This might not be the right place,but....

My boyfriend works 2 jobs. One is mostly weekends. The other is everyday, but not even 12 hour shifts. Job 2 has been awesome! We only have one vehicle and I am currently a full-time student, so they have moved his clients around so I can get to and from school with no issues! How awesome of them! Well, bf is ALWAYS calling into the office and asking for MORE adjustments to his schedule! He is now upset that he has no days off (umm...that is life...right?!) He effing called into the office today and requested they give him a set day off every week!

I understand that people need breaks, and miss being away from home, and I really appreciate him taking on 2 jobs! His child support isn't cheap, so he needs both jobs. But I really think they are going to let him go! I am waiting to hear back from a friend, her job has an opening and I might get in there on weekends only.

So DT what is the best way to have a conversation with bf about this, without completely blowing up?

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Proud mommy of a wonderful 3 year old.Nolan, you stole my heart from day 1 <3

I misread, But you were intially explaining how someone could work multiple jobs and not equal 40 hours a week. Yet you just said you work 10-15 per job (3), so that means you did work 30-45 hours a week.

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Yea that's true, it did sometimes go that high, I was just trying to help PP understand that working 2 jobs doesn't automatically equal 40 hours a week.

You can't make someone else change. You can only change yourself. In this case, it would be to get a job. If he's proven to be unreliable as far as an income is concerned, then you need to step up. Now, that's not to say you HAVE to put up with him being fired all the time if you don't want to. If you feel he's immature, then YOU need to get it together, find a job, and make it so you aren't relying on him for anything. Then, you can do as you wish.

My DH is having sleep issues. As in, he can't. As in, he can't keep it together. He's seeing several doctors trying to fix this. In the meantime, I'M the one looking for a job. I have NO ISSUE becoming the main breadwinner in the family. Now, if its proven that he has no desire to fix anything (everything he's doing says otherwise) well then I'd be in a better financial position to leave if it comes to it. You do the same. Worry about yourself, and your child. If you want to stay with him, then this is who he is. Don't expect to change him if he does not wish it himself.