Sounds to me like he's fooling around...The question is...WHAT are you willing to do if you find out for sure?
Will you have the guts to call it quits?
Cheaters seldom change!
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Perhaps this article can help you...

Top 9 signs your spouse is cheating

You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can’t quite figure out what that feeling is about.
Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation.
You suspect there may be someone else but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don’t have any proof.

So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful and don’t confuse signs with proof.

1. "I'm not in love with you anymore."

If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to loose sight of his/her true feelings. The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.

2. “We are just friends.”

This is also another very predictable statement that will come from a cheating spouse. If your spouse is spending more and more time with this new “friend” then there is probably more to it than mere friendship. Your spouse may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.

3. A sudden need for privacy.

If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!

4. “I need some space to figure my feelings for you.”

Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.

5. Regular work habits change.

Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.

6. Spending a large amount of time on the computer.

In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs.
If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.

7. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.

Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.

8. Behavior that just doesn’t add up.

Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can’t explain. Money that isn’t accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.

9. Your Own fears and suspicions

If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign.
Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then confront him or her with what you've found.
Do it in a way that is calm and courteous.
Ask for honesty.
Be prepared for lies.
It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives.

Other Answers (14)

RED FLAG RED FLAG! I agree there is no reason to go perusing through your mans things whenever the fancy hits you...but I have to say locking his phone is a huge red flag. I would be very very cautious here....you don't feel like he's cheating? Maybe you are too trusting. A good faithful relationship is open. My fiance has looked at my phone in passing, and I have actually gone through his. He wasnt happy because he says I should trust him, but there was nothing in it and he's not shady about it. He said I can look at whatever I want but he doesn't understand why I would need to. BE CAREFUL. I would say there is something going on you should know about to make an informed decision about staying with this man. And he needs to keep his manhood? Please...sounds like a womanizer to me

Ok, let me get this straight.. u live as husband and wife, you even have a child together, but he thinks that keeping his "manhood" is by actting single? Hun your relationship is in so much trouble its not even funny.. any person in a "committed" relationship that feels the need to "hide things, or keep secrets" is not really in a committed relationship.. and if he thinks being a "man" is based on privacy of hiding things from his significant other, then he's not a man his a little boy trapped in a mans body.. your in for a world of hurt and pain if u dont get this nipped in the bud and quick..

You should always assume the best. If you spend time focusing on the positve things, you won't have time to worry about what he might be doing with his phone. Once you're not worried about it, it probably won't be so important to him to make a big deal of keeping it locked. <grin> Men are really silly and weird.
So my advice is, let the phone go. Don't mention it, don't talk about it, act like you don't notice it laying around, if he starts talking or texting on it, discreetly find something to do in the other room so he's not getting your attention by messing with his phone. When he see's it's not bothering you, he'll probably give it up or offer to let you see it.
To sum up, if you don't trust him, you probably shouldn't be with him. But since the two of you have a child, I hope things work out because that would be best for all three of you.

Straight up, I think your boyfriend is flirting and maybe cheating on you. The manhood crap is just that, crap. He's not going to show you what's in his phones , but I think you already know in your heart what it is anyway. If your man has to hide anything from you, especially something like the contents of his cell phone, then it's time to re-examine your relationship with him. Today it's the phones. What might it be tomorrow?

He's obviously hiding something from you. Do you want to continue giving him the benifit of a doubt. My hubby and are an open book with one another, he can look in my phone at anytime and I can look at his.

I would be thinking something was up, and I would tell him that it's not anything about "hurting his manhood", it's called trust and he should learn how to earn it.

My question is why are you being so damn nosey!! If you think he is cheating you on you should leave him. If you decide to stay you get what you deserve!! Snoopyness is a sign of insecurity on your part!

You are too concerned about him locking his phone get a life!! You are too damn nosey that why he locks his phone. Plus, you already knows why he locks it - its something he doesn't want you to see. So, either stay in the relationship while he lies and cheat on you or LEAVE its as simple as that!! But stop being so nosey though its not cute!!

I don't understand. You saw him sending pictures to other women. He's obviously cheating or about to. Who cares if he locks his phone? You already know what he's hiding. The real question is do you stay or do you go?

he's definetly flirting nd leading gurls on...idk bout the cheating part but he's definetly doing things that r innapropriate on his fone becuase he knows itz wrong so that's y he locks it. if ur willing to deal with that shyt den keep livin the way it iz.but if ur not y don't u sit him down nd tlk bout it and if he's not guna oppen up nd stop lokin his fone den give him some space to figure out whether hje wants the little tricks on his fone more then his babi mamaz...good luck

years ago when my hubby and i dated he used to be this way and i confronted him about it, and i found out by mistake that he locked it, when i went to use it, not to snoop and i asked him and he gave me the same crap about "manhood" etc but in time he relized i trust him and had no need to "lock" his phone anymore, and now he will tell you himself, a man that "locks" things form his wife etc, has something to hide(may not always be cheating)but your man is for sure hiding something.

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My boyfriend is sneaky with his phone, Im not allowed to see it because he needs to keep hid "Manhood"

He has 2 phones,the iphone i cant see (its locked), probably because he has girls numbers things that Im not allowed to see. Whenever he's on it in front of me he puts it down&locks it. This has been an issue in the past..with his sidekick phone i wasnt allowed to see that either, and i had reason to be suspicious because i saw him sending pictures of himself to other girls and going into chats. We're ina serious relationship, we live together and have a 2 year old. Im completely open, he can look at my phone wheneverr and it doesnt bother me, but i cant look at his. He says that he needs to keep so part of his "Manhood". But I just feel like its unfair. Do you think im being unreasonable? How can I try to get him to let me see the phone, because I dont want to be sneaky about it. This is who I want to be with for the rest of my life, and I want no secrets involved. I don't feel like he's really cheating, but I dont want to find out something in the future and have alot of time wasted.

you are not being unreasonable and he's cheating. people who have nothing to hide do not hide things. you already know that he's cheating. there is no other reason that he will not let you see his phone.