The Guilt of Not Being the Perfect Parent

There is nothing as pleasing as watching your little child's shiny face with a smile due to happiness. This is the reason that most of us try to give out children the perfect holiday which resembles the fairytale world's holiday.

CHICAGO - Aug. 1, 2017 - PRLog -- Now, the intention of giving your child such a pleasure is really the beautiful one, but if your motive is to make up for the days when you haven't been the perfect parent, this practice is not wise one. In other words, we are trying to make up for the shortcomings by trying too much harder, which ultimately results in more stress.

Sometimes, we get this fascination of providing perfect holiday to the children by drawing a picture of our childhood which wouldn't be much entitled. This kind of activity with the intention we are talking about develops a drama which ultimately fails.

There is a natural healing ability in the humans, and we need to believe in that. But, if we try to create perfect holidays for our kids by keeping the deprivations of out childhood in mind, that wouldn't really help in healing. There is no doubt about the fact that holidays are grea8t, and we should aspire to make the holidays for our kids as better as we could, but developing fascinations from the negative memories is never a good idea.

This inspiration of creating perfect holidays for our family usually drives us to do more, but what we normally fail to understand is the fact that starting anything with unnecessary things doesn't really fill the deep longings.

Acknowledge you own longings

You may be willing fill the longings that you have from your childhood, but keep it in mind that everyone has these longings. So, you need to accept the existence of these longings rather than trying to cover them with superficial beings. You can start appreciating yourself for the good things that you do and forgive yourself for the errors you commit. I am not suggesting you to be selfish, but you need to be a person who doesn't punishes himself on the minor mistakes.

Don't feel the guilt

Not being able to buy your child the present he wants is not something to be guilty of. Yes, presents can be wonderful but they are meant to be something based on the emotion. Hence, if you love your child and you are not able to buy him/her the present, you can always express your feeling of love through different means. That will be far more precious than an overly expensive gift.

Childhood deprivations are not uncommon, but it would be a weird, in fact unwise, thing to find a distraction. It means that you are running away from the memories that keep coming back to haunt you. You can get rid of them by feeling them to their deepest. It doesn't mean that you should start acting upon them to make the disaster of your thoughts. You can feel them in order to overpower them. An easy and simple way is to have those feelings and then you breath them out while assuring yourself that those times are now gone; and you are now a better person.