My ongoing theme is always the truth, as I see it, and the exposure of lies, deception and manipulation wherever they exist. I remain firmly convinced that the world can no longer resist its innate urge to unite and co-operate with one another and we are very close to the point where war can no longer be an option if this transformation is to occur. Website: allenroland.com Email: allen@allenroland.com

Sunday, June 14, 2015

BENEATH THE WELL OF GRIEF IS A SPRING OF JOY

David Whyte's well of grief can be compared to a Black Hole in
space but it's deep within many who live in fear ~ but at its center is a point
of convergence ~ a state of consciousness that lies beyond time and space ~ a Unified Fieldof
love and soul consciousness whose principle property is the urge to unite ~ or
as Longfellow once wrote ~ the
thread of all sustaining beauty that runs through all and doth all unite: Allen
L Roland, Ph.D

"We
are put on Earth a little space to bear the beams of love" ~ William Blake

It's
not surprising that our lives are so inextricably bound with archetypal images
of terror which we then project onto the world around us. For our entry into
life is a traumatic passage through a black tunnel of fear ~ an experience of
being inescapably drawn into and swallowed by a terrifying black hole that
pulls us into another world !

The
birth process itself evokes parallels with the near-death experience for we are
entering into a another state of consciousness ~ and leaving an all unifying
state of soul consciousness. We are all messengers of the soul or spiritual
beings meant to eventually help the planet evolve by sharing the unique and
humangift of ourselves with the world.

Picture
yourself for a moment being drawn into a black hole in space and
helplessly crushed by a force far greater than yourself ~ would it feel
something like this?

"An
intransigent force ~ wild and out of control ~

has
gripped the infant.

A
blind force that hammers at it and impels it

downward ~

Overpowered, it huddles up as tightly at it can …

The
walls close in further still. The cell becomes a

passageway;
the passage, a tunnel.

With
its heart bursting. the infant sinks into the hell.

Its
fear is without limit …

The
everything explodes!

The
whole world bursts open.

No
more tunnel, no prison, no monster.

The
child is born."

These
are the words of Frederick Leboyer, the famous French pediatrician, describing
the birth trauma.

Birth
and death both represent archetypal passages from one state, or world, to
another ~ and are therefore universally apt metaphors for spiritual and
psychological transformation~ as Elizabeth Kubler Ross shared in a People
Magazine interview in 1975.

These
metaphors also guide my own life process and my psychological work with clients
in their transition from ego consciousness to soul consciousness. For
example, both my original birth trauma and my carrier pilot Final Optionexperience on the South China Sea were
life-or-death situations dealing with forces and events that seemed totally
beyond my control.

Both
times I fully experienced and surrendered to crushing sensations and
overwhelming terror.

The
instant I fully surrendered to being crushed, I discovered a fearlesshidden source of strength or a Unified Field of soul consciousness
guiding me through my fear and over to the "other side."

Time
after time, people have told me from the depth of their despair that the pain
that they are experiencing will never end, that they will never get out of that
tunnel, and that they will surely die.

However,
it is the ego that seemingly dies for it is no longer needed for protection and
survival for we are now beginning to trust the feeling/intuitive-receptive
guidance within us ~ we becomea
phoenix rising from the ashes.

Remember
that the ego is a cocoon of consciousness born from the fear of what lies
deepest within ourselves ~ and is based on the projection of what we feel we
must be in order to be loved versus who we really are.

Elizabeth
Kubler Ross' five steps of the death process become eight steps as we enter the
event horizon of ego death;

1.
Denial ~ Everything
is fine, there is nothing missing in my life ~ I'm in control of everything.

2.
Anger ~ I
can't stay in control and manipulate things any more ~ it's not working and
making me mad.

3.
Bargaining ~ I'll
hang on to something so I won't get out of control and get in touch with the
unknown and all those scary feelings deep inside me.

4.
Depression ~ Why
am I feeling so sad, and it seems to go so deep. If only I could get out of
this pit of despair ~ this black hole within myself.

5.
Acceptance and connection ~ I'm feeling sad and it seems so familiar and
goes back so far ~ I can't deny these feelings any longer and now I'm
connecting them to events in my childhood ~ it's all beginning to make sense.

STAGE 5 IS THE EVENT HORIZON OF EGO DEATH

6.
Surrender ~ I'm
completelyletting
go and surrendering to the moment ~ what is this joy and excitement I'm feeling
beneath the sadness ~ and it doesn't have anything to do with someone else ~
there's a light at the end of the tunnel.

7.
Celebration ~ I'm
finally beginning to trust my deepest feelings and a growing sense that
everything is going to be all right.

8.
Service ~ My
heart is open, I'm coming from gratefulness and I'm seeing through different
eyes and I'm also seeing that I have a part to play in this loving plan by just
being myself ~ my self-respect is my guide.

It
is the ego and our fears that peel away, like
the layers of an onion skin, when we fully surrender to love and let go through
this experience of ego death ~ for the ego was always meant to be shed.

As
such, the more we surrender to and trust our deepest feelings, the more
powerful and urgent becomes the pull from within. And when we do
this, we eventually come out on the "other side" and into a
new life. a new way of being for we are indeed seeing
through different eyesand our self-respect
is once again our guide.

So
the great surrender is also like a birth process.

I
prefer to call it transmutation ~ for we are being transformed from one kind
of human being into another and love is the vehicle for this passage.

Indeed,
the butterfly of the authentic person has emerged from its own protective
cocoon of fear.

The
famous physicist Steven Hawking has suggested that Black Holes may become White
Holes at a point of singularity.

Similarly,
near-death experiences report a light at the end of a dark tunnel, while our
birth through the "dark tunnel" of the womb delivers us to the light
of this world

What
I am suggesting is that at the end of that black hole of despair within us we
reach a point of psychic singularity where all notions of time and space break
down, we experience a reversal in the polarity of our being and we re-establish
our conscious connection with the Unified Fieldas we return to our
original state of love and soul consciousness.

In
other words, the singularity at the center of a black hole , where time and
space come to an end, parallels the singularity within each one of us that
leads us from the darkness and despair into the brilliant light of the Unified Fieldof love and soul consciousness ~ that is the very essence
of our being.

I
would also argue that the force that pulls us through is that love, a force so
strong that all conscious beings will eventually have to surrender to its
magnetic pull.

It's
also Teilhard de Chardin's famous Omega point ~ "It is necessary and
sufficient for us that we should extend our science to its furthest
limits and recognize and accept .. the radiation as a present reality of that
mysterious center of our centers which I have called Omega"

Dr.
Eben Alexander, in his bestselling book Proof of Heaven writes about his near
death experience and says the same thing ~ in essence,it’s
all about love;

Proof
of Heaven, p. 71 ~ “If I had to boil this entire message
down to one sentence, it would run this way: "You are loved.”
And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of
course) be simply: Love. Love is without doubt, the basis of
everything. Not some abstract, hard-to-fathom kind of love, but the
day-to-day kind that everyone knows – the kind of love we feel when we look
at our spouse and our children, or even our animals. In its purest
and most powerful form, this love is not jealous or selfish, but
unconditional. This is the reality of realities, the incomprehensibly
glorious truth of truths that lives and breathes at the core of everything that
exists or that ever will exist, and no remotely accurate understanding of
who and what we are can be achieved by anyone who does not know it, and embody
it in all of their actions. Not much of a scientific insight?
Well, I beg to differ. I’m back from that place, and nothing could
convince me that this is not only the single most important scientific truth as
well.” See 7 minute video ~ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3AGNnOk6dhA

David Whyte's Well of Grief is the perfect poem for describing
this transition ~

Those who will not
slip beneath
the still surface on the well of grief

turning downward
through its black water
to the place we cannot breathe

will never know the
source from which we drink,
the secret water, cold and clear,

nor find in the
darkness glimmering
the small round coins
thrown by those who
wished for something else.

The
time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit, Feast on your life.

Elizabeth
Kubler Ross is correct when she wrote ” Death may be viewed as the
curtain between the existence we are conscious of and one that is hidden from
us until we raise the curtain .“

We can
raise that curtain now if we stop being controlled by fear and begin to trust
the love and the spring of joy that lies deepest within ourselves.

Teilhard de Chardin
wrote on the last page of his personal journal three days before his death ~ "The
last enemy that shall be destroyed is Death"

And
in the Activation of Human Energy Teilhard wrote~ "But how much
more comforting and 'electrifying' for our efforts would it not be if some
signal or some sign, some summons or some echo, should come to us from beyond
death and give us positive assurance that some center of convergence does
really exist ahead of us"

The NDEsigns are
numerous and obvious but the summons is calling all of us from within ~ so I am suggesting and demonstrating in my work that
at the end of that black hole of despair within ourselves, we also reach a
point of singularity, where all notions of time and space break down and we
become one with the Unified Fieldof love and a joyful state of soul consciousness~ and only our fear of death and the unknown stands
in the way

Beneath the well of grief is indeed a spring of Joy ~ if
we have the courage to drink from itscold and clear water.

Heart
centered spiritual consultant and advisorAllen L Roland can
be contacted atallen@allenroland.comAllen is also a
lecturer and writerwho shares a weekly political
and social commentary on hisweb logand websiteallenroland.com. He is also featured columnist on Veterans
Today and guest
hosts a monthly national radio show TRUTHTALK onwww.conscioustalk.net

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About Me

I'm a disabled active duty Navy veteran who was born in Boston, Massachusetts, survived a dysfunctional family, pursued and lived my dreams, including being a Navy carrier fighter pilot. I found myself by fully opening my heart, wrote three books, sired four children and I'm still living my ultimate dream by making a difference from a place of celebration and service. My 1998 PhD dissertation on the UNIFIED FIELD was chosen by Noetic Science and Common Boundary as one of the top three world finalists on combining psychology and spirituality. I retired from my private practice in 2014, because of my service connected asbestosis related lung disease, and live in Antioch, California but still remain involved as a featured columnist on Veterans Today and heart centered spiritual consultant and advisor ~ particularly with combat veterans with PTSD as well as others with PTHD ( Post Traumatic Heart Disorder).