Werner
listened intently as I spoke about a situation in my life which had
bewildering personal, legal, and financial ramifications.
I was hesitant to share it with him initially. That's not because I
hide anything from him. It's because my time with him is simply too
precious to give over to complaining. My complaints serve no one, least
of all me. I've noticed every time I speak into the clear listening he
gifts me, stating simply
what's so
without adding spin or complaint, I get clear.

My life correlates with Life as a leaf correlates with tree as a wave
correlates with ocean. Because my life correlates with Life, I assert
the rules of my life are the rules of Life. If I notice a discrepancy
between the rules of my life and the rules of Life, I'm clear I have a
choice in that moment to give something up, or not.

Knowing all that is fine and dandy, and it looks good on paper. Yet
there I was, completely dictated to by the situation, totally
disempowered by it.

He got it. He paused. From what he said next I realized exactly how
much I had allowed the situation in my life to eclipse my life.
Indeed, I had allowed the situation in my life to eclipse Life. I was
acting as if the world of the situation correlated with my world. I'd
forgotten it didn't.

Very carefully, very deliberately he told me
the world of the situation is a world of its own, with its own rules.
Those rules have very little correlation with Life.

Eventually it hit. Like a sonic boom. Long after the jet passed
overhead.

The rules of that world are a different set of rules. He didn't make
that world wrong. He didn't make those rules wrong. He didn't even take
my side, and nor did he side with the situation. All he did was
carve out a distinction I was too buried to see. When he did, I got my
life back. Actually I got more than that. I got Life back.