The Divorce Toolbox: How to Prepare for Your Divorce

May 20, 2018

Lori Hulbert

If your marriage is on the rocks, chances are, you’ve considered divorce as a solution. The good news is that you are aware of the changes coming your way, and have enough time to plan ahead. With that in mind, here are five ways you can prepare your divorce toolbox.

Track Your Finances

You may not want to think about it right now, but it would be ill-advised not to consider your finances in the event of an upcoming divorce. Considering that sharing of assets is the main agenda in most divorces, burying your head in the sand right now can prove to be costly later.

The first thing you should do is to start tracking your household income and expenses, if you have not been doing this already. This will come in handy when deciding how to divide debts and assets, and whether to award child or spousal support. Be sure to cover everything you spend your money on, including home maintenance, clothing, food, entertainment, child care, transportation, and so on.

Prepare Your Children

Children are arguably the most affected parties in a divorce. Some people actually put off getting out of a difficult marriage just to protect their kids from the aftermath. Unfortunately, staying in a toxic relationship is not the healthier alternative, and it is often better to separate than to put on a show for your children. If you are sure that a divorce is inevitable, the best thing you can do is to prepare them emotionally for the upcoming changes. Acknowledge their feelings about the separation, and let them know that you understand what they are going through.

Get Support

This is the best time to review your lifestyle and gather the necessary support for your upcoming divorce. You may not feel it right now, but a divorce can really take a toll on your physical and emotional health, especially if you have been married for a long time. You will need the support of those around you during this time. It is also a good idea to consider looking for a job if you stayed at home to take care of the kids while your spouse worked. This will not only ensure that you do not depend primarily on your spouse for financial provision, but it will also help to keep you distracted during this difficult time.

Consult an Attorney

A qualified Colorado family law attorney can be a valuable source of information in an upcoming divorce. The law is complex and even something that looks simple can become confusing for someone who does not know how to navigate the legal system. The idea is to find a professional who can settle your case as quickly as possible, or fight for you in court if necessary.

Talk to a Therapist

While you and your partner may have already decided that a divorce is the best option, it is still important to consult a trusted professional such as a therapist or marriage counselor. This is a huge change in your life, and it is always best to find help on how to deal with the new adjustments. A professional can help you find an amicable way to communicate with your spouse during this transition period; determine the best approach to tell your kids, friends, and family about the news; and prepare you for the inevitable divorce stress.

At Hulbert & Associates, our experienced attorneys can walk you through the state’s divorce process and defend your case. Call us today at 925-215-1388.

Together the attorneys of the firm have nearly 30 years of experience in the fields of estate planning, estate and trust administration, estate and trust litigation, guardianships and conservatorships and civil litigation.