How To Handle Jealousy

Sometimes knowing how to control jealousy is complicated, but it is something that is absolutely necessary. We must learn to control our emotions and jealousy before we are out of control.

One of the easiest ways to break a perfectly good pair is starting to get jealous. Control jealousy is essential to maintain a healthy relationship. Here are 10 tips on how to take control of jealousy and our lives as a whole.

How to handle jealousy:

1. Find the root of your jealousy.

Why do you feel jealous? You should find the reason for being jealous and find ways to put an end to it. You must learn to control jealousy before they destroy your relationship. You must prioritize this, because this is a very serious problem.

Some people seem unaware that they are jealous. Think if you have some signs that you are jealous and try to address them immediately. Don’t wait for it to become worse since it will be more difficult for you to take care of it if it does. Don’t go into the denial stage either so seek help immediately.

2. Do not be so quick to assume the worst.

Do not assume that your partner has already done the worst thing possible. Hear his or her side first before making any judgments. Don’t let your bad experiences be the reason for you to lose trust in your partner.

3. Ask questions.

When you feel doubt, it’s okay to ask questions but don’t make it sound like an interrogation. Ask what upsets you, and let him give you answers. Do not keep your questions in your mind. Better ask it immediately so as to avoid more misinterpretation and distrust.

4. Take advantage of your jealousy.

Take advantage of your jealousy and get something good out of them. Try using it to motivate you to find things to improve and change situations.You must use your jealousy to be a source of motivation, not to rock you and upset you or else it will be useless and will only destroy you. Use this feeling to make yourself a better person not only physically but also in character.

5. Do not compare yourself with anyone.

Do not compare yourself with others, at least not consistently. Each person is different and those differences are what make us better, special, and not worse. It is not good comparing with other people and feeling inferior to them. As much as possible avoid comparing yourself with others.

6. Express your feelings.

Communication is one of the best tools we have to combat these feelings of jealousy, why not use it? Talk to your partner about what makes you jealous during times when it occurs. We must speak and not simply think about anything that bothers you.

Talk to your partner from situations that cause jealousy. Do not argue, but talk about it. Make him see in what situations you feel uncomfortable and jealous to allow you to clarify your doubts and fears.

7. Trust yourself.

Jealousy and envy are often the result of poor self-esteem. Are you sure of yourself? Are you afraid that your partner will leave you for another woman who has the characteristics that you lack? Don’t let yourself be bothered by such thoughts. Find ways to improve yourself so your partner’s attention will not wander.

8. Put yourself in his place.

Feeling bad without seeing some things from both sides is very easy. Before risking everything and becoming angry, try to put yourself in his shoes so you will see things from his side. Imagine yourself in his place and think how you would feel if he is jealous. You might understand even a little how he feels too.

9. Look for other couples.

Sometimes we do not realize what we’re doing wrong until someone else does. No doubt in more than one occasion you saw a couple arguing because one of them gets jealous. It is helpful to see a couple in the midst of a conflict due to jealousy, and is often caused by petty things. When you learn to identify jealousy in the other place you can better recognize it when you or your partner experience it too.

10. Learn to trust.

To control jealousy, you have to learn to trust. To have a good relationship there must be trust. You need to trust that your partner can take the right decision when he is faced with some problems.

Finally, if even with all these tips and yet you still cannot control the jealousy, you are in a critical situation in your relationship so consider seeking professional help. I hope these tips will help you overcome jealousy.