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I wrote this a little while back for my wonderful sister in Christ Lene and really wanted to share it with the folks that follow me. Be sure to give Lene a visit because she has wonderful material, she’s super encouraging especially on the subject of waiting for marriage and she helped me out tremendously 🙂

Why does the bible recommend that the relationship between a husband and wife resemble the relationship between Christ and the church?

To have a prosperous relationship with God you need to completely submit yourself to His will. You need to fully devote yourself to Him and only Him. Every decision you make should be done in prayer and consultation with the Lord, not by your own understanding. You must dwell in His word and walk the straight and narrow path that Jesus laid out for us. You must spend time with God, seeking Him, talking to Him and listening to Him. These are aspects of the role that the church plays in the relationship between ourselves and Christ.

When we play our part Jesus is always faithful in going above and beyond our expectations. He listens and answers our prayers; He helps us to overcome insurmountable odds; He intercedes on our behalf; He forgives time and time again; He loves us unconditionally; He never gives up on us; He is always there and He blesses us abundantly even though we don’t deserve it. These are aspects of the role that Jesus plays in the relationship between ourselves and Christ.

This one is a pretty tough one to write because I’m not easily angered. Not much gets under my skin and I’m actually known as “the guy who is always happy and smiling” at work. Not only that but I truly do try to live by James 1:19,”My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,” but nevertheless I am not perfect and here and there I do get annoyed.

Ya know, It is so ironic that while trying to think of the things that I’m bad at I actually wound up finding a whole bunch of things that I’m good at. I realize that not a lot of people are fortunate enough to say they are good at quite a few things so I just would like to acknowledge that I am truly grateful for every single thing that I have the slightest bit of skill in. Hopefully all that I am good at will lead me to leading someone else to Christ.

But when I do the things I am bad at boy does it get ugly hahaha. Okay so here is a list of the things that I am simply not very good at:

Doubt is like a spiritual disease, I call it paleohyperdoubtapathy. This word when broken down means the ancient disease regarding an excessive amount of doubt. I among many fellow believers have been given no reason whatsoever to doubt the power of God. He truly has shown me just how able He is. I have a whole new perspective and understanding of the words of Jeremiah in chapter 32 v 17 in the book of Jeremiah because of all that God has shown me and brought me through, “Ah Lord God! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, and there is nothing too hard for thee.”, and the words of Jesus in Matthew 17:20 weathered the storm that I was facing when I wrote full plate, and God wont let me “… if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” With all of this being said, the only question is

My mind is literally in a thousand places all at once. Producing a clear thought has been nearly impossible for me. My mind is so loaded up with activity that I feel like my head is going to explode. Between having a baby on the way, trying to get my first car, huge disputes within my family, work and starting a new project that I feel as though the Lord is willing me toward, I haven’t the slightest clue what to place my focus on. I have never been so troubled in my life as far as focusing is concerned. I lay down at night and close my eyes for several hours but it feels like I haven’t actually slept in days. My life is like a whirlwind right now and there are so many reasons for me to panic and worry but instead I choose to keep my faith in God. If it were not for the word of God (which I’m barely able to focus on right now), I would be extremely burdened, but the Most High has comforted me with a bible verse each day to keep me on track and to help me to understand that my life is spiraling INcontrol not out of control.

The Icing on the cake was when my wife said to me today “obstacles are put in the way to build character” and she told me always to remember, Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God.”and she summed it all up with “Do your best and let God do the rest, and to frog it ASAP through life (Fully Rely On God, always say a prayer)” If there was ever any doubt that God speaks through people, it would be put to rest after that. I hope my wife’s advice to me through my struggle can help whoever is reading this right now.

My wife an I are so incredibly close! Over the years we grew closer to one another and more importantly closer to God. We were always inseparable, but instead of people seeing how in love we were all they could say is, “don’t you feel like you need some space?” or, “you two really need to spend some time apart, its not healthy to spend that much time with one person.” It really used to annoy me when people would say things like that, but I would listen despite my disdain toward the concept. This led me to make a lot of mistakes and almost kept me from the beautiful marriage I have today.