Think Atheist2015-08-02T22:39:32ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YHhttp://api.ning.com:80/files/QHclEACCuC73j17fVA2wIhCPjT7ip*aNJu*oxdlMvu0lrqcBI7ZtPaPXSeJ*yvpw5CBnSkKZ8qVgoQOe8ZvA5Tui739S5KoY/412454547.jpeg?xgip=0%3A0%3A241%3A241%3B%3B&width=48&height=48&crop=1%3A1http://www.thinkatheist.com/group/girlsofthinkatheist/forum/topic/listForContributor?user=1zwhjrkgrpqcy&feed=yes&xn_auth=noWhy I am just like Piper Chapman...what about you?tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2015-06-26:1982180:Topic:15386422015-06-26T23:58:51.840ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>I have to admit that I love <b>Orange is the New Black</b> more than I would care to admit. It’s a close second behind <b>Breaking Bad</b>….but only because Breaking Bad is so close to home….literally. Well Orange is the New Black is also close to home, and I can identify with it deeply.</p>
<p>Ladies on Think Atheist have been scarce, but I know you’re there somewhere. And if you are reading this, maybe you can identify with it…a little…maybe?</p>
<p>First, I am always drawn to anything…</p>
<p>I have to admit that I love <b>Orange is the New Black</b> more than I would care to admit. It’s a close second behind <b>Breaking Bad</b>….but only because Breaking Bad is so close to home….literally. Well Orange is the New Black is also close to home, and I can identify with it deeply.</p>
<p>Ladies on Think Atheist have been scarce, but I know you’re there somewhere. And if you are reading this, maybe you can identify with it…a little…maybe?</p>
<p>First, I am always drawn to anything that takes place in a correctional institution. It’s in my blood and that will never change…but also, the truth is that Piper’s story is like my story. She starts out as a naïve bad girl, turned good girl, revealed bad girl once again. Although season 3 is not the end, her transformation tells a compelling story of what it truly means to become your <b><u>true self</u></b>, and embrace the good with the bad, and to not be ashamed of it.</p>
<p>She had a good heart, at the beginning. But as time goes on and she becomes more and more institutionalized, her true colors come to light. If you peel back the layers of her story, she begins as a willing participant to a crime in order to show her devotion, love and loyalty to the love of her life….or at least the person she thought she loved. Whether or not it was “true” love is debatable. Once she realizes that her blind devotion cost her greatly and that she was used by many other people, she no longer considers it wrong to stand up for herself…she becomes a vicious lone wolf, hungry to take back what was stolen from her – her power…</p>
<p>The more we learn about Piper, the more that you see that she is capable of heinous, cold-stone acts. I will try to avoid any spoilers for those who have not seen the show…but as she comes to terms with her manipulative nature, and the way that her own mother has influenced her to become the person that she, is, it’s as if the world suddenly opens with possibilities. Instead of fighting her deviant side, she embraces it. Instead of negating her capabilities she executes on them. Instead of pretending to be a good girl, she embraces her whole self, both the good and the bad together.</p>
<p>She becomes a more honest person. Honest in the sense that she no longer denies who she is. She doesn’t hide behind anything anymore. She is stronger because of that. Some might argue that she becomes a better criminal. This too is true. It will be interesting to see what happens to her as time goes on….</p>
<p>I also love the fact that she embraces her sexuality, fully and unapologetically. While I am not a lesbian, I too feel that I can identify with the feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment that comes with embracing my own sexuality. This before was never allowed because I chained my mind down to believe that a woman was only supposed to act certain ways and do certain things, all for the pleasing of a man. I no longer believe that. I believe that women can be the most ferociously sexual beings on the planet. No longer will I hide behind my shame and shyness. No longer will I believe the lie that women aren’t meant to feel pleasure for the sake of it.</p>
<p>Is Piper becoming a better person as time goes on? In season 3 there are lots of reasons to argue that she is not. However, I am seeing her actions from the inside out. I think she is becoming <b><u>exactly</u></b> the person she was meant to become. I believe that her hardships and struggles to embrace herself is really the only prison she’s ever been in…It is the prison of her mind that held her captive more than any lock and key. Now that she has found her power, she is running with it, without apologizing for it.</p>
<p>There must be some other ladies out there who are watching OITNB!!! Please tell me you’re out there!!! Yes I love this show….and my own experiences watching it has taught me something about myself. I too am a bad girl. Whether it was something I ended up being by grooming and manipulative tactics of my abusers, or whether it’s just who I am….I would argue the former…but I don’t care. It is who I am now.</p>
<p>As I’ve started discussions on this forum wrestling with morality and empowerment, the more I’ve come to consider the fact that I’m not nearly as “good” as I thought. To be “good” I would need to embrace cultural standards of what it means to be a woman (complete with religious undertones). I am truthfully not a woman that complies with what the culture expects of me. But I am counter-cultural. I have broken all of the cultural standards. Like Piper Chapman, I find myself doing things I never thought possible, and not feeling guilty for them…and not tolerating abuse from anyone. While my capacity to love runs deep, so does my desire to remain free from mental chains and emotional oppression. This is why I am just like Piper Chapman.</p> Domestic Violence Solutions...tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2013-04-27:1982180:Topic:12998812013-04-27T01:03:30.797ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>I am a woman, and I am an atheist.....and have escaped from the abusive relationships of my past and I now want to give back. This is a topic that is "skidded over" through the horrific consequences of religion, but I haven't seen the topic come up recently on TA as it's own separate entity of discussion. My goal around this conversation is for women to come together who either: </p>
<p>1. Have been in an abusive relationship and escaped,</p>
<p>2. Are currently IN an abusive relationship…</p>
<p>I am a woman, and I am an atheist.....and have escaped from the abusive relationships of my past and I now want to give back. This is a topic that is "skidded over" through the horrific consequences of religion, but I haven't seen the topic come up recently on TA as it's own separate entity of discussion. My goal around this conversation is for women to come together who either: </p>
<p>1. Have been in an abusive relationship and escaped,</p>
<p>2. Are currently IN an abusive relationship and don't know what to do and are looking for support, </p>
<p>3. For any men who are allies who want to add their comments/insights to be able to do so. </p>
<p>There are lots of resources in many placed in the US, I don't know about the rest of the world, but I think that even still there is a lot of discrepancy and confusion about what domestic violence IS and there's a lot of people who are in abusive relationships that don't think that they are abusive, they just see them as normal. Also there's a lot of misconceptions and myths portrayed by media. I hope together we can blow a hole through all of that and get down to some real truth on the matter, as well as support anyone who may be going through it, to give them a safe place to fall....</p> WHY must we wear a bra?tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2013-03-27:1982180:Topic:12829892013-03-27T03:39:29.523ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>Ladies,</p>
<p> I don't know much about this topic so I'm going to ask it out loud. <strong>WHY do we have to wear bras?</strong> No, really. Is it just for show or is there some compelling reason why we must? Sometimes I find that I'm much more comfortable without one. I always tend to take mine off after I get home from work and I've tried all the brands to find the "best fit" and I always end up going to some high end seamstress that makes them custom because the store bought options are…</p>
<p>Ladies,</p>
<p> I don't know much about this topic so I'm going to ask it out loud. <strong>WHY do we have to wear bras?</strong> No, really. Is it just for show or is there some compelling reason why we must? Sometimes I find that I'm much more comfortable without one. I always tend to take mine off after I get home from work and I've tried all the brands to find the "best fit" and I always end up going to some high end seamstress that makes them custom because the store bought options are NOT comfortable IMO.</p>
<p>For any of you ladies who may live in a country where it's NOT necessary to wear a bra I would LOVE to hear your thoughts and insights.</p>
<p>Am I alone in feeling like it's yet another cultural ball and chain we have to lug around with us?</p>
<p>Anyone really really LIKE wearing bras?</p>
<p>MEN: You are welcome to participate in this discussion, all I ask is that you have some class. Thanks!</p> Grow a Vagina!tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2013-03-14:1982180:Topic:12753252013-03-14T23:23:14.306ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<blockquote><p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino;">“Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.” </span><br></br><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino;">~Betty White~</span></p>
</blockquote>
<p><span class="font-size-4" style="font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino;">What does it mean to be a feminist? What does it mean to be equal?…</span></p>
<blockquote><p><span style="font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino;" class="font-size-4">“Why do people say "grow some balls"? Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.” </span><br/><span style="font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino;" class="font-size-4">~Betty White~</span></p>
</blockquote>
<p><span style="font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino;" class="font-size-4">What does it mean to be a feminist? What does it mean to be equal? What does it mean to be genuine? How do we fight for equal rights? How do we view ourselves as women in a world that at times seems completely against us?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 14pt; font-family: 'book antiqua', palatino;">Men: How do you fight for your ladies and pursue alongside equal rights. Human rights?</span></p>
<p><strong><font face="book antiqua, palatino"><span style="font-size: 19px;">What does it really mean to be a feminist?</span></font></strong></p> Female and Atheisttag:www.thinkatheist.com,2013-02-17:1982180:Topic:12611572013-02-17T22:42:33.326ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>Ladies,</p>
<p> Listen up. I have a bone to pick. We are an under represented population. (Women who are also Atheists that is.) In school we are taught to be nice and lady-like. (I know this is a generalization, but just roll with me here...) In the church, which we have now left, we are taught to submit to our husbands and keep silent. Once an Atheist...NOW WHAT? How do we break free from the constraints that religion has placed upon us? How do we remain feminine, beautiful, and yet be…</p>
<p>Ladies,</p>
<p> Listen up. I have a bone to pick. We are an under represented population. (Women who are also Atheists that is.) In school we are taught to be nice and lady-like. (I know this is a generalization, but just roll with me here...) In the church, which we have now left, we are taught to submit to our husbands and keep silent. Once an Atheist...NOW WHAT? How do we break free from the constraints that religion has placed upon us? How do we remain feminine, beautiful, and yet be strong and forthcoming about our beliefs and why we hold them? I'm hoping to create some discussion around what it means to be Atheist for us ladies.</p>
<p>Ladies, what have been your experiences having left a male dominated religion and venturing into a belief system which truly defines us as equals when it comes to all human rights?</p>
<p>Do any of you still struggle with aftermath of religious thinking about yourself or your role as a wife/mother, etc?</p>
<p>Men: Feel free to chip in with your insights as well. This isn't battle of the sexes so I don't want to hear anything about that. Your insights are valuable to the discussion. Thanks!</p> Binders Full of Womentag:www.thinkatheist.com,2012-10-18:1982180:Topic:11953352012-10-18T05:36:32.367ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>I'm sure at this point most of you are aware of Romney's "binders full of women" comment in the second presidential debate. I'm actually a little surprised that this topic hasn't come up here yet.</p>
<p>I'm curious, what do you all think of this comment? Was it just a bad choice of words? Was it indicative of deeper feelings Romney has toward women? Was it indicative of something else? Is it even a comment worth discussing and/or making a big deal out of it? How do you personally feel about…</p>
<p>I'm sure at this point most of you are aware of Romney's "binders full of women" comment in the second presidential debate. I'm actually a little surprised that this topic hasn't come up here yet.</p>
<p>I'm curious, what do you all think of this comment? Was it just a bad choice of words? Was it indicative of deeper feelings Romney has toward women? Was it indicative of something else? Is it even a comment worth discussing and/or making a big deal out of it? How do you personally feel about the comment? Do you think it will affect how anyone votes in November?</p>
<p><br/>You could always google the phrase "Binders full of women" or here's a link for a little background info: <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/oct/17/romney-binders-full-of-women">http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/oct/17/romney-binders-full-of-women</a></p>
<p>And here's a link for entertainment: <a href="http://bindersfullofwomen.tumblr.com/">http://bindersfullofwomen.tumblr.com/</a></p> Female Friendstag:www.thinkatheist.com,2012-07-05:1982180:Topic:11515502012-07-05T15:39:57.159ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>Surely, I'm <em>not</em> the only one!</p>
<p>We already know that atheist men [allegedly] outnumber women, although I do sometimes suspect there are merely more "in the closet" atheist women who don't come out because they don't want to lose friends.</p>
<p>While I was on my search for truth, which ultimately led to my atheism, I didn't anticipate losing friends... but I have. In my case, it's not that they've exactly abandoned me because of my lack of faith, but we simply don't have…</p>
<p>Surely, I'm <em>not</em> the only one!</p>
<p>We already know that atheist men [allegedly] outnumber women, although I do sometimes suspect there are merely more "in the closet" atheist women who don't come out because they don't want to lose friends.</p>
<p>While I was on my search for truth, which ultimately led to my atheism, I didn't anticipate losing friends... but I have. In my case, it's not that they've exactly abandoned me because of my lack of faith, but we simply don't have anything in common anymore. I simply cannot just call one of my lifelong buddies up and ask for advise or get support from them... because all I'll get from them is woo-advice! "Oh, did you pray about it?!" or "All things work out for the good of those who love Him... " or "The Bible says <em>this</em> about your problem..." For this very reason, I also cannot call my mom when I'm upset. I can just <em>feel</em> that she wants to make some religious reference every time I talk about my life.</p>
<p>Four years after finally deciding I don't believe there's a god, this lack of emotional connection has gotten to me. I had a really good friend in 2008, but I moved away. We're still close, but our lives get in the way so we don't talk often, and we've only seen each other once, briefly, since. I'd LOVE if she lived closer, but yeah... this being an adult nonsense really prohibits one from uprooting for any reason <em>other</em> than money.</p>
<p>Basically, I feel like I'm admitting weakness by simply stating that I need a friend. I've always, <em>always</em> had close friends. I've never had trouble finding friends! It could be my age (everyone is getting married or having babies, thus making them unavailable). It could also be that I can't be friends with just <em>anyone</em> at this point because the likelihood is high that a random, nice person will also believe there's a god.</p>
<p>Are any of you other ladies having difficulty with this? Am I the only one who need yet lacks close girlfriends because of being atheist? What do you do to cope? Are you near family? What should we do to reconnect with our sister? Because I, for one, thrive best when I have females in my life.</p> Queer Women!tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2012-02-16:1982180:Topic:10571282012-02-16T08:33:30.772ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>Just a thread to see if there are any other LGBTQ free thinking women on here! My soon to be former partner's theism has ripped us apart. There is nothing I'd love more than connect with other lady lovin' ladies who are non theists.</p>
<p>Just a thread to see if there are any other LGBTQ free thinking women on here! My soon to be former partner's theism has ripped us apart. There is nothing I'd love more than connect with other lady lovin' ladies who are non theists.</p> Would the world be a better place if women were in charge?tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2012-01-20:1982180:Topic:10310652012-01-20T14:57:14.216ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>I've heard this said often.</p>
<p>I've also heard it said that women are unforgiving and uncompromising. Do you think that's true?</p>
<p>Personally, I think the world would be a better place with women in charge. I think women should have taken charge from the get go. I think our strong moral sense (granted not present in all humans or women but I find more present in women than men) and empathy (yes, not always present either, yet more in women it seems) would lead to a strong structure…</p>
<p>I've heard this said often.</p>
<p>I've also heard it said that women are unforgiving and uncompromising. Do you think that's true?</p>
<p>Personally, I think the world would be a better place with women in charge. I think women should have taken charge from the get go. I think our strong moral sense (granted not present in all humans or women but I find more present in women than men) and empathy (yes, not always present either, yet more in women it seems) would lead to a strong structure but less laws overall.</p>
<p>Maybe that's just me. I like to put a framework in place with rules that are enforced every time but these rules are just to keep folks from harming others or property. The rest is wide open for individual freedom and creativity.</p> Do you let your guy cum inside you?tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-14:1982180:Topic:10009512011-12-14T21:05:47.018ZYannickhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/YH
<p>So this is a little weird even typing this out but here we go! I have a friend that tells me she loves it when her boyfriend cums in her. Me personally, I just do not see the appeal of getting chummed inside of. Perhaps this is because I have zero desire to have a child. Also, I have a medical issue that gives me a minimal chance of ever having a child.</p>
<p>I am more curious to your responses and that is why I am asking here. </p>
<p>So I pose the question. What is going through your head…</p>
<p>So this is a little weird even typing this out but here we go! I have a friend that tells me she loves it when her boyfriend cums in her. Me personally, I just do not see the appeal of getting chummed inside of. Perhaps this is because I have zero desire to have a child. Also, I have a medical issue that gives me a minimal chance of ever having a child.</p>
<p>I am more curious to your responses and that is why I am asking here. </p>
<p>So I pose the question. What is going through your head when you say to your guy, "cum in me!"? Even if your on birth control. Which my friend is on by the way. </p>
<p></p>