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I am thrilled to have found the work you’re doing on twitter today, and want to say keep it up! I have an observation that I hope will add to the dialogue…in exploring this site, I went right to the Top Posts area. I hate all the emphasis there on “him.” What he is up to, what if he’s cheating, etc. I am an abuse survivor, and I feel like an emphasis on “her” is so important.

My two cents….don’t worry your head about what he’s doing. If you think he’s cheating, if you think he’s verbally abusive, if you think he’s manipulating, HE IS. If you think he will hit you. HE WILL. You don’t have those suspicions or gut feelings in healthy relationships. Don’t waste time reading about that crap, read about what women are doing who are empowered and strong and good. Worry your head about what you are doing today to let your life shine and make this world a better place. Time better spent imho. That’s why I love the article above…that is where the energy should go!

Dear Libby, Agreed! Thank you very much for your comment. By way of explanation, we have found many women searching for advice about what to do about cheating lying men and we wanted to provide a feminist analysis of relationships etc under patriarchy. However, we whole heartedly agree with your comment and the strength and positivity you seem to demonstrate as a survivor. Thanks again for your comment,