Divorced man makes a proposal - on his second date...

By Kit Thompson| 2 years ago

Kit Thompson is recently single at 40, after 16 years of marriage. He's tentatively dipping his toes back into the world of dating, and writing about it exclusively for 9Honey along the way. To catch up with Kit's initial experience of dating again, read his previous diary posts here.

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Week eight: A proposal of a different kind...

On the back of my most successful date so far with Miss Victoria, I wanted to personalise the introduction of date number two. It was already a sure thing. We had agreed there was something there for sure, so further flirting was just icing on the cake.

Miss Victoria revealed on date number one she was a project manager. So having done some project management myself, I figured why not send her a tongue-in-cheek ‘one pager’ proposing a night out? And then share it with you, of course.

SECOND DATE PROPOSAL

Background – The Case for Change

After a stunningly successful first date last week Mr Thompson and Miss Victoria have agreed that a second, and more intimate, rendezvous would ensure both parties depart with a smile on their faces. I believe that moving quickly into to a second, more exciting date will bring both parties to a more passionate place, driving their interest forward over time.

Our Mission

Initial indications from Mr Thompson are that Miss Victoria and Mr Thompson have many interests in common, are both up for having a great time out together, and that chemistry is certainly there. To enhance and maintain the initial attraction that has been established, it is essential that Miss Victoria and Mr Thompson meet once again, experiencing different activities together that bring them closer.

The overall aim:

To ensure both Miss Victoria and Mr Thompson enjoy themselves to the fullest both on the second date and into the future

Ensure both parties learn about each other in an intimate setting

All the while building excitement

Proposed Solution

I propose that Mr Thompson meet Miss Victoria at her place on Sunday evening around 4.30pm, head out for a quick bite at a local café of Miss Victoria’s choice. At 5.30pm Mr Thompson shall escort Miss Victoria in his luxury automobile to a comedy show. After this, Mr Thompson will escort Miss Victoria back for coffee/refreshments/Netflix at her place – at Miss Victoria’s discretion of course!

Benefits

Increased happiness and frivolity for both Miss Victoria and Mr Thompson

Increased intimacy between both parties

Increased likelihood of further dating between both parties

Timings

4.30pm start on Sunday afternoon – TBA finish time

Financial Summary

Light food, drinks, and hospitality to be provided by Miss Victoria. Show tickets and all transport to be provided by Mr Thompson

Risks

Miss Victoria could reject the proposal. That would not be well received, but Mr Thompson is a big boy and would be OK with that too

The weather could be terrible and cold on Sunday – reducing the likelihood of happiness and frivolity without extra effort on both Miss Victoria and Mr Thompson’s part

Miss Victoria may not like the comedian at all – in which case Mr Thompson can book another comedian at another venue on the same night

And the result? She read it that same night and loved it — so much so that I received a second follow-up text out of the blue the following day saying, and I quote, “I just read your proposal again, lol… Thanks for this, we are going to have a lot of fun!”