don't want to be rude...

So, my hub's dad and stepmom, after we broke the news of being pregnant, said they wanted to give us a crib. That was a few months ago. When I asked hubby about it, I asked if he would mention to them that I found an inexpensive one that I really liked, that I didn't want them to think we needed a very expensive one. He told me that even that would be rude, that they would probably buy the cheapest thing they could find! I'm at my wits end because we didn't even hear from them at Christmas, and DH refuses to let me go ahead and buy the one I liked (which would run us about $150), since he still thinks they're going to give us one. What would you do??

So, my hub's dad and stepmom, after we broke the news of being pregnant, said they wanted to give us a crib. That was a few months ago. When I asked hubby about it, I asked if he would mention to them that I found an inexpensive one that I really liked, that I didn't want them to think we needed a very expensive one. He told me that even that would be rude, that they would probably buy the cheapest thing they could find! I'm at my wits end because we didn't even hear from them at Christmas, and DH refuses to let me go ahead and buy the one I liked (which would run us about $150), since he still thinks they're going to give us one. What would you do??

I would tell them about the one you found. My hubs dad & step-mom are the same way and I have to remind them or drop hints a lot. I always do it in a friendly, polite way and they never mind. Maybe just chat with the step-mom? Do some "girl talk" And mention you found one you liked and were impressed it was so affordable? Best of luck!

I would tell them about the one you found. My hubs dad & step-mom are the same way and I have to remind them or drop hints a lot. I always do it in a friendly, polite way and they never mind. Maybe just chat with the step-mom? Do some "girl talk" And mention you found one you liked and were impressed it was so affordable? Best of luck!

I think a crib is definitely something that can be put off. More often than not, you don't use the crib for a while in the beginning anyways, so try not to stress about not having one right now. But if I were you, I'd be pissed. Unless you want unneeded drama you kinda have to bite your tongue on this one.. But I'd really want to just go out and buy my own too. It's really inconsiderate of them to never update you on what they're doing..so you're sitting here wondering if they've forgotten about it or what's going on. Not to mention not being able to do all your nesting and finish a nursery!

I think a crib is definitely something that can be put off. More often than not, you don't use the crib for a while in the beginning anyways, so try not to stress about not having one right now. But if I were you, I'd be pissed. Unless you want unneeded drama you kinda have to bite your tongue on this one.. But I'd really want to just go out and buy my own too. It's really inconsiderate of them to never update you on what they're doing..so you're sitting here wondering if they've forgotten about it or what's going on. Not to mention not being able to do all your nesting and finish a nursery!

I wish I felt comfortable enough with them to drop hints or even flat out ask- I'm not close enough with them. I also had a friend say she wanted to throw me a shower, and here I am 33 weeks and she hasn't said a thing... Why do people say things they don't mean? It's making me really disappointed, it's not like I even asked for these things but I feel like if you're going to offer you should at least pull through..... Am I right? :/

I wish I felt comfortable enough with them to drop hints or even flat out ask- I'm not close enough with them. I also had a friend say she wanted to throw me a shower, and here I am 33 weeks and she hasn't said a thing... Why do people say things they don't mean? It's making me really disappointed, it's not like I even asked for these things but I feel like if you're going to offer you should at least pull through..... Am I right? :/

I had to drop subtle hints to my coworker (who said she would host my baby shower). Finally she started doing things for it when I told her my mom booked the hall haha (it was free, but she had to do it because it's at the club house where she lives)

I had to drop subtle hints to my coworker (who said she would host my baby shower). Finally she started doing things for it when I told her my mom booked the hall haha (it was free, but she had to do it because it's at the club house where she lives)

Buy it. My in-laws promised months ago they would furnish the nursery... In October I realized it wasn't gonna happen so my parents helped us furnish the nursery. They will get over it. Mine did eventually. You can't be expected to wait around.

Buy it. My in-laws promised months ago they would furnish the nursery... In October I realized it wasn't gonna happen so my parents helped us furnish the nursery. They will get over it. Mine did eventually. You can't be expected to wait around.

I agree baconcookies. People sure can be unreliable. I have learned to believe No One! There are a select few I can trust but I don't take anyone's word as good for anything. People are flakes. And I'm the kind of person who will commit when I say I will so it bugs me so much more when people don't keep their word. So I expect the worst and hope they follow through but not surprised if they don't.

I agree baconcookies. People sure can be unreliable. I have learned to believe No One! There are a select few I can trust but I don't take anyone's word as good for anything. People are flakes. And I'm the kind of person who will commit when I say I will so it bugs me so much more when people don't keep their word. So I expect the worst and hope they follow through but not surprised if they don't.

My hubs dad and stepmom got us our crib to, but what he had to convince them of was the one I wanted was at Walmart, and the second choice was 75$ more and at babies rus. Well my father in law would rather cut off his penis than buy anything from Walmart, and my husband finally convinced him that that was the one I wanted and if they wanted to buy the crib then he would just have to get over the fact it was at Walmart. We got the crib but not without a fight.

My hubs dad and stepmom got us our crib to, but what he had to convince them of was the one I wanted was at Walmart, and the second choice was 75$ more and at babies rus. Well my father in law would rather cut off his penis than buy anything from Walmart, and my husband finally convinced him that that was the one I wanted and if they wanted to buy the crib then he would just have to get over the fact it was at Walmart. We got the crib but not without a fight.

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