A Friend Rant

My friend likes to come over everyday on her lunch break. I tell her we are napping or that I'm busy but she still comes. I have even tried talking to her. It is selfish of her to come here when I do not need nor want company. My dog always barks and wakes up baby when she shows up and she just sits there talking away for an hour. I am even cold towards her when she is here but she doesn't care because she wants a place to sit on her lunch break. Just needed to rant.

My friend likes to come over everyday on her lunch break. I tell her we are napping or that I'm busy but she still comes. I have even tried talking to her. It is selfish of her to come here when I do not need nor want company. My dog always barks and wakes up baby when she shows up and she just sits there talking away for an hour. I am even cold towards her when she is here but she doesn't care because she wants a place to sit on her lunch break. Just needed to rant.

You'll have to go out at that hour or something. Stinks. I have a friend who is in constant life crisis and asks me to come over every evening to talk. I'm not dragging a baby out when it's 10 degrees, and its the hardest part of our day with fussiness, and I have a 2 yo to put to bed and its the only hours I see my husband. She started asking when baby was one week old.

You'll have to go out at that hour or something. Stinks. I have a friend who is in constant life crisis and asks me to come over every evening to talk. I'm not dragging a baby out when it's 10 degrees, and its the hardest part of our day with fussiness, and I have a 2 yo to put to bed and its the only hours I see my husband. She started asking when baby was one week old.

I'm 30 and we have been friends since junior high. We have left before she gets there but her lunch can be taken at any time so it is hard to know when she is going to just show up. One day I came home and she was sitting in my driveway. I just kept driving. She is a good friend but this one thing drives me nuts. Some days she even stops by after work. It is like she doesn't think I have a life right now. She even purposely leaves things at my house so she has a reason to come by. She has her own husband and 2 kids. She is always complaining about how busy she is so in my mind I am thinking then why are you sitting here...go get busy. When she just shows up I have to stop what I'm doing to listen to her for an hour. Clearly you can see she is driving me insane.

I'm 30 and we have been friends since junior high. We have left before she gets there but her lunch can be taken at any time so it is hard to know when she is going to just show up. One day I came home and she was sitting in my driveway. I just kept driving. She is a good friend but this one thing drives me nuts. Some days she even stops by after work. It is like she doesn't think I have a life right now. She even purposely leaves things at my house so she has a reason to come by. She has her own husband and 2 kids. She is always complaining about how busy she is so in my mind I am thinking then why are you sitting here...go get busy. When she just shows up I have to stop what I'm doing to listen to her for an hour. Clearly you can see she is driving me insane.

The problem is that she will literary be standing at the door calling even if it is locked and she can hear the dog barking. She knows there is no way to sleep thru that. I am going to have to hurt her feelings or I had thought about just showing up at her house with a crying baby right in the middle of her trying to put her boys to bed and bring them candy. My lack of sleep is making me evil.

The problem is that she will literary be standing at the door calling even if it is locked and she can hear the dog barking. She knows there is no way to sleep thru that. I am going to have to hurt her feelings or I had thought about just showing up at her house with a crying baby right in the middle of her trying to put her boys to bed and bring them candy. My lack of sleep is making me evil.

Maybe you could work it out with her that she only comes over 2-3 days each week. I know you probably don't want her there at all, but aside from telling her that, I think a compromise is your best option. I'd also tell her she needs to let you know when she's coming each day. If she won't agree to those two conditions, I'd be mean and tell her not to come over.

Maybe you could work it out with her that she only comes over 2-3 days each week. I know you probably don't want her there at all, but aside from telling her that, I think a compromise is your best option. I'd also tell her she needs to let you know when she's coming each day. If she won't agree to those two conditions, I'd be mean and tell her not to come over.

You are going to have to be direct with her, for real. "Cathy, I love you. But I love sleep more. And I see more of you than the backs of my eyelids. And I'm starting to get crazy from it. Can we do this on Mondays and Wednesdays instead of every day? Call me ahead and make sure I'm even alive. I need to sleep and I can't do that when you come over all the time."

You are going to have to be direct with her, for real. "Cathy, I love you. But I love sleep more. And I see more of you than the backs of my eyelids. And I'm starting to get crazy from it. Can we do this on Mondays and Wednesdays instead of every day? Call me ahead and make sure I'm even alive. I need to sleep and I can't do that when you come over all the time."

Preemptive strike- text her at nine am, "oh my goodness I didn't sleep a wink last night. I'm going to try to sleep when the baby sleeps today so today isn't a good day for a visit. I'll let you know when he starts sleeping at night and gets on a better schedule so we can visit again."

Preemptive strike- text her at nine am, "oh my goodness I didn't sleep a wink last night. I'm going to try to sleep when the baby sleeps today so today isn't a good day for a visit. I'll let you know when he starts sleeping at night and gets on a better schedule so we can visit again."

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