We all crave that hot,steamy,sultry sex we see in the movies and I can guarantee that not everyone knows how to master it. With some pointers from Cosmo magazine this here guide should get you the sex you've been dreaming of this summer!

HOT HINT 1: Dress for the Weather

To light up your guy’s libido, treat him to his very own wet tee shirt fantasy. Put on a tissue-thin white tee or tank top and “accidentally” get wet (say, by getting sprayed by the garden hose) so that it clings alluringly to your body. Wearing a damp top will not only cool you off, it’ll also drive him loco. “Men respond strongly to visual cues,” says Resnick. “Being partially clothed creates a bit of mystery that guys find very erotic. And the sight of you in a see through top that hugs your womanly curves and showcases your breasts will really turn him on.”

HOT HINT 2: Turn Off the AC BO phobes take note: Perspiration can have an invigorating effect on your sex life. “When you sweat, mate-attracting pheromones are excreted by scent glands in your skin,” says psychiatrist Alan Hirsch, director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago. “Neither of you will consciously notice the pheromones, but they register in the part of your brain that controls sexual urges and triggers desire.”

Sweating also augments your own natural scent. “When you’re in love or even just in lust with somebody, there’s nothing more enticing than their smell, and the heat really amps it up,” says sexologist Lisa Douglass, coauthor of The Sex You Want.

To tap into sweat’s seductive powers, let your bedroom’s temp get tropical, then send your man into a foreplay frenzy by massaging his body with your own. “While the sight of your flushed naked body will arouse him, men generally need firmer manhandling to become really turned on and have their pleasure pushed to the next level,”HOT HINT 3: Work the Slow Burn“In the heat, your breathing and movements naturally slow down,” says Resnick. “You can make the most of this effect by taking your sweet time during foreplay and intercourse.”

To kick-start your slo-mo lovemaking, present your man with a hot challenge: Make a bet that you can hold out on pouncing longer than he can. Then torment him with nerve-tingling kisses all over his neck and torso; stroke him softly where his thigh meets his groin; trail your hair and lips down his back to fire up his sensual anticipation. Then it’s his turn to tempt you. “Keep alternating — slowly escalating the level of contact—until you can’t stand it for another second,” says Resnick. “When you build arousal slowly to a fever pitch, your orgasm will be a powerful release.”

HOT HINT 4: Hit the FloorIf your summer sex session gets too steamy to bear (read: you’re panting like a couple of marathoners), take it to ground level and point a couple of fans toward you. “As the cool breeze plays over your sweat-soaked bodies and gently moves the little hairs on your skin, you’ll feel reinvigorated,” says Locker. “The breeze will create a rush of new sensations that will add to the pleasure you’re feeling.” Bonus: The novelty of switching your locale from in the sack to on the floor will also pump up your excitement level.

HOT HINT 5: Savor That Post-O Flush When you finally collapse back onto the bed in a bliss coma…stay right where you are. Don’t make a move for the AC. “Allowing your body to remain warm while you’re coming down from the high of climax will prolong arousal and let you really revel in how amazing you feel,” says Resnick. “If you turn on the air or jump into a cool shower right away, the shock will wake your body from this dreamy, postorgasmic state.” So lie back with your guy, close your eyes, and bask in the aftereffects of sultry summertime sex. Just think: Later on, you can have more of the same. Like we said: Ahh, summer…

Lauren Conrad gives us the most intimate look ever at TV’s superficial (and sensational) reality hit thanks to Entertainment Weekly.“Every season, I think it’s the last,” the 22-year-old star from The Hills admits. “Right now, I think this is the last season. I go through phases when I’ve been filming where I wake up in the middle of the night and I think I’m being filmed. That’s when I have to take a vacation.” (Lauren’s nightmare served as inspiration for the cover photo.)

Executive producer Adam DiVello says he can see the show going at least one more season, but ideally, ”I’d love to stay with it until Lauren gets married.”

DiVello also talked about the We’ll get our shots, then you’ll get yours alliance the show has with the paparazzi: “We’ll be filming at a restaurant and it will be us at a table, three cameras, and then a row of photographers behind the cameras. We don’t want to [shoot] in the back of a restaurant so people can’t see us. You want them on the patios. The paparazzi really work with us. They stay behind the cameras.”

FYI: Costarring couple Heidi Montag and Bitch Ass Spencer Pratt declined to be interviewed for this story once they learned Lauren was on the cover

Personally I wish the drama on The Hills could go on and on and on.......

The homie Mickey Factz has been sending around his track "Incredible" to both signed and unsigned artists and to be honest the only one worth it for me to listen to was Mr.James Watts. I gotta support my underground community now and again, can't forget where we come from! Keep doing your thingJ.A.M.E.S W.A.T.T.S I see ya out there!

Being a woman with a booty I tend to not have this issue but heck we all want a little extra junk in the trunk every now and then! This here is for all my ladies who suffer from the flat booty syndrome. The hell with butt implants or ass shots, for only $28 bucks you can get your very own Kim Kardashian ass! Well kinda.... Head over to Kitson's site now to make thatBootyPop

Grafh recently shot his video for his new single "Like Ohhh" which I totally love! Grafh and I are homies from way back to my Ultimate Hustler days! I'm sooo happy to see Grafh getting the recognition he deserves. Take a look at the footage from the video shoot. My late ass ended up missing it but the homie over at HipHopGame put me on! Shoutout to Jabari!

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

According to ShowbizSpy, 50 Cent has bought the rights to his Baby Mother Shaniqua's lfe story. So now his ex-girlfriend and baby mama can't publish a tell-all-book.

50 Cent said: "I bought the rights to her life story so she couldn't write a book.

"I seen her being ridiculous; I knew her capabilities of going in that direction, so I bought the rights."

In other News, 50 Cent gets quoted by ContactMusic from a new Sister2Sister Magazine Interview about his baby mama keeping his son away from him: "Now they done kidnapped my first one (son). My son's mother got him, holding him hostage."

So last week we officially welcomed 5 month old baby "Johan" into the hip-hop spawn of babies. But it turns out to be that his baby mother "Emily" is not as much of a down ass, lay-low chick as we thought and really neither is Fab (not really a surprise) From the looks of these emails sent by people who were just as shocked as us, it looks like his BM has had relations with fellow rapper Fat Joe (who is married), and athlete turned convict Michael Vick.

So see below some e-mails from some skeletons left out there by both Fabby and his BM Emily.

"Fab’s girl Emily is also known to have had a recent “relationship” with doggie lover Micheal Vick before his jail stint, as well as being Fat Joe's side dish for years. They have been together for 6 years so here’s a snippet of the exact scoop I was given from one source close to Emily’s circle. According to the timetable she messed with Fat Joe about four years back, same thing with Michael Vick and I don’t know Fabulous’ lyrics like that but he went so far as to say something about Vick in a rhyme."

"I’ve been keeping this one to myself for over a year, but when I saw he’s had a girlfriend for 6 YEARS I almost spit my dinner on my computer screen!! Last March he came through my city for a mini-radio promo tour, which was top secret and only the radio stations knew about his arrival. I got a message on my Myspace page from his official Myspace page saying he wanted to see me when got to my city and he asked for my number. I don’t do the random Myspace crap but this one was so far fetched I had to send my number. Lo and behold, a few hours later, I got a call from none other than John Jackson!! It was soooo damn random. We chopped it up for a minute and asked if I could show him around, get dinner, etc. He ended up arriving in town too late so me and my girl friend went up to his hotel. No, I repeat, NO sexy times occured!!! He had a lame ass friend with him that was gettin on my friend’s nerves, and we pretty much watched funny YouTube videos and music videos and debated over which artists were whack!!! And he’s very much into celebrity gossip!! He got his friend to get my friend out of the room for a minute, and he tried to make a move, but his friend came back too quick and you could see the “Doh!!” on Fab’s face. I didn’t care cuz I was just about to push his hand off my thigh anyway. He’s sexy but I simply cannot f*ck after 5 minutes!!"

Well another case of getting caught out there and not keeping your shit tight, not really surprising, but I hope for Johan's sake these 2 experimental people can get it together!

After my World Star Hip Hop debut the good folks over at Power 92 in Chicago saw the star in me and added me to the Hot Boyz show every saturday night. Shout out to Tone and Shag for holding me down! I have also gained my very own video blog over on their website, so if you or anyone you know needs more Jen The Pen in their lives make sure you head over to Get more JTP for your weekly dose!

For those of you that didn't know this past year I took up styling as a side hustle....a sister can always use a check! Ya feel me?!It all began with the making of Consequence's video "Feel This Way" feat.John Legend. Being the jack of all trades that he is Cons put me on to the hustle of pulling clothes. Me being the Ultimate Hustler that I am (No pun intended) took my new found skill and created new opportunities for myself. One of the first being Ray J's Sexy Can I video and the latest being Dwele's performance on Wendy Williams. Dwele was kind enough to do a bloggermercial for me, don't mind the part where he effs up lol. I've also attached his performance, again don't mind the bootleg fact that I had to film it off the TV while sitting in the dressing room. Fuck it, it's better then nothing right?!Make sure you all tune into Wendy Williams this Thursday @ 10:00am ,as I will be getting Ray J's style right for his appearance!

Ciara who signed with Wilhelmina Modeling Agency a few months back is in the works of becoming a Victoria Secret's angel. I don't know guys, I never really looked at Ciara as a "sex symbol" like my girls Heidi Klum, Adrianna Limda, Selita Banks, or Giselle? Maybe that's why she got her boob's done (peep her implant above), and now it all makes sense..So the question is do you think she could fit into this?

This video below is Beyonce's little sister Solange trying to break into the "vlogging world" as she would call it...to me this chick is acting a little off. I love the single and all but maybe she should stick to just that. Sidebar- To me she is starting to look more like Kelly, even though they aren't related. I dunno, I'm just sayin..

I got an email from a fan recently who had a fun idea! She thought it would be a good idea for me to choose a fan of the month, and surprisingly while reading a message on myspace I noticed this young mans default pic, at first I was like "What is that on his shirt?!" Then after a double take I was like "Oh SHIT!!! That's my name!!! hahahhahaha I have the best Jen The Pen supporters!!! Soooo take a wild guess who the fan of the month is!

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

If you missed FNMTV which premiered on MTV this past friday, check out Pink announce the Best Female Video. If you haven't done it already be sure to visit vma.mtv.com to cast your vote for Best Hip Hop and Best Pop Video

Kim K and Carmen Electra hit up Comi Con in San Diego for a full day of press in order to promote their upcoming Disaster Movie in theaters August 29th. The girls look nothing short of FABULOUS!!!!!!!!!!!

Monday, July 28, 2008

I spent alot of time on set for the making of Disperse that it almost feels like a child of mine, Within the next week it will world premiere on BET's Rap City I will keep you all posted so you can make sure and tune in!

This weekend Maino called into the show, and we had a few reminicint laughs, so I thought this might be a good time to post this. If you plan on doing something that might earn you some time, or your on your way there, Maino who served 10 years in jail has some helpful tips that may get you thru your days!

Pet Ownership in the United Stated has grown nearly 2 out of 3 in US households. And instead of the little cutesy names like Spike and Rover, more dogs and cats are being given traditional names reserved for humans, such as Charlie, William, and Jennifer.

Well I guess this recession we are currently in has caused people to buy cats, instead of having kids??

Paramount is releasing 3 of its movies to be turned into video games aimed at girls. "Clueless", "Mean Girls", and "Pretty In Pink" will be the first group of video games released.

I actually just got a Wii for my birthday, and this is certainly great news now to me, not that video games are my forte, but c'mon Clueless?? Does it get better??

OK sooooo I guess the date has been set and it's September 2nd!! The *new* 90210 will debut on the CW and I am not so sure what to expect, so in extreme and utter patience I will wait!!

In other 90210 related news, best selling author Tori Spelling's book just landed into my lap and I just started reading. So reviews reviews to come! By chapter 3 I am already feening for the family secrets that the book entails. If you don't feel like waiting for my complete take run to bookstore quick, cause its literally flying off the shelves!

Today I am at the Wendy Williams show to style R&B singer Dwele, so make sure you tune in, or just you tube it later to see some of my work. Check the Dwele video for his single below "I'm Cheatin" that's burning up radio...

Indiana Jones "star" Shia LaBeouf was busted by police in Los Angeles this morning for DUI and rushed to the hospital with injuries. He was behind the wheel of a car that was in a crash around 3 A.M. on Sunday morning in Hollywood.

A spokesperson for the L.A.P.D. says it was clear to officers who responded to the scene that LaBeouf was intoxicated, and he was subsequently arrested.

Shia and his passenger were injured, as was the other driver. Thankfully, though, none of the injuries were serious and he was taken to the hospital to be treated for his bruises and scratches and shit.

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Investigators are looking into how a young boy managed to slip out of a Denton day care center unnoticed, then cross two busy roads and end up a half-mile away at a Hooters restaurant on Tuesday afternoon.

The five-year-old boy walked out of the Imagination Station child care center in the 2300 block of San Jacinto Boulevard near Golden Triangle Mall.

He then crossed busy Dallas Drive to go to a RaceTrac gas station to purchase a soft drink and snacks.

After leaving the station, he ended up in the Hooters parking lot about a half-mile away.

The restaurant's general manager Brian Mason and his employees spotted the child shortly before 5 p.m. Tuesday.

"I was pretty impressed that he made it that way without getting hurt," Mason said. "He let us know that he looked both ways before crossing the road, stopped in the middle and then crossed again."

With no chaperone for the boy in sight, Mason called police.

"We kept him in the back coloring and kept him pretty occupied until the police showed up," he said.

Deborah Pugh, the day care owner, said the boy had asked to go to the bathroom before he disappeared. When his father arrived minutes later to pick up the child, workers said they realized the boy was missing.

Pugh said she believes he got out through a fire exit, which, by law, must remain unlocked.

"We are looking into the timeline," said Denton police spokesman Jim Bryan, "but I think the greater concern is the distance that this child went and the timeframe that he was not in the day care."

Despite what happened, some parents told News 8 they still trust the Imagination Station.

"She [Pugh] is a caring woman and I like how she takes the children," said Grace Shotayo, one of the parents. "She really cares for them."

Imagination Station is subject to state inspection every three to five months. According to records, the day care has been cited for at least eight violations since 2006. Two of the citations were for improper supervision; the most recent one was issued in April.

Pugh said this is the first time a child has disappeared while in her care since she opened Imagination Station 13 years ago. She said she plans to install an alarm at the emergency exit, and is now escorting all children to the bathroom.

The five-year-old has not been back to the day care since the incident.

State child care licensing workers and police investigators are looking into the case to determine whether they will take action against the center and its owner.

Friday, July 25, 2008

My good friend and rapper Mickey Factz decided to drop a gem on the site with an exclusive track for his fav white girl, that being me. So I bring you Mickey Factz, The "Arms Race" (REMIX) ft. Kanye West, Lil' Wayne, & The Gym Class Heros! Make sure you credit the site, I work hard to entertain ya :-)

So I know you have all heard about Ricky and his lies about his law enforcement past. But why go and lie about it I say, anyway I have some very insider details coming on Saturday when I'm on Power 92 (shouts to Tone & Shag) in Chi-Town but until then the Brooklyn Kid Maino, who himself served 10 years in jail was down in Atlanta yesterday on his promo run and had a listening event and gave his 2 cents on the whole situation..check it out

Yesterday I put up a piece of Foxy's new interview from the new XXL where she explains how much Jay-z let her down and blah blah blah, so automatically its hard to assume that a "crazy" person is saying something that has some sense. But I think I might have gave up on Foxy too quick after reading this article where ex- Rocafella member Teairra Mari explains her departure from Hov's label...check it out

Teairra on being dropped from Rocafella

"I’m going to be totally honest, I don’t know what happened. I just got a call out of the blue because I had gotten cut my second advance and everything to record my second album. I got a call one day. They were just like, “Yeah we’re going to be letting you go. You’re young and we believe you will be able to have a prosperous career without us,” just kind of like throwing me out in the cold really. That’s how I kind of look at it, because we were all supposed to be like a close family. I called Jay-Z my father; he was like a second father to me. Tracy Waples, I called her a second mother. So to just be thrown out – and I didn’t get a call from Tracy or Jay – it was a bit heartbreaking. You know we live and we learn, but just me being that young and inexperienced I didn’t know. So I took it pretty hard."

Teairra on her current relationship with Jay-Z

"There is no relationship there at all. I haven’t heard from him since that time. I think I sent him a happy birthday message because his birthday is two days after mine, like two years ago and since then it’s been nothing. And I don’t want it to be – Actually, it’s fine because I was a young girl. If you could come into a young girl’s life and then just throw her on the curb, you put this father presence on and then be like, “I’m done with it.” I don’t want a relationship like that. ….I see both sides. I see how people can be on you one second and then totally off of you and not even call you to see if you’re still living or not."

(My 2 Cents) Hmmm...so is Jay-Z a kiss & fly type of guy or maybe he just doesn't like bitches who can't keep up around him...I mean Rihanna and Beyonce managed to stay under his wing...I'm just saying!

This here tip isNOTsomething I have tried but a good friend put me on so it was only right I share it with you all! Here it is, parental discretion is advised:

Before heading downtown on your man DO NOT I repeat DO NOT brush your teeth/use a strong mouthwash (aka Listerine), you'll make his ding dong feel as if it was burning off. Which will probably then lead to emotional and physical distress regarding any future blowjobs you may have to offer. xoxo JTP

FNMTV is a new addition to MTV's friday nights starting at 8pm. FNMTV is a non stop music celebration for and by the music fans,combining the best experiences from TV and the web.Each week, on Fridays at 8PM, MTV will premiere exclusive music videos and performances from the most talked about and soon to be talked about musicians. But in the end, it is all about the fans – as MTV turns over the controls to let them create their own music experiences on MTV.com and choose the best of the best to make it onto MTV for the world to see. This fridays event was hosted by Fall Out Boy's and Ashlee Simpsons hubby, Pete Wentz.Check out the exclusive pics below from the event...looks like Danity Kane will be performing but where in the world is Miss.Aubrey???? I'm guessing too busy to join her little old girl group now that she's a broadway actress.

Well Well it seems like I was right when I pulled that Tranny card after viewing the trailor for "Work for Diddy". Peep the very juicy email I got from an insider on the set. I'm blocking out the insiders exact position since it was super cool of them to fill us in, we don't wanna get anyone in trouble out there!

Jen!!,I worked as a (BLANK) on Diddy's new show for VH1 that's premiering August 4th, called "Work For Diddy." The show centers around the young and dumb vying for a chance to work FOR Puff.

What's unknown to the world right now, is that one of the contestants, actress Laverne COX, is a Tranny (still has a ding ding). Let me tell you that home girl is the FIRST black tranny to be cast on a reality show. The problem is that some people don't or won't even know. For Diddy's part, all I can say is "How you doin'...alright!"

Laverne is pleasant enough and will steal the show in many ways (think Omarosa). Are your readers ready to see a Black Tranny?

Laverne can be seen at the beginning (in the red and brown) of http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hwgu9E-QpWA promoting the show (some are beginning to suspect, but they don't know her name, and can't call it). Before this show she took part in a documentary and can be seen strutting her stuff as a tranny prostitute at the 1 min mark of http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTEf0FYxlhU. Her myspace is www.myspace.com/LaverneCOX.

Laverne is often unclockable and sleeps with many men...again (read between the lines). Diddy "HOW YOU DOIN'"

Thursday, July 24, 2008

So one of my favorite topics of conversation, Kim Kardashian, is beefing with Shanna Moakler (pictured above on the left)! Shanna apparently is stating that Kim was trying to fuck with her man Travis Barker, while they were still married, and states in this interview below:

Nik Richie: Yea, we heard you had a little altercation with someone at Carmen Electra’s bbq. Is that true?

Shanna: Yea! I was at this bbq and I saw what I thought was a donkey posing on the stairs but much to my surprise, it was Kim Kardashian. No, wait, it was a donkey! She’s soooo f*cking fat! She’s 5′2″ and she’s like 140. She was wearing a sarong to cover her huge big ass! I like a nice ass but hers is not a nice ass!

Nik Richie: Not nice?! I’m surprised it even fits through a door!

Shanna: Anyway, I saw her and she was standing next to Carmen (Electra) for her press op, of course. I thought I was going to be at this bbq with friends so when I saw her I simply had zero desire to be there. I was walking out but the sheer site of her makes me ill. I actually feel bad for Paris (Hilton). Okay, maybe not, but sort of. This girl totally uses her! I walked by her and just told her that she was lucky to be standing next to Carmen. I was trying to respect her (Carmen Electra) party but then the east coast came out of me and I threw my drink on her (Kim Kardashian). I decided I was tired of being the moral police! I went to grab my things and go when my girlfriend asked me where I was going. I just told her I absolutely didn’t want to be there if that whore was there. Then, Reggie comes up and says (Shanna switches to a Mr. T voice) “YO! Be careful what you say!” And I was like “Your girls a whore!” and he said it again - “Be careful what you say.” and I just told him again - “Your girl’s a whore!” I seriously don’t understand, can someone explain to me why these men defend these girls who literally have a different tongue in them every night?! If your woman wants to f*ck married men and ruin families, you better expect a pissed of ex-wife is going to come out! It floors me when they’re so shocked and awed by this! Ugh, so he (Reggie) came in and was trying to be really nice and I actually liked him! I just felt bad for him because he was defending her and he has no clue why I was event upset. …I’ve got some e-mails he should probably read.

It would only be right if I added Kim's side to this love triangular mess...so here it is:

Kim's Response.....

Hey guys -

Originally I wasn't even going to comment about this whole Malibu situation over the weekend, but I see how much you guys are writing in, and wanting to know the truth, so I just want to set the record straight.

I was a model for Famous Stars and Straps clothing line owned by Travis Barker. I ONLY had a professional relationship with Travis, in which he hired me to represent his brand for one season, which was a year and a half ago.

Secondly, it was immature of me to wear a Famous Stars and Straps t-shirt out the other day. I just wasn't thinking. I want to apologize to you guys for causing confusion and instigating a negative situation. I get so many letters from young girls who come from every type of background and I want to be a positive role model for them, and to my younger sisters Kendall and Kylie. It was a really immature thing to do and I was just upset about the situation.

Reggie and I are in a normal healthy relationship. We trust each other blindly. He was there with me every step of the way throughout the Famous shoot. When I got upset about things being said that just aren't true, he has helped me to see how silly this whole situation is.

I have nothing against the parties involved and don't know why they feel the way they do. But what I do know is that there are so many more important, positive things to focus on right now, and that's what I will continue to do: look forward, not behind.

-Kim Kardashian

Really the funniest part of the whole thing is that Reggie got involved between 2 girls fighting, I bet he doesn't have many friends.

Ms. Fox Boogie, is appearing on the cover of the September issue of XXL. Her first cover in a very very long time and boy when I tell you she waits no time opening up that closet of skeletons...well see for yourself...

(XXL Sept '08)She remembers when Brooklyn producer Clark Kent rolled up to her block in a white Lexus and introduced her to a tall, skinny guy with a cane. “He was so smooth. His swagger was just incredible,” Foxy says. “From that moment on, Jay and I became Bonnie and Clyde,” she says. Fifteen years later, on Broken Silence’s “Fallin’,” she raps, “If I was to die, be too many cowards alive/Fox Brown, Bonnie minus the Clyde.”

“IT WAS LIKE ‘I NEED YOU TO HELP ME SAVE MY LIFE,’ AND [JAY-Z] JUST WASN’T THERE.”

“A lot of things have happened over the years between Jay and I,” she says of the man who signed her to a multimillion-dollar deal at Def Jam in 2005, nine years after their classic duet “Ain’t No N*gga” gave him his first radio hit. “But there’s an unbreakable bond that will never die. 50 wanted me to be part of his team so bad. He was like, ‘Look, I’ll do it with Jay, half and half.’ And, of course, Jay said no. At one point, 50 asked, ‘Why do you have so much loyalty to this N*gga?’ Jay and I have history. There are things that he could have done better, as far as his loyalty to me, and I’m sure I’ve made mistakes that he felt he could’ve prevented.” Foxy chokes up. “When I lost my hearing, Jay gave me the respect to go heal myself. He stuck with me along the way. But there are times when I just really needed him, and it wasn’t even about Foxy Brown and Jay-Z. It was just like, ‘I need you to help me save my life,’ and he just wasn’t there.”

The tears are streaming down her cheeks. “I would never denounce him in public. That’s just how I feel. But I’ve been incarcerated for eight months, and Jay’s been everywhere, and he hasn’t mentioned one thing about, ‘Tell her I love her. Tell her to be strong.’ That broke my heart more than anything. When they sent me to jail, I just knew he would be there-everyone came. But he never showed up… My mother always says,jay also said this,in the tru life freestyle ‘Inga, when a person shows you who they are, believe them. Been showing me all through the years and you just don’t wanna believe it.’”

I always wonder what she thinks of Beyonce, well poor girl, a real lost sense of reality.

Here and there I get an email from a young woman looking for relationship advice. This one in particular stood out most to me and I'm almost positive that alot of you out there can relate, So I thought I would share this with you all. If any of you out there have any further advice for this young woman please feel free to leave your comments in the comment box!! xoxo JTPJen-

I need your advice big time. I dont know why but it seems so much easier to ask someone I dont know for help, basically bc I really dont want all my friends and family in my business!! I dont even know where to start. Have you ever been in a situation where your heart & your head are fighting? Thats pretty much what im goin thru. Im engaged to the person I love and it should be the happiest time in my life, right?? Im happy but there are just so many issues that make me feel conflicted about the whole thing. My finace is a great guy; but on the other hand hes insanely jealous. Suspicious of my every move. Im the kinda girl who has alot of guy friends- im sure you can relate. You know how when your close with guys on a friend level thats the only way you seem them. i would NEVER consider bein more than just friends with them; but its like he cant see that. Is it just me or is it ignorant for someone to think that men and women cant be friends without sex bein involved??Dont get me wrong I know there are alot of girls out there who have "guy" friends but really theyre fuck buddies-but thats NOTme at all!! Im so damn tired of bein accused of cheating or lying whenever we fight! You know that Keyshia Cole song, I shoulda cheated- thats really how i feel. For real, I might as well if im gonna keep gettin accused of it. But i LOVE him, dont want anyone else- I cant even picture bein with anyother man. I left a big city to go live with him in the midwest. I cant explain how bad it pisses me off when he says I dont care about him. Im sorry, but if i didnt I wouldnt have left my favorite city in the country to go live in the midwest. I look around at my friends out partyin, livin it up the same way I used to and I miss that. But the other side of me wants to be in this commited relationship , I just feel like its not working out. In no way do I wanna leave him just so I can party. Its more than that. Its so damn hard to explain. Im sure none of this is making sense to you but please try to see where im comin from! lol. I dont know, its like half of me loves this man and wants to be with him. The other half LOVES him but feels like for ME I need to be doing what I want. Living where I want. Im 21years old and sometimes I just feel like this is not the life that I had planned for myself.I dont know what to do!! I love him and wanna be with him. I just need another persons advice. I know your busy, so whenever you get around to responding Id really appreciate it!

Ps. Ur the shit and I agree with everything you say!!! Everything!

Advice:Hey sweetie!!! your story is all too familiar and I along with tons of other women can relate 100%!!!!! Ur not alone believe that much. What I have learned from situations like this is that communication is KEY!! The two of you need to talk first and foremost. Start off on a positive note and let him know how much you truly care for him and love him ( men need this sometimes more then women) be honest with him about who ur friends are etc... just be open and honest and put it all out on the table. Whats the worst thats gonna happen? He's not gonna want to be with u? Well if thats the case he was never the one for you to begin with him. Thats what I always tell myself when I get scared to just say whats on my mind...Whats the worst thats gonna happen.. he'll leave.... it gives me an inner strength to be open and honest.Because I know in my mind and heart that if he leaves my life won't crumble or be over...and thats what you need to continue to tell yourself.... you have way too many years ahead of you to start a career ,or stay with him and start a life or even go back to school. Whatever it is that will help make u a better and happier person you must pursue.You're a very young woman and if you have any doubts you may need to take a break and figure out what it is that will make you complete. Always remember you can LOVE him but you MUST always LOVE yourself more! At the end of the day you only have yourself to count on.xoxo jen the penI hope this helped!!!! Keep in touch and let me know how everything works out!

Consequence (the hardest working rapper I know), is getting ready to world premiere his video for "Disperse" off of his album "Don't Quit Your Day Job" in the next coming days... I was on set for the filming of the video and can say this is one video you're not gonna wanna miss!!! Check out the behind the scenes footage below. (Don't mind the girl asking "How do I make this thing stop?" 10 times in a row , thats little old me having one of many blonde moments.)

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

I really hope this is one big mix up but Star magazine is reporting that, Sarah Jessica Parker's husband has been having an affair.With a 25 year old woman! The mag says Matthew Broderick met a redhead almost half his age earlier this year. After meeting at a bar, the two began text messaging each other. The woman's friend claims the two got very passionate shortly after meeting. The red head is said to be a youth counselor. Don't worry SJP I know a few GOOD LOOKING dudes who would have no problem slaying you down.

Looks like FABO went and had a little bundle of joy and didn't inform any of us!!!! Friends of the new parents are saying they had a baby shower last week @ Club Reign in BK, a bit late being that the baby is here but I'm guessing friends figured they didn't need a REAL baby shower since Fab has bread.

I can co-sign that this is indeed his BM, and those are the tatas of a lactating mama!

Good thing I stayed in the crib last night!!! Word off the block is that last night during a Hot 97 "Who's Next" event which was held at Sob's is that about 40 dudes walked up surrounded Max B, pounded him out and the next thing you know shots went off. Everyone made it out safely thank god....but is this the end of the beef or just the beginning??? We all know the beef between him and Jim is SERIOUS...I mean I'm not saying anything, I'm just saying......what we do know is that Hot 97 won't be holding any events at Sob's anytime soon, and WTF happened to searching Mofo's at the door?!!!!

On a positive note for all you Max B fans he just dropped a new mixtape entitled "Wavey Crockett" with Big Mike (download link below)

A few months back I had all plans on returning to my reality tv roots all to be a part of Diddys new reality show but now after watching this trailer I think it was all for the better that I'm here doing my radio thing and blogging with you good folks. Does anyone else notice the high level of Bitchassness? LMFAOOOOO @ the transvestite dude at the opening of the trailor!!!!!!!!! That's gonna make for pure comedy!!!! Whoever casted her/him was brilliant!!! Get your popcorn ready!!!!

Just three days before her 85th birthday, "The Golden Girls" star Estelle Getty passed away in the early hours of Tuesday morning (July 22) at her Los Angeles, California home.According to press reports, the actress had endured a long battle with Lewy Body Dementia - a disease exhibiting symptoms similar to Alzheimer's Disease and Parkinson's. Known for her role as the witty,and humorous Sofia on the Golden Girls, Since Estelle's passing, Betty White, one of her "The Golden Girls" co-stars, released a statement reading: "The only comfort at this moment is that although Estelle has moved on, Sophia will always be with us."

White Girl Tip Of The Week

This week I'm dedicating my W.G. tip to all the good boyfriends out there who have the potential to be great ones! This weeks tip is going to help you move right up to that next level.Part of being a really GREAT boyfriend is making your girl feel like nothing else compares to her. And the perfect time to tell her how hot she is,is during critical bedroom moments. It reassures us women during a very vulnerable time and encourages us to get even sexier with you!In case you boys are still confused here's a few examples.

1. When your girl is wearing lingerie. Don't just rip it off!!!!! We pay alot of money for these skimpy little outfits and take hours to pick out what we think will make our man go wild. So pleaseeeeeee appreciate and acknowledge how damn sexy your woman looks! Hearing that you're turned on vs. seeing your star player stand at attention lets us know we've really kicked some ish off!

2.After a new sex move we're left wondering did he like it? Did I do it right?? So reassure your chick that you love experimenting with her, and heck if it didn't go so smoothly atleast joke about it. Haha

3.Being a rockstar in the oral sex department is important to women.So after she pleases you let her know how amazing she was at it, and for goodness sake a little making out before or after wouldn't hurt! We women want to know that you're grateful that we care so much about satisfying you. And what better way to let her know then by kissing her! It means the most!!!!

If these 3 in 1 tips can't help you out there, you're just a loser plain and simple. lolUnitl next week!!! xoxo JTP

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Write me at JenThePenAdvice@Gmail.com for any advice, questions, comments, thoughts, or whatever you may have on your mind. I will do my best to get through all of it, and some of it might end up on the blog :-)-JTP