I'm seeing a lack of pronouns in most of the new accounts' bios, so if you're new to the fediverse I'd like to politely ask that you consider adding them into your profile, it's important to normalise stating pronouns and it helps us all to respectfully address eachother properly xox

@Shrigglepuss yeah; and, no need to say if you're cis or trans. It's about courtesy and how to refer to you, not the fine details of how you relate to the intersection of your particular set of genitals and society's rules and expectations thereof.

@Mj@kirstyyarr I think it's just a bug between 4eva.online and octodon.social because @kirstyyarr's toots aren't loading for me either so there seems to be an issue both ways here... It'll probs sort it's self out =D

@Shrigglepuss@Mj ah, I logged in using the browser and I see them, the wee boxes just don’t show up on either of the apps I use. Still a mystery as to why you can’t see my toots but hopefully it’ll settle down!!

@Jason_Dodd Oh right! This is a new concept to a lot of people and newcomers might be confused about why they're seeing it all over the place more on this social network so I thought I'd just put a little message out there tagged to the end of it to assure people that weren't doing this already but might consider it now they know more about not to feel belittled or anything for not knowing about it

@Shrigglepuss So as much as I want to help normalize this, I have been using he/him all my life, and sort of sinking into just using "they/their" for everyone else because I despair that I can never remember anything (at all, pronouns or otherwise)

@nilaky I hear ya! If you're unsure, using they/their is considered the polite default so I think you're getting it right already! Consider a quick glance into someones bio if it feels it might be important to that person, though. [1/2]

@nilaky If you don't know what pronouns you prefer for yourself or don't mind, I notice some people say "any" or "They/He" (like me!), but it's still good to have at least something listed in your bio in solidarity with people that need them more in their own bios to make it Totally Ok™. I'm happy to see you're in a similar mind on this too! =) [2/2]

@nilaky Oh! And a quick [3/2] point! I notice in your bio you express that you're not confident about your identity. This is the absolute best community for that kind of thing. I'm not the best equipped here to help you through that, but other people here have *so* much experience with that feeling, so I really hope you stick around and meet lots of them! It's *completely* valid to change pronouns later, it's not a set in stone thing at all and we all get it x