Tag: affirmations

Okay, at first blush you’re probably thinking, “Talk to yourself? If I start talking to myself, next thing you know, they’re coming to take me away, ho ho hee hee ha haaa.”

Nothing could be more untrue, notice I said talk to yourself, not with yourself. You need to talk to yourself to reprogram data routines that undermine getting the things that you want in this life. In the coaching business, we refer to this as reciting affirmations, in the religious business, we call this positive prayer.

The key is in properly constructing the affirmation or positive prayer. Certainly, it must be positive. When you tell yourself (or pray about) something negative you are indicating to both your mind and your higher power that you have more lessons to learn. So, you attract more negative circumstances in answer to your words, in an effort to give you enough negative circumstance to realize that negative begets negative and positive begets positive.

If you want your life to move in a more positive direction, you must fuel the engine of your life with all the positive energy you can, and your higher power rewards your positive effort with even more momentum, the more positive you are.

When you’re structuring an affirmation, it should be positive, even if it is rooted in negativity.

For example, let’s say I think life sucks, am annoyed experiencing a low income level and am unable to make ends meet. I might be feeling helpless and hopeless and if I’m of a religious persuasion, I might pray a prayer, like

“Dear God, Why would you let me suffer like this? I’m broke, I’m tired, nothing ever seems to work out for me; it’s like everyone’s out to get me. I don’t see any hope of recovery and I feel so awful because I let down my family and people who believed in me and depended on me. I’m feeling worthless and alone, so very desperate, please save me.”

That is a prayer placing an order with God for an intense degree of frustration and difficulty ahead, which I’m sure you would rather avoid. Plus, the more you pray a negatively-charged prayer, like that, the worse it gets.

When in contrast, if you were to reframe your prayer to be more positive, it might look something, like this

“Dear God. Thank you for all the wonderful things in life that you have given me and the best things that are coming to me now. I am a successful and financially secure person with an unlimited supply of energy and resources thanks to you. Everything always works out for my highest and best and everyone and everything supports me in all that I do. I am wealthy in all things including finances as well as the love and support of family and friends. I am so blessed to have these people in my life. I am worthy leader, powerful and mighty. I have the ability and wherewithal to do whatever is necessary to allow even more prosperity in my life, and give you the glory. Thank you, I love you.”

Don’t just pray that positive prayer once and forget it. If you’re serious about it and serious about seeing the results, do it at least three times a day out loud.

If you’re uncomfortable with the religious references in the aforementioned example, no problem, there is still hope for you. All you have to do is to re-shape your life by using the same process without the religious jargon. So if you’re thinking

“Why do I have to suffer like this? I’m broke, I’m tired, nothing ever seems to work out for me; it’s like everyone’s out to get me. I don’t see any hope of recovery and I feel so awful because I let down my family and people who believed in me and depended on me. I’m feeling worthless and alone, so very desperate.”

Then your reprogramming positive affirmation would look like this

“The best things are coming to me now. I am a successful and financially secure person with an unlimited supply of energy and resources. Everything always works out for my highest and best and everyone and everything supports me in all that I do. I am wealthy in all things including finances as well as the love and support of family and friends. I love having these people in my life. I am worthy leader, powerful and mighty. I have the ability and wherewithal to do whatever is necessary to allow even more prosperity in my life.”

This positive re-framing, is a clear indication that you are nearing the end of this chapter in your life and as it prepares for positive resolution, you are ready to embark on a new journey, moving onto the next level of your life, as you leave these issues behind you.

I’ve seen religious folks have an easier time with embracing the idea of the power of positive prayer because these people are used to hearing stories of how prayers, like this, achieve miraculous results. Yet, non-religious individuals achieve the same results, without the benefit of acknowledging, recognizing or worshiping a deity at all.

It’s as if this concept is universal and available to all who engage in it.

To review the process would be to write down your concerns in their negative format on one piece of paper. On the other piece of paper, write out your positive script.

When posi-scripting keep everything in the first person. Let everything reflect your situation as you desire to be as if it were already so (in the present tense).

Read or recite your positive prayer or affirmation aloud at least three times a day. The more excited and animated your spoken delivery with a happy expression and enthusiasm, the more powerful it becomes. Start looking for things to change in our favor, and they will begin to appear.

Keep refining your affirmations or positive prayers and make way for a new style of living a better life, your best life.

I feel bad
I’m depressed
Nobody loves me
I have the worst luck
Nothing good happens to me
There’s no happiness in my life

Ever notice how true these statements appear to be for the people who say them? And the fact that it seems they get more of what they don’t want the more they complain about it appears to be statistically verifiable.

It’s true. The people who say, “I feel bad,” feel even worse. Depressed people who confess how depressed they are become even more depressed (I am not discounting any therapeutic modalities dealing with depression, just stating “what is”). People who say, “Nobody loves me,” find it more difficult to have a love connection. People saying, “I have the worst luck,” do. Nothing good comes to those who say it never does and happiness eludes those who speak those words, or post negatively on social media.

On the other hand, there are those who live a

Charmed Life

They have that Midas touch, everything they touch turns to gold. They are always in a good mood, feeling unusually good, everyone seems to be attracted to them, good fortune visits them often and they are so happy, you just want to do something to disrupt their groove (slap them, trip them, somehow put them in their place, because this is just ridiculous. Nobody should be allowed to live this kind of life. If I were jealous or vindictive, I might secretly proclaim, “One day, they will get what’s coming to them.”).

Nonetheless, there they are… squeezing all the best juices out of this life and savoring every drop, while the rest of us wallow in the reality of everyday life.

Life Sucks

While these folks living a “charmed life” live life like it revolves around them, the rest of us with our feet firmly on the ground know the reality is that life sucks. And for those who say, “Life sucks,” it does.

So there we are confident, without a doubt, that this life has nothing much to offer us – except to succumb to the hustle and bustle of being a member of this earthly rat race we call life – while we carve out our meager existence.

Yet, something within us yearns for something more…

Something inside us wants what some of those crazy people pretending-to-live-in-a-fairy-tale have.

The Best is Yet to Come

Isn’t it time you stuck your toe in the water, just to see what could happen… if you really could change your life?

The only difference between these two types of people is their attitude. Their attitude determines their vibrational frequency. This frequency acts like a TV or radio tuner, adjusting the programming that you get to experience.

Therefore, if you can change your attitude, you can change your life. The more positive your thoughts are as you develop a more positive mental attitude, the more good things will be attracted to your life’s experience, like these people whose lives should have turned out bad, but they decided to tune-in to the positive. It’s a fact.

Create Some Good Life

If you’re ready for a little of the good life, start by proclaiming it. Try switching out the words that you speak (of the thoughts that you think) for the antithesis. For instance

Instead of

Exchange for

I feel bad

I feel good

I’m depressed

I am getting more optimistic

Nobody loves me

Love is coming my way

I have the worst luck

I am attracting good fortune

Nothing good happens to me

I’m ready for the best things

There’s no happiness in my life

I find happiness when I look for it

Baby Steps

These positive statements are referred to as positive affirmations, and the more you use them (and you can make up your own and crank them up… you get the idea) the more powerful they become. It may seem ridiculous, or silly, at first but just try it on, and see what happens.