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Q & A

My parents are 62 and 69. Have any of you Ladies discovered as your parents age, they just talk about anything and everything including sex as they age? My parents do now and it shocks me for it was “taboo” for them years ago to even mention topics about sex and outright discuss it in front of me, which I don’t know what to think of it. Is this normal when parents get older?

My parents are both 65 and neither would talk about sex. They will be married 48 years in May. Unforunatey they are still together because of habit, and my mother is ill. That is such a sad way to spend your life.

I find my mom talks about more things like that now than she used to. Not dad. Funny thing is, now mom cusses a lot more than she used to, and dad a lot less. Friday when I was having lunch with them, mom even let slip a slang/cuss word that I didn’t even think she knew!!!

My parents never did talk about it (but they had (4) kids). My father is deceased now and my mother has alzheimers.

But I think as you get older you just say what the heck...I say what I want to say. I can remember my mother use to say, “I’m at the age that I just say what I feel or think.“. Of course I would always say “yes, but you have to be careful you don’t hurt anyone’s feelings either.”

Hmm, well, my mother is 80 and widowed now, She makes many jokes about it (lack of it and how it doesn’t bother her at all)

As for me, well, I have two grown up children. The other night my son (23) needed a lift and I was ready for bed. So I just put a coat on over my nightdress and drove him. I turned the heat up high commenting that it was the first time I had driven without my knickers on. There was a spluttering sound from beside me. ‘I think,’ he said, ‘That is a good thing to hear‘.

He is an actor and also writes. I know that line will appear in a play soon!

So, back to the question, we have a fairly open attitude to discussing sex with our kids but I wouldn’t discuss my own. Good on your parents for being open, but I can imagine if it’s a new occurence it must be discombobulating. Whatever our age we never want to see our parents as sexual beings.Jane