The Art of Seduction

They were all renowned charismatics that lit up every room they entered.

You’ve most likely met one of these kinds before. The guy/girl at the party. They possess some strange quality that causes them to be liked by everyone and constantly at the center of attention. Their eyes and the way they carry themselves convey power and magnetism and you can’t quite figure out why.

Robert Greene studied these people and detailed the methods one can use to become a charismatic in his book “The Art of Seduction.” He outlines the 10 characteristics that make up ‘charisma’, effectively quantifying a talent you might think people are simply born with. Here are the 8 of them:

Purpose

Pick a cause, a goal, a vision and live it. People long to have a cause to rally around — something to believe in. You need to believe in it so strongly for that it animates your every gesture. Be self-assured in every scenario. Show that you don’t share the doubts the plague most people. Act as if you know where you are going, even if you aren’t 100% sure.

Mystery

Become mysterious (like Bruce Wayne) by being unpredictable. Don’t hesitate to act on emotional whims as you will only add to your unpredictability. Always leave something about yourself for people to guess at, never fully revealing your true intentions.

Saintliness

Think Gandhi. Live simply. Don’t be swayed by the ebb and flow of life. You are above being affected by the little challenges in life. Saints live their ideas without caring about the consequences.

Eloquence

Speak slowly and hypnotically, with random pauses if needed. Try to be the exact opposite of panicky. If someone calls your name, turn your head slowly. Slow everything down until your every action is riddled with poise.

Theatricality

Be larger than life. Act as if the world is your stage and all eyes are on you 24/7. Stay calm and collected while radiating self-assurance.

Danger/Spontaneity

Radiate dangerous, rebellious sexuality. Be spontaneous. Hold no agendas and be open to anything. Realize that death is inevitable and act as though you look forward to the experience. Be seen taking risks for the good of others. Be brazen in your actions (Lenin walked the streets after receiving death threats). If you show the slightest sign of cowardice or timidity, you’re done for.

Vulnerability

Have a soft side and love your followers. Don’t be too good for them. Enjoy being loved by them and love them back. Don’t seem manipulative or needy. Imagine the public as one person whom you want to seduce.

Magnetism

Develop a piercing gaze. Look in the mirror and play around with different looks until you find one that is powerful. Practice, practice, practice until the gaze is second-nature. When you meet people, look deep into their eyes while you shake their hand. Never look away first. Remember that your eyes can give you away more easily than anything else.