Ten Tips to Increase Happiness and Build Confidence

During these trying and difficult times it’s been shown that it’s often necessary to reprioritize to get best outcomes. Your intuition is most often correct when it comes to your life, work and relationships. So even if it’s an inkling feeling – a tiny revelation- take a moment to recognize that and then move forward.

2. Stay within your integrity- no matter what.

No reason or person is important enough to ever stray. If you have tried this over the years, whether intentionally or not, then you know it always backfires.

3. Love and laugh!

Both are proven stress reducers. Happiness is contagious – many need more of that now while surrounded by global negativity, difficult times, chaos and immersed in “the new normal”.

4. Forgive yourself for mistakes; let go and move on.

Self-forgiveness is essential in order to forgive anyone else. Forgiveness is essential to let go of anger. Letting go of anger is essential to be happier. Especially in “the new normal” this is a no-brainer :).

5. Take time each day to relax, to dream.

We need our “down” time more than ever now, living in these difficult times. Honor your method of relaxation and allow dreams to surface. Be open to learning additional relaxation techniques and give them a try.. whatever works for you whenever you do it is OK as long as it has no negative effects on health or overlaps with personal or work responsibilities. If things are unmanageable – get help.

6. Be a great listener.

Listening is the most important part of communication. If you do not understand what is being said, ask. Listen well and your response will be more on target.

Stress takes its toll on health and may exacerbate conditions already in existence. Therefore we need to be more diligent in this realm in order to “Thrive Amidst Chaos” (the title of a workshop I co-presented with two colleagues recently).
8. Stop procrastinating and take action- move forward or drop the project.

We all procrastinate; acknowledgement of being in this mode is the firststep in moving forward. All procrastination is fear based and manifests itself through negative statements such as:

“not the right time now”
“why even bother…can happen (worst case scenario).”
Sometimes the act of “non-doing” is an indication that the idea needs to be tossed.

What holds us back from accomplishing our goals is fear.

Fear of failure

Fear of being judged

Fear of success

Fear of being controlled

These fears are often caused by deeply routed anxieties. No matter- you can turn it all around with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques: Meridian Tapping) combined with positive language-visualization reframing and Peak Performance Success Coaching and the intention to do just that!

The following are a few common phrases/excuses people use when they are procrastinating: The task is:
“too boring”
“too time consuming”
“I just don’t feel like it”
“I just don’t want to”.

The Good news is thatEFT ( The Emotional Freedom Technique) is wonderfully successful in reversing procrastination, as usually deeper emotional issues are involved. It is based on the simple statement that the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system . It involves tapping on meridian points while making statements about the issue.

Knowing that you are afraid will not magically remove fear or change behavior. You can use The EFT Technique to eradicate the roadblocks of guilt and fear that keep you from moving forward. When you use EFT and stimulate the acupressure points (see chart) the level of serotonin in the brain rises and floods the amygdalia, the section of the brain involved with controlling emotion and fear, and the fear loop is disconnected. Once the brain stops experiencing fear with the proper EFT tapping, set-up phrase (see below examples) and intuitive NLP language guidance from an experienced EFT Practitioner, which I am, you will find that your thoughts and behaviors transform effortlessly.

9. Begin each day with a short meditation positive visualizations of successful outcomes of your goals.

Oh! I am so much a believer in this! Research has shown fantastic results. It’s all up to you – and your connection to a higher power/the universe.

10. Believe in yourself and your goals; create affirmations and post them onto mirrors, in an accessible notebook and in the car.

I’ve witnessed amazing escalation in self esteem, happiness, productivity and success with the implementation of these tips for my clients.

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This is a great read and a great resource. #4 was a big one for me. At the end of the day, we have remember that we are humans and we are allowed to make mistakes. As long as you learn from those mistakes and don’t continue to repeat them, they are valuable lessons. thanks!

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