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OT -Need date advice from the women

So i went out on my first official date 2 weeks ago. I joined one of those on-line sites and never thought anything would come about. Anyways i started talking to this girl that lives in the next town over and decided that we would go out one night. Ok, i have to admit i was very nervous abot the whole thing, heck its been 15 years since I have went out. The night seem to go pretty smooth. This may sound stupid, but I have no idea what she thought about me. We talked and seem to have a lot in common. She is divorced with kids also. I dont want to look like i am desperate, so how do you know if the other person is interested? What do I look for? We keep in contact still, so i am guessing i didnt scare her too bad...lol. But then again maybe she is just being nice. Should i be more forward and just ask? Another strange thing happened at my physical therapy session, I THINK i got hit on? This gal who i think is very attractive were talking during my appointment (she knows im going through a divorce) and said that i was a good looking guy and should go out with her and a few others in the office some night for some drinks and laughs. My thought is, i wonder if she just feels sorry for me because of my health and divorce or was she hitting on me?

Im soooo rusty, just looking for some advice and pass some time today....thanks again all my DS friends...

Don't play games, but be cautious with your heart. I met my stbx online as well... you will know if she is interested, you will feel it. Read up on body language... if she is engaged in coversation, and she told you she had a really nice time with you, she probably did. Maybe you could call her for a coffee to reassess outside of a &quot;date&quot; situation. If your conversation goes for hours, as mine did, there is obviously something there.

The woman in your physical therapy session was hitting on you. Somewhere in this forum, maybe in the &quot;Question for the guys&quot; thread, there was a suggestion that women ask out men in just such a manner.

The woman you went out with is probably waiting for you to ask her out again. Sure, there's always the possibility she might not be interested and is just being nice to you, but it sounds like you still talk regularly, and if that's the case, then she didn't have a bad time.

its VERY COLD!!! Gotta love MN. I was thinking the same about my therapist....seemed like an odd conversation...she mentioned she had a boyfriend but they were having issues...I guess i just need some practice, i dont know what to think or look for. Kinda fun though, a couple of months back i never thought i would actually be looking forward to meeting new people!

I'd say play it cool. I've been on dates where within 5 minues of leaving the guy is non-stop texting me, then a few hours later calling me, then leaving e-mails which says &quot;I want smother you&quot;. I would say give it a few days (2) and then give her another call. You will know by her voice if she's receptive...and in the meantime, she may even contact YOU. I like a few days in between dates with no contact. It makes you think things over, replay the date in your head and gives you time to think about this person...and wonder if they're thinking about you. After all, isn't the starting out and getting to know each other the best part?

As for the woman in the PT, go for it. Next time you go say &quot;Hey I'm ready to take you up on you letting me take you out. When would you like to go?&quot; See what she says.

the lady from online...if she wasn't at least somewhat interested, she wouldn't still be communicating with you - ask her out again (if you want) and see how that goes - it's just a date -

the lady from therapy...she's interested too..but be a little more careful with that one - especially since she said she had a bf &amp; they are having issues. she may be &quot;fishing&quot;...don't want to get caught up in someone else's drama. and in my opinion, if you KNOW you &amp; your stbx will NOT be getting back etc, it's ok to start dating before the divorce is completely final. some people are very uncomfortable with that, others aren't. me personally...i feel if there is NO chance to reconcile, it's ok to date...just don't go getting engaged etc...kinda like the old saying &quot;don't jump from the fire into the fryin' pan&quot;...

i hear ya pitbull,,,there is no chance for the stbx and i to get back together. LOL, and no i dont plan on jumping back into the fire...probably never will, but i will have fun looking for that special somebody,,,,you just never know!

You should definitely ask the online date out again. It is so easy to just stop contact after a first date and the fact that she didn't means she is at least interested in seeing where things might go. Have some fun!

I'm in Minnesota too....was that you? Just kidding. Nothing ventured nothing gained. I would just be honest yet not intense. We do have Minnesota Nice here, but if she wasn't interested she'd politely brush you off.

Now, for the gal that invited you to drinks with friends, well, that sounds like fun. You never know where you'll make new friends, or possibly more.

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