Military Families Support Group

Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.

My father was always hard on my sister and I. I think it is the discipine and structure that they go through. I remember when we were kids living overseas that it was worse. If we got into trouble there it reflected on our father, so he would always make sure that he had punished us for even small things. I also think that because he was never really around that when he was there he would over compensate on being a father. For my father and I it was too late. He pushed me away and we rarely talk, but hopefully you can find a time to talk about how you feel. Do it while doing something both you and him enjoy. I know that my dad never realized he was doing it until I was in college and not around him. We are really trying to work past it, but it is hard. Maybe if I had told him how I felt when I was a kid it would have helped. I know that deep down they see our potential, but they don't always understand that we need to be able to grow and learn and enjoy our youth.

I was blessed in that my father wasn't the stereotypical military dad that you see on TV; however, I can relate to what mariel said about things you do reflecting onto your dad. Everytime the MPs had to bring my sisters or my brother home, dad heard about it from his CO the next day. I consider it an honor to be from a military family. Sometimes when kids can't get through to their military dads, it's a good idea to talk to mom and have mom talk to dad. (If you have that option.) If there's anyone as tuff as a military dad- it's a military wife! :-) F.R.O.G.

My father was in the RNZAF and did the same thing to me and my brother. We used to think it was fun until I joined the Army and realised all the things he made us do was what they do in the Military. I ended up doing some similar things with my daughter. Sometimes I think military pers do it out of habit and without realising what they are doing. And as Cyndi has already pointed out.....military discipline can have its advantages later on in life

Could just be my skewed point of view... but I would hope more than just military parents were hard on their children. If someone does something they aren't supposed to do, they should get punished- it's a fairly simple concept. I think the biggest difference I've observed between military and civilian families, is that military families actually follow through with the discipline (not all, but often) and punishment, while civilian families (not all, but often) are more laxed and allow the kids to keep doing what they want to do.

In a sense, more civilian children run the household, and more military parents run the household.

Of course, take that for what you will.. I'm not a parent, and I'm new to the military lifestyle.. but that's my point of view from a semi-outside perspective..

I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????

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