I am not your mom..nor will I ever be.I don't pretend to be, either...I just really want you to know this about me!I want to be your friend..but, I am also going to be who I am...if you don't like me...Oh well! That is not MY problem..that is YOURS!

I tried to be friendly, and kind..and I told you that I like you, for who you happen to be..and accept you for who you are...that is all that I can give you..I don't want to push you into being another person...I would like it if you are who you are..and were born as.

I am sad because you are going thru these trying times..and I wish that I could be your friend and confidante at times in your life..but, I don't want to invade your life...so you need to do what you have to for you.I am not going to leave your dad...I love him...and that is something that you will have to understand..I have always made it clear to you, that I am never going to take the place of your mom...EVER!! She was the one who carried you for nine and half long months and wanted you born...I didn't do this, at all. She is your "Mama"!!

I am just on the side here...hoping and wishing and praying that someday and somehow, we can be "good friends"..or even "JUST FRIENDS".

I will keep up my hoping for you...because I don't wish to be an enemy with you...I won't talk to you, if you would rather I don't....I won't write to you, or try to communicate with you, because you have to do what you have to do...and that is all that I can say at this time in your life...

I really hope that someday, you and I can sit and share and or shop and talk...etc...like we were once able to, the two other summers ago...I miss that person...alot!

sincerely, yoursJ.

Author's Notes: By ladykThursday July 12th, 2007

This is a letter (a secret letter that is) to my step-daughter..who suddenly did a "switcheroo" change on me...but, she has a lot of pressure happening to her..at this time in her life..and that I would NOT wish on my own!

I had a friendship which was starting to happen..then as suddenly as it was renewing itself, it went "Poof!!!" and the whole friendship/relationship between us went down...and I was in sooo much pain...I could hardly wait for her to leave. (I am sorry that I felt this way..but, it is the truth!) I was devastated..but, I learned the hard way...people Can and DO change...and that's life!!

I don't know if she has changed for the best...she is still young...but, just the same, I am in a mourning place, partly with her..and partly because of a loss of a neighbor friend...I keep trying to pick up my "pieces" so that I don't drown in my sorrows everyday.

I want to get back into thinking positive thoughts..and NOT going down into the pits of despair...I have certainly been there...and done that..it is sooooo UNFUN!!!

IF anybody else is going thru this sort of thing..with new family members...you have MY SYMPATHY!!!

If you have already gone thru it..drop me a line...would like to know just how you dealt with this sort of thing...

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