My mom never talked to me about sex. When I was about 14 and started talking to boys on the phone she told me this is the age girls start having babies and not to bring any babies around here. She also later took the phone from my room for some reason and said I couldn't talk to boys in her house. When I got to about 18 she said something about don't be nobody fool. Basically saying if you're giving something up he should be doing his part.

When my little sister started talking on the phone my mom didn't have a problem with it. And she started having sex...let's see...four years before I did. But neither of us have babies.

I think sex is everyone's personal decision. There's nothing you can tell someone to make them not wanna do it or use protection. They're going to do what they want. People try to act like they don't know how to prevent pregnancy but they know.

My mom never talked to me about sex. When I was about 14 and started talking to boys on the phone she told me this is the age girls start having babies and not to bring any babies around here. She also later took the phone from my room for some reason and said I couldn't talk to boys in her house. When I got to about 18 she said something about don't be nobody fool. Basically saying if you're giving something up he should be doing his part.

When my little sister started talking on the phone my mom didn't have a problem with it. And she started having sex...let's see...four years before I did. But neither of us have babies.

I think sex is everyone's personal decision. There's nothing you can tell someone to make them not wanna do it or use protection. They're going to do what they want. People try to act like they don't know how to prevent pregnancy but they know.

did yall always use condoms or did she put either of you on birth control?

My mom never talked to me about sex. When I was about 14 and started talking to boys on the phone she told me this is the age girls start having babies and not to bring any babies around here. She also later took the phone from my room for some reason and said I couldn't talk to boys in her house. When I got to about 18 she said something about don't be nobody fool. Basically saying if you're giving something up he should be doing his part.

When my little sister started talking on the phone my mom didn't have a problem with it. And she started having sex...let's see...four years before I did. But neither of us have babies.

I think sex is everyone's personal decision. There's nothing you can tell someone to make them not wanna do it or use protection. They're going to do what they want. People try to act like they don't know how to prevent pregnancy but they know.

did yall always use condoms or did she put either of you on birth control?

I don't know what my sister did. She was 18 I think when she lost hers. Whatever she's doing is working. I've always used condoms. My mom never said anything to us about BC. My brother didn't have his first child til he was 27. I think people mimic what they see around them. Meaning our parents did not do that so we knew it was not okay.

I have a 12 year old boy and a 8 year old boy. Is this too early to have the sex talk? Of course I would do it seperatly. Males please advise too.

I am christian also.. never really received one except "don't have sex" lol.. anywho talk to them about wet dreams and tell them that it is normal. Also if you have a male partner have him discuss to them about hidding their hard ons in public. Tell them being turned on is normal and how to let them self go if needed. Make sure you allow them to ask questions, make sure it is a comfortable enviornment. Speak to the 12 year old about knowing about condoms, show him how to put one on. But tell them it is not a shameful thing to be a virgin until they are ready to be in a monogamus/married relationship. Speak to them about waiting and what to do if they feel that wait is over. Always have these talks please this should not be a one time thing. You will do fine

i dont know what age i will speak to my kids. but i do talk about pregnancy alot with them already and they're 4 and 6. i just say little things from time to time and see how they respond...i suppose i'll just add more details as they get older of course. cause they still think i ate them, and thats why they spent all that time in my stomach.

but at 12 yes i probably wouldve already started talking. i think i got my talk some where around 10-12 cause i got my period and there this big thing about boobs....but it depends on the kid i think.

I have a 12 year old boy and a 8 year old boy. Is this too early to have the sex talk? Of course I would do it seperatly. Males please advise too.

Ofcourse not - it's never too early. I just had a recent conversation with a friend who told me her son (around 5 years old) went to her and told her that his friends (also around 5 y.o) were talking, , in graphic and explicit detail, about wanted to have sex with a woman. Kids are learning and engaging in sex at much earlier ages largely due to the high amount of sexual messages our kids are being exposed to today.

IMO, the earlier the better. So, start now. When you give them "sex talk," keep in mind their ages, their previous knowledge of sex, their behaviors displayed, etc. I have some training and experience giving sex education (including STD/STI prevention, protection, etc) to youth, so shoot me a PM if you need some resources. There are a lot of great books on this topic that parents can use when giving their children sex education.)

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