#MarryHer: How to have perfect love towards her

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I’m currently volunteering at a youth camp, and the memory verse for day one is from 1 John 4:18, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”

Few questions arise:

1. What is perfect love?

2. How can one be made perfect in love?
Tip: reading the previous verses of 1 John 4 gives some hint:
And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world.

1 John 4:16‭-‬17
From the verses above, we observe a few things:
1. Perfect love is that love that doesn’t give room for fear or doubt.
2. We are made perfect in love by :

a. Knowing God’s love

b. Believing in the love he has for us

c. Dwelling in that love
Talking about God’s love…
But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Romans 5:8 NKJV
Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.

1 John 4:10
Now let’s bring this home. How do we apply this concept of perfect love to our relationships?
Fear is a big thing in relationships. The fear that a man or woman would change, even the fear that they may not love us as much as they say they do could cripple our hearts and keep us from making progress in our relationships.
It is unwise to proceed in a relationship where fear is present. For anything not done out of faith is sin (Romans 14:23). Therefore, it is necessary and possible to have and manifest perfect love towards your spouse. But how?

The principle, I believe, is one and same:

A. Know the love your partner has for you.

B. Believe the love they have for you

C. Dwell [and grow] in it.
God, however made it easy for us. He demonstrated his love towards us by sending his son to die for us. But what if our partners haven’t really demonstrated their love for us? That’s where faith comes in.
Remember, faith is the substance of things hoped for, the element of things not seen (Heb 11:1).
Bearing the above in mind will help you and me demonstrate perfect love towards one another, for that is God’s desire for us:
Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

1 John 4:11
Let us therefore know and believe God’s love for us, as this will cast out every fear of damnation (going to hell). Also, let us know and believe the love our spouses profess and demonstrate towards us, as this will perfect our love for them and cast out every fear in our hearts.
To perfect love!