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Sometimes we tend to ask God questions on why certain things are happening to us. Being the human that we are, we just cannot understand the supernaturalism of God. Job was a devoted son of God, yet God allowed the devil to test his faith and belief in God, although the test came with an exception, the devil must not tamper with Job’s soul. After losing much of his belongings and assets and even lost his children and wives, he NEVER grumbled nor murmur neither did he ask God questions. If it were to be us, we would had started reminding God how faithful we are(like He doesn’t know),we would had told God the countless people we had helped(like He doesn’t see),we would had called his attention to how much we pay as offering every Sunday and how we don’t default in paying our tithes. Some people will even tell God of how they helped the church, clothed the pastor, fed his family and how active they are in church activities and next is “God after all this, WHY is all this calamities befalling me?”
In whatever situation you find yourself, the best way to come out of it proud is to NEVER question God, instead look for reasons and ways to THANK Him. Appreciating God shames the devil and glorifies God. A school student is surely going to have a test or examination to move into a greater class, so also as a believer, your FAITH is subject to test. You might have been so faithful to God and just fall off His zone because you questioned Him in time of trial or temptation. Even Jesus was tempted on the mount by the devil.
Students read textbooks and notebooks to pass their examinations, now you must be wondering what to do so has to know and pass temptations when any arise? READ and UNDERSTAND the Bible which is God’s holy book. There you would find out all about His promises for you, what he expects and what you should do. Also be ACTIVE in prayer and NEVER doubt God’s word.
As you countdown into 2015, whatever your soul desires, so shall it be given unto you through Christ our Lord.
NEVER ASK GOD WHY? ALWAYS THANK HIM
HAPPY NEW YEAR

It is astonishing how even successful people can go badly when you take on the wrong attitude and response the wrong way. Here is an interesting story. Years ago there is an old gentleman who ran a lunch counter along the highway. It was a time of depression in business. The old man was fortunate enough to be a little blind and deaf because he didn’t have to read about the depression or hear the negative conversation of his friends. So, not knowing there was a depression, he had a remarkably successful business.

He painted his stand, he delivered a good article, he put up bright signs along the road which almost conveyed the aroma of his sandwiches. He made his merchandise so delicious that people who ‘had no money’, would stop and buy his food.

The old man worked hard and sent his boy to college. There the boy took courses in economics and learned how bad things were. When he came home for Christmas and noticed the thriving business, he went to his father and said, “Pop, something’s wrong around here. You shouldn’t be as successful as you are. Why, you act as if you didn’t know there was a depression on!”

And he told his father all about the depression, and how people were retrenching everywhere. As the father began to think it over and look around him,and listen to the negative thoughts, he said to himself, “Maybe I’d better not repaint my stand this year. I’d better save my money because there’s a depression. And I’d better cut down on the amount of hamburger I put in these sandwiches. And what’s the use of putting signs if nobody has any money.” And so he stopped all positive efforts.

The result? Business soon fell off. When the boy came back for Easter vacation the father told him, “Son, I want to thank you for the information you gave me about the depression. It’s absolutely true. I feel it in my business. A college education, son, is a wonderful thing.”

That is what happens when negative thinking gets lodged in our minds. Such thought should be drained out constantly. You should start your day right mentally and it will continue right.

Too often, there are many negative thoughts in our life. People don’t really understand the nature of positive thinking. A positive thinker does not refuse to recognize the negative, he refuses to dwell on it. Positive thinking is a form of thought which habitually looks for the best results from the worst conditions. It is possible to look for something to build on, it is possible to expect the best for yourself even though things look bad. And the remarkable fact is that when you seek good, you are very likely to find it.

Sometimes you just have to ignore what other people has to say. Just like what Sam Walton did. If you want to learn Sam Walton’s success principles, read this post of mine, Sam Walton’s Wal-Mart Philosophy.

“Go the other way. Ignore the conventional wisdom. If everybody else is doing it one way, there is a good chance you can find your niche by going in exactly the opposite direction. But be prepared for a lot of folks to wave you down and tell you that you are headed the wrong way. I guess in all my years, what I heard more often than anything else was: a town of less than 50,000 population cannot support a discount store for very long.” Sam Walton.

So if you’ve decided to go for it, just do it. Don’t think that don’t hesitate. The more you think the more negative thoughts you will discover and the harder for you to move on. Sometimes when an idea was born in your mind, just do it. Of course you need to plan it, but don’t “over-plan” it.

Too much of planning will cause stagnation. After all, the only way to get results and reach your destination is to take action. This is one of the success strategies that most people never really care about. This is because it is so common that most people underestimate the power of taking action.

The longer you dwell on an idea yet to take action, the more negative thoughts are going to fill your mind. So start to practice positive thinking start from today. Here is an interesting article regarding positive thinking and how you can adopt this habit in your life,The Magic Of Positive Thinking. It is a great article that I strongly recommend everyone to read it.

Positive thinking is not magic, it is not a voodoo kind of stuff, it is a science. This is because when you think positively, you will act positively, and hence, every decision you make will yield positive results. Learn to be an optimistic start from now on.

No matter what happens in your life, just think positively. This is the success strategies that you will need to pave your path to success.

Want to be successful? Want to achieve outstanding success and live an epic life? If yes, you have to start from adopting the “mental blueprint” of successful people.

The main difference between ordinary and extraordinary people is the thinking. The way rich and successful people think will be totally different from normal people. It is because of the way they think differently, they therefore act differently. And because they act differently, they get different results than most people.

This is how great people are able to create amazing results in their lives. You can do the same if you want to, start by thinking like a successful person. Here are 10 ways of thinking that you can adopt right away…

1. Successful people think from the bright side‎

Are you thinking from the bright side? Do you know that there is no good news or bad news? It all depends on how you look at things. If your client is late for the appointment to meet up with you, you can think of it from both positive and negative side. You can think negative that your client is not serious and might not even show up after that.

Or you can just change your thinking. Think positively and brightly. Your client might stuck in the traffic congestion but still wanted to meet you because your client is serious. It is up to you how you think.

There are always two sides to everything. And there is no right or wrong. As long as your thinking is helping you in getting what you want, then it will be a constructive thinking. If the way you think is not helping you in achieving what you want in life, throw that thinking away and change your thoughts now.

2. Successful people think about their dreams and goals all the time

You are the products of your thoughts. Take 1 minute to ponder about this question right now, “What are you thinking most of the time?”

Be honest and put some thought into the question. What do you think about most of the time? Most people will think about what movie to watch, which drama to chase, what games to play, what to eat for dinner and what to do.

If this is what you think about most of the time, you will do something related to your thoughts. You will end up eating what you think about most of the time. You will end up watching the movie or the drama you wish. You will also end up playing the games you desire.

So you see, it is what you think, and so you become. Now, what do you think Donald Trump will think about most of the time? Or maybe what Warren Buffett thinks about most of the time? They think about their business and their dreams most of the time. And this is what makes them who they are today.

Great people think about great thoughts. They think about their wild dreams and their bold goals. They get excited and they feel driven. And when they feel motivated, they will take action. You will become what you think about most of the time.

So, think about your dreams and the goals you want to accomplish more often from now on. Set goals and review them daily.

3. Successful people think about opportunities

They say opportunities are everywhere, do you agree? Some people said that economy is soft and doing business is difficult, do you think so? If you think that it is difficult to build a business, then it will be difficult.

The point is that you must first believe it, only then you can see it. It is NOT ‘seeing is believing’, instead, you must first believe in it only then you will be able to see it. If you can’t see opportunities, it is because you are not “train” to see them.

Opportunities are everywhere. If you train your mind to see them, they are everywhere. Just like what Harv Eker has to say, you don’t see electricity, but you believe it exists and you pay your electricity bills each month.

The same goes for opportunities. You must first believe that they are everywhere, and then think deeply to see it.

4. Successful people treat failures as lessons

What do you do if you failed to achieve what want? Do you give up or do you learn from your failures?

Successful people will never look at failures as failures. They will treat failures as lessons to be learned. They then improve their strategies and take even more action once again. They will continue to come back and achieve much more.

A winner will never win and a winner will never quit. If you cannot stand failures, you will never be successful. Those who are successful fail more than ordinary people because they tried many times and dare to fail.

So never be afraid to fail. In fact, failure is what makes you more successful because you learned the lesson and know what works and what don’t. And if you continue to persist on it, you will eventually hit the gold mine.

5. Successful people think about action and what they can do right now

Don’t just dream about what you want, do something about it. Success is all about taking action. If purely dreaming and thinking about what you want can make you successful, all of us will be successful already.

It is action that separates the ordinary and the extraordinary. As the word suggest, EXTRAordinary – you do something EXTRA than ordinary people in order to become extraordinary.

Don’t you think that successful people are always in motion? They can’t wait to take action because they are doing what they love. And because of their strong passion, they are always looking forward to take massive action.

6. Successful people think extraordinarily

Do you know that successful people think bold and they dare to think about extraordinary things? Just like Richard Branson, he was stranded in Virgin Island because his flight was delayed. However, he saw it as an opportunity. He charted a plane and sold tickets to those who were stranded there. And this is how Virgin Airline started.

They dare to think and they think about extraordinarily thoughts that most normal people will never really think about. You have to think out of the box to be unique. If everyone tells you that what you want is impossible to achieve, way to go, you’re onto something.

Just like what Arnold Schwarzenegger said, if no one has ever done it before, and if he did it, he will be the first one to do it. How’s that for an achievement?

7. Successful people think about other successful people

Do you know that great people think about other great people and how other great people achieved their amazing results? Stop spending your time to think small and on little things that don’t really count in your life.

Life is short, so spend your time on things that really matter to you. If you think about other negative people, how they think about you, what they are doing, etc, you will never go far in your life.

It is when you admire other successful people; you will want to be like them. And when you want to be like them and you decide to never be the same anymore, it is the time when you change your life. You can admire other successful people, but never worship them.

Learn their experience, their strategies and adopt their mental blueprint, but never worship them, because you are much better than them,

8. Successful people think into the future

Are you still thinking about what someone did to you in the past? Sometimes we just can’t get ahead because we’re stuck in the past. We think about our past and thought that it is our past that defines us.

Never let your past drag you and limit your achievement. We all can come from all kind of backgrounds, but what has happened was history and we can’t change it. What we can do right now is to dream and plan for a better future, and act on it.

If you have failed in school, it doesn’t mean anything except that you did not work hard with your studies. Hence, what you need to do is to work harder right now so you can make sure you won’t fail again in your career.

Never let your past drag you and limit you. You should prove yourself and go beyond your past. Move into the future by starting to act in the present.

9. Successful people think big and exciting

Are you thinking big? One very simple test to see if you’re thinking big is by asking this question, “Are your dreams and goals excite you to take action?”

If your answer is a no or if you don’t feel motivated with your dreams and goals, perhaps you don’t dream big enough and they don’t excite you. You have to understand that our motivation comes from within, and if you cannot call forth for your inner drive, it will be difficult to stay active and take action every day.

This is another common reason people fail to accomplish outstanding results in life. They don’t feel motivated and thus, not taking any action. Great people are able to take massive and consistent action because their dreams drive them and goals give them the motivation to act.

So are your dreams big enough and exciting enough?

10. Successful people think, “I can”

Do you believe you can be successful? Do you have the confidence?

Great people always believe in themselves, that is why they dare to jump into a new exciting venture when possible. If you don’t trust yourself that you are worthy enough, you will live in mediocrity.

The biggest challenge in life is to think that you are not worthy and you don’t believe you can achieve great success in life. Every one of us is meant to shine and to achieve something epic in life. You are a miracle from the moment you were born.

Nick was born limbless, but with a strong determination, he decided to go all out and go against all odds. He truly believes in himself and now, he is living his dream life as a motivational speaker that touches thousands of people’s lives.

Everybody wants to be rich, but not every one of us is rich. And you can discover the main reason within this article. You will discover the 7 critical reasons why most people are not rich.

If you truly desire to be rich and successful, the first thing you need to do is to invest in yourself. You already have everything you need to reach the dreams you want and to live the life you desire.

Let me ask you this question, “what are the differences between you and Donald Trump that make him so rich and successful?”

Both you and him has got the same physical body, and the only different between you and him is will be the thought patterns, or simply, the mindset.

It is his mindset that makes him decides to take on the deal. It is his mindset that makes him to take massive action and go through all the ups and downs. It is his mindset that shape who he is today. It is his mindset that makes him network with other influential people. It is his mindset that makes him a billionaire today.

Therefore, if you want to get rich and live the successful life you always dream about, you have tostart from yourself. If you want to change your outer world, change your inner world. If you want to be a millionaire, adopt the millionaire mindset.

When you change the way you think, you will change the way you act and thus changing the results you get. So start to adopt the millionaire mindset and do things differently than ordinary people. Below are the 7 critical points that separate you from the rich…

1. You Are Spending On The Wrong Thing

Most people think the other way round, they thought that rich people spend like crazy and people who are broke don’t spend a dime. To be honest, people who are broke are the ones that spend the most. Those who have successfully accumulated their wealth understand that it takes hard work and sacrifices to get there, thus they won’t simply spend.

And those who simply spend, it is either they wanted to show off or they just don’t understand the value of money. You should spend, but you have to spend your money in the right place. You don’t have to go for fine dining all the time, but you can do it once in a while during special occasion. You should plan how to use your money wisely. Adam Khoo, one of my favorite success gurus, said that he is very frugal with luxury items, but he spend a lot when he visits the bookstore.

Do you get it? Rich and successful people don’t simply spend their money. They spend on things that give them value. They don’t spend their money buying branded items that they don’t need, instead, they buy things that will improve the quality of their life, such as books and courses.

2. You Did Not Invest

Do you invest? Most people make the money, spend most, save little and invest none. A very big difference in thinking is that most people will say that they don’t have the extra money to invest. If you think about it carefully, it is that when you invest, you will have the extra money. It is when you invest, you will make more. If you don’t invest, how are you supposed to come up with extra money to invest?

It is just like you have to put the donkey in front of the cart and not the cart in front of the donkey. It just doesn’t work that way. If you say you don’t have the money to invest and you will do it when you have more money, then it is time that you should invest! Most people get it wrong and thought that they should only invest when they got the extra.

3. You Are Not Clear With What You Want Financially

What do you want to do with all your wealth? A lot of people wanted to be a millionaire, and when you ask them why they need so much money, they can’t seem to give you a convincing purpose. Remember, it is your “why” that will drive you to achieve what you want. If you don’t know why you want to be rich, you will never get there because you don’t have a strong reason behind to support you and to drive you.

By the way, your reasons must be exciting and able to give you the energy and motivation to take action. If your reasons are not strong enough, they will never give you the energy you need. A very simple test you can tell whether your reasons are strong enough is to ask yourself this question, “Are you 100% committed to your financial goals and willing to do whatever it takes to reach them?”

If your answer is a yes, it simply means that you have strong and emotional reasons behind. And if you feel doubtful about the answer, you might want to reconsider your purposes of making money. It is when you have a strong and emotional reason behind; you will take 100% commitment to achieve your financial goal.

4. You Don’t Have The Millionaire Mindset

Do you think you have the millionaire mindset? Nobody was born with a millionaire mind. It is our surrounding, the people we mix with and our experience that shaped who we are. Thus, if you study the story of all the great people who have accumulated massive amount of wealth, you will notice that their thought patterns and the way they handle money are learned.

Just like Arnold Schwarzenegger, he was born in a poor family, but that doesn’t mean he has a poverty mindset and destined to be broke. Arnold was inspired by Reg Park and he has a big dream. So he learned and models those who are successful around him. He has become one of the biggest stars in the arena of body building, achieve outstanding success in his acting career and even in politics.

You can be as successful as Arnold Schwarzenegger if you wanted to. As long as you are willing to learn, to adopt and to take massive amount of action, you can accomplish your wildest dreams. So develop your millionaire mindset today.

5. You Don’t Dare To Dream And Act

This is going to be common, but it is one of the top reasons people fail to achieve great wealth. In order to achieve big accomplishments, you must dare to dream big. Just like what Donald Trump always quoted,“dream BIG”. The bigger your dream, the more excited you will be and the more likely you are going to take action toward it.

Not only must you dream big, you need to act on your dream as well. Simply dreaming about what you want is not enough, you need to act. Dreaming about what you want to achieve is exciting, but you have to get back to the reality by working toward your dreams. Extraordinary people are able to accomplish more than ordinary people because they work ‘extra’ hard and they dare to do the ‘extra’ things that make them extraordinary.

6. You Don’t Learn To Delay Gratification

Delay gratification means resisting the temptation for an immediate reward and wait for a later reward. Most people never really think about delay gratification when they are in the mood of buying. This is because buying is an emotional decision and not logical. You know that drinking alcohol can be bad for your health, but you do it anyway, why?

It is because you cannot resist the temptation of alcohol and wanted to drink for the immediate pleasure. However, if you look at it over the long-term consequences, drinking excessive alcohol is bad for your health, everyone knows that. The same goes for managing your finances. Most people will choose to buy things that give them immediate pleasure and they will tell you they don’t have enough money to invest.

This is one of the most important characteristics you must adopt if you want to be wealthy for the long run. If you simply spend and buy whatever you want on impulse, you will use all your money into buying something that you don’t really need. So whenever you want to buy something, stop and ask yourself whether the item can give you the real value that you want. If it is not, just walk away.

It may be hard to practice this habit in the beginning, but if you are serious about getting rich, you must learn this. Put off the temptation to the immediate reward in front of you. Don’t spend on things that you don’t need, instead, use the money to invest and you will be richer faster.

7. You Don’t Dare To Take Calculated Risk

All the great people out there dare to take risk. One very important principle you need to understand is that higher risk does not necessarily means higher return. Risk is contextual and it depends on your level of knowledge and experience.

Let me give you an example, a lot of people thinks that if they want to get rich, they need to take a lot of risk. This is not the case. If you can drive an F1 race car at the speed of 200km/h and still manage to make a lot of the sharp turns smoothly, I will give you a million dollar. Now, do you think this is going to be risky?

Well, if you are not well-trained and you don’t have the skill to drive an F1 race car, then the risk will be high for you. However, if you ask Michael Schumacher to do this, do you think he can do it easily? And do you think this is risky for him? Of course not, why? It is because he is well-trained and he has the skill. The same goes for investment and getting rich. If you don’t have the knowledge and the experience to invest, the chances of you making a bad investment will be higher compare to people like Warren Buffett who had tremendous experience in the stock market.

Therefore, you have to understand risk before you make the decision to go for it. And I called it calculated risk. Most people don’t know what they are dealing with and they insist to go ahead to invest or to start a business that they have no idea at all. That is truly risky. You have to take calculated risk. Meaning, you need to estimate the chances that you are going to fail or succeed before you take action.

If the chances of you to fail are higher, stop and don’t go for it. However, if the chances of winning are much higher than the chances of you losing, go ahead and do it. And this has to do with your skills, your knowledge and your experience.

These are the 7 critical reasons that will decide your financial wealth. If you do them accordingly, you will be able to accumulate massive amount of wealth. So follow through and apply these 7 principles from now

We are the product of our thoughts. If we think great things, we will tend to materialize it in our real life. If we think negative stuff, we will live in miserable and in mediocrity. Therefore, avoid these 7 common negative thoughts at all cost!

1) Never say that you’re useless

No matter who you are, we all are meant to shine in this world. If you did something badly, it doesn’t mean that you will do it badly again or do it badly in other field or industry. Just get over it, all of us will fall some of the time, but you need to get back up and live again.

“Our glory is not in never falling, but in raising every time we fall.” Confucius

2) Never say that you’re lazy

No one is lazy in this world. It is just that either you don’t have empowering goals or you just don’t know how to tap into your personal potential. I strongly believe that we all are hard working in where we are passionate about. Some people procrastinate in doing their mathematics homework, but they feel ecstatic in doing their chemistry assignment, why is that? Does this means that they’re lazy? Not at all, it is just that you’re yet to find out the right place the truly belongs to you.

“People are not lazy, they simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that don’t inspire them” Anthony Robbins

3) Never think that it is impossible

30 years ago, connecting people using a small device is impossible, but in today’s world, smart phones are everywhere. 50 years ago, landing a man on the moon is impossible, but the human’s capabilities have shown what we can accomplish, giving enough time to it. So before you venture out to do something, never say that it is impossible for you, the word itself says, “I’m possible!”

“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right” Henry Ford

4) Never say that you can’t

Just like what I’ve mentioned above, everything is possible, when you truly believe that you can achieve it. When you say you can’t do it, your mind automatically shut off all possibility and you will never think further. However, when you say it is possible and you can do it, you will automatically comes up with ideas how to do it. Even if you have no idea how, but your mind will come up with places to go for.

“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on her own wings.

5) Never say you’re not good enough

When you say you’re not good enough, it simply means that you acknowledge that there is space for you to improve and you can do even better. Therefore, don’t say that you’re not good enough, just say that you still need to learn and take it as a lesson when things don’t go according to your way. As long as you never give up, you will always have a chance to prove that you can do better.

“Above all things, never think that you’re not good enough. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life, people will take you at your own reckoning.” Anthony Trollope

6) Never think that you’re not as lucky as others

Never dwell in the thoughts that you’re not lucky. Just take a look at all the things you have. Compare yourself with people who don’t even have a place to sleep, homeless people and those who are starving without food, who are luckier now? If you are reading this right now, it simply means that you’re living a good enough life than many others around the world. Look at the good instead of the bad. Appreciate what you have and not blaming for what you don’t have.

“Diligence is the mother of good luck.” Benjamin Franklin

7) Never doubt your own ability

You can achieve great success if you just decide and commit to it. Never doubt your own ability; you’re much better than you think you are. Of course, success will never come overnight and it will never come without hard work. Albert Einstein, one of the most famous scientists of our time, only uses about 20% of his brain power and yet, he is able to achieve outstanding results in his field of research. What if you can tap into 10% of your brain’s potential?

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Albert Einstein

These are the 7 most common negative thoughts that will come to our mind some of the time. You have to remember that we’re not perfect and some time we will think negatively, especially during tough times. However, you have to make sure to never let these thoughts dwell in your mind. Be conscious about your thoughts, know what you think about most of the time and make sure you focus in only positive thoughts.

Well, everybody wants to achieve great success in their life, and so do you, right? I know this because it is the reason you are reading this post of mine right now! However, reading this post alone will not get you what you want. You have to read, learn, and applywhat you have learned in order to achieve the great success you always desired.

This is an interesting post, because you are going to find out the top 10 do’s and don’ts to achieve what you want in your life. By following all these do’s and don’ts, you will move yourself one step forward to your goals. A lot of people set their goals and they want to achieve great success, but only a few of them actually achieved what they want. I hope that you will be grouped in the minority, the success group.

So let us discover the top 10 do’s and don’ts in order to achieve what you want in your life. Let us start off with what you need to do in your life, the top 10 do’s…

Top 10 Do’s

1. Set Your Goal. Yes, you have to set your goal. This is an old school, and I believe you know why you need to set goals, right? If you don’t know why you need to set your goals today, please read Why You Need to Set Goals Today. Goals do not only help you to stay focused in what you do, if your goals are excited, they can even propel and drive you into action. If there is one thing that can make you successful, I’d say it is goal setting. This is how important goal setting is in our life. So make sure you know what you want to achieve and you have a goal before you sleep tonight.

2. Take Massive and Consistent Action. Another old school success factor. Nothing is going to automatically in our life, you have to take action and make things come true. If you just think about wanting to become a millionaire but you did not actually take the necessary action, nothing is going to happen. Just like after you read a wealth book that teaches you how to make money, if you did not apply the techniques in that book, you will not be rich. Even if there is a magic button that can make you a millionaire, you still have to move your hand on to the mouse, and hover the mouse cursor over that button and actually click on it. So remember, it is action that determines you great success. Even if you are lazy, take a few small steps that will lead you to what you want everyday, this way, you will slowly move toward your goals.

3. Pay 100% Commitment. A lot of people want to be successful, they want to be rich, they want to be financially independent. However, only a small percentage of them achieved what they want. This is because this small percentage of people are truly the one that 100% committed to achieve their goals. They will do basically everything to achieve great success in their life, within moral and ethics of course. I know that you want to be successful. The question now is, are you 100% committed to success? Will you do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true?

4. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone. The more comfort you are, the more resist to change you will be. If you truly desire great success, you have to stay away from your comfort zone. The feeling of staying in your comfort zone is nice, but it will not bring you the things that you want in your life. I know that relaxing and enjoying are great, but they will not bring you amazing result. Think about it, watching television and chatting online are fun, but will you be rich this way? Will you achieve what you want this way? So stay away from your comfort zone. If you are in your comfort zone, you will never achieve what you want in your life.

5. Never Give Up. No matter how hard life seems to be, don’t give up and give lousy excuses by blaming other things. If you fail to make more money, don’t give up and don’t blame the economy. The moment you give up, you will lose a lot of your effort which you have put in before. So no matter how hard it is, no matter what kind of obstacles you face in your life, cope with them and overcome them. Let me tell you this, every problem or question arises has a solution, if there is no solution for it, it is not a problem.

6. Stay Motivated and Keep Your Momentum Going. Why someday you feel motivated and why some of the day you feel like boring and no energy at all? You have to learn how to motivate yourself, develop the momentum and how to keep that momentum going. Motivation is not a skill, you have to do it everyday. Therefore I encourage you to read my blog, subscribe to it, read more motivation materials and once you are driven, keep yourself on that state by doing even more. This is the best way of achieving great success in your life.

7. Be More Aggressive in Taking Action. Success will not come without failure. Mark my words, you will have to fail a lot of times before you can achieve what you want in your life. In fact, it is the failure that will bring you to your success. It is the failure that will tell you what went wrong and you should change your strategies. So don’t worry in taking more action, aggressive action. You will fail no matter how clever or how lucky you are. Therefore, don’t worry about it, just take all the action and do it all out. You will find the right path to great success in the end.

8. Be Responsible in Everything You Do. Once you have taken massive action, there are only 2 outcomes, you either achieve what you want, or you fail to achieve it. So, it is just a matter of dealing with the outcomes. Well, most of the time you will fail because great success will not come the first time. Thus, the moment you fail, take the responsibility and tell yourself that you are using the wrong approach and the wrong strategies. Next, come up with new and better strategies, and go all out again. If you are not responsible and you start complaining or blaming others, you will never change because you are letting go the power to change on others. Hence, learn to be responsible in everything you do in your life.

9. Constant and Never Ending Improvement. Spend at least 30 minutes reading self-improvement materials everyday. You have to constantly improving yourself if you want great success. Only by constant and never ending improvement, you will keep yourself prepare and motivated throughout your life. By doing so, you will keep yourself driven all the time and you are developing your mind so that you will be ready for greater success. Where to find all the learning material? The answer is obvious, read my blog!

10. Enjoy, Even God Take One Day Off. You have to be balance to yourself. After you have taken massive action, spend some time to enjoy and relax. Once you have achieved some of your smaller goals, reward yourself, get one day off, go for a movie, go for spa and enjoy seriously. Yes, you have to be serious in enjoying your life as well!

There you have them, the top 10 do’s you must follow through if you really desire great success. Remember all of them, read them through over and over again. And the most important thing, DO and APPLY them in your life, don’t just read about them, use them!

So you have gone through the top 10 do’s, what about the top 10 don’ts? Here they are…

Top 10 Don’ts

1. Don’t Procrastinate. This is the number one killer of all great successes. If you want to be successful and achieve what you want in your life, don’t procrastinate. If you procrastinate, you will never achieve what you want. Many people have big dreams and they do set goals to achieve them. However, they will still fail to achieve what they want in the end. It is because they are not taking enough action. All they do is that they just dream and talk about the great success they always wanted, but they never really put in real action to make it comes true. Don’t be one of them!

2. Set Your Goal and Forget It. Don’t build the ‘set-and-forget’ mindset for your goals. This is about your future, your life, and it is not something that you can achieve in just a few hours or even days. It is a continuous process that maybe requires you years to achieve it. So if you set your goals and forget about them, you will never achieve what you want. That is why people often told you that you have to stick your goals somewhere you can see them often. You have to remind yourself about your dreams and goals everyday. Read and review your goals every night before you sleep.

3. Stay in Your Comfort Zone. This is the opposite of the one above in the top 10 do’s section. If you desire great success, then get out of your comfort zone. Staying in your comfort zone only means one thing, you will never change your life. If you are earning $1 million every year and you are satisfy with your result, it will be fine to stay and keep doing everything the same way. However, make sure that your business will keep on going, because if you are in your comfort zone, you are not willing to change. This means that you are doing things the same old way, and competitors may just overtake you anytime. That is why you have to get out of your comfort zone.

4. Keep Doing The Same Thing After You Fail. This is what most people will do. They are so eager to success, and they take massive action. And when they fail, they tell themselves that they are not hard working enough. As a result, they take even more action. Will they achieve the great success they want in the end? Not likely, because they are doing it the same way, and for sure, they will get back the same old result. If you fail to achieve your goals today, review your strategies, ask yourself whether you are using the right strategies. Don’t just keep on doing things without thinking. You want to do it not just hard, but smart in the same time as well. Extra information for you here, 3 Strategies How to Deal with Failure.

5. Don’t Do Everything At The Same Time, Stay Focused! Have you ever seen a laser beam? It is focused and it is so much powerful that it can cuts through everything that comes across. This is the kind of power that you need in order to achieve great success in your life. Can you write, read, listen and watching all at the same time? It is impossible, even if you can, the result you get is not as efficient as if you just stay focused and do just one of them in just one time. Therefore, stay focused in what you do everyday, don’t diversify your concentration. If you are reading wealth book, don’t listen to songs or even watch television. Take just one action in just one time. Don’t try to do everything all in the same time.

6. Don’t Let Your Emotion Control You. You know, you have to learn how to control and manage your emotion. Why? Because by controlling your emotion, you can achieve much more in your life. Think about it, if you are in a bad mood now, will all these information sink into your mind easily? I don’t think so. However, if you are in a very motivational state now, will you get even motivated by reading this post? Of course you will. So learn how to manage your emotion. This may seem like not important, but do not underestimate what your emotions can do to your life. Read this, 12 Keys to Success – Control Your Emotions, and you will know how your emotion can affect your life.

7. Don’t Blame and Give Lousy Excuses. Again, this is the opposite from the one in the do’s. Like what you already known, giving excuses and blaming will not change your life. If you fail your test in school, and if your choose to blame your teachers, you will never improve. Why? Because the fault is not on you, it is on your teachers! So for you, it is your teachers that have to change, and not you. Will you get better by doing so? No! However, if you take the responsibility and put the fault on yourself. You are telling yourself that you are not hard working enough, will you eventually take more action to read more and learn more? Of course you will, and this is how you will improve.

8. Don’t Hesitate of What You Can Achieve. Never to doubt about whether you can achieve the great success you always desire. You already possess the most powerful resource in the world, that is your mind. Think about it, what is the difference between you and successful people? Are they more talented that you? Are they more skillful than you? No, it is not that they have a bigger brain or they are more talented than you. It is because they focused in their field and that is what makes them the professional there. With that means, if you want to be the pro in your industry, learn more about, dream about it, sleep, drink, eat and breathe about it all the time. This will make you the pro in your industry. Think about it, why Tiger Woods is the best in golf while Michael Jordan is top in basketball? They have more legs or more hands than you? Impossible! It is because they focused in their field, and if they can do it, so can you!

9. Don’t Be Selfish and Keep All Your Knowledge and Experience. You know, if you want to be successful today, you have to help people, teach people what you knew. If you are a very successful person today, make sure that you teach people how you get there. Inspire people and bring people get to the point just like where you are. This is the golden rule of life, if you want to be successful, then you should help people achieve what they want in their life first. Once you did this, people will repay your effort and make you the person you want to be. If you want to be a millionaire today, solve people’s problem or make them rich. After you have take the elevator up to a higher level in your life, don’t forget to send it down so that people can come up. Don’t just succeed alone, succeed together.

10. Don’t Just Read About This Post, Take Action Now!Yes, this is what you need to do right now, take immediate action. Don’t just sit there staring at your monitor, don’t just read this post, do what you are suppose to do right now. If you don’t know what you want in your life, find out the answer right now. If you know what you want, but haven’t set your goals, do that right now. If you know what you want, you have set your goals, then take action to make your goals come true now. Don’t wait, just do it. Don’t worry even if you don’t know how to achieve your goals, just do whatever you think is possible. You will get it right automatically in the end.

Whew, this is a long post. And if you read up until this point, congratulations. I knew that 50% of people who read this post will not read it until this point. And if you do, you are already one step ahead of the others.

What I want to tell you now is, great success is about putting what you think into action. Everything happens twice, once in your mind, and once in reality. That means, success is a 2-step process. The first step is that you need to have the idea of what you want to achieve. You will have to deal with your inner self. The second step is an external step, where you have to take action to make it come true.

By following these 2 simple steps, I believe that you can achieve whatever you want in your life. Remember, everything happens for a reason, so make the great success you desire come true to you.

Well, if you’re following me from the beginning up until now, you’ve gone through all the 11 keys to success. This is the final key,Success Require No Secrets. If you’ve gone through all the 11 keys with me, you will know that you already have all the resources (keys) to succeed. To achieve what you want, it requires no secrets, buthard work and determination.

To be successful, you have to love what you do. If you want to make money from investment, then you will have to love to invest. The power of love is much bigger than you can ever expect. Only when you love to do your work, you can do it better. If you hate to succeed, do you think that you can achieve it? That will be impossible. For example, when you love someone, you are willing to do whatever it takes to be together with him or her. This is the same in pursuing your goals to success.

After you’ve read all these keys to success, you have a choice to make decisions. You can choose whether to work harder towards your goals, or you can choose to remain the same. The choice is in your hand. No matter what choices you made, you will still make a choice. What I mean here is even if you choose not to make any decision; you’re still making a choice. Therefore, in our lives, we always have a choice. This is because we can control our thinking.

The significance about controlling our thinking is that we can make things change. Mindset is the most valuable asset that everyone can have. It is not why some people are far richer than you just because they have much more money. It is because the mindset they have is different from yours. Mindset determines everything in our lives, the things we do, our behavior, our thinking, everything. Therefore you need to know how to take charge of your mind.

Success require no secrets, it is all about mindset. Everyone can buy the same wealth book that teaches you how to be rich, but not everyone can be rich after reading that book.

Why? Because the mindset is different. You can have a book that teaches you from beginning until the end on how to become a Millionaire; however if you give up in the half way, everything will be wasted. Thus it is the mindset that is more important, often, “why” is more crucial than “how”. If you know “why” you want to success, then no matter “how” hard it will be, nothing can ever stop you.

The moment you know why you want to succeed, you will somehow come up with some plan and strategies to achieve it. Like the famous saying, “when there is a will, there is a way”. Hence, if you want to be successful, just focus on creating a will.

Now, what do you feel after reading all these so-called keys to success? They are not any big secrets; all of the keys here are nothing but your mindset and your beliefs. It is you that is going to determine your success, not any secrets that you never heard before. I believe that you have heard about all the keys here, just that you never really notice about how important they are in your life.

What I wanted to tell you here is that success lies within your hands. It is how you treat success that matters. If you are serious, you are willing to put in a lot of effort and determination, nothing can ever stop you. Success will eventually be yours. However, if you keep on procrastinating, not taking any actions, and you are not serious about it, then I don’t think that you can achieve amazing results in your life.

Life is short; you must appreciate what lies in front of you. You can treat success as a game; life is a game after all. However, you must know how to play the game of life, don’t break the rules. If there is one thing I can tell you now, I will tell you to be serious and committed in everything you do.

I’m not saying that you should work and pursue success 24 hours. What I mean here is that you should do everything with 100 percent commitment and be serious in it. Even if you are enjoying, enjoy it seriously. Often, it is because of our bad habit of not doing things seriously that make us fail to achieve what we want. Therefore, learn from now on, to be serious in everything you do, even when you are playing games, play it seriously.

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Hello Dhiizkid, kudos on the nice work you are doing. God bless you and your home. I have a little problem – my husband is threatening to send me packing just after 8months of marriage. I’m yet to have my white wedding though we were planning it to come by next year February.

An old friend (male) called me one morning. He actually brought me my phone because I was busy in the kitchen. Hubby stood right in front of me so I panicked not knowing he heard the voice over the line. NB I have absolutely nothing with this caller.

I had to change the whole discussion not knowing hubby took the number and called. To cut the long story short, he confirmed it was a man that called and concluded I was cheating. I even had to tell him the truth thinking he will believe me me but he is still insisting I cheated and is still cheating. I feel so bad my parents all know about this and no one believes me. Please I need advice on how to save my marriage. Thanks in anticipation

NIGERIAN politicians and their apologists prefer to describe the country’s democratic evolution as nascent. In their view, it is inappropriate for anyone to upbraid its many ugly sides or describe it as a sham compared to its American model.
They would tell anyone who cares to listen that there is no basis for comparison as the Yankee version is centuries older. Sadly however, they always fail to remind themselves that our inability to apply intelligence is the only missing link.
Thus, while they want the rest of us to wait for centuries to experience true democracy by telling us that democratic practise in the US is devoid of the hiccups and pitfalls that appear peculiar to us because of its age, none of them will wait for more than one month to acquire status-enhancing, technology-laden cars or gadgets.
Unfortunately, the nascent theorists have extended the attitude to the application of legality to checkmate deliberate action meant to frustrate the country’s democratic process just as those who ought to know better are raising the trumpet in salutation.
If the trend is a major staple in the menu of the opposition PDP in Edo State, its national arm is perfecting it as a sure-fire weapon designed to conquer the entire Nigerian space, come 2015.
It was manifest in the debacle in Rivers, same as in the current bizarre circus in Edo and very prominent in the brazen battering of the democratic process both in Adamawa and Nasarawa states where the world is waiting to see how the judiciary will save itself, to begin with.
The design began to take effect in Edo State in the wake of the defection saga involving some members of the state assembly. In a bid to checkmate possible reprisal actions from their majority APC colleagues, the defectors sought legal refuge by asking a Federal High Court to forestall any attempt by the house leadership to either declare their seats vacant or put them on suspension.
In its wisdom, the court agreed that the house cannot declare their seats vacant. It however, ruled that it could not grant the second relief as doing so would amount to infringing on the internal affairs of the assembly which has every legal right to deal with, including suspending erring members.
Four days later and unarguably in the expression of the said right, the house suspended the defectors on grounds of gross misconduct. However, they refused to heed the suspension order, prompting the assembly leadership to rush back to the court for help.
Help came for the assembly leadership when the court barred the defectors, the police command and AIG Zone 5 from entering the assembly complex. Flagrantly, they did not only ignore the order, they have turned the assembly complex into a circus centre, incurring and ignoring court contempt in tow. The chaos resulting from the affected law makers’ action has since turned into a growing monster.
In attempting to whitewash an open breach of court order, the estranged law makers went to an Appeal Court to ask for, among other reliefs, a stay of execution of the suspension order made by the High Court. But the relief suffered a blow as the court dismissed it, insisting that they must first obey both the orders mandating them to respect the supension issued them by the house and contempt charge arising from their refusal to do so.
In a ruling delivered by Hon Justice Morounkeji Ogunwunmiju on behalf of the two other justices, the court declared that “the said suspended members could not seek any relief from the Court of Appeal while they were in contempt or disobedience of the Order of the High Court.”
The judge went further to emphasise that a party in contempt of a positive order of court cannot be allowed to seek or obtain any relief from the Court while the contempt persists. In plain language, the court ordered the renegade law makers to go and obey the suspension order and contempt charges.
The ruling, made on Thursday, July 10, 2014, is now a stark reminder of the affected law makers’ attitude to court orders as amply captured in the words of their infernal image, Festus Ebea, former deputy speaker, who while reacting to an attempt by a court bailiff to serve him and others contempt summons riled both the court and everything it represents in vile invectives. Typically, they have continued to glean over their defiance with laughable excuses while being applauded by their party, the PDP.
Still smarting from the impact of the Appeal Court ruling delivered less than 24 hours earlier, the law makers(law breakers if you like) took the matter to the Supreme in the seeming puerile expectation that the apex court will rub mud on its inestimable lower arms, having been subjected to a very odious humiliation.
But even as the flaks from the Appeal Court ruling were still reverberating, news of yet another ruling, this time, from a Federal High Court, presided over by Justice Mohammad A. Liman, hit the waves. Uyi Igbe, speaker of the state house of assembly, Philip Shaibu, Majority Leader and the Edo State House of Assembly, on behalf of themselves and other members, asked the court to restrain the state Commissioner of Police and the AIG Zone 5 from restricting the activities of artisans employed by the house to fix the leaking assembly roof.
They also asked the court to prevail on the suspended law makers “from further purporting to carry out the legislative function of the 3rd plaintiff (house of assembly), including but not limited to purporting to sit or hold plenary sessions wheresoever’s pending the hearing of the Motion on Notice.”
In the judgement, the court restrained the state Police Commissioner and AIG Zone 5 from “preventing or continuing to prevent the plaintiffs, including the workers of the 3rd plaintiff (House of Assembly) from having unrestricted access into the premisses of and their offices at the Edo State House of Assembly…” and “from further preventing the workers engaged by the 3rd plaintiff from continuing with the renovation/repairs of the leaking roof of the Edo State House of Assembly Complex…”.
The question is this: Can any defendant act in place for a plaintiff in the execution of a valid court order given in favour of the latter and in the same matter he/she/it is listed as a co-defendant without undermining the order itself?
However, it refused to grant “an interim injunction restraining the 3rd-11th Defendants (suspended law makers) from further purporting to carry out the legislative functions of the 3rd plaintiff including but not limited to purporting to sit or hold plenary sessions wheresoever’s pending the hearing and determination of the Motion on Notice…” In refusing to grant the relief, Justice Liman explained that it is “…outside the ambit of section 25 1 (q), (r) and (s) of the constitution. It is a matter within the jurisdiction of the state High Court.”
Put differently, the court refused to grant the order because the issue is a matter on which only a state high court can adjudicate. In which case, the plaintiffs are at liberty to seek the relief from the relevant court.
Obviously misinterpreting the ruling, the opposition PDP, suspended law makers and their handlers went to town, celebrating the ruling as an invalidation of earlier rulings.
Yet, a few days after the ruling ordering the police commissioner and AIG, zone 5 to stop forthwith any restriction imposed on either the assembly staff or workers engaged by the law making organ to renovate/repair the complex’s leaking roof, the suspended law makers took over the task of the plaintiffs and hired new workers to work on the affected roof.
The challenge here is that in acting ‘in loco’ for the plaintiff in a ruling that expressly mandates some of their co-defendants not to infer with “workers engaged” (not new set) by one of the 3rd plaintiffs, it would appear that they have turned the order of the court on its head.
The question is this; can any defendant act in place for a plaintiff in the execution of a valid court order given in favour of the latter and in the same matter he/she/it is listed as a co-defendant without undermining the order itself?
ERNEST OMOARELOJIE a public affairs analyst, wrote from Benin City.