I admit it. As a website manager, I usually love looking at our site’s analytics. I’m always interested to see what kinds of questions people are asking about Mormon life and beliefs, and enjoy a glimpse into what LDS readers are looking for as well.

But I confess that when this site was launched four years ago, I wasn’t prepared for some of the questions we’d get on a regular basis. Some of them break my heart. For example, following is a sampling of some of the phrases that show up in our Mormon Women analytics:

“how to deal with spouse addiction”
“how to recover from having a husband addicted to porn”
“lds 12 step women support group”
“my husband’s porn addiction is killing my feelings”
“partners of sex addicts support groups”

As I noted in Monday’s post, Mormons are not immune from hard problems, and this is an example of that reality. But the blessing of the gospel of Jesus Christ is that, because of Jesus Christ, there is always hope!

If you are one of the women searching for support and information as you face the challenge of a spouse with a sex/pornography addiction, please, please know that your questions don’t go unnoticed. In fact, because of the consistency and frequency of such searches, I’ve spent a significant amount of time over the last year trying to find people who can address the topic of pornography addiction recovery, either from personal experience, or from a professional point of view. I’m regularly asking them to help respond to questions, emails, and comments from readers (for example, see the many comments on this post: How can I deal with my husband’s pornography addiction?).

And while we’ve tried to touch on this topic on our site, I keep feeling that more needs to be done.

Last night, I spent over an hour on the phone with Elisa, CEO of Mormon Mommy Blogs (MMB). She has also been planning to do more on her site for wives of sex and pornography addicts who are feeling alone, hopeless, unsure of what to do.

We decided that we wanted to work together to help spouses of porn addicts find support, information, hope, and healing. (We hope those who are dealing with addiction themselves will benefit from our efforts as well…and we know some of those people are women.)

On our sites, we will be sharing personal stories of women and men, spouses and addicts, who have walked the path of recovery. You’ll hear more about the truths and principles that have helped them find hope and healing through the Atonement of Jesus Christ. You’ll learn about the plethora of resources and information available to help those who are currently facing this challenge — and also to help parents, community leaders, and others who want to become more educated about pornography addiction and addiction recovery from a preventative point of view.

We hope that as more people are willing to share, talk about, and become educated about the hope of recovery from pornography and sex addiction, we’ll be able to build a community of Latter-day Saints and others with similar values who can wrap their arms around our brothers and sisters who are facing this challenge. We also hope that armed with information and increased faith, we can each be more proactive in our own spheres of influence to help thwart and prevent the devastating effects of the plague of pornography.

We have a huge problem in our families with pornography and the influence that it is having in our families. The powerful feeling that has been coming over me is, “Sisters, fight—fight, sisters.”

Will you join us in the good fight?

If you are struggling right now with this challenge, either as an addict or a spouse of an addict, we urge you to reach out for help and support. Talk to your bishop. Find a 12-step group (LDS Addiction Recovery (PASG) or Family Support groups, S-Anon, Al-Anon (principles are similar to S-Anon). Consider getting a therapist. Connect with others who have walked this path and who know what is needed for recovery. (If you don’t know anyone who has dealt with this, feel free to email me at mormonwomen(at)gmail(dot)com and I’ll forward your request on to women who have walked this path (or professionals who have helped others in your situation) who have offered to help.)

If you have a personal story of recovery to share, please email Elisa at elisa(at)mormonmommyblogs(dot)com or email me at mormonwomen(at)gmail(dot)com. You can also submit stories directly via MMB here. (If you have your own blog, you can share in that way, too…just let us know where to find you.) As you write, please let our readers know what truths or principles have helped you face difficulties and hold onto hope through your journey of recovery.

If you are an LDS therapist experienced in helping people (spouses or addicts) in the process of addiction recovery, a representative of a non-profit organization (or blog/website) that provides education and resources on the topics of pornography and sex addiction, or you have helpful information or ideas to share, please let us know.

If you have access to social media, we invite you to help us help others by sharing information and requests for submissions via your blogs, Facebook accounts, Twitter, and other social media. Also, again, if you have a blog or website that addresses this topic, let us know so that we could consider it as a resource to share with others.

Of course, we’ll still be having our regular content on each of our sites, but we are excited to join together (and, we hope, join with others — with you!) to spread the message of hope to addicts and loved ones alike, and to build faith in the healing power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ…because we all need Him. We all need His help, and because of Him, we all can have hope, regardless of the trials we face.

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