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Bring A Bottle of Wine To Another Couple??

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Since they are having a wine & cheese, I would bring flowers. I know you mentioned that you don't care to deal with cut flowers but perhaps this couple does. It also gets them out of any obligation to serve what your hostess gift. Good luck, hope you have a nice time!

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Never is a bottle of wine an incorrect gift, in my opinion. Unless you're going to a bris.

We are often invited to friends' homes for fancy dinners. I know that they're opening very good wines to pour with dinner. If they stick the wine I bring into their wine fridge, I'm not insulted, and nor do they feel bad.

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At the end of the day, so long as you do not arrive empty handed, you are in the right. There is no wrong here (unless you go bat-shit crazy and bring a complete wine and cheese spread, trying to trump their offering, that might be construed as slightly insulting....).

People often bring wine to my house and I already have one open or decanted, leaving theirs if we want another bottle. No eyes batted, no feelings hurt.

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I would take the wine nicely wrapped. I am a say like it is kinda gal so I would say something like “you probably have your wine and cheese pairs done so this is for later”. Wine is never a bad gift especially it seems these people like wine. You can start the conversation about how you decided to bring wine. If these are people worth getting to know you will find out with such a conversation.

I would take the wine nicely wrapped. I am a say like it is kinda gal so I would say something like “you probably have your wine and cheese pairs done so this is for later”. Wine is never a bad gift especially it seems these people like wine. You can start the conversation about how you decided to bring wine. If these are people worth getting to know you will find out with such a conversation.

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I think if someone invited me specifically for wine and cheese, I would not bring wine and/or cheese. That's what they're giving me - they said so! I think the pecans are a great idea. Perhaps some nice dried fruit, or chocolates. Anything other than their main focus.

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I think if someone invited me specifically for wine and cheese, I would not bring wine and/or cheese. That's what they're giving me - they said so! I think the pecans are a great idea. Perhaps some nice dried fruit, or chocolates. Anything other than their main focus.

Now chocolate. Why didn’t I think of that? Some good chocolate. Who could resist?

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Take wine. If they think your choice is less than "perfect", then they might not serve it which is OK, but if they are reasonably reasonable people will appreciate the thought (and drink it when no one is looking).

If not, you probably don't want to make friends there anyway!

It's a dinner invite, not a life changing exam. Relax. Five years from now you will be laughing at yourself for worrying about nothing..

Or you could just call them and say you really want to bring something, then they will demur, but insist and ask what they would like.

Etiquette is largely nonsense invented hundreds of years ago by very uptight people.