6 Stereotypes Females are Tired of Hearing

As girls, we know what it’s like to be stereotyped.

We’re sensitive. We’re sweet. We apologize for everything. We love to clean and cook. We like ice cream when we’re heart broken and shopping on all occasions. And of course, we all worship Beyoncé.

While one of these stereotypes might be true (YASSS QUEEN), the others are hit or miss, and some are downright offensive. And frankly, we are REALLY sick and tired of stereotypes that interfere with all of the progress we have made as a gender over the past fifty years. They take away from our opportunities as females. They knick at our confidence. And they don’t serve any purpose other than to cut us down.

So, we’re here to address them once and for all. Here are six stereotypes females are tired of hearing.

1. We’re Crazy

Let’s start with one of the most offensive stereotypes of the bunch. Yay.

Yes, we care. Yes, we communicate. Yes, we feel. Yes, we speak up. But none of those things mean we are “crazy.” Crazy is a derogatory term used to describe somebody who has a mental illness. It’s not a nice weird, period. But in the past few decades, the meaning has shifted to describe women that are invested in a relationship that unfortunately is on the fritz.

So no, we’re not crazy – we’re not even desperate or clingy (gasp). We’re actually proud of the fact that we try to talk things out and give a real effort to make relationships work, even if they aren’t that stellar. We like to know that we tried.

For anyone that resorts to calling the girl in their life “crazy,” ask yourself first – are you setting the appropriate boundary? Are YOU speaking up? Are YOU being clear about your wants and needs? Because chances are, you aren’t, and she is. And according to us, that’s no reason to resort to name calling.

2. We Need a Relationship to be Happy

It’s not that we don’t enjoy companionship. We do. But we can also be just as happy hanging with the girls or even flying solo. Relationships do not define us as women. With every decade that passes us there is more and more opportunity to delay a relationship to further our own opportunity. We are founding our own businesses and increasing our education and traveling the world. And frankly, we don’t need a partner to do any of it.

There are endless amounts of perks to being a single woman as well. A little independence can take a woman a long way – and perhaps a relationship can even – dare I say it – hold us back. Being single allows us to focus on what we want out of life – and that is something we definitely need to figure out before we even think about hitching forces with a companion.

Of course, there are many of us who are ready for a relationship – but it will happen when it happens. We don’t depend on it to be happy. We depend on ourselves. (And sometimes our dogs).

3. Caring About Our Career Means We Don’t Care About Family

Wrong.

It’s no secret nowadays that women have the right to choose to pursue both a career and family. We can have both. Not a shocker. However, a prevailing stigma still floats around among us. If we choose to work after we have a career – we’re still moms, yes, but we aren’t top tier. And if we postpone having a family for the sake of a blossoming career – well then, we never planned on being a rockstar mom, anyway.

What is that about? We live in a world of AND, not in a world of OR. So we’ll take both, please.

Plenty of us are climbing up the corporate ladder while also getting married and starting a family. It doesn’t mean we will be absent girlfriends, wives, or mothers – it just means our day to days are becoming a bit busier over time. Of course things might get a little messy along the way, and there WILL be days where it feels like we can’t do it all, but it doesn’t make it a reality. And it certainly doesn’t mean we don’t care.

We are determined to get everything we want out of life now that the choices are readily available. Do we realize that it’s more challenging for us? Yes. Do we know that work-life balance is just ONE of the issues we have to face in the workplace? Also, yes. And considering that most men haven’t ever had to sit back and wonder, “hmm…if I work does that mean I don’t care about my family?” – you can safely assume most of us don’t mull over that question, either. We work for the betterment of our family.

4. We’re Mean to Each Other

Yes, there is evidence that women do not support each other in the workplace. However, there are many reasons that this research could be skewed. First of all, there aren’t as many women in the workforce, period. So naturally it appears that women are in competition with each other because there seems to be less space for them to flourish. Second, women tend to be more verbal than men, so they most likely have a higher report rate due to vocalizing instances more than men do.

But, this doesn’t mean that because a few women are rude to each other, that every female is a “mean girl.” In fact, a lot of us are really supportive of each other. We like to hear about each other’s success stories and enjoy motivating each other as much as we can. Most of us are aware that one girl’s success doesn’t suck up all of the potential for someone else. One girl’s raise doesn’t equal another girl’s demotion. One girl getting married doesn’t mean the other has to be single forever. Life isn’t like a hot club downtown – one in and one out. There is room for all of us, especially if we support one another. And honestly, most of us embrace the support. Yes, bullying is still a major problem – one that Blush and many other organizations are trying to dismantle – but not every girl is out to get each other. Many of us truly believe that the nicer we are to each other, the more potential there is for all of us to grow.

Side note: If you still aren’t convinced, go check out the girl’s bathroom at that bumping night club. You’re seriously missing out. All you’ll hear is compliments, laughs, “no you first!” and a few more compliments.

It’s a good time.

5. We’re Super Difficult to Please

Somewhere along the way, females have been labeled as humans that are incapable of being pleased by their partner. It’s weird. There are these false high standards surrounding what it takes to please a girl.

We don’t long for the day when a loved one buys us diamond earrings or takes us on a weekend vacation to France. (Don’t get us wrong, we’ll take it, but we don’t NEED it.) What most females – and humans in general – want out of life is just to be noticed and appreciated. We want to be treated with respect and compassion. We just want someone to be there and have someone care. 80% of life is showing up, right? So we don’t need the perfect body, the 3 carat ring, or the six figure income – we want our special person to be considerate and in tune with us.

It takes a little bit of focus at times, but overall, just treat us the way you would treat anybody you love.

6. Men’s Behavior Is All Our Fault

This might be equally as aggravating as #1 on this list. But I’ll let you decide.

The other day I was waiting for a Bar Method class in Los Angeles. (So. Hard. Shoot. Me.) Tons of cute, fit girls were chatting in the waiting room while I was awkwardly introverting and pretending to be in a deep stretch in the corner. I find it fun to observe and listen, so naturally I tuned into the lively conversation.

It wasn’t too long before chatter came up about a guy who ghosted one of the cute girls. They had a great date, saw each other a few times after that, texted constantly, and overall, really hit it off.

Then, it stopped.

Of course she was angry! It’s never fun to be rejected. And it’s only natural for her friends to want to come up with theories and reasons as to why he might have fallen off the face of earth – none of which have anything to do with her. That’s what good friends do. It’s a ritual.

But, in the midst of the brainstorming session, one girl offered a rather interesting insight:

“I know what happened. It’s always the same.”

“What? Tell me!”

“It’s his mother. It’s always the mother. Mommy issues, you know. The mom screws up, so we have to suffer.”

My mouth hung open for the rest of class.

I’m sorry – but is that not the most unfair thing you’ve ever heard? What a damaging stereotype. I thought about it over and over again for the rest of the day.

I mean, after all, we are the crazy ones who blew up their phone and forced them to dump us. We are the clingy ones who always want to hang out and chat all night. Plus, everyone knows we NEED a relationship in order to be happy.

Psh.

But really, it doesn’t even matter. Because even if we did everything “right” by defying every unfair stereotype – another woman must have messed him up before we even got to him. An ex-girlfriend, a big sister, maybe an unrequited love. But if none of those girls fit the bill – then it’s gotta be the mother.

Somewhere along the line, a woman got to him. We are not to be trusted.

I’m not saying that all women are *perfect* and that we are immune to messing other humans up. I’ve probably done a number on a few of my ex-boyfriends (sorry, guys). But I realized in that moment there is a sweeping generalization that it is the female’s responsibility to make sure males treat us well. That is a LOT of pressure for women to carry. And shouldn’t we all be accountable for our own behaviors?

The way I see it is, if I choose to act like a jerk, then that’s my choice. I don’t blame it on my dad. I don’t blame it on my mom. I don’t even blame it on my ex boyfriends. I’m just choosing to act like a jerk and that’s disappointing but hey, it’s my choice. An individual’s behavior – regardless of gender – is the individual’s responsibility. Of course tons of factors play into behavior – institutionalized misogyny, racism, bigotry, homophobia – a lot of bullshit that people have to deal with on a daily basis. But it’s not ok to blame a gender as a whole. Instead, try to identity those factors and advocate for the oppressed’s behalf. Don’t lean into it. That’s the worst.

Moral of the story: let’s stand together and fight off any detrimental stereotypes against us. We’re awesome, so let’s make sure *everyone* respects that.

Blush you!

Tell us below, what are some stereotypes you have to encounter regularly as a female?