Another woman’s choice to carry her baby to term

When I meet people, as I have four times now, whose story includes a biological mom who sought out abortion but couldn’t get one, I look at them and think–wow–you were really destined to be here, to do great things. In each of the four cases, these people are doing great things in their spheres of influence, having overcome more difficult than average obstacles.

Kristina, thanks for that. It’s a very long post and so I’ll return to finish reading it later. Interesting she’s had an abortion and then done adoption. I got this far:

“Then the baby came, and soon I realized that it had fucked me up considerably to give it away.”

And with all due respect to the author, I thought, is she sure she isn’t mixing emotions on the abortion and the adoption? I can see feeling AOK after an abortion, provided you don’t have another pregnancy that you bring full term. A pregnancy brought full term can be a trigger: After all, you end up with a baby in your lap whether or not you give that baby away. Which it stands to reason is a reminder however subconcious of the baby never born.

There’s lots she writes that really resonates. I feel bad if she encountered only proselytising Christians in her search for help. I feel bad there was nothing there for her. She’s clearly still very angry, and that alone is sad.

But I also think it would be really unreasonable to say all this is due to the adoption, alone.