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People pretend to care to make themselves feel better.
Nobody want to admit they are self-centered,unavailable people that have no time to help.
Everybody likes to think of themselves as wonderful people.

I dunno- cause they maybe don't know what to say? And this way it makes them look good? I know that I tend to lose patience with others and their trivial complaints about how tired they are, or how this aches or that aches. Then I would like to give them my list of daily symptoms which ms has so generously given me!!! I try to tell myself that they don't understand and it's not their fault, but that really doesn't sit too good with me anymore.

Many people just aren't really all that nice.
Others, like CasinoKathy said, don't know what to say, and they worry they'll say the wrong thing. (Most of us have been there ourselves when someone we know loses someone they loved.)
And some get scared you're going to get needy, and don't want to get involved.
One or two will actually believe MS is contagious, I kid you not.
There's nothing like an incurable disease to tell you who your friends are.

unfortunately i am not even talking about people being like this only for reasons of being uncomfortable speaking to someone with MS (i am not yet diagnosed after all) ..but just in general ..whenever i do meet someone that obviously and genuinely cares..it is like a miracle, a true event to be celebrated ..because it does not happen so often......i'm tired of being the one doing the reaching out to others and no one doing any reaching out to me....i know that sounds childish and selfish, but i'm just sick of feeling alone and have been having a really hard time lately...i can't get any sleep, i just want to cry....and since i am not diagnosed it's as if my symptoms are just totally unreal to people and that somehow a diagnosis of MS or whatever it ends up being or not being will change evvvverything..and suddenly it won't just "be all in my head"..but that probably won't even change anything either

i can't even hardly share my suspicions with anyone around me without them expressing their doubt...like they actually have something to base that doubt on...and in turn making me doubt myself, think myself to be crazy...making it even harder to make an appointment at all...it is hard enough as it is for me to call the clinic, let alone actually GO to the appointment...there are just so many barriers ..they are mostly self-imposed, but nonetheless real and true things that make me very uncomfortable....it's not as easy as it seems to be for a lot of people

unfortunately i am not even talking about people being like this only for reasons of being uncomfortable speaking to someone with MS (i am not yet diagnosed after all) ..but just in general ..whenever i do meet someone that obviously and genuinely cares..it is like a miracle, a true event to be celebrated ..because it does not happen so often......i'm tired of being the one doing the reaching out to others and no one doing any reaching out to me....i know that sounds childish and selfish, but i'm just sick of feeling alone and have been having a really hard time lately...i can't get any sleep, i just want to cry....and since i am not diagnosed it's as if my symptoms are just totally unreal to people and that somehow a diagnosis of MS or whatever it ends up being or not being will change evvvverything..and suddenly it won't just "be all in my head"..but that probably won't even change anything either

i can't even hardly share my suspicions with anyone around me without them expressing their doubt...like they actually have something to base that doubt on...and in turn making me doubt myself, think myself to be crazy...making it even harder to make an appointment at all...it is hard enough as it is for me to call the clinic, let alone actually GO to the appointment...there are just so many barriers ..they are mostly self-imposed, but nonetheless real and true things that make me very uncomfortable....it's not as easy as it seems to be for a lot of people

thanks for all the responses and support you guys, it is appreciated

Rosetta, you are NOT crazy! Make an appointment, go to the appointment and take care of yourself. Don't pay attention to those people who treat you that way. Look to make friends with people who will support you! There are supportive people out there! You just need to look for them! As for the kind of people you describe, I know exactly what you mean. I don't have MS,but I have something else that is very serious and I need an operation for it and if it is advanced, I may die from it soon (though I pray not!) and even though I have been diagnosed and what I have is very serious, various people still treat me the way you describe! So it's not you, it's them! I pray for healing for both of us. x