One of the most well-respected and sexiest names in the fashion world has been making quite a few headlines of late. It’s all thanks to a recent non-sartorial accomplishment: the release of his sophomore writing and directing effort, Nocturnal Animals, starring Jake Gyllenhaal, Amy Adams and Aaron-Taylor Johnson (whom we previously said was the real reason to see the film).

The writer of GQ‘s recent profile of the prolific fashion master looks back to the last time Ford was interviewed by the mag, when he apparently propositioned his straight male interviewer and said something to the effect of “Every man should be penetrated.” The mention is this time met with a sigh, as Ford sheepishly admits he was drunk when he sat down for the previous story.

But where does he currently stand on the topic? Does he still think all men should be fucked?

[Ford] sighs. This has been quite a talk. I tell him it had a lot to live up to, considering his last GQ interview—the one during which he propositioned the (heterosexual male) writer. I had no such expectations, but, well, does he stand by what he said? That every man should be penetrated? He sighs again. He doesn’t want to get into all of that. “I was just taking the piss out of him,” he says, adding that he read the article through his fingers when it came out, the whole time wondering, “Oh God, what was I thinking?” He was drunk, he says. He didn’t mean it, he says. Okay, he did mean it, he says, but he shouldn’t have said it.

But Tom Ford is still in there, so he can’t stop himself. So he says this next thing, and it doesn’t come off as lascivious, the way it might have years ago, but thoughtful and aware: Yes, he says, all men should be penetrated at some point. And not as in emotions. He means: All men should be f*cked. “I think it would help them understand women,” he argues. “It’s such a vulnerable position to be in, and it’s such a passive position to be in. And there’s such an invasion, in a way, that even if it’s consensual, it’s just very personal. And I think there’s a psyche that happens because of it that makes you understand and appreciate what women go through their whole life, because it’s not just sexual, it’s a complete setup of the way the world works, that one sex has the ability to literally—and is expected to and is wanted to—but also there’s an invasion. And I think that that’s something most men do not understand at all.”

Also in the new GQ piece, Ford discusses his new family (which now boasts a four-year-old), his love of Los Angeles and his obsession with death.