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Is it okay to stare at nearly naked people?

by fmichellemoran on March 5, 2013

Or should I make every effort to avert my eyes?

I mean really, don’t they dress that way on purpose? I’m talking about people – okay, it’s mostly women – who wear clothing that leaves their ta-tas and their hoo-haas hanging out for the world to see.

So, the thing is, this woman came in to the store yesterday and her shirt was super low-cut.

This was not a tiny woman.

And the shirt was just a wee bit tight, so there was that. You know, boob muffin top.

One boob was just way – way – exposed and the other was apparently hanging on to her shirt by the nipple for dear life – I mean we’re way close to indecent exposure here.

And both of those breasteses were tattooed.

Tattooed.

That’s not something you do on accident. These are not accidentally tattooed and exposed boobs we’re talking about.

And I’m trying not to stare.

Cause that’s rude. And kinda icky.

So hard I’m trying.

But it’s WEIRD! It’s like they’re everywhere. The boobs are everywhere!

And I’m afraid my eyes are going to lock on and I’ll get boob hypnotized and I’ll fall in or something.

Look away, Michelle! Look away!

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I got through it. I looked away.

Mostly.

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But I’ve got a little post-traumatic shock.

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And I really want to know –

If someone leaves the house with their bits and pieces hanging out, aren’t they basically saying, “Hey everybody – look what I got!”

She thinks she’s way hotter than she is, that’s the issue: it’s like those episodes of Ricky from the 90s where they take some very large scantily clad lady and try to give them a makeunder and you just know those ladies are going straight back to their hoochie ways after the show is over.

Haha! I remember those Ricky episodes. Yeah, I wondered about that – they must really think they look great. I have exactly the opposite mental image of myself – which is fine by me if that’s the alternative.

I am still imagining you in that mini skirt and those boots. Looking someone over can slide into creepyville pretty easily (especially if you are a guy). The situation you found yourself in is pretty common down here on Miami Beach…..lots of scantily clad bodies. Tell me what you think of me saying to someone, “excuse me for asking, but I am having a hard time keeping my eyes off of you……would it be okay with you if I stare for a bit……remember, I’m asking first.”

Then I’ll let my eyes drink in as calm and neutral way as I can muster to keep clear of creepyville……if done well this could be a lot of fun – take people watching to a whole new level.

See, I think that’s part of it, is that I’m just not used to that much exposure here in Virginia. Or not anymore. I worked at an amusement park when I was a kid and people – oh my goodness – how some of those people dressed. I got used to it. And at the beach you kind of expect some of that. I just wear good sunglasses and stare all I want. But that’s part of my question – is it weird of me that I feel compelled to stare? It’s just so outside of my normal experience that it draws my eyes. And – completely honest – I just really wanted to reach out and pat them. Like a bongo drum.

And no, I don’t imagine your polite request would go over all that well. For most people anyway. But who knows, if someone dresses that way, maybe they’d appreciate the direct approach. Why don’t you try it and let me know how that goes? 😀

I think you’re right. But it’s so hard to keep my eyes away from the target area, haha. If I saw a two headed dog, I’d feel a compulsion to look at that too – it’s just not what I’m used to seeing. To be honest, my eyes were continually drawn to that vast expanse of skin, but I didn’t really *want* to look. I almost felt like I was being sexually harassed – get those out of my face or I’ll call the cops!

I totally don’t appreciate the way people do that. The new “thing” over here, not sure about where you are though, is to wear tights with shorts, not just summery shorts, but shorts so short they look like underwear. People walking around in tights and denim underwear with half their arses hanging out (thinking it looks awesome.) Ooh it bugs me!
Most people only do it to be stared at, and I think flaunting oneself is pretty gross, so I completely ignore them to be the “one” who didn’t encourage it even if it makes no difference. People call me a prude, a shriveled prune, a boring old fashioned ranting prudish prune who doesn’t appreciate the human form and is anti-liberation for women… but I’m afraid I don’t care, and I’m not anyway 🙂
Now this WAS is a good post, it really got me thinking!
Lorna xx

So they’re walking around basically in their underwear, huh? It’s so funny that this is a post that really got you thinking 😀 We all have our hot buttons, right?

I don’t think at all that you’re a prude or a boring old fashioned ranting prudish prune!! I think it’s one thing to “appreciate the human form” and another to put your body out there on display to get attention or be provocative or to feel sexy. That to me just seems like something;s missing for that person and they’ve chosen a wrong way to fill up that space.

Lol this is a good question 🙂 I usually try not to stare cos it seems rude and then I get really annoyed because I can’t understand why someone would walk out in that state of undress, and subject the rest of us to this dilemma of to look or not to look 😀

Was it you who wrote about the lady flaunting herself at the cookout? I thought about that lady when I was writing this. I don’t think this was at all like that case, but I do think it’s about attention or else just thinking she’s hot when she most definitely was not.

Where has morality gone anyway?….that’s what I say! It used to be (long ago…but in my day) that a woman only dressed with a ‘bit’ of cleavage showing for evening wear…special occasions, and it wasn’t indecent! It makes me nearly ill to see woman let it ALL hang out! Makes me want to shout….please….there are children among us or….put some clothes on! LOL!

I don’t mind a little cleavage, or even a fair amount if it’s a tasteful outfit. I think that has come to be pretty normal anymore. But people go so far beyond the normal bounds sometimes! I just really wanted to lay a paper towel on her chest or something! 🙂

I personally think that if people dress a certain way and go out in public like that, they are certainly alright with people seeing them. Now if you’re deviating a little from the norm and you know that some people might ‘stare’ as a result, and you’re still okay going out like that, then maybe they’re fine with people staring too.

I guess where one should draw the line is at actually Doing something based on how another person is dressed.