“It killed my confidence, but the more I read it the funnier it became,” she told the publication. “I couldn’t understand how a guy could say such things to a woman.”

Three months after the ‘disaster date’ he messaged her with tips, including to ‘lose weight’. Photo: Facebook/Kimberley Latham-Hawkesford

Posting the shocking message on social media she wrote, “Imagine being so far up your own a** you’d send this to a girl three months after a date”.

“Hello Kimberley, I know we went on a date quite a while ago now but I’d like to explain why I haven’t messaged you,” Jim started off.

“I feel like you could have made the date much better, here’s a few reasons why. I apologise if I offend you.”

The ensuing list of 15 ‘tips’ makes us not surprised in the slightest that Jim is still single. Many of them focus on her physical appearance, and he first tells Kimberley she needs to lose some weight, use fake tan, and show more cleavage.

“I think you need to wear clothes that suit your figure and maybe update your style slightly. Just so I’m not embarrassed to be seen with you,” the advice continued.

Then things get a little confusing as he tells her to dye her hair a more natural colour – but use hair extensions because “long hair is more attractive”, but she needs “to look more natural” and “stop wearing make up”, before suggesting cosmetic procedures.

“Your lips have gone down so you should think of getting more filler. I know you said you regretted it but filler would make you sexier,” he said.

He goes on to say she needs to be “more confident” and “more sensitive to others’ feelings”. That she is a “prude” and “needs to get a sense of humour”.

Obviously of the belief that he is – using MAFS‘ Cyrell’s apt term – ‘King-ding-a-ling’, he goes on to say that if she heeds his advice he might even consider a second date.

“If you take these on board I might consider another date. I will give you a month and get back in touch to see if this made a difference. Good day to you Kimberly.”

Understandably, the reaction to the messages was one of outrage, shock, and sheer disbelief, with many commenting on ways she could get revenge on Jim.

“I’d agree to another date and once he turned up I’d order the biggest, most expensive meal on the menu, ask for it in a take away container and leave him with the bill, leaving without a goodbye. A**hole deserves his time wasted,” was one suggestion.