Hello very big surprise here was on the pill and not wanting to try for a few years yet or at least until after wedding next sept! Still dont think I have really got my head around the fact I'm having a baby!

Dream: I feel the same. Guilty because I'm not as happy as I feel like I should be, because this was such a surprise and totally unplanned. But I feel like I need time to be sad about, to process it, to just flat out wrap my head around it! Before I can move on and be excited, ya know? I do love this little person, I would be devastated if I lost it, but I'm just not thrilled like I was with my first. Not yet.

I've been looking at old bump pics and poas'ing every morning and that is helping. Seeing the line darken and remembering the good things about pregnancy, that helps keep my spirits up.

Hi Kristy87, yep pregnant on the pill too (Cerazette) !!!! So shocked and I will never doubt those women again who swear they took it each day and got pregnant (it always seemed so doubtful and unbelievable before now) - because that is now me !!!!

Katerdid - I feel I am going through an acceptance process too and the more I think about how I felt when I met Max, the more excited I get. He is such a sociable child too and is always loving towards other children and babies. It must be fate.

This is a defo surprise baby havent even finished Maternity so Im worried if I will even have a job to go back to we defo wanted one more in 2-3 years time (already have 3 kids) 10, 3 & 5 months and 10 weeks pregnant. Altho I dont know exactly how far along I am im thinking 10 weeks tomorrow scan on 24th Dec but should you be picking up on doppler heartbeat 1 cm from pubic bone I was never finding it before as thought was lower down? Certainly got a heartbeat tho 140-150 BPM I have mixed emotions Im happy but I wouldnt say excited yet feel guilty about that but guess its cos this wasnt planned and its turned everything upside down oh and plus cos my babys teething lol. This is a great idea

Oh and 12 months or less age gap depending on when this one will come!!! my SS is July 27th, this one due 10th july, My daughter 20th July and 3 year old son august 28th xx

Wantingagirl - I picked up my sons heartbeat on a doppler from 8 weeks. I aimed the doppler over the top of my pubic bone and angled towards the 'lady garden' sorry couldn't think of a better word! He used to wriggle a bit, but relatively easy to find most of the time !!

armywife2011 - What were you studying??

77Tulips - I couldn't tell any students yet, they just wouldn't stop asking questions and being nosy - bless them. They are mostly good, but very lively teenagers.

With regards to the doppler I mean that I found it yesterday 1cm above pubic bone and straight didnt have to angle down. I thought it doesnt pop out of pelvis until 12 weeks?

Good news work phoned me back and they are doing the transfer even tho Im pregnant and happy to try and work with my hours even though I will only be back for 3 or 4 months!

Im a little more excited now but is it normal to not feel over the moon about this yet. I hope in more time I will get super excited I think im just worried cos I will have 4 kids soon and then I feel guilty cos Im the same I love it and never want anything to happen to it but I dont feel attached yet completely I guess cos it wasnt planned

With regards to the doppler I mean that I found it yesterday 1cm above pubic bone and straight didnt have to angle down. I thought it doesnt pop out of pelvis until 12 weeks?

Good news work phoned me back and they are doing the transfer even tho Im pregnant and happy to try and work with my hours even though I will only be back for 3 or 4 months!

Im a little more excited now but is it normal to not feel over the moon about this yet. I hope in more time I will get super excited I think im just worried cos I will have 4 kids soon and then I feel guilty cos Im the same I love it and never want anything to happen to it but I dont feel attached yet completely I guess cos it wasnt planned

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I know what you mean about the whole attachment thing. I am getting ore excited by the day, with every twinge! I think it's normal to be confused about your feelings, I am because it's not what I had planned and I feel that the element of planning and preparing has been taken away from me. I also feel somehow less prepared for miscarriage because I was not prepared for baby. What I have found very useful is talking to it when I am alone. I have told it how much I normally love surprises and that I will look after it so well if it survives.

With regards to the doppler I mean that I found it yesterday 1cm above pubic bone and straight didnt have to angle down. I thought it doesnt pop out of pelvis until 12 weeks?

Im a little more excited now but is it normal to not feel over the moon about this yet. I hope in more time I will get super excited I think im just worried cos I will have 4 kids soon and then I feel guilty cos Im the same I love it and never want anything to happen to it but I dont feel attached yet completely I guess cos it wasnt planned

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I think it can pop out earlier the more kids you have as it doesn't contract down quite as small, I'm 12 weeks and mine is quite high above the pubic bone, I am having twins though.

I think it takes longer to get attached when it's a shock, you don't have that anticipation of getting pregnant (sort of the warming up phase). I am quite attached now but I do still have moments of resentment. It's coming into summer here and I had so many plans that I cannot do, I was going to take my oldest climbing and horseriding, we were going rugged camping and to theme parks. It sounds petty but we were done and in my head I'd moved on. I worked out yesterday that I will be at the boys primary school for 14 years continuously. I am excited and in my heart I had wanted one more but had accepted it wasn't going to happen. It is exciting that my youngest will have siblings close in age but I am horribly high risk and slightly terrified of how things could go wrong.

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