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Wednesday, March 28, 2012

If your husband or boyfriend is cheating on you, or has cheated on you in the past, no doubt the first question that crossed your mind was:

Why?

You’re not alone.Most women who are victims of infidelity want to know why their spouse or significant other was unfaithful, and what motivated him to have an affair.

But there are several important reasons you need to find out the reasons why he cheated on you.

Why It's Important to Know the Reasons Why He Cheated on You
Knowing the reason (or reasons) why your husband or boyfriend cheated on you can help you deal with the situation.
Knowing why he cheated is also the key to making an intelligent decision about the best way to deal with his infidelity.If you decide to reconcile with your cheating mate, knowing why he cheated can give you insight on how to rebuild your relationship and decrease the chances that it will happen again. If you decide to leave your cheating mate, knowing why he cheated can facilitate the healing process, and enable you to move on without letting baggage from your old relationship influence the next relationship in your life.

Below are links to 10 articles which will give you a better understanding of some of the reasons why men cheat on their mates, and help you determine why your husband or boyfriend, in particular, may have cheated on you.

NOTE: Understand that these articles areNOT excuses for his infidelity. There areno valid reasons for a man to cheat on his mate. But the articles below can help you understand some of the reasons whyyour spouse or significant other, in particular, may have cheated on you.

Following the links to 10 articles that will help you gain a better understanding of why men cheat, you will find a list of essential articles packed with practical, immediately-usable information that can help you in dealing with his affair, as well as a list of resources that will be of additional help.

Understanding Why Men Cheat

25 Reasons Why Men Cheat
Men cheat for a variety of reasons. This article covers 25 of the many reasons men cheat on their mates. Bear in mind that some men cheat for several of the reasons covered in this article.

Why Husbands Cheat
A discussion of 14 of the most common reasons why husbands cheat on their wives.

How Good Men End Up Cheating on their Mates
Sometimes, despite a man’s best intentions, he may end up cheating on his wife or girlfriend. This article explores some of the factors that come into play when a man who people would never expect to be unfaithful, gets involved in an extramarital affair.

Happy Husbands Cheat Too, and Even Good Marriages are Susceptible to Infidelity
Most people mistakenly assume that a happily married man would never cheat on his wife. It may come as a surprise to many women that at least 3 infidelity studies have found that happy husbands cheat, too. .One of the best kept secrets about cheating husbands, infidelity and extramarital affairs is that in most cases, a man’s happiness, or lack thereof, is not a determining factor in whether or not he will have an affair. Not every cheating husband is dissatisfied or unhappy with his marriage or his wife. See 25 Reasons Why Men Cheat and Why Husbands Cheat.

10 Innocent Actions that Can Lead to Infidelity
Sometimes the most innocent actions can inadvertently lead to infidelity. A number of ordinary, everyday things can lay the groundwork for having an affair, and contribute to an otherwise faithful man unintentionally cheating on his mate.

Not every man who cheats will attempt to cover his tracks, or conceal the signs of infidelity to avoid getting caught. Sometimes a cheating man actually wants his wife or girlfriend to find out about his affair. This article discusses 8 reasons why.

Many people are convinced that men are genetically programmed to cheat. This article discusses the so-called “cheating gene, and whether or not a man can legitimately use this as an excuse for cheating on his mate.

Once you have a better understanding of some of the reasons why your husband or boyfriend might have cheated on you, check the list of articles and resources below for practical help in dealing with his affair.

Essential Articles to Help You Deal with His Affair

The articles in the list below contain practical, immediately-usable advice from a nationally-recognized infidelity expert, which can help you deal with your man’s affair. These article cover several aspects of dealing with infidelity.

More articles with helpful infidelity advice from an infidelity expert on dealing with infidelity can be found at www.NationalInfidelity.com.

For more articles with practical, immediately-usable advice on dealing with various issues of infidelity ranging from discovery to recovery, subscribe to my National Infidelity column, or visitwww.NationalInfidelity.com. ____________________________________________

40 Fatal Signs That You’re about to Be Dumped
Marriages and committed relationships rarely ever come to a screeching halt. There are usually warning signs along the way. Here are 40 subtle signs that your marriage and relationship is in serious trouble, and that your spouse or significant other is on the verge of calling it quits.

The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2011
Whether you’re married, single, or between relationships - whether your spouse or significant other is cheating on you or not, a good infidelity reference book is the best investment you can make in your relationship. It will serve you well for many years to come. This article explains why.

Who You Should and Shouldn’t Tell That He’s Cheating on You
If your spouse or significant other is cheating on you, there are certain people you shouldn’t tell. Telling the wrong person can complicate matters or come back to haunt you in ways you least expect. This article discusses who you should and shouldn’t tell – and why.

25 Reasons Why Men Cheat
Men cheat on their wives or girlfriends for a variety of reasons. Here’s a laundry list of the 25 most common reasons men cheat on their mates. Keep in mind that most men cheat for a combination of these 25 reasons.

How Can I Keep Him From Cheating on Me?
With infidelity constantly in the news, women want to know what they can do to safeguard their marriages or relationships from an affair. In this article, a nationally-recognized infidelity expert offers some surprising advice on keeping infidelity at bay.

7 Steps to Catch a Cheating Mate
Catching a cheating spouse or significant other does not have to be expensive or complicated. You don’t need to hire a private investigator or buy a lot of fancy surveillance equipment to find out the truth. Just follow the 7 easy steps in this article.

Online Resources to Help You Catch or Monitor a Cheating Mate
If you have, or think you have a cheating mate, there are 3 types of online resources that can help you in almost any infidelity situation you’re likely to encounter, from discovery to recovery. Whether you suspect infidelity, are trying to deal with a cheater in your life, or trying to reconcile with a cheating mate, an online service can help you in one of 10 related situations.

Go to the National Infidelity Examinerpage at Examiner.com where you will find the article mentioned above, as well as other articles with helpful advice for men who are victims of female infidelity, including the articles listed below:

Many betrayed wives think of alienation of affection lawsuits as a form of revenge. But these lawsuits can actually be a sneaky way to phase the Other Woman out of your husband’s life, so you can get your marriage back on track.

There are some definite benefits to suing the Other Woman, even if you don’t follow through with the lawsuit, or even if you sue and can’t collect.

For more practical, immediately-usable infidelity adviceon all aspects of infidelity from discovery to recovery,visit my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.comwhere you will find over 150 helpful articles .

While Jesse James was undergoing sex addiction treatment at a rehab in Arizona, Sandra was caring for her 3 stepchildren (Jesse’s kids) and adjusting to her role as a mother to Louis Bardo Bullock, her newly adopted son. The new baby, and Sandra’s stepchildren may have been instrumental in softening the blow of Jesse’s betrayal.

Successful Strategies Other Betrayed Wives Can Employ

Other women in similar situations can learn much from the way Sandra Bullock handled the devastating betrayal of the man she loved.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

If you’re dealing with a cheating man like Tiger Woods, and you’re wondering if he’ll cheat on you again, you’ll be interested in the information below.

While some cheating husbands and boyfriends repeatedly cheat on their mates, others never cheat again.

Tiger Woods is one of those men – despite the fact that he cheated on Elin Nordegren with multiple mistresses over a period of several years.

Your cheating husband or boyfriend may be one of these men, too.

Many Cheaters Have Multiple Affairs

Several years ago, I came across a study which found that 2/3 of the men who cheated on their mates had more than one affair. 25% of those men had 4 or more affairs.

My own research over the past 16 years bears that out.

Having interviewed or consulted with thousands cheating men from all walks of life during that time, I’ve found that most cheaters have more than one affair.

What About the Men Who Never Cheated Again?

But some cheating men, even men who previously had multiple affairs, reached a point where they never cheated again.

I wanted to find out why.

What kept certain cheating men from having more affairs?

Why was it that a small number of men never cheated again?

Why Some Cheaters Never Cheated Again

This is what I found out:

Cheaters become repeaters if they don’t suffer any negative consequences as a result of their infidelity.

The more negative consequences a cheater suffered because of his infidelity, the less likely he was to cheat again.

Why Tiger Woods and Other Cheaters Won’t Cheat Again

That’s why Tiger Woods, and other cheating men like him, are unlikely to ever cheat again.

Look at the sheer number and magnitude of negative consequences Tiger Woods has suffered because of his cheating.

Because of this, Tiger falls into the category of cheating men who will probably never cheat again.

Tiger’s marriage and family are hanging in the balance. His reputation has been ruined. His golf career is hold while he desperately tries to make amends to his wife and get his marriage back on track. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

This article covers more than a dozen negative consequences Tiger Woods has suffered, and is still experiencing, as a result of his multiple affairs.

Will Your Husband or Boyfriend Cheat Again?

Has your husband or boyfriend suffered any negative consequences as a result of cheating on you?

If his affair has caused all kinds of problems in his life – if he lost or came close to losing you, his marriage/relationship, his job, his money, his reputation, his health (HIV/AIDS or other STDs), his standing in the community, the respect of those who know him - he may never cheat again.

For more help in catching a cheating mate, send for a free copy of the special infidelity report Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? 21 Ways You Can Tell, by e-mailing InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with 21 ways-Bv in the subject line.

Friday, February 05, 2010

In her book , Staying True, Jenny Sanford, tells how Mark Sanford insisted on removing the fidelity clause from their marriage vows.

By doing so, Sanford signaled his intent early on, and labeled himself a potential cheater.

Despite her misgivings, Jenny Sanford married him anyway

If, like Jenny Sanford, you knowingly marry (or date) a potential cheater, there are precautions you should take to decrease the likelihood that he will actually have an affair.

Free Infidelity Report Tells How to Handle a Potential Cheater

The free infidelity report entitled, “How to Deal with a Potential Cheater,” lists several successful strategies you can use to avoid a lot of hurt, humiliation and heartbreak later on, if you’re married to a man who’s likely to cheat on you.

To request a free copy of this infidelity report by infidelity expert Ruth Houston, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with the words "Potential Cheater Report-blg" in the subject line.

Not Sure if He’s a Potential Cheater?

Not all potential cheaters signal their intent like Mark Sanford did.

Most men who are prone to infidelity don’t reveal themselves right away.

The short, but highly accurate 7-question quiz will tell you whether or not you’re involved with a man who is prone to infidelity.

By looking at certain things about your husband or boyfriend - his life experiences, family history, character flaws or personality traits, your answers to the Potential Cheater’s Quizwill tell you if your spouse or significant other is a man who is likely to cheat on his mate.

Or you can request a free copy of the Potential Cheater’s Quiz by sending an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “Cheater’s Quiz –blg” in the subject line.

If you already know he's a potential cheater, request the free infidelity reportHow to Deal with a Potential Cheater, so you'll know what to do. E-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with Potential Cheater Report-blg in the subject line.

Cutting Edge Infidelity Information and Practical Infidelity Advice

For more information about infidelity, cheating mates, and extramarital affairs from an infidelity expert, visit my National Infidelity Examiner pagesat Examiner.com, where new articles with cutting edge infidelity advice are posted every week.

You will find over 100 articles with containing cutting edge infidelity information, and the latest infidelity advice, including the articles listed below.

Tiger Woods is nearing the end of his treatment for sex addiction at the Pine Grove facility in Hattiesburg, Mississippi.

If you’re dealing with a cheating husband or boyfriend, you may be wondering if he could be a sex addict too.

I’ve received so many questions from you about sex addicts and sex addiction that I’ve compiled a list of behaviors common to sex addicts which you can check and compare with the behavior and characteristics of your spouse or significant other.

The updated list of 25 behaviors and characteristics common to sex addicts is based on information gathered from several medical sites.

Although a qualified medical professional is the only one who can make an accurate diagnosis about such things, you can take a look at the list of common behaviors and make an educated guess.

Medical Professionals Disagree about Sex Addiction

Only a qualified medical professional can make an accurate diagnosis.

But even in medical circles sex addiction is a controversial topic on which even medical professionals don’t all agree.

Many don’t even acknowledge sex addiction as a “legitimate” addiction.

However a growing number of medical professionals believe that compulsive sexual behavior ( sex addiction) is a very real disorder that affect an estimated 16 million Americans of both sexes, from high profile cheaters like Tiger Woods, Steve Phillips, and David Duchovny, to the man next door.

Articles on the Tiger Woods Infidelity Scandal

For articles on the Tiger Woods sex scandal from an infidelity expert’s point of view, see

The hurt and anger you feel at being betrayed by someone you love is usually accompanied by a strong urge to do something to get even with the person who caused you so much heartbreak, humiliation and pain.

Many people, especially women, resort to revenge cheating or retaliatory affairs as a way to even the score, or punish their cheating mate.

Other revenge articles posted on the National Infidelity Examinerpage discuss why the urge to get revenge is to strong, creative ways some infidelity victims get revenge, forms of revenge to avoid, and how one woman accidentally discovered the best way of all to get revenge on her cheating mate.

Infidelity Expert Ruth Houston

About Me

Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on celebrity infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. Ruth is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook.
To interview Ruth Houston, call 718-592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com