Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

I actually find this episode pretty interesting and it shows where we are headed. There is a strong backlash arising towards those on welfare and the poor in general. So much so that it pisses some people off to see poor people given money. I hate to think what is going to happen when this gets worse.

I saw the girl storming out of the laundry in near tears. If I hadn't said anything to her, she would have diffused that anger and rage someplace else because of that man's meanness towards her. She may still do that. Maybe she will vandalize something or break into a car. Maybe she won't. But I saw her anger.

We are living in such volatile times that I am surprised I don't see stuff like this more often really.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27747263

Imagine how upset she'd be if she had EARNED that money, and someone wanted to strip it away from her.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

That was very nice of you. I am selective when it comes to giving money out like that.

In my area, there are people that make a living by standing on street corners. Now apparently the shelter is giving dogs to the homeless, or an organization is "renting dogs" basically to homeless or people who stand on street corners begging, in order to gain sympathy from passers by, so they get more money. Thing is, all these dogs look well groomed, healthy, and are very obedient. If they are truly the homeless mans companion, they would be dirty, on the verge of being emaciated, and far from obedient.

I carry water in my car, and usually will give them a couple of bottles of water, or sometimes buy them a coffee, or food. Unfortunately my efforts are moot, because they dont want that. They want the money.

In Orange County, Ca., ( I believe it was O.C.) a man had been cited for standing on street corners begging, on numerous ocassions. It was later learned, when interviewed, that he made about $66,000.00 the previous year from begging, and he admitted he does it because it's easy, he is lazy, and doesnt want to work. True story. I dont have a link, but its available on the web somewhere.

Merry Christmas.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16525247

dont believe everything you read or is told that is a fabrication the op did well and thats the end of that

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

Your thread post is ironic for me; I gave a white man money to get on the bus, a few months ago. I had to go pay my car insurance and when I was getting back into my car in the company's parking lot, he walked over to me and said he was short on change for the bus and asked, very politely, if I could spare some.

I gave him all the money I had in my pocket at the time, which was about seven dollars, and some coins.

A month ago, a white woman rolled up beside me at the gas station and literally begged me to give her some money for gas. She said she had lost her job (downsized out) and had spent her last dime on food, and her tank was on E. I had watched her asked a white man for money before she approached me, and he gave her an impatient look, shook his head no, and drove off. Funny thing was, she didn't look like your typical "beggar"; she was clean and slightly dishevled, but she looked weary. She had a Jersey accent too, which was the first thing I actually noticed (I live in Atlanta).

I told her I wouldn't give her the money, but I would pay for the gas for her, and she looked SO relieved! I felt so sorry for her. The two gas clerks inside (they were from Ethiopia) saw the whole exchange and one was shocked that I put $25 gas in the woman's car because I didn't know her.

I wish I could have bought more for her, but unfortunately I live on a tight budget myself, and was buying twenty-five bucks worth of gas for my own car at the time.

AND, just recently, I was coming off the highway and saw a black man standing on the side of the road, holding a sign that read: I'm hungry. Please help.

So I picked him up, drove to my bank, and withdrew $100 and gave it to him. (I know, I probably shouldn't have let him get into my car, but he looked too tired to do anything but sit there, which is wxactly what he did.)And he was so thankful. After I dropped him off, I cried all the way home...

And good for you. I'm a black lady and I say thank you for helping her.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 10164827

That one is a common ruse, used to see it all the time. However, offering to buy her gas was the right thing to do.

If someone asks for money because they are hungry I generally offer to buy them something to eat. You would be surprised at how many people have turned me down and acted annoyed because I didn't give them green.

Other posters are right when they say to trust your gut. It is never a bad thing to try to help someone. I also met a homeless guy once and he told me he needed money for a drink because he was starting to get sick.

Knowing that someone who drinks regularly can die trying to detox on their own can kill them I got him some booze. At least he was honest with me, I could see his hands shaking and knew he was in bad shape.

..."The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts. Think only on those things that are in line with your principles and can bear the light of day. The content of your character is your choice. Day by day, what you choose, what you think, and what you do is who you become. Your integrity is your destiny ... it is the light that guides your way."Heraclitus

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

Your thread post is ironic for me; I gave a white man money to get on the bus, a few months ago. I had to go pay my car insurance and when I was getting back into my car in the company's parking lot, he walked over to me and said he was short on change for the bus and asked, very politely, if I could spare some.

I gave him all the money I had in my pocket at the time, which was about seven dollars, and some coins.

A month ago, a white woman rolled up beside me at the gas station and literally begged me to give her some money for gas. She said she had lost her job (downsized out) and had spent her last dime on food, and her tank was on E. I had watched her asked a white man for money before she approached me, and he gave her an impatient look, shook his head no, and drove off. Funny thing was, she didn't look like your typical "beggar"; she was clean and slightly dishevled, but she looked weary. She had a Jersey accent too, which was the first thing I actually noticed (I live in Atlanta).

I told her I wouldn't give her the money, but I would pay for the gas for her, and she looked SO relieved! I felt so sorry for her. The two gas clerks inside (they were from Ethiopia) saw the whole exchange and one was shocked that I put $25 gas in the woman's car because I didn't know her.

I wish I could have bought more for her, but unfortunately I live on a tight budget myself, and was buying twenty-five bucks worth of gas for my own car at the time.

AND, just recently, I was coming off the highway and saw a black man standing on the side of the road, holding a sign that read: I'm hungry. Please help.

So I picked him up, drove to my bank, and withdrew $100 and gave it to him. (I know, I probably shouldn't have let him get into my car, but he looked too tired to do anything but sit there, which is wxactly what he did.)And he was so thankful. After I dropped him off, I cried all the way home...

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

You did nothing wrong. Giving to people in need, or even to panhandlers who beg for a living does not harm the economy. There's no way it could. Sr. Scrooge was just sniffing the fabric softener or something. You were nice to the girl and that's what matters.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

I actually find this episode pretty interesting and it shows where we are headed. There is a strong backlash arising towards those on welfare and the poor in general. So much so that it pisses some people off to see poor people given money. I hate to think what is going to happen when this gets worse.

I saw the girl storming out of the laundry in near tears. If I hadn't said anything to her, she would have diffused that anger and rage someplace else because of that man's meanness towards her. She may still do that. Maybe she will vandalize something or break into a car. Maybe she won't. But I saw her anger.

We are living in such volatile times that I am surprised I don't see stuff like this more often really.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27747263

You had me on your side, about to give you a "WTG! Just what we need to see more of!" right up till reading this comment.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

I was minding my own business putting clothes in a dryer, when a young black girl approached me and asked if she could have a dollar for the bus. Normally, I don't make a habit out of giving money to strangers because I am asked too often and would be broke if I gave to everyone that asked. But it is Christmas Eve and she really looked like she needed it. So I gave her two dollars worth of quarters and wished her good luck.

Then this hispanic older man asked me if I knew "how bad the economy was?" I replied that yes, I was well aware. And then he proceeded to chew me out for giving the girl money. He said I was part of the problem and he was talking really loudly so everyone could hear. I just rolled my eyes and laughed and turned around to finished putting quarters in the machine.

The girl who asked for the money somehow heard this and started saying something to the man, then he began to yell at her telling her that she was probably on welfare and had babies at home she couldn't take care of. Then they yelled some other stuff I couldn't make out to each other.

Before I left, I made sure to wish the man a Merry Christmas.

Me and the girl both made our way out the front door and she looked extremely upset. I told her not to worry about it and some people were just scrooges. She looked like she was going to cry. I felt sorry for her.

Maybe I am part of the problem by giving change when I feel compelled to. But I certainly would hate to live in a world where no one helped anyone else ever. I think we need to help when we feel compelled. And on this Christmas Eve I felt compelled.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

In Orange County, Ca., ( I believe it was O.C.) a man had been cited for standing on street corners begging, on numerous ocassions. It was later learned, when interviewed, that he made about $66,000.00 the previous year from begging, and he admitted he does it because it's easy, he is lazy, and doesnt want to work. True story. I dont have a link, but its available on the web somewhere.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16525247

Yep! He used to sit out in a wheelchair (that he didn't need) with a long pool net to stick out to cars to put money in on the corner of Bristol and Birch in Newport Beach. Local news caught him packing it all up into a brand new Ford Taurus he had parked around the corner one day, and he gave that interview without an ounce of shame.

"A long habit of not thinking a thing wrong gives it a superficial appearance of being right." ~Thomas Paine

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

I was minding my own business putting clothes in a dryer, when a young black girl approached me and asked if she could have a dollar for the bus. Normally, I don't make a habit out of giving money to strangers because I am asked too often and would be broke if I gave to everyone that asked. But it is Christmas Eve and she really looked like she needed it. So I gave her two dollars worth of quarters and wished her good luck.

Then this hispanic older man asked me if I knew "how bad the economy was?" I replied that yes, I was well aware. And then he proceeded to chew me out for giving the girl money. He said I was part of the problem and he was talking really loudly so everyone could hear. I just rolled my eyes and laughed and turned around to finished putting quarters in the machine.

The girl who asked for the money somehow heard this and started saying something to the man, then he began to yell at her telling her that she was probably on welfare and had babies at home she couldn't take care of. Then they yelled some other stuff I couldn't make out to each other.

Before I left, I made sure to wish the man a Merry Christmas.

Me and the girl both made our way out the front door and she looked extremely upset. I told her not to worry about it and some people were just scrooges. She looked like she was going to cry. I felt sorry for her.

Maybe I am part of the problem by giving change when I feel compelled to. But I certainly would hate to live in a world where no one helped anyone else ever. I think we need to help when we feel compelled. And on this Christmas Eve I felt compelled.

Fuck Mr. Scrooge.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27747263

you should've offered her a fifty! if she's willing to work for it...

Quoting: Sharty Mc Bean

It's called charity dude. One of the nicer human qualities but getting rarer.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

Well the moral of the story goes like this.The person may have been real or a fake.Doesnt really matter.Point being it was OP's money and its no ones business what he does with it.I have given to others and have likely been scammed a few times but so what.A good deed comes from the heart and we are blessed for our kindness.the recipient has to answer for their part if they are doing wrong.OP's money...OP can do what he wants with it.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

I'm with the old messican, don't we give the blacks too much already? I mean hell, they have every advantage, education, affirmative action,, free housing, free food, preferential treatment for jobs, admission to schools,, free healthcare, they are given absolutely every possible advantage and leg up to succeed yet they STILL are unable to become productive.

Ever watch hard corps pawn?

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25463516

Ummm - it's actually just the reverse here in Cali; ALL of the money, jobs, education, advantages, schooling, especially free housing and healthcare is now going to the Latinos! Black people here can't even get a break and are fast losing their formerly all-black neighborhoods! And that goes for all of the jobs, too -- everything Latino, all the time. May be the reason why the jobs and smart people are moving OUT of Cali!

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

In Orange County, Ca., ( I believe it was O.C.) a man had been cited for standing on street corners begging, on numerous ocassions. It was later learned, when interviewed, that he made about $66,000.00 the previous year from begging, and he admitted he does it because it's easy, he is lazy, and doesnt want to work. True story. I dont have a link, but its available on the web somewhere.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 16525247

Yep! He used to sit out in a wheelchair (that he didn't need) with a long pool net to stick out to cars to put money in on the corner of Bristol and Birch in Newport Beach. Local news caught him packing it all up into a brand new Ford Taurus he had parked around the corner one day, and he gave that interview without an ounce of shame.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

screw screwge.

Bitter old fart.

And who GIVES a shit what she spent it on. It's exactly like loaning money to people. Don't loan it, just give what you can spare. If they can't pay you back, well, consider it in your mind as a gift. Loans are bad news. Feelings get hurt, and friendships and family relationships get ruined.

Anyways, good on you, op, for doing what your heart compelled you to do.

Once, an old man, really skinny and ollllddd, used to show up at the swings. His English wasn't great, but I understood a tiny bit. He would motion his fingers to his mouth.He was hungry! I never knew where he lived. He'd just show up at the swing park in front of our house, and sit and look at the ground.

Finally I would start bringing out a sandwich every day to him. He would smile, cry, etc....Turns out, the assholes that were supposed to be caring for him, were cashing his SS checks, and letting him starve. They went to jail, and he went to a home. Poor thing.

Everything happens for a reason. Who knows what butterfly wing's flutter begins one place and ends in another. I liked your story very much.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 21922850

I like YOURS even more! Way to go OP and others with the positive mind set! And this IS the Season for giving, let's not forget!

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

I never give to charity any longer. I use to give most of my income to charity. All I got back from this world was heartache and abuse. Sometimes being a good person makes others hate you. I am tired of being hated.

The Hispanic man probably has a difficult time with work and staying afloat in this economy. He knows full well that black people are nothing but a burden and he was probably angry that you were helping out the same people who cause all the problems.

Soon Hispanics will lose everything and going back Mexico will be a better option.

For those who do not think the government of the United States cannot collapse you are wrong. It can and will. It is time to say fuck it and get revenge.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

Your thread post is ironic for me; I gave a white man money to get on the bus, a few months ago. I had to go pay my car insurance and when I was getting back into my car in the company's parking lot, he walked over to me and said he was short on change for the bus and asked, very politely, if I could spare some.

I gave him all the money I had in my pocket at the time, which was about seven dollars, and some coins.

A month ago, a white woman rolled up beside me at the gas station and literally begged me to give her some money for gas. She said she had lost her job (downsized out) and had spent her last dime on food, and her tank was on E. I had watched her asked a white man for money before she approached me, and he gave her an impatient look, shook his head no, and drove off. Funny thing was, she didn't look like your typical "beggar"; she was clean and slightly dishevled, but she looked weary. She had a Jersey accent too, which was the first thing I actually noticed (I live in Atlanta).

I told her I wouldn't give her the money, but I would pay for the gas for her, and she looked SO relieved! I felt so sorry for her. The two gas clerks inside (they were from Ethiopia) saw the whole exchange and one was shocked that I put $25 gas in the woman's car because I didn't know her.

I wish I could have bought more for her, but unfortunately I live on a tight budget myself, and was buying twenty-five bucks worth of gas for my own car at the time.

AND, just recently, I was coming off the highway and saw a black man standing on the side of the road, holding a sign that read: I'm hungry. Please help.

So I picked him up, drove to my bank, and withdrew $100 and gave it to him. (I know, I probably shouldn't have let him get into my car, but he looked too tired to do anything but sit there, which is wxactly what he did.)And he was so thankful. After I dropped him off, I cried all the way home...

And good for you. I'm a black lady and I say thank you for helping her.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 10164827

That one is a common ruse, used to see it all the time. However, offering to buy her gas was the right thing to do.

If someone asks for money because they are hungry I generally offer to buy them something to eat. You would be surprised at how many people have turned me down and acted annoyed because I didn't give them green.

Other posters are right when they say to trust your gut. It is never a bad thing to try to help someone. I also met a homeless guy once and he told me he needed money for a drink because he was starting to get sick.

Knowing that someone who drinks regularly can die trying to detox on their own can kill them I got him some booze. At least he was honest with me, I could see his hands shaking and knew he was in bad shape.

Quoting: geminilion

Can't PM you, but the neg. the other day was an error. PM me if you read this friend.

Re: Just Got My Ass Chewed Out At Laundry Mat For Giving A Black Girl Some Change

People like the OP are just encouraging people like this black girl to scam other people, especially around Christmas time. People who only give to these beggars around Christmas are hypocrites.

I hate when people act nice around Christmas but go back to their real selves at other times of the year.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28811763

So just how do you know that it's a scam? Had a young black girl once offer to sell me her bus token for $1.00. I bought it (the bus token) because I thought she might be down on her luck. I watched as she crossed the street and walked on her way to an unknown destination, with a feeling that I should have just given her the $1.00 so that she would also have extra (the token) for transportation. Of course, I was a bit skeptical, and when I saw a bus coming decided to take it instead of my usual walk home, just to test to see if the token was real/valid. It was, and so I was left with a sense of shame as not trying harder or of giving more when I could have. I would now, after reading the OP's post, have the feeling of contentment knowing that I had helped a fellow human -- perhaps who needed more but was unwilling to ask for more from a total stranger.

We should all adopt OP's actions into our own and always be willing to extend a hand to help another human being, no matter WHAT the color of their skin is! More so, at CHRISTmas time! Thanks OP, for sharing your story and GodBless!