Soul Mate Does It Exist? And How To Find Love And Where To Look?

Updated on July 28, 2011

Soul Mates

Soul Mate

Soul Mate Quote Where Is Your Soul Mate?

"A Soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be complete and honest with who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life."

Richard Bach quotes an American author

Does A Soul Mate Exist?

We hear it all the time " I have met my Soul Mate" People searching for that special someone they can connect with. What does it all mean? I have been exploring this topic for quite sometime and have come to the realization that it does exist. There are three different levels of a Soul Mate.

This is where you are very much alike. They are a mirror of each other, although they do not have to be exactly the same. However, each one compliments the other with their individual strengths and weaknesses and they will understand each other by being on the same 'wavelength'.

This type will help you through your darkest days and help guide you to make the right decisions. They are faith full and will take the time to listen and care about your feelings. They want the best for you.

This type you may only run into for a moment at a certain place or time. They are there just when you need them. Like a guardian Angel. They may not be in your life for long but you appreciated them at that particular time in your life.

We have many Soul Mates. The friends and family in your life you will look back and reflect on the types that you have come across.

The next Soul Mate is the one the " Soul Mate" Its not even described as a level because it is the highest. It is unconditional Love. Loving someone as they are. You will have differences. You will not be a like or the same. Every article of a Soul Mate describes as being very much alike. This is not true. You will like many things and do things together but your differences will compliment you as being together joined as two Soul Mates that will eventually lead back to God. God brings a man and a woman together as one flesh. To work together as man and wife. This is the ultimate it is a combination of all three levels.

Do you know many people who are married will divorce. The rate is over 50%. Why? Because you are mislead. The media ,movies, Ads all have the wrong idea of A "Soul Mate" They lead you to believe its this perfect person who you will just fall in love with and be happy forever after. This is bull. How many times have you heard a friend say I am just getting divorced he just doesn't understand me anymore. " He's just not my Soul Mate"

A Soul Mate is a very deep connection between two people. They have a love and respect for one another. You can face challenges in your relationship together. No matter what happens you always make it through the good times and bad. "For better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health till death do you part" Do you remember saying your vows? Most people forget about that part when the bad starts to come. It will not always be bad. The light will shine again one day. The connection and memories hold you together. You can face anything because you are together. As a couple, sometimes you can lose track and take advantage of one another but the love is always there and never goes away.

It's always knowing you can depend on this person. To support and love you the way you are unconditionally. You gain a few pounds, don't worry your Soul Mate will still be there. Did you lose your job? If they are your soul mate they will understand and help you try to get another job. They will not invalidate you. They will be loving and supportive especially during the tough times. This is how you really know you are with your Soul Mate! This is my experience of what a Soul Mate is. Make the one you love be your Soul Mate before its too late!

Its never to late to reconnect and get the intimacy back. Do things together and start making time for one another because that's all we have when the end nears. Time to remember and reflect on what was once there.

If you want to find your Soul Mate the first thing you need to do is work on yourself. You need to clean up the garbage in your life and start focusing on yourself and God. God will naturally bring you to this person when you start to change. What do you want to do with your life? What are you doing now that is making you happy? You have to make yourself happy and not rely on another person to do so. When you really start to focus the law of attraction, will take effect and that person will be drawn to you. It will happen naturally.

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Comments 18 comments

lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Useful information.I have connected with many people in my life, but I haven't met my soulmate. I appreciate your words of wisdom. thank you

sandylongman 5 years ago Author

Yes you could just fall in love and some people do that many times over but a soulmate is an everlasting love that endures anything!

MikeSyrSutton 6 years ago from An uncharted galaxy

Very helpful! You have done you r homework, haven't you?

: )

World-Traveler 6 years ago from USA

I do not think it is to difficult to find a soul mate. The problems can begin, however, when the emotional bonding begins to occur. This often results in a loss of sense of self as the two soul mates begin to blend together to form an entirely new personality. That commences an incredible emotional and spiritual rush not unlike the splitting of an atom. The end goal is procreation and survival of the species. That is why the change in personalities and new horizons to be conquered require so much, so much courage.

Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

I have to say that you were so right every step of the way in your description of a soul mate. I was in an abusive relationship for 26 years until circumstances gave me the strength to leave, I was on my own for five years and then i met a wonderful man who became my partner. We have been together for five years now and our love has only grown. I can honestly say that I have definitely found my soul mate. Thank you so much for sharing this sandylongman and I will be bookmarking it as one of my favourites. I now look forward to reading more of your work. Take care and God Bless.

jill of alltrades 6 years ago from Philippines

What a beautiful piece!

Thanks for sharing.

soumyasrajan 6 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

Nice article Sandy. I particularly liked last part. I am sure you do mean not just focusing on God. In India (I think must be also in USA) there are these two ancient sayings - both one must also remember always, together with God. "God helps only those who help themselves (by working on what ever they are doing)" and "Bhukhe pet bhajan hoye na Gopala (with empty stomach one can not even pray properly)".

You say in your introduction "I have gone thru a lot in my life" but your confidence implies that with your hard work and spiritualism, you know how to deal with it with pleasure." All the good luck to you.

Loveslove 6 years ago from England

Thanks for a great hub...I am very happy to say I have found my Soulmate !!

mtsi1098 6 years ago

When I first started reading this I thought that the real soul mate was a combination of all the levels but as I read on...I think the best way to describe the soul mate is the compliment of one another (sometimes your each level and sometimes you are all levels)...thanks

creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you for a very uplifting and true hub, I appreciate you sharing it. Godspeed. creativeone59

wrenfrost56 6 years ago from U.K.

You have made some very interesting observations and from reading your hub, I can tell it took a lot of thought. A good read. :)

heart4theword 6 years ago from hub

I agree with you, in that a person needs to get their life together. Searching out God, or strengthening your own walk with The Lord:) Being in prayer, about the right person for your life, another person who also believes in The God of The Heavens:) Great Hub!

Internetwriter62 6 years ago from Marco Island, Florida

Excellent, it is like a breath of fresh air to find someone, who really understands what it means to truly love someone in today's world, where love has become tainted in many ways. I really enjoyed reading this, rated it up.

sandylongman 6 years ago Author

Thank You so much for your kind words!

twogroce 6 years ago

Sandylongman, what a good Hub. Wow, I really didn't think of it like that. That explains why some women are in and out of relationships and marriage one right after the other. They just keep hoping the next one will be him instead of just living their life and allowing it to just happen naturally. It also explains why I can bring myself to get out and date...it's not the guys God wants me to be with. If God wants me to be with a man He will put that man into my life and give me those feelings inside so I know it is him. Good job, I look forward to seeing your next Hub!

megsshere 6 years ago from California

Very beautifully written Sandy. You've described a true soul mate in beatific words.:)

You will just know its more than just an attraction in the physical world. Its a deep connection and it's unconditional!

naughty chef 6 years ago from Somewhere between the kitchen and the bedroom...

Ive heard many a person describe your soul mate as someone you were destined to be with. Why then do most people meet their true love less than 5 miles away from where they live? I think that you get attracted to someone, fall in love, and it just happens. In my opinion, you could fall in love with anyone. Or maybe you are born to live in the vicinity of your soul mate...what do i know? im just a chick with a spatula!