In both cases, this may be due to the allure of the possibilities that come with mixing ages, interests and backgrounds.Many women who have reached an above-average level of success in their careers grew up in a time when there weren’t that many women in positions of great leadership or authority.Through the years many have watched, or already understood their mothers and sisters to have a powerful say in how they regard women.Though a gender gap most certainly remains, there are many, many more women in positions of leadership, who do not back down from challenges, who compete in many of the same fields as men, and who work side by side with men.

“A man can sometimes make his girlfriend feel like more of a mommy-figure than a peer,” Ludwig says.his dry sense of humor kills you, and dang those eyes!And then you learn that the same year you graduated college, he was wrapping up his freshman year—of high school.“He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.Your biological clock is ticking away, meanwhile his might not even be turned on.

Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but “younger men don’t have the ‘dad” gene in them until they get to be more established and mature,” says New York City-based matchmaker Janis Spindel.