Wednesday, June 8, 2011

"In five decades, we’ve moved from the pre-feminist mantra about the sexual peccadilloes of married men — Boys will be boys — to post-feminist resignation: Men are dogs. And there’s no point in feminists wasting their ire at women being objectified because many women these days seem all too ready to play along."

I'd be interested to see if you agree or disagree. Doud's Op-Ed piece is concurrent with the latest Weiner stuff, which I think is a national embarrassment. It epitomizes stupid, 15 year old behavior blown up by ridiculous public lying and a maudlin confession, all followed by "I won't resign."

I've always wondered, since Gary Hart days, how public men can engage in this type of behavior — and expect that they will not get publicly caught. We all understand that men and women are different in terms of their thoughts, feelings, and behavior related to sex, although women are catching up in terms of infidelity. Isn't that wonderful??

Is it the ego, arrogance, power thing that leads these guys to think they can do whatever they want and keep it hidden? I'd write a book on the topic if I could figure it out or read one on the topic of "What are they thinking?" if someone else could figure it out. Can you come up with a hypothesis? How are they able to believe that no one will find out? Maybe we can write a group blog devoted to our guesses!

WELCOME TO IWO!

It's the beginning of the third year of intelligentwomenonly.com I've started off with some retrospective posts as a reminder to me and you that this blog started out focused on understanding and eliminating negative self-talk. Not surprising since my current book project is Handbook #l for Intelligent Women: Break the Negative Self-Talk Habit.Strong beliefs underlie intelligentwomenonly.com posts:• Research based advice/suggestions/content contain more accurate facts and greater value than pop psychology.• Intelligent girls and women are more likely than intelligent boys and men to limit themselves because of their self-talk.• Negative self-talk is a bad habit, not a neurosis or psychosis. Unfortunately, it's normal in a majority of girls and women.

•The negative self-talk habit has to be eliminated before realistic (or positive thinking) can be learned and maintained.• Positive self-talk cannot create a positive reality even if the negative self-talk habit is broken.• Self-help approaches can work for changing thinking, feeling, and behavioral habits.In the next nine months of 2012, I would love to be able to tell you that the book will be published this year or next. In the meantime I've become intrigued with new brain research about thinking and emotions, particularly applicable and useful for and to women. I'll post no more about gender differences, unless they're wildly interesting, and more about intelligent women's psychology, thinking, feelings, and out front actions. I've added a new red subject box, Writers and Writing, targeted specifically for writers, of course!

I'm still looking for some controversy, disagreement, new information from readers. I'm open to your thoughts about what you'd like to hear more about — or less about!Please send me your comments, suggestions, questions, criticisms — all of you intelligent women out there!