gendered abuse I have received

Because I think many people do not truly appreciate the level of specifically gendered abuse women on the Internet are subjected to, simply for being women daring to say anything publicly, I’m going to start collecting mine here. Just starting from now; I do not have the energy or strength to go back and gather the older stuff. I expect this post to grow quickly. (Comments on posts may have been deleted by me. Tweets may have been deleted by their original posters.)

I never understand why men think calling a woman ugly or unfuckable is a negation of her intellect. But thanks to absolute human shitstains like this asshole for proving how utterly essential feminism continues to be.

Sabretruthtiger — gotta love how these guys always gotta shout about how much “truth” they are slinging — thinks a woman would be jealous of manufactured robot bodies! Or of phony CGI cuteness! As if any adult woman would want to look like an artificial waif! Poor, poor dude really does not understand a damn thing about women. Which shocks me not in the least.

posted January 7, 2019:

My slam of Aquaman has really upset the fanboys (and a few fangirls, if screen names are anything to go by, which they probably aren’t). I’ve had to close comments on that thread because it was turning into a cesspool. Lowlights:

(Not featured here is the non-gendered abuse my review has received. The fun never ends!)

posted May 21, 2018:

The misogynistic insults I’m getting in response to my review of Deadpool 2 are about as original as the movie itself. This one came by email (open the image in a new tab or window for a larger, more legible version):

I would suggest that this level of hatred and anger does nothing but prove my point that the show is ineffectual at telling the story it wants to tell. Clearly, it had no influence for the better on this asshole (whose IP address and email address have been noted, and may be passed to law enforcement).

I’m not sure what my vagina has to do with my review, or how a supposedly less dusty vagina would have changed my reaction to the film, but I do wonder if funkmasterrex *snort* will be suggesting to all the male critics who’re less than happy with the movie that they dust off their penises.

skwirll has no love in his life, except (presumably) from small arboreal rodents:

He also sounds like someone who probably needs to be reported to the authorities.

I think the username “Dicksrapeyouhard” may actually constitute an actionable threat. (The commenter’s IP address has been noted.) Though I’m much more offended at being called a neoliberal, a term that this person clearly does not know the definition of.

posted February 10, 2016:

I knew my review of Deadpool would bring out the He Man Woman Haters Club, and I have absolutely no patience to deal with them at the moment, so I’ve already closed comments on that review. But not before these charming gentlemen stopped by:

I don’t know what it means that the only coherent bits in this comment are the insults, but surely there is significance there:

And because abuse is always more fun when it comes from multiple directions at once, I woke up to this on Twitter this morning:

That’s sort of beautiful, in an ugly way. I presume “camurcu” believes that getting married to “a real man” would somehow get me off this wrongheaded feminist path I’m on and set me on the straight and narrow. I wonder if “camurcu” actually knows any women… or any men, for that matter.

You… you… you… [sputtering] lady, you! You girl! You female who bleeds! If only you didn’t spend so much time being so emotionally overwhelmed by tampon commercials, you would be able to think logically — like a man who doesn’t bleed — about this movie that I am calmly and rationally disagreeing with you about.

posted October 23, 2015:

This was posted in response to my review of Goosebumps. It’s nice to know that the YA demographic is itself capable of creative writing:

This is so creative, in fact, that I’m still trying to divine how thundercunt is intended to be an insult. Is the author suggesting that I am being a woman in too loud and unignorable a way, when I should be quiet and demure and keep my opinion to myself, like a proper lady? I’m not sure thundercunt works as an insult at all, though. It sounds like I’m being called a female force of nature, which is a good thing, as far as I’m concerned.

A clucking hen with fish gills sounds like a comic-book monster designed by a five-year-old.

posted August 22, 2015:

Woke up to this on Twitter this morning. Lovely start to the day:

Dude on Twitter (now blocked, of course) thinks feminism isn’t modern, and that “frustrated feminist” is an insult. (Of course feminists are frustrated! The world stubbornly insists on remaining unfeminist.) And since when is “young” supposed to hurt a woman? Aren’t we all commanded to remain forever young or face invisibility? Make up your mind, man!

posted August 05, 2015:

I just received this charming email. No indication what prompted it:

There is something very special about this cry of despair. I am confident in guessing that Jonathan is an especially privileged white man, based on his full name and place of work, as revealed by the work email he cleverly used to send this. And it’s clear from his howl that he is made very uncomfortable being asked to consider a perspective anything other than the especially-privileged-white-male one he is used to seeing in the media. And that he is completely unaware that everyone who isn’t an especially privileged white man has somehow managed to cope with this exact situation since forever.

I wonder if anyone has ever written to Roger Ebert or Mark Kermode to complain that, as straight white men, they were not relatable to anyone not standing in straight-white-man shoes.

I shouldn’t gloat, but it’s fun to see white men forced to confront the reality that theirs is not the default perspective on the world.

Douching is actually incredibly bad for one’s sensitive ladyparts; douches are products designed by the capitalist patriarchy to shame women for the natural functioning of their bodies and get us to spend money we could otherwise blow on feminazi uniforms and custom underarm-hair braiding. So I’m fairly confident in saying that there’s probably no such thing as a feminist douchebag.

And lest there be any mistaking the reality that women can be misogynist, we hear from a charming and supportive lady, in response to my review of How Do You Know:

I presume she got her husband’s permission before logging on to the Internet, reading anything that might infect her delicate and beautiful mind, and expressing an opinion in public.

Jennie’s husband must have been feeling particularly generous, because he also permitted her to comment on my review of Minions:

I know she didn’t mean to do so, but I thank Jennie for pointing out just how male-dominated even cartoon characters are! Tom & Jerry. Alvin and the Chipmunks. When will it all end?

I really don’t understand how highlighting the gender disparity onscreen makes me a whore. I really don’t understand how I’m part of the problem. (At least this guy recognizes that there is a problem.) And I really don’t understand how statistical analysis based on what’s up on the screen demonstrates that I’m dumb.

But then, I’m just an irrational girl who emotionally overreacts to everything. Unlike randy savage, who is calm and reasonable and has facts to back up his position.

Shrill is one of those words intended to shame women into shutting up, lest a man perceive us to be unpleasant oh noes! What would we do without the good opinion of all men everywhere all the time?

Ain’t gonna happen, dude. Your discomfort is the point.

As for bra-burning: Only a man would suggest something like this. You guys have no freakin’ idea how much the damn things cost. Burn one? Might as well just light a wad of cash on fire.

(FYI, the Spring review and my post examining its ending are doing a wonderful job at the moment of freaking dudes out over the idea that a man is not automatically deserving of an amazing girlfriend just because he’s a dude. It’s almost like these guys hate me pointing out how male ego-stroking isn’t a ton of fun to watch.)

posted May 17, 2015:

Posted to comments following my Where Are the Women? ranking for 2015 films, though this was in response to a comment by reader amanohyo:

As yet, “Kieser Sozay” has been unable to explain how complaining about a certain depiction of women being murdered is equivalent to hating men. Perhaps it’s unfairly denying the liberty of men who wish to murder women?

posted April 08, 2015:

In response to my review of The Voices, from someone who apparently believes he has verbally raped me: