The gainer or the settler?

Each relationship has a gainer and a settler the gainer gets a better looking partner than he or she and the settler settles with a less good looking partner than he or she which is which in the pictures above vote and comment which you think you are.

Yes, but the people in the relationship probably feel entirely different than we do. What if the girl think she's the lucky one to be with this guy, or the guy feels that way about the girl. Chances are they think of each other as the greatest thing in the world.

@Roostah Not at all but natural beauty isn't fiction lol. If you're healthy and keep your hygiene up you'll look good on the outside. I've never worn a stitch of makeup and people say I'm beautiful all the time. It's when you wear makeup so much that it causes aging and sickly looking skin that makes your bare face look bad. Not when you've taken care of yourself.

Why can't they just be equal? This is just some made up rule to make people think that relationships are all about looks and appearances. One could be GAINING love, affection, physical satisfaction and trust. Looks are irrelevant. Both settle, not just one. Love is a feeling but being in a relationship is a CHOICE. Both have to agree. What rubbish...😤😑

I don't know if I believe in that but if it's true the girl would be the settler looks wise.

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The girl is awkward And they're equal in looks

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Posts like this is the problem with relationships today. Thanks for being an example of what I hate about dating. The judging and how critical people are

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Why do you assume that there aren't balanced happy couples out there? Further, just because I think A or B is hotter, it doesn't mean that everyone will share my opinion. I love myself and am very confident, even though I'm "fat". I'm anything but the stereotypical American standard of beauty, but I have ZERO trouble finding men who are interested, simply because I am confident and know exactly what I want. Plus, I'm blunt and brutally honest. I say what I feel, mean what I say, and never make anyone work to guess why I'm in whatever mood. There comes a point when looks matter very little in the quest for companionship. It's not "settling", it's called growing up and realizing what's more important.

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Girl is the gainer.

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What Guys Said 18

Generally, women are supposed to be "hotter" or more physically attractive than men. Men value physical attributes more than women do. That's not to say women don't care about looks, but looks is a third or fourth item. If a man is rich, powerful, and/or successful, he can obtain a very physically attractive girl. However, from a business perspective, it's not good to base a long term relationship based on looks. Looks like new cars will fade and drop in value. It's imperative to look at other characteristics of a person. Maybe in your example, he funny or provides the female a safe and comfortable environment. She can be who she is and not worry.

This whole question is silly. Putting every relationship into a gainer/settler perspective only skews the relationship, making one person feel worse about themselves and the other feel better. A truly beautiful relationship is where both people believe themselves to be gainers. Why even try to fit someone into a settler role from an outside perspective?

I don't believe in that crap. If I was with someone that thought I was the gainer I'd dump them there on the spot because I don't like narcissists and if I was with someone who thought I was the settler I'd dump them because I don't like insecure people.

Ugh, what kind of BS is this?Yes, we know women usually look better than men, but hey, that means the guy has some awesome "game" to pull in a beautiful woman like that. I consider game as attitude or personality.It has nothing to do with money, muscles or good looks. Those help, but they are an addition. It's multiplication to life.Or something like that. I don't care.

Why does it matter are you this shallow? Are you some 13 year old girl feeling like she's wins because her new boyfriend is hotter then her ex all that matters is love not 100% looks that's shallow and if that's how you think your not be happy.