Adoption Support Group

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Many Tears--Is it worth it?

I have begun a search for bmom and siblings and the things I have been finding out are like opening pandoras box---very emotional anyway but i am wondering if i made the right decision to look and maybe I should stop before I find anymore hurtful things?????
Any advice???

Pandora's Box indeed! Very emotional and I'll warn you it may get worse...not in a bad way, just very emotional...at least if was for me. I found my whole family a few months ago. Tons of feelings I didnt even know I had came to the surface. Even with all the drama...I would do it all again! You have to decide for yourself if knowing your history is worth all of the things you my find out along the way. Good luck

Yes sometimes it does hurt to know what really happened. But it is soooooo worth it!! I found out probably 15 years ago what the facts were behind the reason I was placed for adoption. It hurt so bad at the time. But as the years passed I began to have such great love for my b/mom and the hell that she had lived through. It wasn't until this past Nov. that I found out that she had remarried and had 3 more children. I have contact with 2 of them (one died in his early 20's). My b/mom has also passed away. I never got the chance to meet her and talk with her and tell her how much I love and appreciate the sacrifice she went through on my behalf.
Only you can determine if you want to go further. Everyone's had such different experiences. I hope you are able to find what you are looking for.

I found my birthmom and was rejected. Even though it was one of the most painful things I've ever been through, I will never regret it. I am in touch with my half-siblings and have found out some medical history. I think it made me a stronger person and helped to fill the &quot;hole in my heart&quot; that I had felt since I was a child. God bless you and good luck with whatever you decide.

I've known my birth mother for about 10 years now. If I could do it over again, I would be in counseling while the search was on. I didn't have all the tools I needed to deal with some of the stuff that went on. I'm glad I did it, that's the only thing I would change.

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

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