How to help your daughter discover her authentic self

Helping your daughter define and sort widdle down who her authentic self is and what her authenticity is is critical especially these days. Social pressure is just a thick in the air. I'm mean the constant measuring up and comparing ourselves to others in the competition that these girls feel. Girls so much want to be liked and to be included and they will do almost anything to sort of figure out how they must please others as oppose to being excluded or shunt and it’s very dangerous thing because then there’s that pressure to become like a Facebook version of yourself, a persona not a person and I think it’s really important for girls to have that sense of self-worth in their own power.

Jodi Wing

Educational Activist & Author

Jodi Wing is an author, educator, and an activist for girls and women. Her debut novel is entitled 'The Art of Social War,' which she says, "is about very bad behavior and girl-on-girl crime". It is also based on The Art of War, by Sun Tzu, a 2500-proven philosophy which is a seminal treatise on conflict resolution and problem-solving. For the past three years, she created and evolved 'The Art of Peace Club' program within LAUSD/LA's BEST after-school Enrichment Program, teaching tween girls 'how to' manage social conflict and competition in their everyday lives. Over 300+ girls have graduated to date. She does not have children herself, but she does have 28,000 of them at LA’s BEST!

Helping your daughter define and sort widdle down who her authentic self is and what her authenticity is is critical especially these days. Social pressure is just a thick in the air. I'm mean the constant measuring up and comparing ourselves to others in the competition that these girls feel. Girls so much want to be liked and to be included and they will do almost anything to sort of figure out how they must please others as oppose to being excluded or shunt and it’s very dangerous thing because then there’s that pressure to become like a Facebook version of yourself, a persona not a person and I think it’s really important for girls to have that sense of self-worth in their own power.