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Learning is an art. It should be noted that there should be passion to learn something. Learning is defined as an act of making yourself to know how to do a thing or the cognitive process of acquiring skill or knowledge. You can’t be an artist without loving the art. From my point of view you cannot learn without passion, I mean to say that you can learn without passion but it will be not like that kind of knowing, which you have done with love. We can’t just go out there and study without our whole mind in it. Whole mind. Yeah, by whole mind I meant full concentration, focus, passion, tendency to know etc.. I think this all needs explanation.

What people think these days is that go out there learn your lesson, finish the job, come back home and sleep. Yes, we can do that. Like many students are there to get high marks in the subjects, thats the only thing they need, they only want good grades to get good jobs, nothing more. People doing jobs, go to work with one thing in mind that they will finish their current tasks and will return home without any interest in knowing what they have done or what they have learned or what they have achieved today. Is that it? Is that what we want to do in our lives? Ask your self?

Now think if you have done your work with passion, tendency to hardwork and to success or achievement. The results could have been different from which they are now. Think, just think. How successful people do things in their lives?

Do they have no interest in what they do?

Are they successful because of not dreaming?

Were they losers in their past lives?

Yes, they have failed many times. But the point is that they never let their selves down. We lose, yes we lose. But a winner is the one who even after losing many times tries hard. Yup, you can learn. But learn with passion, with your mind and worship.

If you don’t get good grades in your schools/colleges, even you love your studies, thats not a problem. I have to say this that you have a lack of love for your studies tho, you love your studies. What I am trying to say is that you need to love more like how you love a girl/boy. I hope you understand. Learning is not just about what you learn in your school. Its about everything you are in contact with. We are learners since the day we born and will be learners till we die. Learn everything you likes, loves, are interested in etc.. You should not make boundaries for yourself to study or research. Love hard to learn, whatever you likes.

First of all what you need to know is what harms smoking does to you. Yes, it spreads diseases all over your body and it will create many illnesses. But this is not it. First you have to know everything it does to you. In many ways it can harm you:

And many others, bing it. You have to think on this, you really have to think. But wait ask yourself why do you smoke. There might be many answers. But the only thing you worries about your self is that can you stop it. Can you spend my rest of life without cigarettes. Every smoker has this doubt. If you can clear this doubt, you will succeed. Succeed in what? In what way, will you succeed? Yes, you can. It is about you, only about you. By that, I mean to say it is you who can stop, it is your will power. Quitting is not a tough task as you think, it is a easier one. You will be asking yourself that why do, this blogger is so confident about quitting. Is this writer a Doctor?

I am confident because I am a smoker too :(. But the point is, it is almost to an end, my addiction to smoke is almost finished, expired, ended. I used to smoke a lot. But now I am almost a non-smoker. I smoke 1-2 cigarette some time to rejoice success. But its not good. I will leave it. There are still few errors left in my will power. But I know I have succeeded. And thank god, I am away from many diseases and illnesses.

You don’t like smoking, you are trying to quit. But You can’t, because your will power is weak. Your power to love your self is weak. You are docked with the addiction. So remove it. No one can stop you from smoking unless you try to do so. Do it for yourself and for your family. Imagine or calculate that how many years will survive in this earth with smoking and without smoking. Visualize the ash of the cigarette as time going away.

How I quitted?

I used to know all the stuff written above. But I can’t quit. One day I make up my mind to stop, by telling me that I will be a non-smoker from tomorrow. But I couldn’t. Because at that time I was weak, I mean I kneel myself. I didn’t explained myself. So a weak past trying to quit smoking. Then I called myself, my heart and my mind to think and to think a lot for my health and for my future. I made a decision that I will not think about smoking any more, and think normally as I used to do when I was a non-smoker.

Next day I woke up. I started doing my normal routine things which I do. You know how a day passes. So the day passed. It was night, I was alone then I realized that I have not smoked yet. Then messages comes out of my mind/heart that you need to smoke, you are hungry to smoke and you can’t resist it. I replied to that message in my mind that I will not smoke again and I have quitted. Remember always try to keep yourself busy as much as you can and control your thoughts. So, I slept. I was a hard task but I won it. But this sleep was very different from the previous ones. I slept deep and it relaxed me so much.

Next day I woke up. I opened my window and I can smell very nice air and natural winds. You know what I meant. But when I used to smoke, I can’t feel all those things like morning whether, night fragrance, all those stuff. I realized that I am back to my senses, which are very fascinating and god gifted. By all this I mean I feel very good. I too realized that I have conquered myself back from a curse. And that kind of messages to convince me to smoke still comes in to my mind but now I have a better answer to them.

If you have started to read this blog, that means you are confused, frustrated in your life. To be honest, we all are or we were in our life. You see some people don’t get easily get nervous or start to take stress. Why they don’t? are they better than us? Are their lives better than yours?. The answer to these two questions is “NO”. First we start with why we get frustrated and don’t know what to do in such situation by giving you a common example.

From our early life, I mean from childhood, we dreams about a better life, more money, luxury. And we make our minds to achieve such things by studying hard in our schools, colleges, universities etc. and also by achieving high grades in our studies. So when we complete our studies and pass out, we think that it’s the end of our struggle in life and we are about to begin our dream life which is much easier than the previous one.

Our so called dream and better life starts but it is not what we expected because we are still the strugglers with good marks in our school certificates/degrees. Some are suffering to make employers hire them. Some got the job but still facing problems in their work. So at the end we got frustrated and worries about ourselves. It is very bad for your mental and physical health

Now what to do, can we solve our problems in our professional and personal lives?.

I told you in the first paragraph that there are such people who are not like us and I asked you, are they better than us. So the answer is yes they are, because they control and manage them selves and others better than us. How to do that?

First we wil learn about some facts of our life. This world is not a heaven. That means there are problems, there were, there always will be. If there weren’t problems, none will worry about their deeds. So first of all make your mind that you will face problems in your life. Now the answer to all your problems is that don’t worry, you can handle your problems and you can solve them. If there is a will, there is a way. So without any emotions think about your problem in a cool head of yours. Think how to solve, what will be the present effects, and what will be the future after you will solve it like that. What I am trying to say is that solve your problem in the best way you can. Don’t kill your self, don’t feel that you are responsible for what you have never done, don’t feel you are responsible for what others have done wrong with you. Try to solve the problem in a gentleman’s manner. Be a man/woman. Try to think like a mature person. But don’t think a lot. Timing is very important in this world. Try to be on time when making decisions. Your decision making power will make you hero from zero. So chill! Spend a happy and successful life.