Well, more and more people of my age are going out and some of my friends are trying to push me into some kind of place where everyone is getting drunk and loud music plays. I just don't want to go there, I wouldn't feel comfortable. I'm ok sitting outside a pub, having a drink and chatting with a few friends with some background music, but I really hate going to places where I don't know anyone or anything and where everyone gets drunk and stuff...

I just don't feel comfortable going to places like that, and I don't want to get drunk. I'm ok drinking a few alcoholic drinks but I've got a limit, unlike other people who push themselves until they get knocked out. But they keep nagging me and whenever I say my opinion on how I think of stuff they say I should get more social because I'm screwing my life.

What the hell?

So I should go to places I don't want to, get drunk when I don't want to, and feel uncomfortable for the rest of the night? I don't even know all these people, and I just don't want to go.

I've always been the same stongue
Despite what it might seem like on this forum, I have always hated alcohol :roll:
I had my first drink ever last year, and just drink from time to time now...and doubt I'll do it in a long time after yesterday sconfused

The sad thing is that if you don't join the crowd and go out to those places, get drunk and act stupid like everybody else you become an outsider sconfused
I used to go out with friends alot when I was younger, now all they do is go to weird parties, get drunk/high/whatever and sleep around with girls sconfused
That's just not my idea of fun...

Then again with my social phobia I feel almost more awkward just sitting outside a pub talking so I guess I just hate going out in general :laugh:

I'd be a dog, a monkey or a bear, or anything but that vain animal, who is so proud of being rational.

I don't like alcohol alot either...
and yeah, it is really sad that you become an outsider when you don't screw your body and do things you dont want to do...

Man, life is so .... f***ed up for me at the moment, I just want to do what I feel comfortable with and people won't let me and don't agree.
And to be honest, I'd really like to have a small party where all my old friends would go to, but then again not too crowded and not with ridiculously large amounts of alcohol.......

WHY CAN'T WE ALL ACT NORMAL FFS, I'm getting so tired of having to worry about this kind of bullsh*t...

Something that helps is having a few friends that don't drink/do drugs. I was lucky enough over the years to have a few friends that weren't into drinking/drugs. So, while other friends went to parties and all that, I'd hang around with my friends that didn't drink.

'Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars' - Les Brown
'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent' - Eleanor Roosevelt

Something that helps is having a few friends that don't drink/do drugs. I was lucky enough over the years to have a few friends that weren't into drinking/drugs. So, while other friends went to parties and all that, I'd hang around with my friends that didn't drink.

Nope. Everyone of my friend drinks and goes to wild clubs where they spend the rest of the night acting like complete morons while buying another beer. Friends of mine are really nice guys but I just don't like what they like...

They keep trying to convince me I should go out, but I don't feel anything for it. I'm having problems having a nice conversation too with someone I haven't known for at least 2 years...

Harold-L Wrote:Those people are impossible to find sconfused
95% of the people this age seem to be drunkards

Yeah. sconfused

There are some people who go to parties though and drink without getting drunk.

Bermudah Wrote:Nope. Everyone of my friend drinks and goes to wild clubs where they spend the rest of the night acting like complete morons while buying another beer. Friends of mine are really nice guys but I just don't like what they like...

They keep trying to convince me I should go out, but I don't feel anything for it. I'm having problems having a nice conversation too with someone I haven't known for at least 2 years...

and yeah, I belong to that other 5%...which I really hate.

That's tough.

I guess there's really not much you can do but stand your own ground. Do what you want. Don't go drinking just to fit in with your friends.

'Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars' - Les Brown
'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent' - Eleanor Roosevelt

Yeah it's really hard standing your own ground when you get pushed everyday It's so annoying to tell them everyday why you don't want to go and to respond to what they think about it... especially in real life...

seriously, in my last day in class I had to tell everyone why I didn't want to go to some party of them, the whole class could hear my reason, and everyone started to yell like oh my god comeon man what are you afraid of BLABLABLABLA

It's been long this way, and to the day of today I still get pushed. I don't want to lose them as friends either though cause they're nice guys... but I really need to get rid of this..

Quote:I guess there's really not much you can do but stand your own ground. Do what you want. Don't go drinking just to fit in with your friends.

Amen to that, drinking to "fit in" is one of the many mistakes I've done in me life stongue

Quote:There are some people who go to parties though and drink without getting drunk.

Hardly any stongue
You need to be really drunk to be able to handle the other really drunk people :laugh:

Quote:seriously, in my last day in class I had to tell everyone why I didn't want to go to some party of them, the whole class could hear my reason, and everyone started to yell like oh my god comeon man what are you afraid of BLABLABLABLA

It's been long this way, and to the day of today I still get pushed. I don't want to lose them as friends either though cause they're nice guys... but I really need to get rid of this..

Yeah it's so annoying that people can't respect other peoples decisions, I always hated it when my friends tried to get me to drink ssleepy
Anyway, if they're good friends you wont lose them cuz of a thing like this. Don't do it just to please someone else it doesn't feel good stongue

I'd be a dog, a monkey or a bear, or anything but that vain animal, who is so proud of being rational.

Sigh, forget it. I just personally talked to a good friend of mine and he just doesn't understand my problems with going out. I just can't get through to him...
I'm just going to do whatever I want to do...

Problem though, I passed my exams and ofcourse a party is being held for it, and that is the one party I am being so highly nagged for.... I know what's going to happen. Everyone gets in normal, starts drinking and dancing, and then go crazy and start nagging me why I don't join in...

It's the number one problem I can't sleep at night gets more depressing every night.
I even thought about breaking a leg on purpose so I don't have to join in there

Yeah I've been in similar situations...
Not really much to do, you either avoid those situations by making up some stupid excuse not to go, or you go and try your best at ignoring the constant naging but atleast try to have a good time sconfused

I chose number one, avoiding the situations. I don't recomend it stongue

I'd be a dog, a monkey or a bear, or anything but that vain animal, who is so proud of being rational.

Harold-L Wrote:Yeah I've been in similar situations...
Not really much to do, you either avoid those situations by making up some stupid excuse not to go, or you go and try your best at ignoring the constant naging but atleast try to have a good time sconfused

I chose number one, avoiding the situations. I don't recomend it stongue

number one is highly tempting. I got a few days to make up an excuse. I'm thinking about hurting myself or making myself sick by drinking alot of alcohol at home so I can't go there. Anything, as long as I don't have to go in there