Friday, January 25, 2008

This is why Marriage in decline in the West...the mentality that the female is entitled to all the benefits of a male spouse to provide for her and her children...but does not even have a clue about her marital responsibilities to meet her husband's needs.

Carrie Jones hasn't had sex with her husband Hal, a City banker, for the past four years. Nor does she want to. Sex is something she can no longer summon the effort to endure - with the man she married, at least.

She admits she stays in her sexless relationship for the sake of her children, aged nine and 11, and will remain celibate until the day they are grown up and she feels able to leave. At which point, she confesses, she will probably abandon her husband and begin a sexual odyssey to find the satisfaction that eludes her.

Hopefully, her husband grows a pair and dumps her before she gets the chance to leave him.

"I've made my choice. For now I'm caught up in marriage's net, bound up with responsibilities to my children. My interest in sex with the person I was supposed to be closest to has died. I could leave but for now I'll wait because of the desolation it would wreak on my family.

Oh how admirable of you...

"I want to maintain the family unit because it makes other things possible, like doing things together with the children. But one day, when they are older and I can think about my own needs again, I may leave and start all over again.

Other things possible...like having her sorry sap wage slave of a husband pay for everything, give her everything she needs, while she feels NO sense of obligation to the man that is fulfilling his role. This is the mindset of female entitlement at it's worst, and it's THE reason why modern marriage in the west is in so much trouble.

"Like most successful long-term partnerships, our relationship wasn't built on sex or passion. At best, sex was simply fine."

But even the "fine" sex Carrie recalls was soon replaced by despondency once the couple's first child was born.

Oh yes, once the ATM and sperm donor functions were performed, her husband is now almost useless to her.

"I did the middle-class mother thing in a big way," she says. "I gave up my career, breast-fed each child for a year and spent my days in a dizzy whirl of playgroups and coffee mornings.

"I'd flipped from wife to mother, and it gave me excuses - often genuine - to cold-shoulder my husband's sexual advances. He knew I was tired from the children and was always very understanding. He's an unusually kind and tolerant man." Indeed he must be.

Nah. He's either banging prostitutes or lovers on the side...or he's a total mangina pathetically masturbating to relieve himself and hoping to one day "recapture" his wife's desire.

Certainly, once the first flush of love and lust gives way to familiarity, domesticity and parenthood, few would argue that making love is the wanton adventure it was. But Carrie goes one step further. She believes that marriage and motherhood are simply not conducive to having a sex life at all.

"Providing a stable home for children is totally incompatible with having an exciting sex life. The two things are violently at odds," she adds.

This woman is clueless. If she were married to a man with an ounce of self-respect, she would find herself a single mother post-haste. A strong sexual bond between a husband and wife is the true glue that holds a marriage together to create the kind of happy and loving home that is best to rear children in. She is obviously naive, ignorant and stupid if she thinks her children are going to grow up in a sexless marriage household and not pick up on the non-verbal communications and atmosphere, and how such dynamics are going to screw up any normal sense for her children to learn what a true, loving relationship is supposed to look like. She is consigning her children to years of a frustrated, resentful and most likely bitter husband poisoning the atmosphere in their home, while teaching them to view their future partners with contempt and utter selfishness

For when asked whether she worries that Hal may seek sexual gratification elsewhere, she says: "I'm not concerned. I don't think that would happen. It's not Hal's fault that I wish to remain celibate; it's nothing he's said or done. He's a good man and a great dad. It's just that I don't want to be intimate with him any more."

What a sad, disgusting woman.

Before the advent of "no-fault" divorce, this frigidity was called "abandonment" and a man could rightfully give this frigid bitch the boot without losing half his wealth and custody of the children.

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

...ALWAYS results in promoting or subsidizing the choices made, which in effect means you are creating INCENTIVES to PROMOTE the behavior.

Should the request made in the following article be granted, it's a virtual certainty that what we will see is MORE of the undesirable behavior, teen pregnancies, in this Denver, Colorado school district.Birth Leave Sought for GIRLS

Kayla Lewis (right), a senior at East High School (Denver, Colorado), asked school-board members last month to establish maternity leave for students who are new mothers.

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Two counselors from East High School approached the school board last month, saying the policy at their school is unfair and inconsiderate because it forces new moms to return to school the day after being discharged from the hospital or face being charged with unexcused absences.

"My initial reaction is if we are punishing girls like that, that is unacceptable," said Nicole Head, one of the counselors who brought the matter to the school board last month. "We've got to do something."

This is not "punishing" girls. This is teaching them that there are real world consequences for their behavior, and that doing things like getting pregnant before they are married and able to care for the RESPONSIBILITY of a new life is not going to be easy.

East High School administrators could not be reached for comment over the winter break, but district officials say they are reviewing the policy on absences to make it "friendlier" to new moms, said DPS spokesman Alex Sanchez.

Friendlier? FRIENDLIER?!?! It should be as UNFRIENDLY AS POSSIBLE to unwed Teen mothers! Like how about EXPULSION!

The issue really is a black and white proposition. When you subsidize unemployment -- i.e. welfare -- you get more unemployment! When you subsidize young teens by "helping" to take away the hardships that teen pregnancies cause, you will get more of it! More kids born into the vicious cycle of poverty and fatherless households.

When other teenage girls see their classmates get pregnant, and see how the system bends over backwards to make things easier for them, they learn the intuitive lesson of unintended consequences: getting pregnant while you are still in high school is not that bad...after all, everyone will help you deal with the trouble.

This is exactly the wrong approach that needs to be taken. Young girls need to see that getting pregnant while they are still in high school is a huge problem that will make their life very difficult, so they had better be careful to avoid it in the first place.

Thursday, January 3, 2008

It's no big surprise to those of us that are informed on the various issues of the MRA movement that feminist no-fault divorce laws have had a deleterious effect on marriage and society as a whole...but it is even more egregious when one looks at the effects radical feminists and the laws they have passed that have had in destroying the lives of our soldiers overseas, serving their countries.

Consider the advantages of marrying and divorcing a military man. If a woman is married to a military man for merely one day, she can collect up to half his pension if she divorces him. And there is no limitation on how many times a woman can do this.

Secondly, the best time to divorce a man is when he cannot defend himself because he is on the other side of the world. It is quite simple to seize the family, get a hefty (temporary) support order, and move on. That’s the beauty of no-fault divorce. You do what you want while the husband pays the costs and assumes the fault by default.

A man on duty overseas can be hit with a surprise divorce, lose everything he owns, and have a “temporary” child support order levied against him. There is nothing in any federal or state law or the SSCRA requiring that child support orders be based on real contemporary income.

Courts are quite likely to base the child support order on imputed civilian pay – which is commonly much higher than military pay. It is not exceptional to see military men paying over half of their pretax income as child support.

It is worse for reservists. A divorced male reservist can end up owing more in child support than he earns on his military paycheck. And there isn’t much he can do to change it.

Nice system we got here, huh? Military men, more than any other type of man in the modern Matriarchal West should avoid marriage like the plague.