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My postings about handwriting are not to turn anyone into an overnight graphologist…rather they are to bring attention to the amount of control our subconscious minds have over our everyday lives. Your handwriting will change over time and sometimes by the day, it’s all based on our current state. It’s important to understand how the subconscious mind operates, to proactively live your life as opposed to reacting to it. Too often we find ourselves in the midst of a situation asking,”How did I get here?” and “How do I get out of this one?”

Our subconscious minds run, arguably, around 90% of our daily operations. For example, have you ever been driving to a routine destination and once you get there you don’t remember the trip, or pass an exit while deep in thought about an issue? You were on auto-pilot, your subconscious was driving while you were off in wonderland. So how do we train our subconscious to aid in making our lives better? The same way we trained it to make our lives what they are now…repitition. Where we operate in our lives now is a direct result of what we’ve trained our minds to accept as ‘normal’. So, we are actually succesful in what we’ve conditioned and trained ourselves to be. So, if you’ve ever tried changing something about yourself but found that it just didn’t work, consider that 10% of your mind is fighting with the 90%…who do you think is going to win?

What does all of this have to do with handwriting? Our handwriting is merely a manifestation of our feelings on paper. It ultimately doesn’t matter what is written, you can tell how a person really feels by how they write. Because our handwriting is controlled by our subconscious we can consciously change our handwriting to affect changes in our behavior…I swear by this! No, it doesn’t happen overnight…it has to be exercised repeatedly. Each time you consciously remind yourself of why you’re writing differently it’s suggesting to your subconscious that it has to change… until it becomes automatic!

Here are some tips for change: (By the way Physical in my writings means extrovert and Emotional means introvert)

I would like to be more out going and extroverted (Want to be more of a Physical) : If your writing is small and leans to the left or straight up and down, write larger and lean your words more to the right. If your writing already fits this pattern, exaggerate it even more always keeping in mind why you’re doing it.

I would like to be less dramatic and take the time to think before I speak (Want to become more of an Emotional): Your writing is probably huge! Make a point to write smaller and sign your name smaller as well. Keeping in mind why you’re doing it each time.

I would like to feel more optimistic: When you write, slant all of your sentences upward…keeping in mind each time, why you’re doing it.

I am horrible with time management: Make sure that your margins on each side of the page are equally spaced…keeping in mind why you’re doing it each time.

I know there will be detractors to this concept as there were the last time, but I encourage you to try this if for no other reason…you’ve been trying everything else, why not try something different to get different results!

So, let me say that of course, of course, of course…this doesn’t solve all of your life’s problems, it may not even work for some people. Again my point here is to bring awareness to how we are reactive to life as opposed to proactive and this is what causes many of our life’s issues. You will encounter a lot less stress in your life approaching from this angle. It’s not that issues will not come to you…I promise they will but, isn’t driving a lot easier …now that you know how to drive?

Talk to any writer and they’ll tell you of the overwhelming feeling of anxiety that comes when staring at a blank page. Be it stagnation from a temporary block or not being able to get it all out fast enough, the experience can be quite daunting.

Take a look at a sheet of paper. Notice how the lines create a boxing-in effect, the page itself is a box. This box represents our lives and the lines are the days of our lives. The top of the page indicates the beginning of our lives where nothing is written but our names. We learn to respond to being called by this label. As we go down the page it would start to be filled with what we were told that life is all about. The middle part of the page would represent us beginning to understand what we’ve been told and the process of acting accordingly. The bottom of the page would represent how we began to live our lives according to what we’ve learned and now understand.

Today I’d like to propose something to you that would change your life as you now know it… turn the page over! That’s right. Turn over the page and this time you get to name yourself! This time you get to write your own path. Who do you want to be? Where would you like to go? You are now in control, all you have to do is write it down and act on it! Once you’ve filled that page…go to the next one and keep writing until the book of your life is done. I promise, it really is that simple.

So, let there be a great sound in the air from the sound of pens scratching the paper and boots hitting the ground… let’s go!