So, you have a huge crush on that girl that you see everyday passing by you in the hallway. She has a crush on someone, but not you. How do you win her over? Read this article to find out how!

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Steps

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Find out what she likes so much about the guy she has a crush on. Does she like how sporty he is? Does she like how he's so outgoing, or does she like how he's so sweetly shy? Does she love how he's compassionate to others? Don't change who you are, but try being a little bit like the guy that she currently likes. Don't try to be exactly like them, just be a bit like her crush.

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Become her friend. Start a conversation with her on a topic that she is interested in. Spark her interest and keep her interest. Be interesting and fun because that's usually the type of personality girl's are drawn to.

3

Smile. Experiment with different smiles and watch her reaction to different smiles. Try half smiling without smirking, smiling with a closed mouth, and smiling with your teeth. When you find a smile that she seems to like, use it the most often around her. Don't smile at her the same way you might with others. Give her a smile that you only will give to her and nobody else. Over time, she might notice how you smile at her in a special way and take the hint that you like her.

4

Compliment her. Start by saying something like, "I think that it's really nice that you volunteered at the food bank/helped that girl that you barely know study for a test/stood up for that girl who was being bullied etc." Take notice of her accomplishments and congratulate her.

The next step is to say something like, "You know, it's really fun to be around you!" or "Wow, that joke was hilarious! How did your jokes get so funny?" or "I wish that I could run that fast." and so on. Overlook any of her flaws that she might have unless the flaws are serious (such as her being excessively violent or being addicted to drugs). Overlooking bad things about her and concentrating on her qualities can really help you come up with personality compliments.

When you think it's the right time, and you think you are brave enough to give her a hint that you like her, compliment her on her looks a bit. Start by saying something like, "Hey, I really like your new shoes." or "Awesome new shoes. Where did you get them?" Work your way up and eventually compliment on her hair ("I like that way you did your hair today. It's really nice"), her clothes ("That's a really cool T-shirt. It's seriously awesome"), and her makeup ("Have you ever done your makeup like that before? It really looks good").

5

Give her your number or ask for her number. Don't make it seem like you're doing this because you want to date, just make it seem like you are doing this as a friend. For example, don't say something like, "Hi, <insert crush's name here> here's my number. Call me sometime." Instead asking for her number like that, try saying something like, "Hi , <insert girl's name here> Do you mind if I give you my number? I think it would be nice if we could talk over the phone to each other instead of being able to talk at school only"

Another example: "Hi, <insert girl's name here>, I was wondering if you could give me your number because I think that it would be awesome to be able to talk to each other more than just at school." If she asks if you are giving your phone number to her/asking for her phone number so that you two can go on a date, say no. You shouldn't ask her out yet. It's better to become better friends with her first and to ask her out formally.

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Invite her over. Again, make sure that she doesn't think that you are inviting her over for a date, because you still need to become better friends. Besides, it's a good idea to show your parents who your possible future girlfriend is before you actually start dating to see if they are okay with you dating her. When she comes over, at first get her to come over on the weekend at around 1:00pm and have her leave before supper, at around maybe 5:00pm.

Each time she comes over, lengthen the time she stays by about 30 minutes until she is staying over until 7:00pm or 7:30pm. Make sure that when she ends up staying over for supper that it is a meal that she likes. Ask her ahead of time about allergies and what she likes and doesn't like to eat. If you want to, put a tablecloth over that table that is her favourite colour (for example, if she likes the colour blue, put a blue tablecloth over the table).

When she comes over, be open-minded and don't criticize any ideas or activity preferences that she might have. Do some things that you both like, let her introduce you to activities that she likes, and introduce her to some of your favourite activities. When she leaves say, "Thanks for coming over, I hope you'll come over again soon."

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If she's reacted well to the steps above, try to get her to break the touch barrier. Try to avoid breaking the touch barrier yourself because sometimes girls feel threatened or uncomfortable if you break the touch barrier yourself. Make sure to Try If she doesn't take the hint, you may have to break the touch barrier yourself. To do this, try helping her, put her jacket/ sweater/ coat on (see related wikiHows Touch a Girl).

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Ask her out. On the day that you decide to ask her out, wash up really well, and wear really nice clothes (not formal clothes, but clothes that she has seemed to like in the past).

Start by complimenting her (see step 4). Compliment her on both her personality and her appearance, making sure to have the right timing (for example, after you make her laugh, you could say, "Wow, you have a nice smile and laugh.") If you think that she will react by saying, "Thanks, but why are you bringing this up now?" then it is best to immediately continue and not give her a chance to respond. If she does respond like this, then cut to the chase and ask her to go to the movies sometimes or something like that. If she doesn't get the chance to say something like that, or just says "Thanks" or something similar to that, say "Hey, can I ask you something?" Then take a deep breath and say, "I was wondering if you wanted to go to the movies or something sometime."

If she rejects you, don't break down and cry, just shrug and say, "That's okay, let's just stay as friends then" and just leave it at that and then smile, say goodbye and walk away, or if she was at your house when you asked her or vice-versa, just do what you would normally do with her when she's over or vice-versa. If she accepts, congrats!

When you want to plan a date, call her and arrange where you want to go, what you want to do, and whether both of you will pay for it, or only one of you will(unless you happened to just invite them over to watch a movie or something like that.

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