It makes no sense to me at all when I read about single men being so mistreated.. even though they really are in the forums. I am really starting to believe there is no such thing as a single male that will meet us! Maybe it is us...

Look, we rarely seek singles in the lifestyle but when we do the females are far more likely to show than the males! Who would have thunk... 4 years in the lifestyle, we may have courted 10 to 12 single males and not one has done what they say they were going to do... SHOW UP FOR THE FIRST DATE! Much less even call to say they were lost or late or something.

Now we have courted two single females and both not only did show up but we hit it off very well.

This is not a desperation plea as we do find a way to meet some great people on the site but we are so darn puzzled by what we expected to be the opposite in this lifestyle!

Ive experienced the opposite. Being a Bi male Ive had couples contact me with an interest and then after answering their mail I never hear back with a yes or no or not interested. Maybe I just don't know how to answer. Who knows but it is a bit disheartening .

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well im a single male for real. I am divorced and will not chicken out .... Im in the DC area hit me up girls or couples

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Sometime, it has to do with their experience with other couples and other times they might sense some jealousy from the male half.

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D/L, welcome to the forums.

as with so much else, it's a numbers & percentages kinda thang. single males far outnumber the couples contacting me. single males also turn out (percentages wise) to flake out far more often.

have i dealt with couples that have been fakey/flakey? you bet.

there're some in every variety/demographic. so it's all about taking plenty of time to screen and "vet" people before agreeing to meet.

enjoy.

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Things aren't adding up. Non-single guys claim single guys are fakes and flakes, and single guys claim women and couples are aloof. The truth is usually somewhere in the middle... what's going on?

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BBWLover: After LMAO at your post, I had the privilege of reading your profile which is pretty direct -- can use a lil proofreading but that aside, you are one funny guy as you stated. Yes, the woman you approached would "assume" that you prefer BBW's and she, obviously is not one and became offended. That in and of itself is hilarious! On this rainy evening in Florida, your post and profile is refreshingly honest. I wish I was still in South Carolina where I lived for several years. I would have made the drive to Charlotte to meet you as I love the mall there that I can't remember the name with all the high-end stores. Have a blast on the site. You deserve it.

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@BBWLover: LMAO....ah, live a little....LOL! Just when I thought I had read everything.

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Just a guess but I have b ever been a No Show but do worry that it could be a setup to get Robbed oe Worse Killed! IDK Tho? One person already said it "They are not single!

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I had "Hubby Fear" early on. it just went against years of Vanilla life to have him next to, watching or teaming up on his Wife. Had lots of experience with MFF++, but took awhile for MWH to get OK. Luv it now. Always show. Sometimes it's hard to meet, because I live 100 mi's from most activity. Had to learn "manners" too. First meeting is a great part of the Life and stay in my age range. No Surprises, thanks, LOL.