Overwhelming guilt :(

Is anyone else feeling guilty about their eldest now there's a newborn? My little boy is 2 next week and I feel terrible. I am snapping more because of lack of sleep and obviously don't have as much time for him as I did. I still make sure I do his bedtime stories and play when baby is sleeping. We managed to get out today to play area group but by afternoon I was shattered. He was sleeping with me halfway through the night and now he's in spare room with my partner (who is in there because of my awful snoring when pregnant) he seems fine and sleeps in there but I'd rather he was with me. God it's so hard being a parent. I worry constantly and feel guilty constantly.

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My son is 17months old and struggling with constant coughs and thinks. LO (little one) hasn't arrived yet but I'm already feeling guilty about the change I'm going to put my son through. I know in the end it'll be worth it and they'll be all the better for having a sibling but right now I'm just worried and guilty.

From what you have written it sounds like you are doing a great job. You are making time for him and getting out of the house which is a big achievement and things will continue to settle down as the weeks go on xx

From what you have written it sounds like you are doing a great job. You are ...

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10/05/2018

From what you have written it sounds like you are doing a great job. You are making time for him and getting out of the house which is a big achievement and things will continue to settle down as the weeks go on xx

Thank you. Just the way I feel it's awful as takes over my sensible way of thinking. I'm sure I'll feel better in couple of weeks. Thanks for taking time to reply.

My son is 17months old and struggling with constant coughs and thinks. LO h...

Posted
10/05/2018

My son is 17months old and struggling with constant coughs and thinks. LO hasn't arrived yet but I'm already feeling guilty about the change I'm going to put my son through. I know in the end it'll be worth it and they'll be all the better for having a sibling but right now I'm just worried and guilty.

It will be worth it won't it. Hopefully you'll not feel this bad when your baby arrives. It's super tough being a mummy. Hugs xx

I'm feeling exactly like this. My son is still so young and really needs ...

Posted
10/05/2018

I'm feeling exactly like this. My son is still so young and really needs me still, yet I don't have the time for him like I used to. 😢
It'll get easier though, and our Los will have a lovely relationship (hopefully 🤞

Yes they will. I guess it's early days. And my partner and him are closer now which is lovely to see. We just have to do what we can for them. Take care xx

Sounds to me like you are doing really well- managing to get out and still play is brilliant. I’m having terrible anxiety about the possibility of my elective c section which will completely prevent me from picking up - playing and getting involved with my 20month old for several weeks (if I go ahead that will make me feel awfu)

Yes!!! Day 3 was the worst for me- emotion wise and the behaviour from my 2 year old. I spent a great deal of Tuesday just crying. She has been great with her baby brother, but I can see how she is feeling and it literally breaks my heart to think she feels Mummy and daddy don’t want her on her own anymore.

Like you I have been trying to find time to play with her one and one and continue to do bedtime stories.
As everyone has said, I’m sure it will get easier and we have to try and remember they will be best of friends before we know it.

My mum said too me- without sounding cruel, the new baby doesn’t actually mean much to them at the moment. Their relationship with develop overtime, but in the meantime just keep doing what you are doing- you have got this Mumma!!! Sending love xxx

I feel exactly the same, same with nights as well we’ve always co slept and now she’s in her own room with dh, I have a sister though and wouldn’t change that for the world, we are so close and always will be, it’ll be hard to start with but they’ll thank us one day!!

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