How to Get a Guy to Like You Again

You think everything is going great with this special someone in your life, until suddenly things go south. This guy is no longer interested in you, and basically left you hanging. What’s next? You have two options: you can either leave him and find someone else, or try to get this guy to like you again. Think that’s impossible? It’s not! It’ll be a big challenge, yes, and it won’t always work; but here’s 9 steps to (possibly) get a guy to like you again!

Think Positively Yeah, it really sucks he doesn’t like you anymore. You’re probably feeling a little crushed, heartbroken, and lacking self esteem. But STOP. You need to think positively in order to get him back. Don’t think about the past, think about the future- with him by your side. This happy, positive attitude will encourage you and give you a confident glow he will certainly notice.

Keep Yourself Busy Winning him over shouldn’t be the only thought crossing your mind; that’s just downright obsessive. You need to keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Maybe try a new workout regime or pick up a new hobby. Not only will this keep your mind preoccupied so you’re not over-thinking everything to death, but he will also notice that you’re not moping around because of him, and guys like that.

Keep Your Distance So he’s not interested in you anymore; okay, whatever! You don’t care anyways. Okay, so you actually do, but he definitely doesn’t need to know that! It’s really the oldest trick in the book: keeping your distance and acting like this guy doesn’t even really exist. He will be shocked you’re not running back to him or even sad that he’s not interested anymore, and this may actually peek his interest like never before. We always want what we can’t have, right? And if you’re acting like he doesn’t matter, he may come running back.

Start Chatting Again When enough time has passed and the time is right, strike up a conversation. It could be as simple as a smile and a “Hey, nice shirt” while you’re passing the school hallways, or a “Good morning!” when he comes into work Monday morning. If you don’t work or go to school together, consider sending him a friendly text. It could be personal, like “Hey don’t forget to watch the NFL game tonight” (replace ‘NFL game’ with his favorite team), or something a bit more casual like “Hey, haven’t heard from you in awhile. How’s it going?”.

(BUT Don’t Overdo It) If you’re going to strike up a convo, don’t overdo it; you certainly do NOT want to look needy, that will repel him in an instant. Keep things very short and to-the-point. If he doesn’t answer you right away, let it be. Be patient. He will eventually answer you. And when he does, don’t respond so quickly there’s smoke coming off your fingers. Keep things very limited and carefree., and give him the impression you’re a little too busy to respond right away. Guys love it when a girl keeps them waiting (not too long though, of course). If you’re talking in person, keep the conversation to a minimum. Let him instigate the next round of communication.

Get Flirty So the conversations are going really well, and he’s starting to get a little bit closer to you. You notice that adorable smile appearing more and more often and he might be throwing out a few compliments and flirts here and there. Well, why not return the favor by getting a little flirty yourself? How else is this guy supposed to know you’re interested in him if you don’t! Throw out a flirt here and there, but like we mentioned before, don’t overdo it. You don’t want him to think you’re easy or will do anything to get his attention back. A little touchy-feely flirty attitude every now and then will keep him interested and coming back for more. You can even wait to send him a flirty text at the end of the day, something like “Hey, by the way I loved that blue shirt on you ;)” or “It was really nice talking to you earlier, you always know how to make me laugh :)”.

Bring Up Some Fun Memories Bringing up some fun memories is an easy and quick way to remind him how much FUN the two of you have together. Ease it into the conversation so it’s not so obvious. For example, if you’re talking about what you’re going to do this weekend, maybe throw out a fun memory you have of something you guys did one weekend. Simply saying “Hey, remember when we went on that awesome trip to Vegas and you won $400?” or “Remember when we went bowling and I dropped the ball on my toe?” will bring a smile to his face as he reminisces on all the great times. He will remember you for the fun gal you are and won’t help but want to make some more memories with you.

Meet Up If everything is going well and you feel he’s starting to pick up interest in you again, it’s time to meet up! Pick something fun and casual at first; it doesn’t have to be a five star restaurant or anything too ‘date-like’. When you show up, make sure you’re wearing clothes you know he will love (remember when he said he loved you in that light blue top and blue jeans, or that really cute yellow summer dress?) and put on your best face. Make sure you’re hair is done and don’t forget to wear that gorgeous smile as much as possible. This is a pivotal moment in the win-him-back game, so you need to be extra careful going in to the meetup. Make sure you’re not too eager, as this can be a huge turn off for men!