Saturday, 24 January 2009

You see back in April, we knew something was wrong in the way they were working and that is why we kept a log. I puposely kept it to the main points, not much emotion (Court's do not do emotions - just facts), wrote down times of calls etc. My husband also kept one which I will post soon. An important thing I have also noticed is God help kids at the weekend - because as you see Social Services do not 'do' weekends. Kids and families' problems must end early Friday evening and they are not allowed to resume until Monday morning. That's so the SS can have a well deserved rest after breaking up a family - it's a tough job but someone has to do it - I mean we don't want to promote happy, normal family life, it's simply no good for our career. You can just picture it now - feet up, glass of wine, a lonely existence, hey but what the heck, a nice bonus for their target figures.

Now back to the issue, not one person (except from us) has told my son his behaviour was disgraceful - in fact Social Services paid for him to go to a football club as a treat, now does that not send out mixed messages to an adolescent? So, instead of punishing him, were we supposed to say 'now, I loved the way you aimed your spit directly into her face, also you showed great multi-tasking skills as you hit her and at the same time called her a "f___ing muslim"', you know - the finding of good in everything they do? Well I'm sorry but I can't, I have nothing but disgust for his behaviour, it was inexcusable and not something he sees at home. So where is he learning this type of behaviour? - the only place that it can be is at school - so thank you for my son's new found skills they will get him far in life.

Over the last few months I have noticed that the education system is just as bad at dealing with 'bad behaviour'. No wonder you have a minority of students attacking teachers, they have no discipline or respect. The times have long gone where a teacher was in charge and the pupil's followed and we as a society have allowed this to happen. Why do school's have anti-bullying policies when they fail to adhere to them? When a child is identified as a problem, address the matter immediately, don't look for excuses or come out with statement's such as he's bullying children more vulnerable than himself so that's OK.

Monday, 19 January 2009

Told I could have *** for the day. First thing I did was put him in the bath and take him out of the filthy clothes he was in. So much for Social Services!!During the day *** asked me if he was allowed to stay forever, one can only imagine what nonsense they’ve been filling his head with.

Phone call from *** to ask *** if he wanted to stay to which he replied yes. He passed the phone to me and she told me ’you have one happy boy there’. I beg to differ, the shear arrogance of the social services defies belief.

*** came up around 18.30 and I tried to explain some of the difficulties that we have experienced regarding ***’s behaviour to the extent that we were in the process of seeking professional advice to which she showed absolutely no interest in what so ever.

Friday 11th April

10.05 message from *** to contact her (on home phone number)10.15 call on mobile, I was told my husband could not have contact with children over the weekend, no reason given.11.05 *** phoned to say my husband could have unsupervised access to the children over the weekend. Are they trying to play mind games with us?17.42 phone call to say she was coming up for a quick chat.*** came up around 18.10 stayed until 19.30 for a ‘chat’.

Saturday 12th April

No contact was made by social services.2 hour unsupervised access for my husband with *** and *** at my mothers house.

Sunday 13th April

No contact was made by social services.2 hour unsupervised access for my husband with *** and *** at my mothers house.

Saturday, 17 January 2009

Do PLEASE remember the golden rules: (By all means print this off and keep the copy near at hand if SS approach! Show these rules to your lawyer or social worker to prove that you KNOW your rights!)

REMEMBER THESE EVEN IF YOU FORGET EVERYTHING ELSE I HAVE ADVISED!

1: NEVER contact social services (child protection) for help or advice. Usually you should not report a partner who batters you or even a stranger who sexually assaults your young child, as if you do the SS will as often as not take your children into care (and later for adoption) to "protect them" from risk! If they have your children and you are fighting to get them back, NEVER NEVER tell social workers how you think you are going to defeat them, or what you are going to do next!Remember, without mentioning it to "them", that even if your children are "in care" social workers do not have the legal power to stop your children going to a call box to phone you,from going to any public library and emailing you, or even meeting you for a meal as long as they return "home" to the fosterers afterwards!

Care home girl abused by 25 men in 2 years

Source: Daily Mail Published: 27th August 2006 A 14-year-old girl placed in a council children's home was prostituted to a group of depraved middle-aged men because staff were powerless to stop her going out. The horrific story of 'Becky' is highlighted in a BBC programme presented by Fiona Bruce this week which reveals how she was sexually abused by 25 men over two years - despite being known to social services and having been placed on the Child Protection Register. Even when she was put in a children's home - six months after her earliest allegations of abuse -staff allowed her to be used as a prostitute for fear their intervention might infringe her human rights. If the "SS" cannot prevent a young girl in their care from working as a prostitute then surely they cannot prevent other young people they "care for" from spending the day with parents if they so choose!Remember also that children of school age have a break so you can call them and speak to them through the railings without trespassing and nobody can stop you except a judge by serving a court injunction on you that will be too late to stop you reminding your children of their real family !

2: Never believe a word "they" say and always insist they put their promises down in writing. Always be pleasant and polite to social workers,but never forget they are your ENEMIES ! Remember that they may deliberately try to provoke you into shouting or violence that they will exaggerate in court leaving you with a criminal record and no children! When they shout at you forget your "pride" and look very hurt saying "why are you being like this to me?" or "I thought you were so nice until now, please don't bully me!" Be very respectful "tongue in cheek", but remember THEY ARE NOT POLICE so never follow their "helpful advice" especially if they say your only chance of getting your children back is to split from a partner, or parent you love and respect! They will try and turn you against each other as the "divide and rule" principle makes sure you are confused and demoralised when you lose your case and your children too! Quite often they arrange deliberately awkward contact times with your children. This can result first in the loss of your job and then as a consequence of that, your accommodation also. Object firmly and forcefully in court to their plans and fight hard to keep your job and your house or appartment.

3: NEVER, NEVER, NEVER sign any documents they present to you, even if they say "you have to!" Social Workers rely on BLUFF. In reality they have NO POWER and no right to threaten you or give you orders of any kind! Only a COURT via an order from a judge can give you orders, and you always have the opportunity to contest those orders in court either before or after they are given to you. No matter what threats,or promises they make, you can be 100% sure that if you get intimidated into signing they will break their word and expect you to keep your's! So, DO NOT SIGN! Answer "yes", "no" or "I don't know" to questions WITHOUT further explanations that could be twisted to be used against you! If the "SS" do not have enough evidence against you do not "cooperate" by supplying them with what they need even if they threaten you.If your enemies run out of ammunition ,do NOT send them over a box of bullets to help them out ! Once the SS have applied for a care order remember their main object is NOT the welfare of the child ,it is to WIN their case against you ! Disregard any threats that you must "do as they tell you ". Be polite and even apologetic when you refuse to obey them !

4: Never, never agree to let your children go into foster care (especially if they say it is TEMPORARY OR VOLUNTARY) Never "agree" the thresholds even if you are advised that this will ensure the return of your children, because if you do you will have admitted neglecting or abusing your child and the only question left will be to decide if you have really repented and are capable of "change"! Usually the answer is no! Sometimes your own lawyer may tell you to agree the thresholds and/or agree to an interim care order otherwise "you will never see your children again! "That is a wicked lie designed to save the lawyers work and to help you LOSE your children! Sometimes lawyers will tell you there is no need for you to give evidence as they will speak for you; that way you may find you have lost your children very quickly without being allowed to say a word, so BEWARE!Most of the "legal aid lawyers" in the family courts are rightly known in the trade as "PROFESSIONAL LOSERS"!! Many of them pretend to work for you when in fact they are really on the side of the Local Authority. Sack your lawyers and represent yourself if they will not let you speak! Never admit to social workers (who are your ENEMIES) that you have been at fault in even the smallest possible way,(they certainly will never admit to you that they were ever at fault!). You must never lie in court, but you should never never admit to any fault on your part unless forced to do so by a direct "yes or no" type question in court. You must never disobey a court order by taking abroad a child already in care, but if you are pregnant and threatened neither a court nor the "SS" can stop you leaving the country before the baby is born! Sweden and Ireland are good choices!

5: When possible refuse to be assessed by so called "experts, "(psychiatrists, therapists, psychologists, counsellors, professionals, and the like) unless your children are returned first as otherwise the process will take place in an artificial atmosphere with you as parents emotionally distressed because your children have been taken. Remember that if the "SS" insist on these assessments their sole purpose is to gather sufficient evidence to help them win their case against you in court!If you talk a lot and do not listen to them they will say you have mental problems or "PERSONALITY DISORDERS",so be "quiet and attentive" during assessments. Try not to answer questions with more than 5 or 6 words (they write down anything unhelpful you may let slip). Try indeed to answer "yes" or "no" whenever possible. NEVER COMPLAIN NEVER EXPLAIN! Complaints are a waste of time and divert you from the more important task of keeping or recovering your children. Never explain or elaborate when questioned as this only gives extra material to those who wish to discredit you. Never make angry personal attacks on anybody or threaten to sue the "SS" or police at a later date, as it just makes YOU sound bad.They may even seize on your resentment as an excuse to diagnose you with PARANOIA ! Your whole tone must be one of "sweetness and light" regretting that your children were mistakenly taken and that THEY (not you) suffered harm and anguish as a result! Your whole case must be that YOUR CHILDREN have suffered harm (not yourself) and that you are taking action for their sake not for your own! If you are accused of "being unable to work with the professionals", reply that you will work 100% with them if they say their objective is to reunite your family by eventually returning your children, but that it is unfair to expect you to work with anyone whose objective declared to the court is to put your children into care or worse still have them adopted!Remember that the SS often "brainwash" children in care by telling children in care that their mother is too ill to care for them or worse still does not love them or want them any more, but when they are adopted they will have a lovely new "for ever mummy and daddy"! Make sure you tell the children that wicked people have stolen them for money and that you will never stop fighting to get them back ! Whisper in their ears or calmly make the statement in spite of horrified supervisors Even children as young as 3 will remember all their lives such a brutal but necessary message. Vital however it is, as it will eventually make a stable adoption impossible to sustain !Your reluctantly adopted children will as a result seek you out and come back to you in the end !

6: Protect yourself against social workers barging uninvited into your home by fitting a small chain inside your front door. This means that if you do not unlatch the chain when you see who is calling that person would have to push the door hard enough to break the chain which would be a "forced entry "and a criminal offence if committed without a document from the court such as a "recovery order" specifically allowing entry using reasonable force. Unless they intend to actually arrest someone or have good reason to believe someone in the house is in danger of severe physical harm, police also would have to have a warrant before breaking the chain. Usually they will not have one and would have to convince a judge that a serious crime had been or was about to be committed before one was granted.

7: If social services request a look at your medical records (probably to try and find something to discredit you) ALWAYS write to any doctor or psychiatrist that has seen you as follows:

"I respectfully request you to keep all my medical notes strictly confidential as I intend to take legal proceedings against social services and any other persons who might obtain my medical details without my express authorisation".

8: Never write a letter to anyone connected to Social Services as you might include something that could damage your case in the family court. Only accept a solicitor if he/she promises to allow you a free hand to speak in court! You should be asked this simple question in the witness box "Have you anything you would like to say to the court?" Without this promise you may be "gagged" and as already explained in Rule 4 you can lose your case without being allowed to say a word!

Represent yourself if you can, but if you really do need the assistance of "professionals" the following contacts can be useful!

USEFUL CONTACTS: (If your cause is just these professionals really will be on your side not that of social services !)

Friday, 9 January 2009

Well my husband who has never been in any sort of trouble with the police, told the truth in his statement - something that actual child abusers appear unable to do as I believe their standard answers are 'no comment'. My son was punished for his behaviour, that was all, he was not beaten up or assaulted, a fact that has evaded all proceedings to date.

I read Senator Shenton's take on the legal aid system in the paper the other night with some ammusement. Now is there some concern out there that the peasants may be revolting? Are they thinking 'quick lets think of something to keep these minions under control, if too many stand up for themselves and speak the truth we've had it!'

Here's some of the advice my husband received from his criminal lawyer:

This case should not even be in court but you will be found guilty - she's taken to fortune telling as a sideline.

You will be found guilty whatever you say - again the crystal ball is out.

When pointing out the many inconsistencies and lies in my son's statement (ie one thing said then a few questions later a completely different answer to the same question) - told sorry we can not use that as we are not allowed to say he lied.

Told accept to go guilty to a 'lesser' charge of assault, and told there is no point to have principles as he would be found guilty - read his tea leaves this time.

Or was it something else, was she not really a fortune teller and was it a pre-arranged guilty verdict?

I actually think it was the latter, I don't think she is in to fortune telling as she let it slip in her summing up, and I quote:

'I ask the court to find the defendant GUILTY'.

So much for a legal aid defence - a very big public thank you for your incompetence.

Sunday, 4 January 2009

Never welcome a social worker into my house - I should have listened to my mother!

Never to employ a lawyer again - financial cost of this farce to date is approximately £2500.00 and yes that is with the 'free legal aid system', quite a hefty bill for our family. I will do all the research I can to represent myself, at least I know the truth and I am on my side and I will not work with the opposition. I always knew this happened but I have proof of this when my lawyer, wrote some information down wrong, she had given me some papers which I later found this information written by the opposition! - no wonder she was so flustered about me correcting her - I thought it was odd at the time as I said well just change it.... obviously already too late!

Always have in the back of your mind that your life can change in a moment, enjoy every second with your children, you may not have that chance tomorrow.

Do not believe you will see justice in a court.

Do believe that lies can be manufactured against you.

Get everything in writing, document everything you can. Now this may sound a bit over the top, but if I could tell you all you would understand - keep an accident record book for your children at home - like they do at work - keep notes from school, such as 'they bumped their head today' - you never know when you may need it.

Do expect to be told 'this is the way we do things in Jersey', obviously I have read the laws in reverse and what they they they should not do, they do.

Never to think that getting to the truth of the matter is easy, especially when you are right and they are so very in the wrong - remember 'come in No 1 you're sacked'?

Never think you are on your own - look for people that can help you. There's not many people in Jersey you can ask (actually I don't know anyone), but Jersey isn't the world and there is life outside the Island! Search the internet, a site I came across was by Ian Josephs, and as I read it, I was thinking how so very true his words are. Perhaps though as with many things in life you have to experience it to truly believe it, and by all accounts our situation is perhaps better than alot of peoples'. I would love to see a change in the system over here it does not work and they operate illegally. Perhaps somehow I will find a way to make a difference. I would like to see a truly independent body set up to act as an intermediary between the SS and families.

On a lighter note I would like to wish everyone a 'Very Happy New Year', and I'll raise a toast to 'truth and justice'.