He should set his own pace, live by his own code, and march to the beat of his own drummer. I dig partners with autonomy and their own inherent drive. I'm not about to stall someone else's progress just so they'll conform to my agenda because I don't have the time, energy, or desire to waste effort molding a human being into something that complements me. Naturally, I expect the same consideration in return.

What I don't need is someone tugging on my reins because he's scared of me shining too brightly. I don't deserve someone attempting to curb my passions because I don't fit some arbitrary definition of what a "proper lady" or "respectable wife" is. I don't need someone creating another obstacle or voice of doubt in my life because he's threatened by a strong partner.

I'm only marrying someone who is secure enough in himself to let me walk my honest path without feeling like he needs to control me. I'm marrying someone who believes in personal autonomy and has faith that I can handle myself, even in my lowest moments.

This is not to say I'll never need help; we all do at some point. But any man I marry will be able to provide a shoulder to lean on without demanding to commandeer my life or deciding what's best for me. comedyflavors

I'm marrying someone who doesn't push or restrain, but just wants to hold my hand and smile while I do me to the fullest. There aren't many candidates who fit that bill — but that's alright; I only want one.