I seems sometimes I have prayed for acceptance and it does not come and the reason I believe it does not come, is because that God's answer to me might be, "No peace with this the way it is Joe, because I don't like it this way either and you have some responsibility to do something about it."

That there is what I'm guessing is "the Wisdom to know the difference." Many senior(in sobriety) members have pointed out not to use the submission to God's will as an excuse for laziness.