It was cool when you saw each other during the week and went out on Friday nights. It was cool when you spent the night at their place or vice versa; there was still space during the week. You didn’t have to worry about taking a long shower or stacking dirty dishes in the kitchen sink, it was just you with nobody to tell you otherwise. You could marathon Game of Thrones or Gossip Girl all freaking day but the game changes when you and your significant other live together.

Everybody’s a Little Sloppy

“Are you going to do the dishes?” “Yeah!” “When?” “I’m letting them soak!” “They’ve been soaking all day!” Everybody’s kind of sloppy, some more than others. They can’t help it, they don’t leave the dishes in the sink just to get on your nerves. They forgot to take the trash out, really! While you’re blaming each other, just remember why you two are living together in the first place; everybody has their quirks and part of living together is figuring out how to accept those quirks.

More Romance, More Fun

Living together means more opportunity for romance and intimacy. Remember that scene from The Curious Case of Benjamin Button? Where the two central characters practically live on that little mattress, yeah, you can have that too! To put it plainly, they had lots of sex, lots.

It’s not all about the bedroom though, living together also means more chances to hang out or go out. You can even throw parties at your shared apartment or “pad” and won’t have to worry about driving your drunk half home because they’ll already be there. Win-win!

Too Close for Comfort

“Babe, I’m kind of tired right now.” Oh God, why? Why?! Well, deal with it, the way you deal with them farting under the covers and then they don’t even lift the sheets to let the smell out! We’re all human, everybody has to eliminate bodily waste every now and then, whether it be finger-nail clippings, facial hair, and God pubic hair on the toilet seat! It’s cool, just breathe, it’s normal. Living together means sharing all the good and the bad that comes with a human being, which includes sharing the bathroom. Yeah, we know, his socks stink, but your dirty-clothes smellin’ a little funky too you-know-whatta-mean? Mmmhmm!

Finances

Living together means paying the rent and other bills together. You can split the costs or have each person pay a certain bill, whatever. It’s kind of cool since you don’t have to pay as much because you have somebody to help with managing the books.

But what if they don’t have a job? Well, that kind of sucks doesn’t it? They’re taking long hot showers, eating your left over Super Burrito and they don’t even pay for the internet! Dude, come on, shell out greenbacks for the internet, at least!

What if you break up?

Uh, um, it’ll be awkward. Perhaps this is the worst that can happen when living with a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you guys do break things off, there’s going to be a period of time where things will feel out of sync. Who sleeps on the couch? Are you going to stay with a friend? Living with your boyfriend or girlfriend and then breaking up makes things a little weird and hopefully it won’t have to come to that. If it does, good luck, my friends.

Do you live with your boyfriend or girlfriend? What’s the good, the bad and ugly for your specific situation? Let us know in the comments below! (You can comment anonymously too, so don’t worry if they find out what you said!)

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my husband used to invite others to live with us when we first got together, a cowboy he met at the bar, telling him, “my ol’ lady will wash your clothes, and cook for you, and you don’t have to pay any bills”, Really?!! surprise to me…not a surprise was the cowboy wanting to kiss me, so I asked my husband (knowing he wouldn’t like that) if it was ok, and he asked the cowboy why he said that and the cowboy said ” what do you think I would think, you pick me up from a bar, you have her do things for me, and I don’t have to pay bills or work, yeah, I want her to kiss me”, he was told to leave, and on his way out he told me “you can go with me if you want to, I will take care of you and I do have a job and a home”, I thanked him and said no and then my husband brought home a homeless blind guy from the salvation army,(he said he wanted to help others, meanwhile, I was the one paying the bills and he had no job), and he told the blind guy he would look better if he had a haircut, the guy agreed, and a shave, and I was suppose to give it to him, so as I stand in front of him, about to cut his hair, my husband said “stop looking at my wife’s breast!” he said “well she’s right there”, and my husband said “I thought you said you were blind!”, he said “I am, but I’m not THAT Blind”, so he went back to the salvation army, then he brings home a black guy and says “you can stay here and not pay anything and she’ll wash your clothes and cook for you”,(meanwhile, I’m telling my husband “why are you bringing all these guys to my house and having me do things for them and pay all the bills? are you stupid!!, I don’t want you doing that anymore, I cant afford an extra bill!!), and the guy was a very decent looking man, with a very nice expensive suit on, and he had a wallet full of money, and he drove a nice Cadillac , and he called me aside and said “I’m not going to stay here, but I’m tired tonight, do you mind if I just sleep on your couch, and I wont touch anything, and I’ll leave in the morning”, I said “yeah, that’s alright”, he said “I have lots of money, and I could pay a hooker 300.00 an hour all night long, so I don’t need help, I have a very nice house and I’m just a little tired right now, I’ll leave in the morning, but you need to tell him to Stop putting Your life in danger, and to grow up, and to STOP BRINGING GUYS INTO YOUR HOME, guys will think the worse about him, and you and they will do you wrong. Thank you for letting me stay”, and I thanked him and he did as he said, he left early in the morning, and I told my husband to stop, but he had to help one more boy who was about 18, and he was arguing with his mom and he stayed with us a day, and when he left he stole the clothes I just bought my husband, and that made him stop “helping” guys. Moral of the story….USE YOUR HEAD…DONT LET OTHERS MAKE YOU DO THINGS YOU KNOW IS WRONG, AND YOU DONT FEEL LIKE DOING….Your spouse is suppose to take care of you, not make you take care of the world when they keep making things harder and worse on you. I put my foot down, about a month later, and I let him know, the next guy he brought home, would have to take him somewhere else with him.

I am a sophomore college student and transferred to a new institution this past August. In the beginning weeks of school I broke off my long distance relationship to focus on myself and my studies. In October, I met my now boyfriend and we began our relationship in December over our winter break. At the close of our winter break asked me to stay with him at his apartment for a week and I just never left. We’ve had our disputes, but I have enjoyed learning all his little quirks and mannerisms. I will say in the beginning I thought it wouldn’t work (He never picks up his socks! Lol) but you learn to move past those small things. Living with someone takes a lot of work, especially in college with so many other factors taking up a lot of time, but if the relationship is built on trust and friendship and both partners actively work to keep the relationship healthy then it is possible to happily live with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

Me and my boyfriend have been living together for about four months, we of course don’t have our own house yet, I’m 17 & he is 19. My parents are okay with it!
But anyways, there are some good things and some bad things that come out of living with each other.
Pro’s:
- You get to live that “fantasy” of going to sleep and waking up in your other half arms, (something your parents won’t let you do as a young age because they don’t want grand kids.)
- You get to go out when ever and where ever you want to go with each other.
- The sex is better, you don’t have to worry about anyone hearing, or walking in on y’all. It’s very peaceful.
- You can explore your sexual desires throughout the house. Instead of just missionary on the floor, or your bed, real quite so your parents don’t hear you, you’ll get to do it doggy style in the shower, or on the couch, or anywhere you want to because that’s YOUR house.
Con’s:
- Y’all may spend to much time with each other, and argue a lot more.
- Separation anxiety might occur if one of you got have to go out of town.
- Jealousy is a big problem, you go out in public, or out with your friends, you’re so used to him showing you all the attention at home, that when he starts to turn his attention on his friends, you feel left out, and get mad for no reason.. ( It’s a girl thing)
- Nasty, guy messes. If you found a guy that knows how to clean up after himself on everything he messes up, KEEP HIM. Lock him away in the cellar and never let him go! haha.
- Bodily odors, and problems. Everybody has them, so why be embarrassed? Don’t be. Even though it is nasty, just remember, you guys are only human. And it’s natural.

Im currently 18 years old and I live with my boyfriend. We’ve been living together for 9 months. All I can say is its very interesting. Some days its great and others its horrible. The fact that some men cannot clean up after themselves is baffling. The woman takes on a kind of motherly role. Cooking, cleaning, making sure he remembers to do things he’s supposed to. Its crazy. But I absolutely love it.