There are a lot
of things we could call it. Domestic discipline is one name. Rules or structure
is another. Whatever it is, it works for some people. I am an adult woman,
a feminist, and dedicated to principles of nonviolence. I do not believe
that any of this is incompatible with the fact that I have asked my partner
to help me with creating rules and structure in my life, nor that the consequence
of my failure to adhere to the rules and structure is often a spanking.

I do not believe
that my relationship has been ordained by any higher power, nor that I need
this structure because I am a woman. I do not believe that discipline requires
a heterosexual partnership.

I believe that
discipline in my relationship is consistent with healthy adult functioning.
I believe that, far from hindering my process of healing from childhood
abuse, discipline and structure can be a healing force. I believe that power
exchange is not solely erotic.

I trust my own
perceptions of what is and is not working, and I trust my partner's perceptions
of the same.