I just cussed out my ESFP ex-fwb bc he tried to initiate a sexual encounter and abruptly stopped texting; then when I told him to tell his little sister I loved her, he promptly responded "hey."

Now I feel like an asshole. Why is it that every man I've been with in the past few years is like this, they just ignore my rants, and when they see little cracks of light, they're just like "hey."

One word. Hey. In his family, I think this takes on deep meaning, it's like a really warm greeting, when they see each other, brothers and sisters, grandparents and grandchildren, cousins, they say "Hey" really joyfully and smile and kiss each other on the cheek.

I think when I said I loved his little sister I earned the hey.
And he ignored every other word that I said.

There's a lesson in this somewhere. I was with an ESFJ for six years who was the most verbally abusive person I have possibly ever met, and then I keep meeting these guys who do really passive aggressive hurtful things, but deflect my verbal response almost entirely.

Is the point I'm supposed to get here is that words aren't the only way you can hurt a person? That it's not that big of a deal?

Or that I should tone it down a bit, because no one gives a shit anyway.