I love Hanson. The band. From the 90's. I think they are terribly under-rated. They have some more recent albums that never made it and I just can't understand it. There is a concert next month 3.5 hours away, it would be $70/ticket and I'd have to take the day off work... And I am seriously debating it.

I love Hanson. The band. From the 90's. I think they are terribly under-rated. They have some more recent albums that never made it and I just can't understand it. There is a concert next month 3.5 hours away, it would be $70/ticket and I'd have to take the day off work... And I am seriously debating it.

OMG, me too! Im a huge Hanson fan. Ive been to 10 or so concerts. It's been a little while since I've been able to, as I've been kind of busy having kids, (ha!) but I'd love to again! I also agree that they're under-rated!

I'm having a really hard time with the idea of gaining weight this time. I was 60ish lbs heavier last time so I worked really hard to keep my weight gain minimal. I know I have to gain weight this time around but I really don't want to. I know baby growing is the most important thing and it's just me being vain but I guess that's why it's my FFFC.

@SweetT my second pregnancy I wasn't too overweight but they still suggested me only gaining 15-20 lbs... ***I didnt diet while pregnantat*** I just ate super healthy because junk food made me nauseated. I ate a lot of chicken caesar salads actually, and tons of fruit, but I stayed active and only ended up gaining 13 lbs. My Dr was concerned at first and questioned me, but she realized after a while that the baby was growing well and I was indeed just being healthy. I'm not really up for saying my exact weight but just for helping clarify... my starting weight was 147 lbs. I maxed at 160 lbs. At my six week check up I was down to 133 lbs. While I was eating healthy I was dropping my own personal fat but was still able to gain weight and be healthy for baby. I am hoping this helps you feel better about weight in pregnancy and it really does make a difference by just eating healthy and staying even lightly active

@sweett along those same lines, I'm overwhelmed by the 45-50+ lbs they want me to put on. There is nothing appealing about food right now, and the idea of force feeding myself for the next 28 weeks sounds torturous.

I'm having a really hard time with the idea of gaining weight this time. I was 60ish lbs heavier last time so I worked really hard to keep my weight gain minimal. I know I have to gain weight this time around but I really don't want to. I know baby growing is the most important thing and it's just me being vain but I guess that's why it's my FFFC.

Im not looking forward to gaining weight either. I'm working as hard as I can to keep weight gain minimal this time around because I gained a lot with my daughter and never lost it. It's hard though, I feel like I'm always walking a thin line when it comes to food & gaining weight.

I plan on going on maternity leave and then quitting my job for a new one. I'm planning on telling them that I want to stay home with the baby so that way if my new job doesn't work, I can always go back to my old job. What they don't know won't hurt em, right?

I plan on going on maternity leave and then quitting my job for a new one. I'm planning on telling them that I want to stay home with the baby so that way if my new job doesn't work, I can always go back to my old job. What they don't know won't hurt em, right?

Are you planning to go back after leave and give proper notice?

If you have paid leave/STD, I only ask because most companies will stipulate that you return to work for a predetermined amount of time and if you don't, you may have to pay back all or some of the money you received while on leave.

My baby brother is getting married next June and just told me that no kids are being invited. I didn't have children at my wedding either, so I get it, however there also weren't any nieces and nephews at the time. My kids are 19,17,14, 2 and then the baby, I think it's shitty that my kids won't be there. We're a close family and it just doesn't seem "right". It's a huge wedding and I'm just a little hurt. Plusandalso, 3 of my 5 kids aren't really "kids".

Oh thank goodness people started talking about weight on this thread.I used to be super confident, very secure, even when I knew that I had things to work on regarding weight. But then I gained a lot of weight last year, about 60 lbs., and my self confidence dropped so fast. When I found out I was pregnant, it got even worse. I've been seriously stressing over the fact that it's still going to be so long before I am even allowed to try to lose weight. And while I'm SO happy about having a baby, I've been really worried about DH.. I know he loves me no matter what and he used to be really good about boosting my confidence (which he totally doesn't have to do), but now he's doing things that are seriously making me feel like shit. Like last week we were at Fiesta Texas at the water park and he blatantly checked girls out in front of me. Or like a couple weeks ago I caught him looking at porn.. I know a ton of men do it, so I probably sound like a bitch, but it's way out of character for him. And this week he started going on runs during his lunch break with a girl from work. Who I've met and it's kind of uncanny how much she looks like me back when I was marathon training with DH. I feel myself sounding crazy when I bring it up with him, but I really can't help how shitty it makes me feel. The old, secure, kick ass me would have said "f*ck you! Your loss!" but I'm finding it harder to be that strong woman these days.

Sorry about the rant.

Edit: Forgot to add that my OB said to aim to gain 10 pounds total. Sooooo...there's that stress too.Also, this was more of a Monday post, than a FFFC. Sorry ladies

Hugs, @sjackson408. That sounds rough and stressful. I feel like I understand where you're coming from. I was in such good shape when I met my husband and now... not so much. I was just getting down to the business of taking care of myself again when I got pregnant this time. I know my husband would have attraction issues if I let myself get too far away, fitness-wise, from the person I was when we met. I knew when I married him that, if I gained a lot of weight, it would be a problem for us. So my flabby butt stresses me out a little.

The checking out other girls in front of you, though... like, really blatantly? That would hurt my feelings. I know my hubs wouldn't be able to help looking if we were somewhere with a bunch of girls in bikinis, but I think he'd at least try to hide it as much as he could. Have you been talking to him about how you're feeling?

My FFFC - I bought an enormous chocolate chip cookie yesterday and hid it in a drawer to eat later in secret. I have issues.

@tentacular what you said in your first paragraph, yes..exactly all of that. I was starting to get back in shape/lose weight when I got pregnant. And I also feel that changing too much from what I looked like when we met/got married would cause problems.

Sadly, yes, it was blatant. But also, I see everything, and hear everything, and for some reason I'm very good at seeing things at exactly the wrong time. We've talked about it non-stop for about a week now. And every conversation includes me bawling my eyes out and spilling all my feelings. It's not getting us anywhere though.

My FFFC: DH needs to shut his freaking trap about not being able to work out as much. 7 weeks of killer morning sickess, now bed rest, and we're moving in a couple weeks so he's in charge of packing instead of being able to work out daily. He had the nerve to say "it's just not fair, my 6 pack isn't nearly as defined" last night so I made him sleep on the couch so he could cry his chiseled ass to sleep without waking me.

Apparently I'm being unreasonable. Pfffft. I'm quickly learning that my pregnancy hormones have a hurricane force and I don't even care.

@sjackson408 I'm so sorry that you're going through that. I'm pretty insecure so everything he's doing (aside from the porn) would really bother me, especially starting to workout with a girl from work.

I really hate the double standard that as women, we have to maintain our appearances as they were when we were 20 in order to be wanted. The reality is, we don't stay 20 forever and as we age, things change. On one hand, I want to understand that being attracted to someone is human nature and a person doesn't always have control over what they find attractive. But on the other hand, looks fade and it's what a person is made of that ultimately stands the test of time.

I'm sure if he hasn't changed at all, he will one day, and then what? How would he feel if your behavior changed due to his looks? I can't imagine that would feel good to him.

I am pissed at my front desk person. Hired around a month ago and now moving out of state. Gave 2 weeks notice and has been calling in sick. We are a small clinic and depend on all staff here at all times to work normally plus it's a busy season with back to school. Get your unprofessional butt here and work out your 2 weeks. And stop overbooking my schedule when I have openingslatr, it makes me run behind and crabby.

@BumpasaurusRex so freaking true. I hate that double standard. And I've definitely brought up that he's not going to look the way he does forever. It will be a pretty rude awakening for him when that day comes.

And thank you for saying that these things would bother you too. I definitely thought I may be the odd woman out here

@BumpasaurusRex so freaking true. I hate that double standard. And I've definitely brought up that he's not going to look the way he does forever. It will be a pretty rude awakening for him when that day comes.

And thank you for saying that these things would bother you too. I definitely thought I may be the odd woman out here

I've been feeling like crap because I feel all sweaty and bloated and gross but I got majorly hit on twice in the past week, one of which was in front of my husband and he is super jealous and has been talking about it for 2 days now which is out of character for him. Feeling pretty good/inappropriately smug right now.

Also weight gain. I'm not overweight but I did start this pregnancy out at a weight significantly higher than I wanted and I thought when I went to the doctor today I would have gained weight and when I saw I didn't gain any I got super excited and decided I'm definitely eating #allthethings at the little league party at Pizza Hut tonight. I've been dreaming about deep dish all day.

@sjackson408 I'm so sorry you're having to go through this during such a sensitive time. To be honest I don't think you sound crazy or unjustified. I don't mind porn but coupled with everything else you mentioned, it seems downright insensitive and rude. If anything he should find you more attractive because you're growing his child!!! Don't apologize for your feelings because pure entitled to feel. I wish I had more of a suggestion but I think what PP have suggested (talking), seems to be the best route. I'm a firm believe in communication but I know emotions can make it rough at times.

hang in there and remember you're beautiful regardless of your outside! I know that sounds like a cheezy slogan, but it's true!

If you're healthy and have a healthy diet, technically you don't need them as crazily as everyone thinks you do. I only remember to take them every night because my hair grows faster and my nails have never been stronger. And I take the gummy bear ones and they are yummy.

@sjackson408 I'm pretty insecure too, DH staring would definitely shake me up. I can't imagine gaining another 20-25 lbs from now, and I'm sure limiting it to only that will be a struggle for me. But hey, supposedly breast feeding burns the calories, lol.

My Fffc: FIL smokes, and the baby isn't going into the in-laws house. Period. until probably the first birthday. Not doing Easter, not doing Thanksgiving, probably not doing Christmas (at least not there) I'm sure it'll be rough on the family, especially since the 2 older cousins even spent the night as infants. But I have asthma, and we're different parents.

If you're healthy and have a healthy diet, technically you don't need them as crazily as everyone thinks you do. I only remember to take them every night because my hair grows faster and my nails have never been stronger. And I take the gummy bear ones and they are yummy.

True. I told my midwife and she was just like *shrug* "you have bigger priorities, it's really not a big deal." (We had just finished talking about my toddler.)

I've become quite the lurker lately. I genuinely enjoy being here I'm just having a hard time connecting to this pregnancy and keep expecting something bad to happen.

I feel you on this. I've hardly even told anyone... I don't think I was like this last time! I have my NT next Wedneday and am optimistic that, assuming that goes fine, I'll believe I'm really having a baby after that.

FFFC: I'm anti porn. Not in a self-righteous way, I just think it's bad news. I've watched it, I've been in relationships with people who used it frequently. It's just not for me and my life's better off without.

That said, I'll pretty much try anything in the realm of monogamy. I've got a freak flag. I fly it.

Well, I used to. We've had sex now about 3 times since the BFP (we used to be daily), and each time was dreadful.

I let my kid watch inappropriate television because he wont sleep and I wanted to watch it and now he's being a psychopath.

We we watched all of stranger things and yesterday he ran up to a little girl at school yesterday and said "IM GOING TO TAKE YOU AWAY FROM YOUR MOMMY" then ran away.

Also my fertility drugs made me start this pregnancy almost 15lbs higher than I was before taking them. I feel like a sausage.

I second the whole fertility drug weight gain. I'm right there suffering with you! I was horrified at how much bloat/weight I gained so fast on the medication- and then of course, it works and the pregnancy means that weight isn't coming off. I feel so much different this pregnancy than I did with my first. Feeling like a sausage is such an accurate term for my state of mind. Solidarity!