It Is Okay To Be Queer

Because this lovely lady asked for our opinion on one of her reader’s plight, and the generous soul that I am who believes in parting with information even when not requested, here are my two bits…

Over the years of my experience as a sexually active self-closeted young teen to out-of-the closet adult to interacting with community online (via Gaysi) to offline (via QAM), what I realized is that sexuality is smooth and uncontainable as beach sand. The more we try to club it in categories or slots for our own simplification, the Queer (pun unintended) it gets. It’s just like the sand slipping out from our fist, the tighter we make our grip.

For instance:

I am a Lesbian who enjoys “watching” heterosexual porn. Yes, shocking indeed! Now all the ladies out there I request you to not cut me off your To Do List. * insert puppy face *.

To those wondering and/or questioning…

1. No, I am not a heterosexual woman posing as a lesbian because I come from a sexually suppressed background. 2. Nor am I a wannabe bisexual 3. Yes I do find (some) men to be physically gorgeous, but so are dogs but this doesn’t mean I want a penis ‘in’ me or for that matter ‘on’ me. 4. I am completely comfortable in a woman’s body (in more ways than one). I love being a woman. Although a cup or two sizes smaller would have saved all that money spent on Compressing Bras. 5. And it is not some kind of a role-playing fantasy. But I personally do recommend it and it can do wonders to your metabolism and HOW!

Truth of the matter is Lesbian porn simply doesn’t get my mojo doing the hula-hoop. The entire “physical” act of a man having sex with a woman gets all the juices flowing in the right direction. Now does this mean I (or others for that matter) should question my knowledge of my own sexuality because of my one preference falls under the category of “Heteronormativity” – well hell no!

Summing it all up in one of most overused phrase – “Sexuality is fluid”. So why not just go with the flow after all we live only once, right?

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Now 30, 100% shudh desi lesbian. Likes living large, and on the edge. Dislikes stagnation, fence sitting and hypocrites. Lives in a bubble of joy, with occasional lapses into drama queendom. Currently nursing a massive crush on actress Chitrangada Singh (kind of eerie, her resemblance to the late Smita Patil, don’t you think?). Aspires to build a fully functional support system for the Gaysi community in India. And most importantly, top the 'Hottest eligible desi-lezzie' list one bright sunny day.

Trust me I’ll team up with you to knock people down who say “A lady, is “just” posing like a lesbian if she watches “heterosexual porn.” I watch it too, and feelings are nearly similar here as to “why” i watch em. In fact when i told my Best friend (who still is trying to get me out of Homosexuality, thinking it’s a Phase) about me watching “Heterosexual Porn” she said- “See, I told you! you are straight, you are Just confused” And I was like Ökay! Well that’s not the case!

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