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Hey, it’s Anthony, friendship could mean a lot of things and honestly friendship is having trust in that person or just a person who is there for you. I know you guys have a lot of friends that you like to hang out with and like to talk with but, the question is do you think they are your friend.

Sometimes you have rethink about them and think about the right and wrongs of what your going to do. To be honest, I’m going to be truthful with you guys, I don’t trust half of my friends just because the stupid things they do. Like’ They are always cutting school and asking me to go with them and I would say no because I have school and I would never cut any of my classes. But, I also feel that I’m letting them down at the same time. You never want to let down your friends or hurt there trust. A lot things go wrong, as you may know already. I mean everyone goes through problems with there friends all the time.Continue Reading

First impressions. They set the foundation for a new relationship of any kind. Whether it be an acquaintance at work or a future significant other. It’s that first encounter that determines any further encounters or remove all possibility for them. But what if I said to you that first impressions didn’t really matter? What if I said you could never really understand someone from that quick interaction? What if I daringly say that it’s possible a first impression is so insignificant, that it can just be neglected in favor of some other arbitrary superficial attribute?

So on my way home me and george(2 of my bro’s bio dad) are talking about different types of campaigning stuff(he’s in the business field) and he happened to say that I seemed liked the kind of person who’s a good writer. Now I’m pretty sure only his wife has seen my posts on the joint blog so it was cool for him to say something like that.

Yes even though I keep this site and all its posts public and searchable, I keep it under wraps. How I get so much recurring traffic I will never understand since I don’t really promote it, but I am deeply grateful that you people take the time to visit and read in on my thoughts. Much luv ❤

So at that moment I thought I better be good at writing since I my brothers are some of the kids I teach English to lol or else that’d be a problem. It also brought to mind how long I have been doing writing and postings unguided and on my own. I think all these years of expressing my feelings have been a good practice for enhancing my literary abilities I guess.

But that’s just it, would I be able to be so adept at writing if it wasn’t for this major flaw/gift in my personality?

From when I started to now, the quality of the writing has definitely improved and matured of course, but it has come as a sub-consequence to an act that I do because I need to and because it’s not something I “want” to do. It’s incredibly difficult for me to come forward verbally with my feelings and opinions on personal things and writing it has been my release. Like visual words are the combination to my mental safe. It’s as if here, I’m telling it to myself. Takin the thoughts right from my head, putting in another form, then hitting submit before I have the chance to backdown and say “nevermind”.

In front of people it’s a whole different experience. It has to be rehearsed perfectly way in advance and even then, when I’m about to speak my peace, an almost detachment from myself occurs and I pull back before those words of no return are spoken from my mouth, “I need to talk to you about something.”

Those who know me, don’t really know this aspect of my deeper self. As with everything else I do to myself to be able to accommodate other people, I found a way to make this work to. Hence comes the double self. I’ve sectioned off 2 parts of myself. That which I can be publicly and that which I can be privately. The second part is held within my safe. This puts up the impression that I don’t have this lack of expression residing so deep down.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not disingenuous to anyone, but I keep a big part of my “personal” personality away. What “I” think, what “I” care about. All that is here and with the very few people I care to have given the combination to. If I didn’t have my writing, life would be so much harder. I’m a very loyal person, but I’m also very distrusting. Which would probably explain why it took me so long to come out to my best friend in the first place.

…junior high school was very hard…

It still feels like in the end it’s only me that I can fall back to. I know thats a highly cynical way to look at life, but understand my perspective. I don’t really have the luxury to enjoy those tight-knit families of most. I practically grew up on my own. I haven’t had a steady group of good friends. Bullied for 1 and a half years of jhs. Then because of my personal preference, I’m part of a widely discriminated against group. I think I have my reasons to not trust people and hold my ponderings inside.

Well there we go. I blog because I need to. Because I can’t speak what’s important to me. Because I don’t trust people. Because too many haven’t been there with me. I’m groomed by life to run alone. The few that I’m loyal to and the little ones I love, that’s what encompasses me. That’s what I surround myself with. That’s why I bond stronger to those who aren’t my blood over those who are.

well mayb not so much a tlk about luv as it is a defense of pplz ideas of wut makes luv work lol. this has been one of my fav surveys evr. here is the second post from the joint site:

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Hello again from your personal Fried Chicken. I guess now, since we’re officially discussing a topic, we get to see what my blog typing experience can produce. This one is about solidifying the ever elusive “perfect relationship”.

So to aid in solving my dilemma, i went around imposing my question upon carefully selected individuals to keep my answers as unique as possible. A way to get different perspectives from people experiencing relationships in different ways and my research has not failed me. I selected a range from those who have never been with someone to people who’ve been with many. From being in a perfect love to a complicated situation. I kept the scope broad.

The most abundant answer given, which also happens to be what i agree with, is trust. Based on what I’ve found, it’s the foundation on which relationships are built. Relationships have to be built upon something and the society defined “love” isn’t strong enough to support it. Another reason given was that if lies and illusions are mixed together, it will all just be an illusion in the end. Also it enables a person to further themselves into vulnerability with another person.

Another response given was love. I was really expecting this all night, but only one person said it which baffled me. “A person only needs to love the other person” The idea didn’t intrigue me so much as the reasoning. It was defended by the systematic destruction of all other important aspects of a relationship, or rather i interpreted it that way. Thankfully i understand the point of view, but it was more like love made the cut by default because everything else was insufficient.

Lastly I’ll mention money. This was the first and funniest aspect i got. To think that money is this important made me contemplate what society has come to that finances has such a hold on the future of a couple. I’m not nearly defined as a naive person, but i must disagree that burdens of money between two people should affect the longevity of the bonding experience.

What are your opinions on this topic? I’d really love to hear what you think. Especially since I’m starting the dating circuit all over again, this is something to think about.

-“…the most important aspect of a relationship, is that the feelings that you feel for your partner are true as in real likeness and not just lust.”-

Thanks to Thomas H., Adaiah G., Samantha L., Joel G., Ken R., and Jason E. for allowing me to use your verbal thoughts in this post. Also, this has been by far, the longest midnight snack I’ve ever had. Thanks for coming with me on this little trip. This is Fried Chicken saying “Dinner has been served.”