Be the person you needed. When you were little. When you felt alone. When you felt scared. When it was starting. When it was ending. When you weren’t sure it was going to work. Be the person you needed. Filed under: Wishes for self, 2018.

We’re problem solvers. We want to fix things. When we’re low we want to make ourselves feel better. Fast. We might ask ourselves, “What can I do to feel better right now?” That question tends to lead to short-term solutions. Solutions that focus on pleasure over happiness. Maybe it’s the pleasure of excesses—I don’t feel…

I’m taking a break for the last 10 days of 2017. A break from social media, a break from content, a break from the ding-ding-ding of notifications. No Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, Facebook, Snapchat, or Facebook. No news. No email on my phone. It’s back to basics. Back to using a phone as a phone and…

Crack it open. Burn it down. Stand in ashes. Sometimes that’s what you need to do. Sometimes that’s the only way forward. Sometimes, you need to dig before you can build. With the end of a year and the beginning of another upon us, it’s a perfect time to think about what we don’t want…

I’ve had it all wrong. Happiness isn’t the opposite of depression. It isn’t the other side of sadness. And it certainly isn’t the same as pleasure. Happiness is a process. It’s the byproduct of growth. Growth that comes from engaging in actives that challenge you, that demand your all-consuming attention. Activities you lose yourself in,…

“No one wants your perfection.” I so desperately wish I believed that. I mean I do! My brain gets it, it really does. But my heart? It hasn’t quite caught up yet. It’s still under the impression that anything less than perfect isn’t worth sharing. And that if you suspect you can’t do something perfectly,…