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Know Yourself

Written By: gracie
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Oct•
21•11

I recently attended a munch, and in the course of discussion, a question was asked that really made me think. I won’t quote the question, but I’ve had this topic rolling around in my head ever since. I think the most important thing a person getting involved in This Sort of Thing should do is know themselves.

Obviously, it’s important to know the things you want. Obviously, you should know your limits. These are very basic things that we all learn about very early on. That’s not what I’m talking about. You need to know what you bring to the table. Why should a person pick you to play (scene, whatever you want) with?

There can be many, many, many answers to this. I can’t stress this enough. This is not meant to insult a person. It’s meant to make you think about it. You should have at least one answer. Especially if you don’t have a partner right now, knowing your own strengths is just important. This applies to any role you want to take. If you don’t know why somebody should want to be in a relationship with you, how the heck are they going to know?

This may make a person feel vain, like they shouldn’t focus on bragging or whatever. That is a load of pants. Dirty pants. Pants full of bollocks. You need to know yourself. Know what drives you, and what works for you. Know what you do best. We focus too much on things we can’t do- our weaknesses, and our boundaries. Take a moment to look at what you can do. Know what it is that sets you apart. It is there, you just have to find it.