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POEM: MARCH 8

MARCH 8

It’s the day to celebrateIt’s the day to thinkFor all that the world have doneTo the charming colour pink

They blocked off her wayThey chased her that dayThey stormed all her lifeHer blurred eyes did say

They found her so helplessThey made her to cryThey turned her life to hellAnd forced her to die

But let me say a wordA word full of hopeShe made her way outAnd learned how to cope

A woman, a mother, a wifeWith patience she strivesCaring, bearing and workingStill struggling with life

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Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka

Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor

University of Benin

March 8 is International Women’s Dayevery year. The day has been observed since the early 1900s. It was 1908, more than 100 years ago, that women finally stood up and demanded better working conditions and the right to vote. We think of the 60s as the decade of feminism, but the first feminists were grandmothers by then.

International Women’s Day can be traced back to the women’s suffrage movement starting in the 19th century. Over many decades, women achieved tremendous progress in many areas of life.

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I liked your poem and what followed. I, too, believe the world would be a better place if women have an equal role. A minor point. I hope you don’t take this wrong. The world “has”, people, many few, or some other word like this “have”.

Oh my touch by this post. this blew me away. Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.

These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the write up. Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true and reflective of my personal encounter with women.

This produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

Note: the “word” is the right one. Thanks for taking note. I appreciate very much.

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:

1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
2.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

Thanks for your response Patrick. When I say that humanity is important to me, I turn to the beliefs I have, including the fact that at this time, women’s rights are the same humanity. The recognition of women’s rights is equal to human rights and the denial of exploitation and the freedom of women is equal to the freedom of all human beings and the true justice that is the great cause of humanity. Appreciate for this nice talking. Toward a world without injustice and equality for all women.
Good luck Mr. Patrick.

Thanks for the response. I enjoy your conversion now. You insight about humanity is quite awesome.

Human right should all be for everyone.
Therefore woman right is equivalent to human right.

As a saying of my Kenya friend Fiona Achieng’ Omollo who is a feminist and support women right goes like this:

I hate being subjected to particular assault or being grouped as “women and children” while there are lots of things that show that I have quality features to make a valuable as a strong individual, not being grouped as weak because I’m female. Maybe physically, intellectually, etc.

Fiona Achieng’ Omollo

Thanks for that kind word and encouragement. (Toward a world without injustice and equality for all women.
Good luck Mr. Patrick. )

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

A beautiful tribute that summarizes what was and what is. A great reminder of the many great women who exist in our lives. My mother’s patience and unconditional love always deserves appreciation. I advise men and women alike to believe in the maternal instincts they possess and to share it lovingly to keep the strength of humanity alive.

Thanks also for reading and commenting here. I appreciate that very much.

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

GoodWhen I read this I instantly thought of my mom who I watch day after day go to work and service the elderly just to make $9 an hour and come home to me and my sister tired both physically and mentally. But still she was a mom. Definitely we used to talk and I told her that she’s a homemaker lifting bedbound people and going into homes that are unsanitary and could possibly be dangerous just for $9 an hour. But our athletes, movie stars and musicians are making millions. Don’t get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with making your millions. If you have a talent, gift or ability that you perform well and it warrants you that type of money. Hey, more power to ya. But definitely some of these jobs like homemaking, nurse, daycare, etc these jobs make more of an impact in our communities they deserve more money, funding and attention.

Am touch by this comment. This blew me away, especially that $9 aspect you talk about.

Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.

These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it( When I read this I instantly thought of my mom who I watch day after day go to work and service the elderly just to make $9 an hour)

and how you ended the write up (But definitely some of these jobs like homemaking, nurse, daycare, etc these jobs make more of an impact in our communities they deserve more money, funding and attention)

Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true.

This produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

Thanks also for reading and commenting here.
Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.
My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?
Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!
You are welcome Mrs R.Akhila
#PATRICKSTORIES
Peace ✌and Love ❤

Thanks for the questions.For
Q.1
I can very well relate to this poem. Even though females(housewives) do a very valuable role of care giving,their work is not valued in monetary terms..I feel that since they have a very important role in bringing success her children’s and husband’s career in the form of nourishment, managing finance, household chores etc..their contribution must also be measured in monetary terms i e while calculating GDP(like what feminist economist say).. though they are doing unpaid work.
Similarly working moms have a double burden..even if her husband is equally earning she’s societially conditioned to do her housework along with her career…and she might also face added pressure of quitting her career owing to her societially defined role of a care giver. Even taking long career break for taking care of her family affects her future chances of promotion and career advancement.

Q2.
Looking after me of course.. I’m not an easy person to deal with ..lol😂…I really appreciate her for coping up with me and I’m lucky to have a chance to savour her super delicious food daily. And yeah..she manages me along with her career..very successfully 😊

Q3
Today is better than yesterday and tommorow will be brighter…in many homes mom’s and wives are teaching their sons and husbands how to change diapers….I would advise other women the same… for it is the social conditioning that shapes a persons behavior…also they themselves have to first free themselves for stereotypes.

Am so sorry for the late response and reply. My schedule has been tight lately.

Thank you Mrs R.Akhila .

I am happy to see your reply and rapid response. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am happy for that.

In reference to question one, I totally agree and support what you said about in question 1

In reference to house wife, career wife and feminism in the above answer to the question (1) I asked you.

Here In my view, feminism is not necessarily about just letting women do whatever they want, as women can be oppressive and feminism is about liberty from oppression. It’s a complicated movement with a lot of goals and a lot of layers.
Feminism obviously has a lot to do with examining gender roles, and women are under constant judgement for their decisions. Whether they take more traditional roles or more non-traditional roles, someone always has something negative to say about it, including misinformed feminists sometimes. Feminism is about freedom and liberty from oppression to me, not freedom and liberty to do anything in the world.
Most of my female friends (and many of my male friends) would self-identify as feminists. Some work, some stay at home to care for the children (yes, some men stay at home with the kids, too!). There is no contradiction there.
Questioning whether one can be a “housewife” and a feminist is blurring things:

1. Individual choice vs. societal influence

2. Making money vs. controlling money

1. Individual choice vs. societal influence-

Feminism generally pushes for equal opportunities. It does not demand that a woman work or it demands that a woman stay at home.
Being a housewife is not necessarily oppressing yourself. I personally think it is individual choice, if you look at these traditional housewife roles, fully aware of the implications, and decide you want to do it because that’s what you want to do.
With that being said, you can be a feminist no matter what your living situation is because it’s a movement. You can go out and work 70 hours a week with no family and be anti-oppression and pro-social justice. You can scrub floors and stay at home to make dinner for your children/ kids. You can be poor. You can be rich. Most of us are oppressed in some way anyway, so if oppression couldn’t coincide with a movement to end oppression, it wouldn’t exist.
As long as you’re aware of your privilege and your marginalization and you advocate for oppression on many levels to end, you can be a damn good feminist regardless of what path you’ve chosen in life.

If you are self-identify as a feminist, you almost certainly believe that women shouldn’t be forced to stay at home. You also probably believe that society influences women to stay at home in various ways—e.g., signaling that childcare is for women, having worse career options open for women, offering better maternal leave than paternal leave, etc. This is all about societal influence.

A woman can believe all this and still say: Given the actual real situation of my life, they choose to stay at home. The “why” and “how” of her life situation is still based on individual choice.But it doesn’t really matter when it comes to what makes sense for her. This is about individual choice.
As an extreme example, a woman in the 1950s hasn’t had access to the same career opportunities that her husband has. But given that her husband earns 5x what she does, or given that she just happens to enjoy spending time with the children more than her husband, it makes a lot more sense for her to stay at home. There is nothing unfeminist about that decision. Its just about individual choice.

2. Making money vs. controlling money
Moreover, her choosing to stay at home—to not collect a salary—does not mean that she is submitting control to her husband. I know plenty of men who are the sole/primary breadwinners as well as a few women who are. They do not “control” the money. Money is a team effort. The breadwinner may collect the salary, but their partner at home contributes as well.
I do know a few couples where, in practice, one partner has more control over the money. This has to do with the dynamics of their own situation—one partner being more of a better planner. It has no particular correlation with who’s earning the money.

I totally agree to what you said in reply and response to question 2 and 3.

Thanks again for your wonderful time and energy used in replying me.

Thanks for giving me an insight about the relationship between working class, house wife and feminism which run in our world today.

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

Thanks also for reading and commenting here.
Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.
My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?
Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!
You are welcome Mrs Saweeta
#PATRICKSTORIES
Peace ✌and Love ❤

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

I love this . I am all about women empowerment and to see the appreciate you have for women is amazing. I love how you touched upon this subject in a creative way. I think that’s what I like about it most. My mom always taught me my worth. She always told me to stand up for myself. She taught me the importance of independence and self love . I think this is important because we live in a society that will cause you to hate yourself . I believe all young women should learn the power of being a woman .

Some questions put to you here where not answered.
I will like you to share your opinion on it.

My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young women/mothers in the outside world?

Excellent post buddy !!!! awesomely penned, loved the quotes which you chose.
Well, coming to Feminism. According to me, it has got a revolution, now it all means Humanism. We feminist are now fighting for gender discrimination ( equality ). May be going against gender discrimination will be the right choice rather fighting only for Women rights ( coz of few fake feminists ). Many feminists badly take advantage of the rights they get due to which few true feminists gets badly trolled.
I think it’s high time to educate those feminists and feminism haters about the true meaning of feminism. It all means Gender Equality.
Coming to Women, i know many have not tasted freedom and got equality but change can only be brought by their willpower and voice. Being a feminist it’s our duty to raise our voice when something goes wrong in front of our eyes and by changing wrong mentality of the people.
May your thoughts reach to many people. God bless you!!!!!!

Thanks for bringing up this matter about GENDER EQUALITY, FEMINISM and FEMINIST.

Oh am touch by this comment, this blew me away. Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.

What a great comment and well said Mrs/Miss Cprateeti,

I really liked this comment And it seems we have very similar views on equality! I do not believe men and women should be “forced” to be the same. And I don’t think the fact that we are not the same is a problem – on the contrary, diversity is a strength.

And exactly as you say, I strongly believe in equal rights and opportunity for all, regardless of gender (or skin colour, ethnicity etc). I believe everyone should be respected as a unique individual and not judged on the basis of being a woman or man, black or white etc.

This is because most of the feminists I have encountered – in real life and online – have not shared the beliefs and values I described above.

They have instead showed contempt, anger and even hatred towards men in general.

And they have based most solutions on the principle of dividing all humans into different subgroups based on gender and skin colour and then proclaimed that every individual should be judged and treaded according to which gender and skin colour subgroup he or she “belongs to”

I know that this is not at all true about all feminists.And I wish all feminists should have that mindset which i have.

Not the least because, as you point out, there are still inequalities, stereotypes and problems in society – many affect women more and some affect men more.

I agree in that being a feminist doesn’t mean being a misogynist.

It’s about equal rights and opportunities, as you conveyed. With that being said, things won’t always be equal between men and women because of the physical differences and other factors. It’s like being in a relationship. It won’t always be 50/50. It’s give and take on both sides.

Regarding voices and will power, it’s too bad that louder volumes are attention-grabbers, too, but I can also see a softer, firm, confident voice getting the message across, as well. I’m on the fence with this, but as we’ve grown up to learn, anger isn’t the answer. Shouldn’t it be “our” desire and goal to calm things down in the human race? I truly understand, though, why some women feel they have to raise their voices, otherwise, they may not be heard.

It’s still truly astonishing, the mentality that women should be less than men in any circumstance, be it job position, salaries, etc. May it be someday (sooner than later) that both women and men can be respected equally.

These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it (Excellent post buddy !!!! awesomely penned, loved the quotes which you chose.) and how you ended the comment ( May your thoughts reach to many people. God bless you!!!!!!)