Relationships can be very complicated even if you have been together with that person for a very long time

June 5th, 2011 admin

Relationships can be very complicated even if you have been together with that person for a very long time. Break ups are painful especially if you are in a 3 year relationship more than, say, a 3 month relationship. Most relationships are worth saving. Some relationships are just too disastrous to save. If you are in an abusive relationship, it is better to just let that one go, rather than suffer for years again.

If you are thinking, “How can I get my ex love me again?” This is just a natural reflex of thought on your part. You’re just human and you still have lingering feelings for your ex even after a break up. However, you can save yourself from a lot of grief if you just stay away from an abusive or toxic relationship. Here are ways you can detect an abusive relationship.

1. Verbal Abuse is a subtle sign that you are in a toxic relationship. If your partner puts you down in front of other people, this is a clear sign that you are in an abusive relationship.

2. When your partner says he or she loves you, but if hes or her actions do not back up the words. This is a clear sign of emotional manipulation. telling a person that you love them has certain expectations attached to it.

3. When your partner is stalking you, like when he or she follows you whenever you go just to check on you, or when he or she checks your email just “to make sure.” This kind of action is a prelude to number 4…

4. Your partner is maneuvering things in such a way that you become dependent on him or her.

5. You have changed yourself for your partner a number of times yet he or she does not seem satisfied.

Remember, in every toxic relationship there is a cycle of abuse. Your partner may be a victim of emotional abuse themselves. In an abusive relationship, there is the honeymoon stage where everything is still new and exciting. Then you hit a plateau in the relationship; followed by a blow up, and then the break up. Just be aware of the signs so you can get out of the relationship fast.