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Being nice or good looking won't make a girl feel chemistry which is needed for relationships. You can also be ugly/average but nice and kind. You can also be good looking but have a awful personality. Kind of naive to assume you have to be one or the other. Being nice will never be enough. How many guys will give a girl a shot just because she's "nice" and will exclude everything else... ? Judging by real life not many...There has to be other attributes too. I don't know why this appears to be rocket science to some guys.

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Because just because a guy just happens to be nice and "good enough looking", it doesn't mean he's entitled to shit. It doesn't make him automatically attractive. It doesn't mean every single girl out there will want to have sex with him, be his girlfriend, and marry him. It doesn't mean anything.

She has the right to be attracted to whoever she wants, and if that happens to be an "ugly jerk" in your eyes, then boo-f*cking-hoo. It's her life, not yours. Stop whining.

It's simply astounding that instead of working with the nice guy and getting to know him/dealing with his shyness, you'd go for the jerk just because he is straight forward. That does not make a lick of sense to me. "Yeah, the sweet, kind guy is a little shy. Should I go up and talk to him to break the ice, or go for the loud mouth a**hole because he is more upfront and noticeable? "

maybe if it's a "friends with benefits" or a "fuck buddy" we don't care if he's a jerk... but like why would we want to spend a large portion of our time dealing with an annoying jerk? that would grow old quickly...

If he is average or possibly as you say "ugly", she may have a different opinion of him. But clearly he isn't hot or extremely handsome, so it could be a couple of things. 1) could be jealousy, as in she doesn't want the other girls looking at him or trying to coax him away. 2) could be insecurity, if she doesn't think she is pretty or beautiful, she may think the handsome guys are out of her league. Or 3) maybe she's a nerd, and is banking on the stereotype that the less attractive guys will be just as nerdy as she is.

I don't know about lesser attractive guys being jerks and attractive ones being sweet. Usually it's the good-looking ones who are full of themselves and the others who are more humble. Just a stereotype of course, without getting to know someone. If this is a problem for you, just show her who you are and that your are just as sweet. If she doesn't like you for who you are, she doesn't deserve you.

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Lol, are you being serious?

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because good enough looking guys intimidate us, as for why we pick the ugly/average 1.They are rich (bitches do that) 2.They have the greatest personality and with their effort they win our hearts (girls like me ).

the good looking guys are usually full of themselves, and If they'd approach me and would make the same effort as the average guys they would have a chance.As for the financial situation I (personally) don't care that much if he's rich, for me it's more important his personality and his heart.

I don't believe looks are really that important in the long run. If anything, I think it's awesome that girls go for guys like that... I see these guys who are the cliche "nerd" (Which really should be something most people envy, because I'm a nerd myself and people in that category are usually EXTREMELY productive and intellectual) and they have a girl that is just drop dead gorgeous>

The point still stands, girls do stay away from more attractive guys. That's not from my experience, but believe it or not... this question is FAR more common than "Why don't girls go for ugly guys".

Lastly, that word "Ugly" is repulsive. If you really judge someone on looks you should be beaten out back with a large branch. I always see guys/girls picking on someone for their physical attributes... those are the exact same people who may end up with an enormous scar on their face, or have something to the effect of ruining their shallow beauty.

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Anonymous

They be actin crazy in da head

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Anonymous

I think you have this all backwards. A girl will not go for an average or below guy that's a jerk as well.

Think of it the same way as the "choosing a girl" triangle: smart, nice, and hot...pick 2

Because in some cases the ugly/average guys they go for may have more confidence, and be more daring, bold and have more of an attitude, know what they want, when they want and aren't afraid to go after it. At least that's what I've read into these past few years.