I have always been a sensitive person and whenever I have felt something, I have felt ‘it’ in a big way. So on my journey as stepmum, whatever feelings I had to deal with I felt with such force that I remember thinking one day ‘I can’t keep this up!’ […]

Being a stepmom forces us to deal with so many things that are out of our control. Crazy ex-wives, different rules and influences from another household, and the impact of those external forces on our family. Being assertive and standing up for what we believe is important in life, but […]

The shoulds kicked my butt this week. I was feeling sorry for myself and I even threw myself a pity party. It was a rough week. I hate to admit it, but I had a very negative energy, which only escalated from bad to worse. I’ve always considered myself an optimist. I […]

This is the time of year with plenty of gatherings for friends and family that create opportunities for fun and frivolity. A time to celebrate, share, give and receive. It’s joyous and magical. But for some, it shines a spotlight on everything wrong and on those things missing. It can […]

Tip 1: Plan in Advance It is often the ‘unknown’ that causes stress, so sit down with your partner and make a plan – be sure to coordinate with the biological mom. Tip 2: Loosen Schedules (a little bit) We can get very ‘schedule focused’, especially when we see kids […]

Several stepmoms are having the exact same problem. We feel as though the ex-wife has a front row seat into our private lives and relationship. Sometimes I felt as though the ex-wife was a puppeteer pulling the strings in our lives and my husband wasn’t preventing this intrusion. I experienced […]

PART 2 4. Forgiveness Forgiveness is a voluntary process to let go of negative feelings or bitterness. The key here is the word VOLUNTARY. It’s your choice to let go of offences against you and move on. This constitutes a change for you personally and change is something most people avoid […]