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The Women Of Pakistan!

The death of ‘girl raped in the bus’ in Delhi has stirred the emotions of billions of people through national & international media. This incident has once again spurred the much forgotten role of women and their empowerment in the social system of the world.

This issue of rape, sexual assault & abuse is not only a stigma to India or United States of America; rather it’s a quandary which has crept in the social systems of every nation throughout the globe. The sexual assault expert at the Utah center for sexual victims says that behind a rape the sole motive isn’t sexual pleasure rather its an amalgamation of anger, frustration & aggression.

With the societal confinements lessening for females, we expect that the number of sexual harassment will also diminish gradually. But unfortunately, the numbers continue to rise at a higher pace in countries like America where liberalism abated chauvinism long before Pakistan.

What could be the reason for this horrendous but factual increase in sexual assaults? Experts agree that perhaps with awareness in developed countries, more people are prone to report this act of brutality which was a hidden malice before.

What’s unfortunate for countries like Pakistan here is, that this desecration still lurks in our society either more or at least equivalent to the developed countries. This tyrannical rule of men is difficult to treat or even identify as an issue in cultures like Pakistan & India. The woman of the house is considered an honorable ‘commodity’ which is to be kept within the confinement of the four walls.

Since Zia-ul-Haq’s rule the concept of Chaardewari(home) & chaadar was linked with Islamization. This further accentuated the fanatics who considered that a woman out of the Chaardewari was indulged in an unIslamic activity & ought to be reprimanded accordingly.

Pakistani society under the influential bureaucrats has exploited Islamization on many avenues of which one is the subjugation of females. We all know about the incident of the girl in Delhi because the police efficiently took notice of it.

But we all remained ignorant of the 12 year old Muqadas Kainat raped in Sahiwal on 25th August, 2012. The girl was brutally strangled to death while her father Rafiq Masih was attending to her mother at the hospital. The laxness showed by police in the investigation in this case went unnoticed for two reasons. The first is that she was a woman & this label in our society is enough to undermine her basic right of living. The second reason was that she was from a minority; her religion & beliefs adduced her as a vulnerable & inferior being whose murderers didn’t deserve any predicaments.

This case of Muqadas is not a one of its kind. 23rd December, 2012, a 14 year old Hindu girl was raped in socially primitive area of Chachro, by a political worker. The girl was atrociously abused & bruised. Her parents took her to the hospital where she wasn’t admitted for check up without a registered FIR. The police invariably refused to register an FIR as the Hindu woman was worth abhorrence anyways.

Asiyah Masih in Vihari was raped for eleven days by politically influential culprits until she was recovered on November 22nd,2012. The two perpetrators Mohammed Javed & Mumtaz forcibly converted her to Islam & defied all norms & values of humanity concurrently. Once again the cyclical violence of our society flaunted its vindictive attitude towards females & the criminals were neither arrested nor an FIR registered against them.

The abuse of women is increasing not only due to the appallingly silent police. But the major chunk of this violence is contributed by us! Our silence & societal treatment is a sign of our sub-conscious support of these spiteful acts. The silence is prolonged & justice eventually dismissed especially when the victim is from a minority religion or an ethnically different caste.

While, the whole globe has accepted women as an equivalent to men, the fanatics in Pakistan continue to despise any sort of freedom granted to women. No matter what liberal stances we put forth, we are still under the influence of Zia-ul-Haq’s Hadood ordinance. Our nurturance, our brought up & social environment still considers women as a subordinate to men. Their individuality, sexuality, passions & expressions are all bound to be under domineering rule of men.

The faulty beliefs upheld by the Pakistanis ought to be changed and modified according to the real principles of Islam. Our upbringing is faulty which assuages the desires of male ego in the name of religion while disregarding the basic rules of humanity & morality. Islam never taught us to treat females as an inferior half of the society. Women the source of humanity & perpetuators of our species, how can we defy their basic rights? How can we negate their literacy, education & dishonor their existence?

We need to stop & reinvent the patterns of thinking we are living & sharing with our coming generations as per the rules of our religion & humanity!

[49:13] O people, we created you from the same male and female, and rendered you distinct peoples and tribes, that you may recognize one another. The best among you in the sight of GOD is the most righteous. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant.

the terms of Parda & Chardeewari were to protect the honor of women.. in an area full of beasts u have to protect urself as u can't put all the beasts in cage.. in Dehli on average 10 rape cases per day are registered and thts y it is called rape capital of the world & this is mainly becz of lack of Parda.. in Pakistan although such incidents happen bt thr average is far less than othr countries coz efforts are made to protect the female members of the society.. to make the society pure takes time n till then we have to protect our loved ones.. as said in Ahadis: "that after the return of Hazrat Essa A.S. the time will come when a lonely girl will travel from Arab to Iraq on foot without any fear".. these ideal times will come but till then we have to protect ourselves..

I respect your opinion but to hide the cruelties by saying that reports in Pakistan are lesser than India is just a self satisfying argument. Violations are here as well, its just hidden because the taboo is big enough to engulf the life of the victims.
Its a common trend here to keep the beasts protected while the victims are reminded of their pardas and enforced wthin their homes. This is exactly the approach which has led to the widespread sexual assaults in the world. The woman isn\’t a commodity to be protected she is as human as you or anyone else is. Her freewill to wear a parda is Her Will! No one gets the right to trap her, force her, or violate her physical limits because of her exercise of Free Will!

no one is advocating the culprits but the thing is even such incidents happen in countries where sex is not a taboo then just think about the sex starved society like ours.. Women must be independent but before this we have to clean our society.. in india that incident occur coz the girl & boy were alone in the mid night and become target of these people.. so if we want our women to be free first we have to clean the society of such bad elements and till then we have got no other option except protecting them.. and we protect those whom we love so the idea of confining girls is wrong.. in our society of KPK the female members accept this as an honor and move freely in areas where their is no fear of any such activity.. but the areas prone to such things are strictly prohibited for women just for their own safety.. most men are against bad behavior with women and love and respect them as we all see in our families but yes Psychopaths do exists and they exists everywhere and for everyone either male or female.

A bitter truth and reality of our nation diplomatic thinking and always consider a woman 1/2 and our "JAGHEER" instead of implementation of role and true spirit of Islam. In order to change it we should start from our home to give respect,trust and the freedom women deserve.

It is a sick reality that we as a nation do not stand up to these abhorring crimes and as you have rightly said that we do not have the guts to raise our voices against such heinous crimes . Hypocrisy stems out of every branch in our society and it is a major contributor to an increase in these kind of sickening incidents which are palpable but which even then do not strike a cord with the majority of our society including me!

Our silence only helps the perpetrators to keep on committing these heinious acts. By raising our voices on a collective level a lot can be achieved to get these perpetrators to justice but the state has to support these innocent souls who have been sexually abused.

The perpetrators need to be held accountable for the crimes they commit and such a punishment should be given that sets an example for years to come. May I dare say castrate those men who commit these crimes and chop of their hands so next time any man dares to think to commit this act he will at least think a thousand times.

Lastly, an anti-rape legislation should be passed in Parliament for women who have been sexually abused and provided state protection and a platform to file a case in a court of Law. Police needs to act quickly while registering FIR’s anybody paying a blind eye to it should be suspended from duty and held accountable!

And this is for you Anam. Raising the issue of violence on women not only requires guts but also a lot of self confidence and you are a writer par excellence. Keep this up. You can be a source of inspiration for many women in this country who have in some way or the other suffered because of sexual abuse!

It is a sick reality that we as a nation do not stand up to these abhorring crimes and as you have rightly said that we do not have the guts to raise our voices against such heinous crimes . Hypocrisy stems out of every branch in our society and it is a major contributor to an increase in these kind of sickening incidents which are palpable but which even then do not strike a cord with the majority of our society including me!

Our silence only helps the perpetrators to keep on committing these heinious acts. By raising our voices on a collective level a lot can be achieved to get these perpetrators to justice but the state has to support these innocent souls who have been sexually abused.

The perpetrators need to be held accountable for the crimes they commit and such a punishment should be given that sets an example for years to come. May I dare say castrate those men who commit these crimes and chop of their hands so next time any man dares to think to commit this act he will at least think a thousand times.

Lastly, an anti-rape legislation should be passed in Parliament for women who have been sexually abused and provided state protection and a platform to file a case in a court of Law. Police needs to act quickly while registering FIR’s anybody paying a blind eye to it should be suspended from duty and held accountable!

And this is for you Anam. Raising the issue of violence on women not only requires guts but also a lot of self confidence and you are a writer par excellence. Keep this up. You can be a source of inspiration for many women in this country who have in some way or the other suffered because of sexual abuse!