To all those who wondered where I was.........I'm back!! Anyway, during my brief exile, a pal of mine related what happened when he went to a bachelor party for another friend. It turned out that at this bachelor party the (groom to be) found out that his fiance had performed in two pornographic films prior to them being involved and one of the tapes was shown at the party with her doing not exactly what she might do with him. He of course, destroyed the tape and called her up to tell her the wedding is off and she should not call him. She was in tears as she said it was a mistake that she made a couple of years before when she was involved with another guy.
I feel embarassed for the guy with all that happened but I just felt compelled to throw out the question : What would you have done?

I woudl have destroyed the tape, in fact, I woud not have let them show it to me.

If I foudn otu she was in a pornographic film, I'd talk to her about it, and I would make a pact with her. She just pretends it never happened, and I will too. If it was a mistake she made, that's understandable, we all make mistakes. I was very in love with a girl in Australia not long ago, who lost her virginity while visiting the USA, and at first it shocked me, but I didn't love her any less. I talked to her about it and foumnd the guy was a huge jerk and just used her. When I hear something like that, how can I hold it against her?

I can't, and I dont. And I still do love her, though were just friends right now.

I would not have told her the wedding was off, rather, I would have spent some time thinking about how much more I can give her than that fuck on the porno, how much better I am than he is and was, and how much more I love her.