Remind yourself that you are in charge of your life. You are the one who is in charge of your perception of you. Others might not see you through eyes of love at all times, but you can!

When you let the actions and words of another bother you – see it as a gift. A gift that gives you the opportunity to refocus and recreate your emotional balance. See it as an opportunity to strenghten your unconditional, loving perception of you.

“To meet someone who really hurts you, is to meet a rare and precious treasure. Hold that person in high esteem, and make full use of the opportunity to eradicate your defects and make progress on the path. If you cannot yet feel love and compassion for those who treat you badly, it is a sign that your mind has not been fully transformed, and that you need to keep working on it with increased application.”

– Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

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This is an interesting view on how to see your difficulties. Everything can be of value and everything can inspire you to becomestronger as a person. You can find value in everything that happens to you – including the behaviour of others – especially those who treat you badly.

Those who love you and always approve of you and what you do don’t teach you to love unconditionally. They are just easy to appreciate and love because they act in loving ways. But those who behave in deterimental ways, they are your true inspirers and teachers of unconditional love and unconditional happiness. If you can find your way to love again and to feel happy again – even though they did this awful thing – now you are free. You don’t need them to behave in ways that please you, in order to feel pleased. What an empowered gift! ❤❤❤

Isnt it amazing that our thoughts have such power? What you choose to think affects your mood, your behaviour and the action you choose to participate in.

Even if you have been a grumpy old toad your entire life, you can still choose different thoughts now and as you continue to do so you can go from being the most negative person you know to the most loving, caring, sweet and positive person you know. It is all up to you. And it really, only is about the little daily choices you make, the choices of thoughts – and you can do something about that.

Why not be more light hearted about everything? Why not spend your time either appreciating something, enjoying something, seeing the humor in the situation or soothing yourself into relief – no matter what the situation might be.

You don’t have to spend your moments pointing out flaws, criticising or feeling bad about something. You don’t have to spend your life feeling guilty, blameful or sad because of some injustice that happened. You always have a choice. You can let your experiences strenghten you by focusing even more clearly on who you now know you WANT to be, how you WANT to feel and what you WANT to experience.