It’s a bitch’s World: The Mean Girl Syndrome

Mean Girls (2004) is an American teen comedy film, which describes how female high school social cliques operate, and the effect they can have on girls. The film stars Lindsay Lohan (and yes, she’s still sane here) and a supporting cast including Rachel McAdams, Amanda Seyfried, Lacey Chabert, and Lizzy Caplan.

This movie has truly exposed the downside of womanhood. Girls love to fight each other. Compared to the other half of the human population, girls tend to compete, fight, and belittle each other more frequently. Have you noticed how these sluts tends to look another one of their kind from head to toe? And when the person has passed by, girls would immediately whisper a “critique” to their friend. Yes, in every girl, there’s a bitch mode just waiting to be unleashed. Everybody’s clean. Everybody’s perfect. Well, they’re not. We’re not.

High school years

And neither will I be claiming purity of this shit. Back in high school, I am a mean girl in disguise of a boyish teen. People would pity me for being the “underdog” as the “mean girls” belittle me, talk shit behind my back, and others. I would appeal to my friends, acting like the loser, and seek for revenge. In the end, I don’t know if I really did, but I felt like winning. The mere fact that I’ve gathered sympathy is enough for me to be empowered.

Thus, I walk our hallways with pride and my forehead up in the sky. My eyebrow is always raised to every bitch, slut, whore, nerd, and ugly babe passing by me. And when someone gets on my back, and fight me, I act out as the victim. And a gush of sympathy and hatred is thrown to my offender. Oh yeah, I feel the power.

Kaya kong manlait ng tao, pumuna ng mga mali sa kanila, at kung anu-ano pa and get away with it dahil people pity me. I make it a point that I am the underdog in this shit. I do not commit mistakes. People just hate me.

But eventually I just had to grow up.

The truth is, I am the type of person who just doesn’t care. Suplada. If you’re not my friend, you will not expect me to greet you in the hallways. You cannot expect me to do the first move just to be chums with you. No way in hell bitch. If you don’t want to be my friend, I would not be your friend. If you will not smile at me, I will never smile at you. I may know your name, but I’ll never say hi to you. Kaya madaming naiinis sakin. Akala nila mayabang ako. But the truth is, I just don’t care.

Besides, kung mayabang man ako, may ipagyayabang naman talaga ako.

It is an instinct for girls to make things difficult for their kind. They talk trash about other girls behind their backs. And this shit is of the next level! Omg, you couldn’t imagine how personal it could get. It would start on a professional level, and then suddenly the conversation takes a spin. Later, these cliques would talk about the person’s hair, dress, physical attributes, and others. Oh men, I could go on and on.

Insecurities

While it is instinctive to get mad or angry at a person for being blatantly mean, it takes a hint of extremely low self-esteem to be angry all the time. No person could be angry all the time. And most especially, NO PERSON COULD APPEAL TO PITY all the time.

Once you reach the age 21, you might want to do a little reflection on yourself. Hindi na ikaw bata to be dependent on another human being for security, money, food, trend and other stuff. The mean girl syndrome should end as soon as you had your 20th birthday. Maturity should sink in. Kaya nga naimbento ung mind your own business diba?

Insecurities play a vital role in why some girls could not let go of their mean girl syndrome even if they reach the age of 20. If you don’t have a positive outlook in life, or you hate yourself, or your mind is set into thinking that somebody else is better than you, you will never be matured. But if are very confident in yourself, at alam mong may ibubuga ka, you’d care less about other people.

According to Wikipedia, Appeal to pity, or argumentum ad misericordiam, is a fallacy in which someone tries to win support for an argument or idea by exploiting his or her opponent’s feelings of pity or guilt. Sa tagalong, kaawaan mo ako or kaawaan mo siya. Some girls get by using this fallacy/theory. Nakakatawa lang kasi kung may mga bagay na nadadaan sa awa, sana walang hustisya. Pero eto talaga yun e:

Mean girl syndrome. Girls vs girls. Spreading the hate. Hate should stop in high school or maybe early college. There are a lot more important things in life than be very critical of other’s personality, dress, physical attributes, and others.

And oh.. the appeal to pity.. LADIES, PLEASE. There are heroines who fought for our right and independence. Sana wag natin baliwalain yun. Kung magpapatuloy tayong maging damsel in distress, we just proved men right: women are incapable of taking care of themselves. I would kill if someone tells me na di ko kaya ipagtanggol sarili ko. I would kill if someone tells me na I’m a spoiled brat and needs assistance always. Umakto sa naayong ganda mga kapatid. Have a little brain.