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Thursday, July 31, 2014

The Many Benefits Of Tears And Crying

By George M. Graham Jr.

I recently finished reading a book by Dr. Judith Orloff, The Ecstasy of Surrender, in which she
shared some information about tears and crying that piqued my interest. It triggered me to do some additional research, which helped me to have a deeper understanding and appreciation for one of our body's natural healing processes.

Research and studies have shown that there are many benefits of
tears and crying that help to bring about health and healing. Dr. Jerry Bergman
writes in one of his articles, The Miracle
of Tears, "Tears are just one of many miracles which work so well that
we take them for granted every day."

In her book, Dr. Orloff wrote, "Tears are your body's
release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety, and pain. You also have
tears of joy such as when a child is born or tears of relief, as when a
difficulty has passed. They lubricate your eyes, remove irritants, and reduce
stress hormones and they contain antibodies that fight infection."

Evidently, there are three types of tears and each type serves a
different function. The three types are basal tears (Dr. Orloff refers to these
as continuous tears,) reflex tears, and emotional tears.

We can discover some of the benefits of tears and crying by
learning more about the function of each of the three types of tears. The first
type, basal tears, is present in our eyes at all times (continuous.) These
tears help keep our eyes and nose well lubricated and keep them from drying
out. They actually drain through the nose, which is why we often have a runny
nose when we cry.

These tears also contain an antibacterial, antiviral agent
called Lysozyme that kills up to 95% of all bacteria in just five to 10
minutes. The benefit of this enzyme is that it helps to keep our eyes safe from
many infections that could result in impairment or loss of vision.

If you have ever had to cut an onion, then you know what will
often happen next. Your eyes begin to water and you probably begin to shed
tears. This is an example of the second type of tears, reflex tears, which help
us to deal with irritants to the eyes.

As a result of cutting an onion, a chemical reaction happens
which produces a gas that irritates the eyes. The sensory nerves in our eyes
trigger hormones to cause the eyes to produce tears. The reflex tears usually
flow in larger amounts than the basal tears because they help to detoxify the
eye by washing away harmful substances and irritants. These tears also contain
antibodies to help protect the eyes.

In 1980, after the birth of my first son, the nurse laid his
wrapped body in my arms. As I looked down at this amazing miracle I was
holding, I was not prepared for what happened next. I began to cry
uncontrollably. I was so overwhelmed with awe, love, and compassion that I was
crying tears of joy and happiness. This is an example of the third type of
tears, emotional tears.

Emotional tears are produced due to any number of different
reasons: sadness, anger, hurt, pain, grief, anxiety, joy, happiness, or stress.
Dr. William Fry describes more about the science of tears in his book, Crying, The Mystery Of Tears. He shares
how emotional tears contain stress hormones that are excreted when we cry. This
helps the body detoxify itself. Other studies describe that crying actually
stimulates the body to produce endorphins, which help us to feel better as a
result of crying.

Research shows that women cry five times more often than men.
Because of macho attitudes, men have believed that crying is a sign of weakness
and vulnerability. However, the social winds of change have made crying more
acceptable and it is now being regarded as evidence of strength,
self-confidence, and awareness.

Dr. Orloff stated, "Crying is necessary to work through
grief. When waves of tears come over us after we experience a loss, they are
helping us process the loss so that we can keep living with open hearts.
Otherwise, we are leaving ourselves open to depression, bitterness, or physical
symptoms (emotional pain can morph into disease in our bodies,) if we suppress
these potent feelings).” Research
documents after crying, we are in a calmer state of being. Our breathing rate
and heart rate decrease and our bodies return to a state of homeostasis.

Shedding tears or having a good cry helps us to feel better and
provides therapeutic value, not only physically, emotionally, and
psychologically, but also spiritually. Crying helps us to bond and feel
supported and builds community. It is also strongly correlated with empathy. It
moves and touches hearts through love and compassion.

In 1993, coach Jim Valvano received the Arthur Ashe Courage and
Humanitarian Award and said the following in his acceptance speech, "To
me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this every
day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day. Number two
is to think. You should spend time in thought. Number
three is, you should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or
joy. But think about it. If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that's a full
day. That's a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week; you're going to
have something special."

As you Dare To Do Your Best, you will meet with obstacles,
challenges, and stress along the way. You may shed tears and cry. It is okay!
Remember, there are many benefits to tears and crying that will help you to be
able to work through the current situation. It is part of the awesomeness of
how our bodies are made to help us to be and do our best!

About Me

George M. Graham Jr. received his B.S. and MA. Ed. Degrees in the field of special education from East Carolina University. Not only has he taught students with all types of disabilities, but Graham has also served as an educational diagnostician, a program specialist, a consultant, as well as the Director of Exceptional Children in two school systems.

In his over 40 years of experience in the field of special education, he has been able to present to groups of parents, teachers, administrators, and many different organizations. Graham has worked in school systems in three different states and worked with local, state, and national level committees to promote continuous improvement of services for individuals with disabilities. He is the founder of the Dare To Do Your Best project.

Graham formerly worked with Easter Seals UCP as a Project Manager for a grant overseeing services for individuals with intellectual/development disabilities in several counties in Eastern North Carolina.

Originally from Fayetteville, N.C., Graham learned to play the drums in high school in the 1960's. After high school and a short stint in college, he went on the road playing music full time.

During his time on the road, he worked with such pop and R&B artists as Percy Sledge and Chubby Checker. He also performed in concert opening acts for the Boxtops, Big Brother and the Holding Company, Wet Willie, Strawberry Alarm Clock, Steam, Mel and Tim, Mary Wells and many others.

Over the years, Graham has played with a variety of bands performing different genres of music. His roots in rock and roll, southern rock, classic rock, and R&B help him to express his special "mojo" through his drumming. He has become a versatile drummer who loves playing all styles of music.

Graham enjoys incorporating music into his presentations. In the appropriate setting, he will often utilize drums as a teaching technique to emphasize the key points of the presentation.