Dealing with Family Arguments – Teen Toolbox Tuesday

If you’re struggling with conflict in the home – you’re in the right place.

Why do we have conflict?

Essential it boils down to the fact that we’re all different. Conflict is normal. The problem occurs when things get out of hand.

ABCD – 4 Things Which Lead To Conflict

A – Are you being too authoritarian?

“Don’t do that!”

This strategy works well with toddlers but not teenagers. They have opinions of their own. We have to adapt and understand that the old way doesn’t work any longer. You do your child no favours if you don’t let them learn for themselves.

B – Is someone belittling someone else?

Are you exerting too much control? This doesn’t just happen in the home either. Look at the language you use with people:

“It’s always like this”

“You should know better”

Power and control can be dangerous when misused.

C – Are you constantly criticising?

Instead of finding fault or criticising people, tell them what you want & how everyone can support one another. Explain how their behaviour/actions are frustrating and how they can help you improve things.