Why You’re Not The Only Person That Needs Dating Advice

When you share your ideas with the world as many bloggers do, a decision must be made about how personal your posts will be. Foolishly, I thought I could get away with giving useful advice, my personal life aside.

Even more misguided I was certain that my authority would be established as my advice was put into practice and proven to work. In reality, where I like to live, my blog is not a business. Giving advice is my business. For now, while it is on Thedatingtruth.com, I realize that essentially (with the exception of ehow.com) blogs that share information are almost never devoid of the writer’s personality. Specifically when it comes to personal development. The beginning of my interest in dating, self-help and creating change through thoughts were all born of frustration. Even this site, after my dating was beyond successful was created from failure.

The failure of every man I had to dump. I thought, “I bet he wants to know what he did wrong?” or “I bet he’s wondering why I haven’t returned his text.” From the many text I ignored this past weekend I got to thinking, “If this man is texting me, he must be desperate.”

That being said I will tell you I’ve been reading “The Game” the infamous Neil Strauss depiction of the life of world famous Pick-Up Artists and how he came to be one. If you haven’t read it, it’s a good book. What stands out to me the most is how desperate, YES DESPERATE, every man written about is at some point. Revered gurus like Mystery and Ross Jeffries are depicted as hapless nerds who through unbearable abstinence frustration decided to change their lives. Essentially every participant at every workshop had found themselves at a low point in life and willing to do anything to end their miserable dating experiences. As interesting as the book is it’s sad.

Anyone who has ever investigated the personal development world be it self-help, power of attraction, NLP, hell even if you’ve only read Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence people,” it’s likely due to loneliness. When I find that people are desperate, frustrated, hopeless it’s typically the result of feeling lonely. I am constantly asked why it seems everyone is so obsessed with dating. Place men and women in a room for an hour and watch how easily and quickly the conversation veers to personal relationships. I think it’s because most single men and women are looking for connection. If you are single, dating and the experience of dating are undeniably subjects that you will have in common with others.

Everyone will have an opinion to contribute.

My intention with this blog is constantly evolving but it’s important that single men and women know there are all kinds of lonely, frustrated people in the world. It is not just lame men and fat girls (yeah I said it) that are sitting home bored and contemplating joining Eharmony. I was once a lonely, looking for answers single woman and many singles are doing the same. Because I wasn’t satisfied with the information I’d been given I decided to create a new narrative on how to get more dates and have more sex. No matter what path you take, it’s important to remember there are other men and women struggling when it comes to dating.

The world is full of quality people, smart people, rich people, gorgeous, absolutely stunning people who aren’t getting laid just like you aren’t getting laid. So if you aren’t getting dates it’s not because you’re a loser it’s because you just don’t know how. So tell me, single ladies and gents, what frustrates you the most about being single? I want to help you solve the problem.

Tiffany that is so true. The tough conversations are tough conversations for a reason and I’ve never read anything on how to have them. Trust me I’m trying to find a method. Even when you think men are being evasive its because we all want to be liked. No one wants to be “the bad guy” not even the bad guys. Thanks for reading! great comment

I thoroughly loved your tips on if you want to keep your man.. Though I myself comes from the men fraternity yet could not refrain from liking the minute detail you explained as I Could have easily relate to each point 😄. That's why , the marriage kills the romance because of those bad traits.

Miss Solomon - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

Thank you for your comment, and for reading. My advice is this. A man should be cherishing and chasing you. A man should be worried that he will lose you if he doesn't show you attention. If a man isn't treating you like you're valuable to him, don't stay with him. Show your own value by leaving him alone. You don't need anyone in your life who makes you feel like you're second class. I hope this was helpful.

Miss Solomon - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

Thank you so much for your comment and thank you for reading! I know this is easy to say but the best way to approach men that you like is to remove yourself from the outcome. Yes, you want a date, and I think it's great that you took the initiative but don't beat yourself up about the outcome. The circumstances might not be right. There is one way I recommend taking action in dating to see results. It's a simple process - Step 1. Write down 3 possible scenarios A,B,C - A being if nothing happens, B being if it something happens but not what you expected, C being if your ideal results happen. Then try to imagine how you would feel in each scenario. Prepare yourself for no response, for a rejection, or for a date. If you're prepared for any outcome, its easy to take action. Just don't NEED anything certain result. Just take action because you're a brave person willing to take risks, and go after what you want. Instead of worrying about the result, just focus on taking action. It's not about what happens, it's about taking the action, accepting the result as feedback and moving forward with new information. I think you did a great thing! and the action itself means more than the result because you showed confidence. If you don't get a date, that's ok. But don't stop right taking action where you can. I hope this was helpful.

Danica - 5 Bad Habits That Chase Men Away

there is this guy who flirts with me, shows all 32 teeth when smiling at me and sighs around me a lot, well I do like him and think the feeling is mutual, but ive asked men out in the past and that did NOT turn out as I had hoped. but I decided to give it another shot by giving my crush a Christmas card and writing in it the following "me and you coffee with my name/number" and if he is interested he has my digits. is that too much or not.

lizzy - He Hasn’t Called, Now What…

i want u to advice me ma.there is dis guy v bn lvn for d past 10yrs i lata told im my filns and he agri to date ever since dat day he hasnt called or text v bn the 1 textn and calln.what can i do