5 TYPICAL HABITS OF WEDDING GUESTS [NIGERIANS]

Yes I am going there oh! There are so many typical habits wedding guests display, I think I will mention just a few: it's not exclusive to Nigerians but I have mostly attended Nigerian weddings so I will limit my post to Nigerian guests. How many weddings have I been to in my life?maybe 20 maybe more/less and I keep seeing this:

Wedding Crashers- I nor go lie I have crashed a few weddings when I stop to think about it, but since my own wedding, I shall endeavor not to crash any wedding again because it is not fair. You will invite 1 person to your wedding and the next thing you know your guest turns up with 5 more friends who you have no clue who they are and they know know nothing about you. How do you do that? LOL. This is why most weddings are rowdy and food nor dey ever reach yet these same mo gbo mo ya are the ones that will bad mouth the ceremony and cause chaos...weddings are meant to be intimate.

Doggy Packs - Ever been to a wedding and seen guests trying to abscond with food? Normal abi? It shouldn't be that way. I went to a wedding once and got there early before the couple entered the hall: wetin I see? This dude was plucking all the drinks that was placed on the table he was sat and stocking them in his bag underneath the table...By the time other guests arrived the whole table was cleared...no drinks. Smh.

Rude Comments - If there's anything you're not happy with and you're a guest at a wedding: keep it in your head. You don't like the decor? Sorry oh. The food tastes like dog poop? The groom is too short? My friend, shurrrup. If you did not contribute to the wedding you have no right to pass off rude comments. The poor couple are probably dancing off thinking they're with their loved ones, not knowing you are bad-mouthing them. I was CBM at a friends wedding and one of the guests came to complain to the bride that the people at her table have not eaten...of course iyawo flared up! Always eat before attending weddings and keep calm if the small chops pass you.

Asoebi Drama - I bet this one is just for Nigerians... you request from the Bride/asoebi vendor for the bride a sample of the asoebi, then you run off to the market to buy a similar fabric. LOL. I was warned not to show anyone my asoebi fabric until they made payment and that worked out well for me. I wish we'd do away with Asoebi though but if you must...do it jeje. The drama that comes with asoebi is too much- either too expensive or too cheap. You can't please everybody *sips champagne

Souvenir Battle - Wedding souvenirs are a BIG DEAL! The way guests fight over them is my reason for that conclusion. These souvenirs are usually umbrella's, notepads, paper/plastic fans, and tiny gift items but with the way some guests fight over it, you'd think they were battling over gold-plated iPhones. I remember a wedding I attended, souvenirs were only given to those who brought wedding presents and asoebi. People wan faint! LOL

Oh well, these are just a few of the habits I've seen at some weddings...talk your own. Abeg make I go cook for my husband... LOL

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Buhahahahaah!...that souvenir battle I have been seeing it since when i was a baby sef. LOL! So funny! The worst would ever be the rude comments though, especially when you are a crasher. Lol...like who gave you the right to bad mouth pesin's wedding when you crashed it? LOL!

Wedding drama beats me, when the important is the marriage. The most annoying thing is that those who put up all this behavior have nothing meaningful to contribute to the wedding/marriage. I even hate ceremony sef so, my ideal wedding has been1. No traditional marriage ceremony. Just fulfill the marriage rites and join us as husband and wife. No dancing or funfair.2. NO asoebi. Make my wedding colorful. Wear what you desire. Bring out those your expensive and cherished clothes that you have been stowing away that asoebi did not afford you the opportunity to flaunt all these years. I guess your guests will be happier. And buy you meaningful gifts.3. NO souvenirs. I will personally make sure my husband and i dont do it. And biko family members that want to do, why spend that amount of money on souvenirs. Please give me the money and see me invest it and make profits. I am the one starting a home, i need support. if you really love me you wouldn't care about souvenirs. The one that annoys me is COTC: GROOMS FAMILY. COTC: BRIDES FAMILY. And then people running their mouths. The brides family spent more, the grooms family spent more. Who cares?But i am marrying a lagos man, so 3 and 4 might not be feasible.

4. Did not want a bridal train sef, but i have sisters itching to do so. I want a quite wedding and an interesting honey moon that's when marriage starts.5. I wish i could screen the gifts and trash them at the reception venue. Some gifts are annoying.I am guilty of rude comments. Especially about how short, or ugly the couple are. God forgive me

This is why i have always said i want a destination wedding. i don't have energy for nija wedding wahala..people have too much bad mouth, even if you serve them gold, they would still look for something to complain about. I was the CBM for my sister's wedding..stress ehn..mbok no pls. i have been guilty of number 1 though.

i got married few weeks ago,and mehn i regretted ever doing the asoebi thing,a friend of mine is even yet to pay,imagine how annoying it is,pple will come to your party eat your food,ordinary to spray dem no spray,as per the gift mehn it was something else i never wanted gifts though i was happy they didnt disappoint with the few they bought.sourvenir my hubby and i didnt do any general sourvenir cant come and waste husband money on frivolities after spending huge for the wedding.some pple complained they didnt eat while a particular man packed foods home and the caterer sef no try she carry food go meet her family.

At a wedding i attended, the hall was already full by the time the church service ended, such that all of us who attended the church service (including the family of the couple) didn't have seats.Worse, the women were already having loud arguments about food.Worst, the couple was just dancing in when they started already telling the bride some people hadn't been fed.

And yes, I'll fess up to make not-so-nice comments at weddings, but I only say them to myself or to who I'm with. Yeah, it's not my wedding, but there are some things that should be done right... like don't starve your guests. If your wedding started at 10am, please ensure there's small chops by 12, or 1pm cos it's lunch time already :p

hmmmm congrats Sisi, in Ghana the situation isn't too different only we don't do Asoebi, but yes the whole wahala with wedding souvenirs and food especially during the traditional marriage ceremony is baffling! You will wonder if people don't have these items or food at home. smh! besides food served at weddings and such is never tasty anyways!

You ain't said nothing but the truth. My wedding guest list last month had me so worked up even up till the very day! We used a hotel and they make u pay per head ($40 per person for just space ooo! Cos we used outside caterer and decor) and 22% gratuity! Haba. We were already planning for 250 ppl. Space ALONE cost more than $10k and then some people we didn't even contact were now trying to invite themselves, plus their neighbors and their neighbor's children, 4 of them. The list had also grown to over 300 as a result. Laila. Is not me that will sit down and be writing extra check to hilton after you people have eaten, criticized and left. We had a list and had ppl at the door checking. I heard some ppl had to leave cos they didn't get seats. I let out an understanding "eeya" when I heard. Weddings here are toooo expensive for ppl to inconsiderately crash it and then bring extra crashers with them. I did not even share half a yard of asoebi lol. I did not have energy for that kind of wahala biko. It certainly helped cos my mum and aunts who shared asoebi are still balancing asoebi books lol. I did not even have to worry about one thing once the wedding was over. And that was just the best

I had crashed one wedding here in the past but after mine, I will not crash again lol

OMG!! I can't believe someone had the nerve to complain to the bride about food!! OMG that is the worst! Can't you see bridesmaids or ppl wearing asoebi to talk to? That was just wrong. As CBM, I hope you handled that person well lol

lol d aso ebi drama is upsetting. a friend of mine is still upset with me today cos i did not buy her aso ebi of 20k. i think we can go with colour codes-that's fine, but aso ebi drama is too much. i dont have any issues with someone buying their own fabric though. because i honestly think its wrong to hike up the price of aso ebi to make extra cash. just wrong.www.folasoasis.com

I think that the reason people would collect the sample and go buy theirs (for the asoebi) is because brides these days are notorious for selling the fabrics for exorbitant prices. That's the only reason people would want to buy theirs if they can get a better bargain. I wouldn't be angry though if my friends and family went to get their own asoebi because of a better bargain. Afterall, who doesn't love the cheaper option of the same exact stuff? They are already showing enough love by even buying the asoebi in the first place. I can proudly say I am not guilty of all these crimes though (Yayy me! lol) Hopefully, people would respect my privacy when my time comes. Whew! Weddings seem like sooooooo much stress ugh. Something that should be so amazing...

I totally hate the wahala that come with weddings. i wish i could do oyinbo style and elope but my mamma will look for me, annul the elopement and have a 'proper' naija wedding. i want to believe her exact words to me will be "so you don't want my friends to wear ashoebi for me ehn?"

i can proudly say i havent done any of this lol, but yea the food thing is just crazy. Even before wedding begin food is already in some peoples car like haba. Its not a soup kitchen.www.thatnigeriangirl.net

I think the best thing for the asoebi thing is have samples of the materials you'd like so so and so group to use and let them buy them themselves...so if they want to buy...fine...if they don't no probs. Finally it's the bride and groom that's the star of the show. The most important thing is friends and family celebrated with them.

As a Photographer i have attended weddings i don tire and all these and more are what you see in Nigeria weddings no matter the class but what breaks my heart the most are the caterers...i just dont like those guys. After working all day with the couple and you decide to munch something, the people will tell you nothing is left..if they are so nice they will tell you there is food but no meat...whereas everything has been packed in a blue cooler under the table. So because of these experiences, before the reception starts, one of the team members goes to a fast food and gets food for the team, that way, you have strength to work and bulshit the caterers food. Pls tell them to stop because on the last day judgement will start from them ooo.

Awww..I feel your pain... I was at my friend's wedding earlier this year and this same thing happened to the Photography crew.. I had to wade in and get one of them food when he lamented he had not eaten all day.. I will keep this in mind for my own wedding. will specifically hand over the camera crews to a trusted and reliable friend.