As workers and citizens, we are partially responsible for allowing leaders to ignore their responsibilities to us. As Americans, we are called to define the scope of our leaders’ responsibility, the criteria they need to meet in order to be allowed to lead us, and the values they must demonstrate to earn our loyalty.

This is especially important to remember this Memorial Day week. We mustn't wait for November. Many decisions critical to our economy, civil rights, healthcare, and democracy must be made in the coming months.

A budget is a moral document

We must start evaluating and asking more of the leaders in our own lives, businesses, and in the nation today.

"Thus have I, fellow citizens, executed the tasks I had assigned myself" as he offered his arguments in favor of the Constitution.

Hamilton also said that our leaders "must be controlled by the reason of the people." (Federalist Paper 50) The reason of the people can reshape leadership by clearly and constructively evaluating our leaders’ efforts and results.

Is your leader:

Strong and fair?

Caring and empowering of others?

Informed, wise, and balanced in their decision-making?

At the Humane Leadership Institute, we’ve created a tool to help you evaluate your leader’s performance and how well your leader embodies your values. Find the Evaluating Your Leader Wisdom Jig on our website.

First, get curious about your needs and your leaders’ needs:

How could your leader better meet your needs?

What personal or professional needs is your leader trying to meet for themselves?

Do those aligned with your shared values?

What might you do to find overlap and build alignment around shared needs and values?

What can you ask your leader to do to meet your needs and values?

Once you are clear about your leader's performance and lived values, you can begin designing improvements to your leader's behavior. This is the tricky part: requesting changes. The goal is to have a discussion about how to better meet the needs of everyone involved. This can happen naturally in the course of conversation, in your own performance review meeting, on internal chat boards or social media, in an intervention, or even as an ultimatum.

If you've designed changes and are waiting for the right moment to share them, you have already empowered yourself in the tradition of Alexander Hamilton. Self leadership at this level is available to every one of us. As you work through this process, your empowerment and self leadership skills will grow. Your leader will either grow to better meet your needs or you will find yourself a better leader.

Of course, you needn't do anything at all. But quietly following leaders who do not meet our own standards has brought us to this moment– a moment that has cost us many lives, jobs, hopes, and opportunities.

My hope this Memorial Day is that you and many others around you will take up this work of evaluating our leaders. By clarifying and speaking our needs and values, we will lead ourselves into a new era of more responsive, responsible leadership. That would be a fitting tribute to all those who sacrificed to defend our shared ideals of liberty and justice for all.

Hooray and dismay.

In reclaiming her own integrity and future by resigning, a Florida teacher in the Orange County Public Schools (OCPS) made a powerful statement about our need to stop following leadership that doesn’t know how to lead. The teacher wrote:

“Florida’s startling attrition rate of 40% for educators [in the first] five years [of teaching] …. means my woes are shared by many. “OCPS Means Success” doesn’t mean squat if those measuring the success only recognize a specific brand of success, and continue to ignore the needs of their educators and students.”

Managers who fail to meet our basic human needs while hiding behind standards and data, have not earned the right to lead us. The current leadership structure may have role-based authority but they also must earn the trust and influence required to lead us. Of course, some educational leaders are doing great work at the nearly impossible task of meeting the changing needs of children, society and the imposed standards, but, clearly others are not meeting the needs of teachers and students.