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Monday, May 14, 2012

Hello there! How are you this beautiful Monday? Dang! I feel so lucky
to live in Cali. We have beautiful blue skies and the temp is a lovely
62 deez greez. A lil cool for us Californians.

Okay, enough of the bragging, huh?

Today, I wanna talk about destressing your anger.

Anger is a very stressful habit. Yuppers, it's a habit. I would even
go as far as to say that it is an addiction, a very contagious
addiction. What I mean by addiction is that it is something that is a
negative influence and you cannot quit it. What I mean by contagious
addiction is that an angry environment, like a work place, can create
and increase other peoples' anger. For example, a fire house, or an
emergency room, or just being in an ambulance with an angry person.
Also, a corporate or office environment can generate anger in
individuals.

There are a whole lotta people out there who are very angry. Sometimes
they don't even know they are angry. Other times they think anger is
okay. But the worst of them all is they think anger is necessary.

ANGER IS UNNECESSARY! AND GOING OFF IS NOT OKAY!

Just in case you didn't know, it is not okay to go off on someone when
you loose your temper. Actually, it's not okay to go off on anyone.
It's quite ridiculous actually. Have you ever seen someone loose it
over something as if their life was threatened? That is an illusion of
anger.

Not only is anger unnecessary, it is bad for you.

Any negative emotion creates unhealthy shifts in your body and releases bad hormones. That is why people get sick when they are stressed.

BUT! Anger just doesn't hurt you, it hurts the people around you and
guess what? If you are an angry one, people probably don't want to be
around you.

Like any addiction, you have to know that it is a problem, know that you
can quit it, and then replace it with a successful practice.

Sounds pretty simple, but not easy.

Once upon a time, a long long time ago, I worked on an ambulance with a
very very angry person. He was so angry that it radiated to me and I
started to get angry. This is way before I started researching and
writing about stress relief. Thank goodness I didn't work with this guy for long.

Any who, looking
back, I recognized that I was angry, a lot, and for no reason. After I
started to notice my anger, I would ask
myself, "why am I so angry?" right in the middle of the anger and then I
would talk myself out of the anger. I would say, "you are getting
angry for no reason, Elizabeth." After doing that for a while, every
time I got angry, the anger went away. Sure, I still got angry,
sometimes, but not the kind that was ridiculous.

If you have an anger problem know two things, know that it is not okay because you are hurting yourself and know that you can eliminate it.

Say to yourself, "Anger is not okay and I don't get angry." I know, it sounds silly, but it will work. Just keep saying it to yourself when you feel yourself getting angry, and once in a while throughout the day.

It's just a reminder, to remind you, that it's not okay and you don't get angry anymore.

There's more!

When you are angry, see if you can just observe the anger, right when
you are in the middle of it. Just observe it, be the observer, and
don't judge it or label it or beat yourself up for it.

Then you can do what I did and talk yourself out of it, or you can do
something even funnier. You can start to sing a song, a funny song,
like a rap or something. Pick a song, any song, and whenever you start to get angry, sing it in your head, or even out loud. This will work, I promise, it will make you
laugh and you will eliminate the stressful habit of anger and replace it
with the successful practice of laughter.