Well, I’m Back

PublishedMay 17, 2016

Hi everyone! Remember me?

I feel terrible that I haven’t updated my blog in a long time. It’s been far longer than I’ve ever let it go before. I’ve obviously remained active on social media, posting to my tumblr and Twitter accounts regularly with mini updates about my life. But it’s been a long time since I’ve written anything here.

It started out where every day I’d think “Oh man, I never updated my blog!” and then I started adding “Blog post” to my weekly to-do list instead of my daily one. Then, it got to a point where I wasn’t even bothering to add it to the list anymore: I knew I wasn’t going to get around to it.

I’ve been very busy recently, and I’ve had an unfortunate series of issues with my health. At one point, I was convinced that it was something really serious, and I was quite worried about it, to say the least. I’m happy to say that after a long series of non-sexy doctor’s visits and tests, I’ve been able to get things pretty much straightened out and I’m no longer feeling badly or worrying about that.

During that time, I got behind on a lot of projects and stuff, and I’m now working to get myself totally caught up. I still have a few things to do, but it’s a relief to be at least close to the feeling of being on top of things.

Meanwhile, my creative juices have been flowing a lot recently (side note: that’s the dirtiest sentence ever, when you think about where most of my creativity comes from) but I’ve been primarily funneling them into Northern Spanking. I’ve been writing lots of the scenes that we’ve been shooting, and we’ve been shooting a lot recently.

Throughout all this, my poor little blog has been sitting off in the corner, getting no love from me. It’s hard: once I let something go a while, then I just start feeling so guilty about the fact that I haven’t been doing it and that makes me want to avoid it and it’s just a vicious cycle.

But, it’s time to break that cycle and start sharing with you guys again. So, here are a few fast facts:
-For those of you who don’t know, Paul and I got engaged in January when I was visiting him in England. REALLY exciting stuff! I’m just over the moon happy about it. I love him so much, and getting married to him is a dream come true. *heart eyes*

Nothing is going to change in terms of any of my other relationships or my work life when I get married. I’ll still shoot, I’ll still do sessions, I’ll still play with other people, I’ll still have relationships with other people. A huge part of the reason that Paul and I work so well together is because he supports the things that make me happy. I’m just going to have a supportive husband instead of a supportive partner. I’ll probably just be brighter and bubblier all the time.

Engagement Picture! I was really surprised!

So, that’s the biggest news! Paul was in England for literally five months this time, so the fact that he’s back now is also pretty big news to me. He got home in April, so he’s been home for a little over a month. I’m getting used to having him back, and it’s been really good to get to spend time together. Our cats are happy about it, too. They really missed him. I’m not even making that up. They love him more than they love me, I think.

There will be posts about other stuff that’s happened since I last posted…last year coming up soon (probably). But tomorrow Paul and I are shooting with Ami Mercury. In case you aren’t familiar with her, Ami is an East Coast based spanking model who shoots primarily with Punished Brats. We’ve got some fun scenes planned for the day. I’ve never had the chance to meet Ami before, so I’m looking forward to that. She’s going to be in town for Domcon, which starts this weekend.

Alas, I won’t be able to attend Domcon this year, as it’s the same weekend as the Lone Star Spanking Party in Houston, which Paul and I will be taking off for on Wednesday. I have a busy calendar while I’m there, but if you’re a Houston based spanko or you’re going to be at the party and you’re interested in having a session with me, shoot me an email sooner rather than later, while there still is a bit of room left on the calendar.

A highlight of this upcoming weekend is the fact that Paul and I are sharing a room with Adrianna Evans and Ally Cakes. Adrianna and Ally have become really close friends of mine recently, but we actually haven’t hung out in the same place since the first time that I met Ally at Adrianna’s house over a year ago.

The only picture of the three of us that exists, plus the lovely Lexi Ellis

I’m sure that there won’t be ANY mischief in our room with the three of us in one place, right? Actually, I’m just hoping that Paul can handle the three of us.

I’m looking forward to seeing lots of other friends, doing a bunch of shooting (wearing both my producer hat and my modeling hat) and playing with lots of lovely people.

For a long time, I was struggling with a low tolerance. It sort of came out of nowhere and became a really big problem for me. It was becoming almost laughable how little I could take. But this will be my first party since I’ve pretty much regained that. The only thing that I’ve noticed is that while my tolerance during a spanking is the same as it once was (although I’ll probably never have the same tolerance that I used to have at the very height of my hard play days, since I think that about 75 percent of the nerves in my butt were just temporarily destroyed or something) the pain seems to linger around longer, which I can’t say I mind. There’s something very satisfying about going to bed sore and waking up sore the next morning. My point with this is that it will be nice to be at a party where I can actually play outside of pre-arranged engagements more than just a little bit without feeling totally worn out, although I guess I do still have to pace myself a bit.

I also have to pack tomorrow night after the shoot. I have some super cute stuff for this party (the themes include “soda shop” and “1950’s prom” and I am very well prepared for both of these) and I just need to get it all together. But I just hate packing so much. You’d think that a person who travels as much as I do would be good at packing and unpacking. But you’d be lying to yourself, because I’m still terrible at it.

Anyway, there you have it. A blog post! It’s kind of all over the place, but at least it exists.

I’ll be straight forward about this: it gets harder for me to want to update my blog as opposed to other forms of social media because I often feel like I get way less feedback and interaction here for way more effort. I feel like a big loser saying “please leave comments” but an occasional note to let me know that the people who read this blog aren’t all spam robots would not be unappreciated. 😉

24 Responses to Well, I’m Back

Alex,
Congratulations on your engagement! I know that you and Paul will be happy together. I’m also very glad that you are feeling better. I know being ill isn’t very fun.
I was hoping I would see you during the Lone Star Spanking Party but I have already arranged sessions with Portia Spanks and Miss Jenn Disciplines and my funds aren’t available for more play than that. I really hope that the next time you visit Houston I’ll be able to have a session with you. I feel very appreciative of you since you introduced me to spanking.
That you for the blog. I enjoy knowing what is going on with you. Have a great time here in Houston.

Good to see you back in the blogosphere! Yeah, the comment thing. I’m dealing with the same lack of incentive re. my blog — folks, if you don’t comment, we might as well be talking to ourselves. But I hope you keep blogging for as long as you have something to say, which means forever! ♥

Well in the world of quantum mechanics, they say there are no certainties, it’s all probability. Anything that can happen will happen if you wait long enough. But I would’ve put the idea here of Alex and low tolerance being used in the same sentence at the same probability level of it writing chocolate syrup. Anyway, glad you’re back and wish you a happy marriage.

Yeah, that was a weird and stressful period of time for me. My mind wanted things one way but my body just didn’t agree. I’m glad to have it seemingly fixed, although what fixed it is entirely unclear. 0_0

This post is hitting a little too close to home for me. I’m seriously speechless.

I too have a website that I have neglected for a VERY long time. You may have heard of it, it’s called http://www.bottomsupbookreview.com. I think it’s been about a year since I have posted a spanky book review, and even then my posts couldn’t have been called regular. Just today I made the decision to try – even if it’s a one shot deal – to put up a book review. So I picked up YOUR book that you sent me about 8 months ago and re-read it. And as I sit down at my computer to write the review, I feel compelled to check out your blog. This entry of your blog speaks VOLUMES to me.

I have found over the last few years that as life becomes more and more demanding, this is the part of me that is sacrificed to make everything else work. And the guilt for dropping something that I do in fact care a great deal about is overwhelming. So, what I will say to you – what I too need to hear — is this: Do what you can, when you can. Your readers will understand. And those who don’t – well, screw ’em.

Thanks for reviewing my book! It’s kind of cool that we were on the same wavelength and in the same place of kind of struggling with the updating. I appreciate your encouragement, too. I hope I’ll be able to get back into the blogging thing properly again, but if I can’t, I can’t and I’ll still do my best. 🙂

Alex, it’s great to hear from you again – love the pictures … I have written some articles about spanking models on my blog domesticsubmission.wordpress.com as well .. I’m glad to hear again from you !

Congratulations on the engagement! I don’t have a profile in whatever this blog world is, but I ran across the interview with you and Paul last night about the law in the UK banning bdsm porn sales. I don’t know how long ago that was, but thought you were really well spoken and am very glad you two were able to Change your production base to keep northern spanking going. I hadn’t heard of it, but watched you 50 with the cane and some others and really like it.

I read a bunch last night but was too tired to comment,so my response might be to some of a different post. I am terrible about not commenting even when I love what people write because I think why would they care what I say? but of course to write a blog plus put vulnerable videos of yourself out there, it’s nice to hear something back. You seem so genuine, which I love. I definitely relate too the frustration of people telling you sex and spanking go together. They’re not as diametrically separate for me as for you, but sometimes they are, and none of us should have to have more of an explanation than that’s what works for us.

This is also why I don’t respond, I’m typing on my phone and tend to ramble. Thank you for what you do and what you share 🙂 I feel like we have a lot in common. I perved your Amazon wish list and it looked really familiar, lol. I love the vintage dresses and cutesy stuff,and literally everything on your list! Anyway, I hope you are well!

First and foremost, I’m a girl who loves being spanked. It’s at the very center of my being. I’m also a professional spanking model, which means I get to do what I love for my job. I’m twenty six years old, and currently located in Los Angeles when I’m not traveling around on my adventures. My vanilla interests include poetry, film history, academia, Pokemon, indie music, baby animals, baking and cooking, collecting vintage clothes and lots of cuddling.