"Sometimes I can hear my bones straining under the weight of all the lives I'm not living."

So tomorrow is the last day of the holidays. My little clan and I took the gap and escaped the cold Cape for a few days and headed to the golden shores of Durbs by the sea. In the past few days, my kids have patted, petted and pawed more animals than you will find…

It’s Saturday night and I am sitting in front of my screen, actively avoiding the temptation to get “Social”. (like, like, wow, like). I’ve been chatting to a girl on WhatsApp, but fear those embers are going to need some serious fanning before her monosyllabic answers blaze into something you could call a conversation. As…

My Facebook wallpaper says a thing about the subtle art of not giving a fuck… and I think it’s perfect. It’s a book written by Norman x, who is a couple of years younger, but may as well be a couple of decades older, judging by the wisdom that he shares. He has a turn…

Dear Guardian Angel, Good morning to you all, you higher beings, who sit around, doing the things that you feathered folk do. Life down here is an up and down affair, a fact which perhaps, due to your unique vantage point, you are unable to take in all that clearly. After all, when you study…

The internet is abuzz with online learning courses. I get daily emails, which promise that if you chug down this, that or the other gluten free concoction for 30 days, your life will be turned around. You will wake up one morning and besides having a perfectly radiant skin, closely cropped hair and perfect teeth,…

Don’t begrudge the seasons of your life. They are a welcome rhythm that we follow, one that binds us to the ebb and flow of all life. That feeling however, that you are looking at an ageing outer with your young eyes, is because life cannot age your soul. One’s eyes are the gateway to…

My eldest daughter is beautiful inside and out. — Truly. Yes, I am her proud and protective father, but for all intents and purposes, she has the ability to stop traffic. She is 11 now and recently told to me, whilst around the breakfast table, that boys were starting to take notice of her. When I heard…

When last did someone ask you how you were doing and you answered something along the lines of “I’m fine thanks…” What does being “fine” mean to you? When the question is posed, do you run a quick inventory of your surroundings and, after noticing that the house is not on fire, the kids are…

“Work is love made visible. And if you can’t work with love, but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of the people who work with joy” Kahlil Gibran Does your work put a smile on your dial? Let’s…

I took my kids to school today. — Nothing unusual about a father taking his kids to school… — except that this was the first Monday that I got to do this — ever. You see, I live in Cape Town and my little one’s go to school in Somerset West, which is where they live with their mother. Normally they…

Some time ago, I went to lay on someone’s couch and told them about my stuff. I paid for this service and much like a car that needs its oil to be changed, my mind was quite lacking in oil at that time. Had you been able to hear my thoughts, they may have sounded…

“A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego…

People like to read success stories, because they like to see that mere mortal can achieve extraordinary things. Like voyeurs, we like to think that perhaps we too can undertake a journey, a hero’s journey that will one day be read by others (just like us) and Liked or followed or starred… I mean, who…

We’re all trying our best! For most of us, we kinda wake up in the morning and kinda think about the things that need to get done. We might even make a little list. Then the day starts, and we are swept along by its demands. We have our list of To Do’s, but often-times,…

I am a proud dad of 3 little peeps. Ruby Rose is the eldest, weighing in at 11 years and a few months. Then comes Phoenix, my sensitive boy of 8 and then there is Dakota Lilly (7) who makes most rockstars look mundane. Each child is a universe unto themselves, being completely different in…