20 Things Leaders With Real Confidence Do Differently

Genuine confidence comes in many shapes and sizes.

With popular culture infiltrating our phones and implanting into our minds, more and more stimulation is required to catch our attention. And often, the most confident people aren't the loudest voices in the room. This creates a problem.

Let's make this clear: confidence doesn't need to be loud. It doesn't need to be the center of attention. And it doesn't need to take all of the credit for success.

All of those features are created from insecurity. And real confidence doesn't originate in insecurity--it comes from self-trust.

Authentic belief in oneself is an important part of the equation. Another is congruence between one's values and actions. And when all of these are molded together through time and repetition, it results in an embodied presence that is interpreted by others to be confidence.

Said another way, genuine confidence is the embodiment of self-trust that comes from living according to your values, practicing what you preach, and repeating that process over time.

Real confidence has little to do with the clothes you wear. And even less to do with being the center of attention.

Genuine confidence is all about how you carry yourself, how you respond to adversity, and the way you make others feel.

The list below is meant to capture several other facets of people with real confidence. Read it and discover little ways that you can be the more confident person you've always wanted to become.

These are the traits of extremely confident people.

1. They lead by example and encourage others to do the same.

People with real confidence don't just talk the talk, they walk the walk. And, in doing so, empower others to do the same.

2. They're so immersed with their process that they forget what other people think.

It's not that confident people act like they don't care about what others think. That's called being defensive.

The truth is that confident people don't have the mental energy to care about the opinions of naysayers. They are too immersed in the present moment to even notice.

3. They show confidence through tone and presence rather than words and materials.

People with genuine confidence don't feel the need to impress you with nice clothes, fancy watches, and Ferrari's.

4. They prioritize self-growth outside of the office.

Without question, people that have genuine confidence rather than false bravado engage in self-development practices like coaching and therapy. It's a no-brainer.

5. They practice prior to performing and trust that their preparation will lead to successful outcomes.

It's not that confident people are infallible gods, it's that they have natural talent that they maximize through years of hard work. Practice makes perfect.

6. They have a singular focus (rather than trying to do everything at once).

The most confident people aren't spinning around multitasking. They focus on one thing at a time and give it their all. That's where confidence in your competence is built.

7. They wear their shortcomings on their sleeve and work around them.

Through coaching and therapy, people with real confidence have grown to know themselves. As a result, they know how to talk about and work around their limitations.

8. They value and maintain supportive relationships with friends and family.

Confidence is relational, meaning that it's created through interpersonal interactions. People with real confidence open their hearts to those they care about.

9. They turn towards people rather than away from them during adversity.

When the going gets tough, people with authentic confidence ask for help. They fight the tendency to isolate so that they can bounce back quickly.

10. They don't wait until they're sick and burned out to schedule downtime.

Similarly, people with real confidence prioritize their health. They make time to exercise. And they schedule time to relax, because they know doing so improves their longevity and focus.

11. They delegate to build a team rather than shouldering all the responsibility.