Beat Low Self-Esteem

I am 46 years old. My mail is not about Islam. It is about me. I have been mired in low self-esteem for the last 24 years, and my life is just slipping away, day by day, doing nothing. All my attempts to impose my will on my frailties have failed, and I have developed ‘learned helplessness’.

I am very impressed with your writings. Can you help me?

Regards,
Anil

Hi Anil,

Low self-esteem is the root cause of many ills affecting us individually and consequently the socially. Nathaniel Brandon, a pioneer in the field of self- esteem, in his book The Six Pillars of Self Esteem wrote, “Apart from disturbance whose roots are biological, I cannot think of a single psychological problem—from anxiety and depression, to underachievement at school or at work, to fear of intimacy, happiness, or success, to alcohol or drug abuse, to spouse battering or child molestation, to co-dependency and sexual disorders, to passivity and chronic aimlessness, to suicide and crimes of violence—that is not traceable, at least in part, to the problem of deficient self-esteem. Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves.”

I would go one step further and say that many of the mental disorders that are diagnosed as biological are psychosomatic in origin. We affect our biology through our thoughts. Much of the diseases, whether mental or physical are caused by our fears and worries, and are the products of our own thinking.

Every thought stimulates a gland or an organ and in response your body reacts. Think of lemon juice and your mouth starts salivating. Think of something fearful and your heart start beating faster; think of a funny incident and you start laughing; think a happy and joyous thought and your nerve cells start secreting dopamine, think of something erotic and you become sexually aroused, think of something sad and your eyes can be filled with tears. Your doctor can trick you giving you a placebo making you believe it is a potent medicine and in many cases you get better. Thoughts affect our body and our brain.

Predominant thoughts create permanent responses. They eventually leave their mark on our body and our brain. Many mental and physical disorders are the result of our habitual negative thinking. This also includes our sexual orientation. Unlike what people believe today, no one is born a homosexual. They become so as the result of thinking, starting in infancy and childhood. Thoughts create our reality. We are thoughts materialized. Quantum physics has given us a new understanding of the world and has driven a nail in the coffin of the 19th century materialism.

In the highest state of alertness, during the waking hours, the brain of an adult emits frequencies between 14-40 Hz. This is called Beta frequency. When we relax, with our eyes closed and slip into daydreaming our brain functions at 7.5 – 14 Hz frequencies. This is called Alpha state. During deep meditation and light sleep, including the all-important REM (Rapid Eye Movement) dream, the brain frequency drops to 4 – 7 Hz. This state is called Theta. And when the brain frequency drops to 0.5 – 4 Hz during deep, dreamless sleep we enter Delta state.

A new brain frequency discovered recently is called Gamma. It is the fastest frequency at above 40 Hz. While little is known about this state of mind, it is believed that it is associated with burst of insight and high-level information processing.

The brain of children below the age of five does not function at Beta frequencies. When they are infants their brain functions with frequencies that are ranged at Theta level and between the ages of 2-5 their brain activity reaches Alpha levels.

The rational mind of an adult works at Beta level. The Alpha frequency is the realm of the subconscious mind. This means that children do not have a rational mind. We knew that already. However, the importance of this discovery is in the fact that now we know whatever we tell our children will be registered in their subconscious mind as programming. It becomes the blueprint of their life. Children don’t analyze what we tell them. In the first five years of their life they download all the information that is fed to them whether consciously or subliminally.

After the age of five, the brain starts to function at Beta frequency. Children start to be analytical and critical of the information they receive. How? By sizing the new information against the information that is already programmed in their subconscious mind! If the new information matches the information with which they were programmed they accept it and if it does not, they reject it.

Whatever we do, from the age of 5 to 105 is the result of those five years of programming. So if in those five years you were told that you are not good enough, you are lazy, clumsy, will not amount to anything, etc. you will carry these beliefs as blueprint for the rest of your life. Even when you grow up and become an educated person, you still have low self-esteem. Self-esteem has nothing to do with intelligence. You can be a very smart person and highly qualified. But you can’t become successful because every time the opportunity arises you feel inadequate and do not take advantage of it. You will in fact sabotage your chances in order to validate your beliefs about yourself.

As I said, our sexual orientation is also formed at this time. For some reason, we associate sexual gratification with a person of the same sex in childhood. This is done unconsciously. As we grow it becomes part of our personality. Even our physiology responds to this expectation.

Propensity to addictions is also formed during these early years. Procrastination, eating disorders, failure to have friends and to form a loving relationship, failure to succeed in life and many traits that develop into mental disorders, such as narcissism, border line personality, depression, anxiety, paranoia, etc., are all the result of childhood subconscious programming. Most of them are byproducts of low self-esteem. The seed is sown in childhood and the fruit matures when the individual reaches adulthood.

So what shall we do to improve our self-esteem? You can spend years going to psychologists who will help you undo the damage that is done to you in childhood, or you can take the fast approach that I will describe below. We love easy fixes and instant solutions. In life there are no such things. This is the only exception I know of. So keep reading.

The subconscious mind it the powerhouse of our mind. If it is programmed to do something it will do it, even if you consciously try to do something else. You have no choice over your sub-conscious mind. Your will power does not work. Many people exert their will power and when they fail repeatedly they give up.

The mind can be compared to an iceberg. The conscious mind that is exposed is only 1/10th of the subconscious mind that is hidden under the water. Imagine you are sitting on that iceberg with a paddle and trying to navigate it through the waters. The undercurrent waters take you to a direction that you don’t want to go. You paddle hard to go against the current. But you go nowhere or as soon as you stop paddling you drift back to the old habits. If you only look at the hidden size of the iceberg you will realize why you fail.

I can suggest wonderful books on this subject. The best is The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Brandon, from which I quoted above. These six pillars are:

The Practice of Living Consciously

The Practice of Self-Acceptance

The Practice of Self-Responsibility

The Practice of Self-Assertiveness

The Practice of Living Purposefully

The Practice of Personal Integrity

I recommend this book. However, you need more than conscious understanding of the problem when you are dealing with something that has its roots in the subconscious mind. You have to change the programming of your subconscious mind.

The difficulty is in the fact that our adult brain is critical. If you tell yourself that you are a loveable person, your critical mind will run this information against the programming in your subconscious mind and if it is not resonating with it, will reject it.

The programming in your subconscious mind can be, and often is, false. But your subconscious mind is not concerned about truth and falsehood. It can’t distinguish between the two. It deals with emotions. Its job is self-preservation, i.e., the preservation of your image and identity. If you tell yourself that you are a good person, your subconscious mind will reject it because it is not compatible with the worthless image that it has of you. The subconscious mind can’t distinguish between good and bad. It works like a computer. If it is programmed to accept a certain value, it will reject all other values as false.

The only way to change your life is to change the programming in your subconscious mind. When you were a child you did not have a rational mind to filter the information that you received. Now, you have to silence your rational mind completely if you want to re-write the programming in your subconscious mind. This can be done by bringing the brain frequency from Beta to Alpha and even to Theta levels. Then the critical mind will be inactive and without its interference you can delete the negative programming in your subconscious mind and write new ones.

To understand this, think of animals. Dogs don’t not have a rational mind. They can’t know the difference between good and bad. They are highly motivated by emotions. That is the state of our subconscious mind. You don’t reason with your subconscious mind. You motivate it through emotions and feelings.

This is very simple. How long does it take? It can take as little as half an hour. But for a lasting effect you need to repeat it daily for at least 30 days to start feeling the result and you should continue so you don’t drift back to the old way of thinking. This is the fastest way I know for radical and lasing transformation. It is far more effective than any therapy and it is now practiced by a growing number of psychotherapists.

If the programming in my subconscious mind tells me I am a failure. I can tell myself I am a success, but I won’t believe it. It all sounds hollow to me and the history of my past failures prove I am right. Because I have accepted the lies that I am not good, as truth, now my subconscious mind will reject anything that goes against that lie. The Jesuits understood this very well. Their maxim was “Give me a child for his first seven years and I’ll give you the man.” This also explains why we cling so tenaciously to the religion of our childhood, even though we know nothing about it. I can’t tell you how many times I have received emails from Muslims who tell me they are not scholars and they are not even good Muslims, but they insult me and act most obnoxiously. They are threatened when I criticize their religion because they identify themselves with it. Truth and falsehood are irrelevant for the subconscious mind. Our beliefs about our self is our identity. We want to cling to them as if our life depends on them.

The good news is that we can change our childhood programming. To do that we have to access our subconscious mind without the interference of our conscious mind. We can do that through meditation and/or self-hypnosis. Go to Youtube and search under self-hypnosis. You will find many recordings that will help you relax and lower your Beta brain activity. After you reach the Alpha state of mind, you can reprogram your belief about yourself with positive affirmations.

Here is a good one http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NMldMnEfxX8

But try others audios too. Most of them are good.

Miraculous transformations can happen almost overnight. You can get rid of any addiction, any self-debilitating behavior and belief about yourself, gain more self-confidence, overcome your fears and anxieties, get rid of your bad habits, eliminate your shyness, meet the love of your life, improve your relationship, overcome your anger, and be a more happy and successful person. Self-hypnosis, meditation and visualization are the fastest ways to self transformation. They are far more effective than any psychotherapy and they cost nothing.

Don’t let your low self-esteem rob your life. You have tremendous powers hidden within you. Feel the love within you and give it to others. As you give love, you receive it. You don’t have to be anyone else. You are unique and no one can be you. The more you accept and love yourself, the more you can accept and love others. Forgive others and forgive yourself. Let go of blame. Fill yourself with love. Love everyone and everything and love yourself. There is no difference between you and anyone else. The distinction is an illusion. We are all made of the same electron and the same information/spirit. No one is superior and no one is inferior.

Access your subconscious mind and reprogram yourself the way you want yourself to be through meditation and self-hypnosis. Hypnotherapy can create unconscious change in you in your thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and your feelings. We have the “technology” to redesign ourselves. Why live with limitations when you can reach the moon?

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"Lol dumbdy dumbdy dumb. Allah is ahad. Ahad is one. lets answer this from math. or should you bring chuck here to prove? "
Allah is Ahad and Ahad is one this is same like I ask to Narcole what is your father's name and she reply he is one.
"where Allah Came from?" and she is replying like that. Clap for savant Narcole

//"Question that for darwin first, demsci"//
Not a logical answer, Narcole. the theory of Darwin has no need whatsoever of proof of Darwins existence (which anyway is much more proven than that of Muhammad, due to time in which they lived).

But Islam would certainly be false if Muhammad, as the person Muslims tell the world that he was, did not exist.

There of course may have been a person who did a little bit of prophethood, in the general area, perhaps Ubul Qasim, but a big part of the so-called historical Muhammad could have been fabricated.

It is no good to spurn evidence to the contrary of historical Muhammad and logic derived from theLACK of evidence for him between 634 and 691,

in order only to be able to believe in nice, comforting story's, to please believing loving parents.

K SA is rich because of the infidels intelligence (because they invented motor )and not by dumb Allah's curtsey ha ha ha.Some 70 years back these Arabs were boot policing on the streets of Bombay .Don't worry again they are going to do that ,if they do not leave these crap doctrine of Islam ha ha ha.

Narcole, they SAY that Mohammed's tomb is in Madinah. But the Saudi's do not let people near it. They have never let archeologists investigate this tomb. And therefore today it cannot be considered evidence of Muhammad's existence.

And by that the historians mean; the existence of a man called Muhammad who actually did all the things that the Muslims tell us that he did.

Jay,
You allah is a master deceiver but no matter how hard it tried, it never succeeded in deceiving any Christian. It only succeeded in making Judas its prophet in muhammadanism. So allah is busy projecting Judas because both of them have too much in common.

ALL NON MUSLIM WHO AR COMMENTING IGNORANCE ARE MENTAL ENOUGH
…THEY KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ISLAM….THEY NEVER READ QURAN….THEY ARE TOTTALY JAHIL..PERHAPS THEY ARE ARE MISGUIDED BY MAN WHOSE ONLY JOB IS INSULTING ISLAM BECUSE HE KNOWS IS TRUE RELIGION..

HEY AGRACEAN U ARE THE REAL KILLER OF ORPHAN..KILLING IN IRAQIRAN AFGANISTHAN PAKISTAN ETC …….WHO SAID U THAT …..(marrying a 6 years old girl and have sex with her when she was only 9 years old?)..NAUZBILLAH
WHAT CHRISTIAN DO …HAVE SEX WITH THEIR DAUGHTER TO PROMOTE CHRISTIANITY…WHAT A RELIGION OF PEACE…

Yeah india was a great prosperous country in ancient time…it WAS. Japan was a small country..no western wanted to buy cars made by japan before…n many civilization in ancient times already invented nuclear and battery…nebukadnezars garden showed how developed his zalim kingdom…btw ksa still a rich country, and moslems around the world chose islam, no matter where they are from. 🙂

//"cos good moslems are told to obey leaders. but if the leaders are infidels who cant differ which is good and which is bad, then how could moslems be good? and what could moslems do but against the dhal leaders?"//

OK, so perhaps Japan, South Korea, Taiwan did understand this and they refused to allow Muslim immigrants in because of this and now they can say to the Western countries who did allow many Muslims to come, (because they were suffering in Islamic countries in poverty or refugees from violence in Islamic countries) ,:

HOW STUPID OF YOU TO ALLOW IN PEOPLE WITH NO INTENTION TO BE LOYAL TO YOUR COUNTRY, LAWS AND ELECTED LEADERS! PEOPLE WHO OFTEN INSTEAD ARE LOYAL TO ISLAMIC TERRORISTS AND ENEMIES OF YOUR COUNTRIES!

Is that what you want Japan, Taiwan, SK to say?

If Muslims can't be loyal to infidel countries, laws and elected leaders, why do they go to these infidel countries or stay there?

Will Muslims take themselves, their children or their parents when they are sick and in need of help go to the healthcare of the Islamic UMMAH too? No, for treatment of sickness they go the infidel's country healthcare! They are loyal to the Ummah, but prophiting from the healthcare and all the other benefits of the infidels' country.

At least a part of the Muslims who would act according to your advice!

All the infidel ruled countries are in peace and prosperous ,but look at the countries ruled by your own clan how devastating they are and poor ,you don't feel any little shame baby upon this visible evidence hahaha.

@narcole
I don't care about how Muhammad died.
….Narrated 'Aisha: The Prophet in his ailment in which he died, used to say, "O 'Aisha! I still feel the pain caused by the food I ate at Khaibar, and at this time, I feel as if my aorta is being cut from that poison."
Sahih Bukhari 5:59:713
The poison was still there after 3 years and obviously his saliva couldn't cure him.

An Imam at a Mosque on a friday clearly said not to be friends with non-muslims and even have some hatred in your heart for them not believing, but that we shouldn't show them
Since you are a female you don't go to mosque in fridays and hear the lectures Imams tell… soooooo many lies about Christians the Imam was telling us
You are making it up, Auliya > Friend/Ally look it up on Google all Scholars agree on that

Lol lets not talk about arabic quran first. why does quran translation in my language translate 'auliya2' as leaders, not as friends. auliya2 is the plural form of wali. why many places call leaders as wali? so moslems are told not to have infidels as leaders that will lead them away from islam. cos good moslems are told to obey leaders. but if the leaders are infidels who cant differ which is good and which is bad, then how could moslems be good? and what could moslems do but against the dhal leaders? how could a country have peace?

Thanks first you because you are not a true Muslim because if you will then you will follow in sura 3:28 La yattakhithi almu/minoona alkafireena awliyaa min dooni almu/mineena waman yafAAal thalika falaysa mina Allahi fee shay-in illa an tattaqoo minhum tuqatan wayuhaththirukumu Allahu nafsahu wa-ila Allahi almaseeru
Let not the believers Take for friends or helpers Unbelievers rather than believers: if any do that, in nothing will there be help from Allah: except by way of precaution, that ye may Guard yourselves from them. But Allah cautions you (To remember) Himself; for the final goal is to Allah. and not say me brother.

"Quran is the islamic constitution like we have a constitution in most of the countries. I ask you the question tell me who interprets the constitution? you or the judges?"
Most of the country have constitution but this is man made and Quran say about itself this is the word of Allah are you ready to accept it is man made if then yes I'm ready that I'll not say anything.

Dear Narcole Sister,
You will never give the answer only made vague reply because God is created by human; human is not created by him. So we can say from where Allah came from? He came from Fear. Human being made Allah/God/Bhagwan and many more names as per religion and culture. If all humans are created by him all humans say same about him. But you can find that each religion say some differ about Allah/God/Bhangwan. Why because it is created by us and we imagine him. Sometimes we say he is like light, sometimes we say he is invisible, untouchable, but again we say he can write, he can walk and do everything like human being done. This only due to our fear when we lost this fear we have not the requirement of any god because he never harms us and never help us. This is our mind and body that only concentrate on the name of these imaginary things and we do our work with zeal, and accomplish our goal, if we unable to achieve that time we also say this is ignored by Allah & we are unable to achieve this.

Allah is great Satan he always make stupidity with us and blame Eblis read this para and justify own is it good work,
2:10 Fee quloobihim maradun fazadahumu Allahu maradan walahum AAathabun aleemun bima kanoo yakthiboona
In their hearts is a disease; and Allah has increased their disease: And grievous is the penalty they (incur), because they are false (to themselves).
"In their hearts is a disease; and Allah has increased their disease" people who has disease in theirs heart and Allah also increased the disease without any crime is it good work or can anyone say it was the work of Allah? Everyone will say this is Satan who made mischief. But here Allah accept it that I did such things so you can understand who is the Allah?

Now I have come to the inevitable conclusion that you are jester. Your hadiths and biographers of Muhammad quote him as saying that he was sick as a result of the poisoned food he ate at Khayyabar which eventually led to his death. More than 1,400 years later, you are disputing what they witnessed. Why should anybody take you seriously?

Allah worshiped him and even prayed for him. Allah would not accept anything which its rasul did not first accept. Allah went on to be its messenger's chief body guard who arranged the details of his security. Allah and its rasul are equal in status that is why allah's name must come together with that of its rasul.
He had no diseases, yet he complained about his aorta being cut for three years and suffered untold agony according to Aisha and the companions. When being moved to Aisha's house, his feet were dragging on the ground while he was held by Ali and one other. If any body died degraded, Muhammad was that.

Alastra,
No, it couldn't and it didn't. The zamzam well with its 'miracle' powers dried up so that they could not get water for him to drink and neutralize the effect of the poison. His right hand, which allegedly cured many, became palsied and was devoid of power when placed on his burning aorta. Honey bees no longer produced honey for him to drink, which was one of the things he recommended to cure maladies. All the wonder working substances became impotent when applied to Muhammad. The conclusion is that, either he was that vilest thing which his allah talked about or these miracles were monumental lies. Or even both.

You had share your problem with us through Mr. Sina, I've not your personal e-mail id so I'm asking about your problem publicly. Sorry, How is your life going on? and what kinds of problem are facing as you know this is a good forum where we discuss and also we get proper and appropriate answer but as a human being it's our responsibility to know about the problems of our brother and sisters and try to solve physically, mentally or other way as per the requirement. If you feel hesitation to share your problem publicly you can write me through Mr. Sina.

Because of Allah there were this many many people believing Jesus died on cross he even helped those who wrote the Bible decieve the people?, even if he wanted Muhammad to correct that later after a thousand years? because he made someone else look like Jesus now Christians will believe that Jesus died on the cross

How can you prove something does not exist? You are the one who need to provide atheists proofs of your so called "Allah". Lets say I believe in aliens and you don't, and I ask you to prove that aliens don't exist. How funny is that?

A woman can marry several times, but not at the same time. Only divorce or death that could allow a woman to marry again. A woman who married many times cos of husbands death, so how many soulmates she got?

If u are a teacher who has so many unique students include autist kids, will you force all to do one same task with one same result, not depend on each ability? A man has better ability to handle more than one woman. But a woman doesnt have ability to handle more than one man. Women are created for certain tasks, soft tasks. But men are able to do physically heavier tasks. Women are soft. Men are hard. Each has his/her own kodrat. Is it fair to ask a genius kid and an idiot kid at same age to complete genius task?

Why not judas jesus prevented him being crucified, and then live here together with us and chat with us now? Kullin nafsin za2ikat al maut. After the judgement day, al maut or death will die too. That way nobody will die anymore, and we all become eternal. Either eternal in hell or heaven. Prophet knew that as a human he had to die. Eventhough god offered him eternity. He wanted to show us, that hes a human rasul for human ummat. If hes eternal until now, people would worship him, not Allah. Cos humans have tendency to worship extra ordinary humans like jesus and other holy persons. So in what other way holy prophet could enter alam kubur, if not die as victim? He couldnt die in other ways. He had no diseases.

Oh you never saw mukminins complete corpses that never rot? You wanna prove whether prophets body rot or not? Why not visit it and check it out? 🙂 told you its easy, memorize yaseen and ull never rot. Or read shalawat hundred thousands times in life 🙂 try it 😉

I know Khadija died and so I can see that Aisha was Mohammed's soulmate after that. But what about all his other wives? Can there be multiple soulmates in your vision? Can persons reject soulmates? Or marry non-soulmates? Because of free will? It's confusing.

Listen Slave of Prophet, please understand that very often it is Muslims who interpret Islam in the way you object to. But you object to it when infidels report what Muslims say. You don't seem to object when Muslims say exactly the same as that which you object to when infidels say it. Look at MEMRI-tv for evidence.

For instance; infidels says: In shariah law is deathpenalty for apostasy. Shabeer objects and copy pastes what Islam-apologists deny about it. The next day an important Egyptian Islamic Cleric on MEMRI-TV proclaims deathpenalty apostasy, saying that is what Quran-Hadith demand.

Muhammad, his allah and muhammadanism are all fake and fraudulent. Produce the uncorrupted Bible to show the changes made by priests. Otherwise forever bury your head in shame for being duped by a conman who called himself a prophet but had no iota of prophethood. His name was Muhammad ibn Mutallib.

Have you seen its remains in the grave? The Egyptian pharaohs were mummified and the bodies have been brought out for all to see. Has anybody seen the cadaver of that prince of evil to know that it has not rotted?

Lol evidence of prophet is his tomb. Did robert spencer visit yet? Pfft. Quran at prophets time memorized in head. Can you imagine how strong memory arabs have? they can memorize their family tree so long. Do you know the name of grandfather of ur grandfather? But sometimes prophet asked sahabat to write certain ayat on leather. Then uthman collected them all also synced with all memories from all hafiz. Then mushaf uthmani created. He did that for weak memory people. btw memorizing quran is perfect method in keeping its originality. Unlike these days, many dhal tafsir.

Every part of his body is cure to everything. Also has blessings and miracles. His salive could make food multiple, his salive could give clean heart and mind and rahmat 3lmu. Thats why his tooth or hair are priceless. There were many more cases and miracles stories from his salive.

Do you know your wife well? Was she a virgin when you married her? What if someone said shes not a virgin at that time, and swore that he has slept with her so many times and wrote book that ur wife a liar?

Yeah Buddha is not god and he never claimed about himself that I'm the god, I'm the Messenger of god, he was a man who teach the human being to live with peace and happy with your own efforts. If you want to learn and know more about Buddha please read Tri-Pittak, I'm also studying and finding the way that make this world happy and Joyful. He never said in any pittak that worship me in idol.

Yeah and I'm not claiming that I'm another buddha.
"like you who talked bad about someone" this is the effect of Muhmmad who teach all Muslims to see the cult of others but never see about ourselves because when you want to see ourselves no one believe in this lie and cult, & it is you who also speaking like Muhammad all the times lie, and also supporting rape of child ( You have already wished about yourself I was Aisha then I also marriage with this mad Muhammad)

Read history how desperate people searched for aisha for cases they never heard from prophet cos far. And also for women period cases are sensitive. Prophet was too shy to explain with details. Prophet already had many pupils. Prophet married khadijah who was older than him and died earlier. Another hikmah why a young woman as his wife so that after he died someone could pass the stories longer.

Yes Buddha was an atheist who also denied there is not god,Gautama Buddha denied the belief of a a divine being (deva) acting as sovereign god and creator of the universe, refused to endorse any views on creation and stated that questions on the origin of the world are worthless. Read and understand the teaching of Buddha.

I suppose through an intermediate person. Why did it have to be Aisha who was soulmate (nr 3, 4, 12?) to Muhammad? Why was only SHE fit to be a great pupil? Or why was it necessary for her to marry Mohammed in order to learn from him about Islam? He could have a part-time teacher, with a class of pupils, with her in it? After class going home to parents.

He didnt want to keep money in his pocket. he shared everytime he got money. is there anybody on this earth that so rich and enough to erase poverty on this earth? Money you keep wont follow you till grave.

I too heard Muhammad means the praised one. Robert Spencer wrote a book "Did Mohammed exist". In it he wrote that the term "Muhammad", the praised one, is mentioned only 3 times in the Quran. He even wrote that it is conceivable that with that term Jesus was meant.

He wrote that from 634 (beginning of Arabic invasions) and 691, the year in which according to him the Quran was really compiled and published by the then Khalief, there was very little and only then contradicting evidence of Mohammed and Quran and Islam.

Before you shoot the Messenger, Robert Spencer, it is certain that no Muslim can come up with real evidence to the contrary of that period; 634-691. The origines of Islam seem shrouded in mystery and only passed on ORALLY in that period.

But was it not you that alerted me to the game of whispering words in the ear of someone next to you in a row? And seeing that in the end the output was vastly different from the input?

Oh, and I heard that Mohammed's real name may have been Ubul Qasim, that is, if he existed as the Hadith and Sira claim he existed, did you hear about that?

Hello Narcole1919721, I read somewhere that there are different types of Jihad in Islam. Islam of the Sword and Islam of the Word and maybe other types. Can you explain what you mean by you doing Jihad here?

And are you defending and promoting Islam (your version of it) to your opponents here or intentionally really to the readers, especially other visiting Muslims?

Abdullah means slave of allah. That was the name of Muhammad's father given him by his father, Mutallib, who was the priest of Hubal or allah, the chief idol of Mecca. That establishes the link between muhammadanism and pre-muhammadan paganism. At the time of Abdallah's birth, Muhammad had not yet invented allah. For his father to have been the 'slave of allah' is concrete proof that allah was the pagan god. Muhammadanism is, therefore, a pagan cult. There will be no slave without a master.

Therefore Muhamamd had to defile a child? Do you also know that he was incestuous and showed homosexual tendencies too? Your hadiths say that he would not sleep till he sucked on the tongue of Fatima and muzzle his face in her bosom. He would kiss his grandsons, Hassan and Hussein, as well as other little boys in the mouth.

If he was so great a businessman, they would not have gone into penury when they left Mecca for Medina. The old woman cried because she had been ruined. If Muhammad was such a loving husband, why did he not adopt or at least look after Khadijah's children from her previous marriages? Muhammad was the third mate on that tramp.

Oh!! what is then love baby ,can you define it in its totality.If so then again you have to describe what is sex .There was a girl who was my companion in child hood ,i used to hate her lot during our childhood and was she.And when we grew to adulthood we started loving (liking )each other and that love comes to an end when ,we grew little older .I am confused till date about what is meant by love .Was Mohammed's desire for Ayesha was love or psychopaths desire of psychic sex,and what about Ayesha's state of mind at that age of 6 ,to expect fatherly love from Mohammed which was natural. but not the love fathomed with lust for sex which she was unaware.The boll is in your court.

No baby, i am not at all confused ,it is you ,who are in confusion .I follow Buddhas teachings of, "doubting each and everything before being adopted" and this is pure science in its essence .I put to test this principle while evaluating Jesus and found him really genuine in his preachings and accepted him as Savior of humanity .But the same when i applied against Mohammed ,i am stunned to see him as ,the greatest criminal the of humans had ever come across in their long History .Even he surpass Chengage Khan or Atilla the Hun for example.I would have been accepted him provided ,if you would have called him the greatest coward strategist of his era ,but the prophet ha ha ha ,simply cannot be digested..

The collection of fables you call quran cannot be understood by any sensible person because Muhammad, the author, lacked the mastery of facts and the compilation itself is deficient in clarity of style.

So you meant ,his skeleton in Medina ,lots of Pharaohs too have remains in the form of mummies for your kind information and they predates Mohammed back to 4000 B.C .During their existence they were gods unlike your pony messengers massenger like, this mad Mohammed.I really want and wish to see your thug Mohamed's skeleton in a museum below the mummies of Pharaohs .Let our future generations come to know and well aware , what this Mohammed was exactly in reality.

"if i could get married just after i got born i wouldnt mind." How can a newborn baby get married? I am sure you would not mind getting raped (i mean have sex) with a dirty old man when you were a baby? It is beyond me how a human being can talk such nonsense.

Prophet came from noble family, eventhough hes an orphan he was a great businessman, which made khadijah fell in love with his honesty and proposed him. And after they married, most of khadijahs wealth given to poor people. Before she died she cried, cos she wished she still had wealth to share to poor people. She wanted to keep doing shodaqah

And eventhough prophets age was mature, but his appearance too attractive. his father Abdullah was the most handsome man at that place. If he walked, all girls came out from houses to peek. Even princesses tried to propose him. But he chose Aminah, a simple nice woman from clean blood.

Dear even when i was little i wondered who would be my soul mate and didnt mind to marry early :p if i could get married just after i got born i wouldnt mind. if you knew ur soul mate, would you postpone securing her from others?

eagle,
That link takes one to the Wikipedia page where 'scholars' opinions on Jesus are quoted. There is no conclusion drawn. However, I benefited immensely from it because it led me to the source of one of the fables which forms a core believe in muhammadanism. I have constantly expressed my agreement with the Byzantine Emperor that only violence was original to Muhammad. When he said that Jesus was not crucified but that a look alike was, he was simply echoing the view of Basilides who was a Greek teacher (117-138). Basilides said that Simon of Cyrene was transformed to look like Jesus while Jesus took his semblance and watched with laughter while Simon was being tormented. Being an illiterate, Muhammad had heard the story but did not remember Simon of Cyrene so he left the name blank in the quran. Later fraudsters would insert "Judas" as the supposed replacement in contravention of allah's order that nothing should be added or subtracted from the quran as it is self explanatory. Please look for more of such links. They help to expose the emptiness in Muhammad and his fraud.

You have read your muhammadan history upside down. Abu Bakr was an influential man in Mecca. That was why Warraqa advised Muhammad to try and convince him so that through Abu Bakr he, Muhammad, could reach other men of influence. Abu Bakr had wanted to marry Fatima. He was not rejected by Muhammad because of poor finances but because Muhammad thought that at 9 years, Fatima was too young. Yet in his sanctimonious hypocrisy, Aisha was marriageable at 6 years.

Dear Narcole Sister
You read the teaching of Buddha and you will understand What is Buddha and what think about this world, this nature I'm not believe in any religion but as I read the teaching of Buddha's, I analyze he was also an atheist who not believe in nonsense but give a way that human be happy, joy his life and live with peace.

Before then he would fondle the little girl and share a bath with her. He also expressed longing for other baby girls saying :I HELD SUCH AND SUCH WHEN SHE WAS A BABY AND GREATLY DESIRED HER. You are ashamed that somebody who claimed to be a prophet was so perfidious to have violated a 6 year old baby.

Muhammad was a fortune hunter. He married Khadija because of her wealth and position in the society. Of the four conditions he gave for marriage, love is not one of them. He was the bastion of hate and openly displayed his hatred for the Quraish. Marrying a 6 year old was sign of mental imbalance called pedophilia. It was not out of love. Why did he not love the second wife, who he divorced but allowed to stay on the condition that she gave her turn to Aisha? The brute did not know anything called love.

@Narcole
We should not waste time in other things. Allah has given us this life so that we could worship him. If we waste time in other things this will be insult of our precious life. Prophet Muhammad had sacrificed his all life in the service of Allah. Same footsteps I am willing to follow.

@NARCOLE
Do not think what people say. We are to believe in prophet & Allah which is ultimate gate of eternal heaven and we should not promote anything which un-Islamic. Narcole is un-Islamic title.Fatima is beautiful name because this word is Arabic and Arabic is divine language.

I wish my name was fatima. but people wont call me that. Anyway its just username. people wont call my real name either they cant spell well, hm. Anyway lol keep doing da3wah. Ill watch and help as i can.

@Dear narcole
I request you not use this title in user name. Narcole is not Arabic word. And prophet advised us not to follow non-muslims symbols. I believe these people(Non-Muslims) are worst of creature. They do not have brain to understand holy Quran and prophet Muhammad. Allah has ascertained hellfire for them.

@all non-Muslim
Firstly I advise all non-muslim not to comment on Quran without having sufficient knowledge of Arabic. Allah gives us holy Quran in Arabic because Arabic is most sacred, scientific language. There is no language equal to Arabic. Speaking Arbi cure many disease also. Now, world scientist also accepting the fact Arabic is best suited language for computers.

@saket
Heaven is place where believer in prophet & Allah will get all kind of luxury. Almighty give signs of heaven in holy Quran like this
“It is sparkling light, aromatic plants, a lofty palace, a flowing river, ripe fruit, a beautiful wife and abundant clothing, in an eternal abode of radiant joy, in beautiful soundly-constructed high houses”. (Ibn Maajah, Ibn Hibbaan)
“…rivers of water incorruptible; rivers of milk of which the taste never changes…” (Quran 47:15)
“… They will be adorned therein with bracelets of gold, and they will wear green garments of fine silk and heavy brocade. They will recline therein on raised thrones. How good [is] the recompense! How beautiful a couch [is there] to recline on!” (Quran 18:31)

@Nizamu.
Aisha parents were not able to bring her up. And prophet also fell in love with Aisha and he wanted to support the parents of Aisha. So, marriage with Aisha was the best option in those circumstances.

@hate-Islam
Feeling of hatred greatest evil itself. Hell is certain for hate mongers. Learn from prophet (SAW) who loved with everyone from child to old person. Prophet at the age of 24 loved a old woman Khadija(45 years old) and same prophet when he was 53 years old loved with a child girl Aisha who was 6 years old.. Prophet had a great personality. Prophet never looked age but he believed love is supreme.

@HATE-ISLAM
Why should we ashamed? On the contrary we feel proud prophet consumed marriage at the age of 9 with Aisha inspite he married with her when she was 6 years old. If prophet was pedophile why did he wait 3 years to consume the marriage.

You must be some incomprehensible fool. Aisha said said that she was married to Muhammad at the age of 6 years and the marriage was consummated when she was 9 years old. Between you, living about 1,500 years after the fact and Aisha, the victim of the child abuse, who should be believed? That you are ascribing mature age to Aisha at the time of her being sexually violated by a 53 year old retard, means that you are ashamed of the act.

Nur means null. When something is null, it means it has no existence. If your allah is null of Muhammad, it means that it does not exist. All that is known about muhammadanism is its being a terror organization which was started by a highway robber. Does anybody with grey matter associate with such evil?

That is your problem and none of them is of any importance. Are you saying, in very simple terms, that you have not seen where in the quran JESUS is called the WORD AND SPIRIT OF GOD? Then you have not read the book of evil. That is why you are writing from a position of ignorance. Arabic is the language of muhammadans. I am not one of you. The evil book is available in English. What do I need Arabic for? Not understanding it is something positive instead of being a deficiency.

Nur muhammad was created from nur Allah. And universe include us were created using nur muhammad. when adam was created nur muhammad also in him. did you get it? No? So how can you speak about islam without knowing anything? x'D you obviously only read and copy from sites blindly pfft

Are you contradicting your useless quran which says that JESUS is the WORD AND SPIRIT OF GOD? By your reckoning, there would have been no allah without Muhammad. What then became of allah after Muhammad was killed since he was allh's light? I can tell you: the light was extinguished and allah became blind. No wonder it is so bloodthirsty.

Narcolic
Jesus and Buddha ,both are fountain of love and not friends (friend ,is a conditioned state of human mind ,restricted only to Mohammed and his friends the rough Sahaba,s for violence ), in that pure conscience they both are the birds of same feather.

If this is not one of the fables told by old people at the fireside, produce any evidence of it. Certainly the poisoning at Khayyabar took Muhammad unawares. If Gabriel gave him the options, why did he enlist Gabriel's assistance in praying for recovery? He tried everything possible to stay alive but when he realized that his efforts served no purpose, he accepted the inevitable. Produce evidence that Gabriel gave Muhammad the option or informed him in advance about his death. JESUS died and resurrected. That is why HIS remains are not in HIS grave. The grave could not hold HIM down. That Muhammad died degraded and rotted in the desert sand does not mean that JESUS is in that category.

He sent gabriel asking whether prophet would like to be eternal like angel or die at age 63 like normal human. he had a choice 🙂 so jesus will die as human cos he was born as human. And has tomb and fossils too. But theres no fossils of jesus, means he never died. 🙂

You are the one who has been boxed in and for an escape route, you keep going in circles asking the same question over and over. I have no time for such gimmickry. My time is too precious to be wasted on stupid and sometimes childish behavior.

I have no interest in being a prophet. My objective is to present the quran in its authentic form, free of all pretense.There is no need for another religion. What is being done now is exposing the monumental fraud introduced by the world's most heinous conman, Muhammad.

Yep. enough proof. Mu7ammad shollallahu 3alaihi wa sallam acknowledged jesus as a prophet who never died. But judas who died didnt acknowledge prophet Mu7ammad. Cos wasnt born yet, but he couldnt predict it 🙂

I love you as a person because my Bible tells me to do so. But that does not stop me from hating the stupidity in you. You are an individual while your stupidity is an attitude. My surname says "HATE-ISLAM". Islam is not a human being but an insanity. Don't confuse the one with the other. I mean what I say and there is nothing hypocritical about it.

Muhammad acknowledged JESUS. So that should be enough proof for you. But you are at liberty to disagree with him. I don't need to show JESUS' youtube since you have Muhammad's confirmation. You need to show me in conviction that Muhammad was who he claimed to be. The burden of proof is on you.

You have actually given me an idea which is to write the authentic quran completely stripped of the sugar coating done by the fraudsters who wrote the current one. It will show Muhammad and his deity in their true colors.

I should love everybody. That is why I cannot hate but pity the muhammadan. However, HE taught that I should resist the devil and it will flee from me. That is why I am joining forces with others to resist the evil called muhammadanism or, if it makes you happy, islam.

Those who saw HIM die have left historical accounts of the event. There are Jewish sources which confirm the death of Jesus on the cross. One of them is the SANHEDRIN 107 IN THE BABYLONIAN TALMUD. That was written long before the birth Muhammad. Flavius Josephus, a Jewish historian, wrote on it. The observance of the Christian festivities of Easter arises from that death. A muhammadan writer, Mualana Abdul Majid Daraybandi said in 'Commentary of the holy quran, volume 1, first edition at page 386 "CRUCIFIXION IS THE ACT OF PUTTING TO DEATH BY NAILING ON THE CROSS. IT WAS IN USE, THOUGH GENERALLY RESTRICTED TO SLAVES AND REBELS, AMONGST ROMANS, UNDER WHOSE GOVERNMENT JESUS AND HIS PROSECUTORS, THE JEWS LIVED". What this translates to is that crucifixion was a form of capital punishment the Romans meted out on those classified as rebels. JESUS was accused of blasphemy and incitement. Charges analogous to rebellion.

YES! HE did. HE said that a thief comes to steal, kill and destroy and by their fruits we shall know them. All that descriptions fit Muhammad who was a thief, murderer and destroyer. He said so himself. JESUS further said that some will resort to killing claiming to be doing it for GOD when, in fact, they are serving the devil, their master. Isn't that what Muhammad did and muhammadans are still doing?

You are an absolute moron. I have undeniable proof that The Lord JESUS died. Muhammad had no proof of anything. He did not even have proof that he was the son of Abdallah and Amina. There is no proof that the child taken to the desert was the same as the one who was returned some years later. There is no proof of anything in Muhammadanism. If something as physical as the number of wives Muhammad married is not ascertainable, how can anything about him be trusted?

I know that your god,allah, is the best deceiver. So it could change faces to deceive people. My GOD has no reason to fear man which will cause HIM to engage in deceit. JESUS died on the cross. Judas committed suicide which was an abomination according to Jewish custom. He did not replace JESUS on the cross. That was a figment of Muhammad's negative imagination fabricated 600 years after the event which his progenitor did not even see.
You said that whoever was crucified was JESUS' twin. What does "twin' mean? The dictionary defines it as "ONE OF TWO CHILDREN OR ANIMALS BORN AT THE SAME TIME". Desist from using words whose meanings are alien to you. Now it is beyond any doubt who the blockhead at school was.

Everybody who was there, including HIS mother, disciples, Roman soldiers, Jews and numerous onlookers. Did you compare HIS DNA with that of Mary to establish that HE was not the one crucified? Have you tested Muhammad's DNA to confirm that the child Halima, the Bedouin woman, took to suckle in the desert was the same one she returned to Abdallah ibn Mutallib's wife?

Did you ever see the big fool called Muhammad? You can't teach me anything about muhammadanism. You know absolutely nothing about my religion. You are not in any position to tell me what JESUS said and what HE did not say. HE said what HE said and that's that.

Muhammad was a capital fool. Those who saw JESUS die testified as to what they saw. Muhammad came 600 years later to exhibit his dubious illiteracy. Why should any sane person believe such a mischief maker?

There you go again contradicting your worthless quran which says that allah will send a beast as its next messenger. To whom will the beast be sent if not muhammadans? Allah also had jinns as its messengers one of whom was with Muhammad guiding him on the path of reckless evil.

Out of his illiteracy, Muhammad tried to deny that Jesus died and resurrected. But he admitted that JESUS was taken corporeally to heaven. Are you then asking whether HE has a grave on earth or in heaven? Would someone who was taken up to heaven have a grave on earth? Ask your empty headed sheikh or shirk.

Dear Film is reel life and we living in real life, in film a hero killed or beat more than 50 alone and if his bullet ended but he continue firing. These all is good in film not in real life. This is hard but I ask a question to you. would you like such act?

Even your plagiarized quran does not say that JESUS had a twin brother. What was his name? It is madness to disregard the evidence of eye witnesses and believe a cock and bull story concocted by some conman who lived more than six hundred years after the fact.

You are on to inventions which you call 'biddah'. No amount of invention will change the facts about the devil called Muhammad. If you like spell his name in a thousand ways. They will end up referring to the same monster.

You are making a somersault like the 'good' muhammadan that you are. The shiites are no longer bad because your hatred for them has been exposed. But your sunni co-travelers in hate call them 'kafir' which means that they are the 'vilest things in the sight of allah'.

Slave mentality,
Was Aisha helpless? What was customary in the olden days was for babies to be betrothed to each other by their parents so that when they grow up to the right age they get married. It was not for grandfathers to marry toddlers for "protection".

Mr Slave of Prophet, do you know what is the difference between a sane man and your insane prophet? A sane man will never ever marry a helpless 6 years old Aisha and penetrate her when she turns 9 years old while your insane prophet did the exact opposite, in the name of charity. I can't believe the fact that in this 21st century, there are still so many stupid fathers and mothers in this world who still praise this horrible sex maniac for this great insanity!

You came to me in that hour of need
When I was so lost, so lonely
You came to me, took my breath away
Showed me the right way, the way to lead
You filled my heart with love,
showed me the light above
Now all I want is to be with you
You are my one true love,
taught me to never judge
Now all I want is to be with you
You came to me in a time of despair
I called on you, you were there
Without you what would my life mean
To not know the unseen
the worlds between
For you I’d sacrifice,
for you I’d give my life
Any thing just to be with you
I feel so lost at times by all the hurt and lies
Now all I want is to be with you

Btw theres diference between muhammad and mu7ammad meaning. mu7ammad means the praised one. But muhammad means the opposite. No wonder how many people with muhammad name have opposite attitudes. i wont feel offended, cos its another name 😉

So a poor husband or slave cannot marry a rich/free born woman? It was Muhammad who arranged the marriage between his then adopted son and his cousin, Zainab. Was he blind or out of his mind when he did that without knowing the social status of each person? The reason was that Zayed did not want to incur Muhammad's mercurial temper. He had to let go his young wife. In compensation for being so 'understanding', Muhammad rewarded him with marriage to the old Ethiopian woman who had baby sit him. Now compare Zainab with Zayed waking up each morning to see such a crocodile in his bed. Was that "marriage" out of love?

charcoal/narcotics,
Are you saying that only shiites hate and that Osama bin Laden was a shiite? That is not even taqiyya. It goes beyond it. Osama bin Laden called shiites 'dogs' and advocated their being killed.
In an article entitled :"IS SHIA KAFIR", Allahuakbar.net had this to say :"HATE FOR SHIA IS THE PROOF OF IMAN. LOVE FOR SHIA IS KAFIR". Muhammadanism is built on hate. So it really does not bother me whether you guys choose to hate yourselves to the point of extinction. The sooner that is done the better. But to say that there is any branch of the muhammadan cult which does not believe and practice hate is daylight robbery.

Slave mentality,
How do you compare 25 with 6, assuming that the characters in the film are man and wife in reality?
What does a 6 year old child know about live to make it 'supreme' to her?
Muhamadanism has no age limit for females to be "married". There is a fatwa that a child in the cradle can be married if the parents give consent. In that situation, who is in love, the baby or the parents? Muhammad did not list love as a condition for marriage. He emphasized the girl's social standing, status of her family, her beauty and religious seriousness. Where does love come in there?

He looked older than a grandpa; more like a great grandpa. That was why he could not climb an ordinary rock.
What do you mean, "NOW HOW OLD IS JESUS NOW"? The fact that Mary was able to conceive means that she was well past her puberty. In any case, being a virgin is not necessarily tied or limited to age. There are people who have remained virgins well into their 30s and even 40s. Age is not the determinant factor in this. Being that you are not yet married, it is expected that your have maintained your virginity. Otherwise, you will be guilty of committing adultery or fornication and the punishment for such a cardinal sin is rajam justice. If you don't convince me as to your chastity, I will issue a fatwa calling on your brother muhammadans to converge on your house and execute the sharia sentence.
Joseph did not claim to be a prophet like Muhammad. Still there is no reason to believe that he was an old man let alone a great grandfather running after a toddler to marry.

charcoal/narcotics,
But wine and sex were muhammad's grand prizes. He said that he could not do without sex and perfumes. To him, a man could quench his thirst with water and overcome hunger by eating, but he could never have enough of women. He said that allah has ordained the minimum number of adultery that a man must necessarily commit. In his paradise allah will be a spectator to all the sexual orgies by muhammadans.
"NOTHING COMPARES TO HIS WAJAH:S
In my country the word 'WAYOH' means deceit which in muhammadan parlance is 'taqiyya'. So your 'wajah' means 'wayoh' because allah is the best deceiver.
"SEEING ALLAH IS". Really, how do you see it?

However one study cannot be trusted much, so we need multiple studies to say the same kinds of things. I like talking science and evidence as opposed to personal opinions. It says less with fewer words. I'm not able to find any additional research like this.

charcoal/narcotics,
'YEP. AISHA LOVED PROPHET SO MUCH. SHE OFTEN GOT JEALOUS.
Having been married at such a tender age, did she know any better? She was enticed by all the stolen goods from the booty given to her by the arch armed robber. If her love for him was so strong, why did she not wish to join him when he died? Rather she preferred to live on and became a grand old childless dame with no one to give her comfort when the pangs of age came calling.

Hi Anil,
I recommend you to learn about the spiritual law of mirrors.
I also can offer you an individual astrolgical consulation for free or donation. If you are interested, please ask Mr. Sina for my email-adress and he will give it to you.
God bless you
Vanessa

"If it was, trust me, people would be doing this today and science would be able to record the results."

Yes people are doing it today and science is recording the result. Hypnotherapy is used by many psychologists and it is by far the most effective form of therapy, specially in cases such as low self-esteem, which is not classified as a disorder but it is the root cause of many disorders.

Then why ?,that old-bug ( 30 men horse power machine),your prophets eye's rested on Zainab,What made him his adopted (really speaking Khadija adopted him)son to divorce her ,for finally resting her place in his herrem.Slave of prophet ,you are next in line to your prophet it seems,please take that Narcole in your herrem ,she is waiting eagerly some one to chose her ,in the name of that mad Mohammed.Let her satisfy , her dream prophet psycho- Mohammed in your form for fondling .

@ Mr .Anil
I hope so you are a Hindu ,there is a sloke in your holy book ,Bhagavat Geeta and ,it runs like this,"Uddarait atmanatamnam;Natmanam avasadyet .Plainly speaking the, meaning is ,"Never ever think that you are unproductive ,that would be the great mistake of your life ;Yet the same time never think that you are week and you can't attain/compete the height reached by others ,this would be the greatest mistake on your part" . The solutions to your low -esteem lay's in your own religion (i hope you are Hindu) ,find answer to your cause of your own effort ,with the torch of highest philosophy of your religion as path finder (nothing can match it ),God bless.

So many others here have shared their advise, but I wonder if they will be of use to you?
I cannot pretend that I have any advise, I don't even know what it is you're going through.
It seems like you're just… giving up. Like you're dying, day by day.

What I share here now may seem corny because this came from a manga comic I read (Naruto, btw), but it resonated with me, and I wonder it will for you too?

"People become truly strong when they fight to protect others."

Living for one's self, eventually anyone will get tired of it. Why bother, right?

But when your purpose is to protect people you love, perhaps your child or your wife or whatever, in knowing that they depend on you, when you have no other choice but to rise to the task (or else they will die or something), you will get it done. Suddenly your energy level is up and you will focus.

That's how it is with me seriously.

I have a daughter, a baby girl.
She needs me, she needs her father.
If I just die, if I just give up, what will happen to her?
I'm then filled with worry, but at same time: energy, creativity. To get up and work, to make money, to buy her good food, good home and education.
I must protect my daughter. I will not lose to anyone! I will do well, live as best I could, as long as I could, for her.
And god help anyone who hurt my daughter, I may kill them if they do, seriously 😀 .

That's power of love. Real power you know?

Don't you have anyone you love? Anyone you want to protect no matter what? Someone worth fighting for?

"This is very simple. How long does it take? It can take half an hour. But for a lasting effect you need to repeat it daily for at least 30 days to start feeling the result. This is the fastest way I know for radical and lasing transformation. " — Low self-esteem cannot be cured in 30 days. Years? Perhaps, to some extent. Please be PRACTICAL. Personality and character that has stayed stable for 46 years cannot be changed in 30 days.

To accept that we dont know everything is a better personality trait than to be a know-all. We are not psychotherapists. 30 days, where did that number even come from? Nah, its not that easy. If it was, trust me, people would be doing this today and science would be able to record the results.

Ask him to see a therapist, seek group therapy and yes those books will help but don't give unrealistic goals of 30 days. Its not going to happen. Remember, thinking habits of 46 years are not changed in 30 days. Use common sense.

First try to learn what is your problem, and do effort to crack down them, because it is you who can defeat your problem no one can help you to defeat that problem. If you start your effort against those problems you will be out from that trap. We can only give you sympathy because we only hear you but you are the victim and you can make strategy to overcome on this problem. And so many people will saying here that believe in God/Allah ask to them while here my life is going to worst made by Allah so how I assume that he will give me heaven or other things and what will you gets in Heaven of Allah only wine and sex.

I would like to suggest you only do not be hopeless, see your life style and remove all bad habits from your life and be positive this world is big and universe has lots of energy that will help you and your family to survive here.

@Anil
Dear, Belief in Allah and prophet Muhammad is solution of your all problem. This life is for testing and whoever have firm belief in prophet and Allah will be in eternal heaven. So, do not worry accept Islam heaven is waiting for you. Allah is all merciful he will forgive your all sins.

Dear Mr Anil, you are privileged that my dear Ms Dr Ali Sina could spend some of his precious time and effort to counsel and help you out of the miry clay. Though I don't know what are your problems and difficulties in full details, but I like you to know that you are not the only human being suffering in silence. Perhaps you have gone through many traumas, ridicules or tragedies since young or it could be that you have lost your loved ones in an accident or maybe, you have lost your job or faced severe persecutions and all these horrible experiences could be the reason that have beaten you down and that's why you felt so disappointed and hopeless in life and with yourself.