Is Homosexuality a Lifestyle Choice?

Some people believe that discrimination against one’s sexual orientation is completely different from discrimination against race because people are born into their race, but homosexuals choose to be attracted to people of the same gender. Those who discriminate against homosexuality claim that such relationship choices are not natural; while studies show that about 10% of the population of every sexually reproducing species in nature develops homosexual bonds. Also, many homosexual people have recalled being attracted to the same gender from as far back as they can remember.

What do you think? Is homosexuality a choice? If you do think it is a choice, do you think others should be able to justify discriminating against same gender relationships because it is a choice?

21 Comments

queer at heart
March 22, 2012 at 5:41 pm

I”m astounded that these questions should even be raised in 2012. Study after study after study have shown that most gay people are born gay and that for the vast majority, it is NOT a choice. As to the last question raised above, one generally chooses one”s religion (or lack thereof), does one not? ONe can change one”s religion, right? Does that then give a CAtholic the right to discriminate against a Jew? or an atheist to discriminate against a Muslim? No. There is NO justification for discriminating against LGBTQ folks – none whatsoever.

Bisexuals are people who have the potential to be romantically and/or sexually attracted to people of any gender. Although I could be wrong on this point, since I myself am not bisexual, I believe they would not describe themselves as “changing preferences.” It is simply a case of falling in love with a PERSON, regardless of their gender.

What a wonderful answer: falling in love with the person regardless of gender is beautiful! Although you may be outraged by such questions, they do exist in people”s heads. Likewise, awesome answers like this one exist, and conversations like this help resolve any misunderstandings or untruths propagated by hateful propaganda that also, unfortunately, still exists.

Untrue.. Studies have shown the contrary… For example …genetically identical twins..large studies across the globe show that if one twin is gay only 11 percent of other identical twins are also gay. ..surely this would not be the case if it was a genetic predisposition ?

I could not agree with Queer At heart more! I was amazed, surprised, and shocked at the questions asked, especially “…other should be able to justify discrimination against other gender relationships…”

Read on:

Is Heterosexuality a LIfestyle Choice?

Some believe that discrimination against one”s sexual orientation is completely different from discrimination against race because people are born into their race, but heterosexuals choose to be attracted to people of the other gender. Those who discriminate against heterosexuality claim that such relationship choices are not natural; while studies show that about 10% of the population of every sexual reproducing species in nature develops heterosexual bonds. Also, many heterosexual people have recalled being attracted to the other gender from as far back as they can remember.
What do you think? Is heterosexuality a choice? If you do think it is a choice, do you think others should be able to justify discrimination against other gender relationships because it is a choice?

I appreciate the strong support of the scientific studies showing that homosexuality is natural, and the outrage at any intolerance against members of the LGBT community. This is a place where we wish to welcome the curious to ask any questions they may have. Clearly, gay marriage is still an issue in our country in 2012. Hopefully safe spaces for discussion like this one, may help people educate themselves against any intolerant dogmas that they”ve been to uncomfortable to challenge.

I just took a look at the performinghearts blog – very nicely done Michael.

I am enclosing a URL to a You Tube video that you probably have seen; I show it to my psychology students. I think it does a good job of capturing the orientation vs. preference issue. It might be a good one to include in the blog. (?)

HAHAHAHH thank you for the comedian quote. Sometimes the issue of choice or not choice gets so heavy. I relate it to one not talking abut religion or politics. Regardless of the many studies…. Studies can be biased to any one or the other .. SO…. I agree it”s about the relationship with a PERSON… My own family seems to have opinions on both sides.

I personally don”t stand for one way or the other.. I think it can be both. Some people may in fact be born sexually perferring the same sex and others through for what ever reason choose to be gay. In my opinion it doesn” t really matter what or why one is gay, bi, queer … I think as people, humans, it”s more important that we take responsibility for our actions, words and thoughts. What one does in their own life as long as it doesn”t harm others is their own right.

I personally don”t like having ANY issue or agend thrown in my face,or shoved down my throat, or when someone takes to the soap box.. I have a right to agree, disagree, or just avoid an issue. Why does ones choice have to be right or wrong? Love and niceness and common courtsey and thoughtfulness and kindness and acceptence are more important. We all make good and bad and poor and right judgements, choices,and mistakes. It”s how one handles them that count.

How one chooses to love or have friends or experience life is their choice. However in reality, we don”t always choose what happens to us. The world is not in our control only our own choices, thoughts and words.

Regardless of gender, choosing to be a homosexual should be a personal choice. There will always be someone saying that being a homosexual is wrong, but, in the end, it does not matter what other people think or say. As long as a person knows what is right for him or her. Stranger’s opinions really don’t count, it is the support system that a person creates that is important. Everyone has the right to be happy.

If you are either straight or gay you know from a very young age what gender you prefer. Those who state it is a choice are acting very ignorant because I”m sure they can retell their first crush on someone at a very young age. So why are they setting up different rules for people with different sexual preferences (homosexual relationships) than what is considered the norm.

Homosexuality is pressed upon an individual from the point of molestation which often occurs as early as infancy. The brain becomes hardwired to this sex act and attempts to recreate it through subsequent homosexual activity.

While there may be “natural” homosexual curiosity that occurs in animal species, it is not by nature sustainable simply for the fact that it would doom any species that reproduces via egg and sperm.

I believe that some people are born gay and others can become gay due to a molestation. The person has suffered a trauma and should receive therapy. Over time this individual may eventually become a heterosexual or maybe not. This is a very complex issue
January 31, 2013 at 5:16 am

From a purely health angle, the homosexual lifestyle is unhealthy physically, psychologically and emotionally ..with the likelihood of death roughly 15 years before the general population..if in doubt check Goggle ..

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