Weeding Through the Wack

This was a dating blog that has turned into a life blog. I found the man I love while dating and will now see what happens in life.

Sunday, April 18, 2010

Although Adorable, No Longer Appealing

So, after my last post I received a text message from Adorable that said we needed to get together to talk about our expectations of each other. Ugh! That does not sound like fun at all! It sounded more like a business deal. Long story short, I ended up going to his house to talk and it was just as awkward as I thought it would be. He was a nervous wreck, all fidgety and stuff. He asked what I expect from him. I simply told him I expect that he treats me with respect and be honest with me. Aside from that, I don't expect anything. I am getting ready to graduate and he just got a new job that will require him to move to Texas for a year. What could I expect form him?! I told him I just liked hanging out and then things just got weird. He said he wanted to hangout sometime and I said that would be fine but I needed to leave because I had a bunch of stuff to do. I haven't seen him since. He did text me once to see how my day was going...yoo hoo. I liked the thought of this guy but I'm over him now. There are other fish in the sea that I will like the thought of later. Maybe it's a mutual thing now, we just aren't into each other anymore.

Friday, April 9, 2010

Hmmmm....

As some of you may notice, the posting date on this and the previous blog entry are the same. The previous was written the day after the date but with the beauty of technology, I couldn't get it posted. So here is the update as of today....

Adorable and I talked via phone and texts the following day...like we have done for the past almost two weeks...morning, afternoon and night. So I was thoroughly confused when I got up yesterday morning and sent him a good morning text and got no response. Not trying to be that girl, I tried to not think anything of it. Lunch came and went and no word. Then bedtime and still nothing. I'll admit, I was a little bummed. Why all the sudden had he decided not to talk to me?

I woke up this morning and didn't dare text or call. I was just going to accept the fact that he moved on. Sucked, but I thought that was the way it was. I decided to take myself out to lunch. As I was finishing up and paying my tab, guess who walked in. Yup, you guessed it, Adorable. His response to seeing me was "Oh! Hi." I said hi and was just as shocked to see him. There was no hug, no little peck. He came and stood beside me. (Looking back now, I think he came beside me expecting me to hug him and I didn't get up.) He said he was there to eat with friends, both girls I had met the other night when we went out to the wine bar. I was trying so hard to play the cool card. After some awkward conversation he asked what I was doing this weekend. Long story short, he asked if we could hang out on Sunday. I looked at him and said "I think it would be fun to hang out with you because I thought we were getting along but if you are asking me out as an 'Oh, shit I didn't know I was going to see her' kind of way I don't think it will be a good idea." He asked me why I would say that. My response was because I hadn't heard from him in a day and half. He said he had no reason to not call he just didn't. I told him I would go out with him then. We parted with no hug or anything.

On my way back to work I was thinking about the situation. I couldn't get over it. I text him and asked him if he thought I was harsh. He said no and that he thought it was refreshing to hear that kind of honesty. I told him I wasn't used to not hearing from a guy who I thought was interested in me. He told me I had heard from him, just not yesterday. I played it off like I was being silly and kind of high maintenance. He simply laughed.

My question to my few readers is this: Am I being silly and seemingly high maintenance? I like the thought of him. Was I acting like a stupid girl or do I have a legitimate reason for feeling like I deserved a phone call or text yesterday and/or this morning? Ugh.

Starting From Scratch

Adorable invited me over to his house so he could cook me dinner. I brought the wine. Upon arrival he immediately told me I looked great and leaned in and gave me a sweet little kiss. That was just the beginning of a great night.

He had just begun to cook dinner when I got there so, of course I offered to help. He told me he didn't need help and instead opened the bottle of wine and handed me a glass. I stood and talked to him while hemade an entire dinner from scratch. He served a salad of mixed greens with pine nuts and almonds with a, from scratch, dressing that was amazing. His entree was a fettuccini with a, you guessed it, from scratch light creamy lemon and caper sauce, topped with tilapia and marinated tomatoes. He also complimented the whole thing with a side of onion and garlic risotto with a sprig of thyme, fresh from his herb garden. Dinner was delicious and conversation was fantastic!

After dinner we sat and drank more wine and listened to music. I can't express how comfortable I am around him. There's no pressure to impress or try to "one up" the other. I feel like I can be my true self around Adorable.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

My Adorable Easter Treat

The last table I served on my last day of serving tables was how I met the next man I would go out on a date with. I don't even know a good name for him yet so I will call him Adorable. Adorable came in with Guy and Girl, both friends. The only thing I thought about when they came into the restaurant was how much I hate serving cute guys. When I got to the table Girl was fun and nice and we immediately started talking and joking around. Nothing crazy exciting happened over their lunch, after they were finished they left. Didn't think too much about it until about two hours later when Adorable came back into the restaurant. I asked him if he left something, which I knew he didn't because I cleaned their table. He said slowly, "No, I was wondering if you would like to come to a party with me?" I couldn't help but smile (actually holding in a little giggle) because I think high school was the last time I was invited to a party by a boy I barely knew. I still said yes. I asked him to wait five minutes because I was getting off work and my boss was standing right behind me. He waited and we exchanged numbers.

When it came time to head to the party I called him, as instructed. He told me the party was lame and he would be embarrassed if I went over there. He instead suggested to go out for a drink at the wine bar. I went there and found a seat. About five minutes later Adorable walks in with six of his closest girl friends. They were all excited to meet me, all shaking my hand and Girl (from lunch) even gave me a hug. I was happy that everyone was so happy to meet me. The girls told me how great Adorable was and how much they liked me. We all shut the wine bar down. Instead of going home, a few of us decided that we should go to Adorable's house and play Guitar Hero. We played that stupid game until 5 in the morning and had a blast. I got a kiss that night. Unfortunately, I don't remember it. Oops. It couldn't of been bad, right? Otherwise I would of remembered that.

He went out of town the next week. He would call me throughout the week just to say hi. On Wednesday night he called and asked me out for Sunday brunch. Apparently in my wine drunken state I mentioned how much I loved brunch. And in his drunken state he remembered that!

Saturday morning I texted him and told him to have a safe trip home. His response was he didn't know if he had food poisoning or a virus but he was really sick. I secretly thought he may be trying to back out of brunch. Ugh! Without trying to seem over eager, I told him that if he needed to cancel it would be OK. He said he would keep me posted. At 10:30 Saturday night, Adorable texted me and told me when and where to meet him Sunday. That was a relief, maybe he wasn't trying to get out of it after all.

Sunday morning finally came! I was nervous and excited. We met at Palace Cafe. Brunch went well, or so I thought. I told him I was going to go to the Philbrook Museum to walk around if he wanted to join me and he said no! He told me he need to mow his lawn. Is that the male equivalent to a girl saying she has to wash her hair?! Ouch! I played it off like it was cool and like it would be a great day to do lawn work. I was thinking to myself, "It's all good. Not everyone has to like you. It's OK if he's just not that into you." I thanked him for brunch and gave him a hug outside before parting ways.

As much as it sounds like that is the end of the date, it wasn't.

When I got to my car I turned my volume back up on my phone, got my music turned on, and buckled in. While sitting at the traffic light on my way to the Philbrook my phone rang. It was Adorable. Before I could even finish saying hello he cuts in saying "If the invitation is still open I would like to join you. I don't know what I was thinking. Why would I say I wanted to mow when you asked me to join you?" Needless to say, we met at the museum.

We were at the museum for a few hours. We walked through several exhibits and then headed outside. About the time we got outside I noticed he had these dark circles that appeared around his eyes. I felt bad for thinking the day before he may had been faking it to get out of the date. He obviously wasn't feeling good. We went and sat in the tempietto for a while, watching people walk by and enjoying the weather. He looked over at me at one point and said "I just want you to know that I want to kiss you but I don't know if I'm contagious so I'm not going to." I was excited that he wanted to kiss me but felt bad because he wasn't feeling good. I smiled and said thanks but I was OK with no kiss because I didn't want his funk. I also reassured him that it would be OK if he wanted to leave since he was feeling bad. He said no and he wanted to stay. That made me smile. While walking back inside to the museum he said "I like your shorts." Women liked to be complimented. Brownie point for him. When we decided that it was time to part ways, again a hug was our parting endearment.

I couldn't help but smile while driving home. I like this boy. He is a great dresser, completely adorable, and great company. I got a text shortly after arriving home and it read "I had a great time. Thanks again for letting me join you at the Philbrook. I'm just throwing this out there...I think you have great shoes :) and you are absolutely beautiful." I like that he noticed my great shoes and acknowledged them! I can't wait to see this boy again...especially when he is feeling better.

And while typing this blog he asked me if he could make me dinner later this week. What do you think I said?