New photos show Ashton Kutcher spent the night-before and morning-of his anniversary at Fluxx night club in San Diego, while Demi was thousands of miles away in NYC. The Two and a Half Men star has been behaving like a jerk, reportsHollywood Life, while practically posing for the paparazzi. Reportedly, Ashton looked bearded and scruffy, and wore a fedora. Indoors. He and a group of friends were celebrating a birthday at a VIP table with members of That ’70s Show cast.

“Ashton’s table was surrounded by girls all night,” a source told the tabloid. “They were partying, drinking and having a great time. He was dancing, and really living it up.” It’s not unusual for work obligations to keep two peopleÂ—especially celebsÂ—apart on a special day. Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore are no exceptions to that likelihood. But it’s common to share a cozy phone call. Or something! Not in this case, apparently.

Finally Ashton made his way back to his hotel. That much is pretty certain. The Hard Rock hotel’s manager backed up that part of the story. “I can confirm that he stayed both Friday and Saturday nights,” shared the manager. “He was staying at the hotel with a group of friends.”

But here’s where the story gets sticky. Did some of his new female friends go back to the hotel with him? Maybe one, maybe more? Sources seem to vary. Would Ashton Kutcher even remember? Happy Anniversary!