I am a peaceful, caring, thoughtful, giving, man. I am a professional, busy and self-employed, who lives alone after more than a decade of living with, caring for and supporting many children. I am definitely a father type, by looks and experience.

Perhaps you need to start over as well, or change some things in your own life. Reparent, or expand your experience. Create new memories. You choose whether the new memories will replace, or add to old memories.

In public, fathers and daughters will envy our love and thoughtfulness toward each other. In private, we will allow ourselves to be more intimate, and I will challenge you. A special relationship no other father and daughter have.

I will build trust with you until you trust my judgment. You will build tryst with me that you are sincere. You will respect and honor me as you would your father – because I will respect and live my life through your, as my daughter.

You will have a generous allowance, and I will expect you to spend it responsibly. You will have chores – to contribute to the house.

If you are studying, I will make you do your homework, and push you to excel. If you are considering higher education, I will help you choose a lucrative field, and supply your needs. If you are working, I will expect you to be a responsible worker, seeking to advance.

I can see you having a cause, or something you are passionate about, and stand beside you.

We will talk. We will cook together. I will brush your hair (and secretly feel your toothbrush to see if you have used it). I will encourage you to be feminine, sexy, and irresistible. My goal is to create so much love that you melt at my gestures of admiration.

I will make you laugh, and wipe away your tears.

We will develop a dependence on each other, trusting, and loving. Looking toward – working toward – a bright future.

Cuddly, tender nights.

When you are undisciplined, or thoughtless, or selfish, I will discipline you appropriately, in a loving, thorough manner, with love, knowing and trusting that I cannot ever be cruel.

Your current friends may or may not understand. Those who do will become your lifelong friends, and you will make others.

Will you leave home, eventually? Perhaps, and I will keep your picture on my mantle. If I have fulfilled my commitment, you will phone ‘home,’ and visit on holidays. Or you will choose to stay – your decision will be grounded in your sense of right, and love, formed during our relationship.

If you have bad memories:
(How do you forgive your father? Perhaps in a dream? Perhaps by having the opportunity to do it over? Do you forgive your father for leaving you too often, or forever, when you were little; or scaring you, with unexpected rage – or making you nervous, because there never seemed to be any rage at all? Will you forgive your father for divorcing, or not divorcing your mother? Shall you forgive him for his excess of warmth, or coldness? Shall you forgive him for pushing, or leaning, or shutting doors, or speaking through walls, or never being silent…. Do you forgive your father in your age, or in his? Or in his death, by saying it to him, or not saying it?) In our relationship, your constant anxiety is replaced with peace. Only precious memories replacing the bad ones (or added to the good ones, if you were a lucky one.)

What I'm Looking For

Are you a writer? An artist? A public speaker? Are you musical? I am all of these, and make a good living at them, and will help you develop your abilities – to find your place.
To find your place in the world, not simply ‘making a living,’ but getting paid for what you love to do.

Our goal is to find a way of life that few others will ever find in this lifetime.