It’s always talc, soap, and body spray in a fragrance that I and many other people, associate with old ladies.

I, on the other hand, go out of my way to actually get her and all her family presents they will actually like.

But every year I get the same thing and she never even asks if I like it, or need it, or if there’s something else I would like instead.

I’ve told my husband to tell her I don’t want to this same old gift again but he won’t.

Is there anything I can do that’s not going to upset anyone?Anon, Newtown.

JENNY SUGGESTS: As most presents will have been bought and wrapped by now, there’s really nothing that you should do to prevent this predictable gift being given to you again this Christmas.

All you can do is wait until it comes around next year and drop a hint that you have been stock piling the perfume sets your mum-in-law has been giving you and you think you have enough to do you for a few Christmases to come.

However, even a remark like this could upset your mum-in-law.

So depending how much you treasure your relationship with her, it might be as well to just accept this annual gift graciously year after year after year.