Make Sure People Have Values in Equality Before You Consider Making Them a Close Friend

Equality is a good trait to look for because there is no better way to destroy a close friendship than always competing for something you both want.

If this is the case, then you have made an error in judgment and mistakenly put “just a friend” in your world’s close inner circle when he or she belongs as “just a friend.”

I have seen many people struggle with this, especially when they have been friends since school. In their later years, when one becomes more financially successful than the other, the “trying to keep up with the Joneses” syndrome creeps in.

And yet, I have seen others for whom the difference in status has not changed a thing. This can be the difference between being loyal and not being loyal. Sometimes in these circumstances you truly find out which is which.

You need to look at each other as equals regardless of wealth, size, height, color or religion. If you cannot, then you must disregard them as a friend. There is no need to continue a friendship just because you have a history together.

Your past is your past, but this is now, and it’s the only time you have, so live in the now. Most people find it a challenge to move away from friends when they have known them for such a long time but do not get along with them anymore. They just complain and put up with the difficulties and think they need to prolong the friendship for that reason alone.

But I am here to tell you that when anyone does not serve you well anymore, it’s time to say your goodbyes and wish them well.

I want to share an anonymous poem I read once, many years ago, that profoundly changed the way I looked at life, particularly friends and relationships. I have it framed in my study and read it over regularly; I encourage you to do the same. It puts everything in perspective:

“One of Life’s Best Lessons”

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime

When you figure out which it is.

You know exactly what to do

When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually

They may seem like a Godsend. And they are

They are there for the reason you need them to be

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end

Sometimes they may just walk away

Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand

Sometimes they pass away

What we must realize is, that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled Their work is done

The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on

When people come into our life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow and learn

They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh

They may teach you something you may have never done before

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy

Believe it!

It is real!

But only for a season

– Unknown

There is no reason to be concerned if your lifelong close friendships suddenly begin to fade away. It is all part of God’s plan, and it opens a new door for someone else to walk through who will be a special companion to you.

As a Happiness Expert, Success Mentor, Public Speaker and Author, I believe that everyone is entitled and deserves to experience a happier life, and I continually challenge the status quo on what most people focus on to achieve this. People are struggling to find ways to get more of they do want and less of what they don’t. My vision is to share what I have learnt to as many people as I can, with the strategies that have worked for me and many others. Implement proven ways to create and control the levels of happiness that delivers happy experiences in all 7 areas of our lives. I hope to bring love; enthusiasm, enjoyment and passion back into our lives so that we can create our own reality and help others to do the same. I live in Melbourne, Australia and am living a happy balanced life in all areas.