Dorothy must have experienced some serious reverse culture shock, in spite of the fact that all she wanted was to leave Oz. I wonder how Auntie Em and Uncle Henry cared for her? Did they acknowledge her experience, or just try to urge her to move on with life as usual? Maybe you were like Dorothy, clicking your sparkly heels, chanting, "There's no place like home." Or maybe you were like me, kicking and hurling myself on the ground like a toddler throwing a tantrum because I want to STAY! I have heard that it is easier to return if you were truly ready to do so, but that it is much more difficult if you were thriving abroad and had to come home. Pretty logical.But this post is more for the Auntie Em's and Uncle Henry's than for us Dorothy's.One of the main aspects of re-entry is grieving, so it makes sense that you would care for your Dorothy as you would care for someone who is grieving.5 Ways to Care for your Dorothy1. ListenListen to our stories, look at our pictures and try and understand what life was like for us. Listen when we need to talk about how much we miss our old life even if it means the same conversation over and over and over again. I just kept waiting for the day my then-fiancé would roll his eyes and say, "But we already talked about this a million times!" But he never did.2. AskAsk us how we're doing--and keep asking. Just as a grieving person does not forget the person who died after a day, week, month or year, neither have we forgotten our old life. Just because we may stop talking about it doesn't mean we aren't still thinking about it. We just think you may be sick of hearing about it (as you may be). But please keep asking. When you do, this brings emotional healing and is a salve to our souls. A simple, "How are you doing with re-entry?" is a good question to ask every few weeks.3. Give us timeThere is no time limit on re-entry. Five years later, I STILL struggle from time to time. It takes much longer than you think it should, but hold on because we WILL reemerge from having our bodies in Kansas and our heads in Oz. Eventually.4. Give us graceWe are re-learning how to function in a society that has moved forward while we have been moving in a different direction. We may not be up on current events, media, technology, and pop culture, so help us out. Watch our faces carefully to see if we are following and gently enlighten us if we seem confused. We want to re-engage, we just don't know how yet.5. PrayPray for us and with us. Sometimes all we really need and want is for you to say, "Can I pray for you?" You don't have to have the magic words or even have a long prayer, but just entering God's presence together helps remind us that this struggle is temporary, but that we serve an eternal God who transcends time, culture and emotional confusion.What would you add to this list? How have your friends and family cared for you as you have negotiated the waves of re-entry?