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Created on : Friday, February 23, 2007, 02:18:10 pm

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(Original Air Date: 03/02/07) Do you live on the edge without thinking about the consequences? Dr. Phil's first guest made headlines across America. Crowned Miss Nevada in October 2006, Katie Rees was dethroned two months later when pictures of her in compromising positions surfaced. Why does she say her punishment was unfair? Then, David admits that he used to sneak out of the house in the middle of the night to have sex with another woman while his wife, Sara, slept. He got away with it for a while, until Sara woke up and went knocking on the other woman's door, catching David with his pants down. Should Sara give David another chance, or is David not ready to make a change? Dr. Phil has some tough questions for him. And, Kendra, 26, has been shoplifting since she was 9 years old. She's been to jail once and is currently on probation, but says she just can't stop stealing. You won't believe who taught her how to do this! Dr. Phil has a strong warning for this mother of three. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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Once a cheater always a cheater

I am sorry this is the only time Dr.Phil and I disagree. CHEATING. Okay so a one time fling, people can work through it hopefully, mistakes happen, but they do not happen over and over and over again. Then it's a different story. The cheater has tow lives he has a "relationship" with the other person, even if it is only sex. He cheated on his wife, he cheating on himself and he cheated on his vows. ( If there are kids involved he's cheated on them). Cut your losses and leave. You can't fix something that doesn't exist and there is no marriage when there is a cheater.

Chalk it up for Sara and David

Trust and Respect in a marriage or any relationship are the two most important elements that one can have. When those two components no longer exist in a relationship, then that relationship becomes warped. That warpness will keep wearing away all the threads that remain in the marriage.

living on the edge

I have lived on the edge and i learned the hard way do not do that it can be bad for you. i got beat up and raped. After that i told myself that i am going to stopeand live right. And i am hear today.Thanks to my inter voice. Liston to your invoice it will help you do right. Diane kunz

03/02 Caught in the Act

I am sorry this is the only time Dr.Phil and I disagree. CHEATING. Okay so a one time fling, people can work through it hopefully, mistakes happen, but they do not happen over and over and over again. Then it's a different story. The cheater has tow lives he has a "relationship" with the other person, even if it is only sex. He cheated on his wife, he cheating on himself and he cheated on his vows. ( If there are kids involved he's cheated on them). Cut your losses and leave. You can't fix something that doesn't exist and there is no marriage when there is a cheater.

I personally know people who have had affairs and they moved on and were forgiven and never did it again.

It's a nice platitude, and people seem to fall in line on things that sound good, but "once a cheater always a cheater" isn't "always" true.

Cheaters

I don't understand how any woman with respect for herself, something all women should place first in their life, stay with a man who has cheated on her. My ex-husband was a (please excuse the expression) slut. He cheated on me the night before we got married, even, but I thought he'd stop when we were married...........NOT. I never caught him in the act but people constantly told me about him being with this person or that person. Funny how many men even, came to me and asked if I thought he would ever have sex with men. It caused me to wonder why they would ask, after a while I realized why. I gave him the benefit of the doubt for over ten years until one day he got drunk and broke down crying and told me everything, from the fact that he had sex with men, women, his neices, even got his own half sister pregnant. I should have left him much earlier in the marriage, it would have saved me a whole lot of money. I was his third wife, I heard he married again after me, and divorced again and married again. I don't mind that he and I are not together, I have my self-respect and my sanity. I have a great life that I've made for myself all on my own. I've been single now for over 20 years and am loving it. I've been retired since December 31, 2004, financially secure by my own efforts and life is a blast. I've worked hard to get to where I am now but my credit score, which I got to on my own, is a whopping 797! YAHOO. I'm free to do anything I want.

I agree

I personally know people who have had affairs and they moved on and were forgiven and never did it again.

It's a nice platitude, and people seem to fall in line on things that sound good, but "once a cheater always a cheater" isn't "always" true.

While I don't personally know of anyone who's survived an affair and never had it reoccur, I believe it is possible. I have a diference of opinion between my husband and I about the way Dr. Phil talks to the men who've cheated on their wives. He thinks that Dr. Phil is all about the "making the story good for TV" and that when men tell him they've been trying this or that, are sorry, etc, that Dr. Phil doesn't listen to them. I agree with Dr. Phil, though. I tell my husband he just doesn't get it - that he stresses that "unless and until you really understand how much the other person has been hurt" that Dr. Phil knows that the person hasn't really gotten to that point of realization. Anyone else debate this with their husbands or know what I'm talking about? I find it hard to describe the situation. But it does seem that Dr. Phil stresses that point over and over about the "unless and until" part. I think maybe my husband just doesn't get it. In either case,we both agree we'd never be on national TV airing our dirty laundry!

03/02 Caught in the Act

I am sorry this is the only time Dr.Phil and I disagree. CHEATING. Okay so a one time fling, people can work through it hopefully, mistakes happen, but they do not happen over and over and over again. Then it's a different story. The cheater has tow lives he has a "relationship" with the other person, even if it is only sex. He cheated on his wife, he cheating on himself and he cheated on his vows. ( If there are kids involved he's cheated on them). Cut your losses and leave. You can't fix something that doesn't exist and there is no marriage when there is a cheater.

We all make mistakes as no one is perfect but we don't have to make the same mistake over again. if one wants to change, they can, it's possible, depends on whether they really want to or not.

03/02 Caught in the Act

I sure don't want her being in the spot light in front of my Grand kids.. there's a to much of that all around them ...and when your in the Spot Light the HEATS on.....

It's not like she's posing nude on stage at the pageant..LOL

I agree with her removal because she broke the rules...but the rules
are dumb. Let's face it people, the Miss America and state pageants are just
pretty contests. They're shallow and demean women at least as much as
porn does.

Of course they are...

I agree with her removal because she broke the rules...but the rules
are dumb. Let's face it people, the Miss America and state pageants are just
pretty contests. They're shallow and demean women at least as much as
porn does.

Or, as I heard it referred to 3 decades ago by someone with an Animal Husbandry degree, a "glorified cattle judging." MOOOO...

I would almost say these T& A contests are even worse than porn, because these things (especially Miss America, which is dying a slow, painful death) pretend to be about "talent" and "scholarship" and "poise" when in reality, it's about the pretty factor. At least with porn, "what you see is what you get."