Online Relationship Advice - Men and Exclusivity

Learn When (and When Not) to Take Your Online Dating Profile Down

Advice Seeker :

Dear April Masini,"

I've been on this online dating site and met this really great guy that I'm crazy about. We've had five or six dates now. Do you think it's time for me to take my picture and profile off the website? I'm not interested in meeting anyone else, and I don't want him to either. Do you have any advice on understanding if your online date has become an online relationship?

Signed,
Internet Dating Etiquette Challenged

"

April Masini's Advice :

Dear Internet Dating Etiquette Challenged,

Until a man asks you for an exclusive relationship, and you agree to have one - keep your profile up there! Do not assume that just because you've decided that you want an exclusive relationship with this guy, and are ready to take your profile down, that he feels the same way. And while we're on the subject, do not, I repeat, do not - ask him to take his profile down or to have an exclusive relationship with you. That is his job. It is your job to accept or decline when he asks.

Online dating lesson #1-

Understand and remember that men are competitive by nature. No one wants to date the person no one else wants. Would you?

Online dating lesson #2-

The worst thing you can do is to become too available and too predictable - someone he no longer has to pursue and win. Men want to feel like they have won the prize.

So, no, do not take your profile down. You keep it right where it is, until he asks you to take it down, or until he asks you for an exclusive relationship (and you agree to give it to him).

Think about it, would a man take his profile down just because he's had a half dozen (or so) good dates with a woman? No way.

Next, pick up a copy of Think & Date Like a Man -- written in response the overwhelming number of questions I've received from women who, much like you, don't understand Man-Think. Get it. Read it. Live it. It will show you step-by-step how to find the man of your dreams, get him, and keep him.

Now, here’s what a man would do in your shoes:

A man would keep his dating options open, and make sure he was taken care of.

A man wouldn’t take his internet dating profile down unless he was sure he had what he wanted, and that it was a lock. Men don’t like to lose.

A man wouldn’t get involved too quickly, or take a relationship too seriously, too soon... and neither should you.