"Dude! How would you react if he was spying on you? You're acting like a crazy person!" Sometimes it's best to be straight forward but if she doesn't want to listen she simple won't. So, it's either that or remind her of Brad's good qualities and that she is being irrational.

If Brad is that lady's husband or boyfriend and her gut tells her is cheating... a little fact-checking isn't so bad. In my life, not listening to my gut always ended badly. I've only had one boyfriend cheat on me, but my gut told me he was doing it... and it took a while to determine that I was right. BUT, I tried talking to him and he just DENIED DENIED DENIED. I know that makes him a cheater and a liar, but the thing is most cheaters lie. This guy was a bunch of other bad things that are not worth discussing here.

Maybe the friend should be convincing her to hire a PI to do the spying. Is that a better answer????

I'd simply just encourage her to talk to him. There's obviously big issues at hand if she feels the need to spy on him. She's either controlling and way off base, or she already knows deep down that he's being unfaithful and just doesn't want to admit it to herself yet. I also agree with Robin above, if she really thinks something is going on, a little fact checking is fine. How else are you going to confirm your suspicions? We're talking about a serious issue...

Anyway, I LOVE your theme! So much fun and I'm glad I found you at a to z.

I'd say walk over there with a smile on my face and say, "Hi, Brad! Just thought we'd drop in and see how you're doing." Then walk away. Far, far away and don't look back. Where it's real that he's cheating or not, there's a distrust there that doesn't bode well for a relationship. Kick him to the curb and move on. :)Thanks for visiting the UR blog today!