Domestic abuse

Domestic abuse is when a grown-up threatens, bullies or hurts another adult in the family. Sometimes it's called domestic violence. And it can happen in any family. It can be very hard to deal with but remember that it's never your fault.

ThreatsThis includes threatening to hurt you, another person in your family, or a pet. Or threatening to stop money for food or bills.

Sexual violenceMaking another person do something sexual when they don't want to, or making someone watch sexual material on the internet or television.

Controlling someone's financesThis includes not allowing somebody to spend their own money. Or not giving them money for basic things such as food, nappies for babies, or clothes.

Controlling someone's lifeThis could include stopping someone from going to work or school.

Cultural or 'honour' violenceThis includes being hurt or abused as a punishment for something that's not seen as culturally acceptable by your community or family. It can include being forced to marry someone.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend is under 16 and is being abusive, this is relationship abuse.

Things you should remember:

nobody should have to experience domestic abuse in their home

if it’s happening, it’s not your fault

domestic abuse doesn’t always involve physical violence – it can also include bullying and threats

getting support

The most important thing you can do is to keep yourself safe. Domestic abuse isn't your fault. And it's not down to you to stop the fighting, violence or abuse. Trying to stop it could put you in danger.

If you feel it's safe, tell your parents how you feel about what's happening at home. They may not realise that you know what's happening or how scary it is.

Talk to a trusted adult about what's happening. This can really help. If you're worried for your own safety, it's important to talk to somebody as soon as you can.