A friend and I were talking this morning. He'd set up a date a couple weeks back and I was curious about where they were going but he told me, "It's going to be tomorrow night instead. She texted me a reschedule."

The Bachelor is an impossible situation for women who don't know themselves and who aren't confident. Sharing deeply traumatic events too early when meeting someone may heal you, but it won't solidify the ground on which a lasting partnership can be built.

If there is one topic that men and women alike are really confused about, it's love. Where do you go to find it and, how do you deal with it once you do? Then, once you have it, how can you tell if it's the real thing; i.e. True Love?

Very few men are going to know what you want, when you want it and how you want it. My grandmother used to say, "You must summer and winter, and summer and winter, with a man to truly know him," and for him to truly know you. Give a man the chance to know you.

Love is an open door my friend, but you can only open the door when you open your mind, and your heart. So many of us are on the treadmill of dating, and we continually date the same people over and over again. Why? Because we're not clear on what we really want.

The reason most of you aren't married is because you date like toddlers, and you suffer from the whole princess fantasy. Right now, I want you to close your eyes and imagine the kind of man you'd like to date. Close your eyes and allow your mind to drift to picture of your ideal man.

The moment you learn to surrender and let go, is the second you start to feel more in tune with who you are. The moment you learn to surrender and let go, is the moment you free your energy from a negative relationship.

We think we love our partners, but we don't drill down very often on what that means, how to receive it or express it. Love is a verb, not a noun. To make a partnership work for the long haul, you must make your love active.

If you follow these steps, you will open the space for love. Simultaneously, you will sharpen your character, build your confidence, discover your wants and desires, and tighten your awareness. Sounds like a win-win to me. Now, go prepare yourself for love!

I believe, and my experiences are showing me, that we definitely have the ability to be more in control of what we experience in life, and more specifically, what kind of people and love partners we attract.

When your time gets out of hand, when your loved ones turn into strangers and your home life begins to crumble, I suggest you sound an alarm. Pick up a kitchen timer, and turn the dial counter-clockwise.