Intimacy in Marriage

Encouraging Christian Women toward Healthy Sexual Intimacy

3 Things I Want You to Know About Me and My Blog

As a Christian wife who blogs about sex in marriage, I am in a pretty small camp.

(Although I'm beyond grateful that I do not camp alone… see the end of my post for links to other gals whose voices are undeniably making a difference as well).

Nearly all of you reading this do not know me personally (but a few of you do).

The fact anyone reads the blog encourages me and gives me hope that some how some way, through God's tender intention, my blog is positively impacting marriages.

I want to share 3 things about me and this blog...

1. I am a real person.

Like all of you, my life has its own share of chaos, confusion and clutter.

At the end of any given day, I still have things I wish I would have been able to check of my list. And I likely have no idea what we're having for dinner.

I share this with you to simply ask for some grace if I do not quickly approve your comments or respond to your emails.

My heart is to give more of myself to this blog, but not at the expense of time with the man who made me his wife and the boys who call me mom.

I also take care of an elderly parent, so there's that. A privilege and honor, yes. And something that requires of me somewhat diligent time management skills.

Please just know that I am a real person, complete with my own slew of flaws, insecurities and questions. I know I miss the mark sometimes in the things I write.

And I know that each blog post I write will not resonate or apply to every married person who reads it.

It's impossible to write a post that will speak to every situation, because you know as much as I know -- each marriage is intricate and unique and wrought with its own challenges and details.

When you read my words, though, trust me -- you are glimpsing into the heart of a real person. Who is trying. To encourage marriages.

2. I appreciate the dialogue on my blog, even when we don't agree.

I am humbled by the call upon my heart to tackle this topic of sexual intimacy in marriage.

I do greatly appreciate the dialogue and hearing from you, even those of you who think I'm completely off track.

Also, I think this is a given, but it is worth pointing out anyway -- simply because I approve a comment doesn't mean I agree with it.

My approval of a comment -- simply allowing it to appear -- is not an endorsement of the ideas or theology expressed in that comment.

Sometimes we agree. Sometimes we don't.

That being said, I don't approve comments with vulgar language or that suggest things like pornography use, adultery, etc. Comments of those sort don't offer any value to my blog or my readers, in my opinion.

3. I am in the process of having my site re-designed.

Most bloggers have their sites redesigned every 2-3 years. My site hasn't changed significantly in 5 years. Time for a re-design for a number of reasons.

I welcome any insights you have about what you like or don't like to see on a website/blog.

Some of you are internet and blogging champions.

You've got this figured out waaayyyy better than I do.

You know what works, and maybe you stop by my site and think, "That girl has gotta do some things differently!"

Seriously, if you have ideas on website features you think are the bomb, please comment on this post with those ideas.

(I'm not begging for your input, but… well… I kind of am begging).

I will again use WordPress as my platform, so maybe you even know of really cool WordPress plugins that I should consider.

Okay, now that we covered those three things I wanted to share, without further adieu here are some other women who I think offer such priceless contribution on this topic of sexual intimacy in marriage:

Thank you again for letting me share! I am extremely grateful to hang out in a little corner of the internet and blog about sex in marriage. So, so grateful.

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10 comments

Luke PinionApril 10, 2015 at 6:56 am

Julie,

I just wanted to say thank you for starting this blog in the first place. You and your blog are the catalyst for change in my marriage. A few years back (2011 or 2012), my wife and I were having trouble getting on the same page when it came to sex and I was really desperate to find information that would help us or at least validate my feelings. I had googled the topic previously, but didn't have much luck finding anything worthwhile.

However, this time I decided to try the search terms "intimacy in marriage" and I bet you can guess what the first result was. Truly, not only did I learn a lot from your blog, but it was through you that I discovered J and Shelia's blogs, among others. Granted, all three of these blogs are aimed at women, but I was able to find information to help understand my wife better and things I could pass along to her.

Anyway, I don't want to tell my life story here, but needless to say a lot has changed in our sex life over the past several years. In fact, I've actually recently felt a calling from God to start some sort of web platform to focus on the topic of how sex was intended to be.

Also, just wanted to tell you that I develop websites professionally and the platform we commonly use is WordPress, so if you are doing this yourself and have any questions, shoot me an email! I'll try to come up with some plugins that might be beneficial to you. Oh, and the only suggestion I have currently is to make sure and keep the mobile version lightweight and easy to use. Previously another blog I read updated his site and whatever platform or plugin he was using made the mobile version really clunky.

Well, this comment is already long enough so I should probably stop here. Thanks again for all that you do!
- Luke

Luke Pinion

JulieSibertPost authorApril 10, 2015 at 7:29 am

@Luke Pinion… THANK YOU so much for your kind words and taking the time to comment. I so humbly appreciate that!

I actually have a web company that is redesigning my site, but I agree with you totally that the mobile version needs to stay light. Such an important aspect, as so many people aren't even using computers anymore… they are doing everything on a phone or tablet, etc.

Dear Julie,
you are not in a little corner. I am reading your posts, and my wife and i have being blessed by reading for about 3 years now from germany. We do not have something similar. I wish your book would be translated into german. You are a real blessing. Continue the good work. Maybe one Day you and your Husband come over to good old germany...Blackforrestcherrycake, german Coffee (not the colored water) and Haribo Gummibärs are walting for both of you.

Julie, thanks so much for writing faithfully, encouraging gals to build their sex life, and graciously responding to discussion.

Lori

AnonymousApril 14, 2015 at 9:05 pm

Hi, I'm more of a lurker but really enjoy reading your blog. It's very thoughtful and engaging. As you said, you allow real dialogue in the comments, which is refreshing, and offer a balanced view for many important topics surrounding the subject of intimacy in marriage. I lean towards the edgier kind of approach to topics, as I think frank and open discussions helps encourage a new, positive approach to sexuality and while you're not as edgy as others, you do a fantastic job!

I actually don't see a need to re-design. I think some bloggers/websites feel a need to do that -- and if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

Sorry to be lateto the party, but super thrilled to have been mentioned. Thank you for your persistence and passion in helping marriages be healthy sexually. It's an honor to do ministry with you, Julie, and the other fabulous women you listed who are compelled to share God's design of sexual intimacy. I represent the low-libido camp. 🙂

Bonny @oysterbed7

SeanApril 27, 2015 at 12:03 am

A while back, you posted a link to a lecture you gave. I really think your sincerity comes through in your voice. I wish you would consider a podcast.

I love your humility--God uses such people to broadcast His Truth for His glory. You are doing a great job. As for the re-do on the website--I'd love to hear what you're planning to do and who you're planning to use. We haven't changed ours either. Agh! Another thing to add to my to-do list!
Love you,
Debi