Sex Advice for Couples Turning up the Heat in the Bedroom & Beyond

Archive for the ‘Resort/Club/Event Reviews’ Category

Many of my friends think it takes a lot of courage to attend lifestyle events either at a house party or a club dedicated to open minded people. When I tell them about taking an entire trip at a lifestyle resort, the shock, horror and disbelief is tangible. Think about it… going to a bar where you can have sex is a big step for many but at least, it is close to home and you can escape if it is too much for you or you can suffer through it for a few hours until it’s done if this is really not for you. On the other hand, planning, packing, flying and spending thousands of dollars for being immersed in the culture for an entire week… that’s something else all together.

My partner and I have been to Hedonism three times so far. To tell you the truth, these are our best vacations. Not because of the sex, simply because of the freedom to be who you are and do what you want. Vanilla people visualize a resort where there is a constant orgy and you can’t distinguish who is touching who. Obviously the reality is far from that. You have a choice between prude or nude areas. Even if you choose the nude pool, doesn’t mean you will sex with anyone. Mingling is a bit closer and friendlier for sure but everyone is respectful and no one is at risk of doing things they don’t want. Most people get to know one another and if there is a good connection, they usually take their new friends to their rooms or to a more private area. If jumping in the middle of a pile of naked bodies is your activity of choice, there are plenty of opportunities usually later at night if you know where to look. If you decide to go to Hedonism, choose your week wisely. Different groups attend at various times of the year. Try and find a group who is similar in age and demographics as you. This will certainly improve your level of enjoyment.

Even though you don’t go there for the food, meals were always good with a great selection. The resort is under new management and they are renovating and upgrading every year. It is a slow process but the facelift is evident. As someone who loves to dance, I am quite partial to the entertainers and I fell in love with many gorgeous female dancers who twerked their way into my heart. I was ass hypnotized to say the least! Every night has a different theme and the more you dress the part and participate, the more fun you will have. When we went the themes were hat and heels, glow party, foam night at the disco, character night, fetish, party like a rock star and toga party. Our suitcases were filled with costumes. Very little clothes were worn as we were naked the rest of the trip. Always fun to explain if they choose to search your luggage!

Coming back to reality is always difficult. These are the hardest vacations to come back from. We are already talking about when we can get back there. Until then, we are lucky that we have a place like Eden which is very similar to Hedonism. Love the freedom and playfulness of our theme night events where we go meet old friends and make new ones 😉

Like this:

***The Lowlights***
Rick’s Café – If you’re in Negril, you simply can’t miss a visit to Rick’s café to enjoy watching the world famous sunset and awesome cliff diving. But do not go on an empty stomach. The food is mediocre at best, the prices are over the top and many of us suffered from upset stomachs the next day.

Disrespectful single guys – Hedo II openly invites single gentlemen which I don’t have a problem with…but to the guys in the hot tub trying to capitalize on the after party crowd by sticking their fingers into places they don’t belong…BACK OFF! Not only do you end up ticking a lot of people off, but you may also get popped (which DID happen at least once that I know about during my visit). On top of that, you give the resort a bad wrap which may just force them to reconsider their “single male” rule. Show some class and charm and I guarantee you’ll get a lot further with the ladies. And to those single guys that continue to be charming and respectful, we thank you and appreciate what you bring to the “Lifestyle”.

Hedonism II…the resort – Sadly, I feel that Hedo II leaves much to be desired. For the price point, and compared to my experience at other “Adult only” resorts such as Hedo III and Desires, I find the rooms to be very basic, the food bland, and sorely lacking in healthier choices like fresh fruits and veggies and the customer service is nothing short of disasterous. When I’m on vacation, I at least expect the staff to smile and be pleasant…it’s the hospitality industry after all. But unfortunately, the saying “don’t worry, be happy maan” didn’t’ hasn’t made its way into the resort or even as far as the front desk.

But to be fair, a few exceptions did catch my eye and are definitely notable. If you appreciate a great nudist beach, this one is “the bomb” compared to the offerings at HIII and Temptations (Los Cabos) and may just make your trip to HII worthwhile if this is something you cherish. In addition, the entertainment team does a great job at creating vibe and energy. They definitely bring the party and should be a consideration if you’re traveling solo or with a very small group. And finally, the staff at the Karaoke bar of all places is phenomenal. On our last night, we were treated to an amazing operatic performance by one of the entertainers. His voice is quite literally AWESOME and I know I’ll be hard pressed to hear a voice so beautiful again. Somebody should sign him. He’s a gem (sorry I can’t remember his name as I was so taken back by the voice).

One last thing…from the feedback we received, Hedo II has a reputation of having an older crowd on average than Hedo III. If crowd is important to you, be sure to familiarize yourself with what groups will be going at the same time to ensure the best synergies for you.

***The Scorecard***
Taking a page out of the book of trip advisor, I give this resort an overall rating of II when compared to Temptations (Los Cabos) or Hedo III.

I hope this information is helpful to you when planning your next adult only vacation, but be remember, this is just one girls opinion, and it all comes down to personal preference. If you can swing it, try them all and decide for yourself, but no matter where you end up, your adult only vacation is what you make it so HAVE FUN!

After 10 days of non-stop partying in the sun with nekked, naughty friends, my poor body is in serious need of a DETOX…now that’s a sure sign of another successful “adult only” vacation…

I just returned from my second annual “adult only vacation” – this year’s destination…Hedo II in Negril, Jamaica. Thanks to great organizers and great friends, I had an amazing time complete with some highlights, some lowlights, some nightlights and of course some hidden gems.

The highlights:
Overall, the group that I booked with, “Hedo Kama Sutra Group”, did a great job organizing. I was greeted warmly on arrival and was able to check in efficiently. The theme nights were well run and it was nice to be part of a larger group with a Canadian flare. (Thanks Sarge and Dee for putting together such a great package.) If you’re going to experience Hedo II, I definitely recommend going with a group. Just be sure to do as much research as possible to determine if the group is going to be a good fit for you.

We went with a great group of friends from the club. We all seemed to play well together. Sometimes we’d party together, sometimes apart, but more often than not, we reconnected at dinner and at the nightclub. We strengthened ties with existing friends, and even made some new ones.

The piano bar! Ok, don’t laugh, but one of my favorite memories of the vacation was the piano bar with Karaoke. Yep, not only did I say the dreaded “K” word, but I even sang it. Who knew that such a cheesy concept could be such a great party starter. Once we found this hidden gem, we were hooked. After dinner, many of us would head to the piano bar (pre-nightclub) to belt out Hedonistic renditions of songs like “Sweet Caroline…suck my ****” and “YMCA”. I will never be able to erase the image of three of my friends lying on their backs, buck naked on top of the piano using their legs to sign out the letters of the song. Bahahaha…funniest thing ever!

By day four, I was starting to get a mild case of cabin fever, so a friend and I decided we’d get in a bit of exercise and site seeing on the water. We hijacked one of the complimentary resort tandem kyacks and ventured out into the ocean. After about 20 minutes of paddling, we happened upon one of the hidden gems of Negril – unofficially dubbed “Lobster Island”. Lobster Island is a very small (probably no more than 2 acres) island inhabited mostly by cats, and Kevin a budding entrepreneur. For $15-$20 USD, Kevin will cook you up a feast of fresh fish, lobster sautéed in onions and garlic butter, and garlic toast. You pick your own live lobster which Kevin then prepares and barbecues to perfection right in front of you on his makeshift grill. Guaranteed, it will be the best lobster you’ll ever have.

Nude Booze Cruze – You haven’t experienced a Booze Cruise until you’ve done it nekked. On Thursday morning, I headed down to the docks and hopped on a boat to experience my first nude booze cruze. The sun was shining, the Jamaican tunes were jammin’, and the water was the perfect temperature. Our Captain was very hospitable, and he managed to stop at just the right spots so we could snorkel, swim and even water slide in our birthday suits. It was so liberating and freeing to be on the ocean “au naturelle”.

Stay tuned for:
The lowlights
The nightlife
A review of the resort
coming soon…

If you’re looking to add a little sugar and a LOT of spice this Halloween, look no further than Perry Mann’s 30th annual Exotic Erotic Ball taking place at Cow Place in San Francisco October 23-24. 2009.

“It’s part Mardi Gras, part burlesque, and part rock concert, yet totally unique. The Exotic Erotic Ball is a celebration of human sexuality and freedom of expression. It’s a lingerie, fetish, masquerade affair.”

This weekend long extravaganza will feature some of North America’s most unique, alternative entertainers from go go dancers and burlesque acts to snake charmers, “shaving shows”, nympho twins and penis painters.

And for those looking to be the show rather than watch the show, be sure to RSVP for the Exotic Erotic Ball Official After Party where you might just be lucky enough to hob knob with some of the world’s most exotic models, porn stars, musicians, DJs and celebrities.

Tickets are a steal at only $59 for general admission and $125 for VIP tickets. And if you book your flights through Allegiant Air, you might just be able to pull off this entire exotic weekend getaway for under $1000.00/couple. Not a bad price for a little sugar and a LOT of spice…not to mention one hell of a sexy weekend adventure for two.