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Marriage is not always sunshine, you do experience the edges in the journey of your married life. When you are annoyed and unhappy with your spouse you say a lot of things to your partner that you regret later. No matter how unhappy you are with him or how bad you are feeling because of his behavior, but you should never say a few things to your spouse. Marriage is a very special relationship and you should never take this relationship or your partner for granted. To enjoy a blissful and happy marriage, you should always give respect to your partner. Here, we are sharing list of things which you should never say to your partner.

I can’t live with you: This is something very common among couples. Most of the couples say this to their spouse during their fights. Generally, you make statements like, “it is really difficult to live with you” or “I can’t live with you anymore” or “I want to go back to my parents’ home”. All these statements give him a feeling that you don’t believe in this relationship and it’s a kind of burden on you. This will give him a kind of negative feeling about self. Avoid such kind of statements when you are annoyed with your husband.

I don’t believe you: Trust is a very important factor in relationship. If you suspect your partner or you think that he is untruthful, saying this can affect your relationship like anything. If you have trouble with your husband’s habits, you find something suspicious, then it is better to discuss this, rather than making a fuss over it and shouting on your partner. Focus more on asking questions to clear your confusion, rather than making such bold statement. Such statement might backfire and chop your relationship.

You are overreacting: This is one statement which might annoy your partner. When you are not happy with the reaction of your partner, you tend to make statements like you are overreacting, but instead of saying things like “you are overreacting”, or “you are too sensitive”, or “you are too emotional” or “don’t be so defensive”, it is better you try to resolve the issue. Instead of telling him how to react, find ways to ease his tension and worries. Even if you are not able to resolve the issue, listen to his thoughts calmly without judging him.

I am not your maid: When you are angry with your life partner or during your fights, you make statements like, “I am not your maid”, “I have never done this in my life, but I am doing this here day and night” or “At times, I feel like I am not more than a maid in this house”, all such statements will give him a kind of feeling that he is not able to keep you happy. Such kind of statements will give him a sense that you are doing this because of some compulsion, but not because you feel yourself a part of the family. So, making such statements might irritate him and take your fight to some other level.

Are you that stupid?: Making statements like, “are you that stupid?”, “that’s an awful idea”, “how could you be so dumb?”, all such statements are very hurtful for your partner. He might be doing something in ignorance or unintentionally, but making such statements might hurt his sentiments. Supporting your partner is very important for a healthy relationship. Unsupportive statements can harm your relationship with your partner.

Do you think that only looks matter in a relationship? Do you think that you need to be good looking and extremely beautiful to marry the most eligible man? Most of us generally believe that men always want to marry the most beautiful girl. But, is this really true? Actually, people have their own perceptions and choices. This is partially true that to woo someone you can use your charm and beauty, but to enjoy and live in a relationship, you need to have something extra in you. Here, we are sharing a few things which matter more than your looks for your man.

Your support: A relationship can’t survive in the absence of healthy support for each-other. Your partner always expects a good support from you. Relationship is not just about enjoying the happy moments and feeling lovey-dovey. It is much more than that; you need to be a good support for your partner. Always support him in his good and bad time to build a strong relationship.

Your understanding: This is something he always wants from you as a partner. A good understanding partner is always better than a clingy partner. Always try to be more understanding when you are in a relationship. It is quite possible that you are not always convinced with him and his thoughts, but you can at least try to understand his point and listen to him.

Your trust: Trust is very important for a healthy relationship. If you don’t trust your partner, there are chances that your relationship will not last for a longer time. In absence of trust you may face complications in your relationship. For a healthy and strong relationship your trust for your partner is important. Show trust in Him, his ideas, thoughts and even in his words. No matter what do you feel about his thoughts, but showing your trust in him will give him strength to excel in life.

Good listener: Men always admire those females who are good listener. No doubt that you are a non-stop chatter, but at times it is equally important to listen to his thoughts. At times, you need someone to listen to your thoughts. If your partner is your good friend who is always ready to listen to your thoughts without judging you or doubting you, nothing could be better than this feeling. If your partner is a good listener then you don’t need someone else in life to share your feeling and thoughts.

Your ambitions: Men are mostly attracted to females who are ambitious. They prefer to have a life partner who has her own goals and ambitions in life – both at personal and professional level. Though there might be instances when your partner’s professional goals might become hindrance in your personal relationship, still the admiration for ambitious life partner by men cannot be denied. You are being independent: Generally, men don’t like clingy females or those females who are dependent. Looking up to your partner’s help for each and everything, be it small or big, is not really appreciated. If you know how to manage things at your own then there is no doubt that your man will be happier with you and always admire your independence.

Your cooking skills: You must have heard this many times that you can easily win the heart of your man if you are a good cook. Most of the men are food lovers and they are grown up in such an environment that they always want to have good food. All men want their wife to be a good cook, and this is one of the basic expectations. So, if you are the one who loves to cook food then your skills will always be appreciated by him.

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Courtship period in any relationship is one of the most beautiful times. You enjoy being in that relationship and you enjoy every bit of it. You want to spend a lot of time together. Either you are on phone or messaging something or other with him during the whole day to stay connected. Over a period of time, you feel connected and close to him. Eventually, you develop some expectations and expect him to fulfill those expectations. It is very much common in a relationship to expect things from your partner. Here are some common expectations ladies have from their fiancé during courtship period.

Instant Reply: This is something really common and most of us expect this from our partner. Whenever you sent him a text message or while chatting with him online you want him to reply back to you instantly. But, you should always remember that he has some job liabilities, so it is not possible that he will reply to you instantly all the time. So, in case he sends you a delayed reply, then don’t get annoyed with him, rather try to understand his situation.

Patient Listening: You always want him to listen to your thoughts calmly, even if you are talking something that doesn’t interests him. You expect him to understand your point and not to lose his temper because you are talking something which he doesn’t like. So, if you expect him to be patient with you, then he also expects the same from you. He is also new in this relationship, he too needs time to understand your thoughts and get used to it. If he is talking something which you don’t like or disagree, then put your point constructively, rather than losing your temper.

Well-behaved and courteous Behavior: You always want him to be courteous and well-behaved with you and with others as well. You never want your man to shout on you over anything. You want him to be polite and supportive. You always want him to behave well with you and never lose his temper and humiliate or insult you.

Deep level of understanding: For building a strong relationship, it is important that you build a strong understanding with him. Good level of understanding is important for a healthy relationship. You always want him to be understanding; similarly he wants the same from you. He also expects you to be supportive and understanding.

Respect for your parents: You always want that your partner should respect your parents. You expect your future husband to respect and love your parents the way you do. Similarly, he also expects you to respect his parents. Therefore, to establish a good relationship it is important that you respect each-other’s parents.

Punctuality: Are you planning to go out for dinner or for a movie? You want him to reach on time and don’t let you wait for a long time. You want him to value and respect your time and always reach on time if you make a plan. This is your responsibility as well to value his time and reach on time whenever he makes any plan. Always value the time because it shows how important the other person is in your life.

Loyalty and commitment: You always want him to be committed and loyal in this relationship. You never expect him to flirt with other ladies. You never want him to check out other girls when you two are together. You always want him to remain loyal and never cheat you under any circumstances.

Mutual Respect: For a strong relationship it is important to give respect to your relationship and your partner. You should always respect your partner not because he/she is your husband or wife, but as a person he has something valuable and important. Respect him/her for the qualities he/she has to enjoy a blissful relationship. If you expect him to respect you, always remember that he too expects the same from you.

Marriage is something you think about day and night and feel butterflies in your stomach if you are about to get married soon. This is a transitional phase in one’s life, you feel excited and nervous at the same time. At times, you doubt your own decision of marrying your ‘Mr. Charming’. But, this is very common thought and everyone has more or less similar kind of feelings when it comes to marriage. Therefore, it becomes more important to choose the right kind of man and say yes to someone who is just perfect for you and most compatible. Always ensure that you find someone who is willing to give his 100% to this relationship and equally devoted. Here are five things that you should look for in your man before taking the wedding vows.

Keen to know more about your interests: He is the one, who is always keen to know more about your interest. He likes to get involved in different activities with you. He always tries hard to adapt to your habits and trying his level best to make a pace with you. Whenever you meet him, he always shows his interest in knowing more about your liking, interest, friends, hobbies and other things related to you. He likes to listen to your thoughts and always respects your opinion.

Willing to make changes: He is not rigid with his thoughts and expectations, and is always willing to make changes if required. He is not a kind of guy who always cribs that because of you he has not been able to go out to watch a match with his guy’s gang or something similar. Besides, he makes you feel important and always shows that meeting you is important than anything else. He always shows his interest in making changes in his routine if situation comes, he never says no to try something new or experimenting with something because he doesn’t want to miss even a single opportunity to spend time with you.

Always shows his commitment: He always shows his commitment in his actions and words. He always introduces you to his friends proudly and never hesitates in accepting this relationship publicly. This clearly reflects in his gestures and expressions that he is happy with this relationship. He never wants to hide you and this relationship from anyone. He always accompanies you at social gatherings and family functions. Whenever he is out with you, he is more focused on you and his eyes never move here and there.

Concerned about you: He is always concerned about you, your safety, health and other things. He never misses a single opportunity to show his genuine concern. Whenever you are late from office he offers to drop you or make calls to ensure that you reach home safely. He always keeps you first and thinks about your requirements first compared to his requirements. He doesn’t mind to make adjustments in his routines to make you feel comfortable. Making changes and alterations never annoys him, he is always open for such changes.

Emotionally connected with you: He is emotionally connected with you and shares a good level of emotional bonding. He never hesitates to express his thoughts openly and shows his concern. He always tries to understand your point and find solutions to your problems. He never feels irritated listening to your thoughts. You can trust him anytime.

The relationship of a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law is different from rest of the relationships. Your mother-in-law could be your best friend and she could be your critic as well. She is the one who helps you to get familiar and adjust within the new family and makes you comfortable. She is the binding agent of the family and you are really dependent on her over a lot of day-to-day things. She is not only your mother-in-law, but the one who is always there for you in the family, when situation comes. There is no better way of acknowledging her efforts and giving her respect than giving her a gift which she really deserves. Are you confused what you should gift her and what you should not gift her? Giving a wrong gift to your mother-in-law might give her an impression that she is not valued and you don’t consider her important. We are here sharing some gifts that you should never give to your mother-in-law.

Exercise equipment: No matter how many efforts your Mother-in-Law (MIL) is putting to reduce the extra kilos, but giving her an exercise kit is no doubt a wrong choice. Giving her yoga mat, fitness clothes, digital health tracker might offend and give her sense that she really needs to make more efforts to stay fit or she is not fit. No doubt, you are giving her as to appreciate her efforts and you liked the way she is putting efforts to stay fit. But gifting her exercise equipment on some special occasion is not the right choice.

Gym membership: You might be a fitness freak and love to go to gym every day like a ritual, but not necessary that everyone loves to spend time in gym. Quite possible your mother-in-law is conscious about her health and fitness and she is spending an amount of time on morning and evening walk or on yoga. But, it is not an indication that she is equally interested in spending her time in gym and exercising. Don’t give her such kind of memberships which require a lot of motivation to continue. It might be she doesn’t find going to gym as interesting as she finds running or walking in a nearby garden. So, giving her gym membership is not really a good option.

Cookery book: Your intentions might just be to share your cooking tips and expert advice with her and you really want her to know how to cook some mouthwatering continental or south-Indian dishes, but giving her a cookery book might offend her. She might feel that she is not a good cook or you don’t like the way she cooks. It might be she is a good learner and she is always keen to learn new dishes, but don’t give her something unless or until she has expressed the desire to buy something similar.

Wrong size clothes: Recently you have seen a latest trendy outfit and you want to gift that gorgeous dress to your mother-in-law then hold on for a second and before buying that dress for her try to find out her size. Giving her a dress which might not fit her well is not the right idea. First, try to find out her size and buy something for her accordingly. It you buy a dress one size bigger or smaller, then you need to get it replaced, so it always better to buy something which will fit her well.

Old fashioned jewelry: Giving Jewelry as a gift to your MIL is great idea as all women love jewelry. It might be she is fond of a specific pattern or designs. She likes to buy her jewelry from her favorite shop. No matter how classy these antique jewelries will look with her favorite saree or suit, but if she is not fond of it, then it is not worth giving it. It is always better if you gift her something of her interest. Don’t give her jewelry, which she is not going to wear in the future. Before investing a good amount in jewelry, try to know her liking about jewelry.

Cleaning supplies: Are you fond of a specific cleaner because of its tough formula and cleaning abilities, still never get tempted to gift this to your Mother-in-Law. Though you might think that she should also use it because of its good results and quality, still gifting her cleaning supplies is not really a brilliant idea. Cleaning supplies are just simple utilities and people have their own choices and reasons behind using them, so giving her cleaning supplies might offend her and give her an impression that she is not good at it or using wrong material.