So it’s the New Year, where we curse the things that happened in the past year and make exaggerated promises of things we are going to do differently in the New Year. However clichéd or redundant it sounds, I love it.

In life you don’t get a rewind button, but for me this is my personal pause button. Every year after Christmas I go into this mental hibernation. Wherein I switch off and start planning of what I want for the New Year. I tell myself okay now I don’t need to think about what has happened, it’s all over and in the new year these issues will cease to exist or matter. And every year I fail miserably, and find myself at the same point, loving or hating the same things, making the same choices, no new discoveries and no self-driven life altering experiences. Yet I refuse to give up the dream of a brand new year, a restart button.

Just like the general consensus all over the world, 2016 was a terrible year. Personally I felt myself drowning, and just when I hit rock bottom, it was Christmas. And just like that I started to resurface; the promise of a new year literally became my life jacket. I felt like I was getting a chance to make things right again for myself. So I sat and thought hard what will this year be about, what am I going to do differently and finally the only resolution I made was to make the new year magic last the whole year.

And this is how I plan to do it – Reflect… Resolve… Reinvent.

Reflect of all things going well and wrong, and truly understand what all was under my control.

Resolve things that were a consistent obstacle in my life that could easily carry into the year or years ahead. For things under my control I made a path of resolution for each of these. This meant my coping mechanisms, my communication skills, conflict resolution, finding a time out, financial stability, social life… it covered it all. And for all the bad things not under my control I am teaching myself to accept and either adapt to it or let it go.

Reinvent myself, my routines, and my choices. Trying to keep the fun creative side of me alive. Something that is not dependent on routines, work, finances, and people.

All of this sounds nice and fancy. How does it practically pan out

Every 1st of the month is a chance to start over

When something bums me out, speak it out

I give myself maximum one day to crib about things, and then it is time to move on

Everyday I dress up, wear kajal especially

Once a month date night with the hubby

One self indulgent activity every month

Making time for my friends

Writing again

Lots of pictures

Baking

Saying NO to things I don’t want to do

Surrounding myself in my room, house, office with beautiful things

Decluttering, throwing or giving away things I don’t need

Family outing once a month

Spending time with my parents and sister

Solo time in or out of the house

Catching more movies

Travel every quarter

Health check ups

Addressing concerns with the person involved directly, instead of whining to others

Complimenting others

More thank yous, please, good mornings and good nights.

Smiling

Lots of kisses and hugs

So here’s wishing you guys a happy new year and a new beginning. And wish me luck to keep the magic of New Year going.

Will keep you all posted on how it goes.

A fashion enthusiast, trained dancer and qualified developmental psychologist... constantly on a path of discovering herself, her joys and passions and the beautiful complexities of people and relationships. January 20, 2017 by Soumini Menon | 0 comment

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A fashion enthusiast, trained dancer and qualified developmental psychologist... constantly on a path of discovering herself, her joys and passions and the beautiful but maddening complexities of people and relationships.

A first time blogger, Soumini Menon, writes and shares about matters close to her heart, personal and professional, giving you a small privy into her mind and heart.