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Woman Shares Her Opinion About ‘Non-Traditional’ Women, And The Internet Claps Back

Krista Shanelle is a 29-year-old from Georgetown who writes articles about various topics, especially those involving womanhood, relationships, and social issues. Recently, Shanelle took to Facebook to share her opinion about ‘non-traditional’ women expecting to meet ‘traditional’ men, and how this makes no sense. According to Krista, she hopes to shed light on underground topics, “I started sharing my opinions on relationships for about a year, but I wasn’t consistent with it. I’ve only been doing it consistently for about 6 months. My goal is to make traditional family and relationship values popular again, at least for a small fraction of women and men. I realize that most won’t accept the traditional way,” Krista told Bored Panda.

Krista’s post received a lot of attention on social media, many people agreed with her while some said that she forgets such problems are clear power imbalances between men and women.

Scroll down to read her post yourself and don’t forget to tell us what you think in the comments!

Both sides are thrashing strawmen. Who are these women who want a non-traditonal lifestyle for themselves and still want a traditional partner? What would such a relationship even look like? She's in a ménage à trois but the man involved wants his dinner on the plate by 5 pm like a real 50s man? There's a gender neutral term for people who want advantages for themselves while keeping their partners from having the same freedoms: assholes. Guy wants his girlfriend to do all the housework while both have fulltime jobs? Asshole. Girl wants to grow out her armpit hair but insists her boyfriend has to be clean shaven? Asshole. This isn't about feminism, it's about assholery. Everyone can be guilty of it, no matter what dangles between their legs or not.

Nearly broke my screen smashing the up button. Thank you! Good to know that there are still some sensible people out there who have the ability to treat things case by case or person by person. I don’t know why we have to be so divisive and generalize every damn thing these days.

I agree totally. Like the women that want their men to spend all the hard earned money on them, yet these same women sit on their ass at home watching reality TV, no job and acting like the world is going to end if they have to lift their manicured little fingers to do any chores. You want money to do your nails, to do your hair, go shopping every five minutes, then get a J-O-B. And if you are unable to get one, put a crowbar between your ass and the couch so you can pry yourself loose and do some chores and earn your keep. You ain't royalty..no magic elf is gonna do the housework for you and it's unfair to ask your man to earn all the money AND keep the house up while spending all his cash.

I agree. It is called cherry-picking. People are inherently selfish creatures since birth, but should learn a thing a two about any type of relationships from their parents. Why is everyone to afraid to compromise? Are you really that special of a person that you shouldn't make lunch for your partner and yourself? Why does everyone need special treatment? And no, ladies and gentlemen, we are not equals and we will never be equal. We haven't evolved that far yer. It is not healthy to believe that someone should basically serve all your needs all day everyday. Nope. There is another word for that.

Who the hell wants a traditional man anyway without also wanting to be a traditional woman (which both are fine btw. if you are happy with it and don't impose your image on others)?
I'm far away from being a traditional woman and nothing bores me more than traditional masculinity. I want (and have) a man who is my equal in duty and rights, in time spent with children and household, who supports me, but also lets me support him and who is never afraid of his emotions.

Me too. I try to do most of the housework. He earns the paycheck. It works for us. He's not unreasonable about getting dinner as he walks through the door because he knows I'm fighting depression and a bad back (he will actually call before coming home to see if I'm able to cook or not. If I can't, he picks up something simple to make and we eat a little later than normal. But usually I do the cooking.) Now I'm going to school so I can get a job that hopefully pays enough that he can take the time to do what he wants and not have to work so much.

No thanks to traditional man. My man cooks and cleans as much as I do and he is fine with it. Usually we both work, so we both think it's fair to split the chores. Currently he's looking for a new job and I earn the paycheck, so he usually tells me to just sit down and rest when I get home and he does most of the chores. Still, I don't feel good to leave everything to him, so I help too. There were times when our places were reversed too - he earned the money while I was looking for a job. How we are works just fine for us - we treat the other as equal and we try to understand and help each other. Gender stereotypes can stay in the 50s.

What on earth does she think a traditional 1950's man is? I think of one who believes he runs the world and his wife because of his gender, is condescending in his affectionate tolerance towards his wife who he views as overly emotional and not a great thinker. One who is authoritarian and makes all the money and all the decisions, and just want a pretty woman to stay home and pamper him. Who wants that man?? I want a partner who I can navigate life *together* with, not just be a helpful component of him navigating his own life.

She means women who claim to want to be "equal" but still demand special treatment, such as feminists who still think men should pay for dates and who won't raise their hands to a woman, even if the woman hits first.

I've never seen a feminist who believes in outdated stereotypes such as men paying for dates. As for men hitting women - men already are. Just look at the numerous stories of women rejecting men and then getting assaulted /even murdered/. The issue is we'd like them to stop, seeing as men are generally bigger and stronger than women. A woman slapping a man could never deal the same damage that a man hitting a woman would.

Random Panda
It doesn't matter who does more damage. YOU DON'T HIT SOMEONE unless you are fully prepared to be hit back. As a woman myself, I say if a woman hits a man when the man did not raise his hand to her first, she deserves to swallow some teeth.

Both sides are thrashing strawmen. Who are these women who want a non-traditonal lifestyle for themselves and still want a traditional partner? What would such a relationship even look like? She's in a ménage à trois but the man involved wants his dinner on the plate by 5 pm like a real 50s man? There's a gender neutral term for people who want advantages for themselves while keeping their partners from having the same freedoms: assholes. Guy wants his girlfriend to do all the housework while both have fulltime jobs? Asshole. Girl wants to grow out her armpit hair but insists her boyfriend has to be clean shaven? Asshole. This isn't about feminism, it's about assholery. Everyone can be guilty of it, no matter what dangles between their legs or not.

Nearly broke my screen smashing the up button. Thank you! Good to know that there are still some sensible people out there who have the ability to treat things case by case or person by person. I don’t know why we have to be so divisive and generalize every damn thing these days.

I agree totally. Like the women that want their men to spend all the hard earned money on them, yet these same women sit on their ass at home watching reality TV, no job and acting like the world is going to end if they have to lift their manicured little fingers to do any chores. You want money to do your nails, to do your hair, go shopping every five minutes, then get a J-O-B. And if you are unable to get one, put a crowbar between your ass and the couch so you can pry yourself loose and do some chores and earn your keep. You ain't royalty..no magic elf is gonna do the housework for you and it's unfair to ask your man to earn all the money AND keep the house up while spending all his cash.

I agree. It is called cherry-picking. People are inherently selfish creatures since birth, but should learn a thing a two about any type of relationships from their parents. Why is everyone to afraid to compromise? Are you really that special of a person that you shouldn't make lunch for your partner and yourself? Why does everyone need special treatment? And no, ladies and gentlemen, we are not equals and we will never be equal. We haven't evolved that far yer. It is not healthy to believe that someone should basically serve all your needs all day everyday. Nope. There is another word for that.

Who the hell wants a traditional man anyway without also wanting to be a traditional woman (which both are fine btw. if you are happy with it and don't impose your image on others)?
I'm far away from being a traditional woman and nothing bores me more than traditional masculinity. I want (and have) a man who is my equal in duty and rights, in time spent with children and household, who supports me, but also lets me support him and who is never afraid of his emotions.

Me too. I try to do most of the housework. He earns the paycheck. It works for us. He's not unreasonable about getting dinner as he walks through the door because he knows I'm fighting depression and a bad back (he will actually call before coming home to see if I'm able to cook or not. If I can't, he picks up something simple to make and we eat a little later than normal. But usually I do the cooking.) Now I'm going to school so I can get a job that hopefully pays enough that he can take the time to do what he wants and not have to work so much.

No thanks to traditional man. My man cooks and cleans as much as I do and he is fine with it. Usually we both work, so we both think it's fair to split the chores. Currently he's looking for a new job and I earn the paycheck, so he usually tells me to just sit down and rest when I get home and he does most of the chores. Still, I don't feel good to leave everything to him, so I help too. There were times when our places were reversed too - he earned the money while I was looking for a job. How we are works just fine for us - we treat the other as equal and we try to understand and help each other. Gender stereotypes can stay in the 50s.

What on earth does she think a traditional 1950's man is? I think of one who believes he runs the world and his wife because of his gender, is condescending in his affectionate tolerance towards his wife who he views as overly emotional and not a great thinker. One who is authoritarian and makes all the money and all the decisions, and just want a pretty woman to stay home and pamper him. Who wants that man?? I want a partner who I can navigate life *together* with, not just be a helpful component of him navigating his own life.

She means women who claim to want to be "equal" but still demand special treatment, such as feminists who still think men should pay for dates and who won't raise their hands to a woman, even if the woman hits first.

I've never seen a feminist who believes in outdated stereotypes such as men paying for dates. As for men hitting women - men already are. Just look at the numerous stories of women rejecting men and then getting assaulted /even murdered/. The issue is we'd like them to stop, seeing as men are generally bigger and stronger than women. A woman slapping a man could never deal the same damage that a man hitting a woman would.

Random Panda
It doesn't matter who does more damage. YOU DON'T HIT SOMEONE unless you are fully prepared to be hit back. As a woman myself, I say if a woman hits a man when the man did not raise his hand to her first, she deserves to swallow some teeth.