Which doesn’t mean I am in favor of wife swapping (At least SHE isn’t) but it does mean that a variety of positions, toys, fantasies and environment is required to keep me interested. How about you?

When we have a favorite sex position; one that always makes us climax, we tend to gravitate to that almost routinely. Like a fine wine or your favorite restaurant, you know you can always expect a smooth finish or your favorite meal.

When it comes to lovemaking, our favorite position is one that is comfortable, is pleasurable to both partners and the orgasm or multiple orgasm, is not a question of if, but when.

If you have been with your partner for more than a few years, it may be time to explore, fantasize and create some NEW positions that will expand your creativity, pleasure and sense of something new…get that variety you seek!

When we have a relationship that is stale or routine, our minds and our bodies respond in kind. It is only through the pursuit of challenges, new adventures, and an exploration of the unknown when our lives feel fulfilled and worthwhile.

Take your next interlude and really try something fresh and new. Go ahead and push WAY past your comfort zone. You may step on her toes (Figuratively or literally) and share an embarrassing moment, but it will be those moments that will create some laughs, some fun and a sense of “dating” again.

When we date and learn all the nuances of our partner, it is the discovery of her favorite color, how long it takes her to get dressed and what makes her cum that makes us happy. When we go through the process of discovery, it creates a feeling of “newness” and playful exploration that is pleasurable. After you have experimented with a dozen or so positions, it is time to graduate to a higher level of physical pleasure.

The more open you are to talking about sex, trying new things and wrestling with holding her legs up in the air while you stand on your tippee toes, the more fun you are going to have. Professional lovers, of course, know that the absolute best manual for experimenting with positions is the kama sutra.

There are dozens of variations of this manual and I have previewed over a dozen different copies. If you are serious about creating an intimacy and euphoria that is “off the chart” then get your copy of the Kama Sutra by clicking here.You won’t be disappointed, although you may wear yourself out!

That is what got you two together in the first place, why not do it again?

For more ideas on creating the trophy wife of your dreams with the one you have, check out my book, “Make Your Wife Hot.” You have a FULL money back guarantee, although if you apply even 1 of the dozens of strategies in the book, you will end up like all of my readers…sore and smiling.

Most people consider the idea of sex to be a manifestation of the intangible feelings of love. The angels sing, the fireworks begin and feelings of euphoria abound. Sex and love are inexorably intertwined. There are more songs and books written about love than any other topic. However, the topic of sex being used for medicinal purposes is summarily avoided.

Not anymore.

For the past 3 months I have been diligently been writing a full length book. Ask anyone who has written one; it takes the patience of Job, the stamina of an Olympic athlete and the creativity of Walt Disney to complete a book. In short…it’s tough!

What makes it even more difficult is the amount of time writing, re-writing, adding and editing. There are dozens of ways to say one thing. Which way is best? What does this have to do with sex, love and marriage.

Everything.

The stress of making a living, tackling a big project or striving towards a lofty goal can take its toll on anyone. The bigger the goal or project, the more stress an individual may feel. While sex is designed to make babies and express love, medically it can be a tremendous reliever of stress! Don’t believe me? Here is a quote from Columbia University’s Center for Health:

“Endorphins are a group of substances formed within the body that naturally relieve pain. They have a similar chemical structure to morphine. In addition to their analgesic, or pain-relieving, effect, endorphins are thought to be involved in controlling the body’s response to stress, regulating contractions of the intestinal wall, and determining mood. They may also regulate the release of hormones from the pituitary gland, notably growth hormone and the gonadotropin hormones.

Some researchers have learned that strenuous exercise releases endorphins into the blood stream. Others have found that endorphins are released during orgasm, as well as during laughter. Endorphin release may occur with frequent sex and masturbation.”

The bottom line is that sex (I will leave masturbation out of the conversation for now) is a DEFINITE stress reliever. Massages are nice. Exercising is important, but nothing beats the endorphin rush of a great orgasm. Hell, even a mediocre orgasm will take the edge off an otherwise stressful day.

Last week as I was putting in a long 14 hour day, my wife came in with that “look” in her eye and closed and locked my door. As it turns out, we BOTH needed to take the edge off. She didn’t talk about foreplay. She didn’t ask me a single question about “how its going?” or other irrelevant conversation. She looked at me and without saying a word, stripped off my clothes and went down on me.

It didn’t matter that she would be late for an appointment. It didn’t concern me that the kids were in the next room. When I hiked her dress up and pushed her on the couch in my office, her climax was almost instant. By the time we moved to my desk for her 2nd round, she nearly slid off the glass top.

The next time your spouse shows signs of stress, tell them the doctor has a prescription for them…then lock the door and turn off the lights.

You wouldn’t race a VW bug in the Indy 500 and you wouldn’t drive your Mercedes coupe to pick up wood chips, so why do you think that all of your sex positions are designed for the same feeling? You have a wonderful arsenal of different positions for the three of you (That’s for me, her and us!) Moods, energy levels and a variety of desires can make your sex average to downright earth-shattering if you are in sync with all of the forces in play.

In this series of articles, we will explore a variety of sexual positions, their strengths, weaknesses, when they are best introduced and more importantly I’d like YOUR FEEDBACK on how they work, the pace you took and the results you had when exploring them. Come on…it’s time to share the love!

1. Missionary Of all the positions, guy on top, girl on bottom, this is a standard and favorite for you, her and the couple (Y,H,C). Here’s why: When a man is on top, he can thrust the penis. This is simply the way we were built. It works pretty well and the power, control and penetration is very satisfying for the man. For many women, however, clitoral stimulation is not optimized. Her vaginal stimulation is decent, but the REAL feeling she receives is that of being slammed. When a woman is being dominated (Meant with all due respect, of course) her feminine side is revealed. Women WANT a strong and powerful man to desire them. This need of being with a powerful man means that her offspring have a better chance of being successful. Sorry to make it so anthropological, but at the core of feelings, that is where it comes from.

Your pace and variety will be important here. Men who watch too much porn believe that having sex like a rabbit is the only way to go. If you vary your pace, frequency and rhythm of movement you add some variety to the session and you actually stimulate different nerve endings in yourself and your partner. Go ahead and slam it home like your a jack hammer. Just don’t forget to try a few slow and steady moves to add a little variety.

In order to give her a powerful orgasm with the missionary position, you’ll have to add some clitoral stimulation (over 70% of women orgasm with clitoral stimulation). Here are some ways to do that during sex in the missionary position.

1. Put a pillow under her rear. Get her body to curve upwards. This will bring your penis closer to the roof of her vagina and give you an opportunity to stimulate her G spot. Moreover, you can use your hand or fingers to stimulate the clitoris and bring her to orgasm when she is ready.

2. Get her to assist you. During pre-orgasm, gently glide her hand over to her clitoris to bring her to climax. By making this a true team effort, you’ll both be happier and more satisfied. If she is embarrassed to touch herself in front of you, you may have to take this maneuver in steps.

3. Toy assist. There are cock rings and smaller vibrators than can fit nicely around her clitoral region during sex. Be sure to buy 2 or more of these at a time. Your chances of getting the perfect appliance that works for the two of you is rare. It unlikely that if she already has a toy, that it’ll work for the two of you. Most women who pack a vibrator friend use it while on their back WITHOUT you around. Introducing your body on top when her “friend” is working won’t be the same. With a new position, comes a new appliance. Variety is the SPICE of life!

We’ll cover more positions from now until the holidays. Be sure to check in every day, leave your comments and pick up a copy of my FREE ebook, the 4 minute rolling orgasm by registering on the right side of my blog.

I confess that I have never, ever actually watched a complete pornographic movie. Oh sure, I’ve put a few movies on and the wife and I have used the imagery and titillation to arouse the mood. But we never watched the entire movie…sorry about the ridiculousness of it, but there isn’t much difference from the first 10 mintues to the last!

But, seriously, has there ever been an ‘artistic’ movie around sex?

Sure, Doug…”9 1/2 weeks” “Gone with the Wind” and…uhm…Screech! Wait. I said SEX not ROMANCE!

You see, artistic sex is a lost art in the United States. Our microwave society has generated a new breed of instant gratification when it comes to everything including fast food, lottery millionaires and love on demand.

Artistic sex reminds me of a symphony. When two people go at it like dogs they are procreating. Nothing wrong with that if you want to make puppies. But a true artful lover enjoys the warm up, the dance, the fast interlude, the steady and slow pacing and the cymbal crash at the end of the song. Artful lovemaking always reminds me of classical music with its depth, variety of pace, rhythm, crescendos, frequency and amplitude. Listening to good classical music is actually terrific training for becoming and artistic lover.

If you are into rap music, then all the skills you need are available for $4.99 per download. Bang like animals and enjoy your repetitive boredom of sameness.

Don’t be embarrassed by the fact that 90% of us usually have sex in the same 2 or 3 positions. Heck, we know what creates an orgasm for our partner and ourselves. After a few years, however, don’t you want to try something new?

I don’t mean JUST a new position. You can get any number of the kama sutra positions from this blog and our new edition of www.makeyourwifehot.com coming out next year. (Complete with tasteful images for you and your spouse) You spouse will be thrilled that you consider more than just a new position. Your assignment is to create a new experience!

A good start is the book “500 Lovemaking Secrets” by Michael Webb. Michael has been featured on Oprah, CBS, NBC and dozens of other magazines and media. His advice is solid and he has a wealth of details he reveals in this book.

So don’t settle for simply a new toy, gizmo, position or underwear. Create a new experience that can transform not only your sex life, but your love life as well. Who knows, somebody should be writing that tasteful sexual movie one day…why not you!

To order Michael Webb’s “500 Lovemaking Secrets” simply click here. There is a money back guarantee, so you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!