Getting in a “New York State of Mind”

I am who I am. Period. This is the tagline I’ve elected for New York City. I had the pleasure of spending a few days there last week… wow, that city is one hell of a diva! NYC is filled with characters of all shapes and sizes, of all economic situations and professions, and millions of personalities. New Yorkers are real, and sometimes a little rough around the edges. They don’t play games. I love them.

So what can we learn from the ferocious and sometimes intimidating energy that oozes out of those Yankees? I’ve boiled it down to three main things that I think contribute to this city’s success as the thriving center of the financial, fashion, and fun capital of the American woman’s universe.

1. Confidence

You see it in the wardrobe choices of women walking through the meatpacking district. You hear it in the voices of Wall Street moguls as they bluntly state what needs to be done into their blackberries. They know they matter. And you know what, you do too. One of our basic emotional needs is to feel significant. Check yourself… notice where you are making an impact in your community, and then stand confidently knowing you’re doing your part.

2. Decisiveness

New Yorkers know what they want. If you go to the front of the deli counter and haven’t already perfected your order, you will be skipped over. No it’s not anything personal, there’s just about 15 others people who DO know what they want, and in NY they take priority. Practice this skill of quickly and efficiently making decisions, without second guessing yourself. It will save you a lot of time and energy.

3. Authenticity

It feels so good to just be yourself, and not feel judged. And New York City is the perfect platform for full expression with its thriving arts industry and progressive political policies. In a city of 8 million people you’re bound to find other people who also love wearing 7 inch Louboutin heels, sneak chocolate chip cookies from their nightstand, and skip work to read Fifty Shades of Grey. Enjoy that freedom in your own life. Be yourself, and don’t apologize for it. The world needs you just as you are!

This week embrace your inner-New Yorker. Notice when you tend to shy away or avoid expressing yourself. Be bold, strong, and maybe even a little loud. You just might surprise yourself while you’re ordering that morning bagel.

About the Author

Rebecca Niziol

Rebecca Niziol, ELI-MP, is many things: a life coach, yoga teacher, dancer, event planner, connection catalyst, and your new best friend. Her mission is to empower others to live the authentic life of their dreams. After years of traveling North America and Europe, she is happy to have found a home and community in Chicago.