Sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, we diddnt know my mum was suffering lung cancer, she died and she was only 63, it was only when the biopsy came back we realised she had cancer and none of us were there tohelp her and she died all alone and that is such a ******* xxx so console yourself that you were there xxxxxxxxxxx

It is so unfair and unfathomable.. I was in the same position as you a little over 2 years ago.. my whole world fell apart when I lost my beloved mom and best friend to metastic non small cell lung cancer at the age of 67 and less than 9 months after being diagnosed. I take comfort from being with her as much as was possible, and then being with her until the very end in the final days.. We made memories, shared special moments and I tried not to leave anything left unsaid.. I was able to tell her how much I loved her every single day and felt blessed to have the time to do this as I was aware that some people have loved ones snatched away in an instant in traumatic accidents or sudden death.. my thoughts and prayers are with you.. I'm sure you are making your memories to add to your lifetime of others, and telling her how much you love her every day. God bless and take care

I too am in the same situation with my mum treated for lung cancer 2 years ago and has now returned since december also spread to lymph glands of the chest been told that there is nothing for her and given a few months to live. She has also just had radiotherapy on her arm as it was picked up there too when she had a bad fall. Its all the not knowing of how each day is gonna be or how quick its gonna take hold of life theres so many families struggling with the dredded disease but at least we have here to share our experiences together and know where all going through same thing

Hi Gaia you seem to have to same situation as me, I know you post was a few months ago but I hope your coping with things x my mums is stage 3b she had chemo twice and then was too ill to carry on just waiting for the results from her 2nd cat scan to see where she is at. Every day there seems to be some new infection but she says the worst thing is boredom she is too ill to enjoy going out and too breathless to manage walking too uncomfortable to sit in the car for a drive. Just trying to motivate her and make her laugh as much as possible, wish I had a magic potion. Hope you and your mum are coping xxx take care x Kit

This is amazing! My mum had lung cNcer she had op and they removed huge tumour but she didn't improve, 4 months down the line it's regrow the at a rapid rate and has gone to ribs and spine stage 4. She's been told she has weeks left! I want to
Know about this drug you took why hasn't it been mentioned to us? I'd love to have her here for two more years or even a few months x

I too am in the same position and unable to sleep for the worry..... Going with mum to GP after results of her CT scan as an urgent appointment.... My mum is my best friend.......

UPDATE- the density in lungs is diagnosed as emphysema... However, they have found 2 what they call nodules... Mum has to now undergo a biopsy ... Not as bad as expected but still not out of the woods.....

Sorry to hear your loved one is going through this.
I wanted to share what I witnessed and experienced when caring for my lovely grandmother for the last few weeks of her life.
She had lung cancer, by the time we found out she had cancer, it was full blown, and she didn't have long left. She was 83.
To anybody that has to be the caregiver to a lung cancer sufferer, let me tell you this..
With all respect and compassion for your loved ones, every dog has its day. And wrapping your mind round this, and accepting your loved one is actively dying is very important, because you have a job to do.. That job being - to give your loved one a peaceful departure from our world.
Watching your loved one get weaker, deteriorate is undoubtedly devastating, but this is something you can not help.
Some signs to take note of, when the end is very near, these things will happen.
The patients appetite will decrease, they will sleep the majority of the days away. And when they are awake, they will become increasingly restless, possibly delusional.
Please be watchful, and offer food and drink. (I'd recommend watery things, fruit based maybe) my nan had an extremely dry mouth, and she drank 2 full glasses of water in a few gulps, and said to me "That was delicious". I can tell, it was the quench of a lifetime ( only 2/3 days before she died).
I'm choking up as I'm writing this, and I'm sorry if my information is abit patchy and uncoordinated.
This is an experience im sure you'll never forget, you will without a doubt get even closer to the patient you are caring for, even if you were inseparable. You are going on a journey with this person, the ultimate journey, and you should feel honoured to be able to watch over your loved one, and lucky that you have the chance to say Good-by and care for your loved one, not everybody is so fortunate.
In the end. My nan died of what I presume was heart failure, whilst enjoying a snack. It was fast and painless.
Nan, I thoroughly miss you.
With All of my love,
Your grandson

Hello,
My mum has been diagnosed with NSCLC in her left lung, lymph nodes, spreading to her right lung, lymph node above collar bone and it’s likely to be in her bowel too.
Unfortunately, she has many other health issues (mainly heart) so treatments have been restricted and an operation is out of the question. the palliative radiotherapy treatment she was offered was very gruelling on her and she had to stop at session 8 out 13.
We have been told that she may have months to live but to be prepared as everything can change so quickly.
Thank you fcancer for your post. As one of the things I’ve been concerned with is knowing what to look for.
It’s so sad reading all of your stories. Yet I’ve found the fact that there are many similarities to our circumstances comforting. Thank you all for posting.

I think it's great that u are caring for your mum keeping her home as she requested.

I am a retired registered nurse & worked in the Intensive Care Unit for 40 + years.

What I need to say to you whether it be physically, emotionally or maybe both, you will need support. I live in the USA & we have Hospic. This is an agency which consists of nurses, aides or both depending on the type of care you'll need. Also, it has regular people that will read to the person or whatever. We also have nurses enter the home to give the medications, take the vitals etc.

I don't know what type of care your country offers. See if they have maybe something comparable to Hospice. You never know.

Reading all your storys has made me cry. Most sound like my situation. Lung cancer that has spread and to the brain. Im the youngest out of 3 and i have given up my job to care for my mum. She was diagnosed week between xmas and new year and since its just felt like were always waiting. Id say the last few days she has been getting a bit confused saying weird things. When family come over they see mum at her best im the 1 that is doing alot and feel alone doing it. I know my mum probably dosnt tell me everything like about her pain and how she feels because she dosnt want to worry me. She dosnt want to go in a hospice but she does go once a week which is good gets her out for the day gets a lift there and back. I am so scared me or my young son will find her dead. No time is enough time to say goodbye. We are not alone xx

hi im so sorry to hear of your sad news...my husband also was messed around in march he had cough passing out...loosing rapid weight...we even told docs it could be lung cancer as we researched symptons at honme. we were together 16 years...we decided to marry 31st july...it wasnt till a week before our wedding be were told it was confirmed lung cancer and terminal...a week after ou wedding he passed away. hardest thing was to watch his organs shut down one by one...and he had to have that much morphine...i stopped talking...i still am trying to sue his docs as my question is if there was a haze on his xray in march last year why wasnt this investigated instead of docs giving him water tablets!!! and they said to us he had a few weeks or months left but when i saw the state of him a few days after our wedding i told him its ok to let go...he was waiting for me to tell him this....my destiny passed away in my arms...

Hi my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer January 2018 after suffering with a chest infection in December 2017. It was picked up on a chest X-ray. He then went on to have a CT scan and lymph node biopsy where they found it had spread to spine and lymph nodes. He has had 1 round of chemotherapy, but he has gone down hill a lot since then. His 2nd round of chemo has been cancelled twice now. I am worried he only has a couple weeks to live.

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