There was this short lived show on the WB called Greetings from Tucson, and I super related with the son character portrayed by Pablo Santos, because his parents were super strict to an unreasonable level.

I think I have a bit of insight on this. My father raised me (not his biological daughter, but the only father I know) and my sister in a very patriarchal, Hispanic household. He was a very demanding, unhappy man, and although I do not know that he ever forced himself on anyone, I honestly believe that he was the kind…

Yeah, there comes a time when you think, “I’m too old for this.” And then there’s the time when you realize, “Aren’t you too old for this?”, whenever guys keep trying to act like this behavior is okay.

I want to add that it has been part of my Dominican Latina experience to be ok with behavior like this. I was taught that my responsibility is to make a comfortable space for the man so he’d want to stay, and that if he didn’t it was because of something I didn’t do enough. It took me too long to unlearn this, but…