Motherhood and what it did to my wife’s pussy

My wife and I have been married 5 years and we have a toddler son. I'm not saying it's always been a perfect marriage (including one rough spot for a while) but overall I’d bet our marriage is better than most - never anything even remotely resembling infidelity. We love and trust each other.

Before kids she basically needed to be dragged out of bed in the morning, and I had a little difficultly picturing her as a mom jumping up to a crying baby. Turns out she’s been a dedicated, caring, patient, supportive mom and I’m grateful for how she loves our son. She has amazed me.

When she was pregnant our doula taught a massage technique to ease pain during labor: pressing against my wife's hip/glute area. I ended up using the technique in the delivery room and it helped ease some pain. I felt our son kicking inside as my hands worked her hip/glute. And then I watched her deliver him through her vagina.

Now we're trying for our second which means more sex and more time naked together. It's great, although getting pregnant hasn't been as easy this time. But I've been going down on her often. When I'm down there lately faced with my wife's pussy right in front of me I am a state of total awe. Such sweet tenderness yet such awesome power that created life. I'm not worshiping it, but maybe I'm paying my respects to it. I get comfortable down there for a while, feeling her get wet and writhe. I found some pussy licking tips on reddit recently and now I do way more clit sucking, plus using my hands to grab her from behind in that hip/glute area. It feels some feminine and womanly.

Happy Mother's Day. My wife would be mortified if she knew I posted this.

reading the title, I thought this would be a negative post complaining that she isn't "tight" anymore or something. i'm so glad it was the opposite! if you haven't already, you should definitely tell your wife how much you appreciate her and respect her for being a mother :)

For the most part, it's a myth that women who've given birth get "looser". The vaginal canal has evolved to grow considerably during childbirth, with the influx of hormones and onset of contraction. After childbirth, the canal tends to return to where it was pre-pregnancy (or very close). There are exceptions, of course, as there always are.

I and another female friend of mine both found, actually, that there was a length of time following childbirth (in my case, about a year), where we felt much tighter than pre-pregnancy. In my case, at least, that subsided and now things feel the same as they did before I had a kid.

For the most part, it's a myth that women who've given birth get "looser". The vaginal canal has evolved to grow considerably during childbirth, with the influx of hormones and onset of contraction. After childbirth, the canal tends to return to where it was pre-pregnancy (or very close). I and another female friend of mine both found, actually, that there was a length of time following childbirth (in my case, about a year), where we felt much tighter than pre-pregnancy. In my case, at least, that subsided and now things feel the same as they did before I had a kid.

I actually didn’t have sex for almost a year after I had my daughter. Afterwards, I couldn’t believe how much tighter and more pleasurable sex felt. That was a few years ago and my sex life is still so much more satisfying than it ever was before. I’m not sure if it’s just the confidence that becoming a mother has given me or related to some postpartum physiological change, but it’s fantastic either way. I’m endlessly amazed by women’s bodies.

yeah, that's exactly why the post title freaked me out a little! I hate how much misinformation is spread about women's bodies. so I was glad to see that this post was not something that would end up on r/badwomensanatomy

This is about someone appreciating their significant other's body after a major life event that most have historically posted negative stuff about.

I don't like making assumptions about a post I haven't read, but when you say "curvy girl feeling amazing" what does that mean? Immediately when you say "curvy" that's normally another turn of phrase for overweight? A LOT of overweight/obese posts lately have been bordering on trying to teach unhealthy lifestyles as "perfectly fine!".

In my experience unhealthy posts are pruned more often than praising ones here.

This reads like an erotic love letter. From an outsider's perspective, after hearing so many woman feel unattractive to their men and men being less attracted to their women after childbirth, this is heart-warming. Thanks so much for sharing.

A person (often a woman) how support women during pregnancy and birth. They do things like get you ice chips, offer resistance on those bands you can lean on, advocate on your behalf to keep you as close to your birth plan as safely possible, provide emotional support for mom and dad etc. Some also have some experience helping with breast feeding etc.

I’m terrified of every having kids, I honestly don’t think I will just because I heard giving birth literally can tear you a new one. I’m amazed with women who can go through that, because my insides recoil whenever I hear my co workers talk about what they went through

I feel the exact same way. It has even changed since she gave birth. Some (her included) might say it is less attractive now but MAN I do not think so. It is a beautiful thing and I love to let her feel that with my tongue! Good post.

I don't know why, but reading this as a child free person horrified me. That is extremely weird you get turned on by your wife's pussy because she pushed a baby out of it. This is seriously freaky. I mean do you think of your wife give birth with blood, shit etc as you go down on her?