(Closed) Kids at wedding

My Fiance and I have decided that we do not want children at our wedding. The only exception I have is for my 3 cousins. My entire family from Boston will be flying in to Chicago and 3 of them have recently had babies. So by the time our wedding comes around in August 2015, they will aged 2, 1, and 8 months. I do not feel comfortable asking them to come to my wedding and travel without their babies. So I have made an exception for only them to bring their babies/children.

Do you think other guests will be upset with this?? We dont have any other family members with small children that will be traveling from out of state.

People will be upset about it, but you have to decide what is best for you and your fiance. I do think it is rude to allow some people to bring their children, and not others. Either stick to a ‘No kids at all’ rule, or allow others to bring their children.

I completely disagree that you can’t pick and choose. Everyone picks and chooses their guests, I don’t see how children are different. And there is a clear line here – you are inviting children of people who have to travel (I’m assuming when you say they’re the only ones traveling from out of state, you mean the only non-local people, since some states are big!) Rational adults should be able to understand this. You may want to give your cousins a heads up that they are an exception to the rule though, in case they would be more comfortable finding a local babysitter.

I am not having children aside from my nephews and you know what think do what ever you like. I had a recent post like this and all the bees were super supportive of inviting just my nephews. At the end of the day who cares it is your day do as you please x. I think the only ppl who will be offended are those that have not been married or were married along time ago and have forgotten how stressful it is and how hard it is to please everyone

good for you. kids are brats. last thing you want is kids screaming during your vows. also they are expensive for the catering. which no doubt will end up smeared on other guests clothes and on the floor.

You are going to definitely upset other people. There has to be a hard, firm line. You do have an out that you can say that it’s only children related to you from out of town, but I would look into an onsite babysitter.

Our line is only our nieces and nephews, all of which are in the wedding. No one can argue with that.

I’m on the “you CAN pick and choose” camp. Kids are people too, if you are super close to some kids but not others, invite them as you would any guest. Also, nursing babies are always ok. We invited NO kids at all, but the two guests with nursing babies were told they were welcome.

One brought their baby, the other actually pumped and had her mother stay nearby and partied on her own – her baby was two months old and it was her first night out!