"According to countless media reports, embattled Christian reality star Josh Duggar has been exposed as having accounts in the Ashley Madison data dump. Further, the star, previously exposed as having sexually abused siblings, has now claimed (link is external)that it was an addiction to pornography, and letting “Satan build a fortress in his heart,” which caused his actions."

The function (purpose) of addiction is to reverse a sense of overwhelming helplessness. Addiction always serves and emotional purpose. When circumstances in life make us feel helpless, trapped and out of control, some folks attempt to regain control of their circumstance with mood altering drugs, porn, sex, etc. Engaging in substitute displaced behavior temporarily removes the trapped feeling because the abuser is doing something about it, they are regaining control of how they, "Feel." Every addictive act is a substitute for a more direct behavior. This fact leads to one of the important parts of a modern treatment of addiction: If addicts can learn to address their rage at helplessness directly, then it manifests simply as an assertive act. When people act directly, there can be no addiction.

Josh may be a believer, but he was not a, "Surrendered Believer." We are all powerless over our tendencyto do the wrong thing, but we always have a choice (free will). Surrendered believers choose behavior that honors Christ. Surrendered believers make Christ the Chief Operations Officer (COO) in their lives. They intellectually delegate control to Christ (2 Cor. 12:9-10). Surrender is more than a decision, it is a lifetime commitment that needs daily attention. We need daily meetings with our COO. With intellectual delegation (ID), Christ changes our thinking (Romans 12:2) and reciprocates by giving us a Helper (John 14:16) that returns self control (Galatians 5: 22-23). Christians that surrender or intellectually delegate control to Christ are not puppets. We remain the Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of our lives with final choice. We can choose Direct healthy Christ Driven Behavior or Displaced substitute behavior. Both behaviors can serve to regain control over helplessness, adversity, feeling trapped and out of control, but only direct, is healthy Christ driven behavior that honors God.

The treatment is to replace how we, "Feel," with the Values of the Bible. "A fool vents his feelings, but a wise man holds them in check." Proverbs 29:11

A person's purpose and values are the main navigational tools in recovery and in life. People overcome hurts, habits and hang ups out of purpose-based motivation -- they better themselves when they recognize how their habits, violate who they were, what they want to be, where they want to go in life.

Surrender is obedience. Josh Duggar was not obedient. He never intellectually delegated control to Christ, as his personal mentor and COO.

It is never too late to change your thinking and change your life. If you have a choice, choose a better life.

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There is no reason why anyone with any hurt, habit, or hang up cannot be helped. The Person-God partnership simply needs to be more powerful than any hurt, habit or hangup.

Behind everything you do is a THOUGHT.

Every BEHAVIOR is motivated by a BELIEF.

Every ACTION is prompted by an ATTITUDE.

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With respect to behavior, life is about, emotions, beliefs, thinking and control.

"A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."Proverbs 29:11 (Displaced Behaviors)

"Do not be conformed by this world but instead by the renewing of your mind." Romans 12:2 (Direct Behavior)

When you think and empower yourself and surrender control to God, when you Intelligently Delegate Control to God (2 Corinthians 12:9-10),

God returns that control to you with a, “Helper," the Holy Spirit, (John 14:16) a form of Reciprocal Innervation.

You regain control: "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.

No longer are you subject to corrupted displaced thinking but instead are transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2).

This is where science and scripture intertwine, where Christ Driven Behavior brings, values, control, cause, character and purpose driven behavior, the fruits of the spirit Galatians 5:22-23 .

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Proverbs 29:11 "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back."

Romans 12:2: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

2 Corinthians 12-9:“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

John 14:16: "He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—"

Philippians 2:13: "for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Galatians 5:22-23 "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Ephesians 4:22-23 "...put away the old person you used to be. Have nothing to do with your old sinful life. It was sinful because of being fooled into following bad desires. Let your minds and hearts be made new."

Life is about finding Purpose. When you have a, "Global Purpose," in life, healthy direct assertive thinking and behavior follow.