If a notorious Kansas-based church follows through on its vow to picket the funerals of victims of the shooting rampage in Tucson, the picketers probably will find that Arizona isn’t as accommodating as they’d hoped.

The parents of a man charged with trying to assassinate Rep. Gabrielle Giffords are devastated and guilt-ridden, a neighbor said, mourning their own tragedy as Tucson residents prepared Tuesday for a community memorial service and a visit from the president.

Arizona House Speaker Kirk Adams says he hopes the Tucson shooting helps motivate state lawmakers to be civil with each other, respecting the need to disagree respectfully when at odds on major issues.

Wearing a beige prison jumpsuit and handcuffs and sporting a pink gash on the hairline of his shaved head, Loughner on Monday afternoon spoke just a brief reply when the judge asked if he understood that he could get life in prison — or the death penalty — for killing federal Judge John Roll.