A story of a 37 year old woman named Alex, working through the trials of infertility, and now raising a little Alex...

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Farewell, my friends

It’s been seven months, and I can’t believe I’ve been gone
so long. Every week I would tell myself
that I would get back into the blogging world, and every week would go by and I
wouldn’t find the time. I am busier than
I have ever been in my life, and more tired, and more happy (most of the
time). It’s been a really tough seven
months since the birth of my twins, but I’m finally settling down a bit, and I
need to acknowledge that I probably won’t get back into blogging. So this is me, admitting to it, and saying
farewell to all you lovely people.

This blog has meant so much to me over the years. This has given me a place to get all the
awful feelings out when nobody understood me.
Infertility completely took over my life, and without this outlet, I
don’t know what I would have done. I
look back at that dark period in my life, and it seems like a different
life. I will never forget where I’ve
been, and I would never wish infertility on someone else, but I think I grew
because of it. I’m a better mother, wife
and friend having gone through infertility.
I will always be an infertile woman in my heart, but my life is not
defined by infertility now. It’s defined
by the results of my infertility – three beautiful little children.

Since the birth of my twins, my life has been a whirlwind of
babies. The best decision we ever made
was to have an au pair. It’s cheaper
than daycare for two kids, and I’ve really enjoyed getting to know her. It’s fun having someone young live in our
house, keeping us up to date on the latest fashion, music and celebrity
gossip. And it’s made things so much
easier to have childcare in my house! I
feel very spoiled when thinking about my child care. I work about 20 hours per week from home, and
have child care 45 hours per week. She
went home for 1.5 weeks over Christmas, and it was so hard taking care of my
children every day!!! J Seriously, I don’t know how real stay at home
moms do it all by themselves, especially with three small children!

Alex is great – she’s now 26 months, and is a fabulous big
sister. She likes to play with the dogs,
and tries to get her brothers to play with her.
She has definitely hit the terrible two’s, but she’s really not that
bad, and only goes to time out about 3-4 times per week, usually for pulling
the dog’s tail. She constantly talks,
and sings, and dances, and plays. She
frustrates me daily, and makes my heart melt.

The boys are great, and I love that they’re getting bigger
each day. John spent two weeks in the
NICU, and another month on oxygen at home, but he is now the bigger and healthy
one. And so happy – I’ve never seen a
happier baby! Nothing bothers him except
being hungry. Even when he’s tired he
won’t cry, he’ll just fall asleep wherever he is. He has this huge barrel chest and gigantic
head – we’re sure he will be a football player one day. A happy healthy football player!

Henry is such a sweetie with the longest eyelashes ever and
a mohawk of hair, and he’s definitely a momma’s boy. He’s fussy and temperamental, and will
sometimes only eat for me. He has reflux
(on Prevacid) and was incredibly fussy until we recently changed his formula to
the gentle formula, and now he’s only slightly fussy. He’s the one who won’t sleep at night and
screams when you try to feed him, or when he has a dirty diaper, or when he’s
tired, or bored, or when the earth is tilted or something. But when he’s happy he’s so happy! He giggles when he sees me in the morning,
and his favorite place is in my arms.
Our family jokes that he’s my favorite because I’m always holding him,
but it’s the only way he’s happy!

It makes me so sad, but I must say goodbye to my blog and to
most of you. I don’t have the time
anymore, and I need to focus on my family and my home, and a little on my
job. I’ve become “real-life” friends
with a few bloggy friends on Facebook, and I would love to do that with any of
you that I’ve become friends over the years! So please email me at adventuresofalex@gmail.com with
your Facebook profile (along with your blog name so I can recognize you) and I’ll
send you a friend request. Thank you so
very much for being there for me over the years. I don’t think I could have done it without
you.

I’ll leave you with a picture of the results of my fertility
struggle: John, Alex and Henry.

20 comments:

Thanks for the update, Alex! It always makes me sad when fellow bloggers disappear without a word and we're left wondering if everything is okay in their lives. It sounds like things are going great for you, and that makes me really, really happy. Congrats on your happy, healthy family! All the best to you in the future...

Has it really been that long? Your children are adorable! I think they are more than a perfect reason to step away and say goodbyes. I would absolutely love to be a FB friend. I am soo soo very happy that your struggles had such a wonderful resolution and you are leaving your blog at highnotes.

Awwww. Such sweet babies! I have really enjoyed touching with base with you on this journey and managing the whole "work from home" thing! Thank you for everything you have brought into my life, Alex. You helped me get through it. (I don't have FB, but stop by sometime, ok? I'll have coffee waiting. <3)

I was so glad to see this update- you have a beautiful family and a wonderful life ahead- all the best, thanks so much for taking the time to update all of us who have followed your story and rooted for you

What a wonderful update. I will miss you for sure. I know what you mean about being busy and just trying to focus on your life and your family and move forward. It's hard to be everything to everyone. I hope your life continues to be full of happy, smiling faces. I have enjoyed following your blog and will definitely miss it. BTW...my baby girl wore that same dress on Christmas. LOL

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About Me

I always wanted to be called Alex, and nobody listened to me. I dreamed of the day when I would have my own daughter to call my own, and I would call her Alex. My dream has come true...
Feel free to email me at adventuresofalex @ gmail . com

8/10 - Received diagnosis of compound heterozygous MTHFR mutation - one C677T and one A1298C mutation. Researching implications. Add Folgard 2.2 2x per day and baby aspirin - for the rest of my life...