Generations before us would have scoffed. WE often scoff. But, really… think about how fun it is to use technology to help our relationships grow.

It doesn’t have to be all bad!

Jeremy and I both love technology and we have learned to let it help us in many ways.

Here is our list of how the impact of technology helps our marriage:

1. Calendar! I can’t even tell you how much I LOVE having our calendars connected. What a huge blessing! This helps us every single day. I can write notes, phone numbers, details… all in ONE place that we both have access to right on our phones. Ah.Mazing for our busy marriage.

2. Texting. Serious help here. Grocery lists, instructions, I love yous… texting is the best things to happen in technology for my “non-phone talking” hubby. We can text if we are in meetings, which we are in a lot, or when we are states away, which we are a lot, or if we are in the same room! Which we are a lot! Texting keeps us connected no matter what. I love it.

3. GPS – No longer to we have to look at maps or follow printed mapquest directions which ALWAYS caused problems. Now, we both can listen to the GPS and she tells us exactly where to go. No stopping for directions or arguing over which way is right… can we say peace in the car, please? We also love and use google maps. often. like a lot. so much easier for us both!

4. Social Media. Twitter, Instagram, Facebook… each of these things allows us fun windows into each others lives and let us flirt, connect, and talk in ways generations before us couldn’t even imagine. These magnify the impact of technology and can be very helpful for couples. And a lot of fun!

5. Laptops. We can sit together on the couch, reading, browsing, shopping, peeking at each others screens, talking about what we find. Both of us being on laptops doesn’t have to disconnect us. It can actually help us have things to talk about and things to look at and things to enjoy together!

6. Shared accounts. I buy a book? He gets it too! I buy a movie? He gets it too! He finds a free app? I get it too! What a fun way to share things, yet still have your own things! I love it. Genius.

7. Devotions. Yes, couples have done their devotions together for years and years. But having a Bible app with reading plans and devotional thoughts is very fun. We often ask, “What day are you on?” in such and such a reading plan. Not only does it hold us accountable but we can have it with us all the time. Which means we can discuss it anytime and have it all right there with us.

8. Dates. You know that older couple that sits together and doesn’t even talk? Or, that young couple that is sitting there both absorbed in their phones? Well, there IS middle ground! We tend to be on our phones AND talking. We share the things we find and look at pictures on each others facebook walls or feeds. When used right, those little devices can be helpful discussion starters and connecting points from our days! Phones and apps can also help on date night. Think scavenger hunt or dinner reservations or movie reviews or geocaching!

9. Apps. There is really an app for everything. Recipes, exercise, notes, timers, walkie talkie, weather… if there is something you struggle with organizationally or relationally, there is probably an app for that! Set yourself up for success in those areas and use an app. For example, we shop for Christmas all year long. And you know, Jeremy loves to shop. So we found an app that helps us keep track of presents we buy and for who so we don’t forget and we both can know who is left on our list. Very helpful. No more lost pieces of paper. There is an app for that!

10. Finances. Apps that record car records and receipts and spending info… make sure you have the appropriate locks on your phone, but using apps and phone features to help your family finances will bring great peace to this area of your life! We are known to take pictures of receipts and text them to each other or use or Tiny Scan app to save things. It works wonderfully. And definitely helps your marriage!

I could go on and on… email, DVR… technology is such a HUGE blessing to our marriage.

It helps sometimes to sit and look at the good instead of always focusing on the bad.

Used well, with proper guidelines and healthy respect, technology can be a great benefit in your marriage.

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Great post! Something that we love -and live by- are our Outlook calendars. Our work lives are so jammed so ensuring we are scheduling enough “us” time is important. So we create events and send the other an invitation so we can simply save the calendar entry. Makes life much easier to manage our calendars to ensure they’re in sync.

This is a major breakthrough for me! Thank you SO much for taking the time to post a positive post on marriage & technology. The reality is that we all use technology & it will always be around. I like how you showed to just embrace it together & have fun with it.
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I would say there are two big things technology has done for our marriage.

1. Like a lot of guys, my husband loves video games. Even before we got married, it was a huge source of arguements for us. After we got married, my husband joined the military and there was this one huge, online, multiplayer game that lots of guys he worked with was playing and he joined them. Finally I decided to try the can’t best them join them method and had him show me some me how to play. He was excited that I was interested in something he enjoyed and it turned the time that I considered isolation from each other into something we did together. Come to find out, several of the wives played and I was also able to meet other military wives through it. When he was deployed, it gave us a way to do something together even though we were worlds apart. Now, years later, we aren’t glued to our computers nearly as much but we still us it to connect on rainy days or times when we just don’t feel like leaving the house.

2. I think this is probably the most important and I wish I had used technology for this sooner. It connected me with people who had positive views on marriage. It started with Fawn over at the happy wives Club and has snowballed from there. Finding other women that love being married and love working through the “hard times” instead of using those times as excuses to hate marriage has been so incredibly refreshing. I know it has definitely helped strengthen my marriage.