(Closed) Feeling greedy on our registry…

I was just reviewing the items on our registry, and I feel like we may have gone a little nuts. $120 sheets? $80 vase? $200 Nambe platter? $200 trash can? A Turkey jerkey maker?!

I feel like my family is going to look at it and think we’re greedy rascals. The stuff we registered for is stuff we legitimately need, little stuff we’re upgrading, and these big ticket DREAM items that we’d never in our right minds pay for ourselves.

But I still feel greedy 🙁 I think I’m going to take off some of the ridiculous Nambe serving stuff. It’s just so cool looking though!

I was JUST looking at my Amazon registry feeling the same way! I had to look up Nambe serving ware btw, I say leave it on! It does look cool and will last forever, so it’s practical and beautiful! Plus look at it this way, people are going to buy you things – if you don’t guide them in the right direction, you’re going to end up with stuff that you don’t need or want and inevitably will return/exchange. Save yourself the trouble and guilty feelings of “not liking” a present and stick to a list of stuff you really do want.

I have a giant range of stuff on my registry from $3-$300 for our china. So really, any guest has a range of what they want to buy us. Besides, the more stuff is on your registry the easier it is for people to shop.

@Captain013: In defense of the trash can, I just added it today because our friends raved about this amazing simplehuman trash can that’s automatic that’s super expensive but awesome. Who would ever pay $200 for a trash can on their own? I guess the point is to get cool stuff that we wouldn’t buy ourselves. I can buy my own carrot peeler and dish brush, lol. Although that stuff’s on there too so we can appeal to all price points.

@SugerPlum: Yes, I wanted everything from their catalog. It’s incredibly unique design. But everything has an average price point of… say… $200+.

Honestly, the only things on our registry that were more expensive was our KitchenAid, a vacumn, and our bedding, I think. We kept our price points very low because we know what the demographics of our guests were. But, if your guests are people you know that will spend that much, why not?

A friend just had a baby and I felt this way when I looked at her baby registry in November. I was looking through it and going “WTF?!” She had things like… $20-30 for one single onesie. Um…. no. She was smoking something good. And then she wondered why only one person got something off her registry.

I’d keep the serving stuff on there, because that’s quite practical and will get a lot of use and love, but the trash can does seem a bit much. I would never spend $200 on something I knew people were going to chuck refuse in! LOL

Most expensive thing on my registry is a counter top ice maker for $150 as the way our kitchen is set up there is no way we can have an ice maker in the freezer. Second most is a Keurig coffee maker that I really want, but if I don’t get it, I will buy it myself. Most are items in the $30-50 range.

I think that if you really love those things you should keep them on your registry. Most people don’t really care what they’re buying, they just have a budget in mind and choose something around that price. And most of my parents friends went straight for the expensive traditional items like the kitchenaid mixer and expensive cookware.

Most people understand that you get a discount on anything on your registry after your wedding at a lot of stores. They know it’s not you demanding that they get these things for you. If they’re the kind of people who will find a registry offensive, they’ll give you money. More often I’m upset when there’s too few options on a registry.

I don’t think you need to feel greedy, because some of your guests are looking to spend a good geal of money on a gift for you.

All I would say is make sure you really want the expensive items you put on your registry. I get that the $200 garbage can may be really awesome, but do you really want that expensive of a garbage can as opposed to a pretty serving platter you will have forever? You aren’t going to get all the pricey items, so you may want to remove some to direct guests to what you want the most.

We have a kitchenaid mixer on our registry, and maybe 5-6 things that are around $100-120. Everything else is in the $20-50 range (except a few cheapy kitchen gadgets that are $5), but I just feel bad asking for anything over $100!!

I just try to think: could someone with a $25-30 budget buy me something that would be a full gift (i.e. not ONE plate, because most people would feel bad showing up to a shower with a single plate)? Most of my items fall in that category, so I don’t feel so bad. That’s my logic, anyway lol.

I know what you mean. We don’t need a lot because we live together, so we registered for things we wouldn’t buy ourselves. And if someone doesn’t want to buy us something from our registry, hopefully they’ll take the hint and get us cash!

@MissTaken: haha we would! I think we have the trashcan you are talking about. lol But I totally felt the same way about our registry, mostly because we don’t need anything, so it’s just stuff that would be cool to have or so completely expensive that we wouldn’t buy it ourselves (fancy dyson vacuum?!)… In the end I don’t really care because I’m not expecting anyone to buy gifts, if they do great, if they buy something off the registry great, if they don’t give us a gift… that’s great too. Just think of it as a guide for people to see what you like instead of a “to buy” list. 🙂