Reader #1 – “From the daughter’s side of the story, my mom lies, manipulates, and plays the victim in every situation.

“You never know if she’s making up her stories to stir trouble so she can sit back and watch it happen.

“I called her out today for repeatedly changing a story in the same conversation while gossiping about her coworker.

“So now, I don’t want to hear it. She doesn’t accept that her behavior’s harmful and thoughtless. I don’t need her bringing me down.”

Reader #2 – “The daughter’s live-in boyfriend may be influencing her with his own negative attitude toward her mother.

“I’ve seen this with my brother-in-law’s effect on my own sister’s perspective now reflecting his.
“The mum should stop reaching out if her daughter’s response is always rude.

“She should tell her daughter that she’d welcome seeing her but only if she’s in the mood for such a visit.

“She should not let her daughter’s rudeness go unacknowledged.

“It’d be useful if another sibling would find out what’s bothering the daughter, by pointing out how rude she is in front of their mum. This is better than trying to address it in the heat of the moment.
“Maybe the sister’s having difficulties she can’t express in front of Mum, so reacts as if Mum is prying when asking how she’s doing.

“Something’s going on here and there’s a need to get to the bottom of it.”