"the greatest enemy of enlightenment is ignorance,
even worse, ignorance that has no interest in becoming enlightened".

Because of that, one should always exercise extreme
caution when 'revealing' oneself to others who may not necessarily turn out
to be enlightened enough to deal with such things in an intelligent manner.
While I am not ashamed of my lifestyle or interests in any way, I am certainly
smart enough to understand that many people do not have tolerance as a component
of their character. So for obvious reasons, I limit my "bondager" persona
to public gatherings of generally like-minded people and to the relatively
anonymous world of the Internet, as there are just too many nuts in the plain
vanilla world.

So why do I do this? What's the point? I am a bondage
lover, and have been for a many, many years. So you may ask, why bind a woman
up in the first place? Now we come to the fun question. Why indeed?

1) It is
beautiful/ artistic.
I have always been a visual
person. I think most men are. I have always found the female and her many
adornments aesthetically pleasing. The female in rope or leather bindings
is just nice to look at. I like to create an artistic moment for viewing
pleasure.

2) It is sensually arousing. It
moves something deep in my essential being, my soul. They say sex is mostly
between the ears. That of course is where all fantasy is born.

3) It is fun
for me.
The whole process of planning and then binding your lovely
victim is challenging in every way. The creative energy, the mental, emotional
and sensual challenge to do bondage art is just plain fun. Who can resist
a nude or barely clothed female form bound before you.. To lightly caress
the ribs, the tummy, stroke her cheek, kiss her neck, to lightly touch her
nipples..... and all sorts of other sensitive areas of a woman that are yours
for the taking and touching. She can squeal, she can thrash, but she can't
stop you from doing whatever you want to do. And that is just plain fun,
all done of course within a consensually negotiated context.

4) Trust. It is a wonderful and most
powerful thing, when a woman trusts you, to allow you to render her helpless
with bindings. It is the ultimate for this male of the species to have that
consensual trust. It is a sacred trust to be highly regarded and cherished.
It brings out the best in me.

And that leads me to the most important reason....

5) It is extremely
pleasurable for her.

For me bondage is not about inflicting pain it
is
about....."inflicting
pleasure".

I'm am not a sadist. I
do not enjoy inflicting pain for personal pleasure. I will give pain,
but only if I know it is something they ultimately want. I will not do it
for my our pleasure. That is the difference between a "sadist" and
a "sensual sadist". The thing I ultimately enjoy the most is simply
giving pleasure to a woman...bringing intense pleasure. To watch her
body quake with anticipation. To see her shiver with the pure ecstasy of
sensual pleasure. Need I say more? Not really, but let's dig deeper in our
understanding.

A Study On Sexual Arousal

Many years ago, in a study on human sexuality, researchers
looked at the relationship between sexual arousal and brain-wave activity,
and things like erogenous zones. Using heat-sensitive cameras to film an
aroused couple involved the act of intimacy, one could clearly see what parts
of the body were getting hotter than others. In this study electrodes were
attached to both men and women to measure their brain-wave activity during
sexual intercourse.

In Men...

What they discovered was that men,
during foreplay, intercourse and climax, there was a progression in the brain
activity from a normal state to what they called an "animalistic" state -
in other words, the brain functions regressed
to a lower level in all the men tested. Not only that, but that for
each man tested, they sunk to approximately the same level of brain wave
activity during climax and immediately after. There was a "floor" of sorts,
and it was consistent, regardless of any variations in the sexual encounters.
Men become like animals. (not that that is big news to anyone), and why they
often fall asleep after the sex act.

In Women...

But listen to what happened to the woman. This is the
really good part. Women are exactly the opposite of this! The brain activity,
or "state of being", as they put it, progressed upwards from normal to a
much higher state. Not only that, but there was also no measurable limit
to how high that state could climb. Think about this for a moment. Women
rise, men sink. It's really true. Women can go on a trip to unimaginable
heights, and most men don't even know they've left. Feeling a little jealous
yet, men? You should be. I, being a man who will never know what wonders
a woman can experience, certainly am jealous. So I have come to the realization
that if I can't experience it myself, I want to at least witness those peaks,
those incredible highs. I want to be the catalyst that takes her there, even
controls her experience with my rope bondage....

I absolutely love to look into the face of a woman who
is in the outer limits of sensual ecstasy, hear the sounds that come from
her throat, to smell her aromas, for me it is a glimpse into the divine itself.
Such pleasure is, in my opinion, like a gift to women directly from God.
I treat it with an almost spiritual reverence.

An Obstacle...

There is, however, one huge obstacle in the path. Our
society is, sexually speaking, essentially one of sexual repression. Our
culture has for decades, thrown conflicting signals at us. We have beer
commercials with women and big boobs stretching out tiny bikinis, sex all
over television and movies, and yet we men are taught that it is socially
unacceptable to be caught openly looking at a woman in an admiring sexual
way.

It's worse for women though. They are taught to flaunt
it if they want, show off, indulge themselves if they want, but at the same
time they are taught that it is unacceptable to allow it to be pleasurable.
One does not want to be a slut, now, does she? This is just the tip of the
iceberg, but the end result is that it has made us a nation with no firm
sexual roles or identities. We are the oddest combination of promiscuity
and inhibitions. Sex consumes us, yet we only secretly fantasize about things
we would never talk about in public, and we criticize those who do. And it's
just getting worse and worse. (Can anyone say 'political correctness'?)

Think about it. How often have you been in the middle
of your passionate embrace and the woman has said "Stop! Wait. Don't touch
me for a minute, it's too much! I have to cool off." What just happened?
The woman just reached her own artificial barrier, nothing more. Just as
she's approaching an intensity with which she is unfamiliar, she forces herself
to put the skids on. Many women have some sort of limit they will not allow
themselves to cross. It's not intentional, and they generally are not even
consciously aware of it. It's just the way our culture has operated for many
many years.

Now you can see the problem, how if one enjoys bringing
pleasure to a woman and yet there are these barriers to contend with. As
long as the woman is free to exert that control, she would.

So in order to remove the barriers she allows the removal
of the option to exercise them with consensual bondage. It is very simple
actually. By restraining her, she is no longer bound by her own inhibitions.
The very act of submission is in fact a liberation. She is no longer subject
to the false perceptions drummed into her by our weird and nonsensical culture.
When she reaches that point where, previously, she had brought the encounter
to a halt, now she will merely struggle, moan and whimper, and then finally
embrace what is beyond. Viola! A new high, pleasure she never knew was attainable
or even existed. A high that is merely yet to be surpassed. To top all this,
to be able to do this with a special lady, growing in not only physical intimacy,
but emotional intimacy... Soulmates. Wow..... I have found the key. This
is what brings me the most joy.

Shame

A word about shame. Shame is a very powerful way we are
controlled. Indeed one should be ashamed if you did something terrible to
someone. The thief, the rapist, the molester, the killer, should all be ashamed
of these acts. Society needs these boundaries

But shame as been used by the
religionists to erect false boundaries and to control our natural "god-given"
sexual behaviors. In the end It leaves us with a feeling of,

"if it feels too good, there must be something
wrong with it,
it must be 'sinful."

Consensual ly negotiated bondage is a way for one to surrender and
get past those artificial shame barriers. Indeed I feel that there is a component
of a positive "therapy" that takes place for many who participate in
such.

Now you know the why I do what I
do.

A few concluding thoughts and perhaps challenges to others.
It seems if women as a group have a universal complaint about their lovemaking
with men, it is that men don't take the time to arouse the woman and "bring
her up".

In other words:

"Wam, bam, thank you ma'am"

It's referred to as foreplay. A woman will complain that men just become
"animals" and as soon as he releases himself, she is left without the intimate
attention she craves. Bondage because of its very nature takes time.
The "dance" if you willm may take days of preparation, planning, and
anticipation. Why not, several days before, tease your lady with some hints
about what you are going to do to her in an upcoming encounter. With bondage
the actual event may take hours of soft touching and caressing (or depending
on your place on the D/s spectrum... for you it might be tight bindings,
stinging touches of a crop. Personally, I like contrasting sensations). The
music, the silk blindfold, the soft nylon ropes sliding across her skin all
come together to take her to that high place. So guys, you want to be a real
man in the eyes of your lady? Then take her there slowly, and then watch
how she surrenders to your touch, and finally erupts in ecstasy, collapsing
into a mass of trembling pleasure in your arms...

Now that's foreplay... In fact D/s is just that... foreplay, hours
of it! I think if word ever gets out to the vanilla world (and I think its
is already happening), women especially will flock to our world. After all
what woman would not enjoys several hours of erotic foreplay. But ladies,
it takes trust. If you want to experience all this and more, you must take
your time and carefully chose that partner that you can give your trust
to.

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