True narcissists account for only 6.5% of the population and exhibit traits such as having a disproportionate sense of self-importance, status, and achievement, with an obsessive need for more, reports the Psychiatric Times.

Narcissistic traits, however, are much more common than a true disorder and not entirely bad.

You read that right, narcissistic traits are not always bad.

The article states:

“Narcissism ranges from healthy and normal to pathological and severely malignant. It is closely related to regulation of self-esteem and emotions and to a sense of control and competence. Narcissism can be a motivating factor and can contribute to exceptional and remarkable accomplishments in higher-functioning people, even when it co-occurs with pathological narcissistic traits and dimensions.”

The overcompensation of self-esteem and lack of control presents in individuals, and can be a coping mechanism, that can motivate and encourage them to excel.

Narcissism is bad when it’s extreme, but it’s usually not extreme.

At modest levels, narcissism can make you more successful.

At high levels, it can make you intolerable.

At very high levels, it can make you delusional and overly aggressive.

True narcissists are difficult to treat psychologically because they lack consistent insight into their deficits.

Other people who merely have some narcissistic traits know they are narcissists, they just don’t care.

The problem for people with narcissistic traits is that they often fail later in life.

In other words, life gets its revenge.

A study published in Personality and Social Psychology measured their level of extraversion and status achievement and found that while narcissists use their traits to advance quickly to positions of status and power, they often fail to keep those positions.

Likely because narcissists score low in popularity (correlating with their being intolerable blowhards).

While they maintain some awareness of this, they choose getting ahead versus getting along, indulging in their over-inflated and distorted sense of self and self-righteousness.

And they are aware of that.

At least some of the time.

Of course, no one should sacrifice achievement to approval from other people and no one should put being liked by others ahead of their personal goals.

True narcissists are not bad for these reasons.

Instead, narcissists are bad because they lie and manipulate others to achieve.

This is what makes getting revenge on a narcissist so provocative… because of how overtly and blatantly manipulative they are.

When people screw you over, your natural instinct will be to balance the scales, even if this balancing can only be done emotionally.

Make a decision to spend your energy on people who will treat you like a priority, not an option.

People with narcissistic traits are everywhere. They are driven with tunnel vision to manipulate others to gain achievement and status. They are willing to step on anyone to get what they need and win at all costs. They are manipulative and they are never wrong. They will hurt you and disappoint you and it’s never their fault. Not in their mind. There’s no winning with narcissists. There’s no changing them and they won’t ever really understand, let alone change. The best revenge is to get rid of them and get on with your life while focusing on positive and productive changes while you move forward.

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