They just creep in your head. Maybe you're waiting for the spinning circle to stop or maybe the printer is spooling and that cute delivery guy comes in... you can't help it. Or... maybe your new coworker is wearing some jeans that show off his tush and you can't help but notice a little too long. Ladies, sex is on the brain. Do you feel dirty fantasizing about Derek from accounting or Paul from the corporate office? How far do you let it go? Do you let yourself get worked up enough to need to leave the room? Well, you're not alone. In a survey from the summer issue of Exec magazine four out of five men and half of women daydream about having sex with a colleague--some having such erotic dreams every hour. Dr. Ethel S. Person, author of ''By Force of Fantasy: How We Make Our Lives'' told the New York Times when asked if most sexual fantasies were rooted in reality or are pure fiction she said, "Total fiction. Some are in the realm of the fantastic, such as the creation of a sexual partner, the situation and what you do. Some fantasies are ways to act out a scenario that will never come true. It is true that we may have sexual fantasies about people we know, people we encounter in routine life. A woman could fantasize about a co-worker or her brother-in-law. But in the way she has that person talk, act or anything else, that person is as fictitious as Richard Gere. There may be some catalyst in reality, but the fantasy is all illusion."

So now that you realize you're normal, how far have you let it go? Have you gotten physically turned on in these situations? If not, would you be willing to let yourself go there. Woman typically try very hard to keep sexuality out of the workplace so in general the occurrence of sexual fantasy from women at work is low. We just train ourselves to push it out of our minds. But should we? Many studies show that we are healthier when we fantasize. Fantasies influence interpersonal relationships and with whom relationships are formed. We're often responding to subliminal cues tied to our fantasies. For example, if a man fantasizes himself as a rescuer, he may not recognize that the woman he will seek out is one who requires, to some extent, rescuing, and a woman who fantasizes about being rescued in some fashion is more likely to respond to a man who in subtle ways indicates a willingness or ability to play that role. Many men and women have formed deep relationships because of reciprocal fantasies and may never discuss or even be aware of this subliminal connection.

So maybe next time you're standing at the copier waiting you can indulge in a little naughty thought to pass the moment and feel good instead of guilty. Then come back here and tell me about it! Exploring our sexuality is something we share on this blog, openly and without guilt. My goal is to get the girltalk going so we learn that we're not alone in this sexual world!