Yes, You Can Date A Model

reader's comment

Hey Dave,

I'm from Manhattan, New York, and I work in probably one of the best places in the world to find unbelievably beautiful women; the "fashion district." In this part of NYC there are hordes of models going from fittings to fittings to photo shoots, etc. Here is a real-world example of your excellent teachings in action!

When I go out to lunch; I don't go to a fast-food joint, I go to a salad bar (these are very popular in this part of town). The theory being that, I desire a girl with a great figure, and fast food is not the path to one, so I hit the salad spots! Recently, I see this very well-known model (who happens to have a major modeling contract with a cosmetics company) at my favorite lunch spot, waiting in line to pay for her salad.

She is, of course, an absolute 10, wearing a super-sexy outfit complete with some killer stiletto-style heels. So, I see my "in." I walk up behind her and say: "What is up with those shoes?" in almost a disapproving way. She gives a half glance toward me and says in a slightly confused, self-conscious way: "What, they're Jimmy Choos." Still looking down, I respond: "They're sharp." She responds: "Thanks."

At this point, I'm still just not much more than another guy looking to get her attention, in her eyes. So I respond: "That wasn't a compliment, I'm saying that they're sharp; like, they could be used as a weapon." She responds with a big smile. At this point, the woman at the register says "Next! (We both walk to the register) Are you together?" I quickly respond: "No way. Did you see those weapons she calls shoes?" This doesn't even make complete sense, but that's the point.

I make sure I pay first (cutting ahead of her), then as she starts to pay for her order, I say: "I'll tell you what, if you promise to keep your shoes on the floor, I'll let you have lunch with me today." After that Cocky & Funny comment she had this really confused look on her face like, who the hell is this guy to talk to me like this? Notice DYD-ers, I didn't even act like I knew who she was. As a matter of fact, to this day I never play into her fame/success at all.

To keep a long story from getting any longer, I got her e-mail that day at lunch and now we have been dating for three months. I cannot thank you enough Dave, for showing me the errors of my ways, and helping me date so many beautiful girls.

G from Manhattan

david d. responds

Ah, models.

The object of desire for so many men.

And what do most guys do when they run into a woman who is of "model quality"?

They get nervous, act stupid and say things that sound exactly like the other 47 guys that she has talked to that day.

Beautiful women are some of the very best people to bust on.

Think of it this way: Her beauty (and in your case, fame) is her weapon.

It's where her power comes from.

When you approach a woman like this and immediately acknowledge her beauty, you also say: "I see that you are powerful, and I'm one of those who your power affects."

On the other hand, when you totally disregard her "outward beauty" and instead start making fun of her, teasing, and enjoying yourself, you instead say: "I am the powerful one, and your beauty magic doesn't work on me."

This has an instant effect. It separates you from 999 out of 1,000 other men that she meets.

And if you're charming and funny as well, it just says all the right things.

Great job, and congratulations on finding a beautiful woman who you enjoy enough to date on an ongoing basis.

David DeAngelo is the author of the book Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, and several other products that can help men become more successful with women and dating. He also publishes a free online Dating Tips newsletter, available at www.DoubleYourDating.com.