The Secret to Healing is Forgiveness

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We all have been harmed or offended at some time in our life. How we deal with that “offense” is un...

We all have been harmed or offended at some time in our life. How we
deal with that “offense” is unique per individual. However, the key to moving on or “healing” is to actually “forgive” the person for the act that harmed you.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness, for the purpose of this post, is defined as “the act of excusing a mistake or offense”.This means you choose to make an “allowance” for whoever has harmed
or offended you. I don’t like the word “excusing” because in my opinion
there is no excuse for harming someone.

Forgiveness Does Not Come Easy

Some people are unable to Forgive. Generally, the nature of the
offense was too great to make an “allowance”. The sad part of being
incapable of forgiveness is that “offense” will also be there eating
away at you.For those who are unable to Forgive, the magnitude of the “offense”
could cause one to have increased sadness and misery. This “misery”
could lead to Depression, Suicidal Thoughts, and possibly Death.

It Is Imperative to Forgive

Regardless of what action you take after harm has been committed
against you, it is imperative that you be able to heal and move on. In
order to “heal”, we must Forgive.#Forgiveness will bring you #peace.Finding peace within oneself means that you are letting go of
control. You are letting go of the fear of being harmed and are able to
feel the pain.

My Personal Experience

I have been harmed in the worse way possible, Betrayal. At the very
moment it happened, I was devastated, confused, and depressed. It took
me several months in order to find “peace” within myself. I found peace
by meditating as well as reassuring myself that I was not the issue. I
was a great person and did nothing to bring about this harm. I sought
guidance from friends and my higher power. Sometimes this is not the best thing to do when it comes to a marital betrayal. I listened to all the advice given but ultimately what helped me was the ability to find love and peace within myself.

Once I found peace, I was then able to work on forgiving the betrayer.

This Is Not An Easy Feat

To #Forgive does not mean we must #Forget.We will never forget the offense that caused so much harm, nor will
we forget the immense pain we suffered because of it. However, we can
“let go” of how it affects us at this very moment.

Let Go, Let God. #forgivenessLet Go, Let God
is a beautiful poem that I highly recommend you read. You do not have
to be a religious person to believe in Let Go, Let Go. You are
essentially handing your pain and power over to your “higher power” in
order to be able to Forgive. Once you “let go”, you can feel at peace
with yourself and the strength to move on.

It Takes Time

Be patient! Finding Forgiveness can not be done overnight, in a
week or a month. It could take years for you to Forgive someone. The
sooner you can Forgive, however, may ensure a healthy state of mind.

It has been over a year since the Betrayal that rocked my world. I
have found the strength to Forgive him, and am slowly regaining Trust in
him. Have I forgotten what happened? Absolutely not. Do I still think
about it? I try not to but sometimes it just happens and I have to “let
it go”.I am not 100% healed, but I am much healthier than I was. It Takes Time.

Over To You

Have you ever been harmed or offended so deeply that you had to step back and find peace in order to Forgive?