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Okay, I should have written this yesterday because today is Day 10. I might failed yesterday but hey, it’s not the end for me. I still have 20 more days to go!

My favorite love quote is

“There’s no substitute for a great love who says, ‘No matter what’s wrong with you, you’re welcome at this table.'”

— Tom Hanks

It’s easy for us to love anyone who is nice and easy to go along with. But what if as the time passes by we discover more and more weaknesses from the person we love? What if we discover bad habits? What if the person you love become depressed that it affects every aspect of his/her life including your relationship? What if his/her attitude changed which is different from the person you have loved from the start. What if he/she cheated on you? What if he/she becomes ill? Will you continue to love? Will you stay?

The songs say “Love yourself” and “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all”. It makes me think, is it love? What is love really? Does love has condition?

I am an emotional person and it’s easy for me to get upset when my husband say something that hurts me. I say to myself, “how can he say that? He doesn’t think of what I feel”. Sometimes I think of not talking to him for a week, but it doesn’t happen because I ask myself “Is this how I suppose to love?.” When I tell him how I feel it always ends up in drama, which I will write about some other time.

Loving is not easy. If you just honestly ask yourself, maybe you will find it out for yourself if you really have the capacity to love. In relationships, sometimes we look for things that are missing, we think we would find it from another person, it could be attitude, wealth, it could be anything. When we find a new relationship, we will again realize that something is missing.

I realized as I’m writing this blog, that we have to accept that people are different. And I guess that’s the importance of knowing a person first before jumping in a relationship. It’s always smooth sailing in the beginning, but the water will always get rough eventually and your love will be tested.

I believe love is sticking out for the person even if it’s difficult and inconvenient. For me love is more than loving yourself, ever forgiving and sacrificing, for me love always bear hardship and never gives up.

I don’t know if there is anyone who can love like this aside from God. When I ask myself if I really know how to love. It’s hard to answer. Honestly, I feel like I can’t love that unselfishly. If my husband cheats on me, I would probably walk awayand not give him any chance. I have the tendency to be self-centered, but when I think of what really love is, it changes my heart.

How about you? What do you think about this quote? What is great love for you?

Like this:

I listed 15 questions for my husband to answer. I told him to be honest with his answers. I gave him the list of questions ahead of time so he could think of his answers. When he was ready, he gave me his answers and we enjoyed discussing it, especially me, I was smiling all the way! My husband agreed to list down his own questions for me to answer! Here are the 15 questions I listed and my husband’s answers.

1. What made you decide to marry me?

“I guess I didn’t consider it carefully. I just followed my heart. It hit me all of a sudden and I thought I want to marry you and spend the rest of my life with you”

2. How have you changed since we married?

“I don’t think I changed that much since marrying you because I’m the one you fell in love with. But I changed a lot since you came into my life. Before you, I never thought of myself as the marrying type. My Outlook changed because of you”

3. What is the sweetest thing that I do for you?

“You fill my love tank. You always make me feel loved and secure”

4. What do I do that make you feel most loved?

“You choose to spend your free time with me. Nothing says love to me more than quality time together. Building bonds and memories”

5. What do you find attractive about me?

“Intelligence. Physically: your eyes, lips, nose and skin color“

6. What do I do that you don’t like the most?

“It’s kind of a negative question but right now I’m peeved that I can never beat you at chess”

7. What is the best memory you have of us?

“Airport. I realized you ever more beautiful in person and the hearts were bulging from my eyes like in the cartoons.”

8. How can I help you be a better father?

“Maybe you can help me pick out clothes for my daughter. I’m brutal at that. Just spending time with her too, playing with her, doing fun things together”

9. What makes me the best wife?

“You make me feel loved, happy, and secure. You are committed to the ideals of marriage when many are not”

10. In what ways are we similar?

“We are both passionate about teaching and learning. We both like travel, language, and culture”

11. In what ways are we different?

“I think you are more emotional. I have emotions too but I keep them in check.”

12. What makes you feel insecure about my love for you?

“I think I always feel secure”

13. What are things that you would like us to do together as hobbies?

“Travel, exercise, biking, swimming and indoor stuff. Doesn’t matter what we do as long as we do it together”

14. What do you think are your best qualities as a husband?

“I express my love, patience, loyalty, understanding, supportive”

15. Where do you want to retire?

“I’d consider retiring in the Philippines when my daughter is grown up. I love it there, you’d be closer to friends and family and our retirement dollars will go farther. Maybe it’d be ideal to spend just the cold Canadian winter in the Philippines.”

There you are. It’s your turn! Why don’t you list down questions that you want to ask? You may also use the 15 questions I listed and also share it with your friends. Remind your husband to be honest with his answers. Take this challenge and have a nice conversation with your husband today! You may also post/publish yours.