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5 Emergency Flirting Tips

Are you the last person who gets noticed at a party, gathering or club? Below, you'll find five emergency flirting tips for the dating-impaired that anyone can use to get more attention from the opposite sex. Learn To Flirt Like A Pro

1. No one is listening to you anyway

A lot of would-be flirters get hung up on the opening line. They're so worried that what they say is going to be perceived badly that they are never quite able to muster the nerve to make the approach.

Or worse, they do make the approach, but they're so nervous and insecure about what they're saying that they get shot down immediately.

Well, there's good news for the tongue-tied and lovelorn: When it comes to the early stages of flirting, what you say doesn't really matter.

According to a study at UCLA, up to 93 per cent of communication messages are determined by nonverbal cues. That's right, only seven per cent of what you say hangs on the actual words you use, while 38 per cent is vocal (your pitch, rhythm, volume, etc) and a whopping 55 per cent is your body language (facial expressions, posture, confidence, etc.)

The most important thing to remember when approaching someone new is that while an inappropriate line can put you out of the running, everything else is pretty much benign. In other words, you won't ruin your chances by being boring. At least not right off the bat.

And another UK study found that the best opening lines were lighthearted, open-ended questions (rather than yes or no questions) such as "What's your favorite kind of pizza?" or "If you were going as a TV character to a costume party, who would you be?"

2. Look deep into my eyes

It's difficult, sometimes, for shy people to look directly into another person's eyes, but looking away can actually make you appear less attractive to another person.

A recent UK study found that participants found photos of people who are smiling and looking directly at you to be the most attractive, and the very same faces were found to be less attractive when looking away or off to the side. Attraction At First Eye Contact?

Another study found that direct eye contact between strangers made them more likely to feel attraction, as well as making them bond more quickly.

The best places to see eye to eye? A dark party or bar or a candle-lit restaurant. The low lighting causes our pupils to dilate, the very same thing that happens when we feel attraction.

1. Change The Way You Think

When it comes to matters of the heart, we're all guilty of making excuses about why we didn't put ourselves out there. But contrary to popular belief, it isn't easier said than done. Laurel's advice?

"Trying" is a pre-emptive excuse for failure or not doing it at all. Do your best. Have zero excuses. If you don’t find success, make a midcourse correction and try a different tact. Keep at it until you do find success."

3. Take A Deep Look At Yourself

3. Take A Deep Look At Yourself

If you can't seem to put your finger on why you've had bad luck in the dating field, take a moment to really look at yourself. This may sound crazy but our choices tend to reflect how we feel about ourselves.

If you wouldn't date yourself, you need to start working on a "you" that you can be proud of!

4. Figure Out What You Really Want

4. Figure Out What You Really Want

If you're really devoted to finding the perfect guy in the new year, knowing what you're looking for can make a huge difference. Laurel mentions that asking yourself these questions will put you on the right track:

What's most important to you?

Where do you stand when it comes to priorities in life? What do you stand for?

5. Get Rid Of Your Baggage & Hangups!

5. Get Rid Of Your Baggage & Hangups!

Hanging onto past relationships definitely won't do your love life any favors. It's time to say goodbye to all of the emotional hangups and baggage (including old flames) that held you back in 2014 so you can look forward to a better 2015.

If the relationship didn't impact your life in a positive way, it's not worth holding onto. And if you have a persistent ex, this 12-step program will help you keep your sanity and move on.

7. Be Confident!

7. Be Confident!

Ladies, confidence is sexy! Seriously, there's nothing better than a girl who knows what she wants and also knows her worth, which is why Laurel says it's imperative that your date knows "there truly are plenty of fish in the sea and you can easily pull another guy just as great or better than he is if need be." This has nothing to do with being arrogant; it's all about being confident in yourself.

When it comes to matters of the heart, we're all guilty of making excuses about why we didn't put ourselves out there. But contrary to popular belief, it isn't easier said than done. Laurel's advice?

"Trying" is a pre-emptive excuse for failure or not doing it at all. Do your best. Have zero excuses. If you don’t find success, make a midcourse correction and try a different tact. Keep at it until you do find success."