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message no. 213

Message from: Nikki - 29 Dec 03

Subject: Its hard

my little brother, harry, died coming up 4 months ago he was
6. he was the most gental and effectionate child eva. ive been
on here b4 and ive talked to other ppl i seemed to be getting
on fine. i am finding things so hard now i thought they were ment
to get betta as time goes on but just seem to get worse. christmas
was so hard for me i miss him so much. the hardest thing for me
to come to terms with is the man who killed my little brother
is walking around asif nothing is rong. less then 2 weeks afta
he killed my gorgeous little broher he returned 2 work, in the
same place where he crushed him to death showin no remorse what
so eva. he has ruind my whole familys lives and it doesnt bother
him one little bit. im finding things so hard to cope with i cant
take it anymore.
if you have read this then thanx,
nikki

Hi Nikki,
I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling at the moment,
I found Christmas hard too.

I just want to encourage you to try and stay positive, maybe
try to focus on what Harry would have wanted. Have you talked
to any of your family about feeling this way? Maybe some of them
are struggling right now too.

Please feel free to msg back and talk to me about how you feel,
I'd like to try to help you move forward if I can.

hi Alexis
i kno some of my family's feelin the same way but i find it really
hard 2 tlk 2 them. everytime i tlk about the way i feel it just
seems to make things worse.
im sorry to hear that christmas was hard for u. i really gr8ful
for u always havin something positive to say it helps! its just
really hard @ the moment.
thankyou.
Nikki x

Hi Nikki,
Sorry I've taken ages to reply. How are you doin? The last couple
of weeks have been hard, for me, but I'm starting to feel a bit
better.

I know you were worried about burdening members of your family
but I wonder if you have had an opportunity to talk to anyone
about how you've been feeling?
Whether you have or not, I really hope you're feeling a little
better, you know I'm here for you.

hiya.
im sorry i havent replied for a while. i hope you are feeling
better.
i have been going to see a Councillor. i dont know if its helping
but my mum realy wants me to try so im going to carry on for a
while. ive ahd a couple of bad days but im feelin ok at the moment.
Nikki xxx

Hi Nikki,
I'm glad you're feeling a little better. I think it's good of
you to keep seeing the counsellor because that's what your mum
wants and maybe you will start to get something out of it too.

I wonder if you have been able to go in to school lately, I
know you were finding it difficult a little while ago. I hope
that when you do feel able to go, you can find some support among
your friends.

I'm feeling much better, I think it was dealing with Christmas
that made me feel low.

I'm going to go now but I'd like to encourage you to stay as
positive as you can; and be proud of how you're coping. I'm here
for you Nikki. Look after yourself.