Darling Husband and I are considering moving back out west, the place we love.

He can directly transfer his job, but the commute would be two hours.

Anyone ever commute this far? I think it is worth it to be in the liberal city we love- vs. the conservative town where his job will be.

What is your experience? Is it worth it?

I think it might be worth it at first, so that ONE of us has a job, and hopefully we will find something better closer… I guess to me it is worth it, but I still want to hear from those with experience and see what you think! Is this just too far? Or is it bearable?

I had a 3-4 hour roundtrip commute for about a year, and it was brutal. When we started to get snow and the winter hit, I hated it even more.

I left early and got home late. Too late to go to the gym or cook dinner. I gained weight because I was too tired to cook healthy dinners or take care of myself. I basically lived in my car and when the weekends rolled around, I was too tired to do anything. However, I was also working 60+ hours a week, so that didn’t help either.

I know people who have done it for years and are fine with it, but for myself, I just couldn’t make it work.

2 hours each way is completely unbearable. I live 1:15 on the way to work and 45 min home and it’s a bigchunk of my day but dh and I both work in a very underprivileged area that we wouldn’t want to live in but the area immediately surrounding is ridiculously expensive.

No, that is insane. I used to have a commute that was 2 hours each way by bus and train. (Lived in the city/worked in the suburbs.) It was awful. It eats up your entire day, and I can only imagine a car commute would be so much worse because at least I could read or rest on the train. Don’t do it. It’s not worth it to live in a city you love if your commute means you don’t have any time to enjoy it.

I used to commute about 3 hours round trip and even though it was an easy commute on a train I would say it is NOT worth it. I would never commute 2 hours each way. He would be looking at a 12+ hour day with commute factored in. Not a great quality of life for him IMO.