It’s women’s day today. I am extremely fond of women, I love women, all of them. I spent most of my formative years among women, a swarm of them – sisters, neighbours, teachers [ almost all my teachers up till 12th grade were women ], classmates. However, I never felt too comfortable because they would turn volatile and unpredictable. Barring my mom [ who also goes mad at times ] most of them defied logic. I’m not much of an “analysis” person. I just go by what I see and experience. I wanted to spoilsport today, can’t allow women to take away all the credits. So here are few of my observations.

1. You’re either a friend or an enemy – Important, Important, Very Important this. Women’s minds are fairly simple, they don’t have 101 classifications of people, they keep it simple. You’re either a friend or an enemy. Moreover, you can be moved from one end to another end in seconds and vice versa. Remember, there’s no in between thing and you cannot choose where you want to be. They decide. 🙂

2. Women thrive on appreciation – I never fathomed the power of appreciation till I read ” How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie in 2002. So, I gave it a try, I was amazed to see the positive energy women exhibit on receiving appreciation. Great tool to build cordial relationship with women. Genuine appreciation can take you a long way. However, a fake ” You’re beautiful” will do a whole lot of good too. Yes! any appreciation related to beauty works wonders 🙂

3. Women have in-built lie detectors. This might sound contradictory to the above statement however, there’s a minor difference, lies related to beauty are exempted :). Otherwise, It’s so damn hard to lie to a woman. They can see through people. So, watch out you might think you got away with lies but, you are wrong, you just got into trouble.

4. Sweet talk works big time. it is an extension of point number 2. This is something I figured out as late as 2009. Earlier I used to be shy assuming sweet talk = flirting. Then, one of colleague who was an American on her farewell day, said “ Narendra, you’re cute, you should sweet talk, girls would love you“. I was initially baffled but then put it on trial. Results are mind blowing. Sweet talk is no rocket science, all you have to do is treat a girl irrespective of her age as a 12 year old. It works. I guess it works because no one really grows up, we all have a child inside and as we grow older very few cater to that. All girls might tell you they need a MAN not a boy but, believe me boy -> girl communication works hundred times better than Adult -> Adult communication.

5. Women have impeccable memory, they remember EVERYTHING. At times to exact detail. Unfortunately, they are designed to retain the bad incidents. It’s like, even if you give them 99 good days and 1 bad day, all they would remember after 10 years is that 1 day :D. So, it’s better not to try too hard, keep it simple.

6. Revenge comes naturally to women. If you do anything wrong be assured the lady would exert revenge. You may not even know she got her revenge but, she would. There’s no escape. Asking for forgiveness can only delay the inevitable. No mercy. Women folk may not like this but it’s so true. They neither forgive nor forget 😀 [ I’m going to be dead soon ]

Aahhhhhh, I feel lot better now. I don’t want to pretend, I am 100% chauvinistic. The rise and rise of women maybe good for the female folk however, I feel it will negatively impact the social eco-system in the long run. We all seem to be too much worried about ozone layer and diminishing tigers, what about the social balance> Is anyone thinking?

lol arvinth..u r talking abt a girl who has more male friends than female friends, simply b/c of all the reasons narendra mentioned 😦 narendra is on my FB, he can see for himself how many females i interact with on a regular basis 🙂

i read somewhere…”whats the male word for bitch? there isnt one”. the word is dog, which is a symbol of loyalty. whereas a bitch is a bad word.

one thing narendra did miss: women are rarely straightforward. u can always tell what goes on in a mans head. a woman says sth in front u and sth different behind yr back. very difficult to trust a woman.

I agree with your point. Women are crooked..lol… Whn I was growing up…my sisters used to bring their friends home…they used to act as if they were the best ever friends on earth… once they leave..natak begins…she said that..she said this..usne mera nose cut kiya..she thinks too much of herself…she jealous..she blah..she blah blah

lol :p i didnt say it 😉 someone else did 😉 a guy called dick masterson wrote a book called “men are better than women”…its highly exaggerated but some things he said r quite spot on. lol. u might like that one.

hehehehehe…will check that out…I guess sometime later in my life..once I get married and face more music…I would sit down and publish my own thing.. Narendra ki pitayi written by Narendra ” I love Women” Reddy

Finally…Crazy Latha.. Chief tormentor and my younger sister has left a comment..hehehehhhee
You need to understand…without u n Picchi Malli…I wouldn’t have known nothing about women.. lol

BTW…Which friends are u talking abt…wht happnd to Reva, Jayantha etc etc…bas Sur is left..someday soon u wud fight her too..hehehehheee
What I wrote in this post are not complaints..they’re my observations..I can’t do much..but I wudn’t accept female nautanki..
aue haan..you wud pleased to know…One skill ur brother has been highly appreciated over the years is ‘Listening’…It has come naturally..maybe coz of dad..whn he speaks… by default I get attentive n never miss a word 😀

and i just did sth so typically girly 😉 changed my statement…narendra, i hope u learnt another lesson today: never rely on the word of a woman. u know according to my religion, in a court of law, theyll accept the evidence of ONE male witness, but they need TWO female witnesses..see even God thinks women are unreliable 😉

Since 1989 I been living in big cities. Which means almost all my schooling, college and major civic learning happened in a city. Till about 17, I had never really interacted with kids from rural background ( barring rare trips to my village ). Initially, I thought these were dumb kids. One guy didn’t even know how to switch on a PC ( all he had to do was push the power button ) another one would never open his mouth, during roll call, he just put up his hand. These kids looked very rustic and had no clue whatsoever about life in a big city. During the first year of engineering, I hardly interacted with these kids. However, as days went by I got talking to few of them.

From what I remember, most were gentle souls, unbelievably innocent and at times shockingly honest. I won’t say they were my best buddies then but I liked their company largely because I felt superior ( well it was more so because we city kids are manipulative and twisted. In short crooks )

You could clearly see the day light gap between a city bred bloke and a small town kid. Clothes, hairstyle, language, food habits, so very different. I will be honest, for long time, I perceived them to be lesser mortals. However, as time passed by, I got to know few of these kids from a close quarter. Their drive to learn and excel surprised me, also, very high levels of integrity and intelligence put me to shame. The guy who didn’t know how to switch on a PC is today a senior IT consultant with one of the largest IT companies in the world. Few work in America, few in the middle east. Almost all are doing exceedingly well in their careers.

My roomies during MBA days hailed from smaller towns, all of them. We shared great camaraderie, still do. In fact, I blindly trusted them, to an extent, one of them ( Vinayak Rajagopal ) held my ATM card. He made all my withdrawals, as far as I remember I never lost a Rupee. I do not think I would have been even half as confident to trust a city kid with my ATM card. I’m not pointing fingers at anyone ( I myself was raised in a big city ) it’s not about money, just that, life in a city is tricky. You never know when people change.

Based on my experiences, I always felt kids from rural upbringing are better mannered, sharper, intelligent and more importantly honest vis-a-vis skyscraper kids. Most of my good friends today are from humble village backgrounds. Yes, including the dude who didn’t know to power the PC. In fact he would be the first person I would call if I were to get into any kind of trouble, he’s my goto man.

These kids may not be writing blogs or making crazy number of Facebook updates or speaking fluent english but, they got their heart in place and believe me end of the day that’s what matters. To all my small town friends, you guys are wonderful, stay the same, forever.

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I was once one of those rural kids… It is an advantage I think. We get to move to the city and learn a second culture, the best of both worlds. But it is very rare for city folk to have to move to the country and experience rural life. So they have to make it through life with just a single culture viewpoint. That why we country kids would be making fun of the city kids behind their backs. 🙂

i”m proud of you, i hope you will find an enriching experience in your life,and to share your experiences because I believe that every path of our life is so precious and worth treasuring, not only for you but also for others, i believe that sharing ideas is the best way to improve ourselves. 🙂