Sex and The Suburbs Survey

1. Welcome to The Sex and The Suburbs Survey!

Thank you for agreeing to participate in my survey about motherhood and sex. Please answer each question to the best of your ability and be as honest and detailed as you can be (and you feel comfortable with). The starred questions are mandatory, but feel free to skip any other non-starred questions that you do not feel comfortable answering. However, the more open and honest you can be, the better. I really appreciate you taking the time to help me out with my book.

Remember, all surveys are 100% anonymous, but content provided through the survey may be used in my book or my blog.

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1. What is your age?

What is your age?

2. What is your marital status?

What is your marital status? married

single

divorced

widowed

engaged

in a relationship

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3. If you are married or in a relationship, what is your partner's age?

If you are married or in a relationship, what is your partner's age?

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4. How many children do you have and what are their ages?

How many children do you have and what are their ages?

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5. What is your sexual orientation?

What is your sexual orientation? straight

gay

bi-sexual

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6. If you are married or in a relationship, how long have you been with this person?

If you are married or in a relationship, how long have you been with this person?

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7. What state do you live in?

What state do you live in?

8. How did you hear about this survey?

How did you hear about this survey? Twitter

Facebook

Sex and The Suburbs Column on SexIs

CafeMom

The Wise (*Young*) Mommy blog

Petra herself

A Friend

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9. How often do you have sex with your partner/spouse?

How often do you have sex with your partner/spouse?

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10. How do you feel your sex life has changed (if at all) since having children?

How do you feel your sex life has changed (if at all) since having children?

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11. Do you have as much sex now with your partner as you did before you had children?

Do you have as much sex now with your partner as you did before you had children?

12. What is the kinkiest sex YOU have ever had (with or without your current partner)?

What is the kinkiest sex YOU have ever had (with or without your current partner)?

13. Have you ever had sex with someone of the same sex?

Have you ever had sex with someone of the same sex?

14. Have you ever had a threesome or group sex? (if so, give a brief explanation)

Have you ever had a threesome or group sex? (if so, give a brief explanation)

15. Have you and your partner ever tried swinging?

Have you and your partner ever tried swinging?

16. If you answered yes to the previous question, what are your feelings about your swinging experience?

If you answered yes to the previous question, what are your feelings about your swinging experience?

17. Do you have an “open” relationship with your spouse (are you each allowed to have sexual relations with others outside the marriage)? If so, how do you feel about this arrangement and how did you both come to agree on it?

Do you have an “open” relationship with your spouse (are you each allowed to have sexual relations with others outside the marriage)? If so, how do you feel about this arrangement and how did you both come to agree on it?

18. Have you or your partner ever been unfaithful? If so, please explain.

Have you or your partner ever been unfaithful? If so, please explain.

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19. Are you satisfied with your sex life, and if not, why?

Are you satisfied with your sex life, and if not, why?

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20. What would you change about your sex life if you could?

What would you change about your sex life if you could?

21. What is the most interesting, kinkiest, etc. sex you and your partner have had? How often do you experiment with new things in the bedroom?

What is the most interesting, kinkiest, etc. sex you and your partner have had? How often do you experiment with new things in the bedroom?

22. What is your favorite kind of sex with your partner(s)?

What is your favorite kind of sex with your partner(s)?

23. Do you or your partner watch pornography? If so, how do you feel about it?

Do you or your partner watch pornography? If so, how do you feel about it?

24. If your spouse/partner looks at pornography without you, how do you feel about it?

If your spouse/partner looks at pornography without you, how do you feel about it?

25. Would you or have you ever taped you and your partner having sex? If the answer is yes, please explain.

Would you or have you ever taped you and your partner having sex? If the answer is yes, please explain.

26. Have you ever role played, dressed in costumes, etc.? If not, would you be interested in doing it?

Have you ever role played, dressed in costumes, etc.? If not, would you be interested in doing it?

27. Have you ever used bondage or been dominant/submissive with your partner? If yes, please explain.

Have you ever used bondage or been dominant/submissive with your partner? If yes, please explain.

28. Have you ever had anal sex, and if so, how did you feel about it?

Have you ever had anal sex, and if so, how did you feel about it?

29. Do you use sex toys, and if so, what do you use?

Do you use sex toys, and if so, what do you use?

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30. Do you feel differently about your body since having children, and if so, how? What is your biggest insecurity about your body?

Do you feel differently about your body since having children, and if so, how? What is your biggest insecurity about your body?

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31. Do you think it is possible for parents to have as fulfilling and exciting a sex life as before children, marriage, etc.?

Do you think it is possible for parents to have as fulfilling and exciting a sex life as before children, marriage, etc.?

32. Are you embarrassed or ashamed at anything you have done sexually?

Are you embarrassed or ashamed at anything you have done sexually?

33. Do you worry what people might think of they knew what you did behind closed doors? If so, please explain.

Do you worry what people might think of they knew what you did behind closed doors? If so, please explain.

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34. Do you think your husband/partner is satisfied with your sex life? If not, why?

Do you think your husband/partner is satisfied with your sex life? If not, why?

35. Name one thing you have always wanted to try sexually.

Name one thing you have always wanted to try sexually.

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36. How important do you think it is to have an active sex life?

How important do you think it is to have an active sex life?

37. Has your partner ever wanted to try something in the bedroom that you were not comfortable with or vice versa? Please explain.

Has your partner ever wanted to try something in the bedroom that you were not comfortable with or vice versa? Please explain.

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38. What do you feel is the most important issue involving sex after children? Is there something you would like to read about or learn about that you feel might help your sex life?

What do you feel is the most important issue involving sex after children? Is there something you would like to read about or learn about that you feel might help your sex life?