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What do you want in bed? (Because we'll help you get it)

Women are more vocal than ever about their right to have the sex they want (hell, yes, we're "entitled to an orgasm" - thanks, Amy Schumer). But that doesn't mean we always know how to get it. Here's how to go after whatever you're craving...

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I want sex more often

"Then you'll need to get aroused more often," says Katharine O'Connell White, director of the family planning fellowship at Tufts University School of Medicine. "Yes, porn can jump-start desire, but most women aren't into the fakeness of it." Instead, seek out other turn-ons. Sexting can work, or Dr White suggests the videos at hystericalliterature.com, where women read books aloud while being stimulated off-camera with a vibrator. "Some research suggests women are most turned on watching other women orgasm," she explains. Or try makelovenotporn.tv - a site where regular people submit their own sex videos for others to rent online.

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I want more orgasms

You, your partner, or both of you need to focus on your clitoris. Try a vibrator - "98% of female orgasms happen when there is clitoral stimulation that lasts anywhere from four minutes to 45," says Tammy Nelson, author of Getting The Sex You Want. Avoid making simultaneous orgasms the goal, though, as they're rare. Instead, ask your partner to make you come - or get you close - before sex starts. "It will prime your vagina by increasing lubrication," adds Dr White. Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet Vibrator (£12.99 lovehoney.co.uk) or MIA 2 from LELO (£33.91 amazon.co.uk).

I want a baby

Skip fertility-tracking apps, which try to predict ovulation. "They frequently get the timing wrong, giving women a wide window when it's actually much more narrow," says Elizabeth Barbieri, a reproductive endocrinology and infertility specialist. "And since they base their estimation on previous cycles, they won't know if there are other factors at play (eg stress)." What works better? Using a supermarket or pharmacy-bought pee-on-the-stick predictor every day during the second week of your cycle (try Clearblue Ovulation Testing Kit £15.99 boots.com). These tell you when ovulation hormones are surging. The method isn't perfect, since you should have sex the day before your surge, as well as the two days you're surging and the day after, but it's your best bet.

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I don't want a baby. Repeat: no baby

Consider a set-it-and-forget-it form of birth control, such as the contraceptive patch or vaginal ring. Or, for long-term contraception that is practically hassle-free for months or years, the intrauterine system (IUS), intrauterine device (IUD) - such as the coil - and contraceptive implants. "Long-term methods empower you to decide when (or if) to start a family," says Boots pharmacist Tom Kallis. "The gold standard is the coil, which is fitted by a medical practitioner and can last for ten years, with an efficacy of over 99%. There are also Depo-Provera injections, or implants, which can last for up to three years before needing to be replaced." Visit the Family Planning Association for more info (fpa.org.uk).

I want full STI protection

First, always use a condom. "Barrier methods, such as the condom or femidom, are the only effective way of preventing against STIs," says Kallis. "Act like using it is a given," says Dr White. But since condoms still won't completely protect you against certain STIs, she suggests getting tested at least once a year for everything, including gonorrhoea, HIV, chlamydia, syphilis, hepatitis B and trichomoniasis.