There has always been something lurking beneath the surface with them and since I haven’t been living with my husband for a long time, I guess she made her move and he couldn’t resist or maybe it was the other way around.

Knowing I can’t go back to my life as it once was makes me miss it so much.

My mother is the one having long talks with my husband at night, or going to a nice restaurant with him or the theatre and I am at a grubby pub every night with my alcoholic lover.

I have started stalking them, sitting in the car down the street from our house, drinking vodka from the bottle, and watching them come out hand in hand to play tennis in the courts down the street or go out to dinner.

Obviously the ick factor of a your husband having an affair with his wife’s mother is high.

Y’all have an open marriage, he could theoretically be with anyone in the world, and he chooses your mom?

I don’t believe in “it just happened.” “It” happens because people make it happen. A) Of all the women in the world he chose to date your mom and of all of the gin joints in the world he chose to take her to your regular hangout. What are the chances that they didn’t see you or know you were there?

Your mom is always going to be the mom who dated your husband.

You’re framing it as “” but your husband did just as much stealing and breaking of trust.

I am a 34 year old straight woman in an open marriage with a 39 year straight man.

I have taken far more advantage of the openness of our marriage than my husband, at least until recently.