Sunday, March 25, 2012

Everyone has different markers for spring. The rhubarb is up in the the yard so I say it's official: spring is here. Of course, in Nebraska, it could still freeze or snow for a few more weeks. There has been a lot of talk about this in the neighborhood. I figure we should just enjoy each day and not worry about what may come. There are plenty of things to worry about if you feel the need to fret.

Spring really doesn't care much about the calendar anyway. Like most important things in life, it arrives in it's own time. There was a great Mary Oliver poem on the Writer's Almanac this week titled Spring. It began "Somewhere a black bear has just risen from sleep and is staring down the mountain..."
What a great beginning for a poem. You feel that moment of possibility.

Our two-year-old great nephew was at a family dinner here last night and he is the walking (or running) definition of possibility. He always has a huge smile on his face and he is happiest when he is discovering something new. Toddlers, with their beautiful soft skin, duck fuzz hair and goofy first words are all about beginnings and possibilities. You look at them and wonder what joys away them.

The poem continues later with a line that says "There is only one question: how to love this world." It's easier to love a world filled with happy children, spring sunshine and the rhubarb.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

A week ago Saturday we left Omaha and six hours later we stepped out of the airport in Libera, Costa Rica, where it was 90 degrees and everyone in our immediate area was a surfer dude.
We slathered ourselves with sun block, put on hats and T-shirts and stayed in the shade while enjoying the glorious warmth.

We traveled with a group of six friends and friends-to-be. Mark is always happy in a crowd but I tend to be a bit of a lone wolf so it's good for me to mingle a little. I have more moments when I would be happy to hide behind a book. One morning I gathered my coffee and toast and prepared to sit quietly and enjoy the sun on the deck only to find, after about 2 minutes, that someone wanted to join me and talk about everything planned for the day.

There were other moments when I was out of my comfort zone as we call it these days. I went zip-lining for the first time although I did pass on white-water rafting later that same day. I wasn't sure my heart could take it. On a boat ride down the river I had a monkey crawl across my shoulders. While everyone else was saying how cute he was, I was holding my breath. All the birds were wonderful and I was fine watching them from the river but wasn't really ready to get close-up and personal with the wildlife.

All in all it was a great experience and I would go back there any time. Now I'm back to knitting and reading but that little bit of warmth and daring will hold me through the rest of the winter.

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Well, it finally snowed. We have been waiting all winter. Not that I am complaining about all the balmy days we have had. The sun has been wonderful but somehow, you need a few beautifully snowy days to remind you that you live in the Midwest.

When we woke Saturday, the world was covered in a blanket of white and we had no power. Mark thought we needed to shovel. I thought we needed to figure out how to get a cup of coffee. Let me just say right here that Mark loves to do things that begin with bundling up and end with rosy cheeks. I, on the other hand, am happiest staying warm.

When he came in from a little work on the driveway to find me already in my coat and hat, he knew it was time for a trip to the coffee shop. We took the papers and headed over for coffee and a scone. Lots of folks had the same idea so it was a sociable outing. We ran into a book club friend who said he and his wife were headed out to cross country ski later and invited us to join them. Mark got that look again: the bundling up, rosy cheek look. I on the other hand, planned to knit and read the day away. So that's what we did. Mark skied and I hung out here.

This morning after church Mark suggested that I really needed to try going cross country skiing with him. I had planned on another afternoon of serious knitting but he looked so excited by the prospect, I said yes. I haven't been on skis for about 30 years so I didn't hold high hopes for a great outing but we took it slow and Elmwood Park is fairly flat. On the way home, Mark asked if I needed another cup of coffee. I'm not sure I'm ever going to be a great outdoor gal but it's good to share interests.

Tonight we will watch the Superbowl for an hour or so and then switch to Downton Abby. A little of both is OK.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

I was sitting in the coffee shop with four of my friends last week. A man we all know, a business man and husband of another friend, stopped by the table for a minute. "How are all you girls?" he asked politely.
I'm pretty sure if it had been Mark, he would have said 'ladies' and honestly, I'm not sure anyone else even noticed or cared. Does it matter?
Mark's brother, who now lives in the South and has developed an accent to match, always talks about how he couldn't get along without the 'girl' who runs his office. Every time he uses the word, my toes curl a little inside my shoes. I want to ask how old she is, but I don't think he would get it and Mark would probably rather I just kept my mouth shut.
I suppose I could take it as a compliment to be called a girl but somehow it always feels a little demeaning. If we are girls, we must not be doing anything too important. When we see a group of men, we don't call them boys, maybe guys but not boys.
Of course I wouldn't have said anything at the coffee shop. That's the heck of it. Who wants to be the crank that makes everyone uneasy over something as trivial as that? I do write the script later in my mind. It would be a great start to a short story. I'll think about that for a while.