In 2011, my sister Lola passed away from kidney failure. Since then, she’s visited me 3 times in my dreams. Each time, she looks beautiful, healthy and as if she’s in her 20’s. Ironically, I have only seen one old person in my dreams and I see myself and others in their 20’s as well (I turn 56 this year).

The first time I saw her, I was climbing up a large staircase to enter some sort of boat, which felt like a Navy-type boat. At the top of the steps, we had to follow a maze-like pathway to get to wherever we were going. As I rounded one corner, I saw my sister standing there talking to a young man in his 20’s. I was smiling at her as she glanced at me, but kept talking to this young man. Eventually, the young man left and I approached my sister and said, “Why didn’t you say anything to me?” She said, “Because it’s not your time (to be here.”

When we cross over to the other side, we become multidimensional. If you were to cross over and see your siblings and parents, they would appear to you as you see them in your mind’s eye.

For me, I see my parents as if they’re in their 40’s in my mind’s eye (younger than I am physically today). If my parents were deceased and I crossed over to the other side, I would still see them as if they were in their 40’s, while my sister would see me at whatever age she sees me as in her mind’s eye. My grandparents would probably see my parents as being much younger than how I see them, but if we were all together, we would all see each other somewhat differently as our perceived ages are merely energy signatures emanating from our souls in conjunction with our cellular DNA imprints.

Shortly after my sister died, my father took her loss especially hard. He told my mother, “I just wish I could have hugged her one more time.” That night, he was visited by my sister in his dreams. She knocked on the door to his house. When he answered the knock, she was standing there, looking like she was in her 20’s, according to my father. He asked, “Why did you knock? Why didn’t you just come in?” She answered, “Because I just wanted to hug you one last time.”

How can I have loved ones visit me in my dreams?

Some people would love to see their deceased loved ones in their dreams, while others prefer to wait until they cross over to the other side.

If you would like to see a deceased loved one, simple ask your spirit guides and guardian angels to help you make it happen. You may also want to connect your higher self to that of your loved one to grant visitation permission.

According to the work of Jennifer E. Shorter and her doctoral project “Visitation Dreams in Grieving Individuals: A Phenomenological Inquiry into the Relationship Between Dreams and the Grieving” (Shorter, 2009; Palo Alto CA), the following are some common elements of visitation dreams:

The deceased appeared as they did in life rather than as they did when they fell ill. In fact the deceased often appeared much younger or more healthy than when they died. The deceased conveyed reassurance to the dreamer. “I am OK and still with you” This message tended to be conveyed telepathically or mentally rather than via spoken word. The dream structure was NOT disorganized or bizarre. Instead visitation dreams are typically clear, vivid, intense and are experienced as real visits when the dreamer awakens. The dreamer is always changed by the experience. There is resolution of the grieving process and/or a wider spiritual perspective.

They may be visiting you while you’re awake!

Deceased loved ones may send us signs that they’re with us while we are awake. For example, you may be out for a walk and you’ll see a single white feather. Or, you may see many single white feathers throughout your walk.

One time, a single white feather floated through a small rip in my caged pool screen a couple years ago. The first person I thought of was my sister.

You may also get signs that a loved one is nearby when you experience electrical anomalies (e.g. lights flickering or turning on or off, fans turning on and off, etc…).

It is never easy losing a loved one but rest assured that they are healthy, happy, and vibrant!

Have a deceased loved one ever visited you in a dream? If so, comment below!