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Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Wedding Preparations - Selecting our Wedding Date

I've googled a little about "What to do after getting engaged" and I realize that there's not alot of detailed information online for Singapore weddings! Most of the sites feature western weddings and their priorities tend to be very different from us? Like, their essentials include engagement party, wedding website, gift registry, and ring insurance. My parents don't really remember what are the to-dos anymore because during their time, most of the things were settled by their parents. Luckily, there are bits and pieces of information from other local blogs!

Confirming a wedding date is one of the most important thing to do before anything else. I initially thought that it was going to be an easy task because we just have to look at the calendar and choose a nice date right? Little did I know, it was going to be so complicated.

My ideal engagement period is between six months to a year because I've always found it more romantic to combine the joy of the proposal and the wedding together as one big continuous project instead of it becoming two different occasions if we drag it over a long time. In short, I didn't want a lull in the excitement leading up to the big day haha. He proposed to me in March 2016, so I was hoping we could get married in the early half of 2017, which is just nice as the completion date of our BTO is in 2017 too (I didn't want to do wedding planning and renovations together because they are both very important to me and I want to focus on one at each time).

So by right for most brides the conclusion ends here and they get married whenever they want right?However, my boyfriend's brother and his girlfriend are also planning to marry and it was only right that we select the dates after them, since they got engaged before us. Thankfully, as they weren't in a rush to confirm the dates yet, we were given the go-ahead to choose our dates first. Yay! I was hoping very hard that we won't have to do it in end 2017 because after avoiding the lunar 7th month and my birthday month, it meant that we had to do it around Nov/Dec and that would be almost two long years of engagement... plus very likely we'd have the keys to our BTO by then and it'd be so wasted if we still cannot move in together because haven't went through customary wedding.

Next, we had to decide if we want to visit a geomancer for auspicious dates and timings.

I wasn't sure if we should get a geomancer because I was afraid he would tell me things I don't want to hear. I don't want to know any predictions about our future (sometimes I think it causes self-fulfilling prophecy) and I don't want to be told I can't do this or can't do that because there are certain superstitious rules which I've decided to logically ignore and I also somehow already have my ideal wedding period. I'd be very sad if we are told to hold it several months later. What if he say no suitable dates next year and can only marry several years later? Omg I don't want!

Eventually, with the support of our parents, we decided to not give ourselves so much restrictions and decided on a nice date in March 2017, which is approximately almost a year after the proposal and less than 10 months from now! March is also the month we met, our dating anniversary, and proposal month, so it's quite meaningful and I guess we can also celebrate 5 years of dating on Honeymoon!