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My husband's not attracted to me now that I'm pregnant. What can I do?

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I'm six months pregnant and my husband never wants to make love anymore. He says he's afraid it'll hurt the baby, but I think he's just not attracted to me right now. I've tried to reassure him that the baby is safe but that doesn't help, and I'm tired of begging for sex. What can I do? And will he want me again after our baby's born?

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After reading all of these answers I feel slightly less alone. I'm going through the exact same things. All Iwant is to feel like I'm wanted by my fiance even though I'm 7 months pregnant. He never wants me to touch him sexually anymore and the only times we have sex is when I practically beg him! We used to always be intimate it was never an issue and now it's like he never even looks at me like he is attracted to me anymore. I just want things to go back to how they used to be which I know will never happen. Anyone that has had their baby please tell me does it ever get close to going back to normal?

I just wanted to express my gratitude and appreciation to prophet salifu on bringing my husband back to me,I was married for 9 years to my husband and all of a sudden, he started seeing another lady at work.he started hailing at me and he was abusive.. and he stop careing for me, but I still loved him with all my heart .the situation made me unsettle and not to focus at work .so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster? i did not listen to her . i kept on hoping that my husband will come back home . after a month it got out of hand and my husband came back home to break the news to me that he want a divorce that he is getting married to the other lady .Hmmm it was so shocking to me ,i felt sad and depressed ,so i contacted my friend again and decieded to try to use spiritual means reluctantly..although I didn't believe in all those things? I never thought in a million years that i will get my husband back to me a again.

i feel that same way. Like tonight i wanted to have sex with my husband but he said he was too tired and that he had jacked off earlier. It makes me feel so upset and sad and he doesn't get why. I just feel so unattractive now, i feel like i am never gonna get the weight off and like he will never be attracted to me again. i just don't feel the same, and i cry about it all the time..... :( what do i do?

I sadly typed this in to see if anyone else was having the same as me and ive been reading through the comments I see im not alone in this one. Im 34 weeks my partner hasnt come near me at all and believe me ive tried. He never used to leave me alone now its the opposite. I really enjoy the sex but for me its not just sex its making love and i may look very different but im still the same person he loves so I thought that me looking like this wasnt going to be an issue. Clearly I was wrong. Been pregnant changes so much and its the one time you need to feel wanted and loved more than ever. Feeling like your partner is repulsed by what he sees is not nice at all. So sorry for anyone else going through the same. Just hope its not gone for good. Also scared of how you get that connection back once lost:(

I'm 34 weeks and my boyfriend hasn't initiated sex in at least 2 months now. Every night, after he gets home from work, he deals with the dogs, eats dinner and sits in front of the tv or computer until he's literally falling asleep in his seat. When I bring up how I want to have sex during the day, to... I don't know, prepare him, I guess! He acts like he's all for it and then when he gets home, it's the same old routine! His actions make it 100% clear that he is not sexually attracted to me whatsoever in this state, despite his protesting that I'm beautiful and of course he wants to have sex with me. If he wanted to, you'd think he'd act on it or at least TRY every once in a while! I know I haven't been the easiest person to be intimate with lately with my sore nipples, ultra-sensitive lady bits and awful heartburn/nausea/cramping combo going on, but I still need some physical loving! And it sucks to admit, but this belly is really getting in the way of self-satisfying.

If he was attracted to you before you got pregnant I'm pretty sure he will be afterwards. Remember to stay active and healthy after you have the baby also, try to keep that spark going and make time for a date or two. And I don't think he's not attracted to you now, I'm 8 months and its just weird having a baby inside you plus trying to have sex sometimes. Lol you can't just put him in the other room. So don't sweat it, trust me he can't go that long without wanting some anyways so just be patient- it's not always about sex- you both are blessed. Also if you can't wait... We can always pleasure our selves (private shower)

I'm also 6 months and feel the sane way. You're not alone ladies. Before pregnancy my husband couldn't keep his hands off me. Now he barely touches me or kisses me. We try to have sex and he can't keep it up. He loves that our daughter is in my belly but it freaks him out. I miss that connection and feeling attractive. It's hard enough to watch your body change and to know you can't do anything about it right now. I guess I just never realized how shallow he was about my looks. We'll get through this and this is def motivation for when I can get skinny again

Not trying to be rude. But I had the exact opposite problem. I didn't want to be touched at all. And my partner (man not female no offense) would get angry with me. He already had 4 kids. This one was my first. I was very irritable but he was very supportive and waited for me to want it. He'd ask and bug for it. And in a way it made me feel gitty that he still found me sexy even with a basketball as a stomach. My advice for you ladies is to be patient. Especially if its his first baby. He'll come around. And like some of you said. You are not pregnant forever. So just enjoy everything you can while you can.

Wow this is a thread from 2001 but I am so happy I found it. I have been fighting sex death in my relationship, and while my partner thinks our sex life will return to normal after pregnancy, I am not convinced. He checks out random girls on the street and hookers standing on corners and then jerks off several times a week but claims the 'energy just isn't there with us right now' because of the pregnancy. I'm lucky if I get a slot a few times a month with him. He also doesn't get why his vast interest in everything on the street with a vagina is especially hurtful now that he isn't feeling it with me. I guess I'm just an ugly undesirable pregnant lady.

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