Um, only sometimes some people would describe me as reactive but in all truth there is a calmness there is a internal calmness there that kind of makes my sometimes hyper nervous energy look very awkward at times. But yeah I am o.k with everything being not very calm but I try to make conversations lighthearted more then I sometimes realize. But not always.

Um if that happens I would probably be like I cant do this whaaa. (I am a whiner at some points.) then I might get over it or not it really depends on what it is e.c.t. I might be very calm at those points in time.

Ooh a king. Its a king...

I know a seven that seems pretty calm... but then her nervous-nous comes out in adorable ways xDDDD So I can understand where you're coming from. For the example, my friend doesn't like to be told no right away, she gets very energized by her ideas. Telling her no; that's like squashing her spirit.

And lol yes, you just spoke to a king today... tell all 'yo friends *ghetto voice*

An sp 7 may look like a 9 or a 5. Since your so/sx or something like that, you might actually be a social 9w1 who displays as a 7w6, in fact, I've seen several posts about how some 9w1s can look like 7w6s. This post on PerC mentions specifically that a 9w1 so/sx can seem like a 7.

They want to contribute something new and passionate to society, but feel like too much of a social nonentity to do it. They may view themselves as 4ish due to issues around uniqueness, but these issues only arise because of how aware they are that others possess a sense of self, which only reinforces the 9's sense of nothingness....Since they know they lack a strong self, they lack hope about contributing something original. They resolve the quagmire either by spinning their wheels with fruitless and endless self-examination hoping to discover something deep about themselves or by conforming to various personalities and completely checking out. They are dispassionate in general but can seem more passionate, sad, or lively because they comply to a Oneish social instinct in the back of their head telling them how they should react and what's appropriate. They know underneath how internally unaffected they are. They are taken back by the possibilities of things they could imagine happening without stirring a real reaction in them and find it disturbing to think about how they could merge into anything... They can seem 7-like in their draw to books, people, beliefs, and adventures, but they are drawn to these outlets in hopes of receiving a sense of perspective and self. They have a nose for unconscious structures and may create a new language around patterns, themes, or archetypes in myths, traditions, history, and groups. They are easy to mistype because they can seem to run fully on the 'software" or agendas of different types. They may search for approval and validation like a 3, but reject the approval once they get it as if wondering why they would be worthy of admiration or attention in the first place. It's the 'agenda' 'software' itself they are addicted to, not the result.

Thanks! What parts about you make you look away from 7 and towards 9? And vice versa. Maybe that could help.

Thank you ok.

For 7.

1. The immense amount of energy that this type is supposed to have. Without people my energy level is very very low. When around things I fear it is also very low. When around people though of course it is extremely, extremely high.

2. My mind is not very quick. I do not get much sleep allot so my mind reflects that and is not very sharp and usually tired and has to think about things for a while. Not to mention the number of times my words came out weird in conversation. :P

3. In the enneargram institute they say sevens normally process
fast learning
manual dexterity
and
manual mind and body coordination...
Can't do any of that that well...

4. The narcissism that people say 7w6 have... I really do not feel like I have that much of it.
Though I do think I have some I do not believe it too be core...

An sp 7 may look like a 9 or a 5. Since your so/sx or something like that, you might actually be a social 9w1 who displays as a 7w6, in fact, I've seen several posts about how some 9w1s can look like 7w6s. This post on PerC mentions specifically that a 9w1 so/sx can seem like a 7.

They want to contribute something new and passionate to society, but feel like too much of a social nonentity to do it. They may view themselves as 4ish due to issues around uniqueness, but these issues only arise because of how aware they are that others possess a sense of self, which only reinforces the 9's sense of nothingness....Since they know they lack a strong self, they lack hope about contributing something original. They resolve the quagmire either by spinning their wheels with fruitless and endless self-examination hoping to discover something deep about themselves or by conforming to various personalities and completely checking out. They are dispassionate in general but can seem more passionate, sad, or lively because they comply to a Oneish social instinct in the back of their head telling them how they should react and what's appropriate. They know underneath how internally unaffected they are. They are taken back by the possibilities of things they could imagine happening without stirring a real reaction in them and find it disturbing to think about how they could merge into anything... They can seem 7-like in their draw to books, people, beliefs, and adventures, but they are drawn to these outlets in hopes of receiving a sense of perspective and self. They have a nose for unconscious structures and may create a new language around patterns, themes, or archetypes in myths, traditions, history, and groups. They are easy to mistype because they can seem to run fully on the 'software" or agendas of different types. They may search for approval and validation like a 3, but reject the approval once they get it as if wondering why they would be worthy of admiration or attention in the first place. It's the 'agenda' 'software' itself they are addicted to, not the result.

I have seen that but too tell you the truth though I felt like a social non entity before I do not feel like that anymore... But looking back it seems very meish... though I think it could be a possibility. But I do not want to conform too anything... I like new perspectives but I am not looking for a new me.
I can see myself doing those thing though the whole pattern and language thing is something I would probably do. I also would be fine with admiration as long as its doesn't become annoying.

1. The immense amount of energy that this type is supposed to have. Without people my energy level is very very low. When around things I fear it is also very low. When around people though of course it is extremely, extremely high.

I'm like this too. I think it could be part of being a social 7. We're most giving of ourselves when surrounded by others. When I'm at home I'm fairly calm but even if I'm on a phone call I get a lot of energy.

4. The narcissism that people say 7w6 have... I really do not feel like I have that much of it.
Though I do think I have some I do not believe it too be core...

I think for us it shows up more as entitlement. Like a sort of indignation over not having things go our way. For example, today I went to the fridge and expected that iced tea would be there but when I opened the door all the iced tea was gone. After that I kind of had this initial reaction like "why is my life so empty?" Clearly throwing a fit over not getting something as small as an iced tea. But I totally relate to not being narcissistic. I don't think most so/sx types are really narcissistic - we tend to be more modest because we want to maintain social harmony. But we still tend to be more concerned with our own needs before others.

Trying to see what you relate to more in these descriptions could help too:

Social Seven: Sacrifice
Social Sevens are characterized by relinquishing their personal freedom and aspirations for social ideals. They have a profound sense of obligation toward others and feel that they must sacrifice themselves to fulfill what they see as their responsibilities. Their sacrifices are in the service of a future that they imagine and make plans to realize - a future that promises to give them the sense of belonging, social acceptance, and social standing that they lack. The passion of gluttony manifests here as a hunger for this sense of social ease and for all of the things that they believe will give it to them. Ichazo (per Lilly and Hart) uses the descriptor social limitations and describes this subtype as "predetermining his social activities," which highlights a different nuance of this subtype. It points the Social Seven's tendency to map and plan his social involvements to resolve his social insecurity.

Social 9: Participation
Social Nines have a drive to belong, lacking the certainty that they actually do. They lack a sense of ease in social situations, because of their sensitivity to whether they are really welcome or not. They often feel that they don't know how to become part of the group, and, rather than being themselves, they try to fit n by emulating socially acceptable forms of behavior and communication. Inevitably this leaves them feeling that they are not really making contact, and so reinforces their sense of being left out. This attempt to participate through social conventions is how the passion of laziness manifests here, and in their resulting tendency to make superficial contact with others.

I'm like this too. I think it could be part of being a social 7. We're most giving of ourselves when surrounded by others. When I'm at home I'm fairly calm but even if I'm on a phone call I get a lot of energy.

I think for us it shows up more as entitlement. Like a sort of indignation over not having things go our way. For example, today I went to the fridge and expected that iced tea would be there but when I opened the door all the iced tea was gone. After that I kind of had this initial reaction like "why is my life so empty?" Clearly throwing a fit over not getting something as small as an iced tea. But I totally relate to not being narcissistic. I don't think most so/sx types are really narcissistic - we tend to be more modest because we want to maintain social harmony. But we still tend to be more concerned with our own needs before others.

Trying to see what you relate to more in these descriptions could help too:

Social Seven: Sacrifice
Social Sevens are characterized by relinquishing their personal freedom and aspirations for social ideals. They have a profound sense of obligation toward others and feel that they must sacrifice themselves to fulfill what they see as their responsibilities. Their sacrifices are in the service of a future that they imagine and make plans to realize - a future that promises to give them the sense of belonging, social acceptance, and social standing that they lack. The passion of gluttony manifests here as a hunger for this sense of social ease and for all of the things that they believe will give it to them. Ichazo (per Lilly and Hart) uses the descriptor social limitations and describes this subtype as "predetermining his social activities," which highlights a different nuance of this subtype. It points the Social Seven's tendency to map and plan his social involvements to resolve his social insecurity.

Social 9: Participation
Social Nines have a drive to belong, lacking the certainty that they actually do. They lack a sense of ease in social situations, because of their sensitivity to whether they are really welcome or not. They often feel that they don't know how to become part of the group, and, rather than being themselves, they try to fit n by emulating socially acceptable forms of behavior and communication. Inevitably this leaves them feeling that they are not really making contact, and so reinforces their sense of being left out. This attempt to participate through social conventions is how the passion of laziness manifests here, and in their resulting tendency to make superficial contact with others.

Oh, come to think of it that is something I can see myself doing and then realize how silly I am being. :P
Though I like silliness. Hmm... I think that

Ok, ill try. Ill use text color. :P I

Social Seven: Sacrifice
Social Sevens are characterized by relinquishing their personal freedom and aspirations for social ideals. They have a profound sense of obligation toward others and feel that they must sacrifice themselves to fulfill what they see as their responsibilities. Their sacrifices are in the service of a future that they imagine and make plans to realize - a future that promises to give them the sense of belonging, social acceptance, and social standing that they lack. The passion of gluttony manifests here as a hunger for this sense of social ease and for all of the things that they believe will give it to them. Ichazo (per Lilly and Hart) uses the descriptor social limitations and describes this subtype as "predetermining his social activities," which highlights a different nuance of this subtype. It points the Social Seven's tendency to map and plan his social involvements to resolve his social insecurity.

1.Hmmm. I think I do that but very differently I do not think I should give up some of my freedom but I have a habit of comforting to some social ideals but then later on realizing that I shouldn't do that. But I do sacrifice many small things...

1. I have a habit of making weird responsibility's for myself that are lighthearted.
So I can see that.

Social 9: ParticipationSocial Nines have a drive to belong, lacking the certainty that they actually do. They lack a sense of ease in social situations, because of their sensitivity to whether they are really welcome or not. They often feel that they don't know how to become part of the group, and, rather than being themselves, they try to fit n by emulating socially acceptable forms of behavior and communication. Inevitably this leaves them feeling that they are not really making contact, and so reinforces their sense of being left out. This attempt to participate through social conventions is how the passion of laziness manifests here, and in their resulting tendency to make superficial contact with others.

1. I do have a drive do belong but I do not think I copy any behavior.
Might be 7w6 yay!

I know a seven that seems pretty calm... but then her nervous-nous comes out in adorable ways xDDDD So I can understand where you're coming from. For the example, my friend doesn't like to be told no right away, she gets very energized by her ideas. Telling her no; that's like squashing her spirit.

And lol yes, you just spoke to a king today... tell all 'yo friends *ghetto voice*

lol. My nervousness is kind of in my body but not in my mind. I am really nervous though in certain situations but not in others I do not know how to explain it without sounding paradoxical.

Oh, come to think of it that is something I can see myself doing and then realize how silly I am being. :P
Though I like silliness. Hmm... I think that

Ok, ill try. Ill use text color. :P I

Social Seven: Sacrifice
Social Sevens are characterized by relinquishing their personal freedom and aspirations for social ideals. They have a profound sense of obligation toward others and feel that they must sacrifice themselves to fulfill what they see as their responsibilities. Their sacrifices are in the service of a future that they imagine and make plans to realize - a future that promises to give them the sense of belonging, social acceptance, and social standing that they lack. The passion of gluttony manifests here as a hunger for this sense of social ease and for all of the things that they believe will give it to them. Ichazo (per Lilly and Hart) uses the descriptor social limitations and describes this subtype as "predetermining his social activities," which highlights a different nuance of this subtype. It points the Social Seven's tendency to map and plan his social involvements to resolve his social insecurity.

1.Hmmm. I think I do that but very differently I do not think I should give up some of my freedom but I have a habit of comforting to some social ideals but then later on realizing that I shouldn't do that. But I do sacrifice many small things...

1. I have a habit of making weird responsibility's for myself that are lighthearted.
So I can see that.

Social 9: ParticipationSocial Nines have a drive to belong, lacking the certainty that they actually do. They lack a sense of ease in social situations, because of their sensitivity to whether they are really welcome or not. They often feel that they don't know how to become part of the group, and, rather than being themselves, they try to fit n by emulating socially acceptable forms of behavior and communication. Inevitably this leaves them feeling that they are not really making contact, and so reinforces their sense of being left out. This attempt to participate through social conventions is how the passion of laziness manifests here, and in their resulting tendency to make superficial contact with others.

1. I do have a drive do belong but I do not think I copy any behavior.
Might be 7w6 yay!

Ooh, actually take that back about the copying behavior I do at times like something someone says in a certain way or something someone say in a way from a t.v show that I like.