What I Learned From Being Charged With Felony Domestic Violence

Iago was a gentle, kind-hearted man only to have it backfire on him. He now uses his charm, intelligence, and trustworthiness as a dangerous weapon.

In the United States, domestic violence is taken very seriously. While most of the alleged victims are true victims, the laws surrounding domestic violence (DV) offenses make it easy to report a false charge. In fact, out of the ~2.5 million reported DV cases each year, 700,000 of them result in someone wrongfully arrested. I was one of them.

Nowadays in many states, there does not need to be any sort of injury in order for an arrest to be made. We all have engaged in some form of an argument in our home lives, but now such arguments can lead to an arrest and possible DV conviction (disturbing the peace, disorderly conduct, etc). I won’t share too many of the details in my case, as every single case is unique, but I will share with you what I have learned from the ordeal.

1. Prosecutors Use Dirty Tricks to Seal Convictions

If you are facing a misdemeanor DV charge, there is a good chance that you will be released on your own recognizance. Because of this, most defense attorneys are able to take their time with your case to provide you with the best outcome. Prosecutors know this, and therefore may charge you with a felony.

In my case, I was charged with multiple felonies, including strangulation and kidnapping. Because of this, I was given a 5-figure bail with an ankle monitor. I was also facing several years in prison. Even though there was no proof that I did the things I was charged with, the prosecutors wanted to “play it safe” and overcharge me. Although I was lucky enough to have the money to bail myself out, I was still strapped with an EM device around my ankle, along with a curfew, for over 6 months.

This is how prosecutors get you to plead guilty to something you may not have even done: they request that your pre-trial conditions be so harsh, and charge you with enough serious felonies, that you simply give in to move on with your life. Although a judge is the one who ultimately sets your release conditions, it’s unlikely a judge will lessen them before a case is settled.

Note that while any crazy female can make an unfounded report against you, it is ultimately the prosecutor that is keeping the allegations alive.

2. The (In)justice System

The (in)justice system does not only hurt men, it hurts women too. Take for example the story of Cyntoia Brown, a 16-year-old runaway in Tennessee that was taken captive into sex slavery. She was “bought” by an older man, and held captive for several weeks until she took it upon herself to kill her kidnapper, and has since been sentenced to life in prison.

The prosecutors, the judges, the parole board, and the people of Tennessee don’t seem to care too much about her story. Maybe you don’t either. Just keep in mind, if such injustice could happen to a 16 year old black girl, much worse could happen to you.

3. Forgiveness

Unlike some defendants who are released on their own recognizance (OR), I was constantly thinking about my case as I had a big reminder of it around my ankle. I had to keep the EM device charged every day (which takes ~2 hours), and I had to check in with my bail bondsman twice a week.

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The alleged victim, some girl I was just having sex with, found out she wasn’t the only female I was with, so she was essentially a “scorned woman.” She was not going to let it go. She apparently got angry with the prosecutor when she saw the plea deal I was offered. Every time my attorney filed a motion, the alleged victim would tell the prosecutor to not let it pass. She was willing to go all the way through trial and would not let the prosecutor accept a lesser plea.

Most men would want to seek revenge against those who put them in such a conundrum. Believe me when I say I thought long and hard about it, but then how would I be any different?

Both the accuser and the prosecutor did not have any sort of forgiveness for me. The accuser however is most likely going to live a very sad life. She has nothing but scorn to offer. I, on the other hand, have moved on, and am writing this just to share my story. And my life is much better now. If I chose not to forgive, or maybe decided to seek some sort of revenge, I can almost guarantee that I would be just as miserable as my accuser.

4. Being the Bad Boy Isn’t as Cool as You Think

I guess if there is one positive consequence from my experience, it would be that I am now officially a bad boy. I was one good lawyer away from being a felon. I don’t need an arm sleeve of tattoos to prove this to the world either: my friends, family, and even girls I chat up can smell it on me.

The only problem with this is that prospective employers, clients, and customers can smell it on me as well. I now have to make an effort to make myself look like a good ol’ boy. You get a lot more when you embrace a good Christian look than you do trying to emulate Chris Brown or Charlie Sheen.

A Return to Faith

Before my arrest, I had not stepped foot in a catholic church in a long time. In fact, other than funerals, I don’t think I stepped foot in one since I was a young kid. I almost forgot how to pray.

It’s funny how when we face such hard times in our life, we tend to return to our church. One thing to keep in mind is that god will not make your problems go away, but will give you the inner strength you need to overcome such problems.

Be Humble

To conclude this story, I must confess that I did accept a plea deal. It was for one misdemeanor, no jail time, and was ordered to complete anger management classes. My attorney had enough to get all of the felonies dropped for lack of evidence, but due to the current DV laws (especially in my state), he did not have enough to get the misdemeanor dropped. I would have had to fight it in trial and could have been sentenced to a few months in jail if I was found guilty. I also would have forked over another $20,000 for a trial, and would have had the ankle monitor on the entire time. I am lucky because in my state we have expungement laws, so in a few years it will be like this never happened.

As much as I wanted to fight the case, to have a crystal clean record and to see the look on my accusers face after winning, that was not what was really important to me. What was important to me was getting the ankle monitor/curfew off so that I can move on with my life and live it to the fullest.

Sometimes you have to ask yourself what is important to you, and if what you are doing really matters. A problem that many young men face nowadays in America is that nothing truly matters to them. They have everything to the point that they have nothing. Instead of taking advantage of the gifts many of them have, they use heroin, watch pornography, engage in pointless street battles like what we saw in Charlottesville, commit suicide, and essentially throw their lives away.

I was given a second chance, and will not take it for granted. Hopefully after reading this, you could see how good you may have it and not throw your life away over something unimportant to you.

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Excellent. Your last paragraph is very good advice. It’s easy when bad things happen to go on a shit slide to no where. Women are so crazy a vindictive in today’s world. No doubt she is out showing her victim card and making the lives of other miserable.

Never admit anything, false accusation, beat her to death with your bare hands.
My lawyer always told me, “I wasn’t there, it wasn’t me”, even if there was a video.
Injustice is something a guy can never recover from.

….Always maintain your innocence. Make your accuser PROVE your guilty, and in most cases they will fail, unless you do something incredibly stupid like open your mouth and say anything other than yes or no or at best say nothing at all. Your own words will always convict you, so silence and maintaining innocence through the most minimal means is the ONLY best course.

Unfortunately even if you’re innocent, you still suffer (in the short term) as much as if you were guilty. My best friend was accused by his alcoholic POS wife (now ex-wife) of hitting her when she got drunk and fell down the stairs. He spent 3 nights in jail and had to spend lots of $$ to beat the rap in court. Even when she sobered up and admitted she made it up! Too late at that point…

Bottom line: Be polite. Admit to nothing. Consent to nothing (including any field tests) . Say absolutely nothing without an Attorney present.*

(Be aware of the “Pretext Stop.” I’ve been pulled over several times because my bumper trailer hitch ball was “blocking part of my license plate.” Total B.S. stop, but you just nod and smile whilst handing the cop your license, registration and proof of insurance. In other words, don’t give him any excuses to escalate.)

Depending on your financial circumstances and lifestyle, it may be helpful to keep an Attorney on retainer (and speed-dial.) That retainer can in some cases be in the form of an up-front deposit for services instead of a monthly bill. Make sure he gives you his direct number and keep it on your person/memorize it.

Hope this helps.

Just a thought.

VicB3

*And consider getting yourself a dash cam, preferably one that’s syncs to your phone and uploads to the cloud.

Everywhere in the world, throughout history, men get the government and women they deserve. American men are as worthless as their women and corrupt government and criminal justice system. If they were worth a damn, they would have already had a cleansing civil war.

“The alleged victim, some girl I was just having sex with, found out she wasn’t the only female I was with, so she was essentially a “scorned woman.” She was not going to let it go.”

– Said it before and will say it again. I’m not always happy that I bang escorts, but sometimes I am. I imagine that even old wrinkled bags 40 and over would do the above to a guy if she felt “scorned”.

@Slim – Scorned means left out. A woman hates being left out. She would have done a threesome with the other gal if only he’d depressurized the situation slowly while nurturing a friendship between the two women. Most women would dive into a threesome with the right man.

WOMEN are by nature radically volatile ingredients. Think of them like ingredients when you’re cooking.

SAY ferinstance you’re cooking with a deep fryer. Many many kitchen deaths have ocurred when the grease is too hot and something cold and wet goes in. Ever throw an ice cube into a deep fryer? You’ll need a new face quite often. Not good.

WITH VOLATILE ingredients that you intend to ‘blend’ and ‘smoothen’ together for that desired heavenly palatability, you inch it in. You rub and masage the seasoning in with patience. You add sprinkles at a time. Same with women whom you intend to cojoin in peace with thee. You bring them together slowly. You carefully make venues for all three of y’allz to cross paths and interact more with each encounter. Gratitude should be coaxed for anything. A thank you or hug for a sno cone. Then squeezy hugs on one girl then the other. Then a kiss from one. Then tell her thanks but the other kisses better. Then let the other have her’s and declare it a tie. Then there’s a point of equilibrium reached in the hamster brains and the girls begin looking each other in the eye more.

Budum-bum-bum time for a triple kiss. ONCE the first triple kiss from two said girls goes down – all jealousy at this point has been destroyed and they’re both DOWN. On that day don’t forget to pack a tent and air mattress. And sufficient booze or protein drinks or whatever be their staple favorite.

Silly homo sapien women don’t have venomous fangs. But maybe you’re right about danger. It’s the protein drinks. I should have known. The protein drinks say 1/day on the directions. A polygynously threesome of sexually mature people in an enclosed tent posessing a case of protein drinks . . . whooh things might get a bit ‘farty’ in the thick of things. Heh . . a ‘farty party’. Real funny until someone lights up a smoke. “KABOOM!” You’re right there’s danger only you’re wrong about the source of the danger.

I’m kind of the same way about danger. It’s like I’ve got an idiot light in my brain that signals danger but doesn’t tell me much else about the source of the danger and when I ignore the idiot light, the danger comes out of left field and is never what I expected. I must listen to my danger idiot light. It’s kept me alive so far. Really I need an upgrade to a deluxe danger gague with an Alexa voice.

“Most men would want to seek revenge against those who put them in such a conundrum. Believe me when I say I thought long and hard about it, but then how would I be any different?”

This is why we fail. I can’t say I did differently. I also got popped for a felony charge in a similar situation where literally NOTHING occurred.

And you are right, the game is to pile so many charges on you that they break your will to go to trial. For the prosecutor its another “win” in his career which is all that “justice” really is today. They DGAF about real justice, they want the convictions. And since there is no oversight and no pushback they will drop ten charges on your head so you must cop a plea.

Having been through hell and back like you, I have a very different perspective. The REASON women are so quick to cry assault, rape, metoo, whatev is because of your ideology above. They know the man is traumatized and wants to just move on with life so they continue to act like literal sociopaths.

How about if the next time you decide to destroy a man’s life, have his career ruined, and perhaps have him imprisoned for years or even decades there was a good chance–YOU– may find yourself in life threatening danger. Think about this, these women are more than happy to ruin your entire life at a whim. If she wasn’t sure if anyone would hear from her the next day because she was “underground” (literally) somewhere would she be so quick to rip your life to shreds.

FEAR and PAIN. These are what people respect and what instantly adjusts behavior. Right now, women rule the West because they have neither and can act like sociopathic 5 year old children throwing temper tantrums that literally destroy people.

When you may not live to see the next morning you may not be as quick to throw out those very serious charges. This is the only way this will change. SEVERE consequence. They have to understand if you want to gamble with my life, I may call your bluff.

Apex…I’m completely in your camp. I had something very similar to the author’s story happen to me in the mid-’90s. I was also able to plead out of the more serious charges but felt an empty feeling in my soul for the egregious nature of the attack on my life. I’ve spent over 20 years plotting my revenge…the course of which provided me with the drive to be very successful in life. Carrying out my plot was more gratifying (sublime, really) than any other experience I’ve had in my +50 years on this earth. I view any male who doesn’t exact some sort of revenge as the very definition of “beta”.

A too large percentage of prosecutors are high-functioning psychopaths/sociopaths who only care about their career and conviction rate. Add to that the number of female prosecutors or judges who actively dislike men. Then factor in the adversarial nature of American jurisprudence system where oftentimes the truth takes second place to a desired outcome. Finally, consider the judicial process itself, where events drag on for months or years at a time. The result is a case like this that was, at best, flimsy, yet nonetheless resulted in a negotiated conviction to a lesser charge.

Overcharging is the name of the game. Pleading down is the name of the game. And the name of the game isn’t justice. Rather, it’s providing continued validation for the system that relies upon a steady stream of accused to keep itself going. Anything or anyone that aids that system is welcome, the reason why, amongst others, false accusers and snitches, esp. women, are rarely punished.

Wisely, the author did plead down rather than go to trial, where esp. it’s all about perception and feelings instead of facts and doubt, in effect a popularity contest.
And fortunately, he lives in a state where, at added expense, he can expunge his record.* But still….

Some may wonder why the whole MGTOW thing is happening. It’s horror stories like this that provide a good chunk of the answer.

Just a thought.

VicB3

*Better to use a firm that actively searches all databases on the expungement rather than just send out notices. Otherwise, the convection can still linger for years on different agency databases, and to the detriment of ones life and career. Costs more but worth it.

It’s best to understand that the US and Canada are under maritime law and the UCC (since the 1930s), so not only are you guilty until proven innocent, but it’s all about getting money — not only from you directly (the “flesh and blood” version), but also from your so-called “strawman”, who has an account(s) that is accessible by those who know what’s really going. The gold fringe surrounding “corporate flags” within the courtrooms is a clear message of what jurisdiction you are under. This is why virtually every country, state, city, organization, government / military entity, and person has been corporatized. This is why the names are in ALL CAPS — including your name on all official documents. We actually live in a Parallel Universe of sorts, where nothing represents or functions as we think / assume it should. High level government officials and military people, all judges, some lawyers and a few accountants know this system well. All very clever and the best part is that our CONSENT is constantly given to breathe life into it. This system generates untold Billions per year behind the scenes — and fuels many projects / agendas. Strange, but true.

Is this the you’re declared dead at birth and your name is not really your name thing? I had it explained to me, from someone that is now a free man after going through the system. I wasn’t sure if he was batshit nuts, but then it sounded reasonable.

I’m considering going through the process myself and finding out for sure.

@Apex – If a woman is destroying a man or destroying her own family with the stroke of a pen, that’s a lot of arbitrary power to entrust any female with. She’ll have doubts later and want to renig or apologize. BUT she gets restricted access to you and cnn communicate only with council and with women’s advocacy shills who assure her she’s doing the right think always by continually signing trusteeship of her affoirs over to them. It’s THEM who really destroy the male. The company of enablers. It’s the same school of legal gerrymandering that makes urban areas into ghettos and the same legal school that underwrites regulations to starve industry over tarriffs which would protect it thereby ‘starving’ an economy to death. Males under selective enforcement are similarly being ‘starved’ of power and authority and basic liberty.

THEY SHOULD have had a stipulation in the original Constitution to separate marriage and state, not just church and state. Jefferson never foresaw feminazis. The last state ‘bitch rule’ collapse of civilization was Babylon and then Egypt which fell under the ‘priestess judges’ who would castrate a man for a misdemeanor. That would be like getting your jewels robbed for a traffic ticket.

Hmmm. . . it may be worse today when beta jack boot cops shoot you dead for some traffic B.S. crime like flashing your brights:

“The only problem with this is that prospective employers, clients, and customers can smell it on me as well. I now have to make an effort to make myself look like a good ol’ boy. You get a lot more when you embrace a good Christian look than you do trying to emulate Chris Brown or Charlie Sheen.”

Great, great advice to the young guys here Iago! Good for you on telling the truth loud and clear. There are some authors and many commenters here telling guys to embrace “dark triad”, be a “bad boy”, work “dude-bro”
jobs like personal trainer, MMA instructor, DJ, club bouncer, etc… and of course, my personal favorite: “don’t be a ‘cucked’ white collar worker”.

Well, guess what happens to those “bad boys” and “dude-bros” when they hit 35 and 40? They are banging and rubbing the feet of wrinkled old bags in their 40s and 50s to make rent money. Making 45K/year ain’t going to get you hot young girls past a certain age.

Meanwhile, the ‘cucked white collar worker’ (who is most likely not ‘cucked’), if he has any amount of intelligence and ambition, is making well over $200K/year and can afford to bang hot young girls into his 70s if he pleases. Guys have to think long term. Very long term. Simply being a ‘tattooed bad boy’ isn’t going to get you any young poon past 35 or 40.

The older MILF’S you do GET because you have the shared train wreck life will fuck 20 year old males at the drop of a hat. They see a man their own age as a means of support but like their cock young, hard and lean.

Whereas “bad girls” of 45 or 50 of the Gemma Teller variety can still get men to bring them to orgasm there is no way a cash-strapped 45 year old bad boy can roll into the bar and seduce 20 year old women.

Usually the Bad Boy “had a kid” with some slut when he was 20 or 22 whom he never saw/supported and when he is 45 and comes back into her life in her 20’s a he observes with sadness that she is a slut or a stripper who craves dick to fill that void of a missing paternal figure.

The Bad Boy who is 45-50 intimidates nobody.

He usually has a minor record. Assault, DUI, possession with intent, domestic. So he CAN’T get a decent job.

If he is white, he ends up in low-income neighborhoods around blacks whom he dislikes because he did time in jail. The younger blacks know it, of course. They call him an “old cracker” or “peckerwood” or whatever when he rides the bus.

He usually wears the fashions of his glory days that horrendously out-of-date like the Mullet and tight jeans.

Sometimes the bad boys have some trade that pays well like plumber, electrician, mechanic, underwater welder.

But the 45 year old bouncer or run-of-the-mill bad boy who spent his youth getting by with dope deals and the odd stealing but mostly just mindless menial shit.

This DV stuff can be a bit controversial since there’s a lot of stigma attached to it, but articles like these are important to shed some internal light on the issue – albeit in this case from only one side. I’ve got some insight as well, having this extremely horrible half-sister who’s always been a complete animal, who’s never displayed any human qualities or who’s taken responsibility for anything. My older half-sister started lots of fights with me growing up, this feral beast, and would harass me at any turn. At one point, she had like two decimeters on height too, which was problematic – but by my teens, I was the one making her hurt instead of the other way around.

Now, I was told by the shrinks and stuff she saw that these were only “childhood issues” she was “suffering from”, that she only needed encouragement and so on. But her adult life has proven to me that the issues are life-long. During her adult life, she’s supported herself through crime and begging, and hopping from one public housing apartment to another. She’s also had “bad” boyfriends she’s mooched off. Two of these have been convicted of domestic violence for the arguments they’ve had with her, and that’s given me insight into what kind of a woman it is that is the “victim” of this – I believe DV is almost always the woman’s fault, especially since it’s a lot more common in lesbian relationships. And said scoundrel has even tried to get me to take revenge on these former boyfriends of hers… No morality whatsoever.

Ever wonder why women of class never get beaten up? Why it’s always skanks like Rihanna etc? It’s because it’s the woman who brings it on herself. The man is not at fault.

That’s some hard truth right there bud. It needs to be said. There are some women who just invite trouble into their life, just like some men do. I roomed with a guy who used to knock his girlfriend around a little bit and it always amazed me that she stuck with him AND that 100% of the time she escalated it. They were both black, from the inner city. He was a big mother fucker and would tell her sometimes to back off, leave him alone, etc. She’d just rail at him and fucking nag his ass. Every now and then when he’d had enough he’d pop her one. So damn bizarre. I’m a white middle class guy who grew up in a normal home so for me the entire dance was insane.

All I know is that at least 30% of women disrespect & cuck men if they don’t fear them.
Violence is an easy way to make women fear men & thus receive the supposed respect & peace of mind they deserve for providing for them.
Take away domestic violence, which is part of nature & society starts to decline.

Simple solution.
Either avoid those 30% or simply use them for the sluts they are and nothing more. There is never a reason to risk prison EXCEPT self defense — which should not be a risk but unfortunately in the US it can be. Why risk jail time for a slut? Simply move on to the next slut. Or find a good one if you are lucky enough, assuming there are any that still exist.

The problem being it’s more like 80% or 90% that will make false accusations.
Why risk jail time by banging women in the white western world, when in SEA the police don’t care what silly women tell them.

warblade, you don’t want to stick your dick in cra-cra. Women who need to fear a man in order to respect him are cra-cra. They have more issues than the magazine rack at Barnes & Noble. And if you’re not getting paid $150 an hour, don’t be their therapist.

The stats are twenty percent hetero couple dv versus thirty-five percent dv with lesbian couples. So two-thirds of it is a female problem. Thus two-thirds of accused males are innocent. This includes men already convicted. The courts are more than two-thirds slanted in favor of the woman plaintiff.

Why would private companies be so corrupt? I though private entities were super efficient at everything and they regulated themselves? We will have to ask libertarians what their new solution is…I bet it will be lower taxes and drill more oil. Or maybe they will blame government for giving contracts to those companies, even though it was libertarian “muh privatize everything” republicans who did it in the first place.

“I though private entities were super efficient at everything and they regulated themselves?”
Why would you think that? The efficiency varies greatly across companies. A good company may lose it’s efficiency tomorrow for all I know. That’s what the free market is for, to bring out the mistakes, punish incompetency and to reward the competent, and it may not even be instantaneous because of the complexity and interconnectedness within the system, just like in the stock market there are false moves and reactions, nothing new. The problem is when the government props up failed enterprises, using taxpayer money or debt, and then competent companies have to compete against government backed, bailed out, failures.

Wes the Great- Privatizing prisons is not libertarian. It is ‘libertarian anarchism’. Also known as insanity. The purpose of government, even a limited one, is to protect the individual from criminals. Something only a proper government should be charged with.

Privatizing prisons reflect a government that has lost its purpose. Which I attribute more to liberalism in general, and its associated distaste for punishing the ‘disadvantaged’. Like that judge from a few years ago, who said he saw no point in punishing criminals anymore, because the same ones keep returning.

“If I chose not to forgive, or maybe decided to seek some sort of revenge, I can almost guarantee that I would be just as miserable as my accuser.” BS, you have to go scorched earth on these bitches. Why is it that men always just put their head between their legs and just try to forget and forgive? It is good you shared your story, and I a glad you made it out in one piece but this bitch hurt you and she liked it, she never got punished, and she will more than likely do it to another man. Now you have a criminal record for anger issues, and with the way women and minorities are taking over in this country, hell, you might even get re-tried 10 years from now and end up in jail for life…never underestimate the Marxists and the complacency of men in this country. OH, and who knows, this may happen to you again, and with your record you are going to straight to jail. Jesus isn’t going to save you either, buy some guns and get ready for a civil war (hopefully sooner than later)

This article stinks to High Heaven. All the relevant exculpatory facts are totally and completely omitted. For a DA to charge him there must have been some evidence or admission on the author’s part. A zero-evidence felony charge does not pass the smell test. ‘Strangulation’ is very specific, and he says “no proof”? Does he mean “no evidence”? (Sounds like a diversion tactic) A judge must have had some reason to give him a 5-figure bail. This all smells like bullshit, based on the paltry info, and reads like it came from a criminal mind. I suspect the real story includes reasons for the system to proceed the way it did. But criminals always divert attention from their responsibility, and I’m catching a whiff of that here.
Also, it’s notable the mention of the 16 yr old runaway ho, has almost nothing to do with the subject and smells of White Knighting, which a lot of convicts are prone to.
A vast majority of the time, when convicts “take the lesser charge” to “make it all go away”, they are full of shit, and were guilty of the crime.
Like a FRA, this article does injury to real victims.

You’re naive if you think that many prosecutors could care less if you are guilty or not. They’re looking for notches on their belt and a reputation of being “tough on crime.” There are literally thousands of innocent men (and a few women) doing serious time for crimes they did not commit. I don’t no whether you are naive or trolling.

There were no red flags (for the first 20 years) showing on the wife that accused me.
At the end (the final 10 years) there were, but by then she was already entitled to my house, savings and pension.
When she told the judge I had been raping and beating her for the past 20 years, the judge said, “You didn’t think of mentioning this to anyone earlier?”.

This story is just a sign of a totally sick society and a totally rotten “justice”-system. Women just use that system for their purposes, but they are just one component of the problem! But I guess this rotten system is just the “American way”.

Stories like these are endless and the only conclusion you can draw is that a lot of these DAs and judges do not really seek the truth, but a fast conviction, regardless of the truth. But remember this: these are elected officials!! By whom?? By society! So I guess it is society who wants these situations to exist.

I really do not understand how so many people can celebrate 4th of July, living in a country like this. Maybe because that shit has not hit them, YET?

So they can continue to ignore reality? When do people finally demand not to live in a dictatorship baptized “democracy”, where any cop has a license to kill and truth is unimportant. Oh, I have talked to a lot of Americans! And they all tell me: “Don’t worry about going to the USA, you are a white, blue-eyed male. It will not happen to you!”.
Well, that just tells me so much about how these kind of situations can arise in the first place! With an argumentation like this people allow the injustice to continue! What will happen if the injustice hits YOU?! Then it will be too late! You can only have justice if it is there for all people. How to improve this situation?

1. People should demand that their police be held accountable! Police training should not focus on “finding the reason to go BAM-BAM-BAM”, but it should focus on communication and defusing situations. In Europe a cop who shoots an unarmed person is charged with manslaughter and rightly so!. If a cop in Europe has to shoot some knife-wielder they are trained to shoot him in the leg and make a succesful arrest, instead of doing a gangster-style execution with multipe cops emptying their entire magazine! Police training in Europe also last more then 2 months! It is more like 2 years!
2. The quality of the US justice-system should be improved. But I guess that will never happen, with elected DAs and judges and public opinion which is determined by mindless blahblah on the omnipresent TV-tubes!

I can’t wait for the replies to come in saying that I sound like some “black-lives-matter” activist. But guess what! The same injustice that is being dealt to innocent black people hit the author of this article! That is my entire point! When will white people finally realize this, instead of complaining about “women”, it is the system that is sick here, not women!!

We had a high-profile case like this in Germany a couple of years ago, so it happens in other countries too. In that case it was not about whether he did it or not, but about whether he “could have done it”, with psychological reports being drawn up, costing hundreds of thousand of Euros (at his cost) and paid “witnesses” being called up, who were not even there when the alleged rape happened. How can you be a witness without even being there? Obviously because it was not a single man that was at trial, but all of manhood. In the end he was acquitted, but left penniless.
The principle that somebody is considered innocent until proven guilty has long been abandoned when it comes to “he said-she said” situations. There is now a reversal of that principal. Lifes are destroyed! Well that was what the famous “Roosh-as-a-rapist”-controversy was all about. He never said women should be raped, he basically pleaded, in a very provocative way, for the most important principal of justice to be upheld, that is: the assumption of innocence!

It’s not just Germany though. In Spain there are crazy laws where the accusation of DV alone leads to an automatic arrest and restraining order, without a judge even looking at the case! I guess it is just the sick way of the west, with cucked men everywhere. And this, even though Spain is in a lot of ways a very conservative country, somehow the SJWs get their foot in the door though!

In Europe at least this craziness seems to be restricted to DV-situations, in the USA it seems this kind of “justice” affects the whole system.

He got what he deserved. If he crossed my path, he woulda suffered DEARLY. He wants pity in his story for using women for sex. No pity for assholes. Better teach him a lesson! Pay attention boys, dont use women, you might get FAR WORSE.

In old countries he woulda had his face stomped on & ribs broken by the men in her family OR the women woulda poisoned him. So he got off easy. Learn your lesson BOY. You think you can walk around doing whatever you want to people, next time the next girl could do far worse.

Oh & DISGUST for crybaby USA men like you. A traditional family woulda handled you properly. Perhaps you might run across men like that someday, teach you a lesson about how to be a man.
BOY
CRYBABY
WHINER
PATHETIC

Sorry, I can’t find my comment here…I’m assuming you’re responding to what I wrote. If so, I’m sorry I triggered your internet toughness. Whacking a girl, or a woman makes a man, less of a man. But you do it your way, if she’s my daughter, her brother will bury you, but only after I’m done with you, tough guy.

There used to be a website where you could post names and accounts of women who filed false DV, harassment, and assault charges against men that could be verified through public documents such as settlements, court papers, etc. I believe it was called “registher”, but liberals managed to get all the major search engines to deindex it (because you know things that are public documents ought to be hidden from the public when inconvenient to the narrative). I think you can still find the archives out there if you really look (have seen them on the dark web), but someone really needs to start up a site like that again.

Yes, wire yourself.. RECORD EVERYTHING because in this anarcho-tyranny that’s your only defense now. There is no more truth, there is no more justice. And until a day comes when we can execute lying cunts, then every woman alive is a lying cunt.

ALWAYS fight the charges.
My only exception to this would be signing a peace bond, assuming it doesn’t restrict your freedom too onerously or for too long.
A criminal record will fuck your life up bigly.
The burden of proof is on the Crown / people to prove guilt beyond a reasonable doubt.

“Most men would want to seek revenge against those who put them in such a conundrum. Believe me when I say I thought long and hard about it, but then how would I be any different?”

That is a foolish mentality. Men have been acting that way for decades, and look where we are now.

The ONLY way this is going to change is to make certain these women must face consequences for their actions. Sue her, whatever, make sure everyone knows what she’s about everywhere you can. There’s a saying: “when in battle draw the sword and throw aside the scabbard.”

Fear must be restored. With SJWs and feminists it actually won’t take much since they are essentially cowards.

I’m sorry it’s come to this, but I look at things from when I was a kid in the 1970s, a teenager in the 1980s, and now. It is NOT going to get any better if we keep holding back. We are past that point. The enemy has shown its true colors and they have no mercy, so no mercy to the merciless. Whining about how this makes one no better is a weakness preached by those who benefit by it so stop falling for it.

Hit back and hit back hard. When mercy is asked for remember what your enemy would have done to you and don’t stop. It’s the only way against a ruthless enemy.

I had a few fights as a young man with a live-in girlfriend where she physically went after me and fearing to defend myself I simply went outside in the Michigan snow and slept in my freezing cold car.

I ended up ruining my rental credit simply leaving and letting her keep the apartment under my name.

A young man is MUCH smarter to either have casual sex or simply have sex with hookers.

The reality is that the young women you have this drama with won’t give a shit. Someday they will be married to some other guy and not give a whit to the pain you were caused.

So you might as well just pay some hooker to gobble your shit for $50 or move to Asia.

It is much more fun to just hire hookers in Amsterdam and other countries and experience the sex of various nationalities of pros then to waste your time in a relationship and get divorced and pay alimony and child support.

Much better to just pay hookers in Amsterdam and Asia $50-$100 to shoot loads off.

Good advice , man. I hear alot of macho bullshit talk about woulda, coulda, shoulda from keyboard jockeys, that smells like pussy shit…cheapest seat in the house…and you get this advice right after you need it, and a bonus…they tell you I told you so…well you made your decision and strategy as best you could and played it out to the end. Sadder, wiser, and standing on your feet. On your way, man, upward and onward…

Good article. After having experienced similar things myself and knowing lots of family lawyers who deal with this shit day in and day out, the biggest part is staying objective and fighting the long fight. I honestly think that part where most people slip up is not in dealing with the crazy but what happens when it gets to the police and courts. Even where it is clear she/he is lying many of the pros continue to go with it. On a lot of levels it is absolutely sadistic and frankly far worse than the actual incident.

While using actual violence against someone weaker (albiet in self defense) is wrong, I support what Russia did when they decriminalized domestic violence.
Sure, the feminists cried about it because now actual evidence (of injury) is required for a conviction.

“Most men would want to seek revenge against those who put them in such a conundrum. Believe me when I say I thought long and hard about it, but then how would I be any different?”

That is a foolish mentality. Men have been acting that way for decades, and look where we are now.

The ONLY way this is going to change is to make certain these women must face consequences for their actions. Sue her, whatever, make sure everyone knows what she’s about everywhere you can. There’s a saying: “when in battle draw the sword and throw aside the scabbard.”

Fear must be restored. With SJWs and feminists it actually won’t take much since they are essentially cowards.

I’m sorry it’s come to this, but I look at things from when I was a kid in the 1970s, a teenager in the 1980s, and now. It is NOT going to get any better if we keep holding back. We are past that point. The enemy has shown its true colors and they have no mercy, so no mercy to the merciless. Whining about how this makes one no better is a weakness preached by those who benefit by it so stop falling for it.

Hit back and hit back hard. When mercy is asked for remember what your enemy would have done to you and don’t stop. It’s the only way against a ruthless enemy.

You can’t…if you hit back, you’re going to jail. END OF STORY. Then you’re in their world, and what are you going to do with a ruined life? No woman is worth this type of shit. The smartest domestic advice is to be cool, and if you can’t stay cool, get out to the house and get the hell out of the relationship.

I have some knowledge in this area…luckily learned the easy way, not the hard way…my wife liked to hit when arguing. I never hit her back, but I had blocked her, at times. Wow! Did I miss a police incident…she never called the cops, but it’s obvious that she could have. The last argument was if for me, she had me trapped in a walk in closet…I was able to get out, but not before she fell on her butt, and said, “you hit me…” I never raised a hand. Mind you, she’s sent me to the hospital for stitches a few times. I used to just laugh at her, I’ve never hit a woman, never. Frankly, the cuts were meaningless, I was never really hurt. However, after that last time, I finally moved out, filed for divorce and now live with a much younger woman, and we’ve never had to raise our voices at each other when there’s an “issue.” It’s so much easier this way.

Guys always have the following…
1. 1 litre of blood
2. A meat hammer (make sure it’s hers with he fingerprints on it).

When the cops arrive, do the following

1. Pour blood on the meat hammer, back of your head and the rest on floor.
2. Lay down on the blood with your head over most of the blood.
3. Act unconscious, cops will try to help you, try to get up, act dizzy that fall over. Advise cops that she got angry, I didn’t touch her but instead I tried to walk away and she hit me with the meat hammer while my back was turned.
4. Refuse ambulance treatment and leave. Say you fear for your life and want to leave.
5. Charge her so she knows who’s boss!
6. Dump her, buy more blood and find new woman.

I am a criminal defense attorney and your story is all too familiar to me. The prosecutor’s decision to overcharge is such a problem that it has its own wikipedia page. Your case is the very reason they do it. Neither you nor the government want to go to trial over the felony (you because of the time, financial expense and emotional cost and the government because they know they will lose and you will be found not guilty.) So you and the government reach a “compromise.” This compromise allows the government to “save face” and you get the assurance that you will not be convicted of a felony, no jail time and the peace that comes with finality. Unfortunately, nothing can give you back the indignity you unjustly suffered.

#2 example is way flawed. Your narrative of the case is off by a mile. She might have been by her pimp but the guy she killed did not buy her and hold her captive. Guy got a bullet in the back of her head from her a short time after meeting her, then her and the pimp robbed the house afterwards. Even parts of the two links embedded in this above tell the correct story. Theres a reason why the prosecutors, judges, parole board and people of TN don’t care about her story. We know the facts about the case before it was sensationalized for the unthinking masses. Guilty as hell….. Don’t for the story put out there by the celebs and agenda driven “news”.