Don’t define yourself with something that doesn’t define you. You don’t have to let the experience of your past become the label of your life. You will never get clean walking through mess. You will never become better seeing yourself from the eyes of your past circumstances. It’s not our reality that shapes us, but the meaning we give it that does. You can’t reach new heights, carrying the same old weight. Don’t allow yourself to be labeled by the circumstances of your life, yes I know stuff happened, yes I know your life may not have been perfect, yes I know sometimes you feel too lost to be found, you even starting to feel like there’s no purpose for your life, but know this – You are never too imperfect for God, He can use your brokenness to create a better you.The day I made the decision to walk out of my past, my life changed for better. You got to rip off any lable your past has put on your life, rip off any label your mistakes have put on your life. You don’t have to be that failure that your past mistake say you are, You don’t have to be that insecure person your past relationships created, You don’t have to belive the lables people have placed on your life based on your past experiences and failures. . God had a purpose for your life before anybody had an opinion. They didn’t create your life, so don’t let them take you off your path. Self pity does nothing except make you feel good about feeling sorry for your self. You can’t control the mistakes of your past, but you can control the decisions of your NOW. Don’t give up on God, keep trusting him, He is the only one who can bring true beauty to your life.

Don’t let someone else’s dishonesty ruin your character. Your reputation doesn’t just depend on you, but on the people you call your friends. Everything they do will always reflect in the way you are perceived. You can’t move in the company of people with defective ideals expecting to be branded differently.

You are the company you keep and that company will ultimately determine how far you will go in life…….ever wondered why you have not made significant progress with your life, ever wondered why your life is not moving in the direction of your dreams. A lot of folks are where they are today because the failed to break away from certain kind people, there’s no point holding on to people who aren’t making your life better; there’s no point holding on to people who aren’t moving your life forward….Your circle has the power to make you or break you; you can’t move in the company of people doing nothing with their lives expecting to be different; you can’t move in the company of people sitting down on their dreams and expect to do differently. The people around you can influence your life more than you know….mindsets are contagious…. You will eventually become like the company you keep. Its time to subtract from your life, those people that don’t make you better… You are not “selfish” for deciding to cut some people off; There comes a point when you have to stop being UNFAIR to yourself, Sometimes subtraction is the only way for things to add up.

Life will never produce results for you on credit; So many people talking about how they want a better life, but wake up every day and do nothing about it. You cannot keep on acting the same way, expecting to get a different life; The greatest thoughts or words will never produce results without action; Actions make dreams come true! You will never catch your dreams by justifying excuses and making them count. Don’t make yourself feel good about doing nothing.

Everything you are or ever will be is entirely up to you. If you want things to be different in the future, you must make things different in the present; your life is not a dress rehearsal for something else; this is the real thing, the game is on and time is passing. All of your decisions and in-decisions, your actions and in-actions, have added up to create the life you are living at this very minute. It’s time to stop blaming circumstances and people for holding your life back! Stop complaining about the things that you aren’t willing to change, Where you are today is an inside job; It’s time to get out of that victim mindset and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Free yourself from excuses; You are responsible for your own life, So start taking ownership. Change don’t just happen; Success doesn’t happen over night, you have to…

What would you do if you know you would never fail; What would you do if you where guaranteed success. Too many tailor their lives according to what the majority says is possible, they dare to reach the limits the world around them agree is achievable. I challenge you today, to break out from the norm, break out from the routines, step into your possibilities and be who God has called you to be…Before you can really see a change in your life, you got to start from the inside out: Everything you see on the outside has a root somewhere on the inside, starting from inside means you got to develop yourself, it means you got to stretch yourself, it means you have got to do more: and doing more means you can’t remain in your comfort zone. You have got to come out and face new challenges. Personal development gives you the capacity to attract the right things into your life. The more you develop yourself, the greater your capacity for achieving an all-round success. To really develop yourself, you must develop the quality of your thoughts. Your life will always move in the direction of your prevailing thoughts as such, the quality of your life can never be better than the quality of your thoughts. How successful do you want to become? How wealthy do you want to become? Think possibility not impossibility. Think success not failure; for a man is as he thinks. As you develop the quality of your thoughts, you will also develop the quality of your life, the quality of your relationships, the quality of your finances….. You have been in the closet far too long, Its time to get a hold of your life, its time to move beyond the limits, its time to breakout, step out and be who you were destined to be. Its not over until you win.

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While there may have been many times when we were wronged, there may have been many more times when we spent too long grieving over the hurts instead of moving beyond them. Without forgiveness your life will always be a reflection of the hurt and pain people bring to you…the more you forgive, the more love can grow in your heart, Its ok to feel hurt sometimes, its ok to feel the pains of their actions or inaction, but listen up, you are responsible for how long you choose to let what hurt you hunt you…You are responsible for how long you choose to let what hurt you break you.. Most times, we cannot undo what has already been done, so why handcuff yourself to a memory that brings you so much pain, why hold on to the hurt when you can release yourself from the pain. The one thing you are holding on to could be the one thing that’s holding your life back! its time to release yourself!! Forgiveness is for you not them, Holding a grudge keeps your life in their hands, Holding a grudge gives them control over you. You got to free yourself today. Holding on to things that we are supposed to let go of, just keeps our lives in a season that we are no longer supposed to be in. Forgiveness is your gift to them, Moving on is your gift to yourself….Hate in your heart, prevents you from experiencing God’s love. It time to let go, its time to become you again!

Weather you do good or bad people will always have something negative to say; Matter of fact, the more good you do the more judgmental many will get, expecting you to be perfect as they put you under a magnifying glass, yet neglect to look at their own lives; But you know what? We get to determine whether our labels become our realities, We get to decide whether we choose to believe the odds or believe God.
We have the ability to choose to love ourselves more and decide we will succeed! Don’t focus on what people think! rather strive to be the BEST you can daily! There is a process to everything! Live & learn… You can be genuinely misunderstood or fraudulently accepted, but you can’t be everything to everyone. Not everyone is going to “get you”. Learn to be okay with that. The more in love you fall with yourself the less acceptance you need from others. Often times we get so caught up trying to be so memorable to people that we forget who we are to ourselves, but never forget that you are the star of your own show, a co-star in some other peoples show and an extra in others. You gotta learn to be okay with that if you are going to grow. God can’t direct your show with you creating your own plots. Growth is a part of life and change is inevitable. You will have to answer to God for the life you lived. Make it honest, Make it genuine, Make it compassionate and Make it real. Happy New Month!

Stop blaming other people for your lack of success. Look in the mirror and take some responsibility for your life. Success starts from within: Your change will starts with you. The thoughts that overcome the mind overcomes the man; Your life will always reflect the colours of your thought, If you want to be successful, start thinking of yourself as successful and begin to work towards it. There’s no need to be envious of others when you have the same 24 hours as everybody else. Don’t hate on the person who chooses to work harder, don’t be jealous of the person who chooses to be more disciplined and don’t be envious of the person who chooses not to waste their opportunities: You got to take advantage of yours! Stop acting like God can’t bless you too. Don’t be mad at them for YOUR life, but be mad at the person who’s responsible…..YOURSELF…… Get better not bitter; Let someone’s success motivate you to WORK HARDER not HATE HARDER. You got to STOP waiting for the right time to seek a better life and make TODAY the day you DECIDE to CHANGE!

A lot of people spend so much time living a life that’s far from their true reality just to feel included…they live a lie just to attract the people that mean nothing and push away the people that mean everything… they spend money they don’t have on things they don’t need just to impress people they don’t like. It’s time to get real with yourself, It’s time to let people know you for who you really are and if they choose to walk away from identifying with your truth, then they weren’t meant to be in your life in the first place…. Don’t be caught living a life full of lies…because lies are only believable for so long, your truth will eventually show up in the end. You can “photoshop” your life for social sites, but that still won’t change the picture offline; You got to be honest with yourself, you got to be real with you. It is NEVER too late to start over; Its never too late to reinvent yourself! If you don’t like how your life is going, YOU have the power to change it! You will stumble, yes you will! but you just got to get back up and do it all over again until you succeed! You can live a lie to gain the world, but taint your soul by dismissing the truth; If this truth offends you, it only means one thing; You are living a lie! The truth will always step on the toes of someone living a lie. . . . . . .

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Sometimes your biggest disappointments will birth your greatest blessings! A setback is not the end but a pit-stop to repair;
Failure is meant to change your approach, not break your spirit, failure is meant to motivate you, not make you quit. Been defeated doesn’t make you a failure, staying defeated does. It might be easy to stay defeated, but moving forward is the first step to achieving great success. You don’t have to let your scars scare you from having a future…. A survivor is not a Person who’s life has been struggle free but a person who has been freed from that struggle. Life is too short to be intentionally unhappy, So stop grieving over what could have been and start taking hold of what is….Everything that happens to us in life is a trial, a test we should see as an opportunity to grow, as something pushing us to find strength we did not know we had. The bigger the test, the more we are pushed to grow. You got to stop believing you are a victim and start seeing yourself as a work in progress; Its time to exercise your strength. Stop complaining about the darkness, light a candle; Stop complaining about your failures, move beyond them. Don’t let your past failures keep you in bondage. Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. Life is designed to test your staying power, so don’t let your failures get the best of you, we may not always get it right at first, but we should never stop trying.

The more you entertain others peoples negative opinions about you, the more power you give them to control your life. You might not be in control of what people bring across your way, but you are always in control of what you choose to accept…

You will always believe you are broken If you keep letting people tell you what needs to be fixed in your life; You will always believe you are not good enough, if you keep letting people’s negative opinions bring you down. A person’s belief or disbelief in you doesn’t determine your ability to succeed……unless you let it! A person’s belief or disbelieve in you doesn’t determine your ability to move forward……..unless you let it! There are people who will always find something wrong with everything you do, right or wrong…. But Don’t let a few raindrops ruin your parade…Its never about what they think, its rather about what you choose to believe! Stop believing you are not good enough when God has made you great enough; People’s negative opinions about you are useless……unless you give them power!! God has planted a seed of greatness in your heart; It’s on you…