(Closed) I honestly think I’m going to break..

Lately I have been so stressed about everything that has been going on with wedding planning, getting ready to move, packing (or lack thereof) that I have come to my breaking point. I think I have hit rock bottom to where I honestly dont care anymore. My fiance and his family are driving me nuts, we move in a couple of days and he doesnt understand why I want to pack, even though we are only moving right down the road. We never fight and lately we are screaming at each other, which started a while back because of all the stress and tension in our house. I am at a total loss right now..

I don’t have much advice for you but to take a second and breathe. Moving is hard on everyone, no matter how far or close you’re moving. I think once you move and get things a bit settled in, things will be 100x better.

First off, I am soooo sorry your having so much stress. I understand were your coming from totally. We are living in differnt states right now and are waiting to see which state were gonna end up in after the wedding based on his job. So right now I have no idea where I will be living in 4 months. Maybe you could try having a wedding/planning/moving free date night with your Fiance. Grab a movie and some popcorn and just enjoy each other for a bit. Sometimes that usally helps me when I get stressed out.

Hang in there girlie. It may get worse before it gets better, but it will get better once things settle down.

And take a deep breath. First of all, please know that what you’re going through is one of the very most stressful times in anyone’s life – planning a wedding. Secondly, having to move on top of that, wow, I feel for you! You do sound miserable and exhausted.

Is there any way you can just give yourself a temporary time out from all your responsibilities? If even for an hour or two, try to get away and give your poor brain and body a break. Think of something you enjoy doing the most, and take time out for yourself. It isn’t only all about your Fiance and his family – YOU are important in the equation as well. Be a little selfish. You deserve just as much care as everyone else in your life does. I hope you can get a little break and that you’ll feel better soon. Sometimes something as simple as taking a walk in the sunshine will help.

Thank you all! I am just at my wits (sp?) end right now. Im on the verge of tears everyday and explosive fighting breaks out on my end because I am so stress. Explosive meaning I’m a complete and total bitch but I cannot help it, I’m mentally exhausted and drained! I dont understand at what point everything started to annoy me. It didnt used to be this way and now I get so angry at Fiance and his family, they all just annoy the crap out of me! I shouldnt be acting/feeling like this! And to top it off, I sound like a complete brat! Hopefully, like you said, this is the worst part and it gets better from here. If I dont run my Fiance off before then.

I soudns like you just need a break. The best thing is that you recognize that you’re being grumpy so you can do something about it. Moving is never any fun but try to take some time to get a massage or a pedicure or a drink with a friend or a bath or whatever will recharge some of your mental and emotional batteries. And maybe the good vibes I’m sending your way will help.

@Mrs.DsBeeloved: If you explain to him how overwhelmed you’re feeling right now he should understand. You really do need a break. And I’ll add my good vibes being sent to you along with JenGirl’s. Don’t feel as though you are in any way wrong or different – everyone on earth goes through times they feel like this, it’s completely normal. Also don’t feel as though you have to always give and give and be a perfectionist (I’m the same way, though, lol), because sometimes you just need a little breather for yourself.

Try talking to your Fiance and cry on his shoulder. Make him feel like a hero by explaining how much you need him, emotionally, right now. And you’ll benefit, too. Sometimes just feeling heard is all it takes.

I just wanted to offer my support! I completely understand how you feel. I am moving in two weeks and I am completely stressed out (not to mention that I will be starting a new job and graduate program). I agree with the posts above – let your Fiance know that you are overwhelmed and take some time to spoil yourself. Hopefully everything will seem less overwhelming when you get settled in your new home!

Moving and planning a wedding are both very stressful events to begin with, trying to do both at the same time is enough to overwhelm anyone. I’m actually going to be in the midst of a move halfway through my engagement/wedding date. I am newly engaged as of Saturday. My Fiance and I recently bought a new home that is undergoing renovations. It is scheduled to be ready for move in at the beginning of September and our wedding date is set for April 20th. I already get a little overwhelmed thinking about how hectic things will be between the two, but I just try to remind myself to take a deep breath, enjoy the process, and cherish this exciting time in our lives. When else do we get to get married and move into our first home together?

Try not to let it come between you and your Fiance. Tell him how you are feeling. It will all be over with soon enough. Take a deep breath and know that everything will work out.

@KelsieLea7: Thank you! I’ve tried talking to him and all he can seem to say is “Why are you so stressed, its fine. You need to understand that everything is fine.” And that just ticks me off even more! I think I am to a point where I dont want to hear “its fine”, I want a shoulder to cry on and someone to understand where I am coming from and for him to say something like “I will do what I can to help your stress go away” but I know he’s not like that so I deal with it all on my own, and inside, I am literally screaming!!!! Its bad 🙁 I need a breather for sure.