Now, we're down to the last few morsels of, um, inspiration for your kinky fantasies, and as the old adage goes, “we definitely saved the best for last.”

To start off, realize this, gents: girls generally love romantic surprises, and there’s no other girl who’d love a great surprise more than someone whose dating life has been all plain and ordinary. Say, you’ve been in a relationship for so long—the honeymoon phase is over, and the fiery passion has started to dull between you two. You know that can’t be good, and you need to do something to rekindle that spark, especially under the sheets. Diving into the world of restraints, punishments, and rewards might just be the spice you’re looking for.

But if whips, cuffs, and leather are not really your thing, then fret not. There are several “kinky 'fuckeries'” (as Christian Grey bluntly put it inFifty Shades of Grey) you can come across when you look into the practice, but there are easier—less dangerous and weird—ways to try BDSM.

Preparing and Using Everyday Items

We all know how intimidating it can be to go into an adult toy store. More so to ask for sadomasochistic props. Scouring the internet for trusted “online entrepreneurs” can also be challenging. Don't worry—there are a variety of items you can easily find at home or buy in groceries or convenience stores.

Start with using clothing as bondage first before moving on to more advanced BDSM levels like erotic rope bondage. Make it exciting by simply telling your girl to wear an outfit or a lingerie set she won’t really mind sacrificing in the name of a great time.

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When you’re ready to start the foreplay, blindfold her with a necktie or maybe a scarf. This will keep her other senses, especially her tactile senses, more alert. Carefully start cutting holes on her covered-up erogenous zones to start pleasuring them, or tear her outfit apart and start ravishing her. You can later on use the fabric to tie her up to your heart’s content.

Aside from clothes, ice will be great for impromptu BDSM play. Your sub will enjoy the painfully sweet sensation of a cold ice cube all over her skin. You can instruct her do it to you, too!

Beyond Your Den

You can take the fun outside the bedroom, too, and you don't need to find a sex dungeon to do it in. You can instruct your partner to wear super sexy lingerie to work—a risqué undergarment she doesn't ordinarily wear—and text her naughty messages all day. If your partner's a dominatrix, she could also do the same to you. And you know you can't resist lest you want to be punished by your domme.

Make a game out of it, and double the thrill! If you or your partner fails a dare, for example, you can set a punishment—maybe with a round of naughty whipping. Sounds like a spanking good time, right?

Realistic Role Plays

Here’s another way to make the whole thing more fun: use realistic “back stories.” How about letting your sub pretend to be a stripper who’ll do anything for her favorite customer? It’s an anything-goes private night club, and you sure are expecting a wild treat.

Get more creative and role play as an agent drilling a sexy suspect in some crime. Instead of corporeal punishment like what you see in those stereotypical action movies, use orgasm denial as her torture. If you can afford it, go all out with the costumes, props, and setups.

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Of course, you can also get some inspiration from our FHM Idol, Grey! Enjoy the gallery below, and let your imagination run wild!