In London, the mayoral election means the end of an era for one fluffy-haired walking disaster – Boris Johnson. After two terms as London Mayor, Boris’s tenure is over, the demise of which he described as "Operation Juddering Climax". While we’re all just bleaching that vision from our mind’s eye, I have some good news: you don’t have to get voted in, serve eight years as mayor and have a knack for saying the wrong thing to have a juddering climax of your own – it’s much easier.

Get to know the prostate

OK, let’s start big. Well, not too big. The quickest way to a more intense orgasm is to get acquainted with that little friend of yours, the prostate gland. Many men shy away from it because it lives in what they might describe as a bad neighbourhood - it’s up your arse, basically – but nothing worth doing ever came without effort.

You can start by encouraging your partner to insert a finger up there while you’re having sex – after a full nail trim, please – or you can have a go yourself. First you need to find it. It’s about two inches inside your bottom, working kind of along toward the scrotum rather than prodding directly up. It’s best to start your search when you’re already aroused, because it’s bigger – around the size of a walnut.

If you’re more adventurous and have concerns about exactly what’s under those fingernails, you can, of course, use toys. There are special massagers that can really get to work on that little old gland while you’re having sex and will make you feel like your head is going to explode, in the best possible way.

If you’re too shy to put anything up your arse just yet, it’s not all over for you. You can usually get a handle on the prostate from the outside too, by applying pressure to the perineum – that’s the bit between your balls and your butthole. Get your partner to give it a massage as you’re going at it and, well, hang on to your hat.

Restrict yourself

Not being in complete control can help intensify your orgasm. Maybe it’s because you don’t know what’s going to happen next, or perhaps you enjoy feeling like the Hedonismbot from Futurama, letting someone else do all the work. Being tied up and unable to retaliate or reciprocate during sex is a very easy way to see stars. If you’re worried about rope burns, or that you’ll wrench the headboard off, or that you’ll be left there tied up for days like in some terrible sitcom, introduce restraint some other way. Ask your partner to hold you down – have a safe word in case they get a bit enthusiastic – or do it yourself. Put your hands behind your back or under your arse as they ride you.

That’s just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to domination, of course. There are all sorts of more elaborate ways to "restrict" yourself, with equipment, or special gear, or whatever. Just play around and do whatever feels comfortable. A tweaked nipple at the point of climax can work wonders. But please don’t hang yourself on the back of a door or anything without supervision because I couldn’t live with the guilt.

Deprive your senses

On a similar tip to restriction is sensory deprivation. There are a couple of senses unlikely to elicit a sexual thrill should you switch them off – smell and taste for example – but you’d be surprised how effective taking sight or sound out of the equation can be, assuming you still have them.

When you can’t see what’s going on, you feel vulnerable. You don’t even need a proper blindfold – your partner’s hands or even a T-shirt held over your eyes can exacerbate the thrill. When you can’t see what’s going on, you could be anywhere, with anyone. You could always close your eyes, of course, but you’d only open them at the wrong moment and catch your partner flicking a bogie across the room and into the bin.

Similarly, a lack of sound can intensify your pleasure when having sex. I’m not suggesting you wear ear plugs – you’d be able to hear your own breathing then and that’s probably going to sound a bit frantic tbh – but if you both agree to be mute during sex, it can lead to a more powerful climax. Whether you use gags or simply a hand over the mouth – or fingers in it, but watch out for accidental biting at the very peak – there is something very sexy about doing it in total silence, with just your breathing for company. Try it. And make sure you turn off the telly downstairs before you start.

Hold off

As Granny always said, good things come to those who wait – actually don’t think about your gran too much – and one way to intensify the big moment is to delay it as long as you can. Take yourself to the brink as many times as you dare and then… stop. Get your partner to change rhythm or switch to doing something else – maybe return the favour. Thinking about something horrible or unattractive isn’t going to work, as it might kill the buzz entirely. Just change focus to jolt you out of the moment and then work your way back up to it slowly. When you do finally let go, it’ll be with the strength of ten tigers. Ten tigers who’ve been in solitary confinement for a decade. With no access to porn.

Keep your head clear

It’s common to fantasise about something else or someone else while you’re having sex, or to let your mind run riot with how sexy the moment is or how hot your partner is. To come harder or just, y’know, better, don’t let your imagination run riot. Focus on the act of what you’re actually doing, the mechanics of it, like you’re doing an intense workout. Think about the result you want and when you want to get it. Concentration can be sexy. You’ll last longer too, which can only help.

Be on the ball

It’s not all about your tool; don’t forget its two very important, extra sensitive neighbours. Pressing on your balls, or getting someone else to do it, as you’re about to come can intensify the feeling and it’s nice to get them involved, isn’t it?

Get out more

While sex in your own nice clean bed is all well and good, you can help power up your orgasm by introducing other locations to your love life. "Doing it outside" might sound like an old cliché and something grim swingers on late night documentaries would do, but it can be really sexy and introduces risk, which can further intensify your climax. Why do you think, in the age of equality, gay men still meet up in toilets or parks or underground garages and have sex? It’s certainly not for the inflight entertainment or the banter – it’s because it’s hot, it’s sexy, it’s fun. Just don’t do it within ten miles of a school playground and don’t get caught. If you’re concerned about nettle-stings, a hotel would be change of scenery enough.

Rely on the kindness of strangers

I’m not telling you to go off and have an affair if you’re in a relationship, or to put yourself at risk, but picking up strangers, fucking them, and then forgetting them, can help make your orgasm more exciting. The thrill that you don’t know them, the new things they can do to you or that you can do to them, the knowledge you can just walk away and fantasise about it later – it’s the expressway to a volcanic eruption. If your orgasms are more on the sedate side, doing it with someone new can be just the boost they need. As long as you’re honest about your intentions and playing safe, what’s the harm? Of course, it might also be really disappointing but the thrill of trying it in the first place might just get you through. Either get yourself propping up the nearest pickup joint or dive into the zillion hookup apps available on your phone. You don’t even have to know their name – but you can bet they’ll be calling out yours.