How to Avoid Emotionally Unavailable Men (And Find Mr. Right)

Don’t get trapped with an emotionally unavailable guy! Here’s how – and how to find Mr. Right while you’re at it!

If you feel like your “picker” is broken (and you aren’t alone), we first want to direct you these four signs of emotionally unavailable men so you can begin to spot them more easily. Once you’re familiar with the signs, it’s time to take responsibility for your relationship results and begin to take steps to avoid these men at all costs. (Yes, even if he’s super hot, super successful, or “has potential.”)

What follows are our four best tips and tricks to avoid men who are emotionally unavailable so you can fix your “picker” and get directly on the road to finding your Mr. Right!

1. Don’t settle for any relationship just because you want to be in a relationship.

If you’re at a place in your life where you’re ready for a relationship, that’s great news! However, it doesn’t mean you should settle for someone who only partially meets your needs just because, well, he’s partially meeting your needs. (We like to call this the “Relative Charm Factor”; e.g., relative to the rest of the men you’ve dated, he’s not half bad because at least he has a job, mostly shows up on time, and is great in bed.)

But if you’re dating someone whose actions aren’t matching his words, and you continue to be okay with the state of your “relationship,” you’re settling–and you deserve better than getting only some of your needs met. You deserve to have appropriate expectations, and it’s your responsibility to make sure they’re getting met.