Fred Maroun is a Canadian of Arab origin who lived in Lebanon until 1984, including during 10 years of civil war. Fred supports Israel's right to exist as a Jewish state, and he supports a liberal and democratic Middle East where all religions and nationalities, including Palestinians, can co-exist in peace with each other and with Israel. More blogs by Fred Maroun can be found at http://www.jpost.com/Blogger/Fred-Maroun and http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/author/fred-maroun/.

Thursday, November 6, 2014

Why Do Canadian Men Behave Like Pigs?

The ongoing Jian Ghomeshi scandal in Canada has
brought the issue of violence against women to the forefront, and I find myself
shaking my head and wondering why so many Canadian men behave like pigs towards
women.

Jian Ghomeshi who for many years was known as a
charming and talented radio host, appears now to have been physically abusing
many women for many years with impunity (Ghomeshi’s
staff complained about ‘culture of fear’). It is reported that Ghomeshi’s abuse affected
many women, all his staff knew about it, it was even reported within the
organization, but Ghomeshi’s abuse was allowed to continue.

In September 2003, a story broke out about a chant promoting
rape in main events of Frosh Week at the University Of British Columbia Sauder
School Of Business. Not having learned anything from the UBC
incident, a similar chant was reported at Saint Mary’s University in Halifax the
following year. Apparently, Frosh
leaders, both at St. Mary’s and at UBC said “it’s just lyrics, it’s just a
chant, they had no meaning behind it” (Frosh
week controversies).

In November 2014, two players from the University of
Ottawa Gee-Gees hockey team were charged with sexually assaulting a young woman
in a Thunder Bay hotel during a game trip seven months earlier (University
of Ottawa sexual assault scandal highlights campus rape culture). Taking no chances, the university president
Allan Rock suspended the entire team, but his caution was criticized by
students as “unfair”.

Radio hosts and university students are considered to
be among the most educated Canadians, and such educated people are expected to
understand that women are not their sexual toys. Some people have suggested that Canadian
universities have a “rape culture” (Canadian
universities tackle campus rape culture).
I think that the problem extends far beyond universities.

According to Canada’s Department of Justice, “the
highest number of police-reported sexual offences were against girls between
the ages of 11 to 19, peaking at age 13 (781 per 100,000 population)” (Statistics
on Sexual Assault). Think about this
for a minute: Thirteen years old girls are the favourite target of
rapists. The same document also states
that “78% of sexual assaults were not reported to the police”; other reports
give even higher numbers, going as high as 94% (http://www.sexassault.ca/statistics.htm).

One could argue that 781 per 100,000 population is
only 0.78% and therefore not representative of the general Canadian
population. However, since only 78% of
sexual assaults are reported, the actual rate is 3.5%. In addition, the 3.5% rate of rape is only the
tip of the iceberg. Sexual misconduct goes
well beyond rape. In June 2013, almost
300 current and former female RCMP officers joined a class-action lawsuit
alleging harassment in the workplace (282
join RCMP sexual harassment class-action lawsuit).

According to the Canadian Labour Congress, “10% of
women 18 to 24 years of age report having experienced sexual harassment in the
workplace within the previous 12 months” (Women's
Health and Safety). At this rate, it
is not hard to imagine that most women in Canada have experienced sexual harassment
at least once in their lives. In fact,
the private company Canadian
Labour Relations estimates that over 90% of women in Canada have been
sexually harassed at least once. This is
far beyond an innocent Frosh week chant; this indicates a sense of entitlement
on the part of men towards women and girls.

This is clearly not a Canadian problem only, but we
pride ourselves on being better than the rest of the world. We have a reputation for being polite,
liberal, and egalitarian. Perhaps we do
not deserve it. The reality is that the
vast majority of Canadian men have behaved like pigs at one point or another in
their lives, and many, like Ghomeshi, appear to feel fully entitled to do so as
often as they wish. It is not just our
universities that have a twisted idea of sexual consent; this syndrome appears to
be widely shared among men in our society.

I don’t know why men do this. Perhaps we have not yet evolved beyond the
caveman mentality. Perhaps we are unable
to handle modern life, and we take out our frustrations on those who cannot
defend themselves; after all, sexual violence is violence, not sex. Whatever the reason, we should be ashamed of ourselves,
but most importantly we need to change.
There is no excuse.

Note: a modified version of this blog was published at http://newcanadianmedia.ca/item/21281.

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Fred is a Canadian of Arab origin who supports Israel's right to exist as a Jewish state. He also supports a liberal and democratic Middle East where all religions and nationalities, including Palestine, can co-exist in peace with each other and with Israel, and where human rights are respected.