Category: Lover

Have you been sooo busy building your empire that you’ve been neglecting to spend ‘quality” time with your boo?

I know all about it.

Good thing for you, I’ve created this boss mom guide to help you bring back the spice (or make the spice even spicier) in your love life when bae has just about had it with you pulling all nighters and walking around looking like whodunit and why!

It just takes a little balancing and prioritizing, and implementing some or all of the following tips.

Spicing things up with bae

1-Get away

There is nothing like time away in a new or familiar place to spice things up with bae.

Quick roadtrips or weekend getaways (with or without the kids) have a way of connecting people. Depending on where you are in the world, and on your budget, you could hop on a quick weekend cruise, or just drive to the nearest major city, or nearest small town…whatever floats your boat.

If you’re married, and you’re able, maybe even reliving your honeymoon (without the kids of course) is an option that would help.

My husband and I used to get away all the time.

In fact, we just had a spur-of-the-moment getaway with the kids this past weekend to NYC.

We’ve also been camping out in a tent (like forreal forreal)…that was an adventure. We’ve visited caves. We went horseback riding on a beach. We spent a cozy weekend in at a not-so-warm beach (with a 3 month old), and ALL of these mini vacays were spur-of-the-moment.

There’s no excuses.

Not only will you and bae reconnect and spice things up, you’ll be refreshed and ready to werk once you’re back home.

Your mind will be clear, and you can get back to being a boss mom more effectively.

2-Massage each other

Or if you’re big ballin’ get a couple’s massage at a spa.

Touch is a major love language, and a human need.

Even if it’s neither of your love languages all humans need to be touched.

If you’re going to do it for each other, do some quick research on YouTube to get down the basics, buy some natural/healthy oils, maybe some essential oils for aroma, some candles to set the mood, and get to it.

This is so win-win for you as a boss mom, and for your relationship. If you’re anything like me you get all knotted up and sore from time to time.

A little massage break would do you fine.

3-Dance

My fav!!

Dancing will def help spice things back up with bae, but not just any dancing…dancing TOGETHER.

Zouk is one of the sexiest dances in my book. There are some great videos on YouTube you can check out and “learn” to do with your partner.

If bae absolutely doesn’t wanna do it, or is just saying that because forreal s/he has two left feet…look up a sexy floor and chair routine, and perform it FOR your boo.

Don’t spend too much time trying to get it perfect. Improvise if you need to. You have an empire to get back to building.

Stay focused.

4-Plan a date night

Or just date in general.

Recreate your first date if you remember it, and if it WASN’T a flop. Put the kids to bed early, and stay up having a candlelit dinner with some nice music.

You can watch a movie (tip #5), or dance (see tip #3), or massage each other (tip #2).

Again, whatever floats your boat, and would be pleasing to both of you, go for it!

5-Watch a romantic comedy

Romantic comedies always seem to help me and my husband reconnect.

Laughter truly is a great healer, and topped off with the most healing force-LOVE-you can’t go wrong watching a romantic comedy.

Well…

I take that back. My first date with my husband consisted of “watching” Dear John, except Dear John ended up watching us.

We just couldn’t get into it. It didn’t hold our attention one bit, and we fell asleep on it TWICE.

Once during our first date, and again when recreating our first date lol.

We eventually just gave up trying.

I’m not saying it’s not a good movie, I’m just saying I couldn’t tell you.

Netflix has some good options if you have it, and your nearest RedBox may have some things too.

6-Do something adventurous

Oh yeah!!

Anything to get your heart pumping a little bit will turn up the heat and spice things right on up.

If you’re both daredevils do something wild like skydiving, or bungee jumping (at your own risk. I’m not responsible for any mishaps).

Or, like I mentioned in tip #1 do something like horseback riding.

You could even do an amusement park with the kids, and still have lots of fun together as a family.

7-Dress up or undress

I typically walk around naked, so for me it’s dress up lol.

What is it for you?

Maybe you don’t walk around in your birthday suit all day like I do, but yoga pants and a T-shirt EVERY single day can get boring too.

Spice things up a bit with your wardrobe, even if only for a day, and I guarantee bae will love anything different even if s/he doesn’t really like the actual get up.

If you’re really wanting to add some flavor and spice for some time to come, do a full makeover.

Buy some new clothes (this doesn’t have to be super pricey), get a new do, and a mani-pani (you can even do that yourself).

If you’ve started the visual branding stage of building your empire…this could be a great time to start incorporating your brand elements into your life.

Awesome!

You’ve got 7 fun and simple ways to add some spice in your relationship with your partner to help you be more balanced as a mom and business woman.

Which one of these tips sounds most appealing to you? Let me know in the comments below, or come party with me and other badass boss moms in the official Boss Mom Squad headquarters. Introduce yourself, ask a question, or let us know how you spice things up with your boo!

Bad enough time with bae diminishes significantly after kids, but add on top of that an ambitious, go-getting, full-time mom that’s about her business, and the little time that was there totally seems to disappear altogether.

I know how challenging it can be for boss moms to “take a break” from werk, especially when ideas are flowing, and creativity is at its max; however, it’s very important not only for your relationship, but for you too, to take a break sometimes, and spend it with the one(s) you love.

Here are some quick tips for sneaking in some quality time with bae that won’t have you feeling guilty about not werking, and will have him/her feeling special and cared for:

1-Schedule a Date Night in

This is one of my favorite ways to spend quality time. When it’s scheduled and on the books it feels less like spending time by default just because you live together, and more like an actual date that was planned with intention.

Plan for this date to be right in the comfort of your home, and schedule a start and end time for it. That way Bae gets an expected amount of time with you, and no one’s feels any kind of way once the date is over, and you can get back to werk without guilt, or (unnecessary) commentary from Bae.

You can do a whole bunch during date night like watch a movie, or have dinner by candlelight, or just talk.

Whatever you do, make it as much like your first date ever.

Get to know each other all over again.

You’d be surprised how many couples stop sharing the “simple” things after some time together, and only discuss things related to the kids, money, or household.

Talk about your favorite colors, or foods, or what you did today. Share your dreams for the future, or your fears, or your passions.

2-Werkout together

I always say your business plan is null and void if you don’t have a fitness plan.

Your true wealth is your health, and if you don’t take care of your physical body, you might as well pack it all up.

It makes absolutely no sense to grind and grind and grind for your dream life, and end up living it sick or unwell.

Spend some time werking out with Bae, and catch 2 fish with one net (I know you can catch a whole lot more, but I don’t like the idea of killing birds with stones, so that’s my version).

Who says you have to go to the gym, or do jumping jacks?!

As long as you get physical, and break a sweat…how you do it is up to you ;-).

Just make sure to do it with bae!

3-Make a meal together

You gotta eat right?!

Well, the next time you prepare a meal do it with bae.

It’s best if it’s a big meal, a meal from scratch, or a messy one :-), so you actually have some significant time together.

Work together, and enjoy conversation while doing it, or just do it and keep the conversation focused on accomplishing the task together.

Have fun and bon apetite.

4-Drive in silence

Okay, so not in total silence, but definitely without the radio, or any other distractions.

Turn everything off, and just talk.

Talk about anything, and maybe even hold hands if it’s safe to do so.

5-Set your goals together

This is such a beautiful and important way to spend quality time with bae.

They help you stay focused, and keep you on track to living your dream life.

You can do this with bae concerning goals for your relationship, or family, or household, etc.

It can be done daily, weekly, or monthly.

You could even complete the goal-setting werkbook I created with bae (Click here to get a copy), and schedule quality time every month or every quarter to review your progress, and update your goals.

Yaaay!

You now know 5 ways to sneak in quality time with bae without having to compromise doing things you have to do anyway, and without having to feel antsy like you’re not being productive, and moving forward with building your empire.

Don’t forget to snag your copy of the free goal-setting werkbook I created to help you stay balanced and on track this year.

It’s the perfect exercise to go through with bae. Download it below.

Now get to werk!

xoxo,

SunshineThe Real Boss Mom

Business & Lifestyle Coach for Badass Boss Moms
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