Bride And Groom "Not Speaking" To Best Man After He Upstages Them At Their Ceremony

06 June 2017

Would you be annoyed at this?

A bride is torn between ending a long-term friendship or just "getting over it" after the groom's best man upstaged the couple on their wedding day.

The irate bride wrote to Slate's agony aunt Prudence, with the subject line: "My husband’s best friend proposed to his girlfriend during our wedding ceremony."

She went on to explain how it all went down:

'My husband and I started dating, got pregnant, had a child, moved in together, bought a house, and got a dog in that order.

'We’ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love. My husband’s best friend, “John,” was the best man/officiant.'

'The entire atmosphere felt moving. So moving in fact that John stopped midceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, “Jane,” and reveal her pregnancy.

'I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her.'

'Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter. When John gave his toast, he apologized for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us.'

She continued: 'I’ve never been an attention hog, and I wouldn’t even have minded if he’d proposed after the ceremony, but weeks later I am still seething.'

'Our mutual friends think what he did was rude but that my husband should just get over it.'

'Do you think John’s behavior warrants the end of a long-term friendship, or are we angry over nothing?'

Prudence responded saying that there is another option - talk it out.

In between “getting over it” and “never speaking to John again” is the happy medium of “having a difficult conversation with a longtime friend who did something selfish and self-absorbed on your wedding day.”

Maybe John will apologize and the two of them can have a meaningful reconciliation and build a better friendship as a result.

What do you think? Would you be able to move past it? Let us know in the comments.