If we quarrel with somebody, even in the Bible, it says so. If you have some quarrel with your brother, go apologize first, before coming to make offering to the gods. ﻿If you quarrel with somebody, then you just come and apologize. We should not make a bad example like that.

But as I told you already, in everything you have to ask everyone. If the majority agree, then it’s OK. And the minority have to keep quiet then, support.​Even outside people are like that. If the majority votes for one president, then everybody else works with him. They might not agree with his principles or policies, but they work with him. They don’t go and placard, and writing protests all day long.

Even in America they don’t do that. Even one time when the votes were not very clear, maybe something not correct had been done so that one president became president instead of the other, but the other said, “OK, I give up for America’s sake.” They don’t wand to make more trouble.How much more we, the practitioner, should have been more pliant, more cooperative, and more humble? You may win the case, but nobody will like you. That is the problem.

So whatever we do, we have to consider, we should win, or we should be loved?

﻿﻿The same with husband and wife. Quarreling, OK I win, my wife shuts up. Or, I’m right, my husband shuts up. But will he love you? Will he continue to love you like the first day? Or will she continue to love you at all in her heart? Even though she shuts up, maybe she doesn’t love you anymore. And then from then on, a cold war in the house.

So before you do something rash, you have to think first, is it worth it? Should I win or not? What for?Don’t keep pushing, pushing until people are fed up.If you say I’m not humble, as humble as before, you’re wrong. You don’t know what I have to humble myself with, all this nonsense and garbage. Don’t always push people to the edge. And even then I didn’t say anything, kept pushing to my nose. I might not say anything, but I don’t like these kinds of people, too persistent for nothing.

Why don’t you persist on something good instead? ​

​I teach you a method of meditation, I don’t promise you anything else. I promise you if you practice well, your level will go up and you will be liberated. You won’t go to hell, you won’t be an animal. You won’t be a hungry ghost.

I promise that, that’s it.Not because you cannot make mistake. But if you make a mistake, you should repent. You should not do it again.

You must know that there are two ways to do things in this world. One way is you persist until you get what you want. Another way is to do what you should and be loved.

Love is more important than winning.

So husband and wife, brother and sister are similar. To be love is better, nicer, and happier. Even if you win, but nobody loves you, what’s the use of that?

I like the story yesterday, he persists. I will empty the sea, then you should do that. Because it’s a good cause. He went through a lot, through a lot a lot of sacrifice and hardship to get the jewel. For all the beings, for all the planet, for his citizens, at least his country. And the dragon did nothing, had nothing to do. Bored with life, just came and stole his jewel just like that.

​If I were there, l would also. But l would not use a scoop. I would not use the turtle shell to scoop it one by one. I would use a machine. I’d pump it all out. I would use the oil pump stuff, then pump the whole thing out until the dragon dried up and came out and gave me my jewel back. Poor Buddha! At that time, he didn’t have machines. If he had, he would have pumped it all out.

That is the example. That you should be persistent for a good cause, not for personal gain, personal winning, or for personal whatever.

Garbage, garbage, garbage. These kinds of people originally should not be here. But I forgive, OK? I forgive for one time.

And if something is not important, and people don’t answer you or don’t do it, just let it be.

But he was persistent because it’s a good cause, not because for himself, or that he’s stubborn or he’s spoiled or anything like that. He really wanted to help others.

​It was really a great cause.

​He wanted to save them from suffering, so they wouldn’t kill animals and all that so that they wouldn’t have to go to hell. Not just save them from hunger, but save them from hell fire as well. So that’s a great cause. So he was persistent and that is correct.

​Everything else, if it’s not a good cause, if it’s just for self-gain, or self-satisfaction, self-aggrandizement, then forget it.

Otherwise, you’re not a practitioner, and you will go nowhere with this kind of attitude.

You’ll never progress with this kind of attitude. Never, never. I really mean never. Unless you repent, you have to change. Be humble. Otherwise it’s useless, useless. Waste my time, waste your time. Waste people’s time.