Does the Door Say ‘Push’ or ‘Pull’?

How have you been doing with getting, or expressing, what you want since around June 9? Have you been able to take the lead in any effective ways to move toward your goals or desires?

I ask because June 9 was when Mercury in Taurus opposed retrograde Mars in Scorpio, highlighting the question, ‘what do I want?’ The realms of physical or sexual pleasure and health, material possessions or financial stability might have been a particular focus.

This week, Mercury in late Leo makes a square to Mars, which is making its way through the last of Scorpio in direct motion. The square is exact Friday at 4:49 pm EDT, and is in effect now.

One way to read this is that whatever desires and goals you came face-to-face with in early June are speaking to you again. However, the encounter may feel less like looking at your reflection in a glass door, and more like trying to push that door open.

If you’ve been clear with yourself, it might be obvious which side of the door to push on, for example. Or it could be like noticing whether the little sign says ‘push’ or ‘pull’, rather than throwing all your weight into the opposite action and getting frustrated.

Are you finding yourself in a situation that feels rather like tugging when it would work better to lean in, or shoving when the door will only open if you open your hand and place it on the handle to draw it towards you? If so, how are you reacting?

It’s possible to let pride and ego—or a sense that you’re entitled to things being easy, obvious and ‘your way’—get in the way. That could lead to frustration, including physical retaliation that backfires. Who hasn’t slammed a door or hit an object when frustrated, only to have it bounce back at you, break or hurt your hand—or hurt the person next to you—at least once? When you’re frustrated and your pride is hurt, you’re more likely to take it out on others verbally and emotionally if you can’t find a more creative way to discharge it.

On the other hand, if you can see the absurdity of trying to push a door that should be pulled (or vice versa), it’s also possible to allow a more childlike and playful response. Everybody has gotten a door wrong at least once, and it can be really funny. They say laughter is the best medicine, and particularly with cases of pride and ego, it’s true.

A little compassion for yourself if you feel like you’ve ‘gotten it wrong’ or can’t seem to figure out how to articulate what you really want and how to get there may help, too. Especially if you feel like you’ve been ‘getting it wrong’ for a very long time when you try to express your desires. In fact, stepping away from the door metaphor more completely, having Mercury in Leo really can emphasize compassion and letting it take the lead if you’re questioning how to get closer to those desires you recently identified.

The tricky part, given the planets and signs involved and given the tension that comes with a square, might be noticing when pride, ego or a sense of entitlement are getting in your way. That’s the more shadowy side of this aspect. In fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius), the potential for digging in with stubbornness or rigidity is very real, and can take some skill and perspective to recognize and navigate.

Noted astrologer Robert Hand mentions that Mercury square Mars can show up as the need to defend one’s ideas or beliefs against someone as if it’s a ‘life or death’ situation, which it is not. Though your ego might feel like it is. And if you’re feeling frustrated in your pursuit of your desires—especially if that frustration has some history and is closer to rage—and you’ve been trying to repress it, there’s a much greater chance that it could come out as irritability, aggressive hostility or even as a physical accident.

Finding some constructive way to express your frustration is key. Can you shift from pride to playfulness to make the vulnerability of your desires less scary? Can you be honest about the ways you perhaps have not been straightforward about what you want, offer yourself a little compassion for that, and take a more articulate lead in how you express your desires? If that feels like a leap, maybe try a little exercise or productive physical exertion to blow off some steam, and see if your thinking clears.

Saturday at 2:18 pm EDT Mercury will leave Leo and enter Virgo. That should bolster your common sense; and if you’ve gotten to the root of any frustration via productive or playful action, you’ll be in a great place to use it. When Mars re-enters Sagittarius on Aug. 2 at 1:49 pm EDT, bringing desire into the land of beliefs and religion, that common sense will prove especially handy.