“Because of my upbringing and Life of Agony coming into my life, it was also a very male-dominated source of energy,” Keith Mina said. “I always felt uncomfortable because I was surrounded by these macho, alpha-male types.”

Caputo also contends that society is not kind to the transgendered. What a keen observer of the obvious? “The whole system we live in is discriminative and fucked up,” said Keith Mina. “Everything’s fucked up. There are no toilets for transgendered people, for example, which is why there are so many beatings and brutalities. If the authorities and the people who make laws would be sensitive towards the idea that humans come in all shapes, in different forms and desires, then there would be a lot more love in the world.”

They also need separate toilets for the pee shy, like me. Individual bathrooms with lockable doors, so no one will come in and disrupt my flow. When you used a transgendered bathroom, do you sit or stand to pee?