that is so sad to say we will always be alone and leave alone. do you not believe that it is possible to reach such a deep level of love that you cease to be just you and become part and one with the other person?

Oh no, I admit that it's possible to find like minded individuals Ms. Altie, but to the extent which most of us truly desire, I think it's unlikely. And it really narrows your possibilities. Anyway, there are also essential differences between male and female minds.

So I say just settle with a person you're able to get along with. Admire them for being quirky, nerdy and intellectual like you (not like YOU, just an example), even though they might see themselves as tough jocks who aren't interested in much (bad example, I know. Couldn't think of anything off hand). As long as you both see there being a core compatibility...

"such a deep level of love that you cease to be just you and become part and one with the other person"- That's actually a pretty deep line though, I like it. "Cease being you"... I don't know if that's really possible though. You're you. They're them. You just happen to know each other and have had kids with each other and live in the same house. Still, you don't REALLY 'know' them...

I was just introduced to the work of this comedian, and I agree that his sentiments at the beginning of this video do exist, to a greater or lesser extent, with any two people married to each other...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcnXpOygKGI&feature=related

In regards to dying alone though, i was inspired partially from a scene from the film "Donnie Darko", in which the story's protagonist tells of his dog going under the patio to "be alone" when it died, and also partially from the series finale of "Lost", in which it turns out that the alternate reality scenes are really a joint hallucination they all had at the hour of their deaths, to imagine they were reunited with their loved ones, even though they did in fact die lonely deaths...

Altie, no I don't think we find someone who we can ever really become one person with. There are those moments but that's all they are, they aren't a lifestyle. But still, that does NOT mean we must be alone. You can have people, even just friends, not lovers, around you who love and value and fill your soul just the same.

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I'm a Talmudist who has emerged from the Beit Midrash into the world with a vision that filters my reality through a Theological prism, though on the other hand I feel our religion has been corrupted by adding too much to it. I therefore attempt to reevaluate life and Judaism using thinkers in the spirit of Rational Judaism as my guide, while sometimes digressing about my station in life.
...I also talk about shidduchim sometimes!