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After going through parent’s George and Cindy Anthony’s letters to their daughter Casey as she sits in jail, instead of being focused on whether their daughter will live in prison for the rest of her life or die by lethal injection, their consistent superficial concern appeared to be on their daughter’s beauty. From these letters, it is apparent to me that they are indeed taken with daughter Casey’s looks looks, especially George.

GEORGE ADDRESSES CASEY AS BEAUTIFUL IN 2009

GEORGE WARNS CASEY SHE’S GETTING FAT AND TO BE CAREFUL ABOUT IT

George is apparently interested how his daughter Casey’s body ooks, as he tells her below that she has put on weight and warns her to be careful about not not getting fatter. He even offers up some exercise advice for her as you can see below.

GEORGE BEGS , PLEADS AND GROVELS FOR CASEY TO SEE HIM

From George’s letters you can see that he lets Casey know she is the Boss and in control . It appears to be a role which she has been in her whole life. It is quite sad and somewhat pathetic to see how George grovels, in hopes that Casey will allow her permission to see him- even if it is for a minute as you can see in an excerpt from George’s letter below.

GEORGE PLEADS AND ACKNOWLEDGES HER POWER

Like most sociopaths with sadistic tendencies, Casey is probably enjoying seeing her father squirm, beg, and suffer emotionally as he is in the 2009 letter below. He pleads strongly for his daughter to see him. As you can see below, he underlines the sentence begging Casey to let him see her.

For assurance, he tries to appease her and flatter her by letter her know that she is the BOSS. I can only imagine that this statement made Casey’s day.

GEORGE PULLS OUT THE VICTIM ROUTINE

Obviously neither groveling nor flattery worked in terms of George getting Casey to agree to see him, so he attempts to try the old poor me victim routine. He says he is forced to live what is left of his life- “empty”. In writing this, George is attempting to elicit a reaction of pity from Casey. But he has wasted his time because Casey, like most sociopaths, has no empathy or feelings of compassion towards her father or anyone else.

GEORGE USES THE I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT” ROUTINE TO GET CASEY TO LET HIM SEE HER

In several of his letters George lets Casey know that he loves her “no matter what”. Obviously he is writing this statement to her as yet another attempt to allow Casey to let him visit her.

Can George really love Casey “no matter what”if she smothered his beloved grand daughter to death and left her in a trunk while she went out partying? Can he really love her no matter what if he finds out that she tortured and murdered innocent Caylee?

Can he really love her no matter what if she accused him of having sex with her if he never did such a thing?

As you can see below George makes this no matter what statement in several of his letters

Casey has obviously not relented and has not allowed her father to see her in jail as he requested. Therefore, he goes for a smaller request from Casey- a mere simple glance his way when she is in the court room. .

These letters give us a glimpse of the dysfunctional relationship between father and daughter. His concern over her weight and telling her to be careful she doesn’t gain more weight and for her to exercise more speaks to his concern with her physical appearance, which he finds “beautiful.”.

The letters also show the complete disrespect and lack of regard Casey has towards her father.

It shows how George will do anything from begging, to flattering, to using the victim poor me card to unconditional love (no matter what ) in oder to get Casey to allow him to see her.It speak to how desperate George is when it comes to Casey.

It also speaks to Casey’s stubbornness. But for themost [art, these letters speak to George’s obvious severe emotional pain. www.drlillianglass.com

George’ Anthony’s letter written to Casey two months ago, after Casey confided to fellow inmate Robin Adams that her father and brother Lee sexually molested her, communicates a great deal about George and his relationship with his daughter.

WALKING ON EGGSHELLS WITH “CASEY MARIE”

In his jailhouse visit early on, we heard George refer to Casey as “Gorgeous” which I have always found inappropriate. But in this letter of two months ago , her refers to her by her full name “Casey Marie” indicating that he is less than pleased with her . I cannot recall that he has ever publicly called her by her entire name. Using her entire name indicates that he is clearly angry with her, for perhaps revealing their family secret.

He starts the letter with “Where do I begin?” This statement indicates that he is at a loss for words and does not know how to approach Casey with what he is about to tell her. His tentative approach also reflects how he continues to walk on eggshells around Casey as he has for years.

Instead of getting right to it and writing something like “Casey, how dare you lie about your brother and I sexually molesting you !”, he gives a meek and hesitant initial statement. George’s timid behavior continues with his uses of the next word “Well” instead of jumping right into what he really wants to say.

In leaving out the word “I” and just writing “met with Jose and Cheney Mason”, he doesn’t want to attribute what he is about to write to himself because it is understandably embarrassing and shameful for him. So subconsciously, he eliminates himself by eliminating “I” at the beginning of the sentence .

A DATE TO REMEMBER

He then says that he met with “Jose and Cheny Mason on Wednesday, March 24th . ” By giving the exact date, he is being more formal and putting a distance between himself and Casey. In essence he is documenting exact the date as one that is memorable. He also mentions the date twice in his letter.

Perhaps this date may turn out to be very memorable for him if indeed it was the date that Casey betrayed family confidences. Remember how George always talked about family loyalty and how Lee and Casey spoke about keeping their secrets during the jailhouse tapes? If this is the case, it is no wonder as to why George is so upset.

GEORGE SEEMS TO HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR “CHENEY MASON THAN “JOSE”

George doesn’t respect attorney Jose Baez as much as he does Cheney Mason as he refers to him as “Jose” while he refers to “Cheny Mason” by his entire first and last name. This indicates that he has more respect for him. He does this twice as he says “Jose” in “Chaney’s” office delivered me heartbreaking news & ask me 2 heartbreaking questions?

I should also add that if you look at George’s handwriting in his letter in the photo above , you will see that it slants downward. When this occurs it usually means that the person is depressed and upset.

“HEARTBREAKING” INSTEAD OF “SHOCKING”?

George’s use of the word “heartbreak” twiceseemed like an odd choice of a word to use. Does it imply that his heart was broken about her revelation that Lee and George molested her? Using words like “upsetting” “devastating” “disgusting” or “shocking” news make more sense in this case. Likewise “shocking,” unbelievable” surprising” “outrageous” “unconscionable” questions would make make sense than using the term heartbreaking questions.

In my view one is heartbroken when they feel betrayed. One is shocked and surprised and flabbergasted if someone made an accusation about then that they heard for the first time and it was not true.

PASSIVE AGRESSIVELY ADMONISHING CASEY

Then George passively aggressively admonishes Casey by saying “You know what 2 questions he asked and I said mum…..”

George’s response is hugely telling. He doesn’t tell her what the heartbreaking news is in his letetr, but we can imagine that the two possible questions were “Did brother Lee and or George sexually molest Casey, like she said they did in her jailhouse letters.

MUM ???n or NUM UNDERLINED

It is confusing as to whether George meant to say that he was numb and left off the final b offf , “num” or he meant to say mum.

The fact that George wrote he was “mum” or num is no doubt because he was between a rock and a hard place. Even if he was numb, he was mum.

If he answered “yes”, then he could go to jail for sexually molesting his underage daughter at the time. If he answered “yes” the defense (Jose Baez and Cheney Mason) could use that information as an argument and excuse as to why “poor” Casey may have allegedly murdered her daughter.

If he says “no” then the defense can’t use it as an excuse and it validates Casey’s sociopathic personality as a liar- that she would lie about her own father and brother sexually molesting her.

So, he remained “mum.” This word was underlined for emphasis which indicates that he most likely plans to remain mum on the subject if he is indeed referring to Casey’s accusing him and Lee of sexual molestation.

But I can assure you that during his deposition and during cross examination by the State, there is no way he will be able to continue to remain “mum” on these particular accusations which Casey made.

10 WHYS?????????

Then he continues in his passive aggressive way, to admonish Casey as he asks a series of questions where he repeats the word “why” twice for emphasis and to no doubt elicit a reaction of guilt in Casey.

He does this as he asks her why she would bring down every member of her family. There are 8 “whys” and two additional ones throughout his letter.

The only problem is that sociopaths have no feelings of guilt. So his efforts are wasted on asking her why? Casey, like all sociopaths have no idea why they do what they do. They are impulsive and never consider the implications of their actions.

SHAME AND EMBARRASSMENT FOR GEORGE

George is understandably upset and embarrassed that Casey accused him and Lee of sexually molesting her. That is why he possibly can’t even bring himself to write those words.

If he and Lee didn’t molest Casey, why wasn’t he more direct? Most people would have adamantly and angrily defended themselves and have written something “ How dare you accuse your brother and father of molesting you when you know that never happened!” They would have been more direct and not sidestep the issue as George has apparently done in this letter if indeed he is indeed referring to her accusations.

If this is the case, then in using all those WHY’S George really saying, “WHY did you spill the beans and tell all the family secrets?” The fact that he did not angrily defend himself and deny what Casey accused him and Lee of doing to her leads to a lot of questions about whether Casey is finally telling the truth about something.

After all she spilled the beans in a jailhouse letter to her then girlfriend Robin Adams. I doubt she knew that this information would be made public. In my view, she is not that bright to plan this. It just happened. If Robin would not have revealed those letters or destroyed them, no one would know about these allegations which Casey made against Lee and George.

I have no doubt that after Casey read all those “why’s” , she may have derived some sadistic pleasure in knowing that her actions upset not only George and Lee, but also her mother, Cindy, her nemesis.

It is interesting that George adds Caylee Marie into the mix as he knows quite well that Casey Marie most likely has already destroyed Caylee Marie.

GEORGE LAYING A GUILT TRIP ON DEAF EARS AND ACTING THE MARTYR

We have all seen George act out the martyr in his exclusive Fox 35 interview months back. He’s still at acting the martyr in this letter as he also tries to guilt trip Casey by writing:

“After all I have tried, sacrificed, continued
to have you, My Daughter, Why???
Continually coming to court, continually
wanting to see you, Why???

What he’s essentially telling her is that he has sacrificed so much for her by showing up in the courtroom for her. He mentions the word “continually” twice for emphasis to let her know that he never let up and was loyal in coming to court because he wanted to see her.

With his two question marks following the “why” he is essentially asking her “why” he even bothered to do that if she that if she was going to “out” him and make accusations not only about him but Lee as well.

It can also mean “ Casey why would you not be loyal to me when I have been loyal to you and showed up in court for you continually?”

IS GEORGE LEAKING OUT INFORMATION WHEN HE SAYS “ CONTINUED TO HAVE YOU or LOVE YOU , MY DAUGHTER?”

Just as there is confusion whne George wote num or mum, there is also confusion as to whehter wrote have or loveWhen George writes “continued to have you, My Daughter,” If he meant to say have, I found that to be a rather strange choice of words.” Is he leaking out some information that he continued to have his daughter sexually? If he used the word love, it may or may not mean the same thing, Exactly what is George saying here?

MORE PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE ADMONISHING WHICH MUST THRILL SADISTIC CASEY

Again, George tries to passive aggressively admonish Casey by asking “Why” and adding three question marks next to it for emphasis ???.

Little does George know that his doing this, no doubt thrills Casey. If she heard George speak those words it would be music to her ears. But since she is reading it, the words are music to her eyes. It demonstrates that she got to George. Sociopaths love it when they get an emotional rise out someone. It mskes them smile.

Remember in the jailhouse tapes when Casey was smiling sadistically and laughing at Cindy when Cindy was crying and she remarked to her father about Cindy, “What is this one crying about?”

Did George continually show up in court out of his own guilt? Was George’s suicide attempt due to the overwhelming guilt he may have felt about what Casey allegedly said he did to her?

As we lean more and more from the letters, we can see that the pieces of the puzzle are coming together and giving us a clearer picture of this horribly and sadly dysfunctional family. www.drlillianglass.com

WAS THE STORY ABOUT THE CONTENTS OF JORAN’S NOTE HE LEFT FOR HER TRUE?

While Joran may have left his mother Anita a note that he was leaving for Peru, perhaps what he allegedly said in that note may be wishful thinking on the part of Anita van der Sloot.

She gives a seemingly embellished story when she says “Joran left me a note.” As she says. this she brushes off her leg it looks like she is brushing something off. This is usually a signal of deception.

She then looks down and licks her lips indicating two other signals deception as she recites that the note says “ Mommy I love youbut I, I (repetition of the word I which is another signal of deception ) don’t wanna go to the Netherlands. She then looks way which is yet anothersignal of deception.

She then says, using a strong voice which does ring true “ I am invited to gamble in Peru and I can make money there. But then her voice wanes as she goes on with something that doesn’t make much sense as she adds that Joran’s note says and I wanna stay there far away as no body knows me there. I wanna think I what I wanna do with my life?”

Right after she says this she cocks her head as though she is questioning what he has just said- another signal of deception. I seriously doubt Joran wrote those exact words “I wanna stay there far away nobody knows me there. That doesn’t sound like something someone would write in a note as does I wanna think what to do with my life.

Those are very serious decisions- to stay in Peru and to go away and decide what to do with his life. Why would he write that in a little note instead of discussing these important life changing decisions verbally with is mother. Also her stating that Joran was there to stay in Peru as opposed to other Latin American countries does not ring true either. He went there for a Poker tournament, not to stay there and build a life. He also went to Columbia and Chile and was on his way to Argentina.So I don’t buy it that he was going to to build a life in Peru where no one knew him. It doesn’t make sense, especially since he is not all that fluent in Spanish.

The fact that he wrote it instead of communicating it to her verbally shows what a strained relationship they must have had. Also since her interview was done for Dutch TV and since she said she trusts them so much, why didn’t she produce that note that Joran wrote in order to show everyone exactly what he wrote?

She then looks down and purses her lips and shrugs her shoulders- all three all signals of deception as her body language and facial expression do not match her feelings she is attempting to express. Then she makes a loud” tsking” or smacking sound with her tongue, followed by silence.

She says I was angry. She knits her brow together and juts her jaw forward indicating that she was indeed angry with Joran.

She says ” I was ready for Joran to eh follow a path where they could help him dealing with his eh (looks away) em his gambling addiction and if there was a personality disorder which could be very good possible.” She she looks down and blinks a lot as she says this.

Her body language tells make me wonder if she really did send him tot he Netherlands and if he was planning to go there , or if this is all Anita’s spin to not make Joran look like a monster.

If you are going to a clinic for a gambling addiction, you mention only that and don’t add in his personality disorder, unless you know one exists. There is no doubt that Anita did know that Joran had some type of psychological problem as he was apparently seeing a therapist in his teen years. Apparently he was sent to a therapist by his parents. According to an interview which Joran gave to the Aruban police when he was a teen, given after Natalie’s was found missing, Joran admitted he had been sent to a psychiatrist for stealing 50 euros from his father and for his violence towards his brother.

While Jorn has told many lies in his past, I believe that his telling about seeing a psychiatrist was one of the few times that he was telling the truth.

ANITA LAUGHS WHEN SHE SAYS IT COULDN’T BE JORAN WHO KILLED STEFANY

After Anita recounts that she found out Stefany was murdered and says that it could not have been Joran, her facial expression is not what one would expect. She smiles as you see above.

At first she recites what she heard in a very low and labored tone. As she speaks she turns her whole body and face away as literally to not face this disaster she is revealing.

She says “ I heard was a girl found n the Tac hotel in the room of Joran. Her Inflection goes up as she says em murdered grually em with a knife , blood everywhere etc. (why would someone say etc.?) They would say etc as a means of detachment. Anita was clearly trying to detach herself from the horror of the incident as she further visualized what he son did to poor Stefany. Knowing this was too much for her to bear emotionally. The fact that Anita spoke in a monotone also conformed her emotional detachment.

As Anita says the words there was blood everywhere,she looks away and turns her head to face way from the interviewer. It is as though she is unable to face this horrific visual scene as she has a serious and devastated look on her face as you can see above.

But then what she does seems rather odd. She begins to smile as she says “And I thought no no this cannot be. No way.Her smile is a not a happy smile but rather a nervous smile. It is a that lasts five seconds. It may also be a smile of relief that Joran was finally caught for all of his past and present his misdeeds. She then shrugs her shoulders.

We know that a shoulder shrug is often associated wih a person not telling the truth. When Anita said the words” No way” referring to the fact that there was no way Joran could have committed this brutal act, she was not telling the truth. In her mind,she may have very well known that Joran was capable of doing such a horrific thing based on his past violence and personality disorder which she referred to earlier in the interview.

She then says she says I was I was was completely shut ” while clasping her hands together as if and then brushing her palms as though she was symbolically brushing Joran off and eliminating from her life.

Then she crosses her chest with her with her arms over lapping one another as if to protect herself. She then describes how she was completely shut down emotionally .

Then she pushes her hands out as if she is literally pushing Joran away from her.

As she describes her phone call with Joran when he was calling her from the taxi during his escape into Chile, her body language appears to be in synch with her emotional state. Here we see Anita making very frantic gestures with her hands as she relates how she implored her son to turn himself in and go to police after she described how he was crying to her.

Then Anita changes her tune and says that she thought it was all a set up because it was exactly five years to the day “that Natalie death happened and now this with Stefany Flores happened.” The fact that she mentioned the two girl by name indicates that she has respect for them as she realized the gravity of the situation and her son’s involvement . As Anita mentions Stefany’s name, she turns away as to symbolically turn away from Joran and what he did. Her speaking in a very matter of fact unemotional tone shows that she hasn’t fully come to terms with everything from an emotional standpoint.

ANITA SHOWS COMPASSION AND SHAME

Anita showed compassion when she said she immediately thought of the parents. Then she added that she too identified as she lost a son. She then said she hoped Joran can speak to the parents of Stefany Flores and in a normal way tell them what happened.

But as she says this, there is a tinge of anger in her tone as she knows there will be no normal way for Joran speak to her parents . So she says “And I apologize for them that he is my son. ” She looks down in embarrassment as she makes this statement, indicting body language-wise that she is truly embarrassed that Joran was her son.

But then she attempts to modify what she said by revealing ” He’s, not a monster.” She says this with a questioning look as her inflection goes up as if asking a question, perhaps wondering if Joran really is a monster.

In trying to erase this thought from her mind, she further tries to mollify her shame and embarrassment of Joran by explaining that “ he can be very gentle,” Then she she rolls her head from side to side and shrugs her shoulders as she continues to offer up further excuses fro Joran’s egregious acts by saying ” it could be that he has a bipolar em personality.”
She is slightly teary eyed as she says this yet she is angry as indicated by her pursed lips and jaw jutted forward.

She then leans away and places her hands in front of herself , interlocking her fingers like a closed gate. In doing so she is indicating that there is no way she will ever change the words she has said ” I will not visit Joran in Peru. I don’t have any feeling that it can add up to anything. I want to keep distance .I think it will bring emotions up that I am not ready for. ”

I think that Anita is wise to stay away from Joran as who knows what would happen to her if they were alone together in his cell in Peru. Based on his psychological reports Joran does not value the female role and has disrespect for women, Thus, there is no doubt that he disrespects his mother. Based on how violent his killing was of Stefany and what he probably did to Natalie, he harbors a lot of rage towards women including his mother. Therefore, her own life may be in jeopardy if she is face to face with her son.

She tries to justly her actions of refusing to see her son by saying she is not a police officer, she is a a mom. What she is saying is that she wants the police officers to handle him because as a mom she is helpless. She goes on to say of he is involved, then he needs to be punished by the police.

ANITA GOES BACK TO BLAMING JORAN’S PROBLEMS ON HIS BEING CHASED FIVE YEARS

Anita definitely has mercurial feelings whne it comes to Joran. On the one hand she sees what Joran has done and wants hiom punished fro his actions.. But on the other breath she continues to make excuses for Joraan by saying that “he was chased five years;”

She ratonalizes that this is what caused this as she blame “people stared at him everywhere he went. ”

Maybe if Joran would have come clean and not toyed with the Holloway family, people would not have have stared at him. Maybe if he would have completed his studies or gone on to a respectable profession instead of being engaged in the trafficking of prostitutes in Thailand people wouldn’t have stared at him. Maybe if he would have dedicated his time and energies to a more worthwhile and charitable cause instead of playing poker, people wouldn’ t have stared at him. Perhaps if he got the psychological help he needed, he would have been better able to cope if anyone did happen to stare at him. In reality, how could people avoid staring at someone like Joran who was a striking looking at 6 foot 3 inches tall.

Anita continued on in defending Joran by saying ,”They bothered him and there as no place he was safe.”

NOW ANITA GOES BACK TO BLAMING JORAN

We see Anita’s thought yo yoing as she says ” I belive in karma. If you do things you shouldn’t do a lot of shit happens to you.” It was interesting how Anita used such a crude word when she knew she was being televised. Perhaps that was the only words she could use to describe her son’s predicament.

Ti use Anita’s word, a lot of shit happened to Anita as well as Joran. It happened to her because she didn’t handle her out of control son with enough tough love. She made too many excuses for him like she is doing now.

But then she goes backtracks as she blames Joran for not listening to his parents. But his parents needed to have set down some firm laws so their teenage son at the time was not in casinos gambling.

Anita then says ” He didn’t listen to me . and then hesitates and finally continues with ” this last time .” I have no doubt that Joran didn’t listen to Anita anytime. In making such a statement Anita is trying to defend herself, She does so by adding ” I tried to do my best I don’t think I could have done more.. ” Of course she could have done more early on in Joran’s teen years. But she is right that she could not have done more now . It is too late.

One of the most disturbing aspects of Anita’s interview was that she was making excuses for not talking to Beth Twitty and blaming the fact that she was being shielded by the media. That is an excuse because if Anita wanted to get to Beth she could have reached out to her somehow during these five years.As Anita says this she looks down and shrugs her shoulder. This body language gesture indicates that what Anita is saying about not being able to get to Beth is not true.

What is absolutely true based on her angry and distanced body language is that there is no longer any relationship between Anita and her son Joran. www.drlillianglass.com

Bachelor Jake Pavelka and Vienna Girardi have just broken up and I am not at all surprised. As soon as Bachelor Jake Pavelka Vienna to be his bride I knew for sure that they wouldn’t last based on their body language signals. In fact, early into their relationship, US Weekly Magazine asked me to so an analysis of the two of them. You can clearly see what I had to say. All of the photos of them looked contrived. Vienna looked more interested in publicity than she did in Jake. There was absolutely NO chemistry between them as you can see.

OF COURSE THEY HAD NO SEX FOR THE PAST FOUR MONTHS

Vienna announced the world via the press that in the six months they have been living together, couple had not had sex for the past four months it was no surprise. She said he was full of excuses from a. fasting b. he didn’t feel like it and c. he wanted to wait until marriage. As a result Vienna said that she wrote him a Dear John letter as she spent most of their six month relationship crying.

But if you look at their initial photos above, there was indeed a sexual attraction on Jake’s part. Perhaps he got burnt out with her or turned off two months into the relationship.

LOVE MADE FOR TV ONLY

In this recent photo of Jake you see him pulling away from her. Their bodies are also turned in the opposite directions and Vienna is clealry the agressor here with her arms tightly clasped around Jake’s waist.

Finally, Jake is angry. When anyone puts their hand in a fist, especially, hen they should be hugging you, they are mad. That gesture, along with his head pulled to the side and the tight phony smile indicates there is no love coming from Jake.

When anyone pulls their body away from you it means they are clearly not into you. In essence, his body language is saying that he wants to get away from her.

Vienna’s revelation that “their love appeared made-for-cameras only.” is definitely true as we can see in this photo.

IT’S ALL IN THE KISS

Like the lyrics from an oldie goldie song says “If you wanna know if he loves you so, it’s in his kiss, that’s where it is.”

If a man doesn’t kiss you with passion, especially early on in your relationship you can kiss that relationship goodby. If he gives you tight-lipped grandma pecks, its over!!!!

Vienna reported to the press “He kisses me only if we’re on a red carpet if cameras are there,” “Besides that, I have to ask for a kiss – and if I do he’ll pucker his lips and just peck me. I’m like, that’s how I kiss my grandmother!”

I completely believe what Vienna is telling us. Back in March when they were at an event for Perez Hilton, Jake was seen wiping off Vienna’s kiss. That is a huge indication that something was wrong.He lso pulls away from her as you can see.

BODY LANGUAGE CAN TELL SO SO MUCH ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP

The bottom line is that body language can tell you a lot of about relationships – other people’s relationships as well as your own.

So pay close attention to how someone moves, acts and speaks whenever they are around you. Always remember that if their kiss doesn’t feel right, then something is definitely wrong.www.drlillianglass.com

First and foremost the results of Joran van der Sloot’s psychological tests have been made public. Some of the results reveal that he has a hair trigger temper, doesn’t value women, has many anti social behaviors, can only make superficial relationships, has no empathy and feelings towards others, and is narcissistic .

All of his behaviors scream that he is a Sociopath.

HOW WAS JORAN TRICKED INTO SIGNING A CONFESSION WHEN IT WAS ALL VIDEOTAPED?

Now Joran van der Sloot claims he was tricked into confessing to Stephany Flores’ murder. He says that the Peruvian authorities told him that if he signed the papers they gave him, he would be transferred to the Netherlands.

If what he is saying is true( and I doubt it), then the Peruvians may have given lying Joran a taste of his own medicine.

All he has done over the past 5 years is lie about Natalie Holloway. If they did happen to tell him that he would be deported back to the Netherlands if he signed the confession that he made all by himself, then I say, good for them.

In truth, I doubt they told him this for a number of reasons. First of all everything was captured on video and secondly they did not have the authority to extradite him to the Netherlands as Peru and the Netherlands do not have that type of an agreement.

Joran tells the Dutch newspaper Da Telegraaf, “In my blind panic I signed everything, but never knew what was written on them.”

That is another ridiculous lie out of Joran’s mouth. Of course he knew what was written on them. We saw him taking his time during the confession and reading everything slowly and carefully before he signed anything. If he didn’t understand something in the confession, the Peruvians also had someone from the Dutch embassy available to translate it for him

WHY DOESN’T JORAN EXPLAIN “NOW” INSTEAD OF “LATER “?

“I was tricked,” the paper quoted Van der Sloot as saying of Flores’ killing. “I’ll explain later how it all happened.” Of course he will explain “later” because he needs time in his criminally sick mind to make up a plasuble sounding story.

When people tell you they will “ tell you later”, it usually means they need the time to think about what lies they are going to make up.

PERU IS NOT GOING TO PLAY JORAN’S GAMES

Joran may have toyed with Aruban authorities by his giving and and retracting admissions concerning his involvement in Holloway’s disappearance. But the Peruvians will not stand for it as we are witnessing.

Attorney Maximo Altez who said van der Sloot’s statement in court will focus on how his rights were violated during the investigation. In my view, he is barking up the wrong tree . Peruvian police have defended the interrogation and said van der Sloot’s confession was acquired legally.

And far as rights go, where were Stefany’s rights? Those rights- especially her right to life- was clearly violated.

JORAN’S POOR JUDGMENT IN NOT SPEAKING TO THE JUDGE

So for now, Joran has refused to speak to the judge about the case until it is determined if he confessed with his rights intact.

I believe what he said in his confession was accurate in terms of how he killed Stefany. I believe that her injuries via the autopsy reports will no doubt validate everything he said.

I do not believe for a moment that Stefany used his computer and looked at his email without permission as to the reason why he killed her.

Wouldn’t she need a password to get into his email account? I believe the killed her because she refused to have sex with him. Otherwise why would she have been found with her jeans off?

I believe that Joran’s not speaking to the judge wil result in a harsher sentence for him. He needed to admit what he did and take responsibility for his actions.

LIKE MOST SOCIOPATHS JORAN SEES HIMSELF AS THE PERPETUAL VICTIM

We can see Joran’s classic sociopathology clearly at work here as he makes himself out to be the poor victim who was forced to sign the confession of words which he manufactured which only came out of his own mouth.

The Peruvian authorities didn’t put those words in Joran’s mouth. Joran put them there himself.

Joran also wants you to feel sorry for him because he now has to live with rats that come out through his toilet hole at night.

So now there are small rats in his cell and a huge one- Joran. He should feel right at home with his new pets. But he lets this information out to Da Telegraaf newspaper in an attempt to get people to feel sorry for him in his substandard living conditions.

ENABLER MOTHER ANITA PLAYS THE VICTIM ROLE AS WELL

Anita van der Sloot says her poor Joran was traumatized by the Natalie Holloway ordeal and should have gotten psychiatric help but refused.“Joran is sick in his head, but he wanted no help,” his mother said.

This statement shows how Anita is an enabler. Who cares whether Joran wanted that help or not. She was the mother and needed to see to it that he got that help no matter whether Joran liked it or not. Joran was 16 or 17 at the time- an under age boy. She refers to Joran as a ’Sweet boy’ in the newspaper interview she did with Da Telgraaf. The operative word here was “boy”.

Joran was a boy and she was the adult when she needed to insist he go into therapy during the Natalie Holloway situation. She needed to have laid down some boundaries- such as “no gambling at the casinos until he had therapy.”

His father Paulus certainly had enough pull on the island to call every casino in town and tell them to not let his son into them. He could have reinforced the “no casino and gambling until you get into therapy” boundary for Joran.

Then Anita wants to evoke even more pity on her poor Joran by starting that he blamed himself for his father’s unexpected death earlier this year.”Two days Joran cried. He even hung over the coffin, sobbing.

“It’s my fault, Dad,” he said. “I have caused your heart attack.”

This behavior Joran exhibited at his father’s death is yet another reason Anita should have insisted he get therapy to help him with his grieving. Technically, Joran didn’t cause his father’s heart attack. It was obviously caused by a malfunctioning heart. Maybe his father didn’t go to a doctor for regular checkups od maybe he had an undiagnosed heart disease.

That certainly wasn’t Joran’ fault even though the added stress Joran caused in his father’s life may have added to stressing out his father’s heart.

As soon as Anita noticed how severely Joran was grieving, that is when Anita needed to have put down an ultimatum to her son who immediately moved in with her after his father died. She needed to say “you can only move in with me if you go into therapy.”

His father was dead four months when Anita says “But then one day he left, flying to Peru for a poker tournament” She says this in order to make herself look like a victim.” His mother had four months to make sure and insist he went into therapy and did not do so.

During those four months, Anita needed to bring a therapist to their home if Joran wouldn’t go. If he was having such strong guilt feelings, and was so deponent, she needed to do whatever she had to do an WOMAN UP and tke care of her son’s emotional health. I am sure if Joan’s leg was bleeding uncontrollably , she would have taken him for immediate help. Likewise, mental health was figuratively bleeding uncontrollably and she needed to so the same thing and get him help asap.

Her final statement “If only he had listened to his mother. Then, this would have never happened,” is not only a statement which reflects her being a victim of her son’s not listening to her but said to invoke sympathy and at the same time give herself a pat on the back that she was a good mother. If Joran’s mother would have been more proactive and set boundaries that insisted he go into therapy and under psychiatric care, then all of this may never have happened.

After reviewing Joran’s psych report it is now even more understandable as to why Joran’s mother had such little control over him. The report says that Joran does not value the female role and disrespects women.

It also stated that he gets violent when contradicted. So if his mother whom he disrespects did insist on his going in to therapy and he didn’t want to go and she persisted and argued with him about it, perhaps Anita would have ended up in the same position and Stefany Flores.Perhaps she knew better than to antagonize Joran.

That may be why she merely suggested that he go for therapy and did not pursue it further She may have been very intimidated and afraid of what Joran would do to her. So she no doubt kept a low profile around him.

The fact that Anita has not yet shown up in Peru speaks volumes. It says that she has clearly abandoned her son this time around. There is no doubt that Anita knows who her son is. She knows he is mentally sick as she said and knows about his temper and violence.

Now it is clear that she wants no part of him . She has washed her hands of him and now he is completely on his own as far as she is concerned . Daddy had died and is no longer there to help him. In Joran’s mother’s eyes , see also sees Joran as dead and as she too is no longer there to help him . www.drlillianglass.com

What was most evident about Joran Van der Sloot’s ex girlfriend Melody Grandillo ’s body language on ABC’s 20/20 was her nervous laughter. She wasn’t smiling and laughing because she was happy. Instead, she was laughing because she was uncomfortable with her conflicted feelings.

The reason I say it was nervous laughter is because the laugh didn’t last that long. Within seconds, she soon transitioned into a serious facial expression, as she continued to discuss Joran.

She showed body language signals that she was conflicted. On one level she had tender feelings towards her first love who wrote and told her beautiful words like her eyes being more beautiful than the stars in the sky

Her genuine smiles and tender tones indicated that she clearly had very found memories and feelings about a teenaged Joran who spoke about wanting to marry her.

On the other level, was the grim realization that Joran may have killed a young woman who was born on the same day and in the same year as she was born- Natalie Holloway. There was realization that he actually murdered a young woman- Stefany Flores, who in Medody’s own words, resembled her.

EARLY SIGNS OF SOCIOPATHY SEEN IN JORAN VIA MELODY’S DAIARY ENTRIES

In her diary which she shared with 20/20. Melody reveals early signals of Joran’s sociopathy- his manipulation of her by saying exactly what she wanted to hear.

No doubt the early teenaged Joran learned that poetic and loving words could be used to manipulate his girlfriend sexually. Perhaps he thought that if he spoke of marriage and a future commitment together, Melody would be more amenable towards having sex with him.

And then there was his lying to her about his cheating, which he did with many other young women. Then there was her revelation of his “not letting her go” until she believed him. He also let it be known to her how he was the victim when things went wrong.

After listening to Melody, it is evident that Joran’s aberrant behavior patterns and disrespect towards women began early on and were readily seen in his teen years.

WHY JORAN REACHED OUT TO MELODY

Based on looking at how Melody presented herself during the interview, she seems like a very sweet person with a lot of caring and compassion.

No doubt, Joran picked up on this as well. In a compassionate moment Melody’s may have reached out to Joran when the Natalie Holloway incident occurred and provided him with emotional support. After all, she only experienced a loving side. She definateky repressed the side of him when he was lying and cheating on her.

But now. Joran was there to take advantage of her compassion and her seemingly compliant nature. That is why he tried to manipulate her by telling her how he couldn’t get back to Aruba unless she helped him out with his $520 ticket. He even texted her to send him $200.

He texts her:

“ I have some cash with me so I am fine Just lost the bank card and the ticket. l would have liked to have been back today but the ticket is $520 but can’t do much about it such bad luck sometimes.”

Melody was knew she was being manipulated by him as she said to Chris Cuomo in her 20/20 interviwe that she didn’t send him the money because she knew it would be spent on gambling.

When Joran realized he wasn’t getting any money from Melody, he went after Stefany Flores, who ironically resembled Melody.

Perhaps he was also collapsing his deep anger towards Melody on to Stefany. Perhaps for the first time in their knowing one another, Melody did not do what he wanted by sending him money. So his intense anger towards Melody was unleashed on to Stefany . He saw Stefany winning at the tables and looked at her as an easy financial mark and as a sexual mark as well.

We know from Melody’s diaries that she said he” wouldn’t let her go” unless Melody did what he wanted- believe him that he was innocent and not cheating on her.

It stands to reason that he would have done the same with Stefany. He even remarked in his confession that Stefany tried to leave and he wouldn’t let her do so. She wouldn’t do what he wanted her to do- most likely have sex with him. So he killed her, took her money and ran.

I have no doubt that is what he did with Natlaie Holloway as well. This young virgin may not have wanted to go all the way with him sexually and didn’t do what he wanted her to do. So he may have possibly choked the life out of her in anger like he did with Stefany. The intensity of Stefany’s injuries show extreme rage and hatred. It was bad enough that he broker her nose and choked her, but to also smother her with his shirt speaks to that intense range that perhaps he was also harboring towards Melody.

JORAN’ EARLY SOCIOPATHIC AND VIOLENT STREAK WITH HIS OWN FAMILY

Joran is no stranger to violence as we hear from his own accounts in an Aruban police interview when questioned about Natalie Holloway. In that interview, he stated that he was under the care of a psychiatrist .He stated that his parents sent him to a psychiatrist for stealing 50 eros from his father.

He also that he mentioned he had a history of violence in beating up his brother.

So obviously his mother Anita and father Paulus knew that Joran was full of problems or they would not have sent him to a psychiatrist when he was a teen.

ANITA VAN DER SLOOT’S ENABLING MAY BE THE REASON JORAN IS WHERE HE IS TODAY

As we read Anita van der Sloot’s recent text message to Joran’s ex girlfriend Melody, we see where Joran gets his victim attitude, his blaming, and denial skills. He gets them from mother Anita.

Anita texts Melody:

“I am not giving interviews to any American media station because I don’t trust them. Stay safe and pray for Joran. He is not the monster they like the world to see. He is traumatized, depressed an has an addiction. He is not a murderer. It stinks and feels like a big trap set up for him”

Notice that she does the same thing as Joran does in blaming others – especially the press for his woes. Note her excuses for her son’s egregious behavior- that he is merely depressed and has an addiction.

Lot’s of people in the world are depressed and have addictions and do not murder others. She blames others for setting up a trap for him. She doesn’t put any of the blame on him.

ANITA’S REVEALING INTERVIEW WITH DUTCH NEWSPAPER

In her interview with a Dutch newspaper the Telegraaf, she continues to make excuses for her son by stating the he is “ ‘sick in his head’ and was due to be admitted to a psychiatric unit before he went to Peru. She said that “Joran fled to Peru to avoid being admitted to a closed unit in a psychiatric hospital in the Netherlands”.

Specifically, she is quoted in the newspaper as saying ‘He had agreed to be admitted. Two days before he was due to leave for the Netherlands, he left the house. All he left was a note on the kitchen table.” The paper said that the note told her not to worry and he had gone to Peru for a poker tournament, she said.

She also said that she spoke to Joran shortly before he fled to Chile and he sounded very paranoid. He felt he was being ‘followed and looked at.’

She goes on to say that Joran had been very affected by his father’s death earlier this year and felt he was responsible.

Joran has run rough shod over his enabling mother doing what he wants to do not what he is supposed to do- go to a Poker tournament in Peru instead of going to a mental hospital.

Instead of being upset that her son didn’t do what he was supposed to d-,check into the hospital, she defends his actions by saying how the poor dear boy was affected by his father’s death and how he has a mental issue.

She vehemently defended him during the Natalie Holloway days and continues to do the same thing now.

ANITA’S BLIND EYE OF DENIAL

Joran’s anger issues with women- may have a lot to do with his relationship with his mother. Based on her recent comments where Joran doesn’t even speak to her directly but instead, leaves a note on the kitchen table that he is going to a Poker tournament in Peru as opposed to checking into a mental facility, speaks volumes.

It shows that there is a lack of respect for his mother, not to mention a lack of communication between the two.

Maybe Anita learned early on to let Joran do as he pleased, because he was too much to handle. Maybe she experienced his violence first hand . Maybe she felt it was easier to let him do what he wanted and to to acquiesce to his whims, and not fight with him and experience his wrath.

So, she may have always turned a blind eye to his escapades. She and his father put up gambling funds for him to visit the casinos when he was a mere teenager. Maybe they felt it was easier to do that as opposed to experiencing his violent temper outbursts when he didn’t get his way.

In any event, neither her enabling actions or those of his father helped Joran as he entered adulthood. They never gave him any boundaries or tough love.

It was not just his parents who suffered his wrath if they didn’t do what he wanted them to do. Now, if anyone didn’t do what he wanted – he most likely let them have it.In fact many of his fellow classmates reported that he was a bully at school.

Maybe that is why one of the Aruban brother’s, Deepak Kalpoe was at his disposal whenever Joran wanted a ride somewhere, no matter what time of night it was. Maybe Deepak felt bullied by Joran to do or say what he wanted him to do or else. Deepak was so tied to Joran that he even lied for him saying that he dropped Natalie off at the Holiday Inn.

So when anyone especially the two women last seen by him didn’t do what he wanted, he no doubt, bullied them. When they continued to refuse him or fought back, his violence clicked in and he ended up killing them.

It is understandable that Anita doesn’t want to admit that her son is a murderer. That is too painful and understandably so. With that pain would come the awareness that her own enabling behavior and lack of boundaries may have contributed to her son’s demise. So that may be why she continues to blame others and claim his innocence.

WHY HASN’T ANITA RUSHED TO PERU?

Ever since Joran was arrested, there were reports that Anita was on a plane headed towards Peru? But, two weeks later there is still no Anita. There was one report that she would be arriving with a Dutch television station, but that has yet to happen.

Anita can defend him all she wants in the press and blame the American’s and blame others for setting a trap for him, the fact that she has yet to show up in Peru to see him yet, speaks volumes.

Monday Joran will have a trial or sorts in Lima. He will be interviewed in great detail by the judge. One would think that his mother would be there for moral support, but she will most likely not be there. Despite her defense of her son, maybe reality is slowly sinking in that she spawned an out of control monster with a huge violent streak who hates women. www.drlillianglass.com

I am not a political person and I have no agenda other than keeping it real and telling it like it is. So when I was asked today by Inside Edition to analyze President Obama’s speech which he made from the Oval Office about the BPoil spill, I obliged and did a television interview.

Apparently, many Americans were upset about the speech. In fact, after he gave the speech, the President’s approval ratings plummeted to an all time low. After carefully listening to and looking at him giving his speech, I could see why American’s felt as they did.

OBAMA NEEDS A NEW SPEECH WRITER

First and foremost I believe that whomever wrote the speech for the President needed to be fired. It was basically a campaign commercial for how well he was doing and what he was going to do. People were clearly not interested in hearing about committees and task forces and names of people who were on those task forces that were being set up.

People were not interested in what Obama was going to do, especially when they saw what he didn’t do. They wanted that issue addressed.

Granted this is an is an overwhelming problem and it is not Obama’s doing. It was BP’s doing. We needed to hear his real take on the situation, not his spin on the situation, which was prevalent throughout the speech.

We did not want to hear about the specific devastated families he met. In doing so he sounded like a candidate on the campaign trail . We already know how devastating this is to families and those who make their living from fishing and shrimping and tourism.

We needed to hear and feel how devastated the President felt is about the situation. We needed to hear and see his anger. We needed to hear why he did not speak to us earlier.

If he felt helpless which I am sure is the case, we needed to hear that too. We needed to hear about emergency measures that a leader would take, not about committees that were being set up that would take time. Time is of the essence and we needed to know that he was doing everything possible in that race against time where millions of gallons of oil are escaping each day.

OBAMA SPOKE AT US NOT TO US

The President spoke AT us , NOT TO us and that is what turned people off. What needed to have been said at the beginning of his speech was lost in the middle and at the end of his speech.

Add to that the President’s monotone and mono expression. He read the speech on the teleprompter without emotion and without inflection.

It was as though a fourth grader was reading a book report in front of a class. While it may have worked for a grade school child, it did NOT work for a President of the United States.

NERVOUSNESS

Body language wise it didn’t start out well either. Obama had his hands folded as though he was holding on to himself and containing himself. It also reflected his discomfort and nervousness.

This speech needed to be given when the oil spill first happened, not now. It was too little too late in many people’s minds. There was no doubt that he knew this as well. No doubt, that added to his discomfort level which we all observed.

WRONG HAND GESTURES

The President used his hands way too much. It appeared to many that he was, in essence, wringing his hands during the first part of the speech . This further gave the impression of his nervousness.

Along with that, his gestures were completely disconnected as to what he was saying. They were not in synch with what he was talking about.

For instance when spoke of the oil spill and said “Becuase there’s never been a leak this size and depth…” he used a gesture that indicated smallness as he pinched his thumb and pinter finger together. It is NOT a small spill it is a huge one and his gesture needed to indicate that point. His hand needed to be open not closed as it was.

He then used aggressive gestures such as the one you see above with his thumb and pointer finger together which is commonly reserved to stress and emphasize key points. Insted, he used this gesture inappropriately and ineffectively throughout his speech, where he emphasized benign points.

OBAMA IS NOT AN EMOTIONLESS PERSON AND MUST EXPRESS AND SHARE HIS FEELINGS WITH THE AMERICAN PEOPLE

President Obama is NOT an unemotional person who keeps it all in. He is NOT always cool, calm and collected.

When one of the oldest civil rights pioneers died recently and the President attended her funeral, he was very emotional

and wiped away several tears just like he did when Senator Ted Kennedy died.

He was openly emotional when his beloved grandmother died while he was campaigning and he wasn’t ashamed to show it.

When Reverend Jeremiah White spoke his trash during the campaign, President Obama got very angry and let Reverend White and everyone else know it . You could see the anger in Obama’s face and hear it in his voice.

Obama showed upset in his tone and facial expression when the Salahi’s crashed into his first state dinner for the Indian leader.

You can always also see the love in Obama’s face when he looks at his wife Michelle and hear the love in his voice when he speaks of her and his daughters.

We have seen Obama get excited and and enthusiastic . People LOVED Obama and gravitated towards him because of his warmth and genuine emotion during the campaign.

He was not monotone or monoface like he was during this most crucial speech about one of the most serious problems which will affect us for years to come.

There is nothing wrong with being cool calm and collected when you are in a crises situation and you actually do something to take care of the problem and handle the crisis.

But if you are cool calm and collected and do nothing and say nothing,or you say it too late, it often gives a message to others you don’t care or that you are ignoring the situation.

LISTEN TO THE PEOPLE YOU REPRESENT

Obama’s strongest supporter Spike Lee even encouraged Obama to “go off”. What he was saying is for Obama to show more emotion- more upset as it relates to this tragic situation. As the leader of a country one must not only speak for the people , one must feel for the people as well.

Along with firing the speech writer who did not do Obama any favors with this speech, fire the arrogant person who had the audacity to become defensive and say that if Obama thought that emotion could help the situation he would shout it from highest rooftops. HOW DARE HE!!

Stop being arrogant and think you know it all, those who are the spokespeople for Obama.

Listen to the public’s voice. If they tell you they want you to get more emotional and more real- like they saw you during the campaign, then get real and listen. Otherwise, your approval ratings will continue to fall like they did today.

Obama’s oil spill speech was upsetting to many because it did not represent how so many people felt. If the President didn’t know what to do in this crisis, he needed to say it. He needed to show a genuine side of himself . He needed to show that he was a real and human with real human feelings.

It is not his fault that this happened but it is his fault that he waited so long to address it and act on it. Americans needed to know why he waited so long and what was in his mind. He did not need to spin it. Americans would have respected him more for it. Americans are way too smart to buy spin and it showed in the approval ratings.

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT THE PUBLIC IS NOT DUMB AND THEY ARE TOO SAVVY TO BUY SPIN

When I saw the President walking along the beach on the gulf coast fiddling with the oil that washed ashore, I couldn’t believe that someone didn’t protect him and stop him from doing that. That crude oil has chemicals which cause cancer like benzene and methane. What was Obama doing putting his hands in that mess?

Then he gave a message to the public to go to the beach and swim and eat shrimp and fish . Is he for real? The gasses alone and the polluted air can have detrimental affects on a person’s health. The fish will be full of cancer causing elements. The public is not stupid and that is why they are staying away from the area in droves.

Obama even ingested some shrimp while he was on the gulf coast to let the public know that he was fine with eating the fish and shrimp and they should be fine with it too.

Personally, I think that is a very irresponsible message to give to the public. I would never eat any fish or shrimp from the gulf region and neither would anyone else who was aware of the health hazards.

GET REAL AND EMOTE IN YOUR NEXT SPEECH

In my view, Obama needs to lose the teleprompter. He relies on it way too much to the point that he sounds like he is reading from it in a very mechanical way.

If he has to read it, he needs hear and feel his message. If he continues to read his speeches in his monotone that can never happen.

He also needs to work on his gesturing so it goes along with exactly what he is saying. His inappropriate gesturing is alienating. It gives the impression that he is not sincere in what he says. Gestures need to be used sparingly and for emphasis.

The best advice is for Obama to speak from his heart and let out ALL of his emotions like he has done in the past. He needs to speak TO us and not speak AT us. If he still needs help, he or his advisors are free to contact me at www.drlillianglass.com where I will help him connect with the public in a more real way- speech, voice, and body language wise.

As I have said repeatedly, the body does not lie. Neither does the voice or speech.

You can use all the bleach you want to lighten you hair, grow it and style it into a more feminine less severe looking hairdo, the real you will always leak out.

You can even follow a coache’s advice and speak in slow and soft measured tones void of anger and upset, but the real you will always emerge.

Your real voice will always leak out and so will your lies in how you move. How you sound and what you say will always give away the lies you tell.

CINDY’S MULTIPLE SIGNALS OF DECEPTION

People are not stupid.For the most part they know if someone is telling them the truth or not.

I believe in her GMA interview with Ashley Banfield, Cindy was not being honest and forthright as there were so many signals of deception which leaked out when she spoke.

Her first signal of deception was when Cindy gazed upwards up after Ashley confronted her with You didn’t say that?”

Ashley’s question was in response to Cindy’s denial about the 9ll tape. During the 911 tape, Cindy said that she found her daughter’s car that was missing and it smelled a dead body in the” damn car.

As Cindy gazes upwards as you can see in the above photo, it is evident that she is trying to manufacture an answer that is most likely not true.

She said she lied to police when she told them she smelled a dead body in the car in order to get police out quicker. As she said this, she not only looks up and not directly at Ashley,she shrugs her shoulder,

Her looking up. along with her shoulder shrug, indicate two huge “tells” that show deception.

George even knows she is lying as he looks at her with a scrunched up facial expression showing disdain at her lie.

Suddenly, Cindy gazes looks down, also another tell of deception and says “ there was never… I never thought that….”

When people repeat words and speak in changed fragments, rest assured they are usually lying.

Another major tell that indicates she was most likely not being truthful was that her voice pitch rose up higher as she spoke those fragmented statements.

CINDY’S SEMANTICS

Cindy then looks straight at Ashley as she says in a strong and full voice “ a liar doesn’t make you a murder.”

The operative word here is the word “you”. It make not make “you” at home who is watching the show. a murderer.

But repeated lying may very well make anyone a sociopath and a sociopath has often been found to be a murderer.

So in Casey’s case, using the associative property applied to Cindy’s language, lyingto police about her missing daughter’s whereabouts may very well make her a sociopath and also murder.

THE REAL CINDY LEAKS OUT

When asked about Casey accusing George of molesting her, Cindy replied in measured unemotional tones, “ I read the letters and they were hurtful.”

As she says this she looks to George instead of maintaining her direct eye contact with Ashley

As she looks at George. it may be that she may perhaps be giving him the message that what he allegedly did to Casey did indeed hurt Cindy.

Then Cindy is back to her old Cindy ways – in running George and speaking for him as she adds “ It was hurtful to George”

GEORGE’S TELL’S OF DECEPTION

Next, without one hint of emotion, as if on cue, George nods and does his “golly gee shucks lip pursing, chin scrunching. I want everyone to like me,
” facial expression. And as if it was rehearsed a hundred times says “It still is.”

Well if Casey did manage to eek out the truth and let it be known what George did her- sexually molest her. then it is even more hurtful to Casey.

Maybe what is “hurtful” to George is that Casey may have betrayed their family secrets and in doing so, let it out for the world to know.

Then Ashley asks if what Casey said hurt him. What George does next is very telling body language wise.

First he shakes his head no when he should be shaking it yes and says “ I’m still gonna be there for my daughter. “ He then closes his eyes as you see in rhe photo above and looks down, as if to shut Casey out.

His words say one thing but his body certainly belies him.

He says “I‘m still gonna be there for my daughter.” It is said in a soft tone that dies off at the end.

He adds “That’s unconditional love. “ Now we see his most telling tell. He shrugs his shoulders as he says these words.

This clearly indicates that he is NOT telling the truth here. His shoulder shrug indicates that he is not only lying to us, but lying to himself as well.

MESSAGE TO GEORGE

Here is a reality check George Anthony. When your own daughter accuses you of sexually molesting her and if as you say, it isn’t true, then maybe it is high time you put some conditions on what you call “ love.”

On the other hand, if it is true and you did sexually molest your daughter, then you need to be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. If that is the case, it is no wonder your daughter is such a TOTAL mess.

THE ONLY TIME CINDY SPOKE THE TRUTH

The only time anything Cindy said in the interview rang true was when she looked directly at Ashley and said how much she misses Caylee. She said that Caylee was gone for as long as she had been alive.

You could heard the true heartfelt emotion and grief in Cindy’s voice and see it in her face. She was clearly distraught and her emotions were genuine.

CINDY GETS BACK INTO DENIAL AND GEORGE JOINS HER

Then Ashley asks Cindy “ Are you prepared for the outcome?” Both Cindy and George look down without a hint of emotion.

To me it is apparent that they have no doubt prepared for the worst outcome but refuse to admit it.

That is when Cindy in a measured unemotional tone says that she has
dreams where Casey as home.

I believe that deep down Cindy knows that the only time she will ever see her daughter come home again is in her dreams. I think that this may be Cindy’s way of coping with the brutal truth.

CINDY’S DENIAL AS SHE CAN’T RELATE TO THE MIRROR IMAGE OF JORANVAN DER SLOOT’S MOTHER

Cindy continued to be in denial when she told Ashley that she identifies with Beth Twitty, the mother of Natalie Holloway, but NOT with Joran Van der Sloot’s mother.

I can certainly understand why she would identify with Beth Twitty from the standpoint that they both lost daughters forever and will never see their daughters live out their lives ands share experiences together.

On the other Cindy tried desperately to draw a line with the differences between Casey and Joran and between herself and Mrs. Van der Sloot. “

In fact she said to Ashley, “You know, there have been issues where she saw his angry side. I don’t know that of Casey. I don’t know Casey as being anybody that could hurt anybody.”

Cindy must have a very short memory. There certainly were instances where Casey went off on her mother and got very angry.

She just needs to go back and look att he jailhouse tapes. Casey is absolutely livid with Cindy. It looked as though Casey was so angry, that if she could get through the glass partition, she may have smacked Cindy.

There has also been a reported history of violence between Cindy and Casey. In fact brother Lee addressed it as did bounty hunter Leonard Padilla.

Casey’s anger was also directed towards her father on multiple occasions. She even told him to act like a father for once and not a cop.

So it is clear that Cindy is in denial here. Looking in the mirror and seeing another mother who will soon face seeing her child on trial and knowing that her child may probably end up dead because of being killed in prison or dying in prison for some other reason, hits Cindy too close to the bone.

The similarities between Anita Can Der Sloot’s situation and Cindy Anthony’s situation is clearly evident.

Mainly, they have both been enablers and have let their children get away with too much for way too long.

Next. it must be excruciatingly painful for Cindy to admit that like Anita, she too spawned a lying and alleged murderous sociopath who destroyed her life. www.dtlillianglass.com

It was in actuality a Peruvian blanket that would serve as his only bedding for years to come in his new prison home.

MUG SHOT SHOWS SHOCK AND BUMPS

In looking at the photo of his mug shot taken as he entered the prison grounds, the most striking thing is that Joran is minus is his arrogant and infamous smirk that we have seen in photos of him throughout the past five years.

His mask- like expression shows that he is in a state of shock as that he is now experiencing may seem very surreal to him.

In Joran’s sociopathic and narcicisstic mind, there was no way he ever thought he would end up in this situation. He most probably believed that he could get away with this killing as he got away with everything else in his past.

Also telling were the protruding bumps on Joran’s forehead. While he has always had a prominent glabellar region above his eyebrows, making his forehead stick out, now there is more protrusion.

There appear to be different sized projections emanating from his forehead , looking like two large bumps.

We have recently disovered that these new bumps were the result of Joran hitting his head against the wall when he was in the jail cell when first captured. That is why he was immediately put on a suicide watch.

A COCKY, ARROGANT, AND SMUG JORAN FROM THE PAST

Below are some Joran’s smirking moments where Joran thought he had everything under control and could get away with anything-even murder!

In this mug shot of Joran, his smirk shows that he knows he doesn’t seem to have a care in the world. No doubt, he feels that no one can touch him when it comes to Natalie Holloway’s death.

After all, he knows his daddy is very well connected. He believes what daddy has told him that if there is no body there is no case.

Since he and his daddy no doubt had a hand in disposing Natalie’s body in a place where it will never be found, he is not concerned that anything will ever happen to him. His facial expression reflects calmness and self confidence about the matter.

In the photo above, Joran is telling Patrick in an undercover video sting that “she ((Natalie Hollwoway) was not moving anymore. ”

Note his relaxed as well as sadistic facial expression as he says this. It seems as though he is recalling in his mind the ” exciting” moment for him when he may have possibly choked her to the point she was no longer moving.

Here we really see evidence of Joran’s sadism.

As he says ” she will never be found again” Joran leaks out a huge smirk of satisfaction- complete with visible cheek creases.

In this undercover photo he appears very content with himself with the that he got away with killing someone and that no one will ever find the body.

In this photo of Joran with the Kalpoe brothers you can really see his arrogant anc cocky look with his head tilted, reflecting in is mind that he no doubt, believes he is far smarter and superior to any other living being.

In this surveillance photo as he gets his key from the front desk before killing Stefany Flores,we see his sadistic smirk once again.

If he was just being friendly and polite and smiling to the clerk to handed him his room key, we would see an eyebrow flash where his eyebrows would be raised in recognition.

We would see more teeth when he smiled. Instead, we see a sadistic smirk which indicates that he may have known what he was about to do with Stefany- rob her and kill her.

STILL THINKING HE WILL GET AWAY WITH MURDER

Above, when Joran was arrested in Peru, we even see his relaxed and self confident facial expression, complete with his cocked head to the side .

His cocked head and facial expressiojn n indicate that he has no doubt in his mind t that he will get away with murder.

At this point, he feels confident that authorities will believe his concocted stories about an unidenfied armed robber accosting him and Stefany and hiding out in his hotel room, waiting to kill Stefany.

ALL OVER JORAN IN A PHYSCIAL WAY

In various photos of Joran , like the one above , it was not uncommon in his past to see Joran with various people’s hands touching him and grabbing him, and with their arms entwined around him .

For years, people seemed to have gravitated towards this manipulative sociopath, like a magnet.

After all, he had many superficial qualities that would seem to make someone like him seem desirable to others – a prominent wealthy family, academic intelligence, athletic ability , no finaial worries, charm, and a strikingly good appearance, combined with a gift of gab.

I am almost certian that in his new Peruvian prison environment it will also be the case where people will not be able to keep their hands off of him.

In fact there may be so many hands on him., inclusing the hands of those who may often gang up on this six foot three “monster” and have their way with him sexually.

Others may not be able to keep their hands off of him as they punch, stab, slice, or dice him for killing someone’s innocent daughter and robbing her.

GENUINE FEAR AND PROCESSING HIS NEW REALITY

In this photo we see the genuine look of fear in Joran’s face as we see the whites of his eyes.

He tightly purses his lips and opens his eyes wide, as he visually takes in all that is in front of him.His tightly closed lips indicate that he doesn;t want to take any more of this horrific scenery in, but he has no choice.

His eyes bugging out of his head indicate that he looks very much afraid.

There was also a slight lick of his lips, which often happens when the autonomic system takes over during fear, It dries up the membranes. Joran has licked his lips becuase no dount, his mucus membrances in his lips have suddently become dry.

As Joran is being escorted to his prison cell, he suddently looks to the side to get a glimpse of the landscape he has definately not seen while he was sightseeing in Peru.

Once again, he is taking it all in and processessing what is really happening to him. He looks very upset and disturbed as he has to face what is in front of him.

Finally this photo shows that Joran is getting a major reality check. Gone are the smirks and smugness in his facial expression.

He clearly sees the seriousness of what lies ahead of him. His furrowed brow and downturned lips show that he is clearly not a happy camper.

As life in Castro Castro prison gets more and more difficult for him we can expect to never see a smirk or the smug arrogant look on Joran’s face ever again.

But we clearly may have seen that that smirk and loog of arrogtance if he would have been housed in an Aruban priosn instead of a Peruvian one.

He would have had every opportunity in that Aurban prison to continue to con and manipulte others. He would have been considered a big deal in that Aruban prison with every major advantage at finger tips .

After all, he would have spoken the language, had connections and money to buy him protection and perks, had regular visits from family members and friends and even girldfiends, married so he could have conjugal vists if they were allowed, been allowed to continue with his education though correspondence courses, and most all, he would have had the possibility of well connected lawyers trying to spring hm free at moment’s notice.

But in Peru at Castro Castro, no one will visit him and he will not have a well connected attorney to help spring him.

In fact his attorney in Peru just qui ton him. He also is at a disadvantage with the language so he can’t manipulate his fellow prisoners as easily as he could have done in Aruba.

Now in Peru, there are no daddy with connections and no family money availabale for him. Apparenty, all the family money was apparently spent on lawyers in Aruba to defend Joran and his father Paulus when they were interrogated in jail over Natalie’s death. That was a major reasonb why his Peruvian attoreny quit. He said int he press that there were no funds to pay him for his services.

There also may no be money buy him protection in Castro Castro prison and no money to buy him enough food becuase no one cares about him.

He can’t buy the other prisoners food and perks in exchange for their protection becuase he has no money.

MAMMA ANITA VAN DER SLOOT MAY HAVE WASHED HER HANDS OF JORAN AS WELL

His own mother Anita has yet to come see her son in Peru. In fact, if she does come to see him as is reported, she will only do so with a Dutch TV crew in tow.

This is no doubt, to raise money for Joran’s prison stay. But even if she ends up earning a few hundred thousand dollars, it will not be enough money to support Joran’s lengthy prison stay.

Even if Anita puts the money in special fund for Joran, we can’ be sure that Joran will receive that money or have access to it.

The fact that mamma van der Sloot didn’t show up right away to be with her son during this ordeal speaks volumes to me.

During the Natalie Holloway days, Anita defended Joran with the ferocity of a lioness defending a baby cub. She stuck by him and proclaimed his innosence to anyone who would listen.

But this time around her silence is deafening. In additon to her not imnmediatey showing up, it may tell us says that she is finally washing her hands clean of this sociopath whom she spawned.

It may be possible that Anita is now thinking of Joran the same way she is now forced to think about her husband Paulus as she grieves another dead family member. www.drlillianglass.com

This coming November I have a new book coming out from Adams Media called Toxic Men- 10 Ways to Identify, Deal With and Heal from Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. Joran Van der Sloot is definitely one of the Toxic Men I describe in my book under the category of Socio/ psychopath.

In the wake of the tragedy of what happened to Stefany Flores and Natalie Holloway, I can’t stress enough for every person out there reading this blog to share what I am about to say with EVERYONE you know!

If your instincts tell you something is wrong with any person with whom you are interacting LEAVE IMMEDIATELY! Don’t worry about hurting their feelings or not being polite. Don’t care if they like you or not! Make some excuse. Leave and never look back.

Examining the recent surveillance tapes of Stefany at the Casino with Joran, we can see how she wasn’t comfortable with Joran at all.

STIFF AND UNEASY HAND SHAKE

If we look at this photo where they shake hands what is revealing is her stiffness and tightness in her body language. There is not a flowing movement. She is obviously feeling a distance towards him. Also there is a rigidity and a distance in the arm length in the handshake.

If she would have felt more comfortable she would have been physically closer to him and her elbow would have been bent. There would have been less distance between them.

The next thing that is revealing in this photo is that the hand at her side is cupped in a fist like position. This is a protective movement which indicates discomfort and an uneasiness around the person one is greeting. Stefany’s protective cupped fist indicates that she is on guard.

INITIALLY NOT WANTING TO SIT NEXT TO JORAN

The next thing that is telling is that when she sits down, she does not sit right next to Joran. Instead, she sits a chair away from him. This further indicates that she is keeping her distance from him and feels an uneasiness around him.

But then he immediately motions for her to sit next to him. So to be polite, she obliges.

JORAN INVADES STEFANY’S SPACE

If you look at this photo you will see that Joran has invaded her space. His shoulder and even his head is in her personal space as he is clearly involved in what she is doing at the table.

Her hands and arms are close together an ther is still a fist like protective hand gesture. Her shoulder is even pulled away from Joran which also speaks loudly about her discomfort around him. She clearly does not like him invading her space and it shows body language wise.

NO ROMANCE BETWEEN STEFANY AND JORAN AS THEY LEAVE THE CASINO

I believe that there was no attraction to Joran on Stefany’s part and that he may have borrowed some of her earnings to continue to play in the game.

He was so invasive and intimidating that she obliged . He got her to do a small thing like moving over to sit near him. She obliged .

So he moved up the ante and asked her to lend him some money.

I have no doubt that he told her that he had the money back at the hotel and that he would reimburse her.

There was clearly no indication of any romance or any indication that she was going to his room for a sexual encounter. If that were the case, there would not have been such physical distance between the two when they were walking together in the casino or when they were walking out of the out casino as you see int he photo above.

There is way too much distance between the two when they are outside the casino for there to be any indication of a sexual or a romantic encounter.

STEPHANY”S POSTURE SCREAMS DISCOMFORT AROUND JORAN BACK AT THE HOTEL

If you look at Stefany’s posture when she shakes Joran’s hand you can see that she is standing erect. Her head is up and her shoulders are not rounded. At this point in time, she is no doubt feeling confident and in control of the situation. She even took charge and decided where she was going to sit- away from Joran.

Now look at Stefany as she is about to enter Joran;s room. Her head is bowed and her shoulders are rounded indicating clear discomfort and uneasiness as she looks down.

Her instincts are kicking in and telling her not to go into that room. That may also be why her walk is tentative. It was also tentative when she was in the hotel lobby with him. Something inside of her was telling her not to go up to Joran’s room and her body language reflected her inner feelings.

THE CHARM AND SALESMANSHIP OF A SOCIOPATH

Since Joran made sure that Stefany would be sitting right next to him they , I wonder if he may have put something into her drink to make her more pliable to his suggestion of a. lending him gambling money, b. driving him back to the hotel under the guise of paying her back, and c. giving her some excuse to go up to his room to get the money instead of having him bring the money down to the lobby and doing their business transaction in front of the hotel staff in the lobby.

In reading the recent People Magazine article about Joran where people in his past were interviewed, they all remarked that he had a charm about him, especially with the women. This is very much the case with socio- and psychopaths. They are the ultimate con men and con women.

They pride themselves on talking others into things and out of things as they are all about manipulation. They will lie and say anything to get the other person to do what they want them to do.In fact in the People Magazine article one of Joran’s early girlfriends said that she had to end their relationship because all he did was lie and manipulate.

STEFANY FLORES HAS OPENED OUR EYES TO THE IMPORTANCE OF TRUSTING OUR INSTINCTS AND LISTENING TO OUR BODY LANGUAGE

Stefany Flores’ body language was screaming for her not to go, but unfortunately she went anyway.

She is not alone. Most of us don’t listen to our instincts and go with what we feel may be politically or socially correct. Even though something inside of us may warn us to get away from the person, most of us shrug it off and ignore it.

There is no doubt that Stefany’s stomach was telling her not to go. There were other physical signs that she ignored. Perhaps she attributed them to it being a late night, or having had a few drinks, or to her excitement of winning.

The reason I mention her stomach is that when something does not feel right, we often get a signal in the pit of our stomach. It is our autonomic nervous system kicking in, telling us that something isn’t right and that there is danger ahead.

Stefany Flores did not die in vain. From her tragic demise, we have seen how essential it is to listen to outr instincts and to trust our body language signals

Unfortunately for Stefany it is too late. But it is NOT too late for everyone else.Your body language can save your life! Listen to the signals it is giving you! www.drlillianglass.com