First of all, there’s no solid answer to this question. Everything is subjective, but you can at least take some tips when it comes to how long you wait before you bang. Some guys might say that you shouldn’t wait at all and get to the end game. But when you do that you chance ruining any sort of relationship—sexual or not. Here are some tips on how long you should wait before you get to peek into her garden.

The Three Date Rule

Many people go by the three date rule before they assume sex will happen. Honestly at this point there’s nothing to judge the rest of your future on it. If you’re aiming for a long term affair then you might be rushing it while going in after the third date. That’s because it doesn’t account for time at all. Three dates could really happen in a week. What if you find out that she’s crazy? Then you’re already too entangled to get out. Taking your time and waiting more than three dates (depending on the time in between) will ensure that the fire burns longer.

First Time Fling

“Touch her on the first date only if she permits”

It’s not unheard of that some people get it on right after the first date. The sexual chemistry is just too much to bear and they have to throw their clothes off right now. It’s exciting and can lead to a very passionate evening. But this person is essentially a stranger. Would you normally just find a woman to have sex with while walking around on the street? Well if you do it’s not advised…so stop that.

And Then the Months Went By

“Your patience will be rewarded in the best way”

Alright, it’s been like three months. Actually 112 days to be exact. You’re jostling for some trim and you’ve gone through two bottles of lube. But your patience will be rewarded. When you can prove to her that you’re willing to wait to get that garden tour she’s going to know that you aren’t just in it for the sex. You want to stick around be with her. If you’re into the idea of having an actual girlfriend then this is the option to go. Along the way she might be willing to let you shake some trees and take a dive down under if you’re a good guy. This might make it harder or easier, depending on the guy. But you’re far more likely to get a solid relationship out of waiting. Just make sure to let her know that you really are into her body and not gay or something.

Sex is definitely important. Some people have decided to give it away like rice at a wedding while others hold onto it until marriage. Finding the balance in between is going to get you a better result overall. As awesome as having one night stands and screwing your date immediately is, when you get to know the woman you get to know all of the kinks about her. Of course, you’re not the only one who’s got a say in this. She might be wanting to jump your ones just as badly.