Video of John Mayer's Tearful Apology 2010-02-11 08:30:00

Video: John Mayer Breaks Down in Tears During Onstage Apology — Accepted or Unforgivable?

John Mayer took the time during his show last night to apologize for his hurtful and insensitive comments in Playboy. His interview made headlines all over yesterday for everything from his quotes on Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Aniston to the way he talked about race and homosexuality. He quickly took to Twitter to start saying sorry and he got very emotional on stage during yesterday's show. He said, "In the quest to be clever. I completely forgot about the people that I love and that love me . . . I think it's important that you know that everybody on this stage is here playing with me not because they condone what I say in any interview . . . they're on this stage because they support myself as a possible future grown-up." He also says he will be taking a break from the media. There's lots more, so watch the video and tell us what you think about his long-winded apology — accepted or unforgivable?

He shouldn't have apologized. I honestly don't think what he said was so bad, people have just gotten overly sensitive. Whenever they hear certain words they start to scream without thinking if what was said was really so offensive.
The only one he should have apologized to (in private) is Jessica for talking about private things in public.

He shouldn't have apologized. I honestly don't think what he said was so bad, people have just gotten overly sensitive. Whenever they hear certain words they start to scream without thinking if what was said was really so offensive. The only one he should have apologized to (in private) is Jessica for talking about private things in public.

5 years

See. Hostile and rude; that's why men run. I am black but I'm also literate and not only can I read the words he said, I understand what he meant. Try that, before you yourself becoming insulting to people you are lashing out at because of the color of your skin.
Not to mention it's in a frickin Playboy magazine, how many pious and chaste (that means non-hoochie) women read Playboy? I know I never would have if not for it being plastered everywhere.

when you make your career off of public opinion, guess what.... you can say whatever you want, and then you have to deal with the backlash. he made some really crass remarks in regards to women, and i'm surprised at how many of you are supprting him. i guess as long as he still dicks your group, his offense to others doesn't matter.

when you make your career off of public opinion, guess what.... you can say whatever you want, and then you have to deal with the backlash. he made some really crass remarks in regards to women, and i'm surprised at how many of you are supprting him. i guess as long as he still dicks your group, his offense to others doesn't matter.

5 years

If you think what John said in public is bad... you should hear what Indian men say about you in private. You'd turn a whiter shade of pale. :true:

5 years

He's apologized enough. Now people want him to kiss their azz because it'll make them feel more important or better. How? there are millions of non-black men who don't date black women. And also plenty of black men who would love to not have to deal with a black woman's off-the-charts, irrational rantings.
You want him to apologize for everyone. That's not his responsibility. You want him to apologize for ever person who used the n* word. Neither is that.
John has never owned slaves, been a member of the KKK or lynched anyone. He can say whatever he wants. He said something lukewarm about people with an itchy trigger finger.
He felt bad because he cause some of his very close friends (who are black) backlash and that's what he's sorry about.
He's not sorry sensitive azz people with low self-esteem can't get on with their lives. And he shouldn't be. I am a minority woman and I'm sick of your whining and 'so, I don't like him anyway'...bullish.
If you don't care or like him, then what's it to you? Be a woman who happens to be black and get on with your life.

5 years

While I do not think John is a "douche bag" or terrible person by any means, I do think he is wreckless and possibly volatile. He seems vaguely self-destructive, maybe? I can't really put my finger on it, but this near exact situation has played out before. He steps on some toes, very very blatantly, and then feels the repercussions and has a sincere apology. But isn't that is career? Feelings, feelings, feelings. He cant muster up a few tears to (maybe genuinely) apologize for what he has said that was absolutely unforgiveable, but I hardly think he has learned a lesson.

As I posted earlier, it is not a word I would choose to say. That said, I think that people need to decide whether the word is on the table or not. Either it is vitrolic hateful world that conjures up a world of inequality, or it is something that you say to your friends. I am sorry, it can never be both. And one group can't take ownership over one meaning and be offended when anyone else tries to use it under that meaning.
I personally think the word has the former meaning, which is why I wouldn't use it. But I think people need to make up their minds about it. As a society or a societal subset, you can't have it both ways. That's my point.

As I posted earlier, it is not a word I would choose to say. That said, I think that people need to decide whether the word is on the table or not. Either it is vitrolic hateful world that conjures up a world of inequality, or it is something that you say to your friends. I am sorry, it can never be both. And one group can't take ownership over one meaning and be offended when anyone else tries to use it under that meaning. I personally think the word has the former meaning, which is why I wouldn't use it. But I think people need to make up their minds about it. As a society or a societal subset, you can't have it both ways. That's my point.

i can't wrap my mind around the, "they use the word, so i can too". why would you want to use the same language as idiots? if for no other reason, i would not want to be lumped in with them. but that's just me. on another note people respond to matters they believe effect them. so yeah there are going to be some people who give John a pass on his remarks regarding Black people, because they simply don't care. same for his comments about Jewish and gay people. i know that's not a surprise is it?

i can't wrap my mind around the, "they use the word, so i can too". why would you want to use the same language as idiots?
if for no other reason, i would not want to be lumped in with them. but that's just me.
on another note people respond to matters they believe effect them. so yeah there are going to be some people who give John a pass on his remarks regarding Black people, because they simply don't care. same for his comments about Jewish and gay people.
i know that's not a surprise is it?

5 years

Please... Both Jessica and Jennifer love that s*. They couldn't have a bigger compliment. I'm sure Jessica's father posted on the refrigerator. lol

5 years

He needs to apologize. Um, did you watch the video or just chose to decide on it telepathically?
David Duke 'discovered' the KKK?
Omg... the real problem here... lack of education.

43.. I think what he did to Jessica Simpson is worse for the same reason Kayne's actions were despicable. They are both examples of a pervasive lack of respect for others (particularly women) in this country. We have seen numerous examples this year of people showing no respect for others on a personal or professional level in order put themselves in the spotlight. It is disgusting and I am sick of it.Like I said before ... I don't think a word should be off limits. If one group is going to say it, then everyone should be able to. If you don't want others to use it, don't use it yourself. It's that simple.

43.. I think what he did to Jessica Simpson is worse for the same reason Kayne's actions were despicable. They are both examples of a pervasive lack of respect for others (particularly women) in this country. We have seen numerous examples this year of people showing no respect for others on a personal or professional level in order put themselves in the spotlight. It is disgusting and I am sick of it.
Like I said before ... I don't think a word should be off limits. If one group is going to say it, then everyone should be able to. If you don't want others to use it, don't use it yourself. It's that simple.

5 years

Its apperent there must be a lot of white women posting on this comment section in here talking about "what he said wasn't a big deal" (some of you are even more mad at what he said about Jessica Simpson then what he said about black people)....people could care less if he is not sexually attracted to black women, thats not the problem, the problem is he went on to compare his private parts to David Duke (the man who basically discovered the KKK) then went on to talk about what it means to be a black person and even went as far as to use the N word...I dont think for one minute John is a racist,,, but he is an idiot for what he said in that interview.
Its hilarious, Kanye West almost gets black listed for interrupting Taylor Swift during her Mtv award (grant it, he was a @sshole for doing that), yet John Mayer saying all this nonsense and "it isn't a big deal"? Please. John needs to apoligize for himself for being so ignorant.

I don't think this loser should be condemned for using the "N" word.. have you ever heard rap 'artists"? That's all they use!?! I don't like to be called the "W" word.I think this loser should be condemned for being such a loser....and should get over himself...big deal, he had simpson and aniston...so has just about everyone else!

I don't think this loser should be condemned for using the "N" word.. have you ever heard rap 'artists"? That's all they use!?!
I don't like to be called the "W" word.
I think this loser should be condemned for being such a loser....and should get over himself...big deal, he had simpson and aniston...so has just about everyone else!

he is an idiot. i actually use to like his music and his obsession with twitter and all other venues that give him a constant forum have turned me off from him completely

5 years

I voted apology accepted. Although I thing he's kind of a D-BAG (stay away Taylor!), I think we have become WAY too politically correct. I'm not in anyway condoning what he said, but let's all stop being offended at absolutely EVERYTHING!

5 years

#33 I hear you loud and clear. I am biracial. My mother's black. My father, white. He, a musician even, left her high and dry- the woman happened to be white. If ANY woman has cause to hate white men... it would be me.
But I don't. I married a *mostly lol* black man...he was not a good husband. Do I swear off black men.?No.
It's about balance and common sense. Not making sweeping judgments. BTW...my ex's skin was of a black man, his culture and lifestyle a typical white guy.
Me? I'm everything I can be...unbound by skin color. You wouldn't know I'm half-black if I didn't tell you anyway. BUT my beloved family and friends are black and I'd be the first one to rip someone a new a*hole if I thought they were being hateful for no good reason.
I know John is not.