“There are a num­ber of peo­ple whose skills are just not that good,” said Steve Albrecht, a Cal­i­for­nia work­place vio­lence and anger man­age­ment expert. “And they don’t real­ize the impact they are hav­ing on oth­ers.”

And they’re unlike­ly to real­ize the error of their ways no mat­ter how many times they’re honked at, cursed or on the receiv­ing end of angry ges­tures, he said.

“You can’t con­trol oth­er peo­ple,” he said. “They are not tar­get­ing you per­son­al­ly, so stop car­ing about what every­body else is doing. And if you’re still talk­ing about those bad dri­vers by lunchtime, you have a prob­lem. You’ve let it ruin your day, and the oth­er dri­ver has won.”

“Get there safe and get there hap­py — that, after all, is your goal,” he said.