yeah. It could be that he doesn't mean 'that' at all and just wants to watch a film or something but if you don't feel comfortable then don't go to his. You could always suggest doing something new. Perhaps the cinema or go for a meal? You could even explore the local area together. You can do nice new things together to keep it interesting without going to each others places. Maybe at some point in the future if/when you do want him to go to one of your places you could invite a few of yours/his friends over to yours to watch a film or for some food. That way you will feel safer with people around and the first time you are at one another's house you will not be alone and it won't feel like a big event.

As far as my own relationships go...Next monday I will have been in a relationship for a year. That will make it the longest (and definitely best) relationship I've been in.

Steph wrote:Sorry-I can't help in this area-got asked out the Sunday before last and then dumped 4 days later because he didn't want a non Catholic girlfriend with disabilities so I'm a bit bitter at the moment Best of luck with your relationship though-does he know about your dyspraxia? If not, tell him because he needs to know if he's going to be in a close relationship with you. Just try to keep it cool and enoy yourself getting to know each other even better than you already do! Good luck-I'm rooting for you Don't let my story put you off by the way-I'm just cursed when it comes to men!

Where you said "does he know about your dyspraxia" why does he need to know?

I think, if you are going to be in a relationship with someone which you hope will be serious and long term, your partner will need to know. I don't know about you but certain aspects of my dyspraxia are obvious and make people think I am incredibly strange-eg, sensitivity to certain noises or lights, tactile defensiveness, a general inability to coordinate my limbs etc. I also think it's a point of trust-if I am going to be with someone, I would want them to know everything about me-no secrets-and that includes knowing about dyspraxia. Everybody's different but my personal opinion is that it's better to be honest with people who you hope to have an intimate relationship with.

I agree with steph even if you don't tell him straight away, it is a good thing for him to know.
I didn't tell my boyfriend until we had been going out a few months and I found this has helped as he knows what I have trouble with and tries to help me.
He's even agreed to read Caged in chaos which I was quite suprised about as he doesnt read very much.
So if you have the book and he will read it this may be a good idea, as I no talking about a disability at first can be quite awkward.

my partner knew about my dyspraxia before we were together. I am clearly odd and so they were interested in why. I felt able to trust them, to the point of htem being who I spoke to about my panic about going to be tested at university.

I have told many of my long-term friends about "it." You have to be able to trust them with the information first though. I usually wait a while before I can tell them about it. All my friends are very trustworthy and I wouldn't tell them if they weren't. I don't have a boyfriend, but if I did, I would tell him at some point in the relationship when I think it is getting more serious. That is what I would suggest for you and your boyfriend/girlfriend/friend.

Brian13 wrote: Parnauss, getting drunk purposely might be forbidden in Catholicism but no one knows and most likely no one cares.

Not many pepole know it's specifically forbidden, but it doesn't take a genius to figure it out from other rules about how to conduct ones self. And of course pepole care if they should or shouldn't do something.