You´re at the point of telling your ex-to-be that you want to break up. What do you say?

Don´t be accusatory and use this as a time to point out everything your ex ever did wrong. There are always two sides to an argument, and breaking up is hard enough without turning it into a free for all wrestling match.

Instead, explain that you simply do not feel the same way for your ex as you had before. This could be because you grew apart, or have different interests, or many other reasons. If you just focus on the nit-picky details, your ex might try to find ways to claim these are your own fault. If instead you focus on how you feel, and that you no longer feel attracted to your ex, this is easier to accept as a reason to break up.