Wow! Spot on... To add to it, Brene Brown says, "When you cannot ask for help without self judgement; You are never really offering help without judgement." They both point to the fact that we may be helping others for our benefit versus theirs.

A theory: In order for us to be able to function, we must grow to trust something. Our eyes, ears, and paradigm for the world become the things that we trust. You must suspend your belief in your paradigm in order to embrace our blindness. It fights our conditioning. That makes it really hard.