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23 June 2015

How do you Feel – Not In Control

Greetings Dear Reader,

I mentioned yesterday that we are supposed to feel what we
feel. What is also true in that freedom
is that the feelings are never supposed to be in charge. Love, fear, joy, and anger all have a place
in us. They can guide at times but must
always be filtered through reason and self-control.

One of my observations is that we too often put how we feel
in charge of what we do. We put the
feeling of love ahead of both being loving and acting properly. We use anger as an excuse to be unkind and
irreverent. We use it to disrespect
others. We use how we feel to justify
actions over which we have control.

It is not enough to not be “in love” to abandon a
family. Feeling hurt or angry does not
justify harsh words. There is no
justification in wronging someone else because of our feelings. It is not our feelings that should determine
our actions.

There is a balance to be had here. There are times when we must be in the
moment. At times compassion must rule
our reason. At times love must guide
us. The litmus must be that we have
thought about our actions. The cognitive
must feelings into proper actions.

When I act on feeling alone I almost always create a
mess. When I think through my actions
and let the commands to love and kindness rule them I seem to do better. I must feel what I feel honestly. I must also let reason and unconditional love
guide my responses to those feelings.

How I feel matters.
How I act matters more. I must do
what is right no matter what the cost to my feelings. I must act properly no matter how long it
takes to work through the emotions. In
this can be found peace.

Wishing you joy in the journey,

Aramis Thorn

Mat 13:52 So Jesus said to them, "That is why every writer
who has become a disciple of Christ’s rule of the universe is like a home
owner. He liberally hands out new and old things from his great treasure
store.”