You’ve had the same experience. The opposing counsel is
making you miserable. You are not alone.

My friend in Florida
asked, “How do you deal with attorneys like that?”

I’ll attempt to answer. However, I’ll warn you now that
there isn’t a secret formula for these situations. There isn’t a perfect
solution for dealing with these difficult humans.

When I’m dealing with one of these lawyers, I assume that
we’re in for the long haul. These folks typically drag out every element of the
case.

How to Never Let Your Clients (Or Opposing Counsel) See You
Sweat

Here’s my advice:

1. Accept it. Accept that they are who they are and that you
can’t change that reality.

2. Be normal. Make every effort to resolve your cases as
amicably as usual. Be yourself. Don’t let their anger, hostility, and bad
behavior change you. Don’t spend any special time or effort coming up with some
magic plan of action because it’s not likely to work, and it only raises your
clients’ expectations.

3. Explain the increased expense. Tell your clients that
you’re likely to go to trial. Explain to the clients how this sort of behavior
works in these cases. Explain that it drives up the costs and that they’re in
for a long, expensive battle unless they want to concede now and be done by taking
a grossly unfair deal. Help your clients understand that a bad deal is a choice
some people prefer when compared to letting opposing counsel drag things on
forever. Do a cost/benefit analysis with your clients.

4. Inoculate yourself with your clients. Tell your clients
they’re going to have doubts about the quality of your representation and the
fairness of the process. Help the clients understand that opposing counsel is
acting in an effort to have that impact. Explain that opposing counsel’s bad behavior
undermines confidence in you, and that’s the intent. Explain that it makes
clients feel out of control. Predict the future for your clients—a future
filled with ugly comments, unpleasant interactions, and protracted litigation.
Help your clients understand that ultimately, the outcome will still be fair
and reasonable.

5. Avoid emotional counterpunching. Make no effort to psych
out opposing counsel. Tell your clients why you aren’t going to bother. Don’t
attempt to be a bigger jerk than they’re being. Try not to engage in the crazy
behavior. Moving forward with the process is the only agenda.

6. Get ready for trial. Keep moving your cases forward.
Always have an event on the calendar. Assume you’re going to try these cases,
and don’t get sucked into the endless insanity of unproductive settlement
discussions.

7. Get it over with. Try the cases. Your clients need
finality. They need it to be over. You’ve prepared them for the inevitability
of a long, hard slog, and they know it ends with the judgment of the court.
Push it forward and get it finished. That way, neither you nor your clients
will have to deal with these difficult humans any longer than necessary.

As I said earlier, there isn’t an easy solution for these
most difficult lawyers. Just do the job and accept that they make the process
inefficient, expensive, and unpleasant. By pushing forward and disconnecting
from the aggravating insanity, you’ll survive this case and be ready for the
next one. Unfortunately, you’ll likely have another case with these same
lawyers and have to deal with their negative behavior again down the road.

If knowing that you’ll have to deal with these people over
and over is something you can’t tolerate, then sadly, this work may not be for
you.

Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress

The first case to recognize a non-custodial parent’s cause
of action based on the tort of intentional infliction of emotional distress was
Sheltra V. Smith, 392 A. 2d 431 (Vt. 1978).

In this case, the non-custodial
parent brought suit for damages alleging that:

“defendant willfully, maliciously, intentionally, and outrageously inflicted extreme mental suffering and acute mental distress on the plaintiff, by willfully, maliciously, and outrageously rendering it impossible for any personal contact or other communication to take place between the (plaintiff and child).”

The Superior Court, CaledoniaCounty, dismissed the complaint for failure to state of cause of action on which relief could be granted. The Supreme Court of Vermont, however, found that the plaintiff stated a prima facie case for outrageous conduct causing severe...

Id. at 433

“Relationship Estrangement and Interference is a form of
Domestic Violence using Psychological abuse.”

~ Joan Kloth-Zanard of PAS Intervention.

www.pas-intervention.com‎

PAS Intervention stands for Parental Alienation Support and
Intervention. It is an International Non-profit organization to End Child Abuse
and Parental Alienation.

The International Access and VisitationCenters
conference was held in Toronto
last month. PAAO was there and spoke to most of the 200 or so practitioners. Of
course all were familiar with alienation and it's results. Everyone was not
only gratified to see PAAO at the event; they all also acknowledged that PA is
either a form of Domestic violence or on the continuum of Domestic Violence
behaviors.

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Obnoxious ‘Renegade’ Justice ~ Family Courts

The abuses of parents and children by Family Courts, social workers, and family law attorneys have harmed parents and children for far too long. We intend to end that abuse

Family court is designed by its makers to be probably the most dangerous life event parents and children can endure. It enables and profits from every inhumane instinct known to man—greed, hate, resentment, fear—resulting in abundant cash flow for the divorce industry and a fallout of parent and children’s misery.

And behind the curtain of this machine of misery we’ve uncovered its cause—the multi-billion dollar divorce industry, populated by judges, attorneys, and a machinery of tax-dollar fed “judicial administrators,” social workers that George Orwell would marvel at.

We’ve been delivering that message kindly for years now, yet the tide keeps rising on families in crisis. We’ve appealed to the county courts, state and local politicians, state judicial oversight bodies, United States Representatives, and just plain old human dignity, but the harassment and abuse of parents and children has only increased. A resort to federal court intervention in the widespread criminal collusion in state government was the next logical step.

It’s time to recognize Family Court for what it is—a corporate crime ring raiding parents and children of financial and psychological well-being, and devouring our children’s futures. And its not just divorce lawyers—its judges, “judicial administrators,” psychologists, cops and prosecutors—people we should be able to trust—in a modern day criminal cabal using county courtrooms and sheriff’s deputies as the machinery of organized crime.

Since state officials’ hands are too deep into the cookie jar to stop their own abuse, we’re seeking the assistance of federal oversight.

The present-day suffering of so many parents and children has and is being wrought within a larger system characterized by a widespread institutional failure of—indeed contempt for—the rule of law.

Family courts, the legal community, professional institutions such as the state bar, psychology boards, and criminal justice institutions have in the recent decade gradually combined to cultivate a joint enterprise forum in which widespread “family practice” exceptions to the rule of law are not only tolerated, but increasingly encouraged. Professional behavior that would only a few years ago be recognized as unethical, illegal, or otherwise intolerable by American legal, psychological, law enforcement, or social work professionals has increasingly achieved acceptance—indeed applause—from institutional interests which benefit from a joint enterprise enforcing the unwritten law of “who you know is more important than what you know.

In this lawless behavior’s most crass infestation, Family Court Judges are regularly heard to announce, in open court, “I am the law” and proceed to act accordingly with impunity, indifference, and without shame.

The effect on parents and children seeking social support within this coalescing “family law” forum has not been as advertised by courts and professionals—a new healing—but instead a new affliction: an ‘imposed disability’ of de rigueur deprivation of fundamental rights in the name of ‘therapeutic jurisprudence’ funded by converting college funds into a bloated ministry of the Bar Associations leaving families and their children with mere crumbs of their own success.

Many family court judges regularly administer such obnoxious ‘renegade’ justice every day, in open defiance of the rule of law. ‘Sober as a judge’ these days has a whole new meaning.

We need reform toward a more humane family dispute resolution solution

Many of our members are mothers, fathers, and children who have withstood abundant hardship resulting from the current practices of what is generally described as the “Family Law Community.”

These injuries and insults include fraudulent, inefficient, harmful, and even dangerous services; an institutionalized culture of indifference to “clearly-established” liberties; insults to the autonomy and dignity of parents and children; extortion, robbery, abuse, and more, delivered at the hands of eager operators within the divorce industry. ~~ CPRW Vid1 - 2016

World4Justice2016

It’s just not possible that intelligent lawyers like judges don’t understand exactly what goes on in their courtrooms, yet they allow it to continue.

This judicial collusion is far more serious crime than even the fraud of divorce attorneys themselves.

We need reform toward a more humane family dispute resolution solution. They’ve treated us as enemies of the state. When we thought we’d be welcomed, or at least heard, we’ve instead become targets of prosecution and terrorist threats. They've assaulted us, harassed our members including threatening “gun cock” and death threat late night phone calls, attacked our businesses, professional licenses, and threatened to jail and extort us with further crime.

It’s outrageous that our own government allows this to happen, and we’re asking the federal court to protect our members as we pursue the civil and criminal charges against the courts. A complete set of filings and exhibits is available from CCFC’s Facebook page at www.Facebook.com/ccfconline ~~ Grandparents and Grandkids World4Justice2016 ~ GR Vid2 -- www.facebook.com/Grandparents4Justice

Jury trials have been unlawfully eliminated as an option in family court by unelected adminstrators, leaving judges to do whatever they want and control the cases completely. The checks and balances of the judicial system have been removed and profit motives win by the gravity of money over decades.

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“Will of the people the only legitimate foundation of any government, protect its free expression, our first object.” ~ Thomas Jefferson

"No man is good enough to govern another man without the other's consent."

“There are subtle ways and overt ways of alienating a child from a parent, but either way it’s evil”

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