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She is seeing her BM for the 1st time in 7-8 years -Update- -Update

We tracked down my 9 year old's Bio mother and now we are in NY going to meet her. I want to sit her down and talk about her terminating her rights so I can adopt her daughter. I have been raising her since she was 6. We are meeting in a restaurant and I am going to try to talk nicely about it. I don't want a custody battle but I will fight for her like I fought for her sister. I want my daughter there so she can choose and tell her BM that she wants to be with me.

If she tries to fight I will get her for abandonment.

Please wish us luck. Will update later.

Update: I am sitting at the restaurant waiting for her. I did leave my daughter at home with a friend. BM is an hour late and I am nervous. I called her about 5x and it kept going to VM so I am going to assume it died or she is on the train

Update #2: It is 9:30 she never showed up. I left at about 7 and called and told her that if she still wanted to discuss I would give her until Sunday. If I go back home without meeting her then I will go to.court.

I agree with what some of the other mom's have already said for two teasonsThe child should not be there when you talkreasons. It could cause too much distress for her. If you want to get her for abandonment, the last thing I would do is give her the chance to meet the child. BM could say in court that she had just met her daughter and therefore there is no abandonment. I know the chances of this happeningr are small but some women will try everything...

Thanks. I won't bring her. She can stay with my friend while I deal with it.

Quoting AtillaTheHun:

I agree with what some of the other mom's have already said for two teasonsThe child should not be there when you talkreasons. It could cause too much distress for her. If you want to get her for abandonment, the last thing I would do is give her the chance to meet the child. BM could say in court that she had just met her daughter and therefore there is no abandonment. I know the chances of this happeningr are small but some women will try everything...

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