December 01, 2013

Thirteen Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They
manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for
success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so
that you too can become more mentally strong.

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for
Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling
sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they
take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always
easy or fair.

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they
don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss
makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their
own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change.
Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They
understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to
adapt.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t
Control

You won’t hear a mentally strong person
complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they
can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they
can control is their attitude.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing
Everyone

Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t
need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up
when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people
being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated
Risks

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but
don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing
the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed
of the potential downsides before they take action.

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling
on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past
and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive
bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the
present and plan for the future.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and
Over

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for
their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep
repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better
decisions in the future.

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s
Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s
success in life. They don’t grow jealous
or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success
comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at
success.

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First
Failure

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a
reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and
improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone
and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts
and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and
aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but
instead can be happy
alone.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them
Anything

Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to
things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care
of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for
opportunities based on their own merits.

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate
Results

Whether they are working on improving their health
or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect
immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of
their ability and understand that real change takes time.

With many thanks to Life
Hack, and thanks to Jared for sending me this.