'I can't trust my girlfriend'

She tells me that she loves me and it was only a one-off thing during an office outing. It has now become difficult for me to trust her. I don’t feel like keeping in touch with her anymore.— Sharman

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Sharman, It all depends how mature you are to handle such a situation. If your girl had not told you, you would perhaps not known about her fling. So look at it this way — she is at least honest to admit it. She could have hid it from you, but she felt it was important to tell you rather than live with the guilt for the rest of her life. If you are going to hold this incident against her, it is better that you break off. Currently you are angry and upset so you don’t even want to see her. But if she is apologetic about it and cares for you, you can forgive her. It all depends how you handle it. Before you take a hasty decision remember that at least she has been honest about it. Honesty is the most important thing in a relationship.