Salaams All,
I am a 25 year old girl, and I lost my dad on the 9th of June 2017.
My Dad's death happened at home, His head on my lap, His hand in mine. His final moments with me.
It has been so long, I have tried various amaal, various suras, but I still can not take the scene out of my head, nor can I accept the fact, that my dad is no more. I can not sleep, cannot eat. and I cry most of the time.
Can anyone advice me what to do? How to stop from hurting?

Salam. Condolences.
I'm not going to pretend what it is like losing a father, because i still haven't. But, what i do know is that trying to forget sometimes has a counter effect. I believe maybe you shouldn't try forgetting and instead keep doing your wajibats and let time do what it does best.
Just my two cents!

Salam!
I am a Pakistani Khoja living in the States. I am a very reserved introvert, Myer's Briggs: INFJ, Zodiac Sign: Taurus, Enneagram: 6, and I am currently engaged in battle with the melting pot that is America to retain my identity and my religion.
Dont have any hobbies that are worth mentioning and no talents that I know of as of yet.
I really do love following International Politics though.
My future is unknown at the moment, but I would very much like to go to Iran and study at the Hawza in my lifetime.
I am a long time lurker here. I may have unpopular opinions, but please bear with me

Ws,
The modern inheritors of the Khariji madhhab are the Ibadis, who are actually quite tolerant. When scholars (Sunni and Shi`a) use the term Khariji, they're referring more to a specific attitude. The historical Khawarij were very meticulous in their outward practice of Islam - their prayers were commendable in form, they would recite the Quran - but their hearts were devoid of the light of faith. They were harsh and divisive, doing takfir upon all other Muslims (and even on their subfactions), and they never truly digested the Quranic message. They simply used it to kill others.
Many militant Salafis share these qualities, and Sunnis will refer to them as Khawarij as a way to distance themselves from these groups.
The Imams of Ahl al-Bayt (as) knew that the Khawarij were not just a sect, but a spiritual disease when doctrine is mixed with hard-heartedness and narrow-mindedness. Meditate on the narrations below:
كَلاَّ وَالله، إِنَّهُمْ نُطَفٌ فِي أَصْلاَبِ الرِّجَالِ، وَقَرَارَاتِ النِّسَاءِ، كُلَّمَا نَجَمَ مِنْهُمْ قَرْنٌ قُطِعَ، حَتَّى يَكُونَ آخِرُهُمْ لُصُوصاً سَلاَّبِينَ.
When Imam `Ali [a] was told that the Kharijites had been totally killed, he said: "No, not yet, by Allah. They exist in the loins of men and the wombs of women. Whenever a chief appears from amongst them, he will be cut down, till the last of them become thieves and robbers." (Nahj al-Balagha, Sermon 60)
عن إسماعيل الجعفي قال: سألت أبا جعفر (عليه السلام) عن الدين الذي لا يسع العباد جهله، فقال: الدين واسع (2) ولكن الخوارج ضيقوا على أنفسهم من جهلهم
A man asked Muhammad al-Baqir [a] about the correct religion, in which the ignorance of a worshiper has no place. Imam al-Baqir [a] replied, “The religion is wide-ranging, but the Khawarij made it narrow for themselves due to their ignorance”. (al-Kafi)
سبحان الله أما رأيت الكعبة والطواف وأهل اليمن وتعلقهم بأستار الكعبة! قلت: بلى، قال: أليس يشهدون أن لا إله إلا الله وأن محمدا رسول الله (صلى الله عليه وآله) ويصلون ويصومون ويحجون؟ قلت: بلى، قال: فيعرفون ما أنتم عليه، قلت: لا قال: فما تقولون فيهم؟ قلت: من لم يعرف فهو كافر.
قال: سبحان الله هذا قول الخوارج، ثم قال: إن شئتم أخبرتكم، فقلت أنا: لا (1)، فقال: أما إنه شر عليكم أن تقولوا بشئ ما لم تسمعوه منا
Imam as-Sadiq said, "Have you not seen the Ka`ba, the circumambulation, the people of Yemen and their clinging onto the cloth of the Ka`ba?!"
The man said, "Of course."
The Imam said, "Do they not bear witness that there is no god except Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah? Do they not pray, fast and go on Hajj? "
The man said, "Of course."
The Imam said, "Do they recognize what you are upon?"
The man said, "No."
The Imam said, "So what are they to you?"
The man said, "Whomever does not recognize this Order (wilaya) is a disbeliever."
The Imam said, "May Allah be glorified! This is the saying of the Khawarij. If you want, I will tell you [their status]."
The man said, "No."
The Imam said, "Surely, it is evil for you to say something that you have not heard from us."

24, originally from the US but in the process of moving to Wakanda. The most interesting thing about me is that I managed to put a balloon inside of a balloon a couple of days ago.
And I'm both a very silly and very no-nonsense person simultaneously.

I have a long list.
I am sick of narcissists and their minions. It looks like all the people are part of cults which revolve around narcissists. There are only two types of people left: cult leaders and their followers. I am not a cult leader and my ego is too big to become a cult follower. So I don't fit anywhere.
I am also sick of hypocrisy, everyone talking about charity, morality and all the moral values. If all the people are trying to become better, world should become a better place. So why is it becoming a worse place and with so much charity, why is zulm increasing, inequality increasing and why are people becoming more and more miserable?
I am also sick of people talking against feminism and women. All the talk about marriage, marriage is great, so vital for society, and the responsibility of women to have more and more children. We don't have enough resources for the population that's already present on this planet. There are so many orphans and poor people in this world. In the first 30 years of my life, people were always talking about population control. But in the last 5 years, it seems like they literally want women to become baby making machines.
I am also sick of people who are single, or don't have kids, and they keep telling me to get married or have kids. Hypocrisy at its peak.
I am sick of people interfering in my life all the time. I don't interfere in other people's lives, so why do other people interfere in my life so much. I don't want to improve myself, I don't want to become your preferred version of human being or muslim, LEAVE ME ALONE.
Married couples pretending to love each other when they are constantly having affairs. Marriage is a failed institution, married women live such pathetic lives, they become terrible mothers due to abuse by their husbands. Surviving in a marriage is like surviving in a jungle, still everyone talks about how great marriage is and how important it is for children to be brought up with both parents. I keep thinking about if women don't have to put up with all the emotional, physical, and psychological abuse, they would do a much better job at raising their children and those children will become better human beings.

Brother, would you casually just call CPS to come save you from your mother? They may be a pain, and it may be more than just a little, but remember that this is the same woman who nurtured and cared for you while you were still a young baby. Our respect for them needs to always be attained, as @Hameedeh said.

Its being called an attack but not a terrorist attack, and the guy isn't being called a terrorist. If he was muslim, the RMP would already be rounding people up. BTW, almost the exact same thing happened in New York a few months back. A guy mowing down people in a van while they were walking on the sidewalk. It was called an act of Terrorism, press conferences, etc.
In what New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio called a "cowardly act of terror," a man driving a rental truck struck and killed eight people on a bike path Tuesday afternoon.
http://abcnews.go.com/US/dead-truck-plows-people-york-city-cowardly-act/story?id=50842052
People on the right think that all terrorism is done by muslims, because it is only when the perpetrator is a muslim is it called 'terrorism', even if a non muslim does the exact same act. Weird.

I know this has been done but I dont know how many users are still active from old threads. So! Where are you from and is something interesting about you?
Ill start, Im 23,F, British Kashmiri, my interesting thing is I have no clue what im doing in life but im plodding along! What about you?

Dear Friends Salam alaikum,
The president of Yemen Saleh Al Samad had been martyred by bombing of Saudi and new President Mahdi al Mashat was elected by Presidential council of Yemen.
http://www.presstv.com/Detail/2018/04/23/559474/Yemen-Saleh-alSamad-Saudi-strike-Hudaydah-Houthi-Ansarullah

Salam
First of all I am really embarrassed to ask this question and to even talk about it. Whenever my mom gets mad at me she doesn’t allow me to eat. I have OCD which means that I like everything to be clean and perfect and my mom hates that about me. Today I wanted to eat from a cleaner plate than the one she put on the table. So I went up to get a new one and then she told me that she is going to kill me if I ever at anything from the house again. This has happened before and I sometimes go days without eating. Last time I lost about 10 pounds because of it. I am 18 and I am moving out this summer to study at university (thank god for that) so I can hopefully eat whatever and whenever after I move out. But my question is, is it haram to punish your children like that?

I'm more ancient than casette tapes, from the US. I'm a "Jack of all trades, master of none" and I'm still trying to find my niche, but I have really grand dreams. I read a lot, and it shows when I talk, even in spite of my hillbilly accent.

I'm a 21 year old dude of Pakistani decent, and I've been raised in Australia (well I was in New Zealand for a couple of years before I moved to Australia).
But yeah, being around people just gives me so much energy. If I spend a day all alone, I don't feel that great. I often go to Shiachat to get energized (And it sure does help).
I'm quite reserved in real life, not so much on Shiachat, maybe because I don't feel that judged here.
Something interesting about myself is the fact that I have to get a mod to temporarily ban my account so I can study for my exams (honestly that's how much I love Shiachat )

I am 21, Indian, revert, a proud bookworm, and introverted- a person who loves to type things from behind the screen rather than holding real-life conversations, because he's too chicken to do so.
What do I look like- imagine if Daniel Radcliffe (in his Harry Potter avatar) puts on some (well, not exactly 'some') weight, sports a light beard, crops his hair, and acquires a tad darker complexion- we're the same height and of a similar build (mine is actually broader and sturdier than his). I have a husky voice.
Interests and future ambitions- I study social science (history specifically), but also like literature,hope to become an academic, and I shall simultaneously float a worldwide organization call 'Nerds United International' for my other predicament-ridden brethren and sisters, of which I shall be General Secretary. Also, I LOVE to do charity !

Are you kidding me? Mother is supposed to be forgiving and loving. She needs to understand that this person has OCD. There is nothing wrong with that. If she has miserable life it doesn't mean that she could treat her kids like this.

Yemen's Ansarullah Leader;
Abdulmalik Al-Houthi: Assassination of 'Saleh al-Sammad' will not break will of Yemeni people / Video
April 24, 2018 - 10:23 AM News Code : 890656 Source : Al Masirah, ABNA24Link:
leader of Yemen's Houthi Ansarullah movement, Abdulmalik Al-Houthi, said in his eulogy of martyr Saleh al-Sammad that the assassination of the president will not break the will of the Yemeni people.
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(AhlulBayt News Agency) - leader of Yemen's Houthi Ansarullah movement, Abdulmalik Al-Houthi, said in his eulogy of martyr Saleh al-Sammad that the assassination of the president will not break the will of the Yemeni people.
http://en.abna24.com/news/middle-east/abdulmalik-al-houthi-assassination-of-saleh-al-sammad-will-not-break-will-of-yemeni-people-video_890656.html
video of Targeting of president of Yemen Saleh Al Samad with missile
http://fa.abna24.com/news/ویدئوی-خبری/فیلم-لحظه-شهادت-صالح-الصماد_735445.html

You are most welcome!
My apologies, perhaps I was not very clear as I wrote that very fast while working.
The strategies outlined in the book are to deal with symptoms of BPD or other disorders or issues that demonstrate similar presentations. That would include a number of disorders including, as you mentioned, PTSD, as well as destructive mood disorder swings, etc. They are kind, caring, and easy to implement. These strategies are taught to family members who live with those who have mental health challenges. They address the behaviours that significantly impact family members. When one person in a family is afflicted, everyone is adversely affected. Relationships suffer, communication can be non existent and abusive, controlling behaviours emerge out of desperation. The Walking on Eggshells book explains the individual behaviours and how to address them in clear easy to read terms. In Canada, this is one publication that is frequently recommended to family members by community mental health teams because it is easy to implement. The information given helps to establish a healthier dynamic in the family, one from which the OP could greatly benefit.

My post above was my response to a teenage girl's horrible situation. If she tries to make the situation better with her Mother, then her last few weeks or months at home will be less stressful. When a parent or guardian withholds food from a child, the next step is probably going to be physical punishment. Why should the OP make her homelife worse by doing or saying something that will cause her Mother to punish and harm her more? She should try to tolerate her Mother until she can get out of there.

Umar was known to be a violent man. Before becoming Muslim, he hit/beat his sister so much that she began bleeding, because she became Muslim and was reciting Qur'an with her husband. Umar also yelled, when the prophet died, "Anyone who says the prophet has passed away, will be beheaded by me! For verily he is alive, not dead."
Umar was also documented to have hit his female servants many times.

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this.
I always like to believe all mothers have at least a minimum amount of love for their children. At the end of the day, she carried you in her for 9 months then went through labor and then had to raise you etc. it's not an easy job at all. That doesn't justify her punishing you in such an extreme manner that you lost 10 pounds so quickly though. No matter what, you deserve basic needs and nutrition.
Maybe try and sit her down. Speak to her, let her know how you're feeling. Idk if you've been diagnosed clinically with OCD, if you haven't, maybe try and see a doctor and get help dealing with it. In turn this would help you with your mum, because she'd realise that you're actually suffering from a mental illness and it's serious. It's not you just being fussy and ungrateful.
Inshallah things get better for you

This is one way ticket to friendship where you would never find, like some people i found here, they are intelligent and very friendly. If you are unable to travel, you can travel through the screen. Subhanallah, these kind of things made it possible to reach other.
Then can we debate if friendship is an addiction, but is it? We being nice to each other is surely a good thing, as long as our life is like water, clean of sins.

The issue here is that he isn't discussing the specifics of this superiority. Superiority in what, from what perspective? He does mention an alibi from narrations that say a daughter brings more blessings when she is born - and perhaps from that perspective she is superior to a male - but in his talk he also throws in the phrase ولكن بشرطها وشروطها (with its appropriate conditions), which essentially keeps him free from the attribution of having claimed absolute superiority of women over men (in all and every aspect). So even if he were to qualify this same position with conditions, he can justify himself by saying this was clear and obvious or that I hadn't claimed absolute superiority to begin with.
If you look at the first two or so lectures you will see how he actually begins his talk building an argument for men being superior to women through the Qur'an, but he leaves it at that. This is because he is in a stage of his discussion where he is throwing out a lot of different plausible interpretations, but he himself has said he will dwell into them in more depth over the course of these lessons.
Wasalam

We don’t have too much problem with Sunni Muslim bro & Sis it was mainly just was place of discussion between scholars but in recent years Wahabist by support of Saud Family make shias as boogeyman by make it a public issue in order to Muslim community doesn’t care about their corruption & their alliance with Zionists.

There are 11 things wajib in the prayers:
1. Niyyah: Intention to pray for being near to God.
2. Takbirat-ul-Ihram (Allahu Akbar after niyyah).
3. Qiyam: To stand.
4. Ruku’.
5. Two Sajdahs.
6. Qira'at: to recite Surah al-Hamd and another Surah in first two rak’ats and Tasbihat al-Arba’ah.
(Subhanallahi wal-hamdu lillahi wa la ilaha illal-lahu wallahu Akbar) or Surah al-Hamd in
the 3rd and 4th rak’ats.
7. Dhikr: to recite tasbih in ruku’ and sajdah, as will be explained later.
8. Tashahhud.
9. Salaam.
10. Tartib: To pray in the sequence prescribed by the shari’ah.
11. Muwalaat: To pray without interruption or gap.
https://www.al-islam.org/elements-islamic-studies-allamah-saeed-akhtar-rizvi/lesson-31-wajibat-obligatory-acts-prayer

One of the reasons I can think of is that not all adviser are sincere adviser. For example, there might be rumors that new partnership announcement will happen next week for coin X, I buy it two weeks before the announcement, then I advise everyone ells to buy it 1 week later and 1 day before the announcement I sell everything I have and then most likely the announcement comes out bad and even if it didnt I would have made money on the hype I created.
Then I would also later on be blamed when everyone makes a loss, etc, etc.

Okay... so what is it you suggest?
Should we raise all girls with the idea that women can only be housewives and work to serve their husbands so they never know about the inequality and sexism they're living in?

Judging from the OP's posts (even the ones last year), she does have very troublesome parents.
No matter how much Islam promotes obidence to our parents, that doesn't in anyway imply tolerating abuse.
The OP should have a discussion with her parents about how they're affecting her mental and physical health. If her parents are not willing to change, then she needs to call authorities
Parenting is a big responsibility and parents need to realize that.

The problem is that she suffers from OCD, something that is not her fault and her mother is starving her,. it's abuse. It's not a matter of tolerance but a matter of safety and well-being. I have no idea how old the sister is or where she lives but this is something that APS and CPS deal with everyday. I respect you a lot but this is not the way to handle the situation, there is no excuse for her mother's behavior period.

You are really clueless about Iran and Irans military if this is your opinion. Perhaps you dont like WF and thats why you would say this but that does not change reality even if you would like it to.
Everything has its time and place, you will see that.

Imam Sajjad (p) is reported to have said:
“May God have mercy upon my uncle, al-Abbas (p). He preferred his brother [Imam Hussain (p)] over himself; he sacrificed himself for the sake of his brother until he lost his two hands. Thus, instead of his two hands, God will give him two wings with which he will fly with the angels in Paradise, just like Jafar ibn Abi Talib (p). In the sight of God, the Blessed, the Exalted, al-Abbas (p) enjoys a [special] rank on the day of Resurrection, and all the martyrs will desire a similar one.”
[Shaykh al-Sadooq, al-Khisal p. 68]

If it is an assumption it is a much lesser one than assuming He exists.
But mine was a response to the original assumption that complex things need a creator to which I replied that God is complex and therefore He too must need a creator.
Even if one grants that God may be nonphysical. He is complex. Functional complexity is measured by the level of intelligence/consciousness and abilities. An omnipotent and omniscient being is thus ultimately functionally complex. Thinking, rationality, consciousness, and volition are complex processes that could not, by any means, arise by chance.
You told me, you said:
"A snowflake begins when a tiny dust or pollen particle comes into contact with water vapour high in Earth's atmosphere. The water vapour coats the tiny particle and freezes into a tiny crystal of ice. This tiny crystal will be the "seed" from which a snowflake will grow".

I am Lebanese/Italian, so what?
I cannot see the relevance of your post, Gods have declined and died also..think of Sumerian, Egyptian, Greek, Nordic gods, all dead.
In your opening post you said: "Athiests believe that complexity doesn't require an intelligent creator."
To which I replied that, for instance, snowflakes, ocean waves, spherical planets, elliptical orbits crystals, economy etc.. are complex, thy form spontaneosly, no intelligent designer is required.
A snowflake exhibits order yet is formed without intelligent purpose through perfectly natural processes. Rocks lined up in an orderly row may be evidence of nothing other than the effect of a recurring tide.
Of course it does not prove that God doesn't exists, it proves that complexity does exist without an intelligent creator.
What do you think about the existence of parasitic tape worms living in rivers in Africa that enter eye-balls and and slowly eat them from the inside out; what kind of twisted intelligence would have designed and created a creature that tortures people until they are blind?
You have not addressed the question as to how can something (the Designer of the Universe or Multiverse) that is infinitely more complex than the Universe itself not have an intelligent designer? That is the question theists cannot answer without violating the rules of logic.
ws
Your addition of extra entities is not parsimonious, It goes against Occam Razor.
Existence is the only Necessity for which all other things, including a god, are contingent.
ws.

One thing to note about any Bahth Kharij is that you cannot come to a conclusions regarding a scholar's opinions until a certain topic is actually complete (and definitely not by looking or reading any one lesson from a middle of a series). The natural course of a Bahth Kharij is to open all plausible interpretations, present those arguments, and critique them where possible. I've encountered this way too many times during my readings of transcriptions of Bahth Kharij, where it appears that a scholar is arguing for a certain opinion, and even makes strong arguments for it, but 20-odd lessons later arrives at a conclusion which is the complete opposite.
This is not to say that Sayyid Haydari isn't challenging the mainstream notion (about men being superior), but I don't think it is fair to say that his final conclusion is that women are superior to men. He has to clarify a lot of things which he hasn't - how he explains the verse which says men are a degree higher, how he addresses the issue of superiority vis-a-vis taqwa (which he begins discussing in lesson 13), if he does believe women are superior is this ontological or something else, etc.? What he claims to be "his understanding" is the grammatical point where he takes both of the last 2 statements in the verse as a parenthetical statement, rather than the words of Maryam's (s) mother. You can read the Arabic transcription of the lesson here: http://alhaydari.com/ar/2017/10/61362/
Given that this series is going to be happening for a long time (as he alludes to in the first few lessons), it is way too early to see what Sayyid al-Haydari's final opinions are on the subject. Another thing to keep in mind is that his lessons are very different because of the foundations he builds his arguments on - these are foundations which are not mainstream to begin with, such as his views on the whole Qur'an vs. Hadith discussion, and most importantly views he has in epistemology (a lot of views he has on the latter topic are views I agree with).
Wasalam