Do’s and Don’ts – How To Help Someone Who Is Grieving

The VNA of Hanover & Spring Grove extends their deepest sympathy for the loss of your loved one. We would like to be able to help you walk through your grief, at your own pace. We will be glad to help you in any way that we can. Please feel free to contact us by calling: 717-637-1227 or 1-800-422-3197.

How to Help

DO say you are sorry about what happened and about their pain.

DO encourage them to be patient with themselves, not to expect too much of themselves and not to impose any “shoulds” on themselves.

DO remember they continue to need your caring and support after the first few weeks or months have passed.

DON’T let your own sense of helplessness keep you from reaching out.

DON’T avoid them because you are uncomfortable (being avoided by friends adds pain to an already painful experience).

DON’T say “you ought to be feeling better by now” or anything else that implies a judgment about their feelings.

DON’T change the subject when they mention their loss or their loved one.

DON’T avoid mentioning their loss out of fear of reminding them of their pain (you can be sure they haven’t forgotten it).

DON’T make any comments which in any way suggest that their loss was their fault (There will be enough feelings of doubt and guilt).

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