Maybe you’re up at 3am, tired but wired, stressing about your to-do list.

Or maybe you’ve spent all week worrying about your big presentation, scared of flubbing it up.

Or perhaps you’re micromanaging your kids’ choices, big and small, lest they screw up and fail.

It could even be small, seemingly innocuous stuff – swiping through Instagram and seeing all those perfect abs and refrigerator contents, stocked full of edible flowers and other exotic garnishes. It can make us feel that our own comfy tummies and drab meals are kinda dull in comparison.

So what can we do?

I’ve got Chloe Brotheridge on the show today. She’s a hypnotherapist, anxiety expert, and author of The Anxiety Solution: A Quieter Mind, a Calmer You. She has featured in Glamour, Women’s Health, Huffington Post, and elsewhere.

Here’s a few highlights from our conversation:

Why you can get used to being on “high alert” (and why it can feel hard to relax)