Rude Roommates

I make dinner; you wash dishes. I don't understand what's so difficult about this concept.

My friend was coming over to watch football, so I went to the store, bought everything to make a huge vat of chili and a case of beer. My roommates sat around talking about, "Oh, man ... I just don't know what we're going to make for dinner" for about 10 minutes while I was cooking. I'm not a prick. I know I have more than enough for everyone. So, I tell them they can eat with us.

Dinner's over. I cleaned while I cooked so, the dishes were minimal ... about a sink full. My roommates are trying to decide on what to watch on tv, which is in the same room as the kitchen (open floor-plan), while I start putting away leftovers.

Not only do they not get up to help clean up, they turn the volume UP on the TV to drown out the sound of me cleaning THEIR plates.

I absolutely cannot abide inconsiderate people. Luckily, I'm moving out in about a month.

Sorry for the rant, but I had to vent my frustration somewhere. Anyone else have/had rude roommates?

I have the same problem, I live in a house with three other people. I get along with two of them, the other one is a nuisance because he is still in his "I know everything" phase (He is 20yo). We've tried to give him hints on how to clean up after himself, but he is "smart" and therefore finds ways around them or argues his way out of cleaning up after himself using the environment as a defense.

It's annoying as hell, and for a while I was on edge around him.. now I just ignore him and act civil around him. AND TO TOP IT ALL OFF.. he's a complete closet case.. ugh. FML

Haha I loved your post. I don't usually like to vent but my last roomates were the worst. Im a bit of a neatfreak and they would leave food and garbage just laying around and they never did the dishes or took out the garbage. The worst part was that they apparently had a problem with me being gay (strange because they used to be good friends), they were uncomfortable when I sat on the couch with my boyfriend, a couch that I bought, watching the tv that I paid for. My one roomate even called my realtor when I was buying my house to defame by credit, gladly it did not work and I now own my own home. Thank god no more roomates. Hang in there man.

my roommate is awful. I don't know how I stand it... crazy black girl, girlfriend of friends... she has a nasty attitude, doesnt clean up after herself, and is subject to tantrums where she yells, assaults me, and uses various gay slurs.

I do my best to be tolerable, because I have to live with her.. and just continue on in my daily life.. but it's hard to be polite to someone who is constantly rude to you and has said some pretty awful things, and even tried to hurt you... not that I feel threatened, but it's really just a downer on my whole situation.

As a rule I only live with awesome people.My roommates rock (and for the most part always have). I just start off picky--I don't move in with someone I wouldn't want to share a significant part of my life with--that's what you end up doing. =)(Not to say there isn't the occasional drunken binge that wipes out my ice cream stores, but hey, that's communal living -- we make it up to eachother. ;)

I don't understand how other people continue to live with roommates they detest... (not referring to OP, just in general). People with bad roommates: move! If you find that you can't find good roommates... then the first issue to deal with is probably you.

My old roommate didn't know how to cook, so we came to agreement that I will cook and he will do the dishes. This schedule went on good a long time and then when he started being lazy about it, I stopped cooking. Then I moved out .

My roomie for the past 12 months has been a total slob. Her animals are not house-trained, nor is she. Leaves dishes and food out, smokes in her room, forgets to pay bills. and don't get me started on the bathroom.

As for your roomies, my biggest regret was being afraid of conflict and not being vocal enough when things were not as I want them in my house. I recommend not letting things swell up. If you do, every little thing will start to drive you nuts.

She is almost moved out. Rather than uprooting and finding a new roomie or a new place to live, I've decided to stay. A 3/1 is a bit large for me, even with my home office/studio, and $1200 plus all bills may break me. But I am so excited to be on my own!

A waste of time trying to explain or understand inconsiderate and selfish people. And possibly spoiled, as well, still immature and expecting their mothers to wait on them hand & foot.

A different view of the world: we just had dinner the other night, where one guest was an incredibly wealthy woman. We've been to her own fabulous home many times, to hear famous musicians perform and enjoy other wonderful entertainment she arranges. She keeps a full-time house staff, including one maid she's had for 30 years, and brings in bartenders for her larger events (though once I pitched-in myself quite ineptly when a bartender was a no-show).

She's been wealthy all her life, knows nothing but luxury and exquisite surroundings. BUT, when she's a guest at a more modest home, she's in the kitchen helping out. With the cooking, with the cleaning, whatever needs to be done.

THAT to me is the definition of class, dignity and grace. And I just saw this again Saturday night, she fussing with the dishes in a kitchen not her own, her maids not there to do it for her.

And if young, fit men can't do the same, to help their host where they've just been dined & entertained at his expense, then shame on them. No guests at our own table have ever refused to help out, nor even needed to be asked -- they simply knew. On the contrary, it was our own duty to decline their offers unless really needed. This is the United States, not ancient feudal Europe.

Sorry for the rant, but this set me off. I detest laziness and inconsiderate behavior, and a total lack of manners. At 20-something, which I assume these guys were, there is no excuse for it. You offer to help your host when you're a guest at a small private gathering. Period. End of issue. ARRRGGGHHH!!!

my ex-roommate started out decent, which was an act. Broken promises, saying that he could do auto work, buy food(crablegs, t-bone steaks) and expert on pet fish. just a liar and wannabe, found out by living in same apartment. i furnished it, he was living off my benefits.

After he stopped cleaning the aquarium, the livingroom, began being hostile ( he is a "straight by day, bottom after 9 pm with neighbor") then stopped going to work, told him that we were on 2 different pages and he should get his own place. he was to move 30 jun, 1aug, 12 aug finally 20aug. Ye-ah!

Just celebrated the 2nd month of his departure on 20 aug. Every month on the 20th, cook a wonderful dinner to celebrate.j.c.

sorry to hear that, FierceEyes. but you'll be moving out soon, so screw them. lol

i just moved in this Oct, and i regret after just a week in new place. i have the similar problem with my two roommates. they never clean up the mess around the sink area in bathroom and kitchen. i asked them to clean up after each use, but they don't listen. both of them are in early 20's. sigh... time to find a new place again.

Art_Deco said[...] She's been wealthy all her life, knows nothing but luxury and exquisite surroundings. BUT, when she's a guest at a more modest home, she's in the kitchen helping out. With the cooking, with the cleaning, whatever needs to be done.

...Hum-hum-hum... Blessed be her heart, soul & the education she has received. This woman is a RICH being - and it ain't got the damnest thing to do with the balance of her bank account(s)!!... She's got 'ubuntu' - the considerate understanding that she is who she is thanks to her peers being who they are.

@ FierceEyes: As many other have adviced you, don't let them get away with their lazynes & lack of consideration. Clarify your values and positions to your roommates & STAND BY THEM. I forgot the one saying - something about 'Shame on you, then shame on me' or vice-versa - but you know what I mean?!.. If you do not voice your opinion to your current roommates, I do not see how you'll better handle this type of situation if it were to occur again.... Because make no mistakes: moving out in about a month only let you escape your currents bad roommates... But what about those you may potentially meet in the future?!... Or what if you encounter a similar predisposition with coworkers/classmates?!...