(Not Berger, who broke up with her on a Post-It note, and who laughed at her fashion and claimed all women in New York wear scrunchies. Also not Petrovsky, whose ego was so large he had to book Carrie a room of her own in Paris. Not Bradley Cooper in a memorable cameo as a young, hot guy Carrie picks up at a bar, not the writer played by Justin Theroux, whose wonderful family wasn't able to counteract his erectile dysfunction, not the politician played by John Slattery, who wanted to pee all over her... I could go on an on.)

The great litmus test is thus: Which would you have chosen? Big, who fucks Carrie around for years with his commitment-phobic bullshit? Or Aidan, who is, you know, objectively perfect.

Carrie and Big. Photo: HBOSource:Whimn

But according to a new interview with Sex and the City author Candace Bushnell, Aidan was never going to end up with Carrie, no matter how much of a good guy he was, no matter how greatly her friends adored him, no matter the amount of questionable turquoise jewellery he wore.

And the reason behind this is, quite frankly, triggering. I feel personally victimised.

"[My] mother always hated Aidan, for some reason, so I could never really be team Aidan," Bushnell toldUs Weekly. "Whenever I would go home and visit my parents, my mother would say, 'Why is Carrie with Aidan and not Mr. Big? You've got to get rid of Aidan.'"

"My mother never felt that Aidan was the right person for Carrie."

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Take a look at some common relationship issues addressed in Sex And The City. Courtesy: HBO/Sex And The City.

Here is a brief and by no means exhaustive list of why Aidan was objectively the right guy for Carrie. He was kind, patient, funny, and good with his hands. He made her leather chair from scratch. He loved dogs, and her friends - he helped Miranda when she threw out her back, picking up her naked body from the floor and tucking her into bed when Carrie, her alleged best friend, couldn't even make it over to her apartment - and his own friends, there for Steve when he received his cancer diagnosis.

He was tall and handsome and great in bed. He was honest, brutally so, oftentimes. He called out Carrie on her bullshit. He wasn't afraid to yell at her, telling her that she broke his heart, on a crowded New York street when Carrie chased him, begging him to take her back after that tiny little thing when she cheated on him with Big.

Even when they disagreed on matters of computers, they were still a good couple. Photo: HBOSource:Whimn

I know, I know. This goes against everything I said in that story last week about The Bachelorette, and my theory about the good guy versus the spark guy. But in this case the good guy is the spark guy. Aidan isn't the rule, he's the exception.

Also, fuck Big.

Hannah-Rose Yee is whimn's entertainment editor which basically means she gets to binge-watch TV, road-test crazy new food hybrids, sniff out the latest travel trends and interview awesome startup founders for a living. She will write for donuts and bootleg copies of the next Donna Tartt or Daniel Silva, because she contains multitudes. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram.