But how to tell whether the church is merely giving lip service to the idea of welcoming all people or is serious about its surprising, still-tentative admission that it sees good qualities in LGBTI people and same-sex relationships?

“Homosexuals have gifts and qualities to offer to the Christian community. Are we capable of welcoming these people, guaranteeing to them a fraternal space in our communities?

“Often they wish to encounter a Church that offers them a welcoming home. Are our communities capable of providing that, accepting and valuing their sexual orientation …?”

When the synod issues its final report, those questions need to be answered. The answer should be “Yes.”

2. Will the church stop discriminating against LGBTI people, especially those in same-sex marriages?

Bruce Knotts, director of the United Nations Office of the Unitarian Universalist Association, stated:

Bruce Knotts, director of the United Nations office of the Unitarian Universalist Association. (Photo courtesy of UUA)

I share the hope that the Catholic Church will change. For me the proof will be if the firings of same-gender loving staff stop.

Here in the United States, a number of teachers in very good standing at Catholic schools have been fired the moment they have entered into a same-sex marriage. It seems that the Catholic Church was fine when people had a relationship outside the bonds of marriage, but once a same-sex wedding occurs, the Catholic Church will immediately terminate your employment.

I note this is not done to other Catholic employees who are unfaithful to their opposite-sex spouses or who abuse children. This is rank hypocrisy and antithetical to healthy committed loving married relationships, which the Church claims to endorse, even if only of a certain kind.

I understand that the tone will change to “give time for people to grow into conformity with the faith.” I really don’t want to grow into a faith which denies the sanctity of same-gender loving marriages.

It seems the Church wants peaceful coexistence. That can happen when dedicated Catholic LGBTI employees can remain employed even if they enter into a same-sex marriage. The violence and reprisals against our community need to stop in substance, not just in tone.

3. Will the church oppose imprisonment of LGBTI people in countries with anti-gay laws?

That’s not what Archbishop Victor Tonye Bakot did in Cameroon, where he fueled that nation’s anti-gay fervor by saying that “homosexuality opposes humanity and destroys it” and calling same-sex marriage “a serious crime against humanity.” But last year Pope Francis removed Bakot as archbishop, without explanation, so there’s reason to hope.