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In the first episode, Dianne Emerson introduces the podcast, Psychopath in Your Life. The aim of this podcast is to help people understand who psychopaths are and how to identify them amongst the crowd of people that you rub shoulders with on a daily basis. Tune is as Dianne gives listeners insight into how her journey into this research began, why general information and checklists regarding psychopaths can be confusing and misleading, and what it means to be a “successful” psychopath.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:10 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:19 – This podcast is exclusively dedicated to talking about psychopaths00:42 – In the 1980’s, Ann Rule was one of the more famous crime writers00:49 – Her first book was about Ted Bundy, The Stranger Beside Me01:07 – Jack Olsen also came out with a book called Son01:19 – The character in this book came from a prominent family01:52 – This podcast will be about identifying psychopaths02:04 – Not all the information about psychopaths—the checklists— translate into behavior02:28 – More information has become available because of the internet02:40 – To store the information, Dianne set up a free forum02:52 – She started sorting information and people started sharing their stories03:16 – Along the way, the discussion forum grew and grew03:50 – Dianne became fascinated by how many people got involved with a psychopath04:20 – Who are the psychopaths? They are people who are likely to commit crimes (general prison population)04:28 – 25% of the prison population are tested and classified as psychopaths04:35 – 1-3% of the general population are classified as psychopaths05:04 – How do you know if a person is a psychopath?05:08 – They fall under the personality disorder cluster05:14 – “It’s in the genes”06:03 – Checklists are a good source of information, but they can also cause confusion06:12 – Smart psychopaths vs. those who end up in prison06:49 – Psychopaths with criminal minds are easier to identify06:58 – “The more educated they are, the more they are able to cover their behavior”07:06 – “The one thing that they don’t have that we have is a conscience”07:52 – Without a conscience, psychopaths are able to make decisions normal people cannot08:06 – A practiced psychopath can trick people into believing that they have conscience09:19 – A psychopath can be a person who’s successful09:37 – A “successful psychopath” studies and learns different behaviors10:12 – Normal people tend to overlook things10:45 – A few years ago, Dianne was contacted by psychopaths who wanted to tell their stories11:03 – She started a book about the plight of victims of psychopaths11:13 – Dianne thought there had to be some more information to share to the public regarding how psychopaths operate11:51 – She decided to interview psychopaths under controlled circumstances12:46 – One question she asked was, “what was their motivation?”12:51 – All 3 of them said they wanted to learn13:00 – They wanted to learn how they can hide their behavior better13:24 – Dianne’s book is called Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews14:09 – Stranger danger is overrated14:31 – Next episode will be about the personalities of psychopaths, clues to look for, and how you can know if you’re a person they’re looking to victimize14:44 – Dianne looks forward to your questions and comments to continue the conversation!15:07 – Dianne has spoken with a lot of victims and understands your need for privacy and confidentiality and will deal with your comments/emails with the utmost respect15:34 – Check out Psychopath In Your Life and send your questions and comments (anonymous, if you’d prefer) that Dianne will be more than willing to address on the air15:57 – Dianne closes the podcast

3 Key Points:One size does NOT fit all—the checklists of information regarding psychopaths does not always translate into behavior.Practiced and successful psychopaths trick people into believing they are “normal.”It is the psychopaths in our lives who are the ones that can hurt us the most.

Summary:In Episode 002, Dianne delves into the very terms used to define a psychopath and some of the attributes they may exhibit. She shares a story of a psychopath’s co-mingled diagnosis and discusses how a psychopath used the guise of kindness in The Fake Rockefeller. Who do psychopaths choose as victims? Why do some psychopaths pretend to be kind and caring? Tune in as Dianne discusses the complicated nature of defining a psychopath, why they try to blend into the crowd, and how being kind and caring can make you a token victim.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:10 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:19 – This podcast is dedicated to being exclusively a discussion about psychopaths00:31 – Psychopaths, Psychopaths, and antisocial personality disorders – what’s the best way to identify them?00:56 – Dianne will define all these terms on her website and how these terms have evolved over the years01:33 – Even Psychopaths, themselves, disagree with the terms they’ve been called02:44 – Dianne shares an example of a “co-mingled diagnosis”04:07 – Psychopaths look like, walk like, and talk like normal people04:30 – There are many psychopaths who are aware of their condition05:07 – There are socialized and non-socialized psychopaths05:47 – Less socialized ones end up in the prison system06:13 – Dianne started this podcast to provide information06:27 – One interviewee said something Dianne will never forget06:55 – “The world is becoming more like us than you”07:13 – Certain industries attract more psychopaths than others07:30 – Victims are kind and caring people08:01 – The end game for a psychopath is to gain control; so if you’re kind, you tend to be an easier victim08:20 – “Living life by painting the red flags white”—kind people tend to ignore the red flags08:38 – Dianne has heard from victims all these years, but she never had an idea about how much detail goes into the planning09:09 – Psychopaths may have animal abuse in their background, but can also use this stereotype to their advantage by befriending and taking care of an animal09:52 – At the end of the day, “Psychopaths don’t love anybody, but themselves”10:04 – See the story of The Fake Rockefeller10:40 – Part of how the psychopath blended in was by pretending to be a kind person who wanted to adopt a handicapped dog11:39 – Psychopaths know the triggers and attribute that kind and caring people exhibit as it becomes a part of their persona12:14 – We RESPECT your privacy – contact Dianne for comments and questions12:34 – Check out Psychopath In Your Life and send an anonymous email13:23 – Dianne closes the podcast3 Key Points:

Psychopaths behave very normally—you have to keep a close eye to actually identify them properly.The world is becoming filled with more psychopaths than normal people.Victims tend to be those who are kind and caring as they are the ones that are the most likely to give up control to a psychopath.Resources Mentioned:The Fake Rockefeller – A true crime story about a guy who faked his identity to blend with people

Summary:In Episode 003, Dianne shares from her personal interviews with psychopaths the attributes they look for in their future victims. Dianne also explains just how manipulative psychopaths can be and how they use the strategy of gaslighting to maintain control over their victims. Tune in to find out why psychopaths play the victim and just how far they’ll push to stay in control.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:10 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:19 – Last episode the kind of personalities psychopaths seek out00:41 – One guy that Dianne interviewed look at how people’s eyes diverged, how confident they seemed, and even the look of the shoulders when it came to choosing their future victims01:13 – Investigation Discovery Channel has stories about psychopaths01:34 – Dateline Show also shares psychopaths’ stories01:58 – Not all psychopaths are murderers02:10 – Dealing with a psychopath is all about control02:34 – Dateline Shows are usually about murder03:24 – When you watch, read or listen to these stories—“Pay attention to when they describe the victim”03:47 – The victim is the kind and caring person04:04 – The victim’s kindness is usually what makes them a target04:58 – Psychopaths victimize themselves in their own minds05:13 – They flip and turn things around to make you believe they are the victim05:51 – Dianne cites an example of how they play the victim06:32 – Dianne was given a complete checklist of how psychopaths convince people they are the victim07:08 – “The goal is to get you [the victim] to start to feel like you’re the crazy one and test your sense of normality”07:21 – A description of the Gaslight Concept07:51 – Dianne refers to the movie, Gas Light—where the term originated07:57 – To gaslight is to alter the victim’s reality to fit into with what the psychopath wants it to be08:59 – A psychopath manipulates to make themselves look like the victim09:41 – Psychopaths test how far they can push their victims11:06 – Some psychopaths are actually proud to be one12:20 – Dianne looks forward to questions and comments12:41 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website or by email13:45 – Dianne closes the podcast3 Key Points:Psychopaths may have very specific qualities in mind when looking for potential targets.Dealing with a psychopath is all about control.Beware of “gaslighting”—psychopaths like playing the victim when, in fact, they victimize you!

Resources Mentioned:Investigation Discovery Channel & Dateline Show– TV shows where stories and documentaries are about crimes that lead to psychopathsGaslighting – the tactic psychopaths use to alter your reality

Summary:In Episode 004, Dianne reminds us that each psychopath is unique and assuming that there is one way to identify all psychopaths is not only misguided, but impossible. In the same line of thinking, one can never be too sure what psychopaths are thinking. Listen as Dianne shares the behaviors and actions of the psychopaths she has interviewed; why they try to flip your charges and accusations against you how the biggest mistake you can make, as a victim, is to tell them you already “know”.Time Stamped Show Notes:00:13 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:18 – Dianne is the author of the book, Psychopaths in Our Lives00:26 – Dianne received a couple of interesting letters00:43 – You cannot simply list down symptoms of psychopaths – it’s all about one’s observations01:06 – Dianne talks about Ann Rule’s book on Ted Bundy01:28 – “Ted has been described as the perfect son, the perfect student, the Boy Scout grown to adulthood, a genius, as handsome as a movie idol, a bright light in the future of the Republican Party, a sensitive psychiatric social worker, a budding lawyer, a trusted friend, a young man for whom the future could surely hold only success. He is all of these things, and none of them.”02:15 – What is not addressed is the life of a psychopath and how to break up with them02:46 – One psychopath in Dianne’s book, Fred, had a relationship that broke in a way that he didn’t want, so he took his revenge03:23 – Be really clear on who you’re dealing with03:44 – “They are NOT all the same”04:12 – Not knowing who you’re dealing with can mean very serious consequences04:25 – The better psychopaths are ones that are more sophisticated04:48 – Do they have a conscience?05:24 – Old criminal checklists for psychopaths do not apply all the time05:54 – Be calculated in assessing who they are06:02 – Every victim suffers from PTSD06:34 – The problem is you may be seeing different things about a person than what others are seeing06:57 – The worst thing you can do is to confide in people about a psychopath issue07:13 – Psychopaths will do everything to flip the charges on you07:48 – Everybody tries to trick the last person08:50 – “I felt like I was going crazy” – It’s part of a psychopath’s plan09:42 – When you start to question a psychopath, they start to push you to the edge, mentally10:51 – Pay attention to the dynamics11:08 – The last thing you ever want to tell a psychopath is that you “know”11:53 – Dianne shares an ex hit-man’s story13:32 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website or by email14:05 – Dianne values your privacy and has no intention to build a list14:23 – Comment from Bill, “I am the person you need me to be in order to trust, confide in, support, and promote, is the person I will become. Being free of unpredictable emotional reactions and guilt, I am free to be whatever, whenever, and then change them when necessary…”15:00 – Subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, and Youtube3 Key Points:Not all psychopaths have the same characteristics – one size does not fit all so always be on guard.Never assume you know what a psychopath is thinking or tell them that you “know” about who they are.When you start to feel like YOU are the one going crazy; remember, that is part of the psychopath’s plan.Resources Mentioned:

Summary:One can form and build their conscience at the age of 3-5 years old and a lack of a conscience is one of the key characteristics of a psychopath. Having no conscience—meaning a lack of regard to right or wrong or the feelings of others—can be a direct result of being raised in a home that did not exemplify love and/or compassion. In Episode 005, Dianne introduces the medical definitions and description for psychopaths and the disorders they tend to fall into to help us gain a better understanding of the condition. She also responds to listeners’ comments, expressing her desire to help others.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

00:06 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:47 – There are different ways to diagnose conditions and this can present a problem01:25 – DSM is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders02:00 – Psychopaths fall into the personality disorder02:27 – Conduct disorder is the initial diagnosis for children

03:15 – RAD means Reactive Attachment Disorder

03:48 – Children with RAD may develop stable relationships with caregivers and others

Summary:In Episode 006, Dianne shares a mail she received from a woman who has married 2 psychopaths. Listen as the writer shares and describes her life with husband #2 and opens up about her son. Dianne offers her sincerest advice and encouragement—reminding the writer and each of us that there IS hope and a way OUT of this life.

Time Stamped Show Notes:00:06 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:13 – Dianne is the author of the book, Psychopaths in Our Lives00:26 – Dianne reads a letter she received last week01:16 – The person who sent the letter married 2 psychopathic men01:22 – Dianne has a relative who married 2 alcoholics02:04 – “I have an older son who suffers from several disorders”02:30 – People refer to psychopaths as men02:41 – Dianne recommends reading Bitter Harvest03:41 – “I cried buckets. It is so isolating”04:14 – Dianne would like to answer you in this way:05:00 – The answer won’t be in a pill – no antidepressants05:16 – Realize you’ve gone through hell, but there IS a way out06:30 – Think about trying to manage the feelings of being right06:53 – Be careful about who you communicate with07:27 – Never go to couples’ counseling08:37 – Safety is very important09:11 – Find an abuse center that is private or located in another town09:54 – Your son may have gotten his disorder from his father’s genes10:41 – Deal with one issue at a time11:02 – Refrain from telling him you know11:45 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website.12:42 – Subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, YouTube, Facebook and on the website

3 Key Points:Victims of psychopaths go through hell, BUT remember, there IS a way out.Be careful with whom you communicate your plans and issues.Your safety is the MOST important thing you need to consider.

Resources Mentioned:Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews by Dianne EmersonBitter Harvest – Book about a psychopath womanBiblio – Where Dianne gets her books

Summary:In Episode 007, Dianne further discusses the characteristics of children displaying psychopathic tendencies; this includes certain traits and behaviors that are specific to children. Listen to find out why psychopathic symptoms go unnoticed in a household, the status for psychopathic care facilities today, and the reason why reporting can be complicated.

Time Stamped Show Notes:00:12 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:18 – Dianne is the author of the book, Psychopaths in Our Lives01:05 – “We’re finally getting information coming out”01:25 – The Atlantic Magazine has a great article, “When Your Child is a Psychopath”02:12 – Dianne reads, “callous and unemotional traits—shorthand for a cluster of characteristics and behaviors, including a lack of empathy, remorse, or guilt, shallow emotions, aggression and even cruelty, and a seeming indifference to punishment.”02:48 – Callous and unemotional children have no trouble hurting others to get what they want02:58 – In 2013, The American Psychiatric Association and the DSM say that the condition can go unnoticed04:12 – Dr. Hare developed the youth checklist for psychopathy behaviors04:34 – What’s being done now is trial and error04:46 – The flaw or lack is in developing places where kids can receive support/training for their behavior05:46 – Once kids age out of a facility, there’s no follow-up06:26 – Few families get to the point where they find care facilities06:58 – In China, there are tons of facilities for gaming addictions07:20 – Research and self-reporting are key issues07:58 – Dianne shares about the Ted Bundy case09:12 – The big trip up for Ted Bundy was pornography09:45 – Ted had a girlfriend who stayed with him10:23 – He was engaged a couple of times10:37 – He had a pattern10:58 – Reporting becomes complicated because you rely on the family to report it11:57 – Psychopaths are not always men12:57 – Men who are abused by women are off the radar13:23 – For more information go to www.psychopath-research.com, in the “Family” section13:54 – Register to be able to post14:22 – A person on the site posts about his child who is under care in a facility15:18 – Dianne cannot diagnose any person without meeting them15:40 – Don’t mislabel people as psychopaths16:37 – Dianne would like to share tools to do the research yourself17:04 – Subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, YouTube, Facebook and on the website17:16 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website

3 Key Points:Psychopathic symptoms can go unnoticed – especially because you rely on family members to report such behaviors.There are few care facilities for children who have the behavior—this needs to be rectified.Don’t be mistaken, psychopaths are both men and women.

Resources Mentioned:Psychopaths in Our Lives: My InterviewsWhen Your Child is a Psychopath – Article from The Atlantic Magazine that Dianne mentionedDr. Hare – Doctor that developed the psychopathy checklist for youthTed Bundy – An infamous psychopath who went on a killing spree in the 1970’s

In Episode 008, Dianne dives further into the complexities that explain psychopaths become who they are. One’s background and childhood could account for part of this, but it isn’t a clear-cut cause and effect relationship for ALL psychopaths. Listen as Dianne shares more of her discoveries through the interviews she’s performed, why it’s important to show empathy to the parents of psychopaths, and how psychopaths can manipulate their diagnostic test results.

Time Stamped Show Notes:00:11 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:18 – Today’s episode is a follow up on the article: When Your Child is a Psychopath00:49 – “If we don’t understand the past, we have no path forward to the future”00:54 – Dianne received a disturbing email regarding blaming the parents01:07 – We’re not blaming the parents01:23 – Carl, the young man in the article went to a facility01:37 – The big problem Dianne sees is there is no data for him beyond the age of 1801:46 – Carl called the facility to report what he was doing01:57 – The reporter paid a visit02:06 – Interview with his family reveals that Carl is doing terrifically – better than expected02:27 – Carl’s wife had a different story – it was a disastrous relationship02:52 – The part that’s alarming is Carl now owns a funeral home03:26 – We don’t have a way to know how psychopath genes get passed03:57 – Dianne’s book contains 3 interviews with psychopaths04:08 – One went through the diagnostic process of the psychopathic disorder04:25 – Dianne’s question was, “How compliant were you?”04:30 – The psychopath answered, “I was very tempted throughout this process to manipulate the results”04:41 – Manipulation is always on a psychopath’s mind05:06 – The goal is to get the victim to tell more about themselves and the psychopath to be the great listener05:40 – Psychopaths seek out kind and caring people06:17 – There’s a stronger possibility of using the card of the victim as a deflector06:59 – Dianne has so much empathy towards parents07:19 – Dianne shares a quote from a parent, “The #1 Reason is he’s my son and he’s incapable of returning that loving kind, #2: I might have played a part in making him that way, #3: He’s my son and I love him, and #4: Is it in me too?”07:58 – Verbalizing or writing it down makes it much more real to people08:30 – There’s a certain clarity that happens in writing our thoughts09:05 – Victims try to excuse bad behavior of psychopaths to try to deflect the pain they’ve gone through09:42 – Pay attention and listen to your gut10:04 – The next episode will be about the more specific signs to look for10:11 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website.

3 Key Points:There’s still no way to find out how psychopathic genes get passed – you just have to look for the symptoms.It’s not cut and dry—the parents are not always to blame if a person becomes a psychopath.Don’t paint the red flags white – listen to your gut.

In Episode 009, Dianne talks about the pain a psychopath’s victim often endures and how the after-effects can linger as PTSD, depression and/or anxiety. Psychopaths use gaslighting (a form of mental abuse) to trouble the minds of their victims and it’s very common to walk away from a relationship with a psychopath physically and mentally downtrodden. Listen as Dianne explains the detrimental effects of being a victim of a psychopath and offers encouragement to those experiencing such symptoms.

Time Stamped Show Notes:00:11 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life00:16 – Today’s episode is about physical and mental pains from the victims of psychopaths00:45 – The comments range from exhaustion to anxiety01:10 – Over the years, 99.9% of victims suffered from severe PTSD01:36 – Dealing with a psychopath is a war between good and evil01:59 – This episode is NOT a diagnosis02:10 – Trauma from a psychopath is a real and painful event02:28 – Traumas can complicate your ability to exit a situation and can cause healing issues03:26 – PTSD happens over time03:39 – People with PTSD are sincerely struggling04:12 – “PTSD is an anxiety disorder that keeps a person preoccupied with both the past and the future, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, or events”04:45 – People with PTSD can continue to be depressed for months or even years05:11 – The mind creates circular patterns05:15 – One can be repeatedly thinking about the trauma05:19 – One can be constantly on guard05:21 – One with PTSD may try to avoid reminders of the trauma05:34 – Can get panic attacks05:49 – People with PTSD are also prone to autoimmune disorders and chronic pains05:57 – There’s a great feeling of mistrust06:38 – “Depression – persistent sad, anxious, or empty mood; loss of interest in once-enjoyed activities; feelings of guilt, shame, or hopelessness about the future; other symptoms of depression may also develop”07:07 – People with PTSD can have a hard time recognizing themselves07:33 – “Gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spun, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity”08:03 – Dianne shares an example from her book, Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews09:29 – A victim’s health and mental being are attacked by psychopaths09:52 – Be kind to yourself!10:38 – Please subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website10:53 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website.

3 Key Points:Your traumatic experiences can lead to PTSD and can make the healing take longer.PTSD is a real, sincere response to a traumatic event that can cause anxiety and depression.Remember to be kind to yourself – it’s not your fault if you find yourself in this kind of situation.