#YouGotThis: First Date

Do those two little words provoke anxiety attacks instead of giddy butterflies? Then it’s time to do something about that.

Because girl, #YouGotThis: No matter who this first date is, you don’t need to be the skinniest, sexiest, funniest, anything-est woman in the world to have an amazing time. Bottom line? Be a real woman.

First of all, the right headspace is key. Get yourself in a good mood. Squeeze in some quick cardio so you’re all glowy and those feel-good endorphins are doing their thing. Exfoliate with a luxe scrub. Choose an outfit that makes you do a double take when you catch yourself in the mirror, and get ready while listening to a playlist that puts a perma-grin on your face.

Do whatever makes you feel confident. Think of the compliments that remind you of just how kick-ass you are, and have them running on a loop.

Once you’re face-to-face, you’ll see what kind of chemistry you two really have. Is he nice enough but not The One? Don’t despair: Use the night as practice and flex those flirting muscles. At the very least, you’re making a new friend—and having a hell of a time doing it!

But if you luck out and find yourself thinking, “Um, jackpot! He’s dreamy,” then more power to you. But don’t ever, ever forget: You’re a catch. This date is to decide if you like him, not the other way around.

Now, if you’ve spent a few hours together, you’ve really hit it off and the night is coming to a close: Leave. Yes, you read that right, leave! This isn’t about games; it’s about ending the date on such a high that you simply have no choice but to see each other again.