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My husband told HIS mother she would be in the delivery room and he would be in the waiting room! Over my dead body! This is your child and your boyfriend's mother can wait in the waiting room with everyone else. Tell the nurses and dr you don't want her in there, they will see to it. And be polite but firm. Your bf's mom wasn't there when you "made" the baby why should she be there for the delivery? The two people who made the baby should be there for the delivery end of story.

It will be YOUR nether regions exposed and tell him that she doesnt need to look at them. His mom can wait in the hall outside the door and be allowed in right after delivery once you are covered and decent. make sure you are clear to the nurses who you do or dont want in at the time of delivery. a brief visit early in labor may be an option while you are still coverd and able to talk but when it is time for the curtain to rise she would need to step out. My mother-in-law waited in the waiting room. I did have my mom with us but she stood back by my shoulders until I had to go to surgery and have a C-section we had not planned on. Then she went to the waiting room also. It is YOUR call ONLY who is there with you. PERIOD. He doesnt have the final say and he will have to get over it.

Instead of trying to change his mind, focus on understanding what is important to him about having his Mom there. Is he worried he'll mess up? Maybe he wants to share such a momentous moment with her.
Then also share your concerns about having her. You find something she does bothersome? You want this to be about your new family?
Then work together to find a new creative plan that speaks to all of both of your concerns. You can learn more about this kind of win-win decision making, and play some fun games teaching it, at www.poweroftwo.org/games.

This is your day sweetie. if you dont want any one but him in there then tell the nurses not to allow any one but him in the room and they have to comply with your wishes no matter what any one else says. if it hurts some feelings then so be it but this is a hard thing to go through and you have enough to worry about with having the baby you dont need alot of prying eyes in there when you dont want them there.

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