Thou shalt flirt ferociously each day with thy spouse that thy marriage shall be blessed with strength, joy and longevity. In everyday life its important to take a moment to keep the romance kindled. How can a husband and a wife keep the romance alive? Here are some romantic tips for married couples; including how to have romance in your marriage when there are children.

Tuesday, November 09, 2004

Its the thought that counts

In this list and on others you will see many wonderful ideas forexpressing love and gratitude to your sweetie. Among all these ideasis a common thread: go one step beyond the normal. Instead of sayingthe word, "I love you", write it in a note. Instead of just saying"thank you", send a thank-you singing telegram.

Why bother? A couple of reasons. First, when you do somethingoutside the ordinary and unexpected, you place yourself at a certainamount of emotional risk. Your sweetie will sense this. This movesyou both outside of your combined comfort zone and adds excitement tothe relationship. The comfort zone is comfortable but boring. Bymoving both of you outside of that boring place, a simple yetextra-ordinary act is a simple way of adding excitement to therelationship.

Second, as the saying goes, "it is the thought that counts". The morethought and preparation you put into sending your message of love andgratitude, the more it will count. As another saying states, "talk ischeap". You can say "I love you" over and over again. Yet its impactis not very great. Speaking the words requires no effort and nothought. Sending a small card with a short hand-written note showsboth thought and preparation. It is a small amount of effort, but itshows you are thinking of your sweetie, even when you are nottogether.

Third, do not spend a lot of money. There is a paradox of affluence. We are told that buying luxurious gifts will make our sweetie happy. However, you can't buy the affection of your sweetheart. Instead, save your money and give a bit of your time and talents instead.