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a girl in my work went absolutely batshit crazy about 5minutes before i left the office yesterday, screaming that i should "FUCK OFF" and "NOT EVERYONE LIKES ME", once I'd let her scream and cry herself out it transpired she thought I was bullying her.

i've reviewed my conduct towards her quite extensively and am about 99% sure i'm not and haven't been bullying her, have just learned not to make any sort of flippant work-related jokes to her in future

it's still a pretty intense thing for someone to accuse you of mind you

It was nonsense but still pretty stressful. The amusing thing was that, once I calmly explained what had actually happened, and produced a few emails and things to back myself up, HR wanted to discipline my accuser as it was pretty clear they were actually bullying me...

I never delete any correspondance. Just in case. I've been bullied in the past but didn't actually realise the extent of it until I left the company. I was passed over for payrises, promotions, given the worst jobs and all because I had had a minor dalliance with a colleague at the same time as she was shagging my married boss and she made a point of telling him to wind him up.

I was so relieved I had my emails when I was accused of it. They pretty clearly exonerated me and made it pretty obvious what was really happening but, without those, it would have been my word against hers.

Two people at work kept blanking me pretty hard, so i decided to just try and ignore them. Then our manager called me in to her office because one of the them had complained i was bullying her. Manager was pretty understanding.

Years down the line, the same person was on the interview panel for a job i went for. Didn't get the job.

I've just remembered - in my rush to paint myself as such a victim, i've forgotten another time. There was a new kid in class when we were in year 6 i think (last year of primary school, 9 or 10 years old) called mohammed. Me and two other mates went around the playground pretending to be ghostbusters but, instead of singing ghostbusters, we sang pakibusters. We were called up in front of the class and made to apologise. I was so pissed off at the time, thought he was being a right crybaby. Got a rather different perspective on this now.

on an internet forum I use. Don't want to dredge it all up again, tbh. Had some of my accountants deleted without reason and explicit language used towards me by the moderators. Nothing happened to the perpetrators though, they're still out there.

there were a couple of kids a couple of years younger than me at school that i'd hang out with a bit and occassionally beat them up a bit? all in jest to some extent? it was all very odd and boarding school. still in touch with one of them, and occassionally he tries really hard to guilt trip me about it and he succeeds.

When I was in year 4, every morning during summer term on my walk to school a middle school girl would call me a slag and steal my rucksack and throw my stuff in the road.
Towards the end of term I was at the middle schools end of term play because my sister was in it, and at the interval, when my parents went off to speak to their mates she came up to me with her little sister and started hitting me. My parents came back and her little sister started crying and the big girl was all like "why have you been calling my sister a slag?" I got in to SO much trouble, because as well a my parents being cross with me she got her Mum to phone my school and it was so, so fucking unfair.
A few days later this girls mate came forward and told the truth about what had been happening. My parents were really sympathetic, but I was STILL punished at my school. I'm sad and angry now thinking about this :(
I should probably take it to the childhood injustices thread.

I called my French mate "Le Fred," which I guess could be construed as being racist, but only if you're a bit daft.

Someone overheard and reported it to the boss.

I got called into the boss' office. On his table was the section about racism or whatever in the company handbook. He asked me to read it, then sign a form saying I'd read it, then kind of apologised for making me do it.

I got accused of bullying a girl on the school bus once too. It was Harvest Festival and she'd got this massive box, but only had one tin in it. I said "why've you got that massive box one tin?" She didn't answer me.

It turns out she'd volunteered to bring in a tin of food and supply some sort of box, so if she'd told me that, she'd have made me look like the fool I frequently prove to be.

But instead, I got hauled out of English by her form tutor to explain what had happened. Her form tutor was in the process of explaining that this was quite a sensitive girl and that she knew I probably didn't mean any harm, but would I mind apologosing anyway, but at the exact point where she was about to let me go back into English, I burst out laughing because I could see my mate Anthony, dry-humping a fire extinguisher and sucking his finger at me.

He'd been sent out for something else, so he took the opportunity to troll me while I was getting mildly reprimanded.

But seriously, I've never been accused but I know I have. There was a guy at uni who was the fall guy and everyone kinda clubbed together and were glad it was not them. I feel terrible for that, as I was part of it, but it's a little survival of the fittest in those situations and you go with the crowd as you don't want to being socially exiled for three years.

I also kinda bullied a mate that I relentlessly too kthe piss out of, to the point wher eI completely destroyed his character. I feel terrible about that too.

When I was 9 and possibly even slightly more of a twat than I am nowadays I kept calling one of my classmates a Tory. He went and told the teacher who gave him a bollocking for 'not getting on with his work'.

obviously a kid being beaten and ridiculed constantly for a long time is bullying, but all sorts of shit seems to get classed as it also. A kid being laughed at once and having the piss taken out of them for having crap shoes. It isn't really in the same league. Welcome to the real world kids, some people are dicks.

By that I mean the age where you must be more conscious of your actions and the hurt you're causing is purely self serving? Not to totally let 8 year olds off the hook but surely they're not 100% morally culpable yet. Is it 16? 18 even?

Started to receive a harsh telling off for bullying a boy in my year called Adam.

As a shy, no friended loser, I was kind of traumatised to have this adult shouting at me for 10 minutes about the pain I put this kid through. At the end of it they brought Adam in for me to apologise to, and when he came into the room he said "that's not the Daniel that has been horrible to me", so I just got sent out of the room while they went to get the other Daniel and I just had a cry in a quiet corridor.

who claimed he could not ride a bike. He said it was too difficult but hadn't even tried. I said it was easy and I could teach him to do it in 30 minutes. He got all defensive and said it was his dad's fault cos he gave his two brothers everything and he got nothing (as a child). I told him to grow up and stop making excuses. People said I was bullying him (I think half-jokingly). I just think he should learn to ride a bike.

kids would say things like that about his head, but he was a tough kid and seemed alright so no one thought anything of it, then someone stole his English rough book, where he'd been working on some homework to do with writing out a dialogue.

I've had to explain to my manager how I'm being bullied. Just been told 'oh you can put in a grievance if you want' but this is really manipulative, demoralising stuff from someone who knows exactly what they're doing and does it to other people too. It's made my quite unwell too.