sex positions: lying opposed

page updated: 08-Jun-2004

A Sex Position: Boy on Lying Top, Head to Toe

I am beginning to see why people are prone to just giving names to sex positions. These long tedious descriptive phrases have never come up in my real life, I think because there I am allowed to make hand gestures. I really need to get some boards up here so everybody can christen the positions with catchy names (Double Dragon!).

Anyhow. This position works with the femme on top too, but I find that having the male partner on top counteracts the tendency for an erection to slip out of this angle and return to its more natural belly-ward stance. This might just be because, when on top, he is more in charge of where he positions himself, and he is the one who can most feel when he is about to slip away or pop out.

Mainly I think of this as a progression of mutual oral sex, where the lovers' bodies would already be opposed. Also though, it could come about following sex with the woman on top facing her man's feet (she lies forward, they optionally roll over), or as a slightly contortionist continuation of spooning type sex with the male curled against the female's back. I find that lying on my side with my boy behind me will sometimes make me want to lean forward so as to better press myself into his hips, and if I have my legs split around his it isn't complicated to bend further down and stretch my feet up towards his shoulders (well face, but that hardly sounds sexy). This manoeuver is easiest if we roll to get him on his back as needed, to make room for my bottom leg. Slightly contortionist. It sounds less so when hand gestures are involved.

Because this position is reversed, it can take a moment to find movements that go in the right directions and connect at pleasing places. I like to be on the bottom of this so that I can hold my boy's hips and influence him a little to help me find a good combination of penetration and clitoral stimulation. That sounds overly technical but I didn't want to say "a place that feels yummy." Also, this can use different muscles than forward-facing penetration and can produce bits of strain and cramps. Kudos to those clever folks who stretch before going to bed.

From my perspective the desired motion for pressing against my lover in this position is with a down-then-forward scooping of the hips, in contrast to the forward-then-down action the missionary position elicits from me. I'm not sure what the boy is compelled to do here (forward-then-down?). He's busy playing with a vocoder or I'd ask him.