Getting to know people on RJ

Hey folks,it's 3:30 am, time for a rant. But hey it's my first and to fit the bill of a 18 year old i'm overdue, right? Have to tick those stereotype boxes ; )

no but seriously i'm interested to know how people get to know others on here. I've used the 'mail' system but it just seems a little weird- i'm not use to giving others unsolicited personal contact. I tried mailing a guy my age just to see if i can merely acquaint myself with someone possibly relatable but a lack of a reply could be a hint haha.

Coming onto here was initially to get tips on weight training but i thought getting to 'know' some other gay guys would be alright. Never really had a homosexual real life friend before and a bit of perspective on those experiences, those of which my straight friends lack, would be nice.

Obviously being a 'realjock' site, those who are physically attractive will get more attention and their posts/words will be more likeable. I'm probably in the wrong place? Real life is a lot easier. Never really had a lack of confidence in talking to any type of person until now- over the internet. How ironic haha.

Communicating with email has an expiration date. There's only so much back and forth you can do before it grows stale and done. The message board here is a great way to know someone, little by little from what they post, without it being an exclusive one-on-one interaction which can grow strained.

Thanks Josh, I'm Chris!My post probably seems to reveal holes bleeding out insecurity but i don't think it's meant to. I LIKE to feel that i'm precocious and busy with life enough to get over that haha.

theantijock- your name itself wants me to get to know you. But thanks. We all need a bit of Julie Andrews in our life at some point.

Ariodante saidCommunicating with email has an expiration date. There's only so much back and forth you can do before it grows stale and done. The message board here is a great way to know someone, little by little from what they post, without it being an exclusive one-on-one interaction which can grow strained.

Well, as Ryan Phillippe once profoundly said in that movie: 'email is for geeks and pedophiles'.

I guess i can learn some patience and let it flow. And here i thought i could buy friends : p

Hey Crispy C, the names waytodawn (or dawn for short). I know what you mean, I want to get to know alot of people on here, but I don't really know proper protocals for internet frienships. (If there is protocols for internet friendships. I mean seriously, anyone know if there is?)Like Ariodante said, just try being a regular in the forums. From there people will slowly get to know you.

I would suggest not personally emailing someone until you get a feel for who they are on the forums. There are plenty of attractive guys who I found appealing when I first saw them but later grew tired of by reading their posts. No everyone is going to be a match. It has nothing to do with you personally, just sometimes things don't work out. Post more so we all get a feeling for who you are. Be yourself and the ones who find you interesting will come flocking.

WaytoDawn saidHey Crispy C, the names waytodawn (or dawn for short). I know what you mean, I want to get to know alot of people on here, but I don't really know proper protocals for internet frienships. (If there is protocols for internet friendships. I mean seriously, anyone know if there is?)Like Ariodante said, just try being a regular in the forums. From there people will slowly get to know you.

Hey dawn, nice to meet you !This is funny because so far most of my posts have been nonsensical and possibly failed attempts at humor which may come off wrong. Love it.

jmusmc85 saidI would suggest not personally emailing someone until you get a feel for who they are on the forums. There are plenty of attractive guys who I found appealing when I first saw them but later grew tired of by reading their posts. No everyone is going to be a match. It has nothing to do with you personally, just sometimes things don't work out. Post more so we all get a feeling for who you are. Be yourself and the ones who find you interesting will come flocking.

yeah good call about the email situation. Initially i wasn't sure if that was the primary way of initial communication on here or whatever. Thanks! : )

As others have said, you may have more luck interacting with people in the forums than through direct e-mail contact. It may not happen right away. You'll need to have some patience. But keep at it. I'm sure you'll make friends. One day, I hope to make some as well.

Most of the guys I talk to on here started by either commenting on a post I've made or communicating with me after they have actually read my profile and discovered we have something in common.

Most of the guys who start a conversation by based on anything physical don't last long. Well... There is one guy I'm pretty sure things started like that who I still talk to but we did meet in person so that kind of changes things.

..Every time i see your screen name i get hungry..Crispy..mmmmmmhhhhhh.. C.. mhhhhh!!..Now i hope that 'C" at the end of crispy is for ... Chicken..OMG..what if that "C" was for .."Co*k"..or even worse .."Clamydia"..!!....Ok crispy till i find out what that 'C' stands for.. I'm keeping my distance..Sorry bro... *Hugz*