(Closed) Bridal shower help

My BridalShower is coming next weekend. My bridesmaids have done zero for either my shower or my wedding. They never call or really interact with me. Needless to say before all this went down I got them all great presents during black friday. When do I go about giving them their gifts at the shower and what should I write in their cards?

Are these their Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts for being in the wedding or shower hostess gifts? I’ve only ever seen Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts given at the rehearsal dinner, so not sure what you mean.

Are they throwing you the shower, or are you talking about your gifts for them because they are in your wedding?

If you’re just talking about a thank-you gift for being in the wedding, I didn’t give my bridesmaids their gifts until our rehearsal dinner, which I think is what a lot of people do. Why don’t you wait and give them their gifts at that time, and then hopefully you’ll have a little better of an idea of what to write because they’ll step up their game?

@brideatbeach: We arent doing a rehersal till they day of the wedding our Rabbi will not do a rehersal on Shabbat. And they were supposed to be throwing the shower but never really did anything to help for it other than give money for it which I dont really find as important actually taking the time to plan something for it. Ive been doing all the planning with my mom, but their names were on the invite as hosting. I have come up with the games,went shopping for the decorations, I am making all the food, etc… It just hurts my feelings that for one day no one can do anything for me.

@FutureMrsChaney: Yeah, I totally feel you. 🙁 I would just give them a rather generic thank-you note then. No need to write some long, heartfelt thank you when there’s a ton of emotion and gratitude that’s actually there. Maybe you could make a postcard similar to the one below and then just write something on the back like:

Bridesmaid’s Name-

Thank you so much for being a part of my wedding; it means so much to me to know that you will be standing next to me in support as I commit to _______ for the rest of my life. You have no idea how much your being a bridesmaid in my wedding means to me.

@brideatbeach: My Fiance last night said something like “thanks for being a place holder”. I thought that was a little mean lol. The problem is I have bridesmaid shirts, tote bags, jewlery,lotion and body gel.

@FutureMrsChaney: Haha awww. I actually had two BMs that quit before the wedding and told other people they were going to quit before even coming to me. So I TOTALLY get it. Go with your gut; don’t be nicer than you feel they deserve, but being spiteful isn’t necessary either. 🙂

@FutureMrsChaney: True. Always remember there’s eBay and WeddingBee Classifieds if you want to get some money back on some of your stuff and not give it all to them… haha. I sold two bridesmaid shirts on eBay and got my money back for them! 😉