26.1.13

KRISTA : Also, hi, it’s 2013, not 1951. Everyone on this
planet can play more than one “traditional gender role.” Or none at
all. In my relationship, I am a helluva lot bossier than CJ, but I do all the cleaning and I wear dresses. She does all
the cooking (like I literally do not have to cook, ever) but she wears
boy’s clothes. WHO’S THE GUY OMG I CAN’T TELL. And what will we do if we
do not know who’s the most valuable person in this relationship??

21.1.13

Anonymous
asked: Hi Petra. I feel comfortable asking you this because you
photograph vaginas in a really beautiful way: I am a 22-year-old cis
female who has never masturbated. For some reason, there is something
holding me back inside from even trying - just the thought of putting my
fingers or anything else in my vagina almost makes me want to cry. Do
you have any tips on how to get over this fear?:( your vagina is beautiful - love it - its yours until you die - and it is the most fun you can have! don’t be scared <3!!! xx

"The problem with this book isn’t just that it is violent and sexual,
although that is cause for alarm given its intended age group. The
problem is that these stories praised women for being meek and mild and
virtuous, and doing nothing to save their own lives in the face of
persecution. They taught me something very specific about female
heroism, which is that a good woman, a woman who stands by her beliefs,
is a woman in pain. The best thing for a woman to be is a victim, for
that is true virtue."

(...) "It’s natural to seek voices for our pain, and images to match. But pain
isn’t a condition to which you should aspire. Pain isn’t glamorous, or
deep, or special, or interesting. Pain is usually a sign that something
is wrong, and if it’s fixable, you need to fix it. And any book that
tells you otherwise is suspect. Such stories of female martyrs lead us
astray—they’re a sly and sneaky way to prevent women from ever really
standing up for themselves."

(...) "Of course, these are old stories, and they come from a time when women
didn’t have a lot of options. But we had more in 1962, when Father
Lawrence published his own interpretations. We had more in the ’90s,
when this book was apparently still considered an appropriate gift to
give a small child. And we have a lot more now, when I still see Picture Book of Saints on people’s bookshelves. Maybe it’s time to tell little girls different kinds of stories." Literally the Worst Thing Ever : Picture Book of Saints

15.1.13

14.1.13

"How am I supposed to explain to my child that two men are getting married?"I don't know, it's your shitty kid, you fucking tell him. Two guys are in love, but they can't get married because you don't want to talk to your ugly child for fucking five minutes?

11.1.13

Scott : Let me tell you something about the education systeme. The education systeme produces left brain prisoners. Our brain has two sides. The left brain and the right brain. The left brain is information, data. It's dead. The right brain is individuality. It's where the soul lies. And the education systeme, it works like this : "I will give you a world view. And if you repeat my world view, if you reconfirm my world view, you will pass your exams and you will go higher and higher and higher, and you will become a policeman, a magistrate, a lawyer, a general, a politician, and you will be happy and you will succeed. But if you think for yourself, if you think outside of the box, then you will be unhappy and you will fail."

6.1.13

Oh, I can't take another heartache
Though you say you're my friend I'm at my wits end
You say your love is bonafide
But that don't coincide
With the things that you're doing
When I ask you to be nice
You say you gotta be

Cruel to be kind, in the right measure
Cruel to be kind, it's a very good sign
Cruel to be kind, means that I love you
Baby, you gotta be cruel to be kind

Well, I do my best to understand dear
But you still mystify, and I wanna know why
I pick myself up off the ground And have you knock me back down
Again and again
And when I ask you to explain
You say you gotta be

Cruel to be kind, in the right measure
Cruel to be kind, it's a very good sign
Cruel to be kind, means that I love you
Baby, you gotta be cruel to be kind

5.1.13

Mr Stratford : You should have used the window.Bianca : Hi, daddy.Mr Stratford : Hi. Where are we going?Bianca : Well, if you must know, a small study group of friends.Mr Stratford : Otherwise known as an orgy.Chastity : Mr Stratford, it's just a party!Mr Stratford : And Hell is just a sauna.

3.1.13

"What’s an experiment? It’s a trial without an answer. We’re venturing
into the unknown. We can’t be certain of the outcome — that’s why we’re
experimenting in the first place. Nothing can “make you” gay or bisexual
or straight or trans. You don’t get “turned” by incidences in your
life. These exploratory adventures help you figure it out, but they
don’t determine your sexual identity.

You could be a girl who says she wants to marry her girl friend at
the age of four, who fools around with the neighbor boy at eight, who
practices kissing her best friend at 12, who kisses boys at 14, and who
develops a totally consuming crush on a cool girl at school at 15, and
what are you?

You’re you.

Anybody walking in on you at any one of these moments might jump to
conclusions and make a snap judgment about your sexuality, but they’d be
wrong. Liking boys now doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll be straight
forever (although it might). Jesus, I identified as totally straight
until I was 20.

On the other hand, liking girls now doesn’t necessarily mean that
you’re going to be bi or a lesbian. A friend of mine had only
girlfriends for 32 years of her life, and then she dated and married a
guy this winter, surprising everyone.

Only you know what you like. Only you decide if
you’re straight or bi or gay or queer or asexual — or whether you want to
label yourself at all. Some people know what they are right away. Some
people take years to figure out what they like. Some people are
65-years-old and still figuring it out. It can change. You can spend
your life learning about your preferences.