To not let my 3yr old dd wear strappy, dressy up shoes?

She sees them in the charity shops and occasionally we get given some in a bag of clothes from friends. They're the impractical plasticy ones and the sparkly pump types ones from next. I don't allow her to go outside in anything except shoes/boots/sandals she can actually run about in and are suitable for the terrain/weather. She's mainly in trainers.But she had a strop the other day as I wouldn't let her wear some next pumps to school the other day. I'm mot against sparkly, she has some fab sparkly doc martens, it's the lack of protection/support and that they just fall off all the time! She can't walk properly in them at all! Ai also bu for not allowing them even in the house as part of dress up?

Yabu to not allow them ever, but yanbu to insist on suitable footwear for school and out playing. But there's nothing wrong with them for dressing up or pottering at home

Although I speak as an adult who is still bitter about never being allowed those plastic jelly shoes that actually came back in fashion a couple of years ago. My mum was worried I'd step on nails (in my garden/suburban street/friends gardens ) and they'd go right through the bottom of the shoe. So I may be biased.

My dd is similar in that she always wants 'pretty' shoes. She can wear pretty summery shoes on dry days as long as she has tights on (during cold weather), she can wear her sparkly dress up shoes in the house, any other time she wears her 'proper' boots/shoes.

YANBU to not allow her to wear them out, I insist DD (4) keeps hers for in the house and I have said she can wear them outside in the summer (this pair is ballet pump style, so she can actually walk properly in them they just don't offer any protection).

After a few tantrums initially she has accepted the rules and logic that they would be ruined in this weather!

I do let her have a say in her everyday shoes though, sports direct are good for character/sparkly trainers and boots that are cheap and practical. And I put her summer shoes away once it was clear the winter was coming, out of sight, out of mind. She usually has 3 pairs out to choose from, so currently 2 pairs of boots and one pair of trainers, in summer it might be one each of sandals, trainers and ballet pumps.

Okay, so I need to relax a bit in the house. I'm glad I'm not being too harsh with not allowing them outside.I'm just worried that having them inside is a slippery slope to her wearing them outside. I'm going to have to deal with the tantrums!

Yes saucy I should take her to clarks to choose some decent sparkly ones!

eric up until she's had her own opinions she has only ever worn boys shoes sadly as I can never find any non garish decent girls shoes/trainers.Now she's being a bit more stubborn, so i have agreed to to sparkly shite shoes in the house only!

I'll admit I am a preppie Laura Ashley type who loathes sparkly and bling you things, and wouldn't all such things in the house. I'd use the all purpose excuse that they are neither practical nor appropriate.

As it is, they been in the house for only a few days now and she's bored with them, as you've said soub she can't walk in them so has given up on them! She even handed me a pair this morning saying that I need to give them back because they hurt her feet!