INTRODUCTION: Hello reader, thank you for entering my page. My name is Arturo Garcia, I live in Poland and have a 12-year old son together with a Polish woman, to whom I was married to just after his birth. After nearly 11 years marriage we divorced – that is about. . . . .

INTRODUCTION:

Hello reader, thank
you for entering my page.

My name is Arturo
Garcia, I live in Poland and have a 12-year old son together with a Polish woman,
to whom I was married to just after his birth. After nearly 11 years marriage
we divorced – that is about 1.5 years ago. Since then, the mother has over time
been limiting my time and contact with my son. In July 2017 she filed a court
document demanding to limit my parental rights and contact with my son. This made
me devastated as my son and I have a very close relationship to one another.
Basically, he means the world to me.

Unfortunately, the
process is not only heavy on my mental health but also very costly, and I have
a hard time to finance a lawyer. I tried to enter the process without a lawyer
but realized it is too difficult. As I’m a Mexican living in Poland – a very
bureaucratic country - and cannot speak polish very well, my knowledge about
the legal system, my rights and what is said in court is very limited and it is
hard to navigate through. Thus, in addition to the lawyer costs, I need to have
a translator and pay for the translation of documents. This process has already
been going on for 6 months and due to long waiting times for the hearings, it
will proceed for minimum another 6 months more. Therefore, I reach out in all
humbleness for your support, all for the benefit of my child to see and spend
time with his father.

ABOUT ME, THE MOTHER AND THE RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR SON

For everyone who
knows me and has seen me with my son, they can tell that I am a warm-hearted,
loving and caring father who always has the best in mind for my son. We have a
really good relationship, where I cook for him (and nowadays teach him how to
cook), take care of his health (he suffers from asthma and food allergy which
gives him rashes), I do homework with him, take him to recreational sites like
parks and museums, and I teach him basic moral/ethics and respect for other
beings. Moreover, we share many interests such as playing with our cats,
biking, playing music instruments together as well as sports (we like ping-pong
and basketball).

The mother is not as
loving and affectionate, rather the opposite, she is aggressive, possessive and
dominant – which I have been a witness of during our 10 years of marriage as
well as after the divorce. As you may have suspected, our son was not planned
and she is still remorseful and blame me for ruin her life, and she cannot
accept the reality. Basically, she only sees her son as her duty. Moreover, she
is a conservative catholic, which is caught up in, on the one hand, old
catholic traditions that a family/father should be in a certain way, and on the
other, that the mother has more right over the child than the father.
Basically, a man and father to her is someone who provides all the money to the
household, always thinks the woman is right and shall always be cherished. I am
not that man. I am more leaned towards equality, love and affection.

The background leading up to the case:

I first met the mother when she was studying in Mexico, and by the time that she'd moved back to Poland she found that she was pregnant and when it happened we decided to make the best out of it. I decided to leave Mexico behind to
take my full responsibility as a father, supporting the mother in Poland. Shortly after our son's birth, we got
married due to primarily practical reasons but also due to pressure from her
(conservative) parents. As mentioned, we were married for nearly 11 years and
in 2016 we divorced with the decision of having joint parental custody with
equal rights. At the time of the divorce, it was decided that the son would
have is main residence at his mother’s place (as I was the one who had to move
away to find a new apartment).

Since the divorce in
2016, the mother has every time limited my time with my son in different ways.
On various occasions she has cancelled the meetings between me and my son,
without any comprehensible reason. She has forbidden my son to see me and she
has even taken his mobile phone from him, as to prevent him to contact me. When
I try to contact her in these situations, she don’t answer her phone or say
that I am harassing her and all my calling to my son makes him feel stressed.
In reality, what makes him stressed is her aggressive and possessive behaviour.
In July 2017, she has reported me to the court where she wants to limit my
parental rights and limit my contact with my son. This breaks my heart. My
son and I have a very close relationship and basically, I live in Poland mostly
for his sake, as the people and society is in general very xenophobic and hostile
to foreigners these days (
https://newsocialist.org.uk/poland-2/).

WHY SHE WANTS TO LIMIT MY RIGHTS

The mother wants to
limit my rights to see and decide on central things for our son due to two main
reasons. She thinks that I don’t bring up our son according to the Catholic
faith and she thinks that I force upon my son a vegetarian diet, which is “detrimental
to him and his mental and physical well-being”. To my defence, I am a
man of high moral and ethical standards and I do nothing contradictory to the
catholic faith. Yes, I am a vegetarian, due to health reasons and ethical
reasons, and I wish my son to be that too. However, I have never forced this
diet upon him. Moreover, I am a follower of God and I was brought up by a
catholic family, but, I am not very fond of the catholic institutions. Thus,
her accusations are ridiculous. The true reason why she does this is only
because she feels that I ruined her life. She is so bitter that her life didn’t
turn out as she expected.

For the time being,
she is limiting my rights to see my son coming with excuses that he needs to
study more and have a lot to do in school. Her strategy is to send the child to
his grandparents as often as she can and keep him busy so that he will not
think of his father too much. I fear, that if she wins, he will become a harsh
and close-minded person like his mother and conservative grandparents. As the
mother doesn’t know how to cook, I also fear he will be malnourished.

SPECIAL CONSIDERATIONS TO THE CASE

As I am a foreigner
living in Poland, I have a hard time getting by in the polish institutions and
system as barely no one speaks English. Poland is a very homogenous country
where nationalism and racism is common throughout the whole country, which is a
disadvantage for me in a court environment as a dark haired foreigner. To that, the language
is terribly difficult to understand and speak.

Also, without
generalising too much, wherever you go in the world, in these type of custody conflicts,
usually the mother has an advantage to the father, who is considered less
responsible and caring. But in this case, this is not true or fair at all. When
the mother and I lived together, I was the person taking care of the household
by cooking, cleaning and buying the necessary supplies, meanwhile she was
focusing on her career.

Thus, due to the fact
that the mother usually has an advantage in these kinds of cases, I am a
foreigner and must bear extra Court Costs in addition to a lawyer - such as
oral translator during the court meetings and many translations of documents -
I kindly ask for your help as I'm struggling to get through this process.

The costs I have now
are 2000pln+2000pln for the lawyer, 500pln per hearing for the translator and
another 1000-2000pln for the translation of legal documents from Polish-Spanish
and Spanish-Polish. My estimation is that I will need about 10.000 PLN to cover
this whole process. (USD and EURO is also ok)

If you decide to help
me, I would be forever grateful.

If you have any
further question, don't hesitate to contact me and I will tell you more.

Have a nice day,

Arturo

INTRODUCTION:

Hello reader, thank
you for entering my page.

My name is Arturo
Garcia, I live in Poland and have a 12-year old son together with a Polish woman,
to whom I was married to just after his birth. After nearly 11 years marriage
we divorced – that is about 1.5 years ago. Since then, the mother has over time
been limiting my time and contact with my son. In July 2017 she filed a court
document demanding to limit my parental rights and contact with my son. This made
me devastated as my son and I have a very close relationship to one another.
Basically, he means the world to me.

Unfortunately, the
process is not only heavy on my mental health but also very costly, and I have
a hard time to finance a lawyer. I tried to enter the process without a lawyer
but realized it is too difficult. As I’m a Mexican living in Poland – a very
bureaucratic country - and cannot speak polish very well, my knowledge about
the legal system, my rights and what is said in court is very limited and it is
hard to navigate through. Thus, in addition to the lawyer costs, I need to have
a translator and pay for the translation of documents. This process has already
been going on for 6 months and due to long waiting times for the hearings, it
will proceed for minimum another 6 months more. Therefore, I reach out in all
humbleness for your support, all for the benefit of my child to see and spend
time with his father.

ABOUT ME, THE MOTHER AND THE RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR SON

For everyone who
knows me and has seen me with my son, they can tell that I am a warm-hearted,
loving and caring father who always has the best in mind for my son. We have a
really good relationship, where I cook for him (and nowadays teach him how to
cook), take care of his health (he suffers from asthma and food allergy which
gives him rashes), I do homework with him, take him to recreational sites like
parks and museums, and I teach him basic moral/ethics and respect for other
beings. Moreover, we share many interests such as playing with our cats,
biking, playing music instruments together as well as sports (we like ping-pong
and basketball).

The mother is not as
loving and affectionate, rather the opposite, she is aggressive, possessive and
dominant – which I have been a witness of during our 10 years of marriage as
well as after the divorce. As you may have suspected, our son was not planned
and she is still remorseful and blame me for ruin her life, and she cannot
accept the reality. Basically, she only sees her son as her duty. Moreover, she
is a conservative catholic, which is caught up in, on the one hand, old
catholic traditions that a family/father should be in a certain way, and on the
other, that the mother has more right over the child than the father.
Basically, a man and father to her is someone who provides all the money to the
household, always thinks the woman is right and shall always be cherished. I am
not that man. I am more leaned towards equality, love and affection.

The background leading up to the case:

I first met the mother when she was studying in Mexico, and by the time that she'd moved back to Poland she found that she was pregnant and when it happened we decided to make the best out of it. I decided to leave Mexico behind to
take my full responsibility as a father, supporting the mother in Poland. Shortly after our son's birth, we got
married due to primarily practical reasons but also due to pressure from her
(conservative) parents. As mentioned, we were married for nearly 11 years and
in 2016 we divorced with the decision of having joint parental custody with
equal rights. At the time of the divorce, it was decided that the son would
have is main residence at his mother’s place (as I was the one who had to move
away to find a new apartment).

Since the divorce in
2016, the mother has every time limited my time with my son in different ways.
On various occasions she has cancelled the meetings between me and my son,
without any comprehensible reason. She has forbidden my son to see me and she
has even taken his mobile phone from him, as to prevent him to contact me. When
I try to contact her in these situations, she don’t answer her phone or say
that I am harassing her and all my calling to my son makes him feel stressed.
In reality, what makes him stressed is her aggressive and possessive behaviour.
In July 2017, she has reported me to the court where she wants to limit my
parental rights and limit my contact with my son. This breaks my heart. My
son and I have a very close relationship and basically, I live in Poland mostly
for his sake, as the people and society is in general very xenophobic and hostile
to foreigners these days (
https://newsocialist.org.uk/poland-2/).

WHY SHE WANTS TO LIMIT MY RIGHTS

The mother wants to
limit my rights to see and decide on central things for our son due to two main
reasons. She thinks that I don’t bring up our son according to the Catholic
faith and she thinks that I force upon my son a vegetarian diet, which is “detrimental
to him and his mental and physical well-being”. To my defence, I am a
man of high moral and ethical standards and I do nothing contradictory to the
catholic faith. Yes, I am a vegetarian, due to health reasons and ethical
reasons, and I wish my son to be that too. However, I have never forced this
diet upon him. Moreover, I am a follower of God and I was brought up by a
catholic family, but, I am not very fond of the catholic institutions. Thus,
her accusations are ridiculous. The true reason why she does this is only
because she feels that I ruined her life. She is so bitter that her life didn’t
turn out as she expected.

For the time being,
she is limiting my rights to see my son coming with excuses that he needs to
study more and have a lot to do in school. Her strategy is to send the child to
his grandparents as often as she can and keep him busy so that he will not
think of his father too much. I fear, that if she wins, he will become a harsh
and close-minded person like his mother and conservative grandparents. As the
mother doesn’t know how to cook, I also fear he will be malnourished.

SPECIAL CONSIDERATIONS TO THE CASE

As I am a foreigner
living in Poland, I have a hard time getting by in the polish institutions and
system as barely no one speaks English. Poland is a very homogenous country
where nationalism and racism is common throughout the whole country, which is a
disadvantage for me in a court environment as a dark haired foreigner. To that, the language
is terribly difficult to understand and speak.

Also, without
generalising too much, wherever you go in the world, in these type of custody conflicts,
usually the mother has an advantage to the father, who is considered less
responsible and caring. But in this case, this is not true or fair at all. When
the mother and I lived together, I was the person taking care of the household
by cooking, cleaning and buying the necessary supplies, meanwhile she was
focusing on her career.

Thus, due to the fact
that the mother usually has an advantage in these kinds of cases, I am a
foreigner and must bear extra Court Costs in addition to a lawyer - such as
oral translator during the court meetings and many translations of documents -
I kindly ask for your help as I'm struggling to get through this process.

The costs I have now
are 2000pln+2000pln for the lawyer, 500pln per hearing for the translator and
another 1000-2000pln for the translation of legal documents from Polish-Spanish
and Spanish-Polish. My estimation is that I will need about 10.000 PLN to cover
this whole process. (USD and EURO is also ok)

If you decide to help
me, I would be forever grateful.

If you have any
further question, don't hesitate to contact me and I will tell you more.

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