breast feeding vent!

I'm 100% that I want to breast feed. No matter how tired I get, how frustrating it will be, or sore I get. I will breast feed when my baby girl comes out in march. My family hasn't been supportive of it. I hear "oh if the baby takes to it" unless something is physically wrong she has to. Right? If not how would we humans have survived for hundreds of years! No matter what it takes I will breast feed.

I'm 100% that I want to breast feed. No matter how tired I get, how frustrating it will be, or sore I get. I will breast feed when my baby girl comes out in march. My family hasn't been supportive of it. I hear "oh if the baby takes to it" unless something is physically wrong she has to. Right? If not how would we humans have survived for hundreds of years! No matter what it takes I will breast feed.

I agree and I think that is why so many people give up so soon. Because people say things Ike that! I wont lié its stressful and hard at first! It is so worth it to stick to it and is you want to you can!!

I agree and I think that is why so many people give up so soon. Because people say things Ike that! I wont lié its stressful and hard at first! It is so worth it to stick to it and is you want to you can!!

as happy as I am for you that you are 100% for breast feeding you need to be prepared for things happening. I ended up having to have a c section with my son and was totally out of it for the whole first and second day of his life due to how i reacted to the medicine and wasn't able to breast feed him right away. and so he never latched on and we tried for about a week or so. and he was already hooked on the bottle. so like I said just be prepared. anything can happen!

as happy as I am for you that you are 100% for breast feeding you need to be prepared for things happening. I ended up having to have a c section with my son and was totally out of it for the whole first and second day of his life due to how i reacted to the medicine and wasn't able to breast feed him right away. and so he never latched on and we tried for about a week or so. and he was already hooked on the bottle. so like I said just be prepared. anything can happen!

Oh I know that there can be complications. I'm just saying that if I can breast feed I will. Ya know? My sisters daughter came out with very high blood sugar and had surgery on her pancreas. She's 9 months old and weighs over 20 lbs. she has a feeding tube. So I know things can happen. I just am upset that my family hasn't been as supportive as they should.

Oh I know that there can be complications. I'm just saying that if I can breast feed I will. Ya know? My sisters daughter came out with very high blood sugar and had surgery on her pancreas. She's 9 months old and weighs over 20 lbs. she has a feeding tube. So I know things can happen. I just am upset that my family hasn't been as supportive as they should.

Things happen... I don't plan on breast feeding as I have some problems already, the drs have said I may be able to, so i could try...but I work full time as well and would have to pump and use bottles half the time anyways. Plus what i have apparently hurts really bad even if i can breast feed. I'm getting judged for not planning on breast feeding. I think every mom has to do what is best for them and we shouldn't judge each others decisions, I guess I'm just saying you can't win with this topic, do what is best for you.

Things happen... I don't plan on breast feeding as I have some problems already, the drs have said I may be able to, so i could try...but I work full time as well and would have to pump and use bottles half the time anyways. Plus what i have apparently hurts really bad even if i can breast feed. I'm getting judged for not planning on breast feeding. I think every mom has to do what is best for them and we shouldn't judge each others decisions, I guess I'm just saying you can't win with this topic, do what is best for you.

Just remember some babies don't get enough at first. My son didn't because I wasn't making enough. I had to supplement and that devastated me. But you need to Feed the baby. I also pumped which helped increase my milk quantity and eventually I didn't need to supplement.

Just remember some babies don't get enough at first. My son didn't because I wasn't making enough. I had to supplement and that devastated me. But you need to Feed the baby. I also pumped which helped increase my milk quantity and eventually I didn't need to supplement.

I'm sorry your family has such an unnatural reaction. I think I'm going to have to join a breast feeding support group to get through it once Cela is here, because my first pregnancy I just gave up because the pain was intolerable. I know it's best and natural, and I really want to do it. I need to keep reminding myself that I don't need anymore dishes to do during the day, maybe that will help!

I'm sorry your family has such an unnatural reaction. I think I'm going to have to join a breast feeding support group to get through it once Cela is here, because my first pregnancy I just gave up because the pain was intolerable. I know it's best and natural, and I really want to do it. I need to keep reminding myself that I don't need anymore dishes to do during the day, maybe that will help!

If it helps there's a breastfeeding forum on here where you can get support... I see some bad advice on there sometimes though. But find a support group in your town too. And seriously, babies don't just not "take to it" lol unless someone is feeding them and they don't need to. You'll do great!

If it helps there's a breastfeeding forum on here where you can get support... I see some bad advice on there sometimes though. But find a support group in your town too. And seriously, babies don't just not "take to it" lol unless someone is feeding them and they don't need to. You'll do great!

I am very supportive of breast feeding. I often grow dry around 4 months but that's just my body doing weird things. My MIL was not very supportive of me. I found out later that when she had her babies nobody offered ANY help or knowledge on how to Breast feed. In fact they strongly encouraged formula. Then for her 7thh and last baby (my husband) some horrible woman told her that because she was feeding him formula he would be dumb as a rock. Poor thing. I think she still feels defensive about her decision to formula feed and has a hard time being supportive of breastfeeding because it brings up bad memories.

I'm so glad you are determined to breast feed. It is hard and not a automatic skill for mom and baby. But soooo worth it if you can.

I am very supportive of breast feeding. I often grow dry around 4 months but that's just my body doing weird things. My MIL was not very supportive of me. I found out later that when she had her babies nobody offered ANY help or knowledge on how to Breast feed. In fact they strongly encouraged formula. Then for her 7thh and last baby (my husband) some horrible woman told her that because she was feeding him formula he would be dumb as a rock. Poor thing. I think she still feels defensive about her decision to formula feed and has a hard time being supportive of breastfeeding because it brings up bad memories.

I'm so glad you are determined to breast feed. It is hard and not a automatic skill for mom and baby. But soooo worth it if you can.

Ya know what I can't stand? When I say I'm hoping to breast feed and someone says "if you don't end up deciding to go with a c-section". 1)Don't treat c-sections like an alternative if you just don't feel like going through labor. It's for out of the norm medical reasons, damnit! it's not like choosing the stairs or the elevator! And 2) I understand that it makes it MUCH more difficult and in some cases kinda sabotages your options to BF, but it's not impossible in ALL scenarios! My mom had 2 c-sections and exclusively BF. it's tough but not impossible. Basically, I just hate stupid, uninformed and ignorant comments. Unless you've already done it, don't tell me how I should do it. And honestly, even if you HAVE done it, I still probably don't want to hear it. ;)

Ya know what I can't stand? When I say I'm hoping to breast feed and someone says "if you don't end up deciding to go with a c-section". 1)Don't treat c-sections like an alternative if you just don't feel like going through labor. It's for out of the norm medical reasons, damnit! it's not like choosing the stairs or the elevator! And 2) I understand that it makes it MUCH more difficult and in some cases kinda sabotages your options to BF, but it's not impossible in ALL scenarios! My mom had 2 c-sections and exclusively BF. it's tough but not impossible. Basically, I just hate stupid, uninformed and ignorant comments. Unless you've already done it, don't tell me how I should do it. And honestly, even if you HAVE done it, I still probably don't want to hear it. ;)

lol first of all I didn't think they did c sections with out medical reasoning behind it. second of all everyone with a c section is different. so like I said my son didnt latch because of the medicine from my c section basically knocked me out for 2 days. and yes I could have pumped. and did for about 3 weeks but we was getting for formula anyways because I wasn't producing enough. so don't be too quick to say just because you have a c section isn't an excuse. everyone's is different! :)

lol first of all I didn't think they did c sections with out medical reasoning behind it. second of all everyone with a c section is different. so like I said my son didnt latch because of the medicine from my c section basically knocked me out for 2 days. and yes I could have pumped. and did for about 3 weeks but we was getting for formula anyways because I wasn't producing enough. so don't be too quick to say just because you have a c section isn't an excuse. everyone's is different! :)

Good for you! This is our 3rd boy and I breast fed our first 2 for 15+ months each. It's tough, I'll admit but if your dedicated you can do it. I also work full time and pumped while at work, it was a pain but its what I wanted for our boys. I'm a nurse on a postpartum floor and have heard every excuse for a mom giving up on breastfeeding. The first few days saying that the baby is not getting enough is not necessarily true, unless you have a very large baby. Most newborns stomachs on day 1 of birth is a pith the size of a marble, day 3 the size of a larger shooter marble, day 7 about the size of a ping pong ball. The first few days after birth you usually have 1-2 tsp of colostrum in each breast, plenty for your baby and after 3-4 days your milk will be in. Milk is a supply and demand type thing. The more you feed the more you make. As far as pain is concerned yes it may be uncomfortable for a couple days, ecspecially if your a FTM and not used to it but IT DOES GET BETTER. It should only hurt when your baby latches on for a minute or two until he gets your nipple pulled back to the soft palate then it should feel a bit better, if it hurts the whole time he probably isn't latched on correctly. The football hold is a great hold to start breastfeeding, it gives good control and visualization of babies head and latch, and is also the most nipple friendly. I also didn't have a lot of support from my family when I decided I would breast feed, my mother told me neither her nor her sisters or mother could ever breast feed so I probably couldn't either and it was weird and too much work, but its what I wanted and I stuck with it and loved it. I hope you stick to it and it works out for you, I would be happy to give you more tips and advice from both an experienced and professional point of view.

Good for you! This is our 3rd boy and I breast fed our first 2 for 15+ months each. It's tough, I'll admit but if your dedicated you can do it. I also work full time and pumped while at work, it was a pain but its what I wanted for our boys. I'm a nurse on a postpartum floor and have heard every excuse for a mom giving up on breastfeeding. The first few days saying that the baby is not getting enough is not necessarily true, unless you have a very large baby. Most newborns stomachs on day 1 of birth is a pith the size of a marble, day 3 the size of a larger shooter marble, day 7 about the size of a ping pong ball. The first few days after birth you usually have 1-2 tsp of colostrum in each breast, plenty for your baby and after 3-4 days your milk will be in. Milk is a supply and demand type thing. The more you feed the more you make. As far as pain is concerned yes it may be uncomfortable for a couple days, ecspecially if your a FTM and not used to it but IT DOES GET BETTER. It should only hurt when your baby latches on for a minute or two until he gets your nipple pulled back to the soft palate then it should feel a bit better, if it hurts the whole time he probably isn't latched on correctly. The football hold is a great hold to start breastfeeding, it gives good control and visualization of babies head and latch, and is also the most nipple friendly. I also didn't have a lot of support from my family when I decided I would breast feed, my mother told me neither her nor her sisters or mother could ever breast feed so I probably couldn't either and it was weird and too much work, but its what I wanted and I stuck with it and loved it. I hope you stick to it and it works out for you, I would be happy to give you more tips and advice from both an experienced and professional point of view.

I only breastfed with DS for 2 weeks. My DH thinks its gross and that the dad is left out. I haven't told him yet that I want longer this time. It's an argument I'm saving for later. I might just do it without saying anything...

I only breastfed with DS for 2 weeks. My DH thinks its gross and that the dad is left out. I haven't told him yet that I want longer this time. It's an argument I'm saving for later. I might just do it without saying anything...

Oh I totally know! So sorry it came off as judging people with c-sections! I was more venting about the general public assuming they know everything there is to know about my own personal life, ya know? Like I said in my post, all situations are different!! :) I know that some women unfortunately can't when they want to, or even just prefer to formula feed. Completely up to each mom and their given situation. It just bothers me when people (in my case a frickin' teenage boy who in my opinion shouldn't be talking to an expectant mom about breastfeeding... talk about awkward!) assume that because it was a c-section they automatically can't breastfeed. It is obviously much more difficult, but in a few situations it is possible. I think that of all the situations in the world, pregnancy is the most diverse, plain and simple. LITERALLY every women is different. God knows I could end up not being able to, and as much as that would suck, as long as my kiddo is getting fed, who cares? I am really hoping to breastfeed, but whatever happens, happens. Sorry, that was kinda long. ;) I'm just still annoyed at that punk kid today. Haha

Anyways, didn't mean to offend or imply that you didn't try hard enough or anything! Your situation is your own, and your choice is your own. I just wish everyone in the world would stop acting like they know everything about pregnancy, especially people who've never done it and never will!

Oh I totally know! So sorry it came off as judging people with c-sections! I was more venting about the general public assuming they know everything there is to know about my own personal life, ya know? Like I said in my post, all situations are different!! :) I know that some women unfortunately can't when they want to, or even just prefer to formula feed. Completely up to each mom and their given situation. It just bothers me when people (in my case a frickin' teenage boy who in my opinion shouldn't be talking to an expectant mom about breastfeeding... talk about awkward!) assume that because it was a c-section they automatically can't breastfeed. It is obviously much more difficult, but in a few situations it is possible. I think that of all the situations in the world, pregnancy is the most diverse, plain and simple. LITERALLY every women is different. God knows I could end up not being able to, and as much as that would suck, as long as my kiddo is getting fed, who cares? I am really hoping to breastfeed, but whatever happens, happens. Sorry, that was kinda long. ;) I'm just still annoyed at that punk kid today. Haha

Anyways, didn't mean to offend or imply that you didn't try hard enough or anything! Your situation is your own, and your choice is your own. I just wish everyone in the world would stop acting like they know everything about pregnancy, especially people who've never done it and never will!

What is everyone talking about it being more difficult to bf if you had a c section? My doctor said your milk comes in just like it normally does because of the hormones released once the baby is born. Mine came in on day 3 and before that was the colostrum. As long as they are sucking, your body will do what it's supposed to. They actually advise you not to try out the pump beforehand because it could trigger labor. Anyways, you have a great attitude about it, and at times of coarse it will be difficult but set goals as far as if I can make it to 3 months, I'll see if its as hard as I thought, and I promise as each month moves along it gets easier and easier. The breastfeeding forum is awesome for advice, support, and encouragement. Good luck!

What is everyone talking about it being more difficult to bf if you had a c section? My doctor said your milk comes in just like it normally does because of the hormones released once the baby is born. Mine came in on day 3 and before that was the colostrum. As long as they are sucking, your body will do what it's supposed to. They actually advise you not to try out the pump beforehand because it could trigger labor. Anyways, you have a great attitude about it, and at times of coarse it will be difficult but set goals as far as if I can make it to 3 months, I'll see if its as hard as I thought, and I promise as each month moves along it gets easier and easier. The breastfeeding forum is awesome for advice, support, and encouragement. Good luck!

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