SO sent me a snapchat that's made me self conscious and I don't know how to get over it

My [20M] girlfriend [20F] sent me this snapchat that made me very uncomfortable. It was of two multivitamins, one significantly bigger than the other, captioned "you vs. the guy she tells you not to worry about."

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I'm on the average side (around 5.5") but am pretty tall and have felt that my member was not as big as it could me. This was a big self conscious problem for me in high school after a girlfriend had broken up with me and told her friends my penis was small. However, I had not felt this way for over three years until I received this snap.

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I got pretty upset at the snapchat and she said it was only a joke. I understand that the "you vs. the guy she tells you not to worry about joke" is popular but it felt almost like she was saying it to me. I don't think she sent it to me to hurt me but thats how I understood it at first. My issue is the "you" in the joke is meant to be the more lame option of the two. It makes me feel like she considers a smaller penis worse than a bigger penis. And then when she tried to explain she said "you're the bigger multivitamin" which felt insulting because I'm not delusional, I know a 5.5" penis is not considered big. Now it's getting in my mind and makes me feel like she would prefer a bigger penis for sex.

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Our sex life is really good in my opinion (and she always randomly mentions how she loves our sex life and my penis too), and I always try to create an open dialogue about sex so that I could pleasure her as much as possible. Now I'm feeling self conscious about my penis size and if I'm pleasuring her as much as she could be. Any opinions on this stupid situation? Any advice on getting over it?

snow-kitty 1529 S x 2

Why did I get a trending notification for this

Edit: My first silver! I knew my parents were wrong and complaining would bring positive things

imsatansbitch 342

Your phone clearly has no respect for you and clearly does not value your time.

Whatever happened to talking to your phone, or at least looking at Settings? This relationship is still salvageable!

SuggestiveDetective 44

Delet farcebook, hit your lawyer.

i_am_barbara 3

They have been contacted haha

blankachu 36

Because you didn't take your multivitamin tablet today.

madein1981 7

😂🤣😂🤘

StrawHatHS 31

I get this shit all the time.

MiamiNodGod 25

It’s fuckin annoying but now I gotta read it

i_am_barbara 13

I read the title and was like uhh I guess I gotta read the whole thing!

walrusdoom 12

How do I turn this fucking shit off?

snow-kitty 10

Same, I don’t understand why I got the notification when it was at 50 upvotes and 50 comments...

GalacticAnaphylaxis 3

Use the Reddit is Fun app instead of the official. All annoying notifications stopped for me when I switched.

sjaxn314159 8

Me too... IM AVERAGE SIZED DAMN IT!

AmatureProgrammer 7

Its a reminder to take multivitamines.

Slydeking69 7

Because you must look at the sex subreddit enough to trigger and algorithm. I too am in the same boat you are.

snow-kitty 5

I actually don’t, I’m a pleb that only browses home hot posts and popular

m3owtown 6

I always get trending notifs for this sub. Pretty annoying.

blinkingsandbeepings 4

Yeah! It’s annoying enough to get notifications for r/jokes or whatever, but I really don’t want sex posts randomly popping up on my phone when I’m just checking the time at work or showing my mom a cute picture or something.

Get rid of the official app and get a 3rd party one. There are multiple decent ones on iOS now.

MrPointy1630 1

So are you just here for the hell of it then?

FUCK_SNITCHES_ 1

On this sub? I guess? I just check it on a whim every now and then. Probably doesn't fit with my post history (drugs/politics/tech) but who cares.

Aksten 2

I would like to know the same thing?!

francesjames 1

Same thought went through my head...

seanthrel 1

Same

i_am_barbara 1

I did too 😾

Jordangander 1

I agree.

tif2shuz 1

Mine sent me one as well..

Bravely_Default

Because you don't use Reddit Is Fun.

sumerioo 311

I feel like everyone who is here saying "it's just a joke" would be telling "dump this guy" if OP was ta girl and the joke was about her tits size.

A joke can be as harmful and insensitive as a insult. Especially when about a thing you cannot change on your body. Maybe she didn't want to hurt OP, or didn't think it straight but that's what she did in the end.

OP I suggest you to just talk to her and explain why it hurt you like that. If she is a good partner she will simply understand and apologize and you guys can move on in your relationship

TheBeerMonkey 38

Good advice right here

byebyebyecycle 18

As true as you are, he's also being self conscious as he said. Keyword being "self." That means he has to get over his own insecurities. When somebody insults you and that wasn't their intention whatsoever, it's up to you to understand their perspective. She also needs to understand his perspective, making me think she had no idea about this insecurity. That means it may not have been her fault at all that he felt that way. She was probably browsing memes bored somewhere, in a silly mood whilst op may have been in some more serious mood whatever he was doing at the time. I don't know. I can say though, that once you love yourself and don't seek happiness or approval from anybody other than yourself, it's very hard to get hurt by things.

Skribduex 14

I think OP should 100% do their best to work through their self-consciousness. Having said that, the joke is still in poor taste regardless.

There's a difference between some rando joking about something without knowing you're self conscious and your significant other joking about cheating for a larger penis. (regardless of the size)

I used to date a girl with B-cup breasts. I could never imagine when it would be okay to take a picture of something flat next to something curvey and saying, "you vs the girl he tells you not to worry about."

OP needs to talk to her and she needs to actually listen. These are the moments that will make a relationship stronger or end, in my opinion.

AntiSjwShitPoster 8

This is where I say ive made fun of my girls small tits, and she's made fun of my gut.

But if I had hurt her feelings and she told me I would feel bad. Because I love those small titties.

So I'm sure that if he expresses this to her she will apologise and understand. That's if it's a healthy relationship...

Skribduex 6

Right, but that's also the relationship you and her have built. I'm not saying you're wrong for doing what you do if it works but that isn't everyone.

I have a friend who's happily married and they refer to one another "bitch, asshole, etc" but that doesn't mean everyone should call their significant other those things. Every relationship is different, what works for one doesn't work for everyone.

I don't think this is a situation that's unforgivable but it definitely needs a conversation.

byebyebyecycle 3

I fully agree. The joke itself is definitely still in poor taste. My only point was that nobody could insult you if you're good with yourself. I don't have a large penis at all, but I'm simply not gonna let anybody be in charge of my feelings if they were to try to insult me. That's all I really mean.

Skribduex 2

I agree with that you should and it's important to be good with yourself. So I think we're in a situation where we're on the same page. Lol

byebyebyecycle 2

Yes absolutely, everything is a matter of perspective either way, friend!

swordsx48 3

Important that when someone insults you and it wasn't their intention, you do have to see what they actually mean by it. Great point.

byebyebyecycle 1

Appreciated. But to add to that, like, try to think about what they're doing at the moment they insulted you. Like sometimes my sister will call me out of the blue and bitch at me because of her angry state of mind, when I'm over here on a day off from work just trying to be mellow. Point is, you never know what the person on the receiving end may be in the middle of and that's also going to affect how they take certain things. If I was with her the moment she got mad at me, I probably would have been more understanding because I was present for the situation. Instead I responded more out of anger because shit she just robbed me of my peace!

sjn2203 4

That’s how relationship advice works on these subs: guy does something questionable “break up with that piece of shit girl” girl does something questionable “omg it’s no big deal relax man “

Throwandcatchawayfar -1

I mean, there's been enough reverse posts on here and the advice is always roughly the same

taarotqueen 255

Did you ever tell her you were insecure about the size? Considering she started saying you were “the bigger multi vitamin” she probably realized she made a mistake and doesn’t know how to quite “back it up”. I would try to talk to her about how you feel, and while it was probably just a joke I can understand that would be hurtful. Btw, the average penis size is 5.16 inches, meaning there are half that are under that, so you’re actually slightly above average if that makes you feel any better

gcsobaer 45

Perfect advice.

Communication is key here. Also, try to get out of your head about it. Do you both enjoy sex? If so, size doesn't matter unless she tells you it does.

pahina1 21

Btw, the average penis size is 5.16 inches, meaning there are half that are under that

Why do so many people think this is how averages work?

Borror0 30

Usually the average is close to the median. In fact, if penis size follows a normal distribution, then they would be the same. That's probably not a completely unreasonable assumption for biological lengths.

midwestcsstudent 11

This. Also, “average” could mean median or mean (or mode but I guess it’s not that relevant for this discussion)

Borror0 11

In terms of this discussion, I think the "average penis" is most likely the "median penis." We don't really care about micropenises or obscenely large penises (e.g., three standard derivations from average) skewing the average. In fact, in most studies on penis size I've checked, they exclude micropenises to avoid that issue.

It's about how a man will stack up for the "competition" more so than a really desire for a statistical average.

TonightSheComes 3

Mean isn’t talked about too much in day to day life.

taarotqueen 3

I don’t know lol I suck at math and stats in general

RAWedges 2

No man has ever aspired to have an average sized dick. Even those that are below average. They'll settle for average, but they don't want it. I mean, who wants to be average at anything... Only those that are below and they don't want it. They settle for it.

People settle for average. Reminding men what average is makes it worse.

I'm above "average" and I still feel inadequate at times.

I_Dont_Check_PMs 1

Technically it isn't, but for a statistic like this, the average is going to be pretty close to the median.

Vystaril -1

And here I thought my 7.9 in was small. I'm always glad to be wrong.

rncd147 10

Makes me feel better :)

loula12 2

Communication is key! I am dealing with things being misunderstood between my husband and I. He argues with me through his friends advice.

i_am_barbara -2

Since when? I thought average was 7in hahahaha

-agirlhasnoname 4

Damn Barbara!!

TonightSheComes 162

Did you ever tell her you were sensitive about your size? The answer will most likely enlighten you as to what her motivation was to send you the meme.

Ecrophon 36

It's no secret that every man is sensitive about his size. Even if he is above average. This is just a joke that wasn't as funny as she thought it was. Let's not make excuses for it.

06210311off 43

It's no secret that every man is sensitive about his size.

I'm not and never have been, despite having a small penis. My guess is the advent of easy accessible porn is the culprit in this matter.

DragonEmperor 5

Personally I haven't either, it's never something that bothered me and my girlfriend has said many times she is happy with my size.

PetiteFeetFmnnStep 23

She wasn’t directing it towards him. She didn’t even come up with the joke. It’s a meme.

stemstep 12

Speak for yourself homie. Who cares if you're fucking anyway??
I don't send dick pics, my penis is only available when it's being used. That's that stupid shit, "all men are sensitive" lol wtf no!

AnonWhiteMan 5

Said the super extra macho anonhispanicorblackman.

stemstep 28

Just because I'm not insecure about my dick, doesn't mean I'm overly macho either. There are a lot of men out there confident in their own bodies, especially about something we cannot change like height and dick length. Honestly, get over yourselves. If OPs girlfriend hated his dick, she would've left him long ago. Being insecure is not attractive as a man or a woman, insecurities break relationships, not his penis size. He already has her, don't push her away and Band-Aid this silly insecurity, OP would probably be the same dude to tell his GF that she doesn't need a big ass or big tits; he'll love her anyway. Stop being so vain and insecure, self confidence comes from understanding, accepting, and loving yourself and your body. Not from avoiding triggers and conflict and comparing yourself to other men's dick sizes. Especially not from trying to feel better by bringing down all other men onto your level as well. Fuck that!

Lams1d 10

Gotta be honest, I wasn't expecting such an articulated, agreeable comment after reading your original comment. Thank you for expanding.

blickyjayy 1

That says a lot about you...

Lams1d 3

Does it though?

AnonWhiteMan 6

You can be perfectly secure and confident in your self physically and still think it's shitty to get a message like that from your GF. If this situation was reversed, and it was a dude who'd made the same kind of comment about boob size to his GF, it'd be recognized as shitty behavior.

-agirlhasnoname 3

Damn... Was not expecting that. But this is the truth right here. Bravo. 👏

SMLaregreat -1

A girl can very well hate your dick, hell even you as a person and stay with you. It’s happened more times than I’ll probably breathe during my lifetime.

Just because a person stays with you does not mean anything other than they are staying with you in some form or another. People have all kinds of motives for staying both positive and/or negative ones.

She may love op’s dick. Who knows. The fact she stayed with OP is not mutually exclusive to liking his dick.

The comments ITT are pretty shocking to me. Has no one ever been insecure about something before and can have a little empathy?

I know everyone here is a perfect rational person who deserves to condescendingly talk down to strangers /s

four_leaves 59

My husband has a 5.5 penis and, honestly, I would not want a bigger one. It’s a good size for PIV sex, it’s not too cumbersome for oral or a handjob, and I think I’d be nervous about anal if it was bigger as well. If your girlfriend says she likes your penis, then don’t doubt her! :) from personal experience I’m telling you that a 5.5 penis is in no way disappointing. If I was gonna make this joke (and I have before), I wouldn’t be thinking about my husband’s penis specifically because I just think the joke is funny. I would just let her know that it hurt your feelings to avoid it happening again, but I really wouldn’t hurry too much. If she says she likes it, she likes it. There are plenty of ways to get around complimenting a penis you don’t like ;)

LoveVixxen 9

I totally agree with four_leaves. Any bigger and you're hitting the cervix, it hurts and causes inflammation and isn't pleasurable at all. Average sizes are the right size for most women. You can do all the different things you want sexually with them, pleasurably! ;)

WhamBamGlitzAndGlam 4

100% agree. Anything over 5.5" isn't happening. I had an ex-boyfriend who was very...substantial and it was honestly excruciating and some of the worst sex I've had. Never again. 4"-5.5" is the perfect size for me.

Full_metal_pants077 5

Everyone complaining about size is odd. Work the angles people.

busymantm 3

I think the ‘best size’ is probably 5-7 inches. It fits everywhere and they can feel it.
I’m fortunately/unfortunately well outside (9inches) and get way too many “that isn’t happening“ or just more pain than either wants. Being big looks great in videos but be careful what you wish for.

It's the tone with which they brought it up. Ignored that OP said his partner meant it as a joke, and presented it as a way to get back at her.

Obviously anal play isn't violence in and of itself.

floordonuts4lyf -1

Wow you sound a little rapey. Gross.

BadUsernameGenerator 1

Can I ask how? Honest question.

floordonuts4lyf 1

It was directed at dildigo, I know you were being sarcastic

BadUsernameGenerator 2

My mistake

Iocabus 0

I mean bringing up the idea of anal could be enough too.

CharmedBat 49

That joke isn't even funny so I can't really figure out why she would even send you that. 5.5 isn't even bad, there's men out there who have it worse. She seems unfunny more than anything.

Unicornhole87 11

For real.... my boyfriend has an abnormally huge dick, and still I would never conisder sending him something like that. It's just unfunny as you stated and straight up rude.

n-m-adams 23

It sounds like you are doing a great job of reflecting on your feelings about why this is a trigger for you.
I believe that if you feel she did this innocently as a joke, having an open discussion about your sensitivity to it and why it hurt you is a good place to start. I don't think apologies are necessary on either side. She made a joke in bad taste, but not with the intention of damaging your self worth. IF on the other hand, you make your feelings heard and she does something like this again, then I would question her intentions. Triggers are a funny thing and sometimes we don't even know what will set them off, so we can't expect our partners to know what they are either.

VinshinTee 23

If shes just really into those normal memes I wouldn't really think much about it. However if shes mentioned your package not being the size that she likes, and she sending you those jokes, I would think its inappropriate. However it just seems your a bit self conscious and something that was probably unrelated to it triggered your thoughts. Honestly dude, don't worry too much about it. Even if you have a 3" package, if you're pleasing them with it who cares if it isn't titan sized.

black_ice97 21

Not to invalidate your feelings but I don’t think the “you” is supposed to be literally you. It’s just a thing from Twitter.

beyourownsunshine 3

This.

fermezlabouche3 2

If only English had different words for "you singular" and "you plural." I agree that it was likely meant to be a you plural rather than the OP.

LaFl00f 17

The part that confuses me is the part where the meme relates to or makes the transition to this being about penises - I don't see it.

Did she say anything about penises at all, or especially about your penis? If not, is it possible that to her, it is not at all clear that you are taking this to be about your penis and are therefore more sensitive about it than you might otherwise be? You say you're a pretty tall dude - would it therefore not be pretty logical that she thought it was legitimately funny (and also kind of sweet) to compare you to the big multivitamin?

AndrewO12100 8

True, she could have meant that your actually a big guy, meaning tall.

InsertLongNameHere 3

Or better than her exes at pleasuring her.

AndrewO12100 2

I know we are on r/sex, but not everything has to be about sex. If she said that he was the big pill, then she could just mean that he's taller than other people.

whatathymeitwas 3

This was what I thought, especially when he mentioned being tall and her saying he was the big pill. How exactly does a multivitamin translate immediately into dicks?

Noctiluca04 1

I think this is a solid possibility. Talk to her about it.

daftshep 14

Don't overthink it. Insecurities get the best of us.

AmosG86 13

Send here a picture of a small hole and one of a big hole and see how she reacts.

Call_Down_For_What 27

Taking petty, childish shots back and forth is the worst possible way to resolve anything

greatpancake1 8

Funny though.

taarotqueen 15

I think that would do more harm than good, not to mention it’s anatomically inaccurate

baptizedinbeer -1

So youre saying "loose women" isnt a real thing? Not even being sarcastic. Actually curious. My sexual partners have always said I was "tight" down there and have heard guys talk about having sex with girls that were loose and could barely feel anything. Is this not true? I know you can't stretch your vagina out by having sex...so is it just some vaginas bigger than others? How would that joke be "anatomically incorrect" if all vaginas come in different shapes and sizes and the (stupid) stigma/preference is tight is better? So the joke would be shes loose/has a large vaginal opening which is unwanted. How is that incorrect then?

floordonuts4lyf 6

Yes, every vagina is different just like every penis is different. The vaginal canal is elastic and surrounded by muscle called Pelvic Floor muscle. When a woman is aroused and ready to fuck, her vagina loosens up and becomes cushiony. If a woman is scared, not turned on enough, or not into it, she stays tighter and more rigid. Some guys mistake this for a good thing. It's not (for the girl anyway, cause it doesnt feel as good). Also, some vaginas are just wider set and smaller dicks wont do much for them. That's due to bone structure and, later on in life, a loss of elasticity and tissue density. Some girls are also good at contracting their pelvic floor muscles and making the inside tighter or looser on command. Some girls have problems with their pelvic floor muscles that either make them feel looser or tighter.

The only thing that has zero effect on vagina tightness, is the number of men she fucks and the amount of men she fucks. Even birthing a baby, her vagina will whip back to normal (if shes young). Older women, like I said, lose elasticity so dont bounce back as quick or well after a birth.

baptizedinbeer 2

Yep. Am aware of all of the above. Thats why I was trying to figure out how the joke woupd be anatomically incorrect

floordonuts4lyf 2

Oh, gotcha. So the vagina isn't just a gaping hole, like the comment suggests. Comparing a vagina to a hole is anatomically incorrect because a vagina is more like... how do I put this... it's like a tube that is tight and contracted at rest, and stretches to accommodate the object that enters it. Just like a butthole isnt just a gaping hole haha

baptizedinbeer 2

And a penis isn't a vitamin ...but still applys in size *as far as joke goes

Edit*

floordonuts4lyf 1

Ya her joke was pretty terrible and doesn't make much sense haha.

PotOfGreed98 3

Similar to how penises come in different shapes and sizes, vaginas also vary from person to person. I've heard it come up most often with regards to depth (shorter vagina means more likely to get your cervix punched during sex) but there is variation in width too. Personally I think level of arousal, lubrication, and such play just as big a role in how "tight" someone feels, but "loose vagina" is such an easy insult or joke for people to throw around. So there's definitely some degree of anatomical correctness to it, not that that makes the joke any less insensitive.

baptizedinbeer 1

Thank you for wording it how I was attempting too. Still an insensitive joke but applys the same way as the vitamin/penis one.

PotOfGreed98 2

Indeed. Sorry if what I wrote was redundant with what you wrote.

Purpleburglar 2

Anecdotally I can tell you it most definitely is a real thing, though I doubt it's in any way correlated to having more or less sex with bigger or smaller guys. I've been with girls with whom I really didn't feel much and others where it's almost overwhelming. They do come in different sizes on both sides. Actually my girlfriend was just refused an IUD because she's too small for it. At least girls can do something about it if it really bothers them and it's usually beneficial for both.

infinity_whore -1

Some people tend to think that a loose vagina comes from having sex, but that really only happens after childbirth. It’s really about shaming women for having sex.

baptizedinbeer 2

I just stated that

the_onlyfox 1

I have two kids both born natural, my vagina isn't a gaping hole nor is it "loose" especially if you do kegals (sp?) Stop spreading information that isn't true

infinity_whore 1

I didn’t say that, I said that when stretching does happen, that’s what causes it. It’s different for everyone and just because you’re experience is different doesn’t mean that other people are lying.

the_onlyfox 1

It doesn't mean you can say it in a general manner just because some women experience it.

infinity_whore 1

I was saying it in a general manner because I was answering a question. I said when people say that a vagina is “loose” it’s not from the stretching of penises. Only a baby can do that. And that’s nothing against women, as I am one, it’s against people with poor sexual education. I never said that all mothers have loose vaginas. Idk why this bothers you so much

xormun 13

Regardless of whether or not it's a joke, it's pretty insensitive of her to bring up (besides just not being funny at all). I'd talk to her and explain that you do feel self conscious because of what happened in high school, if she doesn't know already. It's unkind of her to dig into scabs and if she continues to do so it becomes cruel.

WijoWolf 11

she always randomly mentions how she loves our sex life and my penis too

Until she sais otherwise, I think you have here what you need to read. Now, you just have to own this.

In my opinion, the joke played out a lot better in her head and then, got all nervous about the situation because in such kid of discussions, usally, there is no more "right thing to say" just, "the least worse".

Water under the bridge friend. Don't overthink this matters. It can be bad too.

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she always randomly mentions how she loves our sex life and my penis too

Until she sais otherwise, I think you have here what you need to read. Now, you just have to own this.

In my opinion, the joke played out a lot better in her head and then, got all nervous about the situation because in such kid of discussions, sually, there is no more "right thing to say" just, "the least worse".

Water under the bridge friend. Don't overthink this matters. It can be bad too.

In my opinion, the joke played out a ot better in her head and then, got all nervous about the situation because in such kid of discussions, sually, there is no more "right thing to say" just, "the least worse".

floordonuts4lyf 11

Ok here's the thing. Are bigger penises better for sex? Ya, usually, to a point. Why? Because they give a more "full" feeling (girth is more important than length btw). BUT. Does having a big penis mean you'll always give better sex? No, not by a longshot. In fact, guys with big dicks can be the worst at sex, cause they just assume their dick is magic and that they dont have to put any work in. The worst foreplay/sex of my life was with big dicks. (The guys were big dicks too!)

Having an average size penis can be ideal for a few reasons.

1) it's not too big, usually "just right". Too big can be painful, and some vaginas are tighter or shallower than others, meaning an average size feels big and perfect to them. No one likes having their cervix bashed during sex. Especially doggy style can be uncomfortable with a big dick.

2) the guy usually puts more effort into his technique and using his tongue and hands. Which is amazing no matter your dick size.

3) the unique shape of your dick can match up with the shape of her vagina in a way that reaches all the sweet spots perfectly.

So in conclusion, the idea that having a big dick is ideal is understandable. But not all women need big dicks to feel amazing, as every vagina is shaped differently, too. And sex isnt just about penetration, it's so so much more than that, and guys who think sex is only about penetration are the worst people to fuck.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

hailkelemvor 8

Where's the leap to assuming this is about dick size? It's just a mildly funny meme. It could be about you being tall, healthy, any number of things.

This is definitely one of those "you" things- I wouldn't bother taking it to her to discuss. Just something for you to work on wrt your self image. If she didn't like you, she wouldn't be with you.

chunky_water 8

Take it easy on yourself fella 5'5" aint bad, you do gotta discuss with her that negative things like that are uncalled for. She wouldn't want you to make a fat joke at her expense, or anything else that would damage self esteem. Don't damage her either because at that point the relationship is just toxic. You guys gotta either lift eachother self esteem up or leave before hurting even more. Also yall saying its just a joke if it was tyre opposite a girl being made fun of because of her physicalities you'd be raising hell.

WatchMeJoTA 8

You’re taking this waaaaay too seriously. If she always tells you how much she enjoys sex with you, then you need to take a chill pill; preferably one with multivitamins. She probably blasted the snap out to all her friends.

Acting this self-conscious is what’s going to make her leave. Relax.

darthphallic 7

I’m upset I got a notification for this.

shygoodguy 6

Talk seriously with her, sometimes people doesn't realize how harmful those jokes are. If my partner send me a joke like that I'll consider breaking up with her.

nizzynismo 6

I think your reading into it too much. I say this bc i would do the same thing as you.

abzuxoxo 5

Does your brain register that way with other things?

BadUsernameGenerator 5

...she said it was only a joke. I understand that the [joke] is popular

...the "you" in the joke is meant to be the more lame option of the two

That is the meme, at this point you've definitely taken it personally.

...she tried to explain she said "you're the bigger multivitamin" which felt insulting

I'm not going to say your reaction was uncalled for. You're obviously self-conscious about the size of your penis, and that likely would have come up one way or another eventually. Depending on your reaction, an apology may be due to her, and I would advise you to have an actually open dialogue about this with her. When you take things personally, it's hard to discuss them neutrally.

In my experience, the size of your penis may not provide the best physical pleasure, but your partner is with you for more than the length of your snake. You are dehumanizing yourself and insulting her, by suggesting that she wants someone with a bigger penis.

Now, I'm not admonishing you. Give yourself time to take this joke less personally, laugh about it, and discuss with your partner when you feel in a neutral mood.

ciownu -2

now this, THIS is victim blaming at its finest.

hailkelemvor 3

Victim? It's his insecurities coming out over a barely funny meme. It sucks to have your feelings hurt, but it wasn't even about dick size. This is one of those things where you get hurt, stop, and have to do some work on yourself and how you view your own body and relationships.

crystalinguini 1

imagine being a victim of a meme

CloddishNeedlefish 5

I have a question.
Did she just send it to you? That’s definitely something I would send to multiple people haha. Like 100% I could see myself making that snap and then sending it to all my friends because it’s clever. It’s just a meme, it’s not anything real.

bizzyjay3 5

Bro, maybe she meant you were the bigger one.

diehard1972 4

So much more in life than dick size. We're just conditioned to make it important.

Buddy of mine was as big as your ring finger. I shit you not. I never said a thing and never did my other buddy that also accidentally seen it. That other buddy, penis flacid to his belly button. Fa - la - cid, son. Ring finger dude, married, kids and happy. Giant dick dude, douche, obsesssed, kids all over, and frankly lonely af.

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You're not small and your alive. Who gives a shit. Your lady doing this is just simpleton thinking. Who does that? Passive/agressive bullshit.

Arc_can_saw 4

Honestly, I wouldn’t think too much of it. It’s really just a laughable joke that everyone and their mother seems to make nowadays; she probably just thought of it when she saw the two vitamins and though “Haha, I bet my bf would like this.” I make this joke to my friends all the time, when my ex girlfriend and I would exchange the occasional ‘you vs.’ joke now and then while we were dating.

If she honestly, sincerely mentions that your guys’ sex life is good, then you shouldn’t worry. In fact, I’d say the fact she mentions it without provocation is a good sign, and I have faith she’s satisfied. There’s more to sex than just size.

However, if it’s a joke you really just aren’t comfortable with, especially if it’s a recurring one she tells to you, you should just sit down and talk to her about it. It may seem silly to her, but if it matters to you, she should be aware of it. I’m sure she has a joke or two she doesn’t like hearing, and you have the same right to not want to hear certain things.

Trust me, I’ve been in a very similar boat. Talking to her can do wonders, and I’m sure she’ll make sure you’re happy about everything.

Best of luck!

staccz 4

Your over thinking the situation because your self conscious about it. At the end of the day it was just a joke and if she would have sent u a meme comparing 2 dudes in a context that had nothing to do with something that u r self conscious about (penis size) it would not hav been a big deal.

AllThatGlitt3rs 3

My SO and I just had a conversation about women’s size perspective of large. It’s all proportional to what they know. 5.5” is around average. End of the day, she is having sex with YOU, in a relationship with YOU. Do you really think if size was a problem, she would still be with you? There are things to be self conscious of but also you have to be more forgiving of yourself. We are all different. You’ve probably seen boobs bigger or smaller hers, but you’re still with her.

pahina1 4

There are literally multiple post on this sub weekly about people who hate their sex lives but are still in the relationship. Just because someone is still in a relationship with you doesnt at all mean they are satisfied with the sex you are having.

Edit: And why does penis size always get compare to boob size? The two are not at all the same, one is specifically used to actually have sex and the other is not.

AllThatGlitt3rs 1

He said that they are satisfied with their sex life specifically.

Edit: Size small or large can also have no correlation to a satisfying sex life.

pahina1 3

I realize that, but stating that simply because person A is in a relationship with person B then that must also mean that person A enjoys the sex they have with person B is just wrong.

AllThatGlitt3rs 0

In context of OPs situation is what I was referring to, advise would be different with different context. She said she is satisfied but he has doubts still.

pahina1 2

People also say things they dont mean all the time to make others happy. There are lots of posts on relationship subreddits where a couple gets into a fight and the woman drops the bomb that she has faked enjoying sex the whole relationship, or when a gf/wife is drunk and lets slip that she actually would prefer a bigger dick. In general is seems that women are more likely to remain in a relationship if the sex is bad, so there is always some part of a guy that worries that perhaps she wants a relationship so much that she is settling for what he brings to the bedroom. Being sent something like this would definitely bring that worry to the forefront for a lot of men.

It's not really ridiculous to think that maybe she wasnt totally honest with what she said before based off of what she sent him. Now, this isnt at all as extreme as the examples I listed above, but it's certainly understandable why would be having doubts.

SpacemanOrangeKush 3

Idk dude. I would be angry without having prior self conscious issues. That's pretty cold on a few different levels.

PetiteFeetFmnnStep 3

It sounds like you just don’t have a lot of confidence. She didn’t mean anything by it, she was just making a joke. I’ve make jokes about small dicks to all my boyfriends of various penis size. I can tell you that size REALLY isn’t a huge deal. If you want her to not make those jokes anymore, just be honest with her.

BlackTTC99 3

If she’s not complaining in bed I wouldn’t worry about it. If you’re that worried about size just master the art of eating pussy.

fingerbang92 3

This is the equivalent of a guy making a joke about his girls weight. Something you just do not do. Since she’s your girlfriend I’m sure you’ve told her your insecurities and for her to throw this in your face is a dealbreaker. I’m sorry but I wouldn’t even look at her again, I wouldn’t be around someone that shallow

Omk99 2

I agree with this guy

hedgiehogs 2

Honestly dude it just sounds like she was making a meme and didn't mean to hurt your feelings.

Honestly I think she was trying to pump you up and make you feel on top of the World

andiilove14 2

I can’t imagine why she would think this would be a good idea, but then again we all make mistakes. I am a woman and I can tell you from experience that it can easily be too big. As difficult as it may be, it’s important that you try to remain confident or at least fake it till you make it in bed because as they say it really is the motion of the ocean haha. A man with an average size who knows how to use can feel infinitely better than a larger man who thinks that his size compensates for any sort of talent. I definitely prefer a man who is average size but puts me in all sorts of positions that hit the right spots and keeps it interesting. Just keep listening to her in bed and even ask her if she wants to experiment with different things like positions, toys, domination etc... surprise her with locations like the shower or anywhere you think would be fun. If you really want to pleasure her every time, it’s important to have a good amount of foreplay. Most men forget that. Don’t stop till she is nice and wet or even begs for you inside her sometimes; this will always lead to more engaging sex from her I promise you. Don’t be embarrassed to search for oral and fingering tips and Kama sutra positions online to keep you confident in your actions in bed. You can do so many interesting things that most larger men can’t because a large penis it can be painful for many women. Average size of average size for a reason my friend ;)

Edit: Clarified last couple sentences

Shmizzled 2

...As the wise saying goes “every joke has some truth to it”. In this case that’s evident. The truth can be hurtful, I mean she does have a point lol.

Don’t overthink it, it’s just a good ol distasteful J O K E

PMelo2272 2

I seriously got a notification over a dude worrying about his sick size. Fuck this app and FML. Dude it’s never gonna change. Just do what you do.

DuppyBrando19 2

Don’t worry about the old gf thing where she told everyone you had a little dick. That’s a thing that a lot of women do. It doesn’t matter if it’s 2 inches or 10

fiction-is-realistic 2

bruh it's a meme goddamn

-lighght- 2

Don’t take it personally homie. I’m someone who has dealt with bad self confidence issues in the past, and still continue to. Saying this, I can tell that that main problem is stemming from exactly what you said, you and your insecurities. Your girlfriend doesn’t care about your dick size dude, and if she does, then she shouldn’t be kept around. I hope you can get over yourself and realize that just because your genes fell a certain way makes you no better or less than any of your brothers or sisters.

catlynpurrce 2

I think it definitely would be worth it to talk to her about how she, whether intentionally or not, poked at an insecurity of yours. I have insecurities that, even if I haven’t directly talked to my boyfriend about them, if he made a joke about, it would still upset me.

One time my boyfriend poked my tummy, like right on that little pooch of fat under the bellybutton, and it was just an innocuous little poke, but I still told him “hey, please don’t touch my tummy fat, that makes me self conscious” and he understood and life moved on & was good.

You can’t help how you feel, if it hurt your feelings it hurt your feelings. Whether it should or shouldn’t have doesn’t necessarily matter. Just talk to her about it and let her know that jokes like that hit a little too close to home. Hopefully she responds with empathy, and if she doesn’t...then you kind of know what kind of person she really is

Rileywarez 2

It was obviously a joke, if sh actually thought your penis was too small she wouldn't have made the joke for fear of offending you. You're definetly taking this to heart for no reason, the fact that she made the joke at all means it didn't occur to her that you might be on the "small" side.

timmbudd 2

I just went to my Reddit settings / notifications and turned off notifications for trending posts.

I feel free now... Like if doesn’t matter what size multivitamin someone thinks I am.

dwenordie 2

It’s literally a meme, 100% if she had a problem she’d probably tell you. This honestly comes down to trust, if you trust she’s telling you the truth when she says it doesn’t matter or that she likes sex with you. It’s a super popular meme and if You take every meme she may post or send personally you’re going to always be unhappy. I bet she didn’t even think about you when she made the joke about VITAMINS. She didn’t do it with dildos. As a side note - I legit don’t know the size of my partners member despite being together over a year and having a healthy sex life because guess what? ~it doesn’t matter~

DearNikki94 2

Somebody is gonna want and love that 5.5 D!

mintsthefox 2

Just have a day where you two can talk, tell her how you felt offended but dont do it accusinly just say like hey that snap you sent made me feel self concious and id appreciate if we could not do those memes or something.

happydayswasgreat 2

Talk it out some more. Could just be mistake, lack of judgement, or misunderstaning on both parts. Don't potentially mess up a nice thing, (if it is) over a miss understanding about a dick joke.

Santadid911 2

Bigger isn’t always better. Personally I like the average size soo much more than some massive member. My bf is over 6 feet and his is like 5” and it’s so perfect.
Besides I think she was just making a joke that’s kinda trending but since you’re self conscious I bet you felt like it was a personal attack. Which I totally get. But I don’t think that’s how she intended it, probably.
I think you just need to have a really good session to get your confidence back.

justkiks 2

Depending on how many partners she's had, she may really think you're he bigger one. I'm barely over 6", but every SO I've had (only 5) all made a point to let me know I was the biggest they had been with, and they all seemed genuine and honest in saying it.

Now, of course some of them could be BS'ing, but given I'm a little above average, the math works out, kind of. My fiance had only been with 2 guys before me and they were both under 5".

I think most guys watch porn, even amateur stuff, and think every guy must be hung like a moose, but just remember they probably wouldn't be uploading it if they were small, so it's a skewed perspective.

bbuttercream 2

This is a perfect example of a good joke, delivered to the wrong person I guess. It was just a joke, and I get how it could be offensive but if she’s with you, and cares about you I don’t get why a girl would take a sincere jab at the size of her mans penis. We all know how that makes them feel.

PABiPolyGuy 2

Well, has your SO given you any reason to suspect this this was anything more than a joke? Based on what you have said, the sex seems to be good and she seems satisfied. Furthermore, presumably she cares about you and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. In situations like this, I generally recommend that people take the most charitable interpretation of events unless there is a pattern of behaviors that would indicate otherwise.

jessewebster31 2

Dude stop trippen. She Obviously wouldnt of sent that to you if she thought you were small. That was so far from her mind that she didn't even think that it would offend you

iLikeToKeepMySexAnon 2

The meme was made by a dude, and its obvious. Guys are so much more obsessed with dick size than women are.

SonCho33 2

If you're giving her orgasms she loves your dick a man's confidence is vital to his performance

I've dated a couple guys with various sizes (NOT in the following order). I dated a 9-incher that sent me to the hospital (no joke only 1 person knew this info until now). Sex was painful with him and not fun. I dreaded it but his looks made up for it. I dated 2 guys (at different times) with 5-6 inches. Best sex ever! Their size was perfect and left me climaxing 3 times per session. I also dated 2 guys (also at different times) with 3 inches. The sex was bad in the sense that I wasn't able to climax unless I got on top and did the work in specific angles. My organisms were short (no pun intended) and fast so I turned into a dude and aimed to please my myself first than to please my partner cause then I'd be there all fucking night waiting to get my turn. Don't get wrong, both short dudes were the most loyal and nicest out if all the guys I dated but it just doesn't help when I have to think about the other 2 dudes with 5-6 inches in order to help me climax.

So don't put yourself down on your size. In my female opinion: I would hop on that. Remember the average vagina is 6 inches deep so why would you need a bigger penis?

captains0817 2

It's a meme bro. 😂😂😂

Amekins 2

Size doesnt matter if you know how to please her! That being said, communication about how that photo made you feel is the best thing you can do for your relationship. She might think it's amazing and perfect and not realize that you have any sort of Hang Ups about it. Now if you let her know and she still makes the jokes then you've got bigger problems!

sweetpeamomma 2

Would she find it funny if you sent her jokes about lopsided boobs or meat flaps? Probably not.

Kanjo_893 2

You definitely need to talk about this in person with her

Colorfulunicornlove 2

I can understand why you might feel bad about this but I think it's just a joke. Trust me, if she had a problem with your size it would be apparent, like she wouldn't want to have sex or do anything sexual.

Resik2 1

Dude, just treat her good, pay attention to her, pamper her if you love her, but stop worrying about your dick!

Take care of business and when it’s time to fuck (I hope your in good physical shape) screw her brains out, finger the hell out of her, flip her, lick her and bang her some more. Multiple O’s has a way of making the 5.5” seem great. Remember this, take care of yourself and her and you’ll be fine. Now, get the fuck back in the game.....

KingKobra793 1

5.5 is the global avg mate. You're alright and have nothing to be ashamed of. And that is .2 inches bigger than the avg American
which is 5.3

Timtheenchanter215 1

The fuck picks these to trend.

Also OP I feel for you as I suffer from what doctors call small dick syndrome SDS for short...

EMFDeathPenguin 1

I’m not a big guy either (maybe slightly above average size), so when I was about your age (20s) I just decided “fuck it - I’m gonna learn how to eat pussy really well” and I did. And I’ve actually had gfs since then who were accustomed to being with bigger guys who just couldn’t get enough, because I really enjoy it. Now I could give a rat’s ass about what anyone says about my size because I have really positive experiences to draw from when it comes to self confidence. And if you can let a comment or joke about your size genuinely deflect and not bother you at all, it makes a striking impression on people.

NekoTaleStuckTrash 1

Let her know how it made you feel, but other than that don’t take it too seriously.

jrp1029 1

Who cares you got what you got and you are top notch its all about high self esteem. Also tell her you didnt like the joke and you need big ol titties in your face

princessdesblogg 1

My boyfriend is considered an average size and I love his size... i don’t think she meant to upset you by this. I think she didn’t think it out before sending it to you. She should have more of a mind that tells her you could be self conscious about your size. However; she doesn’t see a problem with your size so she probably didn’t think you were self conscious at all. Just talk with her, be open and honest. Maybe even read her this post about your feelings! Hope all is well.

CROOKED_ENGINEER 1

Not to add to your pain but it doesn't make sense the other way if she was saying you're already big then why would she be comparing you to something smaller it just doesn't make sense. I'll say it again I don't want to add to your pain and torment I believe that it's not right for people to blow smoke up your ass. I suggest that you leave her if you don't have kids, before you catch to 18 to life with that "woman".

Not to add to your pain but it doesn't make sense the other way if she was saying you're already big then why would she be comparing you to something smaller it just doesn't make sense. I'll say it again I don't want to add to your pain and torment I believe that it's not right for people to blow smoke up your ass. I suggest that you leave her if you don't have kids, before you catch to 18 to life with that woman.

WarriorPrincess720 1

I'm not sure about other women but I've never cared about size. I've dated a multitude of different sizes and in my opinion a good sex life is chalked up to good communication and less about the size of your member.

That's just my opinion. My husband has a good sized member but when we first met we had a hard time easing into a comfortable sex life. We just had to keep trying and get all the awkwardness out and now we have a wonderful sex life.

Maybe it just depends on the person but I would just try to be open and talk to her about how it hurt your feelings and you're self conscious. She needs to know before something like this happens again and leaves you more hurt...

Crocodilesclimbtrees 1

She obviously figured out that you are insecure and can't take a joke so she said you were the bigger vitamin to make you feel better.

Like, yeah she probably wouldn't mind it if you had a bigger dick but she obviously cares about you more than your penis size so move on. You have made a mountain out of a mole hill. And for what? Are you trying to find a reason to be unhappy? It sounds like your insecure in general about this relationship.

user123446777 1

This all depends on the context of your relationship. Could be meant as a compliment, or a sign that your gf is passive aggressive fucked in the head.

Unfortunately from here it is hard to tell.

PupSpace 1

I mean, TBH I cant take bigger penises. Having a big penis doesn't make you good at sex.

supernovame 1

I don't see why this is a problem.
If it really worries you, then do what professional porn stars do.
Make it bigger.
It's even supposed to make it feel better for both of you!

This is an all hands issue. Reddit has sent out the flare for the top minds of reddit to solve this issue/complain about clicking a link that sent us here.

account-for-stuff 1

Sped

peachmonkey17 1

I (23F) totally get what you’re saying and I’d be thinking that too. But honestly if you’ve been together long enough and she tells you all the time that she loves it, I wouldn’t be worried. If I’m not super into the sex, it just doesn’t happen often and I definitely wouldn’t be telling you all the time I love it if I really didn’t.

I’d trust your girlfriend and your sex life and stop stressing about it. That’ll honestly just hurt your relationship and your sex life if you don’t stop worrying.

JustJakkiMC 1

Length doesn't matter btw. Its girth and skill imo

FulmineAnimus 1

My question is, why did she send it to you too? It could've been a group snap too... Did she think you would find it funny? Is that the whole deal with this? ... Also, i think it would bother you more if you already talked to her about another guy that you saw something weird going on and she told you not to worry about him. If that happened even before the joke then i would find it even less funny.

HTHSFI 1

Like you said, 5.5 inches is about average.

BUT - BUT - average does NOT mean (average as in with mathmetics). Instead, what they mean by this is "average, - as in, like the average Joe has". And MOST men are "Average Joe".

A lot of men feel inferior because they see porn, in which the men in those movies have big dicks. As in bigger than about 90 % of all men. That is one reason why they are the ones in those movies!

Yet men do not feel inferior because they could not be a race car driver. They feel that they are very good at normal everyday driving. (My point is that they do not compare their driving skills to race car drivers the way they compare their dicks to porn dicks).

There are other examples too.

SocksFromSara 1

Llllllllli

BoostaBoo81 1

Wtf just happened here!?

staring-into-abyss 1

Send her a fat joke or small breast joke and see how she likes it.

Groslan 1

Why is this on my screen

MatchDotCalm 1

if she sent this to you it didn’t even occur to her that you would have to be insecure about it

erischilde 1

Advice, from a guy who has insecurities about his junk too, you have to get over it. If you don't it will fester and mess you up.

It was a joke. Yes it sucked, but you can explain that. It wasn't malicious, and it's hard to understand why others "don't get" how they hurt you. But they cant. No one is a mind reader.

Absolutely talk about what hurt you, and why, but remember the only change you can make is in you. How? Not that easy. Positive affirmations, realize porn isn't real, maybe therapy, work on self esteem, etc. Most girls really don't care, we're comparing dicks with each other.

Do you know how many guys are out here with a big dick but no skills and their girls are unsatisfied but stay cause they in love with them?

Dick size only matters if she ain't getting off. Period

lil_bit_o_sunshine 1

I can’t ever imagine sending that to my bf no mater what size he was. That’s like a loose vagina joke. Just not okay. Around five inches is actually pretty standard! My boyfriend isn’t the largest that I’ve been with but honestly if it was any larger it would just hurt me. I personally do not like a huge penis because it just hurts!

I’m sorry that she sent you that!

NatslehtA 1

How long have you been with her? You need an update. Her demeaning you, is not something she should be doing.

Waluigi_69 1

Removed?

bellaz16 1

i honestly think you’re completely overthinking it. i am sure your girlfriend thought she was being funny and you would get a good laugh out of it, but she didn’t realize your insecurities. i’m sure it was never directed at you, but just meant as a joke in good fun. it’s okay that you’re upset, but you need to realize it was not her intention and the joke almost definitely wasn’t about you to begin with (she may have even sent it to her other friends). now moving on from that, you have to confront your own insecurities. to many guys, average feels tiny. for most women, we just don’t care. sure, a micro penis might be a different story, but for the girls i know, the difference between 5” and 7” isn’t even noticeable. you don’t have a small dick. it’s average. normal. should a girl with C cups be insecure because her boobs aren’t bigger than average? absolutely not and neither should guys when it comes to penis length. i know it might take awhile to fully believe that and not feel insecure, but do your best to develop a high self esteem. if it becomes a larger issue, seeing a therapist may help you overcome your insecurities (not just about your dick, about anything). good luck! i hope you are able to figure this out, move on, and be happy

peachmonkey17 1

😔😢

laymo4 1

This is the problem with today’s kids. Bunch of crybabies. Oh no my gf said my dick is small what do I do???? Learn to eat pussy like a champ. Adapt and overcome. Apply this to everything in life!!!

elswampthing7 1

You never will. Bye Felicia.

sholbyy 1

Normally I probably wouldn't have seen this but for some reason I got a notification about this post so what the hell, may as well contribute.

So, anyway, does she know that you feel insecure about your penis size? Something I've learned over the years is that it isn't really fair to get offended by something if the other party involved doesn't even know you are sensitive to it. It sounds to me like she made a silly snap and meant it completely innocently and you're projecting your insecurites onto it. I'd still talk to her about the way you're feeling just so you can get it off your chest and hopefully feel better about it though. Talking about feels is healthy.

shadowhawk113144 1

Yeah, she is making fun of your dick size dude.

the_onlyfox 1

Hey op my ex has the same issues as you do regarding the size of his dick. He was always always trying to get me to confirm that he had a small size when he wasn't small. He was the perfect size for me compared to my ex before him who had a bigger than average size that DID hurt when ever we had sex.

No matter what I did or say he always felt it was too small. He would talk to me about enlargement pills, tiys to make it grow (pumps) even surgery to to make it bigger/longer. I always told him he had no need for any of that that I love the size it was etc. It got to the point I loathe having sex because it was a constant circle of "you'll like it more if I was bigger" "you'll end up cheating on me unless I do something about it" "just tell me already that it's small" this was one issue he needed to get over on his own and I couldn't do anything about it but I suffered by being accused of cheating, of not wanting sex because I wasn't satisfied with him when in reality I didn't want sex with him because he thought so little of ME and didn't believe the things I would tell him so I did finally break and lied to him. I said "yeah it is small are you happy now that I agree with you?" Which even then after finally hearing what he wanted to hear he went off on me and it just went from bad to worst.

Please for the love of god do not become like my ex. If the person you are with loves you they don't give a fuck how big or how small (unless they are size queens/kings) I've been with someone who had a smaller than average dick size and I didn't give a fuck because I still enjoyed the sex we had. If anything get professional help to help you get through that self image issue you have. Your gf just wanted to joke with you, clearly that's not the kind you want to participate in which is fine, just let her know for future reference, and if she continues to send you things like this just reevaluate how much you really like this person because that would be fucked up imo.

latestagemayhem 1

If this was mentioned before, apologies I missed reading it.

consider the following: if she was not "not satisfied", then she probably would NOT have made the joke. It doesn't seem as though she is spiteful, but rather playful!

So maybe, give back what you got! Make a similar joke in return. If wager that it would turn the heat up a little bit.

Ladies, keep me honest ; but I think that she would find your confidence and playfulness sexy.

wrosted 1

I just wanna start off by saying I’ve had sex with guys with 5.5 inch dicks and have thoroughly enjoyed it. I’ve also had sex with someone with an 8 inch dick and fucking hated it because he was an inconsiderate partner. I’m sorry you’re insecure about your size, but trust me it isn’t everythinggggg.

But it’s totally uncool for her to send you that. It’s not even funny? Lol

I’m not sure how old you are but it sounds pretty immature on her end and now she’s backpedaling calling you the bigger one.

I don’t recommend making any rude vagina jokes in retaliation. I would have an honest talk or maybe reevaluate if you even like her as a person.

Edit: a word

aetheradept 1

Are you worried that she is cheating? Do you have reason to believe she is? If shes in love with you then I dont see an issue. Also 5.5 is enough to please most women who arent fucking an entire town. Its also average so dont feel bad dude. You have an average penis. Also the faxt that you included that .5 is kind of funny for some reason. I mean, im sure most guys do. Im probably only a bit bigger then you,
And i was insecure about it, until me and some of my friends ran a train on this girl in HS, and many of them were below 5 inches.

Porn fucks with your head. For one, male stars are choosing on basically dick size alone, the girls are small. You cant really tell with the camera, but most girls in porn are like 5 feet tall. Most women are satisfied with 5.5 in too. Its natural. Its not really size so much as the rubbing sensation that gets them.

If your wife thinks your dick is small then fuck her in the ass and it will feel really big to her lol. Also if she isnt satisfied theres plenty out there that will be. Not all girls are on tinder and shit running up a list. Girls who dont fuck alot of people will cum on your dick.

blinkingsandbeepings 1

It’s a myth that women who have more sex have bigger vaginas. There’s no real correlation except with childbirth.

aetheradept 1

You can believe that if you want to

DirtyOnion341 1

You could go the other route. Every relationship is a give take “usually”. Depending on how your relationship is with your GF, I would talk to her. Give her understanding on why you felt this way about the SC. Sometimes when you put it plainly to where someone can put themselves in your shoes they’ll be more sympathetic towards you. Although this could go south rather quickly, so it depends on how your relationship is and if it’s worth the effort. Choose your words carefully don’t just lash out, reserve your emotions. You should let go of the past, significant others love you no matter what you think your flaws are they see past all that and sometimes will even help you threw it. Granted that can be a chore to find but it does happen. I’d say to you good luck and I hope for the best in your next steps.

unseen4giveness 1

For girls who are more evolved in the world of sex, it really has nothing to do with the size of a mans penis. It is all about how your relationship is when you are not having sex. Are you romantic, caring and open in the relationship? My guy has a small penis but he has the moves! I enjoy the non penetrating more than. But even with a small penis, he knows how to make a girl just want more and more of it.
Another thing, learn that experimenting in the bedroom is so much fun! Surprise your girl and buy a penis extender. Give her both worlds.

IAcewingI 1

Man who gives a shit she wouldn't be with you if the sex wasn't good.

Noctiluca04 3

Not true. I know MANY women in long term relationships that have never enjoyed sex with that person.

IAcewingI 1

Then sex isn't everything to them so theyre probably satisfied in another way. Shit end of the day if you can't put it down you can't or you'll get better but there's other things about you than sex that can be attractive as well.

ShamanicNinja 1

If a guy sent a meme to a girl about comparing vaginas then he would be an ass hole. This smells like double standards.

Omk99 1

Yep

adi_vale 1

I don’t think she meant anything by it, they were just two multivitamins, one bigger than the other with that meme joke.

My gf sent me one when she was at the grocery store, it was baby bananas next to macho bananas or “platano macho” and she typed that same caption in.

I laughed and moved on, and I don’t consider myself big, as a matter of fact, i wouldnt mind a another inch but what man wouldn’t? Lol I asked my gf once about my member and she said if it didn’t satisfy her she would’ve left.

Thats good enough for me.

The same can be said about our SO, I mean obviously they can find bigger dicks than ours just as much as we can find women with bigger asses and smaller waists or bigger tits or whatever the hell youre into, it doesn’t mean they are any less to US.... right?

Just some thoughts

KreamyKale 1

I get what you mean. I'm not exactly "above average" when it comes to penis size, so if it really made you self conscious, as it would make me, I would try opening up to her about it in a neutral way.

kcashat 1

To me 5.5 is not small, I’ve definitely had smaller. My husband is around 7-8 depending on the situation. Honestly if he could lose like an inch or inch and a half I’d be a bit more happy bc that thing tends to stab if going at it too rough. Also I find the girth is more of where the pleasure comes from. If anything just have a conversation about how that made you feel, if she really cares for you she’ll be more mindful of that I’m sure. Also, I would like to think if she’s walking around saying she likes your dick, then chances are she really does. I definitely didn’t go around telling anyone that until I got married. If y’all relationship was already going really great, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about.

ttaviaa 1

What if she feels like you're large for her? Not all ladies have an never ending 'hole'. What some may find small, others may find perfect.

Bring it up, by communicating this to her she may be able to explain herself or at least understand that this is not something that should be a joke.

Best of luck! :)

Bwasmer 1

I don't see the snap.

AmethystandOpal 1

Send the same meme bag except with a vagina with inner lips vs arbys roast beef vagina (I like both but that's not the point).

Tossitaway10 1

I want a silver star! Lol

HappySubbie 1

It was stupid and inconsiderate of her to do that. If my boyfriend sent me a meme like that about a butt, knowing that my butt is perfectly moderate sized and not "big" at all? I'd tell him to fuck right off. That kind of disrespect won't be tolerated.

SecretlyS8N 1

First you need to take a deep breath then talk to her about how it’s made you feel. A lot of things can come from this, like her saying get over it, or under standing the issue and stopping it and hopefully helping you.

You shouldn’t be insecure though, no reason to. Not every guy is expected to have a foot long walk wrecking machine. Good luck man, you got this!

blinkingsandbeepings 1

If I get offended by a joke my husband makes, he sometimes says “if you had anything to worry about, I wouldn’t be joking about it.” Which I think is a fair point in a relationship that is otherwise healthy. Someone who is actually dissatisfied with their bf or ogling bigger guys wouldn’t send a meme like that, because they would instantly make the connection to a touchy subject that could rebound badly on them. I mean, the joke in that particular meme is that the gf is unfaithful, so most people wouldn’t want to open themselves up to that. My guess is that the gf just saw the size of the vitamins she had to take and thought “oh, it’s like that meme, that’s kind of funny.”

That said, in some relationships people use jokes to passive-aggressively insult their partners, and that can get pretty ugly. If it seems like a pattern instead of just one misstep, then it could become a very significant issue.

ThisIsHowItStartss 1

If she thinks 5.5 is too small you guys have some other issues that need to be worked out...

BiSexyAmy 1

My husband had the same hang up and is about your size. I'll tell you what I told him. His (your) size is perfect. Porn tells guys that bigger is better but, most women prefer 5-7 inches. To be honest, bigger hurts a whole lot of women and tons of men have smaller than 4 inches which (unless your a female virgin) is harder to feel and doesn't fit snug for the pleasurable friction. Your gf sent you a bad joke without thinking it could be damaging and is probably making her feel like $#!+ now. As a woman who loves sex, I'll second her on the fact that you have the perfect size for me. Hope this helps you.

Isitnecessary667 1

My favorite joke ever: the guy and his girlfriend are having sex for the first time, he’s giving it all he’s got, and she says stop. Stop. It’s your organ. So he says goddamn. I wasn’t aware I’d be playing in a cathedral!
You’re fine. It’s honestly not the size, it’s how you use it.
Unless this is a ploy for attention, then in that case no. You’re not fine and I’ll see you in hell

GayForBigBoss 0

I wouldn't take very seriously. I'm on the small side (4.5x6) and my gf has made the same joke. It isn't personal at all, just a silly meme. I've had similar insecurities before but after having a great sex life with her I know that she doesn't care about my size and a joke like that is nothing more than just a joke. I would doubt highly this wasn't just a silly meme that might not have been thought out to well.

Pabel101 0

I think everyone here is insecure about themselves in some way, im 8.5 inches but I'm uncircumcised and most women say that uncircumcised penises look disgusting and cause of that I'm afraid to ever get close enough to a woman.

peachmonkey17 2

Honestly, I (23F) have a really hard time having sex with my boyfriend (26M) often because he IS circumcised. Any woman that says a NATURAL penis is disgusting, THEY are the disgusting ones and they don’t deserve you! I promise you’ll find someone who loves them natural like I do. (I also know PLENTY of women who prefer them natural as well, so it’s not just me)

Pabel101 1

Thank you for this it helped reading this but I'll have a hard time keeping a positive attitude about my member since the natural look is so universally hated. But I appreciate that there's women like you around.

shygoodguy 1

I also hope your guy find someone who love his penis too.

Slydeking69 0

So here is the deal, I have been told by many women that penis size is much more important to men than it is women. Because guy's worry about it more than they do. This being said. It was probably just a joke. Unless this becomes a trend of small dick jokes I would forget about it and move on with your life because everything else is fine. If it continues maybe talk to her about it. But it's just a joke there are far less size queens out there than we as averagely sized guy's think and enjoy the joke.

enlightenedkitty 0

Well studies have shown that women cheat on men that have a large penis because sex with them is painful. So they enjoy sex way more with someone with an average size because it feels good and not painful.

D_Mon_Taurus 0

A lot of guys take a ruler to their penis and have that number floating over their heads 24/7 like it's a validator for things in life, comparing themselves other guys with number floating over their heads. She doesn't have that. Is there even the slightest chance that she really does adore your penis and finds it perfectly fulfilling and that you are in fact her "big pill"?

(edit, spelling)

A lot of guys take a rule to their penis and have that number floating over their heads 24/7 like it's a validator for things in life, comparing themselves other guys with number floating over their heads. She doesn't have that. Is there even the slightest chance that she really does adore your penis and finds it perfectly fulfilling and that you are in fact her "big pill"?

Ecrophon 7

Yeah, some aspects of our life teach us that dick size is important. Some people have strange insecurities. If you can't share that with your partner, then who can you tell?

throwaway93_4 0

Honestly though, 5.5 is bigger than average. She could be telling the truth when she says she meant you were the bigger vitamin.

kittenxsnow 0

In my opinion, it seems to show her immaturity more than anything.

Process252 0

The replies in this thread are pretty strange. This is a very odd thing for her to send to her SO. It's not unusual for you to feel weird about it. Just talk to her

FUCK_SNITCHES_ 0

Isn't height a lot more important for attraction than penis size?

littlespacecade-t 0

If she’s been your SO for a while I can guarantee penis size doesn’t matter. It’s all about the way you use your dick. My boyfriend is 7/8 inches and he doesn’t know how to use it, though I’m teaching him slowly, I can genuinely say just because he has a massive dick doesn’t mean he knows how to pleasure me.

Olezhka_Siroezhka 0

Just suck it up and don't be a whiny b*tch. Maybe your dick will get bigger from that you know.

LavenderPint 0

Your gf either knew your size was a point of self esteem for you and sent it as a joke poking innocent, but undoubtedly hurtful, fun at you, or she was attempting to help you feel better about it, because multivitamins come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, etc and they still do the same job, some just do it better un a compact form.

If she sent it herself using her own multivitamins, take a look at them and see what each one has/does.

Could be that she was using a meme format to express that size doesn't matter as long as the job gets done?

Thats a SUPER OPTIMISTIC approach to it, but it warrants a thought anyways.

If she did it intentionally to be malicious, or even if not, you need to sit down and talk with her about it.

AllenBelfore 0

Get one of those penis sleeves that goes over your penis to make it effectively thicker/longer. One of two things will happen...
1. She'll enjoy it. Small penis problem solved.
2. She'll tell you you're ridiculous and to take it off. Then you'll know that she finds your natural size pleasurable.

Captain-Katsura -1

My phone is 6" long, so i just measured my penis side by side they were equal. That put a smile on my face. Yeeet.

kneecoal321 -2

Okay so first of all, you did nothing wrong here and are allowed to react however you want because it wasnt your bad.
Second of all, that was extremely insensitive of her, regardless of your size. Not a cool move, and it's probably a good idea to tell her that.

You dont need to "learn to take a joke", your girlfriend needs to learn to not be a dick to her boyfriend. Sorry you're feeling this way, for the record you're above average so theres that!

Lifes2shortyo -3

Chill out its a joke. Insecurity is big turn off. You played right in to it. Lol.

thick_salmon 9

Thats fucking dumb dude, making fun of someone’s insecurity is just called being a bully.

Lifes2shortyo 7

She says she loves his dick. She's not bullying.

piximelon 6

But she wasn’t making fun of him. She most likely was like “haha that’s so funny I’m gonna share this funny moment with my boyfriend!” and he way overreacted. He even said in the OP that she praises his sexual performance, unprompted.

fnbenny1872 -4

As a surprise stick it in her ass and ask her how the big multivitamin feels...

ExecutiveChef1969 1

After reading this I feel better about my small unit

jsidethecat -5

Dude listen to me. She is fucking somebody else. Watch out

darthphallic 3

Don’t listen to this guy, based on his post history he’s not even remotely a relationship expert.

jsidethecat 0

Uhmmm.... i just made a post about how to know if a girl is faking it or something . Does that mean im not a relationship expert? Based on your post history, i saw your selfie, you look like a “relationship eggspert”’

darthphallic 1

Several of them!

But I’m just proving a point about jumping to conclusions. She sent him a popular meme, that hardly indicates she’s cheating on him. Just like you not knowing about the female orgasm works doesn’t mean you’re oblivious about relationships!

RottenRedRod -5

Dude... It's a joke. The point of the joke is the fragile masculinity of the guys who consider themselves the "you" in the meme. You're falling right into that trap. Lighten up and calm down.

thick_salmon 17

What a bs excuse of a response. That’s not a joke, that’s just an insult.

difficult_vaginas 6

What? The "joke" is that women are likely to cheat on their average boyfriends with better endowed men. The impact of the joke may rely on fragile masculinity, but the joke itself isn't about that.

Biothickness -3

You don’t have to find a joke funny for it to be a joke.

ciownu 0

that's not much of a joke now is it

Biothickness -1

You don’t have to get or like every joke that others get or like.

The “You vs the guy she tells you not to worry about” meme has become a common joke. Some variants are more funny than others.

piximelon -11

Your fragile masculinity is showing

Call_Down_For_What 19

I'm genuinely curious what a comment like this is supposed to achieve besides patting yourself on the back on how above it all you are. It's not even a discussion of "hey, it's not a big deal because of XYZ, check out this relevant social sciences concept". It's literally just a jab.

Your last post mentioned having irrational fears of home invasions. How would you feel if people were commenting that it's your weakness as a fragile woman unable to defend herself is showing? Dismissing people's concerns helps no one. On a related note, I hope you stay safe and can get past that with time.

Let's all try a little more empathy to each other, no one is perfect and when someone is then they can start jabbing at other people

/rant hat off

piximelon -7

My weakness as a fragile woman IS showing, lol.

The intended reaction was for OP to go, “Huh yeah maybe I’ve overreacted a bit.”

Call_Down_For_What 5

Sigh, you won't get it so nevermind I wont waste our time

On a related note... holy shit that was a ridiculously fast reply... wow that was honestly weird lol. Like I made the comment, edited one sentence right after, and already had a reply waiting for me. Huh.

Miss me with that childish insult shit, life's too short to engage back. Have a good day

piximelon 1

Okay, because you didn’t do every childish thing in the book, like going through my posts or commenting on how quickly I replied. I decided you weren’t worth my respect when you said I “just won’t get it”. You do the same!

TheBeerMonkey 13

Sorry but what? We all have insecurities, why should some be looked down upon and others not?

piximelon -2

The fact that he was upset enough by a joke to make this post is far more unattractive than his (according to him) average-ish penis, I promise.

TheBeerMonkey 16

You've never been irrationally upset over something you shouldn't be? Making jokes about "fragile masculinity" is neither mature nor helpful.

And anyway, this sub is meant to be sex positive. Most people I dare say have some body image issues one way or another, comments like yours don't help anybody.

piximelon -4

I wasn’t making a joke. He says his girlfriend praises his sexual performance, unprompted. That is her letting him know she’s satisfied. She makes a joke, has to explain that it’s a joke (which she shouldn’t have really had to do considering it’s obviously a joke), and he remains hung up on something that wasn’t meant to be taken personally. Because he thinks that his average penis cannot satisfy her, even though according to her, it does.

TheBeerMonkey 12

Sorry but your initial post comes off as more of a joke rather than helpful commentary. We should be providing helpful advice and not trendy jabs about OP's masculinity.

I agree with what you've said about OP taking what was intended as a joke a bit personally, but again everybody has insecurities and just because you would take something as a joke and accept it as is, doesn't mean OP has to and neither should he be belittled for doing so.

piximelon 1

Why would you want to help OP roll around in his worries about the size of his penis instead of trying to get him to see that nothing was meant by the joke? What is actually helpful to him is moving on after realizing that he has taken a joke personally, and that his girlfriend is satisfied with him.

chunky_water 11

No. This fella is asking for advice to get over it. Just saying "lol its a joke u small peepee guy" is NOT gonna help. Regardless of whether or not his gf intended for it to be a joke it hurt him and that inquires an apology. Calling a girl a whore as a joke might be truly intended as a joke but if she is offended then ir requires an apology. Its about posotivity. You can't just say get over it. You can't just say grow up.

piximelon 1

Calling a girl a whore and sending someone a meme are two different things completely. One is directed at the person you’re talking to and one is sharing something funny. I have literally not once referred to him as having a small penis, at all. Either way. Still stand by my original comment, although it could be interpreted harshly I suppose, it’s still true considering that he has no basis for thinking his girlfriend isn’t satisfied.

chunky_water 8

What if he truly mean it as a joke? I thought intention matters more than the reaction? What if he truly doesn't think of her as a whore but only made a joke about it and explained that it was a joke? Point is if it hurt then it deserves an apology. Its not just harsh the things you've said and perhaps I'm being very non challant but the fact remains that he was offended and needs healing. Not you pointing out his "fragile masculinity". Id think we are all fragile about something.

TheBeerMonkey 8

Who said anything about helping OP roll around in his worries? I'm saying that you can be more empathetic to someone's potential insecurities than simply saying his masculinity is fragile. Do you really think that what you commented is good, helpful advice?

If you want to reinforce the point that hey, your partner apparently says that the sex is great and you wouldn't worry about it too much that's great.

But that isn't what you said at all.

piximelon 1

I feel for him having an insecurity. Pretty much everyone has at least one. That isn’t a reason to ignore everything your partner actually says and replace it with assumptions. That is no one’s fault but OP’s, and he should probably address that with a therapist or some deep introspection, rather than holding his girlfriend accountable for sending him a meme.

That actually is pretty spot on for my husband’s sense of humor. We’re both comfortable enough to fuck with each other like that without the other getting all butthurt. I have actually responded to him giving me shit for something or other by saying “you’re just mad because you have a small penis”

See, he knows I am satisfied with him and his dick, so he wasn’t offended. Just like I know my pussy doesn’t taste like... tuna? Whatever that was lol

chunky_water 8

Right but you miss the point. You are ok with getting sh*t on but this fella isnt. This subreddit is for sexual positivity not for you to come in like "oh deal with it you insecure little boy haha small peepee". If anything your projected "strength" towards verbal aggression has nothing to do with this fellas insecurities and thus your opinion is not only useless in this context, it is also unwanted.

piximelon 4

The point is that she was not “shitting on him”. That is the point.

errantdashingseagull 6

We’re both comfortable enough to fuck with each other

I have actually responded to him giving me shit for something or other by saying “you’re just mad because you have a small penis”

If your point was that she wasn't shitting on him, then why give examples of you and your partner doing exactly that for fun?

piximelon 3

Those are not the same thing. When you say “shitting on” that implies malicious intent.

chunky_water 5

You don't know her intent. She made a joke at his expense about his physicality. The dude is saying that it made him conscious and he's asking for advice. Do you not see how toxic you are being to this fella?

piximelon 7

Nope, because she wasn’t making a joke about HIM at all. I am willing to bet money on it. His assumptions are going against everything she has actually told him about how she feels about him, and his dick, and his ability to satisfy her.

TheBeerMonkey 4

The joke, as told here literally compares "You" versus "the guy she tells you not to worry about"

You can argue till you're blue in the face but if she has sent this to him personally, it absolutely referred to him regardless of if she necessarily believed what she was sending or not.

errantdashingseagull 3

Of course I would respond to an outlier... well, that's cool for the two of you. Do you think most women would share your reaction to their partner joking that they taste like fish, or that most men would be fine with their partner repeatedly joking that they have a small penis?

Some people like to be pissed on, some people are amused by jokes about babies in blenders. If their partner(s)/friends share their tastes, then by all means enjoy those things together. But you probably wouldn't say someone is "fragile" if they didn't like being surprised with piss in the face or a joke that would offend a majority of the population, right?

piximelon 3

To me, the only thing that matters here is that he ought to know she is satisfied with his dick, because she has said as much. So taking her joke as an insult just makes no sense, especially after she explains that it’s a joke. His entire post is based on assumptions, and he ignores what she actually tells him about how she feels.

MaryToddLinkedIn 1

This is as fucking stupid as guys that use "but I'd LOVE to be catcalled/groped by a stranger!" to downplay or justify harassment

piximelon 2

Where is the harassment?

Ecrophon 1

This took me a long time to catch up to you. Hey. What's up

MaryToddLinkedIn 0

I didn't say you're doing harassment, I'm saying that defense used by harassers ("I'm ok with it being done to me, therefore everyone should be") is the same one you're using to put down the OP.

I didn't think it'd have to be said explicitly, but not everybody is ok with being insulted.

piximelon 1

Except all I did was respond to someone trying to get me to say I would be just as offended in a similar situation to OP. That wasn’t a defense, that was a response to a bad argument.

OutlawOW 2

I agree with you. You’ve been downvoted but you are 100% right

TheNewBo

It's a shit test, welcome to women. Stop freaking out, she's looking to see if you will. She's poking at you manhood not because she's a bitch, but because she wants to see if you are. You've already talked about it making you upset, so you failed the test.

OutlawOW

I’m gonna be blunt as possible . Quit being a little bitch it wasn’t directed towards you it’s a joke . That’s it no if ands or buts .

But great now she’s gonna feel like she has to tippy toe around you with jokes because you take some personal offense to it .

captainorganic07

Send her my way. My penis is big and does some serious damage to some girls. Foreplay can get tiresome, I just want a quickie sometimes. They'll come crawling back to you after a weekend in a wheelchair. They all want a bigger dick, until they don't.