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So it’s snowed, not just a bit but apparently it’s been a beast of a storm. But for those of us that train this is not an excuse not to run. The training has to be done. You pay now, or you will definitely pay later.

Like this:

People often ask what i think about when i am running. It is often closely followed by, “don’t you get really bored”. I am a thinker, a prayer and a dyslexic. Often my thinking and praying get stuck. But when I run, everthing clears again. So i thought I might just jot down some of the things I think and pray about when I run… “what I think about when I run”.

10k, 44:41(PB), Sunday evening.

Is today a PB for my 10k.

The man who drowned in the harbour.

Prayed for LB as I have not seen her in church for ages.

J who said this week he “experienced” the bible for the first time.

Vision is like running, big plans but still only happens one step at a time.

Like this:

“Don’t do heroin!” It’s not what I normally say to my kids at the end of the day. But it has been one of those days. What I really want to scream at them is something like; “DO NOT take ANY drugs, not even a puff or a pill. If you have stuff, talk with someone, anyone, I’ll pay if you can’t talk to me. But DON’T you ever take drugs otherwise you will end up like her, like the living dead.”

But all I can manage is a weary, “Don’t do heroin!” It’s been a long day and I am sure my screaming would not help. They look at me strangely. People do what they do. We are all free to choose our path. For some that path leads directly from freedom to a living death.

We parked up at church, young kids in the car, I was just popping in to collect my fancy (vicar) dress for the following days formalities. A strange thing the church. God stepped into the neighbourhood and became human with nothing to his name. Yet we think that adding a few thousand complicated words, expensive robes and brass finery will point to the king born with nothing. Here is a system that’s not working – too much straw in too many bricks, but we’ll come back to that.

Stepping out of the car there is a huddle of teenagers staring round the back of the church. With them a local business owner. All frozen by the sight of someone slumped over their legs. Drug gear littered all around. Clearing up is on my mind, but definitely not on theirs. What are you suppose to do with this? So they just stare.

As I walk over I see the sharps in between her legs, skirt pulled up. She has been injecting in places I don’t want to see. I do the usual checks, there are no more visible needles but I will not want to be crawling around on this bit of grass tonight. Trying to wake her takes time, she is alive, but death is clearly flowing through her veins. I don’t mean that she is going to die tonight, but simply that her blood is thick with her freedom choice and it is slowly killing her.

The teenagers have seen enough to be filled with concern and fear. I hope it is enough to keep some of them safe from chasing a high, but I expect they will forget once the pills are passed. I send them away without a word. The business guy looks tired, he has his own stuff to deal with, so I send him on his way too.

Back to this slumped pile of rags wondering what time it is? Ambulance or safety somewhere. Anything except being left rotting behind the church.

Finally, I get a response. Her head raises before slumping back this time almost face planting the grass. “Could I be? No please.” I think to myself.

Out loud I call here name, “Jane (not her real name), Jane, it’s Mark.” I really don’t want it to be her. Just a few months ago she was clean, we had chatted about curtains, she had never had curtains before. How crazy is that, she was full of joy because of a pair of curtains. They were not even real ones, they were made of a couple of old shower curtains.

But it is her.

Sweet Jane.

Veins pumped full of death. Jesus was so right when he said that the “thief comes to steal and kill and destroy.” The thief has got Jane firmly in his grasp.

A call to the hostel and yes they will take her back in. I struggle to get her back on her feet. Rescue her few things, a bag, a ring and two kids lollies. Even in her stumbling, she insists on putting one in her mouth, so wasted that she does not even take the wrapper off.

My heart breaks for her. There is just a hurting person, a child who needs healing stuck in there somewhere.

The walk to the hostel is only a few hundred meters but it takes an age. People stare, Jane walks a few steps forward and quite a few back. Although we nearly land headlong on the tarmac no one offers to help.

Bad dad moment. The walk is taking a long time and I have left my kids in the car. Sometimes the right thing comes with difficult choices.

Once inside I am greeted by some familiar faces and some new staff. The hostel the residence are not shocked like on the streets. They have seen this a thousand times before. But that does not stop them pursuing the same path.

On the way up to her room, both Jane and I misjudge the door and so with a bloody head she falls again to the floor. My fault and in this crazy world I guess I could get sued. Jane sobs like a baby, she just wants her bed. With the blood flowing down her face, she bites tightly onto her lolly.

One on each side we manoeuvre Jane to her room.

What happened to the joy of curtains? Where did that droplet of pride go?

Her room is thick with chaos. The bed, floor and even out of the door covered with clothes, rubbish and the destruction of this life that is being held captive. This unit is under-resourced from central government cuts and short-sighted local councillors spend choices. But still, the system should work. No one should live like this, especially not in a structure that is supposed to be helping.

We should not be surprised. When people get told to make bricks with less straw, the structures you craft will just come tumbling down at the slightest storm. Austerity is not to blame for Jane’s choice but it is helping to tear her apart. The poor and broken hearted will not be ethnically cleansed from our communities with budget cuts as some may wish, instead, they need to be healed and raised up. Then they will play their part in rebuilding.

Just a few months ago things had been so different. Even before the hostel took here in she has been building relationships and connecting with people. She had even spoken on a video we made, to celebrate five years of our community cafe. Voice cracking as she shared the depth of what if meant to be included in this church family. Her word? “Humble.” But the truth is that we are the ones who are humbled because she had at that time the grit to be in the room.

That night that I took her home became the final spiral down. Now she is out of her room, back on the streets. Grimy possessions over spilling the sides of a child’s pushchair. You will see her pushing her chaos around town, slumped on street corners, passed by, dismissed, excluded. High but not happy, medicated but not healing. Put out of her room because we could not cope. We leave her like this because she has the mental capacity to choose. That seems so wrong. Jane is an addict, she is not in control rather she is being controlled by the demons of the past and the pain of the present.

There must be a better way.

Jane sleeps slumped by that pushchair. I wonder what it really carries? What pains does she push round each day? Could she ever let them go, leave all those self-destructive thoughts behind, find healing for the pain that torments her?

There are people in our community who have known Jane for over twenty years. Some of them also used to sleep slumped over their attempts to cover the pain. They are finding healing and freedom and I believe Jane can too. Perhaps all we can do is wait for her as she cycles through the straw-less system again. As we wait we keep on loving her with a love that is patient, and kind. A love that always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. This kind of love never fails.