GUYS: What do you mean by calling a girl "my girl"?

My crush called me "my girl". We're not officially bf/gf. We haven't seen each other for a week cuz I was busy and he text me saying "I miss you a lot. It gets me really sad when I'm missing my girl". I always thought "my girl" refers to his girlfriend?

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By calling you 'his girl', that means he probably likes you a lot and is open to making it official between you two. Unless you guys have directly discussed it, I wouldn't think it means he's referring to you as his 'girlfriend' just yet.

I hate being in that gray, undefined area with someone that you care for. Just tell him one day that you had a really fun time hanging out with him, and ask how he'd feel about starting a relationship. Don't be worried about 'scaring him away' by bringing up that topic. If it does for some reason scare him off, you're better off without him anyhow as it would indicate that you guys were looking for different things from each other anyhow.

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Thanks girl. You're right. But yah I'm scared to bring up thay talk too. It's just awkward and scary... Like I have no idea what do I say? What do I ask him? "Will you be my bf?" or what? It all sound awkward... :(

I know it's easier said than done haha. Try to make it nothing too serious like a job interview or whatever. After you guys have spent some time together one day and everything's fine, with both of you sort of feeling giddy just go in for a kiss, lean back and say 'I really like hanging out with you, how would you feel about becoming official?'

That's sort of along the lines of what I said to my current boyfriend when I was sure I wanted to be with him, despite having turned him down 4 months earlier. But yeah, just bite the bullet and go for it. Two potential outcomes are that he declines (shitty, but better to know sooner than later. On to the next one. :P) or that he likely was thinking the same, will be shocked you had the balls but will gladly be down for it.

haha I know I know but... I was stalling bringing it up for like a month cause I couldn't muster up the courage until he started hanging out with a new classmate who was quite pretty and apparently into him. So I'm like k, what's the worst that can happen if I ask him out? He'll say no... sucks, but I can get over it with time. If I keep stalling, he won't wait around forever and it's fair game that he'll go with this new girl.

Just remember that you don't have forever, before you know it if you wait to long he could be no longer available. Weigh the pros&cons and if you decide the risk is worth potential losses, go for it.

OMG you bring up a really good point, and that's why I am thinking to ask him too because he's really attractive and girls are like crazy over him so I'm afraid he won't be available long. He's only seeing me at the moment though so I need to try asap... I'm going to say "so are we making it official? Me and you?" does it sound ok? :)

lol yeah for sure, that sounds great. I'm sure he already has considered asking you. I assume you and your crush are friends and already somewhat know each other? You can even say it semi-jokingly. No need to do a big 'let's sit down. We need to talk.'

Keep it light, get your point across and you'll feel super relieved once the ball's in his court and whatever happens is out of your control.

Yeah we're seeing each other. And yes I really don't want it to be a super heavy pressure talk like a job interview or something. I'll try to be as low pressure as I can. One person told me to just be straight up and ask "Will you be my boyfriend?" :/ What's your thought? is that ok too or a bit too flatter?

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Until he actually calls you his girlfriend or you guys have a talk about that, though, it's not completely official. Like I said though, he definitely likes you (probably quite a bit) if he's called you his girl.