10 ways to be a happy. The strategy of happiness

That sometimes prevents us achieve happiness? Do you think other people or circumstances? Of course, you are sadly mistaken! As psychologists say the fact is as we used to look at the world.

That sometimes prevents us achieve happiness? Do you think other people or circumstances? Of course, you are sadly mistaken! As psychologists say the fact is as we used to look at the world.
It turns out that happier people are less cause for frustration. How did they do it? Here are ten "magic secrets" that could be adopted. The happiness that cannot be measured, feel. Happiness - it's a state of mind.

1. Do not attach too much importance to the opinions of others.

We often entirely dependent on the opinion of relatives, neighbors, friends, colleagues and saddened when we condemn. Meanwhile, how many people - so many opinions. What difference would think a neighbor Aunt Lyuba about your new coat? The main thing that you liked it the most. Of course, you can listen to another's point of view, but in the end do as you see fit.

2. Be able to look at the situation from the outside.

Suppose you have a long conflict with someone, and it poisons your life. Both of you think are right, and neither one of you does not make concessions. Look at it through the eyes of a third, a stranger, is it worth it at all to break a lance? This will help you make a decision - to stop communicating or make peace.

3. Do not regret a missed opportunity.

Yes, once you do not pass the exam to a prestigious university. Or met with a man, but he chose your friend ... It is already too late, that this recall and mourn the past? So that is your destiny. And, in the end, everything has a positive side - you got invaluable experience! It is better to analyze the reasons of the failures in the future and join in solving the current problems.

4. Know how to be grateful.

And not someone, but life itself. Every day before going to bed remember that good happened to you before, and say "thank you." Then the positive situation will themselves be attracted into your life.

5. Often remember the happy moments of your life.

Let's say the day you received the diploma thesis defended, got married, the day was your triumph in a career when I got your first book or article ... Try like to relive that moment, to feel what you felt then. Thinking of new uses that evoke these feelings: it will give you a boost of energy for the future.

6. Learn to laugh at yourself.

Sometimes people are unhappy because others are laughing at them (or so it seems). Meanwhile, the self-irony - is a sign of strong spirit. Be able to recognize their weaknesses and to treat them with irony. Let's say you messed up her hair in a barbershop. Instead of developing a complex about it, say, "Today, I have an extreme haircut!"

7. Live for today.

You should not ever look back on the past, especially on the negative experience. If five years ago you went through a bad novel, it does not mean the same things to be repeated again, because now you are older, more experienced and wiser ... And the men are all different. Stop Worrying and turn your gaze to the present.

8. Do not stop to explore the world.

This may be reading books, learning foreign languages, new hobbies, travel. Never assume that you are too old for that. And in 50 years, you can discover something new, and this is what allows us to realize themselves and to be happy.

9. Do not envy anybody.

Comparing ourselves to others, we are usually unhappy because they do not have what they have. Rather, we believe so. In fact, all people have their own problems: a friend, which is good money work alone in his personal life, friend, married to a wealthy businessman, forced to endure constant betrayal and boorish treatment of her husband, and a colleague who is very happily married, suffers from , for health problems and to constantly run to the doctors ... Better find, which is why you can be envied, and rejoice for themselves!

10. Communicate only with the lucky!

It is ironic, but the failures are contagious. Therefore excluded from the circle of your communication of people who are unhappy with everything and always have the habit of whining and complaining about life. Maintain relationships only with those who have a positive life attitude, who has achieved success and harmony, or at least close to it - and you'll see how to change your own life!