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The "3 R's":Relationships, Rules, and Regrets

Use this concept to live your happiest possible life

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Relationships

"The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships". That's what my former business partner and well-known personal development expert, Tony Robbins, is quoted as saying. I believe he is absolutely right about that.

The issue many times is, however, that people believe by finding, creating, or seeking a great relationship (or many great relationships), they will be happy (or at least happier).

And surely while great relationships can bring joy and fulfillment to life, those relationships are usually not possible (or even "find-able") without being happy first.

What causes issues, challenges, problems, and even "unhappiness" in life is the fact that, since everyone has different rules, we all break each other's rules on a regular basis.

Also important is the number of rules we have. The more rules - and the more rigid those rules - the more chance we give for others to violate our rules (and therefore make us angry or frustrated); and the more chance we have of breaking other people's rules which are different from ours (therefore making other people angry and frustrated with us).

There are regrets we have about things we have done and regrets we have about things we have not done. As the quote below states, it's the regrets for things we have not done that could really destroy our overall happiness long-term.

“Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.”
- Sydney J. Harris

To be continued. Check back soon.

In the meantime, BeHappy! (the book) has a chapter on each of these - and provides ways for you to address each of these issues in your life.