Before and After are attitudes of Self in differing vibrational states. There is only NOW. Imagine your Self NOW as you would wish to be, regardless of the circumstances around you, create the attitude, feel the emotions, live the moments as though it was already here and NOW. Let the world adjust itself around you, to how you want to feel about it. It is always about YOU. Find that which brings you Joy, do nothing that does not make you feel good about being YOU. Be grateful for each experience. Why? because gratitude is the recognition of Love flowing through your life.