right now.

2. Staying in your comfort zone

This is one thing that I struggle with as an introvert. Putting myself in uncomfortable situations or situations where i have to …*gasp*…talk to people, can give me real anxiety. However by staying at home all the time and keeping to my comfort zones I will never learn and experiences the things in life I want to experience. Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Start by doing little things such as driving down a route you have never done before, or striking up conversation with a stranger. I used to stress so much about driving our big car around by myself. However it only took me a few practise rounds to be confident in the car.

3. Procrastinating

When I look at all of the entrepreneurs and influencers I admire, they all have one thing in common. They do not procrastinate! They get on with it. Procrastination is the number one cause of failure yet it is probably the hardest habit to fix. It just takes some will power. I find that if I start the day productively then I tend to have a more productive day with less procrastination. Compared to a day where I have a chilled out morning. I have been wanting to lose those extra kilos since having my son for what seems like forever. He is 2 years old. Talk about procrastination!!! So I have now started to get up earlier in the mornings to do my work out before he is awake. Hard? Yes but it has helped me to start the day in a positive way.

4. Not being organised

The biggest issue faced when not being about to achieve your goals is a lack of organisation. Just like anything, to achieve greatness you need a strategy. To have a strategy you need to be organised and have a plan. That includes a plan for your day ahead. When you have no plan for your day then you are more likely to put things off for later and lose track of what needs to be done. I always make a to do list and a time plan so I know how i am going to fit everything into my day. While always still scheduling some me time.

For example, I set aside 2 hours a day for my blog which is usually during Gabriel’s nap. Then 2 hours of study from 7pm to 9pm, with an hour to spare for me to have some free time before I go to bed. This way I decrease my chances of procrastinating during the day and not getting anything done.

Sometimes there are more serious underlying issues that could be the cause for your self-sabotage. These may need to be addressed on a deeper level. Low self esteem and self worth can sometimes be a cause for this. To make any real change the root cause needs to be worked on. Just know that we are all capable of achieving great things, it is all in our mindset.

The phone is such a time and life pit. Like, you get soooo addicted to checking instagram or facebook even when you don’t need to! These are great things to work on to make life more fulfilling and successful! I’m going to work on #1 this week!

honestly, the ‘put the phone down’ is something that hits totally close to home. no kidding, i feel like i can’t live without my smartphone even though i’m in front of the monitor. thank you so much for sharing this, i really need it! 🙂

Similar to the phone challenge is the challenge of others/loved ones. I guess it all depends on focus but I have noticed in myself as well as others that success often has to be done alone! As much as we need or like cheer leaders we need to ultimately run that race solo! Thus, I have found I am most successful when I tell Darcee, “Look this is my goal and if you can or want to help that is great cause I would love it. BUT if you cant or dont really care, would you mind if I hit it hard without you so I can hit this goal that is really important to me!! This is what I am going to do…be ready!”
After I have that open communication, she then can either join me or get out of my way and I wont feel guilty or distracted by her.

Portia

The put the phone down is something I struggle with everyday. We live in this world where we having everything at our fingertips and you almost feel incomplete if you are up to the latest news or Instagram post.

I am so guilty of all of these, especially the procrastinating and being distracted by my cell phone! Sometimes both go hand in hand for me, then I end up spending my entire Sunday trying to play catch-up because of it.

When I’m coaching a client we talk about the first one quite a bit because distractions are such time wasters. If ppl spent half as much time on a focused task for their business as they do scrolling social media, they could achieve practically any goal they set for themselves in 12-18 months. If someone only has 90 minutes a day to devote to their side business, that they are hoping will free them from their 8-6 day grind, they’d better make darn sure those 90 minutes are super productive. I also push the organization card. Priorities! And not just on the strategy, but organizing your surroundings. It’s so much easier to function in a clean, neat space. To sleep in a clean, neat retreat style bedroom etc! Thanks for sharing your wisdom 🙂