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<p>So you thought the advertising industry had reached its <a href="/post/bitch-popaganda-takin-it-to-the-tucker-max-edition">lowest low</a> with last month's <a href="http://www.harpyness.com/2010/02/08/what-we-learned-from-the-superbowl-ads/">Super Bowl Misogynfest</a>? Yeah, us too, but it turns out it's not over yet. Advertising's latest trend? Blow jobs.</p>
<p><b>Exhibit A:</b> <a href="http://www.mediabistro.com/agencyspy/online/type_sex_durex_does_it_with_words_152778.asp">Durex</a></p>
<p><center><img src="http://www.mediabistro.com/agencyspy/original/durexfull1.png" /></center></p>
<p>Where to start? Well, first of all, the word choice here tips us off to a few things: Men are controlled by their erections, and women are made up of fruits and contentment and everything nice (oh, and we love giving head). Now, there's absolutely nothing wrong with some good ol' fashioned consensual oral sex, but this ad is taking a consensual act and de-leveling (un-leveling?) the playing field by attempting to provide us with the subjects' innermost thoughts. Now we can see, even if things look pretty equal, that the woman's "luscious and dainty" brain is inferior to the man's "judgment and knowledge" (located in his crotch). Um, at least they're using a condom?</p>
<p><b>Exhibit B: <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/24/world/europe/24france.html?emc=eta1">France's Anti-Smoking Ad</a></b></p>
<p><center><img src="http://i.telegraph.co.uk/telegraph/multimedia/archive/01584/campagne-cigarette_1584553c.jpg" /></center></p>
<p>As <a href="http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2010/02/today-in-rape-culture_24.html">Melissa at Shakesville</a> points out, this ad is more than just a misguided attempt to equate smoking with oral sex – it is also a depiction of blatant sexual assault. The models (clearly quite young, so we're looking at statutory rape here at best) are being told by the text that smoking turns you into a slave. Presumably in the same way that they are depicted as "sex slaves" in this image? Gérard Audureau, the president of Droits des Non-fumeurs (creator of the campaign), defends the ad by saying, "Using sex is a way to get [young people's] attention. And if it's necessary to shock, let's shock." This image goes way beyond "shock," and when it comes to young people (or any people), forced oral sex should not be used as a scare tactic.</p>
<p><b>Exhibit C: <a href="http://www.richardsilverstein.com/tikun_olam/2010/02/21/canadian-jewish-tourism-ad-uses-oral-sex-to-promote-israeli-tourism/">Canadian Council for for Israel and Jewish Advocacy</a></b></p>
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<p><i>Girl: Uhhh…<br />
Boy: What?<br />
G: Don't be mad…It's just that it's small…<br />
B: Small?!<br />
G: I don't know if I can go there.<br />
B: I consider this a spot of worship. It may be small, but it's brought the driest places to life. Baby, this is paradise. [camera pans to show map of Israel and tourist guidebooks covering boy's crotch].<br />
G: OK, but if I go down there for you, you have to promise you'll down south for me next winter.</i></p>
<p>Hey potential male tourists! Traveling to Israel is just as good as getting a blow job! And you won't even have to go down on your girlfriend until next winter! Jokes about oral sex on small penises are always hilarious, especially when they're used to promote potentially life-changing spiritual pilgrimages. </p>
<p><b>Blow Job Wrap Up:</b></p>
<p>OK, so we might not be looking at a future where all advertising will feature blow jobs. But! Three recent campaigns are choosing to take the blow-jobs-are-edgy-and-will-get-us-attention route, and that is three to many judging from the ways in which they've gone about it. Sexism? Check. Grotesque depiction of sexual assault? Check. Schlocky jokes about small penises and the horrors of cunnilingus? Check. Focusing on male sexual satisfaction only? Check. (Although, to be fair, the Durex campaign includes an image of the couple having penetrative sex where <a href="http://www.mediabistro.com/agencyspy/online/type_sex_durex_does_it_with_words_152778.asp">the woman is having an orgasm</a>, but the focus is still on the guy's junk.) </p>
<p>Let's keep our fingers crossed that these ads all coming to our attention at the same time is just a coincidence, and not evidence of a new and unwelcome trend in "sexy" advertising. Because that would really suck.</p>
http://bitchmagazine.org/post/is-it-just-us-or-does-advertising-really-blow-lately#commentsadvertisingblow jobsDurexFrench anti-smoking adIsraeli Tourismoral sexSocial CommentaryWed, 24 Feb 2010 20:21:41 +0000Kelsey Wallace2882 at http://bitchmagazine.orgWhen Oral Gets Aural (or Songs About Givin'/Gettin' Head)http://bitchmagazine.org/post/when-oral-gets-aural-or-songs-about-givingettin-head
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<p>The other day I was alone in the car and, as you do, singing at the top of my lungs with the radio. The song that was the focus of this particular private performance happened to be <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tqDBa11MuDo">Lil' Wayne's "Lollipop"</a> and as I belted out the lyrics, <i>Middle of the bed/ Givin' gettin' head</i> my thoughts turned to oral sex. More specifically, my thoughts turned to songs about oral sex. I wondered, "What songs are out there that give oral love a good name?"</p>
<p>Now, your first thought here might be, "Get your mind out of the gutter and focus on driving!" And your next thought might be, "Why should we care about songs that focus on oral sex?" To your first thought I say don't worry; I didn't take my eyes off the road once during my oral sex-y brainstorming session. And to your second thought I say, if we can agree that the mass media can affect public perceptions, then it stands to reason that songs that put oral sex in a positive light can affect public perceptions of the act in a positive way. (Read: The more songs that make oral sex seem fun and cool, the more oral sex we will all give/get, and the better we'll feel about it.) This is a good thing for all parties involved, but it is an especially big win for women. That's because the media often suggests that women can orgasm very easily from penetration alone, yet just about anyone who has had sex with/is a woman knows that it often takes a lot more than that. </p>
<p>So what are the best oral-sex-positive jams?</p>
<p><i>Warning: The following post may be NSFW, depending on where you W.</i></p>
<p>I figured we'd start out here with a list of ten songs that are mainly about oral sex (that means no vague euphemisms or veiled symbolism -- we're looking for the real deal here), and then you can add to it in the comments section. I'll grade each song based on the portrayal of oral sex it offers up, with bonus points awarded for mutual pleasure-giving. Feel free to dispute the grades and give your own, of course. (If you're not sure how a song goes, click on the embedded links to listen to each tune and see the video if there is one.) Keep in mind that we're looking mainly for songs that make oral sex seem fun, cool, and non-creepy, so songs that objectify/subjugate the sex partner in question will be severely downgraded, or not graded at all. Also, I made a concerted effort to include songs from several genres, and to alternate between male and female lyricists. The more equality, the better, right? And... Here we go!</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tqDBa11MuDo">"Lollipop" by Lil' Wayne</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Lil' Wayne is so enamored of a particular woman that he writes a song about their relationship and sex life, complete with lots of lollipop lickin'.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>But man I ain't never seen an ass like hers/ That pussy in my mouth had me at a loss for words</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> A. Weezy is also all about both partners getting their just desserts in this song, so to speak.</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://dancejam.com/videos/1054586248-missy-elliot-work-it">"Work It" by Missy Elliott</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Missy Elliott has a lot to offer, especially to guys with (ahem) oral talents.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric: </b><i>Go downtown and eat it like a vulcha/ See my hips and my tips don't cha/ See my ass and my lips don't cha</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> B. While Miss Missy gives oral sex a positive spin for the ladies to be sure, she doesn't much mention reciprocating the act.</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.56.com/u11/v_Mjg0NjQzMDQ.html">"Head" by Prince &amp; The Revolution</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Kind of a weird one. Prince encounters a bride on her way to the altar, and she is so taken by him that she decides to forgo getting married and go down on Prince instead. They end up getting married, and then he returns the favor. You know, just the way you've always imagined your own wedding day playing out.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>U married me instead/ Now morning noon and night/ I give U head</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> B-. Sure, Prince is all about mutual pleasure, but he insists that the woman marry him before he'll go down on her. Puritan.</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jMCMlNyySvo">"My Neck My Back" by Khia</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Khia is on the prowl, and she requires some serious oral attention. Really.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>So lick it now, lick it good/ Lick this pussy just like you should</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> B. Khia is mostly about getting oral (as opposed to giving), but she gets extra credit for inviting all women to follow her example. </p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IMIMEQTY0ns&amp;feature=related">"Kiss That Frog" by Peter Gabriel</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Peter Gabriel is a frog prince, and he needs you to kiss him (downtown, of course) in order for him to turn into a prince. (I know I said no euphemisms, but this one is <i>so</i> obvious I made an exception.)<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>Let me introduce his frogness/ You alone can get him singing/ He's all puffed up, wanna be your king/ Oh you can do it/ C'mon lady kiss that frog</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> C. Though Gabriel does include lyrics about being "best friends" and about his princess "getting wet," most of this song reads like a textbook but-if-you-don't-do-it-I'll-get-blueballs excuse. No thanks, "King" Gabriel.</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.lyricsdir.com/peaches-downtown-lyrics.html">"Downtown" by Peaches</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> The teaches of Peaches include oral-sex lessons, naturally.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>'Cause I wanna take you downtown/ Show you my thing/ Show you my thing</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> A. Not only is Peaches all about coming/going downtown, she also wants to teach her partner the ways she likes it, and she wants to reciprocate in a big way. Check out this lyric for evidence: <i>Went to your area and I thought I would bury ya/ Touched a monolith and it caused a hysteria</i> (tee hee, "monolith").</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iy3imeRZc0M&amp;feature=related">"Just Like Honey" by The Jesus &amp; Mary Chain</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Boy meets girl, boy thinks girl tastes delicious, boy loses girl, boy writes touching song referencing said deliciousness in order to win girl back.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>Moving up and so alive/ In her honey dripping beehive/ Beehive/ It's good, so good, it's so good</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> C. I love this song, but the oral-sex message is a little too vague for this particular grading rubric.</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEX91OK7m-k">"Not Tonight" by Lil' Kim</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Lil' Kim has been with plenty of guys who think she should be satisfied with straight-up penetrative sex. In this song she lets them know how wrong they are, and that they'd better go down on her ASAP if they want another shot.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>The moral of the story is this/ You aint lickin' this, you aint stickin' this</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> B+. Though Kim sings this song from a pretty selfish place, she also gives a voice to a problem many women face: Even though media portrayals would have us thinking otherwise, <a href="http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/probs_difficultyorgasm.shtml">the majority of women cannot orgasm from intercourse alone</a>, and that is a difficult topic for many women to address with their partners. Looks like we can always count on the Queen Bee to write songs about unspeakable problems. Is it too much to call her the Betty Friedan of hip hop music? (Maybe. Still a good song, though.)</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9f06QZCVUHg">"Summer of 69" by Bryan Adams</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Maybe this song, which if you're like me you've joked was about oral sex ever since middle school, actually <i>is</i> about the other kind of 69 (you know, the oral-sex kind, not the kind that indicates the year my mom graduated from high school). According to Adam Brown's article for <i>Cracked</i>, <a href="http://www.cracked.com/article_16442_6-famous-songs-that-dont-mean-what-you-think.html">"6 Famous Songs That Don't Mean What You Think They Mean,"</a> Adams said: "One thing people never got was that the song isn't about the year 1969. It's about making love, a la '69!"<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>Man we were killin' time/ We were young and restless/ We needed to unwind</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> C. Again, this song just isn't obvious enough in its oral-sex-positiveness. Plus, it's getting a little old.</p>
<p><b>The Song:</b> <a href="http://music.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=music.artistalbums&amp;artistid=4434200&amp;ap=0&amp;albumid=8669423&amp;songid=30254833">"Where Life Begins" by Madonna</a><br />
<b>The Premise:</b> Madonna speaks up about going down.<br />
<b>Oral Sex-y Lyric:</b> <i>Every girl should experience eating out/ Sometimes when I come home from a hard day at work/ I swear it's all I can think about</i><br />
<b>Grade:</b> B+. This song, similar to "Downtown," is all about educating sex partners to the joys of "Dining in and eating out" ("Where Life Begins" describes oral sex in sooo many ways), which is great. I deducted a few points though, for the "Finger lickin' good" lyric. Vaginas are not fried chicken, thank you very much.</p>
<p>So there you have it, ten oral-sex-positive jams. Perhaps you can compile them into a mixtape for your next big date! A fun time is guaranteed for all involved. </p>
<p><b>Honorable Mentions (because I only had time for ten songs this go 'round, and a few of these were disqualified due to misogyny):</b><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fqd9Z0K-uvw">"Peaches and Cream" by 112</a><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELRdhCjv9y4">"I'd Rather" by Three 6 Mafia</a><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f55gf_ebGpU">"How Many Licks" by Lil' Kim</a><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_HXvURCQ2Q">"Just Don't Bite It" by N.W.A.</a><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4u5om4xihU">"Love in an Elevator" by Aerosmith</a><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1hQc-BYxFo">"LMLYP" by Ween</a><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfhWdsmd7IE">"Put it in Your Mouth" by Akinyele</a></p>
<p>Did anyone else notice that most of the songs by women/about performing oral sex on women fit into the hip hop/R&amp;B category? Do you think that is just a reflection of my own musical tastes, or do you think the R&amp;B genre allows for freer and more sex-positive lyrics? Are there any women in rock or country (or another other genre besides hip hop) that speak as frankly about oral sex as Lil' Kim or Khia? Can you think of any male performers outside of hip hop/R&amp;B who are as down with going down as Lil' Wayne or Prince? Or should we all just listen exclusively to R&amp;B music? (Could be worse; R&amp;B is awesome after all).</p>
<p>Make sure to give your thoughts and add your own aural oral suggestions in the comments section!</p>
http://bitchmagazine.org/post/when-oral-gets-aural-or-songs-about-givingettin-head#commentsBryan AdamsKhiaLil KimLil WaynelistsmadonnaMissy Elliottmusicoral sexoral-sex-positivePeachesPeter GabrielPrinceThe Jesus & Mary ChainMusicTue, 11 Aug 2009 22:58:50 +0000Kelsey Wallace1997 at http://bitchmagazine.orgSprite Ad Is Overblownhttp://bitchmagazine.org/post/sprite-ad-is-overblown
<object width="640" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/Lwz5_xXZc4g&hl=en_US&fs=1&color1=0x5d1719&color2=0xcd311b" /><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always" /><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/Lwz5_xXZc4g&hl=en_US&fs=1&color1=0x5d1719&color2=0xcd311b" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="640" height="385"></embed></object><p>My step-father isn't the kind of guy who typically stays on top of international news, but the story about this ad caught his attention... so much so that he called my mom immediately upon hearing it on the radio to tell her about the scandalous ad. My mom then sent my sisters and I an email with a YouTube link to the television commercial, which is why I'm writing this blog post. This chain of events leads me to ask myself, &quot;Did Sprite really <i>want</i> the ad to air, or is this whole thing a big publicity stunt?&quot; After all, any press is good press when it comes to marketing, right? And the most effective type of marketing is, ahem, oral and viral.</p>
<p>Regardless of the company's PR intentions, one thing is clear: the explicitness of the ad is shocking. Even my pro-sex sensibilities didn't stop my jaw from hitting the floor at the first frame, which shows a young, blonde, White girl on her knees in a kitchen seemingly performing oral sex on a tall, ripped, Black guy whose pleasure is apparent in his facial contortions. When we see the young woman's face, though, her eyes are glazed and distant as she thinks, &quot;I could really go for a Sprite right now.&quot; Um, what?</p>
<p>*Pause video* The message conveyed to me at this point is that while the guy is fully enthralled in the sexual moment, the girl is detached and without pleasure. Instead of enjoying herself and being fully present in her intimate physical desires, her mind is wandering to her desire for soda. What does this say about female sexuality? That blow jobs are solely for men's pleasure? That women aren't &quot;all in&quot; when it comes to sex?</p>
<p>*Resume play* The girl pulls back, looks up at the guy, and thinks, &quot;Oh my god.&quot; The man's face shows release. She goes in again, and the camera swings out to show the viewer that it wasn't a penis in the girl's mouth, but a phallic Sprite bottle. (Pause: So what the hell was the dude all orgasmic about?) As she pulls back for a second time, the viewer is treated to a slow-motion money shot; the young woman is sprayed in the face as the carbonated beverage bursts from its container. The liquid then dribbles out of her mouth and down her chin, and her grimace turns into a huge grin. One person's <a href="http://current.com/items/90471406_sprite-oral-sex-ad-banned-in-germany.htm">response to the ad was</a> to say, &quot;They might as well just show us a porno and put Sprites[sic] logo at the end of it!&quot; And, well, that's kinda what they did since this ad is straight up softcore Porn 101.</p>
<p>I decided to dig a bit deeper into the interwebs because something didn't feel right, and it wasn't just my annoyance at the use of gender and sexuality tropes that perpetuate sexual myths. Was this commercial <a href="http://www.actressarchives.com/braingasm/X-Rated-Sprite-Commercial-Not-Actually-Real-Commercial/">a big hoax</a>? Yes, folks. It was.</p>
<p>The YouTube description of this ad calls it a &quot;spec commercial,&quot; which is a demo created by an aspiring director that was not commissioned by the company, and that might have been the first tip to <a href="http://perezhilton.com/2009-07-20-called-it-sprite-commercial-a-fake">Perez Hilton</a>, who first broke the story, that something was amiss. A spec commercial is a job seeking tool, and in this economy it's no surprise that the creator (<a href="http://www.nypress.com/blog-4643-i-like-my-sprite-in-you.html">Max Isaacson</a>) might try to pass off this ad as real in order to get attention. Well, it seems to be working, except that people don't think this ad is cool. They think it's f*ed up.</p>
<p>The <i>New York Press</i> spoke to John Jones, the 23-year-old Brooklynite actor who received the faux-blow, and he has an interesting take on why the commercial is getting so much attention: &quot;The controversy is the fact that she's a White girl blowing me and I'm Black. That role reversal freaks people out.&quot; Though I do think the ad would have been startling regardless of the race of the actors, I absolutely agree with him. Interracial relationships are still taboo, and this commercial capitalizes on all the taboo it can get.</p>
<p>At the end of the day, I wonder what Coca-Cola will think of this director's 15 minutes of fame. I can't imagine the company--whose wholesome, fun-loving image is being tainted--will be all too pleased about being promoted by tired smut cliches.</p>
http://bitchmagazine.org/post/sprite-ad-is-overblown#commentsGermanyoral sexSpriteSocial CommentaryTue, 21 Jul 2009 03:03:37 +0000Mandy Van Deven1901 at http://bitchmagazine.org