Dear Abby: Transgender woman asks when to explain situation

7:33 PM,
Jul. 11, 2013

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dear abby

Dear Abby: I am a 30-year-old transgender woman who has just started her journey. Feeling more comfortable in my skin, I have been going to some local hangouts with some friends from work and meeting straight men. My question is, when is it appropriate to disclose that I am a preoperative trans woman?

I have tried online dating on trans-friendly websites and visited the local transgender bar, but those men tend only to be looking for sex, and I am looking for more than that. I would love your advice.