I fell in love with you in my teens and you were the most amazing girl in my life. We were together for a decade and it meant the world to me. You promised to be in my life forever, but that forever happened to be finite. Life happened, you moved to some other country with your family and love did not thrive. You chose to leave me for my own good. You broke up with me.

Love after Breakup and Breakup after Love

I was doomed after my previous experience and never thought that I will ever experience another love in my life. I was a fallen flower, you chose to pluck me in your hair. You were beautiful and sane. Days flew by and love grew stronger. I had to chose between you and my career, your sanity said I should go with career. So much did I engrossed myself in work, that there was no space for love. You came by when I was dying and you embarked life in me. You left me with life, to break me into pieces.

Marriage and Divorce

I was a broken glass. We were tied with the bond of marriage and you chose me to be your partner. You were not aware of my pain inside and all you know was that you liked me. I did like you as well, but little did I know that you were a shattered glass on your own. I cannot do any less for your pain, but I can be your companion in this journey. I chose you for I did not have any option and you chose me for you did not have any option. This was merely an agreement to mend our broken pieces and stitch in the plain of time. Time flew by and nothing essentially changed. We decided for good or bad, it was meant to end. You went your way and I went my way.

Marriage after Divorce and Divorce after Marriage

I was waiting on the banks of river, when I heard a song of love. You were lamenting the lose of your love, echoing my feelings. I sang along with you and we felt that we were meant to be. This story was going to be forever, but life is not just a song. Every day when you sung, different song, I couldn’t catch up with the rhythm. You felt I deemed the love we had and you chose to sing in a different tone. The song fell apart and so did the Marriage. You left the nest and so did the songs.

Integrity – The feelings which are spreading like water and being drunk like wine, they are being purposefully thrown into dustbins to forego of previous pain. I cannot stop wonder, where is that integrity, which was once boasted of strongly and have we come far from what it used to be, that the repair cannot be done. Are we trying to copy the culture in the middle of nowhere, only to realize that we were high with alcohol and next is just a hangover.

A boy was brought up in a family of poor. The daughters were wed and her in-laws were harsh. They would torture and suffocate her. Festivals were trouble to the girl’s family. The boy who is brought up in such a family, decides he would never do that. He wouldn’t trouble a girl’s family. Beyond that point, he decides he would never visit his in-laws, to avoid any kind of trouble to them. He is adamant in this mindset !

– Is it appropriate of him to be so ? What are the consequences of this mindset ?

A woman who is married at a very young age has to face all the troubles of life. She grows witty by the law of natures and handles every problem in life. She becomes mother at a young age and takes care of the children very well. She wasn’t well educated. She decides her kids should be educated well and a girl should be married when she is old enough. Everyone grows and gets educated well. She decides to get her girl, married old enough and in the process, she never realizes the girl is grown old already !

– When is the appropriate age for a girl to be married ? What are the consequences of this mindset ?

A boy who is brought up in a decent family, who makes a living by hard work. He is studious and determined. He completes his graduation, gets a good job, earns well. He buys a better house for his family. His parents sought out to look for a girl for him. He has never been in relationship over the period of life. He has not been out of his town. He was always aware his life partner would be one in the form of arranged marriage. He never had very close female friends and he never hung out with female friends. He is going to see a girl for his marriage. He wants to keep a big checklist to affirm if the girl is right and would be deciding in the matter of 30 minutes.

– Is it appropriate to have a checklist to find your life partner ? What are the consequences of this mindset ?

So the previous post was a sad ending, though true in many cases. Now let us take a different situation.

Situation 2 : Boy and Girl are together for study or job, for about a year. They have been good friends. Gradually feelings grow between them. One fine day, boy decides to propose girl (Yeah, Boy again). He plans for a nice dinner and lot of romantic setup. Girl is totally mesmerized and she agrees to the love proposal. Saga begins, they meet daily, go for movies, hang out together, have trips and it is a wonderful time together. After couple of years, a change happens, either college is over or a new job. Both decide to pursue the next part of life together and the Saga continues.

Day comes, when they decide that this is going to continue for the rest of life and they will be marrying each other. Boy tells at home, Girl tells at home. One of the family agrees, say the Boy family does. Girl’s family doesn’t quite agree. I will leave it up to your own imagination for the reasons of saying no. Then the girl tries to convince the family, fights with them. Days go on. Slowly and eventually things fall along. Both families meet. They work it out. Happily Married Ever After.

Quite similar to the 2 States movie, oh yeah. But let me tell you this is more of a story of 1 in 10 nowadays in major cities across India, who are in relationship ! So yeah, situation 2 is sweet, bumps in the middle but ends well.

This are the concrete kind of people who pursue their dreams and wishes. They try to accomplish what they want and are willing to pay the price. Emotions are not too strong nor very light. They are of the appropriate nature to feel the romance around and not to upset the expectations. This creates a harmony in their life and people around them. It is rare for stories to fall along the above situation, but I have seen and seeing more of the success stories around the above line.

Loving is a great feeling. Fighting for your love with your love to get your love forever along with the people who matter for you, is the challenge imposed on the new generation and those who are successful in accomplishing all of the above are my inspiration. This are people with guts. Salute to the kind. Waiting for more success stories.

Until the more stories come up and different kinds of situations are evaluated. Take care.