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eHarmony experts’ take on dating, relationships and the science of loveMon, 02 Mar 2015 23:05:00 +0000en-UShourly1Where does your empathy come from?http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/06/17/where-does-your-empathy-come-from/
http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/06/17/where-does-your-empathy-come-from/#commentsFri, 17 Jun 2011 21:14:57 +0000http://advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=8820Do you ever get to the point where you feel as though you and your partner have absolutely nothing in common? Read further to find out the one common thread that lies in almost all of us.

If you are like an estimated 98% of the rest of the world, you would say that the image to the left is a “kiki” and the image to the right is a “bouba.”

In 2001, USCD psychologist Vilayanur Ramachandran presented these shapes to both American and Indian populations. Similar to the original research of this subject (Köhler, 1929; 1947), Ramacharndran found that almost the entire sample responded the same way, in that they assigned the image with the jagged edge as a “kiki”, and the image with the rounded edges as a “bouba.”

Why do most people respond this way?

Presumably, subjects tend to map the name “kiki” onto the figure on the left because the of the sharp inflection in both the pointy drawing and the harsh sound of the word, “kiki.” Similarly, the rounded shaping of the edges of the image on the right makes it more like the rounded auditory inflection of “bouba.” Ramachadran theorizes that the human brain is somehow able to extract abstract properties from shapes and sounds.

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