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Child Support Fight

My ex found out I am going thru state to collect the child support he owes me which is close to $ 12,000. State filed a contempt on him for non-payment. He got mad and filed a contempt on me for taking our son out to Bahamas on a trip without letting him know. I did not inform him of this trip.

Am I going to be in trouble by the judge?

My ex is very irregular in paying child support, he doesn't file notice of relocation as he should when he moves place to place, yet he is disputing me taking our son on vacation.

I am really scared to go to court and very anxtious. Any advice how to overcome the fear and stay strong? I am such a nervous individual :(

I wouldnt worry. Failing to inform a parent that you took a child to the Bahamas is minor compared to owing $12K in CS!!! I wouldnt care what my EX threntened and I would still file for CS & for all the back pay. Also, look at your custody papers, see if it is stated anywhere that you have to inform your EX that you took the child on a trip? This needs to be specifically stated in the custody papers & if its not than i wouldnt worry bout it, plus he is more in contempt for not filing all of his relocations cuz he is tryin to avoid payin CS.

I dont have a passport...you dont need a passport for a closed loop cruise...my ex is requesting to let him know 90 days in advance about out of the country trips...we are divorced and parenting guidelines dont have such an requirement...I wouldnt have a problem with it if he paid and did his responsibilities

ok then when he bring it up in court make sure the judge knows that a passport was not required, and that you ahve no problem giving him advance notice. just avoid having to get CONSENT if you can. and i think 30 days is appropriate.

Quoting kate1903: I dont have a passport...you dont need a passport for a closed loop cruise...my ex is requesting to let him know 90 days in advance about out of the country trips...we are divorced and parenting guidelines dont have such an requirement...I wouldnt have a problem with it if he paid and did his responsibilities

If you do get in trouble, it will likely be just a short lecture on not doing it again. Under the circumstances, I'm sure the judge will see he's just being petty here, and you just make sure to let him know that you didn't even need a passport, and that he never complained until now. I wouldn't worry - but do make sure in the future that you let him know. Don't give him any ammo against you.

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