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Topic: No call, no shows from the internet (Read 5715 times)

Can someone please explain guys on the internet who set something up for a date or just a hook-up, get your number, say they will call in a few or say they are on their way and then No Call/No Show. I know it is part of the game, but I just don't understand. If I am not interested in someone I never persue anything more than chatting. Even when I am interested in someone I wait for the guy to make the first move.

I just find the whole "game" silly. Why go through the motions and not follow through. Do they change their mind, get a better offer or is it an ego boost?

Just trying to understand,

Woods

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"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it." Nelson Mandela

I always ask where the person is driving/walking from, gives a 10mn slack, tell them the door will be closed if they don't call to say they're late and don't show up in time. That way I don't wait for hours and go on to the next in line if the first doesn't show up.

I've had a couple of times when the guy didn't call and DID show up 30mn or even an hour late. I never opened the door in that case.

That way I don't wait for hours and go on to the next in line if the first doesn't show up.

Well Milker, I am not nearly as popular as you, cause I don't have them lined up waiting.

I definetely don't wait or plan my schedule around a possible hook up. But since I would never tell someone I would call or was on my way and not follow through, I am just trying to figure out why someone does. It's the same as in a bar, if I know I am not going to call someone I would never give my number out and if someone asks for my number that I don't really want to call, I just make up an excuse and not give it. It's just mind games, which are a total waste of time and energy.

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"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it." Nelson Mandela

I attribute this "no call / no show" behavior to mostly guys who simply can't be honest enough to say they are not interested in you. There are some other guys who seem to collect numbers (without intention of calling) just because it boosts their ego. Either way, if they're not considerate enough to show up, or call and tell you why they cannot, they're not guys you want to get involved with. There's no excuse for this behavior, and I won't engage in it. If I say I'm going to call, or be somewhere, I do so -- and I expect the same of others.

Regarding waiting for the other guy to make the first move, that can be a lot of waiting (at least in my case). If I want to give a guy my number, I will. But I've come to learn that 95% of them won't bother calling. I don't generally ask for another guy's number -- I figure if he is interested, he'll either call me with the number I've given him, or (gasp!) reciprocate and offer me his number.

Henry

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

AND then there are those in countries far away who are collecting information for scams and other not so nice behavior. Why do you guys use the internet to "hook up" when it is one of the least secure ways to meet someone. There are so many scammers around the globe who are only in it for the more criminal side of life. I don't do banking, or any purchases of anything on the net as it is so very corrupt, AND there is no way to clean it up. You see screens that "this is a secure site" which means to me that someone in another part of the globe is watching with net scanners. Keep yourself safe and don't use the internet for anything more personal than surfing.

Just my thoughts, based on 40 years in this industry.

Love,

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The Bible contains 6 admonishments to homosexuals,and 362 to heterosexuals.This doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals, It's just that they need more supervision.Lynn Lavne

I attribute this "no call / no show" behavior to mostly guys who simply can't be honest enough to say they are not interested in you.

Why then lead someone on from the start. Like I said I keep my interest at a very minimal level. The other guy is always the one paying the compliments first and saying they are interested and wanting my number to call. I think a lot of it is a self-esteem and ego thing.

I know in my past there were some guys who were partying and lost track of time. There are also cases of someone chatting up more than one person at a time and either losing track of who they are talking to and arranging a hook-up with or getting a another offer after they agree to meet you and just being without the balls to cancel to you.

Actually in my party days there was a guy we all knew who trolled manhunt who used three different screennames and all of them were to just toy with someone...that was how he got off.

Personally I prefer people who gets their kicks the old fashioned way with whips and bondage

I would relate my on-line stories of stringing along straight men talking about my Size D breasts way back when during the dawn of the internet over a decade ago, but y'all might not think highly of me.

I would relate my on-line stories of stringing along straight men talking about my Size D breasts way back when during the dawn of the internet over a decade ago, but y'all might not think highly of me.

I never knew you had Size D breasts. You've been holding out on us!

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

I don't do banking, or any purchases of anything on the net as it is so very corrupt, AND there is no way to clean it up. You see screens that "this is a secure site" which means to me that someone in another part of the globe is watching with net scanners. Keep yourself safe and don't use the internet for anything more personal than surfing.

I'm far more concerned with how companies handle (or mishandle) my sensitive information after it gets to them (whether it be in person, via snail mail, or over the Internet). There have been many stories recently about how companies have lost or exposed sensitive data (credit card numbers, SS numbers, account numbers) in stupid ways, like employees who lose laptops. I think there are reasonable precautions one can take when transmitting sensitive information over the Internet, to keep it away from network sniffers and prying eyes:

Verify the name of the web site you are visiting, by double-checking the hostname displayed in the web site's URL in the browser. If it doesn't look like the correct hostname for the website, don't attempt to login or provide other sensitive data.

Ensure that your browser is in secure mode by looking for the lock icon at the bottom of the screen, and verifying that the web site's URL starts with "https://" (the "s" is what is important, as it indicates a secure transport layer). Using 128-bit encryption, a brute-force attack on data transmitted with 128-bit encryption takes about a billion years to break with today's computers.

Do not click on hyperlinks sent to you in suspicious emails or instant messages. They may not take you to the web site you think they are (see the first item above).

Be sure to install and use anti-virus and anti-spyware software on your computer, to prevent theft of personal data off of your laptop.

Again, in my experience as a software developer and architect, more security exposures happen *after* your data gets to a company, rather than in-transit to a company via the web.

Henry

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

Many guys are ruled by their dicks that is why. Some guys are like a kid in a candy store. The internet is like a candy store. They see one piece of candy and it looks good then they start to go to the cash register to buy it only to see other pieces of candy they 'think' looks better so they put down the first piece and buy something else, only to walk out and find the candy they bought wasn't as good as they thought. Then they have second thoughts and want to go back and buy the original candy they chose.

He will be back again seeking you out . It is up to you if you will accept his invitation then. It is sad but this how it is. This is why I am not always so sure the internet is such a great thing for dating or hookups. But hey the clubs are the same way

geez louise folks.. why do you expect the internet (of all places) to be ANY different than a bath house? Same thing, different place.

Actually I think a sex club, bath house or adult bookstore are much better for the hook-ups. Of course you do have your cock teasers, but there is typically an abundance of other guys to play with and move on and play with more. Of course afterward for some there might be that conversation and phone number exchange. As for me I am far past thinking that I will develop a friendship or dating relationship with anyone that I just tricked with.

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"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it." Nelson Mandela

I got to go on an internet date once. It was like being on call with Oscar De For Renta Escort Service (without pay). He was a contractor or something building a winery in the Napa Valley. He chose the restaurant, a trendy upscale steak house in Calistoga, ordered my steak before I arived (it was perfect), but... Somehow he aged 20 years and gained 50 lbs. between the time I left home and arrived at the restaurant.

He said he was divorced and so did his wife, who just happened to be at his house in San Francisco every time I called. One day, not unlike any other, I just stopped calling and taking his calls. The lesson learned (if any)... Never go out with a man who has the same name as a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle. Have the best dayMichael(who almost forgot, his name was Donatello)

what is pigged? i mean, tricking, is this free or for money? in my head, tricking (damn near vanilla) is a more innocent version of pigging (really dirty/kinky sex). someone straighten this out please.

the no call no show thing is crazy. sometimes peeps force their numbers on you and expect you to call. i think a lot of times people can't put their money where their mouth is. the fantasy becomes to real, and that can mean real consequences. i tend to keep my dates, but if i need to break them, i will have the common courtesy to call.

Hmm, I was guessing Michaelangelo....That's what I get for guessing...

Oh No My Queen,

I don't know any Angels. Actually, I bought my Vestal Virgin card in a little shop on Santa Monica Blvd. It is counterfeit. Have the best dayMichael(who was clubbing with some Impostor Queens that day)