When my parents split 30 years ago, my mother could have taken half the house, and she didn’t with the consensus it would go to me someday.

My father has since remarried “around five years ago” and then had a pretty bad stroke a few months ago. He is now leaving the house to my stepmom who is “supposed” to leave it to me. I would be ok with it, but my stepmom has begun to alienate me.

She’s called me a vulture who is waiting for his father to die, made up stories about me and ignored me when I tried to reconcile with her to make things right.

I have not always been the best son, and there has been drama in the past but the past few years have gone smooth, and I recently have made great strides in the right direction.

I’m 32 years old and staying with my mother “who thinks I should write him off,” but I’m very clean cut and just waiting on hearing from the Navy recruiter.

My father had a lot of help from his father, took over the family business and was also cut a deal on the house. His parents did a lot for him, so I am having a hard time with him potentially leaving me with nothing, especially when you consider he used to tell me I would get so much more, such as another house and part of a business/building.

He seems to not care about me anymore. He says he loves me but his actions seem to speak otherwise. As of this point Id only be sticking around in the hope that my stepmom wouldn’t completely screw me.

My question is of course, should I stick around or cut my losses and move on?

I think I’m a great guy with tons of potential and don’t want to give them the self-satisfaction of having me in their lives when they will probably screw me in the end and leave it all to her kids because she outlived him.

Move on. Let go of what you can’t control and live your life, make it the best you can and then you won’t feel like you are without.

If it is meant to be yours, then it will be. Keep a good relationship with your father, be there for him and love him as the father who gave you all he could when you were growing up, he owes you nothing and you okay without it.