A friend got the phone call from his wife while he was away on business. She had moved out of their home ‘for just a few months, for some time to think.’ My friend panicked, wondered if it meant ‘forever’, and feared to return home. What would it feel like to walk in the door and see that ‘home’ was missing? Some furniture would be gone, and some kitchen appliances, bathroom towels, her clothing…her. Continue reading →

My little sister was born on the first of April. She was the one in our family who easily laughed at herself. Once as a kid, she tried to climb up my parent’s chest of drawers, tipping it over on herself. The crash had my mom and me in the bedroom in seconds, and there was Julie, laughing under the big chest, just her head and hands showing. She wasn’t hurt, not even her feelings, but she sure looked foolish. Continue reading →

Being in your mid to late twenties can be the most challenging time in life. You’ve either launched your work or are beginning your family, or you’re a late bloomer just now getting a sense of who you are meant to become. Or you’ve already made big bold mistakes in life and have spent the past few years cleaning up the mess. What lies ahead? This message is for you. Continue reading →

Beginnings: May, 2005

Today, three weeks into the world of breast cancer, I must choose: Either I let God be God and allow peace, or I continue spending all my energy researching every paranoia-inducing fact I can about breast cancer treatment and survival.