A couple often finds themselves becoming too comfortable, too fast. The spark goes out without you even realizing it and before you know it, you have developed a routine. There is nothing wrong with routine, but why not change things up every once in a while? It doesn't have to be someone’s birthday or anniversary, or even that holiday we have all grown to love so much- Valentine’s day. Tonight, do something out of the ordinary just because. There’s no need to go over the top with anything fancy and ludicrous, but if that’s the mood you’re in, go for it. But for something a little more laid back calling for minimal work, you can have a nice relaxing night in with the right amount of romance.

Driving home from work tonight, stop at the store and pick up flowers, wine, and oysters. Flowers are not overrated. Spring is in the air and the flowers are in full bloom, so pick some up to liven up your home tonight. Wine always sets the romantic mood without fail; as does champagne. Take your pick. Or pick up the key ingredients for her favorite cocktail and shake it up (pomegranate juice is said to boost testosterone levels).

If oysters are available, grab a dozen. Or two. Scientists say these bivalves are at their prime aphrodisiac quality in the spring time. And white wine pairs nicely with these buttery delicacies. If oysters aren't really your thing, chocolate truffles work just as well; in this case, red wine pairs better. The point is to grab something small to accompany your beverage so that it at least looks like you put some thought and effort into planning this evening.

Go home and tidy up the place a bit so there is no clutter, to provide a more relaxed atmosphere. Light up as many candles as you can find, have the beverages out and ready to go, oysters on a platter, and flowers in a vase. This can be a surprise gesture or not. Even if she is already home, it will be a nice shock to see you walk through the door bearing goodies.

Take this time to relax and enjoy the moment. You see each other so often that you forget you guys haven’t actually taken some time in while to sit down and chat about nothing in particular, but just to chat. It’s not complicated, not time consuming, not expensive. So do that tonight. And again in a few weeks.

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Golzar Meamar, just barely reaching her mid-twenties, has traveled worldwide in search of answers to questions she never asked-- only to end up settling down with her Chihuahua-Terrier and boyfriend of 8 years, in their newly purchased condo in sunny San Diego. She's your average girl with an average story, and an average journey, but her passionate character is why everyone turns to her for relationship advice. Through personal experience and a study in human sexuality, Golzar tackles the self-controversial influence of "Love."