Thursday, January 14, 2016

Sexually Frustrated

This blog title has nothing to do with me. I have great sex! My husband on the other hand, he's a frustrated mess. When he reads this I am going through the 'ringer' but I had to put it out there. Am I the only one with a husband who is literally irritable if it's gone too long between "bumping uglies?" as in having sex. Maybe it's that we're coming into 10 years of marriage, but we really can read each other's moods, and I swear when my husband hasn't had his way with me he's a little primadonna. Now, don't get me wrong, if you know my husband you know he's as chill as chill gets. But boy is he clearly frustrated during the natural dry spells of life.

I must admit, this week I have worked crazy hours, on top of that, I'll be gone a couple of days for an overnight staff retreat. Coupled with the fact that he's recently been promoted into a more demanding career role, both he and I are swamped outside of our home. We are high energy professionals leading teams, and in my case, an entire agency depends on my success as the boss. It's a lot to handle, plus being present and balanced parents has to come into play. Needless to say, there's a lot going on for us and with me sex always somehow stumbles down the list of priorities. I know he'll hate reading that very line and I hate it too. I am not the sex crazed youngin' he fell in love with, and yet, I still have the hots for him. We have great sex when we have it, except that my husband wants it all week long.

To me, intimacy changes to match the current of life, going up and down with the ebb and flow of daily to-do lists. But I am trying to break away from being the source of my hubby's occasional frustration.

At this time next week, we will be on a second honeymoon celebrating our 10 year wedding anniversary, and boy, will I wow him and devour every bit of just us. Yet for today, he'll remain frustrated with the lack of sex in our present struggle to balance it all. Truthfully, I am not proud of that, but what I am, is honest that this is the case. Perhaps with just knowing the effects of frustration my priority list will change. After all I should make an effort to get to "'it" at the 1st sight of his clear frustration! He deserves it, and hell, so do I!

Besides, my hubby is a gym-rat so making time for his sexy bod has to make doing him high priority on my list, it just has to.

How do you prioritize frequent sex in your relationship?

Update: at 1:30am after writing this post (and working 15 straight hours), I ended the frustration spell and it was well worth it ;)

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