To live with love is to show kindness and respect to others.

KIZHAAY ANISHINAABE NIIN

Is Anishinaabemowin (Ojibway language) for “I am a kind man”, this phrase guides us in how to engage men to take action to end violence against Indigenous women.

* Please be advised that Kizhaay Anishinaabe Niin is a program and training process of the Ontario Federation of Indigenous Friendship Centres. The OFIFC provides all training and recognition. All trainers and training sessions must have prior approval by the OFIFC, and the intellectual property of the OFIFC must be acknowledged.

AN INDIGENOUS APPROACH TO HEALING

I am a Kind Man is?guided?by?an Indigenous approach to healing that recognizes the distinct histories, unique cultures, and shared traumas of all Indigenous people negatively?impacted?by colonization. Our approach to healing is wholisitic, taking into account all aspects of creation.

ABOUT I AM A KIND MAN

I am a Kind Man engages Indigenous men by raising?awareness and an understanding of the causes of?violence against women. ?It supports?Indigenous men to come?together to end violence. It is designed to offer Indigenous men a safe place to understand their roles and responsibilities in ending violence.?

SEVEN GRANDFATHER TEACHINGS

This Kizhaay Anishinaabe Niin resource is guided by the Seven Grandfather Teachings and?provides programming for Indigenous men who are committed to ending violence.

about us

All human beings deserve to live a life free from violence. Unfortunately, far too many people will experience violence in their life time. In Indigenous communities, across Canada, violence against Indigenous women has become normalized but occurs in epidemic proportions. Ending violence against Indigenous women requires the commitment of all of us, especially men to end violence in Canada.?

We acknowledge patriarchy – where male dominance and male power privileges men over women – as an important cause of violence against women. ?We also see the strong connection between colonization and violence against Indigenous women. Many non-Indigenous anti-violence movements do not talk about this connection. Understanding violence against Indigenous women means dispelling the view that patriarchy is the sole and/or dominant causing factor in violence against women.

The statistics below show the number of Indigenous women who are affected by violence in Canada in relation to non-Indigneous women.?

“Consequent to colonization, forced assimilation, and cultural genocide, the learned negative, cumulative, multi-generational actions, values, beliefs, attitudes and behavioural patterns practiced by one or more people that weaken or destroy the harmony and well-being of an Indigenous individual, family, extended family, community or nationhood.”

The statistics to the right are from the 2014 RCMP Operational Review on Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women.?

In 2014, the OFIFC responded to the RCMP Operational Review on Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women in Canada. Please see the news release and response by clicking below.?

SOME SERIOUS FACTS TO CONSIDER

TIMES MORE LIKELYTO BE VICTIMS OF VIOLENCE

21%

REPORT PHYSICALOR SEXUAL VIOLENCE BY A SPOUSE

1,017

HOMICIDEVICTIMS

164

CONFIRMEDMISSING

CHALLENGING VALUES

Attitudes, Beliefs and Behaviours

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I am a Kind Man acknowledges that sexism and male privilege are contributing factors to the prevalence of violence against Indigenous women.
There are obvious examples of sexism directed at women in everyday life such as being told they are unable to do something because they are a woman, or being told “this is a man’s job”.
Commenting on a woman’s appearance, although men may be intending it as a compliment, can also be received as sexism and harassment.

All men have different gifts and different abilities. There is no single set of characteristics that make up what a real man is or what a real man should be. Traditionally, Indigenous men had roles and responsibilities to serve in and participate in creating and maintaining healthy and sustainable communities. Our society is ever changing and our daily lives are constantly evolving. Yet these traditional roles and responsibilities are still important for Indigenous men today.

I am a Kind Man strongly supports healthy sexuality and the inclusion of people from all gender and sexual identities including those who identify with an LGBTTIQQ2SAPA community (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transsexual, Transgender, Intersex, Queer, Questioning, 2-Spirited, Asexual, PanSexual, and Allies).
In order to become healthy men in our communities we must respect the identities of all individuals.

As Indigenous men we know that we all come from diverse backgrounds. There are many different Indigenous Nations and languages in Canada, all with differing practices and traditions.
Traditionally both men’s and women’s roles and responsibilities were treated as equally important. Today we must recognize that both men and women can share the same responsibilities, so long as they create balance and a healthy community. The I am a Kind Man campaign does not privilege the knowledge of men over women.
Just because something is traditional or a long standing practice, does not mean it is correct.
Openness to change is important to a healthy Indigenous man’s identity. Sometimes it takes courage to create change.

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When a man chooses to use violence towards a woman he is dispiriting her. He is changing the very spirit she entered the world as.

- - Pauline Shirt - -Elder Advisor to I am a Kind Man

Kind men respect and honour women. Kind men respect and honour men. Kind men respect all that is sacred.

- - Joseph Morrison - -Elder

As a young Indigenous man in Ontario I speak out against violence towards women in Indigenous communities. My vision is to create healthy communities where women and children are safe and respected.

- - Dakota Heon - -Indigenous Community Youth Leader

HEALING MEN

The I am a Kind Man campaign does not privilege one man’s identity over another. The campaign is for all Indigenous men regardless of their skin colour, status, place of birth, where they were raised, or their nation.

Activities

I am a Kind Man utilizes activities and teachings based on the 7 Grandfather Teachings to help Indigenous men heal and to actively end violence in our communities.
Culture based programming increases resilience by empowering men to acknowledge and resolve trauma, as it provides a venue for exploring historical traumas and how they are transmitted from generation?to?generation.?The goal of which is to improve men’s well-being and foster community wellness.

Culture and Tradition

As the original inhabitants of Turtle Island, Indigenous people have our own distinct history that existed far before the arrival of Europeans and other migrants to this land. Our stories carry our traditions and histories of our ancestors passed. The I am a Kind Man campaign encourages Indigenous men to seek their original teachings from their nation to guide them on their healing journey.

Healing Ourselves

I am a Kind Man encourages facilitators and participants to incorporate traditional knowledge, medicines, and ceremony throughout each session. These traditional teachings and practices support participants as they become self-aware about their roles and responsibilities to their families, themselves and their communities.

20 years of Indigenous Healing and Wellness in Ontario

Since inception in 1994 and over the course of 20 years of service delivery, the Aboriginal Healing and Wellness Strategy (AHWS) has contributed to significant change in negative health outcomes and levels of family violence experienced within Indigenous families and communities in Ontario. The strategy finds its origins as a shared commitment between the Government of Ontario and First Nation, Metis and Indigenous partners working alongside of Indigenous communities in ending family violence, violence perpetrated against Indigenous women and children, and improving the general health and wellness of Indigenous people in Ontario. The Aboriginal Healing and Wellness Strategy esteems Indigenous cultural approaches to program and service delivery and continues its ongoing commitment to end violence and improve overall health outcomes within Indigenous families and communities into the current day. The AHWS 20th Anniversary video commemorates the collective history, growth and accomplishments of the Aboriginal Healing and Wellness Strategy in Ontario.

TAKING ACTION

The I am a Kind Man campaign is a step towards returning to our traditional teachings, respect for each other, and a chance for us to envision a world free of violence.

Community Action

I am a Kind Man is targeted at reaching?Indigenous men and youth.? In some communities, men will play the central role; in others, campaigns will be developed with both men and women taking leadership. Having activities jointly organized by men and women is a great way to model equal relationships and respect.

Training

The Ontario Federation of Indigenous Friendship Centres provides training for?I am a Kind Man to facilitators selected and supported by their local communities. Since the campaign began, over 200 men and women have been trained to facilitate the I am a Kind Man program.?

For more information, please contact the OFIFC.

Program Sites

There are several?full-time Kizhaay Anishinaabe Niin - I am a Kind Man program sites in Ontario. These program sites provide a full range of services including one-to-one support, cultural teachings, mens’ support circles, community based workshops, and coordination of activities aimed at ending violence against Indigenous?women.

CONTACT US

* Please be advised that Kizhaay Anishinaabe Niin is a program and training process of the Ontario Federation of Indigenous Friendship Centres. The OFIFC provides all training and recognition. All trainers and training sessions must have prior approval by the OFIFC, and the intellectual property of the OFIFC must be acknowledged.