(Closed) Mom might not come to my wedding :-(

My mom has had flu like symptoms since last Thursday afternoon. She was feeling much worse yesterday afternoon, and my dad took her to the ER. I got a call around 7:30pm yesterday from my dad telling me my mom had to have immediate surgery. She had a severe strangulated hernia. It was cutting the supply off to her bowl. They put a tube through her nose, into her stomach, and pumped out over a liter of fluid. Ugh. I’ve never seen her in so much pain (from the tube). It was tough to watch.

The surgery went perfect, but the doctor was talking about keeping her in the hospital until at least Friday (which is the rehearsal). I’m so upset right now. I want my mom to get better, but what if she won’t be able to come to the wedding? I can’t imagine my mom not being there. She means everything to me. Positive thoughts…

I’m so sorry you’re going through this!! Hopefully everything will work out. Is there anyone who can drive to get them? Can you set up Skype for the wedding? (I know it wouldn’t be the same but it would allow her to see everything.)

First, I really hope it works out and your mom gets better. How scary! I would be so beside myself if that happened. Anyway you can postpone?

If not, do you have a friend that would be willing to go pick up your parents? 30 minutes isn’t that far, especailly if you can give them some gas money. I would totally do that for a friend on thier wedding day.

@MrsSweetT: I’m so sorry to hear about all this craziness, I’d stay in contact with the doctors and ask them about how much they’d recommend her coming to the wedding. You should definitely look at retaining a car service that can take them to the ceremony. If your mother is strong enough to remain for the ceremony but not the reception, the car can take them home to rest.

@MrsSweetT: Is there a cabulance service in your area? We used to have one near us – if your mom is weak but otherwise able to travel the half hour to your wedding, she would be able to lie down and have a nurse with her for the ride to and from. I wonder if some senior or rehab centers might be able to help?

Thank you for the responses ladies. I’ve never heard of Cabulance or Uber, but I will definitely check them out as a plan B. I would totally spring for a limo if needed. FMILs cousin lives in the same town as my parents, so I’m sure she will drive them if my mom gets out in time, otherwise maybe Future Mother-In-Law can pick them up. I called the hospital (quite a few times this morning already lol), and I finally got a hold of someone who said my mom has been sleeping all through the night and is still sleeping lol.

@MrsSweetT: First off, I’m sorry you’re going through this and I’m glad to hear everything went well. Hopefully she feels up to coming on Saturday! As far as transportation, I’m sure only being 30 minutes away there is someone who could drive her – if not, I would maybe contact a car service to have a car or even a taxi (not as comfortable of a ride).