babysitter rant - what would you do?

Dh dropped 5-month-old ff dd off at babysitter's this morning. Dd had eaten at 7:30 & was due to eat by 10:30. Dh says he told babysitter this, but somehow there was a miscommunication & dd didn't get fed til she was screaming (& starving!) at 12:45. She should've been on to her third bottle out of five around that point. I'm so mad! Now instead of having her last bottle at 7:30 & going down shortly thereafter, she'll be eating two more times tonight. I texted babysitter when I figured out the confusion & apologized for our crazy schedule (dh is a teacher & off for the summer so dd only goes to the sitter sporadically & not at the same times) & said I'm going to text her in the mornings with when dd should eat. But I was so pissed that my baby went hungry! Did I do the right thing? How would you react?

Dh dropped 5-month-old ff dd off at babysitter's this morning. Dd had eaten at 7:30 & was due to eat by 10:30. Dh says he told babysitter this, but somehow there was a miscommunication & dd didn't get fed til she was screaming (& starving!) at 12:45. She should've been on to her third bottle out of five around that point. I'm so mad! Now instead of having her last bottle at 7:30 & going down shortly thereafter, she'll be eating two more times tonight. I texted babysitter when I figured out the confusion & apologized for our crazy schedule (dh is a teacher & off for the summer so dd only goes to the sitter sporadically & not at the same times) & said I'm going to text her in the mornings with when dd should eat. But I was so pissed that my baby went hungry! Did I do the right thing? How would you react?

I would assume that baby wasn't showing hunger signs until it was too late or she just read her wrong. Unless she purposely held off feeding her or ignored her I think you saying something was enough if it was the first time. If it happens again then I'd find someone new. I don't schedule Logan to eat so sometimes he doesn't show any signs until its way too late and he's screaming. It sounds like an honest mistake. I definitely would text her in the mornings though with a time to eat!

I would assume that baby wasn't showing hunger signs until it was too late or she just read her wrong. Unless she purposely held off feeding her or ignored her I think you saying something was enough if it was the first time. If it happens again then I'd find someone new. I don't schedule Logan to eat so sometimes he doesn't show any signs until its way too late and he's screaming. It sounds like an honest mistake. I definitely would text her in the mornings though with a time to eat!

How do you KNOW she was screaming? The reason I ask is I've had similar things happen. But I can guarantee it would be easier for the day care to just feed her than put up with her screaming. Fact is, they act different there than they do with you.

How do you KNOW she was screaming? The reason I ask is I've had similar things happen. But I can guarantee it would be easier for the day care to just feed her than put up with her screaming. Fact is, they act different there than they do with you.

Also agree with Jyan. Sounds like miscommunication and I would give them another chance. Didn't sound like anything intentional. And I think your sitter should get some point for being honest and letting you know exactly when LO ate. They could have not said anything or lied about it. So it doesn't sound intentional to me and at least you know your sitter is honest.

Also agree with Jyan. Sounds like miscommunication and I would give them another chance. Didn't sound like anything intentional. And I think your sitter should get some point for being honest and letting you know exactly when LO ate. They could have not said anything or lied about it. So it doesn't sound intentional to me and at least you know your sitter is honest.

It sounds like a miscommunication to me. I don't feed my son when he's content, so maybe she didn't know you feed your dd on a schedule. You also said that this sitter isn't watching your dd much sine it is summer and your dh is off. I really would let this one go. Either I'm reading this wrong and you're getting all p*ssed off over an honest mistake and need to just chill, or something. I'm sort of confused as to how you know she didn't get fed till 12;45?

It sounds like a miscommunication to me. I don't feed my son when he's content, so maybe she didn't know you feed your dd on a schedule. You also said that this sitter isn't watching your dd much sine it is summer and your dh is off. I really would let this one go. Either I'm reading this wrong and you're getting all p*ssed off over an honest mistake and need to just chill, or something. I'm sort of confused as to how you know she didn't get fed till 12;45?

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From:
Nic1018

To: megathia

Posted: Jun-26 01:14 AM (12 of 18)

Also, what time was dd dropped off? She ate @ 7:30 but what time did she go to the sitters? I would not be happy either, but if she was being upfront with you about it I'd say maybe it was just an honest mistake- if you haven't had any reason to be unhappy with her until now I'd be inclined to treat it as a one-off and move forward. Also the texting with feeding times is a good idea, especially if dd is only going there on occasion.

Also, what time was dd dropped off? She ate @ 7:30 but what time did she go to the sitters? I would not be happy either, but if she was being upfront with you about it I'd say maybe it was just an honest mistake- if you haven't had any reason to be unhappy with her until now I'd be inclined to treat it as a one-off and move forward. Also the texting with feeding times is a good idea, especially if dd is only going there on occasion.

I'm not sure what I would do. My son only cries when he's hungry or tired. Otherwise he is a very happy guy. If he isn't fussing, I don't feed him. Maybe your baby didn't cry for the bottle. I'm not sure. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt this time.

I'm not sure what I would do. My son only cries when he's hungry or tired. Otherwise he is a very happy guy. If he isn't fussing, I don't feed him. Maybe your baby didn't cry for the bottle. I'm not sure. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt this time.

I'm a little confused by this. How do you know baby was screaming at 12:45am and that your "baby went hungry"? My daughter often goes 6 hours between bottles. I can't tell from your short explanation of the situation but perhaps baby didn't show signs of hunger until 12:45?

I'm a little confused by this. How do you know baby was screaming at 12:45am and that your "baby went hungry"? My daughter often goes 6 hours between bottles. I can't tell from your short explanation of the situation but perhaps baby didn't show signs of hunger until 12:45?

Thx for all the input. Dd went to sitter for 4 wks in May before DH was off for summer. I gave sitter detailed notes on our schedule - feed, play, put her down 1.5 hrs after feeding, she'll sleep for 1.5 hrs, then repeat. That's what she does when she's home with us. I know she doesn't always go on that schedule & I'm flexible, but dd gets really fussy if not fed every 3 hrs. Sitter tells me this too. Dd has been going to sitter once a week this month to keep used to going. She is going all week this week b/c Dh has camp at school. Sitter said when we interviewed her that she would give us daily log of bottles, diapers, etc. we have gotten that maybe 4 times out of the 20+ days baby has been there. Last week Dh took dd to doc for a cold & we had to text sitter to ask if dd had pooped for her b/c doc wanted to know when she had last pooped. Yesterday when I picked dd up, I asked what times dd ate. Sitter said at 12:45 (she said dd was screaming & seemed hungry then) & 4:15. I asked why not earlier; she had been dropped off at 9:30. She said Dh had told her dd just ate. Not knowing what Dh told her, I waited til we left & called him. He said he told her dd needed to eat between 10 & 10:30. I'm trying to give sitter benefit of doubt, but I am extremely bothered by this error. I see posts from sitter all day on FB, & she has started doing wedding hair & makeup without telling us. I am having a sit down with her tonight to find out whether she does this after hours or when she's supposed to be caring for my dd, her daughter & 3 other kids. And to tell her that I need a sheet everyday. I pay her more than some of the nice daycares by my work & I expect her to do what she says she would. If she has time to be on FB, she should have time to give me a daily log. Thx again for your input! This is so hard :(

Thx for all the input. Dd went to sitter for 4 wks in May before DH was off for summer. I gave sitter detailed notes on our schedule - feed, play, put her down 1.5 hrs after feeding, she'll sleep for 1.5 hrs, then repeat. That's what she does when she's home with us. I know she doesn't always go on that schedule & I'm flexible, but dd gets really fussy if not fed every 3 hrs. Sitter tells me this too. Dd has been going to sitter once a week this month to keep used to going. She is going all week this week b/c Dh has camp at school. Sitter said when we interviewed her that she would give us daily log of bottles, diapers, etc. we have gotten that maybe 4 times out of the 20+ days baby has been there. Last week Dh took dd to doc for a cold & we had to text sitter to ask if dd had pooped for her b/c doc wanted to know when she had last pooped. Yesterday when I picked dd up, I asked what times dd ate. Sitter said at 12:45 (she said dd was screaming & seemed hungry then) & 4:15. I asked why not earlier; she had been dropped off at 9:30. She said Dh had told her dd just ate. Not knowing what Dh told her, I waited til we left & called him. He said he told her dd needed to eat between 10 & 10:30. I'm trying to give sitter benefit of doubt, but I am extremely bothered by this error. I see posts from sitter all day on FB, & she has started doing wedding hair & makeup without telling us. I am having a sit down with her tonight to find out whether she does this after hours or when she's supposed to be caring for my dd, her daughter & 3 other kids. And to tell her that I need a sheet everyday. I pay her more than some of the nice daycares by my work & I expect her to do what she says she would. If she has time to be on FB, she should have time to give me a daily log. Thx again for your input! This is so hard :(

I think her being on Facebook all day is worse than anything else you've said. There's no way she just didn't feed your kid, I'd bet baby just wasn't showing hunger signs. Did you ask if she tried to feed her earlier and she didn't want it? If you haven't been asking for the daily log then you really can't ***** at her about that. I'd find someone new based on being on her phone all day.

I think her being on Facebook all day is worse than anything else you've said. There's no way she just didn't feed your kid, I'd bet baby just wasn't showing hunger signs. Did you ask if she tried to feed her earlier and she didn't want it? If you haven't been asking for the daily log then you really can't ***** at her about that. I'd find someone new based on being on her phone all day.

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