"Dear Woman Who Has Given
Me My Life Back...!"

If
You Feel "Trapped in Love" This Book Can Be the First Step
in Taking Your Life Back

If you're “trapped in love”—
whether you're the one who feels trapped “in love”
or the one who feels oppressed by an over-ardent would-be lover —reading
this book might be the first step on the path to helping you
get free.

A Message
From:Stephen EllerinPublisher
.

Dear Friend,

Nearly 35
years ago, Dr. Dorothy Tennov first coined the term
“limerence.”As a social scientist, her goal was to
identify and study this much talked about, but medically-ignored
phenomenon. Doctors, psychiatrists, even professional counselors like
to pretend that limerence doesn't exist ... or that
it’s “just infatuation” ... or that
you're dysfunctional.

But
if you’re caught in the grips of limerence, you
know that this is real —that limerence is worse than "infatuation"
... that it doesn’t afflict only teenagers ... that it
doesn’t dissipate in a few weeks, or months ... or even
years. Limerence can drag on for decades! And yes,
you are sane... If only someone could explain why you feel
this way, perhaps you can even find a way out
...

.

Since the publication of her ground-breaking
book Love and Limerence,
Dr. Tennov received thousands letters that say,
“Thank you for letting me know I am not alone, and I'm not
crazy.”

The headline at the top of
this web page captures the desperation of so many
of those letters...

If you're one of those caught up in limerence you
know ... that your feelings can range from euphoria
(some people seem to enjoy the high—one
couple even named their sailboat 'Limerence') to abject misery.
Your emotional state rises and falls with the way
that the person who is the object of your affections (the one Dr.
Tennov calls the “Limerent Object”)
responds to you … or fails to...

Reading this eBook is a
step toward understanding the maelstrom you're caught in.

Limerence, at its best, draws people together—limerence
draws couples together, to make marriage commitments, build families,
and propagate the species. Too often, however, limerence
spurs people into regrettable decisions (like running off
with a ‘heart-throb’), breaks up families, and
shatters hearts.

The information in this eBook can be your first step
toward discovering, “What is this thing that we call
love—but is not love?” It contains most of Dr.
Dorothy Tennov’s mature work.

If
you’re “caught in limerence”
reading the information in this new eBook
can be the first step in taking your life back.

.

A Scientist Looks at Romantic Love and Calls
It "Limerence":The Collected Works of Dorothy Tennov

Whether you're the
one afflicted with limerence (the “limerent”)
or the victim or a limerent's pursuit (the “limerent
object”) ....
reading this eBook will help you understand
this strange sensation that has you in its grip...
This knowledge can be the first step in setting you free.

If this is your first exposure to
the term “limerence” ... if you find yourself
saying, “This book must have been written for me...”
... then perhaps it was—Ordering and reading this
eBook can be the first step in taking your life back...

What Is Limerence?

Dr.
Tennov's Definition:

Limerence is a distinct state that
creates that “feeling of being in love”—
that state which Hollywood loves to portray as
“love”... but limerence is really as far
from the genuine article as a zircon is from a true diamond.

Limerence is a state of mind,
usually termed “having a crush” ...
“infatuation” ... “passionate
love” ... “puppy love” ...
“romantic love” or “being in
love,” but it is important to note that limerence
is neither love nor sexual attraction. Love, sexual
attraction, and limerence can all exist without each other or any or
all of them can coexist together.

Limerence begins as a barely perceptible
feeling of increased interest in a particular person (who is
known as the limerent object) but, if nurtured by appropriate
conditions, can grow to enormous intensity. In most
cases it also declines, eventually to zero or to a
low level. At this low level limerence is either transformed, through
reciprocation, or it is transferred to another person —
who then becomes the new limerent object.

Under the best of conditions the waning of
limerence into mutuality is accompanied by the growth of the emotional
response more suitably described as love.

[Dr. Tennov comments—
"But that's the best case for limerence. That may
not happen in your particular case."You can read all of her latest thoughts on this 'thing
called limerence' in her new eBook]

Limerence has certain general,
basic components:

...Intrusive thinking
about the "limerent object" (L.O.)

...An intensity of feeling
for the LO that leaves other concerns in the background

...Acute longing
for reciprocation

...Occasional fleeting relief from
unrequited limerence when vividly imagining some
reciprocal action by the limerent object

...Fear of rejection that leads to
an unsettling shyness in the limerent object's presence

...Intensification of limerent
feelings when rejected by the L.O.

...Acute sensitivity to
any act, thought, or condition on the part of the LO that
could in any way, shape, or form be interpreted favorably

...An extraordinary ability
to devise or invent "reasonable” explanations to
explain or imagine why even neutral actions by the LO are a sign of
hidden passion in the LO

...A remarkable ability to emphasize
any trait that is truly admirable in the limerent object

...An equally remarkable ability
to avoid dwelling on any possible negative trait ... or even to render
that negative into another positive attribute

“But,
unlike real love or affection, limerence
is all-consuming.
Other aspects of the limerent's life—including love—
are often sacrificed to this desperate
need.”
If you're caught in limerence, reading the information in
this new eBook
can help you understand this strange sensation you're caught up in ...
and that can be the first step in reclaiming your life.

Limerence is not love, nor is it
sexual attraction. Physical attraction plays a key
role in the development of limerence, but is not enough to
either create or satisfy the limerent desire, and is seldom
the main focus. The limerent object, in order to become the limerent
object, must be a potential sex partner—that
is, the LO must be a person of the limerent's
“preferred” sex. However, sex is neither
essential to perpetuate limerence, nor adequate to satisfy the limerent
need.

The Course of Limerence

For limerence to develop fully, some form of
uncertainty or even some threat to
reciprocation appears to be necessary. An
externally imposed obstacle may also serve, such as societal restraints
or parental disapproval.

Limerence becomes more and more intrusive.
This is invariably an expectant and often joyous
period, as the limerent focuses on the limerent object’s
admirable qualities. Under the appropriate blend of
hope and uncertainty, limerence intensifies. At its
peak, almost all waking thoughts revolve around the limerent object.
The limernent reaction may peak for days or weeks, or it may drop and
rise again several times before the final decline...

The Wikipedia article says that the final
decline ... almost always follows.

The Wikipedia article suggests that
the course of limerence is predictable.
Dr. Tennov disagrees.
You can read her latest insights on the course of
limerence—
based on actual letters from thousands of limerent sufferers
—in her new eBook.

Besides,
left to run its course, that decline, if it comes at all,
may take a decade or more.
But do you really want to wait a decade or more to begin to reclaim
your life? How many reading this page would gladly pay $50 ... $75 ...
even $100 or more to reclaim your life now?

Whether one of your goals is merely to understand
what's happening to you .... or you're determined to do whatever
it takes to begin to take back your life ...
Whether you're a limerent or a L.O.
(the object of a limerent's unwanted affection) you want to read the information in this new eBook.

The Wikipedia article also says—

The limerent reaction begins at a discernible point
and time. There may or may not be sexual attraction.

Once limerence begins, thinking about the
limerent object increases and considerable pleasure comes
from the process. There is an initial phase of buoyancy,
elation, and freedom, although this appears to be the beginning
of an essentially involuntary process.

Limerence increases if obstacles
are externally imposed or if the limerent object’s feelings
are doubted. Soon, doubt and increased intensity
undermine the former self-satisfaction. There is inordinate fear
of rejection.

On the one hand, the limerent feels
increased doubt ... on the other hand s/he finds reason to hope that
reciprocation may indeed occur ... until everything becomes
intensified —especially intrusive thinking. Whether in a
joyful or a despairing state, the limerent prefers fantasies to
virtually any other activity.

“What Is this Thing Called
Love?”
Dr. Tennov Distinguishes Love from Limerence

“Nothing
has ever been so 'invisible in plain sight',” Dr. Tennov says
of “limerence” ... invisible because most
people—especially those who have never been
afflicted by limerence—refuse to admit that it even exists.
But if you have ever been a victim of limerence—as
either the limerent (the one afflicted) or the limerent object (the
object of the limerent's affections)—then you know
that this is real. You know that you need a source
of information and guidance to help you take back your life.
You need the information in Dr. Tennov's new eBook.

Limerence is not
“puppy love” ... Limerence is not infatuation ...

Although we see it all
around us, full-blown limerence is almost impossible for the
"uninitiated” to imagine.

During 35 years of research, and especially since the
publication of her classic work, Love and Limerence: The
Experience of Being in Love, Dr. Tennov has
received thousands of emails and handwritten letters,
anonymously filed, that say, over and over, “Thank
you for letting me know I am not alone, and not crazy, and that this
feeling has a name.”

The feelings
of a man or woman caught up in limerence (the person Dr. Tennov calls a
“limerent”) can range from euphoria to misery, from
the “greatest happiness” to suicidal grief. Yet,
when the limerent cries out for help, most people won't even
acknowledge that limerence exists. “Get over
it,” they'll say .... or “It'll pass.”

But you don't get over it ... and it doesn't
pass. And most counselors and “professionals” have
nothing to offer you.

This
new eBook has the information you need to understand limerence.
Understanding can be your first step to freedom. In her new novel, The Trial,
included on the eBook, Dr. Tennov lays out, in an easy-to-read
fictional format, a clear explanation of limerence
— including —

What limerence is...

How limerence affects the one
afflicted (the “limerent”) ....

How limerence plagues the object
of the limerent's affections (the “limerent
object”) ...

Suggests how the limerent, the
limerent object, and even the professional counselorcan begin to help the limerent escape “the
tortures of limerence”...

You
Get at least 3 Books in One
in Dorothy Tennov's new eBook

A Scientist Looks at Romantic Love
and Calls It "Limerence" contains most of Dr.
Dorothy Tennov's mature work, including decades of responses
and reactions to her original, groundbreaking work Love
and Limerence.

It also includes her e-mail address, through
which you can contact the author, with your own stories, in
confidence (for research purposes and possible comment). Dr. Tennov
welcomes comments from all readers, and invites them to share both
negative and positive reactions.

This new eBook brings you all of these stories
... The Trial, Brew3 Quintet, and The Limerence Retreat each show
limerence from a new and different perspective—

The Trial (A Love Story)

In this novel, Dr. Tennov tells the "story" of
limerence ... (also, of interest to professionals in the
field, she tells the research story as it actually happened
... and as it might happen).

For those trapped in limerence, this novel
explains, in language that almost all victims of limerence will
understand—

What Limerence really is...

What it means to be caught in
the trap of Limerence

What it means to the man or woman who becomes the unwilling
object of a limerent's attention (the “Limerent
Object” or L.O.)

The only way that the LO can
begin to discourage the unwanted attention

How the “Limerent” can begin
to extricate him/herself from this affliction

The
information conveyed in Dr. Tennov's new novel
may be as close to a “Self-Help Manual”
—in an easy to read fictional format—
as a victim of limerence will ever find.

Written
between June 2001, and January 2002, The Trial is a
full-length novel in which a client sues her psychotherapist
for his limerence-inspired advances. Dr. Tennov uses the
fictional court proceedings that follow to dramatize a debate about the
merits of psychotherapy, based on real journal articles. Dr. Tennov
also demonstrates the use and validity of scientific
approaches to human experience. Within the novel, reactions
to two of her earlier books are thinly disguised reality, ... e.g., in
the novel, limerence is called Love Two
and two authors (Alan Browne and Pamela Cushing) stand in for Dr.
Tennov.

The Trial (A Love Story) also looks
at what Dr. Tennov sees as problematic aspects of
psychotherapy as practiced and promoted in the United States,
and the nature and effects of physiologically-based means of control
over limerence. She references many books and articles that discuss
ongoing controversies about psychotherapy.

She also references numerous sources
— from personal testimonies to professional articles
— that tend to confirm her central
theses of limerence — that limerence is an isolable
entity at the core of human reproduction and
virtually controls many aspects of human
behavior.

.

When you order this new eBook directly from the
publisher, you'll also get—

The Brew3 Quintet

In this full-length comedy, characters from The
Trial find themselves sole possessors of a new scientifically
proven “Love Two” [Limerence] Potion.
Look in on them as they attempt to deal with the personal and social
implications of controlling limerence medicinally.

If society could control
limerence with medication, should we try? Could we
succeed?

.

The Limerence Retreat

The Limerence Retreat is a dialogue among six fictional
characters from a variety of limerence-related backgrounds as
they deal with evidence of the existence of limerence
from raw data.

.

Bonus — Two Additional Plays of Social
Commentary

Two additional short plays depict the nursing
home experience from two perspectives –

Rhoda Halsey at Home
tells the discouraging tale of a nursing home resident’s last
day, while

The Break Room
asks a horrifying “What if ...”
from the perspective of 3 nurses’ aides.

Additional
Bonus for Ordering Now:

However, when you order now, while supplies of
the initial run last,
your eBook will also include:

Several Nonfiction Works by Dorothy Tennov:

Your eBook will also include a number of Dr. Tennov's
papers, essays, book reviews, colleague reactions, and media reactions.

You'll also get to share testimonial letters
from readers of Love and Limerence(Tennov,
1979; 1999). Some are ebullient ... Others cry out in pain. Will
you see yourself reflected in these letters?

Collected Essays on Political and Scientific Subjects:

Dr. Tennov continues to take controversial stands on
contemporary issues. This bonus section includes almost all
of her recent fiction and nonfiction pieces — on
human nature science, religion, racism, human ethology, politics,
etc.— which have not previously been published or posted.

The Linguistics of Limerence—Professional Article

Dr. Tennov writes, “It is rare that an
artificial term, invented, and chosen deliberately to be without
cognates, that originates at a known date and place, expands tractably
during a quarter-century, across disciplines and continents, sometimes
arriving at meanings different from that intended by its
inventor.”

(By the way, if you “Google” on the
word “limerence” today, you'll discover over
120,000 references, from rock music groups to neurology articles.
People have adopted the word in literature, poetry, as the name of a
consulting business, and even pornography.)

If
You're Still Unsure
whether Dr. Tennov's new eBook can help you,
Read this Free Sample from The Trial

Below is a free sample from this eBook
— it contains selections from Dr. Dorothy Tennov's compelling
new novel, The Trial (A Love Story).
In this novel, Dr. Tennov imagines a psychologist so caught
up in limerence that he dares to express his feelings to
Nancy, a trusting patient — However, Nancy turns out to also
be both an unwilling “limerent object” and a
newspaper reporter. She quickly files a law suit that
threatens to destroy his practice ... his reputation ... and and his
marriage.

Dr. Tennov uses this novel to take you on both
a personal and a scientific
exploration into the frequent, though not universal, experience of
limerence. It is based on actual events and real
situations. It is a step toward discovering, “What
is this thing called love”... and, perhaps more important to
you, personally ... “How do I regain control over
my life?”

.

A Scientist Looks at Romantic Love and Calls
It "Limerence":The Collected Works of Dorothy Tennov

Whether you're the
one afflicted with limerence (the "limerent")
or the victim or a limerent's pursuit (the "limerent object") ....
order this book now ...
Reading it can be the first step in setting you free!

Introductory Offer:
As you know, new works by leading researchers
often sell for $60 ... $70 ... $80 or more ....
Shortly, this eBook will go on sale here
for the low price of $24.95

But right now, you
can order direct for a limited time
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from The Trial (A Love Story)

The Trial opens
with a series of callers to a radio talk show....The subject of the
talk show is the widely-publicized, pending lawsuit against Dr. Peter
Young.

The comments
depicted here are typical of the thousands of letters
Dr. Tennov has received over the years, in which
'limerents' (people who suffer from limerence), as well as
those whom she calls 'limerent objects' (the object of a limerent's
unwanted fixation),
and professionals struggle to deal with “this thing
called limerence.”

Chapter I: Talk Radio

(In The Trial, Dr. Tennov has
substituted the term “Love Two” for
“Limerence.”)

Man from Milwaukee:

As one who has
on many occasions been the object of the irrational passions of others,
I have a unique perspective on the proceedings. My opinion is that such
people have succumbed to a virtually criminal level of irrationality in
which they act against their own long-term interests. I could
have written the movie Fatal Attraction, in which a rejected lover
takes ugly revenge. I have been threatened.

Man from Boston:

Being the
object of loving attentions has resulted in delightful
encounters. There are problems for the weak, the empathic, or
the overly moral, but if men can tolerate smothering attentions and
allow their lovers to do what they want to do for them, there can be
many delightful benefits. Only take care NOT to be the one
who “loves.” It's only being the object
of passion that is useful. After all, it is a matter of their choices
and their sins. The object of another's fixation
can, if he or she is wise, enjoy pleasure without
responsibility…But it is something I give to the woman, not
something I feel. I enjoy; she, at least temporarily, is transported to
a state of ecstasy that I can only wonder at. For me it's fun; it's
more than that for her. The trial clarified some things I'd
have preferred not be clarified.

Man from Delaware Village, Vermont:

The Young case
demonstrated what I have always known: It is
that to leave the church is to do the bidding of the immoral
antichrist. It is to walk with Satan. Put a godless man in a position
of power, and he will use it to do the Devil's work. God bless.

Woman from Seattle:

The person I
am calling about, who will be nameless, was lovesick. His wife had left
him for another man. He could not stop wanting her and
he could not stop believing it was possible to get her back. I could
see what he was going through. It was just like in the book about Love
Two that they talked about at the trial—which meant
he really couldn't help how he felt. I tried
to explain to them that it was not his fault and
that the man was not really crazy, just obsessed in this one way. But
the members of the church were outraged. They said I was contradicting
the doctrine of free will and individual responsibility. That was also
their attitude toward the Young Case. They said that Dr. Young chose to
feel the way he did, and he chose to do what he did.

Woman from New York:

I don't
believe in this Love Two nonsense. There
is no such thing as not being able to control your own thoughts,
at least not outside the nut house. They are just trying to excuse
their indulgences. That's all I want to say.

Woman from Arlington:

I felt sorry
for Dr. Young. There, but for the luck of the draw, could have gone
anyone. Even from the biased newspaper accounts, I could see
the poor man's quandary. He did nothing wrong! Nancy
Mackintosh wasn't the victim; Dr. Young was the victim. He was only
looking out for her interests. Certainly he was wounded by the
publicity. It's not the sort of thing one wants to expose to the world,
whichever way you look at it.

Man from Alabama:

The human
experience transcends what science can know. Science has no business
messing with it. Love is sacred. It is wrong to try to tamper
with love. Our humanity is under threat from these so-called
scientists who carry on about Limerence.

Woman from Phoenix:

Iwent right out and bought the book they were talking
about at the trial. It told me that I was not alone! Maybe it
is madness, but it is a normal kind of madness generally restricted to
the one aspect of life. Except that it can take over other aspects. Dr.
Young's vision got clouded.

Male from Kansas:

Those
so-called Limerence stories bore me and probably
other listeners too. Psychotherapy? It's for the unbalanced. That whole
case made a mountain out of a mole's hill. It's nothing. Can we please
get off the Young case and get back to something important, like global
warming, nuclear waste, or international terrorism?

Woman from Maine:

My mother
would spend long periods in what she called her “time of
quiet contemplation.” She would sit alone or she would lie on
a couch or in her hammock lost to everything except what was going on
in her mind. Mother had been dead for ten years before I understood
what had been happening. Although I had read the her diary, the
clippings, and the letters, I could not decode them until the Young
case woke me up. I hadn't known about the emotion or the
pain, and I was especially ignorant about the joy of it. For
Mother, that man was the most important thing in life. He was a beacon
of light and a source of exquisite pain and infinite pleasure. He gave
meaning to her life, maybe a kind of meaning that others find in
religion. Limerence is a powerful force. Nancy had
learned to be careful, which was why she had to bring the
suit against Dr. Young.

Man from Delaware:

For me, Limerence
is a phony love with no redeeming features. I've been there.
She had me in her grip; she pulled my strings and pushed my buttons.
But it was all beneath the surface. She was unaware. It was not
deliberate on her part, and I never committed the Young error. Maybe I
was too shy. It would have been too embarrassing to fail, and it was
too irrational to be revealed. I guess that, as a psychotherapist, Dr.
Young had more ways to rationalize the act, more bases for convincing
himself that his Limerence conception of Nancy was
correct, thereby overruling his professional judgment. At times I
thought I was crazy, neurotic, or whatever silly thing you want to call
it. But the worst of it was the wasteful inanity. Some
foreign, tantalizing, but ultimately evil thing had taken possession of
me. It undermined my professional life and broke up my home.

Man from Toronto:

The Young case
was important to me; it showed me that even though my
feelings were crazy, I could see that I was not.

Man from Florida:

I'm tired of
this story and I'm tired of these calls about Dr. Young. His trial is a
swindle, and someone should be sued for wasting taxpayer's money. It
was the stupidest and most boring soap opera I ever heard of. The man
did nothing, nothing happened, and the insurance companies won big time.

Woman from Nebraska:

The rules are
simple and obvious. Ask Shakespeare. Once struck by Cupid's
arrow or after downing the love potion, a person is
transported to a new state of motivation. Young was playing
by the rules of the wrong game.

Now that you've seen a sample from Dr. Tennov's
new eBook—

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attention of limerent sufferers — and maybe even researchers.

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