Of course you can look for solutions for every specific situation. It works faster and better to first change underlying patterns to empower yourself beyond a specific situation.

Following beliefs are helpful to replace complaining by healthy habits

I know my needs

I feel my needs

I understand my needs

I am autonomous (free) and create my own needs

it is easy for me to communicate my needs

I express my needs to the right person

I express my needs respectfully

I trust others listen to my needs

I trust others take my needs into account

I fulfill my needs with ease and joy

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Note: “fulfilling my needs” can take surprising forms. When I communicate effectively about my needs and others listen and take them into account, I feel heard. In the conversation something can show up that fulfills my needs even better. For example: I tell my partner I would like to walk together in the fields in the weekend, he listens, but when I invite him on Saterday, it does not happen. Than suddenly the next weekend he proposes to go out with our bikes. Now my need is fulfilled in a surprising way. He needed some time and I had the opportunity to practice some patience.

Summer energized me with plenty of exiting ideas! Inspiration came walking through the rice fields in Vietnam: the colours, the people, the amazing scenery. Back home I immediately started planning and initalizing new projects. But it wasn’t always like that!

How come it is different this year?

This summer I deliberately set an intention to connect to ‘that something’ I needed to have more focus. While I’m doing my yoga and stretch exercises every day now, I am know what it is. I had to ‘appreciate what is’ with compassion and joy.

Of course, I worked on this subject before, and now I transformed deeply hidden beliefs and emotions. What a relief!

It gives me focus and energy and its puts me in action.

When school and work and ‘everything’ starts again, intentions seem to disappear

A lot of people come back from holiday with exiting ideas: to stay healthy and fit, to protect their work life balance, to nurture their relationship and friendships, to find a new job, to daily do some yoga or meditation, to kick-start a new project…

But suddenly schools starts, workload ramps-up and energy fades away. There are no signs their ideas become actual facts… it doesn’t happen. Everything stays the same.