Every couple of months

posted March 4th, 2013 at 5:11 PM

Every couple of months my boyfriend's dad comes to stay with us. He flies standby for free so comes out for a couple of days/nights and is too cheap to rent a car, or stay in a hotel, or go out for dinner. So we have to pick him up from the airport (1+ hour away) and drop him off and entertain him for the couple of days. Usually involves watching copious amount of football and very boring games of monopoly. UGH.

SJ

Precious

Mar 4, 2013 at 6:58pm

You sound pretty selfish. If you lack the graciousness, generosity, and patience to host the father of the man you love every couple of months for a mere couple of days, how self-involved you seem. It's not all about you. If anything, you should be insisting that you pick him up from the airport; you should be adamant that he stay with you and not have to spend his money on the hotel AND you should learn how to cook and make your boyfriend and his dad some great meals while they bond over football. When 'dad's' gone back home, you can go back to pussywhipping your boyfriend into doing it all your way. Surely, a few days a year won't jeopardize your wearing the pants in the relationship.

"ugh" to you actually

Mar 4, 2013 at 8:06pm

You should give a little. It doesnt hurt. He shouldnt have to stay in a hotel, he's family for goodness sake! And have the grace to let him watch a game with his son and just be a guest ... which presumably you have been at least once in your life? Two day of get over yourself!

Ladytime

Mar 4, 2013 at 8:28pm

I can see why this would be stressful. His Dad sounds like a cheapskate and having him depend on you guys for all his food and entertainment and accommodation and transportation can't be fun. Does the man even clean up after himself or help with the dishes? I'll bet not.

But there's something to be said for bonding. So the next time you hear Daddy NoBucks is coming for an all-inclusive stay at Hotel You, plan for yourself to go away for a couple days with your girls or your family while boyfriend and his dad bond over watching football, etc. (Hopefully, you don't come back to a big mess ...)

it's too late

Mar 4, 2013 at 8:36pm

I really would like to be in your shoes, seriously. I would love to spend time with my soul-mate's dad. Most of all, I really would like to spend time with my father, too. Again and again. But it's impossible, 'cause my dad's died. Listen to SJ's wisdom.

Mouse

this is your future

Mar 5, 2013 at 1:05am

I can see your (future) son's (future) girlfriend writing a (future) confession that says:

"Every couple of months my boyfriend's Mom comes to stay with us for a couple of days/nights. She's too cheap to rent a car, or stay in a hotel, or go out for dinner, and flies standby for free. So we have to pick her up from the airport (1+ hour away) and drop her off and entertain her for the couple of days. Usually involves watching copious amount of football and very boring games of monopoly. UGH."