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Take charge of your healing. You are not alone on this journey, but only you can do the work necessary for your own heart. These two simple techniques will turn that burning pain into amazing strength. You are stronger than you think!

The covert narcissist plays out rejection, abandonment, and abuse in extremely discreet and manipulative ways. It is so hidden that it takes years to see, if you ever see it at all. As their victim, you feel beaten down and empty and don’t even know why. Open your eyes and break out of their game!

I still have a long ways to go in the journey of healing, but I do feel that I am off to a great start. I will take this in baby steps. I feel motivation returning and eagerness to enjoy life again. I now begin the journey of the rest of my life!!

No matter where you are in this process, I desire to walk the journey with you. We may all go through it differently, but we ALL need support by our side. I had people I could lean on every step of the way. I feel blessed by that. I will be that support for anyone who needs a shoulder to lean on, an ear to listen, or a reassuring voice that you are not crazy.

It is so easy to talk ourselves into staying in a painful and abusive relationship for way too long. Just because someone else may be in a worse situation than you does not mean that you shouldn’t tend to your own pain and get help.

When our co-parent is abusing our children in any way, it is extremely easy to over-compensate by trying to erase all the bad feelings in our child. Our intentions are good. We know that those bad feelings are coming from the way they are being treated. So if we can erase those bad feelings, then maybe we can erase the damage they are suffering. However the results may not be quite what we hope for.

When does a relationship with a narcissist get worse? When that narcissist decides that they must “fix” the relationship. When they decide to “take charge” of making things right. This is a disaster! This is emotional abuse at its best.

Recovery from a narcissistic relationship is no small task in life. I have broken it down into 3 phases: Victim, Survivor, and Victor. It is possible to get past all the abuse and see life as a beautiful thing again. Where are you on your journey?

Finally, the day was here to tell my covert narcissist that I am done. I had waited for so long. A million questions were racing through my mind. The main one being, “How will he react?” But when it is time, then it is time! Here is how it went.

Narcissists absolutely hate for the other person to be right. Especially if that person is a spouse, significant other, parent or child. Use their own desire to always be right and to always prove you wrong against them. Anticipate their irrational reactions before they happen and call them out on it ahead of time.

Narcissists seem to have absolutely no emotional intelligence, inside themselves or with the world around them. They continuously stomp all over your feelings and don’t show an ounce of care about it. They can talk harshly and callously one minute and be confused as to why you don’t want to make love with them the very next minute. The confusion this creates is crazy-making!

Nothing in life has taught me more about myself than being a mom. It is the most challenging thing I have ever done. I have loved it and hated it, and both often at the same time. I used to say, “Moms get the worst fussing, but we get the best loving too.” And this was before I knew the word narcissism.