Sunday, May 17, 2015

When working in a male-dominated environment, there is
something you must be aware of: you will never be one of the boys, and if there
are any other females currently employed or hired, it is assumed you will
become best friends. After all, the boys have their boys club so, in theory, the
girls must have girls clubs, right? Not really. In
reality, the idea of bonding with someone simply based off their gender is
stupid. Just because I have a vagina and someone else has a vagina does not
make me and that person kindred spirits. Women do not play by “bros before hos”
rules, but rather bond over actual things that matter.

Sure, you may have some great women who work with you, but
strip away gender of all the people you know and pretend they are just a bunch
of worms. Worms have no sex. They’re just worms. But imagine those worms do
have people traits like personalities and interests. You’ll be friends with the
worms who are into the same stuff you’re into, possibly worms who share your
sense of humor, political ideologies, code of ethics, and so forth. With that
in mind, just because there’s some other women who work with you, that doesn’t
mean you’re on the path to becoming BFFs. If you don’t have much in common,
chances are you will be office acquaintances and make small talk at the water
cooler, but not be going out on the weekend to hang out. And there’s nothing
wrong with that.