So how does a responsible person make their most personal relationships work successfully? The key word here is "responsible." Honestly, I have met individuals who just never thought that they had to think and act responsibly in their relationships, if they weren't getting paid. This just isn't that unusual. On the other hand, I've talked with people who struggle to know "what" specifically to do to strengthen an existing relationship.

I've actually been told by one man that because he worked hard all day at the office that once he arrived at home he should be able to just relax and let his hair down. He didn't see that he should have to put forth any effort at all to ensure that he had a successful relationship at home.

I think it was the same person who said "if you have to work that hard, maybe this just isn't the right person for me."

Making an effort to be responsible does not have to mean showing another how unreasonable they are behaving. It likely doesn't mean escalating the situation either. Being responsible in family relations can be challenging and might suggest allowing others to find solutions to their own issues. Often, however, we just need to practice developing a greater proficiency with a few new skills. We can talk about these and other concerns you have. Making a professional connection with a Psychologist can remind us of our personal values, our strengths, plus provide us with a perspective that proffers real development opportunities.

* As Licensed Psychologists & coaches, we provide counseling for those with emotional and interpersonal concerns, hypnotherapy for enhancing your inner quality, Personal Life & Executive Coaching for people interested in personal and professional development, as well as an Employee Assistance Program for organizations. As we assist you, we both grow and benefit from our interactions together!