When my husband and I got married, we were both ethical vegans and bonded around our shared ethical convictions. Recently, he decided he’s “going back” to meat and has done so with gusto. Over the years, we had so many heartfelt discussions about why we don’t eat animals based on our belief that it’s wrong to kill animals for food and that we don’t want animals harmed for any reason. Now I feel duped, and seeing meat in our fridge hurts.

Another issue: my husband’s not working, so it’s “my” money that is being used to purchase animal products, which I find abhorrent. How can the person I love, who used to share the same beliefs as me, not see how obviously wrong his actions are?