Can a man in NYC and a woman in North Carolina make it work?

Posted by Leticia, 23 May 10

For two people living in New York and North Carolina, it might take a lot to get them together for the long haul. But love has a funny way of bridging the greatest of distances. “I never thought we would be together,” Phyllis admits. “But one thing led to the next…”

After meeting Phyllis on the site, Marc was travelling to Miami to visit his mother and stopped by to take Phyllis out for lunch. “We had lots of fun and we felt really good about each other,” says Phyllis. “Marc was very caring from the start.”

Lunch turned into spending the afternoon together and before they knew it... dinner. It was a good start to something special. Suddenly, it made all the sense in the world for Marc to join Phyllis in North Carolina on a more long-term basis. So he did!

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The couple are now engaged, with their wedding day approaching fast. “Marc is wonderful, understanding and very thoughtful,” Phyllis says of her man. “We’re together every day, getting to know each other, and my family loves him too!”

The truth is that when you know you’ve met the right person, where you live is just logistics. Love finds a way!

12 responses to "Can a man in NYC and a woman in North Carolina make it work?"

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Long distance isn't easy. Relationships aren't easy. Because of my professional life, it's nearly impossible, but it can and does work for many. I've been divorced for too long. I really believe that if your relationship is making life tougher, you are in the wrong relationship. For kelligirl, you can usually find time to do the things that you really want to do!

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I must say that I was truly skeptical about meeting someone I would even think of spending the rest of my life with over the internet, but it has happened and I must thank you to this website for my new found happiness. We have finally found each other all though we were hundreds of miles apart. I think that this new found happiness will last a life time. Thank you. Will keep you all informed with a wedding date.

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Please share your thoughts if you have or had gone through this as others who haven't had this problem wouldn't be able to comment in an educated manner. I have had long distance relationships but haven't been able to make them work even though they moved to be with me eventually. Could someone who is dealing with or has dealt with the same thing as the topic please post, especially the ladies?

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I would love to hear from couples that are married and had or have a long distance relationship like this couple had and have experience in this kind of thing. How do you make it work with the distance especially if you are looking for true love and compatibility for life?

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For Mr. Serenity33, In response your comments of making it work, you have to ask yourself "how can I make it work? ", and then just do it. You can't expect your partner to be in line to only your thoughts, it just doesn't work that way. You have to tell your partner that you will make it work, and do whatever it is necessary to keep the relationship. A woman's heart is only reciprocal as long as you reflect it, if you show some more initiative to making it work, then the woman of your choice will understand you really love her. You have to show that you are committed regardless of distance and make time for the woman you truly love. From what it looks like from your standpoint, I think you haven't found Ms. Right or either your desire isn't there. I suggest a self evaluation of one self and to understand one's emotional bound before dating. If you don't understand yourself first and foremost, then women can see right thru any man who is not stable and geared to committment. Being negative expresses a sign of anger, remorse and weakness and thus could haphazardly create destruction of a relationship. Therefore, please do a self evaluation of one self and understand why the relationship has failed and one's own self recognition will clearly see the real picture.

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One should factor in that they are older and probably know what they want when they are older. When one is young, one is quicker to be hasty in one's decisions but when you get older, you sometimes get more fussy and you find the distance is worth it to find someone that meets your criteria. I totally agree with long distance relationships if you are fussier about what you want when it comes to deeper things. But when you are younger, if you are just looking for someone who is good looking and/or has money, and a few positive personality traits that aren't too hard to come by, you might as well save your time and just go for someone local. It really isn't worth the trouble to date far away. I totally agree with this couple that they did the right thing but few younger people are that fussy to put up with dating further away. It takes discipline and faithfulness, two qualities that our society doesn't hold in high regard, for a long distance relationship to work. They are even coming out with a movie about it which will only perpetuate negative stereotypes about long distance relationships with Drew Barrymore and her real life boyfriend. And it is obvious that the relationship is based on sex which isn't a good sign right there. So if you have the fussiness in deep areas, then you are almost forced to go long distance to find the right person but if not, stay as local as possible so you don't have to strain yourself and risk infidelity and other bad things from happening. Joseph Moyer