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Feeling Like A Complete Loser After Rejection At School

I got rejected by a girl at my school and now things are very awkward.

At my university, there's a store in my residence building.

There's this girl who has been working in the store for about 1 year.

I've always been super attracted to her from day 1.

She is not stereo-typically hot but there's just something about her that I find very attractive, i get instant boner looking at her most days i go in the store.

so at first, I would just go in , buy my things and leave, i was super attracted to her but she didnt seem attracted to me, and sometimes she would give me these dirty/bitchy looks for no reason so I assumed just no chance. also, this is school so i have to be very careful.

but then in past few weeks, when i would go in she seemed nervous around me and she would hold eye contact and give me this submissive look.

So i assumed something happened and she was now attracted to me.

so yesterday, i go in the store, its mothers day this week so i ask her if she can help me pick something i can cook for my mom.

she is very helpful and tells me how to bake my mom a cake and what ill need to do that.

as im paying for my stuff i tell her that when she first started working there I did not think she was very nice because of the bitchy looks she gave me but that I now think she is very nice.

after i pay for my stuff, i go to exit but then as i reach the door, I think to myself "fuck it"....

so i turn around and walk back towards her and say....

Me: I hesitate to ask this because you work here, but , are you single?

Her: No I have a boyfriend

Me: well, you're very attractive

Her: Thank you

After this I exit feeling like i made a mistake

anyways, today i went back in the store around 5 PM to buy some snacks and she was there again, when i walked in she greeted me but her vibe was like she was uncomfortable and honestly i was also uncomfortable

and then later today i went back to the store again around 9 PM and she was still there and her vibe was basically neutral, like i was just another customer, she greeted me and told me where to find what i was looking for.

One thing I did notice tonight is usually if im looking for something she will escort me to the area and grab it and give it to me, tonight when i went at 9 pm, i was looking for band aids, instead of walking and getting them for me, she pointed at the area where i could get them....to me this seemed like a clear indication of disinterest and that she doesn't want to get physically near me anymore

maybe I'm overthinking but that stood out in my mind.

now I'm not sure how to proceed.

also, this girl is brown/indian and I'm black so i dont have a lot of experience with her type since brown girls dont seem into black guys at all or at least not into me at all.

I only made a move because i really felt she was attracted me.

But now I feel i fucked up.

I go to that store pretty much every day and multiple times a day sometimes, so i will be seeing her over and over and i dont know how to proceed

do i still have any chance at all of fucking this girl?

is she creeped out by me and i should stay out of the store and find somewhere else to buy my things?

is she going to tell other people who work at the store that i made a move on her?

This fucking sucks because this is my school and residence; i dont want to get a bad reputation.

It's fine, all this post is telling me is that you're new and overthinking things. Congrats on getting your first rejection, hopefully soon you'll get your first fuck...

But really, something like this happened to me in high school where I approached this hot chick and had like a panic attack midway through. Afterward, I though it was the end of the world and that she thought I was creepy/awkward/a loser etc. Actually, she was super nice and we were friendly for the rest of high school (I wasn't, and you shouldn't be, her friend).

So moral of the story is that you're fine right now. From your description, she rejected you and wasn't super creeped out. Though you have to move on now. Going back to the store later AFTER she rejected you is getting into weird/creepy land.

"do i still have any chance at all of fucking this girl?"

no

"is she creeped out by me and i should stay out of the store and find somewhere else to buy my things?"

no, it's okay to buy things as long as you don't continue to hit on her or even worse leer (aka creepily stare) at her. In fact, I think it'd be a good step of growth if you can man up and handle the rejection with class by being able to shop there and handle your business like nothing happened. She's just your cashier dude

"is she going to tell other people who work at the store that i made a move on her?"

She might mention it for like 5 seconds, but honestly the whole thing sounds so boring that she probably didn't. Main thing now is MOVE ON TO THE NEXT GIRL.

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You are fine now, but drop any thought of having sex with her. You're in college, there's plenty of women around and you finally have gotten the cajones to talk to them

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It's fine, all this post is telling me is that you're new and overthinking things. Congrats on getting your first rejection, hopefully soon you'll get your first fuck...

But really, something like this happened to me in high school where I approached this hot chick and had like a panic attack midway through. Afterward, I though it was the end of the world and that she thought I was creepy/awkward/a loser etc. Actually, she was super nice and we were friendly for the rest of high school (I wasn't, and you shouldn't be, her friend).

So moral of the story is that you're fine right now. From your description, she rejected you and wasn't super creeped out. Though you have to move on now. Going back to the store later AFTER she rejected you is getting into weird/creepy land.

"do i still have any chance at all of fucking this girl?"

no

"is she creeped out by me and i should stay out of the store and find somewhere else to buy my things?"

no, it's okay to buy things as long as you don't continue to hit on her or even worse leer (aka creepily stare) at her. In fact, I think it'd be a good step of growth if you can man up and handle the rejection with class by being able to shop there and handle your business like nothing happened. She's just your cashier dude

"is she going to tell other people who work at the store that i made a move on her?"

She might mention it for like 5 seconds, but honestly the whole thing sounds so boring that she probably didn't. Main thing now is MOVE ON TO THE NEXT GIRL.

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You are fine now, but drop any thought of having sex with her. You're in college, there's plenty of women around and you finally have gotten the cajones to talk to them

thank you for taking the time to help me.

I just want to remind you that I went back to the store because i always go to that store.

I've been going to that store daily since before she worked there.

That's where i buy pretty much everything.

I did not go back to that store specifically to see her again.

I went back to the store because i had some things i legit needed to buy.