AM I THE ONLY ONE?

I DONT KNOW WHAT I DID TO MY MOM WHEN I WAS LITTLE MY GRANDMOTHER SAID THAT ITS BEEN HAPPING SINCE I WAS BORN BUT I DONT KNOW.BUT MY MOM AT EVERY CHANCE SHE GETS LIKES TO SHOW ME HOW MUCH SHE DOESNT CARE. BUT HERES THE STORY. MY MOM CALLED ME A FEW WEEKS AGO AND ASKED IF SHE COULD CLAIM MY OLDEST DAUGHTER ON HER TAXES WHEN SHE FILED. SHE SAID THAT SHE NEEDED HER SO THE SHE COULD STILL GET HER FUNDING FOR COLLEGE. I SAID YES BECAUSE I DIDNT WORK ALL YEAR AND SO AT LEAST I WOULD BE GETTING SOME MONEY. WELL I THOUGHT THAT SHE WAS ONLY GETTING 500 HUNDRED BACK AND THATS WHAT SHE WAS GIVING ME. WELL THEN I FOUND OUT SHE WAS GETTING 1000 AND SHE WAS ONLY GIVING ME 500. I ASKED HER ABOUT IT AND SHE SAID THAT SHE READ THE PAPER WRONG BUT WANTED TO KNOW IF SHE COULD KEEP THE OTHER 500 CAUSE SHE WAS HAVING FINICAL PROBLEMS. SO I SAID WHATEVER. WELL I HAD TO KEEP CALLING HER TO GET MY MONEY THEN FINALLY SHE DROPPED IT OFF TO ME.BUT ONLY 400 BECAUSE SHE SAID THE MAC MACHINE WOULD ONLY LET HER PULL OUT THAT MUCH BUT ANOTHER DAY SHE WOULD BRING THE OTHER HUNDRED. WELL I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO GET AHOLD OF HER FOR TWO DAYS BECAUSE I NEED MY OTHER HUNDRED MIND U ITS BEEN A WEEK AND HALF SINCE SHE GAVE ME THE OTHER MONEY. SO SHE CALLS ME THIS MORNING AND IS BASCICALLY TELLING ME THAT SHE CANT GIVE ME THE OTHER MONEY BECAUSE SHSE NEEDS IT. I TRIED EXPLAINING TO HER THAT I NEED THAT MONEY BECAUSE I HAVE BILLS AND NEEDS TO. THAT SHE ALREADY GOT 500 HUNDRED FROM ME. SO SHE HANGS UP ON ME AND WONT ANSWER HER PHONE. BUT IT SEEMS LIKE EVERY TIME ME AND MY MOM HAVE INTERACTIONS TOGETHER WITH MONEY SHE SCREWS ME OVER. SHE DOESNT DESERVE TO HAVE THE TITLE AS A MOM. I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. HOW COULD MY MOM HURT ME SO MUCH? IT REALLY HURTS. ANYBODY HAVE ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS ANYBODY ELSE HAVE FAMILY LIKE MINE?

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Feb. 28, 2007 at 10:07 AM
She is a loser. I hope u learned you lesson and you dont mess wiht her every again. Dont waste you time. Somebosy liek that doesnt even deserve to see Maddy. If she cant give you money to help Maddy then why the hell should she see her?? She doesnt need to

Feb. 28, 2007 at 10:59 AM
My mom was the same way...which is why we don't have a close relationship. She thinks we do, but we don't. When I was 18 and going to a community college, my dad owed back child support and his wages were being garnished. The checks were going to my mom. She said she was going to give he money to me because I needed to pay for school. Well, it seemed like the checks weren't coming and I asked my dad about it. So, he investigated and was told that two checks were cashed by her! Can you believe it? I was so angry that she didn't even say anything. Well, I copied her post office box key and made sure I checked the mail everyday until I got the remainder of the checks. And when I confronted her, she acted like I did something wrong. That is just the tip of the iceberg on how she acts. I could be here all day telling you stuff. Now, every-time she calls me, I am civil but you can hear it my voice that I am not friendly. It just happens....some people are not close with their moms. Don't feel bad...just move on. That is why now that we are moms, we need to think about how our moms were. Let's try not to make the same mistakes with our kids. :o)

Apr. 4, 2007 at 9:29 PM
yES, I THINK EVERYONE HAS SOMEONE LIKE THAT IN THERE FAMILY WHETHER IT'S A SIS, BRO, COUSIN, AUNT, UNCLE, WHOMEVER. yOU JUST HAVE TO REALIZE THAT YOUR MOM IS ONLY ABOUT HERSELF SHE DIDN'T THINK ABOUT U OR YOUR KIDS WHEN SHE TRIED TO SCREW U OVER SO DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR HER OR OBLIGATED TO HELP HER IN ANY WAY ESPECIALLY IF IT HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH MONEY. sHE'S GROWN AND SO ARE U. THE DIFFERENCE IS U HAVE SMALL CHILDREN AND NEEDS THINGS CONSTANTLY! u CAN'T WORRY ABOUT ANYONE BESIDES THE PEOPLE WHO IS IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD. yOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY COMES FIRST. hAVE U EVER HEARD OF THIS QUOTE,"U GOTTA TAKE CARE OF HOME FIRST!" yOUR MOM PROBABLY FIGURED SINCE U DIDN'T WORK U COULDN'T CLAIM ANYWAY AND SHE'D GIVE U A FEW DOLLARS TO SHUT U UP AND MAKE IT SEEM LIKE AT LEAST U GOT SOMETHING! pEOPLE LIKE THAT U HAVE TO LOVE FROM A DISTANCE I HAVE FAMILY JUST LIKE YOURS AND MY MAN HAS OPENED MY EYES TO THE WAY THEY ONLY ABOUT THEMSELVES SO I REALIZED WHEN I WAS DOWN AND OUT THEY WOULDN'T HELP ME. i HAD TO QUIT A JOB AND GOT FIRED FROM ONE BECAUSE I HAD NO ONE TO WATCH MY SON WHILE I WORKED! i HAVE 6 SISTERS AND A BROTHER! U'D THINK WE'D HELP EACH OTHER SINCE I WOULD BABYSIT ALL THE TIME FOR MY TWO OLDEST SISTERS BEFORE I HAD MY SON!

I'm adopted and I just found my biological mom and i tried to form a relationship with her. I went to visit her and her kitten was really sick and i told her to take him in to the vet. For 5 days she watched him get sicker and sicker finally called to put him to sleep. so I brought him to the vet to get fixed up it cost 1530.00 but I said i would be financially responsible for him. She wont talk to me and ripped up pictures of me and my son. saying she doesn't like me. It's really heart breaking because i was without her for 15 years and always told she didn't love me. I didn't think it was true till now. You can't choose your parents you can only try your hardest to love them and build a relationship with them.