Sex Positions For Fantastic Sex

The images in popular culture can make us
all feel inadequate when it comes to sex. Men who watch porn may think
they should be able to pound away in their hapless girl's vagina until she
comes in a screaming orgasm. Women may think they should be able to have
five orgasm in a row as soon as a penis appears anywhere near their
vagina! The truth, of course, is very different - most men experience
premature ejaculation, at least some of the time, when they have sex,
especially in certain positions like rear entry, while most women never
come during vaginal intercourse.

(Watching porn can give us all a very
distorted view of what sex is really like. For example, it's not normal to
finish a bout of sex by withdrawing from your girl's vagina and
ejaculating over her face. Yet this is what many teenage boys are learning
about sex as they watch internet porn.)

Just in case you don't believe me when I say that most men come quickly
and most women never come at all during intercourse (and this can be hard
to believe; you may even think you're just a poor lover because these
things happen to you), a recent survey proved that only about one woman in
five will come during intercourse without any clitoral stimulation. I
suspect even the one in five who does come is actually having an orgasm
because her clitoris is being rubbed or stimulated in some way during
intercourse without her really appreciating that fact. It's a bit like the
Coital Alignment technique, which stimulates the clitoris during
intercourse and can bring women to orgasm during sex.

Similarly, most men ejaculate within
three minutes of penetrating their partner. This was first demonstrated by
Alfred Kinsey in 1958, but nothing has change since, as a survey by the
German University at Kohn
recently proved.

The really important question, of course, is: "Does this matter?"
Well...it depends. If you or your partner wants to have vaginal orgasms
while you make love then, yes, it matters a lot. Though many authorities
say that this is not necessary for good sex, the simple fact is that
having the female partner reach orgasm while a couple make love is a very
profound experience for both the man and the woman, and it can add greatly
to both partners' enjoyment of sex, since most men will come immediately
their partner begins to have her orgasm, and the sensation of her vagina
gripping his penis as she climaxes will give him great pleasure and most
likely cause him to ejaculate as well. Yes: that's what's called a
simultaneous orgasm. Now, how are you going to achieve that?

Well, first of all, accept that she's going to need a helping hand or
finger on her clitoris. That's how most women who come during sex get to
orgasm. (We'll come back to the idea of the vaginal orgasm, reached purely
stimulating the G spot during sex, later.) For the moment, I'm going to
offer you some ideas for sex positions that can help a couple bring the
woman to orgasm. first off, the man may have a slow ejaculation, or even one that is seriously delayed.

The best position for sex is man on top. It's a good position for
many reasons: ease, comfort, more sensation for the man, easy on the woman
who can lie back and enjoy it - we all know why we like it. Men can thrust
deeply, but of course while this gives him great pleasure, his penis
probably doesn't go anywhere near her clitoris. The thing to do is to
modify the man on top position so that her clitoris gets some much-needed
stimulation. This is the so-called Coital Alignment Technique,
about which you can discover more < href="http://www.coitalalignmenttechniques.com">here.

After her enters her, the man shifts his
body up so that his penis enters her vagina from a more acute angle. The
bottom of the shaft of his penis, where it enters his body, will then be
pressed against the general area of her clitoris. He doesn't then thrust;
it's more like he's lying on her as the couple rock their bodies against
each other. With a gentle motion that massages his penis in her vagina and
stimulates her clitoris, it's not hard to time the movements so that the
couple reach orgasm together. If the man needs to know how to control premature
ejaculation, then the best position for sex is woman on top - he is
prevented from making deep thrusting movements, which speed up
ejaculation, and he can relax all his muscles to aid in slowing down his
arrival at the point of no return.

For a
sexy variation, the woman can lie on the man, in which case the whole
position is effectively reversed.

The second best position for a woman to reach orgasm during sex is with
her on top, sitting on the man with his penis inside her, facing him. The
reason this works is that she can control the depth and angle of
penetration, and the speed of thrusting, and the angle at which she lies
on her partner, thereby allowing her clitoris to get the stimulation it
needs to bring her to orgasm. Essentially she is in charge during sex in
this position, and she can modify it as sex proceeds so that her clitoris
is stimulated until she comes - and she can control the speed with which
this happens.

Another great
position for orgasm during sex is rear entry. In this position, there is
plenty of opportunity for either the man or the woman to play with her
clitoris until she comes. The only problem here might be that men find
this position so stimulating, they tend to come very quickly. Mind you, he
can always stop moving while she catches up with him, so simultaneous
orgasm should still be possible.

Perhaps the best of all positions for female orgasm is side by side sex.
This is a romantic position, one which provides the man with much less
stimulation, so he can last longer, and which at the same time allows
either him or her to play with her clitoris so that she can get to orgasm.
Because it's relaxed and romantic, sex in this position can feel much more
loving and tender than, say, rear entry. All in all, it's a sex position
which will provide all the romantics out there with a superb experience of
feeling loving and then enjoying a shared orgasm!