You Are NOT the Only One

Motherhood at times can be super lonely—even though you seem to be surrounded by people. I think for me the loneliness happens in my head where lies take root and travel in no time at all to my heart. I believe a lie, and then it feels true.

Even when it is not.

So much of the time I feel like, “I’m the only one who struggles with ……” and you fill in the blank. This not true. Every mom struggles with something and a lot of us struggle with the same things.

Anger being one of them.

I remember sitting in a room full of lovely moms a couple of years ago. They were the sweetest kindest moms I had met. My friend Lisa-Jo Baker was opening the 3 day conference called Raising Generations Today with at talk about temper,anger, and being a mom. I could not believe what I was seeing and hearing.

These sweet and kind moms were nodding their heads in agreement. They were laughing (because sometimes we need to) and they were wiping away tears (we need to do that too). I realized in that moment that other moms get angry too in the dailyness of raising kids. They yell. They slam doors. They say things they regret. They are a lot like me.

During her talk Lisa-Jo gave a few tips on how to handle your anger as a mom and how to be the adult in the situation not the kid. One of the things she said stuck with me like glue.

“My kids feelings are not the boss of me.”

This has come up time and again in my most intense parenting moments, raising my 4 girls. We have lots of feelings around here. This tiny statement has given me freedom to let my kids feel their feelings, but not let it dictate mine.

Freedom. That is what her words gave me that day. The other moms felt it too. I texted Lisa Jo after her talk and told her so myself. “Your words just set a lot of mamas free.”

This is the kind of awesome you will find in her new resource. The Temper Took Kit is a labor of love — a collection of practical strategies, honest stories, and Biblical resources from one mom to another to help you take control of your temper BEFORE you lose it.

It’s not perfect because who is?

But it’s how one mom took real life action for real life change in her home. And that change had to start with her.

So for the cost of one exhausted drive-through dinner with the kids after a day of meltdowns, Lisa-Jo would love to sit down with you and share every single thing she’s learned about taming her temper. Because she believes you actually can.

Stacey is Mike's wife and the other to 4 vibrant girls. She is a believer and writer who loves God's Word and connecting with women. Stacey's latest book is called "Is Jesus Worth It?" You can Find her on Twitter @staceythacker or at StaceyThacker.com where she usually hangs out with a cup of coffee in her hand.