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Thinking about polygamy in Islam

When browsing on polygamy, I found this interesting ebook. This ebook was downloaded from http://dear.to/abusalma. it is in indonesian, for importance of dakwah, I will translate the good part of it in english. Here, I will show you the part that I like. Here we go..

If there was the one disapproved of polygamy, then that person would hurt Islam’s law, even hurt the creator of it, Allah azza wa Jalla the creator of universe, of His creatures in pairs, who revealed polygamy syariat for His servants and He is full knowledge of the good for His creations. Nevertheless His creations doesn’t have any, rather it is very little not larger than a drop of water in ocean. But much of humans are conceited and rebellious, they prefer their intellect to praising Allah and His syariat, what they think is bad then they deem it is wrong, whereas it was often happened that what they thought it was bad, apparently it was good on Allah’s side, and what they thought it was good, apparently it was bad on Allah’s side, and Allah is much more knowledgeable than them.

“The jews said when they saw Rasulullah married a woman: Look at that man who is never full of eating, and in the name of Allah, he don’t have desire except for women.” [Thobaqot al-Kubra karya Ibnu Sa’ad, juz VIII hal. 233, through mediator Hamdi Syafiq, Zaujaat Laa Asyiiqoot at-Ta’addudi asy-Syar’i Dhorurotul Ashri]. Actually, when the jews said that, they lower their prophets. It is not shocking because of what lies on their holy book.

Polygamy is common among the prophets before Muhammad may peace be upon him. We can take example of Ibrahim (Abraham) ‘alaihi Salam, he had some wives, such as Sarah (Sara) that gave birth to Ishaq (Isaac) –ancestor of Israeli tribe— and Hajar (Hagar) that gave birth to Ismail (Ishmael) –Ancestor of Arabian tribe. Ya’qub (Jacob) ‘alaihi Salam was told that he had two wives –they were sisters—from his mothers relative. Prophet Daud was a prophet who worshiped Allah most often, moreover he was the prophet who did fasting the most, and he did polygamy also. Many other prophets did polygamy as well as many other people.

DR. Muhamad Fu’ad al-Hasyimi, former christian who had been a moslem, in his book stated that, “the Church as having recognized polygamy up to the 17th century. None of the four gospels is known to have explicitly barred polygamy. It so happened that some European peoples, dictated only by non‑polygamy pagan traditions, barred the practice of keeping more than one wife. When that anti‑polygamy minority converted to Christianity, it clamped the traditional polygamy ban down on the rest of Christians. As time passed by, Christianity was increasingly, falsely though, believed to have essentially barred polygamy. It is only an old tradition clamped by some down on the others throughout ages.”

We are Rasulullah’s followers, and just allowed to marry up to four women with some conditions. On the other hand, Rasulullah Shallallahu ’alaihi wa Salam had 9 wives, this was an exception for him because he was different than any other man, on the top of that he was ma’sum (be taken care of from sin).

We are human as week as others, we obey the rule whom they make. Why don’t we obey Allah’s law that’s far more higher, more perfect, more comprehensive, more complete than human’s law?? Where’s our head at?? When we discredited Allah’s law and credited human’s law. Where’s our head at?? When we insulted polygamy that Allah made, but at the other hand we accepted kuffars society with liberal free life that disgrece humans basic right especially women..

On IRF report, it was reported that in United States, the amounts of women were 7,8 million more than men. In New York itself, women were 1 million more than women. In England, women were 4 million more than men, in addition in German, women were 5 million more and Rusisia 9million more.

If there was no polygamy, there would always be affair, and adultery. Annie Besant, a theology specialist whose name is commonplace among feminism, and liberalist, said that:

“You Can Find others stating that religion (Islam) is evil, because it sanctions a limited poligamy. But you don’t hear as a rule the criticism which I spoke out one day in a london hall where I knew that the audience was entirely uninstructed. I pointed out to them that monogamy with a blended mass of prostitution was hypocrisy and more degrading than a limited poligamy. Naturally a statement like that gives offence, but it has to be made, because it must be remembered that the law of Islam in relation to women was untill lately, when parts of it has been imitated in England, the most just law as far as women are concerned, to be found in the world. Dealing with property, dealing with rights of succession and so on, dealing with cases of divorce, it was far beyond the law of the West, in the respect that was paid to the rights of women. Those things are forgotten while people are hypnotized by the words monogamy and poligamy and do not look at what lies behind it in the West – the frightful degradation of women who are thrown into the streets when their first potectors, weary of them, no longer give them any assistance… I often think that woman is more free in Islam than in Christianity. Woman is more protected by Islam than by the faith which preaches monogamy. In the Qur’an the law about woman is more and liberal. It is only in the last twenty years that christian England, has recognised the rigt of a woman to property, while Islam has allowed this rigth from all times…”

Many polygmy oppositions stated An-Nisaa:129 to support their principle. That people will never ever be able to act justly, that people hsouldn’t do polygamy.

“ Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire: But turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air). If ye come to a friendly understanding, and practise self-restraint, Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.” (An-Nisaa: 129)

What it means by “you are never able to be fair and just as between women” in that verse is love feeling, heart tendency, and making love. But zhahir matters such as dwelling, living fee, and time at night, they are must for a man who have polygamous marriage in order to be fair. Furthermore, Imam Nawawi in his Syariah Muslim book explained that, “he (Muhammad Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam loved ’Aisyah more than the other wives. Then the moslems consent that treating every wives the same love is impossible with the exception in Allah’s permission.

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“On IRF report, it was reported that in United States, the amounts of women were 7,8 million more than men. In New York itself, women were 1 million more than women. In England, women were 4 million more than men, in addition in German, women were 5 million more and Rusisia 9million more.”

Yeah. But those are OLD women. Like 70+ years old, because women live longer than men. In the 20-40 age group the ratio of man:woman is close to 1:1.