Re: I hate my body!!

Maybe physical makeovers aren't the only thing that people need. Not everyone can afford to go out and buy new clothes, shoes, etc. Maybe a mind makeover is what is needed. I saw a preview the other day for a new show hosted by Carson Kressley that is supposed to dispell the myth that women tell themselves about their bodies. I think it was called "How To look good naked" Has anyone else seen the previews? Know when it starts?

Re: I hate my body!!

Originally Posted by justdecent;2735531;

Maybe physical makeovers aren't the only thing that people need. Not everyone can afford to go out and buy new clothes, shoes, etc. Maybe a mind makeover is what is needed. I saw a preview the other day for a new show hosted by Carson Kressley that is supposed to dispell the myth that women tell themselves about their bodies. I think it was called "How To look good naked" Has anyone else seen the previews? Know when it starts?

Re: I hate my body!!

I used to hate my body, then over the past several years I built up a routine where I would constantly tell myself how beautiful I was and take time to look for the good things in the mirror and my guy friends started to constantly complement me. My self-esteem gradually became much more healthy.

Unfortunately, all it takes is one person to undo all that work...I met a guy and the next day saw him call me ugly on one of his friend's facebook walls. It felt like something broke inside me. I felt sick for several days...until I got the call that a friend of mine, who was my everything, died, and I suddenly realized what really mattered.

I guess the moral of the story is, love yourself and your body, and don't let anyone else's perceptions (or even your own) bother you. In the end, it's not important. Look for the good things and be happy, and in the end, that will result in a happier vacation.

Re: I hate my body!!

Originally Posted by worldscrashing;2713853;

I hate my body!! I swear I gain weight by just looking at food. Itís so annoying. My weight is constantly fluctuating but Iím never where I want to be. How can I wear a bikini on vacation in January if Iím around holiday food?

Screw the body image! YOU get to go on a warm weather vacation in January!! How LUCKY are YOU?!?!

Re: I hate my body!!

Originally Posted by twilite;2737286;

I used to hate my body, then over the past several years I built up a routine where I would constantly tell myself how beautiful I was and take time to look for the good things in the mirror and my guy friends started to constantly complement me. My self-esteem gradually became much more healthy.

Unfortunately, all it takes is one person to undo all that work...I met a guy and the next day saw him call me ugly on one of his friend's facebook walls. It felt like something broke inside me. I felt sick for several days...until I got the call that a friend of mine, who was my everything, died, and I suddenly realized what really mattered.

I guess the moral of the story is, love yourself and your body, and don't let anyone else's perceptions (or even your own) bother you. In the end, it's not important. Look for the good things and be happy, and in the end, that will result in a happier vacation.

Yes, that is the moral of our stories. Feel lucky to learn this now even though it came at a high price.
And I'm sorry about your friend. I know how hard that is. But it does take something like that to put other things in perspective.

And as for the guy you overheard. Well, this is how I look at THAT: I may not have a perfect body. It probably is pretty ugly (I was morbidly overweight, had weight loss surgery and at 45, the old skin is not nearly what it used to be. But hey, I'm ok with it), but its mine and its been through a lot and while I may "look" ugly to some. I'm have a beautiful brain, a wonderful personality and lots of friends. (no, not modest am I? ) and guys like that have ugly little brains and personalities and I wouldn't even want to be friends with someone who thought like that. UGH.

To me, ugly can reside on the inside and its the inside ugly that is far worse than any physical imperfections someone may have.