Friday, March 18, 2016

101 Profiling: Author Terri Horman Article

In advanced analysis we profile a subject (author) based upon Statement Analysis. This article presents as an easier sample from which to work.

Here, the title should be concluded as a 'priority' for the subject. She wants the world to know that this "perspective" is from a "custodial step mother", which is her priority.

What does this mean to the analyst?

It means that the death of Kyron Horman is not the subject's priority.

It means that justice for Kyron is not the subject's priority.

The analyst/reader should be acutely aware of the subject's personal projection.

*What do the words chosen by the author tell you about the author?

In profiling, we seek 4 specifics:

a. Background

b. Experiences

c. Priority

d. Personality

What do you see within the words that reveal's the author?

To make the exercise easier, I have highlighted via underlining several of the key words in Statement Analysis in which you should:

a. cite principle first,

b. ask questions and make observations second

This, as it progresses through the article, should help a profile emerge naturally. Let the subject's own words persuade you.

You should also measure the statement. This helps clarify priority.

How many words are dedicated to Kyron?

How many words are dedicated to Terri Horman?

How many words are dedicated to the author, herself?

Is there a disparity that emerges?

What might this suggest?

Note any change of language. "Mother" v "mom" and the differences.

Can the author see the truth?

What is the purpose of the article?

What do you know about the author's personality? The next question helps you develop this theme:

Would you trust the author as a mother? Why or why not?

As to the case itself, Statement Analysis of Terri Horman is "Deception Indicated" about the disappearance of Kyron Horman. Later, we learned that Terri Horman failed her polygraph, lawyered up, and has consistently refused to assist in locating Kyron.

Please keep in mind that profiling is subjective and should not have the same definitive language or imperative that Statement Analysis often does.

Terri Horman: A Custodial Step-Mothers Perspective

The face of little Kyron Hormon is unforgettable. The darling bespectacled little boy with the bright eyes and big grin…

The nation was riveted and horrified when he went missing from his elementary school in a Portland, Oregon suburb on June 4, 2010. Before the end of the day, the umbrella of suspicion was cast upon Terri Horman, his “step mother”…

Six years later, she has not been named a person of interest. She has not been named a suspect. She has not been charged or arrested with anything, in connection with Kryon’s disappearance and yet, according to a majority of the America, they just know she is “guilty” of “doing something to Kyron”.

Why? Well, because she was “the step-mother” of course!

It’s not a new thing. The specter of the “evil” or “wicked” step-mother is as old as fairy tales themselves.

By the time American children are are 3-years-old, they have all heard the stories about the evil step mom and the ugly step sisters that mistreated Cinderella, and the Wicked Queen who tried to poison her step daughter, Snow White, and have a huntsman cut out her heart and bring it to her in a box. Indeed, thanks to Grimm Fairy Tales and Walt Disney, the stepmother is the source of all things negative, evil, and wrong in a family, before she is ever apart of the family. She is in a loosing position before she even becomes a step mother.

Speaking from personal experience, being a step-mother is a thankless position. It is one of the most mentally depleting and emotionally un-rewarding positions many women find themselves in. Including, yours truly.

As step-mothers, we do it all. We raise them. We care for them. We provide for them. We clean up after them. We taxi them from this sporting event and that birthday party. We pay for their day care. We pay for their school clothes and other things they want and need. We are the free built-in baby sitter that both biological parents enjoy taking for granted. Often times, some of us even work extra hours and our own biological children go with out things, to help pay child support to the custodial parent of a kid that isn’t even ours. And while we are doing all that being a parent involves, as we are so often reminded that they are not “ours”.

We do anything and everything the bio-parents, often times, don’t do, should do, wont do, and/or are too lazy to do. We don’t just pick up both bio parents “slack”, often times, we find ourselves doing the parenting job of both the bio mother and the bio father.

And, yet, no matter what we do or how much of ourselves, our time, our finances, our mental and emotional reserves we give to our step children and their bio parents, we are still the outsider…

We are the adult who parents them and often times raises them, and yet, we are not viewed as their parent. We have no say so over anything having to do with our step-children. We have no rights to them or over them in a court of law. We are the parent that society, the bio family, the school system expects to bear the burden of all the parental responsibility and obligations with none of the rights or respect that goes with the parenting role.

Rather, we are “just the step mom”…We are not “the real mom”…

And it seems no matter what we do right or how much of our everything we give, society and sometimes even our own family and friends, cast us into the role of the “evil one”. If we make a decision or dish out a grounding or correction to one of our bio kids, no one bats an eye. But, if we dish out that same correction or grounding to our step-child, you better believe, those around us are perched in their “behind the back arm chair” talking about how many apples we poisoned to feed our poor, innocent, waif of a step-kid that week. And the most judgemental of all are those who have never been step parents.

It doesn’t matter that perhaps the step-kid is a spoiled, malicious, unbearable brat who is allowed, by their bio parents, to make our household, our lives, our marriage, our own children, and our family absolutely miserable. It doesn’t matter if one or both of the bio parents are negligent and lazy when it comes to taking responsibility for and disciplining their own child. It doesn’t matter if the step-kid is allowed to behave in all manners disgusting and atrocious by their bio parents…

If something goes wrong in the family, the step mother is always the most convenient and used scapegoat. If something is wrong in the family, it is always, the step mothers fault.

Terri Moulton Horman found herself in a horrific place when Kyron disappeared. After all, she is the one who dropped him off at school…Even though, other children claimed to have seen him between the time Terri left him at the school and the time he went missing she is still, often times, reported to be “the last person who saw him”…

Where were Kryron’s biological parents that day? His father Kaine was at work in Portland. And his “mom”, Desiree, was off living her non-custodial parenting life three hours away in Medford.

Of course Terri was the last parent to see him, after all, someone had to make sure that Kyron and his science project on the Red Eyed Tree Frog made it to the science fair at his elementary school that morning and that responsibility and obligation fell upon his “step mom”, Terri Horman, just like every mothering obligation and responsibility involving Kryron had, for practically his entire life.

For a long time, it seemed almost everyday, we saw his “mom” , Desiree Young, running her mouth about Terri, spreading rumors and falsehoods about Terri and Kaine, blaming both Kaine and Terri for the disappearance of her son. In fact, if you can stomach listening to Desiree long enough, it quickly becomes clear that according to her, everything is Kaine’s fault or Terri’s fault. One thing is for sure, according to the plain of reality Desiree Young lives on, nothing is her fault or her responsibility. In fact, she is so busy throwing herself into the spotlight playing “the victim”, one would think that she has almost forgotten that this is about her son, who is the victim.

The media and Desiree sympathizers constantly tout her as “Kyron’s mom”. Yet the truth of the matter is that if anyone was his “mom”, it was Terri Horman, NOT Desiree Young. Yes, Desiree Young gave birth to Kyron, but Terry Horman was his “mom”…

Kaine and Desiree were split and divorce by the time Kyron was born on September 9, 2002. Terri Horman was in his life and a major part of his life from three days old. She helped raise Kyron as an infant and when he was barely two years old, she became his “mom” full-time when Desiree handed primary custody of him over to Kaine and therefore, Terri. It was right after Kaine was handed custody of Kyron, that Terri gave up her full-time job, to move into Kaine’s home to be there for Kyron. From the time Kyron was two, until he disappeared five years later, it was Terri who raised him, mothered him, took care of him, devoted all her time to him, volunteered as coaches for his sporting events, volunteered every week at his school, helped him with his home work, took care of him when he was sick, and was there for him every single day.

Desiree,on the other hand, gave up nothing for Kyron, and saw Kyron maybe two weekends out of the month. Usually, only one weekend out of the month. Whether or not she paid child support for Kyron, I do not know…However, it would not surprise me to find out that she didn’t.

Sure, Desiree and her supporters, will tell you and have told the world through the media that the reason she turned over primary custody of Kyron is due to a “kidney ailment” that she went to Canada to receive treatment for. She was gone receiving treatment for the supposed “life threatening kidney ailment” for a month. She then returned to Oregon, moving to Medford and in with her parents “to get on her feet”. One thing is for sure, she eventually became “well enough” to get re-married and build a new life for herself in Medford. However, in five years, it seems that she never did get “well enough” or “on her feet enough” to move back to Portland to be a present and active “mom” to her only son and only child, Kyron. Nope, she stayed in Medford three hours away from him and left all the being present and active “mom” stuff to Terri Horman.

Over the past six years since Kryron has been gone, Desiree has spear-headed a smear and hate campaign and nation wide witch hunt against Terri Horman…Everytime I see her on Tv, running her mouth, spreading rumors, and insinuations about Terri Horman, I always find myself curious what we would find out about Desiree and her “kidney ailment” if the public and the media were to put her and her life under a micro-scope as she has made sure the media and the public has done to Terri. In fact, Desiree seems far more hell-bent on continuing her hate campaign and witch hunt against Terri Horman then she does with finding their son.

Speaking of finding their son…Where has Kaine Horman been? He certainly doesn’t seem to be involved in any searches, support organizations, or other community efforts to find his son. He kinda stuck around in the media long enough to implicate Terri Horman, take custody of her daughter from her, and then he disappeared off to find another woman to move into his house to raise his daughter for him, I have no doubt.

In fact, I think it’s important to point out that Kaine has remained silent and un-involved in efforts to find his son since he refused to allow law enforcement and searchers to bring scent dogs onto his property.

Now, why would any parent refuse to allow scent dogs on their property to search of their missing son?

Why would a parent suddenly fall silent and inactive in the search for their missing son when authorities and searchers want to come onto his property to search for his missing son?

And he calls Terri Horman uncooperative and silent?

Kinda leaves a person wondering what Mr. Horman might have on his property that he doesn’t want scent dogs to find…

Kyron has now been missing for six years….They are no closer to discovering where he is or what happened to him then they were when he disappeared..

Perhaps….

Just perhaps..

Six Years later, it’s time to consider…

The reason little Kyron has not been found and no one has been charged in connection to his disappearance is because the scape goat they have hell-bent on blaming for what happened to their son, isn’t the person responsible for his disappearance.

Maybe, just maybe, Desiree and Kaine, should stop holding the step mom responsible for the fate, well being, and whereabouts of their son…

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I'm a full time step-mom since my son has been 4. He is now 12. Bio "mom" zero in the picture for 10 years. I can appreciate the gist of the article. I have no bio kids of my own. I love my little guy with all my heart. And there were only so many times I could be told "your just the step-mom" before my heart ached. Can't others see that even though I didn't give birth to him I don't love him just as someone else loves their bio kid? I have asked others, is that what you say to people that have adopted? Do you tell them "well, you're not their 'real' mom/dad". This article aside, please be sensitive to step-parents feelings and remember they are parents too! Just like you might be :) thanks for letting me put my 2 cents worth in.

The science project was supposed to be there the day before, not that morning. As I understand it the project was at the school the day before when it was supposed to be there. The project looked like Terri, or her school teacher mother did it, no seven year old boy did that by himself. Poor Terri. Sent away her older son, tried to blame Kaine. Son James says his mother sent him away. Terri has made NO EFFORT to see her birth daughter, none! What does that tell us? Poor Terri, she tries and tries, and nothing ever goes her way.......

The writer of this article is very bitter. She doesn't talk about loving her step-kid, at all, look at all the negative descriptive language she uses: "disgusting,"brat," even using "malicious." I think the author resented her step-kid and is very bitter. In attempting to defend the step-mom of a missing boy, she leaks all over the place her anger toward her own step-kid and her own experience of being a step-mom,a "position" she hated.Am I wrong, Peter?

I am wondering if Terri herself wrote this. Or her bff. The author is a stepmom. She feels put upon. She's 35-45, with a little education at a college but no degree. She feels unappreciated. Calls the step kid horrible names. I would not want her in my child's life.

I think the writer of this is a female and a step-mother with her own biological kids. I feel she is probably college educated but has been a stay at home mom for a while. Maybe taking an odd part time job to help with family finances that she thinks is beneath her. I think her priority in writing this is to display how hard the life of a stepmother is, despite all the good they do they have no rights and everyone assumes they are evil. No one appreciates all the sacrifices they have made to take care of a child that isn't even theirs. I feel this person is a friend of Terri or is Terri herself. She knows a lot about Terri's day to day activities. The writer is trying to convince us that Terri is only thought as a suspect because she is not the biological mother of Kyron. Not that the actions or behavior of Terri has brought suspicion onto herself. This person is also trying to shift blame onto the biological parents of Kyron.

The author is very bitter about being a step mom.All through it is how much she has done, how much she has spent both in time and money.It is a complaint about doing everything and not being thanked, being taken for granted, giving out and not receiving anything in return.

What caught my eye in particular and i rate as concerning is And it seems no matter what we do right or how much of our everything we give, society and sometimes even our own family and friends, cast us into the role of the “evil one”. If we make a decision or dish out a grounding or correction to one of our bio kids, no one bats an eye. But, if we dish out that same correction or grounding to our step-child, you better believe, those around us are perched in their “behind the back arm chair” talking about how many apples we poisoned to feed our poor, innocent, waif of a step-kid that week.

specifically

how many apples we poisoned to feed our poor, innocent, waif of a step-kid that week.

What also stands out is

the step-kid is a spoiled, malicious, unbearable brat who is allowed, by their bio parents, to make our household, our lives, our marriage, our own children, and our family absolutely miserable.

The author really has it in for step children.it is as if everything that is wrong in the marriage can be blamed on the step child, closely followed by the non custodial parent, and then the custodial parent.

This is one serious pissed off adult venting.There is a lot of use of the pronoun WE which indicates unity and shared co-operation.

This could be written by someone known to terri, i suspect though it is she who has written it and is aligning herself to what she believes and has heard or read about step parents.

The first part of the text introduces Kyron

he is described as The face of little Kyron Hormon is unforgettable. The darling bespectacled little boy with the bright eyes and big grin…Even here i sense sarcasm, it is focused on solely on his looks, pretty much the same you see in the beginning of a children's book.

It then says the world was riveted and horrified when he went missing, as if, if he had not been a darling little boy with the bright eyes and big grin the world would not have been interested.

From that point on, the author is scathing in regard to how step parents are regarded and treated.The vitriol is clear and unambiguous.It is almost stating that Kyron vanished because he was a spoiled brat, he was ungrateful, his dad was ungrateful and the bio mother was lazy, greedy, selfish and hateful.

This leads me to wonder if Kyron was killed firstly out of her hatred for him, his perceived ungratefulness, his being a brat and spoiled.Secondly his death was payback for perceived slights by his father, especially over that of their own daughter.Finally it was a way to get back at his bio mom.

You couldn't and wouldn't make the effort to see him, i did all the work, well now you don't have to concern yourself as you will never see him again.

The author is raging, she has a temper, she has grievances real and perceived.She feels used and abused, a servant even.She compares herself to the step mothers in the stories, women who usually have high social standing or thought a lot about themselves.In most of the stories the child victim is a girl who ends up overcoming her background and having a happy ending.

She misspells Kyron's name two different ways; she spells stepmother three different ways (stepmother, step-mother, step mother); she splits one word into two even when it changes the context; she shoves two words together (everytime vs. every time); she asks the same rhetorical questions in the same strange wording that Terri posted myriad times early on before her attorneys stifled her.

Terri also scatters random quotation marks throughout her writing when she isn't quoting anyone; uses an elipses dozens of times where no content is missing; eliminates apostrophes from possessive words and strangely places them in plural words.

Terri is so angry and defensive she can't even express herself coherently. She mixes up her thoughts, starting out attempting to make a point then slipping in side digs at Kaine and Desiree.

She frequently seems to forget she's supposed to be an outsider writing about Terri and starts relaying Kyron anecdotes as if she experienced them herself, only to veer back into supposedly objective perspective.

This is every bit as ludicrous and cluelessly unaware as Patsy Ramsey's ridiculous fake ransom note, and shows Terri's entitlement, arrogance and angry contempt are every bit as strong as were Patsy's.

Did you get a sense that the author was writing to glean sympathies from step mothers?

March 18, 2016 at 3:01 PM

My answer: I don't know if that was the intended goal of the author or not. Or if it was to use societies traditional point of view of "The specter of the “evil” or “wicked” step-mother" to further her cause for Terri. Being a step-mom I am sensitive when other step parents who are truly deserving aren't given a fair shake by others.

I had to take a gag break. What a fairy tale! So many half-truths and omitted facts and I have only read about half of it. She makes Desiree out to be an uncaring mom, instead of a mother who carried a child in spite of her husband leaving her for Terri. Then, she gave temporary custody to Kaine because she had cancer and physically could not care for an infant. When she was declared cancer-free Kaine refused to let her have Kyron back. And you bet Terri was right there to quit her job and move in with Kaine. They were lovers and what better way to get the guy to marry you than to move so she could "take care" of Kyron.

The writer (who I suspect is Terri herself at this point) also failed to mention expressing her dislike of Kyron and blaming him for Kaine and her troubles (it couldn't be because they were cheaters and cheaters are never happy once reality sets in).

Okay, enough of my rant. I'll go have a glass of wine and try to finish reading.

I just went back and read some of the comments and I agree with your comments. I haven't finished reading, but what I have read is full of bitterness, resentment, exaggeration, and one-sided and misleading information.

It screams to me the author is someone who feels accused of something horrible and wants to sway opinion. The person has a horrible opinion of bio parents and uses strong qualifiers that are extremely exaggerated such as always. Nothing is "always" expecially when talking about the interactions of a group of people.

Sour grapes comes to mind. I wonder if it was co-authored. The first paragraph about Kyron seems different (tone and writing style). I definately believe Terri is a major contributor. If someone else wrote just the first half that I have read, it would have to be someone in the same situation as Terri. I think custodial step-mom's do get some flack, but more so from tweens and teens than 7-year olds who have been raised by that person.

If the step-mom was hated by a child she had raised from birth, there is a reason and I think that reason could be the same reason the author of this letter alleges that even friends and family cast her in the role as the "evil" step-mom.

I could see Terri's mother being a contributor to the article based on my observations of writing style and lack of venom, but I feel the hatred coming through on much of the article. A hatred that you just can convey with second-hand knowledge.

Im not analyzing this. There is nothing to analyze: it's a bitter step- mom. How about analyzing Kaine, a very intelligent sociopathic narcissist whose behavioral patterns indicate he most likely "kidnapped" Kyron, framing Terri, something this group of analyzers has failed to understand is integral to the sociopath's plans...the ability to convincingly frame others.

If we make a decision or dish out a grounding or correction to one of our bio kids, no one bats an eye. But, if we dish out that same correction or grounding to our step-child, you better believe, those around us are perched in their “behind the back arm chair” talking about how many apples we poisoned to feed our poor, innocent, waif of a step-kid that week.

Something that caught my attention is that for bio kids grounding was listed first, and for step-child (not step children, nor step kids) that correction comes before grounding.

A waif (from the Old French guaif, "stray beast")[1] is a living creature removed, by hardship, loss or other helpless circumstance, from its original surroundings. The most common usage of the word is to designate a homeless, forsaken or orphaned child, or someone whose appearance is evocative of the same.

"the step-kid is a spoiled, malicious, unbearable brat who is allowed, by their bio parents, to make our household, our lives, our marriage, our own children, and our family absolutely miserable."

I'm guessing it was written by a step-parent who really can't stand their step-kid. I notice "the step-kid" is separate from "our own children." "Kid" vs. "children" and "the" vs. "our own" reflect a vast emotional distance.

You're spot on regarding the sarcasm. The second sentence nearly drips with it and she quickly proceeds to essentially rip the child to shreds throughout the piece. I sense jealousy also, that the child is so cute, sweet, innocent that he garners attention from others- taking attention from her. His very presence upstages her. Per Peter, she's seriously disparaging the victim = Red flag.

This isn't someone who merely dislikes her step-child; this woman harbors deep seated resentment, anger, and hatred for her step-child. She openly vilifies the step-child. This is someone who's spent a lot of time, energy, and emotion begrudging the child and scapegoating said child for everything wrong in her personal and marital life.

This woman is immature, narcisstic, manipulative, and self-centered, and dangerous. She plays the part of loving step-mom when others are present to make herself look good (as evidenced by "all she does for the child" while harboring increasing resentment and hatred). Publicly she's a stage-worthy stepmom; privately the child is in imminent danger of being abused. She attributes not one single positive, redeeming value to the child- she has no attachment to the child (although she goes to great lengths to feign such in social situations to impress/manipulate others). The article is all abut her and how much she's sacrificed- martyr syndrome (common in narcissists). She's Jekyll and Hyde.

The author has a bad marriage, given the amount of venom directed at the bio-mom and the bio-dad. The underlying tone is "After all I've done for you..." toward both biological parents. with such deep resentment and barely contained rage (her language describing the child), her spouse has to know there are serious issues- IMO. If he's the driven, high-achieving sort, he'll focus his energy into promotions at work/keeping up appearances of being a model family. His ego won't allow otherwise.

In context of a missing, presumed dead stepson, the author seems to be covertly justifying the "disappearing/harming/killing" of a stepchild. It's almost as if she's saying "This is why it happened. Can you blame the poor stepmom? Look at how they treated her." Scary.

Note To Good Step-Parents everywhere: It's not an easy job to parent someone else's child, particularly if the child doesn't accept you. It takes a special kind of person, with a lot of maturity and patience to walk that road. Family Counseling before, during, and throughout is a good thing. Blended families take a lot of commitment and hard work from the parent and the step-parent. It's a lot wiser for everyone going in with eyes wide open.

Tania Cardogan @ 5:57 PM above- Very perceptive observation regarding the author and the stepmothers being people of high position, influence, intelligence, and authority. Hmm, that'sfood for thought in this particular case. You're right that the author thinks taking care of a stepchild is beneath her.

Anon, there is no proof Kaine was at work. What is the proof?Kaine also left work early that day so he could "just happen" to be with Terri at the busstop when Kyron didnt get off the bus. Clearly, Kaine wasnt following his normal work schedule that day.

I know Kaine has said how he hugged Kyron and told him he loved him (something Peter has cited extensively as frequently recounted by the guilty...good parents dont need to state how they told their child "I love you". Then Kaine supposedly went to and stayed at work (where is the proof?) before he inexplicably just happens to come home early and joirney to the bus stop with Terri the one day Kyron doesnt come home. Wake up!!!!

This is the first thing that jumped out at me, but maybe because I've been grading editorials all day long: As step-mothers, we do it all. We raise them. We care for them. We provide for them. We clean up after them. We taxi them from this sporting event and that birthday party.

Who the hell is "them"?

The author hasn't even told us who them is. She hasn't introduced the children. All she's done is told us about the fact that she is a stepmother, not that she has stepchildren, or who they are. She is so bitter, she can't even refer to them by their nouns!

This article is so disgusting I have a hard time reading deeply enough to comment.

The author is so bitter and enraged, I fear for her step child (ren).

I am a step mother that has not had an easy go of blending a family and I absolutely do not share this author's feelings.

Having said that, for all the reasons Foodiefoodnerd mentioned, I do not believe this to be a highly educated person. Also, to back that "uneducated" up, her rant is circular and entitled. Which also does not speak to higher education.

Finally, I am torn as to whether this is Terri or a staunch supporter. She names the article "a custodial step mother" but references paying child support to a custodial parent. The author cannot be both. It may be that she was both at various times, or she got confused whilst on her rant- or she was never the custodial herself, only paid child support and wanted to sound as though she had more clout with the step child.

It's gross and unloving to poor missing Kyron and if Terri doesn't denounce this article she is disgusting too.

SA points directly at Kaine. It is difficult to get inside the mind of a psychopath, but if one understands that they have no inner life, rather they are entirely focused on manipulating the outer world you will be well on your way to understanding them. Try to view this confusing case as carried out by a perpetrator interested in framing someone. Recall how readily Kaine offered up the info that Terry had asked him if she could take his truck to transport Kyron's science project...inferring Terri premeditated the crime and needed the truck to transport a body. Really? Ask yourself is Kaine offering this info A) to be a Sherlock and help solve the case or B) because he knew Terry wpuld be asking for the truck for the science project that day and this contributed to the timing of him committing the crime/framing of her? He knew well ahead of time she would be asking for the truck. Do you think Kaine might have stored that away in his psychopathic mind as one more thing to make her look as if she would be the guilty one?

The writer of this article is or has been a step-parent and has hated it, has hated the child/children she was step-parent of, is filled with resentment and bitterness and has for some reason invested Terri Hormon with her own identity.

She does not speak of Terri's statements or any of the things that do not add up about her. No, Terri is a step-mom like she is a step-mom so Terri has her sympathy, no questions asked. Terri is a projection of herself, not an individual.

She does not speak directly of her own experiences but only alludes to things, as though certain experiences are universal for step-parents. It makes me suspicious of why she wants to keep her exact experiences out of the story.

One possibility is that the writer got a raw deal, like marrying someone with attachment disordered children who refused to get them help, with an ex who took advantage or bullied her, or some kind of horrible situation. She may have felt like all the responsibility was dumped on her, yet her efforts to parent were rebuffed and mocked.

Another possibility is that she married someone with children, was a terrible mother to those children, was confronted with that and has boiled over with self-vindication. Rather than seeing her shortcomings, she insists she's only being misjudged because she is a step-parent. She mentions "dishing out correction" and the subject of discipline in a way which makes me think she may have been abusive, impatient, demanding. Rather than see this about herself, she insists that it would be okay if she was the natural parent.

She does not speak of children as lovable or desirable. They are disgusting, and are a burden that demands her time and energy. She does not see children as human beings, she resents children, and she resents natural parents.

Possibly she is unable to have children of her own and resents those who have.

I find it hard to peg education level.

Would I trust her with a child? Absolutely not!

She does not value children. She is not forthcoming or honest. She is angry and bitter. She is cold.

"Im not analyzing this. There is nothing to analyze: it's a bitter step- mom. How about analyzing Kaine, a very intelligent sociopathic narcissist whose behavioral patterns indicate he most likely "kidnapped" Kyron, framing Terri, something this group of analyzers has failed to understand is integral to the sociopath's plans...the ability to convincingly frame others."

Statements, anonymous, statements. Bring over some statements to analyze and they'll be analyzed. This blog is about statement analysis.

What would I expect in an article about step moms? First and foremost, I'm missing the word 'love' in the entire article. Love is the reason why a mother cares for her children or her step-children. For instance Sandi uses the word 'love' two times in her short comment. But in this lengthy article the word love is entirely missing.

It seems likely that the article was written by a woman, because it's from a women's personal perspective. The author does come over as someone with real experience as a step-mother.

The author does not come over as someone who is a journalist by profession or training. This is because the article is not objectively worded. It does not treat alle the persons involved equally and objectively. The author seems to have a personal grudge against Desiree Young and Kaine Horman. Instead the article is focused on trying to cast the blame away from Terri Moulton Horman.

The author has no priority for the missing boy to be found. There is no show of concern for what might have happened to him. The ''nation" seems to care more about his fate than the author. Nor is there hope that he is even alive. Sentences as 'her son, who is the victim', and use of past tense indicate that the author thinks Kyron is dead and a victim. The words 'for what happened to their son' seem to indicate knowledge of what really happened.

Lastly: what stands out is that the name of the missing boy is not even spelled correctly. Kyron Hormon? Is that really in the original article?

Hmmmm. The writer describes Kyron as Desiree's only child, but that isn't true. Kyron has an older brother, named Quinn. I think the writer is someone who simply wants to oppose the "zeitgeist", even when it is a logical place to begin investigating.

'Before the end of the day the umbrella of suspicion was cast upon Terri Horman, his "step-mother".''Umbrella of suspicion' was used about the Ramseys - the author may, without intending, be likening the case in her mind to that of JonBenet - the non-kidnapping, the strong suspicions round Patsy.

Attention is drawn to the relationship (or to the supposed/questioned relationship, as 'step-mother' is placed within quotation marks). Omitted until later in the piece, is that Terri was also the last person to have seen Kyron, which would raise the usual questions round who was the last person to have seen a missing child, regardless of that person's relationship to the child. The author does not want the reader to consider this, at least not before she has attempted to convince the reader that Terri is a victim of 'wicked step-mother must have done something' syndrome. (Just 'something' as opposed to 'it' - I question if most people would say only that a vague 'something' must have been done to Kyron, rather than a definite 'it').

The quotation marks used round "step-mother' and 'mom' etc in various places, I would say indicate personal dissatisfaction with the designations - the author considers herself as more rightfully the mother than a step-mother (yet her rants show her to be unlike a good one of either should) - she thinks the same of Terri, and by placing 'mom' in quotation marks of Desiree, suggests yet again that she should not be considered Kyron's real mother. It's derogatory - that's all very personal if written by a stranger.

'Six years later she has not been named a POI..' ' etc. (Attention should be paid to what is stated in the negative). It's a defensive approach; also the claim that people suspect Terri 'because she is the step-mother, of course!' is an attempt to persuade- 'of course' presumes acceptance on the part of the reader that Terri is a suspect only because she is Kyron's step-mother.

'By the time American children are are 3-years-old, they have all heard the stories about the evil step mom and the ugly step sisters that mistreated Cinderella, and the Wicked Queen who tried to poison her step daughter, Snow White, and have a huntsman cut out her heart and bring it to her in a box.''

I would worry for any three year old who was read either story (not appropriate to the age group, IMO) - let alone any version of Snow White which included the heart/lungs bit. Children's versions don't include the huntsman being instructed to cut out Snow White's heart/lungs, and to present them to the Wicked Queen for a tasty supper. I think the author does not read fairy tales to three year olds - which is just as well, if she would find those appropriate. Here I'd say, an indication that the writer is untruthful, and has spent no time reading fairy tales to three year olds (unless she's totally insensitive and also happens to own a collection of fairy tales as they historically appeared, some quite horrific). It's strange how she claims that all three year old American children know the stories - I'd guess some might, and that would be more likely if they were listening in to a story being read to older siblings, but even then, not the cannibalistic version with Snow White's heart and lungs being cut out by the huntsman - where even would she find such a version?

'Speaking from personal experience, being a step-mother is a thankless position. It is one of the most mentally depleting and emotionally un-rewarding positions many women find themselves in. Including, yours truly''

That's a strange sentence. As it concerns 'personal experience' I'm expecting the absent first person pronoun. 'Many women' is also impersonal, distancing. 'Yours truly'. That is tacked on, maybe because the writer knows the reader may spot she has not wholly included herself in the two preceding sentences. So, perhaps not so truly. Is this someone who was a step-parent (personal experience) but who no longer finds herself in the position 'many women' (as opposed to specifically her) find themselves in? I think the 'yours truly' is an attempt to strengthen that weakness - yet it still doesn't say or convey that she is a step-parent now. I think she has been a step-parent in the past, and it is in that sense she is able to write as a step-parent. It's interesting how she's not elucidating, it's quite evasive - why not say she is a step parent to however many children, or that she was, but no longer is, or say that they are grown up and no longer young children requiring so much of her time and attention? It's anonymous, so what's the difficulty there?

She writes a lot about what 'we', as step-parents do. Not much about what the author, personally, as a step-parent does, or has done. The reader is meant to assume that all step-parents do all those things; it's damning for step-parents, though, if the reader is also meant to assume that her negativity is universally shared by step-parents, yet that's the assumption she invites through her 'we' declarations. She does not take personal responsibility for her attitudes, preferring to project them onto step-parents in general. She does not even say 'I' of all the things she would like the reader to assume she did single-handedly - possibly because she did not do all those things herself, all the time, if all at all - 'we' is not her.

'But, if we dish out that same correction or grounding to our step-child, you better believe, those around us are perched in their “behind the back arm chair” talking about how many apples we poisoned to feed our poor, innocent, waif of a step-kid that week. And the most judgemental of all are those who have never been step parents.'

'You better believe' - appealing to be believed. Like 'believe me' - it raises questions round the truthfulness of what is being said. I'd doubt anyone, except the author, was imagining feeding poisoned apples to the 'poor, innocent, waif of a step-kid (degradation of the step-child) that week' or any week. What is 'dish out' in relation to 'how many apples we poisoned' - and to punishment? 'Dishing out', to me, is associated with meals, dishing out food - when it is used in relation to punishment is it an indication that a person takes pleasure in 'dishing out' punishment?

She sounds paranoid, to me, and aggressive. I doubt many step-parents believe there are many people 'perched in this behind the back arm chair' discussing numbers of apples poisoned. I think it disturbing that she sees herself (though projected onto step-parents in general) as a Wicked Queen character, and as a poisoner of apples (very disturbing), who is being anxiously surveyed by armchair critics - the Wicked Queen was driven by jealousy and cared only about herself and her image.

'It doesn’t matter that perhaps the step-kid is a spoiled, malicious, unbearable brat who is allowed, by their bio parents, to make our household, our lives, our marriage, our own children, and our family absolutely miserable. It doesn’t matter if one or both of the bio parents are negligent and lazy when it comes to taking responsibility for and disciplining their own child. It doesn’t matter if the step-kid is allowed to behave in all manners disgusting and atrocious by their bio parents…If something goes wrong in the family, the step mother is always the most convenient and used scapegoat. If something is wrong in the family, it is always, the step mothers fault.'

It does matter - a child cannot be held responsible for all that alleged calamity and absolute misery. The first sentence betrays the last two - the writer holds the child responsible for making everything in life 'absolutely miserable' - it is the child, therefore, rather than the step-mother, who is the scapegoat.

There is no love for the child in the writer - no regret at holding bad feeling towards the child, no worry for the child's happiness, over why behaviour might be disturbed, no writing about taking steps to improve things; almost everything she writes is abuse or complaint. It makes for sad reading - there is no self-countering, no concern for the parent-child relationship, nothing of balance, fairness or even attempted understanding towards step-children, the complexity of their family relationships, or any possible sense of divided loyalties on anyone's part. She uses 'we' and 'our' but only evasively, in order to avoid using the first person - so much of that would sound even worse if she used 'I' and 'my' rather than 'we' or 'our'.

--It switches abruptly from the child-blaming rant, to this:

'Terri Moulton Horman found herself in a horrific place when Kyron disappeared. After all, she is the one who dropped him off at school…Even though, other children claimed to have seen him between the time Terri left him at the school and the time he went missing she is still, often times, reported to be “the last person who saw him”…'

That's as far as I can reasonably go, because I want to say Terri wrote the article, and that she didn't find herself in nearly so horrific a place as poor Kyron - but that's emotion coming to the fore; I do not know if she wrote it, or if the change in gear from blaming the child for everything to next finding herself in a horrific place, and Kyron gone, are a reflection of the writer's reality - but that is one strange piece to write.

After the rant, I would expect for there to have been a return to reason, maybe acknowledgement that most children have little to no choice in their living arrangements, are dependent, at the very least, upon the good will of a step-parent towards them, that the adult is the adult, and responsibility for the family's well-being should not be placed on a child. As there is no 'return to reason', as nothing good or positive is acknowledged about the child, no love towards him, regardless of the problems, one has to wonder if there is any sense of balance there, any place of reason to which to return, if the author maybe does not like children, and if all that exists for the maligned child is misplaced accountability and blame, with no expression of regret from the mother that she has such negative feelings towards the him. It reads as if there is no hope - because she offers none at the point other people would, after the unreasonable rant. It's so obviously personal, despite the 'we' and 'our' attempt to make it seem anyone's story, or one commonly shared.

I would not trust the writer as a mother for the following reasons, not necessarily in this order - this is just the order in which things became apparent:

She does not love her child/ren - (so why would I trust her with mine?)

She has nothing good to say about her child/ren, rather she rages with resentment, whilst considering herself a good parent because 'we' do all the things listed. It doesn't sound like she wanted to do, or enjoyed, any of them. It reads like a list of engagements, rather than actual engagement.

She either didn't/doesn't read to her three year olds, or she reads them unsuitable books, inappropriate to their ages, which makes her insensitive either way, and possibly someone who lies about stupid random things, because who, really, reads a three year old story about a huntsman cutting out a young girl's heart and presenting it to the Queen for supper? (I don't think American culture can be that different from British culture in only reading children the more sanitised versions of fairy tales?)

She 'dishes out' punishments, which sounds as if she finds that enjoyable.

She talks about feeding kids poisoned apples, which is too disturbing to think much about - it sounds mad. I would not let her near my kids, or near anyone's kids, if it was up to me.

She is manipulative, and assuming (too many 'of course' comments)

Her character is pre-dominantly abusive; she makes a resented child responsible for all her family ills. She has a victim mentality and enjoys being the martyr. She prefers her biological children, maintaining a distinction between them as 'our own' and the step-child. She claims all parental responsibility, yet seemingly has none, as she presents an ill-disciplined child who runs amok behaving as he pleases - she gives up everything, yet also works extra hours because of him - she has all the burden, yet apparently no control - even so, it is she who 'dishes' out punishments, to the seeming horror of real or imagined observers (who are a bit too passive, either way). She is vulgar; 'running her mouth' is a vulgar turn of phrase, and when considered in application to Desiree, it's strangely denigrating, and beyond insensitive, considering she is the biological mother, who has every right to speak as much as she likes on Kyron's behalf.

The reason for writing is to promote Terri as a devoted step-parent, who should rightfully be considered as Kyron's real mother (and therefore victim), to cast suspicion on Kyron's father, and also to discredit Desiree as an absent negligent parent, who had no real interest in Kyron, and who should therefore be quiet, and stop her 'witch hunt'. It was the writer who cast Terri as the Wicked Queen (witch), and who brought up the subject of punishing children with poisoned apples - all very strange, but I don't know if Terri wrote it. The lack of concern, or even curiosity, regarding Kyron and his fate is another interesting aspect.

MJ and Juli - If Terri were the author, she might make deliberate mistakes, as in not referencing Desiree's elder son, or otherwise mislead, possibly on child support payments, to throw any suspicious readers off scent.

It does seem the purpose is to promote and defend Terri as a good step-parent - but who would want or welcome such a horrible defence made by someone who obviously hated being a step-parent, and said nothing good about any child in her care? I suppose that's a pointless question, as I don't know what Terri's reaction to the article is or would be.

This was not written by Terri Horman. The "facts" of the case of a missing Kyron Horman have never been presented to the public. A lying biological mother and a lying biological father have, for some outrageous reason, been completely forgiven for their lying, all in favor of blaming Ms. Horman. No one analyzes the bio parents this way. They completely escaped ANY public scrutiny and yet they were busted time and again for fibs so huge you could put wheels on them and drive them into a MSCO fleet garage. Until this nonsense of totally ignoring the b.s. of the bio parents ends and an educated, trained and skilled team of investigators takes over this case, many of you and the author of this blog and hit piece will continue to try-and-convict Ms. Horman because Desiree said this or that about her and you all gobble it up. I can't believe NONE of you has noticed the self-absorbed diatribes that Mrs. Young puts out about this awful situation and I can't believe that NONE of you have noticed that the murder for hire allegation was totally bogus. Stalking Mrs. Horman so she can't work? Preventing a woman who has not been charged with a crime from earning a living just because "Desiree said so?" Does no one see the outrage here of a public hanging with ZERO evidence visible against Ms. Horman? By the way, read up on tech: "cell phone pings" DO NOT prove a thing in this case. NOTHING. https://www.techdirt.com/articles/20140908/04435128452/turns-out-cell-phone-location-data-is-not-even-close-to-accurate-everyone-falls-it.shtml

Wow, I just got done reading every word of this post, and the article, and all the comments. All so fascinating! This is the first I've heard of this story; I have no prior exposure. The written article - I wonder where that appeared - was it published somewhere, or was it mailed to someone? I just love reading stuff here, and everyone's comments are so interesting!!

Analytical Profiling 101: Do not use definitive conclusions. Yet, even with this caveat...I, too, would sign such anonymously and not with my name. All we needed was for Terri Horman to open her mouth and she obliged as did her friend. It only affirmed the finding of the polygraph.

Terri showed guilty knowledge of Kyron's death.

Note anonymous' first sentence as priority.

Peter Hyatt

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous said...This was not written by Terri Horman. The "facts" of the case of a missing Kyron Horman have never been presented to the public. A lying biological mother and a lying biological father have, for some outrageous reason, been completely forgiven for their lying, all in favor of blaming Ms. Horman. No one analyzes the bio parents this way. They completely escaped ANY public scrutiny and yet they were busted time and again for fibs so huge you could put wheels on them and drive them into a MSCO fleet garage. Until this nonsense of totally ignoring the b.s. of the bio parents ends and an educated, trained and skilled team of investigators takes over this case, many of you and the author of this blog and hit piece will continue to try-and-convict Ms. Horman because Desiree said this or that about her and you all gobble it up. I can't believe NONE of you has noticed the self-absorbed diatribes that Mrs. Young puts out about this awful situation and I can't believe that NONE of you have noticed that the murder for hire allegation was totally bogus. Stalking Mrs. Horman so she can't work? Preventing a woman who has not been charged with a crime from earning a living just because "Desiree said so?" Does no one see the outrage here of a public hanging with ZERO evidence visible against Ms. Horman? By the way, read up on tech: "cell phone pings" DO NOT prove a thing in this case. NOTHING. https://www.techdirt.com/articles/20140908/04435128452/turns-out-cell-phone-location-data-is-not-even-close-to-accurate-everyone-falls-it.shtml

If she were innocent of involvement in Kyron's disappearance, why has she not spoken out about her innocence?Why did she fail a polygraph (iirc)Why has she refused to cooperate with the police?Why has she remained silent almost from the get go?Why did she stay silent knowing that by not speaking , she would lose visitation rights and/or custody of her daughter?

The "facts" of the case of a missing Kyron Horman have never been presented to the public. Why did you put quotation marks around the word facts? Please present the facts you believe to be missing.

A lying biological mother and a lying biological father have, for some outrageous reason, been completely forgiven for their lying, all in favor of blaming Ms. Horman.You don't even list any so-called lies, much less any quotes from people acknowledging Kaine or Desiree lying, then forgiving them? Can you please post some links? Even one?

No one analyzes the bio parents this way.Including you. Here is your opportunity!

They completely escaped ANY public scrutiny and yet they were busted time and again for fibs... How can they simultaneously "completely escape ANY public scrutiny" and be "busted time time again" for lying?

...they were busted time and again for fibsPlease cite one lie for which they were busted even once, much less time and time again?

Until this nonsense of totally ignoring the b.s. of the bio parents endsWhat is "b.s." from them, and who is ignoring or not disputing it?

... and an educated, trained and skilled team of investigators takes over this caseWhich investigators have you determined to be incompetent, and what training and education do you believe they should undergo?

I can't believe NONE of you has noticed the self-absorbed diatribes that Mrs. Young puts out about this awful situationCan you please cite one of the better ones we missed?

and I can't believe that NONE of you have noticed that the murder for hire allegation was totally bogus. How do we "notice" that it isn't true? Can you please cite the quote by Portland law enforcement clearing Horman and closing this case? Or anything indicating it's "totally bogus" that we should have noticed?

Stalking Mrs. Horman so she can't work? Preventing a woman who has not been charged with a crime from earning a living just because "Desiree said so?"What are you asking about Terri being stalked?Where does Desiree say to prevent Terri from working?

Does no one see the outrage here of a public hanging with ZERO evidence visible against Ms. Horman? What do you mean by "visible" evidence? What invisible evidence do you dispute?What "outrage" is out there that we are not seeing?

Once again an angry, defensive person rails on about facts and truth not presented, then offers none. Slapping up a link about cell phone pings does not negate hours of time unaccounted for, failed polygraphs, inconsistent stories, weak alibies or refusal to cooperate with investigators.

1). Terri decides that kidnapping Kyron from a public place full of more people than usual who know her and Kyron would be the ideal setting to kidnap Kyron from

2). A known (to Kyron) outsider (this would be Kaine) decides this would be the ideal setting to frame Terry, probably telling Kyron something before he left home like "meet Dad at point X (somewhere isolated inside or outside building)

Once again tania brings up excellent points. As to the failed polygraphs (when she actually showed up for them), months later she claims she couldn't hear the questions because of a hearing impairment, and that the interviewer sat behind her.

Obviously, anyone with an IQ exceeding the single-digit range is going to make absolutely certain she hwars everything, asking for clarification whenever necessary, especially with her freedom at stake.

The interviewer asks repeatedly if the subject understands the procedure as well as each individual question.

Before hooking up to the machine the subject knows all of the questions to be asked, and is given an opportunity to clear up any confusion and explain any factors that may affect accuracy.

Her legal team would eviscerate law enforcement if they failed her after conducting her polygraph as claimed, and her few remaining supporters would be screaming all over the internet if she told them after failing that police knew she couldn't hear and used her disabilty to create false evidence.

Kaine's writing has never been analyzed. I dont believe Desiree had anything to do with it. Look at Kaine's statements...they are full of deception indicators. As for people analyzing how Terri looked after Kyron's disappearance, look at how Kaine looks. Look at his statements. Look at his post-incident behavior like sending his young daughter to the same school Kyron disappeared from saying it is a "healing" thing for him. Really?!?!?!

O/T I need help with this and am asking for analysis. The person in the obit is the father of the person who wrote it. The person who wrote the obit is charged with first degree murder of his father. He is also currently on trial for the murder of another man and is charged with the murder of a young woman. Three murders in less than one year. What can you tell about his relationship with his father, etc based on this obituary?

I checked that weird obit, and then somehow ended up watching Elizabeth Smart videos on YouTube. She keeps speaking publicly, and she has become so much more genuine and spontaneous in her talks. Also, I found this recent news story interesting:

1) It's common knowledge that Desiree wanted to have Kyron with her full-time, but Kaine denied her custody. But then if she bothered to acknowledge this blaring fact, her cake hole would be plugged and she wouldn't have a forum to blast her histrionics, er, I mean an article to write.

2) This author is by far the most immature, jealous and resentful person I think I have every come across. So much so that I thinking if she was not a step mom, then she would be the type to resent her own kids for thanklessly sucking up so much of her time and money. And if she wasn't a mom, she would still be pouty because, although the money would be "good", hubby's career would still take priority over her.

3) I don't believe I have seen so many our's concentrated together like I do in this article. It's like the more she wrote, the angrier she got (at her husband). She definitely blames "everything", from feeling like an outsider, to doing with less, to picking up the "slack", on her spouse. She takes responsibility for nothing! SHE definitely didn't consider what a pre-existing family meant/how it would impact every single detail of her married life. I like the word "brat" she uses. It definitely sums her up in a single word.

I guess it's everyone else's fault that she didn't "know" there were kids already in the picture and that she would be CO-parenting. Or maybe she is one of those women who think that once they get "a ring on it", that'll change!

That is one strange obituary! It reads like this person was a complete stranger to the writer, and he cobbled it together from a pile of little slips on which others who barely knew him wrote one fact they recalled.

Was he a suspect at the time he wrote this, or were the two known to have a volatile relationship? Even without knowing what you posted here it has an odd vibe!

Stop Playing Dumb, that is truly a strange obit, the way it is written.

"Wayne C. Millard has passed."

Usually an obit begins with a note of the person's passing but rarely are they so cut and dried. No date, no reason ('after a long illness', or such).

"He is survived by son Dellen Millard."

His son is his only living relative, apparently.

"For those who wish to gather in fond memory of Wayne, there will be a reception from 12:00 to 5:00 p.m. on Saturday, December 15, 2012 at Vinsanto Ristorante, 28 Roytec Road, Vaughan, ON."

It's not "we" as in "we will be holding a reception in his honor" just "there will be." It is "for those who wish to gather" does the writer include himself in this group? "those" seems distant.

"I now carry his pilot's license in my wallet. It's a good photo."

This is as close as the obit gets to expressing affection.

There are many facts given about Wayne's life but they are listed rather perfunctorily. His animal welfare beliefs are a large portion of it.

The ending, again, is perfunctory "With Wayne in my heart, I believe we must." Must... make a difference in the world? The word "with" can denote distance. He implies Wayne is in his heart but does not literally say so.

I feel like the way it is written could denote trouble or distance in the relationship, or maybe, on the other hand, a person who is unable to express emotion might write this way if forced to write the obit?

This woman is immature, narcisstic, manipulative, and self-centered, and dangerous. She plays the part of loving step-mom when others are present to make herself look good (as evidenced by "all she does for the child" while harboring increasing resentment and hatred). Publicly she's a stage-worthy stepmom; privately the child is in imminent danger of being abused. She attributes not one single positive, redeeming value to the child- she has no attachment to the child (although she goes to great lengths to feign such in social situations to impress/manipulate others). The article is all abut her and how much she's sacrificed- martyr syndrome (common in narcissists). She's Jekyll and Hyde.

One other thing I just realized (duh) in that obit, the way he refers to his father. He says "with Wayne in my heart," not my dad or my father.

He does refer to him as his father in 2 places, though. After several statements he says, "He was my father." Later he says, "For Father piloting wasn't just his job" Not "my father" but just Father with a capital F. I wonder what that denotes? Perhaps a form of respect? Is it rather distant?

"His hope was for a time when cooperation would be the norm and competition was only friendly." I wonder if it was not so in his life?

Most notably: did he kill Tim Bosma?“No,” he says as he makes direct eye contact. “I didn’t do it … They might as well accuse me of having been to the moon. There’s nothing real about it.”

This starts out reliable even absent "I didn't kill him," since he responded to the direct question, especially with the visual clue?But the attempt to persuade is a bit over the moon so to speak, which puts it unreliable or at least sensitive?

The family for at least three generations apparently loves flying and has made it a career; anything embedded in the unreachable moon analogy?

Thanks for your analyses of the obit I posted. The cause of death was originally suicide. The father, Wayne Millard, was shot in the eye. His son took over control of his business. He would have gotten away with two other murders if he wasn't connected back to the death of another man, Tim Bosma. He does sound distant with his dad ("Father") and I think he rushed this obit. Notice that the date it was posted in the paper is the same date as the gathering at the restaurant. There is absolutely no time for anyone to read this, find out and go to the gathering. There is a lot in the news right now about this guy, Dellen Millard. Thanks again.

My apologies for not following the exercise format. I really don't think I am capable of articulating let alone organizing all that I'm left thinking after having read this. I found this article (?) very difficult to read. I think gob smacked pretty much sums me up.

The author begins with two words: Terri Horman. So I'm thinking the article is about Terri Horman.

The full title, "Terri Horman: A Custodial Step Parent's Perspective" tells me that I am about to read an article "sympathetic" to a misunderstood Terri Horman. "A Custodial Step Parent's Perspective". Is very interesting. The author doesn't title the article, Terri Horman: Her Perspective. She describes her not just as a step-parent (judged as evil according to author,) but a "custodial" step-parent, thereby reinforcing Terri's burden as a full-time deal.

Kyron, is barely mentioned, except when defining what she believes a "step child" is.

The author keeps projecting/injecting herself into Terri Horman's life as a woman who can 'relate' and more so, that the purpose of the article is to tell the reader who Terri Horman is. That SHE is the victim. I don't believe the author is Terri Horman, but I do think she identifies with Terri and "all" she had to do for the "thankless" spouse, absent ex-wife and the evil, miserable, misbehaved "step-child".

Terri Horman had a drinking problem while married to Kaine Horman. It is on record that she was drunk much of the time he travelled, something that wasn't shared with Desiree, otherwise she would have been able to use this fact against Kaine (child endangerment) and won custody of Kyron like she wanted.

The author doesn't address Terri's drinking problem, but if she did I suspect she would blame Kyron for that, too.

The comments are very interesting and insightful. Posters in this forum are really talented. Tania, I really enjoyed your analysis.

Where does this post/article come from? I have a fleeting thought about the author of this article. I think she wrote it knowing that her husband would be reading it. "Custodial" is a subliminal message to him in that he would be looking at another custodial arrangement in his life.

Interesting too the picture that is used to go along with this article. Notice that Terri Horman is holding her baby lovingly and looking at her, yet she is restraining Kyron from even being able to touch his new baby sister?

I just read the obituary again; this guy reads like he has no empathy at all, not just a disrant relationship with his father.

It reads as if he Googled "obit for someone you loved" and copy-pasted a few platitudes from a nice cross-section.

This is the type of person who could fail every personality test and be reviled by the public, only to be exonerated long down the road.NOT saying he's innocent or guilty of these murders, just that his lack of empathy and other humanities could turn off a jury whether fair or not.

Nic, the step rant is posted with no byline on some rant blog. This is obviously Terri and/or her buddy Dee Dee. (sp?)

It is filled with too much anger and rage, and much too personal to post anonymously unless there is a specific purpose (dismissing anti-Terri sentiment as stepmother bias), and not many are as self-absorbed and entitled as Terri.

I see by your other post you don't agree this writer knows Terri personally, but you make some excellent, insightful, intelligent observations about this case and many others.

Thanks for your insight and perspective; as with many of the regulars in here I appreciate and learn even when we don't agree.

oodiefoodnerd, thanks. I didn't assign this rant to Terri because I believe Terri was very much involved in secreting Kyron. The rant basically says that the blame for Kyron’s disappearance has been assigned to Tammy because step-parents, regardless of all the good they do, when things don’t work out, they are held the scapegoat. As in Tammy was simply in the wrong place at the wrong time (she dropped off Kyron instead of putting Kyron on the bus that morning). She classifies herself the same as Terri: custodial and that she is mis-judged "solely" on the basis of being a step-parent. Kyron is mentioned in the way of how she defines her own misery because of her “step-child" and it has to do with the day-to-day thankless activities she subjects herself to, for, in her opinion, nothing. IMO, it's the addressing of the present, not the past, that the perspective of the author is speaking. I think if it was Terri, there would be more excuse making and more past-tense, as opposed to what they are “living”. Note she has not maintained any contact with her daughter and she sent her son away. The author could very well be friends with Terri, (the author addresses her as "Terri Moulton Horman") but I don't believe they are Terri.

Nic said "Interesting too the picture that is used to go along with this article. Notice that Terri Horman is holding her baby lovingly and looking at her, yet she is restraining Kyron from even being able to touch his new baby sister"^^^^^^^^'

I noticed that immediately too! It "seems" like it is a loving shot, she has Kyron in close with her arm wrapped around him but it is to restrain him from even touching what is obviously, "the REAL child".

The title itself is misleading as to read the title insinuates that the following article is going to have quotes from Terri Horman herself. It is about HER perspective, so the reader would not be going out on a limb to think that this writer interviewed Terri and is relaying what Terri's feelings are regarding being a custodial step mom.

2. The face of little Kyron Hormon is unforgettable. The darling bespectacled little boy with the bright eyes and big grin…_________________________________

Sarcasm. Words like "darling" "bespectacled" are not every day words associated with a 7 year old boy which is why I feel sarcasm here. This is also the ONLY sentence she says anything about Kyron personally.

3. She then takes over 50% (guesstimate) of the article to tell people how horrible it is being a step parent, and how horrible step children are and how much she hates them. She uses "we" and "our" instead of "I" when describing how disgusting step children are and "we" all know it yet she does take ownership by saying, "yours truly" relaying she is in fact, a step mom and not a very happy one at that. The "we and our" is to spread the hate amongst all step parents. Of course we all feel this way, right? It's not just me..it's ALL of us. The venom spewed relentlessly is almost to much for the paper to hold. It's as if she couldn't write it fast enough, and I daresay, she probably has a LOT more to say. She was controlling herself to a degree because just how do you really convey a seething hatred for CHILDREN in your home? She gives it a damn good try tho because it is hatred, resentment, bitterness, vindictiveness, jealousy, and immaturity at best that she speaks of them. She feels she does not get the respect, recognition, support,entitlement that she should be getting and she hates the children and bio parents for it..along with the public, school personnel, and anyone else that she meets or knows in a public forum. I feel she uses the word "kid" in a derogatory way. I know that Peter has said that the word "kid" is appropriate in certain respects when a parent is talking as to use the word "child" usually denotes abuse or distance, but to me, she uses the word "kid" as a way to diminish them as human beings. She uses the word "mother" in relation to all that she does for the child(ren), when she is in "authority" over them, "mothering" them.. she is a step mother when she is the parent and step "mom" is reserved for the public perception of her as "Just" a step mom" She puts more weight in the term "mother" while "moms" are lazy, distant, unloving. Desiree is his "mom" She is his "mother"She tells the reader that she is resentful and bitter because she has not received the respect, thanks, bows, cheers and recognition she deserves. She feels "mothering" someone else's children is mentally depleting and unrewarding. There is not ONE good thing that comes from it. Not ONE. The whole purpose of this article is to convey that step mothers are "good" moms who get no recognition for the brats they raise, and bio parents are useless.

She holds both bio parents in contempt. The father and mother are both slacking, lazy, no goods that have basically just given her the burden of raising their "disgusting" child. The father does NOT support her in parenting. She martyrs herself by saying she has basically her OWN children;s needs and wants so that the "steps" get to have all they want and desire. She even WORKS extra hours to make sure the steps are provided for because God knows their bio parents won't, and she still gets no accolades.The Snow White reference is to much information. It is enough to say that the step mother tried to poison her step daughter but she adds the information about the heart cut out. Is this because she feels "her" heart has been cut out by the betrayal of bio dad? She made all the sacrifices but with the bio dads non recognition...he cut her heart out? I do know one thing..I saw that movie when I was 7 years old and to this day, I can remember exactly what the theater looked like, the chairs, the screen, where I was sitting, when that huntsman ripped out that heart and held it high in the air dripping with bright red blood. I was horrified and scared shitless. Why does the writer feel the need to give the reader that visual and then continue with the analogy when "disciplining" the steps? "Feeding them poisoned apples" Who uses that kind of language when talking about parenting? The following words are what she uses to describe step children: spoiled, malicious, unbearable brats, disgusting and atrocious. They ruin(ed) her marriage and her life.

I have to take off now but will finish later.

On a quick note...writer is female, white, high school (possibly non-graduate), not college educated, is a step mother either divorced from bio dad or in a crumbling marriage with bio dad. People within the family have criticized her as a mother and her treatment of her steps. She has sacrificed over and over and still does not "belong" in her own family because she is an "outsider". Who makes her the outsider? The step child. Everything would be perfect without the step. Which is why I think that when the "real" child came along..Kyron had to go.

And, KAINE also had to abide by a "no contact" stipulation, not just Terri. Then, subsequent to this divorce decree, custody was re-evaluated and a very unfair reunification plan for Terri and Kiari was arranged.

In what other state besides Oregon does a mother lose her child merely because the father thinks she might have done something really terrible, but there is no arrest, no proof, no further action by police, no law guardian for the child Kiara, and not one single person noting that there are babies and children of all ages in visitation arrangements with parents WHO ARE IN PRISON, but Terri Horman gets NOTHING?

Remind me never to move to Oregon. Apparently you can just get your child ripped away from you with NO criminal charges filed against you, no law enforcement agency stating that you are a suspect in a criminal investigation, no evidence of a crime having been committed by you, no knowledge of WHICH CRIME IS SUPSECTED OF HAVING OCCURRED, NO social worker investigating the home life of the child to determine if both parents are fit to parent, etc., etc. Dear God, don't any of you people know that this is NOT what occurs with CONVICTED CRIMINALS? THEY get visitation with their minor children!!!!

lynda, interesting thought that Kyron has to go now that they have a real child between them.

I could see Terri feeling that way in the sense of now having her own connection with Kaine, but I don't see her loving or bonding with any child - she is far too selfish and self-absorbed to tolerate the imbalance of effort and lack of demonstrative gratitude from a helpless infant.

She likely got pregnant to even up with Desiree as a woman, and to have her own lifelong connection with Kaine.

What would have kept you from your own newborn daughter since June, 2010? How much testimony, how many polygraphs are too much effort to bother with just to be in your daughter's first six years of life? How annoying would any person or task have to be that you'd say, "Eff this bs; she can look me up when she's 18" and give the world the finger for six years and counting?

You are spot on that the Kyron description is loaded with sarcasm - twice referring to him as little along with his age, "bright eyes and big grin" - venomous enough to be personal.

As to the obvious attempts to spread the hate and rage among all custodial step parents: you have to admit there is more than enough to go around in this venomous diatribe!

I think Nic used the best description: I'm gobsmacked, as likely are most reasonably adjusted people.

I think the author of that tripe is Terry Horman. There's so much ill feeling towards everyone referenced in the article (the step kid (s), the biological parents, society ) and all the grasping for sympathy for the poor overworked underappreciated stepmom, it's alarming and more than a little scary. The last part is what got me the most though- she's (the author ) blaming Kyron's parents for leaving Terry in charge of Kyron.... like the author is telling us (the reader) that nothing would have happened if Kaine or Desiree were there... so, to me, that kind of reads like a confession. As to the questions posed, I think the author is a bitter mid 30s to early 40s Caucasian woman. I think she's narcissistic. I think the agenda wasn't to garner empathy or sympathy for stepmother but to proclaim terry's innocence but the author never comes out and says 'Terry didn't kill Kyron '. I think the author is trying to justify Kyron's murder.

I think the author is an obsessed supporter of Terri's who projected her own grievances onto this case. She may even have reached out to Terri and swapped stories of being unappreciated and maligned. The author sees herself as a victim and feels justified in her resentment and anger. I think she is a narcissist, hungry for attention, who wishes to be perceived as a saintly martyr. I don't think she is capable of accepting any responsibility for her own unhappiness and needs a scapegoat, in this case, a stepchild or stepchildren. I think she is emotionally abusive at the least and quite possibly could pose a physical threat if her frustrations boil over.

Terri Moulton was a single mother when she got together with Kaine Horman - who was married with a baby on the way. (That speaks to both personalities right there.) She had to petition the court to have her deadbeat ex pay child support. So they were blended from the get-go. The way this "rant" reads, is that the author's husband was divorced when she came along and had a rude awakening when their own baby was born and the First Family didn't move out of the picture.

I think a lot of what fed Terri Horman's resentment (and drinking problem,) was the fact that the whole 'union' was based on $ecurity ergo, there just wasn't much love 'lost' to begin with. Terri Horman never boded with Kyron, because I believe she thought he was temporary. I don't think she believed that Desiree would ever give up primary custody of Kyron to Kaine. So there was resentment between her and Kaine stemming from that... and made worse by Kyron *knowing* that Terri didn't love him so he was defiant. (You're not my mom. I'm going to tell my dad. etc.) So she had no control over Kyron and she had no control/power in her marriage. I believe her contempt for Kyron was made that much worse when Desiree wanted custody (most likely hopeful, good news to Terri,) but Kaine wouldn't allow it (power struggle). I think, in the end, Terri acted like a animal backed into a corner and did what she felt she needed to do to "survive". Kyron would forever be her "charge" and Kaine would have all the power (money and say) to the point that the court would award the husband custody, not the mother. Again the way I see this "rant" is that the impending destruction/her emancipation is divorce (custodial). She is just too immature to see that what she is comparing herself to is possibly a murderer.

Eve said...I think the author is an obsessed supporter of Terri's who projected her own grievances onto this case. She may even have reached out to Terri and swapped stories of being unappreciated and maligned. The author sees herself as a victim and feels justified in her resentment and anger

^^^^^^^^^^^^^

That could very well be true. Law of the universe. Like attracts Like.

I still think the timing of the "real" child being born and Kyron disappearing is a huge red flag. He was unnecessary and unwanted by Terri. She didn't have to "fake" parent anymore. She had a "real" baby. Time to get rid of him for good plus it would sever the tie that Desiree and Kaine shared forever. At least in her twisted mind.

'And, KAINE also had to abide by a "no contact" stipulation, not just Terri. Then, subsequent to this divorce decree, custody was re-evaluated and a very unfair reunification plan for Terri and Kiari was arranged.'

Answer: Kaine is permitted to see his daughter (she lives with him) and the custody stipulation is much more restrictive to TMH - it states in very clear language that only TMH is restricted from Kiara and her school - but not Kaine.

'In what other state besides Oregon does a mother lose her child merely because the father thinks she might have done something really terrible, but there is no arrest, no proof, no further action by police, no law guardian for the child Kiara, and not one single person noting that there are babies and children of all ages in visitation arrangements with parents WHO ARE IN PRISON, but Terri Horman gets NOTHING?'

Answer: TMH had 3 attorneys last I counted. They called her a 'de facto suspect' and 'putative suspect' in an attempt to delay CUSTODY hearings for 2 years. Did TMH's extraordinaire attorneys ever ask for a law guardian for Kiara? Maybe they weren't so extraordinaire after all?

'Remind me never to move to Oregon. Apparently you can just get your child ripped away from you with NO criminal charges filed against you, no law enforcement agency stating that you are a suspect in a criminal investigation, no evidence of a crime having been committed by you, no knowledge of WHICH CRIME IS SUPSECTED OF HAVING OCCURRED, NO social worker investigating the home life of the child to determine if both parents are fit to parent, etc., etc. Dear God, don't any of you people know that this is NOT what occurs with CONVICTED CRIMINALS? THEY get visitation with their minor children!!!!'

Answer: Did TMH's attorneys ask for KH to be investigated to see if he was a fit parent? Yeah, I didn't think so. Is TMH cooperating with the current reunification put in place? No? Then she isn't a victim.

Is visitation with parents always in the best interests of all children? Not Josh Powell's children - that's for darn sure! Maybe Oregon isn't such a bad place after all.

Elf - I agree with you; today I am more convinced that Terri is the author than I was yesterday - I also scanned it through first read for the reliable denial, but had to keep reminding myself that there didn't need to be one, as the author did not claim to be Terri.

I don't think even a close friend would go to such extremes to defend Terri - Kyron went missing on her watch, after all. Kyron and his fate are of no significance to the writer - it's as though she doesn't care, past the 'injustice' of suspicion remaining on Terri. Surely, she would have addressed the mystery of what might have happened, and of how devastating it must have been to the devoted, martyr Terri, but no - she has the same disinterest in Kyron that she assumes for Terri, and step-parents in general towards their children, all those totally devoted, sacrificial, put-upon parents who apparently also resent and hate their kids.

He's not her (malicious brat) step-child, so why the lack of concern for a little boy who could be any missing little boy so far as she is concerned? Why make only an obligatory acknowledgement of Kyron, and even then fail to write anything nice about him, despite the attempt? Strangers or friends could manage better than that. He's only mentioned because he has to be, in order to introduce Terri. I think we are not meant to be pretty sure, or say who we think it is - even so, I'd be surprised if it wasn't Terri, and if there was anyone who cared quite so much about her whilst also expressing quite such little concern and curiosity about what happened to Kyron.

The father only 'merely thinks' that Terri 'might have done something really terrible' to Kyron - well, that's minimising. It's more he seriously suspects she murdered his son, I would say - hardly trifling, nothing 'merely' about that. Who, knowing Kyron went missing under Terri's watch, could find it quite appropriate to write 'merely' there?

Peter - thanks. I hope you will maybe make further comment on the aspects we have not caught. That would be good - though there is so much altogether from everyone, I wonder what might not yet have been picked up.

Thanks, Lis - it is patient of you to read, considering it was so long.

Yes, elf - who would care quite that much, and be quite so scathing, but Terri? I think, though not quite sure, that saying it is Terri is a 'definitive conclusion' which we are not supposed to make? Well, yes, that is pretty definitive. 'I think it's her' is not so definitive, so I'll just think it. :)

Interesting verbiage. However, anyone could have read that article and borrowed the verbiage. It is a public forum.

Very soon after Kyron went missing it was brought out that Terry followed blogs and commented on some of them. I can't remember if it was Blink or somewhere else, but I did see at least one of her comments.

It was rumored that she followed missing persons cases.

If so, it would not be a stretch to think she was still lurking on blogs. I would imagine that she would be looking up articles about Kyron out of curiosity about what people were saying, if for no other reason.

http://blinkoncrime.com/2013/12/31/kyron-horman-missing-new-years-eve-settlement-ends-horman-marriage/comment-page-206/3. thatkewlgirl says: (May 27, 2015)She is behind THE HATE CAMPAIGN and there is zero separation between her and the Young family.

http://blinkoncrime.com/2013/12/31/kyron-horman-missing-new-years-eve-settlement-ends-horman-marriage/comment-page-287/47. thatkewlgirl says: (December 18, 2015)She lost her stepsister to a heinous High School murder, and then went on a very public HATE CAMPAIGN to keep the convicted killer behind bars,

“I think the author of that tripe is Terry Horman. There's so much ill feeling towards everyone referenced in the article (the step kid (s), the biological parents, society ) and all the grasping for sympathy for the poor overworked underappreciated stepmom, it's alarming and more than a little scary. The last part is what got me the most though- she's (the author ) blaming Kyron's parents for leaving Terry in charge of Kyron.... like the author is telling us (the reader) that nothing would have happened if Kaine or Desiree were there... so, to me, that kind of reads like a confession. As to the questions posed, I think the author is a bitter mid 30s to early 40s Caucasian woman. I think she's narcissistic. I think the agenda wasn't to garner empathy or sympathy for stepmother but to proclaim terry's innocence but the author never comes out and says 'Terry didn't kill Kyron '. I think the author is trying to justify Kyron's murder. “_________________________________________________

You made several excellent points here! In Terri’s world, she’s always the victim. I agree that she likely thinks Kyron’s disappearance (and death) are indeed Kaine and Desiree’s fault. She was happy to take care of baby Kyron because she & Kaine were in “the honeymoon phase” and he’d chosen her over pregnant Desiree. She likely invested considerable time and effort impressing Kaine. But, she never expected to be a full-time step-mom and having to care for Desiree’s child full-time until he was grown was adding insult to injury. The longer it went on, the more she hated Kyron. With Kaine insisting on keeping custody, the house solely his name, and him being the major provider, she likely literally grew to resent and hate Kaine as well. I think Kiara was the tipping point.

"The darling bespectacled little boy with the bright eyes and big grin"

He is darling.

I also feel like there are signs of stress in some of his photos. I think he had a rough life. “_____________________________________________________________________

Lis- I think you’re onto something there. I think quite a few of the “happy family” pictures are contrived. You’ve had some really insightful posts, by the way! Your Q&A answers format response to Anonymous was a well-written, logical rebuttal.

Your post here made me think of something else. Thinking about what Peter says about order being important, notice what’s first? The sarcastic “darling”, followed by the glasses. Terri has been loud and proud that she who discovered Kyron's vision problem; she was the one who knew Kyron needed glasses; she was the one who insisted his eyes be examined, etc. This is followed by "little" (given that Kyron appeared small for his age, this is likely a slam). Then we’re back to his eyes again. I think the "big grin” is also likely a slam. I suspect that a step-parent with that much hatred would likely perceive a big grin, from a smaller, slightly uncoordinated child rival as goofy...particularly if that grin, those little glasses, and his beautiful blue eyes endeared him to others.

The general accepted theory here and most places is that Terri killed Kyron, Desiree seems to believe that also...why does Kaine present-day believe something quite different?

“There’s still that theory that I have talked a lot about, and others have as well: He’s potentially either in the area with someone or even outside our area with someone else,” Horman theorized. “To me, as we continue to search, it rules out certain areas and it reinforces that belief.”

Does Kaine really believe that Terri has given Kyron to someone else?

Kaine's jumbled thinking and jumbled language is what makes me strongly suspect Kaine was involved in Kyron's disappearance. You can find it throughout all of his language. Just take the quote above and see how all he is doing is stringing together a patchwork of phrases that mean nothing and follow no coherent thought pattern. This is absolutely indicative of deception. In layman's terms, Kaine is full of shit (including about believing Terry gave him to someone else.)

Here is one statement I feel is very sensitive from Kaine from article link above:

Then there’s Kiara, Kyron’s little sister. She just completed kindergarten at Skyline Elementary — the same school her older brother was the day he disappeared.

“It’s normal, I think not doing that wouldn’t have been normal,” Horman said. “To live in our community and not go to our school

"It's NORMAL"

(Actually it's not normal to send your younger child to the same school her brother disappeared from...the sensitivity is reflected in Kaine's repetition of NORMAL when he states that not sending Kiara there wouldn't have been NORMAL)

Kaine knows it's not normal, Kaine knows others don't think it's normal. A normal person would find it too painful to send their younger child to the same school their older child disappeared from, to have that constant reminder. Kaine doesn't find it too painful. So, we have a lack of human emotion regarding his child Kyron disappearing combined with defensiveness as Kaine knows that he is not NORMAL.

2. of course- Need to persuade, wants the audience to take for granted that what she says is true

3. they have all- Who is ‘they”? American children three and under. How would the author know what all children three and under have heard? “By the time American children are three years old…”- Note authoritative tone. The phrasing suggests some level of training in Early Childhood Development or extensive, ongoing experience with toddlers/preschoolers and familiarity with most commonly read toddler/preschool stories

5. position- The author introduces “position”. The author identifies being a step-mother as a position. Position is indicative of a job; a more formal term of employment. “…positions many women find themselves in”- Note passive language, reducing personal responsibility, also lacks commitment to “personal experience”.

6. yours truly- Note sarcasm. The author has not confirmed personal experience as a step-mom with any “I” statements. The author has not said “I am a step-mom.”

7. we- Who is “we”? This is unexpected with “personal experiences”. It appears to be an attempt to hide identity. Why? How does the author know what other step-mothers do (or don’t do)? The use of “we” here is similar to the sweeping generality of “all “. How many other step-mothers took out a contracted hit on their husband (enough evidence to convince a judge to deny custody and enforce supervised, limited visits with the child’s primary caregiver Terri), had a step-son go missing, lied to police about their whereabouts during the time the child went missing, had a best friend leave her jobsite during child’s disappearance time frame, failed multiple polygraphs with the same set of questions, and sexted an old friend of their husband’s within weeks of the step-son’s disappearance, attacked the boy’s mother on numerous social media sites, and would rather lose 6 years with their own “biological” child than answer questions in court? Answer: a rare few. The “we” and “us” are an attempt to conceal the author’s identity.

8. us- Who is us? “Us” is inclusive, to identify with more than one person. This is unexpected for “personal experience”.

9. we are so often- Who is we? How often are you reminded? By whom are you reminded? When are you reminded?

10. the outsider- The author introduces “the outsider”. For there to be an outsider, there has to be insiders. Still the outsider to whom? Sensitivity noted.

11. just- Minimizing language

12. Terri Moulton Horman- Note change in language. Why is she Terri Horman when she’s Kyron’s step-mom under suspicion and Terri Moulton Horman when he disappears?

14. “mom”- Note sarcastic and open disparagement of the victim’s mother by placing mom in quotations marks.

15. Of course- Shows need to persuade, wants the audience to take for granted what the author says.

16. someone(bolded)- Implication that neither biological parent was responsible for Kyron; Implication that Teri was the only responsible adult; The term “someone” is used grudgingly (as one forced to do something against one’s will). "Someone" is an impersonal term. How would the author know whether or not Kaine offered to take Kyron’s project to school? The phrasing and abundance of unnecessary detail in this paragraph suggest inside knowledge of a disagreement/argument over taking Kyron’s project ( “Kyron and his project on the Red Eyed Tree Frog” made it to the Science Fair…). Why does the author feel it important to mention the project specifically by name? Perhaps because she put together the project (ahem-“helped’ with his project). To a narcissist, the children/kids are an extension of them. They’re only as good as they make the parent/step-parent look.

17. Terri Horman- Note 4th name change re: Terri’s name (back to the more formal Terri Horman). Note she is Terri Horman in conjunction with responsibility and obligation, as well as “step-mom” (author’s quotations marks- sarcasm, as in just his step-mom as she proceeds to blast Desiree).

19. Desiree Young, running her mouth- Note it took the author 18 paragraphs to properly introduce the victim’s mother. When she does, it is in the context of “running her mouth”- a very poor social introduction, at best. This introduction evidences intensely personal animosity and intended public disrespect of the victim’s mother. Why would stranger step-mother hate the distraught mother of a missing child so much, that she’d go out her way to compose and publish an article specifically designed to publicly humiliate and embarrass her? Why would a stranger feel so threatened by Desiree speaking to the media? This is a very personal, hate-filled rant. * Note 5th name change- Terri Horman is the more personal Terri during this rant against Desiree.

**Hey Jude had it right- “running her mouth” is a vulgar, coarse expression suggesting that the author has a belligerent, confrontational personality. It also evokes bullying behavior, as does this article.

20. Terri gave up (author’s bolding)- Note 7th name change to the more personal Terri ( the preceding paragraph strongly demanded recognition for Terri Horman as his [Kyron’s] “mom” ). The author passionately details Terri’s sacrifices.

21. it was Terri (author’s bolding)- Note the continued use of the more personal, informal Terri. Note the martyr complex. This is 20 paragraphs into the article and the author has yet to attach or even suggest the term love (or any positive attribute) connecting Terri to Kryon. There are terms like responsibility and obligation, and repeated detailed lists of sacrifices. Love for Kyron wasn’t the motivating factor, as evidenced by the author’s own language. So, what did motivate Terri to do all that the author listed?

My observations (giving this a whirl here): The purpose of this article is to initially present Terri’s case, as in she couldn’t possibly have done it because look at all she did for Kyron. Ironically, it fails at convincing because the lack of love, emotional attachment is glaringly obvious. It is intended to sway public opinion in support of Terri (and possibly taint a jury pool). It is a barely concealed attempt to decimate Desiree. It was not enough to destroy Kyron; the author further seeks to destroy Desiree primarily. Kaine was/is the closely-followed second target. Kyron was the means to an end.

*Has Terri, on her own, ever publicly appealed to the alleged kidnapper on Kyron's behalf?

I have 2 go make Mac n cheese & am hunt n pecking on my tablet so this is quick. Aside from the part where she calls the poor kid a brat (I was feeling sympathy 4 her till that slapped me in the face), she calls him *victim*. Now it could be a kidnapping vic, but it would be more natural to say "but he was the one kidnapped" I think. Calling him the victim in that way implies that he is dead, poor baby. :-(

Your analysis was excellent and got me thinking more critically about who the author might be.

You wrote:

19. Desiree Young, running her mouth- Note it took the author 18 paragraphs to properly introduce the victim’s mother. When she does, it is in the context of “running her mouth”- a very poor social introduction, at best. This introduction evidences intensely personal animosity and intended public disrespect of the victim’s mother. Why would stranger step-mother hate the distraught mother of a missing child so much, that she’d go out her way to compose and publish an article specifically designed to publicly humiliate and embarrass her? Why would a stranger feel so threatened by Desiree speaking to the media? This is a very personal, hate-filled rant. * Note 5th name change- Terri Horman is the more personal Terri during this rant against Desiree.

This jumped out at me. The phrase "running her mouth".Typically this is the type of thing an abusive MAN would say.This is the type of thing a physically abusive man would say.

Thank you for getting me interested in looking critically at this letter.

"She was gone receiving treatment for the supposed “life threatening kidney ailment” for a month. She then returned to Oregon, moving to Medford and in with her parents “to get on her feet”. One thing is for sure, she eventually became “well enough” to get re-married and build a new life for herself in Medford. However, in five years, it seems that she never did get “well enough” or “on her feet enough” to move back to Portland to be a present and active “mom” to her only son and only child, Kyron. Nope, she stayed in Medford three hours away from him and left all the being present and active “mom” stuff to Terri Horman."

This is someone who is bitter that Desiree started a new life, that Desiree recovered from her "supposed" illness and "re-married".

"left all the being present and active "mom" stuff to Terri Horman.

"being present".....the writer was someone either in the home or who spent time in the home and that is why they make this observation

"Speaking from personal experience, being a step-mother is a thankless position. It is one of the most mentally depleting and emotionally un-rewarding positions many women find themselves in. Including, yours truly."

There is sensitivity here suggesting deception regarding the write actually being a stepmother

The repetition of the writer saying they are a stepmother in the above statements. They say it twice in sentences

Writing Styleemotionally un-rewarding (misspelled unrewarding)the source of all things negative, evil, and wrongtaxi themour mental and emotional reservesbear the burden of all the parental responsibilities and obligations with none (utilizes contrast and compare mechanism)to behave in all manners disgusting and atrociousmothering obligation and responsibilitythe plain of reality Desiree lives on (misspelled use of plane- as in level of existence)sympathizers constantly toutpresent and activecommunity effortsholding responsible for the fate, well-being, and whereabouts of

the majority of the America, American children (seems designed to deceive, imply the author is a foreigner, conceal identity)

"Americanisms": free built-in babysitter (as opposed to nanny, au pair, etc.), dropped him off (as opposed to took him to school/deposited him at school),running her mouth, if you can stomach, hell-bent, kinda stuck around

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Not Education, but saw this while I was looking:

“Of course Terri was the last parent to see him, after all, someone had to make sure that Kyron and his science project on the Red Eyed Tree Frog made it to the science fair at his elementary school that morning and that responsibility and obligation fell upon his “step mom”, Terri Horman, just like every mothering obligation and responsibility involving Kryron had, for practically his entire life."

Note Order: When the subject is driving Kyron & his project to school, the order is responsibility, then obligation (heavy empahasis on someone making sure this happens). Driving is a responsibility. Note Terri’s previous DUI’s. Note the change in order that mothering prompts- obligation is listed first, followed by responsibility. The author has personal knowledge that Terri did things for Kyron solely out of obligation.

"In fact, if you can stomach listening to Desiree long enough, it quickly becomes clear that according to her, everything is Kaine’s fault or Terri’s fault."

Actually, the author is most angry at Desiree. In the first part of her article, she attacks the both "biological" parents(a.k.a. "bio-parents", "bio-mother and bio-father". Kaine is afforded the formal status of father (no quotes), while Desiree is deigned the sarcastic "mom". It is Desiree"running her mouth", even though Kaine has made numerous media appearances and has made inflammatory statements about Terri, as well.It is Desiree who needs to be stomached, with her supporters touting her as Kyron's mom (which she indeed is, biologically, legally,and emotionally). The level of hatred is not the same.

The author is angry that according to her [Desiree] everything (hyperbole-exaggeration) is Kaine or Terri's fault. Why would a random step-mom (as the author attempts to portray herself) care if it was Kaine's fault? Unless she is related or attached to Kaine in some way? After trashing bio-parents (plural) and bio-fathers in the beginning, why would she defend Kaine? Unless she were somehow emotionally invested in Kaine? The author goes on to lightly attack Kaine(albeit very lightly compared to devouring Desiree)...more like insinuate, really. the author seems afraid to attack Kaine as heavily and pointedly (afraid of a lawsuit?).

The author is angry that according to her [Desiree] everything (hyperbole-exaggeration) is Kaine or Terri's fault. Why would a random step-mom (as the author attempts to portray herself) care if it was Kaine's fault? Unless she is related or attached to Kaine in some way? After trashing bio-parents (plural) and bio-fathers in the beginning, why would she defend Kaine? Unless she were somehow emotionally invested in Kaine? The author goes on to lightly attack Kaine(albeit very lightly compared to devouring Desiree)...more like insinuate, really. the author seems afraid to attack Kaine as heavily and pointedly (afraid of a lawsuit?).

Absolutely, the author is most angry at Desiree. What has me stuck is the author uses language very typical of abusive males when describing Desiree as "running at the mouth". I agree with you that the author does attack Kaine lightly comparatively (although she does attack him), and I find this odd. The writer's venom is definitely focused on Desiree.

I agree with you that the author is attempting to disguise him or her self by saying "American children".

This following statement I find odd for 2 reasons

"In fact, if you can stomach listening to Desiree long enough, it quickly becomes clear that according to her, everything is Kaine’s fault or Terri’s fault."

1) Desiree mostly blames Terri yet the writer mentions Kaine first as being blamed by Desiree.2) "if you can stomach listening to Desiree long enough"...This statement is like the "running her mouth" statement...it has a masculine quality, abuser, and someone who seems to have previous resentment about listening to Desiree talk

In the morning I will reread your excellent breakdown of the language vocabulary style and analysis to try to get a better grip on whether the writer is male or female, level of education, and some other details.

My mind is all over the place juggling 3 possiblities

The writer is either Terri, Kaine, or, and this is unlikely, an unknown killer who is angry that noone is "paying him any attention", because noone including law enforcement is puzzling over the case since Terri has been pinned as the killer from pretty much the start.

I'm curious about the pictures accompanying the article- Did they originally accompany the article? If so, they seems designed to reinforce the author's position.

Pic 1: As so many of you stated, Terri is holding Kyron close for the family photo op, but she’s restraining him from touching Kiera. Ironically, Kiera is looking at Kyron instead of Terri.

Pic 2: Desiree speaking (mouth open as in seeming to confirm the “running her mouth” accusation)

Pic 3: Dying Easter eggs family photo op-Usually a mom & kids venture, Terri appears intent on the egg, Kyron’s merely an observer (via body language he looks like he’s been waiting while to try), and James is focused on the photographer.

Pic 4: A Birthday Party photo op-Usually another mom-planned, mom-directed activity. Terri appears to have her hand on the back of Kyron’s head in what appears to be a loving gesture as he beams delightedly/mischievously. Her facial expression, however,doesn't match as her face is hard, set, and she appears annoyed.

If these pics are any indication, Terri made Kyron's home life miserable. Even sadder, since she volunteered in his class every week, he had no way to escape her. Poor Kyron! like many narcissists, she likely fooled many adults into thinking she loved Kyron sooo much and she was such a good, involved mother.

Yours is a well ordered and comprehensive analysis, Foolsfeedonfolly. I'm impressed with your attention to detail, and that you even counted the paragraphs and number of times there was a change of name, and resisted naming who the author might be. :). It is a very personal attack on Desiree.

I can see your point about the sayings typically sounding male. My Dad & brother both use the "running her mouth" expression about women they doesn't respect. I'm wondering how Terri's time spent at the gym and in the ultra-competitive bodybuilding world may have influenced her language usage and vocabulary. The author appears a curious mixture of street-talk confrontational and fairly well-educated. Judging by the vocabulary and phrasing, I'd say she/he likes to read and may favor crime novels/thrillers. She/he also has also been to court and is fairly familiar with legal documents, IMO

Sorry to be contrary, if I am - I continue to disagree with anyone who claims all children, American, and European, or even most, have heard those fairy tales before they are three. Here, it would be considered child abuse to read those to toddlers, (or some other sinister fairy tales - i.e. Hansel and Gretl, Little Red Riding Hood). I can't speak for the whole of the U.K., so in this context 'here' means amongst my circle of friends and acquaintances. Older children, yes, or maybe (some would not hear any which included violence, or 'helpless princess saved by valiant prince' type stories). Shame - kids love a good fairy tale. I wouldn't find them appropriate to toddlers, or encourage uncritical acceptance of the idea of girls as princesses and helpless chattel waiting for transfer of ownership to handsome valiant princes, but I think fairy tales are good for helping children acknowledge their fears, and for the imagination.

I'd be interested to know - do all American two year olds have read to them Cinderella and Snow White, and specifically the 'unsanitised' version which includes the huntsman cutting out her heart and putting it in a box for the Queen, or is that much less likely? If they do, then I am just wrong about the author not reading fairy tales to her kids, whilst trying to create the impression that she does. I would expect a more educated person to be less likely to read sinister fairy tales to very young children - so I'd say the writer is either less educated, or fairly educated, but lives in a world untouched by what some might call political correctness.

Hey Jude! What are you talking about? You've had a number of really insightful posts on this!

There's just so much in this one article- Wow! Just the sentiment alone, expressed in this article, is so bitterly angry and hateful. It's hard to get past it to focus on the actual words. I thought maybe numbering the paragraphs might be helpful. I got the count the number of changes straight from Peter. My family's thinking of staging a Statement Analysis blog intervention! LOL!

I can't imagine doing this for a living! It's got to be pretty exhausting and seriously time-consuming. I'm nowhere near detail-oriented enough! One of the things I like the most about this site is reading what everyone has to contribute and I appreciate that other posters are willing to share what they've already learned. I get eye rolls from my teenager when I say, "Listen to this statement...", but our family is getting better at determining bias and such in our local news media outlets and politicians. :)

We purposely skipped the whole fairy tale thing for several reasons. They're heavy on physical beauty- we think it's more important for girls to be intelligent and of good character. Secondly, we don't like how the girl is always the focus of attention and they live happily ever after because the prince merely exists to fulfill her every wish. Can we say narcissistic? How long would that marriage last in real life?!!

It also doesn't help that we know a seriously spoiled, narcissistic 46 yr old who sincerely believes that relationships are all about the girl and treating her like a princess (seriously). Guess where her favorite place on earth is? LOL! We feel sorry for the guy who dates/marries her daughter. Whew!

A number of the Mother Goose stories, Grimm's Fairy Tales, and such are pretty graphically scary or violent. I could never figure out why we, as a society, read children scary stories about mean people, witches, and violence...and then we're upset because they're afraid of the dark, scared to go to sleep, or have nightmares every night. :0 Then, parents have to spend quite a while undoing what they've done. So, we just passed.

Dulled listening (reading) on my part, Fools, if you got the number of name changes from Peter, lol - I don't remember him talking about that. I think I have read something properly, but often haven't, or I must just forget, plus numbers annoy me, so maybe I just filter them out. I'm never going to be able to do the bit where you're meant to work out the percentage of words dedicated to this or that person/subject - that's bordering on the technical. :)

You articulate your thoughts very well - I'll read your posts again later (and anon's and some others) as I'm particularly interested in the attack on Desiree, on which you have concentrated - that's where I gave up in my own efforts, more or less, as that's when I decided Terri was the author, so I knew I couldn't be objective once I was thinking that. Interesting that it might be Kaine - I thought he believed Terri was guilty, but that's only an assumption; I haven't heard any interviews - so that's something else to look up.

Yes, it's a great site - I like it for the same reasons, though I'm quite a late-comer to appreciating the comments - I mostly only read the articles before I began commenting, but now I look forward to the comments as much as to the articles. Yes, it would be very stressful to do SA for a living - mostly, I would fear the responsibility of getting it wrong. Though one shouldn't, if SA is never wrong (I don't always agree with all the analyses) - I think I wouldn't have the self-discipline for it (as in just skip the percentage bit or anything I didn't understand) - plus I'd want to make up my own rules. :-/ I like to learn, though, so I am trying, for my own interest.

I'm not sure if anyone else thought this but the reference to poison apples makes me think she may have drugged kyron before killing him or may have actually poisoned him then buried or otherwise disposed of his body.

My Sew Imperfect Life @ 10:44 PM March 21, 2016 - I like your name! It's a great play on words! Interesting point on the author's use of "victim" too.

Hey Jude @ 3:47 Am March 22, 2016 - I hear you on the figuring percentages of the statement thing! That principle intrigues me, but I think tracking each word would frustrate me. It reminds me of the time I had to pinch-hit in Accounting for a day and spent the entire day checking and double-checking figures. I thought I might run screaming from the building after a few hours! LOL

Anonymous @ 9:28 AM March 22, 2016- You make a good point. The author does seem a tad focused on the poisoned apple Snow White story in particular (referencing that tale more so than others). She seems to delight a little in being graphic (coarseness)- shock value, maybe? Not exactly a detail I'd expect to find in a missing children's case article, crafted by a random bystander (who happens to be a step-mom), defending the child's step-mother and attacking the "Biological" mother.

"Speaking from personal experience, being a step-mother is a thankless position. It is one of the most mentally depleting and emotionally un-rewarding positions many women find themselves in."

This is untrue in Terri's case- she knew Kaine was married, she knew Desiree was pregnant, and chose to continue the affair. She was "in his [Kyron's] life and a major part of his life from three days old." Terri was not clueless about the situation. When Kyron was 2, she "gave up her full-time job, to move into Kaine's home (priority), to take care of Kyron>". To take care of Kryon is like using because in a statement. Terri put herself in the situation, in the step-mom role. She knew before the time Kyron was 2, how committed Kaine was to keeping his son. Stating otherwise is manipulation. It's interesting that Kaine also became a step-dad and yet he seems to have gotten along well with James(per both James and Kaine).

Weighing in as a 2nd mom...yes, I believe this is to get step parents on her side. I raised my step children along with my own. I was told by bio mom that they aren't mine. I told her I know I didn't give birth to them, yet I love them as if I had. I asked her what was wrong with someone else loving them unconditionally? I never attempted to take her place. My husband was a single father with custody of his 3 children when we met. I had 2 of my own children. We raised them all together. Now we have grandchildren that we adore. Yes, there were hard times, but every minute was worth it.

http://blinkoncrime.com/2014/11/07/mcstay-family-murders-charles-chase-merritt-arrested-in-the-murders-of-mcstay-family/comment-page-5/Posted by Christina Stoy44. June 17, 2015 at 2:29 pmRespectfully, in the midst of one of my most burdened semesters this winter to spring, YOURS TRULY yours truly took it upon herself to infuse completion of 4 rooms

http://blinkoncrime.com/2010/06/07/kyron-horman-missing-and-endangered-search-intensifies-for-missing-7-yeard-old-portland-boy/Posted by Christina Stoy - Monday 7 June 2010 4:14 pmTHE BRIGHT-EYED, BESPECTACLED, bespectacled, herpetologist in training also dressed for the occasion in his best CSI tshirt.

I am the anon from further up, I will pick the name "Bluebird".Just to look at it from all angles, could the killer have been a step-mother or even a male who hated his child's bio mother and could this killer have worked at the school?

Things that could support this:

1) mentioning of fairy tales and by what age children have read them2) the phrase "active and present" which could apply to being active and present in the school or classroom3) the author seems to harbor long-standing resentment towards listening to Desiree talk--I remember reading that Desiree and Terri were both in communication with the school

On a separate note, the mocking of Desiree's victim status, suggests the writer may have been accused of abuse in the past

" In fact, she is so busy throwing herself into the spotlight playing “the victim”, one would think that she has almost forgotten that this is about her son, who is the victim."

She doesn't love Kyron and probably never did because all her talk has been about herself, nothing about Kyron. Most people would be tormented not knowing what happened to their kid (biological or step), all she cares about is her image and what people think of her.

I was also disturbed by the attack on Kyron's parents and I agree the writer is white, mid 30s to early 40s.I've been wondering if the author was Terry, but I'm wondering more if the author is a step kom who has actually hurt her own step kids in someway and is trying to excuse her own behavior by acting like she (and other step moms) are the victims.The article was twisted to hell and chilling enough that I know this for sure: the writer should not be left alone with young kids.

Does the blogger say that she authored the article herself? There's a reasonable possibility that it was contributed to the blog by someone else. The blogger enters into private email discussions with her blog community, and says she protects her sources, confidentiality, etc - it need not have been written by the blogger - she may not even know the true identity of the author. Anyone could emai in an article citing their own sources. Or she's a woman who hates kids with a passion, yet runs a website about crimes against children - how likely is that?

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Fools, well done, you - ours loved Jack and the Beanstalk, my daughter particularly liked The Elves and the Shoemaker, but mostly they liked Roald Dahl's stories. My youngest son liked Oscar Wilde's 'The Happy Prince' and Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's 'The Little Prince' - move over, princesses, lol. I let them read what they wanted to read, even Enid Blyton's 'Noddy' when he fell out of favour - can't say I was too discriminating, so long as they wanted to read it, and it was more or less a children's book, that seemed good to me. Ah, well. :-/

The article is not written by Terri ,and I left off the author so that profiling could be done blind, though the obvious empathy with the killer is there. Are readers considering a connection to Terri? Source?

I praised those of you who considered that Terri could be the author because it shows an openness. To profile, you must be open to anything and everything.

Interesting enough is the question: Would you trust the author with your children?

http://umbrellaofsuspicion.com/2016/01/terri-mouton-horman-a-custodial-step-mothers-perspective/Terri Horman: A Custodial Step-Mothers PerspectiveIt is one of the most mentally depleting and emotionally un-rewarding positions many women find themselves in. Including, YOURS TRULY.

http://blinkoncrime.com/2013/05/31/missing-nc-woman-holly-fischer-divorce-to-ali-girit-pending-upset-her-tennesse-police-ask-for-public-help/comment-page-4/46. (July 5, 2013 at 3:55 pm)you are similar in your critical thinking and advocacy- as well as appropriately challenging YOURS TRULY truly when compelled-

http://blinkoncrime.com/2010/06/07/kyron-horman-missing-and-endangered-search-intensifies-for-missing-7-yeard-old-portland-boy/KYRON HORMAN MISSING AND ENDANGERED: SEARCH INTENSIFIES FOR MISSING 7 YEAR OLD PORTLAND BOYPosted by Christina Stoy | Blink| Monday 7 June 2010 4:14 pmTHE BRIGHT-EYED, BESPECTACLED, herpetologist in training also dressed for the occasion in his best CSI tshirt.

http://blinkoncrime.com/2010/09/09/kyron-horman-missing-case-review-and-birthday-wishes-to-the-frog-prince/Kyron Horman Missing: Case Review And Birthday Wishes To The Frog PrincePosted by Christina Stoy | Blink| Thursday 9 September 2010 4:58 pmIn response to the disappearance and presumed abduction of the BESPECTACLED herpetologist; Skyline has implemented a myriad of mandatory safety features as well as a state of the art security camera system.

http://umbrellaofsuspicion.com/2016/01/terri-mouton-horman-a-custodial-step-mothers-perspective/Terri Horman: A Custodial Step-Mothers PerspectiveOver the past six years since Kryron has been gone, Desiree has spear-headed a smear and HATE CAMPAIGN and nation wide witch hunt against Terri Horman

http://blinkoncrime.com/2013/12/31/kyron-horman-missing-new-years-eve-settlement-ends-horman-marriage/comment-page-206/3. thatkewlgirl says:(May 27, 2015)She is behind THE HATE CAMPAIGN and there is zero separation between her and the Young family.

http://blinkoncrime.com/2013/12/31/kyron-horman-missing-new-years-eve-settlement-ends-horman-marriage/comment-page-287/47. thatkewlgirl says: (December 18, 2015)She lost her stepsister to a heinous High School murder, and then went on a very public HATE CAMPAIGN to keep the convicted killer behind bars,

Has anyone here watched the Kyron Horman documentary? Look at how Kaine looks at Desiree when she is talking. He has a look on his face like he is feigning interest but there is also disgust towards her and a look like he wants to reach out and hurt her physically. I am not saying he nevessarily hurt Kyron, but he is on my radar. Also, his eyes are dead-looking, cold and emotionless. Terri is on my radar also, quite suspicious she pulled off to the side of the road for half an hour.Also, I am just asking...does Desiree's husband have an alibi? Something about him gives me the willies. Not as much as Kaine...Kaine scares me. Desiree's husband, there is a mild creep vibe.I would like to get into answering Peter's question, but first could someone please answer my questions?

Thank you Peter for posting this, it has been really interesting.I'm not so good at statement analysis but I'll throw out my opinions.Writer(s) are protective of Terri only. They hate Desiree, they try to paint a picture of her as a bad mother but in their quest to do that only make themselves look awful. There is next to no thought or attention to Kyron. Writer feels that she deserved better than what she got from her marriage(s). Very bitter. If step-mom wrote this it should be pointed out that what do you expect when you date a married man who has a pregnant wife? Terri picked this prize herself, married him. This was her third marriage. No one feels sorry for another woman who gets herself in a mess like that. It's not because she is a step-mom that she is so disliked, it's because she's a tramp. Poor judgement occurs over and over in her life. Michael cook sexting did not help her case at all.

Can the author see the truth? No, and that's a big problem for her. She doesn't see how she comes across, clueless. She seems to find other equally dysfunctional people to surround herself with. I believe she has had some education, but lacks emotional intelligence, it's not there at all. She is like a machine, "but I did everything I was supposed to do." But with no smiles, no emotion, no love. She got nothing back in caring for Kyron? She's just not a motherly person at all. She has probably been using men her whole life for anything and everything. It was the only thing she understood, sex? No people skills at all, it was the only thing left, she used it. She and her friend Dede have been very open about loving sex and not apologetic about their lifestyles. That's okay for them, but the general public doesn't want to hear about it. It's not the norm and they don't get it, they are just wired differently than most. No judging but if they want to know why things have gone so wrong, it's a part of the story.

She's feels continually misunderstood, I don't think she can fix it. She hasn't figured it out yet, not going to happen.

Why all the talk of the fairy tales? Peter? I don't know. Does she still think like a child? Me, me, me?

If you watch the press conference when they were still all on friendly terms, Terri's expression looks like she is faking upset, Kaine's expression and demeanor also seems very suspicious like he looks like he knows something he's not saying and he does not look upset. Desiree's husband seems weird too...I cant put my finger on it. Desiree is the only one I believe is genuine.

Bluebird, I always thought Kaine acted weird because he knew Terri was guilty as hell. Desiree, I felt was also genuine. By the day of the press conference rumors around town were Terri had half a dozen stories about her day on June 4. Kaine had to stand there and pretend he didn't know anything when all signs were pointing to his wife. He brought the devil into the family, maybe because she could swallow golf balls. Kaine, and maybe Terri too could possibly have been abused as children. Like attacks like. A bunch of broken people, including Terri's supporters.

anon at 2:46 points to statements made by Sandi Lessman that closely match in style and substance to this piece. It was rumored last year that Terri was living with Sandi in Eugene so maybe it was a collaboration between the two at that time. Surely Terri is cunning enough not to publish such a hostile rant herself or on her devices.

I would not trust this author with my kids or my horse (if I had one).

http://umbrellaofsuspicion.com/2016/01/terri-mouton-horman-a-custodial-step-mothers-perspective/Terri Horman: A Custodial Step-Mothers PerspectiveAnd, yet, no matter what we do or how much of ourselves, our time, our finances, our mental and emotional reserves we give to our step children and their bio parents, we are still THE OUTSIDER.

http://www.kptv.com/story/31011122/terri-horman-to-people-magazine-i-did-everything-i-could-to-help-investigationTerri Horman to 'People':Despite that, Terri Horman told People that investigators treated her as AN OUTSIDER and never listened to her account of what happened.

I dunno. There's certain things I can't wrap my head around about this case. First of all, I think that if Terri did this, it seems like she picked a time/place to do the kidnapping that would give such a chance of her being seen. How could she possibly know that noone would see her leave with Kyron? Also, she stopped at 2 drugstores after leaving the school (and I know people say that was to build an alibi) but it would have given even more people a chance to see her with Kyron...her getting out of the car with Kyron in the car?!? Or to get caught on a camera.

Kaine has all kinds of strange statements that raise SA red flags along with bizarre post incident behavior.Kaine's behavior overall like cheating on Desiree and leaving Desiree before she gave birth is so disgusting, and yet he paints himself like he is a wonderful person. This also shows, by virtue of Kaine's cheating right under Desiree's nose, that he is a LIAR.

I am also not willing to just discredit Terri's statements about her suspecting Kyron was being sexually abused in the months preceding his disappearance. And I assume this would have been by Kaine if it is in fact true.

I also would absolutely need to know why Kaine was home early that day and accompanied Terri to the busstop to pick up Kyron. I have never heard any explanation for that. This is extremely coincidental and there is no way I would brush it off as a mere coincidence.

I also think it is really sad Desiree surrendered custody to Kaine and Terri. She seems like a very strong and together person and it just seems out of character. I also believe she very much loves Kyron and her grief is palpable. Therefore, I don't understand why she did that and I wonder if Kaine did something to manipulate her into doing it, like maybe making her feel she was worthless as a mother or incapable of caring for Kyron.

I don't trust Kaine as far as I can throw him. However, Terri's story about pulling over on the side of the road to rock Kiara to sleep is suspicious. Driving around to try to calm her baby with an ear infection is not suspicious in and of itself because I have known many mothers who drive around to try to get their babies to sleep because this oftentimes will lull a baby into taking their nap.

I suspect Terri but have many suspicions towards Kaine also. Kaine, without question, is a highly manipulative person as we have seen by his cheating behavior right under Desiree's nose, and even the fact he wouldn't let Kyron move back in with Desiree, because children should ideally be with their mother.

Terri and Kaine were both cheaters. Both!Employees of Intel have very flexible work schedules, many work from home. It was not unusual for Kaine to come home early to work. It would be the norm for many Intel workers. The family walking to the bus stop is no big deal either. Kaine was being a good Dad, being home early gave him the opportunity to met his son at the bus. In our area many Dads that are home early met their younger children at the bus, it's a loving gesture. All the parents in this sad story have good and bad qualities. Measuring one against the other doesn't prove or disprove anything, but I believe Terri has more secrets than the other two.

That article "Why Nice Women Don't Like Step Kids" was one of the most disturbing things I've ever read. She complained of EVERY aspect of being a step parent, not just one or two. She put the stepchildren and their mother as the bad guy while she is the nice, normal one. What? Something about how the father made a mistake by marrying prior to her and having the stepchildren, and not waiting for her. Oy vey.

Terri Horman: A Custodial Step-Mothers Perspective is the article that we are discussing presently was published on that Umbrella of Suspicion's website. The owner (Shannon Chelossi) has published very vile and hate filled articles about step children (see links above on previous post). Have TH and this author connected somehow to have this article (that we are currently discussing) published? It is very disturbing and it brings to mind when DY was saying she read hate filled emails about Kyron that were supposedly written by TH. I don't like this one bit and it is leaving a very bad taste in my mouth. Perhaps LE should take a closer look at all this?

Photos are usually selected to illustrate what the writer is saying. But here the first photo is dripping in irony whether intentional or not.

At first glance we see a mother admiring her new baby. But the following statement "The darling bespectacled little boy with the bright eyes and big grin…" is incongruent with what else we see. Instead, we see Kyron looking like the unfortunate animal whose paw is caught in the cruel jaws of a steel trap. Where's the grin?

Another level of irony is the baby. Kiara is not gazing at her mother and basking in the maternal moment, she is fixated instead on her brother, Kyron. Which brings to mind Kaine's concern about what Kiara may have witnessed on that fateful day.

How much thought was given to using that photo and what was the intention? There are hundreds of photos of Kyron smiling available so why use one where he looks trapped and scared?

If the author is close to Terri and conveying her sentiments, then this article provides chilling insight into her motive to vanish Kyron.

Peter, do you believe that further analyses may uncover leakage as to the ultimate fate of Kyron? The author knows he has died and why but might they also know the details?

Peter, the most obvious mental health issue seems to be extreme narcissism for both the author and Terri. There is so much dysfunction in the thought processes expressed that it is difficult to sort out further for the average reader. A mental health expert though would have a good sample. There was a legit reason Terri wouldn't participate in a psychological examination to expedite her reunion with her daughter and it is leaking out.

I'm curious what it is about the article that makes both of you feel thatthe author is white/Caucasian. Did I miss something?

IMO, she comes across as uberly high maintenance with an expectation and sense of entitlement that isn’t usually found in other ethnicities. Additionally, the author is identifying with Terri Horman, and sarcastically projecting her step(son’s?) behaviour onto Kyron, who are white.

Absolutely, the author is most angry at Desiree. What has me stuck is the author uses language very typical of abusive males when describing Desiree as "running at the mouth". I agree with you that the author does attack Kaine lightly comparatively (although she does attack him), and I find this odd. The writer's venom is definitely focused on Desiree.

Another angle regards, "running at the mouth”, is the author’s desire for Desiree to ‘shut up’.

IMO, the author doesn’t think that Desiree has a “say” in what happened to Kyron because her observation (based on her own experience,) is that Desiree was absent from Kyron's life in the first place. She goes easier on Kaine because although absent himself (aligning her own husband with Kaine = projecting, so, travel for work?) he is providing for the step-mother and all his kids; and although not always physically present, she is in contact with him via phone/email, when she needs him/his input. That makes the two of them a team and the bio-mother (projection/Desiree,) an outsider. Outsider was introduced by the author in the way she feels people treat her, the “custodial” step-mom. But in her opinion, the true outsider is the “mom”/Desiree, hence why “custodial” step-mom thinks Kyron’s mom has no business “running at the mouth”, the result being that she gets all sympathy and support (jealousy).

I believe that the author compares what she goes through as being a step-mother “one of the most mentally depleting and emotionally un-rewarding positions many women find themselves in.” very revealing about the author’s personality.

Note the order, mental followed by emotional. There is no heart in what this woman does. She is always thinking how to do it, the pay-off being the feeling being sought, which is adulation (definition being: obsequious flattery; excessive admiration or praise.) This woman is very insecure and manipulative. And she thinks herself a leader speaking for “many women”.

"Hey Jude asked:I'd be interested to know - do all American two year olds have read to them Cinderella and Snow White, and specifically the 'unsanitised' version which includes the huntsman cutting out her heart and putting it in a box for the Queen, or is that much less likely?”

I’m Canadian and I can emphatically state that this Canadian was not raised on the unsanitized version of any fairy tale. I think if I were to ever see the unsanitized version/s in hard copy, they would be found in a used book/antique store or part of a library I/we would inherit. I call hyperbole on the author’s assertion that American kids are raised on this sort of fairy tale. I think the introduction of fairy tale is a reflection of the author's own situation. That what she believed her life would be (and they lived happily ever after) and the truth of the matter is that her married life is not ‘happy’ and the violence and rage she refers to in fairy tales is her own/what she inflicts on those around her.

To answer Peter’s question, no, I would not trust her to take care of my children.

she has not been named a person of interest. She has not been named a suspect. She has not been charged or arrested with anything, in connection with Kryon’s disappearance and yet, according to a majority of the America, they just know she is “guilty” of “doing something to Kyron”.

Innocent until proven guilty is this author’s moto.

“guilty of doing something”

The word, something, minimizes what befell Kyron and unless it can be identified and proven ‘what’ exactly, the “custodial step-mom” is innocent of any foul inflicted on her charge. This author gives her a pass/will not judge Terri Horman’s refusal to cooperate with authorities.

I think it's safe to assume, after six years, that Kyron was murdered. The author minimizes the action of murder by using the nondescript word, "something" instead.

“she is guilty of doing something to Kyron” is framed. IMO, the author knows this to be true, but until there is a charge against the uncooperative, (lying,) “custodial step mom”, her (covert) behaviour is above reproach. Seeing as how this author aligns herself so strongly with Terri Horman, I suspect that this author/“custodial step mom” is capable of violence and rage inflicted on small children, herself, and as long as she is not caught she would not admit to it and/or take responsibility for her behaviour unless it was proven she abused children in her care. In other words she would lie about it projects herself to the world in a contradictory manner than who she truly is.

It’s a judgement against ex-wife’s who, in this author’s opinion, abdicate their parental role. Parental role equal a lot of things, i.e, care, nurturing, protection, education, presence, and participation. In this specific instance I believe the author is speaking directly to protection. As in, if the “bio mom” chooses not to mother/protect her child, then it’s their fault what happens to their child. They have no right to judge the “custodial" step-mom and no say about the consequence of what the author perceives to be the result of neglect. It’s like she’s insinuating what happened to Kyron was deserved because it wouldn't have otherwise happened if Desiree was "mothering" Kyron. That [it] had nothing to do with the mental health of the custodial step-mother/Terri Horman.

In my opinion, this author has no heart and no conscience and she is "you go girl" in regards to Terri Horman's actions in the murder-for-hire plot (which she purposely ignores,) the murder and secreting of Kyron Horman and the merciless suffering of Desiree Young.

In my opinion, this author is a psychopath who takes great joy living vicariously through the actions of Terri Horman and who is culpable with regard to the suffering of Desiree Young by her very action of writing such a vile and evil rant in the public domain.