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Friday, August 24, 2012

Why my Mexican relatives hate me breastfeeding.

It used to
be (and perhaps still is in certain parts of Mexico) that a breastfeeding woman
was seen like any other woman. She had a baby, the baby like any other person,
would get hungry, so the woman would pull out her breast to feed said baby and
everyone went about their lives as usual. Today, at a typical middle class
Mexican birthday party, somewhere after the giant stuffed walking animals danced
and gave away cheap plastic “made in China” toys, and the princess piñata, I
had to breastfeed my four month old baby. My cousin started to squirm and look
uncomfortable.“He isn’t hungry!” he
exclaimed as I put a blue blanket on my shoulder, to cover up my son’s little
mid party snack.I smiled and continued
to position him so he could latch on.My
male cousins all stood up from the table with looks on their faces somewhere
between disgust and distain and left me sitting alone at the table.

In Mexico, like
much of the industrialized world, breastfeeding took on a negative aspect. The norm
became that the poor, uneducated women breastfed while affluent, educated mothers
bought formula made in the United States. They mixed the powdered cow’s milk with “special”
designer water and used plastic brand name bottles made in England.Feeding offspring became a status symbol. Much like the proliferation of c-sections for certain
mid to upper middle class Mexican women who are too "posh to push" (or
in my experience) too frightened by their ob/gyn to think they ACTUALLY could get a human being out
through their birth canal without the need of a scalpel, breastfeeding is
something that women from ranchos and
shanty towns do.

In 2012,
breastfeeding seems to be making a comeback in Mexico, being promoted once
again as the “best food for your baby”.But society, at least middle class Mexican society, seems to be slower
to catch on.My own mother, a staunch
supporter of breastfeeding, admonished me for breastfeeding my baby during my
grandmother’s funeral mass. “The look on the priest’s face” my mother
exclaimed, “when you took out your breast! You should have covered up!”I sighed and wondered why a priest would be
shocked to see a woman’s breast, could it be he wished he could see more?

The mommy wars that have been touted as of late in the US media saddens me. See, I tend to idealize my home of
origin. There is so much about the USA
that I miss and love. But there is a lot
that I wish would change too. Then again, at least the discussion is out there
on the table, for everyone concerned to speak about. Here, in modern day Mexico, the working precept “if
you don’t talk about/see it, it doesn’t exist” apparently applies to all aspects of life, hungry babies and breasts included.

Alma M. Rinasz
is a native New Yorker who has been living in Mexico for the past eleven years and blogs ocassionally about life in Mexico.

Third culture kid born and raised in New York. Adventure bound and living in Mexico for ten years and counting. In love with learning and asking questions. My thoughts on being an expat? It's all about attitude: You can take the kid out of NY but never try to take NY out of the kid.

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Third culture kid born and raised in New York. Adventure bound and living in Mexico for ten years and counting. In love with learning and asking questions. My thoughts on being an expat? It's all about attitude: You can take the kid out of NY but never try to take NY out of the kid.