Category: Hypergamy

When I younger, I really enjoyed the science fiction video game Mass Effect. The game had a great story that made you really feel as if you were a part of a great interstellar adventure. Back then I was completely onboard with buying any BioWare game due to their quality of storytelling; another example of their mastery was developing Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic in 2003. BioWare has a reputation for bringing quality video games to the masses.

I lost track of what BioWare has been up to in the past four or five years, so it took me off guard when I heard that Bioware was just about to release their fourth installment called Mass Effect: Andromeda. Immediately upon the release, a wave of memes flooded the internet of the games terrible facial animations. Looking further, there was a substantial uproar leading to the release of BioWare purposely making their female characters look ugly. I’ve heard rumblings of the uptick of feminists going after a male-dominated industry of video games, by protesting the sexualization of women in them. With Mass Effect: Andromeda it appears their concerns have been heard. Yes, BioWare, once a great developer capitulated to the need to placate a small but vocal minority of women, who probably don’t even play the game.

Left – Jayde Rossi, actress who gave her likeness to female protagonist of Mass Effect Andromeda.Right – the final result from Bioware pic.twitter.com/UtUDlDJ9Om

In contrast, the male character looks very close to the actual male model he portrays:

I can see how this is also a non-story. After all, BioWare is completely free to make their characters however they want. It’s up to the customer to embrace or reject this. Purposely making their female characters ugly to raise the flag of feminism and PC culture is their prerogative. Honestly, I wasn’t distraught at all by this, especially as hypergamy and the Female Imperative are so prevalent at this time, this is a minor drop in the ocean that is the encroachment of feminism in male spaces (video games). I think most of my readers are well inoculated to this fact, so I don’t want to bore you.

This isn’t new, remember, hypergamy dictates that the female sexual strategy has to be prevalent above males. In this sense, video games, women sexualized or rendered in a way that is more beautiful than they hope to conceive is a threat to optimizing their hypergamy. In layman’s terms optimizing hypergamy is shaming men for their objective standard of wanting a woman to be beautiful and fertile so they can better control the sexual marketplace. In essence, they would rather you be thanking your lucky stars for committing to an overweight woman with Dorito dust in her cleavage than being attracted to thin, beautiful women.

Giving Up

There is a lesson somewhere in all this. I believe it’s the idea of capitulation; the idea of simply giving up in the pursuit of an amazing story to please a small group of individuals who want to force you to support their twisted worldview. We’ve been here before, and we’ve seen it time and time again, a once great series or character is twisted from its original intention to placate PC culture, and otherwise destroying everything meaningful about it. A good story doesn’t care about the need to soothe the fears of a toothless enemy in the real world. A good fictional story is meant to take us to another dimension, another place in the universe, and to show us conflict and resolution. A good story is destroyed when it has to go out of its way to shove a false ideal into its viewer’s face. It’s distracting, and people know when they are being played.

When BioWare and other storytellers purposely make their characters ugly to please a small group of people, they’re not being noble, they’re being mediocre. They are willingly embracing the sub-standard and saying it’s beautiful. When storytellers do this, you know it’s the beginning of the end. They’re no longer qualified as storytellers, because they have to lie to us, the viewer, to please the non-viewer. When as individuals, we give up and embrace mediocrity and the plain, we’re no different than the storytellers who do the same.

My husband has a life that many people who are “rule-followers,” like me, would envy. When I first met him, it was undeniably a passionate love affair. I’d never dated anyone or known anyone like him before. He took risks, lived all over the world, had many passions and has been a loyal friend. He’s seven years older than I am, and we met at work, where his power and seniority at the office was insanely attractive to me. The year we got married, he wanted to take a risk and go back to graduate school to find his dream job. I trusted his judgment, and between his savings, my new job, and some sacrifices, we comfortably lived while he went through two years of graduate school. My husband now has his dream job. I’m proud of everything he’s accomplished and what we were able to do together to make it happen.

Over the past four years, my career has skyrocketed in ways I never could have dreamed of. I’ve broken through the hypothetical glass ceiling in a male-dominated industry. I am a huge believer in women in the workplace and always will be. If they become the breadwinners in marriage, more power to them.

Now herein lies my problem — I became the breadwinner in an extreme way. I committed to supporting us for two years, but we’re going on four now, and it will likely be five. Our income divide is so extreme that I pay for 90 percent of our living expenses. What I’ve found is I can’t live this girl-power lifestyle that I believe in.

I’m very close to a breaking point, and I never stop thinking about leaving my husband. And no matter what other reasons I come up with, it always leads back to money, power and sexual attraction

When we talk about the rules of the sexual marketplace, we’re not talking about a place where the rules of engagement are blurry. They are right there in your face, and they are very constant. This woman, like so many others, disregarded the rules of biomechanics in exchange for the false-song of feminism, only to be completely distraught at the current state of her marriage.

I don’t blame the woman entirely in this letter. If her husband had been aware of his SMV and how his “dream job” was a lowering of his SMV, then their positions would have been reversed. At this point, the idea that feminism is a realistic way to center your marriage on is a sure sign of an impending divorce.

The more men realize that their SMV is determined on their superiority the more marriages will be saved, and the happier women will be.

There is a growing trend in the movie industry of the heroine which is contrasted to the older trend of the hero. It’s an appeal to the blue pill experience that says women are the only true holders of virtue, while men are usually the disorderly and unvirtuous. If you have a problem, only a women has the tact and discipline to solve it.

Unfortunately, that idea is not true in the slightest in reality. On moral conditions alone, the assertion that women have a greater semblance of morality or what we call right and wrong is only if the surrounding environment strictly enforces it into her subconscious.

The same is true when it comes to limiting hypergamy, and as others would say, limiting the degradation of morals. Hypergamy is limited only if the surrounding environment enforces it’s limitation. Much of the social conflict in the West is a byproduct of the slow ease of this limitation, so that in layman’s terms: women can fuck freely. Any time you hear of most feminist tropes today it revolves on the idea that women should be able to fuck whoever they want, whenever they want, while their at that stage in their life (Alpha Fucks). The other side of the coin is that men should commit to them whenever they deem commitment a worthwhile sexual strategy (Beta Bucks). Both are paradoxical at the same time, but they both make up the same sexual strategy of women.

The optimization of this strategy flies in the face of men’s expectations, traditions, and beliefs. When we encounter the idea that women are simply optimizing their hypergamy it’s a real tough pill to swallow. Sometimes it takes a gigantic punch to the gut to realize it’s truth, and sometimes this punch comes in the worst way.

Watch the following video to get a better idea of a man’s whole world crashing in on him:

“18 fucking years, gone!!”

That’s the sound of a man realizing that his wife doesn’t care that they were married for 18 years. That’s the sound of a man that is realizing that any expectations he had of faithful marriage doesn’t matter as long as her hypergamy is optimized by being able to fuck Chad.

As Rollo would say, “Hypergamy doesn’t care.”

It really doesn’t. Every man should be aware that hypergamy isn’t some sort of villain, it’s a byproduct of pragmatism. Without hypergamy we wouldn’t be here as a human species today. At the same time, our expectations of women in keeping their hypergamy in check is a dubious one at best. Women are told to optimize their hypergamy constantly, and anyone getting in the way of that is a woman-hater. Damn your marriage vows.

Many of us that have taken the red pill have experienced something like this or even worse. This is the rough side of the pill and I wish this man the best of luck. I hope he is able to find The Red Pill and realize things are not over for him, that he can re-invent himself without the wrong expectations of women.

A topic I believe that could use some expansion is the benefit of emotional control in a man’s life. When I say emotional control, I do not mean the suppression of emotions, but the proper display of them in a Red Pill context. This context serves as the foundation for emotional display, while also admitting that men have emotions and use them. The problem we have currently in an equalist definition of gender (while hypocritically catering to the feminine), is that displays of emotion more reserved for women are encouraged in men as well. Beta males jump on this opportunity to showcase their emotions as they still follow the social framework that women say what they mean. Any opportunity to showcase this perceived insight into the feminine, by believing what they say, and you have a whole culture of men trying to out e-mote one another. This is basic Red Pill: the incentive for men to display their emotions is the false belief they will be rewarded for their ability to understand, or communicate on an emotional level with women. The theory goes that like attracts like, that more feminine displays of emotion allows men to better relate to women, in another instance of the Beta asserting he’s different than those other assholes she regularly bemoans about.

In a Red Pill context most men already understand on a basic level that what she says does not correlate with what she means. This at first sounds illogical, and it would be under a perspective of a blue pill worldview. This worldview, as stated above, believes in an equalist definition of gender. If men believe women communicate overtly as men do, then men will also believe her when she says she deserves to know what he’s feeling. However, what the Red Pill teaches is that she doesn’t communicate overtly, but rather covertly. This serves as the bed rock for understanding more intricate levels of Red Pill thought including the need for emotional control.

While we would like to claim we’re complete rational agents it’s painfully obvious we’re still at the mercy of our emotions. They still serve a functional purpose and they’re something we’re not going to run away from. What I’m advocating is the proper display of emotion in a Red Pill context, as opposed to the display of emotion in a Blue Pill context. One seeks to ensure emotions are kept in check to continue the perception of a man who is invulnerable —who can handle the stress of everyday life, and if need be her shit as well. The other seeks to display emotions in the hope showing a sense of vulnerability will make him more in tune with what women say they want: a caring, compassionate, sensitive partner –not what they actually want.

Under a Red Pill context, emotional control seeks the line of ensuring that our emotions do not run away on us and ruin a perception of a man that is invulnerable. Again this is basic Red Pill: Women will never appreciate the stress, pain, sorrow, and difficulty it means to be a man. Not in a million years will they understand the sacrifice required to meet her egregious level of expectations whether that is the continual financial stability in a demanding job, nor the emotional support of her and her children. This is something she is biologically incapable of understanding, nor able to empathize in a way you would like. At the very least knowing this is simple pragmatism. There is no gain in rolling over and showing a sense of vulnerability in the hope she will appreciate it.

Hurricane

This sense of pragmatism in regards to emotional control serves as the foundation to how emotions should be expressed, and who to share them with. In my other post called Boy’s Don’t Cry, I dived in to the need to reign in emotions that destroy a sense of invulnerability. This perception plays into a woman’s hypergamous instinct of a man that is not manipulated by emotional terrorism, nor does he move simply because her emotions are unchecked. Regardless of how often women cry about men not sharing their feelings, this is not a call for one to vomit his most deepest struggles to her. Invariably, for all their crying about hard to read men, this is exactly the difference that attracts her to him. Less really is more, and it’s our differences that make men attractive, not our similarities. She needs to know that you are the wall that separates her willingness to lose control of her emotions, and your incessant drive to not give into them.

Any demand that you communicate with her by expressing your deepest feelings is simply a shit-test to get you to abandon your frame. Once you enter her frame you’ve lost control of the interaction, and she will lose respect. If she is in your frame then you’re free to poke at her emotional instability to get your desired results. This is why neg hits are so effective along with the idea of Amused Mastery. Any uncontrollable outburst from her is met with a knowing smirk that she’s not taken seriously, and her emotional outburst have little to no effect on your daily life. This bulwark is in direct contrast to the hurricane that is her instability, and reassures her that you’re a man that “gets it.”

There is a lot to talk about in regards to emotional control, and this post doesn’t do it justice. I purposely didn’t mention a specific emotion because of the impossibility of arguing one emotion is better than another. Every man has a different situational context when it comes to using a specific emotion. What is better is to mull over if expressing this particular emotion in a specific proportion will better contribute to a perception of strength and invulnerability, or will it do the opposite?

Like this:

The reason that women are both frightened and fascinated by the growth of the Red Pill is it’s threat to reveal the largely female dominant sexual strategy. The Red Pill is an evolutionary reaction on a meta-scale against a female dominant sexual strategy, fueled by feminist thought from the past 50 years.

A dominant sexual strategy is one that is agreed upon, subconsciously, by the general populace, on how the human species should reproduce.

It’s proof of the Red Pill’s unifying appeal, when men of different backgrounds, locations, status, and experiences, can come together on the internet to discuss their findings as to how they have attracted a particular woman. As these individual stories begin to accumulate, patterns emerge which form behavioral strategies. These commonalities and collective experiences, allow a consensus to be agreed upon in regards to the current state of intersexual dynamics. From this agreement, the Red Pill is born.

As of 2016, in Western society the female sexual strategy is dominant, and can be described in both short-term sexual strategy, and long-term sexual strategy, i.e: Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks. One thing to keep in mind, and I’ll quote Rollo Tomassi here:

The Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies:For one gender’s sexual strategy to succeed the other gender must compromise or abandon their own.

Alpha Fucks

Women inherently have pluralistic strategy in regards to mating. This strategy can be simplified to short-term, and long-term capacities. The short-term strategy is often expressed as Alpha Fucks, which pushes her to seek the highest quality male to gain the best genes for her children. Displays of Alpha characteristics in a man will set off arousal cues and is indicative of traits of social dominance, aggression, power, physicality, and other traits that are sexually arousing to women. It should be noted, that the term Alpha is a contentious one in The Red Pill, as there is no definitive definition as to what is an Alpha. Alpha is an abstract term, that changes according to the perceptions of each individual man.

Beta Bucks

The long-term strategy that women employ is called Beta Bucks. This strategy encourages her to seek out a partner that has an abundance of resources that she can use to provide for herself and her children. Personality traits of a Beta are indicative of validation seeking, one that supports her and her children both financially and emotionally. Beta partners have traits that are attractive to her, and should not be confused by sexually arousing, which explains Alpha traits.

The Male Experience

Each individual man will invariably have to navigate the Sexual Market Place. Some will find themselves gifted with a natural ability to successfully navigate this brutally competitive arena. Most will fall, bleed, doubt, suffer, and other-wise have to wrestle with exactly how they should successfully employ Game to attain their needs. At this present moment, the odds are stacked against most men who are raised inoculated to the Feminine Imperative. This same imperative that aggressively demands that men should abandon their strategy, to fulfill a woman’s sexual strategy, and be thankful while they’re at it. Anything less is outright misogyny. Anything acknowledging that the odds are not in a man’s favor, is a threat that needs to be squashed.

Before acknowledgment of a woman’s dualistic strategy is reached, men will have to come to terms either through pain or severe loss, as their own strategy that was approved by the Feminine Imperative crumbles in their hands. Why I’m so interested in writing this blog, is so men can have a second chance at seeing how their Blue Pill expectations on women really set them up for painful failure. Their story is like so many others: raised to serve the women around them by sacrificing their hopes and dreams in the hope that she will appreciate them. Only to be met by nothing more then her outright disdain.

At specific points in a woman’s lifetime, she is expecting different men that entail either Alpha or Beta traits. At 21, a woman’s sexual strategy is different then when she is at 31. At these different stages of a woman’s life, she will require a man that holds certain key traits to meet her sexual strategy of Alpha Fucks or Beta Bucks. What has been so damaging to relational equilibrium between the sexes is a now cultural desire to ensure that women’s sexual strategy is dominant. This assurance that women should have the dominant strategy is called Optimized Hypergamy, which materializes from individual women optimizing their hypergamy, which then extrapolates across communities to enforce laws and social norms to ensure that her sexual strategy is dominant. This can play out familiarly in a man’s life when at 18 you were so inclined to move to another state to goto the same college as your girlfriend. Only to have her dump you as she realizes she is entering a phase in her life where can use her most physically desirable years to seek an Alpha Fucks strategy. Years later at 30, this same women will notice as she ages that that Alpha Fucks strategy was a liability for her, as she seeks a man that will provide commitment to her. If her boyfriend balks at the idea of marriage he will be met with allegations of “commitment-phobic” and to “man-up” and do the right thing. Same woman, different key traits of men at different points in life, one dominant sexual strategy.

In the past, men either through social norms, religion, or laws limited a woman’s hypergamous tendencies. With the advent of the sexual revolution, and now entering 3rd wave feminism, most if not all these natural bulwarks against women optimizing hypergamy (and thus bringing more relational equilibrium) have all but been discarded.

The fallout is a sense of confusion and a desire for a correction. This is the Male Experience, as men are forced to reconcile that the same strategy of being Mr. Perfect has utterly failed them. While also acknowledging marriage in the 21st century is a risky proposition due to a cultural of unfettered hypergamy. This Experience accumulates in the Red Pill, which seeks to allow men to gain awareness of what women say they want, and what they actually want are two different things. It seeks to take off the veil of the “mysterious” nature of women, and acknowledge painful truths of how women love. Acknowledgment of these core truths will ultimately help men navigate the arena, and to reach a level of sanity as they struggle to wrestle with these uncomfortable truths.