The Best of Intentions - Not Good Enough

There is this song from Travis Tritt called Best of Intentions. The video features a man in prison whose wife stands bravely by his side. It is an anthem of sorts about a bad boy who was either wronged, done wrong, or simply misunderstood. Either way, the torch song promises that despite having royally messed up, he really loves her and wants to do right.

So here I am asking forgiveness, and praying that you understand
Don t think I take you for granted, girl I know just how lucky I am
Though you deserve so much better, you won t find devotion more true, For I had the best of intentions, loving you.

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Many women, from the comments I have read about this song, find this pretty romantic. Call me jaded, but I find it a ton of crap.

Good intentions are simply not enough. I am not saying that Rex cannot ever make a mistake. If you have read my columns, you know that I am not about seeking perfection in my husband. But with the world being insane enough, I simply could not tolerate a man who intended to put me on a pedestal but somehow forgot and treated me like a doormat. And worse, I would hate to romanticize it.

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Another song that has always bugged me is Willie Nelson s, "Always on My Mind." Little things I should have said and done... I just never took the time... but you were always on my mind. Huh?

Let me get this straight. The guy from this song ignored his woman, admits to not treating her very nicely, and yet tries to make her swoon with what's on his brain - his most likely alcohol soaked, weed altered, brain? I am thinking, like driving drunk, that is a recipe for crashing and burning.

I wonder why women insist on supporting men who do not support them, both financially and emotionally? Do I sound like an old biddy? Perhaps. But I have a daughter. And while I would want her to be understanding of her husband s failings, I hope she never ends up with someone who, like Tritts song, gives her a ring and promises her things he always thought he d do... But my best laid plans slipped right through my hands to show my love for you.

That would kill me. And so, I am asking you, is there some sexy chip I'm missing? Are songs like these really romantic? And seriously, no offense to Travis Tritt or Willie. I love their stuff. But these two songs just really irk me. Maybe in my past life I was knocked up by a felon and left on a farm to raise my six kids alone. I'm not sure. But if you are one of those women, I sure hope you demand some more for your life. After all, life is short. You deserve more than good intentions. In fact, some securitiy and confidence is worth ten orgasms any day of the week.