There is a curious evolution as I spend time on this site......the thoughts that occur to me as I read the profiles, consider the images, imagine possibilities.......and how we reach out to others, looking for that which we desire, a "relationship" with another that helps us go places that we cannot go to alone......how best do we do that?........the limitations are real in this format, and this site is not the most functional at times....... and yet here we are, trying to make this work..............and in this place....this blog.......I let those thoughts run, put the words down.........along with the song lyrics which so often play in the background.............and it is here that I am reminded that I am not alone in this journey...........

-They came from miles around.....-Some came on big 'ol jet airliners.....-Some of us could have walked.....-California, Land of Fruits and Nuts.....-We had oranges.....-We had Beef Wellington, Salmon, Sea Bass and Shrimp.....and Bacon.....-We had adult beverages.....-There was talk of other bloggers.....-There was talk of other partners.....-Oh so many other partners.....-We took pictures.....-We saw pictures.....-Oh my, the pictures.....-I know things.....-I got names.....-I got faces.....-There were motel rooms.....-There were couples massages.....-There was cleavage.....-There were moments of Zen.....

All of us at times sense a closeness through the blogs, real or imagined.......and those words matter to us in various ways......but behind those words are real people, and having a chance to actually see and touch them is pretty cool......

We are all linked back to our youth.....there are the good times, the not so good times.....and there is always the music......

I am a visual guy, and as such I have DVDs of musical performances that I go back to regularly, and tonight I popped in my copy of the Monterey Pop Festival of 1967.....

I have this Criterion Collection box set which has the original theatrical release of 1968 or so, along with all the other footage D. A. Pennebaker gathered in that moment.......

The recording is full of the pre-Woodstock hippy, peace and love imagery that those of us of a certain age recollect.... along with truly significant musical performances......

I look at this stuff and think we lost our way......

We come around every so often and circle back to what really matters......something grabs us, slaps us about, and a few of us step up and carry us forward against the crap that litters the edges of our society......

I got this sense that a few high-schoolers down in Florida are gonna show us the way.....

It was a little over 4 years ago now that I returned to this space on the Intertubes and put myself up here on this barely-functional site, again, along with my hopes and dreams.......

And so I posted this:

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I have always believed that really good sex is the result, and effort, of partners that take the time to come to know each other in a number of different ways. On sites such as this, members approach possible new relationships from the physical, sexual side of things, and as such the discussion starts there, with those preferences and those needs and desires. This is different than typical, say, dating sites, where sexual preferences seem to have a lower priority than one's desire to find a partner who likes walks on the beach, good books or spirited political discussions......though these interests may lead to heightened arousal as well. Again, we like what we like.......

I think putting the physical, sexual preferences up there first makes a lot of sense, for it really matters in an ongoing partnership. The tough part is openly talking of these things when people first meet in person. But honestly discussing it through a series of emails with someone you have not yet met face to face seems easier.....there is still a bit of anonymity and distance. And obviously, as always, the honesty matters.

I would bet that more people have found long-term partners and friends through sexually oriented sites than any of the Match dot com-type places.

Myself, as I am sure others have experienced, that after a number of emails where all things sexual have been kicked around, and where these needs and desires seem to be in sync.....that when we did meet in person, there was this comfort, this knowledge, this compatibility that made for a really good foundation going forward. Now, all those other non-sexual interests certainly matter, but those things could be dealt with much easier than a base-level sexual incompatibility.

And those walks on the beach?..........well, they seem to be just a little bit better.............