Group talks have distinctive unstructured chaotic nature and come across as one of the most challenging social interactions an introvert or a shy and socially anxious person may find her/himself involved into.

In this short article I would like to present you the idea of the point of no return in groups talks, and how it can harm or help you.

I regard myself as a introverted person. Still I’m very eager to participate in social interactions despite the excess of them leaves me completely drained of my energy.

Nevertheless, when you just meet up with your friends, you are fresh and anticipate that you’ll spend some really good time with them.

When the talk starts (or you join active one), it’s OK to spend a number of initial minutes to tune in to a vibe of the conversation. It’s fine to feel kind of tongue-tied in the beginning.

However, once you figured out the kind of discussion: its topic, its mood — you have like about 5 minutes at max to kick your two cents in.

If you miss that point, two unpleasant things start to unfold:

a) You begin getting nervous that you haven’t said anything yet. And that if you say something now it will look awkward after so much silence from your side;

b) Other people may start considering you as quiet, and will begin to ignore you (like making no eye contact with you).

The Point of No Return, though having a dramatic name, is not that fatal, of course. Missing it does not necessarily make you obliged to stay silent through the rest of the group conversation.

It’s more of a warning sign which may make it a bit harder for you to start talking once you’ve passed it.

Living with parents is perceived differently around the world. Some cultures consider it as the only way to be. Three (even four) generations living in one house, under one roof, is totally OK. So if you decide to leave the nest, be sure, this society will not approve it.

On the other hand, there are cultures in which a person who continues to live with his/her mom and dad after leaving school is seen as a loser.

Both are somewhat extreme examples. However, for many people it’s easier to divide the world in black and white parts than accept the fact that it consists of shades… shades of grey, fifty shades of grey! OMG, just kidding. All I want to say is that the world is full of colors, and the color you see depends on your viewpoint.

I think an intelligent individual must seek for what is beneficial to him/her in the first place. If it is beneficial for an adult son to live with his parents, – great. If it is beneficial for an adult daughter to leave her parents, – great.

However, I’m also sure that evolution made it clear: it wants all the children to become independent adults in the end. It expects that we are brought up by our parents, but then… It has also provided us with a wide range of instances in the animal world (for those who doubt that this is the right way to go).

If someone finds inexpressible harmony in living with parents AND demonstrates complete autonomy from them at the same time, that is great, isn’t it? Unfortunately, the real life shows us the opposite examples much more often.

This article is for those who sees moving out from parents home as a beneficial decision to him/her.