6) Check "Allow other users to view your desktop", "Allow other users to control your desktop", uncheck "You must confirm each access to this machine", check "Configure network automatically to accept connections"

7) Switch back to Sugar -- "Switch to Sugar" icon on desktop

In Sugar, launch "Terminal" Activity; you will need to click on the "List view" in the top right. Optionally click on the star to the left of Terminal in the List view if you want to add this Activity to your regular "Favorites view"

9) Type "/usr/libexec/vino-server" and hit enter

10) You can now connect to whatever the IP address of the XO is, with a standard VNC client running on any other computer on your local network. (You can find out your XO laptop's IP address with "ifconfig"command.)