Does Using a Vibrator Make Me Weird?

When you talk about sex toys as often as I do you start to hear some of the same questions over and over again. A big one that I hear way too often is “but isn’t it weird to need to use a vibrator?”. Far too many people think that sexual pleasure needs to come “naturally” and that means without mechanical assistance. What’s worse, a lot of these folks seem to think that vibrator use must mean something is wrong with their relationship because, after all, shouldn’t orgasms happen with one’s partner?

Well, today I’m here to tell you that my answer to all of those things is “NO!” Vibrator use is not weird. Needing something beyond your partner– wonderful though they may be– is not weird or wrong. There’s absolutely no reason your orgasms need to come “naturally” (whatever that means).

Look, I get it, it’s pretty common to wonder if we are the only ones doing something, even something totally normal. And in a society that eschews open discussions of anything related to sex, it’s no wonder so many people are self-conscious. If no one is talking, how do we know we aren’t the only ones and what we are doing isn’t weird?

Sex toys, however, have been around since 500 BC (yes, you read that right!) and are currently a multi-billion dollar industry, with vibrators accounting for 20% of those sales. Hell, the Magic Wand has been going strong for 50 years! Finally, according to recent studies, in roughly 50% of couples one or both partners makes use of a toy. So go ahead, use that vibrator! Enjoy yourself and rest assured you are not weird and far and away not the only one.