Anal Sex for Beginners

Most of you kinksters probably have anal down pat, but for newbies it may still be uncharted waters. People seem to love it or hate it. It can be a difficult subject to bring up in new relationships, so here are tips to help get you started on the pathway to pleasurable anal.

1. Both partners need to be all in. The penis has to be fully erect for things to go right and for your lover to enjoy it. You want her to orgasm, right? And an anal orgasm is amazing, so if you want to add anal to your repertoire then make sure you do it right the first time. Go hard, or go home!

2. Start small. And by this, I mean try putting other things up her ass before she gets a taste of your cock up there. If she’s freaked out about this new experience you may want to suggest she play a little on her own – try sliding her fingers in while in the shower or using a small butt plug while masturbating. Or . . . she may let you rim her during sex or insert a small dildo.

3. Talk her through it and listen. Don’t just jam it in, or this may be your first and last go of it. Bummer! You can suggest her being on top as this will give her control of how slowly you go in. Encourage her to talk about how it feels. If it gets uncomfortable, pulling out slowly is important.

4. Lubricate to fornicate! Banging away inside a woman’s ass, like in porn, is not realistic, and can hurt like hell. Tearing can lead to not only infection, but also the transmission of disease. Use a thick silicone-based lube and lots of it. And of course condoms.

5. To enema or not to enema. Some men don’t give a shit whether they run into a little poop during anal sex because it feels incredible being in such a tight spot. But a woman might be embarrased about the idea and prefer to have a cleaning out beforehand. An enema can also be a sexually satisfying experience.

6. Relax and enjoy. Some of these tips and strategies for newbies might sound a bit clinical and off-putting, but truthfully, anal sex is an awesome sensation for both men and women. I still don’t understand the taboo surrounding it.

Kinks: Is anal sex part of your repertoire? Any tips to enhance the experience even more?

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