Seen through the lens of preconceived notions of what “manliness” is, paints convincing pictures of how a “real man” should be and….not.
Pictures, shaped by impressions from one’s immediate environment, personal beliefs as well as family and cultural influences.
Pictures, that frame what a man is, supposed to do and…not.
All of which may or may not have anything to do with a that man’s reality.

Consider this topic from a spiritual perspective.

MALENESS DEFINED

Maleness defined from a spiritual (or energetic) perspective is a Man’s ability to….know and…be…the intelligence unique to his Male body.
A man’s ability to access his own Male Energy, which originates from the body, near the root chakra.
Energy unique to him, and different from other men.

And yes, women have similar setup for their own Female energy (different from their mother and best friend).
The plot thickens, when you add to this that men do have a female energy channel and women a male energy channel. But that’s a discussion for a another day.

BEING AND BECOMING

A Male body vibrates at 40Hz and Woman’s energy at 150Hz. A pregnant woman’s at 240Hz (she’s creating life).
By the way, this is the high-vibrating energetic circumstance into which a Male body is born into, and from which the Male body must “come down” to it’s natural lower vibratory state.
That takes years.

The vibratory difference between Men and Woman sets up some aspects of the dynamics between them.
Not just due to the vibratory differences, but also due to the energetic difference in how both Create in life and what gives them Validation.

Female body get validation from “improving” or “making it better”, and male body from “getting space” (hello there, garage) or “not changing it”.

Throw these differing proclivities into the same frame and you have a natural tension.
A tension, which on a given day manifests a beautiful attraction and on other days, something else.

WHAT KIND OF MAN ARE YOU?

Perhaps one way to frame this question is…
What kind of Man are you?
A Man’s man? Woman’s Man? Or your own Man?

A man’s man can be said to shape himself relative to the opinion of other men.

A Woman’s man shapes himself from his sensitivity to the opinion of the women in his life. Past and present.
Starting with impressions from and relationship with, the first woman in his life. His mother.
These impressions has an effect on his relationships with women who come later.

A man becomes his own man when he starts to recognise, access and “run” his own Male energy.
Male energy unique to his male body.

What is the first step towards this?
Learning to become Aware.
Specifically becoming aware of one’s own Male energy and start to “run” that energy in their body.