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Single parents face many difficulties, regardless of their gender. Vancouver has regulated laws, which make this work much more comfortable, but still, fathers have a hard time adjusting to new conditions. Even though men are stronger than women and they don’t express their emotions, they are still vulnerable and need special care and attention.

As one of the single dads, I have learned to accept the conditions and organize my life from scratch, in order to help my kids, have a happy childhood. Here are some of the difficulties I faced in the beginning.

Work and private life

When I became, a single parent, it was challenging to organize my life and adjust my professional and private obligations. I had to hire a nanny who will take some burden from me. But, still, I tried to dedicate a lot of time to my children because I didn’t what them to feel neglected.

During those times, I was exhausted, my mornings started very early and my nights ended very late. When you have a full-time job, you need as much support as you need. My family was very supportive, and my parents helped me a lot. Now, things are looking much brighter.

Dating and having kids

After some time, every person has a need to go out, have fun and be loved. When I adjusted my personal life, I started looking for someone who will complete my life. When you are a single father, now many women are ready to commit. In this case, you need to find a person who will always be ready. To be in the second place in your life.

She needs to understand that kids will still be your priority. And there will be times when you will have to cancel dates and have emergencies.

Free time and hobbies

We don’t have a free time, and we often forget about having hobbies. While raising kids, their needs become your priority. After some time, you get the ropes, and you will take charge over your life.

Many single dads are facing various difficulties when trying to balance their personal and love life. Many of them tend to neglect this side of their personality because they don’t have time.

But, regardless circumstances you are in, it is essential to continue with your life. You will always be there for your kids, but also, you need someone to be there for you. If you want to get back to the dating market, then we have a couple of tips for you, which will make this choice much more comfortable.

Start slowly

If you are newly single, then don’t make harsh decisions, you are grown up here, and the decision you make is 100% yours. It doesn’t matter if you are a single dad, you can still date, of course, within the boundaries of new reality. It is essential to find the right timing, and you shouldn’t rush. Once you settle everything and organize your life, it is time to organize your love life as well. Let your kids accustomed to new conditions before you introduce a new woman to their life.

Talk to your kids

Before you make any steps toward dating, make sure to include your kids into this process. They are a permanent fixture in your life, while women can come and go. Your kids need to feel loved and wanted, and you need to dedicate them a lot of attention. But, point them out, you also need a friend who will accompany you to the movies, restaurants, bars, and concerts.

When the right time comes, and you feel you have found a woman who will understand your needs, you can meet her with your kids. In order to, to accept other women, your kids need to feel they are a top priority in your life.

Find the fight girl

This is probably the biggest challenge, and many single dads are having troubles finding a female companion. The woman you are looking for should understand that kids take the most place in your life.

You will always have some emergency, or you will have to cancel the date, in this way, your woman should be understanding and supportive.

It is hard to answer this question, but if you are a single dad like me, then you are facing the same problems. This is a process that never ends, and you learn as long as you live. In this case, you can never be too good because your kid needs your support until the day you die.

Single dads are under a lot of pressure, especially if you live in a small environment. You have to be a great psychologist and evaluate the condition of your child. If you want to learn some of the necessary steps, then I am going to help you master single dad skills.

Be a man

We all know that being a single parent is a stressful situation for you, but you need to learn how to cope with it. Maybe you have just lost your significant other, who was your most significant support in life and suddenly you have to hold everything together. It is essential to realize that decisions you make now, will stay you for entire life. So, take it easy, without a pressure. You have to strong, trustworthy and reliable and kids shouldn’t experience dilemmas you are facing at the moment.

Learn to eat vegetables

When you are a single father, you have to prepare healthy meals for your kids because they can’t only live on junk food and sweets. You need to understand that you are going to be their day for a long time and you are required to instill healthy habits in them.

Introducing vegetables into their life can be a challenging task because many kids aren’t fond of veggies But, you need to show them that you equally love them.

Never talk bad about their mother

Many fathers feel resented and have a need to talk bad about their mother, but that’s not a right decision. You need to evoke love with your children because they are the result of the woman you married. Remember that kids need a mum as much they need their dad. Your kids love their mom, and they don’t need to know all your insights.

Being a single parent is a difficult choice some people have to take upon themselves. In some ways, mothers overcome this situation much easier than fathers, who have to make significant adjustments to improve the living conditions of their kids.

They have to organize their lives differently and this case, they have great support from the government. If you are one of the single fathers out there, and you are struggling how to organize your day, then I am going to show you how my day looks like.

Get up early

If I want to finish all my errands before my kid goes to school, I have to get up early. My working day starts at 6 AM. I need to prepare breakfast for us, get ready for work, and get my child for school.

We have a school bus to catch, and then I am off to work. If you want to stay organized and finish all your tasks during the day, you need to get up early.

Use the afternoon

I often hire a nanny, and she stays with my kid, while I’m at work. She always covers a two – hour gap, until I got back home. I try to use the afternoon to spend as much time with my kid as I can. We prepare dinner together, do homework, watch something on TV and talk about our day. Considering that I am a single father, I try to dedicate every moment of my time to my kid.

I don’t want him to feel neglected or a disadvantage. My love for him is immense, and I think that most important part of our day is when we sit and talk. I encourage him to tell me about his problems and his struggles, and that’s why he has so much trust in me.

Get to bed early

Once we finish everything for the day, we go to bed early. My son is eight years old, so he is pretty independent. We go to bed around 10 AM because we have an early start. Once I clean up the house and finish all my errands around the home, I am neat and go straight to bed.