How do I spend time with everyone who needs me, and still have time for myself?

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I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. The 5 year old demands my attention and when she doesn't get it the behavior changes. I also take care of my home and my father who has Parkinsons. I am thankful that I do not work outside of the home. There are doctors appointments and taking care of business on the phone. Then there is just the normal everyday life acitivities to take care of. Anyone else feel like they are being pulled apart?

Will your dad's insurance or SSI pay for a part time home nurse? If so, that could really help you out. As for your kids, here are some ideas that work for me (I have a 5 yr old, 3 yr old and 8 month old.) -Make sure all your kids are in bed at least 2 hours before you every night. And this is not a time for household chores. You need that time to decompress, work on a hobby, spend time with your partner, etc. -Nap time and/or quiet time are a must for your kids. They need it, and so do you. If they are beyond naps, then sit them down with a kid appropriate show or film after lunch. Even if you are not big on tv, one hour a day will not hurt anyone. Use this time for cleaning, laundry, dishes, bills and/or dinner prep. -If the household responsibilities extend beyond quiet time, try having your kids help with the chores. A 5 year old can help fold clothes, dust (my kids love to dust) and participate in dinner prep (they love that even more!).Good luck to you!

I know how you feel hun... I have four children all at home ages 20,16 (boys) and 10 and 3 (girls) my oldest son has 2 daughters, one that lives here with he and his girlfriend, and 1 that I babysit while her mother works(different moms) my 16 yr old son also has a 2 month old and a girlfriend that lives here, and of course my girls and husband need me constantly, along with all the other household chores...I have no time for myself either, I dont know if it has anything to do with it or not, but I have gained 70 pounds since my 1st grandchild was born, so if you figure out the wonders of time for yourself...please share it with me...