New dad here, Is mom supposed to be angry at me all of the time?

Our first son was born just 2 weeks ago. My wife has been angry with me for the last 16 hours or so and I honestly have no idea what I did wrong. I have cleaned the whole house today, did the groceries, changed the diapers every chance I got, made her food, etc. She has accused me of implying that she was milking her injuries what ever that even means, I was half asleep on the couch when she said it. She has brought up other things that I said and told me that I was intentionally being hurtful towards her like the other day when she said she was going to walk our dog and I asked her if she was sure she was ready for that. I was being kind since our dog tugs a lot and she has stitches. I'm at the end of my rope. I am literally afraid to even talk now because everything I say seems to make it worse. She thinks everything is an attack on her. I dunno what to do. Is this normal?

Our first son was born just 2 weeks ago. My wife has been angry with me for the last 16 hours or so and I honestly have no idea what I did wrong. I have cleaned the whole house today, did the groceries, changed the diapers every chance I got, made her food, etc. She has accused me of implying that she was milking her injuries what ever that even means, I was half asleep on the couch when she said it. She has brought up other things that I said and told me that I was intentionally being hurtful towards her like the other day when she said she was going to walk our dog and I asked her if she was sure she was ready for that. I was being kind since our dog tugs a lot and she has stitches. I'm at the end of my rope. I am literally afraid to even talk now because everything I say seems to make it worse. She thinks everything is an attack on her. I dunno what to do. Is this normal?

Sounds normal to me. She's been through a lot, who knows what all her hormones are doing to her right now. That's not an excuse for how she's treating you, but we all know it happens. I know in the first few weeks after our son was born I said some things that I think are pretty silly now. When I would get a little break from taking care of the baby I would turn on a game or something for a few minutes. My wife would say, "Why do you get free time, I don't get any free time." So I said, "yes you do, you just chose to sleep with you free time. You would have done something for yourself instead of taking a nap." Seems ridiculous that I would say such a thing now. At the time, it made perfect sense.

You're both probably exhausted still and your emotions (or hers at least) may not have had long enough to settle down. You just have to decide if it's more important to you to put her back in her place and try to snap her out of it or to try and keep being as supportive as you can and let the remarks go. Personally I would look at it like it was a challenge. "What do I have to do to get her into a better mood." Learn how to manipulate her moods. You have your whole life to fight with her, this may not be the best time for one.

Good luck, and congratulations!

Sounds normal to me. She's been through a lot, who knows what all her hormones are doing to her right now. That's not an excuse for how she's treating you, but we all know it happens. I know in the first few weeks after our son was born I said some things that I think are pretty silly now. When I would get a little break from taking care of the baby I would turn on a game or something for a few minutes. My wife would say, "Why do you get free time, I don't get any free time." So I said, "yes you do, you just chose to sleep with you free time. You would have done something for yourself instead of taking a nap." Seems ridiculous that I would say such a thing now. At the time, it made perfect sense.

You're both probably exhausted still and your emotions (or hers at least) may not have had long enough to settle down. You just have to decide if it's more important to you to put her back in her place and try to snap her out of it or to try and keep being as supportive as you can and let the remarks go. Personally I would look at it like it was a challenge. "What do I have to do to get her into a better mood." Learn how to manipulate her moods. You have your whole life to fight with her, this may not be the best time for one.

Sounds to me like post partum depression. Some women go alittle if not alot more hormonally crazy after child birth. Her doc will notice at her 6 week check up. Let's hope. Try to get her to see that she is being well... Nuts. Good luck.

Sounds to me like post partum depression. Some women go alittle if not alot more hormonally crazy after child birth. Her doc will notice at her 6 week check up. Let's hope. Try to get her to see that she is being well... Nuts. Good luck.

Normal hormones or actually lack of hormones after birth. Word of advice from a women don't question her ability or want to do something even of your being nice and especially if she's a strong headed person normally you will always lose.

Normal hormones or actually lack of hormones after birth. Word of advice from a women don't question her ability or want to do something even of your being nice and especially if she's a strong headed person normally you will always lose.

I agree monkeyarms83. When my wife questionsmy ability I always say "I went to Parenting School too". And PP said that it was silly to say what he said about playing a game vice sleeping. I did the same thing. When babies are asleep, that is my time to do my things. If that is playing games or watching TV or hanging out with my wife. As long as my chores are done, I get to spend my free time as I wish. I'm the Father that works to provide for our kids and the Daddy that plays with them when they are awake and I am home. I'm the husband that meets my wife's needs and the MAN who enjoys the spoils of his hard work. DADS Rock, I got a hat that says so.

I agree monkeyarms83. When my wife questionsmy ability I always say "I went to Parenting School too". And PP said that it was silly to say what he said about playing a game vice sleeping. I did the same thing. When babies are asleep, that is my time to do my things. If that is playing games or watching TV or hanging out with my wife. As long as my chores are done, I get to spend my free time as I wish. I'm the Father that works to provide for our kids and the Daddy that plays with them when they are awake and I am home. I'm the husband that meets my wife's needs and the MAN who enjoys the spoils of his hard work. DADS Rock, I got a hat that says so.

I don't know why a previous poster said "sounds normal to me". I had a c-section and I didn't act like that. Talk to her. It's her mind. Only she knows what's going on in there. And she might not even realize she's being mean.

I don't know why a previous poster said "sounds normal to me". I had a c-section and I didn't act like that. Talk to her. It's her mind. Only she knows what's going on in there. And she might not even realize she's being mean.

Sometimes we (woman) assume guys are mind readers and should know why we're upset. It's easy for us to feel we're doing everything and start sulking, and don't notice what I guys do to help. Just ask her regularly if you can help with anything (ESP before u play the computer!) :)

Sometimes we (woman) assume guys are mind readers and should know why we're upset. It's easy for us to feel we're doing everything and start sulking, and don't notice what I guys do to help. Just ask her regularly if you can help with anything (ESP before u play the computer!) :)

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