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REALITY HURTS CHEATING HEARTS<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" border="0" id="tabcolumn-1" style="width: 100%; margin-bottom: 15px"><tr><td><div id="column-1" usermodifiable="true" style="width: 100%"><div id="ctrl-7429758"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#ed1c24">Why can’t you just be faithful?</font></div><div id="ctrl-7429759"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#209860">Any man who has ever been on the receiving end of that question, whether dodging crockery or wiping away his wife’s tears, knows that some women really want an answer. Do men who cheat really outnumber their female counterparts? Is infidelity in marriage more natural to men than women? And do some husbands think that “monogamy” is a board game?</font></div><div id="ctrl-7429760"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#209860">Recommended Related to Men,</font><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#209860">Once it was simple. You got married, had kids, worked the land, and stayed married whether you could stand each other or not. The concept of &quot;a happy marriage&quot; was no more relevant than the idea of &quot;a pretty tractor.&quot; &quot;That has changed over time as marriage has become more independent,&quot; says Steven Nock, a professor of sociology who studies marriage at the University of Virginia and author of Marriage in Men's Lives. &quot;Couples don't need each other for quite as many things as they once did...</font><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3"><font color="#209860">Who </font><font color="#ed1c24">cheats most?</font></font></div><div id="ctrl-7429761"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">“<font color="#fcaf17">There’s no question that men cheat more than women,” says Steven Nock, PhD, a professor of sociology at the University of Virginia who has followed the marriages of over 6,000 men since 1979. “In the bad old days when we had to prove why we were getting divorced, that was the leading cause.” This was mostly because the husbands were guiltier of infidelity in marriage than their wives — but also because, says Nock, “society is more tolerant of men’s misdeeds.”</font></font></div><div id="ctrl-7429762"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#fcaf17">Men who cheat, so the conventional wisdom went, were just being men, while a faithless wife was a true pariah. You may remember from your American literature class, it was Hester Prynne who wore the scarlet letter, not the man who did her wrong.</font></div><div id="ctrl-7429763"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#fcaf17">“Men and women cheat in different ways,” says Mark Epstein, MD, a psychiatrist&#160; “It’s more like an appetite thing for men, more oral in a way; their partners are more disposable. And the experiences are more disposable.”</font></div><div id="ctrl-7429764"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#ab4a9c"><font color="#ed1c24">Infidelity in men</font>: </font></div><div id="ctrl-7429765"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#ab4a9c"><font color="#f5821f">Does the biological argument hold up? </font></font></div><div id="ctrl-7429766"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#f5821f">Wives may consider their husbands disposable when they discover they’ve been cheating, but they still wonder why. Could it be a biological imperative, as some scientists have allowed? Cole Porter may have thought that birds who “do it” and bees who “do it” were falling in love, but if love is what you’re calling it, there is plenty of evidence that the animal kingdom pretty much falls in love indiscriminately. And even we Homo sapiens have spent more evolutionary time seeking multiple partners than we have in pursuit of romantic matrimony and monogamy.</font></div><div id="ctrl-7429767"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#ab4a9c">“<font color="#f5821f">There is a natural tendency that is pretty hardwired in us as a species that suggests putting your seed in as many places as possible. It’s what got humanity to this point in history,” says Louanne Cole Weston, PhD, a marriage and family therapist and board-certified sex therapist in Fair Oaks, California. “That non-monogamous urge persists in many men — though many manage serial monogamy despite that urge.”</font></font></div><div id="ctrl-7429768"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#ab4a9c"><font color="#f5821f">The evolutionary argument, however, will only get you so far. One could argue that men also used to beat each other with clubs. But outside of some parts of the Bronx, this practice is generally frowned upon now. And there</font><font color="#f5821f">are no country songs about it. So the fact that many men do remain faithful seems to argue for a behavioral cure to what may be only partly a biological problem. Can counseling, for instance, get a man to stop cheating.</font></font></div></div>
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5/4/2011 4:09:00 PMhttp://www.barehuggsandkisses.com/blog/2011/05/04/OUR-CHEATING-HEARTS.aspxCheater's Dilemma<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" border="0" id="tabcolumn-1" style="width: 100%; margin-bottom: 15px"><tr><td><div id="column-1" usermodifiable="true" style="width: 100%"><div id="ctrl-5734871">&#160;</div><font color="#00aeef"></font><div id="ctrl-5734872"><div id="mediaPlayer_6e6eb1aa_7e0d_4fb1_9c4b_46581469eeec_container" style="margin:0 1.5em 7px 0;height:339px;width:309px;float:left;"><table class="media-player-container" style="text-align:left"><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.barehuggsandkisses.com/vp/JS-Lib/CustomerSites/Common/media_player.js"></script><tr><td id="mediaPlayer_6e6eb1aa_7e0d_4fb1_9c4b_46581469eeec_cell">You need Flash Player in order to view this.</td></tr><script type="text/javascript">vp.events.addOnDOMLoadHandler(function() {vp.website.createVideoPlayer('mediaPlayer_6e6eb1aa_7e0d_4fb1_9c4b_46581469eeec', 'http://www.youtube.com/v/oLclkP9x_68', 309, 339, false);});</script><tr><td id="mediaPlayer_6e6eb1aa_7e0d_4fb1_9c4b_46581469eeec_title" class="media-player-song-title">Alicia Keys - Doesn't Mean Anything</td></tr><tr><td id="mediaPlayer_6e6eb1aa_7e0d_4fb1_9c4b_46581469eeec_desc" class="media-player-song-description">Music video by Alicia Keys performing Doesn't Mean Anything. YouTube view counts pre-VEVO: 287,787. (C) 2009 RCA/JIVE Label Group, a unit of Sony Music Entertainment</td></tr></table></div></div><font face="Comic Sans MS"><font size="3" color="#ec008c">The other day i went to look&#160; for my mother and i noticed she was angry and frustrated, which is not like her especially when&#160; i'm around her;however she sat me down and told what one of &#160;her coworkers did (a female) 54 yrs of age.</font></font><div id="ctrl-5734876">&#160;</div><div id="ctrl-5734877"><font color="#ec008c"><font face="Comic Sans MS"><font size="3">About three years ago the co-worker,now married for 17yrs and counting,found out her so called &quot;HUSBAND&quot;was</font><font size="3"><font size="3">having an affair with a 15 year old child.What the co-worker did,</font><font size="3"></font> in my opinion was extremely disgusting..she threw acid on the child causing extreme burns on the left side of her body!the burns&#160;were so extreme the her left jaw is pulled back exposing all of her &#160;teeth.</font></font></font></div><div id="ctrl-5734878"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#ec008c">To add to this twisted three way affair,the co-worker is now at the&#160;freeport police station,patiently awaiting july7,2011 when she will be sentenced,and to think while the co-worker is in jail her so-called &quot;HUSBAND&quot;was&#160; seen in the city holding hands and cuddling with the same girl his wife 'burnt up&quot; out of love and jealousy for him ,not to meantion my mother and their children are the only one's visiting her..the &quot;HUSBAND&quot; does nothing,he never visits ,takes her calls nor does show any remorse or sadness at all; i told my mothe she held on to some thing that was long gone.My mother insists the actions of her&#160; friend were fair and just as a school child should not be seeking comfort in the form af a relationship knowing the man is married and has children that could be her parents,i strongly disagreed with her.</font></div><div id="ctrl-5734879"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3" color="#ec008c">I honestly think if a man cheats with you,he'll cheat on you.No woman can stop a&#160;man from doing what he wants,but a woman can learn from her mistakes,be stronger,be overly confident,love one's self first and set boundaries to be the woman,the mother and the wife you know you can be.My question is ..is the role of a woman to stand by your spouse through everything&#160; if you both are truly in love (like story above)since forgiven mistakes MAY help the relationship grow stronger? or do you think once a man does certain things you sholud let him go..more than likely he'll do it again?</font></div><div id="ctrl-5734880">&#160;</div></div>
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