A
successful sexual relationship isn't just about positions. If you're having trouble
communicating, or you're experiencing anger or hostility or a sense of distance
from your partner, knowing about new ways to have sex may not make any difference
to your love life. But, having said that, if your relationship is working reasonably
well, but the spark of passion has left your sex life, trying out some new sex
positions can add intimacy, connection and fun to your relationship.

Considering
how much time we all spend trying to get sex, or find a partner with whom we can
enjoy lovemaking, it may be strange that we get bored with sex so easily. But
sex is no different to any other human skill - it requires practice to do it well,
and it requires new ideas and stimulation from time to time to ensure that it
remains fresh and enjoyable. So, relax, get your partner alongside you, discuss
these positions, and then have fun trying them out!

Thrusting
- or something else?

We
tend to think of intercourse or lovemaking as a penis-in-a-vagina experience that
has to involve thrusting - the old in-out, in-out routine. But there are plenty
of ways that a man and woman can achieve intimacy and fulfillment without vigorous
penile thrusting. Once her man's penis is inside her, many women experience a
sense of fulfillment and connection that is precious and important to them whether
or not their man thrusts. And though men have a deep instinctual urge to thrust,
they too can enjoy these gentle experiences of closeness and connection. Another
possibility is to enjoy different kinds of movement once the man has inserted
his penis - a gentle rocking motion or gentle circular movements of the hips is
often enjoyable. And since the vagina is most sensitive nearest its outer edges,
shallow penetration in which the man just inserts his penis an inch or two, then
withdraws, and then gently re-enters to the same depth can be very teasing and
enjoyable - especially if his partner can squeeze his penis with her vaginal muscles
as he moves in and out!

Sex
Positions by Popular Names

1)
The Doggy Style
The female is on all fours
as the male penetrates her from the rear.

2)
The Hoovering of the Floor
The male stands
behind the female and lifts her by the thighs, pulling her vagina onto his penis.
She supports herself on her hands. Try walking around the room while doing this.

3)
The Playing of the Cello
She lies on her
back and places her ankles on one of his shoulders. He clings onto her shins while
thrusting. His hands can fondle her breasts at the same time.

4)
The Riding of the Steer
He lies on his back
while she sits on his penis. She lifts herself up and down by gripping
his kneecaps and he guides her with his hands on her buttocks.

5)
The Persuading of the Debtor
The male
kneels down and lifts the females legs up over his shoulders as though attempting
to empty her pockets of small change. He then slides his penis downwards into
her.

6)
The Sitting on the Toilet
The male lies
on his back with his knees bent forming the shape of a toilet. She sits on his
penis and moves up and down. Great for circus acts.

7)
The Rocking Recliner
He lies on his
back. She is on all fours facing upwards and moves back and forth.

8)
The Black Bee
He sits down with his hands placed
on the floor behind his back. She sits on top of him with her hands on his shoulders
while moving up and down.

9)
The Spoon
She lies on her side and he penetrates
her from behind in a side on position. Ideal for men with a large penis size.

10)
The Sixty Niner
For lovers of oral sex!
Both give and receive at the same time. Either partner can be on top. Ideal for
same sex partners as well.

19)
The Upright Doggy
Same as the doggy position
woman kneels upright. She may put her hands on his thighs or buttocks for more
leverage.

20)
The Horizontal Reverse
This is similar
to the Reverse Woman on Top - in this position her breasts and hands are able
to massage his thighs and shins.

21)
The Missionary Position
The most
popular of the positions. She opens her legs as he positions himself between them
in place for the most direct penetration. The simple thrust of the hips gives
an easy and effective in - out action.