“My job has recently been transferred from the UK to an Asian country. With the move from my established position to a new challenging role in a new environment, I suddenly found myself lacking my usual level of confidence...”

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Anxiety is a state that comes from within. Yes, of course external factors play a part, but the final decision as to whether you feel anxious is yours. Anxiety can be very useful, as it acts as a warning signal; If you feel anxious about an upcoming commitment, it usually means that something needs to be changed. If you need to pack for your holiday, the anxiety serves as a reminder to finish your packing. If you have a public speaking engagement coming up, perhaps the anxiety is a reminder that you need to prepare your speech. If you have been invited to your ex's wedding, then the anxiety may just be a warning sign that you shouldn't go! Only you can decipher your anxiety. Ask yourself BOLD questions and you will receive BOLD answers.

If your anxiety relates to things outside your control or you struggle to find a rational explanation for it, then my latest hypnotherapy audio may be just what you are looking for. Let go of anxiety now is available on iTunes, Google Play and Amazon music.

This concept of working in, what is conceived to be, a
‘man’s world’ seems to be on the minds of many of my clients at the moment. I
have coached women on voice, communication style and mindset. Yet, again and
again, the one thing that changes everything is confidence. This doesn’t mean
that inequality is all in your mind, but it does mean that changing the way
that you think and feel about it can completely transform your situation.

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it
so.”

William Shakespeare

Are Your Beliefs a
Reflection of YOUR reality?

The best way to change your mind about something is to
confront your current beliefs. You can either make a mental list or take out a
pen and paper (whichever works best for you) and then follow these steps:

1.Think of something that is holding you back in
your work life: For example: ‘I don’t feel confident at work’, ‘I feel
inadequate’, ‘I’m not good at my job’

2.Make a list of your beliefs around your current,
undesirable situation- include positive and negative beliefs

3.Next to each belief (positive and negative),
give some solid evidence that this is true

4.Next to each negative belief, highlight
something that disproves it- perhaps you recently won a new project or received
good feedback at work.

5.Finally, remember why you were hired in the
first place; someone believed in you. Who was this?

What do these answers say about you right now? (Remember
that you are not your behaviour, these answers are just a reflection of your
current strategies)

Now

1.Look at the people around you at work. Do you
respect them? Would you like to be like them? Are they good people?

2.Do you respect yourself? Are you happy being
you? Are you a good person?

This blog isn’t about them, it’s about YOU.If you respect them, but not yourself or feel any unhappiness around being YOU; ask yourself this; who am I when I’m at my best? (What am I doing? Who am I with? How do people see me?) How can you be this person more of the time?
For a moment, see this person who challenges you as your greatest teacher. They may be showing you not just how to behave, but how NOT to behave. Anyone or anything that challenges you, can only serve to make you stronger.

You always have a choice, you can become the victim of your situation or you can take responsibility for your life. You will know when you are acting the role of victim because you will feel a sense of weakness and loss of control. When you rise to challenges and take positive actions to improve your situation, you will feel a sense of inner strength and empowerment.

You always have a choice; either stay in your current situation and change the way you think and feel about it, so that you can find happiness and empowerment there, or move on to greener pastures. Whatever you decide, make the more empowering of the two choices.

Remember that you can't change others, but you always have the power to change yourself. Something amazing will happen when you change the way you look at, and feel about, your situation. Some people call this 'confidence', others call it 'being positive', 'strong minded' or 'thick skinned'; it doesn't matter what you call it, only that you do it NOW.