no i don't feel its a choice. its who we are its what we were born. I think to many of us fight it for to long. Many choose to not do anything about it out of fear and lead unhappy lives into thier 40's 50's 60' and even 70's before doing something about it. While i don't think its obvious in everyone we are very good actors out of the need for self preservation. The times are changing though and there will be more and more trans out there as more information is available like the internet. Scientist believe its linked to a hormonal imbalance during pregnancy, also there is cases in water supplies where chemicals ending up in the water in ultra low doses that its not deadly is causing sex changes in fish.

Ok Tymeless, I have a few questions, hope you don't mind my asking as they are somewhat personal.

First, as I understand it you eventually plan on taking your desire to be a woman as far as you can so do you have any idea of when you will be able to complete the process? How costly is the operation itself?

Do you have any siblings? If so how do they feel about you being trans? How do your parents feel about it?

How much has your family's attitude about this in general has been a factor in making your decision to be open about your desires?

As far as the operation goes from what I understand and have seen when women have switched genders they aren't able to have erections-is that the case? And what about the opposite-would you be able to have sex with a man if you chose to do so? And last as you have stated you are not attracted to men and as sexual orientation is not a factor in this decision you would continue to have sexual relationships with women, correct?

Ok Tymeless, I have a few questions, hope you don't mind my asking as they are somewhat personal.

First, as I understand it you eventually plan on taking your desire to be a woman as far as you can so do you have any idea of when you will be able to complete the process? How costly is the operation itself?

Do you have any siblings? If so how do they feel about you being trans? How do your parents feel about it?

How much has your family's attitude about this in general has been a factor in making your decision to be open about your desires?

As far as the operation goes from what I understand and have seen when women have switched genders they aren't able to have erections-is that the case? And what about the opposite-would you be able to have sex with a man if you chose to do so? And last as you have stated you are not attracted to men and as sexual orientation is not a factor in this decision you would continue to have sexual relationships with women, correct?

The process plays out over several years. i'll prolly not complete the process for quite a long while. I should however start hormones in the next few months and thats good enough for me. the operation cost in the high 1000's to 10K plus. the entire process can cost up to about 100k.

I have a sister and i'm not sure how well she is dealing with it. My parents are on opposite ends of the spectrum with dealing with this it doesn't seem to be bothering dad a lot but its hurting mom a lot. I avoid talking about it or acting different around them because of this fact.

it hurts me that its hurting my family, but i also know that when i made the decision to be open with it that this was a possibility they want me to take it back i know that but even if i did i would only be lying to myself again. I'm trying to think of a way to go about this where everyone can be happy. Its sad though that your parents see things as son or daughter instead of my child. but i have to deal with that and i'm a strong person so I will move on. why does it matter to them whether i have a penis or a vagina as long as i'm happy.

no once your on hormones the ability to have erections decreases. once you have the operation the erectile tissue is removed and the penis is used to create a vagina. yes i'll be able to have sex with a guy. and yes i'll continue to have relations with women. they are the most beautiful and loving caring creatures in the world.

That's tough as far as your parents go-I have a daughter and I've never really thought much about anything like this ever happening at all to be honest. I really don't know how I'd react to her coming to me and telling me she would be happier being a man and was planning on pursuing that-she is thirteen now and she seems to be a normal girl of that age. If that were to happen though I would like to think I'd stand by her and support her but I can understand your parents having a hard time with it.

I find it interesting that your dad seems to be the one that is taking it better than your mother-even though I don't know them personally as a guy I guess I just imagine it would be harder telling my father then my mom and him having a more adverse reaction. Do you think that your dad already had an inkling that things were amiss with you? By that I just mean that he could maybe sense you weren't really happy?

I know this doesn't pertain to you, but are women that go through this process able to "perform" once they have undergone the operation?

It is definitely an undesirable situation to be in for all concerned, but in the end you only have control over you and your actions and what makes you happy and I am not one to advocate living to please others. You can only do what makes you happy and as long as you are honest and hurting no one what more can be expected?

yeah i thought it would be easier on mom too but it hasn't been. i won't answer on the girls becoming man because i don't know much about it. but also so you know because on the outside i appear a normal male but i'm not happy about alot of my maleness.