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Unfair X Factor, neglectful friends...

15/11/2010

So the quirky, lovely Aidan got the boot at the X Factor last night - very surprising and to be honest I think Katie should've gone - she looks so vulnerable.

Completely loved Matt’s take on Yellow Brick Road on Saturday night. Some of the notes he hits sound inhuman - incredible - make the hairs stand up on the back of my neck.

I'm rushing off to a conference but this afternoon I have a body language article going live on goodtoknow .co.uk - tracing the year Cheryl Cole's had through pictures from X Factor. Check it out if you're interested in body language analysis.

Over the weekend I chatted to a friend, who complained about another friend of hers, who's being a bit neglectful. My friend says this has never happened to her with a friendship. Yup, with a boyfriend being negelectful - but not a girlfriend.

We had an interesting discussion - bit of an eye-opener for her - but not for me because I hear these things about friendships all the time… as an agony aunt plus also from other friends who've felt let down - and I've been in this position too.

TODAY’S THOUGHT: think about your expectations for the friendship and then put yourself in the other person's shoes - are their expectations the same?

Do they expect to be in touch as much as you do? Or to share as much as you do?

Is their life going through a busy phase so they can’t be as much as a friend as before?

Before you write them off as a friend put it in perspective - ultimately if it comes down to them not wanting as serious a friendship as you do, then keep them as an acquaintance. Try deepening a different friendship instead.

But maybe the final question you ask yourself is: will they be there if you were in difficulties? If the answer is ‘yes’ they'd be there for you then they’re still a pretty good friend.

Happy Monday, Pam X

Books

THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one

I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.

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The Emotional Eater's Diet

My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.

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