My husband and I just sort of agreed we’d marry and then we moved in together (I never lived with anyone else before, didn’t want to). So for us there was no formal proposal, no bended knee.

I find some proposal videos romantic, and others I cringe watching. To so publicly propose I guess you’d have to be darn sure your pick will accept, wouldn’t you? And as the proposee, how would you turn them down if you didn’t want to marry, say yes but once alone take it back hoping to not embarrass them? I suppose tho that doesn’t really happen very often. I mean really, these days, couples agree to get married, right?

I have to say I never understood the idea of a long formal engagement with elaborate wedding planning requiring a year or two to pull off, not in this day and age. If you want to be together, why wait?

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Good morning, pups. Today we have Nocera and Collins. Well. Mr. Nocera’s ox has been gored. In “Unto the Breach” he says that Target, Neiman Marcus and other retailers need to do more to protect customer data. If he worries this bone the way he has the NCAA he may wind up doing the rest of us some good… In “The $1 Trillion Dollar Question” Ms. Collins says if we can pay attention to football and the Oscar nominations, then we should have an opinion about the appropriations bill paying for our government. Well, duh. However, Faux Noise isn’t the only media outlet that specializes in bread and circuses, with a dearth of reporting on what really matters in the country.

The coffee and tea are ready, and I’ve got your favorite omelet this morning. Mr. Marion in Savannah and I didn’t do that whole proposal, engagement ring, bridal registry thing either. But something must have worked, since it’s been 35½ years now… My inward arrangements are in a bit of an uproar so I’m off to get more tea. Have a great day.

People like the formality, especially females or so it seems because they get to be the center of attention at wedding events… It’s not about just shacking up. It’s really a girly thing…dress up and all that… many do it on one level or another every day.

thanks, Ellie, seems like part of long ago youth, people also asked the Dad if the little girl’s hand in marriage was okay to ask for. Needless to say, that’s just quaint and odd to me.
and anyone wanting to take an interest in appropriations ought also to know who’s trading who what for which, because that’s how that sausage gets made.

Right, for those who didn’t see it, that’s the central allegation: that Christie has virtually shut Hoboken out of Sandy relief funds that it needs to harden itself against repeat of the catastrophic flooding until Mayor Zimmer hands special subsidized development status to one particular developer’s parcel irrespective of the city’s own interests.

For advanced students: did David Samson’s name come up? Oh, yes it did.

“What transpires in the courtroom,” the Supreme Court has said, “is public property.” Secret trials create an opening for the unsupervised abuse of power and erode public faith in the judicial process. It is for this reason that the Founders of our Republic abhorred secret proceedings — Star Chambers, as they were called in 16th Century England — and held public trials sacred. When Aaron Burr stood trial for treason, Chief Justice John Marshall moved the trial to the Virginia House of Delegates because the courtroom was too small for all who wished to attend.

The public’s right of access to trials is not absolute and, where specific threats exist, restrictions may be imposed to address them. In this case, public access is vital. Since the day the defendants were arrested, the Cook County state’s attorney’s office has attempted to control the public narrative, repeatedly picturing the defendants as “domestic terrorists” rather than protesters. This is a “high-profile” trial only because the state has inflated misdemeanor attempted vandalism charges into trumped-up terrorism charges. There is no apparent reason to suspect any threat to security.

The high profile of this case is no reason to stymie access to the trial or to intimidate members of the public who want to attend to show their support for the defendants. The public should not know the least about the cases that matter the most.

The authors of the letter: David Shapiro is a clinical assistant professor of law at the Roderick and Solange MacArthur Justice Center, Northwestern University School of Law. Alan Mills is legal director of the Uptown People’s Law Center.

Well, hell, that was two hours of great TV journalism. Kudos to Kornacki and friends.

I’m glad Andrew Cuomo’s name came up there at the end. He shares responsibility for the Port Authority, and the Port Authority is clearly a mess, even if it seems like the worst rot is emanating from the NJ side. Cuomo, like it or not, is involved in this, no matter what back-room concordat he may have worked out with Christie.

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