mixing with an SPL meter?

What's a good level for mixing that will not hurt my ears, but will not cause me to make the bass too loud? I'm making bass-heavy electronic music, but I want it to sound nice and crisp in the mid-highs.
Thanks

Yep about 85 db is right but...
That will give you the most linear mix but not necessarily a good mix.

I think that it's important to listen to your mix at varied levels, especially extremely low. I mean so low that you can barely hear it. I find there is great information to be had this way. This is a good way to hear if something is WAY too loud in the mix.

Another way that I monitor is by stepping out of the control room and listening down the hall a ways. It just tells me another story.

I think the hardest thing in recording is to make a mix "portable". Meaning, that it will sound relatively good on all systems.

I have 2 pairs of monitors and headphones. In pro tools, I put pink noise at -3 dB and adjusted the master fader until the SPL meter was at 85dB. Then I did the same using the other monitors, and adjusted the gain on the monitors, not touching the master fader. So now both pairs play back the pink noise at 85dB.

Is this the right way of doing it, or should every song I listen to (mastered/unmastered) be at 85dB? With pink noise at 85dB, mastered songs from CD show about a 90dB on the SPL meter. Is this right?

getting more accustomed to your monitors might help solve the problem, too... since the monitors you mix on are probably not what the majority of end consumers will listen on, you shouldn't worry about upping the bass until it shakes the foundation via your monitors. instead, listen extensively to similar artists and songs on your monitors until you know what level the bass/mids/highs -really- are in those cases, before they're pumped into consumer speakers and/or car stereos with the bass knobs turned up =) then you will have a good comparison, since you probably already know what those songs sound like with the bass bumpin. eventually, you'll know exactly what -your- mixes will need to sound like so that they won't be too boomy afterward.

i also especially agree with LDA about listening "to your mix at varied levels, especially extremely low." the ear is more sensitive to mids at low levels than to bass/high frequencies, so if you turn the volume way down and the bass is still prominent, then it is very likely it will be too boomy in the final mix.