i don't really believe you when you say that you're married with a kid, but all the same

shit man, who knew, all those women fawning over the guy who played that werewolf dude in Twilight were actually interested in his "social attractiveness" and not his "physical attractiveness" the whole time! which i guess means they were really impressed by his "social attractiveness" when he took his shirt off! good thing the infinite mind of Estranged knows what they want and can set them all straight.

@ShadowCell
I'm married with a kid, remember?
The dating scene is closed off for me.

Regarding what real women think...
I once asked my sister if she likes a guy on a photo. She said:
"I don't know, I don't know him yet".
(I was like - WTF)

I once asked the wife of a friend to tell me if I look well. She said:
"It doesn't matter, I already know you for ages."

I have seen numerous times how good-looking guys, much better built then me get rejected because they don't know what to say.

Yeah, and they've more or less proven those responses are -in fact- cultural conditioning not biological. Men and woman look to different physical stimuli in potential mates, but BOTH are visual. You can find these studies with a quick google search. (also, I don't know about anyone else, but while physical attraction is important, I like someone I can talk to as well. If my wife was dumb it would not have mattered how hot she was, I would not have married her.)

So, while your single example is an interesting personal anecdote, its not a rigors study and the conclusions you draw from it are wrong.

To go off on a bit of a tangent myself,
I would say -Estranged- that this seems to be a pattern in much of where you draw your personal beliefs from. While personal experience is pretty good for getting someone through a day, its not something you really want to draw sweeping generalizations from. It leads to statements like "All of my buddies said they voted for McCain, therefor the election must have been rigged!"

The people around you might think a certain way -and you might as well- but that's not enough to draw the conclusions you are drawing about all people everywhere. In general, you might want to do a little more research than just asking your sister what she thinks._________________A MtG Webcomic

i don't really believe you when you say that you're married with a kid, but all the same

shit man, who knew, all those women fawning over the guy who played that werewolf dude in Twilight were actually interested in his "social attractiveness" and not his "physical attractiveness" the whole time!

It doesn't matter what you believe about me. I can easily prove it if it would matter anything. I'm a married loser who lost his virginity too late.

Regarding Twilight, without the whole setup, the werewolf dude would be an empty shell and they wouldn't care about him. Sure, being physically attractive helps, but it's overrated. "Chemistry" is crucial for women, hence social attractiveness is more important.

Even if we assume you are right, what does this prove? You think that if you brainwash people to not care about physical attractiveness, they won't? Internet is the only place where it doesn't matter how we look. Once again, technology, not brainwashing, allows things to change.

Statistically, for any large group of heterosexual people of consenting age, the mean number of sexual partners should be equal. All those women have to be having sex with someone, right?

Unfortunately, when we ask, according to CDC data, men age 25-44 report twice as many partners as women 25-44. In a large online survey men reported 31 (!) lifetime partners on average. Women reported 8. In a follow up question, 21 percent of men admitted they lied or knew their number was probably inaccurate, compared with 15 percent of women. Women were found to use enumeration ("Bob, and Jim, and ..."), men tended to use approximation. Approximation generally leads to inflation, while enumeration to underestimation.

Among low-income children, the age they lose their virginity is lower than among other SES's. However, among the majority girls do start younger. This might have to do with the two thirds of girls who say they either didn't want to lose their virginity when they did or had mixed feelings, and the 89% of sexually active girls who say they've been pressured into having sex. That is, boys often date younger girls, and apparently push them into having sex.

It helps if you look these things up._________________"Worse comes to worst, my people come first, but my tribe lives on every country on earth. Iíll do anything to protect them from hurt, the human race is what I serve." - Baba Brinkman

the inside of your head must be a bizarre and confusing place if you think it's "social attractiveness" that makes a theater full of women cheer when a hot guy takes his shirt off.

well, if i'm right (spoiler alert: i am), what it proves is that your contention that "that's how sex works" is wrong, which means your contention that present gender roles are set in stone and cannot be changed is wrong, which means your contention that "it's too hard to try" is wrong, which means you're back to being a weak-minded sexist coward

Statistically, for any large group of heterosexual people of consenting age, the mean number of sexual partners should be equal.
All those women have to be having sex with someone, right?

Yes, with the alpha males. You do realize that if some disaster occurs and a lot of men die, it won't be a problem to restore the population as long as women are safe?
Same thing in nature, a limited number of cool males has sex with most females.

When we were 16 years old we had an anonymous survey in our class. Half of the girls had started having sex. I have seen some of their boyfriends - bikers, guys with nice cars, or married men of high status. (P.S. I should clarify that the age of consent here is 14).
In contrast, all of the boys in our class were virgin with the exception of two "tough guys" who had been to a prostitute once (they didn't mention this in the survey, but admitted it afterwards).

At least this anecdotal evidence coincides with the study you brought up.
But this

Quote:

boys often date younger girls,

can also be read as
"Girls date older boys" -> obviously because high status is more important to women than anything else.

Yes, with the alpha males. You do realize that if some disaster occurs and a lot of men die, it won't be a problem to restore the population as long as women are safe? Same thing in nature, a limited number of cool males has sex with most females.

Is there some relevant reason I need "to realize" this seemingly random and irrelevant point?

It's also worth reminding you that you said women had more partners than men. Maybe it's different there, but all the data seems to suggest that isn't true in the US._________________"Worse comes to worst, my people come first, but my tribe lives on every country on earth. Iíll do anything to protect them from hurt, the human race is what I serve." - Baba Brinkman

Statistically, for any large group of heterosexual people of consenting age, the mean number of sexual partners should be equal. All those women have to be having sex with someone, right?

Unfortunately, when we ask, according to CDC data, men age 25-44 report twice as many partners as women 25-44. In a large online survey men reported 31 (!) lifetime partners on average. Women reported 8. In a follow up question, 21 percent of men admitted they lied or knew their number was probably inaccurate, compared with 15 percent of women. Women were found to use enumeration ("Bob, and Jim, and ..."), men tended to use approximation. Approximation generally leads to inflation, while enumeration to underestimation.

Among low-income children, the age they lose their virginity is lower than among other SES's. However, among the majority girls do start younger. This might have to do with the two thirds of girls who say they either didn't want to lose their virginity when they did or had mixed feelings, and the 89% of sexually active girls who say they've been pressured into having sex. That is, boys often date younger girls, and apparently push them into having sex.

It helps if you look these things up.

I thought it was the whole "Girls mature faster so they favor older guys" sort of thing (which of course exacerbated by scumbags who know girls closer to their own age are less likely to fall for their tricks (read: bald face lies))?_________________...if a single leaf holds the eye, it will be as if the remaining leaves were not there.http://about.me/omardrake

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can also be read as
"Girls date older boys" -> obviously because high status is more important to women than anything else.

That's one possible interpretation. You realize there are others, right? And that there might be more than one reason that interact with each other?

Edit: iPhone posting is bad, mkay?_________________"Worse comes to worst, my people come first, but my tribe lives on every country on earth. Iíll do anything to protect them from hurt, the human race is what I serve." - Baba Brinkman

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Among low-income children, the age they lose their virginity is lower than among other SES's. However, among the majority girls do start younger. This might have to do with the two thirds of girls who say they either didn't want to lose their virginity when they did or had mixed feelings, and the 89% of sexually active girls who say they've been pressured into having sex. That is, boys often date younger girls, and apparently push them into having sex.

It helps if you look these things up.

I thought it was the whole "Girls mature faster so they favor older guys" sort of thing?

That's one explanation, although my point doesn't actually cover why, it's merely a descriptive statistic. I didn't offer an explanation for it._________________"Worse comes to worst, my people come first, but my tribe lives on every country on earth. Iíll do anything to protect them from hurt, the human race is what I serve." - Baba Brinkman