I wonder why people call them “blended families.” Blended suggests some level of instant integration, but it is really a very gradual process over months and possibly years. Perhaps a better term for these families would be “neo-families” or “mergers and acquisitions.” These are the families with two people who usually have been married before, along with some possible combination of children from one or both families, extended relatives and former spouses from the previous families. You have...