To practice individual therapy in 2012 is to see how coping with change plays an ever greater role in peoples’ lives. Many of my clients are forced to cope with a faster and faster pace of change almost month to month. Change at work can be the most strenuous, but sometimes coping with change in other areas of life can be as much of a challenge.

“Embrace change” is the continual message. But when is it too much? Change can leave us empty and completely disoriented. Can we protect ourselves? Here are 4 insights from individual therapy about coping with change.

1. Endless Demand

We all accept change as a given, in our era. We’re continually told that we should comply with its demands, no matter how voracious they might be, and that resistance to any change is living in the past. We continuously face external demands for change, which can turn toxic when mixed with our own inner perfectionism and compulsiveness.

2. Anxiety

The continual anxiety experienced in our time often pertains to a feeling that there is nothing firm to hold onto. But this feeling often stems from the fact that we’ve been led to believe there is nothing to hold onto; we expect everything to slip between our fingers. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, especially with our personal needs and wants.

3. Instinct, Archetype

We are so cut off from our instinct that we think it irrelevant. Our culture endorses the idea that people are born as blank slates, devoid of instinct. Only very slowly is evolutionary psychology reversing this. In Jung’s phrase, coined long before evolutionary psychology, only now are we re-discovering “the 2 million year old man.”

As an archetypal symbol, “home” is incredibly multifaceted in its symbolic meaning. But we seem to have forgotten one instinctual thing that any cave dweller could tell us : we need a real home to survive. Many today act as if they need a mere dormitory or place to put their stuff. Many more are so glued to their electronics that they invest nothing in creating the social fabric of their homes.

4. The Part of Ourselves that Knows

In dreams, health concerns, and modern addictions, the instinctual and archetypal self cries out for something beyond rootlessness, anxiety and the relentless churn of the Next New Thing. As we explore the wisdom of the self in therapy, we gain a greater and greater sense of those individual parts of our life that give value and stability.