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what to do with a child who says no to everything?

No matter what question I ask my 21 month son will say no. He has a very good vocabulary and knows how to say yes, but rarely do I hear that.haha. But he says no to everything. Any of you ladies have any advice on how to work with that? Hes very polite and says please, thank you, and your welcome. But he will say no to just about everything.

I don't cave into it. Both of my children went through that phase. If I asked them if they were hungry and got no. I said okay you're not hungry and didn't cave in until they said yes or that they were hungry (just example). When they'd ask me why. I'd tell them that they said that they weren't hungry. It'll pass fast. It's frustrating as all get out though. I know.lol!

Kids do this when they have been told no too many time. If you learn ways to communicate without saying no then you can get cooperation. Save no and stop for important or emergency situations, running out in the street. Here is a famous article about saying no to toddlers.

Mine is 28 months and she went through that phase briefly. I suggest stop using that word altogeter in front of him. He's probably heard it too much and knows that the word has power and is trying to see how much power it has and reaction when he uses it. Try being more positive and when he uses the word dn't react strongly to it or tell him to stop, it will just continue.

Haha, I know someone who, when the kids say no, turns around and tells them no, like, when she asks them if they want something and they say no she says "well no you can't have it", and then they ALWAYS want it and take it. Although I've never done this myself (we haven't had a lot of no's from my little one)...