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I want to get pregnant.And I'm 38 I hate to say But I want a baby. I don't have a boyfriend or someone in my life.But I want one. would fertitity doctors help me to get one.My weigth is 210 and I'm '5ft and 5inch'.

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I have a friend of the family who was in a similar situation. She actually asked a close friend if they would be the donor. And they drew up an agreement with an attorney and she had a 10 pound baby who is now 11 years old. She is a very good mom, and she is to be getting married to a great guy in 2010 and he is going to adopt her son!
Doctors will help you. You just need to be SURE that you want to be responsiable for another life for the next 18 years. And that you are financially able to have one aswell.
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We can't all find Mr. Wonderful and we shouldn't sacrifice the joy of having a child because of it. I believe that most single women that plan on having a baby on their own put more thought and preparation into the decision than most married couples. I'm sure that you are not doing this on a whim and have done your homework... it won't be easy - but go for it!

The things you work hardest for in life are always the most worth it. My best friend got pregnant as a teenager and raised her daughter as a single mom, even dating normally and put herself through college. She her daughter is a smart and completely normal 12 year old with a better head on her shoulders than most kids I see. On the other side of the sprectrum, I have 2 close friends with extremely unreliable partners with fathering their children. No situation is perfect, but one thing I do know - all the kids have excellent moms who raised excellent kids. I say go for it! Best of luck to you!

Like they once said on "Will & Grace", the people who want babies are the people who should have them. If you have all it takes to provide for a child (financially, emotionally, spiritually), you should definitely try! But I do have a few suggestions.1)Unless pregnancy is a large part of the motherhood you desire, I recommend adoption. Tip: Adopting children from countries outside the U.S. is much easier. Adopted or not, it makes a world of difference for a child to know that they were chosen by the parent(s). 2)It may be harder for you to conceive due to age and weight, but fertility meds will almost guarantee multiples. I highly recommend a healthy diet-preferably w/high water content foods (check out "Fit for Life", a $6 book!). Your health will also help you in raising a child and the child's own health at birth and throughout life. 3)Recognize the difficulties of single-parenting and try to make an educated, unbiased decision. But, honestly, would you ever regret having a child?

I am 36 - soon to be 37. I am 290 and going through IUI treatments with a donor from a sperm bank. It isn't easy. se far the IUI procedure hasn't worked. Does my weight have something to do with it? Maybe, but my HMO has been fantastic. My doctor is very helpful. The nurse who does the procedure has been a great cheer leader and no one has said I can't do this because of my weight or my single status. If you want to do this - go for it!

I know exactly how you feel, and YES, an RE will help you. I'm 21 years old and single; however, I do have PCOS. When I found out 4 years ago that I had PCOS and the longer I wait the less chance I have to concieve, I started to put my life in order. I put myself through school, and have now found myself financially and emotionally stable to have a child. I have positive support from my family with my decision to follow through. I am now currently on my second cycle of Clomiphene and hopefully in a week I will ovulate and go through an IUI procedure. I made the conscious choice to use a cryobank (anonymous donor) rather than a known donor. I had two serious offers from potential donors that I know, and turned them both down because they would want to be a father figure in my child's life. I have been going to an RE for over 8 months, and at the first appt I was 200lb (I'm 5'6), and he did suggest I wait a few months and lose weight. I lost 25lbs and am now trying.. wishes of baby dust!

Visit you OBGYN and ask for a referral to a fertility specialist. Be ready for lots of work on your part. You need to be healthy. They will probably ask you lose some weight first, because pregnancy can be hard on your body. When you're ready you will undergo tests to see if you have viable eggs and then hormones supplements most likely clomid to help egg production. Be ready for mood swings due to hormones and the possibility that insemination may not take. We did insemination 5 times w/ no success and it can be stressful. Stay healthy and patient- you'll get there. Good Luck!

I'm 25,have PCOS, 225llbs (5'3") & the mother of a beautiful 18 month old girl!I had to go on Clomid to conceive my daughter,because of the PCOS, but my dr. still gave me the prescription & was thrilled for me....Best of Luck (from someone who tried for almost 5 years!)

I think it's awesome that you are so confident in having a baby and raising it on your own! I got PG when I was 20 years old by my boyfriend who literally left town when I told him I was PG. He has NEVER had anything to do with my son, although paternity was established, his check is garnished for child support and he insisted on giving my son his last name (which a judge allowed him to do b/c it's his right as a "father"!) but other than that he has never held my son, talk to my son or anything. My son is now 5 years old and his life is perfectly normal! When he was a toddler he was curious about "daddies" and if he had one or not- I answered his questions with simple answers and he was happy with that. One thing I always did though was not to have the "oh poor me, I'm a single mom" or "oh my son doesn't have a father" outlook on things- his life is just as normal as any other childs life! He'll tell you that too!

You ask if a fertility doctor would help you get one? I am assuming you mean to ask if you can use donor sperm with AI? Not meaning to ask if a dr. could get you a man? Yes, I am single, 30, overweight, and the dr. has a sperm bank they work with (I could use a different one, but I would be in charge of ordering it) They order the sperm for me, and basically tell me when to take my meds (clomid, ovidrel, and prometrium) and when to come in for blood work, ultrasounds, and the IUIs.

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