About ice, forgiveness and permission in dating

It’s easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get permission. Grace Hopper

Some companies applies this policy to let people be proactive and take initiatives. It’s so true in some situations of dating. Yes, you want to show the best side of yourself at the start. You try to make cautious moves not to break down whatever is about to build. It’s so nice when you have more time left in your life. People sometimes ask for permission instead of just taking a step. It’s so sweet to ask “May I kiss you?” before kissing – it creates tension. I don’t want to have a choice. I want to see an action. And contemplate after, not before. I really like unexpected acts – they are the reflection of instant, despite not always long-lasting intentions. Refreshing.

Let’s imagine: I am in a bathroom taking shower. If I hear from a guy ( in the very beginning of anything that may turn into something great in the future) “May I join you?”, I most probably will say” no”- I know myself, I know how quickly a bunch of unnecessary thoughts and doubts will occupy my mind . If he knocks and comes in without asking a permission, I most probably accept that. And then I can kick him out. In this case he can step back and say “sorry” . No offense.

Life is about the examining thickness of ice, before stepping on it. Dating is all about that.