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Noelle Mikazuki

Oct 17, 2014

Losers find excuses, Winners work hard

I've came to a point where I've seen enough and feel extremely pissed of guys ranting on social media platforms that,

"All girls are materialistic"

I do not deny that I've seen girls that are true materialists and define love based on the monetary value of a person.

But, that is a minority.
And if you're only mixing with this bunch of girls in life, it's kind of obvious that you're somehow a materialist as well. The same type of birds flock together, you realize?

It really pisses me off when I read articles on like example, "What a girl truly wants in a relationship" and these guys, instead of reading and absorbing and learning, went straight to comment "No, girls just want guys who are rich with cars, condo, blahblahblah"

Like seriously, losers find excuses to push to blame to everyone else when they lose. And they're acting like one.

"OH you don'tknow what I've been through and experienced. I've been dating with girls before and they are like this"

IT'S BECAUSE YOU OBVIOUSLY DATED THE WRONG PERSON.

It's the same theory for girls when they fall for assholes and starts stereotyping that all guys go for the looks after getting themselves hurt.

And the most raging part of these guys are that most of them (not all) themselves are materialists. They fall in love with girls that are pretty, that have a great body and material of a typical guy's dream girl. Like really, aren't you defining your "love" based on a superficial level of visual contentment?

Every single individual have a different character and definition in "love". It is completely normal to want certain criteria in the person you love and want to live your life with.

Love is not just a feeling. It is a strong passion you have for someone, that would give you the strive to work hard for the relationship. Not only in terms of monetary - to be able to be financially stable to set up a family or at least a nest, but also to work hard to make the relationship work by using actions, making changes, instead of all sugar coated words and empty promises.

Many of these guys that lost their lovers during their NS days or to someone financially better off than them bear a grudge and feel injustice. Yes, sometimes, it's just the girls that are assholes(like how some guys are) - we all fall in love with the wrong person at times, it's totally normal.

But many other times, it's because of the lack of effort from the guys. They push the fault to the girl saying that they're just materialistic and blablabla, but they never once take a look at themselves. Compare the effort the other guy puts in to make her happy and how much effort they actually put in. Some guys don't even put in the effort to work and be financially stable. They just want to slack and relax and seriously, how do you want a girl to feel secure with you? I mean a girl (most) can go through the hard times with you, but if you're not even trying to work hard and not be lazy, you can't expect her to just hug with you and beg on the streets, due to your laziness, when you're old right?

I know some guys would be saying "If the girl really loved me, they'dstand by me no matter what."

Yes, this is true. To a certain extend.
People do get tired of empty promises and broken feelings. When you don't attend to them and mend them, there will be a point where they make a changing point in the rs and her life, to leave you. Because a relationship requires contribution from both sides, not just one (vice versa).

It's the same why some guys cheat.
Because they lack of something in the relationship. Some lack the dignity they need, some lack care and concern, some lack love, some lack sex.

Stop blaming everyone else but yourself just to make yourself feel better, because the same thing would happen again and again.

Then again, if you met an asshole in the relationship, you don't have to feel too bad. People fall for the wrong "lovers" in life, it's normal. Now that you know the characteristics and traits of a player/materialist, take it as a lesson and learn from it, to be wary and never fall for the same type of people again. If you fall in love repeatedly and get hurt by the same type of people/reason, yet choose to continue the same cycle, you don't deserve the right to complain.

Losers find excuses, winners work hard (or sometimes take the rightopportunities).
Work towards what you want. If you want a girl that is materialistic, instead of complaining and stereotyping that all girls are materialists, work towards being rich. If you want a girl that loves you a lot, work towards being the man she wants. Stop, just stop blaming the whole world and stereotype that all girls are materialists. It pisses me really badly because I see many girls that work so hard for the relationship they want - like going on diets, putting on make ups, just to attract the guys they like. And then I see these guys just go around blaming and doing nothing. Seriously, wake up.