Twenty years into her marriage, Kat and her husband faced head-on the
great underlying fear of most monogamous people: My partner wants to
have sex with other people. For them, that truth led to a rollercoaster
of new sexual and romantic adventures...

You've all gotten together after much planning and discussions of fantasies you all want fulfilled but when you get to the moment, people aren't always up for it and it's important to know that it's okay to opt-out.

Getting things started is not always easy. Putting yourself out there with your romantic or sexy interest. Asking for that first kiss. Or even knowing how to flip that switch from social time to sexytime in a dating scenario.

People whose identities don't conform to the norms within a community often feel isolated from that community. Figuring out how to fit in when you don't hew to the line of a group is an incredible challenge.