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enOn Our Radar: Feminist News Rounduphttp://bitchmagazine.org/post/on-our-radar-feminist-news-round-up-1
<p><em>Here's all the news on our radar for today!<br /></em></p>
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<li>The NAACP's&nbsp;<a href="http://www.crewof42.com/whats-going-on/naacp-trayvon-petition-hits-one-million/" target="_blank">petition to file civil rights charges</a>&nbsp;against Zimmerman, which launched five days ago, now has one million signatures. [Crew Of 42]</li>
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<li>With widespread outrage over the Zimmerman trial, blogger Marissa Jackson wants to know why few people are talking about Florida mom&nbsp;<a href="http://www.forharriet.com/2013/07/who-will-march-for-marissa-alexander.html" target="_blank">Marissa Alexander's sentencing to 20 years in prison</a>&nbsp;for firing warning shots against her abusive husband. [For Harriet]</li>
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<li>Same-sex marriage is on its way to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/16/england-gay-marriage-law-_n_3606916.html?utm_hp_ref=gay-voices" target="_blank">becoming legal</a>&nbsp;in England and Wales! [Huffington Post]</li>
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<li>McDonalds set out to provide a sample budget for its employees and ended up proving that&nbsp;<a href="http://www.deathandtaxesmag.com/202172/mcdonalds-suggested-budget-for-employees-shows-just-how-impossible-it-is-to-get-by-on-minimum-wage/" target="_blank">it's basically impossible to get by</a>&nbsp;on minimum wage. [Death and Taxes]<br />&nbsp;<br /></li>
<li>A Reddit user&nbsp;<a href="http://feminspire.com/reddit-a-place-for-rapists-to-confess-their-crimes/" target="_blank">downright bragged about</a>&nbsp;raping a woman to the entire Internet. Detective redditors are now on the hunt for his identity. [Feminspire]</li>
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<li>Rolling Stone gives us the&nbsp;<a href="http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/news/the-ten-dumbest-things-ever-said-about-abortion-and-womens-rights-20130715" target="_blank">10 dumbest things</a>&nbsp;ever said about abortion and women's rights. [Rolling Stone]</li>
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<li>Photographer Lindsay Morris&nbsp;<a href="http://www.slate.com/blogs/behold/2013/07/15/_you_are_you_looks_at_a_gender_nonconforming_camp_for_boys_photos.html" target="_blank">documented</a>&nbsp;a four-day gender noncomforming camp for boys. [Slate]<br /><br /><img src="http://farm6.staticflickr.com/5528/9306143420_7402231770.jpg" alt="Gender-noncomforming camper." width="500" height="333" />&nbsp;</li>
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<p><em>What did we miss? Let us know what you're reading in the comments.&nbsp;</em></p>
http://bitchmagazine.org/post/on-our-radar-feminist-news-round-up-1#commentsabortionchildrengender identitygeorge zimmermanMarissa AlexanderNAACPrapeRedditTea PartyTrayvon MartinNewsWed, 17 Jul 2013 16:07:00 +0000Marinda Valenti23488 at http://bitchmagazine.orgGross Reddit Relationship Advice Book Raises $16,000http://bitchmagazine.org/post/gross-reddit-relationship-advice-book-raises-16000
<p><img src="http://farm4.staticflickr.com/3788/9086989532_3ea3e13c0d.jpg" alt="Kickstarter image for &quot;Above the Game&quot;" width="500" height="251" /></p>
<p><strong>UPDATE JUNE 21:</strong> Kickstarter <a href="http://www.kickstarter.com/blog/we-were-wrong" target="_blank">apologized today</a> for not cancelling this project. Kickstarter says in a blog post that their deeply pro-creator ethic and their short time span for deciding whether or not to take down the project led to inaction. They cannot take back the money raised, but the will be donating <a href="http://www.rainn.org/" target="_blank">$25,000 to anti-rape and abuse nonprofit RAINN</a>.</p>
<p>ORIGINAL POST: &nbsp;</p>
<p>A guy who posts a lot of bad relationship advice on Reddit would like to turn his internet diatribes into a book. And, as of today, people have given him over <a href="http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/tofutofu/above-the-game-a-guide-to-getting-awesome-with-wom?ref=home_popular" target="_blank">$16,000 on Kickstarter to do it.</a>&nbsp;</p>
<p>Classy Dude Ken Hoinsky has posted Pick-Up Artist style dating advice on the <a href="http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1gkth6/above_the_game_part_9_giving_back_be_a_value_giver/" target="_blank">Reddit "seduction" forum</a>&nbsp;and says readers tell him his advice on how to convince women to sleep with you has changed their lives. He started a Kickstarter to write a male-centric dating book called <em>Above the Game</em> based on the Reddit advice. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p><a href="http://caseymalone.com/post/53339539674/this-is-not-fucking-harmless" target="_blank">Comedian Casey Malone</a> pointed out that author Ken Hoinsky is not giving reasonable dating advice, he's "writing a book about how to sexually assault women, and he is using something I believe in (Kickstarter) to ask YOU for money to do it."</p>
<p>According to Hoinsky's Kickstarter, half of the book will be dating advice he published on Reddit forums. A perusal of that advice (whcih have been taken down, but are still available on the <a href="http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:40tT3neK7egJ:www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1dvnem/above_the_game_part_7_physical_escalation_sex" target="_blank">cached version of the page</a>—<a href="http://farm4.staticflickr.com/3722/9084548829_7b1d9981fc_b.jpg" target="_blank">screenshot here</a>) shows it to be Pick-Up Artist advice at its worst:&nbsp;</p>
<blockquote><p>Men are notoriously bad at reading women's minds and body language. Don't think that you're any different.&nbsp;From now on you must ASSUME that she is attracted to you and wants to be ravished. It's a difference in mindset that makes champs champs and chumps chumps. ...&nbsp;</p>
<p>Decide that you're going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap.&nbsp;<strong>Don't ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances. </strong>...</p>
<p>IMPORTANT NOTE ON RESISTANCE:</p>
<p>If at any point a girl wants you to stop, she will let you know. If she says "STOP," or "GET AWAY FROM ME," or shoves you away, you know she is not interested. It happens. Stop escalating immediately and say this line:</p>
<p><strong>"No problem. I don't want you to do anything you aren't comfortable with."</strong></p>
<p>Memorize that line. It is your go-to when faced with resistance. Say it genuinely, without presumption. All master seducers are also masters at making women feel comfortable. You'll be no different.&nbsp;<strong>If a woman isn't comfortable, take a break and try again later.</strong></p>
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<p>So, men, in case you misunderstood: Don't listen to a woman when she says she's not comfortable and wants to stop. Just cool your heels and try again later. She'll come around to your seduction eventually.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Of course, Hoinsky isn't directly telling guys to go rape women. But his advice is to ignore what women are saying, to assume that women want to sleep with you, and to be physically aggressive until you get your way.</p>
<p>In the "Sex" section of the Reddit thread, he suggest a guy should physically forcing his date to touch his dick:&nbsp;</p>
<blockquote><p>Pull out your cock and put her hand on it.&nbsp;<em>Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don't ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.</em></p>
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<p>The idea that a woman signed off on touching your dick without her verbally consenting in any way is dangerous. Numerous people have written about how Pick-Up Artist tactics venture into rapey territory. As <a href="http://www.xojane.com/issues/are-pickup-artists-contributing-rape-culture" target="_blank">s.e. smith put it</a>, "PUA techniques focus heavily on a steadily escalating process of coercion and many come with an assumption that a man has a right to have sex with any woman he wants. Additionally, he's less of a man if he doesn't succeed in landing a given 'catch,' which puts tremendous pressure on him to seal the deal at all costs."</p>
<p>Beyond the rape issues, this is just bad relationship advice. It's built on the premise that women want sex but don't speak up about it. Personally, I think dating and hook-ups are way more fun and pleasant when the people involved can actually talk to each other—rather than, as this book suggests, merely manipulating one another into sex.&nbsp;</p>
<p>You can report Hoinsky's project to Kickstarter, but since it ended today, I'm not certain they'll do anything about it. How about making sure this <a href="http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/230742001/force-upsetting-rape-culture?ref=live" target="_blank">project to build a temporary memorial to survivors of sexual assault meets its goal</a>&nbsp;in the next 70 hours?&nbsp;</p>
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http://bitchmagazine.org/post/gross-reddit-relationship-advice-book-raises-16000#commentskickstarterrapeRedditSex and SexualityWed, 19 Jun 2013 17:17:44 +0000Sarah Mirk23115 at http://bitchmagazine.orgOn Our Radarhttp://bitchmagazine.org/post/on-our-radar-55-feminist-link-roundup
<div>Blog time!</div>
<ul>
<li>Portland-based plus-size boutique Fat Fancy needs your help with their fundraising campaign–<a href="http://www.indiegogo.com/Fat-Fancy">donate now</a>!</li>
<li>Kate Harding writes about the <a href="http://kateharding.info/2011/12/29/you-are-awful-too/">Internet's sexist response</a> to the sexism on Reddit's atheist community.</li>
<li>According to Slate's L.V. Anderson, the new movie about Margaret Thatcher doesn't try to dig into the woman's deeper motivations, it's <a href="http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2011/12/27/the_iron_lady_s_surprisingly_sexist_treatment_of_margaret_thatcher_played_by_meryl_streep.html">mostly just sexist</a>.</li>
<li>Carly A. Kocurek talks about the importance of the <a href="http://sparklebliss.com/blog/?p=155">Gamer Girl Manifesto</a>.</li>
<li>Check this interview with <em>Pariah </em>director Dee Rees <a href="http://www.salon.com/2011/12/26/%E2%80%9Cpariah%E2%80%9D_director_dee_rees_the_catharsis_of_coming_out/singleton/">on the experience of coming out</a>.</li>
<li>The Carrie Brownstein feed just spat out two new profiles–one in the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/magazine/carrie-brownstein.html?_r=4"><em>New York Times</em></a> and one in the <a href="http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2012/01/02/120102fa_fact_talbot?currentPage=all"><em>New Yorker</em></a>!</li>
<li>Nicole at Where Is Your Line? blogs her <a href="http://whereisyourline.org/2011/12/my-top-5-moments-that-shaped-sexual-reproductive-rights-in-2011/">top five stories in reproductive rights</a> from the last year.</li>
<li>s.e. smith looks at the <a href="http://tigerbeatdown.com/2011/12/26/progress-for-disabled-immigration-detainees/">appalling conditions</a> that detained immigrants with disabilities face.</li>
<li><a href="http://queerture.wordpress.com/2011/12/30/q-a-with-dean-spade/">Dean Spade talks fashion and gender performance</a> in a Q&amp;A with Queerture.&nbsp; </li>
</ul>
<p>Tell us what you've been reading, or what rockin' feminist New Year's plans you have!</p>
<p><strong>Previously: </strong><a href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;rct=j&amp;q=&amp;esrc=s&amp;source=web&amp;cd=1&amp;ved=0CCgQFjAA&amp;url=http%3A%2F%2Fbitchmagazine.org%2Fpost%2Fon-our-radar-53&amp;ei=sBr-Tui1EurUiALW6tGuDg&amp;usg=AFQjCNHMpAOWzHDxP19Cr2h2Ee2jx1dfBQ&amp;sig2=VGOVJ2vu6cg2iGk8PmSRAw">On Our Radar</a>, <a href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&amp;rct=j&amp;q=&amp;esrc=s&amp;source=web&amp;cd=2&amp;ved=0CC8QFjAB&amp;url=http%3A%2F%2Fbitchmagazine.org%2Fpost%2Fon-our-radar-53-feminist-links-roundup&amp;ei=sBr-Tui1EurUiALW6tGuDg&amp;usg=AFQjCNFrHFi3Og-0mAuqLbSjVyz5B0IP-A&amp;sig2=NUuoCQnOG2SOX9N3BNBo8g">On Our Radar</a></p>
http://bitchmagazine.org/post/on-our-radar-55-feminist-link-roundup#commentsFat FancyRedditvideo gamesBitch HQFri, 30 Dec 2011 20:29:05 +0000Mac Pogue14433 at http://bitchmagazine.org