My BS and I had a huge week. Things have been great. Trust building. Relationship repairing. Communicating. But now today the last day of vacation is drawing to an end. We are both sad about it. My BS is withdrawing. Tomorrow back to work. Back to that Help where there is an AP. I do not get upset with my BS. I can totally understand her withdrawing. It is just so frustrating after such a great week for it all to come to an end.

The good news is I should hear back Friday on a new job possibility that I interviewed for. And there us another job possibility coming up also. In case this one doesn't work out. This was the fifth position I have I interviewed for since dday. Hopefully I catch a break soon. Maybe a smile down from above for my hard work. It is probably too much to ask from an unfaithful lying cheating self centered POS. But just maybe.

Ok rambling vent over.

A wound can be stitched shut, but it decides when it will heal on its own.

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

I do not PM with Women

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GabyBaby♀ 26928Member # 26928

Posted: 4:41 PM, August 3rd (Sunday), 2014

Sending over some job mojo to get you (and your BS) out of hell...

Me - 44
DD(23), DS(20, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

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sorrowfulmate♂ 43441Member # 43441

Posted: 9:01 PM, August 3rd (Sunday), 2014

DJ,

How often do you call BW and ask how she is doing or to check in with her while you are at work?

A wound can be stitched shut, but it decides when it will heal on its own.

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

I do not PM with Women

Posts: 1183 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Midwest

somethingremorse♂ 42047Member # 42047

Posted: 8:30 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014

It sounds like a pretty normal reaction to going from vacation back to the real world. Be mindful, get through it.

Good luck with the job. Keep pushing forward.

Me: WH (40s)
DDay 11/03/13
In MC and IC

Posts: 911 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Pennsylvania

bionicgal♀ 39803Member # 39803

Posted: 8:35 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014

We just went through the same thing -- 1.5 weeks of family time (unheard of for us) and then last week H is back at work and it feels like he is withdrawing/absent/no longer loves me. Ha.

Sounds like you are at home, like me? It is TOUGH being the one at home -- feeling left behind. I pretty much had a melt down on Thursday, but things are getting better. I try to put myself in his shoes and imagine the stresses he is under. It is good that you don't get upset with her - I am not that advanced, yet.

Hang in there, and good luck on the job!

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

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Brandon808♂ 35619Member # 35619

Posted: 8:58 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014

Job mojo to you. Keep posting. It's good to get those frustrations out. Coming back from a good vacation is always a let down. Just more confirmation that it was a good one.

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DrJekyll♂ 43618Member # 43618

Posted: 9:21 AM, August 4th (Monday), 2014

Thanks for the support.

I was relieved that when I got into work, my XAP is off of work today.

And I will say that this last week has probably one one of the best weeks of my life. I get excited thinking about the future. Future vacations without the dark gloom overhead.

A wound can be stitched shut, but it decides when it will heal on its own.