Have you become so rigid in your thinking and beliefs about what success means that you’ve boxed yourself into a mental corner?

Now you perceive you have no options except to succeed in a way that perhaps someone else planted in your head. It’s all or nothing. Win or you’re a failure; not just in your area of endeavor, but as a human being.

There’s a whole lot of this attitude going around the Internet especially in the small business success coaching and self-help space.

It’s not necessarily the healthiest and most productive mindset to adopt. It can work as much against you as it can for you.

Maybe you settle on a definition of success and you try, try, and try again yet you never get there. So you push harder.

You push harder. You get no further. You’re banging your head up against a wall. Exhausting yourself.

You think about giving up. Maybe I don’t have what it takes you start to wonder.

Then the waves of self-doubt come crashing in and your self-worth starts taking a pummeling.

You hate that feeling so you decide to push even harder. I can do this. I can turn this around you tell yourself.

Because you’ve become so rigid in your thinking, and become so attached to a particular definition of success you’re making yourself suffer for no good reason at all.

Alternatively you could choose to be more mentally flexible, loosen your mindgrip, and open up a whole world of options you previously couldn’t see and didn’t have access to.

You could model your very own definition of success that’s unique to you; not one you heard or saw in someone else or read about in a book.

This would boost your confidence and self-worth because now you’re working on no one else’s plan but your own.

"I can't say enough good things about my colleague, Adam Dudley. He's a joy to work with--uniquely gifted and absolutely reliable. Out-of-the-box brainstorms and big successes have resulted from our collaboration. In fact, I consider Adam a rare master of the give-and-take communication that is essential to effective teamwork. Best of all, he's willing to share his secrets with others through his Mindful Business offerings."

​"Working with Adam, I have gained the courage to look at my business behaviors and belief systems with clear, open eyes and an honest heart. I am evolving into the mentor and business owner I have always aspired to be. I feel a renewed confidence in my decision making ability, leadership skills and more courage going forward in building a company culture and vision that in is alignment with my heart. Adam helps me in ways that are almost impossible to articulate. How do you describe the opening of parts of your mental and emotional being that have previously been dormant. He sees the places that need to be stirred and proceeds in the most gracious, completely non judgmental matter to challenge my potential. Anyone who is ready to look at what is holding them back or needs assistance in clarifying their vision would greatly benefit from working with Adam. Plus a hundred more bonuses as well."

Kevin McCarthy says...

"Adam is a thoughtful coach who listens well, processes in your best interest, and then offers wise counsel. Below his peaceful nature the wheels are spinning as he's thinking about what you need to succeed."