Why She Fakes It
faking orgasms

What You Need To Know
Some women fake orgasms because they're afraid of losing control.
Fears of pregnancy and STDs lead some women to fake it.
The things that made your ex climax might not work for your new girlfriend.
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Between the G-spot, the clitoris, vibrators, fingers, and everything else that’s going on, women often don’t even know how to make themselves reach orgasm."

You think she’s happy. She sounds pleased. She’s making all the right noises. She’s moaning and breathing heavy. She came… you think. Or did she? She could very well be faking it. To men who are able to come quickly and easily with a few thrusts, faking it seems alien. Why pretend? Why not just come? Well, it’s not always that easy. The reasons women fake it are often as varied as women themselves.
She wants to stroke his ego
A lot of women simply don’t want to hear a man ask them why they didn’t come. The reality is, for a lot of women, sometimes it’s not that easy to come, and they don’t come every time. This isn’t to say a woman isn’t enjoying sex. She very well may be enjoying everything, but an orgasm isn’t a requisite for taking delight in having sex. Sometimes she needs a mind-blowing orgasm and other times she just wants to be intimate. So rather than have a man keep pounding at them until she’s chafing, it’s just easier to pretend.
She is too inhibited and holds a fear of losing control
If she’s the type that has the perfect hair, the perfect job and the perfect wardrobe, she may well be afraid of losing control by allowing herself to orgasm. Dr. Ava Cadell, sex therapist and author of the upcoming book Sexy Little Book of Oral Pleasure, says “a lot of women don’t want to be seen as out of control because they think they’ll look ugly or weak or vulnerable.” A woman who is afraid of looking messy, of squirting, having you see her “O” face, looking fat, or otherwise doing something “embarrassing” may be unable to let go enough to let herself climax.
Fear of pregnancy / STDs
If she’s had a past abortion or simply is worried about contracting a disease, those concerns could be playing in the back of her mind while she’s having sex with you. The result is she’s unable to focus on the task at hand which is enjoying the moment with you. A woman in this situation is going to need time and a very nurturing safe environment if she’s going to feel relaxed enough to allow herself to let go and enjoy sex without fear. And of course, make sure you always wrap it up! If she knows you take your sexual health seriously, she’ll likely feel more comfortable.
She doesn’t know how to get off
Unlike men who have easy access to their penis all the time, women are left sometimes equally as dumbfounded as men when it comes to the female body. Men grow up masturbating at a young age. However, many women often don’t learn about masturbation until their well into their 20s, and even then it’s a complicated situation. Between the G-spot, the clitoris, vibrators, fingers, and everything else that’s going on, women often don’t even know how to make themselves reach orgasm, much less tell someone else how to do it.

More reasons why she fakes it after the jump...

For women, having an orgasm has as much to do with physicality as it does with psychology."

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She feels guilty about sex
On the other hand, even if a woman knows what gets her off she may not know how to share it, or may be uncomfortable asking for it. Often women, (and men), are embarrassed to talk about their own fantasies for fear of being perceived as weird, easy, nympho-like or perverted. Depending on how she was raised, her guilt could be really extreme so she’s uptight about sex overall or just uptight about receiving and experiencing pleasure.
She’s experiencing a lack of stimulation
Stimulation can be mental, physical, emotional, or sexual, according to Dr. Cadell. If you’re playing her clitoris like Mozart plays the piano, she still may not get off if she’s just not into you. If she’s not feeling it, the only way for her to finish the job is to either fantasise about someone else or fake it. On the other hand, some guys just don’t know what they’re doing. Or they think what they’re doing will work because it made the last woman see God. If only it were that simple. Every woman is different, so what got your ex off is not necessarily going to get your current partner off.
She wants to get sex over with
Between work, kids and/or maintaining a household, many women are just tired and lacking in time. Even though society is becoming increasingly more equal, women still shoulder most of the burden in running a home and caring for others, leaving very little time to care for themselves. Or she may just be pissed off at you or tired or hungry. Dr. Caldell says, “I suggest some kind of escape where you can enter a world of fantasy rather than reality. Believe it or not, watching soft or hardcore porn is therapeutic and sexually arousing to women after a long arduous day too.”
what to do about her faking it
So what can you do to ensure her full enjoyment? First off, be attentive to what gives her pleasure. If you’re not sure, ask! Women are not robots, so don’t assume that just because you watched Jenna Jameson get off in a porno the same moves will work on her. If she’s feeling stressed out or super busy, help lighten the load by offering to cook dinner or clean up. For women, having an orgasm has as much to do with physicality as it does with psychology. Let her know that she is gorgeous and you love the way she looks no matter what and she’s more likely to feel uninhibited. No matter what, do not fall into the trap of thinking you know it all. As sexpert and author of Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming Lou Paget says, “Please don't tell a woman all your other girlfriends orgasmed that way. She knows they didn't.”

There is so many reason why women fake it. You could never generalize. Learn the difference. Most women will have a involuntary spasms somewhere. I lot of women will have them on their lower back. Those are almost impossible to fake. then look to see when she fakes it and what the situation is. Some fake it cause they are dry and getting sore and what to end the loving making with out making their partner feel inadquate.

I figured women just faked it bc in general they hhave big hearts and don't wanna make you feel like a jackass. Not to your face in the heat of the moment anyway. Everyone wants to know their partner is having a good time. Knowing that they are can be very encouraging and it may very well give you the confidence/whatever-the-fuck to actually make the situation mutually enjoyable. Men act tough but I'd be willing to guess more than 75% of the time if a woman told a dude, "This isn't really working for me," the man will get all butthurt ab it and then everyone loses.