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You will know them when you meet them

Some people do know the instant they meet their future
partner that this is the person they’ve been looking for all their life. But it
doesn’t work like that for everyone.The
real advice is that if you’re not sure if this is the right one; don’t take a gamble
on it. Because if they are the right one, you will know it even if it’s takes a
bit of time. In other words, if it’s right you will be sure – either straight
away, or a bit later – but you will know.

f you’re absolutely sure this is the right person the
moment you clap eye on them, you’re very lucky (unless it happens to you every
time, in which case you need to have a serious word with yourself). The
important thing, though, is not to commit yourself until you’re certain. How
many divorced people have you heard say, Do you know, even on my wedding day I
was wondering if I was doing the right thing.’

Well, I can tell you. If you’re still wondering about it on
your wedding day, then no, you’re not doing the right thing. What you’re doing
is making a big mistake. Marriage and/or kids are tough enough when you are
sure you’re with the right person. It’s lunacy to enter into it without even
being certain of that. If you aren’t sure right at the beginning, that’s normal. It
may take weeks, months or even years to be sure, especially if you’re of a
naturally doubtful persuasion. That’s all fine. It’s just that until you really
are sure, you shouldn’t be making a permanent commitment.

Your new partner, of course, may be sure sooner that you
are. We’re all different. But don’t allow them to pressurize you into making a
decision before you’re ready. It’s understandable that they want you to commit
yourself – you’re a wonderful person, why wouldn’t they want to be with you?
But no one will benefit if you make the wrong decision.

If this is really the right person for you to spend your
life with, you won’t be thinking, ‘I don’t know. Is it me? I’m just not sure if
this is right.’ Well, it will do. You’ll be thinking, ‘yes, yes, yes, let’s get
on with it.’ If you’re not thinking that, you’re not ready to commit yourself
yet.