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How Should a Man Best Manage a Relationship with Two Women?

In this day and age, monogamousrelationships are not necessarily the standard. Some may even argue that monogamy is unnatural and a setup for cheating. The idea of having a relationship with more than one person at a time is not that far-fetched and can actually bring about great results if it’s done correctly. And surprisingly enough, it doesn’t have to be covert or underhanded. It is possible for a man to have a relationship with two women that is exciting, harmonious and beneficial for everyone involved. If you want to successfully pull this off, there are some things you should make sure to do to ensure everyone (including you) stays happy and satisfied:

1. Be honest, upfront and give full disclosure. Have you ever come across a guy, or perhaps had a friend,who was able to successfully date multiple women with no drama and complete cooperation from them? You probably wondered, “How the hell did he pull that off?” or “Does he have some superpowered pimp skills I don’t know about?” That superpower is none other than honesty. There’s something refreshing and sexy about a man who gives you the real and is unapologetic about it. There are lots of women out there who are more than willing to be one of two or perhaps more girlfriends, as long as they know that this is the case. Instead of trying to trick a woman into such a scenario, tell her what the deal is and give her the choice to be a part of it or not. You’d be surprised how far honesty can get you.

2. It helps to date women who are interested in women as well as men. A woman who is attracted to other women is more likely to be open to having another woman involved in your relationship and see benefits in it. This could perhaps turn into a bonding situation as you choose your new partner together. It can also make for some great sexual scenarios, a la “Wild Things.” A woman who loves other women will likely feel less threatened by the idea of involving another female in the relationship. It becomes a win-win situation for everyone.

3. Create a relationship between the three of you. Now, you could go the selfish route and try to maintain two separate relationships. That will likely require a lot more work and create potential for dissatisfaction with one or both of your ladies. So it might be far more beneficial to create a blend. If the two women know each other and feel comfortable with one another, you can prevent friction and future issues. Spend time together, just the three of you. Have dinner, go to events, etc. Become a unit. This will create cohesion and harmony that will translate into smooth interactions between all parties.

4. Choose women who complement each other. Dating women who have similarities or things in common is great. However, there should also be a balance between the two. For example, if one of your ladies is high-energy, perhaps the other should be laid back. Consider dating women who each have different attributes you find attractive or sexy. One woman might be the one you watch sports with, while the other is the one you enjoy museums with. One may an incredible cook, while the other one does all the freaky things you like in bed. This also creates a role for each of them, allowing them both to stay in their lane, so to speak.

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