“What makes lovemaking and reading resemble each other most is that within both of them times and spaces open, different from measurable time and space.” ― Italo Calvino It had been a month since we sat legs touching on the couch. It had been a month since I last kissed him at the corners of his [...]

Don't explain your philosophy. Embody it. ~ Epictetus Something new for space2live... a short film (5 minutes, it's worth it). A visual to enhance the many words spilled on the pages of this site. Through filmmaker, Nic Askew's, beautiful lens the experience, rather than the explanation, of an introvert is captured and shared in a soul [...]

I began a conscious love affair with solitude five years ago. I've been apologizing for it ever since. I wrote the notes for this post on the backside of a final letter from my ex-husband. A letter I found in a bedside drawer as I searched for a blank piece of paper to capture my early [...]

I'm ashamed I have to white-knuckle it through summer. Summer is supposed to be carefree and super sunny smiley, right? As I've mentioned before, socializing and stimulation are big energy expenders for introverts. We may love the company and excitement of a gathering or activity but afterward solitude will be sought in order to recharge. When [...]

In 2008 I began to wake up from the deep sleep of 'supposed to'. I was married, living in the suburbs with three children, a loyal husband, part-time nanny and weekly personal training sessions. It was what I wanted (it's what most people want, right?) and it was wonderful in many ways, but something was missing. [...]

Being the introverted, freedom-loving woman I am, it would make sense that I celebrate single-hood and relish activities that are self-directed but I’ve found dating to be exciting and expansive as well. Oh sure, I’ve been involuntarily groped in a coffee-shop parking lot and forced to sit through unusually long cat stories (complete with pictures), but overall [...]

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Your site has saved my sanity and my life. Maybe even my marriage. I work part time and have two young boys at home, my husband is supportive of me but until recently I thought I was going crazy. … Reading your writing not only inspires me to pick up the pen again, but gives me nourishment in the deepest places. I will fight for balance. Everything you write is spot on… And wellness is so incredibly multifaceted. I was ready to give up hope, but understanding myself through your words is bring…

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THANK YOU….. you just summed up my swirling thoughts into something i can read with out everything else in my head meshing with it. I finally feel like i can explain what happens within without getting distracted. I’m an Introvert with ADD and it makes it so hard to explain quite what im feeling sometimes. — M.G. on space2live

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During one of the harder times in my life I found Brenda’s websiteand reached out to her. To say the least it has been one of the bestdecisions I have made. Being an extrovert I never quite understoodwhat it meant to romantically involved with an introvert. Brenda doesan incredible job listening, giving in the moment feedback, and helpedme understand the how an introvert functions. She helped explain to methat I am introspective extrovert, and this gave something to identifywith and allowed me t…

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Because of your blog, I know that it is possible for me to have the love that I want one day and that I don’t have to be alone. — Indepthwoman on space2live

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Your words are my lifeline. I sit down to your posts and as I read I can feel my acceptance of myself and my needs grow. Your words validate my feelings about my life, motherhood, relationships and it is something I hold onto. And during the times when I feel like I am not able to be a mother or a wife or a sister or a friend or whatever someone needs me to be, I go back to your words and find some peace…I send your posts to my husband when I need him to understand that I love him but I need …

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Thank you for all the words. You’ve created the magic drug I’ve been looking for all my life. Your blog has transformed my life, and I feel like I am on the brink of a most satisfying fulfilling journey…You’ve made me see everything in a new light. I now feel calmer, able to care better for my toddler, less hateful of people around, and hopeful for my future. I am not so afraid for our marriage anymore. — Shilpa CB

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I have been dating an introverted man who I am very in love with for almost 2 years. Reading your posts have helped me to be more supportive and understanding to him especially during the times when he needs space. I just wanted to thank you for your weekly posts and let you know how helpful they are for someone who is in a relationship with an introvert. C.M. on space2live

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your depth of understanding, and talent at sharing it amaze me. Speechless… and for your sharing of it.. Thank you… deeply. *sigh, its like coming back into my body through acceptance….. Sherrie on space2live

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You’re so honest in your writing. It’s bold. It’s frank. It’s wonderful. I could definitely see the work you are doing here as a useful book. It could save/make a lot of relationships! — Jimmi Langemo

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This is me. This is me from the day I was born. For so long I felt misunderstood and rejected, even by the people closest to me, because they could never understand my need for solitude, and I had no idea how to explain it to them. Even now that I know more about Introversion and have a more informed understanding of my hard-wired need for solitude, it’s still very difficult sometimes to help my loved ones understand this profound craving for time and space all to myself. This is one of the best…