Iâ€™ll just cut right to the chase: I have orgasms in my sleep, what can be called â€śwet dreams.â€ť When I dream something erotic (even if itâ€™s just my husband and I having sex), not only do I become aroused, but I have actual orgasms. I would say I have several wet dreams a month. Now, Iâ€™m not complaining â€” itâ€™s kind of awesome, to be honest! â€” but I want to know how common this is amongst women? Because Iâ€™ve never heard of women having wet dreams. Men, yesâ€¦women, no. Although, my own husband hasnâ€™t ever had a wet dream. I find that strange, because I always thought that men are the only ones to have them. So whatâ€™s the deal?

Lauri: Orgasms during sleep are actually VERY common indeed for those of us of the fairer sex! And in my research, about two â€śwet dreamsâ€ť a month seems to be the going rate these days among women!Â Â In fact, after the early twenties, dreams resulting in orgasms rise among women and decrease among men.Â Yay us!

What causes the orgasms in sleep?Â It is definitely the dream content!Â The body does not know the difference between a dreaming event or a waking event, so its reactions to dream stimuli will be the same as reactions to waking life stimuli (save for the fact that the skeletal muscles are paralyzed during REM so that we do not get up and act out the dream). The eye balls move under our lids (hence the term REM, Rapid Eye Movement) because we are watching what is going on in our dream.Â If the dream is exciting or frightening, the heart races, we sweat, breathing becomes rapid. And if the content is sexual, the brain sends the message to our lady friend down below that we are having sex so the blood flows, the vagina engorges, becomes wet andâ€¦ BAM!â€¦You have been the proud recipient of a wet dream.

What causes the sexual content of the dream? Pay attention to your cycle. If you are in the middle, when ovulation takes place, this is when you are more likely to have a sex dream, because the body is ready and willingâ€¦ basically, when you are the most horny, baby! An equally common cause for sexual content in dreams is the meaning behind sex. It does not always refer to a physical union you want but a psychological union you need or have recently had. Naughty dream about the creepy guy in the cubicle behind you, for example? It doesnâ€™t mean you secretly want your way with him, it means you either need to â€ścome togetherâ€ť on some level for a project or for the good of your job OR perhaps there is something about him â€“ like his computer savvy â€“ that you need to bring into your own personality just as you might have brought him into your body in the dream. And if said dream ends in orgasm, enjoy and rejoice in the fact that the result is not nearly as messy as it is for a man.