To me, a wedding is one of the most intimate things in life because it’s the joining of two people during the happiest time in their lives. The love and the emotions create this feeling or atmosphere that is hard to describe, but you almost want to put it under a glass to save and protect it because it feels so lovely.

And regardless of the size of your wedding, you want to be surrounded by the people closest to you and who have had a special place in your lives.

So the idea of social media playing such a big role in modern-day weddings is fascinating to me. I got married before social media took off, though I am on Facebook and Twitter a lot. I find it hard to say whether or not I would have embraced the social media craze with regard to my wedding day. (Though if I had, we probably would have used #104goodbuddy as our hashtag – we got married on October 4.)

Have you thought at all about whether you want social media to play a part in your big day? There’s also a difference between planning to have it be a big part of your day and/or hoping something clever from your wedding goes viral, and having a wedding guest post something and later being caught off guard by the social reaction. We’ve all seen at least one “amazing choreographed wedding dance” video, right?

This sweet wedding handshake is a very personal act for this couple. I wonder if they wanted to share it with the world or if it just happened (via their wedding photographer). Do people welcome the subsequent inquiry from a reporter or does it feel intrusive? It’s certainly a cute thing that would put a smile on most people’s faces, but does it need to be made public?

A HuffPo article addresses some of the pros and cons to having everything posted or live-tweeted. In one case, a Facebook update ruined the groom’s first look at his bride. On the other hand, as one bride stated, she got to see a ton of photos right away that she normally would have had to wait weeks for once her photographer sent proofs.

What if your social efforts don’t go viral or land you a few minutes on a morning chat show? Does that mean your wedding is a failure? Do we really need validation from society at large to say our wedding was wonderful and we must be a very special couple indeed?

I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with having your wedding posted on social media platforms, but I do think it has become something you and your fiancé might want to discuss during the planning stages. Do you want to create a social presence or keep it restricted and ensure that everyone has good old-fashioned human contact? Depending on your feelings about it, you may want to make some social media etiquette requests of friends and family.

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