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Potentially having a child with special needs (physical or mental) that my husband and I may not be able to handle on our own. I know that sounds really bad, and saying this will probably upset some people here, but it's the absolute truth.

It doesn't mean we won't love them or care for them any less than other parents. It's more about the possibility of not being able to adequately meet my child's needs and give them the best, most comfortable life they deserve. Caring for someone with special needs can be extremely emotionally, physically, and financially taxing.

I'm not afraid of the other routine things that go along with raising children. I only really worry about a scenario like this.

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My daughters nearly 13 weeks old, so far the only thing I don't particularly like is she's starting to pull our hair lol. I don't really want her to grow up but that's inevitable. I'm not looking forward to teenage years but I'll get some experience with my step son becoming a teenager. It will be different her becoming a teen though since girls an be more difficult. I'm also not looking forward to when she can argue lol

1. You have to be sure that you raise them correctly based on their personality, behavior and stuff so they don't felt different or left out.2. You have to prepare for emotional breakdown, rebellious phase, et cetera, and that's the part where you have to be clever since this part will have a huge impact on their life.3. You have to know that they're another human being who have a different personality, so I can't taught them the way my family taught me.4. I have to do a research about the environment that we live in, that she hangs out and the possibilities that may occur like: "Is my neighborhood is drug free or not" and I have to teach them about the things, I don't want to be like: "You can't do this!" since it's basically triggering their rebellious soul to do that. I just ask them that if they want to do it, then do it with me. If they want to do it with their friends then go ahead as long as I can look after them. And I can see the way they react, if they're addicted I'm going to explain the benefits and the infirmity, so the decision is up to them. If they're starting to cross the line I would remind them about their goals and things so they'll realize not to waste time on something that'll regret them, it's okay to be a teenager and enjoy life as long as you don't screw up your dreams. I don't want to be a traditional nor modern parents, but It took a lot of hard work to do that since i'm so lazy to do everything so yeah.

Child birth. It hurts a lot they say.And just them failing me, although if I suceed at educating them like my parents educated me it shouldn't happen.

I don't want my children to be influenced by the media and peer pressure and end up being promiscuous, doing drugs/alcohol/ smoking , failing academically , be disrespectful and not compassionate and not going to University.

And the obvious one is that I'm afraid of having them with the wrong man lol. A man who doesn't share my values and ideals. I have no idea if the guy I'm with and I can really make it happen one day but I'm glad we see eye to eye in most things related to this subject.

I know you're directing this to your fellow breeders, but if I did have kids, I think child birth is pretty scary. Like this is kinda shameful to admit, but last year I had baby fever, pretty bad. I even wanted to call my ex and tell him to get me pregnant lol But anyways, I had to literally watch videos of child birth and even C sections para que se me quite. And it did. Its fucking gross and scary at the same time. It looks so painful, and if you ask most women, it is. Some of them feel like theyre dying, others feel like its the worst pain ever. no way no way no way. That and boogers. kids I see usually have snot and boogers fucking disgust me lol

I'm not a big fan of sick either but having a young cat and 8 years working in a cafe/restaurant I've cleaned up a fair bit of sick (and also urine from old people but moving on).

I'm told you get used to it but spending time with my friends who are mums, they change their babies and hold down a conversation whereas I'm politely trying not to gag.

My brother has 2 children and the oldest (back when she was a baby) wasn't well and being hard to settle. She wouldn't have a bath unless my brother was in the bath with her playing with her ducks with her. Skip ahead, she had an attack of diarrhoea... her mum scooped out the baby and left my brother sitting in a bath of his daughters poo.

I'm not looking forward to the big lack of sleep I'll be getting. that's the scariest part to me , lol, from infants to age 11-12 I'll be having to get up with them and help out whether its up at 3am getting a bottle or up at 7am getting them ready for school. Exciting lol

I agree with your point. I have a 10 month old niece who I visit often. She's really really cuteeee and all but her sleeping schedule is really odd. So if my kid is like that, I'd have to stay up till 4 AM or so till he falls asleep. That and you have no time left for yourself. My cousin said to me that "since her birth, I don't remember a single time when I had my lunch/dinner calmly, without any rush".

Maybe the fact that I can never just go somewhere alone or do something like watch series. I have to plan around my children then and can't just do things cause I feel like it in the moment. Your kids became the center of everything then!

I think not having free time to do what I want to do, having to struggle more than normal to take a flight somewhere or to dine out at my favourite restaurant or to visit a waterfall or to go to a casino - the additional physical sacrifice necessary to push strollers up hill on my trips to the garden.

You can't do what you want when you want anymore, you have someone to answer to.. and of course it doesn't just stop when they are 18.. it is a life changing decision and I think you have to be totally 100% ready.. not just do it because everyone else is

the loss of spontaneously, having to worry about whether the baby will be quiet enough to do this or that. Having to worry about babysitters and the fear that I won't have a life or a day out here and there. Anyway babies arn't too bad it toddlers that gets everywhere.

Everything? It's just too much to say... but if everyone felt that it was impossible, humans won't exist. It takes a brave soul to suck up the fact that babies are a lot of work and a lot of stress. They do grow up eventually and then you could do what you did before they were here, but once a parent always a parent. I'm scared shitless of having children, but I know that one day that time will come and I look at it this way, they'll be okay and so will I!

My daughter never had horrible poops when she wa a baby. She's four now and these tantrums are aomething I wish I was warned about. Never again do I want to go through this lmfaoOr when she starts dating 💀

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Have one... he turned out to be "special." Now I'm stuck at home changing diapers because we can't find a baby sitter that is willing to watch a kid his age with this "special" need.

Sorry for ranting, but damn, even getting a sitter means the benefits don't outweigh the cost. Most of the money would go out the window to that sitter, with the added benefit of not even knowing my own child. Just a human I pick up after work and feed... then it's off to bed just to do it all over again.

I wish the best for others, but my life has got effed in the A because of kids. It's not so fun for the person that has to work some job they don't like all day either. So much rides on their back as well... smh, now I'm going to go get drunk until I pass out and do it all over again.

Hearing the woman say "Well I gave birth to your children" for the following 18 years any time she wants me to do everything for them.That, and the first 7 years of the kids life, I wouldn't look forward to.

You know those videos of someone that's holding up a baby and the infant pukes all over their face? Yeah! That's one of the major things that worry me! Haha. That, and changing poo diapers. I have a weak stomach when it comes to things of that matter.

Dude you get used to the diapers after awhile. I did with my nieces and I had the same thoughts. Its the crying at nights when they are babies. They can't tell you what they want. Anything you do doesn't help. Or when that swear word slips from my mouth and they repeat it 😂

Losing my life, not so much as in I need to go out all the time and party, but once the kids come it seems like things I enjoy doing like the gym, brazilian jiu jitsu, judo and boxing, seeing my friends on the weekend, reading, gaming and if i'm in college, that it will all come to a screeching halt. Also the thing I also will hate is the diaper blow outs, it is almost enough to make you wanna take them back to the store and get a new one lol

This garbage social justtwat society that is telling all girls they are victims of a fictional monster and telling all boys they are the reason for everything bad in the world and should be ashamed of existing.

not having sex with my wife for a long time and not sleeping full nights for a long time. changing diapers is just chill in my opinion. the constant crying and constant need of attention at all day and night times is more of a problem

spanking them... I love my nephew but man do I hate spanking him i hate him being at the point of needing it to the fact I don't like him crying afterwards. .. but it is nessary to raise good men and women

I have a 3 year old cousin and a 9 month old cousin. I love them to death, but I can't stand the high-pitched shrieks from hell. I also hope my kids don't turn out to be one of those unruly little mosters at the grocery stores.