I am a 28 year old lesbian RN. I don't think anyone in my work place thinks that I am not a lesbian. You don't always get to pick exactly what you were looking for. My ideal bedmate would be between 35 and 55, plump or a little fat, weigh between 160 and 220. have big floppy tits, have a big soft belly, have big thighs, have a big floppy ass and a hairy pussy with the hair extending from just below the belly button to a few inches down her thighs and surrounding her big asshole Have I ever had one like this? No, but some were very close. Barbara Thompson.