tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76570328935549638532018-03-07T10:23:10.590-08:00Whispers of life Blog on how to deal with problems in our life :)Ujjwal Sethnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657032893554963853.post-3363443388047156972017-03-29T05:59:00.001-07:002017-05-04T07:53:07.786-07:00No matter how hard you work, you can’t have everything you want<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div dir="ltr"><b>No matter how hard you work, you can’t have everything you </b><b><u>want</u></b><b>.</b></div><div dir="ltr">Eventually, most of us end up settling in some part of our life.&nbsp; We let go of certain ideals and dreams, we compromise, and we make trade-offs.&nbsp; We gradually learn that we can’t have everything we want, because not every outcome in life can be perfectly controlled.&nbsp; But if we pay close attention, we also learn that we can make the best of every outcome, and still get a lot of what we want in life, if we manage our time, energy and attitude appropriately.</div><div dir="ltr">And these realizations collectively lead to an interesting question:</div><div dir="ltr">When should you settle, or compromise, and when should you continue fighting hard for what you ideally want to achieve?</div><div dir="ltr">There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, but when you encounter a situation that forces you to choose between compromise and fighting forward against the opposition, it might help to also ask yourself:</div><div dir="ltr">“Do I really need this, or do I just kinda want it?”</div><div dir="ltr">Being able to distinguish needs from wants is essential in every walk of life.&nbsp; Never let go of an outcome you truly need in your life, but be reasonably flexible on the outcomes you want but could live fine without.</div><div dir="ltr">In other words, choose your battles wisely, and don’t let ‘perfect’ become the enemy of ‘great.’&nbsp; Remind yourself that what you pay attention to grows.&nbsp; So focus on what reallly matters.</div><div dir="ltr">Don’t give up 50% of your life working 50-hour weeks at a day job that makes you absolutely miserable.&nbsp; Don’t abandon your sanity for the wrong reasons.&nbsp; Don’t neglect lifelong goals and dreams that have withstood the tests of time, and still bring incredible meaning into your life.</div><div dir="ltr">If you really need something, fight hard for it!</div><div dir="ltr">But for everything else, let go a little.&nbsp; Loosen your grip, compromise… settle.</div><div dir="ltr">Settle on less of the unessential, to get more of what you really need and want in life.</div></div>Ujjwal Sethhttps://plus.google.com/107738075533319663824noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657032893554963853.post-10641625809026044802017-03-05T00:44:00.001-08:002017-03-05T01:09:26.495-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">BLOG#1: An open Blog to those who keep themselves last</span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white;">Once upon a time, many months ago, there was a village of people who&nbsp;<span id="more-2456" style="box-sizing: border-box;"></span>lived in handcrafted wood houses.&nbsp; And like other villages in this era, fires were a very real and present danger at all times.&nbsp; One small flame could burn the whole village into ashes within a few short hours.&nbsp; So the villagers developed a clever fire fighting system.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">A rotating group of volunteers kept watching over the village from a lookout tower at all times, day and night.&nbsp; At the first sight of smoke, a volunteer would turn on a loud siren that was only ever sounded when warning the villagers about a fire.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">The moment the siren sounded, all villagers would drop everything and run to a pre-assigned location for firefighting.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Young, strong men and women would pump water as fast as possible from the village wells, teenage boys and girls would fill big buckets with water as it was pumped up from the well, and all the rest of the villagers would occupy designated locations and ultimately form human chains leading from the wells to the fire.&nbsp; The bravest men and women would stand next to the fire and have buckets of water until the fire was extinguished.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">One day a traveler from a distant village heard the siren and asked someone on the street about it.&nbsp; The woman – who was rushing toward her designated location – quickly explained, “Whenever there’s a fire, the siren is sounded and the fire is extinguished!”</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">The traveler was amazed&nbsp;and decided to bring this remarkable siren technology back to his own village, which also had dreadful problems with fires.&nbsp; Days later, he returned to his village with a siren that perfectly matched the one he witnesses in action on the lookout tower.&nbsp; He gathered all his villagers together, and he said, “You don’t need to fear fire anymore, my friends.&nbsp; I have found a new way to extinguish it.&nbsp; Watch closely, and I shall demonstrate.”</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">The traveler lit a large bale of hay on fire that was sitting next to his own cottage.&nbsp; The flames quickly began to spread closer and closer to his home.&nbsp; Then he took out the siren he’d acquired and sounded it.&nbsp; The fire only grew in its intensity, so he sounded it again.&nbsp; The fire continued to grow rapidly.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">“Just be patient, everyone!&nbsp; It should happen any moment now…”</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;"><img align="bottom" alt="An Open Letter to Those Who Put Themselves Last" height="471" src="https://i0.wp.com/www.marcandangel.com/images/open-letter-self-care.jpg?resize=500%2C471" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; height: auto; max-width: 100%;" width="500" /></span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">In a panic, he sounded the siren again and again, but still, the fire grew and blazed with even more intensity.&nbsp; Within hours the entire village burned down to the ground… because, of course, the traveler had misunderstood the purpose of the siren.&nbsp; It wasn’t used to put out fires.&nbsp; It was simply a signal that directed the villagers to take positive action.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">REMEMBER:</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">There’s a lookout tower in your life too.&nbsp; In that lookout tower, the siren has sounded.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">If you continue to do nothing when you hear the siren, your life, in many ways, will ultimately burn to the ground (dramatic, and true).&nbsp; For a siren extinguishes no fires on its own.&nbsp; But if you listen to the siren and let it motivate you to take positive action, you can save your own life… and create a sense of purpose, peace and resolve for yourself and those who depend on you.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">The steps you need to take next won’t be easy, but they will be worthy.&nbsp; You will be one of the strong ones who know what it takes to fight and extinguish even the hottest fires that burn from within.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Truth be told, sometimes we have to learn (or re-learn) to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.&nbsp; We love the idea of being loved and listened to by others, but we forget to love and listen to ourselves.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">It’s time to stop putting yourself last.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Make yourself a priority today.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Challenge yourself to listen to what your heart and mind are telling you.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Sincerely,</span><br /><span style="background-color: white;">Ujjwal&nbsp;</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Student from the school of life :)</span></div><h2 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: lato, sans-serif; font-size: 24px; line-height: 1; margin: 0px 0px 20px;"><span style="background-color: white;"> Afterthoughts… On Making Yourself a Priority</span></h2><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Resisting and ignoring your own feelings and emotions does not serve you.&nbsp; It leads to stress, illness, confusion, broken relationships, fits of anger and bouts of deep, dark depression.&nbsp; Anyone who’s experienced any of the above knows that these states of mind are horrifically unhealthy… and when you’re in the habit of self-neglect, it’s nearly impossible to escape.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Refuse to ignore your inner siren any longer.&nbsp; Refuse to neglect yourself.&nbsp; Choose to take up a lot of space in your own life.&nbsp; Choose to give yourself permission to meet your own needs.&nbsp; Choose to honor your feelings and emotions.&nbsp; Choose to make self-care a top priority…</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Choose yourself!</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Here are a few simple ways to choose yourself today:</span></div><ol style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 30px 30px; padding: 0px;"><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style-type: decimal;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Give yourself a break when you need one.</span>&nbsp;– Show yourself some love by realizing that you can’t do everything for everybody in every situation.&nbsp; Do what you can, and do it with a joyful heart.&nbsp; Then breathe and give yourself space to recover.&nbsp; Refill your bucket on a regular basis.&nbsp; That means catching your breath, finding quiet solitude, focusing your attention inward, making time for fun and laughter, eating healthy enough to maintain peak energy levels, and otherwise making time for recovery from the pressures of life.&nbsp;</span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style-type: decimal;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Listen to your intuition and be honest with yourself about everything.</span>&nbsp;– We cannot speak with integrity about a lifestyle we are not living.&nbsp; We don’t need more dazzling storytellers – we need more genuine ones.&nbsp; Listen to that inner voice.&nbsp; Confidence comes from knowing that what you’re doing is right and that what you’re doing is right for YOU too.&nbsp; Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside to everybody else.</span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style-type: decimal;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Work on things that make you happy.</span>&nbsp;– There’s a big difference between empty fatigue and gratifying exhaustion.&nbsp; Life is too short.&nbsp; Invest in the activities (and relationships) you deeply care about.&nbsp; In the end, a good life is about making a good decision to do something every day that moves you.&nbsp; Care for yourself by doing things you care about!&nbsp; It’s a matter of realizing that there’s nothing selfish about self-care.&nbsp; Because we can’t give what we don’t have.&nbsp; You have to experience life on your terms before you can be truly life-giving to others.&nbsp; Build positive daily rituals that support your happiness.&nbsp;</span></li></ol><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">The bottom line is:&nbsp; People will come and go.&nbsp; Events will come and go.&nbsp; Day and night will come and go.&nbsp; But a sincere respect for yourself will always remain with you if you nurture it.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">So put these things on your TO-DO list today (and tie them to the points above):</span></div><ul style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px 0px 30px 30px; padding: 0px;"><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style-type: disc;"><span style="background-color: white;">Spend time doing things that help you love yourself more.</span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style-type: disc;"><span style="background-color: white;">Spend time thinking about things that help you love yourself more.</span></li><li style="box-sizing: border-box; list-style-type: disc;"><span style="background-color: white;">Spend time with people who help you love yourself more.</span></li></ul><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Repeat tomorrow.</span></div><h3 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: lato, sans-serif; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1; margin: 0px 0px 20px;"><span style="background-color: white;"> Your turn…</span></h3><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">If you’re feeling up to it, we would love to hear from YOU.</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">Which point mentioned above resonates with you the most today, and why?</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white;">(Or tell us: What has the siren in your life been trying to tell you?)</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">Leave a comment below and share your thoughts</span></div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #333333; font-family: &quot;roboto slab&quot;, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; padding: 0px;"><span style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;">:)</span><br /><span style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white; box-sizing: border-box; font-weight: 700;"><br /></span> <span style="background-color: white;"><b>Till then,</b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><b>I will think of some new posts</b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><b>while enjoying The view :)</b></span><br /><span style="background-color: white;"><b><br /></b></span> <img src="https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-hvBLLLeqZFQ/WLk5ZRQZAxI/AAAAAAAANi0/CumqCBeyum0/s400/20161112_085603.jpg" /></div></div>Ujjwal Sethhttps://plus.google.com/107738075533319663824noreply@blogger.com1