Maybe you’ve tried this language trick a few times now. Maybe you’ll even have noticed that it works! 🙂

But sometimes, you might not know which emotion you’re experiencing.

The first time I met with the psychologist who helped me recover from burnout, she asked me how I was feeling. I thought about it for a few seconds before I realized that I had absolutely no idea how I was feeling.

It was a terrifying realization. I knew I felt “bad” in some way, but I had no idea which flavor of “badness” it was.

Yet naming your negative emotions is a key part of handling them. So the first thing my psychologist did is teach me about the four basic negative emotions. Then she instructed me to simply go down the list whenever I felt bad: Was this fear? Sadness? Anger? Shame?

If you’re feeling bad, you can use this technique to feel a little better.

When you experience a strong, negative emotion, ask yourself whether it’s sadness, anger, fear, or shame. Then, use the language trick we talked about yesterday: say “sadness is passing through my consciousness”.

Do this again and again and again, and you’ll find that your emotions don’t tug you around quite as much.

Yours,

— Peter

P.S. Naming your emotions and reminding yourself that they are just passing through is the essence of a meditation technique called noting. Check it out.

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