Dating a divorced man red flags

There was one little problem, however, and that was that James already had a wife.

I’ve put together a list of 3 red flags that should never be ignored.1.

They Avoid Conflict: Some people absolutely refuse to deal with an issue or problem in a relationship.

The point is to use these insights to evade obvious pitfalls and be smart about whom you choose to date.

I was dating a divorced man with 3 children, he's 10 years older than I. But why wouldn't he want me included in ALL of his life, makes no sense. He started working a lot of overtime and started staying less nights with me. By this time it's been 6 hours, he can't still be there, right? Both unfortunate and fortunately, I pulled up at the same time I saw him and another woman walking out together. I couldn't be around the kids/family because he didn't really see us as a serious couple. The children were allowed to run wild at my house and that was perfectly acceptable to their father. I"m a mother too (was a single mom) and know that letting your kids rule the roost is no way to run a household.

They’d been together for 10 years, married for two. James and I have our ups and our downs in what could be called “still the honeymoon phase.” And many of them, frankly, have to do with how he used to be married to someone else. There’s some immediate satisfaction of knowing, of course. I’m sorry to say it, but this one’s a real lose/lose. The recently divorced man is, with little exception, the recently traumatized man.

They’d met young, in their early 20s, and had decided, two months before James and I met, to divorce. James had been the one to request the divorce; his wife had been devastated by his decision. There’s not a week that goes by that I don’t think either A) I’m thrilled he’s got that experience under his belt, or B) Why god, did I have to fall in love with a guy with an ex-wife? But beyond that, it’s just a device with which to torture yourself. If he dumped her, you think, “What’s to stop him from dumping me? You’re destined to wonder – however briefly – how much of him is still in love with her. And if you’re the one who winds up with him, it will fall upon you to help him cope. A man with a now-defunct marriage under his belt has learned a few things about himself, about what he has to work on, about what he can and cannot handle.

Two years ago, I met a gentleman I shall henceforth call James, because his name was, well, James. It lasted a full 10 hours (we’d met up for coffee at 3 p.m.

on a Saturday), and we discussed everything from the rudeness inherent to chronic lateness to how we both hate the book KNOW.

But some can be very spiteful, especially if they feel that the other person is moving on when they themselves haven’t been able to.