As of late it seems ft members have branched out into groups, like only talking to some members and like completely ignoring others. I'm not trying to call out anyone but it would be nice if we all tried interacting with each other. It just doesn't feel as welcoming anymore. We are trying to make ft a better place after all So please at least try interacting or helping everyone I hope my thoughts get taken to consideration

I've noticed this too. I've kind of stopped posting to certain boards since everyone seems so 'established' in a way. It just feels like I'm interrupting something in a place where I don't feel welcome anyway.

Pretty much all of this. In the course of over 1 year here, I've talked to 3 people here. 2 of which left, the other is buried in college, so I don't want to take time away from them. Maybe its the fact I don't have Skype and the social medias, maybe its because I don't go out of my way to meet new people. But it sucks being all the way on RickyMcGee island.

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I'll be honest, I fail to personally see anything too wrong. Of course, I'm not good with this stuff. Thanks disabilities.Eh.. actually, nevermind. I can see obvious groups, and obvious preferences. 'Tis a shame.

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I agree! It's the whole reason why I don't post sometimes. I just get ignored, but I try to help everyone or I don't just ignore people's comments, I reply to whoever said something I feel I can reply to, no matter who they are.

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I just have to say I agree, I mean I know we've always had cliques/groups but I think its been especially bad lately.I was extremely disheartened when my Thanksgiving post was largely ignored. I thought people would add their own sentiments, or at least respond to mine. I spent a while articulating that post, and to have it ignored was kinda a blow.It just reinforces that people would rather do their own thing than talk to a lowly admin, I guess.

I don't mean to throw shade, but it IS very discouraging. I'm glad you all are able to find friends, since that's kinda what its about, but if that gets so difficult that threads like this have to be made...then we're failing at something

Guess why I still have red despite being on here for almost a year with a HUGE hiatus in the middle.

I don't feel like anyone really interacts with me, forum games kind of feel disconnected too.

That's why I lurk alot lately, it's mainly the fact that whatever happens I feel ignored and it does make me not to act in the first place, you know?

Now this doesn't make the site bad, I just think more people should put stuff like "pm me!" in thier sig, it feels wierd but it feels like there atleast some form of encouragement towards interaction.

Now we can't stop the formation of groups and cliques, but that's okay.What we just need is more open interaction, as in if someone new says something just awknowledge it a bit more, it gives a more welcoming vibe.

And I would refrain more from insiders, since those kinda stop active communication happening.

This feels really hypocritical because my AMA thread are literally me and Calyx bantering, but I will change my stuff to that now, like my signature and all.

I reckon that people should be encouraged more to talk to others. Hell, if it weren't for Making Friends thread I would never be bantering with lion.

I can kinda see why this grouping occurs. I feel like this place is like school in between lessons and shit. Thats why the groups are there.

Look at the social groups at school, then look at the social groups here. Kinda similar? I can go out onto my school yard and see people standing in groups:The nerds, the rejects, the weird kids, the b4nt3r squad featuring moi, the sports people etc

When you take this in mind and substitute weird and sporty and reject etc for the groupings heres, it falls into place.

I reckon that people should be encouraged more to talk to others. Hell, if it weren't for Making Friends thread I would never be bantering with lion.

I can kinda see why this grouping occurs. I feel like this place is like school in between lessons and shit. Thats why the groups are there.

Look at the social groups at school, then look at the social groups here. Kinda similar? I can go out onto my school yard and see people standing in groups:The nerds, the rejects, the weird kids, the b4nt3r squad featuring moi, the sports people etc

When you take this in mind and substitute weird and sporty and reject etc for the groupings heres, it falls into place.

Do i make sense or do I sound like a fuckhead?

Completely agree with this point.I guess I could try to break out of my shell, just a little. I like to talk to a few people at a time before introducing myself to new ones.

yeah, i feel. i don't feel like i get left out often, but i'm personally not really part of any groups as far as i know hahahaha. i'm just kind of a friendly outsider. though i have seen plenty of others get looked over. me, people reading this, everyone, we all have to pitch in a little to settle the cliques a bit. cliques aren't gonna go away of course (lol that's impossible) but we can make them less prevalent by being friendly

I feel like I am supposed to reply to this somehow, because I myself have a group of friends like that here. Although I try to, as well as encourage the others in my group to, interact with other people. I'm sorry if anyone ever felt intimidated, or unwelcome by/to Salsa, we are just a few kids who like to talk to each other, and probably are most of the other groups, In fact most of my friends there are well known here and have many friends outside the group, so please don't feel afraid to approach any of us. I for one am always looking for new friends.

Edit: To any other groups out there as well as my own, personally I haven't seen any others.. But to them. Having a group of friends that you trust is fine in my eyes, but you should always be open to find new friends, for all you know that new kid could end up your BFF for life. Seriously, go interact! You never know what awesome people your missing!

Yeah...I've really made no friends while being on this forum. I'm still wondering why I come back here tbh; all I do is lurk now-and-days. And even trying to get social w/ other people always fails. Maybe I don't belong here...

I have a possible theory as to why these groups might be formed. When we're new to the forum, we're pretty nervous and don't know what to do since we probably don't have that much experience in this kind of sites. We wander around a bit and post every now and then, and then we suddenly click with one of the other members. When that happens, we tend to reply to them because we kinda know how they think and it's a familiar feeling, although a very faint one. As time passes, the bond of the group grows stronger it becomes natural to reply to them.

However, while that would be normal behavior, when the groups are already formed, it becomes a bit more intimidating joining, because the newer members will see these groups that were already formed and they'll feel left out, while the others might want to let them join their group, they might also push them a bit away without really meaning to.

What this means is that while we have the intention to be more welcoming, we might accidentally not be as welcoming as we believe we are. The real struggle here would be trying to come up with something to do to avoid this and I think that the most effective way to deal with this is realizing that we might be part of it, and just keeping this in mind whenever we're posting on the forum