30.4.17

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23.4.17

For a non-trivial number of people, abstinence
is not only the best policy, it's the only one.

Do asexuals read romance novels? Watch pornography? Read stories
with oversexualized, click-bait headlines? These are the kinds of
mysteries that even a devoted fan of the famously sexless Sherlock Holmes
would love to have investigated.

And though it may not be elementary, dear Reader,
thanks to a decade’s worth of new research into asexuality, we no longer
need a Sherlock Holmes to deduce the answers.

1% of the general population is asexual.

In a new review article and in his recent book Understanding Asexuality, Anthony Bogaert, a psychology professor at Brock University and a leading authority on asexuality, goes over some of the key insights scientists recently have learned on the subject, including why asexuality is so important for understanding the broader spectrum of human sexual behavior.

Humans are hardly alone in the animal kingdom when it comes to sexual
variability.

Researchers, for example, often classify lab
rodents as being “studs” or “duds” according to their levels of sexual
interest.

“Duds,” however, is a serious misnomer when it comes to asexuals.

Their equipment works just as well as anyone
else’s does.

They do, however, demonstrate lower levels of sexual desire. “As one might
expect,” Bogaert tells OZY, “asexual people fantasize at a lower rate than
sexual people. Indeed, a significant percentage have never fantasized.”

More research
on masturbating asexuals is required. Those poor souls.

Another somewhat unexpected finding is that
many asexuals do want romantic relationships. “They want many of the nonsexual aspects of a relationship,” says Lori
Brotto, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of British
Columbia, “which often includes physical activity like cuddling and intimacy,
but it is not connected at all to feelings of wanting sex.” Indeed, next to the
romantic comedy, asexuality research has probably done the most for decoupling
romance and sex, which some neuroscience studies now suggest are the product of
different processes in the brain.
And in a realm of science focused largely on couplings, it is such
decouplings that make research on asexuality so important.

9.4.17

1. Tell
someone how you really feel, whether it’s good, bad, unpopular or ugly. Be
polite, be tactful, but be honest. Stop discussing your true thoughts with
everyone except the one person who needs to hear them.

2. Cut
your hair the way you’ve always wanted to. Do that one thing you’ve always
toyed with the idea of but were too nervous to try. At best, it will make you
feel more “you” than ever before, and at worst, it will grow back anyway.

3. Get
in a car and drive until you’re lost. Explore there.

4. Buy
something from a store you always gawk at online. The balance to strike is
finding something that is simultaneously of good quality but uniquely fits you
and your lifestyle as well. Save up for it if you need to, but work toward
that goal – reaching it will be unbelievably sweet.

5. Re-visit
all of your old favorite places: the restaurant you used to have lunch in every
day, the playground near where you grew up. Your old office, your college
campus. They’re just as important as discovering your uncharted grounds.

6. Return
to the places that have affected you most, for better and for worse. Neutralize
the energy there. Realize the difference between who you once were and the
person who is sitting there now. Realize that what happened has no hold on
you in actuality, just in mentality.

7. Do a
ceremonial bonfire where you write down all the things you want to let go of
from the past year on pieces of paper, say them out loud, and then throw them
in. See it as the beginning of a renewed effort to move on.

8. Create a
sacred space of your own. It could be your bedroom as a whole, in a space set
aside to meditate, on a board of photos of the people you love and the things
you want, whatever. It’s as simple as putting some flowers and favorite photos
or pieces of art in your cubicle. Externalize what’s internally important
to you, even just representationally.

9. Pick up
a book that you wouldn’t normally be interested in and read it. Read it from
cover to cover, even if, at times, you’re forcing yourself to get through it.
Read until you find something within it that sparks your interest. There are
always things left to be learned, always interests left to be discovered, it’s
just getting past the anxiety of moving outside your comfort zone that stops
you.

10. If you
meet someone and start to develop feelings for them, don’t play the game you
know all too well: just ask them out. Be direct, be forthcoming, be real. It
may result in a broken heart, but it’s better now then more of your life wasted
wondering about “what ifs” to eventually have to come to terms with a much
harder truth.

11. Save
up for and then take a trip to that one place you’ve always talked about going
to, but have never found the time or means to do so. There will always be
another excuse not to go if you look for it. Don’t let those excuses stand in
your way.

12. Apply
for the job you always talk about wanting to have “someday.” Or at minimum,
apply for a job that will get you on the ladder to getting there.

13. Repurpose
your clothing and make it true to whatever your style is now. There’s nothing
quite like genuine vintage, and style is only as great as your ability to
import personality into it is.

14. Put
your phone down, turn your computer off, go out into the world and just live.
Delete a social media account, temporarily or for good, and let it go. Realize
that your own happiness will not be found in reading about the updates of
others’ lives. Take that technology-hiatus you’ve always dreamed about.

15. Meet
new people. The task of doing so seems so unapproachable and awkward, but it’s
really not. It’s a simple matter of going slightly out of your way in your
day-to-day life. Frequent new shops, hang out with friends and have them invite
other friends you’ve never met before. Take a class, visit a new museum, walk
down a different block. Strike up conversation with the people you come across.
Companionship usually doesn’t just fall in your lap.

16. Get
tickets to see your favorite band play live. Getting lost in the music and the
atmosphere is unlike anything else you’ll ever experience again.

17. Decide
who you want to be and become it. Not in an overly-optimistic but ultimately
unrealistic sense — take baby steps. Change begins with the decision to do
so. Learn to live a little more and fear a little less. Watch what unfolds as
you do.