Lawd help anyone that says something rude about my engagement ring..

Ok, waiting bee here. So while stalking other bees rings tonight, y’know to get my fix of ring porn… *drooools*. Anyway, I somehow got caught up in all the threads where people have said rude/inappropriate things to ladies about their rings. For example: it not being a ‘real’ ring because it’s under 1ct etc…

Well, I’ve decided that if ANYONE has the balls to say anything rude about my ring (when I get it lol) to my face, my response is going to be a blunt, “Wow. How inappropriate and rude of you.” They’ve been warned!!! Well not really, cause they probably won’t read this, but seriously, how do people think it’s ok or necessary to say things like that to people?!?!

I hear ya. I’ve never had anyone say anything negative about my ring, but when I read the threads about people that do get those comments I can’t even believe it! No way would I hold my tongue if someone acted that way to me.

There will always be someone with something negative to say. Too big, too small, too “dated,” too “modern,” “I don’t like halos,” “I don’t like solitaires,” “I don’t like platinum/white gold/gold/rose gold,” on and on. Sometimes I think people are just expressing their opinion and trying to make conversation rather than actually insult you (or your ring or your fiance), not the best way to do it but that’s always been my impression, I’ve received negative comments on my ring (very large) but I’ve always noticed they never meant to upset me when they comment they just don’t know what else to say and want to keep talking. Others, however, may very well be trying to insult you, and if I encounter those people I will also say something snarky right back.

@krayzay87: Seriously people have no damn filter! The funniest thing you’ll find when you have the ring is that most of the haters (well, I hope you never have to experience somebody saying something rude, but in case you do), are UNengaged women! Like, excuse me. CLEARLY you are hating because I have a man who wants to marry me and a ring I love to boot, and you have NOTHINGGGGG.

I got crap from one girl who told me that, had we waited longer, FI could have gotten me a bigger diamond. UMMM. I’ve been with him 6 years, we just graduated college, and I CHOSE my diamond size because I don’t WANT something gigantic! People are dumb.

@krayzay87: I have a friend with a very expensive engagement ring (and by very I mean in the 12-15k range). When she first showed it to us girls, everyone loved it, but one girl, who was jealous. And instead of keeping her mouth shut, she made herself look like a fool and said, “Is it flat enough for you?” I will always remember that, because the situation reminded me that no matter how pretty, big, expensive, etc it is, someone is going to say something negative!!!

@SimplyEuphoric: FLAT ENOUGH?!?!!!! That is lol-worthy. What a ridiculous comment to make! It really does show that some people will criticize anything.

Personally, no one has made a negative comment about my ring, period…but that’s also because I do not flaunt it ever. I’ve literally never made comments like “Look at my ring!” Or put my hand up and say, “I’m engaged!” I’ve noticed that friends who have done those things have experienced disparaging comments about their rings, while everyone I know has been super sweet to me. Even when I run into someone that doesn’t know we’re engaged (we didn’t put it on Facebook), they immediately notice my ring and ask me about it. It’s always been a suprised happy reaction, and I know some seriously catty bitches. If someone were to make a disparaging remark, they’d meet the full force of my bluntness.

Oh your post title made me chuckle!! I’ve been feeling the same way, reading all these horror stories. I must live around some nice nice people, though, b/c my ring is probably the least spendy one on this board and so far no one I’ve shown it to has had even a smidge of negativity in their comments.

But I need to develop a few good comebacks for when/if it ever happens so I dont’ just cry. Or smack them.

@krayzay87: When I first got engaged I was at my weekly WW meeting and had this god awful woman ask to see it and say “Well isn’t that a cute, dainty ring”….. I just about socked her in her triple chin. WHOOPS.