Essential Oil Diffuser Necklaces help Emotionally

Keep your Essential Oils close, maintain emotional wellness

Recently on Rewired Life™ Radio I had the pleasure of interviewing Lizzie Bourque, the founder of Tin Lizzie Apothecary, a boutique jewelry designer focusing on essential oil diffuser necklaces. Lizzie and I connected over our passion for not only empowering women to heal, but using essential oils to assist with emotional wellness.

Like most of my guests, I am always interested in how they arrived at where they are today.

AUDREY: How did essential oils and creating these necklaces become a part of your life?

LIZZIE: Well I moved to Denver and I actually got pretty heavily immersed in the tech start-up scene here. And so that was totally new for me, I’d come from advertising. It was a huge breath of fresh air with entrepreneurship and this go-getter mindset. I ended up at this community and environment for entrepreneurs and it was exhilarating and so great but at the same time extremely stressful and extremely fast growing. So, it kind of knocked me on the head.

I think for some people stress, anxiety, and depression and all these things kind of come on hard, and for me it was more of a very slow spiral down. I didn’t always know I was going down that way, but once I was there, I was there. At that point I was really looking for something to help, that weren’t necessarily traditional Western medicine. So, that’s really how I started getting into essential oils. A deep dive into how they work, and what they do, and what works where, and when you combine them.

I know what you’re thinking… how does this work??

Our skin quickly absorbs essential oils, but raw wood does not! By placing your essential oils on Tin Lizzie Apothecary’s wood bead, you get a slow release of the oil through out the day. So where a traditional diffuser requires you to stay in one place, diffuser jewelry allows you to have your oils with you wherever you are.

I have to say, I wear my necklace from Tin Lizzie Apothecary almost everyday. I use an oil to set an intention for the day, and through out the day I get unexpected scents reminding me of what I am up to.

Rewire Your Emotions with Essential Oils

What makes Essential Oils so powerful?

Rewired Life™ has always been about the emotional process of healing. This summer on Rewired Life™ Radio, I talked about neuroplastic pathways and how we have the ability to shift our thought patterns and beliefs into something that works for us in the current moment.

For me, neuroscience explains the “woo-woo” aspect of what I do; why are affirmations, meditations, visualizations, and essential oils so powerful?

Let’s start here: There are billions of bits of information coming at us every second of everyday. Our brain has to filter out what is important, and what is unimportant to us or we’d be ridiculously overwhelmed. The question becomes, how do we define what’s important and not important? Because it is different for everybody, its one of the things that make us unique. Over the years whether you meant to or not, you’ve been telling your brain what is important via your thoughts, beliefs, experiences, family origin, culture, history, and location in the world, etc. All of these things tell your brain and it’s filter what’s important, and if it’s important let it in, if it’s not important, it can bounce!

Think about it this way, your brain is like a fancy CEO of an investment firm; everybody wants to pitch this person their idea for funding. Because so many people want to talk to this person, they need help! So, the CEO has assistants, which I would called gatekeepers, to filter out the ideas that don’t fit with their brand or their direction. Our brain has the same gatekeeper and filter. But what if the CEO, or our brains, want to change direction? What if we realize our current situation or direction is no longer working? We have to communicate this with the gatekeeper to shift how information is being filtered.

How easy is that? Well, it is and it isn’t. The exciting thing is, we really do have the tools to accomplish this!

Affirmations, meditations, visualizations, and essential oils – these all have the capability to shift our filter, and rewire our emotions. Each of these tools work on different subtle levels. We need all of them working together to retrain our brain; to rewire our nervous system.

Affirmations work with our conscious mind.

Visualizations work with the subconscious mind, the image based part of our brains.

Meditations work spiritually.

Essential Oils work with the amygdala and limbic system.

Essential Oils have a unique ability to BYPASS the brains filtering system through our sense of smell. Our sense of smell is the ONLY sense that has the ability to bypass our brain’s filter. The information goes straight to our Amygdala; the fear center part of our brain, and to the limbic system.

This is what excites me so much!

The amygdala is the fear center of our brain, fight, flight, and freeze responses live. This little almond sized piece of our brain can literally rule your life if you don’t have the tools to move past your initial fear responses.

Fellow Essential Oil Educator, Carrie Socia, joined me again on Rewired Life™ Radio to further discuss the power of using essential oils for emotional wellness. Back in May, Carrie joined me in talking about Kick-Starting Emotional Wellness with Essential Oils. For this episode, Rewire Your Emotions with Essential Oils, Carrie and I expanded on how to best use essential oils for emotional wellness.

AUDREY: Since our sense of smell is the most powerful way to use essential oils for emotional wellness, how do you recommend using essential oils?

CARRIE: Alright, three ways to use essential oils for emotional wellness, a couple of ways to diffuse, and then topically. First, you can actually diffuse essential oils in your hand. Simply put a drop in your hand, rub your hands together, then cup your hands to your nose, and breathe in. That’s a way of self-diffusing, and quickly getting the scent of the oil into your system. Think a quick burst of energy around your desired emotion.

Essential Oils are homeopathic so think a smaller amount but more often, one drop is plenty when you’re self-diffusing.

Then I love-love-love diffusing oils via an actual diffuser. Think similar to a humidifier. Diffusers “infuse” the air with oil(s) of your choice for several hours at a time. Think of holding an intention for the day by choosing one oil or another.

In our home we have four – so we each have them in our bedrooms and then we have one downstairs in our kitchen area. I always start my day by diffusing oils.

Lastly, there’s topical. Typically applying oils topically means putting the oil on your pulse points. You would apply oils on your wrist, behind your ears, or on the back of your neck, all of these are great places for the oils to enter the body and affect the nervous system.

I recommend only certified pure therapeutic grade oil. So you wouldn’t just go and buy an oil off the shelf, you definitely want to make sure you are getting the highest quality with certified pure therapeutic grade for using topically and diffusing.

AUDREY: What are people noticing when it comes to their emotions and using essential oils? How do you know if they are working?

CARRIE: So I say the biggest response I get from people, and I can attest to this from my own experience, I can tell I’m calmer and I’m less reactive. I can easily shift from a place of reacting to responding.

I feel like you can use the oils from a place of empowerment, and that to me speaks volumes. Having essential oils is a beautiful tool that helps heal in a very healthy way versus avoiding the emotion or numbing.

3 Steps to Rewire YOUR Life

When you are ready to ask, “What else is possible in my life”, the sky is the limit!

Because of my radio show, Rewired Life™ Radio and spiritual practice, I get to spend my day speaking with women around the world about what they are most afraid of, how their pain is taking over, where they feel stuck, and how they wish things were different. All the fears we hide from, cover up, and tuck away, until we’re forced to bring it to the forefront.

Before we begin, we have to understand Neuroplastic Pathways (the wires in our brain and nervous system) and how we short circuit our emotions. In other words, when something feels scary or emotionally unsafe, our brains figure out how to eliminate the issue or go around it; short circuiting the pain or perceived future pain.

It sounds complicated; it is and it isn’t. At it’s simplest Neuroplasticity provides us with a brain that can not only adapt to changes, but can be changed by any experience we encounter. This tells me we all have the capability to change the way our brain processes information physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You know the saying practice makes perfect? Well, if we think about it in terms of Neuroplastic Pathways, repeated activity makes a circuit, pattern or habit. And since we have choice in our activities and thoughts, don’t you want to create patterns that work for you?

The way I like to explain how Neuroplastic Pathways are created is in the beginning of any learning we have infant legs. Like when a toddler is learning to walk, it’s really stumbly, and difficult. They fall down, and there are bumps and bruises and it’s really confusing. But over time little kids learn to walk and it becomes less of an ordeal. And they eventually just hop up and walk. We don’t even think about it. It’s automatic. You can apply this example to learning anything new, including new emotional patterns.

We create these pathways, good and bad, consciously and unconsciously. When it comes to Rewiring Your Life, the question is; how do you disrupt these Neuroplastic Pathways and break the short circuits of negative emotions we’ve created consciously and unconsciously?

This process to Rewire Your Life, to break the unhelpful short circuits we’ve created with our emotions is the process I used to heal from 17 years of chronic pain and disease, it is what I continue to use to live aligned with inner wisdom and higher self, and is what I teach in my coaching practice.

There are 3 steps to Rewire Your Life; love yourself, heal your body and mind, and celebrate life.

The first step to breaking these short circuits and rewiring your Neuroplastic Pathways is meeting issues with unconditional love for yourself. Our collective pattern is to react to issues or hard situations with negative emotions such as anger, frustration, or judgement, etc. I am asking you to consider shifting in to a space of awareness for how you are feeling, and then into non-judgement and unconditional love. Most women I talk to feel angry and then judge themselves for being angry. The cycle never ends!

By simply noticing how you are feeling, you then have the power to choose what’s next. Unconditional love and forgiveness for yourself softens the walls we put up and allows you to see the situation clearer and from a newer, more positive angle. When you are free of stress and chaos your body and emotions have space to heal.

After finding unconditional love and forgiveness for yourself, you are able to shift into healing. Healing your body and mind is a process to unlearn unhelpful patterns and redefine success for your life. Ask yourself, “What do I need to clean up for myself?” This tends to be a difficult question because we don’t know what we don’t know. What if you cannot see the unhelpful patterns running your life?

The way to catch underlying negative patterns is to became a student of your own body and mind. Study yourself in a different way by being curious, and simply listening. Our emotions change constantly! Learning our own nuances is key because knowledge is power. Understanding your emotions and reactions gives you the power to learn the necessary lesson, and let go in a healthy, healing way.

In order to Rewire Your Life you cannot simply grow the best parts of yourself. You must look at the hidden, tucked away items, and break the short circuit by unlearning old habits and creating new positive habits. Learn to nourish your mind, body, and spirit in a way that makes sense for YOU. Study how your body, mind, and spirit react to each new choice. With each step you will become more and more aligned with your true self. Aligning your body, mind, and spirit IS healing.

The way to make sure new patterns remain is to celebrate small wins in everyday life. Just like we would celebrate small wins for a toddler learning to walk; cheering and clapping at their every move, positive feedback for learning new emotional patterns is a must. Do this with gratitude and joy.

The biggest mistake I made early in my healing journey was telling myself that when it was all over m husband and I would go to a fabulous beach to celebrate. Once I began celebrating by creating joy and gratitude for everyday moments, my healing journey shifted. I was no longer waiting for “someday” to be great. I was intentionally telling my brain today was great. I am doing great. We are learning wonder things, and they are positively impacting my life.

Love. Heal. Celebrate.

Rewiring YOUR Life is all about loving yourself, healing your body and mind, and celebrating life. By learning to break the short circuits we have created with our emotions.

What is an Empathetic Nervous System?

One of the biggest lessons to come out of my healing journey was understanding that I have an empathetic nervous system. But really what does that mean?

A couple of months ago I went to a networking event where Jessica deCzesnak was the speaker. She opened her discussion by saying she works deep feelers and thinkers… and I went.. YUP! Not only is that me, that is a great way to easily describe having a empathetic nervous system. So of course, I was intrigued and decided she needed to be on the radio show!

AUDREY:Jessica, you opened your discussion at the networking event saying you work with Deep Feelers and Thinkers. What do you mean by that?

JESSICA: As deep feelers and I like to add the term deep thinkers as well, we actually have a more sensitive nervous system. What I mean by that is we’re taking in more information than someone who is not a deep feeler and a deep thinker. A deep feeler and a deep thinker walks into a networking event and they immediately are aware of everything that is going on. They’re aware of the people who are talking across the room, they’re aware of the smell, they’re aware of all the sounds, they’re aware of everything that’s happening. And for a deep feeler and a deep thinker, this can be really overwhelming if we don’t know how to manage it.

AUDREY: Exactly. This was so me! For the longest time I didn’t know that it was possible to feel what other people were feeling. I felt it but I didn’t have the verbiage to describe what was happening.

What I love about your work now is you are taking these deep feelers, deep thinkers and helping us—I’m using us because I’m included—transition into being a heart-centered leader. And I think that is so beautiful.

Jessica’s work is focused on working with leaders who are these deep feelers and thinkers. And I thought this was such an important discussion, because as a LEADER you are with PEOPLE. A LOT!

So my question became…

AUDREY: What are some steps you teach Deep Feelers and Thinkers to become Heart Centered Leaders?

JESSICA: Great question. There’s many ways that this shows up in the emotional body, but one thing is we’re just taking in so much information and this gets lodged in our emotional body. For most of us, we have had the experience of feeling unsafe because we’ve felt different, and then we’re taking in all of this overwhelming information into the emotional body. And so, it’s so imperative for us to look at that and to heal the emotional body because if we don’t, we’re carrying around baggage that doesn’t belong in our body.

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Audrey: People who have an empathetic nervous system are feeling what other people are feeling. How does it show up for you when you’re like, “Oh my gosh, I’m feeling other people’s stuff?” What’s that like?

Jessica: It usually feels either like a heaviness in my body or there’s like this immediate energy shift for me. So, I go from feeling really great and feeling like I’m on top of the world, and all of a sudden, I feel tired, I feel sad, I feel angry. And I really learned, like in the past, I’d be like what is happening, what is going on here? And I would internalize it and feel like I’m doing something wrong. But I’ve learned that when that happens to really look inside and to really ask, “Is this mine or is this someone else’s?” This allows me to move out of negative energy.

Audrey: Yeah, that’s exactly what I have to ask too. It’s like all of a sudden I’m just really pissed about something and I don’t know why. I can’t figure out why am I so angry, or irritated, or whatever. Feeling confused and disconnected is my indicator that I’ve taken on somebody else’s energy and I need to take a minute to ask, “How much of this is mine?

The astounding thing is, usually it’s a pretty small percentage of what’s actually mine, 5%, 10%, which means 90% of what I’m feeling isn’t mine. That was a huge realization for me.

Jessica: It’s really freeing to realize you don’t have to take that on.

The first step for Deep Feelers and Thinkers to step in to their power is to recognize their sensitive nervous system. During the June 7th episode of Rewired Life™ Radio, spiritual mentor Jessica deCzesnak shared her 3 steps for Deep Feelers and Thinkers to become Heart Centered Leaders.

Masculine vs Feminine Energy

First of all, we are NOT talking about male vs female, or man vs woman. I am talking more along the lines of energetic archetypes. Each of us need and use BOTH types of energies.

Masculine energy is very much straight, hard lines. Words like focus, determined, dedication, competition, action, logic, urgent, assertive, and structure. Can you feel the power in them?

Feminine energy is all curves and flow. Words like integrating, collective, patient, listening, open, accommodating, relationships, and collaborating. These words are much softer and nurturing.

During the May 31st interview on Rewired Life™ Radio with my guest and naturopath, Dr. Nadine, we spent our time discussing how to be balanced in your masculine and famine energies. We dug a bit further into masculine and feminine energies.

DR. NADINE: Let’s just take it one more step here, in the body everyone, regardless of the body type you walk around in, you have a masculine energy side and you have the feminine energy side. The right side of the body is the masculine side; the action side, this is the step it forward, this is the making things happen side. And the left side of the body is the female energy; where it’s about nurturing creation, the hearts on the left hand side, this is the place of nurturing and nourishing and bringing beauty in.

If we take this even further, when I see clients and an if an accident happened with your body, the first thing I ask my clients is which side of body did it happen on. For example, if I stub my toe (which toes represent stepping forward in life), if I stub my toe on the right side, a good question to ask is, “where am I out of balance with the masculine in getting things done, you know, putting things into action? This a sign I need to back off, step back and come back more into the feminine where I can nourish my ideas, or maybe it’s time for me to take a moment for myself and stop putting things into action. It’s time to get back in the flow versus the “let’s go get it done part”.

AUDREY: Exactly! I think you alluded to this, that everybody whether our physical body is male or female, we both carry masculine and feminine energy and we both need masculine and feminine energy to be balanced.

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DR. NADINE: Now if we are too far in the masculine, we’re all do, do, do, do, do, do ,do and there’s no creation, no birthing, there’s no new ideas because we’ve just got to get “it” done. Then, if there’s too much feminine energy, if it’s all creative, what I call airy-fairy, you’re missing structure. All the sudden a 10 minute activity takes an hour, and conversations are all over the place, there is no anchor.

AUDREY: What happens to us, and our emotions, when we’re out of balance?

DR. NADINE: Have you ever felt that you are not worthy? Have you ever felt like you’re not enough? Have you ever felt like you just want to argue with someone, you’ve got to get your point across because they’re not hearing you? Have you ever felt like you’re in competition because there’s got to be a winner? Notice the difference between all these emotions; I’m not good enough for you. No matter what the task is, at the workplace or in the home, this imbalance of the masculine and feminine, creates feelings of, “I’m not good enough”.Then we either numb out in some form, I’m going to hide, I’m going to either go out and be so visible or not visible but there’s this part of me feeling not good enough. The imbalance is not being seen, not being heard, that’s all an imbalance of the masculine and feminine energies within ourselves, within our heart. It shows up anytime our emotions and mental well-being are out of balance, and usually manifest itself as some type of imbalance in the physical body. It’ll show up as dis-ease.

Our discussion continued, and I would encourage you to listen to the replay because Dr. Nadine gave a LIVE meditation to help us get balanced and grounded in our bodies.

Could you just be quiet?

A client of mine heard this over and over throughout her childhood.

She was always told she was loud as a child, and was constantly being told to be quiet.

Now, as an adult, she’s a leader in her industry and what we’ve been working on is her ability to use her voice as an expert. She was always told to be quiet, but now she’s this leader in her industry and is asked to speak regularly.

For her, this being told to be quiet has showed up as an adult as her feeling nervous when she was asked pointed questions or playing small when given the microphone. She found herself only sharing part of her thoughts because she didn’t want to take up too much space in the room, feeling like she should let somebody else talk. But then, afterwards she’d feel upset with herself that she didn’t say more.

The interesting thing is this didn’t seem like a big deal to her, but she would walk away from these meetings feeling a little bit upset, exhausted, or depleted. And she didn’t know why.

She didn’t know why the work she loved was leaving her feeling exhausted and depleted.

She came to me with this question of “Why am I wearing out? I love my work but I feel so exhausted.”

Through my Kinesiology work, we started digging through the layers and it’s funny how it always shows up. She was like “You know, I’m just having these memories of being a kid, I was always kind of fun, and boisterous, and bubbly, and always had something to say. And those around me —whether it was parents, or grandparents, or teachers, or whatever just kind of being like—can you be quiet for just a minute, like can you just be quiet?

The more we talked, she said, “I keep having memories of this.”

And so, we went through my process to identify how these memories are affecting her now as an adult, as a leader in her industry. She was subconsciously telling herself, although she authentically wanted to share her thoughts and ideas, a little piece of her was like no, no, no, no, nope, don’t say that, don’t say too much, don’t take up too much space in the room because that would be annoying for people. These little voices in the back of her head have become such a thick pattern, she no longer noticed it wasn’t authentically her to be quiet.

This was wearing her out.

And so, we were able to heal those voices from her childhood, heal it forward, so now when she’s in meetings, she’s able to authentically express herself. Then, she’s coming home no longer feeling tired like she had been before. So, it’s super powerful to be able to listen to her body and act on her intuition, knowing something isn’t right. She knew she was doing the work she loved but was curious, “Why am I so tired?”

Our work together was able to peel back layers and discover how years ago, she decided it was safer to be quiet and it was safer to keep her opinions to herself. But while it seemed safer because that’s what she had been taught, it wasn’t her true self. She wasn’t able to live as her true self in that she wasn’t sharing ideas, creating, and collaborating.

We recognized how this pattern was created and then we were able to go through a process of letting it go. And now, she’s able to fully operate as her adult, true self. When she gets asked questions, she doesn’t revert to 5-year-old her, she’s able to be her 35-year-old self and conduct herself as a brilliant business woman in these situations.

The key in that situation, was her ablity to listen to her intuition, and then know she did not have the tools to move past it.

This is where I came in. If you have a story like this, if you’re interested in moving past what’s holding you back, let’s talk.

Designing Happy

The topic from the May 17th episode of Rewired Life™ Radio holds a special place in my heart.

Designing happy is about designing your life inside and out.

Obviously what I am up to right now is very much about designing your “inside” life, but years back, my college degree is actually in Interior Design and Architecture. Although I haven’t worked in the field for almost 10 years, but it is still very much is a part of my life.

What I loved about this episode and my guest, Mandy Straight, is she has taken Interior Design, what tends be thought of as a “materialistic” and sometimes “frivolous”, and made it an inside job. She gives you the tools to make the interior of your home an extension of your best self.

The work I did years ago as an interior designer was in the healthcare industry. Specifically working with hospitals to design spaces that helped people feel more comfortable and therefore less stressed, allowing them to recover faster. For example, creating private labor and delivery rooms that allowed for partners to sleep comfortably, and to accommodate family and friends as they came to visit the new baby and resting momma. 10 years ago this was cutting edge. I am thrilled that it is much more common place in hospitals these days, and NOW Mandy is bringing a similar thought into our HOMES!

I asked Mandy how we can make the interior of our homes support us emotionally, and spiritually, as well as support what we’re up to in our lives.

AUDREY: Mandy, I have to tell you, what I love about your work is that you give your clients permission to be themselves, not some trendy label of light and airy, or farmhouse, or industrial, or whatever the new trend is from year to year, you have this innate ability to take a bunch of random stuff that people love in their home from their travels, antiques from family members, or whatever, and turn it into something that looks great.

MANDY: I think a good way to start is I think that we’re doing it wrong right now. Traditionally, Interior Design has been, well, here’s a look, we’re going to give you a look and you’re going to make your life fit inside the box of that look whether it’s modern, or light and airy like you said, whatever those labels are, we were forced into making our lives fit into whatever that is. I think the truest things in life are stemmed internally, intrinsic motivation is so much stronger than extrinsic motivation. Things that come from within are just truer, and more real, and more transformative than things that come from without.

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If we can take our spaces and our homes and we can initiate what that looks like from within us, it’s so much more powerful of a tool to give ourselves the kind of life we want to live. I don’t know that anyone listening to this call would say, “I want to live a modern life,” or, “I want to live a country life,” even if you were to say that, it’s not about the label and the distress finishes or the modern and the clean lines, what it is, is that those are speaking to a type of life that you want to live, it’s speaking to values and a day to day rhythm that you want to live. If it’s country, you want something that’s more laid back, that’s more simple, that’s more handmade. If you want something that’s modern, you want something that’s clean, less cluttered. Those are all things that you’re yearning for within your life that really have nothing to do with the look. The look, if done right is an echo of those things you want to feel.

AUDREY: You presented your work, Visual Mantra, at TedEx Mile High (watch here). What I took from your talk is visual mantra, (mantra meaning a statement repeated often to express ones beliefs) then is a repeated thing in the visual environment of your home. Every day you wake up and you are essentially telling yourself something. So, the question becomes what are you telling yourself? And do you like what you’re telling yourself? I wanted to start here, what is the first step in creating your visual mantra? What is the first step listeners can take in creating a visual mantra for themselves?

Mandy: The first step for your visual mantra is just to start being aware of what’s around you, don’t change anything yet. Just notice, when I go here, I feel like this. When I’m in my home and I look at the chair in the corner, I feel this way. When I walk into my home, usually that’s the back and the garage, what am I presenting my eyes with? What sort of impression of my life am I coming home to every day? And that’s a very physical literal thing, but it’s also a psychological representational thing that I walk into my house, if it’s a mess, or if it feels heavy; what is it about it that feels heavy?

The first step is really just being aware and starting to notice these things feel good to me and these things don’t.

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Our spaces are having an effect on us whether we take it into our conscious mind or not. So, when we are in public places, especially commercial places, they’re using that to their advantage. Fast food restaurants are designed in a way that gets you in and out quickly, makes you not want to hang around, it shouldn’t be very comfortable. Higher-end restaurants are dictating to you that you’re going to stay there a while because they want you to stay and buy more drinks. When you go into retail stores, they have ways that they are changing the interior of their store to affect you to do what they want you to do.

So, if we’re being affected that way by our spaces on a regular basis, why wouldn’t we do that in our own homes?

Learn more about HOW shift the interior of your home, and create an awesome Visual Mantra for yourself, EVERYDAY!

Kickstart Emotional Wellness with Essential Oils

Our emotions are complicated!

What is even more complicated is the patterns we’ve picked up along the way to DEAL with our emotions. Some are healthy patterns, but more often than not (coming from a spiritual growth coach) unhealthy patterns have developed over our lifetime.

Back on May 10th, I had a wonderful conversation on Rewired Life™ Radio with Carrie Socia, an Essential Oils Educator and Wellness Advocate about how oils can help us trigger our senses; getting in touch with our emotions and allowing us to release what is no longer needed.

I asked Carrie, “…talk to us about the science behind the oils you use”

CARRIE: If we don’t feel out emotions or we push them down, they actually get trapped inside our bodies. They get stored in our cells and they get stored in our amygdala system. So, in order to access and release our emotional discomforts, we have to stimulate the amygdala. One way to do this is through the sense of smell. Smell is the only sense that is directly linked to the lobe of the brain that stores our emotions and directly affects the limbic system. The limbic system stores our positive emotions but they also store our negative emotions such as fear, anger, depression, anxiety, and things like that.

In terms of being drawn to the essential oils and why I love using them is because they address emotions at a cellular level. When we smell the oils, it signifies to our amygdala, talking to our limbic system, and it actually communicates to our brain. Oils will help surface the emotion and help release them.

I have to say, I have avoided using (and learning more about) essential oils for a while now. The way they had been previously presented to me was all about assisting with physical ailments. And for me, as you probably know, I want to know what’s going on BENEATH the physical layer, to know how the body is trying to communicate its emotional needs. It wasn’t until Carrie and I spoke that a new level of possibility around using oils emerged. I have now brought essential oils into my coaching process as another way to assist my clients in healing stuck emotions.

Carrie and I discussed a few of her favorite oils during the show. And Carrie explained how she used oils as a way to help her feel confident in using her voice.

AUDREY: Using your voice was part of our topic today. How can oils assist you when you’re feeling stuck around using your voice?

CARRIE: I have a custom diffuser blend for today. I have five oils in it and I specifically used them for today because using my voice on paper, that’s something I love, I love writing. However, speaking out loud and using my voice has not always been the easiest thing for me.

The one that I used specifically first was Lavender and Spearmint. Lavender is the oil of communication and Spearmint is the oil of confident speech. I used two drops of Spearmint, two drops of Lavender, two drops of Vetiver; that’s for grounding, and then I did add a drop of Geranium. Geranium is the oil of love and trust so I’m just trusting and loving myself for being here and really stepping out of my comfort zone. The last one is Breathe. I did a drop of Breathe as well because it’s the oil of breath. It is as a reminder to be present and to breathe is always a good one for me because I can find myself kind of folding, like restricting my chest and so just that act of breathing and knowing that I’m loved and cared for is great for being courageous.

Check out Carrie and I’s full episode! Learn how Carrie uses essential oils with her family, and to assist in emotional release.

Are you ever curious about how the landscape of the self help world has shifted over the last decade? I am. I find it fascinating!

At the beginning of May I had a great conversation on Rewired Life™ Radio with Dr. Pat Buccili, host of the Dr. Pat Show and founder of the Transformation Talk Radio Network, about how the landscape of the self-help world has changed over the last decade. I am fascinated by how things are moving towards living a high-vibe life. And because Dr. Pat is an expert in the transformation and self-help world and the host of the Dr. Pat Show where she hears stories of transformation from people over the last 15 years, I thought she’d be the perfect person to talk to.

During my May 3rd episode of Rewired Life Radio, as I asked Dr. Pat what she has seen and experienced in the world of transformation in the last couple of decades, she continued to say, “the demographic has changed”. This shift is two-fold, as uplifting and transformative messages began hitting the airwaves, the demographic of radio listeners changed from a majority of men, and began shifting towards women. Then, transformational messages began moving from the traditional seminar/workshop set up where you got a little information for free, and are then uphold on CDs etc., to now, so much information is free. Now women are empowering themselves and choosing which direction is right for them.

DR. PAT: (in reference to The Dr. Pat Show, and Transformation Talk Radio) …we started a movement and it was a progressive movement. It was a movement that wanted to talk about creating a better world by providing information that helped people live full out.

AUDREY: Will you define for us what you think the words empowerment, or high-vibe, awakening, self-love, transformation, what does that all mean to you?

DR. PAT: One of the first books that I read—I don’t know when I read it, it was years ago—was a book called Man’s Search for Meaning and it’s a book by Victor Frankl. Viktor Frankl was an Austrian, he was a neurologist, and he was a psychiatrist as well as a holocaust provider. He was the founder of some incredible therapy.

Not to get into his story but he wrote about what was it in that experience in the camps that kept him alive. But to answer your question, it points really to this. This is just one of the things he says, he said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances to choose one’s own way.” That’s really what we’re talking about. We’re not talking about high-vibe being, some kind of fictitious, surreal life you create or something on your vision board. What it means is I’m going to choose an internal way, an emotional way of how to show up in life that also includes grieving when I need to grieve, being happy when I need to be happy but living my life with the freedom of joy as my first choice before anything else. Joy is another word for love.

Wonder how can you live your life from a place of joy? Curious how you can shift from low-vibe to high-vibe? Check out my Rewired Life™ Radio episode with Dr. Pat.

What is the Emotional Body?

Our emotional body consists of all our emotions, feelings, passions, and desires. The way I explain the emotional body is that it is a copy of the physical body, again, containing our feelings and emotions. And like our physical body, when our emotional body is hurt or stressed, we feel it…but we feel it differently.

How do you hurt the emotional body?

Like an injury to our physical body causing pain and scarring, the same happens to the emotional body. But unlike a broken leg or a paper cut, emotional injury comes from how we process our daily experiences. And how we individually process our experiences depends on many things; from our upbringing, our culture, our personality traits, etc. Each of us respond to different situations differently.

Any negative thoughts, stress or trauma hurts the emotional body. Then, if these wounds go unhealed, they grow larger. If you think of a cut to the physical body that doesn’t heal because we’ve continually picked at the scab, you end up with a nasty infection and scar. The emotional body acts in the same way.

Unhealed negative experiences, continue to pop up. And will continue to pop up quicker and quicker, becoming more and more hurtful… and it just keeps spiraling. Without tools to heal our emotional body, smaller, irritating situations become increasingly painful.

What if these negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions get stuck in our emotional body? What if we don’t (or didn’t used to) have tools for letting negativity move through us?

When and if emotional body issues reach a breaking point they manifest as physical issues. So the big question becomes…

How do you heal the emotional body?

Healing the emotional body takes, first, recognizing that it is hurt. Then, it is a process of releasing the pain and upset, recognizing how your hurt inner child is running your adult life, and then realigning with your true authentic self.

Know that when it comes to the emotional body, you can’t go it alone. I know one thing for sure, as author Marshall Goldsmith says, “What got you here, won’t get you there.” You don’t know what you don’t know. You need new tools. A new way of looking at things.

We all have unconscious ways of being and unrecognized patterns that dominate every interaction. These patterns are exactly what we need to shift. Shifting our thoughts and beliefs is where internal work takes place.

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In surrendering the hurt, letting go of the fight against it, your body will tell you what is going on. One of the things that tends to show up is issues from childhood where our true self felt unheard or unseen. Usually where we felt obligated to fit into a mold, to blend in, or to please our parents, teachers, etc.

As we made these “small” choices to be someone other than our authentic self, separation from true self begins. Separation from self is painful.

Re-joining with true self is healing.

Shifting thinking and recreating healthy patterns is the process I went through to heal, and now, the process I use to help my clients break patterns holding them back, realigning with their true self.

Through my own healing process, I discovered the gift I am supposed to share with the world… I can see where you are stuck and am able to connect the dots between what produced the pattern and how to release it. This creates a path for you to let go and move forward.

You walk away feeling lighter, like you are taking a step in the right direction.

This month on Rewired Life Radio, I am sharing space with some wonderful women, digging deeper into healing the emotional body.