Is it wrong that sometimes I fantasize about being raped?

Is this wrong that sometimes some women fantasize about this? What do you think it is? Is it the feeling of being dominated? Do men fantasize about...
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Is this wrong that sometimes some women fantasize about this? What do you think it is? Is it the feeling of being dominated? Do men fantasize about this too? Please keep in mind that I don't in any way condone a violent act of rape, I just sometimes fantasize about it. =/ I'm so confused!

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I fantasize about being raped too sometimes. I don't think its wrong just different. Its like any fantasy a person has, like playing nurse and patient, cop and armed robber, Or like a cheerleader, what ever you want to dress up as. I think it is the feeling of being dominated. Sometimes its fun to not have control over a situation. And I haven't a clue if men fantasize about it. But know that you're not alone and I know several other people that fantasize about getting raped.

that is a control fantasy nothing wrong with it at all try it but be careful how you do it do a little role play have you boyfriend come in get a little ruff play it out you know use a mask or some thing see if you like it silk ropes type of stuff .role play spices up the bedroom sometimes

I forgot to mention, I'm not really into that type of sex....thats what makes all this so much more weird!! And everyone is mentioning "role play" but the thing is I don't know if that's something that I would be too shy to do...?

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It's not wrong at all. I think it comes from the idea that a man would be so overcome with desire that he would just take us. I've had that fantasy, and it doesn't mean I really want to be raped or anything like that. Lots of things exist in my fantasy world that I'd never let come into my real world.

As for men, yeah, at least some of them have the same sort of fantasy. I know my boyfriend does and I also know that he'd never let that actually get into his real world either.

Nooo!! Definitely not "real" rape. I know that rape is traumatizing and I have been date raped before when I was much younger. What I meant by this was the kind of rape that you are taken control of. But thanks for the input!

I tend to agree with most of the people who responded already. If you're fantasizing about it, then you obviously have some subconscious areas to work out. It could be one of those things that you have to try once and get it out of your system. My suggestion is to talk to your significant other about it, develop a safe word, and dabble in it. It's a fairly common fantasy, so take a deep breath. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with and try and focus on WHY you're having those fantasies.

Lots of girls fantasize about rape, but I think it was just the feeling of being dominated. There is nothing wrong when it comes to fantasies.

I have been raped, the reality is rape hurts in all ways - there is no sexual pleasure, you weren't made to be penetrated like that. It is probably the one of the most traumatizing things that can happen to you.