The role of care taking that Islam gives to men is not fulfilled unless the man is a successful leader of his family.

A Muslim husband does not exert his manhood through, roughness, cruelty, violence or harshness, – this is the manhood of ignorance (of jahiliya). Islamic manhood is something else altogether. Islamic ideals of manhood is a strong, and likable personality a noble attitude, tolerance and forgiveness for mistakes, patient, strong adherence within the limits of Allah (swt) and a determination to establish the limits of Allah (swt) in the household. And how?….Through the Prophetic way of gentleness! And this excellence in leadership and care taking entails that the husband guides his family, spouse and children to the truth.

They are generous without being extravagant, they understand their responsibilities in this life and the next and they know what is ideal in the Muslim home that they want to promote. You want that serenity in the household. You want ”waj’alna lil-muttaqina imama”.

By Dr Hashimi – The Ideal Muslim

And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” [Surah Al-Furqan Ayah 74]

A question was asked to a group of home-schoolers regarding their reason behind choosing to home-school their child/children. The best of answers came from the following mother.

The question was: Why do you home school?

The answer:

Academia is not an issue, I want my children to be intelligent but not for the dunya/society, rather that they will have the intellect to carry out their Deen and discuss with people on all levels and background. I take my responsibility that Allah (swt) has placed over me as a guardian to my children seriously and fear my accountability as to what steps I took in order to protect them from the fire (as mentioned in the Quran).

The beautiful innocence that Allah (swt) places in each child…I feel cannot be preserved in mainstream schools. Over time I feel it is stripped layer by layer due to the exposure of kufr (discussing non-Islamic ideas with children before they are ready). I also feel that no one understands a child better than the mother and sometimes teachers can cause children to become negative and decrease their confidence by making comments when they truly don’t understand the nature of that particular child. The first seven years are the most impressionable and I want to instill as many of the traits of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) within my children in these first delicate years so that they carry them throughout their lives.

A man once came to al-Hasan al-Basri and complained to him: “The sky does not shower us with rain.” He replied: “Seek Allah’s forgiveness (i.e. say أستغفر ألله).”

Then another person came to him and said, “I complain of poverty.”He replied: “Seek Allah’s forgiveness.”

Then another person came to him and complained, “My wife is barren; she cannot bear children.” He replied: “Seek Allah’s forgiveness.”

The people who were present, said to al-Hasan: “Every time a person came to you complaining, you instructed them to seek Allah’s forgiveness?”

Al-Hasan al-Basri said, “Have you not read the statement of Allah? ‘I said “Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Truly He is Oft-Forgiving. He will send rain to you in abundance; increase you in wealth and children; grant you gardens and bestow on you rivers.”‘” [Nuh (71):10-12]

There are two things in the earth that give a person safety and security from the punishment of Allah. The first has been removed,whilst the second still remains. As for the first, it was the Messenger of Allah (صلي ألله عليه و سلم).

“Allah would not punish them while you were among them.” [al-Anfal (8):33]

As for the second, it is istighfar. “Allah would not punish them as long as they sought forgiveness.” [al-Anfal (8):33]