Female and male decisions implicating on intimate relationships and dynamics

Wednesday, 1 April 2015

Total male apathy versus total male engagement

“Never offer
until the time suits you.

Always decline
if the day doesn’t seem right.

Seldom
agree unless it’s of beneficial consequence.

Only propose when you gain as much as them.”

There
will come a time in a man’s life when he has studied a level of interaction
strategy, female emotional psychology, and possibly even a degree of
information that offers a true perspective to how important intimate
relationships with women are in the whole scheme of life. Some men learn better and quicker than
others, whilst there are even some males out there who do pick it up easily but
refrain from delivering it into good use in the practical field. Most men never even get a word of this type
of literature in the first place, as they stay adamant to their arrogant view
of always making the corrective moves.

For
those men who are willing to face up to the harsh truth through the barrier of
blissful ignorance or an unrealistic world, one element of interaction with women
may still linger on their minds to which road is best to take. In the life of a man’s knowledge cycle, this
will usually be the two polar stages:

This
concept, often found in many mainstream articles written by women or lap dog
men, is that a man must act as happy, approachable and engaging as possible, as
he smiles as wide as a Cheshire cat simultaneous to talking to women
excessively to prove how nice a guy he is.
The more attention he gives her, the more appreciative she will be. The more he talks, the stronger her feelings
will be towards knowing he is a great guy that she could see herself spending
hours with in rambling on about the A to Z of the world. The more time he spends with her, and the
more he agrees with her side of things, the greater her belief will be in his
overall suitability. He thinks this all
manifests in her being more attracted to him.
If this is what women tell him, surely this is what he should do. Oblivious is this man to how many women do
act in conjunction with what they say.

Excessive
advocator of interaction strategy

Once
a man finally recollects how women didn’t appreciate his process during pre
comprehension, he becomes a little belligerent with thoughts of women. Because of this, he believes the most
appropriate way to interact with women is to barely engage with them. He now turns his back to them, he never
smiles, his answers are short, care-free not assessed, and he comes across as a
selfish and somewhat low social orientated man.
He thinks this strategy will now attract women, as they sure weren’t
attracted to him as the nice guy.
Further to this, he has seen with his own eyes how women have been
compelled to apathetic men in the same timeframe as repelling from those
offering all their endeavours.

As
you can see, both processes are from the far left and far right of the approach
line. To the left side arrives the
idealist, and to the right is the cynic.

If
only one option should be taken, I would always advise to the far right. Having played both roles – mainly sitting to
the left side of the spectrum in early dating days and to the right with
certain women I cared little for – at the very least you will finish at the
same point. More often, and especially
with younger women, the far right will also achieve more success. But if equal results are the end product,
surely it’s a no brainer in choosing to exert little to achieve a lot.

Q-tip:

When men are looking upon
adventures with women, they should always abide by the mentality of:

“Minimum effort to achieve
maximum rewards.”

The
far left is what most women will tell men that they look for, but this is only because
they either believe it is the kind of man they desire, or more likely this
avenue is the one that makes them feel best about their existence. A woman’s ego is a powerful tool, and many of
them will often subconsciously, or even consciously, prefer to feed this beast
in preference to ultimate happiness.
What women fail to face up to is that they attain far greater visceral
feelings for men straying to the far right.
This is, within reason.

I
caveat the last sentence with “within reason”, because both processes have a
point. Women are drawn towards
disinterested, quietly moody and apathetic men providing there is a physical
attraction in the first place, because women swallow a sweet taste for things
that don’t come along easily. They have
to work for these men, and this is challenging and adrenalin pumping. However, you have to realize that in many
situations women who make moves for these guys are with men who already possess
a degree of social status. They may be
club doormen, DJs or promoters, or they could be the popular guy of the well
known local town. In easy language,
there aren’t many men who can simply act this way and expect hoards of women to
be lining up to gain his attention. Most
men need to pro-act with women.

Another
justification for avoiding a far right approach is that women are drawn towards
men who hold down positive body language and proof they are having a good
time. This doesn’t mean he should have a
constant wide grin on his face, but a show of the teeth in conjunction with
smirks, seriousness and listening ability should not be overseen. Women may have instinctive attraction
projected onto moody men, but over time they also need to combine this
consideration with thoughts of a Sunday afternoon stroll with a person who can
listen to her hopes and dreams. A man
with low social interaction cannot take her past thoughts of being with him
tomorrow.

It
all falls back to the balancing act.
Good guys – men who strike the equilibrium – are hard to locate, because
whether people face up to it or not, the vast majority of men are a product of
the left biased end. Women often claim
this is not the case due them having less ground for argument that men should
do more for them. It’s difficult to
expect more from a population of genuine nice guys, so the invention of a
greater quantity of jerks is a must in order to allow them, and other naïve
men, to think women always take the rough end of the stick in relationships.

But
some good guys are out there. So as a
summary, a man sitting at the far left will fulfill in a woman liking a man,
but it will be hard pressed for her to be attracted to him. Many women will be attracted to men from the
far right, but as women have inclinations to settle down sooner rather than
later, in relativity to men on a broad scale, and even if this isn’t with a man
who optimizes her sexual impulses, they do realize total apathetic men have a
limited shelf life.

The
side a man throws his hat on is always relative to his physical attractiveness
and other sexual market value metrics, alongside the interface with the actual
woman herself, in terms of knowing exactly where to pitch on the line of
extreme apathy or engagement. For
example, a very good looking man with personality, charisma and knowledge women
would need to lean slightly to the left side of middle. This is only true because nearly all women
see a man of this calibre as unattainable, and an aloof attitude will only
further distance him from their insecurities.
But as 99% of men fall below this looks grade, the big money is towards
leaning to the right side of centre.
Somewhere near 65% to 70% to the right should be wear a man lands the
cap.

Women
need to be challenged, but they also need incremental care, love, affection and
reassurance of their worthiness to the world.
Too much, and she believes she can do better. Too little, and she senses a time when her
man is drifting away. Some women,
prideful of their self-importance and eager to protect their egos, often take a
reluctant decision to jettison from the relationship if they sense that a man
could dive in before first. When all
said and done, women tend to do the dumping once men are satisfied with the
pumping.

2 comments:

A woman’s ego is a powerful tool, and many of them will often subconsciously, or even consciously, prefer to feed this beast in preference to ultimate happiness. What women fail to face up to is that they attain far greater visceral feelings for men straying to the far right. This is, within reason.

I suspect that there is far less "either-or" to this than most men realize. Women naturally have an abundance mentality, as a product of experience and upbringing. They see no lack of total engagement interactions, and believe that should any man attract their interest, they can signal their interest and be pursued. So there's no reason to encourage men to a total apathy approach, even if they understood that that is what they prefer. (I'm sure they would characterize it as being "more intriguing").

There's another reason it's not either-or: the are two types of suitors serve different functions for women. The Total Engagement interaction provides validation, and the total apathy provides tingles.

Hopefully I covered what you allude to in the penultimate paragraph of the post.

Nevertheless, if for some inconceivable reason only one extreme could be taken, and in almost any given scenario, the extreme right scale should be taken. This is where good intentional, but perhaps less clued up guys will be misguided by women and male lapdog writers/believers. They will abide by leaning heavily to the left, as this is the process that most suits blue pill belief in making a woman feel best about herself. Conveniently for these advocates, they refrain to mention how women ultimately respond to over engaging men (hence men who show interest too soon, too obvious and too blatant), in the way this delivery conflicts a woman's true genetic make-up to be challenged and seek what is forbidden.

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