What do women hate about men: Habits and behavior that girls hate in a relationship

Updated on October 28, 2013

What do women hate about men? Which habits of a husband does a wife hate? What are the things in a boyfriend's behavior that a girlfriend hates? Whether it is in a marriage or a relationship, whether it is inside the bedroom or outside it, whether it is in public or in private - here are some of the most common things that women hate about men in a relationship.

Women hate it when men hog the TV remote. | Source

1) Hogging the TV remote

Watching the TV together can either be extremely romantic or extremely annoying for a woman, depending on whether her man shares the remote or not. Hogging the remote is a common male habit that women despise.

Just like she tolerates the nonsense of never-ending sports games and the mind numbing action movies, she expects her man to cuddle and watch a romantic-comedy or a TV show about fashion.

2) Being completely unromantic: Ignoring expressing love

One of the biggest things that women hate about men is actually one of the most innocent aspects of a relationship. Women hate it when men completely forget to be romantic and take the romance in a relationship for granted.

Women don't expect men to behave like bubbly teenagers in love all the time but a regular expression of love and romance in the form of stealing kisses, unexpected warm cuddles, giving a rose without any reason and compliments on her looks are dearly expected.

3) The art of selective hearing: Being a good listener on a need basis

Selective hearing is a habit that women hate in men. Women feel frustrated and ignored when their guys simply zone out during a conversation that does not interest them.

It is highly insulting when a guy has an animated conversation with his partner when they are talking about gadgets or cars, but zones off completely when she starts talking about her new hairstyle.

4) Taking sex for granted: Not putting effort to turn on their partners

A woman's mind will be filled with hate and disgust if her boyfriend or husband expects sex even when she has had one of the worst days at work or when they both have been fighting continuously.

Women link their sexual life with their everyday lives. Her sexual quotient is directly impacted by things that happen around her at work and home. This is why a woman will expect her girlfriend or husband to make an effort to turn her on.

A woman will not like it when her man keeps in touch with his ex.

5) Still talking to his ex

A woman hates it when her boyfriend or husband keeps in touch with his ex. She will feel pangs of jealousy over a partner's ex regardless of how secure and confident she is about herself and the relationship.

Does he still miss the ex? Is it possible that he still has feelings for her? Does he share a chemistry with her that is better than their own? These questions are bound to resonate in a woman's mind if her partner continues to be in touch with his ex.

6) Women hate it when men ogle at other girls

Women get really irritated when their men stare at other women. It is a direct insult to them on many levels. Men usually blame their stares on genetics and an odd glance but women are well aware of real reason behind their men's ogling ways.

A woman will have very high respect for her guy if he keeps his eyes to himself when an attractive girl in skimpy clothes walks by.

7) Making a mess and leaving stuff all over the house

A common reason for arguments between married couples is a man's messy ways around the house. Coins scattered at different corners of the house, dirty clothes lying in sneaky corners of the bedroom and messy bathrooms tend to irritate a woman.

Women think of a guy's messy habits as a direct insult and disregard to her efforts in keeping the house clean.

8) Lack of interest in womanly activities and interests

Women hate it when a man expects her girlfriend to tag along to watch the latest Transformers flick but make a disgusting face when asked to tag along with her to shop for shoes. In a relationship, a woman wants her man to show as much interest in her activities, as she shows in his.

When a man fails to reciprocate interest in the things that his girlfriend or wife likes doing, she will feel unfairly treated. She does not expect him to come with her every time she steps out to do girly things but accompanying her on a shopping trip or taking her to see a theater play once in a while is definitely expected.

Women love it when their partners keep fit to look handsome. But it is unappealing when guys become fitness freaks and try to morph into muscular monsters.

9) Women hate it when guys turn into fitness freaks

Women really appreciate it when their guys remain fit even after marriage, whether it is in the form of regular trips to the gym or taking time to hop on the treadmill at home for a quick cardio workout. She will herself like to take inspiration from his ripped body so that she can find the motivation to lose weight and stay sexy.

But this source of motivation can easily turn into a source of hatred if her man takes fitness to an extreme level. Unless her man is a professional in the field of body building or fitness, she may see no reason why he should be spending thousands of dollars on fitness supplements, following crazy diets and spending all his free time in the gym in an effort to try to look like mean monster.

10) Women hate inflated male egos in a relationship

Women want men to leave their egos behind when they are together because a woman's personal space has no place for her partner's ego. Sometimes men don't understand that their behavior with their women doesn't need to be as macho as it is when they are with co-workers, colleagues or friends.

A caring girlfriend or wife will lovingly stroke her man's ego. But she does that while expecting her man to show off his inflated ego in front of others and not to herself.

11) Showing disgust over women's hygiene issues

Women want their men to be more accepting of all women's hygiene issues including hair removal and periods. Men typically like to steer clear of anything that has got to do with these things including hair removing tools and accessories, tampons or special underwear.

It is a common sight in relationships and popular culture that men show disgust when it comes to women's hygiene issues. For example, if a woman does not make a bad face when her man shaves his stubble, why should a man make a yucky face at the sight of a woman shaving her legs?

This is not a woman's idea of spending a fun weekend all the time.

12) Slouching on the couch for the entire weekend

Monday morning to Friday afternoon is generally the most boring time of the week. Work and studies can take the fun out of life on weekdays. But Friday evening, Saturday and Sunday are supposed to be the most fun days of the week.

Women absolutely hate it when their men just want to sit on the couch, watch TV, play video games, watch movies and eat stuffing amounts of home-delivered pizza. Women expect their men to strike a nice balance between relaxing like a slouch and doing something fun during the weekend.

13) Burping and farting in front of girlfriend or wife

Girls expect their guys to excuse themselves and pass gas in private. Women hate it when their guys unapologetically burp loudly or fart in front of them. It is gross and shows bad manners.

High levels of familiarity and comfort should not be taken for granted. A married couple or guys are girls who have been in a relationship for a long time may have been at the receiving end of an untimely burp or fart. But this is supposed to be a one-off.

14) Comparison with the deadly two: Mothers and exes

A woman will feel devalued if her guy compares her to his mother or his ex. It feels derogatory and it can make a woman feel like she is not the most important female figure in his life.

Such comparisons are commonly made men when they compare their woman's cooking with their mothers or point out an annoying habit that their ex-girlfriend did not have. Most of these comparisons may be made unintentionally or in a fit of rage, but the damage is done irrespective of whether it was deliberate or not.

15) Obsession with gadgets and machines

Men can be obsessed about gadget, cars and other boys stuff to an extent that a passionate hobby turns into a gripping obsession which takes over their lives. For example, a man who is obsessed with tinkering with his motorcycle may be spending every second of his free time in the garage.

His obsessive hobby may also be draining out hundreds or thousands of dollars. His wife or girlfriend will hate the fact that she, and the relationship is the second priority in his life.

5 comments

Each of us is responsible for our own happiness. When it comes to relationships each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

If you go to the store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a "better shopper".

Not all men or women are alike. Therefore it's up to the individual to select the mate that is "right" for them. For every behavior one person may disapprove of another may not find it to be that big of a deal.

Ultimately everyone is looking for someone who will love and appreciate them for who they are. Instead of us trying to get others to "change" we are better off finding someone who (already) is the kind of person we want to be with.

There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. One man's opinion! :-)

DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

''Comparison with the deadly two: Mothers and exes'' and every other point mentioned here really is annoying to me.

Fuller-Life 3 years ago from Washington, DC

I think the "comparison with the deadly two" is the most damaging. All the points apply to men as well as women. If you take a man for granted, you lose him. Men are not just interested in sex, it's a myth that has been popularized by talking heads. If a man is disrespected and unappreciated his sex drive dwindles. Don't be shocked if he goes on a prolonged hiatus.

Larry Wall 3 years ago

Women are guilty of comparing husbands to dads and exes, so lets me fair about things.

I never forced my wife to go to any event and I have never gone shoe shopping with her. I have been with her when she has seen a pair of shoes, tried them on and purchased them. I have no problem with that. I do have a problem sitting in a chair while a woman tries on 10 pairs of shoes.

If you look at most of your points from the male perspective, you might understand problems men have with women.

I have purchased night gowns for my wife, the female customers in that department to not like men in their domain.

Women have "those times" that many men, especially young husbands do not understand.

Also, it is somewhat a cruel stroke of faith, a woman after passing her child bearing years may have an increase interest in sex, while men, hit their peak at a very young age and watch it recede much like their hairlines.

It is a tough world for all of us. Talking to each other is the best way to overcome all the issues you have raised.

Of course, what do I know. I a man who has only been married for almost 33 years to the same woman and would not have it any other way.

OMGirdle 3 years ago from United States

You've highlighted some good points. We need to learn we are two different animals. Each breed, men and women, have their own make up which is why we are either one or the other. One of the biggest mistakes we make as women is we think men will change into what we want them to be. Not so. The man you experience before you marry or live together is the same man you will get once the union has commenced.

What we need to do is recognize the difference, discuss them for awareness and see what we can do to harmonize our differences into a healthy togetherness. It's really not about the remote. It's more about doing something we both enjoy. Just like it's not about the fitness club. It's about why aren't you spending time with me or why aren't you saving money to take me on a trip. We just need to learn how to better live with each other in respect of who/what we are. Good Hub!