Sorry for your troubles! I know what you mean when you say there is no one left to talk to. Especially with family when you don't want to stir the pot even more. That's why posting on here is good! I don't think I have any amazing insights to your situation, but I would recommend you might be interested in learning about meditation if you don't know any if the techniques already. Not even that you have to sit there and meditate, but a lot of it is about dropping the drama or the storyline."he did this and she is bad because that," etc. Not saying you are creating it but it might help you learn to view your family and their issues from a loving distance! If you want some book or podcast suggestions let me know. I would also recommend making up with your mom. Bend on the issue in order to have a relationship, but protect yourself too and LO. From your post I got the impression these things have been going on in your family for a while, generations maybe,(not uncommon) and if I were you I would think about what you want to pass on to your LO or not, and maybe you can be the one in your family to change thins now. Or at least don't perpetuate drama and don't allow your LO see you gossip about others. My 2 cents! GL

Sorry for your troubles! I know what you mean when you say there is no one left to talk to. Especially with family when you don't want to stir the pot even more. That's why posting on here is good! I don't think I have any amazing insights to your situation, but I would recommend you might be interested in learning about meditation if you don't know any if the techniques already. Not even that you have to sit there and meditate, but a lot of it is about dropping the drama or the storyline."he did this and she is bad because that," etc. Not saying you are creating it but it might help you learn to view your family and their issues from a loving distance! If you want some book or podcast suggestions let me know. I would also recommend making up with your mom. Bend on the issue in order to have a relationship, but protect yourself too and LO. From your post I got the impression these things have been going on in your family for a while, generations maybe,(not uncommon) and if I were you I would think about what you want to pass on to your LO or not, and maybe you can be the one in your family to change thins now. Or at least don't perpetuate drama and don't allow your LO see you gossip about others. My 2 cents! GL

Family drama sucks but these all seem so petty to stop talking to family. Agree to disagree with mom. Don't let MIL babysit. Or sister if she thinks getting drunk is no big deal. Explain to sister why she was not in delivery room and move on. It's her birth and who she wants is her deal. What did your brother "threaten" you with in regards to the dogs? Normal stud service fees are pick of the litter. Ask for 2 if you received nothing from the first. Or if you think he won't come through ask for an up front cash fee. Or have your dog fixed so that takes care of that. I have 5 siblings and I do understand family drama and issues. I just don't see the point of getting upset or hurt over dumb stuff.

Family drama sucks but these all seem so petty to stop talking to family. Agree to disagree with mom. Don't let MIL babysit. Or sister if she thinks getting drunk is no big deal. Explain to sister why she was not in delivery room and move on. It's her birth and who she wants is her deal. What did your brother "threaten" you with in regards to the dogs? Normal stud service fees are pick of the litter. Ask for 2 if you received nothing from the first. Or if you think he won't come through ask for an up front cash fee. Or have your dog fixed so that takes care of that. I have 5 siblings and I do understand family drama and issues. I just don't see the point of getting upset or hurt over dumb stuff.

Thank for your reply :) Its just rally hard, I was ok not speaking to anyone as there allways the ones who like to talk to everyone about everything so i was ok with that, but then i found out about my sister i know its her choice and everything but it like my brothesr fiance is pressuring her to be there in the delivery room because my other sister was telling how excited she is to have both her sister there so i just dont get it!! And my sister also feels guilty because my brother fiance is asking her to be bridesmaid at her wedding so she feel obligated to bring her into the delivery room.

And my mom i have actually tried making up with her, i called to see if she was still planning on taking my lo on (oct.04) wich she told me she was so i called and then she started freaking out saying she taking me to court for grandparent rights... after that i completly lost it on her because we are the parents and decide who get to see lo, i was furious because i never once said she couldnt see my lo she just got this in her head and she bieng stubborn and not calling me. I have gone years of my life without talking to her and i think as a parent it should be her responsiblitly to reconnect with me, if my daughter was bieng distant i would make a effort to be close to her so i just dont get my moms way of thinking.

I never let my lo see how i am sad about this, or i never let her see how angry i am, but i will admit its hard sometime!!!And yes these things have been going on for a while!!!

Meditation sounds southing!! I usually take a long bubble bath and just try to clear my mind, but these past few days i have been going crazy thinking about every non stop!!

I seroioulsy wish everyone would just stop it, i love christmas and was planning a big dinner but now seems like nobody will be here!!

Thank for your reply :) Its just rally hard, I was ok not speaking to anyone as there allways the ones who like to talk to everyone about everything so i was ok with that, but then i found out about my sister i know its her choice and everything but it like my brothesr fiance is pressuring her to be there in the delivery room because my other sister was telling how excited she is to have both her sister there so i just dont get it!! And my sister also feels guilty because my brother fiance is asking her to be bridesmaid at her wedding so she feel obligated to bring her into the delivery room.

And my mom i have actually tried making up with her, i called to see if she was still planning on taking my lo on (oct.04) wich she told me she was so i called and then she started freaking out saying she taking me to court for grandparent rights... after that i completly lost it on her because we are the parents and decide who get to see lo, i was furious because i never once said she couldnt see my lo she just got this in her head and she bieng stubborn and not calling me. I have gone years of my life without talking to her and i think as a parent it should be her responsiblitly to reconnect with me, if my daughter was bieng distant i would make a effort to be close to her so i just dont get my moms way of thinking.

I never let my lo see how i am sad about this, or i never let her see how angry i am, but i will admit its hard sometime!!!And yes these things have been going on for a while!!!

Meditation sounds southing!! I usually take a long bubble bath and just try to clear my mind, but these past few days i have been going crazy thinking about every non stop!!

I seroioulsy wish everyone would just stop it, i love christmas and was planning a big dinner but now seems like nobody will be here!!

Ya i tried making things better with my mom shes just to stubborn headed!!My borther the issue was he bred his dog one time unseccefully and gave us 100$ so i said he could use his again for free, then he demanded to use his again for free. The whole this just got blown out of peportion, i simply asked him if he could give us anything from the puppies and he freaked out calling me greedy but meanwhile he is the one making 4000$ off my dog for free! he could have just said no and i would have been ok,

I know all this probally sound so stupid to people but i am hurt about it, there my familly and i have allwasy been best friends with my borther and sister so it does really hurt me :(

And then there my sister i probally know why she doesnt want me there, it took me a while to be happy for her pregnancy, she just got back together with her bf who stole her dog when they broke up then as soon as they get back together she pregnant and will be not going to schoolo again for a while which she worked so hard to get into and she was soo happy to be going to school and she has allways told me shes wanted a career befor familly. so ya it took me a while to be happy for her but ive come around and am super happy i will have a nefew, and there just so much more, like my brother fiance was in the same school as her so theres allways together and she can be very munipulative to everyone.

Plus all this happend when i get my period so ya im extra moody!! LOL first eriod after baby are NONO fun and make me all moody so i thik it has alot to do with how im thinking!! Its funny i have been telling dh how upset i was then yesterday i tell him my period is here and he just laugh at me saying oohh well that why your so emotional :) lol i love him so much at least he can allways make me laugh no matter the situation! Thats why i just want everyone to be happy and let all this go!

Thanks everyone for listining, i know i might sound carzy! But It helps alot talking to an outsider about my situation even if i doesnt make a whole lotta sense!!

Thanks :)

Ya i tried making things better with my mom shes just to stubborn headed!!My borther the issue was he bred his dog one time unseccefully and gave us 100$ so i said he could use his again for free, then he demanded to use his again for free. The whole this just got blown out of peportion, i simply asked him if he could give us anything from the puppies and he freaked out calling me greedy but meanwhile he is the one making 4000$ off my dog for free! he could have just said no and i would have been ok,

I know all this probally sound so stupid to people but i am hurt about it, there my familly and i have allwasy been best friends with my borther and sister so it does really hurt me :(

And then there my sister i probally know why she doesnt want me there, it took me a while to be happy for her pregnancy, she just got back together with her bf who stole her dog when they broke up then as soon as they get back together she pregnant and will be not going to schoolo again for a while which she worked so hard to get into and she was soo happy to be going to school and she has allways told me shes wanted a career befor familly. so ya it took me a while to be happy for her but ive come around and am super happy i will have a nefew, and there just so much more, like my brother fiance was in the same school as her so theres allways together and she can be very munipulative to everyone.

Plus all this happend when i get my period so ya im extra moody!! LOL first eriod after baby are NONO fun and make me all moody so i thik it has alot to do with how im thinking!! Its funny i have been telling dh how upset i was then yesterday i tell him my period is here and he just laugh at me saying oohh well that why your so emotional :) lol i love him so much at least he can allways make me laugh no matter the situation! Thats why i just want everyone to be happy and let all this go!

Thanks everyone for listining, i know i might sound carzy! But It helps alot talking to an outsider about my situation even if i doesnt make a whole lotta sense!!

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