Today's my 19th birthday. I've never been asked out or kissed?

I've never been asked out on a date, have a guy say he liked me, been kissed, all my four years of high school, I didn't have a date to homecoming, winter formal, not even to prom. Ever. I know it's pathetic to never had a guy be interested in me For 19 years so please don't be rude. I'm really shy and I don't have many friends much less guy friends. i have hobbies like playing the piano and guitar, photography, and cooking. I have been told before I don't smile much so that might explain why I don't have friends. I take my studies seriously and I'm going to good college in the fall but still its so embarrassing to say I've never even been asked out to a school dance before. I know I'm not pretty or else I would've had like 10+ boyfriends by now but am I really that ugly? Tbh I always thought I was average but I feel like even average looking girls get asked to dances and go on dates at least once in high school? I'm not here fishing for compliments.

Please rate me one to ten on my looks. be honest. And if you have any tips on how to make more friends, be more social, how to talk to guys or how to get guys interested in you please leave a comment! Thank you so much.

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Are you serious? I'm sorry, but you're beautiful. I don't like rating people, but I voted for 9-10 cause I think you're up there, and I just can't believe you've never had a guy that likes you, honestly, it's hard to believe, and you seem like a nice girl, you have good hobbies, so I'm guessing that it's because you're too shy and because you rarely smile, something you have to change NOW, cause smiling makes you even prettier.

You're going to college this fall, so you're gonna meet new people, use this to become less shy, to step out of your shell. It'll make you uncomfortable at first, but you'll get used to, and it's worth it.

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You are incredibly cute! I assume that you have been a good student and you have developed other talents; these thins can be impediments to a high school girl, because high school boys are so easily intimidated. You will learn that guys in college are different and you will probably get a lot of guys being interested in you. Think about the kind of guys who would be interested in you and not intimidated and then think about where those guys congregate. You need to maximize your exposure to those guys. If you think literary guys would be interested in you, join a book club. If you think motorheads would like you, take a course in auto mechanics. Musicians would dig you? Join a musical organization.

Some guy is going to consider himself the luckiest man on the planet when he discovers you!

I'm almost 25 and never kissed, been on a date. I hugged once but it was a "Goodbye" hug with a friend, so I don't think that really counts. And I am not afraid to admit it. My family knows it, and my one and only friend knows it. I don't think it's something to be embarrassed about because there is no specific age by which you are expected to have your first kiss, be on your first date, etc. It's different for everyone because everyone has a different life. So, don't feel bad about it. I think you're beautiful so it probably has something to do with your personality. Too serious about your studies and don't seem interesting. So, try to find ways to open up and talk with others about something you think is funny.

You probably intimidate most of the guys your age. Do you go out and party with guys your own age and they don't ever hit on you? When I was 19 and I didn't know you, I'd probably be intimidated at that age from insecurity. Being friendly and funny is probably the best way to break the ice between people, if someone is sitting in a corner by themselves or not talking much, people tend to avoid them since they don't seem open to contact. Also if you see something you want, go for it. There's no shame in asking a guy out.

It's pretty mind boggling that you've never been on a date or at least kissed... You're a good looking girl. Maybe work on meeting more people and becoming more outgoing. Obviously you are very career and work focused which is great, although, if you are feeling like something is missing try to go outside your comfort zone.

I'm sorry that no one has asked you to dances. But doesn't mean you're not pretty. Some people just have crap luck when it comes to dating. In the future if you ever make eye contact with a guy you'd be interested in talking to give him a smile. Being shy is not a bad thing. You don't have to stop being shy. A lot of guys don't know if a girl is shy or not when they approach her. Just try to be open and friendly if guys do approach you. I'm sure you will find a decent boyfriend in college.

i have no idea whats going wrong. its not your looks. you're easily a 9. maybe guys are intimidated by that. being as gorgeous as you are in combination with being quiet/shy may make you hard to approach. i am willing to bet if you walk to up to any random guy and ask them to go out with you they would drop their jaw in disbelief. i know i would.

You are ridiculously cute. If I knew you I'd date you in a heart beat. It's sad that you've never had a boyfriend or been kissed but it'll happen. When it does it'll be awesome and well worth the wait.

I honestly can't believe no one would have tried to date you. You are just too pretty

You're very pretty. You just haven't come across someone who's willing to ask you out. They may even be intimidated by your looks. There's nothing wrong with not having been kissed or asked out. If you like a guy, ask him out! There's nothing wrong with that either and it may lead to something great.

I was the same way at nearly 19, you can[t just wait for a guy to approach you all the time if you like someone let them know they can't read your mind. Girls can approach guys first. I liked my boyfriend for a while before I was just like fuck it! he's shy I'm going to go get what I want myself! One year later and he and I are moving in together! Don't wait to be approached!

You are stunning! Dont you ever worry about being alone cause im sure there will be many guys trying to approach you in college. You seem to have a really nice personality which is a great virtue. If you lived near me i would totally love to hang out with you cause you're my type of friend :) I definitely think you should smile more it would look awesome on you. And finally: www.topbirthdaywishes.org/.../...GIF-IMAGES-29.gif

You just look soft-spoken and introverted. You're adorable. Maybe guys aren't so sure how to approach someone so precious... a lot of guys are used to the out-there girls that are so easy to approach because they suck up attention like a vacuum. I feel college will give you a perfect opportunity to catch the eye of a guy as shy & sweet as you!

You're reslly pretty. I think there's probably someone that wanted to ask youout, but thought you were too shy so it would be awkward. I think with looks like those, and as committed to doing good in life as you are, you will definietely find someone who loves you. tbh if it was possible i'd rate you an 11 out of 10 ;)