The actual worst doctor experience of all time (probably not triggering)

Yesterday I had a tiny bit of blood, but since it was accompanied by pain on my left side, I called my doctor and I was recommended to go to the ER. I went and explained that I was 19 weeks pregnant and that I had some bleeding and pain and my doctor told me to come in. Okay cool.

I get in, and the nurse pokes and prods at me and asks who my doctor is and I told her my doctor's name and my perinatologist's name, "oh, why are you seeing dr Silverman?" "Because the baby has Down syndrome and I guess they want to check that out." She got this weird look on her face and said "oh..." And I was like "okay what?" And she said she wasn't sure if they would be able to do the ultrasound because they weren't "equipped" to do it (what? He's a fetus, he doesn't need a special ultrasound machine...) but we'll see what the doctor has to say. Okay, see you you crazy old bag. So the doctor comes in and she says it's no problem let's do the ultrasound. So we find him on there right away and his heart is beating and he's swimming around and I'm relieved and I'm expecting to move on to part 2 and finding out where the blood came from, but the doctor is weirdly quiet. She calls another doctor, the other doctor comes in and looks at it, they go out in the hallway, she comes back and says "your baby doesnt have Down syndrome." Uh??? "But he looks like he has another genetic disorder." She says he has soft markers of trisomy 18 like a missing nasal bone and shortened femurs (which by the way are soft markers for Down syndrome). I told her that I had both maternit21 and an amnio done and the geneticist was very clear that the baby had Down syndrome and that was it. "Well we have to talk to your geneticist then but I am fairly certain you were told wrong." Okay, you and your ultrasound versus the geneticist and multiple intensive genetic tests....so I'm sitting around googling Down syndrome being misdiagnosed as trisomy 18 and basically freaking out especially because BD is in England and not answering his phone. FINALLY she comes back and admits she was mistaken and that the geneticist assured her that there was nothing wrong with any of the chromosomes besides the 21st. I COULD HAVE TOLD YOU THAT!

Cause of left side pain? A cyst that shouldn't affect anything else. Oh good.

So, healthy mom, healthy baby, everything went better than expected.

Oh, and the nurse asked me multiple times if a) i was really 27 (yes) and where "the father" was and why he wasn't here (England, and because he doesn't have teleportation powers). Just awful all around.

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Anna

Matthew Howard was born July 12th and spent 2 hours with us before earning his wings. Martha Abigail Skuld was born April 24th and made us whole.

it is SO annoying when a doctor or nurse won't listen to you, as if you've never spoken to anyone but them ever in your life so you have no idea what you're talking about.. after all, you don't have a MD after your name so you don't know anything.. grrrrr

It's very irritating that anyone without knowing your medical history, seeing your file, or speaking to your peri would say everything wrong. Wtf?! If they disagreed, professional attitude would be speak to your doctors first. Then to patient. Glad you're both ok!

So the extra schooling the specialty drs went to and both tests that you had done are wrong, and the ER dr that is using a basic ultrasound machine knows ALL! Makes me so frustrated! I am glad mom and baby are healthy, that is really all that matters in the end! Hopefully you will have a smooth rest of your pregnancy with no more scares:)

I look like I belong on the cast of 16 and pregnant but if my bracelet and my chart say 1985 I was born in 1985 you crazy old bat. (And yes, that honestly bothered me more than anything, I don't know why. Pregnancy makes me crazy.)

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Anna

Matthew Howard was born July 12th and spent 2 hours with us before earning his wings. Martha Abigail Skuld was born April 24th and made us whole.