Light Weekend Reads: A mom's sixth sense

0 to 1 years

Created by
Jahnabi Medhi
Updated on May 12, 2017

Being a mother is perhaps the happiest moment of my life. The journey has just begun with my three months old little angel and life since then hasn’t been the same again. Being a working mom, juggling between work and home and striking a work home balance were on my cards.

And I don’t know how I thought that the new journey would be a cake-walkafter the little one (LO) joined us. However, of course, it wasn’t that simple. What was I thinking! The initial few days after the delivery were difficult with the c-section persistent pain and while at it, learning the ways of rearing my new-born. No matter how naïve I have been in managing my child, the feeling I get when she cuddles in my arms, when I breastfeed her, is inexpressible. I feel heavenly in more ways I could ever describe.

As a mom, I feel that not only have I given her birth I will also continue to be her lifeguard throughout. While I understood this, next began the continuous struggle to be the perfect mother and doing the best for my child. Doctors, friends, family, relatives, baby sitters all came up with different ways, customs, traditions, habits, myths, all with good intentions for the child. I realised how it is a constant struggle for a first time mum to decide what to take, and what not to from all this advice from all corners. One is also thinking about ensuring what is right for her child given so many perspectives.

I feel a mum is gifted with a sixth sense of sorts to do what is right for her child. I also realised something else in these last few months, I have realised that I need not be the ‘perfect mum,’ instead I simply need to be a ‘happy mum’. I was unwell for a week with severe back pain and I could not even carry my little one in my arms. Doctor had advised me complete bed rest. I could clearly read it on my daughter’s face that she could sense my pain and had a clue that there was something wrong. She wanted me to cradle her in my arms. Her smile faded away seeing her mom unwell. When I took her in my arms there was an impromptu twinkle in her eye. Such is the bonding between a mum and a child, I thought to myself.

No matter who loves your child how much, a mom shall always hold a special place in the child’s heart. I feel so blessed and full of gratitude that God has given me this beautiful relationship to cherish forever. I also feel deep gratitude to all the moms – working moms, stay at home moms. I feel lucky to be a mom and feel that all of us moms play a key role in raising our child to be a good human being. Just remember to take care of yourself to take good care of your child and that happy moms raise a happy child!

Being a mother is perhaps the happiest moment of my life. The journey has just begun with my three months old little angel and life since then hasn’t been the same again. Being a working mom, juggling between work and home and striking a work home balance were on my cards.

And I don’t know how I thought that the new journey would be a cake-walkafter the little one (LO) joined us. However, of course, it wasn’t that simple. What was I thinking! The initial few days after the delivery were difficult with the c-section persistent pain and while at it, learning the ways of rearing my new-born. No matter how naïve I have been in managing my child, the feeling I get when she cuddles in my arms, when I breastfeed her, is inexpressible. I feel heavenly in more ways I could ever describe.

As a mom, I feel that not only have I given her birth I will also continue to be her lifeguard throughout. While I understood this, next began the continuous struggle to be the perfect mother and doing the best for my child. Doctors, friends, family, relatives, baby sitters all came up with different ways, customs, traditions, habits, myths, all with good intentions for the child. I realised how it is a constant struggle for a first time mum to decide what to take, and what not to from all this advice from all corners. One is also thinking about ensuring what is right for her child given so many perspectives.

I feel a mum is gifted with a sixth sense of sorts to do what is right for her child. I also realised something else in these last few months, I have realised that I need not be the ‘perfect mum,’ instead I simply need to be a ‘happy mum’. I was unwell for a week with severe back pain and I could not even carry my little one in my arms. Doctor had advised me complete bed rest. I could clearly read it on my daughter’s face that she could sense my pain and had a clue that there was something wrong. She wanted me to cradle her in my arms. Her smile faded away seeing her mom unwell. When I took her in my arms there was an impromptu twinkle in her eye. Such is the bonding between a mum and a child, I thought to myself.

No matter who loves your child how much, a mom shall always hold a special place in the child’s heart. I feel so blessed and full of gratitude that God has given me this beautiful relationship to cherish forever. I also feel deep gratitude to all the moms – working moms, stay at home moms. I feel lucky to be a mom and feel that all of us moms play a key role in raising our child to be a good human being. Just remember to take care of yourself to take good care of your child and that happy moms raise a happy child!