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Would this incident of public shaming make you think twice about breastfeeding in public?

You're
out on a beautiful, sunny day with your baby. You stop and sit for a
sandwich, and realize someone else is also hungry. So you decide to
breastfeed your child, discreetly of course, thanks to your stretchy
t-shirt. This is how Emily Slough innocently spent an afternoon. Little
did she know, a stranger photographed her breastfeeding her 8-month-old daughter Matilda and then posted the photo on Facebook with a nasty caption:
"I know the sun is out n all that but there's no need to let your kid
feast on your nipple in town!!! Tramp." Honestly, what is wrong with
people?

Tramp?!? You can't even see so much as an inch of skin.
In fact, the only way you can even tell she's breastfeeding is from the
position of Matilda's head. Slough was outraged, of course.

The mentality of the individual that attempted to shame me for
feeding my daughter makes me so angry. I am very confident and
comfortable with my breastfeeding, but I know plenty who aren't and
don't even humour the idea of nursing because of some ridiculous stigma
attached to it and fear of embarrassment, humiliation and
non-acceptance.

Even the owner of the restaurant, where Slough was seated outside on
the steps, was embarrassed on her behalf. He suspects the photo was
taken by a young man who looked to be 18 years old. "It's some idiot
with a phone," says Gavin Houston. Is it pathetic that I'm relieved this
was probably some ignorant kid at least, and not a prudish adult or --
God forbid -- another mom?

Anyway, I was completely creeped out by this incident.
All the times I've breastfed my son in a public space it never occurred
to me that a stranger could snap a photo. And post it online. With some
horrible, crude comment! It would be easy for anyone to hear this story
and be shamed into never breastfeeding in public, ever.

But then, it kind of makes you feel defiant, too.
Right? Like, no creepy little twerp is going to keep me from feeding my
baby wherever I want to! (Not me literally -- my kid is 10 now. But you
get what I mean.) I hope that's the reaction most breastfeeding moms
have when they hear about this public shaming; The only person who
should be ashamed is the kid who posted that photo.

Would this incident of public shaming make you think twice about breastfeeding in public?

It is ridiculous to shame someone, but how hard it is to pull your shirt down to cover some or use a light blanket or diaper? Most I see do this. I think the ones that are totally exposed with their shirt up around their neck want the attention to make a statement. I can do this.

It is ridiculous to shame someone, but how hard it is to pull your shirt down to cover some or use a light blanket or diaper? Most I see do this. I think the ones that are totally exposed with their shirt up around their neck want the attention to make a statement. I can do this.

. Umm granted it sounds easy enough to put a blanket over babies head but babies dont often go for that the blanket gets pulled tossed ect babies hold it and push it up and down and pull. You can wrap one around the baby and that usually works but again not always. I have never though seen someone with a shirt up to there neck

by Anonymous 2
on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:05 AM

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I owuld contact Facebook and tel them it was me in the photo and it was unauthorized. They should pull it then.

Don't make people have to be around your naked breast or we will assume you are a voyeur or that you don't get enough attention at home.

It's not surprising to me that women have this kind of attitude these days. Selfish and attention-seeking.

by Anonymous 1
on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:08 AM

Quoting AmyG1976:

Quoting Anonymous:

It is ridiculous to shame someone, but how hard it is to pull your shirt down to cover some or use a light blanket or diaper? Most I see do this. I think the ones that are totally exposed with their shirt up around their neck want the attention to make a statement. I can do this.

. Umm granted it sounds easy enough to put a blanket over babies head but babies dont often go for that the blanket gets pulled tossed ect babies hold it and push it up and down and pull. You can wrap one around the baby and that usually works but again not always. I have never though seen someone with a shirt up to there neck

I have never seen a baby pull the blanket off. Guess you have seen different.

I have big boobs and my son refused the blanket. I covered as much as possible but since the whores walking down the street with coochie cutters and halter tops cut down to their belt buttons walk around with no issue. I didnt see it as a problem.

Quoting Anonymous:

It is ridiculous to shame someone, but how hard it is to pull your shirt down to cover some or use a light blanket or diaper? Most I see do this. I think the ones that are totally exposed with their shirt up around their neck want the attention to make a statement. I can do this.

It is ridiculous to shame someone, but how hard it is to pull your shirt down to cover some or use a light blanket or diaper? Most I see do this. I think the ones that are totally exposed with their shirt up around their neck want the attention to make a statement. I can do this.

. Umm granted it sounds easy enough to put a blanket over babies head but babies dont often go for that the blanket gets pulled tossed ect babies hold it and push it up and down and pull. You can wrap one around the baby and that usually works but again not always. I have never though seen someone with a shirt up to there neck

I have never seen a baby pull the blanket off. Guess you have seen different.

experenced just seeing someone once or twice or not paying attn maybe not see it . I dont think I have ever seen it but I KNOW it happens I have seen babies playing griping the blanket I have had babies yank it right down push my shirt up higher and higher granted I then hold there hand and push shirt back but it happens. thats what they are for. I see more boob on tv tring to be sexual than a mom just trying to feed a baby

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