#PleaseDontLiveTweetOurWedding

The cool thing to do at weddings nowadays, (as The Frisky points out), is create a custom hashtag so your guests can collectively create a livestream of your big day via Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. (i.e #Brangelina, or, in my case, #NatashaandGreg).

The decision to include social media in your festivities has actually become pretty controversial: Some couples are totally down with their guests Instagramming the crap out of them, while others are banning smartphones entirely to keep their nuptials off the Interwebs (a la top-secret celebrity destination weddings).

On the one hand, I get the communal aspect of including social media to celebrate your marriage. But a bigger part of me thinks there's a case to be made for keeping your wedding off social media entirely.

First of all, I don't want to be that girl who clogs everyone's FB News Feed with a bajillion pics of her wedding for the entire month after she gets married. I'd rather take a cue from my best friend, who got married about eight months ago, and still hasn't changed her status from "In a Relationship" to "Married." She also isn't planning to put her wedding photos on Facebook. And I totally respect her for protecting her own privacy. After all, how many nights have she and I gawked over acquaintances' e-wedding albums, pouring over every detail from the décor to the bride's dress? I'm not so sure I'd want total randos to judge my wedding like we have theirs. (Yes, I realize this kind of makes me a hypocrite.)

Plus, once something's on Facebook, it can be downloaded, emailed, you name it—to people we would really rather not share those precious moments with. Namely, our exes. Yeah, I'm going to look smokin' hot on my wedding day and be the happiest chick ever to marry my guy. (And, yes, our exes are going to super sad that they totally missed out on getting to marry us.) I'd just feel uncomfortable if they, of all people, were privy to our special day.

So, my guy and I are going to stay true to the wedding we've intended: Intimate, special, and, therefore, social media-free. While we hope our friends take a ton of pics and share them with us (there are a ton of apps that will aggregate all of your guests' photos in one place), we'd prefer them to just enjoy the party without feeling like they have to blog about the thing on their phones the whole time. We're not going to outright ban our guests from posting about us on Instagram, Twitter, et al, but most of our friends aren't super social media crazy and know that we aren't either.

And you definitely won't see any custom hashtag signs on our welcome table. Except maybe #PleaseDontLiveTweetOurWedding.