Valentine’s Day sex: a foolproof plan to make it super steamy

Valentine’s Day sex: a foolproof plan to make it super steamy

Valentine’s Day can be one of the sexiest days of the year, even if you’re single (read our smart guide to fun hook-ups here). With expectations so high, here’s our foolproof plan for making it sizzling, steamy and oh-so-unforgettable.

How to make your Valentine’s Day sex even hotter

The pros know that sexual attraction and arousal starts in the brain. Get your partner fired up with some saucy texts throughout the day. Sexting will boost anticipation and excitement for the night ahead.

Prior to the main event, set the mood by savouring someaphrodisiacslike chocolate, cherries, strawberries and whipped cream. Dig out that tub of chocolate sauce and let your imagination go wild!

Don’t overeat – rather save a big meal for after sex (no one feels like bedroom acrobatics when they’re bloated). However, feeding each other little nibbles of mouth-watering treats can be a delicious addition to your foreplay.

Before you get it on, talk about the things you’d like to do to each other. Open the lines of communication and make sure you’re both on board and in agreement. The sexting you did earlier in the day will be a huge help here. You can also demonstrate using your sexy snacks.

Choose an exciting location. You don’t have to splurge on a hotel room; just do it somewhere you usually wouldn’t. It adds to the thrill of the experience.

If the location allows, start off with a bubble bath or a skinny dip. Having a shower together in the morning can also be a great way to set the tone for the day.

Don’t over-accessorise. There’s no need to spend a ton on lingerie or fancy jewellery, and expensive perfumes and body products are unnecessary. In the heat of the moment, you won’t want to worry about ripping something pricey or figuring out how to undo a tricky clasp. And never underestimate the allure of your body’s natural scent.

Be prepared. The steamiest sex is the kind that comes without niggling concerns about things like STIs or unplanned pregnancy. So prep ahead: sort out your contraceptives and condoms before Valentine’s Day, and you can be spontaneous on the 14th of February and enjoy every second of the fun.

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Quick Facts

Sterilisation: If you know for sure that you don't want any more children this can be good. Implants: Last for 3 years. Just remember to replace after 3 years! IUD: Many people like it cause once it's in, it works for 5 years. You can ask for one without hormones if you want. (But remember condoms to protect against infection!)

Some people think that it's OK for the man to pull out of the vagina before he comes. NO! There can be sperm in the fluid that comes out before he comes – leading to pregnancy or infection.

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If you think you may be pregnant, DO A PREGNANCY TEST AS SOON AS POSSIBLE – you can get these tests from the pharmacy or your clinic or doctor. If you have an unwanted pregnancy, the sooner you know, the better you can be helped to choose what to do.

There are lots of government clinics that give free family planning. Look in the phone book or call a local clinic to find the closest one. Marie Stopes are South African government-approved reproductive health clinics.

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More on Abortion

It is legal for women of any age to have an abortion in South Africa. No parental or partner permission is needed. It is your body and your decision to end or keep the pregnancy … nobody can force you. It is very important to go to a registered, legal facility. There are many people who advertise abortion services, but many are not legal and having a ‘backstreet abortion’ could be dangerous to your health and life.

Any woman can ask for an abortion in the first three months (12 weeks) of pregnancy. If you are three to five months (13-20 weeks) pregnant, an abortion can be performed under certain circumstances. It is very important to act quickly, the earlier you seek help the better.

You can visit your doctor who will refer you to an appropriate facility and a consultation fee will be charged. You can go to a private organisation such as Marie Stopes where there will be also be a charge. Some government facilities offer abortions for free, see link below for a list of local government facilities which offer the service.

Medical abortion: Tablets to end an early pregnancy can be taken up until the 9th week of pregnancy. You will be given pills to take at the clinic and to take at home. It will cause you to bleed like a period, but it might be heavier than your normal period.

Surgical abortion: The pregnancy is removed whilst you are at the facility, typically through vacuum aspiration.

If the abortion is done by a legal provider at a legal facility, problems after the procedure are rare. A trained counsellor will discuss your options and advise you on which family planning methods are suitable for you.