How big of an age gap is needed to be considered weird for dating for 21 year olds?

Ok so I'm 21 and I currently work at a library in the Audio/Visual section where we have movies, music and audio books. Anyway, occasionally I will check out a girl who looks attractive and acts like an adult, good personality and even looks like she's around my age (21) and then I find out she's really 17. Is it weird for me to be attracted to someone that young? I've always wondered that. I always say I will go no younger than 3 years from me but if a girl looks attractive enough and acts mature and has a good personality I will go 4 years but that's the absolute maximum right now. As for older girls I ONLY go as far as 3 years. Of course when I'm older the age gap will be a bit bigger but for now at my age, I can only go so far. So I was just curious to know what others think at what age is it considered creepy or weird to be attracted to someone or date at the age of 21?

The thing is when you're 17 you are very different from a 21 y/o but when you are 25 you're not different from a 21 y/o. Once people reach a certain age we're all adults and the changes are minimal but from teen to adulthood the changes are pretty significant. So I personally don't think there is a number. As of this specific case I don't think you're too old for her. Her parents specifically her dad will probably not like it very much since you're a college kid and she is still in HS.

Last edited by Gotjuice; 2012-11-24 at 04:25 PM.

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Oh but I will add, a lot of girls who go out with older lads, and these girls are 17, tend to dump their bfs at 18, purley because they go out with girls, see them having fun, dancing with lads, necking them, and feel left out,

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My cousin is now on his 3rd 17 year old miss's and the other two both dumped him for that above reason

My ex that things went the furthest with, who earns the title of my ex, because we were common law for 5 years, was 18 and I was 22 when we met. 21 and 17 I would hardly call weird. if it was 20 and 16 I'd be a little concerned, and 19 and 15 I'd call schenannigans. At 21 and 17 you're far enough under the redline to be safe though, as long as her parents aren't crazy.

It's not weird to be physically attracted to 17 year, because these days most of them look like they're in their early 20's.
Dating one might get you in trouble, depending on where you live.

Also, personally, I wouldn't date one, because here the mental difference between 21 and 17 is massive.

I would say the mental difference between a 21 year male and a 17 year girl is not as big, had it been the other way around tho. It's a known fact that girls mature faster then boys and that's why they often seek out slightly older guys. 4 years difference in this case is nothing, I have seen a 18 friend dating a 30 y/o man, that just gross me out.

21 and 17? Are you seriously even worried about this, lol. 18 year olds with 30 year olds is not unusual. My sister is 25 her boyfriend is 32 and they've been together for 7-8 years and recently had a child together.

I would say the mental difference between a 21 year male and a 17 year girl is not as big, had it been the other way around tho. It's a known fact that girls mature faster then boys and that's why they often seek out slightly older guys. 4 years difference in this case is nothing, I have seen a 18 friend dating a 30 y/o man, that just gross me out.

It's vastly different here due to 17 year-olds being in high school, whereas most 21 year-olds are past the army (which is mandatory), which is a very maturing experience.