She Broke Up With Me

Breakups: What You Did Wrong

Now, if when you compliment her Dawn doesn’t feel worthy, she’s a space cadet. She’s off in la-la land. But when she says that she woke up with the feeling that something wasn’t quite right, it means her Interest Level just dropped from 51% to 49%. When she said she couldn’t get married right now, that just means she’s not going to marry you — ever. In her defense, Dawn gets rid of guys because she’s sick and tired of them doing everything wrong. The first two guys didn’t have “The System” and you don’t have it either, and so all three of you were doing nothing but making mistakes all over the place. So even if she’s a bit wacky, what else would you expect her to do? You might be scared of a future without Dawn, but she’s scared of being married to someone she’s not interested in.

One of my favorite bits of Womanese from females is that they “can’t be in a relationship right now.” And you guys just swallow it hook, line and sinker! And of course she led you right to the trough and then boom — you were out. That’s what women do when they decide they’ve had enough of you.

The most important point in your entire letter is when you say you picked up “small signs that she was beginning to detach.” At that juncture, you should have backed off. But, no, you’d already met the parents and blabbed your guts out about your feelings and marriage. And like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says, “There was no wiggle room left for you, and then you were finished.”

So, Dawn wishes she could be in heaven? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “If she had 95% interest level in you, she’d feel like she was in Heaven already.” The reason Dawn wants to be in heaven, my friend, is because she doesn’t want to be with you. Don’t you get it?

Instead, you think Dawn has commitment phobia. Brody, you’re the typical clueless guy. It’s always a matter of fear or hang-ups or problems on the lady’s part. You can never own up to what the problem really is: that she has low Interest Level in you.

What should you have done differently? Well, for starters, you should have had my program, then none of this would have happened. You could have told Dawn “no” when she wanted to introduce you to her parents. You could have told her “no” when she wanted to talk about marriage. Then you wouldn’t have been like the other two turkeys she got rid of. Yes, you were too needy and you didn’t give her enough space and you paid too much attention to her — all huge blunders you could have avoided by abiding by the rules of “The System.”

Dawn, on the other hand, has only has one problem — she needs a psychiatrist and can’t afford one. By the way, to you Psych majors, some women don’t argue. They just say to themselves, “I’m out of here,” and then you’re history before you know what hit you.

What happened here? Guy, you weren’t a challenge at all. You were way too available. You met the parents too soon. You said "I love you" way too much. You talked about marriage much too soon. Other than that, you did everything right.

Remember, guys: Don’t rationalize red flags.

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