Apparent Pcos hiatus, would waiting be stupid?

Long story short as possible..
I've had pcos symptoms as long as I've had periods. Long, uncomfortable, irregular. Went on the pill at 20. Conceived odd 2nd month off (first was a cp). After she was born I was on the mini pill, but kept forgetting so I stopped a few months later. But we were too tired that first year for sex anyway. When she was a year old I was already off the pill half a year. Periods were still all over the place. Stated trying for ydd. It took a year, 2cps, and ectopic but I was diagnosed with PCOS right before conceiving her. Since she was born I went on the full pill when I got my first period at 10 months. Been on the pill until September when I went 2 months without any period. Took another full month to finally get it. Then a 37 day cycle, and out of nowhere 2 27 day cycles in a row. Plus my lip hair is taking longer to grow back after waxing.

I went off the pill bc we thought we were ready to start trying again. But dh (dear husband) realized he had a few things he needed to work out that lead to performance anxiety and being unable to finish. He said he wants to wait another month bc he is away for work half weeks and wants to be home in case I have another cp.

Ttc is a 2 yes situation if your dh is not on board respect his decision.

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01/22/2018

Ttc is a 2 yes situation if your dh is not on board respect his decision.

He's half on board which is why it's frustrating. He wants more. Like at least 2 more if not more than that even. But I have a low egg count and a history of issues.
And he was on board enough that we agreed to me stopping the pill in September. If he wasn't I would have kept taking bc it helped my pcos symptoms and made my cycle predictable.

My question is about science of it. If my body is behaving now, do I have a few more months of it behaving, or am I on borrowed time so to speak.

And the only reason he's claiming to want to wait is what if I have a chemical and he's not here.

I'm just paranoid that we'll wait, then my body will go wonky again and if we would have tried now I'd have gotten pregnant right away but bc we waited a month, we'll end up waiting a year or longer again and all the losses and heartbreak involved.

So you've had this? Is there a "typical" of how many cycles it's "nor...

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01/22/2018

So you've had this? Is there a "typical" of how many cycles it's "normal" before going wonky again?

unfortunately no, it’s all based on your body. It can be dormant for months or years at a time, or it can be constant and unyielding.

The longest it’s ever gone dormant for me since i’ve been tracking is 2 straight cycles. But my sister has it as well, and she has been symptom free for almost a year now. she feels like a ticking time bomb however.

He's half on board which is why it's frustrating. He wants more. Like...

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01/22/2018

He's half on board which is why it's frustrating. He wants more. Like at least 2 more if not more than that even. But I have a low egg count and a history of issues.
And he was on board enough that we agreed to me stopping the pill in September. If he wasn't I would have kept taking bc it helped my pcos symptoms and made my cycle predictable.

My question is about science of it. If my body is behaving now, do I have a few more months of it behaving, or am I on borrowed time so to speak.

And the only reason he's claiming to want to wait is what if I have a chemical and he's not here.

I'm just paranoid that we'll wait, then my body will go wonky again and if we would have tried now I'd have gotten pregnant right away but bc we waited a month, we'll end up waiting a year or longer again and all the losses and heartbreak involved.

It sounds like you and DH (dear husband) need to sit down and have a discussion to hash out everything. separate the excuses from the concerns and then really drill down into what concerns are valid and what is just paranoia

I don’t think it’s unfair to remind him you have a low ovarian reserve

It sounds like you and DH need to sit down and have a discussion to hash ou...

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01/22/2018

It sounds like you and DH need to sit down and have a discussion to hash out everything. separate the excuses from the concerns and then really drill down into what concerns are valid and what is just paranoia

I don’t think it’s unfair to remind him you have a low ovarian reserve

I've tried that. He promises it's not excuses. He's a very honest person so if he says he's telling the truth I believe him. That's why I know it wasn't working bc of things he needed to figure out.

And I don't know how else to get it done other than reminding him. It's what he wants but I don't think he really understands all the science of it which is why I'm asking about those details. I know that he felt really bad and all my losses hit him really hard (which is one of the reasons why he doesn't want me to have one when I'm alone) and if trying now like we already agreed on makes a difference vs waiting and my pcos coming back and having another year or longer when emotionally I've already been in that ttc mindframe since September, I'm sure he'd prefer now vs next month if he really understood what it all meant in the long run. But if I'm overreacting and it really doesn't make a difference then I'd drop it even though it hurts so much every month we wait. Which I won't be able to hide from him. I've tried but I start crying when I realize I'm at the point that it's too late for the month and we have to wait longer. Then spend a few days in a depressive funk. I've tried hiding it when I let it go last month for us to work on things (like you suggested. We already have had several long talks) but eventually he asks what's up and I start crying again and end up telling him bc it's obvious something is up.

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