Your Why

Whatever it is you want, it’s going to require change, right? And you know your experience and outcomes can only change if you’re willing to change yourself first.

Transformational change is not a project, it is a process. It isn’t something you manage, it’s something you direct and nurture. I believe that you have the right-now potential to achieve anything you want, experience anything you want, and become anything you want. I believe that nothing is impossible, every destination you choose has a path that will take you to it, and you have the power to walk that path.

“You cannot see the picture when you’re in the frame.”

But I also know how difficult it can be. I’ve transformed my life and my business many, many times. And I needed help to do it. Because even though I have a number of powerful tricks that I’ve learned and developed over the years, I still can’t really see my picture from inside the frame either.

That “blind spot” is why so few people create transformation on their own. It isn’t because they aren’t smart enough, or determined enough. It’s not because they aren’t business savvy enough, or spiritual enough. It’s simply because, for most of us, we can’t see how we’re showing up. We can’t see when we’re making progress or when we’re off course. We can’t see the gifts that our life’s journey — with it’s adversities and triumphs — have developed in us.

As your coach I’ll reflect your beliefs and behaviors from the perspective of an expert observer. I’ll see habits, belief systems, mannerisms, language patterns, and relationship pitfalls that are so familiar to you that you cannot see what they are costing you.

I’ll ensure that you honor progress when you feel like you’re taking more steps back than you are forward. I’ll keep you plugged into why those tasks are vital to your outcomes. I’ll monitor your commitments and pull you back on track when “bright shiny objects” tempt you to run after fool’s gold.

It’s having that honest reflection of what is, and holding the clear vision of what can be that makes transformation possible. So if showing up as your truest, highest self and transforming your life into the rich, deep experinece you envision requires a committed partner who can skillfully and respectfully reflect back what you are projecting into the world as well as your vision for what you want to become you’re in good company.

How do we Become Partners in Transformation?

There are a few non-negotiable elements to a successful coach-client partnership.

MUTUAL COMMITMENT

You won’t be the same after working with me, that’s the whole point, right? Our goal is to create change and that will require an investment and commitment on both our parts.

MUTUAL PRINCIPLES

A great partnership has great chemisty. And principles and philosophies form the foundation of our working “chemistry.” I know that any client who doesn’t value my principles won’t benefit working with me, nor will I enjoy working with them.

MUTUAL EXPECTATIONS

Our agreement is more than a transaction, it’s a contract of respect, accountability, even love.

Here are a few things you can expect from me:

You can expect me to be honest, even blunt, in calling your attention to patterns, habits, mindsets or actions that do not serve your purpose or put you closer to your objective. You can also expect me to be respectful, compassionate, and kind.

You can expect me to ask difficult, even painful questions. You can also expect me to hold a safe space while you sit with them until you are ready to form an answer.

You can expect me to offer direction and suggestions. You can also expect me to respect your choices if you decide to ignore them.

You can expect me to challenge you and probe for the root of any barrier standing in your way. You can also expect me to back off if you ask that I do so.

You can expect me to recommend action items and provide accountability. You can also expect me to allow you to choose what you are willing to be held accountable for.

Here are a few things I will expect from you:

I expect you to come into our work together committed and determined. I also expect that you will have concerns, even fears.

I expect you to strive to have an open mind and consider any theory or suggestion I offer as “possibly valid” before you discard it. I also expect you to trust your own instincts about what is right for you.

I expect you to approach the “mindset” and the “skillset” as equally vital to your success. I also expect that there will be times that one or the other will seem more important, or easier, for you.

I expect you to let me know if you are stuck or struggling or if you are not able to complete the action items you committed to. I also expect you to be reasonable, fair and kind to yourself in setting expectations.

How do we Know if We’ll be a Good Fit?

What are you hoping to find in a partner? Someone who believes in you (especially when it’s hard for you to believe in yourself?) Someone who will offer suggestions for improvement based on experience, expertise, and observations –improvement that you could not imagine because you are, as we said, “in the frame?” Someone who will contribute their imagination to your ideation process, usually resulting in bigger, and yet more practical, dreams than you would have created on your own?

That’s what you get when you work with me. My role as your coach is to be a partner and guide as you move toward your desired outcome. I don’t define the destination, that’s up to you. But I do work with you to chart your course, maintain momentum, and adjust direction as needed.

While experience and methodology is important, the real magic of working with a coach happens when you find one who just gets you. Someone who understands and gets excited about the outcomes you want to achieve. Someone who can zero in on the things that are holding you back. That’s when the transformation process becomes really powerful. We won’t know if I’m the right coach for you until we have a conversation. Let’s schedule a “coffee date” to explore the possibilities. We’ll chat for about half an hour, no fee and no pressure, and if it feels right for both of us we’ll customize your coaching plan.