Life lessons after 3 years...

"I am 0% of the person I was three years ago and I probably would get into a fight with 2011 me." Ah this quote, it's so good! It made me smile and inspired me to write this blog post.

Next week marks 3 years in the Killem With Chic biz! The past 3 years have been nothing but transformational, not just because I decided to start my own shit but because I had the courage to finally listen to my soul / my higher calling and pursue it. Killem With Chic started off as a fashion blog. I saw this quote "CHIC - Creating Happiness, Inspiring Confidence" and thought that's the sort of movement I'd like to create. I shortly after decided to make some money through that fashion blog so started a tee shirt line... and whoa it did well, so well that I was able to make it my full time gig. I then thought my tee shirts are ruurrl cute and all but what am I doing to make a difference? What am I doing to Create Happiness, Inspire Confidence? The Le Chic Blog, The I Don't Give A Chic Podcast, and Restyle Your Mind were born. For me this brand is so much more than a tee shirt line. I want to change the world. I want to make the world a better place simply because I was in it. Like I mentioned earlier the past 3 years have been nothing but transformational. I have learned and have realized a whole lot so I wanted to share what I have come to know.

I have learned that life is a process. We are constantly learning or unlearning to become better versions of ourselves. I have learned that shit is going to happen and sometimes the only thing we have control over is how to react to the shit that is happening. I have learned to trust the universe and to trust the timing in life. I have learned to never rely on a man. I have learned that although I rock a Chanel bag, material things don't really mean shit. I have realized that you can be a badass without being a bitch. You can be spiritual and successful. You can be smart without a college degree. You can be a motherfucking gangsta and still be a women who radiates positivity and love. You can have it all and be whoever the hell you want.

After my mom passed away in 2015, I realized that your whole world can change from one second to another. This very moment is the only thing that truly matters. It taught me to stay present. To be grateful for life. It made me realize that we are here to connect, to share our love and to share who we are with the world. I realized that we can either impact other people's life in a positive or in a negative way. Her passing also made me realize how connected we really are to everything, I mean EVERYTHING and we can feel that connection through raising our consciousness and becoming more soulful; your perspective changes and you can see the world through a different lens. I have realized that everything is energy. I have realized that loving yourself is vital to your happiness. I have realized that not all relationships are meant to last forever. I have realized that negative energy scares the money away. I have realized that what we put out into the world is what we receive back; send good vibes out, good vibes comes back, send bad vibes out, bad vibes comes back. I realized that thoughts, ideas, intuition, that gut feeling of wanting to create / wanting to start something isn't by accident. God / the universe / whatever it is you do or do not believe in gifts you these ideas for a reason, it's up to you to stop being a little pansy and take action. You have one life, choose to live it. The most important lesson my mother's death taught me is love. Minutes before she passed my brother and I felt this overwhelming sense of peace and love come over us. Here I was going through something so tragic and all I could feel was gratitude and love, she did that. Love is magic. I now make it my life mission to live in that space. To do everything through love.