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My mom dosent allow me to date, she thinks that it;s stuipid, that the guys around me only want one thing, I understand what she means but watching all of those romantic movies really make me want a boyfriend. Theres this guy who I always talk to in the library near my house and he says that he is in love with me. I dont feel the same way about him but having him hug me and say all those sweet things really make me feel special. I feel terrible leading him on like that, but it feels good to have someone treat me like that. I know it's selfish to do that to him but what else should I do??

Hi hopiehopie :)
I totally know what you mean, and sometimes I feel that way too. Yes, I think leading that guy on is a little selfish but don't feel guily about it. Tbh, I think I'd probably do the same. I think you should tell your mum about how you feel. And I know talking to parents is awkward- but once you break the ice, the realise that they were teens once too :D Maybe you should tell the guy in the library the truth too. Even though he'll be upset, it is best to be honest.

Yes, you should tell him the truth. Feeling loved is something we all want (everyone does! me too! haha) and depending on your age (how old are you?) it's something that will come in time and if you wait you will appreciate it more. Enjoy what you have now; I'm not going to say YOLO, but I will say that you should look into the future less for now. As a teen, until we worry about college and later finances and nastiness, concern yourself with making sure you have a high school career you enjoy looking back on and don't regret.

1: How old are you?
2: Remember, you parents are a lot older than you, and know a lot more. As much as you might think otherwise, it's always true. Your mom probably has her reasons, and she's just trying to protect you. Respect that, and try to figure out an agreement with her that works for both of you. Ask her to set an age, or something. Rules, etc.
3: If you don't love him, make sure he knows that. It's hard, but it will be much harder for him if you keep leading him on.
4: You are a teenager. Your love life is just beginning, if it has even really begun. You have so much time to find the perfect person, and there's no need to rush into anything. Enjoy the last of your adolescence, before you know it it's gone.

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