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Monday, 15 April 2013

Appraisal,
a word that is commonly heard and exercised in cooperate environments and in
businesses but not really in relationships. Appraisal simply means to assess your
progress over a period of time and come out with the modalities needed to enhance the your future doings.
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Without
the “knowledge” of your past progress, planning for the future wouldn’t be all
that smooth. (Copy and tweet). We build
in the future based on the foundations of the past. It’s said he who forgets their past is bound
to repeat the mistakes thereof. Relationships likewise need appraisal! I see
relationship as a seed that is planted by two people who needs to tend it together. When one person fails to do their bit, chaos ensues. (Copy and tweet).

It is
said that what most "new lovers" use to do when they first met is
stopped or totally forgotten once they settle in the relationship. (Copy and tweet). The cinema, picnic, walking hand in hand, long
chats on the phones etc are sent into oblivion. They easily forget it was what they
used to do that caused the love they are experiencing to blossom. Once we begin
to take things for granted in the relationship, we lose the essence and the
value of what we have. (Copy and tweet).

The
challenge of our times demands that anyone desiring to keep their relationship should
endeavour to constantly appraise. (Copy and tweet).
It’s only by doing so that you get to know what is really working and what isn’t.
What might have worked earlier on in the relationship might have lost its
essence. Appraisal helps stops you from committing the mistakes that will kill
off your desire for each other. (Copy and tweet).

She
used to like flowers back then yet as the relationship progresses, you should be
able to discern whether if the “flower
trick” works or not. The fact that the
gentleman used to like a particular food or music doesn’t mean he does anymore. (Copy
and tweet). There has got to be a common
platform for a discussion on how to keep the blossom in the relationship by carefully
understanding the evolutionary needs of each person. (Copy and tweet).

Love
is a meal served over the ages not something that happens instantly. In order
to enjoy the meal, be prepared to understand the ingredients that were
carefully chosen to cook it. (Copy and tweet).
The hustle and bustle of our times means
many never look carefully anymore at the man or woman they professed to love. The
times they are changing and so is the one in the relationship with you . With this change comes the demand to
constantly assess yourselves. (Copy and tweet).

Can
it be said without appraisal, you will soon forget who the person you are with is?
(Copy and tweet). Maybe by now you want to give up on the man or
woman who you used to love a few years or months down the line. Do away
with everything including the good, the bad and the ugly and begin appraising! Trust me, the changes will bring a turnaround
in your relationship. Selah!

Monday, 8 April 2013

The
latter end of the twentieth century right into the twenty-first brought to bear
one thing- that we have many choices of almost anything in existence. (Copy and
tweet). Coupled with the explosion of social media,
you don’t have to settle for just one thing…you can have more if only you want
to. It has its advantages and disadvantages. This era seem to resonate with one
of James Bond’s movie- the world is not enough. (Copy and tweet).

When
it comes to relationships, having several choices might be good in the early
stages yet you ought to be able to settle on someone as the only one. (Copy and
tweet). Without a settle mind, several choices only lead
to one thing- the danger of constantly comparing. (Copy and tweet). Our modern trends have proven that
many would want to “kiss” a lot before they settle for the best lip. Yet I
believe there are enough statistics to prove more and more relationships don’t
last in our times as in the older years gone by.

I
believe in being bold to come to terms with who you really want to be with in a
relationship. (Copy and tweet). Whether
the person is short, tall, light or dark skinned, English, French etc, it’s a decision
God has freely given to each person to exercise. (Copy and tweet). It’s your duty to exercise this free
gift to the best of your ability. I know sometimes the culture in which we are
raised plays a major role in who we relate to or not. Yet when you come to
terms with your choices, be bold and accept your portion in life.

God knows
who will bring you fulfilment and satisfaction. Nothing happens by accident. (Copy
and tweet).You didn’t meet the person by
mistake. It was a divine plan whether if you believe in God or not. I think many
cheat because they never seem to be satisfied with who they claim to be in love
with. (Copy and tweet). We get caught up in
the hustle and bustle so much we forget that in life, no one will bring you
satisfaction until you make up your mind.

At
weddings, many say “I do” without knowing what they are doing. (Copy and tweet). A few weeks, months or years down the
line, they are divorced or separated because they believe they aren’t
compatible. Sad! Somebody failed to do the necessary checks to understand how
compatible they could be with the next person they want in a relationship. (Copy
and tweet).

Compatibility
is a must which can’t be taken for granted in any relationship. It’s what leads
to satisfaction and subsequently stops comparison. (Copy and tweet). Relationship sites understand the
power of compatibility thus they make sure it’s a major point on which their
sites are built on. I believe it’s
because they’ve found out that if you are ever going to be satisfied and cut
out comparison, you need compatibility.

The lack
of a definite acceptance of yourself and capabilities first and the person
you’ve declared to be in love with could is the major cause of your constant
comparison. (Copy and tweet). When you
made the bold decision to be in love with someone, I hope whatever brought the
two of you together wasn’t the lack of contentment nor assumption but a genuine
desire to be satisfied once and for all. (Copy and tweet).

Stop
wishing the person you are with was someone else! If you wanted to be with
someone else you wouldn’t have chosen to this one you are with. Don’t waste your
time… to thine own self be true! (Copy and tweet).It’s
about time you cut out all the clutter and accept your portion in this life.
When two are united in the web of love, nothing is impossible. (Copy and tweet).

Monday, 1 April 2013

They say the lowest form of wisdom is assumption
yet day in day out, many live their lives based on it. (Copy and tweet). It’s a very dangerous and
disappointing way to live.I see
assumptions as self- projections and convictions that lack credibility and
substance. (Copy and tweet). Relations happen
between two human beings, (I prefer a man and a woman inspite of what our
modern interpretations might be) and people change.It’s something we ought to learn to deal with.

Human beings are organisms and organisms evolve. The evolution of a person means
change is something that will happen with or without their involvement. (Copy
and tweet). The easiest way to be
disappointed in any relationship is to stick to your assumptions without credible evidence. (Copy and tweet). Oh yes sometimes we all have assumptions about the next person but my simple question is this- are our so-called assumptions fulfilled as we thought? Selah!

Assuming
all is well with the “Jones” and thinking just because the grass is greener on
the other side is a grave mistake. (Copy and tweet).
Every relationship has its challenges yet people still find time to smile and
to enjoy each other. I was talking to my young adults in church the other day
about relationships. I said to desire to be with someone is something god ordained. If
you meet the right person at the right time, you are saved a lot of
headaches. However, they shouldn’t assume that the person will be hundred per cent but they should be ready to deal with the excesses that come with being in a
relationship. (Copy and tweet).

Cheating
is a choice not a mistake! (Copy and tweet).
Thus to avoid making this deadly choice, the basic principle here is to learn
to be patient in dealing with your other half in question. Assuming
all will be rosy in your relationship is an infantile way of thinking especially when life has its own
bumps, twists and turns and detours. (Copy and tweet).

The
dictionary defines assumption as taking something for granted. Nothing should be taken for granted or supposed when it comes to relationships. Relationships can make or unmake you! Leave assumption
for daydreamers: for you and I who desire to have the best in our
relationships, see things for what they are but work with the facts to bring
about change. (Copy and tweet). The fact
that you want a relationship like someone else doesn’t mean you have it.
Neither does wishing for change means you will have it. YOU HAVE TO LEARN to
deal with the brutal facts and processes involved in you becoming what you
envision to be. (Copy and tweet ).

In
my opinion, assumption is a deadly “SIN” Lol…. for anyone who desires not to
cheat. Assuming he/she will behave in a particular way doesn’t mean it will happen. Many
at times we are disappointed at other people not because of their behaviour but
because of our unfounded expectations of them. (Copy and tweet). When you live life prepared to win,
we also prepare yourself with enough bulwarks to avert the shocks that come
with it. If you desire to have a relationship without the clutter,
realistically don’t assume but be ready and prepared for changes when it comes.
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Here
is a simple 3 minutes step to help you

A.Stop Assuming!!

B.Deal With The Facts Presented

C.Be content

Talk
About It -

A.
Why do you think people make assumotions when it comes to relationships?

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