Author: shrivastavaswapnil9

Hello Friends,
After such a long break, I am back again for my readers with a different thought – “Killing“.

I know you all must me thinking – “How Killing can be – Virtuous?”

Let me tell you my dear friends, each coin has two sides. Today I am going to turn the other side of “Killing” & believe me – you all should start Killing 🙂

“Killing can be virtuous” – if we are killing below :

Evil Person – like “Lord Ram” killed “Ravana”. We all worship “Lord Ram” instead of considering him as a culprit. Today our Defence authorities (Army, Navy and Air force) are taking care of all ill elements in our society and ensuring that we all are living peacefully. Now they are like God for us, who are saving us from “Devils of our society”.

Evil Thoughts & Wishes – Of achieving something by Hook or Crook.

Evil Habits – Of having Drugs, Junk food, not having proper sleep, taking stress of unnecessary things, spending all time with Electronic Gadgets/PDAs/Mobile Phones etc…

Evil Mindset – Of throwing Acid on girl’s face, if she rejects you.

Evil Behaviour – Every person is a combination of Good and Bad personalities. We should give a try to kill that bad part of ourselves so that serene part within us will blossom our life.

Hope you’re doing good! I am again here with some anger
this time. I have experienced one practice in India,
if you’re a girl, may be you are right but still you should
be sorry for that, in front of your : Father, Husband, Brother, Son..
In short, we should be sorry towards Male society for our
thoughts, opinions, freedom of speech etc….

One day I was sitting alone and thinking, Why my Mom is teaching all these things to me? “How all this started?”

Then I started backtracking for such thoughts, as
I am an Engineer and when engineers stuck in something
they do reverse-engineering, of the problem.

What I found will shock you all :

My mom was teaching me all that, because her mom told her that and from generations we are inheriting that females should wear properly, should behave properly,
should do house hold chores, should not open her mouth even when something wrong is happening.

In short, “Learn to Tolerate“!

Let me remind you about few instances about “Women Injustice” and “Male Dominant Society”, there are actually a lot, on which we can write a Book :

1. All our great Hindu Mythological books like Mahabharata and Bhagwad Geeta written by Ved Vyas (Male), Ramayan by Tulsi das (Male) and so on…..

Great guru’s like Vishwamitra , who taught Lord Ram and Lakshman. Dronacharya for Iklavya and so on…..

My point is, Do you remember any lady saint’s name or Lady Guru who was intelligent enough to write any such kind of Books or teach someone to make famous personalities like them?

Our Mythological books , written by “MALES”, explains : “what a women should do and what a men should do?” Males themselves decided what they are supposed to do and what a female should do. And we are happily following this from decades.

I don’t think that there were any mutual discussion happened between 2 genders to decide the responsibilities : who will do what?

2. Sati Pratha/Practice : is an obsolete Hindu funeral custom where a widow immolates herself on her husband’s pyre or commits suicide in another fashion shortly after her husband’s death.

You know who stopped this pratha : Queen Victoria (A Lady) in 1861.

No such pratha/practice for males??

3. Widow Remarriage : Widow should not think for remarriage, she should cut her hairs, should wear white saree, no ornaments, should eat food like animals, in short hell for her.

5. Till Date only 1 Female president (Pratibha Patil) that too after 60 years of Independence in 2007 and just 1 lady prime minister Indira Gandhi, till date.

Dear Girls/Ladies :

I am not against any gender, I know there are so many males who raised their voices against female Abuse, did so many things for female betterment. But now, we should understand, Where we should say No, Where we should raise our Voice, if something is happening wrong in our society. We have the right to decide for our own life.
No one else should drive our life.

After reading above examples What you think : ” Why Females are not having any strong presence in our History or even in our Present“?

Don’t have ladies that potential or Something is stopping them to Achieve ?

Don’t do things blindly, because our ancestors also did that. Now we should take the onus of creating Better Future by giving Better Environment, Better culture of Respect, Equality, Freedom of putting her thoughts, in our society, for Women.

I always follow one principle, And I would like to thank my parents for teaching me that :

Give Respect and Take Respect! Think Rationally and Behave Accordingly!

Hope you all are doing good, I am back with few Buzz Words, Now-a-Days : “Success & Stress”

Everyone is having stress, talking about it, doing exercise, yoga, meditation to get rid of it and we all happily discuss about our favorite word called “STRESS” 🙂

I have always heard “Precaution is Better than Cure“.

In case of “Stress”, we are trying to cure it, we are not taking any precautions to prevent it. Let me tell you how ?

Parent’s Fear: “My Kid will not left behind in race of

“Being – Successful”, “Being – The Best”, “Being – At Top”

And what’s wrong if we will put our kids in so many things, other kids are also doing so many activities (hobby classes : Dance, Singing, Instrument learning, Sports, Studies and so on), right?

Parents are “stressing” themselves and their Kids too instead of enjoying and satisfying with what potential their kids are having and what they are achieving. All fingers are not same, and they are not same for a reason. Then why we pressurize our kids to be same, to excel in every field, why we want, all 100/100 in each and every subject area?

Fear at Work : Everyone wants to reach at top (Dreams for CEO position till we retire).

Our Seniors always helps us in being “The Best“, avoiding mistakes at work.
Everyone strives for Excellence. Opportunities are few and candidates/Competitors
are more. Everyone wants to achieve or acquire those opportunities of “Promotion”, “Relocation”,”Maximum Hike”, “Hot technology to work for” and so on….
So we are doing more and more to achieve all above mentioned opportunities.

Those who get “Success” , find something “More” to “Achieve”.
Those who didn’t get anything, try even “More” to get it next time.

Finally : “Stress – Success Life Cycle”

Conclusion :

“Having Ambitions is good but Obsession for anything is anytime harmful”.

As a Precaution : “Enjoy what you have , be ready to learn, be ready to improve, be ready to achieve , be ready for healthy competition, to avoid your entry in “Stress – Success Life Cycle“.

First of all, I would like to wish you a very “Happy Husband’s Day“! Secondly, after reading first line don’t conclude anything, Keep Reading 🙂

I don’t love you only because we spend good time with each other, we try to understand each other’s concerns, we enjoy each other’s company, we roam together and lot many good things we do for each other.

But “I love you a lot more” because :

Even though you pretend you don’t care for me, I know you didn’t sleep until I reached home safely after office at night.

Even though you say you don’t like my presence, I know you feel bad for my absence.

Even though we were not talking to each other, But if something is bothering me, You always be with me and make me feel comfortable.

Whenever I was not well, no matter how big the fight was? I found you by my side and taking care of me.

When I drive, until I reached my destination safely, you were worried for me. You estimate the time from source to destination and called me immediately, if I haven’t called you back after reaching there.

When you hold my hand even more tightly while crossing the road or in crowd.

When you enjoy all my silly things and habits 🙂 . And being my crime partner.

“Our relationship is special not because we have everything Green in our life, but we always try to make Red things, Green soon“. 🙂

I would like to Appreciate everything you did, doing and will do for me 🙂

When I asked this question to myself, long list of wishes appears in front of me. Before I will start with my list, I want to share a unique wish, which someone asked for , and God was not able to fulfil.

One day God was dreaming and in his dreams he decided to give 1 wish to his shortlisted candidates, which he will assure that he will fulfill.

God reached out to a lady , who wake up at 5:30 and start her day with Yoga, then she prepare breakfast and lunch for his family and rush to office, after reaching there she complete all her assigned work and leave for the day.After reaching home she prepares food for her family , help her kids in completing homework, prepare herself for next day, share about her day with her husband before sleeping.

God came in her dreams and asked her for a wish which he will fulfil for sure : she took some time to decide what she should ask for?Then with very innocent and tired face she asked : Can you please extend a day from 24 hours to few more hours? It is little difficult to manage everything in just 24 hours.

God came out of his dream, and became very furious, as if it was reality he was not able to fulfil her dream.

Just a suggestion, think twice before asking for anything from a lady :p

1. One belief is that it originated in Rome when the subsonic plague was raging through Europe. One of the symptoms of the plague was coughing and sneezing,
and it is believed that Pope Gregory VII suggested saying “God bless you”
after a person sneezed in hopes that this prayer would protect them from an otherwise certain death.

2. The expression may have also originated from superstition.
Some people believe that the custom of asking for God’s blessing began
when ancient man thought that the soul was in the form of air and resided in the body’s head. A sneeze, therefore, might accidentally expel the spirit from the body
unless God blessed you and prevented this from occurring.

3. Some ancient cultures also thought that sneezing forced evil spirits out of the body
endangering others because these spirits might now enter their bodies.
The blessing was bestowed to protect both the person sneezed and others around him.

4. The heart was believed to momentarily stop during a sneeze (it doesn’t),
thus the “Bless you!” was uttered either as a supplication for life to return or
as a congratulation upon its successful restart.

Interesting Facts about sneezing :

1. Sneezes are an automatic reflex that can’t be stopped once sneezing starts.
2. Sneezes can travel at a speed of 100-150 miles per hour and the wet spray can radiate five feet.
3. People don’t sneeze when they are asleep because the nerves involved in nerve reflex are also resting.
4. Between 18 and 35% of the population sneezes when exposed to sudden bright light.
5. Some people sneeze when plucking their eyebrows because the nerve endings
in the face are irritated and then fire an impulse that reaches the nasal nerve.

Being a girl , I love to be in my Imagination World.
And according to me Imagination is the main driving factor of Innovation.

We all seem to have an instinctive sense that kids are more creative than adults.
We dont question it; we all intuitively just know its true and
we view it as a natural state for children. And it is.

When it comes to creativity in adults, our beliefs about it seem to change.
There are lots of perceptions in our ethos about creativitythat its elusive and mysterious,
that it comes in an a-ha moment that we cant predict or control for, and
that any individual is either creative or not.
Somehow, what is totally natural for every child seems unnatural when were adults.

If below things were not Imaginative, You can think what would have happened :

1. After seeing birds flying, Wright Brothers imaginative why we people cannot fly?
And he crafted his imagination in the form of “Airplane”.

2. After seeing Stars/Moon in the sky, some great people imaginative how we can reach
Them, and then NASA scientists came up with Space craft.

4. All workplace facilities like VC sessions, Wifi offices, Smart Offices,
Biometric Attendance Systems, IVR Systems, Coffee Machines, Printers, Centralized Fire Alarm System
And so many other things which are making our life easy and effective, came out from our Imaginations.

5. Last but not the least few things out from my “Imagination World” :

-> After seeing so many deaths because of Airplane Crash, Road Accidents, Train Accidents, Wars
I have imaginative, why can’t we have Life saving jacket which will save us from Fire, Water,
and other Physical Injuries. Suit like Iron Man!
-> After seeing so many Robberies, Thefts, I have imaginative why can’t we have 1 centralized camera which will
Monitor each and everything and once that camera found anything Suspicious, it should alert Security Agencies.
So may be we can save many lives from Bomb Blasts, robberies and other Crimes.
-> After doing so many things manually daily, I have imaginative to automate them.

Imagination Everywhere :

Imagination, like creativity, is not for exclusive use during the visionary idea generation phase.
It is useful throughout the innovation process. For instance, in order to turn a new product idea
into a manufactured product, someone needs to visualize and design a production process.
Someone else needs to design the components and someone needs to design packaging
that not only protects the product but, in many cases, motivates people to pick up your boxed product,
look at it and buy it. In other words, for a truly innovative product, you want great imaginations at
every step of the innovation ladder.

I am back again with some different thought,
As we are in so called “Male Dominating Society”,
I know, Many won’t like or agree with this thought.

But still I want to put this thought in front of everyone,
Because now there is need for “Change”.

From my childhood only, I have seen that “Son-in-Law”
should be treated as “Prince“.

In-Laws should treat him with respect,

They should not ask him to do any work at their place,

They should never talk to him in an inappropriate way,

They should prepare his favorite dishes during his stay at their place.

They should give him lots of gifts, sweets when he went to their place.

and They should give their best in making him Happy.

Anyone ever thought, what is the reason of giving so much “importance” to him, previously?

Previously, Son-in-Lawtake responsibility to

Take care of their daughter,

Fulfilling her basic needs,

Giving her safe environment.

He promises her that all in her good or bad, he will take care of her.

Other side of the coin :

With “Daughter-in-Law” :

We can misbehave,

We can abuse,

We can treat her as maid who should do all household chores like cleaning,
washing clothes, cooking and so on……

& No tantrums for her.

Anyone ever thought, what is the reason of giving so much “negligence” to her?

Previously/Now/In the Future, Daughter-in-Law take responsibility to

Take care of his Husband and her In-Laws,

Fulfilling basic needs of her family,

Giving her family a happy and peaceful environment.

She promises him that all in his good or bad, she will take care of him and his family.

Change which we should inculcate in our self :

Son-in-law, who generally don’t take care of his in-laws,
now-a-days, mostly wives are also earning so no burden on her husband,
but still so many tantrums for him.
But the one who take care of him and his family, nothing for her.

You all decide and let me know, how much worth this behavior is for
Son-in-law and daughter-in-law??

On this friendship day, I would like to dedicate this article to all my friends.

What is a Friend?

“Friend is someone who understands you, and able to bring a smile on your Face, no matter how bad the situation is.”

What is Friendship?

“A relation which demands nothing, but believe ingiving so much : Love, Care, Fun, Support and a lotwhich can’t be expressed in words.”

Who is your “True Friend”?

“When rest of the world walks out, the one who walks in and stands with you in every Good and Bad. Don’t loose that friend ever.”

Why everyone should have at least a Friend?

People today, in all this new world technology and thinking have lost sight of
what a true friendship is. No way do friends have to be exactly the same,
I mean come on friends do have similarities but they also have their differences.
The key to opening up the world of friendship is not just to focus on the similarities
but to accept each others faults because true friends do not judge each other.

“Friends love unconditionally”. They do have their little angry moments from time to time
but at the end of the day all is forgiven and forgotten.
Why let something that happened in the past ruin
what great friendship you could have together in the future?

You know you have a friend for life
Whenever something bad happened to you they’d be there for you,
no questions asked. When you can look at them when something is wrong and
they know it just by their eyes and all they have to do is offer a hug and you feel a thousand times better. 🙂

At last, Few lines dedicated to all my dear friends

“Thanks for always listening to me, supporting me, andencouraging me. You all are Awesome and Unforgettable.”