Disagreement between your children… When to intervene?

Key tips to follow to organize the relationship between your children

Disagreement between your children… When to intervene? It’s only normal to seek an answer to this question, as your children fight every now and then, and of course, you’re not sure how to deal with them. Do you have to separate them gently or by force?

Tips to deal with your children’s fights

Key reasons for disagreement between brothers and sisters

Before trying to find a way to address your children’s disagreements, you should know the reasons for them first.

All children seek your attention and the attention of their father. So they see a serious contender for them in their brother or sister.

Rest assured that no family can avoid competition between their children, especially when the age difference between them is less than 3 years.

How to address disagreements?

Disagreements between your children are normal. However, they’re still irritating and need to be addressed. So how do you do that?

Explain to them that they can’t have the same thing at the same time. Each will have to wait for their turn.

Don’t compare them to each other or talk to them about one of them being better than the other. This increases competition and disagreement between them.

Don’t call them with specific attributes. For example, don’t keep saying: “this is the smart one” or “this is the weak one”… This only fuels jealousy between them.

Make sure to sit with each of them separately every now and then. This will make them feel important to you. It will also encourage them to express their feelings openly. After that, explain to them why it’s important to cooperate with their brothers or sisters and treat them nicely.

There’s no problem if you set a few rules; it’s important that your children understand that fighting is not allowed and beating is prohibited.

However, avoid intervening in all their fights. If you see it necessary, the best way is to talk to them calmly and ask each of them to explain their point of view. Ask them to give solutions for the problem themselves. Rest assured that they can do it sometimes.

Don’t defend one of them during a fight, especially if you don’t know its cause. It’s best if you ask each of them to spend some time alone till they calm down. After that, bring them together and make them talk about the reason of their disagreement.

However, at the same time, don’t let any of them be mocked, bullied or harassed by others. Intervene at the right time and in the right way.