Sunday, May 31, 2015

Creepy Behavior? Or Sexual Predation?

It appears that the power of the sex drive is so strong that it can
overwhelm all manner of restraint and common sense in people that ought to know
better. People with reputations who command a lot of respect. People who have worked
hard to achieve the kinds of things that garner them that respect. Nevertheless
the fall prey to their own desires and throw caution to the wind. And take chances in order to satisfy
their cravings.

One of the most famous examples of that is former President Bill Clinton. This is a man that could not resist the advances of a young woman and
had a few sexual encounters with her in the oval office. Then there were accusations
of even worse behavior when he was the governor of Arkansas. Behavior that might even be
called rape. The victim that made those accusations
passed lie detector tests.

That didn’t seem to tarnish President Clinton’s reputation. To
many people he is a beloved figure. And he is given great honor wherever he
goes. Sometimes to the tune of great
sums of money for speaking engagements. Bloomberg reports: “The
Washington Post found that Bill Clinton made $104.9 million in speaking
fees between January 2001 and January 2013…”

I don’t hear anything more about his sordid
past. Now it’s all about his great humanitarian efforts.

There seems to be a never ending stream of public figures getting
caught in various kinds of sexual misconduct. Just last Thursday, the media reported about former Speaker of
the House Dennis Hastert. He was discovered to be paying off an individual with
whom he had inappropriate sexual conduct during his time as a high school teacher
and athletic coach in downstate Illinois. Paying him in excess of a million dollars over time in a
steady stream of smaller denominations.

Then there was Jerry Sandusky, a beloved and widely respected assistant college football coach who was found
guilty of abusing or molesting young men in his charge.

And need I mention all the pedophile priests
in the Catholic Church? Or the numerous instances of identifiable Orthodox rabbis guilty of sex abuse and/or molestation? Jews in all segments of
Orthodoxy from Modern Orthodox (YU) to Charedi (Lakewood, Ger, Satmar).

The people that do these things are often very accomplished.
Rabbis with PhDs that teach in top drawer universities. People that through
actions have gained tremendous respect and prestige. And they throw it all away
to satisfy their lust. This is what happened with Barry Freundel. He basically
ruined his life because of an insatiable desire to see naked women live via a camera he secretly installed in his Shul Mikva. Which he also recorded for his future viewing pleasure.

He went from being a happily married man with a beautiful
family, a rabbi with a position of great respect and admiration, a rabbi to
some of the most powerful figures in Washington, to being a disgraced man who
lost his family and is now reviled and ridiculed. He fell from the apex of
respect to the nadir of a 6 and ½ year prison term. All because he couldn’t control his sexual
appetite for voyeurism and actively used his position as a respected rabbi to
feed that appetite.

And now as reported in the New York Times we have another respected
rabbi engaging in some very creepy behavior:

For years, Rabbi Jonathan Rosenblatt, the leader of an
affluent Modern Orthodox synagogue in the Bronx, did something unusual with the
boys in his congregation. He took them, some as young as 12, to the gym to play squash
or racquetball, then showered beside them and took them into the sauna, where —
often naked, and with them often naked — he engaged the boys in searching
conversations about their lives, problems and faith.

This is yet another rabbi with a huge resume of accomplishment. And yet he had no compunction about stripping naked in front of young boys in a shower and spending time with them in a sauna also completely naked. Here is a brief description of his credentials:

Rabbi Rosenblatt (is) an accomplished scholar who married
into rabbinical royalty, grew to be one of New York City’s most prominent
Orthodox leaders…

He was considered for the post of chief rabbi of Britain
several years ago, is a visiting scholar at Harvard this year and is often
invited to speak to and teach young people…

Now I don’t know if taking a shower next to students - or sitting naked with students in a sauna is actionable behavior. But at the very least it’s creepy. Especially if one considers
the accusations by those that experienced it:

Very soon, the new rabbi began inviting the local boys to
gyms in the area. “It was sort of a rite of passage in Riverdale,” recalled one
man, now in his 40s…

(He) recalled that the rabbi paused to take in the sight of
him naked. “In the shower, and as I got into the tub, I remember him gawking,”
he said. He was 12 at the time.

Another man said Rabbi Rosenblatt took him to the sauna and
hot tub more than a dozen times from 1986, when he was 13, until about 1993. The
nudity, he said, always made him uncomfortable. “We’d be 15 minutes in the
shower, then 15 minutes in the sauna, then 15 minutes in the hot tub,” he said.
“There was no rush.”

Another former congregation member said that at the ritual
immersion bath known as the mikvah, when he was about 15, “I remember getting
out of the water and him watching me.” He asked the rabbi why. “He said, ‘I had
to make sure that the whole body went underneath…’

As time went on, Rabbi Rosenblatt became known as a trainer
of fledgling rabbis, many of whom went on to prominent positions. He combined
an attentive personal style with the pedigree and connections that could launch
a career. The squash-and-shvitz sessions were a well-known part of his process.

The strange thing about all this is that Rabbi Rosenblatt
did this out in the open. He did not hide these activities from anyone. But it eventually caught up with him and he
agreed to stop hosting rabbinic interns.

I don’t know what you do with a guy like this. His behavior
is sick enough to be repulsed by it. And yet, I’m not even sure you can do
anything about a rabbi taking a shower that simply gawks at you when you are in
the next shower stall… or gawks at you while both he and you are naked together in a sauna …or in
a hot tub.

But if I had anything to say about it, he would no longer be
working in any capacity as a rabbi or mentor to young people. Legal or not,
this behavior is disgusting. And if his behavior has caused psychological
damage (as it may well have) - then he ought to be prosecuted under the
law cited in the article by former sex crimes prosecutor, Linda Fairstein.

What a sad world we live in when sexual predation has becomes
so common that a popular President guilty of it is glorified by the public while those
past sins are ignored. I have to wonder if people like Freundel and Rosenblatt are
emboldened by this kind of public reaction to a fellow who - like them - was a man of great accomplishment but could not control his sexual urges.

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My outlook on Judaism is based mostly on the teachings of my primary Rebbe, Rabbi Aaron Soloveichik from whom I received my rabbinic ordination. It is also based on a search for spiritual truth. Among the various sources that put me on the right path, two great philosophic works stand out: “Halakhic Man” and “Lonely Man of Faith” authored by the pre-eminent Jewish philosopher and theologian, Rabbi, Dr. Joseph B. Soloveitchik. Of great significance is Rabbi, Dr. Norman Lamm's conceptualization and models of Torah U’Mada and Dr. Eliezer Berkovits who introduced me to the world of philosophic thought. Among my early influences were two pioneers of American Elementary Torah Chinuch, Rabbis Shmuel Kaufman and Yaakov Levi. The Yeshivos I attended were Yeshivas Telshe for early high school and more significantly, the Hebrew Theological College where for a period of ten years, my Rebbeim included such great Rabbinic figures as Rabbis Mordechai Rogov, Shmaryahu Meltzer, Yaakov Perlow, Herzl Kaplan, and Selig Starr. I also attended Roosevelt University where I received my Bachelor's Degree - majoring in Psychology.