My dd is 4years old now and ds will be 3years old in July and I'm desperately hankering after getting pregnant with my third but my dh says "oh maybe in about 7 years"

SEVEN YEARS!!! Not likely, he'll be lucky if 7 months passes!He said we couldn't afford it and then when I proved we could he decided actually he wasn't ready and is sticking rigidly to that now. I def don't want to wait 7 years cos thats practically encouraging inter-sibling gang rivalry!!!

Me too. DS2 is only 4 weeks old. He wasn't going to be our last, then DH decided that pregnancy was too traumatic. He is right, it would be stupid to do it again. I was at the end of my tether and really not well mentally or physically by the end of the pg. If we stuck to two, we could give them more time and more opportunities. But I still want one. Was hoping DS2's birth would make me feel complete but it doesn't. (I know, give it time, too early to be stressing about this etc. BUT I AM)

I wish that I had known that the broodiness was pregnancy related and would pass in a couple of years...I was convinced that I would be sitting in a bedsit in my 80s, fantasising about the child I had never had

5 years on, I am stretched to the limit, and would run a mile from conceiving another baby

I didn't want anymore after dd3 was born, couldn't bear the thought! 3 years later memories faded and along came dd4, when she was only a day old I remember saying 'I could do this again!', dc5 will be due in October! Don't think the broodiness will ever go away, but I know that dc5 will be our last, which is tough but the right thing! Good luck with fighting it!

Kaylo....Know the feeling! DH changed his mind whilst ttc #5, devestated! Had to do a bit of begging too, set a time limit for the end of feb if I wasn't pg by then that would have been it....#5 sneaked in and I was positive it hadn't happened as DH was only home for one weekend and I thought too early in my cycle, shows how much I know

DD1 starts school this year, DD2 next year but I do worry about not having enough time for them all as well as everything else.

I asked DH "do you think we will have another baby?" yesterday he said "possibly"

The thing is I don't want to wait another few years as I don't think it would be fair on the baby as there is 18 months between DD1 and 2 then 2 1/2 years between DD2 and 3 and I woulnd't want anymore of a gap than 2 -2 1/2 years.

D'you know, SK, I opened this thread wondering if it might be you? Can't help, I am not where near as broody as you are. I am sad that I won't be pg again, that my days of bfeeding are drawing to a close, that my baby is crawling etc but I know that here is where we draw the line. Can't face DC4 being in SCBU like DD3 was, getting too old for it, DH happy with what we have (I think he would have liked a son but that's nop guarantee anyway). I think DH wants me back to work too.

I like the idea of what someone else said, give youself a time limit and see what you feel like then. FWIW, I have a good friend who is 4 years younger than her nearest sibling, and the other siblings are all close together in age. She loved it, as the older ones rarely fought with her, only with each other and doted on her mostly.

I am quite handy with a carpet beater, if you still want it beaten out of you......

sweetkitty I know all about furniture rearranging I found myself measuring up with a tape measure just to make sure it would fit, then theres the possibility of twins so off I went again with my little tool bag Have you spoken to your DH and explained the benefits of having a baby sooner rather than later? It took me 5months of begging to get DH to even complete a conversation on it to find out how eachother felt about it.

stripey Same again really, have a quiet heart to heart with DH and explain how important this is for you, perhaps he has things on his mind that is preventing him from taking it as seriously as you?

Big Smiles to you both and keeping my fingers crossed for everyone on this thread

poledra - oh no I have been rumbled I must admit today I had to go for a school visit with DD1 and trying to fill in forms with DD3 screaming the place down and DD2 being well DD2 was hard, everyone else seemed to have no other children so I was the only one there with siblings, at one point I had to take DD3 out of the room as noone could hear the teacher. So I am thinking "how the hell am I ever thinking about another one"? I cannot do school and nursery run with SPD can I?