Saturday, March 12, 2011

1. I'm a thirty-year-old, highly sexual woman who hasn't yet reached my full potential, sexually speaking, but am determined to do so in this new decade I've entered - preferably on the earlier end!

2. What I mean by this is that I'm currently more adventurous and sex-positive in my thought than in my action - though I do hope to remedy this. I need to find someone who matches my sex drive and kinkiness in order to live up to this potential, I feel.

3. I'm currently in a 4-year monogamous relationship with a partner with whom I'm lucky to share great chemistry, but who is no match for my sex drive and my interest in sexual experimentation.

4. I ultimately don't believe in monogamy - at least not for me. I've expressed this to my partner (the only right thing to do, I feel) and have essentially told him that I intend to engage in sexual exploration with others - and of course he's welcome to do the same.

5. I haven't yet taken the plunge, though, in terms of pursuing a relationship outside of my primary one. I think this has a lot to do with the fact that my partner is clearly not totally comfortable with the idea of us opening up our relationship. At the same time, he's not standing in the way, which I appreciate. I think I need to be brave and proactive. I need to be true to myself, and monogamy is not for me.

6. At the ripe old age of 29, I realized that I'm attracted to women in addition to men - wow! This has added a whole new dimension to my sexual self. When I do finally explore a relationship outside of my primary one, I have a feeling it's going to be with a woman. And in the meantime, it's fun to let my imagination run wild.

7. Another exciting development at the age of 29 is that I learned how to give myself "real" orgasms - not just little wimpy ones, but nice, fulfilling, powerful ones just as good as I've had with any partner - and I've learned how to ride them out - good times! The only challenge is making time to make orgasms - must build into my schedule!

8. I love reading books and blogs about sex by authors who share my sex-positive views. Betty Dodson is one of my (s)heroes! (If you don't know about her, check her out).

9. More recently, I have added images to my repertoire of sexual outlets. The gender/gender combination of the person/people in the image doesn't seem to impact whether or not it turns me on.

10. Even writing this right now is turning me on as I think of things that turn me on! I'm guessing this must be the case for others who have submitted their "25 things." Hm, maybe writing will become another sexual outlet? But sooner than later, I need to have more sex as a sexual outlet too.

11. Breasts! I've noticed that each of my lovers has loved my breasts, and I love them too. My nipples might be my most erogenous zones - or at least right up there with my clit. Though better yet is having them both stimulated at the same time - woohoo!

12. Breasts are also by far my favorite part of other women--at least visually-speaking. Though the first woman I was attracted to, I fantasized more about her vulva than her breasts. But by the second woman, my focus was back on her breasts. And it's definitely the breasts that turn me on when looking at sexual images of women. Will have to report back when I actually hook up with a female.

13. As far as men go, I'm amused by the fact that I've come into contact with a diverse array of dicks - African, Asian, Latino, and Anglo - diverse in terms of shapes and sizes too.

14. My current partner is uncircumcised, and I find that fun.

15. I've come to prefer uncircumcised dicks and would definitely opt not to circumcise my son if I were to have one.

16. My newfound interest in women has made me far more aware of and interested in queer issues. I can't believe how unconsciously heteronormative I was in my thinking up until recently, despite being 100% for LGBTQ rights in principle and in politics. I've been learning a lot about gender and sexuality and gender identity these days, and am interested in exploring these issues further.

17. At the same time, as a person who easily passes as "straight"/'heterosexual," I feel cautious/confused about labeling myself otherwise. Do I have the "right" to consider myself queer, when I have never had to face discrimination due to my sexuality?

18. I seem to have quite an accurate "gaydar," so to speak.

19. Can I just say one more time that I love and appreciate my nipples? And those of others too! Seeing nipples being sucked on is an automatic turn-on. Never fails!

20. I actually did sort of have a sexual experience with another woman as an adolescent - we played with each other's breasts. Not sure how much this "counts." (Though who's counting, anyway?) I'm pretty positive that I didn't feel attraction to her. But I like how she made me feel and of course was willing to reciprocate. This was my first sexual experience.

21. As far as men's bodies go, I like that little area between the thigh and the hip - to each side of the pubic area - not sure if it has a name.

22. I wish this were a much more sexually open world. Being into the idea of open relationships and feeling this fluidity in terms of attraction to both men and women makes me feel like a sort of outcast. Luckily, there seem to be enough other "outcasts" out there to not feel isolated. Ultimately I don't really care. It's just annoying and stupid how uptight most of society acts when it comes to sex.

23. When you get right down to it, I bet that my views and feelings about sex are probably shared by many, yet this is a society that thrives on sexual repression and denial. Therefore, I find myself in the "minority."

24. Because communicating about sex tends to be pretty taboo, I welcome all outlets I can get.

25. One thing that probably makes me a good sexual partner is that I'm turned on by turning on my partner. The more they moan and groan, the better. And I like good communication in sex.

Friday, March 11, 2011

1. I am a queer, 21-year-old female.

2. I know labels don’t work for everyone, but coming across the concept of a queer identity really helped me make sense of my feelings and gave me newfound confidence in my choices. Identifying as queer politicized my experience, gave me a language with which to examine it and opened up an exciting new community filled with amazing people.

3. I think that my earliest sexual fantasy must have been around the age of nine, and involved drowning in a pitcher plant.

4. I needed to get out of my parents’ house before exploring my sexuality with other people. I regret not having a teenage romance.

5. I’m especially attracted to people who are assertive, creative, and show passionate dissent.

6. Intense eye contact with strangers. Major turn-on.

7. I get the most pleasure out of being dominated. Pinned down, held against the wall, bitten, tied up and fucked, fisted over and over. I like it rough.

8. Before my first serious relationship, I slept around, every opportunity that came my way. I never said no. It wasn’t safe sex. This was really stupid and I am very lucky not to have paid the price with my health. These experiences, while memorable and in many ways meaningful, did not wholly satisfy me.

9. I blacked out the first time my current girlfriend fucked me. The sex wasn’t violent, but more forceful and with an intensity that I had never experienced before. She told me it wasn’t the first time this had happened to one of her partners, she was apologetic and brought me tea and oranges in bed. In all truth, I found the whole experience of losing consciousness after sex really hot, but it hasn’t happened since. Suppose I’ve built up my endurance.

10. I’ve been in two serious relationships back to back with women by the same name... they had more issues with this than me.

11. My most intense orgasms are still with the shower head. Although I can easily make myself come, it wasn’t until my second girlfriend that I let someone bring me to orgasm. There’s a scene in The Unbearable Lightness of Being, where Teresa has sex with a stranger, and despite trying to fight off the build of her orgasm, she comes. I want to be made to come like that. Out of my control, against my control.

12. I have trouble initiating things with people I don’t yet understand.

13. Although I’ve never slept with a man, I’d like to. I used to worry about whether men would be able to handle the fact that I love and am very much attracted to women. I’ve since made some very good queer-positive male friends and they are totally cool. And why would I want to be with a guy who wasn’t?

14. I’ve cheated before. I don’t quite know how to confront that part of myself.

15. I’m curious about how people make polyamorous relationships work, and I wonder if I’d be too jealous a lover.

16. I like to leave the blinds open when I’m naked. If I didn’t have a roommate, I would walk around the apartment naked.

17. I would love to model in full Japanese-style rope bondage for a room full of people who are drawing me. My girlfriend is incredible with knots. I’ve yet to keep her tied up, but she humors me.

18. I want to have more public sex.

19. I find my partners’ past sexual histories thrilling.

20. I wish I had more fantasies to play out. I wonder if I am out of touch with my desires on some fundamental level. I’ve never made a list like this before.

21. I find peoples’ vulnerability during pleasure really moving.

22. I’d like to spend more time in bed with people, not having sex. Reading a book, talking, watching. I don’t smoke, but I like the idea of lighting up after sex. It seems like such a release from the cares of the world.

23. Enjoying and preparing good food with others is sexy.

24. D.I.Y. sex toys appeal to me. I think I’ll sign up for that workshop.

25. I want to be with someone for the long haul who will be mischievous with me, who will grow with me, and who will love me into old age.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

1. I am an 18-year-old, bisexual woman. I consider myself bisexual because I am often attracted to/often fantasize about women. However, except for one glorious, albeit short-lived relationship, I have only been with men.

2. I love sex. My boyfriend and I are currently in a quasi-long distance relationship.. I only see him about once a week because I'm an hour away at school. When I am home, or when he comes to visit, we do very little other than talking and fucking. We can have sex for hours and hours, loving every second of it. Sometimes I worry that he may start to think it is all I need him for, which couldn't be further from the truth.

3. I'm unsure as to when exactly I lost my virginity. The first guy I slept with was my ex-boyfriend, and we tried to have sex a few times but couldn't get his penis to penetrate me. I have since learned that my vagina is very small at first, and needs a good deal of fingering before it's ready for a penis.

4. I love giving head. I used to give my ex-boyfriend blow jobs at least 5 times a week. However, my current boyfriend takes a long time to come (no matter what), and after trying it a few times early on I pretty much gave up. However, after some practice and a new approach to giving head (taking my time, playing, not just going in hard and deep right off the bat), I have found my love of blow jobs to be renewed. He was very happy to learn this.

5. Ever since I can remember, I've had random orgasms in times of stress. It's like my subconscious can tell I need relief, and it happily obliges. During tests, however...

6. Speaking of the mind, it is a VERY powerful sexual tool for me. Especially when I smoke pot. My friends and I often drive around, smoking and listening to music. One of them has a powerful truck, and the vibrations combine with the music (my favourite is Cradle of Filth- it gives me the most intense orgasms) are amazing! I've had sex on other drugs: ecstasy and acid. My orgasms on ecstasy were profound. It was a full-body, nerves on sweet, sweet fire, brain exploding orgasm. On LSD, it was like a continuous orgasm from the moment of entry, but the levels of the orgasm kept getting deeper and deeper, revealing layers of feeling that were so distinct, I could almost taste them (from someone who cannot smell/taste much at all; one short-lived side effect of the acid was that I could smell/taste clearly flavors I didn't even have a name for). Plus, the deep, growling sound my habitually quiet boyfriend made when he came was breathtaking, and I wished I could hear it again and again.

7. I watch A LOT of porn. My favorite fantasy to watch is glory-hole porn, especially when it is high quality... a gorgeous woman in a room with a variety of holes in the walls. She touches herself for a while, then comes a fantastic cock through one of the holes, and she sucks it joyously, as though she were craving just that. I saw one once where there was a hole in the floor (not sure how they managed that..) and the woman impaled herself on it! First her wonderfully dripping vagina, then her ass... god, if only that were me!

8. Anal... Oh, the dirtiest of pleasures. I admit, I was scared to try it at first... but I'm so glad I finally allowed my boyfriend to fuck me in the ass, because it's AMAZING. There is nothing quite like it. But we always have to use a condom because it just gets me so wet and then I just absolutely NEED to be fucked vaginally... always having the most intense orgasms, one after the other. I can't say no to multiple orgasms!

9. TITS! I have small breasts. A mere handful each for my boyfriend. I was always very self-conscious about their size, but would never consider getting implants. However, I now love my tits, due to having gotten them pierced earlier this year. My nipples have always been very sensitive, but now... I can orgasm just by having them licked, sucked on, and bitten. Also, my boyfriend loves to come all over them, especially after a great blow job/tit-job in which I playfully tease his cock with the metal.

10. Although we have yet to explore our truly kinky desires, one of my favorite positions involves me, lying face down, practically suffocating on the pillows. My boyfriend is on top of me, fucking me HARD (vagina or ass, doesn't matter) and holding my hands above my head so I can't move them, can't really move at all. It makes me feel so dominated.

11. Another fantasy of mine is to be gang-banged. I would want at least 5 men surrounding me, making me suck their dicks, pulling my hair, then touching me, sucking on my tits, my clit, making me so wet. Then fucking me, a dick in my ass, a dick in my vagina, a dick in my mouth and in each of my hands... I would be absolutely full of dick. It would be wonderful.

12. I was only with my only girlfriend for about a week. We were at running camp, and had a lot of free time and plenty of privacy (no one seemed to be expecting lesbians... boys weren't allowed in girls' cabins or vice versa, but we had no problems). She had brought a bullet vibrator to camp, as well as a ridiculously large black dildo. We would take turns using them together and on each other, as well as honing our cunnilingus skills. She tasted so good! Plus a woman's body is so innately sexy.. she had magnificent tits, and loved my ass. Together, she said, we were the perfect woman. Sadly, camp ended, and we decided not to try long distance. I would really love to have sex with a woman again.

13. My boyfriend and I have talked about having a threesome, but just don't know who we would ask. Neither of us has many female friends, and he's not particularly open to an MMF threesome. When we figure it out, though, I think it will be fantastic. I think he would love to have two women on him at once. A tandem blow job! I think that would be such great fun, and an incredible turn-on for him. Then one of us could ride his glorious dick while the other sat on his face! Then us ladies could make out at the same time. Or an oral-circle. Such exciting thoughts, I hope they become reality soon.

14. Mostly, I really just like to be naked. I try to be naked as often as possible. (This is not very often--I have roommates.) But yeah. Nakedness is where it's at. Clothes are such a bother. Someday I'm going to spend some time in a nudist colony. Not because I find it super-sexual, I mean, have you ever felt the delicious feeling of warm rays of sun making contact with your nipples/stomach/other patches of skin that never normally get to feel the sun? It's breathtaking.

15. My favorite sexual memory was actually foreplay. I randomly had some purple stick-on rhinestones, and found them in my nightstand one afternoon. Half-jokingly, I started to decorate my boyfriend's abdomen with them, forming an arrow from his chest, pointing all the way down to his cock, as well as encircling his adorable nipples with them. For the rest of the day they stayed there, and I often pulled up his shirt a bit to giggle. It was a fun reminder of what was to come that evening. The only downside (or not downside, as it makes us remember that night) is that we keep finding them everywhere, even months later!

16. The craziest place we ever had sex was outside one night. We were at a campfire in the forrest area near a friend's house. Slightly drunk, we wandered away from the party with the intentions of going on a midnight walk. The walk soon turned to a bit of kissing and playing, but after we walked past a small hill, he put his sweatshirt down on the ground, and we proceeded to fuck, wildly. It was like being outside unleashed our animalistic instincts. It was the most raw, inspiring sex I've ever had, and believe it or not, it was our first time together, after about 3 months of torturous waiting!

17. One thing I absolutely hate happening during sex is when my boyfriend hears a noise, and worries that people are about to interrupt us, so he pulls out and stops/pauses the action completely. Most of the time it's a false alarm, which is doubly irritating. I think it's because he was raised in a very sex-negative home. (I'm not allowed to go upstairs, and such). I was raised in a very open, sexually accepting home. My parents talked to me about sex fairly frequently throughout my childhood, which I believe contributes greatly to my openness and an overall sexually satisfying, non-ashamed life.

18. I don't think I would ever want to have a one-night stand. One-on-one sex feels so personal to me. It's a bonding point, a shared experience, a way to make lasting memories. Something to enjoy with someone you truly care about. It's important to me that sex isn't impersonal. There has to be a tangible person behind it, not just a random set of genitals. (Clearly, this hangup must greatly contribute to my glory hole fantasy. You always want what you can't/won't let yourself have...)

19. Oh yeah, here I am trying to think of things I haven't talked about yet, and here's a blatant one: Masturbation. Surprise! I don't really masturbate much, physically. Touching myself with my fingers doesn't produce much of a reaction. The most I usually do with myself physically is rest my hand on my vulva, maybe let my middle finger slip into my vagina. What I am fond of doing, however, is watching porn, resting my hand on myself, and empathetically bringing myself to orgasm through watching other females getting pleasured. My favourite pornstar is Cytheria, known for her gorgeous real (or extremely realistic) squirting orgasms. Often times I find myself lightly humping my hand in time with her.

20. That brings me to my utmost pet peeve in porn: when moans are just sooooo fake. I want the ladies I watch to be experiencing REAL pleasure. If I feel like she isn't, I can't get off either. I also really dislike porn blow jobs in which the woman has a huge dick forcibly shoved down her throat so that she just gags continuously for the whole duration. That is not fun for me to watch. Some gagging is fine, frankly, it's normal to gag a bit when deep throating, but the man should be respectful and allow her to back off a bit.

21. Cybersex (mutual masturbation on camera) is something of great interest to me, although I doubt it would work for me. How could I watch two things at the same time? I've tried just regular old touching yourself, thinking about things that make you hot... to no avail. I guess I'm a very visual person (despite being female, I guess this is why I'm going to art school). However, I just can't get over the idea of online exhibitionism. I think I would love to have sex with my boyfriend for a live webcam audience. That would be extremely hot for me.

22. A very cool fantasy date idea, in my opinion (of course, in reality, this would have to be discussed first, not a surprise date, and appropriate to the particular relationship), would be to go to an XXX club. Not a strip club, (although I wouldn't mind that either) but one of those wicked underground adult clubs where you're there, very scantily clad, possibly in leather/bondage-y clothing, and open pleasure is the whole point. You could just go up to a man and suck his cock for a while, then introduce yourself! Everyone is free to grab/massage/spank your ass, feel your tits... all in a normal, fairly safe environment. But I guess in real life the STD risk would be too high.

23. Oh, I do love a good spanking though! If you couldn't tell already, rough sex is where it's at for me. I love biting, spanking, overall rough play. However, I do not like to gag and choke on dick. That just feels gross. Thankfully, I've never experienced someone trying to do that to me on purpose.

24. One of my sillier fantasies (also one that I've lived a few blissful times) is for a man to give me a manicure/pedicure, then while the nail polish dries, he offers to lick and suck my pussy, since he doesn't want to ruin all of his hard work by fucking me, but needs something sexual right away, because touching my hands and feet (I really do have gorgeous hands/feet) has made him so horny. It feels so good, toes in the air, fingers spread on my tummy, in complete ecstasy. Then, when it's good and dry, he gets his turn! (Sex or a blow job. His pick, obviously).

25. (Thought of this because of the number.) My boyfriend and I have decided that for as long as we're together, we will have sex every year on Christmas, no matter how crazy busy it gets over the years. I don't want to grow up to be in a sex-less, non-intimate partnership/marriage. I don't want to lose sight of pleasure, life is too short to stop doing it when you reach middle age! So, at least this way, we have a yearly reminder of our ongoing commitment to great sex, but you know, I really hope it doesn't come down to that! (Note to self: make more sex-holidays!)

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

3. I'm currently intimate with a 24-year-old male (J). I see nothing wrong with this age difference.

4. J's the best lover I've ever had. He's less experienced than me.

5. J has been the only one to make me orgasm without me touching myself too.

6. My biggest current sexual fantasy is to be fucked from behind while I'm tied up, to just be used by someone to make themselves come.

7. I haven't had sex with a woman, but I've wanted to for years. The right opportunity just hasn't come yet.

8. I still initiated sex with my abusive ex-partner (while we were together) and sometimes I feel sickened by that, but I know he was in the wrong, not me.

9. I love the idea of someone I'm interested in touching themselves over me.

10. I'm really into BDSM, as a sub - especially when it comes to sharp pain (scratching, whips, etc.) and restraint with handcuffs or rope. This increased after my abusive relationship and I understand why: I like controlling the harm that comes to my body, and turning it into a positive experience.

11. I've slept with 8 men, and see nothing wrong with this either.

12. I had someone who was meant to be my friend have sex with me when I was so drunk I was barely conscious and they were sober. I don't include them in the 8, at all.

13. I am so completely sex-positive, and follow the movement, this is something I focus on when I fight as a feminist.

14. I really want to try anal sex with J, and he does too, the only person i've seriously considered it with.

15. J has a huge foot interest, and I indulge this even though I hate my feet. He has no problem with them and I actually don't mind it, it in fact turns me on how much it turns him on.

16. I get so turned on by the feeling of a hand running up my bare thigh, or running down my back and into the back of my underwear.

17. I only watch porn with women only.

18. I can't imagine not caring about someone or not being attracted to them because of their gender, no matter what that gender identity is.

19. I've had so many partners say I give the best blow jobs/hand jobs, etc. I LOVE hearing that.

20. Sometimes I really want a working penis, to fuck women with and feel that sensation for myself, but I reject the theory of "penis envy."

21. The younger people I've slept with have often been better than the older.

22. If someone has lots of tattoos and/or piercings, I'm much more likely to desire them. Seducing someone by stroking their inked skin is one of the most sensual things I've experienced.

23. The longest I've ever gone without sex is 10 months.

24. I find men dressed as women really attractive, especially when they have broad shoulders.

25. I don't think I could ever have a threesome with two men, or two other women, but one woman and one man seems perfect to me.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

1. I’m a 25-year-old female. I’m bi-curious and in a polyamorous relationship.

2. I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years and I’m kinda seeing someone else, who is three years younger than me. He’s super cute, fun and sexy. He is an amazing kisser and very, very good at foreplay. My boyfriend is gorgeous, very intelligent, funny, and lovely and knows how to communicate.

3. I’ve made out with over 20 people, but only slept with two. I want to sleep with more.

4. I really want to sleep with the other guy I’m seeing, and until two weeks ago he wanted to as well. Now, I’m not so sure. He turns me on so, so much and I would spend what would seem like hours daydreaming at work about doing the deed with him.

5. The other guy has called me a tease for not sleeping with him. If only he knew.

7. I have a vibrator and I hardly ever use it. I also have a cock sleeve. It is very nice.

8. I don’t particularly like having someone going down on me. Whenever someone goes down there, it feels they just slobber all over me.

9. I don’t get “fetishes”. I’m pretty vanilla. I don’t mind tying someone up or being tied up, but I don’t get anything that is more kinky than that. I just don’t understand why people would want to do certain things during sex. I guess I’m quite traditional because I think that sex is getting naked, exploring each other’s bodies and having fun and maybe making babies.

10. I do, however, like to tie my boyfriend up and tease him.

11. I really like my boobs. They’re so perky and soft.

12. I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend when I was 18 years old. We weren’t even dating at the time. We were friends with benefits. But after taking a break from each other over summer we got back together and became more serious. During that time I met a hot backpacker in my home town and screwed him. My current boyfriend was crushed when he found out. He wanted to be the only one I had sex with, which I think is really unfair because had been with other girls before we were officially a couple.

13. I don’t think I’m a very sexual person. My libido is usually quite low. However, I do think of sex and I do make an effort to look fuckable, which I think I’m pretty good at. I emphasize my curves, make my boobs pop out of low-cut tops, wear short dresses and killer heels. I guess I like getting attention but only from people who I find attractive. Or maybe I want to fuck someone else for a change.

14. When fooling around or having sex I like my partner to focus on my breasts. I like them to be touched using their hands.

15. I like reading erotic stories.

16. I like to watch porn. The more realistic the better. I especially like watching drunken, college orgies.

17. I have had a couple of lesbian experiences. My boyfriend dared me to make out with his female friend in front of him. She wanted to sleep with me; I didn’t want to sleep with her. There was some boob touching.

18. I also made out with a friend of mine, who I was a bridesmaid for. She also made out with my boyfriend. I do not feel jealous of her at all. In fact, I would like her to be part of our polyamorous relationship. Pity her husband wouldn’t be so keen.

19. I’ve accidentally been the other woman. The guy didn’t tell me that he had a girlfriend until afterward.

20. I don’t like having sex with anyone who is drunk. It just gets sloppy and it’s not very good.

21. I’m attracted to interesting looking, geeky, intelligent guys who like to listen to metal. It helps if they look fit and have dark hair.

22. I like going to burlesque shows. Those women are stunning and damn sexy. I would also like to participate, but I’m just too shy.

23. But I have gone to a costume party wearing a corset and I got plenty of attention from both men and women. I love corsets, they’re so sexy.

24. I kinda like to visit strip clubs. On one big night out a group of friends and I went to a strip club and I got asked onto the stage by a hot female stripper. I declined because I didn’t want creepy guys perving on me, which seems a bit silly when I think about it. Why would they check me out when there’s a hot naked woman wiggling right next me?

25. I can barely remember the name of my first kiss. I do remember having huge hickies and being somewhat proud of them. Now they repulse me. I think they’re tacky.

Monday, March 7, 2011

1. I'm a 33 (almost 34)-year-old, heteroflexible, married female.

2. I've had sex (not counting oral) with 12 men.

3. I had my first orgasm at 15. I tried masturbating but couldn't find the right spot. So I got out my mom's copy of Our Bodies, Ourselves (my mom has an original copy!) and found my clit. The rest was easy.

4. There was a period of time in my late teens when I thought I was a lesbian. I was attracted to women and always fantasized about women when I masturbated. Now I know I'm a straight chick with a fetish for girl/girl sex. I could definitely get it on with another women given the right opportunity and circumstances.

5. I love big cock. I've been spoiled by 14 years of marriage to a man that's packing a monster cock. Since then... nothing comes close. Nothing.

6. I'm a submissive woman with a dominant personality. Basically this means I'm a control freak in all aspects of my life except for when it comes to sex.

7. I never use toys when I masturbate. I've got 'em, lots of 'em. But I'm all about manual stimulation. I love fingers.

8. I love having my nipples sucked on and bitten. This is an art that few have mastered. With the proper technique, I believe I could probably have an orgasm from nipple stimulation alone.

9. I have a rape fetish. I don't really want to be raped. Nor do I want to rape someone. But consensual non-consent really gets me wet.

10. I can't come from sexual stimulation alone. 98% of it is mental for me. Ah, the sweet power of a mind fuck.

11. I have INTENSE orgasms, but I've never had multiple orgasms. One time I had 4 in a 30 minute period, but that was from masturbating. Aside from that, I've had two or three in a night with a partner but it was over the period of several hours and different fucking sessions.

12. I've squirted twice. The first time it was a total surprise. The second time I thought it might happen and it did. Two best orgasms of my life. Hands down.

13. I'm into pain. I love working with an experienced sadist. Sub space is my favorite place.

14. I love nipples. Men or women, it makes no difference to me. Biting, sucking, pulling on them. So hot.

15. I really enjoy anal sex. Anal sex is the only time I wish I had a partner with a smaller cock.

17. I love porn, but it seems I've become desensitized to it. The porn I watched got more and more taboo until I had pretty much reached my own limits. I just don't think I'll ever get off watching a Japanese woman roll around in shit.

18. I love the idea of a 24/7 live-in D/s relationship. Something about having someone else control every aspect of my life is very appealing to me.

19. I'm very jealous. I can't stand the idea of my husband/partner being with someone else.

20. I felt guilty about my sexual fantasies for most of my adult life. Finally, in my early thirties I began to realize that fantasy is fantasy and reality is reality. In real life, I have no desire to have sex with my dad. But the fantasy of having sex with a father figure is super hot.

21. I'm into age play. I am a little girl at heart and nothing gets me turned on faster than a good DD/lg fantasy. Incestuous? Perhaps. It's just a fantasy.

22. I always fake orgasms with new partners. It just takes me awhile to get comfortable enough to let go. Rather than deal with some poor guy working hard to achieve something that's not going to happen, I fake it.

23. When I was 17, I shared a bed with two gay friends of mine. They had sex twice, with me in the bed. I masturbated to orgasm both times. I was really ashamed about this for a long, long time. Now I know it was fucking hot and I'm really lucky to have experienced kink like that at such a young age.

24. I've only had orgasms with three guys, and with two of them I was only able to get off by self-stimulation. The only guy to get me off himself has been my husband.

25. I've been in love three times. All three guys' names started with the letter C. Go figure.