17 thoughts on “Red Flag: He “Fell Asleep””

A guy that stands you, doesn’t deserve more of your time or attention, true. Still I do think you have every right to tell him, just once, calm and with class, it’s not decent of him. Ignoring it makes it to easy. What if non of the women he does this to, ever confronted him, it’ll seem like innocent behavior.

I agree. If I have a date I am really looking forward to, the last thing I will be is tired enough to fall asleep. Best read it that he’s just not into you and move on.

Sadly, there are flakes of both genders who use all sorts of silly excuses to get out of pre-arranged plans. It’s the nature of online dating and the “sweet shop” mentality that goes with it for some people.

Partly cowardly, partly that you don’t know how somebody is going to react (them internetz dating types is all psychopaths after all!!!!!!!!). Personally I do prefer to be upfront and would rather people were upfront with me too.

Agree 100%. I think a romance works better, in general, if the man is more into the woman, makes an effort, and does some pursuing. I’ve been openminded and tried it the other way, but that never goes anywhere.

I normally don’t get the “fall asleep” type of men. I get the men who are so gun ho about going out on a date and say “yes we should do this and that, or i’ll take you here and there”. I call them the “shit talkers”. However, they take their sweet old time asking me out on date. Normally, when this occurs I don’t push the subject but I’ll be the one to quickly disappear. But why do men do this, so annoying. They show interest and when it’s time for them to call the shots they will do it last minute or not at all.

Beware of the man who makes promises, but doesn’t follow through on them. This just shows you his true level of interest in you. If he really wants to take you out, he will! No excuses needed. Thanks for providing a different perspective on this. I appreciate your comments, as always!

So I just fell asleep on my girlfriend. We had plans at 5pm. The other part of the story though is that I have been on antibiotics that have been making me restless. I’ve had about 3-4 hours of sleep per night this week. Last night was my last pill and I fell asleep at noon and woke up at 9pm. I suppose I should have predicted this would happen but now I know for sure the lack of sleep was because of the medicine. I don’t believe my girlfriend of over a year has read this article but maybe she will and will get the wrong idea. Thanks for making screw ups like this harder to deal with. What do you guys think am I not into her? Do I have a mental problem for making plans that I didn’t keep? Lol

If you’ve been dating your girlfriend for over a year and the trust in your relationship hasn’t been violated before then she has no reason not to believe you. I give dating advice from a general perspective, so it won’t always encompass every last situation out there and I’m sure your girlfriend is smart enough to decipher when certain advice actually applies to her particular situation.

In the future, it may be a good idea to set an alarm before you take a nap so you never accidentally oversleep. Thanks for taking the time to read my article and comment!!