So, to you, you can just get another one if you cannot "be who you are not" with her.

Well, yes. How does that relate to "trading them out'?? I will keep the first one with me as well. I thought you wanted to compare me with those who do, they are rare (I think you know it), and I am not like them.

An enemy of an enemy is a fickle friend.
There will be more women in hell than men.
..for persecution is worse than the slaughter of the enemy..(Quran 2:191)
Heaven lies under mother's feet

I have found that older women (and younger Islamic women) are looking more for
the husband type. That is the man who is caring and willing to start a
family with. My methods are not for those who want to get married and
start a family (blikh).

Israfil,

I am not only taking in consideration those very few American
woman. I am also putting in the women I met in Canada,
and in Mexico.
I am also adding to the equation those women I met in Germany, in the UK
and in France,
and what men like me have experienced world wide. I have found them all to
follow the same rules of attraction. You need to understand, attraction
is NOT a choice. Women don't choose to be attracted to men, certain
biological processes occur in order to trigger the attraction. Just like
most men are not attracted to girls with flat chests, behinds, and no
hips. You can't choose to be attracted to this kind of woman.

Here is an excerpt from a book on attraction:

"Most guys try to CONVINCE a woman to feel attracted to them with
compliments, or gifts, etc., or HOPE that it will happen if they are just ‘nice
guys.’ But this can never work.

What they don't understand is the difference between ATTRACTION and
‘affection.’ Attraction isn't a choice, and it happens quickly or not at all.
If you wait, go on dates, etc., affection may develop, but never attraction.
Affection brings friendship, attraction brings passion.

Basically, inner sexuality is protected by the persona unless you communicate
directly through to it. Once you know how, you can make a woman feel sexual
attraction very rapidly this way. No gifts, dinners, or compliments required.

I believe that men are all born with the ability to communicate on this level
and to trigger sexual attraction inside a woman. A variety of sources,
including our culture, religion, etc., have buried this natural ability, or
never allowed it to develop... or maybe we just never realized that it was
there in the first place."

Also Israfil, I am not being weak by behaving this way. I am being
smart. I know how women think and what causes them to be attracted to us
men. I use this to make the women feel so incredible that they will absolutely
fall in love with me. And guess what, every guy has the ability to do
this.

Israfil, I most certainly understand what empathize means, do you understand
what my post means?

Israfil, it seems you are the one who missed my point entirely. I am not
saying that one should be racist, not at all. I am saying that if people
from a certain culture hate you, why should you respect them in return?
For those who are hard of hearing, I am not saying hate the culture, I am
saying don't respect those people who want to see you and your religion dead.

ooofff, Israfil you have completely misunderstood me. I didn't think I
had to explain every little word to get my point across. Long story
short, those attributes you described are not sexually attractive to
women. If you follow those qualities you will get married in an arranged
way, and never really truly know what love is.

You are free to do as you like. Each person is responsible for his or her own actions.

Practicing Muslim men and women are not looking for sexual experiences (most especially not with multiple partners). Practicing Muslim men and women are looking for pious, kind mates who will be good life partners and help them increase their deen (religion), not someone who will help them down the slippery slope to hell.

For Muslims, zina (sex outside of legal marriage) is a huge sin. Your "prowess" with women doesn't impress me. I'm sure it doesn't ultimately impress the women you make "absolutely fall in love with" you and then dump either.

You are surely posting on the wrong forum if you think your boasting about your sexual predation of women is appropriate or even appreciated by anyone here.

Hey, thanks for
noticing. ummziba, I am not in the business of hurting women. It
seems to me that you are bothered by my 'using' of women but you need to
understand that I do not 'use' women. The sexual intercourse is mutual; if
the women does not want sex, then I don't force it upon her. Most of
these women want sex just as much as I do. I learn and read up on what
women want and how to make women feel so incredible that they fall in
love. What is wrong with making a woman feel good? I love it,
because when my women feels good and loves me, I feel good and love her.
My relationships are full of passion and romance; I like to keep the friction
strong for as long as the courtship lasts. I don't see anything wrong
with this. Shia's and a few other sects of Islam permit this through
mut'a.

It appears that you are making a comment, like sister Ummziba has mentioned, in the case of "secual attaction." In the Islamic setting the first goal of a man is not to find a woman who he can be secually attracted to. The first goal of a man is to find a companion who shares like interest, and most importantly one who can increases ones Iman with.

You apparently noting your excapdes across the world and wht so-called different women want. This is still unimpressive. You claim to have noted a few women but the fact remains, as you mention "to your experience." Everyones experience is different. As I have seen in many women where I live most adult and mature women more important would like a kind and caring man because in the end (Inshallah) as we get old that is what matters most not what makes a women feel sexually attracted to man. That is not only a shallow view but a view which totally is not in accordance with Islam.

No offense buddy but I've been there and done that. I have sexual intercourse with many women (prior to my conversion) and I find that unfulfilling. Most women "according to my experience" want a man who is kind, caring, ambitious a commnicative person and a person who is humble. All these attributes makes what a real man is...OOPS I forgot for some of you who are indeed hard of hearing these are traits in which the Qur'an has noted.

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