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Stopped enjoying sex

October 20th, 2018, 01:45 PM

Hi,
Em.. It is embarrassing but I will try my best to explain my problem.
From a very young age I always enjoyed sex and turned on easily by almost everything.
As I got older the urge for sex remained and I loved new experiences in bed.
Lately I noticed that my sex drive is not high as it used be.
I had problems reaching an orgasm while having sex, I had a boner but it wasn't enjoyable for me anymore.
I read a little on the Internet and many people suggested to quit masturbating for a while and so I did.
At first I thought that It might fix the problem.
But, I met 2 girls last week (separately) and they are into the same things I like in bad
When we had sex I managed to orgasm but it still wasn't enjoyable for me.
I just felt unhappy, It did nothing to me on the inside.
And it didn't matter what I tried in bad It still felt some how empty.
I never felt this way before.
Before I will go a to a sex therapy I want to ask for your opinion.
Maybe it is common issue.
Thanks,

A notice,
I don't think sex is a sin or a bad thing and I am not suffering for a depression.
Physically I am also okay and also I have not trouble masturbating.

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"First off, welcome to the Relationship Forums, You'll come to understand that I don't pull any punches when giving my opinion/advice and I hope you're not so sensitive to what I see as the truth of the matter." Me!

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I think Phases is on to something. Sex is just sex. It's not supposed to make you happy, it's a physical act that feels good for a brief period of time. Sex with someone you have a connection and relationship with on the other hand... That's something that makes you feel happy, and lasts more than just a few minutes.

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I am only 25 yo
And I never had a problem having meaningless sex.
In fact I prefer it over having a relationship right now.
Maybe some how I do want to have some thing meaningful.
That's a food for thought.