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30I've been a member of quite an interesting group. It's called "The G-spot" and it's a place for open, honest discussion about sexuality. The best part about it is that it is a judgement-free zone, so if a mom has a question or is looking for suggestions and advice, this is a great place to go. All walks of life are welcome, and no question will be turned away.

Did I mention I'm the Group Owner now? I want to do my predecessor proud!

We all did it to become moms-- why not find new ways to enjoy it?

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1489837/Curious_muchSat, 27 Jun 2009 12:18:17 EDTHave you ever noticed that the musicians that have written about fleeting fame have enjoyed extended success?

I'm just listening to a Billy Joel concert and he's singing "The Entertainer." Let's think... Fame by David Bowie... Have a Cigar by Pink Floyd... Shooting Star by Bad Company...

anyone want to add in?

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1123856/I_am_the_EntertainerWed, 23 Jul 2008 21:39:53 EDTHe's only gained one ounce! In two months! I've been feeding and nursing like it's going out of style, but to no avail. Now I have to supplement with formula-- blech. I've also had to re-up my efforts to maintain my breast milk supply. I stopped using a pump when I stopped working-- perhaps I should go back to it. He'll need a supply for when he goes back to day care in September anyway.

I'm just so upset that I haven't helped my baby. I thought he was getting bigger-- he felt bigger. His clothes fit differently. I love nursing him. And I hate bottles and formula. (Don't get me wrong, I have used formula for the other two, and have no problem with other moms who use formula. But I just didn't want it for Nico.)

I still can't believe it. I freaking adore this guy. He's an awesome singer, and you just want him to be a great husband and father, just to buck the sterotype of the touring rock musician. I know Barenaked Ladies is not the world's most famous band, but you just come to expect more from them. They are genuinely good guys.

Embarassing. But Steve? I totally believe you will see yourself through this. You just better freaking hope your wife will be there for you.

In the days of instant gratification, we can't wait long enough to allow a movie star to blossom. They're either hot, or they're not. Heath Ledger had a chance-- but he was taken away too soon, especially considering the Oscar buzz about his "Dark Knight" performance. Will Smith makes pretty good movies, but he's pretty much written off as the "the token black guy" in Hollywood. Harrison Ford is "too old." So is Morgan Freeman, Meryl Streep, and Susan Sarandon. It's a shame-- the American public wants"throwaway" stars, to match all the other disposable stuff.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1109978/Death_of_the_modern_movie_starWed, 16 Jul 2008 17:09:40 EDTSo two years ago today, I was at my brother-in-law's HS graduation party. My back had been hurting for the 2nd day straight, and I just couldn't sit still. I thought it was gas. People asked me if I was in labor, and to be honest, I didn't really know. I had been induced after my water broke with Matthew. I carried on as normally as I could. Since Matty had been at the pool, DH gave him a bath, while I laid down for a few minutes... that's when I realized the pain had become more regular and more intense. So when we got MIL to the house, we were off to the hospital. Kevin was born at 9:59, after 2 hours in the hospital, one episiotomy, and 6 pushes.

We always joke that Kevin was a born eater. He was always very chubby. He seems kind of short for his age, and we just chalk him up to being built like a brick. However, the last few weeks, he's really gotten taller without gaining weight. His muscles are becoming more defined, and he loves to show his (markedly thinner) belly.

He's not much of a talker, which I have heard is normal for 2nd children. Now that he keeps his binky out of his mouth most of the time, he does get some phrases together.

He's a daredevil. I'll never forget the first time I saw him break down the gate at the top of the stairs, smile at me and say, "buh-bye!" I didn't think I could run that fast anymore! He tries to climb furniture, bust into the kitchen (did I mention he's a born eat]]>

I knew this guy in college-- he worked in Campus Ministry when I was a cantor for the chapel at Seton Hall University.

Wow.

Whatever you have to say about the war, the peopl stuck with the job of actually fighting it are damned brave.

I'm praying for you and your family, Captain Dalessio. Thank you for your sacrifice.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1075317/Thank_you_GregFri, 27 Jun 2008 15:25:24 EDTWe started after dinner. Everyone was talking, but that quickly subsided. Some of the people who are going, weren't there. My son was trying to climb over the side of the deck. MIL and SIL were talking to each other without listening. A lot of food and toiletry ideas were bandied about.

And then it was over.

I flaked. And I have to apologize to lmdb for not urging her to say something. I promised I would.

So I did what I could. I took my youngest BIL aside and asked him to watch his language while we're in the beach house. He totally understood. I'll be talking to the other siblings one-on-one over the course of the next two weeks. It's not much, but it's something I can do to ensure that Lee and I will actually enjoy our vacation.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1022449/Beach_House_x_posted_in_LJSun, 01 Jun 2008 21:44:44 EDTTook Nico to the doctor for a well-baby check. He's edging underweight. Apparently he's not eating enough. He's pretty much an "on-demand" eater when we're together, but I have him to about 5-10 ounces when he's at day care. He's content when he eats what they give him, so I figured he's just small. They said I could start with cereal and to come back in a month. I might just call them if I weigh him at home.

He got 4 shots and the oral Rotavirus vaccine. Why? Because that's what the baby book says. I am all for people who make the conscious decision to reject recommended vaccinations, but frankly, I can't understand why. Who in the room has the medical degree and has cared for literally thousands of children? Not me.

Besides, my aunt is recovering from breast cancer. She can't be around unvaccinated children.

The day care had to give him formula yesterday-- first time in his life. He didn't throw up-- at least, no more than usual. I'm taking Fenugreek and Blessed Thistle to increase my supply, and pumping whenever I can. even if only an ounce comes out. (Brewer's Yeast helps too. I was drinking one bottle of Sam Adams Light daily for a week or so-- but I can't take beer to work... as much as I could use it! But seriously, I can get Yeast caplets at a health food store)

We'll be together all summer, starting in two weeks. I'd like to never need that formu]]>

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1019876/Baby_updateSat, 31 May 2008 09:48:01 EDTToday, May 18th, is Matthew's 4th birthday. Was there a huge shindig? An afternoon at Chuck E. Cheese? Ponies? nope.

Bought bagels for breakfast. Took him to Toys R Us and got him some Thomas tracks (actually, Imaginarium... they're like a quarter of the price). Mac and Cheese with Fish Tenders for dinner. And I'll tell ya-- I haven't seen the boy this content in a while now.

So Happy Birthday Matthew. All things considered, I wouldn't have you any other way. You are my first, and you are my heart. Always.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/995275/Happy_Birthday_Matty_me_boySun, 18 May 2008 19:43:00 EDTI'm nursing my 3rd baby-- he's almost 4 months now. I've been back at work and pumping so that he is still exclusively on breastmilk.

A couple weeks ago I jumped my husband-- seriously, I woke up and woke him up. Soon after, my abdomen was tightening up, boobs were tingling, and milk supply reduced severely. Could I have gotten pregnant? I was freaking out.

I made sure to take Fenugreek and Blessed Thistle to keep up my supply. I went about my business and kept it to myself.

My period started yesterday. I had been cramping something awful all week. I'm glad and diappointed at the same time. I didn't want another baby 4 months after having one, but this is not the way I wanted to be sure I was not pregnant.

When I took a shower before bed last night, I was bleeding like a stuck pig. It was awful. Like my period, but much worse.

I went to the baby book to read about miscarriage. It gave no useful info, since the purpose of the book is to reassure expectant mothers.

I had been drinking wine, but I'm not sure it made that much of a difference.

I might just be freaking myself out. But I just don't know for sure what happened to me.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/993138/What_happened_to_meSat, 17 May 2008 10:08:42 EDTI invited 10 people. One was actually able to show up. I'll try not to read into it too much.

I'm gonna try it again in a couple weeks.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/992738/What_a_bustFri, 16 May 2008 23:21:35 EDThttp://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/988163/Girls_night_in_on_the_other_hand
http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/988163/Girls_night_in_on_the_other_handWed, 14 May 2008 21:08:08 EDTThe Wednesday before Easter, a mother decided to take a "day off' from her life. She had done it before-- usually came home a day or two later. After several days had past, not to mention a family holiday, those who loved her were deeply concerned. Her car was found at a nearby hotel, but she was still missing.

A man was collecting cans for recycling near a pipeline. It was there that a decomposing body was discovered. It was soon identified as the missing mother of 5, including triplet girls.

Because of pre-existing medical concerns, it is believed that no foul play is involved.

She will be buried tomorrow. Due to the public outcry over her tragic death, the school community will grieve as one as school will be closed. Those who knew the family are encouraged to attend the Funeral Mass. Those who do not are asked to keep the family, which includes 3 foster children, in their thoughts and prayers.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/975131/And_2_days_before_Mother_s_DayThu, 08 May 2008 15:59:21 EDT I had the weirdest dream the other day... I wasn't even going to write about it, but I keep remembering it, so I think a purge is necessary.

My sister-in-law (not the one who can read this) stole my boyfriend. It's strange on so many levels.... one, the "boyfriend" in question wasn't my husband...or her husband... (in fact, I find it best not to say who it was.) One day, he and I are walking together, holding hands and such... then the dream fast forwards to the very next day, where the two of them are canoodling at the lunch table (can you tell this was a HS setting? But then not my HS, or the one where I work...and I've never seen her HS.) I was surrounded by random people (none whom I could pinpoint as friends who are making a cameo in my dream) asking me, "aren't you his girlfriend? you should do something." And I couldn't do a damn thing. I just walked away. I think I just woke up after that.

I have never had, nor will I ever have, feelings for my brother-in-law. I might have expressed an opinion soon after we met that since we were not going to be romantic, any relationship was useless, but that was because of a bad relationship in HS (you know who that is, Lise) I had trouble relating to men in any way other than sexually. My current brother-in-law helped me to be a friend. He saved me from myself in college-- granted, I was no saint, but I could have ended up a lot worse. I thank God every]]>http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/963419/Oh_boy_x_posted_in_LJ
http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/963419/Oh_boy_x_posted_in_LJSat, 03 May 2008 11:27:17 EDTWhat was the last piece of clothing that you bought yourself?

A dress for Easter... I spent a good hour and a half looking for a decent dress or blouse/skirt combo that didn't make me look pregnant all over again! I decided on an empire-waist jersey dress with brown and pink flowers and a brown shrug sweater to match.

I got Matty a dressy outfit, too. He'll be wearing a nice blue blazer, shirt and tie, and khaki pants. Kev will have the same, but with gray pants. Nick will have his "My 1st Easter" outfit, and I just bought DH a nice shirt and tie for his pinstripe suit.

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/859405/ShoppingThu, 20 Mar 2008 16:21:25 EDTLet me preface this by saying I just got the car seats for my 3 kids in my backseat this past Saturday. I could've been pulled over because Matty wasn't in a booster seat.

Today, as I was driving the boys home after picking Matty up from pre-school, I was stuck at the red light in front of my apartment complex. I pulled up next to a police car. Matty had decided to say goodbye to the trucks as we were taking the jughandle, and just didn't stop waving and saying goodbye. Kevin joined in, and the 2 of them were smiling and waving-- it was adorable. But the kicker was when I looked over at the cop-- he was laughing his butt off! He must've thought they were waving to him. I told Matty that he made the cop's day, but Matty had no idea the cop saw him.

It was so freaking cute!

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http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/840971/Because_my_kids_are_cuteWed, 12 Mar 2008 20:44:54 EDTMore Graphics at pYzam.com]]>http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/760166/I_m_married_but_he_s_a_cutie
http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/760166/I_m_married_but_he_s_a_cutieThu, 07 Feb 2008 20:29:48 ESTMrs. Presch... she was old, and hated it when kids didn't fold their hands just so. But just the same, I liked her. There was something about her that made her like my grandmother... cooler even, because I can't speak Spanish.

I hope my kids have as great a first grade teacher as I did. Being a teacher myself, I hope it's someone who values traditional curriculum as well as fun, "outside-the-box" thinking and activities.