“And the day came when the risk to remain
tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
Anais
Nin

Recent Press

Based primarily on an interview with Andrew, What
it's Like Being a Male Surrogate... was just released (4/27/15) on
Alternet. He told the journalist he wouldn't participate with any article
that refers to him as a "sex surrogate" (here's
why). Although the title is disappointing, the content of the article
itself is good.

Also, on 12/26/12, Andrew was interviewed live on
a podcast called Sex and the Divine Design. Andrew's episode, entitled,
Sexual
Empowerment, is described as follows:

Surrogate Partner Therapy is often misunderstood
and misrepresented. Most people are not aware of the intent, the process,
and the benefits of this therapy. In this episode, Surrogate Partner
Andrew Heartman presents SPT as an opportunity to acquire developmental
skills that have not been acquired previously. It is more than theoretical,
it is more than experiential, it is developmental in nature. Andrew
describes, using examples from his own experience, the growth and transformation
that can result from this powerful form of therapy.

International Professional Surrogates Association

For more information about Surrogate Partner Therapy, the Code of Ethics,
latest media coverage, official policy statements, or if you are interested
in becoming a surrogate partner, see the website of IPSA.
It contains a wealth of information about the practice.

Carol's story:

Imagine a five-year-old being told by her mother
"Do whatever he tells you."

These were the words I heard as my Mother left me
in the care of my uncle. Hours later he told me that “we”
needed a nap. I protested and again he reminded me of my Mom’s order.
This predator proceeded to molest me and at times lay on top of me. I
remember his stinking breath, his grunting noises, and the pain and bleeding.
I also remember the horrific feeling that he was crushing me and I couldn’t
breathe.

I have been aware that many things trigger the horror
of that day. Throughout my life, including thirty years of marriage, I
had always panicked when a man put his weight on me. I have relived the
fear, the loss of power, and the absolute horror of not being able to
breathe. At times I could manage this by continuously repeating in my
mind “You are ok. He is not going to harm you.”

It is now 64 years later. As a result of my experience
with Andrew Heartman I have been gifted with a new knowledge and I now
have control of this. I felt very safe with Andrew, probably because I
knew that Andrew had no agenda of his own, and that he was there only
to support me. Before, I always had to convince myself that I was safe—to
talk myself into it. But with Andrew I was able to experience that I am
safe, and this experience transformed not only how I relate to men, but
to the world in general. I found I had the confidence to attempt and achieve
many things in the world that I had been afraid to before. I have gained
the wisdom that I can choose, freely and powerfully, and this has unshackled
me from a prison that spanned 64 years.

I am now free to choose a relation without “Uncle
G.” in the bed. My thanks to you, Andrew.

Carol R.

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of its creator and are not necessarily those of the
International Professional
Surrogates Association.