share chores?

Im prego with twins and feel exausted all the time at 26 weeks. i was pretty tiny before i was pregnant so even tho i dont work anymore until the babies get here i still feel for at least once in our relationship he should help out. but he throws it in my face that he works. but even if i was working i would maintain the household. but it seems like hes clueless about how to care for a giant pregnant person. lol anyone else feel this way or do you share chores?

Im prego with twins and feel exausted all the time at 26 weeks. i was pretty tiny before i was pregnant so even tho i dont work anymore until the babies get here i still feel for at least once in our relationship he should help out. but he throws it in my face that he works. but even if i was working i would maintain the household. but it seems like hes clueless about how to care for a giant pregnant person. lol anyone else feel this way or do you share chores?

i feel the same way! we have 15 month old and he's a truck driver! he is gone all week and is home on the weekend! I do everything during the week and when he comes I don't want to do anything so I will ask him...he flips out bc he works ALL week and doesn't get anytime to "relax". first of all...he sits on his butt and moves his legs and arms occasionally! I would like help with the dishes or dinner or better yet...our daughter! idk what to do or how to get him to help out...if you figure something out let me know and vise versa!

i feel the same way! we have 15 month old and he's a truck driver! he is gone all week and is home on the weekend! I do everything during the week and when he comes I don't want to do anything so I will ask him...he flips out bc he works ALL week and doesn't get anytime to "relax". first of all...he sits on his butt and moves his legs and arms occasionally! I would like help with the dishes or dinner or better yet...our daughter! idk what to do or how to get him to help out...if you figure something out let me know and vise versa!

We have three year old b/g twins, and a son that will be one on July 12th. What we do is rotate whose " turn" it is doing certain chores. For example: One night I do bottles and dishes, next night my hubby does. I do usually do laundry during the day while he is at work, but that's the most convienant time for that. But everything else is equal share here. Or at least we try to make it equal. I do the laundry he takes out the garbage.

We have three year old b/g twins, and a son that will be one on July 12th. What we do is rotate whose " turn" it is doing certain chores. For example: One night I do bottles and dishes, next night my hubby does. I do usually do laundry during the day while he is at work, but that's the most convienant time for that. But everything else is equal share here. Or at least we try to make it equal. I do the laundry he takes out the garbage.

Thats exactly what Im afraid of. While I have no problem what so ever raising the twins 100% by myself it would bother me if he had nothing todo with them other that the occasional "How ya doin" after theyve been fed, changed, and bathed. Because while it might be alot of work caring for them is part of bonding with them and as of now he seems like he has contributed nothing. Maybe thats a good way to approach the situation is telling them they are missing out, like a tom sawyer type thing lol

Thats exactly what Im afraid of. While I have no problem what so ever raising the twins 100% by myself it would bother me if he had nothing todo with them other that the occasional "How ya doin" after theyve been fed, changed, and bathed. Because while it might be alot of work caring for them is part of bonding with them and as of now he seems like he has contributed nothing. Maybe thats a good way to approach the situation is telling them they are missing out, like a tom sawyer type thing lol

Most men just don't get it ! They don't realize that motherhood is like 2full time jobs! He works all week but so do we! I have been beating my head against a wall trying to get my hubs to understand that. He comes home and just wants to sit and watch tv and ignore us. When i bring it up he gets defensive. I have to tell him to play with our kids!! He's not a jerk, he's just plain clueless! He will not take any initiative around the house or with the kids, I have to tell him every move to make so I feel like a dictator! Not all dads are like this but in my experience and a lot of my mom friends' exp, they are just hopeless and we have to accept it and help them along! Sorry this is so negative but it's a hot button issue w/me right now!

Most men just don't get it ! They don't realize that motherhood is like 2full time jobs! He works all week but so do we! I have been beating my head against a wall trying to get my hubs to understand that. He comes home and just wants to sit and watch tv and ignore us. When i bring it up he gets defensive. I have to tell him to play with our kids!! He's not a jerk, he's just plain clueless! He will not take any initiative around the house or with the kids, I have to tell him every move to make so I feel like a dictator! Not all dads are like this but in my experience and a lot of my mom friends' exp, they are just hopeless and we have to accept it and help them along! Sorry this is so negative but it's a hot button issue w/me right now!

During the time that hubby works, I take care of the chores around the house. This doesn't mean everything of course, just the things that NEED to get done (laundry, general cleaning/tidying, etc). He works long shifts (12 hours - 7:30-7:30), and doesn't get home until 8:45pm. Rather then helping with chores, my hubby usually takes over care of one of the children for me to give me a break.

On his days off, absolutely everything is shared equally. We each care for one child and when we have a chance, the two of us tackle the house work. Many hands make light work! While hubby is off, I usually get well ahead in the house work and by the time he begins another shift, the whole house is tidy and clean.

I suggest asking your hubby to attend your next pre natal appointment with you. Take the doctor aside and explain the situation to him (hubby doesn't understand how tired/fatigued you get and that you need help) and have the doctor say something along the lines of "I hope you're helping your wife around the house!" That'll get him on the train!

During the time that hubby works, I take care of the chores around the house. This doesn't mean everything of course, just the things that NEED to get done (laundry, general cleaning/tidying, etc). He works long shifts (12 hours - 7:30-7:30), and doesn't get home until 8:45pm. Rather then helping with chores, my hubby usually takes over care of one of the children for me to give me a break.

On his days off, absolutely everything is shared equally. We each care for one child and when we have a chance, the two of us tackle the house work. Many hands make light work! While hubby is off, I usually get well ahead in the house work and by the time he begins another shift, the whole house is tidy and clean.

I suggest asking your hubby to attend your next pre natal appointment with you. Take the doctor aside and explain the situation to him (hubby doesn't understand how tired/fatigued you get and that you need help) and have the doctor say something along the lines of "I hope you're helping your wife around the house!" That'll get him on the train!

thanks guys. My mom had said something like that too because i forgot to mention Im also stuck taking care of his mom at any given time she calls or cleaning someone elses house, and if i dont I get a guilt trip. Basically they arange it and then i find out Ive been obligated to do something after its been agreed.

thanks guys. My mom had said something like that too because i forgot to mention Im also stuck taking care of his mom at any given time she calls or cleaning someone elses house, and if i dont I get a guilt trip. Basically they arange it and then i find out Ive been obligated to do something after its been agreed.

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