I hate sex.

My libido is crap. This pregnancy I've tried to at least say yes regularly to my husband. I have absolutely no desire to have anything to do with him. I feel so terrible for it. I spent my entire last pregnancy saying "don't touch me" if he even tried to hug me. I've done so much better this time, because I know it's not him I'm bothered by. It's sex. The noises and the moisture make me gag when I'm pregnant. Poor guy. I've done so much better but this last week I've been terrible. I told him no before I left town for my brother's wedding because I didn't want to accidentally get things moving and last night said no again because the reflux is out of control. 37 pounds of extra weight does great things for libido. Raging hormones does great things for libido. Sensitive gag reflexes do great things for libido. I'm grateful for his sweet patience. I did finally have sex tonight but it was rather lackluster. We have figured out if I'm on top it's still fun, but it's all I can do to have sex period with how tired I am. Oy. What's worse is breastfeeding wasn't much better for my libido. It wasn't really until I was done BF last time that I finally felt normal....and we were pregnant within 2 months of the end of that. My poor husband. Sorry. This is long. I just feel bad for him. I'm jealous of those of you who have crazy sex drives when pregnant. Jealous.

My libido is crap. This pregnancy I've tried to at least say yes regularly to my husband. I have absolutely no desire to have anything to do with him. I feel so terrible for it. I spent my entire last pregnancy saying "don't touch me" if he even tried to hug me. I've done so much better this time, because I know it's not him I'm bothered by. It's sex. The noises and the moisture make me gag when I'm pregnant. Poor guy. I've done so much better but this last week I've been terrible. I told him no before I left town for my brother's wedding because I didn't want to accidentally get things moving and last night said no again because the reflux is out of control. 37 pounds of extra weight does great things for libido. Raging hormones does great things for libido. Sensitive gag reflexes do great things for libido. I'm grateful for his sweet patience. I did finally have sex tonight but it was rather lackluster. We have figured out if I'm on top it's still fun, but it's all I can do to have sex period with how tired I am. Oy. What's worse is breastfeeding wasn't much better for my libido. It wasn't really until I was done BF last time that I finally felt normal....and we were pregnant within 2 months of the end of that. My poor husband. Sorry. This is long. I just feel bad for him. I'm jealous of those of you who have crazy sex drives when pregnant. Jealous.

Don't feel bad! I am impressed that you are having sex as much as you are at this point. My husband and I pretty much gave up on sex about 3 months ago. It's so uncomfortable and awkward. But we still kiss and cuddle and fantasize about our sex life after baby. I am so thankful he doesn't pressure me and we even make jokes about it. We tried to have sex a few days ago to help get labor going but had to stop after a few minutes because it hurt. Poor hubby! I can't wait to have my sex life back again!

Don't feel bad! I am impressed that you are having sex as much as you are at this point. My husband and I pretty much gave up on sex about 3 months ago. It's so uncomfortable and awkward. But we still kiss and cuddle and fantasize about our sex life after baby. I am so thankful he doesn't pressure me and we even make jokes about it. We tried to have sex a few days ago to help get labor going but had to stop after a few minutes because it hurt. Poor hubby! I can't wait to have my sex life back again!

I can't even do it, hurts to bad. Been like this for two months... Hubby surprised me with a "romp night" at a fancy hotel in town 6 weeks after the baby's due date. I thought it was cute and funny, but it has been fun to talk about this upcoming night together...

I can't even do it, hurts to bad. Been like this for two months... Hubby surprised me with a "romp night" at a fancy hotel in town 6 weeks after the baby's due date. I thought it was cute and funny, but it has been fun to talk about this upcoming night together...

I'm same way!! After my last pregnancy, sex was off the table for months due to breast feeding, vaginal dryness and it plain hurt. I grin and bared it a few times, but it honestly was not worth the chance of getting pregnant again! It's normal for some women. I honestly don't see how some women can't wait to have sex after six weeks. I for one dread it!

I'm same way!! After my last pregnancy, sex was off the table for months due to breast feeding, vaginal dryness and it plain hurt. I grin and bared it a few times, but it honestly was not worth the chance of getting pregnant again! It's normal for some women. I honestly don't see how some women can't wait to have sex after six weeks. I for one dread it!

I'm glad you posted about this...Pre-pregnancy We couldn't get enough of each other. my husband was deployed through the tail end of my first trimester and came home at the beginning of my third.. Since he's been home our sex life is terrible. Because of me. I love him like crazy and find him very attractive, it's me I hate looking at... I can't wait to want sex again. Part of me has even thought about exing the bf idea just to have my sex drive back... But that's just hormones talking, I'll bf bc its the best thing for our baby..

I'm glad you posted about this...Pre-pregnancy We couldn't get enough of each other. my husband was deployed through the tail end of my first trimester and came home at the beginning of my third.. Since he's been home our sex life is terrible. Because of me. I love him like crazy and find him very attractive, it's me I hate looking at... I can't wait to want sex again. Part of me has even thought about exing the bf idea just to have my sex drive back... But that's just hormones talking, I'll bf bc its the best thing for our baby..

I'm the same don't worry! My libido has been AWOL since about 20 weeks! We had sex on Sunday for the first time in 8 weeks. I feel really bad for OH too, but he has never asked or pressured me, he just waits for when I feel ready. Poor man!

I'm the same don't worry! My libido has been AWOL since about 20 weeks! We had sex on Sunday for the first time in 8 weeks. I feel really bad for OH too, but he has never asked or pressured me, he just waits for when I feel ready. Poor man!

Actually I'm also very curious about sex and bf. I have had my sex drive on and off during pregnancy but I was so tired that even when it was on, it wasn't always worth it, but I did try to give it up at least once a week. Now postpartum I'm bf and I feel like I want sex! I cant because I had an episiotomy and really need to heal, but I'm about to offer my bf a bj it for him bit for me! Has that happen to anyone? I also am back to my pre baby weight and don't feel fat or anything.

Actually I'm also very curious about sex and bf. I have had my sex drive on and off during pregnancy but I was so tired that even when it was on, it wasn't always worth it, but I did try to give it up at least once a week. Now postpartum I'm bf and I feel like I want sex! I cant because I had an episiotomy and really need to heal, but I'm about to offer my bf a bj it for him bit for me! Has that happen to anyone? I also am back to my pre baby weight and don't feel fat or anything.

I have had like no libido this pregnancy either! And then once I started getting huge I just felt disgusting! He doesn't see it that way, but when you don't feel hot, why would you want to have sex?!! Then the last couple weeks I have really wanted to but still feel super gross about how I look so I didn't. Last night we did and it really wasn't that bad! Since its probably been two months, it didn't last long lol but I'm due next sat and Can def see doing it again!

I have had like no libido this pregnancy either! And then once I started getting huge I just felt disgusting! He doesn't see it that way, but when you don't feel hot, why would you want to have sex?!! Then the last couple weeks I have really wanted to but still feel super gross about how I look so I didn't. Last night we did and it really wasn't that bad! Since its probably been two months, it didn't last long lol but I'm due next sat and Can def see doing it again!

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