Is it selfish if I get a c section?

Okay before I get negative comments about wanting an elective C-Section I have a logical reason . It's just not medical . Yesterday my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer (Bad). Oh you thought that was it ? No ! She also was diagnosed with a small Brain tumor and is not expected to live long . She was very about having another grandchild & I'm afraid she won't be alive to meet her grandson . I'm 36 weeks . I want to wait til I'm at least 38 weeks . I know it's selfish but it's for a good reason . My grandmother means everything to me and it would just melt my heart if I see her hold her grandchild for the first and maybe last time . I'm already emotional about this but I just want opinions

Okay before I get negative comments about wanting an elective C-Section I have a logical reason . It's just not medical . Yesterday my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer (Bad). Oh you thought that was it ? No ! She also was diagnosed with a small Brain tumor and is not expected to live long . She was very about having another grandchild & I'm afraid she won't be alive to meet her grandson . I'm 36 weeks . I want to wait til I'm at least 38 weeks . I know it's selfish but it's for a good reason . My grandmother means everything to me and it would just melt my heart if I see her hold her grandchild for the first and maybe last time . I'm already emotional about this but I just want opinions

Don't feel bad at all! Its your body! Who cares how the baby gets here as long as it does! I am pregnant with baby #4 all elective c-sections! I have zero issues with it. I can plan the date and recovery help at home. Good luck and who cares what other people think. Do what u are comfortable with!

Don't feel bad at all! Its your body! Who cares how the baby gets here as long as it does! I am pregnant with baby #4 all elective c-sections! I have zero issues with it. I can plan the date and recovery help at home. Good luck and who cares what other people think. Do what u are comfortable with!

Please keep in mind though c section is NOT easy - I had one and I cannot tell you how many post op complications I have had. I would say since I labored for 19 hours vaginally, that vaginal delivery is harder when you are going through it but easier recovery. C section is easier during delivery but much harder afterwards. You don't know how long your grandmother will live - doctors are wrong all the time, she could live 2 months, 6 months, a year....I would not tempt fate and risk your child's health for this. You are noble in your reason for wanting to do this and I don't think selfish at ALL that you want your grandma to see your child. I'm totally not judging. All I am saying is that you need to think of your baby and your health first and everything else second.

Please keep in mind though c section is NOT easy - I had one and I cannot tell you how many post op complications I have had. I would say since I labored for 19 hours vaginally, that vaginal delivery is harder when you are going through it but easier recovery. C section is easier during delivery but much harder afterwards. You don't know how long your grandmother will live - doctors are wrong all the time, she could live 2 months, 6 months, a year....I would not tempt fate and risk your child's health for this. You are noble in your reason for wanting to do this and I don't think selfish at ALL that you want your grandma to see your child. I'm totally not judging. All I am saying is that you need to think of your baby and your health first and everything else second.

Your brave for wanting to do that but I think you should maybe ask if they could induce you better cause C-sections is a major surgery and then you have to think every kid you have after this one will have to be a c-section a lot of docs don't like to do VBACS because of the risks ..with the recovery for a c-section you might not even be able to enjoy the time with your child n grandma a vaginal you will be fine in a matter of mins after the baby is out..and you could enjoy them both

Your brave for wanting to do that but I think you should maybe ask if they could induce you better cause C-sections is a major surgery and then you have to think every kid you have after this one will have to be a c-section a lot of docs don't like to do VBACS because of the risks ..with the recovery for a c-section you might not even be able to enjoy the time with your child n grandma a vaginal you will be fine in a matter of mins after the baby is out..and you could enjoy them both

Well, you say you have a medical reason as well? You also say you know it's selfish, so what do you want us to say? Yes, I think it's not only selfish, but also stupid. I understand how important it is for you to have your grandma meet your baby, I just think your baby's needs should come first.

Well, you say you have a medical reason as well? You also say you know it's selfish, so what do you want us to say? Yes, I think it's not only selfish, but also stupid. I understand how important it is for you to have your grandma meet your baby, I just think your baby's needs should come first.

I don't think it's selfish but I personally would not do it. It will impact your future births and increases likelihood of complications, plus it's a harder recovery. How does your grandmother feel about it?

I don't think it's selfish but I personally would not do it. It will impact your future births and increases likelihood of complications, plus it's a harder recovery. How does your grandmother feel about it?

Your reasons for wanting it are not selfish. But I don't think it's a good idea. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Most doctors won't preform an elective csection unless there is a medical reason.

Your reasons for wanting it are not selfish. But I don't think it's a good idea. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Most doctors won't preform an elective csection unless there is a medical reason.

Did they give you a time frame for how long they think she'll live? Also, the will to survive is EXTREMELY powerful. She may just hang in there since she knows you're due soon. I'm biased b/c I know that c-section is a MAJOR surgery and would only do it as a last resort. Perhaps you can ask your doctor if getting induced via acupuncture is an option? Keep in mind that even at 38 weeks there is an increased risk of complications for your baby. 39 weeks really should be the earliest. Good luck, I know this is a very difficult decision.

Did they give you a time frame for how long they think she'll live? Also, the will to survive is EXTREMELY powerful. She may just hang in there since she knows you're due soon. I'm biased b/c I know that c-section is a MAJOR surgery and would only do it as a last resort. Perhaps you can ask your doctor if getting induced via acupuncture is an option? Keep in mind that even at 38 weeks there is an increased risk of complications for your baby. 39 weeks really should be the earliest. Good luck, I know this is a very difficult decision.

I personally have been through 1 emergency csection which was rushed and complicated and the end result was absolutely horrible.... However my 2nd csection which was planned was absolutely beautifully brilliant! No complications in and out and a fast ....painful....recovery. Hahaha but I think the best advice we can give you is talk with your dr. They will know which route is safest and best for your own safety and the babies. Good luck with whatever you choose! Keep us updated!

I personally have been through 1 emergency csection which was rushed and complicated and the end result was absolutely horrible.... However my 2nd csection which was planned was absolutely beautifully brilliant! No complications in and out and a fast ....painful....recovery. Hahaha but I think the best advice we can give you is talk with your dr. They will know which route is safest and best for your own safety and the babies. Good luck with whatever you choose! Keep us updated!

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