Marriage Counselling and Relationship Therapy

Do you want more joy and connection in your relationship?

Do you need to change how you communicate?

You love each other and yet somehow your relationship has become infested with built up hurt and resentments

Addiction, Anger or other issues have eroded the emotional safety and trust in your relationship

Your erotic connection has taken the back seat in the face of child-rearing, job stress and financial pressures. You feel more like a team or roommates with a specific set of responsibilities rather than lovers

You feel like your partner doesn’t see, hear (or care) how you feel. When you try to talk to each other, you seem to get caught in the same conflicts and miscommunications over and over again.

Couples Counselling in Burnaby With Ina Stockhausen

Couple’s counseling can help with the consequences of relationship stress such as anxiety, depression, sadness or low self-esteem.

When you commit to a partner, no one really teaches you how to navigate the tough times and stay close. Most of us are poorly equipped to move from the honeymoon phase thru the next phases of relationship without getting hurt. Research shows that even the best-matched couples have 5 – 7 areas with marked core differences.

Couples counselling or marriage counseling can help you return to a place of calm discussions, and a place of compromise where you both feel good and your individual needs can get met.

He thought I was controlling, I was trying to avoid his angry outbursts.

When we decided to see Ina for relationship counselling, it was our last effort to try and save our marriage. We’ve been married for 8 years now. Looking back, we know that some issues we minimized or ignored in the beginning got bigger over the years. We’d stopped treating each other nicely, never mind romantically. Rick thought I was controlling, his angry outbursts had me walking on egg shells.

One of the first things Ina did with us was boundary work. That was an eye opener and became really helpful as we learned different ways to communicate. We really liked the creative solutions Ina came up with to help us start trusting each other again. It took some time and willingness on our part to do things differently and sometimes we can still fall back into old habits. But we’re recommitted to put our love first and are happy to say our relationship has become very loving and close again.
Shelley and Rick K.

Marriage Counselling In North Vancouver: The Next Step

As a marriage counsellor in Burnaby and North Vancouver, it is my aim to help you recreate an oasis of intimacy and trust, where you feel seen and heard by your partner. A place of knowing that you’re a priority and that your heart is safe with this special person.

During family counselling or couples counselling sessions you will discover how to leverage the strengths that already exist in your relationship and use them to resolve your areas of conflict.

Couples counselling, sex therapy, and marriage counselling sessions with me will help you discover how to:

Shift arguments into effective communication so that you feel heard and seen

Develop and create a shared system of values and meanings so you can support each other in reaching your personal goals and achieving your dreams

Resolve and avoid the feelings of stress and anxiety that can accompany your relationship because you get triggered into old injuries

Deepen your ability to give and receive affection generously

Feel loved and genuinely understood in bed and beyond

Continue to feel “hot” and “turned on” and present during love-making for the years to come

Discover how to be proactive in making your relationship better and maintain a high level of positive energy in your connection

We’d become a functioning team, but the romance was gone.
We decided to give marriage counselling a try because our relationship had boiled down to managing a family and business. We were so busy that when we talked or sat down together it was to discuss what needed to be done or update each other. We were no longer romantic and our sex life had almost disappeared and become another chore on the list.

We were both feeling neglected and had gotten into the habit of blaming each other for how we felt.
After every session with Ina we felt like we could repair or change something in our marriage. We’re so glad we didn’t wait until our kids are grown up to rekindle our love for each other. We’ve stopped only assigning each other tasks and talk about how we feel again. It feels like we’re getting to know each other all over again.

We feel open, loving and connected and have moved from roommates back to being lovers again.