I am going to check out Wordpress and blogspot and Live Journal. This place irritates me with all of the junk advertising. Like i want my blog filled with advertisements to find surrogate mothers. Vomit.

I want to start writing again. It is so difficult to do this. Sometimes i just want to stick my head up my ass and pretend I have never heard of surrogacy or adoption. I wish i could, but it is totally who i am. I guess you can say i m stuck with it.

I UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN. I GUESS IS HUMAN NATURE TO ALWAYS BE UNHAPPY ABOUT SOMETHING......THERE ARE NATURAL PARENTS WHO ABUSE THEIR CHILDREN,NEGLECT THEM, EVEN KILL THEM YOU SEE THIS IN THE NEWS EVERYDAY. I GUESS THOSE CHILDREN SHOULD STAY WITH THEIR NATURAL PARENTS ACCORDING TO YOU. YOU ARE FAILING TO TALK ABOUT THE SITUATION OF THOSE CHILDREN...IT IS NOT SO BLACK OR WHITE AS YOU PRESENT IT.......NOT TO MENTION THAT TO MAKE BABIES DOES NOT TAKE A GREAT EFFORD,EVEN TO HAVE THEM FOR SOME WOMEN IS AN EASY TASK. THE GREATEST MERIT IS TO RAISE A CHILD,IN A CONSISTENT LOVING WAY ,THAT IS CALLED PARENTING. THIS MESSAGE IS FROM AN ADULT WHO AS A CHILD MANY TIMES WISHED AN ADOPTIVE FAMILY CAME TO RESCUE HER FROM HER NATURAL PARENTS. MAY GOD ALLOW YOU TO HEAL SOON....

Hi Brian - I like your blog and I too am donor-concevied. I think your emotions, at least those I read on the landing page are universal across the donor conceived population so don't feel alone. I love that you are blogging because the only way to change things from policy to perception is to let our voices be heard. In addition to the blog I have also been interviewing a lot of our peers and writing for Technorati (Blog News site) and perhaps we need to talk more about surrogacy. Let me know your thoughts.

I'm going to list your blog on my site.

Also, if you are interested, I would like to have you as a guest blogger on my site at some point to talk about the differences (if there are any) between the egg donor and sperm donor scenario. I'm the product of an anonymous sperm donor and maybe there are differences but I'm not sure. Surrogacy also adds a different dynamic.

Please check out and comment on my blog "Connect It" at anytime connectitblog.blogspot.com. Or look for me on Facebook under "Girl Conceived" or "Donor Conceive."

Ok first off if the traditional mother doesn't go into the pregnancy with the mind set of its not her baby she cant help a couple or person have a child that they desperatly want. Your still in your teens and your a male. I cant imagine what its like having to hear or read that, but at the same time any decent surrogate isnt trying to hurt the child. If we dont think of it in those terms we would want to keep our babies, and cause more damage then good. You should be greatful that someone wanted you before you were even conceived. You should stop bitching and complaining that your life is so terrible beause honestly you have a mom and dad that love you so much that theyd do anything to have you. who cares if your mom isnt biological she gave up alot emotional to even think of doing a surrogacy. and the surrogate mother gave her time, body, egg, and put aside her emotional ties so you could have life. Yea we get paid, but since youve never been pregnant you dont know how hard it is or the risks involved. Your surrogate mother could have died, became infertile, or any other of the risks that go along with a pregnancy. Ladys have to cary a baby for 10 months not 9, we have to make sure we eat enough, eat healthy, try and get excersise, and take vitamins that make you puke, all while carrying an extra 20+ lbs in our midsection. Next time you complain that you disapprove of surrogacy why don't you look at it from your parents perspective or the surrogates. Stop being a winey bitch and be thankful for the life and parents you have.

I feel badly for you. Your views on surrogacy are so warped! Your feelings about being the product of an egg donation are not the rule! They are not the way any child of surrogacy (that I have spoken with) feels. Surrogacy is NOT adoption! NOT!!!!! I have 2 friends who asked 2 different Gestational Surrogates to carry a donated egg and their husband's sperm. The moms are on the birth certificate - listed as the natural mom, yet they are genetically not related. The children born to these families are loving, smart, joyful and have the VERY typical childhood that their peers do.

These children would have NEVER been born if there wasn't a woman desperate to become a mom! You were NOT given up or unwanted. Get over yourself! You were created, not because yourbiological mom created you, but because the woman who raised you was deperate to be YOUR mom!