Change vs Quick Fix

December 7, 2017

There is a fundamental difference between changing and having done quick fixes. Typically, change entails that we in our selves shift and internalize the trait while quick fixes allow the ability to perform when needed but it does not fall into your core set of beliefs or traits.

Fake it until you make it?

Take confidence for example, it’s one of the most sought after traits for successful people. There’s generally the mentality of “fake it until you make it’ and tips and tricks on quick hacks to get you into the state of mind. Will it produce results? YES!

We know body language, mental states, and even anchors can help get you into the zone and it is something you can use over and over again to trigger what feelings you need. But perhaps I’m too much of a naturalist to fully support faking instead of being. It’s admirable to try to step outside of comfort zone and expand your tools of interacting with the world. The question is, do you really become that you’ve faked all these times?

I don’t feel like such a fraud.

Perhaps the biggest difference is the need to continuously trigger or reminder of sorts because otherwise you would lose the habit. To me, it becomes very artificial and forced, but the biggest issue I have is the fact that it just doesn’t feel genuine, like its an act. As a person who used to be a faker in confidence for over a decade, I had many tricks to help me get into state, but when it came down to it, it wasn’t mine! But over the past few years I’ve done a lot of core changes in perceptions which has resulted in finding confidence with and being that unapologetically. Now, I can truly say I have confidence.

Why Question If It Works?

It is my own hope that the world becomes a more real place when you own who you are. This impacts all areas of your life and not when “you think you need it.” In this fast food culture of quick hacks and fixes, it would be nice to meet people that are truly just themselves instead of “acting” a particular role to get what they want. I’m not saying its a good or bad choice, but simply have the hope that more people can be what they are wholeheartedly instead of hacking for success only. There’s no debate on the effectiveness of these hacks, it just would be nice to have a world with more genuine hearts.

It’s like love, if you’re in a relationship with someone who does everything perfect except the fact they don’t really feel love at all, is it ok? For some, a relationship is the actions taken not necessarily the feelings felt. But as a more sensitive person, I see the heart and would realize I’m not with a person who understand love. I want something real where the heart really means what it does. Love loses its meaning as love, without the intention of love.

Ultimately, there is no right or wrong way, it comes down to what your preference and values are. What would you prefer?

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Living life in the pursuit of Love, passion & creativity. Legally blind since the age of 10 and diagnosed with narcolepsy & PCOS, I'm sharing what I've learned in my journey of overcoming adversities and what life has taught me along te way.