“I AM” Waiting for Marriage

There so much power in the phrase “I AM” that’s why it so important to use it. “I AM” confesses boldness, it confesses that you know who you are, and it confesses confidence. This short series called “I AM” will focus on three topics that every single woman thinks about.

I AM… Waiting for Marriage

to have sex. Let’s face it, there is no benefit in doing it before marriage, only unnecessary soul ties, heartache and pain. I know, I know, for those that know me, know that I am a single mother. So you may be asking yourself, how does she think she’s waiting for marriage. Let me help you out, I lost my virginity at 15 ,had my very first abortion at 18 and my first child at 21. I went through many sexual partners due to my lack of self worth and self awareness. I was searching for that feel good feeling you get from having sex. Although temporary, I still craved it until the day I truly gave my life to Christ and he changed me from the inside out. Now you’re up to speed. I’ve been celibate for almost 5 years, and in that time period I’ve learned that sex is for the marriage bed. It’s much more than a good time, it’s more than just a euphoric feeling, it’s a mingling of souls and we have to be careful who we get intertwined with.Our destinies are at stake when we choose to prematurely have sex without finding out who we are first. I’ve chosen to wait because to know that the man I want to love for the rest of my life has self control means everything to me. When a man has self control, you know he’s not the type of man that won’t make rash decisions nor will he get angered easily. Another reason I’ve chosen to wait until marriage to have sex again is because I want to build a bond that doesn’t rely on sexual feelings. When you take sex out of the equation, you get to know a person on deeper level. There’s no lust to cloud your judgement, there’s no lust that keeps you attached after finding out they aren’t who you want to be with. I mean let’s face it, we’ve all had sex with people that we didn’t really care to know outside of the bedroom. I rather know who you are outside of the bed because I can’t just have sex with you all day. Fortunately, there’s more to me and there’s more to life. The last reason but MAJOR reason why I choose to wait, is because it honors God. If i truly want God to grant me the desires of my heart then I know that I need to be obedient to His instruction.

John 14:15 If you love me, you will keep my commandments

Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart

I know many of you may be thinking that I haven’t honored God at all and that I’ve already failed. However, the great thing about God is that when you come to Him, He gives you a new life. Everything old will have passed away. So I’m thankful to serve a forgiving God, when I truly repented and turned away from my wicked ways, He forgave me. He gave me a brand new life in Him. It wasn’t easy in the beginning, I certainly don’t want you to think that, it’s taken much maturing on my part to get to where I today but I know I’ve made the right decision. If you ask me what I would say to those women coming up under me, I would say to them WAIT. There’s no need to be in a rush. You have plenty of time and it’s better to honor God than to fall prey to man. Let God fulfill your desires until He presents you to the man He’s chosen for you.