I'm 25, 5 years away from being a wizard, most girls I see are too young, most girls near my age already have boyfriends or are married. I'm a very outgoing and a friendly person, everyone says that, but I'm not assertive to hang out with people. When I'm done with school or work, I just stay home, because I have 0 social life or skills. I'm about as fucked as can be and Idk if it can be improved. This has been my norm for years, I would love to break it I do, but I can't read people for shit, I have no idea if they like me or not, I have no idea if they want me to hang with them, I have no clue how to make friends. Hell even when I hang out with nerds, my kind of people, I don't feel a sense of belong, hell I feel like a hypocrite because I get weirded out by a lot of them.

read my stickied comment on my profile, you'll get a sense of what I'm like.

When you're meeting new people, just be yourself, or be whoever you want them to think you are. They don't know you, so you can do whatever you like.
I find it much easier to talk to people i don't know for this reason: If they like who you are, or what you came across as, then they'll make the effort to befriend you. If they don't then theres a good chance you'll never see them again, so theres nothing to worry about.

On the other hand though, I find it hard to talk to people i do know, such as co-workers etc. People I know I'm going to have to see on a regular basis, because I know if i fuck up then im going to have to deal with it. Again though, If i was just to forget about their opinions and just be more self centered, I could have the time of my life and just let them deal with it, it'd be pretty similar to the other situation: If they like what im coming across as, then they'll hang around me more often in work. If they don't then they'll take the effort to avoid me.

**tl;dr* Its all in your head Like I said above though, I still struggle with it, if only it was as easy to do it yourself as it is to tell someone else to do it Be what you want to be, if people like it, they'll befriend you and you win with no effort. If people don't like it, then you don't win or lose, they'll take the effort to avoid you and you win by putting in no effort.

Oh I AM myself wherever I go, I'm the biggest dork there is! and I know I am, because I try to make people smile, laugh, and have fun! Hell, at school and work, I'm the happiest motherfucker there! I've been complimented about that! I can talk till the world ends! No matter who I talk to I can get info out of them like a JRPG game! Yet it feels like I'm stuck, I'm going no where. Despite being so happy, friendly, cheerful, and outgoing at work and school, I still have nothing. I've been trying for so long.