To be cross that DH always says that we never work as a team...

He works full time. I work part time. We have three children. I do all the housework, food shopping, cooking, laundry, and do the bulk of the childcare, eg even when he is home at the weekend I will make the children's lunch, and bath them.

However I draw the line at being his skivvy. Unfortunately he is leaving more and more things to me such as leaving cups and wrappers everywhere, dirty clothes everywhere, and piles of his clean clothes next to his side of the bed where he won't put them away.

He keeps saying his latest line though, and I feel that he's trying to guilt trip me into doing everything for him and cleaning up after him. He said that we don't work as a team fairly recently when I hadn't tidied up some things he'd left out, and he said it wasn't a big deal for me to tidy them as it would only take seconds. And then he said it at the weekend when I told him I'd put a pile of clean, dried, ironed and folded (all done by me) laundry on the bed and he just needed to put his bits away.

I feel in a way like I need to try to please him all the time but sometimes I think there is no pleasing him at all.

I think you know he's being a twat. If it's not such a hassle why doesn't he just do it? He is being disrespectful. You both have full time jobs - yours is just split between a job and childcare. suggest to him that if he wants a servant he should pay for one. till he's prepared to do that he needs to stop being a lazy twat. You might find better advice in relationships.