For a few months now, I have been trying to stir Alex's interest for the sounds and letters in his name in preparation for his first school year. It was quite a difficult task when you know that the subjects does not interest him at all.

I chose to use a gentle and flexible approach where I take advantage of all opportunities to mention sounds and letters in activities involving senses. We have played I spy a lot, but then he clearly said to me that he didn't like the game. I have tried to make him aware of the singsong of rhyming stories such as the Gruffalo and a Roald Dahl collection of stories and although he enjoyed the stories he didn't seem to notice the difference with books in prose. We talked about the sounds in his name, and even traced a and l in script in the sand tray. He really liked tracing l, a vertical line is simple enough to give him the feeling that he can write. We did an activity where he had to sort pictures according to the first sound of the objects being a or l. Since he didn't really show an interest I haven't yet introduced the last two letters of his name. However, I gave him a little booklet with his sandpaper name to trace, hoping that he would show an interest. After almost a month, the booklet is still in the same place where I originally put it in his bedroom.

Because of the holidays, it has now been a few weeks since the last workshop with Alex. This week, he asked me twice to tell him the first sound of his name, and asked for the first sound in his brother's name. He noticed that l was also in his name. He is slowly starting to show an interest in sounds, which proves that all the things I did with him in the last months were registered after all. I am happy that I gave him time to digest it all in his own time, and now I am trying to only give him the information that he asks me for, so he can guide his learning as much as possible. He seems to be on the track and should now be able to lead his learning in an autonomous manner, with only my answers to his questions to guide him. I have no doubt that his questions are going to rush one after the other in the weeks to come and that connexions in his brain will be made.

The workshops with him are now over, and he seems closer and closer to school readiness. For me, it is a small victory and a very enriching experience. The lesson I will remember will be not to let myself give up by a child who doesn't show any interest but to keep try in a gentle and flexible way, without ever forcing a child to do an activity which he does not want to do, to not risk creating a rejection. It might be weeks or months, but everything they hear and do will be engraved in their unconscious mind, ready to be used whenever the time is right.

Hi and welcome! My name is Elsa. A certified Montessori assistant, I am passionate about children's learning and alternative methods of education. I am currently pregnant with my first baby and like most new mums, have few expectations and plenty of questions on how best to raise a child. From now on, this blog will not only be about children's learning but also broader questionings about life with small children.