Sex Q&A: How Can I Make My Mate Comfortable With My Vibrator?

Q.

My husband is afraid of me using a vibrator because he's worried it'll replace him. How can I make him more comfortable with the idea?

A.

Many men fear they'll become redundant when their woman whips out a vibrator. The perfect scenario is having both of you feel comfortable with a battery-powered friend. How? First off, you could choose one that in no way, shape, or form resembles a penis. The quirky "rabbit" vibrator, the "butterfly" that fits over your clitoris, or the little finger vibes that slip onto his index finger are all possible options. Rev him up by saying you'll do a bit of a show for him -- lie back and pleasure yourself right in front of him, then let him take over. You could also point out that just because he has a hand, you're not redundant, are you? Enough said.

Nestpert Dr. Pam Spurr, author of Make Love All Night & Talk to Him in the Morning and Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple's Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure