And here I thought that is what drew me closer to my significant other, I come to discover that chick flicks actually choke the crap out of romance"? you may ask. Why indeed.

The relationship experts over at Scotland's Heriot-Watt University discovered that romantic comedies lead to unrealistic expectations on the part of women. No way! Next they're going to tell us that soap operas lead to unhappiness in bored housewives.

In essence, the problem is that most women tend not to communicate their desires to their significant others, expecting them to "just know" their needs and wants. Personally, I don't think that romantic comedies are to blame here. It's something else - something called woman-speak.

But I digress. Most couples apparently believe that sex between two people should be perfect and that if you are truly, I mean truly meant for the other person, then you do not have to communicate your wants to them. They just know. I would be cracking up right now if this weren't so freakin' sad.

Of course, romantic comedies tend to exploit the honeymoon phase of most relationships and people mistakenly think that the honeymoon should last forever. For those of you dumb enough to believe that, love at first sight is near impossible and the honeymoon phase wears away after the first time you hear your partner fart.

Love is very much like cooking. You can follow a recipe all you want, but the end result differs from person to person and appears comes out as a different result (for better or worse). And the reason this is, is because love is not defined by a set of rules that can be followed to achieve an end result. It is not a mathematical formula of yes or no, it is an ever-flowing art. It is a flexibility that comes with being in love. It is irrational and spontaneous and constantly changing. Go in with an open mind and adapt to the situation. So to answer the question, "What should you say?" Anything you want. It is not the words you say, it is how you say it, and how you deliver it that captures him. The difference between 'hi' and '"hi"' is inextricably different and elicits very contrasting responses.

Many guys hold the belief that girls are boring. But you're not! It's just that the way many women present themselves causes men to think that. We can always kind of tell if you are on your guard, giving us false compliments etcetera. Just as you hate it if we monotonously say, "nice necklace", if you throw boring conversation at us, we can't help but reciprocate leading to a very boring date. Have some fun in the conversation. Talk to him freely and openly. I mean what do you have to lose besides his affection which you would lose anyways if you just sat there like a statue? When he compliments you, which is something he will definitely attempt to do (keyword 'attempt' - if he doesn't he will probably smack himself later at night for being shy), throw him a jaded response and see how he reacts. Don't simply just say 'thank you' and twiddle your thumbs. Keep things lively.

Of course, you should always consider his feelings. Men are very egotistical creatures and do not take well to any stimuli that might affect his self-perception. To breach that void, first allow rapport to occur. Before more personal jokes can be made, a level of comfort must first be established. Do not fall into the trap of feeling that you have to portray a sense of class. Do that through your actions. Allow your words to be filled with warmth and genuineness. Don't simply follow a recipe and churn out a mindless product - put your soul and feelings into it and the result you receive will be so much more magical.

Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up. Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”. This isn’t high school. You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.

What is that women want, you ask? That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.

Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all. They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.

Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that expectation.

Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.

Here are 12 tips on dating safety to help you get started:

- Go dutch by paying half of the bill. It's always respectful for the man to offer to pay the bill. Unfortunately, some men ruin the gesture by expecting something in return. Therefore it may not be a bad idea for you to go dutch. Pay half the bill so that you won't feel under any obligation to "return" the favor.
- Don’t let him know where you live. If you want to see him again, arrange a second date and then take it from there.
- Arrange to meet him. When meeting for the first time, never allow your date to pick you up from your home. In fact, your date shouldn't even know your home address yet!
- Meet in public places. For a first meeting, always meet in a public place where other people are in close proximity. You may also want to consider going out with a group of people, or a double date.
- Remember that alcohol affects your judgment. The biggest threat to a person's judgment, when on a date, is alcohol. Not only does it affect your judgment, but alcohol also lessens your inhibitions. If you are drinking, keep your drink in sight at all times and don’t get so drunk that you don’t know what you are doing. Better yet, try to avoid alcohol on your first date.
- Avoid secluded areas. Remember - stay in a public place for your first date and avoid secluded areas such as parks.
- Always let someone else know where you're going. Be sure someone knows where you are going and who you'll be with. You might even consider arranging a time to call and check in. Or you could arrange to meet up with friends later that night.
- Listen to your gut. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. And if you haven’t met him before, and you know at the beginning of the date that something doesn’t feel right, then leave immediately.
- Give him your cell phone number. It's safer to give out a cell phone number instead of your home phone number (click here for why).
- Always remain alert. Even if you’re having a blast and the chemistry is great, it’s a good idea to remain alert the whole evening. Make sure you have a cell phone on you.
- Don't assume that a man is safe. It's important never to let your guard down when on a first date. Never assume a man is safe just because he claims to be religious or a gentleman.
- Use your own mode of transportation. Provide your own transportation to your public meeting place and make sure you have more than enough gas.

It's kind of weird when you think about it; couples get married to commit to another person for (what we're assuming will be) life, and yet, once they tie the knot, it seems that the relationship hits the crapper.

Why? Because, too often, men and women think they no longer have to try when they get married. In fact, the opposite is true. John Gray puts it best when he writes, "There will always be obstacles to overcome in sustaining a loving relationship. Too often, men assume that once they are married, the work of having a relationship is over. Realistically, that is when it begins."

So if you're in the midst of troubled waters with your significant other, rather than drown yourself (or them), reach for a life preserver in the form of", WOMEN AND "If you're the guy who's withdrawing from his relationship because he's stressed, or you're the woman who is constantly correcting and making demands of your boyfriend because you think that this will motivate him to change, you need to read this book. And I mean yesterday.

I'm sure you already know that John Gray is the famous author of" ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM "so when he states that men and women process information differently, it's time for you to stop what you're doing and read on.

Even if you're in a good relationship, John Gray can help you make sure you keep it that way by figuring out what's going on in your significant other's head.

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