Still sleeping in your bed???

When we had Peyton's sleep over the other night, one girl didn't even attempt to stay. One reason was because she's sheltered and shy, but the main reason was because she still sleeps with her parents...This child is 6 years old...

Does anyone else find that a little bit ridiculous? And I'm telling you. I've never seen a more coddled, and attached child in all my life...she barely spoke to anyone the entire time she was there. Coincidence? I'm sure there's more that has gone into it... but I do feel it's more than likely played a part.

What about you? If you co-sleep, when will you start making them sleep on their own?

When we had Peyton's sleep over the other night, one girl didn't even attempt to stay. One reason was because she's sheltered and shy, but the main reason was because she still sleeps with her parents...This child is 6 years old...

Does anyone else find that a little bit ridiculous? And I'm telling you. I've never seen a more coddled, and attached child in all my life...she barely spoke to anyone the entire time she was there. Coincidence? I'm sure there's more that has gone into it... but I do feel it's more than likely played a part.

What about you? If you co-sleep, when will you start making them sleep on their own?

We don't co-sleep, but if we did, I would have Chloe start sleeping in her own bed before 2-years-old (barring the occasional nightmare where she comes into my room in the middle of the night or something).

I did, however, have her sleeping in my room, next to my bed, when she was a baby. As soon as she started sleeping through the night, I moved her to her crib in her own room.

I want her to be independent and confident. IMHO, too much sheltering and coddling hinders that.

We don't co-sleep, but if we did, I would have Chloe start sleeping in her own bed before 2-years-old (barring the occasional nightmare where she comes into my room in the middle of the night or something).

I did, however, have her sleeping in my room, next to my bed, when she was a baby. As soon as she started sleeping through the night, I moved her to her crib in her own room.

I want her to be independent and confident. IMHO, too much sheltering and coddling hinders that.

If I really wanted to judge the situation which I usually try to avoid since it is their choice as her parents but there are obviously attachment issues. We co-sleep but only while I'm nursing so by 2 my dd was in her own bed. I have a neighbor/friend on the other hand who is a single parent and has been since her dd was 1. They co-sleep because my friend doesn't like to sleep alone. Her dd is 6 now and won't even sleep across the street at our house since she is so used to sleeping with Mom. I kinda feel sorry for her if it goes on too long and she starts missing out on slumber parties say around age 8-10. I don't say anything I just wonder how they are going to deal with this as she gets older.

If I really wanted to judge the situation which I usually try to avoid since it is their choice as her parents but there are obviously attachment issues. We co-sleep but only while I'm nursing so by 2 my dd was in her own bed. I have a neighbor/friend on the other hand who is a single parent and has been since her dd was 1. They co-sleep because my friend doesn't like to sleep alone. Her dd is 6 now and won't even sleep across the street at our house since she is so used to sleeping with Mom. I kinda feel sorry for her if it goes on too long and she starts missing out on slumber parties say around age 8-10. I don't say anything I just wonder how they are going to deal with this as she gets older.

No, I don't find it ridiculous at all. Some families believe in bedsharing until the child is ready to move to their own bed. My kids still sleep with us some nights. If I had it completely my way, they would sleep with me every night. Well, maybe not Autumn, she is a sleep-beater.

Oh, and both my kids sleep just fine in other people's homes/beds.

No, I don't find it ridiculous at all. Some families believe in bedsharing until the child is ready to move to their own bed. My kids still sleep with us some nights. If I had it completely my way, they would sleep with me every night. Well, maybe not Autumn, she is a sleep-beater.

I'm just not sure how in the world you can have decent relations with your husband with your child in your bed at that age. I mean I guess they can always put her to bed and have sex on the couch...but that would suck! She's pregnant again, so I guess they've managed somehow!

And to the PP, I don't judge...it's not my place to tell her anything. I only bring up stuff like this on the HT board because that's what it's here for. Now...if she were to ASK, that might be a different sotry :)

I'm just not sure how in the world you can have decent relations with your husband with your child in your bed at that age. I mean I guess they can always put her to bed and have sex on the couch...but that would suck! She's pregnant again, so I guess they've managed somehow!

And to the PP, I don't judge...it's not my place to tell her anything. I only bring up stuff like this on the HT board because that's what it's here for. Now...if she were to ASK, that might be a different sotry :)

Maybe once the new baby comes, it'll make her daughter want to sleep in her own room. Maybe she will wean herself from their bed because with a new baby, their previous DD will not be getting much sleep. My DD is almost 4 months old and she sleeps in our room in a pack and play next to our bed. I plan to move her in her room at 6 months. She is all the way across our house and I have issues with moving her right now. I don't see a problem with it, if that's what they want. I slept in my parents room on their floor until I was 8-9. I am fine and have no issues. I eventually started sleeping in my own room. The reason I stayed so long was fear. Some people just like their children close or simply can't say no--one of the two LOL.

Maybe once the new baby comes, it'll make her daughter want to sleep in her own room. Maybe she will wean herself from their bed because with a new baby, their previous DD will not be getting much sleep. My DD is almost 4 months old and she sleeps in our room in a pack and play next to our bed. I plan to move her in her room at 6 months. She is all the way across our house and I have issues with moving her right now. I don't see a problem with it, if that's what they want. I slept in my parents room on their floor until I was 8-9. I am fine and have no issues. I eventually started sleeping in my own room. The reason I stayed so long was fear. Some people just like their children close or simply can't say no--one of the two LOL.

We don't bed share, but my kids have all slept in my room either in a cradle or a crib until 12 months, then they go to their own rooms. If they need to, due to illness, or being scared, nightmares etc they can sleep in our room. (our room is huge and I can easily set up a twin sized airbed for them). My older DD just spent a week sleeping in our room (after her bio dad violated the no contact order). She just went back to her own room with my Akita/Shepherd dog sleeping with her.

We don't bed share, but my kids have all slept in my room either in a cradle or a crib until 12 months, then they go to their own rooms. If they need to, due to illness, or being scared, nightmares etc they can sleep in our room. (our room is huge and I can easily set up a twin sized airbed for them). My older DD just spent a week sleeping in our room (after her bio dad violated the no contact order). She just went back to her own room with my Akita/Shepherd dog sleeping with her.

My 7 and 8 year old co slept with us until they were about 3 and 4. (they had their own beds) We find them climbing into bed with us at night to this day. Not every night, but too much. If I could turn back time I would have had them out sooner.Â

Â We also co slept with our daughter whom is 2 now, and she mostly sleeps with us still. Nicholas though, he's my big boy and I am not going wrong with him. He slept with us rarely and I had him in a bed side co-sleeper until about 5-6 months old. He now sleeps in his own crib and prefers it, as I do. lol

To answer your question. Ridiculous? yes, my situation is ridiculous. It may work for others so I am not saying anyone else is ridiculous but for me it is.

My 7 and 8 year old co slept with us until they were about 3 and 4. (they had their own beds) We find them climbing into bed with us at night to this day. Not every night, but too much. If I could turn back time I would have had them out sooner.Â

Â We also co slept with our daughter whom is 2 now, and she mostly sleeps with us still. Nicholas though, he's my big boy and I am not going wrong with him. He slept with us rarely and I had him in a bed side co-sleeper until about 5-6 months old. He now sleeps in his own crib and prefers it, as I do. lol

To answer your question. Ridiculous? yes, my situation is ridiculous. It may work for others so I am not saying anyone else is ridiculous but for me it is.

I didn't buy a 4 bedroom house so our kids could sleep with us until they were 6. I think kids need to understand that their beds are a safe and comfortable place to sleep. I am all for infants safely sharing their parents room, but at 6 years old they can sleep in their own beds.

I didn't buy a 4 bedroom house so our kids could sleep with us until they were 6. I think kids need to understand that their beds are a safe and comfortable place to sleep. I am all for infants safely sharing their parents room, but at 6 years old they can sleep in their own beds.

Op: You asked myself and others to make a judgement call by posing the question is this ridiculous? I agree that hot topics is the venue for this line of questioning so no offense was intended. I'm simply stating I try to avoid a black and white judgment call without knowing all the facts. I feel there is a huge difference between making a judgment call without imposing your beliefs on others and being judgmental and expecting others to do as you do. You are not being judgmental so I hope you didn't take it that way.

Op: You asked myself and others to make a judgement call by posing the question is this ridiculous? I agree that hot topics is the venue for this line of questioning so no offense was intended. I'm simply stating I try to avoid a black and white judgment call without knowing all the facts. I feel there is a huge difference between making a judgment call without imposing your beliefs on others and being judgmental and expecting others to do as you do. You are not being judgmental so I hope you didn't take it that way.

Faith will be 3 in December and she is still in our bed. She has slept at her grandparents' house by herself with no issues but at home she sleeps with us. When we move we plan on putting her in her own bed (she has her own room now, she just bunks with us.) Anyway, it's not a big deal to us. Somedays that's the only time my husband even gets to see her or be around her when he works such long days. And yes, we have plenty of places to have sex, including but not limited to the couch, the shower, on top of the washing machine...

Faith will be 3 in December and she is still in our bed. She has slept at her grandparents' house by herself with no issues but at home she sleeps with us. When we move we plan on putting her in her own bed (she has her own room now, she just bunks with us.) Anyway, it's not a big deal to us. Somedays that's the only time my husband even gets to see her or be around her when he works such long days. And yes, we have plenty of places to have sex, including but not limited to the couch, the shower, on top of the washing machine...

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