Sex Drive

If your sex drive is in neutral, chances are it’s life outside the bedroom that’s the root cause of the problem. A number of factors can lead to a lower sex drive — depression, stress, illness, aging, low self esteem, taking anti-depressants, insecurities about body image and drug and alcohol use can all negatively impact the libido.

While a certain decline in virility is to be expected with age, there’s a lot you can do to get yourself back in the saddle. The best way to boost your sex drive is to improve your overall health. Cutting back on bad habits like junk food, smoking and booze, hitting the gym and eating more nutritious food will go a long way toward increasing your sexual desire and potency.

If it’s your lady whose libido is lagging, much of the same advice holds, but you should also talk to her about why she isn’t in the mood. Sometimes the reason is something entirely outside your control, like work-related stress, but it’s also possible that she needs something from you — a stronger emotional bond, proof that you still think she’s sexy or just a little bit of romance might be all it takes.

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