Personal Development Coaching in Cheltenham Gloucestershire

Time to move forward

We get stuck sometimes don’t we? Whether it’s in our relationships, in business or in life itself, most of us at some point come to a grinding halt. Why is this? It’s a big question and certainly many factors can come into it. I believe that the key point here is that we don’t know enough about ourselves. We may think we know ourselves but do we ‘actually’ know what makes us ‘tick’? There is a subtle difference.

We’re often ignorant of the unconscious factors that guide our life down blind alleys, or seem to block the direction we think we want to go down. Many of us live with a feeling that we’re not living the life we could; or that the choices we’ve made are wrong, but we can’t find a way out of the consequences of them. If that fits your situation then Project You may be for you.

A fresh approach

In my opinion, most life coaching is based on setting goals and motivating people to achieve them, which is a worthy aim, but if our unconscious doesn’t think the direction we’re steering is a good idea then the chances are it’ll put a spanner in the works. The way it usually does this is to reduce our motivation or increase our anxiety. So where most life coaching descriptions begin with ‘this is not therapy’ I don’t, because all Project You Coaches are trained Cognitive Hypnotherapists. I have a large range of techniques at my disposal. The edges of coaching and therapy tend to be more blurred. When you think about it, people come to coaches because they want to be able to do something they don’t feel they can do. Well what do you think people see a therapist for?

Project You Coaching is a model that has no limits on the techniques it can employ to help you get what you came for. It can be used to help you achieve a goal you have in mind. However, it’s intended to do a lot more. It’s intended to give you the means of taking control of the way you live your life. This doesn’t involve anything weird or fluffy, it’s based on solid research. Project You shows how people can improve their sense of contentment and happiness. Clients maximise the things they have going for them in the most productive way. In short it’s about you finding flow.

So what is the flow?

Flow is the sense of effortless action we feel in moments that we see as the best in our lives. In order to have flow experiences you need clear goals/demands, immediate and relevant feedback and a balance between your skills and the demands. Then your attention becomes ordered and fully invested. Have you had one of those moments where you’re completely lost in something you’re doing? Time seems to stop, everything seems effortless, and life feels right? That’s what we call a flow state. Sports coaches try to help their athletes achieve them during competition – and you know when you’re watching an athlete who’s in ‘the zone’.

My question to you is, if you could live your life in flow, what wouldn’t be possible? Think about that. If your life could be full of those moments, is there a goal that you couldn’t achieve, a change you couldn’t make? Is that possible? It’s not going to surprise you to hear me say that I think it is. There are things you need to learn about yourself that will make that possible. There are things you’re going to have to do to learn them. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy; I am going to say that it’s possible. You have to decide if you want to make this investment in you. You have to decide if you’re prepared to make the effort this demands.

Make it happen…

You can only start Project You with a Quest Institute-trained Coach. Project You is a process with a series of steps that are adapted to fit your needs.

Those steps are designed to achieve several things:

1. Identify any limits your life has led you to believe are true and show you how to get rid of them. I will explain to you how our beliefs aren’t true, they’re things the brain uses to help make sense of the world which we mistake for the truth of things. Our minds are plastic – they’re constantly changing. Understanding the nature of this plasticity means that changes in the way we think doesn’t have to take long to achieve.

2. Identify the things about yourself that need to be utilised for you to be able to create flow, and teach you how to do it.

3. Assist you in identifying a direction in your life that your use of flow will create for you. If you’ve been looking for something to make that vital difference to your life contact me and let’s discuss your needs in “Project You”.