i've looked around here for about 3 years now for a lady that dont mind a guy that has kids living with him and ive gotten some strange reply no anwers or not my type hunnn just think thats strange to see

i've looked around here for about 3 years now for a lady that dont mind a guy that has kids living with him and ive gotten some strange reply no anwers or not my type hunnn just think thats strange to see

I just had to say that I applaud the fact that you are raising your children what ever the circumstances. I am raising 3 children on my own and know how difficult it is.
When I met a man that is a few years my senior and still had two of his children ages 18 and 15 still in the home and had raised them by himself totally for at least the last 12 years I was very impressed. We have shared some of the same difficulties which has made us more suitable. When I need a break he is more then willing to help and as am I.
If a woman has a problem with you raising your children then you probably wouldn't want her around your children anyway or mothering any you two might have together.
I do wish you the best of luck in finding someone right for you and your children.

I just had to say that I applaud the fact that you are raising your children what ever the circumstances. I am raising 3 children on my own and know how difficult it is. When I met a man that is a few years my senior and still had two of his children ages 18 and 15 still in the home and had raised them by himself totally for at least the last 12 years I was very impressed. We have shared some of the same difficulties which has made us more suitable. When I need a break he is more then willing to help and as am I. If a woman has a problem with you raising your children then you probably wouldn't want her around your children anyway or mothering any you two might have together. I do wish you the best of luck in finding someone right for you and your children.

well i guess i should have said this in the first posting im a single parent...im a widower .. i want someone who might just out live me so my children will have some to go to and i have some one who can keep up with me and the kids i'm a very active person and im not saying the older lady would not keep up but the late wife was 33 when she past so that why im looking for a younger lady

well i guess i should have said this in the first posting im a single parent...im a widower .. i want someone who might just out live me so my children will have some to go to and i have some one who can keep up with me and the kids i'm a very active person and im not saying the older lady would not keep up but the late wife was 33 when she past so that why im looking for a younger lady

well another year gone by and nothing i feel like a million dollars when I'm here at home with my kids .. they are my world i see how some of the Lady's feel that have kids and can't find a good person to be with .. i guess it will all work out the funny thing is i would love to have a few more .... did i just say that.... yes i did but only with the right lady one who will be true to me and my kids and put the kids in front of all other things including me I'm not looking for a mother to them or to me I'm looking for a friend first to me and them oh hell you all should know.. I'm a little chatty tonight well good night for today

well another year gone by and nothing i feel like a million dollars when I'm here at home with my kids .. they are my world i see how some of the Lady's feel that have kids and can't find a good person to be with .. i guess it will all work out the funny thing is i would love to have a few more .... did i just say that.... yes i did but only with the right lady one who will be true to me and my kids and put the kids in front of all other things including me I'm not looking for a mother to them or to me I'm looking for a friend first to me and them oh hell you all should know.. I'm a little chatty tonight well good night for today

well another year gone by and nothing i feel like a million dollars when I'm here at home with my kids .. they are my world i see how some of the Lady's feel that have kids and can't find a good person to be with .. i guess it will all work out the funny thing is i would love to have a few more .... did i just say that.... yes i did but only with the right lady one who will be true to me and my kids and put the kids in front of all other things including me I'm not looking for a mother to them or to me I'm looking for a friend first to me and them oh hell you all should know.. I'm a little chatty tonight well good night for today

well another year gone by and nothing i feel like a million dollars when I'm here at home with my kids .. they are my world i see how some of the Lady's feel that have kids and can't find a good person to be with .. i guess it will all work out the funny thing is i would love to have a few more .... did i just say that.... yes i did but only with the right lady one who will be true to me and my kids and put the kids in front of all other things including me I'm not looking for a mother to them or to me I'm looking for a friend first to me and them oh hell you all should know.. I'm a little chatty tonight well good night for today

Well, there may be several different reasons for your problem.. but lets start with the first one that comes to mind.
I know that it's not at all fair, but being a single mother, when I first see a divorced or seperated father, kids not living with him, I assume (I do try not to but I just can't NOT assume) that there is a b*tch of an ex-wife or soon to be ex who will bring down the moon to make you and anyone new in your life as miserable as possible. I assume this because my family is the "Second" family of my ex-husbands and his first wife was a complete satan-b*tch from Hell with one goal in life: Make us MISERABLE.
I realize that this isn't always the case, probably very rarely IS the case... so please ladies don't hate me for it. But it's the truth.
Secondly is child support. Not financial but emotional. Some may believe that the emotional attachment you may have for your own children might rival with your feelings - or the possibility of developing feelings - for her own children.
Or maybe it is the financial aspect of a father paying child support for another family.
Or maybe it's the ladies that want to start their own, not ready-made.
But I know for a fact that there are tons of women out there that would love to become the newest member of an existing family... and many that would appreciate you for being a single father and being still active in your kid's lives.
You have to give people the opportunity to get to know you. I think that this is the best reason to start blogging. Put down your personal experiences and share you life, especially if you are looking for love or something like it on internet sites like these.
:-)

Well, there may be several different reasons for your problem.. but lets start with the first one that comes to mind. I know that it's not at all fair, but being a single mother, when I first see a divorced or seperated father, kids not living with him, I assume (I do try not to but I just can't NOT assume) that there is a b*tch of an ex-wife or soon to be ex who will bring down the moon to make you and anyone new in your life as miserable as possible. I assume this because my family is the "Second" family of my ex-husbands and his first wife was a complete satan-b*tch from Hell with one goal in life: Make us MISERABLE. I realize that this isn't always the case, probably very rarely IS the case... so please ladies don't hate me for it. But it's the truth. Secondly is child support. Not financial but emotional. Some may believe that the emotional attachment you may have for your own children might rival with your feelings - or the possibility of developing feelings - for her own children. Or maybe it is the financial aspect of a father paying child support for another family. Or maybe it's the ladies that want to start their own, not ready-made. But I know for a fact that there are tons of women out there that would love to become the newest member of an existing family... and many that would appreciate you for being a single father and being still active in your kid's lives. You have to give people the opportunity to get to know you. I think that this is the best reason to start blogging. Put down your personal experiences and share you life, especially if you are looking for love or something like it on internet sites like these. :-)

In your rocking-chair, by your window dreaming, shall you long, alone. In your rocking-chair, by your window, shall you dream such happiness as you may never feel. –Theodore Dreiser

Well Levi...take heart...:)I am having trouble too...but for a different reason. I am 53 with a 6 yer old little boy. Not many men around my age are looking for a ready made family, and those that are younger don't want their woman receiving AARP magazine on a regular basis...:)
I have to believe that someday we will find someone...don't lose hope...:)

Well Levi...take heart...:)I am having trouble too...but for a different reason. I am 53 with a 6 yer old little boy. Not many men around my age are looking for a ready made family, and those that are younger don't want their woman receiving AARP magazine on a regular basis...:) I have to believe that someday we will find someone...don't lose hope...:)

I think younger women (18-30 as your preference states) are more apt to want to find and marry a man who is single with no children, and have children of their own. (Your profile says in one place-less than 30,another less than 35, and does not state MARRY anywhere).
I think mature women (over 35) are inclined to see outside the box, have children of their own, and are therefore more willing to take on the task of helping to love and nurture someone elses children, especially a man who states he works all the time.
Speaking for myself, I know when I was 18, I was all about 'me' and what I wanted and needed, although at the age of 23 I wanted to adopt a child. As I have grown wiser with age, I have come to see it's not all about what I can do for 'me' but what I can do for others.
I have dated men with no children,adult children,young children and with preteens and teens. It doesn't matter to me if a man has children or not. I have plenty of love to share.
Perhaps the reason behind the lack of response that your received is because of the age limit you posted on your profile. Or it could be because you kinda contradict yourself-you state you are very open minded-but in actuality you are not-as you clearly limit yourself to those women anywhere from 3 to 20 years YOUNGER than you.That's not really being very open minded-that's eliminating a lot of lovely ladies.
Just as you can't deal with a woman 2 years younger to 20 years older than you, perhaps 18 year to 35 year olds thinks you are 'creepy old' as well?

I think younger women (18-30 as your preference states) are more apt to want to find and marry a man who is single with no children, and have children of their own. (Your profile says in one place-less than 30,another less than 35, and does not state MARRY anywhere). I think mature women (over 35) are inclined to see outside the box, have children of their own, and are therefore more willing to take on the task of helping to love and nurture someone elses children, especially a man who states he works all the time. Speaking for myself, I know when I was 18, I was all about 'me' and what I wanted and needed, although at the age of 23 I wanted to adopt a child. As I have grown wiser with age, I have come to see it's not all about what I can do for 'me' but what I can do for others. I have dated men with no children,adult children,young children and with preteens and teens. It doesn't matter to me if a man has children or not. I have plenty of love to share. Perhaps the reason behind the lack of response that your received is because of the age limit you posted on your profile. Or it could be because you kinda contradict yourself-you state you are very open minded-but in actuality you are not-as you clearly limit yourself to those women anywhere from 3 to 20 years YOUNGER than you.That's not really being very open minded-that's eliminating a lot of lovely ladies. Just as you can't deal with a woman 2 years younger to 20 years older than you, perhaps 18 year to 35 year olds thinks you are 'creepy old' as well?

I love children though I don't have any of my own. I think women just think that if you already have children you many not want any more. That ends up being a problem for women if they are looking for someone to have children with.
But that's just an assumption that may not be true in every case, right?

I love children though I don't have any of my own. I think women just think that if you already have children you many not want any more. That ends up being a problem for women if they are looking for someone to have children with. But that's just an assumption that may not be true in every case, right?

Stick with your search Levi. If a woman doesn't want you cause u are a great man raising his kids then they dont deserve you anyway. The way I figure it... If a man doesn't want me cause I am a BBW then I don't want him either. He doesnt deserve me. U (like me) have a lot to offer. What we carry in life makes us who we are... I can top that one though I am raising a Handicapped Daughter. That is not easy for many to deal with either. So i say MOOOOOOOOOOOve on. My kid is first!!!!! Get to know her and u will see why I love her to bits. Shes awesome

Stick with your search Levi. If a woman doesn't want you cause u are a great man raising his kids then they dont deserve you anyway. The way I figure it... If a man doesn't want me cause I am a BBW then I don't want him either. He doesnt deserve me. U (like me) have a lot to offer. What we carry in life makes us who we are... I can top that one though I am raising a Handicapped Daughter. That is not easy for many to deal with either. So i say MOOOOOOOOOOOve on. My kid is first!!!!! Get to know her and u will see why I love her to bits. Shes awesome

i'm 55 and never had any kids of my own. i am currently dating a (younger) man who has kids, and they are REALLY getting in the way, even though they do not live with their dad. especially at the beginning of a relationship, kids can create a problem. some people are just not natural parents, and i'm sure i'm one of them. that doesn't make me a bad person though....i don't think i'd get involved again with someone whose kids are not grown up.

i'm 55 and never had any kids of my own. i am currently dating a (younger) man who has kids, and they are REALLY getting in the way, even though they do not live with their dad. especially at the beginning of a relationship, kids can create a problem. some people are just not natural parents, and i'm sure i'm one of them. that doesn't make me a bad person though....i don't think i'd get involved again with someone whose kids are not grown up.

Honey , I have 2 kids as well. Its just as easy to cook soup for 3 as it is six. You seem like a good guy for taking care of your kids first. Look at all the pretty girls that replied to this. WINK WINK................Diane

Honey , I have 2 kids as well. Its just as easy to cook soup for 3 as it is six. You seem like a good guy for taking care of your kids first. Look at all the pretty girls that replied to this. WINK WINK................Diane

The same cud be said for are there men out there that want a woman with kids?? no methinks lol
When u reach a certain age (over 30s for example) the majority of people u meet are gonna have baggage or children its a fact of life,if some1 shys away from ya cos u have kids then u know they arnt the person for you.
For me if a man was anti kids then he wud be kicked to the kerb, my kids have been around longer than them and will always be a part of my life, so they have to be accepted 100%!
If women dont wanna know then its there loss!!
or maybe u just need to wake up and realise yong women dont necessarily want a ready made family.
Good luck in yr search and remember patience!!!
all good things come to those that wait!!

The same cud be said for are there men out there that want a woman with kids?? no methinks lol When u reach a certain age (over 30s for example) the majority of people u meet are gonna have baggage or children its a fact of life,if some1 shys away from ya cos u have kids then u know they arnt the person for you. For me if a man was anti kids then he wud be kicked to the kerb, my kids have been around longer than them and will always be a part of my life, so they have to be accepted 100%! If women dont wanna know then its there loss!! or maybe u just need to wake up and realise yong women dont necessarily want a ready made family. Good luck in yr search and remember patience!!! all good things come to those that wait!!

some women dont want to grow up and face the responsiblily that come with children others may just not like kids, personally I think a man raising kids is a great thing, some many men dont want anything to do with their kids is is encouraging to know that there are "real" men out there

some women dont want to grow up and face the responsiblily that come with children others may just not like kids, personally I think a man raising kids is a great thing, some many men dont want anything to do with their kids is is encouraging to know that there are "real" men out there

hi, levi. yes, there are women out there that like a man with kids. it shows that you are a responsable person. so many men just ditch their kids. i think that its awesom that you are taking care of yours.
keep the faith, the Lord will put the right woman in your path when the tme is right. men who take care of their kids ROCK!!

hi, levi. yes, there are women out there that like a man with kids. it shows that you are a responsable person. so many men just ditch their kids. i think that its awesom that you are taking care of yours. keep the faith, the Lord will put the right woman in your path when the tme is right. men who take care of their kids ROCK!!

How do you know they are all turning you away because of the kids? For me, (but I am in that "older" group your profile discourages! LOL), I have almost grown children, so I am hoping that the guy I find will not have small children. But it would not be a factor for me, really. Who you are and if we make a great connection are the most important things to me. I would imagine it would be for other women, too. Even YOUNG ones, lol

How do you know they are all turning you away because of the kids? For me, (but I am in that "older" group your profile discourages! LOL), I have almost grown children, so I am hoping that the guy I find will not have small children. But it would not be a factor for me, really. Who you are and if we make a great connection are the most important things to me. I would imagine it would be for other women, too. Even YOUNG ones, lol

Hi Levi, i`m sure there is a woman out there that doesn`t mind the fact that you have children living with you, just as I think there is a guy out there who doesn`t mind me having children. Children are a blessing and should be seen that way instead of being treated as baggage. I wish you luck in your search and hope one day you will find a women who will make you happy.

Hi Levi, i`m sure there is a woman out there that doesn`t mind the fact that you have children living with you, just as I think there is a guy out there who doesn`t mind me having children. Children are a blessing and should be seen that way instead of being treated as baggage. I wish you luck in your search and hope one day you will find a women who will make you happy.