Cracking the Communication Code

Communication between couples has been dissected in thousands of books and articles, so why does it remain the number one marriage problem? "Because", says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, "most spouses don't know that they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in 'code', but they won't crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect."

The Love and Respect Experience

Through his international bestseller, Love & Respect, Emerson Eggerichs has transformed marriages around the world with his biblically based approach to understanding the love that she most desires and the respect that he desperately needs. Now, in this long-awaited new release, Emerson has created an experience for couples that is effective, flexible and life-changing. To build this couples devotional, Eggerichs has taken the top concerns that surfaced in a survey of thousands of couples....

The Language of Love and Respect: Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate

Why does communication between couples remain the number one marriage issue? "Because," says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, "most spouses don’t know that they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in 'code,' but they won’t crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect."

Love and Respect in the Family: The Transforming Power of Love and Respect Between Parent and Child

Children need love. Parents need respect. It is as simple and complex as that! When frustrated with an unresponsive child, a parent doesn't declare, "You don't love me." Instead the parent asserts, "You are being disrespectful right now." A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts. When upset a child does not whine, "You don't respect me." Instead, a child pouts, "You don't love me." A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes.

Total Forgiveness

True inner peace awaits you! You can avoid spiritual quicksand and experience the incredible freedom found in total forgiveness. Is total forgiveness easy? Of course not...but this book will give you a game plan...and the encouragement to cast out areas of unforgiveness that have kept you from enjoying the best God has to offer you.

Freedom from Demonic Soul Ties (2 CDs)

Soul ties are formed when two or more people become bonded together. Some soul ties are Godly, and others are not; some are holy, and some are demonic. In this teaching, Frank Hammond explains that the soul ties approved by God are based on agape love. When Satan gets the opportunity, he will pervert that which is pure and of God s creation. Demonic soul ties are perversions of the good and holy.

For Women Only, Revised and Updated Edition: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men

Discover the truth he wants you to know! The man in your life is keeping secrets. They’re so deep inside he barely knows they're there, much less how to talk to you about them. Yet he genuinely wants you to "get" him - to understand his inner life, his fears, his needs... In her landmark best seller For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn reveals what every woman - single or married - needs to know.

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

In the classic best-seller His Needs, Her Needs, Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs.

The Five Languages of Apology

Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language. New York Times best-selling author Gary Chapman has teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it's not just a matter of will - it's a matter of how. By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships.

Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?

What if God's primary intent for your marriage isn't to make you happy...but holy? And what if your relationship isn't as much about you and your spouse as it is about you and God? Sacred Marriage invites you to view your marriage in a new and different light - as a spiritual discipline, a means whereby you can come to know God more fully and intimately.

Fall in Love, Stay in Love

More than a million husbands and wives have improved their marriages through books by Dr. Willard Harley. And now, for the first time, he invites you to "step into his office" and see how the whole plan works. Fall in Love, Stay in Love weaves together the insights and techniques Dr. Harley has collected over the years into one comprehensive plan for building and sustaining the feeling of love. In 17 sessions it equips you with the tools you need for a happy, successful marriage.

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope

You can't put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward.

Lies Young Women Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free

Lies Young Women Believe will give girls aged 13-19 the tools they need to identify where their lives and beliefs are off course - the result of buying into Satan's lies about God, guys, media, and more. Nancy Leigh DeMoss teams up youth author Dannah Gresh to speak to teenage girls about the top lies they believe. They then equip young women in the skills and the truths of Scripture that overcome those lies.

The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!

From Anger to Intimacy

Did you know that spiritual, emotional, physical and relational exhaustion lead to anger? And unresolved anger leads to sin. All couples deal with anger and how they respond (stuff it, spew it or study it), can make all the difference in their relationship and in their lives. In From Anger to Intimacy, Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham explore this often maligned and God-given emotion that unless dealt with can strip us of everything we love.

Everybody Wins: The Chapman Guide to Solving Conflicts Without Arguing

This guide provides a simple blueprint for achieving solutions to everyday disagreements without having to have a "winner" and a "loser". By learning how to listen empathetically, respecting each other's ideas and feelings, and understanding why some issues are so important to your spouse, not only will those daily problems be worked out successfully, but both of you will end up feeling appreciated, respected, and loved.

I Promise: How 5 Commitments Determine the Destiny of Your Marriage

America's foremost marriage expert has come to the remarkable conclusion that great marriages are not built on behavioral skills. Rather, they are built on a foundation of trust. If your spouse does not feel safe enough to open up his or her heart without fear of being judged, criticized, or rejected, nothing you do, such as learning to control your emotions, learning your partner's love language, or even becoming an expert in the bedroom, will matter.

Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love

How spouses treat each other has a tremendous bearing on the success and failure of marriage. In this completely updated and revised edition of Love Busters, Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love, including selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and thoughtless behavior. Harley also explains how to resolve common marital conflicts such as career choices and financial planning.

Give & Take: The Secret to Marital Compatibility

Most couples begin marriage blissfully compatible and deeply in love. But they usually don't stay that way. Why? In Give and Take you will find out why you and your spouse may have lost the compatibility you started with. The Dr. Harley will show you how to restore it, making you not only compatible, but also as much in love with each other as you ever were. You will learn to give what your spouse needs most in marriage, and take what you need most in return.

He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation

When you get married, you expect your relationship to be a partnership in which you make decisions and face the world together, united. But often a husband's perspective and a wife's perspective on the same issue can be very different and unity in decision making can be tough.

7 Things He'll Never Tell You but You Need to Know

Kevin Leman wants you to know that men are less complicated than you give them credit for. At the core of men, you'll find a sensitive, emotional being that needs to feel loved, respected and needed. The more you understand and are sensitive to the fears, anxieties, and insecurities that make the men in your life behave the way they do, the stronger your relationships will be.

For Married Men Only: Three Principles for Loving Your Wife

What does it mean for a husband to love his wife? Three things, says Tony Evans: a husband must be his wife's savior, sanctifier, and satisfier. It is by living out these three principles that a godly marriage will blossom and flourish.

For Men Only (Revised and Updated Edition): A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women

Finally, you can understand her! If you're like most men, you've burned up lots of energy trying to figure out what a woman wants, what makes her tick, and how to make her happy. The good news: success is simpler than you thought. In their groundbreaking classic, For Men Only, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn reveal the eye opening truths and simple acts that will radically improve your relationship with the woman you love.

The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating

Single? Looking for the "right person"? Thinking that if you met the "right person" everything would turn out "right"? Think again. In The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the 21st century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic.

Publisher's Summary

Communication between couples has been dissected in thousands of books and articles, so why does it remain the number one marriage problem? "Because", says Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, "most spouses don't know that they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in 'code', but they won't crack that code until they see that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens to hear the language of respect."

Dr. Eggerichs' best-selling book, Love and Respect, launched a revolution in how couples relate to each other.

I have listened to his Love and Respect book and it is also Biblically based. I believe that if you truly seek a solution you could look past your problems with scripture or God and his "commandments" and benefit from the absolute common sense and logic of this amazing education. I saw so much of me and my husband in this book. This book has and will continue to change and help maintain what is becoming an amazing and very fulfilling relationship!

I am looking foward to hearing this book BECAUSE of how amazing the other was. . .

Would you consider the audio edition of Cracking the Communication Code to be better than the print version?

I don't have the print version.

What about Emerson Eggerichs’s performance did you like?

He has lots of experience on the topic.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes. This is the first book I have listened to on Audible so far that I wish I could process all at once.

Any additional comments?

I have a friend who is applying a similar book of his, Love and Respect to her marriage. She is a very smart lady who graduated first in her class. She also got 2 businesses going in the past and sold the property for around $365,000.00. She is lady with a lot of talent and capable of being in command. By applying principles like out lined in this teaching, she said recently, My husband is becoming the man I tried to make him. The only difference in her life is she is applying principles that just happen to be defined in the bible. This lady is watching her husband change into a very loving, kind, thoughtful, incredible man towards her. The only difference in her life is this, she is applying principles that came from the bible. It was kind of sad to see so many looking for help and then rejecting it because scripture was stated. In regards to this book, I listened to only part of this with my future wife. We already got some very good information to make our relationship better. With seeing the results in myself and other people with these principles, if some one actually wants a change for the better in their marriage or potential mate, I recommend this highly. Myself, I prefer to learn from others who already know a proven path. If the bible is part of that and it is working, why be bothered. I think to myself, is a failed marriage or miserable one more desirable than help that works if someone will apply it? I look for the easier road rather than the harder one. I like peace and if that involves me learning something knew, even if based on the bible, I want the peace. I want an exceptional marriage, not just a relationship of existence or worse.

Cant crasp that a wife shouldnt LOVE her husband? Respect sounds like dicplin has somehing to do with it.

Even if the meaning only relates to the signales in ones communication with ones spouse, I still cant accept the statement.

Furthermore chapter 1 starts by refering to the bible, in which God apparently commands that
Husband love his wife.And wife respect her husband.

Feelings have to come truely, honestly from the inside. No one can demand of you to feel anything. And as long as we put (or let other put) someone above us to demand or tell us how to feel, we will never be able to feel our true selfes. That is my belief.

Purhaps the book later on contains good points, I just couldnt accept the premises put forward in the begining of the book, and therefore couldnt read on.

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