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To comment on OW2's fb post. We have mutual friends (mostly from HS and who know nothing about the A's), and people are responding like crazy to her picture post with this message: If I died tomorrow, what is one thing you would always remember about me?
Oh man. The temptation is so strong. If I could come up with something witty and insulting disguised as a compliment, I probably wouldn't be able to resist. All I can seem to come up with is 'you need validation so badly that you were living with your now husband, screwing my fiancée and trying to hook up with my exH all at the same time'.

And yes, I know I should block her, but she is all kinds of crazy and I like being able to keep tabs on what she's doing. I can almost always predict when she will pop back up simply by her public fb posts.

Posts: 1487 | Registered: Jan 2013

LostSamurai♂ 41347Member # 41347

Posted: 1:32 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014

Keeping tabs on OW is only hurting you and driving you bat crazy. And I would definitely stay clear of posting something.

The ripples from the A is bad enough and if you throw another stone into the pond while this one, they will crash and cause bigger ripples and waves that could effect everyone, including you negatively.

I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...

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refuz2bavictim♀ 27176Member # 27176

Posted: 1:42 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014

Oh man. The temptation is so strong.

I bet! It takes a great deal of self control not take those opportunities when they provide those gems! Better to write your fantasy responses here.

BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
MOW's EA/PA all were my "friends" but one

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musiclovingmom♀ 38207Member # 38207

Posted: 1:48 PM, January 15th (Wednesday), 2014

Keeping tabs on OW is only hurting you and driving you bat crazy

I know this is the traditional advice. And I can see where it works well. I've even used it with the 4 other OW (one of which I've been friends with for over 20 years). There are very specific reasons for keeping this one visible to me.

I posted this just so I'd have an outlet for what I wanted say, but knew would do more damage than good in that public space. With one exception (less than a month from dday), I have always and will always continue to take the high road mostly because I refuse to be drawn down to their level.