Bridesmaids…UGHHHH!

Hello ladies! Yes, I’ve been engaged for almost a year and have basically known who my bridesmaids were going to be ever since, well now with a little over 12 weeks to go….I still have some bridesmaids that still haven’t ordered their dresses…………..Let alone contacted me just to talk. I’m really at that point where, I honestly dont care if they decide to get it together or not. At the end of the day, its about my love and myself… I know that, but it still makes me angry because I would never ever act like that as a bridesmaid. Anyone dealing with the same problems? Maybe I need to take a second and breathe…..

@soon2bmrsdam: I agree with PP. You don’t need to come at them at all. If they show up without the dress, tell them to go have a seat. They clearly know by now they need the dress, you don’t need to tell them anything else.

@AnonymousCupcake: How did you go about it? Did any friendships, relationships drift away because of it? i dont want to lose a friend over my wedding but I feel at the end of the day since they know how passionate I am about my wedding that they would atleast pretend to care. Time is winding down, and I’m so over it all.

@soon2bmrsdam: Well, everyone did show up with their dress… Some were attempting to raise the hemlines and iron/steam the major wrinkles out of them (from clearly tossing them in a crumpled ball on the floor for storage), but they did show up with them. So I mean, that part worked out.

A lot of bees will tell you the “no one cares about your wedding as much as you” which I assume you understand. But I truly feel like friends support each other, and it sucks not to feel like your bridesmaids can be bothered, because this is a big deal! Supporting friends for their big events is what friends do!!. In my experience, it was more of a selfish (and maybe younger/immature) friend problem, rather than “just” a BM problem.

I did ask one BM to step down (but this was pretty early on). We aren’t friends any more, but I honestly shouldn’t have asked her in the first place (well.. She asked to be in the wedding). That situation was a bit more extreme than just not caring. The others were a few friends and cousins, and it really just showed me how much they really cared about me (or not). I wouldn’t say we aren’t friends, but I definitely don’t go above and beyond for them anymore.

oh my! Well atleast they all showed up 🙂 I do have a few that are very interested and help me out a lot. Just thinking, I shouldn’t have jumped the ball with some and just kept it to a minimum but my fh wanted 6 groomsmen so I wanted it to be even….

I had this problem with one bridesmaid. She doesn’t mean any harm shes just very…flighty. I actually bought her dress and shipped it to her. I know she got it altered because our moms are actually very close but I haven’t heard from her now two weeks about about timelines, cost, anything. I know she sees my facebook messages so I am just hoping she checks her email soon. I know she hasn’t in a few days because one of the things I sent lets me know if its been opened. If she shows up (shes flying with her parents and boyfriend) to the rehearsal and has her dress I will be happy. Sometimes you just have to shrug and realize not everyone is as organized or reliable as others but ultimately you just have to let it go and hope they come through.