AM Rule Refresher: Confidence

Mental preparation

Our AM rule refresher would not be complete without addressing the mental aspect of your game. AskMen.com'sFrom the Bar to the Bedroom provides a number of practical tips on how to stay mentally prepared when meeting women. For example, always remember to maintain eye contact when talking to a woman. Don't stare her down; just look her in the eye. Steady eye contact will make you seem more confident.

Another tip in the book: "Read up on current events constantly, and make the effort to populate your to-read list with books on diverse topics — tackle one a month." This may seem like a lot of work, especially if you're not a big reader, but just think of how your reading will translate into success with women. By cultivating diverse interests you'll be able to talk to far more people — from the hot pharmacist to the girl who works in finance. Knowing that you can converse on nearly any subject will do wonders for your confidence.

Start off in your range

From the Bar to the Bedroom provides a step-by-step process that explains how you can go from dating your average cute girl to seducing sex goddesses. To understand the whole process you'll have to buy the book, but we can give you a preview here. The first step is to start off in your range. Build up your confidence by dating women who aren't too far out of your league. That way, "you'll learn that talking to women is not that intimidating." Women who are a 9 or 10 on a scale of attractiveness get hit on constantly. Consequently, competition for their affection is fierce. Hone your pickup skills on 5s and 6s first. That way you'll be more confident when you approach the super-hotties.

the crucial first step

Confidence is the first step toward attracting desirable women. You have to like yourself before you can expect anyone else to like you.

For more tips on developing confidence and more strategies for attracting women, pick up a copy of AskMen.com's From the Bar to the Bedroom.