Anyone else have birthing fears?

I have always been freaked out by all things medical. I was the girl in high school that got weak and nauseous duing health class. Even the smell of a hospital makes me a little queezy. I freak out with blood, gruesome things, shots. etc.

Which obviously creates a problem with pregnancy and childbirth!! Can anyone else relate? What did you do? I know someone that went to hypno therapy to help with the same issue...but I'm not sure I buy into all that.

Another friend said you will find the strength to deal with it at the moment you need it. I'm just not so sure.

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Your friend is right something happens and you becomes secondary to an extent when it comes to your child. It might be hard for you but you will get through it. Lots of maternity wards are less hospital and more birth center anymore. Hopefully it is like that near you. Definitely take a tour so you know what to expect and take a birth class. Just be prepared as you can be and then no matter what you can deal with it:) good luck!

Omg me! I am TERRIFIED of childbirth. I can't do blood draws without getting queasy. It's going to be a long 9 mos when I finally do get pregnant. I just try to tell myself women have babies every single day and survive. So I will live. Lol a friend of mine had her baby a few weeks ago and before she went into labor we had this conversation. She was nervous but just said if 15 year olds can give birth, so could she, haha.

I have a 2 year old son and it is 100% worth every second. Get the epidural and you will be okay pain wise. The medical stuff is nothing compared to the love and joy you feel the first time you hold your baby. I never knew you could love someone do much it hurts.

I'm studying to become an nurse so the medical aspect of things doesn't scare me. However I'm really not looking forward to being so..umm "exposed" I mean that emotionally and physically. I don't like being vulnerable, and I hate being in positions where I'm not 100% in charge of my body. I know it will be worth it though. I'm not a prude when it comes to undressing and I know the Dr. and nurses are down there to help you, but I can't help but feel embarrassed when I think about it! It will be just me and the Hubby in the delivery room to say the least! No way I'm letting my extended family see my business.

I was nervous I think it is only natural. The fear of the unknown and you can have complications during the delivery process. After it all it kind of seems like a blur and not nearly as intense as it did at the time. I was too worried about be exposed to so many strangers (nurses and doctors). Everyone told me you won't care when the time comes you will just want the child out. That is so very true. I don't like strangers touching me and in my bubble. I avoid paps for as long as I can and when you are in that much pain you don't care. It is hard to imagine but very true. In the end every ounce of pain is worth it. I think your mind also allows you to forget just how intense it was so you will continue to have more children. It really isn't that bad.

I was terrified at first...until I began reading up on everything I could. I decided to have natural, unmedicated birth so I did tons of research and reading to educate myself. I knew about the "unplanned" circumstances that could happen during birth, I knew that labor would hurt like ****, but I also knew that I was in control of my body. People say once you're in labor your body takes over...that's partly true. We have complete control over our reaction and how we handle it. I am NOT in shape, I don't exercise, I have very low pain tolerance, yet I was able to feel EVERYTHING during birth because I was in control. And I am an exremely modest person and HATE hospitals as well. However, I went with a midwife and I always felt SO (significant other) comfortable with her. I didn't even care I was butt naked in the tub while in labor and she was in there. I didn't care the nurse was there watching me while I showered after giving birth.....it's not like they haven't seen it before...that's all they do!

I would say educate yourself as much as you can. Don't read stuff online....that will scare you. Read books by doctors, by other moms, by MIDWIVES....those are the best. Once you learn how miraculous childbirth is, your fears will go down and you will replace that with confidence in yourself :) If you have any specific questions, feel free to message me!

I never liked hospitals...who does?! I always get queasy with needles and when I got blood drawn for the glucose test I ended up with my head in a bucket and having ice packs on my body b/c I was sweating and got extremely close to passing out!! Not fun!
I was nervous about childbirth, especially since my birth plan included no drugs- all natural baby ; ) I did as much research as possible and was also present for my sister's labor and deliveries.
When it was go time I realized no matter what I was feeling, this baby was coming!!! And I wanted to be present and not have regret of not doing my best. My labor wasn't at all gruesome or awful.... yes there was blood but of course, it is a birth! I did tear which hurt, especially when my OB didn't wait for the numbing spray to work before stitching me up! Ouchhhh!!!!

All in all I loved it, even being a queasy person ; ) I hope you do well when it's ur time!!! : )

I have never been pregnant (TTC #1 right now - yay!), but I have had some gnarly, gross, frightening, and extended battle for life in the hospital stuff. Just trust me, you find a way, in the moment. The fight and will to overcome just...happens. Cant even explain it. It's really kind of amazing what we, as humans, can handle! Plus...you get a baby at the end of it :D

For needle fears and stuff like that I can say that Hypno Thearapy works! I have had the biggest fear of needles as far back as I ran remember. When I was five I had to be tied down by nurses to get and IV. Another time at like 11 I was tied down for bloodwork. It doesn't help that I have grown up with multiple health problems so needles were ALWAYS in my life. When I was 18 I was put on a medication that required me to give myself an injection. My mom knew she had to figure out something or I wouldn't be able to take my medication. She found a hypnotherapist in our area and I had a couple sessions with him. He was really great about pricing and he knew that my mom was a single parents and money was tight, he gave us a great deal.

I am now 25 and I can get my blood drawn without having panic and anxiety attacks. I can also administer my medication myself without any problems. My mom always worried that when I got pregnant I wouldn't be able to handle all of the needles, but now I am prepared. When you get your blood drawn also see about a nurse that will come to your house. We have a guy that comes to our house when I have to get blood drawn and he is amazing. Sometimes I get to lie in bed or sit in the couch in my own enviorment and he can take my blood. I love it!

Birth scares the CRAP out of me. I don't deal well with pain at all and the thought of pushing a human through my vagina is scary. I am at high risk for preeclampsia and there is a good chance I will end up delivering thorugh c-section and that scares me less than vaginal birth. I have had surgeries before and I have never had a problem with it besides the needles before my hypno therapy.

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