about three years ago, my wife was diagnosed with bipolar. She's gone through the myriad of medicines, all of which have horrible side effects. I've stood by her side and tried to help her by being supportive, but I've hit a brick wall.

I live in Tucson Arizona and I'm trying to find out if anyone knows of any support groups here. While I will never understand what she's going through, nor anyone else who's afflicted with this dreadful disease, I'm at the end of my rope as well.

Welcome to HealingWell. I hope you find some answers and community here. I found a couple of links which may be useful to you. The first is the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance www.dbsatucson.com. Click on the "Meetings" tab for group meeting times.

The next is The National Alliance on Mental Illness. www.namisa.org/ Again, click on the "Support Groups" tab to get a listing of support groups and click on the pdf file for a schedule.

These are just a couple. You can call your local hospital. Hospitals often have outreach programming and run support groups. Also, feel free to ask your wife's doctor or therapist if she knows of any.

I really hope I can find something fast. I'm at my wits end. I've dealt with her rants and her "moments of weakness" ...meaning cheating on me, etc. She attributes it to her being sick, but I'm beginning to think otherwise.

I come home after a 12 hr work day, and I'm not even done yet. I'm expecting a conference call any moment. She rips my head off, and is wanting to leave cuz she needs some alone time. In the meantime, I have to take care of our 4 year old son and work at the same time.

Marriage being a partnership??? Not when one is bipolar. I have needs too, they're not being met. I don't ask for much, but man....I'm just feeling way to overburdened with it all. Makes me wonder.