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I once went on a date to a free comedy show with a guy I met online.There were plenty of reasons the date was disastrous—think dead silence for up to ten minutes at a time—but the real rock bottom moment for me was when I said I was going up to the bar to get a drink and asked if he wanted anything (I wasn’t that thirsty but needed to break the tension).As Helena Andrews remarked two years ago at xo Jane, it’s about signaling whether you’re interested.A man who refuses to pay, or even offer, as one of her dates did, is making a statement with his wallet.

It’s a subject that seems to never die — see yesterday's Guardian feature on "Paying while dating" — because there are always a subset of men who insist that it’s absolutely unfair that as the world has gotten closer to gender equality, men are still expected to pick up the check.“Not that I can't leave if someone else pays, but if I'm paying then I'm the one flagging down the waiter and twisting around in my seat for my coat. But when someone else is paying then I'm surrendering my time in a way that says, ‘What's next.’” Men are aware of what this dynamic too.As New York-based tech entrepreneur Obinna Emenike, who always pays for his dates, told The Guardian, “If I think the date is going well, and you over-insist on splitting it then it will make me question myself.He said no but when I returned and reported that the bartender had generously comped my seltzer, he said he wished he’d known or he’d have ordered one!In that case, was the one offering to pay, but instead of taking me up on it, he made himself seem like an extreme cheapskate.I might come to the conclusion that she doesn’t want to feel like she owes me anything.” Even Tucker Max, who made a career out of sharing stories of hookups in books with charming names like "Assholes Finish First" and has recently reinvented himself as a family man, thinks men should pay, because that’s what women have consistently said they wanted.In his forthcoming book, "Mate: Become The Man Women Want," co-authored with evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller, Ph.