(Closed) Losing Too Much Weight?

Back in February, I made the commitment to lose weight for both my wedding in December and my FI’s sister’s wedding, which just happened. I started at 163 (I am about 5’1) which was definitely overweight for my height. I am a natural curvy woman- Kim K like butt, thick thighs, etc. so that weight looked decent on me. My fiance likes butts and thighs.

At first everyone supported me and cheered me on via FB and real life as I posted my progress. Well 6 months later, I have lost over 25 pounds and currently sitting at 137ish pounds. While people are giving me compliments on my accomplishment, I am literally being begged to stop losing weight from a few people. They are concerned that I am going to start looking sick or like I am on drugs.

At 137 pounds, I am still overweight- and even more reason- my wedding isn’t for another 4 months. I don’t want to start slacking and gaining back the weight I lost. My ultimate weight goal is 130 pounds and I don’t mind if I “naturally” dip under that but I am scared about what everyone else is thinking of my appearance. I don’t want to look like a crack head but I am happy I can fit into a smaller clothes now- such an uplift. I was wearing a size 12P before (almost 14)- now I can fit into a size 8 dress with space in the dress and I am measuring a size 6. I currently need a new wardrobe.

It doesn’t sound like you have an unhealthy outlook towards losing weight… I say go for it! Get to where you want to be. I’ve recently lost 30 pounds and the few people I’ve told are shocked and think I am going to be too skinny. But on my 5’9 frame it sounds like a lot, but it doesn’t look like a lot. My point being, I think people are shocked by numbers, so take that with a grain of salt.

The people who are concerned probably have it in their mind that you will continue on this track indefinitely. Just gently remind them that you are extremely close to your goal weight, at which point you will maintain. It’s not like you will keep losing forever! 😉

First off, congratulations! Losing weight takes a lot of dedication and commitment. Forget about other people. It’s your body and it’s not like you’re taking losing weight to extremes. If you’re happy with how you look and want to lose those last couple pounds, go for it! Maybe they are jelous or your success? I always want to lose those last 5 lbs. and my mom who is overweight does nothing but try to sabotage me.

It sounds to me like these people must be jealous of your success! I’m a size 6 and nine inches taller than you, and I certainly don’t look like I’m on drugs or sick. I think those are the go-to insults for people who are overweight and want to make themselves feel better by saying things like “the only way I could get that skinny would be to stop eating, and that’s BAD!” If you like the way you look, and you feel good, and you think losing a few more pounds would be even better, then DO IT! You’ll know when to stop

thats so awesome. what an accomplishment! you should be so proud of yourself!i think as long as long as you are a healthy weight, then you need to do whatever makes you happy with you!

just be careful about obssessing over the actual numbers on the scale! a friend and i had a long conversation recently about BMI/healthy weight. she’s lost about 25 pounds and looks phenomenal, seriously she is in killer shape but her doctor just told her that she needs to lose 20 MORE pounds to be her “proper” BMI. seriously, this girl would look terrible down 20lbs. so she has decided to ditch the scale and focus on what feels right with her (with her new doctor’s supervision!)

I don’t know why people say the things they do. Maybe they’re jealous, maybe they think they’re being caring, or maybe they just aren’t used to seeing thin people and therefore think that a healthy weight is too thin. I don’t know, but it sounds like your goal weight is totally reasonable and healthy.

Honestly, ignore them– these well meaning people are trying to help you, but there is nothing wrong with 130lbs for someone who’s 5’1″. They love you and they want what’s best for you, but honestly, their mental image of what you’ll look like if you keep losing is probably closer to 15-20lbs more gone, not 7. Stick to your plan, and if you’re worried they might be right, talk to a doctor/nutritionist; I’d bet they’ll tell you that it’s still in the healthy range.

Thanks ladies! I haven’t been this little since I joined the Army and when I came home from training rumors were spread about me and my weight loss. Some people are definitely mean and they were suprised to know my weight loss back then was due to intense physical training, which is why I was gone for 4 months— people who didn’t know thought I was sick or smoking dust.

@bostongirl27: I will be mindful of this- according to BMI, I need to lose about 4 pounds to get to “normal” BMI of 25, but that is the higher side of healthy BMI. I really don’t intend on losing another 15 pounds- I am very happy with seeing myself in the 130s. You do bring up an interesting point though- I have an obsessive character, meaning when I get into something, I *really* get into it. It helps with things such as losing weight but I can’t turn it off as easy. I don’t know how to “stop” right now, if you can understand— so I am hoping my body evens this out for me. I hope this is my new “normal” and the weight stays off.