Divorce is a
traumatic experience for everyone involved, especially the couple. The shock,
pain and fury of a failed marriage can tamper your healthy outlook towards
relationships. Getting into a relationship after divorce is a non-existent
option for men and women, especially in India. Already suffering from an
emotional turmoil of being a divorcee and handling a new relationship can be
intricate and confusing. The following is a list of advice which you should
keep in mind once you are divorced.

∑Donít
rush into a relationship

Now
that you are single, give yourself time for the hurt to subside. And also give
time to adjust to your new status in society. Indian society is not kind to
divorced people. Have patience to deal with society before you step into
relationship. You need to evaluate your reasons for meeting people. Is it
because you think it is what everyone does or to fill the gap of your ex or for
societal image? Then perhaps getting into relationship is not the answer for
you right now.

∑Meet
new people

You
havenít moved out of your apartment for months after traumatic experience of
divorce, especially non-working women in India who settle their life around
their broken marriage and the child. If so, then donít stop yourself from
attending social functions because of scary comments and stares. Join
recreational activities or groups for interacting with new people and start a
new phase in life. As per typical Indian mindset, it isnít necessary that every
person you meet should be assessed on terms of marriage.

∑Your
communication is vital

Donít
feel conscious of being a divorcee. Your social status is not as important as
your personal life. It is common for people, especially for women in India, who
are recently divorced to become emotionally involved. It is important to
realize that, you are not meeting people to avoid talking about your ex. And
above all, there would be many incidences when you would face reluctance from
people, simply because you are divorcee. However, it doesnít imply that you are
incapable of dealing with relationship. It only means you should look
elsewhere.

∑Donít
be afraid to get a new life

Once
you feel that you can handle meeting people, talking about yourself and new
relationship, donít take a backseat in developing new life. You would face
times when insecurity will creep in, doubts will re-appear and society would be
unkind to your wishes of going out, especially for Indian women, but donít let
such reasons to turn away from new happiness.

∑Think
about your child

Before
deciding to get into a serious relationship or even second marriage, give a
thought to how your child will take up your changing requirements. Will your
child be able to accept the new person in your life or does your child feels
insecure or afraid about this change? Give time to your child and resolve
his/her feelings. Communicate openly and assure him/her that your decision will
be a good change for both.

Most of you may feel
confused as to how to go-about meeting people and getting into a relationship
after divorce. It seems to be overwhelming, however, with caution and careful
understanding of your needs and expectations you can give a head start to your
life.