The Obituary Guide - Resources and Links

There are a number of places where one
can read well-written obituaries and other sources to assist
those writing them on their own. As well, the Internet is always
expanding the
resources available.

Obituaries change in their role and style as society changes. I
remember my grandmother showing me the obituary of her father, who died
in the 19th century in Ireland. She and her sisters were not listed as
surviving members of the family – only the boys were listed
in obituaries at that time. Of course, obituaries are much more
inclusive now. But researchers point out that even in news
obituaries today, women are the subject in only one out of
four.
(Read more.)

Newspapers have always published the obituaries of the rich and famous.
A more
recent trend is to include the lives of ordinary
people as well. Jim Nicholson, a reporter the Philadelphia
Daily News, was one
of those who popularized the common person obituary. In the 1980s, he
started writing feature
obituaries of ordinary people chosen at random. Everyday
people, it turns out, can be written about in an
interesting way. Concluded Nicholson about his style of interviewing:
“There aren’t any boring people, there are just
boring questions.”

Other practitioners include Alana Baranick of the Cleveland
Plain Dealer, Jim
Sheeler of the Rocky Mountain News, and Stephen Miller of the New York
Sun. Those three have co-written a book for other journalists: Life
on the Death Beat.

Lives
Lived in The Globe and Mail profiles the obituaries of
regular
people, written by a friend or relative. Recently Maclean’s
began to feature the obituary of an ordinary person in each issue.
Appearing on the last page of the magazine, it is appropriately titled The
End. A collection of 42 of Jim Sheeler's obituaries
have been published as an interesting book, Obit. (Read the review.)

Reading these professionally written obituaries can be appreciated in
their own right, and can be a learning experience for those looking to
write
their own.

Obituaries continue to evolve. After the September 11
terrorist attacks, the New York Times began to publish Portraits
of
Grief. These short biographical sketches were a way to
remember the
event through the individual victims. After the Virginia Tech shootings
in April, 2007, the Internet social networking site Facebook came to
prominence as the premier way that college students now grieve. (Read
the article "Facebook: A New Way to Mourn?")

How about a video obituary? The New York Times is already doing this.
The day after humor columnist Art Buchwald died on January 17, 2007,
visitors could watch his video
obituary on the newspaper’s
website. The humorist himself was in the video, and - for once - was
not joking when he said, "Hi. I'm Art Buchwald, and I just died!"

A similar tribute was done with Canadian journalist June Callwood. She
recorded an interview
with the CBC's George Stroumboulopoulos just days before she
died.
This an inspiring look at an extraordinary
person. (Watch the interview.)

Newspapers still have the
dominant place as the publishers of obituaries. There isn’t
(at least not yet) an Obituary section in Craigslist,
for example.
Journalist Steve Outing, however, after his frustrations with
conventional
newspaper options following the death of his own father, has suggested
a whole “new business model” for newspapers. These
new
formats would “combine the strengths of print, the
Internet, and
‘citizen journalism.’” (Read the article "Let's Breathe Some New Life Into Obituaries.")

These new models are emerging, and I hope this website can help those
who would like to participate. Newspapers are expanding
their coverage by linking to online partners such as Legacy.com, Remembering.ca,
or Obituaries Today. These are other sources, such as
those provided by funeral homes, that offer people the chance to
send online condolences, and supplement traditional written obituaries
with pictures and videos. Some funeral homes even broadcast services on
the Internet to enable those who can't travel to attend to be able to
view the event.

The Internet is opening up whole new avenues for families and
friends
to remember those who have died. Anyone can do their own
thing, right now.
Free of charge, anyone can set up a blog which could serve as a
remembrance website with an invitation for others to add their
comments. Observations, pictures and videos of a life can be submitted
to social networking sites such as Myspace, Facebook, Flickr,
and YouTube.

Resources and Links:

WEBSITES

Blog of Death
This website features the obituaries of the
famous, as well as links to many other sites about the subject.

Death
Beat "Many journalists view obituary writing as a
dead-end job, even though surveys show obits to be among the most
widely read and enduring stories in the newspaper," says Alana Baranick
about her work.

Eons The website for Baby Boomers. In the Obits section, you can read the obituaries of the famous, place an alert to
be notified when someone you are interested in dies, create a tribute
to a loved one who has died (including a search of archives going back
to 1937), and check out other resources.

Obit
Page "The lure of the obituary
both as history and as literary art form" is the focus here. Carolyn
Gilbert also
organizes an association and annual journalists conference on obituary writing.
WRITING SERVICES

The
Obituarian This website offers a professional
obituary writing
service.

Obituary
Writers Larken Bradley is the obituary writer for a
weekly
newspaper in California and offers a professional obituary writing
service.

Specialty
Writer Christine Moffa offers a specialty writing
service for personalized obituaries, life stories, and biographies.