I need advice (other people spanking your child)

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Okay, well then you need to arrange something else for your kid. You don't have a lot of options here. ... [snip!] ... even by crazy nana. I'd nip this shit in the bud right now. Talk to your job. Change your hours. Get a new job. Whatever. "</blockquote>

Quoting Jays*Mama:" If u did that to her and cps knew They would immediately take your child away. Its abuse plain and simple. You can get in trouble for letting it go on. What if next time it's worse. ..smh"

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Okay, well you should maybe have ... [snip!] ... me because I have a mental illness. It makes it hard when she sits there telling me shit didn't happen its just me being crazy"

Okay well tell her something that she will understand: You have pictures of abuse to your child that SHE caused so she can talk all the shit she wants. If she hits your child again, you are going to the police so either A. she needs to make sure she can control herself or B. Help you out to pay another sitter. or C. go to jail. Her choice.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:</b>" because she just said that crazy grandma wants to get her taken away... crazy grandma calls cps and says she was beaten at home, when in fact it was the grandma all along. "</blockquote>

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Okay well tell her something that she will understand: You have pictures of abuse to your child that ... [snip!] ... Help you out to pay another sitter. or C. go to jail. Her choice. It's a tough conversation but one that needs to be done. "</blockquote>

Quoting Kimber-lily:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Okay well tell her something that she ... [snip!] ... but one that needs to be done. "</blockquote> It's not the grandmothers responsibility to help pay for daycare."

Not hers but the father's. If the father can't make sure his daughter is in safe hands, he can at least help OP out with childcare costs.

What if u call granny and ask her about it. .. then she knows you know and to cover her own ass and try to get her taken from you she calls cps and says you did it. Don't bother calling that b***h. Call cps and the police.

Quoting Jays*Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" How would CPS find out? Her daughter doesn't ... [snip!] ... doesn't even go to daycare. "</blockquote> Why the hell does it matter. My point is its abuse according to cps.."

Look, I agree that it is abusive, but I think some of you are overreacting. It can be handled without causing an uproar and potentially tearing the family apart for good. OP should communicate her concerns with Nana and her "discipline" in a calm, adult conversation. If Nana disregards her, OP needs to find an alternate childcare provider. Personally, I don't think the police need to be involved. She disciplined Ainsley in a way that was probably very common when she was growing up; in her mind, she might not have thought twice about it. She didn't hold her hand over an open flame and beat her in the head. Come on. "Whoopins" used to be common, and still are in some cultures.

Quoting Supafly★:" Not hers but the father's. If the father can't make sure his daughter is in safe hands, he can at least help OP out with childcare costs. OP, does he pay child support? "

This is true. Sounds like kind of a dead beat, pawning his kid off on old Nana.

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3 kids; Los Angeles, California54034 posts

18th Apr '13

I dunno, I think hitting a kid with a rod is pretty goddamn serious. Even if her old redneck ass grew up like that, it's not right and likely illegal.

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18th Apr '13

Quoting Dovahkiin:" Look, I agree that it is abusive, but I think some of you are overreacting. It can be handled without ... [snip!] ... she might not have thought twice about it. She didn't hold her hand over an open flame and beat her in the head. Come on. "