A breakup. A dream relationship ends. Dream relationship because you could have sworn this was it—your soulmate..."The One..." but yet he was never quite committed, never quite yours...

You had more than high hopes, your every day was filled with excited thoughts for where this was going.

And after the breakup, as you are reeling in pain, after days of feeling lost, crying, grieving...

You realize you are reliving an exact moment that happened 2 or 4 or 6 years ago. The not quite available man, the relationship where you kept trying, kept hoping, kept waiting… to treat you in the adoring way you want to be treated, to see you as his true one and only.

But time hasn't waited for you. And you realize the same pattern has happened… and the world's heaviness feels like it is crushing you along with all of your dreams of having long lasting, passionate, truly committed love.

A new client of mine going through this one just this week.

How long will you continue to repeat patterns, until you realize that maybe you need to really course correct, get a handle on this, stop being passive, stop hoping… until you realize there is some deep work that needs to happen? How long will you continue to waste precious days, precious years—that could be filled with the right fit—because you are waiting and waiting, hoping and hoping...that potential turns into something real.

When we as women lock down on one choice of a man, before we've truly seen if he is a fit for YOU, if he is available, if he really is going in the same direction as your dreams—when we lock down on ONE man as the only only way (its ok if you feel he is your hands down number one choice—it's just a problem when you think he is your only choice ever)—that leads you to lose your power, your worth and your valuable, valuable time.

If you can't break this cycle get help… figure out a way, get good at this dating thing...time doesn't wait, like you do.

A high value woman learns how to create abundance and receive from men (plural)...she learns to attract high level, high quality choices—so she never has to give her power to a choice that isn't quite right. This abundance and momentum in turn often has men who were previously unavailable shift and finally fully dive in—and it also has other better men step in.

Empower yourself by learning to create choices in your life. That is what a High Value Woman does!

And knowing how to differentiate between them can mean night and day in saving you precious years of your life—so you can make room for the right men in your life?

It's vital to understand what type of man you are with and where he is at in life and why certain men will make you feel in certain ways—and to know if you are truly compatible with this man or not.

After all we have a lot of clients who want to honor their family reproductive years and not waste time on the wrong partner.

A man that isn't aligned to you is a man you will never quite feel like a woman with, and will not be able to give you what you want. But once you find a man that is—then everything begins to work and flow, there is ease and peace, fulfillment and happiness...

I get this from my clients all of the time. In fact I used to say this too. That's a woman's desire for a man's masculinity, his initiative taking and overcoming → you aren’t wrong for wanting this from men.

However here is where it is off in us ladies—and it’s easy to turn around:

A man won't approach a woman who isn't open, especially nowadays with so many important conversations around consent.

A woman who seems like she isn’t open can come off as shut down or as a masculine energy woman (or at least in that moment.)

What do I mean by an open woman?

Well, just like you as a woman have a radar for masculine energy, so does a man for feminine energy.

If a woman isn't approachable, warm, open, inviting it signals to him at a primal level that you aren't up for being approached or even more so that a woman isn’t in her Feminine. Women in their masculine energy with men feel like they could become emasculating woman in relationship and could also constantly be in competition with him, so possibly derail his purpose/mission as a man.

So an example:

He looks at you across the room…

Do you pretend not to see him?

Or do you make warm eye contact and smile back (open).

As a woman you want strong boundaries, you want to filter men out that aren’t a fit for you and by no means accept anything that is disrespectful, but you also need to make sure your energy is undefended, unguarded, open, approachable, warm→ Use your b!t$h shield only when truly needed.

B!t$h Shield = Masculinity.

Your heart is your Feminine core, show it to them men you want to approach you.