so basically I wrote another post about getting my placeholder ring and all that. Well I started hating it (I wasn’t FULLY in love with it when we got it but it was a VERY rushed situation and I liked it enough so we got it..and then started nitpicking it. it didn’t fit after it was sized and couldnt be smaller since the cage would make it impossible to remove from my huge knuckles, the sapphire was black most of the time and had imperfections, it was top heavy and twirlled like crazy, and the last straw was that it was 10k and I was reacting to it) so FI and I decided to go in search of a new placeholder/ring. We looked and looked and I was ready to give up and I was so frustrated and then we decided to go to a pawn shop sort of store. they had a good selection. Then..We found a ring. I couldn’t believe it. It was 18k white gold, princess cut, diamonds down the side…and size 5(my size..sort of)! Everything I basically wanted in an actual ring (except the stones down the side). It was $650(originally 950+ but they brought it down because it needed to be dipped and appraised) plus tax. In the end we bought it. I don’t know any of the specs except it’s maybe a .5 ct or a bit less? And it has “18k” stamped on the inside along with a stamp saying “Polar Ice”. The ring sparkles like CRAZY.

So here’s the problem. Idk what to do with the current placeholder. It’s from a chain store (Peoples) and we got a warranty and it came out to 520 total (ring was 399 because we got 100$ off, plus warranty, plus tax). That’s a a big chunk of change. We have until end of April to return the ring for full return. It’s a emerald cut sapphire, halo, pave, split shank, in 10k w gold. It’s the ring he proposed with so I am quiet emotionally attached to it. HOWEVER there’s been some stuff that happen and so there isn’t all good feelings behind it ring. The new ring needs to be sized, dipped and I want it appraised.. And if I return the old ring the money from that could go into the new ring. If I keep both then I won’t be able to get a “forever ring” for quite some time after we move across the country in 2.5 months (see previous post for details) or maybe at all. But everytime I think of returning and someone else having it I get jealous and love the ring again. But then again $520 is a lot of money for something to sit in the jewellery box.

So…PLEASE help me by voting/replying with some advice..ANYTHING will help

Forgot to mention (and dont know how to edit thread)- if I keep it as a RHR i cant really wear it for very long if I do wear it since i react to the 10k and its a bit big, nor can I wear it to work (nurse and its to bulky)

I do have a danty heart shapped RHR ring that has a tiny round sapphire that FI gave me way back when so I do already have a RHR

Iloveyoumostest: When rubber meets the road, its just a ring. If you can’t wear it, return it and put the money towards something else. If you are really sentimental(I totally am), you can keep the sapphire and wear it on a chain around your neck. I do that with my first engagement ring that is an opal.

You can wear your dainty sapphire as a stand in until your diamond is ready. It would probably be more practical for work anyway. My diamond ering is a .25 for that reason, and it works very well for every day wear!

Bridey77: my danty ring is too big for a stand in haha (fits my middle finger on my right hand with a tiny bit of room). The diamond ring is great for work (i wore it yesterday for the first time and i work at a pediatric floor and i was suprised at how comfortable and inconspicuous it was!). You are right and even though am very very sentimental, its ‘just’ a ring and its the commitment thats important! thank you

wrkbrk: Im not sure! i googled polar ice ring and theres “Polar ice diamonds” which are canadian diamonds so maybe its that? if the diamond really is a canadian diamond (polar ice has a lazer inscription number) I’ll be so excited because thats what i wanted all along since I’m originally from brasil (which is where we want to get the w bands) and FI is from here in canada 🙂

Yes, Polar Ice are Canadian diamonds, I am in Canada too and I agree and they are amazing!! You’re a lucky girl 🙂

They’re more expensive and higher quality… no wonder it sparkles like thet!! I think you got an amazing deal on that ring… I envy you! You’ll be able to wear it all the time and isnt that what you want of your engagment ring? Maybe mention to your FI that you’ll miss the sentimental value of the huge sapphire ring and when the new ring is re-sized and ready to wear he can suprise you and propose again? Maybe you can stay out of the re-sizing process (or at least knowing the time-frames) so when it happens it’ll be a bit of a surprise? Then that way you can return the other ring and it wont be so heartbraking. I am sentimental too. but if you cant afford to keep it for that reason only then retun it and make special memories with this new one 😉 good luck!! we wanna see pics when its all polished up and wearable!

Iloveyoumostest: Even though the sapphire ring is beautiful, I would return it simply because you are having allergic reactions to it. Otherwise I’d say wear it as a RHR and just save up for a while for your ultimate final ring, but if you can’t really even wear it, then there’s not much point. I do have one other suggestion though, and that would be to save the sapphire ring and have the stone set into a necklace sometime in the future. If you are planning to buy your final ring soon, I probably wouldn’t have suggested getting a new placeholder anyways. Your new placeholder ring is beautiful and if it’s similar to what you want in the future anyways, I’d suggest wearing it for longer than you planned and just saving up. Then you can keep the sapphire ring and make another piece of jewelry with it. By keeping the sapphire ring but making something else out of it, you are keeping the emotions of the proposal but maybe getting rid of anything negative that happened during that time (that you associate with the ring).

Def return the sapphire ring! I love love love the new ring! You got a great deal on it! Just think of it like this, the new ring is an expensive great quality Canadian diamond AND 18k gold for the same price as the halo ring that is much lower quality metal and stone wise That is breaking your skin out. It’s a no brainer, return the original before the return period is up! I was also faced with almost the same situation except the ring we bought at the chain jeweler was very expensive and I did love it but I found an amazing deal on the classifieds(craigslist) for better quality much cheaper than the chain jewelery store ring we had just bought sooo I returned the expensive chain store ring and used only half the money for the new better quality ring and although I did love the chain store ring I havnt had any regrets taking it back for the better deal/quality ring.

Just got back from jewelers and im squeeling like a little girl. Found out its actually a POLAR BEAR diamond in a POLAR ICE setting from back when the two companies were one single company. He let me see the lazer inscription of the polar bear/number and everything 🙂 (im excited because polar bears are my favorite animal besides my cat and FI adopted a polar bear for my birthday last year, and I wanted an ethically sourced diamond)

He is going to size, dip, clean, and appraise it and have it done on wednesday 🙂 SO HAPPY will write a new post when i have it all pretty on my hand 🙂