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7.1 Billion people on this globe, why let one person (break-up) dictate you?

​As Taylor Swift rightly said, Heartbreak is the national anthem and we sing it proudly.

So I dedicate this post to my Generation.

Heartbreak. One word and countless memories come flashing back. Doesn’t it? Well that’s why breakups are so hard. They leave you devastated, especially if things don’t end well.

Loving someone and being in love are two different emotions. After a breakup we blame ourselves. Start finding flaws in us. But is it always us ? NO ! Romantic relationships are always Symbiotic/Mutual. Taali kabhi ek haath se nai bajti. [ You can never clap with a single hand ].

The morning next to your breakups are the most difficult ones. You wake up, nice and happy, and before you can even think, reality dawns upon you. That sense of void, that sense of loss and hopelessness can not be described in paper. You feel it because you loved, loved hard, hard enough to fall, to get hurt, get bruised and still love. I used to feel a flood of emotions overwhelm me all at once, but I felt so empty. I still tried, but I was rewarded with blunt replies.

Breakups make you question your role as an individual and your ability as a partner. You feel so unwanted and isolated. Anxiety starts creeping in. We are all deep oceans of insecurities and a breakup exposes them all. I was so dependent on him. I had lost a lot of friends. Worst day? When he gathered enough courage to tell me about his lost interest in me. Those words kept replaying over and over again until I was on the brisk of disgust. My throat was about to explode with a vile mixture of anger and frustration. His words had cut me like a sharp knife. WHAT WAS I SUPPOSED TO SAY, WHEN I WAS ALL CHOKED UP AND HE WAS OKAY?

For days, I had avoided social situations for the fear of being misjudged, humiliated and embarrassed. I grieved for months. Grieving helps, because it gives you hope and strength to face the melancholy of life with dignity. And moreover, no one has ever died mourning over a breakup. 😂

Sleep. Food. Movies. These are the common escapes from reality. Months of avalanche of painful emotions, made me question myself, What was I outside this relationship?

That was my transition. My greatest wake-up call.

I started this blog just after my breakup. I had never written before. So my biggest challenge was giving words to my emotions. I couldn’t talk about my breakup to anyone, so I started writing. Fiercely. I also started interacting with a lot of people and hearing their struggles and stories gave me hope and motivated me to write. I started glass painting, served as an apprentice to a friend’s clothline, wore my dancing shoes again after half a decade, drew all my focus to things I could do and stopped lamenting over things I couldn’t. I started taking care of myself. I also begun gifting myself things I loved. I learnt a lot about falling in love after I fell out of love.

Few months back, I was so unoccupied that I wasted all my time desperately wanting his attention, and today I have to write things down, thanks to my short-term memory loss 😂. I have finally accepted my reality, the story of my existence. I turned my anguish into bliss ! He had given up on me, but I’d never give up on myself !

So if you are going through a miserable heartbreak right now, your heart will make you think that this is the end of everything. But let me remind you, nothing is permanent. If love can fade, so can pain. Today, I’m stronger, more successful, a lot independent and more at peace than ever ! BECAUSE I DESERVE TO. AND SO DO YOU! You’ll not only survive this, but you shall do it with grace and dignity. And I will be your Silver lining ! Those who know me personally or follow me on social media, will acknowledge the fact that I have never lived my life with this much enthusiasm and positivity as I am living it right now. ♡

P.S – THIS POST IS A PART OF THE COLLABORATION I MENTIONED IN MY EARLIER POST. YOU CAN CHECK IT OUT BY Clicking on the link here. EVERY BLOGGER HAS A UNIQUE STORY TO TELL. PLEASE GIVE THEM A READ BY CLICKING ON THE LINKS BELOW.

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Hey World,
I am Tajwar Fatma, a doctor by profession, a writer by passion and a dancer by heart. I am no Gandhi or Budhdha. Just an over thinker, trying to impact the world positively. Apart from being super optimistic all the time, I love trying out new things. I come from a family of Poets and Writers, but I have never written before. I take real life experiences as my inspiration. I hope you will love my take on things. Please feel free to drop an email about your life at tajwar.fatma1@gmail.com. I will love to share them with the world. Also Follow me on Facebook and Instagram by clicking on the links below. HAPPY READING !!
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“Those who know me personally or follow me on social media, will acknowledge the fact that I have never lived my life with this much enthusiasm and positivity as I am living it right now. ♡”
That’s true!! And you deserve it, twinnie.
I love it!! I love it!! I love it!!
This is awesome. Love your style

What a great post, kudos to you for making your experience an example. I wish everyone who are trying to get over a heartbreak get to see this. “We can’t mourn over someone who is alive” that expression get my attention and it’s a bitter truth. No matter what happen, we must be courageous to move on and be happy in life; Keep up the good work. 😉👍

Thank you so much Ajibola for your kind words. I hope people get motivation from this. And I pray for all those who are going through something similar like this.
And thank you so much for being a part of this collaboration! It wouldn’t have been possible without the efforts of all of you ♡

Thank you so much Ipuna. Im so glad that you liked it. The response that we arw getting for this collab is so overwhelming. And I’m so happy that we met. Best thing ever !!! Lots of love and virtual hugs ( As Altea says) ♡

Powerful words…!! I think it will change the life of some of the readers… “What was I outside this relationship?”….This key question should be answered by everyone her/him self…Even without a heartbreak I guess
Nice work.. Keep it coming..!😊👍

Absolutely mind-blowing! I love how your word illustrated the deepest inextricable pain you held within – they engulfed me to the extent I became extravagantly emotional. This is true arts. Moreover, I am utterly glad that your courage and determination kept you soaring above those pain.

Thank you so much Kingsley for the lovely words ! You are too kind. Also you and your sibling clan is so talented. I keep asking Jane all the time, how are you all so talented?? Im so glad that we crossed paths. Thank you for giving it a read. ♡

You said your biggest challenge was giving words to your emotions. But just look at you now! You’ve expressed yourself with such beautiful and sincere eloquence. And I’m sure you’ll help countless people with your words in the future. I’m so proud of you!

Thank you so much Altea. Yours words really mean a lot to me. And yes, Thank you so much for collaborating with us. It was so fun working with all of you. Despite being on a family vacation, you took out time to write for us. I owe you a lot. Thank you again !

Wow, what positive words! I really love Mary Oliver’s quote that you shared at the end, “Someone I once loved gave me a box of darkness. Took me years to realise that this too was a gift.” What an incredible person you are. ❤

Thank you so much Nicolle for coming and collaborating with us. It was sheer pleasure working with someone as talented and as wonderful as you.
Thank you so much for reading my post. Loads of love. And have a great day ahead ♡

I am so so glad ma’am that I camr across someone like you. I have already told that again and again and to a lot of people, and I want to tell you again, I have never met someone as motivational and as humble as you. You have always been so kind and so patient with me. I shall never forget how you have been with me throughout this journey. I owe you a lot. And I wish you all the happiness this world is capable of giving. Im so proud of you ma’am. You are incredible!

Taj, everytime I read through your words I feel as if I have just visited your heart. This is a very apt dedication to our generation, especially the infatuating lovers! I have always felt like love in this age of ours is like a pack of cards, there is more selfishness than selflessness.
“Sleep. Food. Movies. These are the common escapes from reality.” ….This is so true!
Remember that your dreams never deserve to be dictated by someone who is just making a guest appearance in your saga! Be the queen of your dreams!!!
I’m really proud of how wonderful a person you are and it’s a blessing to know you! Stay blessed!

You were one of my oldest WordPress family members. I cant express enough gratitude to you Jothish ! I came to you with the idea of this collaboration and you were so helpful and supportive. I cant thankyou enough. I JUST CANNOT ! Thank you so much my handsome brother ♡
And I’ll always remember what you told me, that you’ll kill me if I let my talent go to waste 😉 :p

I am always so so so glad and excited when I read the compliments from this amazingly talented and wonderful and super duper awesome group of siblings!
I am so happy to read your kind words for me. And yes it’s true. Its not the breakup that’s difficult, it’s the after effects. Thanks for stopping by Dear Soul ja ♡
I hope you are having a great week !

Love comes with pain because in pain there is growth. The other never breaks our heart, our hearts never can break because it is not made of glass but in itself is a house of Love and compassion. Love is painful because it creates the way for bliss. Love is painful because it transforms. Love is mutation. Each transformation is going to be painful because the old has to be left for the new. To suffer in love is not to suffer in vain. To suffer in love is creative it takes us ,the one who loves to higher levels of consciousness.

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Hey World,
I am Tajwar Fatma, a doctor by profession, a writer by passion and a dancer by heart. I am no Gandhi or Budhdha. Just an over thinker, trying to impact the world positively. Apart from being super optimistic all the time, I love trying out new things. I come from a family of Poets and Writers, but I have never written before. I take real life experiences as my inspiration. I hope you will love my take on things. Please feel free to drop an email about your life at tajwar.fatma1@gmail.com. I will love to share them with the world. Also Follow me on Facebook and Instagram by clicking on the links below. HAPPY READING !!