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Topic: helppppppppp (Read 11369 times)

I recently had sex with a girl who is a friend of mine. We had unprotected oral sex and then , because I am a complete and utter imbecile, I put myself inside her . I was in less than one minute, but it was unprotected. I pulled out and put a condom on and then we continued with sex. I am now very afraid because of my stupidity and because of what she revealed to me AFTER we finishedd having sex: She tells me she was treated for oral thrush, showed me a list in her small pad of guys she regularly sleeps with, must be about 30 names. She claims she uses condoms always but I figure if she allowed me in unprotected who is to say she did not with others. anyway, I do not mean to ramble..I hear I have to wait 13 weeks to be tested and that in that time I amy 'sero-convert' if I have caught Hiv. not sure if I am really asking anything, guess I just need to spount off my stupidity.

Impatient little pisha, aren't you? We answer your questions when we get around to it. Not when you demand it. We're not paid to do this you know.

I recently had sex with a girl who is a friend of mine. We had unprotected oral sex and then , because I am a complete and utter imbecile, I put myself inside her . I was in less than one minute, but it was unprotected. I pulled out and put a condom on and then we continued with sex. I am now very afraid because of my stupidity and because of what she revealed to me AFTER we finishedd having sex: She tells me she was treated for oral thrush, showed me a list in her small pad of guys she regularly sleeps with, must be about 30 names. She claims she uses condoms always but I figure if she allowed me in unprotected who is to say she did not with others. anyway, I do not mean to ramble..I hear I have to wait 13 weeks to be tested and that in that time I amy 'sero-convert' if I have caught Hiv. not sure if I am really asking anything, guess I just need to spount off my stupidity.

I really don't think you have to be overly worried about this situation. HIV is not an easy virus to transmit, particularly from female to male. Nevertheless, HIV is also not something to guess about so you do need to test 13 weeks from the date of this encounter.

You need to understand that there are other STD's such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea, which are far more infectious and prevalent than HIV. All sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least twice a year. If it's been a while since your last STD screen or if you've not had one before you should probably make an appointment with your doctor or local clinic. A full STD screen includes an HIV antibody test.

One other thing, the responsibility for protecting yourself from STD's and HIV rests with you. Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted.

Can I ask why you are using different usernames while posting to our forums? Thus far, you have also used whatdidIdo

Please realize that this kind of activity is disrespectful of other forum members, as well as our moderators. People spend a considerable amount of time helping others in these forums. Using multiple accounts is at the very least annoying, if not deceiving and disrespectful of others. It is also against our Terms of Membership which you agreed to when you became a member. This information is also contained within the Welcome Thread, which you should have read by now. So really, you have no excuse.

You must realize that the answers won't change, no matter how many names you post under.

I would appreciate a reply to this message, and I hope you will commit to using just one account - preferably your original one. If not, you will be banned from further access to the forums.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Reason I used this name is because I had forgotten the last name I used sorry..and well, this is a totally different scenario , with her having had oral thrush........oral thrush is assoc with hiv so this is why I posted again and need advoce, commentary....

Write your login details down this time and keep them safe for future use. If you create a third account here, you WILL be banned, no questions asked. OK?

You have had a risk, albeit a small one, and you should test. It's unlikely that you would have been infected through this brief episode, but the only way to know for sure is through testing.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I hope this is not too stupid of a question but here goes.........If I am correct that hiv 'symptoms' do not show up until at least 2-4 weeks, if they show at all, what other diseases can one get and have a sore throat within a few days of the encounter?

If you went down on her, there is the possibility of getting gonorrhea or chlamydia in your throat, although this is fairly rare from cunnilingus. If you're worried about that, get your throat swabbed.

Has it occured to you that you may just have a common variety of sore throat that people get at this time of year?

And yes, seroconversion symptoms, if they happen at all, take at LEAST two weeks to show up.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

ty for replying. I rarely get sore throats so I doubt it is a 'general' one. Also, she told me the guy she was with a few days before me told her he had gotten a sore throat after being with her as well...all he did was have mutual oral sex with her (she says).

Your risk was minimal in the incident you are concerned about. I have no real doubt that you will test negative.

Unfortunately right now you are practicing medicine on yourself without a license, which is very, very unhealthy to do. So you have a sore throat. And that's uncommon for you. Please believe me, that absolutely does not in any way equal HIV infection. No kidding.

You're (mis)interpreting everything that happens or doesn't happen now through HIV jitters mindset.

HIV is not an easy virus to transmit. It's very significantly harder to accomplish from female to male. Given a very brief and single incident such as you had, your testing negative is all but certain.

What you do have to learn from this experience is that you can have all the interourse you want to with as many partners as you like, and their HIV status is totally irrelevant. AS LONG AS YOU ALWAYS WEAR A LATEX CONDOM. Everytime. No exceptions and no excuses.

And I have to remind that you that neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms will ever tell you anything accurately about your HIV status.

There is absolutely nothing about what you are reporting which is in any way HIV specific. Really.

Tell your mind to give it a rest. I still expect when the time comes to test that you will very likely test negative. I can't say more than that because only a test result can give you the real answer.

Stay busy during the waiting time and it will pass more quickly than you can imagine at this moment.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------I would like to thank everyone for helping me. I received my results today and I tested Negative. I am so relieved, although I need to ask: I tested at approximately 16. DO I need to retest at 6 months just to be safe?

That was a different encounter in which I was tested for...I was under that name 'whatdidIdo" but forgoet the password which is why I use this one now..I already cleared that up with Ann.I have to be tested for this stupid encounter...

is it possible to get hiv from having a cut on the infger and having that finger inserted in the mouth of an infected person?also, sorry for this question but is it not uncommon for chemicals in some condoms to irritate some guys?

I thank you very much for taking the time to reply to me but I do not know why you keep saying I am hiv negative. I mentioned that the post of mine you reposted was from a different encounter that I was tested for.This is a new encounter.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Also..There have not been any reports about this test giving false negatives. The problem is with false positives ONLY.

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WOuld having sexual contact during the female's period period a bigger risk to catching hiv? 2 weeks past having sex with person on this (she tells me after we do it) and I have had diarrhea since sunday, low grade fever and general feeling of tiredness.

I never get diarrhea usually for more than a day....this is worrying me a lot...

Alos, does anoyne know if it is true that Pennsylvania food service workers must get tested every 6 months?

I dont know anything about pennsylvania food service people but I would think its unconstitutional for the state to MANDATE HIV testing for a particular group. The only one I know of regarding HIV is the PORN industry and THAT makes sense.

Now they MAY have to test for tuberculosis or something, but I dont see HIV testing as a mandantory thing.

Now, in regards to her period. She would have had to have been bleeding ALL OVER YOU like BUCKETS of it for there to be even a SLIGHT risk. SO NO, you are not in any more danger.

Good luck.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

ty once again. I know , I need to test again...I know almost ceetainly I have got it this time...swolled nodes on my left side of my neck, low grade fever, and diarrhea and bit tired for the past 4 days. Funny thing (sad really) is that i did not even want to have sex, and never did want it again...now I guess I have no choice anyway...ty for all your replies....

In the period immediately after infection has taken place there aren't any specific symptoms. Within two to four weeks after exposure to HIV, a person might have flu-like symptoms such as fever, swollen glands, muscle aches, diarrhea, fatigue or rash. In rare instances they may occur within a few days after the exposure has taken place.

It has been 2 weeks and I have had some of those symptoms for the past 5 days....this is i why I say I am seroconverting.

Your bowel movements have nothing to do with HIV. I'm positive and I didnt experience any of your symptoms.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!