My Unresolutions for the New Year

Yes, I have to admit that in the past I was always reluctant to set New Year’s resolutions. In fact, I still am. But today I am thinking about what may be worthwhile to change as I go into this new year.

Being an over-doer and over-thinker, I hate setting goals that feel like more pressure. I already place too many expectations on myself and the thought of more pushing can overwhelm me.

But I am thinking that I can set some “un”resolution goals. This could be a good thing for me; a “restore-myself-to-sanity” thing and guess what- my word of the year just happens to be (drum roll please) – Sanity.

So here we go. I’m officially offering up my unresolution goals in the hopes you over-doers out there will join me.

1. I resolve to unhook myself from negative thought. As soon as my mind starts on the “you’re not doing enough, blah blah blah” I resolve to kick it to the curb and look at myself realistically. Am I really doing enough? If the answer is yes, well then, Good Enough is really Good Enough.

2. I resolve to un-counch-potato myself and get the heck to the gym. Yes, I’m signing up for a swim class and not making excuses about why I don’t like to exercise. Enough already- just do it!

3. I resolve to undo my own guilt trips about food. I noticed recently how much grief I give myself about any sweet treats and honestly, I’m tired of my own berating. If I want a cookie (provided I haven’t eaten ten of them already), I’m having it without guilt. If I work on loving my body for what it is (a beautiful thing!), the chances are I will make better choices anyway. (This may not always apply at Sunday’s donut fest after church services. 😉 )

4. I resolve to uncontrol my life more and give the big issues to the Universe. Honestly God does a much better job of figuring things out vs. my struggling and struggling.

5. I resolve to unleash my mind and let it live in the moment. I want to live more freely, more spontaneously, more enjoyably. I don’t need to plan as much, just go with the flow and enjoy what comes my way.

I’m smiling just looking at this list. I think I’ll print it out and hang it somewhere.

Will you join me? If you create an unresolution list, comment below and share a couple.

13 Replies to “My Unresolutions for the New Year”

Well, I think I am just going to try to be the best ‘me’ I can be.
I am going to take better control over my diabetes and maybe kick it to the curb! (Would LOVE to do that!)
I am going to do my Pilates…for ME because I enjoy it.
I am going to get something changed in the laws for Kinship Foster families.
I am going to collaborate on a book directed at supporting grandparents raising grand children due to addiction.
That’s it for now! LOL!
Happy New Year Joanne! And Jim, too!

I really believe as we get older (speaking for myself haha, Iam pushing 71), we come to that realization, that indeed, we have pushed for a lifetime. Maybe instead of old age, it is just called being tired. Anyway, as mothers, wives, grandmothers, & daughters, that’s what we do best because we love so much!

Well done, Joanne! I worded #4 differently, but it’s the same resolution at heart. My husband says I have a “worry void” I need to keep filled, so when one worry passes I find another. This is the year I’m going to “Let Go and Let God” handle my worries. As for the donuts after church services, I’d have to duck out a back door to give those up, and I would miss the chance to talk to people. Or at least that’s my story, and I’m sticking to it! 😉
Happy New Year, dear Joanne!

Happy New Year Marylin! I have a “worry void” too (such a good name for it) but over the years, I try not to focus on what I can’t change. That helps somewhat with my worry. I can only change myself and not others- that is the hardest lesson to learn I think.
I like your idea of ducking out after church but my mother is involved and that is quite the social time for her. Sometimes I take a healthy fruit bar in my purse (when I’ve really got my willpower up) and I eat that instead.
Blessings dear Marylin!
Joanne

GLORY BEE! I adore your thoughts.
This year, I have chosen the word, Mercy for me.
I am giving myself grace everyday to be me.
I adore that we are on the same page.
I love that you said, you were unhooking yourself from negative thought.

You are a lovely, lovely friend. I love that you are bathing yourself in grace and goodness in the year ahead.

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