Good guys aren’t that good. Bad guys are worse than you thought. There is a dark side to everything.

You know what I am talking about.

Look at ANY Facebook post where someone says something good:

“My kid loves cereal. Hahaha.”

Three comments in, someone will post an article that points to evidence that breakfast cereal will kill you and that most companies that make it have orphan-run factories and Satan-worshipping CEOs. (Also: Trump.)

Are you a BMF?

It’s like we have all decided that social media is the loophole that allows us to ignore the old dictum “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”

It’s now become “If anyone says anything nice, find an article on Buzzfeed that contradicts it.”

When was the last time one of these arguments changed a mind?

Have you ever read a HuffPost takedown piece about your favorite childhood memory and thought “MY LIFE IS BETTER. I WILL NOW BE A BETTER PERSON, PARENT, FRIEND AND GYM PARTNER”?

You have not.

Are there times where there is a legitimate point to be made about something and you should speak up? Sure. (I’d argue there are not that many, but there are some.)

And if you feel strongly about something, CALL THAT PERSON PRIVATELY and discuss it with care and love. Don’t have their phone number? Then you are not close enough to that person to have an opinion that matters to them.

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