Mom Answers

I agree with PP that some men feel weird, it's not that he finds you unattractive, it's just that his child is in there, and maybe he feels he's invading the child's space by having sex with you. I know of two great positions while in the second and third trimester that get the belly out of the way and may help him 'forget' the baby is there :o) Try 'spooning' lay on your side and have him lay behind. Or the classicly named 'Doggie-style" If being on all fours hurts or is uncomfortable go with the first one. Please note that him entering from behind does put him at a different angle than missionary and can cause discomfort if he goes too deep or to hard and fast. Tell him to be gentle and have fun. I would definitely sit him down and discuss it with him, see what's going on with him and try not to take it personally. Some men really do just get 'turned off' because they are afraid they will hurt you or the baby. Good luck and hope it works out for you!

Well, if you have a little something special he likes you to wear, just kind of put it on as a hint (a really obvious hint but a hint nonetheless). Try to initiate sex yourself, if he has a problem with your "growing" tummy, than try different positions where it's not in his face! It makes it easy too, especially in that third trimester. Some guys just think it's weird to have sex when they know the baby is there though, mine doesn't for sure, I wish we could even it out and your bf could have half of my husbands sex drive!!!

This Internet site provides information of a general nature and is designed for educational purposes only. If you have any concerns about your own health or the health of your child, you should always consult with a physician or other healthcare professional. Please review the Terms of Use before using this site. Your use of the site indicates your agreement to be bound by the Terms of Use.

This site is published by BabyCenter, L.L.C., which is responsible for its contents as further described and qualified in the Terms of Use.