Unmarried couples - whos surname?

Hi all - so I'm just wondering who's surname are you giving to your baby. I know traditionally it should be the father's name but I am finding it difficult to think my baby will have a different name to me?

I am married but I kept my family surname (the reason with women start to adopt husband surname after marriage is something that doesn't fit my mind, anyway...) My lo has my surname and father surname, perfect for me

I gave my boy his dad’s name, mainly because I have a foreign name and it would make his life easier living in the UK. It doesn’t bother me at all but a thing to remember is you will always be asked a birth certificate when traveling abroad without the father. I just tested that last month, luckily we got a pile of certificates and I always keep one in his passport as we are frequent flyers 😉

My LO (little one) has dad’s surname as we are engaged and will be married in the not too distant future so will all then have the same name. The problem with that is my son from previous relationship will then have a different surname. When I had him I wasn’t with his Dad so we double barrelled our surnames, I had planned to give him just mine but got guilted and pressured into it by his family 🙄

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