So I'm sitting here....once again...on the weekend by myself. I was supposed to go out in a date tonight and of course he cancels on me at the last min. I had an idea that he would do this bc he has been working alot lately with one day off a week and earlier today he was setting it up that he couldn't "guarantee" anything. So I should of known better then to count on him actually keeping his word. I'm so hurt, upset, and disappointed!!! I'm so sad sitting here on my couch crying bc once again I feel unlovable and worthless. I don't know what it is about me that nobody wants me or wants to be around me. I'm a good person and I'm good to people but I can't make anyone love me or wanna spend time with me. I feel so worthless....

Thank u for your kind words! And your right...i don't think people know how they edge t others. Most people only think of themselves and I try not to take it personal but it's really difficult for me not to. I'm starting to become disenchanted with the while dating scene. Seems like it's one let down after another.

Hummm. What type of work does he do and is workplace anywhere near where you are at lunch time? Possible to bring a picnic basket, etc. to him just to see if he responds positively? Always time later for "let's hate men" stuff later.

He's a bartender and has been working longer hours lately bc someone at his job was just fired. He has invited me to come keep him company several times, which I have, and we hang out for a bit as soon as his shift is over. Since I automatically assume the worst and think negatively, my mind thinks he's not interested or he had other plans that were better which is why he cancelled on me. I have trouble believing anything that may not be negative bc I feel like if he did like me he would of kept his word no matter what. Again I think people are like me and stand by what they say. I have trouble when people don't follow thru, makes me feel like I'm not important. But thank u for the suggestion! And I'm def not at the "I hate men" stage lol lol

a suggestion also is to maybe join some social groups, I know this sounds funny, but I love mushroom hunting. I am also into ceramic art, writing, driving to different places. Maybe put the dating thing on the back burner and just get busy with some sort of group stuff. I know many of us are uncomfortable in social situations, and can feel alone in a crowd, but even so, just to get into doing something you like to do, and others being there doing it with you, it may be a new avenue to make some friends, or at least get you busy on your days off.

Get his hours and what day (night) off. Just buy small containers of food from the grocery deli and put it your containers or bowls (he'll never know), couple drinks, a large towel or cloth to be the picnic cloth, etc. YOU ASK HIM OUT but not tell to what and coordinate your times, you pick him up, and find some museum or public building to have the casual picnic.

It will impress or surprise him as no other woman has bothered to go to this trouble for him. Then see what happens.

....OH! a sure picnic item can be a box of fried chicken from the grocery store....just take the amount from the chicken you buy that you need for the picnic, and leave the rest at home for your next meal.

As it's cold probably where you are, there has to be somewhere warm where you can go......even if it's in a mall somewhere where there is a bench...please let me know what goes....I was single for a long time and have other ideas that I used on "dates" to be able to talk and feel out if a man was a "keeper" or not worth the effort. The picnic thing worked big time, and you can limit the time (YOU are in control),you spend. If he is NOT what you think he was, wrap the picnic after eating, no linger for talk. Time yourself anyway....do not stay too long or it will look like you're "lingering" just to be with him....I live in hot climate, so I had to look for public places that were air conditioned....