Wednesday, May 17, 2017

A young man, who calls himself 'relover69' on Freeballing.com
expressed recently his thoughts and misgivings or fears about wearing
sweat pants and not having on any underwear. I've seen him for
several years on that discussion board as an active communicator about
the issue (or hobby) of freeballing. He's written a lot on many
different issues related to being gay and freeballing, and also how
these relate to how he's getting along with friends, family and school
life. Now, he's a college student and has a different set of concerns.
NOTE: The photos below are not of the guy named 'relover69' although
some of them are of other members of the Freeballing.com, who have
posted their pics in the past, wearing sweat pants.

Relover69 wrote:

I LOVVVVE to freeball in sweats in the winter, very rarely in public
though, but I just love the way to fleece feels on my bare *** and
also how much freedom there is in the front for my penis and balls to
flop around every time I walk.

I also see many guys in sweats at my college, but I never look hard
enough to see if they are freeballing or not . If I had the total
confidence of freeballing I would freeball to school in sweats every
day. But it shows off way too much of the head of my penis and if
anyone wanted to pay attention, they would definitely see I am without
underwear.

I once freeballed in sweats to math class the day we had a test, and I
was BEYOND comfortable, but I was too self conscious. In reality I
got hard once in the car [on the way to school, but it] went down by
the time I had gone to class, and then once while in class, and after
that went away, I was so relaxed and comfortable in them...

Do you know anyone who regularly freeballs in sweat pants on a daily basis, everywhere they go??

I wonder what's holding you back, too. Well.. like Triangle said,
it's obvious that you want to do it, but I'm just considering what's
keeping you from doing that.
Are you afraid of how you'll be viewed if you end up getting a boner in school while freeballing in sweat pants?

Do you have some kind of guilty conscience about exposing the shape and size of your dick while freeballing in them?

Maybe you're not satisfied with your total appearance? It seemed
really hot when the good looking guys and buff jocks (in high school
and college) would wear tight jeans or cut-off t-shirts that showed
their navels and polished abs or sleeveless shirts where you could see
their nipples sometimes when they turned or their underarm hairs.
Those emblems of masculinity shown so boastfully are forgiven by girls
and guys alike when the guy doing it is popular (which usually means
he's rich, good looking or talented in sports or something else or can
make people laugh or garner support by making fun or otherwise
influencing others).

I sadly do not have any good stories of me freeballing in them, but do you??

So maybe you need to work on your image. I'm not saying your
self-image needs work.. it's up to you to decide that. But maybe you
should try a make-over. That is try out a significant change in your
looks, attitude, fashion or behavior and see what effect it has on
people. It will likely also have a pretty big effect on you, too, once
you see how people react to and notice you differently.

As an example, I sometimes try an experiment at my school. Being a
college professor I can pretty much dress as I like: jeans and
t-shirt, three-piece suit, ethnic attire (kilt or Japanese yukata), or
just casual khaki pants, shirt and jacket. Of course, I'm (mostly)
freeballing in any and all of these. However, it can notice a
difference from the very fact that I dress differently -- even though
no one may draw attention to the fact that they even notice the change.
People's eyes move to places and parts of me that I hadn't noticed
them doing so before, or people who normally don't greet me will, all
of a sudden, say 'Good morning.' and even start casual conversations.

So you should try it out first -- without freeballing as an issue --
first of all. Find out how much you do or don't like the extra
attention. If you find you like it, then your own self-image will
change, and consequently, so will your confidence to freeball (or not),
and to be your own person.

Of course, good hygiene, clearing up skin acne, a nice haircut and a
little styling, trimming down or buffing up the body using by getting a
good diet of the big 5 and regular exercise, as well as a little
muscle and stamina training will also do wonders.

Finally, I suggest you try my long standard 'wardrobe fix'. Here's the way it works:

Wear open front boxers under your sweats, but then pull your cock
and balls through the open fly in the boxers and pull them up. You'll
feel a little constriction which might make your cock swell up and fill
out. But if you do pop a boner or drip after a piss or leak precum,
you'll have some 'protection' to cover up with -- just in case. Beside,
the lift it gives you dicks and balls looks and feels great.

If you're going to freeball, you might as well to it in sweats,
then everybody ought to get the benefit (so let them see that you don't
care about whether guys or girls (or horny teachers -- like me) see
your junk.

If you really can't because it'll just be obscene, then gradually work
your way up to that by trying the technique above or my wearing
different styles of pants, trousers, jeans, dress pants (suit), athletic
gear, hiking pants, etc...until you start to feel free, comfortable
and not afraid to show off what Mother Nature (and your DNA) intended
you to possess.

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It's really a sexual preference lifestyle issue, but some would call it a sexual fetish or perversion. However, in many ways, male nudity permeates almost all aspects of male-to-male relationships and influences the nature of masculinity and what it means to be a man.

Men use nudity and exposure of body parts or genitals to communicate affection, friendship, camaraderie, power /control, and even distain or disgust. Being aware CMNM scenes and being turned on by them is subconscious for most males. We're just a select few who have recognized it as a separate way of psycho-sexual interaction and, for some personal or social stimulation.Once you think more deeply about it, you'll be able recognize and see its effects in buddy-to-buddy friendships, sports and athletic camaraderie, male-bonding and growing up, rites of passages for young males, social events, public and private clubs and social organizations, schooling, and especially in the past - even the constant girl-chasing pack mentality of romance, male lust (and sex) and the antics and rituals associated with those. More recent acceptance of gays in society has meant that 'guy-chasing' and the behaviors around that once secretive activity are becoming more known. So CMNM (like CFNM - "clothed female-naked male") is becoming a recognized category of human sexual activity.

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Social Network Communities

It's a continuing saga. Ning (one of the world's largest after Facebook) decided to remove all adult-content, sexually explicit/graphic groups in January 2009. Now it seems that others will be going that way too or at least making it difficult to host such groups.

After exploring SocialGo.com as a potential new home for our Guys Into CMNM Ning (which was deleted by Ning as of January 1, 2009), I was resigned to choosing it after having explored quite a few alternative. But recently (12/28/2008), I discovered WebJam. It's a whole lot better -- for what I want in a social networking site, but it's got its limitations - as do they all. Since then, SocialGo has decided to ask adult-content, sexually graphic groups to start paying beginning in April. At $49 a month, it's not worth it and I doubt anyone wants to share the cost. Therefore, the CMNM.socialgo.com group will moved and eventually removed.

Another rather new entry into the social networking market is Grou.ps (yes... it has a 'period' in that word).

In the end, I'll choose adaptability and customization over ease and simplicity. But that's not true for everyone I realize. Therefore, there will be several in many different Guys On CMNM online communities - as time goes by, members will tend to gravitate to the one(s) that have more appeal and usability for them. So that's how I will operate the Guys Into CMNM Ring of Networks -- there will be over a different types of CMNM networks:

Guys Into CMNM Ring of Social Networks - pick out the one that suits you.

Webjam http://www.webjam.com/cmnm - The most flexible, customizable, and most like Ning (except for Video gallery), embedded video OK, multiple page profiles with many kinds of modules (widgets, RSS feeds, etc)

SocialGo http://cmnm.socialgo.com - Slow, simple interface, little customization possible, it has the basics, but was soon abandoned by the large adult content networks, rumored to become for-pay soon (will be moved to Socialgo's new adult-content service on Feb 15 and they will be charging in April -- thus TO BE DELETED April 1, 2009). For some strange reason, it still exists but no one ever logs in.

Grou.ps http://grou.ps/cmnm - Poor designed and buggy code, might have potential, but you can only share video from Youtube (and two other non-porno sites), embeddable vids in Wiki (Wall) only (not blogs).

NOTE about Grou.ps : ( June 2009) They gradually made progress with the Grou.ps site, adding some new functionality and -- most importantly - some speed. Recently, there have been many new members joining (over 1200) and the Video (embedded) has greatly improved. However, many of the large Grou.ps (Dan's Public Sex, for example, etc) have been turned into 'subscription' only membership. You have to pay (or sign-up for adverts/products, etc) in order to earn 'credits' to pay for your subscription. I don't think it will be too long before they force all adult content grou.ps to pay for subscription membership.

Orkut: http://www.orkut.com/Main#Community.aspx?rl=cpn&cmm=57809762 (recently Orkut has cracked down on adult / sexual content).My gmail id can longer log into Orkut. So I doubt the CMNM still exists.

Queerclique: There is now a CMNM group inside Queerclique (which uses the former Socialgo network as its 'branded' host server). Queerclique is the free social networking community for QueerClick (the commercial gay porn mega-blog and gallery site). Membership requires aproval.

Facebook Group: CMNM Facebook Group I founded this group in FB, but it's now moderated by someone else. Because adult content is strictly banned (not so much in private profile) and nude photos are not allowed, the group isn't very active. I learned this the hard way - my first FB account was summarily deleted (and so was my profile and status).

Yahoo Group: CMNM http://groups.yahoo.com/group/cmnmGayWatch: CMNM group http://www.gaywatch.com/view_group.php?group_id=102Lifeout: CMNM group http://www.lifeout.com/groups.php?group=1050HardHornyMe.com http://www.hardhornyme.com/gay/ Once a member, go to groups: cmnm It doesn't have much functionality as a site yet.