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If you are like me, it always makes me feel good when I receive a compliment—my hair looks great, I look like I lost weight, that color brings out the color of my eyes, etc.

Recently, I’ve become aware that whenever I receive a compliment, I have trouble just accepting it; unfortunately, I always say thank you and then I usually go and negate the positive remark with a negatively charged comment.

For example, someone recently complimented me on my hair, telling me that they loved my curls. While I was appreciative of the comment, and thanked the person, I didn’t leave it at that. I began to explain how the weather was making it kind of frizzy that day and how I really needed to get my color done because my roots are so long. Essentially, I went and totally ruined the comment with all my negative retorts.

But, I am not going to get down on myself for being negative when I receive a compliment. Instead, I am going to be appreciative of the fact that I became aware, on my own, of the way I was handling compliments and that I am now making a conscious effort to be grateful for the comment and simply say, “thank you for the compliment,” and leave it at that; I am not going to allow that sabotaging negative voice in my head push its way through and out my mouth.

By receiving the compliments you get with warmth and positivity, your energy expresses to the Universe that you enjoy receiving compliments and your positivity will attract more circumstances, a.k.a compliments, to keep this positive cycle flowing.

So, the next time someone compliments you, be aware of your reaction. Did you follow your thank you with a negative response? Did you say thank you but then think the negative response only to yourself, which equals the same thing as saying it out loud. Or were you just grateful for the compliment and let the positive energy wash over you? Your reaction will determine whether compliments flow freely to you, or slip-slide away.

I’m proud of your wonderful acceptance-of-compliment skills! Keep up the good work! (wink)

Are you like most people who wish you could lose some extra weight? Do you diet and step on the scale often to ensure you are on the right track toward meeting your goals? Do you stare at your body in the mirror, and only seem to see the parts that you dislike? If so, you are not alone. But, by following these steps I just mentioned above you will do nothing but attract more of everything you don’t want….extra weight.

Why, you ask? Because just by making the statement, and securing it with your actions, that you are “on a diet” sends a message to the universe that you are unhappy with your current self and are “afraid” of putting on more weight.

Try, instead, to say and be more “aware of what you are eating.” Take pride in making good food choices but don’t beat yourself up when you indulge here and there; depriving yourself with a “diet” will only attract more cravings for the things you “can’t” have.

Diets = Fears and therefore continue to deliver more of what you don’t want…poundage.

Which brings me to my next piece of advice: Scales. Get rid of your scale! Do not use one! By weighing yourself on the regular, all you are doing is focusing on a number and expressing to the universe that you will only be happy if, and when, you reach that certain weight—this is not living in the now.

Do not give the control over your happiness to a machine that reflects “who you are” in number form! Go by how your clothes fit but don’t replace your scale obsession with obsessing over your pants feeling a bit tighter then the last time you wore them.

Frankly, the less you think about your weight, the more you will lose because you are not spending time thinking about it, and therefore attracting to you whatever your negative weight-loss thoughts might be.

When you notice your clothes fitting better, be grateful and continue to tell yourself that this is the norm for you, you always lose weight effortlessly. Keep exuding those feel good feelings about your awesome weight-loss manifesting skills and this will remain your reality. I know you can do it and would love to hear your story!