Are You a Perfect Mother?

Written by Christy Whitman December 30, 2012

Ha! Trick question! There is no such thing as a “perfect” anything, especially a “perfect” mother. If you are trying to be that “perfect” mother, you are setting yourself up for failure. This is an excuse to beat yourself up because you did not measure up to your own expectations of yourself.

My first book is called Perfect Pictures, and when we have these “perfect pictures” of what we need to be like as a mother or even a father, we will never achieve that level of expectation, so we will fall short and then feel badly about ourselves.

We need to focus on doing our best, not being perfect. There is no such thing as perfect.

No matter how great you are as a parent, you have to know that your child will have some wounds.

We were born as pure essence and at some point we will have a wound. This is how we differentiate ourselves from our parents. And this wound is what gives us a sense of our self and even becomes our purpose or mission in life.

Childhood wounds can be very devastating to very minor, but no one leaves childhood without a wound.

Yes, we can do our best to be as loving as we can be. We can give our children empowering messages like in the Enlightened Kid Program. We can encourage and support them. We can give them all they need and even beyond. But we can’t give them a “perfect” parent or a “perfect” childhood. That does not exist.

We do our best.

We work on ourselves so that the most loving and connected part of us shows up as a parent.

We forgive ourselves when we have those frustrated or impatient moments.