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Monday, January 23, 2012

True Freedom = No Job, Marriage, Children or Mortgage

By Winston Wu (Founder of HappierAbroad.com)

Hi all,
I am having a bizarre mid life crisis and wondering if anyone else can relate.

I have realized that what truly makes me happy is near total freedom, that is, the freedom to get up and do whatever you want everyday and go wherever you want without restriction or control from others. To me, that is the real measure of freedom. If you don't have that, then you aren't free, regardless of what your government or culture tells you, or what political freedoms you officially have, or what your Constitution/Bill of Rights says.

But the thing is, everything society encourages you to attain go AGAINST that - jobs, marriage, kids, house mortgages, - all these things tie you down, enslave you, and take away your freedom. They hammer you with responsibilities and lock you into a routine and geographic location, so that you can't just get up anytime and go wherever you want. They are the antithesis to travel, freedom and adventure. So in that sense, the true freedom I want goes against everything that society teaches about "normal life".

As you know, society teaches that one is supposed to strive to attain a stable job, and then a stable marriage in order to raise a family. But all these things tie you down and lock you into a monotonous routine of commitment in one place around the same people for long-term. Yet society teaches that without these things, you are empty and incomplete. So in effect, what society is saying is that unless you bind yourself into enslavement to others, you are empty and incomplete.

Most people simply follow all this and don't question it. In doing so, they never realize the obvious - that there is so much to see in the world - which any avid traveler will tell you - so to follow the role model life that society teaches you is to miss out on a lot on what the world has to offer: endless exciting adventures, places, events, people and love affairs that you can experience.

But society and government do not define freedom the way I do. Instead, they define freedom as not being under a foreign dictatorship (though a local one is ok) and as the "freedom to work" (voluntary enslavement). Both cultures in my background - American and Taiwanese - define freedom in this way, and both teach that one should "live to work" and that free time is idle.

In America, for example, the culture claims that you are free because the country is not under a direct dictatorship (though that seems to be changing), and you are allowed to vote in a farce called an election (controlled by two parties that represent the same interests but trick the public into thinking that they are different by arguing about senseless social wedge issues), and you are "free to work and choose your occupation" of course. In other words, "free to choose your voluntary enslavement." This concept assumes that work is all you want to do til you drop, so that by working, you are doing exactly what you want, and thus you are "free". And in Taiwan, people are told that they are free because Mainland China is not ruling them, so their country is independent and they are "free to work". Thus, the true freedom I talk about is frowned upon. They only emphasize political freedoms, which are a facade, rather than true freedom.

However, this definition of freedom has nothing to do with waking up and doing whatever you want each day without someone or something controlling you - such as your boss, spouse, kids, schedule, culture, society, finances, government, peers, etc. Nor does it have anything to do with being free from "being tied down" into binding commitments or being "free to roam" without restriction. Instead, society conditions you to WANT to be tied down with responsibilities and remain in one location for the long run. But if you follow that, you lose your freedom and become enslaved to a monotonous and binding routine.

That just doesn't make sense to me. Why would anyone want to be enslaved or imprisoned? It seems like an upside-down bizarro world to me. Yet society conditions you to feel empty and incomplete without these basic things that tie you down and take away your freedom. Thus, in effect, you are "trained to feel empty and incomplete without enslavement". That's just crazy, but that's the way it is.

You gotta understand that society is not there to give you freedom. It is there to maintain order and structure, and to CONTROL and ENSLAVE you by conditioning you to accept commitment, obligation, routine and enslavement. It doesn't give a rat's ass about your freedom. Its job is to "herd the cattle" (us) and will lie, propagandize, use mind control, and create false illusions in order to do that. So, it may tell you that you're free, but it won't give you freedom. This is why everything seems to be upside down, and why what society tells you is usually the opposite of the truth.

Most people don't think about or question such basic things. They simply assume that what everyone else is doing is normal and right, and that majority = right and conformity = security. They don't question things, but believe whatever they are told by their society, religion, media, government, and follow whatever most people around them believe. Therefore, most people are not truth seekers, freethinkers or true skeptics - such people are in a tiny minority.

For more info, see this video about the story of your enslavement:

So am I crazy or insane, or is society really an enslavement system that uses mind control to keep you in it, as the conspiracy/counter-culture crowd claim?

Does anyone else feel the same way? Why is everything I want the opposite of what society teaches and expects of us? Does that mean there is something wrong with me?

From my vantage point, here is why all the things that society teaches you to strive for takes away your freedom and greatly impedes it:

1) Job/Employment - A job basically enslaves you to servitude within a private dictatorship exchange for financial compensation. Working for someone else means you have to conform to a strict schedule - waking up at a certain time, eating at a certain time, and getting off at a certain time - while being in a position where you are constantly judged and evaluated by your performance. And of course, it locks you into a specific geographic location so that you can't travel (unless you are lucky enough to have a job that pays you to travel).

Thus, when you have a regular job, you cannot just wake up and say, "I feel like going to the beach today" or "I will go visit my parents today and spend some quality time with them" or "I will stay home and spend quality time with my kids today" or "I will sleep in and have a nice big breakfast when I wake up". Instead, you have to wait for the weekend to be "free", so technically, you are only free 1 or 2 days out of 7 days a week, which means that 70 percent of your week is spent in servitude! (and during the weekend, you are tied down by your spouse and kids)

So how can you call that freedom? It doesn't make any sense! But of course, we are all slaves to money so we have to work. So sadly, true freedom in this world requires financial independence and either lots of money or a steady flow of it. Therefore, it is best to find a way to work for yourself (ideally in a way that doesn't tie you to one location everyday, such as a portable business, internet based business or other form of residual income).

The movie "Office Space" (1999) accurately depicts the reality of the lifeless drudgery of working for most companies. I recommend seeing it if you haven't already. Someone in my forum gave this great analogy:

http://www.happierabroad.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=11397"That is why I refuse to work for someone else. I offer this analogy -- would you rather be tied to a tree but fed on a consistent basis? Or would you want to be free, without bounds or restrictions, and go out and hunt on your own?"

2) Marriage - When you get married, you vow to be faithful to your spouse for the rest of your life. Therefore, you are NOT free to meet a new person of the opposite sex to have a romantic love affair with. You are not free to get together with another that you fancy. You will never experience the novelty and passion of a new attractive lover, ever again (that is, if you honor your marriage vows). You can never take a trip to an exotic land, make eye contact with an attractive stranger of the opposite sex, and make sparks from there (like you see in the movies).

Therefore, you are "not free" to pursue any other fish in the sea. You are tied and bound to one person for life, until you die. And if you get tired or bored of your monogamous relationship, or regret it, there's nothing you can do about it. You are artificially bound for life, "til death do you part". Sure you can get divorced. But marriage is supposed to be for life. Divorce is seen as a dysfunctional aberration - as a "failed marriage".

And of course, unless your spouse is a traveling hippie, he/she will expect you to settle down in a house together, and work a job to pay for the house, and then have children too - all of which will further tie you down to one place and one routine for the long-term, completely destroying your freedom for good and "locking you up in multiple chains". There's no denying that.

Furthermore, many men have reported losing most of their assets in divorce settlements, because Western courts tend to be heavily biased in favor of women and hand over most of the couple's property to the woman, even if she didn't earn it. So these men end up getting "ass-raped" in divorce court. Therefore, marriage is very risky to a man, who stands to lose his assets if it doesn't go as planned, whereas the woman loses nothing and gains a lot. All this is heavily documented on sites like NoMarriage.com and even my own forum at HappierAbroad.com. In fact, as Tom Leykis, radio show host and men's rights advocate, argues, marriage has no benefit or advantage for a man. It only protects the woman and lets her take assets if she chooses to take advantage of it.

Also, the concept of marriage is illogical, unrealistic and unwise. Love cannot be forced or tied down by a mere contract. And one cannot swear an oath to love only one person for the rest of one's life, anymore than one can swear to like only vanilla ice cream for life. I mean, what if you get tired of your spouse, or love another person, or need the novelty of a new lover, or regret your binding lifetime commitment? What are you going to do then? Society FAILS to take this into account, but instead is eager to enslave you into another routine and commitment, which is its function. Remember that society is there to control and enslave you, not to free you. That's its job.

"A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished." - Zsa Zsa Gabor

3) Children - Contrary to the man made myth that "children are sacred and precious", children essentially are a commitment to a 20 year UNPAID job. In this unpaid job, you must give everything - money, time, stress, freedom, etc. and get virtually NOTHING in return. All your time, energy, resources and freedom are SUCKED out of you, with no return on investment. It's the most illogical thing, yet we are brainwashed by society and perhaps Mother Nature to want children, in order that the human species can continue.

When you have children, oh boy, are you in for it. You will get more than you bargained for. You will constantly be drained emotionally, financially and time-wise. And you will be constantly annoyed and stressed with their behavioral problems, conflicts and demands. It will drive you crazy and you will often regret it. And for putting up with all that, you get NOTHING in return - no profit, no fun, no peace of mind, no intellectual stimulation, no pleasure, no reward, nothing. Overall, you will lose a lot in your life to raise a child for 20 years, but gain nothing. It's "all pain and no gain". Kids will also enslave you by turning you into their servant. They are the equivalent of having a ball and chain tied to your ankle everyday without payment or reward (except an emotional one).

Now think about it. Would any business accept a deal where they would have endure years of trouble, annoyances, and costs, in return for no reward, profit or gain? Of course not. Never. So why then do parents accept such a deal when it comes to children? Obviously, it must be because society and Mother Nature programs them to feel some kind of "emptiness" without children in order to perpetuate the species.

In fact, you will feel like a servant to your children. Do you remember when you were a child, how you saw your parents as "existing solely to serve you"? Well your children are going to see you the same way, as being there to serve them. So you become a servant to these little twerps and they become your masters. You can forget about doing what's best for you or following your dreams, cause you don't matter anymore. Your life is gone and you exist solely for your kids now... well according to society that is.

In a sense, when you have children, you "commit suicide", figuratively speaking, and give up your life, so that you no longer live for yourself, but for them. They become the center of your life and your reason for living. And you are at their beck and control. None of your ambitions, goals, dreams, needs or desires matter anymore, according to society. This will be especially difficult if YOU were a spoiled attention seeking child yourself. And on TV, you are supposed to say:

"My children mean the world to me. There isn't anything I wouldn't do for them, including giving up my own life for them. I wouldn't hesitate to sacrifice my life to save them."

I've never understood why people always say that on TV. It's such a cliche. Why would anyone become so self-sacrificing and willing to die, forgoing their survival instinct? I sure wouldn't. You do not owe your kids your life. You only owe them your support. In fact, it is YOU who gave them life, so they OWE you their life and ought to be willing to die for YOU. Thus, society has it backwards. So why don't people say, "I wouldn't hesitate to give my life to save my parents?"

But nevertheless, your children are YOUR responsibility because you had them, so you have to endure all this for 20 years or more in order to be a proper parent. Once you have them, you are expected to be locked into the monotonous routine of daily life with them, in order to raise them and be there for them.

By the time your kids grow up and move out, you will be old, over the hill, have health problems, be no longer attractive to the opposite sex, and everything will go down from there as you wait to die. In effect, you will have given away the best years of your adult life to raise children. And what will you get for it? A pat on the back from them, and a "thank you for being a good parent", none of which will bring back your lost years and resources.

Thus, children are the ultimate SCAM of nature upon parents, albeit a necessary one, for our species cannot continue without them. Thus, Mother Nature has to trick you into feeling empty and incomplete without them, hardwiring it into your DNA. Otherwise you'd never have kids. Technically you will lose a lot but gain nothing from them. It's a totally raw deal for parents, but they must be programmed to want kids, lest the human race become extinct. (unless some future mass artificial insemination becomes the norm, as depicted in scary sci fi films)

And of course, kids will require the stable environment of a home and marriage to raise, which will further tie you down and lock you into a long-term routine in one place, not allowing you to travel or explore as your heart desires. Again, all this compounds to completely remove all freedom from your life.

So, unless your life is truly empty without children, and you are a very selfless and self-sacrificing person who is willing to give a lot of attention to a child, and you love children so much that you can't live without them, you should consider the consequences above. Otherwise, you will be done for and suffer in misery everyday while you have all your freedom taken away, in exchange for nothing and no ROI (return on investment). It will be the worst thing that's ever happened to you and the BIGGEST MISTAKE of your life! The only way out would be to give up your child for adoption, or become a deadbeat dad and incur condemnation from society and others. Otherwise, you will face years of regret, and your patience and tolerance will be constantly stretched beyond their limits, all for nothing - no gain, no profit, no reward, no fun, no pleasure, no peace of mind, no intellectual stimulation, etc. except for maybe the love they give you back. If that is fine to you, then more power to you. But when you analyze it logically, it makes no sense and seems like a trick of Mother Nature to perpetuate the species.

Keep in mind that unlike other big life decisions, children CANNOT be undone. You can get a job and quit it. You can marry and divorce. You can get a house and sell it and move. You can quit college and continue later. But you cannot undo children once you have them. So treat this like the most utmost decision in your life!

4) Mortgage/Home - Unless you are wealthy enough to buy up a house or inherit one, you will usually have to make mortgage payments on one, which means you become a LONG-TERM DEBT SLAVE, for decades probably. For most Americans, this is the biggest monthly expense. And in order to finance it, you will have to get a job and keep it. This will make you a slave both to the mortgage and to your job, tying you down long-term to a specific location as well. This means you are NOT free for travel, adventure or exploration.

And you will have to contend with regular cleaning and maintenance cost/labor associated with owning a home too. As they say, "Owning a home is like having a stone tied around your neck."

In addition, if you get married and have kids, it will normally lead to settling down in a home, which requires the servitude of employment to pay off - all of which results in your life being completely controlled by others, in total enslavement to obligation, duty and responsibility.

Now, if you are financially independent or can pay your mortgage without having to submit to employment, then this may not be as big of an issue for you. But for most Americans, this is their biggest monthly expense, and the reason they have to work. Other expenses in life, such as food, clothing, etc. are more malleable.

But of course, having a home to come home to is a wonderful thing. Many eventually discover that it is best to own a small cozy home in a nice area that requires the least amount of maintenance. That seems to be the ideal situation, and most easily achieved in foreign countries where homes are far more affordable than in the USA.

Each of the above take away your freedom. But if you have all four of them - living the typical life so to speak - you might as well just forget about any freedom, as you're pretty much finished. You might as well be in jail. You have zero freedom, regardless of what your Constitution or Bill of Rights says, as all that is meaningless since you have no freedom anyway.

Now, it is extremely difficult to be truly free from all four of the above binding areas of life. And it would take money and passive income too. But if you can free yourself from even two of the four, you will experience a lot more freedom than most people do. And that in itself would be a monumental achievement.

Conclusion:

So you see, all the major things above that society conditions you to want and need - jobs, marriage, children and mortgages - take away and destroy your freedom. Each one of them decreases your personal freedom, but all of them combined completely decimate your freedom for sure - by my standards that is. Yet you are supposed to feel empty and incomplete if you don't have these areas of life locking you down into monotonous routine and responsibility. That's what doesn't make sense. It's so weird. How can society be so upside-down?

Does anyone else feel the same way? Is there something wrong with me? This is what I struggle with everyday now.

Yet most people conform to society, striving for the major things above, and measuring their success by them, even though they completely take away one's freedom. It's so bizarre, like the Twilight Zone.

All of my Taiwanese cousins and family friends of my generation, for example, completely conform to what society teaches. They became doctors and engineers, or have a career in business. They have no free time, work at a stressful job each day, and come home to a nice house in a nice car. Their lives are complete routines with stable families. They make a lot of money, far more than I do of course, but unlike me, they do NOT have the freedom or luxury of getting up everyday and doing whatever they want. No siree. Plus they are bound to their spouses and children, and cannot just go out and have fun, meet new people and lovers, or explore the world per their heart's desire. Yet they are living exactly the way society has taught them to, without questioning it like I do.

So should I envy them, or should they envy me?

On the other hand, I have nearly become nearly financially independent by working for myself and establishing passive incomes through my websites (HappierAbroad.com and others). I only make enough to pay my basic expenses since I live in a third world country where cost of living is much lower than in the US (as long as I live frugally). But the important thing is that when I get up everyday, I am able to do whatever I want, and as I said, to me that's the true measure of freedom. Plus I can go out and meet cute girls whenever I want. See here for what I mean: http://www.happierabroad.com/ebook/Collage.htm

Currently, I am working on increasing my passive income. I have not gotten married (for the reasons above), but I do have a girlfriend and son, which I support. But still, I do not wish to turn my life into a routine to become a good stable parent, for my ambition now is to travel before I get old. There are so many experiences that I want to have, so many cultures I want to experience, and interesting people to meet. So I am dealing with the dilemma of being a proper parent vs. being able to travel freely, like I used to. Adventure is what makes me tick, not routine. I don't believe in getting married and locked down just to raise a child, as society teaches. Some may be outraged that I would say that, but I cannot compromise my beliefs and freedom for anyone, even my child, and I refuse to suffer and be miserable for 20 years just to be a "proper parent". That may not be what people want to hear, but that's the truth, and I cannot change who I am to fit what people want to hear. I'd rather be hated by everyone yet still retain my freedom, than suffer everyday and lose all my freedom just to appease everyone. I know for sure that I'd regret the latter much more than the former. That's how important freedom is to me.

So anyway, at this point, I have realized what truly makes me happy, what I live for, and what makes me tick. Yet all of it is contrary to what society teaches and to what other people my age do.

How do I make sense out of this, and not feel like there's something wrong with me? Why am I different than everyone else? Can any of you relate?

So what am I advocating? That one should become a traveling hippie/nomad? Sure, if that's what makes you happy. Why not? There are many people out there living that way who are happy and fulfilled, and living richer freer lives. And if you go out and live that way, you will meet many of them. But of course, you will never hear about them from the mainstream media, which encourages you to be a workaholic conformist. But if you live the life of a perpetual traveler, you will meet many such wonderful types, and you will be surprised that their lives seem far richer and freer than the typical conformists of mainstream society. It will open doors that you never thought existed. Once you experience it, you won't want to go back. Those who have know what I mean.

I think the bottom line is that it doesn't matter what you are told about freedom by your government, culture or society - all they spew out is "cattle control propaganda". Unless you are doing what your heart desires and following your bliss, you do not have true freedom. So ultimately, the most important thing is to follow your heart and bliss with dedication and passion - regardless of what society tells you, what your family thinks, or how others judge you. As the saying goes, "Do what you love. The money will follow." That's the way to truly live.

I hope I've given you something to think about.

Recommended Books

There is a guy I know named Walt Goodridge who is very good at helping people turn their passion into profit to become self-employed. You can see his website, books, articles and interviews at PassionProfit.com To help you learn how to free your mind and life, overcome the social programming traps and false assumptions ingrained into you, I highly recommend the late Harry Browne's ebook "How I Found True Freedom in an Unfree World." You can get it from HarryBrowne.org.

12 comments:

Great perception! A few discrepancies and then you completely disempower yourself by marketing someone else! Your writing in itself would haveresonated with others yet you are still linked to £...... I personally. Despite lovingChildren will sacrifice having them because of the challenges they would face. That was a big decision for me.

You make a good point. I disagree with some of what you think such as having children and not being able to do whatever you like personally. Many professors who are actually intellectuals as far as I know yet they have families as well. I think it depends on how they "prioritize" and manage the family. But I see what point your trying to make.

You complain about slavery.everybody on this earth was a slave since day 1. to god. this life is supposed to be hard. ur " feedom" comes in the next life IF you deserve it. stop looking for the easy way out. their is none. u live less than a 100 years. A tree lives longer than u. ur life is miniscule. cherish every day tht ur alive in ur so called slavery world. no offense. but ur morals r twisted i recomend more religious exposure. after all everything in this world parishes except ur soul. feed it

And what if you are wrong, good sir? no regrets of all your sacrifice and hard work to this 'god' whatever god it is you belong too, wouldnt your life have been a major waste?I do not agree with all the aspect written above, but your comment is probably the funnest yet. Hope you have a fulfilling afterlife, because your current seem very dull.Cheers.

I have the same thoughts myself for quite some time. I shared it with other people, but they just looked at me like I was insane. Most of them told me that it's just a phase I'm going through and it will pass. But I just don't feel making a commintment for lifetime and have a bunch of kids will fulfill me or make my life any better. Love fades, kids become an obligation instead of enjoyment. I'm too egoistic to bother about others needs but at least I'm honest about it. Some people pretend they care for one another, but I see how false their doing is. So yeah, interesting that the real freedom is probably not even reachable, so most of the people just caves into the illusion of freedom.

So let me get this straight the person writing this blog thinks that men are smarter than women( look back at earlier posts), doesn't want the most basic commitment or connection to at least one women because it would interfere with his sleeping around with other possible "lovers", refer to women as "getting pussies" instead of other human beings. Also thinks most american women are possessed (look at his forum postings and see for yourself) and makes a whole website like this wondering why american women don't fall down in praise of his manliness? WoW! This is a serial case of madness right here folks! I am not an american woman, people of all nationalities can see right through your bs and not want anything to do with you. I agree though that these things you are speaking of can be slaving if done with someone with this type of mindset all the time. Even the hippy chick wants to settle down after years of traveling, going from point A to point B just seeing the pretty sights without developing your mind it's a waste of time honestly.

Hi. I am very resonant to your passage. I am exactly with the same thoughts and feeling as you. I've tried to escape from my "prison life" once, I quited my job and marriage and ran away to other country a few years ago. However it was the visa expired I had to go back.(see how our life is confined by stupid society rule). I do agree with you, because the path I chose caused me experienced something and some adventures that other people in my home country (in similar age group around me) that they never can experience in their life. Because every one just pursuit the told "security" in job and relationship - in my home country, even you work as a freelancer you will also be judged you as " fail and irresponsible". My present situation is still stuck, because I need to work out how to have an remove business which can completely replace a permanent job. Some people may be against your opinions that " you will want to settle down one day , it is a waste of time keep traveling without develop your mind"....... "It is just a waste of time to going from point A to point B just seeing the pretty sights ...." These type of people are just tourist. Explorers go for adventures never say JUST WANT TO SEE PRETTY SIGHTS, we want to experience good and bad both, we want to make mistakes and we want to unfold more possibilities in life. Those type of person result-oriented will just like draw a circle on the ground to limit themselves to move out of comfort zone --- because they won't do dangerous things, they afraid to loss, they afraid to be taken advantages, they afraid many things, so most time of their life can just stay in an office, same marriage even got numbed, same daily routine ....then whole life gone. Well I think those who really never develop their mind are those just sitting in office, have worked same/ a few job in whole life , facing the same group of people and repetitive of similar working mode. So their problem solving skills is limited and the perspective of scope of life is also narrow. If some one has tried wandering throughout different countries, not limit oneself in a certain groups of people, works and geography, when they try to go back the seat in office life, they may find their mind and intelligence works smarter and quicker than other people. I agree with you because I usually feel suffocated by the heavy attachments of those stupid human beings. They love to be slave so they would enslave you, try their best to attach on you, you have to take responsibility to their boredom and feeling even you don't know WHY?--- Who you are? you are no importance to my life why I have to please you happily? Because they need to be comfort and please, so they assume you also need to be treated as the same way,-----but I just feel suffocated. Most people are egotism. I don't need your unnecessary caring as an excuse to control my way of life. For those never try to take the risk to adventure to throw away all the values that the society told you should have, they never understand how good is the feeling of being free. We only live once. I of course understand to decide living in such way is according to different people's personalities. But I'd say I comprehend what you mean because I am also a kind of people need a very high degree of freedom for my happiness (I don't feel happy even depressed for the values that the popular feel comfortable) .

BTW, I've worked in the same industry for 13 years for 5 jobs, same marriage near a decade.....my marriage was many girls' dream in my culture, I got married to a guy with successful career who can provide me wealth stable living. But one day my tear ran out, in front of a fancy lunch with him, I said I really couldn't taste any taste no matter how nice was the food. Afterwards I decided to quitted everything and ran away. Then I've experienced much and my mind developed much during my roaming in other countries. Now my life isn't wealthy even bit harsh to establish my new life again on my own, but I really never regard I made that choice. Because if not, I couldn't imagine the rest of my life was just like that. And I decided not to work full-time permanent job and learn to get incomes from different sources including online business. I also had time feeling defeated and tried to look for a permanent job, but how those stupid people in workplace replied " your profile is really good and fit, but because you have been a freelancer for a year so you are suspected not reliable and jumpy" So I think I really couldn't work for stupid people again. Also for those women who want to have good relationship with nice guy, I really suggest, to love him, give him freedom, but not just keep blaming how he is not responsible enough to your life and your devotion.

You're not the only one who thinks like this - I'm the same. Thankfully, I worked all this out when I was still a teenager and didn't make any of those mistakes. I'm 35 now and have earned a passive income online since 1998. The reason we think this way is simple... We think logically, not emotionally. We have the ability to separate our emotions from our higher-order thought processes. I personally believe people like us are the next stage of human evolution. Those that are able to override our genetic programming. Most people will never understand this mindset. We are the outliers of society. The sages of old. Thanks for the read, it was like listening to a kindred spirit.

You make some good points, but I have to disagree with your views towards relationships and children.

Let me put it this way:

- Do the wealthiest in our society (farmers as you'd say) marry and have kids? Of course. - Does it restrict their freedoms? No, it does not.

If you are wealthy enough, you can easily afford things like 24 hour childcare, spousal maintenance and prenuptial agreements (If you are really scared of losing all your sh*t in a marriage).

Having a child and a spouse is not a burden in our society; it's a privilege. One that the vast majority of us cannot afford due to having to sell our time for money (being farmed).

When you refer to passive income on the other hand you are referring to being a farmer and benefiting of the work of others. If you obtain enough human capital, you become "free". At least in our society.

There are many ways to do this, but it is certainly not easy and does take a toll of time, risk and determination.

Ideally, the quickest method would be to move to a developing country where the cost of human capital is low. However, draw your passive income or "farming" from a developed nation. Ideally one with lower taxes, but high average incomes (like the USA).

Just my thoughts on the matter. It is something I have been working towards now for 5 years and am very close to achieving.

Reading posts like yours remind me that I am not alone in feeling this way. Hats off to you sir. I hope you achieve your goals!