I’m writing on behalf of a friend and father who pays CSA. His son lives with the mother and has no contact with the father.

The child has recently turned 18 and has legally changed his surname from his fathers and mothers hyphenated surname to just his mother surname.

The mother has requested via CSA that the father continue paying Child Support until the end of the school year – Dec 2016.

Is there any legal grounds the father has to re-approach CSA and ask them to consider the name change? its apparent the son and mother do not want any link to the father, but are still happy to receive his money.

I am in the process of switching over to the new CMS who are carrying out calculations. As my ex-partner has failed to provide evidence of his income they have used information received from HMRC. It appears that this relates to his previous employment and therefore the calculation is over £160 per month more than I have been receiving as I was only awarded the low rate. It appears that he never gave them this higher income amount and has therefore avoided paying the extra £160.

Is there any way I can raise this and ask for the backdated payments as this avoidance does not seem fair to me.

The good ol gals at the CSA after a conversation I had with them basically insisting that my ex wouldn’t let me see my 3 sons who I totally love, and what do i need to prove there mine a DNA!!??

WELL THEY TOOK THAT AND DECIDED TO RING MY EX TELLING HER I WANT A DNA TEST, THIS CAUSED A MASSIVE MASSIVE BREAKDOWN WITH MY BOYS AS THE EX TOLD THEM…THE CSA HAS NO RIGHT TO EVER SAY THAT WITHOUT MY PERMISSION, IT WAS A PASSING COMMENT…I FUCKING HATE THEM FOR THAT.

Mine is advice before it happens. I was with CSA twelve months and it was truly awful. They are also inept.Anyway. I persuaded my ex to enter a private arrangement and in return I gave her all the equity in my house-£34k.I just wanted it over. Had already ended up in hospital with an overdose due partly to not seeing enough of my kids and partly the CSA.

After she came away from them I was made redundant and was that fearful that I paid her £300 a month from my redundancy for ten months (£3000) despite her having remarried and having her salary child benefit etc.

Now I have had to leave the job I was in as I was being asked to break the law of regulation ( financial services job). Because I wouldn’t play ball it was go or be managed out. I left in Mid July but now have no savings. My new partner is paying my maintenance but she isn’t on a great salary and it’s causing issues between us. I know as I have no income if she went to CSA I wouldn’t have to pay bit I have the option of a self employed role. Trouble is I wouldn’t start till January and would be unlikely to see and money until March. I would be a self employed sole trader working for one company.

Xmas is coming so I need to stop the £300 a month but worry what the CSA do in cases like mine cos I’m sure she will put a claim in.Id reinstate when money comes in but she isn’t reasonable. Can anyone advise please?

My son was born in 1993, I applied to the CSA for financial help back in 1993, despite the fact that contact was made with the absent parent 23 years on I have NEVER received a payment. The CSA even contacted the absent parents company that they were working for(this was confirmed verbally to me by telephone at the time)the CSA completely failed my son, whilst the absent father was living it up not supporting his child.

Hi people, thought I’d keep you all informed and updated of my case with the incompetent CSA, on Monday last week the CSA informed me that they have been sending all my personal data to my previous address, even although we informed the clowns over a year ago, Michelle whom we were dealing with couldn’t quite answer in detail as to what has happened, however she told us that her “Team Leader”, Philip would call and resolve there “Breach of Contract”!!

Philip did call, the next morning,..such a diplomat!, lovely guy & such a peace maker!, he then admitted that the CSA were liable for “Breach of Contract” and that I would receive compensation!,…. Ahaa, I hear you say, Eh No!, it would be under £100 I was told, Shove your £100 sweetener up your bottom CSA!, You can’t & won’t buy my silence with such a trivial amount, I was told that I shall receive my letter of apology in the post asap, but the compensation would take a few weeks!.

This is a perfect example of DWP being above the Law if not a law unto them selves!

Here you are Mr McFadyen, we’ve broken the law, breached a legal contract but we don’t have to do anything, why because we are the law!!, but you will hopefully go away with a little cheque for under £100 quid!,…. eh no!

So my ex partner trapped me into a child(would spit the pill down the toilet). I stayed with her after I seen this as I wanted to be a part of my daughters life, it got unbearable and we broke up before my daughter was born. I kept contact with my ex expecting her to keep me involved, I wasn’t allowed to be there for anything including the birth of my child. I was able to see my daughter for the first few months, but it was under the watchful eye of my ex and her family. She got abusive towards me, then decided that non of my family was to have anything to do with my daughter and i was only allowed to go to her house on my own, so it was just the two of us. I’m not on the birth certificate and I’m not allowed contact anymore. She also changed her number so I couldn’t get in touch. I am also lead to believe she has now moved. I have had a DNA test too. I pay £300+ for a child I’m not allowed to see, it’s wrong.

As the same as most of the letters i just read. I have always paid for my child through an arrangement with the EX, however, due to a complete breakdown of the relationship she decided to tell the CSA i have paid a nominal amount for years. The CSA decided that i owe X amount in back payment and now £200 pcm too. So now my payments have increased by 150% despite my objections and despite the fact that this now puts me in financial hardship as my income just about paid for everything but do they give a toss, NO they do not. Why do they always side with the Mother, why are decent Dads penalised to the point of suffering hardship, persecuted and just generally treated like shit when actually sometimes the Mothers are the scum….

Mine is a long story. Back in 1993 my wife and I split up. now the csa had not been created yet untill 1994. I was a soldier, my ex wife put a claim in when the csa started.in those days they guessed at what you paid. my ex told them where I worked and where I was living. I received letters from the csa about the children and I signed saying yes I am the father. later I received a letter saying your cas has been cancelled due to error. that’s the last I heard from them. I too was giving money buying stuff for the children of course didn’t keep proof.

now in 1997 I received a letter from the csa at work. when I opened it it said I owe them £15000 and have 27 days to pay it. so I got my work involved/help.

so we got in touch with the csa and got a meeting. the out come was I got it deferred to £4000. a long as I pay. as I was in the army I really had no choice no to pay as it was taken out of my pay. I didn’t mind that. the £15000 was arrears from 1994 to 1997???? I had no correspondent’s from the csa in that time. again later over years the arrears went back up to £15000 without any word.

in 2007 I left the army and started part time job less wages alas the csa got intouch with my new employer and again I was paying. I was paying more money in my part time job than I was in full time work. so I started to get intouch with the csa and ask why and can they help me. they told me I am paying for the arrears as well as the children. now I asked for my case file to be sent over I had to pay for this. so going through the documents I found several things.1 certain key letters were missing.2 they had sent recorded letters to an address that had lived in 1989. plus the pay office for the army in Glasgow.3 the amount I had to pay in 1994 to 1997 was all estimates which is higher. so I explained this on the phone to my local csa department (northern Ireland). to cut a long story short . the man on the other end said he doesn’t care they are your children and your fault you signed the paper saying that. to this current day I am still paying the arrears off 1994 to 1997 which the csa created. my children’s ages are 25 and 27. I mite be finished in 2017 I hope. I have heard people on benefits getting their csa debts wrote off but us working people cannot even though we are on low income. LOL.

where to start… I’m 41 now when I was 19 I had my first daughter, my ex cheated on me shortly afterwards and my daughter ended up living with my ex’s parents full time. They brought her up and at first I was allowed to see her no problem, then they started making things difficult and my cases to her slowly stopped. I was young and nieve at the time and ( I’m sorry to say) I lost contact. At first I was paying £25 a week which obviously I didn’t mind.

After a while I moved jobs and lost contact, every time I tried to get in touch I was met with a brick wall. When I was 26 I had another child and once again the curse of the cheating partner struck again. Happily I still see my second daughter and we had an arrangement that I gave her a monthly sum which was good all round.

A few years ago I met someone else she has son and we have son together we all live together and both work part time so that somebody is always home to care for my son who is 2. I earn around 760 a month and the Csa take money out of my wages and leave me with £488 every month,my partner earns about the same and out of that we have to pay the rent, council tax, insurance,travel bills, food etc. It leaves us with very little and to be honest it’s soul destroying that I can’t treat my kids to nice things and holidays etc.

I understand that we all pay for our kids, and I totally agree. My problem is that half of my arrears payment is going to a person who didn’t bring my child up at all the child in question is now 21 and working. ( and the Csa say I’m in arrears to the tune of £11000 ) and this is having such a negative impact to my youngest child. Is there anything I can do to lessen the repayment of the arrears?

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