Sibling rivalry

MASSIVE RANT: So my older sister just had her first baby boy. I'm so happy for her, she's my only sibling and I love the fact that she gets to experience what I have been blessed with twice..... My issue is, she as a person innately who has a chip on her shoulder - especially when it comes to me - I'm younger, and I seemed to do things before her - boyfriends, move out of home, get engaged, married etc.Everytime something would happen, she would be a complete b@tch to me, put me down to try and make herself better. Anyway, when I first got pg with ds#1, she stormed out of the room when I told her. When she finally came back, all she said was "it better not be born on my birthday, that's my day!"...... Whatever.... She never let me talk about my growing bubs around her, and if it came up, she turned the subject back onto her somehow. When my DS finally came out (2 days before her bday), she came to visit a few days later, didn't acknowledge the baby , hardly acknowledged the fact that I'd just had a baby and proceeded to burst into tears and crap on how her BF hadn't wrapped her bday present - he gave it to her in the bag the shop put it in! And went on how insensitive that was! I was thinking, ate you kidding, look how insensitive you are being!Anyway, skip to now, she's been nothing but self obsessed about herself and how everyone should bow down to her cause she's pregnant - and now she's had the baby, she calls me every second to find out why people who are visiting her in hospital are inconsiderate because they are only taking photos of the baby, and not of her....She's so self obsessed its killing me! Like I said, I'm so happy that she gets to experience this little bundle of joy... But I have to stop myself from yelling at her from being such a complete selfish f*ck wit!.... Ok rant over, sorry it was such a novel.... It's just really getting to me.....

MASSIVE RANT: So my older sister just had her first baby boy. I'm so happy for her, she's my only sibling and I love the fact that she gets to experience what I have been blessed with twice..... My issue is, she as a person innately who has a chip on her shoulder - especially when it comes to me - I'm younger, and I seemed to do things before her - boyfriends, move out of home, get engaged, married etc.Everytime something would happen, she would be a complete b@tch to me, put me down to try and make herself better. Anyway, when I first got pg with ds#1, she stormed out of the room when I told her. When she finally came back, all she said was "it better not be born on my birthday, that's my day!"...... Whatever.... She never let me talk about my growing bubs around her, and if it came up, she turned the subject back onto her somehow. When my DS finally came out (2 days before her bday), she came to visit a few days later, didn't acknowledge the baby , hardly acknowledged the fact that I'd just had a baby and proceeded to burst into tears and crap on how her BF hadn't wrapped her bday present - he gave it to her in the bag the shop put it in! And went on how insensitive that was! I was thinking, ate you kidding, look how insensitive you are being!Anyway, skip to now, she's been nothing but self obsessed about herself and how everyone should bow down to her cause she's pregnant - and now she's had the baby, she calls me every second to find out why people who are visiting her in hospital are inconsiderate because they are only taking photos of the baby, and not of her....She's so self obsessed its killing me! Like I said, I'm so happy that she gets to experience this little bundle of joy... But I have to stop myself from yelling at her from being such a complete selfish f*ck wit!.... Ok rant over, sorry it was such a novel.... It's just really getting to me.....

My sister is the same way! I'm 6 years younger than her, and she always seems to resent me . She hasn't talked to me except for a text message here or there since she found out I was pregnant. She's had fertility issues and found out this year she can't have kids so I was trying to put myself in her shoes, but im almost 16 weeks now and still nothing. She lives in Ireland and I live in the states but i still want her to be part of this baby's life, but she has told my mum what's the point. It's very upsetting cuz I always have tried to appease her and have a relationship with her but it doesn't work out to well. Anyway I feel your pain girl! Maybe we could just blow up at our sisters and claim pregnant insanity?? :)

My sister is the same way! I'm 6 years younger than her, and she always seems to resent me . She hasn't talked to me except for a text message here or there since she found out I was pregnant. She's had fertility issues and found out this year she can't have kids so I was trying to put myself in her shoes, but im almost 16 weeks now and still nothing. She lives in Ireland and I live in the states but i still want her to be part of this baby's life, but she has told my mum what's the point. It's very upsetting cuz I always have tried to appease her and have a relationship with her but it doesn't work out to well. Anyway I feel your pain girl! Maybe we could just blow up at our sisters and claim pregnant insanity?? :)

Can we? I'd love to blow her up right now! When I told her I was pg with this new LO, she hung up on me - then called back to say I'd timed it so as to take attention away from her baby - GAH!..... Now where's is that dynamite?

Can we? I'd love to blow her up right now! When I told her I was pg with this new LO, she hung up on me - then called back to say I'd timed it so as to take attention away from her baby - GAH!..... Now where's is that dynamite?

I am so sorry to hear this. Whenever we as sibling would even look like we were about to think a jealous thought my mom would be on our ass faster than a pack of dogs on a three legged cat!! NO jealousy allowed growing up. As adults I'm so thankful for crazy, invasive, loving, crazy relationship I have with my dear sisters!! :) they really are amazing. If it was me lol, I'd tell my mom! Ha! It always worked when we were younger. Good luck girls.

I am so sorry to hear this. Whenever we as sibling would even look like we were about to think a jealous thought my mom would be on our ass faster than a pack of dogs on a three legged cat!! NO jealousy allowed growing up. As adults I'm so thankful for crazy, invasive, loving, crazy relationship I have with my dear sisters!! :) they really are amazing. If it was me lol, I'd tell my mom! Ha! It always worked when we were younger. Good luck girls.

Thanks Wholecheese... It's funny we were soooooo close when we were little - it wasn't until after school she became this green eyed monster - I've told mum, she's not particularly helpful though... "Ohhh that's just cath for you".... Can I borrow your mum to kick my sister up the a*se? She sounds great!

Thanks Wholecheese... It's funny we were soooooo close when we were little - it wasn't until after school she became this green eyed monster - I've told mum, she's not particularly helpful though... "Ohhh that's just cath for you".... Can I borrow your mum to kick my sister up the a*se? She sounds great!

Wow, same here. My (twin) sister flipped out when I told her I was pregnant, and then proceeded to yell at me re. how I didn't deserve anybody's love (family or my friends'), etc. Haven't talked to her since, and don't really want to. She has no baby thoughts as far as I know, isn't even married yet, so I can't even imagine what she could possibly be jealous of. Freak.

Wow, same here. My (twin) sister flipped out when I told her I was pregnant, and then proceeded to yell at me re. how I didn't deserve anybody's love (family or my friends'), etc. Haven't talked to her since, and don't really want to. She has no baby thoughts as far as I know, isn't even married yet, so I can't even imagine what she could possibly be jealous of. Freak.

Sad face! I was an only and always wanted a sister! Reading your post I imagined two of my girls in the future! They are 15y and 7y, my older was my first girl my pride and joy I doted, stayed home for 5 years so I feel I made her selfish, she is beyond teen self absorbed she gets jealous of any attention I give her friends! My little one is fun loving, story teller. I understand it's just venting, I don't have my own sister to compare, is there hope that they will love each other and have their backs? They swear they will never talk to each other when they grow up, they both adore my 2y daughter but will they grow close? I have tried different things and I am at a loss!

Sad face! I was an only and always wanted a sister! Reading your post I imagined two of my girls in the future! They are 15y and 7y, my older was my first girl my pride and joy I doted, stayed home for 5 years so I feel I made her selfish, she is beyond teen self absorbed she gets jealous of any attention I give her friends! My little one is fun loving, story teller. I understand it's just venting, I don't have my own sister to compare, is there hope that they will love each other and have their backs? They swear they will never talk to each other when they grow up, they both adore my 2y daughter but will they grow close? I have tried different things and I am at a loss!

I don't have a sister but I do have a cousin who I believe is insanely jealous of anything I do and always has been.... I've tried to just be nice and when we were alone she'd basically kiss my a$$ she was so nice, but when people were around she would make fun of me left and right I guess to make her feel better, it usually didn't bother me I don't really let much bother me but at my sons 5th birthday party few weeks ago I couldn't believe how badly she was treating me in front of everyone making fun of me just plain rude..... I've cut her off completely which right now is the best thing I could have done, she still calls and I feel bad but f that shiz

I don't have a sister but I do have a cousin who I believe is insanely jealous of anything I do and always has been.... I've tried to just be nice and when we were alone she'd basically kiss my a$$ she was so nice, but when people were around she would make fun of me left and right I guess to make her feel better, it usually didn't bother me I don't really let much bother me but at my sons 5th birthday party few weeks ago I couldn't believe how badly she was treating me in front of everyone making fun of me just plain rude..... I've cut her off completely which right now is the best thing I could have done, she still calls and I feel bad but f that shiz

I hope so.... But at this point I just really want to give her hell about how she treated me when I was first pg and had my DS.... The more I think about the more mad I get.... Need to breath, probably not the best time to sit her down for a reality check given all her new hormones, new baby etc..... If its still bugging me in a couple weeks I'm gonna talk to her, seriously she needs to acknowledge how bloody awful she has been to me and my boys... Sorry I'm ranting again.... I'm probably a tad hormonal too!

I hope so.... But at this point I just really want to give her hell about how she treated me when I was first pg and had my DS.... The more I think about the more mad I get.... Need to breath, probably not the best time to sit her down for a reality check given all her new hormones, new baby etc..... If its still bugging me in a couple weeks I'm gonna talk to her, seriously she needs to acknowledge how bloody awful she has been to me and my boys... Sorry I'm ranting again.... I'm probably a tad hormonal too!

You had it right the first time "my boys and me" or "me and my boys"Sometimes people don't see how selfish they are until it's pointed out. I do agree that now may not be the perfect time to say something with all the hormones floating around (hers and yours) so maybe wast a couple of weeks and try to treat her the way you want to be treated and not the way she has treated you in the past because two wrongs don't make a right.Good luck!

You had it right the first time "my boys and me" or "me and my boys"Sometimes people don't see how selfish they are until it's pointed out. I do agree that now may not be the perfect time to say something with all the hormones floating around (hers and yours) so maybe wast a couple of weeks and try to treat her the way you want to be treated and not the way she has treated you in the past because two wrongs don't make a right.Good luck!

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