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For me it would be her body language and how she "controls" the room. If she is confident and holds herself well, I notice her (doesn't mean I am attracted to her, but I do have respect for her)

The second thing is a great smile - if she shows a sign of happiness it has a way of drawing me in. We are all way too serious these days - smile and laugh. Life is far too short!The night that changed my life, a four part series of a married man lusting after his co-worker

Unless some outstanding feature catches my eye, I don't often take a woman apart at first glance. It's the total being that catches my eye. How does she move? How does she smile? Is she a confident person? Although, even as I write this, I'm realizing that one of the first things I ALWAYS notice is her voice. I find some voices immediately attractive.

First thing I notice? I don't know that there is just one thing. Something needs to stand out but it isn't always the same thing. A particularly pretty face might do it for one woman, nice breasts for another, long dark hair usually does it. Something in how she smiles or greets me in some cases. Even how she dresses; she might not be pretty or have a killer figure, but if she knows how to dress her body for maximum effect, that might do it.A student sets out to interview a reclusive former academic and learns more than he expected in

To be honest, the very first thing any guy notices about a woman is that she's female. After that it's a checklist of things as to why she WON'T hold your attention rather than the other way around - this is pretty much done in the blink of an eye on a subconscious level.

The more noticeable you are (ie the more skin you show off) the more likely you are to get attention - the sort of attention you get is, of course, in the eye of the beholder.

You may get some responses from men on here saying that a woman's personality is the first thing they notice. Just so you know, these men are all disingenuous liars of the lowest order and cannot in any way be trusted.

I am honestly inclined to disagree with you. It may be hard to believe but there are those of us out there who, when we were looking for a woman (I have one now and I am very happy with her) actually did notice other things besides her body first. Not all men look at women like pieces of meat to be done with as they please... There are those of us, though we are few and far between, who actually like having an intelligent conversation with a woman no matter her appearance. As far as noticing she's a female first in most cases that is rather obvious. I, for one, am rather insulted that you would call anyone who says that he notices a woman's personality before anything else a liar. I think the fact that you notice or know that she is a female is implied in the question so that is a moot point. As far as maybe not being able to tell her personality from a distance, an observant man would be able to look at how she interacts with her friends or other guys who go up to her and be able to tell whether or not she is friendly or a snob.

I, for one, am rather insulted that you would call anyone who says that he notices a woman's personality before anything else a liar. I think the fact that you notice or know that she is a female is implied in the question so that is a moot point. As far as maybe not being able to tell her personality from a distance, an observant man would be able to look at how she interacts with her friends or other guys who go up to her and be able to tell whether or not she is friendly or a snob.

You probably could...but how long are you looking at this girl to assess all of that? There are a lot of women in the world. You'd have to have an attraction to something before you set up a stakeout looking for their personality.

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