Hax: Having spoiled kids is a big fear

10:54 PM,
Dec. 16, 2012

Written by

Carolyn Hax
The Washington Post

Question - My husband and I both come from very underprivileged backgrounds. Thanks to hard work and some incredible mentors, we were the first in our families to graduate from high school. We attended the same Ivy League university, and now have graduate degrees and amazing jobs in our fields.

While we were students, we worked 30-plus hours a week at food-service jobs just to scrape by. The few hours a week we had outside of work and classes to study or sleep felt like a godsend. It's not pleasant to admit it, but we both felt really resentful of so many of our classmates, whose checks for tuition and ...