Thank you all for your #AskRuby questions - fascinating as always. You can ask me anything with #AskRuby over on twitter.

Elaine Clancy @elainecclancy@Rubywax #AskRuby which book should I start with first Sane New World or mindfulness guide for the Frazzled, in your opinion?

If you want to know why you’d need Mindfulness get Sane New World. If you want to learn how to do mindfulness (my much easier to use in everyday life version) go to Frazzled. I’d say get both and cut between the two continuously until you’re finished, then I’ll write you another book.

Jenny Horscraft @TrulyMadlyJenny@Rubywax #askruby How do you stop yourself constantly worrying about things you can't do anything about? X​Worrying always means you can’t do anything about something - otherwise you wouldn’t worry. If you recognize this simple truth then start to listen to the worrying as you would a familiar but irritating sound track – eventually you lose interest.

Harry Callahan @siakker#AskRuby it's hard keeping good routines on bad days but at least I have dark cloud reminding me why needed. On good days I forget. Any tips

If you have a good day, bring out the champagne, blow up the balloons and celebrate. You’re lucky to have one day with no clouds.

Youcanrecover @Youcanrecovere@Rubywax #AskRuby I've had depression for 5 years and im suffering with bulimia too. trying so hard to not give up. Does it get better? 😢

I have to acknowledge the depressed elephant in the room by asking if you’re on medication? If the depression is on-going, why aren’t you? If you had any other disease would you allow yourself to suffer? No, you would not. If you’re on a medication and its not working, change it, there are hundreds. Yes, I promise it gets better.

Lori C @Lori6283@Rubywax Does Mindfulness really help depression? I just cannot motivate myself to look into it. And where do I start? 😞 #AskRuby

Research shows that those who’ve had depression for more than three or more episodes, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy yields a 60 per cent chance of preventing relapse. To learn how to do it, listen to Headspace you don’t even have to leave your bed, just switch it on and listen.

Sally Brantley @Sally4x@Rubywax #AskRuby where is the best place to start with Mindfulness?

On YouTube listen to Mark Williams, my professor at Oxford, co-founder of mindfulness-based cognitive therapy and a genius. No one makes it clearer, not even me.

Abdullah Alsarraf @aboodsarraf@Rubywax do you have any background on Depersonlization? #AskRubyNo. I’m just a small person I can’t know everything about everything.

It’s not just your problem, it’s a hard, cold fact; none of us cant get time back. It might make you feel better to know we all suffer from knowing it.

Nadia Jean Flynn @nadiaflynn80@Rubywax #AskRuby how do I stop perfectionism & be patient with myself/life? Have a broken heart ATM

Imagine if your best friend told you that she was heartbroken, how would you respond? I’m sure you’d be patient and compassionate. Just turn that on yourself.

smithy @GailaSmith@Rubywax when are u back on TV! #askruby

When someone asks me to go back. But in the meantime I’m ‘live’ on stage in “Frazzled” – waaaay more fun. I can see the whites of people’s eyes.

Suzi ♫ @MessMakerPro#AskRuby How did you manage to move to England? Can I defect to England if Trump becomes President?

Don’t wait, get on a plane now, the end is nigh and you’ll be crushed by the hoards trying to exit when he wins.

Charlotte Foxon @Charlotte_Foxon@Rubywax Would you ever do another run of 'Ruby Wax Meets...'? I adored that show, had to dig out the Trump one the other day! #AskRuby

If I’m paid well, I’d do almost anything but I will not meet Trump ever again. Even if we’re talking millions, I’d rather cut out my tongue.

Nicky @winklesbird @Rubywax how can I shut up my negative internal monologue! #AskRuby

If you run from the monster, it will chase you. If you face it, it will run away. We all have that yabbering critic in our heads berating us through a bullhorn, so you’re not alone. Try mindfulness you learn to live with it; not obey it or believe it – then it loses its hold on you.

Mediathirsty @Mediathirsty@Rubywax #AskRuby How would you use your own personal forcefield? #myownforcefield

As in “Star Wars”? I wasn’t aware I had one.

Hàna Swann @hanaswaan@Rubywax #AskRuby What do u think of Mindfulness Meditation as a Buddhist Practice??

It is a Buddhist practice, mindfulness is just more Western so you don’t have to sit in lotus position with your legs in a bow or clean up your act so you don’t come back in your next life as a cricket. Meditation happened to have the best results as far as reducing stress, which is made evident in a brain scanner. So thank you Buddhists.

Managers sometimes just throw up their arms and say it’s not their problem, they don’t know how to deal with it. It is their problem because if anyone in their team goes under, it’s a reflection on their competence.

Emma @emmac007@Rubywax #askruby when you are not feeling great what song makes you feel a bit better

‘Creep’ by Radiohead; it’s my anthem. It’s so heart splittingly beautiful. I identify with the agony of feeling like a freak.

sarah drew jones @sdj19@Rubywax Will Hillary Clinton get your vote this November? And please sum up #Trump in three words. #AskRuby

Asshole! Asshole! Asshole!

not him a Glen! @glenpk2Was the Omen your first acting job? #AskRuby @Rubywax

Yes and I was fantastic as someone who had one line.

Tom Urie @mrtomurie@Rubywax #AskRuby who would play you in a movie of your life?

Carrie Fisher

John Bradley @flypie@Rubywax Where did it all go wrong? #AskRuby

That’s the question I ask almost every hour and have up with no answer.

Kevin G @eatwasps@Rubywax are you involved with the #abfabmovie? #askruby

After reading these comments. I just need to say a HUGE THANK YOU to Ruby. You give your time to answer these questions, your support and understanding is just out of this world. I have been singing your praises for over a year now. You are one of my idols. Thank you for sharing so much with us all xx
Sonbon X

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Alison Greenhalgh

1/4/2016 12:12:22 am

Just wanted to say thank you for Frazzled last night in Chesham. It was great. I am mum to the teenager you spoke with. On the way home, he commented that he thought it was a good thing we all (parents & child) came to the show together as it opened up a dialogue. Interestingly, he didn't like the idea of a teenage version separately. He has really struggled with stress at school so mindfulness may well be a useful tool for him to explore. You also made the point well that he doesn't have to be who he is now, or the person in a dark place. He can effect change. My husband,not known for his empathy or acknowledgement of mental health issues, has downloaded your books. He wants to know whether he could use mindfulness as the angry boss......thank you. I would also say that I think you need to include some science because the term mindfulness is being banded about at the moment, but not often used properly in context so devalued. It's important people understand what it really is (& I didn't fully get it until last night, even having worked on a mental health project) You are a great voice for mental health.

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Suzanne

2/4/2016 09:21:37 am

Saw you at Mdhead. I had no idea it was about mindfulness, but I think this is going to help a lot of people. Good for you Ruby to put yourself out there and tell us about a load of personal shit!! Not many people would be brave enough to do that who are in the limelight. Love the eyebrow trick I must use it! Got to go now cows to milk; sheep to shear haha!

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Alecia

12/6/2017 01:43:11 pm

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8. Weakness of the penis (not able to have sex with your partner or inability to satisfy your partner sexually)
9. Watering sperm (low sperm count) not able to get woman pregnant.
10.Infertility for easy Conception.......
11.Skin diseases, Toilet infection and bad body odor…….Etc..
12.get your ex back
13.Happiness in relationship
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Alecia Madonado

18/6/2017 04:54:25 am

Don’t think of anything else just contact Dr Abalaka and purchase some of his herbal medication and your depression will go away. This was my state of mind when my doctor told me that i will not be able to conceive due to the Fibroid that was rolling in my family life and when i decide to reach out to the priest, and the Priest told me what to do in other to get the medication. Eventually I receive all the Herbal medications that cure my Fibroid and give me the chance to become a proud mother: Dr Abalaka is a great spiritualist, He did it for me, you can contact Dr on (dr.abalaka@outlook.com). If you are suffering from the following gynecology disease::
Fibroid
High Blood Pressure (herbs to reduce your BP within 7days)
Infection, regular body pains
Blockage from the fallopian Tube
Cyst from the ovaries
Unpleasant smell from the virginal
Irregular menstruation
Weakness of the penis (not able to have sex with your partner or inability to satisfy your partner sexually)
Watering sperm (low sperm count) not able to get woman pregnant.
Infertility for easy Conception.......
Erectile dysfunction treatment
Skin diseases, Toilet infection and bad body odor…….Etc..
Get your ex back
Happiness in relationship
Command respect in the society
Enlarge your Penis/breast with no side effect
Impotent solution
Obesity solution
Romanticism solutions
Cancer of the blood
Parkinson disease
General consultation
Those are the things he does, You can simply contact the spiritualist Dr Abalaka on (dr.abalaka@outlook.com) to get his Herbal Medication to cure your disease and put yourself on a motherhood side of life..