Life sometimes get us to a place where we need to take a seat and rest away from the "traffic and noises" of life. Many of these "noises" are the very things that get us too distracted from our calling. It's important to take moments to pull away and sit quietly to reflect on your life, your purpose, and what you should be doing next. Know that during this time, people won't always understand why you are taking a seat, when they'll feel you should keep going. Honestly, those are the selfish ones who will prefer for you to keep going for their personal gain, instead of cheering you on in the place where you have been directed to go.

Be encouraged and understand that while you are taking a "designated" seat, God is moving in your life to develop more peace, patience, faith, talent and an overall plan of action for your life. Have you been instructed to take a seat to further your calling? Let me know.

by Dawgelene "Dr Dawj" Sangster- I visited the Windy City Live studio recently and had a chance to chat with the amazing Valerie Warner. We were chatting about Tyler Perry's new movie, Single Moms Club, and in being single moms, although Val is currently engaged to the awesome Jeff Cartwright. I was sharing my story of being a recent widow and life being different for me now in being considered "single" again, but it wasn't by choice.

We shared a couple of single mom stories, but one thing Val said was, "we don't always choose to be single. Sometimes things happen beyond our control that forces us into it". She was right! In my case, as I am sure with many women who are single, especially as widows, it just wasn't a choice that we woke up and decided that tragedy would strike and we would become single. I didn't make the choice for my husband to develop brain cancer and survive 10 months afterwards. It happened and while the feeling has been uncomfortable, to say the least, I know that it becomes a choice now for me to press forward with the life changes that I must endure now.

Someone said to me that I have adult children and I am widow so I can't really be considered single. Oh REALLY?! Don't make me cuss as a PK (preacher's kid). Since when do the ages of my children matter when there is no King in my life to help me plan weddings, attend college graduations, walk the girls down the aisle, encourage the boys in their marriages, mow the lawn, pick up dog poop from 3 dogs and the list goes on? C'mon, widows don't have mates so we ARE considered single. However, regardless of the pain I have had to endure in being a single widow after 15 years of marriage to a great guy, I EMBRACE CHANGE !

I am looking forward to seeing Tyler Perry's movie just to get some laughs and enjoy a fun night out with the girls. Be sure to check out the movie, Single Moms Club, scheduled for release on Friday, March 14, 2014. It is sure to be a great movie! As an added bonus, enter our contest to win some great swag HERE.