Relationship Analysis

Finding
or Understanding a Partner using Numerology

by Michael McClain

The concept of using
numerology to estimate the
potential for longterm compatibility with a prospective partner is a
surefire way increase your odds for a good relationship. Looking to
numerology is also a good way to address problems in an existing
relationship, and gain new understanding.

That said, I want to make
it clear that while some
numbers seem to blend together easily and with little friction, and
other numbers seem to be rubbing against the grain for you, there are
no absolutes or ideals that you should be seeking. You can use the
guide below to quickly compare two individual Lifepath numbers and the
Destiny or Expression numbers, or any of the other numbers in the
profile for that matter. While some may wish to carry this further and
compare other factors in the respective profiles, and many
numerologists do, my sense is that these two important numbers should
be the focus of your investigation.

The most important number
in your comparison is the
Lifepath number. If you haven't learned how to calculate and understand
the meaning of the Lifepath, click
here to go to the page on this topic. It is important to
build a relationship with a partner having a Lifepath compatible with
your own because for both individuals, the Lifepath number shows the
natural inclinations at birth and the set of traits that will always be
present in you and in your prospective partner. You must act on these
traits to attain a sense of self-worth and happiness. For example, the
Lifepath 3 is one that emphasizes expression, sociability, and
creativity as the natural mode of activity for its native. When these
traits are highly valued by the Lifepath of the partner, such traits
are readily supported and living together as a couple is facilitated.
When these numbers are not in harmony, some degree of compromise will
be necessary for both individuals to maintain a comfort zone and sense
of general happiness.

Next in importance is the
Expression or Destiny number
which is the number calculated from your full birth name. If you are
not familiar which converting your name to a single digit number,
please revisit
the
page on this topic. The Expression number defines the direction in life
and what you must strive to attain.

Numbers that
produce easy
compatibility or seem to be a natural fit.

Numbers that are
usually compatible
and find it easy to get along.

Numbers that can go
either way - or may be
neutral

Numbers that are
often a bit of a challenge
and require much compromise.

*note:
For the purposes of evaluating relationships, master numbers 11 and 22
are reduced to 2 and 4 respectively.

Your comparison chart
might look like this:

A
comparison of:

1st

individual

2nd

individual

Quality
- Very compatible, compatible, neutral, or challenged

Lifepath - Natural
characteristics, talents,
and traits based on your date of birth.

Destiny
- Direction in life; what you must achieve or become based on your full
birth name.

How the Numbers Match in a
Relationship

While this gives an
instance glance at the degree
of
compatibility or challenge in the relationship, it is probably wise to
take this a step further and attempt to gain some insight into the
actual blending, or failing to blend, of the numbers. The following
notes discuss the possibilities of these encounters:

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1
and 1:
Two people with a strong desire to lead, and, two people who want very
much to be independent. Two 1s in a relationship understand and accept
each other perhaps better than any other number can understand the 1.
This is a relationship not without pitfalls as the match can get dicey
when they start to compete. But for the most part, it is a good one
filled with excitement and activity.

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1
and 2:
Two very different people who do well if they remember their roles. The
1 is best equipped to be the breadwinner, and the 2 will be the one to
feather the nest and keep the warmth of romance alive and well. The 1
must avoid being distracted and never forget how important attention is
for the 2 partner.

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1
and 3:
This is a very lively couple that seem to shamelessly enjoy life and
each other. The 3 is good at acknowledging the 1 accomplishments and
stroking the ego. The 3 provides the ideas and the 1 provides the push,
so this couple can cover a lot of ground. Yet they have to be careful
about what they say since neither handles criticism very well.

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1
and 4:
4's desire for control is a tough sell on the 1. The 1's need to make
things happen now, frustrates the meticulous 4. Opposites in many ways,
these two should not expect easy compromise. If they ever can accept
one another for who they are, their respective strengths will make a
solid relationship.

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1
and 5:
This is a very compatible combination as both of these numbers are ones
that like to have a lot of freedom in a relationship. The drive for
independence is paramount for each. They may be so busy with their own
"thing" that time together is limited, very special, and often
exciting. As you might expect, the most serious threat is when either
tries to impose his or her will on the other.

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1
and 6:
This is a power struggle waiting to happen. The 6 wants and needs to a
caretaker. The 1 has an absolute need to be independent and
unrestrained. This can be a successful pairing only if they can work
past this roadblock, and give each other the support they both need.

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1
and 7:
These are very different energies but ones that somehow blend nicely.
The 7 provides wise insights while the 1 becomes a needed motivator.
The key is to understand the tendencies; the 1 can get too busy with
the outer world to always be there for the 7, and the 7 can be too into
their own world to be there for the 1. Neither should take this absence
personally.

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1
and 8:
From a business standpoint, this is a good match. But from the love
angle, it is questionable at best. Both are so assertive and demanding,
that expectations can far exceed reality. Negative feedback from either
will be deadly in this pairing. Success depends on a open and mutual
willingness to compromise and limit demands.

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1
and 9:
The 9 brings a selflessness to the relationship which allows the 1 to
operate in an environment that is understanding and smooth flowing. The
1 will have to learn to share the partner who is inclined to extend a
giving nature outside the home. If there is trouble in this partnership
it will generally come from the 9s difficulty tolerating the 1's
assertive and individualistic behavior.

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2
and 2:
A great match of two souls both needing to give and receive love.
Experts at mediation, they have little difficulty finding common ground
on just about any issue that arises. The only word of caution for this
pairing is that they must each remember how thin their own skin is so
as to not cause verbal injury to the other. Generally this is not a
problem because of their polite manner and mutual respect.

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2
and 3:
These are potentially very good partners because of the good humor and
good chemistry. The 3 is always "on stage" and full of life and social
energy, while the 2 is happy as a lark standing back and enjoying the
show. The 2 balances the needs of the 3 by providing a soothing and
calming influence.

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2
and 4:
This is a steady pairing resulting in comfort personified. When it
comes to home and family, the 4 is the ultimate builder and provider.
Security is 4's forte. Nothing is more appealing to the 2 than home,
hearth, and family. The only difficulty likely here is one of
perception. The 2 needs love to be shown and always physically
apparent, and the 4 is sometimes not so demonstrative.

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2
and 5:
The 2 needs family and an ever present sense of being loved, and the 5
need total freedom to pursue whatever avenues appear on the horizon.
This is one where the chemistry has to be very strong in order for the
two very different souls to forge some significant compromises.
Obviously, these two can provide a lot that may otherwise be missing,
but it won't be an easy road.

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2
and 6:
This is another good love match. The 6 ranks first in family while the
2 tops the chart in love and caring. Still the pair need to watch their
Ps and Qs as the 6 has a surprising need for approbation, and 2's thin
skin can suffer with the direct and demanding approach that sometimes
characterizes the 6. Considerations of feelings is a must.

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2
and 7:
This is a couple that has some strong and dissimilar needs. The 2's
need for demonstrative love and 7's need for a good deal of space and
solitude make this a pairing that will work only if both can stay tuned
in to the other's needs and be willing to cater to them at least to
some degree. Generally the 2 will have to find something to occupy much
of the time that would otherwise be devoted to the mate.

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2
and 8:
A pairing that usually works very well because it is likely that each
has a clear vision of their role. The 8 is about the outer world of
business and attainment, taking care of the financial needs of the
family. The 2 takes care of the family and is there to pamper the ego
of their partner. A pitfall in this relationship can occur if the 8
fails to sufficiently value the labors of the 2. Generally, this is the
classic traditional family model, or in the case of the male 2, female
8, the classic male/female role reversal.

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2
and 9:
These two can have a wonderful relationship or it can be not so
wonderful. The 2 needs constant attention, and certainly the 9 is a
caring individual. But the care they naturally possess is spread to all
humanity and often it is not focused enough at home. The 9 is a natural
leader and the 2 is a natural follower, so there is always hope. The 9
needs to remember that the 2 hates to be alone, and the 2 needs to be
forewarned that the 9's love will only stretch so far.

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3
and 3:
Wild and interesting describes this pairing of two with so much
creative and social potential. No one has more fun that a pair of 3s
who understand and support one another. The question may become who is
going to take care of the mundane. The pitfall of this relationship
comes when neither partner can hold on to reins of practical everyday
details.

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3
and 4:
When the spontaneous 3 pairs with the micro-manager 4, something has to
give, and often it won't. The 3 will take each day as it comes while
the 4 has to have a definite plan far into the future. If the two can
ever figure out how to meet in the middle, they will do a good job of
balancing each other's shortcomings. The 3 will show the 4 how to have
fun while the 4 can give the 3 a needed sense of security.

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3
and 5:
This is one of the most social combination you will find. The two will
generally find each other very interesting and their ability to
entertain will be never ending. Social opportunities, travel, and
numerous activities promise this relationship won't get boring. Both
are creative by nature, yet neither excels at managing the budget, so
everyday affairs can cause problems sometimes.

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3
and 6:
This is a natural combination that works well in most cases. The 3 is
full of enthusiasm and ideas, and the 6 provides the stability,
support, and encouragement that often makes this combination an idea
team in many ways. The chemistry here is very strong and durable. The
challenge of this combination can come in the form of 6 jealous
feelings toward the oft flirtatious 3. Usually it will be the 6 who
will have to learn to deal with an inborn trait.

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3
and 7:
These two are about as different as people get. The 3 wants to be
constantly on the go with a swirl of activity, travel, and social
contact that the 7 will find intolerable. The 7 needs solitude and can
only take so much human contact before retreating to their preferred
peace and quiet. Confrontation in this pairing never works well, and it
will be up to both to understand the long-term need for compromise. The
key to success here is open dialog regarding wants, needs, and goals.

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3
and 8:
This is a combination that requires extra effort mostly because of the
departure of needs. The 8 needs goals and authority to feel happy, and
efforts focused here leave the 3 without needed attention and
stimulation. The secret to success in this combination, if there is
one, is frequent getaways; periods when the 3 gets the 8 away from
business and relaxed enough to have some fun. There isn't much
frivolity in the 8, and this can sometimes be a tough sale.

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3
and 9:
This is a wonderful combination of two people who are apt to keep each
other endlessly engaged in a variety of creative ways. Both like to be
on stage and both are interested in people. They care about people and
the 9 can be generous to a fault. The 9 is the teacher and the 3 is the
ever eager student. Sharing experience is a never ending joy of this
pairing. The problem the couple faces is settling down, feathering a
nest, and keeping the bills paid. Even after they are settled and set,
romantic adventures will always be important.

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4
and 4:
The keywords for this combination are solid and secure. For individuals
who need to know that the bills are paid and future is totally secure,
who better to fill this need than another 4. These two will share goals
that they work for and nearly always achieve. Success is measured by a
sense that growth is continual and this includes love and romance. The
down side of this pairing, if there is one, is the sense that nothing
is ever completely okay. It's hard to relax , be spontaneous, and enjoy
the moment and each other. Nonetheless, there are few relationships
destined to be more stable than this one.

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4
and 5:
Challenge. The 4 and the 5 have different temperaments and different
ways of communicating. The 4 is very direct to the point, while the 5
will be more diplomatic and indirect. 4s don't like change, and 5s have
to have it. To find success, this couple will need to respect the
difference and pay attention to what is said and what is inferred.

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4
and 6:
A comfortable match of traditional types, this pairing has promise from
the very beginning. Chances are the 6 will want to take the lead in
this relationship, and a secure home and family are all that is needed
to produce a satisfying long-term situation. The challenge of this
relationship is compromise. Neither is very good at this.

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4
and 7:
This is a relationship that has a serious tone about it and may be
driven by a mutual need for security. It is loyal and devoted, even it
it may lack the fire and passion of some combinations. The 4 is a
natural provider of rock solid security and home values. The 7 provides
a quest for continued mental development and adventure. The combination
makes life both secure and yet more interesting for both.

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4
and 8:
This is a comfortable pairing because both parties understand hard work
and have a good head for business and getting ahead in the world. The 4
is the cautious planner, while the 8 has a more grandiose approach to
endeavors. The only problem probably can be one of finding the time to
spend together in a quest for romance. Yet this is a couple that knows
how to build for the future and develop a very secure relationship.

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4
and 9:
These two are so very different that successful pairings are rare. The
9 is far more social and fosters deep humanitarian instincts. The 4 is
focused on the basics of building a secure and solid immediate world.
To succeed in a relationship requires both to be aware of how different
their approaches are, and somehow muster a willingness to accept. The 4
will certainly appreciate the 9's knowledge and intelligence, and the 9
must likewise value the 4's ruthless consistency.

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5
and 5:
A pair of 5s is a very compatible couple who prize their freedom to be
different and adventuresome. Few others will be as open to the constant
flow of new ideas and changes so common in the 5. In this relationship,
partners easily anticipate what the other is thinking and where they
are going. And they also have a sense for staying out of the way and
accepting the freewheeling lifestyle. 5s choosing to support one
another can do just about anything. The difficulty with this pairing is
focus, and there may be a problem handling the mundane day-to-day
affairs.

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5
and 6:
This is a combination requiring great compromise since the 5 thrives on
freedom and space, and the 6 is noted for exerting control and
nurturing supervision. The 6 wants complete commitment, and the 5 is
looking for adventure and new horizons. In a relationship, they would
probably be good for each other if they could find a way to meet
somewhere near the middle. They must avoid any tendency to become
entrenched in positions that just won't work for the other.

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5
and 7:
This is a relationship which is more or less free of rules and
procedures. In some ways, these two are much alike and the relationship
is generally very compatible. The 7 values the time to be alone and
enjoy the world of study and reflection in their private space. At the
same time, the 5 has plenty going on and appreciates not having demands
for attention being the paramount feature of the relationship. Yet
these two can get together and find a never ending stream of mutual
interests to discuss and explore.

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5
and 8:
This is a relationship between two individuals who don't always follow
the rules, and they might find themselves locking horns on the rules of
a relationship. The 8 is used to being the boss and dominating most
situations. The 5 seeks freedom from any restraints. The 8 is focused
on success, particularly in a financial sense, and the 5 doesn't even
want to think about money. It will take careful planning and compromise
to make this relationship work.

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5
and 9:
This is a relationship between two who may find it hard to work the
relationship into their busy schedules. Both of these numbers represent
people who are apt to be in a constant state of transition and change.
In this regard they have much in common and will generally find each
other very interesting, for the moment or for the long haul. The
compassion of the 9 and progressive thinking of the 5 seems to blend
well. Establishing a commitment to security is a must.

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6
and 6:
This is a combination charged with romance, but in essence it is rather
practical by nature. Home and family is second nature here, and these
will be the top priorities for sure. This is a very compatible pairing.
The 6 knows what's best for their partner, so they do a good job of
taking care of each other, and a family is a must. Yet the 6 by its
nature wants the whole family under his/her thumb, so the challenge may
be in agreeing who is going to be charge. The circumstances of the
relationship will usually be able to sort this out.

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6
and 7:
These are two very different people with very different ideas about a
relationship. The 6 is openly interested in a permanent situation
complete with a stable home and family. With the secretive 7, it is
hard to tell what the goal might be, and only time will tell. Despite
the sexual attraction that may be present, this is a very challenged
combination. The 6 is too controlling, and the 7 just isn't to be
closely managed. The compromises required in this relationship really
bend and manipulate the natural traits of both numbers.

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6
and 8:
This is a very positive and compatible relationship of two who are
usually open and positive in most that they do. This is a couple with
big ideas, and their ideas are usually brought to reality in grand
fashion. The home will provide plenty of space for family, work, and
frequent entertaining of their many friends. A down side to the
relationship can occur if the possessive 6 has to compete too much with
the business interests of the 8. Likewise, the 8 will be frustrated
when the demands at home cramp the executive lifestyle and obligations.

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6
and 9:
This is generally a very compatible relationship prospect as the 9 is
one of the few numbers to gain 6's utmost respect. In a family
situation, the 6 is unsurpassed as a manager, and the 9 is never
reticent in heaping praise in recognition. This often creates a mutual
admiration environment that provides a happy home for both partners.
The 6 helps the 9 stay focused on details and common sense issues,
while the 9 broadens the 6's outlook and sense of the world at large.
The expansiveness of this pairing may suggest the need to keep a close
eye on the budget.

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7
and 7:
This is one situation in which no one understands the eccentricities of
a 7 nearly as well as another 7. Thus, this is a very compatible
pairing. With the right attitude, this couple will find the interest to
freely explore the world together, or spend their days in happy
solitude together. Chances are you are on the same psychic wavelength,
so you will surely catch the signals as they flash by. The downside of
this pairing is the tendency to not communicate, so an effort may have
to be made to keep the lines open and operating.

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7
and 8:
This is a combination that seems to work well physically, but one which
is plagued with problems on the emotional level. The 8 has a tendency
to dominate and control, and the 7 is a very private person prone to
resist attempts to exert authority. The power of both numbers can
result in frequent verbal battles. Yet there is a stability factor in
the pairing that makes long-term success a possibility if
accommodations can be reached.

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7
and 9:
This couple is anything but neutral in their affiliation. They are
listed neutral because the relationship can go either way depending
largely on spiritual beliefs. Both have strong spiritual inclinations
and deeply held positions. However, these views of the spiritual and
God often divide along rigidly held lines. In such cases, compromise is
usually not an option. When the spiritual positions are in harmony,
this can be a very compatible combination.

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8
and 8:
This pairing might be known as the "Dynamic Duo" as this is a
combination that is full of passion and romance. Indeed, this pairing
is a strong and enduring match- up. Yet both partners will be easily
distracted by the events in their life as goals and professional
demands often supersede romantic possibilities. Solid as the
relationship probably is, the couple may have a hard time communicating
the depth of feeling in either word or deed. Guard against competing
with one another, and getting caught up in schedules and the demands of
work. Make time for each other and always focus on being equal partners.

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8
and 9:
This is a challenging combination in which two highly motivated
individuals - motivated in very different ways - find it hard to accept
the ways of the other. In general the goals of the 9 are lofty and may
have a humanitarian bend, while the 8 seeks the reward that comes with
development of leadership and material success. To have much of a
chance, the 8 will have to appreciate the lessons that can be learned
from their generous partner. When they are able to work as a team, this
is a powerful and often inspirational pair. Too often, however, the
combination fails to click.

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9
and 9:
This relationship has much promise as it usually engages two
charismatic types possessing much intellectual stimulation. The nature
of the 9 is selfless, so this combination usually faces few challenges;
each wanting to please the other and always be there for each other. A
relationship offering the opportunity to grow, learn, and serve, this
is often an inspiring combination.