Yes, you can buy heaps of stuff in matching colours…. But you don’t need to.

It’s more fun with friends

Weddings are a chance to celebrate and gather friends and family around you.

The time after birth is similar. Although you may not want crowds of people, drawing on your support team can be useful.

Just make sure you give them useful jobs to do rather than letting them come up with their own mad ideas (remember your hen night? Exactly).

Trivial details suddenly become ma-hoo-sively important

There’s a difference between ivory and cream. Your baby is 2/5 engaged. You had no idea that either of these things existed six months ago. And suddenly, they really matter.

In both cases, your friends don’t want to hear about it.

This will piss you off.

Location, location, location

The place where you get married will be important to you. Some people will recommend the standard state provision. Others will suggest that you spend lots of money going somewhere fancy. And you may have a religious tradition which means the ceremony’s venue is a done deal.

You will probably find that getting to know the person running the ceremony first will make you less nervous, but unfortunately, this option isn’t always available in all wedding settings.