The Zohar praised Rebekah for keeping her purity even when coming from a negative environment and a place of judgments. Here the Zohar challenges the previous study and says that if Rebekah was 20 years old or even 13 it would have been a praise for her but she was only three years old and she didn’t have time or mental state to behave like them.

Rabbi Yehuda explains that she was three years old but with high intelligence. We learn that from her interaction with Eliezer, the servant of Abraham, who was sent to find Isaac’s soul mate.

Rabbi Yitzchak explains that Isaac had the aspect of hard judgment even when coming from the highest level of Chessed, which was from his father, Abraham. Rebekah came from hard judgement but by herself she was like the secret of “Like a lily among the thorns”.

Song of Songs 2:2“כְּשׁוֹשַׁנָּה בֵּין הַחוֹחִים, כֵּן רַעְיָתִי בֵּין הַבָּנוֹת”“Like a lily among the thorns, So is my darling among the maidens”

Because Rebekah wasn’t part of the wickedness and hard judgment that existed in her family, she had soft judgment and could be a match to Isaac who had hard judgment. The Zohar tells us that God brings couples together to make corrections that benefit the world.