(Closed) Does this sound stupid/silly?

need some advice – eloping in sept – having a elopement bash in oct (about 80 people) – have had a few major deaths in the family (one being Dad, the other my cousin who was like BFF) I am having a few DIY remembrance frames at the hall – one of people who have past (friends, grandparents) one dedicated soley to Dad – my question is: is it weird/silly/stupid to have the late night snack (after dinner and a few hours of dancing) to be popcorn and M&M’s – set up near the candy buffet with a frame picture of late cousin and an explanation of the food (we would spend many a night munching this sweet/salty treat as we watched movies – movie marathons actually Harry Porter, Lord of the Rings, Star Wars….)? If you were a guest would you think it odd? THANK YOU for any input on this!!

Hmmm maybe just a little? The frames are a nice touch. But the snacks and explanation, I dunno, it maybe a bit of a downer on the day that is sapposta be celebrating you two and a celebration of life and marriage? Perhaps you could visit the burial site the day before the wedding and leave the snacks and “ask” them to celebrate with you guys tommorow! Just my thoughts! And I’m sorry for your losses:(

I agree with PPs, I’m really not a fan of these elaborate memorials at weddings. Your own private touches are just fine, but as a guest I don’t want to learn more about your recently deceased cousin at a wedding celebration. I’m sorry if that sounds insensitive, but I think weddings should be fun upbeat affairs all the way around.

I agree that it would be a bit wierd as a guest, especially those who weren’t close to your cousin. However, if you want that snack, go for it! Those of you who knew the cousin can know the meaning, but I wouldn’t explain it to others.

Thank you for your honest answers and your condolences – I dont want to make anyone at the reception upset and it would be weird if a guest didn’t know her. I might skip it all together (popcorn) and add her picture to the friends past frame – It has a chalkboard bottom that will say something like ” always in our hearts” something like that and my dad’s will have a few more pictures of him and a few lines from the song “dance with my father” – not too too sappy/sad but a personal touch (even though it’s Luther Vandross’ words) – again thank you for the advice!