Not a JB fan here; I doubt I'd recognize him if I passed him on the street.

But I can imagine the excitement among younger family members should this have occurred at a family wedding. Even the older guests would have an interesting story to share with their friends. As a host, I think that anything as innocuous as this that gives my guests pleasure is not rude.

Justin Bieber is a pretty inoffensive personality; had someone like Sinead O'Connor done it, I think it would be a different situation entirely, but then I'm also sure that most celebrities have a pretty good idea of who comprises their fan base and who doesn't.

Goodness, when I tell DH about this he's going to be so jealous. I think I'm married to the only fully-grown man who went BY HIMSELF to see JB's movie Never Say Never in theaters.

I voted rude because I personally wouldn't want my wedding to be remembered only as the wedding where a certain celebrity showed up. Also, the attitude he must have had to go do that seems a little off to me. He probably realized it was a wedding before he was seen, yet proceeded to go and take the attention away from the HC and put it on himself. Another "who does that?"

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I voted "Not Rude". While showing up at a wedding that one was technically not invited to, it's not like he is someone's ex and was specifically NOT INVITED!!!!1111I guess when one of my sons eventually get married, I'll have to leave a list at the reception of people who are allowed to drop in for 10 minutes:the Queenthe band QueenAny classic rockerand, of course, Alan Rickman, Jeremy Irons and/or Hugh Jackman

but - what if I miss one who happens to be passing? What if Sean Connery hears the pipes (which we will have whether my son wants them or not) and I didn't specifically put him on the list??? Do we turn him away?

Not rude - but certainly dangerous. If anyone PLAYED JB at my wedding, there would have been words exchanged. The words may have been wrapped round a brick thrown at the DJ.

IF the scary manchild with disturbingly effeminite voice man himself turned up, well... there would have been an INCIDENT. International peace keeping forces may have been involved.

However now I'm worried that High Jackman, Alan Rickman, Josh Holloway and scores of other lovlies were turned away from my wedding cos I forgot to leave a list at the door. OH NOES! No, seriously, a part of me really thinks they may have wanted to dance with me!

"That's my thing, we all have our exception, not ok for Bieber but..."

This is what spins it for me. Mr. Bieber didn't plan ahead to crash, he heard one of his songs, and he stayed for ten minutes. Given all of that, it can reasonably be said that he could expect to be welcome at the reception (if the HC truly despised him the odds of his song playing are lessened) and he didn't stay long enough to change the focus of the event. He may have been strictly against etiquette but there's a lot of vitriol aimed at him here for something that's relatively minor. Is it really polite to make slurs at him about this? What place does "manchild" have on an etiquette forum?

I don't get it either. Several posters (on more than one website) say it's rude and Justin Bieber is an entitled attention-hogging brat, but then they throw in "however, if it's so-and-so, that's fine because I love them " No. If it's rude for one, it's rude for all.

I don't get it either. Several posters (on more than one website) say it's rude and Justin Bieber is an entitled attention-hogging brat, but then they throw in "however, if it's so-and-so, that's fine because I love them " No. If it's rude for one, it's rude for all.

Yep that's my feeling. Even if it was an actor or singer I loved that did that, I'd still be seriously cheesed off.

I don't get it either. Several posters (on more than one website) say it's rude and Justin Bieber is an entitled attention-hogging brat, but then they throw in "however, if it's so-and-so, that's fine because I love them " No. If it's rude for one, it's rude for all.

There are a lot of things that are unquestionably rude, but that individual people wouldn't mind (or at least, they wouldn't mind it from certain people). I interpreted those posts to mean "It's rude for a celebrity to show up uninvited, even if they hear their music being played. But despite that, I'd personally be thrilled if Artist A showed up at my wedding." IOW, the action is rude, but they personally would enjoy if certain of their favorite artists showed up.

The problem, of course, is that there is no way for the celebrity in question to know beforehand who would appreciate their presence and who would hate it (regardless of what music is being played), which is why it's rude to show up uninvited.