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How hard is it to Let Go ? Emotions

What would you call that feeling when you earnestly want to start something, lets call it B, anew, afresh by letting another thing go, but that ‘another thing’, lets call it A, wouldn’t just let you go off; When you are excited enough to build your dreams and your immediate future around B but you cant start immediately; When everybody, your friends et al have the feeling that you have already moved-on from A to B but you know you havent yet; and you have to wait. Wait for the time when A permits you to let go of it and seek another life, another innings with B.

This brings me to the inevitable question “How hard is it to Let Go ?“. The other day, I came across a beautiful quote “Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be”. What do you let-go? Emotions, People, Other tangible stuff. So the analysis would be in 3 parts.

EmotionsOne of the most popular methods to let-go of emotions is Sedona method (developed by the late Lester Levenson ). It states that emotions doesn’t have anything in them, like a soap-bubble, and it very easy to let-go. We hold on to them, and that’s why we become uncomfortable. Hold an object and squeeze it, till the time you feel pain. But if you drop it i.e. let it go, then that uneasiness fades away. To master the art you first have to ask yourself three questions:

Now, this reminds me of Steven Covey‘s highly acclaimed book “7 Habits of Highly Successful People“. Isnt it? What these theories essentially suggest is that when we learn to accept the emotions that have been troubling us, we begin to let go of the hold they have on us. But that doesn’t mean we have to approve of them to accept them. We have to realise that the Emotions is not me, rather only a part of me.

We can, in fact, start loving our painful emotion. Now that might sound preposterous. But it is possible. Let me try with an example. There are a number of things about us which are just there – age, height, size of the pupil – which we cannot change, but which we can accept just like that. Acceptance and approval are not the same. You cannot change your height, so instead of just frowning that you dont have that Bachchan-like height, if you just accept your height you would feel a lot better.

So much for emotions. Watch out this column for analysis of the other two let-go stuff.

I really dont think its so easy to ” Let go ” our emotions , so easily while we are moving from…. let’s say from A to B.The big question that anyone needs to answer in a situtaion like this is- ‘Do I really want to Let go these emotions ?? ‘Do you ???

Sudeshna:Thanks for the credit [blush (^_^)]. But hey, why dont you start doing the same – ‘dipping the pen into the ink of thoughts’ ? Wouldn’t be a bad idea.

Vijetya:Yes, you are right. People generally find it tough to let-go of emotions. But the points, if the emotions are happy ones, you dont want to let it go. In case they are painful, then this article might be of help to you.

Coming to your question, No I dont want to let-go of the sweet memories. But I want to ease-off the painful ones, if they exist.

It’s not that hard to let go the emotions: if you can see the need to move on and that holding to the emotions would entail stagnancy in life, you can try and may be succeed to move on.

I guess you also answered the same thing through your different and interesting references. So the question would be, given that your engulfed in emotions, when will u feel the need to move to B from A and what efforts can u make? I think its at that point you realize that it is hard to move on 🙂

KalyanReally good start man…I dont think that I’ve a very deep thought on such noticeable behaviours of life…but still wanna to say sth abt complex chemistry of emotions with our day-to-day life…emotions have large impacts on life as well as it depends on persons how they deal with…and on persons’ thought processes to analyze the situaution +vely or -vely to compete with it…confused 😦 …Well I believe in a very non-elegant solution **** off the emotions..and took the things easily after moulding it according to own nature…i dont know till what point I may approve myself to be correct…signing off till then… 🙂

Really good one …..But don’t you think that it’s all about Kneeling down in front of that ugly picture of life. When you feel helpless and don’t have any other solution left to solve the problem u ‘let it go’

Really good one …..But don’t you think that it’s all about Kneeling down in front of that ugly picture of life. When you feel helpless and don’t have any other solution left to solve the problem u ‘let it go’

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