8 Signs You’ve Found A True Gentleman

A gentleman is also a man of “independent means who does not engage in any occupation or profession for gain.”

All due respect, Merriam-Webster, but I think that definition is a bit outdated.

So what’s the 21st Century definition?

Well, that’s a bit more complicated.

In our modern world, a gentleman’s status arguably has more to do with his attitude and demeanor than his status at birth.

There are plenty of gentlemen out there in all levels of society.

Here are 8 ways to know you’ve found a gem.

1. His intentions are good.

A gentleman may not always say or do the right things. He may not always succeed. But he tries, and that’s what counts.

A gentleman’s primary goal in life is to leave the world a better place than he found it. He might do that by raising a family or starting a business he believes in, but the goal is the same: to make a positive difference.

2. He respects the needs of others.

Maybe your need in a relationship isn’t to be pampered with chivalrous gestures but rather to maintain a healthy degree of independence.

A true gentleman will respect that, and he will respect the needs of everyone else.

If you have to call off a date because your best friend just lost her job and needs support, he’ll respect that as well.

3. He takes care of himself.

If a man chooses to destroy his mind and body with excessive alcohol use, sleep deprivation or one of the other many vices of life, what makes you think he holds anyone else’s mind or body in any higher regard?

Rather, you feel that he sees you on the same plane. That’s why a gentleman dates – He wants someone of similar maturity and mind to challenge him.

6. He makes you a priority in his life.

If he didn’t have the time for you, he wouldn’t be dating you.

When dating a true gentleman, you’ll never get the impression that he’s simply putting up with you because he doesn’t want – for whatever reason – to call the relationship off.

Because as a grown man, if he didn’t think things were working out, he would confront the issue instead of dragging you along on an emotional roller coaster.

7. He has self-control.

Even in the most heated of arguments, a true gentleman will never make you fear for your own physical safety, because you know he has a firm grip on himself and his emotions.

Make no mistake – he feels just as deeply as everyone else. The difference is in how he expresses his emotions.

8. He is thankful.

Lastly, a true gentleman knows that – no matter what his position in life – he is fortunate in one way or another.

That is at the root of his kindness and loving demeanor. He sees the world around him not as something out to get him but as something that, though flawed, contains a great deal of beauty and happiness.