Thank God, our life is a mess

There’s a pile of clothes sitting by my bed. It’s been there for a week, and chances are that heap of shame will build up for another three days. Stained T-shirts, moldy work-out outfits, ugh….

I could solve the problem by sorting out the mess now, yet by the time I’m done with laundry, the kitchen’s sink will be full of saucy frying pans and floating crumbs. Again.

Cleaning the apartment is an endless task, everything is at least 30% messy, if not downright disgusting.

And the same goes for my unfinished task lists, abandonned novels and broken promises.

What was the last time you felt totally satisfied with a project?

Personally, I can’t remember…Everything I did was a bitter-sweet mixture of random achievements and failures, there’s always been a mismatch between how I wanted my life to be and what it looked like.

And it turned out to be a pretty good thing.

“Life is what happens while you have other projects”

Said a famous guy whose messy life ended abruptly with seven wound shots.
He was right, not only life throws at us whatever it pleases, but this often results in a deep overhaul of our value system.

One of my best friends was once my worst enemy, it took 5 years working with him to tolerate his differences and to regard them as the qualities I lacked: he’s patient when I’m not, tenacious when I slack off and detail-oriented when I’m sloppy.

Spending time with him felt like a goddamn boot camp: he reflected my shortcomings perfectly every day, and he also taught me that to him, my nastiest tendencies were also the qualities he so badly needed…depending on circumstances.

Is your current partner the one you had planned ten years ago? What about your friends?

I bet you hadn’t pictured them on your life project, did you?

Do I push it too far if I say that our loved ones made us progress by NOT being what we wanted them to be?

I guess that’s what I have in my mind when I praise our mess, since what we label chaos is probably nothing else than what we need to grow: the fertilizer, and the magic too.

I don’t intend to patronize you about what outlook you should have on your life, you have your own personal mess to take care of and I don’t know what it contains, but rest assured that to my eyes, what you’re uncomfortable with might be what makes you unique and interesting.

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In science this is referred and measured as Entropy, the universal tendency to a mess state, to a lower energy state.

Everything that opposes itself to Entropy requires a consumption of Energy, which by the way is limited and not always available.

So many times I asked myself how is it possible that life and matter evolve toward a mess state ?

An interesting hint came from a clarification of the concept of Entropy.

In fact every system tends naturally to establish an equidistance between every object, in a closed space everything has the perfect energy state when it is arranged in a position equidistant one object from the other (called chaos by a subjective judgment). Of course this is not what we have in our mind when we imagine a room perfectly in order.

What is order for our mind is not order for the universe.

For you the choice is between your local stability and universe stability.

The same rule can apply to human goals and purposes, it is your choice to canalize your energy in a project at a time or let you energy flow toward multiple projects equidistant, the second choice is more natural it goes by itself, the first choice requires more Energy.

And spiritually said, you feel more in harmony with the universe while in your mess than while in a forced state of stability.

That is why you feel more “unique and interesting” in your mess, where you feel that universe loves you.

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