The Playboy Advisor FAQ - Her Orgasm

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The Playboy Advisor compiled the top questions asked regarding His Orgasm, now it’s time to answer the top questions about her orgasm. How can a man tell if a woman is faking?

A woman’s orgasm can be a mystery, in part because we’ve been conditioned to expect the wrong things. When you’re looking for a kind of body-thrashing frenzy enacted on the big screen, it’s easy to miss the signs. The fact is men’s and women’s orgasms are remarkably similar: a quickening of breath, a momentary suspension of movement at the onset of the orgasmic rush, and genital muscle contractions. A woman’s contractions can be felt with a finger placed on the anus or the mouth of the vagina (or the area between the two). In some women, continued stroking of these areas during orgasm leads to further arousal and greater satisfaction, which, in turn, leads to more sex. We do love the notion of cause and effect.

Do some women ejaculate when they have an orgasm?

During arousal or orgasm, some women at some times will release a clear, odorless fluid from their urethras that lab analysis has shown is not urine. Typically this occurs when a woman’s “G spot,” located on the front wall of her vagina, is stimulated. Some women “gush” more than others; those who come in larger volume are probably producing ejaculate from the glands inside the urethra as well as liquid that originates in their bladders. Ejaculation is a nice treat, but men should not believe that a woman is not turned or enjoying herself if it doesn’t happen.

How can a woman find her G spot?

“You’ll probably find it easier to try squatting, lying on your stomach or propping yourself on your hands and knees,” advises Cathy Winks in The Good Vibrations Guide: The G-Spot. “Reach your fingers an inch or two in from the vaginal opening, and crook them toward the front wall of the vagina in a ‘come hither’ motion. The G-spot is responsive to pressure, but not to light touch. If you brush lightly around the inside of the vagina, you’ll probably not feel anything. Instead, press firmly. Remember, the G-spot isn’t on the vagina wall; it’s felt through the vaginal wall. As you explore the vaginal wall from the pubic bone up toward the cervix, you should feel a slightly ridged area that begins to swell. You may find it helpful to take your other hand and press down on the outside of your belly just above the pubic hair line; sometimes you can feel the G spot area swelling between your two hands.”

Why can’t my wife come during intercourse?

Many women have difficulty climaxing during intercourse because the thrusting erection typically does not provide sufficient clitoral stimulation. The recommended cure is simple: add a finger or vibrator. There’s also no rule that says a woman or her partner can’t stimulate her clitoris during intercourse.

Why can’t my wife come from cunnilingus?

There are a few basic techniques that men can use to get things started. First, prepare your partner for pleasure. Caress the insides of her thighs, talk to her softly, massage the muscles around her vulva. Demonstrating on her video Nina Hartley’s Guide to Better Cunnilingus, Nina Hartley gently squeezes and kneads the muscles around her partner’s vulva like a baker. These muscles are stronger and more pliant than most people realize – and who thinks to massage them? She reminds guys that the clitoris is not a doorbell. Don’t attack it. Instead, be indirect. The clit is extremely sensitive, so when you kiss and lick her labia and other parts of her vulva, the clitoris feels the tremors and responds. If your lover asks for your fingers, don’t shove them in deep. Most nerve endings are within two inches of the vaginal opening, so gently but firmly caress that area. No man is born an expert, so it’s crucial that women tell you how you’re doing and provide specific instructions about what she likes and doesn’t like. As Hartley says, “Good pussy eating is a team effort.”

My girlfriend’s vagina smells bad when I go down on her? What should I do?

Every woman smells different, but we’d describe the odor as pleasantly musky. Your girlfriend may have an infection such as bacterial vaginosis, but usually that produces itching, burning, a discharge and an odor that you would recognize as unquestionably bad. If you’re concerned, tell her, “You know I love how you taste, but lately I’ve noticed it’s different. I want to make sure you’re okay.” You may be the best friend her pussy’s ever had.