Musings of a bisexual geek

Saturday, 13 April 2013

Suffering from anxiety and having been through bouts of depression as I have, I've understandably been to see counsellors from time to time. What I've learnt from seeing them is that the best thing to do is to focus on what I can control, challenge myself from time to time and at some point I'll suddenly realise I'm much better than I was. This has been incredibly successful and I'm very grateful to them.

Sunday, 16 December 2012

There are so many reasons why I love you, and for balance, I will start with them. You brought me:

Heather Morris's and Harry Shum Jr's dancing.

Naya Rivera's amazing acting and singing.

Amber Riley's and Lea Michele's singing.

An example of what not to do after a barrage of insults.

Cory Monteith's excellent 'wah?' face.

The strength to be totally honest about my own sexuality and to ignore anyone who has a problem with it.

Brittany's absolute acceptance of her own bisexuality.

The story arc of Brittany and Santana's relationship.

Dianna Agron's all round awesomeness.

For these things and more, I love you so much, and I will find it almost impossible to stop watching you, because every time I give up on you, you reel me back with either a fantastic cover or out of the blue fantastic storytelling.

However, I simply can't ignore your retelling of the story of New Directions by making Artie the hero of the piece.

The reason? Him being in a wheelchair meant he had time to focus on things other than being a football stud so he had time for Glee, thereby having a knock on effect on every other characters' lives, as presented in the 'It's a Wonderful Life' segment of the Glee Season 4 Christmas special.

A thousand times no.

I'll address the 'points' you made in that segment of the episode as I see fit.

Last year, I was a Hub volunteer, working in the main warehouse in Bermondsey. I spent most of the time working as a co-driver, stopping the guests from distracting the driver and helping them with any concerns they might have.

I'm going to be a Hub volunteer again this year. If anyone would like to sponsor me you can do so here.

Tuesday, 27 November 2012

Really Guardian? I was only two weekends ago defending your editorial integrity.

Then you spring bi erasure on me.

In your recent interview with Surrane Jones, her character in 'A Touch of Cloth' is described as "herbal tea-drinking lesbian caricature Anne Oldman" even though the character states in the TV show itself that she is in fact a bisexual.

Yes, I have already reported this factual error to your readers' editor, in an email dated 20th November. I haven't received an auto-response so I don't even know if you've received it, hence this post.

Try again please.

Edited to add:

The Guardian responded to my comment (on 4th March 2013) about this article:

Hannah says that Suranne referred to the character, Anne, as a lesbian, in terms of telling her she would be getting a new girlfriend in the next series, and that there would be more "lesbian ringtones". Hannah took this to refer to a running joke in the show, where each time her phone rings a song by an iconic lesbian artist such as KD Lang is heard. Anne is in a live-in relationship with a woman in the show and Hannah thinks the "bi" reference is one of the many puns, such as the one you cited, there to get a laugh:

"So you're a lesbian?"
"Bi, Jack."
"OK, I'm going!"

So in that sense, and primarily as a joke, she does define herself as bisexual. She is, however, only seen having relations with women.

Thursday, 27 September 2012

A year ago, just after the Liberal Democrats' Autumn Conference in Birmingham, I used FutureMe.org to send my 27 year old self an email. I received that email on the third day of this year's Autumn conference. What follows is the email together with my present thoughts, marked in red.

Thursday, 16 August 2012

To start off with, one thing needs to be said: Brittany Pierce in Glee is an out and proud bisexual. Not convinced? OK, let's hear it from her:

During I Am Unicorn, when talking to Kurt about her running as a candidate for class president, she says she realised she was a unicorn too (with Santana's help!), and followed this with "maybe a bicorn".

Tuesday, 14 August 2012

So, I just spent the last 5 days at BiCon 2012 in Bradford. It inspired me to do various things, one of which is to blog more. It also made me decide to start posting everything in the one blog rather than keeping this just for music, TV and film and using my other blog for the more serious things.

With this in mind, as this is the blog that gets the most traffic, I'm going to make this my one and only blog after a name change and repost everything from 'Analysis and Geekery' here, with the original dates so it doesn't look like I wrote them recently.

Saturday, 14 July 2012

The gist of the article is that the writer is disappointed that Santana was getting labelled as a lesbian and not a bisexual because of her history with boys. A choice paragraph is as follows:

Even clueless Brittany tries to help Santana’s self-identify by making her a T-shirt that says “Lebanese” (oh how I want one of those, early birthday present anyone?). Now hang on one cotton-picking minute. It’s not the first or the last time that someone in the show alludes to Santana being a lesbian, but everything Santana has done and said so far screams bisexual. A bisexual girl who doesn’t like labels (welcome to the club), and is firmly in a closet, but most definitely bisexual.

Saturday, 30 June 2012

Last night I stayed up watching Get Smart, a spy spoof (based on the 1960's series of the same name) starring Steve Carrell and Anne Hathaway. It's about an analyst who after all of the field agents' identities are revealed is let out into the field with Agent 99 (played by Hathaway), who has just returned after extensive plastic surgery.

Thursday, 14 June 2012

A lot of Dido's songs sound soothingbecause of her lovely voice. That is unless you listen to the lyrics, Don't Leave Home is a case in point, it seems like a lovely love song about supporting the one you love but is actually quite sinister...

Tuesday, 12 June 2012

I'm sure you know
about the current consultation about marriage equality. There are a few
reasons I feel allowing same-sex couples to marry in civil ceremonies
are necessary:

Currently even countries which have same-sex marriage don't recognise UK's civil partnerships.

When
a married trans* person wants to be legally recognised as the opposite
gender, they have to get divorced and then enter into a civil
partnership with their spouse.

Having separate institutions for
same-sex and opposite-sex couples means that future governments would be
able to legislate differently for them (granted the Equality Act would
have to be repealed first, but this isn't beyond the realms of
possibility).

On a personal note, as a bisexual woman if I were to enter into a
long term, committed relationship, I would like the option to marry
them, whatever their gender.

So on that note, I'd like to ask, if
it came to a vote in Parliament, between the status quo and allowing
same-sex couples to marry in civil ceremonies, what would your vote be?