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Lawyer here...apply restraining order. He will lose ability to carry gun, which will possibly force him into coming to his senses prior to final determination on the order for fear of losing job (and identity if he is like most cops)

Cop here and I agree completely. Tell her to keep all text messages/voice mails for when she goes to apply for it. She's going to need a lot of ammo before they will issue a restraining order on him because of the fact it means he will be stripped of everything.

A situation happened to me and my girlfriend a couple of years ago that taught me how to deal with the local police. It's a long story, but the gist of the situation is that my gf ended up with a cop stalking her. He would follow her/us everywhere we went. Sit outside our house at all hours of the night. He even stopped by the house a few times when he could see that she was alone and tried to get her to let him inside. He met her one time through me and my work and just "fell in love" and wouldn't leave her alone.

I know people on the local police department because I do a lot of their communications and technology work so I went and talked to them and we filed a complaint. However, it seemed like no one in the department wanted to get involved and nobody would do anything about it. The harassment continued.

One day I got frustrated and called the State Police and told them what was going on. I gave them pictures I had taken of his squad car parked in the street near our house and we gave statements. Never saw the guy again.

One day I got frustrated and called the State Police and told them what was going on. I gave them pictures I had taken of his squad car parked in the street near our house and we gave statements. Never saw the guy again.

For some reason this gave me great gratification. Good on you and the state police.

Your cousin should either go to a lawyer or directly in a police station and report the behaviour. She should keep everything he did to her documented, meaning no erasing sms. A police officer does not stand above the law, nor is he untouchable

Police is like the military, there is always someone higher up. Go up the chain of command, you can ask to talk with his captain if he is a regular beat officer or directly with human resources. If you don't feel comfortable going in alone have a lawyer present but have some legal representation to file a restraining order as well, anyways.

Be prepared to present all evidence you have. Make copies for them to have, never give out originals. Ask your phone companies for a print out of text messages and have it notarized maybe.

Worked under battalion s1 in army for a while and saw a whole lot of shit come down the pipe.

I had a family member who was harassed by her cop ex boyfriend. She recorded all the harassing conversations and in one an admission by him that he didn't write all his police reports. She gave all this to the area district attorney, sack of shit cop is a used car salesman now.

There is a telephone app (starts with a q, sorry i don't remember the name ) that allows you to start recording video on your phone. It automatically uploads the vid to a website (so if someone takes your phone as "evidence" it can't get "accidentally" erased). record every interaction. Also, ask your lawyer to subpoena the dash cam tapes from any time he pulls you over.

There was a lady at the training who went through almost this exact same thing and what she did was call the highway patrol. She explained her situation and why she couldn't/didn't want to call her local police and they helped her out.

Of course the other cops had to have seen what he did at the checkpoint. I would say find a safe place to take your kids (preferably a few counties away) and then make the complaints. Stat saving those texts and advise your parents to take action if he even attempts to come to their house or contact them.

Yeah, I think that is what freaked me out the most when she was telling me. There's no way the other police on that checkpoint didn't see what he was doing, although who knows what he told them when he got back from chasing her.

I work for a Police Department. Have her file a restraining order with the local court AND she needs to go to the Police Department and file a police report. The report will probably be filed under Threatening/Harassing phone calls. Make sure she receives a case number from them to give to her lawyer.

As gendarme_ stated have her save any and all incriminating things he has done to her, i.e., texts, e-mails, record phone calls and present it to the chief of his dept. He will 100% be reprimanded and possibly (most likely) relieved of duty. This happened in our department when one of our "joes" would not stop threatening his ex wife's new boyfriend. Telling him "he's a cop" and "I can't get in trouble." Using your badge to gain any sort of headway is a huge no-no in most, if not every, department.

I'm sorry for your cousin, that sounds terrible. I'm not a police officer or anything, but this should be addressed as quickly as possibly. Like everyone else said, I'd get a restraining order and collect all the information you can. There is obviously something very wrong with that man.

im glad that behavior like this is not tolerated at your father's department but one of the biggest reasons for corruption in policing is the extremely fractured local/municipal departments. unfortunately in some departments behavior like this is covered up and swept under the rug

I deliberately didn't do this, because that information combined with what I've put in the post above, would be enough for this creep to identify his ex-wife beyond doubt. I have no idea if he's a redditor, but it's not a chance I'm going to take at this point.

Im pretty sure if he did all of this he would have already identified himself, this isn't every day stuff for cops. The state makes things a lot easier but remember, you're on Reddit, the country is Important as well. But while we are at it I'll give you my opinion based on over 10 years of experience.
1) The recording of information is vital. Record names, dates, phone numbers used, cars used, places, clothing, sources of supporting evidence ie phone records, CCTV footage of in public, plus the obvious what was said/done.
2) Make enquires support services. Here in Australia there a lot of domestic violence shelters which can give support, not just with emergency housing, but also legal aid, baby sitting and someone to talk too.
3) She needs to make the decision to get out of this. I promise you that you can do all you want but if she doesn't do what she needs to do, ie make a report, record evidence, then the whole thing is a lot harder. The cops that she reports to may well be mates with her ex. Just make sure she makes a big deal of taking their serial number, and if possible, report to the most senior officer available. Take a witness for support but also to back up what has been said.

I have been to literally hundreds if not thousands of domestic violence situations but only a few involving cops. I can tell you that if she is strong and has the support of people like you, she will make it through this. There may well be friends that think he is a great bloke and believe him but I promise there will be others who think he's a dick and will be happy to support and help. I hope it all works out ok..