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Jaycee has known about her DID system for a few years, and has a good therapist who she adores, but Jaycee has never met any other dissociative survivors. She feels alone and isolated, and wonders if other dissociative survivors have the same struggles as she does.

Tracy works full time, and she manages a super busy household as a single mom with 2 young children. When her day finally quiets down, Tracy and her system have no one to talk to about their personal struggles and dissociative issues. She feels lonely, and wants friends, but doesn’t know how to fit any personal relationships into her already overwhelming daytime life.

Stacey lives on a small country farm in a quiet rural neighborhood. His small town community gossips about anything and everything so Stacey wants to keep his dissociative issues private from his nosey neighbors. He likes his home, and doesn’t want any of the local folks to start ridiculing him or ostracizing him. Even if Stacey was to go to counselling, there are no DID therapists in his rural area. If Stacey wants to address his system issues, he has to work on his healing on his own.

Lacy was recently diagnosed with DID. She feels scared, overwhelmed, and totally confused by dissociative issues. Lacy has lots to learn about DID and more than a million questions. Her therapist is new to DID as well, so they are both floundering to understand what is happening. Lacy is motivated to work with her system, if she only knew how to do the work, and where to get the information she needs.

Gracie is a highly skilled, successful professional. She has known about her DID system for quite a while, and for the most part, manages very well in the outside world, but she believes she has to keep people at a distance so that her dissociative issues won’t get discovered. Gracie is highly protective of her privacy and absolutely does not want her professional career jeopardized in any way. However, she is lonely, and needs to have a safe place where her system can have time to be out for awhile.

Daisy has been house bound and agoraphobic for many years. She has numerous medical issues and has been disabled for most her adult life. Daisy's DID system feels too fearful and too broken to go outside, but they are invested in improving their home life and internal worlds. They would appreciate having other dissociative friends who understand the struggles they experience.

Blasi just lost her beloved therapist. She feels devastated, and heartbroken. And of course, the task of finding a helpful, qualified DID specialist is daunting at the best of times. Blasi is not quite ready to begin the search for a new therapist with the qualifications she needs, but in the meantime, she doesn’t want to be completely on her own without any support.

Do you recognize the common themes?

Can you relate to any of these situations?

Whose life description is the closest to your own?

Most dissociative survivors talk about feeling very isolated, alone, separated, and different from the world of people out there.

No matter what lifestyle, what profession, what life circumstances, there are a wide variety of reasons that dissociative survivors feel alone. Isolated. Different from other people.

With all the struggles, triggers, fears, internal conflicts, confusion, and pain felt by dissociative trauma survivors, it’s no wonder that building relationships is difficult! Dissociative survivors often feel they are not the same as the "singletons" out there. Not only does the trauma feel like it separates you from others, but the feeling of living life as a multiple often feels like it separates you as well.

Building friendships and healthy relationships is difficult in the best of times, but especially difficult for DID survivors.

1. Why It Can Be Painfully Difficult For DID Survivors To Build Relationships:

A history of traumatic experiences can make it difficult to trust people.

A history of repeated abandonment experiences can make it difficult to connect with people.

Switching from part to part to part in your system can make it difficult to find a friend who relates to all your different insiders.

The normal, daily struggles and complications felt by dissociative trauma survivors are often not understood by people who have not experienced as much trauma.

A history of repeated experiences of rejection due to appearing too weird, too different, too bizarre, too young, too "crazy" can make it difficult to find friends.

Having insiders of various ages, each wanting friends at their same ages, can be very socially challenging, especially when adult-aged bodies need to respect appropriate social boundaries.

Dissociative survivors who live in remote areas or isolated communities may not know any other DID survivors in their local area.

In many areas of the world, DID is still not accepted as valid. While this may feel absurd to you, these old belief patterns leave many dissociative survivors without anyone validating their life experiences as multiple or multi-faceted.

It hurts to be alone

To be misunderstood

To be doubted

Where are dissociative trauma survivors supposed to go to find friendships?

Where can you find like-minded people who understand your lifestyle and your struggles?

Online groups aren’t a new concept — but how do you find a healthy group that is supportive and private?

We know that having appropriate and healthy support and positive relationships can make an incredible difference in your healing journey.

There really is hope for that!

2. Privacy And Protection Are Essential For Healing Too.

Having built a life of dissociative walls and maintaining secrets, privacy is often a priority need for DID survivors. Being exposed feels unsafe, and protection is essential, for a variety of reasons.

For example, many dissociative trauma survivors are successful, hard-working, career-minded professionals. These folks have DID, but they have found ways to work in their career without their dissociative issues interfering with their work — at least not too much. These trauma survivors are usually fiercely protective of their privacy and do not want anyone from their work-life to know that they struggle with DID. Even though they can maintain strong system boundaries at work, they still need a place for their inner system to come out and express themselves. It’s a complicated balance to find.

On a different level, most dissociative trauma survivors feel uneasy in their family relationships, and need space, distance, privacy from their family as they work on their healing. Addressing trauma memories while in view of other family members is far too conflictual and confusing.

Many dissociative survivors feel vulnerable to their family members, or worry about being at risk for harm, and do not want their family to know about their healing process or their internal system. They need a safe place to work on healing outside of their family’s view.

Other dissociative survivors have legitimate concerns about any variety of predators, stalkers, sex offenders, previous abusers, etc. Being able to hide from predators is essential.

Online groups are great, but having privacy is required for safety and security.

What is the benefit of an online community if your abusers can see what you’re doing?

You've been hurt too much already.

You've been tricked too many times.

It's important to know that you are
as safe as possible.

3. Experienced, Informed, Educated Leadership And Guidance.

Okay…. So you want an online community where you are heard, understood, accepted, and not alone.

You also want safety, privacy, and protection from those who might use the information you post against you in any way.

You also do not want to be led down the garden path and given all kinds of ridiculous or unhelpful or incorrect information. Let’s face it. Dissociative Identity Disorder and all the Dissociative Disorders are complicated. There are many layers, many facets, many complexities in the healing process. And unfortunately, all too many DID survivors have been injured in therapeutic settings, even by well-meaning, good-hearted therapists.

Trusting your healing process to just anyone is not a safe or wise decision!

Finding genuine experts in dissociative healing work is a complicated task of its own! There is a lot more to being a DID expert than just claiming you are one!

Solid guidance is crucial.

Healthy support is invaluable.

Accurate understanding
is essential.

So How Do You Get What You Need?

What is the solution for the need for healthy relationships, safety and protection, and informed guidance?

Is it possible to have all three of these needs met in one place?

This is not too much to ask! These are healthy, normal needs!

For each of our dissociative trauma survivors mentioned above — Jaycee, Tracy, Stacey, Lacy, Gracie, Daisy, Blasi — there is a realistic and viable solution available for their struggles.

Each of these survivors knew that a specialized online support group, created especially and specifically for dissociative trauma survivors, managed by qualified mental health professionals, would help them move forward in their healing process.

They knew that an online support group could help build the relationships and social connections they needed. They could talk with like-minded folks, at any time of the day or night, from any internet connection in the world, any day of the year. The possibilities for emotional support and community connection would be huge!

They each knew that an online support group that was not visible to the public eye could offer more privacy, allowing them to give and receive emotional support without being seen or watched by their neighbors, work colleagues, family members, or the general public. These survivors knew they could keep their privacy by getting emotional support while also sitting in the comfort of their own homes and offices.

They also knew that if they could find an online DID support group that maintained personal privacy and was managed by qualified mental health professionals, they would get better quality guidance, a healthier group structure, and accurate DID system information.

There Is Hope!

There are healthy online communities for dissociative trauma survivors. You don’t have to settle for nothing, or settle for online communities that are chaotic or unmanageable or destructive.

There are private membership sites that do not allow the public to see what is happening and the content is not searchable by search engines. You can be in an online community NOT associated with your personal name or visible to the world.

There are qualified mental health professionals, with a long-term expertise in Dissociative Disorders, managing online membership sites for DID communities.

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Benefits Of The Discussing Dissociation
Community Forum

Ongoing Open Availability For You!

24/7, every day of the year (**minus unexpected or unplanned technical difficulties or brief maintenance periods). The Forum does not have office hours and will not be closed for holidays, etc. If you need it, it will be there for you.

A Community Of Friendly DID Survivors.

You can be with like-minded people, whose struggles are similar to yours. You can develop friendships with others who understand and can relate to your way of living. You can have ongoing conversations with several different survivor systems in a protected environment. Your insiders can make friends too!

Privacy From Peering Eyes On Public Internet.

Your Forum posts will only be visible to other Forum members. The public cannot see your posts. Family members cannot see your posts. Search engines cannot see your posts.

Your System Of Insiders Are Welcome To Participate!

There are few places where your DID system insiders are welcome to participate, join in, talk, and connect. In this Forum, switching is allowed, and insiders are encouraged to join in. Forum rules and guidelines must be followed by whoever from your system posts, but everyone inside is welcome to join in!

A Place to Process Your Daily Struggles

DID survivors typically have a bunch of issues, and questions, and confusion, and experiences swirling around all the time. Different folks in the system can be overwhelmed with different topics. This Forum will be a place where writing about your struggles can help you manage the stress of all that.

Group Interaction And Support From The Safety Of Your Own Home

How many times has it been difficult to drive to / from your therapy appointments? Do you struggle with leaving the house? You can participate in this community from anywhere you already are with internet reception — your home, your office, in a restaurant, on a train, in the car, etc. Wherever you are, whenever you need support, you can sign in to the Forum.

A Written Record Of Your Progress

You can keep an ongoing accounting of what you do, how you feel, what happens for you via your Forum posts. When looking for patterns or repeated events, this resource can be helpful.

Your Amnesia, Time Loss, And Switching Can Be Better Understood

As you and your system post in the Forum, you can potentially see more of what happens if you are amnestic to these occurrences. You will develop a greater understanding of your parts, and how they think by reading their words.

Your Questions Can Be Answered

Having questions about DID responded to by dozens of other dissociative survivors can be enormously helpful. Chances are, someone else has been there, done that, experienced it, felt the same, or wondered that before.

You Can Feel Less Lonely

Making connections with others who understand your struggles and what it feels like to live life as plural-minded can be a great comfort and relief to loneliness and isolation. Even within the DID community, you will find others with whom you most relate.

Affordable Support For You

Let's face it -- individual therapy can be expensive! And people with DID have lots of inside people who need to do lots and lots of talking! Having a healthy resource available 24/7 for only a few dollars per day makes good financial sense.

Ongoing Conversations, Posted In Real Time

As the Forum grows, there will be more and more likelihood that other Forum members will be there and writing at the same time you are there and writing. This allows for conversations, sharing, and healthy interaction right at the time when you need it most.

Forum Managements Is Lead By Two Trauma Therapists!

The Discussing Dissociation Community Forum has both Kathy and Laura — two experienced and highly qualified DID therapists, both with years of experience. Kathy and Laura will be watching, reading and overseeing Forum participation by the group members, and keeping the atmosphere healthy. Every member will be allowed to voice their opinion, of course, but the overall approach to Forum management will follow and model the quality and clinical beliefs as presented in the highly successful Discussing Dissociation blog.

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The Community Friendship Forum -

Who Is This Forum For?

The Discussing Dissociation Community Forum has two different forum areas, connected, but separate from each other.

a community friendship area (available now)

a premium educational area (coming soon)

About the ...

FRIENDSHIP COMMUNITY FORUM

The Community Friendship Forum is a forum designed specifically for DID community support. This section of the Forum is designated primarily for dissociative survivors to talk with dissociative survivors.

While intended to be a community survivor support area, the Community Friendship Forum will still be operating within the safety, privacy, and strict behavioral guidelines required by Discussing Dissociation and the Discussing Dissociation Community Forum.

Laura and the Administrative / Client Care Team will be monitoring the Community Friendship Forum, and will step in as moderators when required.

However, the goal of the Community Friendship Forum is to provide that safe, private place for YOU to chat with YOUR DID FRIENDS. This is your area! You have the opportunity to talk about the joys and struggles of living a life with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) with a group of dissociative folks who know and understand exactly how you feel.

Forums aren’t for everyone, and they are only as helpful as the healthiness of the group members involved. We have every intention of keeping the Discussing Dissociation Community Forum a helpful, positive, healthy environment, and will

Are you a suitable candidate for this Forum?

This Forum Is For:

Dissociative trauma survivors

Male or female (most systems have both male and female parts!)

Body age, 18 and older

Survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder

Survivors with unspecified Dissociative Disorders

Supportive partners and spouses of dissociative survivors

Dissociative survivors who want friendship and companionship with other DID survivors

Dissociative survivors who need support and communication between their therapy sessions

Dissociative survivors who are willing to commit to a group of people

Dissociative survivors who are willing to share some of their feelings and experiences

Dissociative survivors who are willing to encourage and support others in their healing journeys

Dissociative survivors who are willing to work on their healing

People who recognize the importance of social manners, mutual respect, positive problem solving, friendliness

Who Is This Forum NOT For?

This Community Friendship Forum is NOT For:

Trolls or anyone who uses vulgar or hurtful words intending to hurt or disrespect others in the forum

Perpetrators or Abusers with predatory intentions

"Hot potatoes" who jump in, jump out, jump in, jump out ….

People who are so angry or cynical that they forget to use social manners and kindness

Survivors who need an acute, emergency resource for safety

People looking for extreme crisis management

Anyone who needs immediate emergency medical attention

Representatives who are advertising pharmaceutical medications

What Makes a Forum at Discussing Dissociation
a Credible Resource?

There are many reasons why Discussing Dissociation is a trusted, credible resource, such as:

Discussing Dissociation has been a valued online resource for 10 years!

Kathy has written 400+ articles, and created over 2 dozen videos about DID and related topics. You’ve got oodles of material to check her out

Kathy has 30+ years experience working in the fields of trauma, abuse, and dissociation

Kathy has led hundreds of in-person groups, and has previously managed an online forum group

Laura has a dozen years of experience working in the fields of trauma, abuse, and dissociation

Kathy and Laura are both credentialed mental health professionals with legitimate education and training

Clinical, administrative, and technical support will be managed by an entire team of professional people. This forum will not be a one-man job. Sharing the workload will keep this healing resource more stable for a longer time

What are Dissociative Survivors Sayingabout Discussing Dissociation and the
Community Friendship Forum?

"Discussing Dissociation has been the best resource for anything and everything you need to know about DID for ten years now. Kathy Broady is an expert in DID who has a passion for helping others, and is a protective and strong person who always goes above and beyond to make sure people feel safe in her presence. Discussing Dissociation is a positive, helpful, caring environment where you can reach out for support and give support to others, knowing that Kathy is always keeping an eye on everything. We trust Kathy like we trust no one else on Earth. She always has our best interests in mind."

Pilgrims

"I have found Kathy’s resources to be both educational and fun, including her previous forum. I have acquired so much information on how to help my insiders of all ages from other members and have used that information to further my healing. The connections that I have made with others dealing with the same or similar issues have been invaluable in finding my path on this journey to healthier living. You will never find such a kind, motivated, innovative and creative moderator such as Kathy and her team anywhere else. I highly recommend joining the forum and making it a daily resource for you and your system."

PeoplePuzzlePieces

"We have had such positive experiences being in a support forum! Who knows more about DID than those of us who live it? There are always people who have been around a while and then there’s people who are new to dx. Let’s just say we have learned something from all!

There’s something unexplainable that happens in a group! Not in a bad way. It’s common ground. It’s knowing that folks really get you. It’s finding hope. It’s being heard. All wrapped up with ideas on how to handle complicated things that everyday singletons don’t normally “Get”. Yea!

A forum for us! Yes! We plan to join. We hope to find you there too!

If Kathy is on board then all the better! Her wisdom and the way she writes things seems to sink in. That’s saying a lot when we get so confused sometimes."

Jill Ann Sparks - All the Jill People

"I have known Kathy for over ten years, and worked with her in email and phone consultations on and off for much of that time.

Kathy consistently provides a safe, supportive and emotionally warm and inviting space via phone and internet where I/we feel safe to share on deep levels, more so than anywhere or with anyone else that we know. Her knowledge of dissociation and DID and many years experience working with survivors of trauma have helped me to understand my own mind in a way that was never possible in previous therapeutic connections.

We accomplish more in one session with Kathy than in months of internal work with previous therapists. Kathy is easily able to relate to all aspects of ourselves, child, teen and adult parts with ease and skill. she has helped deeply traumatized parts feel safe for the first time in many years. What we appreciate most is her sincere caring, warmth, non judgement and respect. We feel safe with Kathy and would recommend anyone to work with her in this forum or personal consultations."

Jenifer L

"Discussing Dissociation has been an amazing tool in helping us stay on task with our system work. The Incredibles amount of care that goes into this. To make all involved, feel safe! is remarkable. For us in the system to be able to talk openly and freely without consequences has helped tremendously with our healing process. This blog allows us to affirm that we are not alone. A place to talk things through with each other with people that truly do understand what we’re going through. The ability to connect with other Dissociative Identity Disorder humans from around the world is amazing.

It allows us to have a little independents from our therapist. Also giving us a place to ask questions and to find answers to some of the things that the therapist might not have. (Although our therapist is brilliant) She something will say "why don’t you post on the blog and see what they might say"

Sincerely Living United

"Thank you for all you do. 'We' don't participate online, but we are dedicated lurkers, and you are by far the best and safest place for DID survivors we have ever discovered, both in and out of a therapist's office."

Jeremiah

"My community of DID friends know what is going on in my heart, mind and soul when I write and share my struggles, fears, successes and hopes. They just know with such depth of understanding that I feel truly heard in a way that I have never felt before.

There is such wisdom, teaching and compassion in sharing with a community of folks who know where I have been and what I am dealing with in the here and now.

I am not alone anymore. That is what I most cherish about being in a community of DID folks. I am not alone anymore and my first big hope for my life has been fulfilled.

I can be brave when I stand with others because I do not have to live in lonely silence anymore. I have a DID community that cares for me, supports me and will be there for me no matter how much I succeed or feel a failure. They accept me for who I am and help me to do the same.

You know what is really special about being part of my DID community – all of me is welcome. From my little ones, to my angry teenagers, to my wise old woman – everyone has a voice and a welcomed place in the community. I get to be me – all of me(s).

I am so thankful to have a community of DID folks to share with. They know me sometimes better than I feel that I know myself because they have been there themselves. But, most importantly, they believe me. Oh what a precious gift it is to be believed."

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Does the Community Friendship Forum feel like the right fit for you?

Be a member of the Discussing Dissociation
Community Forum!

Steps to Expect During the Purchase Process:

Step #1

Decide on the monthly recurring payment option or the annual recurring payment option.

Step #2

Know that your account will be billed automatically each month, on the same day of the month, until you cancel your membership. By purchasing a Forum Membership, you are agreeing to automatic recurring payments.

Step #3

Agree to the Policies and Guidelines of Discussing Dissociation.

Step #4

Agree to the Behavioral Guidelines Required for Forum Participation. *** If you are opposed to or confused about the Behavioral Guidelines presented, please cancel your purchase process and do not proceed any further. Contact the Client Care Team about any questions you have or clarification needed.

Step #5

Make your payment using PayPal. And thank you in advance for that!

Step #6

After your PayPal payment is received, you will be taken to a new page to create a Forum Membership account. During account creation you will enter your email address and choose your login password. Please choose a memorable password.

Step #7

Login to the Forum using your email address and your memorable password. Take a look around. Breathe a sigh of relief! You made it!

Step #8

The first thing you'll need to do is go to the Update Profile tab. On this page you can change your password and enter a nickname. The nickname you choose will be your Forum Name. Please do NOT use your legal name as your Forum Name.

Step #9

Make your first post introducing yourself to the other forum members.

Step #10

Join in with regular, ongoing, healthy and helpful comments!

Step #11

You may cancel your Forum Membership at any time, however, there are no refunds given for partial month participation. Be sure to cancel at least 72 hours before your next month payment cycle starts.

Refund Policy / Safety Policy

Both Kathy and Laura take Forum Safety and Forum Stability very seriously.

Because of the extreme sensitivity, privacy needs, and safety needs of the Forum Members, no refunds will be given.

You must be willing to commit to at least one full month of healthy involvement in this Forum ahead of time.

If you cannot fully commit to at least one month of healthy, positive interaction, this Forum environment is not for you.

Also, due to the Safety Needs of the other Forum Members, you will not be given a refund for "Looking and Leaving." This Forum is not on display, nor are the Forum Members.

Be sure of your willingness to purchase a Forum Membership BEFORE you join.

However, if you are unsatisfied with your Forum experience for any reason, please contact the Client Care Team. Depending on the circumstances, you may qualify for an exchange of service. Meaning, either Kathy or Laura may provide individual consultation in lieu of ongoing Forum participation.

No matter what, you will be provided an expert DID service
that will benefit your DID system.

You can’t lose!

You will absolutely get your money's worth, and more.

The Discussing Dissociation Community Forum is not available for acting-out self injuries, negative behaviors, shouting matches, or abusive relationships. Maintaining the ongoing safety, stability, and healthiness of the Community Friendship Forum is an essential requirement. Your positive participation will be appreciated!

Please note: If your behavior is found to be disruptive, destructive, or harmful in any way, you will be swiftly removed from the Discussing Dissociation Community Forum without any refund of any sort.

IF you resolve the problems and request to return as a Forum Member, and IF your application is received again, your NEW FEE WILL BE considerably higher than your original purchase price. Non-negotiable.

Discussing Dissociation Community Forum

It’s exciting to think about all that can happen at the Community Friendship Forum! If you are unsure about joining, remember these benefits:

The Forum will be available any time, day or night, any day of the year.

The Forum has been constructed with privacy (and so forth….)

The Forum will be an environment for people who are living life and trying to understand more about living as a multiple.

The Forum will be a place to build friendships.

The Forum will be a place to talk about your everyday struggles.

The Forum will be a place to ask the hard questions that only DID-involved people can understand.

The Forum will be a place to find comfort, reassurance, empathy, and understanding.

You can go to the Forum from the safety of your own home, with no travel needed, no driving needed, no transportation costs. You can join in on discussions from the comfort of your own couch.

No anxiety of leaving the house!

What Will Happen if You DON'T Join
the Community Friendship Forum?

You may still feel alone and isolated.

You will miss out on interactions with a great group of DID folks!

You won’t have as much support for yourself or your system.

You will miss out on some excellent healing information.

You could be paying lots more $$ for ongoing support elsewhere.

You could be paying lots more $$ to get support in individual therapy.

You may have to do your trauma processing in a less secure environment.

People who know you could see your online posts written in public places.

You could be participating in online communities who do not have mental health professionals as leaders, and groups who may — or may not — have healthy boundaries.

Your insiders will have fewer people to talk to who understand what it’s like to be part of a system.

It will take longer to make progress in your healing if you have to hold, stuff, contain, and ignore your system’s needs to express their feelings and talk with others who are helpful.