As you say. Wiley just thinks it is all kind of normal, I think the failing to empathize is the most tiring . When my Mum was ill I did have carers once or twice a week just to give me a break. You must take advantage of all facilities, falling is the big problem try and get some rails installed and of course If Wiley is OK with being picked up and cared for even if it is only for a few hours,it will give you a break. My mum would not go, but Wiley might enjoy the change.

kabu

i guess i am half in the dark as i have not been back long enough to know the problems you are running into or exactly how wiley is doing. i was gone most of the time that i was a cna. i had two long term patients, a year for both and i learned that you , meaning a family member, cannot be a good caregiver unless they take care of themselves. I was a in home care giver, so the family could come and go as they needed or cared to. But if Wiley can go to a center where there are other men to swap stories with and have lunch, then you both get the away time you both need, who knows the honeymoon may start all over again. you are both so lucky to have found each other to go into this challenging old age with.

Good news. I hope this turns out the way you'd like. Among the folks

who are regulars at The Center where I volunteer, the ones who seem to have the most stress are the caregivers. From my perspective I'd rather be the one helping, and I know most of us who've been independent all our lives just don't like the idea of being the depender.

Kabu

I think it's a good thing that you may be getting some type of services, especially so that you can have a few moments to recoup. And they should help Wiley to feel better also. Now if he would just cooperate a bit more... Men do tend to downplay their symptoms and conditions, it often seems so. Take care, dear S. Sister, I know you have so much going on.

And about Wiley and his computer, I have been two weeks with my new laptop, and am still fumbling around with it, even after the Geek squad "helped." (The guy said "I don't know" to almost everything I asked.)