Tuesday, December 04, 2018

How Advice From Experts Can Harm IVF Patients

A IVF
patient was just telling me about how the expert advice which she gets has
driven her crazy. Interestingly, this is not advice from doctors – it’s advice
from all the friends and relatives around her , who keep on telling her what
she should be doing in order to get pregnant.

While the uncertainty
which surrounds the outcome of an IVF cycle can be nerve-wracking , the fact that these busybodies pry into your
personal affairs , and offer you gratuitous advice, just makes matter much
worse.

They think
they are IVF experts, and are happy to tell you what you should do in order to
get pregnant after an IVF cycle, based on their extensive experience of what they
know about IVF, since their cousin’s friend , who did an IVF cycle in Delhi and got
pregnant , has kindly shared all the gory details with them.

The advice the
provide is poor quality , and because it often conflicts with what the doctor
says, it causes more confusion than anything else. Sadly, IVF patients are emotionally
vulnerable, and don’t know whom to trust !

To add
insult to injury, by giving patients bad advice – for example, that they need bed
rest after IVF, they compound problems, because they end up blaming the victim
in case the cycle fails !

Why depend
upon poorly informed friends for IVF advice when I am happy to give this to you
free ?