ADHD / ADD Support Group

Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.

hi there

hi im new to this so i dont really know what to put,
but here goes.
Im a mum 2 two boys, 6 year old Euan and 3 month old Philip.
I have been struggling with my son Euans behaviour since he was 3.
He is constanly on the go, cant sit still, very naughty behaviour, sometimes i feel like i cant control him, its as though he isnt listening.
It has all become to much for me as i have been struggling with depression, his behaviour becomes so bad sometimes as he has temper tantrums and hits and kicks me.
I have been to lots of health visitors and doctors and got no help.
But we have recently been to our gp and said enough is enough its effecting all our lives, we cant go out as a normal family as we end up having to leave when he starts to play up.
I want to enjoy the time with my son but i end up crying most of the time.
My son has been refered as it is thought he has some sort of hyperactivity disorder.
I felt alittle better that something might be getting done now.
It could be a long wait though.

Hi there, my name is Dana and my son is 5. I have been dealing with the same issues since he was about 2. At first I thought it was just his age, then I was told it was &quot;he's a boy&quot; ( I also have a 14 year old daughter). But this summer, I just Knew it was something more, unsure of what it was I took him in to get checked. We did lots of blood work, and also set up an appointment with a therapist. Lucky for me he saw first hand what I deal with. He said that for sure he had ADHD, and sent us to a specialest for meds. We started Adderal the next week. At first was 5 mg, with very little change. He was suspended from school for throwing chairs, so the next visit we upped it to 10 mg. And this is the first week in YEARS that I can truly say we are doing better. We had upwords to 10 tantrums a day, this week we have maybe three all week. We have noticed that breaking the day into shorter times say 2 hours each, and give small rewards for making good choices. Rewards as a hug, a special snack, a balloon, every play time... then once you get things under control work towards longer periods of time. It's working at school and at home for us.

Best of luck, and know your not alone, I sure feel that way sometimes. Like it is all way too much, but it will get better, and it is not their fault they are acting out. Please feelfree to add me as a friend and we can chat anytime :)
Dana

hi thankyou for your reply, it would be good to talk to others who are going through the same probs.
I think i have known since Euan was 3 that that something wasnt right but i kept thinking he would grow out of it but he hasnt and it has got worse.
Just the other day i took him to the clinic for a hearing test and the doctor there noticed something was wrong and he was onlt supposed to be testing his hearing.
He kept asking me questions about how he is and acts etc.
My friend has a son who has ADHD and autism, it took her along time to get any help too.
I met her at a parenting course which the health visitors adviced me to go on (think they were trying to say it my fault)
ne way i became good friends with her and we would meet up and our kids would play together thats when i noticed how much my son was like hers and it shocked me.
I think that was when i thought ive gotta do something because i dont want to be on the receiving end of at tantrum when he gets older.
I just worry how hes going to cope if theres something wrong how we are all going to cope but getting help has got to be a good thing hasnt it?

Getting help for us has been a great thing. We are learning some ways to help him to make good choices in addition to the meds. Where are you? I'm not sure I understand why it's so hard for you to get help with this. I took my son in thinking it might be diabetes, so they did lots of blood work, but that dr did it just to rule out all other reasons he could be acting out.

i cant understand it either, we live near chorley.
We have been to the doctors a few times and they said it was a faze and he would grow out of it, or that he was normal and hes just being naughty.
They made me feel silly for wasting their time.
So i would struggle on for a few more months then it would get too much and we would go back to the doctors with him again.
Ive just received a letter this morning about his referal its got a form in it i have to fill in and send back, hopefully then something will get done.
You must be relieved that your getting help and your not going crazy, i sometimes think i am.
Its as though my son doesnt understand what im saying at the moment, its as though the messages arent getting through.
I have to be very clear with him what i want him to do and take all other distractions away. like the tv etc.
Hes actually very clever and enjoys activities at school thats why it kept throwing us because usually they struggle academically apparently.
I just want him to do well out of life and i dont want anything to hold him back.
He became very hard to handle when he started back at school as everything had changed, his teacher and class room etc.
He is starting to settle down abit more now but at times feels like weve took a thousand steps back.
how long did it take to get your don diagnosed? as i believe they have to see lots of different specialists, professionals.

My son is doing great academicaly, he has issues sitting still, and he wants his way NO, or else he gets way angry.

On thing I learned at the dr was to use a back massager, the vibrations help to calm him. He just has to hold it and it seems to work.

It only took one visit but the dr got to see him acting out, as he was having a hugh fit when he walked out to the waiting room to get us. But we are still on a month into this. And already the meds are working great.

I hope you get a chance to get in when the refural goes through. And PLEASE know this is not your fault!!! That has been the hardest part of this, is I want to make him better now, and I can't. I can only give him the tools to learn to seceed. ( sorry my spelling is not my strong suit. :)

We live in England, have you heard of manchester?
its a couple of hours drive from there.
Yeh my son is the same, if he dosnt get his own way he gets angry or he will cry and shout.
if he is being told off he is trying to get away all the time and dosnt want to listen, if i dont let him go he hits out at me.
It has been hard getting anywhere with the professionals as they say they dont like to label children unless it becomes so bad, each time i went they would try talk me out of it by saying it would affect him later on in life.
I worry about this but i need something to be done, not just for him but for our family.
Thankyou for your reply and thankyou for your advice and just being able to chat to someone who knows what it is like.

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