General Question

How do you deal with people that are extremely hyper?

Okay, so I consider myself a pretty chill dude. I like to have nice conversations with people and just enjoy everything little by little. Here’s the problem, there’s nothing more that I can’t stand than an annoying, hyper little teen that’s constantly talking about something stupid. I know I sound paranoid, but I can’t stand the sound of this girl rambling on and on about stuff I could care less about.

Do you have any ideas on how I could match her ‘intensity’ level? She’s cute and outgoing, but I can’t stand her when she goes on a talking rampage. She makes me look stiff when she acts like that because I have no way to react or reply to what she says and does. She likes me, and I have feelings for her, but how can I make myself feel more confident with myself when I’m around her? I’m very relaxed and quite, and she’s very talkative and hyper. We’re the exact opposite and I’m tired of her making me feel bad about my natural personality.

I DO like this girl, but she doesn’t seem to acknowledge that I’m naturally calm and quite. Not shy, just chill… I want to find a way to connect with her without having to tell her that she annoys the crap out of me sometimes or by changing my personality.
Any tips?

Hmmm. Well how about matching her intensity level by getting hyper yourself? For instance whenever I get really hyper it makes it easier to talk to others who are hyper as well. Of course this probably won’t work if you don’t get hyper easily. Although sugar and energy drinks do if for most people, it might not work for you. If so then my suggestion is to just leave the situation politely(e.g. I need to go to do so and so…).

She’s far worse than the energizer bunny. I mean, I love her personality but it gets old after about 2 minutes. I don’t think I make her nervous, she’s just the exact opposite as me. I want to be in a relationship with her, but she’s so hyper that I can’t think of anything to say. It’s sort of like a vicious cycle, she’s always bouncing off the walls and I get to tighten my lips and shake my head. I love this girl, but I can’t find a way for us to just connect.

I don’t know how I could tell her to stop being herself, i love her personality but it’s too much. I don’t think it’ll work between us, because we’re far too different. But that’s what I love about her. Sometimes she’s judgmental and annoying, other times she’s caring and understanding. I don’t know what it is, it sounds to me like something that can’t possibly work out.

From what you’ve told us, it seems fairly clear that your personalities just don’t mesh. When you start looking for methods that will enable you to deal with her, which is a far cry from enjoying her company, well… let’s just say it’s not a good sign.