I don't know what to do anymore

I dont know what to do anymore I have a nine month old daughter and I'm pregnant with my second and my partner has walked out on me . I'm having anxiety attacks my daughter is is bed and I just don't know what to do I can't stop crying and I have no idea if and when I'll see him again

I dont know what to do anymore I have a nine month old daughter and I'm pregnant with my second and my partner has walked out on me . I'm having anxiety attacks my daughter is is bed and I just don't know what to do I can't stop crying and I have no idea if and when I'll see him again

He has a drinking problem and is very abusive , I put my foot down about him never helping me with our daughter and him favoring his child from another relationship ( he completely ignores our Daughter but showers his other daughter with gifts love and attention) .im disgusted in his lack of interest in our daughter she is such a happy bubbly little monkey who is nothing but a pure joy to be around and he is missing out on it . He made a few abusive phone calls ( he is drunk) to tell me he hates me etc ... I've spent the last few hours trying to calm myself down as I obviously can't get too worked up because I'm told it's not good for the baby :(

He has a drinking problem and is very abusive , I put my foot down about him never helping me with our daughter and him favoring his child from another relationship ( he completely ignores our Daughter but showers his other daughter with gifts love and attention) .im disgusted in his lack of interest in our daughter she is such a happy bubbly little monkey who is nothing but a pure joy to be around and he is missing out on it . He made a few abusive phone calls ( he is drunk) to tell me he hates me etc ... I've spent the last few hours trying to calm myself down as I obviously can't get too worked up because I'm told it's not good for the baby :(

To update , had my daughter asleep and I was falling asleep in bed about an hour and a half ago , partner tried to call 5 times I ignored it because I knew it would be abuse, answered 7 th time and he told me in a drunken rage if I was there when he returned he would beat my face in until there is nothing left . I hung up , woke my baby up and left , I have never packed a bag so quickly in my life . It's amazing the reactions we have when we know our children are in danger . So I drive for half an hour to my parents house and we are just settling down here for the remainder of the night, partner has called about 20 times each with a voicemail i refuse to listen too . My daughter is such a trooper she's not complained once She is just snuggled up nexto me in bed ( no cott here) keeping mummy warm . . . I thought last year I had received my fair share of heart break and bad luck but obviously it was only the beginning based on tonight

To update , had my daughter asleep and I was falling asleep in bed about an hour and a half ago , partner tried to call 5 times I ignored it because I knew it would be abuse, answered 7 th time and he told me in a drunken rage if I was there when he returned he would beat my face in until there is nothing left . I hung up , woke my baby up and left , I have never packed a bag so quickly in my life . It's amazing the reactions we have when we know our children are in danger . So I drive for half an hour to my parents house and we are just settling down here for the remainder of the night, partner has called about 20 times each with a voicemail i refuse to listen too . My daughter is such a trooper she's not complained once She is just snuggled up nexto me in bed ( no cott here) keeping mummy warm . . . I thought last year I had received my fair share of heart break and bad luck but obviously it was only the beginning based on tonight

I know it sounds harsh but have you told the cops abt this? Especially after threatening your life?im sorry you're going through this especially with a child and another on the way. You owe it to yourself and your babies to be safe. Call the cops

I know it sounds harsh but have you told the cops abt this? Especially after threatening your life?im sorry you're going through this especially with a child and another on the way. You owe it to yourself and your babies to be safe. Call the cops

Keep all the abusive voice mail messages and texts he sent you while in this drunken rage. They will help you get a restraining order and to stop him from getting unsupervised visits. Go back during the day with your parents and some friends and get all yours and your kid's stuff, because he'll probably wreck it otherwise. This guy is no good, and from the sounds of it he doesn't love you or your babies. I'm so glad you left and you've got supportive parents nearby. I usually think you should try and salvage a marriage or domestic partnership wherever possible, especially when there are children involved, but I draw the line at abuse. End the relationship permanently. Good luck.

Keep all the abusive voice mail messages and texts he sent you while in this drunken rage. They will help you get a restraining order and to stop him from getting unsupervised visits. Go back during the day with your parents and some friends and get all yours and your kid's stuff, because he'll probably wreck it otherwise. This guy is no good, and from the sounds of it he doesn't love you or your babies. I'm so glad you left and you've got supportive parents nearby. I usually think you should try and salvage a marriage or domestic partnership wherever possible, especially when there are children involved, but I draw the line at abuse. End the relationship permanently. Good luck.

I haven't even listened to the voicemails yet , I feel sick when I think about it , this is just what happens every few months when he loses it and drinks alot and works himself into a rage etc it's always the same routine , I'm glad he is predictable , it helps me assess how bad the situation is and exactly what I need to do.im keeping a paper trail, have been for a while. I know it's hard for people to understand but when he's not drinking he can be so lovely etc thats how it works they do these things then become extremely apologetic etc

I haven't even listened to the voicemails yet , I feel sick when I think about it , this is just what happens every few months when he loses it and drinks alot and works himself into a rage etc it's always the same routine , I'm glad he is predictable , it helps me assess how bad the situation is and exactly what I need to do.im keeping a paper trail, have been for a while. I know it's hard for people to understand but when he's not drinking he can be so lovely etc thats how it works they do these things then become extremely apologetic etc

My parents relationship was much like this... Not as abusive but from the kids point of view this is very scary... My dad was a very gentle and sweet man but alcohol made him become someone else... Please think about your children before you subject them to this lifestyle... I can't tell you how much it affected me and still affects me. Some nights I wake up to the nightmares of the past and I've learnt quickly what it was like to be an adult... I love my father to death but if he had chose the alcohol over me I wouldn't be a part of his life... I'd never want my kids to go through what I went through... Give him a final ultimatum his family or the alcohol and mean it... Pack your bags and stay with someone if he doesn't come for you in a few days I'd say the relationship can't be salvaged and you're best to move on.

My parents relationship was much like this... Not as abusive but from the kids point of view this is very scary... My dad was a very gentle and sweet man but alcohol made him become someone else... Please think about your children before you subject them to this lifestyle... I can't tell you how much it affected me and still affects me. Some nights I wake up to the nightmares of the past and I've learnt quickly what it was like to be an adult... I love my father to death but if he had chose the alcohol over me I wouldn't be a part of his life... I'd never want my kids to go through what I went through... Give him a final ultimatum his family or the alcohol and mean it... Pack your bags and stay with someone if he doesn't come for you in a few days I'd say the relationship can't be salvaged and you're best to move on.

I am glad you are sticking to your guns. He doesn't deserve you or your kids. A man who threatens or puts his hands on a woman is a piece of sh!t in my eyes. Keep up the good work. You should be proud of yourself.

I am glad you are sticking to your guns. He doesn't deserve you or your kids. A man who threatens or puts his hands on a woman is a piece of sh!t in my eyes. Keep up the good work. You should be proud of yourself.

I changed my online name just so it does not have my full name but it's still me. My baby and I have finally caught up on sleep after last nights events. I go to extreme lengths to protect my daughter from seeing and hearing anything to do with her dads meltdowns, I try not to cry infront of her and even when I cry I smile and play silly games with her so she still feels everything is ok , I think I have done a good job at protecting her, and like I said, in the mean time I've been smart about it , taken pics of damage, written a diary and kept particular msgs. My daughter is very young and not aware of anything at this point but I promised myself when she starts getting effected then that's it.im considering my next moves very carefully doing a lot of thinking and trying to just relax a bit befor a make descisions, and when I'm around my daughter I'm not miserable about this , she takes that weight of my shoulders and we just have fun and smile, for a baby in the middle of a war I'm proud to say she is the happiest kid I've ever seen and I believe it has come from how I've kept the situation with her dad at bay when she's around . If push came to shove has anyone here ever achieved full custody ?

I changed my online name just so it does not have my full name but it's still me. My baby and I have finally caught up on sleep after last nights events. I go to extreme lengths to protect my daughter from seeing and hearing anything to do with her dads meltdowns, I try not to cry infront of her and even when I cry I smile and play silly games with her so she still feels everything is ok , I think I have done a good job at protecting her, and like I said, in the mean time I've been smart about it , taken pics of damage, written a diary and kept particular msgs. My daughter is very young and not aware of anything at this point but I promised myself when she starts getting effected then that's it.im considering my next moves very carefully doing a lot of thinking and trying to just relax a bit befor a make descisions, and when I'm around my daughter I'm not miserable about this , she takes that weight of my shoulders and we just have fun and smile, for a baby in the middle of a war I'm proud to say she is the happiest kid I've ever seen and I believe it has come from how I've kept the situation with her dad at bay when she's around . If push came to shove has anyone here ever achieved full custody ?

I just hate that you're bringing another child into this situation with him..... But now just protect yourself and stay away from him. Like others have said try to get a restraining order. Don't let him sweet talk you back into the house on one of his sober days. Good luck.

I just hate that you're bringing another child into this situation with him..... But now just protect yourself and stay away from him. Like others have said try to get a restraining order. Don't let him sweet talk you back into the house on one of his sober days. Good luck.

Things were going well at one point or another and I do love him which is why there is another baby in the equation. I am a very good mother so regardless of what he's doing I will look after my kids . Like I said , my daughter is always very happy.i don't let it effect her

Things were going well at one point or another and I do love him which is why there is another baby in the equation. I am a very good mother so regardless of what he's doing I will look after my kids . Like I said , my daughter is always very happy.i don't let it effect her

Yes! Full custody is not impossible. It is tough, but not impossible. You are gonna have to prove he is putting your child's life in danger. Which doesn't sound like it will be hard. Good luck and stay strong!!

Yes! Full custody is not impossible. It is tough, but not impossible. You are gonna have to prove he is putting your child's life in danger. Which doesn't sound like it will be hard. Good luck and stay strong!!

Soo .. I finally took a leap and listened to the voicemails from last night , they are worse than I thought I feel sick , 24 separate msgs all telling me he would harm myself and my family , that I should just abort our second child ... I saved all of them but im just sick to the stomach thinking about this...

Soo .. I finally took a leap and listened to the voicemails from last night , they are worse than I thought I feel sick , 24 separate msgs all telling me he would harm myself and my family , that I should just abort our second child ... I saved all of them but im just sick to the stomach thinking about this...

RUN don't walk to the local police. You need an order of protection and they seem pretty traffic so in sure if the police heard them to they will probably have him picked up. I know it's not fun having your SO arrested but in this case I think it's a necessity.

RUN don't walk to the local police. You need an order of protection and they seem pretty traffic so in sure if the police heard them to they will probably have him picked up. I know it's not fun having your SO arrested but in this case I think it's a necessity.

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