The rockets falling across Israel in the past days have caused disturbances and hindrance in all facets of life; camps were closed, events cancelled and the economy disrupted.

One of the restrictions imposed by the Home Front Command following the dangerous security situation is that large gatherings are prohibited in the south; for couples who are supposed to get married, this is a real blow.

A group of volunteers have identified this problem and have decided to provide a solution. Working through Facebook, ‘Color White’ (a play on the ‘Color Red’ code sounded when rockets fall) connects between couples who are forced to cancel their wedding and providers of wedding services who are willing to help the beleaguered residents of the south.

The initiators of this life-saving enterprise are two women, Tal Maor-Zingerman, a graphic artist, and Hadar Melamed-Richter, an architect. Seeing many couples in distress, they decided to act. They both have a blog on the wedding fashion scene; having vast connection in the wedding business, they decided to offer their services.

The group is well experienced, having operated during Operation ‘Pillar of Defense’ in 2012. Tal explained that the level of stress is currently higher than usual: “It’s the wedding season now, and almost all the halls are already booked.” The group connects the couples in distress with a full wedding package, including providers who are offering substantial discounts to couple fleeing the missiles in the south. Tal shares that people are even offering their own homes as bride salons. They are constantly receiving calls from tens of brides and providers who want to help.

In light of the recent attacks and heavy bombing on Southern Israel, the nonprofit “Chasdei Naomi”, who are usually involved in assisting the less fortunate in society, announced they have opened their six wedding halls, “Armonot Chen”, in Beni Brak and Jerusalem, free of charge to residents from the South whose weddings were postponed. In addition to the halls, the organization has offered to assist in wedding planning at their Jerusalem location and offer logistic equipment and assistance in updating their guests on the event changes in all their locations. The organization has previously opened their doors during Operation ‘Pillar of Defense’ and assisted three couples to get married then.

“My family is from Ashkelon, and so I have been living this situation for years. I know what people feel. We are sure to stand by whoever needs anything. During the last operation we’ve helped dozens of couples get married on time, despite the chaos around,” says Tal. “It is important for me to emphasize that all those who involved are volunteers, and I have no words to thank them for joined us. We invite any couple in distress to contact us,” concludes Tal.

I don’t know who this Chatan and Kallah (bride and groom) are, but under their marriage Chupah they prayed for the 3 kidnapped boys, Eyal Yifrach, Naftali Fraenkel and Gilad Shaar, to be returned home safely, as well as for the soldiers looking for them.

The Shas party is probably not as unified over voting in a specific presidential candidate for president as some might believe. It’s probably not unified at all.

On Monday night, Shas MK Eli Yishai and Likud president-hopeful MK Ruby Rivlin were seen sitting side-by-side at a wedding for the grandson of former Chief Rabbi, Rav Shlomo Amar.

In fact, except for Shas leader Aryeh Deri and Ariel Attias, all the Shas MKs showed up, despite the tremendous pressure placed on them not to go to the wedding.

The battle behind the scenes is over who is spiritual heir to former Shas founder Rav Ovadia Yosef and of Sephardim in general. Most Sephardim appear to be leaning towards Rav Shlomo Amar, who is considered a halachic genius and successful chief rabbi. Aryeh Deri sees Rav Amar as a political threat to his Sephardic hegemony.

At one point Rav Amar blessed Eli Yishai, who Deri had deposed as party head, saying, “May all your enemies fall before you, and may you be raised up, and succeed in all your undertakings.”

In practical terms, Shas, under Aryeh Deri, is more likely to be ordered to cast a vote for Dalia Itzik than for Ruby Rivlin. But as the vote for president is done by secret ballot, we’re more likely to see Yishai’s faction within Shas voting for Ruby Rivlin.

Among other guests who made an appearance were the two current chief rabbis, one of whom is related through marriage to Rav Amar, former chief rabbis, judges, both Ashkenaz and Sephardi yeshiva heads, as well as Jerusalem mayor Nir Barkat who sported a fashionable knitted Kipa.

If weddings parties were coronations, then Rav Amar would be king.

And despite all the attention his grandfather was getting, the Chatan (groom) clearly enjoyed the wedding too.

There’s more to being a Jewish man than one might think. It can be quite dangerous, in fact.

Take the issue involving a Jewish man stamping on a glass (sometimes wrapped in an elegant cloth napkin) at the end of his wedding vows, for instance.

The ritual is intended to remind those attending that even at moments of soaring joy, one must remember the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem and pray for its return.

But one chatan (bridegroom) now has a warning for future husbands-to-be: be careful when you stomp your glass.

The unnamed chatan cut his foot when he smashed the glass under the chuppah (wedding canopy) at a banquet hall on Rehov Tzfira in Tel Aviv recently.

Hatzolah Emergency Response medic Yehuda Hildeshaim, who was on the scene, treated the injured bridegroom on site. The medic, who said the foot was gashed quite deeply, added that the groom decided he would not go to the hospital until after the rest of the wedding celebrations had concluded.

There is a little known fact (outside of Lubavitch) about the founder of Chabad Chasidus, Rav Shneur Zalman of Liadi (the author of the Shulchan Aruch HaRav – also known as the Baal HaTanya). He supporeted the Czar of Russia in opposition to Napolean. R’ Shneur Zalman reasoned that the freedom that would result via Napolean’s emancipation from the Czar would cause Jews to go Off the Derech (OTD). He wasn’t entirely wrong.

Not that an anti-Semitic dictatorship like the Czarist Russia or the Soviet Union didn’t do the same thing or worse. Most Jews in the anti Semitic/anti religious Soviet Union were unable to remain observant. But it cannot be argued that too much freedom will result in the masses opting out of observant Judaism – or even Judaism altogether. At least that is what the recent Pew study revealed. A shocking 70% of non Orthodox Jews marry out and only 20% of their children are raised with any semblance of Jewish identity.

Why is that? There are many reasons mostly having to do with a lack of any significant Jewish education. But that is only part of the story. An Interesting observation was made by Bethamie Horowitz in a Forward article that had a positive spin on that survey. Sort of positive – that is.

She noted that marrying out is not so much a function of going OTD as it is the result of an overwhelming sense of acceptance of Jews into American society of Jews and Judaism. That should be obvious to anyone who is paying attention. Here are some examples of that:

Yiddish words are increasingly seeping into the English language.

The Holocaust is perhaps the most revered subject in the public square today. Hollywood – which is probably the most influential component of American culture – will not let us forget it. Every year there is another Holocaust movie or documentary. Which is often nominated for an Academy Award.

The number of Jews winning the Nobel Prize was immense this year it seems. I believe that 22% of all Nobel Prize winners are Jews (Whereas only .2% of the world population are Jews.)

In fact there are so many indicators of our acceptance that it would take up too much space to include them all. I recall reading about a poll recently that said that Judaism is the most respected religion in America.

Not only are Jews no longer hiding their Judaism by changing their names; not wearing a Kipa in public (if they are male); and keeping their religious practices completely private – if at all, they are now proudly proclaiming their Jewish identity.

It is now ‘cool’ to be Jewish in this country. But it is not cool to be observant. That is a burden that a proud assimilated and not religiously educated Jew can do without. Without a religious education the freedom to assimilate can and probably will lead you astray. Why be observant, an assimilated Jew might ask? Just be a proud Jew. The next generation will ask why even bother even being Jewish at all? ‘I don’t even like bagels’ they might say. ‘I prefer lobster!’ Intermarriage? What’s the big deal? It is completely accepted now.

The ultimate demonstration of that was one of the most famous intermarriages of the modern era. Chelsea Clinton, the daughter of a President married a Jew. Her wedding highlighted many aspects of a Jewish wedding, including a Chupah and a Kesubah. Her husband even wore a Kipa under the Chupah. And the media was all over this fawning over it like it was a royal marriage. As Ms. Horowitz points out:

A cartoon from the October 1, 2012, issue of The New Yorker depicted a couple and a wedding planner with the following caption: “No, we’re not Jewish. But we think it would be fun for our reception’s theme to be ‘A Jewish wedding.’”

So is R’ Shneur Zalman right? Should we be praying for a government that will oppress us? Is oppression the only thing that will keep us Jewish? Apparently that is what the Baal HaTanya believed. The Judaism of his generation was apparently very shallow. A Jew would not remain a Jew if given the chance – and the anti Semitic Czar would never give a Jew that chance.

He preferred persecuting us. And Jews remained Jewish and for the most part observant. Why observant? The communities were tight knit and going OTD meant being ostracized. Which of course meant that an OTD Jew would have no place to go since he was still a Jew and not accepted by Russian gentiles. He was worthy only of persecution.

What a sad commentary on Judaism if the best way to keep Jews observant is by keeping them oppressed. This is what R’ Shneur Zalmen wanted and it is why (I am told) he supported the Czar.

But I have to disagree with him and the entire premise of blaming freedom for the masses going OTD. It isn’t the fault freedom. It’s the fault of lack of a proper religious Jewish education. The vast majority o those of us who were properly educated are today observant… in an era of complete freedom and total acceptance by general society.

As Noah Feldman’s article in Bloomberg pointed out, one need only look at Lakewood to see just how well religiously educated Jews are doing. Their growth has been exponential over the last couple of generations. That Noah Feldman – a once Orthodox but now assimilated Jew who married out pointed this out – does not detract from the reality of what he said. (Ironically he was given a religious Jewish education. But he is the exception that proves the rule. Unfortunately there are a lot of exceptions. The reason for that is beyond the scope of this post.)

So there you have it. The real fault of why the vast majority of Jews in this country are not observant lies mostly with the lack of any significant religious education for the masses of Jews who immigrated here in the early 20th century. Jewish education was practically non-existent then. Coupled with the melting pot climate of assimilation and the requirement to work on Shabbos in order to keep your job… the children of these immigrants ran away from observance in droves. They wanted to be Americans. Not Jews. Those 90 percent of Jews who are today are not observant are their offspring. Through no fault of their own – being completely bereft of any Jewish education – they do not know the definition of Judaism and see no value in it. As can be seen from the Pew study.

The good news is that many of these Jews do not have the biases of their parents or grandparents. Their parents and grandparents hated the burdens of being observant and ran away from observance. Their children don’t know enough about it to hate it. Of course this is not true in all cases. Many of these young people do not want to give up the freedom that non observance affords them. But a surprising number of them do. That’s where organizations like NCSY comes in.

So, all is not lost. The lesson we should take from all of this is that we should appreciate and even cherish the freedom this great country of ours affords us. And that oppression is not the way to keep Jews in the fold. Being Jewish because circumstances force you to be is not a prescription for Jewish continuity. Education is. And that is the secret of Orthodox success in this – the free’est country in the world.