Let's talk about projections- we've all experienced them in some form and it ain't pretty!

On this episode of the Galactic Goddess Podcast Radhaa and I breakdown the meaning of projections and why people do it, how to deal with unconscious projections and owning what’s yours, being responsible for your energy and taking back your power, unconscious relationship dynamics and the importance of shadow work, and dealing with unconscious behavior and trolls on social media #shadethrowers and in the spiritual community. We also give you tips on how to work through difficult relationship dynamics with ourselves and others in order to co-create our reality and embody the shift we've all been working towards.

I am featured on the latest episode of the Galactic Goddess Podcast bringing you an Empath's Survival Guide! On this episode Radhaa and I discuss what it means to be an Empath, how to set boundaries as an Empath, and tips and tools to thrive as an Empath during times of chaos and acceleration. I also share my energy forecast for this month. Love and blessings!

Who’s ready to talk about ascension and relationships? On this episode of the Galactic Goddess Podcast Radhaa Nilia and I bring you an intuitively guided conversation discussing the process of ascension through personal growth, love, and conscious relationships. Trust me this episode is fire!!!

On this episode we talk about how to embody your Higher Self by listening to your body and intuition and following your greatest joy and enthusiasm. We also discuss my work as a Quantum Sphere Healer, healing and integrating past life trauma, as well as Ascension and shifting into Oneness. Listen below! Enjoy!

The past few months have been a time of deep emotional processing and integration. The goal of this work is to create inner peace, but it’s more than just feeling good with where you’re at in your life, this is about accepting what you need to process in your life in order to shift your reality. Inner peace is about non-reaction. It’s about accepting what is in front of you as what the world needs to show you in order to make a deep personal shift and transformation in your life.

The ultimate goal is stillness, but we can reach stillness anytime we decide to drop into the present moment of our lives, in any situation, through any and all chaos- by making the personal choice to pause, sit, breathe, and connect with the universe. We are at the height of overstimulation and disconnection from the present anytime we forget our divinity- anytime we forget that we are pure source consciousness in form. Just reminding yourself of this ultimate truth will help redirect you towards your goal of inner peace and oneness with all of creation.

So as you continue on your journey of processing, integration, and being in your body, focus your attention on your breath, focus on not reacting to whatever absurdity, conflict, chaos, or distractions that are around you, and remember who you are and what you’re here to do. Questions to ask yourself and reflect on this month are: What are my personal goals? What are my spiritual goals? What are my creative goals? Anything you create here will transfer over to the New Earth in ways you can’t even imagine!

If the majority of your work right now is healing physical and emotional trauma, you are just as much on the road to inner peace as anyone else working through issues that either career or creative-related. It’s all connected. It doesn’t matter what the world is showing you right now. It doesn’t matter what your focus is on. What matters is working through your issues in the most loving, compassionate, and nonjudgmental way. Ask yourself: How can I do things differently this month? How can I be more patient and supportive with myself? How can I accept what’s in front of me and relax into my experience?

Remember, this is YOUR experience. This is YOUR movie. You will complete your journey, you will shift. So allow yourself the opportunity to create more moments of stillness and inner peace in your life because you deserve to enjoy it and you deserve to be PRESENT for it, which is after all, why you incarnated at this exact time in our human evolution. Inner peace isn’t about the result, it’s about the way, and you get to decide how to lead yourself back to your heart.

April is all about welcome the higher realms. We are all feeling the new energy on this planet that is bringing the light of the higher realms into the core of Gaia to support her and us in our ascension to the 5th Dimension. However, we are all feeling this energy in different ways. For some of us it feels destructive- it feels like death and it is bringing about mourning and loss. For others, it feels like ecstasy, it feels like heaven is finally here. Even if we feel the same (no difference), we’re still feeling something because our internal light is integrating and adjusting from the cellular level up, which means we’re feeling this in the astral at dream time, or just subconsciously. The point is that it’s ALL valid. Every single thing you are feeling right now is valid, special, and here to support you in the next phase of your journey. We have all been given building blocks by the higher realms and we all have different shapes, but we’re all building towards the same goal: unity consciousness, oneness, and unconditional love.

In order to integrate what’s already here, we have to use the energy from the higher realms to go deep into healing our emotional bodies. It’s time to collect all of our aspects. So if you’re feeling grief, feel it deeply and let it destroy you. If you’re feeling bliss, feel it deeply and let it overtake you. The point is to come back to yourself. Put all the pieces together by acknowledging you still have pieces that need your full love and attention. Don’t get discouraged if you’re going through a difficult time. Don’t compare yourself to others who look like they have it all together. All of us on this planet are a tight knit orchestra. We’re creating the greatest symphony of our lifetime and the way to do it is to play your part to the best of your ability. Whatever you’ve been given has been assigned to you by Higher Self to bring you into your full glory, so trust your life exactly where you are in this moment. Whatever you’re going through is exactly what you need and exactly what you will overcome.

Every day that you commit to validating yourself and your experience, to loving yourself and digging deep to show your heart the most compassion you’ve ever had within you will bring you closer to everything you’ve been working for- your inevitable mastery. So welcome these energies! Announce out loud:

“I WELCOME THE LIGHT OF THE HIGHER REALMS INTO MY BODY FOR THE HEALING AND INTEGRATION OF ALL BEINGS. MAY EACH CELL RECEIVE THE LIGHT OF SOURCE, CLEAR ANY DISTORTIONS IN MY BODY, AND INTEGRATE THE LIGHT SO I MAY RISE AND STEP INTO MY LIFE WITH COMPLETE LOVE, TRUST, AND OPTIMAL HEALTH. THAT I AM NOW AND SO IT IS. AND SO I AM FREE.”

Finally, declare out loud: “I LOVE MYSELF EXACTLY AS I AM IN THIS ETERNAL NOW MOMENT.” Work with this mantra everyday all throughout this month and watch how quickly things will change. You are the key to ascension. You have always been. You brought it to Earth and now it’s time to fully plug in and enjoy the light show.

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We have lived most of our lives with a plan, envisioning what our futures will look like, who we will be, and what we will “do.” Upon our initial awakenings we started to change that vision, adapt, and make new plans which created a new chapter to the story. It is once again time for a new chapter.

The energy waves that intensified in February will continue to do so this month and change the way we see ourselves and our world. This is going to bring about both internal and external change; change in your personal YOUniverse and your external reality. Notice the air quality, notice how the clouds look, and notice how lucid you feel. Prepare for further energetic EVENTS by emptying yourself of blame, judgement, and resentment. Empty anything that takes you out of your heart center. Empty all that is conditional until you reach the center of your heart- the core of unconditional love.

Let go of the plans you had for yourself, don’t get attached to the movie, don’t get lost in the story. This month you will meet who you truly are- you will see oneness in a whole new LIGHT and begin to merge with Unity Consciousness. I say begin because most of the spiritual community is familiar with the idea of Unity Consciousness, yet mentally and emotionally are stuck in separation. We will soon see through this remaining veil and know what it feels like when all hearts are connected and all are in this together.

Letting go of your story doesn’t mean abandon your interests and stop living- it means being open to a new way of life that is completely different from this one- that is completely different than what you planned, and trusting that it will be better than you ever imagined. Detachment from plans and expectation is key- take each day as it comes and be present with your surroundings. Truly take in the Earth as you see it now- because you won’t get this anywhere else. Savor it. Take in the light that is already here, meditate with it and open yourself up to brighter, bluer skies and new beginnings.

Remember, the light is here, and the more you announce it and welcome it in, the more you will be able to integrate and ground it into the New Earth template for the healing and well being of all. And so it is.

The theme of February is being here and being here in the body. The energy from the Full Moon in Leo has expanded us to levels of light we’ve never experienced in body before. In order to integrate the higher energies we need to be in the body. This way we can ground the higher dimensions into Gaia while simultaneously preparing our bodies for the next waves of light that will be hitting our planet in the coming months.

This is the time to develop and use your grounding practices and tools, to be in nature, to unplug, to eat lighter foods, to hydrate, to rest, and to meditate. This month can either drain you or prepare you- the choice is yours. You have the tools and knowledge you need to make this planet feel like home by making your body feel like home. Focus on building a solid foundation, and most importantly, trust your body and whatever healing crisis or changes you may be faced with. Everything that is happening within is here to put you in your body and make it a priority.

We are bringing heaven to Earth, we are making it physical, so love your body and welcome it home. Honor it and allow it to take the lead. Listen to what it’s telling you and how it feels. The amount of nurturing you give your body will reflect in the world around you. By plugging into the planet at this time you will help create a smoother transition into the Fifth Dimension as you navigate these energies and embody the light that shines within.

We all chose extremely challenging life paths that can sometimes hold residual shame, insecurity, or trauma, but however intense our journey has been doesn’t diminish or define our totality. This is how we magnetize light to us, by working through polarity. Whatever darkness we have experienced was only meant to draw light to it. Thank you for your contribution.

Beloveds, here is an important transmission on how to work through physical pain from my channeling session with Daniel Scranton and the 9th Dimensional Arcturian Council. May it bring you peace.

QUESTION: How do we work through physical pain without fear or without feeling like we need Western medicine. It feels a little overwhelming and frustrating that at this point I'm still having issues with physical pain.

ANSWER: Yes physical pain is very challenging. And the first thing that you can always do is to make yourself as comfortable as you possibly can, so doing things that you know will minimize the physical pain.

If that means sitting or lying down or taking a bath for a long period then you can use that time first of all to just be present with it. In other words as much as you are attempting to minimize the sensation of the pain you also want to give it more of your attention than your thoughts about it. Your thoughts about it being: Why is this happening? What does this mean? Is this an indicator of something going very wrong with my physical body and do I need to see a doctor and should I take this pain medication or this pain medication? What should I do? All of those types of thoughts take you out of the experience of the pain.

But at times you just need to sit with it and recognize that in pain you are summoning energy in that moment. You are doing the summoning of the energy, your physical body is doing it as well, wanting to have the healing energy come that's going to serve you and your physical body.

So reminding yourself of that is helpful as you sit with the pain and allow it to be. It's much more important that you be present than that to figure out where it all started because in some cases pain is coming from past life trauma that you will probably not be accessing the memory of in that moment, but you might have it revealed to you later what the pain was about.

In the same way that you would want to breathe into your sadness, you want to breathe into the pain and recognize that it is a temporary experience. It is getting your attention first and foremost to put you in your physical body and in the present moment. Those are the positive aspects of being in pain- that you get both of those experiences. And then once you manage your pain, once you get through it, you will feel relief, you will feel that the energy that you have summoned has arrived, and then you can look to create the future experiences that you want to create for yourself with that energy. So you can use it to your advantage. As the pain summons that energy the energy comes, it not only heals the physical condition but it gives you that sense now that you have more energy to work with to create the reality that you want to create, so it's important for you to not think so much about it but instead to feel more into it and to accept it and let it be.

Question: Is there an Event that’s going to happen? If so, what will it be like?

Higher Self: Yes- think of it like the pre-shift, shift. Like prep for the big transition to the new Fifth Dimensional Earth vessel. Its not going to be scary there’s just going to be a lot of light, and when you’re already the light, you’ll know what to do. People who have activated their hearts, who are in a state of pure unconditional love, no judgment, victimhood, or blame, those people will have the most instantaneous and easy transition and time with this. Those who still have a lot to work out will feel pretty shell-shocked but will eventually make their way as soon as they trust the light. So work on trusting the light now and knowing and declaring yourself as the light: I am the light, the light I am.

How much light and mastery you embody will determine how you yourself will guide others into the Shift. But you have to know yourself as the light.

Question: Anything else?

Higher Self: You can’t even perceive it now. Just know that you are the light.

January is the month of renewed will. Imagine yourself stepping out from behind a gold, shimmering curtain and into your life for the very first time. Imagine finally arriving into your Body-Earth vessel and see the infinite universe, the infinite possibilities, and the infinite time that you have to make your dreams come true. Take every breath with gratitude and take everyday as your first day on Earth. Use this excitement, adventure, energy, and will. Channel it into everything and anything you do, from taking a sip of water and being in awe of its taste and texture, to starting a new project or taking care of yourself. Bring your sense of AWE into every aspect of your life. See yourself as the walking miracle that you are. See yourself as pure magic. See the wonder in being YOU. This perspective will allow you to carry this new found sense of will and excitement throughout the year. Perspective is everything and you get to decide how you want to experience your life from this moment on.

As an energy healer, I have worked extensively with clients who have come to me with blocks around setting boundaries and trusting the boundaries they set. Most of the clients I work with are very sensitive to energy and easily absorb the energy of people around them, so I refer to them as “Empaths.” Empaths have the hardest time setting boundaries and speaking up when a boundary has been crossed. Sometimes an empath can be so overtaken with another’s energy that they are unaware of how much of their will, power, and energy they have given away.

When we don’t check in with ourselves, we don’t know a boundary has been violated till after the fact. Often, we fail to set small boundaries that lead up to offensive violations that call us to set major boundaries at times where we’re not used to using our voices. This can make us feel helpless and completely void of our personal power. We can take back our power as soon as we realize that we are always in control of ourselves, and by setting boundaries, we can assure that we honor what feels right in our bodies.

The key to knowing when a boundary is violated is by listening to your emotions. Listen to the feelings that come forward and the physical reaction you get in your gut. When you listen to your emotions and practice feeling them, you will be able to better tell when a boundary has been violated.

Betraying a personal boundary happens when you ignore the emotions that are trying to guide you, and you find yourself saying that you knew better, that you felt uneasy about a decision, or you knew it wasn’t coming from you. One usually feels anger, shame, or embarrassment after this happens. It is important to understand that the experience of betraying a personal boundary, or having a boundary crossed by another, is an experience in growth and learning that every soul needs and wants to have. This is part of the journey, and it is nothing to feel bad about or judge yourself over. We are given an infinite amount of chances to act from our inner wisdom.

When we don’t act from our inner wisdom we feel the heaviness and compression in our body. Self-betrayal is an indicator that we lack the courage that is required for self-love. When we have self-love we can trust what we are feeling and let it guide us even if it displeases or loses the approval of others. Self-trust is an important initiation into self-love that our souls are here to learn, these two states are intrinsically linked and boundaries are one of the ways through which we learn.

Only you know what your authenticity feels like and when you’re not living from it. The more we feel our emotions the more we are able to identify what they are communicating to us.

For example, growth doesn’t always feel comfortable, in fact it rarely feels comfortable, so not every uncomfortable emotion we experience is a sign that our boundaries are being violated when it could be an indication of expansion occurring in that moment. That’s another reason why it’s important to be able to determine between the need for a boundary to be put in place or whether we are breaking through uncomfortable barriers and expanding our perception. Only honest self-inquiry will be the way to tell for sure.

What you honor on the inside is what will show up on the outside. When you respect yourself, you show other people how you would like to be treated, and you also mirror back to them how to respect and love themselves. It’s a domino effect that the world needs. If we want to live on a planet that respects and honors life, we have to set the example by how we treat ourselves and how we allow others to treat us.

I invite you to change the way you think about setting boundaries. If you’re afraid of confrontation or engaging in a toxic dynamic, then your boundary can be set through the energy you withdraw from a situation or pattern. Now if you are in a violent or abusive situation, this is something that requires you to take action by seeking protection or moving to a place of safety. Standing up for yourself is an essential boundary and you will know when you need to do so. Allow yourself to be creative when setting boundaries by addressing the issue from a new perspective; one that you haven’t tried before or seems too simple to work.

For example, a boundary we may not always think of is silence. Silence is a powerful boundary. Not giving your energy to situations and people that drain you communicates that you are no longer taking part in someone else’s inner turmoil. In this age of fast communication via texting, email, and social media it is easy to get pressured into forced interactions. We can remedy this by not responding and making them wait in order to communicate a need for space and reflection. We cannot let others arm-wrestle us into interactions we don’t want to give our energy to. Silence can communicate: I am not going to leave myself to entertain your chaos.

We can set boundaries through our actions via what we don’t say, but most of the time we need to vocalize our boundaries. What we voice into reality is very important, especially when confronting people who think you don’t have a voice or who don’t want you to have a voice. We reclaim power through our voice anytime we have been silenced or afraid to use it. We reclaim lost aspects and parts of our soul who weren’t allowed a voice. We speak for our ancestors who weren’t able to say the things we are able to say today. We heal past lives and clear karma just by speaking up for ourselves and occupying our space.

Change is another boundary that can be seen by our actions. People expect us to act a certain way; perhaps in the way they’ve been programmed to act and what they expect out of you. When you change the way you act or go about doing something, or make a major life change, it sets a boundary of personal freedom. It says that you have taken control of your life and you are not going to bend to the expectations that have been put on you since birth. Doing things your way, even if you are doing it alone, is not only a boundary, but also a declaration of freewill.

Decision-making is also a boundary. If you feel pulled between two choices that you need to make, making a decision sets off a course of action for what you choose to create and what you stand for. Believing and trusting your actions helps establish a boundary, while standing by your decisions is the boundary. Moreover, if you are in a situation where you are dependent on another person’s choice, taking the initiative and making a decision sets an important boundary in establishing your voice, preferences, and your confidence in steering the course of events in your life.

Being yourself is the ultimate boundary. It is the highest act of self-love and worthiness. It is announcement to the world that it must negotiate itself around you because you are not the one that will be compromised.

Confidence is a boundary. It is a state of harmony where you have made a decision, and follow through with it using your actions and words.

Even seeking clarity on an issue (or seeking clarity prior to making a big decision) is a boundary because you are questioning what is being presented to you and defining and understanding it to meet your needs. You are the gatekeeper to what you let into your life, and anything that helps you sift through the dirt is a boundary that will help you find the gold in any situation or experience.

The important thing is to try to not over-intellectualize boundaries and what will happen next if we make them or if we don’t. This all stems from a fear of punishment that will be suffered for creating a boundary (which is a good indication you probably need to create that boundary). Try not to get caught up in a storm of thoughts that cause you to distrust your actions. We need to learn how to make decisions and set boundaries based on how we feel, and we need to master trusting how we feel. When you are in control of boundaries, you get to determine how far you need to expand them or when you no longer have to consciously set them.

When you trust yourself, you allow your own energy field to be the boundary that people respond to. When we are confident, grounded, and connected to our feelings, we allow our energy to introduce ourselves, and we allow ourselves all the room we need to honor our personal truth and the boundaries that reinforce our self-respect.

A year to this date I did an Energy Update about the heart and how it relates to Ascension. Now we are understanding its exact role much deeper and have a clear idea of what light workers need to do for embodiment and to shift the collective into the highest possible timeline.

1. Trust

Trust your abilities. Trust your visualization. Energy work is focused intention, breath, and visualization. Now more than ever, trust what you’re seeing in order to see more and trust what you’re feeling in order to guide you to what you need to personally address within yourself.

2. Working From The Heart Space

Now that you trust yourself, work from your heart space. Drop into your heart by setting the intention and then visualizing it. Now breathe into it and expand your heart space. From here, visualize and fill yourself with unconditional love, peace, joy, harmony, and a planetary shift into the highest timeline for all of humanity. Really get in touch with oneness and shifting the ENTIRE planet. This cannot be done if you’re carrying bitterness, judgment, resentment, and jealousy in your heart space- it has to come from compassion for all beings. Everyone gets to shift. Even if you feel that not everyone deserves to because they didn’t do the work, that’s something you need to feel and work through before you take on this type of anchoring. If you still have judgments to work out, honor them and work them out. You’ll find that compassion coupled with a peaceful, smooth global shift will easily override resistance to this work. And if you have resistance, that’s okay too.

It is imperative that you clear and open your own heart before taking on anything else. How do you open your own heart? By feeling and unconditionally loving every single emotion that comes up for you. By fully embracing yourself and knowing that you are worthy of the role you were born to play. When you open your own heart, you’re opening the hearts of all and therefore doing this same light work in a different way.

So remember, drop into your heart space and visualize peace for all beings, unconditional love for all beings, and ascension for all beings. With deep visualization and an open heart, we are creating the heaven on Earth we’ve been talking about years. Now is the time to contribute, and the more of us who do it, the quicker the planet will respond. We are the key to acceleration and determining whether we want a smooth transition or a catastrophic one. It is up to us. We are the heroes we’ve been waiting for. We are the creators of our own timelines.

I received this energy update in different waves, yet all at once. I received the words weeks ago, but today I embodied the energetic upgrades that have been literally raining on us, waiting for us to drop our umbrellas and bathe in their light codes. I woke up today with a list of errands and work, and as I sat down to write I felt myself merge with my oneness and godhood, and I have been sitting in integration for the past few hours. Below is my energy update for today April 20, 2017 through the first week of May.

I invite you to formally welcome your Eternal Self. Look into the mirror and say hello. Look into your eyes until you recognize yourself. Breathe and take your time. From this space of connection and oneness, begin to contemplate whatyou would now like to do with your life. Make space in your life for this so that Source can provide. What are those next steps you need to take? Now you can start to plant seeds, or rather, your emotional and spiritual goals you are ready to see grow.

This is the time to act on the now. What do you want to come through? You want to plan this now. Honor this time of deep introspection and infinite possibility! We are headed into another huge energy acceleration that will take us straight into June where we will see the reality we’ve been anchoring manifest itself. The world is going to shift depending on how much you invest into yourself right now- this is what will be reflected back to you. Invest in your emotional and physical health, self-care, healing, personal goals, getting organized, detoxing, and feeling good! Set up your plan this week and voice your intentions out loud into the Universe! Be sure to drink a lot of water (alkaline), practice grounding, get outside in the sunlight, walking and grounding in nature, eat clean foods and avoid GMOs, and of course, breathe and meditate.

I recommend practicing the following breath work and bedtime ritual:

Before you go to sleep lay down comfortably in bed. Take deep, belly breaths. Release everything from the day. Breathe in the day’s events and with gratitude, breathe out and release until you are a clear slate. Even if you still have stressful thoughts, just breathe until you feel your body slow down. Now in your mind, list all the things from your day that you are grateful for. Now list and reflect on all the things that you did right. This will help you return to center.

The theme of April is staying centered. Focus on the things that give you balance and help keep you centered. Remember, the light is firmly here. By centering yourself and entering stillness, you will awaken to your own heavenly light, your godhood, your oneness with all.

March is here and we are beginning to clear out the old, stagnant energy from the winter months and let in the bright energy of the Spring Equinox. The energies this month are pulling everything to the surface and making us look at what we can no longer put off looking at in order to make room for what we want to embody from now on. That is why the overwhelming theme of March is clarity. Clarity brings us perspective, and the way we can achieve it is through the questions we ask ourselves and the amount of self-care and love we answer those questions with.

The questions to ask yourself are: Who am I? What am I doing? What do I want? Do I actually feel the way I do or am I empathing my emotions from the collective?

The way to refresh, step back, and gain clarity is through sitting in stillness and checking in with yourself. Find a quiet space, take a few deep, belly breaths, and just sit. Be completely still and feel the space between you.

Ask yourself: Am I feeling all right? What’s bothering me? What’s triggering me? What are the emotions that keep coming back for my love and attention? What are these emotions trying to tell me?

The next step is to go deeper into your self-awareness. Ask yourself: How do I treat others? How do I treat myself in front of others? Do my actions come from self-love? Do they even come from me?

Once you emerge from your self-inquiry, greet your newfound awareness and clearer view of self with unconditional love. Learn to recognize the soul who has now emerged via mirror work. Look in the mirror and give yourself direct eye contact. Say hello to yourself! I see you! I love you! There’s no better way to start off your day then with greeting yourself with an excited “Good morning beautiful one!”

This is the time to really tune in and listen to your needs. We need to take the time to love and respect that we have a physical body and an Earth Mother who wants us to plug in and charge ourselves. We need to give ourselves the same attention we give our cell phones. Are we overheating? Is it time to upgrade our software? Low energy or battery life indicates that we need to plug into Gaia via grounding, going outside and walking in nature, and breathing. We also don’t want to overcharge and kill our battery with apathy, laziness, or self-medicating and numbing.

March is the month to embrace self-care and being okay with keeping it to yourself. You can share your self-care journey when you’re ready. You don’t have to throw yourself out into the open and keep people in the loop either. Take this time to go inside your cocoon and rest, reflect, and recalibrate so that you can emerge into this reality with a sturdy foundation built from clarity, perspective, and unconditional love. All is well.

Deep inside our souls, our inner child awaits. She (or he) is waiting to be acknowledged, remembered, and loved. No matter what stage of life you are currently in, the inner child within is asking to join you on your journey to provide support, guidance, and healing.

The inner child is easy to forget and neglect just as easily as our own needs were forgotten and neglected as children. Even those who experienced “stable or normal” family lives have stored trauma that inner child work can uncover and heal. Based on my work as a Quantum Sphere Healer, I can say that clients who’ve had relatively happy childhoods need this work just as much as those who’ve had tumultuous upbringings because going within to heal unmet needs and blocked trauma from childhood is not common knowledge.

The inner child resides in our subconscious and has recorded all of the traumas that are buried deep inside us, hidden and forgotten by time. Through the survival mechanism of suppression, parts of us go unconscious in order for the individual to continue to function.

The process to becoming whole again is done through our inner child. This is the aspect of us that wants to be seen, heard and ultimately, integrated. Our inner child is trying to get our attention so that we can learn how to meet our own needs and love ourselves, instead of assigning those roles to people, places, and things.

Inner child work is often the missing puzzle piece in our spiritual evolution. We can learn all the ancient knowledge in existence but healing the grief and loneliness of the inner child is the key to unconditional love and transcendence. Our inner child wants peace and resolution, and the way to get it is by fully embracing her.

It can be difficult to feel complete on this journey, but when you meet your inner child, you will start feeling the safety and security inside yourself that comes with healing this crucial shadow aspect. When you send love to your inner child, you are telling her that she is safe to exist and thrive. You are giving her the home she’s always wanted and inviting her to share her talents, imagination and guidance with you.

Our inner child rejoices when we follow our greatest enthusiasm and embrace our gifts. If you feel a lot of resistance on your path and find yourself unhappy with your life and journey, it may be time to visit your inner child and ask her what you can do to make her, and ultimately you, happy.

How do you know when its time to do inner child work? It often comes as a surprise to people that they need this work because it can sound abstract or even too simple to be the answer to your problems, but the feeling you get when you make the initial connection is an intense maternal love for yourself. It encompasses compassion, understanding, empathy, and joy. It is like an ancient recognition of your soul and your innocence.

The first sign that its time to do this work is if you are unhappy with your career and life choices. The inner child is disappointed when it feels that you have gone against your will and your own truth, or when you have abandoned your joy and enthusiasm for something you feel obligated or pressured into.

Not having a creative outlet also creates tension between you and your inner child. The inner child is an artist who wants to create and express herself. She sees beauty and curiosity in the world around her and she lets her imagination dictate her dreams and inspirations. We often lose this ability once we are indoctrinated in our school, family, and religious communities. And when we are adults we only realize the gold in these qualities when we’ve exhausted ourselves in dead-end jobs and societal pressures. Once you establish a relationship with your inner child, you can ask her for specific guidance and career advice. You will become inspired by your inner child in the most unexpected ways such as taking on new hobbies and artistic outlets, taking a class and getting a certification, or even taking a vacation and journaling.

Another sign is feeling like you are invisible. I’ve noticed that my clients who are unhappy with their family lives feel this the most. Clients who grew up in big families where there needs were overlooked due to a lack of attention and resources have an immense need to be seen and heard. Feeling unnoticed by parents and siblings manifests into adulthood by feeling unnoticed in your career, social life, and romantic life. If you feel like your voice is always drowned out by another person’s needs or overpowering energy, you can resolve and meet these needs by giving your inner child the love, attention, and voice that she never received. This requires you to speak to your self as you would speak to a sweet, innocent child whose trust you seek to gain. In a soft, gentle voice, speak to the inner child inside of you. Say hello, tell her you’re here for her and you will never leave her. Let her speak and listen to her. Most importantly, say, “I love you.”

We don’t have to be embarrassed that we’re starved for attention. The truth is that we’re starved for our own attention. In every single healing session I’ve performed, the first thing the inner child wants is our recognition. When we are anxious we are feeling our inner child’s stress and anxiety over our lack of self-recognition. We don’t need others to see us and validate us to prove that we are alive. We need to look at ourselves and meet ourselves with the loving gaze and recognition we craved as children.

If you are quick to anger, this is an important sign that your inner child is unhappy and is trying to get your attention. When the inner child is fearful, is in pain, is lonely, or fully succumbs to our neglect, it can act out in order to tell us that we need to change. When we try to express our rage in childhood we’re often punished and silenced. All of our pain is stored until we can’t take it anymore and we unleash at the slightest trigger. This is when you need to meet with your inner child and ask her, “Why are you hurting?” “What can I do for you?” When you get your answer, the first thing you should do is comfort your inner child and send her unconditional love. There is no room for judgment in this work. You are allowed to look at all of your shame, embarrassment, and pain and honor all of it. The next step is loving yourself for feeling all of those things. This is what we rarely received as children, as this is all we wanted, to know that we are seen and loved no matter what emotions come forward.

In my healing practice, I’ve noticed that physical issues and energy blockages within the womb, pelvic area, throat, and jaw are important indicators of inner child work. The client’s inner child literally appears in the throat and root area of the client’s energy body and is usually shouting, “Look at me! See me! I’m over here! Help me!” I’ve seen the inner child hidden behind a boulder in someone’s throat, or literally covered in layers of dirt buried from complete sight until I unearth it during the healing session. I’ve seen it in cages, drowning in water, and under rocks. Once revealed, the inner child is gasping for breath and then it tells me what it wants from the client. I then relay the information to the client along with an inner child meditation that guides the client in journeying and meeting their inner child. I've noticed that as soon as I tell the client their inner child appeared to me, their entire energy field lights up, as if they knew all along that it was time to meet and heal.

The inner child usually appears near or within the root chakra, indicating issues with safety and security. Our most basic needs are often overlooked in childhood and the resulting trauma is stored in this energy center. Clients who've experienced sexual abuse are most likely to have their inner child trauma blocking their root chakra. The child appears asking to be nurtured and reassured that they are safe in the body and safe to be seen.

When the inner child appears in the throat I know that it wants to express itself. It wants to be seen and heard and wants to be creative. Clients who don't feel comfortable in their bodies and safe to be who they are usually have an active inner child appear in the throat asking them to look at their lives and claim their power. They're asking for their throat chakra to be activated through self-expression and through setting boundaries with other people. If you feel yourself in a power struggle, your inner child can help you pinpoint what you need and the best way to express those needs.

When I connect my client’s with their inner child, I teach them how to meet them through a simple meditation. If this is your first time meeting your inner child, all you have to do is set the intention to meet with her. Sit comfortably in your space, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths while setting the intention to meet with her. In your mind’s eye imagine her sitting in a room waiting for you or sitting in your favorite place to visit as a child. You can even meet her at the point of a traumatic childhood event and start there. Enter the room and embrace her. Trust what you are seeing and feeling. Say hello and send her love. You can ask her what she needs and how you can provide for her. Be a parent to this child. Give her a hug and feel her heart beat. Play games, talk about the things you like to do, tell her stories. The more imaginative and interactive you get the more you will feel her connection. Make a list of all the things she would like to do together and then actually go out and do those things. For example, if she wants to color, buy a pack of crayons and a coloring book and take the time to color. Treat yourself to ice cream and something you loved as a child. Get into that joyful, innocent space that inspired you as a child and allowed you to dream.

Note that this meditation exercise is not the only method of connecting with your inner child. You have a direct line to her every time you listen to your intuition and make a decision that comes from you. You connect with her every time you look in the mirror and meet yourself with a smile. You speak directly to her heart with every “I love you” you send to yourself. I like to bring my inner child with me whenever I give a talk or host a workshop. I have her sit beside me and include her in all the special moments in my life. This grounds me and inspires me to speak my truth, make her proud, and even impress her. Before I started this work my inner child lived hidden beneath layers in my throat. Now she lives in my heart and speaks through my voice.

The goal of this work is to integrate your inner child so she is no longer a separate aspect of yourself. Instead, she becomes your inner voice, ready to guide you and love you through every stage of your sacred journey.

Inner child work is continuous. You can measure the relationship with your inner child by the depth of eye contact you give yourself and how open you are to listen to all emotions. You will find that it becomes second nature by how well you treat yourself and how loving and open you become with yourself. The reward of this work is finally living in alignment with your personal truth and walking your path in wholeness with complete trust and unconditional love for yourself.

Heart- Are you living from your heart? Do your actions align with how you feel? Do your acquaintances align with your spiritual path? Are they helping you grow or telling you to stop until they catch up?

Do you feel free to fully express yourself? These are the questions you need to meditate on as you unlock your heart energy and light the flame within. The answers you get might bring you to an uncomfortable level of awareness- work through this by loving yourself unconditionally and allowing yourself to question your current path and the things you’re attached to. Do you know what your attachments are and do you refuse to let go? Meet them, look them down and acknowledge them. Bringing consciousness to them will allow them to unravel and detach from your energy field.

The elevator in this dimension is going to the next floor- who gets off the elevator? That is for you to decide. When you know what floor you are going to, you get off by yourself no matter what floor everyone else is stopping at. Be comfortable with getting off on your own floor, letting the doors close behind you and moving forward. In our oneness we are all on solo missions until we merge. Honor where your mission takes you and where it stops, changes, or elevates.

What if the collective is in the elevator? Some people in the elevator are in fear due to external events and aren’t ready to go to the roof of the building. Maybe they have some “stuff” they forgot on the ground floor. The elevator has to go as high as the highest number selected before it drops down again. Get off on the highest floor you selected at the time, and let it drop back down for those who want to go back down. And when it comes back up, you get on and continue. You are free to ascend. This is your soul’s journey. It already knows where it is going. It has done this before. Now you are witnessing its ascension- that is why you can trust this journey- you already mapped it out. Are you ready to go to the next floor? Yes, get in the elevator- watch the buttons light up. We’ll all meet at the top when we get there. All that matters is that you get in the elevator.