I rarely use the term "making love," usually when I'm trying to be romantic. Again, this is rare. My boyfriend uses the term more than I do, but it's rare for him, too. If we're discussing sex as a topic of conversation, we just call it sex, and then clarify what kind of sex we mean from there. If we're talking about ourselves personally or what we want to do to one another (ahem), we call it fucking.

It is a phrase that, until my current relationship, I could never use with a straight face. Even when Barry White says it, it makes me squirm! It implies an emotional connection that doesn't exist otherwise, and honestly, I didn't have that before now

I do say it occasionally. Even when referring to rougher sex. We've even called it our "depraved love making." Of course, I have used it in the more "traditional" way as well--I've said, "I want to make love to you" and "I want you to make love to me," etc. I've found that it's less about what you say, and more about how you say it. If you think it sounds cheesy, then it will probably come off as sounding cheesy when you say it.

But that's the way I talk, and that's the way he talks. We both like variety in our vocabulary when we're talking about all the things we'd like to do with each other. I think it gets tiresome to hear the same thing in the bedroom all the time.

I used to find it hilariously corny for a long time.. Then I guess I started to understand why people said it. Personally I see "making love" as slower, more tender sex with someone you deeply care for. I think what you say makes a big difference. Sometimes sex is just that and something like "fuck me" is more appropriate. I don't think either one is better than the other, both have their advantages no matter what you'd like to call them or say.

I rarely use the term "making love" just because it sounds so sappy... and it doesn't seem like the proper way to refer to our style of intercourse. We're fast and rough, whereas "making love" sounds like it should be slow and gentle.

Personally I find 'making love' to be cheesy. I'd much rather hear "I wanna fuck you til you scream" than "I want to make love to you". Even an ambiguous "I want you" is a vast improvement over 'making love'.

As far as easing into it... a little. "I want to ride you" as opposed to something more graphically descriptive, or "Make me scream" instead of "Fuck me", but I'd guess that most of us eased into it even if it was only a little.

Do you ever refer to sex this way? For some reason it seems cheesy and/or childish as a term, though I'd like to use a softer phase instead of the usual "fuck me!". Did any of you 'ease' into this?

truthfully I used to only have sex/fuck guys. First time we were sexually physical with each other we made love. He doesn't believe in having sex or fucking me. The only way fucking comes into the bedroom is to make things more exciting but we only say that and we know we are making love. You know you are making love but not the physical aspect of it but the emotional aspect. Good luck

I think "fucking" and "making love" are two vastly different types of sex. I haven't said it before, but I think I would. Only if my partner and I were both in love with each other and I wanted nice slow emotional sex.