What a good looking lot we have here! . . . and also the 'piccie' at the bottom of your blog.

Here is the first of the standard questions. Why do you blog?

My blog is literally my journal. I did not know much about blogging when I started. I decided I would be raw and open and use my blog as my therapy; my healing. IT was only after I started and people commented on how ‘brave’ I was to bare it all, I realized that not everyone uses their blog as a window to their soul. For me, that’s who I am. I have always been an open book; I have always shared too much. Why stop now? Three years ago, my life went in a direction I never expected or saw coming. My heart was broken and everything I had ever put stock in was turned upside down. In the aftermath of the heartbreak I made a choice that led to even more hurt and destruction. I knew I was not alone, that there were others hurting and trying to find their way in a life that no longer looked liked it used to. I also knew that holding my feelings in was not the way to healing. There is no doubt that as I have journaled , the very act of putting my journey into words has taken the power out of the circumstances and instead transferred that power into the healing, strength and resolve that written words can bring.

What's the story behind your blog name?

Reality! I am a single mom and I must say I think the world has become WAY more complicated since the last time I was single. Admittedly I was 18. Now I am, well, NOT 18. But, facing life single again (and again..*sigh* ) with three kids is complicated beyond description. Then you add in the ex, and his girlfriend! (I try to pretend the second ex never happened, so far that’s working out for me!!Unless you count the fact that I BLOG about it openly and honestly for the world to see, it’s the perfect secret!!LOL!) Then throw in shared holidays, different parenting styles, full time work, and the lack of a dating life (but the threat that it might become an issue one day), and you have one VERY complicated situation. Did I mention I have 2 preteens and a diva?? But, I won’t even go there…that’s another blog in its self I am sure!

What is the best thing about being a blogger?

For me the best part is the therapeutic side effect of baring my heart. I love the people I have met. But, I would blog even if no-one read it. I also love that I can look back on my blog and see how far I come. Sometimes I go back to the first several months of my blog. My brokenness is so evident; it hurts my heart to read it. But, I see now how much I have grown. How much I have learnt and I have faith based on the lessons learnt and chronicled, that a future without destructive choices is within my grasp.

What key advice would you give to a newbie blogger?

I would suggest that a newbie be honest BUT cautious. Do not hurt another or say things you would not want the world to know. It is not an anonymous form of communication.

What is the most significant blog post you've ever read?

Another tough one. I do not believe I can choose on this, because all of the blogs I read are significant in their own way. My time is so limited as a single mom of three. The blogs I read and comment on are blogs that reach me in some form.

What is the most significant blog post you've ever written?

Sunday, February 15, 2009Don't make any sudden moves!!!!!To be honest most, if not all, of my posts are significant to my journey. I have held nothing back as I have overcome two heartbreaks and the journey from broken-ness to wholeness. This post is one in which I began to understand why I made some of the choices I did and verbally took the stand needed not to end up there again.

If you were to suggest two blogs for roasting who would you pick, and why?

That concludes the formal aspect of the interview but it would be nice to get to know you a little better while you are slowly turning on the roasting spit. So while you are screaming in agony above the open fire here are a few more questions for you.

Pick three things you can't live without (no you cannot have ice cubes to cool you down)

My family, my bible , coffee

If you were an ice cream cone, which flavour would you prefer and who would you most want to lick you?

Way to HOT of a question even if this a roast, so I shall pass. (Unless you know Denzel Washington’s favorite ice-cream flavor??? OK pretend I did not say that!! ;)!)

Describe in one sentence your perfect day

A day in the mountains, with a cup of coffee, my children and a great book.

If you were a fictional writer which one would you be and why?

I would LOVE to choose Pat Conroy. I find his books so honest and open. BUT, I do not have his flair for description. So, I will go with Jodi Picoult. Her books are lighter and yet her topics deep and raw.

And finally if you have answered all five questions I invite you to ask me one in return - it's the least I can do. OK fire away!

-I only answered 4 but here's a question just in case.

(Oh that's ok! - you passed on the movie question but ask away - golly what a searching question though!)

What one character trait would you change about yourself if you could?

I am sometimes a little impulsive and I regret on just one or two ocassions not giving sufficient thought to the consequences of my actions, even though at the time they were well intentioned.

Thank you Debbie for a most enjoyable interview.

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I've been reading Debbie's blog for a little while now. As a fellow single mom, we have had some similar experiences. She and I have different religious/political orientations, but I think there is a mutual respect and caring there that transcends that, which I consider a true joy.

Debbie seems like an absolutely lovely lady!!! So enjoyed this very authentic and warm roast! And I look forward to paying her a visit soon! Thank you so very much for such a delightful interview and introduction! You always do it up right!! Thank you again and again!! Truly owe you so much for all your brilliant interviews!! Hugs, Janine

Just wanted to say thank you for all the kind comments and all the visits!! This has been such a great experience! I have found new blogs to follow and made new friends! It does not get better then that! Thanks again Eddie!

Can You Cook, Eddie?

I get by and I am improving but will never feature on Master Chef. But there is a member in the family who has . . . . recently in November 2014

Eddie and Range Rover

Loved driving the 4x4 vehicles

Eddie, Ex-Ambulance Man

A number of newer followers have asked to see me in my uniform. Oh go on then! I must stress I do not wear it now - I am no longer in the service, regrettably

Dear God: I pray for a cure for cancer. Amen

For Maggie and Jenny plus countless millions throughout the world. Please keep the flame burning.
Alas too late for my dear wife Maria and brother-in-law Harry, and Jim but I know they ARE now cured in Heaven

My Favourite Music and Comedy

Click On Picture and Enjoy

Welcome To My Blog

Pull up a chair and share my posts. I try to produce both humorous and serious writings Please leave a comment so I can visit and admire your posts, but I am a little busy at work of late so this might take some time for which I apologise. A big thank you to Jinksy for this lantern so I can see where I am going in BlogLand LOL

Eddie Bluelights

About Me

Welcome to my Blog. I'm Eddie, a retired, eccentric ex-ambulance man, who loves making people laugh and happy. I have some great bloggy pals. I drive a bus for our local Dial-a-Ride service and really enjoy looking after passengers and brightening their day. I am a widower, and finding my feet after losing my dear wife of 40 years. Maria suffered breast cancer for 16 years and, sadly, I lost her in April 2013. I have a beautiful married daughter (32) and a wonderful son (22), soon to be married; he has a delightful baby son (11 months). Peter is a real cutie-Pie; he has big blue eyes and can melt any lady's heart - just like his Grandpa. Although retired I feel nothing like my age. Apart from a great new hip, all my original equipment is working very well, although I do have the odd creak now and then. I am writing up my ambulance and career experiences and offer a little poetry plus creative writing here and there, sometimes humorous, sometimes sad. I have donated 102 units of blood and encourage new donors in this life saving venture. I have a very keen sense of humour . . . and ladies, I'm quite a catch and will be snapped up quickly, so no delays, email me, pronto!

Andromeda Galaxy

How could this just evolve? There are 100 billion stars in it AND there are at least 100 billion galaxies in the universe! Surely someone made it! Sir Isaac Newton made a clever working model of the Solar System and a friend asked, "Who made that?" Isaac replied, "Oh! Nobody!" His friend said, "Oh come on somebody must have made it!", Isaac said, "I don't get it. You say someone must have made a little toy like that but when I ask 'who made the universe?' invariably the reply is 'nobody!'"