Leaving site

After being on this site for over a year, I have decided to pack it up and move on. I have been called names, talked down to, and been made fun of for simple questions that I thought were valid questions. I was under the assumption that we all came here to expand our woodworking knowledge and befriend each other. Good luck to everyone and to the people that added insight to my skills, I appreciate your help.

-- Andrew, California

33 replies so far

Sorry to hear that, drew. As an alternative, you could learn to use the block option on this site. I did see where someone said some pretty stupid statements on your last forum question. Unfortunately, human nature being what it is, there will always be a small percentage that will get a rise from stepping on the heads of others. As far as getting a mentor- THAT IS WHAT THIS SITE IS FOR in my humble opinion.

Good Luck to you Andrew, but I think you know whatever site you go to now will have the same small percentage of jerks.

I have never been offended in any way by your presence or your choice of threads. I don’t think I have ever responded to your threads, but not because of you personally, I just don’t post unless I feel I have a solid answer. Actually I just remembered I did respond on one of your threads, it was a fun thread. I think your threads are relevant. You seem to be a nice enough person. I have always preferred nice people as opposed to mean folks myself. Well, good luck to you.

Please sleep on your decision!!!This site is loaded with quality people….Don’t let the @holes deprive you of the expert advice and knowledge that they are eager and willing to share.The @holes “win” whenever they can drive nice folks away….DON’T let them win!!!

When you are a newbie,anyone who knows a bit more than you ,can give you a few tips but not everyone has the capacity to be a mentor.

I have been a member of a few woodworking,car detailing,fishkeeping, sites,and it is very true that no matter where you end up ,you’ll soon realize that every single one of them has a few “jerks” who will not hesitate to ridicule you or your questions/projects etc,some even enjoy to come back on a thread to pile on more just to get a rise out of you/other members..it is always wise to choose what to ask and what to simply use Google to search an answer for.I am and have been a member of a couple of sites that seem to be the most unwelcoming,unfriendly,and frankly ,downright hostile towards newcomers just because of 2-3 deprived/unhappy individuals.I can assure you LJ is not even close to be one those sites.

Hi Andrew. Stay with us. I think Paul’s advice was good, but maybe not stated very diplomatically. Why let someone’s lack of tact chase you away from the best woodworking site in the world? The majority of folks here are willing to go out of their way to help others out and a lot of them are master craftsmen. Is there a better place for a new woodworker to be? I don’t think so.

@&*! Them, This site is for you to use how ever you see fit. If you have a question ask, it doesn’t matter. Use this site to gain as much knowledge as you can. You don’t know any of those people and more than likely will never meet them, so don’t worry about their opinion or stupidity. Remember, this is about you, not them. Ask away my friend!(When I started I didn’t even know what a dado was so don’t be intimidated)

Andrew, don’t crumble under the weight of a blow hard. Stay here and win. You’ll grow in your skills. Probably one problem is knowing who to talk to when you need help. There are several really great guys here that have excellent skills and are very willing to help. I’ve been here for a while now and have seen idiots like you mentioned come and go. Stick around, buddy. Don’t lose this chance to be in touch with some of the great’s in the field

As with most things, you have to take the good with the bad. Most anywhere I have worked it seems to have the same, some great people and some you wonder how they even keep the job. I have been on several forums and it’s always the same, great people and arrogant people. The easy way is just to ignore the jerks.

Andrew, you should stay. Before being concerned about what someone has said to your inquiries, make sure they at least appear to be knowledgable or skilled in the subject of your question. Most if not all of us here could always use some guidance in our endeavors. Don’t let some vacuous windbag drive you away.

-- "With every tool obtained, there is another that is needed" DonW ( Kevin )

The choice to stay or go is totally up to you. When someone post a question, I usually like to check their home page to get a better idea of who they are and where they’re from. A little background helps and in your case, you have a good home page and gives us a lot to go on to help with your questions.

On the other hand, if you check out this Paul; he seems to be “top secret” and doesn’t bother to let anyone know a thing about himself.

When I make a commit on someone’s forum, I welcome them to check out my home page, my projects, my web-site and even google my name or company name and then they can decide if what I offer as advice is worth a plump nickle or not.

You have to learn to take everything with a grain of salt and not let certain people bother you.

A couple of years ago I quietly left the site for about a year because of all the trolls that where really wasting everyone’s time on this site. I came back a year later to find a few still remained, but a lot of the negative was gone. It has improved even more in the past year and I personally feel this is one of the best woodworking sites you can be involved with.

Good luck with whatever you choose, but I think you should just keep on asking the questions and enjoy your stay here on Lumberjocks.