Wedding help! - Think Atheist2016-12-09T17:31:38Zhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/forum/topics/wedding-help?feed=yes&xn_auth=no^ This. So this.tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-02:1982180:Comment:9534132011-12-02T11:40:04.048ZEoganachthttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/Peter669
<p>^ This. So this.</p>
<p>^ This. So this.</p> Yes, the irony is great. :) O…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-02:1982180:Comment:9528262011-12-02T00:51:09.944ZJameshttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/1989LX
<p>Yes, the irony is great. :) Of course, my wife's mom is still telling herself that she's just going through a phase... *roll eyes* And technically, teh Catholic church couldn't marry us even if our families tried to force (which they didn't), since I officially defected from the Catholic church. But you are right, that would have been a hilarious conversation. :)</p>
<p>Yes, the irony is great. :) Of course, my wife's mom is still telling herself that she's just going through a phase... *roll eyes* And technically, teh Catholic church couldn't marry us even if our families tried to force (which they didn't), since I officially defected from the Catholic church. But you are right, that would have been a hilarious conversation. :)</p> Holland mentioned it already.…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9526352011-12-01T15:40:39.376ZReg The Fronkey Farmerhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/RegPerry
<p>Holland mentioned it already. Elope to Paris for a few days, get married in a civil service, return and throw a party for all who wish to attend. Then you have a great story to tell and a great memory to look back on.Congrats.</p>
<p>Holland mentioned it already. Elope to Paris for a few days, get married in a civil service, return and throw a party for all who wish to attend. Then you have a great story to tell and a great memory to look back on.Congrats.</p> Thank you! And you as well!tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9526232011-12-01T15:11:00.803ZSarah Casinghttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/SarahCasing
<p>Thank you! And you as well!</p>
<p>Thank you! And you as well!</p> probably i'll have your same…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9525352011-12-01T14:49:50.247ZCecihttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/Cecily
<p>probably i'll have your same issue because, although my parents know about my atheism, my other relatives don't, and i think it's going to be a serious problem especially with my grandma and her sister, my aunt, who are profoundly religious (my family is catholic too).</p>
<p>nevertheless i decided with my fiancee (he is an atheist too) that we will marry the way we like it, without any exterior influence, because we cannot squander the best day of our life together to go along with someone…</p>
<p>probably i'll have your same issue because, although my parents know about my atheism, my other relatives don't, and i think it's going to be a serious problem especially with my grandma and her sister, my aunt, who are profoundly religious (my family is catholic too).</p>
<p>nevertheless i decided with my fiancee (he is an atheist too) that we will marry the way we like it, without any exterior influence, because we cannot squander the best day of our life together to go along with someone else's will that is so far away from ours.</p>
<p>anyway... good luck for your marriage! my best wishes :)</p> Is this about them or is it a…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9525942011-12-01T12:02:39.093ZGabriela Menicuccihttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/Gabriela
<p>Is this about them or is it about you and your husband-to-be?.. Just wondering..</p>
<p>Is this about them or is it about you and your husband-to-be?.. Just wondering..</p> Erm let them talk &amp; grumb…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9517292011-12-01T02:59:10.153ZAkshay Bisthttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/AkshayBist
<p>Erm let them talk &amp; grumble.</p>
<p>Lets say you decide to spare their feelings &amp; have a religious ceremony, do you continue to bend to accommodate their beliefs. Will you do that after you've had kids? I'm sure that the same relatives would also want to see your kids baptized &amp; learning about religion &amp; god, going to church. I think it would be better to put your foot down now &amp; have your nonreligious ceremony.</p>
<p>Erm let them talk &amp; grumble.</p>
<p>Lets say you decide to spare their feelings &amp; have a religious ceremony, do you continue to bend to accommodate their beliefs. Will you do that after you've had kids? I'm sure that the same relatives would also want to see your kids baptized &amp; learning about religion &amp; god, going to church. I think it would be better to put your foot down now &amp; have your nonreligious ceremony.</p> This actually shouldn't be mu…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9514742011-12-01T01:53:22.503ZJameshttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/1989LX
<p>This actually shouldn't be much of a problem at all. My wife and I are both from Catholic families. I am an Atheist, and she is Wiccan. My parents and brother only know of my Atheism and the situation is identical for my wife. We also decided to do a non-religious wedding. We rented a place, hired an officiant who would do a secular ceremony for us, we designed the ceremony ourselves, wrote our own vows, and just made it very personal and meaningful to us. It was still a very beautiful…</p>
<p>This actually shouldn't be much of a problem at all. My wife and I are both from Catholic families. I am an Atheist, and she is Wiccan. My parents and brother only know of my Atheism and the situation is identical for my wife. We also decided to do a non-religious wedding. We rented a place, hired an officiant who would do a secular ceremony for us, we designed the ceremony ourselves, wrote our own vows, and just made it very personal and meaningful to us. It was still a very beautiful ceremony, and I don't think that anyone really noticed that the wedding was god-free. Unless you have a devout family that is looking for a fight, it should be fine. Heck, I even poetically mentioned astronomy and biology in my vows and no one batted an eye. Keep it true to you, still keep it beautiful and meaningful, and the family will still shed a happy tear for you.</p>
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<p>Good luck and congratulations! Also, I can share more about our wedding if you need any ideas.</p> I f they question her choice…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9515432011-12-01T01:42:44.797ZBryan Bhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/BryanB
<p>I f they question her choice than they don't care about her and shouldn't be at the wedding. No one questioned my secular wedding. We had all had a great time.</p>
<p>I f they question her choice than they don't care about her and shouldn't be at the wedding. No one questioned my secular wedding. We had all had a great time.</p> Yep, your wedding your way.
M…tag:www.thinkatheist.com,2011-12-01:1982180:Comment:9514562011-12-01T00:11:13.348ZRalph Dayhttp://www.thinkatheist.com/profile/RalphDay
<p>Yep, your wedding your way.</p>
<p>My daughter is planning her wedding for next year. Number one thing on the to do list is for the dj to keep the microphone away from the churchy relatives of the groom (no grace, no prayers, no speeches). </p>
<p>If there's blowback from any relatives just say: "your wedding your way, our wedding our way" and of course smile, smile smile.</p>
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<p>Ralph</p>
<p>Yep, your wedding your way.</p>
<p>My daughter is planning her wedding for next year. Number one thing on the to do list is for the dj to keep the microphone away from the churchy relatives of the groom (no grace, no prayers, no speeches). </p>
<p>If there's blowback from any relatives just say: "your wedding your way, our wedding our way" and of course smile, smile smile.</p>
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<p>Ralph</p>