How to Deal With Party Crashers

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Party crashers are uninvited guests who may be disruptive to an event or party. This article offers some suggestions for how to handle them while minimizing disruptions to your event.

Decide how you would like to handle the situation. If the party crashers are friendly and you would like them to stay, all you need to do is make them feel welcome. If you would like them to leave, read on for some suggestions about how to do that.

Take your earlier assessment of the party crashers into consideration in how you handle the situation. If they appeared intoxicated, threatening or aggressive, make sure you have friends to back you up and that someone is able to call for the police in case of trouble.

Explain to the party crashers that the party is by invitation only, and that you would like them to leave. Do this politely but firmly. Most people are not seeking trouble, and your handling of the situation can go a long way toward avoiding any.

Expect a little resistance. Party crashers are usually looking for a good time – or possibly trouble – and may not want to leave. Explain that the party is private, and that while you are sorry, they will need to leave.

Be prepared for, but do not invite trouble. If the party crashers are aggressive or threaten violence, do not hesitate to call the police – and be sure to make sure the party crashers know you are doing so.

I think there are party crashes coming to my party tomorrow night, should I cancel my party? I don't think they'd be the dangerous kind, but even so?

Community Answer

Of course you shouldn't cancel your party! If you have a guest list, and someone tries to get in who is not on the list, simply tell them they're not welcome. If you want, you can tell them you have limited space, food, etc.

I've gotten a sick letter from someone saying that they will crash my leaving party as my 'present,' and he sounds really violent. What should I do?

Community Answer

Call the police on a non-emergency line and alert them that a threat has been made against you. Request that a squad car stop by on their patrols the night of the party. If requested, turn the letter over to the cops. If you see anything suspicious or receive any more letters or threats, contact the police again.

Tips

Decide if it's worth it to kick the party crashers out. If their presence is not overly disruptive, then you may want to let them stay and simply prevent their return by changing the way you invite people next time.

If the unruly party crashers refuse to leave or even become violent, try this trick. After first telling your true friends of this plan, tell the party crashers that the neighbors just called and told you they called the police. The trouble makers should bolt for the door, especially if they are underage or are in possession of drugs.

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