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Another blog inspired by a customer enquiry regarding a situation where they are in an emotionally abusive relationship & are considering the magickal options available…Taken as a direct quote from my response with names and some details removed for client confidentiality

“​It isn’t likely a spell would stop his actions – even if they are immoral it’s even worse karmically to use magick on another person without their permission. It would mean you were intending the same type of subterfuge or deception and karmically would be bad on you and wouldn’t necessarily work.

The best option magickally would be a reversal spell or the banishing/blessing Intensive which is made up of a series of 6 spells and could be tailored to your situation. Focused on turning YOUR situation around rather than his. It may mean he realises what he is doing and comes back. It may mean you both come to an understanding and can somehow move forward either living with it for a time or living separately but re establishing your friendship.

The thing with magick is it isn’t safe to use to try to make anyone else to anything else. Love spells and healing spells without consent are the same magickally as curses. Just as his actions if looked at from that philosophy are no different to someone using black magick!

But the sooner deception stops – regardless of the outcome – the sooner things will be sorted out. Not necessarily to your design or his but to the way they are best at the present time. At the moment you are clearly distressed and a lot of this is your sense of powerlessness and the fact you kind of know the situation you are in but can’t see a way out that won’t negatively affect you.

Magick can do much to break the impasse but you will need to prepare as much as you can for your future not panning out as you intended. It already isn’t. And I can promise it will get better – but I am sure there will be times it won’t feel that way.

Maintaining your perspective will be hard but it will be easier because you’re focusing on creating change rather than focusing on past experiences in an attempt to understand the present. This in itself can be emotionally and mentally exhausting.

Acknowledging that now has become so bad that there must be change is not easy but is important. A stagnant “now” is taking you nowhere and leaving you ill; and persisting in that situation does more harm than good. Change can be scary but sometimes it’s a lot scarier to imagine a situation in which nothing changes.
I am sure you half think – I wish he would just come out and say it so we could talk and formally separate so I could deal with my pain and think of my future. Or that he would just leave for the same reason. That’s normal in situations like this and that’s why people often go to counselling during or after a break up. Being able to talk about it is so important to being able to heal because it is very much like grief. Not just for the person but for the life you expected. Your security. The things you believed were real that weren’t.

That might be another way to prepare in fact. Ask your GP is you can be referred to a counsellor – begin talking about your situation in the real world.

Another option (which is a comprehensive reversal spell and can be worked to have healing effect) is the Killing Moon Karmic Reversal 30 Day Ritual Intensive which is currently available on the special offer page www.mayastar.net/special.htm

I believe taking some kind of conscious of practical action to support the spells is important. Whether you start keeping a journal or learn an energy healing method to become active in rebalancing your own energy (like Reiki), that’s a very good idea in manifesting the most positive changes and moving forward from hindering factors of the past.

I know it’s not easy and motivating yourself even to seek my help is probably hard…taking steps to help you personally may seem very hard. But it’s important that your conscious mind begins to remember that you are a person of value regardless of what others do or say or how they behave. Or your situation. These negative thoughts about yourself are part of the problem as it currently stands and reminding yourself you are not defined by other people and your course is not determined by them can mean you emerge from the situation a stronger person than before – with more confidence and higher self esteem.

Magick always works to restore harmony no matter how long its been missing. Harmony and wholeness are your natural state.

It’s around now I start taking stock of where I am and where I want to be and what I should be doing now to make sure I end up where I want to be.

I guess you consider it like a time of new year resolutions but for witches the last harvest (Samhain or Halloween) marks the end of the year and I personally tend to begin my considerations from my birthday on 14th September…and implement them between 1st November and the Winter Solstice (just before Christmas!). So my Christmas celebration is more focused on successfully completing a cycle and starting the new one well. I don’t celebrate the numeric new year – for me it doesn’t have any energetic significance.

It was thinking about that, that made me realise non pagans have their own rituals for Christmas, New Year, Halloween and Easter that aren’t so dissimilar to my own. And although it may be seasonal energies that determine my cycles and how I align my life to them to make use of the natural tides…solar and lunar…most people have their own pattern to life an acknowledge certain days and anniversaries…bank holidays and so on…which essentially map their year in a unique way.

I am sure many people make use of these and add their own to the main ones…personal days of rembrance or significance…and impersonal ones too…the end of the financial year, the deadline for submitting their tax return…all kinds of dates form part of your annual cycle blueprint.

So anyone can use their own blueprint to include times of healing and cleansing, meditation, personal analysis, decision making, executing changes and hibernating. When the seasons change I tend to spend more time writing and reading and that’s the start of my “assessment” of the past year and the time I make note of changes to make and how I will make them.

It’s so much a part of my life that I don’t allocate time to it…it’s part of the natural flow of my life and it’s the acknowledgement of pagan fire festivals, solar and lunar tides over the last 28 years that has made it so much of my life.

On reflection I think it’s probably why I tend to be a high achiever…I tend to jettison time wasters or bad habits quickly and pay attention to what’s going on within and without myself, my life, my body and health, spiritual health and development and it really helps. There has never been a time I have seen a challenge in my life as insurmountable because my experience is that I roll with the punches in all areas of my life.

I would encourage other people to do similar…working into their own annual blue print. Start by writing down a list of significant dates or times in your personal year – birthdays and holidays as well…and then notice how the year is split into different parts…reflect on how what you do, enjoy and even eat changes seasonally and notice how changes coincide with different times on your blueprint.

Then think about what you naturally do or feel at those times of the year and how you might use that tendency to really make the most of things.

An example might be obvious that at the end of the financial year people decide about changes or developments to their business. In the summer they may feel more positive and use this time focus on their physical health and become more physically active. If you become bookish in the winter maybe choose the subject matter you’re going to focus on during that season and make a proper study of it.

Times that naturally lend themselves to family time like holidays and Christmas you might want to prepare for more mindfully and consider the real reasons you give and receive gifts and what you are celebrating.

We can give meaning to our lives and actions simply by paying attention to what we do. And while I advocate meditation and energy work because that’s what I teach through Mayastar Academy Online Natural Healing & Spiritual Development, I do believe a great deal can be achieved in our personal, professional, spiritual and health simply by becoming more aware of these things.

Self awareness & Mindfulness are definite the keys to experiencing the Wholeness of life!

Sometimes Magick is called a mystery religion or cult. Or “The Black Arts”. The latter sounds scary but using the words “dark” or “black” around magick refers to the secrecy around it. In the wrong hands magick is dangerous but not in the way you may think. It requires facing yourself in all your truth – this can be challenging. And people with a higher than normal ego consciousness balance, may become egocentric; delusional – even paranoid. Because they appropriate universal experiences as personal and literally fall into the trap of thinking they’re “God’s Gift”. When due study and balanced experience would tend towards the conclusion that, everyone you meet is also God’s Gift and as Extraordinary and Special as you are. There can’t be room for racial, financial or situational based beliefs in Magick. These are the comfort blankets for those clinging to ego consciousness.

So Magick isn’t about being something you’re not or identifying as something that the ego resonates with. It is about being yourself. And this is often more a case of “cutting the crap” than it is of being a whizz with the tarot! It’s about becoming but becoming the truth of what you are. A truth that exists as a fundamental even if you aren’t conscious of it. It’s your reality…but tunes you into that most objective concept; “Truth as an abstraction of Consciousness”.

Magick is the path to Self-Realisation for those moved to reconnect in a personal sense with that abstract divinity that exists within, without and in all ways transcends us.

Magick means we are working (through any method; natural as well as supernatural) to align our actions, thoughts and feelings with our Higher Self: elevating our consciousness so that our motivation is to ACT on the promptings of the “Higher Will” rather than to REACT to promotings of the ego. It is a spiritual calling to Source. To manifest that Divine Source through all levels of “being” and for the good of all.

Magick is defined as the art of causing change to occur in accordance with Will. The “Will” is the intent of the Higher Self. This idea of the freedom to “do what you Will” has way too often been interpreted by the more hedonistic, less self-aware among us, to mean we can “do what we want”. That would be very primitive and ego based definition of Will. It would define “Want” or highlight our human flaws if anything. The Mage’s first lesson is to learn the difference.

The Higher Will is beyond “want” or “demand”. Those types of base desires based on manifesting instant satisfaction or the fulfillment of lower desires are typical attitudes of the Ego Self.

Ego based consciousness is an emotionally immature state that reflects a spiritually immature state. Magick is the path to Spiritual Maturity but it is reflected in our mental and emotional lives too so if someone seems badly adjusted emotionally, you can know that there is a spiritual and mental component to that imbalance. It’s important for any aspiring magician or mystic learn to recognise these red flags and to resolve them rather than to passively assume they will sort themselves out.

They say time heals…but it does depend what you do with that time!

Through magick we choose to consciously align ourselves with a more mature state that resonates more with the Divine. Now you may call that external expression of Divinity by a name or define it as an abstract concept. But when you experience moments in life where you are aligned with it (the Divinity within yourself is in harmony with the Divinity that is without), things go smoothly, you feel good, and there is a sense of purpose and deep validation that comes from that intimate connection experienced through Magick. It is unique and undeniable. But to experience it usual requires removal of impediments to Higher Consciousness. It’s not uncommon for a personal tragedy to seem to be the catalyst for a sense of deep spiritual communion during prayer. As if the mind is occupied with our misery enough that our spiritual Higher Mind is free from the usual background noise.

All experiences understood from a spiritual perspective have the potential for growth. It is a common complaint “how can you believe in God when bad things happen?”…well, how many drug addicts and alcoholics would there be if it was never possible to hit rock bottom. We may not know why bad things can happen to good people…but perhaps it’s just that we need to know, this is a level playing field. You can aspire to exceed yourself no matter what your outward situation and status. Spiritually, you are unique and possess potential; the same potential of the greatest evil or monumental saintliness. Spiritual, no one has a silver spoon and it could be argued the more challenging your life conditions are, the greater your potentional is.

Now your path itself is unique. It may be based around personal beliefs and practices; disciplines of religion or philosophy. Observed devotions and practices. There is no single road to Self-Realisation. There is only the goal of achieving fundamental Wholeness through our subjective and objective experiences and understanding. Aspiring to Wholeness is the only path to true happiness.

Through Mayastar Academy Online Natural Healing & Spiritual Development Courses I teach a variety of energy healing and meditation distance learning courses online. These are techniques that may add to your experience – or be a place to begin. These techniques can form a part of conscious spiritual development; and that was why I founded Mayastar in 2004.

My intention is to provide support & assistance to people in achieving alignment with their Higher Will. It is an example of me choosing my vocation in alignment with my Higher Will; of causing change to occur in accordance with my Will. And to support others on the path to Wholeness by my lifetime’s devotion to the process. My ego would probably feel safer with a 9-5 – but my soul would remain unfulfilled.

My life, thoughts, ideas, actions and beliefs are aligned with my Higher Will. Whether I am providing an initiation intensive, reiki attunement or tailored ritual intensive, my relationship with every client and student, reflects my higher intention. For my own journey, that’s how it has to be. And often my journey plays a part in the spiritual journey of another.

There are many other more mundane things that I have to do to make this possible though. I have to feed myself, keep a roof over my head, do my accounts, pay my bills and taxes, choose a diet that doesn’t hinder my work (some of my spells require a lot of dance – they are choreographed Tantric Shamanic Rituals – I couldn’t eat a heavy meal or too many carbs on a ritual heavy day). But these sacrifices for the perfection of my work are part of the work too. The good habits aren’t a sacrifice because they actually have benefits on other levels. But most importantly, they enable to manifest my “soul purpose”.

All these details are parts of that same magickal process and all essential to me being able to provide spiritual facilitation & service in accordance with my Higher Will. My decisions are made with that singularity of intention. Although my decision seems intellectual, the spiritual calling is my motivation. It’s much harder to explain and often harder to define our “destination” (destiny) because spiritual yearnings are different to other yearnings we experience. Our intuition develops as we go but using logic and intellect can be a safer starting point. A wooly intuitive desire could far more easily be confused with an ego based desire. That’s why you hear of people studying Magick. In the early stages, understanding our own motivations can be a bit of a minefield!

Of course there have been times in the past where I made choices that took me out of alignment with my higher intentions. We all do – magick is process of growth and often can mean having thr humility to learn by our own mistakes. Sometimes by “unlearning” our past immature assumptions or beliefs.

But as we practice, our self-awareness develops and as it does, we are increasingly called upon to make (sometimes hard) decisions. But what is consciousness, if not asking questions? When we are younger these crossroad moments can be harder on us; our ego has a loud voice but low aspirations! This can also be the case later in life if we have persisted in ego consciousness for a long time. It can feel like very hard work when we begin to move to the perspective of Higher Consciousness.

The process of magick is a lifestyle. It includes everything that forms part of your life “expression” and it is a life-long path. Not a few years in a coven. But many years of disciplined and focused application. Akin in many ways to Bhakti Yoga (Devotional Practice).

Is it really worth it you may ask? Well, if that’s a question, Magick probably isn’t your path. Magick is a way of life.

It isn’t something you achieve “as if by magick”; it’s the practice of following the path to Wholeness and in being of “one mind”.

It’s sometimes described as “the reconciliation of opposites” or “The Great Work” – these are very accurate names. But Self-Realisation is the one I prefer!

It’s important to remember that whatever path you choose or techniques you use, keeping yourself in alignment with your higher will encompasses all aspects of your life, all of the time.

We may recognise magickal proficiency by some external signs of psychic skills or talent in healing or spellcrafting. But the integration of our ego with our higher consciousness means our thoughts, feelings and behaviour all evolve too. The Whole Self is party to our development. And true Magick is the internal journey – the goal is always the spiritual aspiration.

We can find guidance externally but there isn’t an external authority because the process is deeply personal and absolutely unique. Although we may have relationships and connections with people that share similar goals and can offer support and encouragement, the inner process is only something you can do. It requires discipline and devotion. It requires a personal level of commitment to the process (faith and confidence) that will support us through challenging times.

Even if you’re working with a spiritual group or other group based around Self-Realisation, the journey to Wholeness is one we all make alone. And it is the only path to true happiness.

One of the main areas people ask about is whether this spell would work for any kind of psychic attack; a psychic attack is any kind of directed negative ‘assault’ (often taking a very draining form) on the astral level. There is a misconception that psychic attack is always deliberate and is always supernatural in origin. In fact, emotional unstable people around us can effect psychic attacks unconsciously or deliberately. The working is very effective in clearing any connections that are formed to you by another’s negative choices. Regardless of how they are manifesting them; it is the intention that is key. The spell dissolves or resolves the link that this kind of connection forms rather than attacking the person. So in no sense is it a hex or a curse to be used in retaliation. But it’s great for healing yourself of the effects and also provides some protection.

Negative Karmic Bonds as explained above can be formed with people. But we can also form bonds that cause us conflict or disharmony that we fail to consciously release. Such as bad memories or negative habits we have had in the past. In addition, a supernatural component can present in cases where people have been in a bad situation or a negative place emotionally or spiritually…even physically. It can leave one vulnerable to what we call ‘hitchers’. Now hitchers come and go. Usually they are a nuisance and they can tend to perpetuate problems because they’re lower astral beings. To be clear, these are not demonic in any way – they just resonate with lower energies. They are essentially elemental beings and they are drawn to our negative experiences. Over time they can form a Negative Bond. Usually they come and go throughout our lives. But they can turn a normal situation into a complex one. The Killing Moon addresses this issue too.

The cleansing & healing effect of the Killing Moon is that which is noticed and reported as an unexpected side effect by clients. Of course it makes sense – as the working goes on, you are being ‘freed up’ from restrictive energies that may be compromising your energy flow. So the harmonising effect of the working shouldn’t be under estimated; I would go as far as to recommend it for use as a healing spell because so much of healing has to do with clearing out the rubbish before we work on drawing in the beneficial energies.

In that regard, the spell is also useful in any kind of work where you want to ultimately draw positive energies in. They all work better if you’ve cleared out the negative ones or any negative influences. Reversal spells are good for this, but the Killing Moon is the most comprehensive solution.

The option for the Triple Working has gained a lot of popularity; particularly for those who have a long standing issue or a problem that’s very complex and seems to be affecting more and more areas of their life. Sometimes it can be hard to pinpoint how or when it started but knowing the origin isn’t necessary; the spell is comprehensive enough to follow each ‘bond’ back to its source and either dissolve the bond or resolve the issue.

The Triple Working would also be indicated in cases where the origin in known (or you have strong reason to suspect), or suspected to be supernatural or the result of ‘black magick’. As I said before, it’s not a retaliation spell, it’s resolving the problem by working with the natural state of harmony the Universe and all things tend towards. Black magick doesn’t do that therefore it’s unstable and its effects tend to be short lived. Working with the energy is like re-weaving the karmic fabric – not like trying to make water flow uphill. So the effects manifest more quickly; are more far reaching; and are essentially permanent.

Also, the Triple Working allows the energy to be focused on you, your professional life/business, your home/family – all at once. This is important in situations where what seemed to begin as a negative influence that was affecting you in some way, has developed to the point it’s affecting other areas of your life too. Negative and resistant energies can manifest in many ways, even if they are residual, they can, over time, create a ‘complex’ of low vibrational elements that can have very obvious and limiting results; exacerbating medical conditions for example; feelings of anxiety; feeling ungrounded. In this way it works as a reversal but can deal issues and resolve those issues on a karmic level for a permanent solution, rather than working on the symptoms. This is the case whether the negative effects relate to malicious people, limiting beliefs you have held in the past, destructive behaviours you seem to be drawn to and even bad ‘thinking habits’.

Although magickal change is permanent and occurs in real time, the effects will manifest gradually – but there will be changes very quickly and the changes are cumulative so it kind of builds momentum – as different areas are cleared, different areas are accessible for resolution. Some choose to repeat the working or take the triple option to speed results in this way. But also, negative influences will continue to come into our lives from time to time so some people like to take the KM cycle annually or every few months as a preventative kind of working.

The Ritual is also particularly useful for negative work environments, abusive relationships in the past, problems with grounding that may express as addictive or self-destructive behaviours, any malicious or intentional psychic attack whether it originates supernaturally or through use of black magick, or through natural means such as malicious intentions, jealousy etc. – even disgruntled business rivals (some people have the working performed for their business in fact).

As mentioned before, the source if any disharmony or negative influence doesn’t need to be identified before using this method as it works by tracing karmic bonds back to source from you and resolving or dissolving them. So you don’t need to focus on what’s happening or what caused it and how to fix it; the spell is constructed in such a way that it does that part for you.

This is not a hex or curse and can’t be used as one – it works by resolving any attachments to people, places and things of the past, present and future to prevent them manifesting hindrance or discord in your life. It can’t be used for revenge or malicious intentions. None of my work can.

The dissolution of negative karmic bonds doesn’t disconnect you from your life or undo your past, but can be used to facilitate moving on from the past without fetters; liberating you up to manifest change on all levels (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual); and always for the greater good.

The healing effect and a lifting of energy is usually noticed and reported at day 7-10 and increases during the ritual. Sometimes this is reported within a few days especially for those having a Triple Working.

Also, as the Triple option allows focus on different aspects at once, positive changes in the home, professional environment as well as personally tend to be reported early on and continue throughout and beyond the cycle!

Samhain is the season of the ‘final harvest’ and energetically a very powerful time for magick of this type. So this month I am making additional spaces available and working an independent cycle from 31st October exclusively as an option for newsletter subscribers. If you would like more information, please email me at mayastar.net@gmail.com