Really terrible phone call with my mother…

I called my mother and said there were some things I had to tell her. I also needed to ask her to mail me a few things from the lower 48 so it seemed like a good time to kill two birds with one stone and tell her I am pregnant.

It went terrible! Her only response was “you better not be pregnant, tell me you are joking, I can’t believe you did this, what am I going to do with you, you better not be pregnant”

I really didn’t know what to say or how to react so I just said sorry and hung up but now I feel aweful. I know it is not an ideal time for us to have a baby but we are happy about it. I am 25, he is 26, we have a house and a business and are way more financially stable than a lot of people our age. It seems that I had all of my bases covered but apparently not, I feel aweful and am not terrified to tell any of my siblings or heaven forbid my grandmother.

Did anyone else have a bad family telling experience that they survived, I could really use some advice/support right now.

@Jen-in-GA:@julies1949: thank you guys, I expected her to be a little leary becuase we do live a very very long ways away and are in the middle of absolute nowhere, but she is usually pretty supportive about mailing things we can’t get here and she has visited twice since I moved here 5 years ago so its not like its impossible to visit. I was really taken aback, I didn’t expect it to go that bad at all. I am counting my blessings that at least Mr. J’s siblings seem to be happy about it so far, hopefully that trend with continue

Awww…so sorry. My mom also reacted that way. I was 24 at the time. She hung up and didn’t speak to me for days. My dad called me back and apologized for her and that was the very first time he’d ever actually called me! Lol! Good thing is…once she got over the fact that she WAS about to be a GRANDMOTHER (that’s what it was REALLY about), she went all out. That baby was the light of her life. She will come around. Worry not and C O N G R A T S!!

@globalmargaret: Ugh I’m sorry. Did you have any idea she would react like that? I would be devastated.

This is a little different but when my mom told my grandmother she was pregnant with me she said in a very unenthusiastic voice “you are are you?” I was an only grandchild and she adored and spoiled me, just had an inappropriate initial reaction.

When my mom told my grandmother she was engage the reaction was worse. She said “DH asked me to marry him” grandma: “And you said no?” Mom: No… grandma “and you said you’d think about it?” Mom: No… Grandma (horrified) “you said yes?!” My mother was 19 at the time, but still.

My mother reacted in a really hurtful way too. Her exact words were ‘not another grandchild (my brother had one with one on the way), one’s enough. I thought you weren’t sure you wanted children?’ I am married, financially stable and 34!! About 5 years ago we had a conversation where I said I wasn’t sure about kids – but who hasn’t had those thoughts?! It was obvious I thought I was giving her good news. She later denied point blank she’d said those things. Mixed with a few other things my relationship has really taken a turn for the worst with her now. She’s not particularly involved in her other grand child’s life, so who knows what her problem is!

But, the rest of my family and all my friends reacted appropriately and were all really excited and happy for me. I’m sure yours will be too.