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Experience Is What You Get When You Don’t Get What You Want

Over the course of a year we are going to experience many disappointments. On a scale of 1 to 10 some will be an 8 or a 9. Perhaps the promotion you were seeking went to another person. Maybe you planned the perfect vacation and it rained the entire week you were away. Then of course there will be much more minor disappointments. Someone got to a parking space right before you. The store ran out of the item you wanted which was on sale. The examples of disappointments great and small are endless. Everyone experiences them. The more important question is what are you going to do with them. It really is a choice. You can choose to be full of resentment and anger over your disappointments. It can make you a bitter and negative person. It might even lead to your drinking, drugging or eating over it.
On the other hand, your disappointments can be a teacher. There are so many lessons that can be gained from them. For example, when you didn’t get that promotion you could be filled with anger, resentment and negativity. You might sulk for days and say, “I can’t believe they gave it to that guy”. Or, you could take an honest look as to why you didn’t get the promotion. Carefully assess the reasons; resolve to make some changes and then prepare for the next opportunity.