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Never betray your friends. Friendships are beautiful relationships in your life. Your friends are important to you and you are important to them.

Technology isn’t important. When do they ever focus on the latest technology? Never. Technology fads will come and go – but life is still there when the internet connection goes.

Fashion isn’t everything. We see so many fashion changes throughout the show, and none of them stick (except the little black dress.)

Don’t judge people by their past. Episode one – Rachel shows up in a wedding dress and seems like the most spoiled little rich girl in the world. By the end of the show, she is a mother, in love and pursuing her dream career. Forgive your past trespasses and forgive others for their past. People can change.

Finance sucks. They are always broke and manage to cope. They thrived in fact.

People are quick to judge when it comes to one night stands and the like – but why?

Natural Selection:

As human beings, we are built to pro-create and spread the genes around; so it’s only fair that we seek the optimum mate to have children with. But how are you supposed to know if you’ve found MR. Perfect when he’s the only one you’ve ever been with? He might be doing it wrong!

Sex Before Wed:

Bad in the olden days when sex before marriage was a crime – people were still loving before wedlock. IT’S INSTINCT. He is attracted to her. She’s attracted to him. Kiss kiss kiss and the next thing you know they are rolling in the hay. Big deal!

Let’s Talk About Sex:

There’s nothing wrong with discussing your night in with the boyfriend as long as you’re truthful and appropriate. Girls, we all gossip about sex in everyday conversation – and that’s great! Lads, you might not talk about it all the time – but you’ve got sex on the brain every seven seconds!

It’s okay to open up about our sex lives, whether you’re bragging or a little bit worries. Honesty is the best policy – but remember: If you are comfortable telling your friends, you should be able to tell your partner!

Communication and Intimacy:

Sex is a passionate, close way of communication and pro-creation. It’s the 21st century – sex before marriage is only an issues if you are a devout religious person and lets face it: they are far and few between.

Most of us just want to get our thing on and get through the day with some close affection from someone else. We don’t want to fall in love with every single person we are attracted to – it doesn’t work like that. Sometime you just need a few hours with someone who respects you and cares about you – love doesn’t have to factor into it.

Desperate?:

Just because you have slept with more than one person, it doesn’t make you desperate. It might be a case of loneliness, or post-break up blues, or feeling amazing about yourself. But getting your freak on with the hottie you met last week doesn’t mean you’re dying for it.

Feeling Good:

Sex makes us feel incredible! On a emotional, physical, mental and chemical level. The act of love making makes you’re entire body jump for joy. It feels good, and it make you feel good – what’s so bad about that?

I hope this post has made you feel that little bit more relaxed about the mysterious world of coitus.

Is being single in your teens/twenties really as bad as they make it out to be?

I’m verging on 20 in two months, and I love being single. Yes, I do want to eventually tie myself down with marriage and a family – but as an independent Gen Y woman, I am quite happy to stay single for a while.

The stigma behind being single is that you’re lonely. I’m not lonely – I have friends and books and words. I have the internet – I can live without the night cuddles for a few more years.

In true writer fashion, I am an independent person – and the more time I spend with people, the less I focus on my writing. People (particularly boyfriends) seem to be a huge distraction from my writing life. That’s not to say I’m going to cut society out – every writer knows that the best way to find your voice, is to live life to it’s fullest and experience the world.

“Write what you know” – Mark Twain

But this distraction-base isn’t limited to writers. I know so many couples that just get in each others way. They skip rehearsal because otherwise they miss dinner for a third night in a row. They say goodbye to the gym because the girlfriend wants to watch a movie. They miss girls night out because the boyfriend is complaining that he hasn’t seen her all week.

Teens, especially undergraduates, are always being told to live our lives whilst we still can – so why are we so ready to give up the freedom that youth gives us in order to settle in with a partner?

I don’t know, I’ve never done it. I’ve never even come close.

I could pin it all on conformities and leave it at that, but I don’t think that’s the whole truth.

Safety.

We want to be safe, it’s the comfort of knowing when you come home from a hard day someone is there to listen to you. It’s nice knowing there’s always someone on your side. But maybe safety isn’t the best thing for a person just discovering themselves.

I am ready to love someone, but I’m not ready to settle and be safe. If I met someone now, they would have to understand that I won’t be crying on their shoulder. I won’t be whinging that I never see them. I won’t be wondering what they are doing every minute of the day. I have a life to live, and I won’t put that on hold for a guy. I won’t put that on hold for anything or anyone.

I’m a Gen Y woman and I am happy being single. Are you?

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