I see a lot of emphasis on affirmations as a means of developing yourself or growing as a person. So many coaches, self-help authors and other guru types say that affirmations are key to living a better life. But do affirmations really work? Can they change how you act and feel?

The answer is yes, but…

Yes. Affirmations can help you reinforce beliefs about yourself that you want to have. They can help you override negative programming that inhibits your growth. Affirmations can create motivation and focus in times where you need it.

But, there’s more to the story. As Boston’s top psychic, people often come to me because their traditional coping mechanisms aren’t working, or they’re not seeing progress with the methods they’ve learned elsewhere. I often find clients who have relied on affirmations, but are not seeing positive results because they were not taught specifics about how affirmations work. They feel stuck and in need of guidance.

What I’ve discovered in my 25+ years of seeing clients is that affirmations aren’t a cure-all. For them to work, some specific guidelines should be followed.

Boston’s Top Psychic’s Guideline #1: Affirmations Should Be True

Often people are told to create affirmations that state what they would like to happen as if it’s already happened. This ties into the law of attraction and manifestation. In my experience though, affirmations need to be more carefully crafted. They are more about your internal state, rather than what you’re manifesting externally. Manifesting and affirmations are similar, but they aren’t the same.

I recommend that you choose affirmations that are true, but positive. For example, rather than saying “I have all the career success I’ve ever wanted” which sounds good, but may not yet be true, you could say “I am working hard. I deserve to be recognized and rewarded.”

This is both true, and contains positive messages of confidence about the future.

Boston’s Top Psychic’s Guideline # 2: Affirmations Should Be Positive

When working with affirmations and self-talk removing the word “no” or “not” is very helpful. I have found that in both the spiritual and the mental realm, working from a place of what we don’t want or don’t like is going against the current.

For example, as Boston’s top psychic, I connect with the energy of so many people who have asked me to help. When a client is very focused on what they don’t want, as opposed to what they do want, it’s hard to feel their positive outcome flowing towards them. Their energy is one of rejection, and so it can be harder for their desired outcome to be acheived.

Affirmations take place in the spiritual realm using thought energy. It’s not impossible to attract good things using negative affirmations, but it’s like pushing something uphill. It takes way more work.

Choose affirmations that state what you want, not what you reject and everything will flow more easily. “I won’t be bad and eat junk food. I don’t crave sweets,” is not ideal. Instead try, “My body wants healthy food, and I am happy to give it nourishment.”

Boston’s Top Psychic’s Guideline #3: Affirmations Should Be Personal

You should choose affirmations that are in line with your own personal dreams and goals. The more personal and specific you are, the better your results will be.

Studies have actually shown that referring to yourself in the third person when talking to yourself is also helpful. This is an interesting effect, and I believe when you open yourself up to personal affirmations that use your name, you’re more connected with the guidance that you’re receiving from spiritual sources. This is because you are talking to yourself as if you are a friend or relative, which your guides often are.

I am a psychic with decades of experience and intuitive skills that I have honed over my career. For me, my intuition is easier to hear. But everyone receives intuitions, and has differing levels of receptiveness to them.

Don’t be afraid to use these intuitive messages to create affirmations for yourself.

But I know It can be very hard to hear one’s intuition clearly. This is especially true if you have no experience or training in listening to higher consciousness. If you are having trouble connecting, I offer intuitive coaching packages as Boston’s Top Psychic to help you connect to the guidance that is available to you from beyond our natural understanding.

Working with me can help you reconnect to this guidance, and to begin to know intuitively what the strongest path for your growth is going forward. Use the CONTACT US form and leave us a message and your contact information. To book a reading with me CLICK HERE.

There has been a lot of talk about the Law of Attraction in recent years yet many are still not certain what it is nor how to employ it to their own benefit. A tempting promise of all our dreams coming true, it leaves one wondering – is it really true? And does it work? If you ask Boston’s top psychic – it really does. But let’s start at the beginning.

What exactly is the Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction basically tells us of the power of our mind. It can be summed up in the premise that positive thoughts bring about positive change while negative ones attract negative outcomes.

This sort of magnetic interaction is made possible by the fact that everything is made up of energy – we as people, our thoughts and emotions, as well as situations we may or may not get ourselves into.

If we choose to focus on the positive and the uplifting, we will bring it into our lives. If we dwell on the negative and constantly worry, what we fear will happen may as well happen.

It’s all science!

In short, every single object, being or energy in the Universe is, in one way or another, connected with each other. If we take into consideration the power of the mind and its vibrations, it is not hard to see how we can use our very own thoughts to attract what we need the most into our life.

How do you put it into practice?

The Law of Attraction operates through positive and affirmative thought which repositions the mind’s focus to be goal-oriented. Instead of worry comes hope, instead of anxiety – enthusiasm. Affirmations and creative visualization are used to help the person clearly define their dreams.

Only if we know what we are striving for can we truly hold it in our mind’s eye, truly see it and feel it as if it were the reality, here and now. This intense feeling, in turn, creates a magnetic force that allows us to bring into our existence what we have been yearning for all along.

If you don’t like something – change it! You can manifest love, attract money, speed up physical and emotional healing, and increase self-confidence. And remember – be sure to keep your eyes on the prize and don’t fret much about what lies in between. Keep going!

Ok. Great. Should I buy my lottery ticket now?

The Law of Attraction is one piece of the puzzle but by no means the whole picture. Said picture is painted by you. The Law of Attraction serves as your guiding light, your inspiration. It is the magnetic field that draws you closer to your goals. Liberating and empowering, it is a helping hand from above.

Do be prepared to invest a great deal of work into making your dreams come true. The more you try, the more the Divine will come to your aid and bless your endeavors. Boston’s top psychic guarantees that the Universe is on your side!

Having an intuitive reading can be a good first step towards creating a life that you love. If you’d like to book a session with MaryLee CLICK HERE.

What were the holidays like at your house?

Did you all gather together at grandma’s house every year? Did you have special holiday traditions and experiences together you’re always reminded of during this season?

If this time of year was really special and celebrated by those who’ve now crossed over, you can rest assured it still is a special time for them. They likely do visit more often during the holiday season, reminiscing about the time you all shared together, just like you are.

Also, it’s often your thoughts that bring their Spirit to you, so if you find yourself thinking about lost loved ones more during the holiday season, they will be around more.

Keep your eyes peeled for magic and signs all around you, as Spirit abounds during this season!

On the other hand, if your family didn’t spend much time together during the holiday season, or especially if it became a time of strife or bad memories, then spirits will likely not be around (any more than usual) during this season.

Are Spirits always around us?

Though Spirits want to support us as much as they can from the Other Side, they aren’t around us 24/7. Think of them off enjoying the grand adventures that Spiritland has to offer!

They do come to our side when we need them though, during times of challenge or struggle, when we need emotional, mental and spiritual support.

You can reach out to them at any time simply by thinking of them. Know that if you are missing them, they are missing you.

Want to communicate with your lost loved ones this holiday season?

If you’re thinking of your loved ones during the holidays, this is the perfect time to reach out to them in Spirit. I recommend booking a mediumship session where I act as a bridge to communicate messages from your loved ones. If you’re wanting to communicate with them, this is a very special way to do so. Please get in touch with any questions or to schedule a reading for yourself.

It seems awareness is growing around the fact that some people are ultra-sensitive to energy in their surroundings, both from the environment and other people.

Psychics certainly place themselves in this group, as once you start to open up your sixth senses and intuitive awareness, it makes you much more open to receiving and sensing the energy of sentient beings everywhere!

This sensitivity is certainly an asset when it comes to psychic work, and is safe when you’re in a controlled environment. But out in the big wide world, it can become cumbersome and overwhelming to be so “open” all the time, and if you aren’t using the tools you have to ground, release and protect your energy, it can be easy to become over-stimulated and short-circuit.

So, here are some ways that I personally rely on to manage psychic burnout:

This is the most important key, really, as our nervous system is the storehouse for all the energy we receive. When we take on any energy from our external environment, it’s important to have practices and tools to rely on that help you come back to center, de-stress and find a place of calm. Meditation, slow movement like tai-chi or hatha yoga, a relaxing bath, breathing exercises- these are some simple ways to settle your nervous system down and return to a state of calm energy.

Managing psychic burnout tip #2: Drink lots of water (always)I can’t stress the importance enough of drinking water, not just for its health purposes, but also because of its ability to shift, carry and transmute energy! Drinking water flushes out residual build up in your system, including energetic residue that you’ve collected from the environment. Water is also a great way to ground yourself as it’s direct from the Earth! The first place always to start, if you’re feeling a little off, overwhelmed, anxious, etc- drink more water.

If you feel sensitive to the environment around you, just imagine how sensitive your inner environment is! Good nutrition that lessens (or eliminates!) sugars and processed foods is so valuable for our overall health, but also to support our nervous system’s ability to return to homeostasis and encourage the release of built-up toxins that can impede and inhibit our natural senses and abilities. Treat your body like the vessel for wisdom and Spirit that it is!

Managing psychic burnout tip #4: Showers help remove energetic residueWater is so good at helping manage psychic burnout, we had to mention it twice! Not only do you need to drink lots and lots of it, but bathing in it, especially under moving water like a shower (or waterfall if you’re lucky enough!) can actually wash away the energetic residue you’ve built up. Water is a receptive energy, it has intelligence, a Spirit- as you shower you can ask the water to help you remove any psychic debris or energy that does not belong to you.

When we’re in our psychic awareness, we are energetically lifted up into our third eye and crown chakras to access the information. That can become hard when we need to come back to Earth and get the bills paid. If you’re at all psychically sensitive, it’s important to incorporate grounding practices into your daily routine. These can help especially when you’re feeling flighty or scatterbrained. Check out this post to learn easy ways to ground yourself, as well as more info as to why grounding is so important in helping manage psychic burnout!

Are you extra sensitive? You could have psychic awareness

We all have intuitive abilities, it just takes awakening them and then dedicating ourselves to the practice of using them. If you feel you’re extra sensitive, please use these tips to avoid burnout, and know that you may very well be psychically inclined.

With this keen sensitivity and sensibility that allows us to read other people’s energy fields, it can become easy to take on too much external energy, which can lead to feeling overstimulated.

Even seemingly simple things like poor nutrition, lack of sleep, or too much noise, can make us feel off balance.

The good news is, there are many ways to prevent and counteract these effects of your psychic sensitivity, that are healthy and easy to incorporate into everyday life! Here are a few tips!

Grounding is one of the Most Effective ways to Manage your Psychic Sensitivity

It can’t be overstated how important and beneficial grounding is, for everyone really, but especially for those of us with psychic sensitivity.

When you’re open to divine guidance and actively receiving it, all your upper chakras are activated and helping to lift up your energy field and consciousness to receive wisdom from the higher realms.

This can quite literally take your spirit out of your body, and grounding is an important way to get back down to Earth after using your psychic gifts or playing in the astral realms.

Grounding is also the simplest way to quickly de-stress and release any negative or overstimulated energy you may have collected from your thoughts, experiences and interactions throughout the day.

Using grounding techniques is also a great way to help you establish and connect with your own energy field. You can use them to create energetic boundaries before you interact with Spirit, people, or even answer an email, so that you can be sure you’ll be able to respond from centeredness, rather than react from a state of imbalance, in any situation.

Get your bare feet on the grass, dirt or some piece of the Earth, in order to ground the electricity in your body and connect you back to the support of nature

Take a walk out in nature. Breathe. Get your heart rate up. Observe and notice the world around you. Practice presence and staying connected to your breath, and the moment right in front of you.

Do a grounding meditation visualizing roots coming from the bottom of your feet, and connecting to the center of the Earth. You can release any stress, anxiety or overstimulation into the ground, through those roots, and also use them to bring that stable Earth energy back up into your body, where you can use it!

Take a shower or bath. Wash the dishes by hand. Get into a body of water. Drink more water! Water is both grounding and nurturing, helping to bring you back into balance within yourself and connect with your emotional sensitivity. It can also be conducive to receiving psychic guidance as its a strong conductor of energy.

Using tools like grounding crystals and certain essential oils and flower essences can affect your energy field in subtle ways, to ground and protect you psychically and enhance the power you already have within. Do your research to find which tools you’re drawn to!

Are you psychically sensitive?

I am attuned to working with our particular energy and have learned many ways over the years in how to deal with my own psychic sensitivity. I love to help others discover and grow their own intuitive gifts. CLICK HERE to learn about my psychic intuitive coaching where I can help you learn to work with and develop your own intuition.

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