But here’s something you need to remember. Sexual attraction is not the same as physical attraction or infatuation. While sexual attraction is the raw sexual desire to hit the bed with each other, physical attraction is the fondness you experience for someone based on their appearance or behavior. It could end up being a platonic experience, or it could lead to romance, friendship or even sex.

If you’re having a conversation with someone attractive, and begin to like the person and see them as a dating potential, you may be infatuated or attracted to them, but it doesn’t always have to end with sexual attraction. [Read: 20 signs of flirty attraction in a conversation]

If you’re having a conversation with someone attractive, and the conversation leaves you feeling all hot and flustered, chances are, the sexual chemistry and attraction between the two of you is already sizzling and burning.

You can use these 13 signs of sexual attraction to find out if you or a hottie you’re chatting up actually want to get into the other person’s pants.

#1 Close contact. When you’re sexually attracted to someone you’re talking to, you’d find it very hard to stay away from them. You’d find any excuse to get closer to them, be it while walking together or while squeezing into a crowded elevator. If you’re talking to an attractive someone, and they constantly try to sit closer to you or move in awkwardly close for no valid reason at all, it’s probably because they’re sexually attracted to you already.

#2 Outrageous flirting. Do you find yourself helplessly flirting with this person all the time? Sexual flirting is one of the big signs of sexual attraction. If you’re sexually attracted to someone, you can’t help yourself from talking dirty or behaving like a naughty tease around them. [Read: 30 subtle, obvious and dirty flirting tips for girls]

#3 Strategic locations. You can’t stop staring at strategic sensual locations on this person’s body, be it their crotch, their butt, their breasts or even their lips. You can try to stop yourself, but every sneaky opportunity you get, your eyes would just drift down south to get an eyeful of all that sexiness.

#4 Your heart starts racing. If you’re sitting in a cozy corner with this person, you can’t help but feel turned on and sexually aroused. With each minute that passes by, your excitement would make your hands wander and you’d start breathing deeper and harder too! [Read: 6 sexy ways to make a guy want to kiss you by turning him on]

#5 You’re all hot and bothered. If you’re turned on by someone’s touch or close proximity, you’d start to feel flustered and sweaty, especially if you feel awkward or uncomfortable with the wild emotions whirling in your mind.

#6 You find them irresistible. Sexual attraction can drive us crazy, especially when we’re around the object of our attraction. You’d have a very hard time keeping your hands away from them, and you may not even realize it. Do either of you end up clasping each other’s fingers, running hands against the other person’s cheek or hair? [Read: How to arouse a girl and turn her on in 10 ways]

#7 Your own appearance. When you’re around someone who sexually excites you, you can’t help but feel very conscious about your own body and appearance. You may find yourself looking at your own body now and then, and you may even try to stick out parts of your body that you think flatter your assets the most.

#8 You touch yourself. When you’re being seduced by someone’s presence in the room, you would subconsciously start to touch yourself, to show off and to cover your own sexual awkwardness. You may find yourself unbuttoning your collar, running your hands through your hair, or even getting more comfortable by spreading your legs wider! [Read: 15 very obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

#9 Drawling conversations. A sexual conversation is never high pitched or giggly. As both of you start to talk sexy, the tone of both your voices would start to get softer and deeper, and mute down to almost a slow whisper. Your faces may be really close to each other too, and in all probability, both of you are only moments away from a stolen kiss.

#10 Burning stares. Burning sexual desires bring out the raw animal in us. When you’re deeply sexually attracted to someone, you can’t help but stare hard at them constantly. You may not always stare, but when they’re looking away from you, that’s all the excuse you need to strip them bare with your eyes. You know you want them right that moment. [Read: 10 red hot ways to seduce a man who isn’t yours already]

#11 It’s in the eyes. A sexually stimulating conversation is easy to read in the eyes. No matter how subtle or discreet you are about how badly you want this person in bed, your eyes can’t lie. If you’re romantically infatuated, your eyes will brighten up and sparkle with happiness. But if someone desires you sexually and both of you have a sneaky moment of alone time, you’d see that their eyelids are almost drunkenly half closed with lust *especially when their face is really close to yours*.

#12 You linger more than you have to. You don’t want to let go of this hottie even when you have to say your goodbyes. You linger your touch, your goodbye kisses and just about everything else. If you had a choice, you know you wouldn’t even want to let go of this person. [Read: 10 surefire ways to increase your sex appeal immediately]

#13 You just want a room. When you’re having a flirty conversation with this person, do you ever wish everyone else could just vanish? Or do you wish both of you had the privacy of being inside a locked room? When you’re having a sexually arousing conversation with someone you’re attracted to, you wouldn’t want anyone else around.

Have you ever felt these signs of sexual attraction while talking to someone you’re attracted to? In all probability, it’s not a crush but a wildly passionate moment of sexual attraction you’re experiencing!

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Colin Andrews
A writer working on his first book, Colin Andrews lives in Sherborne, England and spends a good part of his day cycling around town looking for new adventures a...

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DISCUSSION

I M attracted toward someone sexually. But I don’t want to do these things…!!!
Can u plzzzz suggest Me How can I keep control on Myself……????

Emilia

I’ve certainly felt and seen these signs in action, though for me personally, they still haven’t led to much. You can say I’m a late bloomer…

The last part of #11 was a shocker, though! I kind of always took that look at face value when I see it on others, but now I know what might be the culprit if some of these other signs are evident—definitely good to know! Thank you!

The bomb

I get that practically all the time. There’s this 42 year old at the gym who always talks to me and she is one of the trainors there. She would get me really aroused and I really think that she is into me. The art of sexual attraction, I really think she has mastered it because she got me all hot and steamy. I talked to her about this and she said that I really caught on to what she was doing. It was a Sunday morning and no one really worked out at that time and in that day in our gym and we hooked up at the gym’s basement. Where her studio is near and where there are no cameras around to tape us doing the dirty deed. She got me to bust in just 3 minutes. She wasn’t satisfied so I just had to refract quickly and I did, I made her cum after 5 minutes and she loved it. We cuddled on the floor and we really decided to do it more frequently and so we did. We always have sex every Sunday morning and we added Wednesday and Thursday too. I’m really happy with our fuck buddy relationship.

Bomb

The purest form of sexual attraction*, for me, is this: Imagine meeting someone for the first time and feeling a jolt of electricity running through you. Your legs feel a bit as if you’d gone for a very long jog – kind of jiggly and weak. Your stomach drops. You feel this pull like you want to be with them even though you know nothing about this person. Your mind wanders and you can’t concentrate. They talk and you half listen, half just stare at their lips because they’re so perfect… It’s like they have this aura around them, and they’re just perfect, and the rest of the world looks muted, like cheap background decorations meant to highlight this person. Also this all happens in like… no time. Purest because there are no other feelings involved – you don’t know the person. When you crush on someone you may feel the same at times but it’s a lot more complicated, IME. In some ways it’s a lot better, and it can be overwhelming but not quite in the same way.

Stephen Lawrence

I feel #5 and #12 – but the others, no. I think I’m closer to what some call a demisexual. It means I can’t empathise with what others normally experience.