approaching in a dance class

well i'm in this dance class and there are a few hotties in there. i want to ask one of them out to a dance, but how do i do that with so many other people around? i feel if i get turned down, it would be very awkward. maybe like 25 girls in this class and 15 guys.

Just go and talk to the one your interested in. dont talk to every girl or the potential ones will think you are just desperate or you are a player. you have something in common already because your in the class. use it to your advantage

dance class would be a pretty easy spot to make her laugh, poking fun at either her dancing, your dancing, other peoples, the songs that were playing, your teacher...anything to get her giggling and warm up to you, then just feel it out and eventually suggest it in a fun and relaxed way with a smile

Or "I wonder if you would dance so well at (insert name of dance place you want to take her)."

Whatever, just ask.

By the way, I've heard of guys taking dance classes to meet women, do some women also sign up for dance classes hoping to meet men?

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there probably are a couple in there looking to meet guys. there is an overwhelming amount of girls in that class. so much so that there are not enough leaders to dance with all the girls, so sometimes the girls have to dance alone.

"Whatever, just ask."

i guess this is the most important part. i just always feel like i'm gonna sound like a dumbass. you guys ever get this feeling?

As the man, it is your duty to make the date plan. Do this before you move to step 2. This includes the when and the where.

Step 2. Invite her on the date.

Tell her what the plan is and let her know that she is invited. An example:

"I'm going bowling Thursday at 7 PM. Are you coming?"

or

"I've been wanting to check out this new dance club. Will you be joining me?"

If she agrees, immediately firm up all the details so that you don't have to call back before the date.

If she hesitates or gives an excuse, don't try to talk her into it or show your disappointment. Just say something like "Ok, maybe some other time" and end the interaction with her.

If she indicates that she would like to go but her schedule is booked, you can try to work out another time, but if you show too much flexibility that can be a bad sign to her, as she will expect you to be busy at least some of the time.

Date invitations work best when your frame of mind is that you will do the activity regardless of whether she comes or not. Ideally, you would have several women's phone numbers and if your first choice declines, you immediately hang up the phone and call girl 2.

i guess this is the most important part. i just always feel like i'm gonna sound like a dumbass. you guys ever get this feeling?

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Definitely, but I'm learning more and more to see flirtation as just an adult game. Not like "Hate the game, not the player" kind of game, but that it's the adult equivalent of a chance to take on different roles (who acts all suave at work?) and be silly, or at least not so serious. And like children's game, the whole thing isn't about "winning" or "losing", it's about having fun. And always remember that you can always play again if it doesn't turn out how you wanted.

As the man, it is your duty to make the date plan. Do this before you move to step 2. This includes the when and the where.

Step 2. Invite her on the date.

Tell her what the plan is and let her know that she is invited. An example:

"I'm going bowling Thursday at 7 PM. Are you coming?"

or

"I've been wanting to check out this new dance club. Will you be joining me?"

If she agrees, immediately firm up all the details so that you don't have to call back before the date.

If she hesitates or gives an excuse, don't try to talk her into it or show your disappointment. Just say something like "Ok, maybe some other time" and end the interaction with her.

If she indicates that she would like to go but her schedule is booked, you can try to work out another time, but if you show too much flexibility that can be a bad sign to her, as she will expect you to be busy at least some of the time.

Date invitations work best when your frame of mind is that you will do the activity regardless of whether she comes or not. Ideally, you would have several women's phone numbers and if your first choice declines, you immediately hang up the phone and call girl 2.

Just walk up to the girl and ask if she wants to dance with you during the class, assuming you can pick partners in the class. That way you can get to know her just a little bit. Then if you hit it off ask her to the dance.