1/02/2015

TODAY is The First Day of the Rest of Your Life.

“Insanity
is when you continue to do things the same way and hope for a different set of outcome
or results.” - Albert Einstein

The season for new Resolutions has come again.Never mind that countless earlier ones over
the years were not executed or successful.We just love New Year Resolutions, as if their main object did not lie
in fulfilling them but to fail in them. Like promises, some were kept, while most
others must fail or be broken.Seriously,
we want to CHANGE, but HOW?

WHY DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE?

For many reasons, obviously.Mostly from a deep dissatisfaction of the
status quo. You do not like your appearance; your career sucks; your boss is
not sensitive or understanding; your lack of progress in relationships; have no
close friends; no boyfriends or girlfriends; cannot afford that dream car or
dream house or dream gadgets; cannot have what other people have; unhappy most
times; unloved rest of the time; no one to love all the time; loneliness;
depressed; want more of anything; want less of others; don’t like being sick or
weak or medicated; having to depend on the unwilling; trapped in an unhappy
marriage; stuck in an unhappy home; abused; beaten; hungry; cold; poverty; wars;
diseases …. An endless list.

For most people, the reasons for change are more mundane
and personal. You want to look better, more desirable and more beautiful. Modern
marketing of personal and life-style products makes you feel too fat, or too
thin, or too tall, or too short, or facial features non-symmetrical; eyebrows
too natural, eyes not at same level, nose not in the middle of your face, your
ears unbalanced, one foot bigger than than the other, one leg longer, another
arm too short, one hand bigger, mouth not aligned with face, unshapely body, breasts
too high or too big or too small or too ‘different’ or not enticing enough …
well, look at Nature where
beauty emerged and flourished in diversity, differences and NOT symmetry or
same-ness.

Remember you were born an Original, why
strive to live like an Imitation?

Yes, Becoming Yourself is to be Different already.Self-esteemis the best defense against the encroaching
forces to make you an imitation of what other people want you to become.

Truth is, the dissatisfaction with oneself has little and
nothing to do with one’s appearance.It
lies in our desire to be loved and to have a lover. The
journey through life is essentially a journey of love. It is a journey along visible milestones of
errors as one struggle to escape the end of otherwise meaningless existence. One quickly discovers that paradox, ambiguity,
chaos, absence and silence as central to the human condition.

Many lapse conveniently into the comfortable
understanding of the human condition as one where we are all in a perpetually
suspended state of incompleteness, in an endless search of that elusive
Happiness.The urge for “more” and
“better” becomes quickly the justification for the pursuit of selfishness,
thinly disguised as the noble accumulation of material wealth and prosperity,
in the hope of locating the happiness which satisfies the ultimate true meaning
and purpose of life’s existence.Sadly,
but expectantly, “more” and “better” can never deliver the promised Happiness. The
pursuit for life’s purpose hence degenerates into itself as the end.

In 2015, Resolve to Do Things
Differently – Unlearn, Relearn and Learn to Discover Love and True Happiness.

This begins with a mental transformation to complete the
awesome task of becoming your own realization.Stop occupying space and wasting oxygen, but be the change you want the
world around you to become.Seek only
the approval and encouragement of loved ones.Other people’s opinions do not matter, seriously.Open an inner Dialogue
with yourself and affirm your individual uniqueness and significance.You also have to acquire the habits
to unlearn, relearn and learn – which are the the skills-set of learning
agility.

Yes, flexibility and
adaptability are the personal tools to engage the human conditions of paradox,
ambiguity, chaos, absence and silence. Affirming yourself strengthens your self-esteem
and facilitates the building of close and intimate relationships with those
around you.Self-esteem empowers you to
nurture and develop in others a greater capacity for love and for you to
receive their love in turn.When we are
at our best self, we readily share without fear or limit to bring out the best
in others as well.Invariably, we also discover
and rediscover Happiness at the end of such sharing of ourselves.

Go forth to Love
and Share, to Discover Yourself and the Secret of True Happiness. The Secret of True Happiness
lies in the creation of Happiness in the Life of Others.

OMG, my friends of RB!Let's resolve to be UNHAPPY with just common ground in 2015;Let's aim for HIGHER GROUND, man!I remember my Platoon SGT's "advice" on Day One at Tekong back in 1974: he said "I am NOT here to make you Happy; You wanna be Happy, Go MAKE YOURSELF Happy!". My First and Best Lesson from the SAF! Be Happy and go spread some around ...

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