Indecisive!

So my original plan for TTC was July or August and hubby agreed that was a good time because it still gave us more time to potty train Nevan and get ready for the thought of a new baby. Also because it fit perfectly into both of our school schedules. The spring semester would be January to early May in 2013. Having a baby in May of 2013 would mean that we would both be out of school and have a whole summer to devote to our new addition. Recently, 17 of our close friends found out that they were expecting (yes, 17 all within a month and a half!!!!!). So, of course, I already have the baby fever and this only added to it. Hubby and I talked and we decided that we would start trying in February. And that would be exciting, but now I am having second thoughts because I don't think we'd be ready by then because the baby would be due in November. I mean, that is a year from now!!! And it would be interfering with my school schedule, we don't have quite enough money saved and I am still overweight (in fact, technically obese, but just barely). I have just been obsessing about babies lately with all of these new pregnancies! Am I the only crazy girl who can't make up her mind?!?! I know that I should weight, because it would be the most practical thing to do. I just can't shake this baby fever. :(((((

So my original plan for TTC was July or August and hubby agreed that was a good time because it still gave us more time to potty train Nevan and get ready for the thought of a new baby. Also because it fit perfectly into both of our school schedules. The spring semester would be January to early May in 2013. Having a baby in May of 2013 would mean that we would both be out of school and have a whole summer to devote to our new addition. Recently, 17 of our close friends found out that they were expecting (yes, 17 all within a month and a half!!!!!). So, of course, I already have the baby fever and this only added to it. Hubby and I talked and we decided that we would start trying in February. And that would be exciting, but now I am having second thoughts because I don't think we'd be ready by then because the baby would be due in November. I mean, that is a year from now!!! And it would be interfering with my school schedule, we don't have quite enough money saved and I am still overweight (in fact, technically obese, but just barely). I have just been obsessing about babies lately with all of these new pregnancies! Am I the only crazy girl who can't make up her mind?!?! I know that I should weight, because it would be the most practical thing to do. I just can't shake this baby fever. :(((((

Wow 17 of them, i would have stopped answering the phone or looking at txt msg after the 10th one.. Gl to u and your DH, u will know when it is the right time. In the mean time enjoy your LO, exercise, eat halthy and take your pnv

Wow 17 of them, i would have stopped answering the phone or looking at txt msg after the 10th one.. Gl to u and your DH, u will know when it is the right time. In the mean time enjoy your LO, exercise, eat halthy and take your pnv

Yeah, I think we are going to just wait. And OH MY FREAKING goodness I found out ANOTHER friend is pregnant that I know! It's a girl from my January 2010 WTE boards. Can you believe it?! 18 people now!!!! haha. But I have my WTE books and I am starting to track my ovulation schedule with the app for my iPhone. So we'll be ready when it's time for us to start trying. :)))

Yeah, I think we are going to just wait. And OH MY FREAKING goodness I found out ANOTHER friend is pregnant that I know! It's a girl from my January 2010 WTE boards. Can you believe it?! 18 people now!!!! haha. But I have my WTE books and I am starting to track my ovulation schedule with the app for my iPhone. So we'll be ready when it's time for us to start trying. :)))

I was actually getting ready to ask that very quesiton. Is it possible to have baby fever and not want to have a baby?

My baby fever has been kicking my butt!!! But I know that right now is not a good time for us to try and that realistically we need to be waiting to next Sept at the earliest instead of this April as planned. I watch baby shows, I come on here, I am getting invited to baby showers and dealing with announcements, its all very crazy! like right now I am dealing with 5 friends and their wee ones. ugh!

I just came back from an amazing weekend with one of my friends and found that I want to do more traveling and eating out, and I know that all that comes to an end if we are PG :(. So I can be selfish and wait or grow up and give in. decisions . . . decisions.

I was actually getting ready to ask that very quesiton. Is it possible to have baby fever and not want to have a baby?

My baby fever has been kicking my butt!!! But I know that right now is not a good time for us to try and that realistically we need to be waiting to next Sept at the earliest instead of this April as planned. I watch baby shows, I come on here, I am getting invited to baby showers and dealing with announcements, its all very crazy! like right now I am dealing with 5 friends and their wee ones. ugh!

I just came back from an amazing weekend with one of my friends and found that I want to do more traveling and eating out, and I know that all that comes to an end if we are PG :(. So I can be selfish and wait or grow up and give in. decisions . . . decisions.

I am new to this site, primarily because I've been hit with a hard case of baby fever. Shockingly, I've never wanted kids before. Actually vowed that I would never have them. I'd get really angry when people would tell me I would "change my mind". And of course, as much as I hate to admit...I think I have.Â

I'm still on the line though. All my friends (literally, all 8 of my closest friends) have had/will be having babies. I see all of them so happy with their newborns, and I think "I can do that", but the fear is overwhelming. Fear of pregnancy, labor, being a mother....It's all so scary.Â

I'm 23, and I know I have some time before I should worry about this. But it's everywhere..babies, babies, and more babies. I want one now, but I know it isn't a good time for me and my boyfriend (we are planning on getting married, but idk how long that will take). I am just very confused, and talking to him just ran around in circles. I 'm kind of stuck, and wonder if I'm going crazy!Â

I am new to this site, primarily because I've been hit with a hard case of baby fever. Shockingly, I've never wanted kids before. Actually vowed that I would never have them. I'd get really angry when people would tell me I would "change my mind". And of course, as much as I hate to admit...I think I have.Â

I'm still on the line though. All my friends (literally, all 8 of my closest friends) have had/will be having babies. I see all of them so happy with their newborns, and I think "I can do that", but the fear is overwhelming. Fear of pregnancy, labor, being a mother....It's all so scary.Â

I'm 23, and I know I have some time before I should worry about this. But it's everywhere..babies, babies, and more babies. I want one now, but I know it isn't a good time for me and my boyfriend (we are planning on getting married, but idk how long that will take). I am just very confused, and talking to him just ran around in circles. I 'm kind of stuck, and wonder if I'm going crazy!Â

my dh have a 3yr dd and have wanted to have #2 for a long time.we actually tried for 2 months but decided that as much as we want another we needed to get into a bigger place. I have baby fever and would LOVE another but I can not convince myself that we are ready. I even started taking birth control again. it is a confusing mess in my head right now

my dh have a 3yr dd and have wanted to have #2 for a long time.we actually tried for 2 months but decided that as much as we want another we needed to get into a bigger place. I have baby fever and would LOVE another but I can not convince myself that we are ready. I even started taking birth control again. it is a confusing mess in my head right now

CoolCat - i was the same exact way. "not now, not ever, stop asking". I have always been career driven, said I wanted a house not a home, etc. I was hit HARD this past summer at my lil sis' wedding. We were at the after party surrounded by family, young and old, when the good 'ol clock started ringing. That was this past June. We're waiting until April 2012.
I still have doubts about it - what if I'm not the 'mom' type? What about my career? Did I seriously waste my time on a grad degree if I'm not going to use it? It goes on and on... But when I think about not trying it breaks my heart. Hat's how I know its the right thing for us. DH also confessed the other day that he had serious doubts about our relationship (pre-marriage) because of my 'no kid' attitude - yikes!!

CoolCat - i was the same exact way. "not now, not ever, stop asking". I have always been career driven, said I wanted a house not a home, etc. I was hit HARD this past summer at my lil sis' wedding. We were at the after party surrounded by family, young and old, when the good 'ol clock started ringing. That was this past June. We're waiting until April 2012.
I still have doubts about it - what if I'm not the 'mom' type? What about my career? Did I seriously waste my time on a grad degree if I'm not going to use it? It goes on and on... But when I think about not trying it breaks my heart. Hat's how I know its the right thing for us. DH also confessed the other day that he had serious doubts about our relationship (pre-marriage) because of my 'no kid' attitude - yikes!!

I totally understand where you're coming from. I've been off BC for two years and my husband had been very hesitant about working on baby number two and about 4 months ago, he decided that we should start. And it seems that since he said that, I've been having second thoughts about this whole thing. I finally lost all my baby weight and my daughter is now 4 years old. My sister in law recently had a baby and so did 3 of my friends. I really have the baby fever at its highest but I also catch myself having second thoughts about having another baby. So don't feel alone on this one because I'm on the same boat.

I totally understand where you're coming from. I've been off BC for two years and my husband had been very hesitant about working on baby number two and about 4 months ago, he decided that we should start. And it seems that since he said that, I've been having second thoughts about this whole thing. I finally lost all my baby weight and my daughter is now 4 years old. My sister in law recently had a baby and so did 3 of my friends. I really have the baby fever at its highest but I also catch myself having second thoughts about having another baby. So don't feel alone on this one because I'm on the same boat.

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