Double Standards

A controversial topic between the sexes entails the double standard that exists between both sexes. Men feel that there exists a great injustice or some kind of feminist conspiracy that allows women to get away with everything that men can't. If there is one thing men keep telling me about women, it's that they are unfair. If men approach women it means they want to sleep with them; on the other hand, when women flirt with men all night at clubs, it means nothing.

I decided to sit down with some men and discuss what they think are the most blatant, annoying, frustrating — and some said evil — double standards that exist between men and women.

using your charm

Historically, women have always used their virtue and charm to get as much as they can from men. If you have the historical reasons for this, you can argue that men are promiscuous by nature and that over time, women have had to perfect certain techniques in order to provide for themselves and their children. Nowadays, women use their charm (especially beautiful women) because they know that men become putty in their hands when cleavage, followed by a smile, is shown.

Men hate the fact that if they try to use their charm, they're immediately labeled players whose only ambition is to bed as many women as possible. Women use their charm, especially when a speeding ticket is in issue — and it's perfectly acceptable, with no stigma or label attached to them.

HEIDI's POINT OF VIEW: So what's my take on this? Women are generally — and I do mean generally — more sincere than men. Men like to lie, it's in their nature, so women always take what they say with a grain of salt. So when men use their charm, women naturally become suspicious of their motives. So what can men do? Well, the same way women tell men to chill out on the excess perfume, I recommend that charm be used in moderation. An overdose will lead to female nausea.

making the first move

Where is it written in the Book of Life that men should always initiate first contact with women? In my sit-down discussion with several young professional men, they almost bit my head off when the subject came about. They can't seem to figure out why women always expect men to approach them or ask them out. They get rejected 95% of the time, however, because the woman doesn't want to seem easy.

Some men thrive on making the first move yet most men are naturally shy and must muster up the courage and take deep breaths before approaching women. Because women's intuition is razor sharp, they can sense the insecurities, which ultimately results in rejection.

HEIDI's POINT OF VIEW: Women love men with confidence and although it would make some men's dream come true to have their roles reversed, it won't happen anytime soon. Women like to be chased as much as men like chasing them.

Women know that men don't respect it if they are overfriendly or come on too strong since men automatically assume they are easy. This double standard will likely disappear, but only when the United States is run by a woman and 85% of CEO's of the Fortune 500 list are equally of the better gender . Men hate aggressive women (unless they're in the bedroom) so why do they want this double standard to change?