He just disappeared after 6 months........I feel such a plonker

Been with 'd'p for around 6 months. Very passionate and intense relationship then two weeks ago, he texted in the morning to say " morning gorgeous, I love you and miss you so much. I texted back on his normal number but came up unobtainable.

He lives about 40 miles away, difficult to just pop round as have a toddler and I work pt. I tried calling his mobile but still " the number you have called has not been recognised" I left a message on his landline but nothing. This was two weeks ago and haven't heard anything.

I feel such a plonker and I'd lent him money too. I was just another notch

Just wanted a rant.....we had a termination in April this yr as condom split and failed MAP . I just feel so angry....with everything I've been used big time

So sorry to hear this, you must feel awful. Assuming he hasn't been bumped off or kidnapped, it will be hard to just accept the decision without agonising over what you did wrong and why he couldn't just at like a civilised human being and discuss his sudden change of heart maturely.

Hope you didn't lend him too much money. If you did, a solicitor and private detective could approach him on your behalf as he clearly doesn't deserve the courtesy of your time.

What a coward. I hope within the next year you meet a belter who spoils you rotten, gives you a rip roaring time and sticks around till you've had enough.

When would you get a 'number not recognised' on a mobile? I'm not that techy but I woud have thought that even with a damaged phone or sim, the account with the provider would still be valid and it would be a different message?

Not sure what words if comfort will work, but it's a horrible situation.

I had an abrupt ending of a very passionate 4 month relationship by text, about 13 years ago, and it completely knocked the stuffing out of me. There is something about having no closure that is pretty devastating. I ended up traveling around the world for a year and having the time of my life to get over it, but I appreciate with a toddler that isn't really that realistic.

Is there any way of finding out if nothing awful has happened to him, just to put your mind at ease? Do you have a work e-mail or number for him? It does seem a strange text to send if be was going to dump you.

Shit - I'd be worried sick that something might've happened to him tbh or maybe it's just a simple explanation such as a disconnected phone due to unpaid bills.

Do you have any other way of contacting him such as email? I know you say he lives 40 miles away but do you know his address? Can you bring toddler and knock on door? I assume you have been to his house before?