Yesterday morning, I had a private yoga/life session with Cara. Beyond being a yogi, Cara is a personal trainer, spiritual counselor and nutritionist. She is a wife, sister, daughter, friend and mother of four. She has been practicing "perfect balance" since college.

Our sons played on the same basketball and baseball teams for several years. We shared a casual wave here and there. Our kids were in different elementary schools, we didn't have a lot of mutual friends, and yoga? I totally did NOT do yoga.

Now, I cannot fathom how we haven't known each other forever. We are in sync on a spiritual level and she fills my head with all kinds of good stuff. I can attribute quite a few a-ha moments of my life to Cara's wisdom.

We all need a Cara (or two or three) in our lives.

ANYWAY, while we were pre-yoga-ing yesterday we were talking about my food issues. Cara mentioned primary and secondary foods. What? Huh? Really? Food for the soul isn't something we ingest; it is the stuff that feeds the important parts of our lives: relationships, careers, spirituality and physical activity. When we are whole in those areas of our life, secondary food (food we eat) isn't something we crave in order to make up for what is lacking in the primary food area of our lives. The best example has to be little kids out playing. We have to coax them in to eat. Only when they are hungry do we actually see them. I know, it's brilliant.

I can tell you EXACTLY what my state of mind is based on my body - when I am carbed out, there is absolutely a part of my life that is not going the way I want it to, the way I hoped it would. I have done the carb dance for more than thirty years. Today, I can practically pinpoint the day I first realized it. Yesterday, I may not have been so in tune with this.

I will be spending a bit of time reflecting on my primary foods. Yes, I have been doing so in therapy, but this is an entirely different therapy. And yes, of course, I have thought of food like this, kind of, in the past. Now, I am going all in.

This was Cara's email to me this morning:"Food is just food than its easier to stop eating when we are full. If FOOD IS LOVE it never makes you full because food isn't love, it’s just food."

And THAT'S why I am headed to yoga again this morning.

Namaste one and all!xo

And when you can find love,If you can find love,If you can find love,Then you forget everything.