Girls, Here Are 10 Ways to Know When You Are Being Stalked

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Sometimes a stalker wants what other guys have | Source

Tagging a serious problem

Frankly, stalking is not a cool fad. Stalking is not even a fad, it is a felony. And should be considered a serious problem we have in our society. I am not trying to be Don Quixote, because stalking is not a windmill and I know that alone, "I" cannot raise awareness of just how cruel and heartless this act really is and how many innocent females live in fear every day of some jerk-of-a-guy trying to force himself on them. I need your help to pass the word, advise some innocent female or male about these "monsters," who are running near-amuck among us.

That's what it boils down to. Being aware and prepared to make a stand and defense against stalkers. For some messed up reason, guys with serious mental and psychological problems resort to "tracking" pretty girls in hope that they, the pretty girl will give them the love and attention that they think they deserve. So the stalkers are like a silent train (tough to detect) headed down the railroad tracks bound for hurting some innocent person.

It's sad really. Normal-looking guys who are so desolate in their self-image that they seemingly have to be on a quest to prove, if only to themselves, that they are not freaks and live on the outer fringe of society.

Don Quixote tilting windmills | Source

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It's your call

Dear female reader, this is actually not a comedy piece, but a simplistic way for me to get your attention as to point out a few ways that you can not only be aware of, but know this

Girls, Here Are 10 Ways to Know When You Are Being Stalked

Be Careful - - when you show friendliness to the new employee. I did not say avoid them, but only give a brief amount of your background if that much. Stalkers feed on the information given them by unknowing prey, so do not give the new employee your home address, phone number, anything that they can use to locate you. I am serious.

Your Phone - - whether it is a land line or cell, if it your number is easily accessible, stop! Change the number and make it only available to your close friends, friends and business clients. Make sure that if your family, friends, even your business contacts start receiving calls asking what your number is, tell them to let you know immediately. This is not natural and it might be a stalker looking to find you.

Keep a Close - - look-out on strange vehicles parked near your home or apartment. I do not mean wear an awkward disguise going in and out of your home, just be aware of whose car belongs near where you live and if you see a man or woman sitting in the car looking toward your residence, report them to the police. Do not be a hero. Let that work go to Capt. America. Not you. Be safe. Not sorry may sound corny, but it still works.

When You Attend- - an intimate party with friends, be watchful about that stranger who keeps acting if he or she is interested in you and you start getting uncomfortable quickly. Do not make a scene, but go into a wise retreat each time they corner you and start picking you for information. When you sense this is happening, just ask them nicely, but firmly, "I do not see how this is any of your business," and say no more.

Watch Out For - - phone calls at strange times of the day or night. And it persists over a week's time. If the person (and I use this term loosely) does tell you their name, it is probably fake, so do not engage in conversation with them. Example: "Hey, this is Tom from work. I know it's 3 a.m., but I am really struggling with a question about our company's policy on outsourcing." Do you not think that 3 a.m. is sort of a strange time to be calling you? Hang up. Simple. If "Tom" calls back, tell him to not call you anymore. That's it.

If You See - - footprints around your front door and I mean footprints made from mud, and you know that you do not have home delivery from the post office, do not freak. Call your friends and family and ask them if they visited and you were not home. Ask your neighbors if they visited you while you were out. If both segments of people answer no, then ask your neighbors if they saw someone on your property and can they describe them. If this leaving of muddy footprints continues, call the police.

Type-written Notes - - left on the windshield of your car at home or work is a dead give-away that someone is watching you. I can understand a friendly prank from a friend or family member, but read the note and make sure it is not from a friend or family member. If not, show it to the police. The more you get the police involved the quicker this jerk will be arrested.

If You Get - - a lot of phone calls at work from anyone you do not know, tell your receptionist to always ask, "whom may I say is calling?" If the party hangs up, then they are stalking you. A good friend of family member will not resort to childish games if they really need to talk to you.

Make Sure - - that your e-mail address is not common knowledge. To be prepared against stalkers, tell your human resources department or receptionst to not give anyone your e-mail address. Tell your friends and family to do the same. If a stalker has your e-mail, then look out for suggestive, forward e-mails that will make your life an arena of fear. Do what's necessary to protect yourself.

If You See - - anyone with a camera in the area near your workplace or home each time you go to work or go home, and you know for sure they are taking photos of you, then approach them. They will probably run away for stalkers are not that aggressive. They want photos of you to study you and plot their next move. Do not be afraid to be firm. It's your peace of mind that you are protecting.

I sincerely hope that these tidbits of information help you.

Good night, St. Paul, Minnesota.

A trick used by stalkers is to act like they are talking on their phone, but really checking you out | Source

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Kenneth Avery 16 months agofrom Hamilton, Alabama

Katharella,

Thanks for your nice comment. You brought out some good points about a close friend being your stalker. That is just creepy.

I appreciate you taking the time to read and leave a comment.

Write me anytime.

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Kenneth Avery 16 months agofrom Hamilton, Alabama

Hi, breakfastpop,

I too am thankful that the police helped your daughter.

In fact, I will continue to pray for all of our brave police officers who do look out for us without getting any credit.

Hub idea? Maybe.

You, dear friend, have a safe weekend.

Write me anytime.

Katharella 16 months agofrom Lost in America

Great hub, actually so inspiring (and long reply) :) I should turn it into a hub of my own.

Strangely enough as you mention it can be a girl... but even stranger, when you believe the girl to be your best friend, for years and little things begin to creep out!

Usually when one tells someone the friendship is over bearing but instead of feeling the same you learn she had already been stalking you for years, and possibly pulling tricks for the entire friendship.

It's actually embarrassing when you learn you've chosen to overlook some very obvious facts!

breakfastpop 16 months ago

My daughter was stalked and I thank my police department for helping us.