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I got a feeling i might be pregnant! Should i keep it or not?

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Let me start off by saying i really dont believe in abortion. Me and my suspected babys father are together and plan on getting married in the future. Im working part-time and about to graduate from college and he is unemployed and has been for a year but has been getting good job. My biggest concern is my family options and if we would ever be financially stabled. I REALLY NEED YOUR OPTIONS PEOPLE!

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I know people who have had abortions and I know an adopted baby boy that is the same age as my daughter. He is so amazingly wonderful and funny that it's crazy to think that if his mom decided not to chose adoption, he would never have had the chance to grow up with his loving adoptive parents. He brings a lot of joy into their lives and he gets a lot of love. Raising a child is tough, no doubt, but I know you would not regret your child. Even if you decide you don't want to do it, remember there are many people out there who are waiting to do it, and you would not end up regretting that choice either, knowing it was the right thing to do. I'm afraid if you chose abortion you would someday look back on that decision with regret and pain, knowing what could have been, as some of my family members have. In fact, my daughter was suppose to have a cousin only 2 months younger than herself, but my sister-in-law chose abortion. At family I always think of how that baby is missing.

I wanted to abort my daughter. I was fifteen and I had no idea how I would do it. My mom wouldn't let me do it and here she is, almost five years later. She is the most beautiful, inspiring, most precious gift I have ever gotten. It's been a tough road but I'm doing it. Remember: THERE IS HELP! Thank GOD I have my daughter.

I completely agree with PP- If you are not ready for a baby- consider adoption! My mom was adopted and if it hadn't been for the generosity of her birth mother I wouldn't be here:) I had a surprise pregnancy two years ago and I am very against abortion, but I was so upset that I could understand what a difficult choice that is to make...9 mo. later I have a BEAUTIFUL baby girl that I love and cherish!

Abortion is a permanent decision that you can never ever take back. If you decide to continue with the pregnancy, it will give you time to decide whether to parent or to let a couple adopt your baby. You don't have to make adoption-related decisions right away. Some women give parenting a try for a few months to see if they can make things work. If parenting turns out to be more than you can handle, then there will still be LOTS of couples that would want to adopt your baby. A few things to keep in mind:
1) If you choose adoption, YOU will select the family for your baby
2) If you choose adoption, you will NOT be responsible for any of the associated costs
3) Most couples are happy to provide financial support during your pregnancy
4) You can choose whether it is open, semi-open, or closed
5) If you choose adoption, you will be giving another the most amazing blessing
Check out http://www.courageouschoice.com/is-this-for-you.html for more information about adoption.
Good luck.

Check into assistance...you could still make it work as far as parenting whether BF is there or not..... The thing you need to ask yourself is if you can live with the decision you make in 1 year, 10 years, 20 years....There are lots of adoptive families that would LOVE to have an infant to raise as their own...can you let go though...potentially permanently? What does the baby's daddy say? Maybe he would step up more if you let him know you're concerned about long term finances and the ability to provide. Check with the state you're in....prepare details of both your finances and get the overall picture of what is available. Some states have insurance for people under certain levels of poverty when OB/child related, some have food programs, WIC is generally available in most states, and then there is the possibility that both you and the father will get good jobs and your financial situation will change. If you got married...would your tax,cost of living, etc...change?

keep the baby. if you truly are against abortion. and dont let money or worries get in the way of deciding on keeping ur little one. because things always get better. even if you go through hard times and struggle things always turn around.

A baby is a precious gift from God.God knows what will happen ,he will never let you down.you may never know what tomorrow will bring you .So please let that pecious little thing grow inside you,abortion is not a good option.

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