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Marriage? I'll pass thanks!

So after all this horrible gut wrenching time I have been through with getting over my divorce, I seriously made a decision and I plan on sticking through with it...I do NOT ever want to get married again.

I say this because I really did not want to get married to begin with, and now I am getting divorced, something I REALLY did not ever want to do, which makes it even worse.

Don't get me wrong, I did not get talked into it, I did make a well thought out decision to get married, and I did love him and was happy to be his wife, despite the shitty stuff that happened in the relationship over the years. BUT I was happy living with him, and I really did not want to get into that tangled web of having to have a perfect wedding etc.

Anyhow, does anybody else have this feeling, or do they plan on immediately hooking up with someone and remarrying, or maybe someday not in the future? I ask this because my boyfriend and I thankfully are on the same page and do not plan on EVER getting married again. I have the "been there, done that" feeling, but then where do I go from there?

My other question is, if you decide not to get married again, then if you will be in search of (or have already found) someone for you, will you live together? Stay apart? And how do you plan on making it "special" if both of you have already been married, and don't wanna do it again, BUT want your relationship to be a committed, serious relationship that will hopefully last forever. Also, do you think you will hurt more or less if the relationship crumbles because you decided to not get married?

I'm not going to turn my nose up at marriage again. When two people truly commit it is the closest thing to God's love. I will however not settle for anything or anyone unless i feel sure that i've gotten under the layers to see the real person. But I'm not going to let one bad experience turn me into a bitter woman. I don't believe in living with a man I am not married to, so that will certainly narrow the playing field! :) oh well, it's in God's hands!

I don't plan on &quot;hooking up&quot; with anyone any time soon, but I hope to make friends. I like to have men in my life.
I don't know yet how I'll handle my next &quot;serious&quot; relationship. I'll figure it out when I get there. I'll definitely will be more caustious though. Will I marry again? I don't know yet. I hope there is someone special out there for me. I'd hate to think I'm going to spend the rest of my life alone.

Also in a pending divorce and still trying to clear up the mess. First thing that I know I will do and put me and my son life first in everything and have fun.

I don't think I want to date anyone for a while or at least not anything serious at this time. I really don't want my son meeting just any man that I am dating. That will limit any major dating since I have him 95% of the time.

I don't think I want to move in with anyone or marriage in the near future. I ok with my life right now and If I meet someone I want to take it really slow.

I like to live on my own for a while and not have to worry about taking care of anyone other than myself and son.

I am certainly not looking to get married again. I feel no burning need to be married. I am self-sufficient and can take care of both myself and my daughter. However, I do like having someone special in my life. But whether that could mean marriage or not in the future, I am not sure. I think I will just play things as they unfold, no set expectations.

I have just recently come to the same thoughts. To me it is not worth going through 2 years of full recovery for any marriage. I can remember some great times and all the love during the marriage, but to me it's not worth the trade off. It;s not that I dont ever want to love again, someday it will happen. Just never marriage.

I can't imagine getting married again. Twenty-five years of a dysfunctional relationship was enough for me, and I don't know if I am even capable of a &quot;normal&quot; relationship at this point in my life! So I am not looking for this.
That being said, I miss being part of a couple. In a way, I feel like I am limping all the time. So if it should happen to find me, I would not necessarily turn away.

I think marriage provides a false sense of security. Commitment comes from the heart not a piece of paper. I do understand the position of those with religious teachings on marriage and if I became involved with someone that held beliefs that were important to them I would consider marriage for that reason. But then, I think that they would be better suited to someone that viewed marriage in the same way because this might cast doubt and doubt creates insecurity. I just know myself, a commitment is my word of honor and that I value highly.

I had that commitment once and see where that got me? I think it comes more from actions rather than a piece of paper. And marriage vows are just words - unless they are kept and nurtured. I would rather have a person who SHOWED me they loved me and were committed to me than a piece of paper that grows old and yellows with time!

I have thought about this the past 6 months.. since feeling ready to start dating again. I think someday I would love to be married again.. and hopefully next time I will make a better choice of husband. I refuse to live with someone while my kids are the ages they are at unless I am married to him.

I think each relationship is special in its own way. Each marriage can be special in its own way as well. Does it really matter if you or your loved one has been married before?? Arent you each others special someone now?

For me, it's a gut feeling to know that I want to spend my life with someone... and I want to spend that life with them married. I made my commitment... I wanted to live out those commitments. He wants something else... why? I don't know.

I would just like to add, that I have been divorced for 15 years. Decided that I never wanted to remarry! Just a word of warning! It is not the piece of paper that hurts so much when a relationship ends.. it is the actual ending of the relationship itself! So, please do not say no to the marriage itself. And if you live together the break-up really is just like a divorce with the division of all assests and all the other crap!
Just a thought!
Good luck and lots of hugs for you!

I, for one, do want to get married again. I want to share my life with someone. When I do get married again I want to make sure that they are as committed to the marriage as I am. I want to find someone that is happy and likes themselve and is not looking for someone to 'complete them'. To me, marriage is important ... my old fashioned values showing through again :)

I don''t know I love being married-I love be a good loving wife-I just chose a man who was not receptive to my idea of marriage.It is just scary because divorce is so ugly and expensive-I think i will have to settle for comapanionship until my daughter graduates-I would never disrupt the home I have finally provided for her.

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...

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