I have not been able to process a relationship where i was used a psychological experiment (his words, not mine) and it is keeping me from moving forward. I have not dated or participated in any relationship since but I have recently met someone and now all I can think about is being used or played with again. I do not know how to process this out. Any ideas?

The following user gives a hug of support to gycoach:
cdacteli (01-21-2012)

The only thing I can tell you is that you can't live in the past. I know, it's cliche, but really, how are you supposed to live if you are always worrying? Girl, you have to realize that the only person you have for your entire life is yourself. You have to know and have to remind yourself that you are worth more than what that duche-bag gave you. I am not saying "woman power" by any means.
Just because one guy hurt you, it doesn't mean that every guy will hurt you. You have to have faith that you can find someone whom you can trust. You have to be able to trust yourself to make the right choice in a relationship before you can trust someone else.
In a nutshell, people can sit here all day and tell you what you should do. That's not what you need. No one is going to have the magic word. You have to trust yourself to make the right choice in a man and be able to fully invest yourself in that relationship. It's not your fault that that guy did what he did, but it happened and you have to move on. Nothing you did or do will change what happened... so move on.