How To Spot A Killer: 35 Relatives And Friends Of Murderers Reveal The Red Flags

17. They took turns being the aggressor in their arguments, but I never suspected that he would murder her. They also had really loud sex.

“My uncle murdered his wife while the kids were in the house. He shot her, cut her in half, then killed himself. There were a few signs. Every time I visited them, you could tell he was having trouble with my aunt. They were always so passive-aggressive with each other. They took turns being the aggressor in their arguments, but I never suspected that he would murder her. They also had really loud sex. I found out later they were into BDSM, but surprisingly, he was usually the submissive one according to their friends.”

18. He used to be suicidal and was kind of a ‘creepy’ guy, but that was kind of his sense of humor.

“Not a relative, but one of my best friends murdered a fellow employee a few months ago. He was a really fun guy to talk to and in my opinion he was a good person. That was, until he lost his job due to a harassment charge. He used to be suicidal and was kind of a ‘creepy’ guy, but that was kind of his sense of humor. After he lost his job, he became depressed and angry, but he put up a front and said that he was OK. The whole time he was planning what he would do next. He used fellow employees to figure out his victim’s schedule and waited by her car and ambushed her. He was caught and is in jail now. Seemed to be a planned act of rage.”

19. He wasn’t cocky or narcissistic and I honestly never got a single red flag from him all of our childhood.

“My cousin killed three guys. Got into a fight with two guys at a bar and somehow managed to kill both of them. They were all drunk and I know he served time in prison for it. About 2 years after he got out, he couldn’t get a job and resorted to thieving. He shot a cop who was trying to arrest/stop him from stealing from a train depot.

Growing up, we were real close. He was a normal kid, never hurt animals, never reveled in doing bad things. He wasn’t a bully at school, he didn’t throw his weight around. He wasn’t cocky or narcissistic and I honestly never got a single red flag from him all of our childhood.

Once we grew up, we drifted apart, but we kept in touch and I never had any bad memories of him. He liked Lost and thought it was a fun show. His wife was nice and was OBSESSED with Lost and my cousin. I went over there multiple times and they seemed very functional. I never once felt any signs that things were off. They had healthy and nice kids together.

The bar fight incident, as far as I know, was a disagreement between three drunk people that ended unfortunately. He told me, after getting out, that it was an accident and he never meant to hurt anyone like that. He was just defending himself. But I noticed after getting out that things had changed in him. He wasn’t mean or violent, but no one wanted to hire him.
He had issues with jobs and I know his home life WAS a bit stressful because of it. His wife and kids still loved him, they didn’t divorce and I still stand by that they were a good couple and truly loved each other.

I think the first two guys was just a mistake. I think the third guy was an unfortunate event that culminated when he couldn’t find a job or make money and wasn’t going to risk being caught again. I think he made a decision where it was his life going back to jail or the officer who had seen him and was trying to apprehend him.”