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A few years ago my meal arrived in our favorite gourmet burger place. I was tucking into a plate of delectable skinny fries (the shape, not the calorie content), and they were cold. I did the most effective thing I could think of:

Complain to my family.

So, here I was, complaining, and fretting about what to do (seriously?!) when my daughter, with all the truth-telling of a 6-year-old, looked me in the eye and landed Secret #1 on me:

“It’s okay to ask for what you want.”

Duh.

I told our server, hot fries were produced, and everyone was happy. The restaurant thanked me for giving them the chance to fix things, and my daughter felt smart.

Her words are for you, too: “It’s okay to ask for what you want.”

Pause right now, and ask yourself what you want that you haven’t asked for – perhaps because you’re afraid of inconveniencing other people, or looking silly, or for fear you’ll hear no.

Whatever it is. Ask for it. People can only help if they know what you want. Which brings us to Secret #2:

If you don’t ask, the answer is already no.

It’s always worth asking. People want to help and if they can’t, you can trust them to tell you. You’ve nothing to lose and everything to gain.

This week, notice when you don’t ask for what you want and practice asking.Take a deep breath and ask for free refills. Or if you’re feeling bold, ask for the BIG THING!

Then hit reply to this email and tell me all about it.

Get out there and thrive!

Christina

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