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Nostalgia – when the past helps us copehttps://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2010/01/01/nostalgia-when-the-past-helps-us-cope/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2010/01/01/nostalgia-when-the-past-helps-us-cope/#respondFri, 01 Jan 2010 23:56:30 +0000http://thedailymind.wordpress.com/?p=61]]>The CBS News site brings us an interesting article on nostalgia. As a person of advancing middle age, I’m certainly as guilty as anyone of looking back on my past. Apparently, that used to be thought of as a bad thing — even dangerous:

For centuries it was considered a disease and a form of depression. Soldiers even feared it as homesickness, and thought it could kill them.

But Lemoyne College psychology professor Krystine Batcho, who studies nostalgia, finds no signs of any deadly disease. In fact, quite the opposite.

“It helps remind you who you are in reference to other people,” says Batcho, who sees one especially good use of nostalgia as a coping mechanism.

As even the most nostalgic of us is aware, these are not times in which to shun coping mechanisms. If looking at the past through rose-colored glasses helps us make it through the present, then so be it.

The article also includes a link to this nostalgia inventory, developed by Dr. Batcho. As with many bits of psychological science in the popular media, there’s no scale to let you know where you stand. But, just for fun, compare yourself to your significant other, your friends, or anyone else you can talk into it.

Then, someday, a smile will pass briefly over your face as you remember what a great time you had back in the good old days of reading this blog. And your well-being will be enhanced.

]]>https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2010/01/01/nostalgia-when-the-past-helps-us-cope/feed/0thedailymindphoto_8165_20090914Five ways to cope with the post-holiday blueshttps://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/29/five-ways-to-cope-with-the-post-holiday-blues/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/29/five-ways-to-cope-with-the-post-holiday-blues/#respondTue, 29 Dec 2009 18:39:40 +0000http://thedailymind.wordpress.com/?p=49]]>For many, there’s a big letdown that happens this time of year. The Capital-H Holidays are just about done – Christmas, Hanukkah, Yule, Festivus, All College Football All The Time – but vestiges remain. The tree, perilously dry, still sits in the corner of the room. The Menorah is still in the window. And a muted sense of letdown pervades.

Here are a few ideas for beating that holiday downer. And, in one case, a suggestion that if you can’t beat ‘em, you can join ‘em – at least for a little while.

1. Sit with the feelings. As important as it is to move forward, it is equally important to recognize that your feelings are completely normal, and legitimate. We naturally grieve the losses in our lives, and getting to the end of the holiday season is definitely a loss. We’re socialized to just “get over it” with so many things, and something as important as grieving shouldn’t be neglected. Emotions, if left to do their work, are like waves – let them wash over you, experience them, honor them, and then move ahead with the next moment in your life.

2. Give thanks. Studies show that those who experience genuine gratitude tend to be happier and lead more fulfilling lives. Did you just give cursory thanks for the gifts you were given, or did you genuinely express how you felt? It’s never too late. And, interestingly, researchers say that study participants keeping a “gratitude list” were more likely to have made progress toward personal goals than those who didn’t. Anyone making personal goals this time of year? Yeah… I thought so.

3. Celebrate your clean slate. As symbolic as it may be, the dawning of a new year (and a new decade!) can be a great opportunity to start fresh. Balance the loss of the holiday season with the gain of an entirely new year to play with.

4. Think positive. There will be a lot of upcoming posts about this very topic, I promise. The short version is that you can train yourself to think in a more positive way, which in turn leads to tangible positive change in your life. Spend just a few minutes approaching the new year with a positive spin.

5. Engage. Give your all to whatever it is that you’re doing at the moment. After all, that moment is the only one you have. Here’s an example: When you’re taking down your tree (or putting away your Menorah, or your Festivus Pole… you get the idea), dedicate yourself to completely engaging in the process. Take a good look at each ornament. Feel how they feel in your hands. Feel the prickly needles of the tree, the smooth coolness of the glass ornaments. Remember where specific decorations came from. Take a deep breath and fill your lungs with the scents of the holidays. When you feel yourself drift away (bills are due January 1! I have to go back to work soon! Little Johnny didn’t like his presents!) bring yourself back, physically. Feel your feet on the floor. Touch the tree. Breathe the air. Engage. As you move into the new year, we’ll work on staying engaged. For now, for this moment, be IN it. All the way.

The days to come hold promise of all sorts of awesomeness. Let the holidays slip from your fingers, slowly, and move into a new year full of possibility.

]]>https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/29/five-ways-to-cope-with-the-post-holiday-blues/feed/0thedailymindxmas treeSmiling instructions…https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/25/smiling-instructions/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/25/smiling-instructions/#respondSat, 26 Dec 2009 02:11:41 +0000http://thedailymind.wordpress.com/?p=45]]>Note: In honor of Christmas day, I’m not blogging. Or, maybe I’m just lazy. Either way, here’s something I wrote a while back that seems to fit pretty well into a blog about the mind. Enjoy. And, happy holidays!

Wikihow has a whole page full of smiling instructions, to whit: Begin your smile with your eyes. If you find that every time you try to smile with your mouth, you look like you’re faking it or, worse, like you’re in pain, you may find it useful to look in a mirror and smile only with your eyes. Once your eyes are smiling, they tend to pull your whole face (including your mouth) into a natural, beautiful smile.

Hmm. Good advice, I guess, but I’ve got better. Here’s what you do. Close your eyes. Feel your feet on the ground. Realize that you’re connected to everything else on the surface of the planet by dust and rock and old bone and ancient water, plants long dead, pipes, tunnels, veins of sweet precious ore, the cookie someone dropped.
Breathe the air. Really breathe it. Keep those eyes closed and consider the miracle of breathing. Oxygen, nitrogen, carbon dioxide. Helium, neon, water vapor. The distant scent of a bird. Clouds. Old lady perfume. You’re taking in 15,000 quarts of air every day. Some of us take a little more. Some of us are nice enough to take a little less, just to leave some for everyone else. Those air molecules — they’ve touched those same bits of dust and rock and water upon which you stand. Take them in. Make them part of you. Some day, you can give them back to the ground. Hold them for now. Appreciate the gift for what it is.

Open your eyes. Take a step. Feel all your muscles work. Give thanks to the ground for supporting you. Feel your foot in the air, that same air you breathe. Put it back on the ground. Do it again. Look around and take it all in. What do you see? If you look with the right kind of eyes you can see into the future, or back into the past, because it’s all the same, the same dust and rock and carbon and oxygen and leaves and sky and sun.

What’s NOT miraculous about that? What’s ordinary about being a little machine that takes plants and muscle and a fusion of hydrogen and oxygen and nitrogen and neon and turns it into another sweet step, foot in the air, foot on the ground, foot in the air… how can that not be the most amazing thing that you could be a part of?

Just for fun, for laughs, for pure appreciation of the complicated crazy once-in-a-million-years quirk of the universe you are, with the sheer force of your will, induce a chemical reaction in your brain to send electrical signals down the infinite hard-traveled miles of your nervous system to constrict some of the muscles of your beautiful face.

Smile.

]]>https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/25/smiling-instructions/feed/0thedailymindHey parents! You’re not talking about sex nearly enough!https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/24/hey-parents-youre-not-talking-about-sex-nearly-enough/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/24/hey-parents-youre-not-talking-about-sex-nearly-enough/#respondThu, 24 Dec 2009 20:26:48 +0000http://thedailymind.wordpress.com/?p=33]]>Time magazine brings us news of a study published in the journal Pediatrics, and the news is that we parents are not breaking the icky news about sex to our kids early enough. And, even when we think we are, we’re not:

That difference highlights a primary problem in the parent-child dialogue about sex. “A lot of parents think they had a conversation, and the kids don’t remember it at all,” says Dr. Karen Soren, director of adolescent medicine at New York Presbyterian Morgan Stanley Children’s Hospital. “Parents sometimes say things more vaguely because they are uncomfortable and they think they’ve addressed something, but the kids don’t hear the topic at all.”

Sound familiar, parents?

The article highlights the work of the Talking Parents, Healthy Teens program. Along with bemoaning the lack of sex in our conversations with our kids, some help is offered:

…the conversations should focus on what the child is capable of absorbing, and what the child asks about. Parents should also take advantage of every excuse to broach the difficult subject — a mention of sex or sexuality on a TV show, a pregnancy in the family, sex-education classes in school or a visit to the doctor around the time of puberty. “If you just get over the hurdle of starting, then once the conversation gets going, you often find it’s easier than expected,” says Schuster. “So use any excuse you want, but just get over the initial hurdle and start talking to your kids, because it’s really important.”

Best parenting advice ever. Talk to your kids. Keep talking to your kids. Don’t freak out when they tell you things that freak you out. And then, talk to them some more.

]]>https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/24/hey-parents-youre-not-talking-about-sex-nearly-enough/feed/0thedailymindphoto_6273_20090506Why do we give? Well, it’s complicated…https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/24/why-do-we-give-well-its-complicated/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/24/why-do-we-give-well-its-complicated/#respondThu, 24 Dec 2009 18:41:36 +0000http://thedailymind.wordpress.com/?p=26]]>‘Tis the season, as they say, and at this time of year there is much focus on both giving and receiving.

Empathy-driven goodwill is the core of kindness. And it feels good to exercise it. When we help each other, it not only alleviates some measure of suffering in others, it reduces the fear that we are ultimately alone in the world. It’s no surprise, therefore, that the most powerful charities are those whose works are visible, meaningful and effective.

The article goes on to explain that charity involves a “leap of faith,” and says that we are shaken to our very core when a charity is fraudulent.

Brandenberger says teenagers are particularly susceptible to feelings of anger or shame. They recognize they’re less advantaged than those doing the giving. They can also detect messages suggesting the charity is due to a deficit in themselves.

“If you come to save the other person, it implies they can’t save themselves, which is a pretty big critique.

“No one wants to discourage giving at Christmas time. But giving could be complex for the receiver, and a knowledge of that would be a good thing to add to the situation.

As one of the psychologists in the Star article says, “We should come at it with the idea that we’re all in this together.”

]]>https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/24/why-do-we-give-well-its-complicated/feed/0thedailymindphoto_9768_20091111Reefer Madness: Pot music causes pot smoking?https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/23/reefer-madness-pot-music-causes-pot-smoking/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/23/reefer-madness-pot-music-causes-pot-smoking/#respondThu, 24 Dec 2009 00:49:10 +0000http://thedailymind.wordpress.com/?p=18]]>A study in the new issue of the journal Addiction aims to support “an independent association between exposure to cannabis in popular music and early cannabis use among urban American adolescents.” The researchers found that 9th graders who listened to music with pot lyrics smoked more pot.

Stunning! Students in the highest third of pot-music exposure were more than twice as likely to be puffing the chronic as were students in the lowest third.

Other, less-peer-reviewed independent research has concluded that marijuana-leaf belt buckles cause pot-smoking, as does coming into possession of rolling papers and downloading old Cheech and Chong movies.

]]>https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/23/reefer-madness-pot-music-causes-pot-smoking/feed/0thedailymind70_15Stories about duck sex kinda write themselveshttps://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/23/stories-about-duck-sex-kinda-write-themselves/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/23/stories-about-duck-sex-kinda-write-themselves/#respondWed, 23 Dec 2009 23:33:27 +0000http://thedailymind.wordpress.com/?p=9]]> Many a callow 9th-grader has heard the rhyming tale of Dan McGlock, the only man with the corkscrew… uh, you know.

Now comes word from Yale, of all places, that female ducks have evolved a way to reduce the amount of forced copulation by undesirably aggressive male ducks — and the result is reminiscent of poor Dan McGlock. Dan met his demise after he discovered that the target of his affections “had a left-hand thread.”

With psych drugs like Lamictal costing a few hundred dollars per month, and the generic equivalent priced at ten bucks, it’s easy to see why this is an important question to answer.

In many cases, U.S. pharmacists are not required to tell you when they’ve switched you to a generic. And there are reports of patients experiencing different side effects and increased symptoms when switched from one generic to another, or from a brand name drug to a generic.

]]>https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/23/generics-vs-brand-name-drugs-not-the-same-after-all/feed/0thedailymindpillsWelcome to The Daily Mind!https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/22/hello-world/
https://thedailymind.wordpress.com/2009/12/22/hello-world/#respondTue, 22 Dec 2009 19:48:44 +0000]]>Hey, you’re in on the ground floor! I’m going to do my best to bring you news, opinion, and inspiration from the world of psychology. Daily. Or, close.