Jari's Safari

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

I love the idea of TED nights. Each speaker brings so much excitement and passion to the table and it is so energizing I could burst! In putting together my own thoughts I ran through lists of ideas that I care about, but uncomfortably decided that I had to talk about multicultural identity.

Can you hear the drudgery already? The topic comes with so much weight that it is daunting instead of thrilling. I’m not colorblind; I don’t believe anyone truly is. I am perfectly capable of recognizing that I look slightly different than the basic white girl. Tonight I want to have a discussion about ethnicity and diversity that isn’t painful for everyone involved; so if you’ll agree to be patient and understanding I will promise to speak candidly and *maybe* (fingers crossed) we can accomplish it.

Allow me to introduce my parents. My mother is from Colorado and my father from Brazil. And they were fierce when it came to establishing a Santos family culture. We sing happy birthday in English, Portuguese and we sing a third song that my parents learned when they were dating just for kicks. We learned to love my mom’s family by spending our summers in Colorado. There was something magical in the long anticipation of seeing our cousins again and reestablishing traditions. On the other hand we had 6 of our Brazilian cousins, our grandmother, and the occasional aunt or uncle come and live with us for months or years at a time. We are insistent that you eat with your fork in the left hand and both feet planted firmly on the ground. And if you want to win an argument you better be prepared to speak the loudest and the longest. Sweetest of all, my Brazilian father taught me to love America while maintaining a mixed culture. His favorite holiday is the fourth of July and he sings “I’m proud to be an American” with more gusto than anyone you will ever meet. He is quick to express his gratitude for the opportunities that immigrating here offered him. My mother is as patriotic as they come, but it was my dad who truly taught me to admire this country…he also taught me that we wear green and yellow and cheer exclusively for Brazil during the World Cup. It was a different home life and I knew that, but I had no reason to believe that my different was stranger than any other families’ different and in my mind all of these differences still belonged under the great big umbrella of “normal.”

The fun part of growing up is that your ideas must be challenged. Enter senior year of high school. My 17-year-old self was sitting in the lunchroom one day when an unknown teacher approached me while speaking Spanish. I didn’t speak Spanish at the time so I said something back in English; and then the conversation took an awkward turn—she said, “wow, you speak English so well!” In a few words my whole world came crashing down. Why was she surprised that I spoke English so well? Do I speak English with an accent? Does she think I look like I shouldn’t speak English? I came home that day and told my mom “I don’t think people think I’m white!” What I was trying to articulate was I don’t think people perceive me as American, or normal, or equal. It stung. I felt robbed of an identity that I loved. My only consolation came from a Mean Girls quote, “you can’t just ask someone why they’re white.” And it’s true. Sadly nobody cares if you’re white, why you’re white, or where your whiteness comes from. The privilege of being fully white is that this apathy makes room for other things, like identifying people by their interests, their goals, their traditions or a myriad of other filters. Even though I am half white, and despite my parents’ best efforts to create a blended culture I was forced to face the one-drop rule—the rule that children of blended ethnicities take on the identity of the parent of color, in my case Brazilian.

That experience has been followed up with all kinds of uninformed remarks like “do you feel inferior to the other kids because you come from a biracial family?” “Are you adopted?” or “this is my friend Jari, she’s Brazilian.” Because we’re all close friends here I’ll let you know the answers to all those questions. I don’t feel inferior at all, but hearing that question lets me know when others view me as such. Just because I am not what you expect the daughter of a blonde-haired, blue-eyed, fair-skinned woman to look like does NOT mean that I am adopted. And it is never appropriate to use my genealogy to make it seem like you run in interesting or exotic crowds. I am not your trinket. To those of my friends who think that my mixed culture makes me interesting or special, I appreciate your kindness. But please know that labeling me as Brazilian comes with a host of assumptions that I may not identify with. I am not a great dancer, or fluent in Portuguese or an expert on Brazilian foods. Please do not pigeonhole me before I even have a chance to establish who I am on my terms.

The most frustrating part is that this dance of not being American enough is played out with equal force on my Brazilian half. When I landed in Brazil I felt like I belonged. I loved the music, the food, and the unrestrained affection. A piece of my heart had always belonged to that country and it felt at home upon my arrival. However, after my first day of school I heard “your last name is Santos and you look like us, but your Portuguese is terrible.” There was a constant focus on my accent, or American culture, or explaining why I hadn’t been properly taught to understand Brazilian culture. And on we went again. Regardless of country I have always experienced one-degree of separation, making it hard to truly belong to an individual country’s culture.

No matter how many times I hear things like this it never hurts less. The joy and heartbreak of being biracial is that I will never be Brazilian enough and I will never be American enough. No matter how hard I try I will still leave someone disappointed with my partial “otherness.” What I’m left with is the choice to develop my own identity.

If you ask me, I’m Jari. I’m an American who is half Brazilian and half Danish (if you’re interested in my mother’s bloodline). I also believe in a two-parts nutella to one-part toast ratio. I am developing a fondness for camping and hiking. I feel most like myself when I take spontaneous trips. Teasing is one of my favorite love languages. I’m obsessed with continual self-improvement. And I am probably a hufflepuff. I can’t speak for all halfsies or any other “others,” but I can suggest that maybe I’m not the only one who would like you to get to know me for me rather than asking “but where are you really from?”

Thursday, September 24, 2015

I love to celebrate birthday eve because the years are always so good and they deserve a proper send off. Tomorrow I'll try on 26 by heading off to Canada and introducing myself to Niagara Falls along the way; but for right now I'm just basking in the absolutely wonderful golden year I have had. 25, you have been full of precious memories, accomplishments and new experiences. I will remember you fondly.

I promised myself 25 "golden moments" throughout the year, and here they are:

1. I became an aunt. Lizabeth Charlotte Russ (a.k.a. Lizzy, a.k.a LC, a.k.a. Fat Baby) was born in late October and instantly became my most favorite human.

2. Thanksgiving: FINALLY meeting Fat Baby in real life! Friends. Family. Deep fried turkey. Swimming with Manatees. It was perfect and I loved every second of it!

4. Everyone should live with people they love. I have roommates that I love. Sometimes this means that I get the +1 invite to fancy work Christmas parties since a significant other is lacking. Swanky monuments cruise with awesome dinner and dancing? Totally worth people assuming that I'm a lesbian for the evening.

5. Celebrating Christmas and New Year's Eve in Florida. There's just something about breezy Florida winters that lead to crazy Christmas parties, absurdly large bon fires and laughing with the humans I love most in the world.

6. Visiting Canada. The reason for my trip was heartbreaking, but the people that I went to see will forever be dear to my heart. I love the Lowry family and I am so glad to know that families are eternal. I love their examples of strength and faith. I am blessed to know them.

7. Traveling Iceland with Julie and my mom. I may have spent a ridiculous amount of time asleep in the back seat of a car but I still climbed basalt columns and I learned that Iceland has four guardians: the bull, the eagle, a giant, and a dragon.

8. Kayaking in Annapolis. There is no better way to ring in spring.

9. Easter with my family. Aunty time with Fat Baby and making an assortment of deviled eggs with my mom and sister.

10. A spontaneous trip to Cancun. One Friday in April my coworkers asked me, "what are your weekend plans, Jari?" And I got to answer "Oh, I decided this morning that I want to go to Cancun, so I bought a ticket and I'm flying out after work." It was the best weekend decision I think I've ever made.

11. I became a very dedicated fan. Two words: Nardo Lilly. My friend Annie is an incredible musician and I have had a blast stalking her shows. You should watch one of her performances here, and then go like her facebook page here. No, but really, go like her page! She is the perfect combination of talent and wit. I adore her!

12. Touring Italy with Blake, Annalee and Lizzy. A. Italy is just stinking awesome with beautiful things to see everywhere. B. Annalee and Blake are my two dearest friends. If you would have told me 8 years ago that at 25 I would be driving around Tuscany in the middle of the night with Blake, Annalee and a baby I wouldn't have believed that such an incredible trip would possibly happen--but it did, and it was the best! C. Did you know that you can silence and entire block of drunk partiers by whisper shouting "SLEEPING BABY, QUIET PLEASE!" Because you can.

13. I took a solo trip to Istanbul. I haven't traveled alone since I was in South Africa, and I was nervous. Thankfully, I had a blast. If you are ever in Istanbul I highly recommend you take a Turkish bath.

14. Spontaneous camping (sometimes trips are better when you plan them last minute). My friend Kyle and I were driving around one Saturday and he asked if I had plans for the evening. I didn't, but I mentioned that it would be so nice to go camping. So we grabbed my roommate, bought some brats and headed out. It was beautiful!

15. Philly! Philly! Philly! I finally made it to Philadelphia! I ran the Rocky steps while a group of men attempted to sing the Rocky theme song, and I ate (and loved) a Philly cheesesteak.

16. Regular camping. I didn't grow up camping too much, Florida is just too hot for that business. I knew I loved the outdoors and I knew I liked camping, but this year was the first time that I did a lot of it and it was fabulous. I have a group of friends that would draw the envy of Taylor Swift and I loved adventuring Shenandoah with them.

17. Walk the Moon in concert. SHUT UP AND DANCE WITH ME! This was probably the most fun I have had at a concert since Mika in 2007.

18. The Fourth of July. Okay, one more camping story. There was talk of an ISIS attack on the Fourth and I didn't want to be near DC if that happened, so I convinced some other friends to flee with me and we took off to the mountains. We roasted an entire chicken for one of our dinners, met a pair of thru hikers on the Appalachian trail, got caught in a rain storm while hiking and puddle fought our way back to our site...it was just beautiful on all fronts. I love being outside for days with friends who are awesome problem solvers and good for conversation.

19. My roommate's favorite band is A Silent Film and I have grown to love them because of her. Then she landed tickets to a secret room concert and we ended up with 30 strangers in a church painted random neon colors for an intimate concert. I was featured on the pear shaped shaker for one of the songs, I can feel my big break coming.

20. Trail Magic comes to DC. Those thru hikers we met took a pit stop in DC and treated us to Indian food. I could listen to stories of the trail forever.

21. The Russtache Family Beach Trip. I adore my brother-in-law and his family. I love their senses of humor. I love their kindness. I love playing games with them. I love them for letting me hang around at family events like this.

22. A new house! Moving is kind of the worst, but living in an adorable house in an awesome town with my soulmate roommates--that's the best.

23. Once. You should go see this musical right now. It made we want to stomp and holler then cry all within 135 minutes.

24. Mama came to visit. We have talked about her coming to visit for ages, but she finally made it here! Taking her to Mt. Vernon and showing her around my town was a treat. Now she finally has an idea of all the things and places I chat about.

25. After three versions of the book and about a year of reading I finally finished reading Les Mis, and it was beautiful.

Good-bye, my golden year. You have been practically perfect in every way!

Monday, July 6, 2015

There was a moment on Sunday morning when the music had
replaced conversation in the car. I rested my head on the window and let my
brain run through all the disconnected thoughts that it pleased. Right in the
middle of reminiscing over the excellent weekend I had just experienced I
noticed that the trees were starting to thin. My heart stopped for a second,
and I knew I had just been hit with a case of the runaways.

During the previous month or so I attempted to make plans
for the Fourth of July weekend. Strong contenders were Tennessee, the beach,
Long Island, Florida and staying near the District. Eventually weather, funds,
my poor planning skills, a lack of interested companions and a potential
terrorist attack put a stop to all of those and mostly on a whim I took up an offer from a friend to go camping.
Camping and spontaneity are two of my favorite things; sprinkle that with a few
of my favorite humans and this seemed like the perfect plan was the
perfect plan.

You know when things just come together? We haphazardly
picked up groceries and packed the night before, leaving notes on the door just
in case we forgot anything. We still forgot things, but we had the essentials.
We left a little later than planned, but we left early enough. There were no
decent campsites available when we arrived, but in less than an hour the
perfect spot was vacated and we claimed it. We didn’t have enough rope but a
previous camper had left some in a tree. It was little things like that over
and over the entire weekend.

Not only that, but I was with three of the happiest campers. Let me just tell you what kind of people they are, okay! These
are people with fascinating thoughts and incredible dreams. My friends are the
kind of people who say, “Yeah, let’s go on a 13 mile hike. It might rain, but
we can do it!” They are also the kind of people who get distracted from said
hike by conversations with Appalachian Trail thru-hikers. They are the perfect
people to get caught in a mountain rainstorm with because they laugh or splash
puddles on you or tell you your hair looks nice in the rain. They are friends
who sing, friends who are kind, friends who speak their mind. I love them.

I almost wrote that this was a pretty ordinary camping trip,
just with extraordinary people, but that is a complete lie. This was a superior
camping trip! We built an incredible shelter with just one tarp and by standing
on shoulders to make a human ladder. We roasted an entire chicken for one of
our dinners. We had a history geek and a bio medical engineer over as guests
and they told us about their months long journey on the Appalachian Trail,
including a story of being charged by a bear. We even discovered a random Dukes
of Hazard themed restaurant in the middle of nowhere and sat in The General Lee.

I live a kind-of grown up life. I love my kind-of grown up
life! I have a rad job. I have awesome roommates. I live near tons of
interesting sites and activities. But weekends like this don’t let me come
back all the way. How can I when the smell of campfire is lingering in my hair and my legs are aching to wander?

I wrestle with the painful yet satisfying joy of nostalgia.
My heart aches for a few more mornings that promise a new adventure. I have a
case of the runaways and I’m pretty sure they refuse to be cured; but salty air
and crashing waves might be what take the edge off for now.

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

I fell out of love with blogging recently. It is hard to
blog when life seems pretty mundane; and, oh, has 2014 been mundane.

Thankfully, autumn came! I love autumn. Autumn is the world
catching on fire. Autumn is delicious smells. Autumn is one more magical
adventure before the world grows cold. Autumn is a different, special season. Autumn,
when the trees seem tired of holding their weight in leaves and it is time for
them to rest, but before they do there is lingering color. Color that stands as
one last reminder of sunny days and lemonade stands and bike rides and road
trips.

And do you know what happens right around the autumnal
equinox?MY BIRTHDAY! I’ve already
mentioned how excited I was for this birthday, but I’m going to say it again.
This year was my golden birthday! If golden birthdays aren’t already the
coolest thing ever, how about having a golden birthday during the golden
season? That is my life!

I was surrounded by gold the entire day: golden headband,
golden streamers, golden friends, golden gifts, gold, gold, gold. It was
perfect and I laughed and sang and enjoyed every minute of it.

Then, I went home to Florida. My family went above and
beyond this year. My roommate, Julie and I got in on a late flight and after
climbing into the back seat of my mom’s car I found a gold basket. They had
gathered all the goldest foods they could find. I had Haribo gummy bears (which
a. are my most favorite candy and b. come in a golden package), golden wafers, and
every gold wrapped hershey product you can think of.

It is hard for me to be around my family and not be full of
joy and energy. After getting home I didn’t want to go to bed. I wanted to keep
talking and laughing and soaking in every minute I could with these humans who
remind me that I’m good and that life is good. Eventually, I decided to put my
suitcase away. When I walked in the room I found exactly 25 blue balloons
attached to gold envelops. My sister had contacted 25 of my favorite family and
friends from every part of my life and they each wrote me a letter or a memory.

Let me just take a moment to thank each of you who wrote a
letter, those of you who texted, those who called, those who facebooked, and
all of you who reached out to me in a variety of ways on my birthday and
throughout the year. 24 was a doozy and it was incredible to be reminded that I
am surrounded by love and beauty and kindness and good examples and light.
Thank you for being so unbelievably wonderful to me. Thank you for thinking of
me. Thank you for caring. Thank you for expressing it. Thank you a million
times over for being a part of my life and for letting me be a small piece of
yours.

Anyway, after I let the mixture of tired, incandescently happy,
and emotional run it’s course we did the only thing that made sense…we had a
photo shoot.

The rest of the weekend called for air boating (thanks Bo!),
Brazilian food, and catching up with all the people I like best in this world. A
huge shout out to Blake for all of these pictures!

Singing 'Happy Birthday' was probably my favorite. We already have three songs that we sing to the birthday person, but add flaming sparkler candles and balloons that kept hitting us in the back of the head and it was a party. I ended up laugh-singing along too. I was also slightly terrified that My or Annalee's hair would catch fire.

A brownie cake full of gold sprinkles! This is the peak of birthday joy!

I've got that beard look on lock!

I've decided to fill my 25th year with golden moments. Here's to being a quarter of a century old!

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Today is my birthday eve. Tomorrow I will turn 25, and it’s a big
deal. I will be 25 on the 25th. For someone who loves their birthday
as much as I do a golden birthday is like Christmas meets Thanksgiving meets
payday meets Disney fireworks. I have been talking about this birthday for
years and I am so excited for it to get here! But today, on my birthday eve, I
want to pay tribute to how awesome 24 has been.

Truthfully, 24 will join the ranks of 21 and ages 12-14 (the hall
of fame for difficult years, if you will). Luckily, just because a certain year
may be difficult does not mean that it isn't filled to the brim with joy.

With that, I give you the most joyous moments of 24 (starting with
my mission):

1. The Toms River Branch throwing me a birthday party complete
with tinker bell balloons!

2. Lilia and Oscar got married

3. Oscar got baptized. Oscar, the man who used to walk out of
rooms the second he heard "las misioneras..." Oscar, who told me that
he was "a man of faith, not a man of religion." Oscar, who told me he
was too sick to leave his house and would never be able to attend church.
Oscar, who had one of the most incredible change of hearts I have ever seen.
Oscar, who isn't perfect, but who is doing what is right. Oscar, my dear, dear
friend whom I love. That man. He got baptized. It was awesome.

4. Crying happy tears in a parked car while talking to other
missionaries about experiences that changed our lives and how we wish the same
joy for everyone. Realizing that I loved my mission and that I did a good job
during my time in New Jersey. Feeling God’s love and feeling so close to heaven
I could burst.

5. Bearing my testimony every single day.

6. Leading music in front of a Hispanic congregation

7. Raking leaves for a stranger who we later found out had lost everyone
and everything else in her life and desperately needed help with her house
chores.

8. Attending the temple with President and Sister Jeppson. Hearing
them tell me I did a good job. Hearing their advice for life after the mission.

9. Being reunited with my family after 18 months!

10. Swimming with manatees and then having dolphins chase our
boat. Also canoeing and SCUBA diving and snorkeling and paddle boarding and boating. It was a good year for reacquainting myself with water.

11. A trip to New York with my mom and sister to see all the
Christmas decorations. BONUS: running into some of the greatest missionaries on
their way back from the temple AND seeing President and Sister Jeppson at the
Christmas fireside—hugs from President Jeppson really are the best!

12.Spending New
Years Eve in Canada with one of my most favorite people in the world!

13. Sailing for the first time.

14. Visiting New Jersey and reuniting with people who I love so
dearly.

15. Finding out that I’m going to be an aunt!!

16. Settling in, sight seeing, working, living and eating in/near
DC. So many firsts I have lost track.

18. Going back to Brazil. Seeing a world cup game where Brazil
played well. Visiting with family. Eating all of my favorite foods. Laughing
with my family. It was a dream trip!

19. Making my first quilt and having it turn out
fantastically.

20. Learning the art of the slackline.

21. Attending the sealing/wedding for one of my dearest
friends, Taiba! Feeling so close to heaven that day!

22. Seeing Les Mis live.

23. Remembering that I have talents outside of my church
activities and using them again!

24.Being a
temple worker.

This year has been a doozy, and it ended just when I felt
like I was getting a hang of things.

Every birthday I find myself reading the poem Eleven by Sandra Cisneros. “What they
don't understand about birthdays and what they never tell you is that when
you're eleven, you're also ten, and nine, and eight, and seven, and six, and
five, and four, and three, and two, and one… Because the way you grow old is
kind of like an onion or like the rings inside a tree trunk or like my little wooden
dolls that fit one inside the other, each year inside the next one. That's how
being eleven years old is. You don't feel eleven. Not right away. It takes a
few days, weeks even, sometimes even months before you say Eleven when they ask
you. And you don't feel smart eleven, not until you're almost twelve. That's
the way it is.”

So tomorrow I’ll turn 25, but I’ll still be 24 (smart 24 at
that). I will also still be a missionary, a college student, and a timid fifth
grader who just wants to hide her four eyes behind a copy of Anne of Green Gables. All the little
bits of me working their hardest to make the next year my best yet. So bring it
on 25, you’re sure to be nothing short of golden!

Thursday, February 13, 2014

I live in Virginia now. That is a story for another day, for now I'm going to fast-forward through a series of moments where I either felt
awkward, brain dead, or inadequate to arrive at today. Today is
“Galentine’s Day.” I don’t watch television, so that means very little to me other
than the fact that a group of women from church were having a Galentine’s Day
party. After being stuck indoors all day long I didn’t care what the reason
was I needed to get out of the house, so I went. The roads were slick and
snowy. I had a little bit of trouble getting out of the driveway, but it looked
to be mostly okay so I kept driving.

I got all the way to the street where the party was only to
catch just enough ice to swerve and get high-centered on a pile of snow.
Awesome. I will go ahead and stereotype myself; nobody should ever let a
Florida girl drive her prius around at night where the roads are snowy. It
should be forbidden.

Of course I am made up of one part stubborn and one part
ridiculous so I was out there on hands and knees trying to dig my car out of
this mess. It didn’t take long to figure out that wasn’t going to work so I ran
at full speed down the street to ask if I could borrow a snow shovel. During my
sprint I passed an older woman walking along on the icy sidewalks. When she saw
the crazy woman running towards her she got scared, slipped on the ice and fell
right over into a freezing puddle.So I started screaming and she started screaming and she wouldn’t let me
help her because she was terrified of me. Meanwhile my car is still half way
down the street, hazard lights a’beamin. I'm pretty sure that this lady is just as much of a drama queen as I am. She told me, "just go. Forget me. Save yourself!" So I took off running the rest of the
way down the street.

It wasn’t hard to find the party house; it was decorated
with cutesy red and pink baubles everywhere. I rang the doorbell and a
beautiful, cheerful redhead answered the door. She had a singsong voice and
started to say “Oh! Come on…” and I cut her off to demand a snow shovel. I'm sure I was a sight all covered in wet and snow with my hair trying to decide if it would rather be in dreads or produce electricity. Luckily, she was kind enough to
get one for me.

I got the shovel. I dug my car out. I drove back down the street
holding the shovel out my driver’s side door. Whatever, I made it to this
Galentine extravaganza. The only problem was that I am a socially awkward
individual. I didn’t know any of the women there, they don’t know me, and so I
just sat in the corner and tried to warm up before I could leave again. I felt like an animal. My hair was getting frizzier on the top and more matted on the bottom and I'm sure I had a scowl on my face from being out in the cold so long. Not to mention I found out that I bashed my hand during all the car madness and it
had swollen to the size of my face. So I ate my sorrows away with heavily
frosted, heart shaped cookies and bailed.

I would blame Amy Poehler, but that doesn't seem like a very Galentiney thing to do.

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

In April 2012 I graduated from BYU-Idaho after the most
rewarding semester of my college career. From there I hopped into a RV with my
wonderful, albeit slightly crazy, Brazilian family and spent a month playing on
the beach. Then I started my mission. I spent a year and a half helping others
learn of Christ and follow him. I met people from all walks of life and I
served them with my whole heart. I learned Spanish. I was a friend,
cheerleader, mentor, and participant as lives changed for the better all around
me. MY life changed forever. My
mission was one of those events that completely tore apart the woman I used to
be and put me back together far more lovely and strong than I ever had
been previously.

After this two-year whirlwind of finishing my bachelor’s
degree and preparing for and serving my mission here I am. I'm just here at my
parent’s house. I’ve been on vacation for the past 6 weeks and it has been
wonderful. I have spent time with some of the dearest people in my life. I
hugged every member of my immediate family. I laughed with long lost friends. I went to
Canada for my first time ever and was reminded that normal life is fun and worth treasuring. I have had a long strand of good times, and I’m grateful
for them.

Now comes the unwelcome truth--all good chapters must come
to an end. Today felt like the end. It had been looming there in the corner for
a while now, but today we had our first confrontation. If reality were a human
it would have come in with a blanket and a mug of hot chocolate and said
something along the lines of “sit down suga, this’un is gonna to be rough.” (In
my mind reality comes with comfort food and an accent, deal with it.)

So, here I am. I am a college graduate. I am a returned
missionary. I am also unemployed, and frustrated with my lack of professional,
academic and social prospects. I am annoyed that this need I have to change
the world seems unrealistic. I am tired of feeling socially inept.

Someone once told me to never worry about anything that will
be insignificant two weeks from now. Two weeks from now I will be living in DC
and fulfilling an internship. I will have reunited with yet more long lost
friends. By then it is likely that I will have reverted back to my “I can do anything
good” attitude. However, for right now I’m just a little scared, and I decided
that it’s okay. If there were never fear there would never be a reason to be
courageous.