Tag: how to chill out

When I started this blog I made a promise to myself that I would always be honest in everything I post (even if it makes me cringe all over). Therefore with all the good in my life that I show, I would also show the rubbish bits. Looking back over the past couple of days now, it doesn’t seem so bad and I can focus on all the lovely things that happened (went for dinner with Lois/date night with my boyfriend/saw my little baby cousin & got a big sloppy kiss off him) *womb backflipping.. until he projectile vomited everywhere*

But the rest of it was a just a bit rubbish. Nothing major happened, it’s just y’know when you’re already stressed and then a load of little things happen which make you want to strop on the floor and ugly cry. I won’t go into detail all the little things that pissed me off because, well they’re boring really and just things I’d laugh off had I been in a different mindset, but one of the things was little spat I had with Tom which turned into a full blown shouty/door slamming argument (all done by me and over nothing might I add). As well as that I’d lost my purse and my car was in the garage so I felt a tiny bit like a helpless, angry, crybaby.

HOWEVER.. like I said, looking back now it wasn’t all bad. Tom and I made up in no time, and found my purse in time for my night out with Lois & now have a fully functioning car!

What I’ve learned recently is: it is absolutely ok to have a bit of a meltdown sometimes…especially if you can sit back and reflect after it. It’s all about perspective and how I decide to handle things…and I definitely need to work on how I handle things..

(I mean, I definitely could have not called Tom a dick which would have sorted the issue much quicker, oops!)

But my point is, over the past couple of days I was focusing on all the negatives (no purse, no car etc) when I could have easily just focused on all the good that was going on at the time. After all they were first world problems to have in the first place. So next time (& trust me, there will be a next time) a rubbish couple of days come my way, I’ll hopefully treat them differently and look at the positive.

One thing I know *for sure* about myself is that when something “stressy” happens to me, I need time to myself to adjust, whether that’s 2 minutes to gather my thoughts or a whole day of watching Friends on Netflix & eating chocolate ice cream. But that’s ok, and it’s something I will always make sure to do for myself so I can process things and let them go.

Anyway since having those shitty days (and since writing this) a few maaajorly good things have happened! So one thing I need to remember is: yeah, things might not go my way at times, but that’s absolutely fine, because other times things WILL! So not so much ‘happy days’ but ‘balanced days’!

If you’re having a bit of a stressy time, I hope this helps … the only way is up baby! ha!