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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Squirting and Pissing

Wet pussies are wonderful, but since the late 1990s, porn has done a fair job of exaggerating an already exciting fetish. I'm talking about "squirting", or more accurately, "female ejaculation". For those who don't know, squirting is where a woman squirts pussy juice when she has an orgasm. It's very rare in real life, but there is enough evidence that it exists in some individuals. I think it's very hot.

Though with rarity comes imitation. It's been confirmed that some squirting porn is actually artificial; where the girl holds water or saline in her pussy with her PC muscles, and then squirts it out during the portrayed orgasm. This doesn't really matter to me though, so long as it appears convincing enough, and it usually does. It wouldn't even be so bad to have a girl squirt water out her pussy in real life! It'd probably be even cooler if she squirted out lube or something along those lines.

So why did I mention pissing?

We're all humans, so we know what pissing is. But there's a fetish for everything, so there is such a thing as erotic urination. In an underground way, its somewhat popular. But its also a huge taboo. And like many other fetishes, I don't get the taboo that surrounds it.

Now I wouldn't consider pissing to be a fetish of mine, or at least a big one, but I actually enjoy aspects of it. I kinda like watching videos of girls wetting their pants/panties, and I have always wanted to feel what its like to have a girl piss on me. I don't want to taste piss and I don't want it anywhere near my face, but I am otherwise curious.

That aside, squirting has a fairly close relationship to pissing, which I will elaborate on a little later.

Here's what I don't get about the taboo and disgust around erotic pissing.

First of all, piss is usually pretty sterile. I completely understand the objection to shitting, as it is both highly septic and very smelly. But pissing is usually neither of those things. Piss is a waste product of the body, but it is only chemical waste. Generally, it doesn't contain bacteria, virii, or solid digested food. It is mostly consumed water that has been filtered through the body. Piss has a smell, but when the piss is fresh, it shouldn't be too unpleasant unless the person pissing ate something rank like asparagus(yuck). Usually the only thing that should smell in urine is the low level of ammonia. After drinking a somewhat large amount of water, the urine should hardly smell at all and will perhaps lose almost all its yellow tint. The yellow tint is caused by the leftover bilibilins in the bloodstream that was converted to urobilins and placed into the urine. Usually the amount of urobilins in the urine is moderate and is easily diluted by extra water and urinating more often.

In fact, because urine usually contains levels of ammonia and since the urine system is rather closed off, its actually rather antiseptic. Urine may pick up some bacteria after passing through the urethra, but the bacteria is usually rather harmless and in small amounts. If cum is clean enough to be a part of sexual activity, certainly urine from a healthy person is no less clean. Likewise, its usually rather nontoxic. But since it contains things that weren't acceptable to the body for whatever reason, it shouldn't be consumed in anything more than small amounts.

So what does squirting have to do with pissing?

There's still quite a bit of mystery surrounding female ejaculation, just as there is for the mythical G-spot. But I believe there's enough evidence that a certain amount of women can ejaculate.

One of the things I find interesting about the differing views between squirting and pissing is that the usual reason for such fetishes is that the female is getting wet from her bodily fluids due to sexual reasons. The end product really isn't all that different. True, men can also piss, but men can also squirt too! Both squirting and pissing can be unisex, and more so pissing.

If your'e still against erotic pissing because it comes off as a waste product, then you may be shocked to learn that female ejaculate is likely to be mostly urine!

The biggest problem behind understanding squirting is the storage of the liquid. We have bladders for pissing, men have enough area for cum to build up, but with the amount of liquid squirted out in your average squirt porn, where is all that liquid stored?

The current best answer for that question is that female ejaculate is rapidly converted from urine in the bladder. Tests have shown that female ejaculate contains many of the same things that piss does that could only have come from piss in the bladder, but it is missing the color and smell of urine and can sometimes be a little thicker. It also contains higher levels of PSA antigens than female urine does. So female ejaculate isn't exactly urine, but it is closely derived from urine. This means that if you have a girlfriend who squirts and you get off on her squirting on you, she's pretty much pissing on you! And if you have a fetish for squirting, you're not all that far off from having a piss fetish! The difference between piss and female ejaculate is almost entirely aesthetic.

Don't believe me? Look it up. Since I like to editorialize on this blog, I'm usually far too lazy to cite my sources. Google and Wikipedia are fine places to start. And there's your local library!

Let's talk names.

The term "squirting" is pretty much universally accepted in reference to female ejaculation. I am not aware of any other slang terms that refer to female ejaculation which are in popular use. While there are some other things in sex which can squirt, using the word in reference to female ejaculation is quite appropriate.

For urination, there's "peeing" and "pissing". Both are pretty acceptable, though "pee" is a little more innocent sounding. The word "piss" sounds a bit more harsh. Both are better than "urination", which is far too technical. Let's stay away from "leaking", "tinkling", and "piddling". We're all adults here. Sure, if you want to refer to it as "tinkling" then go ahead. Its your personal freedom. But remember, if you don't get your tushie to bed at 8 o'clock, then no cookies after supper!

Then as far as porn and fetishism is concerned, there's "watersports" and "golden showers". I don't like either of those terms because they're far too euphemistic, which isn't usually bad when it comes to sex, but the terms imply a certain avoidance of the topic at hand. For the sake of everyone, just call it "pissing"! It's nothing to be ashamed of. The terms "bladder desperation" or "desperate pissing", or "panty wetting" go in the opposite direction of euphemisms, which I like because they're direct and to the point without being technical.

Problems with squirting?

There are some feminine problems when it comes to squirting. Due to the slight taboo and lack of publication, many women may mistake their own squirting for urinary incontinence. However, this isn't a problem with erotic squirting itself but with poor sexual education.

To a degree, there is some feminist rejection of squiring when it comes to both existence and fetishization. I have never fully understood this though because unlike with things like facials and bukkake, I just haven't heard any reasons why I should be against squirting. It's an act being done by the female, and not the males to the females. I don't see anything degrading about it.

But I have come up with my own reasoning as to why squirting might be construed as a bad thing. Like with big tits, blonde hair, and thick lips, squirting may be treated as a correction rather than something genuinely pleasurable. Squirting is a statistical rarity, and if it is perceived that men prefer women who can squirt, then women may feel like they are inadequate and feel as if they should need to alter their sexuality and learn to squirt, even though they are otherwise sexually normal. I completely understand why that could be a problem. However, that is not a problem with squirting alone, and it is a problem related to many paraphilias. In that sense, there is nothing inherently wrong with squirting.

Problems with pissing?

There are none. At least I don't think there are any. Both men and women can piss on each other. Sexual pissing alone is not inherently negative, though it could be potentially used in a degrading manner. Most of the negativity surrounding sexual pissing has to do with it being a dirty waste product, which isn't entirely true.

Holy crap, how can I make my girlfriend squirt!?!

Please remember to only try different kinds of sex when everyone involved is consenting and willing. Also don't put any undue pressure on your girlfriend to make her squirt, and don't be disappointed if she can't, for most women don't squirt(or at least they don't know how). After all, you wouldn't want your girl getting upset because you didn't squirt when you ejaculate from your cock, right? Most guys actually can't do that, even though its common in porn.