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She became a real pain...

My now 14 yr. old daughter has been seeing a boy for past 7 mths. - her whole attitude changed & she became a real pain to deal with, after he had really shown his true colors at her birthday party 3 wks. ago- I explained my concerns, which lead to a very defensive conversation on her part & she ending up yelling at me in his defense-- in turn I explained that she could now only see him at school, but that she will no longer see or speak to him outside of school-- & 3 weeks later- the fight still rages on-- she is so angry with me.. I dated a boy just like him when I was her age until I was 17, she had made it clear that she had no intentions of ending the relationship on her own- so after I had my declaration of no longer allowing her contact with him outside of school- she chose to break it off. Am I wrong? In the meantime, she has a bestfriend that is a boy whom the entire family adores- & who is absolutely crazy over her- & she him to! o- I think, but still rebelling against my forcing ehr hand with the EX, she won't give the little guy a chance & continues to lead him around like a lost puppy-- I feel so bad for him & so angry with her.. Have i meddled too much? HELP

There is nothing you can do. The more you are against him, the longer she'll stay with him just to be against you. Pretend you like him and then hopefully she will see his faults and break up with him.

i disagree with everyone, i think it is your business who your 14yr old dates. if you feel this boy is bad for your daughter you dont have to let her ride it through and see how it goes at that age, maybe when she is 16. you should keep preventing her from seeing him out of school hours. i know of 2 women who had bad feelings about their 14 and 15 yr old daughters but let them work it out themselves and one of the girls was beaten while the other was degraded. your daughter is 14 and you have every right to decide if she can have a boyfriend, its your job to protect her, i know a lot of 14yr olds arent even allowed to have a boyfriend at that age. and it is bad luck if she doesnt like it, she is still only a kid.