Pulham Family

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

When Haylee was 18 months old we found out we were pregnant with our second child. We were so excited and ready to expand our family. Yes I was one of the girls that is a statistic in a few ways 1) I was a teen mom so apparently you get to be judged for that 2) I was one that had another baby within 2 yrs. I had our second child one month before my 19th birthday. It was once again a beautiful little girl, we named her Jentry and she is just like me. She looks like me when I was little, she acts like me, (some days it drives me crazy).
Within this time Bowdy and I had our issues but hey who doesn't right!! but we were able to get through them. Bowdy got a new job so things were a little easier, the insurance was better (huge plus), and they pay was about the same as his other job but we did pretty good.
By the time Jentry was 8 months old we found out once again we were going to be expecting a new addition to our family we were excited once again and a little nervous, because are 2nd and 3rd child would only be 17 months difference in age and I wasn't sure I was up for that challenge, but I thought it would be fun for them cause they would be so close in age that they would hopefully be good friends(I hope that all my kids will be), but being so close they could share clothes, shoes, ect and go to school together for the most part. Little did we know what we were going to have to do with this little one.August of 2008 we had MaKenna, yes another little girl!! she is a little red-headed spit fire. While we were in the hospital it was a little crazy we had a lot if visitors that came to see her, so she stayed wrapped in a blanket for the most part, and we got to go home the next morning(I hate hospitals). Two days after we were home my sister in-law had asked me if I had noticed her right leg, well of course I had when we were getting her dressed to go home from the hospital. She said "Ash is that normal for her leg to be like that", I told here that I didn't think so and that I would get her looked at by our pediatrician (that I love, he is amazing). At her 2 week apt he had asked when he came in at the very first if I had any questions about anything and I showed him her leg and his jaw about dropped to the ground. We did her check up and then he sent us down to do x-rays this is what we seen when they came back!!

He told us to make an apt. up at Primary Children's and see what they could do for her. Well I called and how else do you explain this other then she has a fairly sever bow in her leg. Well that's what I told them and they said "Well they normally grow out of a bowed leg" I tried to explain but they wouldn't give me an apt. I had to have our pediatrician call and make the apt. for me. I was a pretty frustrated with that whole experience.
By the time she was 6 weeks old we had gone up and found out that she has what is called
Pseudarthrosis. Her doctor that we saw up there said her best chance of anything would be to let her go as long as she could with it they way that is was, because he would like her to be closer if not older than 1 before we had to do any surgery. We had to schulde another apt for a couple months out to see how she was doing and we were on our way. Within the next couple weeks we ended up moving to Pleasant Grove, which I hated to move back to where I grew up, but we had know where else to go so we did, it was closer to Bowdy's work so we saved some gas money but that was I think the only good part about it.
Through out the course of the next 9 or 10 months she learned to do things differently, she never crawled, she scooted on her but, and she never walked. She was always happy and was such a good baby. At 9 months we found out that she had broken both of the bones and that she would have to have surgery. He went over what surgery he thinks would be right, that was to put a rod down her leg and hope that the bone would heal over it with time. Then he went on and told us what else our choices are if this one didn't work we had choice 1) Do another surgery that would take a synthetic hormone and inject it into her bone and see if that would help it grow. But the side effects for girls is that it had a slim chance of her possible not being able to have kids when she was older 2) Amputate.
Well we did the first surgery and she was a trooper she was in a "full body cast" for 6 weeks

it was hard she was still in diapers and this cast made everything much harder! after 6 weeks she was in a full leg cast for 12 weeks and by that time they had hoped to see some improvement of her bone healing.
We were able to move out of my dads house into our own, and that was heaven sent because my relationship was not so good with my dad. I didn't agree with some of the things he was choosing in his life nor do I still agree but hey it's not my place to decide.
After we got moved in to our new house in Payson, we found out that we were expecting our 4th baby, and this time we were praying that it wasn't another little girl the 3 I had was enough. We also were able to get MaKenna into Kids Who Count and they were amazing. She had therapy I think every other week and we just loved our Therapist she was awesome. We tried to get MaKenna to put weight on her leg but she never would, she would just cry, so her therapist decided that maybe we should try pool therapy and see if she would do good with that. Well to no avail it didn't help either. It had been almost a year and she had no bone progress and so we had to look at our other options that was laid out in front of us. Well way back at the beginning of our journey with her when we were given the different ones I had already made up my mind if this one didn't work. I knew I wasn't going to be responsible for her maybe never having any children of her own so our only other choice was to amputate. Bowdy was not on board with me at first but soon came to realize that he didn't want to be the one responsible for that decision either. So are only choice was to amputate.
We told our families what we had decided and not everyone thought it was best and questioned weather it was right (i.e my dad) but what did anyone know when it comes to what my child needed best then me.
November 2010 MaKenna had a symes amputation done and that was the BEST decision we ever made.

She got her first prosthetic in January when I brought her home she stood up all by herself for the first time, remind you she was over 2 yrs old and never stood or walked. I was so happy not only is she standing up but we had also just had our little BOY 1 week prior to this event.
We continued her physical therapy and she was finally learning how to walk, and doing so good.
We know go about every 3-6 months for new prothetics and she gets to pick out what she wants on them. This is her newest one.

Well that is all the time I have to blog today so MORE to come soon......

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Ok so I'm no writer or anything so don't judge if I don't do this all punctual.
I was looking on my facebook and seen a post about how teen mom Farrah had waxed her little girls eyebrows. It got me thinking that I should blog about my experiences of being a teen mom and the fact that if you put your head and heart into something you can achieve it even if you are a TEEN MOM and if you have people telling you that you can't do anything. And that there are people out there that do have families and can make it work if you're BOTH willing to do the work!
Being a teen mom is not easy and should not be made out to be, but if you are having sex then you are playing with fire. However just because you become/became a teen mom doesn't mean that you have to give up on your dreams that you had, it just becomes harder and takes more time!

So to begin I will start with a run through of my life up to this point I may brake it down into different post depending on how much time I have to do this. So here it goes!!

Here is a brief history of me before I became a mom.
My parents got divorced when I was 9, my dad had custody of me, my brother, and my sister. My dad did the best he could with what he knew of girls it wasn't always easy living without a mother in the home, but we made do. I had a really close relationship with my dad and we would stay up some nights talking forever.
Fast forward a few years and getting into how I became a mom!! When I was 14 I was going out a lot with my sister and cousin doing things that were ok for them to be doing. (but looking at it now I would KILL my children for doing what I did) We would go out on Friday and Saturday nights and cruise main street and that was every weekend almost. Monday nights we would go to buckouts and watch some people ride bulls, all the while I was boy crazy and loved the attention that I got.
We did some wild things that if we would have met the wrong person we would most likely be dead and that's no joke. One time we meet a few guys and they asked us to come hangout and we ended u on a dark deserted road that we had no idea where we were or how to get out of. Luckily they were really nice guys and not killers or anything. :)

The summer before my Junior year is when I met my know husband of 8 years in March. He was a pretty big into partying back in the day but it was only on weekends and he had invited me, my sister and my cousin up to where they were camping, we went up a couple of different times and then would head home later in the night.
On my 16th birthday my now husband asked me to be his girlfriend and of course I said yes, I spent a lot of time with him and we did a lot of stuff together, more than the normal 16 yr old would do. I had the trust of my dad and everyone else, they thought I was to much of a good kid to get into any trouble. I had big dreams that I wanted to accomplish after high school I planned to go to college get my nursing degree and become a neo-natel nurse in the NICU.

The week before my Junior year of high school I found out that I was pregnant. I was barely 16 I was terrified to tell my dad but did. We made plans to get married but wasn't sure when. I stayed in school through my whole pregnancy and when I finally started to show I think my classmates were pretty shocked cause I really wasn't one that came of as "that kind of person". I officially dropped out in March only because I was due the first part of May and knew that I wasn't going to be able to finish out the school year and pass that last semester. But made plans to finish my Senior year on time.

When the rest of my family found out that I was pregnant I had a lot of people saying that I wasn't going to finish high school just like my other siblings, saying a lot of negative things about me, like they thought I wasn't going to find out what they said. But for me it was more motivation to do everything they said I couldn't do and in my words SHOVE it in there face that I did do it and you dont get to decide what I can and can't do.
When his family found out they took it pretty good, it has been stressful through the years because I think from the get go his mom and sister have not exactly liked me and the fact that I was so young, and he was 23, we have had our differances many times and I donk't always agree with things they do or say but such as life! right!

We talked about when we wanted to get married and we had decided on doing it in June. When we told his mom I think she had a come apart and said that we needed to do it before our little girl was born, so we ended up getting married on March 26,2005. It was 23 days before I was 17 and then on May 14,2005 we welcomed our beautiful baby girl into the world.

That's when life really became real and I wasn't just a 17 yr old girl that was free and wild, I had a ton more responsibility then I was use to (although growing up I pretty much raised my self for the most part, so I knew that I could do it and be fine). Life wasn't always perfect we had our things that we argue about but we never yelled at each other I honestly don't remember even really raising my voice or him raising his voice with me. For the first couple years he took his families side on a lot of things we were still getting used to each other and what it meant to be our own little family.

I'm back peddling for a second. In May I found a school that used to be in Spanish Fork, Utah but is now in Springville, Utah called young parents, I went there talked to the principle and loved the school. I could take my little girl with me the had a daycare and you would do all your classes that you still needed as well as having one period that you helped in they day care. They would come get you out of class if you were nursing and they needed to eat and it was just perfect fit for me I was so excited.
So August came and me and my little girl that we named Haylee went to school. I was able to get all of my classes done by January and be done with school. I could walk with them when graduation came or I could just get my diploma. Well me being me I had something to prove to a whole lot of people and wanted to make the statement of "I told you so", so I decided to wait and walk with everyone in the graduating class of 2006.
All of my pictures from when I graduated have my little Haylee bug in them and she had just turned 1, and I couldn't have been happier with my life!!

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Well its offical we are moving to Mona, we can move in as of July 18th. We signed papers for the house last night and we are pretty excited its not a new house but its bigger and it will fit our family much better. It still needs some updating but for the most part they have redone a lot of it.
We are excited and cant wait to get down were it is quite and hopefully the kids will be able to find some good friends.
The house has 4 bedrooms with a possable 5th and two bathrooms, and a nice big kitchen, also it has a woodburing stove. I will post pictures when we move in a couple of weeks.

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

We have had a lot of stuff going on this last little while, and it has been forever that I got on and did an update. So Jenty is now 5 and just graduated pre-school and will be in kindergarden next year. Haylee turned 7 in May and got to go to the zoo with her class and she had a blast, she will be going into the 2nd grade (it is crazy how fast time goes) I'm not sure I'm ready to have a 2nd grader and she has just started playing softball this year as well and so far she loves it. MaKenna graduated her 1st year of per-school and will be going back for one more year. We have been riding horses a lot and trying to get the girls going so maybe they can do some buckaroos but we will see. Here is a few pictures of whats been going on.

Monday, January 23, 2012

It was a sad but happy day I wont have anymore babies to have their first birthdays, but on the good side that only means I am that much closer to have all my kids potty trained and I can't wait for that day to come. We had a little party for Cash and he got lots of presants and his own cake that he loved, thanks everyone that came.

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

This year for christmas was fun on the 23rd we went to my dads and did our party with him we had dinner are usuall swedish meatballs, and then opened presants up there. I didn't get any pics up there because I forgot the camera.

We went to my moms house on the 24th and had a party up there, had cornish hens and filet mignon roast it was dilicious, then opened presants and had a blast

He loved these thought they were funny

Jess and his new wife Shaylie (love her)

Kids Christmas P'J's

Santa was too nice this year

MaKenna's Presants

Haylee's Preasants

Jentry's Presants

Cash's Presants

Christmas at the Pulham's was fun, we went for breakfast, we had sausage rolls and eggs. then we waited for Mark and Heidi to get there and then we opened presants. Then hung out all day long. The kids got spolied