Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Knowing how to ask for what you want in life is an important skill. Many people suffer through years of discomfort within a relationship because they don't know how to ask for what they want from their partner.

This includes everything from simple things like, "I'd like you to spend more time on the backs of my knees during our lovemaking," to more complex issues like, "I would feel more comfortable if you did not sleep in full combat gear."

After years of therapy, I recently asked CHNW if she would be more sensitive to my insecurities regarding my checkered past. Specifically, I'd like her to stop introducing me as her "former jailbird husband."She happily complied, she'd had no idea it bothered me. Why did I wait so long?

I encourage all of my readers to work on these areas, as our friend the parrot is doing today.

backs of knees? is that a new karma sutra move i don't know about? haha actually, i need to learn some new moves... maybe a trip to toys in babeland is in order.

glad to hear chnw and you are keepin' it real. communication of needs is key to any happy healthy relationship, it's usually not as scary as one thinks as long as there is respect for the other person's needs and happiness, open communication usually bonds rather than destroys. :)