FRK Masturbated in front of youtube hot chick while gf was sleeping

guys, i've with my gf for years and i dun find that much interested on her body no more. currently i just start checking out some youtube bloggers and found them real hot. (i am not talking about they way they dress or those dirty clips). I just feeling like those girls are just better than my gf and feel excited that everyone of them have their own story. I just cant stop thinking of them so I start masturbating in front of my 30 " LCD monitor every night while my gf is sleep next room.

am i just a sick fxxk or should i go talk to a doctor about that? man, i feel bad but I really enjoy it!

guys, i've with my gf for years and i dun find that much interested on her body no more. currently i just start checking out some youtube bloggers and found them real hot. (i am not talking about they way they dress or those dirty clips). I just feeling like those girls are just better than my gf and feel excited that everyone of them have their own story. I just cant stop thinking of them so I start masturbating in front of my 30 " LCD monitor every night while my gf is sleep next room.

am i just a sick fxxk or should i go talk to a doctor about that? man, i feel bad but I really enjoy it!

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from someone who has been on the other side of this type of a situation:
you better hope she doesn't catch you.
i know, i know, a bunch of ppl are gonna say "at least you are not cheating on her in real life" or "oh have her catch you, she'll probably think it's hot too and start blowing you" or something to that affect, but in my experience, every female that i know would be completely offended- even women like me who are okay with porn- because somehow it hurts so much more when they are "real" people.
dude if you aren't attracted to her, do her a favor and break up with her. you can keep up your nightly ritual and you can find a chick whose body you are interested in. who cares that you have been with her for years? you just said a bunch of anonymous women on the internet are "better" than her. you seriously aren't doing her any favors by lying to her and you are probably keeping her from being with someone who will be attracted to her. sorry to be a bitch, but you asked.

from someone who has been on the other side of this type of a situation:
you better hope she doesn't catch you.
i know, i know, a bunch of ppl are gonna say "at least you are not cheating on her in real life" or "oh have her catch you, she'll probably think it's hot too and start blowing you" or something to that affect, but in my experience, every female that i know would be completely offended- even women like me who are okay with porn- because somehow it hurts so much more when they are "real" people.
dude if you aren't attracted to her, do her a favor and break up with her. you can keep up your nightly ritual and you can find a chick whose body you are interested in. who cares that you have been with her for years? you just said a bunch of anonymous women on the internet are "better" than her. you seriously aren't doing her any favors by lying to her and you are probably keeping her from being with someone who will be attracted to her. sorry to be a bitch, but you asked.

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you are so nice and not a bitch at all. i dunno if i should quit my gf since I am thinking maybe I have mental problem for this period. My gf is so good that she pays for my rent and I cant live without her. I dun hate her at all and I still love her. the thing is, I am getting used to her body and she gains weight recently (15 lbs). maybe this is the reason and i should go visit a doctor someday about that........

you are so nice and not a bitch at all. i dunno if i should quit my gf since I am thinking maybe I have mental problem for this period. My gf is so good that she pays for my rent and I cant live without her. I dun hate her at all and I still love her. the thing is, I am getting used to her body and she gains weight recently (15 lbs). maybe this is the reason and i should go visit a doctor someday about that........

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Ah, so she pays your way in this world as well? You are freeloading AND not into her anymore?

You are doing her a huge disservice, but since "you can't live without her" in the most literal sense, I guess it's ok to just keep it going the way it is?

Yikes......get a job and let her go find a man who will treat her right and appreciate her for everything she is.

I just can't be supportive of what you are doing in any way, shape or form.

you are so nice and not a bitch at all. i dunno if i should quit my gf since I am thinking maybe I have mental problem for this period. My gf is so good that she pays for my rent and I cant live without her. I dun hate her at all and I still love her. the thing is, I am getting used to her body and she gains weight recently (15 lbs). maybe this is the reason and i should go visit a doctor someday about that........

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In my experience, if you think it is a mental problem or you feel it is becoming more of a compulsion (i.e. you can't get off without it), then I would suggest talking to a therapist about it. I have actually done some research on cybersexual addiction and cyber-relational addiction (I'm not trying to make a diagnosis here because I am no doctor) and you can attack this problem in many ways. You could talk to a therapist and if you believe it to be a temporary thing, you could try a behavioral approach. Or if it is related to your gf, it might just be an intimacy thing (I think intimacy is just used as a buzzword for being able to fuck the shit out of someone that you also love, which I know a lot of guys have a hard time doing).
Finally, if you really love her and want to make it work, that's awesome- but if it's really about her supporting you financially then I would break it off. If you are having trouble deciding what to do with your life, what kind of a job to get, etc. then you can also discuss that with a therpaist. Be proactive and give yourself (and her) a timeline of when you will be moving out- and offer to pay for any months of rent beyond the point when you break up (if she lets you stay there).
I dunno. I guess I don't think 15 lbs. is that much. I know my weight has fluctuated that much during certain points in my life- while looking for a job, or starting grad school, or being depressed about something. Maybe you should ask her to get couseling with you. You might be surprised at what she has to say.

In my experience, if you think it is a mental problem or you feel it is becoming more of a compulsion (i.e. you can't get off without it), then I would suggest talking to a therapist about it. I have actually done some research on cybersexual addiction and cyber-relational addiction (I'm not trying to make a diagnosis here because I am no doctor) and you can attack this problem in many ways. You could talk to a therapist and if you believe it to be a temporary thing, you could try a behavioral approach. Or if it is related to your gf, it might just be an intimacy thing (I think intimacy is just used as a buzzword for being able to fuck the shit out of someone that you also love, which I know a lot of guys have a hard time doing).
Finally, if you really love her and want to make it work, that's awesome- but if it's really about her supporting you financially then I would break it off. If you are having trouble deciding what to do with your life, what kind of a job to get, etc. then you can also discuss that with a therpaist. Be proactive and give yourself (and her) a timeline of when you will be moving out- and offer to pay for any months of rent beyond the point when you break up (if she lets you stay there).
I dunno. I guess I don't think 15 lbs. is that much. I know my weight has fluctuated that much during certain points in my life- while looking for a job, or starting grad school, or being depressed about something. Maybe you should ask her to get couseling with you. You might be surprised at what she has to say.

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thanks again, you are very helpful.........could you please send me some resource related to your research? I would like to check it out and then decide if I should visit a doctor.....

from someone who has been on the other side of this type of a situation:
you better hope she doesn't catch you.
i know, i know, a bunch of ppl are gonna say "at least you are not cheating on her in real life" or "oh have her catch you, she'll probably think it's hot too and start blowing you" or something to that affect, but in my experience, every female that i know would be completely offended- even women like me who are okay with porn- because somehow it hurts so much more when they are "real" people.
dude if you aren't attracted to her, do her a favor and break up with her. you can keep up your nightly ritual and you can find a chick whose body you are interested in. who cares that you have been with her for years? you just said a bunch of anonymous women on the internet are "better" than her. you seriously aren't doing her any favors by lying to her and you are probably keeping her from being with someone who will be attracted to her. sorry to be a bitch, but you asked.

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agreed 100%

i too have been on the other side of this situation, and let me tell you, its a SHITTY fucking feeling.

the only other thing I have to say is that emotional/mental cheating is still cheating.

I don't think you deserve your gf , think about your girl masturbating to other men and how that would make you feel.

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not just that, but then expressing that she isn't attracted to you anymore and she's not even sure that she wants to be with you, but she's just keeping you dangling for some stupid reason.

in any case, its going to hurt her. either in the short term, with you breaking up with her and possibly actually telling her why (that you found youtube whores more attractive than her) or in the long run, with you not telling her and not leaving her and her not knowing that you really don't care for her anymore.

these are chicks that are, as I like to call them, attainable. When its a porn star, you know that there is no way in hell that he's ever going to get with them, so its pretty much emotionless.

but when you know that they are girls that are whoring themselves out on a public amature video website and that you can actually talk to and develop some sort of relationship (no matter how base), its a totally different situation.

these are chicks that are, as I like to call them, attainable. When its a porn star, you know that there is no way in hell that he's ever going to get with them, so its pretty much emotionless.

but when you know that they are girls that are whoring themselves out on a public amature video website and that you can actually talk to and develop some sort of relationship (no matter how base), its a totally different situation.

at least in my eyes, anyway.

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you read my mind......actually I am addicted to it because those girls really reply my messages...... somehow I just simply login to check if I got a new message from them....to be honest, somehow it is more exciting than actually watching their video repeatedly.

you might called me sick, which I feel like I am.......I just need more advice before I am going to doctor office to have him proved that I am sick.

you read my mind......actually I am addicted to it because those girls really reply my messages...... somehow I just simply login to check if I got a new message from them....to be honest, somehow it is more exciting than actually watching their video repeatedly.

you might called me sick, which I feel like I am.......I just need more advice before I am going to doctor office to have him proved that I am sick.

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I don't think you are sick at all. It's called projection.

You don't have daily, intimate contact with these women like you do your g/f...therefore you can project onto these women ANY TRAIT or behavior that you want in a mate. They may or may NOT be like that in r/l but that usually doesn't matter because you are attracted to the image you have built up in your mind.

Ever had a long distance relationship where you feel totally in love with and into your S/O but when you get together in real life all you do is fight. That's also IMO due to projection. When others aren't in our face day in and day out, it's easy to think of them anyway we want to.

So you've seen the "reality" of your g/f for a long time now and this all seems so new and exciting. This is why many people cheat because they simply can't stay away from that feeling.

You said something in your OP that I thought was a red flag. You said, "...i dun find that much interested on her body no more." That tells me that you were more interested in her body then her as a person. Or perhaps you used to be interested in her as a person but have since grown apart from her. Either way, you should take a break from the relationship because it doesn't look to me like you still want to date her.

I would suggest before you either get caught or cheat, that you end your current relationship. It's not fair to your current g/f otherwise and cheating is rarely good for the one doing the cheating. If you do finally end up in a relationship with one of these youtube chicks....chances are that they won't live up to your hype.

from someone who has been on the other side of this type of a situation:
you better hope she doesn't catch you.
i know, i know, a bunch of ppl are gonna say "at least you are not cheating on her in real life" or "oh have her catch you, she'll probably think it's hot too and start blowing you" or something to that affect, but in my experience, every female that i know would be completely offended- even women like me who are okay with porn- because somehow it hurts so much more when they are "real" people.
dude if you aren't attracted to her, do her a favor and break up with her. you can keep up your nightly ritual and you can find a chick whose body you are interested in. who cares that you have been with her for years? you just said a bunch of anonymous women on the internet are "better" than her. you seriously aren't doing her any favors by lying to her and you are probably keeping her from being with someone who will be attracted to her. sorry to be a bitch, but you asked.

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I agree. Chances are she is going to be even more hurt because she is right there. How is your sex life with her?

these are chicks that are, as I like to call them, attainable. When its a porn star, you know that there is no way in hell that he's ever going to get with them, so its pretty much emotionless.

but when you know that they are girls that are whoring themselves out on a public amature video website and that you can actually talk to and develop some sort of relationship (no matter how base), its a totally different situation.

at least in my eyes, anyway.

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how are these girls any more attainable than strippers or 900 numbers?

I agree. Chances are she is going to be even more hurt because she is right there. How is your sex life with her?

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i used to do her once a week but since i opened this thread, I felt bad to myself and try to pay more attention to her...... to my surprise, i feel like loving her more than before. I think now i can control better after reading all those research articles....

however, it takes time to quit and I am still surfing youtube, only at night while she is sleeping though.