Age…does it really matter??

Heeeey guys! I’m glad to be back on track! I’ve had some tornado of events recently. Everything was so rapid and I couldn’t keep up with blogging at the same time. How’s it going? If you were to ask me the same thing, I’d say “Fantastic!”
Remember the new guy who has made my whole world upside down? (If not, kindly click on this ) Yeah? We finally met each other! ^_^
December 23, 2014..he touched down my hometown that night. You know that feeling, right? Butterflies were not just in my tummy but all around the corners that my eyes could see. But then again, I tried to compose myself. Such was a precious memory not to be forgotten.[FAST FORWARD]
He stayed here for 10 days and we tried to make the most out of the bound time we had. I had the best time of my life with him. We got along just fine. ^_^
Here’s the thing..
I’m 24 and he’s 36 (37 in Korea). So that’s a 12 year difference. Is my Math okay? LOL In all fairness, he doesn’t look like his age, I mean he seems younger than his age. My family can attest to that. 😀 From the start, I knew I was going to be in a special relationship like I had before. However, I wasn’t expecting that it could be more special than I apprehended. LDR again?YES! He currently resides in Saitama, Japan or should I say he’s been living there for almost 10 years. He left South Korea for work. And~ I’m here in Cebu. I don’t seem to worry about it. Hello? Been there, done that. 😀 What strucks me the most is how people give us dirty looks when they happen to know our age difference. “Does he look like a dirty old man or something?” That’s how I respond to their evil eyes, but only at the back of my mind. I’m not a catfight freak. 😀 I truly am happy with him. He knows how to make me smile. He has my heart now. I am not treated like a secret that has to be kept. We have tons of differences to be discerned and gradually be embraced. Why should I bother entertaining those unfavorable looks and pessimistic mentality? For all I know is that I never slept with him just to start the relationship. I didn’t entice him. I wasn’t even planning on falling in love with him. We started out as language exchange partners, not as online lovers. Indeed, you can’t choose whom you fall for. Love comes when you least expect it. It comes when no ones looking for it. Now, back to the question: Does age matter? YES, if and only if love isn’t the reason behind your relationship. But, NO when love is the only thing that keeps both of you together. No other things..just LOVE. If you believe in the magic of love, then our hearts will have this connection. *winks*

Oh, I am so happy for you. Well, I certainly think that the character is of more importance and that you suite each other. I know people with a little more she difference than a few years and you actually don’t think about their age difference.
And there will always be people looking in a weird way when you mention the difference… That is just how people can be sometimes.

I agree with the other comments, age doesn’t matter as much as who you both are. No one has the right to judge you or this relationship. Go with your heart, respect each other and give it a try. How can you say no to love? 😉

One of my daughters also married a man 16 years older than her and they have a very good relationship 14 years on. I know of others too so it can definitely work. As you said the important thing is that you love each other. When I was young it was still very common for women to marry men about 6 years older, in my mother’s generation much more so as guys had to build up their resources before taking a wife so historically speaking it’s not that unusual.
Something to be aware of though is older guys have usually learnt to treat women better (and are obviously more mature) so give it a little time to be sure it’s love and not just appreciation for how well you’re treated as later the tables turn as your totally reliable guy ages first and you end up caring for him. If you have real love that is not a problem,

YES TO LOVE! I find that maturity and life experiences are more important than age. If one person is still growing and changing, and not really sure what they want from life, they are more likely not ready for a lifetime commitment. It’s still possible, but much more challenging to succeed when so much growth is ahead of you. Luckily for you, most women are mostly through this by age 24, with another emotional growth spurt around age 28-29. Men usually take longer, but are also less emotionally aware, so it’s not as important to them.

When I met my soulmate, I was 29, and she was 40. On paper, it looked like a lot, but age was SO irrelevant when our hearts were close to one another’s. Now I’m 34, and happily married!

It all comes down to the people. It sounds like a cliche but it’s true-sometimes it can work for some people and sometimes it cannot but if he makes you feel special then go for it. For better or for worse such type of relationship gives a new perspective of life 🙂

My cousin is also like you.
When he got married ,he was around 30 and his wife was only 19.At first I was surprised at their ages.But I found out that they are really good partner.And they’re still good partner !

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