37 weeks - Potential Induction - Any advice, really scared

At my 34(+5) midwife appointment baby measured smaller than he had been doing but the community midwife didn’t acknowledge it/refer me for a growth scan... within a couple of days babys movements had slowed/reduced so I went to the hospital where the lady I saw was disgusted I’d not been sent straight away after the lower measurement.
I’ve been being monitored every other day since then and they’ve mentioned potentially inducing me as I still have a perception of reduced movements. Obviously that’s frightened me a bit but I understood why they’d mentioned it and why they were considering it although I know it’s a long and painful process and I’ve had serious anxiety all the way through about the labour itself.
Anyway I had my 36(+5) week midwife appointment today which I still attended as I really wanted to try and get a birth plan in place before any potential induction - anyway it was the same midwife who I’d seen last time (I should point out we’d attended a hypnobirthing taster class with her several weeks ago but decided not to go ahead with booking the course as my partner was so dubious about it) anyway I explained what was going on and that I wanted to do my birth plan anyway.... she basically said it was too late?! And if I wanted to do it I’d have to print off he nhs one. She has literally put the fear of god up me and made me feel like I shouldn’t agree to being induced, she’s taken a dislike to my partner as she knows he was the main reason we didn’t continue with her hypnobirthing course and said to me over and over that she didn’t think he would be a help to me in labour (I felt confident with him although obviously it’s the unknown so I’m sure he’ll be a little overwhelmed but I expect that’s normal) and I needed to find someone else, she told me that if I was in France my baby wouldn’t be considered full term until 41 weeks so I’m potentially bringing my baby 5 weeks early, I wouldn’t be able to cope with the pain of an induced labour and that she didn’t think I was ready and I’d probably bleed more and maybe haemorrhage amongst various other things, I sort of sat there in disbelief and didn’t know what to say. I’d been nervous but had accepted that this could be what happens but having been with her this morning she’s absolutely terrified me and now I don’t know what to think/do.... she practically said to me I shouldn’t agree to being induced as it wasn’t natural...
I feel more anxious now than I have at any other point, I feel she was really inappropriate but I can’t forget what she’s said to me and now I just don’t know how to move forward 😢
I don’t know anyone who’s been induced so I don’t have a clue what to expect....

Comments (29)

Your midwife sounds ridiculous. Ive been induced twice. 1st was a breeze as i was well readt and 4cm dilated. 2nd was from nothing as baby stopped growinh and reduced movements. I was given 24 hour pessary..it was uncomfortable to be put in as they give yiu a rough sweep at same time. But overall it was fine
Monitoring is annoying butbagain finr. 24 hours later nothing happened but cervix was ripe ao they broke waters. Not painful at all just bloody odd! Then the drip was put in. Contractions fast and painful straight away but they are supportive as they aware of this and pain rwlief offeres from outset. I had baby in arms 3 hours after getting drip.

Your midwife sounds ridiculous. Ive been induced twice. 1st was a breeze as i was well readt and 4cm dilated. 2nd was from nothing as baby stopped growinh and reduced movements. I was given 24 hour pessary..it was uncomfortable to be put in as they give yiu a rough sweep at same time. But overall it was fine
Monitoring is annoying butbagain finr. 24 hours later nothing happened but cervix was ripe ao they broke waters. Not painful at all just bloody odd! Then the drip was put in. Contractions fast and painful straight away but they are supportive as they aware of this and pain rwlief offeres from outset. I had baby in arms 3 hours after getting drip.
Dont let horrot stories put you off. Inductions can go fine!

Thank you! I feel like she’s taken a dislike to me/us as we didn’t go ahead with her course and she seemed to have a chip on her shoulder but any anxiety I was having was made 100 times worse by her! She was telling me it’d take 5 days before I went into labour and would have contractions for all of that time 😱🙈 feel a bit better knowing that’s not necessarily the case. Thanks again x

I was induced both times with mine also, 1st time as they thought she would be too big and 2nd time as she had stopped growing at 34 weeks. 1st time i was induced at 38+5 with a 6hr pessary i went into labour about 4hrs after having it and mu labour was 1hr 18mins and i needed a couple of stitches, 2nd time i was 37+2 i was given the 24hr pessary but it did nothing so i was then given the 6hr pessary, i went into labour after 30 mins and my labour was 4hrs 23 mins. The second time wasnt as bad, i would do it again, as previous poster said dont be afraid and ask for any pain relief you fell you need (I only had gas and air with both) as everyones pain threshold is so different. Also i never had a birth plan with either i just went with the flow, but you can write in your notes what you wish i think theres a comments second on the labour page i just wrote what i didnt want and told my OH (other half) do not let them do this etc. But dont worry you will be fine xx

My goodness she sounds awful! She should have sent you for a growth scan first of all! I’m in a similar situation (with baby not midwife) baby measuring 3weeks behind and reduced movements the last week or so, so possibly being induced at 37weeks, also suffer with severe anxiety disorder, I’ve never been induced before but heard a lot of positive stories! Sorry I’m not much help 🙈 xx

Please report her, that is awful conduct. If you need to be induced for medical reasons your not choosing to bring your baby here early. Please dont fear induction I think its one of those things were you hear more of the bad than good. I was induced twice, both babies arrived quickly and I had waterbirth with gas and air which many ladies hope to have. It was amazing. That mw is a dick tbh.

I was induced both times with mine also, 1st time as they thought she would b...

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08/11/2017

I was induced both times with mine also, 1st time as they thought she would be too big and 2nd time as she had stopped growing at 34 weeks. 1st time i was induced at 38+5 with a 6hr pessary i went into labour about 4hrs after having it and mu labour was 1hr 18mins and i needed a couple of stitches, 2nd time i was 37+2 i was given the 24hr pessary but it did nothing so i was then given the 6hr pessary, i went into labour after 30 mins and my labour was 4hrs 23 mins. The second time wasnt as bad, i would do it again, as previous poster said dont be afraid and ask for any pain relief you fell you need (I only had gas and air with both) as everyones pain threshold is so different. Also i never had a birth plan with either i just went with the flow, but you can write in your notes what you wish i think theres a comments second on the labour page i just wrote what i didnt want and told my OH do not let them do this etc. But dont worry you will be fine xx

Please report her, that is awful conduct. If you need to be induced for medic...

Posted
08/11/2017

Please report her, that is awful conduct. If you need to be induced for medical reasons your not choosing to bring your baby here early. Please dont fear induction I think its one of those things were you hear more of the bad than good. I was induced twice, both babies arrived quickly and I had waterbirth with gas and air which many ladies hope to have. It was amazing. That mw is a dick tbh.

She told me I wouldn’t be able to have a water birth if I was induced as that was what I wanted.... she said ‘it depends how far along your induction is’ which made no sense so I asked what she meant and she said i wouldn’t be able to have one?! 🙈😰 Thank you xx

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