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When it comes to The Bachelor, viewers are used to host Chris Harrison teasing an upcoming week as “the most dramatic episode” yet–but this time he may have been right.

For over a week, fans of the show had been anxiously waiting to find out what actually happens in “the most dramatic fantasy suite” ever. And, thankfully, Team Bachelor’s promos came through. What went down in the fantasy suite between Juan Pablo and Andi will certainly go down in Bachelor history. But was Andi right?

As viewers, there is an understanding that this is a reality show (and reality is a pretty loose term) about going on a show with 26 other women trying to win the heart of one man they’ve never met. In this case, Juan Pablo was presented as a hunky former professional soccer player whose world now revolves around his daughter. What’s not swoon-worthy about that?

Andi, just as Sharleen before her, found incredible chemistry with this season’s Bachelor by way of locked lips. But the assistant district attorney from Atlanta is a smart cookie, and was hesitant to fall for ABC’s leading man based on physical attraction alone. She was less guarded throughout the process than the opera singer, who bowed out a few episodes ago, but she still had her doubts about the process and the man she was supposed to be falling in love with.

During hometown dates on Monday night, Andi’s dad astutely pointed out that his daughter had only had a single one-on-one date with her Venezuelan suitor. How could she possibly know anything for sure? And how could this guy, who is also seeing three other girls, be the one? The last thing he wants is for his daughter’s heart to be broken for all the world to see. I, for one, think that Andi’s dad would be proud of his daughter after seeing how she handled herself after a “nightmare” fantasy suite rendezvous.

On their second one-one-one date Andi had the option to get to know Juan Pablo more and explore the relationship further without the rest of America watching. Just as dozens of women before her, Andi went willingly with el bachelor for some much needed seclusion. But when morning came, she told cameras she couldn’t wait to leave the fantasy suite. While it’s a first for the show, should it have come as such a surprise?

With the success rate of the show, the chance that every woman will fall head-over-heels in love with the same man is low, yet it seems to happen season after season. Andi stood back and took off her rose-colored glasses to really reflect on the time she’d spent with this man. During their time in the fantasy suite, she told cameras that she didn’t like the man she was with. She described him as narcissistic and said “it’s extremely important for me to be with a man who loves me more than he loves himself.”

Following the show on Twitter, women were tweeting their support of Andi in droves, and I was one of them. She stood up for what she wanted and what she–and everyone woman–deserves in a relationship. She doesn’t want to settle, and especially doesn’t want to be wooed into a false romance because there are cameras and exotic locales.

But when you think for a moment, what’s most surprising is that this doesn’t happen more often. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad Andi stood up for herself and chose to leave because she wasn’t fulfilled and happy with the relationship, rather than stay and try and force it. But there’s also a voice in the back of my head playing devil’s advocate, wondering if she shouldn’t have known better. After all, this is a show where only one woman “wins” this man’s heart, and that same man can’t be Prince Charming for 27 women.

What do you think: Did Andi do the right thing or should she have known better since she signed on to the show?