Enabling

I'm 28 and have been with my husband 10yrs. We have two kids. Through the years our marrige has been rough. It took many years for me to even realize what was happening. He is a minimal functioning alcoholic. We've had arguements, and I'm ALWAYS saying I'm going to leave him. I suppose I'm a classic enabler. I know he quits a few days and I just hold on to that. I know I was young and dumb when I met him. But I'm a woman now, and I'm tired of being ignored. Who knows what I'm going to do. I have a lot of picking myself up to do to get me to fully depend on me. It is extra difficult, for me, because of my kids. I want them to have there dad. He's a good dad! When he's not wasted that is. Torn heart.

Comments for Enabling

i think u have done well for ur family. There are things that we can live with. At this point your focus has shifted to your children. Allow yourself to develop a system to avoid arguing with him. And deal with what you can attend to. I believe you still love this man. He needs your support. Ask God for help.

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