Nearly 30 and think I’m gay

Like the title says I’m nearly 30 years of age and think I may be a lesbian. I’m from a small town in Ireland where gay people are generally gossiped about so I’ve always put my gay thoughts to the back of my mind. I have dated guys when I was younger and just hoped for the best but I’ve never loved any guys or even had any strong attractions to any guys. I’ve wondered from a young age if I was gay. I’ve had strong attractions to a few female friends in the past, but these friends have been straight so I’ve kept these feelings to myself.
The last few years I havnt dated anyone. I have no interest in dating guys anymore.
I have to say that when it comes to seeing couple on tv, lesbian couples turn me on so much. Even if they’re only flirting with each other. Whereas seeing straight couples have sex doesn’t turn me on in the slightest. Do you guys think I’m genuinely gay? Is it just a fantasy? This is a very hard subject to bring up with family or friends. This is something I’m only willing to discuss if I know 110% that I am gay

The only thing that matters is who you are. If you're gay, you're gay. If you're straight, you're straight. If you're a little of both, we call that bi. But they're all just labels. Take the label away and there's just...you.

Be the best you you can be.

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najmelliw

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Thu 25 Oct, 2018 06:31 am

@Snypers,

If you are really gay or not is something only you can decide for yourself. But it sounds to me as if you live the life of a recluse, at least sexually speaking. If you don't desire to come out as gay unless you are certain of the fact, and you are hesitant to try and engage other women locally lest the gossip mill will vilify you, perhaps the best way to go is to leave the neighborhood. Go online, do some research. Then go someplace for a long weekend or something, somewhere you feel comfortable and anonymous, and try to actively engage women.

If you find you like it, then you have the answer. If it leaves you indifferent, or you hate it, then you have an answer too.

But don't try to hide who you are just out of fear of the opinion of others. That's no way to live your life.

Do you think you might be 'gay' because there are more 'female' hotties than 'male' hotties?

So as the 'males' are becoming 'less masculine' and more 'feminine' many women might find other females to be more 'masculine'. And for the males, seeing more males becoming more 'feminine' is making them leave the females for the 'less responsible' role of intercourse while being able to see the other male as more 'feminine' than 'masculine'?

Example: When legs look the same on both male and female, does that mean that the female has hairy legs?

Because sexual relationships comes with responsibilities. both male and female, right?

If it is possible for a male to have a butt as smooth as a female's then can it also be possible for a female to have a butt as hairy as a male's?

Who knows? Maybe women were made to have a certain sexual desire to hair on men's bodies. I don't know.. I didn't create them...

Men could have been made to have a certain sexual desire to lack of hair on women's bodies. I don't know.. I didn't create them...

What is throwing these 'natural' things off? Why are more males becoming smooth in skin and why are more females turning to other females?

Maybe something to do with hormones and steroids?

Look at 'gay porn'.. All you see is 'smooth smooth smooth'...

Look at 'lesbian porn'... all you see is 'smooth smooth smooth'.

Why do men shave their crotch area? Maybe because they saw the female porn stars do it first?

Why do some males fantasize on the 'female' aspect of porn when they view it?

Why do some males fantasize on the 'female' aspect of porn when they view it?

Maybe it has something to do with skin texture?

Something like, I wish I was 'better appearing'???? The males obviously can see that the women are better appearing but since they do not find themselves to be in good appearance, they take on the female role since they do not find the males to be better appearing. But when they do, they begin imagining themselves as the 'women' might???

And with an already low self image/esteem, the ravenous droolings of the man could show that that the person is 'appealing'.... which would offset any low self image/esteem. And soon, the once low self esteem/image male is a bold and proud male who happens to be 'gay'.

Lesbians on the other hand might be seeking the 'testosterone' roles in their sexual relationships. And maybe because of the decreases of masculinity/testosterone in their lives and era.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

How do you drive a woman to scorn? By giving her male responsibilities and duties.

it is the male's duty to be male and the female's duty to be female.

Trying to teach a rooster how to bark like a dog or a dog how to crow like a rooster can prove dangerous if the dog and rooster lose their patience.

Unless you have them in a contained controlled environment against their freedom