What is the best advise you can give me to save my marriage from going down?

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muslims with. I have learnt alot about Islam since i started reading your
website.

I have
been married for almost 3 years now, and have an 8months old baby. My husband
fell for shaytan and commited zinaa at the same time when i was giving birth to
our child. He has since then changed for the worst.

By the
Grace of Allah i came to find out the whole truth and he admitted it after
almost 6months of secret life with the other woman. He is a very sensitive and
emotional man. Everytime he wishes to repent, the woman would come back trying
to make him guilty of what he did-she even claims to be pregnant.

He
doesnt pray - i have been trying to change him to pray since we married, but it
has been on and off. He has weak Iman and lies about everything. He is a good
man at heart, and always respected me. But has now lost respect for me -
in that he calls me bad names, raised his hand and all that. I do not want to
believe in this but i feel like the other woman has done sihr fo him, because
she deals with witchcraft alot.

At
this point, i have decided to divorce him - but he refuses to. i pray for him
to change - but he seems worse everyday. he doesnt pray at all, lies, doesnt
take responsibility of the family, doesnt want to work. I do not know what to
do to save my marriage. He was not in this state when he married me, so i know
it is not his nature. His family has tried to talk him. My family has tried to
itnervene, his friends. Nothing works.

I am
at a very shaking stage. I do not want to lose my husband to shaytan, but still
i can not live through all this stress.

What
is the best advise you can give me to save my marriage from going down? i want
to help my husband change, and want Allah to help guide him to the right path,
is there any particular du'a that i have to read to get the "sihr"
out of him? please help me urgently.

I pray
that Allah helps me through this difficult time and give me the wisdom to know
right from wrong.

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Answer:

Husband zina magic
save marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.

Your
Question: is there any particular du'a that i have to read to get the
"sihr" out of him?

Allah Says in His Holy Quran Chapter 35 Surah
Fatir verse 2:

2What Allah out of His Mercy doth bestow on mankind there is none can
withhold: what He doth withhold there is none can grant apart from Him: and He
is the Exalted in Power Full of Wisdom.

Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 160:

If Allah helps you none can overcome you: if He
forsakes you who is there after that that can help you?In Allah then let believers put their trust.

Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verse 51:

Say: "Nothing
will happen to us except what Allah has decreed for us:He is our Protector"; and on Allah let the believers put their
trust.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 17:

17If Allah touch thee with affliction none can remove it but He; if He
touch thee with happiness He hath power over all things.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah
Ahzaab verse 3:

And put your trust in Allah Alone; and enough is
Allah as a Disposer of affairs.

Allah is our witness sister, if all the magicians of the
world were to get together and plot and plan to bring about any harm upon
anyone, they would not even be able to damage even one hair on the body of that
individual without the precise Will and Permission of Allah Subhanah, the Lord
of the Worlds!Thus one should neither
fear the Jinns, nor the magicians, nor anything evil approaching them from the
‘unseen’, but rather one should fear Allah their Lord, and keep their full
trust and belief in Him and Him Alone.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4563Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri

Allah's Messenger (saws used to seek refuge
in Allah from jinn and the evil eye in men till the Mu'awwidhatan (Surah 113
Al-Falaq and Surah 114 An-Naas) were revealed, after which he (saws) made use
of them and abandoned everything else.

If ever one fears any evil from any quarter of the
‘unseen’, the guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws) dictates that one
recite the Muawwidhaat (Surahs 113 Al-Falaq and 114 An-Naas), seeking refuge
and putting their complete trust and faith in the Power and Strength and
Protection of Allah Subhanah Alone; it is expected that their Lord Most High
will protect them from any and all evil and no evil or harm will be able to
approach them from any quarter whatsoever.

Your
Question: …..What is the best advise you can give me to save my marriage from
going down?

Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near
‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very
evil way!

Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 2:

The woman and the man
guilty of ‘zina’ (fornication),flog
each one of them with a hundred stripes,and let not pity for them restrain you in regard to a matter prescribed
by Allah;if indeed you believe in Allah
and the Last Day!And let a section of
the believers witness the punishment inflicted on them.

Zina
(fornication and adultery) are considered amongst the gravest sins in
Islam.One can imagine the severity of
the sin,by the punishment Allah and His
Messenger (saws) have decreed for the sin.If one is living in an Islamic State and gets convicted of the sin of
zina (adultery),the punishment
prescribed by Allah and His Messenger (saws) for the life of this world is that
the convict should be stoned to death!!And if the person dies without making Taubah or seeking sincere repentance
for his transgression from Allah Subhanah in the life of this world,the punishment of the Hereafter in the Just
Court of Allah Subhanah is much more severe and lasting!!

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, as a believing and
God-fearing wife of a husband who has transgressed the bounds of the Lord and
committed ‘zina’, you have two lawful options in Islam:

Option-1: If you believe that your husband committed the
evil of zina in ignorance, fears Allah and His Day of Accounting, and is
sincerely ashamed and repentant for his abomination of a crime….and you can
bring yourself to forgive him, it would be best to forgive him his sin and save
your marriage.

Option-2: But if you see that your husband neither fears
Allah nor the Day of Judgment, nor is he ashamed nor repentant for his heinous
crime….and given half an opportunity he would indulge in the same transgression
again; you are well within your rights in Islam and it would be best to
initiate a divorce proceeding and separate yourself from such an evil and
impious person.

But my beloved sister in Islam, as long as you are married
to him, regardless of whether he fulfills his rights towards you or not….it is
your duty as a believing and God-fearing woman to fulfill all your rights
towards him in marriage.Even if it may
seem that the unjust party might get away with his injustice and crime in the
life of this world, rest absolutely assured that he will never ever get away
with his injustice and oppression in the Majestic Presence of the Lord Most
High on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone.Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.