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how often do you hang out with good friends???

2008-05-19, 10:24 PM

Assuming you work a full time job monday-friday and are already in a steady relationship, how often do you guys/gals see your close friends??? once a week? once a month???

--just curious b/c even though I don't even have kids, I just feel compressed for time...sometimes, I want some "alone time" yet don't want to give off the impression i'm "brushing off" friends..plus i'm picking up new hobbies to keep busy so I don't always feel the need to hang out necessarily

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Now that we are all 40ish, it is difficult to all be anywhere at the same time. We all took such different life directions.

Maybe once a year. Maybe.

I know my situation doesn't count. :-)

Keep some time for yourself. I think it is healthy. You will know what you need. Also, [I hate myself for sounding old] appreciate that you are in a situation where you and your friends can hang out. That is time that is not regretted.

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Now that we are all 40ish, it is difficult to all be anywhere at the same time. We all took such different life directions.

Maybe once a year. Maybe.

I know my situation doesn't count. :-)

Actually, it illustrates how common change is throughout your life.

Right now....we're in a state of transition when it comes to friends.

Most of our friends, I had pre-Mrs. JR and becoming empty nesters now ("my" youngest graduates HS next year), and while we still have 2 at home...one being 12 y/o, we don't get together as often as we used to, just b/c we're in different stages of life.

We're still close, but not as social as we used to be when we got together in large part for our kids.

Mrs. JR's previously close friends were all single/divorced women and with her being married now...they don't have as much in common anymore either.

It's one of the "drawbacks" that older/divorced guys marrying younger women (with children) have to deal with.

It's not much different than what gumby's dealing with either.

As you go through life....you go through numerous sets of friends as your life changes from theirs.

We don't get to choose the life we are given, but we do get to choose how we live it

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I'm in a four-year relationship in which we have pretty much all the same friends... we see our closest friends almost every day. Of course, a few of our best friends live in the same neighborhood as us. We're in our thirties.

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I'm in a four-year relationship in which we have pretty much all the same friends... we see our closest friends almost every day. Of course, a few of our best friends live in the same neighborhood as us. We're in our thirties.

Enjoy and cherish those friendships, b/c they really are great when you find other couples that "click" with each other.

We don't get to choose the life we are given, but we do get to choose how we live it

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--I guess this thread was prompted b/c for one, i'm going to be hanging out with a very old good buddy way back from high school...I initiated it and feel that he'll always be a close friend..so we should have good times...however, he's pretty stagnant in his life but i'm not one to judge..so hopefully we'll still have a decent amount in common, which I don't see as a problem

--my other buddy is moving up here and I just hope he doesn't expect me to hang out with him all the time...I just like having my space yet don't want to be an asshole in the process..hopefullly we'll respect that space

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My good friends live about 1000 miles away from me in either direction. My closest friend lives about an hour from me... but she's on AM now, so watch out. I see some of them once a year, maybe twice. But we always pick up right where we left off!!

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Gumby I totally know what you're talking about. Between work and playing music it really feels like there's not enough time in the day. There's times when I just want to be by myself and relax. Having said that I do try to go out and hang out with friends at least a couple times out of the week.

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Yeah I have a full time job, 40 plus hours and go workout 4 times a week..I also picked up playing the piano as well..that along with spending time with my g/f and family whenever there's a function (seems more frequent lately), it's hard not to be busy

--in addition, I am trying to read more on the side to help better educate myself...I just would rather pick up hobbies and learn and experience life rather than just sit around all the time bsing and drinking..it's dandy don't get me wrong but not all the time...time is valuable..gumby

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Depends. Of all my good friends who are local, a few I do stuff with maybe about once a month. One I've only seen twice in the last three years. Would I like it to be more often? Sure, but everyone is busy and wrapped up in their own activities. Since it's that way for everyone, there's never a feeling of being brushed off.

The bad side is I'm moving out of state in a few months, so it will be much less frequent than it is now.