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Thursday, October 11, 2012

For Anonymous- Redux

We are mature enough to realize that not everyone will agree with our view for our relationship. We accept other people and their ideology, and respect their right to differ and to have their own truths. We are open to respectful discourse on the subjects we post here. We leave our blog open to anonymous comments because many newcomers to this community do not have blogs yet, or do not wish to have blogs, but wish to converse with other members of the community to share support. We will not disable comments from anonymous posters for this reason. They generally have the courage to identify themselves with a signature.

Anonymous, you have chosen to come and not simply share your views or concerns, but to try to convert, to push your agenda, to call my man an abuser, and to call me a sick, weak, mentally deficient woman (the view with which you attempted to blanket the whole of this community). If you come here to learn a different point of view, not that you have to embrace it, but just that you wish to understand it, you are welcome. If you continue to leave the kind of comments you left and continue to leave on the Unfair Spankings post, your comments will be removed (the last two comments were in fact removed, not by 'the MAN', but by myself.). And again, I have to wonder if you find this lifestyle so repugnant, why have you come (it surely was not accidental), and why do you stay? Believe me when I tell you that none of the women here need to be 'saved'. I am happier in my life with Ward than in all my cumulative years on earth, and no, that is not the effects of Stockholm Syndrome.

We are open to all manner of discussion here, and we welcome respectfully dissenting views. If you can respect those rules, we are happy to welcome you. If you cannot, well the ladies in this community are aware of what you need, and your commentary will not be entertained. I acknowledge that you have no desire to learn or understand, but in the spirit of the kind of woman I choose to be, one of the women of this great, warm community, I offer you the opportunity to educate yourself. Clint has an excellent discussion on Spanking vs. Abuse: Clearing Up Misconceptions, and Old Fashioned Marriage has an outstanding post on what our submission brings to our marriages, Surrendering Your Bunch of Keys. Additionally our Favorite Posts From Other Blogs page has many exemplary posts that illustrate the richness of our lives.

If you choose to accept the conditions for participation here, welcome. If you choose not to, we wish you well, but do not return.

HIS POV:
I think June has already done a terrific job of accurately assessing this situation. I have thought long and hard about what I wanted to say here, and I will admit at first I was very angry, but now, now I'd just like to say that I feel sorry for you Anonymous. It's very clear that you came here spewing hate and judgement all over something that you don't and cannot understand.

June is the apple of my eye and I'm sure every HoH will tell you the same about his woman. I'm also inclined to inform you that when you attack her you'd better be ready to be held accountable. My June and her honor are two things that I will staunchly defend against ignorant, hateful bigots like you.

I must also say that this is a place designed, and built upon the ideas of unconditional love first, and true devotion and eternal companionship. So before you go spouting off about things you know nothing about, first and foremost understand that by attacking us, you've also insulted our brothers and sisters and that dog won't hunt.

I wish you well Anonymous, hope you are leading a blessed life and that you are loved and well. It is my fondest wish for you to understand that you can't make me angry anymore, you'll only find pity here and your venomous words will only be deleted. Live well, and be blessed, but be assured you have no voice here. Oh and once again have a nice day.

To our readers, I apologize if I come off a bit brusque, but I won't let ignorance flourish here. We promise the next post will be of a bit more even tone!

Thanks, that's what Daddy was saying last night, Minelle. It would be difficult to get here by accident & if you were discomfited you'd beat a hasty retreat. But to stay around for so long, would seem to indicate an out of the ordinary interest.

Amen June and much more graciously put than what I would have said. I really think a lot of these trolls either actually want a spanking and can't admit it, even to themselves, or they are jealous of the beautiful relationships they are reading about so they try to attack everyone else. I can see getting to a lot of our sites by accident, looking around a bit, and then getting the heck out of Dodge if they really weren't interested, but to stick around and leave rude comments - nah not buying it.

Trolls - Anon or not - either stick around with your mouths shut and learn something or begone!

You're always very kind, Cat. I think you're right on both counts, I think there is a measure of envy at our relationships, and I think there must be an out of the ordinary interest, but perhaps they are still fighting against social mores that say they should not like spankings. I've ended up places by accident, and yes, I did get out of Dodge when I was uncomfortable.

Well-stated, June. I must have missed these comments, but so sorry to hear you had to deal with that (((hugs)))). I had a troller once and it was not at all fun. I agree with what Minelle said...you don't just stumble upon a blog like this, you have to know a little bit about the lifestyle and have a certain degree of interest to Google it in the first place.

Thanks very much, Riley, and (((hugs))) back. I take it kind of with a grain of salt till they start casting aspersions and speaking of my man and my friends with disrespect. I am willing to discuss anything with anyone, with the understanding that we may never agree, but we can at least come to an understanding of each other, and be tolerant of our diversity. I guess that's not possible for everyone.

Hi June :)You said it very well. Think no more on these people and curl up in Ward's arms, where nothing dare bother you. You are people here who care about you and yes......honey...we are well aware what this poor soul really needs. :)Hugs

Thanks so much, Lillie. I say it often and I mean it, you guys are my family by choice, and I am grateful that it's reciprocal. Yes, no better place in the world to be, and I'm heading there in just a moment. Lol, you're the first one I think to pick up on that ;)(((Hugs)))

Thanks very much, SNP. One thing I try to do is always remember that I am myself and I am better than spewing vitriol, and that I represent both Ward and this fine community of people who are open, accepting, honorable and supportive.

Thanks Blue Bird. The thing that makes me saddest is that in the year 2012 there is still this kind of prejudice and closed-mindedness. And kind of funny you'd think that'd come more from us, being more traditional, lol.

Unfortunately I think we will always have to deal with this in one or another but it's nice that we have each other to support. I am sorry that this happened but you respondend well and we all have your back.

Thank you for your kind words, dancingbarez, sadly, I fear you're right. And while it is wearying, it refreshes my pride of and gratitude in being part of this beautiful community. We ARE the neighborhood where the members still say hello, check on each other, come and hold each other's hands when one is sad or lost, and not to gather gossip for the fodder mill, but out of genuine and concern. I am honored to be part and to know each of you, and I have your backs, too :)

Thank you, Roz. I hope so,, too. I wonder why people are so threatened by difference. We seek not to preach but to live quietly in our little corner and gain insight, understanding and to borrow Stormy's phrase - domestic harmony. It would be Mindanao funny though, if we went door to door with literarure..."Have you heard about DD?" :-p