Tuesday, May 6, 2014

"Here's Where I'm At"

At any given time, when we conclude, “Here’s where I’m at,”
we can’t then expect everyone else to be “where I’m at.”

Whether it’s a theological point of view, stage of life, conservative/liberal
bent, fan of warm weather, fan of cold weather, meat-eater or vegetarian, everyone
is “where they’re at.” And while there does
need to be some sensitivity to “where people are at” on our part, it follows then that there needs to also be some
sensitivity on the other person’s part to where I’m at. Oftentimes, all parties involved simply want others to
conform to where they’re at and
bulldoze accordingly.

Why do we have tunnel vision when it comes to where we’ve landed on something, as if there
were never any other place to land (even though we ourselves were once planted
in an entirely different point of view, behavior or mindset?) I believe the
number one reason is because we feel threatened. We feel threatened that the
other person is going to land or remain in a previous (now deemed odious),
place that we’ve managed to escape from, or our identity is tied up in the new
place we’ve landed. So when our identity is challenged, who we are is challenged. And that feels threatening.

To be threatened is the feeling that our experience up to
this point, which has formed our outlook and understanding on myriad aspects of
life, from automobile design, politics, faith, healthcare, the environment, and
diet, is being denigrated, belittled or rejected. And the reason it’s being rejected
is because the other person’s experience,
which has formed their outlook and
understanding on the same myriad aspects of life, is being threatened by our experienced-based understanding!

And so it is a vicious circle. People with less/more or different
experience are “hurt” or "offended" by those with less/more or different experience and yet
all feel their experience is truth itself:
the only legitimate place to land.

Hence the danger of experienced-based faith. That is exactly what
all of this can lead to, making us no different in our Christian walk than we
were when we were not-yet-saved.

Much of life is subjective, but faith is not. Faith contains
experience but is not determined by experience. Faith is shaped and influenced
by experience, but it is the objectiveness of faith that rights a misguided or
off-base experiential faith conclusion.

If I base my attitudes, behaviors and actions on experience
alone (or even primarily), I will neglect the other possibilities of how things
experientially can be. I will be living a false “truth” that, since it is only
experientially “true for me,” doesn’t make it objectively true for all. So I
will be stuck in my subjective experience, never reaching objective truth.

However, if my identity is not tied up in where I’ve landed but in a Person—as C.S. Lewis says in describing
how he found joy in the Person of God and not in the concept of joy itself—then
there is no threat to my identity. If my identity is in the Triune God, then
when His truth as I live it, represent it or teach it is challenged, questioned
or threatened—rightly or wrongly—God is there for me to come to for proper
feedback and consideration. Seeking God’s perspective through His Holy Spirit
and Word is the key to preventing shouting matches, “hurt” feelings and the
wholesale writing off of people.

So much—too much—of me goes into my perception of any
event, person or place. As any journalist or court of law can tell you,
question five witnesses to the same incident and you will obtain five different
records of what actually took place. Truth is a very difficult place to
land...when it’s based on a human
level, that is.

And now we come to why it is that I love being a Christian!
I can subjectively experience people, places and things and then take them before
the Lord for discernment, wisdom and appropriate response. I can lay the
subjective against the objective ("test everything" 1 Thessalonians 5:21). My self-centered
subjectivity can shrink more and more from a “me” perspective to a “standing in other's shoes”
perspective. I am freed, and in fact expected, to jettison my meager, pitiful,
human, self-centered, subjective-experience-tainted take-aways of anything and
anyone.

As Christians become sanctified in the knowledge and wisdom
of God, we will interpret life less
and less and God will interpret it
more and more. We will hear Him say, “Don’t over-react;”“That person did not intend
what you thought;” “Maybe your co-worker is going through something personal—some internal battle that you can’t even imagine and nobody else knows about;” and
on and on it goes.

God teaches, in fact compels me to
live in His presence in the present. And
because He is God, He will give a right perspective when I cannot or will not.

Only then can I confidently land where God lands me, and not be threatened by where someone else is in the
process of landing or has already landed.

“Therefore
I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living
and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service
of worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the
renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable
and perfect.” Romans 12:1-2

“Therefore,
putting aside all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander, like
newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow
in respect to salvation, if you have tasted the kindness of the Lord.” 1 Peter
2:1-3