Discovering Life as a Reflectionist

Month: January 2016

My friend, Holly Kobayashi, recently recommended the book below, and I have found it truly eye-opening. Below you will find a description of the book. Note that the content of this book is very confrontational, and is not, necessarily an easy read. Please do not struggle, and only proceed further if you are stable, and are seeking growth and development in areas which may be difficult. Additionally, you can find this book under the “Reading List” page of my blog.

Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw

Using a wealth of practical techniques, informative case histories and unique questionnaires, John Bradshaw demonstrates how your wounded inner child may be causing you pain. You’ll learn to gradually, safely, go back to reclaim and nurture that inner child – and literally help yourself grow up again. Homecoming shows you how to:

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Welcome to According to Allie! I am 25, driven to find happiness in the moment, and to be able to share the wisdom of how to find it with others. I have a rich history of life experience for my age, which enables me to see a unique, relative depth perspective — Hopefully one of which will benefit you.

This blog site has been made during a very important point of my life. Over the past couple of weeks I have been recovering from a pre-burnout. Over this time, I have had a lot of things to process and face, head on. I’ve been trying to re-discover what it means to live. I am an active, go-getter person, who often forgets to live in the “now” — Constantly focused on what needs to be done, or how to progress forward in life. Over the years, this has paid a toll on my physical and emotional well-being, and it has come to this point for me to realize it. And so this blog was formed!

MY LIFE IN A NUTSHELL:

I was born in Phoenix, AZ, and grew up in a divorced family setting. I mostly lived with my mom, visiting my dad, step-mom, step-sister, and half-brother frequently. I moved around a lot as a kid, and was able to call several places home, however I knew it was never permanent. Between the ages of 14 and 16, I was able to experience my first love relationship. I moved to Folsom, CA with my mom when I was 17, in hopes for a brighter future in college. I spent my senior year of high school focusing on college selection and my spirituality. I moved in 2008, ready to begin my studies at California State University, Chico. I started out with studying Photography, however, after my first year, changed to Music Industry and Technology. My heart always centered around music, and since I knew my singing was merely to be a hobby, I decided to get as close to music in another way – Working from the business perspective. My 4th year of college, I decided to study abroad in Uppsala, Sweden, to complete my minor in International Media and Communication. 1 and a half months before I was to leave, a very sudden and tragic event happened in my life: My mom died. This experience turned my life upside down, being that she was unmarried, I was her only child and that we were so close. In honor of what she would have wanted me to do, I continued on my journey to Sweden. I knew it was the right decision when I stepped on the plane in August 2011. Shortly after my arrival, I met some great friends, and my current partner, Tim. That year was monumental for my growth, and I was lucky to have such a great support system alongside my adventure. I became so fond of my European lifestyle that I decided to stay an extra year. I was also not feeling as though I was capable to go back to Chico and do a full course load after my mom’s passing. So I decided to move to Haarlem, Netherlands to be an Au Pair for a lovely family in Heemstede. It was a great year, becoming familiar with the Dutch lifestyle, learning another language, and living with Tim. In Spring 2012, when my time as an Au Pair had ended, I returned to Chico, CA where I graduated with a Bachelors Degree by the end of the academic year in Spring 2013. From there, Tim came out to join me in the U.S. We moved to Oakland, CA where I had an internship and numerous jobs in San Francisco, and Tim did his Masters internship at UC Berkeley. Once Tim’s internship ended in Spring 2014, and he had a taste of what it was like to live in the country where I came from, we mutually decided to move back to The Netherlands. Here we are now! I currently work for an entertainment tour logistics company in Amsterdam, Tim has a PhD position at Leiden University, and together we have a cozy home with our little 5 month old German Shepherd pup, Skye Louie. This is my life in a nutshell.

If you are able to relate in any way, please, take a look at some of my posts. I think you will be able to find useful techniques, and common ground to help center yourself, and ultimately have a more relaxed and healthy life!

If you have any topics that you would like me to observe and write about, please feel free to comment on this or any of my posts!