One simple fact that I’ve recently discovered is that a lot of us don’t know what to say in the first 30 seconds of meeting women who we are physically attracted to. We seem to either ask her a series of mundane questions, or even worse we make excuses to leave the interaction early before we embarrass ourselves.

This is often the cause of a lot of approach anxiety which prevents us from meeting new women on a day to day basis. One vital truth that we all need to recognise is that first impressions count and first impressions last, so here is an incredibly effective way of mastering our very own first impressions.

What To Say To Girls #1: Questions

As a dating coach, the problem with asking question after question is that women tend to feel like they’re being interviewed, especially if we ask them the following types of questions:

“Where are you from?”

“What do you do for a living?”

“What do you do for fun?”

So if we shouldn’t ask her questions, then what can we talk about? We don’t know anything about her and we don’t know what she likes, or what she is interested in. So how can we get the same information from her without asking her any questions?

What To Say To Girls #2: Assumptions

On our pick up artist courses we teach clients to make assumptions about women as opposed to asking them questions. It’s a very simple and yet very effective method; we merely turn any question into a statement and by doing so we instantly turn the conversation from boring and mundane into fun, interesting and intriguing.

“Where you are from?” can be turned into “you sound like you’re from Manchester”

“What do you do for a living?” can be turned into “You look like you could be a solicitor”

“What do you do for fun?” can be turned into “you look creative… I bet you play some kind of musical instrument”

Literally any question we can think of can be turned into a statement like this. By making statements and assumptions about her we are adding value into the interaction, making it more exciting for her whilst simultaneously demonstrating that we are present and observant.