What's your favorite aspect of your BDSM relationship/lifestyle? What do you get out of it, what drew you to it, ect?

I'm very partial to the domestic servitude aspect. I like to serve. Although it's not sexual in anyway, I still get a thrill, and it ensures that I'. wet and ready pretty much 100% of the time. I've always been drawn to the idea of the 1950's household; the stay at home mother, with home-made meals ready when their husband got home, having loads of time to spend with the kids and clean. My family wasn't that way, but I love it. Hopefully Master and I can continue to do this, financially speaking.

I also love the idea of the 'old charmer' so to speak. The strong, charming, quick witted man, that oozes self confidence and knows how to treat a woman like a lady. Master's always been very charming and strong, now he just knows I like it. He opens the door for me when we goes places, and orders my meals when we go out to dinner. It's hard to find anyone like that anymore. Maybe I just got lucky.

I think it's funny how the things I see as servitude and not normal in current days, are the things that my grandmother grew up doing and her mother before that. It just shows you how times change. I guess I'm just old fashioned. I get a thrill out of it though, as I'm sure they did not. I guess I'm just some-what old fashioned.

Of course, I love the sexual things too. I'm a dirty dirty puppet.

I've been waiting for so long. I've been hoping your love's not gone. Houses are sliding in the mud, rivers are raging in your blood.

Im extremely drawn to "alpha" males. The dominance/submission part of it is probably the biggest turn on for me I think, while S/M and pain is nice too in moderate amounts. However, for me the S/M aspect really just kind of exists to emphasize the D/S.. If you understand what I mean?

"I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength,
who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness,
who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman."
- AnaÃ¯s Nin

whoa, whoa, I am in no way attracted to older men
Anything greater than 5 years would not be right for me

hmmm my favorite thing... I just love being used!!
I'm a pretty headstrong girl. Hot-tempered and vicious, but its lovely being able to submit to my master. Sometimes its fun to do a little play fighting, but in the end I just want to serve! And then be pampered like a spoiled pet

What's your favorite aspect of your BDSM relationship/lifestyle? What do you get out of it, what drew you to it, ect?

I think it's funny how the things I see as servitude and not normal in current days, are the things that my grandmother grew up doing and her mother before that. It just shows you how times change. I guess I'm just old fashioned. I get a thrill out of it though, as I'm sure they did not. I guess I'm just some-what old fashioned.

Of course, I love the sexual things too. I'm a dirty dirty puppet.

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The difference, Sate, is that you have the choice to pursue that lifestyle. Your grandmother didn't. Depending on how she was raised, it probably never occurred to her that she could have done something else. We're lucky to live in a period where choice is really possible for most people.

"We hurt the ones we love the most. It's a subtle form of compliment."

The difference, Sate, is that you have the choice to pursue that lifestyle. Your grandmother didn't. Depending on how she was raised, it probably never occurred to her that she could have done something else. We're lucky to live in a period where choice is really possible for most people.

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I agree. I would be miserable if I was forced to live this way. I couldn't imagine not being able to choose. We have so many opportunities now and options. Think goodness for the feminist movement. heh.

I've been waiting for so long. I've been hoping your love's not gone. Houses are sliding in the mud, rivers are raging in your blood.

I'm like 18, I dont even think I could relate to someone that much older than me

I wouldn't want to date someone who could be my dad lol

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I've always been generally attracted to older, successful men. By older I don't mean anyone that could have spawn me, though. heh. Master's 9 years older than me, although you couldn't really tell by looking at him.

I've always been much more mature than my peers. I suppose that's why I get along with adults more so than people my age. And yes, I still consider myself a kid, well a teenager, I guess.

I've been waiting for so long. I've been hoping your love's not gone. Houses are sliding in the mud, rivers are raging in your blood.

I enjoy older men too... My dom, who recently broke my heart, was 7 years older than me.. im 23 and he was 30.. and it was great while it lasted... I think dominance/submissiveness can come in all ages, however it's those that embrace being a sub/dom who get the most enjoyment out of it and appear to have more dominance/submissiveness than others.

Like I said, get along and want to date are different things lol
Most of my problems are teen related. Like my mom wont let me stay out or I have to babysit my sister when I want to chill with friends. An older boyfriend would have to pay bills, or problems getting a job or with a boss. I cant relate to that, I dont live in my own house or apartment. It just wouldn't match up for me. Its not that I'm not mature! I can be mature, its just not very fun. Maybe I'll feel okay with it when I'm 30 and age differences have less meaning

19, right sate? Facebook has taught me all the joys of creeping on public profiles
You're probably going to be 20 soon!! Leaving the teen years behind forever

Like I said, get along and want to date are different things lol
Most of my problems are teen related. Like my mom wont let me stay out or I have to babysit my sister when I want to chill with friends. An older boyfriend would have to pay bills, or problems getting a job or with a boss. I cant relate to that, I dont live in my own house or apartment. It just wouldn't match up for me. Its not that I'm not mature! I can be mature, its just not very fun. Maybe I'll feel okay with it when I'm 30 and age differences have less meaning

19, right sate? Facebook has taught me all the joys of creeping on public profiles
You're probably going to be 20 soon!! Leaving the teen years behind forever

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You're correct, 20 in October! =)

I can understand that. Really, I think in order to date someone older than you when you're 18/19 you have to want something different than most. I never wanted to 'party' or stay out all the time, and really my parents wouldn't had let me anyhow. I was a tad bit oppressed. hah. But, I did know that I wanted a family, so I lost nothing in getting married. I actually probably get to do a lot more now than I did at home. But like I said, you have to want something different than the norm, hinse why we chose to have a baby. How many 18 year olds do you know who want a baby?

I do think that some of my wills are actually related to my interest in domestic servitude. Like I said above, I like the idea of a stay at home wife/mother, and that's something I've always been interested in. Maybe that played a role in things as well. And of course, I always love being Master's 'teenage slut', from time to time.

Also, there are bonuses to being with Master specifically; I don't have to work because he has a good job, he was able to help me with all things related to college since he's already completed his college and I am going to that college as well. I don't have to worry about bills and things, because he takes care of that. I really only have to worry about taking care of our son while Master is at work and keeping the house clean and well stock with whatever it is that we need. When school starts back I'll also have to be concerned with that. In some ways it's like I get to stay a kid forever I suppose. Don't get me wrong, I still worry about things that Master takes care of normally, but that's just out of my nature. I've always been a worrier, unfortunately.

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I've been waiting for so long. I've been hoping your love's not gone. Houses are sliding in the mud, rivers are raging in your blood.