Hi, can anyone recommend any good self help books. Not the books about repairing relationships (beyond that), or even understanding how the affair happened, but something to get me out of the funk/new limbo of where do I go from here.

Physically, I have kicked myself into shape and am actively socially. Just feel that mentally I need to get into shape.

Say Fuck It, and move on. Life is the present and the future. The past is just to learn from

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SwitchedOnLotus♀ 25902Member # 25902

Posted: 4:18 PM, January 11th (Tuesday), 2011

A great book I've been using to help me get my psyche healed after getting the rest of my life in order after all of this is "Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem" by Dr. Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning.

There are exercises you do that help you shut down your inner critic - something I had problems with before the A and its fallout, but which the A amplified - and that help you set and achieve healthy goals for who you want to be. Can't recommend it highly enough! Hope this helps.

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WH - 40 4 Month EA/ PA D-Day 1:7-2009/D-Day 2: 10-29-2009
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WhoIsThisWoman♂ 27424Member # 27424

Posted: 12:39 PM, January 25th (Tuesday), 2011

My therapist recommended the following that I just picked up from the bookstore today:

Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
Together almost 48 years.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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Fighting2Survive♀ 28410Member # 28410

Posted: 7:03 PM, January 25th (Tuesday), 2011

I'll second "Living the Truth." I picked it off a list of books for WS here on SI for FWH. We've both read it and found it helpful. He's using the exercises now as a sounding board for his IC. I don't think the benefits are limited to WS's only.