Can someone help me here. Why is it that people post profile's on here. But there still hung up on there ex's and that's all they want to talk about?
I thought you where here to meet someone new and start over and get a life?
I'm confused is this a cheese and wine contest or a dateing site?

Can someone help me here. Why is it that people post profile's on here. But there still hung up on there ex's and that's all they want to talk about? I thought you where here to meet someone new and start over and get a life? I'm confused is this a cheese and wine contest or a dateing site?

HeyFoxy, We're not All the Same. Not a Paying Member HERE, But Still Hoping to Come Across Ya IN PERSON, Some Day;-) Happy Valentine's Day, LOOK CLOSER AT YOUR COMMENTS POSTED! (then mayby u can E-MAIL ME someday;-) Take Care, Dave

HeyFoxy, We're not All the Same. Not a Paying Member HERE, But Still Hoping to Come Across Ya IN PERSON, Some Day;-) Happy Valentine's Day, LOOK CLOSER AT YOUR COMMENTS POSTED! (then mayby u can E-MAIL ME someday;-) Take Care, Dave

I suppose that in order for people to help you know where they are it helps if you know where they have come from and what has formed them and most girls talk about relationships. Hoping to not make the same mistakes again and maybe learnign from each other as to how not to.
Don't think we have got there yet, unless it means switching youselves of and going by some formular in a book.
Reading a few books recently that purport that men are completely pigignorant, insensistive bastards who are not interested in any part of our lives, careers, homes and families except that part of our lives which are between knees.
OK - I kind of got that part already.
Then purported to instruct me that the only way I could get an Insensitive, Pigignorant Bstd into my life and keep him there was to totally switch off every womanly instinct and virture such as caring. loving and wanting a relationship with someone who thinks me worthwhile and can keep his attention span for more than three minutes and become a hard core moron with attitude, nuematic tits and cultivate anorexia but never an opinion. And after that never to expect the man to be ever interested in you unless you provide tassles on in ways you'd rather not provide.
OK. and what is the selling point. I am kinda missing it??? I'll keep my values of what makes a good relationship, home and family and if you guys don't like it you know who can leave by the door.
Communication - Its a Girl Thing. Especially if it is about men and past relationships.
JunieXXX

I suppose that in order for people to help you know where they are it helps if you know where they have come from and what has formed them and most girls talk about relationships. Hoping to not make the same mistakes again and maybe learnign from each other as to how not to. Don't think we have got there yet, unless it means switching youselves of and going by some formular in a book. Reading a few books recently that purport that men are completely pigignorant, insensistive bastards who are not interested in any part of our lives, careers, homes and families except that part of our lives which are between knees. OK - I kind of got that part already. Then purported to instruct me that the only way I could get an Insensitive, Pigignorant Bstd into my life and keep him there was to totally switch off every womanly instinct and virture such as caring. loving and wanting a relationship with someone who thinks me worthwhile and can keep his attention span for more than three minutes and become a hard core moron with attitude, nuematic tits and cultivate anorexia but never an opinion. And after that never to expect the man to be ever interested in you unless you provide tassles on in ways you'd rather not provide. OK. and what is the selling point. I am kinda missing it??? I'll keep my values of what makes a good relationship, home and family and if you guys don't like it you know who can leave by the door. Communication - Its a Girl Thing. Especially if it is about men and past relationships. JunieXXX

I must be good listener...lol
I always hear about the x but It's all good if I can help someone through a rough time I will..
I too have things from the past I don't want to repeat so I talk about it with my new partner so we can avoid going there ...lol

I must be good listener...lol I always hear about the x but It's all good if I can help someone through a rough time I will.. I too have things from the past I don't want to repeat so I talk about it with my new partner so we can avoid going there ...lol

Foxy,
You might want to see a different point of view. They might be trusting you as someone they can talk to about their pain from the former relationship. Men do not have as many outlets as women to discuss these kinda things, after all, we're supposed to grin and bear it. 2 of my friends were recently dumped by their wives after long relationships. They were embarrassed to talk about it with me as they thought they'd somehow failed as men, until I convinced them with alcohol to release the cruddy details. I told them I didnt care but that if they wanted another woman, they best get the hurtin out asap and get on with it. 1 of them was over it quick...the other cost me several bottles of Jack before he was over it. He just couldnt believe he was dumpable....
Either way...its no fun to hear all of this. In your case, it depends on whether you want to go through listening to all this for a while. Maybe just tell the guy what you're feeling and he can go unload someplace else.
Cheers

Foxy, You might want to see a different point of view. They might be trusting you as someone they can talk to about their pain from the former relationship. Men do not have as many outlets as women to discuss these kinda things, after all, we're supposed to grin and bear it. 2 of my friends were recently dumped by their wives after long relationships. They were embarrassed to talk about it with me as they thought they'd somehow failed as men, until I convinced them with alcohol to release the cruddy details. I told them I didnt care but that if they wanted another woman, they best get the hurtin out asap and get on with it. 1 of them was over it quick...the other cost me several bottles of Jack before he was over it. He just couldnt believe he was dumpable.... Either way...its no fun to hear all of this. In your case, it depends on whether you want to go through listening to all this for a while. Maybe just tell the guy what you're feeling and he can go unload someplace else. Cheers

knew i was abnormal, 23 years i never cheated now here is the wierd thing, we're still friendly. i gotta say not lookin' for another like her.
thing is, after spending that much of your life with someone X stories will come up. if however it's a common, every time you talk kind of thing... problem.
is bringing up the X in any form a no no? what's the rules girls? don't want to be one those guys. help out.

knew i was abnormal, 23 years i never cheated now here is the wierd thing, we're still friendly. i gotta say not lookin' for another like her. thing is, after spending that much of your life with someone X stories will come up. if however it's a common, every time you talk kind of thing... problem. is bringing up the X in any form a no no? what's the rules girls? don't want to be one those guys. help out.

What I dont understand ((one of many)) is what these women come up with about thier soul mate , what is that all about?? and it seems they expect the poor guy to be like that from the get go !!!!! ((((I want it now ))))!!!
hell all that s--t takes time!!
it is like my ole shovel head, I have put more time into it and worked on it on the side of the road at midnight , and would not leave it ,built it in my liveing room, she ant real pretty but she is mine, I think more of my shovel than I would a new Road King, that is my point ladies.
no one wants to invest time and work into a relationship,hell if it was easy every one would be married and you would not need BK!
it is a lot easier to get a divorce than it is to have a relationship.
so LADIE'S get off of our ass's
as for as my ex ole lady I am way over that,
one of the reason's for our divorce was that I never paid any attention to her , hell I for got what the other ones were ((LOL))
buckethead!!!!!

What I dont understand ((one of many)) is what these women come up with about thier soul mate , what is that all about?? and it seems they expect the poor guy to be like that from the get go !!!!! ((((I want it now ))))!!! hell all that s--t takes time!! it is like my ole shovel head, I have put more time into it and worked on it on the side of the road at midnight , and would not leave it ,built it in my liveing room, she ant real pretty but she is mine, I think more of my shovel than I would a new Road King, that is my point ladies. no one wants to invest time and work into a relationship,hell if it was easy every one would be married and you would not need BK! it is a lot easier to get a divorce than it is to have a relationship. so LADIE'S get off of our ass's as for as my ex ole lady I am way over that, one of the reason's for our divorce was that I never paid any attention to her , hell I for got what the other ones were ((LOL)) buckethead!!!!!

TTT-
Not all men did the "BETRAYAL" thing as you said. NOT ALL GUYS ARE A$$HOLES HERE, SOME HAVE INTEGRITY, AND HONESTY, AND SUCH.
But I also don't get it when a person is blamed for an ex's short comings either. Its in the past and thats where it belongs.
bdwolf77

TTT- Not all men did the "BETRAYAL" thing as you said. NOT ALL GUYS ARE A$$HOLES HERE, SOME HAVE INTEGRITY, AND HONESTY, AND SUCH. But I also don't get it when a person is blamed for an ex's short comings either. Its in the past and thats where it belongs. bdwolf77

Thank you for your comments I totally agree with you. They want a relationship a long-term marriage or whatever....I'm the best that has ever been in their lives and yet......well I just don't know....whatever....grow up figure out what you want. When the right woman comes along fall in love with her and don't run like a scared little boy. Oh and don't get depressed and withdraw from the person either. That's just no guts. Pull your head out and realize you need help and get your head on straight.

Thank you for your comments I totally agree with you. They want a relationship a long-term marriage or whatever....I'm the best that has ever been in their lives and yet......well I just don't know....whatever....grow up figure out what you want. When the right woman comes along fall in love with her and don't run like a scared little boy. Oh and don't get depressed and withdraw from the person either. That's just no guts. Pull your head out and realize you need help and get your head on straight.

Amen to your comments. Here they claim to be looking for the wonderful miss right........long walks in the park, candlelight dinner, or whatever....you do all that and are kind and try to make their life wonderful........but all they can do is live in the freaking past......get over it they treated you like garbage I don't ........ but yet they would rather get back with that slut then be with someone that would never do anything like that to them. I don't get it either.

Amen to your comments. Here they claim to be looking for the wonderful miss right........long walks in the park, candlelight dinner, or whatever....you do all that and are kind and try to make their life wonderful........but all they can do is live in the freaking past......get over it they treated you like garbage I don't ........ but yet they would rather get back with that slut then be with someone that would never do anything like that to them. I don't get it either.

Hello Foxypebbles !!!
I am here to tell you and every one else that I AM NOT HUNG UP ON MY EX !!!!!!!!!!
I hope that I never see that S-- of a B---h again as long as I live (((LOL)))
well put up or shut up !!!!!!!
no cheese and wine here (sugar britches)
buckethead

Hello Foxypebbles !!! I am here to tell you and every one else that I AM NOT HUNG UP ON MY EX !!!!!!!!!! I hope that I never see that S-- of a B---h again as long as I live (((LOL))) well put up or shut up !!!!!!! no cheese and wine here (sugar britches) buckethead