I have the Hitachi, and your concerns about it are the very reasons why I don't like it - it's too powerful and it's too loud for any kind of situation where you want privacy. I have the Smart Wand large and love it. It's really rumbly and very quiet, perfect for the times when my little clit vibes just aren't quite enough.

The Wahl (no longer available on Eden, but very cheap at drugstores and similar places) is my all-time favorite massager-style vibe. It's rumblier than the Hitachi so it doesn't cause numbness as easily.

The Wahl (no longer available on Eden, but very cheap at drugstores and similar places) is my all-time favorite massager-style vibe. It's rumblier than the Hitachi so it doesn't cause numbness as easily.