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just want to cry :(

marymont wrote:

I lost my job when I was 4 months along, so my bf got a second job so that we could have a place to live. well right now his 2 jobs aren't cutting it. we can't afford our place so we are trying to move out but can't until someone can take over our lease. so we currently have 4 dollars to our name and can't afford any food for a week and a half, my bf also doesn't have enough gas to work for each job... I honestly feel like I just want to cry :( nothing is going right! and when we move we have no where to go cause we cant afford a deposit. Idk what we are doing anymore.... this sucks.

@marymont Do you have family or friends nearby that you can stay with?

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volcomkat13

@marymont Go to a church or food bank go to your local GA office they should be able to help I will pray for you

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mnmsmommyplus1

@volcomkat13 I am in a similar situation. My ex left when I was 2 months along and cleared out my whole bank account. I was working my butt off to keep a roof over our heads (my two sons and I) then my son got rotavirus and was sick at home for 14 days and I lost my job because of it! I can't get hired anywhere at this point because im so far along. I hope that everything works out for you!

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drbgnome

@marymont I second the church idea. Our church helped a single pregnant woman pay rent once. She wasn't a member and no one knew her, she just walked in and tearfully asked to speak with the pastor. She explained her situation (much like yours) and left with a check. I'm not saying every church will do this, but most have a "fund" for these types of things. At the very least they'll be able to direct you to help.

Also there are usually places in your town that will help with food. It sucks to ask for help, I know, but it sounds like you two are doing your best.

I'm sorry you are going through it, but one day you'll be on the other side! Just keep working and keep your head up. My mother was a single mom with two kids on welfare, and she often went without food. When she met my dad she didn't even own a coat (she lived in NH) because she sold it.

Now she lives on a lake and has plenty of financial security. It can happen for you too.

Good luck and God Bless!

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lovemyson0820

@marymont Have you tried applying for WIC or food stamps? Or go to the food bank they will give you food. I'm so sorry youre going through this =(

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criterz99

@marymont Have you applied for WIC. It's not a lot but it's something.

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karebear07

I'm not sure if this is true where you are, but in my city you can call 211 from any phone and it connects you to someone who can get all kinds of emergency services in place - food, rent, utilities, gas, medical, etc. It's worth a shot. Also, talk to your doctor! He or she may just know of some resources for pregnant women that can help. Hugs and prayers!

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Otep

I'm In the same boat, my ex husband (still legally married right now, but separated for a year now) is hardly giving me anything for his daughter ($100 for 2 weeks till next pay day) he won't help pay for the car, when he was deployed he moved his pay to another account an only gave me so much money so I got so far behind on bills I'm in debt. He told me he wasn't going to help with nothing that it's all on me. I applied for food stamps, government assistance, wic, medicaid, divorce an child support. I live with my dad now an he recently lost his job to but he trys his best to give me gas money so I can go to these places. I'm looking for jobs an willing to work but realistically who would hire someone who is due in September? Hang in there. Things will look up. Maybe try selling stuff, when things got hard that's what I did so my daughter would have food.

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dannie317

@marymont Yes apply for all of the aid that you can. Speak to your dr about what's going on. I'm sure they can provide phone numbers and stuff. You can get free rent sometimes too through section 8 and section 42 housing.

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