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Had been dating

In fact, I might even like to punch myself in the nose for it. For example, I had a college sweetheart, the girl of my dreams. We totally "clicked." We waited for awhile, then, through my initiation, we started having sex. I stopped wanting to get to know her on any other level.

For example, we get the car we've always wanted, but then it's just "okay" after awhile. There wouldn't be any "emptiness." I've found that girls often don't fully understand what's going on when it comes to sex.I've seen this happen with countless relationships, not just others of my own, but those of many other people.And I think there's a reason for this, which I'll explain next.Taylor Swift, who's dated three chaps from the British Isles (Brits Harry Styles and Tom Hiddleston, Scot Calvin Harris), may have a new British beau.The Sun and People are reporting that Swift is dating 26-year-old actor Joe Alwyn—and has been renting a house in north London in part to spend time with him.But nobody talks about this kind of thing in public.

And the movie and TV portrayals of couples having sex before marriage never present it either.

I know a newlywed couple who have sex less than once a month because of this -- he doesn't respect her, she knows it, and she doesn't trust him, so she doesn't want to give herself to him.

It's very sad, and more common than you might think.

Maybe it's just built into "the system." But one thing's for sure: I'm not alone. I know many people having marital problems because they engaged in premarital sex.

They go into the marriage with lack of respect and lack of trust, two absolute necessities for the health of any marriage.

If you have a girlfriend now and feel that way, think of how much stronger that feeling will be with your wife someday. That's what I mean by "sex killed my best relationships." People can relate on many different levels -- emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually.