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Leather Bear Tails is about the leather journey of my slave and I. It deals with all parts of the leather and BDSM experience from safety to predators, to skills, and all of the lovely mistakes that she and I make along the way!!
Also!! I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it can be found for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+usI am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information! The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:

aelmailing@gmail.com

If you are interested in active online community please find:

Fetlife.com

Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Friday, July 29, 2016

Identity is not something that you can graduate into

How amazing would
it be if someone else could just hand out your identity? You would not have to struggle,
think, or otherwise work for who you are.It would just be there. Bam-- signed and sealed.If ever you had any doubt about who you are,
or if someone else had doubt about who you are, you could just show them your
papers.Master, slave, submissive, brat,
masochist. Daddy, Dome, or Service Top.Even
have it notarized to erase any doubt.

How easy
would that be?

Next time
someone says “You’re not a ….”You could
just show them your card.It says right
here “The International Board of BDSM certifies that I am a…”Then they would look
at the card reverently and say “well yes, I must have been mistaken.”

Next time
you doubted your abilities, double thinking who you are, and what you have to
offer you can pull out your card and remind yourself that you are certified.

Here is the
thing with that, well couple of things really.

The first being
- what is given can also be taken away.So
let’s say the Board of yucky yuck decided that you are a Master. Card carrying,
certified, trained, and the whole bit.Then
one they change, or nothing changes and they decide – nope – you aren’t a
Master anymore. New rules, so sorry, surrender your card. So where does that leave you?

Shamefully
enough, there are camps out there that people pay for that will in essence
certify a person as a Master.Now yours
truly here is already out of the running because I can afford to go. So first
you have to able to afford to go.Then you
have to pass the qualifiers that someone else made up that suits them for
Mastery, and then you get a cap.You
graduate, so to speak.

Now I am not
opposed to these scamps, they create dialogue, they open ideas, and some teach
skill and insight. Where my problem is has to do with the idea that you can
graduate into an identity.

The same for
slave camps, or submissive camps.You
take the course, you pass the tests, hopefully (cause you paid for the course
instead of paying the rent) and WHOOLA! The work is over.You are certified.

What if-
just spit balling here- what if you don’t agree with what is being taught?What if you don’t fit into the group by
appearance, physical ability/disability, or financial limitations? What if you
can’t take their teachings and make them apply to your life?What if you pass the course, become a
certified Master or slave then really find out you are neither one of those
things.

I like
classes. I love camps. But I think that identity is much more complex then 5
days following someone elses path. I think that the beauty of BDSM is that we have to fight for who we are. We have to think about, ponder, and experience BDSM. You have to figure out where BDSM fits in your life as your life changes and grows. And at the same time, as social beings, who we are is reflected in the community around us.

I would have
loved to have been given a certificate that says “Master” on it.So that way, every time I was questioned, or
I was struggling I could just remind myself that someone says I am a Master, so
it must be. It would have made my life so much easier.

But it would
have taken from me was well. I am not a Master because someone else says I
am.I am a Master because I say I am. My
slave is not a slave because say she is; she is slave because she says she
is.And no one can take these things
from us because we have earned them within ourselves.

Identity is not something that you can graduate into, it is something that you have to grow into with insight and time.

About Me

I am a Master identified lesbian. My slave and I have been together in in a 24/7 dynamic for 14years. This shows how patient she really is... I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us." It is available here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
I love discussing M/s in real life terms, not just the ones put out there by unrealistic, holier then thou, better then everyone people. We are real people living a real life, it involves mistakes, miscommunication, undone chores, and the experiment gone wrong. ie... playing with emergency candle wax. And neither I nor she will put out there that our flawed lives are any better then anyone else's!!!