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Whether you're after a vintage toaster, a job, or that potential special someone, a lot of what we start online leads to in-person meetups eventually. Paranoia about getting scammed or stood up is understandable. We've covered how to avoid scams when buying and selling, and even pull some dirty tricks of your own, but what about when it comes time to seal the deal?