18. Flowers always are uplifting. Be aware of the ones that need care. I may not feel up to it.

19. Help me around my home. I will hate to ask but I need help. I have no energy.

21. Help fold laundry. Or do my wash. I will love you forever! It keeps on coming…

22. Just visit. I need company! (But be sure to watch my signs. I may be too weak to talk)

23. Go to chemo therapy treatments, doctors appointments, and radiation therapy with me. I will say no. DON’T drop me off. Insist you come in. I will appreciate having support right next to me even though I present myself as tough.

24. Help drive me to other places, like the grocery store.

25. Shop for me.

25. Stay with me. Being alone is not fun.

26. Watch movies with me while I lie on the couch.

27. Plant some flowers in my entryway. I may be too tired to take care of them, but it would cheer me up as I enter my home.

29. Go with me to my information appointments. I may not be able to handle all of the information. Please take notes for me.

30. Offer to organize my medical stuff.

31. Place a sign on my door that says; ‘Please do not enter if you are feeling sick, stuffed, or have a cough’ I must keep my home germ free.

32. Offer to keep the supply of hand sanitizer up to date.

33. Make a surgery basket or box that would cheer me up. I most likely will have scary surgery and I need an uplift. (magazines, candy, card, etc.) Check on me after too.

34. Use your talents that you feel most comfortable to help serve. Someone once came and read children’s stories to me. I LOVE children’s stories.

35. Do something for a local cancer center that offers ideas to do, for example: Bake for breastcancer, locks of love, shave your head for…, run or walk for…marathon or bike-a-thon- for…Tell me you have done for cancer and I will be speechless.

36. Be aware that I may not be myself and may not be able to talk to you during certain times of my treatments. Not because I don’t want to but because I won’t have any energy.

37. Most of the time my white count is very low, which makes me very susceptible to getting sick. Please keep your little ones at home. They have more germs that grown ups and don’t know when to cover and cough. If I get sick it could be fatal.

38. Share music you love that can uplift me.

39. Share thoughts, recordings or stories that can uplift me.

40. Draw with me or for me. Coloring is therapeutic as an adult as well as a child.

42. I may not be able to read at certain times, but offer a good story. Read to me if you have time.

43. Be a check-er-inner. I love the consistency of someone caring.(look at past blog post)

44. Be a shoulder to cry on. I need to cry a lot! Come to stock tissues.

45. Do not be judgmental. I am battling more than what is on the outside. I am very sensitive, but cannot be bothered by worrying if I have hurt your feelings. It is too much for me to deal with.

46. Please take my kids. I feel so terrible they have to see me like this. Could you do something to help them forget for a little while…

47. Please feed my partner or my family when I am having surgery. They are so weary!

48. Please don’t think that after all my treatments are done that I don’t need any friends anymore. I will always have to worry about cancer.

49. Love my animals for me. Take them to the doggy park, or whatever…

50. Please remember that I am not Cancer. I am a human with tender feelings. I feel anger, fear, frustrations, loss, and so many other feelings. I want to have a regular life like you. Let me talk of other things.

51. Send me a text message every week, during treatments, at the waiting room, etc.