hit a wall...

Last month I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. The pregnancy was not exactly ideal...We have a DD who will be 8 months old in 2 weeks, we were not trying to conceive this soon but regardless we were very happy and excited. I had no idea how much a miscarriage could destroy a person...The first week I just laid in bed and cried and then I got out of bed and went about my regular day to day life, taking care of LO and starting my new job.But all of a sudden I've hit a wall of depression. All I can think about is that baby. I'm angry all the time....and I burst into tears whenever something becomes remotely frustrating. My DH told me tonight we could try for another baby. But I don't want another baby...I want the one that I had....

Last month I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. The pregnancy was not exactly ideal...We have a DD who will be 8 months old in 2 weeks, we were not trying to conceive this soon but regardless we were very happy and excited. I had no idea how much a miscarriage could destroy a person...The first week I just laid in bed and cried and then I got out of bed and went about my regular day to day life, taking care of LO and starting my new job.But all of a sudden I've hit a wall of depression. All I can think about is that baby. I'm angry all the time....and I burst into tears whenever something becomes remotely frustrating. My DH told me tonight we could try for another baby. But I don't want another baby...I want the one that I had....

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the feeling, we lost our baby girl at 18 weeks on November 2. People say "at least you can try again", but I want the baby I lost. I don't think the pain of loss ever goes away, but it gets easier to bear. I often think of our daughter, I had so many hopes and dreams for her. As soon as I got pregnant I had those hopes and dreams and those feelings don't go away. You aren't alone, Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs to you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the feeling, we lost our baby girl at 18 weeks on November 2. People say "at least you can try again", but I want the baby I lost. I don't think the pain of loss ever goes away, but it gets easier to bear. I often think of our daughter, I had so many hopes and dreams for her. As soon as I got pregnant I had those hopes and dreams and those feelings don't go away. You aren't alone, Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs to you.

I feel like I could have wrote this post myself. And noone understands why NOW I'm feeling like this! To make matters worse I started my first period since the mc and it was just another big fat reminder of what happened. I completely feel your pain and so very sorry you have to go through it as well. Hopefully one day it'll be better!

I feel like I could have wrote this post myself. And noone understands why NOW I'm feeling like this! To make matters worse I started my first period since the mc and it was just another big fat reminder of what happened. I completely feel your pain and so very sorry you have to go through it as well. Hopefully one day it'll be better!

Oh ladies, I'm so sorry you're I'm this sad sisterhood of broken hearts. It's horrible and unfair and at times seems like more pain than anyone could/should have to bear. And yes, it comes in waves of grief. We lost our baby girl at 23 weeks to incompetent cervix in Oct. 2010. I still feel overwhelmed by sadness, longing, wistfulness at times, but the painful moments are fewer and further between. I swore I would never feel really genuinely happy again. Thank God, I was wrong. We got pregnant almost right away, in December of last year and now have a healthy 4 month old little boy who is the sweetest, cutest, most darling little guy ever! Unless you've had a loss, you don't understand how hurtful/meaningless it is to say "at least you're young, you can have another, this baby wasn't meant to be, s/he's in heaven now- your angel..." I want MY baby, here, with me!!! And poor Daddy is in his own world of grief, also having lost his baby, but is confused because he doesn't have the same bond you did, and therefore feels like he could "fix" the pain by having another baby. I promise you, it gets infinitely better. Live in the moment, feel the pain when it comes, and also feel the smiles when they start coming more and more. Cry/vent to the people who love you and are willing to listen, pray as hard as you can. As soon as you can fathom it, and you're medically cleared, try again. I wish you all do much live and happiness and sweet smelling baby cuddles. It will come.

Oh ladies, I'm so sorry you're I'm this sad sisterhood of broken hearts. It's horrible and unfair and at times seems like more pain than anyone could/should have to bear. And yes, it comes in waves of grief. We lost our baby girl at 23 weeks to incompetent cervix in Oct. 2010. I still feel overwhelmed by sadness, longing, wistfulness at times, but the painful moments are fewer and further between. I swore I would never feel really genuinely happy again. Thank God, I was wrong. We got pregnant almost right away, in December of last year and now have a healthy 4 month old little boy who is the sweetest, cutest, most darling little guy ever! Unless you've had a loss, you don't understand how hurtful/meaningless it is to say "at least you're young, you can have another, this baby wasn't meant to be, s/he's in heaven now- your angel..." I want MY baby, here, with me!!! And poor Daddy is in his own world of grief, also having lost his baby, but is confused because he doesn't have the same bond you did, and therefore feels like he could "fix" the pain by having another baby. I promise you, it gets infinitely better. Live in the moment, feel the pain when it comes, and also feel the smiles when they start coming more and more. Cry/vent to the people who love you and are willing to listen, pray as hard as you can. As soon as you can fathom it, and you're medically cleared, try again. I wish you all do much live and happiness and sweet smelling baby cuddles. It will come.

call your Dr and tell them. I did and my Dr called in some sleeping pills. I had been having nightmares about the baby. the night before I called I had a dream about the baby moving inside me and I woke up just before I felt it realizing I would never feel that baby alive inside me. my job is very stressful too. I literally had a breakdown at work and called my Dr hysterical for help. after a couple good nights' rest, I felt much more emotionally stable. it still hurts, but I am able to grieve without being hysterical now. maybe you don't realize you aren't getting restful sleep. it is with a shot. god bless you and your angel.

call your Dr and tell them. I did and my Dr called in some sleeping pills. I had been having nightmares about the baby. the night before I called I had a dream about the baby moving inside me and I woke up just before I felt it realizing I would never feel that baby alive inside me. my job is very stressful too. I literally had a breakdown at work and called my Dr hysterical for help. after a couple good nights' rest, I felt much more emotionally stable. it still hurts, but I am able to grieve without being hysterical now. maybe you don't realize you aren't getting restful sleep. it is with a shot. god bless you and your angel.

Thank you for you sharing your stories and your advice ladies. I am very sorry you all have gone through this. To the person who commented about sleeping pills I may try that. Ironically I posted this in the middle of the night and I never realized there may be a connection between the two.

Thank you for you sharing your stories and your advice ladies. I am very sorry you all have gone through this. To the person who commented about sleeping pills I may try that. Ironically I posted this in the middle of the night and I never realized there may be a connection between the two.

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