Does Your Guy Like You or Are You Played With? 10 Signs That Tell

We are a generation defined by convenience. We like everything coming easy – easy jobs, easy money, and easy love. As much as we like the idea of love, we tend to forget that Love is precious, and a wealth everyone rightfully deserves. We continue to pawn in the maze of Tinder swipes, hook-up trends, and love interests as fleeting as a gust of wind, so much so, that there’s a growing need to understand that relationships come expensive, commitment is an investment, and loyalty is a lifestyle. We grieve to think of love being spoilt by a majority, and how emotionally bankrupt we’ve become.

We are in awe of earlier times when love was real, complete and long-term. It was the purest to see and feel. There were no hidden motives and no disguised faces under all the sugar-coated excitement, flattering and mush.

Nowadays, love matters are painfully different. People are too much invested in themselves, and are in relationships only to satisfy their selfish desires. And when they’ve made enough for themselves, they step their feet out, as if it’s some sort of a joke. If you’re in a relationship, it could be quite tricky to spot the selfish traits in your beloved. No matter how greatly you know him, you can never tell if he’s mean, self-centric, and has nothing to do with your emotions.

Here are 10 signs to tell you that your man is using you. Read on!

He says, he likes you, but isn’t sure exactly how he feels about you. He keeps telling you that he doesn’t feel your absence, though you’re always on his mind. Listen girl, there’s nothing like ‘I like you, but am not sure’. Love feels right when certain. Either you love or you never!

While you drop everything you’re doing when he calls or texts and are available for him all the time, he contacts you only when it’s convenient for him, and somehow busy every time when you need him.

He doesn’t hang out with you often, and somehow, his plans are never inclusive of you. Even if he plans something with you, he cancels it at the last hour and doesn’t come up with an appropriate explanation. Apologies? Only in your dreams!

He never seems to be enough of his friends, and forgets you completely when he’s around his chummies. It is only when he’s getting bored he thinks of calling you, and having – dare we say – timepass.

He never listens to your problems and suggests solutions when you talk up and close with him. Either he keeps scrolling down his social media feed, or switches channels on the TV to avoid the conversation. Worse, he jumps in with his own issues to talk about and digresses the subject from ‘your problems’ to ‘his problems’.

He never introduces you as a ‘girlfriend’ or ‘someone special’ to his friends, and doesn’t give you the point of priority and respect you expect out of him. He doesn’t even try to make you feel comfortable around his friends. You’re just another person to him as hundreds of others in his life.

Even if it’s his mistake, it’s always you, who’s apologetic. The only way he knows to mitigate a certain situation is either shutting you down with his anger, or threatening you to call it quits if things don’t improve. You’re always brought to fault.

He’s with you only for sex, because as soon as he climaxes, he doesn’t bother to check if you’re doing fine, or need something. He doesn’t cuddle, give you a forehead kiss, and share his thoughts and future plans with you. He jumps straight out of bed, becomes a bit offhand, and his behaviour automatically changes. This is the most glaring warning, you girl. Why are you being played for a fool?

He never replies to your calls or texts immediately, or any sooner possible. He responds back only at a time convenient for him, or has some benefits to gain out of you.

He never stops talking about his ex, and belittles you by constantly comparing you with her. In a way, he isn’t accepting your individuality, but just seeking an easy replacement.

If you guy is doing any of the things mentioned above, you’re in for a major heartbreak and lots of chaos. Break the trap and set out free. You go girl!