Post Baby Relationship

when do things go back to normal? I'm 6 months pp. I don't know if its the hormones still or just plain depression. I am scared for my relationship. we've been married for 2 years and together for 9 and we have never fought this much before. we used to be so good at communication and now I feel like I don't know how to comunicate with him at all. I feel so angry and moody all the time. he works so much so I don't have to and I can stay home with our lo but I feel like he thinks that's how he shows he cares and doesn't do anything to make me feel special anymore. I seriously feel like I am all fought out and I don't know what to do anymore. I'm scared we are going to separate soon of things don't start to get better....sorry so long. I just don't know what to to do and Im torn on this. i don't want to raise my dd in a split home( been there myself and its not pretty) but I also don't want to raise her seeing us both unhappy :-(

when do things go back to normal? I'm 6 months pp. I don't know if its the hormones still or just plain depression. I am scared for my relationship. we've been married for 2 years and together for 9 and we have never fought this much before. we used to be so good at communication and now I feel like I don't know how to comunicate with him at all. I feel so angry and moody all the time. he works so much so I don't have to and I can stay home with our lo but I feel like he thinks that's how he shows he cares and doesn't do anything to make me feel special anymore. I seriously feel like I am all fought out and I don't know what to do anymore. I'm scared we are going to separate soon of things don't start to get better....sorry so long. I just don't know what to to do and Im torn on this. i don't want to raise my dd in a split home( been there myself and its not pretty) but I also don't want to raise her seeing us both unhappy :-(

First year is super hard! A new baby is a huge adjustment and takes time to get used to. So many changes aren't always easy especially between dh and wife:) have u talked to him about your feelings? He may be feeling the same.

First year is super hard! A new baby is a huge adjustment and takes time to get used to. So many changes aren't always easy especially between dh and wife:) have u talked to him about your feelings? He may be feeling the same.

I am almost 7 months pp and we bicker SO much more than we ever used to. Not in front of the baby, but still...a lot of it is me, I sometimes resent that my life has changed SO much but I feel as tho his hasn't. I have a bit of a problem with impatience. I try to always take a deep breath before i say anything, and always try to be just as nice to dh as I am to dd and remember: he is on my side!

I am almost 7 months pp and we bicker SO much more than we ever used to. Not in front of the baby, but still...a lot of it is me, I sometimes resent that my life has changed SO much but I feel as tho his hasn't. I have a bit of a problem with impatience. I try to always take a deep breath before i say anything, and always try to be just as nice to dh as I am to dd and remember: he is on my side!

Dh and I have been together for 8 years, married for 1 1/2 and our first ds is 7 1/2 months old. Our relationship was pretty ideal before ds and we have fought a lot more since ds was born it is so hard! I don't get much sleep, work stresses me out and I just want to stay at home with my son but can't, I'm prone to anxiety so being a FTM that's not a good combination and ds was colicky the first few months and is still a high needs baby. It is such a transition, life has changed so much. All that being said, the past few weeks things have just started to get back on track for us. I don't think it will ever be the same but we are starting to settle into a new normal and enjoy each other our son and life again. A huge part of it is that ds is just getting to be more and more fun everyday lately. We are so smitten by him and his little personality is really starting to shine through. We have really struggled the first 6 mo or so but I think we both always tried to remember that at the end of the day we love each other and we will get through these hard times together. I think it's about accepting that it is a phase and it will get better. Best of luck momma!

Dh and I have been together for 8 years, married for 1 1/2 and our first ds is 7 1/2 months old. Our relationship was pretty ideal before ds and we have fought a lot more since ds was born it is so hard! I don't get much sleep, work stresses me out and I just want to stay at home with my son but can't, I'm prone to anxiety so being a FTM that's not a good combination and ds was colicky the first few months and is still a high needs baby. It is such a transition, life has changed so much. All that being said, the past few weeks things have just started to get back on track for us. I don't think it will ever be the same but we are starting to settle into a new normal and enjoy each other our son and life again. A huge part of it is that ds is just getting to be more and more fun everyday lately. We are so smitten by him and his little personality is really starting to shine through. We have really struggled the first 6 mo or so but I think we both always tried to remember that at the end of the day we love each other and we will get through these hard times together. I think it's about accepting that it is a phase and it will get better. Best of luck momma!

Things got pretty blah, boring, routine, effectionless, sexless and robot-like for us pp. Ds is one now...next baby is 6 months away. Definitely not expecting any improvements within next year with another newborn in the picture. Just waiting for kids to get older so we can have our marriage back. Until then, were parents first...husband and wife last.

Things got pretty blah, boring, routine, effectionless, sexless and robot-like for us pp. Ds is one now...next baby is 6 months away. Definitely not expecting any improvements within next year with another newborn in the picture. Just waiting for kids to get older so we can have our marriage back. Until then, were parents first...husband and wife last.

You both have to take proactive steps to reclaim your marriage. My wife and I are happier since our kids were both (2 and 6 months) than we were before - and we thought we were happy then! Take time every day to be a couple - don't do or talk about anything that has to do with your child.

On top of making a daily effort to be more than just co-parents, take a weekend away. Six months is old enough (in my opinion) to leave your kid with a grandparent for the weekend. Go camping or just get a hotel room in town... Have sex. Eat something yummy. Talk about how much you've missed spending alone time together. Have sex again. You'd be surprised how refreshed you'll both feel after a couple days away.

Your relationship will be just as successful as you attempt to make it. Being a happy couple while also being good parents is a challenge. It's hard. But it's entirely possible.

On a final note, if you feel like he's showing his love through working long hours and "bringing home the bacon," but you want him to say nice things to you or kiss you more often or whatever else, I recommend the book "Five Love Languages." I think it'll help you...

Best of luck to you both!

You both have to take proactive steps to reclaim your marriage. My wife and I are happier since our kids were both (2 and 6 months) than we were before - and we thought we were happy then! Take time every day to be a couple - don't do or talk about anything that has to do with your child.

On top of making a daily effort to be more than just co-parents, take a weekend away. Six months is old enough (in my opinion) to leave your kid with a grandparent for the weekend. Go camping or just get a hotel room in town... Have sex. Eat something yummy. Talk about how much you've missed spending alone time together. Have sex again. You'd be surprised how refreshed you'll both feel after a couple days away.

Your relationship will be just as successful as you attempt to make it. Being a happy couple while also being good parents is a challenge. It's hard. But it's entirely possible.

On a final note, if you feel like he's showing his love through working long hours and "bringing home the bacon," but you want him to say nice things to you or kiss you more often or whatever else, I recommend the book "Five Love Languages." I think it'll help you...

I could have written something similar to this. I have known my husband for 20 yrs (married for 1.5 yrs) and we still had disagreements after dd was born. It's a phase. Have faith. Have supportive people around you. Achieve a goal or complete a project together to feel like a team again. best wishes to you! :)

I could have written something similar to this. I have known my husband for 20 yrs (married for 1.5 yrs) and we still had disagreements after dd was born. It's a phase. Have faith. Have supportive people around you. Achieve a goal or complete a project together to feel like a team again. best wishes to you! :)

I unfortunately don't have any advice, I could use some myself! We're in the same situation as you! Our son is 11 months old and my husband and I just started counseling... I feel like we are closer to divorce than working it out. Just letting you know you're not alone.

I unfortunately don't have any advice, I could use some myself! We're in the same situation as you! Our son is 11 months old and my husband and I just started counseling... I feel like we are closer to divorce than working it out. Just letting you know you're not alone.

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