Does Seeing An Ex-Boyfriend on Facebook Make You Ask, <i>What If?</i>

Does Seeing An Ex-Boyfriend on Facebook Make You Ask, What If?

With Facebook, Twitter and the rest of the Internet making everyone so darn accessible these days, it seems a lot of us have moments when we ask ourselves, what if...? While these are not necessarily moments of doubt for our marriages, families, or lives as moms, they do seem to occur more often now that it's so easy to stay connected to people from our pasts, including people we used to date.

As author Allison Winn Scotch puts it, "My grandmother - and even my mother - never had to worry about an old boyfriend popping up and asking to accept his friend request. We do. We're shown their relationship status, given access into their perfectly-witty status updates, and left to ponder over whether they occasionally peruse our relationship status and our perfectly-witty status updates as well."

I'm friends with a couple of my ex-boyfriends on Facebook, but that's it...friends. I no longer have any intimate feelings for them and they are all in relationships of their own. I am friends with the first guy I ever dated and kissed, and now we are in a relationship again. We're both divorced (not because of Facebook...I was already in the throws of divorce when we found each other), but we helped each other through our rough time and realized that we still had feelings for each other after nearly 20 years and decided to try again. It's been the best thing to happen in years for me, besides the birth of my 3 boys! Even though we've decided to not rush into marriage again, we are enjoying things as they are and will be having our daughter within the next 4 weeks! We spent last summer apart while we sorted out our own personal issues and realized just how much we missed each other and wanted to be together. We reminisce about high school and continue to learn new things about each other everyday. My boys love him and he loves them. I want to help him raise his 2 daughters from his ex-girlfriend as well as our baby girl. I am so thankful for our second chance, through a mutual friend of ours on Facebook who sent me the friend suggestion for him! ♥

i have met up with a few guys that i had a crush on when i was younger and they know who they are. Its been 35 years since i seen the one and the other i seen couple months ago. I was happy to see him.

Ex's aren't in our lives anymore for a reason. Neither my husband or I add people we were with in the past, which seems like common courtesy to the other. The only exception is my step-son's mother (who technically wasn't even girlfriend status back then) whom we are both "friends" with on Facebook only because of stepson. It seems silly to want to keep up with someone you aren't with anymore, especially when you're in a committed relationship now As for "de-friending" someone, if I don't talk to them/they don't talk to me I see no problem with it.