Monday, 13 May 2013

a sense of humour

I think a sense of humour is important in all parts of our life.That includes D/s and BDSM play. Yes - I know one has to take it seriously, that is important. However there is a danger in taking anything too seriously - especially oneself. I fear that some can take themselves far too seriously in this world in a way that can lead to pomposity.

My woman has a habit of giggling at inappropriate moments. That is okay, I just spank her a little harder. That has on occasions resulted in yet more giggles. However I am very patient and spank just a little harder still. It is fun discovering how hard I need to spank to turn the giggles into yelps.

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there is time for "fun" but equally Master gives me time for serious learning and getting what He wants me to learn. i think that both are valued and needed in our house. ( i hope this makes sense.) Often though there is hidden learning in the "fun times"

The fact that my pet and I have a sense of humor is a big part of our relationship. There are occasions when one just has to laugh, and thank goodness we have that ability. When the three year old knocks on the door and asks what that sound is when I am in the middle of a spanking session with her, what choice does one have to do but laugh, tell him it is the television, put him back to bed, and wait until he is fast asleep before the session continues...

I think that in the enx we are all doing this for fun. being serious all the time is just a downer. sure we all want to serve master and be the best slave ever but nothing says you can have a little fun along the way. -slave ali

I think that is a really good point AnDi. If one is nervous then a Dom being over-serious could make the situation very difficult to handle for a sub - whereas adding a bit of lightness and humour could help her settle.

It does. But I am nervous by nature. So I tend to have a glass of wine or two when I know I will be dominated that evening. I hope that isn't too terrible. But he understands. He is very reassuring and knows I need to hear that. But in normal settings we play around a lot to help ease my nerves. Showing ur human side is helpful

I am sure that the day I finally meet master J in person ill be fully of anxiety. Even after a couple warm up drinks. I don't have to drink with master Rick but I can understand your nerves andi. There is a lot of trust involved and power exchange. After a while the nerves should subside as you get more comfortable with each other but even if they don't I'm sure you can make it work as you are now.

Thanks AnDi, sinister_ali and Laura. I think a little nervousness adds to the impact of the situation. If there were no nerves then perhaps it would imply what was to come was not going to be very powerful.

I know alcohol can help calm nerves but I would counsel against too much reliance on it. Certainly I think more than a single glass before a serious scene would not be good - and for a very intense scene I think both participants should have a clear head.

In the end perhaps trust and the scene being set thoughtfully may be enough.

I am like you Laura in enjoying teasing. Perhaps that is the slightly wicked side of our sense of humour!

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