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Monday, 3 December 2012

JAIYE ON MY MIND

I sat in my
bedroom the whole of Sunday the 2nd of December feeling very funny
and low. After asking myself what the trigger was, I remembered that I always
get like that a day to the 3rd of December every year for the past 8
years.

I had the
opportunity and rare privilege of being the wife and partner of the most
wonderful, loving, industrious, God fearing and kind man. Life could not have
been better than that because I was living every woman’s dream.

The best of
everything was at my disposal whether I lifted a finger to work or not. We had
our ups and downs as usual but making up and resolving our issues, was magical.
I was blessed with the best husband and father and his name is JAIYE ABODERIN. He
was the love of my life and the one who did everything humanly possible to
protect his family. Even in the face of all sorts of problems, all sorts of
accusations, all sorts of misconceptions, he was one who understood the true
meaning of for better or worse.

Jaiye passed
away on the 3rd of December 2004 at a time our dreams and projects
were about to kick off. I was 26 with two lovely children and eight thousand
naira in my account. Let me not sound like a broken record because I have told
this story several times.

The one
thing I would like to say is that, his life taught me unconditional love and
his death taught me kindness. I am grateful that I had the opportunity to share
his air, his thoughts, dreams, hopes, love, friendship and much more.

I have since
discovered that if a marriage is not based on trust and friendship but most
importantly, the love of God, then I am sorry it will never stand the test of
time. I have been there and I know how things can fail right before your eyes
without those elements.

So, today I
celebrate a man of the people,

I celebrate a man who stood by his family
through thick and thin,

I celebrate
a man who touched and saved lives,

I celebrate a man who was a hero to all who
knew him,

I celebrate a man who was a father to all who
knew him,

I celebrate a man who loved unconditionally,

I celebrate a man who believed in sharing and
caring,

I celebrate a man who put a smile on people’s
faces,

I celebrate a man who was so full of life,

I celebrate a man who brought people together
and created friendships even in death,

I celebrate a man who was a bigger star in his
own right than most of us,

I celebrate
a man who celebrated people without holding back

and I
celebrate a man who will always be celebrated.

Rest in
peace OBIM, the girls will always remember you and pray for your soul to rest
in God’s arms. You will always be in my heart and the love I have for you will
never ever die.

It has been
eight years but it feels like only yesterday. Instead of crying I choose to
celebrate you.

To those of
you reading this, remember to give God glory for the life well spent no matter
how short. He was a very happy man who hated gloomy faces. As you remember him
please wear a smile and pray to God. He will love that very much.

God bless
you all, now and always.

A QUOTE I GOT FROM JAIYE: No matter how many times you fall, as long as you are alive,
you still have a chance to get up and try again.

Hmmm...that was the only thing I kept doin while I read this piece. And I must say you have really been strong, thank God for his grace and strength over your life. This loss is something that could have broken you down dramatically but instead you kept on being strong. You shall be there for your children till they grow up to take good care of their mother. You are my role model and God still has plans for you. May his soul rest in peace. He was a good man

Amazing! That's the only word I can use to describe this tribute Stella. You have continued to rise above all the storms and troubles. As you have held on to God all these years as your source of strength, my prayer is that he will never leave you nor forsake you. I bless God for how greatly Jaiye influenced your life and for the great kids God gave both of you. They will always bring joy to your heart. They are great kids and I can't wait for the world to see what they have turned out to become....angels.Stella, keep enjoying your newly found relationship with the Holy Spirit. God bless you.

Please Stella, permit me to use the quote from Jaye as my status on facebook. It means the world to me and will forever inspire my for life. Am sure he will be smilling to see that his quote continue to inspire not only you but others like me.Continue to rest in peace

He will forever rest in peace and for you Stella and the children ,no evil what so ever shall befall you, neither shall any plague come near your dwellings for the Lord will continue to be your light and salvation whom will you fear, he will continue to be the strength of your life of whom shall you be afraid ,even when the enemies will come to eat up your flesh they will continue to stumble and fall in the unprecedented and unbeatable name of Jesus Christ Amen.

I'm sure he is looking down on you and smiling, saying "Marrying her was not a mistake".Stella, u are a rear gem, a virtues woman and your children must be proud to have u as a mother. I'm so inspired each time i read from u and i'm sure, with u by his side, ur late husband lived his life to d fullest. May his soul continue to rest in d lord and may God continue to lead u on d right track and bless u to inspire others. U are one of my role model!

Dear Stella,he watches you and cant help smiling because you turned out exactly how he knew you would.strong,bold,taking life as a challenge and never giving up.Now guess who laughed at death?you! because you definately conquered with the help of God.best wishes

About Me

Stella Damasus is a multi talented Actress, Singer, Speaker and Producer. Having over 100 films under her belt, she has worked with some of the greatest entertainers in Africa. Stella who is also a mother has been an actor for over two decades and is the Founder of the Stella Damasus Arts Foundation, ADIVA and is the Co-Founder of Index Two Studios, i2Radio and Mon Afrik TV