Be the Best You Without Him

Vanessa’s phone rang and rang – it went to voicemail, again.

“Hey girl, call me back. The art festival is today, it’s gorgeous out and I haven’t seen you forever.” I hung up the call, frustrated and concerned. Vanessa and Tiffany had been friends since junior high. Vanessa was a talented artist and loved funky art festivals and gallery openings. When she had met Vance, she buried her dreams of her own gallery showing so he wouldn’t feel threatened. He had said he didn’t want her out showing off. Vance didn’t like her artsy friends either, so Vanessa had curtailed the coffee dates and gallery openings she used to do with her friends.

Suddenly Vance broke things off. Vanessa was devastated and started ignoring all of her friends’ phone calls and texts. Her friends had been trying to get her out of the house for the past 2 weeks but Vanessa constantly refused, she kept saying she wasn’t ready to get out and be around people.

At first, Vanessa’s friends felt sorry that she was going through such a painful breakup. But now, they were getting frustrated with her. She had so much talent and virtually shut that part of her life down just to keep Vance happy. Vanessa had so many friends that loved her and even more people that loved her art. But she chose to hide the best part of herself in order to keep a man that just wasn’t right for her.

Have you even been guilty of behaving like Vanessa? Did you have a great career path, a dream, a talent that you hid, just because you thought it wasn’t as important as having a man in your life?

I’m not saying you have to have either/or, but that you can be the best you without him. Pursue that dream, that promotion, that goal and in doing so, you will shine through and the man that will love you and love your dreams will notice your light.

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Trabia Major Towns

we all meet a person that changes our life good or bad. my ex was a few years younger than me…ignorant as h*ll…cheated and when i found out it broke me…like i literally felt pieces of me fall away. i learned from that relationship what i do not want and if i even meet a guy that shows traits of my ex im out. it took me years to fully get over the betrayal to heal but i will never let anyone devastate me like that again.

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Suntia Smith is a Masters Level Clinical Social Worker with years of experience helping couples in conflict reconnect, rebuild, and fiercely protect their happily ever after. She’s known for her unique and refreshing therapy style, which swirls together straight-shooting honesty, nail-on-the-head intuition and empowering couple cheerleading.

Since earning a Bachelor Degree in Psychology and a Master Degree in Social Work from the University of South Carolina, Suntia has offered individual, couples and teen counseling to show others how to deal with everyday life and relationship struggles better while still preserving their personal integrity. Her specialties include rebuilding trust after infidelity, anxiety, resolving family conflict, repairing relationship trauma, and learning how to build confidence.

In addition to her private counseling practice, Suntia is a Board Approved Clinical Supervisor, and trains social workers who are seeking LISW licensure. Because of her amazing ability to inspire others, Suntia continues to be a highly sought after motivational speaker, life coach and workshop presenter. She lives in Greenville, South Carolina, where she can often be found Zumba dancing or planning her next global adventure.

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SUNTIA SMITH, LISW-CP is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker & Couples Therapist who uses proven emotion-focused techniques and cognitive behavioral methodologies to help her clients deal with everyday life and relationship struggles better. By taking a positive, proactive and practical approach to emotional well-being, Suntia teaches others how to develop a stronger sense of self, so they can love deeper and live lighter.

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