Aibu - she gave it to my sister

I'm not sure I am prepared to be told I am being unreasonable. Anyway... today I gave my mum a lovely and expensive and designery jumper that has only been worn a few times. It isn't a xmas present. It is gorgeous and it was pricey but I just haven't been wearing it. I mean - I might wear it at some point but I thought I could make good use of it by giving it to mum.

So I gave it to my mum - specifying it was for her and her alone. If she didn't want it, I would have another use for it. Keep it for a special occasion maybe? I asked her if she wanted it and she said she would indeed love to have it. I laboured the point that it was for her etc.

She has given it to my sister.

I feel incredibly awkward about it. Not that I don't love my sis but it was for mum.

Aibu to specify who it goes to? I mean - once you give something to someone, does it become none of one's business? I wanted to gift it to my mum and my mum alone. Is that unreasonable? Fgs if she wan't that fussed she could have said. But she didn't. She accepted it. And I did labour the point.

I wonder why you felt you needed to labour the point it was just for HER(you mentioned several times in your post that you had)? Is it because she has done things like this before?

My mum very often gives presents away that I have given her - or worse, having forgotten, gives them back to me the following Christmas. But it makes me laugh, she means no harm by it, it's just one of the quirky things she does.

I find it really odd that you specified it was for your mum oy and repeated this to her more than once! Why? Why, if you dont want it and she doesnt want it, then why cant your sister make use of it instead of lying in a drawer?

Again, to those asking, I wanted to give something nice to my mum and this was just such an item. I didn't want to give it if she was only going to give it away - sis or no sis. As I said, I would have another use for it. It was for mum or I would hang on to it. I usually give things freely when I give things away but this jumper is special.

Erm yes! You dmum & dsis are both BU then because you had made your intentions clear by giving it to your mum and NOT giving it to dsis. Think your mum needs to be a bit more assertive with your dsis and say 'No'.

So its an unwanted item of clothing, its a hand me down you've passed on to your mum as you don't wear it, and while you don't have any issue with your sister, you're not happy she has the item of clothing you don't want anymore?

Maybe your mum liked the top but not as much as your sis, maybe she really liked it but daren't ask you for it since you were labouring the point in front of her that it was only for your mum!

Sorry, but i fond it v strange of you don't want something and give it away, then its gone and no longer yours, yet be unhappy as to what's happened to it since?

My mum, sister and I all swap clothes,,, once they leave teh house you've no idea who yuo will see wearing them! Do find itrodd to getrid of stuff when you admit you don't want them anymore but wish to control things that you don't want?

Sigh - are we all listening? It was something nice for my mum. I wanted my mum to have it. From my OP - I just haven't been wearing it. I mean - I might wear it at some point but I thought I could make good use of it by giving it to my mum.

Owlina - I don't think she will put it on eBay or anything like that.gertrude - I think the assertiveness thing is a good point.