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Tuesday, 9 June 2015

#ItStopsWithMe

This morning I felt
pretty pissed off. I had read an article, posted by a friend, on how men have
their own websites which advertise a “Philosophy of Rape”. Yes, advertise rape. According to these men,
rape is “corrective”. They started with a comment “Rape
did serve important, healthy, and natural biological purposes historically in
limiting the extent to which female bad behavior can go.”

WHAT???
Is this something that MEN will believe??? Oh yes, I am pretty pissed off. Absolutely pissed off!

Female
behaviour is not bad! Rape by men IS.

Females
are not sluts. Rape by men does NOT “correct
the slut problem”.

Females
are not “harlots and feminazis”. Rape
by men will NEVER “correct” women.

Females
never “want to be raped”. Men, ONLY
men, will ever think this crap!

And keep reading!!
There are so many websites which break the myths, which should be followed not
just by women but also by men. No man
who reads this would ever disbelieve, would never join the idiotic “battle” by
men against women, would rape any women because they are told that it’s okay!

But is it ever considered okay? So many women simply don’t report their
rape. According to the Australian Government Institute of Family Studies http://www3.aifs.gov.au/acssa/statistics.htmlInternational Violence Against Women Survey in 2004,

“Only 1 in 7 women (14%) who
experienced violence from an intimate partner, and just over 1 in 6 women who
experienced violence from someone else (non-partner), indicated that they had
reported the most recent incident to police (16%)”

but

“almost half of the
women indicated that their reason for not reporting was because they preferred
to deal with it themselves, preferred to keep the matter private, or out of
shame or embarrassment.”

Shame or embarrassment? Were these women
convinced by men that their rape was “okay”?

It was 40 years ago since I was raped. I
did not ever report this to the police, not because I preferred to deal with it
myself, or because I preferred to keep it private. Yes, it was out of shame, because, way back then, I realised that it was
not my fault, never my fault, but I
could not report this to police if they didn’t believe me. Nowadays I don’t
accept that police will turn away a rape. I have seen the law changed, seen the
police support change, seen the feminist and women support change. So many
individuals and organisations now will support and help a victim who had been
raped.

And yet “Philosophy of Rape” tells men on
their website that they “will teach you how to make 100% sure that you
don’t get caught.”

Personally?I believe that these
men are absolute idiots who keep their infantile penises hidden inside their pants.
They don’t have or won’t have a wonderful woman who would be with them instead of under them. They
don’t accept love, they don’t accept awesome women, and they don’t accept an
excellent future.

Men, if you are reading this – DON’T RAPE. There is nothing more to say
to intelligent men. Those who are so stupid that this won’t go into their heads…
well, leave women alone. They are much, much more intelligent that you will
ever be.