Hi, since I was 8 i started masturbating and i want to stop it cuz' its ruining my life. I masturbate 1-3 times a day while watching porn since the age of 11. Please help me..

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Hi there!

Thank you for trusting us!

You have reached a point where you feel the need for a change, right? That is a starting point. Acknowledging a problem is important in order to look for solutions. First, masturbating is something natural and many people use masturbation to relieve stress or just for pleasure and don't see it as a problem. It can become a problem when it interfers with the other areas of your life, such as family, friends, studies, or when it becomes a compulsion, an addiction. Do you think it applies to you?

It is no coincidence that pornography is reserved for people over 18. Being exposed to pornography when your brain has not finished its development can lead to a false perception of sexuality and the need for this type of stimulation to feel sexual pleasure. The sexuality showed in pornography is not at all the real sexuality between two persons. And there is a huge difference between fantasy and reality. Being exposed to pornography at your age can take away from you your own ability to fantasize and connect with others. Would you agree?

If you want to change this, you can do it, but know that it might be possible that you need help to do so. Some people might choose to occupy their schedule with other activities and stop exposing themselves to pornography. Sports and arts can be very helpful to manage the emotions that can rise with the feeling of withdrawal. Other people find it difficult to do that alone, so they see a counsellor or look for psychological help. What would suit you best?

I wish you all the best. Do not hesitate to call if you want to discuss this further 1-800-263-2266.