I agree there is a lack of personal responsibility, but I don't think you've got the best examples there.

I think parents are blamed for badly behaved children, and rightly so, but the parents themselves might not take responsibility for it.

As for medical conditions, I agree that there is often much more that people could do for themselves, especially when it comes to physio. But the problem is that often these conditions that require physio happen to people that just don't have the understanding or the personality that lends itself to being able to take responsibility well. I couldn't blame people for that, it can be really difficult, especially when it hurts or it's upsetting to do the required research.

There's been so much 'nanny state' over the last few years I can see why people have fallen into the trap of thinking that one government service or another should be there to solve their problems.

I work for one of the emergency services. Most shifts involve spending most of my time with people who do not require emergency assistance but just want me to sort their life out. It's definitely got worse over the last few years.

Because if you sign up to the neo liberal philosophy that we are all rational economic actors then poverty, drug addiction, etc, etc can become somebody else's 'fault' for being weak, lazy, stupid etc and not something that the government has to try and do something about.

So we can condemn and judge those who are struggling rather than try to put in place anything that might help.

Like may, o I don't know - provide some help and support for the vulnerable on a nationwide, efficient level? Er, making Amazon, Starbucks etc pay taxes that reflect the profits they make in this country. Make companies pay a living wage, not something so low that it has to be topped up by tax credits.

Well luckily those are going to disappear! That will show those lazy, good for nothings etc, etc.

Or just carry on as we are, with volunteers running food banks etc etc. Thank god they don't respond as 'rational economic actors' as I am sure there are much more economically efficient things they could be doing with their time.

actually i agree my ex is abusive but its not his fault its because thirty years ago his dad abused his mom and he is not ocd (neither is his mom diagnosed with ocd but refers to herself as ocd) but he allows her to visit her stupidity on the children thus ensuring another generation of insanity over food (trying not to out myself here but she has issues equating food with love and virtually force feeds ds when he goes over it makes him ill but shows he loves nanny and daddy!) again this is not there fault its her "ocd" her "anxiety" she won't be honest with the doctors to get help therefore the kids suffer for it (my personal opinion is her husband and family indulge it way too much because she snaps out of it when it suits her or when she isn't indulged so she really doesn't seem like she has genuine issues unless its convenient for her )

same with his stuff he left a year ago won't collect his stuff this is my fault because i have not arranged someone to collect it (his family are supposed to be collecting it) the kids are dirty when they are collected from nursery this is my fault and im neglecting them (when they are at nursery all day and have clean clothing in the bag)

he lost his documents for his car again my fault because they were in his car when we split so of course i should know where he put them

he has supervised contact with the children when the supervisors go on holiday it is his responsibility to arrange cover he does not do this till the last minute and we all end up chasing our tales sorting it out this is everyone else's fault but his

he has bad acid reflux won't take the tablets daily like he is supposed to only takes them when he has a flare up and they don't work so well this is the doctor's fault

actually i still cant divorce him he wont sign the paperwork then he will then he wont then he blames me because we are not divorced yet

what burns me is society still expects me to do things for him even though we are apart im STILL being blamed because i didn't arrange for him to go to parents evening he didn't either the school ended up doing it and im scolded because i didn't arrange it for the poor helpless man

im going to get into trouble of the school photos i told him i needed the money before they were ordered (BEFORE) he has seen the kids three times and not given the money over so im not ordering them for him fuck it ive had enough

A&E deal with these people more, because they can no longer get their GP to see them out of hours. There have always been people who won't take personal responsibility for their behaviour. And others who struggle to ask for help.