Addiction and depression

Hurt by who? I think that all that Clydey and I are saying here is that the interpretation of Islam seems to have made Muslim women (in conservative communities, at least) into downtrodden objects and that that sexism goes against what we believe in in this country. It genuinely annoys me to see Muslim women walking around covered head to toe while their husbands swan about in shorts and T-shirts. I have similar problems with the basic tenets of Christianity, although there's not so much of the misogyny.

I'd go out with a Muslim girl, but as long as she wasn't a practising believer. I'd say the same of a Christian girl. Religion and myself don't go well together. I went out with a Hindu girl for a very short time a couple of years ago, although she was only really Hindu in terms of her being of Indian descent. I could sense that the local 'community' wouldn't approve, however!

I went out with a girl who wasn't religious, but was into crystal healing. That had to come to an end. I couldn't ignore it any longer.

I went out with a Hindu girl for a very short time a couple of years ago, although she was only really Hindu in terms of her being of Indian descent. I could sense that the local 'community' wouldn't approve, however!

The other day we spent US$28 at duty free Miami airport for 2 bottles of rum... then hubby spent $18 on ONE BAG Dairy Milk Caramel choccies.I prefer the rum personally. He's a chocaholic, and I'm..... not!

Look Joe, this is draining me a bit. For that reason, I will personally communicate with Aileen which I have been doing so since yesterday anyway. It’s personal stuff and should remain personal. I don’t think Clydey is a bad person at all; it’s just that we can’t see eye to eye on things right now. He hates me and thinks very low of me and so be it. I don’t think I will be able to please everyone especially when I always have different stuff to say.

Sorry to change the topic, but having just managed to read through all the posts Emma (because I had to go out), I think you've more than fully answered my question, and I can understand now where you're coming from. However, it strikes me that between us we seem to have divulged a lot of personal information, so I think perhaps it's time this subject was left to lie.

One thing I will say though and that is that, despite everything, I find men on the whole to be more trustworthy than women. Us females can be hellish devious creatures (and I'm not ruling myself out here), whereas men are more likely to be straight with you. Also I worked as a secretary mainly in legal offices, and that included a spell with a solicitor who handled a fair number of divorce cases - and I'm talking here about the more complicated ones which only too often involved the children of the marriage - in many of which it was the wife who was the chief trouble-maker, particularly when it came to domestic abuse, both mental and physical. There are an awful lot of henpecked men around. Also, although I know you might find this hard to believe, there are a fair number of battered husbands as well. Women can be as physically abusive as men, only instead of using their hands and fists, they resort to using any item that happens to be lying around - the old jokey scenario of a wife beating her husband with a rolling-pin isn't as far fetched as you might think - and a considerable amount of damage can be done with long, sharp, fingernails. A lot of this husband-battering did come to light a few years ago when a charity was set up specifically to help men in that predicament because, unlike women, they were often very hesitant to tell anyone about the problem in case they were seen as being ineffectual and emasculated, the real truth being that many men are prepared to put up with this because there's still a belief that it's wrong to hit a woman, and so they don't retaliate.

Sorry to change the topic, but having just managed to read through all the posts Emma (because I had to go out), I think you've more than fully answered my question, and I can understand now where you're coming from. However, it strikes me that between us we seem to have divulged a lot of personal information, so I think perhaps it's time this subject was left to lie.

One thing I will say though and that is that, despite everything, I find men on the whole to be more trustworthy than women. Us females can be hellish devious creatures (and I'm not ruling myself out here), whereas men are more likely to be straight with you. Also I worked as a secretary mainly in legal offices, and that included a spell with a solicitor who handled a fair number of divorce cases - and I'm talking here about the more complicated ones which only too often involved the children of the marriage - in many of which it was the wife who was the chief trouble-maker, particularly when it came to domestic abuse, both mental and physical. There are an awful lot of henpecked men around. Also, although I know you might find this hard to believe, there are a fair number of battered husbands as well. Women can be as physically abusive as men, only instead of using their hands and fists, they resort to using any item that happens to be lying around - the old jokey scenario of a wife beating her husband with a rolling-pin isn't as far fetched as you might think - and a considerable amount of damage can be done with long, sharp, fingernails. A lot of this husband-battering did come to light a few years ago when a charity was set up specifically to help men in that predicament because, unlike women, they were often very hesitant to tell anyone about the problem in case they were seen as being ineffectual and emasculated, the real truth being that many men are prepared to put up with this because there's still a belief that it's wrong to hit a woman, and so they don't retaliate.

Not at all. Women can be very controlling and manipulative in their own way – even Muslim women to be honest. Last year, a married American man showed a lot of interest in me. He told me he's in a very abusive relationship with his wife to the point that one night he had to call the police to have restraining orders against her. He really wants to leave her but because they have a child together and because she's too reluctant to take a job, it feels impossible for him to down to that divorce road. He told me that while he's perfectly willing to give her child support no way in hell he'll give her alimony. Anyway, I didn’t go out with him because I don’t go out with married men. He could be lying of course but the details were a bit much to make the whole thing up. He seemed like a trustworthy guy anyway.