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I am in college getting my Early Childhood Degree and last semester I was talking to a couple of women about the fact that my dh and I are trying to have a baby. One of them (who is 34) was being somewhat judgemental about me wanting a baby at my age (41). I just bit my tongue and let it slide.

Well during finals week at school in Dec. she ran into me in the restroom and asked me about my ttc and apologized for what she had said then proceeded to tell me that she is pregnant and NOT happy about it. It felt just like somebody had stabbed me in the heart it hurt so bad.

Well fast forward to today and she is in both classes I have on Tues and Thurs (yesterday was our first day back). I asked her if she felt any better about it and she said no that she isn't that happy about it yet. I told the other 2 women at the table that I wanted a baby and couldn't get pregnant and she didn't want one and is... it just really upsets me when women don't realize what a gift a baby truly is!!!

I just had to get that off my chest. It is going to be hard on me this whole semester in there with her if I don't get my BFP because by the time we get out in May, she will have a big baby bump that I will be envious of and yes I know it is wrong to be jealous but I just can't help it right now.

There are some days that I just sit and because it feels like I am never going to get a BFP.

Thank you ladies for being here for me!! It is sooo nice to have some shoulders to cry on since my dh doesn't get why I get so upset! I can't talk to my mom or my sister about it either because they think I am crazy for wanting to have a baby Any way thanks for the support!!

hun i get where you are coming from .know how you feel , life just seems so unfair, i feel the same ,i get angry and green too when around pregnant woman ,or even younger woman who want a baby ,cause i know they prop wont have the problems im having , i have no advice really apart from ,just smile kindly because one day you will get your bfp and the baby you will have will be very much wanted and loved . its just a matter of time .

i had a thing the other night when i went out with dh and a young wanna be mum , i had to walk out the room lol ,how silly is that !! i just couldnt handle it ,but i know it will get better and we will be blessed just like you will hun ,

Oh boy – I was going to find out where I can find this (34) year old at and kick her butt after class but now that she is pregnant I suppose I can’t do that for you.
Super hard stuff for sure – this is what you have to remember. Her situation is different than yours. Hers doesn’t affect you and yours doesn’t affect her. You really don’t know why she doesn’t want her baby at this time. Maybe she has a crummy DH or hemorrhoids or is completely broke or if she has other kids maybe they are complete terrors. Regardless – you know that her situation is isolated from yours. She doesn’t have your baby in her belly – she has the one God wanted her to have. Yours is still waiting for you and wont go to anyone else but YOU!
BTW – after she has the baby – let me know if you want me to meet her on the playground and make her regret making you feel bad.  Maybe I’ll start the JM mafia! Lol
HUGS!

I am sorry you have to see this woman so often for a whole semester. That really stinks. It's nice that she apologized to you for her insensitive comment.

Maybe she is going through some stuff that she hasn't shared with you and is scared out of her mind to be pregos. I don't know sounds to me like she is trying to reach out to you. Not that you want to be around her or be her friend.

I just found out another friend of mine is pregos. A surprise. It hurts.

SEE---THIS is why I searched the net today to find support from 'older' moms. I don't even want to start the goofball comments from 'well thinking' folks---my mom was 38 when I was born, I'm 38 now-- and I personally see nothing wrong with 'older' ladies who want to conceive a baby...and I have thoughts about the rest, but since I'm new, I'll keep them to myself for now....but I will say I do think a baby IS a gift . You'll get your BFP soon and will be walking around a beautiful & HAPPY pregnant lady!