You might not be a relationship type person at all, and that’s okay, but for those of us who have forged their way through countless (and terrible) first dates and one night stands, finding The One (or at least that special someone) is huge; it means your future is about to change big time.

Sorry, I’m not trying to freak you out or make you get cold feet about your relationship, but it’s something that can’t be ignored.

Take the average man: he might seem like he’s pretty easy to read, but you can never really tell what’s going on under the surface.

I’ve dated guys where I thought everything was going great until one day, I wasn’t important anymore. I’ve also been with guys where I thought I bombed the entire date, but he was texting me and asking me out again the next week.

My point is, it’s impossible to know what some guys want.

If you’re anything like me, then you probably spend an unhealthy amount of time blaming the actions and personalities of people on the stars.

Yes, I’m talkin’ about astrology and horoscopes. I pretend not to be super into astrology, but I have definitely used my zodiac sign as an excuse for my attitude before.

I have to admit, though, that while some people think it’s all in good fun (which is most definitely is), there might just be some truth to it, after all.

It’ll help you figure out which signs to look for, all based on his zodiac sign. Let’s just hope your man is putting out all GOOD signs (instead of leaving you feeling unimportant).

ARIES (Mar 21 - Apr 19)

To Aries, the best way to let someone know that he is ready to take his relationship to the next level is by saying “I love you.”

He knows that these three words are important and meaningful, so he won’t say them until he’s absolutely sure you’re The One.

It’s very possible that he will still want to take things slow, but letting you know where he stands with his feelings is a good step in the right direction for the two of you.

Don’t expect any grand gesture with a declaration of love, though. Aries will make the first time he says “I love you” special, of course, but it’ll probably be while lying in bed watching your favorite movie or as you’re stuffing your face with pizza. To him, getting serious means being able to be totally yourself around your significant other.

Taurus is ALL about the grand gestures, even when he’s not thinking about serious relationships yet, so just because he takes you out for a nice dinner or treats you to pretty jewelry doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to take it to the next level.

It’s only when he takes his romance to the next level that you know he’s serious. This doesn’t mean more expensive dinners and nicer jewelry, though.

When Taurus wants to show you he’s ready to get serious, he’ll plan a weekend trip for the two of you. This might mean going away to see his parents for a few days, or staying in a hotel all weekend and pigging out on room service, but his M.O. is make sure he’s comfortable enough around you in ALL settings.

That means when you haven’t brushed your teeth yet, when you need a shower, and when you’re hogging the bed and snoring.

Gemini often has trouble being honest with his flings because he really doesn’t see the need in trying if you aren’t going to stick around long. So when he’s actually serious about you, he starts being more open and honest about himself.

This might mean being more willing to share his social media accounts or just telling you more about his life, but when he starts opening up, you know he’s in it for the long haul.

Gemini doesn’t seem like the type of person to lie – or withhold truths, if you want to go that route – but his inability to commit to things (including the truth) makes it hard to trust him.

When he starting falling for someone though, he starts making an effort that only a few of his past relationships have seen.

It might be hard for him at first, but you’ll definitely notice a change in how he handles situations – even if it means the truth leaves him exposed and vulnerable (two things he hates).

Leo is the type of boyfriend who likes to share a lot about himself, but doesn’t really like to share his things. This ranges from sharing French fries to his favorite sweater, so don’t be surprised if he isn’t comfortable with sharing his apartment at first, either.

If he isn’t serious about his relationship, he won’t like when you leave your things at his place and vice versa.

However, when he’s starting to get more investing in you that changes pretty quickly.

Soon, he’ll be telling you to just leave a toothbrush at his place when you sleep over because it’s easier and you finding his socks in your laundry hamper. When Leo starts sharing things about himself he used to be wary of before, you know he’s getting serious.

Virgo tends to be more independent in relationships, rather than dependent on his partner, whether or not he sees himself getting serious with you.

This might be a way for him to protect his heart, but there IS one thing you can count on when he does start thinking about a future with you.

One thing Virgo knows is that constant communication is how healthy relationships thrive.

Calling and texting you on a frequent basis (but not enough to make you want to block his number) is how Virgo lets you know that he wants to get serious.

He might be calling you to ask you out on Friday or texting you during the day just to make sure you’re doing okay at work, but these little check-ins mean Virgo is thinking about you A LOT and wants to let you know you mean something special to him.

Libra needs a lot of balance in his life, which means he needs equal parts alone time and social interaction to feel like himself. When he dates, he tries to keep this balance and will make sure you know how important his “me time” is.

That said, this tends to change dramatically when he realizes he wants to get serious with you.

Libra will abandon this balance to spend time with you on a regular basis when he really, really likes you. Even if that means driving over to your place after work just to kiss you goodnight, Libra will do it.

He wants to prove that you’re not just any person to him, yes, but more than that, YOU are becoming his new balance, which is huge for him.

Instead of alone time and social time, it turns into equal parts alone time and YOU time.

Scorpio is really good at casual relationships because it’s like having a sex buddy and best friend rolled into one. Yes, serious relationships are like that too, but all Scorpio sees is the dynamic changing when he starts getting serious with someone – which means less sex and more being tied down.

Scorpio is also wary of putting his heart on the line, so he isn’t always the first one to jump into monogamy.

When Scorpio’s feelings for you change and he starts getting serious, he’ll do something no one would EVER guess he could be capable of: sleeping over at your place without having sex.

When he is really into you, he won’t feel the need to get busy because he’s too caught up in spending time with you and having fun.

Sagittarius doesn’t seem like the type of guy to ever be interested in a serious relationship and that’s kind of true. To him, serious relationships mean being tied down and losing freedom.

He always worries that he’ll turn into someone he’s not, but that’s only because he hasn’t found the right person yet.

When Sagittarius starts getting serious about you, it’s pretty obvious. Usually, he doesn’t expect his partners to stick around for very long, so he doesn’t like thinking too far into the future.

However, when he really wants your relationship to go somewhere, he will start making plans for the future with you.

Don’t expect phrases like, “when we get married,” but DO expect something like, “we have to see that movie when it comes out next week.” Might not be too far into the future, but it’s a HUGE step for him.

Capricorn is always subconsciously looking for a serious relationship, but he doesn’t like getting serious with just anyone.

He may fantasize about getting married or owning a cute apartment and dogs with someone, but he knows when to take things slow. Capricorn is the type of person to be methodical in his approach to getting serious.

There might already be a lot of important milestones in your relationship already, but there’s one thing that Capricorn does that proves he’s serious about you: introducing you to his family and friends.

This is important because it means he’s been talking about you to the people whose opinions he values the most, and it also means that he sees you sticking around for a while and wants you to get comfortable with the other people in his life.

Aquarius is picky when it comes to serious relationships because he wants to make sure that he’s making the right decision. He is his own biggest critic, so it’s common for him to keep you at arm’s length until he figures out what he wants; it isn’t personal, it’s just Aquarius.

One thing that has always been true about Aquarius is that his friends are his world. If he doesn’t see his significant other as a friend, then they’ll never see the real him.

Once he knows you’re a friend – really, a best friend – he’ll start considering a serious relationship with you. You can tell when he’s finally made his mind up about getting serious when he really opens up to you.

That means late-night conversations, listening to what you have to say, and even letting you see his weird Aquarius side. When he can be his true self, that’s when you know he’s into you hardcore.

Pisces, like other signs, is a die-hard romantic, but unlike other signs, he’s a cautious romantic. He hates being wrong about people – and will beat himself up over it, even if it isn’t his fault when things go wrong – so he likes taking things slow.

What does this mean for you? It means he might not address you as his significant other at first when introducing you to his people.

Don’t take this personally, though, because he’ll be watching for any new reasons why he shouldn’t keep you around.

So when he starts proudly referring to you as his boyfriend or girlfriend, and eventually changing your name to “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend” with a capital letter, you know he’s crazy serious about you.