Toddler Diapering — Ending the Changing Wars

Updated: January 23, 2015

Got a toddler in diapers? Then read on for tips on handling your little kicker, wrestler, nudist, or "helper."

There’s so much to love about toddlers. They’re busy, active, curious, and incorrigible — all of which is cute most of the time but not the best combo when you want (and need!) them to lie still on the changing table. Here’s how to avoid toddler diapering battles and make changes easier on both of you.

If she wants to go naked, let her — within reason (of course not every time and place is appropriate for bare toddler bottoms). The bottom line is that toddlers are naturally curious about their bodies, which is why they enjoy being naked so much. A little bare air time after a diaper cleanup or a bath can help cure or prevent diaper rash, too.

If she wants to help, find her a job to do. She can hand you supplies, like a clean diaper or a tube of cream (with the top securely tightened). Or she can dab herself with a clean wipe after you’ve finished your end of the cleanup. If she needs a change of clothes, she can choose from the two outfits you offer. Another way she can help: by washing her hands when the diapering deed is done, or letting you wash them (a good habit to get into, anyway).

If she wants to stand up during diaper changes, make her day (sometimes) and change her where she stands — whether it’s in the kitchen, bathroom, laundry room, or any other room in the house with an easily washable floor. Give her a toy to hold or a book to flip through so you can keep her busy during toddler diapering. (Quick tip: If she’s wearing a snap-crotch shirt, undo the snaps, then refasten one over her shoulder to keep the flaps out of the way.)

If you’re faced with a toddler in diapers who runs away or fights you when it’s time for a change, check your child for diaper rash. If her bottom feels sore, she might not want you to touch it. Be extra gentle (and try to get to the root of the rash so you can prevent it in the future).

If she just plain hates the changing table, try a change of place. Spread out a thick towel and/or a waterproof pad to transform any flat, safe surface (no heights, please) into a toddler diapering destination — say, the middle of the family-room floor, beside her block-tower-in-progress. Pop a few supplies into a traveling tote and you’re good to go, wherever your toddler wants to be.

If she doesn’t like surprises, don’t spring a change on her when she’s engrossed in an activity. Give her a warning. You can set a timer, or give her a heads-up for bottoms up: “When we finish reading this book, I’ll change your diaper” or “At the end of Elmo’s song” (and then invite Elmo along to the change).

If she doesn’t want to miss playtime, make toddler diapering more fun. Have your supplies ready so you can get the job done quickly, and give your child her own supply of distractions — special toys and books that come out only at changing time. Or sing a silly song, tell a funny story, or zoom in for a big belly smooch.