Female and male decisions implicating on intimate relationships and dynamics

Friday, 1 July 2016

Women and men want different bodies to what attracts the opposite sex

“Am I one step
behind, or two steps ahead?”

In
the space of two years sincethis article was published, I personally do not see, hear or sense anything
today that would suggest women or men have stood away from what body type they strive
to achieve, in relation to the profile they believe attracts the opposite sex.

This
picture alone will tell you everything you need to know about the
misconceptions, or perhaps genuine self-predilections, we live in when it
derives in achieving a certain body to exploit.

I
actually read this link some months ago, and the outcomes most certainly came
as no surprise to me.This lack of fall
off my seat moment was brought about by nothing more than recollecting a few
conversations and observations from experiences, in addition to the undeniable
trends shown when stepping out into the real world.You only need to hear the amount of men (some
who I train with) who have an inclination or sometimes obsession to be bulkier
at the compromise of being toned, and they will get there through any necessary
substance possible, whether legal or not.Then I recall the amounts of ex-girlfriends, or female acquaintances,
who appeared in desiring to be skinnier than their curves display, and no
matter how many times you tell them that the vast majority of men prefer curves
over skinny, it doesn’t seem to sink in.Or at least they don’t allow it to sink in.

The
important and critical part of this subject to dissect is based on each
gender’s motivation in aspiring to attain their “perfect” body type:

Men’s
motivations

By
clear majority, men want to achieve the body type they think will attract the
most women, and usually this will mean wanting to appeal to the highest numbers
of cute and hot women within their
feasibility grasp. It is important to
note that there is a distinction in attracting most women in comparison to
attracting the hottest women, simply because most women are not hot, or even
cute. With this in mind, >95% of men
would give some of their body mass and bulk away in trade for easier access to
the most beautiful women. In other
words, with knowledge to what women are most attracted to, men looking like the
beefier guy would swop for looking like the more toned option.

This
can only draw to the conclusion that most men actually think most women like
the more beefcake look, but as most men are clueless to what women want
generally – emotionally, how to be handled, how much love to give them, gift
expenditure levels, when to say no, etc – this doesn’t come as a shock to
anyone who opens their eyes and comprehends how horribly wrong men get it.

The
other point to men’s body achievement motivations is age related. Men above the age of 35 will have at some
stage lived in the era of Stallone, Arnie and Van Damme, and as this decade or
so led men to believe in and aim for, alongside a much different female taste
from that generation, a “bigger is better” appearance, many men’s history, prides
and ignorance refrains them from toning over bulking. It’s no surprise then that a decent
percentage of beefy looking men, often on steroids, are above their mid
30’s. The women walking hand in hand
with them are of similar age.

Women’s
motivations

Unlike
men, women’s motivations to seek an “ideal” body on themselves are not solely,
predominantly or primarily born out of attracting the opposite sex. Now yes, if a lot more men were high earning
celebrities and news came out that this privileged male group desired only
curvaceous women, you can bet your last penny that any woman once wanting to be
skinny would curve herself up. Simply
put, if a woman could give herself that lifestyle, her principles, tastes or
self-preferences would be thrown out of her all so moral window.

As
>99% of men aren’t famous, women basically are more in it to please
themselves than to please Average Joe – at least in their prime visually
aesthetic years when they receive plenty of male attention and can afford to
rule selfishness and self-preference over and prior to settling and
compromising. What this allows women to
do is, to a degree, take oversight to the body type men would like to see on
them in change for what they perceive will make them most valuable.

Their
perception of what is most valuable is a skinny frame (or skinnier than the
curves men prefer on them), because in a world where they are constantly
picking up celebrity magazines or checking out crappy reality TV shows, skinny
women are prominent to their viewing.
These skinny women are often with famous and rich men, so who can blame
a self-centred, naïve and happy hunting girl for thinking this body type will
offer her a better opportunity of this life, even if it is detracting the mass
male population.

Another
inclination for a woman to be skinny is the unofficial competition with her
female peers. A woman will get a better feeling
from being skinnier in comparison to her rivals than being curvier. It’s not until she starts to see curvy women
with high quality men that her review system, gym regime and diet may adjust.

Other
considerations

Other
worthwhile notes to take down are how men prefer bigger breasts on women than a
woman would herself like. I guess this
once more goes in line with what women see on the rich and famous, although
from my first-hand experience I’ve only ever known women to want bigger (or
maybe firmer) rather than smaller tits.
So this did come as a slight surprise.

Hair
is an interesting one. The difference in
a woman’s preferred hair on her in relation to what men want is negligible in
the whole scheme of things, so we’ll close this page. With men’s hair, this is quite a
difference. Men think women want a short
style, whilst women prefer him with much wavier and longer locks. From what I’ve read, a curlier, wavier and
longer hairstyle on men is here to stay for the near future at least. That said, a man will rarely lose out by
having a shorter cut, and it is a much safer bet if in doubt that a longer
style can be pulled off.

In
conjunction with a curvier desire, men want a woman to have a bit more meat on
her legs than the woman wants on her preferred skinnier frame. On the reverse situation, women want toned
but thinner legs on a man. This won’t
please the rugby players I know who advocate the only male body worth having is
the one they require to throw around an oval shaped ball.

Q-tip 1:

Although
these findings are more than valid to what women will find most sexually attractive
on a man, bear in mind that each anatomy part has been based on male celebrity
body belongings. This male perfect
body devised by women will be what they find most sexually arousing, but
don’t confuse this with what they choose in a male partner. The vast majority of women, even regular
cute and hot women, will find this ideal male body too intimidating for
their low confidence and high insecurity thresholds.

With the
perfect female body put together by men, this is the woman they would most
want to date, sleep with, and marry - all else being equal. With men, what you see is what you get,
with no agenda hidden or ego present (just an uncontrollable dick that
rules his head!).

A
final thought

So
ultimately men would like women to be curvier than what women want to be, and women
would prefer men with less bulk than the heavy weights, protein shakes and
backstreet supplements are producing.
Men are getting it wrong through blinkered eyes, whilst women more
likely know what men prefer but are running down a different motivational
treadmill.

This
is why I chuckled some years ago when I first started attending the gym. A number of beefcake men tried to give me
advice in getting much bulkier, and in truth I did need to put on some mass. Nevertheless, I always took note of the types
of women who were seen with over-muscled men.
They tended to be older women past their best days, and never the best
looking. Often they would be dedicated
to the weights and grip gloves themselves, with far too much female muscle that
accompanied their wrinkly parts, fake tans, or drenched on make-up. What kind of man needs that kind of
woman? Well not me, anyway.

And
this is perhaps a good final thought to leave with. It is easy for a less clued up man to think
that if he sees a young, very attractive woman in the gym, it is the assumption
she also wants a man with at least as impressive a body as her in gender
relative terms. This is not the case by clear majority. Because after seeing this woman for a few gym
sessions, you then walk past her in the shopping mall with a man sporting
nothing better than a mediocre (or worse) body.
It often doesn’t look like he has ever even passed the bar of the gym. In essence, this woman is trying to look as
good as she can for self-fulfillment, to look better than her female
competition, and to locate the highest quality man (outside of male high
quality visual blessings) to commit to her.
This by no means translates to a man spending too much time in the gym.

Q-tip 2:

In an ideal world, men
would like 8 to 9 out of 10 women walking through the gym door (or any social
or working environment) to consist of high level female beauty. The 1 to 2 women who fall under this bar is
down to nothing more than a male emotion necessity of comfort and
attainability, especially for less sought after men. On other hand, women would like the opposite
scenario. They require a world where 9
out of 10 men are run of the mill (not ugly, but not too visually impressive),
with the isolated 1 man to give them visual, and if they want it sexual,
pleasure.

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