Mental disorders in the elderly lead their families to stand in and adopt a variety of roles before institutional care takes over. These pathologies carry a high risk of suffering for families and distress for professional caregivers. Thus, the psychological burden endured by the proxies of an elderly depressed patient, or of one who has committed suicide, or of patient suffering from dementia needs special attention and, in some cases, professional care. The discussion of these paradigmatic situations in this manuscript will be extended by a paragraph on specific stakes raised by alcoholic patients living in nursing homes. It will stress the complexity and requirements of professionalism when approaching the familial and professional circle of the elderly psychiatric patient.