Picking up toddler, how bad is it?

I have a heavy 13month old who doesn't walk yet. I'm 17weeks with twins(obv). I know it's a question for my doctor, but I don't go for three weeks, and I'm curious what you have all been told. When I do pick him up (get him upstairs for nap, in or out of car,etc), I get so winded it's ridiculous. But no cramping or anything.

I could try to make sure DH is always around at these times, but that's logistically pretty hard.

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My peri has had no problems with me picking up my toddler. (She is about 24 months.) However, once my fundal height hit 40cm at 29 weeks, I had a lot of contractions whenever I exerted myself. This included picking up DD. I have been working with her on being independent and I don't take care of her alone anymore. I just don't have the energy. I am 34 weeks today. Listen to your body. BTW, by they time I started getting big, almost any woman would freak out if I lifted her. Be prepared for that!

I avoid it when I can but at that stage I still picked her up a bit. Now at 30 weeks (measuring 38) I pretty much only pick her up if she's having a tantrum and I have to move her to her room. Otherwise I hold her hand and kneel down give her a hug. I try to cuddle as much as I can that way since I can't carry her. But she's 3 and a bit more self sufficient... it is hard though.

I still lifted my 37lb toddler who just turned 2 two months before the twins were born. I didn't carry her around but did pick her up. I read people say they were advices not to lift over 25lbs but at my 16w checkup my OB said not to lift over 40 unless of course there was an emergency. My mom tried to come over everyday to put my toddler in and out of her crib for naps but that's just silly and I refused. It definitely didn't feel good to pick her up and my back hurt plus I was short of breath while holding her but it passed when I put her down. I didn't have any complications that prevented me from lifting her.

My DS is 30 lbs and 36in at 19 months. I stopped picking him up regularly when my ligaments and lower back put me on pelvic rest for two days. Its especially bad if the twins are both head down and have him.

He is not happy, but compensate by sitting and putting him in my lap or next to me on the rocking chair or couch.

He is to heavy for me now. That was at 21 weeks. I am at 23 weeks now and feel the pain! ;0)