Friday 11 April 2014 08.07 EDT
First published on Friday 11 April 2014 08.07 EDT

Since my father killed himself, I've lost all self-confidence, amplified by a long period of unemployment. After my doctor prescribed antidepressants, I managed to get my head together and have been employed full-time for the past 20 months, and am now off the medication (as agreed with my doctor). The quality of my life has improved, but despite this, my self-confidence has been shot down. I'm in my late 20s but I feel like an anxious teenager.The few times I've managed to have a relationship with a woman, it has been great until I'm asked what happened to my dad. I've "put myself out there" by trying speed dating, but it was obvious, even to me, the inexperience that the gap in my dating CV has caused, let alone to the person on the other side of the table.

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