Wrong or not?

My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just feeling guilty for nothing or is it really a bad thing?

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Honestly, I can't see letting a boyfriend's opinion on the matter influence me to that degree. It'd be like being told that I'm not allowed to orgasm on my own terms. I understand not wanting to make him upset, but if you need or want satisfaction, you should just go for it and not worry about it.

I'm curious as to why he thinks it's wrong, though, if you don't mind my asking.

Don't let his insecurity get in the way. He should at least enjoy the fact you're masturbating instead of bottling-up desires, or cheating on him. Perhaps he's never experienced a good solo session of his own!

Masturbation is normal and healthy. If he isn't into it, that's fine for him and its his problem. That doesn't mean it has to be yours too. Do what works for you, hell it's better than ending up cheating or sexually frustrated all the time.

I am sure he masturbates. Would your objections change his behavior if you had any objections? I highly doubt it. I think if he makes you feel guilty about this, he is likely being manipulative. You are in charge of your own body. That is a good thing! I don't think he should get to vote about this.

My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just
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My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just feeling guilty for nothing or is it really a bad thing?

If he has a problem with your choice to masturbate, that's controlling and potentially abusive.

There are many people that are insecure and shy about masturbation. Your boyfriend could be one of those people. They feel threatened, thinking that if you masturbate it means you are not being satisfied by them. I would not let it stop you from performing a natural and healthy act, just try to understand that that is his hangup and issue, not yours!!

My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just
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My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just feeling guilty for nothing or is it really a bad thing?

Ok so he doesn't enjoy masturbation, that doesn't make it wrong for YOU to enjoy it! My husband doesn't like raspberries but it's not wrong for ME to love them. My life partner doesn't like writing sex toy reviews but it still doesn't mean I need to feel guilty for enjoying talking about my experiences with sex toys.
It sounds as though you are equating sex with yourself as cheating your partner out of an experience. The thing is you are not OBLIGATED to deny yourself, or even feel guilty, if he isn't there to have sex with. It doesn't cheat him of anything but leaving yourself frustrated, upset and emotionally off balance because you are denying what is a perfectly natural act cheats YOU. Unless you have a relationship where permission is given and required there shouldn't be any guilt attached to self pleasure.

Same here. What I'm wondering is if the problem is just that he feels like you won't need him or he's not good enough. He might have a past that has influenced certain insecurities. Unfortunately, I speak from experience. I'd rather not go into my experience, but I think you two should definitely have a talk.

The most important thing is to let him come to talk to you in his own time, though, without any pressure. Just tell him that his objection to masturbation has you a little upset, and you'd like to know why his opinion on it is like that, but whenever he feels comfortable telling you, and just drop it at that. That was he knows you respect his feelings and, hopefully, he'll come talk to you about it soon.

Honestly, I can't see letting a boyfriend's opinion on the matter influence me to that degree. It'd be like being told that I'm not allowed to orgasm on my own terms. I understand not wanting to make him upset, but if you need or want
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Honestly, I can't see letting a boyfriend's opinion on the matter influence me to that degree. It'd be like being told that I'm not allowed to orgasm on my own terms. I understand not wanting to make him upset, but if you need or want satisfaction, you should just go for it and not worry about it.

I'm curious as to why he thinks it's wrong, though, if you don't mind my asking.

I don't know what it is about it. He just seems to have a problem with it!

My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just
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My boyfriend does not like masturbation at all. He is going to be moving away and I know I'll end up doing it. Something about it feels wrong though since I know he doesn't like it, but it isn't like I have other options. Am I just feeling guilty for nothing or is it really a bad thing?