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A reality check about dating women older than you

Have you ever consider to get into a relationship that society finds unusual? How many times do you find older women are more attractive than your girls belong to your generation? A relationship between an older lady and younger guy no more becomes a part of porn story or mainstream movie, and are increasing day by day thanks to the rising of social media and online dating. Dating an older lady was beyond imagination just before some years though few people were used to date, however, was hard to digest for the parental generation at that time and situation was so complicated for a country like India where a girl can’t marry or date a guy who was one year younger than her. Things are changing slowly, and people in big cities are getting into such relationships, however, these are still uncommon in rural and urban areas. Though it’s still unclear how people can accept happily a relationship between a man significantly older than a girl whereas vice-versa raises our eyebrows and in worst some of from our parent’s generation give a lame excuse of sexual satisfaction, and that’s also in support of a male and forget that like men, women also have some sexual desire which society must not ignore. The discussion on feminism will be another day and now come to the point that we will mention below.

Expectation is problematic
After a series of the unsuccessful relationship, they never want to enter into a serious commitment as it is emotionally difficult however at the same time, they need some companion from a person who understands their feelings. Expectation without commitment may seem confusing, but in reality, it’s human nature that wants everything without losing anything.
It’s difficult for them as we live in a society where comfort never comes as per our expectation because here especially in Indian society everything comes after marriage. And thinking about marriage after a broken relationship is not easy for a woman who already at the stage of early 40. Similarly, guys in their early twenties-thirties don’t want to take much burden especially when the matter is about the relationship. Even though it is hard for society to digest but sometimes expectation without commitment come close, and a relationship between an older woman and younger guy happen. And our society starts judging them for no reason.

Age is a number as well as issue
Some people may become older than you but act like your generation people or vice versa. Some guys are mature than their counterpart age people, and whatever the reason be it hormonal or any other reason, they have more interest in women older than them. Though sometimes the gap let them feel uncomfortable especially in a social gathering where people always raise eyebrows however it doesn’t bother such type of couple as maturity is more important for them than anything. Sometimes people don’t believe that this will last long for some months if not years by quoting that it happens but don’t take it seriously as there is no guarantee about future. It is hard to believe that people can accept guy dating girl significantly younger than him but unable to digest when the opposite happens, and at the same time they are talking about gender neutrality and equal rights! Even they are comfortable with their respective age gap but continuing it with the public appearance becomes difficult for them day by day and either they force to break up or keep it secret forever.

It may not last
The problem is not just with society sometimes it comes between them for multiple reasons from adjusting with outsiders as well as family members and most importantly between them. There are lots of celebrity couples who have a significant age gap still living together happily but at the same time, some already parted away or soon to be. Couple having less age gap tends to live together for more times than the large age gap, and this may be due to the lack of adjustment for more times. It may look fun at initial times but as time passes chances of staying together becomes less either due to the societal or personal issue.