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So... you fucked it up the first time.

WHAT NOW???

Just because things didn't work out for you the first time, it doesn't make future failure inevitable. It's important that you remember that no matter how great your past transgressions, a functional, long term relationship requires equal, sustained work from both partners. Maybe YOU did everything you could, and the fault lies with your partner. Maybe no one is to blame, and the relationship just died.

What I know is that no matter how things fell apart, or when, these problems are nearly always avoidable.

Everyone deserves a second (or a third, or a twelfth) chance at love.

Navigating the waters of a long term relationship can be impossibly complex, and it's not a skill set that we actually TEACH our children. And so often, we don't turn to therapy until it's much too late to bridge the gap that's grown over time.

But it's never too late to learn the skills necessary to find AND keep a relationship that goes for the long haul.

Let's get it right this time.

Look. You wouldn't apply for a job that you're ill-equipped for. Why on earth would you try to wade back into the dating pool without brushing up on your skills?

Relationships are hard. DATING is even HARDER.

It's a fair bet that at this point in time, you know what you DON'T want, right? The problem is, that's only part of the equation. You also need to know what you DO want, and most importantly....

What you're willing to compromise on.

What Dating After Divorce is all about.

It takes more than eight weeks to overcome a lifetime of programming. But what we will do is lay a foundation for you to evaluate your life and relationship goals in a self paced, non dating environment.

Class format:

live teleclasses

role-plaguest interviewsworkbookprivate group forum

But what makes it work? A lack of gender bias.

Seating is limited to a roughly equal number of male and female attendees. And every week, in addition to the homework you'll be completing on your own, you'll have what I call non-confrontational interactions with your classmates. Wanna work on your pick-up lines? Learn how to have a conversation on a first date that doesn't revolve around you awkwardly babbling?

SO DO YOUR CLASSMATES.

Which means that it's the perfect time for you to brush up on these skills without pressure. Just imagine... instead of getting a drink thrown in your face, you'll get honest critiques about why that line is not, in fact, the bee's knees. Even better, you'll be able to get honest advice from the opposite gender about what DOES work.

We're all in this together.

What you can expect in our time together.

Week 1: Moving on... seriously. So you're over your last relationship. Let's make sure. It's not easy to assess your flaws honestly, but in order to learn from your mistakes, you really have to understand them. This week will focus on evaluating your past issues, and speaking your personal truths. (Tara Gentile?)

Week 2: Can I just get a date on Facebook? That'd save a lot of time. Dating sure isn't what it was ten years ago. Not even what it was FIVE years ago. Internet dating is no longer for 30 year old virgins and the anti-social elite. It's MAINSTREAM. So many things have changed, and yet, so many questions remain the same. Should I hold the door open for her? Should I call him after the first date? There may not be a perfect answer to any of these questions, but this week, we'll assess YOUR boundaries about the Brave New Dating World. (And yeah... apparently there's an app for that. Buyer beware.) (Melani Robinson http://1yearofonlinedatingat50.com/)

Week 3: Building the best possible profile of yourself. Dating profiles are hard shit, man. How do you put yourself out there without sounding too desperate, too needy, or perfect one night stand bait? And are you really six feet tall? Or 120 pounds? This week will be largely self directed, allowing for you to design a profile with pizzazz, while your peers do the hard work of critiques. (Laurie Davis http://www.eflirtexpert.com/about/)

Week 4: The art of the approach. Just because internet dating is the thing, it doesn't mean that you won't encounter real life situations with the potential to meet someone. Being able to capitalize on those opportunities will help you to maximize your dating potential, no matter how it comes to you. Ladies, we can't flutter our hankies from the other side of the room any longer. And guys? Asking about fallen angels, and our eyes, or whatever other lines you used "back in the day" just ain't cutting it. (Derek Halpern would be fabulous for this. In my dreams.)

Week 5: Oh fuck. I've got a date. As teenagers, this was an exciting proposition. As an adult, laden down with a life's worth of baggage, just the IDEA of a first date can be terrifying. This week will focus on mastery of body language and conversational techniques that will help you turn those first dates into second dates.

Week 6: Yeah... but are you the marrying type? Whether you're ready for a long term relationship or just want to navigate the waters of casual dating for awhile, knowing what you're looking for BEFORE you get there is a game changer. Having a game plan is the difference between overstaying your welcome, and knowing when to cut your losses. More importantly, it'll help you locate any potential diamonds in the rough. (Molly Mahar. MUST have Molly Mahar for this.)

Week 7: You STILL want to talk to me? Well, shit, dude. Learning how to properly communicate with the opposite sex is the work of a lifetime, but there are a few tricks that will help you make communication meaningful and lasting. And a new understanding of how the other half thinks isn't too shabby, either.

Week 8: She's up all night for good fun, he's up all night to get lucky. But hey--at least the sex part is easier, amirite? Our last week together may be the most mind blowing. Finally, finally get a real look at what works, and what doesn't. How far she'll go on which date. What he really means when he says he'll call (no, really). Oral sex done right. The sky is the limit this week.