One of the signature things about cats is their independent personalities. Unlike dogs, cats are relatively solitary and do not gush love onto their owners or guardians. While this may frustrate cat owners who seek the love and attention of their little friends, there are many ways to get more attention from your cat. One of the best ways to do so is to turn your cat into a lap cat. However, since cats are so independent, this may take time. Fortunately, by enticing your cat to sit on your lap, watching your own behavior, and raising your cat appropriately, you’ll begin to turn your cat into a lap cat.

Steps

Part 1

Enticing Your Cat to Sit on Your Lap

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Turn off distractions. Before taking steps to bond with your cat, you should consider turning off any distractions that may scare or startle your cat. By turning off distractions, you’ll help create an environment in which you and your cat will be able to bond.

Place your phone on silent.

Turn off your TV or music.

Inform your family, friends, or roommates that you’d like your home to be a calmer environment for an hour or so.[1]

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Let your cat come to you. After you’ve created a calming environment, you should sit down somewhere and let your cat come to you. This is important, since lap cats are defined by the fact that they want to be around their caretakers.

Pick a place that is comfortable for you and your cat. A comfy spot is important, since comfort often translates to your ability to relax.

Provide positive reinforcement. A great way to enhance a bonding experience with your cat is to make it double rewarding for them. By providing a reward for sitting on your lap, you’ll build a positive association for your cat.

Give your cat a treat when they sit on your lap.

Consider stuffing your pockets with catnip or some other treat or scent that your cat likes.

Pat or rub your cat in a way that they like when they sit on your lap.

Maintain positive body language. In order to get your cat to be a lap cat, you’ve got to maintain positive body language. By maintaining positive body language, you’ll send the signal to your cat that you’re nonthreatening, you’re a positive force, and you’re someone they want to be around.

Hold an inviting or open stance. Make sure your arms are open, and your back and shoulders are upright.[5]

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Avoid staring at your cat. The way you look at your cat will set the tone of your interactions. If you stare at your cat, you’ll signal that you’re either a predator or you’re trying to intimidate them.

Don’t hold your glance on your cat for more than a few seconds.

Depending on your cat’s demeanor, it might help to avert your eyes if your cat is approaching you. Looking away will signal that you’re not a threat.[6]

Part 3

Raising Your Cat

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Avoid harsh discipline. The single best way to alienate your cat from you is to deal out harsh discipline. By disciplining your cat harshly, you’ll send the signal that you are a threat. As a result, your cat won’t want to sit on your lap – or even be close to you.

Never hit your cat.

Don’t yell at or scold your cat.

Embrace behavior modification. Reward your cat with treats for good behavior. Hold back treats for bad behavior. For instance, give your cat a treat if they use the litter box instead of peeing on a chair. [7]

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Show affection to your cat regularly. If you show your cat affection on a daily basis, you’ll build a solid foundation for turning your cat into a lap cat.

Whenever your cat approaches you for petting or for love, offer it to them.

Invite your cat to sit with you or to come to you by making noises like “Psssh psssh psssh!” [8]

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Provide attention and care for your cat. Perhaps the most important way to turn your cat into a lap cat is to act as a responsible guardian and caretaker for your cat. By acting as a responsible caretaker, your cat will learn to rely on you. As a result, your cat will naturally view you in an affectionate manner.

Feed your cat regularly. When feeding your cat, talk to them and say things like “good kitty” or “good kitty is hungry!”

Play with your cat. One of the best ways to turn your cat into a lap cat is to play with them a lot. By playing with your cat, you’ll build a positive relationship. Your cat will learn to view you as not just a guardian, but also a friend.

Play interactive games with your cat. You may to try a fishing pole teaser toy.