The month we decided to start trying we had sex every day, sometimes two or three times. When I got my period I was worried that it was going to be an issue (I really overreacted, I know- I'm 35 and they really freak you out about not being able to conceive being older). I bought some ovulation strips and did them twice every day. I kept waiting and waiting for it to show me I was ovulating. We stopped having sex hoping to save it up ;-) I got a week past where I should have ovulated and I never had a positive test. So one tipsy weekend we had sex once... well that was it. As nuts as I was after one month I just can't imagine the pain and frustration some of you have been through. :-(

When we first decided to try I was told I had endometriosis but got pregnant the second month and with my second child it was a complete surprise. :) (my endometriosis diagnosis was actually incorrect. It was a dermoid that I was born with and it's not an issue).

I was terribly casual the first time and conceived in the second month. The second time I was larky and casual and conceived immediately... and lost the baby. Now I'm trying again and have been pretty casual (although focusing on what should be ovulation days) and it's been 3 months and nothing doing, and I'm not very young so I had better start taking it more seriously, alas.

i was all over getting pregnant each time (explains why the first 2 are 12 months and 4 days apart). it took 3 months or less each time. we used the method recommended by the catholic church, forget what it's called. you count back from the first day of your last period, take your temp, something like that. i wouldn't use it to keep from getting pregnant though, lol.
if it's any comfort ot anyone having difficulity, we have been married for 11 years and w/o exception every couple in our social group has had at least one baby, even those that had significant fertility issues. one woman had a problem and finally went with a surrogate and after 2 years of trying with that the surrogate got pregnate and then so did she. there are lots of options today :)

i was all over getting pregnant each time (explains why the first 2 are 12 months and 4 days apart). it took 3 months or less each time. we used the method recommended by the catholic church, forget what it's called. you count back from the first day of your last period, take your temp, something like that. i wouldn't use it to keep from getting pregnant though, lol.if it's any comfort ot anyone having difficulity, we have been married for 11 years and w/o exception every couple in our social group has had at least one baby, even those that had significant fertility issues. one woman had a problem and finally went with a surrogate and after 2 years of trying with that the surrogate got pregnate and then so did she. there are lots of options today :)

LaurenG22 - Nothing is wrong with you. Going off the pill can be hard on the body, and it may be a while before your cycle regulates itself (or in the case of people with irregular cycles, it just won't). The hormones in your body are figuring themselves out after losing the guidance of the pill. Keep track of when you get your period, because even if you're not going all out and charting, that is helpful to your doctor to evaluate how irregular you are or to help you figure out timing.
I went off the pill in June, had a normal period a month later, and have been trying ever since. Still trying... I have irregular cycles and skipped one in December with no positive test... without the pill I'm not even close to running like clockwork... and my doc just said I'm not allowed to worry till 1 yr since 80% of people conceive in that first year.
This process has become like when you're single and notice everyone seems to be dating - everyone I know seems to be conceiving, and I am still not sure if I'm even ovulating! I am young though, and thank god I haven't told anyone (other than my husband, obviously) that we're trying. I really don't want that to be the one thing people ask about! The kid topic is already asked a lot, like when we'll have one - and I just want to yell sometimes that it isn't like it is always within someone's control...

LaurenG22 - Nothing is wrong with you. Going off the pill can be hard on the body, and it may be a while before your cycle regulates itself (or in the case of people with irregular cycles, it just won't). The hormones in your body are figuring themselves out after losing the guidance of the pill. Keep track of when you get your period, because even if you're not going all out and charting, that is helpful to your doctor to evaluate how irregular you are or to help you figure out timing. I went off the pill in June, had a normal period a month later, and have been trying ever since. Still trying... I have irregular cycles and skipped one in December with no positive test... without the pill I'm not even close to running like clockwork... and my doc just said I'm not allowed to worry till 1 yr since 80% of people conceive in that first year. This process has become like when you're single and notice everyone seems to be dating - everyone I know seems to be conceiving, and I am still not sure if I'm even ovulating! I am young though, and thank god I haven't told anyone (other than my husband, obviously) that we're trying. I really don't want that to be the one thing people ask about! The kid topic is already asked a lot, like when we'll have one - and I just want to yell sometimes that it isn't like it is always within someone's control...

I'm somewhere in the middle. We actually just started using the OV Watch, as I found it a little less "in your face" than the sticks and the charting, etc. So hopefully it still allows for the spontaneity of it all, but with the knowledge of the right time.

Baby #1 was a complete surprise. Baby #2 we started trying the day he got back from a deployment and were looking forward to the excitement of trying for a while. According to my midwife and the ultrasound, we hit the jackpot on day 1. And I feel really guilty typing this comment out knowing that it's a struggle for a lot of very good people. :oops:

How about none of the above. She was a complete surprise. The best surprise of our lives, but a surprise nonetheless. We found out the weekend before our combo bachelor/bachelorette party. Needless to say, I did not indulge.For the next one, we'll be a bit more planned out, but I don't think we'll be charting (unless we have a REALLY hard time). We'll just let nature take it's course :)

How about none of the above. She was a complete surprise. The best surprise of our lives, but a surprise nonetheless. We found out the weekend before our combo bachelor/bachelorette party. Needless to say, I did not indulge.
For the next one, we'll be a bit more planned out, but I don't think we'll be charting (unless we have a REALLY hard time). We'll just let nature take it's course :)

when we first started trying we just did it when i figured i was ovulating and that was that. after 4 months of nothing i decided to get an ovulation test kit and we had been doing it a little later than my ovulation so we started timing things better and within 3 more months of trying we succeeded. Unfortunately, that was the beginnings of my recurrent miscarriages. We do have it down to a science and I don't even have to use ovulation tests anymore. I just"know" when to have sex now. I am so much more in tune with my body. After 9 miscarriages and an ectopic we are moving on to IVF to see if controlling the entire process and using meds will help or not. Sometimes it does. When I had my first 2 kids from my first marriage I was actually on birth control with my first, go figure. I had been off birth control for 2 weeks with my 2nd and got pregnant. What happened between then and now I have no clue!!!