Forplay Tips

If you’re looking for foreplay tips, odds are you’ve already seen
dozens of magazines and e-zines promising you, “If you just learn these
ten amazing moves, you can satisfy your woman (or man) in the bedroom!”
This isn’t really how things work however, especially where the subject
of foreplay is concerned. The worst thing you can do is assume that
your partner is interchangeable with every other woman on the planet.
On the contrary, foreplay is about generating arousal and enjoying
sensation, and every single person on the planet is unique in that
regard. There are certainly many types of foreplay that many different
people enjoy, but there are so many nuances to sexuality that sexual
play will vary for every couple according to individual preferences and
the nature of the relationship.

The Role of Communication

What’s
the number one best thing you can do to get good at foreplay? Get to
know your partner. Men (and often women too) often overlook the obvious
approach to foreplay, which is making it an open discussion. Why keep
trying to guess what turns your partner on in the bedroom (or outside
the bedroom, for that matter)? It’s a misconception to think there’s a
“right” or “wrong” way of doing things. When people get caught up in
thinking they’re “doing it wrong,” all kinds of silly tension and drama
usually ensues that doesn’t help anything. The only “right” thing to do
is to find out what’s right for you and your partner.

For some
people, sexuality is a relatively straightforward thing while for others
it’s more complicated. It’s best not to assume anything about your
partner. Many people aren’t completely open about sexuality, even with
their partners, because they’ve been taught that everyone should be more
or less the same. If you show an interest in learning more about your
partner, that by itself will probably help to kindle intimacy since your
partner really will appreciate that you want to make the effort and that you’re willing to accept her as she is more than anything else.

One
of the best ways to learn more about your partner and also share your
own sexuality is simply to print out two copies of a list of different
foreplay ideas. Each of you should sit down on your own and place
checks next to everything which interests you. You also should put x’s
next to items which you won’t do under any circumstances. You can then
trade your lists and see what your partner has marked. Many people
discover they have more in common than they would have guessed, or at
the very least that their partners aren’t opposed to trying things that
appeal to them. While sexuality is ingrained enough that we often know
our preferences before we try or don’t try things, it’s not unusual to
find things you had no interest in do turn you on once you give them a
go with your partner, because they give you another way to connect to
your partner sexually or emotionally.

Foreplay Ideas

If
you don’t have a clue where to start, that list is a good idea. That
can answer your questions right there. If you still want some ideas of
what constitutes foreplay, the answers can range a great deal. Foreplay
for some people is as simple as kissing and touching and caressing,
while for others it can involve fetishes like sexual roleplay and
costumes, BDSM, foot worship, etc. (common examples). For some people
foreplay doesn’t even involve physical activities. Some people are most
turned on by conversation, for example dirty talk. Some partners will
build up sexual tension for hours or even days leading up to a sexual
encounter. Foreplay for some couples is nonexistent while for others it
is actually the main attraction, with the subsequent sex and orgasm
being a result and not the end to which the foreplay was the means.
Tantric foreplay is another great starting place if you’re new to
foreplay and nervous about what to do, and it’s also an excellent option
for couples with intimacy issues or trauma to work around.

Benefits of Foreplay

Why
should you bother with foreplay? Ultimately it shouldn’t be just about
satisfying a picky partner—if you absolutely don’t have any interest in
foreplay and your partner demands it, you may actually be sexually
incompatible. Foreplay’s main benefit is that it allows you to create
more intimacy with your partner and to share in pleasurable
experiences—but that only really works out if you’re both
interested in foreplay. If it’s a big deal to your partner and not
really relevant to you, your partner is going to know you’re not really
into it, and it’s not going to be particularly effective.

You
can learn a lot about your partner’s sexual identity by engaging in
foreplay, and sometimes you can even learn more about your own. Since
sexuality is very personal and especially in our closed-off society,
foreplay requires a lot of trust and emotional connection between
partners. It can help to build trust and to strengthen emotional
bonds. A lack of intimacy is often what’s responsible for problems like
premature ejaculation and impotence in the bedroom. By bridging this
gap, your whole sex life can improve. This is one of many great natural
methods for treating PE and impotence without resorting to medications.

The
other benefit of foreplay is that it can help to resolve timing issues
between men and women. Men typically reach their climaxes much more
quickly than women during sexual intercourse, but foreplay can help
women reach the correct arousal level to be able to climax at the same
time as men. It’s a misconception that every woman needs to have sex
for twenty to thirty minutes to achieve an orgasm, though many women do
require that length of time over which to reach the right arousal
level. Since many men can last much better during foreplay than they
can during sexual intercourse, this helps partners to synch up who
otherwise struggle to do so.

Zinat Hanna is a full time writer who spends most of his time in
the coffee shops of Texas. Zinat has a BSc in psychology. Her
other interests are self improvement, general health, trans-humanism and
brain training. As well as writing for websites and magazines, she also
runs her own sites and has published several books and apps on these
topics. She lives in Texas, USA with her boyfriend and in her spare
time she enjoys climbing, travelling, playing games, reading comics and
eating sandwiches.

About Me

Zinat Hanna is a full time writer who spends most of his time in
the coffee shops of Texas. Zinat has a BSc in psychology. Her
other interests are self improvement, general health, trans-humanism and
brain training. As well as writing for websites and magazines, she also
runs her own sites and has published several books and apps on these
topics. She lives in Texas, USA with her boyfriend and in her spare
time she enjoys climbing, travelling, playing games, reading comics and
eating sandwiches.