very messed up situation

So my current complicated relationship wit this guy, well he has an ex who he had a one nite stand with b4 we got together n now he has a 8 month old with her...well now he got me pregnant an she told him he can no longer c his son except only on weekends now and every other at that. He an i r fighting now bc of EVERYTHING an idk wut to do i love him an wanna raise our baby TOGETHER....HELP!?

So my current complicated relationship wit this guy, well he has an ex who he had a one nite stand with b4 we got together n now he has a 8 month old with her...well now he got me pregnant an she told him he can no longer c his son except only on weekends now and every other at that. He an i r fighting now bc of EVERYTHING an idk wut to do i love him an wanna raise our baby TOGETHER....HELP!?

So the mother of his 8 month son told him he can only see their son on every other weekend, correct? What's the reason behind it? Is it because she find out you are pregnant? Do you live with the "guy"? You want to raise the baby together, does he feel the same way? Why do you two fight? My boyfriend has a son from previous marriage. I care for him and love him very much (son). We do not fight over him living with us but I rather look for wise solutions to keep our home at peace. How do you feel about their 8 month son? Start by respecting the mother of his child even if she is a witch. It's important to show that you are a grown up and a mother to be who makes wise decisions.

So the mother of his 8 month son told him he can only see their son on every other weekend, correct? What's the reason behind it? Is it because she find out you are pregnant? Do you live with the "guy"? You want to raise the baby together, does he feel the same way? Why do you two fight? My boyfriend has a son from previous marriage. I care for him and love him very much (son). We do not fight over him living with us but I rather look for wise solutions to keep our home at peace. How do you feel about their 8 month son? Start by respecting the mother of his child even if she is a witch. It's important to show that you are a grown up and a mother to be who makes wise decisions.

Thanx for ur response. Yes the mother of his 8 month old son told him hes not allowed to see his son except every other weekend and yes only because she found out im pregnant. Idk why she has done this other then anger towards me and making the father suffer. I do live with him but because of all this things have became very complicated esp between him and I. He and I have not spoken in almost 2 days after all the drama and chaos so i do not know how he feels about raising this baby together. As for his son I love him very much and have taken care of him since the day he was born, he has never gotten hurt injured or nothing bad happen to him in our care. I love him and his father very much and would love nothing more then to have us all together as a family!

Thanx for ur response. Yes the mother of his 8 month old son told him hes not allowed to see his son except every other weekend and yes only because she found out im pregnant. Idk why she has done this other then anger towards me and making the father suffer. I do live with him but because of all this things have became very complicated esp between him and I. He and I have not spoken in almost 2 days after all the drama and chaos so i do not know how he feels about raising this baby together. As for his son I love him very much and have taken care of him since the day he was born, he has never gotten hurt injured or nothing bad happen to him in our care. I love him and his father very much and would love nothing more then to have us all together as a family!

It sounds as though the first baby's mama had hopes and dreams of raising their child together too. She probably is jealous of your situation and is using the infant to get back at the dad. Do you think this cycle is really going to stop w/ you? Or do you realize you could be in the same position as the other girl is in in 8 months pp? You might want to rethink your priorities. Yourself and your LO is what matters. It's his business being wrapped up in that drama. You should protect yourself & future child by surrounding yourself with a positive support system, not a bunch of drama.

It sounds as though the first baby's mama had hopes and dreams of raising their child together too. She probably is jealous of your situation and is using the infant to get back at the dad. Do you think this cycle is really going to stop w/ you? Or do you realize you could be in the same position as the other girl is in in 8 months pp? You might want to rethink your priorities. Yourself and your LO is what matters. It's his business being wrapped up in that drama. You should protect yourself & future child by surrounding yourself with a positive support system, not a bunch of drama.

I kinda agree with Bubba Your BF needs to stay by your side and fight for joint custody or as least scheduled visits in writing if that's where he wants to be. It's not your " fault" but it is your problem. I honestly think this time next year some one will be calling you the ex crazy baby momma. Sorry. I bet the baby's mother has a different interperation of their relationship/" 1 nite stand"

I kinda agree with Bubba Your BF needs to stay by your side and fight for joint custody or as least scheduled visits in writing if that's where he wants to be. It's not your " fault" but it is your problem. I honestly think this time next year some one will be calling you the ex crazy baby momma. Sorry. I bet the baby's mother has a different interperation of their relationship/" 1 nite stand"

I see. In that case he needs to take the case to court. Currently the mother of their son had a @defacto@ visiting schedule. She can't just change it without good cause. Her changes will cause "irreparable harm" to the minor child. He needs to go "ex-parte" to get back the previous parenting plan. As far as his behavior ... He needs to Start to back you up in many decisions if he really wants to create a family with you. He needs to be a father, friend and a partner to you. All the Best!

I see. In that case he needs to take the case to court. Currently the mother of their son had a @defacto@ visiting schedule. She can't just change it without good cause. Her changes will cause "irreparable harm" to the minor child. He needs to go "ex-parte" to get back the previous parenting plan. As far as his behavior ... He needs to Start to back you up in many decisions if he really wants to create a family with you. He needs to be a father, friend and a partner to you. All the Best!

I agree with the PPs, he should consult a lawyer and figure out how to share custody of the child. He should start writing everything down. Every time he asks to see his child, every time she says no, every time they do see each other, any strange behavior from her, etc...

I agree with the PPs, he should consult a lawyer and figure out how to share custody of the child. He should start writing everything down. Every time he asks to see his child, every time she says no, every time they do see each other, any strange behavior from her, etc...

thank u all. unfortunatly as much as i have tried, he does not wanna b with me at all neway and idk how im goin to do this, i cry every day and its so incredibly hard to deal with this and the sucky part is i still live with him and his family! idk wut to do im so hurt and lost!

thank u all. unfortunatly as much as i have tried, he does not wanna b with me at all neway and idk how im goin to do this, i cry every day and its so incredibly hard to deal with this and the sucky part is i still live with him and his family! idk wut to do im so hurt and lost!

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