I also agree with Fearsome that homosexuality is easier for a lot of Christians to discuss than divorce because divorce is what we do and not what they do. And, of course, gays can point out that because straight people divorce and gays can’t marry in most states divorce does more to destroy the family among straights than gays could even dream of doing.

I’m a single guy and so for some that means I don’t know anything, an observation that has stuck with me for many years, but it would seem Christians should have such a serious view of divorce as a sin and failure that it would be better to avoid marrying to begin with than to jump into a marriage and not be acutely aware of the issues within the relationship that could one day lead to a divorce.

If adolescents overestimate rewards and respond to social rewards that could explain why teenagers do some of the dumb stuff they do. I don’t know if I can look back on my own teen years and say that about myself. I was more risk averse than just about anybody I’ve ever known. I was made to go to youth group events which made them just seem more perfunctory to me most of the time until I found out the youth pastor at my AG church was a fan of Francis Schaeffer and Solzhenitsyn. I preferred hanging out with the teachers during my school years and talking about Frost, Eliot, and stuff like that.

"The things I thought were so important - because of the effort I put into them - have turned out to be of small value. And the things I never thought about, the things I was never able to either to measure or to expect, were the things that mattered." --Thomas Merton

"Jesus came to raise the dead. He did not come to teach the teachable; He did not come to improve the improvable; He did not come to reform the reformable. None of those things works." --Robert Farrar Capon