Hey I dont like it when the ex is still in the picture either. I've had too many problems with them in the past - two boyfriends cheated on me with their exes (so much for the usual "we're just good friends" crap) and I actually left my current boyfriend for a while when I saw just how close he was to his ex (far, far too close, you'd think they were still shagging). So I understand. If someone is in the past they should stay there.

(Original post by Antonia87)
Hey I dont like it when the ex is still in the picture either. I've had too many problems with them in the past - two boyfriends cheated on me with their exes (so much for the usual "we're just good friends" crap) and I actually left my current boyfriend for a while when I saw just how close he was to his ex (far, far too close, you'd think they were still shagging). So I understand. If someone is in the past they should stay there.

Precisely, if I get angry with her over this she won't tell me about the calls which will be bad for the relationship.

(Original post by Anonymous)
Precisely, if I get angry with her over this she won't tell me about the calls which will be bad for the relationship.

What do I do? Its annoying me !!

Well then you should at least talk to her, and communicate exactly how you feel.

My ex didn't do this and due to his weird possessive control freak ways, he got all insecure and thought I was cheating on him with my ex (we're just very close and good friends). So one day, decided to heavily flirt, then eventually hook up with a girl who luckily happened to be the gf of an ex-boss of mine who used to have a thing for me

Thank God Adelaide is small, cos was able to break up with him before things got worse - not that I'm suggesting you'd ever do that lol x

You can love someone after a day, there is no specified time limit. Personally I agree and disagree with you - I can see how it's hard to accept your gf being in touch with her ex, it's not very nice and probably a constant reminder of their time together...but at the same time I wouldn't go down the 'me or him' route so early on. It will seem possessive and won't give the right impression. Maybe mention that it's bothering you (if it continues) and think of a solution together...

(Original post by NubbliNubbleton)
Hahaha I agree. She sounds like one of those 'oh, I must let my boyfriend do whatever he wants even if it bothers me, because I don't want to see clingy, how uncool would that be!' -types!

(Original post by danni_bella)
Well then you should at least talk to her, and communicate exactly how you feel.

My ex didn't do this and due to his weird possessive control freak ways, he got all insecure and thought I was cheating on him with my ex (we're just very close and good friends). So one day, decided to heavily flirt, then eventually hook up with a girl who luckily happened to be the gf of an ex-boss of mine who used to have a thing for me

Thank God Adelaide is small, cos was able to break up with him before things got worse - not that I'm suggesting you'd ever do that lol x

Okay... I have spoken to her but I fear if I come to strong to her she would stop telling me about his calls... once she didn't tell me about a guy who had a huge crush on her because she was scared I would get angry over that, later she told me after my mood got spoilt!

(Original post by sugarjunkie001)
You can love someone after a day, there is no specified time limit. Personally I agree and disagree with you - I can see how it's hard to accept your gf being in touch with her ex, it's not very nice and probably a constant reminder of their time together...but at the same time I wouldn't go down the 'me or him' route so early on. It will seem possessive and won't give the right impression. Maybe mention that it's bothering you (if it continues) and think of a solution together...

Well she knows that I am possessive, I wouldn't go on the me or him route so early on (thank you)

Yes, I got to think it through, because his calls are really irritating and she ends up telling him about a lot of things, I guess they must be talking for at least 15 mins! Gosh, it drives me crazy! Too possessive

(Original post by NubbliNubbleton)
Hahaha I agree. She sounds like one of those 'oh, I must let my boyfriend do whatever he wants even if it bothers me, because I don't want to see clingy, how uncool would that be!' -types!

Perhaps she's one of those "I trust my boyfriend and am not insecure enough to tell him who he's allowed to talk to" types. It's not like the OP's girlfriend is having intimate sleepovers with her ex or anything, she just has short phone calls with him.