Dating guy shy

You probably shouldn’t quiz him on his opinion of the meaning of life, but asking about his favorite sports team can be a great opener.

She assures collegiettes: “Many men are more comfortable side-to-side with another person than facing the other person directly,” she says.

Greif adds that while women like face-to-face activities, “men hang out with their friends through shoulder-to-shoulder activities.” If you show interest from afar but your guy is still too shy to approach you, then the next step is to go up and talk to him!

When you spot a cute guy across the room and think he might shy, Ahluwalia advises collegiettes to give their shy guy a “green light” by smiling or holding eye contact for a few seconds.

This makes it easier for that interested but shy guy to approach you.

Unlike more outgoing guys, shy guys might need a confidence-boosting signal from you to give him the courage to make a move.

Even if the shy guy doesn’t return your gaze, Ahluwalia says it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you.

Finding mutually enjoyable things to do is one way to get to know someone.” Waldon agrees and suggests that you “invite him to a social service or volunteering event that you enjoy— this is something important and meaningful to do and it will give you something to discuss, too.” When your guy is comfortable in his environment or sees you comfortable in yours, the interaction between the two of you will come naturally and easily.

How to Make Him Fall for You Once you’ve had a few low-key interactions with your shy guy, you and he will both feel comfortable enough for you to invite him to an outing, like a concert or game night, with a small group of friends.

“Complementary personalities can be a great match.” If you have difficulty being outgoing as well, Greif assures collegiettes that that’s totally normal. “People who are getting to know each other may not know how much silence to allow [because] silence can be uncomfortable if it goes on for too long...

but talking too much can shut down quiet people, too.” If all else fails, you can always get a shy guy to talk by asking him a question.

Some guys are just inherently shy, says Geoffrey Greif, a professor at the University of Maryland School of Social Work and author of .