Best Australian cities for the single man

Having returned once again to the dating trenches, I’ve been astonished by just how many attractive women there are in Sydney and how few of them want to have hook-up with me.

This is largely my fault, eyeing as I only go out once a fortnight to my local RSL, then proceed to drink the bar dry of Jameson, so I’m not always the most attractive prospect.

Recently, I ran into a charming gentleman by the name of James Maclane, a dating coach who trains guys the essential art of attracting women and was astonished when he rated Sydney one of the best places in the country to go out on the pull.

James and his team at Social Coach have worked all over Australia helping studs with their social and romantic abilities and also sniffed around nightclubs and bars in all our major cities.

He’s thus rather uniquely placed to compare the pros and cons of each (except Darwin and Hobart, sorry).

“Generally, Australian dudes are a little less socially and romantically savvy, compared to Europeans and even Americans,” says James.

“Dating abilities and social intelligence are certainly not subjects trained at school, which is a bit unfortunate. If you weren’t blessed with socially certain parents or, friends who did indeed well with women when you were at school, it can be a very difficult thing to learn as an adult.

“In this country we tend to live in large houses, in sprawling car-dominated cities, everyone held at a distance, it’s not a tight-knit living arrangement like many European cities.

“We’ve also inherited some of the ‘sexual repression’ of the English, as well as their preference for dealing with all romantic and sexual matters after fairly a few drinks.

“And we’re now confusing ourselves further by becoming increasingly more status and money oriented like Americans,” he says.

So what to do? Where to go?

Well, if you’re a single man in Perth, James feels sorry for you. And if you live in Adelaide and dig hot bogan chicks, you’ve got it made.

His list of b est Australian cities for the single boy looks like this:

So let’s take them one at a time and hear what James has to say.

The Hidden Aussie Paradise. You’ll regularly see a truly average-looking dude with a mullet, flannel T-shirt and a pack of Winnie Blues with a model-hot woman, dressed to kill.

“Earnestly, hot women will come and pick you up if you can dress OK and hold their eye contact,” says James.

He theorises that any masculine with a “bit of go in him” leaves Adelaide by age 21, leaving many utterly hot women to fight it out for whoever’s left (that’d be the dude with the mullet).

“There also seems to be a decent population of attractive, international students in the city because of Adelaide Uni,” he says.

“The main negative for guys is that local, more ‘enlightened’ fellows, report fighting to find an interesting conversation with attractive women.

“It may be a little politically incorrect but there are hot Aussie bogan chicks galore with nowhere near enough attractive boys to go around.”

Awesome, if you know what you’re doing and tick all the boxes, otherwise it can be rough.

“For guys who know what they are doing and who tick most of the boxes, Sydney is very effortless. Fellows have a ample number attractive, intelligent women (who will only date a certain kind of man) and a large number of tourists to choose from,” says James.

On the roll side, he says it’s a brutal environment for women over 25.

“In Sydney (and Adelaide) you regularly see large groups of attractive women with no guys whatsoever. This would be uncommon in Melbourne and Brisbane and unheard of in Perth and Canberra,” says James.

“Even the most desirable women can indeed fight here with the ‘man drought’. So much so, that many decent women just give up on dating altogether, making the dating pool even smaller for less certain guys.”

Still, James says many guys do fight to attract women in Sydney for a multiplicity of reasons.

(i) “Many Sydney women are just not ready to compromise,” he says. “They only want the ‘fantasy man’. There aren’t many of those to go around. And they get no shortage of attention.”

(ii) “Post-codes, schools and careers play a hefty part in Sydney social life and many outsiders report that making friends with natives is very difficult”.

(iii) “Many desirable guys fresh to Sydney report observing many attractive women by day, but have no luck ever finding where they go at night. It seems the private party scene is big and if you can’t break into it, it can be rough meeting fine ladies in bars. If you’re not skilled or bold enough to attempt to talk to damsels during the day it can be a truly difficult city,” says James.

(iv) “Kings Cross deepthroats in a enormous percentage of the city’s most attractive women at night, leaving far less for other places. So, if the Cross is not your style, you’d think hot chicks don’t go to bars much.”

(v) “The enormously high cost of living and spectacular property prices understandably can make some women fairly cautious in their choice of mate. A woman who grew up in eastern Sydney may need to marry a man on a reasonable income if she is to live near where she grew up, and be able to take time off work to raise her kids,” says James.

In this respect, he argues Sydney has become very much like Fresh York and London: There are lots of accomplished, lonely people here.

He also says that, because of the thick concentrate many Sydneysiders have on their careers, many professional dudes aren’t particularly masculine and many professional women aren’t particularly womanish.

“Most exercise regimes seem to concentrate on the gym/running for both sexes rather than, say, masculine sports for studs and/or ballet and salsa for women,” says James.

“I regularly see groups of eight immaculately-presented women sitting face-to-face at a corner table, seemingly expecting some super-confident, luxurious boy to come up and make a veritable attempt at getting to know them in front of her seven friends,” says James.

James says it’s toughly a 50-50 gender split of attractive people in Brisvegas.

“Obviously it’s got fine weather a lot of the year. Guys who learn a bit about style and go beyond the printed T-shirt once in a while might do truly well,” says James.

“There’s slew of party activity on the Gold Coast, skinny, buxom platinum blondes and partying tourists galore and they’re just waiting for strong certain and athletic locals to come along and join them.

“Again for any brighter guys who are fighting in Brisbane you may want to give Sydney a attempt, a little bit of masculinity can go a fair way in the better suburbs, particularly if you up it in the style stakes,” he says.

James says these are his impressions of Brisbane, as “I’ve spent the least amount of time here of any of the cities”.

About average, maybe not fairly so much glamour but far many more interesting and enlightened women.

Having run many events in Melbourne and dated lots of chicks there, James says it’s toughly even-Steven for both sexes.

“Melbourne obviously lacks the weather and beaches that other state capitals have, and people tend to be a little less physically active and/or looks orientated,” he says.

“Many of the fellows and women tend to be more arts, culture and book-minded than the other capitals. In many respects, the cliche is true, Melbourne is a more enlightened city than the other Aussie capitals.

“Property prices and the cost of living are not horrendous (like Sydney), so the city seems a little bit less status-oriented, than Sydney or Perth. Another interesting thing about Melbourne is that the people seem to travel a lot more than the other capital cities, which makes them more worldly,” says James.

Compared with Sydney, it’s very friendly and both sexes seem to have a better sense of style.

“It also has a truly social, fun-to-be-around bar and cafe scene. Unlike many of the other cities, the bars and clubs aren’t purely pick-up joints or meat markets, they’re just nice places to dangle out in,” says James.

Enormously rough. Armies of tall, athletic, masculine guys and just a few earnestly hot women to go round. Reminisce, however, a little bit of style and culture can go a long way with some of the best ladies.

James says dating can be very raunchy for guys, yet for fit, reasonably attractive women it’s very effortless.

“There’s a puny number of utterly attractive women (the city is famous for models) and, because of the weather, everything is always on display. It seems there are Ten tall, athletic, masculine, highly-paid guys for each hot damsel,” says James.

“It has a mighty, almost-overwhelming sport, beach, drinking culture compared to most other places in Australia. It seems to be an enormously masculine place, even in the truly wealthy places.

“Because of the weather, it’s indeed a minimal clothing city so studs and women must stay in form. Fit, attractive women have it very effortless,” he says.

However, thanks to the mining boom you’ll also encounter “materialism, status-consciousness on a grand scale”.

“A little bit of good news: guys who are just a bit more enlightened, better dressed and more well read than average can find a truly powerful niche in Perth. This would be among the indeed beautiful women, who are not willing to date just another beer swilling, surfing, footy player,” says James.

“For the many Perth guys who indeed do fight, consider getting some style advice and maybe taking your annual holiday in the eastern suburbs of Sydney, where there are large numbers of attractive, educated women just waiting for masculine, single guys,” he says.