Giving birth and becoming a mother is one of the most meaningful experiences that life has to offer. Innumerable women go through the process, ultimately creating a brand new human life, and with the countless birth experiences, it’s fair to say that no two labors are quite alike.

No two women have the exact same birthing experience, yet despite this fact, one anonymous woman found herself being denied birth photography services after revealing to the photographer that she was expecting a Cesarean section.

The conversation, which was posted to the infamous Sanctimommy Facebook page with the names blurred out, begins with the sender (the expecting mother) stating that she did not opt to have the procedure.

She then writes, “I had no idea birth photographers discriminated people for how they birth their babies but that’s good to know. Have a nice day.”

By the mother’s attitude, you can already see that she’s (rightfully) offended— and that should be the end of it… right?

You’d think so, but despite the mother’s blatant desire to end the conversation, the photographer fires back with a message that has shocked the internet and managed to infuriate mothers ever since it was shared.

The photographer writes, “Surgery isn’t birth, my dear […] You are having a surgery to remove your baby from your abdomen. That is not birth no matter how you swing it.”

If that’s not bad enough, they also savagely add: “This motherhood job is hard, if I were you I would think twice about starting such a job by cutting corners so early in the game.”

WOW.

A 2011 study printed in the Expert Review of Obstetrics & Gynecology states C-sections are one of the most commonly performed procedures for women in developed countries, with statistics estimating that 1/3 of women end up having at least one C-section during their lifetime.