Incest Survivors Community Group

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sorry, a vent

I'M REALLY SORRY PUTTING THIS HERE, YOU CAN REMOVE IT OR REPORT IT IF YOU LIKE.

I've been in counselling for 2 years, done heaps of group work, this is the 'end' of my counselling, doing inner child work is utter hell, FOR ME, nothing has been this hard, or pushed me so deep, yeah feels like i'm drowning. dealing with her for 10 days...........the memories, flashbacks, so scared, no sleep, fkn ache all over, look drunk, losing time and place, feel like a walking trigger, it's like i am in the horror movie watching this kid go through it all........i can't even get through 12 minute drive to the bus stop, visions, smells..............my gawd the tools are not working..............nearly crashed 4 times in one day...................then imagined me speeding up and crashing the drver in front............didnt do it, but so wanted to............dont know why.

Told my counsellor today, counsellor said from now on i have to try a different way...............to contact my guide, to go to my safe place(in my head) and work with the inner child that way, but to make a deal with her, she musn't present herself or what she throws at me unless we are in the meditation, in exchange, i have to promise her 30 minutes everyday to feed me whatever it is she needs me to know...........................to comfort her, nurture her.........and that is hell, a full 30 minutes of whatever is bothering her, it's so vivid so painful..............like watching a movie on fast forward, seeing,feeling, smelling everything she went through but through a childs perception..............i dont want to do this, if i don't she will give it all to me anyway the cat been out of the bag for months now.............she wont back down AND I GOTTA LOVE HER?????????????????..................so i will try what counsellor suggested.................
god i'm in a bad place right now. be back later.
sorry.

Oh my. I am glad you posted this. Cause alot of people what to know more about working with inner child stuff. There is an really great website called coping.org. on this website there are 2 different sections that deal with inner child stuff. and I think both of these areas would be really great for you to read right now. On the flip side. As crazy as this sounds, I wish I had your problem. I have been in counseling for several weeks, I have had one encounter with my inner child. and then she vanished again. I want my memories back. And my counselor thinks I am not ready for EMDR. So I have to trust that my inner child will give me all my memories back. I hope seeing the other side of this will help you a little. I assume it won&#039;t. Just know that this too will pass.

Sorry???? For what, as far as I&#039;m concerned that kind of rant is exactly what this place is for. Good for you, you have to get it out somehow and preferably not on the car in front of you!!! Hang in there....all the best to you and the inner child [[HUG]]

Thank you for sharing. I think it&#039;s wonderful and incredible that you were able to express yourself here. I go through this too, I think we all do when it comes to our inner child and the abuses we endured. Please, please love her that&#039;s what she needs right now, afterall, it was not her fault, she was the victime. When I am in this place I feel like I&#039;m going to vomit all the time but letting the love in helps me, especially when I realize I and my inner shild deserve the love.

wow your brave for facing her, me i keep pushing her down, stay down dont pop your ugly head, thats what i&#039;m constantly doing to her, and yet she keeps popping back up and all i do is push her down again, i&#039;m so scared to face her, she&#039;s hurting so bad and she&#039;s so angry i&#039;m not sure that i will ever get to help her maybe one day i&#039;ll look and listen

Ohh i have done that for 2 years, and i use the same expression as you, she raises her ugly head, but i cant do that anymore my counsellor says, she reckons it is only continuing the abuse towards her and she will act out to get attention, she wont stay down anymore, she appears at the wrong times and with all the wrong emotions for me the adult.
Believe me this was not a &#039;choice&#039; to face her, she&#039;s facing me head on.

What an awesome post. I so need to know what I&#039;m in for if I attempt this type of therapy. I wish I could come and drive you there so you would at least have that relief! I say taxis for people in therapy. I know I shouldn&#039;t have been driving after my session yesterday.

I think this post will be great for those parents dealing with children who are getting help right after the abuse.

getting in touchwith the inner child can be a road thru hell. But it is worth it. I have been there and back. I don&#039;t know how to tell anyone how i did it. i think acknowledging the inner child is a beginning step. I never went thru counseling regarding the inner child. for many years i felt a sense of duality and never understood why.

in a book i am writing i gave this issue of duality 2 chapters. It wasn&#039;t until i wrote the poem the boy warrior that i made the connection and put two and two together. I didn&#039;t have anyone to guide me and i wish i did becasue i am sure that it would have taken years less time to work thru.

stay strong. because once i got in touch with my inner child my sense of duality was completely gone and i really feel whole now. it is in my journal.

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