a dirty secret in adoption

My heart is naturally bent toward encouragement. Focusing on the good stuff. And as an adoptive mama, I can’t even begin to put into words all the ways that the Lord has blessed me through my children. The work He has done in them, and in me… good stuff.

But I have learned that sometimes the best way to encourage is to go beyond the warm fuzzies. To be a truth-teller… a person who loves by sharing the harder things – the things we don’t like to talk about – in order to enlighten and encourage those who are on a similar, difficult path. It’s no fun to go there, but sometimes it’s the only way to bring the real healing we so desperately need.

As a truth-teller, it’s been on my heart to share about a dirty secret, only whispered about in the adoption world. Dirty because of the guilty and shameful feelings it inspires. And secret because, well, who wants to share that kind of stuff? But the purpose of sharing – of bringing this yuck out into the light – is that it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, God wants to take what is at the root of this dirty secret and redeem it for your joy and His glory.