therapy

Freddie wrote: “Is it ever a bad thing to be attached to someone who is so loving and good to me but has suicidal thoughts every now and then?” Liz says: I think it’s crucial to know the difference between someone who has battled depression or other mental illnesses, sometimes culminating in suicidal ideation, and …

Mark wrote: “I was wondering if you had any thoughts on mental illness and sexuality. I’ve always felt very dominant in the bedroom, but there’s a psychological side of being dominant that’s become much harder for me as I’ve developed depression and issues with anxiety. Being submissive feels inauthentic, but it’s a little easier to …

Buddy wrote: “I have a sex addiction to calling phone sex. My wife knows and she was upset. And she wanted me to stop. I tried but unsuccessful, and she told me that if she finds out I did it again she would leave me. I want to stop. I have seen a professional about …

E wrote: “Hello Liz, I’m 14 years old and I have a little penis and a ballbusting fetish. 1. My penis is 6 cm, how can I make it bigger? 2. I take everyday more than 40 powerful kicks to my nuts, is it over with my nuts?” Liz says: Who on Earth is kicking …

There’s a lot of bad advice out there. Sometimes it’s only bad because it’s too simplistic, like “Good communication is the most important for making love last”. Sure, good communication is important, but what exactly is “good” communication? And what about things like compatible personalities, sexual and/or romantic chemistry, and shared values? I recently came …

S.T. wrote: “Hi, I watched your YouTube video on belly button fetishes. I have always had a fetish for stomachs and navels. It has ruined my life. It has made dating hard for me and I feel like I don’t fit in. Do you have any advice for me? I feel creepy having this fetish …

Maria asks: “My question is not specific to dating, but it relates to emotional abuse, so I thought you could help. I have finally come to realize (I’m 49) that my mother is probably BPD. She will fly into a rage for no reason, then 10 minutes later it’s like it never happened and you’re not …