Guests who forget this is YOUR wedding, not theirs...

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Just need to vent and see if anyone else is having the same problem as I am. My wedding is not until Aug 2010, so guests have 10 months notice. Some of our "friends" are making comments about trip prices (580 per person all inclusive/air inclusive for 5 days), August being too hot in Mexico, etc. These same friends seem to forget that we spent 500 per person with nothing included for their Vegas/Mackinac Island weddings, which after paying for all food (Vegas reception was in a restaurant, and guests had to pay 100 per person for their own food/drinks), drinks, and everything else ended up being more like 1000 per person. Ugh, it just frustrates me that people feel the need to complain, either you want/can afford to go, or you don't/cant. I never complained about anyone else's wedding that we shelled out a lot of money for or about the dates of the trip, so why do they feel the need to do this to me? If I hear someone else bitch about how hot Mexico is in August I might have to kick them in the face, lol. It's Mexico!! It's always f----ng HOT! None of the complainers are standing up so it's not like they have to go, and honestly I might not have invited them if they weren't all excited and asking where "we were all" staying when we told them it was going to be Mexico. Ugh, do some people just not have any etiquette and not realize this is stressful enough without people bitching about anything and everything? Rant over! Thanks for listening/reading.

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I have had some relatives making the exact same stupid complaint about it being too hot (i'm going in july) They have actually caused a lot of problems with some family member cuz of all their complaints. I'm at the point where i honestly don't care if people complain. I find the people complaining aren't tha timportant, or they are making me realize they aren't as important as i thought they were. Just focus on all the good things and ignore those people.

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I think a lot of brides experience this. You may be amazed by who does and doesn't show up. But you'll have the best time regardless. Try not to let it get you down because like you said-it's your wedding not theirs.

Keep smiling!

(Oh, and $580pp AI + Air is a really great price, they have nothing to complain about)

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I'm right there w/ ya! If you are not happy about it, don't come!!! STAY HOME!!! It's as easy as that. I've only heard things through the grapevine. Here's the worst one I've heard so far. "Why do they have to get married in Bermuda anyway? Can't they just get married here (Charlotte, NC)?" The person relaying the info to me responded to them with, "well, she's from upstate NY, so if not Bermuda it would be in NY." Now get this response....."I don't understand why he didn't just find a girl from around here."

Don't sweat it, there are negative people around no matter what. You could pay for their whole trip and they still won't be happy.

It's your wedding. You are going to be the one who looks back at it over and over again. Do what you want!!! Have fun.

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I feel for ya!!!!!!cause ya still have quite a bit of time to keep having to listen to people b8tch about some thing and believe me they allays find some thing to F*ing b*tch about !!!! I have about had it and I have 6 weeks left to go !!!!I'm going to need dentures by the time its done from grinding my teeth !!!!

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-Taguania, I've had people say that to me too, "why do you have to go to Mexico, why can't you just have it around here?" In fact when I told a few people it was going to be Mexico, they said "oh, well we will have to get you to change your mind about that." Seriously, they have all had their weddings (some of them 2 weddings, lol) and done what they wanted, now it's our turn. Maybe I just need to drastically cut my guest list, haha

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I totally understand what youre going through as well! It had been so bad for us that we have considered numerous times canceling altogether and just eloping Our guests have complained about EVERYTHING: the wedding being in Mexico, the wedding date, the resort, the cost, the jellyfish in the water (seriously?), our guest list, the fact that we didn't sign up for a gift registry, swine flu, drug wars... and im dreading that there will be more once we are there.

One thing FI and I have learned is to always support each other when we are facing criticism and basically put OUR happiness as our top priority. It also helps to spend more time/talk to those guests who are actually supportive and excited to share in our special day. Thank God for those guests

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I understand completely what you are going through. My mother in-law to be doesn't like the fact that we are getting married in Mexico because my fiance's half sister doesn't have the money to go. My fiance and I both want to get married in Mexico and there is no convincing us otherwise. We gave everyone 15months notice, if they don't have the money saved by then, not our fault.

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I didn't really "invite" anyone. I just told everyone that they were welcome to come if they could afford it, and if work allowed. I told them that the only people that were required to come were mom, dad, and brother. Anyone else after that would be considered a bonus.

You'll get used to the comments/complaints, and when they see your pictures when you get back, they'll be saying "Oh I wish I would have been there! It looks like you had so much fun!"