Being The Man

Be independent

Independence is a must. Remember how you hate clingy girlfriends? Or how someone whose own existence is so intertwined with yours that it gets on your nerves? That cuts both ways. Being the man means keeping your independence.

While sharing some activities brings you closer together, sharing everything is suffocating. She won't want a guy who constantly follows her around, and you don't want to be that guy. Keep your own independent existence by having activities that are separate from her.

The old cliché that absence makes the heart grow fonder is true. Balance your activities between shared ones and your own interests. Not having someone entirely causes attraction, which usually disappears when we do have them entirely. If you maintain private parts of your life, you'll both appreciate the times together as well as build attraction rather than boredom.

Pursue male activities

Being the man involves hanging out with other guys in manly scenarios. Make sure you have plenty of time with the boys so you aren't overwhelmed with feminine thoughts and hormones. Keep up the team sports, the stag nights, watching the football, playing poker... all those activities where guys bond with each other.

Another key is keeping some degree of masculinity to your surroundings. One day you wake up and your home has been taken over by cushions, cuddly toys and other frilly pink possessions. Short of banning these entirely, make sure there's enough of your stuff to counterbalance this, so hang on to the PlayStation, that nice sound system and all that sports memorabilia.

you're the man!

What we’re trying to say is: Keep some balance. A relationship can find itself drowning in female concerns and emotions at the expense of your masculine side. While these are a necessary element, being the man means making sure there's room for your things too.