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The magic moment.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

As the time narrows down, I’ve been throwing around the idea that time changes everything and a yes or no has a much bigger effect on our live then we give it credit for. What if a year ago I said yes to something? What if I said no to something in hopes of something better and ‘better’ never came.

“The magic moment is that in which a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ may change the whole of our existence”

Then I think to myself, what good is going to come out of sitting and wondering? This is here, this is now and I have to deal with the fact that I didn’t say yes or I didn’t say no to that something. So many times I find myself dwelling on the past, the what-if’s, the maybes that I can’t seem to focus on the here and now. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, and I think it’s so important to find the joy in our own contentment. It’s so important that we find that little bit of happiness in our own self.

Ever thought about how people obsess over titles? Like he’s the CEO of Wells Fargo, I’m dating the captain of the water polo team, she’s the president of the sorority. We obsess over them. It’s like we need that title in order to define who we are or how we are supposed to act. What if all titles were stripped away and all we had were ourselves to define who we were? Would that change the way we view everyone? Would that be our answer to this extreme self confidence (or lack of it) issue? A friend and sorority sister of mine just started this amazing non-profit organization called The Kind Campaign and as stated in their mission statement it is…

“A movement, based upon the powerful belief in Kindness, that seeks to bring awareness and healing to the negative and lasting affects of abuse within the “Girl World.”

It’s an idea that isn’t really talked about because so many people just push girl meanness to the side and go on with life, without really realizing the powerful (negative) effects it causes. Because of these titles we place on people; popular girls, sorority girls, blonds, brunettes, skinny & tall - we are giving girls room to treat each other with little to no respect. It’s scary because it’s an issue that affects girls every day. Ask any girl why she got dressed up to go to a club, was it because she wanted to impress a boy or a girl, and 9 times out of 10 its because she wants girls to think she’s pretty. It’s scary how detrimental one word can be to someone, how it can change their entire mood, how it can change their entire life. So the next time you think that having this certain title will make your life better, maybe think about a world with no titles - where everyone is who they are regardless of their status. Maybe then this world could start being a little bit kinder.