Wednesday, July 18, 2018

Read an article about Mum-shaming today... Made me recount of how many thousand times people keep telling me I should do this, I should do that, which includes keeping my marriage, for my childrens’ sake. Which I did, for 8 freaking years. I tried my best lah.

But in actual fact, does my children felt happy that I’ve done so? I’m not sure.

My elder girl, whom was 7 years old that time, said something, and I remembered very clearly till now. Her dad kept wanting to fight for her custody and bring her away... His non-stop abuses and insults led her to say this, “Mummy I think I’ll follow him lah, if not he won’t stop scolding you & he will hit you again.”

Those words broke my heart. I was so weak then, that I needed my 7yo to protect me, when I should be the one protecting them.

You know how lessons and experiences made people stronger and stronger? I guess I’m trained to be. Now ah, try me, I’m not so weak anymore. 😬

Fast forward few years later, which is now, when I’m ALONE supporting myself, the house, and them, those “you should do that, you should do that” come again. And it really really make me realised, it’s impossible to have work life balance after having kids.

I’m stuck in a dilemma of, 1) if I don’t work, where to find money? 2) if I don’t accompany my kids MORE, I’ll regret in future.

I’ve to emphasise on the word “MORE” cos I do accompany them, but they expected more.

I’m thinking, everyone knows they’re humans and expected to be treated fairly. Then what about me? Am I not human? Having to carry soooo much loads alone, and yet I’m expected to have more time.

Every extra things you’re giving your kids, means you have to work extra harder.

Like how? Teach me lor. If I don’t go out and find more customers, follow up, sales will automatically come to me ah? Won’t I be worried if I’ve no sales and can’t pay off all my stuff? Money will drop from sky huh??

Well, I’ve people (friends, his friends) msging me, telling me how capable I am, how am I a role model to them, blah blah. Hahaha no lor. I do breakdown too. But I always tell myself that I need to do better after every cry. And cannot be when I’m crying, I must tell people “I’m crying” mah. It’s okay to cry lah, but need to pick yourself up after that. 加油!

Haiz... #justranting and I hope people can really stop all their “you should do this, you should do that” to all parents. Not busy enough looking after your own huh?? Why must poke into others’ business? Every parent also know that they should do this, they should do that, but not everyone has the luxury to do so.

If you think that I should do this, I should do that, can can, come and help me pay for everything plus allowance ok? Then I will do this, I will do that. 😑

Homecook every meals? No problem. Send them to & fro school? No problem. Sit beside them to complete their hw, spelling & 听写 everyday? No problem too. I’ll have all the time what, if I don’t have to work & don’t have to rack my brain at all.

Q&A on cutting down expenses! Once and for all! LOL

Q1) Why do you need to drive a Merc?

A1) It’s for my work!!! I’ve to exchange car with customers always. Some customers are nice, some customers are more kiasi, which I don’t blame them. You think if I drive a cherry qq, they will allow me to take their car meh? To me, a car is just a transport. Every car is a good car as long as it don’t give problem!

Q2) Why don’t you sell or rent out Senja?

A2) I can’t sell yet but planning to after 5 years. Very shiong to be a house owner. 😬 As for why I didn’t rent it out, okay, cos my kids love there a lot and they finally have their own room. The only room available to rent is their room as I hacked away one room. (No intention to rent initially!) Also, I’ve no time & money for more troubles; toilet clog lah, this spoil that spoil lah.

Q3) Anymore question?

Just so you know, I’m one who think a lot. There’s a reason why I do things the way I did. Despite all, I didn’t bring any trouble to my family or anyone. I take good care of my own stuff, that’s enough. And this is precisely what I want my daughters to be, “be responsible for your own life, becos only you can help yourself.” I’m showing example ah, no meh?

Right now, I’ve already let Raeann decide her own life at P5. She wants tuition, okay, I pay. But she has to be there on time every lesson. (I never force her to go for any tuition or enrichment anymore.) She wants to sleep late, okay, but she still has to wake up at 5:45am on school days, automatically.

My friends were like, “Huh? 5:45am, so 可怜! Let her sleep later then u send her to school lah?”

NO WAY. What 可怜? Got school bus must 偷笑 already lor. I used to wake up at 5:30am everyday when I was in primary school, automatically. My parents never have to wake up to wake me up at all. This is self discipline. She has to do it in future when she work too? Don’t tell me I’ve to wake her up everyday and send her to work until she’s 30+ years old ah?

Of cos, sometimes if I’m free, and not tired, I’ll send her to her class etc. But I always tell her, this is not a routine, it’s a bonus.

I’m training her to have my mindset (Nobody owes you anything!). And she will gets stronger after every difficulty she faced.

Thursday, June 28, 2018

To be honest, they performed like shit this WC, and their Away jersey is damn ugly (cos I really hate green 😬), but I’ll still support them, no matter what!

Good that they’re out also lah, so I’ll quit and focus on my work. 😂 Cos WC is indeed turning my life upside down. I actually stopped last whole week cos I was busy with work, I only watched Germany (and that day) matches, then I stopped again until today.

So now, let me emo finish and I’ll get back to work again. Hahahaha

I SOLD 10 VEHICLES THIS MONTH! 5 TO BE DELIVERED THIS WEEK! 😊

And it’s really comforting to see such comments, knowing people appreciated me for all the extra miles I did for all my customers. Really thanks for all the supports and trust. I always deliver what I promised. 😊

MY BIRTHDAY

I told everyone that I don’t like to celebrate birthday, I don’t like to be centre of attraction (where everyone is looking at me & the cake), I don’t like people to waste $ on me, birthday is just another day to me. (And don’t you think it’s very sad if people only remember you once a year? I spend my life as though it’s my birthday everyday leh. 😂)

But this group of brothers and sisters really came up with a good plan to surprise me. I didn’t suspect AT ALL! Thank you all so much lah! 😊

Wendy also brought me to this jin atas place! Ambience is cool, service is good, but food so-so only. Thanks babe! ❤️

Meeting Mel tomorrow. Aiyo. I’m really paiseh when they keep ‘dating’ me and I keep postponing it, due to work and family. 😬 Of cos, I felt so blessed and loved, by all of them. To all my friends, thanks for remembering me, and the effort on our friendship! People come and go in life, I’m glad you all stayed. 😇

Okay, I’ve been aiming this bag for a long time, but didn’t get it cos too expensive for it’s small size, can’t bear to buy it.

This man really really dotes on me. But sometimes, unknowingly and unintentionally made me angry, but never for once (after throwing all my tantrums at him) he blow his top at me before. Thank you for lovin’ me lah! 😘

Sunday, May 20, 2018

And seriously, don't buy those ahjiparia brand whereby it's being installed for a show only. It's cheap, but useless, cos it won't help when you need it. If you need any recommendation or good lobang (local set with warranty), contact me @ 90087688. I've intro-ed to many customers and they're all satisfied with his wiring work and service. And price is damn attractive, given that installation is included. Sometimes, if arranged earlier, he will even go to your place to fix it, at no additional charges.

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Spent the whole night reading up about 🐌, the positive and the negative. Okay, I’m just kpo cos afterall, I’m a Singaporean mah. To be honest, it has been raved on my newsfeed everyday but I didn’t show any interest in it until hell breaks loose! 😬

However, my bf bought me a bottle of shampoo to try, just to support his friend. Wah, a small bottle costs $25 lor, I told him, “omg, this is so expensive, I need to use it slowly!”

TRUE REVIEW

It doesn’t work on me. In fact, my scalp gets more itchy after using. But I didn’t talk about it at all, cos ‘one size doesn’t fit all’, it didn’t work on me, doesn’t mean that it won’t work on others too.

I DON’T BELIEVE IN ALL THESE THOUGH

Okay, just like the LED tooth whitening kit (which many of my friends used to sell), I didn’t even bother to click on it. Look what happened now?

No, don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I don’t trust my friends, but I just don’t trust the ‘miracles’ of the product that people claimed.

I’ve been approached by many to sell all these, be it skincare or consumable products. But I’ve politely rejected all of them. I told them, “I myself need to try and be convinced first. If I can’t even convince myself (to even try), how am I able to convince others?”

Truth is, I don’t dare.

Yup, even though I used to do reviews on beauty products. Plenty of research were done on each product first, to prevent giving wrong info to readers who trusted me. And I don’t dare to accept any adverts involving facial. Becos hello, my face leh, later rot how? Consumable products are worse, cos some side effects don’t appear instantly.

I do buy to support friends, but to sell, absolutely NO-NO. It’s impossible to recruit me, so don’t even waste time trying. I’m very adamant on this.

But don’t worry, I’ll help to promote if I’ve tried and think it’s really good, when I’m free, or when people ask me. (Just like the workshop and spray paint shop, I don’t earn a cent from recommending, but they’re indeed good, so I recommended them to everyone who asked me. This is the genuine ‘words of mouth’.)

MLM

Well, even though all (not only 🐌 lah) claimed that they’re not MLM, which technically speaking, they’re not cos they don’t function exactly the same way MLM does, but when there’s a tier levels of earning/discount, it’s MLM to me lah!

My definition of MLM is, making use of people’s credibility and words of mouth, using ‘recruitment’ as the first step and you’ve to pay to join them lor! 😑

Once you’re in, you will strongly promote the products to your own network then after that, recruit ‘downlines’. Your ‘downlines’ will get stocks from you, and the more stocks (got quota one) you order from your ‘upline’, you will be promoted to the next tier, thus cheaper price (likewise for your ‘upline’). Therefore, you’re earning from your lower tier too, no? This cycle will go on and on...

Who earned the most then? Think about it yourself. So, isn’t this considered some kind of MLM too? 🤔

Well, I’ve never trusted any MLM before. I just can’t accept the idea of having to fork out an upfront payment to join them; registeration fee, some called it ‘security deposit’ + starter kit. Siao bo! Pay to work and promote for them? Joke! 😂

❌ Don’t be silly to think that it’s your own business and that’s why you need capital for it. IT IS NOT YOUR OWN BUSINESS, becos you totally have NO control over it. Let’s put it this way, IF one day, something happened to the founder, and the Company suddenly shut down, who are you? Don’t be naive and get fooled by their ‘sweet talks’. They’re nice to you cos you’re helping them to earn money, that’s all!

DON’T EXAGGERATE!

Okay, this is the most important point of this post, I guess which is why people are starting to post negative stuffs about it now — don’t claim things that are not true just to sell your products. (In this case, resellers cannot be blamed, unless they know about it!)

HSA will not (and need not to) test and give approval to sell such products in Singapore, you just have to notify them. So by saying it’s #HSAApproved is very misleading.

It’s just like IF I tell people I’m Case Trust Accreditted (when I’m not) to gain assurance by making use of the authority, it’s not right. #ifyougetwhatimean

Be very honest with all the content too. Don’t market it as 100% natural/organic/vegan (made of plants only, this is what my bf was told) and it’s safe for everyone (including preggies and babies) when it does contain chemicals. Who knows if someone is allergy to that one particular chemical leh?

Yes, it’s easier to sell with such claims cos most people will trust what you claimed without researching. But there will be people who have all the time in the world to dig out all the infos.

NOTE TO CONSUMERS

Regardless of what products/brands, you have to try it at your own risk. There’s no 100% assurance on everything.

Once again, I’ve to emphasise, I’ve nothing against 🐌 and I’m not saying that their products are toxic/harmful becos it did show positive results on some people, just unfortunately, not me!

P/S: What’s your take on this? Are you using 🐌🐌 too? If yes, did it works?!

Thursday, May 3, 2018

Disclaimer: I’m merely speaking out true facts and my own personal preference. I’ve nothing against hatchback cars and not targeting anyone, those driving a hatchback, don’t hate me for no reason. You can don’t agree with me de, I’m just voicing out my own opinions.

What inspired me to blog about this is cos, today I sold an Avante to a first-timer customer. He approached me in Feb. (So sorry to keep him waiting! 😬)

He initially wanted a Honda Fit. And reason why he needs a car now is cos he has a newborn. I kept trying to talk him out to look for another car cos Fit’s boot space is very small. Will be hard to put car seat, pram etc. Until today, I told him the most important reason why I keep recommending him a sedan car instead...

Becos of this accident!

Which happened when I was driving my previous BMW (can you imagine the impact when BMW is such a hard car?). It happened when I was stopping at the traffic light (cos red light) and the bus driver couldn’t brake in time.

So can you imagine if I was driving a hatchback and I’ve passengers behind? (CHOY CHOY CHOY. It sounds so unlucky so I rarely bring this up.) From then, I swear to myself that I’ll never ever buy a hatchback again.

Moreover, the purpose of buying the car is to ferry his baby and wife around which obviously, they will be sitting behind. Nowadays, SG is flooded with vehicles. Even if you’re a safety driver, okay I don’t wish to continue liao, but better be safe than sorry.

I treated all my customers like my friends so I always offered my most genuine and honest opinions. If they insist, I’ll still lookout for them. I’ll put every factors into consideration before recommending the car to them.

Most of my customers have no idea what car they want, so I’ll ask some questions before I proceed with the search. A lot of them are budget constrained. So I’ll always try to find and work out something that fits their budget. (And if really really no choice cos of their budget, a small hatchback will be more suitable.)

Wah, talking about this, hahaha, I’ve become very pro in counting all these. No joke, I can ‘tak tak tak’ everything out on calculator within split seconds. I think this is call “practice makes perfect” cos I’ve been helping customer to count and count and count.

And cos lately ah, I’ve done quite a number of direct owner deals, so I can agar agar estimate out how much will the insurance be, that makes it easier for me to tell customer roughly how much cash they have to fork out.

I’m glad that many customers saw my professionalism and passion in this job, supported and trusted me so much. (To a point, they’d rather wait for me to find!)

I’m sorry that sometimes shit happened. (I’ll never recommend a car that I personally think it’s shit lah.) It’s like cos I’ve no idea when the car will break down too, due to wear and tear. But rest assure that I’ll help to solve the problem as much as I can, ASAP.

Most of my customers are very understanding lah, maybe cos those fussy and crazy ones, I’d rather don’t sell lor cos I’m scared! I always think that, if you don’t trust me, then don’t look for me.

Ask anyone around, no matter you buy or didn’t buy from me, I’ll always help if you approached me. And well, I don’t earn a single cent from recommending workshop to you. I merely intro cos I trusted that they won’t cheat you as I personally go to them too.

I’ve seen how mechanics work (the time, energy and effort they put in), and know how much is the reasonable amount to pay. If workshops cover me, it means adding cost to the customer only. How much can I earn from it sia? I’d rather don’t earn and ask them to give customers better price lor! Well, so far, recommended soooooo many people there, none of them came back with bad feedbacks. I’m happy lah! 😊

Dial the car hotline 90087688 if you’ve any queries, need help, need insurance quotes (Oh ya, a friend in the finance company introduced this agent to me, wah, her price ah, very good lor, better than the previous few 😬, did many times with her liao, I’m gonna switch to her side also!), need recommendation of workshop, spraypaint shop, grooming shop, sticker shop, tyre shop etc etc ok? 😂 (Cos this number has long ago became a car hotline! LOL)

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Yes, I’m very very very busy. (Sold 3 new and 1 used cars in 5 days!) Been on the road till wanna vomit... Calls and msgs keep coming in, see phone until banged wall... 😂😂😂

No dents but headlight cracked!!! 😱😱😱

I was told headlight for conti is damn freaking expensive!!! For new Japanese cars too, very ex. So please, take care of your headlights. 😬

But but but...

You know what’s the privilege of being in the car trade?

I got a pair of (used for 2 months) original at only $220!!! And...

Friends fixing it for me late at night! 😊

So both my headlights look like brand new now. Original somemore. ℓσℓ (No idea why I banged car bang until so happy. 😅) And I've arranged for people to come to my place for a ceramic coating over the weekend when I'm not in SG, sibei cheap also. Then, a dealer helped me to order (and will fix) running Merc light!!! Will blog about it after it's done. My Benz will be so chio, can't wait, so excited.

Actually, this is the first time I'm spending money ON my car. I just don't like the idea of it leh. Cos to me, car will scrap one day what, zhng this zhng that end up also no value, AT ALL. Might as well save the $ up, to buy a better car? I had this mindset since the first day I owned a car (at 18? lol), I don't spend on cars. And I'm so proud to say, since then, I pay for (and own) my own car. That's why when I buy car, I don't need anyone's permission. I bought then inform, cos I'm paying it myself mah.

O'rite, gtg and pack luggage and clear all my billsssssssssss. Blog again when I'm back ya! ^^