Letting them down easy. How did you?

So i met this really cool guy. We have hung out a couple times and we kissed once. Today i'm going to lunch with him and I am deciding whether or not i can see something progressing with him. More than likely not, and i feel that it is not fair to him if he is under the impression that we might have something. So i was wondering how would you let someone, who is a really awesome guy but not what you want, know that you just want to be friends without offending him?

First of all make sure that he is actually interested in you in a romantic way. He probably is. I don't think there is a way to tell someone that you are not romantically interested in them without hurting their feelings to a certain extent. Try and empathize with what they are probably feeling, but at the same time don't beat around the bush and give him the wrong idea.

I personally always liked to go out for coffee or a drink to do this sort of delicate task. Somewhere that is not too noisy so there are no issues regarding miscommunication. Also do not be surprised if he starts bombarding you with questions regarding "why". You may want to think of some honest answers that do not hurt his feelings too much or give him the wrong impression.

RogerW19 saidSo i met this really cool guy. We have hung out a couple times and we kissed once. Today i'm going to lunch with him and I am deciding whether or not i can see something progressing with him. More than likely not, and i feel that it is not fair to him if he is under the impression that we might have something. So i was wondering how would you let someone, who is a really awesome guy but not what you want, know that you just want to be friends without offending him?

At least you are willing to tell him - it seems to be too much for most guys. Honesty is always the best policy. Just go out to lunch and tell him. Why would he be offended? There's no reason he should feel offended. People seem to put romance or attraction in the same boat with quality. Somebody can be great without that spark. Don't allow vanity to distract the real issue - be big enough to expect him to have self-esteem and not be offended just because you're not attracted to him. Just tell him that spark isn't there.