Pressure and self consciousness

I am in my second year in high school or secondary school (in Ireland) All my friends are talking about boys and how they have kissed a guy or they have a boyfriend,I don't have a boyfriend or I have never kissed a boy,I am to shy to be around guys,One day a girl asked me do I have any guys phone numbers and I said no and she looked at me like 'Oh my God' Because of all this I have been feeling very self conscious and just not happy with myself at all.Is it weird that I'm 15 and I don't talk to guys? I feel so pressured by girls always talking about guys,don't get me wrong I would like to kiss a guy but the opportunity has never come up.Also how can I feel better about myself and how can I be more comfortable around guys? Thank you.

Answers

Well, there's plenty of ways to deal with peer pressure. It just annoys the heck out of me, so I try to ignore it. But most of the time that doesn't work at all. No one decides what to label you. The girl that looked at you like 'omygod', well, she sounds like she judged. Who cares if you don't have a guy's number? It's no one's place to judge you.
Guys like to talk to girls. They LIKE it when we go up and talk to them. It's not about if you'll screw up or say something stupid, it's just if you say something offending. Which, to a guy, is pretty dang hard to do. I think it's easiest to see them as a human being instead of an opportuinity, because you can actually see what they're thinking. Kindof. We all live on the same planet and we've all got to share the same leg room so why not get to know each other while we're alive? Empathy can go a long way into reading people's minds and such.
It's not weird that you don't talk to them at all. It's really actually normal. A lot of girls have the same issues.
There's only a couple things you should realize to feel better about yourself.
~You are gorgeous and beautiful and unique and none of that will ever go away. You're set for life!
~There are probably a million guys that would want to kiss you

So that's about it.
Too wordy. And now I feel all bossy. I'm sorry if I was, I am trying to help. But I feel bossy, so please don't take it that way, please.

first of all calm down plenty of girls feel that way , you just need to go for it say hello try not to be so nervis once you get talking to a guy then your totaly laugh at how silly you where being pressured its not a big deal its just like talking to one of your friends thats a girl , if its talking to hot guys your more shy of start talking to guys that your not attracted to then move on up , whats the worst that can happen ,just go for it and dont care too much about it .

I was the same way. I have only kissed one guy, my most recent boyfriend. And I'm 18. I have dated 3. but I would never kiss them then they would dump me and tell the whole school. It was embarrassing. But what you have to remember is to be you. If you don't want to do something, that is you. And it is normal. I think lots of people feel that way, so never let that get you down. I know it hurts sometimes, to feel akward and stuff but what you are doing is far better in the long run. If those girls were really your friends they wouldn't judge you or give you weird looks. Kayla didn't. She is 19 and still hasn't kissed a boy.
As for dealing with boys, just think of them like you do girls. They may be a different gender, but they have the same thoughts and feelings we do. They get embarrassed, sad, mad, self conscious and stuff too. When you talk to them just completely forget about gender and just keep talking. Practice it until you can feel comfortable. Try to say hi to guys or just start small talk just to push yourself out of you comfort zone. And if you still feel uncomfortable try to dress cute. When you fix yourself up nice, you get an extra boost of confidence. Maybe a little confidence is all you need. You are gorgeous, and you're absolutely normal. So don't let anybody else make you feel funny because in the long run you are better off staying true to yourself and your own feelings. And that will help you with guys too! Guys like girls that are friendly and can be themselves. So good luck! I hope this helps you. And if you need some extra encouragement then message me. :)