Amy Lawson, a fifth-grade teacher at Silver Lake Elementary in Middletown, Del., helps student Melody Fritz with an English language arts lesson Oct. 1, 2013. The percentage of respondents in a Harris Poll who agreed with the statement "students respect teachers" dropped from 79% to 31%. / Steve Ruark, AP

by Greg Toppo, USA TODAY

by Greg Toppo, USA TODAY

Compared with when they were students, Americans today believe that there's a lot less respect in the hallways of the nation's schools.

A new Harris Poll out Thursday finds that fewer adults believe teachers respect parents or students - and that fewer believe parents and students respect teachers. In other words, just about every relationship in a school has soured a bit.

In a first-of-its-kind survey, Harris asked 2,250 adults last fall to compare their memory of "school dynamics" when they were students with today. The percentage of respondents who agreed with the statement "students respect teachers" dropped from 79% to 31%. The findings on student respect for teachers are nearly identical for adults who are parents of school-age children and those who aren't.

"We have gone from a time when parents believed what the teacher said in regards to their child's behavior and reacted accordingly to the present, where parents stare in disbelief and think of a million excuses as to why their child misbehaves," says Marybeth Harrison, a public school speech therapist in Hunterdon County, N.J. She said teachers are "sadly the first to be blamed," as parents cite poor classroom management or a lack of patience. "It's time for parents to start 'parenting' and teach manners, respect, etc. ... at home. Let teachers teach."

Linda Schulz, Harris' senior vice president for research, says the survey was "a way to be able to have at least some kind of benchmark" on how people feel about schools. Harris plans to conduct the survey annually.

Among the biggest drops: respondents' impressions of the percentage of parents who respect teachers, which has plummeted, in their minds, from 91% to 49%. Students' respect for teachers also dropped, from 79% to 31%.

The findings don't surprise Arnold Fege, president of Public Advocacy for Kids, a Washington, D.C.-based group focused on education and child advocacy policy. A veteran of many political battles surrounding schools, he has noticed "a lack of respect for public education over the years," whether the issue is testing, teacher evaluations or school choice.

"I think the community really feels that they've lost control of large parts of the institutions that are important to their life," Fege says.

He says education isn't the only arena under the gun - Fege points to recent polls showing that Americans are losing faith in government's ability to solve big problems. "I think that's huge," he says. "I think that's really scary that we've come to a point where we have diminished the importance of everything from FEMA to the military to the NSA."

Los Angeles teacher Michael Ulmer says, "I shake students' hands when they enter the classroom. Seeing as no teacher I had ever did the same, I would say students have the same or more respect these days. It's all about expectations and modeling behavior."

Jen Childers, a parent in Evansville, Ind., says the level of respect in school hasn't necessarily gotten worse. "I was a sideshow attraction at our school because I was 6-foot-2-inches in middle school," she says. "I was constantly teased and ridiculed and teachers and counselors knew it. They did nothing." Most mornings, she recalls, "I was throwing up in the car but I made myself go."

Now a professional boxer and boxing promoter and the mother of an eighth-grader, she says her daughter has been bullied at school because of her size. When she notified the school, she says an official said the cases are difficult to prove "and did nothing. The school principal didn't care and has taken a very soft approach. It's sad. The saga continues."