Dating your husband again

If your partner is working at home with the kids, he’s also sacrificing for your family. They’re in there, elbow-deep in something yucky, and caring for the kids all day long.As much as he probably loves being the at-home parent, and finds immense joy in it, all parents have times when they, too, want to throw in the towel (or diaper), yell at the boss (the baby? It’s easy: Tell him that you know how hard it can be to do what he does.Even if he loves his job, I guarantee you there are days when he thinks about throwing in the towel or yelling at his boss, or just hiding away in his office all day. Their earning ability, sadly, is often attached to their value in our society.

Guys are supposed to not care about things like what clothes they wear or whether their new haircut looks good, right? I’ve never met a guy who didn’t care at all whether the person he loved thought he was attractive.

So let him know when you see him and just get that tingle.

If that’s out of your budget, a tent in the woods can be really fun, too. Don’t feel up for showing your whole body or getting too racy?

Even at home you can talk about fantasies or look at sexy photos together, like the diverse set in Dr. Try taking close-ups of a sexy but not-so-obvious body part. Choose to fantasize about him, about a time you were together, about that favorite part of his body that you love so much.

If you listened to stereotypes about what guys like, you wouldn’t think a soul-gazing connection would be on his list of good things, but I dare you to try it.

Look him in the eye with a smile or a playful expression, and hold his gaze for three seconds. One key to a lasting relationship is to give your partner a million happy little moments with you, and he should do the same in return.Your bra strap on your shoulder, the top of your undies peeking out from your jeans at the hip. Then heap all that desire upon him when you have the next opportunity to be together, alone. I don’t know why, but when Ivan and I were first together, I resented how much time he spent surfing or riding his mountain bike.We were both working, we didn’t see each other a whole lot, and I felt like I was cast aside.That was a of pressure to put on my husband, and not very fair.We eventually learned how to schedule our alone time—and I took advantage of him being so supportive of my need to work out, write or just read a book in bed.No, he’s probably not a sex god, but the best sex feels transcendent, mutual, connected, steamy, and dreamy; so keep sex sacred and intense for both of you.