What Is Love?

As I sit angrily in my bed as the clock reaches midnight, the song "What is Love" rambles through my head. I feel too often our society that we are blessed to live in, forgets what the purpose is: to love. We are called to do this simple task but it seems to be a not so easy task with everyone we meet.

There are many different forms of love, to name a few: there is love of oneself, love of neighbor and even romantic love. What has been really bothering me, however, has been love of neighbor. Often times these four little letters l-o-v-e are mistaken for four different letters l-u-s-t. To truly love is to be selfless and to lust is to be selfish. This distinct difference is what drives our society apart, our houses and our so called friendships.

When you’re selfless in your friendships, you want what is best for that person. Whether motivating them in doing their work or calling them out when they messed up. Messing up is normal. It is in our innate humanity to mess up, if we didn’t mess up, life would not be interesting. When someone truly loves you, they will point it out. Not because they are judging you or mean, but because they realize the importance of your growth as a human being.

If you ignore someone's genuine concern or acting out of sheer personal desire, that is lust. Lust in and of itself is selfish and purely focused on your individual desires, clearly disregarding those around you. Sometimes what you want as an individual is not what is best for you. Yeah, I want to eat four dozen chocolate chip cookies but that's probably not what's best for me. A good friend, out of love, would hold me accountable and remind me that eating four dozen cookies is not good.

Just imagine a world where there is no accountability. Where there are no repercussions for ones actions. That world would be run to the ground quickly and it would be hard to find true happiness. When people close to you hold you accountable, they do it out of love. They want you to be the best person you can be and sometimes a little tough love is what is best.

This accountability thing should be happening on a daily basis. This does not just apply to love of one's neighbor but in every little tiny crevice of one's life. To be happy, and I mean truly happy, we are called to love. If that means that accountability for your actions comes in and dampers what you think you want, well, so be it.

30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

5 Times That Kylie Jenner & Jordyn Woods Were Accurate Depictions Of You And Your BFF

Whether it's celebrity couples or celebrity best friends, everyone has that one pair that they are obsessed with. My best friend and I happen to be obsessed with Kylie Jenner and Jordyn Woods. Even though Kylie is a billionaire and Jordyn is extremely famous, unlike my BFF and I, we can relate to them on so many levels. They are fun, spontaneous, and they always have each other's backs. Trust me, once you start relating to them, you and your BFF will be DM'ing all the Kylie and Jordyn pics to each other with the caption, "Us."

1. They make a ton of memories together.

Kylie and Jordyn have been BFF's since around 2013 and have made so many memories together. From matching tattoos, Kylie's own show "Life of Kylie" which featured Jordyn heavily, adopting a dog together, and of course, the birth of Stormi. Jordyn and Kylie have been linked to the hip and have tons of proof to look back on their friendship. I mean, who else makes an entire makeup collab with their BFF?

2. They support each other's accomplishments.

Through all the accomplishments in my BFF's life, I'm front and center. Whether that's being accepted to her dream school or who knows, maybe your BFF is the youngest self-made billionaire. The last option is probably very unlikely, but for Jordyn, it happened! Best friend, Kylie Jenner, became the youngest self-made billionaire this year and Jordyn supported Kylie and her success along the way. Whether that was posting a picture on Instagram or collaborating with Kylie on her makeup line, Jordyn was there every step of the way!

4. They have each other's backs through everything.

Through the crazy drama, love lives, and Kylie's pregnancy, these girls have stuck through it all. Kylie and Jordyn have been friends for multiple years. These years included the Kardashian/Jenner rise to fame, Kylie's makeup line, Jordyn's father passing away, and Kylie finding out she was pregnant with her daughter, Stormi. A true best friend stands by your side through anything and everything. I know that I would do anything for my best friend and have been there for her since day 1. This is just the rule to friendship and Kylie and Jordyn do a great job at abiding by it.

5. At the end of the day, they are normal best friends.

Sure, Kylie and Jordyn live a fabulous lifestyle. We all can't attend Astroworld or be close friends with celebs like Jaden Smith and Anastasia Karanikolaou. But, at the end of the day, Kylie and Jordyn are just normal young adults. The girls love binging Netflix and trying out new recipes for Chrissy Teagan's new cookbook. I know that my BFF and I love watching marathons of New Girl and cooking up cute dinners for us. We basically live the same life as Ky and Jordy.

All in all, these girls have been through hell and back. As two very famous young women, their lives are constantly filled with crazy opportunities and events. So far, they have had each other's backs through thick and thin. Let's hope this friendship sticks together, forever.