Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Communication don’ts

Sometimes that simple statement
can diffuse a lot of emotion and distractions.

On the other hand, here are
some important, teen-tested statements that will kill off communication and
should be avoided at all costs:

“Who do you think you are talking to?”

“Why did you do that?”

“What were you thinking about?”

“How could you be so foolish or selfish?”

“Don’t use that tone of voice with me.”

Communication is critical, so it
helps to know and avoid these “killer” phrases when attempting to keep those
lines of contact strong with a teenager.

Focusing on the positive is
always the most effective way to go, though it can take a great deal of self-discipline
on the part of a parent, who sees so clearly what needs to be changed.

If you can take the time to
listen carefully, move the conversation in a positive direction, and avoid
phrases that can turn a teenager stone-cold in an instant, you’ll find it is
much easier to keep the lines of communication open.