Expert GamePlan Session | November 21, 2016

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Study Info & Link

This is a link to a study that is being done by Dr. Ben Houltberg on emotional health and athletic performance. The link is to an online and confidential questionnaire that will take between 15-25 to complete. Your individual information will not be shared and all results will be presented for larger groups to protect the identity of participants. You will be compensated 10$ for your time or have the opportunity to donate the 10$ to a charity. By clicking on the link you can read more about the study. You Must be 18 years old and older and be currently competing in a sport. Thank you so much for considering being a part of the study. http://fullersop.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_eJM14l4bW1KarD7

#8 How To Be Recruited & Play For A Top Coach with Chris Poole

Quotes from Chris

“My motto that i live by !Q:“Every choice you make have consequences”@4:23,whether it is in decision in job, life, the same way that i am raising my son and my daughter, they talk to me about things and i have repeated that many times when they were young and now when they are older.First i made decisions for them, that is what i am doing with my players also, we are trying to be prepared every year , every decision they made it is all critical, there is gonna be consequences, good positive, and negative for them.”

“In high school i realized that i really enjoy athletics, it is something that i wanted to do with my life , in the college i got in touch with boys and girls club. even when i was in college i started to coach and getting involved in teams”@6:40

!Q:“I had sucess, and i think that success was tight to that i am very committed and dedicated i am trying to learn, i was like that as player and i bring same attitude to coaching”@6.45

“My rise was the matter that i was humble when i was the young man , reaching people to learn , and i enjoy learning , i do not believe that there is one way of doing things , i do believe that if you keep an open mind, you are capable of pulling things from different peoples, and learn from different sources. “@10min

!RJO:”Who has been most influential in your life up until this point and what is the moment when you realize that they were?”“Support of my parent, but they support was so critical in everything that i done. Graduating and becoming coach was not popular in 1980.

!RJO:”What types of things you do when students are preparing to come to your school, and while are there especially 1st year to try to get them to that level so that they do not regret 4 years of learning lessons?”

!RJO: “What do see for being a main difference between international players and your American players?”@16.40“Internationals players tends to be a little more mature....

#42 Becoming Emotionally Intelligent with Jordan HARBINGER

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March 27, 2016

Game Plan Session: With the famed podcaster and co-founder of The Art of Charm, Jordan Harbinger

BACKGROUND

In this game plan session, we focus on emotional intelligence with podcasting phenom, Jordan Harbinger. We also get into the details of decision making in high-adrenaline situations, first impressions,and networking and how athletes can improve upon these skills.

BIOGRAPHY

Jordan has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks several languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped — twice. He’ll tell you the only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation.

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PERSONAL QUOTE

You never rise to the level of your expectations, but you default to the level of your training.

— JH

KEY DISCUSSION POINTS

How do we react in high-adrenaline situations?

How can athletes prepare for being forced or having to take on different roles?

How can we begin to make positive personality changes in our life?

How important is it being able to be comfortable and confident with teammates and coaching staff? @21:30

How does this translate to success and building our network not only in sports but outside of it?

What are some simple ways for athletes to show up to new teams and come off in a way they they can be trusted? @29:30

How important is it to treat people well before even meeting them?

How important is this for general happiness in life? @36:00

How can people get started on increasing their emotional intelligence? @40:55

KEY LESSONS

Many people have the thoughts of: “if i get into a conflict, this is exactly how I will respond” but the way we react to things in high pressure situations is completely different. When we are in these instances, like athletes in a big game, everything falls back on training. This is why it is hard sometimes for an athlete to describe what they did during “that big play” because it is just second nature. No actual thinking was done in the moment because these moments happen so fast.

If you are an athlete, you have to be able to step up to the plate because you might need to take on different roles on your team. One important skill to have is connecting with people.

Just because you were not born with advanced emotional intelligence does not mean it is impossible to achieve. They are a set of skills. Some people use a fallback as being an introvert. You can’t fall back on introversion anymore. This is accepting mediocrity and denying the ability to gain more emotional intelligence.

Improving your skills in ”emotional intelligence” may not sound appealing, but changing your outlook to “having awesome relationships, becoming more attractive, and improving your leadership charisma” is basically the same thing. @14:10

Everyone is always looking for the quick fix or easy way to learn a new skill, but the reality is everyone is different.

Psychology says people in conversation tend to mirror each other. It also says that our body language exposes what we are feeling inside even if we are not trying to show it. So, if we are nervous, our body shows it and whoever we are conversing with mirrors this feeling. This explains why girls get weirded out by guys leaving them to wonder: why? It is not in fact what they did, it is how they are. @21:30

“Your body is a terrible liar” @25:30

People with bigger social circles usually have happier lives, funner social lives, and . larger incomes.

First impressions in sports and in life are made from the first instance you appear on your new teammates radar, not necessarily when you are first introduced. So pay attention to how your body language is coming off. Female sports are even tougher because women are much harder on each other than guys are. @29:30

“Everything good that has happened in my business, 99% of all the positive things that have randomly happened, were through random social connections.” You need to go outside your normal inner circle. “Massive opportunities can be found in situations where you are forced to meet other people.” @36:00

One drill to start working on improving emotional intelligence is through posture. Every time you walk through a doorway, straighten up, keep your shoulders back and your head up and smile. This creates a positive, nonverbal impression. If you do this every time, even in your house, it becomes a habit. This is how we make our first impressions. @40:55