Take Her Outdoors

A private interlude in a public place is a rush that lingers. "The romantic thrill of possibly being caught increases all the processes that the body experiences when we approach orgasm. So those sensations are heightened," says Gabrielle Morrissey, Ph.D., a sex expert and the author of Urge. "When we add a new or different stimulation, our minds can process that stimulation into arousal."

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Morrissey says an outdoor session should include plenty of manual arousal before the clothes come off, to minimize the length of exposure. A skirt provides both access and concealment—such a wondrous invention.

And let her take control. "What a man needs to do is have her on top so he can relax his muscles and delay orgasm."

Hence, the skirt.

More suggestions:

Location: BeachYou've both thought about it, so expectations are high. "Beaches connote both sex and romance," says sex educator Ellen Kate Friedrichs, of sexedvice.com. Bring up the idea early in a trip to heighten anticipation. And don't be impulsive; pick your spot and bring a blanket. "Wait until long after sunset, then get away from the ambient light of the boardwalk or pier," suggests Lorelei Sharkey, one half of the sex-advice duo Em & Lo.

Steer clear of the dunes; "you won't be able to hear an interloper until he or she is on top of you," Sharkey says. And the farther you walk, the better. "No one else is going to go very far," says William Granzig, Ph.D., dean of clinical sexology at Maimonides University—which happens to be in Miami Beach.

Location: CampgroundDon't confine your primal urges to the tent (though a stealth shag in a campground with nearby neighbors is hot). On a hike, it's worth carrying the extra weight of blankets and a pad like the Big Agnes Air Core pad (rei.com). It's cushy but durable, and doubles as a raft for skinny-dipping. Then get off the trail, find a sheltered spot, and let it happen. In camp, try the Sweetie Pie Sleeping Bag Doubler (functionaldesign.net) to turn a regular bag into one big fun-house for two.

Other Prime Locations

At the Rock Quarry: Bring a picnic basket. People will assume you're just having lunch.

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Get behind a boulder. A good spot for stand-up sex, says Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., author of Sex Talk.

In the Hot Tub: It's at once private and out in the open; you can both be stark (or half) naked without feeling exposed, thanks to the churning water. "Hot tubs are social spaces, relaxing, but they also represent sexiness," says Carol Queen, Ph.D., author of Exhibitionism for the Shy. And she'll love those jets. Emma Taylor, the Em of Em & Lo, suggests a silicone-based lube for whatever you have in mind; her natural lubrication will wash away.

On a Boat: Tell her to wear her bikini bottom that ties at the sides. Park the boat under overhanging trees, and get her going on the deck, or make it cozy inside the cabin. The rocking motion of the water will bring you both to the edge of ectstasy.

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