My live-in boyfriend of nearly three years has been going through a lot of arguing, and he has ADHD, and I feel he is narcissistic.

He has throughout the relationship always been close to me and has said I am his only source of comfort throughout the relationship.

He has a lot of personal problems and stress which spilled out a lot into the relationship causing resentment and disagreements. Especially financially blaming me for living the way he does although I contribute to more than half our expenses.

Three weeks ago we had a disagreement, and he threw me out of our home and said he’s done with nonsense. And that he’s doing him now. We have disagreed ever since when we do speak, I try to be supportive and ask how we can fix things. He has no interest. He said he wants to continue to live alone.

I caught him throughout the relationship talking to different women on social media. So his mind has been wandering a long time leaving me to wonder why I wasn’t enough. So we are not on the same page with our feelings right now as I want him back. We have a dog together which I go each day to take care of and some mutual assets to separate if this is over. His calls or texts are less and less each days, I feel he really could care less about me.

I also feel he’s seeing someone. As he changed his whole attitude, he’s more cocky, buying lots of new clothes, working out, staying out all night every night since we argued three weeks ago. He comes home to sleep but not until the early hours of the morning.

So I haven’t been contacting him the last two days, just going to the apartment we shared when he’s not there to take care of our dog. I tidy up while I’m there as he will complain and get rid of our dog until I can find my place for the dog and me to live. And after I do all of the cleanings, and caring for our pet, I leave. He never calls or texts it’s like I am a ghost that appears to keep things in order and that’s it.

I’m trying to stay proactive and make plan b for myself in the meantime. What should my next move be? I am scared the less interest I show, the more distant he’s becoming. And it seems he punishes me for leaving which is what he wanted me to do in the first place. It’s like I’m a yo-yo.

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