(Closed) Having trouble being intimate with my husband…

Normally I do not have any difficulty being intimate with my husband, but I recently learned that a close friend of mine was sexually assaulted and nearly raped by a mutual friend of ours and it’s been on my mind all of the time. Whenever my husband and I try to be intimate lately, all I can think about is how horrible my friend must have felt having those things forced on her by that man and even though I know that I am with my husband it’s all I can picture and I feel like it’s becoming detrimental to my relationship with my husband. I haven’t told him yet that this is what is going on in my mind while we try to be intimate because I feel like it would make him feel bad that I’m thinking about things other than what we’re doing, particularly such things as this. I’m just so disturbed by what has happened and can’t stop thinking about it. I don’t know what I can do to shut my mind up and be able to be with my husband in body AND mind again. Any advice?

@Goody_Gal: Aww hun! Your friends experienced a very traumatic assault and it really affected you. Sounds like you have some PTSD from her experience. You are probably thinking of yourself in her spot. Give it time. Maybe see a counselor to make sure there’s no residual issues you need to deal with? I bet with time it will get better.

@Goody_Gal: Aww hun! Your friends experienced a very traumatic assault and it really affected you. Sounds like you have some PTSD from her experience. You are probably thinking of yourself in her spot. Give it time. Maybe see a counselor to make sure there’s no residual issues you need to deal with? I bet with time it will get better.

You need to tell you husband before he beings to think the lack of intimacy is coming form something else. Talking to him willl put him on alert and if you can talk your feelings through together it might take a huge weight off your shoulders.

If that doesn’t fix it then maybe seek professional help. these feelings are normal when a friend has gone through something.

im sorry that happend to your friend.that is terrible.i know you feel bad for her but you can not let what happend to her affect your sexual relationship with your husband.your husband isnt that man,your husband touches you in a loving way so i dont see how that can compare at all exspecially if isnt forced.

i dont know if you should tell you husband why or not,but i bet he be pretty upset if his touches and such are making of you think of a horrible man who did something bad to someone when all he is doing is wanting to make love to his wife,which most men feel loved by sex with their wives.he could start to resent you.

you need to get your mind back on him,think of his touches and his body as man who you love and married,let your body feel good with every touch he makes and be thankful you have a loving husband who wants to make love.

if not,seek help before you ruin your marriage.

be there for your friend but dont let it affect your marriage and i hope your friend gets help for the awful thing that happend to her 🙁