What the *!?%#

So when our LO was born everyone under the sun, from family to strangers in the grocery would ask if I was breastfeeding. When I said yes I got the whole 'good for you' speech. I was unable to bf our toddler despite my best efforts, so these little comments did make me feel good about working SO hard to bf this LO. Anyways, now, at almost 8 months old, everyone from family to strangers in the grocery store ask when I am going to stop breastfeeding. At what age I will wean him? Oh wow, you're STILL breastfeeding?! It is really annoying! Not that it's anyone's business what I choose to do, but our LO is a boob addict and at this rate he will be breastfeeding until he starts college!!! So you do what some people deem to be the 'right thing' and then those same people are waiting for you to stop! End of rant.

So when our LO was born everyone under the sun, from family to strangers in the grocery would ask if I was breastfeeding. When I said yes I got the whole 'good for you' speech. I was unable to bf our toddler despite my best efforts, so these little comments did make me feel good about working SO hard to bf this LO. Anyways, now, at almost 8 months old, everyone from family to strangers in the grocery store ask when I am going to stop breastfeeding. At what age I will wean him? Oh wow, you're STILL breastfeeding?! It is really annoying! Not that it's anyone's business what I choose to do, but our LO is a boob addict and at this rate he will be breastfeeding until he starts college!!! So you do what some people deem to be the 'right thing' and then those same people are waiting for you to stop! End of rant.

Thankfully I don't have this problem with my family as they all know and agree its really non of their business but strangers make me crazy. I hate that people think what I choose to feed my baby is any of their concern. When DS was much littler (closer to 2 months old) I would ALWAYS get people saying things like " Omgoodness your taking your baby out already?? Back in my day we didn't take them out for at least 3 months"... Ummm good for u..?.. I have has to learn to become more tolerant of people and just nod and smile instead of saying whatever has initially popped into my head lol

Thankfully I don't have this problem with my family as they all know and agree its really non of their business but strangers make me crazy. I hate that people think what I choose to feed my baby is any of their concern. When DS was much littler (closer to 2 months old) I would ALWAYS get people saying things like " Omgoodness your taking your baby out already?? Back in my day we didn't take them out for at least 3 months"... Ummm good for u..?.. I have has to learn to become more tolerant of people and just nod and smile instead of saying whatever has initially popped into my head lol

yes! I get this, too! Even today, his doctor looked at me like I said something horrible and was like "oh, you're STILL breastfeeding??!" I was kinda put off by his reaction! He supports it, but he looked at me like he's never heard of this or something!! what's that about?? why are people SO opinionated about breastfeeding?? It seems like a no-brainer to me, that people should mind their business! especially on how/what one feeds a baby.

yes! I get this, too! Even today, his doctor looked at me like I said something horrible and was like "oh, you're STILL breastfeeding??!" I was kinda put off by his reaction! He supports it, but he looked at me like he's never heard of this or something!! what's that about?? why are people SO opinionated about breastfeeding?? It seems like a no-brainer to me, that people should mind their business! especially on how/what one feeds a baby.

I was watching dr. Phil...of course I was. Lol anyway, this lady is bfing her 4yr old. Someone in the audience said it was gross because they have teeth at 4. One if the other dr.'s on there laughed at her and said 6 month Olds have some teeth...you want moms to stop then. Who cares what you're comfortable with bfing is great for babies and toddlers. Something along the lines of toddlers weaning themselves is good for their self esteem and independence. I really don't care what ppl say or think but I can see how its so freaking annoying.

I was watching dr. Phil...of course I was. Lol anyway, this lady is bfing her 4yr old. Someone in the audience said it was gross because they have teeth at 4. One if the other dr.'s on there laughed at her and said 6 month Olds have some teeth...you want moms to stop then. Who cares what you're comfortable with bfing is great for babies and toddlers. Something along the lines of toddlers weaning themselves is good for their self esteem and independence. I really don't care what ppl say or think but I can see how its so freaking annoying.

I'm with you! So annoying!! I just had a friend ask me what formula I started to use at 6 months?, I responded "I'm still bf" Her face was in total disbelief almost disgust. Why don't people mind their own business!?!?

I'm with you! So annoying!! I just had a friend ask me what formula I started to use at 6 months?, I responded "I'm still bf" Her face was in total disbelief almost disgust. Why don't people mind their own business!?!?

I was just about to post this same thing! It's like no matter what you do it is never the right thing and everyone has an opinion on it. I also really struggled and am still breastfeeding. And I feel like it is none of anyone's business how long I keep her on the boob. Sheesh!

I was just about to post this same thing! It's like no matter what you do it is never the right thing and everyone has an opinion on it. I also really struggled and am still breastfeeding. And I feel like it is none of anyone's business how long I keep her on the boob. Sheesh!

Great post!! MRH makes a fantastic point- why is breast feeding such a hot topic? The International Breast feeding Association says that 2 years is the gold standard as the first two years are the period of the most rapid growth. There are also benefits to going beyond that. I have two degrees in infant and child development -not that that makes me in any way shape or form an expert, however I know from a developmental point of view that the benefits of extending breast feeding for the first few years are amazing. Although dealing with the stigmas of 'still breast feeding my baby' I know what I am doing is right so I brush off the unsolicited options of others. I said to a friend on facebook who made a derogatory comment about breast feeding mammas in regard to that horrible time magazine cover "I think it's more gross for a baby to get its milk from a cows teet then it's mothers."

Great post!! MRH makes a fantastic point- why is breast feeding such a hot topic? The International Breast feeding Association says that 2 years is the gold standard as the first two years are the period of the most rapid growth. There are also benefits to going beyond that. I have two degrees in infant and child development -not that that makes me in any way shape or form an expert, however I know from a developmental point of view that the benefits of extending breast feeding for the first few years are amazing. Although dealing with the stigmas of 'still breast feeding my baby' I know what I am doing is right so I brush off the unsolicited options of others. I said to a friend on facebook who made a derogatory comment about breast feeding mammas in regard to that horrible time magazine cover "I think it's more gross for a baby to get its milk from a cows teet then it's mothers."

Wow that is so weird! I agree it's no ones business! I think I put out a don't talk to me vibe because strangers never say anything to me lol I nursed my last baby until she was 15 months and she only weaned because I was so sick with this pregnancy. Hoping to nurse this one as long as she wants too!

Wow that is so weird! I agree it's no ones business! I think I put out a don't talk to me vibe because strangers never say anything to me lol I nursed my last baby until she was 15 months and she only weaned because I was so sick with this pregnancy. Hoping to nurse this one as long as she wants too!

After posing I started thinking of a little guy that I had in my kindergarten class 5 years ago. Can't use his real name so let's call him Tim. He was one of those once in a blue moon kind of kids. I'm not talking top of the class kind of child I am talking about the kind of child who not only excels in everything but who also had a kind of star quality about him. Tim seemed to understand others in ways that are not only unique for a 4 year old but also were beyond what most adults have. He was academically strong, socially strong and had great muscular skills. I am seeming to be getting of topic here so let me get to the point. At my parent meeting with Tim's parents I asked them what they did at home. Nothing really stood out to me however when I asked about Tim's diet at home the parents listed off a typical day, and then looked at each other. Tims mom looked at me rather embarrassed and said "can I let you in on a secret?" Turns out that she was still BFing him at night while they read a bed time story and she said that he would also get a glass of expressed breast milk every morning before school with breakfast. Looking back I don't know how much of a difference the breast milk did for Tim but I strongly believe that he was all the better for it. I still know Tim and although he is not being breast fed anymore he is still very much as talented as he was when he was 4. He is not spoiled or inappropriate at all about body parts, actually very much the opposite. I am currently reading Dr Sears's book on attachment parenting and I can see how the methods of AP worked on giving Tim the amazing start in life that he had. I recommend giving this book a look through. Dr Sears also talks about the nagh sayers that we have to deal with.

After posing I started thinking of a little guy that I had in my kindergarten class 5 years ago. Can't use his real name so let's call him Tim. He was one of those once in a blue moon kind of kids. I'm not talking top of the class kind of child I am talking about the kind of child who not only excels in everything but who also had a kind of star quality about him. Tim seemed to understand others in ways that are not only unique for a 4 year old but also were beyond what most adults have. He was academically strong, socially strong and had great muscular skills. I am seeming to be getting of topic here so let me get to the point. At my parent meeting with Tim's parents I asked them what they did at home. Nothing really stood out to me however when I asked about Tim's diet at home the parents listed off a typical day, and then looked at each other. Tims mom looked at me rather embarrassed and said "can I let you in on a secret?" Turns out that she was still BFing him at night while they read a bed time story and she said that he would also get a glass of expressed breast milk every morning before school with breakfast. Looking back I don't know how much of a difference the breast milk did for Tim but I strongly believe that he was all the better for it. I still know Tim and although he is not being breast fed anymore he is still very much as talented as he was when he was 4. He is not spoiled or inappropriate at all about body parts, actually very much the opposite. I am currently reading Dr Sears's book on attachment parenting and I can see how the methods of AP worked on giving Tim the amazing start in life that he had. I recommend giving this book a look through. Dr Sears also talks about the nagh sayers that we have to deal with.

I only get it from Americans. My mom is Filipina and everyone on her side just expects me to be BFing, which is great! Even the Polish pediatrician asked if i was stil bfing and when i said yes, he said, "Congratulations! Most of my patients' moms don't make it past 6 months." That felt really good. :) But my dad and husband's families are sooo uncomfortable with it.

That's fascinating! Thank you for sharing. It's so encouraging.

I only get it from Americans. My mom is Filipina and everyone on her side just expects me to be BFing, which is great! Even the Polish pediatrician asked if i was stil bfing and when i said yes, he said, "Congratulations! Most of my patients' moms don't make it past 6 months." That felt really good. :) But my dad and husband's families are sooo uncomfortable with it.

I'm dealing with this now. We are visiting my MIL for the week. She is seeing how horrible LO sleeps and is trying to help. She said I need to switch to formula so she can give LO bottles at night and let me sleep. She thinks that I'm not giving him enough calories and that's why he won't sleep. My husband was on my side about BF because mainly because of how expensive formula can be. But now that we're at his mom's, he keeps suggesting we go to the store and get a can. I was very sure about my choice to continue BF as long as possible but they are making me doubt my choice. Is LO's poor sleeping habits because he isn't getting enough calories during the day or is he just used to being held all the time? Ugh, I wish I had all the answers

I'm dealing with this now. We are visiting my MIL for the week. She is seeing how horrible LO sleeps and is trying to help. She said I need to switch to formula so she can give LO bottles at night and let me sleep. She thinks that I'm not giving him enough calories and that's why he won't sleep. My husband was on my side about BF because mainly because of how expensive formula can be. But now that we're at his mom's, he keeps suggesting we go to the store and get a can. I was very sure about my choice to continue BF as long as possible but they are making me doubt my choice. Is LO's poor sleeping habits because he isn't getting enough calories during the day or is he just used to being held all the time? Ugh, I wish I had all the answers

Totally agree. My family is pushing me to go to 2 but my inlaw's think I should be done now. One oft husbands cousin's BF'd their little girl til 2 and if it wasn't all they could talk about " oh that's just wrong" " she has teeth!" Bla bla bla. I'm sure they are now starting to say all those things about me but I couldn't care less. My brothers and I were all breastfed whereas my husband and sister in law only ever had formula and trust me, there's a difference!

Totally agree. My family is pushing me to go to 2 but my inlaw's think I should be done now. One oft husbands cousin's BF'd their little girl til 2 and if it wasn't all they could talk about " oh that's just wrong" " she has teeth!" Bla bla bla. I'm sure they are now starting to say all those things about me but I couldn't care less. My brothers and I were all breastfed whereas my husband and sister in law only ever had formula and trust me, there's a difference!

I feel like I don't give people a chance to make these comments most of the time (occasionally a few sneak by and I ignore them!) But as soon as someone asks, I make it pretty clear I'm a BFing advocate and plan on BFing as long as my sweet girl is interested! Sorry you're getting flack, just know you're doing exactly what your baby needs and their comments are only made in ignorance! Good luck mama :)

I feel like I don't give people a chance to make these comments most of the time (occasionally a few sneak by and I ignore them!) But as soon as someone asks, I make it pretty clear I'm a BFing advocate and plan on BFing as long as my sweet girl is interested! Sorry you're getting flack, just know you're doing exactly what your baby needs and their comments are only made in ignorance! Good luck mama :)

I love this thread!!! My grandma always asks "how long I'm planning to bf.". She was raised during the time when formula was lauded as the best new way to feed babies and she has very old fashioned mindset. I just try to be polite and tell her that I'm just going to see how long my LO wants to bf. But I agree about being annoyed ---people in the supermarket (ie random strangers) get a piece of my mind when they ask ( like it's any of their damn business). :)

I love this thread!!! My grandma always asks "how long I'm planning to bf.". She was raised during the time when formula was lauded as the best new way to feed babies and she has very old fashioned mindset. I just try to be polite and tell her that I'm just going to see how long my LO wants to bf. But I agree about being annoyed ---people in the supermarket (ie random strangers) get a piece of my mind when they ask ( like it's any of their damn business). :)

Love this post too! So annoying :( my mom and both my sister in laws support it but my aunt thinks I need to get him on at least someFormula for when im out of the house. In laws have always wanted me to supplement with formula since day 1 because my milk cant possibly be enough. When ds got his first tooth a couple of weeks ago they said ill have to start him on formula now since he has teeth and that I shouldve done it earlier because its gonna be harder now. Also that babies definitely dont need to be bf'd past 6 months. Wth?? Says who?? Even according to our religion we should be bfing until 2 years so why do they care if I keep going?! Doesnt help I live with my in laws and hear their opinions everyday :(

Love this post too! So annoying :( my mom and both my sister in laws support it but my aunt thinks I need to get him on at least someFormula for when im out of the house. In laws have always wanted me to supplement with formula since day 1 because my milk cant possibly be enough. When ds got his first tooth a couple of weeks ago they said ill have to start him on formula now since he has teeth and that I shouldve done it earlier because its gonna be harder now. Also that babies definitely dont need to be bf'd past 6 months. Wth?? Says who?? Even according to our religion we should be bfing until 2 years so why do they care if I keep going?! Doesnt help I live with my in laws and hear their opinions everyday :(

I still bf & plan to as long as lo wants to. She doesn't take bottles or sippy cups (except to chew them). Strangers dont tend to ask me personal questions, I catch flak from friends. Luckily db supports me (even though he can't wait till he can play with them without getting sprayed) Most people get told when she's ready to wean, or I dry up.

I still bf & plan to as long as lo wants to. She doesn't take bottles or sippy cups (except to chew them). Strangers dont tend to ask me personal questions, I catch flak from friends. Luckily db supports me (even though he can't wait till he can play with them without getting sprayed) Most people get told when she's ready to wean, or I dry up.

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