Asking carat size…tacky or not??

I recently got engaged and I find one of the biggest questions people seem to ask about my ring is “How many carats is it” I’m sure they don’t mean any harm, or mean it to be offensive, but I seem to find it kind of…well…tacky. I am not a competitive person, by any means, so maybe it is just my nature to find such questions offensive. What are your opinions? Maybe it is just the curiosity of new brides, maybe they truly just love your ring, or maybe they are judging it. I guess it depends on who is asking. What do you ladies think?

@Merinda1994: IMO it depends on the manner in which they ask. If they ask bc they are interested in that size then no not tacky but if it’s more of “giirrrllll, how many carats is that thang!?” Then yes, tacky

@Merinda1994: I think it’s a little nosy, although it’s probably just them being curious. I hate to be deceitful, but I just say it’s a gift and I don’t know. I honestly couldn’t imagine asking someone that!

Most if not all carat size questions I received were for competitive reasons IMO.

The tackiest question I received was after someone looked at my ring (inspected it really) was “what does your fiance do?” Really people you are sizing up whether he can afford the ring or went broke getting it.

@Merinda1994: I think it depends on who is asking. I know quite a few people who would ask because they are only interested in the size. Personally, I would much rather have a stone that has great qualities, than a stone thats extremely flawed just because its bigger! Bigger isn’t always better.

I’ve been asked that just once by FI’s cousin, I trust out of pure curousity. I asked once also, out of shock and awe of my friends gorgeous nicely sized ring. She didn’t seem offended at all and readily shared.

@CurlyCue: wowwww, I can’t believe someone asked you that! I think so many women get caught up in having the biggest and best ring to show off, and forget why that ring is there in the first place; as a symbol of the love between you and your husband.