no good reason to get married these days

no good reason to get married these days! Can anyone think of a good point of getting married!

1. I get sex on a regular basis.
2. don't have the annoyance of a woman calling my house all day.
3. I really don't believe a man should take care of a woman. women should work at all times exactly like a man should, or starve.

the reason I bring is up is because, I've been talking to this girl for a while (I also have 5 women on the side) and she's trying to judge me saying. every man should get married at some point in his life. this I feel is very judgmental and wrong, what do you all think? also she's bringing up the baby conversations, ridiculous.

I will never be, and i will never have children either. (Dont like them)

But most people want to find someone and settle down with, have children and live the "normal way of life", and i dont judge them for that choice tho.

Edit: Also about what she says, what is her arguments?
From my view, i see people getting married, haveing children, getting a divorce and then move along to the next person, have some more children. And on and on. How is that healthy for anyone, or the children.
Some keep together sure, but not that many

Last edited by Aspect of Death; 2013-02-17 at 11:29 PM.

“The worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I hate that.”

Right, as the world goes, is only in question between equals in power, while the strong do what they can and the weak suffer what they must.

- Thucydides

There is a modern myth that people have always tended towards democracy, constitutions, electoral rights; but in truth, love of freedom has never been the predominant note of popular politics. At most times, popular demand has been for a strong government.

Its to show your commitment to the person you love. Amongst other things.

Why do you have to get married to do that? The legal contract of marriage is useful, but hardly necessary.

Right, as the world goes, is only in question between equals in power, while the strong do what they can and the weak suffer what they must.

- Thucydides

There is a modern myth that people have always tended towards democracy, constitutions, electoral rights; but in truth, love of freedom has never been the predominant note of popular politics. At most times, popular demand has been for a strong government.

Being married helps me not only be with the love of my wife, but i get benefits from the government.
i do not need to worry about paying my tuition now when i go to school for my computer engineering degree.

sounds like you don't fully understand the concept of marriage, since we are going here.

1.) The intent of being married is to be with the one you love for the rest of your life, having sex on a regular basis is a part of marriage, but not the whole enchilada
2.) your second statement has no relevance to being married as i don't have that issue, sounds like a big misconception you have there
3.) you have another misconception of marriage where you automatically assume that the man is the breadwinner and the woman stays at home, again that is false. every marriage is different so i don't know how you formulated these things.

you either are too young and are boasting off to sound cool or you really never understood the definition of marriage. lol. Hope you find what you are looking for.

Not trying to be harsh to you man but the way you put it off makes me sound like you are trying to rile things up.

Why do you have to get married to do that? The legal contract of marriage is useful, but hardly necessary.

You dont, but go ahead and tell your fiance (if you have or will have one) that you dont want to get married because its "hardly necessary". Most of the time that wont go down well. Plus its a nice tradition and you dont really have to shell out thousands of pounds on it.

1.) The intent of being married is to be with the one you love for the rest of your life

See, this is highly unrealistic. It works when the average lifespan is around thirty, but I think a lot less drama would occur if people treated marriage less as a lifetime contract than a long-term contract. Like dating for a decade or so, realising you had a good time and have a lot of respect for each other, but want to pursue other options.

Those couples that remain friends after being divorced, I have nothing but respect for.

Right, as the world goes, is only in question between equals in power, while the strong do what they can and the weak suffer what they must.

- Thucydides

There is a modern myth that people have always tended towards democracy, constitutions, electoral rights; but in truth, love of freedom has never been the predominant note of popular politics. At most times, popular demand has been for a strong government.

Ideally you should not have someone lecturing you on the merits of marriage when she cannot take criticism for how she lives her life. Obviously she has not considered the costs of creating and caring for children of her own.

Some reasons I can justify not getting married at present are:

1. Financial situation, holding down a job for a decent period of time to support a family.
2. I still have stuff to do before I consider myself ready for a lifelong commitment like that, this should not be taken lightly at all.
3. Finding the "right" one, I won't go flying around to and fro just looking for someone out of the blue. Usually when you least expect it, they would come to you if you put yourself out there normally.
4. Making mistakes resulting in divorce, this one is really a hot button issue for me. Nowadays there's barely any prenuptial agreements if things do go south anyways. Haste makes mistakes in this case in choosing someone, I don't feel like doling out 50% of my stuff to someone that is a leech at best. I doubt even if its legal in most states though.

Ultimately, the choice is up to your personal comfort level and what you feel like doing with your life in the end. If the marriage is forced, arranged, or whatever in negative circumstances under duress, then I wouldn't consider it to be legitimate anyways.

if they got rid of the tax breaks tomorrow i would remain married. it has meaning for me personally. i dont expect everybody to feel the same way though, and if they dont then my opinion is that they should not get married