This letter sets the stage for everything you'll be doing
afterwards, to try to get back together.

Why apologize in writing?

A hand-written letter, sent in a hand-addressed envelope,
is the most personal form of delayed communication you can use.

Spoken communication, in person or over the phone, is too
immediate. With immediate communication, some response is required
-- but your ex might feel threatened, or feel like there's not
enough time to think of the right response.

Text messages and email are too casual. Even a typed or printed
letter feels distant, compared to the intimacy of a handwritten
letter you took the time to pen yourself. Your letter to your
ex absolutely must be written by hand, and written on paper,
not on a card. A card is, once again, too casual.

When to apologize?

Send your letter as soon as possible, but be sure to wait
until after you have thought about your situation, and think
you understand what your ex is feeling.

While you compose your letter, you should feel regret, not
anger. If you are still angry, then it is too soon to write
a letter of apology. It is too soon to say you agree with the
breakup.

You need to be certain about what you are apologizing FOR.
For example:

Did you hurt someone's feelings?

Is someone angry at you?

Is someone afraid of you?

Are you ashamed of something you said or did?

Did you lie, steal, or cheat?

Did you forget something important?

Even if it was an accident, you should apologize. Even if
it felt justified at the time, you should apologize. Even if
you know that in the same circumstances, you would do the same
thing again -- you still ought to apologize.

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