I'm gonna try an experiment on Adam4Adam

So hubby and I used to have A4As to meet friends, however, we got rid of them when we couldn't find anyone interested in anything platonic. We met someone from A4A who said he was only looking for friendship but he kept trying to get in our pants. He failed and we decided A4A had failed as well.

Flash forward to today. I'm gonna set up a new A4A with my pics (none NSFW) and see how many messages I get for sex when the profile says looking only for friendship in multiple places. I'll also note demographic trends and paste funny messages in here, especially when people get butthurt when I turn their propositions down. (Yes, this means I am going to troll A LOT of people)

I had a similar problem with gay com years ago. I put up a profile just looking for platonic friends. Dinner, movies, amusement parks that sort of thing. I met about a half a dozen guys but we only met once because once they realized I was serious about looking for platonic friendship there was no further interest on their part. I think on sites like gay com, adam 4 adam or man hunt those sites are sex sites the majority are they for that a hook up or a boy friend. Very few want to waste their time on platonic friendships. I'm sure in your case with it being the 2 of you it's extra difficult in making platonic friends.

I read your profile. If I saw it on any site and called for friendship, I'd probably pass... and that is saying much. I enjoy making friendships of all kinds, but the "teaparty" discussion and the reference to urine probably would be enough for me to pass.

HndsmKansan saidI read your profile. If I saw it on any site and called for friendship, I'd probably pass... and that is saying much. I enjoy making friendships of all kinds, but the "teaparty" discussion and the reference to urine probably would be enough for me to pass.

The problem is that very few people who say they're looking for friends really are. They're really just looking for "friends" they find hot. A better experiment would be to respond to a guy who is "looking for friends" with a picture of a hot guy and then again with a picture of an average-looking guy or unattractive guy. See which one he responds to and which one he doesn't. I don't think the guys who don't take that phrase seriously are to blame when so many of the guys who say that in their profile don't really mean it.

I've always thought A4A was a hook up site. Even the name suggests something other than platonic friendship.

muscles4muscles saidA better experiment would be to respond to a guy who is "looking for friends" with a picture of a hot guy and then again with a picture of an average-looking guy or unattractive guy. See which one he responds to and which one he doesn't.

I like this idea, though I'm sure we wouldn't be surprised by the result.

Fearthefall saidSo hubby and I used to have A4As to meet friends, however, we got rid of them when we couldn't find anyone interested in anything platonic. We met someone from A4A who said he was only looking for friendship but he kept trying to get in our pants. He failed and we decided A4A had failed as well.

Flash forward to today. I'm gonna set up a new A4A with my pics (none NSFW) and see how many messages I get for sex when the profile says looking only for friendship in multiple places. I'll also note demographic trends and paste funny messages in here, especially when people get butthurt when I turn their propositions down. (Yes, this means I am going to troll A LOT of people)

hmmm a gay dating site where gay men only look for sex....umm isnt this the standard for ALL gay dating sites? You can actually go to match.com/chemistry/etc. and find guys that only want sex reguradless of what you put in your profile. Its the gay community that turns it into that. Not sure why you have to conduct an experiment to find out what you already know...but, follow your heart

Sorry, I think this is dumb... Lets not be fooled about the nature of A4A. Yeah you can say you're only looking for friends but when it comes down to it every dude on there is only looking to hook up. This "experiment" sounds more like somebody is bored and is seeking drama and attention.

Fearthefall saidSo hubby and I used to have A4As to meet friends, however, we got rid of them when we couldn't find anyone interested in anything platonic. We met someone from A4A who said he was only looking for friendship but he kept trying to get in our pants. He failed and we decided A4A had failed as well.

Flash forward to today. I'm gonna set up a new A4A with my pics (none NSFW) and see how many messages I get for sex when the profile says looking only for friendship in multiple places. I'll also note demographic trends and paste funny messages in here, especially when people get butthurt when I turn their propositions down. (Yes, this means I am going to troll A LOT of people)

HndsmKansan saidI read your profile. If I saw it on any site and called for friendship, I'd probably pass... and that is saying much. I enjoy making friendships of all kinds, but the "teaparty" discussion and the reference to urine probably would be enough for me to pass.

Good luck with it though.

Ya, you probably shouldnt talk about politics in your profile if you want to make friends.

OK....My two cents for what it's worth.... I read your a4a profile, and if you really are only looking for friends...delete the "joke" about unless you both are drunk....not getting in the pants. Otherwise....like everyone else has stated.....that is a hook up site. But still.....would like to see how many comments you get.

FearthefallFlash forward to today. I'm gonna set up a new A4A with my pics (none NSFW) and see how many messages I get for sex when the profile says looking only for friendship in multiple places. I'll also note demographic trends and paste funny messages in here, especially when people get butthurt when I turn their propositions down. (Yes, this means I am going to troll A LOT of people)

I'm actually taking my A4A account down soon. I've been checking it sporadically, and the amount of messages I get, though flattering, are 100% platitudes by really ugly men. There's like NO point in having this account. Even 15% of the people who message me on Grindr are actually cute, and 8% of the guys on here are hot. On Grindr, it's a resounding 0%.