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Sunday, May 8, 2011

"Today"

Today I think about my mothers mother, Becky, whom I never had the pleasure to meet at an age where I could remember her. She passed away from a few forms of cancer, when I was only 10 months old. She raised MY MOTHER, so this is why today, I take a moment in prayer, to talk to Grandma Becky. To thank her for raising such a beautifully spirited and loving mother, who is more than my mom but my best friend. I can only imagine that my mom got Becky's best qualities.

Today I think about MY MOTHER. My mother raised me, a single mom in the 80's. In the 80's people got divorced, but not as rampant and as "normally" as they do today. As a young, 22 years old, single mother, whos mother just died, my mom arranged child care for me and still worked full-time. My mother made sure I had everything I NEEDED and I never wanted for a thing besides a puppy. My mom put MY needs over her own. My mom taught me that you get more with sugar than with salt. I watched my mom meet and fall in-love with a wonderful man, who is my step-dad. They together have set a wonderful example for me as to what love is. My mother may not have supported all my terrible decisions, but mistakes she let me make. As I learned from every single one of them, the lessons, she knew from the start I would learn. I didn't listen to her as much as I should have, yet in the end she was right. Without my mom, I don't know where I'd be today. My mom taught me, without knowing it, how to be a great mother. She taught by example, her hugs were like gold.

Today I think about the little girl, who 3 years ago made me a mother. I think about the way in which she changed my life, for the better. I think about how, if I could do it all over again, I would. Same result. I am a young single mother. When I gave birth I was only 21, I am now 24. I think back to the wonderful example my mom set for me, when she was just in her early 20's. My mom made everything look so easy and here I am trying to do my best and I am lacking the grace and class she had that or she was on heavy drugs...xanax anyone? I look at my daughter and I thank God every single day for allowing me to be her mom. She is wonderful in ways I can not even describe. She is the sole reason I get up in the morning that and I have to go to work, to pay my bills, bills, bills I think about where I would be without her and I can't. She has made my life worth living. The little, sassy, too-smart for her own good, lovable, hyper, caring, crazy haired girl who made me a mother is the reason why I smile.

Today I think about the 4lb ball of fury, my kitten, who made me a pet mom. It's weird how much I love and how little time I have had her. I can't imagine my house without her zipping in and out of bedrooms, pouncing at the most inopportune time. I can't imagine sleeping without her rhythmic purring.

Today I think about ALL mothers. Mothers who carried a child within their body, Mothers who had someone carry their child in their belly- waiting for the day her baby was placed in her arms, Mothers who adopted the child who was created by God and born to be theirs, Mothers who foster children until they find a forever home. Mothers who acquired children through a marriage- loving that child as your own, GODMothers who are there when the child needs a second opinion and who always are more fun than mom, Mothers of furbabies, because animals are a part of the family and need love, just like a human child.

Today I think about Mothers-to-be and Mothers in-waiting, waiting for a positive hpt, or waiting for the call that your surrogate is in labor or waiting for the call from the agency telling you that your baby was just born.

No matter what type of mother you are, you are a MOTHER and today you should be celebrated. So take a moment and realize that you are wonderful and you deserve a day to relax and be pampered.

Happy Mothers Day to ALL the different types of mothers out there; today is your day.