6 Reasons Why You Should Not Be Friends With Your Ex

If you have ever been in a series of
relationships then you’re the best example of to reveal the meaning of the word
heart break.

After you break up with your ex lover
many end up to be extreme enemies and others continue as friends as they pick
up the pieces of the broken relationships with other partners.

I happened to stumble upon some 5
reasons why you should not become friends after breaking up with your Ex

1. Being friendly does not mean friendship

Alexia
LaFata, Elite Daily‘s associate features editor, points out that
there is an important difference between having a friendship and being
friendly.

“A friendship might involve somewhat
frequent communication, watching Netflix or going out together but being
friendly might involve waving ‘hello’ across a crowded room or engaging in a
two-minute surface level conversation and then going your separate ways,” she says.

For the sake of
those in your social circle, being friendly with your ex at a party or at a
mutual gathering is probably a good idea, she advises.

2. Reasons for the friendship

You may want to
be friends with your ex for good reason but does he or she have similar
intentions? One may want to be friends with the ex with the hopes of getting
back together while another may be out of pity or guilt.

Worst of all, an
ex can be your friend to use you as a backup plan, in case he or she does not
get a better partner.

3. Low quality friendship

A research
by University of Connecticut tried to find out whether is was possible for
ex-romantic partners to have a great platonic friendship.

It found out that
on average, exes tend to have lower-quality friendships than opposite-sex
friends who were never romantically involved. Exes were found to be less
emotionally supportive, less helpful, less trusting and less concerned about
the other person’s happiness.

4. Old habits die hard

The reasons that
made you break up with your ex will still be there and the differences creep
back to your friendship. If he/she disrespected you while you were dating, what
will stop them from doing the same when you are friends?

“With my most recent ex, our breakup
involved so many nasty fights that it would be ridiculous to try to rebuild
after all the horrible things we said to one another. Despite this, we stupidly
made a brief attempt at friendship last year. Not surprisingly, literally every
hangout resulted in a fight, me crying, or us having sex,” Karley Sciortino wrote in the Vogue
Magazine.

5. It will be difficult to moving on

Having your ex
close before you get into another stable relationship may prevent you from
moving on. It is very easy to find your self between the sheets once again with
you ex all in the name of friendship.

“Don’t have ex sex, as you’ll never
move on…. This boundary has to be set in stone if you want a friendship,” relationships expert Dr
Gabrielle Morrissey told body+soul.

You might not
realize it, but keeping your ex around “as a friend” after a breakup can keep
you from moving on; it can suck up so much of your emotional bandwidth,
Sciortino said.

6. Reliving the heartbreak

Finally, do you
wish to be heartbroken over and over again? Even if you think you have moved
on, it will never be easy to see your ex-lover date again.

“Be prepared as this can trigger some
old painful emotions,” John
Aiken, a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, told body+soul.

All in all, being
friends with your ex is not bad but the terms and conditions must be clearly
spelt out and agreeable by both.