Being who I am, the result of centuries, of ancestors, of traditions, heritages and most of all, faith (not religion)- Forty Rules of Love by Elif Shafak, a book, a simple book spoke to me. Even before I reached the end, with every turning page I felt rejuvenated, reincarnated. I understand that no one may understand. But that is not important. What’s important is that if I am lucky, it will stay with me for the rest of my life.

Here are the forty rules that unfold through out the story bearing possibly only the essence of what Shams of Tabriz passed on to Rumi. It might be unreal, it might be fiction but the beauty reflects from every syllable. Read them not at one go but randomly and slowly, savoring each as they unfold.

The Forty Rules (Shams of Tabriz):

How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blame welled inside us. If we see God full of love and compassion, so are we. (p.30)

The Path to the Truth is a labor of the heart, not of the head. Make your heart your primary guide! Not your mind. Meet, challenge and ultimately prevail over your nafs (the evil or egoistic part of your inner self or soul; false ego)with your heart. Knowing your self will lead to the knowledge of God. (p.40)

Each and every reader comprehends the Holy Qur’an on a different level in tandem with the depth of his understanding. There are four levels of insight. The first level is the outer meaning and it is the one that the majority of all people are content with. Next is the Batini- the inner level. Third, there is the inner of the inner. And the fourth level is so deep it cannot be put into words and is therefore bound to remain indescribable. (p.50)

You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe, because God is not confined in a mosque, in a synagogue, or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly His abode is, there is only one place to look for Him; in the heart of a true lover. (p.58)

Intellect anad love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing., but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advises, “Beware too much ecstasy, ” whereas love says, “Oh, never mind! Take the plunge!” Intellect does not easily break down, whereas love can effortlessly reduce itself to rubble. But treasures are hidden among ruins. A broken heart hides treasures. (p.66)

Most of the problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstandings. Don’t ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of love, language as we know it becomes obsolete. That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence. (p.66)

Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself that you are on the right path. Solitude is better for us, as it means being alone withut feeling lonely. But eventually it is best to find a person, the person who will be your mirror. Remember, only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the presence of God within you. (p.72)

Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighbourhood of despair. Even when all doors remained closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! It is easy to be thankful when all is well. A Sufi is thankful not only for what he has been given but also for all that he has been denied. (p.73)

Patience does not mean to passively endure. It means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of a process. What does patience mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience means to be so shortsighted as to be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become ull. (p.74)

East, west, south or north makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey a journey within. If you travel within, you’ll travel the whole wide world and beyond. (p.86)

The midwife knows that when there is no pain, the way for the baby cannot be opened and the mother cannot give birth. Likewise, for a new Self to be born, hardship is necessary. Just as clay needs to go through intense heat to become strong, LOve can only be perfected in pain. (p. 86)

The quest for Love changes us. There is no seeker among those who search for Love who has not matured on the way. The moment you start looking for Love, you start to change within and without. (p.87)

There are more fake gurus and false teachers in this world than the number of stars in the visible universe. Don’t confuse power-driven, self-centered people with true mentors. A genuine spiritual master will not direct your attention to himself or herself and will not expect absolute obedience or utter admiration from you, but instead will help you to appreciate and admire your inner self. True mentors are as transparent as glass. They let the Light of God pass through them. (p.88)

Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come? (p.101)

God is busy with the completion of your work, both outwardly and inwardly. He is fully occupied with you. Every human being is a work in progress that is slowly but inexorably moving towards perfection. We are each an unfinished work of art both waiting and striving to be completed. God deals with each of us separately because humanity is a fine art of skilled penmanship where every single dot is equally important for the entire picture. (p.102)

It’s easy to love a perfect God, unblemished and infallible that He is. What is far more difficult is to love fellow human beings with all their imperfections and defects. Remember, one can only know what one is capable of loving. There is no wisdom without love. Unless we learn to love God’s creation, we can neither truly love nor truly know God. (p.110)

Real filth is the one inside. The rest simply washed off. There is only one type of dirt that cannot be cleansed with pure waters, and that is the stain of hatred and bigotry contaminating the soul. You can purify your body through abstinence and fasting, but only love will purify your heart. (p.111)

The whole universe is contained within a single human being-you. Everything that you see around, including the things you might not be fond of and even the people you despise and abhor, is present within you in varying degrees. Therefore, do not look for Sheitan outside yourself either. The devil is not an extraordinary force that attacks from without. It is an ordinary voice within. If you get to know yourself fully, facing with honesty and hardness both your dark and bright sides, you will arrive at a supreme form of consciousness. When a person knows himself or herself, he or she knows God. (p.112)

If you want to change the way others treat you, you should change the way you treat yourself. Unless you learn to love yourself, fully and sincerely, there is no way you can be loved. Once you achieve that stage, however, be thankful for every thorn that others might throw at you. It is a sign that you will soon be showered in roses. (p.135)

Fret not where the road will take you. Instead concentrate on the first step. That’s the hardest part and that’s what you are responsible for. Once you take that step let everything do what it naturally does and the rest will follow. Do not go with the flow. Be the flow. (p.136)

We were all created in His image, and yet we were each created different and unique. No two people are alike. No two hearts beat to the same rhythm If God had wanted everyone to be same, He would have made it so. Therefore, disrespecting differences and imposing your thoughts on others is tantamount to disrespecting God’s holy scheme. (p.140)

When a true lover of God goes into a tavern, the tavern becomes his chamber of prayer, but when a wine bibber goes into the same chamber, it becomes his tavern. In everything we do, it is our hearts that make the difference, not our outer appearance. Sufis do not judge other people on how they look or who they are. When a Sufi stares at someone, he keeps both eyes closed and instead opens a third eye- the eye that sees the inner realm. (p.141)

Life is a temporary loan, and this world is nothing but a sketchy imitation of Reality. Only children would mistake a toy for the real thing. And yet, human beings either become infatuated with the toy or disrespectfully break it and throw it aside. In this life, stay away from all kinds of extremities, for they will destroy your inner balance. (p.153)

The human being has a unique place among God’s creation. “I breathed into him of My Spirit”, God says. Each and every one of us without exception is designed to be God’s delegate on earth. Ask yourself, just how often do you behave like a delegate, if you ever do so? Remember it falls upon each of us to discover the divine spirit inside and live by it. (p.181)

Hell is in the here and now. So is heaven. Quit worrying about hell or dreaming about heaven, as they are both present inside this very moment. Every time we fall in love, we ascend to heaven. Every time we hate, envy or fight someone, we tumble straight into the fires of hell. (p.182)

The universe is one being. Everything and everyone is interconnected through an invisible web of stories. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are all in a silent conversation. Do no harm. Practice compassion. And do not gossip behind anyone’s back- not even a seemingly innocent remark! The words that come out of our mouths do not vanish but are perpetually stored in infinite space, and they will come back to us in due time. One man’s pain will hurt us all. One man’s joy will make everyone smile. (p.207-8)

The world is like a snowy mountain that echoes your voice. Whatever you speak, good or evil, will somehow come back to you. Therefore, if there is someone who harbors ill thoughts about you, saying similarly bad things about him will only make matters worse. You will locked in a vicious circle of malevolent energy. Instead for forty days and nights, say and think nice things about that person. Everything will be different at the end of the forty days, because you will be different inside. (p.211)

The past is an interpretation. The future is an illusion. The world does not move through time as if it were a straight line, proceeding from the past to the future. Instead time moves through and within us, in endless spirals. Eternity doesn’t mean infinite time, but simply timelessness. If you want to experience eternal illumination, put the past and future out of your mind and remain within the present moment. (p.216)

Destiny doesn’t mean that your life has been strictly predetermined. Therefore, to leave everything to fate and to not actively contribute to the music of the universe is a sign of sheer ignorance. The music of the universe is all-pervading and it is composed on forty different levels. Your destiny is the level where you will play your tune. You might not change your instrument but how well to play is entirely in your hands. (p.221)

The true Sufi is such that even when he is unjustly accused, attacked and condemned from all sides, he patiently endures, uttering not a single bad word about any of his critics. A Sufi never apportions blame. How can there be opponents or rivals or even “others” when there is no “self” in the fist place? How can there be anyone to blame when there is only One? (p.225)

If you want to strengthen your faith, you will need to soften inside. For your faith to be rock solid, your heart needs to eb as soft as feather. Through an illness, accident, loss or fright, one way or another, we all are faced with incidents that teach us how to become less selfish and judgmental and more compassionate and generous. Yet some of us learn the lesson and manage to become milder, while some others end up becoming harsher than before. The only way to get closer to Truth is to expand your heart so that it will encompass all humanity and still have room for more Love. (p.244)

Nothing should stand between yourself and God. Not imams, priests, rabbis, or any other custodians of moral or religious leadership. Not spiritual masters, not even your faith. Believe in your values and your rules but never lord them over others. If you keep breaking other people’s hearts, whatever religious duty you perform is no good. Stay away from all sorts of idolatry, for they will blur your vision. Let God and only God be your guide. Leran the Truth, my friend, but be careful not to make a fetish out of your truths. (p.246)

While everyone in this world strives to get somewhere and become someone only to leave it all behind after death, you aim for the supreme stage of nothingness. Live this life as light and empty as the number zero. We are no different from a pot. It is not the decorations outside but the emptiness inside that holds us straight. Just like that it is not what we aspire to achieve but the consciousness of nothingness that keeps us going. (p.266)

Submission does not mean being weak or passive. It leads to neither fatalism nor capitulation. Just the opposite. True power resides in submission- a power that comes from within. Those who submit to the divine essence of life will live in unperturbed tranquility and peace even when the whole wide world goes through turbulence after turbulence. (p.292)

In this world, it is not similarities or regularities that take us a step forward, but blunt opposites. And all the opposites in the universe are present within each and every one of us. Therefore the believer needs to meet the unbeliever residing within. And the nonbeliever should get to know the silent faithful in him. Until the day one reaches the stage of Insan-i Kâmil, the perfect human being, faith is a gradual process and one that necessitates its seeming opposite. (p.309)

The world is erected upon the principle of reciprocity. Neither a drop of kindness nor a speck of evil will remain unreciprocated. Fear not the plots, deceptions, or tricks of other people. If somebody is setting a trap, remember, so is God. He is the biggest plotter. Not even a leaf stirrs outside God’s knowledge. Simply and fully believe in that. Whatever God does, He does beautifully. (p.330)

God is a meticulous clockmaker. So precise is His order that everything on earth happens in its own time. Neither a minute late nor a minute early. And for everyone without exception, the clock works accurately. For each there is a time to love and a time to die. (p.333)

It is never too late to ask yourself, “Am I ready o change the life I am living? Am I ready to change within?” Even if a single day in your life is the same as the day before, it surely is a pity. At every moment and with each new breath, one should be renewed and renewed again. There is only one way to be born into a new life: to die before death. (p.336)

While the parts change, the whole remains the same. For every thief who departs this world, a new one is born. And every decent person who passes away is replaced by a new one. In this way not only does nothing remain the same but also nothing ever really changes. For every Sufi who dies, another is born somewhere. (p.343-4)

A life without love is of no account. Don’t ask yourself what kind of love you should seek, spiritual or material, divine or mundane, Eastern or Western… Divisions only lead to more divisions. Love has no labels, no definitions. It is what it is, pure ans simple. Love is the water of life. And lover is a soul of fire! The universe turns differently when fire loves water. (p.350)

Here are the compiled Forty Rules to/of Love that I read, wrote and tried to comprehend with the hope that understanding will blossom completely one day. The philosopher in me that stays retracted into its shell deep within in this “real” world came out with each word- the story of Shams of Tabriz and Rumi- I finally chose solitude (didn’t resign to it) to do a little bit of soul-searching. To the devout, understand that this is not about religion, any religion, it is about that all-encompassing thing that we underestimate known as humanity. It is about spirituality, and the God within- call it the power of being, intuition, conscience, your soul or just your alter ego.- but it what is in all of us, the theist, the agnostic, the atheist, the believer, the non-believer, the illuminated or the disillusioned.

Treasured for nothing but my own joy associated with reading and re-reading Elif Shafak’s masterpiece, I’ll sign off with a favorite paragraph from Rumi’s chapter.

Bountiful is your life, full and complete. Or so you think, until someone comes along and makes you realize what you have been missing all this time. Like a mirror that reflects what is absent rather than present, he shows you the void in your soul- the void you have resisted seeing. That person can be a lover, a friend, or a spiritual master. Sometimes it can be a child to look after. What matters is to find advice: Find the one who will be your mirror! For me that mirror is Shams of Tabriz. Until he came and forced me to look into the crannies of my soul, I had not faced the fundamental truth about myself: that though successful and prosperous outside, I was lonely and unfulfilled inside.

“It is time for you to unlearn everything you know.”

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About Guria

An Artist in Science - I am a Misfit 'cause I choose to be one. "Whenever you find that you are on the side of the majority, it is time to reform" And I am a Maverick, because, I'm... umm... brilliant?

I agree but they say there's something special about the number 40. But very honestly, the compilation here was solely for my selfish reasons- so that I have them at my fingertips. Like I say, don't read all of them at a go, but randomly but what's better- read the book- you'll enjoy it. 🙂