How often am I afraid of something in
our relationship? Maybe I'm scared my SO has found
someone better, or is angry at me over a mistake I made,
or is hiding something important from me. Perhaps I'm
scared I've failed them somehow.
Fear is a healthy warning system when
it alerts me to real danger, but often I imagine all
sorts of monsters. In actuality, what usually happens is
that worry robs me of happiness, and makes it even harder
to handle things that do try and throw me for a
loop.
When I try to guess what is going on in
my partner's mind, there's no limit to what I can
imagine. The truth is I can't accurately read minds; my
imagined fears and worries just leave me drained, and
less able to handle real problems.
If I want more peace of mind and
a better idea of the truth, I can begin by talking with
my SO, and sharing my fears and feelings. If they help me
work towards a better understanding of them and
myself, that will be great. But even if they don't, it's
up to me to find ways of dealing with my fears
that strengthen instead of weaken me.

Just for
Today
Today I'll look at some things I've
been worrying about, and ask myself if I really can read
my partner's mind. I'll take some time to talk things out
with them, and share my feelings and fears honestly.
Then, I'll begin to use my imagination more for wonderful
things, instead of making up extra things to worry about.
Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed. -
Alcoholics Anonymous