to be slightly suspicious of men who say they only like women with long hair?

I think it's fair enough to have certain preferences when it comes to what kind of look you like, but to say that you only like long hair on women, irrespective of whether it suits them or not, is a bit IMO.

(Prompted by a friend who said today: 'sometimes I think women cut their hair too short, and it's like they're cutting off some of their beauty'...)

There's a difference between "I have a preference towards long hair"and"all women should have long hair IMO"Having a preference for a particular aesthetic is very different from prescribing the way a whole group of people should look.

I read something recently (if I can remember where will link it) about short hair coming into fashion when there are societal changes/upheaval, so the short styles of the 20s and 60s for example. When society follows more traditional patterns the fashions go back to long hair.

I personally have long hair but am completely and utterly unfeminine in every other way. I also prefer long hair on men too, mmm. Still didn't dump my fella when he shaved the whole bloody lot off though

I also think anyone who doesn't "let" their partner change their own appearance is a controlling prick, regardless of gender.

I think we all have "ideas" of what attracts us but there is a BIG gap between that and what actually does? Talk/words are just that, when we have not much experience of life we have an "idea" of what we find attractive, but what actually draws us, makes up happy, excites our feelings (AND OUR NAUGHTY BITS) is completely different.

I've done internet dating in the past, really enjoyed it and loved the male attention I got and the new people I met, real confidence boost! The site I used - match.com - you have the option of listing the eye colour, build, hair length, height, ethnic origin of the women/men you want to date.

What I found was that often the "stated physical requirements" had nothing in common with who men actually pursued? I've just spent a delightful summer in a lovely, passionate romance with a man who was physically enthralled by me, but where certainly I didn't meet one or two of his stated "physical requirements".

HipHop I am not as shallow as a puddle, i just think aesthetics are important, also i feel dramatically changing your hair is more than 'just a hair cut'. Going from a very short hair cut to having long hair WOULD drastically change the way DP looked, as would having my long dark hair shorn or bleached blonde. if you dont find that look attractive then it's going to be a bit of a hindrance to fancying someone. Also i would question why someone who knew their loved one hated something so much would do it anyway. DP telling me how much he loved my long hair, then me going out and having it cropped would be a bit of a slap in the face i feel.

Having studied fetishisation, i know there is a lot more to it than 'just a hair cut' to many people.

Ha ha whatacolddaytoday. Probably less dodgy than me being slightly attracted to the King Rat in the panto or JR Ewing when I was 6.

I always went out with men who were tall, dark and slim with blue eyes before I met DH. He is not short but slightly round and ginger, with very nice muscly legs. I still fancy Richard Armitage though. I just like all kinds of men

And yes, like it or not..... Long hair in women is generally associated with youth and ability to reproduce.

The fashion world periodically embraces the fuller figure but odd isn't it, how the models still by and large, are scrawny, emancipated androgynous shaped types with yes, you guessed it? ......long locks.

I quite like long hair on men. DH has long hair, though he might be nearing the point where he should cut it. Anyway. My preference for long hair hasn't kept me from dating short-haired men in the past. It's just a preference.

My best friend went through a period of having short hair, and she could really pull it off. She's petite and arty and it suited her. I have a bobblehead and would look terrible with it. I'm not going anywhere with this..

"If my fit sporty bloke became a couch potato and put on 10 stones I wouldn't feel the same way about him, in many ways he wouldn't be the same person."I get this - if your fit sporty fella gained 10 stones then not only would his weight have changed, but clearly he would have changed dramatically in himself to undergo such physical changes. Giving up sport, eating lots on sofa, not caring about his body/life/family etc - complete lifestyle change (unless of course it was brought about by illness).

spuddy to go from being a non-tattooed person to being coved in tattoos is different - presumably something else would be going on in his life/personality for him to want to alter himself so dramatically. I just don't think that is at all comparable to getting a haircut.

As for growing a beard, well I'm not thrilled about DP's but do I feel any different about him - of course not!! I'm not as shallow as a puddle and how I feel about him does not change because of his hair/beard or lack thereof.

I don't see anything surprising about people possibly not fancying their partner as much if they totally changed their look. Part of what attracts us to each other is our appearance and the image we project.If my fit sporty bloke became a couch potato and put on 10 stones I wouldn't feel the same way about him, in many ways he wouldn't be the same person.No longer fancying someone just because they change their hair style is strange though.

Hmmm...I don't know. Sme as saying you only like slim women, or big chested women - I understand why it may sound sexist but frankly if a woman can reserve the right to say she could never fancy a man with a big beard, or one who was under 5' 3" then I don't really see the difference.