Is 29 too old for a 20 year old?

i really like this guy but he's 29... I'm more mature than all my friends who are older but I don;t know how I'd prove that to him... Is this a dealbraker because I already think it is, he hasn't shown interst even though we exchanged numbers

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you know everyone always says "I'm more mature" in some what, whether it be im more mature than my friends or I'm mature for my age to help justify the situation but the simple truth is he is just way older. you're still in a phase for experiencing the fun things in life, he's in a phase where he really has to settle down and stabilize his future. its not a good fit for most aspects in life, if anything, you two will enjoy each other's company a decent while, but it'll all come crumbling down when shit tries to get real serious, most likely.

If you both like each other I don't see a problem with having that age difference. I don't think any relationship will be completely perfect and I don't think age means that much if you're two adults that are attracted to each other.

I don't see a big problem. You're an adult, you know what you're getting into. The age difference doesn't really matter unless the difference in life experience makes the two of you feel incompatible. Otherwise, you're consenting adults, do what you want.

I don't know how to tactfully broach the age subject with him and ask if he's bothered by your age. Just show genuine signs of interest and let him see that you're as much an adult as he is.

@jacquesvol I haven't seen anyone 29 years old whose age has allowed him/her some way to take advantage of a 20-year-old. If someone isn't competent at 20 years old to be dealing with a 29-year-old, then she probably isn't competent to be dealing with a 22-year-old either.

At any rate, if the relationship fails because the age gap makes them feel uncomfortably different, then it fails, and that's all. It doesn't mean that they can't at least give it a try.

Well if I put myself in that position or see others in that position, it tells me he's not capable of finding someone at his level mentally and he has to resort to young minds.. Shows me he must be immature for his age. No matter how mature a 20 year old is, she's still 20

What Girls Said 12

My partner and me have the same age difference. We met when I was 19.Go for it !Why focus on age difference?A relationship could very well not work out with a guy your age.You take the same chance when you date older.you won't know unless you give it a shot.

You're both of age so I have no feeling about it. Being more "mature" to me doesn't change anything to me. I highly doubt that a 56 year old and a 19 year old are going to have much in way of common and wants, but they may.

i was with a 48 year old when i was 20 and we were together for around 3 years and only broke up because we both had to move. it was obvious we were being judged and people made all sorts of assumptions about it but we were incredibly compatible and although we were in completely different stages in life we still found enjoyment in the same things. age doesn't really matter