Friday, April 05, 2013

Hi! I had an article published on the Times of Israel website on Yom HaShoah. you can access it by clicking here

(in case the Times of Israel website has any issues on April 6-7, I've also posted the article below)

Smiling on Yom HaShoah

Yom HaShoah is the saddest day on the calendar. It is not
only the deaths of 6,000,000 that overwhelms us; it is the barbarity with which
they were murdered. Each atrocity shocks the soul. Jan Karski, a member of the
Polish Underground who was one of the first witnesses to report about the
Holocaust, described an atrocity he witnessed in Izbica, Eastern Poland.
There, multiple groups of 120-130 Jews were forced into train cars made to fit
40 people, and the doors were slammed shut. On the floor of the train was
quicklime powder, a chemical that generates enormous heat when mixed with
water. The human sweat dripping down to the floor caused the quicklime to
bubble, and painfully and slowly, the inhabitants of the cars began to burn.
These poor victims cried in agony for over a day until they met their
inevitable deaths. Remembering the Holocaust forces us to recall some of the
most barbaric massacres in the history of mankind.

It’s beyond painful to contemplate the Holocaust, but we do
so out of a sense of obligation. Remarkably,
for many years the Holocaust was ignored. Peter Novick documents in The
Holocaust in American Life the lack of interest American Jews showed in the
Holocaust during the 50's and 60's. There were no communal commemorations, just
small inconspicuous events organized by survivors, for survivors. Rabbi Yitz
Greenberg describes the experience of being a young American attending an early
Holocaust memorial service as similar to “crashing a funeral”. In the 50’s and
60’s, survivors felt pressured to remain silent about their experiences, and
were urged by their American contemporaries to “stop dwelling on the past”.
Novick points out that this phenomenon was due in part to the myth that the
victims of the Holocaust were weak, docile sheep lead to slaughter. In a
postwar atmosphere of confidence and self-reliance, the survivor was an
“embarrassment” because he was considered an example of “cowardice”.

Today the Holocaust is no longer marginalized. Holocaust
education is a staple of public school curriculums, and Yom HaShoah is widely commemorated around the
world. Holocaust survivors are no longer marginalized either. Survivors have been able to bear witness.
Tens of thousands of them have told their -stories, ensuring the history of
Holocaust is neither denied nor forgotten.

But what is often overlooked is the remarkable achievements
the survivors have had after the war. A full account of the impact Holocaust survivors
have had on the postwar Jewish community has not yet been written; but their
contributions are nothing short of heroic.

Yes, many survivors did not fully recover from their
traumatic wartime experiences. Some could no longer function, and lived
solitary lives supported by distant relatives. Others were dysfunctional and
carried lifelong scars, scars that still affect the lives of their children and
grandchildren. But contrary to stereotype, there were many Holocaust survivors
who flourished after the war. A list of the of successful survivors would read
like a Who’s Who, and would include the winners of the Nobel Prizes in Peace
(Elie Weisel), Literature (Imre Kertesz) and Chemistry (Walter Kohn), a
Brigadier General who commanded U.S. Army forces in Europe (Sidney Shachnow),
technology innovators (including Andy Grove of Intel), corporate titans, real
estate magnates, and the like. Even those who didn’t achieve fame and fortune
have left powerful impressions. My late mother, a survivor of Auschwitz, was
widowed at a young age and raised four children on her own, in a home filled
with warmth and compassion.

What is remarkable is how the survivors succeeded after experiencing such profound
trauma. William Helmreich, a sociologist, wrote a book based on a study of 170
survivors called Against All Odds: Holocaust Survivors and the
Successful Lives They Made in America. He explains that he conducted this
study in order to answer the following questions:

“How do people who have experienced such cataclysmic events pick up the
threads of their lives?…what lessons can the rest of us learn from the
survivors about coping with tragedy and adversity?”

Helmreich found that survivors were able to thrive because of a combination of
personality traits, including flexibility, assertiveness, courage, optimism,
tenacity, and the ability to find meaning. Because of these attributes, survivors were
able to overcome tragedy and rebuild their lives. Looking back, the slur that survivors
were cowards has been more than disproven by the exemplary courage with which
they lived after the war. And 68 years after the Holocaust, Jewish communities around
the world are far stronger because of the contributions of survivors. They
deserve our appreciation for all they have done.

Each year the Montreal Holocaust Memorial Centre conducts a Yom
HaShoah service at our synagogue. In recent years, the format has included a
section where six survivors tell their testimonies on video, and then each survivor
stands up to light one of six memorial candles. The video testimonies break
your heart; you hear about the horrific losses these survivors experienced, how
their parents and brothers and sisters were torn away from them a tender age, while
they were left alone to fend for themselves. The survivors speak --with profound emotion, and
while listening to their words, tears start to roll down my cheeks.

But then the survivor gets up to light the candle. At our
service, each survivor lights the candle accompanied by a child and a
grandchild. For me, that is when I both cry and smile. Despite all that these
survivors have gone through, they still didn’t quit; and they’ve not only
survived, they’ve thrived. Here they are, 68 years later, standing with their
children and grandchildren. 68 years later, they have rebuilt their families
and homes, and made profound contributions to our community. Even though it is
Yom HaShoah, I cannot stop myself from
smiling as I watch them, with a little bit of joy and a lot of pride. Thanks to
these survivors, we can still declare “Am Yisrael chai”, the Jewish people live
on.