The False SelfThere is a version you that you identify with as who you actually are, but it is a complete fiction. It doesn’t actually exist, except within your mind. This is the place of universal addiction, the self-referential, self-defending, self-promoting, self-defeating, self-condemning, endlessly relating-to-everything-from-yourself-as-the-reference-point story you started writing from the first moment you experienced your first flash…

This blog was written by Martin, a member of a Centre for Men-supported group in Melbourne, Victoria. His own reflection on one of the five promises of male initiation creates healthy space for discussion.When the tenth doctor dies in the Doctor Who TV series, his final words were simply, “I don’t want to go.” It seems absurd mentioning Doctor…

The following is by one of the men in our community, Neil Pennell. He wrote it in Spring 2017 and I thought it was so good it was worth reposting on our website as a blog. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. The photo is from his yard in the beautiful Fassifern district, the…

A few years ago my wife became friends with a beautiful couple from the Middle East. I will protect their identity here, but they arrived as asylum seekers on a boat having fled war in their own country. Australia offered them refuge and a future. They were deeply grateful and embraced so much that we take for granted….

A year. That’s all. If you are lucky, my neighbour was told recently. He is my ‘twin’ – born within hours of me. He’s been my neighbour for most of my adult life. Today he called me with the news, so we sat and chatted. Across from me is a friend I will no longer see, very soon….