Parental alienation involves the systematic brainwashing, poisoning and manipulation of children with the sole purpose of destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent. My story involves this form of child abuse & exploring the bias favouring a mother in the social ecosystem around Family Law.

I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Dave Nash is on a trek across Canada to support
Mr. Vellacott's PMB C-422 for equal shared parenting in Canada's federal
parliament. He is currently in Winnipeg. I had sent the following
note on facebook and would want anyone in the Thunder Bay - Sault Ste.
Marie area who can be involved to get in touch with me to see if efforts
can be coordinated.

"It's
about 1400 km's from there to Sault Ste. Marie, which at your current
pace (an impressive 60 km's per day) puts you in the Soo about Aug. 4. I
will be in MN around then but as you get closer and the day is more
firm I will send out releases to local media, including Marathon, (300
KM's south of Thunder Bay) which has a radio station and ... See
moreNewspaper to let them know. I will also see if a local Hotel in the
Soo will provide accommodation and some meals . One of the owners is a
bicycle marathoner having cycled from Egypt to South Africa. Is there
anyone else in the Marathon - Soo area who can provide ground support?
Its a lot of territory. 700 Km's Thunder Bay to the Soo through rugged
wilderness with few communities in between. South of the Soo to Sudbury
its just over 300 KM's and far less rugged with more smaller
communities."

There
is no cell phone service for anyone using GSM devices between the Sault
and Thunder Bay so communication for Dave, other than hardline will be
spotty. I note he uses an Iphone from his Facebook postings, which means
GSM - as no CDMA (Bell/Telus) service can use this cell. I use the new
Bell GSM network on my iPhone but it terminates just a few Km's north
of the Soo. South of the Sault it is better and should be usable most of
the distance to Sudbury. I have travelled the Sault-Thunder Bay route
more times than I care to remember and it is rugged, lonely and with few
communities. It would be important to have ground support. Cross
country bicycle trekkers describe the hills between Thunder Bay and
Marathon as difficult as in the mountains. They are steep and frequent.

It is
about 700 KM's from Winnipeg to Thunder Bay and the same from the latter
to the Soo. Another 700 km's puts you to the 401 highway in Toronto but
Dave will go Highway 17 through Ottawa which adds about 790 km's From
where he is now to Ottawa will be close to 2,200 km's, slightly more
than his current distance from the start to Winnipeg. They say it takes
forever to get across Ontario compared to other Provinces. It most
assuredly does.

Let me
know if there are any hardy souls able to help in this (Thunder
Bay-Soo) difficult and long stretch of Ontario.MJM

By JASON HALSTEAD, Winnipeg Sun

Last Updated: July 12, 2010 10:05pm

An Ontario man is pounding the pavement from coast to coast to
highlight the plight of non-custodial parents and their kids.

David Nash, 38, of Guelph, Ont., started his Cross Canada Run For The
Children June 1 in Victoria and had made it to Winnipeg by Monday.

Nash had targeted the Guinness record of 72 days for crossing Canada
on foot, a goal he always knew was near impossible, but said it’s really
all about the symbolism of the number.

“The reason I picked it was to make a political statement about the
failings of the system,” Nash said. “Seventy-two days is what a child
will get with their non-custodial parent each year, and that’s if
they’re fortunate.”

Nash said he hopes his journey can help spark change to Canada’s laws
which he said pit parents against one another. Nash has shared custody
of his nine-year-old son Mason with his ex-wife.

“We need to have a system in place that encourages divorcing parents
to work together to put an equal-parenting arrangement together for the
best interest of their children,” he said. “We currently have a system
that encourages parents to fight one another for the custody of their
children and it’s all to the detriment of the children.”

Nash said a private member’s bill is currently before Parliament that
would amend the Divorce Act with the presumption of equal parenting. He
said he hopes his trek will push politicians to act.

“Most Canadians don’t realize how bad the system is until they’ve
been put through it,” Nash said.
“I’m not doing this for fathers’ rights, I’m doing this for
children’s rights. I believe children deserve the right to have an equal
relationship with both of their parents.”

Nash said he’s received plenty of aid and encouragement from
supporters and communities along the way as he’s averaged about 60
kilometres per day.

Favourite Quotes

“The job of a father is this : to help his children develop, to teach them to express and master their emotions; to avoid physiological distress, to provide a context for their experiences; to help them persevere, reach their goals and take on responsibilities; and to instil the roles of citizen, partner and parent. In short, it is to fill their bellies with bread, their brains with wisdom and their hearts with love and courage.” Camil Bouchard, “On Father’s Ground” 2002.

Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" ~ George Bernard Shaw ~ also quoted by Robert F. Kennedy, US Senator and Presidential Candidate assassinated in 1968.

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length. ~ Robert Frost

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Some Gems on relationships

Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is a husband.

The motto of this Father's Rights Activist

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again ... and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." Theodore Roosevelt,

Facts on violence in Canada Domestic and Otherwise

Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile, 2009.

Of the nearly 19 million Canadians who had a current or former spouse in 2009, 6.2% or 1.2 million reported they had been victimized physically or sexually by their partner or spouse during the five years prior to the survey. This proportion was stable from 2004 (6.6%), the last time the victimization survey was conducted, and down from 1999 (7.4%).

A similar proportion of men and women reported experiencing spousal violence during the five years prior to the survey. Among men, 6.0% or about 585,000, encountered spousal violence during this period, compared with 6.4% or 601,000 women.

Total 611, men 465, women 146Rate of homicides with firearms has increased 24% since 2002. Handgun use on increase (gangs don't register their weapons)Women victims 24% - lowest proportion everMen Victims 76%Both the rate of females killed (0.87 per 100,000 population), as well as the proportion(24%), were the lowest since 196162 spousal homicides - no change from 2007Lowest rate in 40 years45 women 17 (27.4%)men

Many DV homicides of men are not classified as such and this number is higher than 27.4%.

In 2009 based on a million couples it can fairly be said 999,998 wives do not kill their husbands and 999,995 husbands do not kill their wives. (See Pg. 15 chart modified from the rate per 100,000.)

In 2009, 49 women and 15 men were killed by a current or former spouse (excludes one same-sex spousal victim).

Total homicides 610, Men 450. Gang related 20.3 percent.69.1 % of firearm related deaths involved handgunsWomen 160, In 2009 it represented the second lowest proportion (26%) of female homicide victims since data were first collected. The rate of female victims has generally been declining since the late 1960s.

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I am Politically active and right of centre on most issues with the odd exception such as legalization of "Mary Jane".
I advocate on changes to Family Law - an incredibly dysfunctional arena where parents are pitted against one another and children are the victims.
My picture will sometimes show me as a younger man simply because I like them.

An Alienated Child

Is a troubled child

American Coalition for Fathers & Children Petition

A quote by a well known Canadian Jurist

The Honorable Justice John Gomery of Canada stated, “Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

(The above quote arises from PSM vs. AJC, a decision rendered by Mr. Justice John Gomery on February 15 1991 (SCM 500-12-184613895), and confirmed by the unanimous judgment of the Court of Appeal on June 14 1991, the trial judge was confronted by a case involving four children caught up in a heated custody battle between their parents whereby the children became "catastrophically" alienated from their mother.)A good paper on PAS for lawyers by a lawyer, Anne-France Goldwater (Avocate), and excerpts from the above trial are located here.