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Single John Responds: I Dumped Him Because He Googled Me

Dear Single John, I was going out with a guy last summer and I had finally thought I found someone who could truly make me happy. Everything came so easily until one night: We were going to the movies and on the ride there he said that he had Googled me. I was shocked and surprised as he went in to tell me in great deal what he had found on the internet about me (articles about when I played high school in softball and college). I was very freaked out and for some reason couldn't trust him anymore and ended it. Was I a little bit overboard to end it with him over that? I'm just curious about why guys do Google girls they date?

If he had crept on to your cellphone and checked your texts, or checked out your emails when you left your Gmail open on the screen, I can see you having a problem, but you ditched a guy for Googling you? Googling? Really?

I doubt I’m the only one who sees that as hardly an invasion of privacy. It’s becoming more and more common for people to Google each other after they’ve met, never mind when they’ve already started dating. Whether you consider this totally nerdy or not is up to you, but I think it’s a stretch to say it violates any reasonable boundaries of morality.

I’m interested to know why you felt so violated (def write me back here and let me know). Was there anything you were upset he found out about?

If he has asked if he could Google you, would you have said “no”? Do you have Facebook?

Then again, maybe your radar went off for the right reasons. Maybe the details he went into about the research you’d found freaked you out because it insinuated some level of interest you weren’t prepared for.

Ultimately, I have to doubt that this was really someone you thought “could truly make me happy.” When we find those people, we can forgive them almost anything, never mind a little harmless Googling.

Have you been Googled? Did you mind? Do You find Google helpful in your dating life? Do you get upset when guys DON'T Google you before a date/