Awkward situation. What would you do?

And now it’s happened to me. The thing is, 1.) we are already over on our number of Yes RSVPs, 2.) This girl and I haven’t talked in person in about 3 and a half years, 3.) I stopped pursuing a friendship soon after I met her because she’s RABIDLY conservative and is always being insulting to liberals (I’m really more of a moderate, but compared to her, I may as well be an honest-to-God Communist/Socialist/[insult Fox News insult du jour])

I don’t want to hurt her feelings, and she is a sweet girl, but I really don’t think we have enough in common to be friends, especially since she insults my beliefs. But I think that she thinks we are friends. I don’t want her to insult my other friends, some of which are gay, actually socialist, atheist, and Obama-loving. I think it’s sweet she wants to buy us a gift, but I am not sure how comfortable accepting it, even though we would be providing her dinner on our already overstretched catering budget.

@Bridey77: We became Facebook friends immediately after we met, and I don’t defriend people unless they are truly horrible to me. She is insulting to my beliefs, but always sweet to me personally (ie., she will post memes and articles about needing to drug-test welfare recipients, that picture of a mangled fetus with the Abortion is Murder messaging, Birther crap, some rather ignorant stuff about Trayvon Martin, “Adam and Steve” B.S., etc.)

Hmmm…it’s Feb 1st and if your date is correct, you are getting married in a month and a half. If I hadn’t yet received an invite, I would automatically assume I was not invited.

Is this from a chat thread? Did she start speaking to you first or you to her? Not that it matters, because that is beyond ballsy on her part. I would just let her know that you are so sorry but you are already over capacity for your guest list/venue and you and your fiance had to make some hard decisions on keeping it small as you both have large families or something. Leave it at that. I wouldn’t even touch the registry question I don’t think. In this day and age, you can google your full name and find your registries at the big department stores. If she ends up sending you a gift anyway, graciously send her a thank you card but leave it at that.

@EffieTrinket: I hate when people decide to be arm chair politicians/activists on the internet! If you know better than to be obnoxious about it in real life, then don’t do it on the internet either! Has posting a meme on facebook ever made anyone vote differently or change their convictions? YES-said no one EVER!

My husband has over 800 facebook friends. There are about 8 people he can actually stand to be in the same room with IRL.

Wow. Seriously??If she is such a conservative, she should know that what she’s doing is plain RUDE…..

I’m sorry you are going through this. If I was you I would politely text her back to tell her that you feel really sorry but that you can’t invite her because you have a limited amount of guests and it will be mostly family and very close friends who will be attending your wedding.

I know you don’t want to hurt her feelings but she needs a reality check. Maybe after this she’ll stop trying to be “friends” with you.

Part of me wishes you would tell her why you don’t want to be friends with her. Sometimes people wonder why they cant’ seem to develp friendships. The thing is, nobody dares/wants to tell them what the heck is wrong with them. It’s hard to be brutally honest since we don’t want to hurt their feelings.

She should know that it doesn’t matter whether one is a conservative or liberal, one should never insult others. We should all be respectful of what we believe….

If you posted about your plans on FB, it can open the door to people thinking that you are the rude one for talking about a party in front of people who are not invited. So if that is the case , I’d apologize to this woman and then stop posting anything about wedding details.

If she heard about your wedding through the grapevine, I would just tell her that your wedding is going to be limited in size, which is always true. I doubt that she will persist in asking you where you are registered after that, but if she does, I’d just say a gift is not necessary and that her warm wishes are more than enough.

I’d stretch the truth a little to spare her feelings – you’re having a smallish wedding, it’s mostly family, you’re on a tight budget, you’ve had to leave out so many people you wished could be there, your venue has a small capacity. It’s better than the truth- you’re just not that in to her!

I thought about something on the way back from Chipotle–she never invited me to her wedding. I thought since her husband was military they may have eloped, but when i went back and looked at her FB photos…nope! She had an actual wedding and I didn’t rate an invite at all.

Ignore her. If she actually had the values that she claims to have she would know that the text was rude as hell. You don’t owe her any explanation. If she presses, then tell her the truth about guest list; although, it’s none of her business.