(Closed) Feel like my wedding will be too generic. Any fun ideas?

I’ve been trying to think of something creative to have at our wedding. Something that will help us stand out and make people think of that thing at our wedding. Or something that just screams different or awesome.

Really, I just get sad when I think of our venue. Inside it is really beautiful but generic. It’s at a Jewish Temple that has a beautiful space inside it. Outside though it is just overwhelmingly boring, like a generic school. They’ve done renovations recently and updated bathrooms and just made it a little more lux, but I can’t help but think about how sad it is going to look.

I don’t want it to be a forgotten event. This gets me so sad. Fi suggested a photo booth, but I honestly hate those and wont have those anywhere near my wedding. Le sigh.

I think I would need more information to help you out. Maybe some more details about your wedding and more information about you as a couple. What are some details you already have planned? What are some things you are interested in or like to do? That might help.

We did a photo booth, and our guests loved it. A cousin of mine had formal portraits done of couples, and the photographer printed them throughout the night and put them in paper frames. That’s a nice alternative if photo booths arent your thing. Guests that don’t dance really do enjoy something extra.

@mjfaris6: Hmm, well our colors are light purple and silver. We’re going to have about 200 people. We have a DJ, sit down dinner. I am Russian and Fi is American. He is an attorney and I do PR. There’s uplighting and draping there, but nothing else worth talking about. Nothing stands out about us that I would say we need to incorporate. Blarg.

@MizzStark1026: I feel you on this! I sometimes get a little down that our wedding won’t be featured in any blogs or magazines, haha. But I think that’s pretty natural. I think we’re all a little dazzled by what we see in print and online and forget that it’s not always as real as it looks.

I think your day will stand out simply because it’s your wedding. You will look amazing, your groom will look amazing, you will be full of love and surrounded by people who care about you! How can anyone forget about that?!

If you still aren’t convinced, try to work with what you have. Maybe if you have space in your budget you can get some really impressive flower arrangements (seriously, I remember those from lots of weddings), or make a particularly delicious cake (or whatever dessert you want). Try to relax though; it will be incredible no matter what!

I totally understand, I was in this position last week. My venue is simple, decor is simple, etc. I worried I was not giving people what they expected in this oversharing, blog obsessed wedding world we live in.

But you know what? I don’t care what everyone thinks or remembers. I will remember that day, FI will remember that day, and our families will remember that day. If my aunt’s kid’s wife doesn’t remember what my centerpieces looked like I don’t give a flip. I want people to have fun, to eat good food, and share in our happiness.

Looking back I can’t tell you details of any weddings I attended. I just remember having a good time.

If you want to upgrade something because it is what you and your FI want, and because it reflects who you are, do it. But don’t do it just because you think you have to. If a photobooth isn’t your taste, don’t do it! You want to look back and see a wedding that reflects you, not the latest trend or social media craze.

I added a lot of DIY stuff to personalize the touch to everything. Our wedding everyone stated as “the best wedding ever!” That really was the open bar and AMAZING dj and great food that made it that way. Those elements are key. You skimp on that and you will see the results.

Some personalized fun things from our wedding:

trolley decorated with signs for guests to/from the ceremony

our getaway from the ceremony on a pedicab complete with tin cans tied to it

I completely agree with veggie rachel! I think it will be a special day because you are getting married and people will remember it. I think just any personal touches you can add will make it even more special. Like are there any family traditions that you and your fiance could incorporate in your day?

My hubby and I did things a little differently for our wedding. We didn´t have the traditional slide show, we played slideshows as we were doing our various dances, like first couple dance, father daughter, etc. We also did a little madlib at each table for guests to fill out while they were waiting to eat (these were hilarious to read the next day by the way!) We also did do a photo booth, but it wasn´t your typical sit in a booth and take pics, our photographer set up a screen and she took pics and posed people for the shots and got some great shots!

Another thing I´ve seen is taking pics of families as they enter the reception. One of my friends loved to do karaoke, so he sang a song as the evening progressed and really got the crowd into it. I just think making it about you and your fiance makes in memorable. Have fun planning and again don´t worry people will remember your day and really the only thing that matters is that you guys remember and love it!

@christinamarie980: I would LOVE to do a candy bar, but the place is Kosher, even though nobody practices. The food is fantastic, but candy bar isn’t an option 🙁

@veggie_rachel: You’re absolutely right. Everything dazzles me that other people do, and we are spending a good amount of money for this wedding, but it just doesn’t feel like it’s going to wow anybody.

BTW, I get in this mood ever so often, but today I talked to a friend of mine who, not only is having her wedding in a mansion, but told me that she rented a horse and carriage. ugh, I would never want a horse and carriage, but something about the fact that their wedding will be so different, and mine, generic got me riled up again

@MizzStark1026: I think with what you’ve chosen so far, something like this would be gorgeous at your site-(not a rustic version though.)I saw an online site that had DIY instructions for a luge, by putting a trashbag in a dresser drawer, filling it with water and freezing it, and then running hot water over the area where you want it to have a place for the vodka.-I’m sure that you’d want to be careful with choosing a bag that was ok for drink/food use.

@MizzStark1026: What about incorporating something from you heritage into the reception? If your budget allows, maybe hire some Russian dancers (or something along those lines?) Or,somehow incorporate your Russian heritage elsewhere?

My FI is Brazilian, so I’ve looked into hiring some dancers to come dance for a song or two..not sure if I’ll go through with it (money), but worth checking out 🙂