I'm celebrating, by doing something I have never done; putting up a naked pic of myself on the internet!

Got shut down by my host for using 112% of the 'shared' server that I was supposed to only have 25% of. (Heh Heh. Kinda proud of all that traffic.) This affected both Pegging Paradise and Pegging101.com This happened right before a major holiday weekend when I was unable to coordinate the necessary people I needed to get the site back up. Finding a new host was tricky, because so many hosts won't host adult material, even if it's educational. Decided on Dreamhost.

They migrated website and then forgot to send me the final 'check and make sure this is okay' email. So I thought it was all done and proceeded to write a post celebrating the success of my website's new home, complete with this pic of my boobs!

Turns out the domain was not pointed to the new host yet, so some of you saw the boobs post, but many of you just got teased with a promise and then no boobs - because my website was in-between (and in the in-between stage you are NOT supposed to make any changes on your website - much less write a post... Oops).

The boobs post disappeared into the ether - it's probably back at the old host. I shared the pic directly on my patron's chat, but left the rest of you hanging, waiting for the boobs. So here I am, re-doing the boob post!

While my website was down, many of you sent letters of concern, wondering what was happening. Also during this time, some of you became new patrons and sent me donations! This humbled me. Wow. My websites were inaccessible from 8/27 to 9/9. OUCH.

But I am BACK, better than ever, and I like the new digs. Happy to be here for you loyal fans, as well as you newbies just finding Pegging Paradise!

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]]>https://peggingparadise.com/2019/08/podcast-243/feed/1Listen to Pegging Paradise Podcast #243 Patron/Donation Update Pegging Celebration Time! Overcoming her fears, she says yes, & they do the deed! He has questions about staying clean He draws parallel between physical and emotional/mental opening She ch...Listen to Pegging Paradise Podcast #243 Patron/Donation Update Pegging Celebration Time! Overcoming her fears, she says yes, & they do the deed! He has questions about staying clean He draws parallel between physical and emotional/mental opening She checks in with news of her transition He's so frustrated by the patriarchy & assumptions he's dominant He's … Continue readingRuby Ryderyes1:13:36An Open Letter to Joe Rogan Re:Pegginghttps://peggingparadise.com/2019/08/an-open-letter-to-joe-rogan-repegging/
https://peggingparadise.com/2019/08/an-open-letter-to-joe-rogan-repegging/#commentsSat, 10 Aug 2019 00:17:27 +0000https://peggingparadise.com/?p=16780Oh, Joe. It's the 21st century! Sex toys are just toys; a delightful variety of devices to enhance solo or partnered sexual play. News Flash: What they are not, Joe, is an indicator of sexual orientation. Not even a minute into #1332 I discovered that you, Joe Rogan (as well as your guest Annie Lederman), …

It's the 21st century! Sex toys are just toys; a delightful variety of devices to enhance solo or partnered sexual play.

News Flash: What they are not, Joe, is an indicator of sexual orientation.

Not even a minute into #1332 I discovered that you, Joe Rogan (as well as your guest Annie Lederman), are most definitely not in the 21st century in regards to sex toys. Your assumption that all men who enjoy pegging are gay is incorrect and uninformed. In reaction to your assumption about pegging, I am going to make an assumption about you, Joe...

Whether you have or have not experimented with receiving anal stimulation, you are not going to allow the world to think you have any interest in it. Why? This is clear from your pronouncements; you think anal-receptive play for men is inextricably connected to sexual orientation. And heaven forbid anyone think you are gay.

While speaking about it, you visibly shuddered with, well, whatever that emotion was. And whatever that emotion was, it was not a positive one. Your unspoken but powerful inference was that gay is somehow less-than in comparison to straight, which is the saddest statement of all in that mess of yours. Yikes, Joe. That's blatantly homophobic. I'm not gonna unpack that particular part of your mess, because it's above my pay grade and not in my area of expertise. (You might want to read some of Dr. Joe Kort's work, though.) I'm just going to try and educate you about your own body, because pegging is indeed my area of expertise.

So why would anyone want to try pegging? There is this amazing thing you have called a prostate, Joe. It's function is to produce prostatic fluid, which is one of the components of ejaculate. The prostate can be stimulated externally by pressing on your taint, or internally through the rectal canal. The overwhelming majority of men find prostate stimulation, whether done with fingers, a butt plug, a prostate massage device, or a strap-on, to be extremely pleasurable. Think of your prostate as an orgasm enhancer, Joe. Let me tell you why...

Orgasms achieved by simultaneous penile and prostate stimulation (getting fucked and jerked off) are described by an overwhelming majority of men who indulge in the practice, as feeling roughly 10 times more powerful than a normal orgasm. You are totally missing out, Joe! Who knew?

One more reason men enjoy pegging is the experience of finally letting someone else run the fuck. What do I mean by that? Usually, intercourse is the default sexual activity for heterosexual couples. The man is the giver, runs the fuck, and is responsible for his partner's pleasure. So what would it be like if men could just relax and receive for once? Pegging offers that experience to men, and it also educates women about how much it really takes to fuck someone. Fucking someone is an athletic event that deserves much more appreciation than you men typically get for it! I speak from experience, Joe.

Who is drawn to explore pegging? The more macho, alpha, and masculine the man (you seem to qualify, Joe), the more they crave an opportunity to lay back and just receive pleasure, open up and allow themselves to be vulnerable. CEOs, military, law enforcement, and high-powered businessmen are prime examples. They tell me that they are expected to be in control...All. The. Time. The man box dictates that; always be in control and never allow yourself to be vulnerable. These are not good rules to live by; likely one of the factors why 75% of suicides are men, and men die earlier. Following those rules is fucking stressful! At a certain point some men get tired of those expectations, and want to switch it up in the bedroom with, you guessed it, pegging.

Now let's unpack your assumption about pegging and sexual orientation.

Try these examples on for size...and, no, I'm not asking you to put anything in your ass. Just theoretically, Joe. Simply a concept composed of words, so you can let your sphincter relax a little.

When a lesbian fucks her lover's vagina with a strap-on, does that mean her lover is not a lesbian and should be out there getting some real dick? What about when that same lesbian fucks her lover's ass with a strap-on...? Does that still mean her lover is not a lesbian and wants real dick in her ass? What if she enjoys the smooth softness of a woman and has no interest whatsoever in masculine, hairy bodies? Does her love of receiving strap-on sex invalidate her stated and chosen orientation? Do you realize how ridiculous that sounds?

What about a gay man who doesn't enjoy anal sex? Does that mean he's really straight? Sexual orientation is who you are attracted to, Joe, not what sexual activities you choose to do, or not to do.

The logic of your assumption falls apart quite quickly because, well, there is no logic. It's a house of cards built of your fears around being seen as feminine (being penetrated) or gay (enjoying receptive anal sex). Now I know that this is what the rigidly defined man box dictates, Joe, but the world is changing. I remind you again - it's the 21st century. A fair number of straight men enjoy pegging, including Ryan Reynolds.

The area of your body that you enjoy having stimulated has absolutely no bearing on the gender you prefer to do the stimulating. A sexual action or behavior does not dictate sexual orientation. What does it say about you if you enjoy having your girlfriend fuck your ass with a strap-on? It says you enjoy having your girlfriend fuck you in the ass with a strap-on! That's it.

You said, "There's no way any of us can ever understand what's in anybody else's brain." So true, Joe. So why do you think you know what's in the brains of men who enjoy pegging?

Lastly, a response to Annie Lederman's question. "Why would you waste your time with a rubber dick strapped to a woman if you could just go get...(the real thing)?" Because a real dick is attached to a real man, Annie, and whether or not men like to get fucked in the ass, men don't go after men if they prefer women. Seems like a no-brainer, frankly.

So to recap...more intense orgasms, better prostate health, and a rare opportunity for men to experience receiving and allowing themselves to be vulnerable.

Pegging is pretty cool, Joe!

In closing, I would like to issue you a gentle challenge to explore your own ass. Take a deep breath, Joe, and indulge in a first-class tour of your own body to discover all the pleasure it's capable of. Being an intrepid explorer of your own sexuality is not an adventure for the faint-hearted, but the rewards are extraordinary.

Ruby Ryder

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https://peggingparadise.com/2019/07/podcast-241/#commentsFri, 12 Jul 2019 05:00:38 +0000https://peggingparadise.com/blog/?p=16676Listen to Pegging Paradise Podcast #241 Patron/Donor Update Reactions to Ruby's Coming Out He has questions about toys to increase her pleasure They are searching for a specific type of lady cock... They are looking for a good harness for larger hips They need a BBW and big toy harness Charles needs help talking to …

]]>https://peggingparadise.com/2019/07/podcast-241/feed/2Listen to Pegging Paradise Podcast #241 Patron/Donor Update Reactions to Ruby's Coming Out He has questions about toys to increase her pleasure They are searching for a specific type of lady cock... They are looking for a good harness for larger hips T...Listen to Pegging Paradise Podcast #241 Patron/Donor Update Reactions to Ruby's Coming Out He has questions about toys to increase her pleasure They are searching for a specific type of lady cock... They are looking for a good harness for larger hips They need a BBW and big toy harness Charles needs help talking to … Continue readingRuby Ryderyes1:09:00Pegging Webinar Price Change – PSAhttps://peggingparadise.com/2019/07/pegging-webinar-price-change-psa/
https://peggingparadise.com/2019/07/pegging-webinar-price-change-psa/#commentsFri, 05 Jul 2019 22:35:00 +0000https://peggingparadise.com/blog/?p=16671My Pegging Webinar game is expanding, and changing! I have been teaching a Pegging Webinar for a little over a year, now. Pegging is my passion, and I have so much information about it that I am eager to share with anyone who is interested! Initially, I offered free admission for givers if they sent …

My Pegging Webinar game is expanding, and changing!

I have been teaching a Pegging Webinar for a little over a year, now. Pegging is my passion, and I have so much information about it that I am eager to share with anyone who is interested!

Initially, I offered free admission for givers if they sent me an email, and asked for $15 from receivers, but they could always request a free ticket via email, too. As a result, most of the webinars I taught brought in little or no money. That wasn't an issue for me. Having a paywall between the information I offer and those who seek it has never appealed to me. I answered the emails and gave out the discount codes.

Offering the webinars for free flew in the face of the general belief that instructors/experts should get paid for the knowledge they possess and offer up for public consumption. Plus there's the idea that consumers don't really value something if they don't pay for it. I resisted those axioms.

Things went okay for a while. Then I decided that gendered pricing was unacceptable in today's world…at least the sex positive world I live in. So I did away with the need to email me for a discount code, and just allowed everyone to register for the webinar for free. Simpler, right? No emails to answer, no discount codes to relay. Easypeasy!

Here's what happened.

Suddenly the registration numbers increased dramatically. I even hit capacity a couple of times. That's 25 people! But the people who actually attended the webinars comprised about 20% of the number of people who registered. Once I had 25 people registered and 6 people showed up.

At this time I also began to offer my Advanced Pegging webinar, which required quite a bit of time and of work to put together. I'm proud of it! I guess it was the combination of working hard on that webinar, feeling really good about what I had to offer, and then feeling like people weren't taking it at all seriously. Not fun.

So - I've made some changes.

I will offer both webinars twice a month for the price of $15 for Beginners (90 minutes) and $20 for Advanced (2 hours).

I will continue to teach free webinars. The free ones will only be offered quarterly, with no limit on the number of attendees.

Okay, I want to attend a Pegging Webinar!

Encouragement for the Webinar-Nervous: I would like to encourage all of you who might have an aversion to jumping into the world of webinars - it's reasonably easy to do, even if you have never attended a webinar before! Go for it.

]]>https://peggingparadise.com/2019/06/podcast-240-rubys-coming-out/feed/0Podcast #240 - Ruby's Coming Out Facts About SESTA/FOSTA What Inspired Ruby What she did with that inspiration Yes, it's true Decriminalization vs Swedish/Nordic Model Become and Ally! Articles and Information "SESTA/FOSTA is turning the web into a G-r...Podcast #240 - Ruby's Coming Out Facts About SESTA/FOSTA What Inspired Ruby What she did with that inspiration Yes, it's true Decriminalization vs Swedish/Nordic Model Become and Ally! Articles and Information "SESTA/FOSTA is turning the web into a G-rated minefield. Here’s how to destroy it." By Daniel Villarreal for LGBTQ Nation Remaking Manhood - Mark … Continue readingRuby Ryderyes37:27Yes, I am a Sex Workerhttps://peggingparadise.com/2019/06/yes-i-am-a-sex-worker/
https://peggingparadise.com/2019/06/yes-i-am-a-sex-worker/#respondMon, 03 Jun 2019 06:22:13 +0000https://peggingparadise.com/blog/?p=16636International Whores' Day 2019 A View into My World… I check my mail, look at my calendar and think about tomorrow’s appointment. He’s a sweet client who I’ve established a close connection with since he first came to see me almost 2 years ago. His last email said he was looking forward to feeling my …

I check my mail, look at my calendar and think about tomorrow’s
appointment. He’s a sweet client who I’ve established a close connection with
since he first came to see me almost 2 years ago. His last email said he was
looking forward to feeling my hand, my paddle, my cock and even a few strokes
of my cane if I felt that was necessary. He comes to me to explore the other
side of his sexuality, to revel and play in new, exciting experiences. He
enjoys the way I interweave pain and pleasure, with a healthy dose of teasing
throughout it all. His work takes him to faraway places. When he travels, he
sends me emails of longing, eloquently expressing his desire to once again
place himself in my hands.

I pull up my notes. (Yes I keep notes, I’m a professional.)
I check which toy I fucked him with during his last visit and how he liked it.
I check his preferences regarding firm toys or softer toys, and the intensity
which with I used my hand, paddle, cock, and occasionally, cane. I check to
make sure everything is clean and ready for his arrival tomorrow.

Yes, he’s married. Yes, he’s reasonably happy in that
marriage. And yes, they do have a tacit agreement that he can discretely and
safely explore his desires. Coming to see me puts a skip in his step, a smile
on his face, and some titillation in his otherwise quite happy and comfortable
but lacking in sexual excitement, life.

Next week I have an appointment scheduled with a client who,
when I touch him with tenderness and intention, simply melts. His life as a
single, successful male in this society offers so little touch. He’s hungry for
it when he arrives. I always offer him a long, lingering hug, which he accepts
and revels in. When I fuck him, I lay on top of him and let him feel the
pressure of my body against his, holding him down, having my way with him. He
swoons.

After reading Mark
Greene’s work about how men in our society are touch-starved, I began
touching my clients a lot more, and they universally welcomed it with a hunger
that surprised me. I was also surprised to discover how many of them, when
questioned, hungered for contact, despite being partnered. Touch can be so
powerfully healing. It comprises a significant part of what I offer these men.

What exactly do I
offer these men?

I offer them touch, sure, but I offer them so much more than that. I offer them the chance to explore their desires without judgement or shame. I offer them encouragement, acceptance, and an enthusiastic partner who will delve into their fantasies with them. Often these men have never even expressed their fantasies to another human being before coming to see me. Society says that as a man, they should not desire these things, the very things that they jerk off to, dream about, and long for.

So when I slowly slide a pair of silky panties onto their body, fondling their cock and ass through the smooth fabric and remarking how sexy they look, I often get downcast eyes, blushes and smiles. Embarrassment, yes, but also a smile that speaks wordlessly and loudly of the pleasure of really being seen and accepted for exactly who they are, for the first time in their lives. And when I bend them over and pull those panties down just far enough to fuck them with strong purposeful strokes, or gentle, tender thrusts, they get to let everything go and just receive. They are no longer responsible for anything except taking in all the pleasure I deliver, and allowing themselves to be vulnerable and open. Allowing themselves to be taken in a way they have usually only taken their partners, but have never had the opportunity to experience the other side of.

I’m a Sex Worker.

Yes, you heard me right. Ruby Ryder is a sex worker. I’ll just
let that sink in a bit…

Wow. So How Did That
Happen?

What made me decide to become a sex worker?

It happened like this. My passion is pegging. I write about
it, teach about it, give advice about it and write erotica about it. Turns out
this is a very popular fantasy amongst men. Usually not one they will openly admit
to, but with the anonymity of the internet, they contact me in droves.

Often they discover that prostate stimulation via their ass
can give them more pleasure than they have ever experienced. But there are
other reasons men become interested in pegging.

In a way, I think part of their interest is a reaction to
the ‘man box’ they have been placed in. Society dictates that men always appear
strong, in control, confident and assertive. Appearing weak, not in control,
softer and more passive is forbidden, as is anything that appears feminine or
homosexual.

I’m not going to even get into how harmful this line of
thinking is (the very definition of toxic masculinity). But the man box can
have a powerful and terribly limiting effect on men’s sexuality. In general,
men are expected to be the givers of pleasure, the active ones, the
penetrators, the ones who run the fuck. Imagine feeling that level of
responsibility every time you got in bed! What about the times when you just
want to be held and tenderly fucked? What about when you want to express your
feminine side and wear panties or pretty lingerie and feel softer, or feel ‘taken’
by a strong, lustful partner? What happens when you just want to switch things
up once in a while? There is no easy way to explore those longings, no way
which is accepted by the majority of our society, anyway. This causes so many
men so much shame.

I’ve never seen it as shameful. From the first time I tried pegging
about 10 years ago, I have always loved fucking men. (It might have helped that
my first experience was with a hot fireman.) I love the way their façade of
masculinity comes down and pure vulnerability is underneath, and the contrast between
the two. I love giving them pleasure and hearing them moan and whimper. And I
definitely love being dominant and in control.

The ending of my second marriage was like coming out of a
sexual desert. So when I started fucking men, I made up for lost time and
fucked a bunch of them. I reveled in my new-found sexual jungle. There was no
lack of men who wanted to get fucked, so I selected the ones that appealed the
most. Often the young and pretty.

A friend said to me one day, “You know you are giving
yourself away, right?”

“What do you mean?” I honestly wasn’t sure where she was
going with that.

“What are you getting out of this, other than a pretty young
man in your bed for the night? You are bringing them so much knowledge, skill
and finesse! You deserve more.”

“Well, okay, but if I took something for it, I’d be a sex
worker.” I had the usual bad connotations connected to those words, and didn’t
want to go there.

“Not necessarily. You could be a Domme receiving a ‘tribute’.”

Hmmmm….fine line, I thought, but she had a good point. Why
not benefit from something I really enjoyed? Isn’t that what we all wish for;
work that we love? And I was kind of
giving it away for free. Plus, the choices I’d made in my life to that point
had often left me on the line financially. As much as I loved being a sex
educator, making a good income at it was extraordinarily difficult. Some kind
of compensation for fucking these men would be nice.

So for 3 months I traded a few men a thorough fucking for things like gift certificates for massages or pedicures, and that was good. Then I sat back and asked myself, Why am I not just getting paid for this? I love it. I want to do it anyway. I could use the money. Seemed like a no-brainer, because my work as a sex educator who specializes in pegging had created a line of men to my front door. I didn’t see those men as potential clients, because I wanted to keep my two worlds quite separate, Ruby Ryder and sex worker (guess that ends today...), but it did enlighten me as to just how many men there are who want to get pegged. I also ran across a post in a Pro Domme’s chat group complaining about how there were so many men lately who just wanted to get pegged with a hand job. These men weren’t showing respect for the significant skills these professional women had in bondage, impact play, etc. They were just looking for pegging and release. So okay, that confirmed that the demand was there.

That would be the point where I stepped over the line, quite consciously, and with a lot of forethought. I spoke with men who had been to sex workers for pegging. I found a mentor who was a phone sex operator, and another who was a semi-retired sex worker. I asked a lot of questions and finally decided to go for it.

The universe apparently supported my decision. My very first
client was a delightful déjà vu of
the very first guy I pegged – another hot fireman. Seriously. When he left, I
had a pile of money, a smile on my face, and wet panties. I thought to myself -
This is a dream job!

I have not looked back since that day. That was about 4
years ago. For me, that initial knee-jerk reaction to the label ‘sex worker’ is
gone. I’m proud of what I do, and have made many friends in the sex worker
community.

I think of it this way…We all deserve to have someone to connect
with, and we deserve to be able to explore our (safe and consensual) fantasies
without judgement or shame. For a whole
host of reasons, that can be difficult and complicated for many people. As a
sex worker specializing in BDSM and pegging, I make that exploration less
filled with complications and judgements and more filled with safety, acceptance
and enthusiasm. I have encountered so much gratitude from my clients. They are
profoundly grateful for the safe space I offer them to explore new experiences,
ones that are way outside of the box of accepted male sexuality.

Why am I Telling You
I’m a Sex Worker?

Because so many in the sex worker community are suffering.

I am an incredibly
privileged sex worker. I do not have to do this to survive. I do sex work
part-time. I have never experienced violence. What I would label a ‘bad
experience’ has been limited to personality conflicts, bad hygiene, or no show
appointments. When people ask me how I like being a sex worker, this is always
what I answer:

“About 60% of the time I love
it. I’m having a good time. About 20% of the time it’s more like work, whether
it’s a personality conflict, poor communication, hygiene or something like
that. And that leaves 20%, right? Those are the clients who, I swear to God, I
would SO fuck for free!”

So that’s my situation, and as I mentioned – I have so much
privilege, it’s obscene. Unfortunately, I am the type of sex worker people
point to when trying to make the case for decriminalization. The white woman
who loves her work. There are so many more of us that do not have the privilege
I do. And those sex workers deserve to be heard.

People do sex work for a lot of reasons. Some do sex work on a survival level, to put food on the table, pay the rent, and to take care of their families. Sometimes they do it because their physical or emotional health leaves them unable to work a job with a regular schedule. Sometimes they do it due to financial desperation. And, this is important, sometimes they hate their work. Before you judge, remember that there are people in every profession who hate their work. Every profession. If you choose to judge a sex worker who hates their job, why are you not judging the police officer who hates their job? Sex workers deserve to work safely regardless of how much they love or hate their job.

What Do Sex Workers Want and Need?

What we want is the right to choose our own labor and the right to choose what we do with our bodies. Consensual sex work is a victim-less crime. Take care not to label all sex workers as ‘victims’. We are decidedly not. Most consensual sex workers simply want the right to choose our labor as well as the protections that other workers enjoy. Instead of protection, we get persecution and prosecution.

What we need is for you to listen to our stories before you try to save us or assume we are victims. Listen to our stories before deciding what you think we need! Listen to us before passing laws that affect us without even talking with us. If most people in the community you’re supposed to be helping loudly oppose the actions you’re proposing to “save” them, you need to take a step back, listen to them and find a better way.

The marginalized in our community have suffered immeasurably (violence and death) after the passage of SESTA/FOSTA. So when presidential candidate Kamala Harris holds up the passage of SESTA/FOSTA as one of her crowning achievements, I want you to understand what really happened.

Prior to SESTA/FOSTA, sex workers used the internet to vet
new clients, which provided not only more safety, but an independence from
pimps and exploiters. This law took away our ability to use the internet, and
all the platforms we used to vet clients and share safety information
disappeared practically overnight. This forced many sex workers back to the
streets, and empowered pimps and
exploiters, the very people it was
supposed to target.

No one who is being honest can point to that law and call it
a success.

How Did This Happen?

In a supposed attempt to cut down on (already fairly minimal)
sex trafficking, the definition of sex trafficking was ridiculously widened,
pretty much including all consensual sex work. This inflated the numbers. (i.e.
A friend who drives a consensual sex worker to an outcall for safety was now labeled a sex trafficker). The inflated numbers made it sound like around
every corner there were poor children being sex trafficked, so of course both
houses passed the bill, even though our very own Department
of Justice advised against it. These inflated numbers were and are being
used to justify federal grants to law enforcement agencies and NGOs who combat
sex trafficking. Consensual sex work is not sex trafficking and never has been.

All we want is the right to choose our own labor, and the same protections as other workers have. Sex work is work! All consensual sex workers are against sex trafficking, and we ask that you take care to make a distinction between the two. They are not the same! If all the money given to agencies to fight sex trafficking had been used in a focused manner to ferret out sex trafficking, instead of a huge dragnet that included all consensual sex work as well, so many more sex trafficking victims could have been saved. Also, more sex traffickers could have been prosecuted, and sex workers could do their jobs without fearing violence and death.

One More Reason That I
am Telling You I am a Sex Worker

Discriminatory feelings against and assumptions about groups
of people can be remedied by getting to know them. Personalizing it. What do I
mean by that? Let’s say I really didn’t like white cats. But then I go to a
friend’s house who has 3 white cats and I get to know them. I discover, through personal interaction, that they
are perfectly lovely cats, and apparently my assumptions about white cats were
incorrect.

This is what I have done as Ruby Ryder. The taboo against
pegging is strong. The misconceptions and assumptions are numerous. On my
podcasts I share the stories my listeners send in, and allow you a glimpse of
their lives and loves. You hear about their struggles and successes, their
hopes and dreams, and somewhere along the line you realize they are just
people. Perhaps you can even relate to their stories a little. Suddenly the
whole knee-jerk judgmental reaction against people who do pegging lessens.

So here I am, the same Ruby Ryder that encourages you to
follow your desires, talk to your partners, be loving and compassionate, kind
and considerate. I fight against the shame, the ridicule, and the taboo. I
offer education and information. Above all, I stand up for your right to be who
you are, sexually, with #noshame.

And I, Ruby Ryder, am a sex worker.

Sex workers are people.
We have our struggles and successes, too. And when you listen to our stories, I
imagine you will judge us less; that knee-jerk reaction will not be so
automatic. Perhaps you’ll begin to see us as people, and realize we deserve the
right to choose our labor, and the right over our own bodies. And when the
subject of decriminalization comes up, maybe you’ll think of Ruby Ryder, but
hopefully instead you will think about the marginalized sex workers who need
your help far more than I ever will. For them, it is truly a matter of life and
death.

]]>https://peggingparadise.com/2019/06/yes-i-am-a-sex-worker/feed/0The Shooting Rangehttps://peggingparadise.com/2019/05/the-shooting-range/
https://peggingparadise.com/2019/05/the-shooting-range/#commentsTue, 21 May 2019 08:23:06 +0000https://peggingparadise.com/blog/?p=16624Would you ever go to a shooting range with me? Only if you wore panties and a chastity cage. Like I'd want anything else… They'll be pink, with lace, and silky fabric that feels good against your ass. You will wish your cock could enjoy that silkiness, but alas; the cage. I'll watch you bend …

They'll be pink, with lace, and silky fabric that feels good against your ass. You will wish your cock could enjoy that silkiness, but alas; the cage. I'll watch you bend over to shoot and I'll grab your ass, helping you enjoy that pink loveliness. It will be a miracle if you hit the center of the target.

Oh, my God….

That constrained feeling of your cock will almost be painful, but you'll love the idea that it's for me. It will please me. I'll enjoy putting you through the torture of your cock straining against the cage, only allowed so much excitement.

Despite the panties. Despite the knowledge that I will take you home and bend you over the kitchen table and fuck you long and hard, with a toy that is wide and short, so I can pound into you as hard as I want to. And honey, I will want to.

Oh, Jesus Christ!

I know, right? Is that fucking exciting or what?!

And guess what, handsome? That cage will stay on! Why? Because it pleases me. Because the only way you will come, after taking me to that shooting range, is from me fucking your ass. Put the guns down, bend over that table and I will absolutely plow you, so I hope you'll be ready for it. Your ass will be mine, to do with as I please. That was our agreement if I went to the range with you. Right?

Yes, Ma'am…

So if you can't get there, so sad, too bad. I will still delight in your moans and gasps, your begging if it gets too intense. I want you writhing, my sweet. I want all those testosterone-fueled walls down while I give you the fucking of your life. I want in. Deep inside you. I want to have a party with your ass.

Oh!

And then I will pull out of you, drag you to the bedroom and have you on your knees next to the bed. I'm going to play in my wetness and come as loudly as I want. Because fucking you turns me on so much. I'll be close enough for you to inhale my scent.

And your cock will beg you to convince me that I should remove the cage so you can fuck me. You'll know better than to ask, though.

I will, yes…

After I come, I'll put my fingers in your mouth so you can taste me, taste my passion and pleasure.