No awake time not crying/screaming/fussy

FTM and I'm at my wits end and my hubby is catching up with me quickly:

In the last 5 weeks we've experienced:

- Breastfeeding issues: he wouldn't latch properly and was ripping up my nipples (short frenulum) as well I was getting tension migraines from feeding and/or pumping. So we went to formula.

- Constipation then Diarrhea - went from pooping during every feeding to 2 days of not pooping within a 4 day period. And once we finally pooped then we had diarrhea for a couple of days with and accompanying diaper rash.

- Butt fungus - then on top of the diarrhea and diaper rash we had a butt fungus that we had to put powder on.

- We have switched his formula 4 times. Similac regular to similac Soy (the ped thought the diarrhea may have been a milk allergy) but he spit up the soy so we moved him to Enfamil. Then the gassiness really kicked in so we moved him to Enfamil Gentlease.

Since the gassiness got really bad we have him on the Simethicone drops and Colic Calm (found on here). The ped refused to diagnose him with colic even though we told her that he bunches his face and gets really read, arches his back and kicks all the time and screeches.

But basically my question is:

- Is it normal for him to wake himself up screaming/crying from pain of gas or pooping?

- Is it normal for a 5 week old to spend every awake moment fussy or crying?

The only things that we can do are to feed him, or get him to go to sleep. Even then, he sleeps for 20ish minutes and then wakes himself up with more fussiness/gas. For which we then spend another hour or so trying to get him to go back to sleep. He'll then sleep for about an hour and the process starts all over again.

The ped keeps saying that if he's eating and wetting diapers and pooping occasionally he's normal. We don't know whether to seek out a second opinion and even if we do is there anything that can be done.

I've read that they'll just "grow out of it" but I don't know if we, our marriage, our sanity, can handle many more days/weeks of this. Just looking for some sort of reassurance.

I have no idea how i'm supposed to look for developmental cues, or for that matter how he's supposed to have tummy time or do any sort of learning if he spends his entire life up to this point crying, eating, sleeping.

Comments (10)

I'm in the exact same boat and he is 7 weeks old...me and my husband fight all the time and I don't know what else to do either :( I'm sorry. I really hope this time passes soon :(. Try using really loud white noise...I sit here with him on my chest and have white noise blaring until he falls asleep.

That sounds like my first son. He'd cry non-stop, I about lost it. I had supply issues and ended up supplementing, and went through a ton of gripe water. It was very rough, but stopped around 3-4 months. It was rough. The 5 S's helped some and a white noise machine was helpful, but mostly it was just time. This time around I was prepared for the worst and thus far have an east baby and no supply issues, I just hope it stays that way.

Our ODS was like this for the first three months. It was miserable and he was never officially diagnosed with colic but looking back that was definitely the problem. He immediately improved at three months like a switch flipped and he was suddenly a happy baby. If your LO is experiencing the same thing the good news is you're ,more tha half way through it. Hugs momma and try using friends and family in the mean time to give you some small breaks from your cranky LO you and DH deserve it.

This is my 4th lo and all of them have been very fussy babies except for my 3rd.This lo is fussy and/or screaming in pain whenever he's awake.I ebf so Im guessing itmight be something Im eating.It takes about an hour and a half of non stop rocking burping etc to get him to go to sleep.It breaks my heart to think it's my fault he's in pain :(

But my older 2 were ff and were also fussy babies.So..luck of thedraw I guess..

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All you need is some meth and a washing machine on the front porch and you're ll set.

Try remembering that his little tummy just went through a lot. BM to formula to soy and back to formula. It may take a bit to work the gassiness out. My little twin is very fussy, too. He's on sensitive formula and does all that your LO does, he's seeing a GI doc to rule out or diagnose milk allergies, reflux, or simply colic. If you want a second opinion I recommend seeing a peds GI. Hang in there momma, you're almost to the magic 12wks!

My first had her issues as well and cried/screamed every waking moment. It wasn't until 18 months or so when things started calming down....and even then things weren't calm and normal compared to others. She was and is a needy kid. Part of it was problems like reflux etc, but a lot of it is temperment so she never officially outgrew it. It is normal tho for your LO to cry a lot and sleep terribly, some babies are just like that. My sanity, dh's sanity, and our marriage were all on the verge af falling apart. We held on tight for 4 yrs (I knew adding a broken marriage into the mix wouldn't fix things or make it easier on any of us) around 4 dd changed a lot, our marriage became awesome and SURPRISE I found out I was pregnant with my 2013 baby. We were one and done after our difficult dd. I know it's tough! Hang in there momma....things will get better. This will make you a strong woman...trust me :)

Just wanted to give an update and say thank you to everyone who commented here.

We now juggle between Colic Calm and LIttle Tummies gas drops in addition to the burping and feeding upright. Something finally clicked earlier this week and he's been a happy baby for most of the week. The Dr. also wrote a note today so that the daycare can use them once he starts on Monday. (I'm getting a week to myself before starting work full time the following Monday).

We did have a rough day on Wednesday but the good times are finally starting to catchup/outweigh the bad ones.

I was actually just able to put him down on his activity mat and he played while I finished making and ate lunch! Couldn't beleive it. Totally floored.