A Weekly Conversation with the Voice

April 2016

04/22/2016

Do share help with one another to experience one of the richest forms of nourishment. Helping nourishes the soul — both the expression (giving) and the experience (receiving). Far more than giving advice, helping is the most fundamental exchange between people. Do share help. The key word is “share” for help is a true act of sharing between people. Ponder this idea - there is a way of being with one another that has so many possibilities; and is one of the most natural, richest, nourishing forms of sharing — denied far too often.

Denial of Help begins with the idea that to ask for help is a weakness. Leaders teach themselves that they must know all the answers and that to ask for help is a sign of weakness, not so. Popular myths of your communities say women should be super and handle everything, not so. Men are taught strength flows from certainty, not so. Someone will think less of me, if I have to ask for help, I might be embarrassed to let people know about my situation, not so. In the absence of asking for help pretending rises.

Let us agree to erase the word “need or needy” from our conversation about helping and replace it with nourishment. When my “living” benefits from nourishment — ask for help. Could you benefit from more nourishment? Would it be helpful to feel connected with others? Could you breathe deeper realizing you do not have to do “all of this” by yourself.

By not asking for help, you deny the people and the community around you the opportunity to share themselves and to express their abilities. Helping is like singing and dancing, why deny someone the invitation and opportunity to sing and dance, to express whom they really are? When people share their gifts and offer help it truly nourishes their soul. The real gift you can offer in a relationship is to ask for help!

There is another form of Denial of Help – not hearing the prayers of the community. Within each and every community there are prayers or if you like requests for help. One does not have to travel far to touch these prayers. Why do so many prayers go unanswered? This is unclear and worth pondering.

There is a third form of Denial of Help – expressed in form of a unique community created by the larger community called prisons. Why do you not send your best helpers and healers to your prisons? This is a great surprise? Please ponder this idea – In your current period of growth, in these daily moments, you create and maintain communities, which express themselves in this manner – there is much good will and there is also harm. You birthe within your communities those who heal and those who harm by their actions; those who reap and those who sow; those who are named more-than; those who are named less-than; those who help and those who harm. There is no judgment applied, simply noticing. This is the state of the moment in which you live, your evolution or growth — tremendous possibility coexists with imbalance. The imbalances create oases of resources and also islands of distress and disturbances named prisons. So why is it that you do not send you best helpers and healers to your prisons?Here the concentration of prayers is deep and wide. Why is there denial of help?

Consider, how are you communities planned? This means all forms of communities schools, places of work, places of practice, places of wisdom traditions, any form in which human beings organize to be together. Further ask, Are your communities planned for help? For example, in the community called schools, where your children gather — what do the students learn more about — competition or helping? Where are the honors offered – to those who compete and win, or to those students who genuinely help other students?

Helping is the pathway to compassion.Which comes first helping or compassion? What a delicious circle! Help others in order to experience compassion or let your compassion lead you to helping? Does competition ever lead to compassion? Remember the three C’s for they will serve you well, anytime they surround you – Connection, Compassion and Collaboration. Each of these C’s finds a root in helping.

Whatever your current definition of help – try expanding it, for there are so many forms that express the core qualities of helping. Notice how many flowers there are across the planet, surely that is equal to the forms of helping. The help wants to flow, trust the flow of water and you will find a way.

The seasons make their way each year in a cycle. The Denial of Help has been a long cold winter but it too will thaw in the face of the help of a teacher, a parent, a friend, a stranger, a brother, sister, cousin, a neighbor, a child, a young girl, a grandmother. The children can help the planet if you let them. Take this mantra forward into every day. The children can help the planet if you let them.

Helping is far more than just an act. Helping is the well-spring of compassion and the nourishment of the soul.

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04/17/2016

Today, we add two principles of moreness and continued reflections on how to work with all the principles.

Consider a practice of approaching your experiences with this simple mantra or reflection – “there is always more.” This simple phrase consistently applied can transform judgment into curiosity and set a path to practice of any of the capacities of being human. (See Part 1)

The Six Principles of Moreness - Plus Two

There is always more to the situation than I understand.

There is always more that I can learn.

There is always more connection to be experienced.

There is always more to this person than I see.

There are always more possibilities present in the field to be revealed

When you offer your thoughts, feelings, blessings, gifts without attachment more will present itself.

There is always more nourishment and healing needed in the relationships around you.[1]

More help. There is always more help to be given. There is always help to be asked for. Listen for the prayers.

A seventh doorway into the field of moreness says — there is always more nourishment and healing needed in the relationships around you.

People’s voices are parched. With a parched voice it is difficult to sing your song. This refers to the song of gifts. Each and every person has there own gifts. Remember gifts are made for sharing. The voice of a community is parched because its members do not speak the truth, do not reveal themselves, and do not share their gifts. You can be sure that among the people with whom you cross paths there is a need for nourishment. Test this out, engage in small acts of kindness, see people more for there is always more to people than is revealed. Invite them to be themselves and listen to them. Repeat over and over again acts of kindness and an invitation to be themselves followed by listening.

The eight doorway into the field of moreness says — More help. There is always more help to be given. There is always help to be asked for. Listen for the prayers.

Just as there is a thirst for more nourishment, there is a need for me help. Remember help is always offered, never pushed, always offered in-learning. Bring out the person’s wisdom first not you own. Listen and listen some more. All the doorways of moreness open before the traveller who listens well and holds people with appreciation, respect and wholeness.

What further ideas would you like to offer about moreness?

Explore soreness, be playful and intentional. The application of moreness to their lives. Originally in early conversations the discussion focused on sameness, oneness and commonness and now let’s add moreness.

Moreness is grounded in service. The two most common forms of service are helping someone develop their voice and discover their gifts. This is a wonderful place to start with service.

Another way to understand moreness is through attraction. What calls to you? Now, people compete to give you the answer to this question. They make a lot of noise, so much that it is hard to reflect and ponder. They say, “Pick me!” “Pick me!!!” Or, “Pick me, I have the best answer of what you should be attracted to!” The competition is fierce! Tribes often have lines (rules) determining what you should be attracted to – in order to be a good tribe member. Sometimes it can take a bit of clearing, followed by stillness to sense what you are naturally attracted to; versus what you have been told to be attracted to.

It is not an easy path for those who are standing in the middle of less to hear a message about more. It can seem frivolous to say there is always more to someone who is hungry, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. In generosity practice what you can. If the doorways of moreness resonate with your then please do come and visit. Do not feel compelled to tell others to be different and accept moreness as a principle. Moreness, the practice of moreness is subtle like the short spring rains that bring forward the smell of the earth.

When you find yourself stuck in complex relationships or sticky, messy, situations try saying some of the principles of moreness out loud. Usually when there is complexity, stickiness, messiness, moreness the experience of the person is narrowed and limited by lines — lines of belief, lines of rules, lines of protection, lines of high truth – which inherently whisper or shout – there is less not more. The field is narrowed. So in a messy situation say – * there is more to this situation that I experience, * there is more to this person than I experience, * there are more possibilities present than I can see and experience right now, * there is more that I can learn.

Understand also that the last three doors reveal opportunities all relate to the transformation possible with offering. Offer more of yourself without attachment, Offer nourishment, Offer help. When you offer more is possible.

Lastly consider there is a sweetness in two of the doorways that is wonderful to experience. There is always more to the person than I can see – and – there is always more nourishment and healing needed. Try these first in your experiments and practice for they are particularly sweet and offer delightful sur

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04/04/2016

Helping is often connected to wisdom. The use and application of wisdom seems to be the answer. It often seems an easier road to give advice or wisdom, telling someone what he or she should do, especially if they are in pain.

Sometimes it is very satisfying to share my wisdom. I may have discovered ideas, practices that can truly make a difference for someone.

Yes of course there is room for you to share your wisdom anytime you want. Just understand that this is sharing your wisdom and not helping. You are doing something else other than helping. The most powerful form of helping is when someone discovers their own wisdom or when a person is in-learning holding a question which leads them to information that they make into wisdom!

But sometimes people want my wisdom, they want to be told what to do, and I believe I have something to share that will make a difference.

Hmm, well sometimes people want to eat ice cream for breakfast, lunch and dinner, while this might taste good, it often leads to an upset stomach and is not nourishing. A suggestion is to examine your interest, intention and invitation … For example, in sharing wisdom your stated intention may be to help, yet you may also have other intentions?

Do you agree or disagree with the “Principles of Wisdom”? (A principle is an offering with passion – a way of calling attention to not a way of determining) If you disagree with those below, what are your principles and beliefs about wisdom creation and sharing:

Every living system has its own wisdom – person, relationship, family, community, Gaia.

Bring forward the wisdom of the system first in order to reveal learning, discovery, nourishment and change that lasts.

Wisdom is never given. Each person determines what is wise for them; through being in-learning they make their own wisdom.

Do not pour your wisdom into children, rather offer your learnings do not declare them wise, offer to them powerful questions that lead to wonderful learning journeys.

There is no universal wisdom! Do not confuse that many may have decided that something is wise. This is called common wisdom of the community.

No one can tell another what to do. Each of you, all of humankind are creators.

Common wisdom should not be imposed. Communities with a rich, open invitation do not exclude those who have questions or doubts about common wisdom. You do not need to believe to belong.

Respect common wisdom, consider common wisdom, do not dimiss it. Many may have worke on it for a long time. Also in your consideration, recognize that wisdom never, harms it always nourishes. Ask how does this common wisdom nourish you and others?

Can you notice any attachment to your sharing? – such as: “this is definitely going to work; I know what is best; this is going to be so helpful; this will fix the person, this will relieve her suffering? This suggests you have more than one intention. Also do you notice any need for acknowledgment? — such as: How do you react when someone resists you sharing? How do you feel when they do not follow your advice? This suggests another intention and invitation to be appreciated or acknowledged, to receive a particular result from your helping.

What are some of the subtle ways that I can make mistakes about helping?

Well there are no mistakes. Consider these as ideas – they are merely an offering to your question, not wisdom, not rules, not warnings.

In the advanced practice of helping, we are concerned with a discovering a form of helping that is nourishing, bold, open, expressive, and inviting — to feel safe, nourished and be in-learning. Be on this journey in your practice of helping. Keep in mind that the key quality of helping is that it is a sharing not giving, making, fixing, protecting, directing, pushing. Be alert for energy that is fixing, correcting, making better or getting someone “in-order or straightened-out.” Be alert for your own discomfort around someone’s own feelings, thoughts, or disturbance. This could lead to making someone better so that you feel more comfortable. Be awake to how you are greeting someone when you are in-wanting or in-knowing your sharing of help can have side effects.

Sometimes in an effort to help your invitation can directly or indirectly pressure someone to reveal something she is not yet ready to reveal. Work on an invitation the is warm, open, nourishing, bold— trust the other person’s wisdom about when and how much they reveal themselves. Be careful about giving too much attention or expectation to revealing. Remember if your invitation to speak asks —

“Tell me your story. Tell it to me in whatever way is satisfying for you. Take all the time you need. Tell it fast or slow. It doesn’t need to be perfect or well thought out. Speak from the heart or mind. I will hold whatever you tell me with care. I am here to listen to you and learn. Tell me, if you can how may I be the most helpful to you?”

Take all the time you need can mean just exactly what is says – all the time you need. How and when another reveals herself is up to them. Do not try to be successful in helping someone – simply be with them – try using the principles of helping which have resonance for you.

Ultimately there is no wisdom to share. Each creates her own wisdom. This is the way of free will and being Creators. Common wisdom of the community deserves strong consideration. In the expansion of the principle no one can tell another what to do – no community can declare it has universal wisdom and tell other communities what to do. Be cautious around individuals and communities who declare they have the answer. There is no universal wisdom.