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Do you feel that you are doing exactly what you were sent here to accomplish in your lifetime?

Many people don't start thinking about what or who is important to them until they suffer a great loss. Once you or someone you love is gone, you have lost the opportunity to live the life you were meant to live. What would you like to change in your life?

A better paying job

A more fulfilling career

Better relationships

Exploring your talents

More joy in your life

More laughter in your life

More money

More time freedom

Mending gaps in family relationships

Do you recognize your passions and your mission in this life? One way to get crystal clear on what you want to accomplish in this lifetime is to imagine that you are able to write your own Eulogy. What would that sound like? Who would be attending your funeral? Who would be absent from your funeral? For all the people who gathered to pay their last respects to you, what would you like them to walk away with and how would you like to be remembered?

Once you allow yourself to think "outside of the box" and truly embrace the concept of how you will be remembered, this exercise has the power to help you see where you are off track in your current life. If you want to be remembered as a great baseball player, how often are you practicing baseball? If you want to be remembered as a great artist, how are you practicing your art?

Here is an example of what this exercise might look like:

As I look out on all of the faces of those of you in attendance, I can’t help but smile that Jack Canfield has come to pay his respects. Jack, Nancy really admired your work and was always the first in line to help promote you and your books! I hardly know where to begin; Nancy was such an inspiration to so many women and once she determined her life’s mission, there was no stopping her. Nancy’s mission statement was to encourage women to improve their health, value their “self” and increase their wealth. One of Nancy’s favorite sayings was, “A Man Is Not A Plan!” Nancy truly encouraged women to find their gifts and build a business around what they loved to do because she knew that when women have financial independence, they are able to make the better choices. When I think about what Nancy would love to be remembered for, I know that a big part of her happiness came from being a mother and grandmother. Nancy learned many things about being a mother long after her children had moved away and had children of their own. When it comes to being a mother, Nancy felt confident that only after learning to love herself, did she begin to truly enjoy the bonds of motherhood and her advice to mothers everywhere was always, “Love yourself first!” Whether she was traveling, speaking to women’s groups or sharing her message on the radio Nancy loved encouraging women to believe in themselves. By sharing her story, Nancy has been able to help thousands of women understand their story, make the necessary changes and live their life to the fullest. I am sure that wherever Nancy is, she is Partying Like Purple!

Ok, now it is your turn. Give yourself permission to write your own Eulogy and then read it and be honest with yourself. Are you living the life you want to be remembered for?

I hope this blog has given you something powerful to think about and the next time you are wondering if you are living your life "on purpose" think of this exercise and you will know if you are on the right track!

Yours In Health,Nancy MuellerMy Mission: To encourage women to improve their health, value their "self" and increase their wealth!

Have you ever seen crabs in a bucket? When you place one crab in a bucket, the first thing it will attempt to do is escape. If you put two crabs in a bucket together, as soon as one tries to climb out, the other crab will grab the escaping crab by the legs and try to use it to climb over him to escape itself. This process will continue to repeat itself so that NO crab actually ends up escaping.

Do you ever feel like there is someone attempting to hold you down so that you can't escape or move forward in your life? Who is holding you down?Do you recognize the crabs in your life? Crabs come in many forms:

The person who is telling you "why" your ideas will never work

The person who tells you to keep the job you have because "it's a sure thing"

The person who tells you that you will never amount to anything

The person who criticizes the new website you just built

The person who criticizes your parenting skills

The person who tells you to stop dreaming because life is hard and you just have to get used to it

Are you your OWN crab? Being your own crab can look like this:

I can't do that, I don't have enough money

People will never take me seriously when I tell them my dreams and goals

My mother was right, I will never amount to anything

My boss is right, I don't have what it takes to get the promotion I want

I should stay at this job I hate because I am lucky to even have a job

Knowing the difference between the crabs in your life and being your own crab has a great deal to do with your self-talk. When you take a step closer to your success goals, do you second guess yourself? Do you worry about what others are going to say or if they will support your choices? Do you constantly wonder what others are thinking of you and if they approve of the choices you are making? Who are the people in your life that support you? Who are the people in your life who constantly try to remind you not to get too far ahead of yourself?

When you are following your life's passion who are the people that are supporting you? Do you support yourself or do you tell yourself that you don't have enough:

Money

Time

Support

Knowledge

Influence

Education

When will you give yourself permission to eliminate the crabs in your life and improve your self-talk? Your self-talk comes from the limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind. Since our subconscious mind consists of 88% of our thoughts, changing your self-talk is key to eliminating the crabs in your life!

My wish for you is to crawl out of whatever bucket you feel trapped in and move towards the freedom you will feel when you are following your life's passion. Give yourself permission to eliminate the crabs in your life and the next time someone tells you that you "can't" do something, simply turn around, look them straight in the eye, and say, "WATCH ME!"

Nancy MuellerMy Mission: To encourage women to improve their health, value their "self" and increase their wealth!

One of the reasons I love hosting Life's About Choices Radio is because not only do I get the opportunity meet fascinating women who have fascinating stories, but I also get to share these women with our listening audience.

One of my recent guests was Dr. Noreen Kahn-Mayberry PhD. Noreen Khan-Mayberry, PhD, also known as "The Tox Doc", is a toxicologist that specializes in environmental, space, food and nutritional toxicology. Her personal mission is to translate the language of science for non-scientists in order to educate and inform the public of critical issues that affect their health and quality of life. In 2006 I was at my most unhealthy state in my life; little did I know that toxins in my food, cosmetics and environment were a contributing factor. With so much conflicting information being given to us by the media, how does the lay person know what to choose?

When you have questions, who do you turn to for answers? Here are two of my favorite nutritional consultants: Terri Crystal and Sharon Madsen. Check out what they are doing to bring answers to those who have questions!

I love my nutrition program and how it continues to promote health in my body. However, I am not a nutritionist nor an expert on toxicology. How then do I share what I have learned so that people who are also looking for answers will be open to making some changes in their health as well? Well... I find the experts and invite them to be a guest on my show! Here are some of the reasons that Dr. Noreen shared about weight gain...

The food we eat

Toxins in our environment

Cosmetics

Cleaning products

Fast Food

Processed food

How our bodies deal with (or hold on to) toxins

Exercise

Weight Gain

Weight Loss

CLICK HERE to listen to the archived interview with The Tox Doc and find out how you can take control of your health.

When we find something that we are passionate about, and we know it will enhance the lives of others, and we take the time to share the message in any way we can, this puts us in a position to educate, empower, motivate and inspire others.

Me... I LOVE MY LIFE! I feel so very blessed to meet so many women who are working to enlighten others by sharing their stories. When women embrace the concept that we are stronger by collaborating than competing, we begin to see how we can make changes in our lives and the lives of others!

Every day millions of women decide to start a home based business. Women everywhere are discovering their passion and creating a business around what they love doing the most!

However, in order to work a business that you love, there are two very important things you MUST HAVE; your health and money to build your business.

Many women are changing their story from, "I can't live the life of my dreams" to "I am making my dreams a reality!"

Udana Power, entrepreneur, millionaire, singer, actress and screenplay writer went from having .46 cents in her bank account to millionaire status with her Multi-Level Marketing company and is teaching other women how to have the same financial success. Multi-Level Marketing is a $126 Billion Dollar Industry; bigger than the film and movie industry! More millionaires are made in this industry than any other and 83% of the women in the United States who are making $100,000 or more are making it in the Multi-Level Marketing Industry. Udana cautions that knowing the right Multi-Level Marketing company for you and understanding how the business works is key, prior to committing to the business side of a Multi-Level marketing company.If you are growing a business that you are passionate about and are tired of crossing your fingers every month to pay your expenses, you may want to consider the unclaimed money that is available from a Multi-Level Marketing company that is right for you. Consider this money unclaimed if Multi-Level Marketing is not something you have ever considered to create residual income to grow your business.No one is saying that you have to earn six figures in your Multi-Level Marketing company but ask yourself, "what could I do with an extra $300, $500 or even $1,000 each month?" If you are one of those people who turn your back on all conversations about Multi-Level Marketing, perhaps changing the story in your head about your limiting belief in an MLM opportunity will give you an opportunity for the unclaimed money waiting for you as a way to pay for the life you have always dreamed of living.At one time, the only way to create residual income was to become a singer, songwriter, author or actor. These people would work very hard to write their song, their book or get a part in their favorite movie, TV show or commercial. Today, creating residual income from this type of work is difficult; especially with so many people pirating their work. When you are ready to join the millions of people who have discovered unclaimed money in their Multi-Level Marketing business, and stop trading your time for someone else's money, you will find that you have more time freedom, money to live the life of your dreams, AND, best of all, the financial backing to work at something you are passionate about every single day!

My grandson is 5 years old. When I tell him that I am going to visit, he asks me what day and what time I will be there.

Never would I ever consider going back on my word about my arrival time. If I tell him I will arrive on Saturday at 10:00 in the morning, then I make sure I am there on or before 10:00 a.m. Why do I do this, because I love him like crazy and disappointing him is never an option for me.

Keeping our word to our loved ones, especially a 5-year old is an easy thing to do. What I often wonder is, at what point did keeping our word stop being important?

Have you ever set a time to meet with someone and find that you are running late? I am often amazed in business when I find people who do not honor another person's time or keep their word about showing up for an event.When did that become acceptable?

In his book, The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz talks about being impeccable with your word. Don goes on to share that being impeccable with your word sounds very simple, but it is very very powerful. Why your word? Your word is the power that you have to create. Your word is the gift that comes directly from your Higher Source. Through the word, you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifests through the word. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word.

Like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream or your word can destroy everything around you. One edge is the misuse of the word, which creates a living hell. The other edge is the impeccability of the word, which will only create beauty, love, and heaven on earth.

What harm comes to others when you don't keep your word? Thinking about my grandson, I could not bear the disappointment that I would cause him by not keeping my word. When we are late or don't show up at all we throw out a hasty, "I'm so sorry" but do we really think about what breaking our word has done to the other person?

What are some of the reasons that we break our word? Mismanagement of our time, overextending yourself because we feel obligated to say "yes" when we really want to say "no!" When you start giving yourself permission to honor your time and your level of commitment we will begin to be impeccable with our word. Being impeccable with our word is a powerful feeling.

Think about that person in your life whom you strive never to disappoint. Now give yourself permission to NEVER disappoint "YOU" at that same level and you will find that yourself empowered to stop disappointing yourself and others.

What would our lives be like if more people truly gave more thought to this concept? As for me, I love the look on that little guys face when I show up on or before the promised time!

“True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.” ― Oprah Winfrey

Has someone ever done something to you that made you so mad that forgiveness did not seem possible?

3 women were discussing this very question this week with me...

One woman was complaining about paying another woman several thousand dollars to advertise her business but the advertising never materialized. This woman was very upset, posting negative comments on the internet and was telling everyone who would listen about how she had paid for something she never received.

Another woman was talking about her ex-husband making negative comments about her to their children. This woman was practically falling apart because of the awful things that her ex said-husband was telling their children about her.

In yet another conversation, a woman was complaining about how her mother ruined her life due to bad parenting.

As I listened to these 3 separate conversations, I wondered if each woman understood the amount of power that she was giving up to the person they were angry with.

What if, every person that comes into our lives does so to teach us something? If this is the case, and we are able to look at situations that upset us and quickly realize that rather than be upset, perhaps we should be saying, "thank you for that experience because it has taught me to make better choices next time.

If the lesson:

for the first woman was to pay attention to where she is spending her marketing money in her business

for the second woman to stop giving her ex-husband power over her

for the 3rd woman to learn more effective parenting than the way she was parented

Can you see how each of these experiences can actually be looked at as a positive opportunity?

Michael Jackson has a song that really brings to mind the effectiveness of looking inward at the struggles we are dealing with in our lives:I'm Starting With The Man In The MirrorI'm Asking Him To Change His WaysAnd No Message Could Have Been Any ClearerIf You Wanna Make The World A Better PlaceTake A Look At Yourself, And...Then Make A Change

Too many people want to blame others for where they are in life or the struggles they are dealing with because they under estimate the person in the mirror. Beginning with the person in the mirror will always help you resolve life's challenges in a way that will allow you to feel empowered rather than disempowered!

You are a very powerful person. Instead of dealing with a situation with negative energy towards another person, start empowering yourself by creating a positive outcome to the situation. People are going to do what they do, stop giving them your power. Look yourself directly in the eyes and ask, "how can I take control of this situation?" Blaming others will only add to the negative energy in the situation. Start by loving the person in the mirror and appreciating the gift of each experience you have been given.

Tell yourself:"I forgive you for making a poor business choice""I forgive you for letting your ex-husband make you feel disempowered""I forgive you for allowing an abusive parent to continue to have control over your thoughts in the present"

Once you have forgiven yourself and are ready to take back your power, you begin to see the endless possibilities that life has to offer you!

The morning started out like any other but the choice I was making will forever change the course of my life. I waited in line to be handed my ticket just like I do at the post office; the only difference was, this time I was waiting in line to begin divorce proceedings instead of waiting to mail a package.

As I stood in line, waiting for my turn, I thought about my drive to the courthouse, parking my car, walking through security, searching for the floor where Family Court is held and wondering what all the other people standing in line with me were dealing with. No one looks into the eyes of another person, there is no talking, heads are bowed low and you wonder what others, standing in line with you are thinking.When I finally reached the window, the bored employee behind the bullet proof glass began to look over my paperwork. I couldn't help but wonder what had happened in this room to warrant bullet proof glass! After determining that my paperwork was in order, I was informed that he cost to file would be $450; why is filing for divorce so much more expensive than a marriage license?

I kept reminding myself to BREATHE and remembering to hold on to the light at the end of the tunnel because I know it is the key to getting through this.

The clerk barely looks you in the eye, he sees this type of situation every day that he reports to work. His job is to move people through the line, not to give reassurance. He hands me my ticket, mumbles something about waiting for my number to be called and is already beginning to do the same for the person in line behind me.

As I sit there, waiting for my ticket number to be called, I keep reminding myself of what a good person I am. I have made this decision because I know it is what is best for me and I must remember that if I am going to get through this I must continue to believe in myself and love myself. I brought a book to read during my wait but I am unable to concentrate. My thoughts keep drifting back to my wedding day and how I thought it would be my "happily ever after!" As I reminisce about that day, my thoughts are brought back to why I have made this decision and I realize that the love and happiness in my life comes from within and not because of someone else. I know that I have the Inner Strength to grow from this experience just as I have grown from past experiences in my life. The "positive" that is within me begins to swell within my heart until it reaches my mind and puts a smile on my face.

I believe that divorce can be viewed as opportunity or sadness but if you remember that every ending is an opportunity for a New Beginning you begin to realize that you absolutely have choices in your life!

You made the choice to say, "I Do" and now you are making the choice to say, "I Don't Any More" so what is your next step towards your New Beginning?

Think of this journey as a staircase, success will come from being willing to take the next step.

Step #1 ~ Your Health: Have you neglected yourself in this area and if so, what one step will you commit to doing to improve your health? You are the most important person in your life and you owe yourself the power of a healthy body. What negative habits have you fallen into that you will want to change on this journey to the top?

Step #2 ~ Your "SELF": Keep in mind that your life is all about YOU now so what one step will you commit to doing to be kind and loving to yourself? When was the last time you took time for yourself or put YOU first on your To Do List? Your playing small does not serve the world. What habits will you change to show you and the world that you matter and that, moving forward, every choice you make will be out of love for your "self." How can you expect love and respect from others if you don't know how to give it to yourself first? Make a choice right now to say "I LOVE ME" and all of my decisions will be made for my highest good. If you need help getting started, CLICK HERE and begin with the I Love Me journal.

Step #3 ~ Your Wealth: It is time to look at the gifts that you possess and live your passion. What are you most passionate about? How can you create a career living your passion and sharing your talents and gifts with the world? Now that you are ready to be self-preserving by putting your needs and wants first, what does that look like for your career?

In all 3 of these areas, make a list of what is working for you and what is not working for you. Many people want to bring about positive changes in their lives but aren't sure where to start. Too many people concentrate on what they DON'T want instead of what they DO want. What will it take to give you the Courage, Confidence and Confirmation that you can DO, BE or HAVE anything you desire? If you aren't sure where to start, CLICK HERE and listen to any of the archived interviews. These women are sharing concepts and philosophies that could be the key to empower you to take your next step. Have you thought about what LOVING yourself really means? CLICK HERE to understand why this is so important and can actually help you run up those steps towards your goal.

Here is the most important thing to remember as you walk your journey through divorce, surround yourself with people who inspire you and who will encourage you to NEVER GIVE UP! Stay away from friends and family members who want to sit and commiserate with you for they are not helping you move forward.

People you thought were so supportive in the past will seem to drift out of your life but this is more about them and their choices than about you. Knowing this will hopefully encourage you to seek new opportunities for friendships and mentors. Remember, LIFE IS ALL ABOUT CHOICES... you can choose to stay in bed under the covers or you can choose to Party Like Purple every day and put some life in your living. BREATHE and always look for the light at the end of the tunnel.

In his 2014 commencement address at the MUM Graduation, Jim Carrey talked about getting what you want out of life...

"The imagination is always creating scenarios, both good and bad and the ego tries to keep you trapped in the multiplex of the mind. Our eyes are not viewers they are also projectors that are running a second story over the picture that we see in front of us all the time. FEAR is writing that script, and the working title is: I’ll Never Be Enough If you listen to the voice of your ego, there will always be someone else doing something better than you. No matter what you gain the ego will not let you rest. It will tell you that you cannot stop until you’ve left an indelible mark on the earth, until you’ve achieved immortality. How tricky is the ego that it would tempt us with something that we already possess? Let the Universe know what you want while letting go of how it comes to pass. Your job is not to try to figure out how it’s going to happen for you, but to open the door in your head and when the door opens in real life, just walk through it and don’t worry if you miss your opportunity because there are always doors opening. They keep opening until you are ready to walk through them. You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world and after you walk through that door, you will only ever have two choices, “Love” or “Fear” – Choose Love and never let FEAR turn you against your playful heart!"

Megan, age 21 and an only child, returned from burying her parents in a double funeral. They had been killed when her father's small plane went down in turbulent weather. She felt devastated. No! Worse than that! Words were not adequate to describe her feelings. Her insides felt like they'd been hashed through a meat grinder. She could hardly breathe.

She still had their house—her childhood home—to clean out, and the estate to settle. No time for that now. She had to return to her new job tomorrow. She'd only worked there six weeks—since college graduation a couple of months ago.

What was she going to do?How would she handle life?She had always relied on her parents for advice.Now she faced the unknown world alone.

This sweet client of mine faced a bleak situation. Tougher than most of us will have to confront.

Megan went to work the next day, and each day thereafter. But she seemed to wilt during this period of intense grief, locking emotional self away during her job and daylight hours, and falling apart in grief after dark.

Megan felt frozen with fear. She just knew she would never be able to live a normal, healthy life.

CLICK HERE to read more and join us on Life's About Choices Radio when Christy discusses "Beyond Fear". CLICK HERE to access the radio interview.