The Lost Boys – Epidemic Fatherlessness Creating Deadly Consequences

The Lost Boys – Epidemic Fatherlessness Creating Deadly Consequences

Bored, unsupervised, fatherless boys are to policemen what
“unaccounted for” uranium represents to counter-terrorism worldwide—a
threat to peace, to innocent people, and a major problem that demands
attention. Among boys all it takes to “weaponize” the plentiful supply of youthranium in our country today is a really bad idea offered
in vacuum of moral convictions. Deep within the brain of one our
nation’s fatherless at the center of the latest “boys gone evil” news
story, a spark was felt, a neuron fired, and words were expressed. “I got it!” he says. “Wouldn’t it be cool if… we killed someone?” The idea is welcomed and executed without filters or objection. This is gonna be fun.Meet the Lost Boys.
They have been on their own since they were little and have remained
on their own as boys hoping to become men. Raised by single mothers,
they have been unsupervised and un-mentored by any male figure as long
they can remember. The macabre and toxic excitement rising from this
deadly brainstorm is not just about a lazy summer, it’s about becoming
men in a cesspool of broken male culture, character, and conduct that
becomes the norm for lost boys. This broken culture produces beliefs
(about self and others) and behaviors shaped by peer angst and self
loathing instead offatherly concern and modeling.
The result: broken male culture that trains young men to act selfishly
and separate their hearts from their heads when a decision they make
impacts others negatively. It’s called alexithymia. Look it
up. The root words that form the word mean to “repel” (alexo) and “the
soul” (thumos). It is a picture of being emotionally dead.Fatherlessness is
creating these types of boys by the millions with multiplied billions
of their social interactions creating a titanic wave of injustice for
innocent people. Emotionally unaware and socially detached, these
boys cannot connect their actions with the feelings of others. This
emotional compartmentalization provides the inner freedom and sanction
necessary to kill, make others suffer, and then talk about it objectively like
the young men in this case. The police interviews with these boys are
surreal. They talk about killing a man the way a person would describe
building a roast beef sandwich. It’s on the level of “We were hungry
so we ate.”
Totally removed from all this and living with plenty of purpose was
another young man who was unaware that his time on planet earth was
drawing to a tragic and senseless close. Christopher Lane’s life was
anything but boring. He was a college athlete and leader who met a
wonderful girl living in Duncan Oklahoma. Visiting his girlfriend and
deciding to go for a jog in this small town of 24,000 was a sign of who
he was and where he was going in life—forward. Running forward by a
home filled with the lost boys was his only mistake on the day which he
could not have possibly envisioned. One saw Christopher jog by and said
the others, “There’s our target.” They proceeded to follow Lane in a
car and shot him in the back before driving off. He staggered for a
few feet and collapsed.
The same boy told police, “We were bored and didn’t have anything to do so we decided to kill somebody.” The motive? For the fun of it. Young
boys can only think like this in a vacuum of moral beliefs that is not
being supplied by the one person in society responsible for the shaping
of boys—a father. Boys who experience healthy doses of acceptance,
affirmation, authority, and accountability from a father are less likely
to develop in such a compartmentalized way emotionally. Good old time,
talk, and healthy touch from dads goes a long way to form souls of
young boys who grow into emotionally healthy men—ones able to consider
others first.Everybody gets that.
On the local level, the guys who really get it are law enforcement officers. If you don’t believe me, talk to them. They see broken families,
no fathers, lost boys, no models, no mentors, and the detached
pain-makers making news and being arrested daily. They see boys being
weaponized into heartless destroyers at multiple levels in the home and
community. If they had one wish it would be for leadership development
among dads (young and old) raising the next generation. These men and
this movement are waiting out there to be awakened. It’s the Sleeping
Giant and it must rise or else promising young men like Christopher Lane
and countless others will fall victim to the Lost Boys looking to have
some fun.