Wrong assumption. Not at all, I was allowed to choose. Looking back at my old photos from when I was quite young I can see just how androgynous young boys are. Add long hair to one of them and you can hardly tell the difference on first glance.

I don't think it ever touched my shoulders, but it was close to the top of my back, and it was long enough that if I wanted to, I could put it in my teeth! I used to chew on my hair a bit when I was younger

Before my dad became a dickhole he was totally rad. Like, I was hung up on Michael Jackson's music and videos so he'd take me to concerts and pay dancing classes and buy me replica clothes. Shit was so tubular. Pardon my 90s.