Thoughts and observations, new ways of thinking to increase wellbeing ,find the humour and fun around us. Creating a dialogue about the experience of having children with ASD and finding ways to increase resilience for us mums!

Thursday, 20 November 2014

Here is my first ever blog. My aim is that my thoughts and experiences will nudge,create,propel, motivate, or stir new creative ways of thinking. Key to sharing ones inner workings is the desire to communicate and connect with a community,to generate a flow of ideas, and find the humour in the every day 'stuff'.
Along side all of that I want to share my observations of the world,which I find both frustrating and perplexing . I guess this could be considered moaning without some deeper reflection,weighing up our complex human condition. The world is also a great mirror to our own 'issues' , our patterns of thinking that limit us. By noticing we can decide whether we want to stay there or break free. There's a song about that ! Hope you find this thought provoking.

So here goes folks.As a single parent with a child on the autistic spectrum I appreciate the challenges they face and how much energy is taken up with addressing the difficulties. Its easy to feel at fault with friends,family and school disagreeing or criticising our approaches. Quite honestly it can be a lonely old business taking years to find support and acknowledgment from professionals and loved ones. Like anything that interrupts our view of the world it can be hard to swallow,denial can assume a place. But actually facing the truth is far less frightening than the thought of it. Coming to terms with difference brings with it a sense of loss and grief but the possibility of positive change,growth and empowerment.
So much focus on the wellbeing of our children and we can forget our own. Isn't it apt to remember the importance of putting on our own breathing apparatus first so we can best see to our child, in the case of an inflight crisis. We mums are not being selfish in taking care of our own physical,mental and emotional health,as perhaps society would judge,but it is absolutely essential to our kids wellbeing. From my own experience , ignoring my needs led only to overwhelm with a slow journey back to mental healthiness. How narrow the line is between stress and breakdown and I believe some of us walk a tight rope,not thinking it may happen to us.
We need each other to support and nurture new ways of being that encourage mindfulness, self love, and build resilience.

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About Me

Without challenging life experiences I would not have explored personal development,and looked toward spirituality for the answers .
I have a long history of working with people and they still fascinate me with
how unique they are.
After many years of searching I found Occupational Therapy , it gave me the
creative platform to work with people, bringing out the best in them.
After a break I've been inspired to return to OT because of my sons diagnosis of autism. Without doubt the biggest learning curve ever.The focus of my work is to motivate,empower and educate in terms of wellbeing for parents of autistic kids and how to manage emotional states. Positive psychology is my main tool for this,which I've studied for 5 years. Our minds are powerful and with a change in perspective they can flourish, allowing greater resilience when times are tough.
Creating community,engagement and having a laugh are what matters!