I didn't change my last name when I got married and many of my friends who are married have not either. I just don't really see the point, I mean it is my name! My husband didn't care one way or the other about it. His family was a different story, at first, but I don't think they really care either. I think they just thought it was weird. I just couldn't imagine dating a guy that would actually attach importance to this, so I guess I have met my match.

The only thing my husband cared about was whether the kids would get his name. That was important to him because it is just his brother and he who carry on the name. Given that I don't actually care about my name being carried on, or whether I have kids at all, the kids having his name doesn't matter to me.

I didn't change my last name when I got married and many of my friends who are married have not either. I just don't really see the point, I mean it is my name! My husband didn't care one way or the other about it. His family was a different story, at first, but I don't think they really care either. I think they just thought it was weird. I just couldn't imagine dating a guy that would actually attach importance to this, so I guess I have met my match.

The only thing my husband cared about was whether the kids would get his name. That was important to him because it is just his brother and he who carry on the name. Given that I don't actually care about my name being carried on, or whether I have kids at all, the kids having his name doesn't matter to me.

Actually, obviously doesn't since both of them went to ivy league schools and one of them is now a professor of math. at Emory University.

Why are you so concerned about being from a trailer park anyway? If you are smart, clever and hardworking no one is going to think there is anything wrong with you just because of your last name.

How does the name complicate things?

And further more WHY should the woman take the man's name. If you are so worried about inconsistency in the last name why don't you take your wife's name? Women have sacrificed enough in the name of consistency. I think it is time the men sacrifice for awhile

Personally, I would not be interested in a woman who felt like she needed to keep her last name. I think that displays too much type-A behavior and there is only room for one type A in a relationship(I being the other type A). But I would support a couple who chose to go with the woman's last name.

Really, there should be a new rule made that isnt gender specific. I propose, Whoever is the main breadwinner in the relationship should use their name. So if you are a woman, and want to keep your last name- go on the search for a trophy stay at home type man (or school teacher)... then everything is solved

But I absolutely LOATH people who hyphenate their names because they can't figure out what to do. Because of their lack of ability to communicate effectively before marriage and make a decision they make the GENERAL PUBLIC suffer by having us pronounce extremely long last names. It is not only inefficient, but also pretentious. What makes you feel like you are so important that people need to garbble out MULTIPLE last names to greet you formally. And then the children being at school, having to explain why mommy and daddy have different names- the whole thing is a mess.