Have you ever observed in a job interview, you’re doing your best to hide your nervousness but still the interviewer notices it? Or when you argue with your husband and to just end it, you emotionlessly say, “Okay,” yet your husband continues to persuade you why he’s correct and you are not? Or when you say, “Sorry,” to a close friend halfheartedly and the friend notices your indifference and tells you your ‘sorry’ isn’t real?

After covering up our feelings with words, why do other people seem to react the way we truly feel? It is because we communicate through energy. Most of us are not aware or couldn’t accept it, but we connect with one another thru our energy which exudes our feelings. So, no matter what words we say, someone will reflect the emotion behind our words and show us what we truly feel inside.

This makes our words meaningless. Nothing we say is true. To give an example, if we are connected to our feelings, our ‘sure’ can be an extension of love. However, in a different circumstance, it can be a projection. We will know it is a projection thru the reaction of the people surrounding us. So, when someone reacts negatively when we utter, “Sure,” it can be a reflection of suppressed fear, disagreement, or hostility of the situation. It is like other people are mirrors of our genuine feelings.

The Ego’s Temptation

These projections expressed thru words are the ego’s temptation for conflict. Instead of being true to our emotions, the ego makes us say something to create a disturbance within our minds and our relationships. It plays different thoughts, concepts, beliefs or ideas and it always tempts us to get these illusions validated. Rather than being in-tuned to our feelings, it tells us to manifest the opposite to test these illusions which only results to conflicts.

It’s a defense of the ego to make us believe that the illusions are real. So, we project them thru our words and actions. It convinces us that our negative thoughts, sense of guilt and shame are reality. Naturally, we follow such guidance because we believe the reality created by the ego is true.

Listening to the voice of the ego only paves way for problems to arise and when our suppressed feelings are reflected by our loved ones thru their reactions, the problems just escalate. It is also a way for the ego to make trifle things a big deal when, in the first place, there is nothing to make a big deal.

However, conflicts are necessary for our learning. It will show us the workings of our minds. It is self-talk going back and forth. When we look at conflicts this way, we realize they arise from our fears. At first, we will feel scared ones recognition takes place. It is certainly alright. What’s essential is to take care of our fearful feelings.

We are Fearful, When…

We will know we are fearful when, physically, there is a constriction in our solar plexus, the area between the navel and the breastbone. When we go thru the emotion, it will help to reflect on what’s holding us back before launching an attack or defiance against the thoughts our ego will produce. Being aware of the reasons that make us scared, anxious, depressed or guilty will help us get in-tuned to our true feelings. It will guide us to return to our core and connect with our energy.

All we need to do is to get the feeling-effect of our thoughts and watch how our energy flows and be natural about it. For example, when someone wronged us, this idea is connected with a feeling and we need to recognize, accept and take care of it. Getting the feeling effect will help us realize that the conflicts our mind kept playing or taking place in our relationships are projections. They are manifestations of our ego but they also serve as an eye-opener for the reasons that are withholding us. So, recognizing the emotions hidden in our thoughts and beliefs is a benefit.

When we are in-tuned to our feelings or to who we truly are, we get the guidance to love. Through this guidance, we speak or act in ways that extend love and calm any situation. When we communicate love through our energy, our body, relationships and spirit are completely protected. There is no need for us to impose on another person any concept, idea or teaching. It is unnecessary for us to test or validate the ego’s illusions. It is also meaningless to manifest an image of being spiritual or anything opposite the truth of our being.

Remember, we always have the option to return to our core anytime. It doesn’t matter how far we allowed our egoistic thinking to play in our minds. If we are willing to recognize its healing and its illusions have no effect, complete forgiveness takes place. We also have a choice to laugh which is also a feeling. So, when the going gets tough, laugh about it. Recognize the feeling underneath a disturbance, accept it, take care of it and laugh it away.

This post is a follow-up to Hope’s Wisdom Dialogues Episode Called “Everything is A Benefit“, written by Gail Florence.

In these times, there is so much emphasis on sexual sin, molestation, child abuse, sex trafficking and so on that, we are in constant fear of living in a perverse culture.

But, all of these concepts are just projected from our minds. Perversion of any kind has no place in a sane mind. Only the insane one allows such thoughts to persist over and over again. It does not mean when you think of sexual ideas or crimes, you automatically have an insane mind. No, but it is an opportunity to bring that darkness into awareness. No one belongs to a culture because culture, itself, is a projection.

Separation from reality

Paranoia and worry brought by negative ideas stem from a self-belief that you separated yourself from reality. Though the truth is we are not separate, we feel that way because we strongly believe it. Once you start getting worried about society, you notice the situations that make you worry, doubling the fear you are feeling. We are entangled on these thoughts because the world wants to prove that we are separate from reality. This separation is the cause of paranoia. We fear we will lose our image in this world so, we fear death and believe in karma and having multiple lifetimes.

We believe we are punishable by death whenever we get uncomfortable or painful feelings. The fear of losing the world and it’s very strong defenses set up by the ego make us choose to follow its guidance. The ego presents to us illusions like a dreadful world full of violence and abuse, mortal sins and death as a life sentence. Choosing to yield to the ego allows constant feelings of despair, depression, guilt, and fear.

But all of us have our own perceptions. A person may be paranoid about violent crimes but another can simply brush off the thought and go on with the day as if nothing is happening. Our minds create ideas that make us believe some things are bad and others are good. However, reality is, nothing is good or bad, right or wrong, black or white.

Sex matters..?

When we speak of sex, either as a sin that makes us feel guilty or as a beautiful act to reproduce offspring, it is all perception. Sex matters because we and society at large put so much meaning and worth to it.

Truth is, sex is nothing. It’s equal to other actions that humans can do like eat, walk, pray, sleep, play and so on. Singling sex out by labeling it as a mortal sin or as the most beautiful thing in evolution is just an ILLUSION. It is not ugly nor wonderful. It is nothing and it doesn’t matter else, we are just making the illusion of sex stronger and powerful.

Healing comes in when we undo our self-belief and see the illusion as one thing. When we start to see our experiences as a benefit, sufferings are opportunities for learning rather than punishment of a lifetime guilt.

How do we practice seeing everything as a benefit? We thank our experiences and encounters. We accept them with grateful hearts and look at them in neutral lenses. Even when you find yourself projecting, you don’t need to be fearful about it.

When you start noticing how you express sadness or anger, you are preventing the guilty self-belief. You are just identifying who you truly are even as you’re projecting. This practice lessens the power of the projection and you reclaimed your power from it. No matter how much projections play out in your mind, they are not going anywhere unless you start believing them again. Remember, you are learning when you consider everything around you as a benefit.

The beauty of healing within us reflects how we see others, as well. We allow ourselves to be free from prejudice and see another person for who he is. Everyone that you think of or approaches you will seem to ask you to show them their innocence. Because of the fact that you are innocent, you have the power to show them your innocence.