Jim just called to say he was thinking of me, missing me, and loves me very much. He asked if I wanted to go listen to our friend's band tonite. I told him I might have to watch the kids again tonite. I told him I would do it on my own and may spend the night. He said that if I have to that he would do it with me. He said we are in this together. Men are so confusing.

Also heard from my daughter and my son in law may be released tomorrow. We both feel it is too soon. I told her I would be there for her. If I need to watch the kids I will or if she just wants me to be with her, I will come over.

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."

He may just be really confused with the situation. It's an awful lot for any family to deal with, and he may not know what he should be doing as the new boyfriend.

Lots of hugs, I'm sure it'll all work out

I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.
Audrey Hepburn

Men are babies. They freak out sometimes. Try not to read to much into it. He knows he messed up and is making an effort. Something about the event may have struck a cord, something from his past. Try not to make any rash decisions

He may just be really confused with the situation. It's an awful lot for any family to deal with, and he may not know what he should be doing as the new boyfriend.

Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian

+1. Sometimes we need time and space in order to cope with crises, especially when theh occur so suddenly. He may not know what your expectations are, and might be reticent to involve himself your family affairs at this stage of the relationship, for fear it will be seen as meddling.

Good to see he had an epiphany! That should make things a bit easier for you on a personal level.

Jim's a good man. I'll just have to see how this all plays out with him. It's getting thru the difficult times together that will show the true test of a relationship.

He texted me that he wants us to make my Paleo crackers tonite for his quacomole and wants to make the watermelon cake I saw on FB at our swim party on Saturday. He's looking ahead. I hope my daughter and her family will still come. I think family will be very important for them to get thru this.

From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."

Does it feel like he might be vying for your attn? That he was pouting the night it happened bc you were so (rightfully) preoccupied w/ your daughter and her family...and now trying to get your focus back on him?

Maybe he needs to be reassured he is still important?

IDK. But I want the recipe for Paleo crackers!

Yes, I agree w/ your post earlier that God can allow certain things to happen in your life to make you grow and bring you closer to him.

I'm going to try almond flour instead and add water if needed. It was such a pain in the behind. I tried both my blenders and my bullet. Also, I'm going to roll it out between parchment paper with a roller pin. I've done this recipe 3 times and I haven't been able to get it thin enough. The flavor is very good. We are going to try it as a pizza crust. I haven't made it with the yeast yet, but will get some at Whole Foods on my way home. It's suppose to give it a cheesy flavor.

Now as far as Jim goes...he needs a lot of attention. Mainly reassuring that I am crazy about him. His wife was pretty cold. Not meaning to hurt him, but that was just who personality. If I'm not attentive enough he will ask if I'm losing interest. It can be draining at times and I have talked to him about it.

ETA: Just found another recipe....More like what I'll be making this evening, but I want mine thinner.

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."

That seems awfully early to be discharged from hospital after a suicide attempt, quite apart from the fact that detoxing from Xanax is a difficult thing to do. I hope he's still going to get some input from a health professional somewhere along the line.

That seems awfully early to be discharged from hospital after a suicide attempt, quite apart from the fact that detoxing from Xanax is a difficult thing to do. I hope he's still going to get some input from a health professional somewhere along the line.

Originally Posted by Starmie

It's pathetic how quickly they release people from hospitals here, and given the large cuts being made at many (hundreds of employees), it's only going to get worse.

You are right about this being a test of the relationship, Lotsa. Any down turn is, but I do agree with the others who said you shouldn't read too much into it at this point. You have a lot on you right now, too. It's going to create tension for you both. Don't blame you for wanting to talk about it quickly though. I am the same way.

I hope your son in law will do well, and I really hope he will attend some meetings. I have always thought those have to be good, if someone is serious about wanting help. You at least admit what your problem is to a group of people and have some accountability and extra support from that point on. Sometimes it's just easier to talk to strangers than your family.

When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Things are really horrific right now. My home computer is really slow and it is hard to explain everything with Jim here. I'll post tomorrow. Please keep us in your prayers.

From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."

I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.
Audrey Hepburn

I'm not going to go into details right now, because I'm still trying to understand all of this....Bottom line, my daughter is a coke addict. She's left home. Said she is trying to find help. Don't know where she is at, but suspect she is with her dealer who her husband thinks she is emotionally involved with. Right now they both disgust me and I'm just doing what I can for the children. Jim is at my side thru this.

From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."