It is sometimes hard to explain to a 3 to 4-year-old kid about bullying especially if the conversation goes like this:

Son: Why do you think my friend A hits me and the other kids all the time whenever we play?

I: Did somebody hit your friend A first? Was somebody making fun of him?

Son: No mom… He is always like that, we were just playing then all of a sudden he would hit if he loses a game or if he can’t wait for his turn. If I and the other kids can wait, how come he can’t? I will not play with him anymore.

I: Son, some kids are different. Remember what I told you before? In this world, some people will be nice while some people will not be. It is up to you if you want to be on the nice team and the not nice team… It is your choice. We are always given a choice to be good or not. Oftentimes, when a person is not nice, there is a reason behind it. I am not saying that it’s ok to be not nice. I am making you realize that not all people will be nice to you. Try to ask friend A why he does that then tell him what’s good and not and that if he continues to do what he usually does he will not have friends eventually… If it doesn’t work, tell his parents that friend A keeps on hitting you and the other kids and if it still doesnt work I will talk to the kid and his parents.

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When I was young, I was bullied some for frivolous things, then into adulthood in subtle ways. One things I learned over the years, was to stick up for myself when being bullied even if that actually got me into trouble. I had the opportunity to defend two people from literal physical altercation, from bullies, yet I was the one who got in semi-trouble because the adults around were as dumb as a nail and actually PROTECTED the bully because of “who” the bullies parents were. Thankfully, I was raised to measure out which situations were worth fighting for, and those two were. Physical altercation isn’t bad when you’re defending someone, so we must train our children that being strong is a positive thing, yet being a bully is a negative thing. Most situations aren’t worth it, but when it comes to defending someone who can’t defend themselves, that’s our duty to stand up for what is right. Most things aren’t a white and black paint situation, there are grey areas in life. We shouldn’t write off that all fighting is bad, because that’s how the enemies run us or our children over. They don’t listen to laws, that’s why their outlaws. I agree with the first comment though about babies who hit, that stuff must be stopped because they must learn how to control their emotions. Self control is key. 💙

Bullies often don’t need more of a trigger than the realization that they are stronger or have more power than someone else. And, unfortunately, bullies are often very popular in school because if you’re not on their “friend list,” you’re on their target list.