Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Easy Being Easy

I was talking to a dear friend of mine today, when she told me about a girl she worked with that everyone referred to as "easy." We all know what this means. The girl has a reputation, at least, for having sex with a lot of guys. While she may or may not actually do this, I would like to address the idea of what it means to be easy.

If you look at Urban Dictionary online's definition, it would seem that one who is easy is someone who will pretty much sleep with anyone that makes them an offer; for free, or through being charged. I would like to object to the common idea of someone that is easy. Most people find it sweet or romantic to kiss on the first date before departing. There is a beauty to slowly grasping your date's hand and walking with them in innocent comfort. These are seen as natural parts of dating. However, sex is so taboo as to make someone a harlot or a whore when it is enjoyed in the same sense of romance and comfort as any other part of dating.

There was a time, though it was rather long ago, when sex was done for the glory of God and the blessing of the Goddess. Though modern Christianity has done a good job of demonizing such acts, the ancient temples of Aphrodite, Adonis, Bacchus, Dionysus, and more were places where the priestesses and priests communed with the Divine through what is now called The Great Rite. Celtic traditions have held for thousands of years the great fertility rites to keep crops growing and households prosperous.

Until quite recently in human history, men and women allowed the pushes and pulls of the God and Goddess, as well as their own bodily desires, to be fulfilled. However, this concept of easiness, of not being allowed to sexually enjoy yourself with a willing partner, seems to stem from recently created Christian morality. While morals and values are excellent things to have, I think that we shouldn't look down our noses at those of us who indulge in consensual acts with a willing partner. If it's not rape, and it's completely desired by both parties, then go ahead...live it up. However, there comes a point where you're not fulfilling a divine, romantic interest and you're just being greedy. Learn where that line is.

What do you think? Am I wrong? What is your definition of being easy, or do you not have one? Let me know!