Limits Paradox

The Limits Paradox refers to the way previously unthinkable activities
which are stated by submissives as limits can become activities they
find highly arousing and desirable if their initial revulsion or fear is
overcome.

It is important to note that this does not apply to all limits and
that the way in which revulsion or fear is overcome can greatly affect
whether their attitude to the activity changes. Hamfisted attempts
to simply force the activity on the submissive can instead lead to
reinforcement of the negative feelings.

The resolution of the apparent paradox is that activities are both
highly undesirable or highly desirable because they carry great
psychological weight. If you consider a masochistic submissive with a
fear of being strangled, they may initially consider being held by the
neck to be a limit, even a hard limit. But over time if they feel safe
enough to try neck play, then the intense fear associated with the
activity can make it highly arousing and even enjoyable.