Want to punch bf...

Ugh. Bf had some freaking balls this morning. He has this issue with my mom, I think he's jealous of her or something. Apart from me, she knows LO (little one) best. She knows him better than his own dad. If he grows out of a sleeper or something and I tell her she'll go out and buy two new ones. I think that makes him mad because she's buying him things and we aren't, don't know. Anyways, he gets all bitchy and has an attitude about LO (little one) and I going to see her for the day. Always. Here's where it gets fun. Last night LO (little one) was fighting sleep, so I didn't get him to really go down until 1 am. I went down with him, and when he woke up at 4 bf was just finally coming to bed. Since LO (little one) was wide awake I took him to the living room, changed him, and started rocking him back to sleep while he nursed. Every time I stopped rocking or patting his back he would wake up. So I'm running on like 4 hours of sleep, because I was dealing with LO. 7 45 rolls around and I go turn our light on to wake him up. 8 30 LO (little one) wakes up, so I take him in to get him dressed. Bf wakes up and says 'are you planning on going somewhere today?' And I replied 'yeah, we're going to mom's since she's going out of town tomorrow and won't be back until Sunday.' And he says 'of course.' And then he goes 'so your mom can get you out of bed before 9 am.' Like as if I'm always sleeping in and he's up early. Here's the issue with that. He's supposed to be at work at 8 every day. Except he's friends with his boss so he can get away with going in late. So while I wake him up at 7 45, he doesn't actually wake up and get up until around 9. He has never once woken up with LO (little one) in the night, and every weekend he sleeps until 11 30 or even noon. And yet he thinks he can bitch at me sleeping past 9? I've slept past 9 like once in the past year, and that was yesterday. I'm beyond irritated. Sorry for the long post, sometimes I just need to rant.

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I would tell him exactly what you wrote and about your nights so he understands. Also agree with pp, sounds lazy ... Sorry... My husband work 10-12 hours days, still comes home and helps with the little one. He takes all of Friday night and let's me get some sleep and we share Saturday night. Weekdays are all mine since I am on maternity leave.

I think you guys should really sit down & talk, if that's something he's willing to do without being rude to you.
I'd want to figure out his actual reason for upset with you about seeing your mom often. As well as get on a schedule where he is helping you more. His issue may be not spending enough time with your LO, but it doesn't seem like he's putting in effort either...

My so works nights, so I'm with baby at nigh sun-thurs & the days when he works so he can sleep. However, he gives me 2hrs about in the am, to sleep or relax , eat, whatever. Then usually more but at least 2hrs before he goes in. Then Friday-sun night during his off times, we split duties so we can clean house, both of us can recharge, spend time together & he can get more quality time with LO. I think I might catch more if the break in our schedule, but he feels like he gets the break. So it works for us, & we're both happy & have no hard feelings towards each other.

You really shouldn't let him act like that. I agree that you two need to talk. If my mom lived closer I'd probably take LO (little one) over there while my husband worked a lot too. What's the problem? My mom, grandma, and aunt also buy our LO (little one) clothes, diapers, etc and give them to us when we visit. It's helping us out. My husband makes just enough. Money is a little tight right now because my husband is in the middle of switching jobs. It helps us out that my family want to help. He should be grateful. If he wants to buy something for your LO (little one) he still can. I don't see an issue in someone else getting baby something he needs. If he needs something it shouldn't matter who gets it. If he can go into work late than he needs to use that time to help with LO. It's his baby too. Definitely have a talk with him.

He sounds like an immature, self-centered teenager... the sleep thing would really annoy me! I think you need to bring these issues up to him. Maybe there is more to his jealousy/feelings and he just can't communicate them properly? Was he always like this? A lot of men go through huge hormonal/emotional changes after having kids and struggle to understand/communicate them!

I would tell him exactly what you wrote and about your nights so he understan...

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10/25/2016

I would tell him exactly what you wrote and about your nights so he understands. Also agree with pp, sounds lazy ... Sorry... My husband work 10-12 hours days, still comes home and helps with the little one. He takes all of Friday night and let's me get some sleep and we share Saturday night. Weekdays are all mine since I am on maternity leave.

Ugh I wish this was the case. He really doesn't help unless I explicitly ask. 'Can you make a bottle?' Or 'can you change him?'

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