Thanks for the great questions. I write my baby like 2 or 3 times a week, but sometimes I draw a blank. I have a million things to say to her until I start writing, then I'm like duh... Anyway, these questions will keep us going for quite a while. Thanks a million...

I share everything with him I even spend me weekends writing him, in a timeline fashion and then mail it first thing Monday morning. I write him twice on Wednesday funny things that i find on Facebook or in the newspaper and write Saturday on one of the envelope so he will have mail for Saturday.

I tell him all!!! ...remember that to live for yourself and YOUR MAN. Also you must take care of yourself at the same time. I personally just read a few blogs on here and know I am not alone (which is comforting) but do I take others advice? If I feel it may be useful ....I do not take negative feedback; like I said I live for me and my man(not for PTO) because all our journey is different through this- is a self based not what others think you should do or not do....only you know and what you can handle. I choose to be myself, be by myself, not be a follower, no drama, be happy and give my man all the LOVE and SUPPORT he needs. I LOVE YOU Baby I write write write, emails, emails, and chat and chat on cell with my man and send $$$$ and ...I am faithful.....faithful ..faithful... He will be transfering...yay!! So I will be moving closer to him for visits...YES! Remember take one day at a time-DO NOT EVER Give up on HIM!!

I tell him everything...if I'm cleaning, what errands I'm running, what I watch on tv...I even complain about my monthly cramps. I've asked him if he wants me not to share so much & he said absolutely do not stop telling him everything. He said it is an escape & break in the monotony of his day & it makes him feel closer to me to know my daily life.

All you women commenting on here about your "man" do realize that this forum is for Wives, Girlfriends, ect...that are incarcerated right?!

There are hardly any men on this site and when I see there is a new posting in our forum I get excited about it only to find out that its just women commenting in our section again about their "men".

Do you all not have enough of your own forums? Every once in a while I'd like a post I read to be from another guy so I can get his view on whatever topic is being discussed.

I'm not trying to sound like an ass, just throwing that out there

I love how this thread came to a screeching halt after this post.

I tell her a fair amount. I tell her what's most important. It's not that I'm hiding anything, I'm just not able to communicate well with her. I don't get to visit and am limited to one phone call per week so I write often. If it wasn't for the letters, she wouldn't know much at all. She doesn't want to risk telling me too much about what goes on in there, in case her mail is read by the CO's and I'm not able to tell her everything I'd like to. In less than a month she'll be released and I'm really looking forward to catching up.

I share pretty much everything with my woman who's on 'vacation' I mean... I don't share when I get close with my hand lol... But like everything else I tell her about. What I had for dinner, how the boys are doing in school... what I bought at the grocery store etc... I try to make it like she's still here i wish she was. In a couple months she will be!

When I write, I aim for four pages; I talk a little about what I've been up to, ask how she's doing and whats new, and maybe talk about a topic or two. For me, I'm a clown, so I always try to throw as many jokes or laugh-enduing statements because it's my style and also because she says it's always her favorite part.

When I write my letters, I always try to do two things; make her laugh as many times as possible, and ask as many questions as possible. I realize that sitting in her pod all day every day, it might get hard to come up with stuff to write about.

The following was sent to me by a dear friend. It is ment to see how well do you know your mate. Better yet, it can be used to test your compatability. That is not to say the two people involved have to share all the same answers, but it does provide some interesting insight into your chosen love. One thing to keep in mind is:

"If two people are exactly alike.... there is probably no need for one of them "

31. Where were you born32. Where did you live most of your childhood life33. What was your most memorable childhood moment34. What was you big childhood fear (i.e. the dark, monsters, etc.)35. What did you aspire to be when you were a child36. Is it what you are doing now… What changed37. What was your favorite game as a child38. Where did you go to school39. What’s the funniest thing that has ever happened to you40. What was your most embarrassing moment41. What was the single most significant turning point in your life42. What was your favorite memory of your mother43. What was you favorite memory of your father44. What was your favorite school year and why45. What was your most embarrassing moment as a child46. What was the hardest thing you had to learn47. What was your favorite play toy48. Who was your best friend when you were young49. What was the one toy you always wanted, but never received50. How did you spend your favorite summer vacation

About You:

51. What animal resembles you most and why52. If you could have any job in the world, what would it be53. If you could go back and change one thing in your past, what would it be54. If you were granted three wishes, what would you wish for55. If you won the lottery, how would you spend the money56. What Disney character to you most resemble and why57. What one thing do you want to accomplish most during your life58. If you could break one habit forever, right now, what would it be59. If you could have one magical power, what would it be and why60. What three things are you most proud about

Personal Beliefs:

61. What religion, if any, do you believe in62. What things do you feel passionate about63. Do you believe in love at first sight64. What’s the difference between love, romance, and sex65. Do you believe it is proper for people to express their romantic feelings in public66. Do you believe in God67. Do you believe in an afterlife68. What purpose do you believe organized religion serves69. Do you believe life exists on other planets70. What are your views regarding abortion71. What do you feel about interracial couples72. How do you feel about same sex marriages or relationships73. What are your views on age gap relationships (more than 10 years apart)

Dreams and Desires:

74. What is your idea of a dream house75. What is your idea of a dream car76. What is your idea of a dream vacation77. What would your ideal romantic weekend getaway be78. What would your ideal birthday celebration be79. What is your life dream80. If you had three wishes, what would they be81. What do you want most from life82. If you could create the absolute, perfect job for yourself, what would it be83. What three areas of your life do you want to improve84. What five things do you want to accomplish or do in the next few years85. Where do you want to be in 5 years… 10 years… 20 years86. What are your life goals87. What are your passions88. If you had a million dollars how would you spend it?

Preferences & Pet Peeves:

89. Do you prefer the cold or hot… Why90. Are you a morning or night person… Why91. What is your biggest pet peeve92. What if you could be a comic strip character… who would it be93. Are you a cat-person or dog-person94. What do you do when you feel sad or depressed95. What do you do when you feel angry or upset96. What three words best describe you97. Do you save of a rainy day or live life as it comes98. Gossip… Turn on or Turn off99. Smoking… Turn on or Turn off100. Weight problems… Turn on or Turn off101. Surprises… Turn on or Turn off102. Quiet places… Turn on or Turn off103. Loud places… Turn on or Turn off104. Ambition… Turn on or Turn off105. Competition… Turn on or Turn off106. Outdoors… Turn on or Turn off

Battle of the Sexes:

107. A man is a better lover because …108. A woman is a better lover because…109. A man would make a better world leader because…110. A woman would make a better world leader because…111. A man’s greatest fear is …112. A woman’s greatest fear is…113. All men like to hear… 114. All women like to hear…115. The best thing about being a man is…116. The best thing about being a woman is…

Romantic Inclinations:

117. What is your idea of a perfect date118. What is you favorite romantic gesture119. What are the top ten gifts you would love to receive120. What is your idea of the perfect romantic gift121. What is your idea of the perfect romantic vacation122. In what three ways is your love most helpful and supportive to you123. What unique thing do you love about this relationship124. What do you consider to be romantic125. What do you love about your partner126. What is your idea of the perfect romantic evening from start to finish127. What do you think true love is128. Do you believe in soul mates129. Do you believe in love at first sight130. Do you believe fate plays a hand in finding love131. Do you feel romance is an important part of a relationship… Why132. Do you think friends make better lovers133. What have you learned about love from other people134. Do you think that true love can conquer all

Your Relationship With Each Other:

135. What was the most significant thing about your first kiss with your partner136. When did you know you were in love137. What was the most flattering thing your partner has ever said to you138. What five attributes do you admire most in your love139. What three things can you do to make your relationship even better140. How is your life better since you’ve met your love141. Do you have trouble expressing your feelings towards your partner… if so, when…142. What are you looking forward to most when you see them143. What one thing do you really appreciate that your partner does for you144. How do your differences compliment each other145. Did you do anything to try and “get” your partner before you were together146. You love it when your partner does…147. You love it when your partner calls you…148. The most romantic thing your partner has ever done was…149. The most memorable moment spent with your partner was…150. What are the three best things about your partner…151. What is the best thing about being with your partner…

Life Together:

152. Should couples live together before marriage153. Is honesty always the best policy, even if it hurts154. Do you believe marriage is forever155. What is the most important part of a relationship156. Do you feel comfortable asking your partner for anything157. What role should a wife play in a marriage158. What role should a husband play in a marriage159. Do you know your partner’s favorite: color, movie, food and drink160. If you could change one thing about your relationship with your partner what would it be

For Better or Worse:

161. Do you believe in marriage162. Do you believe you should only marry once163. What do you hope to gain from marriage164. What do you expect from a marriage partner165. What do you feel is the purpose of a couple getting married166. How should we agree to handle arguments167. If you’re mad about something how will you let me know168. If you were having problems would you talk it out or keep it inside169. Do you like sharing your feelings170. What are your views about friends of the opposite sex171. How do you feel about ex-lovers being friends172. How important is a girl or guy’s night out173. How would you handle your partner if they developed a problem such as gambling or alcohol

174. What would you do if your partner cheated on you175. At what point would you consider divorcing a life mate

For Love or Money:

176. Who should hold the main financial responsibility in a marriage177. Should a wife stay home with kids178. What are your views about stay-at-home dads179. How do you feel about women who make more money than men180. What are your views towards handling money181. Do you feel you should save everything182. Do you feel you should splurge a little183. How would you rate your ability to handle money184. How would you handle a debt problem185. What would you do if your partner became disabled and couldn’t work186. What would you do if your partner faced long-term unemployement187. What would you expect from that partner

Love and Children:

188. Do you want children189. If so, how many190. Would you want a girl or boy191. Do you enjoy being around children192. How many children do you think a couple should have193. Would you raise your kids like your parents raised you194. How would you discipline your children195. What do you think the role of a mother is196. What do you think the role of a father is197. Who do you expect would be the primary care giver for your children198. Do you think couples should argue in front of their kids199. Do you feel couple should have displays of affection in front of their kids200. How would you explain sex to your kids201. What would your dating policy be towards your kids202. How would you handle your children if they were involved in an interracial, same sex or age gap relationship203. How would you explain about drug and alcohol204. What are your views on the educational system205. How would you want your children educated… Public… Private… Home or other

Love and Sex:

206. Do you feel sex is an important part of staying happy in a relationship207. What area of your sexual relationship would you like to improve208. If you could try just one thing with your partner what would it be209. Do you feel 100% comfortable about yourself sexually with your partner? Why or why not?210. How important is a partner’s sexual past to you211. Do you feel like you know everything about your partner’s sensual desires212. What is the difference between having sex and making love213. Do you think sexual variety is important to a lasting relationship214. What is your favorite form of foreplay215. What is your favorite way to kiss216. What is your favorite sexual position217. What is your favorite way to be touched218. What is your favorite way to touch your partner219. What is your most secret sexual fantasy220. What is your favorite place to make love221. What is your favorite music to make love by222. What is your favorite time of day to make love223. What is your favorite after sex activity224. Who do you think should be more dominant in a sexual relationship, the male or the female225. What is the most sexually attractive feature about your partner226. If you could improve one thing about your sexual relationship what would it be

257. What do you feel is your best personality trait258. What do you feel is your worst character flaw259. Do you regret anything you’ve done in the past260. Are there any opportunities you wish you hadn’t passed on261. If you could write a book based on your life, what would the title of it be262. If you were to spend an entire day alone what would you do263. What is the worst job experience you’ve ever had264. What is the best job experience you’ve ever had265. What things irritate you266. If you could change one thing about the world we live in, what would it be267. Would you rather own your own company or work for someone else268. How important is your career to you269. If you had to choose a different career what would it be270. What do you like to do to cheer yourself up if you are feeling depressed about something271. Do you feel your life has gone the way you wanted it to272. Overall, how would you rate your achievements in life273. How do you feel about speaking in public274. What is your worst fear275. If you could change the way our government was run or handled, what would you change about it276. How do you feel about our current political leaders277. Do you feel the end justifies the means278. What was the worst nightmare you’ve ever had279. What was the best dream you’ve ever had280. What was the scariest moment you’ve ever experienced281. How do you feel your relationship is with your family282. Do you agree with the way your parents raised you… why or why not…283. If you could have been born in any country, where would it have been284. What is the best way for you to relieve stress285. Would you consider yourself a country or city person286. What astrological sign are you… Do you feel it resembles your actual personality287. What do you feel is the most annoying habit you have288. Do you feel you are good with people289. Are you naturally extroverted or introverted290. Do you feel you tend too judge people to quickly291. Would you rather have many friends or just a small group of close friends292. What is your favorite way to celebrate holidays293. How would you rate your desire to keep things tidy294. What has been the most influential experience in your life295. Who has been the most influential person in your life296. What is the one life lesson that you have learned that you wish everyone else knew as well297. If you could eliminate one negative aspect from the world, what would it be298. If you could incorporate one positive aspect into the world, what would it be299. If you could change you name, what would you change it too300. How has answering these questions helped to improve our relationship

Long list but good guestions to ask thanks I'm gonna see what my baby's reply is to these

That's an excellent list for a couple who might not have spent a lot of time together. We were married for nearly 5 years before she went in so we know pretty much everything about each others likes, dislikes, etc. Our existence has become like two circles that barely intercept now. We can't share new experiences so we talk about what's in our heads more than what's going on in her world or mine.

Thanks for this list of conversation topics. My dear friend and I write each other pretty much everyday on jpay. With Christmas coming I really want to make sure she is always reminded that she is cherished. Hard things are going on in both our families. Through it all she sends me joy and love and I do what I can to return the same.

One of the little ways I do that is to send very nice postcards with beautiful pictures of things I know she will love. If I ever run out of good things to write, I just write about the picture. It's pretty easy to send at least one postcard a week no matter how busy I am at work and school. The postcards help us to have easy conversations in tough times, and I know she shares the pictures with a handful of good people around her. She tells me it makes their day brighter and helps fight the gray of prison.

I tell him all!!! ...remember that to live for yourself and YOUR MAN. Also you must take care of yourself at the same time. I personally just read a few blogs on here and know I am not alone (which is comforting) but do I take others advice? If I feel it may be useful ....I do not take negative feedback; like I said I live for me and my man(not for PTO) because all our journey is different through this- is a self based not what others think you should do or not do....only you know and what you can handle. I choose to be myself, be by myself, not be a follower, no drama, be happy and give my man all the LOVE and SUPPORT he needs. I LOVE YOU Baby I write write write, emails, emails, and chat and chat on cell with my man and send $$$$ and ...I am faithful.....faithful ..faithful... He will be transfering...yay!! So I will be moving closer to him for visits...YES! Remember take one day at a time-DO NOT EVER Give up on HIM!!

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