So... my XWH and MOW both decided to start running and racing (like me) during my separation and after my divorce. I run into them all the time. Well...she took it a couple of steps further since she can't actually beat me in a race, and they now put on a yearly race together for breast cancer awareness mixing the fire department in the theme. (he's a fireman). Its for a good cause. But, I refuse to run it. It would be filled with all of the people who turned their backs on me when our marriage went down the toilet.

But, I still find myself going to their event site and looking at their pictures. The ones of her in the firetruck grinning and laughing. The ones of him and her together smiling like they won an Emmy Award or something.....

Someone I know in the running community commented on a picture of them together saying "You look so happy" and she said she was. And, it bothered me.

I don't want her to be happy. I don't want him to be happy. I want them to be miserable after what they did to me. But, it looks like they are living this fairytale happy life and I'm a struggling lonely single mom.

Life is not fair. I know that. But, it still sucks.

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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She11ybeanz♀ 27457Member # 27457

Posted: 7:36 PM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013

I'm just jealous. Not that they have each other. I think they deserve each other. I'm jealous that I'm alone. Yes, I have my daughter....and I love her with all my heart. But, I've been single a year and a half now....with no end in sight. And, its extremely depressing.

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

I'm looking at X's Facebook far too often again, she's on holiday updating profile pictures of her having a laugh with the girls and everyone telling her how wonderful she is, she even changed it to one of our wedding photos of her a few weeks ago and latest boyfriend along with so many other people were commenting on how beautiful she looks and it makes me sick

There's me on Facebook asking if maybe one person fancies the cinema and I get nothing.

The dirty skank posts anything she fancies and everyone is like going on about how wonderful and happy she is. Bitch!

When you find a way past it let me know. In the mean time good luck refocusing!!!

Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Pass♂ 38122Member # 38122

Posted: 7:44 PM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013

What Random said. They have found something to admire in what you have become.

Know why?

Because you're fucking awesome! That's why!

Cheating louse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 13 and 16
DDay: Nov 15/2012
Separated Mar 2/2013 after 17 years married. Will we ever be divorced?

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

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She11ybeanz♀ 27457Member # 27457

Posted: 7:53 PM, September 18th (Wednesday), 2013

Both of them your ex and his still married gf must not have anything going in their lives to invest so much of their relationship into your life.

My therapist said this. She said the fact that they spend so much time stalking my every move and getting involved in what I do and keeping track of what I do as well as becoming friends with Piper's sperm donor out of spite shows how they are basically obsessed with me. She said that people who have moved on are indifferent. Like I don't really care what they do anymore but its kinda "thrust" in my face all the time at races and commercials and at my gym! I have to hear about their stupid race or I run into them at races or training runs. Its extremely annoying.

I will stop looking. Its hard. But, I will work on it.

Because you're fucking awesome! That's why!

This made me smile! Thank you!

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"