met a great couple but...her pussy smelled bad

hi wondered if the anyone has any idea how to handle this situation .
we met a lovely couple and things where moving along nicely till my wife went down on her, but then changed position very quickly.
yep you guessed it smelly pussy syndrome we like them but not sure if we should say anything cos we dont want to upset her or just not meet up anymore

Re: met a great couple but......

Be, considerate and tell the husband that he needs to talk to his wife. If they never play with you again, at least you did them a service by telling them they have a problem for the future. It is like telling a guy he has his zipper down at a business meeting. They might appreciate the info.

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Don't tell them.

What may be smelly to your wife may be okay to another person. And if this woman really is that bad, she'll soon figure out she's got a problem down there because she'll be getting the same response from other playmates.

Also, maybe there was a particular reason she wasn't appealing at that moment and it may not be a problem in the future.

It is up to you to decide if you want to take that chance and play again with this couple to see if her odor is still a problem. For us, we'd probably not play with them again since Mr LM and I are highly affected by smell and it does turn off our sex drive quickly if we smell anything we don't like, to include cologne, breath, body odor.

You're probably wondering how you can let this couple know you aren't eager to play again unless the odor problem changes. If we were in your situation we'd first decide how much we really wanted to have sex with this couple again. If they were a standout couple that we had fun with in all other aspects we might play again and proceed with caution to the nether regions, or maybe we'd stay away from there altogether.

From our experience, the smell of a woman - good or bad - is noticable during play even if you never get to oral. So if you decide to play again, maybe you'll know in the early stages of play, after she's warmed up and wet (and definitely after intercourse or fingering) if she is sweeter than before. You can then exclude the oral that night if you don't like what you're smelling. If you decide to play a second time, you'll also know if she doesn't smell pleasant that she probaly isn't going to be any different in the future and you'll likely be faced with the same unpleasantry every time.

One of the hardest things in swinging is rejection. But you may have to do just that with this couple. If they ask you to play again and you decide to decline, I wouldn't mention that your reason is because of her odor.

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Call me a big, fat chicken, but I don't think we'd tell and I don't think we'd play again. If a woman has an odor problem, more than likely, she can smell it herself. I'm the first to know if my pH is a little off kilter, so I don't think anyone else would be any different. Just as we would not tell a couple that we weren't going to play with them because she's an annoying airhead, or because they seem like drama follows them, or because he drinks too much, we wouldn't elaborate on why we were going to take a pass on them either.

Pepper

"Swinging is a lot like riding a Harley, ...for those who understand, no explanation is necessary; for those who don't, no explanation is possible." --Mr. Alura

Re: met a great couple but......

Originally Posted by midnightplayer

Be, considerate and tell the husband that he needs to talk to his wife. If they never play with you again, at least you did them a service by telling them they have a problem for the future. It is like telling a guy he has his zipper down at a business meeting. They might appreciate the info.

I think this is the worst advice ever! First off, why tell the husband?? He's not her keeper!
Second, there might not be anything wrong with her smell...you just might not likely strong female scents.

Don't tell her. I think if there is an actual problem it will become obvious to them before too long. Likely though, I just think this is a case of a woman having a strong scent and your wife not being partial to it.

Re: met a great couple but......

I would love to agree with the advice that "they'll figure it out soon enough"... but then I think back to a time before swinging... when I was working retail and there was a woman who worked at the store next to mine. I can only assume that she had what I now know as BV. She didn't need to be to be naked for everyone around her to say she smelled just a little fishy, but no one was about to say anything to her face. If everyone around you knows it you'd think YOU'D NOTICE TOO! Heck, her mom even worked with her and she didn't tell her?!

Women know the scents that ain't right and there is a big difference between a woman just having a strong scent and a woman having a BAD smell. If she's got a smell that another woman can identify as "that ain't right!" then that ain't right and she needs to get it checked out. However, the question then becomes do you say something and that's a hard call. It's a little worse than just having a fly open. It's more like having a bugger hanging out of your nose. If it's someone you know and/or care about you are going to tell them... or at least make that little hand wiping across your nose motion and hope they get the hint.... or maybe even pass them a tissue if one is handy. If you don't know them or don't care too much.... you might just let it go and ignore it so long as you don't have to look at it for too long.

Re: met a great couple but......

thanks for all the advice we had just jumped out of the spa half an hour before and she had very strong ammonia/urine smell i think we have decided discretion is the better part of valour so will say nothing but prolly not meet up again

Re: met a great couple but......

To tell of the smell...or not? This is the question? Wikipeida [ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Olfaction] has a great article on smell. In the references at the end there are several that bear study, but one in particular jumped off the page at me.

"Olfactory fatigue or adaptation is the temporary, normal inability to distinguish a particular odor after a prolonged exposure to that airborne compound[1]. For example, when entering a restaurant initially the odor of food is often perceived as being very strong, but after time the awareness of the odor normally fades to the point where the smell is not perceptible or is much weaker. After leaving the area of high odor, the sensitivity is restored with time. Anosmia is the permanent loss of the sense of smell, and is different from olfactory fatigue.

It is a commonly used term in wine tasting, where one loses the ability to smell and distinguish wine bouquet after sniffing at wine(s) continuously for an extended period of time.

The term is also used in the study of indoor air quality, for example, in the perception of odors from people, tobacco, and cleaning agents.

Olfactory fatigue is an example of neural adaptation or sensory adaptation. Our bodies become desensitised to stimuli in order to prevent the over loading of our nervous system, thus allowing it to respond to new stimuli that is ‘out of the ordinary’ "

So the answer may be that she can't smell herself and a sensitive person might just find a kind way to let her know of her "problem". Or, the alternative...just keep on playing and eventually the odor will go away for you. Just remember, what caused the odor is still there.

Re: met a great couple but......

Originally Posted by forriecouple

thanks for all the advice we had just jumped out of the spa half an hour before and she had very strong ammonia/urine smell i think we have decided discretion is the better part of valour so will say nothing but prolly not meet up again

So are you saying it was only ammonia/urine that you smelled?

If you had exited the hot tub 30 minutes prior to sex I can understand smelling like that. You might have smelled that way to them too. Had you considered that?

Hot tubs, especially public ones in hotels, can have high levels of ammonia and users (kids and adults) like to pee in those things.

For those reasons, I like showering after being in a hot tub.

If the bad smell was nothing more than ammonia and urine, I now say play with them again, only this time no hot tub beforehand, or if you must start out in the hot tub, be sure you all shower afterwards before play begins.

Re: met a great couple but......

Originally Posted by forriecouple

thanks for all the advice we had just jumped out of the spa half an hour before and she had very strong ammonia/urine smell i think we have decided discretion is the better part of valour so will say nothing but prolly not meet up again

Re: met a great couple but......

lots of good advice i think i would go the most diplamatic way, i'm the male here but if my wife was to notice it i would think it would sound like this.. in conversation, my wife would say i have noticed that i (my wife) had a very strong odor a while back, not sure exactly what it was but...i think its gone back to normal, and the conversation would and could go from there or be dropped.. maybe just drop a hint is all that it needs

Re: met a great couple but......

Now knowing about the ammonia/hot tub, this post probably won't apply here. But it might help anyone else getting into a similar situation..

Right after my second son was born, I got some kind of infection. The smell was AWFUL! I never got used to it, neither did hubby. Maybe because it didn't smell like hot restaurant bread? LOL.. anyways... it was so strong at times that I could smell it through my clothes. I bathed 3-4 times a day, went back to the doc 3 times... nothing. Finally, I switched docs and this one listened to me, smelled me I'm sure, and treated me. But it was months later. Months now, no oral.. waaaa it was horrible!

Anyway, our experience is that a very BAD, odd smell is likely infectious in nature, and if you are one to go bareback, might want to pack condoms in the "emergency bag" lol. And not just for hubby... what she has, her hubby has!

If it isn't that kind of smell, or urine, then you can probably bet it has to do with diet or her cycle. Other causes can be medications and illnesses.

Just as diet changes the taste of sperm, it changes a woman's smell. I can eat seafood weeks on end, but eat shrimp? oooo bad smell lol... Turnip greens.. yuck.... It's not too many foods, mind you, but there are a few.

Then there is her cycle.. the closer she is to her period, the stronger the smell. Right after her period, all roses lol... well close!

Oh and as for telling them.. I understand what the above links are saying but I don't think it applies here. I don't smell my pus all day long lol, to be desensitized to it. If it is a little "odorous" for the most part it hits me when I sit down to pea. So I have a good many hours of the day I don't smell it, then a nice kick in the nose for a few minutes every several hours. Can't miss it. So if it is a long-standing problem, she knows. And, she should have told you ahead of time - so on that note, I say it isn't worth the stress of telling her. If it's not a long-standing problem, it likely will disappear in a few days.. and why embarass her?

Hope that helped some

Last edited by SnozzberryBlu; 01-03-2008 at 04:15 PM.

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