Do Attractive Guys Need The System?

Now let me tell you something: A good-looking guy might intimidate a woman going in, but once he starts talking and comes off like a buffoon, he’s nowhere. He thinks the lady’s Interest Level is up in the sky while she’s laughing inside. So good looks will get you going, but they don’t keep you there.

I don’t — and never did — advise playing any games with women, pal. But here’s the way the strategy works: You have no idea what a woman’s motives are when you meet and why she’s with you. You’re going out with a complete stranger. So what I’m telling guys is that they have to go in SLOWLY, keep their eyes open and look for red flags. If that’s playing games, then sign me up for the Olympics!

missing the point

You completely missed my point if you think that I want a woman to know a guy’s not interested. What turns them on is when they know you had a good time on the date. The truth is that the woman knows on a gut level what your Interest Level is. So what you’re doing by hanging back and not draping yourself all over a girl is being playful instead of a game-player. Then you have her thinking to herself, “Look at the Self Control this guy has! Every other guy in the world would have phoned me four and a half hours after our first date, said what a great time we had and by the way can we get together next Saturday night?” And you know what that does, man? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love says, “It absolutely blows up Challenge.”

And you missed another important point, pal. Women are supposed to chase you to win you over. Because when they have to fight to get you, it lasts longer and they respect you more.

women are less confident

But you think women can’t take it because they aren’t as confident as men. Hey, Roman, you should be giving speeches to women’s groups in colleges — they’d just love that statement! ALL WOMEN ARE CONFIDENT when it comes to men and women. They may not be so sure of themselves flying an airplane or uncorking a champagne bottle, but when it comes to men they have us down cold. Like my cousin General Love says, “You guys have no idea what you’re going up against!” And what’s worse, men talk down to women when they’re clueless about what women want or need.

Clinically sane women will look at men’s teasing, flirtatious behavior as playfulness. That kind of confident behavior is going to make insecure women feel more insecure — and I don’t want you with insecure women in the first place. To you Psych majors, insecure women hate Challenge. But self-reliant women with good attitudes love Challenge. So "The System" protects guys by weeding out the women who aren’t good enough — the numbers with too many scars and baggage. Sorry about that!

player or not?

Buddy, if you use Challenge on a woman who has all her marbles, she isn’t worried that you’re a player — she wonders if you’re a player. There’s a big difference. And she’s also wondering if she can catch you and if she can get you to want to give up all the other girls, which is an attractive notion. So that’s one thing you hit right on the head, Roman: You want her to think that every other girl in town wants you. Because when her Interest Level is way up in the 90s, she thinks you’re the best-looking guy out of 3 billion men. Ask any woman if you don’t believe me.