Saturday, September 21, 2013

Knowledge is the key.
You need loads of it to run modern life. There is information for
whatever issue that you need it for out there; just loads and there
are people who are not mainstream but have critical information that
will give you the victory in any area you seek it. Such knowledge can
make you stand out from the crowd (which is what you want). You can
pick up an e-book on say dieting today that will give you the
necessary info to sort out your particular weight loss issue just
like that, but you wont get to the solution if the e-book just sits
there on your laptop or at the bottom of your drawer.

How does the modern
human however manage the bewildering amount of information out there,
sort out the important stuff from the chaff as well as take on-board
the gigabytes of important and useful knowledge that is needed to
push forward in life? Many of us can't manage a book a month, and with
the range of topics and vital info out there that will bring you
victory in any area of life including health, work, beauty, finance,
home management, time management, most of us are really quite behind
and are not taking in the vital info that is available a page away!

Clearly if you have
the ability to consume many books in a short spaces of time, then you
have the ability to quickly lay hold of vital information that will
take you ahead of the queue. Dedicating say a couple of hours to hit the books each
week might not necessarily be the most efficient way to go about it. I believe if you are
serious about information gathering, you need to learn to 'speed
read'. It's a skill that you can learn and perfect so that you are
reading a book a day and taking in all the necessary information you
need from it! Imagine that!

I highly recommend
acquiring this skill. Even if you read at twice the speed you do now,
you will increase your knowledge base astronomically and be eager to read more and more. On average
people who learn speed reading triple their reading speed, you will
get through all those books lying at the bottom of the drawer in no
time, gather the information you need and moving on to seek more and more and
become better and broader in your skill set and much more. Remember
that the thing that distinguishes you from the person in the lead is
more than likely the information they have that you don’t.

Invest in learning this
skill, I tell you it is worth it especially for knowledge gathering
books (I enjoy reading novels and such at my normal slower pace because
novels are about savoring a story, while I speed read with books for
knowledge). I wont say I am even anywhere near good at speed reading but the ability I have now has lead to a marked improvement in my information gathering and my willingness to purchase books now I know I can be done with them in no time rather than have them gather dust!

As we move towards the
last quarter of 2013 it might be a good time to look to clearing your
reading back log and set yourself up with necessary knowledge for 2014.

Tony Buzan the mind-map
Guru has a number of books teaching the speed reading skill but there
are also other good books out there which you can research by reading
reviews on Amazon.

Next blog post 6th Oct

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Saturday, September 07, 2013

I decided I would, and will be taking the summers off because I
get furiously busy at this time of year and of course I don't live in
a place like sunny California where summers last and never leave! All
too often summer is gone and then its a hurtle down to Christmas and
the New year which is indeed just less than four months away! -I
thought I’d give you a jolt.

If you are one of those
women who promised yourself to be engaged or married now and it
hasn’t happened I guess this is a teaching moment. You know I asked
you to get some matchmaking services and other heavy duty help in the
area...well I want you now to calculate how much you have lost in
terms of not paying up for services to help you with that goal. Do
you think you have lost a thousand pounds a month for not being where
you want to be? How about two thousand pounds. If you are older and
moving out of the child bearing season then maybe to you, this
situation is more costly than money!

Anyway who knows what
time costs to you, only you can tell and put a value on not doing all
you can to be were you are in any area of life from weight to health
(maybe buying that rowing machine a year ago or going on a weight
loss plan might have fended off your diabetes or high blood pressure
but now it has cost you big time). Never joke with time because you
cant get it back. I used to really dither over pressing the 'pay'
button even when I knew that what I was buying was essential (comes
from being raised cash poor I suppose), now I know that I may get
back the 100 dollars but I might never get back an opportunity missed
by not just going for what I need.

If you are a black
woman as a rule you are swimming against the tide in so many ways
(often not your fault but you live the consequence anyway and that's
what you must keep in mind), to get married, get a job, get good
health and secure your future. You can moan about it or get up and do
something to get yourself where you want to be.

I must add a
warning about procuring matchmaker services though. A lot of
matchmakers are are cashing in on the desperation of women to sell a
'non-service' to them. In other words they take your money and are not do
their best to get you a relationship (they might just send you on
dates or avail you of a dozen or less men on their books and that’s
it!). I am seeing this happen more and more as the demand for the
work they can do in today's dating climate becomes inflated. In truth
even if you employ the services of a matchmaker, you must still do a
lot of work on your end. Don’t look at it like you just have to
plop yourself down and say 'fix me up.' Trust me, your membership
will expire and that will be that. Look at it this way, you are
simply paying them for a 'good lead'. Some matchmakers guide the
process e.g. giving pep talks to the candidates allaying their fears
that Mr A or Miss C deserves a good consideration. In our very
flighty world and one which doesn’t even know what it wants or is
confused because of so much choice, this is an invaluable service,
however this kind of personal touch has more or less disappeared in
the lower and mid end of match maker services. The other thing is also that sometimes you do need someone to broach things that you might have developed a blind spot on, issues that range from how to present yourself in manner and appearance.

I am having discussions
within the BWE network about putting a service in place and I will
speak on that once concrete structures for it are in place, however
in the mean time please be careful, do your own investigation, read,
ask for help, be smart, be creative because there are men out there
(of every hue) who want to be in a committed relationship.

Next blog post 22nd Sep

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Hi I am Halima AndersonI am an author with a passion for the relationship 'well-being' of black women, hence the writing of the book, "Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy...? It is important for me to specify that this blog is for women who are new to interracial dating or who still have struggles with the idea and want to see if it is a thing for them. This category of black women will be my primary focus!If you are already in an IR or are open to the idea, I wish you good luck!

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