making a great relationship

Relationship Checkup

Do a relationship health checkup on any relationship you have (present or past) by taking the Communication Danger Signs Quiz (used with permission from Love Notes and PREP, Inc.). Use the scale below to rate how often you and this person experience this:

1 = never or almost never

2 = once in a while

3 = frequently

1

2

3

Little arguments escalate into ugly fights with accusations, criticisms, name calling, or bringing up past hurts.

1

2

3

This person criticizes or belittles my opinions, feelings, or character.

1

2

3

This person seems to view my words or actions more negatively than I mean them to be.

1

2

3

I hold back from telling this person what I really think and feel.

1

2

3

I often wish this person was not in my life.

1

2

3

I feel lonely and unconnected in this relationship.

1

2

3

When we argue, one of us withdraws -- that is, one of us stops talking or just leaves.