Parenting is tough. Not everyone can get down to become a hands on mom or dad! I guess in my case it comes naturally to me…I loved kids even before I had one of my own. And then I gave birth to my life!! My adorable son. I will pass on to saying “our son” today as am in an irritated zone.

Being a working mom makes it even more difficult. Firstly they have to leave kids back for work daily (even though some of them might want to be a stay back home mom) ; then to slog themselves @work and reach home fighting the cab drives & traffic; then to keep patience and attend the toddler with a big smile,full energy and enthusiasm! Playing with him, Feeding him dinner, Changing him for sleep, brushing teeth, putting him to bed… Cleaning the kitchen…Blah..Blah..

Problem here is not that we don’t want to do these things but that thought that why always me?? why is it only the mothers primarily who’s responsibility is the kid. Why can’t the father’s share these responsibilities equally?? Simple tasks like making them brush or feed food, or putting the child to bed?….Why do they only come in action when these tired moms start barking and these godly father’s have to take their turns!!

Am sure it’s not just me but a whole bunch of tired momma’s out there! Who wish & pray that their husbands start realizing soon enough that parenting is partnership and not either one of them’s lone project.
For me it happens one in a while and I can handle myself either talking about it with my partner, or writing up something to unleash my inner frustration, or go shopping with my kid, making a pumpkin face also helps!! But what really worries me is the situation of those women who don’t even have the liberty or the life to do that..Day in and day out…They just keep on dragging themselves keeping a brave face in front of the kid.

Ok ok..I know you all are not lazy. Not at all. Your day is full of things to do for your family, husband, in-laws, kids and whom so ever it may concern. But what about yourself? In my head am thinking if this is what I need to tell myself actually!

I, like any other women in this world dreams to be this fit sexy bitch the world loves to love! But to get that awesomeness in myself I have to give priority to myself. Pulling myself out of bed in morning, rushing for office, working their like a donkey or a bitch whatever you consider yourself, running back home, taking care of your kid..feeding him.. putting him to bed.. singing him lullabies..feeding family and myself..when I look at the clock it’s already 11ish! After that I just want to relax and sit back read or write something. That’s it! For in numerous times I downloaded all those 7 minutes workout apps BUT alas you have to use them to loose weight. Only downloading does not heLp! So sad…

While I keep pushing myself and all of you to get in that fitness mode… I have to take you all to the shortcut or the cheat street to be not caught as the lazy ass by the world around us!

1) Green Tea – this definitely does some magic to me. And people around you think you are one serious chick working hard to loose that extra inch (brownie points baby)

2) Warm water – instead of normal or cold temperature water, drink warm water the whole day. It helps

3) Less Carbohydrates – instead of eating equal proportions of wheat /rice and vegetables…eat more veggies & proteins in form of fish or lentils and less rice or breads in your meals

4) Dress up – as I always say, dress stylish. Don’t wear tight fitted clothes which will only show all your love tyres around your waist but instead choose fits those are not too tight nor loose. Make you feel good but not uncomfortable.

4) Wear your attitude & if possible heels too – wearing heels improves your posture and gives you a slender feel . If you are mom, let the daddy carry the child for once. Its ok!!

P.S. All the below pics are after I had my child. AND I do have my c-sec belly fat!

One of my son’s favourite rhymes is”If you are happy and you know it, clap you hands..clap..clap”
My version goes as..”If you are stressed and you wanna be happy..dance…dance”

Everyone should have a switch on and off to their brains ! With such a demanding stressed out life we all are leading, there are times when you just want to switch yourself out of that chaos and be in your own zone. Different people have different formulas to do that..cooking, reading, traveling, playing sports, gossiping, watching tv, taking out the frustration on someone else… well mine is dancing.

DancIng is mediation for me..it keeps me positive and my soul happy!! It doesn’t matter if you are technically sound or not in any of the dance forms..I am not! Never been trained. But still I dance..I dance from my heart…music brings life to my body and energy from within…and I just flow with the music in my world…moving and swinging along…

People go to parties you know for having a good time with friends on dinner and drinks..but for me the best evening would be where I can dance my heart out ; Where am so engrossed dancing that when am off my stilettoes am unaware…

Top 5 reasons to start Dancing if you haven’t yet :

1) Brings Happiness to you 😊

2) Helps in weight management 🔩 without feeling the pain in gym or dieting

3) Makes your body flexible

4) Popularity. For people at any party.. they look up to someone who starts the dance of the evening and you will instantly become the heart and life of the party

5) It increases your hotness quotient 😉 if you have the moves..you gotta show it baby.

Winters are best enjoyed when your fashion and comfort both go hand in hand. Fashion that keeps you cozy and warms up your heart.

From parties to picnics…check all out!

Look 1 : This is for Birthday party of my Son at our place with friends and family in attendance. Something like this calls for a nice comfortable dress which looks chic and at the same time gives you freedom to move around freely attending and serving your guests..playing with your kid and his friends. I choose to wear this cute black beaded @mango dress providing the correct amount of glitter with cutest @pramod fur collar cardigan

Look 2 : Picnic Outing . Winters are the time for picnics with your loved ones. Delhi an otherwise warm city is all nice and sunny in winters, perfect for these outings. I choose to wear @veromoda trousers with a very smart back zipper detail adding all the glamour and right fit, pastel powder blue knitted top with an Olive color leather jacket. Olive leather jackets are a must in your wardrobe & trending this season. Add your leather boots and tie your hair up..so you can run around your kid like a kid

Look 3 – Loads of parties are lined up in winters..so sharing few of my favorite party looks.

I teamed up my hand beaded @Lovelabel black raw silk dress with a gold sequinned jacket from the same fashion brand. I love their stuff. Leave your hair open and go wild and sexy!!

In another of my look for a girls party, I teamed my very old woollen dress with leather boots and open hair. This woollen dress is in my closet from past 9 year and I pull it out every season and love wearing it for its comfort , color, coziness

Actually the above is not my resolution of the year …Thats the change i want to see in myself…

As a daughter, sister, wife, daughter in-law, sister in-law, mother, employee, employer, senior, junior, friend…I guess in all my roles I never demanded for what I deserve. I always think that if I deserve I will get what I want…But in true world that’s not the case.

I for the longest time now want to stand up for myself but I consistently fail. Why?? What I fear for, why I fear…I shouldn’t be in this position. Maybe I fear rejection. And hate uneasy mess in my world! I want a positive, happy environment around me all the time and that’s why I always want to keep people around me happy. What I can do for people around me..I try and do every bit of it, I walk that extra mile to keep smiles. But do I get my due in return..Well, not always.

My family I know will stick around me all the time, but what about my other relationships. My efforts here will be paid off in long run. But My friends..For whom I might be just any other friend whom they will forget once their purpose is sorted. My colleagues, who might just use me for their benefit and take out work from me and then move on in their life. My seniors at work, who again just want their work done and a pleasant face around them who doesn’t cribs and complains about anything. People who work for me, maybe they are just happy sticking around me as I make no noise about job not done and don’t poke nose in the way they do their jobs…AND I in between of all this stand like a sponge ball.. Absorbing everything and wanting to spread happiness by not creating problems in others life by asking for anything for my own self.

But does all this works for me…To some extent YES…As my people happy = Me happy

But again, if I start asking people to give me or behave in a way I deserve for..Will that change the situation for any better. ?

I have found I guess a good friend cum young sister kinds in one of my colleagues Isha…She is like fire to me..Always glowing, fearless, knows how to say NO, never apologetic for standing for her rights..What she feels she deserves for she would just go for it …Speaks her heart out & That’s what I want to become! (In some ways no too 🤣 that I can discuss later)

I hope am able to make this year a fantastic one. The change has to be made from within and the urge to change things for the better has been growing in me for a while now. I wish for overall well-being and nurturing of self-confidence and positive thinking for myself & everyone connected to me. God please help me in my mission. 🙏✌️

Dear Devansh, (Hi Baby)
Its feels so amazing and unreal at the very same time…you are turning 3 and so am I as a mother!! Feels like just the other day I had you in my arms… like a soft cuddly cotton ball for the 1st time in my hospital bed. The feeling The love The excitement..all is so fresh in our hearts and memories. You have made my life so beautiful..our little world so full of life!

There’s nothing in the world more previous than you..your hugs..your smile..You complete me baby! After marrying your father I always told him that he completes me, until one day I had you…I had never felt such a feeling of completeness from within, the feeling to protect someone, wanting to always be around.. take care off, cuddle, love, kiss ( which you might say to stop in coming few years) You complete US.

A moment earlier we were celebrating the fact that you were standing..walking.. babbling the first words..had teeth..And look at you now! Monkey!! A chatter box!! Jumping jack!! … repeating everything we say.. giving everyone around directions as what to say or do to you. Climbing to the highest sofa points and jumping from there…making us nervous all the time. Being a boy…

Your love for alphabets & numbers is unmatched. For us you are a genius…you were reading and writing alphabets/ numbers since you were an infant. Cars, TV, toys aren’t your thing…all you want is either your tab to look at nursery rhymes videos or write and play those educational applications or your writing boards. You make your Talking Tom’s & Talking Ben’s & Talking Ginger’s repeat rhymes, alphabets and numbers after you..they are your friends. You are writing words like “dolphin”, “eight” as if they are nothing. You are giving me language learning goals #You write and read numbers in Spanish??!! You are telling me planets name…!! I haven’t taught you this..YOU TUBE has…Your love for dogs & cats is pushing me to get you a pet soon.

Few days ago it hit me that how independent you have become. I was leaving for office and you said “Bye Mumma” I/o wanted to stop me as usual. You now understand maybe that this lady is coming back to me anyhow..and have therefore learnt staying happy even w/o me…this is hard to accept as a mom. Its hard on me. Why do you have to grow so fast!?

No matter how hard the day wad, you would always lighten it up with your smile. you are by motivation to keep going on.. being strong. You have filled our life with joy and laughter. Am grateful and thank God each day for this amazingly beautiful child he has gifted me with. You made me the happiest mom in the world!