Sunday, November 2, 2014

Late Emir of Kano’s Mistress Threatens Suicide With Children After Being Financially Cut Off

There is something so disturbing about this story that it makes me embarassed for the so-called mistress. It's no surprise she did not reveal her name or picture and even anonymously, I think she should bury her head in shame.

These are the kind of profligates that give women a bad name. Threatening to kill yourself and kids is definitely a cry for help, but if she was really hoping to humiliate the Bayero family, then I'm even more worried for her mental health.

Ms. Momoh said to be the daughter of the previous Otaru of Auchi told this story to Premium Times of how she has been financially abandoned by the Bayero family in Kano and how she gives them a deadline of two days to give her and her two grown up children a large chunk of inheritance from the late Emir's estate, or she would kill them and herself.

But the story is just so annoying, I was rolling my eyes at each new exposure.

Her affair, lasting 30 years, yielded two children, and the emir accepted and took care of them until his death in June, Ms. Momoh said. Now she said she is prepared to end her life and her children’s after the emir’s family left her and her children homeless, and shut off all avenues of support she hitherto received for herself and children.

Seriously, so for 30 years, this woman could not set herself up in business through the generosity of the Emir? She now has to beg to feed and house her family, what nonsense? And then when she was given N250, 000. she said it "lasted two days as it could not sustain the lifestyle set for her by the emir while alive." SMH...

Ms. Momoh said she was promised another N2 million as settlement, but she has dismissed that as too meagre, given her current needs, taste and the family’s wealth. Ms Momoh wouldn’t say why she has never work to earn money, and why she depended on the late Emir for handouts for three decades. She also did not say why she did not return to school, after she gave birth to her daughter. She only said Emir Bayero kept promising to help her set up a business until he took ill and passed away.

According to Ms. Momoh her relationship with Emir Bayero began in 1984 when he was to help her secure admission into Bayero University Kano, on the wishes of her now late father. But instead of an admission into BUK, Ms. Momoh became pregnant for the Emir in 1986.

“I found out I was pregnant when in 1986 when I was in London, and as I got back I told him I was pregnant for him, he then said we will get married after I put to bed because Islamically it’s wrong to marry someone who is pregnant.

Ms. Momoh travelled back to Auchi to break the news to her father. The shocked chief sent her back to the emir, and vowed she would not be allowed to have her baby in his house without marriage.

Fifteen years later, a second child, a boy, arrived. She did not return to school and appears never to have been in any gainful employment. Ms. Momoh said at all times, they were all well taken care of by the late emir.

After the emir took ill, communications slowed between him and his mistress. Soon, Ms. Momoh’s children became sick and would not respond to treatment, forcing their mother to relocate to Lagos.

Two weeks before Mr. Bayero died, Ms. Momoh travelled to see him in Kano. While there, she said she realized her home in Kano had been vandalized and all her properties were stolen, leaving the house empty.

When she eventually met the emir, the traditional ruler, she said, promised to take care of her and children, promised them shelter and directed one of his sons, Nasir, to ensure that was done.

That warm relationship between her and Nasir broke down after the emir’s death. Now, Ms. Momoh blames Nasir and another of the late emir’s son, Aminu, for her troubles, saying they refused to carry out their father’s directive.

As her suffering and that of her children worsened, she said she met Nasir on several occassions, to convey to him how desperate she needed help. The two sons promised to get back to her, but never did.

Ms. Momoh said today her children are no longer in school, as they roam the country looking for shelter. She is currently in Abuja squatting with a friend and struggling to survive.

“I almost slept at the central Mosque in Abuja, I have no savings, I have no roof over my head, my first daughter is due for the university but she is with me, my second son has been out of school for over a year now. We find it very difficult to eat. And all this became worse after the Emir died.”

This last part has me scratching my head. Shouldn't her daughter be like 27 or 28 years old by now? Am I missing something or how come she's just due for university now? It is true men should take care of their children whether in marriage or out of it, but how irresponsible can some women be? Somebody help me out here...