Female Masturbation: 17 Facts about the Naughty Secret

The subject is taboo, but don’t think it doesn’t happen. Women do masturbate, and here are 18 female masturbation facts to enlighten you on the subject!

You may think you know everything there is to know about us women, but we’re willing to bet the following facts about our self-pleasuring ways will surprise you.

Whether you think masturbation is as natural as breathing, or you think it is the root of all evil *and do it anyway* the fact is, everyone masturbates. You may not do it regularly, but almost everyone has masturbated, or does masturbate from time to time. It is natural, and it’s not dirty…unless you want it to be.

So, if masturbation is so great, and everyone does it, why are women so reluctant to admit they do it? Most men have no problem admitting they choke the chicken. In fact, many are proud of their self-pleasuring antics. This must be just another difference that separates the sexes, but hopefully by the end of this feature, the divide will be a tad bit smaller.

The elusive art of female masturbation

Here are a few facts about women and masturbation you probably didn’t know.

It was a small study—only 20 women of varying age, ethnicity, and sexual orientation—but the results are definitely interesting.

All 20 women admitted to having rubbed the nub at least once in their lives, and some even said they do it at least once a day. While this study was probably a little biased, since the women polled voluntarily participated in a study on sexuality *read: they were more free-spirited*, another interesting study—the Gossard Big M Survey (2008)—found that 9 out of 10 women romance thy own, and many do it as much as three times a week. [Read: 12 questions about female sexuality finally answered]

#2 Self-love is about more than just sex. Getting off is great, but for many of us, it is more than just the primal need for release. Sometimes, we have other reasons for masturbating. For instance, we may be having trouble sleeping. Tickling our fancy to orgasm is one of the best natural sleep aids in the world. It’s also a great stress reliever, and many of us pet the kitty to de-stress and unwind.

#3 We prefer sex toys to our fingers when going solo. Most women who masturbate—about 90 percent—use sex toys rather than fingers to bring themselves to orgasm. Why? Well, you know us women. The majority of us aren’t exactly quick on the draw, and vibrators and the like just make it happen faster. Which brings us to… [Read: 7 reasons why some women hate their vibrators]

#4 Sometimes it just seems like work. Even though most of us look at self-pleasuring as a positive thing, there are times masturbating just seems like work. Unlike men, reaching orgasm can be difficult for women. Sometimes, it just doesn’t happen, no matter how hard you try. Tiptoeing through the two-lips at times like this can be frustrating. Another frustrating aspect of masturbation is having to take care of yourself when you didn’t get to finish with your partner.

#5 It’s no big deal, really. For many of us, self-pleasure is as commonplace and necessary as brushing our teeth. It’s a no-frills, unromantic way to relieve tension or even to set the stage for a great day. Many women start each day off right with a little two-fingered tango in the shower before heading off to work. Masturbating, for some women, is just another aspect of a normal day, despite the emphasis society and the male gender places on it.

#6 We really have no clue how other women do it. Do other women penetrate while masturbating? Is it all about clitoral stimulation? We really don’t know what other women do, and honestly, we really don’t care. Research suggests that only about 24 percent of women reach orgasm through penetration, so the majority of us usually don’t use penetration to get ourselves off. This isn’t to say we forgo it altogether; really, we just do what feels good. [Read: Magic fingers – The sexual art of using fingers the right way down there]

#7 We still think it’s a man thing. Despite the overwhelming number of women who masturbate, we still think the act is a “man thing.” We still claim that men do it more or at least more regularly than we do. For those of us who do admit to touching ourselves, it’s usually because we’re doing it for our partners—either in front of them or during sex. You’d be hard-pressed to get us to admit we do it alone and solely for ourselves.

#8 Masturbation just makes us happy. Solo sex carries a ton of benefits. It helps us get in tune with our bodies so we’re more relaxed and happier. It allows us to find out what feels good, so we can share those discoveries with our partners. There’s even evidence that self-love makes sex with someone else better by keeping those pelvic-floor muscles in shape. All of these things are cause for celebration, for sure. [Read: Clitoris stimulation: 10 sensual touches to please the clitoris]

As much as we women would like to keep our solo act a secret, the reality is, whether we admit it or not, we do it. We do it, and we like it. You may not hear us talk about our private moments, because a lady never kisses and tells, but rest assured, we’re just as “depraved” as guys when it comes to taking care of our own sexual needs.

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Shawn Lehrke
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DISCUSSION

It just makes us happy. Oh yes, it does! I suppose I was a late bloomer when it came to discovering how masturbation made me feel. It wasn’t until I was in my late 20’s that I discovered that this could make me incredibly happy and I didn’t need a man to do it. I then understood why guys do it so much. I was doing it 3 or 4 times a day. It got so bad that at one point, I would take breaks at work solely to play with myself. I have since calmed down since I have a man that really pleases me, but I still do it from time to time to really get myself off.

I’m a woman and i have never masturbated and i have also never even heard of any of my girlfriends doing that either.What would be the point?Males have sexual urges and desires but females don’t.Junior highschool kids already know this.You would have to be dense to think girls touch themselves.Why some men out there believe that myth is beyond me.I’m glad i’m not the only woman here that isn’t scared to stand up the male idiocy.

I can only pray that you’re trolling, because no single female is qualified to speak for all females. Feel free not to masturbate if you don’t want to, but I’ve pleasured myself for as long as I can remember, purely because it feels good; it has NOTHING to do with men. In fact, I’m asexual, so that’s about as far away from “the sick male mind” as you can get. (On a related note, I’m also curious as to your explanation for what lesbians get out of sex, if only males can climax.) So please, do the world a favor and stop spreading your ignorance and misandry everywhere. Repeatedly ranting in comments sections about how terrible men are is not the best way to lend your points credibility.

The thing about masturbation is that men are the only ones who do it.They think since they do it,then girls must also be doing it but that is wrong.The biggest misconception men have about women is that we are just like them,that we have the same desires and urges they do.The fact is that girls don’t play with themselves,there’s nothing to play with.A vagina is not a penis,it is numb when not being touched and when it is touched it hurts.Females never feel sexual arousal,the vagina is not capable of that.It’s full of nerves that cause great pain,it can’t feel pleasure like a man’s penis does,the vagina feels not pleasure at all.That’s the reason women never masturbate,it would cause pain for no reason.Sex is horrible enough so why would we want to simulate it by ourselves?A guy would not drive nails into his penis so why would a woman masturbate?

Good that you mentioned using a cucumber for female masturbation. Chinese believe that cucumber juice keeps infections avway from vagina. How about combining these two ideas and masturbating with a cucumber with its skin peeled off?

Men masturbate, women masturbate, everyone masturbates. And besides asexuals and girls who aren’t wanting nor ready for it, we females do like sex. I personally find masturbation to be difficult, you have to be very into it to enjoy it, and when that happens THEN we receive pleasure from it.
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