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Posted by Splash* on 2012-12-05 08:21:18, Wednesday

In reply to fathers? posted by Dirk007 on 2012-10-13 18:27:03, Saturday

I also have a question - Is there any fathers of boys (on this site) who consider themselves boy lovers? I expect the answer to be no, and that all boy lovers are (without them knowing) simply men longing to be fathers. I know I am right, if not, please let me know.

I'm a father. I have a daughter. My wife and I plan to have many more children. I really consider myself blessed for having a daughter first, and being able to give her all my attention. She owns my heart. I often wonder if I had a boy first, would I not have given my daughter the love and attention that I do now and would I not have gotten to be as close to her as I am now.

As you said, I once was a man longing to be a father (or even an older brother), but I did know it. I mentored dozens of young boys and young men, sometimes playing the father-figure role where it was lacking in their own lives (as it was in my own as well). And I have maintained great friendships with many of these young men.

Now that I'm married and have a child of my own, those previous yearnings to be a "father" to other people's kids isn't as strong. My priorities have changed a bit. I'm to be a husband to my wife and a father to my own children FIRST. Though, I do come into contact with children quite often (and still play a powerful/helpful role in their lives), I now find that I don't pursue making their "cause" my own as much as I did before. I might explain this more clearly in another post.