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Sex and Early Miscarriage

So I found out about my early miscarriage on June 7th. I bled for 10 days shortly thereafter. I am still very emotional and stressed. DH is pressuring me for sex. What do I do? I want o make him happy, but it is the LAST thing on my mind between work stress, health stress etc etc I feel gross and definitely NOT sexy. I don't even want to be bothered. I want to be alone - all the time. Help? Any suggestions?

Does your husband know how you feel? If not I would let him what you told us. You shouldn't feel pressured into it and he should be understanding. You are going through a difficult time and it will take time for you to heal emotionaly and physically.

I find that treating myself usually helps. Like if I sneak out of work an hour early (or ask to leave an hour early) and do something for yourself that you enjoy. Like getting a pedicure, new hair style or a bubble bath with light music and no one around to bother you (unplug the phone and turn off the cell). Just an hour of peace and quiet with no chores helps to refocus a little. You deserve it, even if you feel frumpy it can get you out of the feeling a little.

Yes DH knows...he is ok most days, but then he gets angry. I would get a pedi and stuff if I could afford to....we just bought the used car (which is awesome) bc my lease was up...we didnt put any money down and DH haggled them for 4.5 hrs to get us the best deal possible for financing. The car is definitely therapuetic bc my dad used to drive me around in his convertible when I was a kid....its very freeing. I just feel soooo guilty for not doing the whole &quot;wifely duty&quot; which I was never really good at keeping up with.

Oh I'm sorry for your loss. Though I know how you feel. I've been there. What I found for myself was that I really didn't want to do anything. I started shutting out the people that really cared and loved me. Hubby being one of those, he wanted sex to, when i finally did it, it helped so much. I cried during sex, but afterward hubby and I had a long great conversation about the whole thing.........and then I started to pick my life back up again. Each is there on, but it might not be such a bad thing. Remember it's not your fault or anyone else's it happens........we cope.......we deal.......we pray........and one day our miracle baby will be here. Keep your chin up. It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile:)

I am VERY lucky in that Joe does not pressure me at all. He's very understanding. That being said, I do try to force myself to have sex even when I don't want it, to keep him happy. I'm just afraid that if we only had sex when I wanted to, we'd lose touch. It's the getting started that's hard for me. Once we're &quot;there&quot;, I'm fine. I'm not say this is what you should do, especially if it would really bother you. Of course it would help if your DH was more understanding too. Maybe you could ask him to make the extra effort to REALLY romance you during these times.

I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

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