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Merry Christmas from
"'BANNER
Volume XXXn Number 7
California Baptist College
Building Quality Relationships
December 11, 1987
by Donna Cary
I believe sacred relationships, such
as those between males and females,
are meant to be the most fulfilling
aspects of human life. God created
Eve as an equal mate for Adam, so
that she might satisfy his needs, and
likewise, he would satisfy her needs.
As relationships are broadened by
communication, they familiarize the
individuals with others and themselves. Temporary relationships are
familiar experiences which allow the
male and female to seek out and
acknowledge qualities that they will
look for in their future mate.
There are basically four levels of
intimacy in a relationship. The
first level is that of acquaintence,
which includes the majority of
relationships. These occur through
simple introductions or conversations which require no future commitment.
The next level is friendships.
They are simply platonic relationships which are produced through the
process of selective relationships.
Here the majority becomes a
minority as you choose to further
relationships with those who seem
to compliment your personality.
Communication bet- ween friends
becomes more personal which draws sacrifice personal time, needs, and
the individuals closer together. desires. A good partner in a rela-
The third level consists of tionship does not ask, "What can I
fellowships, these include both get from this relationship?" Instead
dating and intimate friendships, they will ask, "What can I give to
Here the relationship is advanced this relationship that might better it
further by spending time together for both of us?" Quality relation-
and recogniziing each other's indiv- ships have no room for selfishness
idual qualities, standards, and inter- or pride. Your partner or friend's
ests and complimenting them with needs must be a priority before your
your own. own. By taking precautions for the
The fourth and final level is that of needs of your friend you will also be
a covenant. This level is reserved taking precaution to preserve and
exclusively for marriages or the
most intimate friendships; like that
of Jonathan and David in the Bible.
As each individual contributes to
this relationship they are, ir. return,
more satisfied with the relationship
itself. Each individual's needs are
met without distracting from the
other's needs and desires. Here the
individuals are expected to be
compatible intellectually, physically, and spiritually. If not the
relationship will fall apart.
I believe the best relationships
which develop occur among unsuspecting individuals. Those who do
not wish to immediately advance to
the fellowship level find it easier to
slowly develop a relationship to that
level. Those who do wish to have a
quality fellowship, do so through
fully experiencing the first two
stages.
A quality relationship must be the
desire of both involved parties.
They must both be willing to
protect the relationship.
You must be careful not to skip
the friendship level of a relationship.
This level often provides a pressure
free environment for communication. It creates a comfortable atmosphere for a simple and basic relationship which will become a quality
base to build upon later. Friendships also allow the individuals to
seek out special qualities they desire,
and if the relationship is found to be
nonpleasing then there is no
commitment or deep bond that ties it
together. It is much easier to back
out of a relationship when you
realize it was a mistake, if you keep
it from moving too fast, and
advancing against your will.
Once these steps have been
cautiously reviewed and care has
Relationships Are The Basis
For Communication In our
World"
■Sophomores Ker-
been taken through each one, then
the relationship will be strong
enough to build a meaningful fmidul fellowship and covenant.
covenant. When each individual cares Whether at an acquaintence level or
enough to take the time, and "looks a covenant level, the unity lies in
out for" the relationship, not the relaionship itself, not the
themselves, it is sure to produce a individual. You will find the best
ri Hollinger and Scott Harris here show their concern
and friendship for each other.
Lighting of the Christmas Tree Observed
quality of a relationship is that the
more you give to improve it the
more hap- piness you receive from
that relationship. In order to have a
satisfying relationship, you must
start with that goal in mind, never to
satisfy the individual.
By Dee Ann Guzman
Cal Baptist held its third annual introduced the nominees for Mr &
"Lighting of the Tree" Tuesday Miss Cal Baptist 1987. "The
evening, December 1. Hanging of the Green" has become a
Those attending were greeted by tradition at Cal Baptist It signifies
candlelight, steaming apple cider, the opening of the Christmas season
and chimes ringing overhead. The at Cal Baptist and for the
air tingled with reminiscence of a community,
simpler time when carriages and After the "Hanging of the Green,"
carolers were commonplace. a processional of candlelit faces
Dr. Jay Chance began the evenings poured into the audience to the
festivities by greeting the audience, sounds of Buddy Clements and The
Then Dr. Russell Tuck led in the Sound Decision.
"Hanging of the Green," and The rest of the evening included Drama Team, directed by Melodie
series of musical and dramatic Yocum.
presentations. The U.C. Riverside In addition to the music and drama,
Madrigals, directed by Dr. Byron there were short speeches, a Bible
Adams^ and the Ramona High reading of the Christmas story, and
School Madrigals, directed by Mr. an opportunity for the audience to
Rick Woodbury, performed. Also sing a few Christmas carols. There
performing was Cal Baptist's very was even a "Merry Christmas" from
own Rhapsody under the direction of Mayor Ab Brown.
Mrs. Helen Walker. Perhaps the The successful evening was
most unique performance of all was organized in part by Karen
a presentation of "The Grinch Who Alexander, supervisor of public
Stole Christmas" by the Cal Baptist
Inside
Editorial page 2
Big Bang page 2
Moot Points page 2
Mr. & Ms. CBC.page 3
Lancer Sports....page 4

Merry Christmas from
"'BANNER
Volume XXXn Number 7
California Baptist College
Building Quality Relationships
December 11, 1987
by Donna Cary
I believe sacred relationships, such
as those between males and females,
are meant to be the most fulfilling
aspects of human life. God created
Eve as an equal mate for Adam, so
that she might satisfy his needs, and
likewise, he would satisfy her needs.
As relationships are broadened by
communication, they familiarize the
individuals with others and themselves. Temporary relationships are
familiar experiences which allow the
male and female to seek out and
acknowledge qualities that they will
look for in their future mate.
There are basically four levels of
intimacy in a relationship. The
first level is that of acquaintence,
which includes the majority of
relationships. These occur through
simple introductions or conversations which require no future commitment.
The next level is friendships.
They are simply platonic relationships which are produced through the
process of selective relationships.
Here the majority becomes a
minority as you choose to further
relationships with those who seem
to compliment your personality.
Communication bet- ween friends
becomes more personal which draws sacrifice personal time, needs, and
the individuals closer together. desires. A good partner in a rela-
The third level consists of tionship does not ask, "What can I
fellowships, these include both get from this relationship?" Instead
dating and intimate friendships, they will ask, "What can I give to
Here the relationship is advanced this relationship that might better it
further by spending time together for both of us?" Quality relation-
and recogniziing each other's indiv- ships have no room for selfishness
idual qualities, standards, and inter- or pride. Your partner or friend's
ests and complimenting them with needs must be a priority before your
your own. own. By taking precautions for the
The fourth and final level is that of needs of your friend you will also be
a covenant. This level is reserved taking precaution to preserve and
exclusively for marriages or the
most intimate friendships; like that
of Jonathan and David in the Bible.
As each individual contributes to
this relationship they are, ir. return,
more satisfied with the relationship
itself. Each individual's needs are
met without distracting from the
other's needs and desires. Here the
individuals are expected to be
compatible intellectually, physically, and spiritually. If not the
relationship will fall apart.
I believe the best relationships
which develop occur among unsuspecting individuals. Those who do
not wish to immediately advance to
the fellowship level find it easier to
slowly develop a relationship to that
level. Those who do wish to have a
quality fellowship, do so through
fully experiencing the first two
stages.
A quality relationship must be the
desire of both involved parties.
They must both be willing to
protect the relationship.
You must be careful not to skip
the friendship level of a relationship.
This level often provides a pressure
free environment for communication. It creates a comfortable atmosphere for a simple and basic relationship which will become a quality
base to build upon later. Friendships also allow the individuals to
seek out special qualities they desire,
and if the relationship is found to be
nonpleasing then there is no
commitment or deep bond that ties it
together. It is much easier to back
out of a relationship when you
realize it was a mistake, if you keep
it from moving too fast, and
advancing against your will.
Once these steps have been
cautiously reviewed and care has
Relationships Are The Basis
For Communication In our
World"
■Sophomores Ker-
been taken through each one, then
the relationship will be strong
enough to build a meaningful fmidul fellowship and covenant.
covenant. When each individual cares Whether at an acquaintence level or
enough to take the time, and "looks a covenant level, the unity lies in
out for" the relationship, not the relaionship itself, not the
themselves, it is sure to produce a individual. You will find the best
ri Hollinger and Scott Harris here show their concern
and friendship for each other.
Lighting of the Christmas Tree Observed
quality of a relationship is that the
more you give to improve it the
more hap- piness you receive from
that relationship. In order to have a
satisfying relationship, you must
start with that goal in mind, never to
satisfy the individual.
By Dee Ann Guzman
Cal Baptist held its third annual introduced the nominees for Mr &
"Lighting of the Tree" Tuesday Miss Cal Baptist 1987. "The
evening, December 1. Hanging of the Green" has become a
Those attending were greeted by tradition at Cal Baptist It signifies
candlelight, steaming apple cider, the opening of the Christmas season
and chimes ringing overhead. The at Cal Baptist and for the
air tingled with reminiscence of a community,
simpler time when carriages and After the "Hanging of the Green"
carolers were commonplace. a processional of candlelit faces
Dr. Jay Chance began the evenings poured into the audience to the
festivities by greeting the audience, sounds of Buddy Clements and The
Then Dr. Russell Tuck led in the Sound Decision.
"Hanging of the Green" and The rest of the evening included Drama Team, directed by Melodie
series of musical and dramatic Yocum.
presentations. The U.C. Riverside In addition to the music and drama,
Madrigals, directed by Dr. Byron there were short speeches, a Bible
Adams^ and the Ramona High reading of the Christmas story, and
School Madrigals, directed by Mr. an opportunity for the audience to
Rick Woodbury, performed. Also sing a few Christmas carols. There
performing was Cal Baptist's very was even a "Merry Christmas" from
own Rhapsody under the direction of Mayor Ab Brown.
Mrs. Helen Walker. Perhaps the The successful evening was
most unique performance of all was organized in part by Karen
a presentation of "The Grinch Who Alexander, supervisor of public
Stole Christmas" by the Cal Baptist
Inside
Editorial page 2
Big Bang page 2
Moot Points page 2
Mr. & Ms. CBC.page 3
Lancer Sports....page 4