(Closed) The Breaking Point

I feel like I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown over my invitations. Sure, they’re super awesome (if I do say so myself), but they’re turning out to be time and labor intensive, more so then I expected, and the near total lack of support from every person in my life is making the stress of trying to finish them and get them in the mail too much.

I have had to beg, plead, nag, scream, and cry to get the most begruding of help from my FI. I have given him the simplest of tasks requiring almost no effort on his part and usually he fails to do them, which stresses me out more because then I end up having to do them anyway AND I’m pissed off at him. My brother, who I just helped move in with us for the summer, got into the middle of our most recent argument and took my FI’s side.

I just feel SO overwhelmed with everything! Wedding planning/invite worries are the straw which is going to break me I fear! I am job hunting, finishing my thesis (due at the end of July in order to graduate!), working a job I hate, rearranged my whole house so my brother could move in, cooking, cleaning, AND trying to have a social life before all my friends move to other cities (seriously, by the end of summer I’ll have a whole 2-3 friends left!).

Does anyone have any suggestions to make the invitation creation process easier? How do I get help on this thing without having a breakdown from the stress of trying to get help?! Can I throw all the paper in the recycle bin and just call it a day?!

Break the job into little tasks that way when you finish one you feel accomplished. “stamp envelopes, write on addresses, etc.” I’m a list person and this helps me. Sometimes even just making the list calms me.

@kate6214: I have been trying to do this, it still seems like there is SO much to do before I can get these out and I worry people are going to get zero time to form a RSVP reply.

@ayguera: I’m actually going to be in Chicago today! I’m visiting a friend I’ve not seen since before he got married back in January. I’m not sure you really want me hauling the whole crap ton of supplies, paper, etc. that make up my invites into your home! 🙂 Thank you for the offer though!

Also, UPDATE: My brother’s girlfriend was over for dinner last night, and SHE helped me stick invitations onto the pocketfolds while I finished printing the RSVP cards and cutting envelope liners. Why is it she could totally understand the stress of the situation but my brother and FI are totally oblivious?!

@rabbit: First of all: men are hopeless when it comes to understanding why we ladies want these paper things this way or that way.. most of them sees the invites as just a piece of paper.

Second: my FI is a total screwup when it comes to making anything so i kinda knew i wouldn’t get any help from him.. Low expectations, no dissapointment. Offcourse i have had my share of freakouts on our invites but i wanted to make them diy so therefore i can’t blame anyone else than myself.

Here’s an idea: why don’t you invite all your friends for a girls night with some wine ad cheese and they can help you with your invites and you all get to catch up on the sosialising =)