Porn Made By Women For Women

I found this post on Jezebel about what men and women look at when they watch porn and how it might not really be what you expect. It was an interesting post, for sure. However, what ended up being more interesting to me were the comments. There are apparently a lot of people who think that there is no porn out there for them. The comments consisted of people complaining about the ugly men, fake breasted women with too much makeup, and how lesbian porn especially is just the absolute worst. Then they went on and on about how they wish there was porn for them. Porn that is made for women, by women.

In response to that I have to say that these people obviously spend absolutely no time looking because these days porn made for and by women is becoming more and more prevalent and stealing more and more of the sales away from porn made by men. What’s even better is that both men and women are buying more women-made porn. A lot of people, it seems, really want to watch porn where the woman enjoys herself.

The problem is that people tend to only look at mainstream porn. To me, this is like saying that you think you’d like a burger, but no one makes burgers the way you like because you’ve only had fast food chain burgers. There are plenty of other burgers out there that are probably made exactly like you would like them, but you have to actually look for them instead of hoping they’ll come to you.

To bring this comparison entirely too far, you could also say that there is an assumption of what kind of burger a woman would want to eat, but you’d be wrong. You may think that all women want is a veggie burger because they’re all trying to watch their weight, but that just isn’t the case. Some women are going to want a juicy medium rare beef burger with a fried egg, cheddar cheese, onion strings, and bacon. Others will want a turkey burger with brie and cranberries. The point being that different women want different things. Some women are going to say that what they don’t like about mainstream porn is the degradation, but others will say that they love degradation in the bedroom, but maybe the kind they find in mainstream porn just doesn’t feel right. The good news is that women porn directors realize this because they are often working directly from their own fantasies or the fantasies of their actresses.

In the beginning there were directors like Candida Royalle who played a bit more to what the mainstream woman may want. Her films have a plot, attractive men and women, real bodies, no genital closeups, no cumshots, and you can always see the woman having an orgasm. These movies can be great for a lot of women, but not for all women.

In the newer generation of female film directors we see different types of sexuality being expressed. Kimberly Kane has a raw sexuality to her that feels dirty and hot at the same time. Madison Young brings art, intelligence, and BDSM to the table in every one of her films. Tristan Taormino brings strong female sexuality into the mainstream. Camille Crimson (link NSFW) shows that there is indeed beauty in a blowjob. Shine Louise Houston does queer porn to its fullest and blows all of those fake lesbian flicks out of the water.

There is really a lot to choose from and some of it is going to be so hot that you can’t resist touching yourself while you watch it and others are going to leave you high and dry. But that does not mean you shouldn’t search. Here are a few places you can start (all links NSFW):

Babeland or any other sex positive feminist run sex shop is going to trudge through all the porn to bring you only the best stuff that you are more likely to enjoy.

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I was reading the comments to that post at Jezebel and there was this one that had a photo called “Next Door Nikki and the Porn Frog”. I just had to look it up and I found out that stuffed animals in erotic photos cause people to spend years looking for them. The story of the quest for the Porn Frog is at this link.

Comments galore from a guy:
1) Even being on myprofessor is NSFW.
2) Madison Young is up there with the hottest redheads on the planet.
3) I never buy porn nor am I am member of a porn site because there are so many free photos sets and movies on the Net that it could keep a person busy forever.
4) Some females I know from blogging ONLY can orgasm if the movie is dirty, nasty and graphic. Plot is meaningless to them. Others like the ones that are more sweet, sensitive and with a story.
5) I hate how in mens porn, the guy HAS to run the gal through every position ever made. Every two minutes, the guy changes the position. Thus, if you find some position or camera angle that looks incredibly hot that will make you orgasm, you only have about 2 minutes before it all changes to something much less interesting. This is why ‘play in loopback mode’ was created. Loopback mode is essential.
6) I tend to look at the female faces. Specifically, female face giving oral, giving deepthroat, receiving a facial. I do also enjoy the close up of genitals slapping together. Sometimes, I like the sex to look sweet, beautiful and cooperative. Other times I like it to be ugly and dungeon-y.
7) I don’t like a plot in porn because I like to make up the plot. How they met. How the sex occurred. What they are thinking that excites them or that magnified the difference between masculine and feminine.
8) ‘Ass to mouth’ grosses me out and I wish they would just stop. It isn’t sexy at all. Also, I don’t know why there is so much damn anal. For me, anal should be an occasional treat, not the main event every single time.
9) In general, men need to stop talking so much during the sex. Sometimes, the dorkiest, geekiest stuff blah, blah, blahs out of their mouth and I have to mute the sound, which means that I can’t hear the females sex noises.
10) I HATE the boob job. Hate it. There are so many females who start out in porn with smaller breasts that fit their body type. But like a year later, they have these giant bowling balls on their tiny frame. The second that happens, it kills the particular starlets appeal to me.
11) Met-Art is OUTSTANDING for female nudes.

Debby Herbenick

Thanks for sharing these excellent resources for a topic that comes up all the time!

My Sex Professor

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