Your First Kiss

Your Guide To The All-Important First Kiss

The big moment. It's the end of the evening, and you've had a great time together. Now it's time for the big kiss. So what do you do? How do you do it?

Well, you think to yourself, "I'm just going to grab her by the arms, turn her around and give her this big kiss!" You've seen it in all those romantic movies, the ones where the guy really goes for it and gets the girl. Maybe you've even watched the show Millionaire Matchmaker, where Patti the matchmaker tells the guys to go out, wow the girl and then make out with her at the end of the first date.

Well, that doesn't work in real life because it's not about the kiss. In reality, it's about how you tease her. Women are all about teasing. The more you tease and create anticipation from the beginning, the better it will be for you down the road.

I look at women as giant clitorises. If you know anything about the clit at all, you know that you don't want to just ram your hand down her pants and go for the clit really hard right away because the clit's too sensitive.

What you want to do is massage the clit, you want to work your way around, above, below the clit. You want to take 20, 25 minutes to warm her up before you even get to the clit in the first place. A kiss to a woman is like foreplay, and it can be like magic if you do it right.

The first kiss is always so much fun — maybe even one of the most fun parts of the dating process, as long as you don't get anxious over it.

Now, pay attention because you've got to remember this word: anticipation. If you're on a date and the two of you are having a good time, really hitting it off, she is going to be anticipating that first kiss anyway. You don't need to chase after the kiss.

Personally, I never go in for the kiss until the second date. I want her to go home thinking about the kiss. I want her to wonder what it's like to kiss me in between dates. Then I want her to anticipate the kiss the next time she sees me.

I want her to think, "This guy is going to kiss me soon!" I want to keep her on her toes the whole time, and when I do kiss her, I want to show her who's in complete control.