You hear that you have to choose to be happy and although everyone should desire to be happy, few actually choose to be happy because given the circumstances they're in, it can be very challenging to make that choice when you don't know the outcome of making it. Especially when your decision to be happy can end up making you even more unhappy.

So how can you really make the choice to be happy? You should start with little things you can do each day instead of making highly risky decisions that can make you even more unhappy (unless you are prepared for the downfall). For example, if you hate your job and choosing to be happy would result in quitting your job, there is an alternative to quitting right on the spot. But if you can afford to live without income from a job for a few months, then by all means, quit.

​But if you're like most people, you should take the time to figure out your purpose of being there and figure out the challenges you are meant to overcome and that way you will have turned your negative work experience into something that makes you happier because you realize how this experience is helping you to develop the better version of yourself.

I was working at a job that turned out to be a horrible experience because employees who weren't performing, schemed up a plan to get the people who were performing fired and the leader of the plan became my manager. I was horrified that someone could be so evil just to get the job they wanted, especially when the person who hired them treated them so well only for that person to stab them in the back.

I knew I needed to leave but in the meantime, I figured out a way to win against the people who wanted to get rid of me. In my mind, I was being challenged to figure out how I could beat my competition because I love winning a good challenge so this made coming to work fun for me. In the end, it worked out for me because no matter what they did, I remained the top sales performer and when it was time for me to leave, it was by choice. Karma came back on that team as they were now highly understaffed, overworked and now they had no excuse as to why they weren't performing..

Happiness depends on what is happening and what is happening depends on your perception. So the best way to make what is happening in your life something that makes you happy, you will need to change your perception of what is happening. Choose to see the good in everything and you will always be happy and no one will ever have control over your happiness.