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What To Do If He Cheats Online

Even if he's having an outright affair, here's how to handle him and get your life back.

Take Your Life Back

If your man cheats online, it's time you put the focus back on your life and your happiness. Afterall, you have to focus on what you CAN control-- as much as you'd like to, you utlimately can't control him. At a slow and easy pace, I want you to be kind with yourself and allow time for extra sleep and room for all your feelings to be felt. Be calm and still in your heart throughout your days (in the mornings especially). Remaining calm and still allows you to slow down enough to stop bottling your feelings and putting your anxiety into nonstop working and doing at the job and in the house. It's important that you feel all your feelings right now and let them surface inside you. Whatever you feel-- anger, sadness, loneliness... invite it all to emerge by not busying yourself too much.

Take time to do little things for yourself and pamper yourself when you can: Stop by the farmers' market on your way home and pick out some fresh fruit for yourself or some cheeses. Get a manicure and a pedicure. Go to coffees with friends and make a promise to yourself not to complain about your man for more than 15 minutes with them. Read a touching and uplifting book. DATE YOURSELF. This is a big one. I want you to go on dates by yourself (no friends). Go bowling, to the movies,to the park, to a fancy restaurant. Make a point to do this once every week and make it something fun and recreational.

His wrongdoing is a chance for you to get to know yourself better and spend more time having a love affair with yourself. You should even write yourself love letters. You can put a stamp on one and mail it to yourself. Or send yourself flowers. This is a beautiful way to celebrate the fabulous woman you are. Refrain from purchasing expensive jewelry, etc. on his credit card or vengeful acts like that, because as delicious as that sounds to your ego, it's an act that's more about him than you. And YOU are what counts right now-- the you that's separate from him.

When your man cheats online, it can shatter your self-esteem in ways you may not even be aware of. Suddenly, you may be doubting your sex appeal or questioning your ability to be tender and loving. Because all these insecurities bubble-up, it's best that you 'unplug' from him as much as you can (that also means no games, silent treatment, punishing him, ignoring him for results-- just mental and physical disengagement) and take care of yourself best you can. The rest will work itself out over some time. You may feel confident enough to leave after a few weeks or months of taking your life back or he may respond well to this new dignified, heartfelt, ladylike you who doesn't take any crap from a cheating man.

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1. People Whose Age Ends In '9'

Going on a date with guy who's about to turn 29? May want to wait a year or so, says science!

According to a new study published in Proceedings of the Natural Academy of Sciences, people turning an age that ends in '9' are more likely to cheat on their partners.

Why? People turning 29, 39, 49, etc. tend to have major self-and make life-altering choices as they approach a new decade.

In fact, of the 8 million men on extramarital affair dating website, Ashley Madison, more than 950,000 men were ages 29, 39, 49, or 59.

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2. Tall Guys

Tall Guys

We're telling you this not just because short guys make us swoon. Last week, a study from extra-marital dating site, IllicitEncounters.com, told us that dudes over 5'10" are twice as likely to cheat on their partner. Knew they were up to no good up there.

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3. Rock N' Roll Fans

Rock N' Roll Fans

These two are the kind of sketchballs your mama warned you about. Another survey from IllicitEncounter.com found that 41 percent of cheaters prefer rock music to all other genres. Your best bet for a loyal partner? Rap lovers.

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4. Guys Who Work In IT

Guys Who Work In IT

Don't be fooled by their soft hoodies, hipster glasses and patience when it comes to restoring your iPhone (you really should start backing up!) — these guys are sneaky, cheating hubbies, according to the same AshleyMadison survey that revealed unfaithful wives are often teachers.

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5. The French

The French

What can you expect in a relationship with the best lovers in the world? Wine, cheese and an affair, says science. According to LELO, a luxury sex toy brand, who surveyed the globe about bedroom habits, 75 percent of the French admit to cheating.

6. Shopaholics

Shopaholics

AshleyMadison also revealed that their typical, adulterous female user is a serious shopper. More than a third of the women surveyed said they spend more on their appearance since they started cheating. And, 27 percent have a secret credit card to fund their purchases. The preferred brand of the unfaithful? Banana Republic.

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7. Female Teachers

Female Teachers

What professions are more likely to stray? According to a AshleyMadison.com survey of its users, the typical cheating wife is likely to be a teacher. Someone's gotta teach these ladies a lesson — just don't call tech support ...

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8. Twitter Users

Twitter Users

Shocker: social media can be harmful your romantic relationship! While this isn't too surprising, research from the University of Missouri shows those who tweet cheat. The more often a person uses Twitter, the more often they have relationship conflicts, like affairs. #TimeToCloseTheLaptop

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9. Guys Named Wayne

Guys Named Wayne

An easy giveaway he's sleeping with someone else? His name. A study of 2,000 women found Wayne ranked as the least trustworthy name in love. As for Lil Wayne, his real name is Dwayne, so we're not sure where that stands on the adultery scale. Does the D negate anything? For now, try not to date Lil Wayne. We'll update you when science gets back to us.

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10. Blonde Women

Blonde Women

Do blondes have more fun? If you consider cheating a grand ole time, then you betcha. A CheaterVille.com survey found that 42 percent of cheating women have blonde hair. Better girlfriend material, guys? Only 11 percent of women with black hair are cheaters.

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People Whose Age Ends In '9'

Going on a date with guy who's about to turn 29? May want to wait a year or so, says science!

According to a new study published in Proceedings of the Natural Academy of Sciences, people turning an age that ends in '9' are more likely to cheat on their partners.

Why? People turning 29, 39, 49, etc. tend to have major self-and make life-altering choices as they approach a new decade.

In fact, of the 8 million men on extramarital affair dating website, Ashley Madison, more than 950,000 men were ages 29, 39, 49, or 59.