Can we actually change pain into peace? | Kate Sitka

Can we actually change pain into peace?

What a life-changer energy transmutation can be. It was so strange, reading the http://www.ramdass.org/transmutation-energy/ blog post and experiencing that delicious *click* of a new and needed concept falling into place.

It’s excellent for diffusing tense situations, or for finding your compassion in a situation that seems unfair. It counter-balances the “avoidance” strategy I tend to default to when it comes to negative or draining situations; sometimes you just can’t avoid an unpleasant conversation or a stressful situation.

It’s easy to look at the external factor (multiple unfortunate events, some other toxic person) as the “cause” of the negative energy you’re stuck dealing with – if it is desirable or possible to simply cut this source out of your life, just give yourself permission to set those boundaries.

However, it’s not always possible to take a scalpel to your life and carve out all the cancer. You’d be left with a hideously deformed life if that was the only tool in our toolbelt. In the past, I’ve used different psychic protection techniques to build my tolerance for negative situations I couldn’t or didn’t want to avoid.

Sometimes, it’s better to just HEAL the cancer, rather than cut it out. That’s what Ram Dass is talking about.

I understand this is not a new concept to many people… but it really was a missing link for me. Holy crap does it ever work!!!

Not only does it shift my approach from “active defensive” (creating energy barriers between me and the source) or “passive defensive” (allowing myself to be a clear river illuminated by light) it creates a completely different mindset.

In defense mode, you’re thinking “Shields up!”

In transmutation mode, you’re thinking “Welcome.” It’s amazing!

Suddenly, all that crap I’ve been tip-toeing around is food. I’m like a banana slug, taking a potentially toxic waste substance and transforming it into something that will nourish others – and I am nourished along the way.

I just can’t get over how easy and empowering it is.

I recently used it to break a “drama cycle” at the hospital (my part-time alter-ego role.) In case you’re unfamiliar with the idea, the “drama triangle” is this idea that there are three roles which perpetuate drama in your life: victim, persecutor and rescuer.

The victim believes they are 100% innocent. The victim is the “good” person.

The persecutor is 100% guilty, or the “bad” person, as seen by the victim. However, persecutor may see *themselves* as the victim.

The rescuer (optional) will offer to help not for good karma, but for their personal, egoic gain. The rescuer does not really respect the person they’re helping, or doesn’t think them capable of rescuing themselves. There’s not a lot of good energy around the rescuer.

So any drama usually starts with a victim and a persecutor – frequently, the persecutor will see themselves as a victim, or the victim may become persecutor as the drama spins out.

Other times the drama can start with a rescuer: a rescuer will offer help, and offer help, and offer help. The “rescued” person receiving the help expressed their appreciation, but perceives no future obligation (or perhaps offers to return a favour in the future.) This dynamic can go on for years, but at some point there’s a break-down where the rescuer becomes a victim – they believe they were taken advantage of, manipulated, or that the person they helped has not “repaid” them adequately. Return to victim / persecutor dynamic.

When things *really* get messy, perhaps another rescuer will get involved.

I try very hard to steer clear of drama; although avoiding undesirable situations is still a part of my psychic protection strategy, it’s not always possible. I got involved in a messy-ass drama triangle a few weeks ago.

I’m human. I screw up. The best I can do is suck up all the lessons I can from the experience… which is what brought me to energy transmutation.

Now I think that this little drama in my life happened to push me towards this new concept. I am *so freaking grateful* for that painful bit of drama, because the energy transmutation techniques have completely turned my experience around.

Here’s what I do: I observe and tap into the “icky” energy pooling around our feet, or reverberating between myself and another person. Then I pretend I’m a water fountain! I suck up all the low energy, it pulls straight up through my body (which is illuminated by the unlimited light, energy and support from the other side) and the cleansed energy spurts out the top of my head like a beautiful ornamental fountain, refracting in the light, throwing rainbows, happy sounds and creating a fresh, invigorating feeling in the air.

I can’t help but smile as I do it.

The first time I did this in relation to the little drama, I remembered with a bang how much I liked this other person. I immediately decided to continue to like her, even if she had decided she no longer liked me. Even if she never changed her mind, it didn’t matter.

It’s difficult to describe the difference between this feeling and the energy of trying to maintain the moral high ground (a power-position that elevates you above the other person, a judgment.)

I’ll tell you, maintaining the “moral high ground” takes a lot of energy; for me it involves a frequent re-run of the events in my mind, questioning the decisions of myself and others, and concluding I couldn’t have done anything differently. Moral high ground = I’m right, and the other person just doesn’t see it….

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