Parental alienation involves the systematic brainwashing, poisoning and manipulation of children with the sole purpose of destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent. My story involves this form of child abuse & exploring the bias favouring a mother in the social ecosystem around Family Law.

I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Monday, May 26, 2014

Sent today via email to 310 MP's in Ottawa.The debate in second reading for Bill C-560 is on Tuesday, the 27/5/14 and the vote is Wednesday, 28/5/14 (approx 5:45 p.m.).

After
doing a lot of volunteer work in the 2011 election for the CPC I am
disappointed to hear Mr. Harper is not in favour of this bill and through
sources I understand is ordering cabinet to vote just like the NDP and
apparently many Liberals. Imagine that
the CPC Cabinet voting with the socialists in the NDP, and the progressives in
the Liberals who do not think fathers matter after divorce.

Social
Science, however, disagrees with all of you no matter what your political
stripe.

This
will do a great disservice to tens of thousands of children across Canada.

At
one time the CPC touted itself as the party for families both economically and
socially. On the CPC website the party plays up the economic assistance given
but few social outcomes of long lasting
and direct benefit to children (tax credits excluded), that would tremendously
benefit children and, in the long term, reduce many social costs, including
these same families keeping more of their money for children's education,
instead of paying sky high legal fees to Lobbyist lawyers in the CBA. Is the
CBA the only unregistered lobby group in Canada with direct access to federal
Minister's and can influence legislation that hurts their pocket book. In fact, how many MP's are members of this
self same lobby group?

The
family is the foundation of our society but with the sole physical custody model
to mom in 90% of cases, according to Stats Canada, children suffer greater
chances of jail time, drug use, suicide, among many other negative outcomes.
One dramatic finding in the US was “After controlling for single motherhood,
the difference between black and white crime rates disappeared.” Progressive
Policy Institute, 1990, quoted by David Blankenhorn, “Fatherless America:
Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem,” New York, Harper Perennial, 1996,
p.31.

I
suspect the cabinet edict may be related to lobbying by the Canadian Bar
Association (CBA) who tied Mr. Nicholson in knots over C-560’s predecessor
C-422, when he spoke to their meeting in Ireland a couple of years back. They
are against it, due to loss of business, if the current adversarial dysfunction
in Family Law is allowed to stop. How many
lobby groups are in existence where the Minister goes to their meetings and is
also a member?

I
won’t go into great detail on all the social science in existence world wide
that shows why children do far better in a presumption of equal parenting after
divorce but I will provide a link to Gene Colman, LLB, a founding member of
Lawyers For Shared Parenting, who has consolidated it on one page. One document
in particular is titled Myths versus Facts Regarding Bill C-560 – from Lawyers
for Shared Parenting, Leading Women for Shared Parenting and Canadian Equal
Parenting Council. It will provide answers that are raised by those who oppose
C-560, and this includes Feminists and the CBA.

A
key point of Bill C560 is to define “best interests of the child” as keeping both
parents unless one is proven unfit. No one will disagree that having both fit
and loving parents in the lives of their children after Divorce is in their
best interests.

If
the CPC does not support the bill, I as a member of your base want you to know,
I will not vote for you, not support any CPC candidate, not renew my party
membership, nor make any donations, and given Mr. Harper appears to not like
the bill I will become a critic of his management of family social issues. Already my earlier blog post of today linking
Harper or MacKay along with C-560 leads to a published article, very much like
this one. My MP in Sault Ste. Marie has
yet to get back to me on whether he supports the Bill despite writing to him
earlier in February and Sunday. His name
too is linked to the same commentary on my blog which is read by thousands of
people over the course of a year. His election in Sault Ste. Marie in 2011, a
left leaning town, was fortuitous and with volunteers like me working on
newspaper comment boards, social media, and word of mouth we put him over the
top.

The
CPC ought not be afraid of this bill as at least 80% of Canadians support it
across all party lines. It would appear many politicians are not in sync with
your constituents.

Favourite Quotes

“The job of a father is this : to help his children develop, to teach them to express and master their emotions; to avoid physiological distress, to provide a context for their experiences; to help them persevere, reach their goals and take on responsibilities; and to instil the roles of citizen, partner and parent. In short, it is to fill their bellies with bread, their brains with wisdom and their hearts with love and courage.” Camil Bouchard, “On Father’s Ground” 2002.

Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" ~ George Bernard Shaw ~ also quoted by Robert F. Kennedy, US Senator and Presidential Candidate assassinated in 1968.

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length. ~ Robert Frost

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Some Gems on relationships

Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is a husband.

The motto of this Father's Rights Activist

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again ... and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." Theodore Roosevelt,

Facts on violence in Canada Domestic and Otherwise

Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile, 2009.

Of the nearly 19 million Canadians who had a current or former spouse in 2009, 6.2% or 1.2 million reported they had been victimized physically or sexually by their partner or spouse during the five years prior to the survey. This proportion was stable from 2004 (6.6%), the last time the victimization survey was conducted, and down from 1999 (7.4%).

A similar proportion of men and women reported experiencing spousal violence during the five years prior to the survey. Among men, 6.0% or about 585,000, encountered spousal violence during this period, compared with 6.4% or 601,000 women.

Total 611, men 465, women 146Rate of homicides with firearms has increased 24% since 2002. Handgun use on increase (gangs don't register their weapons)Women victims 24% - lowest proportion everMen Victims 76%Both the rate of females killed (0.87 per 100,000 population), as well as the proportion(24%), were the lowest since 196162 spousal homicides - no change from 2007Lowest rate in 40 years45 women 17 (27.4%)men

Many DV homicides of men are not classified as such and this number is higher than 27.4%.

In 2009 based on a million couples it can fairly be said 999,998 wives do not kill their husbands and 999,995 husbands do not kill their wives. (See Pg. 15 chart modified from the rate per 100,000.)

In 2009, 49 women and 15 men were killed by a current or former spouse (excludes one same-sex spousal victim).

Total homicides 610, Men 450. Gang related 20.3 percent.69.1 % of firearm related deaths involved handgunsWomen 160, In 2009 it represented the second lowest proportion (26%) of female homicide victims since data were first collected. The rate of female victims has generally been declining since the late 1960s.

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I am Politically active and right of centre on most issues with the odd exception such as legalization of "Mary Jane".
I advocate on changes to Family Law - an incredibly dysfunctional arena where parents are pitted against one another and children are the victims.
My picture will sometimes show me as a younger man simply because I like them.

An Alienated Child

Is a troubled child

American Coalition for Fathers & Children Petition

A quote by a well known Canadian Jurist

The Honorable Justice John Gomery of Canada stated, “Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

(The above quote arises from PSM vs. AJC, a decision rendered by Mr. Justice John Gomery on February 15 1991 (SCM 500-12-184613895), and confirmed by the unanimous judgment of the Court of Appeal on June 14 1991, the trial judge was confronted by a case involving four children caught up in a heated custody battle between their parents whereby the children became "catastrophically" alienated from their mother.)A good paper on PAS for lawyers by a lawyer, Anne-France Goldwater (Avocate), and excerpts from the above trial are located here.