Accept yourself first then change

Accept Yourself

A client said to me “l don’t like who I am!” Can you help me change? My answer was not what she expected. I said before I can help you make the changes you want; you will need to accept yourself as you are.

This is a challenge for anybody, regardless of their problem. My client who wanted this change was having problems with anxiety. In her case, she had lived with anxiety for such a long time, and had decided she would rather have a peaceful and calm life instead. I know and understand that it is very hard to accept that you can be anxious or have other problems. However, before you can become someone other than who you are, your unconscious mind needs to accept that you have an issue, so you can let it go.

You may have heard about Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Dawson Church, PhD, is an award-winning author and founder of the National Institute for Integrative Healthcare to study and implement promising evidence-based psychological and medical techniques. His ground breaking research has been published in prestigious scientific journals. He is the editor of Energy Psychology: Theory, Research, & Treatment, a peer-reviewed professional journal. He shares how to apply the breakthroughs of energy psychology to health and athletic performance using EFT. EFT, if you are not aware of it, involves tapping points on your hand, head and upper body while making statements. In training others on how to use EFT effectively, Dawson starts off with the tapping statement: “Even though I have this problem I deeply and completely accept myself.” As a person involved in Energy Psychology, he has identified that one of the reasons why EFT is so effective is that the person needs to come to terms with themselves and acknowledge that they have an issue. This means they cannot ignore it, down play it, assume it is another person’s problem or that it does not matter. Instead you can make changes in your mind and body by starting from a point of acceptance and then gradually moving to a new empowering and beneficial mindset.

In dealing with anxiety, I get my client to first acknowledge that they have an issue and that they are prepared to face it rather than run away. This is also relevant to phobias, which are an extreme form of anxiety.

Since accepting yourself with an issue first before you create change is relevant to any issues, I would like you to consider a problem that you currently have in your life. As you think about it, do you accept that you have the issue and therefore that you can let it go?

My suggestion to gain the acceptance is to look in a mirror and really see yourself. Focus on your mouth, eyes, ears, hair, any wrinkles and you overall face and upper body. Next imagine seeing yourself as if you are looking at someone else in the mirror. Say to that person in the mirror the tapping statement I mentioned above: “Even though I have this problem I deeply and completely accept myself.” When you say it, you will probably hear yourself saying that this is wrong and you do not accept it. That is normal. Rather than believing this, repeat the statement again as if you believe it. Do this for 3 minutes a day. As you do you will find that you beginning to be open up and feel better about yourself and the issue. This is one technique that I have people do under light trance because it helps the unconscious to accept the statement more quickly.

Once you accept that you have an issue, you can create in your mind what you really want instead. Once in the mind then you can create it in your reality.

Change empowers you. If you cannot do it yourself, find another person to assist you in making changes to accept yourself and you will find it so much easier.
Have a great day achieving success.