This worksheet is not designed to give you a diagnosis of any problems in your life. It is only a tool to help you see what might be the issues facing you and your relationships when it come to conflicts. If you have scores that are of concern, either send me a comment or find a good counsellor to address the issues raised, especially if the results were 10 or more.

Author Bio In this practical follow-up to their bestselling book on personal boundaries, Drs Cloud and Townsend show how respecting other’s personal territory can actually strengthen your relationship. They will help you to protect your relationships from such intruders as idols, affairs, other people and relationships.

We now head into an area where we must tread carefully. Much of what we will share comes from over 25+ years of counselling experience and on a personal level, a very happy marriage of 40+ years. However, I aware that some of what we will share is be counter to the current ways of thinking in a society where ‘do your own thing’ is most people’s guidelines.

After 25+ years of counseling and Mentoring, we think we have seen most of the problems between the sexes. Too often we see two single people living in a marriage situation and neither have any idea of where their partner is thinking and acting. So how can we help such couples to learn to live within the healthily boundaries of marriage and still be unique, thriving individuals? How can two people, vastly different in their family of origin or life views adapt and grow as one unit? Is it even possible in our individualistic cultures?

We have seen opposites attract and yet their tensions tear apart a marriage … but that need not be. There are ways to get past the barriers created by the battle of the sexes, but first we must understand the basic fundamentals of male female relationships. We are very different, yes like Mars and Venus.
Let’s not get hung up on any stereotypes but join me as we find some answers.

To understand these questions, we need to go back to the beginnings of the relationship between males and females. These first recorded events surrounding the problems can be found in the Old Testament, in the book of Genesis.

Yes, I can almost hear the groans as we turn to this story but to me as a counsellor, so many of the answers about the war between the sexes are found in these pages. I have seen the story repeated a thousand times in our current mindset about marriage – even though it was almost 7,000 years ago when the first events happened.

I deeply believe the story in Genesis is the guidebook to where we need to head to understand why males and females are so different.
So please join us as we find out "What your Dad didn't tell you about the Opposite Sex!"

A comment from a client about my beloved husband to give some encouragement to guys that understanding females is possible:

"From a woman who has suffered hurt and abuse by men in her life, Daniel has been a shining light, a beacon of Godly manhood. Trusting men or even liking them had been difficult until I met Daniel and to this day, he is one of very few men I could honestly say I trust.

"He made it his business to find out how women think, feel and behave and is always prepared to listen when we are emotional. He is a man who so closely resembles Jesus that women can feel comfortable in his presence.

"Thank you Daniel for allowing Jesus to shape you into a man after His own heart."

If may Daniel can do this, so can so many other guys. He is the son of a Prussian - German engineer, who was spiritual dead, emotionally cripples and ruled by logic.

"Aw, this was an exceptionally nice post. Finding the time and actual effort to create a really good article but what can I say I put things off a whole lot and never manage to get nearly anything done.

You could certainly see your enthusiasm in the work you write. The world hopes for even more passionate writers like you who are not afraid to say how they believe. Always follow your heart."

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Interesting post and I hope the beginnings of many more. I did need to learn about not having conflicts with my boss! Great looking blog too.

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From our Intro to Healthy Conflict, we explore Conflicts in many different situations: Conflict happens with expectations, Personality Issues – all needing good Communication Skills. Then we move into Conflicts in the Early Years of Marriage, Families in Conflict and Conflicts over Money. Then onto Resources for Interviews & stories, courses in Conflict Resolution for individual and groups. We have included the popular ‘Sunday Cuppa’s with Susanne’.

Building strong Conflict Resolution skills requires experience, practice, determination and the willingness to work toward making life better; it is possible to aim for this goal. With this as a foundation, people can face storms and great times, disasters and anything life throws at them …. and survive.
We seem to expect people to make a success of conflict when they may have never seen, expected - or certainly trained for. Successful people have skills that can be learned and shared. That's why we have presented this blog!
Without this determination to work on learning how to resolve conflicts, weakness results ….and failure can be the end result. Much of the results are in our hands. What will you do now to make your Conflict Resolution skills better to survive the tough times?
Remember you work on the roof in good weather rather than when the storms and rain comes. Becoming ‘intentional’ in learning new skills is part of the key to a happier, less stress filled life.
We shall also cover problem solving, setting conflict rules, learning about boundaries and finding your personal styles. Helping each person face and work toward a willingness for a compromise but better yet, a ‘win-win’ solution is the goal.

I have been a ‘Jesus Follower’ since I was 17 years old .....that’s a fair few years ago now! I am the wife of an amazing husband, Daniel. I have been working on my 'hobby' of website design for over three years. Made any money... well...not enough to pay for our hosting account at Hostgater....but that's partly what a hobby is all about.
I've enthusiastically jumped into blogs with 'a warehouse’ of great info we have collected over our 25 plus years of counseling and mentoring. So, please take advantage of the years of wisdom we have gathered.
We have dedicated this blog to build hope. We really believe that everyone out there can really, really hear from God and that is His heart's desire! He gives us true focus, sets our priorities and builds our faith in His love.
Your Thoughts? I’d especially love to hear from those of you who know something about this topic and from those who wish to learn how to resolve conflicts better in their life! Give us an email from those who are skeptical or have yet to begin this journey of faith in finding your loving Creator. You can contact us on sf7272[at]bigpond.com