Thursday, November 7, 2013

You Don't Ask You Don't Get

You don't ask, you don't get. I try not to be pushy. In fact, I make every point not to box people into things, push them, or make them feel in any way obligated to me. That would be manipulative, undesirable, and just plain wrong.

On the other hand, I've also found, through the years, that people are NOT telepathic, and sometimes, in fact, oftentimes, the best thing to do is to politely, kindly, ask for what you wish to happen, while giving the other person an "out."

How do I know this? From many, many years of being so very painfully shy when I was much younger an never speaking up for myself. Yep, hard as it may be to believe, I was incredibly timid until the time I entered college, and then, for some strange reason, I metamorphosized. It was around that time, and even years later in life, that I found that often I was sure some other person would intuitively understand what I thought would be awesome, desirable, or cool, but more often than not, they had no idea, and I missed out on many cool things.

So, nowadays, I do my best to "take the bull by the horns" so to speak and make my wishes known. Yes, this leads to more rejection, but also to more cool results, and the good, By Far, outweighs the bad, so it's a philosophy that I do my very best to live by.