Sure, she may have vibrating silicone, but you have a tongue, fingers, and a penis. Try these sex tips to work all your tools to their greatest orgasm-producing potential.

1. Give her a thumbs-up.Use your thumb to press on her G-spot, as if you were making a thumbprint on her vaginal wall, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of She Comes First. (You’re shooting for the area about 2 inches inside the vaginal opening, on the front side.) “The G-spot responds to firmer pressure than the clitoris does,” says Kerner.

An alternate G-trick: Insert your index finger in a “come-hither” curl position inside her vagina while applying pressure on her pubic bone with your other hand. This dual stimulation heightens sensitivity.

2. Hold your tongue. “A flat, still tongue is one of the most underestimated oral-sex techniques,” says Kerner. “It’s great for inducing orgasm, but it’s also a nice breather between strokes.” Gently push your tongue into her vulva and let her do the work, setting the pace, pressure, and rhythm.

3. Cover the spread. During missionary-position sex, hold her legs close together instead of spreading them apart. That way, “it’s much easier for her pelvic muscles to reach a state of involuntary spasm,” says Kerner.

4. Join forces. Incorporating a vibrator into your hookup sessions is the kind of threesome she’ll be into—plus, it makes your job easier. While entering her from behind, stimulate her clitoris with a small vibe like the Pocket Rocket.

5. Or just leave her alone. Embrace a lady’s love of toys; they can improve your shared sex life. “Women who masturbate know their bodies, and they’re often able to reach orgasm with a partner more easily than those who don’t,” says Diana Wiley, Ph.D., a Los Angeles- based sexologist. And nothing makes a man a better lover than his dedication to a woman’s pleasure, by whatever means necessary. What the heck, maybe she’ll let you watch.