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Tuesday November 19, 2013 6:45 AM

Dear Abby: I am attracted to a man who is 27 years my junior, and he is attracted to me. We have spent time together, and he says he doesn’t care about our age difference. He has also mentioned us living together.

Is this appropriate? I don’t look much older than he does. But I’m from a generation in which this type of thing would be looked down upon. Still, I’m strongly attracted to him.

— His Older Woman in Maryland

Dear Older Woman: In many ways, the world has changed. I assume, however, that you socialize with people in your age group, and your friends might be uncomfortable with the age difference.

I have printed letters from couples in successful May-December relationships. But I would suggest that you let this relationship develop further before deciding whether to move in together — and age has nothing to do with it.

Dear Abby: I have been with my boyfriend for nine months, and I found out that about three months ago he received nude photos from another girl. I don’t do that. I am hurt and torn on what to do. Please help.

— Betrayed in Ohio

Dear Betrayed: If there are no other red flags, don’t waste your time being jealous. Take a lesson from this: The other girl gave him nude pictures of herself, but he’s still with you. If he asks you for similar photos of yourself, don’t do it, because you will gain nothing and could lose a lot of privacy.

Dear Abby: I have a friend I have known for 15 years. We have been through a lot together and have grown through all of our changes. Her wardrobe, however, hasn’t changed. She still dresses like Betty White’s character on The Golden Girls in the 1980s.

She is in a fragile state because of her divorce. How do I tell her to lose the shoulder pads so she can meet someone?

— Wardrobe Mistress in Rhode Island

Dear Wardrobe Mistress: Your impulse to help your friend is laudable, but it would be a mistake to suggest she change her image now. Let some time pass, and then make a date for a day of fun, fashion, beauty and some shopping. When she’s feeling better about herself, mention that now that she’s starting a new life, a new image would help with the transition.

Dear Abby: At sporting events when everyone is asked to remove their hats for the national anthem, does this include females? Shouldn’t women do this to show their respect?

— Stickler in Florida

Dear Stickler: In a theater or at a wedding, the hat should be removed if it blocks someone’s view. At a sporting event, a casual hat should be taken off when the anthem is playing. At more formal events, if the hat is part of the ensemble, it usually stays in place.