It looks like sex, but it's dancing. It's called freak dancing, and
teenagers of all types are freaking at middle and high school events
across the country. And though pairs of grinding pelvises filled the
floor at a Valentine's Day dance at a suburban Washington public high
school, it might well have been the tamest freaking on record: The kids
stayed dressed and on their feet.

At other schools, blanched administrators say, a girl might be on
all fours, with one boy's pelvis pressed into her face and another's
pressed into her bottom. They see boys on their backs with girls
spread-eagled over them; girls bent forward with boys' hips thrust into
their backsides. Students know it by different names in different
towns: freaking, grinding, jacking, booty dancing, the nasty. They do
it to hip-hop and rap. Articles of clothing sometimes come off.

There wasn't any disrobing at the Walter Johnson High School dance
here on Feb. 17, but most girls wore itty-bitty tops so thin they
looked lacquered on. Everywhere, boys in baggy pants and girls in tight
ones gripped each others' hips, from the front or the rear, and pushed,
pushed. Pairs of girls entwined thighs and swiveled low to the ground.
Groups of dancers formed "freak trains," lines of tightly pressed
bodies undulating through space.

All the moves had two elements in common: hips and friction.

Teenagers insist that freaking has none of the sexual menace that
adults sense in it. One group of dancers at the 1,700-student Walter
Johnson High, still panting and sweating from a freak train to rapper
Sir Mixalot's "Baby Got Back," chimed a mix of "no" and "it depends"
when asked if freaking was sexual. Sexy moves, they said, don't
necessarily connote sexual relationships or even sexual attraction.

"It means nothing," said Anna Gillen, 14. "I understand why [adults]
think it's inappropriate, but from our perspective, it's just a way to
express ourselves and have fun."

Freaked Out?

Many school administrators are less than thrilled with this latest
spin on teenage self- expression, and are struggling with how to manage
it.

Some schools have banned freak dancing; others have turned up the
lighting at dances, cracked down on some forms of attire, or dispatched
chaperones with flashlights to prowl the floor and pry apart offending
youngsters. Some have drawn up guidelines to snuff out only the most
potent forms. One school outside Tacoma, Wash., for instance, now
forbids dancing that includes "bending over past a 45- degree
angle."

At Connelly School of the Holy Child in Potomac, Md., officials
banned spaghetti-strap and strapless tops at dances and printed "no
inappropriate dancing" on admission tickets.

A Catholic school in
Maryland proscribes inappropriate dress and dance on
tickets.

Kathleen Prebble, the dean of students at the Roman Catholic school,
has undertaken a consciousness-raising campaign with the school's 400
middle and high school girls, hoping to infuse an attitude that will
increase self-respect and minimize freaking.

"I don't want this to be just a set of rules," Ms. Prebble said. "I
want them to start to think about it: What is it they're doing? Why do
they, as young women, want to have two and three guys on them that
clearly have no interest in them as a person? Why is there a cold,
detached approach to what clearly has sexual connotations?"

Some administrators have chosen to avoid such problems by not
holding any dances. "That kind of close contact with sexually
stimulating music is inappropriate," said Paul House, the president of
the 1,000-student Aurora Christian School in Aurora, Ill., one school
that has taken the no-dancing path. "We're not 'holy Joes,' but I think
we should flee youthful lust."

In Bethany, Ky., the public high school doesn't sponsor dances
because it prefers to sidestep the problems of discipline and obtaining
chaperones, said Rocky George, the principal of Bethany High School,
which enrolls 350 students. But those burdens have simply rolled
downhill—Mr. George said parents seek his advice on managing
freak dancing at private parties.

"They should just chill. It's going to happen anyway," said Travon
Toliver, 19, a devoted freaker from Denver, "and there's not much they
can do about that."

Déjà Vu?

Mr. Toliver is not alone in believing that dances that shock the
grown- ups will flourish despite attempts to tamp them down. To
Chrystelle Bond, the latest outcry over freak dancing represents just
another turn of the perennial generational wheel.

A dance historian at Goucher College in Towson, Md., Ms. Bond ticks
off a long list of social dances that over the years have offended the
over-30 set. The waltz caused a scandal in the early 19th century with
its intimate, closed position; the Charleston was an in-your-face
statement of female rebellion in the 1920s; swing caused a stir in the
1930s when men threw women over their backs and between their legs;
rock 'n' roll introduced a shocking new array of thrusting pelvises and
twisting torsos.

"You always have this," Ms. Bond said. "It's a natural thing for the
younger generation to want to break the umbilical cord to declare their
own identity. The dances of the youth culture have always been a form
of protest against the establishment."

But to Deborah Roffman, a Baltimore-area sex educator, freak dancing
illustrates how adults fall woefully short in teaching young people
about sexuality. In most homes and classrooms, she said, teenagers
learn that sex equals intercourse, which enables them to view other
sexual acts as unimportant.

"If you think of sex as recreational, like bowling, then it is
meaningless," Ms. Roffman said. "Freak dancing is an outgrowth of that
attitude. What they are doing is engaging in sexual behavior without
taking responsibility for it."

Teachers and parents need to help young people understand that all
expressions of sexuality exist along a continuum, that all must be
viewed as intimate, and that they must be handled with the appropriate
care and responsibility, Ms. Roffman said.

Even parents of today's adolescents, who lived through—and
perhaps partook heartily of—the sexually permissive 1960s and
1970s, find themselves unable to discuss sexuality in the open and
comprehensive way their children need, Ms. Roffman said.

And that freewheeling heritage can complicate adults' efforts to
establish ground rules for acceptable dancing, some educators say.

"Some parents who grew up in the '60s and '70s feel uncomfortable
trying to hold their kids to rules that they themselves violated," said
Dan McMahon, the principal of DeMatha Catholic High School, an
all-boys, 930-student school in Hyattsville, Md., who, at 42, admits to
having done his share of suggestive dancing, including the lambada.

But Mr. McMahon is unnerved by freak dancing's combination of the
erotic with the impersonal, especially given the vulgar lyrics of many
of the songs.

"People get misty remembering the Beatles on 'The Ed Sullivan Show'
and Elvis Presley, but that's not what we're talking about," he said.
"This is simulated sex in a culture that's very coarse."

At the 1,200-student Santa Cruz High School, located in a Northern
California college town known for its embrace of liberal politics and
lifestyles, the principal, Tony Kuns, promised to suspend students who
freak dance. That hasn't happened yet, he said, but he refuses to
sanction dancing he describes as "simulated anal sex."

"It's not about prudishness," said Mr. Kuns, 49, "It's about respect
for each other."

As schools seek a fun but respectful dancing atmosphere,
administrators are grappling with ways to set boundaries on freaking.
But those limits elude easy definition. At Loyola High School, an
all-boys Catholic school on the fringe of downtown Los Angeles,
officials try to employ the rule of reason. But Thomas R. Waszak, the
dean of men at the 1,200-student school, admits that's not
easy.

Where's the Line?

"It's common sense," he said. "But I admit, kids might have a hard
time knowing where the line is. I usually say, 'If you had to explain
this to your mom and dad, do you think they would say it's OK?' I've
never had a kid say, 'My parents would have no problem with this.'
"

A few students express their own concern about defining the limits.
In some places, they say, competition is an undercurrent of the
freaking culture, in which one partner tries to outlast, or "break
off," the other. Whoever tires first is considered the weak one.

That backdrop can make a girl reluctant to withdraw even if she
feels things are getting too intense, said Leigha Bowie, 17, a Denver
junior. "A boy can just come up to you and grab your hips and not let
you go," she said. "You feel pressured not to stop."

"Some people get really dirty about it, and guys get all on you,
which is gross," said Jessie Gonzalez, 18, an Aurora, Ill., high school
student. "But most guys are respectful."

Most girls say they aren't bothered by the intense physical contact
of freaking, even being pasted body to body with young men they don't
know. Melissa Doman, 16, of Bethesda, takes only a millisecond to reply
when asked if that ever makes her uncomfortable. "Only if the guy is
ugly," she said.

That comfort level stems from the belief that the dance is not
sexual or intimate. "When you dance with a person, it doesn't mean
you're going to have sex with them," said Jenna Hamrick, 18, a
Tallahassee, Fla., senior. "Dancing is just a form of expression, like
the way you dress. It doesn't have anything to do with sex."

For some parents, the safest route is still prohibition. Eighth
grader Ashley Miles, who lives in Vail, Ariz., a rural community
southeast of Tucson, has seen freak dancing on MTV and likes it. But
her mother, Louise Miles, said that her daughter knows she isn't
allowed to dance that way.

"It's inappropriate for a young lady," Ms. Miles said. "First and
foremost, she needs to respect herself. The dancing and the music are
demeaning and derogatory toward women and toward humanity."

For one parent chaperone at the Walter Johnson High School dance,
ignorance might well have been bliss. Asked what he thought about the
dancing, the bespectacled parent said: "It was so dark, I really didn't
see much."

Vol. 20, Issue 24, Pages 1, 16

Published in Print: February 28, 2001, as 'Freak Dancing' Craze Generates Friction, Fears

Web Resources

A look at how several newspapers have reported the latest dance craze:
"Just Freakin' the Night Away", Jan. 18, 2001, The Washington
Post.
"There's No Dancing Around This Responsibility", Jan. 29, 2000,
The Baltimore Sun.
"How Close Is Too Close at St. Albans Dances" Nov. 12, 1999, The
St. Alban's News.

"In Dawn of Society, Dance Was Center Stage" New York Times'
John Noble Wilford unearths the cultural origins and development of
dancing, saying that "dancing as self-expression probably developed
early in their [human] cultural evolution, perhaps as early as speech
and language.

Negative societal reaction to dancing is nothing new, as this sermon
shows: "A Discourse on the Evils of Dancing", delivered March 8, 1846.

"Where Contra Dancing's Been—and Where It Might Go"; and
"The Hustle—A Brief History".

The author of "Let's Twist Again! The Musical Craze of the Early '60s" points out
that, "The lack of touching should have been popular among adults, but
what today seems like a tame and simple dance movement drew hellfire
and brimstone from some quarters in the early '60s."

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