So my ex wuz talkin to me the other nite n he said if we woulda had sex we woulda had our hormones chill a little and we might not have broken up...i dont care bout the latter, but im curious, is what he said bout hormones true ?

No I dont think thats true whatsoever. Your sexual tension would have decreased and your hormones may have been satisfied for a very short time but if anything it would have increased your hornyness because you know what sex is like and you will most likely want to keep at it and thinking about it more only makes you more horny not less.

Sounds like he's just trying to make you feel bad. There's sexual satisfaction and contentment, but that doesn't add to or get rid of any other problems a relationship might have, despite what is sadly becoming popular opinion.

1: as a virgin you don't know what you are missing, so sexual desire (in my opinion) is easier to control.
2: Having sex does indeed make your hormones "chill out" but as Wonderbread stated, it's temporary - how temporary depends on the person, for me the calm lasts 15-30 minutes on average.

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If he's using that as a partial reason for why you wouldn't have broken up had you had sex... I'd say he's full of it. I'm unsure as to the truth of the statement hormonally, although I will agree with those who have mentioned the psychological aspect of sexual desire, but I honestly feel like he's trying to make you feel bad for not having sex.

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I agree totally with smitten about factor number one. Before I had sex and was still a virgin. I didn't know what sex was like so there I was neither missing out or gaining. If anything my sexual arousal and hornyness was less as a woman. Once I lost my virginity and started having good sex ( because your first time hurts like a bitch if your hymen is broken) thats when I started wanting more sex.

So don't listen to your ex, he is just trying to make you feel bad for not having sex with him. And if he is doing that, well he damn sure doesn't deserve you.

No way. Once you have sex you just want to do it again and again and again. I seriously doubt that many real relationships have been broken off due to tension from a lack of sex. That's a symptom, not a cause.

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Nah, I used to be one of those people that didn't even think too much about sex before I lost my virginity. Then, when I fell in love and lost it.. we had sex every time we saw each other. We are no longer together.

Sounds to me like he's just trying to get sex from you by making up facts to try and prove his point. But nah, I don't think it does make you more or less horny. You want sex when you want it ... whether you're a virgin or not.

Nope, infact in some cases it makes you more horny than before. It all depends on the person, but I haven't met anyone who's lust, for lack of a better word, has been decreased from losing their virginity. It might ease sexual tension, but it doesn't decrease it.

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