. . . to feel a bit pissy about giving someone's kid a lift

I offered as they have 2 smaller kids that were out in the cold at night for a 8 o clock pick up on foot. It's not out of my way but will make things a bit more hectic than usual! Just became aware they are rather proud themselves in a hippy type way for managing without a car and actually, compared to myself, are very well off. I will still do it, and not a biggy, but do you think if people are all preachy about not having a car or the expense that goes with it, they should accept lifts ?

When i offered the lift i presumed they were hard up, since discovered that they choose not to drive and slate people who do run a car.. Seeker do you even know what feeling pissy means? I have never considered myself to be mean spirited but hey. . Thanks. I will ask for the thread to be moved to Am I just a Twat

YABU you offered I am sure they can wrap their kids up to walk to pick up dont be all concerned then pissed off for doing it, they didnt ask you you offered, I am not seeing what the problem is just because you are offeneded they dont have a car,

YANBU - I can sort of see where you're coming from. I think you offered because you thought they weren't able to afford a car of their own and then felt a bit annoyed with them slagging off people who drive but quite happy asking for lifts.

I know a couple of people who can drive but are always happy to go somewhere if someone else is driving but won't return the favour as they 'don't like driving'!

I don't have a car either, and I guess, in a way, I am 'proud' that in a very car-orientated World we manage without one. People regularly offer me lifts and I like to think it's because they're just trying to help. It is disconcerting to read that people might offer me help and then resent me for accepting the help! . Luckily, I almost always say 'no we're fine! but thank you!". I only accept offers of lifts if it's raining.

I understand exactly why you are feelng pissy...I have felt the same in similar circumstances. If people want to be holier than thou about their green credentials, their lack of carbon footprint and their super dooper concern for the environment while looking down their noses at we lesser mortals, that's ok.

BUT...when they then accept a lift in my car and STILL bang on about their green credentials, their lack of carbon footprint and their super dooper concern for the environment...that's when I too get just a little bit pissy!

ps, you never know the real reason people don't drive. My brother regularly gives lifts to a colleague with epilepsy. NObody really knows about it. An older man my family is acquainted with (not family) couldn't drive for years as he'd been done for drink driving. He didn't talk about the reason he did not drive.

I'd happily offer lifts to anyone if I was going anyway (and often taking me out of my way) regardless of how much money they have in the bank. And not expect any type of reciprocal favours - it's called being nice.

However if the people I was giving lifts to were then ranting from their moral high ground about how much better than me they were for not having a car I'd certainly be pissed off and not offer again even if I didn't have to go out of my way at all. This would, in my opinion, be worse if they could also actually afford a car / taxi ride.

If that makes me mean spirited then fine. OP YAB a bit U because you did offer but in your shoes I'd be pissed off too.