Rules, Rituals and Protocol

Rituals and protocols can add richness, structure and even a little fun to a D/s relationship. Knowing the difference between the two can help the submissive better understand the desires and intentions of the dominant, and to be more pleasing when performing them.

While this book can be read by a novice submissive I feel that it can overwhelm the inexperienced rather quickly. Everything detailed here does not happen in every relationship. My Master and I have different protocol ideas but the ones in this book are a beautiful dance between the two involved.

While this book can be read by a novice submissive I feel that it can overwhelm the inexperienced rather quickly. Everything detailed here does not happen in every relationship. My Master and I have different protocol ideas but the ones in this book are a beautiful dance between the two involved.

Honestly, if there was one book that everyone who entered into a chat room, online discussion list, much or large gathering had read first it would be this book. I think there would be far more understanding and ability to use appropriate behavior in certain situations.

Honestly, if there was one book that everyone who entered into a chat room, online discussion list, much or large gathering had read first it would be this book. I think there would be far more understanding and ability to use appropriate behavior in certain situations.

A personal protocol helps to organize your life and help you reach your goals. It's built with a checks and balances system so that you stay on track. I would like to encourage you to consider developing some personal protocols of your own.

A personal protocol helps to organize your life and help you reach your goals. It's built with a checks and balances system so that you stay on track. I would like to encourage you to consider developing some personal protocols of your own.

If you've ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed relationships then you haven't broadened your thinking enough. It's not just the full-time "lifestyle" submissives that can benefit from rituals, rules, and protocols in their lives. Submissives that dabble in the bedroom only have a lot they can do to enhance their experience in play and sex with their partner.

If you've ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed relationships then you haven't broadened your thinking enough. It's not just the full-time "lifestyle" submissives that can benefit from rituals, rules, and protocols in their lives. Submissives that dabble in the bedroom only have a lot they can do to enhance their experience in play and sex with their partner.

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

The first time I heard the word protocol when introduced to BDSM it was some special ritualized order of things that can happen in a relationship. It was an unspoken word when I was single. You didn't learn about protocol and no one I knew used a protocol to govern their own development and personal growth.

I'd like to change that. A personal protocol can bring you ahead of the game, no matter where you are in your submissive journey. In this article I'd like to give you a working definition of a personal protocol, how you can develop one whether you are single or in a relationship and what it can do for you.

It's always a good thing to look at your submission from different viewpoints and to reassess why you are in the role that you are. It's how we grow and change. It's how we see what's working and what isn't.

It's always a good thing to look at your submission from different viewpoints and to reassess why you are in the role that you are. It's how we grow and change. It's how we see what's working and what isn't.

Rules, instructions and assignments are things that are given to me by my Dominant for very important reasons. To follow them should bring me the pride and happiness that I feel for him, and remind me that he cares for me. Rules are in place to keep me in line, place my heart and mind in the submissive mindset, and to make sure that I hold myself in his honor.

Rules, instructions and assignments are things that are given to me by my Dominant for very important reasons. To follow them should bring me the pride and happiness that I feel for him, and remind me that he cares for me. Rules are in place to keep me in line, place my heart and mind in the submissive mindset, and to make sure that I hold myself in his honor.

Morning rituals are fantastic ways of setting routine and developing a focusing meditation bright and early in the day. I've had morning rituals off an on throughout my service and they are quite enjoyable. I've not maintained one since I became a stay at home submissive and certainly this would be a good time to recreate one, I think.

Morning rituals are fantastic ways of setting routine and developing a focusing meditation bright and early in the day. I've had morning rituals off an on throughout my service and they are quite enjoyable. I've not maintained one since I became a stay at home submissive and certainly this would be a good time to recreate one, I think.

The pleasure I felt wasn't just sexual it was like a part of my soul was finally being satisfied. It didn't last. After a few months, I started to feel less happy about my protocol. It felt less like bliss and more like a chore. I had lost the attachment to WHY the protocol was in place, to begin with; the reminder of my place in the relationship. The honeymoon period was over. Things got really rocky in our relationship because the effort involved in doing the protocol got more and more difficult for me, and the stress he experienced was just as bad.

The pleasure I felt wasn't just sexual it was like a part of my soul was finally being satisfied. It didn't last. After a few months, I started to feel less happy about my protocol. It felt less like bliss and more like a chore. I had lost the attachment to WHY the protocol was in place, to begin with; the reminder of my place in the relationship. The honeymoon period was over. Things got really rocky in our relationship because the effort involved in doing the protocol got more and more difficult for me, and the stress he experienced was just as bad.

Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where a short and sweet spanking takes place, to a more drawn out session of power and control. Either way their purpose is to maintain the dynamic.

Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where a short and sweet spanking takes place, to a more drawn out session of power and control. Either way their purpose is to maintain the dynamic.

It can be a hand rub, a back rub or a full body massage. The ritual part is that it's done regularly and with reverence to the act. It becomes a special moment in time for you and your partner. You get to absorb yourself in your service and they get to receive a relaxing massage.

It can be a hand rub, a back rub or a full body massage. The ritual part is that it's done regularly and with reverence to the act. It becomes a special moment in time for you and your partner. You get to absorb yourself in your service and they get to receive a relaxing massage.

In this part of Ambrosio's series on Leather protocol and etiquette; appropriate behavior at munches and other gatherings where socializing happens as well as how to handle trolls and other inappropriate behavior.

In this part of Ambrosio's series on Leather protocol and etiquette; appropriate behavior at munches and other gatherings where socializing happens as well as how to handle trolls and other inappropriate behavior.

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio's series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general "vanilla" etiquette are covered.

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio's series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general "vanilla" etiquette are covered.

Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind and re-gaining the D/s world.

Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind and re-gaining the D/s world.

I have worked to gather online and other resources that may help you learn more about some of the more common forms of formal ceremony that submissives gravitate towards, High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony, and Formal Dining.

I have worked to gather online and other resources that may help you learn more about some of the more common forms of formal ceremony that submissives gravitate towards, High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony, and Formal Dining.

It was difficult to find any information about balancing my professional life with my submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, like me, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the professional world.

It was difficult to find any information about balancing my professional life with my submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, like me, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the professional world.

Rituals and protocols can add richness, structure and even a little fun to a D/s relationship. Knowing the difference between the two can help the submissive better understand the desires and intentions of the dominant, and to be more pleasing when performing them.

Rituals and protocols can add richness, structure and even a little fun to a D/s relationship. Knowing the difference between the two can help the submissive better understand the desires and intentions of the dominant, and to be more pleasing when performing them.

A dress protocol is established by a Dominant as the way a submissive is to present themselves for any specific situation. These can be basic grooming habits to very precise details to what to wear to dinner or bed. A lot of times these are the first rules established in a relationship. These can start out as directions for when and what to keep shaved, how to care for your hair, or if you can wear panties or not.

A dress protocol is established by a Dominant as the way a submissive is to present themselves for any specific situation. These can be basic grooming habits to very precise details to what to wear to dinner or bed. A lot of times these are the first rules established in a relationship. These can start out as directions for when and what to keep shaved, how to care for your hair, or if you can wear panties or not.

I had a question sent to me the other day asking for suggestions and strategies that a novice submissive could use to make sure they don't break the rules while they are still learning which sparked this topic for me.

I had a question sent to me the other day asking for suggestions and strategies that a novice submissive could use to make sure they don't break the rules while they are still learning which sparked this topic for me.

I'm a submissive that needs structure. Submissives all around will identify with either discipline, obedience, structure or rules or perhaps more than one. With structure can come rules and that's how my submission runs in our dynamic.

I'm a submissive that needs structure. Submissives all around will identify with either discipline, obedience, structure or rules or perhaps more than one. With structure can come rules and that's how my submission runs in our dynamic.