I’ve discovered that while men don’t seem to generally want to talk about infertility when they’re in the midst of it, they seem to positively gush out details after they’ve successfully had children. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve heard all sorts of stories related to infertility, miscarriage, and childbirth.

These same men are also really willing to “tell their stories” about fatherhood. I’m going to start recording some of the more interesting observations and experiences here (after making them anonymous). I’m particularly interested by their willingness to share the raw emotion (good and bad) associated with these experiences.

In other news…

We spent some time this weekend getting ready for the trip. L was struggling with packing, because some of her clothing is starting not to fit properly. Due to her now more ample cleavage, many of her tops are either 1) actually too small, or 2) simply looking too good on (if you know what I mean). Pants are also becoming a struggle, as she doesn’t like anything too tight. It’s a challenge…

L is going for her next OB check-up this week. I’ll make sure to post details on it.

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My recommendation is to try dresses for a little while, as long as they aren’t tight-fitting (stretchy fabric and/or empire waist are generally best). This way she can be comfortable and avoid having to purchase maternity clothes for a while longer, and still look cute. I avoided maternity clothes as long as I could. 14 years ago they were still quite frumpy (not so much the case now, but still, who wants to look they’ve gotten into maternity clothes too soon?).

As for the boobs…that got me thinking. A little advice: take pictures of the parts you like because some of them are never going to look the same again (I say this somewhat seriously). Breastfeeding or not, the enlargement and eventual engorgement changes them. Her belly button will never look the same again (unless she already has an outie and then I’m not sure to be honest). And her hips will not stay as wide as they’ll be at 9 months, but they will be wider than they are now. Not meaning to scare you, and these aren’t necessarily bad things, perhaps even stuff you are already aware of…just saw an opportunity to share some personal experience, and I think knowing in advance is always good.