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ciara confirmed that she has a low self esteem. what is the attraction or the excitement in having a childs father with 3 different baby mothers. that is such a turnoff to me. i would feel like just a number

I was watching and I couldn't believe Sherri said Ciara had a hit album, but they didn't say the sells. she also said that Body Party went to number one, but didn't mention another song. Ciara said she's been working on another album since Thanksgiving. I was on twitter and someone said she pulled a Beyonce (at how she announced her pregnancy). She also talked about people bullying via internet. All I can say is Ciara just stay off the blogs cause people aren't going to stop saying what they want to say.

She claimed that she will be performing at the Grammys which will be an epic fail because she won't be able to dance like she normally does. And we know her singing voice is shit and her dancing is the only thing that makes her performance interesting.

the negativity that society has now is such a shame. no one can just say congrats and move forward? Why not wish this couple the best because sometimes it takes a few relationships to get it right. WE tear each other down so much it makes me so sad.

Ciara is so young and starry-eyed at this point she will have to learn the hard way. The ring was probably just to shut her up. Future will have another pregnant jumpoff popping off on the blogs before the end of the year. Good luck on the pregnancy though.

May Ciara and Future deliver a healthy and happy baby. It's amazing at how insanely negative women are. I know these comments aren't being written by men. I bet the women in this post have out-of-wedlock children, children by men who have other children by other women, have had abortions, etc. Let people BE.

This pregnancy was confirmed last year. Ciara has always wanted to be treated like celebrity pop royalty, so she "confirmed" her pregnancy the way other attention whores have. Sorry if it doesn't produce a warm and fuzzy congratulatory feeling - this babymaker had 3 babies with 3 other women, two of them not even 5 years old yet. So in the last 4 years, he's conceived children with 3 different women, including Ciara. That's pathetic..

"Ciara is so young and starry-eyed at this point she will have to learn the hard way. The ring was probably just to shut her up. Future will have another pregnant jumpoff popping off on the blogs before the end of the year. Good luck on the pregnancy though."

MTE. Call me "negative", but I have a feeling this won't end well for Ci-Ci. Even if--and that's a big "IF"--she and Future do get married, I think he'll screw around and get 1 or 2 more women pregnant, and she'll wind up divorcing him. He's not going to change his ways.

Question: Why do men have to be faithful? Like, why? Why are they punished because they want to be with more than one woman or have children by more than one woman? Why is there a pressure for everybody to be faithful? And in situations like these, why would Ciara expect marriage and fidelity when Future has had multiple women prior?

(I'm not advocating or condoning anything. I just think that these are questions that we NEVER ask ourselves and each other.)

I don't think C error realizes that as long as people are talking about you, good or bad, the fact that they're talking is all that matters when you're an entertainer. Given that she has mediocre talent, and can't stand besides any of the vocalists out now (laughs) she needs all the attention she can get. And for all of those that say she can dance, it's not fun watching her "dance" and do those same back bends she's been doing since 2003!

They showed pictures of her last week and that heiffa had not stomach, at this point with nothing else going on for her and she's become irrelevant, what else has she to do but fake a pregnancy to try to add another minute to her already used up 15 minutes.

So I guess the rumours were true that she was waiting to get confirmation from doctors that the baby was developing properly due to her reproductive issues. Intially they told her it was too risky for her health,and that would likely never develope to full term. We will see what happens during the actual birth. I know the doctors are still nervious about her situation, she needed some kinda good news

Boy as soon as she got some kinda good news she ran full speed to the media. She really sees this as a long awaited confirmation and validation that she is indeed all woman.

I dont agree at all about her running to the media and mediatizingthis babys birth. If what was said is true its a long hurdle for herand the for the development of the baby who after birth may continue to have all types of developmental issues.

Why is this very crucial and sensitive matter all over the media for attention. She really is showing her desperation to be a star as the person said who dropped tea about her issues

What is the big deal about being all on tv and to hear fans screaming your name.? Celebritism is mental illness, isnt narcisism a mental illness, what about meglomania.

By the same token if the baby turns out developmentally delayedWith Retardation or Downsydrome or Aspbergers Syndrome or other possible sexual organ or genetiic disorders she will desperately try to hide it. Why hide it now. You wanted the child and the limelightDidnt you?

@BeeGee, you sure are jaded these days. Hope all gets better for you.@Tippie Toes -everything and every post is not about you. Just an FYI@ 12:57 I agree. WE are so critical of our own. I'm sooo not a Ciara fan, but I congratulate her and wish her the best. Becoming a mom for the first time has to be exciting for her.

@BeeGee, you sure are jaded these days. Hope all gets better for you.@Tippie Toes -everything and every post is not about you. Just an FYI@ 12:57 I agree. WE are so critical of our own. I'm sooo not a Ciara fan, but I congratulate her and wish her the best. Becoming a mom for the first time has to be exciting for her.______________________This coming from a no-one to me??? You best believe it's about me.#NAH#FALLBACK

For those saying that WE tend to bring ourselves down....you are correct. You know niggas are crabs in a barrel type people...we dont like to see anyone succeed, move on, move up, make change, do something they're not doing, etc. We are our own haters. The white folk done a good job at making us hate ourselves: our skin color, our men, even our women! GOOD JOB WHITE FOLK!!! *note sarcasm*

I'm a woman who hates when a childless man gives a woman with shit loads of kids a chance. Its always harder for women then men. Men can find a decent woman. Once women start having babies she's no longer seen as many men options. Unless she's drop dead gorgeous.

Yeas bad move. Exspecially sense she got all angry and sensitive when the tea was dropped about her being born with some time of mixed intersexual or hermaphaditic issue.It wasnt like all the oh ciaras a man ha ha ha ha.

It was very specific ,with details so specific she was shocked it was let out in that way with all the details . She has been trying to hide this and play it off her whole life with fake bios about her life trying hide were she was born what schools she attended, old pics of her as a preteen.

So why jump on tv now if she doesnt like the prying into her life and all the negative attention

@ 1:31... why is single parenting considered normal now?How does one man with multiple children by multiple women be an involved hands on everyday influence on his children in multiple households?Does anyone care about the spread of disease?Does lack of good judgement, or impulse control make for a good parenting traits?

I agree with 12:57. I understand commenting on the posts, but all these thesis statements and mini novels...too much invested. I personally wouldnt date a man with 3 young kids but different strokes for different folks. Is it hard to believe they may really make each other happy? Like another poster said, it takes time to get it right.

And before somebody says something dumb or irrelevant, I have one child with zero plans for another one. This world is too fucked up.

2:57 I did not know questions (to ponder) could be "counteracted" like a bomb or deadly poison....mmmmm......

Anyway statistics will you otherwise # 1

The chances of the everyday involvement, rearing is slightly better when someone is actually physically present and more so when they are invested in their children and upbringing. All kinds of data exist about children fairing better in life etc etc who grew up in healthy two parent homes.

3. Does anyone care about STD's that are plaguing the BC?

4.Your actions, deeds, tell on you, they bear the fruit. and show is prove as they say.

@Kwana, is that your real name? Anyway, questions can always be counteracted with other questions exemplifying the objective to challenge.

Statistics from whom? These statistics are created and manipulated by imperfect, everyday people. The fact that you obviously rely heavily on what "so-and-so said" says much about your intelligence. "Rearing is 'slightly' better?" Ok.

The Black community, while it does have a problem with unprotected sexual encounters, suffers from a high-rate of crime and poverty which fosters drug-use. As I said before, diseases can be the result of activities other than sex.

As "they say?" Who/what is/are "they?" Stop using imaginary, cliche people/things to support your statements, thoughts, etc. Like I said again, judgment and control are subjective. Most individuals, yourself included, rely on societal indoctrination of how they should live, talk, what they think, believe in, etc. Morality is socially constructed and upheld by and through religious realms.

@3:35, but you can't totally disregard morality as a social indoctrination, ex, killing, stealing, raping, being evil, practicing witchcraft and putting roots on someone for petty grievances, etc...you don't need "religion" or "society" to tell you those things are INHUMANE, AN ABOMINATION, totally against what God, the energy that created this universe, originally intended for us. A lot of the problems we go through, we bring on by ourselves, 60yrs ago, divorce, STDs, baby mommas and baby daddies wasn't rampant, families, espespecially black families were more wholesome. We have lost our roots as a humanity.

Why can't men stop making babies they have no interest in raising? I'm not talking about kids born from women trying to use the baby to keep some man who dumped her, I mean these guys who like getting women pregnant, like they get some thrill from it.

3:48, Morality is very socially constructed and it's based on location, too. I remember reading an article about Middle Eastern girls being married off the older men. I guess that's the norm in their countries. Some Black American women were saying things like, "I can't believe they allow that there", and "I could never do that." Those replies are expected from a person or persons foreign to another culture's way of life and thinking. We can't be so naive and ignorant to think that everyone on Earth is on the same accord and wavelength as most Americans.

No one ever answered 1:31's questions though and they were good questions. You females are afraid to answer the questions because they go against everything you believe. Quiet as kept, a man doesn't *have* to be faithful to any woman.

They said the same thing about Beyonce really being a hermaphrodite, an intersexual, which would explain her manly transvestite voice, long thick neck and manly hands, sure enough Beydumb had that website shut down before you could blink. These hollywood people are weirdos.

So then a woman doesn't have to be faithful to any man either. And why stop there anonymous? A mother doesn't have to nurture their child, and a father doesn't even have to be present or acknowledge their child, and a sister doesn't have to make an attempt to be a good sibling to her brother and vice versa. Yes, lets all live like savages. Thats the solution. *eyeroll*

3:58, But there ARE people just like the ones you mentioned. What's your point? That because some people refuse to or aren't capable of behaving within the "status quo", they're savages? It's funny you use that word so freely because we, as African-Americans, were thought of and still thought of as savages.

Fat ugly bitches can be happily married????? What's up with me who's single, in shape, pretty and has one of my degrees????? Men always only like me in the beginning. Ladies give me some of your advice.

Question: Why do men have to be faithful? Like, why? Why are they punished because they want to be with more than one woman or have children by more than one woman? Why is there a pressure for everybody to be faithful? And in situations like these, why would Ciara expect marriage and fidelity when Future has had multiple women prior? _____________________I will take a stab at this and try my hardest to remain objective...

Why do men have to be faithful? Men don't have to be faithful however in times of fatal STD's the broken structure of the black family and to sustain the value of a woman, mother and wife perhaps there should be discretion used when thinking of being unfaithful. Not just for the female but for the male also - women do tire of immature men and their antics.Why are they punished because they want to be with more than one woman or have children by more than one woman? By punished you mean what exactly? Having to provide financially for all the off spring one man wants to populate the world with isn't punishment IMO. Having children by more than one woman isn't the worse caveat society has to face but it can and has become a detriment to the black family once again.Why is there a pressure for everybody to be faithful? I get what you are saying here - basically it is an individual choice to be or remain faithful - however again the destruction it causes to lives and families, the economy etc one should always think with the head with the brain in it not the head that gets brainsAnd in situations like these, why would Ciara expect marriage and fidelity when Future has had multiple women prior? I think we have all made an assumption that Ciara expects fidelity from Future...that may be the furthest priority on her mind right now

@3:48 n point & the beginning of a solution would be to get rid of all of these social programs. Sec8, aid, welfare. Instead of depending on each other (Church) relatives.We depended on the govt. That led to communites weakening & subsequently families. These programs were for votes. Google LBJ racist comments. It led to uch destruction. But we are to blame ourselves for allowing this to happen. That would ba start

Tippie, what do you mean "...to sustain the value of a woman?" Are you implying that the value of a woman can only be measured if she's married, has children, and her husband is faithful to her? 1:31 posed great questions that our society refuses to answer. Society has created all of these problems, and we encourage and support them by trying to live up to what it has created.

Infidelity and excessive reproduction are problems because we are cornered and are forced into living one way in this country. You can't try to govern 300 million people and expect no problems. Fidelity has to do with the individual person and what's expected of them through the eyes of a domineering society.

Tippie, what do you mean "...to sustain the value of a woman?" Are you implying that the value of a woman can only be measured if she's married, has children, and her husband is faithful to her? ____________________Not at all - I'm a divorcee a single parent who has a career and is independent - a man nor a child validates me but what I'm saying is men in general need to respect the idea of a woman a lot better now than they use to. I hold my value high I'm not engaging in bullshit so that I have a man to call my own. With that being said it is a lot of men out here who do not value the woman they have at home. It has to start somewhere.

If a man doesn't want to be faithful he needs to stop stringing women along by pretending to want a relationship.____________________________Men rarely know what they want - it's not his fault he is just not wired like that - so yeah one minute, year or years he is great with having just one and then one day he will wake up be stuck on him and not the relationship and then one day he will wake up and be stuck on you and not him. They don't know a lot of times.#NOEXCUSETHO

We really are forced to be faithful and to only reproduce with the person we are in a relationship with. That is pressure within itself. I am not making excuses for anyone or anything, but people fail to step back and look at the bigger pictures. Fidelity and having children are not the sole responsibility of the man. Women need to stop being unrealistic about relationships, and unless a woman was human trafficked/sexually abused/raped, she is in control of pregnancies. What about people who are faithful, but did not disclose the fact that they caught Herpes back in college? Or that they caught Gonorrhea when they had that one night stand years ago? You all are not being real. I know there are plenty of you in here with multiple children by multiple people, and there are those of you who regularly have unprotected sex. These comments and this topic has you feeling a certain way because it is relative and relevant to you or someone you know.

4:19 PM - no that wont work. That would only increase the crime rate. Communites should employ residents. More businesses need to be created. If the Black community would adopt the Chinese or Hispanic way of thinking, things would be different. But that will never happen because the Black community (the ghetto) is high business for the government. therofroe his foot will stay on the necks of those who live in those areas. the best thing you can do at this point is MOVE!

Quite easy @ 4:19p we were supposed to continue on the path that MLK, JFK, Malcom, Rosa Parks, Harriet Tubman set a light for us - we detoured and we are suffering as a result. However a small few can make a huge difference if passionate and fortified enough. I do know I can not fix all problems but I can fix the ones I see around me and for me that starts with my mindset and how I view life, society, my community etc. I would have to make some changes in order to see change around me.

@ 4:02, the whole premise of your argument is that men are not obligated to be faithful, so I'm asking you, are women obligated then? Are parenta not obligated to play thwie role? So if a man by free will agrees to a relationship, should he not play his role as, a comitted, faithful husband, boyfriend, fiance? And who cares what others thinks about blacks? A savage is a savage, you think . Whites have a 60% divorce rate and single parent issues because they're the beacon virtues? We areon a moral decline regardless of color or culture,, and you think men are special , that their dirt is justified,.

4:40 PM - dang! yall dont know ANYTHING about the ghetto huh?? Yes, the Black community was coming together, and the government didnt take that too well, so they flooded the ghettos with drugs..then guns...then took away businesses that kept the community from proverty. SO, with drugs, taking businesses and replacing them with foreign owned liquor stores, and couple that with the flood of firearms- and there you have it! A jungle

you cant blame the people though- how would you feel if your job was taken, you cant get another one based on the economy, there is no support and drugs are as easily accessible as a leaf on a tree- most people - EVEN caucasians wouldnt survive- this is/ was a calculated attack on the black community

our "coon" contribuation is turning on one another- the same thing we learned as slaves (we, meaning Black people- cuz eventhough you may have never been a slave, you still carry that slave mentality.)

You know what individuals can do? Be the example perhaps. Be the change you want to see. Show is prove no matter who says it, you are a direct reflection of your actions. It is a measure of you. Intent matters not. It is not even a debate. Chile people are so lost it is not even funny but rather sad and scary.

but by viewing 5:24 PM comment, I see its a loosing battle. people like that shouldnt live in ghetto communities- you'd have to be blind deaf and dumb not to realize that the Black lower class community needs HELP! but of course, youre slave mind turns against the ones that look just like you. I bet the poster LOVES the whites though cuz massah does nothin wrong

5:36She looks like a handsome man. GTFOH, that chick is long muscular with big veined hands and feet. If she didn't have plastic tits she would really look like a dude. I'm surprised she can bear fruit...

LOL another proposal due to a pregnancy , hot damn! I would only say yes to a man that loved me dearly and all that romantic shit, never because he knocked me up....call me old fashioned and idealistic.

@5:13. The govn' knew exactly where ro put drugs, projects, liquor stors. They knew we were weak & fall fornything. There was a term for us. Theycalled'us "Simple-Minded Darkies". They felt we had the mentality of children.We have fallen for all of their tricks with ease. Those programs did "help" anyone. Those programs were put inn place to weaken the black community. No men in the household. We'fell'for iy. But we don't have anyone to blame but ourselves. Iwould leave out if the walking over crack heads, drug dealers, even relatives. But IT did'nt do dope. Csn't blame anyone else when IT satrted having sex, although I as grown. People open your eyes & stop falling for the yin yang. Just google LBJ racist comments & you will'see the truth about the beloved Welfare system

lmao- its a tad bit deeper than that. Try reading Assata Shakur, or mostly any Black panther bio. That was the era when the initial attack took form. Its actually public knowledge, thats why Im baffled by Black on Black discrimination!

I'm like wow!! they actually noted this, wrote it down and released it to the public, and we still continue to act this way??? Its literally amazes me

5:49 PM - I get what youre saying, but I live in the Valley, there are visibly more whites on welfare than blacks. I mean, I dont go into the offices and calculate, but its seems more Blacks over this way are working, and whites arent.

Once again Jian aka Niybinga warrior...aka alot of anon post by her also on this same thread. Spamming all the post on RWS trying beat and force Her opionions down everyones throat. Not to Warrior AKAJian and all your other names this is... not ...your Blog!!!

5:58 PM - really????? RWS- pls post ANYTHING about Beyonce and watch black folks, who never even met her tear her apart

Now- take a walk over to Perez Hilton- have him post ANYTHING about Britney Spear, you'll see the difference. Brittney went bat shit crazy, and she cant even sing or dance, but they (whites) LOVE and suppoert her to no end, and thats a fact

@5:36 PM - Ive heard people say that she is really pretty and pictures do her no justice. I do think she is a cute girl, I just want to see her in person for my self. too bad Im not invited to the grammys after party lolcongrats Cici- she does look amazing while pregnant. How do celebs do that? There must be some pretty pregnant pill that theyre selling in tinseltown lol

Why is Beyonce being used as a reference point for "tearing each other down", you say this dumb statement whenever there's an intelligent debate about black culture, then here comes one of her idiotic stans. Beyilliterate wishes she was Latina, has 4 nose jobs just to look like old Meryl Streep. Newsflash, Beyfraud stoped being black a long time ago. She can't even string together a complete sentence in an interview. Anyway Ciara should have settled for a man with 0 to 1 kids.

All this black weakness blaming whites for everything we go through is bull because then you have to accept that all the good that comes and how far you go is also attributed to the whites how bout everyone just take responsibility go to school ,say no to drugs, don't get pregnant as a teen ( no birth control then don't f***!) there are no excuses move forward STOP LOOKING BACK if drinking, smoking and whoring is whiteys setup why does everyone KEEP falling for the okie doke do they not have brains!!

People like YOU are part of the problem of "blacks" keep making excuses for their bullshit.

I didn't grow up in a "ghetto community"; I grew up in a middle-class family in a diverse neighborhood, went to school and got a job and career. I didn't wait for anyone to "help" me; I put on my big boy pants went out and hustled (the legit way). I seized the opportunities that came my way if I felt that I benefited from them.

I'm doing ME and I'm not waiting for some savior to come rescue me. That's another problem with you niggas, staying "prayed up" and fearing the white man.

These so called celebrities and their baby bumps. Big damn deal women get knocked up every day and men been dropping their seeds all over the world since the beginning of time! They get angry when people talk about them on the blogs but they are all over the media showing off.