Parental alienation involves the systematic brainwashing, poisoning and manipulation of children with the sole purpose of destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent. My story involves this form of child abuse & exploring the bias favouring a mother in the social ecosystem around Family Law.

I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Monday, March 1, 2010

This is one of the more important substantive articles on the state of so called human rights in Canada and the couch potato laissez faire state of men. Note the authors last observation. Men in Canada have no idea how their rights are being removed right under their noses. Not until the wife hands him his divorce papers will he know how second class he is compared to the other gender and all those who are hybrids. Seventy five percent of divorces are initiated by the wife and 90% of them get sole physical custody, child support, spousal support if the judge is so inclined and 50% of everything else. She may have been cheating on him, stealing from him, gone to jail for theft, fraud and forgery, beat the children and emotionally abused them, and even on the rare occasion the dad may have even been raising the children from home while she worked. It doesn't matter because she's got boobs or the other hybrids have more rights because the judiciary and Human Rights Commissions say so. The subtlety embedded in what Mr. Warren states is profound.MJM

By David Warren, The Ottawa Citizen

March 1, 2010

Photograph by: The Ottawa Citizen,

David
Warren

The Ottawa Citizen

I have sometimes
thought it would be diverting to put a hockey team together. This idea
is not, in itself, very original, but there are a couple of twists in my
proposal that might make it uniquely entertaining. For I should like to
have a "politically correct" hockey team.

Not sure, just yet,
what league it would play in, but by the time it was assembled, I'm not
sure what league would dare to turn it down.

The team I have in
mind would consist of a couple of goalies, two defensive lines, three
forward lines, for a total of 15 players; plus a coach, an assistant
coach, a couple of trainers, a general manager and 43 lawyers. While the
ethnicities and sexual orientations of the "invisible majority" off-ice
staff wouldn't really matter, I'd go to tireless lengths to be sure the
players themselves represented as much "diversity" as it was
mathematically possible to pack into just 15 persons.

We'd try to
represent every possible skin colour and shading, all major non-European
language groups, the least probable national origins, some interesting
religious affiliations, the widest possible range of body weights and
ages, a selection of common physical disabilities, and as many sexual
orientations as we were able to identify through diligent research --
all to be included through combinations of faculties, or absence of
faculties, to the exclusion only of white heterosexual males.

And
yet for all the extremes, the team would be carefully balanced. For
instance, I have in mind six nominal male-type persons, six apparent
females, and three unimpeachable transvestites. Though I admit that is a
fairly arbitrary balance, and I'd be open to juggling the numbers in
other ways.

Now, down to business. I'd certainly want my team to
practise, and that's where the trainers would come in: teaching players
who might never have put on a pair of skates before -- or might refuse
to wear them now -- how to stand up on the ice; how to put on
safety-regulation shin pads and visor helmets and so forth. We might
call in some publicity and fashion consultants to make sure they all
looked very spiffy for the group photographs.

Before we'd ever
played a game, I would expect rave affirmative coverage from, say, the
Toronto Star, and CBC television. In fact, I would suggest some sort of
"countdown" feature to the media, as the team made heroic preparations
for its first game. Indeed, I would make cocky declarations about how
good we were -- sports journalists seem magnetically attracted to such
rhetoric -- and angle for an exhibition match against, say, the NHL
All-Stars.

Then the big night. After some initial, cursory
protests about who was singing the national anthem, and why, we would
take to the ice. All 15 at the same time, including both goalies -- who
would be instructed to lean a 4-by-8 sheet of plywood over the goal
mouth for additional defensive protection. As well, our cheerleaders --
an amateur chorus from a local feminist support group -- would take up
positions around the opposing team's bench, and begin shrieking our team
slogans: "Racist! Sexist! Fascist! Homophobe!"

It's at this point
I would expect the referees to raise some sort of objection. Not to our
cheerleaders, I wouldn't think, they'd be untouchable. Maybe the refs
would object to the plywood, maybe to some other unusual equipment, such
as the high-powered waterguns slung over the shoulders of our
defencepersons, or the fact that our centre was swinging a scythe. But
if they whistled us down for "too many 'men' on the ice," we'd have them
cold.

Immediately our team of Osgoode Hall's finest -- the
complement of lawyers mentioned above -- would swing into action, with
human rights complaints against the linesman who blew the first whistle,
and our first Charter challenge ready to go to court. For who says the
rules of hockey -- which reflect a dark history of cultural and sexual
oppression -- should take priority over Canada's most sensitively
re-formative constitutional document?

But supposing the game got
any further than that, we'd have process servers sweeping down from the
end blues with arrears notices for alleged "deadbeat dads"; cops primed
with assault charges after the first body-check; hate-crime citations
against anyone who laughs; and various other devices to keep our
opponents a little off their game.

We'd also be willing to
negotiate some arrangements out of court. For instance: we remove the
plywood sheet from our goal mouth, if the other side agrees to remove
their goalie.

The long and short of it is, that after several
years of taxpayer-funded litigation, proceeding remorselessly towards
the Supreme Court of Canada -- and no game that lasted more than five
minutes -- we would proudly accept the Stanley Cup. And this as our
reward for "breaking down the barriers that hold Canadians apart."

Alternatively,
and more hopefully, we would find the one issue on which the complacent
reclining couch potatoes of our nation would be willing to rise up.

Favourite Quotes

“The job of a father is this : to help his children develop, to teach them to express and master their emotions; to avoid physiological distress, to provide a context for their experiences; to help them persevere, reach their goals and take on responsibilities; and to instil the roles of citizen, partner and parent. In short, it is to fill their bellies with bread, their brains with wisdom and their hearts with love and courage.” Camil Bouchard, “On Father’s Ground” 2002.

Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" ~ George Bernard Shaw ~ also quoted by Robert F. Kennedy, US Senator and Presidential Candidate assassinated in 1968.

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length. ~ Robert Frost

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Some Gems on relationships

Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is a husband.

The motto of this Father's Rights Activist

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again ... and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." Theodore Roosevelt,

Facts on violence in Canada Domestic and Otherwise

Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile, 2009.

Of the nearly 19 million Canadians who had a current or former spouse in 2009, 6.2% or 1.2 million reported they had been victimized physically or sexually by their partner or spouse during the five years prior to the survey. This proportion was stable from 2004 (6.6%), the last time the victimization survey was conducted, and down from 1999 (7.4%).

A similar proportion of men and women reported experiencing spousal violence during the five years prior to the survey. Among men, 6.0% or about 585,000, encountered spousal violence during this period, compared with 6.4% or 601,000 women.

Total 611, men 465, women 146Rate of homicides with firearms has increased 24% since 2002. Handgun use on increase (gangs don't register their weapons)Women victims 24% - lowest proportion everMen Victims 76%Both the rate of females killed (0.87 per 100,000 population), as well as the proportion(24%), were the lowest since 196162 spousal homicides - no change from 2007Lowest rate in 40 years45 women 17 (27.4%)men

Many DV homicides of men are not classified as such and this number is higher than 27.4%.

In 2009 based on a million couples it can fairly be said 999,998 wives do not kill their husbands and 999,995 husbands do not kill their wives. (See Pg. 15 chart modified from the rate per 100,000.)

In 2009, 49 women and 15 men were killed by a current or former spouse (excludes one same-sex spousal victim).

Total homicides 610, Men 450. Gang related 20.3 percent.69.1 % of firearm related deaths involved handgunsWomen 160, In 2009 it represented the second lowest proportion (26%) of female homicide victims since data were first collected. The rate of female victims has generally been declining since the late 1960s.

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I am Politically active and right of centre on most issues with the odd exception such as legalization of "Mary Jane".
I advocate on changes to Family Law - an incredibly dysfunctional arena where parents are pitted against one another and children are the victims.
My picture will sometimes show me as a younger man simply because I like them.

An Alienated Child

Is a troubled child

American Coalition for Fathers & Children Petition

A quote by a well known Canadian Jurist

The Honorable Justice John Gomery of Canada stated, “Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

(The above quote arises from PSM vs. AJC, a decision rendered by Mr. Justice John Gomery on February 15 1991 (SCM 500-12-184613895), and confirmed by the unanimous judgment of the Court of Appeal on June 14 1991, the trial judge was confronted by a case involving four children caught up in a heated custody battle between their parents whereby the children became "catastrophically" alienated from their mother.)A good paper on PAS for lawyers by a lawyer, Anne-France Goldwater (Avocate), and excerpts from the above trial are located here.