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I met my egyptian husband online in 2004. I flew to Egypt in 2008 and married him at the MOJ. I was not disappointed at all. Long story short is he is still in Egypt and I'm in the US. I can't relocate to Egypt right now and he can't come to the US so he has asked me for a divorce since he says he needs someone to cook, clean and take care of him but he says when I move to Egypt I can become his second wife if I accept. I declined but we are still friends.

So why on earth did you marry him? 4 years of your life wasted for a relationship that could never be made a reality. I just think this is an example of "He/she is not really that into you." If you wanted to be together you would have found a way.

Adding to the failed list......I talked with a syrian man for 3 years. Flew to Dubai to meet him and got married. Applied for him and brought him to the US. Had a major culture shock when he got here and totally wasn't the person I thought he was. We're divorced now. Thinking back though, many red flag alert signals came up over those 3 years but I was too young/naive to take that into consideration. What a first relationship! He really wasn't different in person than he was online, I think I just choose to ignore the warning signs.

Even though that didn't work out, I think it is definately possible :)

So you weren't that into him. He knew that he wasn't important to you and he returned the lack of care and that is why he was willing to make you second wife. A couple of people jerking around with eachother's lives but hey I guess that makes it all even between the two of you.

I don't think it is fair to say she wasn't that into him. For whatever reason she could or would not sponsor the visa and he couldn't get it on his own. There are so many people in the same situation. The visa is just not that easy to get.

The second wife bit concerns me a little. I know a woman in the same situation. She was living in Egypt and started dating a guy. After about a month he told her he was getting married in a week. She ended the relationship right away. He called her from his wedding and said he wanted her to be his second wife. Of course, he was just going to keep it a secret from the first wife. She changed her phone number so he could not call her again. It seems to be just a case of wanting to have your cake and eat it too.

Long story short, I talked online with an Egyptian man for 6 months came to Egypt to marry him and he was everything he said and more. He had bad body odor, didn't wash his hands, and so much more. I told him I forgot the papers I needed to marry him and told him I would come back next month to marry him. He was upset but he said ok. I enjoyed my stay in Cairo but when I returned back to the U.S. I cut all ties with him. No way in hell I would marry him ewwwwwwwwwwwww.

The internet is full of "I hate men" stories; they seem to be international. I'll tell you all that I've met men the traditional way that have turned out to be liars too. I recently and unexpectedly met an Egyptian guy online and he seems pretty nice, but still, like in any "dating" situation, I like to be cautious. One thing that worries me is how, two days into chatting, he is already talking about a hypothetical marriage one day. I know from having lived in Latin America that, in some places, dudes are more open about talking about marriage and kids from the beginning but that it doesn't mean that they want to marry you at that exact moment. The way I am taking it is as such: I am not going to blow a possible friendship due to other people's horror stories, but I am most definitely not going to be gullible.

I met my soon to be husband (one week left) on facebook by chance. We both played the same game and were on a team together, we were both in other relationships when we met and were just friends with nothing romantic between us. I came to visit Egypt after my relationship ended and while there we decided to meet in person. We met and have been together ever since. I came back to the states to get my affairs in order and moved to Egypt 6 months later. We have been engaged for 10 months now and are very happy. We are not un-realistically happy, we have a real relationship with disagreements and days that we just want to ring each others necks. But we also love each other fiercely, make each other laugh, still have stuff to talk about and he is my best friend. I probably should have been more cautious about coming to Egypt, but after meeting him and his family i just knew. I do not regret my decision, not once.

nice to hear other success stories. i too met my egyptian husband on facebook by chance, i accepted the invite coz he was a mutual friend of my sister who lived in egypt at the time. and yes he was talking marriage very early on, in less than 2 weeks actually, and so we got to know each other on those 'potential marriage partner' terms, not on a 'lets just see what happens' kinda basis. we got to know each other for about 6-8 months spoke on skype etc, then i hopped on a plane and went to Egypt to see if i could really do this , got there, he was everything i expected and more, the chemistry was the same in person as online.. met his family, went back home. another 6 -8 months later we planned our wedding in Egypt, i flew back there with some of my friends n family, and got married at the MOJ and still had a wedding thereafter the same afternoon,, and 4 years and an almost 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old son later, there are no regrets, it was the best decision ive ever made and have never felt happier than i do.. ofcourse there are issues as with any other marriage, but if u have a good man, and you the 2 of you remember God in times of ease, God remembers us in times of difficulty.