A womon asked me about parts of NAAFA that were not about women meeting men. I pointed out that activism is seldom popular and wondered about the following

At a dance, for a man to say, "There is a pharmancy nearby that does not have comfortable seating for fat people. How about you and I bolting this joint and going to the pharmancy and complaining about the lack of seating for fat people" would probably not be a good pick up line.

I think that just being at a size related event is activism in a sense. I think that when the participants leave and go back to their regular lives is when the real activism begins. Being in a fat friendly situation gives a lot of people the confidence and push that they may need to be more of an activist.

I went to my first convention with my husband so I was not looking to pick up a man. I was however, looking to meet a fat girl that I could be friends with since all of my friends were thin. I was very lucky and met a fabulous lady who I am best friends with to this day, ten years later.

Just my little story for the day.

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People complain that dances are meat markets and yet when given a choice between trying to improve life for fat people in general and their own dating life it has been my expierence that most people want to meet eligable members of the opposite sex more then they want to spend time trying to make the world more accepting of fat people.

I suspect that the proposed activism pick up line will prove my point. Most commenters will ridicule it and those who tell what line works will probably be listing lines that have noting to do with improving the lives off all fat people in general but do increase the likeyhood that the person getting fed the line will increast their personal chances of finding a suitable temporary or permanet partner.

But you've mentioned often that your daughter suffers from autism, and that you feel there's a hereditary connection in those suffering from autism, right? I don't want to connect dots that you haven't connected, but am I right in remembering that you've posted about your own struggles with autism in the past?

People complain that dances are meat markets and yet when given a choice between trying to improve life for fat people in general and their own dating life it has been my expierence that most people want to meet eligable members of the opposite sex more then they want to spend time trying to make the world more accepting of fat people.

I suspect that the proposed activism pick up line will prove my point. Most commenters will ridicule it and those who tell what line works will probably be listing lines that have noting to do with improving the lives off all fat people in general but do increase the likeyhood that the person getting fed the line will increast their personal chances of finding a suitable temporary or permanet partner.

So meat market in actuality may triumph over networking for activism

Russell

I guess I am confused. I only offered my "pickup" line because your original post referenced a dance. Silly me. I think you might be mixing apples and oranges here. I would think that when one goes to a dance or other social gathering they are expecting to mingle and have a good time. If they want to, or are expected to participate in activism, they should probably know that before they arrive.
If your question is how do we get more people to participate in activism for size acceptance as a whole, as opposed to, find a mate for themselves, I don't think that was quite clear from the original posting. Or, as my run on sentence can tell you, I may just be confused right now.

Oh well, just saying...

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I think that just being at a size related event is activism in a sense. I think that when the participants leave and go back to their regular lives is when the real activism begins.

Bingo! Everything you do in public is activism because it influences others. It's very tempting to think that other people have their acts together and know what they're doing, but really they're just making it up as they go along, just like you and me. And just as we watch other people to see how they manage, other people are always watching us to see how we manage. We're all students, and we're all teachers.

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I think that just being at a size related event is activism in a sense.

I completely agree! Some days, and for some people, even leaving the house counts as activism and I applaud them for it.

As for a pick up line... I might be too shy to dance (yes, honestly!) but why not just smile and ask if I'm having a nice time? If I respond then move on to maybe asking if I know many people here, if I've been here before and then, if we have a little rapport, offer to buy me a drink.

That would work on me and I've also used it to meet other people at all kinds of events from business meetings to wedding receptions. Its non offensive, non sexual and works on men and women from 8 to 80. It's not so much a pick up as just being polite.

Tracey xx

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A womon asked me about parts of NAAFA that were not about women meeting men. I pointed out that activism is seldom popular and wondered about the following

At a dance, for a man to say, "There is a pharmancy nearby that does not have comfortable seating for fat people. How about you and I bolting this joint and going to the pharmancy and complaining about the lack of seating for fat people" would probably not be a good pick up line.

Any of the women here ever have a man use that pickup line on them?

If so how effective was it?

Russell

This is a kin to two people meeting at a gathering with a bunch of animal rights activists and a man asking "So you wanna go rough up some dock workers?" Uh thanks, Stud, but no.

What's wrong with the standard "Can I buy you a drink?"

Maybe I'm easy, or maybe I'm just a lush but that works as far as someone getting their foot in the door with me everytime.

1. "Don't worry i'm not hitting on you" haha
2. "Excuse me ma'm but does this smell like chloroform to you"
3. "Why dont we take a little trip to your narrows where you can ride my man cannon"
4. "hey gorgeous"
5. hey there...just so you know all my base are belong to you
6. I wanna make you scream like a boga lizard

explanations:
#3 is a nerdy pick up line...there is a halo 3 map called narrow and on that map there are mechanisms known as man cannons

#4 may not make me laugh, but it makes me blush and giggle with gleee everytime i hear it. Teusday night, gorgeous was replaced with beautiful. But yanno...gorgeous beautiful, dollface....all work for me...haha

The way I interpret this is...He is saying that what in the hell does gathering in a group in a bar thats been rented out for your specific party have to do with activism? Going to a bar that has not been rented out for a private party and infiltrating is activism. Marching in parades; activism. Talking to any journalist who will listen about the plight of overweight people; activisim.
So how can you connect going to a party where you know everyone is ok with your fat, activisim?

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The way I interpret this is...He is saying that what in the hell does gathering in a group in a bar thats been rented out for your specific party have to do with activism? Going to a bar that has not been rented out for a private party and infiltrating is activism. Marching in parades; activism. Talking to any journalist who will listen about the plight of overweight people; activisim.
So how can you connect going to a party where you know everyone is ok with your fat, activisim?

I lmfao'ed (laughed my fat arse off )... I should know better than to read one of Lisa's posts (er, chatlines/txts/anythings) at work before picking up my office phone in preparation. I have to pretend I'm actually talking to someone so they don't lock me away for laughing at spreadsheets!

Bingo! Everything you do in public is activism because it influences others. It's very tempting to think that other people have their acts together and know what they're doing, but really they're just making it up as they go along, just like you and me. And just as we watch other people to see how they manage, other people are always watching us to see how we manage. We're all students, and we're all teachers.

Absolutely. Even though I led a perfectly happy life before Dimensions came along, it's even better now that I can share experiences with other fat women.

Methinx the best form of fat activism is simply to be the best woman I can be. Let's face it, at my size I attract attention, like it or not. So I may as well make a virtue of necessity and use the attention to best advantage. One reason I readily agree to give presentations in my job is to show people that an obese woman can be as professional and productive as anyone else, if not more so.