Everyone has a right to an opinion; just funny to see how far we do differ on the topic. Some people seem to mistake the art of seduction with chopping meat up for the bbq.

How we are worlds apart in our headspaces and souls… There is a big difference between eating out of a tin or just placing food on a plate or actually arranging a meal on a plate, beautifully presented, deliciously placed. Making an effort can be effortless as not making an effort. Going out of your way will bring you past new ideas and thoughts. By making a difference you show that you care. That is seductive.

I would liken seductive, sensual, enticing to a person unwrapping a desert, slowly with anticipation while listening to the sound of the unwrapping…

The art of seduction is a process of encounters, slight touches of skin, as if accidental, a process of appreciation. Seduction is as well about respect, respect for the moment, yourself and the opposite. Seduction is beauty in itself, it is flirtatious…

Lately I have heard friends complaining about encounters where the opposite was to obsessed by dirty talk and being rough, actually being treated that way. I feel that there is a place for that and where two people with the capacity to decide make a decision to do something together, then it is fine. It just gets so boring when you feel that being desensitised is the new fashion.

I could go on about it and also speak about the degradation of good film scripts, with most movies produced using swear words and coarse language. What happened to the good scripts?

I guess the fact that dirty talk and swearing has reached the main stream is what makes it so boring and main stream! Seduction is back! ‘It is not what I see that excites me, but what remains hidden.’ Victor Biola (someone will claim it to be said by someone before me…)