Jus in bello is “a backdrop against which to set one’s own personal war story, for the [soldier] is not [their] own moral universe” and it “liberates the soldier from a narcissistic retreat into the purely private domain of their own feelings”. (Mahedy, p.128)

In combat, time must be carved out in order to reflect, a solemn time to ask forgiveness and say goodbyes. “Compassion must be elicited consciously in warfare.” (Marlantes, p.77)

Rituals, like a liturgy. Burying the enemy dead, do not dishonor. Roman Catholic rite of “Mass for the Dead”