Infidelity in the relationship, whether emotional or physical, has been revealed and you are devastated.

Maybe you were aware of some problems in your relationship or maybe this news has come out of nowhere. All that you know is that it feels like the rug has been pulled out from beneath your feet and your heart has fallen into your stomach.

You likely have many questions for your partner—how, when and why did this happen?

It’s hard to focus on the other areas of your life as your mind keeps trailing back to the affair.

Your emotions overwhelm you at times – sadness, anger, and embarrassment. Sometimes you feel numb. It’s been a rollercoaster.

To the partner who had the affair:

Seeing the hurt the affair caused your partner, you may be feeling guilt and shame.

You might wish there was a way to move forward without hurting your partner any further.

You might feel like you need help when faced with your partner’s many questions.

You might also have your own pain in the relationship, which you want to heal from—and you might be confused about whether you should even bring this up while your partner is living in pain from the betrayal.

It’s so hard to see the emotional ups and downs your partner is going through; you feel helpless as you try to make things right.

Whether you are seeking support alone or as a couple, infidelity counseling can help you heal and move forward.

How I help couples:

-Support for each of you as you navigate the initial shock and crisis.

-Therapeutic support to help you gain a deeper understanding for yourself and your partner.

-Helping couples decide whether to end or continue their relationship.

-Education and skills to help you rebuild trust.

-Exploring what led to the affair and building a new, secure relationship.

How I help individuals:

-Support while you navigate the initial shock and crisis.

-A safe and confidential place to process your experience with compassionate support.

-Therapeutic support and skills to help cope with overwhelming feelings, experiences of flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, or feeling “out of control”.

-Healing with hope for a healthier relationship – whether you would like to continue or end this relationship and how to trust again.