I'm losing my BF, what should I do?

I have a BF for 10 years now. She got engaged last year and asked me to be a bridesmaid, I declined because I was pregnant but offered my help and gave money to help, I really did. I was there for all her dress fittings, I was a phone call away for emotional support, while 7 months pregnant I stood on my feet for hours and hosted her bridal shower. After birth, I had my husband and newborn at rehearsal practice and dinner. The day of wedding, I was at church early to decorate. And I gave a really good gift. I think I did pretty well on my part as a friend. Anyway my issue is that she tells me things her FI says about me or my husband. Example, he criticized our wedding, said certain things were dumb, later he judges my family when I invited him over, then judges my husband. I know these things because she tells me. Dont even know why she tells me. My husband and I never did anything to him for him to be this way. I told her how I felt and she tells me….”oh he can be such a drama queen, LMAO”.

So thats it. It’s been a week and I’m avoiding her. I’m a little upset and dont know what to do. Just now she text me…”I have great news….I just changed my last name”. I haven’t responded, what do I say. Is she considered a good friend? It’s not the first time it’s happened either.

I think at some point, maybe a few weeks or months from now if her behavior doesn’t change, you could tell her how much this bothers you and ask her to stop telling you what her husband thinks about you and your family.

Make it clear that you’re not trying to change his opinion and that you don’t want her to ask him to change, just that you don’t want her to tell you.

If she doesn’t stop after that, well, maybe distancing yourself from her is best.