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5.0 out of 5 starsA Witty Wake-up Call
This is a must read book for all those women who find themselves being treated like yesterdays meatloaf. You know, you'll take it only if you can't have anything better, or you may just say forget it and chuck into the garbage. The author really hits home when she talks about the male appetite for a Bitchy Woman. It's true they do get more respect. I shared this book some...

3.0 out of 5 starsMixed feelings about this book
Although I enjoyed reading this book and found it to be quite humorous, I have mixed feelings about it. I agree with the parts that talked about having self-respect and not bending over backwards for someone that continues to treat you like dirt, valuing yourself as a woman, and not be "needy" desperate, and clingy...but the parts I don't really agree with are her advice...

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

Although I enjoyed reading this book and found it to be quite humorous, I have mixed feelings about it. I agree with the parts that talked about having self-respect and not bending over backwards for someone that continues to treat you like dirt, valuing yourself as a woman, and not be "needy" desperate, and clingy...but the parts I don't really agree with are her advice on games and trickery to keep a man or get him to long for you. If your interested in someone and he's interested in you (and it's a mutual thing) by all means give him a call or at least act interested! Now if he starts acting "funny" and uninterested, that's when you stop calling him or even trying to show interest (whether you're a man or a woman). I'm just wondering if this book really worked, then why is SHE still single.

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

This is a must read book for all those women who find themselves being treated like yesterdays meatloaf. You know, you'll take it only if you can't have anything better, or you may just say forget it and chuck into the garbage. The author really hits home when she talks about the male appetite for a Bitchy Woman. It's true they do get more respect. I shared this book some friends of mine both male and female and I can't get it back. They keep asking me, "do you mind if I let my friend check it out?" So I fiqured out what everyone is getting for Christmas this year. It truely is an instruction manual to transform a doormat to dreamgirl. It's not always about looks. Attitude is why you see some women getting what they want while little Miss Nicey is home alone thinking "maybe if I bake these cookies just right..." As a man I say GO FOR IT LADIES! Check out the book and use the information to change your way of thinking. Heck, I'm even going to apply some of the techniques to my relationship. I hope they post this review, because I really, really enjoyed this book.

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

Sherry Argov offers invaluable advice about how to maintain your dignity and self esteem in relationships with men. I wish I had read her book 10 years ago! Simple phrases and ideas like, "Maintain your financial independence," "Men don't respond to words, they respond to no contact" "It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt" are fleshed out in a no-nonsense, logical format. It confirmed some of my notions about men. But more important, I learned a lot of information I wish I had known all my life. The "Rules" is enough to get started on, but this book explains exactly why being "too nice" does not work. The book will challenge some of your notions about men, and change the rest of them. I highly recommend it.

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

First of all, the book is, as all previous reviewers remarked, written with great wit and a sense of humor which is as charming as the author's pose in her photo on the back cover. The book is full of perceptive remarks which will ring true and valid for many a woman...BUT...the author seems to try to create a coctail between two things that don't mix, a message like that of "The Rules" along with some "woman's lib" consciousness of "dancing to your very own tune". As a result, the book is loaded with outrageous contradictions:The first two chapters are uplifting and "empowering" telling women why they should play by their own rules...but then, by Chapters 3 and 4, the message deteriorates; in chapter 3, Argov talks about what she defines as "women's sexual powers" with words like " the candy store", and women "exercising that power" by giving "one jujube at a time" and following some "jujube installment plan"...(?!) Women are not seen as creatures with their very own desires, but just as "owners of that which men want" with the whole point being in instructing them in how to "trade it" better...how could that possibly be called "empowering"?..Isn't that the oldest trick in the book?

Then, in chapter 4, there is a further deterioration, where the "empowered woman" of the first two chapters, proud owner of THE candy store in the third, is asked to act like a "dumb fox", and the entire chapter is about how she must PRETEND to be something she is not, and to play a DIFFERENT set of tricks in order to caress man's "poor fragile ego" and make him feel on top, while she tries to get her way with sneaky tactics.....that stuff "empowering"?!.....Then, the book moves on to the upbeat "dance to your tune" and "be your own woman" bit again...Then, throughout the book, men are constantly portrayed in an unflattering light that you can't help but wonder "why the trouble?" The unmistakable impression is either of jerks who think they are smart and whom Argov is teaching us how to "dupe"...alternately that of "wolves in disguise" and this is some "101 de-wolfing course" for the little red riding hoods of the world... and, while "instructing" women how-to tricks for the "taming" of men, repeating that the taming process does not stop, there seems to be no belief whatsoever in any inherent goodness that could possibly exist in men, but that such goodness could only come as a result of women's skill at "moulding" them, with a bit of manipulation here, calculation there, sneaky games here, sexual blackmail there...etc..etc..And while women are told to calculate and manipulate, they are simultaneously told to "define themselves from within" , and to "follow their inner calling" while at the self same time "making the right impression"..That is where the book falters...the two just don't go together, at least not in any sane, balanced individual, and any attempts to convince otherwise is a bluff! Maybe a witty and funny bluff like this book, but a BLUFF nontheless!For women who need a recipee to ensnare a man at all costs, as long as these women feel "cool" with a relationship founded on never-ending manipulation, as long as these women have no problem pretending to be one person then a complete other at different stages of "the game", as long as they don't mind putting their wits and energy into such a feat on a ongoing basis, and living from the outside in, constantly looking at themselves, checking and calculating that they are making the right impression....if these women don't mind all that, well, this book may well be their manifesto.

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

This book saved me from crossing the line AGAIN! I always start out good in relationships (6 months) and then I become clingy and wonder why the guys run. I now have an understanding of how they think, I have to continue to be hunted less I become boring and predictable. I highly recommend this book, I read it in 2 days and thankfully my boyfriend was away while I devoured it. It has been working like a charm!!!! THANK YOU!I am waiting on the next book....

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

I read this book over and over, along with a highlighter and page markers. After a failed marriage and dating a "player," I can say this book helped me gain back my self-respect and confidence. I know I won't be taken for granted, or lose MY identity ever again. This book is written with a humorous touch, and the content is all about believing in yourself, having self-respect, confidence...and not being a doormat!

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

I will admit that when I first began this book, I was somewhat turned off with the "bitch" moniker that Ms. Argov applied and believe that this may detract from her potential audience of readers; however, it becomes more apparent as you read further that she is was actually searching for a term opposite of the self-sacrificing "nice girl".

Though it never mentions it once in the book, I found that many of her tips apply for how we should think of ourselves in ANY relationship, be it with a romantic candidate or even our friends. I did find that there was some unnecessary mind games included that bordered on dishonesty (tell your partner you require $200 for groceries, then spend $140 and have someone secretly come in to clean the house with the extra $60) and some of these suggestions were personally too manipulative for my tastes but overall, the author has an undeniable amount of pride and self-respect and for anyone who is struggling with esteem issues or who seems to be on the giving end of any relationship, I would definitely recommend this book.

Every girl on the planet should drop what she's doing and read this book immediately!! Argov just changed my whole outlook, not just on relationships, but all social interaction, and even life in general. Her message is to be yourself, pursue your own interests, live your life to the fullest & they will come to YOU. Olympic efforts to conform to what you imagine to be a man's "ideal" are unnecessary and even counter-productive... the less you appear to crave someone's approval, they more likely they are to crave YOUR approval! Who knew?! Every sentence of this book is a "lightbulb moment"; Argov zeroes in on all your and your friends' past mistakes as if she'd been hiding in the bushes all along. The advice she offers in this book has ALREADY worked WONDERS for me and produced real results! And I only read it a month ago! Buy the book, the e-version is only $8, which is WAY less then you might otherwise spend on misguided efforts to please men (Would have saved a fortune has I read this a year earlier!!)

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

Why Men Love Bitches had much the same content as The Rules - but not as severe. It sets the ground rules for the time which you have already met him and are beginning a relationship. This time around there was no emphasis on who approaches whom. There is little said about how to meet men or attract them. Sherry emphasizes that women in new relationships should not be cooking for him or going out of her way for him. He has to earn his time with you as a valuable woman (a contender). Don't let on that you are over anxious for his phone calls. Women must remain mysterious creatures as this is how men function. They get bored if you're a push-over. Sherry notes that women who behave in the ways that she suggests are not 'playing games' - it is in a man's nature to chase.

It is imparative that anyone reading this book understand that it is a FACT that there are gender differences. And these facts are documented in scientific journals. A very easy way to understand these facts is to read a book called "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps" by Barbara & Allan Pease. It is VERY easy to understand, and written in plain English so that 25 year old women like myself can understand it.

This review is from: Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship (Paperback)

I really think that it takes a few failed relationships in order to fully appreciate a book like this. At first I was set back by the term "bitch", but used in this book it means a woman who is independent, strong and able to "hold her own in a relationship".Like many other women, this book made me realize where I went wrong in my relationships as well as why certain strategies to actively seek out a particular man is not so successful.In the first chapter alone, Argov has convinced me. I was laughing out loud while I read this book and her genius and humorous ways of talking about a serious matter. I admit I have done almost everything she has said not to do. This is a great book if you'd like to reflect back on a certain relationship of yours that didn't quite work out the way you'd like it to.Of course, maybe not all guys are so generic, but if you want an explanation for how to interpreted what happened with the guy you are dating then this is the book for you. Not only does she help you diagnose your problem, but she provides helpful tips on how to prevent the situation from happening again. I love it and think that every girl who has ever been in a relationship should have a copy.