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Reid Adler took his own life on Jan. 7 after another teenager posted an inappropriate photo of Reid on Twitter, following months of cyberbullying.

Reid’s father is Ralston School Superintendent Mark Adler.

“It’s been incredible, the outpouring of support, the kindness, the unique gifts we’ve received to remember Reid,” Joni said.

The Alders recently remodeled their basement, Reid’s favorite room in their Ralston home. They hung family photos and Reid’s artwork on the walls.

Many of the items were gifts from friends and people in the community expressing sorrow over the boy’s death.

The couple considered moving out of the house after the teen’s suicide, but decided to stay to embrace the memories.

“Which I love because Reid’s fingerprints are on every threshold. I don’t think he’s unique as a 15-year-old boy who has to touch every doorway,” Joni said, with a smile.

The Adlers were recently part of a day of fun at Ralston High, complete with a 5K run, silent auction and games -- all benefiting a memorial scholarship fund created in their son’s name.

Family and friends organized the event. The couple awarded three $1,000 college scholarships to Ralston High seniors who’ve shown an impressive record of community service.

One at a time, the teens stepped forward, wrapping the couple in hugs. The Adlers also gave each teenager $250 to use to “pay it forward” by creating community service projects which benefit others.

“As a way to continue to remember Reid, but do it in a positive way to help others,” Mark said.

Teens at the event wore t-shirts with the phrase “#BEKIND” on the back. Bouncy houses and games filled the school gym, and boys shot hoops and laughed.

The Adlers say being surrounded by Reid’s friends brings comfort.

“I will say, there are days when it feels really good and there are days when it's just really hard to concentrate,” Mark said.

The Adlers have accepted numerous speaking engagements talking about Reid, suicide and bullying.

“There are a lot of lessons to be learned and we need to use our situation to help other people,” Mark said.

Joni Adler said she noticed the young woman who’d bullied Reid and posted his photo was following her on Instagram. She said she was able to have a conversation with her.

“She’s a mess, as you can imagine. She says she’s fearful to leave the house. She’s getting help. I’d like to say that everyone lived happily ever after. That’s not the case.”

The Adlers have boxes of sympathy cards and letters, accumulating them over the past four months. Joni keeps Reid’s phone and Instagram accounts active so she can see messages from friends and share memories with them.

One recent message showed a teenager marking the days since Reid passed away.

“101 days since you’ve been gone. It still doesn’t feel real,” the post reads.

The Adlers said they like to talk about their son and they encourage people to share with them.

“It just helps every day to know that somebody’s thinking about you. That they’re with you,” Joni said.

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