Reading between the love lines

Oliver Burkeman on the small changes that create the biggest impact

the life-tweak

The idea

The world of romance can sometimes feel like a long exercise in dealing with other people’s infuriating behaviour. That’s particularly true of dating – as in the case of the guy who seems full of enthusiasm on a first date, then drops off the face of the earth with no explanation. To avoid frustration, it’s invaluable to learn how to decode the ‘emotional logic’ behind the other person’s actions.