About two years ago I met this guy at my friend’s wedding. We got along well and started dating. I was 24, and he was 23.

I fell in love right away, but we gave it some time. After half a year we decided to commit to a serious relationship. We were both always supportive and caring for each other, no matter what.

After he went abroad for an internship, we started to have problems. It was mostly me being jealous of other girls and the way he treats me whenever I made it clear that I didn’t like what’s happening.

After coming back( where he tried and put effort into making things work again) he started his university in another city, one hour away train.

It’s been like this for almost a year now. At first, things worked(even if we had fights, etc.) he made it clear that he loves me and loves to be around me and also misses me when I’m not with him, or when he can’t visit)

But the last few months were not so good. He said that he needed to focus on his exams and that he might not have much time for me. ( some exams he failed, and blamed me for wanting to have attention, or for wanting to “argue” or “fight”). I respected that and said to myself that he loves me and that I need to be patient with him and supportive.

But whenever we talked, he was cold. When we had to, unfortunately, argue he sometimes hung up in my face, he didn’t even text me properly anymore or call me. ( at that time I was going through a very hard time, and when I told him about it, he didn’t even care to ask once about me)

After that, we met again, and he said that he is not sure about anything in his life anymore and that things with us don’t seem to work, that he is better off pursuing his career without me. But he also said that he can’t let me go and that he wants to try to make it work again. I always thought, that he might have met someone else, or that he cheated because I didn’t even visit him during those few months and he also made it clear, that he doesn’t want to see me.

Both of our families are very traditional so the fact that he said he sees a future in me (and that I am the love of his life), made me believe, that we will have a future too. But his actions did not show that what so ever. Besides, he is very cold to me in texting, and whenever I want to talk about this subject, he always says “he is not the romantic type” even though in the beginning he was.

He said that I annoy him. And that things are not fun with me anymore. He feels that’s everything I say is just a start for arguments.

Does he still have any feelings for me? Did he cheat? Does he want to try it again? Or does he not have the courage to break up with me.

It looks like your boyfriend could not make up his mind. There is a possibility he is maybe cheating, but that will be the last thing that would be convincing. I pictured your story and in my opinion, if your boyfriend, with just such, can be handled situations, has a roller coaster decisions, then I would not last with him.

What if you’re both in a much bigger responsibility? And he starts reacting as he wants and not want. That can bother you more often and distract your daily routine to a successful suppose from being life.

I believe he LOVES you. However, I can also see he is not matured enough to handle new things that affect his WHAT HE REALLY WANTS. And for me, that is not GOOD.

You are still young, and a MAN should be the one to often comfort and support the woman he loves. Not the other way around. It will be hard for you to decide as LOVE is magic. But you also need to think of the future. And ask yourself. IS THIS THE MAN I WOULD LIKE TO BE FOREVER WITH? Can I HANDLE THIS KIND OF SCENARIO all my life?