After the election: How to deal with 'who did you vote for?'

It's finally the day after election day. And odds are, you're wondering who your family and friends voted for. Is it okay to ask?

If you choose to answer the question, be prepared for possible repercussions. People may not like your answer. If you don’t want to answer the question then you can re-direct by talking about the importance of secret ballot. Or, just say that you don’t want to talk about it.

If someone asks who you voted for then you can ask them who they voted for. Some people may give you a straightforward answer. Some people will ask the question, but not answer it.

Before you ask who they voted for, have a moment of zen. Monitor your tone of voice. Calm and steady. Watch for squinted eyes. Or tighten lips.

Handling The Fallout Of Sharing Your Vote

This election has been heated so it's expected that not everyone will agree with your candidate choice. People will respond in a variety of ways. Some may not say anything and look at you with a blank face. Others might question your logic or argue with you.

Considering that many people think asking the question is rude, it’s better not to continue asking others about their votes. This limits the possibility of problems with someone else. In the big picture, knowing how a few people voted isn’t going to the change the election outcome.

If you disagree then focus on the facts and that the person voted. Don't criticize someone's character.