Tuesday, January 30, 2018

Courtship: Why Hurry?

All romantic involvements begin
with communication. But romantic communication
through the widespread use of mobile gadgets has somehow greatly diminished and
diluted the courtship stage. Nowadays, many couples hastily enter into relationships
simply on the basis of texts and online messaging.

However, the problem with a
hastily-entered relationship is that the couple’s familiarity with each other
tends to be rather shallow. The romantic process requires a period where the
would-be couple is allowed the opportunity to get to know one another. And this
is where courtship plays a role. Sadly, hastily-entered relationships reveal
the couple’s foolishness soon enough. This occurs when the couple begins to
discover things about each other that they are unable to tolerate.

When you start to realize that your
partner possesses undesirable attributes, sometimes changes in the behavior of
the other are quickly demanded. But, you should not enter into a romantic
involvement with a desire to change the other person. A relationship that
begins this way is doomed from the beginning.

When you can no longer tolerate
the behavior of your partner, you might say, ‘if you love me, you will change
for me.’ And you may even believe that you have a point there. But the reality
of it is, no one has the right to make such demands. Because the other person
can simply respond by saying, ‘ if you love me you will accept me.’

That is why a lengthy courtship
is encouraged, so that the would-be couple can deepen their understanding of
each other and be given a chance to adjust to their possible differences. If
during the courtship period one of them realizes that their differences are far
too great and efforts toward mutual adjustment are unsatisfactory, then that’s
when they part ways. And the courtship
ends with no regrets.

Even in today’s world, courtship
should not lose its relevance. In fact, it remains an important means of
discovering whether a future couple will be happy or miserable in the end.