Tuesday, July 30, 2013

We know it is true. We hear it everywhere. What you focus on has a direct impact on your levels of happiness. When you focus on what you are grateful for, what you appreciate and what is good in your life you can actually feel a physical shift in your body. Tension decreases and the relax response increases. Tensed muscles loosen and tightness becomes lightness.

Don't take our word for it. Try it out yourself. WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR RIGHT NOW? How does it feel to think about this person or this thing? How can you share or express your appreciation? What would happen if you began every day with this question?

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Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Friday, February 22, 2013

Sometimes making a decision, even the smallest one, can feel like a monumental act of courage and risk. There are some decisions that call on us to dig deep and search for strength. For you, this may be the decision to start a new relationship, or even end one. It could be the decision to go back to school, quit your job or pursue a dream. For others, the decision could be what to wear, eat or watch on TV. Being decisive is a catalyst for ACTION, CHANGE and MOVEMENT. Without a decision you are moving AWAY from your 'right life.' I often remind clients (and myself) that you are never standing still - you are either moving toward something or away from it. What decision are you ready to make today?

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Friday, February 1, 2013

What advice do you frequently offer others that would also benefit you?

I am the advice QUEEN! I will say, that I rarely give it without being asked, but people ALWAYS ask me for advice. I am just one of those people who is a magnet for people seeking a bit of support, advice, help and direction. It really is my calling. My kids’ teachers ask me for advice, people at the grocery store, my family members, friends, acquaintance, complete strangers - everyone. I generally try to refrain from telling them what to do and instead tell them what I might do in a similar situation and I often put on my ‘coaching hat’ and don’t give advice at all, but instead help them uncover their own best advice. Because, I truly believe that, at our core, we all know what is best for us. In fact, when I do give advice this is usually what it is:Stop and really listen to your body - you know what to do. It will feel right - not necessarily easy, but right.

Would I be better off if I stopped and took this advice that I so generously give to others? Hell yes, I would! Not only would I be more at peace, I also wouldn’t be on committees that don’t serve me, I wouldn’t be getting together with people who drive me crazy, I wouldn't feel so overwhelmed and busy, and I wouldn’t be agreeing to things that don’t fill me up and inspire me.

Today I will LISTEN AND TAKE MY OWN ADVICE. I will tap into my intuition and trust that I have the answers I seek. I will embrace Cicero’s brilliant words: Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.Now it’s your turn:What advice do you frequently offer others that would also benefit you?

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Hannah Hollett is co-owner of MyMindset.com, a MyMindset Coach, teacher and parenting, life and business coach. She can be reached for question, comments or a complimentary personal coaching consultation at hannah.hollett@MyMindset.com.

Thursday, January 31, 2013

I could go into all the reasons why it isn’t healthy to get attached to a certain outcome, or how we really have very few actual ‘needs,’ but I am not going to do that. I am going to answer as a mom, not a coach. As a mom, I often feel like I need my kids to listen to me and do what I ask them to do. Am I getting that? Sometimes yes and sometimes no.

The second part of the question is the real treasure here - WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT IT? I love this, because it calls me to take some sort of action. If you have a need (real or perceived) that isn’t being met - as a mom, in a relationship, at work, etc. - you can either accept it or you can ask yourself what you can do about it. Notice I am not asking what someone else (my kids) can do about it, I am asking what I can do about it. The possibilities become almost endless - My kids aren’t always listening to me - what can I do about it?

Stop talking or talk/ask for a lot less

Ask them why they aren’t following direction

Ask myself if the directions are really important

Consider why they sometimes listen and follow direction (what is the common denominator)

Be curious about why this is so important to me

Etc., etc., etc.

If my needs aren’t being met then I am responsible for making it happen. My needs are my responsibility. I have the courage to communicate my needs and I also have the ability to meet them all on my own.

Now it’s your turn:

What do you need, but aren’t getting and what can you do about it?

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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Why do we say ‘yes’ to things we don’t want to do? I do this far too often, even though I am much better than I used to be. I notice that when I stop, pause and listen to my body before responding to a request I am far less likely to agree to bake 100 cupcakes for a bake sale or head up yet another PTA Committee.

I know ALL the signs my body gives me when it really doesn’t want to do something... a rush of adrenaline causes my heart rate to quicken, my breathing becomes more shallow, and I feel a weight in my chest that makes it feel like a struggle to get oxygen into my body. These are just the immediate physical signs - more will undoubtedly follow if I choose to ignore these.

Even though the message is loud and clear I still sometimes ignore it and agree to something. Why? I know my answer - EGO. I admit it, it feels good to have someone ask me to do something and I am a sucker for a sweet compliment like, ‘Hannah, I know you have a lot going on, but you are SO TOGETHER and would do such a great job.’ Here’s how the story ends up - I agree (begrudgingly) and end up resentful and angry.

I have a hard time saying no to almost everything. However, I know that BEST strategy for me is to ALWAYS take time before responding. 10 words have repeatedly saved me from anger, resentment, overwhelm and ego - I WILL THINK ABOUT IT AND GET BACK TO YOU. Furthermore, if I have said YES to something in haste, I am absolutely willing to say I made a mistake and have discovered that I cannot do it after all. There are no gold medals for martyrs! I only say ‘yes’ to what I really want to do.

Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough. Josh Billings

Now it’s your turn:What do you have a hard time saying ‘no’ to, but wish you could?

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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Mindset: I work towards being my best self every day.

What will you do to show up as your best self today?

What does it really mean to ‘be your best self?’ My best self will not look the same as yours - and that is completely OK. No one gets to tell you what the ‘best you’ looks like - this is yours to discover and then embody. This week I am really looking at my role as a mom, so it makes sense for me to think about being my best self in that context as well. I know I am showing up as the best version (or at least a pretty darned good one) of me as a mom when I:

Don’t write check my a$$ can’t cash - in other words, I follow through with what I have said. If I say I am going to do something, whether it is a consequence, reward or a simple action, then I want to make every effort to make that happen. This is what feels right for me. Again, this may not be a part of your best self.

Resist the urge to react and instead choose to respond with intention and clarity - My best self doesn’t yell, fly off the handle and hmmmph around complaining about things.

Today, I will follow through, communicate with intention and clarity, and for the love of Pete I am going to laugh and have fun with my kids! I work towards being my best self every day.

Your ultimate goal in life is to become your best self. David Viscott

Now, it is YOUR TURN...What will you do to show up as your best self today?

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Hannah Hollett is co-owner of MyMindset.com, a MyMindset Coach, teacher and parenting, life and business coach. She can be reached for question, comments or a complimentary personal coaching consultation at hannah.hollett@MyMindset.com.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Today’s Mindset: I communicate openly and honestly.

Which of your relationships could improve with better communication?

This weekwe are focusing on COMMUNICATION at MyMindset. I don’t know about you, but I find that most of my relationships could benefit from improved communication. As a coach, I know that focusing on something more specific will help me create a better plan and increase my chances of follow through as well. So, this week I am going to focus on my relationship with my kiddos. How can I communicate more openly and honestly with a 7 year old and 11 year old? Do I tell them everything, lay all my cards on the table and give them the low-down on all my adult problems? Heck no! What I can do is this:

Take time to really listen to my kids - this means not multi-tasking, asking questions, giving eye-contact, and not feeling the need to jump in and ‘problem solve.’ This may seem simple, but when was the last time your really LISTENED to someone without being attached to your own agenda?

Keep my conversations brief - I am a talker... Every single one of my relationships could benefit from me talking LESS. This week I will start focusing on this with my kids.

Be polite - I admit it, sometimes I yell, sometimes I am short and not-so-nice to my kids. When I choose to react instead of be intentional I am teaching my kids to do the same. This week I will focus on being patient and polite.

Finally, taking the advice of a fellow MyMindset coach and friend, Janette Valentino, I am going to be gentle with myself as a parent this week.

Being listened to is so close to being loved that most people cannot tell the difference. David Oxberg

Your turn...

Which of YOUR relationships could improve with better communication?

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Hannah Hollett is co-owner of MyMindset.com, a MyMindset Coach, teacher and parenting, life and business coach. She can be reached for question, comments or a complimentary personal coaching consultation at hannah.hollett@MyMindset.com.