Selasa, 04 Oktober 2016

9 Marks of a Christian Family

9 Marks of a Christian Family

What makes a
Christian family distinct from a non-Christian one? Is it the number of
times those in it attend church each week, or are there many more
fundamental differences? Recently, at a parenting workshop at our
church, I passed on the following outline that I had developed about
15 years ago and have taught numerous times. You may want to use it for
personal Bible study or work through it in your small group.
Many years ago, Jay Adams provided this simple definition: “A truly
Christian home is a place where sinners live; but it is also a place
where the members of that home admit the fact and understand the
problem, know what to do about it, and as a result grow by grace… The
Christian home, then, is a place where sinful persons face the problems
of a sinful world. Yet, they face them together with God and His
resources, which are all centered in Christ (Cf. Col. 2:3). Sinners live
in the Christian home, but the sinless Savior lives there too. That is
what makes the difference!” (Christian Living in the Home, pp. 11, 13).
Surveying the Scriptures, here are nine marks of a Christian family. A Christian family is…1 – A family that submits to the Bible as the final authority for all they believe and how they live.• When this is true the following convictions become reality in the home:
• The Bible is God’s Word (2 Tim. 3:14-17).
• The Bible is absolute Truth (Jn. 17:17; Prov. 30:5-6).
• The Bible is sufficient to deal with any and every soul-related
problem our family will ever experience (2 Tim. 3:17; 2 Pet. 1:3).
• The Bible is to be obeyed (Josh. 1:8).
• The Bible is our daily bread (Mt. 4:4; 1 Pet. 2:2).2 – A family that embraces and confesses Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.
• Family members are trusting, or being taught to trust, in Jesus alone for salvation (Acts 4:12; Rom. 10:9-10);
• Born again family members are encouraged to progressively grow in submission to Christ as Lord (Luke 6:46);
• Born again family members view themselves as His ambassadors (2 Cor. 5:18-20);

3 – A family that loves God above all else—even itself (Matt. 22:37-39; Jn. 14:15).4 – A family that loves its neighbors as it naturally loves itself (Mt. 22:39; Phil. 2:3). Note:
There is no need to be concerned about your child’s self-esteem; he has
more than enough already. Instead, train him to esteem Christ worthy of
obedience, and others as worthy of service.5 – A family that lives out the gospel…
• By practicing biblical confession (Ps. 51:1-4; 1 Jn 1:8-10).
• By granting forgiveness (Mt. 18:21-22; Eph. 4:32). For help, see HELP! I Can’t Forgive, HELP! My Spouse has been Unfaithful.
• By resolving conflicts biblically, even on the way to church, if necessary (Mt. 5:23-24). For help, see HELP! I’m in a Conflict and HELP! My Anger Is Out of Control.
• By reminding each other that Jesus died for our sins, and rose again to new life (1 Cor. 15:3-4; 1 Pet. 3:18).
• By dispensing grace to one another (Eph. 4:29; Col. 4:6).6 – A family whose Spirit-filled living creates an atmosphere where love and holiness grow (1 Pet. 4:8; Eph. 4:24).Note: The
verse that precedes all of the marriage, family and work-related
commands in Ephesians 5 is: “Do not get drunk with wine, for that is
dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another in
psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with
your heart to the Lord; always giving thanks for all things in the name
of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father; and be subject to one
another in the fear of Christ” (Eph. 5:18-21). To resist the order of
the Christian life presented in Ephesians 5 is to resist the Spirit of
God and his work in your family.7 – A family that keeps membership and involvement in their local church a high priority.
• The priority of corporate worship (Jn 4:23; Heb. 10:24-25).
• The priority of service [serve together as a family when it is reasonable] (MMk 10:45; Gal. 5:13).
• The priority of biblical fellowship/care (Acts 4:34-35).
• The priority of financial stewardship and hospitality (Prov. 3:9-10; Rom. 12:13). For help, see HELP! I’m Drowning in Debt.• Note: If a Christian family allows its involvement in outside activities to take priority over
faithful attendance and involvement in its local church, it is settling
for second best. This careless example will affect the generations to
come.8 – A family that understands and submits to God’s authority structures and how each member is called to serve within them.
Tedd Tripp rightly observes: “God calls His creatures to live under
authority. He is our authority and has vested authority in people within
the institutions he has established (home, church, state, business).
You must not be embarrassed to be authorities for your children. You
exercise authority as God’s agent. You may not direct your children for
your own agenda or convenience. You must direct your children in God’s
behalf for their good. Our culture tends toward the poles on a
continuum. In authority, we tend toward a crass kind of John Wayne
authoritarianism or toward being a wimp. God calls you by his Word and
His example to be authorities who are truly kind. God calls you to
exercise authority, not in making your children do what you want, but in
being true servants—authorities that lay down your lives. The purpose
for your authority in the lives of your children is not to hold them
under your power, but to empower them to self-controlled people living
freely under the authority of God. (Shepherding a Child’s Heart, p. 13, 14)”

Submission to God’s authority is demonstrated by:
• A husband who cheerfully accepts his God-given role as the chief
servant and head of household who loves and leads his wife (Eph.
5:25-29); Col. 3:19).
• A father who nurtures and disciplines his children (Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21).
• A wife who cheerfully accepts her God-given role as submissive
helper, and who respects, honors and follows her husband’s leadership
(Eph. 5:22-24; Col. 3:18).
• A mother who nurtures and disciplines her children (Titus 2:3-5).
• Parents who desire to please God more than be accepted by their children (1 Sam. 2:27-30).
• Children who honor and obey their parents (Eph. 6:1; Col. 3:20). For help see HELP! My Toddler Rules the House and HELP! My Teen Is Rebellious.
• Citizens who obey civil government (Rom. 13:1; 1 Pet. 2:13-15).
• Church members who honor and obey their shepherds (Heb. 13:17).
• Employees who work diligently and obey their employers (Eph. 6:5-8; Col. 3:22-24).9 – A family that fears the Lord and is, therefore, blessed by Him (Ps. 128:1-4).
[Note: The audio files from the seminar “Engaging the Hearts of Our Kids” are available here.]