How i can stop having crushes for good and just have friends that are men?

okay i had been developing crushes on girls since 5th grade and all of them were considered bad due to my family never liking them and them not being nice nor returning the feelings and almost all of them get taken before i can ask them out which is more sad and now i think i should stop having crushes for good and... show more okay i had been developing crushes on girls since 5th grade and all of them were considered bad due to my family never liking them and them not being nice nor returning the feelings and almost all of them get taken before i can ask them out which is more sad and now i think i should stop having crushes for good and just have friends so that are men since they would be more understanding than my crushes so please tell me how i can stop having crushes for good and just have friends my age that are men thank you

You have not told us your age so hopefully the advice will fit in with you. Young guys have crushes and that is a fact. Unfortunately in most cases our crushes don't have the same feelings for us as we have for them. Over the years we get these crushes on people and will get several girlfriends that will end with breaking up and we have to accept the rejection as it was something that was never meant to be. Then one day generally in our mid 20s or later the girl who feels the same way about us as we feel about them comes along and everything falls into place. Most females do not seek a relationship with the view of forming a life long bond until at least mid 20s these days as they want to live life and work their way up to good jobs. Years ago most females wanted to be married by their early 20s and believed their lot was to marry young and start a family. These days most do not think that way anymore and many guys struggle to find a relationship with a female until their mid 20s or later. They may get a female willing to have sex and maybe hang out with a guy but few are serious about marriage until later.
The thing is you sound like one of those guys who psychologically feels he has to have a female maybe so others will see him as masculine and maybe your crushing on females is scaring them off. Guys who get a reputation for trying to hard to get girlfriends quite often are seen as desperates and few girls want to be seen going out with that sort of guy. It sounds to me as you may even be making a bit of a nuisance with the females and that really puts them off. Perhaps you are too clingy or perhaps you scare them as you get jealous very easy. Some guys get quite creepy with their jealousy and clinginess so I hope you aren't one of them.
For now don't be so desperate to have a girlfriend and spend more times with the guys. Many guys as the girls are getting harder to seduce into bed are even relaxing and getting an occasional cuddle or bl0w j0b from a bi or gay guy to satisfy their sexual needs and it does not turn them gay and it is a lot more common than you think these days. Many bi/gay guys are happy to give you a nice nude massage and bl0w you at the end without you having to do anything to them. Gay saunas are great places to relax and find a guy to do these things to you and you will come away sexually satisfied. Gay saunas are excellent places and you can relax in the spa or steam room or have a game of pool with the guys and tell them you are straight and am looking for a nice guy to give you a bit of sexual pleasure and there would be guys who would be happy to oblige. The sex takes place in private rooms or cubicles so it is not like a gay orgy. You hang out with the guys until you find the guy you are happy with to make you feel good then go off and have your relaxing fun and sexual relief. There is no pressure for you to do anal or to even bl0w the guy and yes gay guys are real nice decent guys. These are safe and relaxing places, and I took a straight friend to one once and he actually enjoyed it hanging out only wearing a towel and enjoying the facilities. No one is forced to have sex and you may get guys ask but there is no pressure to go to the private cubicles with a guy for sex. It is all very civilized and decent and likely nothing like what straight guys think which is likely they believe it is a wild orgy in there. These places are very discrete and no will ever know you have been there.
You can admire a female's beauty but do not make a nuisance with them. There will come a day when you feel you have met a female that also likes you and it will all happen for you. I have seen some very ugly guys get a nice female eventually so if they can do it you just have to be patient and it will happen for you as well. Don't worry about it as you are a straight guy and all straight guys do end up marrying females so yes your turn will come when the time is right. Nothing can turn you gay but the fact is straight guys find a nice nude massage and a bl0w j0b from a guy can feel very nice and very sexually satisfying when you can't get a female to do you, and it is a fact guys give way better head than females do.

You can have friends of any sex, the best partners are people who have been your friend but have kicked the relationship up to the next level. If you are straight you'll probably always have crushes on women