9 ways how to break up well with partner

Meeting and parting. Parting is always heartbreaking. That’s why we don’t want to get hurt and to hurt someone as much as possible. Bad parting has no advantage to both of you.

It can cause distrust and affects future personal relationships. If your partner gets furious and becomes a stalker, that is a problem. However you don’t like that person, you have once loved him/her. Parting in good way may be the last kindness.

For those who can’t breakup in good way, here are “9 ways to part someone who you don’t want to see anymore”. For the future of both of you, try to break up in good way.

9 ways how to break up well with partner

-Take a deep breath before talking

If you feel “I don’t want to see him anymore” “I am sick of seeing his face”, your emotion is still too excited.

If you talk about breaking up with excited emotion, your partner is likely to react the same, and can make you say needless thing or cause quarrels. It won’t end in good result. Before saying something, take a deep breath and calm down. You can change the atmosphere by just doing this.

-Keep distance gradually

You might want to finish your relation at once, hoping to break up as soon as possible. It’s good if you can talk successfully, but you need some plans if it lasts longer. Instead of parting at once, try to keep distance gradually.

Decrease the frequency of sending messages or calling. Don’t let your partner notice. However, if your partner is a person who is better to tell at once, do so. It is important to understand partner’s personality and emotion.

-Decide the right timing

Timing is important for everything. For example, because you want to end it moderately, spend a day with your partner cheerfully with smile. At the end of the day, you would start break up talk. This throws your partner into despair.

Once you decide to have break up talk, imagine where and when to start the talk. Imagine your partner’s face, situation, time and so on. As you create image in detail, thing will turn out close to your image.

-Use the power of colors

If you can directly talk to your partner, mind colors of your clothes and accessories. Colors have mysterious powers to approach subconscious. For example, red has negative meaning such as “anger, hate, frustration, passion”.

Wearing red can possibly make your partner excited and angry. Which colors are recommended? Green means “harmony and balance”, blue means “calmness” and white means “release and purification”. These colors are appropriate.

-Never use words setting expectations

When talking, avoid obscure words and tell clearly. Commonly used expressions are “I can’t see you now” “I might see you in the future”, but they are not clear enough. Honestly telling your feeling is sometimes the kindness.

Also, making your partner to start break up talk or act like a bad person is not recommended. Speaking out your true feeling is the best way to break up.

-Don’t quarrel

If you feel strong anger or sadness, you might become emotional. You can feel refreshed by saying everything, but your words will return to you in different way. Ending up in a quarrel often leaves bad feeling in your mind.

You might recall the memory over time, the scar becomes smaller but never disappears, or feel something uneasy. You can send a message or call him to follow up later.

-Avoid getting out of contact

Breaking up is stressful to your feeling. That’s why people sometime run away from breaking up and fades out the relation. There are some reasons they can’t face the problem. However, if you once get out of contact, time flies without making sure whether you broke up or not.

Maybe it means broken up already, but it leaves a sour aftertaste and leaves in your mind. To move to next step with fresh mind, it is better to end relationship clearly. Avoid breaking up by mails. Meet and talk directly if possible.

-What is a shadow threatening you?

In psychology, a shadow means “someone who has your repressed element”. You get frustrated to see someone doing things you are holding back.

Aren’t you repeating the same patterns in your personal relationships or in love? Meeting someone you “don’t to want to see anymore” might be a message for you.

Everyone have this shadow. Just remembering its existence, you can avoid blaming one-sidedly or to have a guilty conscience

-Smile at the very end

If you can’t smile, at least don’t make angry or hatred face. Just at that moment. You may have hard time now, but you will look back years later and surely feel glad that you didn’t get angry or cry at the end.

The last expression on face is remembered well. You don’t have to smile for your partner. Smile for yourself and your bright future.

Did you like it?

The opposite of love is unconcern. If you think “don’t want to see anymore” and become emotional, you still have things you don’t want to recall or things you don’t want to see for yourself.

Once you can release what you don’t like, your partner will leave you gradually. Experience of getting angry or hurt is difficult to forget, but you will be more attractive and generous person once you get over it.

Smart way of breaking up will lead you to wonderful meeting. There are always meeting and parting. If you break up with someone, you will of course meet someone again.

Summary

9 ways how to break up well with partner

-Take a deep breath before talking
-Keep distance gradually
-Decide the right timing
-Use the power of colors
-Never use words setting expectations
-Don’t quarrel
-Avoid getting out of contact
-What is a shadow threatening you?
-Smile at the very end