We're really close friends (both in same year at Uni) and a month ago he kissed me and told me he wanted to be with me, he could see himself loving me, if I was with anyone else he didn't know what he'd do.

I told him I felt the same way, but because I'd been hurt before I wanted to take it really, really slowly - so I told him I wouldn't sleep with him until I was ready. He's the only person who knows I was raped.

Then we were both busy for a while, and when I finally got to chat with him he told me 'I never really liked you; I dont think you're worth it.'

He's now seeing another girl (prettier, sportier, funnier, the works..) and they slept together the first time they kissed.

So (a): what am I supposed to make of this?!
(b): I still like him so much; he's the closest to perfect I'll ever get.

No. He is not the best you are going to get. You deserve better than him, much, much better. I feel sorry for the girl he's with. Don't let him keep you down, and please, do not listen to him. You are worth it, and don't let anyone tell you different, especially someone who is meant to be your friend but says such horrible things.

(Original post by Anonymous)
We're really close friends (both in same year at Uni) and a month ago he kissed me and told me he wanted to be with me, he could see himself loving me, if I was with anyone else he didn't know what he'd do.

I told him I felt the same way, but because I'd been hurt before I wanted to take it really, really slowly - so I told him I wouldn't sleep with him until I was ready. He's the only person who knows I was raped.

Then we were both busy for a while, and when I finally got to chat with him he told me 'I never really liked you; I dont think you're worth it.'

He's now seeing another girl (prettier, sportier, funnier, the works..) and they slept together the first time they kissed.

So (a): what am I supposed to make of this?!
(b): I still like him so much; he's the closest to perfect I'll ever get.

How do I forget about him?

There are over 6 billion people on this planet, trust me, he is not the perfect one, no one is perfect. Enjoy university, and forget about what happened in 2012. Its a new year, its a new start, just have fun and enjoy the best three years of your life at uni.

Although he has just booked train tickets to come down and see me without telling me?! It's a 6 hour train journey, said he wanted to surprise me -.- but I'm getting sick of his messing so I've invited other people to make it less awkward.

hey i'm sorry to be intruding in your thread but actually, i have/had the same problem too. except i thought we were becoming a least friends when (that person) suddenly when all quiet and uninterested on me..( this guy at my school..)

Cut him out of your life completely. No contact, via text, facebook, in person or anything . Don't shy away from tackling the issues mentally either, it's just putting off dealing with it to a later date. It will take time, but you will move on.