Family hates baby name

My DH and thought we had settled on beautiful names for our babies. But yesterday I found out that my mother-in-law, grandma-in-law and sister-in-law hate baby B's name. We have known that my mom, grandma and my dad have not been so keen on the name as well.

We had picked out the names McKenna Ruth-Ann for baby A, Jennessa Mary-Jean for baby B, and Lukas Jessie-James for baby C. But to come find out everyone in both our familes HATE Jennessa. We have another name picked out in case we had 3 girls. The name is AryAnna, but we decided to go with what I listed. Then we realised that without trying that all our names (ours incluided are in alphabetic order) J,K,L,M.....DH is Jacob baby B Jennessa, I am Kris, baby C is Lukas, and baby A is Mckenna. And we kind of want to keep it that way, so that is the reason we dont want to go with AryAnna now. So yesterday my DH picked up the baby name book for the very first time and started flipping though I and N thinking we might be able to find something there, but we couldnt. Then we looked at J,K and L. Still nothing. Finally I said lets look at M again. I had walked way to do something and he found Marissah and he yelled out at me that he found what he called "THE ONE" Which I was surpised bc this is the first name that he has come up with all on his own. Which kind of makes it specail. But we cant decided which one we like better. We are thinking of waiting until she gets here and seeing which name we think fits her better. And if we do that we might find that AryAnna actually fits her the best which would be fine as well.

What is your guys opion on the names? Here they are again. Jennessa Mary-Jean, Marissah Mary-Jean or AryAnna Mary-Jean (the middle names have to be the same for all 3 names bc of a family tradition in my DH's family and Jean is his mom's middle name...The tradition is double middle name and one has to be from the bible that is where we get Mary from.)

Please let me know which one you like better or if you think we should wait and see what one we think will fit her once she is here?

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Wife to Jacob (04-07-08)

Momma to 15m old triplets Kenna AKA BooBoo,Lukas AKA Bubba and Nessa AKA BugaBoo (3/24/09) They wanted to meet us 14wk early

Comments (34)

I think that you guys should keep the names you picked out!! They are your babies, it does not matter if everyone else likes the names or not. I think they are all cute, so I would go with them!! All the family will get use to the names you have for your three little ones!!

i like marissah! jenessa is different.. i dont think i know anyone with that name! I'd not worry too much about what they say about your names.. these are YOUR children after all.. and if they dont like Jenessa (which the more i say it the more i like it! lol) then they can call her Nessa for short which still goes with your guy's alphabet theme!

Thats what we were thinking as well Rhiannon but my sister-in-law said that with her family (my DH's family) that once they dont like a name, they never come around the name. She said that they all hate my nephews name which is Malachi and they still hate it. they have come up with nicknames for him and use that. I dont want that for my daughter if it comes down to it though. I mean nicknames are cute but only when they are thought up as a cute name that is something speacail and meaningful to the child and not bc they dont want call the child by their name.

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Wife to Jacob (04-07-08)

Momma to 15m old triplets Kenna AKA BooBoo,Lukas AKA Bubba and Nessa AKA BugaBoo (3/24/09) They wanted to meet us 14wk early

I think it is entirely up to you, your baby is the one that will bear the name, not MIL, not SIL, not GIL...if you like the name Jennessa, it shouldn't matter what they think, besides, your GIL and MIL for sure have named a baby before :) It's your turn now, and you and DH have been blessed with a triad of babies to name. Marissah is beautiful, I think though that you should see the baby first, and keep the meaning in mind too, that seems to work for me. My dad hated the name I picked for my son, and my son's dad wasn't too fond of it either, but I named him Kieran because he was born at 5:20 PM in January, and Kieran means "dark", and it just seemed appropriate. I gave him my dad's name as his middle name, Mark, and I wanted his middle name to be James. It just seemed to fit better, but alas, I chose Mark, and I'm still kind of regretting it. Anyway, if you and DH agree on a name, don't worry about anyone else :)

after the reaction we got to our oldest's name, we decided that from then on, we would give decoy names while I was pg- things that were realy awful but believable coming from us....that way, regardless of what we name the baby-everyone is just glad it wasn'twhateve we had tld them it might be

that said, stick with what you like. I think both names are pretty, and maybe the best bet is just to wait and see which one you think fits her- you might even get a feel for that before they get here

I wanted the name Arianna (spelled different) if we were having a girl. But that said, they are your babies, you name them what ever you want! I wouldn't worry about what the family thinks, they always have to put their two cents in whether you want it our not!

We never tell anyone the names before the baby is here.....I hope you can decide on a name and realize that its up to you and not any of your family. If they would have been born...and you already named them...they would never say to your face that they didnt like a name. It would be too late. And this is such a personal decishion....they need to but out....unless you seriously asking their opinion.

Good luck with your nameing....I have a hard enough time naming one baby...it must be hard naming 3 :)

I like all of the names, but personally love Janessa! Aryanna and Marissa are more common - I've known people with both names. I tend to go for very uncommon names and never tell before baby is born. So far everyone loves all my girls names. I wouldn't listen to family opinions, go with what you like best!

I also think you should keep the names YOU want. It can be a bummer when people say they don't like them, HOWEVER, when the little ones are here, it's amazing how they just become their name.

When I told my sister that I liked the name Sophie, last time, she said something negative about it and I felt bummed. BUT I still named her Sophie and I'm so glad, and my sister says she can't imagine her anything but a Sophie now and loves the name!

I love the name Janessa. I don't think it sounds wierd or anything. I quit telling people names last time because I got so sick of the comments. Janessa is a great name. You probably can't please everyone anyways. You should suggest some really weird names that you KNOW everyone will hate and then they'll LOVE Janessa. :)

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CARRIE-wife to Dave, mommy to Michael 5-17-07, and twins Conner and Dillon 5-30-09. One on the way due October 15th, 2012.