Research everything yourself and make educated choices. Donâ€™t take my word, your OBâ€™s, midwifeâ€™s, or your mother-in-lawâ€™s as fact. Decide for yourself! That is what is importantâ€¦ for us as women to educate ourselves, to have choices and to do what is best for us. Women need to start talking more. We need to see real birth more. Women need to be learning from women!