Oh and Blondie...I'm ready to start my new career as an advice columnist...What do you think? Should I get my feet wet here at MM? It's always good to do market research when you have starving audience...but what would I know.
mmmm? What do you say, Blondie? How about, "ASK LASSY: Advice for door mats, egos, and ornaments....ahhhh, and just in time for Christmas too." Santa knows I earned my egg nog this year. LOL

Thanks Blondie. Well...sometimes honesty IS intense, right?
We need a little of that around here.
After I posted those I FELT like a million bucks!!! Pardon the pun.
I'm getting something out of this site, not sure its a beau, but it's defenitely something of value. Again, pardon the pun. What else can I say, I'm not your run o' the mill gal...know what I mean? Cheers!

Wow! I have to say, I was rather surprised with your post. I would think you would say, "all these women are doing is looking for someone with money!" My account was set up for me by someone else so I don't visit here that often. I don't understand - women can't be turning you down because you HAVE money? I can't see that happening. So how about you tell me what the situation is. Sounds like an interesting story.

Rose2009 write: Having been accused of being a "gold digger" by my ex mother-in-law, one thing I would definately advise all ladies here is to make sure all his friends like you and especially his family otherwise it can be a living hell. I was never interested in his money, or his family money and when they cut him off with nothing I stuck by him,because I wanted to be with him. Sad thing was he didn't stick with me, he eventually decided he liked money better!

Wow Rose, that is sad, I am sorry to hear that. But you know bring to mind a thought that has crossed my mind....
"Maybe if men already have money, and they truly fall in love with us, maybe then they will feel fulfilled and not feel like they have to move on, or leave us because an opportunity arrises to be with someone better?" Can't men of stature understand that we have worries too, and understand that the security they give is not how much money they will "GIVE" but that they "ALREADY HAVE"
it. It just removes some anxiety. After that the rest all falls into place. I guess I think differently about the type of "security" that would come from a man of stature...then again I have been told I don't think like most women. Maybe that's good...again...the men will decide.
And Rose, you need some chocolate honey..but remember...chocolate isn't a temporary fix, but a good man will give you a life time of fulfillment. So don't let the back ones make you bitter or cynical and ruin the opportunity to maintain a perfectly good attitude. And when it comes to gift it doesn't matter how little or big they are...except when it come to chocolate...orrrrr...is that just me...there I hope you got a good laugh...shame on him.

Hey, Spoiler, Goodlife brought up something that I would like to comment on, additionally.

I have worked very hard to put myself through school, and raise my daughter. I have my areas of study secured in film, journalism, investigation, and am planning to get my archeology under way so I can focus my documentaries and articles oh ancient history type projects. In order to prevent losing time with my daughter, I busted my arse at ABC so I could prove to my news director that I could get the job done and have my daughter with me at the same time.

At the time I thought this was unfair of me bringing her to work. She has done alot with me. Mom stage managing Shakespeare, concerts, field assignments, the five o'clock rush in a newsroom which can beat runners rush hands down, film productions.

She is now seven and smart articulate and can hold her own...the only problem she has is being a bit bossy because she has seem mom being the boss at times. I have to own that one.

In short, I, too, have busted my arse.

I feel like I am just getting started. The benefits of travel, creative control of my projects, MY ideas and years of research coming to fruitition. It's a rush...success...period is a rush. Mine! Not someone elses.

But the one very important thing I have noticed is that the excitement I feel for where I am going at this point in my life...is not understood or appreciated by men that have never experienced that feeling for themself.

It's so important that I have somebody that I can turn to and say, "Hey the coolest thing happened today...National Geographic called and guess what!" I am plagued by this feeling that I talk over mens heads or make them feel beneath me with my accomplishments, when I am not trying to be myself.

I would love it if he had his own career and I could also share his accomplishments. Shoot it's at least a reason to celebrate right! (And give him more kisses, lol.) Besides you know how those celebration nights always end. With dirty dishes...shame on you what were you thinking. LOL Sorry had to lighten things up a bit there.

Anyhow, It makes me frustrated, so I have chose to focus on my career, myself, and my daughter (my best accomplishment yet.) I think the best thing I could get out a man of this stature is for him to share my enthusiasim and give me a hug when great things happen, instead of raising an eyebrow at me, and in this low depressed voice say, "Oh that's great!" Like he feels, "Oh boy now I have to keep up."

I don't want my relationship to be some kind of competition. HUH? I don't get that? I could never live like this, I would be miserable. I shouldn't have to feel like I have to down shift, so I chose to move up a rank. And, that just makes me...well...whatever it makes me...the men will deside I suppose.

Now I'm not saying I'm rich, but I own a piece of dirt in this world and that makes me luckier than most. Everything I own is paid for and that just makes me ...well a blessed woman. But blessings and luck require the capacity to know when you are "blessed" and when you are "lucky." I have learned you create your own luck.

I doubt very much if I had relied on my "looks" or "luck" to get me into ABC many moons ago it wouldn't not have happened. Especially when I was competing against every Minnesota girl who came to LA, hit the plastic surgeon and hair dye and became a "California Girl" overnight!

I saw opportunity, I knew what I wanted, and that it would open doors for me career wise, and it did. Now I might not be there anymore...but by god it was the stepping stone I needed, I busted my arse and got it.

Now in that aspect I'm a go-getter that is congratulated. Bit when it comes to seeking a partner I'm a "gold digger" I don't think so.

Passion has different layers to it, this is one element of passion that is a must for me to share with my partner. I could never sit and become stagnant, it's not in my nature. I have tried to change myself to please men a looooon time ago. Well I'm not a little giggling girl anymore.

I am a woman, with a womans desires, passions, and ambitions. My perfect "match" would LOVE this fire in me.

Period.

And SPOILER I WOULD LIKE TO THANK YOU FOR BRINGING THIS TOPIC UP. IT IS SOMETHING THAT HAS BEEN ON MY MIND FOR A WHILE NOW. THANK YOU FOR THE OPPORTUNITY TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS. DOES EVERYONE REALISE HOW HEALTHY SOME OF THESE THREADS ARE FOR OUR MENTAL HEALTH?

PerfectSpoiler4u write: This site is Millionairematch, but as I read through the profiles, money doesn't seem to be all that important to many women. That is commendable, but then this just becomes another ordinary dating site. I joined because I do hope to meet a special woman, who appreciates, that while money cannot buy happiness, it can buy some luxuries and comforts. So, how does a man of some means, meet a woman who prefers men with money. I mean, if I prefer tall or short..Blondeor brunette, or some other preference, I think it would be great if a woman put "wealthy" high up on her list of "want in a man"!!!

Spoiler, OMG...the answer is right in front of you. Meet the right woman and SHE WILL appreciate you for whatever you have to offer. The point is that you are willing to build a relationship with her and share your resources, whatever they may be. Remember you can be "wealthy"
in many ways besides financially.

Personally, I am here because because it is pretty much a given that 90% of the men here are well are educated and secure. Do I want a mans millions? NO.
But I was in a relationship where I was the sole provider. At times I felt overwhelmed, unappreciated, and just plain exhausted at times I felt like he should have WANTED to help out at least a LITTLE bit. I have struggled, been blessed and everything in between. And
everyone of those stages of my life, I was still not happy. I guess I was just ready for a, dare I say, Soul Mate, Life partner, companion, whatever. So perhaps, in this modern world, I do still hang on to some of the traditional type roles between men and women. I don't want to pretend to be helpless, that doesn't make me anymore grateful. But I do like to feel that at the end of a long day, and I feel beat up from work, I can come home feel secure with my environment, have my needs (not neccessarily wants) met. And be with someone who can remind me that I am not all brass, that I am delicate, and vulnerable, and a harmless kitten. I have noticed that men of stature are more comfortable with being this to a women, whereas, "the others" tend to downplay, insult, and put woman into gender roles. I don't know boys you tell me? Being "secure" does it somehow mature a man like a good wine? Does gratefulness somehow make a man free to move onto other things? I think I'm pretty insightful with men...but so lost
too. Don't ask me why, just an observation, but I cannot expand on that. Not only that it IS NOT only men that get used. I can't believe I am going to share this with you,Spoiler, but I think you men need a touch of reality of what we lasses go through.
**Last week, went on date, didn't drink at all (so nobody can blame the outcome of this story on that.), had a good time, I thought he was too young for me and said so. End of the night, I go in the powder room to freshen up before I go home. He walks me to my door (nice right?), he tries to kiss me (I already told him it wasn't going to work out, so the kiss was inappropriate.), I turn my head away, he... well the "edited" version would be he kissed my ear. That episode ended. I go in my house, put my keys down, start to take off my jewelery... and noticed...my diamond earring was gone! NOW THAT WAS SMOOTH I HAVE TO GIVE IT TO HIM. DON'T tell me women don't get used. I am not a stupid women by any means, I couldn't believe that happened to me. Those earrings were special to me. It was the first diamond I ever bought myself. They had sentimental value. NOW DOES THAT MAKE ME MATERIALISTIC, because I miss a materialistic object. I mean if you walk out and your car is stolen...are you to materialic or are you going to feel violated? This incident was the straw tht broke the camels back for me, the next day I signed up here. Why not right? What have I got lose. Besides, the one thing that makes this site great, is that we are all here because we think we are educated, professional,great catches.We all have something to offer, in a non materialistic, emotionally vulnerable way. We all want the same thing...companionship and a life partner. Of course people have standards...I mean I don't ever see any adds that say, WANTED: "Unhealthy, uneducated, unbalanced, lazy, depressed, emotionally unstable, deadbeat. MUST drink like a sailer, smoke like a train, spend my money, destroy my house, tear up my vehicles, never clean or bath and have a low sex drive." I don't know about you but I don't want to be single forever. I'm not saying I want to marry, neccessarily, but long-term ABSOLUTELY!
Relationships have levels, if you are hopping from one partner to another on a regular basis it is impossible to get to a point where you connect beyond the physical. I can't do that, I need an emotional connection to fully connect...I am not a robot. To me this is so simple...but I don't have the answer as to why it is so hard to attain. Hope I didn't babble and that gave you some insite into the woman's mind.
I would be interested in hearing your response. Be patient, the right woman is out there for you. I know that somewhere out there is a great guy who is just dying to run across a woman like me. So chin up.

sweendog, i accept the two proposals online, lets go to Vegas baby.lol I like sweendog, he is a cutie, lets breed, omg,at our age, lol, you have 4 kids, with my 1 and 2 more is the Brady Bunch, and we are both over 40, i love to joke around, can i get a laugh, Cub,NYC,Ice,sharp,lol,lol kiss kiss, wink, super wink...to you sweendoggy...rrrrrrhhhhhhh

sweendogr write: Lets be honest about this ladies,if you can find a man with looks and money then why not narrow your search to just that. Men look for certain items of choice also,wink.

Ok...I'll be honest. I'm looking for a guy who is hung like a horse....but, if he's rich enough, he can be hung like a hamster.

so Flamingo , is that not a mercenary exchange?
What if the rich guy loses all his wealth? He will still be hung like a hamster .
And if the poor guy gets rich, you get the best of both worlds? Rethink your choices wisely ..lol

Maybe it's given that men and women alike want to live a comfortable life. Whoever denies this is simply a liar. On the other hand, I believe that no man/woman on earth would like to spend the rest of his /her life with a partner who wants nothing from him/her but his/her money. What if he/she gets sick or something happens and he/she loses everything, does that mean it's bye-bye time?
I work at the hospital and believe me I've seen a lot of dramas more horrendous than what you see on tv. A patient of mine(already on his fourth marriage) realized too late that his wife married him for the wrong reason. I never saw even a glimpse of her shadow during his hospitalization. Come to think of it, he was even hitting on me. Hm, maybe he got what he deserved.Lol!
On the other hand, I have met a bunch of not so nice men who seemed to be perfect gentlemen on their profiles, e-mails,etc. When I met them, it was quite obvious they only wanted
one thing:a pillow mate. Sigh!
That's not why I am here. Being in the medical profession also gave other guys a wrong impression that I could be a future "sugar mommy" for them. Geez! I feel and think that I am still young to be put in that category!LOL!
Different strokes for different folks but I would still want to give this one last try with the hope that this site would have some sincere male/female members who have the same goals as I do: to find a partner who's ready for the real thing...
Linda Carter(Wonder Woman) once said" If you do the right thing, right things happen..."
Good luck to everyone!!!

scorpio_ice write: oh pleeeeze it's already been said by you on another thread by yet ANOTHER of your false profiles!! It's becoming boring now!

Thanks Scorpio...it is becoming boring. I've written MM several times, but no response. My membership expires in October...think I'll become a ghost...when non-paying fake profiles can post insults to paying members on every thread...why would I want to pay for that service? lmao MM continues to lose good paying members due to their indifference to this problem. I guess they have enough business...ours is insignificant.

I agree with you Sharp!! It takes alot to make me feel anger towards another person but what I've seen in here is turning my stomach!!! The attack on Mel is far more disgusting than anything I have seen in here so far and I cannot believe that MM doesn't monitor these threads now that they know so many false profiles are being created at this time instead of waiting for MM members to report them. I for one WILL NOT be renewing my membership if this isn't cleared up TODAY nevermind this week!!!

As it is, I am now going to continue doing MM's job and reporting every last one of the false profiles which doesn't leave much time for posting!

Oh believe me MM monitors these posts! Remember what 5w's wrote a week or two ago...one of his posts was removed within a MINUTE! They didn't like him suggesting we could create our own web site to chat on.

Rose2009 write: Having been accused of being a "gold digger" by my ex mother-in-law, one thing I would definately advise all ladies here is to make sure all his friends like you and especially his family otherwise it can be a living hell. I was never interested in his money, or his family money and when they cut him off with nothing I stuck by him,because I wanted to be with him. Sad thing was he didn't stick with me, he eventually decided he liked money better!

Sorry he left you, and it hurts. He came from money, but obviously had no clue how to make it for himself in order to sustain the lifestyle he was accustomed to. Someone more worthy of you will come along, and he will either know how to make his money, or he will prioritize better. Money doesn't buy happiness.

Sharp1 has the personality of a retired citizen old man. Quit pretending you're a woman.

oh pleeeeze it's already been said by you on another thread by yet ANOTHER of your false profiles!! It's becoming boring now!

Thanks Scorpio...it is becoming boring. I've written MM several times, but no response. My membership expires in October...think I'll become a ghost...when non-paying fake profiles can post insults to paying members on every thread...why would I want to pay for that service? lmao MM continues to lose good paying members due to their indifference to this problem. I guess they have enough business...ours is insignificant.

I agree with you Sharp!! It takes alot to make me feel anger towards another person but what I've seen in here is turning my stomach!!! The attack on Mel is far more disgusting than anything I have seen in here so far and I cannot believe that MM doesn't monitor these threads now that they know so many false profiles are being created at this time instead of waiting for MM members to report them. I for one WILL NOT be renewing my membership if this isn't cleared up TODAY nevermind this week!!!

As it is, I am now going to continue doing MM's job and reporting every last one of the false profiles which doesn't leave much time for posting!

Rose2009 write: Having been accused of being a "gold digger" by my ex mother-in-law, one thing I would definately advise all ladies here is to make sure all his friends like you and especially his family otherwise it can be a living hell. I was never interested in his money, or his family money and when they cut him off with nothing I stuck by him,because I wanted to be with him. Sad thing was he didn't stick with me, he eventually decided he liked money better!

Sorry he left you, and it hurts. He came from money, but obviously had no clue how to make it for himself in order to sustain the lifestyle he was accustomed to. Someone more worthy of you will come along, and he will either know how to make his money, or he will prioritize better. Money doesn't buy happiness.

Sharp1 has the personality of a retired citizen old man. Quit pretending you're a woman.

oh pleeeeze it's already been said by you on another thread by yet ANOTHER of your false profiles!! It's becoming boring now!

Thanks Scorpio...it is becoming boring. I've written MM several times, but no response. My membership expires in October...think I'll become a ghost...when non-paying fake profiles can post insults to paying members on every thread...why would I want to pay for that service? lmao
MM continues to lose good paying members due to their indifference to this problem. I guess they have enough business...ours is insignificant.