I have been married for 1 year now and I have learnt many things in my short marriage life.

The most comprehensive way that I can sum it all up is that “MAN” is not a noun anymore, it’s a verb. An action word. “Man of God” is a title few ppl deserve because a real man of God requires action.

The breakdown of the actions of a man of God have been in the bible all the time, but there is no greater feeling of the presence of God when the word actually becomes practical. It becomes practical when u have to apply what the bible says, and applying the bible is hard sometimes because of how we are trained to think by society.

One of my greatest examples of the quintessential biblical action man is Adam.
Adam diddn’t just get a wife, Adam earned it. He had to tend to a garden (Gen 2:15) name animals (Gen 2:19), how boring must that have been? But in naming those animals he had to display.

1. Obedience to God
Because he had to listen.

2. Creativity
Because he had to come up with names.

3. Endurance
Is plenty animals.

4. Faith
In whatever purpose God had for him.

After that eve was made from his rib and they got married. The new challenge emerged, no longer was he to name animals and tend to a garden, but he had to become one with someone else. Talk bout Pressha!

If being a single man requires action like a normal power ranger, a married man has to become a Mega Zord.

Merging with someone requires so much action because it has to break the habbit of self seeking and start sacrificing. The only way to overcome a bad habbit is to stop the bad one and practice the right one. You can talk all u want, the end product is u have to DO IT and do it consistently!

When the bible talks about loving ur wife as Christ loves the church and gave himself for it, it means give up yourself for your wife. Easy to read and write but not easy to do cuz you don’t know how to.

So he was already a man of action but what happened when he got a wife?

1Cor 7:3
Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

One of the most basic things that has been instilled in a human being is not to let anyone control you. Be independent, your own man/woman, follow your dreams…. all these are not entirely self seeking or selfish… but they do encourage you to do things on your own.

When a man gets married authority over is body is shared with his wife. WHAT?!!!! Basically if your wife wants you to sleep, you should sleep. If she thinks you should do something she is within her right to do so because she now has a say in the decision making process of YOU.

This mindset is not the easiest to get out and only by renewing the mind to think like God will we begin to understand this principle. Jesus’ union with God dictates that one of the influential decision makers in his life is God which is why he said this.
Luke 22:42 “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.”

There was no other way for redemption to be possible unless Jesus submitted to God who orchestrated the crucifixion.
Likewise there is no other way that a successful marriage will take place unless the Man submits himself to things he does not want to do but would be beneficial and vice versa for the the woman. That kind of submission gives ownership to each other. If both people own the each other they are like a business that is no longer a sole proprietor, but it becomes a business partnership where the owners sole goal is the success of the business.

To achieve these things as a man will take more than talk. It will take action. So whether you are single or married like me, we should all put some action in place to deserve that title M.A.N.