Never Violence

a story told by Astrid Lindgren

[Author of Pippi
Longstocking]

"Above all, I believe that there should never be any violence." In
1978, Astrid Lindgren received the German Book Trade Peace Prize for
her literary contributions. In acceptance, she told the following
story.

"When I was about 20 years old, I met an old pastor's wife who
told me that when she was young and had her first child, she didn't
believe in striking children, although spanking kids with a switch
pulled from a tree was standard punishment at the time. But one day
when her son was four or five, he did something that she felt
warranted a spanking--the first of his life. And she told him that he
would have to go outside and find a switch for her to hit him with.
The boy was gone a long time. And when he came back in, he was
crying. He said to her, "Mama, I couldn't find a switch, but here's a
rock that you can throw at me."

All of a sudden the mother understood how the situation felt from
the child's point of view: that if my mother wants to hurt me, then
it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it
with a stone. And the mother took the boy onto her lap and they both
cried. Then she laid the rock on a shelf in the kitchen to remind
herself forever: never violence. And that is something I think
everyone should keep in mind. Because violence begins in the
nursery--one can raise children into violence."

I think that too often we fail to feel situations "from the
child's point of view," and that failure leads us to teach our
children other than what we think we're teaching them.

Published by permission of Saltkrakan AB, Lidingoe, Sweden, owner
of all copyrights to Astrid Lindgren's works."