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Facing the Learning Crisis At Home
How to make homeschooling a smashing success for parent and child!

by Linda Blew Carlson

“A normal child, taught by a normal parent
using Natural Styles, would be finished with college at the age of 15.”

There are a hundred reasons why you may choose to keep your child at home to learn. Suffice
it to say that homeschooling has become a way of life for you. Research shows
that everyone is affected by a sever drop in personal communications effectiveness
(ability to understand or be understood clearly) as technology continues
to rise.

This high tech phenomenon diminishes learning ability and creates stress. The
result of more stress? Poor communications.

The Crisis

This crisis in communication affects all of us, no matter what our roles or
relationships. Parents and children feel it at home when TV,
popular music and video games compete with ‘boring’ homework or, increasingly,
with time spent with family.

Teachers and administrators feel it in school districts and
classrooms. Despite the newest innovations in technology and technique, student
performance stalls and
teacher satisfaction plummets.

According to over 20 years of research done by experts in education, Thomas S.
Carlson, Ph.D. and Linda Blew Carlson, MA., learning becomes easy and fun for a
teacher and a student when the thinking pattern (style) a person is born to use
is reawakened.

Tapping directly into this style results a relaxed atmosphere and
greatly accelerates learning in any subject. This is exciting enough. But, among
the side effects are; self-awareness, self-confidence, and improved ability to
communicate with others.

Whether you are just starting to homeschool, or have been doing it for some time,
one of the keys to making it work better than any private school is great 'learning'
communications.

An effective teacher learns early that giving out data is not the
same as sharing information. Knowing 'how' a person learns is as important
as 'what' this person learns.

This article will provide you with three things:

An overview of where
we are today in relationship to communications and the educational process.

An introduction to a revolutionary new way of looking at how we think.

A place where you can get explanation of ‘Natural Styles,’ with examples and
applications

The Context

The communication crisis threatens the stability and viability of families and
learning. It must be resolved. Today’s organizations, from educational
to the family, operate in a highly turbulent, changing world of increasingly complex
situations. It seems the only ‘stability’ there is, is ‘IN-stability,’ and the
only ‘constant’ is that ‘change is inevitable.’

These caveats are borne out in our own working lives, where some of us are faced daily with
the prospect of losing our jobs or having them transformed into something we
have to be re-trained to do.

Those who admonish us to ‘keep it simple, sweetie,’ are living in the past—a time when
the rate of change was much slower and there were recognizable ‘bodies of
knowledge’ that could actually be learned and applied in relatively stable
environments.

The learning process was relatively straightforward: gather data, memorize it,
find and remember the relationships among the data—relationships that transform
‘data’ into ‘information’--and apply what you remembered, modifying the ‘information’
into ‘knowledge’ through the filter of experience (yours or others’).

Your peers followed much the same process, and since most everyone was ‘coming from the
same place,’ communication consisted of simply transferring ‘knowledge’ from
one head to another. The school bells that rang between classes trained a
whole generation in the routine that would define the future working lives of
the majority of students.

The evidence is overwhelming that the ‘school-to-factory’ educational model has
not worked for a long time. The patches that have been applied to it within the last
generation -- desperate attempts to reform the institution from the outside -- have
failed miserably in most instances.

The Challenge

What we need now and for the foreseeable future
are people who are flexible, adaptable, and who know ‘how to learn.’ What we have
is a generation of children who suffer from a condition we call ‘mental shutdown.'
The causes of this condition are many, complex, and largely irrelevant to most
of us. What we want to know is, how can we help today's kids re-connect.

Meeting the Challenge

We as parents are still charged with the primary responsibility to empower our
children, to foster self-confidence, and foster responsible and responsive adults.

We can teach our children to learn, and to love learning, in spite of an educational
system that can cause them to erect mental barriers and lose the enthusiasm and
excitement of learning. Our research shows that children with
unshakeable self-confidence and a working
knowledge of how they learn best, can surmount almost any obstacle.

So Many Heads ... But Only 5 Ways of Thinking!

Our years of research reveal 5 distinct patterns (styles) that
people use to listen and respond to information of any kind. These styles are
easily identifiable and provide a faster ‘shorthand’ method for effective learning and
communication. You may see the 5 styles at

A new 'people' technology called ICTech® (I-see-tek), Individualized
Learning Technology, not only tests for these individual styles, but provides
a manual for using them.

For instance, a mother of five had one child who was
the problem child. She was eight and seemed stubborn, difficult and belligerent.
The mother used the Preteen Assessment.tlc@ictech-works.com
Click here. Not only did she quickly learn the child’s style but identified
those of the other children in the family and her spouse.

By using ICTech®, the mother had a whole new set of guidelines for getting
cooperation from her daughter.

She learned that the child was a ‘Single,' and how to talk to her in a way that
her brain preferred in order to establish understanding between them. Within a
the daughter, "has become a nicer little person and her learning skills are
are easier to tap.”

We can’t guarantee that everyone in your family will become
delightful to be around, but since most communication difficulties we
have are due to misunderstandings, doesn’t it make sense to learn how to stop
them before they start?

It is easier than you ever dreamed possible to identify
your individual communication style, learn to identify others, and choose the
appropriate words to get understanding!

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Empowerment and Support at Home

Because schools do not yet check to see what kind of thinking style each student has, it is
essential for any student, especially the homeschooled student, to know his/her
Natural Style and learn how to use it. It is equally important
for the parent/teacher to know his/her personal Natural Style and how to communicate
effectively through it to the other styles. There are 5 styles.

It becomes important for family members to know each other’s styles to form a
stronger support group. When family members know how each person approaches
learning, problem solving, and communications, the chances for
understanding and being understood clearly increase by about 75%!

From our experience as professors, teachers, or learners, the most significant
factor in learning happens when you were 'keyed in' to another's mind? This occurs
when you know how to answer your own mental question and you in turn answer the
mental questions of the other. Think of what that means!

Linda Carlson is GM of Focus II, LLC, a company dedicated to helping parents and
students doing home schooling. She provides free assessments for educational levels
and for the parents. Get them at