Reply To: Emotional affair and surveillance

I haven’t been through an experience like this. However, my best guess is that your husband’s behavior is driven by fear — not a desire to control. His way of coping with his fear may come across as controlling, but again, I suspect the real issue is fear — fear of being alone, fear of abandonment. I don’t know if looking at the situation this way helps you cope with the problem or gives you new insight on how to address the issue, but I hope that it helps.