If you’re currently going through a breakup, there’s a certain question that might be on your mind…

“Should I have sex with my ex?”

The answer to that question is complicated. For starters, it depends on what you want. Are you trying to get your ex back? Are you thinking sleeping with your ex might help the two of you reconnect? Or do you know it’s over, but just want to have a little fun because you’ve been horny as hell ever since the two of you broke up?

In general, you probably shouldn’t have sex with your ex. It usually just delays the inevitable.

As you ponder the question of sleeping with your ex, let’s look at some of the pros and cons of ex sex…

Reasons you might find yourself in bed with your ex include:

1. It’s comfortable. When you’re emotionally vulnerable, it’s sometimes easier to stick with the person you know (even if they hurt you) rather than risk opening yourself up to being hurt by someone else.

2. It’s easy. You already know what sex is like with your ex. You know what they like. They know what you like. It’s not awkward; it’s easy. So if the sex is good, why not, right?

3. It makes you feel less “slutty” than a one-night stand would. When you have sex with your ex, you get to have “casual sex” and get laid without waking up the next morning thinking, “Who the hell is that next to me and what did I do with them last night?”

4. You still love them and secretly hope sex makes everything better. When you’re going through a breakup, having sex with your ex allows you to hold onto a piece of them. For a moment, that may be all you need, but eventually the relationship will fall apart again if sex is all you have going for you.

Reasons you probably shouldn’t sleep with your ex include:

1. It prevents you from getting on with your life. As I already mentioned, having sex with your ex doesn’t repair your relationship. The same problems will still exist. All it really does is delay the inevitable.

2. It can create a lot more drama. What happens when you think the sex means something, but your ex thinks it’s “just sex”. All of a sudden, you’re hurt even more and the drama increases tenfold.

3. You can only lie to yourself for so long. It’s easy to justify sex with your ex. “I’ll just do it this one time to see if I still have feelings.” “It doesn’t mean anything. It’s just sex.” “It’s just for fun because we are both horny.” “I’m ok with this arrangement.” Eventually, you find out you’re not ok with the situation. You can only lie to yourself and ignore your real emotions for so long before sh*t hits the fan.

4. You can end up getting used. When you have sex with your ex, they basically get to have their cake and eat it too. They get sex without commitment. It might be the ideal situation for them, but is it really what YOU want? Who’s to say they aren’t going out and banging someone else the minute they leave your place?

5. You’re now sleeping with everyone else they are sleeping with. If your ex has started seeing other people, now you run a greater risk of STD’s and all that crazy stuff. Hopefully, both you and your ex always practice safe sex with every partner, but in this day and age you just never know.

If you really want to sleep with your ex, you can make that choice. Just know it’s not the solution to your relationship problems, and it won’t be the reason they take you back after a breakup.

Because here’s the thing: if you want to turn a woman into your girlfriend, at some point you have to open up to her.

In fact, opening up to her needs to start on the very first date. Why? Because if you want her to obsess over you, then she needs to “invest” in you and feel the desire to be a part of your future.

Your life might suck. Your job might be boring as hell. But the last thing you want to do is express your frustrations to her and reveal just how bored and miserable you are with your current situation.

Maybe you’re hot as hell. Huge muscles. Big dick. Perfectly groomed all the time. Got money falling out of your pockets. Maybe you think all those things will be enough. That they’ll “do the work” for you.

The hard truth is this: when it comes to getting a girlfriend and actually getting an incredible woman to fall in love with you, those things simply don’t matter.

And neither do “pickup artist” tactics. Pickup artists don’t get girlfriends. So don’t try to be a “ladies man” and tell her how every woman wants you. All you’re doing is trying to prove to her that you’re good with women, which is a huge turn off because it only serves to reveal your insecurity.

Instead of trying to be a ladies man, opt to be a “man who likes ladies”. This type of man doesn’t try to prove anything. Instead, he shows women that he just likes spending time with them and tries to make them feel special and unique. That’s how you get a girlfriend.

If you want to really learn what gets women excited about a guy, you need to understand the Girlfriend Activation System obsession story. She has to buy into your vision for the future before she will ever want to be a part of that future. She needs to want to be a part of that future and want to help you turn it into reality.

Part of the female obsession story dictates that women are drawn to men who have a vision. A vision to be and do something great. That vision drives you. It’s why you wake up in the morning. It’s why you get excited about life.

When you have a vision and a mission in life, you don’t need a girlfriend to “complete” you or to save you. And that’s exactly what will make you the most attractive man to every single woman on the planet, and exactly what will make the woman you most strongly desire want to become your girlfriend.

When it comes to masculinity and being an “obsession worthy” man, always remember this, “Women want to be part of the adventure, they don’t want to BE the adventure”.

So when you find yourself in the middle of a date with a girl, speak with passion and enthusiasm about your future. It’s such a simple thing, but when you do it, she can’t resist envisioning herself in it.