V- Day: Where’s the Love?

Somehow a day that’s supposed to be about celebrating love tends to bring out the worst in so many on social media.

There are the great men who are stressed out trying to show and prove as if ONE day determines everything.

There are women who act like one day and an expensive gift determine everything. (If he wasn’t ish before V-Day and isn’t after, it doesn’t count. So you know.)

There are the guys who duck women they’ve led to believed they cared about. And women with a lot of wake-up-call hurt feelings.

There are women who feel like crap because they’re single. And stay posting updates that showcase misery.

There are the people who taunt those women– never guys– for being single, and make all sorts of uneducated guesses as to why they aren’t lovable. (I guess this makes them feel better. Newsflash: your bitterness is showing too, boo.)

There are the folks who care more about bragging about a gift than the actual gift and/ or the person who gave it to them.

Oh, and the people who don’t appreciate their gifts— and have the audacity to say so publicly.

I’ll stop here.

Surely, there are lots of folks who are just drunk/crazy in love and want to share their blessings. You can usually tell the difference. I appreciate those posts. They make me smile.

I hope, against the odds, I know, that folks can be a little more loving this year. It would be nice to see.

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Affectionately known as "Belle”, Demetria L. Lucas is the author of two books— A Belle in Brooklyn and Don't Waste Your Pretty; the creator of the award-winning personal blog ABelleInBrooklyn.com; and the founder of Coached By Belle, a boutique life-coaching service, where Demetria helps clients solve their dating dilemmas and build healthy relationships. Demetria is also a contributing editor for The Root, where she pens two weekly columns, and is a contributing writer for the websites of The Grio, XO Jane, Essence, Clutch, Vibe Vixen and Uptown. She was also the star of Bravo TV's docu-drama series, "Blood Sweat & Heels"

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(If he wasn’t ish before V-Day and isn’t after, it doesn’t count. So you know.) <— MESSAGE! I am so glad I'm not the only person that feels the need to ensure folks realize this KEY fact! People should not be able to boast about their "Valentine's Gifts" publicly, unless they are willing to provide the same "proof of love" posts 7 days before the holiday, and 7 days after, for "validation purposes"! My timeline would be a LOT less cluttered on the social media outlets with this type of stipulation in place! (Dare To Dream) LoL