Can Women Be Coaxed Into A Relationship?

the impossible dream

Keep dreaming, guy! If this girl truly had interest in you, she never would have mentioned another guy in the first place. Why? Because she would have been too afraid of turning you off.

Charlie, if your girl really cared about your feelings, she would have been direct with you from the start. It would have been a kinder action to tell you weeks ago: "Charlie, I love you as a friend, but I wouldn't kiss you for twelve billion dollars." Instead, she gave you false hope.

It's interesting that your girl brought up the subject of not wanting to "hurt" you — why would she even think of this unless she already knew that she was harboring low Interest Level* [degree of love] for you deep in her heart? This, by the way, sheds light on why she wanted to "take it slow" with you: she wanted to buy time until she was ready to disappear from your life.

useless romanticism

Charlie, your drawings and roses are romantic gestures — fit only for someone who has demonstrated her high Interest Level in you through her actions. Your girl clearly doesn't qualify. Of course, this hasn't stopped her from accepting your gifts and your valuable time and attention.

Your girl wants you to play the stooge for her, but nothing more. She doesn't mind your advances, as long as she doesn't have to lift a finger to reciprocate.

In short: she's more concerned about making her fragile ego feel good and not about treating you properly. Want to prove this to yourself? Stop giving her gifts and see how long she sticks around.

she's unavailable

Charlie, if your girl truly liked you, she would have been the one asking to take the relationship to the next level (wouldn't that have been better?). So next time, let the woman be the one to come on strong.

You're right, Charlie — you can't keep up your current course of action for much longer — and thank goodness for that! Why? Because the longer you ignore reality and run after love mirages, the more ripped up your poor heart will become (not to mention all the money you would waste in the meantime).

Just think of all the home phone numbers you could have gotten while you were busy chasing this unavailable woman. Thank goodness you now have The "System" [a body of principles that guarantee your success with a woman that you love] to guide your love choices.

Men think that women can be coaxed into romantic relationships through gifts and kind words, but when they push and push this way, they always get the same results: they get played for suckers. Which reinforces the theory that Nice Guys Finish Last.

If anything, constantly giving yourself to a romantic deadbeat only makes the woman more complacent, more disrespectful and even less likely to take the next step.

Guys, when it comes to love, a woman with high Interest Level would gladly meet your advances halfway. If she doesn't, then it's time to move on to someone with better taste!