DH getting the big V?

I am curious to how many of you have had your DH get the big V? DH and I have talked about it and I kinda like the idea since I have hadntrouble with every kind of hormone bc imaginable, and don't trust myself to keep track well enough for other methods or condoms yuck....just had a few questions:
-Was it terrible for him pain wise when you did get back in bed?
-Has it effected his desire for you? We used to be like spring rabbits and would like to get back to that...don't want to trade off, me get mine back and him loose his lol
-Have you noticed any downside to it?
TIA

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Lol! My DH got his back in April and it's been great! I can't think of a single downside except that I'm a worry wart and always wonder about the possibility of the stuff growing back again...I guess it is possible, though rare.

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Stephanie

Married to my wonderful husband, DJ, for 8 years and a SAHM to our beautiful little girl, Leilani, born 3/16/08.

DH is getting his done on December 27th. We were at a holiday party on Saturday night and five of the eight guys all had the big V and told DH it was not a big deal for any of them (two of the five have very physical jobs, one is a police officer and one is a fireman). DH is making a big drama about it because he's afraid it won't perform like it did pre-big V. A few of the wives said that they actually enjoyed sex more because they knew they wouldn't be getting pregnant. I am so looking forward to him getting it done!

When my DH and I married he had a vasectomy done during his previous marriage already.

We did the reversal in Dec 2008 and for me having sex was so much more enjoyable when he was vasectomized (is that even a word) - I never had to worried about getting pregnant. I have an IUD now but I still worry.

Can't wait for him to do it again.

He says it takes about a week to recover and it has no impact on sex life whatsoever. No downsides except that if you want to reverse it at some point it is important that the original vasectomy has been performed very professionally.

DH had his almost a decade ago, no negative impact on performance. He was sore for a couple days, but says it really wasn't a big deal.

I know several other men who have also had the procedure, and every last one of them tells the same story. A tender 'kicked in the nuts' feeling for a day, then a little sore and tender for the rest of the week, then no issues whatsoever from then on. A little embarassment over having to produce the 'all clear' sample. Then, yay- worry free sex for the rest of your life, and a wife who doesn't have to be a raging bc pill induced crazy person or undergo a much more invasive procedure.

My DH had it done last January. He was in excrutiating pain for a few days, pretty bad pain for a few weeks and dull pain for a few months. He went back to the practice and saw a different Dr., and apparently the original Dr. was unusually rough. He had a hard time and was really tugging to get to the vas deferens? Anyway, while all of this was going on I found some websites/support groups(!) that I wish I saw before I suggested he do this. There are quite a few (thousands) of men who don't have the easy-peasy experience that everyone talks about. A year later he's pretty much fine, but he went through a lot. And believe me, it was absolutely real- he's wasn't just being a baby or anything.