There is no upside to un-forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean you are condoning their bad behavior. It doesn't mean they shouldn't be held accountable for their actions. It doesn't mean you are setting yourself up for future victimization. Withholding forgiveness doesn't......

When we fail to set boundaries or set them and fail to maintain them, we make ourselves victims of those who need boundary setting. When we don't set and maintain boundaries, and then complain about the subsequent abuse, we are......