Be The Star You Truly Are!

If you’ve read my book, “Find Your mini-Qs (?) Reveal The Slim, Strong, Sexy Star You Truly Are! at Age 50, 60, 70, and Beyond”, you probably remember my talking about a fun way to avoid eating things that will lead to your becoming less fit when you’re out with others. This is especially true around the holiday party season that’s getting into full swing now. During a “Six Week – Strong, Slim, Sexy Seminar” I held a few years ago, we were discussing how to not be swayed into overeating or eating poorly when out with others. When I thought the session had been completed, I happened to talk about an experience I had while serving on a Jury. The person on trial wasn’t being accused of having committed a life threatening crime. He was accused of stealing from Bloomingdale’s and there was a video showing him taking the item from a counter. His penalty wouldn’t be atrocious. Before any discussion began our Jury Forman asked whoever thought he was guilty to raise their hand. All hands went up! He then said, “Now, let’s discuss why he may not have been guilty. The discussion took 7 minutes and we voted and the judge commended us for our handling the case.

Tom Stajmiger, a brilliant participant in that seminar jumped up and said, “What a great Idea! Whenever I’m out at a buffet business lunch I’m going to point at the items laid out on the serving table and give each one a “Guilty!” or a ‘Not Guilty” vote. The guilty items won’t have the pleasure of being eaten by me!

Do you see how brilliant that idea truly is? It’s not that “you can’t have the cake”. It’s that the cake doesn’t get to have you! You don’t lose – the cake loses! This takes the “no no” feeling out of making a choice not to have food you don’t need to have. It’s been working for me and, the each time I’ve bumped into Tom in town he seems to have gotten fitter and fitter and fitter. When last I saw him, he was in great shape!

The point is to make the process as much fun as possible. Believe it or not, in time you won’t even crave the things that aren’t the best choices for you! Try it the next time you have to choose food with a group of people at a business or social event.

Bobbie Horowitz Productions

This may pertain more to entertainers choosing what shows they will see than to audience members who aren’t in the “biz”. I can certainly identify with people who feel they can’t say “no” when it came to seeing shows their friends want to see, therefore missing out on entertainments they want to see. I would like audience members, who aren’t in the entertainment business go to every possible show they can go to. However, my joy is to see them buying the tickets because they want to. I want new audience memebers to keep coming to theater! If pleasing their friend gets them to buy a ticket to a show and they’ve never been to theater before – and after seeing the show they fall in love with live entertainment – that’s another story. I feel that live entertainment is your gift to yourself. If you’re feeling you “have” to see everything or what your friends want to see rather than what you want to see, the joy you’d normally get out of it can be lessened.

I wrote a parody of Vernon Duke’s, “Autumn in New York” that I call “Scheduling in New York!” I have a feeling the concept holds for many places in this country and around the globe. I think that the “Guilty” or “Not Guilty” process could help potential audience members. See which entertainments will serve you most. Granted many will be good for you, however, there are just so many hours in a day and so many things you can possibly attend. People involved in the performing arts are especially prone to feeling they have to go to everything. God forbid, they should hurt a fellow entertainer’s feeling by missing their show. Entertainers, producers and writers also want the others in the field to see their shows so they feel they’d best see everyone’s show. I’ll admit I can find myself feeling terrified of missing someone’s show. But I can’t go to more than two a night and, if shows are scheduled at the same time I can’t go to both.

To stay physically and mentally fit we need to learn to be able to say “no” to some entertainments. The entertainers in them and the projects’ and the projects’ creators have to understand that people can’t be out 24hours a day seeing everything. Look at each commitment that’s facing you and say either “Guilty!” or “Not Guilty!”– i.e., “Dear product – I don’t need you enough to go through what it would take to promote you. “ Then to a person who feels you have to be at their show – “Perhaps I can see your show and help you out another time. “

Is it great to support friends and colleagues? You bet it is. That said, you can give only so much audience support during any given day or week! When you really want to attend a friend’s event or you really feel you need to support – and it helps if they’re emotionally supporting you as well.

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My new book: "Find Your mini-Qs(?) Reveal The Slim, Strong, Sexy Star You Truly Are! at Age 50, 60, 70, and Beyond" is available on my site: www.bobbiehorowitz.com Click on Author
(You’ll find out what a mini-Q is when you read the book!)
I put various systems together and fitted them all to my lifestyle. I don’t feel as though I’m doing extra work and I’m having fun with each step each day. I help you design YOUR OWN path that fits right into YOUR lifestyle.
I choose to avoid any past terminology with “diet” or "system", etc that our brain wants to fight. You can read about why I do this in the book! You can have FUN and get into YOUR optimum shape.
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BOBBIE’S BIO

Bobbie began her theatrical career as an actress, studying with Stella Adler, Lee Strasberg and Gene Frankel. She appeared in over thirty NYC productions in theaters such as: Playwright’s Horizon’s, AMAS Rep., Hudson Guild, The Gene Frankel Theater, TNC, All Souls’ Players, and the Jean Cocteau Repertory. She also appeared in regional theater and summer stock, working with Jose Ferrer, Katherine Houghton and others.

Bobbie founded and served as Co-Executive/Artistic Director (1999-2006) of The Times Square Group, a not for profit, arts-in-education company, bringing arts education to students in New York City public high and junior high schools. The schools served ranged from arts focused schools to special schools for troubled students.

A half of the comic musical writing/performing team Horowitz & Spector, she won a MAC Award (Manhattan Association of Cabarets & Clubs) for their show, Whatever Happened To the Kids From Brooklyn? Their songs have received NY Daily News, Billboard and ASCAP awards and have been played on theatrical musical country radio stations. The pair can be seen on You Tube. Tony winner, Chuck Cooper recorded their song, Together America”
. Bobbie now writes for cabaret performers and is writing a musical. She wrote a musical, The S.C.R.A.P. Workshop with John Meyer and was asked to write a special tribute the top earner of Isagenix. She performed the song at the Mandalay Bay Resort in Las Vegas.

She was Executive Producer of Drama Desk Awards 1999 & 2000 and Associate Producer in 2001. Bernadette Peters, Bebe Neuwirth and Lily Tomlin were the hosts respectively. As a commercial theater producer she presented, The Betrayal of Nora Blake, at The Jermyn Street Theatre in London, where it’s sold-out, extended production earned rave reviews and later at The Cuillo Centre for the Arts in West Palm Beach, where it was voted 'Best Musical” by The Palm Beach Post. In past years she produced Angel Street, A Black Girl Talks To God, Victims of Duty and The Great American Backstage Musical off and off-off Broadway.

Bobbie produced major events, among them the first annual Soap Opera Day Celebration along with Mayor’s Koch’s Office of Film, Television and Broadcasting, Ruth Warrick’s Confessions of Phoebe Tyler Book-Launch with guest Ruby Keeler, the Mr. Bill in Space Book-Launch for Real-Good Productions and a Salute to Viveca Lindfors. She co-produced the Farewell To Bowie Kuhn event, which included speakers Howard Cosell, Sonny Werblin and President Emeritus Gerald Ford for The Cystic Fibrosis Foundation.

As an Image Consultant, Bobbie serves private clients and has given seminars at Queens College, NYU School of Film & Television, The NY State School of Industrial & Labor Relations, T. Schreiber Studio, the Learning Annex, trade conventions at The Javitz Center, for corporations and, most recently through The Network. Her article MAXIMPACT was published in the AICI news, She co-wrote the presentation for an Escada fashion tour and was quoted in Seventeen Magazine. Her new book, Find Your Mini Qs: Reveal the Star You Truly Are at 50,60,70 & Beyond! will be in print summer 2010 and her book You’re Looking At A Winner is being updated. She was VP-Education of the Tri-State Chapter of The Association of Image Consultants, International from 1991-1993.

Bobbie was educated in the NYC Public School system, at The New York State School of Industrial & Labor Relations at Cornell University (Class Marshall) and at Teachers’ College, Columbia University.