SOUL ALIVE - Creative | Intuitive | Visionary

When my plan wasn’t working

Once upon a time, when my micro business was only a few months old, I was feeling overwhelmed by the myriad of tasks I needed to do. I’d already created my website, which was a marathon in itself. But I still had a list as long as my arm of tasks I didn’t have the skills for. Rather than wallow in misery, I did what I know best. I made an Intuitive Vision Board.

Smack bang in the middle of it was the large head of a Buddleja, otherwise known as the ‘butterfly plant’. You can guess why; it's a magnet to butterflies. Alongside I’d pasted the words: “create a buzz”.

I had no rational reason for choosing a Buddleja but it was no surprise either because this is my creative process: to purposefully set out to distract my left-brain in order to have a conversation with my right-brain. This required me to let go of what I thought I should be doing by choosing pictures to represent this and allow the images to choose me. I wanted to open the windows and let some fresh air in.

The next day when I re-visited my vision board, I chuckled to see the Buddleja because the first thing I thought of was a hand-held microphone. Little did I know …

Serendipity

Within seven months of creating this Intuitive Vision Board, here’s what transpired - absolutely none of which I’d considered or planned for beforehand. Yet all of these, as far as I could tell, had some association with the ‘hand-held microphone’ and finding my public voice.

* I started writing newsletters and blogs regularly

* I appeared on TV for the first time talking about intuitive vision boards

* I had three separate interviews on the radio

* I began writing my book about Intuitive Vision Boards

* I sang my first-ever solo on stage in front of 150 people

* I made three commercial videos

On the air with Emma-Jane Taylor on Oxford TV

At the same time I was intrigued to discover I actually had a large Buddleja growing at the entrance to my property, which I'd not noticed before because I’d moved house in the depths of winter.

During the summer, while I was in full swing with the book writing, 30 large blooms formed a protective arch for me to pass under - a constant reminder of my current focus to create a buzz.

Risk

From a psychotherapy point of view the Buddleja on my intuitive vision board was a transformational symbol. At the same time it was directing me towards the most effective route to develop my business. I had not previously considered any of those “microphone activities” yet as they came into my awareness, I tried them on - even when it was a stretch, involved a small risk, and an element of fear.

And what had my logical left-brain (LL) planned for me to be doing instead before my remarkable right-brain (RR) stepped in and redirected the course of history with the Intuitive Vision Board?

It sinks my spirits just to recall the massive ‘to do list’ I faced every day, systematically addressing tasks I found tedious - like mastering each social media platform in turn and writing a business plan. My progress was slow and I was very frustrated. If I’d made a vision board in the traditional way to reflect the intentions I’d set for myself, it would have looked very different from the one I created.

I’m not suggesting the logical left-brain is now redundant or the tasks on my “to do list” are not valid, ever. It’s simply these decisions were being taken too early by LL when it’s strength is not to propose solutions that provide a quantum leap forward. LL needs to be at the service of RR otherwise the outcome will always be limited.

It’s not LL’s fault; it can’t help itself. It only works with data that is known already, which has been speculated accounts for a mere 5-8% of our available intelligence. RR on the other hand has access to that vast, awesome sea of possibility and a rich treasure trove of ideas and inspiration, which is the other 92% of our available intelligence. Therefore by engaging RR in making my intuitive vision board, I entertained ideas that had never entered my conscious awareness before. And these RR nudges added momentum to my business life more effectively than all my LL thinking put together.

The Intuitive Vision Board is not a panacea but it certainly provided me with the best guidance I needed at this time. There is so much I could share with you about this particular intuitive vision board but I’ll settle for one final image, which also changed the face of my business.

Manifesting Woman-Friday

Woman-Friday

See the man above sat at the desk alongside the Buddleja? When I first saw him I thought: he’ll do, he looks busy and creative to me but not a suitable romantic partner.” Then I had the subsequent thought: “He’s working for me. He’s my Man Friday!”

Until then I had not considered employing anyone in the foreseeable future. Like many micro business owners, I didn’t think I could afford to. But acting on this RR nudge, I posted an advertisement on-line. It said: “Wanted. Part-time Man-Friday to provide computer and social media expertise to a struggling creative.”

I had three replies within a day. The first came from a man who looked like the image on my board and helped me over some initial hurdles. The second reply came from a woman who lived three minutes walk away. She offered to be my Woman-Friday and has been working for me every since.

Am I grateful for Deborah? Yes! Could I afford her? No, my LL still proclaims! But I went ahead and defiantly afforded her anyway. Her presence has allowed me to progress much faster than my scrabbling around trying to do everything myself. The third reply was from another talented candidate, by the way.

Do you see how this works?

I didn’t make the vision board to reflect previously conceived ideas of what I thought I should be doing otherwise this exercise would be little more than goal-setting using pictures. There’s nothing wrong with the latter and it is more common but, it has limitations which you now understand.

Neither am I saying this style of vision board can’t work; it can. But when the linear intelligence of LL alone decides what images should be on your board, it can’t take into account the biggest picture. Consequently you could potentially be focusing on the wrong things.

And, if you've decided in advance of making your board what your goals and aspirations are, you’ll need to rely on your will-power alone to pummel them into existence. The alternative is to align with super-consciousness via your intuitive vision board because then you align with universal intelligence and its will-power is limitless.

May the force be with you

My recommendation is to get out of your own way. Open up to your innate intuitive intelligence and allow your imagination free-range when it comes to making your intuitive vision board. Be excited and curious about the images that appear.

And then make sure you stay alert to the gentle promptings to action you’ll receive in the subsequent months ahead. Don’t ignore them just because they seem inconvenient to LL who will try to convince you to wait for a more opportune moment. Do it anyway. At least be curious enough to do something with the guidance you receive, otherwise it's like uncovering hidden treasure and then throwing it away.

Don't expect an overnight result from this creative process either. It took me seven months in this example for the vision to complete its form. There is a perfect moment when it comes to manifesting a vision when providence moves with you too - but in its own time and on its own terms. In the interim, it pays to cultivate patience, which is something I had to learn but now I’ve come to trust.

I sometimes get asked whether negative things appear on vision boards. The answer is ‘no’ having watched over a thousand Intutive Vision Boards being made. I’ve witnessed People ambivalent about images they’d chosen but if there was some attraction for them I'd encourage the images to remain and see where they led them. Here’s an example.

I worked with three directors of a company each producing their own Intuitive Vision Board and I coached them afterwards as a team. Curiously, two of the three had strong eruptive images - one permeated the backdrop to their entire vision board and the other had an image pushing upwards from the baseline. Neither of them had an explanation for this at the time, which is perfectly normal. These are ideas and inspirations arising from the unconscious, creating a bridge between what is unknown and that which is yet to happen. In time the significance of this eruptive theme would become clear.

Three months later the relationship between the three partners erupted, resulting in one of them quitting the business and leaving the other two reeling.

Retrospectively you could point to the aforementioned images on their vision boards as negative portents.

Or you could re-perceive these as a significant sign that something needed to surface and dissipate to enable the company to organise itself differently. This is not negative in my view, it’s constructive – a Kali influence, the Hindu goddess that bring things birth or death whichever is most needed for life.

So what is it about my approach to vision boards that produces this authentic outcome rather than something that has to appear nice and rosy? It’s in the way I prepare people during the first half of the workshop to step into their most creative Self to make the Vision Board in the second half of it.

Head versus heartThere is a significant difference between a vision board made with the head and led by the Ego as opposed to a vision board made with the heart and led by the Soul. The former produces a predictive outcome, limited to information that is already known in conscious awareness. While a vision board made from the Soul is connected to the wider field of infinite intelligence and reaches for ideas beyond the scope of our rational mind. The advancement of humanity depends on us accessing more of this greater intelligence now.

Who creates the Intuitive Vision Board?In my workshops (and they take a full four hours), I use a number of exercises designed to relax the hold the Ego has on our decision-making process. If not the Ego will always step in, only too ready to contribute its views on what we should or shouldn’t be doing with our lives. It doesn’t stop with us either; it will pass comment on anybody or anything that crosses its line of vision. To hear the quieter voice of the Soul above the noisy cut and thrust of 21st century lives, we must endeavour to become more mindfully attentive and wholeheartedly present.

SoulI don’t have the absolute definition of Soul because the more you attempt to pin it down the more allusive it becomes. I consider Soul to be the spiritual or immaterial aspect of being human; the part that is immortal. It’s our characterful essence, the spark of individuality which bears our special gifts and comes complete with quirks, imperfections and some dysfunctionality, also part of being human.

Soul is more engaged with the process of life and the quality of our experiences. It’s trajectory rarely follows a straight line and cannot be pre-determined in advance. Soul is attuned to our universal assignment – what we are uniquely here to do and contribute to the whole. We can miss out on permitting the genius of Soul to shine through in our lives when we allow ourselves to be driven by some other agenda, which we is not our own.

When it comes to making an Intuitive Vision Board, Soul likes to peruse the magazines at leisure. It loves to dawdle, not looking for anything in particular. Soul favours pictures to words because these are less definitive and there is more scope to feed the imagination.

Soul is not interested in goal setting. The images that appeal suggest and implicate and are of a more poetic and mystical nature. Less black and white; more shades of grey. If we clutch too literally at their meaning and grasp so tightly the blood drains out of them, the guidance contained therein becomes elusive too. We are being goaded at the very deepest levels of our being, although we may not – and may never know - what is occurring until after it has happened. Then comes the ‘aha’ moment.

EgoI don’t have a definitive answer for Ego either but I recognise it as the constant chatter that goes on in our head – sometimes out loud, mostly internal, delivering a whole string of false evidence appearing real (FEAR).

It’s the voice of "I want, I deserve, I am entitled to...". It's also the voice of judgement, criticism and opinion, totally convinced of the validity of its choices from its perspective.

The Ego is focused on the self with a small "s". Here is the master planner at work, predetermining what our life should look like and all the accoutrements to be gathered along the way as evidence of our success and achievement. It loves to compares our advancement to the next person because this feeds it's sense of self-importance.

If left to its own devices the Ego will already have decided before the making of the vision board begins what should be on there and on the day is looking for the best images to represent its ideas. Ego may go straight to the handbag it believes you must have but as soon as you've got it will have you hankering after the next “I want”. This chase won’t produce lasting fulfilment or bestow value and purpose to your life. It may bestow a short term gratification but may not necessarily help you evolve or make a contribution to the spiritual evolution of humanity.

The ends justify the means from the Ego’s point of view and it's prepared to walk all over another or destroy the planet in its wake to get what it wants. We see evidence for this in politics, economics and religion. Closer to home, we see evidence for this in our own families. It’s reptilian behaviour and reflects a lower level of evolution.

When something that isn’t so pretty appears on a vision board, I encourage the creator to rejoice and to leave it alone. It may have a darker connotation and point to what in psychotherapy is referred to as the ‘shadow’ side, but this doesn’t mean it’s negative and to be avoided or censored.

It may well represent a mystery currently hidden from conscious awareness yet be exactly what you need to do - or receive next - to unlock your destiny by exposing the very something that is blocking your light.

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I love the forthrightness of this quote from the great Irish playwright who is also described as being a polemicist (I wouldn’t mind being one of those when I grow up).

I totally subscribe to his point of view. I believe each one of us is here to make a very special contribution to the whole that only we, with our unique personality, set of predilections and skills, can do. Finding that something - or combinations of somethings - that fires us up and gets us out of bed in the morning after a night of not-enough-sleep, is a life’s journey.

While it’s the easier and safer option to indulge in hedonistic pleasures in our time off, these alone will not deliver the deeper fulfilment and purpose to our lives we secretly crave. We need to balance hedonism with the quest for eudemonism - both Greek like Feta.

“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognised by yourself as a mighty one.”

George Bernard Shaw's point about “being recognised by yourself” holds the key here and not what others might think about your title or position. You could be the CEO of a company with all its attendant trappings and still not recognise yourself for who you truly are at heart.

I remember once facilitating a group of CEO’s to make their Vision Boards. We’d got to that moment in the proceedings when I was cruising around the room to view the near-complete visions. I approached one man; middle-aged and overweight, the successful owner of a large software company.

To my surprise he had placed a Tango-dancing couple in ‘close embrace’ right in the centre of his board. I looked up at him as I blurted out the obvious: “They’re dancing Tango!” And then I saw the man’s eyes were filled with tears as he mouthed back: “Yep, that used to be me once. I was a very good Tango dancer and teacher and I’m a million miles removed from both now and it’s hurting; I must do something about it.”

Compare this scenario with the office cleaner who has mopped up for the same company for the past 30 years. She works her hours around home and family. She takes pride in her job, creating a sparkling environment to welcome staff to work the following day. She travels to and from the office out of rush-hour and has no issues with parking. She's her own boss and left alone to ruminate or listen to the radio uninterrupted as she labours. Another true story, by the way.

I ask you, which of the two is more fulfilled? Who has found a ‘mighty purpose’ by their own definition? Then ask yourself sincerely:

You owe it to yourself to feel deep within your heart that your presence is worthwhile and your purpose on the earth is a mighty one. Life is all too short. And for the sweet privilege of being alive, I invite you to take whatever steps you need to take in the direction of ‘being a force of Nature’ and find the courage to let yourself blossom.

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I have a £800 Nikon strung over my shoulder and a JVC camcorder around my neck and I’m prayin’ to Mary that I don’t slip on the cobbled stones of Penrose Quay into the Atlantic waters while I'm here to make a video.

Those colourful boats on my Intuitive Vision Board (top left) have been working their Irish magic again. Only a few months ago they took me on an all-expenses paid trip to a rural suburb of Dublin as a visiting “tour guide”. This time they've led me to Cork for a week.

I’m working on a building site in a cleverly reclaimed wharf, accompanied by two engineers. It was never supposed to be a building site but work is so far behind schedule that I’m surrounded by men of all trades doing their thing. It’s dirty, noisy and fascinating.

I've never worked alongside men who use their bodies and hands each day. I'll be honest and say I held a prejudice there would be a lot of testosterone flying around and vying for position in the hierarchy. What struck me more was the courtesy and respect shown by the men towards each other.

The only firework moment was when a man pasting vinyl didn’t realise the touch-activated shower on the wall behind it was switched on - and it drenched him. His swearing in a Cork accent, incomprehensible at the best of times, was really more entertaining than scarey.

I was on my feet for 8-9 hour days filming. So were the engineers I was accompanying to install the two float rooms.

It went through my mind how satisfying it must be to make something and see it materialise before your very eyes, channelling all that masculine energy into it rather than just being sat behind a desk every day.

Meanwhile I was very grateful to be able to retire to a comfortable, elegant spa hotel and peel off my dusty clothes to relax and freshen up.

This is a float room (right) by the way. It's a private, ambient bath tub where you lay on your back in silence, darkness too if you prefer, suspended on a dense Epsom Salt solution - a bit like floating in the Dead Sea.

For the past three years I’ve worked part-time for the market leader selling their float rooms around the world. The UK, Holland, Canada, USA, New Zealand and Australia are the biggest markets. I even attended a Float Conference in Oregon last year; it's a growing industry.

The people who gravitate to this business are inclined to be spiritual by nature and have a desire to foster that in others. I enjoy encouraging them to establish their havens of floating tranquility where they can let go of all the stresses, tensions and worries of life for an hour at least. For those of you who've worked with me will know how well this sits alongside my own modus operandi.

How did my floating life transpire? Just over three years ago my practice was fledgling while I was slowly emerging from the roughest, toughest period in Mary Nondé recorded history. At that time I attended a Tango dance lesson and found myself paired with an Aussie. When I heard he was a business owner, I asked whether he knew of anyone who could offer me part-time work. He wasn’t looking but he liked the sound of what I could do. No CV, no interview. Just a month’s trial - and I've been working for them ever since.

Yes, there's a woman floating on my Intuitive Vision Board below! I made this board before the floatation company came on my scene six months later. Up until then I'd only floated once at a Spa. She was a premonition for sure, alongside the three photos of the ocean and including the bed-on-the-rocks beside the sea (to dream for), and Daniel Craig walking towards me.

So here's the craic. The floatation company I've been working for is called Ocean Float Rooms. It's like having a bed by the sea.And the owner has the body and stature of Daniel Craig, as far as I can tell.

Warm and ambient wishes, Mary

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Most single women who make a Vision Board have in the back of their mind the desire for a partner to share their life with. I often see images of couples in an embrace or enjoying each other’s company. It’s rare the vision board maker is so brazen as to pick an image of a couple quite blatantly getting married. But on Anne’s board there were two!

Anne was in a long-term relationship of 16-year duration. During this time her partner had proposed a couple of times but Anne hadn’t been ready for it. Her hands were full running a family business, which she’d taken over from her parents, and she’d been raising two children too. Because she couldn’t see her way beyond these commitments, her partner had dropped it. So when the images of wedding couples first appeared, she assumed it was to do with her son getting married.

Five months later it was a different story. She had now sold the family business and shed the all-consuming identity that went with it. She was entering a new phase of her life with a different set of needs and values emerging. Not surprisingly, marriage seemed entirely appropriate to her now and it was she who popped the question to her partner - who readily accepted. It was only after this she remembered the images of the two wedding couples on her Vision Board.

When people are making their Vision Boards I always encourage them not to plan in advance what images should appear. The creator begins their exploration with an empty mind and a blank sheet of paper. And I continue to go to great lengths to ensure their cognitive mind is occupied in order to give their intuitive intelligence the chance to have a voice.

If a single woman desires a relationship - yet an obvious representation does not fall into her hands on the day of the workshop - then I encourage her to leave it alone. It's safer to assume it’s not part of her programme for the foreseeable future and she has other priorities..

Obviously she can still willfully find a picture and stick it in the centre. However, in the grander scheme of things, this might be a distraction and cause her to miss out on something important beckoning to her, if she'd stayed out of her own way.

I speak from experience. For four years the only images of men I found were either in the distance or with their backs towards me! I had to accept for whatever reason I needed time alone and kept following the signs to learn what was required of me in the interim. In retrospect I can see that what I’d been doing would have been quite difficult had I also been developing a relationship as well. C’est la vie.

Diamonds are forever. There's one final twist to Anne's tale. Within a month of completing her Vision Board, Anne came across a craftsmen and fell in love with a stunning pair of his earrings. She told her ‘James Bond’ partner about them who gallantly purchased them for her.

Now take a closer look at her Vision Board above. Can you see how Anne had already pictured a pair of earrings next to the couple getting married – and next to the same couple, a picture of daisies in a similar shape and style to the diamond earrings? Magic!

So here’s to a woman’s heart’s desire and to the James Bond’s of this world willing to meet it, warm wishes Mary.

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Recently I was faced with a conundrum. I was ready to let go of my lovely flat in Marlow which had served me well for two years, yet where I was to move to instead was a mystery. With my daughter due back from University any minute for five weeks, I chose to park fretting about it and enjoy my time with her instead.

About a week later out of the blue a very good friend called me. Her mother had just died after a long and graceful decline and she asked me if I'd go over the next day and give her some Reiki. As I lay my hands on her shoulders, she said: “Mary would you like to come and live here until I get around to selling this house. You can finish writing your book. There’s a room for Celine too. And Willow is accustomed to sleep overs here anyway.” I was gob-smacked - and delighted. Here was a clear way forward without me having to use willpower and must to arrive at it.

I recalled the two doors at the top of my Intuitive Vision Board: one door closed and the other slightly ajar. When the imagery of front doors appears on Vision Boards, it frequently represents moving house. Front doors often and also sit in the “Career/Path in Life" area of the Bagua map used in Feng Shui, which is the entry point of chi into the home and the area to work on to encourage movement generally. I had no plans to change home when I made this particular Vision Board but the deeper part had clearly known otherwise.

"Hidden Treasure." The words alongside the two doors resonated with me too. The value of the intuitive work I do with Vision Boards is to help people to reclaim their hidden treasure - the diamonds in their back yard which so often get overlooked because they're right under their noses.

Ou est Marie? Now folks to find me you cross the white ornate bridge with Marlow behind you and zig-zag up the steep gradient of Winter Hill, heavily populated by cyclists at weekends since the Olympics. Be sure to take in the wonderful view from the summit before dropping into Cookham Dean and coming to rest at my friend’s home nestled in the trees opposite Herries prep school. All that playful, creative energy coming my way surrounded by nature. It affords me the perfect environment to complete the writing of my book.

We have our own dance studio too. YES! Since we’re both dancers we’ve dedicated the large open-plan lounge, with floor to ceiling views of the garden, to somatic movement. Now anyone wanting to book in for a dance-movement session it's easy peasy. Drop me a line using the sign up below, or email mary@marynonde.com, or give me a call on 0782 7017188.

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I have three clients in the West Country. So what are the chances that two of them live 7 miles apart when I live 225 miles away from them! And that their names both begin with the letter “J”.

Since this was too much of a coincidence to miss, when I visited Jay1 recently to review her Intuitive Vision Board and use Feng Shui to align her home with her vision, I called on Jay2 beforehand.

Jay2 made an Intuitive Vision Board with me in February 2016. Prior to this, she and her husband had decided they were going to up-sticks and move West at the first opportunity, close to her favourite beaches.

There were three hurdles to overcome first:

1. He was still in full-time employment. 2. Putting their existing house on the market and selling it. 3. Sourcing a new home.

When I'd gone through Jay2’s Board, we looked together at images of a grandiose house and extensive landscaped gardens with high chiseled hedges as in a maze. “I don’t know what that’s about”, she said “ we won’t be able to afford a place like that!”

8 months later I arrive on Jay2’s doorstep just as the sun is going down. But with just enough light for her to walk me through extensive terraced gardens with tall chiselled hedges and secret hideaways little people would just love to explore, and every turn in the path revealing yet another bird table. All this situated on their own private hillside which cascaded down to a stream at its base, lined with beautiful trees we imagined filled with daffodils and bluebells in the springtime.

HOW MANY OF THESE IMAGES DO YOU NOW SEE ON HER INTUITIVE VISION BOARD BELOW?

As darkness descended we retreated inside the stone-clad home - Yes, like the one on her Board. The wood-burning stove - just like the one in the photograph and came with the house, welcomed us into the lounge, creating a gorgeous hygge effect.

Jay2 could hardly contain her excitement as she talked about the plans for the new off-white kitchen – a sizeable undertaking that would begin in three days time and take three weeks to complete. How did she know her new home would require a new off-white kitchen when she placed it on her board 8 months earlier?

We laughed as she showed me around the rest of the house and described how they were spoilt for choice when it came to toilets because this house had five! No wonder the elephant is dancing upside down on one of those loos!

With the money from the home they’d sold in Beaconsfield, they’d been able to afford this grand property in Cornwall in the grounds of an international Golf Resort used by pros and providing Jay2 with a glamorous health club right on her doorstep. Maybe that's why she placed three different swimmers enjoying the water on her board.

In the centre of her Vision Board is a charming photo of two penguins walking together.“ That’s me and my husband” she explained. “We hope to travel when he retires.”

Within four months of making the Intuitive Vision Board her husband did indeed retire. They put their house on the market immediately and shot down to the south west to take a week viewing properties in their chosen location. The moment they stepped into their new home they fell in love with it. It, on the other hand, had been waiting for them for two years - empty. On their return to Beaconsfield, their house sold quickly and they moved - all within 5 months of creating her vision board!

Postscript to the Penguins. Jay2 and her husband did indeed start to travel, only one month after moving in. They took off to Canada and saw mountainous scenery just like the backdrop behind the penguins. Staying with their son on Vancouver Island, they visited wild and windy driftwood beaches which closely resembled those on her board.

Their son lives in a timber-framed property with 360 degree views of forest and has the odd black bear who likes to visit and rummage through their bins. Most intriguingly of all, he had placed a line of coloured vases in a row on a high beam in their home to catch the light. Oh, you mean like the colourful collection of vases on Jay2's board? How intuitive is that!

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A client of mine, Susan O, has admirably came to terms with her retail therapy habit by using Feng Shui and De-cluttering methods.

I caught up with her recently and she told me how her resolve to stay solvent had been severely tested.

See if you can relate to this. Or maybe you know someone who is similarly prone to shopping rather than confront what is real causing the behavioural problem?

“In the space of one week I found myself buying a brand-new carpet and a new car. One was on order and the other sitting in my parking lot while I sat inside the house painfully ruminating on both decisions. I felt psychologically drained and tethered by the credit arrangements I’d just taken on."

“The car had come about because I’d gone in for a routine service and was persuaded to try a Fiat courtesy car. Even as I drove the vehicle home, with all the papers signed, my daughter’s words rang in my ears: "we don’t need a new car, Mum. We can manage with the one we’ve got!”

“Fortunately, there was a loophole in Fiat's financial calculations. I didn’t have the money to sustain the increased payments required, which would have left me with no disposable income. I used this as my get-out opportunity."

“With the carpet I was even braver with no loophole to fall back on. I was booked to have it fitted on a Saturday and on the Monday beforehand I called and cancelled the order. The carpet man was confrontational but when I said I was very sorry and would he accept a cancellation fee, he backed down and even wavered the fee. Now I'm clear of the danger zone, I can clearly see we can manage perfectly well with the existing carpet and avoid the upheaval the fitting of a new carpet brings."

“It was a close shave on both accounts and I felt I'd been tested. It was evident to me that my psychological perspective had shifted. I feel stronger and no longer a victim so I'm much less of a risk to myself and far less prone to putting myself under financial pressure again."

If you consider Feng Shui and Decluttering might help someone you know please put them in touch. The advantages of this therapeutic approach is its immediacy; the changes are made on the spot and often directly where the dysfunction occurs. Please give me a call if there on 07827017188 if there is anything you'd like to explore or email mary@marynonde.com or use the sign up below.

The obvious advantage is you don't have to leave the safety of the counselling space to return home to implement the remedial actions on your own. I am right there with you.

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