I recently moved to Florida and I found myself in a same sex relationship. Everything seemed absolutely perfect until randomly I got a call from him saying he wanted to break up with me.Not even an hour after, I find he's in a new relationship. It’s confirmed on Facebook. It may have only been two weeks, but the whole experience was new to me and the stress of that combined with the breakup… it’s just a lot to bare. The only thing I can think about is what I did wrong and what I can do to get him back even (though logic tells me to just move on and that guys suck just as much as girls). What it comes down to is that I don't know how to move on.

Best,Can’t Move On

Dear CMO,

I don’t care whether you date a girl, a guy or any other inversion of that. Regardless of gender, the fact remains that you need to date people who are emotionally ready and who don’t play games (read my blog last week on PLAYING GAMES).

Especially considering you are in a period of coming out or, at the very least, an emotional transition, you need to be respectful of the fact that you are trying to grow as an individual. It is so important to drop any potential people who could mess with your head. This guy you mentioned seems really emotionally young. You need to be with someone who is looking to be your friend, as well as a boyfriend. This way, you can both be there for each other along the journey.

Like I would tell anyone else, you need to find someone who respects and appreciates you and is in it for the right reasons. I know that we all talk about FWB (Friends with Benefits) as a seemingly acceptable way to go about a relationship. And it’s in a way commercialized now with the movie, along with every day situations. But it’s not something I personally believe in; I’ve never subscribed to it. I don’t know where you stand on this, and I don’t care if you have a different point of view than me. However, I will say that before you even think about anything like this, I would really take it slow. You said this new situation was really overwhelming for you. So don’t be in a rush. It’s great to explore a new relationship, but slowly feel it out. You don’t need to go from 0 to 100 right away. Remember YOU are testing out this person to see if he is a good fit for YOU. If you guys aren’t compatible, then it’s no big deal. You didn’t do anything wrong; it just didn’t work. And that’s ok. Move on with your life with all of your confidence in tact. And move on with someone else when the time is right.

xoxo, Natalise

p.s. SONG ASSIGNMENT – Listen to Leona Lewis’ "I Got You." I love this song, and I think it’s such a testament to how you should feel about someone with whom you’re in a relationship. The best relationships are the ones where you feel like you would be there for the person when it mattered the most and vice versa. So make that a goal for yourself.