Bullying

Might be slightly off topic, but I am wondering how some mothers that have already been through the snares of school deal with bullying. I was bullied as a kid, but not on the level of kids today. How do you talk to your kids about it? My parents were not very active in this, and just told me to "try to fit in."

Might be slightly off topic, but I am wondering how some mothers that have already been through the snares of school deal with bullying. I was bullied as a kid, but not on the level of kids today. How do you talk to your kids about it? My parents were not very active in this, and just told me to "try to fit in."

this is a very difficult thing for me. my nephew was bullied and picked on in school a lot. so much he ended up dropping out. Then in Aug at 19 yo he commited suicide. It has been horrible. I had a talk with my 11 yo daughter after because I never want to go through that again.
What's bad is for homecoming this year at the school my nephew went to they nominated a girl for homecoming that is socially ackward and at the parade planned to throw eggs and quack at her. kids are just so mean and with the way info travels now it makes it that much more difficult to combat against the negative.

this is a very difficult thing for me. my nephew was bullied and picked on in school a lot. so much he ended up dropping out. Then in Aug at 19 yo he commited suicide. It has been horrible. I had a talk with my 11 yo daughter after because I never want to go through that again.
What's bad is for homecoming this year at the school my nephew went to they nominated a girl for homecoming that is socially ackward and at the parade planned to throw eggs and quack at her. kids are just so mean and with the way info travels now it makes it that much more difficult to combat against the negative.

The reason kids act like that is because they have no discipline in their lives. If I ever found out my kids acted like tht I would show them what happens to kids that are treated like that. My kids have been taught better though. Other parents just don't seem to care. They would care if it were their kid being bullied. I was bullied myself and I would be the one always to get in trouble for defending myself by teachers.

The reason kids act like that is because they have no discipline in their lives. If I ever found out my kids acted like tht I would show them what happens to kids that are treated like that. My kids have been taught better though. Other parents just don't seem to care. They would care if it were their kid being bullied. I was bullied myself and I would be the one always to get in trouble for defending myself by teachers.

I am a teacher and please trust me when I say, make sure as soon as it starts you make the teacher aware of it! Many times it is happening under the radar (ie at lunch, recess, bus) & although teachers can make their class as bully free as possible it helps tremendously to know when and what is happening. All too often it's been going on too long and has gotten to far before a parent steps forward to make us aware. I know once I know I can help as much as possible. It scares the hell out of me that my two boys will most likely face it. It is so prevalent in our schools :(

I am a teacher and please trust me when I say, make sure as soon as it starts you make the teacher aware of it! Many times it is happening under the radar (ie at lunch, recess, bus) & although teachers can make their class as bully free as possible it helps tremendously to know when and what is happening. All too often it's been going on too long and has gotten to far before a parent steps forward to make us aware. I know once I know I can help as much as possible. It scares the hell out of me that my two boys will most likely face it. It is so prevalent in our schools :(

My DD was in gr 2 and it came up in conversation one day. I tried to give her coping skills first, then went to principle when she hit her on the bus. Then every time she said something rude to my DD I would write a note to the teacher. I think she was a troubled girl anyways and had a huge attitude. Even last year she was bullying a boy in their class. Made him cry and everything, the school has there hands full with her. When my other DD went to school you bet we told her to stand up for herself right away.

My DD was in gr 2 and it came up in conversation one day. I tried to give her coping skills first, then went to principle when she hit her on the bus. Then every time she said something rude to my DD I would write a note to the teacher. I think she was a troubled girl anyways and had a huge attitude. Even last year she was bullying a boy in their class. Made him cry and everything, the school has there hands full with her. When my other DD went to school you bet we told her to stand up for herself right away.

I agree with acr637. I am a teacher also and plz make the teacher aware as soon as possible. I would never knowingly ignore bullying. It so often happens when we just don't know it is going on. I remember when some bullying happened when I was little and it would never happen when a teacher was within ear length. At my school we are also trying to teach all students to step up even if it's not happening to them.

I agree with acr637. I am a teacher also and plz make the teacher aware as soon as possible. I would never knowingly ignore bullying. It so often happens when we just don't know it is going on. I remember when some bullying happened when I was little and it would never happen when a teacher was within ear length. At my school we are also trying to teach all students to step up even if it's not happening to them.

Bullying stems from parents not knowing how to parent and their kids not knowing how to cope at home. With so much of it on the rise these days, it really makes you wonder if their really could ever be a solution. My little brother (13) is bullied constantly because he is overweight and doesn't have many friends. He has been suspended multiple times for fighting to defend himself and failed the 7th grade last year, in large part because of that. Also, because he's the bigger kid, its usually the bully that gets hurt and he gets labeled the delinquent. My mom has had meetings with councilors, teachers, and the principle but not many of them seem too interested in dealing with the issues- just getting rid of the problem. He failed 7th but they put him in 8th anyway due to the "no child left behind act" and they thought he would have even more trouble dealing with bullying due to being held back. So, now he's pretty much being set up to fail.

Bullying stems from parents not knowing how to parent and their kids not knowing how to cope at home. With so much of it on the rise these days, it really makes you wonder if their really could ever be a solution. My little brother (13) is bullied constantly because he is overweight and doesn't have many friends. He has been suspended multiple times for fighting to defend himself and failed the 7th grade last year, in large part because of that. Also, because he's the bigger kid, its usually the bully that gets hurt and he gets labeled the delinquent. My mom has had meetings with councilors, teachers, and the principle but not many of them seem too interested in dealing with the issues- just getting rid of the problem. He failed 7th but they put him in 8th anyway due to the "no child left behind act" and they thought he would have even more trouble dealing with bullying due to being held back. So, now he's pretty much being set up to fail.

I know it's a long ways away but one thing I plan on doing is not allowing social media access to my teens until at least 16 and even then I will have access to all accounts. No computers in bedrooms, only in family rooms and always sitting together for meals. A lot of bullying happens under the anonymity of the Internet so I want to be on top of it as much as possible!

I know it's a long ways away but one thing I plan on doing is not allowing social media access to my teens until at least 16 and even then I will have access to all accounts. No computers in bedrooms, only in family rooms and always sitting together for meals. A lot of bullying happens under the anonymity of the Internet so I want to be on top of it as much as possible!

I teach my kids to defend themselves no matter what because no one has the right to hit them and if others are using words to ignore them and walk away. Let me tell you though if my son was defending himself and they kept on suspending him I would raise all kinds of hell and demand a meeting with those that are bullying him and their parents, I would take it to all new levels that the principal will have to take action.

I teach my kids to defend themselves no matter what because no one has the right to hit them and if others are using words to ignore them and walk away. Let me tell you though if my son was defending himself and they kept on suspending him I would raise all kinds of hell and demand a meeting with those that are bullying him and their parents, I would take it to all new levels that the principal will have to take action.

On a brighter note..my little brother is autistic. He was in public schools until he went to high school. The kids in his middle school class were so supportive even though he was different. I always worried if he was getting picked on, but when i would go up to his school all the kids would say hi and bye to him and ask him if he needed help! I was amazed that there were still kids out their that were kind and caring.... But they do exist!!!

On a brighter note..my little brother is autistic. He was in public schools until he went to high school. The kids in his middle school class were so supportive even though he was different. I always worried if he was getting picked on, but when i would go up to his school all the kids would say hi and bye to him and ask him if he needed help! I was amazed that there were still kids out their that were kind and caring.... But they do exist!!!

This was one of my concerns with my oldest, because he started kindergarten this year. Thankfully his school is very anti-bullying, and they have been talking about what bullies do and say and that it is ok to tell a teacher or adult when someone is being mean to them. My son even points out when kids or adults on tv are being bullies. We reinforce what the school teaches at home.

This was one of my concerns with my oldest, because he started kindergarten this year. Thankfully his school is very anti-bullying, and they have been talking about what bullies do and say and that it is ok to tell a teacher or adult when someone is being mean to them. My son even points out when kids or adults on tv are being bullies. We reinforce what the school teaches at home.

Sadly I have already had to have this talk with my preschooler in Pre-k. He came home his first week and told me about a big kid in his class that steals everyone's toys. And that he only did it when the teacher wasn't looking. And I asked what they did and did they tell the teachers and he said "no. I stole them back for the littler kids when the teacher wasn't looking. I am bigger than them." I told him that, although it was sweet he stuck up for the smaller kids, he needs to tell the teacher instead so they can know what is going on and to keep the boy from targeting my son. It is sad that this is a problem at such a young age...but since that week and talking with his teachers, it is no longer a problem. They keep a really good eye on the kids in his class who tend to push around the others.

Sadly I have already had to have this talk with my preschooler in Pre-k. He came home his first week and told me about a big kid in his class that steals everyone's toys. And that he only did it when the teacher wasn't looking. And I asked what they did and did they tell the teachers and he said "no. I stole them back for the littler kids when the teacher wasn't looking. I am bigger than them." I told him that, although it was sweet he stuck up for the smaller kids, he needs to tell the teacher instead so they can know what is going on and to keep the boy from targeting my son. It is sad that this is a problem at such a young age...but since that week and talking with his teachers, it is no longer a problem. They keep a really good eye on the kids in his class who tend to push around the others.

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