29 Hot Little Sex Life Ideas

It's the little things, isn't it? Try all of these hot ideas for a married-sex makeover, or grab just one of the moves for a wow-that-was-amazing night. They require almost no effort on your part and they'll strengthen your bond outside of the bedroom, too.

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Flirt (With Someone Else!)

Sharing a flirty smile with the hottie at the coffee shop can give you a confidence boost. "When you're in a trusting relationship, you can flirt in a harmless way," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Sex Recharge. "I call it 'transferable sexual esteem,' when you get a charge and bring those feelings home to your guy." Just keep the exchange brief and PG.

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Sleep In the Buff

Cast aside your pajamas tonight and let nothing come between you and your sheets. Laying your skin against the linens is a sensory experience that will make you feel more connected to your body.

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Strike a Pose

Taking sexy photos is a visual reminder — to you and your guy — of your sensuality. Keep it covered with a cami and boy shorts, or strip down to your birthday suit.

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Buy Something You Feel Great In

No, we're not talking about lingerie. The idea isn't to make him feel excited, but to make you feel excited, confident, and super sexy, so pick something that you know you look good in — that could mean a pretty new dress, or huge, movie star sunglasses. That confidence will go all the way to the bedroom.

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Go Toy Shopping

Hit up a sex toy shop online (or in person), like Babeland and Lovehoney. Do it alone, or together — even if you end up not buying anything, the act of looking will help inspire conversations around what you both want in the bedroom. (That said, if you are determined to walk away with a new toy, we have a few suggestions …)

Book a mani, pedi, bikini wax (if you so desire) — or maybe even a blowout— you know, the works. By setting aside time to take care of yourself, you're taking ownership of your sexuality. And most importantly, you'll feel good.

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Spend Some Quality Time With Yourself

...Yes, that means masturbating. Getting to know your own body is crucial to knowing what will make you feel good in bed when you're with your partner.

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Pencil It In

Yes — sex. But not just any type of sex. Put on the calendar exactly what you'll be doing tonight, or tomorrow, or later in the week — will it involve role-playing? A new location? There's so much to choose from, and you'll both have so much to look forward to.

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Develop a Crush

Find a brand-new, grown-up crush (hello, George Clooney!). "It's great to fantasize," Kerner says. "Think of your imagination as your own private playground, and feel free to bring whoever you want along on an X-rated drama of your own creation."

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Reveal a Fantasy

Share a secret sex fantasy with your partner — and describe to him what would happen in detail. "By opening up with each other, you're building intimacy and proving your mutual trust," Kerner says.

"Sometimes couples in long - term relationships stop trying to look good for each other," Kerner says. "But when you're going out with friends, you tend to get a little more dressed up. And if you're looking better, you'll be more primed for sex."

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Get Closer to His Skin

"Many women say they get turned on by the smell of their guy's neck," Kerner says. Wearing his T-shirt to bed when he's on a business trip, or taking a shower with his soap, can make you feel closer and more attracted to him.

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Body-Map Each Other

Draw two figures on separate pieces of paper, and then, without looking at each other's papers, mark the areas on the body where you think your mate likes to be touched. Now compare notes.

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Try a New Position

Tonight, do something a little different: Have him sit in a chair and enter you while you're facing away from him. "Couples often stick with what works," Kerner says. "Trying a new position creates novelty and helps you discover what turns you on."

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Start Sexting

"Technology is a great way to stay connected and build anticipation," Kerner says. Begin with something simple, like, "I'm thinking about you." Then, when he responds, tell him exactly what you're thinking about.

Revive the romance you shared on a recent trip by incorporating a special element from it — such as the margaritas you had in Mexico — into your evening. Or just book a trip to somewhere new!

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Talk Dirty to Each Other

"Start by telling him where you want to be touched, and go from there," Kerner suggests. Feeling shy? Simple statements like "harder" or "more" can be all that's needed to do the trick.

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Redo Your Bedroom

Get rid of the piles of paper, laundry in the corner, and kids' toys and make your boudoir an adults-only escape. "Having a place where you can relax and feel sensual is often the gateway to sex," Kerner says.

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Read Something Sexy

Pick up a book of erotica and take turns reading passages out loud to each other. You can find erotica at literotica.com or simply share extra-sexy passages from your favorite romance novel.

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Walk Down Memory Lane

Watch your wedding video or read letters you wrote to each other when you first started dating. It will remind you both why you're a couple in the first place and get you excited about making new memories together.

Don't wait for a holiday to show your man you care. Even if the gift is not overly romantic, letting your guy know he's on your mind can give him a confidence boost that may carry over to the bedroom.

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Flirt on Social Media

Post a few flirty messages on your husband's Facebook timeline (without being annoying — just something sweet). Complimenting each other in a public forum will heighten the buildup for when you see each other in person at the end of the day.

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Try Something New Together

Take a dance class or see an improv comedy show together. When you take your relationship off auto-pilot, you create excitement and romance.

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Go On Your First Date

Re-create the evening with the same itinerary, including the awkward kiss at the doorstep. Following the same schedule — eating at the same restaurant or seeing the same movie — will give you a chance to reflect on how far you've come as a couple.

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Change Venues

Doing it in a room usually devoted to paying bills or doing laundry can make you feel deliciously naughty.

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Get Competitive

Play mini golf or challenge each other to a game of Rock Band. Engaging in some friendly competition will get your adrenaline going. Raise the stakes by offering some X-rated rewards to the winner.

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Watch Some Porn

Go online. Watching a risqué video at a female-friendly porn site can get you excited and turn on — and it's a perfectly safe way to explore your fantasies. So boot up your laptop!

Playing footsie under the table at a café or giving him a hot kiss at the mall is a safe way to add some sexy to the everyday.

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Make Out Like Teenagers

Bring yourself back to that state of nervous anticipation, Kerner suggests. "Spend time on foreplay. Don't go past second base and you'll find yourself wanting more." Kiss passionately, have him unhook your bra... and try to tame your desire. Or go ahead and unleash your passion.

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