“Wow! You’re such a supermom!” That’s usually taken as a compliment. However, Supermom doesn’t really exist. Behind that confident exterior, any mom, whether she’s super or not, has a lot of plates spinning in the air. Being great at everything can take its toll even on the most accomplished mom. If you change your context from being great at everything to being great at a few but critical things, it will really help loosen you up and create a joyful home life for yourself.

Choose relationships over tasks and choresYou’re hurrying up with the dishes, you’re expecting guests and all of a sudden, your little one deliberately spills milk on the floor. It’s easy to snap at your child and then attend to your guests. After all, you’ll have time later and your guests are waiting. This is the perfect time to let go of being a Supermom by attending to one thing at a time. There’s a win-win situation somewhere here but if you just don’t have time and energy, just choose one thing. And that one thing is your relationship with your child. Let your household chores get delayed, let your tasks slip a little (or a lot), as long as your child gets the best of you and not what’s left of you.

Organize around your big commitmentsIf you’ve made a commitment to setting aside time for your kids, let the rest of your day revolve around that commitment instead of squeezing it in. For moms who tutor their kids, don’t pressure yourselves further by taking home more work. Your work will eventually get done but your child is a work in progress and a fixed schedule with him will let him know that you’re there for him. It’s not the quantity of time but the quality of time that you give him.

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