Comments on: Pet Peeves: An Open Letter to “Pregnant” Dadshttp://www.harpyness.com/2009/03/07/pet-peeves-an-open-letter-to-pregnant-dads/
As narrated by the most charming and vicious women on the internetSun, 12 Jul 2015 20:00:14 +0000hourly1http://wordpress.org/?v=3.8.9By: Brigindohttp://www.harpyness.com/2009/03/07/pet-peeves-an-open-letter-to-pregnant-dads/comment-page-1/#comment-6997
Tue, 28 Apr 2009 01:54:19 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-6997Thanks for so elegantly addressing one of my biggest pet peeves!
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Sun, 26 Apr 2009 19:45:48 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-6889[...] Pet Peeves: An Open Letter to “Pregnant” Dads “This is not to say that we’re not super-grateful for your love and support and indulgence and foot-rubs during our pregnancies. We love you too. But we think it’s odd that you are acting like our reproductive systems are suddenly part of your own anatomy. We don’t recall you ever saying “we’re having our period” or “we have to get a pelvic exam.” Just because your zygotes created 50% of the child inside the uterus doesn’t make it your uterus too. So knock it off with the “we’re pregnant.” You are not. Please replace the offending phrase with something more accurate, for example: “We’re having a baby” or “My wife’s pregnant and we’re delighted” or, if you want to be all 1950s, “We’re expecting.” K? Thx.” [...]
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Sat, 14 Mar 2009 15:35:39 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-3781@BeckySharper: Yes, I meant ballistic. I guess I clicked the wrong word in my spell check

This is why I say you don’t understand what IVF means to many couples. You are acting like the man jerks off in a cup and goes about his own business while his wife suffers alone. Many times IVF is an emotional roller coaster for COUPLES because of infertility and other issues, they are going through this TOGETHER emotionally, and it means a lot to both of them when they finally get a positive response. Do yo think after years of trying to conceive and finally getting pregnant a wife is going to turn to her husband and say “I had to get poked with needles you didn’t, so don’t say we’re pregnant”? The emotional in these cases outweighs the physical and it seems you’re having a hard time understanding that.

I wonder how those saying “once again men are trying to take credit for women’s work” would feel with a partner in a lesbian couple saying this. Would they still find it offensive? Or do different rules apply?

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Fri, 13 Mar 2009 22:37:19 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-3762[...] Pet Peeves: An Open Letter to “Pregnant” Dads – Additionally, if your partner underwent the hell of IVF, with its rage- and depression-inducing hormones, frequent injections with huge horse needles and “egg retrieval” procedures so invasive they require general anesthesia, while you merely wanked into a cup, we strongly caution you never to say the offending phrase. [...]
]]>By: James' Dadhttp://www.harpyness.com/2009/03/07/pet-peeves-an-open-letter-to-pregnant-dads/comment-page-1/#comment-3742
Fri, 13 Mar 2009 16:06:27 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-3742I’ll agree with the “we’re pregnant” part of the rant, but we can sure as hell take care of our share of the work-life balance issues. Give us what credit you can spare.

If men don’t do their part there, that’s a lack of willingness, not a lack of ability.

It is not “couples” who suffer physically during IVF. Only the woman does. The man masturbates and puts sperm in a cup. The woman goes through rounds of frequent hormone injections, takes pills that induce depression, and undergo invasive procedures under anesthesia to remove the ova. And it’s the woman who suffers an increased risk of cancer, fibroids and other complications for the rest of her life because of IVF. It’s absolutely ridiculous to suggest that the man’s experience with IVF is the same.

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Thu, 12 Mar 2009 23:33:09 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-3705I think you ladies are reading way too much into this. I’ve never actually heard anyone say this I’ve only seen it on the internet and on tv, in the back of my head I think “she’s pregnant not you” but I’m not going to slam these men if they’re just trying to be more involved in the pregnancy.
And I think your comment about women going through IVF might shows how much you don’t know about the IVF process. Most of the time it is couples going through the trials, tribulations and possible infertility and you don’t know how much it affects their relationship. So when the IVF does prove successful I don’t think women are going to go basaltic on their partners for saying “We’re Pregnant” because of what they went through together to get there.
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Tue, 10 Mar 2009 23:31:14 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-3439[...] 6 – Rá! Adorei. [...]
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Tue, 10 Mar 2009 05:37:17 +0000http://www.harpyness.com/?p=2623#comment-3377@PhDork – I think you hit the nail on the head. It’s totally boob envy. Or in other words, a way to make up for feeling inadequate as a father compared to society’s (and fathers’ own) expectations of the mother. Which I get. It stems from the same wanting-to-share-the-pride-and-glory-I’m-not-just-a-sperm-donor-afterthought legitimizing-wish that “we’re pregnant” comes from.

And to paraphrase AuntieEm, WORD!! You rock, Becky. Thank you for verbalizing the latent content in our dissatisfaction.