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Why Not Elope?

That’s a very good question and I have a feeling every couple planning a wedding has considered this once or twice.Ã‚Â Here are my pros and cons list to having a wedding:

Pros

Getting all your family together for possibly the only time in your whole life.

Celebrating your relationship with everyone you care about.

Having a big party.

Dressing up really pretty and feeling really special for a day.

Cons

Putting a lot of money into a 5 hour party.

Having to deal with other people and their opinions.

Stress and forgetting the reason why you are doing it.

I could elope and just drop this whole big hoopla but I think I would regret it :unsure:Ã‚Â I’m excited to have everyone together and have this fun/romantic event.Ã‚Â I just wish someone would make it a little easier on me sometimes…

I’ve always hated weddings. Big ol’ hoopla, wasted money, endless stress, all for one day? Is that even worth it? If that’s the only thing that can bring a family together, then who needs ’em? And who needs 12 different sets of dishes and silver platters? Just elope and save yourself all the trouble, including the returning of useless gifts to the store.

Girl, you have no idea how much I identify.
I debated between just going away somewhere and inviting a few close people along … or even going downtown to the JP. At one time, I think I considered Vegas. LOL.
I ended up striking the right balance between casual and elegant … and loved it all.
And I still got to wear the dress! Heh.
There’s a video somewhere on my site but I’m lazy right now. I’ll try to dig it up for you.

The only piece of advice I can give is do it all for YOU. Nobody else. Please yourself … it’s your day.

Skip the wedding, elope and then throw a giant-assed party. You can still wear your dress and get gifts then. 😀 The ceremony part was the most expensive for me and it was over in like 20 minutes or less. The party was where it was at, yo.

Yeah, the site fees and the musical people’s fees and all that were our biggest expense. The yacht club we got for free since we’re members. The food and drinks were at cost because we’re members. The cake was from Safeway (under $200) and the DJ was a friend from work who did DJing on the side. The yacht club had all the place settings, silverware, glasses, chairs, tables, tablecloths, candles, etc. already so we didn’t have to rent anything.

Even though we’re not religious, we did it in a church. Cost us $200. That’s it. The musician played for free, we didn’t waste money on flowers that nobody would remember, and we had an 8-minute ceremony.

Our church was a lot more. And the preacher guy’s fees. I didn’t have flowers at the front. Fuck that. I wasn’t paying for those. The church did have a “coordinator” that I had to pay a fee to as well. I was like, WTF? That is so stupid. She isn’t doing anything FOR me. All the musicians and everything HAD to be church approved. The wedding part was lame. I totally wouldn’t do the ceremony again if I were to get married.

We could scratch it all and just do it in our backyard but that would mean a lot of the people from OOT probably wouldn’t be there…I like the idea of having the chance to have all these people come from all over the country.