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It is so difficult as a mother watching your child hurt themselves. I now also know that it doesn’t get any easier with time.

I find it so easy to step back and remember the moment when that perfect little bundle was placed in my arms for the first time; all labour pains and that effort just vanished. They really don’t melt they disappear in such an instant that you don’t even believe they were ever there.

Of course with Middle Son it was never like that; so keen to get here; he arrived a scary shade of blue three weeks early. I was given a fleeting glance as they rushed him up to the special care baby unit. Hours later I was permitted to hold him, as Sexy Sporty Dad and I had a photo with him. I still have the photo somewhere today. What it doesn’t show in the photo is the oxygen pipe running up my back with Sexy Sporty Dad holding it just over my shoulder, or one side of this tiny bundle carefully tucked close into me with the leads and tubes hidden from view.

That was the day real life took over, splitting away from the safe black and white route of the parental handbook. I learnt a hard lesson that day; the handbook was fiction.

I am not looking for sympathy; after all Middle Son grew up; albeit with many trials and tribulations along the way, to be a strapping young man. No less than my first bundle; No 1 Son, who likewise has grown into a sturdy well-built rugby playing young adult. The same bundle that now expects me to stand proudly watching his self destruction and injury induced sport with neutrality and unfeeling.

Having seen No 1 Son through a year of frustration and immense bravery where he had both hips pinned and was away from sport; in particular his beloved rugby for a whole season, each game he plays is special. Emotions for his parents are heightened to a volcanic pressure of watching, waiting and wishing. Sexy Sporty Dad who has finally given up coaching the team to concentrate on his triathlon training cannot help but turn his trail past the club timing it to the start of the match.

I have never really been a good spectator of the sport, I watch in order to write a match report on a game where I do not even understand the laws. Each week I try hard to learn a new expression, this week it was “charge down” and “overlap”. Regardless of the actual game play these will appear prolifically in the match report. Having written “Scrum Down” I now have a much better insight into positioning and roles that the team have. I however am particularly protective of the whole team and get very vocal with annoyance when the other boys all land on top of a green shirt.

I was watching as the tackle happened on Sunday and immediately the hairs prickled in indignation at the audacity to floor my boy. I held my breath as the maul moved away and he didn’t rise from the pitch. That was the point the match report was assigned to the never written pile. As the game moved across to the other side of the pitch I shouted at the coach to notice the man down, unnecessarily

Down but not Out

really as both coaches were thundering on to the pitch together with our fabulous first aider who reached him first.

Have you ever realised that just as you feel the heat of a blush rising through your body, you can actually feel the blood drain from your head down, from your arms back to just keep your heart fluttering. The pain is physical as if you were the one hit. The pit of your stomach tenses, releasing sharp daggers of emotion and nausea. We of course have been here before throughout his rugby career. He was knocked out during a festival and carted off in an ambulance about 5 years ago, that was the time we concentrated on his head and didn’t realise for weeks he had also broken a finger in the same tackle. When the crack of ripping back muscles was heard in a training game, they all thought he had broken his neck. Another four hour stint spent in A&E for his weary parents thankfully turned out to be a treatable tear.

This time he took too long to get up, we could see him moving his hands rubbing his hips. I could feel the tension radiate from Sexy Sporty Dad as he stood beside me. My hand crept in through the layers of warm clothing to rest lightly on my mobile. How many times have I called, guided or liaised with ambulances for other children.

I broke the rules. The same rules that with any other match I would be expected to enforce, but I went pitch side and waited as they helped No 1 Son to walk off the pitch. Yes he did walk. Well it was more a lob sided hobble but the fact he walked meant his hips may not yet be quite as broken as we all feared. My breathing began to regulate and the blood seeped slowly back to all extremities as I walked beside his shuffling body to the changing rooms. As I contemplated the quickest route to A&E by road, who should go with him and what to do with the other children, he put on his jumper shuffled back out to watch the match from the subs bench; commenting fiercely and understandably angrily on the outcome.

He joined his friends for the post match meal and Sexy Sporty Dad and I were allowed to finally stamp some authority on the day by refusing to allow him to ref the under 15 girls that afternoon. He could hardly walk so chasing girls up and down a full size pitch was never going to be a realistic option. His wonderfully supportive best friend stepped in and offered to ref for him. Their builds may be poles apart but Stuart, wearing No 1 Son’s somewhat larger than required ref kit officiated a fast and furious match. No 1 Son fitting in and wearing Stuart’s slim line warm coat supported from the sidelines.

I was unimpressed at the ref co-ordinator who should know better than to come and start asking a somewhat still distressed No 1 Son why he was skiving from the match. His passion for the game is such that he must have been in so much pain and inner turmoil to have allowed us to prevent him being ref that afternoon.

I am delighted to report that a combination (well lots) of my homeopathic remedy Arnica, a hot bath and lots of rest No 1 son is walking well, his bruising is recovering rapidly though he will not be at training this week. My boys have heard yet again my mantra “what is wrong with synchronised swimming it surely cannot be as dangerous as rugby.”

Writing : having finally plucked up the courage to let my novel “memories” out to open critisicm I have now received my first review back

Once I had started reading, I read the whole thing in one day….. very compelling and a real page turner – very good!! I liked the way that, although I figured out what was going on pretty early, you tossed in a few twists and turns to keep the reader hooked! On the negative side – one or two slight inaccuracies of details (although only if you have direct experience of the matter and did not affect the overall story)…. overall, I thought it was an excellent story – well researched and well written!

Maybe the next step is to brave it out and send it to some editors, Stay posted.

I am not known for my trailblazing fashion sense but I would never go out without my nails looking top notch, grateful thanks to Sarah and Lorraine at the Nail Workshop who not only keep them looking good but also put me in the spotlight http://thenailworkshop.blogspot.com/ I of course went for Electric Metal Lover.