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Finding the Win-Win

If there’s any other thing I hope for you, it’s that you’ll remain steadfast in positivity and that you will aim for a win-win situation for all parties. Yes, of course there will be win-lose and lose-lose, quite frankly, but I do hope you will at least seek a win-win.

Change your perspective. Think outside the box.

Last week or so, we (yes you included) took your grandma (yai) to Berkeley to see one of her past patients. She was in high school when she was your grandmother’s patient and now thriving at Cal – how awesome is that? Anywho, we were eating a delicious dinner at Imm Street Thai Food when all of a sudden there was a lot of commotion.

You see a man walking out, casually, but then restaurant employees chasing after him. You see an altercation about to go down, kinda. I say kinda because the man just stood there, and the Thai restaurant employee was grabbing him, not allowing him to leave and walk away. The employee held onto him. More of the back of house employees came out, and even one guest got up, ready to rumble on behalf of the employees, it seemed.

Being in the Nor Cal area and just seeing this in general, you assume it’s due to someone trying to dine and ditch. But who knows, can you assume that? Can you assume the guy was a bad guy? Can you assume the restaurant wasn’t in the ‘right’? Who knows. All I know is that if it was your grandfather’s restaurant, he’d just give the person the meal. He’d probably go up and offer to someone and ask if they want food (though he’s been dine and ditched several times over at his restaurant). In fact, when he saw kids/teens eating, but there was one who wasn’t, he’d offer. Yes, some people too advantage of your grandparents, and it’s unfortunate,but if anything at least they were always good people, always had a heart in the right place.

Anyway, I digress again. So a passerby with presumably pizza (pizza box) and a drink walked by. Came from another restaurant I guess? Came in. Paid. Handed the receipt to the first employee who went out there. All employees exited. The guy left.

That’s that.

That’s all it took.

A stranger. A third party. A third party perspective. Solving a problem that allowed a win win for each person.

I admire that man. I wish I had done something.

Olivia Bean, will you be hat person in the future? That person who builds the bridge? I hope so. 🙂 xoxo