I was wondering, let's say your talking to your boss or someone like that, of course one would use some form of keigo while speaking. Then he/she introduces you to his child who is about 5 or 6. You want to say hi and maybe ask the child a few questions but would you talk to him/her in plain speech since he's a child? But at the same time is the child of a person who you have to speak politely to. Do you use the regular です・ます forms but then again that would be kind of strange.

So how would you talk to the child of someone you're supposed to respect/be polite to?

The reason I'm asking is because I volunteer at a nature center and one of my jobs is to help visitors/customers with various things such as showing them animals/etc and usually there are a bunch of little kids there with their parents. One day a Japanese couple came in and I could tell that they were Japanese since I overheard (ok, I eavesdropped...) them speaking Japanese. Anyhoo, they had a daughter with them who was probably no older than 7 and so while they were there I was thinking to myself "hm, if I go over there and introduce myself in Japanese, should I use keigo, wait I don't know that much yet (even though I know a lot now), if I ask their daughter if she wants to see any particular animal should I talk informally or will that insult her parents? Or do I speak like I would to regular strangers using the regular ますforms, or would that seem a little too unfriendly? So, unfortunately, I decided to stick with English during their stay.

Last edited by flammable hippo on Mon 10.16.2006 5:02 pm, edited 1 time in total.

This is famillar speech. Don't drop your ですs.The general rule of thumb as I've seen it written is you speak as politely as possible while still conveying your message. Children won't understand させていただきます, but they will understand します。 There's no reason to use する 。

Your speech to the parents is standard polite Japanese, not keigo, by the way.

Yes, 「元気？」 is definitely familiar speech. Reading through it again, it seems my post is in the wrong order. Let me try again. (Harisenbon's answer is more than sufficient, but I feel a responsibility to clarify my post )

It is perfectly appropriate to speak to them in normal, polite Japanese. However, as long as your attitude is friendly and respectful, there should be nothing wrong with 「やってみる？」「上手だった」「あの鳥見える？」 and such. If you are unsure though, err on the side of politeness. Of course being *too* polite will make you look silly, but that applies when you are speaking to adults as well.

I a case of which should I do and which should I not do? Always error on the side of being too polite. It may sound odd to you, and your friends might not want you to speak so politely, in which case they will let you know you don't have to be so formal, but it is much better to be too polite than not polite enough..

The same goes for English.. saying yeah man when asked to do something by a superior at work may seem cool to your buddies, but your boss might fight it even the least bit offputting and that could be the end of you.