Don’t Let Your Problems Be Your Priority

As I sit her in the passenger seat of my car typing, I’m forced to reflect on the things that have transpired in the past week. You see, so many things have gone wrong this week and if I were weak in my journey, I’d be tempted to give up or put my dreams and goals on the back burner so that I could focus 100% of my time on getting things together. Making things perfect before I pick my dreams up again. Surely, I’m not ready right now with everything that’s going on in my life, at least that’s what I ask myself.

You see, today is transparent Thursday. A new weekly discussion that I would like to start discussing the trials and triumphs of a Momprenuer. I hope you can appreciate these transparent post because ish is about to get real, no masks only truths. If you can handle it, let’s go!

ROCKY START

So let me give you some background on how my week started. I got fooled by the beautiful weather we had here in Nashville this past weekend and I forgot that I have allergies. I got up Saturday morning, had me some coffee. Got dressed and joined my cousin at the Sista Strut Walk which was a 3K walk/run in support of Breast Cancer Research. The weather was so beautiful that I decided to rent a bike at one of the bike stations and ride it around the park while spending time with my niece and sister. Remember, all of this while having forgotten about allergies. I ran some errands. Went home and did some house cleaning. Got cute because my baby boy had a basketball tournament that evening so I put on my #Momlife shirt and let my fro flow. I was on a high!

That is until about 7:30pm. On my way to my son’s game, I felt the sinus pressure build. My throat itched. And it was then that I remembered, YOU GOT ALLERGIES FOOL! I had not taken any medicine because I had not been experiencing any real symptoms until this point.

You see, sometimes, your problems are underlying. Even though you can’t see them doesn’t mean their not there. If given the right opportunity they will come to the forefront. If you give your problems a chance to be great, oh believe me, they will take that opportunity and show up and show out, like my allergies did to me. Honey, I thought I needed to be on somebody’s sick and shut in list. I had to get my husband to make a late night and expensive run to the store to get my a box of 5 Claritin. Even though I had a bottle of allergies medicine at my job, I had to learn an expensive lesson being unprepared to deal with this PROBLEM.

If you allow problems to go unsolved, not only will it sneak up on you when you least expect it, but it’s gone cost you more than you’re willing to pay.

Alright, so I just told you my sick and shut in story. Thanks to my husband, I was able to get my allergies to a point where I could survive them and in my Toni Braxton voice Breath again. So I’m back on and popping and now Monday rolls around.

I’m at my main business investor (my job), and my husband calls me telling me that he is experiencing issues with his car and needed me to come quick because he needed me to take him to get a part for his car. Now keep in mind, he was at work and I was at work. We also knew that he would need to get this done as soon as possible because he needed to get to his second job shortly and I needed to be able to pick up our children and get them where they needed to be. I had 1 that was at track practice, 2 in aftercare and 1 that had a track meet.

I leave my job early only for us to realize that my husband didn’t have a much-needed tool to actually fix this problem and that instead of fixing the issue, we were going to have to leave the car parked and take my car to do all of what I just explained above, get my husband to work, pick 1 kid up from track practice, 2 kids up from aftercare and get to 1 kids track meet all within 1 hour and 30 minutes. Now, I don’t know if you know much about Nashville, TN but we’ve recently went through several growth spurts which means, TRAFFIC IS HORRIBLE. I was thinking to myself, there is no way we’re going to get to all of that in such a short time.

You see, when you have problems can sometimes be like popcorn, once they pop, they just can’t stop. That is exactly what happened. Keep reading, I’m almost there but first I want you to follow the journey.

Okay so remember when I said that I was out Saturday forgetting about my allergies being great and running errands? Well one of those errands was an oil change for my car. So we’re in my car, on a packed interstate headed to the first destination we can make it to in such a short time when all of a sudden we see smoke coming out of my hood. I thought to myself, “clearly that smoke is not coming from my hood because I almost died getting the oil changed.” Yea all of that. My husband immediately pulls the car over to discover that some hose, that was important to the car’s health, had a leak that was preventing vital fluids from getting to the engine. If we did not take care of this issues IMMEDIATELY, the car would stop and this problem would become an even bigger problem.

Insert emotions here—>

So now, we have three problems, my husband car is sick, my car trying to fall out, the kids need to be picked up, my husband needs to get to his 2nd job, let’s not forget I still had work to do for my Momprenuer journey and now work to try to go back and get down for my “funding the dream” job.

We eventually got to an auto parts store and my husband was able to change the part after a struggle. We picked the kids up late. I missed my nieces track meet and had to get her mom to bring her home. My husband got to his new 2nd job only to be told that he could not work because technically he was not in their system and could not work.

When we got home we were exhausted and stressed. I sat on my couch with a good glass of wine while dinner was cooking. Turned on HGTV. Looked at my husband and said, WE MADE IT! I pulled out my laptop and I got some work down for both my “funding the dream” job and also worked The dream.

THE LESSON

Your will always have problems but they don’t have to be your priority. Instead, place your focus on what you can do to get to the next level not on the problems you face on the way up. You problems are tied to your purpose. They’re put in place so that you can learn, grow and overcome. Instead of focusing on the CAN’T, focus on the CAN. Replace your cant with a can and watch your results flow. Watch your circumstances change watch your goals become accomplishments and watch your dreams become reality.

Also, you can’t wait for everything to be perfect before taking a leap of faith and pursuing the things you’re passionate about. Perfection is an elusion you will never achieve. You know, it’s a unicorn. Am I in the perfect situation to be pursuing my dreams right now? Hell NAW, to NAW, NAW, NAW! I could put together a list for you, as a matter of fact, here you go:

I’m not where I want to be financially

My kids have more activities than I can keep up with

I have to make time because I don’t have time

My husband get’s on my nerves every other day (love you tho boo)

My job is very challenging and demanding

The list can go on and on

Instead of focusing on those things, I create a strategy to work on those things while I go. I can’t let 1 problem stop a show. My faith is strong and I know without a shadow of a doubt that my God will provide and he does, daily. That is what this Momprenuer life is about, creating this business so that I can have the freedom to focus my time and attention where I see fit while providing a better life for my family. Right now I’m in building mode which means working late nights and early mornings. Posting blogs while on the way to work and my husband driving and trust me, he can’t drive ya’ll. (Love you babe). You just have to push through and keep your focus on your resolutions and the things you can control. I can’t control the problems that are thrown at me but I can control how I allow them to impact me.

I will always remind you that any journey worth taking is not going to be easy but it will always be worth it!

Your friend in your head and in real life too,

Life Strategist KG♥

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Life Strategist KG

Life and Business Coach, Author, Speaker, Mommy, Wife, and overall Mompreneur. I love helping people see the CAN in every CAN'T.
KG is the Life and Business Coach Editor for Model Mom Magazine. In her segment, Ask a life coach, you can ask her all of your questions about life, business, relationships, babies, and whatever else you need guidance one. Send questions to:
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