Jesus Christ. This made makes me sick. This happened, not only in my home state, within arms reach of my alma mater. The damned kids that go to OU will never realize the poverty and social problems that occur around them in that region of the state. They'll get their degree and jump ship without leaving any good mark on the south east.

I love how ignorant people were giving the photographer a bunch of shiat for not "intervening" in the assault. Maybe she didn't want to get choked out too? She's a f*cking photographer, not a UFC fighter.

The thing that choked me up was the little girl trying to intervene and get in between the two. No thought for herself, just trying to protect her mum. Kids are capable of some pretty amazing stuff when they have to.

Aar1012:Jesus Christ. This made makes me sick. This happened, not only in my home state, within arms reach of my alma mater. The damned kids that go to OU will never realize the poverty and social problems that occur around them in that region of the state. They'll get their degree and jump ship without leaving any good mark on the south east.

Yep. Horrific. Glad she got out; hope she and her kids stay away from that poisonous shiat in the future. That little girl trying to put herself between her mom and that man... telling her mom it would be okay... ugh.

I spent almost two years getting protective orders for victims of domestic violence. I wish I could say this was a unique situation, but it isn't. It reads like a "worst of" the cases I handled. Isolating the victim from her family/support system, attaching at a time of weakness, ensuring that she believes that he can't be better without her, the tattoo (seen variations on this too many times, including a guy who came into court with a t shirt emblazoned with her picture and "i miss you" airbrushed on it).

And violence in front of the kids is the same as doing it TO The kids. The damage is incredible to their young minds/psyches.

A Terrible Human:At least the someone called the cops and she left. Imagine shiat like that going on almost every night for years./I'm gonna go cry in a corner now.

I was impressed as hell that the cops did that - and for those who are curious, that is, in part, what VAWA pays for - training police on how to handle these situations so help can happen BEFORE she/he has been beaten/stabbed/shot to death.

Bob Falfa:Aar1012: Jesus Christ. This made makes me sick. This happened, not only in my home state, within arms reach of my alma mater. The damned kids that go to OU will never realize the poverty and social problems that occur around them in that region of the state. They'll get their degree and jump ship without leaving any good mark on the south east.

Thisbymaster:That was really hard to look at, so much so that I stopped and closed the window. Then started again. Women where ever you are remember that these men are in jail for a reason do not go out with them.

This. Bad boys are not the answer. The man with a healthy dose of Fark-It-All and the patience to let the goblins get close before stomping their guts out is the man you want. Anybody can be a punk. Not everybody can be a man. Pick the man.

Smeggy Smurf:Thisbymaster: That was really hard to look at, so much so that I stopped and closed the window. Then started again. Women where ever you are remember that these men are in jail for a reason do not go out with them.

This. Bad boys are not the answer. The man with a healthy dose of Fark-It-All and the patience to let the goblins get close before stomping their guts out is the man you want. Anybody can be a punk. Not everybody can be a man. Pick the man.

Don't make the mistake of assuming that "bad boys" are the only ones who commit violence. I've prosecuted pastors, law students, medical doctors, rich, poor, in-between.... this is an issue that crosses every societal barrier you care to name.

I actually worry that this will emphasize domestic violence as being a poor people problem, because it isn't

Bob Falfa:Aar1012: Jesus Christ. This made makes me sick. This happened, not only in my home state, within arms reach of my alma mater. The damned kids that go to OU will never realize the poverty and social problems that occur around them in that region of the state. They'll get their degree and jump ship without leaving any good mark on the south east.

Ohio is in the South East now? When did it move?

The OP (Bob) is talking about South Eastern Ohio. It's really part of the alleghenies and has most all of the same problems and benefits of living in places like eastern Kentucky or West Virginia.

People (women especially) think they can "save" the other person. We have all seen it before. This woman was 19 and had 2 kids, so I doubt if it was raining men for her. At least she had him arrested and pressed charges. If she had allowed him to talk her out of the arrest, she would have been on Fark long ago as another homicide.

moonscatter:I spent almost two years getting protective orders for victims of domestic violence. I wish I could say this was a unique situation, but it isn't. It reads like a "worst of" the cases I handled. Isolating the victim from her family/support system, attaching at a time of weakness, ensuring that she believes that he can't be better without her, the tattoo (seen variations on this too many times, including a guy who came into court with a t shirt emblazoned with her picture and "i miss you" airbrushed on it).

And violence in front of the kids is the same as doing it TO The kids. The damage is incredible to their young minds/psyches.

I've done quite a few CPOs in my career as well. It's almost a 50/50 split between this kind of heartbreaking stuff and people who want to file a BS pre-emptive strike for divorce purposes. I wish I had photographic evidence like this in more cases.

TommyymmoT:"Shane had been trying to make a career as a singer in a Christian rock band".

Now there's a good solid career plan, 'cause those guys are just swimming in money.Especially the ones with prison tattoos. It makes them seem more... wholesome.

"found jesus in prison" is probably a good schtick for a Christian rock musician. There's a certain amount of their intended audience for whom that is true, but lazy parents might buy it for their kids as an attempt to combine Scared Straight with good old Christian values.

Aar1012:Jesus Christ. This made makes me sick. This happened, not only in my home state, within arms reach of my alma mater. The damned kids that go to OU will never realize the poverty and social problems that occur around them in that region of the state. They'll get their degree and jump ship without leaving any good mark on the south east.

Well, two points. 1) the photographer is a woman, submitter, and 2) she is a student at Ohio University, and so, judging by the reaction of this thread, is working on illuminating the poverty and social problems just outside the Athens city limits. There are students from OU who care and contribute to the community and its issues. And, admittedly, thousands who drink themselves silly on Court Street Thursday through Saturday.

Anderson's Pooper:moonscatter: I spent almost two years getting protective orders for victims of domestic violence. I wish I could say this was a unique situation, but it isn't. It reads like a "worst of" the cases I handled. Isolating the victim from her family/support system, attaching at a time of weakness, ensuring that she believes that he can't be better without her, the tattoo (seen variations on this too many times, including a guy who came into court with a t shirt emblazoned with her picture and "i miss you" airbrushed on it).

And violence in front of the kids is the same as doing it TO The kids. The damage is incredible to their young minds/psyches.

I've done quite a few CPOs in my career as well. It's almost a 50/50 split between this kind of heartbreaking stuff and people who want to file a BS pre-emptive strike for divorce purposes. I wish I had photographic evidence like this in more cases.

Me, too.

Thankfully, we were very selective about the cases we took - and as part of the DA's office, we could not take any cases where a divorce action had been filed.

And omg yes on the photographs, although I could usually find enough idiocy between text messages, facebook and twitter to make my point to the judge.

/the few cases that fell apart on testimony? I dismissed them right in front of the judge.// too many people needed real help for me to mess around with people out for "revenge"

The guy is a cock, but I can't help be feel sorry for him as well. He's just too flat out stupid to control his emotions. It's not like he set out to be a terrible human being. Alcohol, lack of an education, unresolved emotional issues and just plain stupidity are a bad mixture.