Getting in Gear!

Wednesday, July 03, 2013

Since I can’t sleep – I might as well blog, right? I’ll just post this in the morning...

I’m playing the waiting game. I went for my second interview on Monday. I don’t know how it went. I like it. I want to work there... I just... don’t know. I don’t know if I sounded smart. Asked enough questions... made it seem like I really wanted to work there... its just weird. I don’t know if I messed it up. So instead of worrying about it = I just did my nails. That’s what I usually do.

On Tuesday (today for me) – I was able to meet up with TJ for lunch since he was over on my side of the river to audit a pharmacy. That was nice – we usually don’t get to see each other during the week unless we’re going to a wedding (seriously). Then I stocked up on healthy groceries. I made a GIANT salad full of veggies. I think that’s part of my problem = not buying the healthy stuff and then eating whatever is around in my parents house. This is a horrible, horrible habit. I need to get myself down to the farm stands now that its summer.

Anyway after lunch TJ got some good news. St. Charles, MO has just gotten its very own CHL (minor league professional hockey) team. Its brand spanking new – and they are having an open tryout in late August. I don’t know if I mentioned it, but TJ is a retired goalie. He didn’t play in college, and would have probably played at Wisconsin, but he decided to enlist in the Navy instead. One very unlucky injury later he had to medically discharge from the Navy and they basically won’t let him back in even though he’s tried – he’s had too many injuries and concussions.

So back to the hockey thing – this is basically the one thing that TJ has wanted to do his entire life, so the thought of possibly playing professional hockey at ALL for any team makes him ridiculously excited. And I know how much he loves it and wants to go for it, so I’m supporting him 100%.... but we’re both outta shape. He’s got less than two months to lose a belly and get his flexibility and stamina back up to par to give a good showing at the tryout.

He’s so focused on this that he’s going to hit it hard. Today he worked on his food plan and reorganized his parents basement (yep – living at home to save $$ like me) to get his weights back in order. He even hung up motivational hockey posters. Then he went to bed three hours before he normally does, so that he can get up before work and lift.

I’m kind of sitting back flabbergasted at just how motivated he has become so quickly. We both have gained weight since we started dating. I fell into a bad trap of wanting to please him and cook him delicious food while recovering from my surgery. But that is no longer an excuse. He even told me he’s going to go back to a no-beer/drinking policy until after the tryouts. No excess carbs. He’s going to do lean chicken and pork with brown rice and corn (did I mention he doesn’t eat veggeies?) – and do a sh*t ton of cardio in addition to lifting.

I am 100% supporting this boy. If it takes 2 months for him to have a shot at his dream – why not try? I already told him if they took him on as a goalie, that I’d support his decision to leave his current job – even if it was a significant pay cut. I’ve been thinking about this all day. No matter what happens this will be good for him. He can meet hockey guys in StL that he’s been wanting to get connected to, so even if he doesn’t make this team, he can find a club team he likes in the area.

Out of all of the positives, I am just wondering what its going to be like to see him drop a lot of weight and gain muscle so quickly, when I know I won’t be able to do the same. So for the ladies on here who have watched their SOs lose weight rapidly while you struggle, is there anything I need to watch out for? Any coping stuff? I’m just trying to stay positive and think about the hot hockey boyfriend I’m getting out of this deal.

Also, this will mean more activities outside. He’s been a lazybones, not wanting to go on walks or anything – and suddenly its all *cardio, cardio, cardio!* He told me we might not spend as much time together if he’s at the gym – and I called BS – I said I’d be there with him. So we’ll see. I’m optimistic that this will have at least given TJ the shot in the arm he needed to be motivated to get back in shape. Ditto for me. I tried on a few pairs of my conference/dress pants... and they didn’t quite fit in the thighs. I need to get my treadmill hooked up in my garage so that I can train – come 80+ humid weather or not and sweat like a mo-fo out in that garage at a 5-10% incline. My legs are in shambles. Its almost shocking to see how far out of shape I really have become.

My arms are currently sore from my lifting tonight. My abs are sore from crunches.... and my brain is sore from overthinking things. It’s a common thing I do. I also will not be bugging my boy about a ring anytime soon. That has just fallen down his priority list right now. He was planning on going up to the family jeweler with his mother to broker the “family discount” on my ring... but I’m going to take a leap and say that he’s not going to do it until AFTER August 25th now.

Oh well – I am happy for him. Legit happy. I honestly hope he gets it, and if he doesn’t we’ll both be going to games at the Family Area since its about 5 minutes from his house. *Fingers still crossed on good job news...*

Everyone have a happy and healthy 4th!

Edit: Wednesday

I weighed in. HOLY F*CKING SH*T. Sorry for the cursing but I weigh 199. FML. Seriously hitting this hardcore now.

MINEA999
Well let's say you caught it early enough to do something about it! Now that you have the BF on board for his own health, getting yours back as a priority will be easier. I know how it is - something about meeting a mate makes people fat. haha.

MEGYSU
Sometimes it takes that "something" to get you going. Maybe this will be that for you. I don't know about you - but I'm competitive and if my guy was hitting the gym, I wouldn't want to be outdone. It's awesome that you will be able to work out together and motivate each other.

Try not to be too discouraged about the gain. You've lost so much - taking that 15 off won't take long at all. 1719 days ago

CHODGES83
Exciting times! I have no coping mechanisms for dealing with my SO losing weight/gaining muscle waaaayy easier than me. I just try to be supportive and he is of me as well. Good luck with everything going on right now! 1719 days ago

SKINNYYENNY
Wow - a lot going on right now! That is so cool that the bf is going to try out for the hockey team! That will definitely be both huge motivation and probably some frustration to see him shape up. It makes me crazy that my former soccer playing DH can drop 15 lbs just by thinking about it pretty much. Stupid body thinking we need fat to birth babies...grumble grumble...Summer is the easiest time to eat healthy - get your butt to the farmer's market and no excuses!

SKAHONEY4U
Sorry about the gain. Sometimes that is the only thing that will get us back in gear, though.

Great to hear he is so passionate about the hockey stuff! My boyfriend and I started sparkpeople together, and he is almost at his target weight, while I am at least a year away still. it is tough. i'm jealous for a lot of reasons. with all of the weight training he does, he has some nice muscles now, which means he has to eat a lot, which is tough for me. sometimes we fight about food. mainly because im always ready for dinner at like 630, but sometimes he isnt because he can come home from lab and eat a huge snack and not be hungry for dinner until like 9, and i cant do that. or he can drink 4 beers and still be in his calorie range for the day. ugh. he also super laps me in the pool when we swim, which makes me sad.

on the other hand, we always workout together, and so its really great to have a partner. though, usually i am the one having to motivate us, not vice versa. he is almost always supportive, and understands that i can only bike 4 miles right now.

KCLARK89
Maybe since he is going to be hitting it hard and you want to as well, you can set up a challenge for the two of you. How many minutes can you get/week at the gym? Who can lose the biggest % of bodyweight in x-number of days. That way instead of working out with him because he has a tangible goal to get to for his hockey tryout, you have something specific to strive for as well!1720 days ago