"Hatred is a boomerang which is
sure to hit you harder than the one at whom you throw
it." - Anonymous.
Is there someone in my life right now
that I hate, or close to it? Maybe it's a former partner,
or someone who hurt me terribly in the past. I'm holding
onto the hate, trying to make sure I'll never be hurt the
same way again.
Does hatred really help me in the long
run though? When I carry hatred, my anger can get
triggered by unexpected things, and sometimes by my
partner's choices. When it does, it usually leaves both
me and my SO confused. I react strongly to something that
would normally only result in a mild reaction from
someone else, and my SO wonders why I got so peeved off
at them.
When I carry hatred around, it infects
our relationship in may ways I don't see, just like a
virus that develops into a disease many weeks or months
after the initial infection. Letting go of hatred doesn't
mean I have to forget what the person did.

When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power
over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood
pressure, our health, and our happiness. Our enemies
would dance with joy if only they knew how they were
worrying us, lacerating us, and getting even with us! Our
hate is not hurting them at all, but our hate is turning
our own days and nights into a hellish turmoil. - Dale
Carnegie