to be pissed off?

DF's sister is getting married on Saturday, when we got the invite it was made clear my DC weren't invited (not DF's but we've been together almost 3 years and he is very much an involved 'stepdad', especially as ExH lives a distance away and only sees them once or twice a year)I thought fair enough her choice to have a child free wedding, then found out there was one child invited - her fiances grandchild who's 2 - thought ok not too chuffed but hey ho arranged my elderly parents to keep DC

DP has spoken to his dad today, we're staying at thiers on the night of the wedding, and it turns out also staying at thiers and going in the 'wedding car' with family (not us though!) is her friend and her 2 DC! one of whom is the same age as my Dtwins... we are of course going in a taxi/bus rather than the 'official transport'

so it seems my DC are the only ones not invited, despite being effectively family, or at least they will be when we get married.

If it is only your dc then I wouldn't go, if they are pushed for numbers and don't know your dc very well/ this friend means a lot to them and couldn't come without her dc/ any of a myriad of reasons I'd go, rise above it and support your dh.Can you talk to her at all?

she knows my DC well, was wracking my brains if they could have annoyed her but theyve always behaved impeccably at family meals and things, so cant be that! The friend in question would probably find a babysitter easier than us as her DC spend most weekends with thier dad. she not really easy to talk to, and is already not happy that I didnt go to her hen night due to a number of reasons, not least the fact that travel and hotel to her home town would have cost me over £100, to go on a night out where I wouldnt have known anyone, and we were moving house that weekend so couldnt exactly spare the time, so im already in the bad books...