Archive for the ‘"Rock" The House Rules’ Category

In “Stepmonster”, Wednesday Martin writes about wanting a real wall to provide a boundary for the bedroom she shares with her husband. Real or otherwise, with actual walls or perceived ones, Step Moms do need to find, create or build a sacred space all for themselves, an oasis if you will in which to relax, recharge and release.

In the first home my husband and I shared together, I did believe this would be our bedroom until I came home one day to find my Step Daughter stretched across the bed chatting with her Dad. I’m sure this may have happened in their original home, but man, was I not going to stand for it in mine.

Married or otherwise, my bedroom has always been a sacred space for me. I am one of those people who chooses to set up my bedroom first when moving into a new home, knowing that at the end, middle or beginning of the day, I will have that space to come home to, retreat to and wake up to.

Your space need not be your bedroom, but creating YOUR space is indeed a necessity…even if it’s just yours for a part of the day and it is understood that there will be no interruptions or knocks on the door.

After discovering my Step Daughter in the bedroom I shared with my husband, in the home that was OUR primary residence, that my hard-earned money was going to pay for, I didn’t immediately react but instead waited for the time after they had all gone home to say…”Hey buddy, that wasn’t cool.” You see, we had talked about the bedroom just being our place. I really didn’t care if the kids ran roughshod over the rest of the house, I just wanted the boundary drawn at the door to our room and really didn’t think that was a lot to ask.

And in typical male fashion his response was “Oh yeah I forgot”. This reminded me that not every incident within my new family dynamic was created deliberately or to hurt me, but could just happen as a result of the sometimes unreliable mechanics of the male mind. Just the same as forgetting to buy milk at the grocery store, these guys can forget some of our requests as well and every now and then, although we’d like to rip a strip off them because they usually deserve it, we really do need to cut them some slack🙂

Doesn’t mean you let yourself get run all over, just means you stop and think about how the situation may have occurred before the beheading happens.

Find it, decorate it, protect it and revel in it. That sacred space you establish in your home, your own little corner of the Universe will come in handy more often than not🙂

In the category of Crazy Step Mom searches, Step Mom Chores came to us today :)

And so I’m wondering…Is this some kid looking to find out what their new Step Mom is supposed to be doing around the house, or is it some poor Step Mom out there feeling like she needs to do everything in order to be accepted and adored by her new brood?

So, let’s look at both perspectives…I’m a Gemini, this happens on a moment by moment basis, I just can’t help myself🙂

Ok you, you cool and groovy Step Mom…although it’s really tempting to let your husband’s children run rough shod all over the house because they Can’t do that at home, you are going to need to instill at least a little semblance of order, BUT, that doesn’t mean it can’t be FUN!!

Yes, Fun and Chores Can Coexist!!!

I learnt about how fun chores can be from my maternal grandparents. They were a sly pair those two, but I sure did have my fair share of fun while hanging out with them…which was a lot in my younger years. And, as a bit of a wily Gemini myself, took heed and note of all the “stuff ” that transpired while I was in their care, banking it away for a time when the lessons would be put to good use.

Ah yes, in your house, you gotta have a few rules if you are going to survive this mess!! I LOVE this category of posts, because…as Hootie and the Blow Fish like to say…

“With a little love, and some tenderness, We’ll walk upon the water, We’ll rise above this mess… With a little peace, and some harmony, We’ll take the world together, We’ll take ’em by the hand. ‘Cause I’ve got a hand for you. ‘Cause I wanna run with you”

Welcome Oh Lovely One !!

Single Girls take note...What happens when the man of your dreams, the love of your life, "The One" comes with a brood of kids and an ex-wife or two? Well, you either run for the hills with a broken heart or...your cool and groovy self becomes.... a Step Mom!

This Blog is dedicated to Empowering New Step Moms as they navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of their new family dynamic...and maybe even offer some seasoned vets a place to find a little solace as time served can and does challenge perspective :)

Either way, our mission is to encourage each and every one of you to Rock ON, not matter what the circumstances...and to do it in Grand Style!!
LA xo

What You’re Saying…

The Reason Behind the “Rock”

As a Step Mom, new or otherwise, the word "Rock" takes on a myriad of meanings.
You essentially at times....
ROCK the boat
ROCK their world
Need to BE the ROCK
Perform like a ROCK Star
Balance life while on the ROCKS...and it's joyful counterpart...
Have drinks On The ROCKS!
Step Mom Hood can be a blessing or a curse, it's really all about how you choose to react to the things that get flung your way.
Making the choice to Rock It Out on a regular basis is in essence making the choice for a greater sense of self, respect and at the end of the day, the thing that everyone strives for...HAPPINESS!!!
Rock On Awesome Step Mom, Rock ON !!