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03-16-2014 02:44 PM

carmspack

I wasn't aware of that .
See if someone approached me with those terms I ask for that person to be involved , before the pup leaves my place "if" .

One of those it seemed like a good idea at the time. ?

03-16-2014 02:40 PM

stmcfred

Quote:

Originally Posted by carmspack

we don't know who brought the dog into the household and who volunteered to take the brunt of the responsibility.

Actually, in another post of his he said his wife bought him the dog as a birthday gift. Not sure who was to take responsibility though if the guy works two jobs but obviously his wife would have been aware of that.

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Originally Posted by LTParis

My wife surprised me with a GSD for my birthday, a great pup from the Czech Republic we've named Nexus.

03-16-2014 02:09 PM

carmspack

we don't know who brought the dog into the household and who volunteered to take the brunt of the responsibility.

other family members might be putting pressure on , making the situation all too clear , may not even want a dog , or are also limited in time and interest or ability to pick up the slack.

there may be friction . there may be resentment that what teeny time there is , the dog gets, while you have kids or a frazzled partner also asking for some of that time.

03-16-2014 01:51 PM

Castlemaid

OP, many people find themselves in the same situation - they remember growing up with GSDs, and cant wait to get their own when they are settle and have a home. Once the new puppy arrives, the demands of raising a dog from a working breed is quite overwhelming.

When people say they thought they'd be ready for a GSD pup because they grew up with dogs, that is like me saying that I grew up in an area of cold, snowy winters, so after living in more temperate, coastal areas, moving to Northern BC is not a big deal - I like winter!

Yeah, I liked it as a kid - have great memories of playing in the snow, making snow caves, sledding, going skiing.

As an adult, winter also means: dealing with cars that won't start, paying big bucks for winter tires, dealing with clearing the driveway from ridiculous amounts of snow, frozen pipes, splitting, stacking and carrying firewood, and white-knuckle commutes on icy roads with blinding, blowing snow.

Somehow, the winters now-a-days don't live up to my childhood memories.

The point is, that the realities of various situations can be a far-cry from our childhood experiences and point-of-view.

03-16-2014 01:44 PM

glowingtoadfly

I do agree that both partners in a dog/ human relationship have to be happy, but as someone who was not always happy with a much improved dog, who toughed it out and ended up with a very deep bond, I felt the need to encourage the frustrated OP.

03-16-2014 01:41 PM

carmspack

I quoted your post because the advice was bad !
The man is barely hanging on as it is . There are things we all sacrifice , but being a martyr isn't good . Dogs sense the genuine feelings you have. This has to be a rewarding experience that enhances not only the dogs existence but also that of the person who has and cares for the dog.

03-16-2014 01:36 PM

glowingtoadfly

I was a little confused because you quoted my post so I didn't know if you were referring to me:-)

03-16-2014 01:34 PM

carmspack

"you" is obviously the OP , clear especially since I lifted part of his post from page one which states he is the dad to two young children, holds a full time job as IT , and is a DJ -- two kids , two jobs.

not in any thread did anyone suggest that you, glowingtoadfly, need or should return them to the breeder . The suggestions to you were to communicate with the breeder to get them on board in ensuring success with the dogs , and for you to review your training also to ensure success with the dogs.

03-16-2014 01:04 PM

glowingtoadfly

Quote:

Originally Posted by carmspack

sounds like the OP is hanging by his/her fingertips .
I have no idea what a pedigree analysis from the breeder or anyone else would benefit.
They have the dog . They , like you, have to deal with the dog that they have , the situation, the compatibility of the match (or not) , time available . Perhaps the OP is not in a position to commit to any pup or dog at this moment and would be better positioned to take one on in a few years .
Obviously they are trying , getting up with that frequency and loosing precious sleep. That has got to take its toll on other daily demands, family, work, dwindling social life.

I would contact the breeder and communicate your situation. Have them find a more suitable home.

This does not make you a failure.

This does move this situation into a win , win . The dog wins with a better future life . Positive and possibly beneficial in a larger scheme of things . Win for you because you can get your life-balance back and next time round use this experience in choosing a dog suited to you .

My dogs are very happy in their home with us and I am very happy with them, and nobody's going back to the breeder, if the " you" is me. If the "you" is the OP, well, it's up to him/ her whether this kind of dog is suited to their home, in the end. I don't really mind my dogs being my social life, or making sacrifices for them Let the OP decide whether the sacrifice is worth it as well.

03-16-2014 11:59 AM

sehrgutcsg

I read this thread again this morning and I thought it would be best if I took my own dog out for a walk and just about 12 weeks I got her up close to 40 minutes she found a pinecone this morning and started barking at it and by the end of the training session she was carrying the pinecone around in her mouth . It occurred to me while I was walking when I got my first German Shepherd in 1987 and then another one and then had a puppy that I kept from one of Veronika'a litters that there was no Internet and the only way that I could correspond was through the breeder through education . This is both fortunate and unfortunate all the same time !

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