I Am No Expert on Relationships, But…

Airing out your arguments with your significant other for everyone on social media to see is not okay. I honestly chime in to let that person know that asking others for their opinion is not the right way to deal with the issue. If my boyfriend were to ever write a post about our issue before sitting down with me to talk about it, I would be livid.

Those kinds of posts make me realize how guarded we can be with ourselves in fear that we will allow someone to hurt us, which I think is a pretty normal reaction. Again, I am no expert, so why believe me right? But anyway, I was on Facebook reading everyone’s responses to someone’s relationship dilemma and the root of the issue was lack of trust.

I get it. It’s easy to invite someone into your life, the hard part is trusting them completely. Now a days, everyone is so locked in to their social lives through electronic devices and a new social media platform every year, that at times we lose sight of how valuable it is to just have that one special person. And we use our past experiences to build walls, even when we have found someone willing to tear them down and love us unconditionally. It sucks, I know, but I’m the kind of person who likes to look on the bright side.

Crappy relationship experiences are literally blessings in disguise, because they’re lessons. I learned the hard way that holding things against a new person because a person from a previous relationship had hurt me was unnecessary. It was unfair to them and in the end, it was my loss, because I was shutting down a relationship that could have gone somewhere had I not had my guards up so high.

I have a few friends who stay with the same person, the same person they have lost all trust in a long time ago, because they don’t want to start over with a new person. But that’s a loss for them too, because trusting someone is such an important part of a relationship. If they’re staying in a relationship with one foot out the door, they probably aren’t in the right relationship. I mean yay or nay? What are your thoughts on this?