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Should children have to listen to their parents?

They should

they shouldn't

Obviously to an extent, all children should listen to their parents. Parents are supposed to prepare kids for their lives after they leave home. After a certain point, parents shouldn't have complete control over their children, but certainly if they are paying for your food, clothing and shelter, you should listen to them.

I also think however, that some parents are unfit to raise children, but that's a slightly different debate.

Manitoba is a Canadian prairie province which was brought into Confederation in 1870 after the Red River Rebellion. The area has been inhabited for thousands of years, with European contact made in the 17th century. The province has over 10,000 lakes, and has a largely continental climate due to its mostly flat topography.

Parents have true love for their children. (Not like the Greek eros, but more like agape). I think any sane parent would only tell his or her child advice that is beneficial to said child. The only problem is that when growing up, it takes some time for a child to eventually listen to his or her parents. I recently started taking their advice and I'm not ever 18, but my brother also just started taking their advice and he's 24. XD

Manitoba is a Canadian prairie province which was brought into Confederation in 1870 after the Red River Rebellion. The area has been inhabited for thousands of years, with European contact made in the 17th century. The province has over 10,000 lakes, and has a largely continental climate due to its mostly flat topography.

If children don't listen to their parents who will they listen to? They need guidance all through their lives and that's what parenting is all about...guidance and love. The parents have already gone through what their children are experiencing so they know what the pitfalls are. They're not going to let a young person fall into the trap of age not being suited to solve a problem they see you're having. It just doesn't work that way, nor should it!

Of course they should. They are your parents and have your best interest at heart. Plus, if we tell children not to listen to their parents, who are they going to listen to? How do we teach them etiquette and such?

hell yes! I have a teenager and i think we should control their lives up to a certain age, they might think you are treating him/her as a child but guess what by your guidelines and suggestion it is helping and shaping them into better members of society. we should respect the opinion of our teenagers and make sure they understand the consequences of their actions, don't force the I SAY SO GAME ON THEM, THEY WILL REBEL. COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY. YOU have to be an example for your child.

Manitoba is a Canadian prairie province which was brought into Confederation in 1870 after the Red River Rebellion. The area has been inhabited for thousands of years, with European contact made in the 17th century. The province has over 10,000 lakes, and has a largely continental climate due to its mostly flat topography.

kids don't like parential support it makes them feel weak. what you should do is say that wasn't nice. Then ignore it. make them feel like they aren't listening to you, but don't have them be bad people. don't push it too far or too gently.

I assume the topic here is based solely on children. Children don't have the mental level that adults do; they are in a sense incapable of making good decisions and, thus should not be allowed to be autonomous. Parents --or at least the great majority of them-- want what is best for their child and, will use their mature judgement to determine how to achieve that objective. This why children should have to listen to their parents; it's for their own sake. Children are not able to handle free choice and shouldn't be exposed a high level of substantial choice. Adolescents on the other hand should start being exposed to such choices but, that is out of the scope of the topic.

Stating that children have less mental capabilities then adults is definitely wrong. Adults simply can focus better, but with greater difficulty at adapting to change. Children, however, learn easier and adapt better, but with less focus, which is vital later in life.

y NOT?they r they only one in the the world who want our benefit without any other ulterior motive.they spend so much on us and provide us with all facilities.thus it our duty to love them and listen to them and which is again to help us to know wats wrong and wats rite in our nascent age to rise high in life and achieve smthing to lead a life full of dignity.

Why yes, of course! A parent's job is to guide their child throughout their life, aiding their decisions and teaching them how to deal with life and handle it. Letting a child run rampant at this stage could cause potentially disastrous results for the child, as they are unequipped with the necessary skills needed for life! They might think that they can handle themselves, but look no further than several disaster stories about teens going off on their own. Sure, it may be fun in the short-term, but it is no fun in the long-term.

I have to agree with some of your points. I also agree that kids shouldn't listen to/believe EVERYTHING their parents tell them. I don't think kids should be little robots that get programed. Kids should learn from their parents - and then learn from the world around them too - so they can grow up with their own feelings and ideas - that are hopefully more advanced than their parents'. As a society, we should be trying to grow and advance ourselves - not stay stuck in the past. For example, if a kid grow up in a home with parents that are racist, isn't it our hope that that child will realize that what their parents believe is wrong? I would hope so!

I think children should listen to there parents because in the Bible it says honor your mother and father which means to listen to them. Also you need to listen to your parents because they can ground you and you can get into trouble if you don't listen to you parents!

I think that children should and even say they must listen their parents. And I have a few reasons for this argument . First, parents can help in hard times, always listen and support. Second, they give us the best they have. Thirdly they have more life experience.

I agree that kids shouldn't listen to/believe everything their parents tell them. I don't think kids should be like little robots that get programed. Kids should learn from their parents - and then learn from the world around them too.

I think that they should, because parents are more experienced. Moreover, they never give a harmful advise to their children, because they wish only good things. I'm saying this, based on my experience. If I feel bad or I just want to complain, I call my parents and asking for their opinion. There was some cases, when I didn't listen to my mother, then I felt sorry about it. Now I understand that my Mom always right. So do other mothers:))

Likewise,they try to make their children famous.They know what is best for their children.They know what challenges their children would face.They ready their children to face challenges in world.Of course,they guide their children so they didn't get any hurt.They try to admit you in best school or college make best intelligent student.

They have true love for their children. Moreover,they spend their whole life in taking care of their children.

Okay, so, we SHOULDN'T obey our parents? What kind of advice is that?! Our parents love and provide for us, and yet we shouldn't obey them?! Well, do what you want. As for ME, I think that I'LL do the thing that tells I actually own a few brain cells.

Children are still growing yet they act like adults because they think they're...well,adults and man enough already to make their own choices. But they are wrong. Who were there for them at the beginning of their lives? Their friends? Definitely not. And it's a parent's job to handle them to grow up as a good civilian of Earth and let them survive when they grow up at the world filled with lies and misconceptions.

It's an inherently patronizing word because it implies that the adviser knows better than you, and advice is the easiest thing to give but the hardest thing to take.

From my experience, I learned a lot more from adults that gave me the facts and the information, but ultimately allowed me to then choose for myself.

And guess what, I almost always chose to do the right thing.

And it felt good, because... I chose to. I didn't have to. I chose. :o)

Obviously it depends on the age of the child and the specifics of every situation (danger, risk, parental responsibility etc) but if you or someone else are constantly having to remind your child that they "should listen to you", then you have probably already lost the respect of that child. In other words, you are acknowledging that they don't want to listen to you... :o)

Children are very smart, but you know what, it's not that hard to guide them. Just give them the choices available and the facts about each choice and then sit back an observe. If they make the choice you didn't want them to make, and they get hurt, so be it. They will then learn consequence... :o)

Manitoba is a Canadian prairie province which was brought into Confederation in 1870 after the Red River Rebellion. The area has been inhabited for thousands of years, with European contact made in the 17th century. The province has over 10,000 lakes, and has a largely continental climate due to its mostly flat topography.

yes, it's true. they have some good advices but in one moment they want to spend your life. And want you to be doctor like like your father, or lawyer like your aunt , and forget that you only look like your father or mother, deep inside you have your own soul, own character and own destiny.

As a parent, I believe it is my role to guide my child to become the best person they can be. In order to accomplish this, I offer suggestions and guidelines, but the only time I enforce my own perspective is in cases of impending danger (ie, stopping to check for cars before crossing the road). Even in those cases, though, I make certain that my child understands the reason for my actions, so that they can learn to judge their own actions.

When a parent takes the position that their child should listen because "I said so", they are essentially assigning the child the role of subservient, and assuming the role of master. This possessive mentality has the result of training the child to see the world through the master/servant perspective, and will thus influence their future behavior accordingly.

It seems to me that a much better approach—one which will, if followed through, lead to a more well-rounded, mature, contributing member of society—is one which encourages the child from the very beginning to make their own decisions, and to seek advice from those who, perhaps, have experience in dealing with relevant situations.

No! Hell no! Parents suck and are such ASSHOLES sometimes it is just BS! They want us to listen to them when they won't even listen to us! So no! I don't think that children should listen to their parents. I think that we the children should learn from out own mistakes and be our own person, not their mistakes and not who they want us to be!

Well, most parents try to bring their own personal ideologies into their kids lives, so that their children will grow up as they wanted themselves, not as the child would want to. Other than the general rules, manners, and regulations taught by most parents, any other rules that parents tell their children to follow that are based off a religion or anything that is not essential to living in their own lives can be ignored by the child if he/she so wishes. Many rules parents set up anyways are bullshit, anyways, and most parents are hypocrites when it comes to setting these rules (ex: no porn or sexual things when they go and watch something like that themselves). So no, it should be up to the child for what he or she wants to obey from their parents (although ignoring everything they say isn't a very good idea).

I understand that parents want what's best for their child, but sometimes, their pushiness can cause dependency for one thing. If the child should always listen to their parents, they would be stuck not choosing things on their own.

I am a teen, and my parents don't listen to what I say. Most of the time, I do listen to them. I will ask if I may go to the movies with some friends, and most of the time, they say yes, but my mom says she wishes I won't so I don't go. I'll listen to them sometimes, but when they tell me what i should do in my life, they try to control my life. This whole summer, I have played tennis pretty regularly. I have not spent time with friends just hanging because I'm too busy with what they want. They want me to be the best and to be in the top 6. I love tennis, but its just getting to a point that I don't want to go play. Because of listening to them, I had lost a best friend during the school year since she played tennis too. Long story short, NO. Children should not have to listen to their parents. Parents should let them lead their own lives (as long as it doesn't concern drugs and murder and such)

I myself have had these issues. I'm a teenager that is ment to be going out exploring the world, getting into issues and learning to get out of them. I'm ment to be exploring the world without a person holding my hand the whole way. As a child we also are ment to learn this. But we cannot develop this if our parents keep interferring with everything we do and keep telling us every little thing to do. There should be a boundary yes, but with my own experience and by what I have seen, parents just need to trust their kids more and teach them honesty - and trust that if they have shown us life properly and brought us up right like they are ment to we shouldn't have to listen to them for every single little thing we do!! I'm a New Zealander, I'm an adult here and i'm 18. And my mother, you name it will tell me what to do with everything!! 'You should put that in the rubbish...you shouldn't go there the people are criminals... your putting out the washing wrong!!!' I'm ment to be going on a holiday soon to a place 9 hours away from where I live to meet my boyfriend who had to leave for a stable job and have a holiday, you guessed it, again my mother goes "You shouldn't go up there....long distance relationships never work your wasting your money..." Well if I listened to her now I would be wasting a lot of money I already spent as everything is booked. And this time around I'm not listening to her and shes making my life hell. If its not worth it, I would rather she would let me figure this out myself than try and force me to listen to her words. For all she knows she could just be wrong!

children should not have to listening to their parents at all time...parents should be able to trust their children and allow them to make their own choices n decisions....Im a 17 years old child and when my parents tell me what to do and i dont want to do it and dont do it..

uh, no children have their own free mind and should never have to listen to them. Listening to my parents and not both get me punished and sometimes hit, so f* listening to them. They dont deserve my respect if they dont give me any....so yea

I think as an intelligent being, no one "should" listen to anyone they don't want or have to. Parents are there to guide, inform and educate their children, not control them. I have always had the mentality of taking whatever most people say on board, until a few years ago, before deciding if it was right or wrong for me. Parents, like anyone else who feels the need to control, are impotent, therefore are not worth of being respected.

Then there is the cultural side of this argument , in that in many black/african(i haven't capitalized african on purpose. And by the way i am one.) societies, this attitude is what is required of the children and even the wife.

Having said all i have said, i would be disappointed if i had children that didn't listen to me, because i have practiced not carrying certain emotions or mentalities, therefore would hope my children would pick up on that and respond accordingly.

I'm not saying some parents don't give good advice, but some people are horrible and should never be listened to. When I was younger I listened to pretty much EVERYTHING my parents said, and when I say everything, I mean everything. As a result I feel I missed out on my childhood and I'm ultimately lacking in certain natural abilities by following them. Not only that, they never followed a single thing they said and ended up betraying my trust and mistreating me. In the end I had to end my relationship with them after realizing they're not good influences to have in my life. I still can't believe I held them in such high esteem. The only thing they ever taught me is that I shouldn't trust people, even if they gave birth to you. If you have parents that actually care about you and give you stern but decent advice you should at least hear them out.

I think it all just depends. It depends on what kind of parents you have. If your lucky enough to have decent parents you should probably listen to what they have to say. That doesnt mean you should let them control every little thing in your life. And sometimes even if you have decent parents they still might act like bitches from time to time but not everybody is perfect. Someday you might find yourself a parent trying to control your kids. My dad is a very controlling person, but id have to say i prefer him over my mother. I cant hardly do anything in my house without him having a say in it. My mom isnt controlling at all, sometimes i wonder if she even cares. So it pisses me off when she tries to discipline me. In my case i think i should have to listen to my parents, actually doing what they told me to do is a whole other story. I think i should be able to form my own opinions by now and be able to make my own decisions.

I think they should'nt because they get meen. it gets to the point that kids feel like laborers. i don't like it and get "sent to my room" a lot. it's not my fault i don't like my mom's "special surprise" meals, but i say, "excuse me mom, but i don't like this." Bam, room. i don't like feeling like this! please support me!

Children should not have to listen to their parents. This is because parents are not always right. Parents are among the first and more important socialization agents to children. By training their children through verbal instruction, a child develops a world view that would remain with them for the rest of their lives. Parents being humans are not infallible. In situations like these the child would reserve the right not to listen to what their parents are asking them to do.

I agree with you in a half. Sometimes parents are not so clever and smart how we think, they are normal people, and have the same right for mistakes, like we. Of course, they lived more, and know better what is life, but when you become adult, you must think yourself.

I think that children should and even say they must listen their parents. And I have a few reasons for this argument . First, parents can help in hard times, always listen and support. Second, they give us the best they have. Thirdly they have more life experience.

I think that children should obey their parents at least 18 years, because they have no rights, and their parents give them shelter, food and education. But when the child turns 18, he can make the choice himself. He can build their lives and live as he wants

I think, yes, they should definitely listen to their parents, but their are some limits that they must cross in their life. If a child does not break some rules with their parents, they will never get consequences and learn from their mistakes. It also will cause that child to grow up to be an extremely not strict parent, but their son/daughter may turn out to be a rebel so it would end up being hard for that new parent to change their behavior towards the child.

I am against it yet sort of for it too. But more against. I'm in Bermuda, 18, have my own transportation and everything, an adult here. I think that the main issues are trying to get parents to realise when their children are no longer children and letting children know that they are still children. Yes parents are entitled to their own opinions but to a certain date.

All children have a time in their lives when they are developing a sense of themselves (learning who they are and what they want) without their parents. Parents have to learn when to let their child learn from their mistakes by themselves. Drugs, violence, things of that nature, yes, parents should have a word in since things get dangerous, intervention may be needed. But relationships, money management, and other organizational skills that is gained with experience, the child(young adult) should learn this for themselves. To have a parent lecture their teen/young adult about these things is like having a teacher give you the answers on tests, they learn nothing other than their parent is going to be there to help them out and may lecture them a bit. In all honesty, it's not that bad of a consequence.

I realize that it is difficult for some parents to see their child growing up and see how their child no longer needs their advice unless they ask for it. However, when a child is still young, of course they should listen, because they are still kids. Before they enter, at least, their second year of high school, parents should have lightened up on the advice yet still in the background giving their teen a nudge into the right direction. High School is the point where they start to seriously think for themselves and grow up. This is the point where parents sit back and watch their child learn from their mistakes and what it is like to think for themselves. But before high school, yeah, they should.

Children are sort of like houses, the parents provide the base and structure. But once the structure is stable, it's up to the child to build it's up. (hope this makes sense)

If a child is old enough to get adult punishments they should also get adult benefits. The parent's job is to make sure the child is ready for the real worked, not to hold his or her hand till they die. Children also should have the rights to choices, let them choose what they believe, don't force it on them. It is hypocritical to tell a child when they are growing up at any point in time "You're responsible for the choices you make" when choices are being forced on them during other circumstances.

What is, is what is. If a parent makes an insane, or crazy rule, or tells a child to do something that the child feels is wrong, such as molestation, or just not hanging out with another friend cause the parents doesn't like the kid's friend, then should the child still listen? Perhaps listen and think about it, but even children can still make decisions. They are young, so they do require guidance, but simply stating "Should", as if children should listen to parents just because they are parents, rather than because they are wiser or smarter is never an ideal thing to do.

I belive sometimes it more becomes game of power and controll where parents forget that this act of theirs is hindering the development and growth of children and supressing their natural abilties or ideologies which might be different from them.

It more often is a physcological issue of control , power and fear rather than guidance / advice or matter of being right or wrong.etc from parents side leading to conflicts.

I beleive parents should not be obeyed in that circumstances and one should be quiet assertive and clear in communication that this would not work.

I belive sometimes it more becomes game of power and controll where parents forget that this act of theirs is hindering the development and growth of children and supressing their natural abilties or ideologies which might be different from them.

It more often is a physcological issue of control , power and fear rather than guidance / advice or matter of being right or wrong.etc from parents side leading to conflicts.

I beleive parents should not be obeyed in that circumstances and one should be quiet assertive and clear in communication that this would not work.

Obviously there are many circumstances in which a child should listen to their parents but as they become teenagers, things have changed so much since the parents have been teenagers, that not all the information they give could be helpful or valid.