Penis Envy? Not any more!

If you're prepared to find a way of coping with the excess strapping, this is an excellent harness for first time users, or for anyone who has had trouble with fit. There are harnesses out there that may be sexier in appearance, with leather, chrome, and pvc. There are harnesses that are kinkier, with butt plugs built in. But I don't think you'll find one that gives a better or more secure fit, especially for the plus size gal.

Published:
December 6, 2011

Pros:

well fitting and stays in placemultiple O ringsmade to fit us curvier girlseasy to clean

Cons:

extra strapping everywhere!lower O ring strap is too short to fit over a dildo with balls

Okay, I admit it. I have penis envy. I think it would be brilliant to have my own cock to play with. Now, thanks to the Divine Diva, I can! And I can take it off and put it away in a drawer when I'm ready to be a girl again.

Fitting the dildo

This harness does not come with a dildo, so you will need to provide your own. The harness comes with three different O ring sizes, so it will fit a variety of dildos that are available here at Eden. The O ring is held in place by 3 straps with snap closures. Because of the positioning of the lower strap, if your dildo comes with balls, it will not go over the top of them. Your dildo will need to have a flared base below the balls for holding the O ring. This is unfortunate, as a longer strap with multiple snaps to allow for length adjustment would have made it more versatile.

I put the dildo on by putting the ring on the dildo first, then feeding the straps through and using the snaps. These are heavy duty snaps and a bit fiddly to snap and unsnap for anyone who doesn't have a strong grip. However, I discovered later, it was much easier to insert and remove the dildo while the O ring was attached to the harness, which means I only need to fiddle with the snaps if I want to change the O ring in use.

The dildo I was using is one that comes with a flared, suction cup base, and it stayed in place quite well. I stayed 'at attention' the full time it was in use, without it drooping or sliding out of place in any way.

Wearing the harness

To put on the harness, simply step into the leg openings and pull it up around your hips. Hold the dildo in place where it seems most comfortable - for me, it's resting on the public mound with the top just below where my belly pooches out. Then pull the wide straps until the fit is comfortable. You may need to fiddle with it a bit until you have the front piece and back pieces centered properly, but once that's done, it doesn't move.

The leg straps then get their own adjustment, which is much easier. The jock strap styling leaves the wearer's vagina and anus available for play, though the clitoris is likely to be covered by the padded dildo holder.

Straps everywhere!

My primary complaint with this harness is that no provision is made for the excess strapping. I think it's wonderful that this is designed to fit the biggest girl, but that necessarily means that most girls are going to have a lot of strap length left over. There is no belt loop or pouch or any sort of place to tuck in the excess. This is a serious oversight, and one I will end up having to sort out myself.
The straps can be trimmed, but there's always the question of how much to cut off. If you trim it to fit, then you have to hope you never gain weight or want to share with a larger partner. And even trimming to fit, you will need to allow an excess amount for ease in putting the harness on and taking it off, which means there's still going to be extra flopping around.

I decided to trim off half the extra, leaving some size flexibility in the harness. With nylon strapping, you simply trim with scissors, then briefly hold a lit match or lighter below the cut edge to heat-seal the end and keep it from fraying. When I get a chance, I will buy some black fleece and hand sew a wide loop around the side straps that I can tuck the extra into. Those who aren't particularly crafty could try slipping the strap through a soft hair scrunchy or a stretchy wrist band to make an improvised loop.

Comfort

Other than the extra strapping, which I will soon be resolving, the harness is very comfortable and secure. It doesn't slide around at all, and the nylon, though a little stiff, is not chafing. It could be worn under clothes (without a dildo in place) if you wanted to be ready for action.

Cleaning

No washing instructions were included with the package, but because it is nylon, it can be easily hand washed or machine washed on delicate. If you machine wash, be sure to use a lingerie bag to keep the straps in place, and use a delicate cycle and low temperature. A little Dettol in the wash will kill any germs, which is especially a concern when pegging.

Experience

So far, I have only used the dildo for gender play. My partner is keen to try pegging, but the size of my 'package' made him a bit apprehensive. (Now he knows how us girls feel when anal is suggested!) We did roll around quite a bit playing with each other's cocks and he even gave me head. I also had fun laying on my back and jerking myself off, and even playing with some of his male masturbators. Yes, the pleasure was entirely psychological, but it was still hot as hell.

When we are ready for pegging (probably after choosing a smoother and more slender dildo), the excellent fit of this harness makes me feel confident that I'll be able to place my dick where I need it, without having to spend a lot of effort holding it in place.

One very minor complaint is that the padded dildo holder could have easily included a pouch on the inside for sliding a bullet in place and giving the wearer clitoral stimulation. I'll be adding one when I make the belt loops.

Overall, I am quite pleased with this product, and feel that the pros outweigh the cons.

Follow-up commentaryI still like it2 months after original review

I've been using this harness less since I got the RodeoH panty-style harness. The RodeoH is much more comfortable than the Sedeux, but the Sedeux has the advantage of leaving the vulva and anus exposed for easy access. It also comes out ahead of RodeoH in versatility, as the O-rings can be changed out to get the right size - an option that RodeoH does not offer. I'm glad I own both, as each harness has different strengths.

Overall, I am still quite pleased with the Sedeux divine diva, and I still highly recommend it.

This content is the opinion of the submitting contributor and is not endorsed by EdenFantasys.com

This sounds like a good harness. Ièm not a fan of leather, so this would be great. That's awesome it comes with three O rings too.

12/07/2011

ToyingCouple

Impressive review! This harness just looks so comfortable to wear and we hope you get a chance to try it out in full action with your partner.

12/08/2011

mandaj

good info

12/12/2011

David Troll

12/12/2011

Silverdrop

I have a Tantus O2 Mark dildo to use with this now, so I'm looking forward to the followup review!

12/16/2011

Greenleaf

Thank you for the review!

01/01/2012

lemony

Thanks for reviewing

01/20/2012

Rockasaurus

Thanks for the helpful review!

05/07/2012

richsam

Thanks for the review

05/11/2012

Life's Little Secrets

Thank you for the review! I want to try a comfortable harness for pegging with my gf that I can still have access to her without having to remove it like for gender play. I also like this harness because it's a sport sheets product and I like how well made their products are.