My dh & I are new to poly and in our community there's a swingers club but we haven't met any other people or couples like us yet. The big city next to us is in another state & 30 minutes away. Both of us have profiles on okcupid. Still not many folks on there in this area are poly but there are non-poly peeps who are interested that I am getting to know. I even met a girl, she's not looking, but we're becoming friends. It's a little frustrating, time consuming & it won't happen overnight but you will eventually meet someone who is willing to be involved with you & accept what you want.