Sadness is something we all go through, and we all learn from it and are deepened by its presence in our lives. While our own individual experiences of sadness carry with them unique lessons, the implications of what we learn are universal. For the World too is going through its own unique lessons as we grow through the experience.

The last thing most of us want to hear or think about when we are dealing with profound feelings of sadness is that deep learning can be found in this place.The other thing we often would rather not hear is that the only way out of it is through it.

Sometimes being empathic means we do not always realise if the feelings of melancholy are ours or we are feeling the energies we link into.

I was feeling low of spirit way before my Dear Aunt passed away. I had already prepared a post in my drafts about Nature making us feel better, which I will post at a later date.. I had taken a walk on the Saturday taking snap shots for the post.. And went out again on Sunday to recharge my batteries again as I had felt much refreshed by walking in Nature ..

Yet not 5 minutes out of the car, I tripped and fell heavily meeting the concrete path from the car park with a crack so loud on my chin I thought I had broken my Jaw. Luckily I only badly bruised my chin(Bruises: The little bumps in life. Self-punishment.) and sprained my wrists.. ( Sprains: Anger and resistance. Not wanting to move in a certain direction in life). Which left my muscles feeling very stiff over the last few days, (Stiffness: Rigid, stiff thinking.) Life is showing me the ‘Signs’

Self analysis is also a painful business, and over the last few days I guess I have been reflecting upon the direction of my life. I embraced early retirement with so much gusto, and threw myself into the allotment, decorating, and knitting projects.. and yet I have still to find what fills that empty space..

I guess I am resisting being in my comfort zone of being ME…

Sitting with our sadness takes the courage to believe that we can bear the pain and the faith that we will come out the other side.Sadness teachers us the ability to surrender and the acceptance of change go hand in hand.

I just need to change my thoughts and follow the above quote I guess I am still in the process of adjusting and the lessons are coming in thick and fast.

I have known well a few people, during the course of my long life, who always exhibited and over-weaning need to stress the positive. They were not entirely Panglossian or Pollyanna-like in their outlook, yet there was a barely masked desperation to cling to some vision of an imaginary, borderline utopian world. Invariably this broke down after some time, as the more persistently demanding aspects of life came crashing in around them. The healthy attitude is to embrace also the inevitable senses of loss, or alienation, or emptiness that occasionally beset us all, and this is what you are doing Sue. It takes courage to sit with these feelings, I know – the impulse being to reject and to manipulate with distractions of various kinds. What we find though, in the end, is that our negative feelings are no more than that: mere responses of the body’s nervous system. And to indulge these feelings and perpetuate them in thought is seen to be ineffectual, counter-productive and pernicious. The bundling of the two together forms an irrepressible emotive force that is then inhabited. Once the whole is seen for what it is, all is perceived as well once again.

Dearest Hariod.. I had to look up what Panglossian was… You know I just love your way with words.. And love them all even though at times I feel quiet inadequate in knowing what they all mean.. LOL.. So you do me a greater service as I look them up and learn more words to add to my vocabulary 🙂

Yes I see exactly what you are saying.. And that having a positive outlook can at times takes its toll..
You are right.. I think that is why deep down beneath the reasons I gave up my supportive Working roll early.. Was that I was surrounded by negative vibes of self destruction.. And I was finding my own energy of being positive so being drained… And yes I know, we often allow our energies to be drained unwillingly..

For I am sure too you understand the workings of how energy is exchanged.. we can be sucked dry of our energy by such people who pull at our energy centres…

I was pondering in the days prior to my fall at what was causing my energy to feel so low.. And even though I advocate not to get caught up in the News Drama’s around the world.. I also knew a sense of exasperation and frustration was over taking me.. Even though one understands adding such thoughts only adds to the collective.. It was still I suppose getting to me…

One way the Universe grabs our attention is by giving us a wake up call.. And the Fall certainly did that.. what sent me for 6 was the added worry of my Aunt and then her passing…

Writing about the experience and stepping back from myself to view my thoughts and feelings has helped enormously bring things back into perspective..
And I agree Hariod..
“Once the whole is seen for what it is, all is perceived as well once again.”

I know Sue; I am an incorrigible sesquipedalian. 😉 Having a naturally positive outlook is very beautiful of course, and these days is to be all the more treasured given the huge difficulties we face as a global collective. When I mentioned an “over-weaning need to stress the positive”, the key word there was ‘need’. Our positivity is not truly that if issuing from a sense of lack, for then it becomes delusory of course – we’re prone to seeing the world through rose-tinted glasses that we’re fearful of removing as we might then reveal what’s truly there. 😮 Such people have a real struggle to work through the sorts of things you’re currently experiencing quite naturally. Your own approach, in recognising what’s going on, having the courage to face your feelings – however difficult – and then coming to air all of this in public, is what I am applauding you for dear Sue. H ❤

I try to find a positive in every negative situation.. for instance.. I am thankful I only got bruised and no bones or teeth broken.. The world at large takes another kind of pill to swallow..
Its only I think the knowledge that we are being shown only a portion of a view from someone else’s perspective that keeps my Rose coloured glasses on the end of my nose :-)..

I question many times the mechanics of the workings of the world.. But I also know that we are here to experience a duality of both positive and Negative frequencies… One cannot exist without both Positive and Negative… And without the Negative we would not experience the Positive.

My worst time is in the middle of the night.. as I wake to ponder and then I just have to resolve to TRUST.. in the Greater Plan.. We are all part of.. And try to focus my intention… I ponder as I always feel I need to be of service or have a ‘mission’ in life… Somedays Hariod that mission is obscured as I feel overwhelmed by the enormity of how far as a species we still have to grow… I am far from perfect.. Far from it.. But I have this desire to share a positive outlook with the world.. So when I get so despondent within my own outlook it’s almost like failing.. Which depresses me further..
I so thank you for your encouragement and your sincerity of your words.. I value them and your insightful outlook on my thoughts.. And yes sometimes we do not have the answers its better to admit we are only Human after all 😉
❤ ❤ ❤

Oh, No, my dear Sue! I’m so sorry for your loss and hope you are feeling better from the fall. I’ve noticed they come as a package. The bumps of life are ample as it is, we needn’t add more! Grieving leaves us somewhat vulnerable and weak, so please be caring to yourself. Sending you a big big hug, love and my thoughts. Be well, my dear dear friend.

All the better for that wonderful Hug Marina… and yes you have recently felt the same blows I know Marina.. I am much brighter today.. and the bruises are slowly fading… And my Aunt I know is also learning to adjust in her new surroundings also.. I am sure she is much happier in her new home.. 🙂

Sue I am so sorry for your loss and your aches and pains after your fall. I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself during this transition. We all go through these feelings of melancholy and angst at how to fill our hours in a meaningful way when our lifestyle is changed suddenly. I loved to work so when I decided to stay home with my baby it was very hard. I had no experience with having all this time on my hands and it was hard. But little by little I grew to embrace the slower lifestyle and today couldn’t imagine myself back in the business world working twelve to eighteen hours a day like I did right up till my son was born. Just be kind to yourself as you transition.

Dear Lois.. thank you so much, and also thank you for being patient with me for getting to comment upon your own posts..
Yes I think thats half of my problem… being patient with myself.. And learning to slow down..
Many thanks my dear friend for your concern and comment.. Love back.. Sue xx

Thank you dear Kim.. Yes it was not what I was expecting to happen to my Aunt. She was rushed into Hospital on the Friday, and I was able to visit her on the Monday.. and she passed away Wednesday..
But I know she will be catching up with all the family now over the other side….
I am much improved thank you Kim.. and I so thank you for your well wishes xxx ❤ Love Sue

Thank you Kim for your kind supportive love.. I am so blessed to have you among my good friends here on WP.. I am feeling much brighter and posted today what I was originally going to post a few days ago…
See you very soon xx

Dear IzzakMak, I found this old comment so I can alert you, as I left a comment earlier today on someone elses blog which spammed me.. it seems I have gone straight into your own spam box too… xx Hope you can dig me out and unspam me please.. xxx

Times of transition are difficult. I find myself quite melancholy in transition. However, I don’t always consider melancholy to be sadness but more of a reflective time for me though.
I’m so sorry for your pain and injury and do wish you speedy healing. Blessings and peace to you.

Yes, I know exactly what you mean Suzi.. I knew instinctively my melancholy vibes were my own way of dealing with my emotions of my own altered circumstances.. The Fall and then the bereavement of my Aunt I think just catapulted me into that deeper zone of feeling sorry for myself..
It has made me analyse the reasons more closely, And I thank you so much for your healing thoughts xxx And for taking the time to leave me your comment.. x Hugs Sue

I am sending you lots and lots of Love and healing light Sue!! 🙂 It is okay to be sad, you know, sadness tells us that there is something in us that need our attention ❤ I find that sadness is often a clue on the way to finding a treasure. ❤

Yes thank you Trini.. I have allowed myself several little weeps to indulge in.. My dear Aunt was a special lady and I know she is enjoying a much brighter place among her family again..
Bless your own healing heart Trini.. your words bring much love and comfort xxx

I am sorry Sue for the loss of your Aunt and your fall. In my life, these ” accidents” usually occur when I need to slow down and get off of life’s merry go round. Retirement is a tricky thing. Re-tire can mean install new tires and get back moving. So maybe you require new footing before you move forward. love and big hugs, Linda

I too am sorry for your loss Sue xx And that sounds a nasty fall, I hope you are ok. It always takes me a long time to adjust when I have a lot more time on my hands and I think it’s because I feel I am lacking in direction, “should be” doing something, would be” if I knew what I should be doing….! I think we are so busy nowadays we think it’s wrong just to relax and slow down, we feel useless. I watch my dog and cat and they feel no guilt at all just being, lazing, sleeping. Maybe it’s not so much you need to move forward but allow yourself to just be where you are right now? Don’t know?!

Dearest Wendy..
Many thanks dear friend for your kind wishes.. and you said

“Maybe it’s not so much you need to move forward but allow yourself to just be where you are right now? Don’t know?!”

I agree.. My Hubby is always telling me stop rushing you have all the time now to do things.. .. I agree we feel guilty when we are not doing something.. And The bruises are healing now.. turning a nice dark yellowy mixture… LOL… So its a good thing its been snowing as I am hibernating indoors for a while.. 🙂 xxxx

Miro.. 🙂 Many thanks my good friend… Your support and kindness are so very much appreciated..
I am fine.. I needed the fall to shake me into perspective..
And I am fully aware my dear Aunt is in a much brighter better place surrounded by family and love..
We have to give ourselves a good shake up at times.. I think the Universe just beat me to it this time, lol.. with a crack to the chin.. 😀 hehe.. Although I would have preferred a good kick up the posterior LOL instead.. 😉 haha….
Take care Miro… and Bless you .. Thank you

Becca… I know and I feel your love and your energy in uplifting me.. At times I think we just get swamped and I know my dear Aunt is exploring her new surroundings with wonder.. Of that I am certain..
Many thanks dear Becca. xxx

So sorry to hear about your loss and your pain and sadness. I will be thinking about you and send you lots of love and a big hug.
You are an inspiration for many which is a great purpose. Give yourself some time
and I hope you feel better soon

Thank you Lynne… My Aunt was a special lady.. still is.. for I am sure she is now so happy she can See again.. for she has failing eyesight for a number of years which made her days not the brightest…
I know she will be reunited with family and exploring her new surroundings..

Many thanks for dropping by Lynne.. I appreciate your visit xx Hugs Sue

I hope that you are okay Sue,
those falls can be so treacherous
in this kind of weather, mainly
as there is not much one can
do but hit the ground rather hard,
as you did, and lucky not to have
broken any bones. The stiffness
of the joints from a jolt like this
adds to the discomfort, so I am
hoping that soon all of your pains
will have gone my dear friend 🙂

I am much improved Andro.. thank you.. teach me to look where I am going.. LOL.. but I really did just trip over my feet. Just one of those lessons in life..
Many thanks for your concern..
Enjoy your weekend
Hugs Sue

Beautifully penned and highy uplifting … You are so right about being emphatic dear Sue. Also these words spoke out loud to me: “For the World too is going through its own unique lessons as we grow through the experience:…
Thanks for sharing my friend . Wishing you a wonderful weekend ahead ⭐
Aquileana 😀

Thank you dear Aquileana… Yes the world is reflecting back our own experiences.. And if we want it to change. Then it is we who have to alter our Actions 🙂
Enjoy your weekend too… and special hugs your way xox

I was trying to think of something that might lift your heart Sue! I have been there many times of late. I am glad your fall was not worse, but sometimes even that is a wake up call! I almost fell down the steps yesterday myself! Your posting is indeed wonderful. Sorry for your loss, usually I would say something more…but here is a poem about losing someone close that might do the trick, it is one of my favorites because the spirit of a love one will always be near to us in our hearts and minds.

Butterflies

Whenever I see the butterflies flying
I am reminded of your smiling face,
As I see them taking wing into the sky
I feel emotions which are never displaced

For in my heart also live the butterflies
As they come to life within me each day
While I count the different memories of you
Which in my thoughts and dreams will stay

The brightness of their many vibrant colors
Produce a vivid rainbow deep within my mind
Which fills my heart with such unwavering joy
Allowing me to enjoy them for an endless time

The butterflies will be my deepest treasure
Leaving me never again feeling the same
As the peace they bring to me cannot be measured
For on their wings are imprinted your name

My Dearest Wendell.. Bless your heart for that wonderful poem. It brought tears to my eyes..
I know my Aunt along with all who pass Wendell, are now in such a better place.. And no doubt she is celebrating her arrival back home with passed family members..

I was very close to my Aunt.. and although we lived around 40 miles apart.. I would visit her regularly, and we would keep in touch via phone..
I know now she can see, as her eyesight was very bad, But she was a gentle soul whose heart was so big and compassionate..
Your poem dear Wendell I will treasure. as Butterflies are close to my heart.. And you are indeed today a messenger from Spirit to bring me your words upon their wings
I can not thank you enough dear friend
Thank you Wendell..
Love and hugs Sue ❤

{{{{{{{Sister Sue}}}}}}} 😦 ❤ So sorry to hear of your loss. Also the fall, it has happened to me as well, been awhile but I landed square on my face, I was so relieved that I did not knock out my teeth or break my nose or anything. ❤ I hope you are on the mend. I am so grateful that you also did not break anything. These moments do cause self-reflection. ❤ ❤ ❤

Awww seems we are sisters!!! LOL.. Yes it shakes us up, and I think my last Fall i had was on an icy path at work once… where I fell on my knees and grazed them.. The older you get the more shaken you feel.. And I was very thankful I didn’t lose my teeth or brake any bones…
We can always find something to be grateful for in any situation..

The roads we walk in life lead us where we wish or need to travel either consciously or unconsciously. Healing is a process of reflection and looking forward.
Let it all simmer for a bit while you heal; the full moon (Feb. 3) will highlight your present and facilitate future goals. with love and light, Eddie

Awww.. Eddie.. thank you.. I am relaxing this weekend… And will be cerebrating our Ruby Wedding Anniversary.. Saturday… I will make sure I mark the 3rd of Feb in my diary as a date to make sure I send out positive intentions of thoughts..
Bless you my friend.. 🙂 Love and Light Sue

It’s hard enough to process losing someone close to you when you are in a good place but when you are struggling to find where your direction is heading it can be a double blow and it takes time to work through the steps of loss and grieving to come out of the other side. You are very right about learning from the sadness, from those little moments in life where you wonder what on EARTH is going on, why it is going on with “you” and where it is going to go from this point. It is one of life’s precious lessons that we learn from everything that happens to us and that we are not meant to be “happy” every moment of our lives. Sometimes the most deep and profound life lessons come from sadness, from loss and from feeling out on a limb. Sorry to hear you had a fall. I slip over all over the place here on Serendipity Farm. I am starting to think I had best get a digger in to level it all as I get older. BIG hugs from sunny Sidmouth to you.

Yes you are right Narf…My own most profound lessons have come deep from that place of sad reflection.. And thank you for that profound comment too.. And will be catching up with what you have been doing on the farm next week now dear friend…
Bruises all healing.. And feeling much brighter.. thank you.. xx ❤

How fortunate Sue, for the loving wishes of many surround you. Our only protection from inevitable lows comes from the goodwill we have created by caring and sharing ourselves with others. It doesn’t take a genius to see that your heart is where it should be. I join in sending warm wishes your way 🙂

Ah, Sue… my condolences for your loss.
I’m sorry to hear of your stumble… I hope you’re feeling better now. Falls like that can give you a nasty jolt. Follow your own advice and spend some valuable time to regain your balance. All will be well, I’m sure!

Bless you Tom.. Many thanks.. recovering on all fronts… And I am going to enjoy a quiet weekend… Celebrating our Ruby Wedding Anniversary today.. So a nice meal for two is on the cards..
See you soon you are not forgotten.. And so appreciate your kindness x

Sue You are so “awake” that you will have instant ” lessons” because of your awareness . I seem to bring humor after feeling the feelings and being with what just happened. I would be one if Harold’s subjects, ever ebbing and flowing with the moment, ending up as you have in the non resistance to the ever flowing light that surrounds you. I love what Trinni said ” sadness is a clue to finding a treasure” when we truly remember we have no separation, as you have experienced, your aunt is still with you! You are already perfection my friend, this is the truth, at the highest level of your divine self…along with your aunts now light body! Expressions in kind my friend as you spoke this to me the other day!! So if it is your path…celebrate her life as if she is here, because she is! And so it is!! Much love Ruby in ( Robyn)

Dear Robyn.. what a beautiful comment.. And yes I agree, most of my profound healing has come through some tough lessons .. And I know beyond a doubt our loved ones walk by our sides and are only ever a Thought away.. Many thanks for you kind support xxx ❤ I appreciate it greatly

Oh I can so relate to your process of understanding your hurts DW…It is what we must do t5hough to grasp that lesson we are meant to be getting. If we don’t look for it, it can easily pass us by. Just sorry it took your tumble to get your attention!!! Ouch! It sure grabbed your attention though. If we could only master getting the messages sooner and by passing the painful reminders 🙂 Hope you are healing quickly…Be well my friend and stay peaceful within…VK ❤ ❤ ❤

I grasped the lessons right on the chin LOL VK.. haha… glad to say much brighter now… And I am Signing off the PC for the weekend.. As Celebrating our Ruby Wedding Anniversary today.. So a Quiet afternoon and then a meal for two is on the cards for this evening… Just so pleased my bruised chin is now a faded yellow, LOL.. so can disguise with a little makeup 🙂 Take care too.. Much love your way xxx Hugs ❤ ❤ xxx

Hello Sue, so sorry to hear about your dear Aunt and the fall. Fifteen years ago, I fell from the banana boat ride and hurt my chin. The wound was quite deep and I had10 stitches. ( ◡́.◡̀). Sending you hugs and blessings of peace! ≧◠‿◠≦✌

Dear friend.. thank you so much.. Yes the knocks to our chin and ‘pride’ lol often hurts.. I think my Chin hurt the most LOL.. and ouch.. 10 stitches.. So pleased mine was only grazed not cut… Bug Hugs back xx

So sorry for your loss Sue, and with this post I walk away with your thoughts in my mind: “courage to believe that we can bear the pain and the faith that we will come out the other side.” This is the strength to live through days like these and to the faith that keep us and those around us strong. Take care ~

Many thanks Dalo for your kind well wishes.. I came out the other side, and sometimes life has to throw us of centre for us to regain our balance.. And the lessons learned are often well remembered as we learn to walk through them. 🙂 I appreciate your visit Dalo, thank you 🙂

I am sorry to hear about your injuries and sadness but glad to see you are picking up the torch and seeing where the fires are guiding you. The spiritual path is not for the feint of heart is it? Sending blessings and hugs to a gracious warrior – Lisa🌸

What a beautifully written post, Sue, and I’m so sorry to hear of your loss and of your fall..I hope you’ll heal quickly, inside and out, and will find peace, too…Many things you wrote about I work on each day and I’m not sure if we’ll ever find that place 100%, but we’ll probably be more at peace trying along the way. 🙂 Sending much love and many hugs your way…xoxo

Also, there’s been a great big sadness all around us. I don’t doubt that your empathic self is tuned into it. Ever since Mercury went retrograde, there has been a lot of energy moving through – a great clearing of consciousness. You are not alone in experiencing it. The first of the year has been rough for many.

You are such a beautiful and loving woman. I hold you in my heart – as you would hold me in your heart. So much love to you ❤ and a gentle allowing that returns you to your sense of vitality – joy – connectedness.

Yes I can so relate to this Ka.. many people I know have felt the same.. And I started out the year clearing out personal stuff as well as decorating lol which is another form of clearing out.. Still on with that as we have a few more rooms to complete..
Thank you very much for you wonderful kindness and your lovely compliment… I truly appreciate you and you taking time out to visit and comment.. .. I am much brighter, so thank you dear Ka.. xxx Hugs back

Seems like we’ve been in a similar place of late Sue. Very interesting what you said about bumps and strains etc. I would say that’s very true given my own bangs and bruises and stiff sore body parts! I hadn’t thought of it in this way before but I think it’s a very good point. Certainly too, if we can change the way we’re thinking we can change a whole bunch of other areas too including how we feel physically. I am progressing in this area and starting to feel the benefits but I assume from the on-going stiffness and soreness of late (nothing to do with getting old or the ice and snow of course lol) that I still have some stiff, unsavoury thoughts and ideas to deal with…all in due course! Hardly had time to think about anything constructive the last week anyway! Battle on…this time will pass if it hasn’t already, given the lateness of my arrival here 🙂 Wolfie hugs xx

yes.. I am smiling as I read again my own post.. And yet I still succumbed to allowing my own doubts to creep up along with a bunch of emotional garbage which I had thought buried.. But I have battled on.. and come to grips with my emotional blip.. And I thank you Wolfie for your kind paws upon my shoulder.. xxx And never worry about your lateness of arrival.. You are here.. and thats all that matters.. xxx

We all do that Sue…it’s part of being human…perhaps we may never be completely free of our insecurities but we can learn a lot from them too! I learned it was a great tonic to finally overcome my doubts about my own decision making and this weekend soothed the soul with a shiny new and very pricey laptop! I then got struck down with a stinking cold before recovering enough to order the very latest, newly released (today) new mobile phone! Neither are out of their boxes yet due to lack of time and the need to catch up a little here…and “woman flu” lol (much, much worse than man flu!!) BUT! The distractions have given the overwraught mind a break and now I’m facing my demons with a little less dread and fear and a touch more common sense rationality…who said material things weren’t good for you!!! 😉 See? wolfie has emotional blips…or tsunami’s usually to be honest lol, too 🙂 We will all battle on together, yes? We will all stand together and fight our emotional blips till they are no more, yes? Because we all have them and we all have to battle them and so much better supporting each other 🙂 Wolfie hugs and let’s all fight the good fight together! 🙂

LOL so love you Wolfie… I hope you are feeling brighter.. And you have a fabulous Valentines Day.. No more Tsunami’s …. but I will admit to being one big DRIP! at times.. :-D…. Together hand in hand… xxxx Hugs ❤

Hi Sue, hope you have overcome those little hiccups in your life, bumps, bruises and feelings of being nowhere are part of the cards we have been dealt.
Stop and think for a while, maybe sometimes we are meant to be in that empty space for a while, an empty space to allow recharging.
Cheers

The only times I’ve fallen and not been really badly hurt were when I gave into the fall and let it take me where it would. I closed my eyes and let it happen. Very very hard to do, however. I hope you get through these bumps and hurdles. Sending lots of healing thoughts.

I so appreciate your visit Kourtney, Bumps and bruises all healed.. And my emotions are well on their way to healing also.. Many thanks for your healing thoughts.. I so SO appreciate them.. xxx Hugs Sue

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