Broken Heart: How to Easily Cope with It?

INTRODUCTIONHow long will it be before you can get through your daily routine without feeling the wave of pain sweep over you, without sensing that knot in the pit of your stomach, without dwelling on what went wrong? If these are some of the questions you are asking yourself, you are not alone.

What is a broken heart?A broken heart is a common metaphor used to describe the intense emotional pain or suffering one feels after losing a loved one, through death, divorce, breakup, moving, being rejected, or any other means. It is usually associated with losing a spouse or a loved one, although losing a parent, a child, a pet, or a close friend can also "break one's heart". The phrase refers to the physical pain one may feel in the chest as a result of the loss. Although the breaking of one’s heart is usually a metaphor, there is a condition – appropriately known as "Broken Heart Syndrome" – where a traumatizing incident triggers the brain to distribute chemicals that weaken heart tissue. A broken heart can cause such an intense reaction that many of us may feel that our lives have been completely stripped of meaning. Jobs, hobbies, and friends no longer hold any joy for us. In fact, some even experience physical pain with a tight chest, nervous stomach, or terrible insomnia.

Time heals all wounds is what we have all heard over the years, but do we really have to wait for time to heal these wounds? Absolutely not.

ANALYSIS
Possible Causes of a Broken HeartIf you want to heal a broken heart the first thing you must do is to understand what causes your heart to feel what it does (Dr. Jamie Fettig, 2005). As a cliché goes, “There would be no smoke if there’s no fire.” •Ineffective communication patterns (insufficient talk about significant things) •Sexual incompatibilities (differences in sex drives, inhibited sexual drives) •Anxiety over making and maintaining a long-term commitment •Reduced exchange of affection

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A brokenheart is one of the most traumatic and painful experience that you can have. It can lead you to devastation and depression. In addition, when you are in a broken relationship you feel like your world is falling down and sometimes, the reason you want to give up your life. Here are the following steps on how to mend a brokenheart.
The first step in mending a brokenheart is to cry aloud and let all the painful emotions drain out from your mind. When you are having hard time dealing your emotions, talk to your family and trusted friends. Sharing your feelings and seeking advice from your love ones, will help you overcome the pain.
Letting go of your past is another step to follow in mending your brokenheart. Stop thinking about the person who has caused you pain. In order to forget this person, you must get rid all the photos, gifts, letters and anything that reminds you of that person. Also, avoid visiting the place that has your memories together. These steps will help you move on quicker.
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1. Don't pretend you're OK. Spend time with friends, and share your grief and heartbreak. Force yourself to socialize — even if you don't want to. Make dates for lunch, dinner and evening activities. Tell your friends to drop in for a glass of wine or a cup of tea. Stay distracted until you feel a lot better, and even then, it's good to keep a full social schedule.
2. Learn something new. Get your brain to focus on developing a new skill. Learn fly-fishing, how to repair your appliances or handicap horses. Take a class that fills up your evenings or weekends. Remind yourself that "an old dog" can learn plenty of new tricks, and that life is filled with new surprises and experiences
3. Write it down. Keep a diary or journal, or maybe even try to write a book. You'd be amazed how writing helps you "talk" to yourself and sort out your feelings. Writing allows you to vent feelings of anger or sadness in a constructive way: You might even consider writing letters to the person you lost to help you clarify your emotions. At a later date, you'll be able to look back on what you've written and gain new insights into yourself by observing how you...

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don’t like to do anything, you are always cry, always thinking about someone as you love to and
almost the time, you would like to be alone. But it’s not really good because something, that make
you get better is going outside to open your mind, For example.
First, you should go outside to see your friends because the friend will always be
helpful to you, for example. They will be consultant to get you feel better and they will invite you to
the party, it can help you to forget the sadness. So when you feel sad, one of all to get you better is
your friends.
Second, you should go outside to play the activities. Such as, exercise and play sports.
These can make your body to be strong and your heart too because when you do this, you feel tried
and then you don’t think much anymore.
Finally, you should go to travel. Traveling can help you much because you will see
something that never see and you will see or talk with someone who never know. Maybe it can
make you open your mind because traveling makes you to meet new things and then you will forget
the sadness.
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First of all ,to find your own relaxation way.Everyone has its own way to deal with the pain .Somebody would take longer time to get over it and move on.Recognize your mental status and admit the fact is one of the important steps to cure the aching heart.Don’t hide away your true negative feelings.Having a good cry can totally express your emotion and relieve your pressure when you feel bad.
Secondly, having a rest is also a great way to cure the broken heart.You can plan a vocation for traveling ,which can broaden your horizon and have a better realization about yourself .When you enjoy the fantastic scenery during the trip ,you are likely to forget your grief and find out what a wonderful world it is.Accordingly, it can distract your attention to the unpleasant things and open your mind.Also,hanging out with your friends is very useful way while you take a break.For example,you can go out for a movie ,go shopping and do some sports with your friend, because it could keep yourself away from being alone and help you to get rid of the awful thoughts as soon as possible.
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