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I can't believe this still exists in 2016. Like seriously, some of you men and women need to read a book and stop letting your past affect your future (i.e., in terms of dating). Having said that, I'm going to break things down for you all (e.g., as I have little hope for my generation).

First things first, a lot of it depends on your demographics and the populated area you live in (e.g. as there's sub-cultures within a culture, sub-groups within groups, and every day household&community dynamics that plays a factor). Secondly, it also depends on the region you live in the United States; including, but not limited to, the globe. Other than that, those are the two most critically primary factors ... you have to consider. Whereas, advice about (1) How do white men dress vs. black men? (2) How do white men work vs. black men? and (3) How do white men love vs. black men as they're all relative and subjective. Because let's be honest (e.g., as humans) you know "there are white men that want to be black" or "black men that want to be white" and many other nuances and stigmas "that society creates".

And so, with that being said, it's the same reason why I don't attract a lot of black girls and/or black women out here in Washington, DC. And if and when I do? It's because they see the materialistic possessions I own, the way I carry myself, and the tailored suits I walk around in daily. And although I understand "why they're looking at me with their girlfriends" ... their behavior turns me off. Why? Because I rather have them look at me as a normal legitimate guy with character ... than a meal ticket or "trophy status boyfriend". Like seriously, that's freaking pathetic as I thought when I turned 28 years old, I would find myself around adults ... versus teenagers (e.g., which is why I'm on here).

And although I understand the dynamics and problems of "Modern Day Black Diaspora" ... quite frankly I really don't care as the majority of our community looks for excuses and handouts ... vs. lacing their own bootstraps and being responsible. Like ... we all know The Titanic sunk, we all know there were Jews aboard, and we all know the majority of them were poor, marginalized, and disenfranchised - just like African and/or Black Americans, and yet, each one of them struggled to survive "North Atlantic Winter Waters" ... only to migrate to New York City; congregate; and pull themselves upunder the ideology of being community-centric. And so to a guy like me ... I don't see race ... I don't see color ... I don't see religion ... butcharacter. I mean literally a girl or woman can be purpleGumby for all I care. If she's in sync with me and the things I like? Guess what? I'm in sync with her.

PS. So basically what I'm telling you DEDE1976 is to get up and move. If you want results, you got to take risks. Why? Because being complacent, kills your opportunity. Good Luck!

Their not. Men are men. I think if we stop seeing the color of skin ...will see what we enjoy most about a person. What color is love? I simply believe we treat who we want to treat right. A good relationship glows so bright you can't see no color. It's a choice of so much more than that. It's called the look of love,mine ,body and soul.

I believe cloths do not make the man, ....nor color. It's the inner man, that hides & shows, the difference between one man vs. another. The real difference, the only difference is the character, the values and how they love. But those are the same differences between all men, of all races.

My hope is that people understand the difference between a preference & and actuality.

A man is a man, regardless of race.........but show me their heart, and I can tell the true difference between men!

If you need racial confirmation then maybe you should not be dating. No two men are the same. To assume an entire race has sex, dates, eats, or loves in any the same way, kinda explains why you might be single.

Focus on who and what makes you happy and don't worry what the world thinks.

If you need racial confirmation then maybe you should not be dating. No two men are the same. To assume an entire race has sex, dates, eats, or loves in any the same way, kinda explains why you might be single.

Focus on who and what makes you happy and don't worry what the world thinks.

Speakng from my experience the difference between white men and black men is white men love to use the words, "hottie" and "yummy"..lol..I don't think the whole "difference" thing is as deep as people try to make it..

I do not know if it is difficult to date white women. If you are a fake black person it's a big problem... If you are a real black person with character, education and good looks your chances are more open to attracting many white women. If you are well organized you will always have women of any race. Women in general usually have one particular thing or more that attracts them to men; it might be their voice, gesture, looks, wealth, creativity, smell eyes, children, social or family background, race skills and more.

But one thing I have realized personally is that white women drive up to me all the time and say "OMG! your hair looks so beautiful is that your real hair?" Some who come close will ask me "Can I touch it?" most white women cannot resist clean dreaded black men who are educated and gentle. Now if you have a beautiful soft dark shinny skin with no fat in it and strong facial features you are in for a ride always.

The first job I had in New York as an artist was to model for artists. This white lady met me in the subway when I just arrived in the US (still really African looking.) She came up to me and said “where are you from” I said “Africa” and while we were conversing she gave me her card and asked me to call her. She later on gave me a modeling job and that’s when I got to learn how hot some black looks are to white women: Which is a very positive thing. What blacks do not know is that white women have a soft spot for them but they get turned off by some nasty attitudes.

But this appearance thing bothers me because it distracts people from the real thing... "LOVE" Love has got really nothing to do with looks. Looks are very deceptive. You will hardly have a good relationship through looks and materialism. Keep going for looks and you are in for long difficult ride. You will get the look you want but the price is not worth it. I despise women who go after my looks because they are carnal sex predators. I have been victimized.

The more you dig into my spirituality, my hobby, career, family history and my past you get me hook up fast. Because I know you are going for those things that make relationship to matter and last. If you talk about my looks I do not really pay attention that is why now I try to be as ugly as possible in my pictures. If looks are what you want then, good luck.

Its really a sad thing for us balck women that we are constantly betrayed and undervalued by our balck counterparts. Tigress4U, youve preached a sermon of sorts.. Amen to all that you've said.

Its as though the stigma or trials long past still resides in them (black men). Black women are way
too often lied to, used and abandoned by black men. Women of every colour are made with the same desires; to be loved, cherished, protected and cared for, and for succeeding generations black women have not been able to get the love and devotion they deserve from black men.
For me, i'd like to think that i have not given up on our balck brothers, but truth be told; the evidence is staggering and continues to stack up. What do we do in the face of that? Ive seen balck women who are independent successful beautiful great personality and they too have been disappointed abd betrayed by balck men who use them, exploit their success, trample on their self worth, etc etc etc.

Bottom line is we all want to be happy in life and especially in love. So guess what? we (black women) will go wherever the love is.. and if that means a white guy "we don't care"!! We're just tired of the lies and deceit and want to be loved.

I don't think there is any difference sexually between black men and men of other races. I find non black men to be more respectful and appreciative of women. I have dated many black men of all different types, different backgrounds, different educational levels and different careers. From unemployed to millionaire, GED to PhD. Unfortunately, I have never met one that could accept me for who I am - inside and out. They say they want a women who is attractive, smart, independent etc, but when it comes down to it they are threatened by it. They don't want you to be too attractive, too smart or too successful. If you are, sadly they will try to convince you that you're not. I have also not met one who is mature. I think the gentleman who posted earlier with comments on what he will do sexually except the " hole" proves this. I know all black men are not like this, but I know my people and I can tell you the majority are. The non blacks I have dated seem more interested in me, what's in my heart and what I have to offer.

Thanks for your response. I wanted to always hear from a black woman who dated black men from all backgrounds. Mainly because often the same black women that say "white men are better because..." only dated a specific "type" usually all from same background (economic, educational etc..)
Thanks again for your honest response.

I just love a guy who would die for what he believes in/loves.
A white guy, most of the time will be honest with you. If he likes you, he gives it a go, if he doesn't, he will tell you politely. Most black guy I know .. if they don't like you, they will take advantage of you. Have sex with you then go. While you had strong feelings for them. I know a white guy can do that as well but 90% if they realise you'll seriously interested in them and you have strong feelings towards them, that is reason enough not to go far and be honest with you.
Love making : black men are mostly concerned by their own pleasure, while white men are mostly concerned by their partner's. The thing the black men don't realise is the most Madam is pleased, the more she gives out and it will always end up being for Mister's pleasure.
Separation and children : if you're together and have children but one day for one reason or another you split .. Generally, a white man will want to separate his ex with his children. I mean not mixing the hard feeling he has for his ex with the right feelings he has for his children. Because no matter what .. they will always be his children and he loves them unconditionnally. But a black guy will use them to hurt their mother. Why can't they love their children truly?? Why can't they show them love and care? There is a saying in my country "The love of children is on the belly button of their mother!" a guy can feed his lover's children (who are not his) while his own starves!! That's what the proverb means. Is this really right?? Something else, most of them (black) don't recognize their children if born out of wedlock. Funny enough, when the child grows up to be somebody or appreciated by many, the dad will want a relationship with him. And those other black guy who if a child behave, they are proud and want everybody to know it's theirs but the moment the child is misbehaving, the blame is on the mum. The child becomes her mum's!!! Nothing to do with that black sheep!!! ;(
Falling in love: the more you are in love with a black guy, the more you risk to suffer. Because he will take advantage of it. While a white guy will respect you for that even in case he can't love you back. Rarely will he want to take advantage of somebody in love with him. And if he loves you, the white one I mean, whatever happens, whoever you are, bad or good, slim or fat, whatever race or color, whoever wealthy, society, mentality etc they will stand by you
They may have their own mistakes, white men, but in terms of love they try and I do appreciate that. If I was in love again with a black guy, I'd go for it but reality would still be reality. But I know chances are I'd be happier with a white guy.

WHITE MEN ARE MORE INTO MAKING YOU FEEL GOOD AND WORRY ABOUT THEMSELVES AFTER THE FACT

AFFECTION, GENEROUS, AND ROMANTIC IS ALSO BIG WITH WHITE MEN

DONT BELIEVE THAT SAYING ABOUT ALL WHITE MEN BEING SMALL NOT TRUE BELIEVE ME

Dede I had a white bf and to be honest he was the biggest I have ever had but he was so gentle and caring n sometimes he always care about my needs first,that is the reason I ll always choose a white man over a blk man