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The sense of touch is one that we try our darndest to convey in our audio erotica. In mainstream pornography so much emphasis is placed on the appearance of a porn star or the closeup of gleaming genitals that you may forget that it is the feeling of those body parts you are seeking, not how round or tanned they are. How lovely is a description so well-written that your skin shivers with an imagined stroke? Here are two very sensuous pieces on the topic of touch, over at Sexis.

AHubbyof2SexualMinds tells the story of a game of guided touch with his wife.

She had always loved for me to use my hands on her, running along her body and within her, but had never felt comfortable with her own hands and fingers. I found this odd, only because in our lives touch is something we experience all of the time and a great deal of that touch comes from our hands interacting with things, people, objects, the keyboard as I’m typing this. We are comfortable using our hands as we need for many things, but often people don’t feel comfortable in touching themselves. Read More…

From the incredible intimacy of simply holding hands, to their uses in the context of kink, Mollena takes us on her tactile journey.

I have been shocked by the amount of pain and discomfort and pleasure that someone can provide me with the same pair of hands. Fingers that gently caress one moment can, within an instant, switchback to pincers that pull and abuse willing flesh into new realms of pleasurable pain. The hand that softly strokes my face can, within a flash, slap the breath out of me, leaving me dizzy and reeling, gasping and blinking in the flashbulb aftermath of an astonishingly fast contact that leaves me longing in terror of the next strike. Read More…

No, I haven’t read it. But since half of our website name is ‘Erotica,’ I suppose we should mention it here. I thought that I should read it, as research you know? But then the cringeworthy character names stopped me from even picking it up. The thing is, I’ve missed the part where someone explained why it’s such a big deal. As all us Internet dwellers ought to know, erotic literature and fan fiction are nothing new – and are the realm of many more happy pervs than just ‘mommies.’ But apparently Fifty Shades matters because suddenly the mainstream cares (again/for now) about BDSM. So, if you happen to be in the same boat of misunderstanding, stick with me as I run through some links that may help us.

If you need to catch up, here is a speed read of the moments that take the book from romance into soft core porn territory.

The main criticism that I’ve noticed from bloggers in the BDSM community is that the best seller is demonising BDSM. Clinical psychologist Pamela Stephenson Connolly explains in an Opinion Editorial for Sydney Morning Herald.

All the work that has been done to establish that BDSM is not a pathological symptom, but one of a wide range of normative human erotic interests, is in danger of being undermined by the success of Fifty Shades.

This CBC article by Andre Mayer addresses some of the fictional novel’s main points of departure from the reality of BDSM.

Fifty Shades of Grey, as well as films like Secretary (2002) and 9 ½ Weeks (1986), suggest that people who are into alternative sexual activities fit some sort of psychological profile — typically negative.

This book will be a lot of people’s first exposure to BDSM, and past experience has taught me that people tend to “imprint” on whatever they encounter first, and retain those ideas later in their BDSM careers. Fifty Shades needs to be scrutinized and, if necessary, corrected in order to properly educate people new to BDSM.

All this talk about BDSM inspired Katie Roiphe to make a controversial link between the book’s popularity with female-readers and a potential current desire to escape the pressures of feminism.

As I said before, erotic fiction has been an incredibly popular genre, since well before this book came along. This is a great interview with Patty Marks of erotic publishing house, Ellora’s Cave. Established 12 years ago, it has grown into a multimillion-dollar business selling about 200 000 books a month, leaving Marks surprised that people are even surprised about the pervasiveness of erotica.

I must also link to the valued opinion of one of our favourite erotic bloggers, Remittance Girl, who critiques the mediocrity of the characters and their dynamics, the tired plot devices and the overall poor level of writing.

You have a right expect much more of your kinky erotic novel that this.

Problem-solving lass that she is, she has written her own piece of fiction using the gulf between vanilla and kink as the central conflict. So please consider this piece of writing if you are seeking an alternative to Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey.

In this interview, John Irving discusses his characters as sexual outsiders, the mutability of sexual desire and the intolerance of sexual differences. “There’s no question that I’ve always identified with a wide range of sexual desires.” His latest novel, In One Person (Simon & Schuster), follows bisexual narrator Billy Abbott on a sexual journey spanning decades.

In regards to his own desires and fears Irving said,

“I told that story for years about my first girlfriend who was so afraid of getting pregnant that she permitted only anal intercourse, which I liked so much that it only added to my terror that I really must be gay. “Oh my God, I really like this.” And then, what was I to do with the fact that I was often much more attracted to the mothers of my girlfriends than I was to the girlfriends. And there were those unmentionable older boys who attracted me in a more than hero worship way when I was 13, 14, 15 and they were 17, 18, 19. This simply taught me that sexual desire itself is terribly mutable if you’re honest, and that I don’t know why someone like Shakespeare could write so easily about the mutability of sexual attraction and the sexes and we seem to struggle with it so. We in America in particular.”

Wow! How did I not discover the diverse, yet equally sizzling, weekly Sex Diaries at New York Magazine until now? I thought I’d better share them with you quick smart, in case you’ve managed to miss them too. Sex writer and editor, Rachel Kramer Bussel edits these gems every Monday for NY Mag’s Daily Intel. Here are some excerpts:

The Stay-at-Home Mom With Schoolgirl Spanking Fantasies6:45 a.m. Early morning, daughter is back in school. Check e-mail, crow about today’s new writing release and wank. Nothing pretty, just a quick release to one of my favourite fantasies. Naughty schoolgirl being spanked and having sex with stern yet horny and hot headmaster. Puts ideas in my mind. Maybe I need to pull out the schoolgirl outfit again?

The Submissive Man Who Isn’t Allowed to Orgasm11:18 p.m. I am ready for bed, still chained. DR puts my ankle cuffs on and locks them together, part of “tucking me in.” She mentions that she expects some manual orgasms from me in the morning. I am having trouble slowing my mind. Finally, she reaches under the covers. I am expecting her to tease me, but she instead moves my wedding band from my left hand to my right. This signifies that I am to speak only when spoken to. I don’t think she is annoyed, just helping me calm myself. And it always leaves me turned on, just from yielding control.

The Lesbian Whose Dreams Are Much Dirtier Than Her Sex Life
7:30 p.m. Dinner with a dear friend and former lover. Love how easily the conversation flows and how we can make fun of one another’s embarrassing flaws with total abandon. Memories of how much fun we used to have getting smashed and smashing one another with fingers and tongues and dildos fill my mind. I contemplate what that would be like now and decide it probably wouldn’t be hot without six martinis. I remind myself how awful cheating feels — I’ve been on both ends of that stick — and a flush of love for my partner fills me.