Husband is backing out!

2 weeks ago, my husband and I decided that I should go off my birth control. I'd been on it for 10 years. We've been married for 5 years. Ever since I stopped taking the pill, my husband won't have sex. I thought we were both ready to TTC, but now I feel like we're backtracking!!! I've been ready for a couple years and was ecstatic when he finally agreed to try, but now I'm devastated that we're not moving forward. Any ideas on how to get him back on track?

2 weeks ago, my husband and I decided that I should go off my birth control. I'd been on it for 10 years. We've been married for 5 years. Ever since I stopped taking the pill, my husband won't have sex. I thought we were both ready to TTC, but now I feel like we're backtracking!!! I've been ready for a couple years and was ecstatic when he finally agreed to try, but now I'm devastated that we're not moving forward. Any ideas on how to get him back on track?

If it were me I would just say we don't have to try yet but I'm going off the pill anyways so my body can adjust to being off the pill once we are ready. That way you kinda ease him into it :). My hubby did the same thing at first he said he was worried we couldn't afford it but he cane around

If it were me I would just say we don't have to try yet but I'm going off the pill anyways so my body can adjust to being off the pill once we are ready. That way you kinda ease him into it :). My hubby did the same thing at first he said he was worried we couldn't afford it but he cane around

well he can't hold out on you forever. I did the same thing to my husband when we first got off birth control with our first child. I ditched the pills and then refused to have sex without some other kind of protection. Eventually though I got tired of having only a partically fulfilling love life and gave in. I still wasn't ready when I got preggers, but our daughter is now a year and I'm wanting another one! I'm hooked! If your husband really loves you, and I'm sure he does, then he will eventually want to give you a child because he will see what a good mommy you'll be.

well he can't hold out on you forever. I did the same thing to my husband when we first got off birth control with our first child. I ditched the pills and then refused to have sex without some other kind of protection. Eventually though I got tired of having only a partically fulfilling love life and gave in. I still wasn't ready when I got preggers, but our daughter is now a year and I'm wanting another one! I'm hooked! If your husband really loves you, and I'm sure he does, then he will eventually want to give you a child because he will see what a good mommy you'll be.

Ask him about it. I know when we first ttc my husband got freaked out that he wasn't using protection. After we conceived he couldn't keep his hands off me. ( tmi ). Lol. He may have other concerns like money. His um .... Performance. The manly fear of getting a girl pregnant and the fear that getting pregnant means he has to give up a lot of things.

The best way to find out the answer is to ask. He may need more time or understanding.

Maybe try using just condoms for a while. That will let your cycles get normal while he figures out things. Good luck.

Ask him about it. I know when we first ttc my husband got freaked out that he wasn't using protection. After we conceived he couldn't keep his hands off me. ( tmi ). Lol. He may have other concerns like money. His um .... Performance. The manly fear of getting a girl pregnant and the fear that getting pregnant means he has to give up a lot of things.

The best way to find out the answer is to ask. He may need more time or understanding.

Maybe try using just condoms for a while. That will let your cycles get normal while he figures out things. Good luck.

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