Gemini woman and jealous Cancer man: Can it work?

42-yr old Cancer man, never previously married, says he’s simply never met “the right woman” before. I’m divorced and a single parent. We’ve dated 5 months and he says he loves me and feels a connection stronger than any he’s ever experienced before. He talks about a future, he makes time to be with me and my child, he is sensitive and nurturing and sweet and the sex is superb. Usually I get hung up on intellectual types — this man is intelligent but does not live in his head. He is very domestic and appeals to me on a level I’ve never felt before, very emotional and physical. He gives me butterflies and makes me feel weak at the knees. We are so different — I am high-strung and restless (but a VERY good cook) while he is quiet and laid-back. Can it work for us? He touches me deeply and I know that I touch him, but whereas he is open to discussing any issues that arise for ME, he tends to withdraw a little and go cool rather than tell me when something has upset HIM. And he won’t admit that he’s jealous but I get the sense that he is — and I am a very social person who strikes up conversations and gets smiles or greetings from complete strangers. I feel this makes him uncomfortable but he won’t admit it.

Although Gemini and Cancer are typically not a good match, your Moon (which rules Cancer) sits at the beginning of your Seventh House of Relationships. You are attracted to a domestically-inclined, emotionally-attuned man. Better yet, an intelligent one with a wide perspective, as Sagittarius sits on your Seventh House cusp. The Crab withdraws into its shell when feeling vulnerable, so do not be too concerned when your Cancer man goes cool.

Jupiter (the ruler of your Sagittarius Descendant) is in Leo in your Third House of Communication, in a stressful square — or 90-degree angle — to your Moon. You are a chatty Gemini with a tendency to be the life of the party in social situations. The attention you receive rubs the wrong way with your boyfriend (Jupiter in Third square Moon in Seventh). In addition, you have a tight Sun-Pluto square. The Sun symbolizes the man in your life, and Pluto can be both secretive and possessive. You may have a tendency to draw controlling men into your life — or at least men who hold their cards close to their chest. As long as this Cancer man doesn’t try to dictate your behavior, he sounds appropriate for you. He may just have to deal with his jealousy until he feels sufficiently safe and secure (Cancer) with you, knowing that your flirtatious manner (Venus, Sun, Mars in Gemini) doesn’t threaten him.

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Jeffrey Kishner is founder and publisher of Sasstrology. He is a licensed mental health counselor and has been doing astrological counseling since 2001. Jeffrey has been published in print magazines including The Mountain Astrologer and Dell Horoscope, and has written online for sites including AOL, Tarot.com and StarIQ. Jeffrey has also been heavily involved in the astrology blogger community. Read his personal blog at JeffreyKishner.com.

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I would say that there are no Crabs that are not jealous, even when there isn’t one reason for that, even if they are not the ‘home type’ and completely introvert (which is possible). Takes time for a Crab to trust and be cool, and most important – huge love to build intimacy to a very high level.

And I want to add that Cancers/Crabs (why do we have such awful nicknames? lol) will only trust a person after we get the warm & fuzzies from a.) seeing that you’re considerate of other people’s feelings and, most importantly, b.) seeing that you’re considerate of our feelings. This goes for the more evolved types.

If your Cancer guy is emotionally immature (although, from what you write, it doesn’t sound like it) or has been hurt a lot in the past (and hasn’t gotten over it), then basically nothing you do short of excluding every other man but him from your life is going to instill his trust in you. And that’s extreme…

Also, he could be withdrawing when he feels jealous because if he admits that he’s jealous, then you will have even more insight (i.e., power to hurt him) over his emotions than you do already. If he isn’t yet sure what you will do with your newfound insight (power), admitting his feelings can be as welcome as death to him. Remember Cancers, like Crabs, have hard shells but are softies on the inside. He has already told you that he loves you, so he knows that you have the ability to break his heart/hurt his feelings.

Since I don’t know the specifics of your guy’s chart, here are some suggested solutions that might generally go over well with a Cancer:

1. Try talking to him about why you like having conversations with different people. He may give you bonus points if you bring it up by saying that you’ve noticed he gets uncomfortable when you talk to other guys. (You’ll be able to tell if he really DOES get jealous by his reaction to your being able to observe his unspoken feelings. If he looks happy that you’ve made a connection between the situation and his feelings, then he DOES get jealous but doesn’t want to admit it. If he looks worried, that could mean that he doesn’t get jealous or he really, really doesn’t want you to know he’s jealous. Either way, this is your cue to back off the topic a little.)

2. Remember to mention in your conversation how much you care about him, how he affects you (the butterflies and such), all the nice things he does that you appreciate (sensitive, nurturing, spends time with you and your child, etc.).

3. In your explanation of why you’re a social person, try not to imply that talking to other people gives you something that he doesn’t give you (this might have the opposite effect you want by kicking his insecurity up a notch).

4. Include lots of physical affection while you’re talking and listening to his responses. Hugs, cuddles, back massages, touches on arm/leg/knee/etc. will communicate your feelings to him so much more than your words will. He’ll be hearing your words, but will be “listening” to your actions that reinforce your words. The affection will tell him that you really mean what you say about caring for him.

Cancers and Geminis can work if they understand each other’s natural way of doing things and don’t get threatened by the differences. Cancer needs to understand that sociability doesn’t always = flirtatious or disloyal, while Gemini needs to understand that silence and withdrawal doesn’t always = disinterest, lack of feelings, participation, etc.

Sandyshoes, are any of your Cancer guy’s personal planets in Gemini? That could help him understand your ways a bit more.

Another thing worth mentioning is NEVER skip telling him something. He’ll know.

Also, open up, show that you’re vulnerable and emotional just as he is. Crabs respect this. Though even if you show him that you have trust in him, it still doesn’t mean that thing solely will be enough for him to trust you completely.

BlahBlah and I have swarm you with details, may seem like hard work but the reward can and hopefully will be great.

Thanks so much for your comments everyone, and I apologise for not participating in the conversation until now. I have been moving house and dealing with a family crisis all at the same time, and just couldn’t focus until now. I really appreciated the different insights that each comment, and Jeffrey’s answer to my question, contained.

Jeffrey’s comment about me possibly drawing controlling men into my life made me sit up and think; there is some truth to that. My Cancerian definitely has a tendency to tell me how to do things and sometimes what to do or what not to do, however if I call him on that he is respectful and will apologise and back down. (It is probably not a coincidence that in bed he gets incredibly turned on by engaging in daddy/little girl talk.) The challenge for me is having the strength to stand firm and speak up for what I want rather than just going with the flow, and I admit that I do find that a challenge at times.

The relationship has progressed faster than I expected and the issue of jealousy has really receded. At least, I seldom have the feeling now that he is withdrawing, although he can be distant and a little cool at times. I find if I leave him be he comes back full of love and happiness. What is still an issue (for me!) is his fairly constant probing into my thoughts and feelings while remaining much less forthcoming about his own.

Anonymous, you were spot-on with your comment “never skip telling him something. He’ll know!” Very early in the relationship when I was feeling skittish he said “I think you’re frightened because you know that with me, you can’t hide.” And I can’t. He has an uncanny knack of sensing my moods and knowing if there’s something out of kilter. Nothing, and I mean nothing, escapes his notice.

Blahblah, my Cancerian does have Gemini somewhere in his chart but I forget where and my papers are not yet unpacked. He also has his moon in Scorpio and his Venus is ruled by Virgo.

He told me a few weeks ago that he hopes we will “grow old together” and he has begun asking weird, out-of-the-blue and half-jokey questions about marriage but he has not proposed. Is it typical of Cancerian men to be so infuriatingly indirect and confusing? Recently we walked past a jewellers and he asked “Would you like a diamond?” and I didn’t know what to say. Last week we saw a bride being photographed and he said “Where would YOU like to be married?” In my experience men avoid the topic like the plague unless they’re actually seriously thinking about it, but I don’t know whether he’s really expecting answers to these types of questions and I don’t know how to react. One thing I know is that it’s not usual for him to play with my feelings, but those kinds of questions just leave me hanging and feeling cross. I avoid answering them because they make me feel foolish and confused. How would you Cancer experts interpret them?

Water Sun, water Moon… mood swings all around. You say when you let him be he comes back all happy and full of love.

This is something you’ll have to learn to cope with. I know I was always fascinated with how my ex Cap boyfriend knew when just to let me vent on my own, which ever the reason and which ever was the emotion I would be expressing. He knew that I’ll cool down after a blizzard of tears, or swearing and yelling. (of course, all this if he wasn’t the reason, then I would engage him in a proper fight, naturally, but that’s not what we’re talking about here).

Now about the marriage…First I was confused when I read what’s he doing, but then I remembered my best friend’s Cancer boyfriend… when they fell in love, when HE fell in love, he was acting very similar. So, it’s not that he’s playing with your feelings, he’s testing out. I kinda don’t think that a Cancer guy would hold his peace and then make a spectacular proposal to surprise a woman, this looks just the way it should be. Even the Cancer constelation rises up on the sky sidewards. Just answer his questions like you’re talking with someone else, relaxed, try to be even humorous.

“Would you like a diamond?”“Naturally, diamonds are girls’ best friends!”

Does he pick on you? Childishly? If he does, combined with these marriage questions – he’s toasted :o) Crazy about you.

The controlling desire, especially in bed is, the way you illustrated it, pretty spooky for me, but that’s just me, I’m a Crab myself and I get a little paranoid about stuff like that (sounds familiar?).

Btw, Anonymous was me, I just messed up the boxes when I was posting the comment.

Thanks exclusion.blue. If by ‘pick on me’ you mean ‘is he critical of me?’ I would say yes, although not in a nasty way. It’s just that he NOTICES everything, from stray hairs and pimples to loose threads on my clothing (which he will cut off), me sounding tired (he will suggest a nap), when I have shaped my eyebrows etc. He notices EVERYTHING and remarks upon it — the good, the bad and the ugly. Sometimes I wish he’d look a little less intently!

The roleplay/sex talk thing did give me pause for serious thought when it first came up, both for myself and because I am a mother. I have satisfied myself on the following points: that it is ONLY a fantasy and he shows no inclination to act it out in real life; that it’s not at all an unusual fantasy for either men or women; that it’s by no means the only way he can be sexual; that he’s definitely, strongly attracted to the adult female form; and that I have never felt demeaned, denigrated, abused or lessened in any way by his talk or behaviour in bed.

I like what blahblah said about Gemini and Cancer needing to appreciate their differences, because it’s clear that we do have very different approaches to just about everything. There are many moments when I feel confused by my Cancerian but as things progress I feel more secure, less fearful and more inclined to take a deep breath and investigate the differences rather than giving it all up for lost and running away. And I’m always glad when I do, because he means what he says and says what he means, and in the moments of clarity and connection I feel loved and enfolded and comforted in a way that I’ve never felt before. I wouldn’t hurt him for the world and I feel very, very lucky to have him in my life.

“It’s just that he NOTICES everything, from stray hairs and pimples to loose threads on my clothing (which he will cut off), me sounding tired (he will suggest a nap), when I have shaped my eyebrows etc. He notices EVERYTHING and remarks upon it — the good, the bad and the ugly.”

Heres an easy fix. If you want see cancer man and gemini woman in action…MTV has a show called the Gauntlet III which aires (east coast time) on wednesday at 10:00pm. There is a cancerman called ” C.T.” and a geminiwoman called ” Diem”…2 years ago they had a show in which they first hooked up (cant remember if it was the Gauntlet/Inferno or whatever) either way CT is a complete CANCERMAN (july 16th Birthday). Throught the history of MTV reality career (Real World France) he has been the badguy, YET you notice this real sensitivity there (just under the surface or shell in his case). The way he can be viewed as a complete nutjob yet you can see how caring he is of Diem even before she became his girlfriend. Moreso, the first episode CT get into a huge fight with Coral (another character) and then his Girlfriend. He was super drunk (cancers love the alchy) yet are by know means “drunks” or losers. they are very fierce when needed that I think is as bad if not worst than Scorpio if seriously threaten. Other than that they are VERY sensitive and easily hurt (just my opionion crabs out there) Yet, NO ONE is a loyal,honest,caring and protective and I mean absolutely PROTECTIVE than a cancer. Though you will have to get use to their moods its MORE than worth it…when it really counts there are no other people I would take to WAR and maybe Marriage than a CANCER…(regardless of how CRAZY they are!!! and that is usually REALLY crazy)But more than likely they will give you the nonemotional cold shoulder and it will take a ARMY to pull them out.

All that picky stuff – noticing EVERYTHING, from lint, to a hair, etc…. – this is also his Virgo part you spoke of (Venus I think you said) – I am dating a Virgo w/Cancer rising and yes, this drives me nuts (he has a stellium of 4 or 5 planets in Virgo). I TOO wish that he would not notice everything. Well, actually he does NOT notice my emotions, and has become completely clueless to this but when it comes to the physical stuff he does!

well me and my cancer recently broke up prior to that we’ve gotten into numerious arguments , just last week i promised myself i wouldn’t argue with him and i didnt , our conversations were normal then just a few days ago he textes me and says ” we have been distance and i guess ill see you around” so i texted back like whats that all about i called him and he jus ignores me, he doesnt like to talk about nothing that will make him show his emotions and when he’s upset he does’nt want to talk about it, also whenever i go out somewhere he gives me the third degree where are you goin, who are you goin with and what time are you coming back. Its really stressing me out but i like him alot i dont kno if the problem is our age because were both young he’s 22 and im 19 I’m at the point where im all out of ideas so can someone please give me some advise and tell me how 2 approuch this situation I really want it to work but if i dont find a solution soon I’m going to just let it go

I loved reading everyone’s input. I just found myself in a new relationship with a cancer he is everything everyone has been describing he never speaks of his feelings however, in the beginning i felt it was only the sex he was after because of that. We stop seeing each for a month. I missed him terribly and broke down and called him. I had recently separated from a 15 year marriage a year before i met him and was still working through some things as a Gemini where like cats we always land on of feet. I was with a Virgo for 15 years and believe me this cancer is nothing compared to a Virgo. That being said I was bored out of my mind with the Virgo and this Cancer is exciting the mood swings i can take the boredom i cant we like the same things and i love it not to mention the sex is so good he is 5 years younger then me but i think i act 5 years younger then him so it works. I love to read about other people experience so that i do not make the same mistakes or what works i may try out and it may work for me. I like the feeling he gives me the daddy thing works too never had one this guy takes such good care of me and i love it i never let anyone take care of me i hope this continues and if not well i met one hell of a man.

I am a gemini girl and my bf is cancer.. my personal experience? I cried when my cancer bf brought pastries on our 2nd date and fed me with his hands…3rd date .. fruit salad ….1st date.. banana split! the first kiss was intoxicating… never felt so much warmth before..its been 5 years.. i have made so many stupid mistakes and he keeps forgiving me, i love him to death…I see a mother in him! so caring and protective and why would I mind all that attention? yes a bit too much estrogen for a man that he has does make me a bit nervous at times…but its all good when I melt like a little kitten in his arms … he cooks for me, keeps the house clean, and not him but i’d be embarrassed when he massages my shoulders after the movie in the theatre..everyone is watching! but he doesnt care… How i love him!!!
..its been 5 yrs, now we have fully learned whos turn it is to keep quiet…
they used to say there is a lot of friction in a gemini-cancer match.. but the truth of the matter is… the childlike gemini heart needs nothing but the motherlike cancer warmth …

After a lot of research on astrology, particularly on cancer-gemini match, and after learning the basics of astrology from my aunt who is a professional astrologer, and with a degree in psychology.. here is what I can tell you…

TIPS:
Gemini Girls!…just dunt use the forbidden words in his dictionary, and you’ll be fine, also never ever make him jealous, you CANNOT wear revealing clothes if he doesnt like it PERIOD!!! he has to know that you are the most loyal person he can ever find on earth! … yes from lint to hair to pimples you name it… he can see everything! he can read your mind, and can tell when you are lying, most likely he can tell you what you are lying about and also the true side of the picture! So to keep things simple, learn how to..
1. Not lie and fake.. because he’s a mind reader!
2. Not flirt around.. if you want him around! he probably doesn’t look at that unnecessary meaningless smile on your face in a positive light when talking to strangers!
3. Not wear revealing clothes if he doesn’t want you to (most likely he wont allow you!)
4. Not act lazy… you have to cook and clean to impress him besides appearing like the most faithful and loyal chic on earth who does not know how to spell “cheatnig”
–dont lose hope if he is in his shell right now; he doesnot want to let you go in some other hands, so he will come out of the shell, just knock from outside, say sorry if you made a mistake! he’ll act like an EMO girl and will really show you attitude but, the crab meat is tender… he will melt!

and for the guys…just think of yourself as a mother and her as a little kid! i know you guys are jealous and always anxious if she will ever cheat or something! but don’t keep saying it…you might scare her and she’d feel you are nailing her to the floor and she might feel suffocated! Remember! Gemini is the Air and the Cancer is the Water, a little wind blows and you guys are full of ripples…disturbed over petty little things (which are not small in your head), so please learn to be forgiving that you already naturally are! shes gonna make childlike mistakes…but she never means to hurt you.. its out of sheer innocence! you cannot believe how much a gemini woman generally is amazed and thrilled by the fact that someone cares about her SO MUCH!!! she wont wanna let you go! dont assume she will figure out why your mood is blue! u have to tell her what bothered you, and when you withdraw into your shell and she knocks from outside and says sorry..dont act too much lol! come out quickly!

And girls… he really thinks you are the most beautiful girl he ever met! if you can just assure him that he will never ever find you flirting around and cheating on him and that you are exactly the type he likes… then you will have yourself a faithful, family oriented man who is very likely NEVER going to cheat on you! A protector for you, your family, and your kids..What else on earth do you wish for? (Think evolution!)
He will take some time to propose, maybe very long, he has to make sure he has chosen the one girl on earth who wont ever hurt his tender crab meat! (thats just practically impossible) but if you can act like you dont know how to hurt him, then he surely will propose soon! (and try your best to be like it dont fake cuz he can tell fake from real)
..If you need more info from me, just post a comment and ill try to help if i can =)

Yes it can work……………………………..
I am a gemini woman and I am happily living with a Cancer man for almost 2 years. In the beginning he was very possesive, jealous and insecure. When he went to his business trips he would call me every hour to check on what i was doing. Little by little he saw that I am a very serious woman that does not like to fool around and he started trusting me. Today he goes on business trips and he calls only once a day but texts me 20 times a day just to tell me how much he loves me, misses me and he cant wait to come back home. If we learn to have to have patience with them then they will learn to be more secure and less jealous. The idea of it all is dont give them motives to be jealous. Love is trusting each other.

@ Anna
So true… lots of patience is needed from a gemini girl when a cancer guy is involved!!! we may not always be flirtatious but we are just kinda very social.. and they jus get very insecure!!!

I am a gemini girl and I remember once my cancer bf broke up with me cuz I said something and he got hurt.. and then he called back after 7 months, and the first thing he asked was “Are you dating someone?” and I said “No” and then he went kinda like “wheww..” like he was holding his breath …lol

and in the beginning he would call me 20-30 times a day and sometimes he would just ask where i am and then he would just show up there to surprise me.. but he was just trying to see if I am lying or not!!, sometimes he was even asking me to prove that I am home by talking to my dad or mom or come on skype or whatever.. at first I thought this is crazy and ridiculous! and I felt like he is insane and he is constantly suspecting me!! but then I took the other route! I just started doing it his way!! I constantly kept proving to him that I never lie to him! I would always accurately report my whereabouts etc whenever he asked for it!!

Its been about 5 years.. he totally trusts me now.. and no more of those insane chasing arounds lol!!

I have a degree in Psych so I did not play my cards wrong I knew that his suspecting behavior will only get reinforced if I do things that will make him suspect me! so I just became a bit extra careful and patient with him!! so it worked common sense =)

my bf and quite a few of my crabbie guy friends love watching stuff like CSI crime shows, criminal minds, dragons den and even home renovations lol …
have u guys noticed these things in ur crabbies as well?

saralamoonlight I am so glad you agree with me. My cancerian man broke up with me once, he left me for another woman. He did this because I at first wasnt used to him being so possesive so I turned cold on him. When I lost him I realised that I did have a good man. Even though he was with the other woman, he never stopped texting me, or calling me. He told me he was confused. I let him be and he started calling me and calling me asking me if I have found someone else, he also told me please do not find anyone else. Within a week, he was back in my arms. He has done this twice in the two years that I have been with him. They get very confused in life, they leave but they always come back. As long as you are good to them, they will never forget you. He came back practically in tears thinking he lost me. My guy likes watching CSI crime shows too. He also loves to be pampered, and loves good food. He is a home guy. I learned to be a home girl too through the years, I am older now. When I was younger, I loved going out, and I loved flirting (a true Gemini). Thinks change as you get older. I am happy with my man. I am glad things are going great for you. I am glad you and I think alike.

@ Anna
hehe.. yeah .. crime shows eh… and yeah my bf loves being pampered too…and yeah the good food.. i totally agree with u .. i was very outgoing, flirtatious and had lotsssss of friends when I was young, and he hated all of that and he is pure homebody too, and with time I kind got colored in his way… they say gemini are the children of zodiac and Cancer is like the mother.. and so it makes sense why we love all the warmth and nurturing from them, the only issue can arise from the lack of patience from us when the cancers get mood swings… I was really upset in the beginning when I started dated him to find out that he was a cancer and I read in astrology compatibility stuff that it is hard to make it work.. I was really disappointed! but with time.. I learned that it isnt as bad as they portray it!
..Yeah once in the early years my bf was breaking up with me cuz he was confused too and wanted to go back into shell to rethink things, he said.. plz dont make a bf cuz I dont want someone to just use you and take advantage of u.. lol and inside i was like yeah i know why ur saying that
hehe.. yeah im glad i found some like myself
hey.. check out this funny video on youtube about cancer guys .. i think its funny but true!!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRWCxVYtep8

@ Anna
hehe.. yeah .. crime shows eh… and yeah my bf loves being pampered too…and yeah the good food.. i totally agree with u .. i was very outgoing, flirtatious and had lotsssss of friends when I was young, and he hated all of that and he is pure homebody too, and with time I kind got colored in his way… they say gemini are the children of zodiac and Cancer is like the mother.. and so it makes sense why we love all the warmth and nurturing from them, the only issue can arise from the lack of patience from us when the cancers get mood swings… I was really upset in the beginning when I started dated him to find out that he was a cancer and I read in astrology compatibility stuff that it is hard to make it work.. I was really disappointed! but with time.. I learned that it isnt as bad as they portray it!
..Yeah once in the early years my bf was breaking up with me cuz he was confused too and wanted to go back into shell to rethink things, he said.. plz dont make a bf cuz I dont want someone to just use you and take advantage of u.. lol and inside i was like yeah i know why ur saying that
hehe.. yeah im glad i found some like myself
hey.. check out this funny video on youtube about cancer guys .. i think its funny but true!!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRWCxVYtep8

saralamoonlight
You are so right, I dont care what they say about cancer and gemini relationship compatibility. I know for a fact with patience of finding out what they like and what they dont like, we can make it happen. I think Gemini get along with anyone because of our personality. We are fun to be with and we are never a bore anywhere. I like you, finally found someone that agrees with everything we said.

@ Anna
Yes i like you too.. we r kinda in a same boat too hehe
does you cancer man go into his shell here and there? like does he stop communicating when he is upset? and then what do u do? do you let him be? thats the worst part eh? when they stop “communicating” like helloooo its our KEYWORD loll

Sailormoonlight
I am so happy you like me. Yes my cancer boyfriend goes into his shell here and there. he is so weird. When he is upset he doesnt talk to me no matter what the issue is. I just let him be. They get very depressed when they dont get thier way. It drives me crazy but I let him be. Later on he starts being himself again. Its not easy being with them, its hard to understand him sometimes. He is like a baby when he doesn’t get his way in life.

to know more about cancer and gemini just click on the link…and more think C and G can work together if they understand each other…my girl friend is Gemini but since i gotta knw about her style i dont need to be jealous…i love her very much she is my Queen

sagittarius/gemini …..You need to get an education……misspelled words and all…..you are unhappy and doesn’t match with any zodiac sign nor any person with common sense….Anna and all the other comments I agree with you all. I am a Gemini woman who has a beautiful relationship with a cancer man and it does work. The most beautiful relationship on earth. But, if you are unhappy within yourself, which I am detecting from the previous post (sagittarius/gemini)…..I advise you to stay solo/unhappy alone and do not drag any zodiac sign into that mess.

When I first met this Cancer guy, we were just kids. I was in a long-term relationship with another Gemini (long story…he cheated on me repeatedly, emotionally abused me and couldn’t commit). Mr. Cancer had me totally bewitched. I wrote poetry about him. I harbored the hugest crush on him that I have ever had in my life for many years, while at the same time dating the Gemini jerk. The feeling was mutual. There was an attraction between us that I still can’t explain. He was a bad boy though…he had trouble with drugs, the law, etc. None of this ever mattered to me, which back then I never really understood, but now I know it’s because Gemini girls love the guys from the proverbial “other side of the tracks” Nothing ever seemed to align so that we could be together. When I broke up with my bf after he found out about this huge crush I had on Mr. Cancer, Mr. Cancer disappeared into the moonlight. Soon after he moved far, far away for many years.

I found out later that Mr. Cancer had a string of girls he was wooing, not just me. I found this out in a rather sneaky way which he still doesn’t know about (and I would never tell him). After that, I learned to let him go. I didn’t dwell anymore. I stopped dating guys with the intention of dumping them as soon as Mr. Cancer came back into my life. I moved on, got engaged, had a baby and intended to live happily ever after.

A few years into my engagement, Mr. Cancer shows up on the scene and tells me he wishes he could find a girl like me. He apologizes for everything that happened between us. I brushed him off. I told him not to worry about me, I’m a big girl and I’m over it. I was SO not over it. I was still upset with him for leading me on.

Here we are now. My engagement ended. I’m a single mom now with a beautiful child and no husband. Mr. Cancer shows up on the scene once again. It’s been 10 years, and even now I am completely smitten by him. I think about him all the time. I feel so safe when he’s with me. I spent the majority of my teenage years and early 20s trying to get close to this mystery man. Even now, 10 years after we met, he is still a complete mystery to me. It’s been three months since we started spending time together again, and he is just now starting to come out of his shell. I know that a lot of the women here complain that their Cancer guy is jealous, posessive, can’t commit and won’t share his feelings with them. Yes, these things can be frustrating. But as Geminis, we know that we can also be jealous, posessive, MOODY AS HELL, unable to commit, etc. I think this is something that Cancers and Geminis share and can bond over. When he is moody, you should be able to understand the feeling. I know myself as a Gemini sun/Scorpio moon/Gemini ascendant, I can be jovial and smiling one minute and totally pissed and bitchy the next. Cancers want a commitment but often are too afraid to share that with you. If you can show your Cancer that you are ready to make him the one and only in your life, he will melt. I really think it takes a self-actualized Gemini to be able to start a committed and happy relationship with a Cancer. You have to know what you want from life. You can’t be running around all the time flirting with anything that moves. You have to have the capacity to build a home with another person, settle down and be happy with just one man. Until then, stay away from the water/earth signs of the zodiac or you’re in for trouble!

I have honestly never felt this way about anyone else in my life, even the man I was engaged to. When they say that a Cancer can really get his pincers into you, they aren’t lying! They plant a seed in your mind and it grows and grows until your mind is just filled with them. That’s how they get you Anyway, I’ve gone on too long. I just wanted to share my experience with you all. Good luck with your Moonchildren.

As a Gemini gals who’s a guy magnet isn’t a good sign especially when you have a Cancer boyfriend. True, they would tend to retract to their shells, which exactly means that they are jealous. Be careful honey since crabs are know to pinch really hard.

Hi everyone im a cancer male currently in a relationship with a gemini. She’s a year older then me. I would have to agree with anna and saralamoonlight the most though, the way they explain their cancer men they sound exactly like me which is kinda scary. But my gem lady means everything to me i have nothing but everlasting love for her and will do anything for her. The only thing is my communication skills suck and yes i do get really jealous which i know irritates her. She says she doesnt believe in astrology which i can agree you can love anyone yiu please especially after reading these comments but i just wish she will read your comments and may

Hi everyone im a cancer male currently in a relationship with a gemini. She’s a year older then me. I would have to agree with anna and saralamoonlight the most though, the way they explain their cancer men they sound exactly like me which is kinda scary. But my gem lady means everything to me i have nothing but everlasting love for her and will do anything for her. The only thing is my communication skills suck and yes i do get really jealous which i know irritates her. She says she doesnt believe in astrology which i can agree you can love anyone you please especially after reading these comments but i just wish she will read your comments and maybe she will understand me a little more and how much im in love with her. I guess im just asking if anyone can please help me and give me some advice because i really dont want ti lose this girl

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