Pacifier Help Need Opinions NOT Criticism!

Hey ladies, so I have a question for you..I know theres been talk about pacifier use, etc. But I need some help, please don't just tell me omg why didn't you take it away sooner, etc. I KNOW I should have taken it away earlier but I've learned my lesson a little late. So my son is 3 next month and his little sister will be born 2 days after his birthday, we are also getting rid of our cat so I feel like I'm putting him through so much in the next 6 weeks. He still uses his pacifier, he just loves it, I don't know when I should take it away from him, do you think before or after baby gets here? I just don't want to put all this stress on him at once. What are good ideas to take it away, he doesn't understand if I were to say something like "pacifiers are for babies your a big boy" he'd look at me like I was crazy. I think at this point I just have to completely take it away and have him cry..I just wonder how many days it will take him to get used to it. Sorry that was so long..I could really use advice not criticism please :)

Hey ladies, so I have a question for you..I know theres been talk about pacifier use, etc. But I need some help, please don't just tell me omg why didn't you take it away sooner, etc. I KNOW I should have taken it away earlier but I've learned my lesson a little late. So my son is 3 next month and his little sister will be born 2 days after his birthday, we are also getting rid of our cat so I feel like I'm putting him through so much in the next 6 weeks. He still uses his pacifier, he just loves it, I don't know when I should take it away from him, do you think before or after baby gets here? I just don't want to put all this stress on him at once. What are good ideas to take it away, he doesn't understand if I were to say something like "pacifiers are for babies your a big boy" he'd look at me like I was crazy. I think at this point I just have to completely take it away and have him cry..I just wonder how many days it will take him to get used to it. Sorry that was so long..I could really use advice not criticism please :)

Cut the tip off just slightly and give it back. Wait a few days and cut a little more. Wait cut wait cut. 2 things can happen, 1) he won't like it anymore or 2) you throw it away with an unhappy boy. Worked good with my nieces. They ended up not liking it anymore

Cut the tip off just slightly and give it back. Wait a few days and cut a little more. Wait cut wait cut. 2 things can happen, 1) he won't like it anymore or 2) you throw it away with an unhappy boy. Worked good with my nieces. They ended up not liking it anymore

I would take it away before the baby is born. The sooner the better. From what I understand, it's harder on the parents than it is on the child. A friend of mine had a "big boy" ceremony and they tied all of his pacifiers to the ends of balloons, had her little guy make a wish, then he let them go.

It was rough on him the first night, but he was totally fine after that.

Good luck!

I would take it away before the baby is born. The sooner the better. From what I understand, it's harder on the parents than it is on the child. A friend of mine had a "big boy" ceremony and they tied all of his pacifiers to the ends of balloons, had her little guy make a wish, then he let them go.

It was rough on him the first night, but he was totally fine after that.

One of the best ways I have seen for older kids is to start cutting it. Don't let him see you do it. At first, take some scissors and make a tiny slit in the end. That makes it collapsing and loose suction when they try to suck on it. Generally they will still find a way to use it, though. Then the next day or a few days later, completely cut off the end. Only about 1/8th of it. Then a few days later cut a little more. The paci is getting smaller and smaller, and eventually there is nothing left to suck on. Then just make it disappear. And I would say definitely do it before baby comes. We took dd's away before lo came and she did awesome, and is so occupied with lo now that she doesn't even realize it's gone. But we got her in the habit of not having it before lo came so that she wouldn't be jealous of lo's paci & try to take it or anything!

One of the best ways I have seen for older kids is to start cutting it. Don't let him see you do it. At first, take some scissors and make a tiny slit in the end. That makes it collapsing and loose suction when they try to suck on it. Generally they will still find a way to use it, though. Then the next day or a few days later, completely cut off the end. Only about 1/8th of it. Then a few days later cut a little more. The paci is getting smaller and smaller, and eventually there is nothing left to suck on. Then just make it disappear. And I would say definitely do it before baby comes. We took dd's away before lo came and she did awesome, and is so occupied with lo now that she doesn't even realize it's gone. But we got her in the habit of not having it before lo came so that she wouldn't be jealous of lo's paci & try to take it or anything!

I would take it away before the baby comes because you don't want him to associate the baby's arrival with it being taken away. Yeah, maybe it's over thinking it but I wouldn't want to give him a reason to resent the new baby.

I would take it away before the baby comes because you don't want him to associate the baby's arrival with it being taken away. Yeah, maybe it's over thinking it but I wouldn't want to give him a reason to resent the new baby.

I've heard of parents doing various things to get rid of pacis. The obvious being to just start throwing them away. Personally I think that's a bit harsh. Since you are having a new baby soon what about talking to him about being the big brother & giving his pacis to the new baby. This way he feels like he's in control of the decision. Maybe in return he can get a new toy or be taken to build a bear, all things the new baby can't do because they're to little. I've heard of some parents cutting away at the pacifiers but I'm just not sure how safe that is, choking hazard and all. GL!

I've heard of parents doing various things to get rid of pacis. The obvious being to just start throwing them away. Personally I think that's a bit harsh. Since you are having a new baby soon what about talking to him about being the big brother & giving his pacis to the new baby. This way he feels like he's in control of the decision. Maybe in return he can get a new toy or be taken to build a bear, all things the new baby can't do because they're to little. I've heard of some parents cutting away at the pacifiers but I'm just not sure how safe that is, choking hazard and all. GL!

I had a pacifier until I was 5, so no judgement from me, lol! It did mess up my speech and front teeth, so I say the sooner the better. My mom "lost" my paci's and I felt traumatized (again, I was 5). I went to sucking my thumb until I was 10. I really like the pp's suggestion of gradually cutting the tip, it makes the paci less desirable. I'd start ASAP, with all the changes going on at home it could go smoothly. Good luck!

I had a pacifier until I was 5, so no judgement from me, lol! It did mess up my speech and front teeth, so I say the sooner the better. My mom "lost" my paci's and I felt traumatized (again, I was 5). I went to sucking my thumb until I was 10. I really like the pp's suggestion of gradually cutting the tip, it makes the paci less desirable. I'd start ASAP, with all the changes going on at home it could go smoothly. Good luck!

What my pediatrician says to do is throw away all the pacifiers immediately. No weaning. Tell him that he is a big boy now and big boys don't use pacifiers. End of story. Pediatrician said he has never had a problem with this method, that kids are very resilient!!

What my pediatrician says to do is throw away all the pacifiers immediately. No weaning. Tell him that he is a big boy now and big boys don't use pacifiers. End of story. Pediatrician said he has never had a problem with this method, that kids are very resilient!!

I agree with the pp who said something about giving him something special because e gave his paci away. Around Christmas I overheard a Mom telling a sales woman that her son had just gone to see Santa. The boy gave Santa his paci in exchange for a bike for Christmas. That way he doesn't associate it with anything bad and he might be more willing to give it up.

I agree with the pp who said something about giving him something special because e gave his paci away. Around Christmas I overheard a Mom telling a sales woman that her son had just gone to see Santa. The boy gave Santa his paci in exchange for a bike for Christmas. That way he doesn't associate it with anything bad and he might be more willing to give it up.

This may be a silly suggestion, but how about making a really big deal about wrapping them up like a present, put a bow on it, and have him give them to his new sister as a welcome home present? Explain that now there is a baby in the house and that babies use pacifiers and now he is a big boy and a big brother.

This may be a silly suggestion, but how about making a really big deal about wrapping them up like a present, put a bow on it, and have him give them to his new sister as a welcome home present? Explain that now there is a baby in the house and that babies use pacifiers and now he is a big boy and a big brother.

I know you said your son wouldn't understand "binkies are for babies" but my daughter did, before she was 2. If she sees one now, she still says "B! B! B's are for babies". He may actually understand more than you realize. I think you should do it before your new one arrives, otherwise, he may resent the baby for getting a binky when he can't have one anymore. Just my opinion though.

We took my daughters away when she was about 18 months old, started the night before my dad had a heart attack and later died. Had we known what was coming for us, we would have given ourselves another 2 weeks or so to get done with the planning of the service, etc - but it only took her 2 days of crying when she wanted it, before she stopped asking for it. If she saw one, then she thought she wanted it, but that only lasted for a week.

I know you said your son wouldn't understand "binkies are for babies" but my daughter did, before she was 2. If she sees one now, she still says "B! B! B's are for babies". He may actually understand more than you realize. I think you should do it before your new one arrives, otherwise, he may resent the baby for getting a binky when he can't have one anymore. Just my opinion though.

We took my daughters away when she was about 18 months old, started the night before my dad had a heart attack and later died. Had we known what was coming for us, we would have given ourselves another 2 weeks or so to get done with the planning of the service, etc - but it only took her 2 days of crying when she wanted it, before she stopped asking for it. If she saw one, then she thought she wanted it, but that only lasted for a week.

I'd take it away now. Kids are very resilient and he may forget all about his paci by the time the baby comes. Like someone else said, I think parents way over think this type of thing; they agonize over it more than the kid does a lot of times. I would take it away cold turkey and say, "You're such a big boy now that you don't need this paci." Be upbeat about it-it's a good thing! I made the mistake of letting my son keep his paci too long and didn't take his away till after my new baby was born. Now that he can't find his paci, he just steals the baby's. And the baby has pacies in several spots because we're trying to "correct" her thumbsucking.

I'd take it away now. Kids are very resilient and he may forget all about his paci by the time the baby comes. Like someone else said, I think parents way over think this type of thing; they agonize over it more than the kid does a lot of times. I would take it away cold turkey and say, "You're such a big boy now that you don't need this paci." Be upbeat about it-it's a good thing! I made the mistake of letting my son keep his paci too long and didn't take his away till after my new baby was born. Now that he can't find his paci, he just steals the baby's. And the baby has pacies in several spots because we're trying to "correct" her thumbsucking.

My moms taking our cat, we don't know how he'll react around the baby and my sons starting to wrestle him so much and the cats started to get aggressive with him. But this way the cat isn't completely out of his life

My moms taking our cat, we don't know how he'll react around the baby and my sons starting to wrestle him so much and the cats started to get aggressive with him. But this way the cat isn't completely out of his life

The sooner the better. With DD, I just took it away one night when she was sleeping and she didn't ask for it again. Magic! With DS, Santa took his binkies last month and left presents in their place. I've heard of parents putting them in an envelope and "mailing" them to a new baby somewhere. My niece got rid of hers by giving them to the cows. (??)

The sooner the better. With DD, I just took it away one night when she was sleeping and she didn't ask for it again. Magic! With DS, Santa took his binkies last month and left presents in their place. I've heard of parents putting them in an envelope and "mailing" them to a new baby somewhere. My niece got rid of hers by giving them to the cows. (??)

Tell him that it's time to hand off his soothers to his baby sister/brother? that the new baby needs it now! With my stepson who was still using sippy cups and other things that he wouldn't give up at the age of 4 now 5 has given his baby sister his things since she needs them now. It has really worked well for us since it makes him feel good about helping sister out!

Tell him that it's time to hand off his soothers to his baby sister/brother? that the new baby needs it now! With my stepson who was still using sippy cups and other things that he wouldn't give up at the age of 4 now 5 has given his baby sister his things since she needs them now. It has really worked well for us since it makes him feel good about helping sister out!

I used to nanny, and now I work in an after school program with kindergarteners so I've heard of and seen a lot of different methods. The progressively cutting the tip off method works for a lot, but if it doesn't work for you, there's another way. A little boy I used to nanny, had a REALLY hard time separating from his. So we took an empty wipes box, and decorated it. Colored it, glitter, the works. And he put it by his bed. And every time he went to bed (for nap or the night), instead of sleeping with his binky, he'd put it in the box for the binky fairy. And when we woke up there'd be a match box car or another littlePrize and when he did his last binky, he had a boys day at chuckEcheese with his daddy. Now he's 6 and helping explain it to his little brother.

I used to nanny, and now I work in an after school program with kindergarteners so I've heard of and seen a lot of different methods. The progressively cutting the tip off method works for a lot, but if it doesn't work for you, there's another way. A little boy I used to nanny, had a REALLY hard time separating from his. So we took an empty wipes box, and decorated it. Colored it, glitter, the works. And he put it by his bed. And every time he went to bed (for nap or the night), instead of sleeping with his binky, he'd put it in the box for the binky fairy. And when we woke up there'd be a match box car or another littlePrize and when he did his last binky, he had a boys day at chuckEcheese with his daddy. Now he's 6 and helping explain it to his little brother.

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