Anxiety In Relationships

Because when you are talking to each other and everything seems okay, you’re so happy. Even if you’re barely talking about anything at all. Just the fact that they’re talking to you is enough to make you happy. But sometimes you feel like something is different about the way they’re talking/texting you. You’re not sure if it’s only you’re paranoia showing up, in its fancy, slutty red little dress, slaying the whole damn event. Or if you were right all along. And it is going to literally bother you all damn day. That is until everything seems normal again and then you’re back to your happy self. Practically forgetting that you even thought something was wrong. And that’s how you live throughout this relationship. And it will end either one of two ways. 1. You are wrong, and eventually either they find out about it or you tell them about your anxiety and, they adapt themselves accordingly so that you feel comfortable and secure. 2. You’re right about them the entire time, and when you find out…. When you find out, it’s going to hurt so so much, even as I type this I’m so hoping this isn’t the option you end up in. Cause with anxiety something like that is much worse than it would be with someone without anxiety. Because now you’re really questioning yourself and you begin to believe that you aren’t and never will be good enough for anyone. And that is going to crush you and send you to a place I wouldn’t wish for anybody to end up in.

So, what can we learn from all this? My people with anxiety who are reading this and now what I’m talking about or even if you don’t. If you experience any of this my friend. I want you to do something for me okay? I want you to find a day to get together with your friends, have them come over, perhaps even spend the night depending on how things go. And I want you to ask your Significant other, whatever it is you are terrified of asking. Because if you don’t you might live to regret it. And if it turns out you were right and they were using you or whatever the case may be. End the relationship, right then and there. Don’t stay with them. I want you to crawl in bed with your friend, cuddle with them and sleep. I don’t care if you’re a guy and you invite your guy friend over. (And to the guy who got invited over by your guy friend, you come here for a second. Let’s talk. Your boy is going through a very very rough time emotionally right now. I know men are supposed to be emotionless and always stay strong, according to society. However, that is dumb and needs to be thrown out the window. If he wants you to hold him, hold him. If you are gay I’m sure he knows that and I’m even more sure that he’s not in the headspace at this moment to even want anything sexually regardless of his sexual orientation. SO just be what he needs right now kay? Women I know most if not all of you have no problem with cuddling friends no matter the gender. Unless the person is creepy that is.)

And to my people who think or know they’re in a relationship with someone who has anxiety I need a favor from you too. Please don’t play with them and be gentle and clear. If you don’t want them please don’t play with their feelings. It’s not a game and it’s not funny. Just tell them that the relationship isn’t what you wanted. Be very clear in your reasoning cause if you’re not I guarantee you they will forever blame themselves and that’s just not cool kay?

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