Equipping Children with Emotional Intelligence

Equipping Children with Emotional Intelligence

While the world has given a huge emphasis on academic achievements in childhood, emotional education has been largely ignored.

Giving the child emotional education is more important than enrolling him in the best primary school. Having emotional intelligence enables the child to cope, react, adapt healthily to life’s circumstances and situations. This intelligence isn’t learned in institutions nor read in books. Instead, emotional intelligence is often taught by the people closest to the child like his parents or the nanny.

But what does it mean to give the child emotional education? When you teach the child emotional intelligence, you:– Teach him how to recognize his feelings– Teach him how to understand why he’s feeling that way– Teach him how to deal with his feelings– Teach him the most essential skill for life’s success.

It was found out that children with higher Emotional Quotient (EQ) earn higher grades, stay in school, and make healthier choices in life. Eden Grace Maids Agency wants to share these tips on how to improve the child’s EQ! Your Indonesian maid and Filipino maid can make a huge impact on the child’s EQ too.

How to raise an emotionally intelligent child:

1. Value their negative emotions
We can’t be upset too when the child is angry, crying, or sad. Emotion coaching nanny and moms help the child identify what kind of emotion he feels and help him understand why he’s feeling that way.

A 5-year-old will experience life’s negative emotions as he grows up. He needs someone who is constantly by his side to coach him all the way.

2. Immediately hold the crying baby
Yes, this contributes a lot to your child’s emotional intelligence! EQ development starts as early as infancy that is why a nanny’s role is crucial while the parents are away. When the maid holds him immediately as he cries, the baby develops feelings of security and trust.

3. Empathize when you don’t know what to do
There are moments when the child would be upset about his playmate taking his toy and he hits his playmate for it. In times like this, when you don’t know which side to take, the best thing to do is empathize. You will never go wrong with it.

When the nanny empathizes, she is also accepting the child’s emotions and that teaches the child that his emotions are not shameful but universal and manageable. It is also important to imply that all emotions are acceptable but some negative behaviors are not. Because of this, he will learn to accept the worse parts of himself.

4. Listen carefully
When parents are at work, the maid can substitute as a listener for the child’s emotional expression. Dismissing guardians often see their child’s negative emotions as unimportant and a form of distraction. As a maid, take time to reflect and above all, understand what the child is experiencing.

5. Repression doesn’t work.
One of the common mistakes parents make is forcing the child to repress what he feels. When a child tripped on something and bursts into tears, we tell him, “Big boys don’t cry,” or “A little scratch doesn’t hurt.”

When we do this, we are unconsciously teaching him that feeling hurt is shameful and crying is unacceptable. When the nanny is by his side in times like this, the best thing to do is giving him time to process until he is ready to get over what happened.

With these tips, we hope you and your nanny can raise an emotionally intelligent child!

The family’s health and safety should be the top priority. Eden Grace Maids Agency offers maid services which will help us secure our children’s safety when we’re not around. The choice to hire a maid who can take care of the tiring household chores and things we cannot handle on our own will definitely be a plus point!

Please contact us for a fuss free consultation with our unique personal screenings of our maids. We look forward to serving you!