How to Refresh your Attitude for Better Balance

Do you struggle to find balance? One of the ways to become better balanced is to shift your mindset and attitude. Learn how to use affirmations and other tools to be a more centered, happier, and balanced Mom.

“Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”

-Henry Ford

Ford’s quote is really powerful.

I have it posted right on my filing cabinet, where I see it every day. It’s a constant daily reminder that my mindset and attitude matters.

When I tell myself that being a Working Mom is hard, it becomes even harder. When I tell myself that I can’t possibly keep my house clean, my house is messier than ever.

What things do you tell yourself?

The messages you tell yourself throughout the day are important because they impact every area of your life, for good or bad, whether you realize it or not.

The Stories You Tell

We all have stories that we tell ourselves. Most of the time, you don’t even realize you’re telling yourself a story – you see it as a fact.

All day long you tell yourself stories. You repeat them multiple times a day. They’ve been going through your head for years.

You believe your stories, and for a good reason. You’ve built up your stories over your whole life. They protect you. They help you understand your world. They’re comfortable.

Your Mindset Effects Your Balance

Your mindset impacts every part of your life, big and small. It therefore plays one of the most important roles in whether or not you feel balanced.

Let me give you an example. One that’s common for working Moms!

Example: You have a story (or mindset) that your husband doesn’t do his fair share of work around the house.

How this Plays Out: When you feel overworked and tired you get angry at your husband. You often ruminate on instances where he should have done more work and didn’t.

How this Impacts You: You stop asking your husband to do things because you believe that he won’t do it or he’ll complain. Consequently, you do more and more work around the house. He does less and less. As a result, you feel tired and resentful from doing so much work and your relationship with your spouse suffers.

Do you see how this all started with your mindset? What if you had a different mindset about your husband? How would that change everything, from how much work you have to do every day to your relationship? Do you see how it impacts everything?

How to Change your Mindset

Like everything in life, the best way to change your attitude is to keep it simple.

Step 1: Notice Your Attitude

The first thing you need to do is notice that you have a story or belief that isn’t serving you. This can be about anything, from losing weight, to how hard it is to be a working mom.

Often the negative thoughts have been there for so long that you’re used to them and see them as the absolute truth. The first step, therefore, is to first recognize that you’re having these thoughts.

Just doing this step, which seems so simple, is actually very powerful and will help you shift your mindset.

This is because noticing your thoughts is actually a pattern interrupter. It’ll help you stop your usual storytelling and rumination because you’ll notice that your story is….a story! It’s a HUGE first step, one to be proud of!

Step 2. Create a Helpful Affirmation

Once you notice your negative thought, don’t even think about arguing with it. You’ll never win. You’ve had YEARS to develop your thought and PROVE that it’s right.

Instead, it’s more helpful to replace it with another one, one that you actually believe (or can work towards believing). It shouldn’t be too far-fetched.

For example, if you constantly have the thought, “I’m terrible at organizing my time,” you can create a new affirmation that you can use whenever the thought pops up.

For example, you can use: “I’m getting better at organizing my time” or “I’m starting to learn new techniques that will help me learn to organize my time better.” You see how your statements are easing you into the new mindshift?

Step 3. Replace your thought

Every time you notice yourself shifting to the negative thought, add your positive affirmation or thought right behind it.

It’s incredibly powerful and comforting to have a new thought that uplifts you instead of pulls you down.

See how this can change everything?

Step 4. Rinse and repeat

This process won’t happen overnight. You’re going to slip into your old thought-patterns. You’re going to forget you affirmation.

That’s okay.

Just keep at it! Every time you notice your old thought pattern, gently remind yourself of your new affirmation.

Over time, you’ll notice that your mindset is slowly changing over time. And so is your life!

SuperCharge Your Mindset

If you want to change your mindset quicker, write down your new, more positive mindsets and read them every day. You can do this in the morning as part of your morning routine, in the evening before bed, or any time throughout the day.

There are even apps that will let you write your affirmations so you can access them easily each day. Some apps let you record audio so you can listen to them in your own voice.

Recommended App: ThinkUp is a wonderful app for recording affirmations. To get you started, the App has many suggestions on affirmations you can pick. You can read them out loud and save the affirmation and then replay them each day (to music!). Hearing your own voice telling your affirmations is very powerful. [Note that the app has a one-time cost.]

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is another way to shift your mindset. Sitting in silence is incredibly powerful and can help you notice when you’re telling yourself stories.

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Welcome, friend!! My name is Rina and I believe that all Moms can have more balance in their lives, and it doesn't take a huge life overhaul to do it! I'm a Mom to two amazing girls, wife, full-time employee, and a daily juggler of all things. Join me so I can show you how little baby steps can help you create a more balanced, joyful life. Read More…