There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:

Q: I love my job, but my fiancé wants me to quit when we get married and be a housewife. He is a corporate lawyer so money isn't a problem. I just wonder why he doesn't want me to work. Does it really make a difference in a relationship if I work or not?

I can think of several possible reasons he might have for wanting you to stay at home. Maybe he's one of these super old-fashioned guys who thinks that a woman's place is in the home, not on the job. Maybe he wants to be the sole breadwinner in the family because he thinks it reflects badly on him if his poor wife has to work, like you guys need the money or something. I've heard of husbands not wanting their wives to work so the wives wouldn't be around other men all the time, so maybe it's a jealousy/insecurity thing. He could be ready to start making babies soon after you get married, or maybe he just wants you to live a life of leisure. Again—you'd have to ask him.

Does it make a difference in the relationship? Yes, but not in the way you mean. It makes a difference if he pushes you to give up your career just to please him and you end up resenting him for it. I think it is a selfish request on his part, and it sets a bad precedent for the rest of your marriage. Why ask anyone to give up something that makes them happy and isn't hurting them?

Besides, what are you going to do at home all day, sit around playing canasta and trading coupons with the other women whose husbands made them quit working? If you two are planning on starting a family soon and he wants you to be a stay-at-home mom, that's different. But if he just wants you to quit because he wants you to quit? No. Not a good enough reason.

You also need to think of your future. If you have a career you enjoy, it's foolish to give it up. Money might not be an issue when you're married, but if your marriage ever ends—and they do—money will most definitely be an issue. You can't take five or ten years off from a career and expect to walk back in and pick up where you left off. You'll basically start over. I've known too many women who had to do this when their marriages didn't work out as they had planned, and it sucks. If you think it's hard to start a career when you're 20, try doing it when you're 40 or 50.

The most important reason to keep your job, however, is the fact that you like it and it makes you happy. That should be enough for him, too. Don't even think about giving it up until he can give you a good reason to do so.

--Written by Cary McNeal for guyspeak.comWould you give up your job if a man asked you to? Are you planning to when you get married?