bff issues need advice

my Bff is married to an amazing.man and they have two children together. her husband is 100% faithful and hard working and a really good friend to.me as well. well my.bff has been seeing this guy jeff on the side since.before her and her dh got married. she isnt sleeping w him but.ahe talks dirty and txts dirty with him Nd always has.him meet us when we go out.. i have told her its.not right to be doing this when she has a good man at home watching their kids.. she blows me off she asks me to lie about.what we did when her hubby asks. i know the right thing would.be to tell him but.i also dont wanna hurt my bff.

my Bff is married to an amazing.man and they have two children together. her husband is 100% faithful and hard working and a really good friend to.me as well. well my.bff has been seeing this guy jeff on the side since.before her and her dh got married. she isnt sleeping w him but.ahe talks dirty and txts dirty with him Nd always has.him meet us when we go out.. i have told her its.not right to be doing this when she has a good man at home watching their kids.. she blows me off she asks me to lie about.what we did when her hubby asks. i know the right thing would.be to tell him but.i also dont wanna hurt my bff.

I had literally the same problem with one of my (now ex) best friends. You're in a really hard position. I ended up telling my best friend's boyfriend that she was seeing this other guy on the side and it made things a lot worse for everyone, including myself. She no longer trusted me and wouldn't talk to me and he didn't talk to me for a long while either because he felt betrayed by both of us. You more then likely will lose a lot by getting into it so my advice is to stay out of it! Its their relationship and their business and not your place to tell. I learned the hard way. Just don't encourage it when you're with your BFF and don't support her with it at all. Try and help her to discontinue this behavior and work on her relationship w her husband.

I had literally the same problem with one of my (now ex) best friends. You're in a really hard position. I ended up telling my best friend's boyfriend that she was seeing this other guy on the side and it made things a lot worse for everyone, including myself. She no longer trusted me and wouldn't talk to me and he didn't talk to me for a long while either because he felt betrayed by both of us. You more then likely will lose a lot by getting into it so my advice is to stay out of it! Its their relationship and their business and not your place to tell. I learned the hard way. Just don't encourage it when you're with your BFF and don't support her with it at all. Try and help her to discontinue this behavior and work on her relationship w her husband.

as pp i also did this and 10 years later my best friend is now talking to me!! it was really hard, i found out he was cheating on her but she didn't believe me and that was that. she has only just said sorry and thank you as she's been with another guy a few years now and has a 1 year old son. i miss those years we weren't together and wouldn't do it again.

as pp i also did this and 10 years later my best friend is now talking to me!! it was really hard, i found out he was cheating on her but she didn't believe me and that was that. she has only just said sorry and thank you as she's been with another guy a few years now and has a 1 year old son. i miss those years we weren't together and wouldn't do it again.

I don't think you should tell him, but you have to tell her you think it's wrong and your sorry but you can't support this part of the friendship. Tell her you want no part of it and she needs to fess up to her dh, and you can support her through that, but not the lies. You might lose her for a while but eventually when she "comes to" she will understand your position.

I don't think you should tell him, but you have to tell her you think it's wrong and your sorry but you can't support this part of the friendship. Tell her you want no part of it and she needs to fess up to her dh, and you can support her through that, but not the lies. You might lose her for a while but eventually when she "comes to" she will understand your position.

A friend who acts deceitful and drags you into it isn't much of a friend in my book. I wouldn't tell her husband, but I would refuse to lie anymore and if the guy she's having the affair with (emotional, at least) showed up I would leave. I'm not sure I would even make excuses. She's using your time together as a shield for her dishonest behavior, which also isn't a sign of a good friend--or any kind of friend at all.

A friend who acts deceitful and drags you into it isn't much of a friend in my book. I wouldn't tell her husband, but I would refuse to lie anymore and if the guy she's having the affair with (emotional, at least) showed up I would leave. I'm not sure I would even make excuses. She's using your time together as a shield for her dishonest behavior, which also isn't a sign of a good friend--or any kind of friend at all.

I agree with what AFMom said. Don't tell her husband, but tell her you will not lie for her anymore, and if the other guy shows up, leave. By staying, you are an "accessory to the crime". By leaving, you are showing her you will no longer allow her to use you to see her other guy... I might even take it another step and leave, and go hang out near where she lives for a chance encounter with her husband. When he says "oh I thought you were with her", I'd say "no, I changed my mind"... So then when he asks her later where she was, HE can catch her in the lie himself! She's definitely not a good friend :( sorry you're in such an aweful position.

I agree with what AFMom said. Don't tell her husband, but tell her you will not lie for her anymore, and if the other guy shows up, leave. By staying, you are an "accessory to the crime". By leaving, you are showing her you will no longer allow her to use you to see her other guy... I might even take it another step and leave, and go hang out near where she lives for a chance encounter with her husband. When he says "oh I thought you were with her", I'd say "no, I changed my mind"... So then when he asks her later where she was, HE can catch her in the lie himself! She's definitely not a good friend :( sorry you're in such an aweful position.

oooooooooooo man I would tell.....if she is draging you into this f**up suitation and using you as an excuse than she is moraly bankrupt and would not hesitate to f**k you over if it suits her purpose.....her husabnd sounds like a good man and deserves to be with someone who is not a wast of space...and when she looses him she has no one else to blame but herself...find a better best friend

oooooooooooo man I would tell.....if she is draging you into this f**up suitation and using you as an excuse than she is moraly bankrupt and would not hesitate to f**k you over if it suits her purpose.....her husabnd sounds like a good man and deserves to be with someone who is not a wast of space...and when she looses him she has no one else to blame but herself...find a better best friend

for now i have just cut back on the amoubt of time i spend w her outside of play dates for the kids.. I have made it clear i dont plan on telling her husband but that im not.cool w what she is doing and i have told her i sont be a part of it and will not.lie if her husband asks me if anything not cool is going on.. i also get that she isnt the greatest friend and she has screwed me over before.

for now i have just cut back on the amoubt of time i spend w her outside of play dates for the kids.. I have made it clear i dont plan on telling her husband but that im not.cool w what she is doing and i have told her i sont be a part of it and will not.lie if her husband asks me if anything not cool is going on.. i also get that she isnt the greatest friend and she has screwed me over before.

Ugh the name jeff just rubs me wrong anyways because my babies sperm donor name is jeff and a similar situation is how I got pregnant. Talk to her and tell her you will tell her husband if she does not stop! I wish someone would have done this for me so I wouldn't be a single mommy that lost a great man because of a bad situation

Ugh the name jeff just rubs me wrong anyways because my babies sperm donor name is jeff and a similar situation is how I got pregnant. Talk to her and tell her you will tell her husband if she does not stop! I wish someone would have done this for me so I wouldn't be a single mommy that lost a great man because of a bad situation

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