Don't Let Bad Sex Happen to You

In the words of Samantha Jones, "f**k me badly once, shame on you, f**k me badly twice, shame on me." We know bad sex is a fact of life—but instead of complaining about it, shouldn't we be taking matters into our own hands?

We ask because there's a new blog called Hot or Not in Bed, through which women and men can submit the highs and lows of their sex lives. Right now, though, the posts seem to be all horror stories from women talking about their absolute worst sexual experiences.

While the posts are sorta funny in an OMG way (one woman wrote about how some dude she hooked up treated her hoo-ha like he was picking a lock on a safe), they're also pretty depressing. We're hoping against hope that these tales of woe leave out the part where the girl grabbed a vibe and got herself to a Happy Place.

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At some point, bad sex is kinda our fault. (Cue angry faces!) When I was in college, I hooked up with this guy who basically did the "Stayin' Alive" dance into my vagina, which, suffice to say, wasn't exactly a pleasure-fest.

But, instead of telling him I wasn't down with his finger-banging ways, I just kinda laid there until he tired himself out. Which wasn't all that fun for either of us, I'm sure. Looking back, I wish I'd just spoken up, told him, "yo, stop stabbing my vag with your index finger" and showed him what I did like instead of feeling awkward about speaking up in bed. Because he was super hot and it would have been nice to actually enjoy hooking up with him.

And, honestly, most guys aren't going to be total vagina whisperers who can magically detect exactly what will make your toes curl. So, if a dude treats your ladyparts too roughly, gently ask him to tone it down a bit. If he finishes a bit too quickly, grab your trusty pocket rocket and let him finish you off. Sure, playing teacher might feel weird at first, but it will make you feel really good after.