OMG YOU GUYS ARE SOOOO MEAN! JAPANESE LOLITAS ARE NEVER MEAN!!!

JAPANESE LOLITAS ARE MUCH MORE OPEN TO INTERPRETATION OF THE LOLITA FASHION!

JAPANESE LOLITAS HAVE A MUCH MORE FLEXIBLE VIEW OF THE STYLE!

JAPANESE LOLITAS AREN’T MEAN!!!!!!!!!!

Have you heard any of these sentiments expressed before? Have you ever expressed one of these sentiments yourself? The above sayings are often said when questions are asked about lolita in Japan. Or when Western lolitas are telling a girl (often an ita, and often a noob) off. Well.. are the Japanese lolitas so much more nicer then the Western lolitas? Are they are sparkle-sparkle ribbons and lace compared to our gtfo_egl?

Let’s start off with the basics:

In any Gothic and Lolita bible, or any lolita information site, there is often a statement along the lines of, “Lolitas should be extremely poilte.” This is from the Gothic and Lolita bible, which is a Japanese production, so it must mean that all Japanese lolitas are super polite and nice!

Number 2, it’s so hard to picture the lolita idols from Japane being mean. It’s hard to imagine Sae and her group of friends laughing at some girl’s failed attempt at lolita. It’s hard to picture Misako Aoki snidely commenting on another girl’s picture of art. It’s hard for us to picture the sweet, smiling lolitas of Japan, dressed perfectly in their lolita outfits, having fun at someone else’s expense.

So I made a picture to help illustate the point.

(picture up soon sorry)

Well.. here’s the truth. Japanese lolitas are just as mean to failed attempts as we are.

Japan is an extremely non-confrontional society, so if you want to talk smack, you don’t dare say it to the person’s face. So, no lolita will want to be seen laughing or speaking rudely to another.

Secondly, they may not have their extensive system of communities like gtfo_egl, lolita_wank, and loli_fucks, but they sure do have a forum system. It’s where the lolitas go to discuss the new dresses coming out, what they should do if someone speakings rudely to them, what they should do if this dress doesn’t look right, where to find deals, and what failures in the fashion that they saw today.

Just like us.

So why don’t we know of these places? Well, the majority doesn’t really frequent the Japanese equavilant of lolita_wank. Besides, why should we bother with knowing who Sae and her buddies are laughing at when we have our OWN people to laugh at? We just use the Japanese sights for the information on the dresses we covet.

For example, Japanese lolitas like to talk about smokers in lolita, and how one girls Moi-Meme-Moite petticoat was stained a yellowish color from the smoke. Or how a girl at a VK concert ripped of her petticoat to dance. Oh snap.

When people say that the Japanese lolitas are open to a more flexible interpretation of lolita, it’s the non-conformity thing again. We don’t walk up to itas we don’t know and tell them, “you’re doing it wrong.”

Also, why bother with someone else’s view of lolita dress when you’re in a fabulous coordinate. People will pay attention to YOU, not the person in the horrid black and white dress.

Also, the lolita trends that brands go through (i.e, parfait prints, then carnival prints, then stripes, then tartan, etc) are directly influenced by Japanese lolita community. They have more say in the Gothic and Lolita bible then we do. So their view on the fashion changes, just like ours.

In short, Japanese lolitas aren’t all sugar and spice and everything nice. They are just as mean as us Western lolitas. They have opinions on how lolita should and shouldn’t be done, but due to the social viewpoints, they don’t voice it to each others face. They ARE elitists, like us. A person in a terribly-made, lace-drowning dress is not going to make it into the Street Snap.

DISCLAIMER: I am not saying that all lolitas should be cruel to each other. I simply support the right to say what sometimes must be said.