jeffcox wrote:Does everybody agree that one parent should stay at home?

Why should one parent stay at home in the first place?

Maybe so the little brats don't stick their fingers in a light bulb socket or perhaps because they are not potty trained!

So if a parent is not looking after their kids it means:
1. The babies are not receiving adequate nutrition (ie breast milk)

2. The kids are being "looked after" by complete strangers who may or may not have the values that you want for your family.

3. Your children are bonding with someone else. They will are not bonding with you like they should be if you only see them for one hectic hour in the morning and a couple of hours before they go to bed at night.

4. The kid is open to child molestation. And don't think that that it won't happen to your kid!
And once it does happen there is nothing that you can do change things back to the way they used to be. Your child will be permanently scarred and you will be to blame for not providing a proper enviorment for the life that you are responsible for. Trust me, you don't want this heartache so why take the chance?

Do you really think that your life is about you and your career, once you have kids? It's not! It's about the kids.

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danyet wrote:Do you really think that your life is about you and your career, once you have kids? It's not! It's about the kids.

Of course it is, but my point is, none of us should quit our jobs to take care of the kids. About complete strangers taking care of them, no way! That's what grandparents are for (provided they are there, of course, which would be another subject...)

So, how many kids are the grandparents required to look after? 1 or 2 or 6 or 8?
If everyone gave their kids to their to grandma to look after it could be quite a handful for her. Not everyone has a grandma either.

Sure that's better than complete strangers but it is still not the ideal. Your kids still will not be getting breast milk but I guess your job is more important than a baby's health.

I mean, no one, not even "baby" is going to stop you from earning enough money for that extra High Definition Television Set for the bedroom, are they? Hmmmm?

I think we're talking about different things, Dave. Of course if the kids are so small as to need breast-feeding I would be around all the time! (plus there's maternity leave). I was talking about a lifetime: Why should one parent stay home and the other work when they both can do it?

I'm agree with dixie when make a difference from a very little baby and a child.

Of course if a woman and her guy decided to have a baby, she'll think that for 1 year the baby needs almost all her time and she must give it; but before this time she must be free to decided if want work (without to forget baby and family) or she want stay at home.

WOW! I´m a female but, at first, I´m a PERSON. Why have I to justificate myself for having a work?. I have been styding for years. My parents have spent money and efforts and I want to be present in our society. There have been a lot of women who have campaigned for women rights even offering their lifes.
Men! We need your minds but opened! If you want to have a life in common with other person all will be in common, children too. This isn´t a matter about who makes it better, it´s a matter of will.

ilargia wrote:WOW! I´m a female but, at first, I´m a PERSON. Why have I to justificate myself for having a work?. I have been styding for years. My parents have spent money and efforts and I want to be present in our society. There have been a lot of women who have campaigned for women rights even offering their lifes. Men! We need your minds but opened! If you want to have a life in common with other person all will be in common, children too. This isn´t a matter about who makes it better, it´s a matter of will.

She thinks that life revolves around her. She thinks that she is more important than her own children. She is full of pride. Life is not about her.... it is about her kids. That is ALL that life is about.

Each of us is responsible for to see that the lives we bring into the world (our children) become good and decent humans worthy to walk the planet. That can not be done when both parents work outside of the home and 99% of the time the mother is more qualified than the father to stay home with the kids.

Feminism has done nothing for children. Feminist are the enemy of our kids.

All of us have a job to do in life......but if you or anyone thinks that this job concerns money, you are deluded!

women wants to work because they similarly us, to men, wants to prove for herself that they have enough ability to reach success regardless men, and eventually she think that her good job it is an advantage, win.

Xkalibur wrote:I think,if woman wants to work, so we should respect her decision, and they should respect us.

applying for a job seems to be an outrageous action... a very hard decision of woman making her a black sheep in the society... guys! you're so funny! no offence

I've always thought that getting a job is a nesseccity (as money makes the world go round) and a kind of expressing oneself on every existing field... I guess current society is quite well-balanced and there is no need to discuss if women should work or not

danyet wrote:I'm sorry I thought this thread was about Mothers working.

Sure women can work if they want but as soon as they become mothers they had better think twice.

Perhaps you should tell the Prime Minister of Australia this. As of the 1st July this year any single mother has to have at least 15 hours a week paid work or prove to the Govt that they have spent 15 hours looking for work including 9 potential jobs; which includes door knocking etc. If you don't meet this criteria you will have any pension benefits suspended (or as centrelink calls it you will be "breached"). So whilst your train of thought (obviously predates the early 30's) you might want to consider that these days the goverments are removing such choices for women.

danyet wrote:I'm sorry I thought this thread was about Mothers working.

Sure women can work if they want but as soon as they become mothers they had better think twice.

women now have to be good at work, earn enough money AND to raise kids. As I suppose kids are not of less importance in woman's life but just on the contrary.

It happend so here that not every woman can afford herself to do nothing but bringing up childrenm due to money troubles. And if she's able to work and spend enought time with her children she deserves respect.