I recently met with an old friend. Someone I don’t see very often and for whom I feel one of those rare, indefinable connections. The sense that somewhere, in a different lifetime perhaps or in a parallel universe, we’ve travelled far together. We’ve had more time there, less distractions and a wider expanse in which…

I know people who are naturals at being part of things, committed to joining groups, societies, clubs. Not necessarily structured activities, just at least three or four people somewhere, doing something together. When I was younger I admired them, thought they had highly evolved social skills and were commendable for their stamina to comfortably talk…

This month I’ve been to see two of my favourite operas, Rigoletto and Gloria (which may technically be a ballet). Rigoletto had me starry eyed, again, the energy of it so overwhelmingly beautiful. The passion and devotion, fine-lined with obsession are themes that resonated with me the very first time I saw it, back in…

chance [chans, chahns] noun the absence of any cause of events that can be predicted, understood or controlled: often personalised or treated as a positive agency: Chance governs all. luck or fortune: a game of chance. a possibility or probability of anything happening: a fifty-percent chance of success. I overheard two words of a conversation…

There are times when I wonder whether I have become too liberal, whether anything goes because my love for life is unconditional or, whether anything goes because I have lost that loaded earthly compass, the one offered me by those with good intentions and fearful imaginations. Those would-be guides who are grounded, unchanging, steadfast in…

I get asked this question a lot. I knew I would. If I only worked with young adults I believe people would be less inclined to question it, even if it were young male adults. And if I only worked with women, it would seem more… reasonable. However, because I am a woman it seems…

This week I ended a longstanding friendship. It was a friendship that I had always doubted, found difficult to quantify or define in any way. When I would think it was one thing, it would show itself to be another. And when I hoped or needed it to be something, it would fall short. And…

This is the sentence of the week. The one small question that my clients and myself will befriend during our waking hours, when it’s all too easy to get caught up in daily routines, habits, expectations – when life easily and unconsciously flows from one commitment or distraction to the next, only slowing intermittently, without pause.…

I have a lot of energy and when it doesn’t move around enough I can start to get antsy, frustrated. Using the brain for me isn’t enough, talking isn’t enough. All these things that can be done sitting down seem only to compact the energy, making ready for it explode or implode. When I felt…

Sexual awareness and fulfilment are large parts of people’s lives, whether it’s a lack or abundance of what we desire. The apparent need to rationalise our sexuality or the inclinations we have has become part and parcel of that expression and it’s important we’re doing this for authentic reasons. By this I mean that we…

For me, stress is resistance between the present moment and what has happened, or might happen. It arises when we feel our options are narrowing or closed and when we live in a state of reaction instead of action. When my clients come to me stressed-out what they mean is stressed-in. We find the space…