What To Say To Women & More

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reader's comment

Hi Dave,

I've read your book and I totally agree with your Cocky & Funny approach (it has worked for me). Anyway, here are some facts about me: I'm 21 years old, I live in Greece, I'm really handsome, and I have never picked up a woman (as in, gotten her number). Although I look older (and experienced), I'm quite inexperienced with women.

I'd appreciate it if you answered a specific question. Here is the situation I have been in many times: I'm sitting with a friend of mine in a cafeteria. A few meters away is a table with two to three girls chatting. I catch one of them staring at me with that silly expression that says, "I like you.” What should I do? I should immediately stand up and approach her table with confidence. Then what? I'd like for you to tell me the exact words I should use.

Aris P.

david d. responds

Well, this is going to sound simple — and it is.

The first thing you need to understand is that if a woman likes you, then she's very likely to give you her phone number, e-mail address or whatever. I even know a guy who gets women's addresses and a map to their house when he first meets them — really.

Walk over to the table, say "hi" to one of the girls, and then ask her a few questions about herself. Finally, say "It was nice talking to you, I'm going to get back to my friends." As you turn to walk away, turn back and say, "Hey! Do you have a cell phone?" If she answers "yes," then give her a pen and say "Write down your number, I'd like to talk to you again."

It really is that simple.

You need to do that about 100 times in the next month. You'll learn so much that you won't believe it. Do it!