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INTJs and seeking validation

This struck me as odd - my female INTJ coworker approached me the other day asking me why I never come to her asking for help (junior member on the team, only been here a few months). Adding to that, at times when she perceives me reacting negatively to something she says she says things like "you hate me", or "oh you didn't really want to talk to me did you?".

...Huh? I thought INTJs were essentially the last MBTI type to seek validation. What gives? The only thing I can think of is she interprets my lack of approach as an indication that she is not helpful. Perhaps she's trying to understand how she can improve?

Maybe she's not an INTJ, maybe the system is not perfect at describing entire individuals (shocker, right?), maybe what you said about improving, maybe everyone needs a little validation now and again, maybe she's just nervous because she's new, maybe she thinks she's doing something wrong because she's new, maybe she wants to get into your pants...

This struck me as odd - my female INTJ coworker approached me the other day asking me why I never come to her asking for help (junior member on the team, only been here a few months). Adding to that, at times when she perceives me reacting negatively to something she says she says things like "you hate me", or "oh you didn't really want to talk to me did you?".

...Huh? I thought INTJs were essentially the last MBTI type to seek validation. What gives? The only thing I can think of is she interprets my lack of approach as an indication that she is not helpful. Perhaps she's trying to understand how she can improve?

she's new and can't properly judge how well she's doing so she's looking for someone else to assess her. That's my guess from the information. Or maybe you hate her and didn't really want to talk to her and SHE CALLED YA ON YA BULLSHIT!