Part of the journey of the Hero (or Shero) is coming across injustice. There will always be a time in our lives that things feel unfair or unjust and we will feel angry. When we hold grudges, or hold past actions against people, we end up feeling resentful and bitter. Instead, we want to transmute anger... because when we do we allow space for ourselves to live in this moment (rather than in the past that we're made about) and to fully embrace our lives as they are.

This hasn't been easy for me. Recently I had an experience of an old pain that came to mind as I was trying to figure out what was blocking my path. Do you ever feel like there were profound moments of pain in your life that keep coming back for you to deal with? Do you want to smack your head and say "This again??? I thought I dealt with this already!"? Yeah. That.

My experience was being bullied from kindergarten through the fourth grade. I went to a small school, so I didn't have lots of options to find other friends... and my particular cohort would even seek me out to walk circles around me, hitting me on the head, saying hurtful things. At home, my parents were getting divorced and things were falling through the cracks, as things tend to when people are putting the shards of their lives back together into a new mosaic.

I've spent decades undoing the beliefs that I created about myself at that time. The unworthiness, being unlovable, invisible, less than. So, when it came up again I had that sense of "Really? I've done this a thousand times! How many more times do I have to address this to get to the bottom of it?". There's probably not an answer to this question... because all good food for growth continues to deliver nuggets of our personal understanding for a long while! But, I have to admit... when I got to it this time and I found anger... I felt like I was really getting to the nitty gritty.

What I know from this experience is that we can't pretend like the injustice didn't happen. We need to honor it, both as a true event, and as something that is currently standing in our way to our vision of the life we want. When we can contain these experiences as our truth, but without the resentment, then our vision can pull us forward and expand our capacity for true happiness.

The Healing Circle call this month focusses on anger transmutation, honoring the pain in our lives, and creating space for a new perspective. Please join me for transforming old pains into new capacities! The call is Sunday morning, April 6th, at 9am Pacific. Register here for call-in information.

One last thing... I created a worksheet for this Healing Circle call (feel free to download below) because I believe that for women anger can be a very powerful limiter. In order to get through it we must have a healthy way to move through and transform anger so that we can use those feelings to show up in our lives in strength and power rather than aggression and rage.

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