My boyfriend (of 10 years) won't marry me until it's legal in California. We're currently domestic partners, which has to be the least romantic-sounding term on earth. But if and when same-sex marriage is legal in CA, I'm going to drag his butt down the aisle.

Like Margaret Cho said...only a fascist nation would deny a gay man his right to bridal registry.

Honestly, I don't know if I would marry. It sounds great, and the tax breaks would be nice, but marriage seems to represent convenience more than union in many cases (especially when the love wears off).

What the hell...there's always annulment.

This doesn't mean I think marriage is bad for everyone. We should all have the right. I just wouldn't choose it for myself.

Marriage is not for me. I don't believe in it in for heterosexuals anymore and I don't think it's a model that would suit my life and my ideal of regularly renewed and strengthened commitment - that piece of paper oft become an excuse for behaving diffently or to let indifference and routine set; there are no binding contracts that are suitable for matters of the heart as far as I am concerned.

HOWEVER -

It's legal here in Canada and I have been an active and avid advocate of gay marriage throughout: Everyone should be entitled to get married, if they want to. Not getting married has to be my choice, not by lack of other option.

People should have the right to do whatever the hell they want. Screw the "common good." This means your agenda, too, Lefties. Universal health care is as moronic as banning gay marriage. Every man for himself. It's the way Mother Nature intended it. Government intervention is unnatural. But then that's what makes marriage so nice. Two people coming together and forging a force against the big, bad, evil world....

I am particularly disturbed by anyone that would outright say « screw the common good, every man for himself, that's how mother nature would intend it » I guess it's because I realize that I, for one, have won the lottery big time when my parents decided to immigrate to North America from a third world country, some half-century ago. I have no merit in being born here, and judging from the plight of billions all over the world, I guess the least that I can do for winning this birth-place random lottery is make an effort to contribute the common good. I an no more deserving of the life I was born into than the ones dying of hunger or being caught in a war waged for the interest of the occident are of their daily horrors.

With this kind of reasonning, klansmen were the tools of natural selection, as was every basher who picked and beat a kid because he was stronger - natural selection! - and every other horror in our history that has proven that we're not as evolved a species as we'd like to pretend that we are.

P.S. If people minded their own businesses, just imagine how peaceful the world would be.... The do-gooders cause as much if not more trouble than the "klansmen," who, btw, think they are working for the "common good," also, just like Stalin, Castro, Pol Pot, Hitler, Saddam Huessein, Barbra Streisand, Rosie O'Donnel.... Get the picture? Yes, true humanitarians mind their own business and realize you cannot create a perfect world. Anyone who attempt to shape the world into perfection--as they interpret it--well, I guess we better start building the death camps...

first of all i totally agree that marriage should be available to EVERYONE. as for me...i would do it, i think. i'm quite monogomous by nature and so is my boyfriend. we're a LONG way from marriage (dating about 6 months) but i like the idea that we could some day ;)great question!

Technically I can, being that I live in Boston. Would I? If I met the right person, why not? I think it would be fun to have a celebration with friends and family about having found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Plus, smashing cake in faces is never boring.

Hi, we are a Gay couple, my partner being Canadianand currently living and working in Canada. Im Indian by birth but ofmixed origin (mostly refferred to as Anglo Indian here). We spend timetogether whenever my partner has work or business in India. Thus eversince he changed jobs his trips to India have now reduced to almostzero. We dont want to live apart and thus have been exploring thepossibilities of us getting married. We know that this is possibleonly in Canada and not in India. With this in mind i would appreciateany advise extended. I am a Hospitality Professional and thus amwondering if it will be possible for me to get a job in a Hotel there,i am open to any entry level job and am hard working so will work myway up. My main intention is to be with my partner and so in thisregard i would like to clarify what are the steps we need to take tomove in the direction of marriage and what would its implications be.I had also planned to apply for immigration but need to know how ourmarriage will help in this regard or what further steps i need totake. Please advise. I really appreciate any advise on how to moveforward.Thanks and Regards,Nick. P.S. Please mail me on delta.nick@gmail.com with your suggestions