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You got balls to keep trying so pat yourself on the back and don't give too much regret to people who DONT have balls to deal with a health issue.

Also, pay no attention to that guy's criticism that you waited too long... Hahahahaha. Can you just imagine the "deal breakers" he is hiding from you!!!

Sure rejection sucks. Its a given that to find a lover you'll have to find one who is OK with your HIV status and a lot won't be and that just the way it is. But a lot of those lots who can't deal, they probably are rather not long term material anyway.

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ďFrom each, according to his ability; to each, according to his needĒ 1875 K Marx

hey guys so it happened again, 3th time in a row to be rejected over the fact that I am hiv poz.

Dated a guy for about 3 weeks, told him, cuz I don't like to drag things, and.... bye bye. saying also that I should have told him from the beginning and not after so long:o

I am still bit sad and feeling like the last person on earth, but this time I took it better.

how do you deal with this situations?

It never feels good to have someone decide to stop seeing you because you are positive. How do I deal with it? I remember that this is the other's person's choice, not mine, and therefore it is a reflection on them, not me. I really don't need someone in my life who can't handle the fact that I'm HIV+. As a relationship grows there will be additional problems and challenges, which are just a part of life. If they can't handle HIV, they probably won't deal well with those other problems that inevitably come up. Do you really want someone who bails at the first sign of a problem or an inconvenience?

As for your guy's comment that you should have told him from the beginning, I have two words for him: tough shit. He has both a mind and a mouth, so if this was so fucking important to him, he could have asked you about your status, rather than just (apparently) assume you were negative. Providing you're not having sex yet, it's your choice as an individual on when to tell people you are HIV+. Personally, I prefer to do it right up front, and I don't do it in an apologetic way. If I show someone that I have issues with being HIV+, they'll probably have issues with it too.

Now, on to your next date!

Regards,

Henry

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"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love." - Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders