well i got the call today... she didn't exactly say she's breaking up with me but
she said i was not welcome to come and move up with her this summer. Five years of relationship down the tube

Its a long story as to why, but actually i am somewhat relieved. she had some serious issues. Its funny though, her co workers think she is a bitch, her father and her brother wont speak to her, and she wants to blame all her unhappiness on me.

well i had enough of that- she's calling me later this week -not sure but i think i'm just gonna say i dont want to talk to you any more. I'm sick of her unstable mental situation :swear:
:bash: :help: :bang: :swear: :soapbox: :scratch: :mad: :rolleyes: :cry:

03-11-2002, 08:05 PM

Maki Riddington

Are you really sick of it or are you just angry right now?
Either way I feel your pain.
5 years is a long time.
I hope you cope with this well.

03-11-2002, 08:08 PM

the doc

thanks
i think this time i'm sick of it maki

she doesn't talk to me anymore and i really dont like that in a person

03-11-2002, 08:11 PM

the doc

:whiner:

this one to

03-11-2002, 08:20 PM

Celestial

Sorry to hear that, when relationships end it sucks and odd to deal with:( I know I am still dealing with mine.

03-11-2002, 08:20 PM

Avatar

sorry to hear that bro.. doesn't sound like you need her anyways tho.. she may have done ya a favor.
good luck with ya.

03-11-2002, 08:24 PM

Gyno Rhino

Sorry to hear that, man. I know how it is, though. Good luck, and you deserve better than that stuff anyway.

03-11-2002, 08:32 PM

the doc

thanks y'all. I feel like it might be for the best.

I just cant believe how different people can become in just a few years...

03-11-2002, 08:48 PM

Chris Rodgers

I hear ya. Mine wasn't as long, only 2 years, but sometimes only time can tell if you guys are truly compatible. Better to find out now than 5 years later, ya know?

BTW, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I am in a much better realtionship now and I found this one without even looking for a gf. Just happened. I'm happy and me and my ex still talk, so it's all good.

03-11-2002, 09:09 PM

Muscle4Christ

That's pretty awful. I'm sorry to hear that, man. :(

I've never had a relationship quite that long, but I can get some idea on how it feels to seperate from someone that you had once grown so close to. I had a rotten relationship that ended about a year ago (almost to-date), and I was torn up over it for quite some time. When I least expected it, I began to see the girl I am seeing now. She is, by far, the most amazing girl I have ever met, and I feel like the luckiest guy alive to have her, and to be able to hear her say, "I love you" every day. I love her too, and neither of us have ever been happier.

But if you really sit back and think about it, you know... if we never had bad relationships, and painful endings, we'd never REALLY be able to cherish just how special the good ones are.

:)

03-11-2002, 09:18 PM

Gyno Rhino

I had a three year turmoil, year and a half break (for the most part), then got in my current relationship (1.5 years and running). It's a good thing I had that failure of a relationship first, so I know what relationships AREN'T supposed to be like.

This breakup will make your future relationships muhc better.

03-11-2002, 09:19 PM

Maki Riddington

I think the most painful part is remembering all the great times and all the times where you felt so close. Then you think about how they've changed or what they've done or said to hurt you and you can't understand how it's possible for them to turn on you like that.

Thats what gets me.

03-11-2002, 09:22 PM

Celestial

Quote:

Originally posted by Maki Riddington I think the most painful part is remembering all the great times and all the times where you felt so close. Then you think about how they've changed or what they've done or said to hurt you and you can't understand how it's possible for them to turn on you like that.

Thats what gets me.

Thank you for putting it into words:cry:

03-11-2002, 09:22 PM

Muscle4Christ

Quote:

Originally posted by Maki Riddington I think the most painful part is remembering all the great times and all the times where you felt so close. Then you think about how they've changed or what they've done or said to hurt you and you can't understand how it's possible for them to turn on you like that.

Thats what gets me.

Word to that.

03-11-2002, 09:37 PM

the doc

yes, word

you all are right, i know the next one will be better ;)

03-11-2002, 09:42 PM

Maki Riddington

Hey Doc, your a good guy! Things could be worse, well that's what I always think about when times get rough.
I'm more than positive another one will come along in time.:)

03-11-2002, 10:05 PM

Chris Rodgers

Last month in my English class we were reading short stories. Now, I'm not much of a literature buff, but I belive the story was "What we talk about when we talk about love" and I belive the author was Faulkner, but I may be wrong. Anyway, in the story one of the characters is talking about his views of love and brings up the point that you can love someone(ex-girlfreind, ex-wife, etc) and then you break up. What happens to that love? If true love is supposed to be ever-lasting, where does it go? Did you ever really love this person?

I myself have had a few serious relationships and I felt I would have done anything in the world for these girls. How did that go away and suddenly I can move on and go to another girl? Weird phenomenon.

03-11-2002, 10:06 PM

Chris Rodgers

It was written by Carver. Told you I wasn't a literature buff. ;)

03-11-2002, 10:28 PM

Muscle4Christ

A lot of times infatuation disguises itself as love. Real love shows when you endure.

03-11-2002, 10:42 PM

G-B

doc sorry to hear that but as someone previously mentioned....it sounds like she has done you a favor by ending it.

03-12-2002, 12:09 AM

Alex.V

Quote:

Originally posted by Muscle4Christ A lot of times infatuation disguises itself as love. Real love shows when you endure.

True that.

Sorry to hear about that, man. Really I am. I've been there too... for 2.5 years. It ain't easy, but it's nice knowing that the things people say (About it being for the best) aren't just empty words... they're right.

03-12-2002, 02:21 AM

YatesNightBlade

I've been there too bro. I've had two 3 year relationships that failed. It's the worst feeling in the world. Times a great healer and what will be, will be !!!

03-12-2002, 03:47 AM

Wizard

I ve been there too..
My 3 year realationship failed.. We broke up in January. I ve been in love with her for the last 4 years.. I still love her. It takes time and will power.. Lots of them..

03-12-2002, 04:30 AM

Tryska

are you relieved somewhere in there doc?

03-12-2002, 04:45 AM

Franco

Sorry to hear that doc, but by the sounds of it you will be far better of without her.

Time does heal but in certain instances it does leave people very bitter and twisted because of it. I hope everything works out of ok for you

Quote:

Originally posted by LATMAN
BTW, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I am in a much better realtionship now and I found this one without even looking for a gf. Just happened.

This is very true Chris, recently happened to me and I'm as happy now as I've ever been if not more so