Approaching Women: The Three-Second Rule

The Player: 3-Second Rule For Approaching Women

Most men ask me the same question over and over again: "When is the best time to approach a woman?" The best way to answer this one is by first observing what the typical male and female thoughts consist of, and then understanding why people behave in such a way.

The following is an example of the typical thoughts that go through both a man and woman's head at different stages of the pickup mission. I'm sure this will sound familiar to many of you.

Stage One — The Scouting (12 a.m.)

Can you believe the breasts on that redhead? Actually, she might be a little too skanky for me.

Oh my god, there she is — the beautiful brunette of my dreams. She has every physical trait I can ask for. I hope she's nice too. OK, it's time to make my move.

On second thought, maybe I should get a drink first and see if she'll give me some eye contact before moving in.

Sabrina: Oh god, why did I decide to come? I feel like a piece of meat, every man in this room is looking at me like they want to fondle my body. I mean, I enjoy the attention, but why can't they be a little more discreet?

Stage Two — The Observation (12:30 a.m.)

Steve: This beer sure goes down smooth. OK, now, where's my brunette? Let me get a little closer to her to see if I can get a good vibe.

Oh my god, she looked at me. OK turn away, I don't want to show that I'm desperate. On second thought, let me look back at her.

She smiled at me. Can you believe this? I'm getting all the signals I can ask for. OK, it's time to make my move. But what will I say to her? I need to relax; it's time for another beer.

Sabrina: Oh he's cute, and he looks like a respectable man. I wonder if he's noticed me yet. Let me see if he's interested in me.

Well he did make eye contact. But he looked away. Maybe he's shy. I'll smile at him to let him know I'm open to meeting him.

Oh no, he looked away again and he's leaving. I guess he's just not interested.

What happens when you hesitate too long when approaching a woman? The Player let's you know next...