Juggling Affairs, Stably

Published: January 25, 1996

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Lena Williams's article "A New Level of Tolerance for Adultery" (Jan. 4) strangely leaves out any discussion of whether couples can learn to adapt to a "long-term affair." She may be surprised to learn from some therapists who have been counseling couples involved with one or even a symmetrical two outside lovers that such relationships can be not only stable but also satisfying. There is a French saying that every woman needs six men in her life: a father to her children, a handyman, a source of income, a father-confessor, a lover and a companion.