I admit it, I’m a bit of a hermit. Sure, I go out once or twice a week, but it’s totally normal for my friends to only see me once a month or so. Most of them just stalk me through social media, and love me anyway.

Lately I’ve been making the rounds and keep getting told how amazing I look. *Brushes shoulders off* thanks peeps. But even more than that, friends are reaching out to me privately to find out what I’m doing to see such great success.

Just this past week I’ve had five different people text or message me asking how I’m doing it.

I think sometimes regardless of how much we know about how to be successful in our weight loss and fitness efforts, it helps to have someone who is doing it tell you the things you already know.

So I tell them. I’m eating healthy. Lots of protein and veggies at every meal. Healthy fats, starchy veggies for carbs. I eat a lot. I don’t drink. I’m very active. I lift weights every day. I rarely eat junk food, and if I do it’s as a special treat and in moderation.

Basically, I do all the things we all know to do but always find reasons why not to.

Yesterday when talking with one awesome friend who recently popped out a human from her vagina (ok actually she had a C-section, but really, it’s the growing the human part that’s hell on the body), she told me:

I’m super jealous.

Boy do I get that. Before I started seeing my own success I remember trolling Instagram on #transformationtuesday and looking at all the amazing before and after pictures. I remember wishing desperately that was me. I would get angry with myself for not being strong enough to get there. In some of my worst moments I would wish I was actually fatter and completely inactive so that I could do something “easy” like just walking around the block to lose weight.

Yes, I was that stupid.

But let’s face it, we’re all our own worst enemies. And for a long time, I was mine.

My advice to my friend?

Don’t be jealous. Do something about it and be your own success story.

I don’t have all the answers. And lord knows half the time I still don’t know what I’m doing. But I’m doing something, and you can too.

So readers, if you’re seeing success let me know. I LOVE LOVE LOVE hearing from you. And if you’re struggling, lay it out there for me as well. I will totally break out my pom pons for you.

Hi Ashley, thanks for the support! I’m limiting. I will still drink on special occasions and whatnot because I enjoy it. I’m really going for a lifestyle change, and don’t want to do anything that isn’t sustainable for me. Not drinking ever again just wouldn’t fly. 😀