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In the previous post of this series, I mentioned that my escort use increased a lot after starting at a new job near a large cosmopolitan city. FYI, this was not my original plan and I would have preferred something approaching normie relationships. However it quickly became obvious to me that all the ‘unpaid’ chicks I could get were.. to put it mildly.. lacking in the looks department in addition to displaying an attitude derived from their racist mindset. My point is that just because you end up fucking a chick on a regular basis does not mean she is not racist. I am also aware that some of you might see this as an example of me being too demanding.

So why care about a moderately racist mindset in some girl you are regularly banging? And aren’t most escorts also a bit racist? Let me tackle the later issue first. See.. an escort showing a racist worldview is problematic only if her beliefs negatively affects the services she provides. As long as the quality and range of services provided are identical irrespective of race and ethnicity of client, her beliefs are largely irrelevant. This is analogous to a moderately anti-semitic waitress having to regularly serve groups of Jewish customers. As long as she does her job well, keeps her fat mouth shut and fake-smiles often, nobody gives a fuck.

In other words, escorts displaying ambient levels of racism are not as problematic as ‘unpaid’ chicks with a similarly racist mindset. But why is that so, and what makes ‘unpaid’ chicks having a racist mindset problematic in the first place? Well.. it comes down to racism being just one manifestation of a far deeper problem known as systemic ‘magical thinking‘. To be fair, the problem lies not so much with magical thinking as it does with not recognizing it as such. We all engage in some level of magical thinking on a daily basis, but most of the time we recognize and treat it that way. Let me explain this concept with a couple of relatable examples.

Over the years I have purchased a few lottery tickets, even though I was always aware that my chances of winning a large prize or the jackpot were infinitesimally small. Similarly, there have been times when I used to frequently check newspaper horoscopes- even though I didn’t believe in astrology. Without going into much detail, I did both things during a couple of periods in my life when things did not look particularly positive. One might ask.. what is the real difference between a person who buys lottery tickets once in a while and woman with a racist mindset, if both are examples of magical thinking?

In my opinion, it comes down to self-awareness. While I used to buy lottery tickets and check horoscopes, it never occurred to me to build my life around winning a jackpot or some newspaper horoscope coming true. As far as I was concerned, both were nothing more than entertainment. Now contrast this with how a racist mindset distorts a woman’s grasp on reality. As I mentioned in an older post, a number of very average and mediocre women who rejected me have had sex with some real ‘winners’ in the past. Have you wondered how all those average, mediocre and below-average chicks were able to justify their life choices and decisions?

It comes down to one variant of magical thinking aka racism. You see.. they believed that despite their utter mediocrity and general patheticness, they were somehow intrinsically “better” than and or “superior” to non-whites. Furthermore, this belief cannot be changed since it part of their self-identity and they will keep believing in it till their death. While it is possible to find individuals who are less fucked up in the head, they are the minority. But why is this such a problem for having anything approaching a normie relationship. Well.. it comes down to them deluding themselves into believing that they have leverage over you when they do not have any.

I have seen tons of women with no career prospects, no independent source of money, extremely mediocre looks and making barely enough to keep a roof over their heads behave as if they were destined for greatness. Then there are younger chicks with almost minimum wage jobs who firmly believe that their dream guy is right around the corner. Even those whom I “helped” in exchange for services many years ago never stopped believing that they were somehow destined for greatness or at least an upper-middle class lifestyle. More problematically, this does not change even after hitting ‘the wall’. If anything, their solipsism goes into overdrive.

But it gets worse.. if that is possible. Even the ones you end up fucking never stop believing that they deserve better, regardless of how pathetic and mediocre they really are. And we have not even touched the issue of how the high rate of rejection from utterly mediocre chicks alters your own perception of them. To make a long story short, you stop seeing them as even sub-human, let alone human. Now combine this with the fact that they are average to below-average in looks and mediocre (at best) in bed. And let me be clear about one thing.. I did not arrive at this conclusion based on a few isolated incidents or a small sample size.

In the next part of this series, I will tell you about how specific experiences during the 2005-2009 timespan finally made me decide to choose the escort-only path.

In the previous post of this series, I wrote about how my decision to keep using escorts while still looking for a meaningful relationship (in the 2001-2005 timespan) finally started to convince me that conventional relationships were a sad charade. The short version of that story is that I could easily find escorts who were 7s to 9s in addition to be great in bed.. or wherever we did it.. but still struggled to find 5s and 6s who were interested in having sex with me. This is not to say that I could not find anybody, because there were a few. The amount of effort necessary, willingness to tolerate bullshit, in addition to mediocre quality of sex- more due to their lack of looks than enthusiasm, did however make me cynical about normie relationships.

Frequent rejections by totally mediocre looking girls also gave me a serious case of burnout in the ‘relationship’ department. I mean.. why would a sane person who can easily afford to eat in nice restaurants want to keep on trying to be a decent cook at home? There are those among you who might say that “it would be have been different if you were taller, more muscular, white etc”. You know what.. that might very well be the case, but these are things I just cannot change. Also caring about the norms of a society which does not care about you is sad and retarded. It did not help that I never felt any strong emotional connection with any of these “unpaid” chicks.

Of course, it took me till 2009-2010 to definitively reach that point . But before going over the period between 2005 to 2010, let me tell you a bit more about what I did between late 2000 and 2005- specifically between 2003 and 2004. You will soon see why that was an important period. Have you ever wondered about the depths of sexual “depravity” that I have plumbed? See.. in the 2000 to mid-2002 period my use of escorts was somewhat limited for a couple of reasons. For one, I was getting reasonable quality sex from a few economically challenged chicks who received indirect compensation for their efforts.

During that approximately (first) two-year period I ended up banging 4-5 “amateurs” with some degree of regularity and somewhere between 15-18 escorts, though a few from the later category received multiple repeats. Some of you might say that is pretty good for any guy, and that would be correct. However, my sexual encounters with every single one of these chicks was a financial transaction- direct or indirect. And my lack of success with “unpaid” chicks during this period was not for lack of trying. I tried approaching tons of chicks, went on a few dates- but things were not going anywhere. There is something uniquely unpleasant about facing constant rejection from average to sub-average chicks.

As mentioned in the previous post of this series, I thought that moving to a bigger city for a job that paid even better than my old one would help- and it kinda did. Over a period of a little over two more years, I did have semi-frequent “unpaid” sex with three chicks, one of who was a low 7 (if that helps). I also had some luck in cougar bars, which is really like shooting fish in a barrel- but could not get myself to do it more than couple of times. Sounds good.. right? Now I will tell you why that was not the case, and it has to do with an important change in my pattern of escort use during the same period.

Before late 2002, my use of escorts was not especially high for a number of reasons- including my ability to pay for their services. But after starting at my new job towards the end of 2002, it was possible to spend way more on escorts- and spend I did. It got to the point where I averaged one new escort per week, not to mention repeats from some of them. Long story short, there was a period of 52 weeks where I went through 55 or 56 new escorts (probably around 80 new ones in total during that two-year period). Also, one threesome counts as two escorts. This period also partially overlapped at least two of those “unpaid” chicks. When I look back at this period, it does seem a bit excessive. Then again, doing it with attractive chicks who are good at it, is lots of fun.

I probably crossed the three digit threshold sometime in 2004, though by this point it really did not matter. It had all become an endless collage of beautiful women with great bodies getting banged by me or riding on top, blowing me and more, spanking them and so on.. the stuff dreams are made of and I enjoyed every moment of it. During that time (and since then) I have fucked everything from toned and hot black chicks, latinas of various admixtures, east-european chicks etc. This is also why mediocre “unpaid” chicks no longer cut it. But there was more..

At that time, I would still have traded my lifestyle for a long-term relationship with a 6 or 7 with whom I had a strong connection, beyond the physical. But as time passed, it became increasingly obvious that “unpaid” chicks were just as self-centered as the “paid” ones. They wanted sacrifices from my end but were completely unwilling to do so at their end. To put it another way, I simply could not see any of them being trustworthy and willing to reciprocate to the degree necessary to preclude my continued use of escorts. It was simply not worth taking that route. It did, however, take me till 2008-2009 to reach a point where I had made my mind, for good.

In the next part of this series, I will explain how a series of not-so-great experiences at finding “unpaid” sex (in the 2005-2009 period) made me finally give up that idea. Spoiler alert: this realization has to do with how even mediocre women, especially in the West, see themselves.

I believe this impromptu performance by ‘Garfunkel and Oates’ best sums up Valentine’s Day (February 14) for most of you. The banter before the song in combination with their facial expressions and body language during the song make it a great performance.

While drinking some coffee at Starbucks today I overheard the same basic conversation between two sets of women. It went something like this:

Women A: My friend X is waiting for her boyfriend Y to pop the question. They have been a couple for ‘n’ years.. yada yada

Women B: So when do you think he will do it? My friend’s boyfriend Y1 popped her(X1) the question ‘m’ months ago when they were at ‘insert vacation destination’.

Now, I should be upfront that my views on the institution of marriage have always been a bit cynical. However some aspects of that institution are more bizarre and irrational than others.

Consider the commonly accepted custom that the guy should propose to the girl- preferably under some cheesy circumstances. We have all seen elaborate marriage proposals (both creative and cringe-worthy), especially in the era of YouTube and Social Media. While I have no interest in preventing people from making fools of themselves, one question about the whole concept of marriage proposals has always bothered me.

What is the logic behind a guy creatively begging some woman to marry him, when doing so puts him at a permanent disadvantage? Isn’t that a lot like dreaming up a creative way to get a painful and chronic disease?

Throughout human history, marriage has been the shortest route to dull and increasingly infrequent sex with an aging harpy. Today, it is also the fastest way to lose money and assets though child-support and alimony. Moreover, it is no longer an institution that offers men any real support or proof of achievement as they become old.

Marriage, as it exists today, is an institution devoted to transferring money and resources from gullible men to women without even the pretense of benefiting men in any shape or form.

However, we still keep on seeing creative marriage proposals by guys to women who has ridden dozens of cocks before ‘settling’ for them. A majority of those guys also, still, believe that marrying the woman they are proposing to will partially validate the supposed benefits of getting married. In contrast, women are interested in getting married because a] they are hitting the ‘wall’, b] her other friends have ‘done it’ and c] she requires a larger income to indulge her material appetite.

If we strip away the sentimentality and bullshit from modern marriage, one thing becomes painfully obvious. There is no real advantage or gain for a man in marrying a woman he is already fucking. Even if the couple break up, the guy can always find another woman to fuck or just pay for sex by the hour. Marriage, on the other hand, makes him financially and socially vulnerable- even if the couple stay together. The woman, on the other hand, benefits immensely from marriage because it gives her more resources and leverage over the man even as her physical appeal fades into obscurity. It is therefore the woman who really needs and benefits from the institution of marriage.

The customs around marriage are, however, still grounded in the belief that it is men who require marriage more than the women.

While there may have been some truth to this belief in the era before the sexual revolution, modern contraception and feminism; that is no longer the case. Today sexual access to willing women is rather inexpensive if you can convince them that you are a cool player. Furthermore the mainstreaming of safe and high-quality paid sex in most developed countries means that even average guys can get amazing sex at much lower per-fuck rates than marriage while simultaneously avoiding long-term commitments.

I would add my observation that women have no problem sexually servicing a ‘unpredictable, ‘violent’, ‘mysterious’ or ‘in-demand’ guy for years without any offer of marriage. They will however threaten the caring, responsible, bland and ‘educated’ guy with ultimatums for ‘popping the question’.

One of the common beliefs that unites almost all right-wing and left-wing minded men is that marriage (or some sort of LTR with a woman) is a goal one should aspire for. As usual, I have always been a skeptic of any such idea for one simple reason.

The institution of marriage and LTRs benefit women at the expense of men.

All long-term and non-professional relationships between men and women, especially those which can be enforced in a court of law, do disproportionately benefit women at the expense of the men. Even the traditional version of marriage did benefit wives at the expense of their husbands.

At best, men in marriages become a superficially respected beast of burden with no role or life beyond their role as a ‘provider’. Many are stupid enough to actually believe in that bullshit and define their self-worth based on their ability to ‘provide’ for ‘their’ family. Many were also stupid enough to believe that they will be somehow ‘rewarded’ for that role in their old age. But how many of you have seen that work out like that?

In traditional marriages, the superficial respect and deference shown to a husband disappeared as soon as his ability to ‘provide’ money was gone- either due to age or illness. The ugly old harpie, aka his wife, just shifted her attention to her kids so that she can live off some part of their income- obtained through kindness and guilt. The old husband quickly became an inconvenience who nobody cared about. I am therefore always amused to hear religious and traditional minded morons (men) pining for a return to ‘traditional marriage’ and ‘traditional society’.

Isn’t aspiring for indentured servitude rather stupid and pathetic?

Even the so-called ‘modern marriage’ and LTRs are no better, though the later choice is often less damaging than the former. Either way, I just don’t see the point of voluntarily enslaving yourself to a nagging and aging harpie who walks all over you just to get a few scarps of mediocre sex thrown at you- once in a while. Did I mention that social acceptance, which was useful in close communities, is now worse than useless in the atomized era we live in. Any guy with a half decent source of income can always buy better and more sex than this wife can provide- minus the attitude, drama, worthless expenditures, lies, scams, insults, threats and other assorted bullshit which constantly emanates from wives and long-term girlfriends.

Now, there are those who want to marry or have LTRs for the purpose of having kids. While that sounds like a noble plan, what is in it for the guy? Maybe you like slaving away for empty expressions of gratitude. Maybe you like paying child-support.. Who knows? You can run that thankless race and enslave yourself to provide your kids with the best home, education, toys etc. But if won’t matter as your kids won’t care once they grow up. If you don’t believe my cynical assessment- just look around you at the number of lonely old men who did everything right.

Today there is no significant difference between the old age experiences of a childless person and one who sacrificed their happiness for the sake of their kids. If anything, you are likely to suffer from useless and painful medical intervention to prolong your last few months on earth. Similarly, the future of humanity and civilization is irrelevant after you are dead. Do you think it would matter if every human being died the second after your died? Do you think the universe cares about the continued existence of human beings? Can it even care?

In my opinion, the best way to live is to maximize your gain from the system. While doing so might sound self-centered, it is hard to ignore that society is constantly trying to swindle you out of your fair share. Just stop playing by the rules of someone who is trying to exploit you and look out for your own gain- irrespective of what it might do to the rest of the dysfunctional system. After all, you live only once and nothing matters once you are dead.

Let me start this post by asking you a question whose answer has a lot of relevance to the world we live in today.

Who gets more pussy- The guy who plays guitar in a generic cover band or the chief of neurosurgery at the local university hospital? The neighborhood drug dealer or a ivy-league educated junior partner at some ‘prestigious’ law firm?

As you might have guessed, the guitar player in a generic cover band or neighborhood drug dealer will almost always score way more, and much better, pussy than some autistic losers trying to show off their supposed importance and “high IQ” at some hospital or law firm. I can bet you that the musician and drug dealer are also far more likely to have kids and actually enjoy life than the losers who spend their best years slaving away for bigger (and equally unsuccessful) assholes for the chance of, one day, replacing them.

There are those who say that people who go into vocations such as medicine, law, finance etc are “too special” to go with the “baser instincts”. So why are they going into those vocations anyway? Do you really think that the vast majority of people who become physicians are interested in anything beyond money? Very few people become lawyers and financiers because of genuine interest or altruism. It is about the ‘protected’ money and the supposed power that comes with those jobs.

But what is all that money good for? What can it buy you?

The unpleasant reality is that the amount of money made by these autistic little-dicked losers cannot buy them what they really want. They will always be ‘that guy’ who some woman settles for after she has lost her looks and can no longer compete with younger versions of herself. However unlike previous eras, she is very likely to get bored and divorce the ‘high IQ’ loser and take away as much of his money as the system lets her get away with. She will also use the kids (if any) as emotional and legal weapons to make the loser’s life miserable? Even if they stay together, she will become increasingly sexually distant and unavailable. She will decide how to live and spend his money while the ‘high IQ” loser will follow the ugly aging cunt like a dog follows a hobo- though hobos are usually far better human beings than most women.

Some of you might say that since I buy sex from escorts, I should not criticize ‘high IQ’ losers who want lots of money. So let me be clear about one thing- it is not about the money but what you USE it for. If those ‘high IQ’ loser bought lost of sex-time with hot chicks like I do, that would be fine and very rational.

But they don’t do that!

They spend almost all of their money trying to fulfill social expectations which they hope will make them attractive to women as potential mates and the father of their children. That includes wearing the “right” clothes, buying the “right” cars, living in the “right” zipcode, hanging around with the “right” people, attending the “right” social events and expressing the “right” opinions. All of this to get something that the struggling musician and semi-popular drug dealer can get for a far lower cost, or none at all.

The tragically funny part of this story is that the washed up cock-hoppers who finally let these ‘high IQ’ losers put their tiny dick into their shriveled cunt are in for the money. They have no real sexual interest in their autistic worshipers and will cheat on him or dump his ass for a shot at sex with a musician or drug dealer.