Manhood is often assumed in our culture. Rites of passage once held sacred, have been replaced by the wrong things. It’s time that we reset our cleats on the track of manhood, and start the race right. This month, we’re examining what it means to be a man, and to run the race of manhood.

It’s so easy sometimes to get derailed. One candy bar, and that strict eating plan gets thrown out the window. A short skirted co-worker bends over to pick up a paperclip, and your mind heads down a path it never should. One negative word from your wife, and all the progress you’ve made at controlling your own language is tossed out the window.How do we get back on track once we’ve been derailed? How do we move forward when we’ve lost our momentum?The answer is simple. Forgive yourself for your screw up. Seek forgiveness from anyone you’ve hurt (including the men who are holding you accountable.) Then move forward. If the forgiveness is done – then don’t look back. Don’t bring it up. Don’t let it derail you any longer. Move forward. You can do this. Whatever race you are running, it matters. If you are a better man, the world is a better place. Your place in it matters. So don’t let your own failures keep you from that.

Of Courtship and Flowerpicking TRIGGER WARNING: The following post contains old-fashioned ideas about relationships and sexuality. Don’t read if you can’t handle the fact that I might hold ideas that you think are outdated or prudish. Better yet, ready it anyway and give it some thought. The worst that can happen is you might […]

Courtesy and Kindness Go a long way As men, we long to be known for our strength, or ruggedness. If we are not particularly strong, we may have shifted that to a desire to be known for our intellect or creativity. Either way, what each of us want, is supremacy. We want to be the […]

Moderated Ferocity Gentle should never mean weak. Erase that image from your head, and make sure to erase it from the minds of those around you. I’ll never forget wrestling with my father when I was a boy and even a young man. My dad had some military training, some martial arts training, […]

Chivalry is not Chauvinism Maybe it’s because chivalry and chauvinism both involve men and how they view women…. Maybe it’s because they both start with “ch”… But the meaning of chivalry is often mixed with chauvinism. chiv·al·ry ˈSHivəlrē/Submit noun the medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code. historical knights, noblemen, […]

What it means to be a gentleman The word gentleman has more connotations than it does definitions. It is important to clearly define what it means to be a gentleman, and to rid our minds of the mixed up messages we have often attached to the word. I remember as a boy, well-meaning […]