Thanks for the recommendation! There can be no simple solution to complex problems and matters of the brain take time to resolve. This acknowledgement is essential as it opens the way for him to seek and get professional help. How that phrase comes to be defined within a given couple will determine whether that couple can be open and honest with one another or not. The next big step that Stoller takes in his writing is to state that the fetish object, which is not a full human being and is not real, can be treated with cruelty and violence. I found out recently that my husband is still viewing porn. We prayed about it and I have prayed for him everyday since.