How I Understood and Recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder

Strategies and Tools for Healing

Here are some pages where I wrote about what helped me become free of BPD, and offer what I hope will be helpful ideas for recovering from trauma, neglect and abuse:

#5: What To Do if You Are Diagnosed With BPD
– Describes how important it is to understand that full recovery after a BPD diagnosis is possible, how to enlist family and friends as supporters, and where to find effective therapy:

#7: Addiction Recovery, 12 Step Groups, and BPD
– Discusses how addictive behaviors are often the result of or a compensation for trauma/neglect, and how 12-step groups are a crucial resource for many people in overcoming addictions:

#12: Cracking the Borderline Code
– This article conceptualizes BPD as a dysfunctional “code” or schema in which “bad” relationships keep getting taken in and replayed to the exclusion of “good” loving relationships. It argues that returning to the normative developmental process is crucial to recovery (seeking out loving relationships, rejecting isolation and bad relationships).

#14: How Risk-Taking Promotes Recovery from BPD– This article discusses how taking risks and facing fears helps feel stronger, bolder, and happier, allowing us to move beyond a history of trauma and disappointment.

#16: Lao Tzu, Sun Tzu, and BPD
– A philosophical look at how Eastern Chinese philosophy, from both a poetic-peaceful writer (Lao Tzu) and a Macchiavellian war-focused writer, can inspire us to recover from trauma.

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2 thoughts on “Strategies and Tools for Healing”

Just found your site. I, too have recovered from BPD but my recovery took a lot longer than yours. I spent 30 years in therapy to achieve it. I believe my recovery was tied to starting to live a life of gratitude. In fact, because of this, I believe I have found the “key to happiness”. Living a life of gratitude has profoundly changed the way I see the world and the way I interact with it.I’d be interested in your feedback on this.

Hi there, I am glad to hear you got better! I think gratitude and appreciation what we have is very important. And as I write on the site, I think that coming to do that is often linked to having increasingly close and trusting relationships with our fellow human beings, which in my experience helped me to appreciate and be able to take in the good parts of life.