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5 years ago, around my birthday, I started thinking in terms of a 5 year plan. I was still married, but in what deep down I knew was false R (but wasn't ready to admit that yet). I also knew that regardless of whether my marriage survived or not, my life was going to drastically change over the next 5 years.

And well, I was right.

So now I've got this big milestone birthday next month. Things haven't happened exactly how I thought that would. Somehow though, I've still managed to check off most everything in the plan.

And I am embracing this birthday, celebrating not only my surviving the past 5 years, but also the new beginning I've built for myself. Instead of a freakin' midlife crisis, I'm having a midlife adventure. Life is good.

Here's my birthday present to myself...

[This message edited by inconnu at 8:21 PM, February 27th (Thursday)]

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12238 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX

Darkness Falls♀ 27879Member # 27879

Posted: 8:29 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Beautiful! Aquamarine?

Me: XWS, 33, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 45
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014

Formerly heartbroken0903

Posts: 2426 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Central Florida

better4me♀ 30341Member # 30341

Posted: 8:30 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

LOVE it!!!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3269 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa

thebighurt♀ 34722Member # 34722

Posted: 8:31 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Beautiful!! Love, love this!! Congrats on all you have accomplished. Early Happy Birthday, too!

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2748 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side

inconnu♀ 24518Member # 24518

Posted: 8:38 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Yes, aquamarine. My birthday's towards the end of March, making me an Aries.

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12238 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX

workindad♂ 41790Member # 41790

Posted: 8:38 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Great idea, congratulations to you!

Posts: 16 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States

FaithFool♀ 20150Member # 20150

Posted: 8:51 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Oooh, nice! Congratulations.

Cars, rings, guitars, we rock NBs around here.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 18104 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada

inconnu♀ 24518Member # 24518

Posted: 8:54 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

we rock NBs around here.

that we do.

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12238 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX

nowiknow23♀ 33226Member # 33226

Posted: 8:58 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Just beautiful, inconnu!

You can call me NIK

“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön

Posts: 28327 | Registered: Aug 2011

Chrysalis123♀ 27148Member # 27148

Posted: 9:32 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Lovely!!!!

Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.

Posts: 3016 | Registered: Jan 2010

Dreamboat♀ 10506Member # 10506

Posted: 9:37 PM, February 27th (Thursday), 2014

Love it!!

For what would have been my Silver Anniversary, I bought myself a very nice stainless steel mandolin (kitchen slicer)! I am so proud of it and every time I use it I think "I made it! I really made it!"

I hope you enjoy your NB ring as much as I enjoy my NB mandolin

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine