Tag: condolence call

Unfortunately, my father passed away this month. For the first time, I was a mourner.

Little did I know there’s a whole sub-culture to the mourning process. Here’s some advice from a recent mourner on what to do and what not to do at a Shiva house.

1. Don’t ask how old the deceased was or how did he die. Get that info from someone else if you must know.
2. Don’t say “well at least he lived a long life”.
3. Do offer to tell nice stories about the deceased.
4. Do offer to help serve, take out garbage, etc…