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How would you react? UPDATE!

Update - I went out yesterday for two parties, one with little Scot and one all on my own. I then went shopping for sneakers. I was hoping to give my husband a chance alone with the kids to help him understand what its like to take care of them. Of course, I have them a lot longer than just a few hours, but still to give him an idea. What does he do... has his mom take them... so much for that...lol.

I am a SAHM with three children. I have a 7 year old with Autism (high-functioning), a 5 year old with Autism/non-verbal, and a 4 year old. My 7 and 5 year old are in school.

When my 5 year old is home he is very destructive in the house. To keep things clean, I would have to follow him around the house and ignore all else. It is very hard to keep up with housework and all his needs.

My husband is on me a lot about cleaning. He told me that I am horrible at being a housewife and don't contribute anything to our home. I try my best to keep up with things. He works long hours of shiftwork. I am often alone with the kids.

You need to get him to walk in your shoes a while! He obviously has no idea what's involved in all you do! Any three kids, autism or not, can wreck a house in no time flat and it's hard to keep anything totally clean all the time with kinds!

Just don't do anything for part of the day. He'll see the difference. And if he still makes a stink about say "oh well, have a good evening" take the car keys and leave for a few hours. He should get the idea.

My kids are the same way, my daughter has profound autism and my son is ADHD. My daughter is easier to handle than my son, he is a 5 year old tornado lol. It takes a lot of work and get very stressful. Have you asked your husband to help out more? Explain to him that caring for special needs children is a full time, endless and sometimes thank less job and that you would appreciate more support from him.
I also agree with the other ladies, let him walk a mile in your shoes. If he survives (men are so weak lol) maybe his out look will have improved. Good luck and chin up.