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mamak627 wrote:

So my husband downloaded snapchat last week. He never does social media. Anyway I helped him set it up and added people for him, some of our friends included (girls). Anyways I found out he's been taking screen shots of my two best friends snap chat pictures? He claims he doesn't know how to use it and it was an accident, but he never took one screen shot of mine? Or any of the guys, just my two girl friends. My friends texted me and told me. I'm a little bothered by it. What's he doing with their pictures??

It's not likely you would accidentally screenshot a snapchat. It sounds like he had no idea it would notify the person he was screenshotting. Did you ask what the snapchats were of? I would definitely not be happy, that's kind of creepy. I would ask to see the photos on his phone, if it was an accident he would've deleted them right away, if they're still there it was most likely purposely. And he may be screenshotting other stuff that you don't know of yet.

He didn't know it would alert them, you're right. I actually looked through his phone after my friends told me and saw the screen shots. Most were in the "deleted folder" but one was of my friends cleavage! That was NOT on accident. What's he jerking off to my friends? I'm disgusted. And of course he's denying and playing dumb so that's that.

He was at the very least saving it to look at longer than the ten seconds. I'm sorry I would be completely disgusted as well. This is not something I would let go easily. It's not some random women on the internet these are your best friends, not only is it hurtful but it's embarrassing your friends seeing him doing this. I would tell him he needs to be honest with you or he will be causing more of an issue than it already is. Not sure what kind of phone you have but as far as I know you need to press two buttons on opposite sides of the phone to screenshot, and just happens to be of cleavage? I don't think so.

I would be so pissed. I imagine my SO doing this and I can see myself smacking him in the face! Moreso that I am very hormonal and very easily jealous right now. Seriously though, I would talk to your SO and urge him to be honest with you. Dont let him go easy.

Omg! I have snapchat and I didn't know it alerted people of screenshots but thankfully I never thought to screenshot one. I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm a bit mortified for your husband. It's sad but he yes, he was clearly taking pics of her boobs. Do you trust your husband? Did he delete the app? I would give him this one chance but also let him know that you're very hurt. As for your friend, yikes. She's definitely told her husband and that could cause some definite weirdness going forward but that's what happens. Since he did it to two of your girlfriends they probably think your husband is a creep and I would be so embarrassed. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

I would ask my husband to unfriend/unfollow/delete (idk how snap chat works) all of my female friends. I would tell him they thought it was creepy and felt uncomfortable and you are mortified he would do that.

I don't understand snap chat. Why take pictures that disappear in a few seconds? It's just Instagram but there are no remaining pictures. I think it's stupid and a high school app. Just another platform to encourage oversharing of selfies and such.

I also had no idea that it alerted you that someone takes a screen shot.

Oh yuck. I wonder if someone he knows told him about using Snapchat for this purpose and that's why he wanted it. How embarrassing. I would make him delete the app. I'm so sorry you are going through this!

You realize you're getting mad at him for screen shotting a picture, right? Do you know how petty that sounds? If you didn't want him looking at your friends, why give him their screen names? If you're friend didn't want him to see "her shirt," why even send the picture and go to you telling you your husband looked at it? (And really... her shirt?? She knew damn good well what she was doing when she took that picture...) anyway, That's just dumb. If you guys can't handle snap chat, there's a problem....

If it were me? I'd make it a joke, "Hey- heard you took a screen shot of so-and-so's new shirt. Want me to see if I can find it in your size?" And move on. he deleted it.. No need to blow it up into something it wasn't.

Way to blame the girl for OP's husband taking a creepy screenshot of her. Are you for real? Now it's her friend's fault for what? For having boobs? It's not as if she sent it specifically to OP's husband! Do you have snapchat? It's incredibly weird. It's as if OP's husband snapped a shot of these women while they weren't expecting it to look at later. That's very bizarre.

He deleted them, could've very well been that he had no idea what he was doing. I've accidentally screen shot my home screen before. And sorry but your friend....come on. If the snap shot was innocent as showing a shirt, why would she be creeped that someone took a screen shot? If the pic was inappropriate that's the only reason I see her being upset. You obviously don't trust your husband. This issue is deeper than social media....that you helped him set up and gave him connections on. Before you blow up I suggest you have a calm convo about expectations. Let him know your feelings are hurt but I urge you to calm down.

I'm using with you on almost everything, but I think screen shotting a picture of his wife's friends is really weird. He doesn't need to keep pictures like that. That's not even the purpose of the app.

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