Humans are insecure in themselves to begin with. If that insecurity isn't dealt with, then one cannot ever be comfortable in their own skin, so as to build self-esteem and/or self-confidence. Which is extremely important in self-growth.

On another note, size shouldn't matter in the perceptions people have about entering into a relationship with others.

And on another note, size does matter, because too big and the health of the individual then becomes a detriment to their own life.

I am glad your well. I SAID I was kidding. You know, cags, you have THE funniest way of saying things sometimes. I get you, I swear, but you dont seem to realize how it could be taken...thats all. I said..my own weight matters to me

you said..it should

(So, I know,you were agreeing with me.Im cool) It just the women I know, in not internet life, would soooo flip out about that comment. They'd be all..."why? why should I worry? Your saying I have something to worry about? whats worng with me? you should worry about your own weight!!!" so, I tmade me laugh. sorry.

I spent most of my life sickly and waaaaaay underweight. People never had a problem talking about my size, even insultingly so, calling me annie (short for anorexic) and the like. Now that I'm healthy I've put on 40 pounds for the first time in my life and I feel so much better. Nobody insults or embarrasses me anymore, either, and now I'm starting to tip the scales in the other direction lol.

But to some ppl size is a big big factor in how they feel about someone. Not me, but there are ppl who used to hate me because I was so skinny.

of course, ultimately, whats inside counts. Some super skinny drop dead sexy hot chick will get lots of attetnion, but if she a nasty mean selfsih person, she most likely will not make true lasting friendships.reality is, we are superficial beings, and react to what we see.you just cant see someones "insides" from across a room, and in my expierence, right or wrong, if people find you unattractive, they wont take the time to get to know you. (in general..not everybody is like that..)AND, for me, I feel more confident when I feel attractive, and I feel more attractive if I am taking the time to take care of myself, like..exercising and eating right. And yes, Victoria's Secret commercials dont help.

I think health is more important than size. There is a wide rang of sizes that can be healthy, and it depends largely on the person's physical make up. We also need to realize that size is viewed differently by different people.

My grandmother told me how her brother hated skinny women, and always told her that she was ugly because she was too thin (about a size 2). He liked round girls.

My brother also likes his girls soft and cuddly, as he calls it. Every time I talk to him, he tells me how cute his girlfriend is, and how she has the prettiest body he has ever seen. She is a very shapely 5'3", 190 lb girl, full of confidence. And she is pretty.

My husband is attracted to tall thin girls who have a bit of hip, which is lucky for me.

I really think women should focus on taking good care of themselves health wise, instead of trying to change how they look. Stress will hold much more weight on a frame than is good for anyone.

its not luck really, its part of why he is attracted to you. and it really is mostly about confidence. for me, I feel better when Im slim rather then overweight. If I feel confident, Im sure I look better. everybody is different. some people are healthy at 170 pounds, some at 120. my hubby likes a woman with curves, not stick straight. (his dream girl is Drew Barrymore)

Men in general will always be attracted to the "Victoria Secret" woman. This and the media puts pressure on young women who do not feel confident in who they are yet. Confidence and good health is more important than size.

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