Trouble with my mother...

Well I am 22 years old I have a 20 month old son and my DH and I have been trying to get pregnant since last month, I had a positive pregnancy test the same day my period was supposed to arrive, so I told my other and she was, nice but not as supportive as I'd like. My doctor is thinking I had a MC because my period started a few weeks late she said false positive are very uncommon. We are still trying to get pregnant and Im not sure how to tell my mom because she thinks I need to wait untill my son is 5 to start trying. She is also just not very warm, we lived with them for a while and most of my baby clothes are at her house, they are mine she bought some of them for me but 90% of them are mine and she called me to tell me that she is going to give my stuff to my 17 year old cousin, I dont mind giving my cousin a few things but I'd like to keep some of it since were trying for another baby. I just dont know how to tell her that I want to keep some because Im trying to get pregnant.

#1. Go get your stuff back. It's yours, she has no right to give it to anyone.
#2. If your mom is going to be that unsupportive, don't give her any info. Don't tell you you're trying again. Don't tell her you're pregnant right away, let her wait until you announce it to everyone else.
#3. When she does start to get like that, just firmly tell her that her opinion does not matter, and if she can't say anything nice than she needs to be quiet.
#4. Learn how to stand up for yourself. You are going to need it!

Yeah I just know she's going to have something mean to say about me having another baby. When I told her I was pregnant before she said &quot;you better not be&quot; and instead of being comforting when I had the MC she was extremely rude about it. I just chose to keep her far away because it gets tiring having my feelings hurt constantly by her. Maybe I'll just tell her that I took home a few things that I really wanted to keep because we want another baby &quot;eventually&quot;

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Answered 11/11/12

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You just tell her that you'll come over to help sort, because you're glad she's generous enough to want to help out your cousin but you have several baby outfits you want to make sure get saved for your next baby. And if you're concerned that she might give the clothes away anyways, you bring it home with you and find your own storage space for the boxes. It doesn't matter how soon you're planning to have a child; what matters is that the clothes are yours and you have the right to keep them.

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