I left my ex of about a year and a half about three months ago, due to him having a drug problem and all the heartache that comes with it, I loved him, but I went through lies and heartbreak for months until I finally had enough.

He was a very loving boyfriend however which m.ade it harder. Well, he had been messaging me nearly every day saying he loved missed me, etc. and would always initiate contact. I felt ok because I knew he still cared; he seemed very upset about the break up for a long time.

I thought we would get back together one day when he sorted himself out and things would be ok. I agreed to see him a few times, but it didn’t happen I felt like I didn’t want to feel the way I did before and allow it to happen, so I kept putting it off I was scared.

Recently nearly about two weeks ago he messaged me after three days (we had an argument about money he owes me for a loan I took out to get him out of debt, and he hasn’t given me any) he said I hope you’re ok. I ended up saying I miss him and he said why only now and things went pear-shaped from then — he’s been distant not messaging me back and acting weird. I confronted him and asked if there was someone else and he said no.

I just said I’ll leave you to it as I think there is and left it. He messaged 2 days later saying sorry there’s no one else I’m not interested in anyone I only acted how you were with me (short and cold) I didn’t reply and then he messaged me this next day asking why I was ignoring him 3 times, I said I was trying to move on as I thought he had and he said well I haven’t I wanted you (notice wanted) I messaged back, and he didn’t reply, cut a long story short I got upset and asked if I could go round to which he eventually said yes. I went over, and it felt weird like he wasn’t the same with me but said there was no one else when I asked him,

He asked me to stay, and we got into bed and slept together, he was very cuddly afterward and said I do love you and we talked about stuff. The morning I kissed him goodbye, and he said have a nice day, etc. I didn’t hear of him all day so in the evening I said is that it then? To which he said no way and I asked to see him, and he said I couldn’t tonight and said he was going to see his uncle. He would never have said no before. He said what about tomorrow? I said I still love and miss you and he said and I love and miss you too, I said what do you want, and he said what do you want?

There was this girl I had an inkling he saw so I tried to add her on Instagram and I asked who she was, and he was like why you have tried to add her? So immediately I knew they were talking but he denied it came from her and a mutual friend of hers told him as he has known her for quite a long time through friends. I don’t know why they would have told him if nothing was going on. I lost my temper and accused him of sleeping with her which he denied and said it was all in my head, and kept saying this is silly and kept messaging saying he wasn’t.

I kept asking him to block me so I could move on (as I didn’t want to have the temptation of unlocking him) and he said I’m not blocking y.ou

I said I don’t want you anywhere near me you’ve broken my heart, go away! He said if that was the case I should message her and tell her we slept together, but she wouldn’t care because it’s not true and I would look silly, and I didn’t respond, and he hasn’t said anything else in a day and a half. I don’t know what happened or how he could go from messaging me saying he loves me so much and misses me to barely anything and then this happens it’s like he doesn’t care anymore and If he is seeing someone why won’t he admit it? I said if you’re not interested in me any more say and he was like look I am.

But his actions don’t match, and I just have a sick feeling in my stomach and think he’s seeing someone which hurts as I thought he loved me. I was relieved when we broke up initially because he was a drug addict and owed me money and recently been on a holiday which he ruined from being drunk and aggressive etc. due to going through mental health issues over the past few months before he wasn’t stable at all. And felt better but I guess him pining over me made me feel better.

It hurts to think he’s found someone who he thinks is better, she is older than him and has 2 kids, (he has 4 kids and is 33, I am 25) he just loved me so much before and I don’t know what’s happened or how he can just suddenly act like this. Some advice would be helpful. If he is seeing someone why doesn’t he say?. Thank you in advance.

You REALLY need to let this go and move on. He’s a drug addict; He owes You money, He gets drunk, He gets aggressive, He has mental health issues, You think He’s seeing another Woman.

. . . . . and You love Him why?

You cannot ‘fix’ a drug addict – if He has a problem with alcohol, You must realize that too is a drug.

You were very wise in the first place, and You will only be setting YourSelf up for the same behaviors You left Him for. When You feel ‘weak’ remember the “the drug problems and all the heartache that came with it” and the “months of lies” that caused You to leave 3 months ago.

I would not agree to go back to Him unless and until He seeks recovery and stays sober and drug-free for two years. Otherwise, what You See Is What You Get.