Psychology of goals

There is infinite literature that tells us about the virtue of goals. But goals alone won’t score any points. Goals need badass drive and determination to become an unstoppable force. If you can be stopped, goals are nothing more than entertaining anecdotes. -from X Fitness Training Manual

Desperation is a force of nature. It has a deep source of power that turns an ordinary goal into a basic survival need. There is infinite literature that tells us about the virtue of goals. But goals alone won’t score any points. Goals need badass drive and determination to become an unstoppable force. If you can be stopped, goals are nothing more than entertaining anecdotes. A goal without fuel is running on empty.

Dreams come true with performance. Dreams don’t just happen. They don’t just materialize by hoping and wishing and thinking warm, fuzzy thoughts. Dreams have to be powered and charged up to make them real. Otherwise, they turn into nightmares

Goals are a message from the inner self, guiding us to where we’re supposed to go and become what we’re supposed to be. But goals have to have guts. Goals have to have substance and we have to have substance to make them happen. No guts, no goals. The unwillingness to spill some guts will leave goals in the starting blocks. Goals will stay in the mind or on the paper they’re written until they fade away with time.

None of what I did as an adult was a childhood goal. I never dreamed of becoming a police officer, a college professor, a writer, or a gym owner. I never dressed up as a cop for Halloween. Never watched cop shows and never even played cops and robbers. Every one of my professions happened out of desperation. I was desperate obese 12-year old, so I started working out. I was a desperate 18-year old who did not want to continue a life of carrying flour bags in a flour mill for the next 50 years so I applied at the nearesr police station. Fifteen years later, I was desperate to not spend the next 30 years in a policing station dealing with the dark side of planet Earth so I applied to become a college professor. Then I was desperate to not spend the rest of my life doing the exact same monotonous unchallenging job every single day, over and over.

But I did dream of becoming a football coach after I read Jerry Kramer’s epic book Instant Replay at the age of 10. That book light a fire. That fire changed lives.