2016

Lust – Chastity
A pup desires attention, has a lust for contact, and sometimes an insatiable craving for snuggles. However, some of the pups I have met are among the most chaste in existence.

Gluttony – Temperance
Take a bag of cookies to a pack of pups, shout treats, and try to get out alive. I wouldn’t say pups have an excessive desire for treats, they simply like to overindulge given the opportunity. But place a treat on a pup’s muzzle, make it a trick, tell them to wait, and they show a temperance and self-control beyond human levels.

Greed – Charity
Whenever you spot a pup’s blanket fort, you see its den. The place where a pup can hide its treasure. This is where a pup hoards its (stolen) treats, toys and undies, claiming all for its little kingdom. But lure a pup out, snuggle it, play with it, and it will share generously. And, if you’re lucky, it might even sacrifice a place in the fort, along with the hoard.

Sloth – Diligence
Now be fair, what is better than a puppy nap? A pup has many friends, but Sloth has a special place. A nap for the entire day. This isn’t to say a pup is lazy as such, it merely has a smart time management scheme. Don’t waste energy when unnecessary. And, if you’re out of luck, a pup will wake up before you do and zealously be your alarm.

Wrath – Patience
Ever invoked the wrath of a pup? No? Then you never tried to take away its treats. Though harmless, a pup’s growl can be… vexing. However, if you treat a pup right, and care for it, it will show you a harmony and forgiveness many could learn from.

Envy – Kindness
Here’s a survival tip: if you find yourself with a pack of pups, don’t try to only give one of them attention. You’ll end up with a bunch of jealous pups all claiming, even more, attention. But let’s be fair, what is better than the love and trust without prejudice only a pup offers?

Pride – Humility
It’s no secret that pups can be vain. They’ll do their best to show off their looks and what they can do, and on occasion are known to admire the mirror puppy. But if you manage to train your puppy well, and create that harmony, you’ll have its respect and it will do everything to make you happy.

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Recently I became aware of hate-filled online comments directed at a member of our community by an ‘anonymous’ individual.

The online environment is a space where we can share our opinions and thoughts and feel more in-touch with our chosen communities. Many of us have used the internet to discover and learn more about the subculture of which we are part, make connections and support one another. Unfortunately, it also allows a small minority of people to bully and harass others – often with the mistaken belief that they are doing so anonymously. I find this horrid and I am dumbfounded that a person who considers themselves to be a member of our community would bully and harass any other individual.

Negotiation, respect, and active consent are the foundation stones of the leather and BDSM communities. As leathermen we expect the wider community to be tolerant, understanding and respectful of our lifestyles. Unfortunately, we are not always good at extending these courtesies to others within our community. Discussion and debate are vital to the survival and development of our community. And from time-to-time, some of us will be surprised or concerned by opinions expressed by others. However, such disagreements must be conducted with civility and respect. “A real leatherman” knows this and does not use the online environment to denigrate and intimidate others.

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I was moved by a recent Quote by The BootCo. Brisbane’s current Queensland Leather Boy (QLB) 2016 and I have decided to share this on my blog. Firstly I would like to thank Timothy Roberts for his thoughtful and well written words after the tragic events that have occurred in Orlando.

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I write this knowing that the latest news reports are saying that 50 people have lost their lives and another 53 injured in America’s worst gun massacre. While it is being called an act of terror, which I do not dispute, In short it is a crime of hate. A crime against our community. A crime against our freedoms. It is an attempt to prevent us from being who we want to be and love who we want to love.

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Male Chastity is a great addition to play whether it be for singles, couples, thruple (polyamory) or a D/s style relationship. It allows for the development of trust and is designed to allow the caged guy to really ensure that his play partner is looked after so he is released in order to also ejaculate. Keeping in mind that this is also a fetish and many guys or couples explore this as a lifestyle and the caged guy may go from a short term caged experience to a more long term 24/7 caged lifestyle that could go on for days, weeks or months.

For my Brisbane based readers, Spunk’D Leather and Fetish Store (www.spunkd.com.au) have experienced retail staff that will be happy to assist you with both the right fight, the device that you are after and generalised advice on male chastity. By all means drop by as you never know when the pup will be there to assist you.

Whether you will be playing with a partner or alone, Enforced Chastity

Enforced chastity is surrendering sexual control to another. Most typically, a male surrenders his ability to orgasm to another. Frequently, a chastity device is secured to the male’s penis to prevent erection and orgasm.

requires hardware that will safely keep your penis out of trouble and safely under the control of your Key-holder.

The person who retains control of the male’s penis in enforced male chastity. The term key-holder refers to holding the key that locks a chastity device.

In a Dom/sub relationship generally speaking the key-holder is the Dominant, however there are instances where other negotiations occur, an example of this is that if a person is in a D/s and also in a partnership/relationship with another person. The other partner (not in the D/s) may also be a key-holder. Another example the submissive may also be trusted with a key, say a long distance releationship.

For long term wear, more than an hour or two, any device must be able to:

Prevent useful erections. Your body will try to get you hard no matter what device you wear. However, an effective one will contain the effort and deny any sexual pleasure.

Prevent masturbation.

Allow you to perform the usual bodily functions. If you can’t pee wearing it, the amount of time you can stay locked up is very short.

Permit ventilation. Human skin is not meant to be wet all the time. Any device that prevents sweat, pee, or any other moisture from evaporating will promote irritations and infections.

Let you keep it clean. Even if you have a chastity belt that prevents getting close to your penis, it must allow you to get water inside to keep you clean. It doesn’t take very long for a really bad smell to develop if you can’t clean up.

Wear Comfortably. If you are in pain while you are caged, you and your key-holder will become tired of Enforced male chastity. The Getting A Good Fit section offers valuable advice.

Provide reasonable security. More about that later.

There is a lot of mythology about chastity belts. Supposedly, men locked up their women before heading out to the Crusades. The fact is that there is no evidence of any chastity devices existing prior to the Victorian era. In that time, chastity belts and other devices were developed for “medical” reasons; namely to prevent excessive male masturbation. It was believed that erection and masturbation by boys would damage their minds and promote insanity. Female chastity devices have never been very successful. The myths would have us believe that men of yore locked up their women to prevent them from bearing bastards. The fact is that any attempt to block the vagina also blocks its ability to keep itself clean. Fungal infections and worse occur frequently. Fortunately, we males don’t have that problem and can be safely locked up for extensive long periods of time.

Security

A common fantasy is that you are locked in an escape-proof device and will never be able to free your penis or stimulate it without your key-holder’s permission. A decade ago the most popular male chastity pass time was to defeat the latest devices. This is an expensive hobby since high end chastity devices can run hundreds of dollars. Virtually all of these “escape artists” were single men who locked themselves up. There were relatively few couples practicing male chastity in the pan community.

Chastity in the gay BDSM community has been more commonly used and in the 1960’s and 70’s these devices were more common in such specialty leather and fetish stores, such as Mr – S – Leather and Eagle Leather. These days the devices are more readily available both online and at many adult and fetish outlets. In Brisbane Spunk’d is one such outlet that has these devices both in store and online. It is a common practice that within many gay D/s dynamics that the submissive (also may be referred to as the slave or boy) experienced being caged, as a part of his training. This generally meant he could only be allowed to cum, with the permission of the key-holder.

This wasn’t just an occurrence in the male to male (gay) D/s this was also common in other BDSM relationships with a female lead role as a Dominatrix or Mistress.

Just as the internet became such an essential aspect of our daily lives, it played a role in BDSM – Including the D/s and M/s relationships. It is now possible to have a key-holder across the other side of the country or the world, who would give you permission to release yourself. As technology developed and demand changed chastity devices also evolved from just being available in metal to also being available in plastics and now silicone. The result of this advance has meant that the locked boy could have the device on for longer periods, and whilst in transit, such as going through airport security.

There are instances that I am aware of where Master and boy reside in different parts of the globe for work reasons, and they have found the use of Chastity and gaining such permission for release has strengthened both their trust and the dynamics behind their power exchange relationship. This strengthening some have reported has alleviated some of the stresses between the distances between the individuals.

Below is a range of male chastity devices currently on the market, it is a small selection compared to what is available.

The reason escape-proof devices are so elusive is that male sexual anatomy is surprisingly adaptable. The human penis has no bone. Other mammals have penile bones that support the penis during intercourse. The human penis is essentially an inflatable toy. When not aroused the penis is an extremely flexible little tube. It’s flaccid. As such, it can be compressed, stretched, bent, and twisted. Since the purpose of enforced chastity is to keep that little guy in the flaccid state, any device must be designed to prevent it from using that very flexibility to defeat it.

A completely normal penis can shrink down to less than an inch in length. Since any cage or tube needs a gap that will allow the scrotum to hang below the cage, this tiny guy can be encouraged to escape through that gap. Once out, it can enjoy itself without permission or supervision.

To prevent this, some devices have blunt pins on the body end of the cage that are supposed to cause pain if extraction is attempted. Pins can be quite long and cause serious discomfort for a naughty boy. Some are even sharpened. This won’t completely prevent escape, but it will discourage it. There is a problem: each time the little guy tries to get hard its diameter increases. If there is an anti-pullout pin, that pin will dig painfully into the shaft. You might be thinking, “Well isn’t that the point?” Not completely. Every male has involuntary erections in his sleep. So, if you don’t enjoy being awakened a couple of times a night by a painful jab in your penis, you will find the anti-pullout pins unbearable.

Back in the day of escape artist play, several companies around the world made full male chastity belts. These belts effectively prevented any possibility of escape. However, the belts are made of metal and must be sized for each wearer. If the male gains or loses weight, the belt will no longer fit. These belts are expensive too and prevent a full range of motion. For most of us they are simply impractical.

For the rest of us who can’t wear full belts, we need to cooperate with our key-holders. Obviously, any practical device has the potential of escape. How much potential is a trade between comfort and security. Since we are asking or consenting to be locked up, we should have the self control to not attempt escape. Those of us who are locked 24/7 need the ability to enjoy uninterrupted sleep and to go about our daily business while remaining caged. The trade off is that we have to not attempt escape.

In a D/s situation the submissive should be wanting to please his Dominant It was our idea, we should be able to do that. Right? On the other hand, we also want to feel that we are securely locked up and that our key-holders truly own our cocks. I know that I can’t easily escape my cage and I am pretty sure that if I do, I won’t be able to get it back in so my transgression will be noticed. I don’t want to think about what would happen if it is discovered that the cage went on an independent field trip. That is sufficient deterrent for me.

I wondered if I secretly unlocked myself because I wanted to play with someone, would there be visual evidence. It turns out there is. I was out of my cage for almost six days and It would be completely obvious to anyone who looked that I wear a device. It’s just like the mark left when the wedding ring is removed. Enough said.

Comfort

Let’s face it, our fantasies never consider the comfort of our confinement. However, spend thirty minutes in an uncomfortable device and you will see that comfort jumps to the top of the priority list. Having rigid steel or plastic enclosing our genitals is a comfort challenge. Sensitive skin can easily be pinched, scratched and bruised. Imagine sitting at your desk while your cage is cutting into your little penis. Very distracting to say the least.

More times then not, when you experience discomfort that turns to pain you will be begging for release in no time.

The original author at male chasitity journal has set up a page on how to get a good fit, I suggest you follow that link as it will help getting things right – Getting A Good Fit

A boy who is both secure and reasonably comfortable will be able to be caged for a longer period, and will not be concerned about disappointing his Dominant to have the device removed before the desired timeframe. You submit to please your Dominant, and when you do not meet such expectations (weather actual or self perceived) it can cause you anguish. However when you are experiencing the wrong sort of pain or discomfort, it is essential to speak up and communicate this, as your Dominant wants to know this so adjustments can be made. Generally your training and enjoyment is just as important to him, as it is to you. Remember your submission is your gift to him, and he is the protector of both your submission and trust.

There are many designs for chastity devices; as illustrated in the pictures throughout this article. While you may want to select yours based on appearance and apparent security, the first consideration has to be fit. You will not be able to wear a badly fitting device. It’s that simple.

There are many designs for chastity devices; as illustrated in the pictures throughout this article. While you may want to select yours based on appearance and apparent security, the first consideration has to be fit. You will not be able to wear a badly fitting device. It’s that simple.

A good fit is a very good start. Next, consider what you wear with your device. Most of the good chastity devices are virtually invisible under clothing. Generally no one can tell when a guy is caged. However, invisibility is only one factor. The second is support. We are all built differently and how we and our key-holder’s cage work together will determine how comfortable we are when wearing clothes. Your jocks can spell the difference between a comfortable day and a miserable one. I personally like either briefs or jockstraps, I have found in the limited use of a cage jock straps work best for me and I can carry out all daily functions. However the source of this article suggests the following:

I like briefs and have been wearing Ex-Officio briefs for years. However, with my cage on, they just didn’t provide the support and cushioning I need to get through my day pain free. By chance I discovered Wearever men’s incontinence underwear. These are very normal looking briefs that have some padding in the front and down through the crotch. They even have a fly. It turns out that the combination of the way the brief is made and the padding provides a nice resting place for my key-holder’s toy. I can sit, walk, run, and move about without any discomfort. The underwear looks fine so that even if I am seen in it, no one would guess there is anything going on. An added benefit is that the padding further hides any edges of my cage from showing through my pants, even tight jeans. The padding is also treated to kill any odours, so if I drip, which sometimes happens after I pee, there is no trace.

While the primary objective of enforced male chastity may be transfer of ownership and control of your penis to your key-holder, just as important is to be able to safely and comfortably wear their cage for as long as yoy like. If you are uncomfortable, you won’t be able to make this dream come true. Communication with your key holder is essential.

Generally as a university graduate I never refer to wikipedia, however in this instance I am going to make an exemption and provide a link for some additional reading:

Glossary:

Enforced Chastity:

Enforced chastity is surrendering sexual control to another. Most typically, a male surrenders his ability to orgasm to another. Frequently, a chastity device is secured to the male’s penis to prevent erection and orgasm.

Keyholder:

The person who retains control of the male’s penis in enforced male chastity. The term keyholder refers to holding the key that locks a chastity device

Enforced Male Chastity:

Control of a male’s penis, usually with a device. Masturbation, sex, orgasm, and erections are controlled by the key-holder.

Edging (edge play):

Edging is bringing someone right up to the edge of orgasm and stopping the stimulation before he ejaculates, this can be used in milking or adding stimulation to keep the locked boy wanting more. See further reading: Orgasm Control

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It is not very often that I get the opportunity to do a pup introduction, as our community grows and more and more Pups and Handlers are writing about their Pawsome experiences, adventures and just being a pup. In my wisdom I have decided to base my first pup introduction on Tycho Pup… Currently heading up VIC-PAH and has an awesome blog. Which is full of facts, fun and information and provides his own experiences on Human Pup Play.

Tycho Pup is a 29 year old New Zealander that lives in Melbourne, Australia. He is a professional Game Designer by day and an avid pup at night. Tycho is a head pup from the team of the local VIC-PAH group and is striving to help advocate and educate others about kinks, fetishes but primarily pup play.

I have had the pleasure in meeting Tycho, and Moshing with him at a few of the VIC-PAH events in Melbourne Australia.

Tycho has created a wonderful resource for the community, below is a small extract from Tycho’s work that he has done to help educate people entering the exciting world of pup play. See Web Resource pupplay.info

Reading through the articles,and all the work that has been put into this really extensive and great resource that is continues to grow which is already amazing resource for our community. The advantages of such a blog is that it is up to date and looks at the changing face of the community and provides a neat perspective of such changes.

Here is a small extract from the page:

Personal Journey

King: Personal answers into the how and why of pup play, might hinder others more than they help. All personal journeys are just that, “personal”, they are a formula made up of a lifetime of positive and negative experiences. Trying to reduce that to the simplistic “I get this out of being a pup” is akin to not reading a novel but knowing in the end ‘the hero died cos he was greedy”..

Always Remember, it’s Your Fetish

The beauty of pet play lies both in the customization as well as personalization of the experience. There is no how-to guide or manual besides the unrestricted imagination of the puppy, as it should be. The input of the Master facilitates this imaginative setting and allows for the puppy to express the underlying primitive nature of him/herself that only further rewards the Master with unconditional love and stability. In exchange for the foundation the Master provides, the puppy relinquishes an agreed upon amount of control and freedom in order to foster this relationship and environment. Besides these basic premises to puppy play, there is no constraints or limitations that should ever exist. Can a puppy wear a diaper? Should there be a sexual relationship between Master and puppy? Does a puppy have to be limited in clothing to experience a full “mindset” experience? Do I need a Master to be a puppy?

No limitation can ever be put on your fetish and imagination. Your comfort is a gauge of both your expectations as well as an internal subconscious signal about how you can best create a pleasing mindset for yourself. By putting limits on a fetish, you put restrictions on your experience and serve the design of another, which never should be the case. In a group context, the above declarations remain the same. No one can judge you, nor should they. The strong Alpha human puppy stands by any puppy that both respects himself and others as well as creates his own experience in a play environment. The Beta follows likewise. As does the Omega. Never concede the right to create your own experience. It’s your fetish, no amount of time or knowledge can erase that fact.

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There has been much talk about the recent UK documentary about the secret life of the human pup. Whist this is currently only available in the UK, RECON has put out a short clip, with some pup play occurring in downtown Sydney. The clip demonstrates that the pup life is emerging and is not as secret as the documentary suggests. Once I am able to view the documentary I will be doing a review…

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Here is a pix of me at last years Queensland Pride Fair day, the acceptance of the the kink lifestyle has certainly assisted in pups of all walks of life being able to express their pup side and lifestyles not just behind closed doors, but also in the public arena.

Many of the pups in Brisbane entered the dog show at Pride… It is truly a liberating experience.

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It is great to see pup play out in the open in a fun outdoor environment, it also highlights the new Mr-S-Leather Neoprene hood that is similar to their new design leather puppy hood. Those who read this blog and know me personally know that I am a leather pup through and through and I do own an older version of the MR S Neoprene Hood.

Why do I like the Neoprene Hood, because MR S Leather is really been proficient at the design and the manufacture of the hood, and the best thing about the neoprene hood is that it can get wet, so whether it W/S that some may be into, or going for a swim, puppy bath or pupping out in the shower, the MR S Neoprene Hoods certainly allow for this.

This allows the pup to explore a wider array of their pup persona, especially if your like me and love going swimming or having a shower with your pup hood on. The other advantage is Neoprene is so much cheaper then rubber and or leather pup hoods.