You might have meant only good but you managed to hit a raw, worn very thin over 4 years, nerve.
I hope you won't tell anyone else with a medical issue to "relax". Seriously do you think relaxing will solve your infertility issues?

i am sorry for what i have caused. i probably should not have really written anything. i said the world relax not with a meaning of don;t think about it but try to be positive and hopeful through this big struggle.. i myself have been also diagnosed, and the possibility of never having even one child is making me dread..

🌷No hard feelings. I'm sorry you are facing infertility issues. I recognise you are new to the forum which is a great place with tons of support. I'm guessing you possibly didn't realise when you ventured into secondary infertility that it means people have a child and are struggling for another. However you will find lots of ladies in similar boats to yourself both in assisted conception & the main LTTTC boards. It will help to chat to others who understand what you are going through.

I'm not quite as far along with the infertility struggle, but I also struggle when I see mothers with more than one child. I love my little boy more than anything, but the desire for another one is so overwhelming sometimes! It's so hard for me not to obsess over it, but I've been trying really hard to just focus more on the moment. It's definitely a struggle though.

For us, we were NTNP for about 8 months when I became pregnant with #2. We found out at 10 weeks that it was a miscarriage, and then we've had nothing but BFN's for the last 10 months

We didn't have any issues getting pregnant the first time so I'm worried the DNC may have damaged something... who knows.

I've tried all sorts of things over the last year. I've tried vitamin C, Vitamin B-100 Complex, baby aspirin, preseed... I even tried becoming vegan for a whole month

What crazy things have you tried? Hopefully you guys will be able to try IVF soon! I don't know whether we will go down that road or not, but I try to think positively about it like how it will increase the odds of twins and guarantee more ultrasounds.

im kinda in the same boat! my daughter will be 3 in july and we have been trying for #2 since last jan. i have pcos and its proving much more difficult this time around! grrr...... we are trying a new approach this month just waiting for AF.
its very hard for friends that have not been through this to understand or know anything to say. they can't help it. i thankfully have a close cousin who went through ivf a few times. with my first i relied heavilly on this group actually! its so hard but we are here for ya!

Thank you! What new approach are you going to try this month? I'm willing to try again

So what we've been doing since nov. is
1500 metformin ER
femera days 3-12 2 pills
ovidrel shot
estradial and provera a couple days after ovidrel both 3x a day

so this month we are adding 150 menopur shot on day 13. ive never had this shot so hopefully it works!!!!

Hey my daughter is 2. We are in similar position as I'm not returning to work till we are done having children. My daughter is IVF and I cannot concieve naturally. We had a fresh IVF in September that failed, and a failed FET last month. I'm starting to worry it'll never happen, at some point we will have to give up and I will have to return to work. Starting to feel very panicked about it. We have appointment for another cycle on Monday. Our daughter was a first cycle success. So I don't know why this keeps happening to us. Just bad luck I guess? But it's incredibly stressful, upsetting and frustrating. Here if you need to chat.

I'm not really on B&B much anymore but I occasionally check the threads, saw this one and wanted to quickly share my story to try and give you all some hope. After 3 1/2 years of TTC #2 without so much of a glimpse of a BFP, a lot of invasive tests, 2 failed IUIs and a lot of heartache we went for IVF (well ICSI). It was never in our original plans to go that far but we realised we had to try everything at least once to try and have our 2nd baby. We ended up doing a FET and very thankfully I got pregnant on our first try. We hit another heartbreak at my 6 week scan when we found out we were expecting twins (which I had already guessed due to my super high beta levels!!) but one wasn't going to make it. It was incredibly bittersweet as we were so delighted we had one healthy baby which was our main goal when we started this journey but so sad for the one we ended up losing at 7 weeks. Fast forward to now and I have the most beautiful (ok I know Im biased!! ) 1 month old baby girl.

There have been a huge amount of ups and downs the last 4 1/2 years but we finally got there in the end so I wanted to give you all some hope because I know how much it helped me when I was struggling. I really hope everyone here gets their baby that I know you so badly want, and sooner rather than later!

Thank you all so much. Especially for the encouraging success story. I am also here if any of you that are struggling if you ever want to talk. I know how alone his feels (especially right after you start a new cycle) so please feel free to reach our any time. We just had our IVF consult. I don't think we are going to do it until end of June but we do have a plan in place. I'm praying it works!! The doctors seem hopeful but they also seemed hopefully with my previous IUIs.

Good luck to you Hun. We're also facing secondary infertility. Ds was also a struggle so I shouldn't have expected anything different. My heart is so sad but I'm now thinking we might have to be one and done.

Good luck to you Hun. We're also facing secondary infertility. Ds was also a struggle so I shouldn't have expected anything different. My heart is so sad but I'm now thinking we might have to be one and done.

Don't give up! We signed up to do ivf and planned to just try naturally two month months while we were waiting to start the ivf cycle. We found out the month before we were supposed to start ivf that I got pregnant naturally!! After two iui's, 6 rounds of femara and 1.5 years of trying I'm still shocked it actually happened without assistance. It's still early. I'm only 8 weeks but we have had an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat. Please don't give me and reach out if you ever want to vent. I totally understand and if you feel in your heart you another child is in your plan that keep trying!

Good luck to you Hun. We're also facing secondary infertility. Ds was also a struggle so I shouldn't have expected anything different. My heart is so sad but I'm now thinking we might have to be one and done.

Don't give up! We signed up to do ivf and planned to just try naturally two month months while we were waiting to start the ivf cycle. We found out the month before we were supposed to start ivf that I got pregnant naturally!! After two iui's, 6 rounds of femara and 1.5 years of trying I'm still shocked it actually happened without assistance. It's still early. I'm only 8 weeks but we have had an ultrasound and saw the heartbeat. Please don't give me and reach out if you ever want to vent. I totally understand and if you feel in your heart you another child is in your plan that keep trying!

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