We all have qualities that we desire in our partners not just looks, but the qualities we need from them. Like, maybe them being kind, considerate or generous towards us for example. But, as we ask for what we want and need from them, and what we want them to be to and for us, isn’t it just as important to think about what we want to be to them?

What are you and what do you want to be to the person in your life? What brought this to mind was listening to people talk about what they want and need from their partner, and yet in the same conversation they never speak on what they want to be to the person in their life. I’ve noticed that sometimes we can be very selfish in our relationships only focusing on ourselves, and not concerning ourselves with someone else wants and needs. And, then we wonder why there are troubles in our relationship.

As I thought about this, I had to ask myself the question. What do I want to be to the person in my life, and what can I bring to their life? First, I desire to enhance their life and in some way make their life better. But, most of all I want to make them happy, and happy that they chose to spend this part of their journey with me. As much as we want things to be about us, we have to remember that a relationship is between two people who each have needs and wants, and neither person should ever forget that.