6 lesbian sex secrets

Take the middle ground

What? Massage the area between her breasts, using the back of your hand.

Why? Ancient Taoists believed massaging a womans breastbone raised her libido, says says Esther Lastique, who co-wrote Love Her Right. These days theres a more scientific explanation: massaging the area between her breasts produces the bonding hormone oxytocin. Shell relax into orgasm and feel more intimate towards you.

How? Run your hand up and down her breastbone before
stroking her breasts, says Lastique. Using the back of your hand is best, as it forces you to go gently. Try this while youre performing oral sex, to help her feel more connected to you and climax quicker.

Kiss kiss, bang bang

What? Rhythmically kiss your girlfriend during sex.

Why? Lesbians dont stop kissing once bras have come off. They know how arousing it can be. "During sex, most men stop kissing," says Flic Everett, author of Red Hot Sex. But kissing will help her climax.

How? "Apply light, teasing kisses at first, then move into deeper, more rhythmic, kisses as you start having sex," says Everett. Kissing rhythmically like this will add to her enjoyment and keep her arousal red-hot. "But dont thrust your tongue in and out deeply to match what your penis is doing  women hate that."

To infinity and beyond

What? Swivel your hips during sex, making an infinity (figure of eight) symbol.

Why? "Men tend to thrust in and out because the whole penile shaft is erogenous," says Lastique. "But the most sensitive part of a vagina is directly around the opening. The infinity swivel presses the base of your penis against all her sexual nerve-endings."

How? "Its especially effective from behind," says Lastique. "It works well in the missionary position too, if your partner hooks her legs over your shoulders to maximise G-spot stimulation. Otherwise, have her make the infinity move herself when shes on top."

The argument of the thrust

What? During intercourse adopt deeper thrusts.

Why? Men usually use shallow thrusts during sex  when the penis is pulled about halfway out of the vagina then pushed back in, says lesbian relationship expert Dr Joni Frater. This feels good to you, but it doesnt stimulate her G-spot or clitoris. If you watch lesbians making love with a toy, youll see they mainly use deep thrusts. Yes, she lost us at watch lesbians making love too.

How? Insert your penis as deep as it will go and rock your pelvis, says Frater. This will grind your pubic bone against her clitoris, which could make her climax very quickly. It wont stimulate the head of your penis too much, so youll last longer.

Paper, scissors, orgasm

What? Use your fingers to hit her G, X and Y spots.

Why? "Just sliding your fingers in and out of her vagina doesn't do much for her  it can even hurt," says Lastique. "Instead, use a 'scissors' move to rub her G-spot and the two points either side of it: her X and Y spots."

How? The G-spot is on the wall of the vagina nearest her belly button, about two inches in, says Lastique. "Insert two fingers so the tips press against it, then open and close them like a pair of scissors. If she feels as if she needs to urinate, youre doing it right. Keep going and she'll have a very deep orgasm."

Circle the target area

What? Stimulate her clitoral shaft

Why? The clitoris is essentially a miniature penis, says Frater. The head is just like your glans, and beneath that, under the skin, is a tube shaped shaft packed full of nerve endings. Find it and youll be unforgettable.

How? Start with a lubricated finger either side of her clitoris: Think of it as a clock-face, with the clitoris in the centre. Begin with one fingertip at nine and one at three. Move them in a circular motion, pressing down a bit harder when theyre at 11 and one. Women often masturbate using this movement, so its a favourite among lesbians. And if its good enough for them

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