Picking a name for your baby can be an incredibly difficult undertaking. There are family histories, how it sounds with your last name, and potential nicknames (both good and bad) to consider. When a couple settles on a name for their baby, it’s a big deal. So it’s understandable to hear about someone flying into a rage over a stolen baby name. But is flying into a rage a reasonable response? One woman posed this question to the internet and boy, did she get answers.

On Mumsnet, a message board for parents, user Deedee3311 posted in the “Am I Being Unreasonable” thread that her husband’s ex had stolen the name Deedee3311 had decided on for her own baby. “His ex, who he already has a son with, has just had a baby and has stolen the name we were going to use. We are on amicable terms and she knew what name we had chosen, now she has robbed it. We call the baby by this name and it is THE name we want, but his son can’t have two sisters called the same thing can he?! Livid.” Oh, honey.

If there’s one thing strangers on the internet are good at, it’s sharing their opinions. Some Mumsnet users were sympathetic. Debbs77 said, “I’d be fuming! She knew! And bloody stole it! I’d use it anyway. Bitch! Seriously, I’m annoyed on your behalf.” SweetBabyJebus added, “I understand how put out you must feel. Baby names can get quite emotional within family / close friend circles.” Several users also brought up the point that it was very vindictive of the ex to give her child that name, and that they would no longer want to use it themselves if they were in her shoes.

The majority of the Mumsnet users, however, agreed that Deedee3311 was being unreasonable. “No one owns names, you can’t steal them!” wrote several users. A few even shared that they had half-siblings and step-siblings with the same name and it wasn’t a big deal. “We have so many Johns in our family, we use surnames to confirm which one we’re talking about,” advised BonnyScotland.

Dear, sweet Deedee3311. There are two lessons to be learned here. One, never share your baby name with anyone, especially other pregnant chicks. Two, don’t ask the internet if you’re being unreasonable, because the answer will almost always be yes.