Your child's body shape and size are mostly inherited. She will resemble you with respect to being big, small or in-between. Her height and weight are normal for her as long as she grows consistently, even if her growth plots at the extreme upper or lower ends of the growth charts-above the 97th or below the 3rd percentiles. But if her weight or height abruptly and rapidly shift up or down on her growth chart, it can indicate a problem. In that case, consult a health professional who understands feeding dynamics to rule out health, feeding, or parenting problems.

Children who are unusual in any way -- in this instance, those who are especially big or small-need particularly good social skills. Rather than trying to change your child's size or shape, which will backfire, concentrate on teaching your child to cope. Help her develop good character, common sense, effective ways of responding to feelings, problem-solving skills, and the ability to get along with others.

To help your child grow in the way that is right for her:

Feed in the best way. Follow the division of responsibility in feeding.

Limit television, and give your child opportunities to be active. Follow the division of responsibility in activity.

Feel good about the body your child has, not the one you thought she would have.

From the Parents

One of the biggest misconceptions about eating healthy is that if the label says organic or natural, then it's good for you. Not so, says MeMe Roth, CHC, President, National Action Against Obesity. "My greatest wish is that parents would get their ki... read more

We've all said it at one time or another: our family is going to eat better, cook healthier meals, and good golly, our kids are going to eat it... and love it too! Between all that we juggle, especially now at the cusp of the year and the temptat... read more

Browse Preschools in Woodbridge

Get family-friendly things to do and special offers for up to 90% off!

Just enter your email address and zip code, and we'll send you the best family plan ideas as well as huge savings on museums, zoos, aquariums and other great family places. No spam or funny stuff, and you can unsubscribe anytime. Give it a try!