“I just don’t like waiting for things…” said the prospective bride. PAUSE. Pause on my end… she kept talking about all of the things she wanted for her “princess wedding”, and I am sitting here staring at the phone wondering if I should just hang up now to avoid the bullshit later. While she went on and on about the pale pink linen, beaded overlays and candelabras she was envisioning, I took out my crystal ball (the one I keep under my desk with a flask and some emergency cigarettes) and a self-important bitch pointing her finger at some stupid wedding planner who was quite literally running around like a maniac trying to make sure her day was perfect. And wouldn’t you know? When the image came into focus, I was that stupid wedding planner. “Are you there?” Oh shit! I was so wrapped up in my future beat down that I hadn’t contributed to the conversation! I said, “of course, I was just taking notes.”

Seriously, the brides that “just don’t like waiting for things” scare me because no matter how much effort I put into managing their expectations, they want it all right now. I mean, whatever happened to the Heinz tag line, “good things come to those who wait”? Seriously, as much as slow ketchup really annoys me when all I want to do is eat my fucking fries, that line has always stuck with me (and so does seeing Matt Le Blanc in this youtube video!). Not only was it was great advertising, it was a great lesson for all you entitled, newly engaged brides. I’ve said it before, and I will say it again… Ready? YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE GETTING MARRIED. And more often than not, the reason you have to wait is because other brides, who are getting married like this weekend, need your vendor’s attention. Be prepared, because odds are you won’t hear back from them until Tuesday, and that’s the norm ladies... Fucking deal with it.

So, if you “don’t like waiting for things”, too bad. There will be times during your wedding planning that you will have to wait because while your wedding is the first thing on your mind, it’s most definitely not the first thing on everybody else’s. I know it’s shocking, but remember, “good things come to those who wait”. So wait your fucking turn.

Reader Comments (5)

Wow, finally someone is speaking the truth!!!! Let's add to that the fact that some of the brides and their mothers (oh, yea!) think that because they are paying you, they own you... If it is something not that urgent, please be patient with your vendors - they will just appreciate you more and will be more likely to go extra 5 miles for you and your family without charging you extra just for high maintenance!!!

Shouldn't my wedding be important too though? I really don't think I am getting crazy, just straightforward with what I want and need. While I think the "not wanting to wait for things" attitude is completely ignorant, I have to say that I don't want to wait a long time for a response when I email or call a vendor. I hate when a week or two goes by without even a note saying that they are swamped (which I would totally understand), but no correspondence at all? That stinks! That makes me question my decision to hire them in the first place.

Bridester, of course your wedding is important, you shouldn't work with anyone who thinks otherwise! But you have to acknowledge that part of why you hired us is because we are good at what we do, and other people want to hire us as well. If you are waiting for a response from a vendor for something specific, it's okay to email a (polite) reminder after a couple days. But please be respectful that where you may think this issue needs to be solved immediately, experience tells us that it might be able to wait until we have time to give it our full attention. How would you feel if, while it was your turn to have our full attention, we had to push you to the side because another client needed attention NOW DAMMIT and was refusing to wait their turn?

Lady, you hit the nail on the head with this one. Sometimes I wonder what these bride's are like behind closed doors with their fiancés. Don't' get me wrong, I love what I do (I'm a DJ), but there are plenty of times I wish I didn't take certain clients on. They ARE the ones that want stuff immediately, and they truly don't understand that we are not "desk" people. We are out with clients, other vendors, networking, etc. We aren't sitting at the computer all day waiting for their emails to come through.

We all have to wait for sh*t. Just because you are the bride, doesn't mean that everybody has to stop what their doing, and act immediately. No matter what, it's time to go back to the basics. Patience is truly a virtue.

Oh my goodness, this post scares me! I just got engaged, and I have been busy gathering ideas ever since! My friend follows you on Tiwtter, and said I should check your blog out so that "can learn how to act as a bride". Am I really going to get this jaded? You definitely crack me up, but is this seriously how it really all shakes out?