I went out with another girl behind my girlfriend's back and found that she likes me. What to do now?

This girl from my English class asked me going out and I accepted. without telling my girlfriend about her and telling her that I have a girlfriend.First I was thinking on normal friends going out but then I fond that she likes me she holds my hand and e kissed goodbye.I'm confused right now and don't know what to do.and what is right and what is wrong?

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Its clear to me that you knew this was a more than friends situation because you did so behind your girlfriends back. I think what was shocking to you, was that she returned the feelings that you did. I think you had hoped you could hang out with her without your girlfriend knowing but you didn't expect her to have real feelings for you too.

So now you're at a cross roads and you need to decide whether or not you pursue this new girl, or you stick to your girlfriend. There really isn't much to be confused about, and I can't tell you which girl to choose because I don't know either and I don't know you.

There isn't any right or wrong in this situation because it's your life. The best advice I can give you is whatever you do, whoever you end up trying to forge a relationship with, remember the humanity of the other person. Acknowledge their feelings and realize that you're going to hurt someone, and that's okay. You just need to be prepared to take what ever emotions are going to be thrown at you because you deserve them. But, in the grand scheme of things you need to do what's best for you and ultimately this decision will be better for both of them as well.

Yeah, hurting people sucks. We all have to though. Part of life is hurting people, that doesn't make us bad. What makes us bad is hurting people and not being able to accept their hurt. Or hurting people because we can. Have an honest conversation with the both of them (SEPERATELY!). See where you both want things to go. Honest conversations are awkward and brutal sometimes but they're so worth having!

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You have a couple of options. I would suggest that you tell English class girl that you have a gf assuming you want to stay with her and shouldn't have done what you did. If she runs and tells your gf, well, that's on you. What you did was douchey, but things do happen. You may have to face consequences for your actions and take this as a lesson learned.

Whatever you do you need to be honest with your girlfriend because she would want to find out from you. If you truly loved your girl you would tell her and work through it but if you're in a relationship that makes you want more from others you need to end it and go with your heart on the matter.

Your girlfriend should boost your self esteem! If you want both you have to be open and honest with both parties because it's unfair on both girls if you keep them a secret from each other. I speak from personal experience. I would have been a lot more open to the idea if my partner at the time had just told me.

In that case, I think it's the right thing to choose one. You can't be seeing two people and lie about it. It's going to end in disaster and both women will respect you so much less. That's just my perspective as a female.

Oh my gosh! Please don't ruin a good relationship because your friends have been boasting about the girls they've been with. Quality over quantity. You should never feel like a loser because of your "count". Just make your sex life really fun and spicy!

I understand how you feel, but maybe you'll come to realise that it's not about the number. Talk to your boys! Just because you can cheat doesn't mean you should or it'll win you cool points with your guys. It's a delicate situation and you should do what feels right for you, keeping in mind not to hurt or be pressured by others. If they're pressuring you maybe they're not the best people do be around. Sex isn't a competition.

What do you do?You stop being a sleazy, grimy little skank, do your girlfriend a favor and break up with her because she deserves better. What you're doing is wrong. It's so tacky, tactless, and inconsiderate. Do your girlfriend a favor and leave her so she can find a man who actually as a moral compass.

Yes she's from Turkey too and didn't you knew that Turkey is located in Europe. Its nothing to do about counties in general its a fact that men and women are equal in somethings and aren't in some other things. And when it comes to relationship they aren't equal they are different with different needs and behaviors.

Who am I to judge you and say what is your punishment do what you want to do but if I was your BF then I'll leave you for that.I think you are so negative about people from middle east or at general people from Islamic countries because of western media.

Women and Men aren't equal in America, yet. In fact we live in a very patriarchal society still, and you'd be shocked to know that countries that are seen as more misogynistic than we are have had more female influence in politics, relgion and other important social groups.

Now, I feel you are being very unfair to him. I think this may come from your own insecurity, but, relationships are complicated. In fact, monogamy is complicated. We, especially men, weren't biologically designed to be in monogamous relationships. Now this isn't to say that men should go out and fuck who ever they want because biology told them so. We've broken the barriers of biology before, its just difficult. No one is perfect and we know nothing about the relationship he's in, or about the girl he's thinking about seeing.

Mayalynn you're an idiot. Common sense tells people that what he is doing is wrong. This is not about making mistakes, people cheat because they WANT to. Yes we know nothing about the girl or him, but the way he is thinking is very selfish in my opinion.

I am so proud to be unfaithful as there are people who put forward the argument of male biology as an excuse to sugarcoat cheating.