How To Take Control of Your Life

The majority of people are going around and around in a circle while they “wait”.
What are they waiting for? They're waiting for that day when life
will just suddenly happen. They may not even be really sure what that
sudden strike of lightning will contain but they feel that they’ll know
it when they see it. They’re going to see what life offers and maybe
they’ll take the opportunity when it arrives, maybe they won’t. They’ll
just wait and see what happens. They continue to go round and around in
the same circle, day in, day out. Just waiting for something. Never
really getting anywhere. Day after day passes and soon year after year
has passed and they’re still “waiting”.

There is so much more to life than this and you deserve so much more.
And you can make it all happen just by making the decision to take
control of your life. Do it today. Decide that right this second
things are going to change. You don’t have any more time to waste and
you can take control of your life just by changing your thoughts.

So, let’s take a look at how to do this:

What’s Holding You Back?

First of all, the number one reason people don’t take control of
their lives is due to fear. Fear of having dreams, fear of following
their dreams, fear of achieving their dreams. Fear stops them dead in
their tracks. They would rather stay safely within their comfort zones
rather than risk the possibility of failing. They may not even fully
realize that they have this fear. They’ll just know that they aren’t
really moving forward in their life.

Most people do have a “dream job” or something they’ve always wanted to
do but end up talking themselves out of it because “I can’t do that” or
“that’s just crazy”. It’s one of the greatest tragedies that the world
will never see these people’s true talents.

If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing, it will just kill
you inside when you see other people who are. They have managed to work
through the fear and you are still stuck behind the starting line. It
doesn’t have to be this way.

Face the Fear

What was the scariest thing you’ve done? Remember buying your
first car? Your first kiss? Pretty scary but you probably accepted the
challenge and just went ahead and did it anyway. I bet as soon as
you’d done it, you realized it had been no big deal and that you’d
probably wasted a lot of time worrying for nothing. But once you’d done
it once you knew you could do it and were now ready to accomplish
something else. This is exactly the fear you’ll be facing by deciding
to take control of your life. It seems scary and overwhelming at first
but as soon as you even take the littlest of steps towards facing the
fear, you’ll suddenly know it’s no big deal and you can do it.

Start Dreaming

If you’re just waiting for life to happen and waiting to see what
life offers you, how is life going to know what to offer you when you
don’t even know what you want? You need to take control of your life
and decide what you want. Once you do, then you’re well on your way to
achieving your goals.

What is your deepest, darkest, secret desire? That one thing that you
really want to do with your life? Doesn’t matter if people say that’s a
dumb idea or you’ll never be able to make a living doing it? What is
it? Now, start to break it down into pieces or little steps. What can
you do to start moving towards your desire. For example, do you want a
house? Then start saving money for that down payment. Go through
hundreds of Open Houses and figure out what would make the perfect house
for you, find out about mortgages, find out about the taxes in
different areas of your city. Do something towards your goal every day
and keep moving forwards until that glorious day when the universe will
deliver to you your absolute dream house. But, it won’t happen unless
you know first what that perfect house would be. What would it look
like, what would it have in it, how big would the yard be? What does it
absolutely have to have? You also have to truly believe in it.
Thinking “ah yes, someday, I’ll have my own house” is not good enough.
You have to truly believe you are going to be getting your own house.
This is what you’re working towards and yes, you are going to get it.
There is no doubt about it and it is not going to be “someday”. You may
not know exactly when it is going to happen but it is definitely going
to happen.

Where do you start?

Start brainstorming. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to have? Dream big. Anything and everything. Write down a list. Don't edit it with thoughts of, "I could never do that" or "that's silly". Put everything down on the list.

You Can Start Out Small

Not sure what your big desire is? Some of us have suppressed our
true desires so much that we’re not sure what they are anymore. Start
smaller then. Once you start to achieve some of your smaller goals
you’ll gain the confidence to face even bigger ones.

What would you like to have? A car, kids, marriage, a dog? Even by
just considering the smaller things in life will start to get you in the
mindset of considering what you want out of life. You’ll also start to
see that as soon as you figure out what you want then you start to get
what you want from life.

Keep it Positive

Start thinking about those things and focus on those positive
thoughts. Ignore all the negative “noise” that will appear. Say you
want a dog. People will probably tell you that it will be expensive,
you don’t have time to take care of one, what will you do when you go
away? Ignore these people and their thoughts. Focus on the goal. A
dog. Once you keep your focus on the main positive item, all the noise
instantly disappears because it’s not important. The dog is important
and as long as you have enough love and the willingness to do whatever
is needed to take care of your puppy, you can do it.

Once you have made the decision to step up to the plate and
accept this challenge then you will just naturally do whatever needs to
be done. You can achieve your goals simply by focusing on the big
picture and only on the positive aspects of your journey towards it.

One thing to pay attention to is the reason why you want to achieve the goal. If you're doing it because you "should" or because you think people will think more highly of you then go back to your dream list. Find the dream that makes you excited just for the idea of it. Not for what you think you will gain from achieving that dream. For example, you don't want to get a dog because you think it will prevent you from being lonely. You need to get the dog because you love dogs and think you'll love the experience of having a dog.

Do you want to get married?

But you're stuck in the trap of thinking, “Perhaps, I will meet
someone and perhaps I won’t. I am ok if it happens or if it doesn’t
that’s fine too. Until I meet that special person I will just continue
doing the activities that I enjoy and make the best of what life has to
offer.” This is being passive and you’re waiting. Instead get that
thought in your head. Believe in it, want it. You don’t need to marry
the first person that crosses your path, you just need to get yourself
in that mindset and be prepared for when it happens. As soon as you
change your mindset you’ll be amazed by how fast the person who also has
the same mindset as you will suddenly appear.

Feel the Joy

You’ll be amazed at what a difference it will make in your life
simply by changing your thoughts. You’ll be blown away by how much
energy you suddenly have and how much joy you suddenly have for life.
You’ll suddenly be having the best time of your life simply because you
have made the decision to “live” life instead of “waiting” for life.

You may also find that all the negative, waiting people in your life
suddenly start to disappear. New, positive energy people will appear to
replace them. New opportunities that you never imagined will suddenly
be appearing at your door. You’re ready to go!

Ready, Set, Go!

So, what are you waiting for? Change that attitude. Start
working towards your new positive life. Go get it. It’s yours, it’s
waiting for you to make the first move. Take that first step and you’ll
never look back. Everything you’ve ever wanted can be yours and all
you have to do is change your thoughts and Take Control.

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