Ask a guy about his erogenous zones and first you get a blank look, then this:

"Whaddaya mean? There's more than one?"
So before we go any further, let's just concede:
The penis is king! Long live the king!
Once you get that out of the way, guys suddenly start talking. Oh, yeah, says one, there's this little spot low on my back, gives me chills. Oh, says another, you mean that secret space behind my ear that I love to have kissed? Yeah, says one guy, it's the back of my knee, go figure, that's nearly orgasmic. Suddenly, for a bunch of guys who were all deaf, dumb, and blind two seconds ago, they've now got plenty to say about all the other hot spots on their bodies, and how they'd love for you to explore them. In fact, 5,000 men were all too happy to respond to Redbook's online poll asking where they most wanted to be touched.

So in the interest of expanding everyone's sexual repertoire, we've charted these pleasure spots for you. Incorporate them into your lovemaking, or when you've got a spare moment, just tease them a little. The possibilities are infinite -- provided, of course, that you never, ever, forget who's king.

His Nipples

B-o-i-n-g! With one little flick of the tongue, you've just commanded your man's rapt attention. A man's nipples -- the hot spot mentioned most by our poll respondents ----you've got long hair, you could probably make him a little insane by letting it drape over your face as you tend to them. If he can't see your face, he can't be distracted, and that in turn may lead him down the path toward a fantasy about who this sexy woman is with the wonderful mouth.

The thing is, though, not all guys can admit or even recognize their nipples' erotic potential because they think nipple stimulation is for girls only. That's why you can't define erogenous zones just by nerve endings. "For most people, erogenous zones have more to do with their experience and with what they're open to," says psychologist Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., coauthor of Couple Sexual Awareness. You, however, have it in your power to retrain your husband's thinking. First, tease him by running your nails lightly up and down his chest, stopping along the way to tug and play with his chest hair (nothing girlie about that). Then, while he's still mulling over that sensation, paint him with your poison of choice (chocolate sauce, whipped cream, or ice cubes if you don't want to get sticky) and gradually start to zero in on his new pleasure zone. "The first time I gently kissed and sucked his nipples, my husband was shocked," says one woman. "But he enjoyed the sensation so much that it's become part of our routine."

His Neck

You can get some pretty serious goosebumps going here -- with just the softest touch, the lightest breath, the gentlest swirl of your tongue along the back or sides, or even some kneading at the base. No wonder the neck rates as such a major hot zone. "You'd think it would be more private parts," says Zachary, 28, a stockbroker, "but this is it for me." A little kiss or nibble on the neck can segue into some serious foreplay, but when you're short on time, it can also serve as a sweet and sexy reminder amid the chaos that you're lovers, not just partners. "Say he's getting ready to leave for work. I might come up behind him and kiss him on the back of his neck," says Beth, 37, a real estate agent. "That's a lovely gesture that says "I know I can't have you now, but I can't wait until later!?"

His Back and Shoulders

The thing about exploring a guy's back while he's lying facedown is that he's at your mercy -- and that's a major turn-on for both of you. Plus, there's so much possibility for serious frissons along the length of that gorgeous and muscular terrain. "My guy loves it when I slowly travel up his back with my tongue to his neck," says one woman. "It makes him quiver all over." Keep your touch light, but vary the stroke and intensity or he'll become numb to it. Alternate your nails and fingertips in long strokes, little circles, and teasing skips to keep him guessing where you'll alight next. Torture him with a feather, a small paintbrush, or your lips to kiss, suck, bite up the middle and down the sides -- you never know where a man's hidden hot spot will be. It's thanks to a former girlfriend's due diligence that Zachary was turned on to the exquisite sensitivity of a small spot at the base of his spine. "When I met my new girlfriend, I told her there's a secret spot on my body, but I wouldn't say where -- she had to find it on her own," he says.

It's not that the ear is loaded with more nerve bundles than any other sexy spots. It's just that somehow, over time, it got a rep as being something really, really naughty to play with, and that, of course, makes it even more of a turn-on. So make like a summer breeze and blow a little around the edge of his ears, tuck little kisses behind them, flick your tongue here and there, and as you gently suck on the earlobe, whisper to him about other things you'd love to do with your mouth. If he squirms -- and he will -- don't let him get away.

His Head

Picture a claw-foot tub, the sweet smell of sandalwood, and your husband relaxing in a steamy bath, while you run your fingers through his hair, over his forehead and face, down to those killer shoulders, and then up his neck to his temples. Now picture yourself lathering up his head and trailing your nails over his scalp, and then leaning over and oh-so-gently planting a kiss on his lips just before he dips below the surface and drowns from the utter sensuality of it all.

There. That's the moment you want to catch him -- one step past relaxation and three steps before sleep -- when every nerve ending on his head is beating a tom-tom to the rest of his body, signaling the stirrings of sexual desire. Wherever there are nerve receptors (and that's just about anywhere on his skin), there's the potential for all types of pleasure from touch -- which is why head games can be great preliminaries to fabulous sex. In clinical lingo, any kind of relaxing, sensual, or even playful tease of this sort is called a bridge to desire, and the more bridges you have, the better. "It's how couples develop their own unique ways of increasing sexual anticipation," explains McCarthy. "With more bridges, you have more ways of sharing pleasure."

Beth discovered quite by accident while she was watching a movie and rubbing the bottom of her husband's foot that touching a certain spot in the middle instantly produced, shall we say, certain unmistakable stirrings. "When I get to that spot he gets a hard-on immediately," she says. If the kids are around, he'll be like, "Don't rub my feet, it's a family movie!?" And that's just the sole of the foot. By the time you get to all ten of a man's little piggies and all ten of his fingers, you're talking serious sex symbols. At this point, a little sensory deprivation -- maybe a blindfold or a soft handcuff while you slowly start to lick and suck his fingers and toes -- can heighten the anticipation of your touch almost to the point of no return. "It's like saying 'Let's see how far we're going to go from here,'" says Beth.

His Knee

Before you innocently skip past your husband's knee, give it a little flick of your tongue or finger and see if he, um, perks up. As Ally McBeal's law partner Richard discovered with his secret knee-pad technique that makes women (and why not men?) crazed with lust, even the most innocuous body part holds erotic possibility. "I lick my husband's knees slowly," says one woman, "and it drives him nuts!"

His Stomach

"I love when my wife rims my navel with her tongue -- it feels like I'm getting caressed inside my body," says Tom, 33, a landscape designer. "A man's only got so many orifices, and since the navel qualifies as a semi-orifice, that makes it exciting." Of course you know the real reason men love any attention to the stomach: You're clearly and unmistakably heading toward the king. "It drives my husband crazy if I touch his stomach just above where his underwear elastic is," says one woman.

So can your husband stand the titillation without wanting to take your hands or mouth and shove them you know where? That depends on how conditioned he is to think of sensual touch as always leading to sex. "It's enormously helpful if you can be free to be playful without the sense that it's all or nothing," says McCarthy. "Think of touch as having five gears, with the fifth being intercourse and orgasm. But there are also four other gears: Fourth is manual and oral stimulation to orgasm; third is a playful mix of nongenital and genital touching; second is cuddling; and first is touching for affection. When you have different gears, you don't get trapped into the all-or-nothing attitude toward sex."

His Inner Thigh

You tease! By now, your husband's nerves are practically buzzing, and as you run your nails or lips or breasts along his inner thigh, it's all he can do not to beg you to go for the gold. But withholding touch can be just as sexy as touching. "I start at his knee, and scratch up toward his penis, almost touching it," says one woman. "It drives him wild!" Another woman draws her torture out even longer: "I start kissing him from his forehead on down, and when I get close to his penis, I slowly start to lick, nibble, and bite his inner thighs. He starts to moan like crazy and, of course, that turns me on."

His Testicles

Imagine if your husband slipped a silk scarf between your legs with such a light touch you weren't quite sure you actually felt something, except that you most definitely knew you wanted more. That's the kind of subtly exquisite feeling you can elicit from a man by handling his prized possessions with tender loving care. Come to think of it, he might love the scarf, too. It's amazing how often you hear guys say that their wives ignore their testicles during sex play. Most likely, you're wary of inflicting harm -- and the testicles are indeed delicate -- but as long as you don't pinch, squeeze, or dig in your nails, all you need worry about is how much pleasure your man can take. He'll love it if you lightly scratch his testicles and gently pull or rub his scrotum. If you want to turn up the sexual volume, try caressing him wearing satin gloves or sneaking undercover to stake out the new territory with your mouth and tongue.

As your fingers travel just past the testicles toward the anus, you'll arrive at a richly endowed little patch of skin called the perineum that's capable of producing something near bliss when lightly stroked. Because a man's prostate gland sits directly above it, massaging the perineum in a light circular motion sends major shivers inside. Do this just at the point of orgasm, and he'll be struggling for air.

Now, your husband may not admit it, but he might give up his firstborn if your fingers would continue along their merry way to his anus. It's not only sensitive to touch, but the taboo factor makes it instantly erotic. However, if your husband doesn't like surprises, this little side trip is not one you'd want to just spring on him. "A lot of guys associate anything anal with homosexuality and are repulsed," says psychologist Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., author of Male Sexuality. "It's a psychological thing, not physical." Also, some guys can't get the image of a doctor snapping a latex glove out of their mind. If you're unsure about your husband's reaction, discuss it with him first to see if the idea interests him.

His Butt

A man's buns are pretty darn sexy when clothed, but get them naked and you're talking about the ultimate sex toys. And you've got plenty of opportunity to tease them silly, especially out in public where he can't do a thing about it. Cop a feel as your husband is heading out the door, or rub up against him with a playful bump-and-grind, or give him a good squeeze and smack. The thing about the butt is you can play like you mean it -- it's built for rough handling, so go ahead and grab, pinch, dig in your nails, and yes, spank him if that's what you think he's secretly hankering for. It's the kind of pain some men would practically beg for, and you may enjoy inflicting it, for all you know. So why not try it? After all, the king awaits.

Okay, we cheated a bit when we asked this question, because we didn't include any body part remotely connected to the penis. But we knew that would skew the results and our goal was to identify his other hot spots: