Love hurts maybe for a woman more than a man. Why do I say so? Well women are definitely the more emotional type and do I say so because I see them struggle with hormonal swing and drift from one mood to the another?

Man on the other hand, and I'm talking about the stereo type men who leads the family, do the "Man's" job, is where the buck stops to take all responsibilities etc, becomes the seemingly less emotional type, some times cold to make decisive actions and seemingly 'cold as ice' as I was accused of when I was a voluntary missionary of 21 years of age by some other women I was trying to avoid by following the advice of President Kimball, the head of our Church at that time who had taught to 'lock your heart' and keep the key at home while called on a mission. It served me well to experience an ultimate joy of service and built deep spiritual roots personally to climb mountains of my life as shared here.

I returned on my mission to find a wonderful and talented woman to be my wife who was better schooled than me in our Church as she joined as a young woman while I became a convert only when I was turning 21. We started a true love story that ended with her passing but 'familylane' stories continue. Yes love hurts, not just in separation by death but some times due to separation caused by other reasons such as physical, mental and spiritual divisions. This goes back to my body mind spirit philosophy where everyone defers in intensity of each component of ourselves and how they work together to create each person to have his or her own unique traits or personality. As the saying goes, "Everyone is Different" and naturally so. Irreconcilable differences can cause more hurts in breakups and divorces which create even greater and longer hurts.

We therefore must remember the introductory lines of the last post, "Love is in us. It is deeply embedded in the brain. Our challenge is to understand each other." Using a Body Mind Spirit approach, it might cover the need to forgive one another, to learn about how another can be different from us and can still be loved and believe that a loving Heavenly Father is there to help us understand him and his plan on this earth for all of us to be happy together.

I remember two quotations about relationships that my wife and I would sometimes joke about. It is about whether which is true, 'The heart grows fonder when physically apart' or 'Out of sight out of mind'? In today's modern world, I've felt that a third option has been created where both may be physically apart yet may not be out of sight with each other with the use of online video chats and social media tools like facebook etc to keep our minds connected! I think this question arose in the past and even today in this new relationship of 'Didi and Boynie' due to the mobility that I had acquired in order to adapt to the new world of travel for family, work and even for spiritual purposes!Clicking here to see my extensive travel map over time explains why my wife and/or companion may feel hurt when I am away for missing me too much.

My extensive travel to China in search of my ancestral village and also my return trip to Singapore to be the "Be there Dad" for the boys especially when there is an event of theirs may be causing my future wife and companion growing hurts out of missing me too much. Before that I had a business trip to the US and also to visit family there!

After attending Han's performance at the Esplanade, I thought I would create the video below as an appeasement to her online for the relationship of Didi and Boynie! I was exhilarated to feel the theme of all the songs they sang was about love and I chose just their first song for this video with a little touch of personalization at the end, hoping that she can catch it!

After I posted the video clip I made to youtube and played it, the video of the singer Adele happened to play automatically after. Now here is a singer I felt after listening to her who knows how to really express the hurts of love in her songs :

Boynie caught on to her brain wavelength frequency and joined in. Together they seem to make a fearless pair!

Up and Up they went to another hill in Penang known as Bukit Bukit Bendera

Boynie felt intimidated and sad when he saw a sign he felt referred to him!

Luckily they came to a spot that reassured him all was well...

...that made him feel loved by Didi inspite of who he was.

The view from the top on the island of Penang was exhilarating!

Didi soaked it all in and her mind began to wander.

She had seen the artists at work in Penang and imagined 'what if' what they drew could be real?

She imagine herself with Sun Wukong, the Monkey King that would follow a monk with 2 other friends half pig and a buffalo in a drama she used to watch since young!

As her mind got deeper in the world of imagination, she felt she was flying on a magic carpet!

Boynie still on the hill wondered where she had disappeared to.

Again locking on to her brain frequency, he soon could join her on the flying magic carpet!

Like their super heroes, they felt they could dive down from the sky above to the land below unhurt.

Little did they know dinosaurs still roamed on the earth below and had to run into a cave for safety.

They were now in an adventure to seek for treasure in the cave but needed to overcome all the obstacles before them like walking on a broken rope bridge across molten lava!

Next was to protect themselves from mummies who became alive from their tombs!

They had to climb out of a deep well trap that they had fallen into!

There was also a struggle with Ghostly beings who would suddenly appear before them out of nowhere!

Boynie was nearly swallowed up by a gigantic serpent in one of the tunnels if it were not for Didi who saved him!

At last they found Aladdin's magic oil lamp where Boynie rubbed it and a Genie appeared to give them an awesome reward of gold coins!

They asked for a safer mode of transportation from the Genie like a bicycle which he did grant to them but it had ET as a companion on it who flew them high up in the sky again, even across the moon!

Finally they found by themselves a good old fashioned rickshaw down on earth level...

...where if anything happened like Didi falling off the chair, Boynie could catch her!

Didi has had enough of magic carpets in the air!

They could have found a slow boat to get home...

...but avoided it as unfortunately Boynie was not a good swimmer and would drown if he fell into the water!

They did eventually get back to a 'down-to-earth; state from their dreamland trip, never forgetting how things got out of proportion from what was supposed to be a normal trip!

Didi and Boynie learnt from the trip that what was most precious was not the gold coins or other gifts from the Genie they left behind but the love of their hearts for each other.

What a great joy it was to see Didi with her big smile and the beautiful night view of Penang island in the background,

She was sitting alone at the back of the ferry that had left the island...

...soon to be joined by Boynie grinning throughout the ferry ride.

He was grateful for the 2 chaperones on the trip. One was added in Penang, seated in the middle of the pic above. It was he who took the photo of Didi and Boynie holding the symbolic heart at the romantic Straits Quay where he had accompanied the loving couple!

Boynie felt charged up by the great success of the trip that seemed to give him a surge of extra energy!

He thought of his buddy in Australia due to this pic taken in Dec last year to say...

... "Look at the grin on my face!"

A thought also went to his guide and travelling companion in China, Wu Yuk Choi, who made some photos in this story possible. The prospects of a 'future wife' for Boynie was mentioned often during their China trip conversations to the extent that he and his wife had booked their flight early to visit Malaysia early in January of the 2016 new year to meet her!

Well they did come with another couple Yonnie and Ray who celebrated their 24th Anniversary after they returned to Hong Kong. A commemorative video below was made for their anniversary celebration that was made from pics of their trip and some from this blog post as well, dedicated to them from other couples in love in Hong Kong and Malaysia who became part of their enjoyable holiday.