Wednesday, December 31, 2008

This morning I was listening to my morning call and the speaker was saying that this year she is asking the Lord to "Break the Net" what is that you say? In John 21-1-6 tells the story of how Jesus went fishing with the disciples. They had been unsuccessful in their fishing venture earlier. He told them to go back out and he gave them specific instructions. They followed his instructions and when they tried to pull the Net back up it was so full that the Fish broke the Net. Their blessings were overflowing.How did this happen?1-They had enough faith to trust the Master. 2-They followed his exact instructions, even though it didn't make sense to them at the time.3- They were willing to work

That's it! Just like home based businesses. Its netWORK marketing. A friend pointed out that just like the Disciples we must be willing to push (ACTION) the boat (our PRODUCT) away from the shore (netWORK.

Here's to 2009 coming just in time. More than ever we must not Beleive what we see (Recession) but SEE what we believe ( success) because with God all things are possible! I'm here for you. If you need me call me. Fill out the info in the form on the side with a working telephone number and email.

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Lets not go into 2009 with a whole bunch of baggage. We need to learn how to forgive ourselves and Others. Lee Green of Black Business Builders club encourages us to just "Let it Go"

NOBODY WAKES UP IN THE MORNING CHOOSING TO BE THE VILLAIN.

Everyone alive thinks that they’re the “good guy.” He or she is thehero in their version of the story. They have a reason for whatthey do - even if it’s impractical or unworkable or has evilconsequences.

People who are troublesome aren’t worth changing. Don’t even wastetime complaining about them.

If someone hurts you, it’s not about you and you shouldn’t act likeit was. People do what they do because of their own inner reality.Learn what you can do differently the next time, then forgive themand move on.

Really. Forgive them completely. And then, figure out how tomanage, tolerate or avoid them in the future.

By the way, forgiving doesn’t mean that you think whatever they didis okay. It’s NOT okay. But here’s the thing - if you don’t forgivesomeone you can’t ever let it go. Then you have to go around withthis burden of anger and sourness. Wasn’t the original hurt enoughfor you? Why would you want to preserve it and remember it? Or them?

Carrying grudges ties up brain cells that you could use to makelife sweeter for yourself and those you love. So, after you forgivethem, forgive yourself for getting hurt - and then LET IT GO!

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Lee Green from Black Business Builders Club wants us to know we have to hold ourselves more accountable. Principle #8 od the 12 Principles for Change. We are moving on to 2009! Change is going to come.

EXPECT LESS FROM OTHERS AND MORE FROM YOURSELF.

Most people expect way too much from others while they themselvesactually get very little done. Inertia and distraction areinsidious and damn near universal - expect it in others but guardagainst it in your own behavior.

Everyone listens to his or her favorite mental radio station -W.I.I.F.M., which stands for, “What’s In It For Me?” So don’t takeit personally when you’re overlooked, your call goes un-returned,and you go un-thanked.

Most of your fellow humans are so distracted and disorganized thatthey only get around to the most essential, familiar or urgentthings in their lives. They’re on “autopilot” most of the time -aren’t we all on occasion?

This self-interest is natural and healthy. Use this knowledge ofother’s desires in your plans and proposals.

Here’s the big principle. If you want something to happen, takecontrol and do it yourself. Don’t get bitter if perhaps someoneelse didn’t keep a commitment to help you.

It is a waste of time to criticize others, and a bigger waste topay attention to anyone’s criticism of you. Just know that you canget better at doing things on your own. It’s a LOT easier thantrying to get someone else to change.

Friday, December 26, 2008

I hope you had a blessed Christmas Day yesterday and took the time to reflect on the true "Reason for the Season"I am continuing the Principles of Change series written by Lee Green of the Black Business Builders Club. As we look toward 2009 its time for personal and business reflections. here is Principle #6

OBLIGATIONS” ARE A FRAUD.

Okay, take a deep breath here. This one gets a lot of people,because most of us have been brainwashed all of our lives tobelieve a huge lie. We’ve all been taught that we “owe” otherpeople all sorts of obligations, and that we should expect lots ofthings from them in return.

That idea, is essentially ... B.S.!

We waste an incredible amount of time either doing things we don’twant and don’t have to do, or feeling guilty because we didn’t dosomething we “should” have done. We also waste a lot of time andemotion being disappointed when we don’t get what we expect fromothers.

Freedom lies in the other direction.

The truth is, you don’t owe anyone anything and they don’t oweanything to you. This is all part of the “guilt” thing. It’s goodfor us to give to others, but ONLY when and how we choose.

The difference between free people who master their lives and thosewho are slaves is easy to spot.

Who sets their priorities?

Free people set their own priorities, while “slaves” allow them tobe set by outsiders.

Your life belongs to you and you alone - and not anyone else. Wanta formula for unhappiness? Make your welfare dependent upon someoneelse’s choices. Do you need “support” from those you love? Orapproval from a parent or friend? Or permission from anybody topursue your own path? That’s not living - that’s slavery!

Don’t look to anyone else for your success or happiness. That’syour job and yours alone. You must tend to your own welfare. No oneelse will, nor should they.***********************************************************

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Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Jesus is truly the reason for the Season. I was pondering the Christmas story of how a single woman who for all practical purposes gave birth to the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. How Kings traveled to give tribute to a baby who they recognized was royalty despite the meagerness of his birth in a manger instead of a palace. I am so thankful. O Come let Us Adore Him, Christ the Lord I wish everyone safe travels and happy times with their family.Have a Blessed CHRISTmas!

I hope you are enjoying these excerpts and I hope they bless you as they have been blessing me. Today, I present Principles 4 & 5 from "12 Principles of Change" by Lee Green from Black Business Builders Club

YOU MAKE YOUR HABITS AND THEN YOUR HABITS MAKE YOU.

You’ve probably heard the saying, “As you sow, so shall you reap.”It means that our lives are created by what we do, not by what weintend. It means that we can harvest only what we plant. And everyday you’re planting something, so choose wisely.

The biggest and most important influences in your life are createdby small daily acts. For example - Meditate, Study, Set Goals,Save Money, Exercise, Floss, Smile, and Say Thank You.

When you do the right thing at the right time it makes moredifference than if you make a big dramatic effort too late.Cramming may work in school, but not in real life. The school termis over in a few months; life lasts longer. Days turn into yearsand those years become your life.

The most important qualities in life - Spirituality, Health,Relationships, Wealth, and Your Personal Character - are developedby regular acts done on a daily basis. They’re called “practices.”

Daily practices - done on schedule. What? Just “can’t do anythingon a schedule?” Baloney. You can do anything you want on aschedule, unless you’ve never gotten to a plane on time. It’s amatter of priorities. And your priorities create your quality oflife. Choose the practices of your life as if you were a farmer.You can’t skip spring planting if you want a fall harvest. Masterthis principle and you will live your life to its fullest. Changing your life doesn’t take a lot of work - just repeat asingle positive act daily for three weeks and it will become ahabit. Good. Now add another one. Then another one. The force ofgood habits will automatically generate power and “good luck,” andyour life will blossom.

GUILT ENSLAVES YOU. RESPONSIBILITY LIBERATES YOU.

Here’s a secret about “Original sin”. It’s guilt, and you get itfrom your parents.

Are you self-conscious? Most people are. They’re worried thatthey’re “unzipped.” They’re walking around thinking that peoplewill notice their missing button, their bad hairdo, their poorcredit and personal shortcomings. These feelings are universal -we all got them while we were being taught how to behave as infants(”No!” “Bad!” “Don’t!”).

When we become adults we are supposed to leave these feelings ofinadequacy in childhood where they were needed.

The way to do this is to forgive your parents for theirshortcomings, whether they were minor or major. And then forgiveyourself for all your sins, real and imagined. Forgiving doesn’tmean that you think what happened was okay. It just means that youfree yourself from the work of remembering it and getting mad atpeople that may not even be around anymore. Including the younger“you.” You MUST do this if you want to be free.***********************************************************************

Monday, December 22, 2008

There is a Law of Attraction in human nature. What is in your mindis reflected “out there,” in what you experience as your reality.

Afraid? Then all the goblins that you fear will be attracted toyou. The only useful purpose of fear is to remind you to plan. Planso that you protect yourself from harm, but don’t become timid. Ifyou play it TOO safe, you’ll freeze in place and trade your lifeaway for nothing.

Angry? Then you’ll get a lot of angry people to tussle with. Yourlife will fill up with honking horns and people pushing you around,and you’ll spend all your time pushing back.

It’s a good idea to choose your habitual thought patternscarefully. Love, optimism and gratitude are good choices. Thesestates of mind inspire you to explore, to create, to grow and togive. People and opportunities will become attracted to you. Andthe goblins and angry people will get smaller and less important,and finally they’ll fade and go away.

The point of choice comes up when you have to deal with achallenging situation. Do you call it a “bad break” - some S.O.B.was out to get you? Or was it just something that happened ...leaving it up to you to interpret in the most nourishing way? Youmight as well be positive. Bottom line - it works better. It makesyou easier to be around and more creative and good-natured. Andyour immune system will be strengthened.

Events are just events until our thoughts and reactions turn theminto experience. What the experience means and how useful it mightbe, are the choices that we make -they’re the stories we tellourselves about our lives.

We’re taught that it’s not ‘reasonable’ to expect to win all thetime. Nonsense! That kind of thinking numbs ambition and smothersgreatness. Even worse it leads to reasonable excuses. Excuses don’taccomplish anything so do NOT be reasonable. Actually, achievingthe impossible is quite normal - you’ve done it thousands of times. EVERYTHING you do now was impossible for you before you did it thefirst time, from feeding yourself to balancing your checkbook.

Try this for a week. Focus on what you want instead of what youdon’t want. Practice the skills of optimism, gratitude, generosityand forgiveness and your life will expand.

Yes, that’s right. PRACTICE.

Good attitudes are skills that you develop through repetition, justlike swimming or math. And skills become second nature throughpractice. You will become stronger and more relaxed when you decidethat you might as well thrive. Your commitment to expectancy isanother skill, and it’s decisive and magnetic. It attracts luck andcreates focus. People and opportunities will be drawn to you. Lifestarts to get easier. And more fun.

Go ahead and test it. What have you got to lose? The only way youcan fail at anything is to quit trying!***********************************************

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Continuing our series on 12 Principles for Change by Lee GreenBlack Business builders

2. YOU ARE AT THE CENTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE. STAY THERE!

As a young man growing up in the South Bronx, I learned the hardway that I needed to take my corners wide and keep my hands out ofmy pockets. In other words, I had to stay balanced, alert and readyto react to surprises. I’ve found that a lot of life’s situationsrequire "street smarts". They range from the bedroom to theboardroom, and you will encounter them throughout your life.

Keep your balance. Stay centered. Expect surprises.

Being centered has two sides; inner and outer.

Begin within.

Inner centeredness comes first; look there for your "best self". Itis how you will find peace of mind. There is a place in you that’sconnected to something beyond you. Spending time there will keepyour mind clear and your spirit refreshed. That “doorway” is yourcenter.

Until you’re connected to your core, you won’t be very good athandling the rest of the world. Few people really get this. It isthe single most important and least understood fact of life.

Your center is easy to find. Every spiritual tradition in historyteaches prayer and meditation - it’s the most important thing youcan do for the quality of your life. Just take a little break acouple of times a day, and learn to be still and RELAX. If yougive yourself this little time each day, you will become calmer,stronger and your physical and mental health will improve. You willbegin to focus more on what you think of yourself, than what othersmay think of you.

For outer centeredness, you need to gain awareness of your personalboundaries. This is critical. Pay close attention to where you stopand others start. Protect your personal prerogatives and respectthose of others. Allowing others to invade your boundaries willdestroy your personal freedom and subject you to their tyranny.

If you cross the boundaries of others you become codependent withthem, caring more about how they live their lives than how you liveyours. You can care about others without having to run their lives.Let them go and feel the relief, once you get used to living onlyyour own life

Saturday, December 20, 2008

I received a powerful email from Lee Green of Black Business builders. I decided to share it with my readers. So I will be sharing it over the holiday. So here it goes.

12 Principles for Change by Lee Green- Black Business Builders

These are non-negotiable and there are no escape clauses. Noexcuses are accepted. Ignore them at your own risk. Keep in mind, Igot this information over decades of living, but many people havenever learn these rules at all. And so they live in “quietdesperation.” You don’t have to settle for that. If you considerthese facts and test them against your experience (NOT yourconditioning!), I predict you’ll adopt them, and you’ll be on yourway to a life of freedom and accomplishment.

********************************1. SELF-MANAGEMENT AND PEOPLE SKILLS ARE THE KEYS TO YOURSUCCESS AND HAPPINESS.

This is a MAJOR fact of life. And it took me a long time to getthis. If you want to be smarter than me you’ll give this firstprinciple serious consideration. Your skill level in these twoareas will determine the quality of your whole life. Every championand high achiever knows this. These simple skills are the cleardifference between winners in life, and losers.

If you learn to manage yourself you can accomplish anything you candream up. You can deal with negative experiences wisely and you canadd skills as you need them. You can become unstoppable. Selfmanagement puts you on the launching pad to all the success youdesire.

Most people limit themselves by their unwillingness to considerpersonal change. They won’t learn new things and they won’t changetheir behaviors, even when they discover they’ve been wrong.

The funny thing is, self-change is EASY. You are the one personthat you can get to anytime you want. You don’t need permission oran appointment, and no one can stop you from learning and changingwhenever you decide to. The only obstacle is you!

Self-management is actually the first step to building peopleskills. Once you commit to changing yourself into who you can be,you will notice the people around you in a different way. Now yousee them as fellow beings with their own fears and drives. And theywill see you with new respect and attractiveness. You aresurrounded by people who can help or harm you, based on how youtreat them. Learning how people work is a skill, just likelearning how you work. These people can multiply your efforts andsupercharge your success. It takes leadership and persuasion skills- people skills.

People skills are like a booster rocket propelling you to yourdreams. And the process of succeeding with others can be learnedjust like you learn to make toast. If you follow directions andpractice, you can develop the skills that will make you very happyand prosperous.***********************************

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

So the big buzz now is all about Oprah’s weight gain confession! Geez…. You know I can relate to my girl Oprah in that department. I was looking over some pictures I took 3 years ago and realized how much of the 54 lbs I lost was put back on. Thankfully I am not at my starting weight. I vow never to go aback there again….EVER!!!

Then last night I was watching my most favorite show, “the Biggest Loser” and Bob Harper was explaining how Season 1 Biggest Loser winner Ryan Benson now weighs as much today as he did when he first came to the house. How could that be? Bob explained it was because he didn’t “learn anything”. Okay so now you are asking what does these 3 weight loss experiences have to do with being a business owner? It has a lot to do with it. We are shaped by our experiences, both positive and negative. Our success depends on what we do with both experiences.First- When you fail, you pick yourself up and try it again, learning from the mistakes you made before.Second- Build on your past successes, change what you did wrong. Recently a fellow business associate said to me “I’m about to give it up” I asked her what happened? What went wrong? She replied “I didn’t do anything with it’. Weight loss like business only is successful if we continually work on it. Once you relax, you stop losing weight and God forbid even gain back. In any business once an entrepreneur stops working on it then the income slows down to a drip drip drip. My intentions are to do both. I’m not giving up in either venue! By the way while I am at it, check our my new booking E ngine. www.GailsDreamVacations.com

Oprah don't worry about the weight gain. It happens to the best of us!I’m off to burn off some calories. The holidays are coming!

Friday, December 5, 2008

Congratulations Joshua Perskey, he found a job. A blog reader who happens to work for WCBS radio 880 emailed me to let me know the good news. I wrote a blog about Joshua Perskey on another blog site. You remember him? He's the former Wall Street Banker who spent the summer walking New York's financial district with a sandwich board and giving out resumes to anyone who would take it. Well it seems that his strategy worked! Joshua is now working for Weiser LLP.

"The image struck a chord and went all over the world, and I started getting phone calls and email by the hundreds from all over the world," said Joshua Persky.

Who said network marketing doesn't work! Joshua Perskey proved that it does.

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Tuesday, December 2, 2008

This has truly been a December to Remember. It was confirmed that we are in a recession from December of last year.. As we if we didn’t notice!! The Dow has been going up an down more times than a roller coaster. Yesterday it dropped 700 points. Many companies have announced that they are canceling bonuses, canceling year end holiday parties, canceling raises and merit increases. But those are the lucky ones. Other companies like Citgroup, Washington Mutual, Starbucks are laying off thousands of employees.

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