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I would tell him to leave and that he will be hearing from my lawyer. No one should put up with that. If you are not happy in your relationship leave it before you have an affair. I've been through this before and took him back too many times and vowed I would never let it happen to me again. But until you are actually in the situation it is hard to say what one would really do.

Been there....
Well it really depends. Mine cheated but wanted the divorce and nothing would change his mind. If he was willing to work it out, I would have stayed with him. I loved him and we had a family. But it would have been hard-no doubt. If you do stay, there needs to be counseling and very specific rules to try and put the relationship back in place.

I stayed. I still loved my Husband and felt my marriage was worth fighting for. It was hard, it did hurt, but in the end I am glad I stayed. We talked, went to therapy, and he commited to changing(and so did I). He is a completly diffent Man today then he was back then, and I can honestly say I trust him 110% now. The myth.."once a cheater, always a cheater" is just that...a myth. People can and do change, and trust can be rebuilt. I guess it would just deoend on whether you are willing to work to move past it, and if he is willing to change.

I would probably act like we could work it out for the first day or two. After thinking on it and realizing that it actually happened, I think I would flip my lid. I would scream, yell, maybe even throw things lol. I would first try to kick him out, if that didn't work (he's very stubborn) I would leave with my daughter. I would avoid all contact for a while just to cool down (otherwise someone might get severely pummeled). I'm not sure after that....