For a partner to become a long term prospect, a couple should have the following areas of high compatibility (in my own order of importance):
1. Intellect
2. Creativity/imagination
3. Depth and breadth of knowledge
4. Ideological foundations
5. Spirituality/religion
6. Future goals
7. Cultural interests
8. Physical chemistry
9. Sexual chemistry

For me, the ability to have stimulating conversations is of paramount importance. I will take an average or above average looking woman with depth and intelligence any day over a perfect 10 barbie doll who has mastered only the mere banalities of life. I mean what guy wouldn't? Funnily enough there are still men who think with the libido, and they are doomed to the cycle of short term superficial sexcapades.

My advice to both single men and women alike, is develop and cultivate the holistic self - mind, body, spirit. Then attracting the ideal mate moves out of the random universe of absurd probability, and into the realm of quantum and existential certainty.

I agree to a certain extent. However, call me old fashion, but I like to throw all the romance formulas, dating tips, and how-to's out the window. I don't like to sit there and stress over the "compatibility" of a mate. I think there is something magical about just meeting a girl and letting things progress naturally. Outside of race and age, imho love shouldn't depend too much on making literal, or rational calculations.

Then again maybe that's why I am currently single, too much of a sap I suppose.

I agree to a certain extent. However, call me old fashion, but I like to throw all the romance formulas, dating tips, and how-to's out the window. I don't like to sit there and stress over the "compatibility" of a mate. I think there is something magical about just meeting a girl and letting things progress naturally. Outside of race and age, imho love shouldn't depend too much on making literal, or rational calculations.

Then again maybe that's why I am currently single, too much of a sap I suppose.

Personally I never liked those dating tip type books or the advice they give in columns or women magazines. They tend to make you paranoid over things you never even considered a problem before and make you over analyze things with topic such as "What his text messages really mean" "The lies all men tell their girlfriends" ( I am sure mens magazines have similar topics), they make you insane. I think that a great deal of the time people don't conform to a "formula".

There should always be some type of compatibility if you're expecting a long term relationship out of the ordeal. Some obvious common grounds for us would be, race and ideological beliefs. However, that does not mean we won't find a mate who is not yet racially aware and ends up converting on her own. It could be compared to religion, a lot of people look to marry within the same faith but at the same time lots of people convert to whatever religion their spouse is.

Personally I like a little common ground, it makes for better discussions. Also, I enjoy cooking for a woman better than going out to a fancy restaurant and spending lots of money. From what I've encountered, women prefer this most of the time because it shows initiative and responsibility

Well I have now had two really bad experiences with women on this site. So it's time to take a time out off the internet dating scene. I have some interesting things developing in real life, where it is so much more ... well ... real. Interestingly, I have never had good results with the internet. And yet many good relationships in real life. Something is trying to send me a message here. Time to listen up.

Best wishes all you internet seekers. Who knows what six months will bring?

Something just occurred to me, that I feel like sharing, even though my credibility is in serious doubt right now, but I now understand why.

I am generally a highly rational man. But around WN women, I get RIDICULOUSLY passionate. It's like they light a fire inside my soul that completely annihilates my reason. And I turn into a mad man. I go ga-ga, in like two chats with these creatures. And so yes, if some crazy chick was sending me 3 PMs a day, I would probably run away, fast, too.

I am now in temporary possession of my rational faculties, so this analysis has rose upon me like the dawn after the endless winter. And the really ironic thing is that this has never happened around 'normal' white women. Ever. Something about an attractive female sharing ideology is just so utterly god damn exotic to me, the mind instantly turns to gelatin. No one else in my life understands the feelings of loathing that I do around the very concept of Judaism.

Now that I can see it, there is only one sane option remaining. A six month probation on all things feminine and WN. I will not flirt, chat, or engage a single one in any way, shape, or form. It is a radical solution, but it is the only way to prevent further embarrassment and loss of credibility.

If I can't maintain a grasp on my emotions by then, well then by crikey, I should be banned from this site. And I will return instead once again to the obscene world of 'normalcy,' where passion has no place, and no originating genesis.

Yes it is embarrassing, and yes I feel very unmanned by it all, but I can only hope that this notice finds it's way into the hearts and minds of other noobs out there in WN cyber space, and spares them the same kind of misfortune.

To the two who I chased into the barren netherworld of inane chagrin, I can only say, I ask not for your forgiveness, nor for anything whatsoever in return, only accept the apologies of a man who temporarily lost his reason, having been overcome with the kind of passion that only fools and false-messiahs should share in.

And so I sign off humbled into oblivion, and pray only that the night should be more gentle with me.

Well I have now had two really bad experiences with women on this site. So it's time to take a time out off the internet dating scene. I have some interesting things developing in real life, where it is so much more ... well ... real. Interestingly, I have never had good results with the internet. And yet many good relationships in real life. Something is trying to send me a message here. Time to listen up.

Best wishes all you internet seekers. Who knows what six months will bring?

I know you won't read this, but I feel your pain. Not from women on this site (I just joined), but in real life. I recently had a bad experience with a girl I used to know in high school that I reconnected with last year. In the end, she couldn't choose between me or her jerk of an on/off ex, and I had to let her go. I wasn't going to wait around for her to make up her mind.

Well I know I said that was my last post in this area, but I think a footnote is appropriate...

First a song lyric:
"The me that you know, he had some second thoughts
He is covered in scabs he is broken and sore
The me that you know, he doesn't come around much
That part of me isn't here anymore."

(Trent Reznor the Downward Spiral)

The brilliance of Trent's music, and especially the lyrics, is that all men will go through that downward spiral at some point. And hopefully they will pull out of it before the point of no return.

So yeah, after my last post I exchanged a couple of PMs with one of these women. And I fell into the drama trap again. Here is part of what I said (and please try to see the funny side of this - I know I certainly do):

"Sartre once espoused the idea that "Hell is other people."
My conclusion is more sharply focused: "Hell is a WN woman.""

*gasp* yes and that wasn't even the really dramatic part.

You have to admit there is just something slightly funny about that.

Anyways, the reason I am posting this, is I made a discovery last night. I think it is rather important, at least in preventing my own downward spiral. What I realized, in analyzing these past few weeks, is that all of my dramatic writings have always occurred immediately after a session of serious fiction writing. Now I may be wrong, but it seems to me that the internal firewall in my brain which separates fiction from non-fiction is being breached - especially in that first hour or two right after a major session of fiction.

I get so into that dramatic universe of character and story, that for a time afterward, fiction bleeds over into reality. My mind is still on fire, and passion erupts onto the page...

That is, at least, my current hypothesis. And I will be watching for it. Experimentally of course. If I can prove it to be true, well then it will be easy to control - and interestingly enough, perhaps even ironically, this very phenomenon could make for a decent story - and this time, reality will bleed into fiction...and back again.

I do believe this type of thing has been explored before in story. Steven King touched on it in Secret Window (which may be the movie title not the book title). I can't think of any other such stories, but something here is definitely sounding familiar.