Do you forgive what has been done to you?

So what I would be doing is holding onto something that was done to me and keep that alive taking away from my present moment.. consumed with what? anger, resentment, pain, frustration, etc.. isn’t that the same thing as infecting myself with a disease. Even my actions will be altered in not letting go or forgiving. How is that doing anything but not allow my actions that are here to be myself and my sense of being diminished and taken away from me? At when do I accept the responsibility and accept the love within myself to simply state I am only human and let this go.. Do you see the strength of love that is in that?

Not letting go only allows me to make the present moment not something I can experience and only makes the now the most uncomfortable place there is.. I continually fell into that.. but it was a simple stream of what if I let it go? How powerful is that? What would I become? What could I become with letting this very simple thread design my existence instead? Wouldn’t all my love be embedded in trust because I made this simple choice. Weigh the truth of what you are stating is forgiveness now realize you are going to hold onto what?

The thin air of words that are left on top of any scare you may have.. Which hurts still? The words or the scare or even the labeling you placed on the scar the story of the scar? Words have the power to keep you from anything especially the love you are and can experience in this moment. Create the void in thought to see it for what it is.. A simple choice to forgive all things, without it you will have your existence altered and for what? What will you be if you keep it?

16 Comments on “Do you forgive what has been done to you?”

It is what happens, I have gone through the same thing. It took a very long time to let go. During the process I was so miserable.
Even while trying to find someone new, I had a problem with comparing.
One morning I woke up and it was like I was a new man.

It is, for a year and a half I was so miserable, almost to the point of not being able to function. I moved away , I stayed to myself. This was done to gather my thoughts, what my next step was going to be.
I had to be alright before even thinking of bringing another into my life.

So you had a repetitive thought pattern that kept you away and to yourself in a loop that kept you from the present and lost a year and a half? This was done to gather more thoughts of what exactly? You just said also you have to be alright in thinking to bring another into your life? Is this the story of the scar that the pain left you with?

After my break up with Bea, I was devastated , somewhat lost, like breaking up with your first real love.
Yes if a Dominant is not in full control of his life, how can he possibly control another. So I took much time off to gather my thoughts, to figure out my next step. I had to take a deep look inside to what I truly wanted.

It was meant to be that I read this today, so wonderfully written….thank you! But here’s something I struggle with…if you don’t mind…once you have forgiven someone who has wronged you, how do you then treat that person? One of my neighbors screamed viciously at my child. I can’t stand the sight of him but I know my contempt is weighing me down. He constantly tries to be pleasant to us (while never acknowledging his wrongfulness or apologizing) and sees my indifference. Once I forgive him, must I also (figuratively) embrace him or is being cordial enough for a healthy existence?

The image of holding onto pain or bitterness will be felt by your children, showing them the ideal way of how to translate this, needs to be something you do simply by talking to him and letting him know that the behavior that was there has been forgiven and it is time for you to let this go. Being honest in forgiveness is the most powerful way to let go, doing this in a very calm manner is also how you become passive to the energy as to what needs to be let go entirely. The comment how do you treat this person is the same as stating you have forgiven but not forgotten.. again another symptom to the true infection that you are keeping for what reason? It’s confronting the bully without letting the bully know you are onto him.. get it? The proof of this is in your reluctance to be pleasant back when he has simply let this go… Is there a need to keep this inside you. Why not ask that the next time you would appreciate a simple conversation to you instead of your child would be more respectful of you and your children? Love through the challenges and the challenges becomes no longer resistant but flowing energy.

My friend remember in the eyes of your children you are Gods garden, how you produce love to them and show them how to captivate it in all things comes from you. Do you have a puppy or dog.. when you step on the dogs paw does it hold a grudge or does it freely give you love in forgiveness… Isn’t that what this truth is! You are holding onto what was… not correcting it now is only allowing what was to stay inside you and your being. You are an incredible mommy! This has no limits and your love should do that to! 🙂