4. Premarital sex will cause more pain/confusion about God’s purpose for sex.

5. Premarital sex tends to breed dissatisfaction with future mate.

6. Joshua Harris talks about the evils of “comparison and variety” and how sex promiscuity affects a person later on in marriage

ROCK Ministry: What are the signs that you are ready to get married? It is right to ask God some sort of ‘signs”?

Pure Life Ministries: You may be ready for marriage when you don’t care about whether you’re married or not. Also you may be prepared for marriage when you are ready to lay down your life for another and willing to stay committed until death. If you are already living a life of selflessness, you’ll have something to bring to the marriage hopefully. “Signs” about marriage can be dangerous and misleading because they are often associated more with feelings (lust) and emotion (infatuation) than with God’s will and divine plan. However, you can trust God’s leading when you are submitted to spiritual authority—in the multitude of counsel there is safety (Prov. 11:14).

RM: What are the steps for a girl or a boy if they found out they are having a relationship with a homosexual?

PLM: If someone is “dating” or considering marriage to a person who is later discovered to be homosexual, it is wise to get out of that relationship ASAP if they have not repented of it and encourage the person to seek godly counsel to deal with their sin which if left unchecked will bring about horrible consequences in the future (visit: http://www.purelifeministries.org). Of course the person could just be struggling with thoughts but not acting on them, but at any rate the discovery should cause both parties to make sure this issue is “resolved” before moving forward in the relationship (marriage).

RM: If there is a solution then why is it still painful and why is there still suffering?

PLM: Sometimes it is painful to deal with sinful behaviors and to walk away from them because of the tremendous grip, guilt and shame associated with them. However, it is worth it to seek God for a breakthrough/deliverance. Although there are consequences to sin, godly repentance (a change of heart/mind) tends to alleviate the pain of suffering from besetting sin because a person finds forgiveness, cleansing and hope in Jesus.

RM: Because of the on going onslaught of the media on sex and selling sex through movies and magazine, we become numb on things that are wrong about sex. How can he bring back the sensitivity and tell it in public without being judgmental and unloving?

PLM: In a public forum of believers and non-believers, one could broach the subject of the effects of illicit sex and sensuality in today’s culture by presenting credible statistics and what happens to those who are ensnared in sexual addiction. But in order to give them hope or real answers pointing to the way out of bondage, you must at some point present JESUS and what He did on Calvary to save lost sinners and to destroy the work of the devil in people’s lives. Therefore, in order to really love those in bondage to sin, as a disciple and follower of Jesus Christ, you MUST speak the truth in love and in humility—even if it means you will be persecuted for it or labeled as being judgmental. Look at the life of Jesus: He was God in the flesh, speaking absolute truth to multitudes of self-righteous, wicked sinners—all of whom He loved deeply straight through to Calvary ! When He was in a passion, cleansing the temple, He was openly, unashamedly calling SIN…SIN…and then he was eventually murdered for it! Even John the Baptist, our Savior’s forerunner, was in the same “fire” (holy passion) calling men and women in the culture/society of his day to REPENTANCE. He preached against SIN and for REPENTANCE with all his heart…and later lost his head for it!

Mt 5:10-12 Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, For theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for My sake. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

2Ti 2:24-26 And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.

Jude 1:22-23 And have mercy on some, who are doubting; save others, snatching them out of the fire; and on some have mercy with fear, hating even the garment polluted by the flesh. (NASB)

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