Take him up on the offer of marriage counceling! It can seriously help in all the areas you mentioned. When we finally went, I was days away from filing divorce paperwork, in fact, I put it off until we met with the councelor. Part of what we were able to work on was developing a real partnership, when it came to household chorse, house and car maintenance and the kids, etc. This was a really big deal. I had been complaining about it and building resentment for years, but it took that 3rd party for him to see it was a real problem that he can't just tune out.