Sorry, I don't think I explained myself properly in my first post. My fiancée never actually got in trouble for anything, but what happened was that he read something online somewhere and has now convinced himself that he fits into a wildly vague definition of some crime and that he has something to answer for. Anyone who's mind isn't clouded by anxiety is clearly able to see that there is no way this definition related to him, but it's sunk it's claws in deep this time and he just can't see the issue for what it actually is anymore.

What I was hoping to do is to go to the police station (or talk to them on the phone) explain the events and then have them tell him he's got noting to worry about and no case to answer for and to stop worrying about it.

I know it's far from an ideal solution, and in the past when he's had anxiety issues we've always tried to avoid him going to the source of the issue and getting reassurance, because he doesn't actually learn anything about dealing with his anxiety from doing that and another issue invariably comes up. But in this case, this stupid thing has been hanging over us for months now, and it's making him and us miserable and he's so stressed out over something than really should he nothing more than a passing thought.

I'm over it to be honest and I'm ready to just take the easy way out and having him talk to someone about it so that the anxiety can't use the fear of the unknown as a scare tactic on him anymore.

Sorry, I don't think I explained myself properly in my first post. My fiancée never actually got in trouble for anything, but what happened was that he read something online somewhere and has now convinced himself that he fits into a wildly vague definition of some crime and that he has something to answer for. Anyone who's mind isn't clouded by anxiety is clearly able to see that there is no way this definition related to him, but it's sunk it's claws in deep this time and he just can't see the issue for what it actually is anymore.

What I was hoping to do is to go to the police station (or talk to them on the phone) explain the events and then have them tell him he's got noting to worry about and no case to answer for and to stop worrying about it.

I know it's far from an ideal solution, and in the past when he's had anxiety issues we've always tried to avoid him going to the source of the issue and getting reassurance, because he doesn't actually learn anything about dealing with his anxiety from doing that and another issue invariably comes up. But in this case, this stupid thing has been hanging over us for months now, and it's making him and us miserable and he's so stressed out over something than really should he nothing more than a passing thought.

I'm over it to be honest and I'm ready to just take the easy way out and having him talk to someone about it so that the anxiety can't use the fear of the unknown as a scare tactic on him anymore.

Thank you so much! I'm not gonna lie, being the one and only (aside from his psychologist) support person for someone who has severe anxiety issues is exhausting and isolating and demoralising when you feel like no matter what you say it just doesn't help.

I can't tell you how many nights we've spent going over and over and over having endless conversations about the same silly things and getting nowhere.

My fiancée isn't really in a place right now where he is able to acknowledge my efforts and the effects this has on me (on anything more than a very superficial level at least) since virtually all his mental energy goes towards fighting this and holding it together enough in his everyday life to be able to function at his job and with his uni work. It really means a lot to me so have someone acknowledge that I'm doing my best, even if it is just an internet stranger!

But we'll get there though. I know there is light at the end of this stupid anxiety tunnel and my wonderful, kind, loving, generous, kind hearted fiancée will shine through again! Of course it's not just going to go away and it's something he'll probably struggle with for the rest of this life, but it won't always be this bad. He'll get out of this stupid thought cycle and we'll get on with our lives!