…I can’t stop crying when I think of Karen’s death. Our state passed Referendum 74 last week to legalize same-sex marriages. I’ve talked to other “fans” about how they plan to marry after 23, 30 years. I’ll make mine legal, too, in December. But I’m so sorry Karen and Jan can’t do the same.

Yes, my parents have been married for 43 years and are a beautiful example of love. But Karen and I joked that she was truly my fairy Godmother, helping me through the final stages of coming out. I knew it in my heart, yet Karen and Jan’s love for each other was an additional example that even lesbians can love, care and be together until death.

Rookie had Tegan and Sara answer some questions because they are grown women. For real. It’s a lot about being totally gay.