The Top 7 Things I Learned From a Week's Worth of Comments at A Voice for Men

I have a confession to make: I don’t always read the comments on posts by Men’s Rights Activists.

I realize this might come as a shock to some of you. I mean, one of the main, er, critiques I get from MRAs is that I “cherry pick” comments from MRAs to make them look bad — never mind that it is the comments that make them look bad, not me. But the embarrassing fact is that I often don’t read the comments at all.

In my defense, I have a hard enough time making it through the posts themselves. Life is short, and MRAs are long-winded. And by the time I get to the end of a lot of MRA posts, I’ve pretty much lost my patience with their nonsense. The last thing I want to do at that moment is to read the fawning word-vomit of a bunch of irritating fucks whose comments are likely to be as bad or possibly even worse than the original post.

So today I decided to do a sort of penance for my sins — and to actually read through a week’s worth of comments on A Voice for Men to see what I could learn about the world, and (perhaps more to the point) about the sort of people who actually enjoy reading posts on that terrible site.

I tried my best to do this little experiment as scientifically as possible. But I cheated a little. I didn’t read the comments to every post. And I didn’t read every comment on the posts that I did look at. I mean, what the hell. There’s a limit to my masochism. Seriously, you try reading a week’s worth of this shit in one sitting.

Anyway, here are the Top 7 Insights I’ve learned from a week’s worth of comments at AVFM. In choosing the following, I stuck with comments that were either upvoted or unchallenged by the site’s regulars, or both.

1) Feminists literally want women to be able to kill men with no repercussions.

3) It is “female nature” to falsely accuse men of rape. In another comment on that female “rationalization hamster” post, TheMaskAndRose praises AVFM for running articles addressing the important issue of women being dirty lying you know whats.

5) Don’t marry women because they’re selfish narcissists who won’t let you have a model train set

In the comments to a novella-length post detailing one man’s legal battles with his ex, John Durant reveals that his mother wouldn’t let him have a model train set. And he shares the lesson he took from this childhood tragedy: Avoid women at all costs.

6) Attractive women have no need nor desire for feminism. Or maybe they do? After praising the looks of an antifeminist YouTuber, Sway draws the only possible conclusion from this evidence. Or is it the only possible conclusion? I’m not sure what to believe.

7) Women have too many feelings to be engineers

In yet another comment on that “rationalization hamster post,” Roby 83 compares women — inherently emotional and opinionated — with men — more adept in “objective reasoning.”

There we go again. Sure, at first it’s “I just want to be taxonomically correct”, but all too soon you’re herding innocent gerbils into CAGES!! CAGES!!!

We haven’t forgotten what you Americans did to the guinea pigs, you know. Don’t try to deny it with your “I don’t know what you mean”, or your “That was the Aztecs, not us” or your “Have you been sniffing glue again” – WE KNOW WHAT YOU DID! Trust me, the guinea pigs remember! The gerbils remember! AND I REMEMBER!

NOT THIS TIME! I’m not going to let you get away with it this time if I have to arm EVERY SINGLE GERBIL and lead them myself In. BLOODY.. REVOLUTION!!!!

(for best effect, imagine the above comment was read out loud by Brian Blessed)

I’m trying to remember what I’ve seen Gary Oldman in other than Dracula. I’ve a feeling that’s all there is. Didn’t watch the third Potter film, I gave up after the second. Did have a friend who spent the whole screening, according to her, whispering to her husband, “Gary Oldman looks just like Louis in this!”

Brian Blessed smashing up the wedding breakfast in The History of Tom Jones makes me crack up every time I see it.

Brian Blessed is wholly awesome. He’s just as eccentric irl, totally hilarious, dedicated mountain climber, and has an animal sanctuary kinda place in his grounds.

Gary Oldman was good at scenery chewing in The Fifth Element. Not as goodlooking as he can be, but very enjoyable as the villain.

(eccentric is ok to use, yes ? I had been going to type ‘crazy’ or ‘insane’ but then realised that that would be ableist, even though I was using it as a compliment. I have mental health issues myself, but never really thought about the thoughtless (natch) use of such language in daily conversations before I came here, and don’t want to get it wrong now I know.)

Brian Blessed was apparently briefly considered as Hagrid. I think they went with Robert Coletrain because Rowling liked him best and the only way the Hut on the Rock scene could have played out with Brian Blessed was for the Dursleys to get SLAAAAAIIINN.

One thing I admire about Gary Oldman is that, when I see him in a movie, I never think “wow, Oldman is good in this role.” By comparison, Kenneth Branagh is as good, but I can never forget that I’m watching Kenneth Branagh.

Blessed was great in Flash Gordon – he seemed to be having a roaring good time.

Is it really the prevailing attitudes among them, that these “alpha males” should not marry or breed with females? Way to misunderstand the point of being alpha. But, there within the problem, lieth the solution, so far be it from me to argue the stellar logic.

Pfffft, in my experience, women are better engineers than men. Having a societal pass to understand the emotions of a team makes you a better leader of that team, and hence a better engineer.

Plus, there’s nothing more amusing than watching guys forming cliques, bitching about and backstabbing each other and then attributing those characteristics to women. Of course, as they only understand those behaviours through stereotypes, they’re unlikely to ever have the self-awareness to understand what they’re doing, but it’s worth a (rueful) laugh anyway.

I just wonder where these guys are getting their “false rape claim” data. I have a Master’s Degree in Criminal Justice and my recollection is that statistically, only two percent of reported rape cases were later determined to be false (at least in the US). Most of the time, rape victims (female or male) don’t even file a police report.

Some of the men’s rights guys are a bit off to say the least but that’s not to say they don’t have rights or good arguements as well.
Ray rice loses his job but hope solo is playing for the U.S. team while awaiting trial for assault. If you can’t admit the double standard society has in favor of women then you are just blind or stubborn.
As for the false rape deniers, 2% or 30%, ruining someone’s life is just low. You shouldn’t brush off injustice because it doesn’t agree with your cause.
All you do is degrade and belittle men and what, you expect them to come crawling back to you? Come on…. I believe ok Cupid did a survey and women rated 80% of men as below average looking. Those numbers tell me that women are living in a dream world. I gave up on american women long ago for that reason so I have no dog in the fight so to speak but, I see why men get frustrated.
Both sides have legitimate issues and if you can’t admit that then we all lose.
Sorry my comment is all over the place

Wow! You know me so well! It’s like you have only ever met me via making huge assumptions about commenters on a blog that focuses on mocking misogynists and their tropes used to degrade and belittle women!

Everything I do, I do to degrade and belittle men. Really! Where can I get my degree in Misaandry!

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