Friday, November 11, 2011

Porn- it can lead to erectile dysfunction. Which leads to guys looking forlornly into the distance
while wearing white underclothes.

When I did apost on one of the possible side effects of pornsome weeks ago, I received a few emails and messages agreeing that pornography could definitely be a problem and thanking me for discussing it. However, they didn't want to do so publicly. Incidentally, they are all guys.

I also noticed a slight uptick in the number of hits, too- much like porn, posts about porn is something people want to gawk at, but not openly discuss.

So, I guess I'll get some more Looky-loos with this one, and I totally understand the reason you'll avoid the combox.

I wanted to share a couple more stories on the subject. First, one from Gizmodo that my husband passed on to me after the first posting:

"... Too much web porn! It's killing our libidos, lads, one frantically one-handed mouse click at a time.So says a report from the University of Padua in Italy
anyway, which purportedly discovered that randy gents with a penchant
for hardcore sex on the Net were more likely to suffer from erectile
dysfunction when preparing to perform the real deal themselves.

The
study focused on late teens and men in their 20's, and the crux of its
findings was that the ever-increasing and diversifying selection of
online porn and porn experiences has actually led to a numbing of men's
pleasure receptacles, specifically to the response of dopamine (the
"reward" neurochemical).

By hammering on the reward button so often and with such a wide range of
experiences, Internet porn effectively subdues or eliminates the
physiological sense of reward that sex so wonderfully provides.Ergo, when she's lying there naked waiting for you, you realize that
the whole situation feels a bit numb, you get subconsciously scared, and
then things stop working. Awkward!

Worse still, the study
apparently found that "quitting" web porn created a whole host of
withdrawal symptoms. Insomnia, flu-like symptoms—all of which, in my
opinion, pale in comparison to the actual ED that sets it all off."

"In a 2010 interview with Playboy Magazine, Grammy Award-winning musician John Mayer garnered a great deal of attention for his thoughts on former girlfriends (including Jennifer Aniston and Jessica Simpson), racist comments, and altogether boorish behavior.

What went under the radar, however, we're some revealing comments about his experiences with pornography. In a startling series of quotes, he gave his impressions about how the availability and access to porn may be affecting our expectations of sexuality and sexual intimacy.

'Pornography? It's a new synaptic pathway. You wake up in the morning, open a thumbnail page, and it leads to a Pandora's Box of visuals. There have probably been days when I saw 300 [women] before I got out of bed... Internet pornography has absolutely changed my generation's expectations... You're looking for the one photo out of 100 you swear is going to be the one you finish to, and you still don't finish. Twenty seconds ago you thought that photo was the hottest thing you ever saw, but you throw it back... How does that not affect the psychology of having a relationship with somebody? It's got to.'"

Struthers continues the piece by going into great detail about the science- neurotransmitters, testosterone, dopamine, endogenous opiates- behindthe attraction to porn. His closing of the article says it all: "Sexual
intimacy is a complex neuroxchemical, hormonal, and spiritual event. It
is one of the most powerful God-given means by which human beings form
attachments.... There is no such thing as "just looking at porn". There
can be no doubt that it affects us neurologically in long lasting
ways...."

Techie geek writer, Dr. Struthers and even John Mayer know it.
Watching porn can lead to some serious problems in your relationship and
how you view people. Is it really worth it?

I think porn is still considered taboo in some ways. It's common knowledge many people watch it, but who wants to openly admit it? For some, they don't want to be viewed as misogynistic or objectifying women. Others are worried they'll be seen as Sinners (even though we all are), or not true Christians or something. Basically, no wants to be judged negatively. But as you pointed out, there is an anon option. Or you can just make up a name, lol.

It's funny how people seem more willing to forgive a murderer than a whore. Sex is the unforgivable sin???

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