You don’t have to be tuned into world news to have heard about the latest international child pornography sting, because it’s happening all around us. There were 55 men charged in the L.A. area alone, including a sheriff’s deputy, and a lawyer.

Having been molested as a child, myself (and having seen the predator [almost] brought to justice) I can’t tune out or ignore news about pedophilia – like a multi-lingual person not being able to tune out the languages they know. Unfortunately, neither can my mother, or my husband.

The most frustrating thing about understanding that ‘language’ is not that we keep finding out that “nice guys,” “family men,” “church-going,” and “loners” in suburban neighborhoods are pedophiles, but that we keep acting surprised by that profile. We are shocked to hear that priests, cops and lawyers are among those accused, as if their relationship to the law or to God makes their pedophilia implausible, and we never question their constant access to children for a minute. Their positions of legal or moral authority are the perfect blind.

Furthermore, many of the stories take place in suburbia, or most recently in the case of Philip Thompson, in an apartment that overlooked a daycare facility. The accused may be blasé, or indignant, denying any and all wrongdoing even in the face of substantial evidence. That’s the sociopathy of it. It’s not ironic. It’s strategic. They fish where the fish are. And that denial? That’s the characteristic distortion of reality, or compartmentalization of the truth. Even pedophiles know what happens to pedophiles in prison – rape and murder – that’s the irony. They’re lying for their lives.

Speaking of sociopathy, check this out. It’s telegraph.co.uk’s video of 27-year old Philip Thompson, a.k.a. “The Librarian” during his arrest and questioning. Notice how relaxed he is as he’s being booked in, and in the interrogation room. He looks as if he’s been brought in for ignoring his parking tickets.

You continue to speak out and to reach out. There are so many people who need to know that they are not alone in having been molested. They need to stay strong and they need to be heard. They need to have their damgages acknowledged. You are more than brave…you are a victor and not a victim; you are a beacon. But, you know all that.
xoxomom