The easiest way to get out of a single funk is to get out and meet people. But it's so easy to hole up in your place and stay cozy. Many weekends I'm confronted with the choice: go out and hang out with friends until 3AM, or veg out on my couch in my PJ bottoms, cook stir fry or soup, and watch bad movies or good horror flicks. It's hard to choose.

"Easy" cures for loneliness are often unhealthy: staying with a bad boyfriend/girlfriend, having a one-night stand. Loneliness can't last forever, and it's part of everyone's life. Try to find healthy ways to deal with it.

Once you finally connect with someone, it's easy to see that person as a savior, so you get high hopes as things progress. Unfortunately, relationships are rare, and things often fizzle, or go awry. If you get your hopes too high, you'll fall harder when it doesn't work out, or you'll settle too quickly.

Comparing

When I watch DiscoveryID, even serial killers and bad guys on

Who the Bleep Did I Marry? have girlfriends. If they can get girls, how bad does that make me? This is just discouraging. And of course, I sometimes envy better looking guys, which brings me down.

Do you agree with my "bad single habits," and what bad single habits are you guilty of that you'd add to the list?

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