There was no worse pain in my life than when I had first gotten my heart-broken. I was in the 9th grade, I had fallen head over heels for this guy I literally lost my breath one time when I saw him at his locker. He could do no wrong to me. The crazy part was he wasn’t even my boyfriend at the time, just some guy I liked with a silver tongue.

This was a time in my life I didn’t know anything about relationships outside of what I learned from Sex in the City and Girlfriends, in short, I didn’t know shit. I let this guy talk me in to skipping school and losing my virginity to him all with in 3 months. Continue reading →

There’s something about returning to reality that puts such a damper on your life. It’s like when you go on vacation and it’s your first day back at work and you realize you need another vacation. Choose how you will view life, you can either be brought down by it our it can life you up. If you don’t like your situation now you can always or your life create a space where you can go just to escape it til you’re mentally prepared for reality. In other words find a vice to keep you sane til the rest of your life turns in to your perfect world.

Sometimes its just nice to get away from all the hussle from the city and all the drama and just go for a nice quite walk on a trail. Not going anywhere fast, slowing down and listening to the wind blow. Its times like this when you sit back and look at your life you realize, things aren’t so bad.

Yesterday I took a trip downtown , just because I haven’t been down there in forever. I just wanted to see what’s new or if anything was going on. As usual, there was nothing happening. The same old shops with the same old people doing the same old things. Although I did see this interesting building, with all these amazing quotes. If only I knew what was inside…

Its funny how when you’re in a fight with your lover and you can’t seem to think more than 5 minutes in the future. Your blood boils over you can’t think, you don’t make sense and at the end of the day you just want it to be over.

We’ve all been there, after a while you start to wonder is it all worth it? Is this what I want my life to be like? Even though after every fight, you make up does that mean that it’s alright to fight? Is it to much to ask for more than 3 weeks of sanity?

You hear the same thing all the time, couples fight. You can’t help it. Yes you can! Discussion and honest communication, will minimalism the arguments but this will only work if your partner also wants to end the tension too.

The most important thing is that you too are on the same page, no question. You both have to understand the wants and needs the the other wants in order to know where their mindset is and what’s important to them. Only when both partners goals are the same can a relationship reach it’s full potential. For example, if one person wants kids and the other doesn’t, they may start to feel like their opinion is not being heard or valued. In short this puts a strain on the relationship, leading to it eventually ending.

Just make sure at the end of it all, you both want this to work, and you both want the same thing out of the relationship. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out. A break up is the end to a chapter in your life, not the end. It’s a chance to flourish and build a new life.

And remember. Never under any circumstances sacrifice your happiness for anyone. It’s your life, if they want to be apart of it fine, but don’t let them bring you down. Rise up to greatness, never settle.

I love sunrises and sun sets. The way that the sky changes colors and blends all the colors together breathes the breathe of change. Most importantly they show that there’s always a beautiful start and end to life. All because something bad happened doesn’t mean it’ll stay that way. You can always make a fresh start tomorrow.

There’s nothing worse than seeing a girl with an amazing outfit and when you get down to her shoes its an awful match. I won’t bore you with a long story but I have been a avid shoe lover since I was four so I know a few tricks of the trade. I will note these are guidelines, not rules, play with your look and love it. These are guidelines I follow when picking out the shoes for my outfits.

1. The shorter the pant length the skinnier the heel. I love how long it makes my legs look and it slims them down.

2. When it comes to a full length Jean anything goes.

3. Never wear a short bulky wedge. Although they are comfortable, they make the shoe look clunky. If you must wear a wedge opt for something higher you’ll have the comfort of a flat but the look of a stiletto.

4. Strappy suede platform sandals, no. I just think the ruin any outfit. And I mean ANY I have yet to see a girl that can pull it off.

5. Leather is always better.

6. Make sure you can walk in heels before you actually, walk in heels. I’ve been that girl, it’s not fun. It’s fine to practice in your house or walk around your block with them on to break them in ( If you have a treadmill you can also use that) just so you won’t have to do the hurt feet walk.

7. Nude shoes are always chic.

8. If you’re going to be walking around in heels keep the heel 4 inches or below so your feet won’t hurt to bad. 5 inches and above should be reserved for events where you’ll be sitting.

9. You chose to wear the shoes you chose to endure the pain. I get heels are uncomfortable, but don’t take your shoes off. Its just nasty, unless you have roll up shoes in your bag. I’m sorry please keep them on till you get to your car, you don’t know what happened on that floor. Better yet insoles do wonders and remember keep the heel lower. You’ll be cute and comfortable, not cute and in pain.

10. Clean your shoes duh.

11. Avoid pure white shoes at a club or party. Save them for events wear you won’t be on your toes so they won’t get scratched or dirty.

12. A cute pair of sneakers are an easy must have, choose one for many outfits or vice versa.

13. Ankle strapped heels for those sun dress, Flirty skirt days. They are just oh so sexy.

Another summer is upon us,well it’s spring, but it feels like summer. A time for road trips, summer romance, long hot nights. Last weekend I was out of town and it inspired me to make this a summer of adventure (clique yes). I never really do anything during the summer time, I always say that I want to do some much but I either get stuck at a summer job or I’m to broke. This summer neither of those things will happen. I’m going to focus on me and have a real fun summer this time.

First: ROAD TRIP!!! – I would love to rent a vintage car, pack it full of booze & friends and just drive…

Second : Beach Baby!! – I can’t remember the last time I was at a beach. Maybe when I was 14? So it’s been 7 years…

Third: Go to a Unfamiliar city/town : I really want to get out my bubble and explore other cultures and people’s way of living.

Fourth: Festivals/Concerts/etcetera : Come on now, it’s not a summer without one!

Fifth: Party at a club in a different city: Like I said I want to explore different cultures, and partying is a culture.

It never fails to hear criticism from everyday people. Take for example the shopping trip to the mall I had just the other day. It was gorgeous out so I put a little more effort into my outfit and put on a striking lip color, blue. I was looking for a new look that felt like me, and fell head over heels for the color. As I glanced in the mirror, I loved it even more and headed out to the mall. I felt so confident until I felt eyes of two ladies burning into my skull. Of course it had to be the lipstick and I dismissed it until I heard one of the women whisper to her friend “why would she come out the house looking like that? ” followed by some quiet snickering. I rushed to the dressing room to examine myself, only to find nothing was wrong.

“It must be the lipstick ” I thought, realizing that the only colors you see on people’s lips are either pink, red, or purple. I was different and that didn’t sit well with them. As I put a Kleenex to my lips to wipe off the beauty faux pas, I paused. Why should I change who I am or what I like for people I don’t even know & probably won’t ever see again? I took me 22 years to be comfortable in my skin and be confident enough to wear whatever I wanted. Why stop now just because it’s not someone else’s cup of tea? Everyone isn’t going to like you, or what you do. As long as your happy and proud of yourself everyone else can go suck it.

Reminding myself of that I wiped off the lipstick and applied a fresh coat of the same blue shade adding a shimmery glossary to make it stand out even more and walked out the dressing room head held high. As I continued shopping I said a polite hello and smile to the two ladies that laughed at me earlier. As I continued shopping through the mall I felt the eyes of hundreds of strangers fall upon me, this time however, I didn’t flinch or hide my lips in shame. I proudly smiled and wore my blue lipstick with pride. Finally happy with myself and needing no one else’s approval on my appearance I gained more confidence and self respect. Don’t mind what others say or do. No matter what you do someone is going to hate it. Everyone is different, everyone has different opinions of what’s beautiful and what they deem acceptable. So they’re going to talk, people love to talk! So you might as well give them a hell of a story.

The weather has finally cleared up enough where its safe and beautiful enough to travel. And I for one plan on getting out and making the best of this summer! I made a summer resolution, to go on every fun trip that was offered to me. So far I love it! If you follow me on instagram (if not here’s a link) you saw me post a photo of my mini vacation,of me in my lush hotel. That was actually a spur of the moment road trip for my cousin’s graduation in Huntsville, Alabama. Unfortunately I left my camera (like I said short notice) but no matter where I go, I always have my phone so it’ll always go on instagram (even more reason to follow me) anyway!! Lets get in to the traveling must haves since I think everyone will be traveling and I’ve been roadtripping since forever I’ve knocked it down to about 8 essential things you need to grab before you hit the road.

1. A awesome book, no matter how many people you travel with or how fun they are you run out of things to talk about. Grab a book and headphones to relax before the excitement to come!

2. Camera please don’t forget!! Don’t be like me and see all the beautiful sites that you cant capture.

3.A Sun Hat. Your hair and skin will thank you. Use the hat for when you over sleep and need to run out for the dinner or event you almost missed. Your skin will love you because duh sun protection.

4. Sun screen. You really can’t go anywhere without out it. You don’t want to come back with sun burn.

5. Make up removing wipes, no one is going to want to use their clarisonic coming home drunk. Save your skin and your pillow from breakout causing bacteria by getting you a pack of face wipes so you can lay down and take off your mascara.

6. Bikini, you never know when you’ll need one you may stay in a hotel with a Jacuzzi or an awesome pool area. And you gotta go in there!

7. Sunglasses, Really its a vacation!

8. Maxi Dresses!! Pack as many as you can. You can dress it up or down and always look fierce plus its a no fuss out fit.

I know you haven’t been blind to the amount of attention that “sex” has been getting in the media nowadays. It’s hard to miss. From our beloved Beyonce shedding clothes and riding it like a surfboardt to Rihanna, being well Rihanna, it’s clear from these celebrities that Sex is in high demand. People want it now and people want it fast. That’s nothing new, celebrities being a little “ratchet”(is that what the kids are calling it nowadays?) showing more and more skin to attract the masses. What is new however is the promotion of promiscuity in the media. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been reading my facebook newsfeed and seen an article about “single women not choosing to get married”. While I’m not an exactly for or against marriage, these women imparticular aren’t even talking about having a long term boyfriend. They’re talking about heading to a bar and hooking up with the first guy, or any guy they see,every night and that’s not necessarily a good thing. Continue reading →

It seems that no matter what you can’t stop time. Earlier this week it was my birthday and for some reason I can’t just wrap my mind around that. I guess its because I’ve never looked at my life pass 20, shame ain’t it?It’s weird though, I feel myself changing and evolving into the woman I am meant to be. I have had quite the interesting life, and have faced many obstacles. I may be young but I feel as if I am quite wise beyond my years.. I thought it’d be nice to share my experiences more or less life lessons with you.

Its hard to tell where any relationship is going now days. Even though things seem fine, you some times find yourself asking “is this as good as we’re going to get or is there more? ” I know I think about it constantly but there is a way to know.

When you’re younger, like 21-24 you’re always told you have plenty of time to find the one. It doesn’t matter what type of feelings you have for them it’s always “you have time you don’t need to settle down, get your life together than find what you want.” While that’s all fine and good, what if you find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? What if they support you and allow you to do your whole career thing? Continue reading →

Just as every life there are moments where you feel like you can’t breathe, your over whelmed with everyday life. You need refocus. I used to have days like that, until I made simple life style changes to better myself. Here’s what I did. Continue reading →