I’m not gonna lie, I’m sort of a fan of on-again-off-again relationships. I just love first kisses so much and getting to have multiple first kisses with the same person is extra sweet and magical in my experience. It is fresh and exciting but also comfortable and...

I am so excited to announce the launch of my first product line, Altar Ego, which features sustainably made and beautifully designed altar candles! . I was inspired by my own experience of healing through grief to create tools to help people access the healing power...

This year I was not in my typical New Year’s mood. I did not do any reviewing or intention setting. I was sick with a high fever, searing pain and disgustingly swollen tonsils on New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day 😑 — but also, I was content to practice accepting...

“Our hope for and request of everyone here is that you find the support, practices, resources and information you need to grow in *resilience* — so that HEALING will be the thing that spreads and the force that shapes us.” This was the blessing I had the honor...

Lately, when I am facing painful challenge, I always end up dropping to my knees in gratitude for the practices that have kept me whole. I am grateful for meditation for changing the way my brain works and for being the practice that initiated exponential healing in...

I have been reflecting so much on trauma over the last week. About how it is transferred and passed on. How it operates in cycles. How I don’t think we quite understand or respect the effects it has on our brains and what it means when witnessing trauma is a...

This week my family suffered a horrible loss. After struggling with severe mental illness for several months, my Uncle’s life came to a tragic end on Monday. In addition to grief, we are all rocked with shock and trauma due to the dramatic and violent circumstances of...

Peso’s death was the richest experience of my life. Excruciating, exquisite — and everything in-between. I am so thankful to have been a witness to so many loving, beautiful ceremonies and rituals around death through my work. The people and families I have served all...

Last week one of my co-workers died from suicide at the Golden Gate Bridge. On the day I found out I drove from SF to Marin to attend a supportive gathering in his honor. This meant I had to drive over the bridge, which I felt very nervous about. As I approached our...

I know and value that every experience in my life is part of my personalized healing curriculum, that nothing is random and that EVERYTHING is guiding me to remember my wholeness. Even still, I spend quite a bit of time and energy resisting my lessons. Resistance...

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