What Katy Louise Did...

Katy Louise writes about health, wealth, happiness and relationships, and the spiritual insights she gains along her path.
She is currently editor of Top Sante magazine (www.topsante.co.uk). Prior to that she was editor of Bodyfit magazine (now Your Fitness www.yourfitnesstoday.com) and the launch editor of Soul&Spirit magazine (www.soulandspiritmagazine.com). Katy is also a certified Fitsteps and STOTT Pilates instructor. She is the go-to girl for all matters relating to health, wellbeing and spirituality.

Sunday, 8 November 2015

A birthday blog

So, 37 years ago today I was born. First of all I was late by a few days, then even later as when mum went into labour, the hospital gave her an injection to numb the pain, which made everything stop. When I did finally arrive, at 3:07AM on a
Wednesday November morning, I had to be dragged out with forceps, or so I am
told.
Years later when I started delving into how events can affect us even early on in
the womb, and about the spiritual practice of re-birthing (during my
days editing the magazines Soul&Spirit) I began to wonder whether this
early experience had had an impact on me throughout life. I've often been quite
indecisive by nature and many times have worked up towards doing something
exciting or big, only to get scared and back out at the last minute.
It was usually only if someone else was involved in the process and was
there to literally drag me through it, that I would proceed. This applied to
job offers, houses/flats, and traveling. Was it too much of a stretch of the imagination
to link my birth experience – not that I can actually remember any of it
myself of course – to my later struggles? Or perhaps I was just
trying to create an excuse for why I had so often failed to act
when opportunities arose.

Being re-born
Back in July I went to see the wonderful craniosacral therapist Sheila Camino on Harley Street. It was for other health-related reasons but, quite unsurprisingly, during the treatment she said
she could feel immense pressure on my head and asked me about my birth. When I said I'd had a forceps delivery she said she could energetically feel them squashing my skull. So, she
talked me through a re-birthing process whereby the grown-up me
reassured the tiny baby me that there was nothing to be afraid of and
that the hold up was merely so the people on the outside
could sort out a few things, and it was nothing to worry about. Then she
got me to visualise myself coming down through the birth canal and
easily out into the open into my mother's arms without any assistance.
The amazing thing was that as she held my head in her hands I literally felt an energetic shift take place as if some
sections of my skull where actually moving, a bit like tectonic
plates that slide against each other. Afterwards I felt so incredible: light, free happy, and truly like I had been reborn. Also, a
lump on the lower left side of the back of my skull, which has been
there for as long as I can remember, had miraculously decreases in size, too. Sadly the positive effects started to wear off slightly after a month - perhaps due to stress - and some of
the tension in my head and neck returned. However as I begin today
and new year of my life, this experience came back to mine, and how we tell ourselves stories - often not very helpful ones. This story that how I was born may have affected my decision making is
not helpful and is just limiting. The self-help giant Tony Robbins,
author of numerous motivation and productivity books, says to get
anything done in life, a big part of it comes down to the stories you
tell, both to yourself and others. And if I'm totally honest, a lot of the tales I
tell myself with regards to my past, present and future are
not all that positive. For example, I quite often tell myself it's too late for me to do something I really want to do, and that I have missed the boat in
some way. In my mind I replay events of the past and
wonder why on earth I didn't do them differently - listening to the inner critic having a field day. But realistically, I
couldn't have done many things different because I didn't have the right mindset back then either! I was often filled
with self-doubt or fear, and you can't achieve great things from those
emotional states.

My new year resolution
So, this year is the year I will tell myself that I can
do things I still want to do. That I can join another dance group and that I am good enough (and that so what I didn't make it into a career). And, that I can write a book because
what I have to say has value and worth. What's more, I am allowed to take
time purely for me to pursue my creativity rather than feeling guilty
for not always doing something productive at every moment. I will also endeavour
to tell more positive stories about my past, focusing on the amazing
things I have done and achieved rather than what I didn't do.
This morning I read a really great quote from the Abraham newsletter I receive daily. It was exactly what I needed to hear. It said that we humans often
waste time thinking our ship has sailed so
it's too late. But they say, 'There are lots more ships! Stop worrying
about the one you missed and focus on the other ones coming towards you
and choose to board one of those instead!' It sounds so simple yet is
often hard to do. Nevertheless, it's better for us emotionally to believe there is still a chance and it is still worth pursuing our dreams, no matter how old we are. I certainly want to go on dancing into my 90s and who knows, maybe you'll see me competing on Britain's Got Talent (if it's still going in about 50 years, or some other version) and being like Paddy - if you haven't seen her inspiring dance, please check it out here. That's my idea of being an old lady!