Welcome to the British Second Wives Club

The BSWC was founded in 2005 to provide help, advice and support for women who are experiencing the trials and tribulations of being with a man who has a past. We hope you will find our site useful, or you may wish to join our private Forum, where we have over 300,000 posts from thousands of members on subjects ranging from being a step-mother, to difficult ex-wives, to financial and legal issues. The Forum is for second wives or partners only and we welcome women of all nationalities.

And They All Lived Happily Ever After

Cynics might say that only fairy tales end like this, but this ideal is deeply embedded in Western culture and is something we all strive for. The odds may seem a little stacked against second wives (or partners), but let us not forget that in the best fairytales, there is always some hardship along the way...

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Trouble with the ex?

A marriage break-up is painful, whatever the circumstances, and especially hurtful if a husband (or wife) leaves for another. We get that. But what happens if an ex will not move on? Or the reaction is not proportional? Or your partner is caught up in daily battles over access, or money, or parenting? What happens if her rage is taken out on you (even when it is not your fault)?

The instant family – becoming a step-mother

Biological mothers get nine month’s warning before they even have a baby in the house, and then motherhood naturally allows years of bonding and learning on-the-job. By the time there’s a moody teenager in the house, you know that deep down they still love you, and you know them. Becoming a step-mother is very different.

Parental Alienation

At the BSWC, we believe Parental Alienation is a form of child abuse. Parental Alien­ation is the attempt by one parent to turn a child against the other parent, a parent with whom they have had a close and loving relationship in the past. One of the best antidotes we have observed for this is regular contact between a parent and a child.