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2nd baby shower in one year?

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I had a baby boy in June 2008 and am now expecting baby #2 in July 2009. My generous friends showered me for my first baby and we got everything we needed and then some (big items gender neutral). I do not yet know the sex of the new baby, but if it's a girl, my friends are excited about throwing me a 2nd shower. While I am honored that they are so enthusiastic, I have read a lot of posts on BabyCenter in which people think it is totally inappropriate and greedy to have a 2nd shower. I don't want ANY of my friends and family to feel like I'm just asking for gifts, so if I do accept I don't plan to register. Some people think it is awful to throw a 2nd shower (especially since my kids will only be a year apart) and others think all babies should be celebrated. But since there is such a divide, I am worried about offending someone I care about and part of me thinks I should not accept the offer of another shower for that reason. What should I do?

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I also would not have another baby shower where I would register for gifts. If you do want to celebrate (which I'm sure you want to!) maybe have a smaller, less formal party or as one suggested, have a welcoming party where you get to show your baby off!

I had my children 4 years apart and did not feel it was appropriate for to another formal baby shower (in terms of registering). I did however want to do something to celebrate my second child. So what we did instead was have a "Welcome" or "Meet" the baby shower shortly after the baby was born. We did not ask for gifts but it's a natural tendency for people to bring something for the baby anyways. We still played baby shower games and gave prizes and did all the fun things you at a regular shower except it's even better because people get to see and enjoy the end result- the baby. =0) It was coed and a very good reason to get family and friends together. Maybe this is an option for you? Hope this helped.

why not just have a mommy shower? you're about to go through the most challenging time (2 babies under 1) of your life so why not have a pamper day for the girls. there are a lot of spa companies who come to your home and have themed packages - i can't think of a better time. everyone will be there for you one last time and you can get some relaxation - and you won't be asking for gifts. you will be celebrating the birth of the new baby - just in a different way!
don't forget the mimosas for the rest of them!

I think the only thing that matters is how you feel and what you think. Your friends sound lovely so perhaps let them do all the worrying! Or why not talk to one of them who is likely to be the ringleader and suggest a mini shower wih just a few toys or trinkets. Who cares what other people think? If they want to be mean about it they don't have to be involved!

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