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after 11 years of marriage, my husband came to me 2 weeks ago

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after 11 years of marriage, my husband came to me 2 weeks ago and said he didnt feel a connection with me. When we were first married we talked and talked but with 2 active kids they took over and we became the back burner. When I say I want to work this through he says he doesnt' think he can feel connected with me that it is too far gone. we have gone to a marriage counsleor for the first time last night. Are we over and I just need to face it?

One visit to the counselor will not be an indication that the marriage is doomed. The goal of the therapy is to let him realize why he may be feeling this way. Is he experiencing some sort of a mid life crisis, is he depressed, was there an issue of infidelity, is he burned out from his work and parenting responsibilities, does he blame you for not getting along in life professionally (this may be done subconsciously, etc)

Hormonal changes (in men as well as in women) can cause someone to feel a sense of emotionally disconnection. Neurochemical changes as well ex: oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, etc)

It would be imperative to figure or re figure out what the marital goals were (what the two of you wanted to achieve) as well as pin point your individual goals (what does he believe that he is not getting while in the marriage)

I have stated my goals, in the sense of I want this marriage to work, that I love him and I didn't know how he felt so how did I know that he was this unhappy/unconnected. How to reconnect is the question. when we were first married we talked about everything, but now it is about tasks, or kids, or nothing. What can I do to start the reconnecting process?

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