Like said in another thread, it takes me generally ages to *** while having sex and sometimes I just don't. I know how you feel, as before I started to have regular sex with my gf, I only had sex sober twice before then and only came once, and the other drunken times I slept with girls I just never came. That massively dented my confidence and made me very weary of 'not performing properly' so to speak. However now its sweet basically, I *** more often than not (roughly 2 in 3 times), and if I don't she just finishes me off other ways. Basically try and cut down on ******* as it really does effect it, and have a lot of foreplay.

(Original post by Kutie)
What is premature ajaculation and whys it happen?

It's when a guy reaches orgasm thus ejaculates more quickly than what is medically normal. This usually happens because of psychological reasons or in some cases a lack of prepatory masturbation in preparation for intercourse.

Anyway, I haven't had sex in about 12+ months. Before that I had a regular sex life with a girlfriend but I could never *** during sex. It never bothered her as it we were each others firsts and she's never experienced it any different. She said she even liked it as I could go for ages and I never came in her mouth, which she didn't find appealing.

Anyway, I'm going to uni and I'm a bit worried about how other girls will react. It's really dented my confidence and I feel a bit inadequate to the point were I wouldn't really feel confident having a one night stand - even though I'm totally confident in my looks and personality.

How would you react if the guy you were with didn't ***?

Also, it is a bit of a psychological issue now but it's mainly physical. I masturbate quite hard so the sensation of sex doesn't seem enough and I think I've lost quite a lot of sensitivity down there.

If you masturbate too much, you wont have much of a sex drive. So do the 'Two-week challenge' and then have sex. You shouldnt have any problems.

(Original post by Emmajw10)
Honestly, how many women can actually say that they come every single time they have sex? I know I don't every time, but I still enjoy it and you should feel the same. I think you will learn what suits you best through practice.

Of course masturbating is better than sex, we ourselves know our way around our own body better than anyone else. Sure some women/men have tricks up their sleeves but no one can get you off better than yourself. Quote if you agree.

(Original post by Tom.)
Of course masturbating is better than sex, we ourselves know our way around our own body better than anyone else. Sure some women/men have tricks up their sleeves but no one can get you off better than yourself. Quote if you agree.

The only thing i enjoy about sex is the Passion.

Physically, perhaps. Mentally, no chance in hell

But then physically, it can be a bit hit and miss, super or crappy. With masturbation you always know what you're getting, even if it's not the best thing ever.

i know with guys it's supposedly like an on/off switch, but i do think there's something more psychological to a guy's orgasm, not as much as a girl's obviously, but nerves are a factor- my boyfriend and I both lost our virginities to each other, and at first he didn't come regularly, there were times when he did and times when he didn't- as we've got more comfortable with it and each other we both have a much better time, especially now! maybe you've now built up the fact that you 'can't come' so much, or were so nervous about it when you didn't the first few times that it's now become a bigger issue for you...try to relax and not think about it too much, don't get paranoid about what she's going to say if you don't come, maybe that'll help, and i'd agree with the advice about not masturbating, my boyfriend and i hadn't seen each other for 2 weeks ie he hadn't had any, and he was 'satisfied' much quicker than usual!!

Um, pretty sure that masturbating does decrease sensitivity; regular stimulation = less response, otherwise one of our most fundamental learning mechanisms is a big fat lie!
OP, as you say try out less masturbation, but if on the night you still don't come, under no circumstances let the girl realize this. I just don't think she'd believe you about never having come during sex before, it'd be much more likely to her that she's simply bad in bed.

I'm in my mid 20s (!) and have been masturbating like mental for a long time. Sex didn't have anywhere near the same sensation... it makes sense though, considering my grip strength is high enough to lift my entire bodyweight and when masturbating I just stimulate the most sensitive area. A vagina can't compete in those areas.