Breadcrumbs

You watch others get the things they want in life. They have great jobs, solid friendships, enjoyable lifestyles and a loving boyfriend or husband—and you can’t help but wonder—why don't you have those nice things?

Let’s be honest … do you have a pattern of sleeping with a man on date 1, 2 or 3 and then you regret it because he stops texting or calling you? Does your promiscuity evoke feelings of embarrassment, guilt and remorse? Do you feel devalued and dishearten and you try to salvage his opinion of you; you tell him this is not your normal behavior (don’t think for a minute that he buys this)? Do you worry about contracting STDs?

Comparing yourself to others breeds negative self-talk, feelings of envy and low self-confidence. You were created to develop your own style, cultivate your own talents and achieve your own successes in life.

Authentic people stand out in crowd. They don’t try to impress you and yet, we’re intrigued by their self-assurance, warmth and poise. Do men see you as genuine ... or do they see you as pretentious, self-protecting and emotionally unavailable?

You can learn a lot about a man by reading between the lines of his email. Is he negative and complaining? Is he vague? Does he try too hard to impress you? If a man's message pings your gut, it’s your intuition trying to warn you, this guy may be bad news.

You think your dating profile portrays you as intelligent, independent, considerate, loving and good-natured. A single man glances at your profile and he thinks you’re unstable, untrusting, angry at men, you have control issues and you’re looking for a man to take care of you.