I tuned into the first episode and really enjoyed the conversation about our energy and how we can tap into our own energy. I look forward to tuning inot more episodes. Focusing on our power to lead is so important!

True Secrets to Happiness

February 13, 2019 by klmozz from United States

Great pod cast with a great message, insight and inspiration! Worth your time to listen and learn! Thanks Teena.

Fantastic!

February 7, 2019 by TinaWSchlichte from United States

Teena’s podcast is fantastic! Perfect for my commute! I learn something each time - definitely a “must-listen”.

Teena Evert

Teena Evert, Founder & CEO of Claim The Lead a personal leadership development company. Teena former marriage and family therapist and now life and leadership coach, professional speaker and podcast host, teaches women in business how to best manage their time, energy and relationships, so they can reach their fullest potential in work, life and love.

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YOUR INNER ADVANTAGE

A New Depth Of Happiness, Moving Beyond Self-Doubt

In this picture I am in the high desert of Moab, Utah – joyfully riding my road bike. I just descended from a 4500 ft climb in the La Sal Mountains. This image captures me curiously looking ahead at how far I still needed to go. Although, seconds after looking back at how far I had come!

Finding Happiness Is A Choice

Are you where you want to be in your life? Can you honestly say that you’re happy and content right here and now, or are you still searching?

Most people are searching because we all have a desire to either find happiness or stay happy. Is it as simple as choosing to be happy? If it were that simple, we would all walk around with a permanent smile on our faces.

I agree that happiness can be distilled down to a choice. However we have to create the right internal and external environment in order to maintain a high level of joy in our life.

Self-Doubt And Worry

How often have you had an amazing experience that left you beaming with delight? Then not long after you were right back to where you were before the experience? One minute you’re feeling joyful. Then suddenly you find yourself being pulled back into the familiar state of self-doubt, worry and overwhelm. Why?

Unfortunately this experience is true for many. We get used to this pattern and accept it as the norm. We become okay with experiencing the highs and lows and ups and downs of life.

Resilience

But wait, isn’t this how we build our resilience? Perhaps it is a part of how we develop a strong sense of resilience. Yet, does it have to be so dramatic? Can we somehow remain in a consistent state of flow with happy feelings, regardless of what is going on around us?

Is it possible to be emotionally resilient? Where we’re able to use our own emotions to master moving through life’s challenges without turning so many things into mountains that were originally just a bump on the map? I believe it is possible.

Challenge Yourself

Now don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy a good mountain climb to challenge my stamina, physically, mentally and emotionally. What I don’t enjoy is when the mountain suddenly appears in front of me unexpectedly. In this case, I am not prepared for the challenge. I don’t have the right shoes, clothing, food or gear to make the trek.

It would actually be dangerous to attempt the climb without adequate preparation and supplies. This is a perfect example of when we are most likely to give up. We tell ourselves we just don’t have what it takes to succeed, or survive for that matter. So we don’t even try.

Blind Spots

The truth is, we all have blind spots when it comes to conquering life’s challenges. In most cases, if we ask for a little support we can find a solution. Even to what we perceive as an unsolvable problem. Others can often see what we can’t see during times of distress that are being fueled by our own self-doubt.

High stress levels put our brain in survival mode. As a result our creativity to solve problems and shift our emotional state gets thwarted. This is why when faced with a big challenge that appears to be unsolvable, it’s important to turn to someone for guidance. This helps you come to a viable solution.

Fear Of Failure

I can’t tell you how many times I put my head down and just walked away from something that was really important to me. This was when I doubted my ability to succeed and I didn’t want to fail trying. Can you relate? What I realize now is that if I would have asked for help, I would have been able to see that the challenge was totally doable. It was also manageable and even fun to conquer.

Don’t Go It Alone

The lesson here is don’t try to always go it alone. When the going gets tough, stop what you are doing. Then find someone who is willing to help you see a solution until it is completely resolved.

Not only will this boost your confidence in your ability to thrive during difficult times. You will also boost your resiliency in a big way. I promise you will arrive at a new depth of happiness that moves you beyond your paralyzing self-doubt.

When was the last time you were faced with a pretty big challenge? Where your first instinct was to walk away and not even attempt to face it? What if in that moment, instead of throwing your hands up in the air in defeat, you sought out help? You gathered the right support to address the issue? What would be different today if you choose this option? How would you feel different about yourself? And your life’s accomplishments?

Break Old Patterns

So often we have to get out of our own way. We have to drop our ego and our preconceived notion regarding how we think things should be. We get so attached to the outcome. So that when things don’t start to unfold the way we had imagined. Or they don’t look the way we had envisioned them to be. We get frustrated and try to control the outcome even more.

This pattern of thinking and behaving is what feeds our resistance. It also robs our joy in the process of creating and manifesting. We shut off the value to these energy flows and instead open the valve to fear.

Self-Awareness

The more we tap into the fear the more it becomes the primary source of fuel that drives our behaviors. Then after a short while we aren’t even aware that we’re operating under such adverse conditions. We blame the effort on the circumstances and avoid taking full responsibility for the outcome that we 100% created.

And so the pattern goes, we repeat this over and over again throughout our life. Often with no conscious awareness that we are even doing it. This robs our happiness and fuels our self-doubt. In my opinion is exhausting, not sustainable and overall just a real drag. Consequently, it negatively impacts our relationships, work and our outlook on life.

This pattern also causes us to feel very weary. We just can’t sustain the amount of energy it takes to drive our lives from this place of disconnect. What I have observed in my own life, as well as in my client’s lives, is that we either get physically, mentally or emotionally sick, get divorced, have a mid-life crisis, turn to drugs and alcohol, or go on a Netflix binge, or we figure our stuff out and hire a coach like me to be the catalyst for change in our lives.

Be The Chooser

What’s it going to be for you? It is ultimately your choice. Although that sounds like the easy part, it’s the hardest step of all to choose.

How do you choose what you want with so many choices before you? The truth is that we really only have two choices. Do you want to be happy or not? Do you want to work really, really hard and gain very little traction? Or do you want to learn how to be in the flow and gain a lot of traction with very little effort?

Go Beyond Self-Doubt

If you want to learn how to move beyond self-doubt and discover a new depth of happiness in your life. I am ready to assist you along your journey to make this happen with you and for you.

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