Today is Day 9: as Misha describes various components of what makes Love Grows the ideal place to heal, restore and renew self and your relationships.

The perception many people have about self was superimposed on them by others. Perhaps parents, family members, religion, society, culture, etc. They have accepted this ‘version’ of self as a (1) universal truth and/or (2) permanent, one which they have no control over. This is evident when they say…

This is just how I am.

That’s who we are, we are a family of fighters.

Black people don’t do X.

Women can’t do Y.

Who are you when you remove other’s definition, limitations, fears, dreams, hopes, perspective, beliefs, etc? Who are you really?

Love Grows Sessions with Misha is a safe, inviting place where you can discover new aspects of self. A beautiful place to allow your heart to open and reconnect with it’s true self. A safe place to envision your true self and dream of ways you desire to evolve.

For many people there is quite a bit of associated with therapy. In attempts to provide a different perspective, we began a new series, “What Are Sessions like with Misha of Love Grows” that is running for the next few weeks. Today is Day 8: as Misha describes various components of what makes Love Grows the ideal place to heal, restore and renew self and your relationships.

Therapy in addition to being a safe place to heal emotional wounds, obtain tools and learn new skills; it's a great place to reconnect and explore joy. Even if there are areas where you need to heal and spaces you are healing, there are many things to celebrate along your journey. This is where I can help as well.

Love Grows Sessions with Misha is a place where I know you and/or your journey is NOT all bad or all good. I know life is an adventure, one filled with many components and joy is one of them. I am excellent at helping my clients identify the silver lining even in some of the most darkest clouds.

Are you ready to begin your sessions? I would be honored to accompany you on your journey. It’s spring, let’s do some emotional spring cleaning together!

Contact LoveGrows@MishaNGranado.com for more information and to schedule your sessions. We also offer after hour appointments (last appointment at 8pm). Additionally, weekend sessions are available.

There are many messages, both overt and covert, which imply we are not good enough. Messages pushing products to make us more or less of something. “When, Then” messages…”When you achieve X, then you will be Y.”

Where are the spaces celebrating the present version of us?

Where are the spaces recognizing that life is on the job training, not a simulation, where we have the luxury of ‘practice runs?’

Where are the spaces filled with grace, patience, encouragement, celebration, high fives, support and to serve as a witness to the various spaces where we have grown and where we are growing.

Love Grows Sessions with Misha serves as one of these sacred places where your authentic self is welcomed

and expected because I know this ‘present’ version of you is the ONLY one who has ALL of the power to make changes, heal, plan, celebrate, honor, rest, renew, nurture and love ALL parts of you and your journey. Your ‘past’ and ‘future’ selves do not have this gift or power.

For many people there is quite a bit of stigma associated with therapy. In attempts to provide a different perspective on therapy, we are beginning a new series, “What Are Sessions like with Misha of Love Grows” that will run for the next few weeks.

Day 2 of 19:

Your loved ones mean well when they give their advice; but there is often an inherent bias based on the relationship. As a result, unfortunately, it becomes difficult for these loved ones to be objective. Sometimes their perspective is skewed by their unhealed emotion wounds, beliefs, opinion/feelings about others involved in your situation, fear or perspective. Sometimes, your loved ones have unhealthy coping strategies within their own life which also results in providing unhealthy and ineffective advice to you. Additionally, some of your loved ones are NOT confidential and intentionally or unintentionally exacerbate your emotional wounds by sharing your personal, vulnerable information with others.

The same way you outsource to experts in other areas of your life: pap smears, car repairs, house repairs, dental, beautician/barber, nail techs, yard maintenance, etc. the same is applicable for your emotional wellness, well-being and healing. You are not going to your loved ones for a pap smear, nor are you trying to YouTube the “Quick 5 Steps to DIY Paps” *sigh* So why are you not as meticulous with your emotional health and healing? Why are you not willing to invest with an expert in this area of your life?

Sessions with me are an emotionally safe, objective, non-judgmental, confidential space where you are encouraged to be vulnerable and transparent.

The ultimate goal is your emotional wellness. There is no blame. I am patient and our sessions will move at your pace and comfort level; but I will encourage you to stretch a bit. I understand that healing is not a linear process, but instead it’s a journey where there may be moments where you feel as if you regressed or are stagnant. This is where I come in, to serve as your witness and reminder of where and how you are progressing. My sessions are gentle but effective.

It’s inevitable that along our journey we will encounter people who do not honor their word and there may also be times when we do not honor ours. Life is in constant motion, so change is understandable and oftentimes expected; and that is okay, normal and healthy. However, what is NOT okay or healthy (although unfortunately quite normal for some) is to not follow up in a timely manner with the others who are involved or to disappear altogether.

There is mind logic and emotional wound logic.

Mind logic knows that it someone does not honor their word, follow through, lies, manipulates, etc. that THESE are a reflection of him/her and has absolutely NOTHING to do with the recipient (you). It is a choice to engage in these low energy, life taking, emotionally wounding behaviors.

However, ‘emotional wound logic’ experiences these as triggers to the feelings of:

Rejection

Abandonment

Not good enough

Because somewhere (oftentimes in childhood) this wound was established. Perhaps it was caused by an absent parent. Logically, now as an adult you know the separation of your parents or decision for dad/mom to not be active in your life has absolutely nothing to do with you. However, as a child who may have waited for hours for that parent to pick you up and felt rejected, disappointed and/or not good enough when he/she did not show this feels familiar.

For the child who never knew their parent and longed to be ‘seen, heard, validated and loved’ this feels like the familiar rejection and abandonment.

When someone does not honor their word (i.e. stands you up, doesn’t follow through, disappears, cancels at last minute with no explanation, etc.), especially in the vulnerable romantic, heart centered space; this exacerbates the ‘not good enough/worthy’ wound.

And every disappointment (usually in the romantic arena) makes this ‘groove’ a bit deeper until it becomes a well-worn path to emotional hurt. Although you have made healing a priority and have made exceptional strides in this arena, it still stings when it happens.

At Love Grows we like to focus on your ‘power’…what do you have power over?

You cannot change or control the way this person CHOOSES to interface with the world (believe me, their behavior is NOT person specific to you; this is how he/she interfaces with the world) but YOU do have POWER over the narrative you tell yourself and the role you play in it. Sure, you can choose to be the victim, where you have no power and this happened to you. OR (my preference/recommendation) is to choose to view yourself victorious where you are abstracting the lessons, tools and wisdom from this experience.

What did you learn about yourself?

Is there anywhere you could have made different choices?

What is this experience here to teach you?

Were there any red flags your intuition felt/perceived but you over-rode? Why did you over-ride them?

Which behaviors/characteristics trigger your emotional wounds?

There is a purpose why your paths crossed with each other at this particular juncture. There are no mistakes.

Find the lesson.

Discover the wisdom.

Own your power.

…but whatever you do, do NOT allow this to dim your light or belief in goodness, abundance and love. Your ultimate power is to create in your mind and heart the vision you seek to manifest and experience on the physical plane. Do NOT give away your power to what is a temporary, minute experience in the grandness of you and your life adventure! Onward and inward in love!