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Loss of Soulmate

I lost my David in April. It feels like only a couple of weeks ago. We were both in our fifties when we meet. A chance meeting, neither looking for a relationship. We knew each other right away. Both of us having been married before and having other failed relationships, we were cautious, skeptical people. But within 3 days, we were saying I LOVE YOU. We both felt we found our soulmate - FINALLY !! It just all clicked. Best friends, companions, lovers, the whole package. Within 2 weeks David developed a cough. I pressed for him to see a doctor. On our 30th day together, he was diagnosed with 4th stage lung cancer. He was given 4 months....he managed to give me 18 months ! Although we spent most of our time together at medical offices or in the hospital, we managed to go to Alaska and we laughed and we loved. We lived a lifetime in 18 short months. He WAS my husband though we never had a ceremony. But not one person sent me a condolence card. Because we only were together 18 months and never married, they do not understand the depth of my grief. I lost my SOULMATE - the man I searched for all my life. I am devastated. I am having a hard time going on with my life now that I have found him and lost him. Can anyone relate to my story ? I need someone to understand. Thank you.

i can very much relate to your story, i had my boyfriend for three years, we lived together, had a baby, but we were not married and in many peoples eyes there is a difference although i dont see what that is. your feelings are somehow shoved aside like you couldnt possibly have had real feelings in so short a time. you know what you felt for each other so hold that close. it seems so unfair that when you finally meet that someone that knows you better than yourself, they are ripped away again. i will be thinking of you. (hugs) trina

I can relate to your broken heart love don't see marriage color or etc. Im sorry for your loss I lost my husband in Feb 13 this year Valentines day I was having to think of Funeral arrangement talk about broken hearted yes I do know how your heart feels Im so sorry I think at times there are no words just knowing someone is in your corner is helpful you know tour in a good place to vent and along the way make a friend.. my prayers go out to you

I am sorry for your loss...I too can relate ...love doesn't have a time table to it its the severity of the love and intensity of the love ...to loose a soulmate is like loosing yourself because it was so right and you were like one as the bible discribes it to be. There will always be unanswered questions as to why we were placed with that person for such a short amount of time. But know God knows your grieve even when others don't and don't understand he knows lean on him he wants you to. I believe God put us in the situation we were in to love that person like they've never been loved before and he knew when he placed them with each and everyone of us that we had the strength within us to love that person unconditionally as they deserve on this earth and as he wants us to love others like he would . He gave you the strength and the ablity to do that. Praise God for the good times you were able to have with him like you said he was given 4 months and God blessed you with 18 months. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I lost my Daddy in 2007, although I have only experienced the loss of a parent, I just wanted you to know that I am so sorry !!! It doesn't matter how long you two were together, the fact is, that you both knew IT WAS RIGHT!! When you truly love somebody, the hurt is awful!! take care... God Bless You!! Lori

OMG! You practically wrote my story. It's eerie how similar they are in some ways. Mike and I met when we were both 50. He was separated at the time and I'd never been married (still haven't). We actually met on an online forum similar to this, only about diabetes. The last thing either of us was looking for was a relationship; we were both struggling to come to terms with our disease. But apparently it was meant to be. The first time I met him in person was when he was in a rehab place recovering from multiple foot surgeries in the hospital. Eventually he moved up here(CT) from DC. The whole time we were together, we too spent a huge amount of time at doctors' offices and in hospitals. He had many complications from his diabetes and I cared for him the whole time. We were engaged and supposed to be married this past May. But he died on Jan. 26th of this year, just 7 months ago. He went into cardiac arrest and just didn't make it. It came totally out of the blue. We lived together for just over 2 years.

Like you, I waited my whole life to find him. Like you, he was my soulmate. He was my everything and he loved me just for being me.

I feel EXACTLY the same - he was my husband even if we didn't have a legal ceremony. We always said we felt married already. We already had our rings and I'd been wearing my engagement ring for a while. The day he died I came home and put on my wedding ring and I don't think I'll ever take them off.

And yes, although I spent 25 years of my adult life living alone, the time I had with him changed me and I can't go back to who I was and I can't go forward. I'm also having a very hard time. We were cheated.

The only difference is that I was very fortunate to have my family and friends acknowledge him as my husband and give me their support and love. It must have been very lonely for you to deal with this alone.

I'm so truly sorry for your loss. I think I can say &quot;I understand.&quot;

I relate to your story in so many ways, I married my husband after 19 days of dating....GOD PUT US TOGETHER &amp; WE DIDN'T WANT TO WASTE TIME...I was about to have surgery &amp; he wanted me with him so that he could look after me, we had 7yrs 6 months 1 day together before God called him home....WE were SOULMATES from the 1st hand shake &amp; looked into each others EYES!!! We had both been married before but this was COMPLETELY different, Our Love Just Continued to GROW with each passing day...he took care of me thru 10 surgeries &amp; then it was time for me to take care of him!! God gave Him the STRENGTH &amp; A SERVANTS HEART when he looked after me...THEN when HE GOT SICK THE LORD LET ME TAKE CARE OF HIM &amp; LOVE HIM MORE &amp; MORE THAN I EVER THOUGHT POSSIBLE TO LOVE SOMEONE...Completely, UnConditionally, No Strings JUST LOVE. The Lord knows WHAT HE IS DOING &amp; Who to bring into YOUR LIFE, remember that God knew us while we were still in our father's loins &amp; knew what our life would be like before we were conceived, BUT IF YOUR A BELIEVER YOU WILL SEE YOUR LOVE ONE IN HEAVEN AGAIN!!! That is what keeps me GOING!!!! I don't think I will ever LOVE AGAIN LIKE THAT, IT WAS SO SPECIAL....BUT if God decides to send someone into my life then He will Let ME KNOW JUST LIKE W/MY HUSBAND &amp; YES I'M STILL MARRIED TO HIM &amp; ALWAYS WILL BE, even if there is another person! God Bless All THOSE WHO HAVE LOST &amp; MAY GOD BE WITH YOU ALWAYS &amp; FOREVER!!!!!!! Karen

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

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