Dream where we're happy and in love.Wake up.Feel weird, tell ex all about these dreams. We have a deep emotional conversation and eventually end up getting back together. Happy and in love again.Actually wake up. Go fuck yourself, brain.

Yeah my subconscious likes to fuck with me. Super-realistic sex dreams? Nah. Dream where someone you lost years ago is alive and well or your ex-girlfriend is still in love with you? Let's make that feel like real life, bro.

An odd phenomenon considering that in waking life I tend to deal with these things rather well. Hey ho, that's life.

I feel ya, I get these from time to time. You think you're well and over your ex most days but SURPRISE, your subconscious reminds you otherwise. These dreams bring me back to the pain I felt from the break up even though it was 2 years ago. Ruins me for days. I'd rather have nightmares than these dreams.

That was quite interesting, and also raises a good point about why we might be less productive during times of our lives when we're depressed. If your brain is held up on something that keeps you up at night, it isn't helping consolidate things from your job or academic pursuits.

The last three nights I've had these dreams of my ex of 5 years (haven't seen him in a year), his gf and and me having to interact. Either I'm meeting her for the first time, we have to work together, or I'm trying to reconnect with him.

We ended way before he ever met her, it was amicable, no hard feelings or lingering doubts... I was actually happy for him and felt I'd finally moved on (something I didn't think was possible for me to do). And now this, this is effing frustrating thinking I haven't really moved on and am back to being the dumb girl.

Come in on the feels. This dream related to a great yet short relationship, which had to end due to our work and academic careers keeping us cities apart, bound to be difficult.

Recently, long after these dreams stopped, like you my earlier ex of 5 years (who I also thought I had finally moved on from) popped up in dreams and suddenly I felt very strange and guilty. I made contact with her, and we exchanged a lot of emails apologising for our parts in the horrible break-up, but also for messing each other up over 5 years (because over 5 years you definitely do). I feel a lot better for it.

Perhaps you just need to get it out of your system with a catch-up, or maybe time will help. I admit a heartfelt catch-up was easier from our position of animosity than your amicable position, where you probably fear it would look a bit intense. It's never easy, so have some feels.

I used to do pushups or run miles. Exhausted body is too exhausted to think about ex..

Edit: I forgot to mention the somewhat obvious bonuses: Regardless of gender, you're toning up, getting (or keeping) thin and generally releasing some good endorphins, serotonin, and DOPAMINE (yum!). When you feel better about yourself - about how you look and feel - it helps build confidence, and nothing is more attractive than confidence!

Don't beat yourselves up over your dreams. It's a reminder you were able to love and be intimate with someone. I'm comfortable enough to feel these are nostalgic walks down memory lane where two individuals dared to try and wrap their minds around this thing called love. It's a blessing, I'm sure of it.

Three days means you are just at the beginning and who knows what kinda stuff happens between future you and more-future you. Can't even say if you guys are done or not prolly. Short-term, the exercise tip is good. Post-exercise you will feel much better, relieves some pressure. As for the dreams, aint nothing can be done.

Honestly, people who say 'It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all' are full of shit. I'd rather not have loved at all. Loved twice, got my heart smashed twice. Fuck. That. Shit.

Yeah I agree. I didn't have a girl until I was 23, lost her, and just want her back all the time. But if you think about it, it is better. Because then you actually know the feel to be with a woman than to have never felt like that. The way I look at is; I had a great time at that time and I gotta remember the good feeling and just move on.

There was probably something in recent memory that made you think of your ex and then when you were sleeping your brain transfered that memory to long term storage and connected it with all the other memories of your ex-girlfriend.

I fixed up an old tower the other day. Found hundreds of pics and videos from a relationship I was in 5 years ago. We were so happy then, and I was so happy seeing all this that I forgot for a brief second she completely destroyed my trust in people. I wish the best for her now, and I hope one day I can make new memories with someone else.

Shit dude, I know the feeling. Girlfriend of 3 years completely fucked me over and even now, 2 years later, I have trust issues. I love my current girlfriend to death but my brain keeps saying "She's gonna fuck you over dude, just wait" to literally EVERYTHING.

She doesn't text me back? Cheating!
She's tired and wants to sleep alone tonight? Staying with another guy.
Haven't talked to her all day because we are both very busy people? She's most defiantly going to break up with me.

It gets so fucking old. My brain feels like it's going to explode on a almost weekly basis.

It fucking sucks. I'm sitting in my room trying not to have an anxiety attack because I haven't heard from her, even though I know EXACTLY what she's doing and she even said she'd text me when she was done.

Shit, man. This is me too. Fucking sucks thinking that I'll never find someone as amazing as her again. I can't even think about some of my most fun memories from high school because they were with her and it hurts every time I think of her.

DO NOT DO THIS! if you think your brain's an asshole, Melatonin will turn it into Hitler. You will have the most vivid and realistic dreams and most of it is the type of shit you don't want to remember when you wake up.

Oh, you're having that dream where you've lost her and you're never going to see her again? Shit that sucks, here, let me wake you up and give you about three seconds of confusion where you think to yourself, "Wait, was it all just a dream" before I allow the memories to flood back in and you realize that, nope, it really happened.

Girlfriend of 3 years completely fucked me over and even now, 2 years later, I have trust issues. I love my current girlfriend to death but my brain keeps saying "She's gonna fuck you over dude, just wait" to literally EVERYTHING.

She doesn't text me back? Cheating!

She's tired and wants to sleep alone tonight? Staying with another guy.

Haven't talked to her all day because we are both very busy people? She's most defiantly going to break up with me.

It gets so fucking old. My brain feels like it's going to explode on a almost weekly basis.

I feel as if it is PTSD mixed with alot of anxiety problems. I wish I could get help for it.

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With me it was "fall in love and get friendzoned, have repeated dreams in which you kiss this girl. Get over it in real life two years later only for her to develop feelings of her own, date her, have her break up with you, and its dream time again!"

This fucking bullshit has happened to me twice in the last week. I have been broken up with my ex for the last 6 months. How am I not free of this woman? Seriously I need me one of those eternal sunshine kajiggers.

I had a dream last night about me telling my ex how I felt about how/she left me and in the entire dream she was just a smug bitch. Probably exactly how she would be in real life too. At least my brain is realistic when I'm dreaming.