SPANKING

Do you find it acceptable to spank your kids? If you do what age do you think is appropriate? If not why do you feel that way? Do you think spanking a kid can affect them emotionally? Does it make them respect you or be scared of you?

Do you find it acceptable to spank your kids? If you do what age do you think is appropriate? If not why do you feel that way? Do you think spanking a kid can affect them emotionally? Does it make them respect you or be scared of you?

Oooo good tread. Well I was spanked as a child. And I turned out to be respectful of others and I'm pretty stable minded. Lol I remember it being for good reason and never over the top. I knew I deserved it when I got it. But with all the talk about how it's abuse now, it worries me a bit to spank. I think that kids today are being over spoiled and under disciplined. I think time outs are appropriate for most cases after 2 yrs and spanks after 3yrs but only in very serious cases. Example: if my son continuously yells at me and I've given him a timeout and he still disrespects me I'll give him a spank. And it's more the action then the force I don't do it hard a all, its a tap. Or if he does something very dangerous that he knows he shouldn't be doing like dancing on the side of the tub or trying to reach for something ontop of the fridge. But I won't spanks outside my house

Oooo good tread. Well I was spanked as a child. And I turned out to be respectful of others and I'm pretty stable minded. Lol I remember it being for good reason and never over the top. I knew I deserved it when I got it. But with all the talk about how it's abuse now, it worries me a bit to spank. I think that kids today are being over spoiled and under disciplined. I think time outs are appropriate for most cases after 2 yrs and spanks after 3yrs but only in very serious cases. Example: if my son continuously yells at me and I've given him a timeout and he still disrespects me I'll give him a spank. And it's more the action then the force I don't do it hard a all, its a tap. Or if he does something very dangerous that he knows he shouldn't be doing like dancing on the side of the tub or trying to reach for something ontop of the fridge. But I won't spanks outside my house

"I think that kids today are being over spoiled and under disciplined." That's exactly how I feel. My MIL still thinks her 10 year old son is a baby so it's okay for him to scream at her, throw tantrums, etc. It is so annoying. She always says shes going to spank him, to which he responds "no your not." because he knows it's just an empty threat!

"I think that kids today are being over spoiled and under disciplined." That's exactly how I feel. My MIL still thinks her 10 year old son is a baby so it's okay for him to scream at her, throw tantrums, etc. It is so annoying. She always says shes going to spank him, to which he responds "no your not." because he knows it's just an empty threat!

I think my mom spanked me and my brother a little too vigorously and I think my aggressive temperament has been affected by it. With that being said though I haven't gotten into an actual fight in years because once u reach a certain point u have to blame urself and stop blaming others. Once I realized my bad attitude was my problem and the world wasn't out to get me I mellowed out a lot

I think my mom spanked me and my brother a little too vigorously and I think my aggressive temperament has been affected by it. With that being said though I haven't gotten into an actual fight in years because once u reach a certain point u have to blame urself and stop blaming others. Once I realized my bad attitude was my problem and the world wasn't out to get me I mellowed out a lot

I was spanked as a kid so was my husband never abusively. Every child learns differently and needs different things. I believe spanking should be a last resort and never done out of crazy anger. I think it's acceptable to spank if done in a resonable way

I was spanked as a kid so was my husband never abusively. Every child learns differently and needs different things. I believe spanking should be a last resort and never done out of crazy anger. I think it's acceptable to spank if done in a resonable way

My parents were separated and I was spanked a few times from my mom mostly from fighting with siblings or all of us getting in trouble together and my dad spanked me once and I was devastated hehe but I never really needed to be. Then later on my step mom and dad had two boys and she's a yeller and it always made me sad and I still hate it and get uncomfortable around it I think it's stupid. And it doesn't phase my brothers usually but if sometimes one brother use to get really upset when being yelled at (made me mad too because it was usually something stupid where she was just annoyed) IMHO I think it spanking and yelling or constantly repeating yourself for a child to listen isn't necessary if you do things right. But maybe when something big happens maybe a spank or yell will surprise them and keep them from doing whatever was wrong again. IMOIdk

My parents were separated and I was spanked a few times from my mom mostly from fighting with siblings or all of us getting in trouble together and my dad spanked me once and I was devastated hehe but I never really needed to be. Then later on my step mom and dad had two boys and she's a yeller and it always made me sad and I still hate it and get uncomfortable around it I think it's stupid. And it doesn't phase my brothers usually but if sometimes one brother use to get really upset when being yelled at (made me mad too because it was usually something stupid where she was just annoyed) IMHO I think it spanking and yelling or constantly repeating yourself for a child to listen isn't necessary if you do things right. But maybe when something big happens maybe a spank or yell will surprise them and keep them from doing whatever was wrong again. IMOIdk

oooo man were we spanked as children..not my dh and he doesnt understand the whole concept....my ds has gotten the wall and taps he more hurt when you tap him then anything and he wants to be held lol....but everyone right i really think people are so afraid of people calling cps...i actually approve when a parent truely discplines their children more then yelling and yanking type...

oooo man were we spanked as children..not my dh and he doesnt understand the whole concept....my ds has gotten the wall and taps he more hurt when you tap him then anything and he wants to be held lol....but everyone right i really think people are so afraid of people calling cps...i actually approve when a parent truely discplines their children more then yelling and yanking type...

I'd like to say I would absolutely never spank my child. I hope I will be able to discipline him effectively in other, non-violent ways. My parents never spanked me or my sisters. However I concede that life isn't predictable and at some stage I might need to spank him to communicate to him the gravity of something and so prevent him from seriously injuring himself or someone else.

I'd like to say I would absolutely never spank my child. I hope I will be able to discipline him effectively in other, non-violent ways. My parents never spanked me or my sisters. However I concede that life isn't predictable and at some stage I might need to spank him to communicate to him the gravity of something and so prevent him from seriously injuring himself or someone else.

I do not find it acceptable to spank my children. I think that there are far more civilized ways to discipline a child than placing a hand on them. I have raised 3 children that are currently teenagers and have never struck them. I have a toddler who is a few months past her 2nd birthday and has never/will never know a spanking.

I feel that every child responds differently to discipline forms and you have to be willing to try many things. I do not believe spanking falls into the discipline category, I think it falls into punishment. I will not use punishment until my children are old enough to understand deliberate defiance and at that point they would be too old to spank, even if I believed in it.

Not all children are going to be afraid of a parent who spanks but some may. I know my cousin was afraid of her mother and if her mom so much as raised her hand she would shrink away. She showed her mother respect but did not ultimately respect who she was, I hope that makes sense.

I think that discipline has fallen by the wayside in our society in general. Children are not taught to be respectful in any way. I do not think that has anything to do specifically with a lack of spanking but just a lack of any discipline overall. My children are respectful, well behaved, high achievers who have never been spanked but have been taught appropriate discipline.

I do not find it acceptable to spank my children. I think that there are far more civilized ways to discipline a child than placing a hand on them. I have raised 3 children that are currently teenagers and have never struck them. I have a toddler who is a few months past her 2nd birthday and has never/will never know a spanking.

I feel that every child responds differently to discipline forms and you have to be willing to try many things. I do not believe spanking falls into the discipline category, I think it falls into punishment. I will not use punishment until my children are old enough to understand deliberate defiance and at that point they would be too old to spank, even if I believed in it.

Not all children are going to be afraid of a parent who spanks but some may. I know my cousin was afraid of her mother and if her mom so much as raised her hand she would shrink away. She showed her mother respect but did not ultimately respect who she was, I hope that makes sense.

I think that discipline has fallen by the wayside in our society in general. Children are not taught to be respectful in any way. I do not think that has anything to do specifically with a lack of spanking but just a lack of any discipline overall. My children are respectful, well behaved, high achievers who have never been spanked but have been taught appropriate discipline.

I think calling spanking "violence" falls in line with calling time-outs neglect. If either is used in an extreme way, it can be abuse. We had friends when I was younger, who have 8 little ones, all very well behaved, all respectful. Their mother could take them all on outings by herself, with no issue. They spanked their kids, but I've honestly never seen so much love. The parents both had a rule, of sending the "guilty" child to his/her room beforehand. This was so a spanking was never given in frustration or anger. They would cool down for a couple minutes, and then go explain why they were being punished. Afterwards, they would give them a hug, tell them they love them, and off they would go. To me, that is literally a perfect system (if such a thing existed). There was no resentment or fear. Those kids loved each other, an their parents, and were an absolute pleasure to be around.

I think calling spanking "violence" falls in line with calling time-outs neglect. If either is used in an extreme way, it can be abuse. We had friends when I was younger, who have 8 little ones, all very well behaved, all respectful. Their mother could take them all on outings by herself, with no issue. They spanked their kids, but I've honestly never seen so much love. The parents both had a rule, of sending the "guilty" child to his/her room beforehand. This was so a spanking was never given in frustration or anger. They would cool down for a couple minutes, and then go explain why they were being punished. Afterwards, they would give them a hug, tell them they love them, and off they would go. To me, that is literally a perfect system (if such a thing existed). There was no resentment or fear. Those kids loved each other, an their parents, and were an absolute pleasure to be around.

I do not spank my children for two reasons. The first it that I have found more effective ways of communication. Spanking is not necessary. My children are well behaved. The second reason is that I worry I would only spank out of anger rather than to control a situation or impose rules.

I do not spank my children for two reasons. The first it that I have found more effective ways of communication. Spanking is not necessary. My children are well behaved. The second reason is that I worry I would only spank out of anger rather than to control a situation or impose rules.

I don't find it acceptable to spank, I don't see how hitting a child in anyway is supposed to teach them anything positive. In addition I have one child that is very sensitive to touch and how things feel, spanking him would be devastating to him. Both DH and I were spanked (he fairly often, me twice ever) but we have chosen not to use it. Instead we use positive reinforcement charts for the behaviors our kids currently need to work on and the "1-2-3 magic" approach. We've seen great results with both of these without ever needing to a lay a hand on the kids in forceful way.

I don't find it acceptable to spank, I don't see how hitting a child in anyway is supposed to teach them anything positive. In addition I have one child that is very sensitive to touch and how things feel, spanking him would be devastating to him. Both DH and I were spanked (he fairly often, me twice ever) but we have chosen not to use it. Instead we use positive reinforcement charts for the behaviors our kids currently need to work on and the "1-2-3 magic" approach. We've seen great results with both of these without ever needing to a lay a hand on the kids in forceful way.

I was spanked as a child and I feel like knowing I would get spanked kept me out of a lot of trouble. I always said I would spank my children, but now that I have my beautiful daughter I don't know if I will be able to hit her. I'm sure one day she will do something that warrants a spanking, but it will be a last resort.

I was spanked as a child and I feel like knowing I would get spanked kept me out of a lot of trouble. I always said I would spank my children, but now that I have my beautiful daughter I don't know if I will be able to hit her. I'm sure one day she will do something that warrants a spanking, but it will be a last resort.

I spank. Its discipline not abuse and not ever child can be without a good spanking. I was spanked and not once did I do drugs skip school throw tantrums at stores misbehave at others houses or at church. I was scared lol my mom would give "the look" and we knew haha. With my daughters well my oldest if she misbehaves in public we take her to the RR where shell cry until her heart desires n then we take her back if she starts again then she gets a spanking. I hate seen kids that are being rude and misbehaving while the parents just sit there or quietly saying " please sit down dont do that." at church especially!!! this little girl was climbing on a glass door jumping on chairs (in baby room) and shes completely ignoring her. Well im glad shes concentrating. or when my friend comes over n her kids are taking my picture frames and pulling pictures out and wrinkling them while she says no 100 times...my babies even know not to touch things that aren't yours..and know how to say sorry. no that's ok its just a picture ill just go back and take another.

I spank. Its discipline not abuse and not ever child can be without a good spanking. I was spanked and not once did I do drugs skip school throw tantrums at stores misbehave at others houses or at church. I was scared lol my mom would give "the look" and we knew haha. With my daughters well my oldest if she misbehaves in public we take her to the RR where shell cry until her heart desires n then we take her back if she starts again then she gets a spanking. I hate seen kids that are being rude and misbehaving while the parents just sit there or quietly saying " please sit down dont do that." at church especially!!! this little girl was climbing on a glass door jumping on chairs (in baby room) and shes completely ignoring her. Well im glad shes concentrating. or when my friend comes over n her kids are taking my picture frames and pulling pictures out and wrinkling them while she says no 100 times...my babies even know not to touch things that aren't yours..and know how to say sorry. no that's ok its just a picture ill just go back and take another.

I feel sorry for those of you that were abused as children under the guise of "spanking" and have been brainwashed into believing you deserved it.Spanking creates antisocial behavior by teaching that hitting is an acceptable conflict resolution technique. Kids that were spanked develop anxiety around conflict and expect to get hit when there is a confrontation. In an attempt to avoid getting hit, some kids are aggressive during the confrontation (these are the school bullies and end up filling our prisons) and others are passive and attempt to avoid the conflict at all costs.There are a million reasons spanking is bad for a child (and society, for that matter). The only time spanking is acceptable is when you need to get their immediate attention because they are about to do something that would be more harmful than the spanking, like run into a street or touch a hot stove. There are endless ways to discipline children if a parent is creative enough. If you need some ideas, go to the library and check out a couple books on non-physical discipline.

I feel sorry for those of you that were abused as children under the guise of "spanking" and have been brainwashed into believing you deserved it.Spanking creates antisocial behavior by teaching that hitting is an acceptable conflict resolution technique. Kids that were spanked develop anxiety around conflict and expect to get hit when there is a confrontation. In an attempt to avoid getting hit, some kids are aggressive during the confrontation (these are the school bullies and end up filling our prisons) and others are passive and attempt to avoid the conflict at all costs.There are a million reasons spanking is bad for a child (and society, for that matter). The only time spanking is acceptable is when you need to get their immediate attention because they are about to do something that would be more harmful than the spanking, like run into a street or touch a hot stove. There are endless ways to discipline children if a parent is creative enough. If you need some ideas, go to the library and check out a couple books on non-physical discipline.

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