More than you would think. I have gay friends who hook up with a lot of supposedly straight, married men.

That always amazes me. I would think it would be a lot easier just to be honest with yourself. Even though I'm sure it would be challenging, it seems it would be much more difficult to juggle a fake life along with the person you really want to be.

dopeydwarf:That always amazes me. I would think it would be a lot easier just to be honest with yourself. Even though I'm sure it would be challenging, it seems it would be much more difficult to juggle a fake life along with the person you really want to be.

They probably subscribe to the "it's not gay unless balls touch" school of closetry.

I had a month business trip that just ended yesterday and had at least 2 chances to cheat, but I declined both.

I don't think it's out of any particular sense of honor or fidelity, because it's something I've taken part in a handful of times in the years since I got married. Rather, I just didn't want to deal with the repercussions, and in this day and age of Facebook and social media, word getting out that I'm catting around is a very high risk.

One was a friend of a friend who wanted some revenge sex because her boyfriend just revealed he was cheating on her. The other was a very close friend who I used to sleep with on occasion in the past. The second one was a bit more tempting, but she's on the verge of getting engaged to a nice guy, so I turned her down.

But on the whole, it's not so much dedication to my vows that keeps me in line so much as lack of opportunity.

AverageAmericanGuy:I had a month business trip that just ended yesterday and had at least 2 chances to cheat, but I declined both.

I don't think it's out of any particular sense of honor or fidelity, because it's something I've taken part in a handful of times in the years since I got married. Rather, I just didn't want to deal with the repercussions, and in this day and age of Facebook and social media, word getting out that I'm catting around is a very high risk.

One was a friend of a friend who wanted some revenge sex because her boyfriend just revealed he was cheating on her. The other was a very close friend who I used to sleep with on occasion in the past. The second one was a bit more tempting, but she's on the verge of getting engaged to a nice guy, so I turned her down.

But on the whole, it's not so much dedication to my vows that keeps me in line so much as lack of opportunity.

Why are married women so damn knowledgeable about online dating sites? Bring up EHarmony or OKCupid in conversation and you invariably end up with an earful about how the service sucks or the members are too shallow. How the fark is that not cheating?

Are men or women more likely to cheat? While men have always had a worse reputation for being unfaithful, recent studies show that women are catching up fast - but we are a lot more likely to lie about it, and a lot less likely to get caught.

Simply put, it seems that women are better at having affairs than men.

The news that Farrah Fawcett had a secret affair for 11 years without telling a soul is a classic example of the way a woman cheats: discreetly, in secret, and while carrying on with the rest of her life as normal.

It has been met with hot denials by Ryan O'Neal, but - and I'm sorry to break it to you this way, Ryan - you'd be the last to know.

According to Dr David Holmes, a psychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, women are having more affairs than ever - recent studies say the figure is around 20 per cent for men and a bit over 15 per cent for women - but they behave very differently from men when they cheat.

'The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret,' he says. 'If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 per cent of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent.'

More than you would think. I have gay friends who hook up with a lot of supposedly straight, married men.

I bet the number of gay men who fib about sleeping with straight, married men is greater than the number that actually do so. For some reason people think gay men are beacons of truth when talking about sex, since, what have they got to hide? But gay men exagerrate as much as straight men, certainly.

Instead of their wife being Morgan Fairchild, they're off sleeping with dozens of straight, married men.

I don't know why it's called cheating. There's no rules, and when there are rules it's called adultery.

It's that kind of ambiguity in daily English that lead me to study foriegn languages. And honestly, I'm just looking for a good woman. I don't actually like new girls all the time. It wears you down. Sometimes you do just want to cuddle and talk long talks that start "Remember when..."

But personally I've spent too much time around people who are creepin' and cheatin' and whatnot. Too much hassle for bad sex and stress. Much better to just be single.

Christian Bale:coco ebert: Ambivalence: Who are they cheating with? Each other?

More than you would think. I have gay friends who hook up with a lot of supposedly straight, married men.

I bet the number of gay men who fib about sleeping with straight, married men is greater than the number that actually do so. For some reason people think gay men are beacons of truth when talking about sex, since, what have they got to hide? But gay men exagerrate as much as straight men, certainly.

Instead of their wife being Morgan Fairchild, they're off sleeping with dozens of straight, married men.

So you've been outed that way?

A group of old friends got together when an acquaintance got married. While out at a local bar one of the guys had a stereotypical gay man come up to him and hug him while asking "why didn't you tell you were in town?" He just kind of looked over at us and walked away for a second to talk to the guy. Nobody really cared that night and we just gave him shiat but apparently some ass told his wife. It was something she knew about and they were "working" through....

I think your views on cheating vary greatly depending on if you've cheated or been cheated on in the past. Belonging to the latter group I would never cheat just because I know the pain it can cause first hand. I'd sooner just end the relationship and then be free to fark whoever I want, guilt free.

It also goes both ways: I would rather a man tell me he's tired of my shiat and that he wants to move onto someone else (literally and figuratively) than find out later and feel like a total fool. Plus it means there's less chance of catching whatever skizzy souvenirs he might have picked up along the way.

I've also never been married, so ending a relationship usually doesn't involve financial seppuku or custody battles. Much easier that way.

It's still cheating, swinging was created by men but after women realized they can fark all the men they wanted and turn the terms men used to get them there against the man.

I also love the argument where people say humans are just animals and weren't meant to be monogamous, well in the natural animal world males have multiple mates and if another male dares approach they attack. I have watched enough nature shows on walruses to know that fact.......

Calling it swinging is just a term used by the person who lets their mate dictate their sexual status.