I'm gathering info for my boyfriend, who will be going to mediation soon. His soon-to-be-ex decided to get an attorney. They have no assets together anymore, as they have been separated for 3 years. She was able to support herself fine until she started her own business, which is failing, so my feeling is that she wants mediation and court for the sole purpose of getting money out of him. His only debt is a $300 a month car loan. Otherwise, it's just the basics, but as is he has just barely enough to squeak by. He is not a crazy spender by any means.

Since money seems to be her main concern, what should he bring to mediation? She claims to want them 50/50, but she's rarely actually HAD them 50/50. He wants them more like 70/30 with full legal custody.

He can serve her with up to 25 pages of stuff to bring to mediation. I know they aren't supposed to talk about money (in CA, at least), but she's making outrageous claims.

Does the packet he brings get shown to the judge before the trial or can it be presented at trial? She claims to work 75 hours a week and have the kids 59% of the time. The place she owns is only open 48 hours a week and she's not even there that much, so it's pretty blatantly wrong.

We have letters supporting his claim and disputing hers, but is there anything else that would be a good idea to bring?

First, your boyfriend should be doing his own homework. Second, mediation is a discussion, documents usually help little inless it is relevant to the issues. Nothing in mediation is shown to a Judge. In fact, most state statutes do not allow discussions during mediation to be introduced.

Quote:First, your boyfriend should be doing his own homework. Second, mediation is a discussion, documents usually help little inless it is relevant to the issues. Nothing in mediation is shown to a Judge. In fact, most state statutes do not allow discussions during mediation to be introduced.

Maury, California is an entirely different animal when it comes to mediation- not like my state and your state. In CA the mediators do review evidence and make recommendations to the court. I admit, I am guessing they are in CA because of her reference to it.

OP- I always bring everything I may need to prove any point I want to make, or disprove any point I think the other side could possibly make. I'd rather have it and not need it than the alternative.

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In that case, it sounds more like an arbitration than a mediation. If that is the case, you would treat it much like a trial without all the formalities for evidentiary objections. You would bring any relevant documentation and witness statements that would be helpful to a determination of the issues.

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More from the Canadian SOW Report Targeting Men & Boys

More from the hate group, Canadian Status of Women (SOW):

“In particular, we stress the urgency for women to “take ownership” of the Internet. (Ownership? Sheesh!)

There is also a need to ensure closer monitoring of hate-mongering sites to determine whether legal action should be taken. (hatemongering? Sheesh! Did anyone see the long list of hate groups that they want to "monitor?" Sheeesh!)

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As we have mentioned before, there is an evil, insidious group of posters on this site promoting the hatred of men, the changing of societal boundaries, the promotion of female superiority as they force their propaganda upon this and practically every other discussion/help board financed by the government in Canada, the USA & many other countries as promoted by SOW/NOW. Most even get paid to do this.