Depends on how I feel about the person. I won't say it to someone unless that's the way I feel because I don't want someone to get the wrong impression of how I feel about them. There have been a few occasions when someone has said I love you and I have just said thankyou back, because I don't feel the same way. But I do say love ya to friends at the end of phone calls sometimes, but that's a different kind of love you.

You're on your own with this one, Stang. It's not something you can look up in a book. Both partners have to feel free to say it and mean it. And when it does happen with both people feeling it, it's a Great Thing.

It happened on our fourth date, (which is chronicled in my stories), but every one is different. One of my best friends told him on their very first date, and they've been happily married for 15 years. Only you know if it's the right time."A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx

I said I love you to a boyfriend after dating for 10 months and when I said it he just looked at me and said nothing............... wow I tell you I have never felt more crushed inside. I won't be telling somebody I love you so willingly next time.

Depends on how I feel about the person. I won't say it to someone unless that's the way I feel because I don't want someone to get the wrong impression of how I feel about them.

I won't say it unless I absolutely mean it. My last boyfriend told me long before I told him and everytime he would say it, I'd just say thanks. Felt like a bitch but its better than him thinking I love him more than I do.

There is no set of rules or guidelines in reationships just do what you want and when you're ready.

*Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?*

I agree birdie...it does get thrown around too much, but it doesn't cheapen the three words on those occasions where it's sincere. Actions speak louder than words, but I would miss those words terribly if they were never uttered.

AS the others have said. Wait till it feels rigt for you, and when you know that it's really what you feel.

I used to whisper "I love you" for over half a year to a person when I was certain he was sleeping before I dared saying it to him in person.On the other hand, you won't get thoose words tossed at you as more than a friend before I mean it and only at the occasion when I feel it.I don't go on auto reply on that line if it's said to me.

It completely depends on the relationship. My boyfriend and I knew each other for six months previous to becoming a couple, and it didn't really take very long for both of us to feel comfortable with saying something like that. There are all kinds of love, and even though the saying is tossed around like a foot ball these days, when I find that I care about a person so much that I don't have to guard myself at all around them... that's when I feel that I can say it...

I said I love you to a boyfriend after dating for 10 months and when I said it he just looked at me and said nothing............... wow I tell you I have never felt more crushed inside. I won't be telling somebody I love you so willingly next time.

wow i kow how you feel the same thing happened to me ,ive told her i loved her many times .but during a phone conversation ,and i dont even remember how it came up but i wanted her to know exactly how much i loved her and said i love you so much id marry you today,well her response was to start laughing .i was heart broken .when i told her the next day how that made me feel , she said she didnt know what to say to that and i caught her off guard with a remark like that .we are still together a year later and i feel the same way .

You'll feel it in your heart. You should say "I Love You" whenever you think of her and it takes your breath away. You should say it when you cant get through an hour without thinking of her. When someone asks you how your day is going and if you've talked to her it's going awesome, if you haven't your day is simply okay. You'll know when the right time is.

I do not believe there is a time frame for this. It simply needs to be genuinely and truly felt before the words are spoken. It should never be said to speed up or change the direction of a relationship.

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