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Topic : 08/27 The Bishop is Back!

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Created on : Thursday, August 21, 2008, 04:06:33 am

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Are you stuck in a rut? Learn how to get out of it now before it's too late! Dr. Phil welcomes Bishop T.D. Jakes back to the show. He's a renowned pastor and motivational speaker, and his book, Reposition Yourself, inspires people to live life without limits! First up is Theresa, who admits she’s been lying to her husband, Andy, about her spending habits for the past four years. She says their debt is about $13,000, but Andy says it’s a lot more than that. He calls his wife a liar and a thief, and he’s recently moved out. Can their marriage be saved or is it too late? See what Bishop Jakes thinks. Then, Kelly says all the men she dates end up cheating on her, and she doesn’t know how she can ever trust a man again. What is she doing wrong? And, Yvonne worries about her 23-year-old daughter, Amanda, because she says she makes poor choices in boyfriends. After a look at her dating history, does she have a right to be concerned, or should she butt out of her daughter’s life? Tell us what you think!

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accepting yourself & your self image

I would like you to speak about the issue of self-image. This belongs to your faith in God also. There is so much going on now in the world about obesity and success or failure of diets and gastric surgeries. I know I can't be alone in the feeling of failure and depression when you've had the surgery, you've tried the diets.........you are still 100lbs over what they call NORMAL. I keep thinking there must be a way to be able to accept yourself as a good person and not a "freak", failure, nobody. This part of the subject is never aproached, yet God is an accepting and forgiving God..............why aren't the specialists like Dr. Oz, or Dr. Phil, etc., willing to approach the subject that even though you are overweight, you may well be a good person, and young or old (I am 60), we still have children and grandchildren who seem to love us even though we suffer through the media as "unhealthy", and unlikeable. Some of us are healthy even though we are obese. We have people who should accept and love us the way we are.............or does God too look upon us as unacceptable. This issue brought out by the Bishop could help a lot of people. God must love us fat or thin??

Adive for the spender....

I have to admit that I was very annoyed that Dr. Phil focused on what the husband needed to change to correct the situation and did not deal enough with the wife and what she needs to do to start changing. I'm in nearly the exactly same situation, but with the gender rolls reversed. My fiance has run up major credit card bills, hiding them from me sometimes for years, leaving us in a financial mess. We both work and bring in enough to handle our needs, but the debt is like an anchor around me neck, stressing me out. We are trying to put things back together, working on getting our communication flowing again, which I admit needs work, especially since everything was revealed seven months ago. While the poor communication and unbalanced relationship roles have contributed to his spending habits, there are a lot of internal problem that are also behind them from long before I came into the picture and, while briefly mentioned at the end of the segment, I feel this element of such behavior went untouched when I really would have appreciated some advice on this subject. My fiance is under going professional guidence with this problem, but I want to understand what I can do to help him and what he can do to strengthen his resolve.

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“You’ve got to own some of this. First off, working from 5:30 in the morning to 11:00 at night is not being a husband,” Dr. Phil tells Andy. “That’s being a paycheck. So now, it basically becomes what you bring home. That’s not being a partner. She’s got to find something to fill the void because there isn't a relationship!”

How can Dr Phil blame him for his wife stealing from him and putting the family in shambles. The reason he was working was to support his family. In a perfect world, we would not have to work over time in order to support a family. What was he expected to do, take time off to make his wife feel all cozy and loved? Would that really have stopped her from shopping? According to her she's addicted to it...How about her going to the library, the gym, raising the children in order to "fill the void"? I wish someone would stand up to Dr. Phil instead of taking his annoying blame game.

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dr phil,

I am fifty-five years old and used to be in the "frame of Mind" as the woman on the web cam. I got over it.I caught my ex-husband in the bed with another woman and I superglue his p--- to his stomach and walked out. after twele years of marriage (and two sons ) I never looked back.For the next fifteen years he tried to get me back.For awhile I used men like they used women for years and that got boring, so I dated, never assuming the relationship would develop into anything but what it was. I was once told if you stop looking it will come to you. True, Who knows. I am in a realationship now (for the last ten years) and it doesn't matter wether we marry or not. I love him very muchl, but I don't like him sometimes. I am not going into details unless you want to hear them.The way I see it "one took someone elses place and he can be replaced." I am not an easy person to live with sometimes and I know it,but I don't tolerate cheating and lying or stealing. Getting caught once (by me) is all it takes and I'm gone and he knows it. i have learned to respect myself before I expect anyone else too. If the man/woman has a "wondering Soul" stay away from him. or get away from whichever fits. Just my opinion...

Arent you something

Youve got to own some of this. First off, working from 5:30 in the morning to 11:00 at night is not being a husband, Dr. Phil tells Andy. Thats being a paycheck. So now, it basically becomes what you bring home. Thats not being a partner. Shes got to find something to fill the void because there isn't a relationship!

How can Dr Phil blame him for his wife stealing from him and putting the family in shambles. The reason he was working was to support his family. In a perfect world, we would not have to work over time in order to support a family. What was he expected to do, take time off to make his wife feel all cozy and loved? Would that really have stopped her from shopping? According to her she's addicted to it...How about her going to the library, the gym, raising the children in order to "fill the void"? I wish someone would stand up to Dr. Phil instead of taking his annoying blame game.

It is truly unforunate people believe a paycheck is all that is important in a relationship. This woman has an illnes and she needs help for ,but the man is just as responsible for not being there.It is a two way street and it does take two(to qoute a few cliches) A paycheck is a good but not the only thing a family needs. So button the remarks and look at the whole picture

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08/27 The Bishop is Back!

It is truly unforunate people believe a paycheck is all that is important in a relationship. This woman has an illnes and she needs help for ,but the man is just as responsible for not being there.It is a two way street and it does take two(to qoute a few cliches) A paycheck is a good but not the only thing a family needs. So button the remarks and look at the whole picture

As for Andy, he did not start working those hours until she had them upside down in debt.

08/27 The Bishop is Back!

I have to admit that I was very annoyed that Dr. Phil focused on what the husband needed to change to correct the situation and did not deal enough with the wife and what she needs to do to start changing. I'm in nearly the exactly same situation, but with the gender rolls reversed. My fiance has run up major credit card bills, hiding them from me sometimes for years, leaving us in a financial mess. We both work and bring in enough to handle our needs, but the debt is like an anchor around me neck, stressing me out. We are trying to put things back together, working on getting our communication flowing again, which I admit needs work, especially since everything was revealed seven months ago. While the poor communication and unbalanced relationship roles have contributed to his spending habits, there are a lot of internal problem that are also behind them from long before I came into the picture and, while briefly mentioned at the end of the segment, I feel this element of such behavior went untouched when I really would have appreciated some advice on this subject. My fiance is under going professional guidence with this problem, but I want to understand what I can do to help him and what he can do to strengthen his resolve.

I think Dr Phill focused more on the husband because the husband is the head of the family and he is not around enough to do his God given duty.

I think this is what happens when husbands leave all the responsiblities to the spouse with out giving any instruction.

If the man is the head and the wife is the helpmate. Then the man is responsible for telling his spouse what and how he wants her to do in order to help. He can also take care of the bills. There is such a thing called direct deposit and pay online. He could'nt have been that busy that he could not keep track of the money that his has made.

Women have so many things to do around a home. Why should we have to take care of the bills? Especially if we are not working. And if we are working our money should be our money. Come on the man wants to be king than run your kingdom.