All sexual pleasure is “sex”, so the acts that we consider foreplay, including kissing, have the capacity to produce pleasure and connection.

3. For couples who are super busy – is it wrong to schedule sex?

Scheduling sex is a great idea. Oftentimes if you wait until you’re in the mood for sex, you may never have it. This is because desire doesn’t always occur spontaneously.

4. If you want something a little spicy or want to mix things up in the bedroom – how do you approach that or talk to your partner about it?

Use pop culture as your reference. One of the easiest ways to talk about difficult subjects involves using fictional characters as a starting point.

5. Is it appropriate to ask your partner how many partners they’ve had?

It’s natural to be curious and it’s fine to ask, but first you might want to ask yourself why you’re so curious. Are you simply looking to satisfy curiosity or is there response tied to your own validation, insecurities and judgment. It’s normal to experience feelings of insecurity and learning to express these emotions can heighten intimacy. Learn more about the formula for intimacy here.

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