Maintaining Chastity during UPSC preparations (Why, How and Experiences)

There are several posts, topics and discussions on strong sexual urges which fellow members try to fight during this long preparation phase (maybe due to absolute isolation). Although, sex is highly over-rated, the urge itself is really strong (specially for the unmarried) and resisting that is a herculean task. Many hours are wasted trying to control such thoughts and still they are not tamed.

The purpose of this thread is simple. I request fellow members to throw some light on this topic and if it is important to control such urges during the preparation phase. Also, the various benefits of such control and how not to indulge in certain activities which may prove to be disastrous and addictive, specially during the preparation phase. Secondly, how to use this strong urge for increased concentration. It is beyond doubt that giving in to such strong urges is a vicious cycle in itself and it may destroy lives totally.

Request to members: Please try to keep the thread clean and refrain from going off topic by using crude, provocative language (no bakar).Request to mods: Please delete the thread if it does not serve the overall objectives of the forum.

bhawnaaein hee to hain, behne do. 25 saal ke baad chastity master krne ka koi matlab naheen hai. Had you been married, you would indulge in sex almost daily. Just do not keep thinking about or fanatasizing whole day - you'll end up wasting your time. Masturbate once everyday if the urge is too much or at 2-3 days and be happy. Keep focus where it matters the most. Sex to poori duniya krti hai. Tum bhi karoge hee kabhi.

You have taken the first step i.e 1. acceptance.Some words from Ojha sir the history teacher:2. "Dimag kaha lagana h" is important. He simply means, even if u engage ur thoughts outside goal, make it minimal.3. " Go behind the interest only if you can afford".If you cannot follow above, Practically u can : keep engaged in chai s, gossips, excercise etc.

bhawnaaein hee to hain, behne do. 25 saal ke baad chastity master krne ka koi matlab naheen hai. Had you been married, you would indulge in sex almost daily. Just do not keep thinking about or fanatasizing whole day - you'll end up wasting your time. Masturbate once everyday if the urge is too much or at 2-3 days and be happy. Keep focus where it matters the most. Sex to poori duniya krti hai. Tum bhi karoge hee kabhi.

This is what the society says. Everything is hyper-sexualized as sex sells. I believe great men and women like Nicola Tesla, Mother Teresa etc. achieved greatness as they had total control on their thoughts. The question is, how.

bhawnaaein hee to hain, behne do. 25 saal ke baad chastity master krne ka koi matlab naheen hai. Had you been married, you would indulge in sex almost daily. Just do not keep thinking about or fanatasizing whole day - you'll end up wasting your time. Masturbate once everyday if the urge is too much or at 2-3 days and be happy. Keep focus where it matters the most. Sex to poori duniya krti hai. Tum bhi karoge hee kabhi.

This is what the society says. Everything is hyper-sexualized as sex sells. I believe great men and women like Nicola Tesla, Mother Teresa etc. achieved greatness as they had total control on their thoughts. The question is, how.

Do you know why religion, bhakti songs, literature is created. It is to control men, from every vices, and one of them is strong sexual urge. I don't believe in god, but still I remember teachings of Gita everyday, I hear to bhajans of classical type everyday, I go to temple, and never indulge in vulgur talks with my friends except occasionally. This all keeps me away from bad thoughts. The message is to engage with positivity of life. It helps in forgetting the urge between your legs. Have you ever experienced that a boy never prefers sexual urge while playing game. This is the positivity in which he engages himself.

bhawnaaein hee to hain, behne do. 25 saal ke baad chastity master krne ka koi matlab naheen hai. Had you been married, you would indulge in sex almost daily. Just do not keep thinking about or fanatasizing whole day - you'll end up wasting your time. Masturbate once everyday if the urge is too much or at 2-3 days and be happy. Keep focus where it matters the most. Sex to poori duniya krti hai. Tum bhi karoge hee kabhi.

This is what the society says. Everything is hyper-sexualized as sex sells. I believe great men and women like Nicola Tesla, Mother Teresa etc. achieved greatness as they had total control on their thoughts. The question is, how.

Have you read Daniel kahneman. Even if not his book. But just about system 1 and system 2 of brain is worth knowing. May be these "great men and women" engage such thoughts with system 1, as a habit to ignore. And thus never through system 2 which is thoughtful. May be!!

1. Look for long term satisfaction. Remember Tulsidas's story. How he was infatuated with his wife. But then he was shaken up by his wife to look beyond. Look for long term satisfaction, the immediate urges may hold you back.

2. Be in good company - of books, thought, ideas, people as well but I m not confident about the last one. You can explore more ideas and thoughts than people. And then select out of that. Choose good company.

3. The pain of discipline or regret? Choose. Not necessarily about sexual urges. It's actually not about sexual desires. But a general guiding principle.

4. Explore restraint as a virtue. Remember the ideal of maryada purushottam.

The whole enjoyment is in chasing the partner, pre-coitus engagement (courtship) etc.If you don't have a mature partner, it becomes liability in long run and may drain you- emotionally, financially, physically.

If you want coitus, follow this.1)Don't go by looks while considering a partner. We tend to rate ourself higher and set a high standard. This is a death trap for your sexual deaire.2) Be physically active(focus on squats, kegel and other such exercise) and eat right.3)Use protection. 4)Don't chase a wild goose.5)Be clear about your motive from the beginning.

The whole enjoyment is in chasing the partner, pre-coitus engagement (courtship) etc.If you don't have a mature partner, it becomes liability in long run and may drain you- emotionally, financially, physically.

If you want coitus, follow this.1)Don't go by looks while considering a partner. We tend to rate ourself higher and set a high standard. This is a death trap for your sexual deaire.2) Be physically active(focus on squats, kegel and other such exercise) and eat right.3)Use protection. 4)Don't chase a wild goose.5)Be clear about your motive from the beginning.

The whole enjoyment is in chasing the partner, pre-coitus engagement (courtship) etc.If you don't have a mature partner, it becomes liability in long run and may drain you- emotionally, financially, physically.

If you want coitus, follow this.1)Don't go by looks while considering a partner. We tend to rate ourself higher and set a high standard. This is a death trap for your sexual deaire.2) Be physically active(focus on squats, kegel and other such exercise) and eat right.3)Use protection. 4)Don't chase a wild goose.5)Be clear about your motive from the beginning.

You are right.Compatibility is an important, rather oft-quoted fact of books like kamasutra.Be it physical, emotional, intellectual- it plays an important role in the sexual congress of the pair. Alas! Indian society provides less opportunities to test this compatibility before marriage. But time are changing.

The whole enjoyment is in chasing the partner, pre-coitus engagement (courtship) etc.If you don't have a mature partner, it becomes liability in long run and may drain you- emotionally, financially, physically.

If you want coitus, follow this.1)Don't go by looks while considering a partner. We tend to rate ourself higher and set a high standard. This is a death trap for your sexual deaire.2) Be physically active(focus on squats, kegel and other such exercise) and eat right.3)Use protection. 4)Don't chase a wild goose.5)Be clear about your motive from the beginning.

There are several posts, topics and discussions on strong sexual urges which fellow members try to fight during this long preparation phase (maybe due to absolute isolation). Although, sex is highly over-rated, the urge itself is really strong (specially for the unmarried) and resisting that is a herculean task. Many hours are wasted trying to control such thoughts and still they are not tamed.

The purpose of this thread is simple. I request fellow members to throw some light on this topic and if it is important to control such urges during the preparation phase. Also, the various benefits of such control and how not to indulge in certain activities which may prove to be disastrous and addictive, specially during the preparation phase. Secondly, how to use this strong urge for increased concentration. It is beyond doubt that giving in to such strong urges is a vicious cycle in itself and it may destroy lives totally.

Request to members: Please try to keep the thread clean and refrain from going off topic by using crude, provocative language (no bakar).Request to mods: Please delete the thread if it does not serve the overall objectives of the forum.

Thanks

Bro you are trying to control the urge which is most difficult to control and the people who have successfully controlled it , took years of experience/ practice to gain that control.If you know the law of conservation of energy then sexual urges itself is one type of energy and it needs to be diverted to somewhere else to control it.It is even more difficult now a days to control it as there are so many distractions that makes it extremely difficult to avoid them unless you are living in some remote Himalayan place.Remember that more you try to control more will it be difficult to control.

Thanks for all the inputs. I also want to understand the benefits of being a chaste on UPSC preparations. Some experiences please.

You are serving a great cause -by not giving competition to your fellow mates. Benefits are to them. Things won't be so Rossy when you'll become 40...

could you throw some light on this? Even our Hon. PM is a chaste. I dont think he is missing something from life. Further, I want to know impacts of being a chaste during the preparation phase. Our minds have to peak and I am ready to do whatever it requires to hit that peak.

Not related to UPSC preparation but, controlled it for 72 days continuously(actually the word controlling should be used for the last 7-8 days) as target was for 72 days.

Now the why part:Read somewhere "If u can control your sperm, then u can control everything)..So I tried.How:I challenged myself.Experiences:If controlling extremely jabarjasti (in my case 71st and 72nd day)..u become short tempered, ekdam chid chida.Suggestion:Stop relating this feeling to anything, No need to relate it with GS paper-4.Not everyone is Gautam Budhha(talking about controlling mind , not urge)here. When you are thirsty, u drink and When hungry, u eat.

Thanks for all the inputs. I also want to understand the benefits of being a chaste on UPSC preparations. Some experiences please.

You are serving a great cause -by not giving competition to your fellow mates. Benefits are to them. Things won't be so Rossy when you'll become 40...

could you throw some light on this? Even our Hon. PM is a chaste. I dont think he is missing something from life. Further, I want to know impacts of being a chaste during the preparation phase. Our minds have to peak and I am ready to do whatever it requires to hit that peak.

First of all Modi is 67 years old. At that age you don't have to try keeping yourself chaste. But in any case how do you know he is chaste?

Thanks for all the inputs. I also want to understand the benefits of being a chaste on UPSC preparations. Some experiences please.

You are serving a great cause -by not giving competition to your fellow mates. Benefits are to them. Things won't be so Rossy when you'll become 40...

could you throw some light on this? Even our Hon. PM is a chaste. I dont think he is missing something from life. Further, I want to know impacts of being a chaste during the preparation phase. Our minds have to peak and I am ready to do whatever it requires to hit that peak.

First of all Modi is 67 years old. At that age you don't have to try keeping yourself chaste. But in any case how do you know he is chaste?

He is more energetic than people almost 20 years younger. I guess that's just one benefit.

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