‘I no longer sit at tables where I might be the topic when I get up. I used to think that’s just how women are.’: Woman reminds us ‘worth’ can’t be ‘determined or negotiated’ by others

“I NO LONGER SIT AT TABLES WHERE I MIGHT BE THE TOPIC WHEN I GET UP.
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Can I get an AAAAAMMMMEEENNNNN?!?!⠀
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I used to think that in order to belong I had to sit at that kinda table. ⠀

I used to think that this is ‘just how women are’.⠀

I used to think that I just didn’t belong, that I wasn’t enough.⠀

DUDE, let me drop another mic with a little Brene Brown talk…⠀

‘Our worth cannot be determined nor negotiated by other people.’⠀
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So, if you’re sitting at the table where the topic of conversation is someone else’s shortcomings, mistakes, imperfections,flaws, or lawd the he said/she said gossip…⠀

I assure you that when you leave your seat, you’re likely the next topic of conversation.⠀
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GIRL, GET A NEW TABLE. ⠀
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WITH BOLDNESS, I share this.
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FIND A NEW SEAT at a table of women who straight up ARSENIO HALL style root for their people to win. ⠀
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FIND A NEW SEAT at the table with all the other not-quites, and all the other never-get-it-rights.⠀
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FIND A NEW SEAT where confidence is served like cake, LAUGHTER is a side dish, and conversation that raises the bar is the main course… and there is absolutely no room left on the plate to speak ill of others. ⠀
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It’s true this kinda table may be rare, but I assure you, dang there is always an open chair.”⠀