She Has A Long-Term Boyfriend

How Do You Approach A Woman With A Boyfriend?

I’m sure Lila is annoyed with her boyfriend, but not quite enough to get rid of him, right, Tirell? What does that tell you? Nevertheless, you shouldn’t have avoided conversations about this other guy. You should have told Lila to give him another chance. “Stay with this guy. You’ve been with him for eight long years, and he sounds like a great fellow.” That sort of thing. The point is to use reverse psychology on her. But, again, since you don’t have my book, you don’t have a plan of attack.

When you say that you lost contact with Lila for a few months, it means that neither of you dug each other very much in the first place. To you Psych majors, you don’t just suddenly “lose contact” with a girl. Tirell, you don’t do what you and Lila were doing together, then all of a sudden just disappear. If two people really like each other, they don’t lose contact for months on end. So this thing is over.

not interested in you. That’s what you don’t get here, dude. But, hey, when she told you that the two of you could have drinks when you move to her city, maybe she’ll be like the college coeds you had no problem scoring with.

You say you want to get things going again with Lila. “Again” is the problem here. For two months, this babe disappeared and didn’t care enough to be in touch with you at all. She probably didn’t give you a second thought because she was involved with her boyfriend. So what chance do you really think this thing has of taking off now?

Tirell, you already put yourself into the friend zone by pursuing Lila too desperately and quickly. Heck, just by going after her when she has a boyfriend means you went directly into the friend zone. And if she started dating her boyfriend at age 14, it means he has a lock on her and you have no chance whatsoever. You might want to make Lila yours, but nowhere in your letter do you mention how crazy in love with you she is. And you’d know from reading my book that the most important factor in

any relationship is the woman's interest level. So that means it’s over.

How can you raise Lila’s level of attraction? Start by asking her if she’s gotten rid of her boyfriend when you get together for drinks. Tell her that when she does, you’d be glad to see her. Then give her your phone number, walk away and don’t have any contact with her whatsoever.

Until her boyfriend is gone, you’re just spinning your wheels.

My friend, you should be chasing women who are available. Lila is not available. Nor do you know how much she digs you. So, like my cousin General Love says, “You’re really in a bad, bad position here, soldier.”Lila might seem worth the effort to you, but you’re not worth the effort to her.

Remember, guys: If she has a boyfriend, you’re wasting your time.

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