Hard but can't get off

So it happens sometimes that when I'm having sex I can't get off. It's not like I'm not into it. I'm really into it and go until they can't take it anymore. But sometimes I just can't cum. I can just stay hard for as long as i need. Hours and hours and hours. It happens more when I'm really drunk, but also when not. Now I know some people may think that's great. But sometimes it concerns me a little. Anyone else ever have this issue?

Sometimes sex just doesn't give you the right sort of stimulation you need to get off. I've definitely pulled out and cum manually before, quite a few times in fact. I get off easier from hand and/or mouth than I do from sex and for me, that's because there's more friction from the former. But either way you're definitely not alone.

First: are you able to get off yourself afterward, or do you just have to let your erection go because you can't orgasm?

It could be that your mindset is just not ready for sex, or you're tired, etc. etc.

If you're using condoms, perhaps they are blocking you from getting to an orgasm. You might look into changing brands, just to experiment.

Also, sometimes you just gotta let a girl know that she has to stimulate you in a different way. Like Slant, I can get off easier from hand or mouth stimulation easier than from sex, and if you want your significant other to do that, just tell them and they should be fine with it.

I know I wouldn't pass up the chance to make a girl orgasm if she told me I needed to go down on her instead of fuck. I wouldn't think twice about it.

I'm with you both Gab and Slant---sometimes I can keep going for ever and nothing but I can pull out and grab hold of myself and finish off since she usually gets to a point that shes already gotten off and can't take anymore of my pounding-----not sure what it is but I am going to the doctor on the 21st and I"ll make that one of the questions after my physical and get back to you.......

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So it happens sometimes that when I'm having sex I can't get off. Anyone else ever have this issue?

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It probably happens to all of us at one time or another. It's always great to bust a nut, but even though we go through the motions, we may not always be able to get off. I take a rain check and try later.