Struggling

Little one is 3 weeks old tomorrow and I just feel like a single mum at the moment, OH (other half) does absolutely nothing and whenever I ask him to he has an excuse and manages to get out of it. Absolutely exhausted as I’m looking after her 24/7 without any help from him

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This would really piss me off. You must be shattered. My OH (other half) has taken shared parental leave and he’s up with me all night doing nappy changes, settling the baby and fetching and carrying for me as I’m recovering from a C section. The side sleeper crib is on his side of the bed so he probably wakes more than me in the night when the baby makes noises. I’d be an exhausted depressed mess without him sharing the load. Could you just plonk the baby on your OH (other half) and then go and have a bath or a nap and just leave him to get on with it? If he won’t do household chores I would arrange a cleaner and inform him he will be paying for it. These lazy men, how dare they expect their partners to do everything like it’s all women’s work?? If he doesn’t shape up I’d bin him off, you’re effectively a single parent anyway, might as well get rid of one overgrown child and make your life easier.

I feel for you. I’m in the same boat. Only difference is, as well as my 3 week old, I also have a 5 year old with adhd.

I do every night feed and have done since day 1 and the school runs are killing me. I’ve been on a course with the school to learn about my sons behaviour and with the washing, cleaning and shopping I’m a mess 😞

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