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How to Be a Good Lover (and Give a Girl Orgasms)

“Nothing much to do... I’m at home and I think I’m so addicted to your passionate sex... I still can’t get over last night… I love it.”

If you’re not regularly receiving text messages like that, even from seasoned party girls - and you could use a primer on how to be a good lover - read on.

The next text she sent me was:

“Hmm… what is your secret magic?”

I didn’t tell her… but I’m going to tell you.

And if you don't know how to make girls crawl the walls, you really need to learn how to. It does a lot for your confidence… and it does a lot for your ability to hang onto a girl you really like.

Really, there's no reason that you shouldn't be able to give a girl an orgasm multiple times when you're sleeping with her.

And once you're able to do this, then you can approach women knowing that you will give them the best sex of their lives... And that's powerful.

About the
Author: Ricardus Domino

Ricardus was one of the most prolific and respected coaches in the
men’s dating advice industry. He’s dated some of the planet’s most
beautiful women, ranging from a Miss World contestant, to a model for
Coca-Cola, to one of “Brazil’s Next Top Models.” His specialty is
daytime street stops. He is most remembered for his “Are you single?”
opening line. Ricardus is currently retired from the dating advice
industry.

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Comments

Great stuff as always man, but I had a question since you are a lot more experienced than I. There is a quote in one of my favorite shows "love comes from the eyes." Looking at her eye to eye during escalation and in bed seems to increase intensity between the two, take note I mean it must be passionate staring during the moments you two can look at each other. What do you think man?

Definitely slow down and throw some foreplay In even after intercourse has begun. Don't let foreplay end just because you've entered her. Stop from time to time and do something else. She will appreciate it.

Yes... lots, but I'll give you the best one right now. It's a technique called Tantric Thrusting. You do a number of very shallow thrusts, only using the tip... then you do a number of very deep and slow thursts. For example, 7 shallow, 1 deep, repeat... or 9 shallow 1 deep, 8 shallow 2 deep, 7 shallow 3 deep, etc...

I've been looking for literature to show my boyfriend and this is golden. Teasing is so important to pleasing me, but he just doesn't get it and it is incredibly frustrating.. One thing I would add that I enjoy is being teased with his dick before he actually puts it in.. Mmm. I want him to make me beg.

First of all... I want to meet the man who wrote this. Just for a night. I would pay for every damn thing if only i could experience this. he could be 50 (im 20) and i wouldnt care. i also want a memo sent to every man on the planet. And I have a question: how can you get a guy to try using foreplay during sex. I find that guys will do some of the things mentioned but once they enter you there is no going back. I get bored, nothing's happening for me, I want to go back to foreplay for a bit. I've asked and guys will do it from time to time or do it for the first 5minutes and then they just pump their way to their own orgasm. What do you do?

He's an oldie at 44 (I'm 28) but he won me because he does all these things except he fails to look into my eyes which I really want to experience and if he does look into my eyes, he seems vacant (probably because he is thinking of all the things mentioned in this article to do to me).

I'd also suggest with the thrusting to do it to music in beat.

Ricardus, you could possibly turn average men into sex machines....the more the better...I can't be constantly sharing my husband LOL

While addressing the physical aspects, you took time to address a very specific emotional point: to be careful with feelings and to save something for someone special. Thank you for that. No wonder you're good enough to write articles. You give a shit.

A man who gets that all vaginas are different?! I thought I would never see the day. Listen to this guy. He's obvs got some lesbian friends because I've never had internal/external g-spot stimulation from a male, just females. I mean, I insist upon it now, but twas the ladies who introduced me to orgasms so huge that the cops get called... by multiple neighbors.

Foreplay should be in bold & underlined. Yes, sometimes we do just want you to slam it home, but be warned, just because we want it doesn't mean we should get it right away. I've left more than a few men embarrassed by having to finish myself off & have more orgasms in 5 minutes than the absolute zero they neglected to provide in the 10 minute snorefest they sadly slapped out. We are timing you. We do discuss how long who did what where & we certainly point out the boys who think sex is limited to the behaviors shown in those 30 second free porn clips. Said boys are at the top of the list of Things To Be A Bitch About. Cheap, boring & typical.

The most effective and pleasurable way to give a female an orgasm is through cunnilingus. Most women cannot orgasm through intercourse because it doesn't provide adequate stimulation to their clitoris. The clitoris is the secret pathway to pleasure in the woman.

This is embarassing to even put down, but; I'm requesting an article touching on making sex good with a small penis. Anticipation and satiation can be...difficult, and I'm starting to wonder if this is a crackable problem.

if anyone's able to give a trustworthy response to this issue though, I put my money on the gc bloggers and community.

I don't know how small are you dude but I'm not so big myself and that's not an issue for the ladies as much as we might think. There are good positions that you can use to stimulate the deep parts of the vaginal, but know that, at least from my experience, you have to be careful because going too deep hurts them.

I think it's more important to last enough (small dick can still hit the spots, but no matter your size, you have to be able to do it for as long as it takes). Also don't forget about your own pleasure, it's not our job to satisfy women, it's a couple's job to have a fun sex life, so don't be worried about you don't being "enough".

And remember oral sex and being good with your fingers is also a plus for all guys no matter what size. Give her enough orgasms with your mouth and hands and you'll be a better than most of those guys who don't take the time. Also, do it because sucking pussy is fun, not because you "have to". Then try all the sex positions you can find or think of, and last as long as you can that way you'll improve your chances of giving her a vaginal orgasm and also yours will be more amazing. If you are unable to get her to orgasm before you, just go down on her again, you might even get hard and be able to have another round! Do that until she can take no more and trust me, she'll be very happy.

Anyways, small penis is not a crackable problem because is NOT a problem at all. The more you think of it the more it becomes a problem for YOU. Sex is fun.

Somehow i was able to deduce about 95% of these great tips while having my first girlfriend.
Judging from the comments other guys may be pretty unimaginative when it comes to pleasing a women.
In Retrospect this explains why some of my exes still wanted sex even after they terminated the relationship.
Thanks for making me feel good about myself.

Hi RD,
Some great tips there and I know that I've neglected these in my past relationships.
I'm reasonably fit and strong because I exercise a lot and women seem to eye my physique which is a real confidence boost. However, I'm not all that experienced in bed and my longest relationship was only about 2 years. The problem I have is that if I am very attracted to a woman I cannot pound her for longer than about 5 minutes non-stop without coming very hard. I can often carry on straight away and will come again but can only hold back for another 5 minutes. In a night I can come multiple times but the women seem to like me lasting longer, especially the first time. I think that they like the excitement and the build up. I've had sex with an older woman that I wasn't all that attracted to and could go on pounding her slack vagina for ages but I can't seem to last long with really hot women. Do you have any tips or techniques I could try?
Many thanks,

1. After you come, if you keep thrusting as much as you can (the sensations will limit this), you can get hard again and keep going. (Warning: women often don't even realize you came, so make sure she knows, otherwise she won't believe she satisfies you.)
2. Thrust toward one side and then the other.
3. An ex told me this: massage the whole breast, not just the nipple. Expecially good if you take the breast in your mouth. (And if she thinks her breasts are too small, you can reassure her that you like being able to get the whole breast in your mouth.)

I was sent here by an article on a different website that claimed this one was full of bull. While I must say this is mostly sound advice, I do have one huge problem with it: jaw-biting. I hate to break it to you guys, but a lot of the time women lie like rugs about how much something turns us on because either we're not super into the act to begin with, we don't want to make our partner feel awkward, or we're too shy to verbalize our desire. This one thing stands out to me because literally every woman I've discussed sex with has a personal horror story and several second-hand accounts from friends about this. We theorize that this weird act is overly popularized by porn (as are many ill-advised sex acts), and we mercilessly mock the men that do this when we're alone. There is one specific cluster of nerves right near the corner of the jawbone that when DELICATELY NIBBLED (and I do stress delicately very hard) will send shivers down our spines, but all-out biting, in that spot and anywhere else on the jaw, is at best awkward and at worst hideously painful. Does it feel good when a woman yanks on your beard with all her might? No? Picture that sensation, only replace fingers with teeth. It hurts a lot, that's what I'm getting at. So, listen to everything else this person (cuz honestly, I'm not entirely convinced this writer isn't a lesbian in disguise, and I mean that in the absolute nicest way possible) suggests, but leave our jaws alone. Pretty please :).