Summer does she know you want to use the money for DE'S . Sounds like she is purposefully doing it to be spiteful I don't know though what I would do if I was you. It is almost impossible for me to consider the idea of giving up my own baby in the same circumstances and throwing money down the drain in court when it doesn't have to be that way. But she just keeps taking more and more time away doesn't she. I really feel so sorry for you to even be back in this position when you were so close to settling. You poor thing ((huge hugs)).

Originally Posted by Summer

Well I'm heartbroken, our DE money is about to go out the door on a court case... Thursday is the deadline for getting all our court documents together so over the past week we've thrown everything at this to get a settlement out of court - DH agreed to sacrifice week about for six nights to try and effect closure and the Mother came back and said that she would agree to five nights this year and six next year. She had several other minor points to dispute, so in the interests of finishing it DH agreed to all points except for the six nights starting next year. On the weekend she approached DH in person at drop off and said she wants to finish this as the only ones winning are the lawyers, they discussed it and agreed between themselves that the six nights would start in Term 3. There were no other disputes.

So this morning we did the final orders and DH and I were high-fiving ourselves on being willing to compromise and get the job done so we don't have to go to court. Except now the absolute f**cking biatch of a f**ing C R U N T has just come back with six nights starting in Term 4 instead of Term 3, and then half a dozen changes to the more minor points that have already been agreed on!!! WTF???? We are fuming to the most ridiculous degree and cannot believe she would do this when they agreed verbally on the weekend. Now she is just playing games for the hell of it.

So DH wrote to her - "See you in court". Fruck it, we've done everything possible to avoid this and now I just see our DE $$$ flying out the window. How dare she ruin our family in this way...

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@Summer what an absolute frucking biatch cow. Boy is she gonna get a karma slap in the face one day!

I agree with BiB, I reckon the money will come back as you'll get awarded costs especially when the judge hears about her manipulative mi f games she is trying to play.

I know it is hard and you have sacrificed so much already, but you are doing this for the right reasons dss needs to spend more time with you both in these formative years - if he doesn't, he'll end up like her!

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so sorry to hear, @Summer. I'd prob start recording the conversations on my phone if there's no other witnesses. though not sure if that's legal either. I'm sorry you have to go through all this & I hope it doesn't effect your DE money. hugs

Thank you, I just can't stop crying, we so thought this was going to be done and dusted today and she just will not finalise things. Rest assured we are going for the throat now, we're hiring a top barrister and sparing no expense to absolutely demolish her in court. There's no guarantee we'll be awarded costs, but at least we have a good case to show we were willing to settle and she is the one that just kept fighting this with no cause. Far out....

Good!!! She deserves everything she's going to get!!! C R U N T!!!!😡

Don't cry Luv....this is just another mountain to climb & claim on the way to your ultimate destination..."MT Mummy"😊

Even if you get awarded some costs...that's got to be better than none. Even if you do get none...there will be another way forward. DH will sell the business in record time for eg.

The Universe will see to it ((((Hugs)))

Now go open up a nice bottle of wine & drink to the biatches demise!!!😁😁😁😁

Have it with some cheese & crackers etcxoxo

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Summer does she know you want to use the money for DE'S . Sounds like she is purposefully doing it to be spiteful I don't know though what I would do if I was you. It is almost impossible for me to consider the idea of giving up my own baby in the same circumstances and throwing money down the drain in court when it doesn't have to be that way. But she just keeps taking more and more time away doesn't she. I really feel so sorry for you to even be back in this position when you were so close to settling. You poor thing ((huge hugs)).

Thanks hon, no, she would have no clue about DE, we have not discussed that with anyone at all, only between ourselves. It would only be if she randomly came on here and put two and two together and figured out that Summer was me - but the chances of that would have to be beyond ridiculous - I can't actually see that happening.

It is breaking my heart, we just wanted this finished so we could move on with our lives, create our happy family at home and not have to spend mega-bucks to finish this. She is fair dinkum insane and all we can hope now is that we get awarded costs to her down the track. Every time we agree to something she just keeps on moving the goal posts, so there's no point going back any more. We have to do our court documents tomorrow, so there is no more negotiation. She's definitely not sane and I think we're going to bringing that up in court.

That is fair enough. Well where there is a will there is a way. I would take her down and still do DE'S as well and then worry about the money situation later. We redrew on our home loan for our DE cycle. I am just glad she doesn't know what you want to do the mean and spiteful ***** I don't think she would like the thought of you and DH having a baby together which is why for a moment I thought that might have been why she keeps trying to make it harder for you both.

Originally Posted by Summer

Thanks hon, no, she would have no clue about DE, we have not discussed that with anyone at all, only between ourselves. It would only be if she randomly came on here and put two and two together and figured out that Summer was me - but the chances of that would have to be beyond ridiculous - I can't actually see that happening.

It is breaking my heart, we just wanted this finished so we could move on with our lives, create our happy family at home and not have to spend mega-bucks to finish this. She is fair dinkum insane and all we can hope now is that we get awarded costs to her down the track. Every time we agree to something she just keeps on moving the goal posts, so there's no point going back any more. We have to do our court documents tomorrow, so there is no more negotiation. She's definitely not sane and I think we're going to bringing that up in court.

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That is fair enough. Well where there is a will there is a way. I would take her down and still do DE'S as well and then worry about the money situation later. We redrew on our home loan for our DE cycle. I am just glad she doesn't know what you want to do the mean and spiteful ***** I don't think she would like the thought of you and DH having a baby together which is why for a moment I thought that might have been why she keeps trying to make it harder for you both.

Thank goodness she doesn't know about that, and yes she would be spitting chips if DH and I have a child. As far as anyone knows, and that includes my family, friends, everyone, we are finished and not pursuing having a child any further. The only one that does know is the lady who offered me her eggs and she lives overseas. So it's not that, she is just playing games, she is the sort of person that must have the final word, so just when we think its finished, she changes things again. We've had enough now, GAME ON BIATCH.

She's definitely not sane and I think we're going to bringing that up in court.

I'd run that past your lawyer, because you don't want her accusing you of defamation or whatever the legal term is (even if true). could you say "extremely uncooperative & indecisive" (or similar) instead

Ok @Summer at the risk of having my head bitten off (please don't as I'm pretty tender re ex's at the moment - mine's due at my house in 3 hours & all I want to do is run the garden fork through him)...is it really the term 3/term 4 issue that is the negotiating point now? So about 11-13 weeks worth of contact (which equates to about 11-13 days of contact?). If you concede these 11-13 days today or tomorrow can a judge sign off the plan and it's set in stone, she must comply?

Ok @Summer at the risk of having my head bitten off (please don't as I'm pretty tender re ex's at the moment - mine's due at my house in 3 hours & all I want to do is run the garden fork through him)...is it really the term 3/term 4 issue that is the negotiating point now? So about 11-13 weeks worth of contact (which equates to about 11-13 days of contact?). If you concede these 11-13 days today or tomorrow can a judge sign off the plan and it's set in stone, she must comply?

Hon, we've been doing that for the last couple of weeks, we concede days, she agrees, then changes the terms. So far we've conceded seven nights to six, then an extra night each holidays, then starting in term 3 rather than term 2, and each time we concede a point, she reneges on it. So now after her agreeing to Term 3 on the weekend, then changing it again to Term 4, if we agree to that, she will just come back with another change tomorrow and this will never be finalised. So this is about the sixth time now that we've agreed and she's gone and changed it again, so we've had to call it.

Yep, ram him with the fork.
@winsor of course we'll be guided by our lawyer to do it properly

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