What You Need To Know About Domination

What people think about domination now has been tainted by the Fifty Shades saga and the weird things that we see online. It just isn’t safe to search for anything online anymore without being scarred for life!

Domination isn’t all whips, chains, and bleeding arses. Yes, for some people that is what they enjoy the most about it, but domination doesn’t have to be like that. Domination can cover a huge number of things, and you don’t have to be battered and bruised to really experience domination.

Control

The main thing about domination isn’t pain. Really, domination is all about control. Whether that is you or your partner taking the lead, the dominant person will decide what happens and when it happens. They have the power, which can be incredibly sexy and a little intimidating at the same time.

Sure, you might have planned beforehand the kind of things you want to happen, but your partner can either rush through or take their time to dominate you. You are completely at their mercy, and it can be a huge turn on to just let yourself go with the flow and be ordered what to do in the bedroom.

For many, the lack of control is very appealing. If you are more dominant in the bedroom, you might not like the idea of a femdom standing over you in knee high leather boots , ordering you to kiss them, but for some not having to worry about what they want to do is a big relief.

The control can be exerted in a number of ways, from mental, such as ordering you around or telling you what to do, to physical, where you are restrained in some way. Just what kind of control you want is up to you.

It’s not all whips and chains

The Fifty Shades film might suggest otherwise, but it isn’t all whips, chains, and pain. In fact, pain doesn’t even factor into domination for a lot of people.

Because domination is about control, you don’t have to get physically painful. It can be something as simple as bossing someone around in bed, telling them what to do to get you to cum, or even just fucking them as hard as you want.

In fact, the lighter stages of domination don’t require you to do anything, except be in control.

Gentle domination

If you are interested in trying domination, you will want to start off small. Something simple as pushing your partner against the wall while you kiss them can show them that you want to be in control, and it will turn them on to see you take it.

If you want them to take the control, try whispering it seductively into their ear. Say how much it would turn you on for them to push you against the wall and kiss their way down to your cock.

Forceful kisses can even be enough for some, as you are showing a great deal of passion in one kiss. Kiss them as though you need their kiss to survive and they will melt into your arms and let you take control.

More Assertive

The pain part can come into domination when you start to get more assertive. When we say pain, we don’t mean hit them until they are black and blue. What we really mean is tease them and give them just enough that all of their senses are heightened as they await what happens next.

Something such as denying an orgasm or forcing an orgasm can come under domination, as they are completely at your mercy. Orgasm denial tends to be more popular, as you get to hear your partner beg you to let them cum. You can even prompt them to beg louder as time goes on to really get you turned on and horny.

Light spanking could also be used in this case, if you feel they aren’t obeying your commands. A little slap on the ass or side as they wriggle underneath you to try and get their orgasm should show them it isn’t acceptable, but make sure you communicate exactly why they are getting spanked.

BDSM

Bondage and gagging are some of the more popular types of BDSM. For bondage, restraint can be a hell of a lot of fun. You can tie them to the best, which works well for tie and tease and orgasm denial fun. You could also tie them down and have your wicked way with them, provided they are consenting.

Gags can also be a lot of fun. There are so many different types, from ball gags to silk gags, and you can even improvise one. It might turn you and your partner on if you give them oral sex and make them orgasm while they wear their panties, then take them off to use them as a gag. Just check with them first.

Some people enjoy being whipped and caned, so if you are going to try it start off very light. Only hit the parts of the body that are fleshy, such as the ass or thighs, as hitting them elsewhere could do some real damage. Ask them how it feels after each smack to see if you can up the ante, and only do a few hits at a time. It will get them really turned on if they don’t know when the next hit is coming.

Degrading and humiliation

While most people will be okay with a little bit of forcefulness in the bedroom, humiliation and degradation are different. If you are going to try them, make sure it is absolutely completely okay with your partner first!

Degrading could be something such as telling them what a dirty little bitch they are when they suck your cock, or even getting them to say it by asking what they are. If they don’t answer quickly enough, a light spank could persuade them to answer more quickly.

Humiliation is a more interesting one. A lot of humiliation tends to be done in public, where your mistress or femdom will make you kneel on the ground and kiss their feet while you are out and about. However, it can still be done in the bedroom by making them do the same or treating them like a dog.

When to draw the line

Whenever you are trying BDSM, you should absolutely talk about it beforehand and set a safe word. Talking about it lets you know what is and isn’t acceptable before you get down to it, while the safe word will give you both the chance to stop things and take a break if they get too much.

Make sure you pay attention to the safe word when it is used, otherwise there is absolutely no point in choosing one in the first place!

Let us know if you are a BDSM and domination fan on the Escort Norway forum, or by leaving a comment in the box below. Do you prefer to be in control, or do you like to give it all up? Personally, I can switch between the two, but it is a lot of fun to pin a man to the bed and take control.

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.