(Original post by Miriam_StarGirl)
Get to know her really really well before you get to know her really really really well. This would be a good idea even if you weren't shy

That was always my intention anyway... i want to be sure that i can totally trust her and that shes almost certainly the right girl for me before i do decide to do it. Its kinda always been an intention of mine to lose my virginity to another virgin, but as time goes on, surely the right girl for me is less likely to be a virgin herself I dunno... its my way of trying to overcome my confidence and shyness issues i suppose, if i was with someone equally as inexperienced. What you think?

I don't see the point in waiting for the right girl. It's very unlikely you go on to achieve the fairytale of marrying the first girl you do any of that with. At least make the first time good for you, whoever it's with.

possibly, you can both explore together but then if she isn't a virgin it really needn't be a big deal. If someone cares about you they're not gonna care whether or not you not know exactly what to do and when to do it and anyway there are no hard (excuse the punn) rules. It's up to the individuals and it will be different for everyone with every partner. To much pressure is put on men to perform anyway. Like I said before just chill and enjoy yourself, if the girl cares about you she'll want you to enjoy yourself too

(Original post by Mad Vlad)
*looks apprehensive* does anyone ever have a good experience first time? A lot of these factors seem to stack up against the first-timers

Lol! My first time? Nothing has beaten that, even when i inheritied £20,000!! lol! Seriously if you get the right girl it can be amazing and I can't imagine it getting any better than my first time. Though any ladies who would like to try to prove me wrong are more than welcome as I am single!!

(Original post by Mad Vlad)
Hehe, I suppose im going to have to learn to control my shyness before i consider having sex... how would that affect the overall experience do you think - my shyness i mean...

Be tipsy, not drunk. Cant really help more than that as I have no problems in removing clothes or shyness!! lol!!

(Original post by Mad Vlad)
That was always my intention anyway... i want to be sure that i can totally trust her and that shes almost certainly the right girl for me before i do decide to do it. Its kinda always been an intention of mine to lose my virginity to another virgin, but as time goes on, surely the right girl for me is less likely to be a virgin herself I dunno... its my way of trying to overcome my confidence and shyness issues i suppose, if i was with someone equally as inexperienced. What you think?

My first time was with a very experienced girl, she was definately not a virgin. That might be why it was so good. Though she did **** up and get pregnant!! hehe!

Yes a error happened, she did get pregnant, and she blamed me because she couldnt remember to take the second half of the MA Pill?? Dappy bint!!

Yep there is nothing to worry about. My advice is just to make sure you go with someone you have genuine feelings for and to just....enjoy yourself. There is no set procedure / routine for sex....it is just about the two of you having fun and making each other feel good. Communication is key...if you like / don't like something in particular make sure you let your partner know! When with the right person all your shyness and inhibitions will just fall away....along with your clothes!