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Sunday, October 30, 2016

Is it true what I've heard, that outside the US Halloween is no big deal? Halloween is October 31 and it is celebrated widely and diversely here in the US.

Do you have any special plans for Halloween? Have you do anything fun or interesting this year at a Halloween party or event?

Here in the states, the stores depend on Halloween to sell a lot of merchandise. There are parties, costume contests, what amounts to theatre in front of (and inside, sometimes) the homes of people as they try to scare or entertain neighbors and strangers with things ranging from silly to sexy, spooky to gory. In some places, kids (and often parents) in costumes go from door to door collecting candy or other treats.

Many amusement parks, ranging from small to the largest, do special entertainment in the weeks leading up to Halloween, and this is a favorite time of the year for movie studios to release horror movies, and for broadcasters to show ones from years past.

For some, there are religious or spiritual aspects to the day, and it might be called by other names.

Some interesting things can happen when people are having fun at costume parties, or cuddled up together watching scary movies.

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

confessions of woman who had incest when they were young and still do it now they are married

We noted so many times the how the term "incest" is way too vague. There could be several different things going on here.

It appears the person meant "women" (plural) instead of woman. The person could be referring to sisters or female cousins or even close-in-age aunts & nieces who, as minors, experimented with each other, found they liked to be together, and have kept getting together.

It could also be about heterosexual interactions, but only from the perspective of the women involved.

"Young" can still mean an adult, so it could be women who were adults who were involved with significantly older relatives, such as a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle.

"Had" gives the connotation of consensual interaction, but if this person is really talking about a significantly older adult with a minor, that is a different matter from the other possibilities, because then the search is about someone who was groomed and conditioned and is still interacting with the person or persons who had been their abusers.

Now let's get to the other part of this...They still do it now that they are married.

Some polyamorous relationships are open. Some. Some are closed. Some are partially open, meaning one or more people in the relationship are open to new lovers, but not everyone in the relationship is. Some polyamorous people are involved in swinging.

Poly is consensual, honest and compassionate
connections between three or more people in which all parties are
informed of the relationship(s) status.

That's the bare bones explanation. It could be as simple as one person who is seeing two people, and those two people know each other exist and know they are dating the same person, even if those two (who are metamours) never meet.

It’s not about having more sexual partners, it’s about
having more romantic connections.

Usually, yes, but it doesn't even have to be romantic, at least not in a traditional sense. It just has to be more than what people would consider "platonic" friends.

The notion that once you are in a
relationship it becomes immoral to so much as bat eyes with another
person is ludicrous.

Agreed.

In poly relationships the option is open to explore
new connections outside of the one already engaged in.

Sometimes they explore new connections, sometimes they don't.

Poly relationships can take many different forms and the
guidelines of each are decided by those involved.

That is very important. They are deciding for themselves and together, not letting someone else decide for them.

If you sleep with other people and you don’t tell your
partner or its not part of your agreement, that’s cheating just like in
any other relationship.

Monday, October 17, 2016

This blog has featured scores ofexclusive interviewswith lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love
and are, by law, denied the freedom to marry and have that marriage
treated
equally under the law.The man and woman interviewed below are clearly able to consent to their relationship. They should be free to decidewhether or not to legally marry. Yet they could be criminally prosecutedand face other forms of discrimination if the wrong people found out about their relationship.
They are consenting adults who aren't hurting anyone; why should they be denied
their rights?Read the interview below and
see for yourself what they have to say. You may think this relationship
is interesting, or it might make you uncomfortable, or you might find it incredibly sexy, or even think it fits certain prejudicial stereotypes, but whatever your reaction,
should these lovers be denied equal access to marriage or any other rights?

***WARNING: THE DISCUSSION IN THE INTERVIEW IS BRIEFLY SEXUALLY EXPLICIT***

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

I, _________, hereby affirm I do and will support the rights of all adults to marriage, domestic partnership, civil union, cohabitation, and personal consortium, and any of those without the others, and that these rights shall not be abridged nor denied by the United States
or any state on account of sex, gender, sexual orientation, race,
ethnicity, ancestry, consanguinity, affinity, or number of participants; that all should live without discrimination and pursue their consensual relationships with each other regardless of gender, sexuality, or relationship diversities.

Monday, October 10, 2016

Even with last year's US Supreme Court decision bringing all states online with the limited monogamous same-gender freedom to marry, and some recent laws enacted for the protection and rights of LGBT people, life can be tough for someone whose identity and orientation doesn’t fit in to a little heterosexual, monogamous, "traditional"-gender-role box or whose relationship doesn’t meet the local sex police’s approved standards. Sometimes, a person or the people in a relationship want to come out of the closet. Sometimes they need to come out. For some of these people, it is a little less difficult if they do so as part of a communal event, such as National Coming Out Day.

National Coming Out Day is Tuesday, October 11.Here’s the official website, at least for the US. There is much helpful information there, regardless of where you live.

On the other hand, it is understandable that any given person, couple, triad, or quad decides to stay in the closet for now. There’s still so much hate, so much prejudice and persecution, and even unjust laws that hinder the life and love of people who are good citizens and just want to be themselves. I support the decision of anyone who believes they need to be reserved for now for the sake of their safety and family.

The decision to come out is yours. Do you want to come out, and to whom? Your friends? Your family? Your coworkers? Your classmates? Your neighbors? Your crush? The whole world?

Also, if someone comes out to you, the decision to be an ally is yours. If your classmate, coworker, neighbor, friend, parent, child, or sibling comes to you and says they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, polysexual, pansexual, transgender, polyamorous, or in a consanguinamorous relationship, what will you do? Will you choose love and acceptance?

Even if you are heterosexual, monogamous, and nonconsanguinamorous, you may want to come out as an ally for full marriage equality. That alone can take courage, but it helps.

If you are planning to come out, or you do come out, please feel free to share your experience here by commenting.

I would wager that poly regulars are usually more open minded than mono regulars because they also face discrimination and bashing from society.

While that may be the case for more polyamorous people than the general population, there are still some polyamorous people who are prejudiced against consanguinamorous people. But then, there are consangs who are prejudiced against polyamorous people. Jane does go on to note that. It's unfortunate. Solidarity is the way to go. We need solidarity to secure and protect the rights of all adults.

Another reason I bring it up is to break down some of the negative stereotypes. Consanguinamorous people are often described as ‘desperate’, where poly people have been stereotyped as sexually immoral or promiscuous, which is far from the truth. There are many closed polycules where there is no cheating going on, cheating is STILL AGAINST THE RULES in polyamory. It’s not about how many people they can shag and get away with it, it’s about developing and maintaining multiple loving relationships in an arrangement that everyone is happy with. Likewise consanguinamorous people are clearly NOT in such relationships due to being unable to find anyone else, we end up in such relationships because of the overwhelming double-love we feel. It is frustrating to many people that such assumptions are made with so little thought. I realize that making assumptions is sometimes human nature, but come on people, REALLY?

On the flip side of throwing each other under the bus is the reality that some people who are in one of these categories are more likely to experiment in the other. It is likely more the general population would, but they've internalized prejudices an thus artificially limit their sexuality for no good reason. Some people who are polyamorous or consanguinamorous realize that crossing one "taboo" didn't end the world, and was even of great benefit, so so they are more willing to put aside similar prejudices about the other category. Again, that's only some. Some people are monogamous, and being consanguinamorous will never change that, while others are polyamorous and have a strong experience with the Westermarck Effect and will never have any interest in consanguinamory (at least, outside of Genetic Sexual Attraction).

The bottom line to all of this is that no matter what your boundaries, attractions, orientation, or turn-offs, we should all support the rights of all adults to be treated equally, with the freedom to pursue their relationships.

Anonymous commented on this entry and left us wanting to know more about his consanguinamorous relationship and his life in general. I didn't publish this comment in place because we try to avoid expletives on this blog, since some people already find the content controversial enough.

The following is my two cent's worth on this subject. At about the age of 21, I experimented with a relationship with one of my Mom's sisters to initiate a relationship with her. I was surprised to learn she had just as much interest in dating/loving me.

People get so nervous about making a move, and usually for good reason. But sometimes, they find out the feelings are mutual, or that after thinking about it, the other person realizes they would like to try taking the relationship in a new direction after all. These relationships happen more than people think.

She was 26 years older than I was, but we had such good chemistry together. she was very pretty and so much fun to be with.

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Earlier today, sites like Cosmopolitan and the Sun aggregated a story credited to the Florida Sun Post, which reported that
a 68-year-old man had married his 24-year-old granddaughter. Their
biological relation was unbeknownst to both of them until, according to
the story, they were flipping through a photo album together and she saw
a photo of her estranged father, who happened to be her new husband’s
son.

While this particular story appears to be a fake, something like this has probably happened more than once as far as marriage and has certainly happened many times with relationships that don't involve marriage, due to Genetic Sexual Attraction. There are grandparents and their adult children who've had flings and one night stands who never realized they were related.

How many people know the extended family of each person with whom they have sex? When it comes to flings, one night stands, and hookups, they sometimes don't even know the real name of the person their with, and it no doubt happens at swinger parties and other casual encounters. Who compares IDs, family trees, and DNA tests in these situations?

Unless you're positive a birth didn't result (which is not always so easy for someone with a penis), anyone younger than the time since your earliest experiences with intercourse (or sperm or egg donation) could be your genetic child. Add as little as 13 years between your ages and the person could be your genetic grandchild.

There are also people who don't know that the man they think is their biological father isn't, either because of sperm donation, or an affair, the conception being from a prior relationship, or ethical nonmonogamy. This also means they could have a genetic grandfather they don't know.

But let's get back to the article...

The Twitter account @_FloridaMan,
which chronicles the weirdest Florida news, tweeted that
floridasunpost.com was only registered three days ago, implying that
there’s no way it could be a credible news outlet.

These sorts of things seems to be more and more common.

The Daily Dot has reached out to the Florida Sun Post
regarding the story through a contact form on its website, which, after
hitting “submit,” said “Thank you for contacting Boston Leader.” You may
remember the Boston Leader for being the site that started the fake story about the baby gorilla named “Harambe McHarambeface.” So yes, this story is probably fake.

Probably.

And for
now, we can all rest knowing that there is one less 24-year-old married
to her grandpa.

Although that was probably written in jest, there are some young women married to their grandfather, or at least in a relationship with him, whether they know of his relation or not. There are probably also young women with their grandmother, and young men with a grandparent. Some people say they are against adult intergenerational relationships, with "He's old enough to be your grandfather." Well, sometimes he is. And as long as they mutually agree to be together, that shouldn't be a problem.

Monday, October 3, 2016

In season seven of the Showtime dramedy, Kevin (Steve Howey), Veronica
(Shanola Hampton) and Svetlana (Isidora Goreshter) will evolve their
“thrupple” from a string of threesomes and a green-card marriage into
one big happy family that includes working and raising kids together as
the John Wells-produced series explores polyamory.

Interesting.

Although sex remains a large part of their storyline — including what
the cast previews as a “giddy up” punishment scene — it’s not the focal
point of their story or the series as a whole.

“Now you've gotten past the whole sex stuff, you just see them just
doing the day-to-day,” Hampton previews of season seven, which kicks off
Sunday. “It picks up with them doing their schedule — who's going to
the bar to work, who's taking care of the kids, who’s doing breakfast,
and yes, who’s having sex — and being a regular family.”

This is one of the things that needs to be represented on television.

Polyamory isn’t the only thing that will make Kev, Vee and Svetlana’s
relationship unique as none of the three characters will follow any
gender stereotypes as well this season.

“When Kev stays home with the kids, he wants to be a great dad and play
and not clean. When the women come home and they say, ‘I work all day
and what are you doing?’ I channeled what I imagine would be a 1950s
conversation,” Pimental explains. “We had a lot of fun with that, and
they are all so great in helping us flip traditional roles on their
heads.”

Says Hampton: “That adds another layer to the fact that we’re an
interracial couple and that’s never been an issue in seven seasons."

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I argue for marriage equality. By that I mean that society and all local, state, federal, and international laws, institutions, and programs should recognize any marriage registered by any persons without restrictions on the basis of race, color, creed, ancestry, national origin, sex, gender, sexual orientation, or religion.

The global definition of marriage should be as follows: "The uniting of consenting individuals in a witnessed ceremony."

We believe everyone has the right to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adult(s) of their choice, regardless of birth or sexual orientation.

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The focus of this blog is consenting adults. This blog does not advocate anyone engage in activity that is currently illegal in their jurisdiction; it does advocate changing or repealing any law that prevents the freedom of association, love, and full marriage equality for adults. This blog condemns rape, sexual assault, and child molestation, and frowns in the general direction of cheating. This blog exists mainly to evaluate information and direct others to information about current events; it does not provide medical, therapeutic, legal, financial, or cooking advice. This blog links to other sites for informational purposes; it does not necessarily support everything at those links.