And for a disciple thus freed, in whose heart dwells peace, there isnothing to be added to what has been done, and naught more remains forhim to do. Just as a rock of one solid mass remains unshaken by thewind, even so, neither forms, nor sounds, nor odors, nor tastes, norcontacts of any kind, neither the desired, nor the undesired, cancause such an one to waver. Steadfast is his mind, gained isdeliverance.

Buddha (563 - 483 BC)

Source: 'THE ARAHAT, OR HOLY ONE' in The Gospel of Buddha: Compiled from Ancient Records by Paul Carus [1909]

In the first place you can't see anything from a car; you've got to get out of the goddamned contraption and walk, better yet crawl, on hands and knees, over the sandstone and through the thornbush and cactus. When traces of blood begin to mark your trail you'll begin to see something, maybe. Probably not.

"What we now want is closer contact and better understanding between individuals and communities all over the earth... and the elimination of egoism and pride which is always prone to plunge the world into primeval barbarism and strife."

Mentally define what you are trying to achieve with the people you are interacting with on a daily basis and then develop a routine that allows you to maximize useful contact and minimize unnecessary contact.