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Topic: What are my chances precum has infected me with any form of HIV? (Read 3544 times)

I'm a healthy 19 year old and very rarely subject to illness.However, last saturday I met a man online and engaged in sexual activites..which went as follows:We performed oral on eachotherHe then inserted his penis, which was covered in precum inside me (BUT not fully)HE DID NOT EJACULATE INSIDE ME

The 'anal' lasted around 10-20seconds before I said stop, I'm reletively certain he didn't go fully in as I felt not real pain at all and I'm a virgin afterall with anal.

I'm here because I'm stressed, panicked, and anxious. The man, well in his 40s is in a relationship, and has gotten 'around' so to speak. He claims to use protection although he didnt with me so I aroused suspicion..He also claims he is clean and last tested feb of the new year, and the majority of guys he gets with never escalates past mutual masturbation, and they are married.

He seemed absolutely genuine, and was a gentleman to me. Before he blocked my number (as i bombarded him with concerned messages) he repeatedly told me he is clean and that he has no reason otherwise to believe he is not clean.

I visited my doctor who claims my chances of receiving HIV from this act is less than 1%..I am here just for more confirmation. I have booked a checkup next wednesday But i am absoltely stressing out

So, in conclusion, what are the chances his pre cum has infected me via oral or anal

Forget about his claims to be "clean". I can also claim to be clean and I also have no reason to otherwise believe I am not clean - because I just got out of the shower. I'm also hiv positive. Using the word clean to describe the state of a person's health is not only offensive, it's also just plain silly. Don't use that term here again.

Any time you have unprotected receptive anal intercourse you are putting yourself at risk for hiv as well as other STIs. Same goes for insertive anal intercourse, but receptive is much, MUCH more risky across the board.

You need to stop relying on a person's word regarding their sexual health and start relying on condoms. Many people only think they're hiv negative and unfortunately, some people will lie. You need to assume every guy you're with is hiv positive and protect yourself accordingly by insisting on condoms for anal intercourse.

By the way, the oral isn't the problem here - the problem is the unprotected anal. Oral is only a potential hiv problem when the person doing the sucking has really terrible oral health (think "meth mouth") and the person being sucked has a very high viral load.

You most definitely have had a risk and you do need to test. The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Honestly, in my opinion, your doctor was being exceedingly irresponsible for giving you a "percent chance" of infection number, because these types of numbers can never accurately be known as there are too many variables.

For example, this guy claims to be STI free but if he's barebacking with you, who knows how many other men he's been barebacking with.

If he has been recently infected but is unaware of that fact, his viral load may be very high. Precum also contains the virus and even though he did not ejaculate in you and it was only a brief insertion, the very real possibility of transmission is there.

If he's hiv positive and is unaware of that fact, and also has a concurrent STI that he is also unaware of, then chances are his viral load is high indeed. It's not only hiv that barebackers need to worry about and again, who knows how many men he's doing this with.

What transpired between you two is sometimes referred to as "dipping", and dipping has been the cause of many a bottom's hiv infection.

Bottom line is this - you have had a risk and you do need to test.

If you want to split hairs, I'd say it was a medium high risk, but not really a low risk. Precum was present and unless he barely entered you (it sounds as though it was deeper than that - perhaps not balls-deep, but more than a quarter inch), well, you're just going to have to test and find out.

I sincerely hope you come out of this hiv negative - and if you do, I also sincerely hope you learn from this experience and start relying on condoms rather than a guy's word.

If you dodge the bullet this time, don't take this as meaning you had a low risk. Any time you allow a top to put his bare penis into your bottom, you're risking hiv and a whole host of other STIs as well. Please wise up.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts