Are there women who still want children?

Ok, this isn't a take-off on a previous discussion, here. It's just that I'm really beginning to get a bit concerned. It seems to be in style these days to declare that one does not want children, and quite frankly, I'm finding it rather depressing. I've always wanted to get married and have a family, and it seems my chances are getting steadily thinner. There just seems to be so much hostility around; merely mentioning that you want kids is liable in most places to get you nasty comments, which, ironically enough, usually come from women who themselves have children. A nice bit of hypocrisy, there, if you appreciate that sort of thing.

I'm really hoping that this anti-child attitude is the exception rather than the rule among women today. It is, isn't it? Anyone?

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That's not the point. The US already has a birthrate that is below the replacement rate. The only reason that the population here is still growing is the relatively large rate of immigration. The countries that need to worry about overpopulation are places like India and China, not the US.

It isn't that I don't want to raise children, but ever since I was about 12 years old I've known about how many children there are with no family, going through foster care, living in orphanages in 3rd world countries, etc... So I see myself adopting a child who needs a home, rather than having children of my own. There are also women who CAN'T have children, or they have a low chance of becoming pregnant. I respect women who go out and have IVF and hormone injections and all that, in order to become pregnant and birth their own children... But what's so wrong with giving a good home to a child who is already alive, and needs a family?

You asked a question, and because people aren't agreeing with you, you're being rude. You asked a question. I gave you a perfectly good answer, as a woman who has no children, I am willing to raise children but would prefer to give a home to a child who doesn't have one. If you want a biological child, there are plenty of women who want to have children. You must not be looking in the right place. I know multiple people who have adopted, some single, some in M/F relationships, one M/M relationship. I know one couple who couldn't have children naturally, so the man donated sperm, the woman's sister donated eggs, they had a 3rd party surrogate. They are plenty of ways to have/raise children. Maybe try speaking to people without being so offensive... some of us responded politely in an attempt to help you, not have our heads bitten off.

I'm not the one being rude, you are. You are being offensive, I'm not. You're falsely accusing me of doing what YOU are doing. You're the one biting people's heads off, not me.

If you don't want kids, fine. I never disagreed with that. But that completely ignores MY question.

You say there are plenty of women who want biological children? That doesn't seem to be the case. 80% of the replies here seem to be against it, which is exactly what I'm finding in real life. That is a distinct change from what things used to be like, and I'm puzzled by it.

Many women who have children and are doing the single mom thing are tired. Raising a child without a father in the home is tiresome. Mentally and physically. Many, after having children and ending up single parents, are not willing to take a gamble at that happening, again. You would do best finding someone that doesn't have children.

Being concerned and being "so worried" are different things. That's why there are different words for them.

If indeed we are discussing a small minority of women who do not want children, then that's fine. That's an answer. The issue I brought up is that it does not appear to be a "small minority". As a rough guess, approximately half the single women I encounter these days state that they don't want children. If they are atypical, ok, that's fine. But it seemed to me to be a marked increase from what I was used to, the former 'small minority' that you mentioned.

You say that a woman will "sacrifice 18 years of her life" - that's an equally meaningless promise. As any number of abandoned children can testify. And can I provide all the things mentioned? You're damned right I can. Not that anyone would ever dare to ask a woman that question.

You have been the only one making accusations and unfounded assumptions, not me. I asked a question, and instead of answers, I've been attacked for desiring a normal life and family.

I would have welcomed a discussion along the lines of, "Yes/no, more women are/aren't deciding to have children these days." But instead, almost everyone decided to start criticizing me for wanting children, and announcing that I should adopt, instead.

This is exactly typical of what I have found - you have children yourself, yet are critical of anyone who only wants the same thing that you have yourself.