im 17 and i was with my first love/ first boyfriend

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Femaleim 17 and i was with my first love/ first boyfriend.. basically first everything for 13 months he cared about me as much as i did for him. his mom even talk about us like we were married because shes never seen her son care about a girl like he did for me. we argued a lot and it got to be too much but i honestly believe hes my souldmate and no one could ever replace him but he has a new girlfriend now but even his twin brother and my best friend say they dont act like boyfriend and girlfriend they act like friends.. and he said thats all she really is to him and i know its not a serious relationship becuase they girl is still in middle school and he admitted to havin to teach her how to act in public and do her homework. now my ex is a very religous person and everythin he says comes back to puttin god first(whis makes since) but he said i need to learn to be haapy on my own and put god first before i could be happy with him or anyone else... he started comin over to my house again and we had sex.. but it just ends up hurting me because he says he cant be in a serious relationship right now we need to work on ourselves.. and we recently got into an argument over it and he said we shouldin talk anymore.. i know we will eventually talk again but how can i get him back? he says he still loves me and misses being with me. then at other times he says he has love for me and misses talkin to me.. what does he mean?! what does he want?! how can i get him back?

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The way to figure him out is to have a long, honest chat with him and ask him all your questions. If he is mature he will give you thoughtful and caring answers. Good relationships are not easy to create or maintain... you need to try to do that with him.