17 Common Pre-Marriage Mistakes And How To Avoid It (2)

Welcome to the second series of this article. This is a continuation of the article we started in part one. These are essential tips for you as you prepare for your wedding to ensure that you don’t make costly marriage mistakes. You may be excited about the thought of getting married soon but just don’t conclude yet till you have read these useful tips.

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4. Marrying with the assumption that true and genuine relationship should be conflict free

It is a mistake to think that in genuine relationship there will be no conflict. On the contrary, there will always be conflict every now and then but it is the way it is handled that matters. True lovers are not afraid to “fight” and or apologize. Every so often it takes a fight or two to understand just how strong a relationship is. A man and a woman in love will not afraid of conflict — or apologies. Instead, they fight fair, show respect for each other when things get rocky, pay attention to each other’s perspective, dislikes to see each other upset, and make effort to resolve things well. “Love which means never having to say sorry is a very incorrect type of love. It is fake and not real. Rather, true love entails giving up your pride and self ego and admitting that you are wrong when you are and not being afraid to say sorry.

5. Marrying an abusive partner thinking that he would change

You were not created, formed, fashioned, fabricated or destined for abuse, be it: emotionally, physically or financially. If your man is an abuser, there is no need to mule over it. He is not your real husband; leave him immediately! When a man truly loves you, he will honor and respect you. If he doesn’t, don’t delude yourself into thinking he does and don’t allow him to deceive you. The simple truth is that he does not love or care about you! Sign that he is in love with you is when he treats you with respect. When a man is in love with a woman, he respects her and cares about the details of her life. He treats her well.

6. Marrying a man who is rigid and who never shifts ground or compromises his stands

Love can soften the heart. Being right isn’t as significant as doing right to the other person. For instance, you are stubborn about a particular topic of interest which is not particularly interesting to your partner, true love would make you to shift ground and let your partner pick a flick you would otherwise not do. When such happens, you are being guided by your heart rather than your head. Selflessness is good signs of being in love. When your man does it, it definitely means he loves you. Almost every couple will have arguments. The way it is handled determines the love of your man for you.

7. Marrying a man who refused to introduce you to his family

Signs that a man is in love with you is when he is willing to let you be part of his family. If he wants you to meet everyone that is important to him and is likewise willing to meet your friends and family, then he truly love you and wants to be with you. On the contrary if a man is unwilling to let you be part of his life and as well unwilling to be part of yours, you’d better call it a quit, he is not meant for you. Your true husband would be proud to be with you and wants his family to as well love you. He would want to make things better. He would want to provide your practical and emotional needs. He would want to make you smile and make effort to comfort and reassure you.

8. Marrying a man who you have no connection with and who also doesn’t feel any connection for you

You can’t be in love with someone that you don’t have any feeling for. If you feel for your guy as much as he feels for you, it is an indication that things would go well for the both of you. If you as well generate enough heat to start out a fire alarm bell, then you both are probably meant for each other. You both would love spending time together, would look forward to seeing each other, and don’t care much about what you would be doing.

Furthermore, when you’re not together, you miss each other and wish you were spending time together. When you’re in love with each other, you would want to know everything about each other, what each of you think and what makes each of you to laugh. You would truly care for each other and each other’s feelings.

9. Getting married to a man who couldn’t show how proud he is of you in public

Your true husband would instinctively hold your hand in a crowd, or he would place his hand on your back while crossing the street. This is an involuntary action that none of you may notice. A guy that loves you would definitely want to protect you and comfort you. He clasps his hands around you or stays closer to you when you’re talking to some other guys and having fun. He would be showing the world through this that he is love with you and every other man must not interfere but should back away.

10. Marrying a man who is not interested in your happiness

A man who loves you would go as far as sacrificing his happiness to see you happy. It could be something that is very minute like selecting a restaurant for dinner or allowing you to use a fluffier pillow. It can as well be something great like doing everything possible to win the admiration and love of your friends and the members of your family. He is concerned about making a good impression before your friends and family.

11. Getting married to a man who would not easily let go of anger

Your true husband and lover can’t stay mad at you for any reason for more than a couple of hours because although he may be pretending, he is hurt by not just that few hours of not being in good term. See- Sirach 25:13:“No wound is as serious as wounded love” Couple in love can’t stay mad at each other for a long time. They would be hurt very much to allow it to linger. After a quarrel, your real man would up after to you just as much as you would make up with him. He would even occasionally swallow his pride and apologizes first even when it is not his fault in any manner.

12. Getting married to a man who would give excuses of why he couldn’t be with you or remember your special days

What you like and feel special about or desire would definitely occupy your mind. Your true husband would love spending time with you and would go out of his way of his way to be with you. And if he has any reason to cancel a date for any authentic reason, he’d do everything possible to make it up to you on the subsequent date. He would be highly interested in your life and curious to know everything about your day, he would never forget your special days, whether it is your birthday or anniversaries or a big day at work, he would even go as far as assisting you to organize and plan for any big days or events in your life. Marrying a man would doesn’t do those or have any intention of doing like that to you would be a great mistake.

Having read the second part of this article, do not leave yet, follow this link to read the last part of the article to get the full gist and avoid making costly pre-marital mistakes that most women have made.

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