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Wedding-Night Sex: Would You Take a Sex Break Before Your Big Day?

I had dinner a few weeks ago with genius wedding expert Jen Napier, and something she said about wedding-night sex really surprised me

She said many of her readers (she works for a wedding site called OneWed.com) ask her for advice on doing the deed on the big day. Here’s what she had to say:

“Your wedding night is supposed to be special. Memorable. Even a little magical. But many of us are far from being virginal brides, and while marriage may be uncharted territory, the sex is often familiar terrain. So how do you make what is supposed to be such a special night feel like the first time all over again? For some couples, it’s a pre-wedding sex break.

While abstinence sounds like the opposite of sexy, it can actually have the desired effect. In the days, weeks or even months leading up to your wedding, consider taking a vacation from sex ensuring the honeymoon is even more satisfying.

There are, however, a few pros and cons to consider before just saying no to your libido:

Con Sex is a stress reliever and planning your wedding can lead to anxiety overload. If you have the willpower to abstain, find another outlet to unleash your emotions. Pro Remember the early stages of dating and the anticipation of when you’d take that next step? Recapture the early romance and enjoy slowing it down knowing that you’ll regain all the momentum soon enough.

Con When it comes to bonding with your significant other, there’s really no substitute for sex. However, temporary abstinence can force you to get creative in other ways and it might be worth the extra effort.

So what should you do? Whether you commit to a 48-hour breather or 4-months of chastity, the most important thing is to talk to your partner and make sure you’re both satisfied with the arrangement.

Also, don’t forget to be flexible. You might decide to stay sex-free for six weeks and then cave after six hours and that’s perfectly OK. Just be glad you have such a strong physical attraction and feel secure that it will sustain your relationship long after you walk down the aisle.”

So tell me, would you ever take a sex sabbatical before your wedding? If you have already consummated your relationship, how long do you think you could go without sex? I feel like I'd cave in a second! Do you think your husband-to-be would be down with taking a sex break? Do you know any couples that took sex off the table before their weddings?