The situation is slightly different. Thalaivan is not allowed to enter his house by his wife as he has visited courtesans. The usual mode of entry is Thalaivan forgets his wife and child, spends his time with his new lovers and finally bored of spending time with women without true love wants to return to his house. So he sends a bard as messenger to his wife to convey he is reformed and wants to be back in the house. Wife may accept his proposal or ask him to leave the house. Kannagi accepted Kovalan, there were many in Sangam poems who pretty much shut the doors on their husband. The wife in this poem has kicked out the bard. Now bard goes back and conveys this to his master. Thalaivan thinks about the love his wife shared with him when they had a child and tells the bard we were such a lovely couple then, see our situation.

So if some one told you , whatever husband does Tamil women accepted in the past, that just a big fat lie. One more poem where women kicks out her husband

There is interesting usage – பெயர் பெயர்த்து – which literally means your name has changed. What is meant here is you will be called a Mother going forward.

அவ் வரித் திதலை அல்குல் – means beautiful lines and spots you have on your Venus mounds or hips. This could be considered as stretch marks borne out of pregnancy . But general usage of அவ் வரி and அல்குல் in Sangam literature usually refers to women’s Venus mound.