Focus Only on What You Want

Written by Christy Whitman October 14, 2012

This is a lesson that I have learned even in the hardest point in my life. . .

The day my son Maxim turned two months old we took him for his regular checkup, and he was rushed to the emergency room because the doctor felt he looked blue. The team of ER doctors and nurses swarmed around him, placing an oxygen mask on his little tiny face, and attaching tubes to small veins. My husband and I had no idea what was happening with our little baby.

We were brought into a small room with one of the cardiologists, and she informed us that he had an issue with his heart. His main arteries were not connected correctly, and he was not able to breathe. To make matters worse, babies born with this condition usually had corrective surgery a week after their birth, most within days. Because Maxim was two months old they considered this a high-risk surgery, and they needed to do a procedure on him immediately.

This was the scariest situation I have ever experienced in my life. And one thing that I know to be true is that in order to create the outcome that you want in any area of your life, you must focus on what you want, and not on what you don’t want. I have seen great success in my business because I always declare what I want, and then I focus only on that vision coming into manifestation. This situation was no different.

My husband and I started talking about the vision that we had, and we would focus on nothing but that vision. My son is now a year old. He is doing great, and he is completely healthy and very strong.

In all areas of my life I focus on three simple questions, and these questions get me the success, fulfillment and ultimately the outcome I want.

1. What do you want? Be very clear about the vision that you have in all areas of your life: body, finances, career, family, relationships, spirituality. Clarity is key in creating what you want. Be very specific in what you desire. If you would like your bank account to have more money, how much is more money? I asked my husband one day if he could create anything, what would it be? He was being silly looking outside into our new backyard and he said, “A pool full of money.” I started to think, if I was going to get him a pool of money, where would I even start? How big should the pool be? A baby pool, or an Olympic-sized pool? And what type of money? Should it be one hundred dollar bills or pennies? If I were trying to fulfill his wish like the Universe is always trying to fulfill ours, I wouldn’t know where to start, because he wasn’t specific enough about what he wanted. With Maxim’s situation, we were very clear that we wanted our son to be healthy and strong. We wanted our family all back together again. I wanted both of my sons to be in the same room playing with one another. We wanted to be able to travel and explore as a family, now and as the boys grow older. We wanted joy in our house. We wanted happiness. We wanted everyone in total well-being. So declare what you want and be very specific.

2. Why do you want it? What are all the reasons that you want these things? If you decided that you wanted to make an additional $40,000 a year (getting very specific on the goal), why then do you want that additional $40,000? What will it do for you? Will you be able to travel more? Will you be able to shop for the clothes that you want to wear? Maybe the extra money will help you work with a coach to help you get to a more fulfilling place in all areas of your life. With Maxim, we wanted what we wanted because having our family all together is fun, and there is a lot of love. We wanted to be able to have all of our attention on our two boys in the same place at the same time. We wanted our boys to be able to enjoy their lives. Because it feels better to have everyone healthy. Why do you want what you want?

3. How will you feel when you achieve it? This is the most important part. In order for the Universe to bring to you what you want, you need to be in vibrational alignment with it. If you want to be abundant, you first have to feel abundant. If you want to have greater success, you first have to feel success. We want what we want because somehow the receiving of it will make us feel a certain way. With Maxim, we wanted to feel joy. We wanted to feel secure. We wanted to feel safe. What is it that you want to feel in your life?

Once you identify what you want, why you want it, and how you will feel when you achieve it, you then want to connect with the feeling of having it.

Every day when Maxim was in the hospital I would connect with feeling secure, knowing that he is already healthy, strong and on his way home. We would feel the joy of what it will feel like when we bring him home from the hospital knowing that he is now in perfect health.

In my business I focus on the feeling of success and abundance. There is no other feeling I hold, and that is why my business, which I started from the dining room table in my husband’s condo almost five years ago, is now projected to generate over a million dollars in sales this year.

It works for me. It works for my clients. And it will work for you, as a mom and as a working woman.