Can anyone relate to this?

I'm new to this site...I'm 12 weeks today but don't have my scan until Thursday next week. I had never heard of a missed misscarriage until I came onto this site and now I'm paranoid that I've had one!I though that if you got to 12 weeks you could start to relax!!I'm really nervous now because I don't want to get my hopes up about our baby :cry:

Has anyone got a doppler? I'm thinking of getting one before the scan because the wait to find out if everything is ok feels too long!

I think doppler's are brilliant, but depending on where/ how the baby is lying you may not be able to hear anything, which will make you worry even more. I'd wait until you've had your scan, and then consider getting one.

I know it seems like ages away until your scan, but try to relax hun. Easier said than done though eh xxx

Hi Mrs C, I know exactly how you feel, I was the same!! Is there any way that you could ring your EPU and speak to one of the nurses there? We managed to get an early quick scan and see the heartbeat etc of our little Peanut.

Sometimes a little information is too much isn't it?

Try to take it easy though hun, I'm sure everything is absolutely fine xxx

I'd never heard of it either until I came on here and I am now paranoid that everything will be ok. I like the idea of a doppler but like others have said wouldnt recommend it right now as it may make you worse.

Hi, try not to worry (easier said than done I know). I have a doppler, but as said above, I wouldn't get one just yet as it's rare to hear the hb so early and if you can't find it then you'll just start to worry more.

I had never heard of a mmc until I had one and even then I thought she was talking a load of rubbish. I joined the site afterwards for support.

In all fairness I wish I had knew about them beforehand because I didnt realise they existed & never even contemplated that i'd have a mc so remained blissfully ignorant to it all.

Im not saying that to scare or worry you just my opinion from experience.

I got a doppler after 12 wk scan but tried not to use it too often as didnt want to become obsessed, I hardly use it now as baby moves constantly. But it's a nice idea for the time in between since having scan & your nxt mw appt for example or when baby starts to move.

If your scan is on Thurs I would wait hun, try & think positively about it. It's natural to worry especially with so many new hormones floating around, im sure everything will be just fine though.

I reckon it's quite common to worry at this stage as so far there has been no visible evidence of the pregnancy!

I remember having my 12 week scan (at 12+4) and I was so worried that they would find nothing there as other than a bit of nausea and maybe tender breasts (well and the lack of periods of course!) I didn't feel any different! Frightened the life out of me when the sonographer first scanned over my belly and I couldn't see anything - Both my hubby and I later admitted that our heart had stopped for that instant - But then she focused on the right bit and there was our baby! Is an incredibly magical moment...

Best of luck for the scan and the rest of your pregnancy!Jana & Jakob 18+1 xxx

Easier said than done, but try not to worry! With my DD (Now is nearly 3) I read an article in a magazine (Eve Magazine not pregnancy one!) the evening before I went for the 12 week scan about a lady who had a mmc with her 2nd pregnancy. I had never heard about them before that. I think until you are pregnant you don't actually realise all the things that can go wrong and then worry constantly about them! This is my 2nd pregnancy (26+2) and I have worried more! My OH threatened to ban me from this site in the first few months as I was working myself up into a state - we had to have a scan at 8 weeks for my peace of mind and I still was a nightmare until after the 12 week scan!

Sorry for waffling, but it is natural to worry but try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy :\) xx