Twenty years into her marriage, Kat and her husband faced head-on the
great underlying fear of most monogamous people: My partner wants to
have sex with other people. For them, that truth led to a rollercoaster
of new sexual and romantic adventures...

We began the night with social time, drinks and food as people arrived and got the chance to meet people they didn't know. We lined up all the toys on the mantle and enjoyed the colourful plethora of options on display.

And although I'm mostly just an enthusiastic amateur, I've had a fair amount of experience using them and thought I'd walk through some of the basics for people who are looking to get strapped for the first time or those who've used them a bit but never quite been satisfied by their experiences.

Fast forward approximately 17 years and I was finally able to take that optimistically & prematurely purchased harness for a spin, first with a few women, but eventually for its intended deviant purpose. Woo hoo!

I looked nervously around the room and then went with the only one I've got. I grabbed Will's face and kissed him. My stomach dropped in that wonderful little flip as his tongue slid into my mouth, and I knew we weren't going to have any troubles on the chemistry front.