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When You’re Awake but Your Loved Ones Are Not

You’ve felt the pull. You’ve noticed the signs. Your life is
changing; you are having your spiritual awakening. It isn’t long before you
begin to realize that you feel differently than the people around you. Even
though you’ve known them for years or even all of your life, suddenly their
opinions and viewpoints feel foreign to you. You may even feel disgusted with a
sudden realization at just how petty their so called problems are. When you try
to explore this new found path and share it with them, you are met with their
resistance. You’re angry and hurt at their lack of support. Tension mounts as
you struggle to make peace within yourself. It can be a lot to handle for a
newly awakened individual. Here are my thoughts on how to deal with this transition
into a more awakened and spiritual life.

Energy and Vibrations

First of all, take a deep breath and let yourself relax. You
are dealing with a very big issue; you are dealing with something on a multidimensional
level. It is natural for you to feel your life shaking up around you as you
begin to awaken. This is because energy is moving differently. To gain a better
perspective on this, we need to understand how the creative energy of the
universe works.

Quantum physics has taught us that everything in this universe is energy - even your thoughts and emotions. This energy gives off vibrations
in various frequencies. When your thoughts change and you begin to step away
from the ego, your thoughts become more universally connected to first, the
human collective and next, to the cosmic connection. This causes your
vibrations to rise in frequency. This creates a reaction in your energy field
(your aura) which has a rippling effect, reaching out to other beings around
you. When your frequency rises, those around you must either raise their
frequency to be a closer match to yours or they must go away, out of your field.
It is the law of magnetic attraction.

When you are met by resistance by those in your life, this
is a clear sign that your vibrations are changing. If you find that they are offended
by or even aggressive about your changes, you can bet that their fear has been
triggered because this change in you is seen as a threat by their ego. This is
all happening subconsciously, of course and only the self-aware would know that
it is coming from a place of insecurity. Many people fear change and see it as
a threat only because they do not trust life, but it takes a willingness to
self-analyze to even be aware of this, so do not expect these people to make
this realization. However, it helps you to understand where their resistance is
coming from.

The Unconscious Fear

The late Louise Hay, author and founder of Hay House Publishing,
said in her book, You Can Heal Your Life that “all problems stem from a lack of
self-love” and I agree. There is a very deep rooted belief that we are
unworthy, that we are somehow not good enough. This belief drives most of our
behavior and it stems from the ego’s thought system. The ego believes in the
illusion that we are separate beings and that we are separated from our Source.
This creates a false thought of unworthiness within the human collective, like
we were somehow bad little children who God kicked out of heaven. This is the
unconscious fear that drives humanity to destructive behavior; the belief in
the illusion of separation is the reason for all the pain and suffering in the
world.

However, when we begin to awaken, we realize the Truth and
see the illusion for what it is. We begin to see how everything is connected,
how we are all extensions of Source and how everything is simply consciousness
having experiences. We realize that the journey through the ego’s thought system
was in order for consciousness to learn duality, to know the answer of what
separation would feel like and to learn the value of love. For without the
dark, we would not know the value of the light. As we awaken, we slowly dissolve
the ego’s thought system and replace it with the Truth that lives within our
souls. But even though we are awakening to this Truth, we must also realize
that many others are still asleep.

When we remember this, we can reach inside to find the
compassion for our loved ones even when they are spitting in our face. Not to
say that is easy, because it is not. When they get fired up, do your best to
take deep breaths (breathing is life force energy) and remind yourself that
this is their fear talking. They are afraid that this means they are going to
lose you as they know you. They had gotten rather used to the old you and the
new you is still unknown.

They are trying to control you so that you do not change because
they have taught themselves that in order to feel good, certain conditions need
to be met. This is conditional love and it is what the majority of the world is
taught. But with your awakening, you are being called to find and learn
unconditional love, to love without restriction. This is your challenge now as
you face these people who are refusing to let you change in peace.

Have patience with them and yourself, should you find yourself
falling back into the trap of the ego. Awakening takes time and change can
sometimes be rather bombastic when energies begin to shift. You might find that
you lose old friends, but gain new ones. Or you might find a way to finally
break down the barriers you had with someone else and create a new relationship
based on love rather than fear. Or you might find that your loved ones begin to
awaken too as they notice the changes in you. Whatever the changes are, know
that they are coming because of your growth and this is a very good thing.

Dedicate Yourself to Authenticity

When someone is truly being their authentic self and they
are connected with that inner strength within themselves, something magical
happens. The universe supports your sincere efforts for change and spiritual
growth. When you have reached the place within yourself where you realize that
the most important thing you can bring to this world is your unique and
authentic self, the universe will provide opportunities for you to live that
truth. And dealing with day-to-day living situations has plenty of that!

If you find that you are met with resistance about practical
things like lighting incense or candles, carrying crystals, setting up an altar or anything of the
sort, relax. It is not necessary for you to have this in order for you to
continue your spiritual journey. These sorts of things are tools and although
they can be very helpful for many, they do not make or break your
enlightenment. It is the honest and sincere quest of the spiritual student that
matters, not the tools.

If you can, try to talk to the people who are resisting your
spiritual expression and let them know that you are undergoing a spiritual
change and that this is important to you. If you feel safe to do so, tell them
that having these sorts of things in your environment helps you to feel
connected and in alignment with your authentic self. Let them know that you respect
their feelings but you are willing to compromise with them and work with them
to find a win-win situation for you both. If they do not honor your request,
thank them for listening and move on. It is not worth fighting it, let it go
and ask the universe to bring you a solution. It will and if you are not caught
up in the worry, doubt, fear or anger, you will be clear enough to see the
solution.

When I was in the “broom closet” as I like to call it, I was
faced with this dilemma. I was living with my parents for a short period after
my divorce. I did not feel safe to tell most of my family about my spiritual
journey, although I was authentic with everyone else in my life. I was fearful
of what my Christian family members would say or do if they saw my altar
materials so I kept them in an old fashioned suitcase under my bed. I wanted so
badly to express myself spiritually, so I asked for a solution and sat in
meditation. Then it hit me, I didn’t need to have a permanent altar. I could
build a temporary one. So whenever I got the chance, I would grab my suitcase, go
out into nature and set up my altar in the woods or by the river. The suitcase
itself served as my altar. This gave me the added bonus of being surrounded by
nature and I found that my meditation and prayer sessions always went better
out there anyway.

Conclusion

Whatever you are facing in your life, remember this, there
is a solution to every problem. If you are clear, you will receive the answers
from the universe in one way or another. To remain clear, you must be mindful
of your emotions, your thoughts and your vibrations (which is what creates your
life) so that you are vibrating at a high enough frequency to notice the
solutions and the support that the universe provides for you every day.
Spending time in quiet meditation is the best way for you to train yourself to
be mindful of these things and one of the quickest ways for you to raise your
vibrations. Make it your daily practice and test this for yourself.

Most of all, when you are faced with resistance, remind
yourself that you are learning unconditional love as a part of your spiritual
journey back to your true nature as a co-creative force in this universe. And please remember that you are not alone even though it might feel like you are. There are many of us out there who are awake with you and the more of us who live our Truth, the more of us will continue to awaken. Major changes are happening on this planet and many of us are hearing the call. Know that although your loved ones may not be supporting you through this, the
universe supports your growth and is providing you with guidance on your path.
Your path is made clearer when you can see it through the lens of compassion
and unconditional love. Remember this and you can face any challenge that comes
your way.

Namaste

What are your experiences with this? Do you have more advice on how to handle this transition? Please share in the comments!

Unconditional love. This does not mean that we allow another to hurt us mentally physically and live off from us and causing chaos everywhere? I am so angered and full of disgust for this man whom I allowed feed off me until all I have left is a shell of what was. I don't even know if what will be shall ever come...

No, this does not mean we allow others to hurt us. This means we choose to learn and grow from painful experiences. It also means that we love and honor ourselves enough to get away from hurtful situations. If you need to talk, please feel free to contact me: http://www.laughing-gypsy.com/p/readings.html