She Is Using You

Doc Love: Is She Using You?

You say that you and Gen fight a lot. In other words, you’re going out with what I call a women's prison guard. Like my cousin General Love says, “She has certain orders for you, and if you don’t carry them out, there’s going to be hell to pay.” Man, does that sound like fun. Kumarr, this is another trait you never want to have in a woman in a long-term relationship. But, again, you don’t think it’s necessary to invest in the single program that can save you from this anguish.

I hope you realize that all the fighting you’re doing with Gen now is only going to get worse when you get married, pal. All of this is going on long distance and by webcam? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “I’d hate to see what she’d do to you if you were in the same room together!” I have to say that Gen is a really good selection on your part, guy.

Gen is also a control freak. That also makes for a great relationship. But then she breaks down and cries after these terrible scenes. I’ll bet that when she cries, you get right in line, Kumarr, don’t you? Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “Is this girl lookin’ for a butler or is she lookin’ for a mule?”

An obvious mistake

When Gen tells you that you don’t think her work is important, it’s a barefaced lie, because you help her. So you two are not on the same wavelength here, buddy. In fact, you’re not even on the same planet.

Nevertheless, you cave in and write her papers for her, even if Gen does not appreciate anything you do for her and she never thanks you for helping her. Again, I have to congratulate you on your excellent choice for a long-term match. Like my cousin Brother Love down in Watts says, “You really hit the jackpot with this one, dawg!”

I got news for you, Kumarr: This girl is a spoiled little brat. Apparently you hadn’t figured that out yet.

After all of your efforts to keep her happy, when you point out that you have your own life to tend to and that you need to earn money, Gen accuses you of being Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Are there any psychiatrists in China? If there are, this girl should definitely see one.

Despite all of these danger signs, you and Gen have decided to get married anyway. Hey, it makes a lot of sense to me, especially from her end! So let me ask you this: Are you going to tie the knot before or after you get “The System”?

Remember, guys: As soon as you get married, all your problems will be magnified tenfold.

To hear my LOVE RADIO SHOW, send me your love questions, or to find out more about "The System," visit me at DocLove.com or call 800-404-2644. For the past 30 years, Doc Love has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another?”