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If you dragged your kids to church every week and they just can't stand going....

Would you really think that there would be a point when they'd say,"thanks ma for taking me every week against my will" or do you think that a church would be the LAST place they'd want to go as an adult?
Obviously they're not getting what you intended out of it.
I think this is turning the kids against religion

I was dragged to Catholic Church every single Sunday. If my brother and I moved, squirmed, etc...we were spanked with a belt. I tried to take my kids as an adult, but hated every moment of it, as did they. The last straw came when a Nun made a big deal out of my daughter putting a piece of paper in a student's desk. She wanted my daughter to go in and publicly apologize to the student... For a freakin piece of paper? Notta. That was the end of the Catholic Church for us.

I suppose it depends on how it's handled. We as parents force our kids to go to the Dr. & the Dentist too. Does that mean they won't continue going when the decision becomes their own? That would depend on how much they care about their well-being. (going to Church deals with your spiritual well-being)

I was bribed and made to go as I got older and did not want to go anymore- I still had to though as long as I lived in my parent's house. I am now an atheist who has not been in a church for anything but a wedding or funeral in over 20 yrs now.
I hated that they made me go even though I no longer believed...I hate that they think I will surely end up in Hell for not going anymore

*I will say that not believing anymore is not just because of being forced to go- there were other reasons for that, but- it didn't help their cause either

I try to avoid the whole church/religion issue with them and have for years...

i dont think children should be influenced in any way when it comes to religion, personally. educated about, yes of course. but i find the idea of forcing them to go to church against their will deplorable.