my boyfriend and I are currently experiencing a problem, which his doctor says is common for men. When he was about 18, the thin strip/bridge of skin connecting his foreskin with the head of his penis was torn as a result of a too-eager hand job. It healed and he didn't really have any problems. Now, almost ten years later, this skin has been torn during sex. It really hurts him and won't heal. He went to his doctor, who said he basically has three options - wear a condom and lubricate during sex to prevent friction (didn't work, it still hurts him too much), be circumsized (not appealing), have part of the foreskin cut and then reattached differently (can cause the skin to then be too tight and does not guarentee anything.) There must be another solution. I would really appreciate any suggestions.

Being uncut also I totally understand how this might happen, but I've never had it happen so I have no clue as to how painful or frustrating this must be. I really don't have any ideas for how to address this. My first inclination is to say lay off of any stimulation (masturbation and sex) and allow the frenulum to totally heal. Then, I'd work things slowly and always with a condom. However, I know this may not be practical or "fun" either. Another idea may be to see a specialist (like a urologist) who deals with all the equipment and such. SOrry I couldn't be of more help, maybe others here could suggest something. Good Luck!

The best option is probably for your boyfriend to have a frenulopasty. This is a day surgery proceedure where the frenulum is cut across and sewn up the opposite way. This generally makes the frenulum longer and therefore freeing up the foreskin to retract easier. It sounds like the best option for you. Talk to the doctor about this and it is also usually done by a urologist.

Cheers,

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Nurse_oz is a Registered Nurse who works in a Major Paediatric Hospital in Australia