tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:/forums/single-moms/rssRecent Posts on Single Moms forum on What to ExpectRecent Posts on Single Moms forum on What to Expect123124,125general-discussion,introduce-yourselfGeneral Discussion,introduce Yourselftag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43211944What happens on the birth certificate?123124general-discussion4321194443211944<p>I&#39;m 8 weeks pregnant now, and the dad was basically a wham bam....I know it&#39;s not the best way to have a kid but we used protection....basically I&#39;m doing this alone, bd will not be involved...what happens on the birth certificate? The kid will obviously have my name..but yeah...</p><p></p><p>This is my first child too so I&#39;m trying to figure out the protocol...any advice with for single moms would be appreciated too..</p>Angylcourt682275962015-08-02 21:47:14 UTCfalsefalseAngylcourt6822759610dawncumo66498043tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43291167When did I conceive?123124general-discussion4329116743291167<p>The due date I&#39;ve been given is Thursday 17th of December.</p><p></p><p>I&#39;ve calculated this and used different conception calculators and the most likely date of conception/ovulation I&#39;ve come up with is Thursday 26th of March.</p><p></p><p>I&#39;m just wondering could this mean I conceived BEFORE or AFTER this date. By after I only mean a day after.</p><p></p><p>I had sex on the 24th (a Tuesday) and then on the 27th (a Friday).</p><p></p><p>This past Thursday I was exactly 20 weeks according to measurements of the baby. I am now 20 weeks and 2days.</p>mama2b91671631692015-08-02 21:15:36 UTCfalsefalsemama2b91671631695dawncumo66498043tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43301341So, I&#39;m in shock. 123124general-discussion4330134143301341<p>I&#39;m 28 weeks pregnant with a little boy. I was staying at my mother-in-laws house for a night to have a girls day while my husband went home to go see his son from a previous marriage (visitation). My husband and I live an hour from his mother and 3 hours from his ex wife.</p><p></p><p>He was supposed to get there at 11am this morning to see his son. His ex texted his mother in law asking where he was, and she asked me. &amp; I told her the last I heard from him was an &quot;I love you&quot; at 9am. About 10 minutes later, we received a group text (me, his mom, sister and dad) saying &quot;I&#39;m so sorry, check your e-mails.&quot;</p><p></p><p>I checked and my heart sank. He was saying how he was leaving and he&#39;s so sorry, he was having a mental breakdown of anger and had to leave. Saying he&#39;s trashing his phone after sending that e-mail. Said he was moving halfway across the world.</p><p></p><p>We think he went to Russia. He was learning Russian. When asked by my mother in law&#39;s fianc\351 why he was learning Russian a few months back, he said he knew a couple he met on one of his games that was teaching him some Russian.</p><p></p><p>My parents gave us $10,000 for the baby and fixing up the house. I went to the atm and checked the bank account and he cleaned it out. His mom is mad that he left me, pregnant with nothing.</p><p></p><p>I have no idea what to do, what to think and how to handle this. Our son is due in October.</p><p></p><p>We&#39;re all in shock and worried.</p><p></p>babyybxo576547772015-08-02 15:31:32 UTCfalsefalsebabyybxo5765477713spbe1065583148tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43301644Daddy shower123124general-discussion4330164443301644kbeachner651849362015-08-02 14:58:30 UTCfalsefalsekbeachner651849364kbeachner65184936tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43300395Can&#39;t Let go (rant)123124general-discussion4330039543300395<p>So my BD and I are not together anymore but I still love him. Just yesterday I found out that he was talking to someone else and now, I&#39;m depressed. I knew we aren&#39;t on the best terms but I was hopeful of us working things out. I don&#39;t know what to do or where to run to, this is the only man that I&#39;ve been with, how do I let him go?! :( and he just told me that I can&#39;t be upset that he&#39;s moving on because it&#39;s my life and I have to move on too. How can he not consider being with me??? I&#39;m the mother of his child! I gave him my everything, all I have. I don&#39;t know how to let go, when I found out I started crying hysterically and wheezing. What&#39;s so wrong with me that he doesn&#39;t want to be with me? Who wouldn&#39;t want to be with a good woman who has only been with them who bore their child?!?! I don&#39;t want to go into a breakdown but I just need help. I don&#39;t want any other woman around my soon to be 7 month old, my heart. I can&#39;t feel my heart :&#39;(</p>skyrieamor638057572015-08-02 14:55:20 UTCfalsefalseskyrieamor638057574firefighterfem1465019264tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43210373Child Support: Yes or No.123124general-discussion4321037343210373<p>
This is my first child. Of course I have the ultimate decision to put the father of my child on child support. 9 times out of 10, everyone is telling me make it &#39;mandatory&#39; that I do such. However, part of me doesn&#39;t want to. And here is why:</p>
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I know child support makes him more liable to be involved with his child, however, I don&#39;t want a court case to make you want to be involved with your kid. You should, as a Man, want that for yourself. But if he chooses to walk away when my son gets here, then that&#39;s his loss, and I quite honestly believe my life &amp; my sons life will be best without him &amp; his negative actions &amp; attitudes. I want him to feel the NEED to be involved, and not obligated. Therefore, if he decides to leave, later down the line he can never say I didn&#39;t give him an opportunity &#39;rather then be forced.&#39; It has nothing to do with how I feel or my emotions in regards to him, personally. I just don&#39;t want legal actions or papers to make him be forced to be involved, &nbsp;and I have to allow it.</p>
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What are your takes on Child support filing? Do you believe its a &#39;Must&#39; or Not so much necessary?</p>
BabyJKingG685561202015-08-02 14:02:11 UTCfalsefalseBabyJKingG6855612023hippycowgirl65330168tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43254508BD wants over nights with a new born...123124general-discussion4325450843254508<p>Once the baby is born he wants to keep the baby for a week and a week for me but I&#39;ll be breastfeeding and I don&#39;t want that for my child. Specially so young. I don&#39;t want this for my child. We are not together and idk how to tell him that once the baby is born the baby can&#39;t be with him for a week specially so young but he gets mad for everything.</p>aarias18662131562015-08-02 12:02:50 UTCfalsefalseaarias186621315610matoolenw64837740tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43297722How to deal with BD dating?123124general-discussion4329772243297722<p>I have zero interest in ever being with BD again, so that&#39;s not where this is coming from. But I am very concerned about my 7 month old. I know a lot of women get very attached to babies (or at least I do), and I also know some men essentially pimp out their babies to get attention/sympathy on the dating scene. I don&#39;t want some random woman from a bar holding my child, but I know that his time with the baby is his time and he can do whatever he wants and deserves to do whatever he wants. How did you come to terms with random women meeting and playing mommy to your child?</p>chmblue2624119642015-08-02 07:59:59 UTCfalsefalsechmblue2624119643imalay9567277942tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43046624LAST NAME BATTLE123124general-discussion4304662443046624<p></p><p>I&#39;m not married, my baby&#39;s father and I have an OK relationship. But I wanna know if I should still give my son his fathers last name.</p><p></p><p>My family insisted on my son carrying my last name but they are traditional and religious.</p><p></p><p>His fathers last name isn&#39;t that great being&quot;Roach&quot; but I felt bad because it&#39;s his first child too and it&#39;s a boy which means every man would like to carry on their last name.</p><p></p><p>My son is already going to have is middle name.</p><p></p><p>What should I do???</p><p></p>tamarah1661160212015-08-02 06:05:30 UTCfalsefalsetamarah16611602112salsa3160443904tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43287893Mutual Meeting Places123124general-discussion4328789343287893<p>Hello Ladies,&nbsp;<div><br /></div><div>I am trying to find a nice place where my child&#39;s father can have a couple of hours to sit and play with her. At the time I don&#39;t want him at my home (long story) and he lives about an hour away. He has not been an active father so I will be there the entire time because I&#39;m not sure how well he knows how to take care of a child. She is only 5 months old. So I&#39;m looking for a place comfortable, where we are out of the heat (we live in Texas). I know he probably will be talking to me more than playing with her, especially if she goes to sleep. So I was trying to find a place with a little distraction but it&#39;s not necessary. Any suggestions? Thanks ladies!!</div></p>tidra04626041562015-08-02 03:41:45 UTCfalsefalsetidra04626041565RylandsMommy9566059148tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43135930Reappearing Baby Dads123124general-discussion4313593043135930<p>So I know you&#39;ve all seen people post about how annoying it is to rant about BD issues, but honestly a lot of people (like me) don&#39;t have anywhere else to get support &amp; ask these questions. So thank you to those that take the time to read &amp; respond.</p><p></p><p>I am going into my 8 month of pregnancy &amp; suddenly my BD is blowing my phone up nonstop, texting me, asking about the baby. I stopped talking to him at 5.5 months after he wouldn&#39;t stop yelling/threatening me about EVERYTHING. To the point where the stress on me/baby was getting out of control. He demanded I abort, told me to stay away from him, he&#39;s not ready, &amp; will only be talking to me in court.</p><p></p><p>Well, he&#39;s had a new girlfriend since he left me for refusing to abort &amp; I know his mom pressures him to have a friendly relationship with me even though he&#39;s wanted no involvement because she reaches out, too.</p><p></p><p>My question is, now that he suddenly wants to know everything about the baby, see ultrasound pics, talk to me, am I supposed to just &quot;drop&quot; how horrible he was the past 8 months &amp; pretend like I&#39;m &quot;cool&quot; with all of it? I&#39;m a firm believer that you make choices in life &amp; if you don&#39;t like the outcome, you should&#39;ve made different choices. I don&#39;t think it&#39;s fair to use the whole &quot;he was just scared&quot; because he&#39;s a man argument. I was terrified too &amp; had to step up to handle everything by myself.</p><p></p><p></p>kaykay00167269042015-08-02 03:39:19 UTCfalsefalsekaykay00167269045RylandsMommy9566059148tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43302040It&#39;s a miracle 123124general-discussion4330204043302040imalay95672779422015-08-02 01:34:48 UTCfalsefalseimalay95672779420tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43298593Dropped court case.123124general-discussion4329859343298593<p>My LO&#39;s father has not been around from the beginning, but had recently contacted me saying he wanted to see our son and how &quot;sorry&quot; he was because of the fact that he had to work a scene where a two year old drowned in a pool.</p><p>After some hesitation and doubt, I decided to talk with him to try to figure everything out. During our talk he said we could figure it out ourselves and that we didn&#39;t need court, and that if I felt like taking the court route that he would check out completely.</p><p>I believed all the nonsense he told me, so I dropped our court date that was supposed to happen in a few weeks. And of course it&#39;s a week later and he hasn&#39;t said anything about seeing the baby. I feel like such an idiot for thinking he had actually changed for his son.</p><p>I feel like the next 18 years is going to be this roller coaster where I think he will be a decent father, and then be constantly letdown. :/</p>nvkent642909292015-08-02 00:51:45 UTCfalsefalsenvkent642909291blueberry_parabola68585726tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43293163Anyone in Massachusetts 123124general-discussion4329316343293163happybb19666245842015-08-02 00:15:37 UTCfalsefalsehappybb19666245841babyc8141566681008tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43109564i literally CAN NOT wait123124general-discussion4310956443109564<p>To meet my baby girl! She will be my first child, and She literally consumes my mind. What she will look like, how much she will make me smile, if she&#39;ll have my crazy goofy laugh, I even look forward to those &quot;mommy I&#39;m up, you should be too&quot; slaps in the face haha, I might be a tiny bit obsessed with her and haven&#39;t even met her yet. And then the best part is.. I get her all to myself! Yay! Is anyone as obsessed as I am? Can November Hurry up and get here already! Geez Louise</p>theweirdalien674753452015-08-01 21:55:11 UTCfalsefalsetheweirdalien6747534516xxamarie1466325554tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/42833764Two baby fathers - please don&#39;t judge123124general-discussion4283376442833764<p>I had sex with two guys in February. It was a week ago. One is my ex boyfriend, at first he was mad and didn&#39;t want anyone children. But now he accept the baby and wants to be part of my baby life. But he doesn&#39;t want to be with me. I&#39;m 24 weeks now. But I didn&#39;t tell him I&#39;m not sure if he&#39;s the father yet.</p><p>The other guy me and him was on and off. He has a 13 year old son but he doesn&#39;t want anymore kids. I told him I had sex with another guy. He wants to wait till the baby come and i do a DNa for us to figure out what to do.</p><p>I love my ex boyfriend and I don&#39;t wanna hurt him and he would be heartbroken cause he&#39;s been taking care of me and providing a place for us to live. I need advice please</p>kasherrell664388042015-08-01 19:40:22 UTCfalsefalsekasherrell6643880427kareenabeena68059386tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/42699117Scared about not loving the baby...123124general-discussion4269911742699117<p>I need support from you guys. 2 weeks ago, my fianc\351 decided he didn&#39;t want me anymore at 24weeks after 5 years together, a house, a wedding on the go and a very planned and wanted baby... I caught him talking to someone else and he was planning to go to a hotel with her... Of course he denies everything and blames it all on me. Anyways long story short I left the house and I am now getting ready to be a single FTM at 31.</p><p>I feel very guilty to say that but I have a lot of anxiety lately about not loving/connecting with my daughter when she comes and wishing I hadn&#39;t been pregnant right now. When I think about the future I see all bad things knowing that I will have to deal with him my entire life since he &quot;really still wants this baby more than everything&quot;.</p><p>This week I went shopping with my family for the nursery I thought It would make me feel better but I got so overwhelmed that I broke down in tears in the middle of the store. It was just too much for me I didn&#39;t want to deal with it.</p><p>Did any of you felt this way before? Will it go away? I&#39;m so lost and scared right now I feel like the worst person on this planet.</p>asrai972660280662015-08-01 18:26:16 UTCfalsefalseasrai972660280669kkS071463004449tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43276400Going to Court??123124general-discussion4327640043276400<p></p><p>Okay I need major advise. My bd is constantly threatening me to take me to court for custody of our 11 week old son and I&#39;m at a point where idk what to do. He tries to play the role of the loving father who wants to see his son and that is not the case. he doesn&#39;t show up on scheduled visits and tries to just show up unannounced which is totally inconvenient for me. and we only hear from him about every 3 weeks. he tries to use living in NJ and having to travel 8 hours (I live in va, he left 2 months before I was due) as an excuse but im not buying it.</p><p></p><p>when I was 7 months pregnant I found out he was sleeping with someone else my entire pregnancy, after being together for 6 years. after all of that he basically said that he didn&#39;t want to have anything to do with the baby and showed that by moving to NJ and not being there for his birth. I think his mom maybe the one influencing him for custody.</p><p></p><p>I think at this point I&#39;m just confused as to what I should do, should I seek sole custody, or prove he&#39;s unfit in court or what??</p><p></p><p></p>airypry90640157292015-08-01 16:55:52 UTCfalsefalseairypry90640157293sweety32166183213tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43249142Dad in delivery room. 123124general-discussion4324914243249142<p>The dad wants to be in the delivery room with me but obviously we arnt together. We&#39;re friends but he hasn&#39;t been involved up until now.. He&#39;s really immature and awkward. He&#39;s one of those guys that&#39;ll make fun of me for pooping or something. But at the same time I feel like it&#39;s not my place to take him away from witnessing his first child&#39;s birth. But at the same time I waNt to be as comfortable as I can... Idk. I have mixed feelings. What do Yall think?</p><p>Also, I&#39;m 34 weeks.</p>jbennett7656248922015-08-01 13:40:35 UTCfalsefalsejbennett76562489218puppy231362170593tag:www.whattoexpect.com,2009-05-01:Forums::Topic/43251031Co parenting 123124general-discussion4325103143251031<p>I feel like I just entered HELL!!! We just had our trial the other day and as I felt we would be able to communicate well, we are not. He gets his first day this coming Sunday and as I was texting him my dds diaper size, wipes I use, ect. He text me saying how high his IQ is and that he will figure it out , along with a couple other smart remarks. My dd is 13 mo. She can not speak her needs. How else is he supposed to know!!? His IQ can&#39;t answer his daughter, whom barely knows, needs!!! Anyone else here co parenting!!? I need some advice. This sucks!! As I&#39;m happy she now has her father, I do miss our days without him!!!</p>jlr1755602139382015-08-01 11:34:06 UTCfalsefalsejlr1755602139383chaprie27068248