This says in one article pieces of what I have replied in many comments. Excellant article I think.
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December 1, 2005
Unfolding To Others
The Journey Of Finding A Relationship
Before we embark upon the journey of finding the relationship that is right for us, we may want to take the opportunity to refine our concepts of who we are and what we want from life. That way, we are clearer on the kind of person we want to attract into our lives. Part of the journey of finding a mate is learning how to become our own mate. When we can learn to meet our needs without relying on someone else to complete us, we don't have to form relationships from the space of needing our emptiness to be filled. We can also discover our intrinsic value, separate from what someone else might be reflecting back to us. Getting to know who we are and learning to love ourselves creates a solid foundation of self that we can bring to any relationship.

We are fortunate to live in a time when relationships can take on unique forms and unfold at a pace that is right for us. Friendship, dating, open relationships, long term relationships, long distance relationships, or committed relationships - we are free to choose the kind of relationships that we want. If you want to be in relationship, but haven't found the right one for you, remember that the universe works in perfect order. Maybe all this time alone has been part of your preparation period for meeting your intended partner. Even the relationships in our lives that haven't worked out as we had hoped serve us by teaching us to make better choices in our next relationships.

Finding the relationship we want can come early or later in life. It may even happen again and again in one lifetime. There is no right or wrong for how to find a relationship nor is there a timeline that you have to follow. Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, continue to become your own soul mate, and stay open to love. Remember that the journey of finding the right relationship begins with being in right relationship with yourself.

Look...with eyes wide open (observing the other one) and an open mind.

Listen...to my inner voice as well as as what the other one is saying. (Not only to me but to others they interact with)

Learn...by looking and listening I learn about the other one.

I had a relationship w/a man from Chi. I read his profile...talked several months on the fone. We visited back and forth for awhile. It took time (b/c of the distance) but as I looked (observing all when I was with him) and I listened (to what he said to me...and to others) I learned that he had totally misrepresented himself on his profile, said just enough truth to make it believeable (but was not positive as he made it out to be) and I learned he was not someone I wanted to have as a friend, let alone as a lover.

Thunder- that was a point too important to ignore!!!
Look, listen & learn....You don't know how I loved hearing that!
Why does it take some of us so long to learn something as simple as that!
You don't need a fricken degree, it's free and is proven!

thunderunderme write: This says in one article pieces of what I have replied in many comments. Excellant article I think. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ December 1, 2005 Unfolding To Others The Journey Of Finding A Relationship Before we embark upon the journey of finding the relationship that is right for us, we may want to take the opportunity to refine our concepts of who we are and what we want from life. That way, we are clearer on the kind of person we want to attract into our lives. Part of the journey of finding a mate is learning how to become our own mate. When we can learn to meet our needs without relying on someone else to complete us, we don't have to form relationships from the space of needing our emptiness to be filled. We can also discover our intrinsic value, separate from what someone else might be reflecting back to us. Getting to know who we are and learning to love ourselves creates a solid foundation of self that we can bring to any relationship.

We are fortunate to live in a time when relationships can take on unique forms and unfold at a pace that is right for us. Friendship, dating, open relationships, long term relationships, long distance relationships, or committed relationships - we are free to choose the kind of relationships that we want. If you want to be in relationship, but haven't found the right one for you, remember that the universe works in perfect order. Maybe all this time alone has been part of your preparation period for meeting your intended partner. Even the relationships in our lives that haven't worked out as we had hoped serve us by teaching us to make better choices in our next relationships.

Finding the relationship we want can come early or later in life. It may even happen again and again in one lifetime. There is no right or wrong for how to find a relationship nor is there a timeline that you have to follow. Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, continue to become your own soul mate, and stay open to love. Remember that the journey of finding the right relationship begins with being in right relationship with yourself.

Look...with eyes wide open (observing the other one) and an open mind.

Listen...to my inner voice as well as as what the other one is saying. (Not only to me but to others they interact with)

Learn...by looking and listening I learn about the other one.

I had a relationship w/a man from Chi. I read his profile...talked several months on the fone. We visited back and forth for awhile. It took time (b/c of the distance) but as I looked (observing all when I was with him) and I listened (to what he said to me...and to others) I learned that he had totally misrepresented himself on his profile, said just enough truth to make it believeable (but was not positive as he made it out to be) and I learned he was not someone I wanted to have as a friend, let alone as a lover.

thunderunderme write: This says in one article pieces of what I have replied in many comments. Excellant article I think. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ December 1, 2005 Unfolding To Others The Journey Of Finding A Relationship Before we embark upon the journey of finding the relationship that is right for us, we may want to take the opportunity to refine our concepts of who we are and what we want from life. That way, we are clearer on the kind of person we want to attract into our lives. Part of the journey of finding a mate is learning how to become our own mate. When we can learn to meet our needs without relying on someone else to complete us, we don't have to form relationships from the space of needing our emptiness to be filled. We can also discover our intrinsic value, separate from what someone else might be reflecting back to us. Getting to know who we are and learning to love ourselves creates a solid foundation of self that we can bring to any relationship.

We are fortunate to live in a time when relationships can take on unique forms and unfold at a pace that is right for us. Friendship, dating, open relationships, long term relationships, long distance relationships, or committed relationships - we are free to choose the kind of relationships that we want. If you want to be in relationship, but haven't found the right one for you, remember that the universe works in perfect order. Maybe all this time alone has been part of your preparation period for meeting your intended partner. Even the relationships in our lives that haven't worked out as we had hoped serve us by teaching us to make better choices in our next relationships.

Finding the relationship we want can come early or later in life. It may even happen again and again in one lifetime. There is no right or wrong for how to find a relationship nor is there a timeline that you have to follow. Follow your heart, listen to your inner voice, continue to become your own soul mate, and stay open to love. Remember that the journey of finding the right relationship begins with being in right relationship with yourself.

I beleive this into the depths of my soul, Thunder....I had to train myself to trust my instincts or inner voice after so many times I had duct taped ole inner voice's mouth shut stuffed her way down inside myself completeley ignoring her plea for me to listen...
I always told Inner Voice that she was wrong, but more times than not I found in the end that she was right....So as far as I am concerned, Inner Voice and Follow Y. Heart are the two main things that end up making my decisions for me these days...I had to tell Force T. Issue and Reason to move the F. out...Reason had too many excuses and F.T.I.....Well she just got me P.O.ed, and I hate walking around feeling like that.
So although it sometimes takes longer for Inner Voice and Follow Y. Heart to make most decisions, I generally find that things fall into place naturally, without spending a lot of energy with Wasted Emotion(now he's a villan for sure) and whatever happens in the end is really the right fit...Just like finding the right peice to a puzzle...Just snaps into place as if it had always been there...
And it happens in every part of my life too....If I let it....
I love that.