No my wife always sleeps in underwear and either a T-shirt or pajamas. Interesting that you mention that, because I have noticed it to be more frequent and appears to be more pleasurable to her, when she is only warring a top. Christina, you mentioned you like it, is this while you are awake or do you wake-up feeling that way?

As far as feeling more erotic, that is the problem. It doesn’t bother me that she pleasures herself, however when she does it (masturbates in her sleep) it shakes the bed enough to wake me. At this point I feel like I have two chooses.

Ignore it or nudge her like you would someone snoring and try to go back to sleep. I find it next to impossible for me to go back to sleep because if she is interrupted or doesn’t bring herself to orgasm she frequently starts again later the same night, not to mention my own arousal.

The second option is the typical male response, to try to join in or turn it into something we can enjoy together. This never goes well, because she will wake-up saying she feels violated. She either does not remember anything in the morning or does not bring it up. I as I mentioned previously it is a subject she is very self-conscience and very defensive about.

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