Monday, December 20, 2010

The 3 P's: Provide, Profess, Protect

We love you, but how we demonstrate that love is what I call the three Ps of love: We profess, we provide and we protect.

That is how a man -- if he loves you -- this is how you can tell he loves you: He provides for you. Whatever his economic structure is, he provides for you and he will give you whatever he can. He will profess. If you have been dating a guy for six months, he has a title for you. If after six months, he is still calling you a friend, he has no plans for you. It doesn't take us six months to figure out if you are the one. We are just not that difficult. We are simple people.

The last P is protect. He will let nothing happen to you within his means. A man loves in threes, if he tells you he loves you, but he doesn't protect or provide for you, he is just telling you what you want to hear to get what he wants. He doesn't really love you.

I agree with the three P's, but this book provides a much more in-depth look at how men think and how some women can actually keep the men they want by establishing boundaries as to what behaviours they will and will not accept. Men, according to this book, are not really interested in women who are pushovers. And, in my experience of non-african American males, this is correct.

i have been dating a guy for 10 months his white im asian he still calls me friend and has never not once used the words i love you. he always threatens to leave i have daddy issues and just dont know how to let go. i hold on to those rare good moments. and try to believe that he cares and loves me