Gen 30:1 When
Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became
jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, "Give me children, or
I'll die!"

JEALOUSY OF AFFECTION

Gen 37:4 When
his brothers saw that their father loved him more than any of them, they
hated him and could not speak a kind word to him.

BRAGGING

Gen 37:5 Joseph
had a dream, and when he told it to his brothers, they hated him all the
more.

YOUNGER BEING GRANTED AUTHORITY OVER THE OLDER

Gen 37:8 His
brothers said to him, "Do you intend to reign over us? Will you
actually rule us?" And they hated him all the more because of his
dream and what he had said . . . 11 His brothers were jealous of him, but his father kept the matter
in mind.

UNFORGIVENESS OF OFFENSE

2 Sam 13:22 Absalom
never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad; he hated Amnon because
he had disgraced his sister Tamar.

ONEíS LIGHT EXPOSES THE OTHERíS SIN

1 Sam 17:28 When
Eliab, David's oldest brother, heard him speaking with the men, he
burned with anger at him and asked, "Why have you come down here?
And with whom did you leave those few sheep in the desert? I know how
conceited you are and how wicked your heart is; you came down only to
watch the battle."

JEALOUS OF THE OTHERíS SPIRITUALITY

Gen 4:2 Later
she gave birth to his brother Abel. Now Abel kept flocks, and Cain
worked the soil. 3 In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the
soil as an offering to the LORD. 4 But Abel brought fat portions from some of the firstborn of his
flock. The LORD looked with favor on Abel and his offering, 5 but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain
was very angry, and his face was downcast. 6 Then the LORD said to Cain, "Why are you angry? Why is your
face downcast? 7 If you do
what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is
right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you
must master it." 8 Now
Cain said to his brother Abel, "Let's go out to the field."
And while they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and
killed him.

IRRITABLE, UNSUBDUED SELF WILL

(A wise son = one self-controlled, subdued will / A
foolish son = one ruled by his passions)

Prov 29:15 The
rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces
his mother.

Prov 17:25 A
foolish son brings grief to his father and bitterness to the one who
bore him.

Prov 15:20 A
wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish man despises his
mother.

Prov 18:6 A
fool's lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating.

Prov 20:3 It
is to a man's honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.

Prov 22:10 Drive
out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended.

James 3:13 Who
is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life,
by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. 14 But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your
hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. 15 Such "wisdom" does not come down from heaven but is
earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. 16 For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find
disorder and every evil practice. 17 But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then
peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit,
impartial and sincere. 18 Peacemakers
who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. 4:1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from
your desires that battle within you? 2 You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but
you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have,
because you do not ask God.

II. CAN WE TEACH OUR CHILDREN TO LOVE?

Ps 94:12 Blessed is the
man you discipline, O LORD, the man you teach from your law; 13 you
grant him rest from days of trouble . . .

Mat 22:39 And the
second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'

John 15:13 Greater
love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

Five practical ways our children can be taught to
love each other

1. Assume a kind
countenance

Col 3:12Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe
yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
13Bear with each other and
forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as
the Lord forgave you. 14And
over all these virtues put on
love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

2. Speak a kind word

1 Cor 4:13 when we are slandered, we answer kindly.

Rom 12:14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.

Eph 4:31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander,
along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other,
just as in Christ God forgave you. 5:1 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself
up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

3. Perform kind acts

Luke 6:27 "But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to
those who hate you. 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.

Rom 12:10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another
above yourselves.

4. Physically share things

Luke 6:35 But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without
expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you
will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and
wicked.

5. Pray for them

Luke 6:27 "But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to
those who hate you. 28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.