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Topic: Panic Attack!! Risk assesement (Read 1681 times)

Hello everyone! I thought I was the only one worried out of my mind, about these kinda of things, I'm happy to know that I am not alone. Ok, well here's my story..

Last week, I did something that I thought I wouldnt do, I experiemented with another dude! the bad thing, is that I am married, and have a kid! I am 21 years old, and decided I need to see how it is on the other side.

So, to put it bluntly, I took it up da butt (something I never thouhg tI would do), and he did not have protection! and I didnt know him yet alone know his medical history!After feeling the pain and coming to my senses of having unprotected sex, I pulled away!! he wasent in for even a mintue and he did not even have a chance to cum in me!

However, I am worried sick, and had a panic attack the other day! what is the chance that I have HIV ?

is is like 1 in 5? 1 in 10? I'm so scared!! and using protection with my wife, to be on da safe side!I so regret what I did!I will never do it again! I had my share and didnt like it.

Should I be worried sick? I will go test in 13 weeks, but I read something about being tested at the doctors office and being able to see a virus load, very early?

Thank you for reading, my pathetic story! and thank u for having this site!

First off, don't fret. Lots of guys who aren't gay have homosexual experiences. It's really very common and nothing to fuss about. In your case the sexual contact was unprotected and you should have an HIV antibody test 13 weeks from the date of the encounter. The chances of your testing positive of this encounter are low, but low chance is not the same as no chance so you do need to test.

In fact since you're sexually active you should have a full STD screen at least once a year. Twice is better. There are a number of STD's that are far more prevalent and infectious than HIV including chlamydia and gonorrhoea. A full STD screen includes an HIV antibody test. If it's been a while since your last full screen or if you've not had one before you should make an appointment with your local clinic or your doctor.

I would also recommend that you take the time to read our Welcome Thread which contains links to our lessons on HIV testing and transmission so you can familiarise yourself with how HIV is and is not transmitted.

Remember if you want to stay HIV negative you should always use latex condoms and water based lube whether you're playing with the boys or the girls.

LB, I agree with Matty that the odds against transmission from this single incident are in your favor because it was so brief and didn't involve ejaculation.

All but the very smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after an exposure to the virus. So if you test at 6 weeks after the incident and get the negative result that we expect will happen, the likelihood is that you will continue to test negative when you re-test at 13 weeks.

I mention the possibility of testing earlier in part because of your great anxiety and also because you are in a relationship and presumably having intercourse with your wife.

Ultimately I expect you will come out of this ok. Even though you don't anticipate at this moment ever trying anal again with a man or with a woman for that matter, you need to keep in mind that anytime you have intercourse outside of your relationship, whether vaginal or anal, the insertive partner must always wear a condom. No exceptions.

Work on staying productively busy during this waiting period and the time will pass more quickly than you may imagine possible at this moment.