Posts Tagged: Signýficant Living

This has been a long time coming. Both me putting my work into this kind of format so that it is available more easily for more people, and (maybe more importantly) gathering the key learning of this life (so far), and translating it into elements that can apply more broadly to those I work with, those wanting to define life on their terms and create a life worthy of them, and what is really important to them.

It hasn’t been easy (which is ironic, as one of the elements of Signýficant Living is, in fact, EASE). Mostly because I have been resisting what was so blatantly in front of me. But in finally getting out of my own way, in fully living the principles that I will be, at long last, presenting in this framework, it is like the sky has parted. Read More >>>

When we’re looking at choose, as it relates to legacy, I think there’s a lot of people that think legacy is just something that happens to you. When you look back at your life, you think “huh, what impact did I have? ” but like everything else, it’s something that you can get conscious about and make choices around. In other words, don’t let your legacy happen to you. CHOOSE your legacy!

Legacy is one of those loaded words. We all know we’re supposed to want to have it (at least when we’ve worked our way up Maslow’s hierarchy to the top). But what is it, how do we create it, and how do we create a legacy that’s actually true to who we are, not just one that looks good on paper?

Gifts and lessons abound. For most of us though, those moments to stop and absorb the beauty of what’s around us are rare. That’s why when we finally do take that step of committing to quieting our minds and just being present, the lessons we can learn are so much more valuable.

Remember back to before I went on my retreat, A Return to Grace, in Mexico. I struggled even with the seemingly simple act of committing to this event. I spent ages weighing all of the pros and cons, but I made the decision to choose self care over anything else. I chose to take the time to be present.

While I sat watching those waves break on the shores and played in them as they crashed, I started embracing the lessons that the ocean was offering to me. I jumped in and rolled around, I frolicked and played, and I danced with the waves. I let them throw me around and I engaged with them FULLY. By choosing to be present I was fully living, and the lessons the water provided me proved the value of that.

Obviously there are plenty of things that we could stand to do less of in a day. What I’m talking about today is stopping the busyness habit. You know what I mean, that compulsion to do more, do better and do it in a way that makes it look easy. In today’s world, we all have it (or so it would seem), and we all seem to just think it’s normal, just the way things are.

Here’s the thing … it’s not serving us. And it’s not like that is news. We all know it, deep down inside, that this is not working. But we keep doing it. Almost like our To Do list and keeping up to date on it, and being on top of our email is the new “keeping up with the Jones’ “. Comparing our inbox count and bemoaning how long our list is has become a point of bonding. And when that happens, our Hyper-Achieving saboteur has stolen the show, and made off with the real prize … our peace of mind.

And I get that we need to do what needs to be done. And if we don’t at least try to stay on top of the inbox that the ambush of emails can paralyse us … but we need to stop.

I am a BIG believer in playing to your strengths: doing what you do well, sticking with your sweet spot. That alone makes the world better all around (better for us because we are having fun, better for others because if we’re happy and having fun, we’re better people to be around).

Along the same line, I believe we need to be surrounded by the right people. Our crew, our tribe, our soul family. Those people who get us. REALLY get us. Without trying, they find us funny, they see what is amazing about us, they get lit up around us, and we get energized being around them. I cannot overstate the power (and importance) of this. It is where fitting in (what we do with people that are not our crew) turns into belonging (what happens when we are with our tribe, the Ones Who Get Us). Things become effortless. And, not surprisingly, I am a big fan of effortless (goes along with Ease).

Tonight (or Oct 21st, if you read this on a different day than I wrote it), I am speaking at Living Extraordinary. I am totally excited to be with a group of amazing speakers, sold out house and the magic that Kate and Conscious Divas creates.

AND.

I am nervous. Which is funny to me, because I love this stuff, and it’s not like I haven’t worked to groups this size, frequently. And it is only 7 minutes … hell, I could fill that just by introducing myself. And still nervous.

Here is what I think is going on. It represents something bigger for me. This night, this act, represents me stepping out into my bigger life. And so the fear is bigger than just speaking (which is fun for me). It is about being seen, it is about letting myself shine, it is about being fully me for all to see. It’s vulnerable and it’s scary shit no matter what. As humans we are wired to not do that, except that doing that is what makes us feel fully alive. It is what reminds us about who we really are, and what makes our hearts pound.

I, for one, have been craving that. As an expert in my chosen field it is so easy to go to sleep at the wheel. To be the sage on the stage, doing what I know. But that is not what I am up to in this life. Like many of you, I am here to stretch myself and grow and try new things. Even when they make me feel like I might barf.

So today, in celebration of breast cancer awareness month, and of being alive, I am choosing FULLY alive. I am choosing to do something that scares me, I am choosing to stretch, and I am choosing to cross the threshold into a new life and a new way of being.

Who wants to join me?

And what does that look like for you?

Please inspire us all by sharing that thing that stretches you, scares you and you know is your next powerful step!!

So the final pillar of Signýficant Living (which you will recall is to consciously and fearlessly live a life of meaning, passion and purpose) is … well … LIVE.

Share who you are with the world! Proudly.

I’m talking about living your life out loud (not hiding your light under a bushel). Sharing who you are with the world (whatever part of the world feels right for you, that is). Proudly. And with umph. Bringing all of you, not just the part that seems acceptable. Living true to yourself, who you really are, in line with what is really important to you, so that this life has meaning, and is on purpose for you. So that each day is fulfilling, not just when you reach some lofty goal, but now, right … NOW.

Last week I promised some thinking on this, the next element of Signýficant Living, CHOOSE.

Choose seems pretty simple. It’s defined as: to select by preference, the best or most appropriate, from a number of possibilities.

In this definition what I dig the most is that it’s about preference. What you most prefer. Picking what works best for YOU. Because that’s what choosing should be all about.

What I’m talking about, in Signýficant Living (which you will recall is to consciously and fearlessly choose to live a life of meaning, passion and purpose) is both the way you choose and what you choose. I am talking about the decision to choose IN, to choose life, to choose to be wide-awake and as present as you can be, to choose to live every moment of your life FULLY.

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