by Gray Graham

There was a time when you said family, you did not have to take time to explain what that meant, but those days are long gone. Today a family can mean any combination of people in many different ways. Some people think that is great. Other people think it marks the beginning of the end of the world.

Since everyone is talking about gay marriage before the Supreme Court, a lot of gay marriage proponents have been citing studies that say children from a gay home are just as successful as children from a traditionally married home. What everyone seems to be missing is that almost half of the children in the United States are now born to a single mother. You would be hard pressed to find a professional that works with children that thinks this is a good thing.

So why then are we not talking about our lost family. Everyone sees what this is doing to our children and the effect it is having on our communities yet you can not get a conversation started and definitely can not get anyone to address the problem.

If you are like me you might have a hard time trying to think of a married couple that has been married the min 18 years for their children to reach adulthood. I am sure however you know plenty of divorced people or people that never married in the first place. Many of these people have children with 2 or more people. This has created a large group of people that have not personally experienced life in a traditional family so they see very little value in having one themselves.

Of course you have those people that will talk about marriage being nothing more than slavery for women or that many man had children running around the place long before now so nothing has really changed. Yet we still have those pesky studies saying that society and most importantly children do better when the come from that two parent household.

At some point American society is going to have to address the downward slide of the family and its effect on society, the only question is will it be now when we can start to make changes or will it be later when it is too late. There are many that already say it is too late. Time will tell if they are correct.