The Lovers represents the first decision which must be made by the soul on his journey of life. The young individual must choose between staying a youth or maturing and developing his own individuality. This is the stage of separation and individuation. The Lovers symbolizes the choice between separating from one’s origins and stepping into a direction he or she is solely responsible for. It is the path to adulthood.

The Lovers correlating number is six. Sixes represent peace, partnership, cooperation and self-acceptance. It is the calm after the storm. The Lovers tarot card meaning relates to finding peace through the acknowledgment

of the self as a whole and distinct person. This, of course, is a process and it is often filled with periods of anxiety and sadness. Although there is great freedom in discovering one’s own independence, there is also sadness due to a loss of early attachments.

In a tarot reading, the Lovers also reflect the concept of duality. There is the feminine and the masculine. There is union and individuation. The goal of the Lovers is to strike a balance between the two. You must remain an individual in a partnership. The same can be said for the masculine and feminine aspects of oneself. For the Lovers, the male represents the path of external pursuits. It is the path of self-reliance and purpose. The female represents one’s dedication to one’s internal world, a world of feeling and sensitivity.

One of the negative aspects to the Lovers tarot card meanings is disunion and separation without individuation. It is the individual that has not fully individuated and, thus, tends to lose his or her sense of self in a relationship. When the Lovers reversed comes up in your tarot reading, there is always a concern that one does not have the maturity to have a successful partnership. This often manifests through infidelity, lack of commitment and inner conflict. Usually this reflects ones reluctance to have accountability. The opposite may be true as well. One may be obsessive, hedonistic and jealous.

A fork in the road

The need to make an important choice or decision

A new relationship

Commitment

Need for healing

Upright Lovers Tarot Card Meanings In A Tarot Reading

When the Lovers come up in a tarot reading, it typically suggests that an important life choice must be made. This choice often will yield two very different results so you must carefully examine the repercussions of each choice. The Lovers also may indicate a moment of revelation that will provide you a solution to an issue that has been troubling you. You may find yourself being tested before you transition into a new phase of life.

In terms of a relationship, the Lovers may indicate that love and marriage may be occupying your thoughts. There may be a new relationship entering your life, one that will have significant impact. You may have to choose between two potential mates. If you have not yet found a significant partner, the Lovers in an upright position indicates that you are emotionally and spiritually ready.

Reversed Lovers Tarot Card Meanings In A Tarot Reading

In a tarot reading, the Lovers reversed may indicate that you will have troubles in your relationship. There may be harsh words and hurt feelings. This may be a good time to explore whether your relationships are healthy. You or your partner may be experiencing a fear of commitment. The Lovers reversed also may indicate infidelity. You or your partner may not have the maturity to endure a lasting relationship and issues of temptation may arise. There is a need for accountability and responsibility. Perhaps, there is a reluctance to grow up.

On another level, the Lovers reversed reveals that one has not chosen the right path. Your moral integrity may be a concern. When the Lovers reversed comes up in your tarot spread, it is important to examine where you are on your path to individuation. Are you giving the relationships in your life too much power? Do you have a partner that serves as a mother or father figure? If so, this may not be in your best interest. Perhaps you are staying in a relationship due to the fear of being alone. No matter what the case is, ultimately you must be willing to accept that you are O.K. with or without a partner.