After months of ploughing through several hundred pages of BDSM Personals Ads, across about 10 sites, and my own calls for a female sub OR domme, it would seem that everybody has already found their mate.

Not quite sure where to go now, I thought there'd be loads of people out there, both domme and sub, but now it looks like I arrived too late, and the everybody is already finished and coupled off.

Now the only threads on these forums come from porn site hosters and the few like me who are wading around in the dark.

Where should I go next?

I'm banging my head against a brick wall, but for all I know there's someone on the other side, doing exactly the same

what? the idea that EVERYONE EVERYWHERE already has a partner is kind of a ridiculous one
maybe its time you got off the internet and started to meet people at BDSM clubs or regular clubs or at work.
Hopefully you're not gonna tell me you live in some nowhere town that's hours away from a big city and trying to publicly meeting other kinky people is going to be detrimental to your normal vanilla life. In which case I'm gonna... I dont even know
Is it a domme/sub you want? Or a girlfriend? Or both?