My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 3 weeks now. The thing is we are at university and so practically live together, in the same building and so we meet a lot. It's not like a relationship where we only see each other once in three days, and go home after that. So even though it's been only 3 weeks, it sort of feels like 3 months.We've obviously got physical and intimate as well.It progresses day by day and yesterday, we reached second base. She enjoyed it immensely and says I am great in bed but then said '**** we're moving way too fast' and then says 'that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it', and 'I promised myself I wouldn't get carried away in the first month, but I'm obviously failing that miserably'. So there are a lot of conflicting statements which I don't really get. When she says we're taking it too fast, I say 'Okay I understand, let's take it slower next time' but then she initiates it and we end up going a step further the next time. And it's not like we have to force each other, it's very natural and passionate from both sides.

(Original post by huckingfell)My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 3 weeks now. The thing is we are at university and so practically live together, in the same building and so we meet a lot. It's not like a relationship where we only see each other once in three days, and go home after that. So even though it's been only 3 weeks, it sort of feels like 3 months.We've obviously got physical and intimate as well.It progresses day by day and yesterday, we reached second base. She enjoyed it immensely and says I am great in bed but then said '**** we're moving way too fast' and then says 'that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it', and 'I promised myself I wouldn't get carried away in the first month, but I'm obviously failing that miserably'. So there are a lot of conflicting statements which I don't really get. When she says we're taking it too fast, I say 'Okay I understand, let's take it slower next time' but then she initiates it and we end up going a step further the next time. And it's not like we have to force each other, it's very natural and passionate from both sides.

Oh, well to be honest second base isn't her being "easy" and it sounds like you have a lot of respect for her, in my opinion. Are you two connecting well? If she is initiating it, she obviously likes it, keep doing what you two are doing, your relationship sounds good.

Just keep using the words "are you sure you're ready" if you get anywhere near third or fourth. My ex was a virgin when I met her, and I let her take all the steps to go further - even tried to talk her out of sex to soon cause its supposed to be a big thing for girls, but she wanted it after a month. If you make sure its their decision and not yours, they can't regret it and blame you later.