Still can't get over my ex girlfriend

Asked Jan 23, 2012, 03:50 PM
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Hi Guys
Ok to put a long story short. I was dating this girl who I was head over heels for. We dated for a year and everything seem to be going smoothly, no problems between us and we got on fantastically. However 4 months ago after going to a festival with her, with no warning she just decided to end it. She gave me no closure whatsoever and all she said to me was that she didn't feel the same for me anymore, but I had done nothing wrong,

I treated this girl like gold, took care of her when she was ill, took care of her lets say not entirely sane mate when she went through an episode, did everything I could to make her happy but even after all that all she could say was that she felt that she wasn't good enough for me. However it took her 4 days to meet someone else and start dating him, who was in fact one of her best mates.

She just shoved me aside and left me to rot inside and become a person who I would have never have been before hand, I got very angry, said things I shouldn't of said to people and got in numerous fights, I become someone very annoyed and angry at the world to think I put so much effort into our relationship for her to tell me to shove it.

I've tried to get over her but I don't feel like I can even trust any other girls after what she did and its destroyed a part of me. She was my first love and really has made me scared of moving on. I just don't know what to do.

The main thing you have to do is separate the TWO issues you are having. One is getting over her, the other one is trusting females again.

Getting over her is relatively easy compared to the other problem, all you have to do is stay away, and give yourself time to heal.

Now with the other issue, you might need a little help. It sucks to break up, the feeling of rejection and betrayal from a break up may make you feel like nothing for a little while. Anger is a common reaction to such feeling, however you need to learn how to control it. If you can't control it yourself I would suggest visiting a professional for help on it. Everyone here has gone through this phase, however, people react differently to the same things.

You need to take a breath, forget women for a little while and concentrate on yourself, work, school, body, and mind. After you get ahold of yourself and you begin to feel happy on your own and content to be alone, then you can start dating again.

This will happen again, break ups happen ALL the time, girls come and go, every time you have to pay attention to the important things so that you can learn something from each relationship. This is crucial, the reason behind it is because whenever you find your future wife, you will be good at figuring out what to do and what not to do.

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I've been going through the same for about a year. Since people are different in so many ways, I don't think there is a true remedy for the pain we feel. I'm glad to see many people can get over the slump that they've fallen in but maybe they weren't truly in love. Love is a very strong word and emotion, it can sway your relationship with not only others, but yourself as well. I'm not going to tell you what to do or how to get over it, but what I can tell you is enjoy the time you spent with this significant other and smile. This is what I've been doing since the breakup. I'll never be over her cause she was perfect in every way (in my oppinion). Nearly everything I do, look at, or listen to, makes me think of her. I will forever be saddened, but also glad that I was able to experience such a wonderful thing. I hope you find peace friend.

Sincerely

A broken boy

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