My Former Colleague’s Wife

What’s your gender? ManHow old are you? 35What’s your race/ethnicity? East AsianWhat continent do you live on? AsiaWhat country and/or city do you live in? ChinaHighest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)Religious affiliation: AtheistHow religious are you? Not at allWhat’s your sexual orientation? HeterosexualHow many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6

My Former Colleague’s Wife

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is the wife of my former colleague whom we had hanging out with for a few times. She is short (barely 5′) and slim (less than 100lb), but she has a cute face. We didn’t talk too much then, and I didn’t think about her for sex at all. Later I joined another company so we didn’t see each other for about 1 year.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? About a year ago, she joined the same company as I was working in. She called me on her first day, and we started to have lunch together occasionally. One day, we talked about a girl who worked with me and her husband in the former company. She told me that she thought I had an affair with that girl since we were very close. I told her no, which is the truth. I was close to that girl, but I didn’t trust her and I didn’t want to jeopardize my marriage. Then our topic switched to the opinion on a one-night stand. I found she was pretty open to it so I proposed to go to a hotel together. She said no at the beginning and the reason was I knew her husband. I asked her if she felt guilty to her husband. She said no, but she felt it was weird. She said she preferred to have sex with a stranger. But I have gotten strong desire, so I grasped her hand on my pants and told her how much I wanted her. She finally said yes. So we went to a hotel near the restaurant.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I started to hug her and kiss her as soon as we get in the room, and she kissed back. She wore a white shirt and a jean. I put my hands inside her shirt and opened her bar. Then I lifted her shirt and kissed her nipples. She had the smallest nipples I had ever seen. Soon after she started to moan and put her hands on my shirt and rub my back.

I took off her shirt entirely, and also her jeans and then her underwear. I wanted to give her a blow job, but she refused. After I undressed, I found a problem. There is no condom in the hotel. Normally there is a condom supply in most hotel rooms in China, but not there. So she offered me a blowjob but asked if we could have vaginal sex next time. Of course, I said yes. I used my fingers to stimulate her pussy. She had been very wet so I put my finger in. She moaned louder and shake her ass so I knew she wants me badly. I propose to put my penis in and I promised to withdraw before the cum. She agreed, so we start with missionary position. Unfortunately, I feel the need to cum almost immediately after I put my penis in so I withdraw and cum on her belly.

Luckily she didn’t feel too disappointed. She said she had a very tight vagina and her husband had prospermia problem. I didn’t know if it was real or she was just to comfort me, but I felt happy to heard so. We laid on the bed and chatted. She told me she had a few one night stand before she married, but she this was the first time she cheated her husband. After about 20 minutes, I was hard again. To my surprise, her pussy was still wet.

Again we start with the missionary position and then we tried different ways. The way I liked the most was making her sit on the desk, and I inserted from her front. Her body size is very small comparing to mine so I felt to be so intimate in that way. Finally, I cum inside her in this position.

I knew she enjoyed it as well since she was so active and she moaned so loudly.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Because we could meet during the working hours only, we didn’t have time to do it frequently. Afterward, we had sex for 3 times, but we did kiss many times. Once we kissed in my car and I inserted my finger into her. But we felt other people in the part lot so we didn’t have real sex.

The relationship stopped when I got back to the US after about half year. We kept contact until now. However, we both tried to avoid this topic when we chatted.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure