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01/24 Dreams, Nightmares and Night Terrors

I will be very interested in this show. I have walked, talked, and ate in my sleep. I have also kicked doors and not remember anything. I usually have a good time in my sleep. I'm told that I laugh a lot. BUT, I do get mean sometimes. One morning when I woke up my 2 dogs were acting terrified of me. I had a feeling I did something in my sleep. I was having scary dreams every night for a period of time. I figued out it might be the Noni juice (1 ounce at night) that I had started drinking. I changed from drinking it at night to drinking it in the morning and the terrifing dreams stopped. The Noni juice works for colitis.

I saw a show about a guy that had drove to his mother- in- laws house and killed her in his sleep. A sleep specialist had proof that he stayed too long in his deepest sleep and he got off. How could you live with yourself after that. This can be scary stuff. Sure is a mystery to me.

I can only hope there is help out there for everyone, including me, with this problem. I know Dr. Phil will be able to help........

01/23 Too Hot!

Today guest about the lady losing the weight and now her husband don't like it. I know how she feels. Because I had the same thind done and I lost 140 pnds and after I done this my husband walked out on me and now we are no longer married. When you have been fat for so long and you lost weight and you feel better you enjoy people looking at you because before no one even thought you was a alive when you where fat... I say enjoy your new look but make sure that your husband know and feels that you are his. I'm so pround of you and for you feeling that you look good. I have lost 140 pnd but I don't feel like I look good. I'v was 278 pnds when I had it done and now I'm 135 pnds and I wish I could see that I'm not fat anymore. So all I have to say is &nbsp

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GO GIRL!!&nbsp

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Mandy&nbsp

Why don't you feel good about yourself? You've just lost what sounds like a very massive amount of weight, aren't you proud of that?

I do agree with you, Bonnie would like to soak up all the attention that she gets from people that normally would have just snubbed her off before but when it's at the expense of her husband you start to get a bit concerned. The sad thing is really that she gets very defensive about her actions and can justify all of them. To her it might seem that she's just 'being friendly', compensating for the attention she should have had but really she doesn't know what kind of message that sends to the guys she's around or to her husband. Her husband might think that she's flirting on purpose because she no longer loves him anymore and that mightn't be the case but you can see how he might get the idea. His beautiful wife purposely flaunts herself infront of other men to gain attention but pays little of her own attention to her husband.

She shouldn't be encouraged! If she seriously wants to stay married to her husband she should really stop being so selfish and consider how her actions might affect her husband and ultimately herself!

01/24 Dreams, Nightmares and Night Terrors

I haven't remembered a dream at all for about 30 or 35 years. Is that normal?

Yes it's completely normal. Most people dream quite vividly but as soon as they wake up can't remember much more than that they just had the dream. The only reason you don't remember dreams is that you don't pay enough attention to remembering them. Those that do remember their dreams often spend time retelling their dreams to others or themselves ( A friend of mine can recount her dreams in very accurate detail, this is probably because for the last 3 years she's been telling us her dreams in detail). If you'd like to begin to remember them start a dream journal, have it next to your bed and as soon as you wake up right down anything and everything that you remember. Before long you will be able to recount dreams in very good detail, not only that but you might even become lucid in your dream which is an excelent tool if you suffer from constantly reoccuring nightmares, night terrors or simply want to have a bit of fun in your dream and control it.

01/24 Dreams, Nightmares and Night Terrors

I just finished reading the stories from today and am concerned about Nathalie. Because she states that she feels a "coldness" and smells a "smell" during the times she sees "Amy", in addition to the fact that "Amy" is asking her to "come and play", I would suggest that she speak to a priest as soon as possible. I have been reading a lot about demonic posession (i'm not just trying to scare anyone I am very serious about this) and these are signs that an evil spirit might be attempting to posess her. She should by all means go through any testing that Dr. Phil suggests, but please, talk to a Catholic priest who might be able to offer you some help. I am praying for you.

Isn't that a little extreme? I'm a Catholic too but I am a firm believer that dreams are composed of subconcious thought and they can range from being very mildy vivid to extremely vivid. I know for one that I can smell, touch, taste, feel pain, see in colour and hear in my dreams I often have a very hard time becoming lucid in dreams because of the fact that they are so realistic.

I don't believe Nathalie is demonically possessed, she might infact be but re-occuring nightmares or even re-occuring dreams are a very common problem that most people have. I suggest that she should consider learning to become lucid in her dreams so that she can physically deal with 'Amy' in the dream and face her sub-conscious fear.

01/24 Dreams, Nightmares and Night Terrors

Is there a significance to dreaming in B&W or color? I've never remembered my dreams (on a rare occation) but in the last couple months I have been having up to 5 per night. I'm always lost, confused, stressed, angry, and they include people I knew long ago and placed I've lived. I get so frustrated in the dream that I wake up in a sweat and can remember every detail.
There not nightmares, just alot of work. As soon as I go back to sleep another one starts. Then I spend the first hour of my day trying to figure out what they meant. Each one is a separate dream, some in color, some in B&W.

Most people say that we only dream in black and white, which is completely untrue! I for one have only ever had dreams in colour, very vivid colour. There may be some significance to dreaming in black and white then there is to colour. Black and white its usually an indicator of the past in imagery, so it might be that when you dream of the past you dream in black and white but unless you can remember that through the full length of your dream that you did infact dream in black in white, black and white can instead be an indicator of when you dream is ending and you are starting to wake up. Or if you are lucid (being aware consciously that you are dreaming when you are in a dream) in a dream when colour starts to fade that signifies that you are in fact waking up and your losing your control over the dream.

Bullies

I was bullied in a Lutheran school in the 1980s. I went in a devout Christian and came out a Satanist and suicidal. I later turned to heavy metal music-which saved my life. I gave up Satanism, realized that Atheism is an excuse and now tell kids to fight the bullies.&nbsp

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My spiritual beliefs have been shaky for the past twenty-five years as a result of my being bullied at the hands of Christians. I now believe that God, while all-powerful, really doesn't care much for humans. If He did, the innocent would be shielded from the guilty.&nbsp

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I wrote a letter to the parents of one of the children who bullied me a year ago and invited them to call me so that we could discuss the issue. They never called. &nbsp

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This is why I admire victims of bullies who take the law into their own hands-no matter what the end result is.&nbsp

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Those who tell the survivors of this behavior to "get over it" are usually the people who bullied them in the first place.&nbsp

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Here's something that could blow your mind: many who were bullies in school grow up to be POLICE OFFICERS.&nbsp

Gees you sound like your branding all Christians as bullies! Which I'm sure they're not! While I probably can't do much to convince you that God being all-power does care for humans, he is by all their creator and gave up his only son to die for them so that they may be saved from sin, something that is much more powerful than physical or emotional abuse but in saying that I can completely understand why you blame God, no-one wants to suffer but it's a reality and taking the law into your own hands or 'fighting' bullies is not the answer! Bullies are themselves very troubled people, people who often grow up later understanding that what they did was wrong, they might infact suffer more than their victims do.
But in defence of those who have been victimised it is excrutiatingly painful to go through, no-one should have to go through any physical or emotional abuse just because someother person decides to pick on them. Nothing excuses their behaviour. But there are ways of dealing with bullies that work that doesn't consist of more violence or bitter quarrel and contrary to what other might believe growing a "thick skin" does work but you do have to be exceptionally good at it for it to work. If bullies can see that you have confidence in yourself, enough confidence that you no longer fear them it takes away the bullies purpose to bully you. They like seeing people suffer, if you don't show that you suffer and you don't illicit the required response then they simply get bored.