11 Changes that come over you after one bad relationship!

We’re afraid to give in, afraid to invest, afraid to compromise and accept too many excuses. If it comes easy then we’ll gladly welcome it and if it requires pursuing then we take the opposite route.

No one wants to invest that much of time into pursuing someone, when that time might as well be put to good use at nurturing the self.

Wasted a lot of time already, haven’t we? Now’s the time to get back on track and pick up the opportunities we left on the way, in the past. It’s time to concentrate on ourselves and nobody else is more important than you are to yourself at present. They need to meet your expectations; otherwise they’re far from getting an entry into your life. Either it’s your way or no way.

Hence:

NO GUY IS EVER GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU

You’re always looking for the best. Your definition of best has been formed inside your head and so you know how exactly you want your guy to be and the moment you find that he is not meeting one of those needs you feel disappointed and are willing to let him and the relationship go for someone/something better and closer to your idea of perfect.

YOUR PARTNER GETS INTIMIDATED BY YOUR EXTREMELY AMBITIOUS MINDSET

You take too many things together, on yourself and that is what begins to intimidate your partner. The fact that you play basketball as well as snooker, and paint and dance at the same time, flabbergasts him. He imagines you have far-fetched aims and are probably too virtuous for him, provided he doesn’t have aims of the same sort.

YOU MAKE IT A POINT TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST

You don’t want to settle for any less either. You want to keep doing whatever you enjoy and your relationship should not stand as an obstacle in the fulfilment of your wishes.

You don’t want to make out-of-the-way sacrifices and promises to satisfy your partner.

YOU FREAK OUT AND EVEN BACK OUT WHEN THINGS GET A LITTLE DIFFICULT

You can’t handle pressure; any kind of emotional or mental pressure in the relationship. You have a lot of external pressure to handle anyway; you certainly don’t want an extra bit of it coming from your partner. A relationship for you, should involve relaxation and happiness. If it brings unnecessary complications then you’d rather opt out of it. You’re neither prepared to nor do you have the will to invest in something which bears bad fruit.

YOU’D RATHER BE ALONE THAN BE A PART OF AN AVERAGE RELATIONSHIP

You want your relationship to blossom and you want your boyfriend to be the kind of guy who’d deserve you the best. He should realise how fortunate he is to have you but then he must be one of those men who have women hovering around him all day long. However keeping the charm and popularity aside, you are not going to be in a relationship just for the sake of it. You need to feel the connection, the spark and most importantly feel peaceful, happy and satiated in his company.

YOU SELDOM ARRANGE SECOND DATES WITH ANYBODY

You’re not okay with just about anybody. When you give a guy your time, you must know for sure that he deserves that time. You’re not happy with what is average or commonplace. You need to feel like the guy you went out with has the spunk over others which would provide you with an intrigue to see him again.

YOU’RE AFRAID YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS KEEPING YOU FROM REACHING YOUR FULL POTENTIAL

Even if you are in a relationship, if at all, you feel as though you have expectations to fulfil and often at the cost of doing away with important opportunities in your life, so that you end up losing your sense of self. You realise you are not being able to do things solely for yourself without any concern for another person who’s feelings may be dependent on your doings. This acts as an impediment for you and makes you feel as though your relationship isn’t allowing you to reach your full potential.

YOU TEND TO BE THE ONE WHO INITIATES THE BREAK UP

You’re not willing to take any shit from anybody and carry the capacity to hand over their belongings to them and show them the door, without any inhibitions or pin downs because you’re self reliant and don’t depend on and seek approval from any guy to realise your worth. You have confidence enough in you which you know is a substance of admiration for several men out there, among whom at least a few would know how to appreciate your worth, treat you with reverence and respect your privacy.

YOU HAVE A DIFFICULTY IN BRUSHING THINGS OFF

You’re not the type to forgive and forget, being willing to overlook seemingly insignificant flaws in your partner. You know how little flaws can add up, to ultimately pose as a huge threat to your peace of mind and you are not going to let that happen. You are not willing to compromise on your happiness for anything in the world. So you’re someone who is unready to give second chances. One wrong move from the other side can destroy the whole composition for you.

YOU EASILY CATCH THE NEGATIVE TRAITS IN YOUR PARTNER

The negatives as if tend to highlight themselves with a marker. The negatives draw way too much of attention in comparison to the bare minimum of appreciation that your partner’s positives carry the capacity to draw. Any negative trait you come across contributes to pushing you further away from your partner in a gradual process. You feel dissatisfied and constantly keep telling yourself that you can do better. Why in fact would you settle for anything less than what you want?

For us, putting up, isn’t even an option. If it makes us happy without extracting too much out of us then we’ll continue with it. But the moment the relationship begins to demand something that we need to get out of our comfort zone to provide, it results in an immediate turn off. We’ll be out the moment we realise we need to put too much in.

YOU WORRY EVERYDAY THAT YOU WON’T END UP WITH THE PERFECT GUY

The reality once in a while keeps hitting you. Won’t you have to finally choose someone and get over with the whole dating game? Will you ultimately end up with the ‘perfect’ guy, is the question that haunts you. What if you’re letting go of prospective mates with minor flaws only leaving yourself with meagre choices among mates? Are you subjecting yourself to worse possibilities or are you allowing yourself the scope to finally meet with the best? It starts to seem like nobody is perfect enough for you.

Are you that someone who maintains high standards when it comes to your relationships? Have you been subject to difficulties because of that and are they close to the ones that are mentioned in this post? Do let us know what it’s like for you, in the section below for comments.

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