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Why Won't my Husband Get a Job!?

He's been off of work for two months now! I left him already and he talked me into coming back saying he'll get a job! He's laying on the couch sleeping right now!! He always says " I don't feel good".. I'm SO sick of this. His daughter's 13th b-day is next week and we can't even throw her a party. It's not like if I get a job he's going to take care of the kids and clean house.. All he does is lay around.. Why won't my husband get a damn job!??

Because you haven't really set your foot down. You need to committ to a timeframe. A month and still no job then you are gone for good. Just like with a child you must be consistent or they will walk all over you. GL!

Have you asked him why he's not trying to get a job (and let him know in no uncertain terms you are aware he is not really trying at all). If he complains of not feeling well, call and make him a dr appointment and drag his butt there, bet he'll change his story when they find out nothing is wrong with him (or if there is something wrong then at least they will find it!) Sleeping a lot can be sign of depression, so have him be evaluated for that too. If after all this, he refuses to get a job, you kick his butt out (unless the house is all in his name!) and you get yourself a job. If he sees your are serious he will make his decision soon.