Hi, I was part of a great Feb/Mar IVF group on the TTC board. I wanted to create a space here for those of us who get our BFPs to chat about pregnancy! Or if you just want to join because you conceived via IVF and are looking for others who have been through that, feel free to jump in! Thanks!

OK, I will kick this off with my ultrasound report from today! I'm hoping some of y'all come by to join me.

I'm only 5 weeks, 5 days, but we got to see the heart beat! 99bpm, and baby measured at 5 weeks, 6 days. It was a pretty overwhelming experience, especially after all we've done to try to get to this point. We had also not gotten our hopes up about seeing a heartbeat... were just hoping for gestational sac and yolk sac in the right places.

I'm off bed rest for the first time in three weeks! Yay! And if I'm able to tolerate light activity, I'll go back to work next week.

Can't wait to hear everyone else's progress and would love to symptom obsess with people! I am having all sorts of things... heart palpitations, tailbone pain, extreme hunger, and foggy brain to name a few!

Oh of course I have pics! Just have to figure out how to crop them down so the file size is small enough for the site to accept.

I can't believe you got the hear the heartbeat so early! You must have been so excited. Going into the ultrasound I was a nervous wreck, literally shaking. As soon as I saw that light white flash I just started crying, and it only made it worse to look over at DH and see him grinning at the monitor. Was honestly the best feeling ever!

Revys - when is your first u/s? Fx for soon - I know how awful that wait is!!

Man, I always thought that once I got a BFP it would sort of be smooth sailing from there... but there are still so many highs and lows on this journey!

So yesterday I was feeling ecstatic. We couldn't actually hear the heartbeat, only see it, but that was still plenty exciting. I'm almost to 6 weeks, when the risk of miscarriage is down to less than 10%. So things should be feeling pretty good!

Then DH and I got in a stupid fight this morning. We don't fight often but when we do it's always about something really dumb and I always get more upset than I should. And of course, as soon as I got upset about the fight, I started to panic that the emotional distress would cause a miscarriage. Intellectually I know that I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing, but I just have this feeling of dread now about having to wait for the next u/s to see if everything's OK, when just a couple hours ago I was feeling so optimistic.

Oof. Two weeks until we get to see the heartbeat again. This isn't as easy as I thought it would be! Hope y'all don't think I'm too crazy, lol.

Furbaby, we're leaning toward not finding out gender. We both think it would be fun to be surprised. And we don't mind at all having some clothes/toys/nursery items that are gender specific, we really don't want all blue stuff or all pink stuff. We'll see how things go, though. We're moving at the beginning of June because DH got a great 4-month work opportunity that will pay more than what the two of us together make right now, and then we'll probably move again after that -- a little nutty, I know. But since it'll be short-term and the money will be good, I probably won't work during that time, and would love to make nursery items/baby clothes. I may end up wanting to know the gender so I can get a few things ready!

What about you ladies? Will you find out the gender? How are you feeling physically? And, like me, are you having times of worrying like crazy that your bean is OK?

I think this whole process is full of worry and waiting. I am trying my bet to just focus on being happy and in the moment, but it can be a struggle.

I got an appointment with my OB, but it's not until 4/26.....such a long time away!!! I was hoping to use a midwife, but the recommended group is not currently taking new patients.

In terms of finding out gender my DH is (and has been) set against it for years, so it looks like it will be a surprise for us. Part of me would love to know but the other part is excited to be surprised in November! Physically I'm not doing great. I have gotten a bad cold/virus each week for the past three weeks and am super tired all the time. No bad ms, but the nausea has increased a lot in this past week. I realize it could be worse, but these colds are killing me and I'm terrified to take anything.

Bethann - how is your OHSS? Are you still on the upswing?

I hope some of our Feb/March board BFP's will be joining us here soon (and of course all others!)

You're totally right, Furbabymom. I got my head on straight after freaking out a bit this morning and realized it is what it is -- all I can do is enjoy however much of the journey I get (not always that easy thought, right??).

My OHSS is waaaaay better. I'm finally allowed off bed rest! Doing OK with light activity but I tire easily. The toughest thing for me is that I am hungry ALWAYS. Some of this OHSS water weight is still here, and I'm hoping to not look pregnant when I go back to work on Tuesday (just don't want people to know yet), so I'm trying not to eat a cheeseburger every two hours, but the struggle is real.

Sorry to hear you've gotten the colds! Bummer! Hope you'll start feeling better soon. Did you talk to your clinic about what you can take? I had a pretty bad cold during my TWW during an IUI cycle, and my nurse recommended something but I totally can't remember now what it was -- regular Robutussin, I think, to help with sleeping? Don't know if that would help you at all.

Hope we get more folks over here too! Anybody lurking feel free to join, even if you weren't on that other board!

I just finished a long post to the Feb/March IVF section and it only took me 2 hours to write that because I kept spacing out and getting super distracted! Gah - I don't know how long I'm going to feel sooo dumb! About the gender question, DH & I haven't even started talking about that yet. Honestly I don't know how I feel about it yet. Maybe after our first U/S next week - it will get more real! Beth - I loved your research about the lower chances of m/c and thank you for sharing! I did some research about that today and found very similar data! Oh by the way i'm still doing 2 rounds of acupuncture per week - just wanted to put it out there.

Really looking forward to see more ladies from the feb/march ivf group on this forum - sooon!!!! Allright..I have to rush out to walk the dog - see you tomorrow ladies!

Ok guys, now I'm Mrs. Negative! I finally made it back to work today (have been home with this third round of chest/head nonsense, and I head to the bathroom and I find black discharge mixed in with my typical crinone discharge. So of course I freak out! My RE has released me but my OB appointment isn't for another 4 weeks, but anyway I decide to call my OB, play phone tag for 2 hours and when I finally get her she calms me down. It was only a small amount, was super dark, essentially black, and I had no accompanying symptoms. She had me monitoring with strict order to call immediately with any changes, so now of course I hold my breath every time I use the bathroom. On top of it I have had this (weird) and TERRIBLE pain in my left glute that I can't get rid of.....anyone ever heard of this before?

sarajack, you have a beautiful BFP on your hands so you should absolutely be here! Yay!! I'm so excited for you, dear. How are you feeling today? I know yesterday was kind of rough. So sorry you have to work today!

Furbabymom, sorry I wasn't around over the weekend! You poor thing. Sorry about the discharge/spotting scare and the glute pain. I am still scared every time I go to the restroom, so even though I know a little spotting is normal I know I'd probably freak out too! Glad your OB calmed you down. How are you feeling now? I don't know about the glute pain specifically, but I am having weird ongoing pains... mostly in my tailbone and left middle back near kidney. I don't know if it's true, but I read that the hormones that make our ligaments start loosening can kick in in the first trimester, so I'm wondering if it's related to that? Maybe your glute pain is too? Hope it's getting better and you were able to chill this weekend! Let us know how you're doing.

revys, welcome to pregnancy brain fog! I've had it too... staring off into space more than normal, hard time finishing sentences. Not super reassuring for going back to work!! Things will definitely get more real after the u/s tomorrow. Can't wait to hear how it goes!! We're going to want to see pics! (Furbabymom, still hope you can figure out getting us some! )

AFM, OHSS seems to be back a bit. After dropping almost all the weight I gained (18pounds at max) I put back on about 6, increased stomach bloating, and SOB again when trying to do stuff around the house. I still don't feel really bad, but it's got me a little worried about going back to work. And everything is so tiring! Also, a few food things I usually like don't taste right (tomatoes, for example). Lucky for me, I've totally stopped having any interest in coffee/beer. I was off both already of course, but when DH has them I was often jealous and wishing I could join in... now if he has a beer with dinner I have to sit far away enough that I can't smell it, because it's so unappetizing! Seems like a smart aversion for my body to have given me! Counting down the days until next u/s... only 10 days now!