Consensual "forced nudity" games or scenarios? 26F needs advice on how my boyfriend can "make" me get and be naked for him. Could be a fetish of mine, but not sure how to make it fun, and maybe with sort of a power dynamic?

I'm a 26F, dating an amazing guy (27M). And under the right circumstances, I'm a big exhibitionist, but I like it better when I have to be naked, or it's expected of me. It's hard to explain, but I recently figured out what really brings out my inner exhibitionist if I'm being bossed around, or made to flash or flaunt my stuff.

Some examples. If I wear a skirt without any panties, I like flashing my boyfriend. Or lifting my shirt for him, especially when I don't wear a bra (one of the benefits of being a b-cup). But I recently discovered a like it a heck of a lot MORE when TELLS me to flash him. Or if he asks me, but especially when he asks me in a way that telegraphs that he expects me to flash him. Or if I don't, when he gets more insistent about. I think part of it is hearing him tell me, and maybe part of it is something about the power dynamic between us when he does.

I've always been a bit of an exhibitionist, even when I was a kid. When I was little, I'd run around the house naked, and my parents were always telling me to put some clothes on, and they made me do it, sometimes getting pretty insistent about it. I vividly remember hating having to get dressed, and wishing somebody would tell me to take off my clothes sometime. Nobody ever did, but I actually remember thinking that.

So I think maybe that's where me wanting to be "told to get naked" is coming from.

But how do we actually do it, and still keep it interesting? And hopefully fun. I don't think I want him bossing me around all the time, but then part of me really does want to be told not to wear clothes, or told to lift my skirt, or spread my legs, or flash my boobs. I like doing all those things, but I really like hearing him tell me to do them, and then when I do them, it's a bigger rush.

So how to we make this a thing? We've been dating about 6 months, and we've been sleeping over at each other's apartments several nights a week for about 3 months. We haven't talked about anything definitive, but his lease is up in 4 months, and my roommate is moving out in 5 months, so I'm also starting to wonder if we might start living together this fall. Nothing for sure, but I think things could be going that way.

I did some Googling, and the closest thing I could find was "consensual forced nudity" as a general topic, but I'm trying to figure out how to make it work practically, especially without breaking the spell by the two of us talking about it too much. Not sure if that makes sense, but I want is him telling me to take off my clothes a lot, and tell me to flash him. But I don't know that I want to have it in my head that he's doing that for any other reason than him actually telling me these things. If I tell him that's what I want, will it be the same?

Right now I kind of tease him, and that's been my way of sort of hinting around at getting him to say what I want to hear. But I'm not sure if it'll work the same if we talk about it too much. I guess I'm worried that the spell evaporate? Will the dynamic between us change?

How do you get your partner to do something, where having them do it "naturally" is part of the appeal? Or at least I think that's part of it, that in my head I know he's REALLY telling me and almost "making me" get naked for him, or flash him. Will I feel the same way if I'm suddenly aware he's pretending? I don't want it to feel like play-acting.

Is any of this making sense? What do we do? What should I do? Thanks!

EDIT: getting late, and I gotta get to bed. I promise I'll answer a bunch more in the morning. Good night everybody!

I've always been a bit of an exhibitionist, even when I was a kid. When I was little, I'd run around the house naked, and my parents were always telling me to put some clothes on, and making me do it. And I vividly remember hating having to get dressed, and wishing somebody would tell me to take off my clothes sometime.

So I think maybe that's where me wanting to be told to get naked is coming from.

But how do we do it, and keep it interesting? And hopefully fun. I don't think I want him ordering me around all the time, but then part of me does want to be told not to wear clothes, or lift my skirt, or spread my legs. I like doing all those things, but I really like hearing him tell me to do them.

So how to we make this a thing? We've been dating about 6 months, and we've been sleeping over at each other's apartments for about 3 months. We haven't talked about anything definitive, but his lease is up in 4 months, and my roommate is moving out in 5 months, so I'm also starting to wonder if we might start living together this fall. Nothing for sure, but I think things could be going that way.

I did some Googling, and the closest thing I could find was "consensual forced nudity" as a general topic, but I'm trying to figure out how to make it work practically, especially without breaking the spell by talking about it too much. Not sure if that makes sense, but what I think I want is him telling me to take off my clothes a lot, and tell me to flash him. But I don't know that I want to have it in my head that he's doing that for any other reason than him actually telling me these things.

Right now I kind of tease him, and that's been my way of sort of hinting around at getting him to say what I want to hear. But I'm not sure if it'll work the same if we talk about it too much. Like, will the spell evaporate?

How do you get your partner to do something, where having them do it naturally is part of the appeal? Or at least I think that's part of it, that he's REALLY telling me and almost making me get naked for him, or flash him. Will I feel the same way if I'm more aware he's pretending? I don't want it to feel like playacting.

It's making a lot of sense. There's no way to get him to do something naturally, however he can still do something spontaneously. You have to talk with him so he knows what you'd like him to do. You should also explain to him why you'd like him to do his including telling him about your childhood exhibitionism. The very idea that he can command you to flash him or to strip will be motivation enough for him to do it on regular basis.

You can give him some ideas, or you could leave him to come up with his own ideas. He could just ask you to take your clothes off so her can look at your body. He could ask you to take you clothes off so he can photograph your body. He could ask you spend a whole weekend in the nude at his apartment.

You could make it more interesting for both of you if you post nudes and short videos to r/gonewild You'll get a larger audience for your "exhibition." You'll both be able to read what other people think about your body. He could even command you to post specific photos or videos.

I don't think I could ever post nudes online, but the idea of nude photography might be fun. Hard to believe this, but I've never actually sent any nudes to anyone, or even had any nudes taken of me. I'm a little shy in real life, or maybe just a lot more reserved. So nude photography isn't anything I've ever really even daydreamed about, let alone considered seriously.

I'd be up for being naked at his apartment for a whole weekend. Maybe especially if I had to strip every time we got back home, if we went out for any reason. Having him make me strip all those times would certainly do it for me. But even just thinking about it now, having the EXPECTATION that I strip every time we get back home might make it just as exciting. Like maybe that's a way to tap into that energy, without him actually telling me each and every time? Something says I need to remember that.

Maybe if I could somehow get him to tell me to strip when we first get home sometime, maybe that would give me a reason to only half-kiddingly say "sure, but the next thing I know, you'll expect me to get naked whenever I walk through that door" and if I just left it at that, maybe that would be enough of a hint. Or especially if I said it every time he happens to make me strip right after we get home, if I can somehow get him to do that.

Have you considered a sort of verbal code, where if he says a particular word he wants you to take off an article of clothing? That way he can tease you slowly, and you can be an exhibitionist for him.

Sounds like a fun time. One fun way to do it would be for him to assign you a difficult or impossible task and whenever you fuck up, he “makes you” take something off. Like giving you a really difficult spelling test and making you take something off for misspelling. Or asking you trivia questions and making you take something off for wrong answers. Or quizzing you on state capitals (strip for wrong answers) or having you try to stack blocks or dominoes really high and when they fall he makes you strip some more, Just about any difficult task would work here...I actually really want to do this one now with my wife! I haven’t tried the difficult task idea before.

Maybe we have a Jenga game set up on the end of his bar, and every time I walk in, I have to take out a piece, and whenever it falls, I have to get naked. We actually both have Jenga games, and we've even talked about combining them to make it even more difficult. So maybe we finally do that, so I'll end up getting naked more often that way.

But I like the idea of me having to do something every time I walk in the door at his place, and based on the outcome, I either have to strip, or take off my panties (if I've got a skirt on), or unbutton my blouse, or take off my bra (which I can do without taking off my shirt, btw).

Not sure about the spelling bee or state capital idea, but maybe something else. Will have to think some more. Thanks for the ideas though!

I doubt I could ever get up on stage for anything like that, but it sounds like it'd be fun to go and see. I bet my boyfriend would love it! And maybe I could live vicariously through the other women on stage. Is it just women who compete?

I'll have to see if there's anything like this anywhere even remotely close to where we live, or if we're traveling sometime, I could surprise my boyfriend with tickets for us to go.

Look at it this way... if you told him that you really enjoy receiving oral sex and he started going down on you more often, would your brain suddenly start discounting what he is doing? This is just like that.

Just tell him what you like and what turns you on, and let him run with it.

Take a look into Power Exchange and cross post in r/BDSM. What you’re describing sounds a lot like specific power exchange dynamics. Giving control for this specific arena. Start small, maybe one evening that is a date night. If you want maybe layout some outfit options and have him select which items you’ll wear. I would recommend strongly when first starting down this path if you like this type of exchange/dynamic reading up on power exchange and possibly even finding local BDSM communities because many will have educational opportunities for “giving up control” in some way that you may be able to apply to what you’re looking for.
Cheers, best of luck, and have fun ;)

Thanks, I think. But looking at r/bdsm, that seems to be a bunch of bondage and fetish pics, albeit homemade. Not into whips and chains, or collars and corsets I'm afraid.

Is there another more discussion oriented place to talk about this, which I suppose you're saying is somehow related to bdsm, though I have to confess I'm not quite seeing a close connection to what I'm asking about, and to bondage and sadomasochism.

But I'll have to look up Power Exchange, and maybe that's how that's connected, I'm guessing.

BDSM is really a catch-all for a whole bunch of different fetishes. They even compressed the hell out of the acronym. It stands for Bondage & Discipline/Domination & Submission/Sado-Masochism. What all of those things have in common is some level of power exchange. One person gives up power and the other person takes that power. It's fine if you aren't into leather, whips, collars, and spanking. None of that is necessary. It sounds like what you like is the idea of him taking control over the state of your clothing. It might be worth looking into some of the information out there on power exchange to help you understand the dynamics a bit more. Perhaps it will give you some ideas. You might also find out other things about yourself. It sounds like you might be a bit submissive. You don't need to be a masochist to be submissive. It sounds like you are looking at this with an open mind and seeking to understand. That's a great start. Have fun!

Thanks. I never knew the "d" in bdsm actually stood for anything, I thought the bd stood for BonDage, and the sm was obvious. I always thought that was all about whips and chains, and putting people on leashes. Not just that, but I thought it was play-acting about dungeons and dominatrix type stuff.

The thing with some fetishes is that they're performative and Reddit kinda caters to those sorts of things. Bdsm community is a good place to start even if you feel like you're more "vanilla" than all that really intense stuff you may meet some other men and women who are into what you're into and can give you more ideas. Worst case scenario it expands your mind into other things.

I don’t think there is a way to get to this “naturally”. You can always try finding a movie where this happens (robber forces victims to strip etc) and mention how turned on it makes you. But life’s too short, I think it might be easier and probably more satisfactory just to tell him what you want and then ask him to surprise you with it in the future.

My first thought was games like strip poker and the like. There are plenty of drinking games that could be modified to remove a piece of clothing instead of taking a drink, or, if you're into drinking, could make it an and/or kind of thing.

Apart of being with someone is voicing your likes and dislikes. You can do it in an online forum, but you can’t come out and tell him? It’s kind of scary voicing things we like or dislike, in fear that the person we like/love doesn’t accept parts of who we are. But you make it seem like he is accepting of it. You went from doing it yourself and giving him dominance that tingles what you love. Your whole game is obedience to authority. Pushing the boundaries against the norms and turning them into sexual desires that lie in your subconscious.

Strip poker is the go-to classic. But you could honestly make strip-anything. Enjoy dungeons and dragons? Remove an article of clothing on a failed check. Video games more your thing? Remember when you were a kid and you had to pass the controller every time you died? Or repurpose just about any drinking game if you're part of the party crowd. The possibilities are endless.

If power is your thing, maybe designate "slave for a day" or a "free-use" day.

Of course I'm just talking out of my ass, describing things I wish my wife would do. Your man is a lucky one.

I’ve gathered that you would like for this to happen based on your bfs prerogative and not necessarily accomplish the goal by saying “I like being naked please tell me to strip”. Which I completely get because it loses the allure. I like to think I’m a creative dude so I’ve thought up a scenario that lets you take the initiative and present the idea, but still puts it on him at the end of the day. So something like this would be the game plan. You’re out for a coffee date. It’s slightly busy and you have no bra on. I’ll leave the shirt choice to you, but something that would make flashing him easy is preferable. You hit him with “did I tell you I wasn’t wearing a bra today?” If you didn’t tell him he should hopefully say no. If he does say no you just reply with a sort of “huh..” and stop the conversation on that(this will work if he says yes btw as well). Now that he knows you’re not wearing a brah and the conversation about it felt entirely unfinished, he should inquire more about it. Assuming he says something like “wait what? Why’d you say that?”That’s when you hook line and sinker him with something flirtatious like “oh idk. If you asked me nicely I might show you ;)”. Depending on how he replies all you have to do is give him a flirty look and a nod that translates to “the ball is in your court now”. Ex: he replies “you mean right here? Right now?” => cue flirty look and nod. Some suspense builds up before you do it then you flash him in public. The key to making it happen more often is when your back at the apartment together to make sure to tell him you were into it. Bonus points if there’s fun time going on and you whisper it to him. “By the way at the coffee shop today.. I’m really into that”. Hopefully that wall of text gives you some ideas lmfao. Good luck and Godspeed.

As others have mentioned, talk to him, he might just like the idea, I know I would.

Other things that come to mind: Enforced clothing checks at random times during the day. Have him pick out your clothes for the day. If you're feeling daring, reenact the restaurant scene from Sliver. Only dress in skirts or easy access clothing when around him.

the best way to accomplish the end goal of this fun experiment for yourself is to just let him know. You gotta let him know what your feeling and thinking and then you give him the option to opt in.

as someone who has had this dynamic before its important to first set up at least some ground work. so you both know its about having a fun time and does not get negative in some manner. as many things tend to do if communication is not achieved.

if he is down for it the best way to get this going is to a let him make the move but to have yourself put in situations where it could be applicable. its not always gonna happen when x is y but its better when its spontaneous. that way you get what you want. you get the knowledge that it was done with love and respect and understanding, as well as you never quite know when its gonna go down so you can be excited in the unknown.

im an open polyamorous person and have been for about 9 years now. an some of my relationships have had some kink over tones at times.
Not 100% on what you want me to elaborate on but as for dynamic sake iv had about 3-4 partners who are very Dom sub kink dynamic going on. So as someone who also enjoys that kink as well being able to fulfill needs of your partners and yourself i think is rather healthy.

Was their something about the dynamic you wanted me to elaborate on? or was it more of just a general question. im comfortable answering any question you may have that im able to answer.

Tease him with motion and gestures. Then when he goes for it back off and say no. Rinse and repeat until he is absolutely mad and goes primal. Worked on me every time. Only if you know and understand eachother well.

I'm going to suggest that you go ahead and talk about it. Communication is key, and most guys would get a kick out of telling their girlfriend to flash them, especially if there is just a tiny chance yoh could be caught.

Hell, most guys like to see an womans naughty bits period. There is a reason strip clubs exist. He will almost certainly like it, and enjoy ordering you to expose yourself. And if he really doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be.

You could do a playful thing of him making you flash him in public when no one is looking. Like an empty grocery aisle or something. Maybe you could incorporate the photo too. Hope this helps. Sorry if it’s a repeat

Pretty similar, but I have a thing for accidental nudity (probably because it's such a common trope in the media). I do think you gotta talk about these things directly, sorry if that breaks the magic :/ . If you're insistent on it being a little less direct, write an erotic story and send it to him and tell him that the scenario turns you on.

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Anyway, these are my ideas for "accidental" nudity but they can be easily adapted to him making you get naked. I don't know if you get the thrill out of being "embarrassed" or not, but that can always be played up if you discuss consent and safe words beforehand.

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Easy at home

He takes all the towels out of the bathroom when you go to take a shower except a small hand towel. When you get out, you ask him to bring you a towel. He refuses unless you do something for him. ( love the look of a towel being too small to cover everything, and you'd probably like wearing the look too).

He suggests you play strip poker and you reluctantly agree. He has stacked the deck. You're left desperately making riskier bets to try to win clothes back.

It's laundry day. You put all of your clothes in the wash until you're naked. He comes over unannounced and unexpected. Your washing machine is locked.

He leaves his favorite sweater at your house. You wear it as loungewear with nothing underneath. He sees you in it and demands you give it back

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Harder to find the right setup; outdoors

Go skinny dipping and he takes your clothes and won't give them back

Loosely tied bikini at the ocean; a big wave takes your top. He retrieves it and won't return it.

You're on a hike. You return to the car and he can't find the keys. He accuses you of hiding them in your clothes. You repeatedly say you're not, but he demands you strip naked in the forest. He had them all the time and he drives off leaving you naked.

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Indoors, but legally dangerous

Changing room. You hang your clothes over the door and the clerk returns them. You are stuck waiting for your boyfriend to come find you. You find out he took your clothes on purpose and will only give them back after some special favors.

Hotel swimming pool. You take off your swimsuit to rinse in the pool shower, but he takes it along with your room key. You have to go upstairs wearing only the towel and knock on the door. He looks through the peephole and makes you flash him before he lets you in

Wear a white top to a club. He spills his drink on your dress in what is obviously not an accident. He takes you to the bathroom to change

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And last but certainly not least: role-play scenarios (if you're into it).

He's a security guard and accuses you of shoplifting the top you're wearing. He check to see if the panties you're wearing are from the store too

Strict university with a dress code (obviously if you're comfortable with agedly, this doesn't have to be University). The hot young prof suspects you aren't wearing the proper uniform and makes you remove it.

Routine checkup at the doctor, but he makes you change into the medical gown. You protest since you don't think it's necessary but he insists. He doesn't leave the room and watches you change. It's too small and revealing. He makes inappropriate comments about how good your body looks. He makes you go to another room and you have to walk through the hospital with people seeing you in the embarrassing and revealing medical gown. He does a full body exam that you didn't ask for, then asks you to take off the gown and you're free to go. He takes the gown and you realize your naked and your clothes are still in the other room.

He leaves his favorite sweater at your house. You wear it as loungewear with nothing underneath. He sees you in it and demands you give it back

I really like this one. Actually, the lounging around in just a sweater, and nothing else underneath, sounds really comfy. I would want to keep wearing the sweater, but having it only reliably covering my boobies but nothing else, would be fun!

I don't know what he wears to work, but he you could also designate a "work shirt" of his (button up dress shirts with nothing under them are very nice) that he demands you give him because he's late to work.

I'd discuss it beforehand where you set up a scene. Then wait a few weeks and let him start it when you aren't expecting it. Example: You could decide to have him tell you to strip as soon as you come in the door. You are not allowed to do anything else until you strip for him. Then you have to do everything naked for the rest of the evening. You could decide on a code word that he will text you on the day he decides. That way you know when you get home and walk in the door from that moment on he's in charge of the scene and you are at his to command. Obviously establish a safe word if at any point either of you wants to stop. The fun part is that you don't get naked then immediately go to sex. He tells you to strip with a firm tone. From there he could mention that the laundry needs to be put away so he'll watch you as you walk around putting it away and even commenting on how you look as you reach for things or bend over. He could ask you to get him a drink and when you open the refrigerator cold air and naked skin always gets a reaction. That gives him things to comment on as well. There are many ways to play with that idea.

I think I like this! Maybe even enough to make it a regular weekly thing. But I think(?) I'd rather be surprised, so it feels more real? Or maybe something like one random weekday night per week (on any night we don't already have any specific plans to go out), if I come over to his place he can tell me to strip right when I walk in the door. I guess he could put it in a text-msg earlier in the day, but I think I want to hear him tell me, and have that be the trigger that gets it all going. I mean, I can always opt out if I'm not in the mood, right?

But I think it could be fun looking forward to it regularly, but never knowing exactly when it's gonna happen.

It’s a long shot and probably a stupid idea but you could tell him to get on reddit and tell him your account knowing he’ll snoop at posts and hopefully see this one. The other option is give a really positive and enthusiastic response every time he tells you to take things off.

My first thought is ... it's too bad your boyfriend isn't the one asking for advice ... he could get a lot more encouragement from others commenting to HIM, since you are the one who wants to be the one not in charge.

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However, here is an idea that is a mash-up of a few others that may have been touched on here in different ways. Think of the "swear jar" concept where you put money in every time you say a swear word.

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Now change that from saying a swear word to some other (possibly minor) infraction that maybe is a pet peeve of your BF that you do, possibly leaving your dirty clothes in the bathroom, or dirty dishes in the sink, or texting while he is talking to you. Pick something that is clear-cut and understood by both of you.

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Now change it from putting money into the jar to pulling a piece of paper out of the jar with a consequence. And one or both of you write or print up written consequences onto little pieces of paper of the same size and fold them closed so you can't read them. The consequences can vary, such as:

- give a foot rub

- eat

- a free pass

- remove a piece of clothing of your choice now

- remove a piece of clothing of the other person's choice now

- set a timer for 30 minutes from now and having to be topless for 30 minutes after that no matter what is happening

- no underwear allowed tomorrow

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You get the idea. Once you get a few ideas started maybe he can run with it and make the rest up so you don't really know what the possible consequences are.

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Then once the jar is ready, HIS job is to catch you making infractions so you have to pull the paper out of the jar and do whatever it says. This makes him the enforcer, and the "telling you to get naked" becomes a natural consequence of your "violating the law", so to speak.

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The telling part will be how you feel when you pull out a piece of paper like "give a foot rub". Do you feel disappointed? Do you feel relieved? Are you tempted to pull out the tame ones and make them ALL make you get naked in some way?

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If you do this, PLEASE post some stories about this here. We would LOVE to read about the various results!!!!

There is a lot of great advice for this in here. It all depends on what you think will work for you. However, This "was" the EXACT same scenario with me and my wife. She wanted me to "order" her to strip and pose or dance spontaneously, she wanted me to keep it suspenseful and on giddy about it when we were out somewhere. It was an exotic dancer fantasy of hers. She didn't know how to approach me on this. So she did her homework on "giving up control" then dressed up in an outfit that she knew drove me crazy. She got down on her knees looked up and started begging me to tell her what I wanted. She would grab me in various places and ask me "please tell me what you want" "is this what you want, just tell me". she begged until I got the idea. Now we have a code word for it. When shes in the "mood" she walks up and whispers in my ear please tell me what you want. It's really intriguing to people at parties when your wife randomly walks up to you and whispers in your ear.

Interesting! I really don't want to go so far as to beg him to tell me what he wants (I can't fathom doing that, actually, it would just seem too weird to for me personally).

But it would be super easy to whisper "tell me what you want" in his ear, and even without ever talking about it, I'm sure he'd get the idea. I mean, I know we should talk about it, but your solution (the whisper thing), would probably half-solve my conundrum right there! Thanks!!

I would suggest you agree with your partner the kind of scenarios you would consider, then have him spring it upon you at a time / place of his choosing, maybe even just pushing the boundary of what you discussed. You spot the cue and do as you are told. He has to be forceful, not suggestive.

I don't know if this counts but my bf and I made up some "forfeit" cards with various things printed on. We had different levels and categories lol. We progressed to higher levels as we got more into it ;-)

We would play games or whatever and the loser "had to" do the forfeit. Obviously it was all stuff we both agreed to.

It did get a bit weird when he got one meant for me, wear stockings, but to be fair he got on with it lol.

A fun idea would be to wear a dress or a skirt and take your undies off in public like I for example did it while we were in a restaurant I just slid them off without anybody noticing and handed them to my SO balled up in my hand. And just tell him it’s what you like he can tell you to do stuff and be more dominant but if ur not in the mood at that moment all u have to do is say no and he should be okay with it or get a safe word maybe?

I don't think there's a way to do this naturally like your suggesting. You might just want to print this out and give it him. If you don't want to have the conversation, write him something like this that says you don't want to discuss it, just do it. Maybe set up a safe word (like red) if he goes too far for you too quickly.

Maybe make bets with him. If you lose you "have to" be naked for the next 24 hours. If he loses he goes down on you or something else angled at your pleasure, but obviously fun for both of you... everyone wins! Sports, board or video games,

From reading your responses, I think my exhibitionism is a bit more public than yours. But here's some ideas:

He invites a friend or two over and you have to serve them drinks and snacks topless

I'm just not confident enough about how I look topless to pull off being a topless hostess. But maybe if I could run around with my blouse unbottoned, with a pretty bra on underneath. I'm just daydreaming about it is all, not that I'd ever really do something like that with anyone else around. But I love how I look wearing nothing at all but one of my boyfriend's dress shirts, unbuttoned too. Now THAT would really be something if I could ever get up the nerve to be almost naked like that with 2 or 3 other people in the room, besides my boyfriend.

Hopefully he will simply "get it" if you speak to him about this, sort of like you did to us? At least I did since you emphasized that you want him to seem "naturally inclined" to do it and all that. Of course he's not in the way that if you hadn't even talked to him about this, but you need to do that if he's to at all receive this message well as far as I can tell. And as a heterosexual male I can assure you that the inclination would be very much natural and "my own will" if I had the power to undress a woman I loved to be with at a whim when I feel like the moment is right or surprising, or a little evil. ;) So I don't think you need to worry about that so much? It wouldn't be a "fake" thing for me at least, but very much real. You telling in advance would be more like letting me know where the bar is and what I can do to you, speaking for myself.

Yeah, I agree with some others here -- have a safe word too which means you can even tell that you'd be too awkward or shy in the current setting you're in, and he can keep insisting for as long as you secretly sort of want to do it, building tension and maybe turning you on even more.

Sounds hot anyway, so good luck! All sorts of semi-public-but-fairly-safe places pop up in my mind and he can "punish" you with it and so on. :p It does rely a little on his personality though, if he fancy it and "get" it, but I think you need to have a little talk with him regardless because it's the only way forward?

Play simon says, and for every one you get wrong/do without Simon's says, add a finger and when you get to 5 fingers take off an article of clothing and keep it going till you're stripped.
Same for 2 truths one lien maybe

A few possible scenarios spring to mind. It all depends on how you want to become naked and how much you want to be told.

he could ask you to remove one item of clothing at a time, either directly or casually "isn't it too hot for that sweater/top/bra etc.

get old clothes that could be torn off either accidentally or deliberately

he wants to paint you naked

Of course it all depends on him to help you indulge your fantasy and for that I am a big fan of talking about it openly and plainly, otherwise you get into that fruitless guessing game of trying figure out what the other person wants (they either do or they don't want the same thing best to find that out sooner rather than later). One way of doing it if you don't want to speak directly is to write it all in a letter, this way it keeps it under the surface but is open too.

Step one: talk with him about it. In any sort of "consensual non-consent" sexual play communication is important. He needs to know what you want and expect and where the boundaries are. Also you need to establish that this is something he is comfortable with. Maybe he doesn't like being dominant, not everyone does. Decide on a safeword that REALLY means "NO", that way you can act reluctantly and "forced" but still have a way of aborting if you really really don't want to.

Subreddits that deal with this kind of kink, but taken a bit further is for example r/rapekink, but then it's not just forced nudity.

Make it into a game! Every time you say a certain word/topic or do a certain thing like bite your nails or something, you have to take an article of clothing off (like a swear jar). Or maybe if the time is a prime number or something. That way he gets to try to catch you in the act and punish you for it but it's like monopoly, he's the one collecting the rent. Speaking of which, sexy board games are DEFINITELY a good idea! Any game can be made to have a strip aspect. But it could be just for you if you wanted. Like somebody else said, you could be required to not wear clothes for a whole day, or take them off when you get home, but imo it gets boring after a while cause he'll get used to it, so I'd make that a special occasion thing to do a naked day. I bet your dude would have ideas he'd like to implement too!

Makes sense. Let me share my case. I like to be an exhibitionist and a plaything for my wife. I had it since in childhood when I ran around with a a loose knickers which came down when I ran fast and it felt good. :). In our residential college, sometimes pumps won't work and we had to take our showers near the well. I did it nude sometimes. I have talked to my wife about my fetish. She likes to do it. But I don't feel like she does it because I told her to...since I don't know when she would demand do it. Or in more adventurous cases where she would do it.That uncertainty keeps me on edge.

I went out with a 26 year old petite and curvy girl back in 2010 when I was 24 and she always used to walk around naked drying her hair and stuff when I was fully clothed. It's not an unusual fetish at all

That sounds like fun, since it's just a natural part of getting ready in the morning, and not all convoluted or too fake (like a fake strip search).

A few weeks ago, we were getting ready one Saturday morning, and after I'd gotten out of the shower, he hid my panties from the stack of clean clothes I'd laid out on the bed. So for like 20 minutes I dried and did my hair, and did my makeup with nothing but my bra and socks on. He loved it, I could tell, and I was walking all around his apartment like that for a few minutes waiting for my hair to get dry enough to style. Best of all, it was fun for me too!

A few weeks ago, we were getting ready one Saturday morning, and after I'd gotten out of the shower, he'd hidden my panties. So for like 20 minutes I dried and did my hair, and did my makeup with nothing but my bra and socks on. He loved it, I could tell, and I was walking all around his apartment like that for a few minutes waiting for my hair to get dry enough to style. Best of all, it was fun for me too!

I think you're going to have to communicate this to him, because it's unrealistic to expect someone to just intuit these things.

If he's a pretty savvy person, you could say, "I read this erotic story once where a man randomly told his lover to undress while he kept his clothes on. I thought the dynamics of that were really hot, but the hottest part was that they didn't really discuss it first..." intently staring

I'll have to plug CMNF into some image searches, and get some ideas. Don't get me wrong, I like it when he's naked too. But there's just something about being the only one naked (me), that really makes me all squirrelly inside, especially when we're talking and interacting.

I'll have to plug CMNF into some image searches, and get some ideas. Don't get me wrong, I like it when he's naked too. But there's just something about being the only one naked (me), that really makes me all squirrelly inside, especially if we're talking and interacting.

He loves it on Saturday mornings when we get up, and all morning the last few weeks I've only worn a t-shirt that isn't super long, or just a tank top, and nothing else downstairs. And I kind of like my boobs more when I have something on so I can flash them, since I don't think they're all that super exciting otherwise if they're on display all the time.