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To the Muslim Wife- The Disgusting Brainwashing Misogyny of Islam

Many, men and women, have come to this blog to claim that islam is just, and that islam does not say that men are SUPERIOR – no no no.. They only have a degree of responsibility over women. Women are actually better off in islam! Men have more burdens and more responisibilities and islam does not say that men are SUPERIOR. That is just western islam bashing!

Well, well…

I am quoting here one of the many texts from muslim scholars being extremely clear on the subject of women, men and the relationship between them.

Enjoy:

3rd December 2012

To the Muslim wife…

Asslamo Allaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh,

The spiritual core of the Muslim ummah is rotting and the decay is manifesting itself in many different ways none more evident than the breakdown of relationships between Muslim families. Violation of spousal rights and even downright physical and emotional abuse is on the rise and may Allah (SWT) protect all of us and our families (Ameen).

Muslim husbands of course have responsibilities but our daughters also need to be spoken to as the degradation of relationships isn’t only down to Men!

Superiority of Men: My daughter, Allah (SWT) has given your husband superiority to you in clear, unambiguous words and if you try to take even equal footing (let alone superiority) know that you are arguing and fighting against a command of Allah (SWT) and not your husband and as long as you are fully and rationally willing to accept the consequences of taking what comes your way when you oppose Allah (SWT), there isn’t anything anyone else can do.

[4:34] Men are caretakers of women, since Allah has made some of them excel the others, and because of the wealth they have spent. So, the righteous women are obedient, (and) guard (the property and honor of their husbands) in (their) absence with the protection given by Allah. As for women of whom you fear rebellion, convince them, and leave them apart in beds, and beat them. Then, if they obey you, do not seek a way against them. Surely, Allah is the Highest, the Greatest.

Know that there is no classical Scholar of Qur’aan, Hadeeth or Fiqh who has EVER given a Fatwa or an opinion that women are equal to men! So next time when you are browsing the Internet and come across an article or youtube video proclaiming anything otherwise then know that it is BASELESS!

Serving the Husband: My daughter, your foremost duty is to serve your husband and look after the needs of your household after fulfilling the obligations (prayer, fasting etc) of Islam in absolute service to your husband. Your duty is not Dawah, not blogging, not maintaining web sites, counselling other Muslim women and if your husband allows this or your service to him isn’t affected by doing Islamic propagation then so be it.

But be under no illusion that your primary duty is to serve your husband.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “If I were to order anyone to prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered a woman to prostrate herself before her husband”. [At-Tirmidhi]

Responding to the husband sexually: My daughter, it is your Islamic duty to respond to your husband when he calls you to bed. If you have a baby or children then ensure that your husband has a chance of privacy with you and don’t wreck your relationship on account of your children and looking after them and putting them in the bed besides you etc.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, “When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning”. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Husband: Your Gateway to paradise: Your husband is your gateway to paradise and not your optional worship and Islamic activities and knowledge. If your husband is pleased then Insha’Allah you have a ticket to paradise so in fact you have it pretty easy if you chose to conform with the commands of Allah (SWT) & His Rasool (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam)

Violence & Abuse: No one is suggesting that you need to put up with physical violence or abuse and in those circumstances refer the matter to Ulamah who can advise you on the matter and offer correct Islamic guidance.

Unfulfilled & incomplete Relationships : Again you need to refer the matter to Ulama who can advise you on the matter and offer correct Islamic guidance and if you are patient then you will be rewarded and if you continue to look after your family and your husband when your rights are not being granted then know that Allah (SWT) is with those who are patient and Insha’Allah your rewards will become apparent the minute your eyes are closed. Be pleased with your Taqdeer (destiny) and know that this world is a place of test and Allah (SWT) is testing you to raise your ranks on the day of judgement.

Did you think your life will turn out to be a Bollywood Love Story? My daughter, you are a believer and you have been put on this Earth to be tested. If you thought that a handsome young man with ample finances will wish you away and shed his blood on every post your tear falls then wake up to reality! Allah (SWT) is Haakim and he chooses for his servants what he wills. Maybe some of your friends have a loving husband, healthy children, big house and you may be missing some of things because Allah (SWT) wants to test you.

[29:2] Do people think that they will be left (at ease) only on their saying, .We believe. and will not be put to any test? [29:3] Indeed We have tested those who were before them. So Allah will surely know the ones who are truthful, and He will surely know the liars.

There were better, prettier and more intelligent women before you who were tested and know that you are being testing because Allah (SWT) loves you and desires good for you!

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “When Allah desires good for someone, He tries him with hardships.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî]

My daughter, the best of the prophets were tested and even our beloved Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) was tested so know that they weren’t tested because they were hated but they were tested because they were beloved and the closer a person gets to Allah (SWT) and to our beloved Nabi (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) by following his Sunnah the more you will be tested.

YOU are superior to the Hoors of paradise! It’s the favourite pastime of men to discuss and talk about the Hoors of Jannah and bedazzled by their beauty and their sincere and devoted love for them but did you know that YOU are superior to those Hoors which men aspire to?

Umm Salamah (May Allah Be Pleased With Her) narrated that she asked the Messenger of Allah, ‘ O Allah’s Apostle, are the women of this world superior to the hoor of jannah?’ He replied, (Salahuaalyhi wasalam) ‘ The women of this world will have superiority over the hoors just as the outer lining of a garment has superiority over the inner lining. Umm Salamah then asked, ‘ O Allah’s Apostle, what is the reason for this?’ He answered, ‘ Because they performed salah, fasted and worshipped [Allah]. Allah will put light on their faces and silk on their bodies. [The human women] will be fair in complexion and will wear green clothing and yellow jewellery. Their incense – burners will be made of pearls and their combs will be of gold. They will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never leave. Listen, we are happy women and we will never become sad. Glad tidings to those men for whom we are and who are for us. (Tabarani)

YOU will PROUDLY PROCLAIM your superiority to Hoors of paradise! Insha’Allah if you are patient with your Taqdeer and look after your husband and your family YOU will one day respond to the Hoors and proclaim your SUPERIORITY to them.

Imam Qurtubi in his “at-Tadhkirah fi-Ahwalil Mawta wa’l-Akhirah (in Remembrance of the Affairs of the Dead and Doomsday)” and Ibn Kathir in his “al-Bidaya wa’n-Nihaya (Kitabu’l- Fitan wa’l-Malahim) the Termination of the Afflictions and Fierce Battles” tell the story of the songs of houri in heaven: “Houri will sing for their own husbands, songs are so marvelous that every hearer will be so pleased. Houri will say: “We are Houri who has not had a sin.

” The women of this world will reply them saying: “We are the fasters (who keep fast), and you are not, we are the prayers, but you are not and we are the givers of charity but you are not.” And there is another narration which is famous with the name “Hadith of Soor” narrated from Abu Hurayrah (R.A.) that the Prophet Muhammad said that: “Every man in heaven will go to 72 of the creatures of Allah (houris) and 2 of the women of mankind, these two women are superior to the creatures of Allah (houris) with their worshipping (good deeds) they had performed in this world.”

Decision Time? Now that you have read about your rank in paradise, its time to make a decision. You can serve your husband and overlook his mistakes and errors in providing you with your rights and accept his authority , be pleased with what Allah (SWT) has destined for you and then attain a rank in paradise superior to Hoors

OR

You can assert your superiority, demand equal treatment, step out in the world to earn your place, busy yourself in Dawah etc and jeopardise your afterlife.

The choice is yours.

BROTHER /MUADH kHAN

Any questions? Still unsure about islam’s stance on the superiority of men?

Islam is the wet dream of abusive, sex-addicted male chauvinists. Not even in paradise do they think of anything but being allowed to fuck countless virgins while forcing their wives to watch. These disgusting men have invented a religious law of male superiority, allowing men to fuck children, marry multiple wives, rape their wives, beat their wives… And women keep allowing it. Every woman who stands behind this is herself becoming a rapist, a molester and a murderer!

There is no way anybody can excuse this, or find euphemisms to hide this.

13 thoughts on “To the Muslim Wife- The Disgusting Brainwashing Misogyny of Islam”

You do realize don’t you – that these bolded words describe exactly to a T your husband’s attitude and behavior with his 2nd wife? And what about you – as a woman aren’t you standing beside him knowing full well that he treats another woman the very same way that you say is so reprehensible?

Perhaps you could help them both out further by printing this off and giving it to your husband so he can send it to her. That way she would know exactly where her place in her marriage is and what her responsibilities to your husband are!!! Maybe it will save him some training time and per chance she does pick up on the fact that your asserting yourself and demanding equality seems to make your life so much better and enjoyable than hers – she will know if she does the same in asserting herself – it will cost her a desired place in the afterlife. After all – we wouldn’t want any of your husbands important needs to go unmet, nor hers – would we?

Yes – I do realize. What I also realize, having met so many of my husband’s friends and business partners, is that this is not some wacko fanatic fringe opinion – this is what many muslim men, and women, believe.That’s what is so frightening. I HAVE talked about this with my husband. I HAVE raised exactly these issues. Problem is, this is what SHE believes. I have tried to talk to her about it once, just before she left for Oman, and sorry – she’s part of the Manson family and she wouldn’t leave. How do you help people who won’t be helped? My husband of course is taking use of this, I do know that.

Salam,
honesty I rather a woman that ask questions and stirs some trouble than a woman that just sits and is obedient ,that was my husbands words to me,when I freaked out on one of the imans,who wanted women to stay home and not work.I the last 10years of my life,i realized there is no restriction for women in Islam,dispite what these men said.The only that makes me stead fast on this freedom,is that I can leave if a husband does not make me happy.So lets say he comes home and says,where is my dinner,Islamic it is not my duty to serve him,so if all women did not do this they are not disobedient, because its there right,however,if he comes home with flopwers,chocatlest and asks nicely with a kiss,baby where is dinner,am all about that.But guess what he wil do the same things.I understand why your frustrated in fact,i have honesty stop listening to these so called scholar,sometimes am afraid that I would go trough the computer,but I realized their interpretation of Islam does not benefit me,rather it subjugates me. Marriage is mercy,and not prison for a man’s sexually gratification,and private service. There are new female scholars ,that are reviving the female sprite in Islam,i will get their names ,and you will see the truth of Islam.Can you start the subject of Hoor in Jannah,i really have a lot to say on that.
Thanks,

I am so glad you are here, you’re a voice of reason calling when I sometimes feel I am screaming into the darkness… You are so right – marriage should be about freedom, not about bondage. Two people helping each other to live life at its fullest, giving each other the freedom and security to develop and to trust. And yes I love cooking! And I love treating the man I love to some tlc. But I want to do it as an act of love, not an act of service. And I want him to reciprocate the feeling. Equality isn’t about being identical. Equality is about having the same opportunities. And allowing each other the freedom to use these opportunities. I would love to read some texts that might give me a sense of hope, do send the links! 🙂

I also would be happy to see texts with a woman perspective. I am sometimes very sad to feel that only men have their rights explained and islamic websites say a woman is all about patience. I believe there is other ways because Allah is not unjust.

If you hate what has been decreed by Allah you hate Allah. Are you not ashamed and afraid to do this? Allah has said women be devoutly obedient. Men are your superiors and protectors and if anybody would prostrate before anybody you should prostrate before your husbands. Dare you say this is unjust? If one does not understand one must only submit. Remember that there are more women than men in Jahannam!

You know what is funny,i have never seen this side of Islam(crazy) until I listened to this nauseating lectures.I was born to a muslim family,praying,fasting,wearing the hajip,but none of this polygamy,persmission,or no education crap.As I said my father once attacked a man ,because he did ot allowe his wife to drive, I Love my father he is true femistist.But look ,as I said it is all about how you grow up.I realized that major of women in oppressing situation were in that sitituon because their family were ok with the behavouur of the Husband.Prophet Mahammad trefused Ali to marry again because it bothered Fatima,and none of his daughters were in polygamous relationship, further more he did not marry from the women of ansar because they thought polygamy was repulsive ,howver,he did not condmen them nor did he call them kafir, he just left them alone.To me Islam is righteous ,but there will be men of all faiths that will use religion or any other law for their evil ways.The Islam that I was expose to ,was one that women and men have equal rights,and rewards point blank period.I am not place on earth dispit what these men say ,to life for my husbands happiness,seriusly that would destroy any human being.It is interesting that some scholars have even said place your husbands desire before your own,even if another woman is desire.When I listen to some lecture,i break down and cry because there are some women who have no knowledge of their rights,who would believe this,to the point that they will life in dark, and painful life’s because they believe God will give them paradise.I am very disturbed by someone the comments/problems by some sisters, to the point that I can not sleep.
Later,

@Mahmoud,
My brother I have never hated anything that Allah made permissible,what I do not like is men’s intrepetions of Allahs laws.Obedience is not a problem to me,the problem is the manner that it is given in. As I said ” Baby get me dinner please “,is different than”where is dinner”,now the first is kind and according to Islam, the second one is asking for big problems. If men gave women their due rights, women will not have problem giving men their rights. If a husband comes home and tells his wife he wants another wife ,because he has the right to marry more women, well than she can ask for a divorce b/c it is also within her rights to refuse, So you see Allah’s law can not be carried out to only benefit men, but this is depends on the women to learn their rights and demand it.
Salam