Relationships

My beloved and I had an argument this morning. That’s not especially noteworthy in itself. We argue sometimes just like any other couple, no matter how well attuned we are with one another. The content of the argument isn’t even important. What does feel interesting however is the way we…

By any standards, 2016 was one hell of a year for most people. Horrors from Syria, the continued threat of terrorism and the geo-political upheavals that we saw have made most of us more on-edge than usual. I had my own personal battles with professional and personal challenges and issues…

What is Presence? You hear it a lot in various new age, conscious sexuality or therapy worlds – it’s all about Presence. A woman wants her man to be Present. It’s by being Present that we allow the magic, and so on and so on. So I started to ask…

“So do guys really just want to have quick sex and cum?” a client asked me the other day. Here’s the age old problem; women typically want longer sex sessions, with more of a build up of erotic energy, guys tend to want to move ahead to “the main event”…

Words: Louise Mazanti Over the last weeks and months I have felt a truth presenting itself strongly in my body, slowly forming in my mind with greater clarity: We need to completely rethink our relationship with ‘sex’! Sex is not something that can be boxed and labelled as ‘an activity’…

Our sexual energy is commonly also called erotic energy. The word erotic derives from the Greek god Eros. Eros was the god of love but it is the love of life that he celebrates. The word erotic has come to be reduced to meaning sexual but its true meaning is…

Sex is such a variety of activities, that the only thing they have in common is the energy that arises in us; the felt experience. As suggested, this energy can move from not being felt at all to a highly charged state. How does his happen? How do we create…

Have you ever wondered why it may be so hard to be happy? Why it can be so difficult to have a fulfilling relationship? It may be that part of the answer lies in our family history. Could it be that feelings of shame, insecurity or rage are inherited from…

All relationships are based on open and hidden dynamics. Part of why you are together is probably obvious to you – physical attraction, stability or excitement, making each other laugh and so on. Most people have some sense of what it is about the other person which is attractive to…

The majority of my work with women as a sex therapist is helping them give themselves permission to be the fully sexual beings that they naturally are. I believe that this is one of the most important pieces of work I can do with someone who has sexual issues and…