Now, not to say that you're Ted Bundy (I believe it was him, that is), but he's stated that his pornography viewing went through stages. As a boy he reported seeing softcore pornography, and that he later viewed hardcore pornography and violent pornography.

First, Thank you for putting this out there! it's something I've been giving alot of thought to lately, wondering about, or really, admitting that since I started having sex at 16, the kind of guys I go for and the sex I prefer to have is usually-no not usually, always very centered around the kind of porn I started watching a few years before I started having real sex. Maybe I'm finding I've gotten something out of my system? I am seriously asking myself why I'm attracted to the sort of guys I am.

A friend of mine said something recently that hit a nerve, she said she thought that in one of the worst things about porn was that for either guys or girls who like to watch it, most of it seems to promote the idea that girls really do prefer guys who just use them and treat them like sex objects, so that in real life, even if our relationships are more complicated than just that, it really does affect how we see each other and who we are attracted to and choose to have sex with-and that maybe we can even confuse our feelings of love in all of that.

It made me feel sad because there's been times I know I've kept guys who really liked me at a distance even though I liked them as a person and knew they'd probably be a fun, loving partner, because I was more sexually wanting other guys who were either more hot, more popular, more aggressive and good in bed, but definitely not that same type of good, caring guy. I don't think porn alone makes anyone have those values because those same values are found all over the place. Its just strange how everyone is affected by these types of things in the society even though they like to think they're not influenced. You see I have recently been thinking about this guy who likes me and even though I did sort of have a crush on him awhile ago he's not my usual type. Sounds crazy but I'm thinking of ending my current "friend with bennies" thing completely and letting nature take its course with this guy instead.

I have experienced this too. Sometimes when I am looking for something new I wonder if it is because my tastes have changed or if I just want that feeling of watching something new and different. I have also found I get more excited by searching screenshots for a video that fits my taste at moment than actually viewing the whole scene. Most seem too long for me to stay interested.