I know I know…. That entire question might seem wrong to some… but i really want to know… you see, I never cared what size the e-ring would be when I didn’t have one lol, but now that I have one, and I notice the size of ring on other girl’s hands, it is sort of irritating me.. I mean, my hands are small, and I told him i didn’t want a chunky one cuz it would totally swallow my finger.. but… I don’t know… he is notorious for being a penny-pincher (he’s getting better about it now), and we are definately not rich, we have good jobs, but not college degrees or anything…. *sigh*

OK, I’m afraid I’m sounding terribly superficial, but I’d like to think he didn’t try to get the smallest thing he could get away with…

WHY is this BOTHERING ME?

I understand that money does not equal love, so please everyone be nice with your responses.

You should read Ms. pretzel’s post. It’s the thought that counts, not size.

I knew a gal who’s very wealthy and her e-ring and wedding band is one of the same WITHOUT a solitaire! So anything goes in this business. If it really bothers you, it’s good to talk it out with your Fiance or close family members. Hopefully, they can get your thinking/emotions straight.

Honey, mine is smaller than yours. I have an art deco ring from the ’20s. I love it, don’t worry about what others say, even though the size of my ring might devastate some of the other posters on here!!

I think it is normal to be envious of material things, whether they be rings or cars or houses or whatever. A ring is a symbol of your FI’s love but its also a ring… and its understandable to want to love it independent of its meaning.

I’m sure that your ring is absolutely beautiful… and I would bet that you will come to love it fully.

You know what’s funny, I’m in the opposite boat from you. I really wanted a ring that had great clarity, but was okay with it being a little smaller. The princess cut that was in stock and in our price range was a 1 ct, though, and much cheaper for us than what a smaller diamond would have been, because we got it at what the jeweler paid when he bought it years ago. (FBIL’s dad.)

But he admitted the quality’s not wonderful, so now I’m a little apprehensive that when I get it I’ll spot some imperfections. But i’ll love it just the same, because it’s my ring. 🙂

i totally understand. even though we don’t really like to admit it, we do look at other girls’ rings and compare them to ours in one way or another. one thing to keep in mind is that although their rings may be larger in size, yours may still be even BETTER than theirs (based on quality). you said your fi knows about diamonds, so maybe since you also stated you didn’t wanted anything too clunky that he just decided to get you the BEST of the other C’s? my dh at the time also thought about getting a slighty larger size but what mattered to him was the clarity and color. so he said he actually paid more for the smaller one. just something to keep in mind

All I can say (after deleting a post that made me sound like a *itch) is that if you start comparing what you have to everyone else, you’ll never be satisfied. It’s a token of his love and affection, plus a sign of his promise and commitement. Like Stewie said, just enjoy it.

PS

My Engagement Ring is only 1/5 of a carat because it’s from my grandma. I love it.

I understand exactly how you feel. I requested smaller rings as well, because my fingers are small and big rings do not fit well; and also because I would rather have him spend money on trips and quality time together.

However, when you start ring shopping and looking at other people, I found that it was easy to get carried away with all of this and feel like you might want something more, and wondering why Fiance doesn’t buy something more traditional and expensive.

But you know what? In the end, I chose both my engagement ring and wedding set with him, neither were super expensive nor big carats and I love them; would never exchange them. At first, I thought I wanted two different things that didn’t match and would wear one on each hand, but then we decided to get a set for the wedding bands because, well, two’s better. Yes, there are sparklier pieces out there, but I did try them on, and they do not look as good on my fingers, unless some that were WAY out of budget and I refuse to let him get in debt for a ring.

I had the same questions in mind, but it’s all temptation that lasts only while you’re ring shopping – it goes away I swear! 🙂

I just remember when we were looking at rings the first time, this IS the ring I showed him, except I tried on the 1 ct one LOL.

I do know that he didn’t finance it though, he bought it outright, and I am very grateful and I love him for plopping down that much cash for it…. (of course that’s not the only reason I love him, just sayin’)

Mine is just about a carat it’s like .95 or something and I feel the way you do sometimes, but honestly, I’m really, really happy with my ring. I know the diamond is of very good quality and I told him from the get go, I didn’t want anything really showy and that I would rather have a really nice modest stone then have a big flashy piece of crap stone. I mean we aren’t millionaires so compromise would have had to come in somewhere (though he wanted to spend more and I WAS the one that said no! Ironic, isn’t it? HA)…I opted for quality over quantity and we shopped together. Our appraiser was very impressed with the ring. Even still, sometimes I see these woman with these huge rocks and I wonder if they look at mine and have a little chuckle at my expense. Though who knows…

I was undecided about whether I preferred a solitaire or a 3 stone ring, since we utlimately went with the solitaire, I did up the sparkle factor myself while choosing my wedding band. At first I thought I’d be overshadowing my e-ring by doing that, but I really like the look of them together and I think once I get to wear it I will feel real good about my rings as a pair. Right now I just feel like it’s incomplete and can’t wait to have the other piece…and until I have it, i sort of feel like you do. Maybe you’ll feel better with the band also.

I think this is a very honest post, I originally picked out a very extravagant ring that my Fiance couldn’t afford, he got me beautiful ring, I love it but it is a small center stone (.55 carats) and is smaller compared to most of my friends/colleagues and they comment on it, and I hate the fact that it effects me but it does..so just keep in mind that its a promise of love not a status symbol …you don’t sound shallow

If I were in your shoes, I’d get a thicker wedding band (not necessarily thicker with diamonds) to complement the smaller stone. My setting is too big to have a thick wedding band next to it, but I wish I could.