'Stop rape' dislodging 'stay safe' advice on social media

[&amp;amp;lt;a href="//storify.com/cbccommunity/both-sexes-boost-stop-rape-answer-to-stay-safe-adv" target="_blank"&amp;amp;gt;View the story "'Stop rape' dislodging 'stay safe' advice on social media" on Storify&amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;gt;]&amp;amp;lt;h1&amp;amp;gt;'Stop rape' dislodging 'stay safe' advice on social media&amp;amp;lt;/h1&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;h2&amp;amp;gt;Twitter hashtag #safetytipsforladies and Steubenville-inspired YouTube video flip the script about rape&amp;amp;lt;/h2&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;Storified by &amp;amp;lt;a href="http://storify.com/cbccommunity"&amp;amp;gt;CBC News Community&amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;middot; Thu, Mar 28 2013 06:31:05&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Real men don't rape!!!! #LTPicket &amp;amp;amp;lt;a href=&amp;amp;amp;quot;http://t.co/9fkEuZJ8VA&amp;amp;amp;quot; class=&amp;amp;amp;quot;&amp;amp;amp;quot;&amp;amp;amp;gt;pic.twitter.com/9fkEuZJ8VA&amp;amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;amp;gt;Social Development&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;The rally cry to shift the conversation about rape from "stay safe" -- a message normally directed at women -- to "stop rape," a directive that puts the onus on perpetrators, is gaining traction on social media. &amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;Among the latest examples: a viral YouTube video directed at 'bros' and a Twitter hashtag offering satirical safety tips to women. &amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;The former, a 26-second video called &amp;amp;lt;i&amp;amp;gt;A Needed Response &amp;amp;lt;/i&amp;amp;gt;features a young man who spots a woman passed out on a couch. &amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;A Needed ResponseSamantha Stendal&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;"Hey bros, check her passed out on the couch," he begins, with levity in his voice. "Guess what I'm going to do to her." &amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;The young man is then seen tucking a pillow under the young woman's head, covering her with a blanket, placing a glass of water beside her and moving the hair away from her face. &amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;"Real men treat women with respect," he concludes, speaking in to the camera. &amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;The short video, which was posted by Samantha Stendal, has collected over 1.4 million views since Friday. The description below it makes reference to the high-profile rape trial in Steubenville, Ohio, that &amp;amp;lt;a href="http://www.cbc.ca/day6/blog/2013/03/21/steubenville-and-the-ethics-of-reporting-on-rape/" class=""&amp;amp;gt;sparked debate&amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;gt; about the importance of appropriately framing conversations about sexual assault. &amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;What the Steubenville rape case coverage got wrong | Q with Jian Ghomeshi | CBC RadioThe media has come under fire for its coverage of the rape trial that concluded earlier this week in Steubenville, Ohio.&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Steubenville, CNN and the ethics of reporting on rape | Day 6 with Brent Bambury | CBC RadioAll eyes were on Steubenville, Ohio this week as Ma'lik Richmond and Trent Mays were convicted of raping a 16-year-old girl. The outrage ...&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;h2&amp;amp;gt;Safety tips&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;satirized&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;/h2&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;In another recent attempt to flip the script, critics of the "stay safe" approach to preventing sexual assault shared advice through the tongue-in-cheek hashtag&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;a href="https://twitter.com/search?q=%23safetytipsforladies&amp;amp;amp;amp;src=typd" class=""&amp;amp;gt;#safetytipsforladies&amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;gt;.&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;#safetytipsforladies: A hashtag about how tired women are of being told to do stupid, ineffective, unrealistic things to avoid being raped.Dylan Laverty &amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;The tag was started by blogger&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;Hillary Bowman-Smart who took issue with an article that argued risk management is different than victim blaming.&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;"I am absolutely&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;sick to death&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;of being told what to wear and what to do and how to be, as though&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;any of that&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;will somehow save me from being raped. It's not a woman's responsibility to prevent sexual assault. How about we&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;a href="http://jezebel.com/5695177/anti+rape-campaign-reaches-out-to-men-not-women" class=""&amp;amp;gt;teach men not to rape instead?&amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;gt;," she wrote. (Emphasis and link in original.)&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;"How about we recognise that being drunk, being 'sexy,' being out having fun, being loud, being trans, being queer, being sexually active - none of it causes rape, because&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;rapists cause rape?"&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Bowman-Smart's hashtag, which was launched last week, has had considerable staying power. New tips are still being added at time of posting.&amp;amp;lt;strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/strong&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;#safetytipsforladies don't dress too provocatively in public. Follow picture for appropriate outerwear &amp;amp;amp;lt;a href=&amp;amp;amp;quot;http://t.co/FOldS5IpkY&amp;amp;amp;quot; class=&amp;amp;amp;quot;&amp;amp;amp;quot;&amp;amp;amp;gt;pic.twitter.com/FOldS5IpkY&amp;amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;amp;gt;kayden rodger&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Most rapes happen inside or outside. Avoid these places #safetytipsforladiesSarahphina&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Most rapes happen above ground. Build a sprawling underground lair and adapt to a life without sun. #safetytipsforladiesDana Contreras&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Since rapists target people of all types, try to ascend into a bodiless being of pure energy. #SafetyTipsForLadiesKO&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Since most rapes are committed by someone you may know, un-know everyone #safetytipsforladiesKatharine Heller&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Don't wear your hair in a ponytail. In fact, shave it all &amp;amp;amp;amp; grease yourself up good so you'll be too slippery to grab. #safetytipsforladiesSnail&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Make sure you don't drink too much. But also don't not drink at all, you prude killjoy. #safetytipsforladiesMel&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;The Twitter hashtag and YouTube video are not the first to shift the onus and ask for men to join the fight against sexual assault.&amp;amp;amp;nbsp;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;br&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;From a mother's &amp;amp;lt;a href="http://www.askmoxie.org/2013/03/a-letter-to-my-sons-about-stopping-rape.html" class=""&amp;amp;gt;post-Steubenville blog post&amp;amp;lt;/a&amp;amp;gt; teaching her own young boys to always seek consent (and to stop anyone who doesn't) to a series of older public service announcements and campaigns, pressure is mounting to make "don't rape" the new "stay safe."&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;quot;Don't Rape Her&amp;amp;amp;quot; PSAhannahmcnoface&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div&amp;amp;gt;Blunt anti-sex assault ads target men - Ottawa - CBC NewsA new series of provocative, anti-date rape ads take aim at men with a simple and direct message: Don't Be That Guy. 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