My step-daughter is PREGNANT!

I just had to tell someone! She just told us last night. She took 2 HPT's and they were both positive, but hopefully she will be going to the dr this week to be 100% sure. I can't say I'm totally shocked, but she was on the pill, so it was somewhat of a surprise! She's been "in love" for about 8 mos with this guy that we really don't think is good for her, but Jody didn't want to drive her away by telling her she couldn't see him. My step-daughter just turned 18 in Sept., she's a senior in H.S. this year....and she has no idea how hard this is going to be. I know there are a few young mommy's on here and I know ya'll do a great job with your babies and I'm not bashing young moms at all, but under the circumstances for my step-daughter, I'm just worried how everything is going to work out. I felt so bad for Jody last night, he said he feels like a failure, I told him these things happen and there was nothing he could do to stop it. Some of you know from previous posts that my step-daughter and I have had somewhat of a rocky relationship....very distant, but when I went downstairs last night to see her after Jody had told me, she just started crying and came and hugged me and told me she was sorry. I cried with her and told her that it was going to be okay and that I really do care about her and that we'll get through this. I told her that things happen for a reason (I'm a huge believer in that), and that no matter what, me and Jody would be there for her. She currently lives with us, but she's already talking about moving in with her mom now and Jody agreed that may be best, so I don't know what will happen. Jody and I have been having some really major problems lately just trying to make this whole blended family thing work, I mean to the point that I was about ready to just throw in the towel, but I swear, it was like after all that happened last night, I just had this feeling come over me that we're all gonna be okay. And as worried as I am about her and her boyfriend not being mature enough to have a baby and feeling like she just screwed her life up, I can't be upset about this new miracle coming into our lives. I can't think of a baby as a 'mistake' no matter what the circumstances. Things do happen for a reason and maybe this is God just working in one of his many mysterious ways....He definitely has a sense of humor! And OMG, this means I'm gonna be a GRANDMA!

I just had to tell someone! She just told us last night. She took 2 HPT's and they were both positive, but hopefully she will be going to the dr this week to be 100% sure. I can't say I'm totally shocked, but she was on the pill, so it was somewhat of a surprise! She's been "in love" for about 8 mos with this guy that we really don't think is good for her, but Jody didn't want to drive her away by telling her she couldn't see him. My step-daughter just turned 18 in Sept., she's a senior in H.S. this year....and she has no idea how hard this is going to be. I know there are a few young mommy's on here and I know ya'll do a great job with your babies and I'm not bashing young moms at all, but under the circumstances for my step-daughter, I'm just worried how everything is going to work out. I felt so bad for Jody last night, he said he feels like a failure, I told him these things happen and there was nothing he could do to stop it. Some of you know from previous posts that my step-daughter and I have had somewhat of a rocky relationship....very distant, but when I went downstairs last night to see her after Jody had told me, she just started crying and came and hugged me and told me she was sorry. I cried with her and told her that it was going to be okay and that I really do care about her and that we'll get through this. I told her that things happen for a reason (I'm a huge believer in that), and that no matter what, me and Jody would be there for her. She currently lives with us, but she's already talking about moving in with her mom now and Jody agreed that may be best, so I don't know what will happen. Jody and I have been having some really major problems lately just trying to make this whole blended family thing work, I mean to the point that I was about ready to just throw in the towel, but I swear, it was like after all that happened last night, I just had this feeling come over me that we're all gonna be okay. And as worried as I am about her and her boyfriend not being mature enough to have a baby and feeling like she just screwed her life up, I can't be upset about this new miracle coming into our lives. I can't think of a baby as a 'mistake' no matter what the circumstances. Things do happen for a reason and maybe this is God just working in one of his many mysterious ways....He definitely has a sense of humor! And OMG, this means I'm gonna be a GRANDMA!

That sounds like a rough situation, but I'm a big believer in the 'everything happens for a reason' thing too. Perhaps this will make your step daughter more appreciative of you and your husband now that she knows you really are there for her. And, CONGRATS GRAMMA!! :)

That sounds like a rough situation, but I'm a big believer in the 'everything happens for a reason' thing too. Perhaps this will make your step daughter more appreciative of you and your husband now that she knows you really are there for her. And, CONGRATS GRAMMA!! :)

YAY Mema!!! :) I am super happy for you and your family. Everything DOES happen for a reason and just because she is young- DOESN'T mean she cant do it. It will be a little steeper of a hill, but it will all work out in the end. And you get the HUGE benefits of being a grandma, play with them, spoil them, love them...GIVE THEM BACK!! :)

I had Ky when I was just 18, and my dad felt like a failure too- but that soon passed when she came along. Jody ISN'T a failure! He will realize this and things will come together!

Congrats mama!

YAY Mema!!! :) I am super happy for you and your family. Everything DOES happen for a reason and just because she is young- DOESN'T mean she cant do it. It will be a little steeper of a hill, but it will all work out in the end. And you get the HUGE benefits of being a grandma, play with them, spoil them, love them...GIVE THEM BACK!! :)

I had Ky when I was just 18, and my dad felt like a failure too- but that soon passed when she came along. Jody ISN'T a failure! He will realize this and things will come together!

Congrats!! And here is me 7 months pregnant with my best friend about to graduate and about 5 months pregnant about to go out with her and our DFs/BDs in the place of prom (none of us wanted to go bc we had all already been twice, the guys are a year older than us). We ate at a nice restaurant, went late bowling, and all stayed in a hotel together. Way more fun!!!! Me and DF also took a weekend in Gatlinburg, when I was 7 and a half months bc I didn't do a senior trip. Still lots of fun!!!

Congrats!! And here is me 7 months pregnant with my best friend about to graduate and about 5 months pregnant about to go out with her and our DFs/BDs in the place of prom (none of us wanted to go bc we had all already been twice, the guys are a year older than us). We ate at a nice restaurant, went late bowling, and all stayed in a hotel together. Way more fun!!!! Me and DF also took a weekend in Gatlinburg, when I was 7 and a half months bc I didn't do a senior trip. Still lots of fun!!!

I, too, am a very firm believer that things happen for a reason. I'm so prould of you and Jody.. I think yall handled the situation so well! I'm happy that she has yall to support her. Congratulations & ya'll will be in our thoughts and prayers!

I, too, am a very firm believer that things happen for a reason. I'm so prould of you and Jody.. I think yall handled the situation so well! I'm happy that she has yall to support her. Congratulations & ya'll will be in our thoughts and prayers!

Thanks Em, I appreciate your support! I know she can do this and she will definitely have plenty of support from people who love her. I just can't help but think about her walking down to get her diploma 8 mos pregnant, or missing out on her Sr. Prom, or missing out on her Sr. trip, etc. Her life is forever changed and those are things she can never get back, but like I said, I would never think of a baby as a mistake and neither does Jody....unfortunately, things just don't always work out as planned. And even though this is so NOT about me, I can't help but feel like maybe it will help to bring all of us closer and I can't help but be a little excited about the thought of another baby in the house :o)

BTW, I know you have done a GREAT job with Ky!

Thanks Em, I appreciate your support! I know she can do this and she will definitely have plenty of support from people who love her. I just can't help but think about her walking down to get her diploma 8 mos pregnant, or missing out on her Sr. Prom, or missing out on her Sr. trip, etc. Her life is forever changed and those are things she can never get back, but like I said, I would never think of a baby as a mistake and neither does Jody....unfortunately, things just don't always work out as planned. And even though this is so NOT about me, I can't help but feel like maybe it will help to bring all of us closer and I can't help but be a little excited about the thought of another baby in the house :o)

I totally thought of you Lacy when I posted this. I remembered you talking about being pretty far along when you graduated. Obviously, I don't know you IRL, but just from knowing you that way that I do, I get the impression that you are way more mature than my DSD. We sat down and had a long talk with her and her BF last night, and OMG, I realized just how immature they really are. But, that being said, I know they are both about to grow up really fast....HOPEFULLY! They definitely have us to help out however we can and from talking to them, it sounds like his family is being really supportive too, but ultimately, it's up to them to figure everything out. Also, if I remember correctly, yours was a planned pregnancy, right? I mean it doesn't matter now for DSD, but I just worry about her having regrets later on. I know it will all work out though. Thanks for sharing your pics....very cute!

I totally thought of you Lacy when I posted this. I remembered you talking about being pretty far along when you graduated. Obviously, I don't know you IRL, but just from knowing you that way that I do, I get the impression that you are way more mature than my DSD. We sat down and had a long talk with her and her BF last night, and OMG, I realized just how immature they really are. But, that being said, I know they are both about to grow up really fast....HOPEFULLY! They definitely have us to help out however we can and from talking to them, it sounds like his family is being really supportive too, but ultimately, it's up to them to figure everything out. Also, if I remember correctly, yours was a planned pregnancy, right? I mean it doesn't matter now for DSD, but I just worry about her having regrets later on. I know it will all work out though. Thanks for sharing your pics....very cute!

What news!! I also am a strong believer that everythng happens for a reason. I know we didn't "plan" Jenna, but we knew we wanted her...we just didn't know when :)

This may sound selfish, but maybe her getting pregnant and moving in with her Mom is happening for a reason...not only for her but for you and your marriage. I mean, the whole blended family problems should settle down and give you and her a less rocky relationship with her not being there all of the time. And maybe she'll depend more on you and ask for "mommy" advice since you are such a recent mom as well. It'll just make your relationship better :)

What news!! I also am a strong believer that everythng happens for a reason. I know we didn't "plan" Jenna, but we knew we wanted her...we just didn't know when :)

This may sound selfish, but maybe her getting pregnant and moving in with her Mom is happening for a reason...not only for her but for you and your marriage. I mean, the whole blended family problems should settle down and give you and her a less rocky relationship with her not being there all of the time. And maybe she'll depend more on you and ask for "mommy" advice since you are such a recent mom as well. It'll just make your relationship better :)

Thanks! And yes, Alyssa was completely planned. And I know that throws most people for loops, but that's what we really wanted. That's not to say that sometimes I'm not a little envious of everyone my age going out, traveling, etc. But I knew it would be this way. I'm afraid you may be right. So many girls are ending up pregnant lately for all the wrong reasons or even by accident, and it's hard being a young mom when that's exactly what you wanted. I couldn't imagine if you didn't. I hope everything works out for the best! And although they may miss out on some of the high school stuff, there's moments with a baby that's SOOO much more special that she now has the opportunity to experience. Some people never have that blessing, so I think it's great anyway! :)

Thanks! And yes, Alyssa was completely planned. And I know that throws most people for loops, but that's what we really wanted. That's not to say that sometimes I'm not a little envious of everyone my age going out, traveling, etc. But I knew it would be this way. I'm afraid you may be right. So many girls are ending up pregnant lately for all the wrong reasons or even by accident, and it's hard being a young mom when that's exactly what you wanted. I couldn't imagine if you didn't. I hope everything works out for the best! And although they may miss out on some of the high school stuff, there's moments with a baby that's SOOO much more special that she now has the opportunity to experience. Some people never have that blessing, so I think it's great anyway! :)

My sister got pregnant at 18, and she was a bit of a wild child. Boy, did she do a 180! When my neice was born, Sandra was a wonderful mother, of course. And was dedicated to taking care of her child. She's now 26, her and James were married in June of 2008 and next Tuesday they're expecting #2!!!

Jody is not a failure, these things happen. Hopefully, this will bring you and her closer.

Congratulations Grandma!!! LOL

My sister got pregnant at 18, and she was a bit of a wild child. Boy, did she do a 180! When my neice was born, Sandra was a wonderful mother, of course. And was dedicated to taking care of her child. She's now 26, her and James were married in June of 2008 and next Tuesday they're expecting #2!!!

Jody is not a failure, these things happen. Hopefully, this will bring you and her closer.

Thanks, Cindy...I appreciate your support! I hope it will be a good thing if she decides to move in with her mom. They don't have the greatest of relationships either (not to be mean, but her mom is a total psycho), so maybe this will strengthen their relationship as well. I'm sure there are more rough patches ahead, but I truly feel that everything will be just fine.

Thanks, Cindy...I appreciate your support! I hope it will be a good thing if she decides to move in with her mom. They don't have the greatest of relationships either (not to be mean, but her mom is a total psycho), so maybe this will strengthen their relationship as well. I'm sure there are more rough patches ahead, but I truly feel that everything will be just fine.

Hey, I wish I could find my prom and graduation pictures! The senior trip may be out of the question with liabilty, but those aren't! I had a pretty big baby bump and dont ever regret it for one minute! In fact, if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing! I am so happy for her!

Thanks Cher!!!

Hey, I wish I could find my prom and graduation pictures! The senior trip may be out of the question with liabilty, but those aren't! I had a pretty big baby bump and dont ever regret it for one minute! In fact, if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing! I am so happy for her!

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