I just found out this morning after reading some weird messages on my Girl Friends phone that she has been cheating on me for a month with some guy at her work...............

We been together for 5 years and had a wedding day planed out... She was my first EVERYTHING.... Down to being the first girl i even held hands with... And i was proud to have her raise my children one day. And she has ONLY ever said the same.

Then i get a message to a false name which was her best friends name, that she loves him and cant wait to kiss him, AS we were coming back from my sisters wedding, and after we spent like a month out there and wanted a wedding just like my sisters....

I dont know if she is just a crazy bitch or what because i dont usually allow emotions to cloud my judgment but i NO WAY IN HELL saw this coming...

I literally found out this morning and i already threw all her shit in begs and tossed them in front of her parents house because i truly believe once a cheater always a cheater.... Oh and she has been texting me to take her back ALL day, and saying shit like she doesn't want to live anymore.

And all i could say is Good, then u feel half of what i do u cheating bitch.... Probably a little harsh but after 5 F***ING YEARS i could give a rats ass!

I dont know why im even making my emotional baggage in a thread, but i need to get it out some how, i already flipped a driver off, and stopped my car and called him a Ugly F*** (because he was)

Anyway if you all hear a depressed MK then u know why... Life F**king sucks right now

u have 2 choices if you're after loyalty. 1) 'marry' a true christian 2) marry an asian who hasn't been in the US long. 3) would be best to go to the philippines (no language barrier and most women are christians or at least believers) and find a wife.

was that advice crazy sounding? of course, but i think it's solid advice and this is the internet, so i don't care.

I don't know if it counts because it was a less serious relationship, but I think I understand the basics on how you must feel. My girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me with a married guy twice her/my age. I was 18 at the time and she was 17. I've been wasting a whole freaking year getting drunk, going to sleep, getting up, regretting what I have done and getting drunk again to get over that shit. When I finally got a place to study, man I think it saved my life. Turned around 180 degrees.

The one thing I learned is don't start regretting the time you spent together, it won't make you feel any better. Don't blame yourself for whatever reason. Don't regret anything, when I look back at that time I wouldn't change a single thing I've done. Life is a series of decisions and since then I've started to live it like I mean it. I might screw up (a lot actually), but I mean every thing I do. No forgiveness needed.

Don't know if that helps at all.

Now that I went all philosophical on this thread I'll get some coffee.

Sorry to hear about the luck my man. I went through something like this a couple of years ago. I was with a girl for about 3 years and I considered her my best friend. I thought I'd never meet another person like her. We lived together and I never thought I'd have to worry about anything.

I walked up to a party one night and saw her all over our neighbor.. who was also my friend. We fought about it, but I figured it wasn't THAT bad because I only say them sort of flirting. Needless to say, shit got fishier and fishier... one night she didn't come home after going out. I stayed up all night waiting on her. She texted me in the morning and said something like "oh I fell asleep at so and so's house (one of her girlfriends) I'll be home soon." So I went outside and watched her walk out of our neighbors house. She had been ******* around on me with this guy for awhile.

And here is where the story get's particularly important for you! Me thinking that I'd never find someone else like her and me not being able to move on, well I took her back. We got engaged after a few months of working things out... which was obviously stupid. I eventually found out she had cheated on me other times... one of which was with one of my friends after I took her back!

That being said. Move on. If you guys were first love and first everything else, then you need to get some new girls.... and she's going to have interests in other new guys. You can't end up with your first person. And, you shouldn't go back to someone who wasn't faithful.

Move on. Trust me, there is nothing better than getting some rebound, no strings attached booty.

This is one of the reasons kentucky gave the world the gift of bourbon.

Seriously though i offer my deepest condolences to you sir. I know what its like to go through hard times. The best advice i can give you is to keep your head up and keep moving forward and good things will come. Your facing a set back but you will get through it and things will turn out fine trust me.

"Once a cheater, always a cheater," isn't necessarily true. It has a lot to do with age, which is another reason why it shouldn't be legal to be married until you're 30. I was married at 19, and time and time again, I see people getting married young, and divorcing a few years later.

Either way, keep your space. She is saying she doesn't want to live to flip the script on you. She's playing the sympathy gig.

Thanks again everyone, i feel pathetic because i used to read this type of shit and thank God that i found the girl i thought i had. And me and her both would talk about how lucky we were to find each other so early in life.

It is simply amazing how fast things can change, even when you TRULY believe the girl your with is different then all the other unfaithful slutty bitches...

And as of right now i think my main problem is that i at the moment cant stand girls... The second i start talking to one i feel like punching them in the face....

Its totally the wrong attitude but my entire body cringes the second i start talking to a stupid bitch...

It amazes me how even the stupid little shit is hitting me the hardest... Its not good that i work 11 pm to 7 am because its so slow at work that all i do is think about how i wasted so much time, and i dont want to look at it that way but at the moment its all i can think about...

Im really trying to keep my head up and move on, but like i said i guess im a emotional person, and i think about shit WAAAAAY to much...

Thanks again for all those the posted there helping words, all you guys are my homies now