(Closed) Wedding Planning vs. A Life

Although I love you and enjoy our time together I feel like our relationship has over shadowed other aspects of my life. I feel like we have turned into one of those couples that infrequently venture out into other social circles, and when we do, we only talk about each other, boring everyone in the room. For instance, while I should have been studying for my Anatomy and Physiology class, I instead chose to spend the last two hours with you. We will inevitably break up in the spring of 2010 and I feel as if I will have a unhealthy void in my life to fill when you are gone. Maybe we should take a break and see other people. There’s actually a very cute Psychology class I have my eye on recently as well as a social life that has been calling me up lately. Please know I love you and the choice to spend so much time together was my own, but I feel we would both benefit from a break. I would again have multiple interests and you would stop suffering from obsessive overplanning.

Lol, so funny! Yeah, sometimes I realize I’ve been preoccupied with wedding planning and I take a step. This is why I did a year and half engagement, to make sure I can do all the planning but it doesn’t consume my life. Sometimes I just think I should get everything done now that I possibly can so idle time, is made for wedding plans lol.

OR…maybe I can start planning my…I mean our…soon to be annual,”renewal-of-our-vows!” Why stop planning when it will only lead to a gigantic void in my social calendar and force me to deal with my crippling need to micromanage? I’ll spend the rest of my (dammit! I mean OUR!) life in a blissful, yet delusionary state of, “pre-wedding-joy” 🙂

Haha… this is exactly why I advocate a short engagement, if you can swing it financially! My husband proposed on 4/12/09, we set the date a couple weeks later, and got married 9/12/09.

I am the kind of person that obsesses about planning things in general, so I knew wedding planning would be a nightmare if dragged out over a year or more. I am so happy that we kept it short. I did a solid three months of planning, one month of letting my husband take over, and now after the wedding I don’t feel like I am missing anything because I wasn’t doing it for too too long.

We have had a long engagement, like a year and half by the time it is all said and done. I figured this would be a good amount to plan and that it wouldn’t take over my life, I was wrong!! I definitely think that these last few months have been hectic, but I am glad I have had all this time because I have changed my mind on so many things that I know now will be perfect. I really think I will have withdrawal when its over. I even told my FI to expect to hear “It is so weird to not have to think about wedding stuff” like a million times on our honeymoon.