Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 9th 2009, 05:47 PM

I hear this all the time, but I don't get it! Lots of female teenagers already have boobs and they dress provocatively. In general people, well usually men, are attracted to younger people. It seems completely normal to me. Younger usually means healthier, which means more chance of offspring (this takes place on an unconscious level of course). I do think it's generally distasteful/inappropriate for an adult to act on those feelings, but if they are just thinking it why criticize them?

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Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 9th 2009, 06:56 PM

I don't see anything wrong with adults thinking about it or acting on it. So long as there is no position of trust I don't see why a 40 year old should not date a 16 year old if they are both consenting.

Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 9th 2009, 10:56 PM

If you're going to suggest that adults being attracted to teenagers are perverts, then would it not stand to reason that teenagers attracted to adults are perverts? If both parties are consenting, then where is the problem in that? The only problem would be a legal one but if this is a debate where the legal aspects are not considered, then there is no problem.

Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 10th 2009, 02:05 AM

I think it's natural. I mean, even if the girl or boy is under 16 and still not fully developed. I mean, come on. People like innocent people. They like to know their hearts aren't tainted and stained and scarred. They want to be that persons one and only so they go for the younger ones.

Physically, yes I think if they are 16 or so that would be appropriate. If the older person likes someone who is 13 for his or her undeveloped body, then that is a bit of a perv.

Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 10th 2009, 02:10 AM

If she has a developed body, then there is nothing wrong with finding her attractive because that is what is supposed to occur. We can't put an age on it because people develop at different rates. However, just because the body is developed doesn't mean the mind is ready, and there is a big difference between finding someone attractive and making a move on them. Look, don't touch. Actually, if you don't look either that is good too.

Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 10th 2009, 02:16 AM

What happens to me is I get creepy guys following me around and trying to grab my ass. That I have a problem with, obviously. Which makes me find it hard to say it's okay to be attracted to someone younger than you like that, because I feel that the only people who feel that way violate me. But I know this is not true too.

Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 10th 2009, 08:16 PM

I honestly think that it is somewhat creepy for adults to be thinking certain things about people who are so young. Even more so if they act on it. In my mind, adults are too old for teenagers. If there's a year or two between them then fine, but it gives me the heebeegeebies when there's a huge gap.

That being said, this is what I apply to myself. I don't look at teenagers and think about dating them or anything like that. I actually find it hard to even think about dating anyone younger than me for the most part. I generally look away when others do it, though, since it isn't my place or business to judge.

Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 11th 2009, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Mel

I honestly think that it is somewhat creepy for adults to be thinking certain things about people who are so young. Even more so if they act on it. In my mind, adults are too old for teenagers. If there's a year or two between them then fine, but it gives me the heebeegeebies when there's a huge gap.

That being said, this is what I apply to myself. I don't look at teenagers and think about dating them or anything like that. I actually find it hard to even think about dating anyone younger than me for the most part. I generally look away when others do it, though, since it isn't my place or business to judge.

I'm going to say that I do feel the exact same way as Mel when it comes to the situation, but when it comes to when others do it, I'm a little different. I can't look away. I become so...disgusted, for a lack of the better word. Age bothers some, but most of the time age bother's none.

It's hard for me to look away from something that is wrong, in my opinion. I can be as understanding as one wishes me to be, but that doesn't mean I don't feel, ne? While it may be that people look for younger, more healthier mates to produce healthier children, I still don't believe that a 50 year old man should hook up with a 20 year old girl. Or that a 30 year old man should hook up with a minor. Just my two cents.

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Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 11th 2009, 06:21 PM

My DH is ten months younger than me and let me tell you it is enough, physically he is like twenty four, but mentally, sometimes he is like having another child.
Physical attraction to a teenager is one thing, but if you are looking at them in any other way, if this is a teen of average maturity, there is something wrong with you.
One or two years in between us fine but over that just seems plan creepy. For a relationship. Not if you are a forty year old looking at a well developed teen simply appreciating her body, I understand, but look don't touch.
I have seen a girl who looked to be in her twenties by her body, but her face said quite clearly mid teens, she was quite attractive. And I'm thinking holy crow, pervert, to myself. Eventhough at the time I was still a teen myself.

Re: Are adults that are attracted to teenagers perverts? -
August 11th 2009, 06:34 PM

Also I would like to add, while my husband looks to be twenty four, I look to be at the most seventeen. Even with my adult figure, my face screams teenager. People glare at him, and then my sister who is almost fourteen looks right around fourteen to sixteen depending on her make up, and people sometimes can't quite tell who is Brianne and who is Annie when Anthony says 'that is my wife Brianne and her baby sister Annie, and the all the kids' then he points to us, the come up to us to shake my hand with their hand between us because they aren't sure. You can't ever know for sure how old a person is.