Posted by MikeT23 on 4/9/2013 6:47:00 PM (view original):Well, on that note, my first marriage was family and friends brought together and proclaiming to them that I and another person have decided to be with each other forever. Two good years, two bad years and a divorce.

My second marriage was in Vegas. At The Little Chapel by the Courthouse. I think the receptionist was our witness. It hasn't been all ice cream and candy but we passed our 12th year 4 months ago.

So much for the importance of declaring committment in front of family and friends.

Ok, so the rule according to Mike T.
When I'm having my 24th anniversary dinner with my wife next week, I'll pass on your best to her.

Posted by MikeT23 on 4/9/2013 6:47:00 PM (view original):Well, on that note, my first marriage was family and friends brought together and proclaiming to them that I and another person have decided to be with each other forever. Two good years, two bad years and a divorce.

My second marriage was in Vegas. At The Little Chapel by the Courthouse. I think the receptionist was our witness. It hasn't been all ice cream and candy but we passed our 12th year 4 months ago.

So much for the importance of declaring committment in front of family and friends.

Ok, so the rule according to Mike T.
When I'm having my 24th anniversary dinner with my wife next week, I'll pass on your best to her.

Just saying standing in front of family, friends and God(if that's your thing) while proclaiming your committment to another person doesn't amount to a hill of beans of the relationship itself isn't meant to be.

biz, regardless of whether or not you share the reason of what makes you an ***, or a racist, or a sexist, or a homophobe, it doesn't mean you aren't one of those things.

Except I'm not any of those things in the first place.

I think you (and probably some others too) assume way too much about me, and then you base other assumptions on THOSE assumptions you already made until finally you THINK you know so much about me and you're wrong about nearly all of it.

If you want to have a decent discussion rather than having me correct all the things you get wrong all the time, you might want to try taking what I say for its face value rather than assuming it means something else. You might also consider that each thing I say is within its own context and is not related to anything else I say or my other opinions on other topics, because unlike some people, I decide my opinion on each subject independent of my other viewpoints.

biz, regardless of whether or not you share the reason of what makes you an ***, or a racist, or a sexist, or a homophobe, it doesn't mean you aren't one of those things.

Except I'm not any of those things in the first place.

I think you (and probably some others too) assume way too much about me, and then you base other assumptions on THOSE assumptions you already made until finally you THINK you know so much about me and you're wrong about nearly all of it.

If you want to have a decent discussion rather than having me correct all the things you get wrong all the time, you might want to try taking what I say for its face value rather than assuming it means something else. You might also consider that each thing I say is within its own context and is not related to anything else I say or my other opinions on other topics, because unlike some people, I decide my opinion on each subject independent of my other viewpoints.

I'll say this one more time.

IF you deny someone of your business because of a persons race, sex, or sexual orientation, THEN you'd be one of those things.

Since I don't give a damn about being PC, a man stating that "I just married my husband" is very important to him might be the gayest thing I can think of.

It's a couple of words. "We've been together for 15 years" is far more impressive than a 45 minute ceremony. Goddam.

You've made it clear several times that specifically being "married" isn't important to you.

Yes. Perhaps that's the impasse here. It seems so "womanly" for it to matter all that much to one. I honestly have no idea if I told my family/friends that we were going to get married while vacationing in Vegas. I know, for my first wedding, that I sent my invitations out about 10-12 days before the wedding.

I guess I look at it as a status on a tax return. Still seems very "gay" to prance around saying "I JUST GOT MARRIED!! WEEEEEE!!!!"