dedicated to the fairer sex

…She’d Have a Beautiful Mind

No, not like the movie A Beautiful Mind… I mean a beautiful mind. One that’s smart, witty, creative, fun, and sometimes twisted.

There are some TV shows that I watch that are so good, I want to watch them with someone, see her reactions, and then discuss her thoughts on what’s going on, what the characters are thinking, and where she thinks the story is going. I get some of that with my BFF Kim on the shows Fringe and The Walking Dead, but we’ve only got an hour over lunch every other week or so and there are other things to talk about and catch up on (life, etc.), and the waiting between lunches kills me!

There are movies that are that good too, loaded with subtext, where the characters don’t necessarily just blurt out exactly what they’re thinking and feeling. The kind of movies you want to talk about with someone who’s just seen it too.

Books are similar, but a little trickier– you’re rarely reading them at the same pace, and once you’re done with the story there really isn’t too much to talk about other than just sharing what you enjoyed about it. The exception of course are books with sequels that haven’t come out yet… those are fun to talk about too!

The other day I was playing Settlers of Catan with my kids, and I thought about how cool it would be to have a girlfriend who would enjoy playing the game with us. I don’t run across many women gamers nowadays, but when I was in college I met a whole bunch of them who enjoyed playing Spades, Hearts, Bridge and other card games between classes. The women who were drawn to those games, who had the drive to play hard and just really loved the games, I found those women incredibly sexy. I had the pleasure of dating a few of them. I wrote a blog about Gamer women earlier…

While I’d love a woman who’s in synch with me on many levels– sharing a love for certain activities, enjoying a similar sense of humor, etc. — I also want her mind to surprise me, teach me things, to see connections that I miss, challenge my biases, keep me on my toes. I want to wake up each morning smiling and wondering what she’s going to do today that gives me that rush of new— something I’ve never thought of before, or looking at something in a whole new light.