My family have lived in a Western nation for over 2 decades now... I have (Masha Allah) beautiful sisters who have NEVER been involved with men and are at the age of marrying. They too are scared to just marry anyone, they have university qualifications and are very attractive.

However, I do not understand & it makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the WRONG places.

As for finding someone for your brother, what.. he has no preference in a girl what-so-ever?? If he wanted to marry that bad, he'd find a partner himself. I don't mean to sound like i'm mad at anyone, but people in this forum are jumping too all sorts of unrealistic assumptions.

The problem with Islamic society in the West today is.. we young girls are bright, educated and respectful towards Islam and our parents.. however, when it comes to finding a partner for life, we are just as stuck as some of you men are.

One disadvantage of marrying a career woman is that they may become to
busy for each other, which will eventually impact on any kids they have
since niether will form the crucial bonds that are nesessary between a
child and its parents. If they are not there at an early age you can
not develop them latter since the child is constantly developing and
that phase in the childs life will be over.

>>>However, I do not understand & it
makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that
the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values
away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the
WRONG places.<<<

To be blunt sister you need to get out more...probably not a good idea islamicaly
Muslim girls in the west are increasingly choosing a western lifestyle
over that of Islam, alhamdulillah you havnt noticed this yet sister but
for some of us this is clear as day.

>>>we young girls are bright, educated and respectful towards Islam and our parents<<<

Shyness is a
highly desired quality in muslim women as it is a sign of inteligence,
patiance and self control, being asertive is not and that is a common quality. As for respectfull
that is different from one family to another.

Edited by rami

Rasul Allah (sallah llahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Whoever knows himself, knows his Lord" and whoever knows his Lord has been given His gnosis and nearness.

However, I do not understand & it makes me angry what some of you people on here mean when you say that the Western influence is taking culture, language and Islamic values away from nice girls. This is WRONG... you boys are looking in the WRONG places.

Where did I say anything like that??

for finding someone for your brother, what.. he has no preference in a girl what-so-ever?? If he wanted to marry that bad, he'd find a partner himself. I don't mean to sound like i'm mad at anyone, but people in this forum are jumping too all sorts of unrealistic assumptions.

I guess 'we' includes my brother, too. And he is as much confused as us.

An enemy of an enemy is a fickle friend.
There will be more women in hell than men.
..for persecution is worse than the slaughter of the enemy..(Quran 2:191)
Heaven lies under mother's feet

It may be possible for him to find someone who is _currently_ working, but who may be thinking about becoming a housewife later when the children come along.

More and more women nowdays are thinking like that - they discover that working fulltime is so much work and so stressful, they decide that when their children eventually come along, they will give up work to bring the kids up.

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