I'm on day 3 of a 4 day business trip. My 20 month old daughter has STTN with dad every night i've been gone (they are co-sleeping). She has not once STTN or even close in 20 mos for me - the Dairy Queen. I've got a nurse all night toddler. A good night's sleep in our bed is 2 to 3 wake ups.

She's also eating like a champ, much better than she does even when i am at work all day. I guess because she's going all night without nursing and many months ago said no to expressed milk. I miss them like crazy and can't wait to get home tomorrow, but I'm a little bummed that my return is going to bring with it the frequent wakings. Such a perpetual mom dilemma. She wakes to eat - I am happy to feed her. But we all sleep kind of like crap!

March 12th, 2014, 10:16 PM

@llli*pianosinger

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

Are you considering night weaning? Or just looking for some commiseration? Who know- maybe you'll be lucky and she'll decide she doesn't need to nuse at night anymore...

March 13th, 2014, 05:13 AM

@llli*mommal

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

:ita Maybe when you go home, you'll want to stay in the guest bed for a few nights, or maybe even a few weeks, and let dad handle the night wakings? This could be a very gentle way to night-wean, if you're ready. Sometimes when the all-nite Dairy Queen is not right there, a toddler won't trouble to wake up as much.

March 13th, 2014, 08:06 AM

@llli*still.here

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

:ita The other mamas have said everything I was going to say. It's such a bittersweet thing to see them grow and start to need you less (in certain ways). A relief and a sadness. :hugs

March 13th, 2014, 09:46 AM

@llli*eve9

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

Agree with the PPs. It melts a mom's heart to be far away from her LO and when you come back, there will be a whole bunch of things you have missed.

March 13th, 2014, 05:40 PM

@llli*karrieperry

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

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Originally Posted by @llli*debbers

Such a perpetual mom dilemma. She wakes to eat - I am happy to feed her. But we all sleep kind of like crap!

If that is the case...and please don't hate me (your fellow cosleeping every single night of baby's life ever, feeding all night long mom)...maybe you shouldn't sleep with her?

We are having a very similar issue at 15 months. We are getting another mattress in about a month, for our daughter. We only have 2 rooms and 4 people so I have no idea how it will work but we'll figure it out. Night nursing used to work great, but then over time, I think I sensed that it was nursing that was actually keeping her up. She is a nurse-a-holic during the day, not sure about yours? Mine just wants her "babies" all day, all night. Last night I was so sick with an ear infection/cold that I just could not nurse any more, so I didn't. She was so mad for about 2 min and screamed, then she laid down all by herself and fell asleep on her own and was snoring! I was in shock.

I am 100% into co sleeping, BF on demand for years, traditional cave-mama stuff. But if I've learned one thing from having 2 kids, it's that sometimes they need something different than what I expected.

Whatever happens best of luck! I am sure she missed you like crazy, don't let her fool you.

March 13th, 2014, 06:10 PM

@llli*debbers

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

Well hi everyone - I am back from my trip and just seeing all these responses (I always choose to receive responses by email, but I nearly always have to log in and look under control panel). Anyhoo, I really appreciate all the responses. I sort of use this forum to have a conversation with people who have similar experiences because I don't know anyone in the non virtual world who does. Since I haven't been away since my girl turned into a little walking talking human I was just kind of in awe of what was going on back home. I'm not looking to night wean. In fact, when I got back today, I walked in to take my sleeping daughter from our nanny. Her face lit up, she said MOMMY! and then followed that with 'milk'. I can't imagine a better moment. I wanted to nurse her - we were instantly close like I never left.

She really relies on that milk - I am sure for bonding and soothing - but she also eats a very good whole foods only diet and is very independent and self-assured. I don't see her as an easy wean at all and right now i'm prepared to be in it for the long haul. At some point past 1 year I knew 2 years was inevitable - it won't surprise me if she's still into nursing past that. We'll just take it a day at a time.

I love having you all for counsel, support and general conversation. I wish I had just one like minded pal close to home. Thank you.

March 13th, 2014, 07:55 PM

@llli*pianosinger

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

Glad it worked out the way you wanted :)

March 14th, 2014, 06:36 AM

@llli*sonogirl

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

Aw, what a lovely reunion! :)

I know what it's like to not have any local likeminded moms. Keep contributing to these conversations, I love having them, too!

March 14th, 2014, 06:56 AM

@llli*debbers

Re: sleeping / eating better w/out mom

Best sleep ever last night, bliss!
Nursed down for bed by 9pm, one waking at 4am to nurse. Then slept till 7am with dad (I got up at 6:15 and came back just before she woke). At first she didn't know I was there. She rolled over into his arms. :love