The Everlasting Should Lists

I should go to the gym, and not just enroll in it. Or I should do yoga. And it wouldn’t be a bad idea to buy a skipping rope. Maybe it would be enough even going shopping on foot. Then I should eat in a healthier way: all vegetables, yogurt and fruit… and skip on cheese. And learn to cook something. Though cheese as an ingredient makes everything taste batter. I should follow my instinct, not being overwhelmed by the fear of doing wrong. I should wash my car more often and stop leaving “safety shoes” on the passenger’s side. I should refrain from buying lip-glosses, blushes in “healthy” color and lighters. And from watching romantic movies which I know inside out. I should buy Baggy Jeans, as winter’s trend imposes. I should read more books (magazines don’t count!) and find my way home not using the Google Map. I should dare more: with colors, matchings, heels.. after learning how to walk in them. I should have patience, and memory, to keep the “good purposes” list, written in January, and take it back in the fullness of time.

Yeah, the everlasting Should list that overtakes me every time the new week dwells on, while having my coffee… Inhale. Fell the aroma’s opera to opiate my mind. Smile. Whisper “I will”. And move on with my day.

Liar.

Would you mind sharing one ever lasting “should” from your list? Just to make me feel better. Happy Monday, loves.

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One ‘should’ that is current on my mind is to hand write a letter to a dear girlfriend who lives several hundred miles away. We like to occasionally write to one another rather than type email letters because we get to see the hand writing and feel the letter in our hands. We always embellish the letters with little drawings and use color. Or we enclose a flower or something small and flat.

It’s so special to find a letter in the mail box from a dear friend. Especially a fat one. So I want to and It has become a should to write that letter. I’m out of the habit of writing letters by hand. But I love the feeling of writing with a favorite pen. It’s different than typing. With writing the mind and the act of writing flow nicely together. So I’ll do it soon.

Some ‘shoulds’ are good because you really WANT to do the thing. It’s something you love.

Oh Gel this is completely besides the point here but this made me laugh out loud só loud! “It’s so special to find a letter in the mail box from a dear friend. Especially a fat one.” I tótally misinterpreted the fat part!

Haha no I totally thought you meant it was extra fun to receive a letter from a friend who was fat, instead of it being extra fun to receive a letter that was fat 😉 Re-read your comment and I think youll understand why I misread it haha

At the moment I should get in touch with my old best friend. We became inseparable in the first grade but went our separate ways in grade five. Since then we started to drift apart and I really miss her.

I keep telling myself that I should believe in myself more, but I’ve been telling myself that for years now and, as of yet, I haven’t been able to. So for now I’m going to the gym at least four times a day and I’m not allowing myself to slack off on this one. At the very least I can say that “should go to the gym” and I am. If nothing else.

I should wash the dishes that are sitting in the sink. I should fold the laundry that’s in the dryer. So many things I should do… but who wants to feel as if they NEED to get their to do list done. When I get to it, I get to it & until then I’ll be just as happy 🙂

I love this post!!!! We definitely all have things that we thing we “should” do but just never seem to get it together.
Like I always say I should do more yoga, stay on top of all my reading for every class, stop eating the same “safe” foods every single day, stop trying to be perfect, and stop chewing gum….
The lists goes on, but I try to work on those things all the time so that I can finally be able to say that I do the things that I say I should!

This comment is what I wanted to hear today, Natasha – thank you.
Doing things instead of whining about shoulds or shoudn’ts.
Who cares what we should, when the true us is what we do. Thank you, so much, again.

Oh boy!! I have so many “shoulds” on my list, that my biggest priority right now is that I SHOULD stop feeling so guilty and ashamed that I’m not achieving my unrealistic goals; I should give myself more credit, I should work less and live more, I should look out for moments of joy and breathe in the friendships and love around me. I should be kind to myself. Thanks for the reminder 🙂 xo.

Now, I may sound cruel, but, you definitely SHOULD, Nataly!!!
And you always inspire me to live more (thank you almighty facebook) to step away from the computer and to breath life. I see that in you, therefore thank you and yeah… be kind to yourself 😉

Hm….let me think – I should study. I just started a short education for my job and I already feel totally overwhelmed by all the papers and stuff we need to learn for the exam. And I hate studying.
But besides that, I try to eliminate ‘shoulds’ from my life. If I have a goal in mind and I need to do things to achieve it, then I WANT it. If I don’t like doing things I ‘should’ do, I just DO it, so they can not bother me anymore. Amen. 🙂

But you know…..WE should embrace life and live it to the fullest!!! And we should eat cheese! Really girl, you can’t skip cheese. Especially if you ever visit me here in Switzerland, we SHOULD eat cheese and chocolate! 🙂

Haha! If a swiss gives me a permission to cheese and chocolate – who can stop me now!!!
I love that you’ve eliminated the shoulds – studying doesn’t count as well as work 😀 I do wish I was kinder to myself and drop that strive for perfection in everything. Your attitude is awesome. The WANT would really work better.
And I hope we’ll have that feast on cheese and chocolate one day 😉

I am so happy you fight against those shoulds. I have to admit, I have a pretty large should list but I am starting to let myself not feel compelled to finish that should list and more so just live. sure there are things I should do but there are also things I don’t have to do

Thank you sweetest, Alex!
It’s really hard to let go of the “must be perfect at everything” thing. But in a long way one realizes that those Shoulds do not help at all.
I promise to be kinder to myself and more alive. And I wish you the same. However you are already the most lively person I know… I sometimes wonder do you run on batteries? 😀

Here goes 1) I should get more sleep! 2) I should eat better 3) I should train more and harder 4) I should study 5) I should tidy my room 6) I should listen to my dad 7) I should listen to my coach 8) I should listen more in general haha 9) I should be more organised 10) I should eat breakfast 11) I should eat more fruits and vegetables… Ok see there’s my point hehe… But I agree with the above comment we SHOULD def eat more cheese and chocolate! 🙂

gosh…what to begin with? 🙂 Well to be honest I have started reducing my ” should do ” list already 🙂 I was gaining weight for the last 5-6 years and two weeks ago i got motivated and started my diet! I am eating healthy food only,im working out at home ( have no time to join a gym) so it`s a very big step forward in my life. But there is still many things i should do such as ….be more patient….mind my own bussiness ( thats a good one lol )….give a call my mum at least twice a week….and so on…Im sure there`s no human in a world who had no ” should do/ be” in their life….thats my excuse x ( rasau angliskai is pagarbos kitiem)

Aw, with those two adorable angels by your side I wonder how to you even find time for the exercise and the blog and that amazing food you cook!!! So, please don’t be so hard on yourself.
And if you don’t mind I’m borrowing your “excuse” here 😉

Do you mind if I steal this idea? I need to come up with my should list and post it! I do this EVERY day and yet weeks go by and none of my “should do”s become “did/done”s. I can’t give you just one because I have so many areas to tackle; fitness, finances, personal, diet, work, home, etc.

Oh, I know, Kayla… we all have to improve LIVES in general. And always 😀 So I wish you all the best doing so, though don’t forget to smile and laugh along your journey, because at the end it’s all that counts, right? 😉

I should cross out “should” from my vocabulary. Seriously. I’m all must and should – like, I should get my stuff done and my life right. Deep down inside of me there is this belief that I’m only valuable and have a legitimation to be here when I deliver good performance all the time. This is incredibly straining and plays a major reason in my exhaustive depression and eating issues. I’m currently learning that it’s okay to have should-free time. Should is a forbidden word. And it … feels okay.

I’m Greta. I live in a small country in Europe. I am recovering from an eating disorder. But this blog is not only about that. It’s a cozy corner of my little life, full of passions for fashion, food, books and movies. Oh, and coffee... Coffee is the best thing to douse the sunrise with.

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