I have spent a lot of time trying to figure this all out. I have been researching every aspect of sex offences and these types of cases because I need to be educated if I want to help him. I came across a law enforcement website which listed the "normal" characteristics of a sex offender. While every single person does not fit a specific profile, if they are allowed to arrest men caught in internet sting which occur in adult places then they should have to follow guidelines and use information that they have. Right? You would think.

Here is a list of characteristics of a sex offender from the law enforcement site.

Is most often an adult male.

Is usually married.

Works in a wide range of occupations, from unskilled laborer to corporate executive.

Relates better to children than adults.

Socializes with few adults unless they are pedophiles.

Usually prefers children in a specific age group.

Usually prefers either males or females, but may be bi-sexual.

May seek employment or volunteer with programs involving children of the age of his preference.

Pursues children for sexual purposes.

Frequently photographs or collects photographs of his victims, either dressed, nude, or in sexually explicit acts.

Collects child erotica and child-adult pornography.

May possess and furnish narcotics to his victims to lower their inhibitions.

Is usually intelligent enough to recognize that he has a personal problem and understand the severity of it.

May go to great lengths to conceal his illegal activity.

Often rationalizes his illicit activities, emphasizing his positive impact upon the victim and repressing feelings about the harm that he has done.

Often portrays the child as the aggressor. This usually occurs after the child realizes that by withholding "sexual favors" the child will obtain what he or she desires, such as new toys, clothing or trips. Talks about children in the same manner as one would talk about an adult lover or spouse. Often was a child molestation victim and frequently seeks out children at the age or stage of physical development at which he was molested. Often seeks out publications and organizations that support his sexual beliefs and practices. Usually corresponds with other pedophiles and exchanges child pornography and erotica as proof of involvement. Is usually non-violent and has few problems with the law (pedophiles are frequently respected community members).72BYN2BPWP9N

So basically my BF has a couple of characteristics on this list. That being said those characteristics are as follows:

He is a male

He had a job

And he has never been arrested before

Hmmm.. Well lets see, that is like the characteristics of most people. Should it not be mandatory that they follow some type of guide lines before just arresting these men? They are not paying any attention at all to their list of characteristics. How is this fair? Oh I know, my BF has magical powers and is able to hide all of this predator characteristics He is amazingly able to fool everyone around him. Oh ya, and he was told because he did not have a Facebook account that was suspicious. Because everyone has a Facebook. Well I can name at least 10 people who I know closely who do not have a Facebook profile. Should they go to jail? But the other major things going on in his personal life are not relevant. Like working all day and taking care of family business at night. Like dealing with other life issues. UNREAL.