ED or Mental Block?

I am writing you to ask some questions about a problem i am encountering. I am in my early twenties and facing some sexual issues. Here is the issue: When i am about to start having intercourse with my lady, i loose the erection. Even while getting oral sex, i sometimes go soft, but mostly have no problems with that. I can get a normal erection, but as soon as i try to enter and start having intercourse, i lose it. In my previous relationship, i remember having this issue only at the beginning but really can not remember having it afterward. As i said, i am in my early twenties which makes me doubt i have ED and makes e believe i have a mental block. I think about this issue a lot as it bothers me. Also, while "playing around" with the lady, it is constantly in my mind and that probably causes me to loose it, too. Maybe anxiety of performance? In any event, i ordered Stamina RX pills, and i am hoping they will help me regain confidence so i can have normal sex life once again.Have any of you ever had this kind of experience and what does this look like to you?p.s. I get several erections a day and also don't lose them while masturbating.Thank you so much,Mister Eko

I have also read that "masturbating" too much while IDK ( this is only an assumption) watching Porn for some men, can go overboard. Can make a man lose his erection during/b4 intercourse. It's sub-conscious too. It's like an overkill of sex.

Could be a mind block, most certainlyCould be a control thing too...

Of course the best bet is to go see a Doctor about it, and try to be open about how it is you are getting off when alone. Unless you truly believe that is not a factor for you.

I would suggest going to your Doctor and getting things checked out. It could very well be that your are anxious or a host of emotional reasons. It could also be medical. High blood pressure, diabetes, low testosterone and other issues could be at play even in someone as young as you. Are you in shape? Eat well? Do you have any medical conditions? Do you take any medications?

I would also hold off on taking any "stamina" pills you ordered until you check with a doctor. Sometimes those things are not that good for you and can cause more problems than they solve.

Friends, Thank you for your responses. I am healthy, as a matter in fact, i am a college athlete. My eating habits, while not perfect, are pretty decent, i would say. I believe there might be something in what you guys mentioned: Between my last relationship and current one, there was a several month gap which i (as many guys would) fulfilled with porn. Once i got into relationship, is it possible that the fact that i was watching porn might have influenced my performance? After that, anxiety appeared and everything went downhill. The reason i am asking you guys and not doctor is simple: I am not from the US, but i have been living here and playing ball for two years now. My health insurance is mainly for athletic purposes, and if anything not-sport related happens, i would need to go through many athletic trainers before seeing actual doctor. This is highly inconvenient, concerning the type of issue i am dealing with...

There have been a few times where sex was available, but for some reason, Mr. Happy was not with the program. Maybe it was stress or just being tired ... who knows. I chose to take that time to totally focus on wowing the partner ... that does NOT always take intercourse. This is where many guys blow it. If they can't have intercourse, they get all pouty and stupid ... and blow what could be an awesome event for their partner then ... and pretty well screw things up for the future.

Take control of the situation and make it all about her. Tell her she can't touch you. Make her explode several times until she falls over exhausted ... without intercourse. There are NUMEROUS wasys to accomplish this.

Pretty much without fail, the next time you and Mr. Happy are on the same page, she'll be most willing to let you saddle up.

Guys, thanks for the answers.Candi Man, my girlfriend is i would say, pretty understanding of the condition. Shed does put unintentional pressure on me when she says that she "needs it" or "wants it bad."As PrjMgr suggested, i do satisfy her in all ways available other than actual intercourse. She is satisfied then, yes, but i know there is no substitute for a real thing. I wonder how much time would i need to wait? As i said, i have no problem getting the erection, it is the moment i am supposed to enter that kills me.

Well, last night, i took two pills of Stamina RX just to see if it would work. No effect. No side effect either. Like id dint take it. So, confidence boost will not come from there, that's for sure. Keeping the break from everything going, though. Oh man, i never thought i'd deal with this at this age...

I'm unfortunately having the same problem recently. I was with a woman yesterday and for the life of me couldn't keep my erection when it was time for penetration. I took a rest three or four times and we did a bit of foreplay and so forth and eventually the happy chap appeared... only to disappear again. I'm thinking this is an anxiety issue, or the "observer" syndrome. I have rock hard erections during the night and day when alone, and can jerk off easily and satisfactorily. It's a very frustrating situation.

I've had that happen from anxiety. I have a hard time "shutting my brain down". So I've been in situations where I could not stop "thinking". Too many thoughts going through my head and the other head doesn't respond well.

Obviously, if you have no problem when you are "with yourself", then You are mind f'ing yourself.