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Thursday, March 10, 2016

I Think He's Stingy!

Good morning aunty Amara and to everyone in the forum.
There is this guy I met, though he based in Abuja while I based in Owerri. Am graduate currently waiting for NYSC March batch while he is working. We love each other, he is caring , affectionate, prayerful , hardworking, tall and handsome.
My problem is that he can buy anything I want for me but he can't give me money. The only time he gave me money was my transport after seeing him the last time we meet. He was asking me my family's name, my father's name. He said he wanted to come and see my parents. He also said that he can't wait to have me forever and I said in my mind " have who with this your stingy hand?
Once he said that he wanted to come and see my parents, I paused as he asked me further questions, I told him to wait. I have to know him very well. Our relationship started this year Jan 2016 though we have been chatting since November 2014 without having feelings or passion for each other then. I think he's stingy. That's what I don't like about him..
Please aunty Amara, what do you think ? Thank you and God bless you

Though your instances weren't sufficient to tag him a stingy man, I'm tempted to agree with you because you know better than I do. There are some men who are naive when it comes to learning how to appreciate their partner and how to let them feel loved in the relationship and there are also some men who were generous and loving but because of the painful experiences they had in the past decided never to appreciate their partner with gifts and surprises.Instead if making conclusions, you may wish to express your concerns and worries about such attitude and hear him out so that it doesn't look as though you do not want him to improve on his personality.If he's a man who genuinely appreciates you and respects your personality, he'll definitely make amends to his attitude and learn to give more.However if after you have tried to express your concerns and he never changed, then you may need to reconsider your convictions and go for a man who will make your feel loved and appreciated.Before I forget, love doesn't permit only men to appreciate their partner with gifts and thoughtful surprises, as his partner you also ought to appreciate him, celebrate him, surprise him and get him some gifts that will make him feel exceptionally happy and fulfilled with you. I'm certain that such a thoughtful attitude would earn you more love and affection in the heart of the man who loves you and appreciates your personality.

3 comments:

That's good. I love your advice it's understandable. But there is one thing I want you to understand in this issue. There are some men who will be given you some thing for him to achieve his goal and when they have achieved that they wll cut it off.

I don't think he is Stingy.You said he buys things for you. He will expect since you are working you can afford to do things for yourself. Marriage is involved and not friendship please let him perform the marriage right. It's only married men that does pay as you go not a single guy that wants a future with u. When he marries you finally you can have all his money and buy a gucci hand bag na your marriage none of our business. All the best sweetheart

I don't think he is Stingy.You said he buys things for you. He will expect since you are working you can afford to do things for yourself. Marriage is involved and not friendship please let him perform the marriage right. It's only married men that does pay as you go not a single guy that wants a future with u. When he marries you finally you can have all his money and buy a gucci hand bag na your marriage none of our business. All the best sweetheart