She came home last night and crumpled into my arms. I was watching some UFC so she laid there with me, crying and very upset . . . So, we laid there, I pet her, we quietly watched the fights, she wept.

. . . Seeing her like this is just freaking torture. Instead, I use my better judgment, shut my "helpful" mouth, and try not to cry in her hair.

At some point, you will know when it is appropriate and right to say to her, "come lay down with me" in a nurturing, tender way and she will go with you to bed. Maybe sex will happen the first time she goes, maybe not until the next time or the time after that, but right now you are letting her know she can safely have and experience her feelings with you while her world feels so sad and complicated, and that is a good thing.