Friday, September 23, 2016

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The following blog was originally written and posted on my "A Commentary" blog (without the lead in image above, I added that now). I was reviewing what I had written and realized it is something that I usually cover in MEANDERINGSabout blog. Here you go loyal followers and subscribers .....I tend to go on about stats and such on my optioneerJM blog since that is where the conversation about social media or soME seems to have some traction. I really started out there writing about sales primarily, then shifted to include leadership and business with social media dialogue emerging frequently.That's a tough position to be in because your golden followers, the ones who began the journey with you deserve and have earned your return loyalty and acknowledgement. The strange part of me is I constantly seek feedback online from trusted advisors, and I can take it. However, if it is someone looking at me, with eye contact and giving me feedback, if it isn't filtered with empathy and professionalism, I can feel attacked.Writing to the loyal followers is paramount to a business or a blog. That's a mutual reward for sticking around together. And as the object of that feedback, you take it more positively because they've grown to know you over a few years at least. They aren't adding their own ingredients of bias into the equation. People feel threatened if they recognize an element of your personality that they internally, personally feel that you lack. That can make things get rubbed the wrong way.To be told by a senior manager, that "people feel threatened by you" is something a person has to grapple with and grasp. I don't think any one individual person consciously thinks they're a bad person. The bad aren't even in your sphere because they know they're bad and proud of it.Let's take how a woman dresses. It shouldn't be a key factor in this day and age but it is. You can be both the victim and the judge at the same time. I am a clothes horse, even call myself a "fashionista" with the more humbling affiliation that I'm "fighting my 50s" so as to remove ego when is not there.

RELAXED to the MAXNo dress code does not mean you look like you will jump into bed when you get home

How a person dresses, in my opinion, reflects to the world a statement: "this is how I feel about myself". You can relate even better when you think about when you are sick with a cold, a nose so raw and red from blowing it. You feel lousy and look it. You underscore how you are feeling with a ballgown? Hardly, more likely the biggest, loosest flannel PJ bottoms, fluffiest slippers or lumberjack grey socks and a rebel Tshirt you wouldn't be caught grocery shopping in! That's my point. I agree that Hollywood and movies often portray the really efficient, bitchy boss dressed in a suit with not a hair out of place, so polished and poised.I don't intimidate people by how I act, it is their preconceived notions before I've even opened my mouth. Which can be annoyingly long-winded. You won't walk away without replaying it or thinking about it again.

DRESS YOUR AGE: This works well on the sprite that she is yet it would look dreadful on me: 5 ft and 55

My talkative, gregarious nature doesn't tee up with a suit. It should be more Bohemian in style and mannerism shouldn't I?My point today being that we should not evaluate and file anyone away or into a category based on a 5 second visual. You are short changing yourself from what could be a great adventure, exchange of wits, a few laughs. That is one of the main attractions of social media: your voice is translated via keys communicating in such a way and in an acceptable manner that you listen to the person, you observe the message. In its nakedness, you make your judgement, evaluation, and determination to join that person's ranks. A photo or visual is after the fact. What is appealing is that communications style that others gravitate towards while others with bias refuse to get to know them because of that first 5 seconds. With social media, it may only be 1 or 2 seconds, but the benefits are far reaching, the risk obsolete, the ability to control (block, unfollow, ignore) your environment online is much more peaceful than anywhere else.MY KIND OF FASHION Fall 2016

My kinda fashion for "Business Casual" or "Casual Friday" Looks. Really comfortable with the jacket off, yet the jacket is there to ward off the chills OR attend that last minute meeting scheduled.

Although this was sourced as a PLUS fashion, the lines and curves packaged professionally is bang on with this look! It compliments a figure with or without curves. In either case, it is not bashful or hides the fact that you are a woman. In fact, where it to the next All Boys meeting you attend to visually communicate that yes, you are a woman, and your ideas will add value.

If you want to add volume where others have curvesthis would be a great look for someone slim or tallI wouldn't recommend this if you're curvy or plus size as it will add weight where you don't want it.

BUSTED: The shoes say "I'm going clubbing at lunchtime" while the suit conveys professionalism They are in conflict with each other.

You can stop wondering what to wear to work to look as stylish as you do ... Sep 22, 2016 @ 7:30 AM ... Amal Clooney Means Business in an Office-Ready Two-Piece in Germany ... This Perfect Transitional Look Will Help You Ease into Fall.

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