I like that these guys are eager to help rather than to just gripe about their partner's mood swings and hot flashes. (Trust me, boys. It's no picnic for us, either!) So here's what I usually advise:

If your wife is going through menopause, look for ways to minimize her discomfort. — Bloom/Getty Images

1. Know what to expect. Some women sail through menopause with hardly a symptom, but most experience varying degrees of mood swings, depression, night sweats, hot flashes, disrupted sleep and other unpleasant sensations Be sensitive to what your partner is going through and be sympathetic to how she's feeling. Telling her, "It can't be that bad" will only add to her frustrations. Look for ways to help minimize her discomfort. Bring her a pitcher of ice water to help her cool off or rent a movie (I suggest a comedy) to boost her mood. What if she rebuffs your offers of help? Don't push it. Eventually, you'll get points just for trying to be a good partner.

2. Don't take it personally. You need to realize that your partner's distress over her body, lack of libido or prevailing angst is not about you. Her comments might be directed your way, but really it's the hormones talking. Don't think your relationship is falling apart or that she doesn't love you anymore. Remember, this period will eventually pass.

3. Share your feelings. While your role is to be supportive, don't resign yourself to being her punching bag. If you feel she's acting very unreasonably, tell her how you feel and how her actions affect you. Be specific: Explain how hurt you felt when she screamed at you for not turning on the air conditioner or how she blamed the fact that she couldn't sleep on you. You need to be understanding, but you don't have to silently take abuse.