]]>By: Shirihttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/08/what-wedding-memory-feels-like/#comment-122967
Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:13:19 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/07/wedding-graduate-anna-will/#comment-122967Now that I see your whole name I’m wondering if I know a doppelganger with a very similar family history (and I’m feeling a little creepy!)… does your dad work at Georgetown?
]]>By: Gloriahttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/08/what-wedding-memory-feels-like/#comment-122941
Tue, 14 Aug 2012 04:03:25 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/07/wedding-graduate-anna-will/#comment-122941this makes me more excited for my wedding day!! and i might steal that poem to honor a few close family members and friends that have passed on in the last few years. it’s good to remember, but not let the sadness take away from the joy of having had them in your lives. good luck on your future endeavors!
]]>By: Giggleshttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/08/what-wedding-memory-feels-like/#comment-122918
Mon, 13 Aug 2012 20:58:13 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/07/wedding-graduate-anna-will/#comment-122918There are so many things I love about this. For example:

Forgive me for the Star-Trek-speak, but it was like there was a configuration of the time-space continuum where I needed to be, and in my dress with Will was it. I didn’t care much about what happened between that moment and the ceremony. Sign the Ketubah with the rabbi? Sure, ok. Doing family photographs on the hotel lawn? Fine! As long as I got to stand next to Will, I felt like I was where I needed to be.

I know exactly what that space-time continuum configuration feels like. I still feel it. No matter what’s going on with my life, if I’m literally, or at least figuratively, standing next to him, I’m where I need to be.

And then this part:

If they could bottle the feeling of your wedding day, and you could get toasted on that high whenever you wanted, I don’t know if I would. That’s powerful stuff, and I think should be reserved for the weightiest human moments—life and death—for the specialest of special occasions—like a sort of champagne for the soul.

So true.

I love the feeling of this whole post. Wonderful.

]]>By: Zephyrhttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/08/what-wedding-memory-feels-like/#comment-122917
Mon, 13 Aug 2012 20:51:34 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/07/wedding-graduate-anna-will/#comment-122917This was simply beautiful. Reading the section about your reaction to the poem brought tears to my eyes and the picture of you crying captured so perfectly what I imagine you were feeling. But what I found the most striking is that in that picture and in all the others, there is such an absolute open honesty about your emotions that is breathtaking.
]]>By: Jashsheahttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/08/what-wedding-memory-feels-like/#comment-122916
Mon, 13 Aug 2012 20:38:56 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/07/wedding-graduate-anna-will/#comment-122916I agree with much of this, but think it’s probably equally patronizing for men to be treated like imbeciles when they’re dealing with children or cleaning or cooking.

While I don’t love the fact that nearly every vendor for my wedding has treated me like a potential crazy person, it has to be equally irritating for my male fiance to be outright ignored.

]]>By: Jashsheahttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/08/what-wedding-memory-feels-like/#comment-122914
Mon, 13 Aug 2012 20:29:52 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/07/wedding-graduate-anna-will/#comment-122914The picture of you crying is both heartbreaking and so, so, so life-affirming? Love-affirming? Gorgeous? Not sure what the right word is (probably all of those), but reaffirms my belief that joy and sadness are not opposites, more like parts of a whole. What a lovely tribute to your mother.
]]>By: ElisabethJoannehttp://apracticalwedding.com/2012/08/what-wedding-memory-feels-like/#comment-122912
Mon, 13 Aug 2012 19:43:38 +0000http://apracticalwedding.com/2012/07/wedding-graduate-anna-will/#comment-122912I can’t think of a situation in which strangers are looking for men “zillas” the way they look for “bridezillas.” We have many tropes in which men are incompetent (changing diapers, running vacuums, etc.), and some damaging standards of “manliness” (“I don’t need to see the doctor. It’s just a sprain.”) But I can’t think of situations in which retailers are just waiting to roll their eyes at a man who triple-checks an order or asks a long series of precise questions, the way they are so quick to do (at least in my experience) with brides.

And it’s not just people selling things. As your experience shows, sometimes it’s our own friends and family just waiting to point out you’ve become a “bridezilla.” In my experience, though, sometimes the “It’ll all work out and be lovely” comments from friends are patronizing, but sometimes they’re really helpful.