Daycare question, what would you do?

I'm looking for what other moms would do in this situation, my DD is 14 months old and right around the time she turned 1 she transitioned into an older infant room at daycare and that's when the problems started. Several times they have fed her crap food that we have specifically told them not to (pizza being the major issue here) then yesterday they were having pizza (again, 2nd time in 2 weeks) and since they knew she couldn't eat it they just gave her the fruit and veggie (my daughter is an eater and I know this did not satisfy her) so when my mother in law went to pick her up from daycare yesterday she told me my DD was crying because all the other kids were eating snack and my DD wasn't since she was being picked up and going to have a snack when she got home. REALLY, so you left her crying while everyone else ate?!?!?! I want to talk to the director about this but recently found out the person who is in charge of the kitchen and meals for the daycare center is the owner's mother. If you were in my shoes would you say something or just pack meals for her every day??

This may not seem like a huge issue to some but we are very careful about what we feed DD as my side of the family has a very long list of food allergies and diabetes.

I'm looking for what other moms would do in this situation, my DD is 14 months old and right around the time she turned 1 she transitioned into an older infant room at daycare and that's when the problems started. Several times they have fed her crap food that we have specifically told them not to (pizza being the major issue here) then yesterday they were having pizza (again, 2nd time in 2 weeks) and since they knew she couldn't eat it they just gave her the fruit and veggie (my daughter is an eater and I know this did not satisfy her) so when my mother in law went to pick her up from daycare yesterday she told me my DD was crying because all the other kids were eating snack and my DD wasn't since she was being picked up and going to have a snack when she got home. REALLY, so you left her crying while everyone else ate?!?!?! I want to talk to the director about this but recently found out the person who is in charge of the kitchen and meals for the daycare center is the owner's mother. If you were in my shoes would you say something or just pack meals for her every day??

This may not seem like a huge issue to some but we are very careful about what we feed DD as my side of the family has a very long list of food allergies and diabetes.

Yes, I would have a conversation with her. Remember you are the customer. Maybe you can suggest they let you know the food menu in advance so you can bring alternative meals. I would also let them know your dissatisfaction with allowing others to eat in front of your child while she cried. She is too young to understand the reasoning and they should have found an alternative,

Yes, I would have a conversation with her. Remember you are the customer. Maybe you can suggest they let you know the food menu in advance so you can bring alternative meals. I would also let them know your dissatisfaction with allowing others to eat in front of your child while she cried. She is too young to understand the reasoning and they should have found an alternative,

I would say something to the director, but start the conversation without being accusatory to her. Even if it's her mom, she probably doesn't know what is going on. And something doesn't add up. I'd be miffed if they let her cry because others were eating a snack--that should be fixed. As for the lunches, if you want her to eat something different than what the daycare offers, you should pack her lunch. If they changed the menu when you didn't have a chance to pack it, I would talk to the director about it. It's a legit complaint that you would have packed a lunch if you had known, but you didn't have an opportunity.

I would say something to the director, but start the conversation without being accusatory to her. Even if it's her mom, she probably doesn't know what is going on. And something doesn't add up. I'd be miffed if they let her cry because others were eating a snack--that should be fixed. As for the lunches, if you want her to eat something different than what the daycare offers, you should pack her lunch. If they changed the menu when you didn't have a chance to pack it, I would talk to the director about it. It's a legit complaint that you would have packed a lunch if you had known, but you didn't have an opportunity.

I would absolutely speak to the director about your concerns. You are paying good money for quality care and if you feel there are issues then you need to address them. You are her number one advocate and it's not ok to leave her crying when she's hungry for any reason.

I would absolutely speak to the director about your concerns. You are paying good money for quality care and if you feel there are issues then you need to address them. You are her number one advocate and it's not ok to leave her crying when she's hungry for any reason.

Absolutely talk to them, if you feel even a tiny but of apprehension about your daycare do something! These people have your baby more than you do in the week. I made the mistake if ignoring my intuition once about daycare and I'll never do it again. Even if other people think I'm crazy, its my baby.

Absolutely talk to them, if you feel even a tiny but of apprehension about your daycare do something! These people have your baby more than you do in the week. I made the mistake if ignoring my intuition once about daycare and I'll never do it again. Even if other people think I'm crazy, its my baby.

I would have a conversation with the Director first, and then if that doesn't work, I would just send the meals, especially if you're dealing with food allergies and other potential health issues. Do they have a schedule of food times? Snacks, lunches, etc? I'd just pack her up and label exactly what is lunch, snack, etc. That way she doesn't have to be upset that everybody is having a snack that she isn't, you don't have to worry about how the food is being prepared or what is being given, or anything like that.

You're paying a lot of money for them to care for your child, and a good daycare will let you have a say in their care. If they can't accamodate a special need or diet (let's, face it they've got a lot of kids to look after) they should be okay with you providing meals.

I would have a conversation with the Director first, and then if that doesn't work, I would just send the meals, especially if you're dealing with food allergies and other potential health issues. Do they have a schedule of food times? Snacks, lunches, etc? I'd just pack her up and label exactly what is lunch, snack, etc. That way she doesn't have to be upset that everybody is having a snack that she isn't, you don't have to worry about how the food is being prepared or what is being given, or anything like that.

You're paying a lot of money for them to care for your child, and a good daycare will let you have a say in their care. If they can't accamodate a special need or diet (let's, face it they've got a lot of kids to look after) they should be okay with you providing meals.

Two thoughts: 1) Absolutely you should address your concerns with the director. I worked in a couple daycares and if you can't address something like this without issue (the staff letting LO cry rather than giving her a snack, disregarding your wishes to not feed her certain foods, etc), I'd say it might be time to find a new daycare. And 2) if you don't want her to have what they're providing, you should definitely send your own food. If it's an allergy thing, they should offer alternatives but otherwise, it's a lot to ask them to cater to everyone's preferences. Not to say I agree with pizza twice a week or that you shouldn't advocate for an overall healthier menu...but in the meantime, expecting them to provide an alternative based on preference is too much with multiple kids to feed.

Two thoughts: 1) Absolutely you should address your concerns with the director. I worked in a couple daycares and if you can't address something like this without issue (the staff letting LO cry rather than giving her a snack, disregarding your wishes to not feed her certain foods, etc), I'd say it might be time to find a new daycare. And 2) if you don't want her to have what they're providing, you should definitely send your own food. If it's an allergy thing, they should offer alternatives but otherwise, it's a lot to ask them to cater to everyone's preferences. Not to say I agree with pizza twice a week or that you shouldn't advocate for an overall healthier menu...but in the meantime, expecting them to provide an alternative based on preference is too much with multiple kids to feed.

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