9 Places Where a Good Guy Can Meet A Good Girl

The good guy can often feel awkwardly caught in between the two extremes of meeting a good girl at a bar/club or an online dating service. While I know a few friends who have had success in both arenas, the typical good guy ideally would like to meet the girl of his dreams in his habitat.

Where is the good guy’s habitat? It’s the place you feel most comfortable. You have to be yourself if you want to capture her attention, so why not brainstorm some places your good girl might be waiting? “9 Places Where a Good Guy Can Meet a Good Girl” should give you a starting place.

1. Exercising:

While walking through the UCLA campus a few weeks ago, a buddy and me watched a guy come running out of the gym to ask a girl for her number. Kudos on his courage. She blushed, and he got the digits. Your girl might be at LA Fitness, 24, or even the YMCA. Think outside the box of the typical facility too. Try some Crossfit classes, indoor rockclimbing, coed softball league, or outdoor trails. If you’re really brave, try yoga, and definitely Cardio Barre (you’ll be the only dude). One of my buddies found his wife while running the stairs in Santa Monica.

2. Leadership Conferences:

I attended the Invisible Children’s Fourth Estate Summit a few weeks ago, and I’d say 70% of the audience was girls. Not just any girls, though. These are young women who want to make a difference in the world. With that kind of male to female ratio, a good guy is bound to find his dream girl to pursue. One of my buddies met his girl at the Latino Leadership Conference. If you’re in college, consider getting involved in Greek organizations, campus ministries, etc.

3. Coffee Shops/Bookstores:

Your best bet is to frequent a busier location. The tables are all taken, so you’re gonna have to share a spot. Why not share a spot with that girl you’ve had your eyes on? Before I was married, I had many a friend make fun of me for asking what book a girl was reading. Bottom line is, it works if you’re sincere. Use it.

4. Volunteering:

Good girls love to mentor kids and as a good guy, so do you. Is there a Big Brothers/Big Sisters in your area? Here in LA, there is a group called Red Eye, which does mentoring activities every Saturday with at-risk youth. You might be surprised how many quality girls come out every week to help out. There might be activities in your community you can get involved in as well like the Ronald McDonald House, Habitat for Humanity, feeding the homeless, a literacy council, etc.

5. Political/Advocacy Groups:

Are you passionate about a certain cause? You can find a good girl who has the same political views and passions as you. Get involved in an election campaign. Look for Republican or Democratic meet-up groups in your area. Here are some examples of other groups you might want to attend if they fit your passions: the Sierra Club, PETA, the American Diabetes Association, or even the NRA.

6. Hobby classes:

The couple that plays together, stays together. I know a hospital director who met his wife on the golf course. They play every weekend now. Do any of these spark an interest in you? Try an improve class, language class, cooking class, wine-tasting class, music class, photography workshops, etc.

7. Faith based activities:

Don’t just think of the typical church service, mass, or synagogue. Get involved. Check and see if there is a small group or bible study you can attend. Look up local FCA’s, Young Life clubs, or if you’re in college, get involved in Cru.

8. Parties:

The best way to find a good girl is through friends. Don’t miss out on classy house parties. Here are a few you won’t want to miss: Superbowl, birthday, costume parties, or even game night. Maybe a river float trip? Have you ever played Mafia? One of the best party games ever! Click here if you’ve never heard of it and want to learn how to play.

9. Fundraising events:

Over a year ago, I saw my wife at a Generosity Water fundraising event. You might find a good girl at a gala in your area too. Sign up for a 5k fundraiser, Children’s Miracle Network does an all-night Dance Marathon, etc.

Get out and about. Become known in your community. When it comes to finding a good girl, easiest isn’t best. Easy is where the majority of guys are looking, which makes the level of competition higher. Be thoughtful and be creative, and you will separate from the pack. Not to mention, these skills are going to help you on down the line too. Good luck to you good guy swaggers. Keep us updated on your adventure.

I realize this was a long time ago, Ellena, but is this still relavent?My daughter is going to graduate school for hospital administration to run children’s hospitals. Her other choice was veterinarian. Both were attainable. She LOVES animals as well! Difficult choice for her!

i am a divorced 48 yr old man with grown kids a i am now tired of living by my self after having done so for the last 6 yrs and i am looking for a woman that moves at my slow pace through life i am not in any hurry any more and so i am looking for a lady that has no pre determined agenda or responsibilitys i am now retired on disability i like going to the lake and watching the boats or fishing sometimes really i just to relax and take it easy

Any Man can get a million Women anyday But it takes a real Man 2 love 1 Woman a million ways! Are you ready to be loved a Million Ways! I like to open doors and hold hands while walking down the street. I enjoy surprising a lady. I am loyal, patient, respectful, considerate, sociable, honest and romantic. I am a cuddly Teddy Bear with a great sense of humor. I’m a sophisticated yet down to earth man who enjoys nature, traveling, experiencing new cultures, being at home and spending time with family, friends, entertaining together, listening to music, candles, romance, parties, dancing, chocolate, wine, cheese, bread, fireplaces i am a widower and i lost my wife three years ago but now want to have a happy ending but i have a child living together
The person I hope to meet would be spontaneous, honest and open minded; someone who likes to communicate, is kind, warm, intelligent, and confident. I am looking for a relationship where there would be fun, laughter, friendship, love and mutual respect, I’m straight person, and i want to build nice friend/relationship which last long and never ends with someone kind and nice, I know you are out there and it’s just a matter of time before we find each other I am looking forward to that day with all my heart.

Coffee shops, gyms, and parties? These seem like #terrible places to meet a ‘good’ girl. These three places are great if you want a liberal (sexually promiscuous), image conscious (vain and vapid), or a partychick (immature… and promiscuous). But a good girl? No.

John Doe here. Appreciate the reply. I have to say, I should look into the hobby classes and volunteering, really good suggestion. Kind of timid about it though… Not because of lack of confidence but of a jaded point of view of young girls these days. Lol.

Liberal does not equal sexually promiscuous, and conservative or Christian does not equal “good”. I’m an atheist and a liberal, and I think hooking up is gross. I know lots of “good” girls who drink coffee and work out.

Dance classes are a bonanza for the single shmuck: It will be mostly women and you get to pair up and dance with them. Plus as a life skill it can’t be beat, a lot of women go gaga for a guy who can dance.