obviously more in love than the other*

While browsing a random tumblr blog last week, I came across a series of tweet screenshots of a man justifying women’s overt fear of men. Other than it being a sweeping, fearmongering generalization (and obviously sexist), it tugged at me in a way that wouldn’t leave me alone. Something about it made it more personal than I thought it should have.

Then it hit me. It hurt me because men I love and adore who help women, and others that I do not know yet do the same, were just thrown under the bus. Women who could have benefited from being shown this reality were being hurt as well!

Do you know what my husband has gone through with me to help me heal from my sexual assault? Far more than some fucker with a twitter account. Do you know how much my male friends stand up against violence on women? Far more than some boy feminist looking for some progressive points. Do you know how hard male investigators work to find the rapist? How much hell male family members go through with their daughters who were hurt??? How much male victims of abuse and assault have to hide and bury because of “fearing men and blaming them is totally justified!” BS agenda?

You get the point. And I am sooo sick of it. I am so sick of blame being assigned to a single gender and carrying it around as a legit talking point. I want to stand side by side with good men - whether as “allies” or fellow victims -, hold them up, and let the world know that fear only leads to hate and won’t help the human condition.

Your inflammatory tweets aren’t going to do that, so keep that garbage away from me.

snape saved harry’s life more than once and protected him for years, but he only did it because he was in love with lily

narcissa only saved harry’s life so that she could get back to the castle to find draco

and i guess wormtail saved harry’s life too but it was only because he owed harry a life debt

so obviously draco wasn’t the only person on the dark side who protected harry but he was the only person who didn’t do it for selfish reasons or because he had to, in fact, by failing to identify harry he puts his family at risk and jeopordizes their only chance at falling back into voldemort’s good graces. not to mention draco was a teenager when all this was happening while snape and narcissa were grown adults. if you think snape or narcissa or god forbid wormtail are more redeemable characters than draco malfoy then get out of my face

Like honestly, she’s such a wonderful character and I’m so happy with how she’s portrayed.

First of all, I love her character design so much. I love that she’s so tall and muscular. And sure, she has those big … earring things, but otherwise she doesn’t have any ridiculous facial features (i.e. huge eyelashes, lipstick, etc.) so that we “””know she’s a girl”””” Yet she is still super adorable!

Not that I don’t like the character designs of other, more “”””feminine-looking””” female aliens on the show (i.e. Allura obviously, and Nyma) but I just really, really like Shay’s design and how unique it is.

But more than that, I absolutely love her as a character and how other characters treat her.

Tall/muscular female characters are so often made into stupid jokes and shamed by other characters for not being “feminine enough.” I was just bracing myself for someone to make some idiotic comment like “lmao that thing is a girl?!?!” but it never happens.

Not only that, but she plays a fairly pivotal role in the story and her character is treated with so much respect. She’s not portrayed as some random extra character, but someone who is really important, really sweet and kind, and incredibly brave.

At one point Hunk is talking about her and calls her “a hero named Shay” and I just really love that––not “an alien” or “some girl” but a hero.

And that brings me to the relationship between Hunk and Shay, which is honestly one of my favorite things about the whole show––and something that I feel deserves a lot more recognition. I mean, LOOK HOW CUTE THEY ARE.

And it doesn’t really matter whether it’s platonic or romantic, because either way it’s just so utterly genuine and important. What matters most is that they teach each other so much about freedom and bravery and fighting against injustice. They bring out the hero in each other.

But I also like that even the possibility of it being romantic isn’t made out to be something to laugh at. Like yeah, Lance and Pidge both kinda poke fun at Hunk about it, but it’s more of an “ooooh Hunk likes someone!!” kind of way and not “lmao I can’t believe you like her”kind of way. (Granted, I don’t think either of them know what she looks like when they make those comments. But as far as I recall they don’t tease him after they meet Shay, either.)

TL;DR - Shay is amazing and important, and I love how respectfully she’s portrayed. Bless her and bless this show.

Obviously it’s Sherlock’s show but there’s far more parity [in Sherlock] than I think there often is [portrayed] in that relationship [between John Watson and Sherlock Holmes].

I know [creators] Steven [Moffat] and Mark [Gatiss] primarily wanted the show to be about that relationship as much, if not more, than anything else.

[It’s about the relationship] and how it develops and how it changes and the things that wind each other up, the things that they genuinely sort of love about each other as well.

It’s the gayest story in the history of television… People certainly run with that, which I’m quite happy with!

But we all saw it as a love story. Not just a love story, but those two people who do love each other – a slightly dysfunctional relationship, sometimes, but a relationship that works. They get results.

—

Martin Freeman, to reporters after winning the ’Best Supporting Actor’ BAFTA in 2011 for his work in Sherlock.

What she means:
Scorpius Malfoy and Albus Potter were best friends since they first laid eyes on each other, they always stuck together, whether it was because they were outcasts or because they liked each other, they were always together. The way Scorpius feels about Albus was compared to the the Snape felt about Lily, which was love. Scorpius got jealous when Albus was speaking to a girl, and was heartbroken when Albus said they should keep away from each other. Scorpius obviously loved Albus as more than a friend and Albus loved Scorpius too, defending him against his dad and saying that without him he wouldn't be able to do anything. They are a match made in heaven and Scorose is just shoving heteronormality down our throat when will this stop

“‘Merry Christmas!’
‘Hey, look – Harry’s got a Weasley jumper, too!’
Fred and George were wearing blue jumpers, one with a large yellow F on it, the other with a large yellow G.
‘Harry’s is better than ours, though,’ said Fred, holding up Harry’s jumper. ‘She obviously makes more of an effort if you’re not family.’
'Why aren’t you wearing yours, Ron?’ George demanded. 'Come on, get it on, they’re lovely and warm.’
'I hate maroon,’ Ron moaned half-heartedly as he pulled it over his head.
'You haven’t got a letter on yours,’ George observed, 'I suppose she thinks you don’t forget your name. But we’re not stupid – we know we’re called Gred and Forge.’”

“Merry Christmas!”“Hey, look — Harry’s got a Weasley sweater, too!” Fred and George were wearing blue sweaters, one with a large yellow F on it, the other a G.“Harry’s is better than ours, though,” said Fred, holding up Harry’s sweater. “She obviously makes more of an effort if you’re not family.” “Why aren’t you wearing yours, Ron?” George demanded. “Come on, get it on, they’re lovely and warm.” “I hate maroon,” Ron moaned halfheartedly as he pulled it over his head.“You haven’t got a letter on yours,” George observed. “I suppose she thinks you don’t forget your name. But we’re not stupid — we know we’re called Gred and Forge.” “What’s all this noise?”Percy Weasley stuck his head through the door, looking disapproving. He had clearly gotten halfway through unwrapping his presents as he, too, carried a lumpy sweater over his arm, which Fred seized.“P for prefect! Get it on, Percy, come on, we’re all wearing ours, even Harry got one.““I — don’t — want —” said Percy thickly, as the twins forced the sweater over his head, knocking his glasses askew. “And you’re not sitting with the prefects today, either,” said George. “Christmas is a time for family.”They frog-marched Percy from the room, his arms pinned to his side by his sweater.

Crewniverse: Here’s Bismuth, a gem obviously coded as black, who is a big, hyperaggressive radical leftist! That’s bad, and we’re only using her as the moral, so we’ll only have this episode for her and show how BAD she is!

Crewniverse: Also here’s 15 more fucking Pearl episodes so you feel sympathy for her! Isn’t she just the sweetest? Don’t you just love her and how we make her more complex than literally every other character on the show, even Steven himself? We’re not bigoted at all :^)

Dear 2017, please have all of my gay OTPs with the opportunity to be canon and happy and safe with the one they love more than anything else next year because there’s not much chance of that for this one but I’d like to be a little optimistic about the future anyhow

“There are so many reasons really, most of which I am sure have been mentioned by others. The look is beautiful obviously, the color palette, the grain, the softness…I love all of those qualities. Though, even more important to me than the look is the awareness and deliberate nature that it brings to the way I shoot, you are so much more invested in each shot (figuratively and literally). I also like knowing that I am creating a negative, something real and tangible…not just a jpeg floating out there to be forgotten about or deleted. I have come to really love the space that shooting film creates between the act of taking the photo and reviewing it. As painstaking and frustrating as the wait may sometimes be, I feel that it is so important to reviewing your work with a more critical, fresh and unbiased eye. Not to mention the fun surprises that you sometimes find. And honestly, experimenting with all the different combinations of cameras, lenses, formats and film stocks is so much fun…way more interesting than the somewhat homogeneous world of 35mm digital cameras. I could go on and on but I think you get the point. Personally for me, film just provides a much more rewarding artistic and photographic experience, while also providing a look that I am personally, really drawn to. Digital surely has it’s benefits and advantages…but all while being a bit cold, empty and sterile.”

There’s something both Bryant and I have noticed about ourselves since moving to Hawai'i and it always becomes more apparent when we visit the mainland. Obviously we love visiting our friends and family but it can be hard to not feel like we’re out of place. I’ve fallen in love with this island’s lack of materialism and lifestyle and it’s one of my biggest fears to lose that! I think as we all grow older it’s easy to be obsessed with gaining more and looking better but I think one of the greatest tools we have (other than God!) is PLAY. When we bring out that child-like spirit of play, when we soak up that moment on a swing or burst into running or climb a tree or just forget what’s “proper” for adults these days, I feel like we’re fighting against that voice that says we need THINGS. It’s a form of rebellion to just wake up and be okay with what you already have and to play in the world around you! You don’t need to live on an island to play, you just need a bit of nature and some good friends. I know this month and next starts to become so much about things but I hope that you can focus on more than that! It’s about God, family, love, the earth, selflessness. I promise.. There’s just so much more to life than things. So get out there and plaaay! ✨🌴 (at North Shore, Oahu, Hawaii)

Ok so soulmate AU where your soulmate’s name is on your wrist
•Matt and dan have each other’s names, obvs
•Nicky has 2 names?? You can have more than one soulmate ok
•It’s a running joke between the foxes…nicky is a HOE
•No one knows what name Andrew has on his wrist bc arm bands
•And no one was brave enough to ask him about it
•Maybe he didn’t have a name at all bc Andrew is a pretty fucked up dude and is he even capable of love?
•And neil obviously had Andrews name even tho neil doesn’t swing????
•And when he meets Andrew he thinks for a second it might be his Andrew
•But then neil spends 5 seconds in Andrews presence and realizes that there is 0% chance Andrew minyard is the Andrew on his wrist
•But neil always wears long sleeves bc scars from his past
•Anyways neil and Andrew are on the roof one night, Andrew smoking his cigarette, neil letting his burn , neither one of them saying anything
•Neils thoughts somehow end up on the name on his wrist.
•“so what’s their name?”
•Andrew raises one eyebrow in question
•“your soulmate? Everyone says you just don’t have one.”
•Andrew doesn’t say anything for a minute, just stared at the glow of his nearly burnt out cigarette.
•Eventually he says,“I don’t”
•Neil accepts that as truth because he and Andrew don’t lie to each other anymore
•Over the next months neil finds himself wondering if he too quickly dismissed the possibility that Andrew was his Andrew
•Because he was begininning to trust and care for this andrew
•Flash forward to the airport
•“you don’t look like a Nathan.”
•“im not, im Nathaniel”
•the change in andrew’s expression wasnt noticeable to a stranger
•but neil could see the understanding dawn in his eyes, caught the way the his lips turned– he wasn’t smiling bc Andrew doesn’t smile anymore, but he wasn’t exactly frowning either
•Andrew took a half step closer to neil and wound his fingers through his hair, tugging slightly
•“you idiot”
•Andrew pulled neil close enough that he could not find where his breath ended and neils began
•“yes or no?”
•and poor neil, he has no idea what triggered this sudden mood change but he certainly wasn’t complaining.
•Neil hesitated just a second too long for Andrews liking apparently (neil was just trying to figure out wtf he said that caused this?!)
•“yes. Or no.”
•“yes,” neil answered firmly.
•And it made sense to neil that Andrew kisses with the same grace and skill that he plays with on the court
•Andrew eventually breaks the kiss and neil just raises his eyebrows at him
•Andrew makes sure no one is around before pulling up his arm band
•And on his left wrist was a name that was not Neil
•“Nathaniel,” neil breathed out
•“do you understand how complicated you have made things with your lies. “
•“how was I supposed to know? You told me you didn’t have a name” Neil accused
•“the only /feeling/ I have for you is hatred”
•neil raised a single eyebrow
•Andrew considered neil for a moment before replying“187%” then turned away without another word.
•Neil could feel the pressure of Andrews lips on his own the whole flight to Atlanta.