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Is He Commitment Ready, or Commitment Phobic?

Signs
He Wants to Commit - or NOT...

'HE'S
NOT READY TO COMMIT! OR IS HE? Five Signs He's Not Ready to Commit'by Glass
Slipper Publishing (You may join our mailing list by clicking here)

If
you want to know whether a man is ready for commitment, it's probably
best not to rely solely on what he says. For most men, saying what they
believe a woman wants to hear comes fairly easily. So if you want to
know whether a guy is ready to settle down, you need to move beyond the
words he uses and look at his actions, as these usually speak a lot
louder. The following are five ways in which a guy will give himself
away as being someone who doesn't intend staying around for the long
haul.

1. You don't feature in his future plans

When a man talks about the future, if the
words "I" and "me" are mentioned more than the words "us" and "we,"
then it's unlikely that he's envisioning a future that includes you.
When a man is serious about a woman, he not only factors her into his
plans, but also wants to discuss those plans with her. If you put a guy
on the spot and ask him if he sees a future that includes you, he could
very well answer yes. However, engage him in conversation about his
true hopes and desires and see whether he tells you that none of them
matter if he can't share them with you.

2. He doesn't introduce you to his family and
friends

A guy who isn't serious about committing to a woman won't see the point
in introducing her to his family and friends. He knows that any woman
he introduces to his family isn't going to be forgotten quickly. He
won't want to run the risk of having to fend off his mother's enquiries
about you when you're way back in his past. Likewise, should he
introduce you to his friends, they're going to believe that the
relationship is serious and as a consequence he may miss out on some
exciting invitations.

In a similar vein, if a guy you're dating introduces you as his
"friend," this is a sign that he's not ready for a committed
relationship with you.

3. He doesn't talk about you to other people

Some guys who are in relationships don't always want others to know.
One reason for this could be that a man wants to keep his options open
(or appear to be keeping his options open) just in case something
better comes along. Another reason is that some men may like the tag of
bachelor, believing that this adds a certain degree of mystery to their
persona. If you suspect that your guy doesn't talk about you to others,
try to wangle an invitation to meet his work colleagues. Should they
say something like, "Oh, I didn't even know John had a partner!" when
you're introduced to them, you will have your suspicions confirmed.

4. He doesn't tell you about the
important events in his life
A man who's committed to a woman will tell her what's happening in his
life. Not only will he want to share this sort of information with her,
but he'll also want her advice on any choices he may have to make,
particularly those affecting his lifestyle, because these in turn will
affect how he conducts his relationship with her. A man who withholds
these details from his partner usually does so because he doesn't see
her as being important enough to share the information with. Perhaps he
doesn't respect her enough to want to ask her for her opinion on
particular matters, or perhaps he doesn't see how any decisions he
makes about the future will impact on her - or on the two of them as a
couple.

Discussing important events in this way also enables a couple to grow
closer. So if a guy isn't willing to do so, then it's a sure sign that
he doesn't want the relationship to develop.

5. He's not prepared to compromise

Compromise is part and parcel of a nurturing and supportive
relationship. It's almost impossible for a relationship to grow, never
mind flourish, if both parties aren't prepared to compromise. However,
some men aren't prepared to make the small sacrifices that compromise
sometimes demands. This is usually because they don't believe that the
relationship is worth making sacrifices for, meaning that a guy has
little respect for his partner or for their relationship as a whole.

For example, a guy's refusing to attend an event that's important to
his partner, simply on the grounds that he doesn't want to go, shows a
lack of willingness to compromise as well as a lack of regard for his
partner. This is a sure sign that he has little interest in making the
relationship work and that he's not prepared to commit.

A woman doesn't need to rely solely on what a
man says to know whether he's ready to commit. She just needs to
remember that a man will always be known by his deeds, especially when
it comes to matters of the heart.

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women how
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Today's Inspiration, Poem
or Quote:

"I saw you the other day, but you didn't see me. I was the one hiding
in the recesses of your mind." ~
Tigress Luv, The Break Up Guru '

Today's
Prayer or Thought:

"If
I've been stuck in my past -- afraid of moving on , or seeking 'change'
in my life -- I'll ask myself, 'Why am I scared?' 'What is it I'm so
afraid of?' Is it because clinging on to what is 'known' to me
represents security, and the 'unknown' represents risk? If I have fear
of 'change' I have to remember to inner-reflect and see how in my past
'change' has always meant betterment and not losing.

Today I'll try to remember that often taking risks and venturing into
the unknown is what brought me to many wonderful places in my past
life. When I no longer fear risks, when I see change through eager anticipation, I give control back to me. I am no longer
afraid but avidly looking forward to what new adventures my life may
hold."
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