Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

Is Cheating OK? Get Real People

Since when is this place a forum for people confessing to cheating and then searching for advice that what they did is okay. NO, cheating is not okay. Stop confessing and then saying you feel no remorse. If you are looking for confidants go to another site. I hurt so badly for what is going on in my life and the message I get from all (okay not all) the cheaters is oh well. They needed a good romp so lets share with everyone. Then they are annoyed when people call them names and disagree with them. I am getting past the name calling point but people who just found out about a cheating spouse are in horrible pain. They will unleash their anger. I say go to another site for telling your tales.

I HAVE TO SAY I AGREE. I KNOW THE TITLE OF THIS THREAD IS &quot;INFIDELITY&quot; AND EVENTHOUGH IT DOES NOT SPECIFY &quot;CHEATED&quot; OR &quot;CHEATED ON&quot; I REALLY WISH THERE WERE TWO DIFFERENT SITES. IT'S HARD ENOUGH TO HEAR FROM THE CHEATERS WHO ARE SORRY, BUT THOSE WHO COME HERE TO ASK FOR HELP IN GAINING THEIR LOVER AND DESTROYING THIS PERSONS FAMILY REALLY MAKE ME SICK. I AM HAPPY THAT SOME PEOPLE REALIZE THAT THEY MADE A MISTAKE AND WANT TO CHANGE BUT THOSE WHO HAVE NO REMORSE ARE REALLY HARD TO HEAR FROM.

Yes it IS very hard hearing from ranting cheaters trying to justify themselves. I can deal with the ones that are trying to make ammends to their family and understanding the pain and turmoil they have caused looking for some way to turn it all around especially long term affairs where it was NOT one stupid choice but made over and over. I stand behind my anger toward their actions.

Awe c'monnnnnn, of COURSE it is ok! I remember cheating on my fiance because I REALLY wanted RED nailpolish, but he bought me OFF RED. Well? He deserved it!
Yeah, no, cheating is not ok. I am beyond with you on your thinking.

Are you KIDDING me??!! I too am SICK of hearing from the cheaters and the &quot;poor me&quot; crap. My hubby and his slut(yes I am still in the namecalling phase, and don't see that changing) had a choice here, I didn't, and my kids didn't we had this hell unleashed on us out of nowhere with no warning, and now I am supposed to think that ANYONE other than us are the victims PLEASE??!!! Maybe if she hadn't known he was married with kids...and then was so sorry once she knew, maybe, but she knows me and my kids, even made a blanket for my son when he was born last year...how do these people even look in the mirror?

JENNYR-I ASK MYSELF THE SAME QUESTION AND I ASKED THE TRASH MY HUSBAND WAS MESSING AROUND WITH-&quot;HOW DO YOU SLEEP AT NIGHT!&quot; I COULDN'T SLEEP AFTER FINDING OUT AND I DIDN'T DESTROY ANYONES FAMILY. YOU WORDED IT SO WELL-WE HAD THIS HELL UNLEASHED ON US, AND WE NEVER SAW IT COMING BUT THESE HOMEWRECKERS (OUR SPOUSES AND THEIR TRASH) HAVE THE NERVE TO TRY AND JUSTIFY WHAT THEY DID.

I haven't seen that many threads here where the cheaters were boasting about what they did. I agree that is very wrong if they are. I think most of us do feel remorseful and want so badly to do things right from now on.

I also think that people who are cheated on forget about the fact that their spouse chose those &quot;homewreckers&quot; usually and they didn't have to do what they did and could have said no. It takes two to tango, so why be so angry at the OW/OM?

From what I have seen, the anger is equally spread. We do tend to be angrier at the OP because they have no emotional connection to us and I know in my case I was ready to kill both of them, literally. In my worst rage, I got my gun, inserted the clip, and had every intention of shooting someone, especially him if I caught him at her house that particular day. Thank the LORD, she was not home and they were not together because who knows who's jailhouse I'd be in now. My anger for her was more intense because she knew exactly what she was doing, knew exactly how long we had been married, etc. I believe to this day because of the emails they exchanged, that due to his stupidity in confiding in her, she used whatever shortcomings he presented to work in her favor. Took her a year and a half but she finally succeeded in getting him in bed. YES, he is 200% accountable. But she is no less accountable in my opinion, because I have read her words. I saw where she told him there was nothing wrong with having a friend with benefits and that no one ever had to know. Just as long as she could have a part of him in her life, that was more than enough. At the time she was sleeping with 2 other men that I know of. So believe me, when I call her a slut, that is exactly what I mean, and the nicest thing I can say about her.

Sorry I ventured off the topic. Yes, I too am tired of hearing from the cheaters when that is the very thing that has us here. But I will admit that most who have admitted to cheating have also given some very good advice of late and with the exception of a couple, seem truly sorry for what they did to their families and have no intent to do it again.

fixation your right anger just at the op would be wrong...but I have to say I hate her maybe not more but man its close because she knew he was married and kept up with the affair..and yes I know so did he...if she wouldn`t have known he was married then I would have no ill feelings for her but to call me and rub things in my face is just totally wrong...ok enough on that now the main topic..I agree that cheaters who brag and boast are pathetic and need to get a life..now for the ones who are truly sorry and remorseful then that is different

I completely agree. There is never a good reason to cheat. And for someone.. anyone to try to justify it is so wrong. My ex tried to make it out to being my fault too at first. I didnt make him do it, it made that choice all on his own. And now it is the poor me, no one believes me, and no one trusts me. Well DUH!

So for all the ones on here who are cheating.. GET OVER YOURSELVES, AND BE HONEST WITH YOUR S/O AND TELL THEM THE TRUTH. CHEATING IS WRONG NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT.

fixation: I am hurt and destroyed by what my hubby did. The reason I feel such anger and hatred toward this OW is the fact that she KNEW me, AND my children. We weren't some nameless, faceless people that she could pretend didn't exist. My hubby is now being seen for Aspergers, and my God it does explain so much of the behaviors that the initial counseling just didn't help. Should he have chosen differently you bet...no question, he at least appears right now devastated by his choice, and yes he can at least say choice and not mistake, BUT how does someone KNOWINGLY go after someone else's husband, I read all the emails she sent, he never replied to any of them and each one got worse and worse with the &quot;I love you, I want to marry you, I want to have babies with you, we could be so happy together&quot;. He did cheat with her thinking it was nice to be able to pretend to be someone else without issues and drama and someone to pat him on the back and tell him he's great and wonderful..then it got out of hand and the chase was on. This woman even AFTER we confronted her together and he told her it was wrong, can't happen, don't contact me, I love my wife, I have to do what's right for my wife and family and what will make me happy, leave me alone....she then took it upon herself 4 days later to drive to his day job and leave a note on his car, THEN emailed to make sure he got it and read it saying I do love I still think we could be good together....WHO DOES THIS?? How do you do that when his WIFE stood in front of you? He has done everything else I have asked of him so far to try to heal this, even going with me into the bar they work at and talking to his boss in front of me. Maybe because he seems truly sorry and remorseful it helps...this slut?! was in there last weekend until almost midnite sitting across from me like she had every right to be there with me. AND she had the nerve to feel like she is the victim and her response to doing this? &quot;well they were having problems&quot;. And have I mentioned this isn't the first time she's done this.....

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