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Subject: Marriage
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>> The following is a reprint from The Madison Institute Newsletter,
>> Fall Issue, 1894:
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>> INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE
>> FOR THE
>> YOUNG BRIDE
>> on the
>> Conduct and Procedure of the
>> Intimate and Personal Relationships
>> of the Marriage State
>> for the
>> Greater Spiritual Sanctity of this
>> Blessed Sacrament and the Glory of God
>> by
>> Ruth Smythers
>> beloved wife of
>> The Reverend L.D. Smythers
>> Pastor of the Arcadian Methodist
>> Church of the Eastern Regional Conference
>> Published in the year
>> of our Lord 1894
>> Spiritual Guidance Press
>> New York City
>>
>> INSTRUCTION AND ADVICE FOR THE YOUNG BRIDE
>>
>> To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper
>> upbringing, the wedding day is, ironically, both the happiest and
>> most terrifying day of her life. On the positive side, there is the
>> wedding itself, in which the bride is the central attraction in a
>> beautiful and inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing
>> a male to provide for all her needs for the rest of her life. On the
>> negative side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride
>> must pay the piper, so to speak, by facing for the first time the
>> terrible experience of sex.
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>> At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth.Some
>> young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with
>> curiosity and pleasure! Beware such an attitude! A selfish and
>> sensual husband can easily take advantage of such a bride. One
>> cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: GIVE LITTLE,
>> GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY. Otherwise what could
>> have been a proper marriage could become an orgy of sexual lust.
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>> On the other hand, the bride's terror need not be extreme. While sex
>> it at best revolting and at worse rather painful, it has to be
>> endured, and has been by women since the beginning of time, and is
>> compensated for by the monogamous home and by the children produced
>> through it.
>> It is useless, in most cases, for the bride to prevail upon the
>> groom to forego the sexual initiation. While the ideal husband would
>> be one who would approach his bride only at her request and only for
>> the purpose of begetting offspring, such nobility and unselfishness
>> cannot be expected from the average man.
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>> Most men, if not denied, would demand sex almost every day. The wise
>> bride will permit a maximum of two brief sexual experiences weekly
>> during the first months of marriage. As time goes by she should
>> make every effort to reduce this frequency.
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>> Feigned illness, sleepiness, and headaches are among the wife's best
>> friends in this matter. Arguments, nagging, scolding, and bickering
>> also prove very effective, if used in the late evening about an hour
>> before the husband would normally commence his seduction.
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>> Clever wives are ever on the alert for new and better methods of
>> denying and discouraging the amorous overtures of the husband. A
>> good wife should expect to have reduced sexual contacts to once a
>> week by the end of the first year of marriage and to once a month by
>> the end of the fifth year of marriage.
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>> By their tenth anniversary many wives have managed to complete their
>> child bearing and have achieved the ultimate goal of terminating all
>> sexual contacts with the husband. By this time she can depend upon
>> his love for the children and social pressures to hold the husband
>> in the home.
>> Just as she should be ever alert to keep the quantity of sex as low
>> as possible, the wise bride will pay equal attention to limiting the
>> kind and degree of sexual contacts. Most men are by nature rather
>> perverted, and if given half a chance, would engage in quite a
>> variety of the most revolting practices. These practices include
>> among others performing the normal act in abnormal positions;
>> mouthing the female body; and offering their own vile bodies to be
>> mouthed in turn.
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>> Nudity, talking about sex, reading stories about sex, viewing
>> photographs and drawings depicting or suggesting sex are the
>> obnoxious habits the male is likely to acquire if permitted.
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>> A wise bride will make it the goal never to allow her husband to see
>> her unclothed body, and never allow him to display his unclothed body
>> to her. Sex, when it cannot be prevented, should be practiced only in
>> total darkness. Many women have found it useful to have thick cotton
>> nightgowns for themselves and pajamas for their husbands. These
>> should be donned in separate rooms. They need not be removed durning
>> the sex act. Thus, a minimum of flesh is exposed.
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>> Once the bride has donned her gown and turned off all the lights, she
>> should lie quietly upon the bed and await her groom. When he comes
>> groping into the room she should make no sound to guide him in her
>> direction, lest he take this as a sign of encouragement. She should
>> let him grope in the dark. There is always the hope that he will
>> stumble and incur some slight injury which she can use as an excuse
>> to deny him sexual access.
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>> When he finds her, the wife should lie as still as possible. Bodily
>> motion on her part could be interpreted as sexual excitement by the
>> optimistic husband.
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>> If he attempts to kiss her on the lips she should turn her head
>> slightly so that the kiss falls harmlessly on her cheek instead. If
>> he attempts to kiss her hand, she should make a fist. If he lifts her
>> gown and attempts to kiss her anyplace else she should quickly pull
>> the gown back in place, spring from the bed, and announce that
>> nature calls her to the toilet. This will generally dampen his
>> desire to kiss in the forbidden territory.
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>> If the husband attempts to seduce her with lascivious talk, the wise
>> wife will suddenly remember some trivial non-sexual question to ask
>> him. Once he answers she should keep the conversation going, no
>> matter how frivolous it may seem at the time.
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>> Eventually, the husband will learn that if he insists on having
>> sexual contact, he must get on with it without amorous embellishment.
>> The wise wife will allow him to pull the gown up no farther than the
>> waist, and only permit him to open the front of his pajamas to thus
>> make connection.
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>> She will be absolutely silent or babble about her housework while his
>> huffing and puffing away. Above all, she will lie perfectly still and
>> never under any circumstances grunt or groan while the act is in
>> progress. As soon as the husband has completed the act, the wise
>> wife will start nagging him about various minor tasks she wishes him
>> to perform on the morrow. Many men obtain a major portion of their
>> sexual satisfaction from the peaceful exhaustion immediately after
>> the act is over. Thus the wife must insure that there is no peace
>> in this period for him to enjoy. Otherwise, he might be encouraged
>> to soon try for more.
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>> One heartening factor for which the wife can be grateful is the fact
>> that the husband's home, school, church, and social environment have
>> been working together all through his life to instill in him a deep
>> sense of guilt in regards to his sexual feelings, so that he comes to
>> the marriage couch apologetically and filled with shame, already half
>> cowed and subdued. The wise wife seizes upon this advantage and
>> relentlessly pursues her goal first to limit, later to annihilate
>> completely her husband's desire for sexual expression.
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>> copyright 1894 The Madison Institute.
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