1 Host a clothing-swap fund-raiser, where you pass a hat to raise funds for domestic violence shelters. Identify a needy shelter in your area and register your swap (or find one near you) at swapforgood.org. San Francisco pals Brianna Cayo Cotter, 29, and Orli Cotel, 31, (pictured) launched Swap for Good in April with no money (friends helped design the site). Within months, the nonprofit had raised $2,800. Now the swaps are catching on nationwide.

2 Search using goodsearch.com. Type in "National Domestic Violence Hotline," then surf the Internet as you normally would. The site's browser is powered by Yahoo; every time you search, GoodSearch will donate about a cent to NDVH. With millions of us clicking, that's big money!

3 Shop on October 17 at Macy's or on macys.com. If you buy a "Shop for a Cause" ticket, your $5 will go to the Family Violence Prevention Fund RESPECT! campaign, and you'll save 10 to 20 percent on most purchases, plus 25 percent on one in-store item.

4 Join Liz Claiborne Inc.'s Love Is Not Abuse Coalition at loveisnotabuse.com, to help end teen dating abuse. As a member, you'll learn how to work with educators and legislators to get a dating-abuse education curriculum into schools.

5 Recycle old cell phones, laptops, and other electronics by sending them to Recycle for Domestic Violence (recyclefordomesticviolence.com), and they'll donate to the domestic violence charity of your choice.

6 Text HOTLINE to 85944 to instantly donate $5 to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, which connects those in crisis to local shelters and resources.

7 Donate your clunker car by visiting ncadv.org/takeaction/donateacar.php and all proceeds will benefit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, which supports programs such as safe houses, educational initiatives, and policy development.

8 Accessorize with "Empowerment" tees and jewelry at avon.com. The proceeds will go to the Avon Foundation to end violence against women.

9 Tune in to talk radio on December 8, when hosts nationwide will talk to celebs, advocates, and survivors about how to end the cycle of abuse . It's all part of the seventh annual It's Time to Talk Day.

10 Reach out to a friend who you suspect might be in an abusive relationship. "Gently express your concern and ask questions about her situation, and listen without judgment," suggests Jane Randel, the director of the Love Is Not Abuse campaign. "If she shares evidence of abuse, emphasize that whenever she wants help, you'll be there." Encourage her to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE.

*Underfunded domestic violence agencies had to turn away 9,280 requests for help on an average day in 2009, up 4 percent from 2008.