Episode #628 — November 6, 2018

A woman has been with her fiancé for 4 years. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he's started moaning and groaning in bed like a porn starlet. Why the sudden vocalizations? IS HE CHEATING ON HER?
An asexual, non-binary person feels like an invader when they show up at BDSM parties. Is it alright to join that community when you are uninterested in sex?
On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back author, sex educator and bitter podcasting rival Tristan Taormino. She and Dan discuss strap-ons, and how to peg your partner real good.
Two HIV negative gay men have been together for 5 years. They started acting out role-play scenes where one infects the other. It's been super hot, but the caller is uncomfortable even pretending such a thing. He is old enough to remember the worst days of AIDs. Is this role play ok? Or a thought crime?
Do whatchoo wanna.
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Episode #625 — October 16, 2018

A couple adopted a disturbed dog, hell-bent on destroying their sex life! It jumps on the bed, and barks when they try to get busy, and whimpers, barks and whines when left outside the door. Dan "Dog Whisperer" Savage leaps to the rescue.
Speaking of mental illness, Ellen Forney, the brilliant cartoonist behind "Marbles" is back to discuss dating with bipolar disorder, and her new book "Rock Steady." If you are or love someone with bipolar, this is the show for you. Also, you should buy her books immediately.
On the Magnum, Dan chats with a man whose girlfriend suddenly left him with no warning. He came home to discover her packed and gone. Now she wants him back. Should he take her?
And, hear the nasty, nasty tale of the pervvy building contractor with a terrible sense of humor and boundary issues!

Episode #610 — July 3, 2018

A woman has started up with a great new guy. The problem? He kisses "like a robot." And not a sexy robot! How can she train him to kiss properly?
A man's daughter is non-binary, and dating another non-binary. When they have sleep-overs should the father worry about his daughter when her partner is in male mode?
On the Magnum, Dr. Justin Lehmiller is on to talk about his latest book Tell Me What You Want and his research studying what people really fantasize about. Don't you want his job?
A married woman's husband loves it when she talks about her slutty past. But she's running out of stories! Also, should she tell him about her current crush?

Episode #578 — November 21, 2017

A married man is deliciously conflicted as his wife sleeps with women. It turns him on at first, but then jealousy and resentment settle in. How to reconcile?
A woman newly broken up with her boyfriend has some recent boudoir photos kicking around. Should she send them to him?
On the Magnum, listen in on our live show in Vancouver with Esther Perel, author of "Mating in Captivity." Dan and Esther take long hard look at the history of human relationships and our culture's obsession with monogamy.
YOUR DAYS ARE NUMBERED, MONOGAMY.

Episode #561 — July 25, 2017

A gay man hooked up with a hot guy- great lover. But his micro-penis made the caller wonder if his lover was perhaps a transman. Should he ask him? Does it matter?
A man's ten year-old son has come out as gay. The worried father bemoans his child's fate living on the "margins of society." Dan issues a reality check and a rebuke. It's 2017 dad, not the 1800s. "Margins of Society" indeed...
On the Magnum, Jon Ronson, author of "The Psychopath Test" is on to talk about "bespoke pornography" and confirms the maxim: "Everything is a thing."
Also, if your boyfriend calls you a monster for learning that you are into hardcore porn, (after SNOOPING ON YOUR PHONE,) can the relationship be salvaged? Should it be?
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Episode #559 — July 11, 2017

If your Tinder guy can't get it up, should you move on, or give him a chance?
A woman is dating a man 13 years her senior. Is this sort of age difference inherently immoral because...Woody Allen?
On the Magnum, a deep dive into trans world with Buck Angel (a.k.a.
The Man with a Pussy.) He is simply wonderful, and you must listen.
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Episode #549 — May 2, 2017

A gay man living in Jerusalem wants to get with one of the orthodox guys who are always furtively eyeing him. But how can he make his move?
A married man in an open relationship is SO BUSTED when he installs recording devices in his wife's room when she's having a man over. How can he channel his voyeur fetish on a consensual way?
Dan sidles right up next to Rachel Bloom, star and creator of "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" to talk about Tinder jerks, anal novices and getting ogled on stage. Some is on the Micro, all is on the Magnum.
And, a building manager is faced with the unenviable task of chastising a tenant couple for having ear-splittingly loud sex, AND chastising their neighbor for recording the whole thing.
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Episode #547 — April 18, 2017

A woman's in-laws have 12 cats. They won't travel to see the caller's family (including the 2 small children,) because they can't bear to leave the mewling kitties. Are they mentally ill and is there any way to explain this behavior to the kids?
A bondage-loving lass goes to clubs and gets tied up by a strictly platonic tying partner. Her boyfriend is ok with it, but feels a little spooked. How can she reassure him that what she and the tying partner do isn't sex?
On the Magnum, it's our first do-over! Dan realized he cocked up the answer to the woman who would lose bladder control when she gave blow jobs. This time, Dan brings in Dr. Rachel Gelman- an actual pelvic health specialist who knows what the hell she's talking about.
She lives in the UK, he in the States. He is her dom, and also her cousin. They are deeply closeted about their relationship to family and friends. So, what's the problem?
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Episode #541 — March 7, 2017

Are you, (or is someone you love) stuck in a region which refuses to teach realistic sex ed? Never fear, Lindsey Doe from the YouTube channel "Sexplanations" is here to infiltrate and educate. She's our new fave, and you will love her. She and Dan talk about explaining porn to kids, nudist households, and actionable advice to counter meds that dampen libido. Listen to this interview and then go watch all of her videos. Like, right now.
What happens when a sugar daddy relationship ends? Can you go on being friends? Or are some connections meant to be severed?
On the Magnum, a woman, (like Dan) kind of hates cats. And guess what her boyfriend has! He lets it sleep with him, doesn't wash his hands after petting it, and won't alter this behavior. Dan's disgust is palpable.
(The tech-savvy at-risk youth didn't have the heart to explain that we all sleep and cuddle with our cats on the regular. Don't tell him!)
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Episode #540 — February 28, 2017

A woman's 61 year-old father confided that he has discovered kink. Should she help to connect him to kink resources when she herself is vanilla, and also...his daughter?
A man worries that his attraction to East-Indian women might be racist. Dan helps unpack the complicated issues around attraction to specific races.
On the Magnum, Dan talks with Randi Kreger, author and expert on Borderline Personality Disorder about dating someone with this unpleasant condition.
And, all hail the Cuck-Queen! Dan chats with a woman who gets off on her husband sleeping with other women. Dan instructs her on the alchemical art of turning jealousy into lust.