"And I'm finally comfortable enough for everyone to know this truth about me. Thanks for following me and supporting me over the years. As we continue our journey, I hope this news won't change how you see me."

"I'm still the same Cody I always was. You just know a little more about me now. My hope for the future is to live the most honest, authentic, loving, and open life possible."

"Here's to being happy with yourself, no matter who you are, who you love, where you come from, or what cards life has dealt you. Thanks again. With much heart, Cody."

Alan shares two children, ages 18 and 14, with his ex-wife.

In a follow-up chat with People, he says he got married because he thought that would help him get over his feelings.

"I felt like getting married was what I was supposed to do," Alan explains. "It's what everyone wanted me to do, and I felt, somehow, like maybe that's what would make me straight—and obviously that's not how it works! But I dreamed of that family, which I now have."

"I couldn't, in good conscience. It wasn't fair to her. Everyone needs to give 100 percent of their heart for a true, committed relationship. But ultimately, my ex and I knew there was no way that could ever happen."