Messages - Luxhx77

Personally, I would not be interested in a woman who felt like she needed to keep her last name. I think that displays too much type-A behavior and there is only room for one type A in a relationship(I being the other type A). But I would support a couple who chose to go with the woman's last name.

Really, there should be a new rule made that isnt gender specific. I propose, Whoever is the main breadwinner in the relationship should use their name. So if you are a woman, and want to keep your last name- go on the search for a trophy stay at home type man (or school teacher)... then everything is solved

But I absolutely LOATH people who hyphenate their names because they can't figure out what to do. Because of their lack of ability to communicate effectively before marriage and make a decision they make the GENERAL PUBLIC suffer by having us pronounce extremely long last names. It is not only inefficient, but also pretentious. What makes you feel like you are so important that people need to garbble out MULTIPLE last names to greet you formally. And then the children being at school, having to explain why mommy and daddy have different names- the whole thing is a mess.

If you really want to be a lawyer, you should just suck it up and go through another semester. Many schools have programs to help struggling students who didnt quite understand how to take exams. It is a common thing. I know quite a few who got horrible grades the first semester but turned it around during the second.

Quitting your school to try to go to another one is a poor choice. Good luck

It is natural at this time, with the economy as it is, to try to take out as little as possible in school loans and attempt to get through school with no debt... But just as the conventional wisdom in 2003 was to buy any house you could, because home prices would only go up... the same type of group think is happening in terms of the outlook on accumulating debt.

If anything I would encourage you to take out as much money as possible and buy furniture,cars, clothes while everything is relatively cheap.

Once China starts dumping their dollars, our inflation is going to be absolutely silly... Just like the US experienced massive inflation coming out of the great depression, we will experience something similar. Inflation is almost a neccesity with all the debt americans have..

Congrats to you Matthies, you are a super law student who knows which items to skim through. My classes generally assign readings that require 3 hours of study time for every hour of lecture... so 15 credits correlates to around 60 hours... and then law review/journals/clinics usually take up more time than that. But that is awesome that you are so good, I am sure you are a superior man than I.

And I gave anecdotal items because so many others were giving their personal stories. There's no doubt some parents are so inept raising children that you could have both of them in the house 24/7 and the kids still would be F'd. I still maintain that it is selfish to undertake law school/med school/and anything else that requires 60+ hours a week (20 hrs tops if you are of Matthies genius law man level) while being a single mother. If you want the kids, spend time with the kids...

And I am not saying a woman must choose between law and having children. I fully support women going out and getting themselves a trophy stay-at-home husband.

And to the Berkeley animal shelter thing. I am not exaggerating- even Matthies of the 20 hour law school study/50+ hr internet commenting schedule couldn't get a puppy. They hear law school and they say no way.

Yea, but Matthies, that isnt the question. Its not if the woman can handle it, but how her kid copes with having an absent parent.

And to freak...I actually do know a single parent who went through law school while her son was a toddler... she did very well, bought a house in marin while working in a decent law firm in SF. Her son was my roommate as an undergrad and dropped out as a sophmore due to having a heroin addiction. He absolutely hated his mother, and had major problems with self-esteem.

I also have a cousin who passed away from Methadone when he was 23. Almost the same story... wealthy background but absent parents, no love, no discipline... both got into it around 12-14 cuz no one was around.

The idea that people can have it all is a complete myth. Everyone only has 24 hours to a day. If you decide to have children, that necessitates sacrifices in other areas of life... thats just a fact.

sure sara... typical that you would be in Berkeley. Whats funny is that if you went to an animal shelter to get a dog around Cal and told them you were in your first year of law school and single... you would be rejected. They wouldnt allow you to adopt an animal. And Rightly so... Because it is cruel to have a puppy and be gone 8-12 hours a day everyday. But a woman with a 3 or 4 year old... who are we to judge?

The idea of going to law school when you are a single parent of a 3 and 4 year old is downright repulsive. Your children need a mother, which would be impossible if you take on something like law school (full or part time). And with the loans you would be taking out would necessitate working LOOOONG hours when getting out. Being a parent should be a higher priority than finding your true potential professionally.

Be an adult and raise your children... Think about law school after they move out...

Looking on this board it is frightening how many relatively new parents are thinking of going into law school. While everyone is focusing on how well the PARENTS do, perhaps more time should be thought about the children and the effect law school/law work will have on them.

I don't know where the OP is located but if you are willing to drive to a neigboring county, away from local law schools, you could have better luck. I had trouble looking in major cities as i found that a lot of the 2L's were competing for goverment and court internships.

Three weeks ago I applied to superior courts about 45min to an hours drive away and found that the competition was negligible for those internships. It seems like the expense of driving scares off a lot of people. Compared to the cost of summer school, the gas expense isn't that cost prohibitive.

Anyway, if you want to take a last ditch chance hit some of the neighboring counties.

So are you planning to go back to NY with your degree? If so, I don't think either are a great fit. Really it comes down to whether you want to practice in Washington or Sacramento. Both schools don't travel all that well.

I was in the same situation last year. I had a whole summer with nothing to do and wanted to know what I could do to prepare. I read a legal history of the US which I did find beneficial. I learned a bit about the important supreme court judges and read up on their background. I don't know if it helped grade-wise or anything, but it did make certain court decisions more interesting when i read them. I had better context.

If I had it to do over again, I would have tried to get a part-time job working in a law office... even if it was strictly volunteering.