In this video, Therapist, Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Weil helps a reader whose husband gets mad at her when she asks him, "What's wrong?" She wants to be able to talk to him when he's upset without making him even moreso. As Dr. Bonnie says, asking him what is bothering him is a surefire way to make him even more tense, as many times, he can't pinpoint why he's upset.

Unlike women, men find it harder to talk about their feelings. Dr. Bonnie lists a number of strategies for how you can diffuse the situation when it first arises and later, open up a positive line of communication with your guy. Learn why patience is key by watching the video above.