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50 Thoughts When Using Tinder.

50 THOUGHTS WHEN USING TINDER.

Never in a million years did I think I'd be about to create a blog post about single life or dating, let alone about my experiences on Tinder. I've been single for a couple months now and I'm ready to dip my toes in the dating world, maybe not literally but some harmless online flirting never hurt nobody. Whilst I know my blog isn't going to become an established 'dating' blog anytime soon, I want to start sharing fun anecdotes about my single life and any dating experiences I may have in the future - I thought I'd begin with some light hearted-ness and share my thoughts when I first signed up to Tinder.

At the beginning of this little journey; I was really nervous about Tinder. Who I'd meet on there? How many would just send dick-pics? How many people I'd come across that I knew. The creepy-stalker boys who wouldn't take no for an answer, etc. etc...you get the picture I'm sure?

My friends actually encouraged me to test this out; not for anything serious but just for fun. When you've been in a relationship for so long, you need that time to get used to chatting to people again, being single and generally being flirty.

...let me tell you, I can't flirt.

But let's just jump into what went through my head from the moment I signed up to Tinder;

1. HOLY CRAP AM I REALLY ABOUT TO DO THIS.

2. I NEVER THOUGHT I'D END UP ON TINDER.

3. NOPE.

4. NOPE.

5. NOPE.

6. OOOOH HELLO, MAYBE.

7. LIKE.

8. HEY WE MATCHED, WEHEY.

9. HOLY SHIT WE MATCHED.

10. AM I THAT CONFIDENT LADY WHO CAN TALK FIRST? 11. HELL NO I AM NOT.

At this point it's probably fair to say that the first time I matched with someone, it gave me this reassuring reminder that I've still got it, woo go little old me. After being in a long term relationship; you kind of forget how other people can find you attractive and getting that first match was a reminder that I needed. Heck, there's nothing wrong with a little confidence boost from time to time.

This also meant that I had a uncontrollable about of fear hit me; wondering how conversations would go...and whilst I'm yet to chat with complete weirdos, I'm definitely starting to notice a couple.

12. HEY SOMEONE STARTED THE CONVERSATION. 13. OH HE SENT A GIF. 14. SO I REPLY WITH ONE. 15. AND HE SENDS ANOTHER. 16. I'M NOT FUNNY ENOUGH TO CONTINUE A CONVERSATION IN GIFS. 17. RUINS STREET CRED AND ADMITS THAT. 18. TRIES TO HAVE A NORMAL CONVERSATION 19. BOY ASKS CREEPY QUESTIONS. 20. UNMATCH W/ WEIRD BOY.
To be perfectly honest; I've only unmatched with a handful of people since downloading the app. The most recent was because a boy living in London wanted to drive to Birmingham after chatting with me for less than an hour - woah boy, hold up. I'll give it to most of them; if I don't respond they tend to just leave me alone.

21. TAKE FRIENDS ADVICE AND DON'T GIVE OUT YOUR NUMBER. 22. THREE LADS ASK FOR IT WITHIN 5 MINUTES. 23. CHOOSE THE BEST ONE TO GIVE IT TO. 24. WELL THAT CONVERSATION LASTED ALL OF TWO DAYS. 25. HE WAS CUTE THOUGH. 26. THIS IS GETTING TOO MUCH FOR ME NOW. 27. DOESN'T TOUCH THE APP FOR A WEEK. 28. ADMITTEDLY I'M USING THIS FOR A LITTLE ATTENTION. 29. DOES THAT MAKE ME A BAD PERSON? 30. FUCK IT. I'M GOING ON A SWIPING SPREE ANYWAY.
I tend to visit the app in waves, spending a couple days swiping left and right, chatting to new people and then taking a little break.

I've gotten to a point where I find it entertaining to match with people I already know. Some instantly get a swipe no; just because that's a door I'm not willing to open and others it's been fun to chat with people I've known for a few years and just chat and reconnect. Although some of them have been known to message me through Facebook and tell me they've found me online, sorry kid.

41. LETTING MY FRIENDS SWIPE FOR ME. 42. MATCHING WITH SO MANY RANDOMS. 43. CHATS W/ GUY I KNOW. 44. WON'T TAKE ME ON DATE - JUST WANT SEX.45. SORRY LAD. 46. IS THIS WHAT THEY ALL WANT? 47. MATCH W/ SOME GENUINE GUYS. 48. OH YOU'RE SWEET. 49. CHATS EASILY FOR DAYS W/ NO WORRIES. 50. EXCUSE ME, WHEN WILL YOU ASK ME ON A DATE?

It's fair to say I've met my fair share of people via Tinder. Some weirdo's and some genuinely nice lads. Personally I'm using Tinder to 'get back on the wagon', to chat with new people and maybe re-work on my flirting. I actually went on my first official 'tinder date' last week, he was sweet, we chatted and it was really exciting to do. Before my ex-boyfriend I hadn't dated much; so this is very much all new to me.

I'm glad I've gotten past the stage of wallowing in self-pity and trying to get over my ex-boyfriend. After a five year relationship that was never going to be easy; but hey I'm trying my best. Let's see what fun I can have whilst I rediscover the dating world and simply learn more about myself and my obvious fear of commitment.

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Sarah Lauren, 25 year old, media & counselling graduate. With a slight passion for photography, beauty & sharing my life online. If you would like to contact me for any reason, please feel free to email me at