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Why Are We Embarrassed?

If I’m not feeling perfect, I must figure out why. If I ignore it, it will just get worse. A feeling that use to confuse me was embarrassment. So, I gave it a good hard think and figured out the root cause. It’s one (or a combination) of the following reasons:

We are doing something that we are not innately good at/that does not come easily to us.

We are doing something we have absolutely no experience at doing.

There is something we don’t like about the situation.

I found myself getting embarrassed whenever I had to model for Graye Note. In general, I do not get embarrassed about anything, ever, so this confused me greatly. When I analyzed the problem I realized:

I am not gifted as a model. This is simply something that does NOT come naturally or easily to me in any way. I’m great at having my picture taken when I get to be “me.” “Me” is very silly and happy and I smile very widely and my eyes pop out. I am terrible at “acting a part,” which is exactly what modeling requires.

I had zero experience as a model.

I don’t want to be the “face of Graye Note.” The brand is not intended to be about me. If it was, I would have named it “Andrea Graye.”

Done and done. It was that simple to figure out. I wasn’t getting embarrassed because I have low self confidence or thought badly of myself. I was embarrassed because I was in a situation I was never created to be in and did not have any gifts, skills, or experience to be successful. That is embarrassing.

Andrea Graye is a wife, stylist, and writer living in Manhattan. Based on her unbreakable habit of directly expressly opinions the moment they enter her mind, her husband as dubbed her “the next Miranda Priestly.” Connect with Andrea: @AndreaGraye on Twitter, and @AndreaGraye on Instagram.