I am currently trying to establish an effective framework along with a series of rules/guidelines and protocols for my submissive, as to this date I have yet to do so, for which I have no excuse. We are working together and have a few small ones in place but really want clearly defined ones as she lacks direction and feels lost sometimes.

Development in that she identifies as a little and submissive is interesting as I want to nurture and develop both without causing internal conflict.

Working together with your sub is the key here, she will be able to let you know what will work for her to help her with not feeling lost, no-one outside your dynamic will have this information. As for rules, make sure you and your sub are both onboard with them and they are able to be followed. Rules with a terms like “everyday at, always, ect” usually are setting you and your sub up for failure, life has a way of getting in the way at times and doesn’t care if she has to do something at a specific time because its a rule. The more rules you have in place the more work you will have monitoring them, consistency is the key if she craves structure. For me, all my rules can be followed no matter where we are and no matter who we are with, they all also benefit our relationship and are not there just to have rules.

I hope you find something in this post useful, I look forward to learning more about your dynamic and watching it grow.

Our rules are very simple and straight forward. Submissive is to speak to Dominant in a respectful manner, submissive is not to open any doors when in the presence of Dominant, submissive is not to order when eating out with Dominant. We have a few others but these are the ones used around other people.