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In an interview with Andrew F. of The New Gay, Knepper says the angry response to his column has "knocked some of the elitism out of me." He elaborates:

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Almost unanimously from racial minorities I've received support. Racial minorities are used to living in a world with risks. They're more used to reading signals when partaking in risky behaviors. These wealthy, upper-class white suburbanites have never had any problems in their lives and have never bothered to read any philosophy, literature, history, or psychology, and so they don't even have the intellectual background to understand it.

He's laying on the stereotypes pretty thick here, perhaps intentionally — people of color lead lives of danger, white people have no problems — but what's really interesting is when his generalizations nearly cancel each other out. He says the Democratic Party is often anti-gay, and explains:

Honestly, it's because they're beholden to the cultural interests of racial minorities which are overwhelmingly anti-gay. That's the elephant in the room that nobody wants to talk about. Black people voted against proposition eight 85 to 15. No one wants to talk about this. The Democrats can't make a move on this because they're going to piss off a third of their constituency. It's terrible, the Democrats really can't make moves on anything because they have such heterogeneous constituencies, all with clashing interests and linked together only by their sense of victimhood. If they lose that connection, they lose the entire coalition. And that's why nothing ever gets done, not only for blacks or Hispanics but for gays.

Knepper isn't the first to make this point about Prop. 8, but he may be the first to praise minorities for their attitudes on date rape while lambasting them for their homophobia. I guess what Knepper is saying here is that minority readers have been supportive of his column but that minorities in general aren't supportive of his lifestyle, but the stereotypes he has to invoke to make both points (cf. "sense of victimhood") are pretty staggering. I could go on and on about the nonsense straw feminists Knepper sets up, about his racial assumptions, and about his continued claims that he and only he knows what is hot in sex. Instead, I'd rather move the conversation forward by quoting from Men Can Stop Rape's press release on Knepper's original column. After noting that "Rape is not an 'incoherent concept' for the estimated one in four college women who will be raped by classmates, boyfriends, friends, or dorm-mates during their college career," the organization lists "five things men can do to prevent date rape. Note that none have anything to do with girls drinking less or wearing modest clothing:

A week ago, Dan Savage posted a now-invisible (but helpfully-cached) rant about how difficult it…
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1. Does kissing mean that a person wants to have sex? How do you know? When a situation is unclear, asking before you act will ensure safe and healthy sex for everyone.
2. Accept when consent is withdrawn. Even after a person has given their consent, that person can withdraw it at any time. We all deserve the right to change our minds.
3. If a person is drunk or high and can't give consent, back off and wait until you both are sober.
4. You've heard of designated drivers. Now use the same principle to prevent rape. At a party, designate someone among your group of friends to keep an eye on a guy that might be behaving in ways that could lead to sexual violence.
5. You probably will never see a rape in progress, but you will hear attitudes and see behaviors that degrade women and promote a culture of violence. When your friend tells a rape joke, let him know it's not funny.

I'd like to add: if your friend, like Knepper, claims that women who go to parties are to blame for their own rape, explain why he (or she) is wrong.