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Hey try not to be embarrassed about the age difference. Embarrassment doesn't help any date, same age or not. He sounds wise enough to know that bowling is better than a movie date, because its social.Also dinner is not always a good idea if there is unequal resources, also being older, you might fee like you have to pay and he might be more of a 50-50 guy. Sounds like he has a head on his shoulders, at least.Just be a little embarrassed if you suck at bowling. Otherwise, play the date by ear and have an open mind. If he's good company at the minimum it will be a pleasant evening, even if you discover theres no romance in the cards.

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Darry, you are listening to your high school voice of death way to much as in you're not the right this or that, it's too big, it's too small, you're not enough and all that other tired old stuff. Dump it overboard.

Tell the guy you're looking forward to seeing him and may have to depend on him for a bowling tutorial since it's been a long time since you've done it. He's not blind. He knows you're older. Let him discover you as you are. Being yourself is what you will do best. Let him see what he sees and think what he thinks. That kind of freedom in a dating situation can help keep things moving.

So just enjoy yourself and let the chips fall where they may. And we are expecting a report.

Darry, you are listening to your high school voice of death way to much

Andy, you are EXACTLY right!!! It almost feels like I'm in high school again. It takes a lot to get back into dating after avoiding it for a while (I haven't really dated much since my brain surgery in 2010). But it's definitely time to "get back on the horse".

I see nothing but opportunity here...Tell him you are horrible at bowling and will need some lessons, make it fun. Have him show you the correct way to hold the ball by having him stand behind you and make him reach around and on, and on..

I see nothing but opportunity here...Tell him you are horrible at bowling and will need some lessons, make it fun. Have him show you the correct way to hold the ball by having him stand behind you and make him reach around and on, and on..

When I attended Penn State (Go Nittany Lions!) I was aghast that a certain amount of athletics were required of all students. I took bowling my first semester, and I can at least say that I wasn't the worst in the class.

my best "sport" as a youngin' was ping pong. I also did well in gymnastics. total body flips believe it or else. the only broken bone I had came from playing football (neighborhood game), and yes it was tackle! I reached for the guy and his foot hit my thumb. it was a 3 mile bike ride home on gravel roads. Mom feels guilty to this day.

and yes it was tackle! I reached for the guy and his foot hit my thumb. it was a 3 mile bike ride home on gravel roads. Mom feels guilty to this day.

PLEASE NANCY MAN UP! When I was a kid I was playing tackle football and was dragged across of the broken bottom part of one of those 32oz thick GLASS coca cola bottles(most of you youngins wont remember those bottles), and had to have have 132 stitches and undergo surgery to repair muscle.

Darry... this thread is all about you and not us, so ...

Go..be yourself, have fun. If this young guy invited you out, then clearly he already likes you! If it is only a one time thing, then so be it, go have fun!! No one says you ahve to marry the kid!! You deserve this so do it with no reservations

First of all, the date began at 3:00pm on Wednesday. It is now 2:00am Thursday and I just got home. So clearly it went VERY well.

I lucked out at the bowling alley. The group 2 lanes over had a player who was FAR worse than me. I actually did amazingly well. I broke 100 in 3 of 4 games and had my highest bowling score of all time - 129.

I had not intended to disclose my HIV status as this was a first date and we're still a VERY long way from any intimacy. However, the opportunity presented itself so I went for it. The response was more positive than I could have possibly expected.

We will be seeing each other again on Friday.

Thanks for all the advice and support!!! I guess I'm officially back in the dating pool.

You know, the age distance between myself and my boyfriend of two years is 22 years.

He is also HIV Negative (as of two weeks ago - it's not like I follow him around).

We have a lot in common, and a lot not. And it's not a gulf that divides us completely. At least not now.

He loves me. He worries about me. And I love and worry about him. His wages are four times mine. He pays for dinner most of the time. He paid for our last pet's euthanasia, and paid for the pet after that.

No matter what the outcome, don't be afraid to open your arms out and do a trust-fall from time to time. Hurts like shitbags when you roadrash yourself. But the times you don't are priceless.

Best of bowling to you both.

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You know, the age distance between myself and my boyfriend of two years is 22 years.

My last boyfriend was 18 years younger than me. I figured this guy was around the same. I actually hadn't bothered to ask his age before last night.

Turns out he is 22 - only 9 days older than my son. So 25 years younger than me. It's funny, I didn't notice the age difference when we were together. It's when we're NOT together that the doubts start creeping in.

This morning I mentioned to my son that I went on a date with a guy his age and he thinks it's cool that the old man is able to "slam" (his word) someone so young (I didn't tell him there hasn't been any slamming.....yet)

My last boyfriend was 18 years younger than me. I figured this guy was around the same. I actually hadn't bothered to ask his age before last night.

Turns out he is 22 - only 9 days older than my son. So 25 years younger than me. It's funny, I didn't notice the age difference when we were together. It's when we're NOT together that the doubts start creeping in.

This morning I mentioned to my son that I went on a date with a guy his age and he thinks it's cool that the old man is able to "slam" (his word) someone so young (I didn't tell him there hasn't been any slamming.....yet)

I'm feeling very lucky right now. In addition to not caring about my HIV status, the guy I mentioned earlier in this thread also doesn't care about my complete lack of coordination and skill.

Tonight wasn't our first pool game together, but it was definitely one of the worst I ever played. And there were REALLY good pool players at the next table who kept rolling their eyes every time I took a shot.

The only advice I'll offer, is to forget everyone around you, including what they may think, because all that really matters, is the bond the two of you are creating. I imagine you would not let any other person disturb your dates with this guy, so be careful that you are not that person.