21 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Have Self-Respect

When one respects themselves, it shows. But at times, how they do so, remains hidden. This is what people usually do when they are trying to get back their sense of self-respect. But, what are those things? Let’s take a look.

Keep in mind that self-respect comes from within. If you have any other way to gather that, then you don’t have to follow these methods. But these have been done by multitudes of people around the globe for centuries, and hence, there must be some truth in them.

1. You know that you are the most important being on earth, and hence you started prioritizing yourself more.

2. “Sorry” has a lot of power to bring people of different natures together. But most of the times, they are just empty drums. You don’t care for them anymore.

3. You stop playing the negotiator cum interpreter between people.

4. You don’t let people siphon off your energy while you stand to watch.

5. Toxicity is one song you adhere by, and also let go of toxic relations.

6. You don’t care about being accountable to other people, who don’t matter in the greater scheme of things.

7. You are a busy person, and hence you don’t always have the time to be at the beck and call of every human.

8. You don’t have to listen to everyone telling you to either go home or go out. You are your own master.

9. Your ambitions matter much more than people’s expectations.

10. Change is a part of life, and you have accepted it.

11. Social media is for stuff that concerns the public too. Your personal life is your own. No one needs to be a part of it.

12. You are with people who vibe to you. If there is no vibe, there is no connection. Hence, time spent is time wasted.

13. Alcohol is the bane to your survival. Alcohol meddles up your sense of judgment and lowers your inhibitions, that might not exactly be something that would be advantageous to your social position, and your sense of self-respect.

14. Everything these days become a trend. Be it the return of the b/w culture, or the hipster look, everything is a trend. And people usually judge the other person for not following a certain trend, to find themselves acceptable or inclusive to society. But, your attuned level of self-respect will prevent that from influencing your life. You know what is good for you, and you don’t care how that affects people.

15. Liking is an extremely opinionated thing. One might like you, one might not. You can’t always try to be in the good books of every individual that you would ever come across. You need to realize that at this point in your life, what matters is who you like, and to what extent, and not who likes you and who doesn’t. If they do, well, thanks. If they don’t, well, too bad for them.

16. You should be perfectly acceptable to the fact that there are people who don’t like you. You are not a person who has to please everyone to feel included in their midst. Be happy with who you have, and also accept the fact that there will come a time when people won’t like you, for the person you are, and that is perfectly okay.

17. You are not your mother’s child anymore. You need to grow up. Take responsibility for your own actions. You can’t keep on placing the blame or the burden on someone else. At a point, you need to realize that the life is yours, and only you are going to live it. Take control over your life, and make mistakes, but also learn from them. Steer it in a direction that would help you, away from the abyss.

18. Don’t play the victim card anymore. You are not a damsel in distress in the 21st century, and no knight in shining armor is going to help you. You are a strong, independent human being, with a good head on their shoulders, and in the event of a mistake, don’t make excuses for it. Just accept your folly, and move on. Making excuses and trying to justify your mistake by being the victim has never helped anyone, at any point in time.

19. You are not expendable. You have your own worth and value in this life. If people treat you like shit, then don’t even think of going back to them even if it is a situation of life and death. Priorities matter, and if someone doesn’t give you the time, or the energy which is something you do, then don’t be with that person. It would never work. Your sense of self-respect should stop you from that.

20. Keep your emotions in check. You know that people wouldn’t bend over backward to appease you unless you have something that they need. If you do, then you can burst into fits of rage or complain like a little child, but until then, don’t. You are not a kid.

21. No means no. You don’t have to see how that affects anyone. If you aren’t comfortable with a particular thing, you are more than welcome to say no. It wouldn’t demean you, but it would show you as someone with a rigid set of principles and ethics.