SashaVonAndris

A kid I knew clearly as gay, because he’d sit next to me on the bus, years later, says to me, “hey, I’m now gay!”. I have never laughed so loud in my life. Ever the drama queen I still am, I congradulated him, and never spoke to him since.

Low Country Boy

It was beautiful until our parents found out –I’ve NEVER been able to contact or see him, ever again, since. They (my parents) were so disgusted and appalled — they make me feel so ashamed of being gay, then and now. I am NOT really part of my own family, to this very day!!! I am so sorry for being gay. I wish I could leave this gay-hating, planet or NEVER have been born. I just wanted to be honest with myself and my loved ones, like I was raised to be. I am older now & alone and ashamed to be gay, even more than ever… I only wanted to be loved — instead, I have been judged & sentenced, to a life of loniness & guilt…

I was the OUT kid in my Virginia high school who very very very seldomly tried to flirt with guys in high school. I have no stories of locker rooms or teachers or other downlow kids. Guys admired my honoring who I was but never hit on me. My high school life was boring. Lol

Bauhaus

You are better off without them. You have nothing to be sorry for and nothing to be ashamed about. You have lousy parents, as many of us do. You’ve done the hard work (realizing their love for you is conditional on you being straight), so start creating loving bonds and friendships with like minded people. If it’s church/faith you like, find one accepting and affirming of LGBT people. Branch out from your family of origin. You are not alone.

There is no one from my school days to whom I’ve even given a passing thought let alone wished for contact. I didn’t have a horrible time in school but outgrew the people I knew then.

Even stranger is that I moved only forty miles from where I grew up – and where my parents still live – and I honestly have never bumped into anyone from those days, less than twenty years ago. Or if I have neither of us recognized the other. No loss.

It’s not that I don’t recall school fondly; I don’t recall it all. No desire to go back and relive that time other than maybe to make more of an effort to apply myself. Otherwise I can’t think how things might have turned out better than they have so far.

I had my Brokeback mountain moment all in highschool ð??? now he is married ð??? 2 kids lives in Madrid!!! But we still Skype and pretend nothing happens hahhahah He got hotter ! Hahahha

January 17, 2016 at 3:01pm

chris_clb614

I also found and responded to a personal ad from someone who was a former classmate. In 5th grade, we were both called “gay” by a third classmate during recess, and the end result was avoiding him the rest of the year. And only one conversation between us in high school- not reminding him who I was.

Years after answering the online ad (and the days-after realization that it was an old classmate), I decided to apologize, but only after needing the utilization of online people search.

January 17, 2016 at 3:01pm

Captain proton

yeah, turned out two guys from my class in high-school are gay. of course, 20+ years ago no one dared even think about saying or doing something about it.

January 17, 2016 at 3:01pm

Mack

@James Thompson: If you’re lonely because you’re gay then chances are you would have been lonely because you were straight. Need to get out of the house and stop feeling sorry for yourself. There are plenty of places to go (unless you live in the boondocks or stranded in the outbacks of Alaska)and meet people. I look at life this way, God made us all in his image. His image is different and we’re all different and we were made this way for a reason.

I’m probably just as lonely as you but I manage to find people to talk to and be with. I’ve had my chances at love and seemed to have lost them along the way. Since I was born partially deaf it’s tougher for me to find people to talk to, but they’re out there. Stop believing what the right wingers want you to believe-the Bible is just a book written by man and really doesn’t mean squat, it’s stories by man.

January 17, 2016 at 3:01pm

SonOfKings

There was a guy in college I had a mad crush on and he barely knew I was alive. I’d always assumed he was straight, but found out just recently that he is and always was gay. It’s pointless either way though, because he was just not that into me. Nothing was ever going to happen.

January 17, 2016 at 4:01pm

Juanjo

I had this happen to me at a 10 year HS reunion, the only one I went to. The hot jock who was always giving me and others shit about supposedly being gay hit on me really hard. As much as I would have liked to pound that ass of his, I was not going to have anything to do with him because of what a dick he was in high school. If it happened now with 50 years of perspective, I probably would have had a discussion with him and what he was going through in high school that made him behave like a complete schmuck.

Yup. He’s married with twin boys, and moved to New Hampshire a couple years ago. Oh, and he’s GORGEOUS.

January 17, 2016 at 9:01pm

rand503

Why arne’t my posts shown?

January 17, 2016 at 10:01pm

rand503

Back when I was in college and law school, I had a serious crush on two dfferent guys. They both flirted with me quite a bit, and as I look back, I realized that they were really looking for something from me. Both were gorgeous, popular and had lots of girlfriends. But I was a terrified, deep in-denial gay boy, and being gay at that time just wasn’t an option.

They are both married with kids, and I’ve had zero contact with either, but I look them up online once in a while. Both have aged terribly, and I kinda think that they were just as scared and never lived out that part of their lives. I finally did come out, and am a single but happy gay guy. And I haven’t aged nearly as much!

When you find out a guy from your past is gay…and you end up dating them…and then you think,” It was better when we were just friends, now it’s just awkward.” ð???ð???ð???

January 18, 2016 at 8:01am

Daniel-Reader

Found out two of my best friends from high school are gay. We’re still friends to this day. A third guy one year older than me turned out to be gay too and we hung out all the time back in the day. None of us would have guessed the others were gay. Funny how life turns out sometimes.

DougDittmer

@James Thompson: Many LGBT people feel abandoned by their family, friends, even their religion. However we build a new family of friends. If you live in a large city, there is probably a group of gay seniors in your city and they’ve lived through the same crap you have.

January 18, 2016 at 11:01am

captainburrito

Just cos you are both gay doesn’t mean you would have had a chance! I know that if my friend that i had a crush on was gay he would still be out of my league.

Similar to one example above, I returned to my hometown a few years ago and ran into one of my old teachers from middle school at a gay bar. I wasn’t too surprised though. There were rumors about him floating around for years.

richard_dick

I think we need to encourage all men to feel less inhibited about homosexuality. It’s completely normal and natural. In fact, I personally believe it to be the natural default sexuality of men. Why do I believe this? Because men have sex for fun, and not to get pregnant. What better way to have more fun than to have sexual interactions with other men?

On the other hand, women have sex to become pregnant or, when they’re not interested in becoming pregnant, to maintain a relationship with their man. I’m not saying that sex isn’t pleasurable for women but it’s not the reason they have sex. Women don’t have orgasms, don’t forget.

Let’s say to all men the following: forget traditional labels like gay and straight. Be happy and shameless in your homosexual desires. Don’t let anybody tell you it’s not natural. However, you need to be moral in your behaviour. Make homosexual behavior classy and restrained, not licentious and VD-inducing.

John

As a guy college professor, one of my students (very attractive) hit on me after he graduated. “It” didn’t happen…yet but he keeps in touch and it has been 11 yrs now. He is handsome. Another student str8 and hot, tried tonproposition me by telling me the final project is “so LONG and HARD I will do anything to not have to complete it, please. I was actually shaking when he finally left afraid I was going to cave, but I didnt.

January 18, 2016 at 7:01pm

Captain Obvious

There were a lot of closeted guys in my school so it wasn’t really a longing thing for me, there were plenty(lesbians too though most of them were out and even had a separate prom so they could go together / a bigoted teacher who was closeted himself banned gay prom dates).

I don’t wish I had more with the meathead who spent years hitting on me. I actually wish I had hurt him the way he hurt me back then. He shoved me into some lockers for talking to him outside of class because apparently he couldn’t be seen talking to me since everyone knew I was gay and no one supposedly knew about him(aside from everyone in our classes listening to him talk about how much he wanted to kiss me… Jocks are dumb). He used to call me the f word as a greeting instead of my name and then proceed to hit on me for the next hour.

I don’t know how anyone can get romantic over closeted guys. Even the ones who weren’t that nasty aren’t worth it. Sure he was “hot” but he also made me feel like crap so he could keep a secret. All those muscles and he was a little mussy afraid to be himself around some kids who really didn’t like him anyway.

He’s not missed.

January 18, 2016 at 10:01pm

redzebra1

If there were any gay guys at my school, well, I was out and they weren’t. So I feel a bit peeved. Their choice, of course.

January 18, 2016 at 11:01pm

PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS

At one point in my life at around age 12 I basicaly spent every day with three friends, Mike, Jim, and Chris. Mike and I began hooking up after a we rode two on a bike and I couldn’t help getting a raging boy boner rubbing right against his ass on the seat. He began grinding right back and we rode right to his home, tore into the shed in the backyard and had one of the hottest sessions I ever had!

In the following years I found out both Chris and Jim were also Gay. Still fantasize about the hot sessions we could have had with all four of us! :p