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Forum Rules as per 27.03.17 Bumped 1.12.17

We cannot and never will offer 1:1 support - if you need that then please call the Samaritans or dial 999 (or your local emergency services number) in an emergency

Everything posted is the view of the individuals: We have an amazing and friendly forum with a huge wealth of info/experiences/support. Sometimes suggestions are misleading/inaccurate/not suitable for you. Please do your own research and always consult with your Dr before acting.

We can be liable for what you post. When you post something, not only are you liable for what you say, but DWD can become liable too as the host. So it's not a case of posting what you like!

Posting is a privilege, not a right. This is a privately-owned site. Posting is a privilege, not a right. Any inappropriate posts or "troll" like activity will be stopped by the mods/admin team with or without explanation.

Be nice to all DWDers. The prime aim is to help provide a safe place to talk and gain peer to peer support. If you don’t like someone, their situation, their question or feel they’re intruding on ‘your thread’ then please talk to a moderator (names in green or blue) or admin (names in red). Please be polite to each other. DWD Mods and Admin do not tolerate anything which can be offensive to them or to anyone else.

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The rules listed may be changed or amended at any time without warning.

I'm just bumping this asking for everyone to re read the forum rules as we've had a few instances of people trying to drag the team into situations of providing 1:1 support. This is not allowed for your safety and that of the team member.
To provide 1:1 counselling/support there are a lot of things which have to happen. People are police checked, there is a support structure in place for those providing the 1:1 support. That can't happen here as none of us are professionally trained or are able to have that support in place.
Providing 1:1 support is exhausting. It means that your sleeping is disturbed as you are constantly worried about that person, that you spend time obsessively checking all forms of media if the other person hasn't posted for a while.
It can also be really negative for the person receiving the 1:1 support as they are only getting that support from 1 person who could have a completely flawed methodology.

My rules stand both here and on other forms of social media. If I find a member of the team is giving 1:1 support to someone else - going beyond general friendship then they will lose their place on the team. This is the only way that I can protect the forum members, the team and the reputation of DWD.

“You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”- Jon Kabat-Zinn