Thursday, February 14, 2013

RED

Red is best!

Thick with passion.Confident.Bold. Unaffected yet warm.If our
infant eyes can see, it is the first color of life.We are born of and through and with Red.

It was my mother’s color of
choice.

“Red is Best!” she would say with a wink, laying her hard earned money down on the counter for a pair of ruby earrings.
The clerk would smile, comment on how lovely they were, and hand her the little
hinged box in a little red bag. If you didn’t know her you would think it a
little strange.

“Red is Best” was as common a
phrase as “Who loves you?” in my mother’s house.It began with a little book, carrying the
phrase as its title. A little girl insists on wearing her red mittens, even
though her mother tells her the brown ones are warmer.The red mittens make better snowballs. And
the red boots aren’t just for rain; they take bigger steps in any weather. And,
yes, a red cup does make a difference... juice just doesn’t taste as good in a
green one. No doubt about it, red is best.

My mom read the picture book to
my children, their little warm bodies snuggled into her lap under a soft red
blanket. If I pause, and allow myself to be still, I can hear her voice reading
the words, the lilt of her phrasing lulling me to peace.

When mom was a teen, new born
into orphan-hood after her mother died and her father remarried a woman half
his age, she learned to fend for herself.Her sister Ruby had taught her to sew. Her keen eye for fashion led her
to create some mighty fine dresses.The
famous Red Gingham Dress of my childhood make-believe was designed and crafted
by her.I imagine her purchasing the fabric.
No pattern, except the one in her mind. I imagine her slender hands guiding the
fabric through the machine, her feet working the pedals underneath.I see those hands cut the tiny red and white
checkered fabric in little circles, pulled tight over a dozen tiny buttons that
ended up marching in a line down the spine of her lovely back.She told me once that she never wore that
dress that she didn’t have a good time. It ended up in the dress-up box seven
babies later. Where it had come to her waist, it came to my knee…and I loved
playing in the old red gingham dress.

Though she did love red, she
wasn’t necessarily obsessed with it, to the point that everyone who saw her
thought…Well THERE’S a mighty reddish kind of lady!She understood the need for balance, and red
was more often an accent.Her love of
fine antiques fit well with her passion for the color.A deep red block in a nice old quilt, laid
comfortably over the old bench table. A bold red linen tablecloth under her
fresh white milk-glass plates, setting a crisply inviting table for her
treasured guests. It enlivened her space. Indeed, her outlook on life was
sanguine; filled with confident optimism.

In her waning years my mother’s
space filled more and more with the color. I think we needed the confidence it
represented.Her snowy white hair looked
so lovely against it, and her rosy cheeks and bright eyes radiated well in that
palette. My saintly sister Libby stretched clean soft deep red sheets over
Mom’s bed, fluffing her down pillows, making it so inviting as she laid her
down at night, smoothing her flowing white hair and kissing her forehead. My
other saintly sisters joined in in their own ways: Ann Marie bought two red
leather recliners for mom’s sitting space. Sherry adorned her with beautiful
garnet and ruby and gold jewels.Sue
stitched her lovely quilts in Civil War red and gunmetal blue, the stitches so
tidy you’d swear a machine must have made them, but so authentic you knew it
was her steady hands that had done the work.

In that terrible, beautiful,
wonderful, awful space in time, when we hovered like little hummingbirds around
our mother’s bed, we wrapped ourselves in her red blankets, laid our heads
against her red pillows, inhaled the aroma of flowers of yellow and fuchsia and
deep emerald green.Music rang, and then
steady rhythmic stillness.It was enough,
I suppose, to just hear her breathe.

On that fateful August
day I sat in the chair across from her, playing my guitar.Little Calvin was standing on one-year-old
wobbly legs.He bobbled up and down to
the tune of Old MacDonald, his little hands curled around the edge of the cedar
chest at the foot of her bed.Libby held
Mom’s hand, and our gift of a friend Sharon Christensen, Mom’s hospice nurse,
held the other.I felt a sudden urge to
cease strumming.Instead, my fingers
slipped up the neck to the chords of a song I had written for my mom years
before.

This river runs deep through the heart of the valley

It was fed by the waters of sun-ripened snow

And she runs with a passion from high in the mountains

And no one can tell her the way she will go

And weaving herself through the pine trees and canyons

She slows as she flows through the wide open
land

And here on her banks, where the willows are bending

I sit with an instrument held in my hands

Singing, Oh flow gently sweet Afton

Peace where you may roam

Oh, flow gently sweet Afton

Till the deep mother waters welcome you home.

Against the music, and the
passion, and the love, our mother drew a breath, mustered her courage, and
jumped into heaven.

The stillness was stunning.

Our tears dropped against her
pillowcase, deepening the red, as we covered her with kisses; our lips pressing
against her dissipating warmth.

Mo

m often said she did not fear
death, though she was mindful of separation.She was bold and passionate, fiercely devoted, brave in the face of the
unknown. And yet she was tender and gentle and whisper-warm with affection. She
was red.

My sisters and daughters drove to
Bountiful on a hot August evening; pulled into the empty parking lot at the
mortuary.Libby carried our mother’s
temple bag.We dressed our mother’s
body, our hands touching her skin, using our strength to move her.She cooperated beautifully, her joyful spirit
hovering over us, begging us to laugh. We dressed her in pink, in that soft
place between red and white.We brushed
her pretty white hair, and put just a touch of lipstick on her lips.But there was no need for makeup.Her bloom was blessedly real.

The men in our family,
under the direction and design of my nephew Elliott, crafted a fine pine casket
for our mother.We laid her there,
placing her in her living room for her beautiful collection of friends and
family to pay their last respects. It felt natural and right.

On the day we buried her we robed
her in white.Holy white.Sacred white.With a blood red copy of her beloved poetry book One Hundred and One
Famous Poems tucked in her hands.A
lovely accent.Red.

Her posterity wore red in her
honor.The color of passion.The color of power.The color our Master will wear when he
returns to claim us. The color of Love.

2 comments:

I am sitting here waiting for the color on my hair to cover my gray with tears streaming down my cheeks right here in the middle of the salon. Thank you Cori for capturing moments in time so that they can stay with us forever. Yours is such a gift and there was no greater admirer of that gift than our mom. Your sisters however are a close second. Mom is smiling and heaven is happy. Yes indeed. Red IS best!!!