Rape Support Group

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape, this is the place to find support and get advice. If you want, discuss your experience, share your feelings, and meet others going through a similar situation.

2 weeks

i did it...after a few days of not wanting to live and a readiness to give up i called a counseling center in a nearby county and made an apointment...my appointment is in 2 weeks sept 10...im scared to death and i hope that i dont talk myself outta going...but to be honest if i dont go i will prob end up doing something completely stupid...because thats how low i am right now...i feel like i am almost at the bottom of the barrel and if i dont start reaching now i will never get out of it...i have to stop blaming myself for what happened but i cant...i cant stop believing that it was my fault...i just hope this helps and i hope im strong enough to actually go...i have to thank all of you here who have responded and helped..your words have overwhelmed me and kept me going when i didnt think i could..and i hope that you guys can keep me going because i dont know where this is gonna lead and im honestly scared of whats facing me now

I really have to admire your bravery hun, well done. I know how low you have been getting and I'm so glad you plucked up the courage to see someone. I am really proud of you. I know it's scary but once you've overcome the first appointment, you will feel slightly more at ease. It's meeting a stranger for the first time that's so scary. I am here for you 100%. I have alot of faith in you and I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say very well done and good luck. Let us know how you get on but here for you if you need anything anytime hun.

well done, the first step is usually the hardest. I am so proud of you that you took the leap and made the appointment.
Maybe write things down, questions, worries, memories, etc, just go easy and do it as you are able, to help you not feel so overwhelmed, writing might also make you feel confident and strong enough to go, it might help to take your writings for the counsellor to read at a later date when you are not there(thats how my counsellor does it), or he/she can read it while you are there if you feel comfortable with that.
I tell you i am barracking for you as many others here are.
(((((((((((((huge hugs)))))))))))))

Congrats!! Your very lucky actually, i called a counseling service nearby and I have to wait 4 months to get into counseling! It's great that you are getting some counseling it will be great for you, i know at first it is going to be hard for you since it will bring back a lot of things from the rape that have hurt you but it's best to get it all out. Don't run away from getting the help you need, I have already don't a lot of stupid things and it has only been a month since my rape. I can't get the help i need for another 4 months....congrats on getting into counseling! :)

The most difficult minute of late, in your life, will be walking in to that therapist's office. But, there is something you can do to make it easier. I posted this awhile back and I am not sure where it is in all the old posts here, so I'll just retype it because it is valuable enough to make the effort.

Before you came onto DS, I went through a really dark time and I sought help for my PTSD in a hospital in New Orleans, LA that treats trauma. The following quote was on a huge permanent banner above the entryway. Copy it. Take it with you. Let IT make the initial comment for you, then words may flow easier. It reads:

THEY ARE SURVIVORS. IF YOU DON'T HAVE RESPECT FOR THEIR STRENGTH, YOU CAN'T BE OF ANY HELP. IT'S A PRIVELEGE THAT THEY LET YOU IN - THERE IS NO REASON THAT THEY SHOULD TRUST YOU - NONE. YOU DON'T KNOW THEIR TERROR - IT'S YOUR WORST NIGHTMARE COME TRUE - A NIGHTMARE FROM WHICH YOU NEVER AWAKEN. IT'S UNRELENTING. THERE HAS BEEN NO SAFETY: NO ONE, NO TIME, NO PLACE, NO THING! ALL WAS TAINTED. HOPE WAS OBLITERATED TIME AND TIME AGAIN. THAT THEY ARE IN YOUR OFFICE IS, IN ITSELF, A SUPREME ACT OF VALOR!

Let this speak for you. It also sets the tone for what you need to be able to expect from them. I hope this helps. Keep the appointment, you can do this. We're here to help you through, but you need this kind of one-on-one care. You deserve the best.

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