Chances of judge going against best interest atty?

I've posted my story a few times but just wanted to see if anyone's been in a similar place.

Background.

BM withheld kids for 14 weeks. We moved an hour away to be in her same school district in this time to try and gain more custody( he had eowe). Had emergency hearing after 14 weeks of no kids. Judge ordered we get them back on an extended schedule of 13 overnights a month. And we have since aug

We just had our final hearing. First let me say that the extended visits were supposed to end in nov, we had trial in nov but it ran over and couldn't get another day in court until the 11 of jan. so the judge extended the visits to the next trial. At the last trial (Monday) he said he would give his ruling in 10 days and we were to keep the extended visits until further notice.

Now here's where I worry. Everything went great in trial, BM tried to paint SO as an abusive monster. At closing argument the best interest attorney said this. It's clear that BM is an over exaggerator, over protective and try's to manage SOs parenting and she needs to stop. It's clear that SO is a loving devoted dad who believes in discipline and BM should perhaps adapt some of his parenting skills as her own. She said BM paints dad and going to dads in a negative way to the kids and that her withholding the visits was unjust and wrong. But then went on to say she doesn't support 50/50 because their parenting styles are too different and may confuse the kids(mom has no rules) and that changing of busses would be too much on the kids. WTF? Because they parent different 50/50 won't work? I mean who parents the exact same? If tht were the case I think no one would get 50-50.

BM told the judge (which was news to us) that they are planning on moving 10 min away to a new school and new daycare next sept, but they haven't met w a lender yet (building a house) and haven't picked out plans :/. Wouldn't keeping the kids on AT LEAST the same schedule they have been following since aug be in their best interest? They could use the same daycare they have used for years. And go to the same school. Since she uses before and after care anyway, and the kids never take a bus to or from her ur current home nor will they from the new one!

The best interest attorney also said that we def deserved more time w the kids but 50/50 wouldn't be best not would 3 weekends a month because BM goes to school in the evening 2 nights per week until the kids bedtime. So taking away a weekend of hers wouldn't allow her enough time w the kids.

So I'm very unclear of what option is left?

Is it completely unlikely that the judge will decide to give us 50/50?

We live literally 2 min from their school, same school as my DD and 5 min from their moms house. I just don't understand why we shouldn't keep at least the custody/schedule the kids have been on since August. Doesn't seem "best interest of the kids" to change that at all.

1. Confusing to the kids? So moving, changing schools and the crazy schedule as it is today isn't confusing enough, a consistant plan of custody so the kids know what to expect isn't a good idea?

2. Nobody should be allowed to talk to the judge "in private" in the case without ALL parties present. This is illegal if it happened.

3. I think the Best Interest of the Kids atty is saying to reduce the conflict and drama between the parenting and shield the kids from emotional and psychological harm, parents not being able to co/parent 50/50 custody isn't in their best interest because the bio parents would have to show their can be semi civil to co parent, put their drama aside for their best interest.

4. I would argue that DH has never "withheld" the children from their Mother and they would be best with your full time because you allow free and uninturrupted contact between kids and Mother and you are best to facilitate this between them unlike her who "Plays dirty".

Based on what you say the best interests attorney said, it sounds to me like he is saying 50/50 won't work, and DH is the better parent in terms of parenting style. So the only option left is DH getting the bulk of the custody time. I could be wrong, but I don't see a GAL shitting on one parent, then saying 50/50 won't work, give the bulk of the time to the crappy parent.

Can you talk to BM and find out what it would take to get 50/50? She needs to endorse it or it won't happen. It's the way the court system is and it is complete bullcrap. For my DH, he got BM to agree to 50/50 in exchange for money. Sad, but it sometimes works.

:(. But that's another thing. They got along GREAT until me. And then she went CRAZY. even though she had been with someone new for 2 years. So in the past they got along. Her mom and her both said they used to get along abnormally well, he even came for Xmas and thanksgiving etc. we provided texts and emails from aug- now where they got along and we "traded" nights with BM around her schedule and allowed her to pick up dd and take her to a bday party during our time. No problems.