Sex List: Things To Do In Bed

Below you’ll find a list of more than 60 things that people can do sexually with a partner. You and your partner might enjoy using this list to find out what you’d like to try doing with each other. Simply print two copies of the list. Each of you can then privately complete your list and, after you’re both done, compare your responses. As you go through the list, you may find it helpful to talk not only about the things that you both want to try, but also about the types of sex where you differ. Is one person a “little” interested whereas the other is “very” interested in that activity? If so, is the person who is a little interested willing to explore under certain circumstances that might make the sexual behavior more appealing?

Enjoy your exploration!

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How interested are you in engaging in the following sexual activities with your partner? For each item, mark “0″ if you’re not at all interested, “1″ if you’re a little interested, “2″ if you’re moderately interested and “3″ if you feel very interested.

1. Masturbating in front of each other
2. Vaginal intercourse
3. Mutual oral sex (“69″)
4. Anal intercourse
5. Oral-anal sex (“rimming”)
6. Role-playing (doctor/nurse, prisoner/warden, teacher/student, etc)
7. Using a sex toy on yourself
8. Using a sex toy on your partner
9. Vaginal fisting
10. Anal fisting
11. Stripping for your partner
12. Your partner stripping for you
13. Having sex on a beach
14. Having sex under the stars
15. Having sex in the car while parked on the side of a road
16. Having a threesome
17. Having sex in front of other people at a sex club
18. Watching other people have sex at a sex club
19. Hiring a prostitute/sex worker together
20. Eating food off your partner’s body
21. Having your partner eat food off of your body
22. Whip your partner
23. Be whipped by your partner
24. Tie or otherwise bind your partner
25. Be tied up or bound by your partner
26. Engage in a golden shower (peeing on one another)
27. Give or receive a facial (ejaculating on a partner’s face)
28. Breast touching or massage
29. Bathe together
30. Make a home made sex tape
31. Send each other sexy photos
32. Send each other sexy texts
33. Have sex while in the shower
34. Have sex in a cheap motel room
35. Have sex in a luxurious hotel room or suite
36. Lick champagne off your partner’s body
37. Ask your partner to lick champagne off of your body
38. Hire someone to photograph you having sex together
39. Call in sick from work and stay home making love
40. Have a simultaneous orgasm (orgasm at the same time)
41. Stimulate his prostate
42. Have your prostate stimulated
43. Groom or shave each other’s pubic hair
44. Wear sexy lingerie
45. Spend at least 30 minutes having foreplay
46. Make out for an hour without touching each other’s genitals
47. Dry hump
48. Have sex three times in one day
49. Have sex every day for a month
50. Read erotic stories to each other
51. Write each other a love poem
52. Write an erotic story together
53. Squeeze your partner’s nipples
54. Have your nipples squeezed
55. Spank your partner
56. Be spanked
57. Act like a gender different than the one you identify with
58. Kiss your partner’s entire body from the top of their head to the bottom of their feet
59. Lick your partner’s body
60. Watch porn together
61. Nipple clamping
62. Axillary intercourse (penis is thrust through a partner’s armpit opening)
63. Penile intercourse between the thighs (but not in the vagina or anus)
64. Penile intercourse between the breasts
65. Performing oral sex
66. Receiving oral sex
67. Masturbating each other

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