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The word enemy, conjures up a picture in the mind; of an adversary, protagonist or foe who means to do us harm. Or, it is someone to whom we hold feelings of great dislike and animosity towards. When someone thinks about what the word ‘enemy’ means to them; most people would associate it with another person or persons, in their environment. Someone exterior to themselves. Just for a moment, I would like you to think about the enemy within!

What, or who is the enemy within I hear you cry! I believe, that the enemy within is that small persistent, insidious voice that fills your head all day long with thoughts of self doubt; the one who tells you that you are not good enough, pretty enough, clever enough to succeed in your goals and aspirations. The enemy within, is ‘that’ inner voice, people listen to, which causes them to self sabotage themselves before they have even begun. Be it in their personal relationships, work environment or desire to self improve through further education or going for that job promotion at work. Excessive self-criticism tends to backfire, because it leads us to focus on our so-called failures instead of the small ways that we could have improved.

It is always a terrible thing when someone we love dies; it can be particularly hard if the death was sudden, or unexpected; perhaps there were unresolved issues between you and the other person, or maybe you feel upset because you didn’t get the chance to say goodbye. All of these feelings are perfectly normal and you shouldn’t feel bad for wanting to be left alone, so you can grieve properly.

Bereavement affects people in many different ways, yet there is a process known as the five stages of grief that all people experience. The bereaved person will go through all of these stages in the same order, yet they may spend different amounts of time in each stage. Some people get stuck in the first stage and need help from a counsellor or a psychic medium, before they are able to move on. The five stages, in order, are: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It may take one person a couple of months to deal with their grief and another person may feel like they’ll never get over it. It all depends on the relationship between the bereaved person and the deceased.