birthdDAY ideas

so we're having a birthday "open house" party. I used to do these for Christmas. but now I'm gonna try it for her bday. that's next Saturday the 8th.

I took Thursday/Friday off from work. Thursday is her birth day. Friday she'll go to daycare, while I prep the house and run party errands.

Thursday I planned to do cupcakes and goodie bags for her class (I didn't do class invites to the party- we have too much family). the teacher has requested to do it @3pm. (after nap time. before playground time/going home). she normally naps from 12:30-2:00.

would it be weird to do something with her during the morning- her and I, and then drop her off before nap time? or do I just let he nap and show up with her and the cupcakes at 3? or it could be a normal school day+ cupcakes and a dinner outing?

I feel like I'm over compensating. and have this guilty feeling for not doing something on her actual day. idk why I feel like this. maybe b/c she's my only child. first and last?

Comments (4)

Friday will probably just be a normal day for us but with presents and cake. Saturday we are doing the same thing, open house party, come by if you want to. pizza and cake. they are 2. i think as long as it's acknowledged in some way it doesn't really matter to them

Gah, I can't imagine taking off of work for a toddler's birthday. Idk why you're feeling guilty, from my perspective you're going over the top :-) I'm still at least a year or two away from making a big deal and having an actual party for my Dec baby, LOL. Try to calm down, they're turning 2, so they don't even understand what a birthday is yet! It's also EXTREMELY normal not to have the main party/celebration on the actual day since for most people a weekend works better for a party.

Anyway, I'd do daycare as normal and only do cupcakes at 3 and then dinner out. Like I said, baby isn't going to get what the fuss is all about and I think if you mess up her routine for the day of and then throw a party the next day which will also be a change of routine, that's two days of things being different and that might equal a cranky kid for the party.

Gah, I can't imagine taking off of work for a toddler's birthday. Idk...

Posted
12/01/2018

Gah, I can't imagine taking off of work for a toddler's birthday. Idk why you're feeling guilty, from my perspective you're going over the top :-) I'm still at least a year or two away from making a big deal and having an actual party for my Dec baby, LOL. Try to calm down, they're turning 2, so they don't even understand what a birthday is yet! It's also EXTREMELY normal not to have the main party/celebration on the actual day since for most people a weekend works better for a party.
Anyway, I'd do daycare as normal and only do cupcakes at 3 and then dinner out. Like I said, baby isn't going to get what the fuss is all about and I think if you mess up her routine for the day of and then throw a party the next day which will also be a change of routine, that's two days of things being different and that might equal a cranky kid for the party.

yeah, that's what I've been thinking about a lot- routine.

the memories are more for me I guess. my first DH (dear husband) passed away 8 years ago- from a childhood disease. so every year he was alive was a big deal. that's stayed a part of my life. not just birthdays, but "making memories".

I think the cupcake party will be very enjoyable and memorable (for me lol). and I think overall keeping to her routine, and not making it an exhausting week for either one of us, will be the best way to go.

yeah, that's what I've been thinking about a lot- routine.
the memori...

Posted
12/03/2018

yeah, that's what I've been thinking about a lot- routine.

the memories are more for me I guess. my first DH passed away 8 years ago- from a childhood disease. so every year he was alive was a big deal. that's stayed a part of my life. not just birthdays, but "making memories".

I think the cupcake party will be very enjoyable and memorable (for me lol). and I think overall keeping to her routine, and not making it an exhausting week for either one of us, will be the best way to go.

Oh it's totally good to make great memories even if it's more for you at this point. I think you have good perspective on the matter, I just wanted to make you feel better since you said you were feeling guilty!

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