One hundred dollar bills in the shape of a heart isolated on white background The love of money

Want to grow your income? Your savings? Your ability to receive?

In this five part series, we will closely examine your relationship to money and the family patterns and life experiences that could be blocking you from receiving more. Using the scientifically proven “tapping” technique, we will release possible subconscious fears around creating wealth. I personally quadrupled my income using these techniques.

“The EFT session with Laurence was so helpful. I laughed and cried and felt a huge release. It has helped me really work through some limiting fears that have held me back. I recommend her to anyone open to helping themselves get out of their own way.” – RM from Woodland Hills

Laurence holds a Master’s in Spiritual Psychology, is trained in Kundalini Yoga, Family Constellation, Pranayama Breathwork and EFT.

This workshop will work with our relationship with our parents and ancestors. Mom and Pop. And I ask that we all drop our defending of our parents for a moment. Yes, we owe them our lives. They fed us and protected us and got us to this point. They created us. But just for this circle, we will let go of being safe and examine how we felt growing up.

As you may know, parents are a huge source of wounding when we are young – through no fault of their own. When we want or need something as children and we don’t get it, our ego protects us from that pain in the future by creating a wall. Now we pretend we don’t want that love, that attention – even when we really do. And we do weird things to get it.

When we were hurt at that tender age, we had feelings about it and not all of us got to express them. Some of us had to pretend we weren’t hurt or we weren’t mad to make sure our parents continued to take care of us.

This is what locks the wall in place. This is what creates our triggers. It is an unexpressed wound. This repressed pain comes out later in our like as sabotage, fear, anger, anxiety, illness, etc. What I’d like to do in this circle is look at some of those wounds.

Mother love is meant to allow us to feel bonded, connected, beloved. If we don’t have that energy growing up we can feel alone, left out, different, unloved. If we are not nourished enough with love, attention and affection, we often don’t know how to nourish ourselves. We don’t feel happy. We don’t know how to receive (cuz of the wall). We don’t allow ourselves the time to enjoy life and nurture ourselves with good food, good company, good exercises, and good spiritual practices.

Father energy is meant to make us feel supported, capable, able to believe in ourselves and proud of ourselves. When we don’t have enough father energy we don’t know our own value, we don’t make enough money, we don’t have that ironclad faith in our abilities to see us through the obstacles.

In this circle we will examine where our wounds were, listen to ourselves, express our feelings, get in touch with universal mother and father energy, heal our wounds (if ready), and give ourselves the mothering and fathering we need to feel happy and fulfilled.

“Laurence – your facilitator skills took my breath away. Thank you for living in the gift and creating space through that gift for the healing of ourselves and ancestors.” – JE, Westwood

“Thank you so much Laurence for the incredible facilitation – you rock, love you! I felt many things in my family lineage shifting. Thank you so much, I loved it. I am very grateful! ” –K.N., Brentwood

“I felt a huge block move after my constellation with Laurence. It was really beneficial. I immediately got work and I’ve continued to double my income.” – J.R., Sherman Oaks

Laurence Walsh-Hodson is a TV writer and yogini trained in Family Constellation with the compassionate and powerful Francesca Mason Boring who studied under Bert Hellinger. Laurence also holds a MA in Spiritual Psychology with an Emphasis on Consciousness, Health and Healing from the University of Santa Monica. Further, she’s a Certified Pranayama Breathwork Coach and Kundalini Yoga Instructor.

Ever feel drained? Exhausted? Done?

Ever feel like you’ve been doing the emotional work for two, or three or five?

Because it’s possible you have been!

When people don’t process their negative energy, they do three things with it.

They repress it (and it turns into dis-ease)

They re-gurgitate it to the next lowest person on the totem pole. A friend, a loved one, a child.

They lash out at strangers. This is their issue turned into road rage, internet rage and political rage.

I AM NOT BLAMING YOU! I AM NOT BLAMING ANYONE!

This is understandable because we don’t have an acceptable method for processing feelings that is a ritual or habit. So when those feelings creep up, we forget what to do. Often we aren’t even aware we are upset until we are yelling at some poor soul who doesn’t deserve it.

I’m not saying you can’t really be upset about politics, I’m saying, your energy for making a change in the world will be cleaner if you process your anger first.

5 WAYS TO PROCESS FEELINGS

1.First, they feelings have to come up. You can get in touch with them by sitting quietly and listening to your thoughts. You can also check in with yourself, “What am I feeling?”

2. Yell and pound a pillow: The rage needs to be expressed. It isn’t healthy to keep it inside. Find a private room with a fluffy pillow and say what you got to say!

3. Journal writing. A great way to discover your emotions is write them down. Stream of conscious writing helps to unveil our unconscious thoughts and feelings and then clear them.

4. Breath work. Try one of my CDs. Self-love, self-forgiveness, self-esteem. Each one will help you get in touch with your feelings and clear them. Once you clear the negative, your essence shines naturally.

5. Exercise. Exercise is a natural de-stressor. Those negative thoughts and feelings get sweat out and the serotonin replaces the negative feelings with positive ones.

If you are processing feelings for another person, there are many techniques you can use to clear it.

1.You can “give them back their energy and take your energy back to you.”

2.You can get a Family Constellation – I specialize in separating energy.

3. You can create clear boundaries that you will not allow another person to cross.

4. You can share this blog so the other person will know how to process their own feelings.

When we don’t give ourselves the love and comfort we need, we leave ourselves open for cravings and addictions to fill in the empty spaces. People eat sugar and get addicted to text messages because they need the dopamine that both release. If we physically, spiritually and emotionally nourish ourselves, we can feel full of love and joy naturally.

But what if we haven’t been taught how to nourish ourselves? Or worse, what if we’ve been taught that self-love and self-care is narcissistic? This sabotaging belief will actually interrupt any efforts made at self-care and the result will leave us open to desperate behaviors. Refusal to take care of yourself will never go unnoticed by your body. As one’s well runs dry, we HAVE TO fill it and we will use whatever is at hand: chocolate, an affair, porn, sucking the life out of children or friends. This is why it is never selfish to practice self-care. You are preventing the unhealthy ways we make up for its lack. Let’s look at practical, easy ways to practice self-care:

Physical self-care – nourishing your body with healthy foods is important. Follow the 90/10 rule of eating: 90% healthy, 10% fun. Your body tells you when it doesn’t like the foods you are eating. It causes bloating, fatigue, bowel problems and even joint pain. Many people are gluten and dairy intolerant without knowing it. A great way to find out is to try being gluten free for a week and see if you notice a difference in how you feel. It’s healthy for your digestion to replace fried foods with baked or steamed foods. Change out vegetable oil for olive oil or coconut oil. For more health tips check out the movie “Fed Up” or the book “It Starts With Food.” Other nourishment for the body includes massage, hugs, love-letters you write to yourself and affirmations. “I am beautiful!” “I am loved.” “I receive abundance now.”

Emotional self-care – Emotional self-care can be tricky because when we repress emotions, we are often not aware of it. We are suddenly in a bad mood and we blame whoever is nearest instead of tracing the mood back to the origin of the hurt that caused it. Being self-aware requires self-honesty and quiet time. One easy way to know you aren’t repressing negative feelings is through Breathwork. Breathwork stimulates the Amygdala to release any painful, sad or angry feelings. Journal writing can accomplish the same thing. As we write, we unveil what is going on in our subconscious. Patterns can be seen.

Spiritual self-care – It doesn’t matter if you believe in the Force or God or the Universal Intelligence or the beauty of nature or your higher self. It is important to feel your connection to the goodness in the world. With our busy schedules and lack of rituals, this can sometimes be challenging. I recommend prayer in its many forms: meditation, chanting, hands pressed together asking for help, yoga. It also helps to visualize bringing energy up from the earth through the bottoms of you feet and up into your heart. Likewise, you can bring energy down from the sky though the top of your head and into your heart. You can feel the energies swirling around in your heart allowing your heart to be nourished by mother earth and father sky.

Sometimes, we need help to self-nourish. If we have a block to self-love, it can manifest as not taking care of ourselves. If it is scary to face our own issues, we will focus on other people’s issues and try to solve those. So much easier! If you have a block, get help. There are books, guided meditations and helpful (not overpriced) healers out there. The important thing is to recognize if you are feeling happy and loved inside and get the support you need if you aren’t.

One self care mistake people make is depending on someone else to give them the love they need and deserve. No one can fill a hole in our heart, but ourselves. And don’t fill it with donut holes because though tasty for two minutes, they will never give us the lasting feelings of self-love and connection to the greater good that we need to thrive. Love yourself!

PS

If you need help with self-forgiveness…try this meditation or try Holoenergetic healing.

If you feel disconnected from your feelings, try Family Constellation.

If you can’t control your will power, get in touch with your Higher Self.

1. Listen to Comedy – Spotify has 24-7 laughs to break up those dark thoughts.

2. Aromatherapy – Lavender is a lovely scent to lift the spirits. Ylang Ylang, Bergamot and Chamomile can lift the mood as well.

3. Read “Spiritual Books” on audio- Books that uplift the spirit like “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero and “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson can inspire and uplift you.

4. Give yourself a treat- A walk in nature. A Hot Carob (my substitute for a Hot chocolate, carob powder, maple syrup and hot water). A hug. Self-hugs can be very satisfying. Even if they are just in your mind.

5. Don’t drink alcohol – Alcohol is a depressant and will only increase the negative thoughts and feelings.

6. Create something to look forward to.

7. Take Vitamin D – Vitamin D deficiencies have been linked to depression and SAD.

8. Help Someone – A great way to get out of your head is to offer assistance to another.

This isn’t one of those blogs that talks about how many times Edison failed before he finally lit up a room. Though I do appreciate those stories. This is about the idea that there is no such thing as personal failure. I hear you arguing, “But my dreams didn’t come true,” “But I’m still struggling.” Or “I can’t pay my bills.” Yes, failure to do something or create something may exist, but what I’m saying is that people are never failures. Let me explain…

Have you ever noticed that you have a goal and might be very close to fulfilling it, but at the last moment something happens to undermine that goal? Something YOU do destroys the very thing you’ve been working for? Like getting nervous on a date with someone you are attracted to? Or blowing an interview that you were completely prepared for? Or starting a fight in a relationship that was going really, really well?

These things happen because of our personal programming. As children we absorb certain beliefs from our parents and surroundings that guide us as we grow. Our sponge-like minds set our happiness level, our values, and our beliefs about ourselves. So, when we have a date with a smart, sexy guy, but our personal program says that “I can’t have what I want” or “guys aren’t trustworthy” or “nobody will love me”, we will find a way to spill food down our shirt or laugh inappropriately when he talks about something important to him.

The good news is…We are not failures! The fact that we haven’t created our dream business or kept our marriage together is not actually our fault. We were given these beliefs that we are fulfilling, like a computer program. You know when a computer won’t do what you want it to do… Does it help to hit it? Curse at it? Scream at it to change? No.

It helps to REPROGRAM it so it does what you want. No amount of criticism, guilt or blame is going to influence the computer. Just the correct code.

So, how do we figure out our program and harder, how do we reprogram ourselves?

To figure out your program, look at your life. What is the pattern you keep repeating even though you know it is harmful? What is the name of your Inner Saboteur? Anxiety? Anger? Frank? This would be a Turning Point moment when everything is going well, then suddenly it isn’t. The feelings you have in that moment show your pattern.

Sometimes when I reach a very intimate place with my husband, I begin to get uncomfortable. Everything is nice and happy and it feels, well, new and different. It doesn’t feel like the anger and tension that was between my parents. It feels like ease and comfort and boy, is that awkward. I literally have to hold myself in place to stay in the moment with him. I have to control my desire to undermine the moment.

Once you’ve located your program, how do you reprogram? Different techniques work for different people. Hypnotism has been highly effective for some. Tapping has worked to clear unconscious patterns for others. Breathwork can help mourn the original trauma that created the false belief.

Another great way to overcome the pattern is to remain conscious when the Turning Point is happening. To sit in the uncomfortable (or sad or angry) feelings until you can let them go and adjust to a new feeling. Our Ego wants to keep our Happiness Thermostat at the same level it was as a child because that is safe. We have to be with the protective ego and help it release control to overcome the pattern.

The ego is like a Colonial in the army. He will scream at you to follow the order. He will try to frighten you to follow the order. He will even take over your body and cause strange pains to force you to follow the order. But we must persevere. Regardless of how many times Colonial Ego screams at you that “You don’t deserve the job, the love, the good life,” you must thank him and reiterate that you do.

Colonial Ego actually has your best interests at heart. He wants you to Survive so he insists you play the tune that helped your parents survive. But if you are like me, it’s not a pretty tune. I want a sweeter song to swing to.

So, as I continue my climb up the TV writing ladder and as my hubbie and I continue to create our family, I bring compassion to myself. I forgive myself for judging myself as a failure. I remind myself, there is NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE. I, like the rest of the world, am following my programming. And step-by-aching-step I continue to rewrite the code until the life is the one I choose and not the one I was given.

To change how you feel you can do one of two things: you can either go into what is bothering you and work it out (and then feel better after it is cleared) or you can put whatever is not joyful on the proverbial shelf and focus on something that uplifts you.

To go back to the original source to clear the issue takes time and privacy, the breathwork meditations are designed for this purpose. This page will be about using a morphic field, a field of energy, to raise your vibration from outside yourself.

Close your eyes (after reading this)

Take a few deep breaths

Take anything bothering you and put it in an imaginary waste basket or an imaginary clipboard

Think of someone, something or some place you absolutely love.

Feel the feelings associated with that person, place or thing. Whatever it is, let the feelings wash over you. Surround yourself with the positive feelings of affection, connection and excitement.

Open your eyes and begin the day anew.

If you set your intention to feel more joy everyday, then that is the path you will create.

More Ways to Uplift Yourself

Do some Fingerpainting. Art therapy is a proven technique to uplift the spirits. It allows us to move from our rational, critical left brain into our creative, expansive right brain.

Listen to Music you Love. Listening to uplifting music can be an immediate game changer.

Take a Dance Break. Humans were not meant to be so sedentary. Sometimes, getting up, stretching and even putting on a song to dance to can raise your energy as well as you mood. Sure, close the office door first.

Pay Attention to YOU! Take a break to pay attention to yourself. We put so much attention on other people sometimes we forget to listen and acknowledge ourselves. Sit quietly, breath deeply, imagining the breath moving all the way into your stomach, let go of tension in the shoulders and neck. Ask yourself how you are. Pause and listen for an answer. Ask yourself what you need. Listen for an answer. Ask yourself what would make you happy. Listen for an answer. Acknowledge yourself for taking the time to listen and really hear yourself. Make a plan to do the thing that would make you happy.

Make an Appointment to do Something You Love. Get a massage, eat at a favorite restaurant, meet someone for a hike. Sometimes just making the appointment ties us into the energetic field of the activity and we can feel uplifted by the connection.

Take a Walk. The sun contains vitamin D, an essential ingredient in happiness. Reconnecting to this source of energy is instantly uplifting. Also, outside, you can connect to the beauties of nature: the soft caress of the wind, the feeling of freedom and the reminder to let life be like nature – effortless, abundant and joyful.

Aromatherapy. Smells have their own vibration. They can instantly uplift us. Find a smell that you love and keep it on your desk. Mine is rose oil, though grapefruit and tangerine are also very uplifting. Sandlewood, ylang ylang and musk can help with grounding and being present in the body.

Try Something New. So often our energy gets drained because we repeat the same routine everyday: we eat the same foods, talk to the same people and do the same activities. When we try something new, we get an influx of new energy –a freshness of taking a chance and going outside our comfort zone. Try karate, or scuba or Tai Chi or rock climbing or sculpting class or roller blading or a new path to work.

Join a group!!! There is nothing more enlivening or fun then being part of a group. Whether you choose a sports group or an acapella singing group, the camaraderie and support and joint goal raises your spirits like nothing else. www.meetup.com has hundreds of groups to choose from or you can create your own. The buddhistfoodies meet up group…the hippityhop soccer team…

Forgive Yourself. Often times we feel bad in our bodies from judging ourselves or judging others. To feel better we need to let go of the judgment. Find a private place, take a few breaths, ask yourself…what am a judging as wrong? Forgive yourself for judging yourself for whatever it is. We are all doing the best we can. We don’t need to add problems by judging ourselves or others. When I forgive myself for judging myself, the upliftment is INSTANT and tangible!

Acknowledge Yourself! We blossom under praise and cringe and withdraw under criticism so it is important to focus on and acknowledge what you are doing that you like and appreciate. Everything that is on your path to being the best you, praise it! If you make one wise decision, if you choose one healthier food or another, if you exercise when you said you would, if you do one kindness a day for another person, congratulate yourself! This feels great and also puts the attention on what you want rather than what you don’t.

Slide into Your Heart. Take a waterslide from your head to your heart. Literally imagine that you are on a waterslide in you brain and ride the waves past your eyes and nose, down your throat, along your spine and land in the warm pool of your heart. Our minds exist in duality where everything will always have two sides. When we are present in our heart space, we can make decisions based on what is aligned for us, our own intuition and loving energy. This technique comes from Matrix Energetics.

“When the family has been brought into its natural order, the individual can leave it behind him while still feeling the strength of his family supporting him. Only when the connection to his family is acknowledged, and the person’s responsibility seen clearly and then distributed, can the individual feel unburdened and go about his personal affairs without anything from the past weighing him down or holding him back.” -Bert Hellinger

Family Constellation

January 23rd, 2-5pm

Location: Private home in Sherman Oaks

Cost: $75 for Constellation $25 for attendance

Sign up here: www.joyinfinite.com/family-constellation/

Family Constellation is a phenomenological healing tool that allows people to look at the underlying movements of the soul and often heal them. Out of loyalty and the need to belong, we take on negative energies from family members which eat away at our happiness. We are stuck with the pain and weight of what we have subconsciously taken on. When we can bear to look at the underlying truth of a situation, often we can be freed of it.

Family Constellation can help us

improve relationships

appreciate our lives

live in self-love

identify unhealthy patterns and change our behavior

grieve the past

come back to wholeness

Here’s what people have said about my workshops:

“Laurence – your facilitator skills took my breath away. Thank you for living in the gift and creating space through that gift for the healing of ourselves and ancestors.” – JE, Westwood

“Thank you so much Laurence for the incredible facilitation – you rock, love you! I felt many things in my family lineage shifting. Thank you so much, I loved it. I am very grateful! ” –K.N., Brentwood

“I felt a huge block move after my constellation with Laurence. It was really beneficial. I immediately got work and I’ve continued to double my income.” – J.R., Sherman Oaks

Laurence Walsh-Hodson is a TV writer and yogini trained in Family Constellation with the compassionate and powerful Francesca Mason Boring who studied under Bert Hellinger. Laurence also holds a MA in Spiritual Psychology with an Emphasis on Consciousness, Health and Healing from the University of Santa Monica. Further, she’s a Certified Pranayama Breathwork Coach and Kundalini Yoga Instructor.

“Resolution is always bound up with honor and respect.” -Bert Hellinger

Family Constellation

October 18, 3-6pm

Location: 270 Oceano Drive, Brentwood, CA 90049

Cost: $25 to attend, $60 to have a Constellation (all Constellations have been spoken for at this time).

Family Constellation is a gentle healing modality that looks at underlying patterns of a trauma and traces them back to their origin so that the original wound can be addressed and healed. In his practice as a psychotherapist, the founder of Constellation, Bert Hellinger, observed that people subconsciously take on the destructive patterns in their families as a way of belonging.

Family Constellation can help

-ease worry and fear

-heal relationships

-understand the past (exes/divorces/abortion/miscarriage)

-cure addictions

-retrieve parts of ourselves disassociated in childhood

reconnect to the souls of our parents

reconnect to divine spirit

empower an individual to take action

heal physical issues that may be psychosomatic

grieve a loss

change a self-sabotaging pattern

Click here to sign up: www.joyinfinite.com/family-constellation/

Here’s what people have said about my workshops in the past:

“Thank you so much, Laurence, for that amazing experience. It was incredible.” –I.C., Malibu

“Laurence is SO skilled at guiding this process, staying neutral, and also knowing great questions/timing, etc. I can tell her intuition/higher self is really with her/assisting/leading. I felt many things in my family lineage shifting. Thank you so much, I loved it. I am very grateful! ” –K.N., Brentwood

“I felt a huge block move after my constellation with Laurence. It was really beneficial. I immediately got work and I’ve continued to double my income.” – Julie R, Sherman Oaks

The difference between “having a Constellation” and “attending” is that when you “have a Constellation”, the Constellation focuses on your issue. When you are an attendee, you represent elements in another person’s Constellation. The healing can be deep either way. Often when a person represents, they identify or share an issue with someone else. By standing as a representative they can receive the loving energy or compassionate insight they need to help resolve their own issue.

Laurence Walsh-Hodson is a TV writer and yogini who believes people should take responsibility for their lives and happiness through healing tools and techniques. Laurence trained in Family Constellation with the compassionate and powerful Francesca Mason Boring who studied under Bert Hellinger. Laurence also holds a MA in Spiritual Psychology with an Emphasis on Consciousness, Health and Healing from the University of Santa Monica. Further, she’s a Certified Pranayama Yoga Breathwork Coach and Certified Kundalini Yoga Instructor.

“Children seldom or never dare to live a happier or more fulfilling life than their parents. Unconsciously they remain loyal to unspoken family traditions that work invisibly. Family Constellations are a way of discovering underlying family bonds and forces that have been carried unconsciously for several decades.”-Bertold Ulsamer

The Well Being Center of Malibu

August 16th, 1-4pm

Cost: $25 to attend, $60 for constellation (1 remaining)

Family Constellation is a gentle healing modality that looks at underlying patterns of a trauma and traces them back to their origin so that the original wound can be addressed and healed. In his practice as a psychotherapist, the founder of Constellation, Bert Hellinger, observed that people subconsciously take on the destructive patterns in their families as a way of belonging.

Constellation has been successful in treating people suffering from addictions, depression, illness and feelings of being alone and unlovable. Family Constellation has shown immediate and permanent shifts that allow people to live happier and more fulfilled lives.

“I felt a huge block move after my constellation with Laurence. It was really beneficial. I immediately got work and I’ve continued to double my income.” – Julie R, Sherman Oaks

Laurence Walsh-Hodson is a TV writer and yogini who believes bliss is our natural birthright. Laurence trained in Family Constellation with the compassionate and powerful Francesca Mason Boring who studied under Bert Hellinger. Laurence holds a MA in Spiritual Psychology and is certified in Pranayama Breathwork and Kundalini Yoga.

Laurence excels at tapping into to the underlying matrix of spirit to help guide people when they are struggling in their lives. Focusing on the highest good of the person, Laurence answers relationship questions, financial questions and questions on how to transform your life. Call now.