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Greg Bekkers

Why don’t they teach useful things in college like relationships, how to communicate with people, how to have amazing sex for both of you, or how to date? College should be about education and self development but there’s really not much self development. I know I learned more only after getting my M.B.A than when I was actually in school. Most of my education has been through reading and a lot of trial and error. This is what inspired me to want to create something to share my experiences and things I’ve learned. We don’t want to create some other PUA training here, I actually hate that term or any of the terms so called PUA’s use. Honestly there’s so much PUA stuff out there that you can find it everywhere. There’s lots of lines, routines, quick fixes that will get you laid if that’s all you’re looking for. If you’re just looking to get laid then this isn’t the place for you.

In my opinion some of the pick up community has some sociopaths in it and I question if they actually like women. That’s not what we’re about, so if that’s you and you resent women and want to just use them only for sex then I would suggest one of these “PUA’s”. We’re looking at the long term. We’re not just trying to get better with girls and have more sex, we want to improve as a man. A high character, driven, sexually masculine, humorous man. It’s about becoming the best version of yourself and pushing yourself to the next level so you can have the life that you want, not only with women but with everything.

I started as a guy that had zero social skills and was extremely shy. I was even depressed as a teenager where I apparently didn’t smile for nearly 2 years. I had very few friends and zero idea how to talk to women. I didn’t even go to my first party till I was nearly 19. I only lost my virginity when I was 20 years old. Needless to say I was horrible with girls and really any social situation. I remember when I was 19 there was a girl that I liked at the tennis academy I played but I had zero idea how to flirt or “get” her. So I just talked to her like a typical nice guy. Asking her questions and agreeing with everything she was saying. “Oh you like Britney Spears, me too!” OMG we have so much in common, you should be my girlfriend. I didn’t say that part, but basically what I was thinking. Let’s just say I got friend zoned hard, you could say I was the mayor of the friend zone.

I knew I was sick of not having any success with girls so I started looking on the internet and this is when I found the PUA community and started learning from them. In a few months I had improved my social skills and actually had my first girlfriend and a lot of other firsts let’s just say. Then in college I improved more and became known as a bit of a “player” which of course I was very proud of at the time and for many years after college too. I Had a few serious relationships, but I always tended to regress a bit in them. I would become complacent and put way too much of my attention on them because I had no drive or real goals outside of women. I had a lot of outside skills and surface level things, but eventually in relationships they get to know the real you and that guy was still the needy guy from my teenage years. So of course all these relationships eventually ended. I’m not going to lie, I did have a ton of fun during this time. I became very good at dating. It was almost like an addiction for me. At one point I was going on dates with 10 women in one week and even had times of 3 dates in one night (Let’s just say that taught me a lot about logistics). It was turning into a game for me and I couldn’t get enough.

Problem was, when I wasn’t doing that and I was alone I would still feel empty and not completely happy. Look, I was still much happier than when I was a virgin that couldn’t talk to a girl to save his life, but there was still something missing. What really woke me up was when I fell in love with a girl I was seeing when I was at the “peak” of my dating game. Long story short she broke up with me and of course like any persistent guy, I tried to get her back but it didn’t work. At this point I knew that treating women how I had and almost treating them as objects was a horrible way to go. In a way I went from one extreme to another which I think many guys do when they first get into the game. The ego boost becomes addicting and you want more. But it’s never enough because the problem is in yourself.

That’s what I learned and from then on I started focusing more on becoming a better man overall, not just better with girls. Enjoying women not just for sex but for them as a person. Not thinking: ok I have to kino escalate now or whatever bullshit term. Just relaxing and being in the moment. Improving in all areas of life, not just picking up girls. That’s what we want to teach and help with. We want to share what we’ve learned and are still learning on this journey with you guys.

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