Namely, at the moment we have a trainee in our department. I really like him because he is smart, hardworking and charming. Our appreciation apparently is based on reciprocity, because if I praised this trainee, he embraced me as an answer on the spot.

But as much as I like this trainee, hugs are a bit too much closeness for me at work, because in my opinion that except a warm hug at the birthday of a dear colleague such expressions on the physical level in our working environment are rather inappropriate.

Now, yesterday a good opportunity revealed to express my opinion because the trainee put his arm around me when I praised him for a well done job.
So I took a deep breath, plucked up courage and tried to explain to the trainee: "I want to let you know, how much I appreciate you, and it´s great that you also show me your appreciation. I have only the opinion that hugs are rather out of place at work, since they can be easily misinterpreted. So I think that you will be better off when you confine hugs and other physical contacts to people which you meet in your spare time."

The trainee looked at me embarrassed and apologized on the spot. He was simply not aware that touches at work can be misinterpreted.

There was even a small aftermath, because my colleague, whom the trainee told about our conversation, could obviously not resist to send the trainee a video of Samantha Fox with the title "Don´t touch". Fortunately, our trainee apparently coped well with my little speech, because he sent the video provided with a smiley to me.

Are there touches that you can not tolerate? What is your opinion regarding physical contact at work? Which video made you smile?

Thanks for confirming my thoughts, and yes, you are so right - it could be really used against one in future …Fortunately my jacket is indeed comfy and warm, this is necessary here at the moment in Bavaria :)Keep in touch,Rena

Hugging at work place can look very odd sometimes, I don't mind hugging in the lift,Maybe on a Monday morning and a Friday evening or maybe when colleague delivers a great speech at a meeting and that's gonna be on my way out of the board room, It's just gonna be casual Lool...Not really nice opening the ''white teeth'' all the time at work, best to be a middle man.I just can't stand a long hug, it has has to be 3secs or less Hahaa... By the way, You look absolutely amazing, lurv your fur coat. Kisses..Love from http://rock4less.blogspot.co.uk/

Good idea to hug in the lift were nobody can see this :) I´m sure you are a really soft-hearted woman and it´s a pleasure for everybody to be hugged on the opportunities you mentioned! And I agree absolutely the best is to be a middle man at work. You are so wise and clever, which I really appreciate on you <3 And thanks! Kisses.

I think it's not about the fact that someone touched you, it's about how he touched you. If you feel it was inappropriate, then it means it was inappropriate. some touches may feel totally in order.I love the fur coat!

I must say I agree with you such expressions on the physical level in the working environment are really inappropriate, but if you communicate rather closely with some of your colleagues, then why not? Your fluffy jacket is just adorable, I can only imagine how cosy it is))) You look so so pretty, dear Rena! I can' stop smiling watching at you. You are always so cheerful and sweet!

Thanks that you agree, that such expressions on the physical level in the working environment are inappropriate, dear Alexandra, and yes, if one communicates rather closely with some colleagues, this could be okay, but I prefer the distance …My jacket is cosy, you are so right! Many thanks for your kind feedback, now I´m smiling again :) You are always so friendly, kind, polite and wise <3

I am so anti-touch except for handshakes at work. I definitely institute a hands-off policy in the office because I just feel like it's so unprofessional to be having a hug-fest all the time. I think the only time i ever hugged a co-worker in the office was when the candidate we were working for won political office and we were having an office party. Now onto the clothes - your coat is the prettiest thing ever! It looks so soft and warm and it also looks so luxe with that magnificent leather skirt! You really nailed this outfit!

For me it´s exactly the same, dear Deborah! Maybe I´m a bit reserved, but for my handshakes are really enough :)Thanks a lot for loving my outfit so much, to be honest I love my coat, too, and my leather skirt is one of the things in my closet which I wear most.

I fully agree with you Rena, there should be a line drawn at these types of things at work. I think it takes away from the professionalism. This is such a beautiful coat jacket, love it!I am grateful for the last comment you left me...hope your week's going great!

Hi Rena, I agree with you, hugs at work may result awckward and embarassing, better to keep them out of it! It's so nice though that the trainee appreciates you, it means you are a special person and don't boss other people even if they are on a lower working level :)Have a good night!

I hate when that happens. I do hug my closest colleagues/friends when I haven't seen them for days but not all my colleagues. It is a weird situation to be out in but I. Glad that you gathered the courage and explained to him.

I love your jacket, it's so fluffy and cosy. You are looking beautiful Rena.

Thank you so much for your love and support. Today was my first day back at work and it was a bit stressful. Fingers cross xx

Today was worse than yesterday but I feel more positive and determined for some reason which is good. Glad we have things in common. Hey Rena, email me your address and I will try and send you coconut oil. My friend is in Germany. I can ask to post it to you.

This is so great, dear Naaj, that you feel more positive and determined and I´m sure all the necessary power is inside you <3 And thank you so much for your kind offer, but I discovered coconut oil already in an German onlineshop. But I really appreciate your kindness, I thank you so much and wish you only the best! 1000 hugs and kisses for you, my dear friend

I hug people when they attend to do it, but I understand your opinion and I agree with it, work is not a good place to hugs and kisses, need a appropriate conduct. Maybe I'm too serious but even dirty jokes, subtleties, aren't appropriate as well, some I'm not agree in general too between people the opposite sex.Seeing your jacket I remembered I must sew the lining of mine. Lovely look!kisses darling, I'm much better thank you!About women and not only Blog

Thanks for your agreement and as you I´m a bit serious regarding the themes you mentioned. But sometimes it is necessary to pretend that this doesn´t care me … but I only pretend.Wish you, that you have not too much to sew on your jacket! And thanks :)Kisses, my dear, it´s so great that you are much better <3

Dearest Rena! When I see a loving old couple and the babies and the toddles Video those are make me a real happy big smile. Thanks for a lovely and thoughtful dropping by my lovely Rena! Thanks also for your outfit today so inspiration, something I would wear in this moment :). You look so adorable with the hairdo.

Dearest Tanya, such things which you describe are a wonderful reason to smile :) It´s always a really pleasure to visit you beauty on your wonderful blog, many thanks for your kind feedback! The hairdo I prefer to wear in winter as it is practical when I wear scarfs.

Those hugs can go both ways... Maybe he was just really excited about the compliment but maybe he wanted to let you know something else. That's why it's better not to hug at work to avoid confusion, especially amongst co-workers of the opposite sex.:) But if you work with a good friend of yours, why not, I say hug it out!:)

P.S.: If I saw you in this coat, maybe I'd hug you myself, it looks so cozy!!!:D

Oh, don't do hugs at work… Or in general unless I like a person. Don't get me wrong - I am very touchy and that has a lot to do with being Russian as we do hug each other (friends, family etc.), but generally I like my space as my private little bauble. :)x

Hi Rena ! I love your furry jacket, it's so cuddly indeed ;) and about being touched from other people, I have to confess I usually don't like it...I only accept hugs and strongest contact from people I really like as friends...otherwise I prefer to keep a bit of distance, it makes me feel awkward when some people have to touch you whilst talking to you, LOL Kisses my friend !

Hi Vale♥! Thanks for loving my jacket :) And this sounds like as if we have another thing in common as I also don´t like it if other people touch me … expect my beloved family and my true friends. Like you I need also distance between my counterpart and myself. Kisses my friend!

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