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17 things mums are judged for

After you have a baby, it’s like the whole world and their aunt is entitled to an opinion on your parenting choices. It’s suddenly okay to ask someone how they’re using their boobs and what their sleeping arrangements are.

What is it that makes being a new mum a free-for-all for all the judgey-pants out there?

BabyCentre mums have shared what they have been judged for – you’ll be shocked by some of these:

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I haven’t even had my baby yet and im judged on how many children I want. I have no intention at all of having my than my son and that makes me a bad person

Amanda

My baby is just over 2 months old and I feel I’m already being judged for so many things! I had trouble breastfeeding at first and she’s been slowly gaining weight (enough but just on the cusp) so I’m being told she’s tiny and every time she cries she’s probably hungry. I co-sleep and she doesn’t like being left alone. I use a soother. List goes on sometimes with my mother in law around.

Beverley Reed

I co sleep too I try and put my little one in the cot first but if he doesn’t settle I put him in with me. Surely you getting some rest is better than walking around like a zombie. Iv tried to shrug it all off recently but it does get hard when you feel people are having a go. I’m sure your doing an amazing job x

Beverley Reed

My baby is 3 months old and likes to nap in my arms and when I put him down he wakes up. Iv been told recently by someone who has no children that I’m doing it all wrong! The comment really upset me! What’s so wrong about wanting to cuddle your baby or let them sleep in your arms surely that’s better than having an overtired baby??

Emma

I had been out at baby groups and shopping for baby all day I sit down get a tea and have a flick through my phone the looks I got was ridiculous
Like I wasn’t up all night with a teething baby and wanted half an hour to be human !!!

Emma Louise Coleman-Cook

It’s nice just to have that time to yourself you know how many people I see on the bus in the shops walking on the street with their baby and they are chatting in the phone or looking at it. Don’t feel guilty we also have a life even though we have a child.

Jen

Going to my baby when she cries or letting her feed to sleep.
Being fussy about who I’ll leave baby with.
Having a 10 month old who can’t crawl.

Claire Astbury

Having a large family, I have 5 kids and one on the way and people always have an opinion on this. All from the same man too which seems to shock people. My husband works full time and I work part time but we still get frowned upon x

lizzy

I was judged for kissing my son on the mouth he’s 4yrs now and he still kisses me on the mouth and im not going to change

Kate

For being a single, pregnant woman. My daughter’s dad left me when I was 10 weeks pregnant and we haven’t seen him since (she’s 3 now). Despite working tirelessly to raise a toddler, work, care for a sick friend and manage a home, I’m judged so much for having a fatherless child. It hurts so much!

Emma Louise Coleman-Cook

Been judged on a few things actually. I work with children so kinda had my ways that I wanted but once my little one came along it changed. I tried to breastfeed but he had tongue tie and did not latch I then bottle fed both formula and expressed milk but once he had it sorted he still would not latch so just ended up giving only formula. One mum whose daughter I looked after asked me how I fed him when I said she looked at me as though to say I was wrong or she don’t approve. Also at the start I wanted my son to sleep in his Moses basket but he would not settle at night and would just wake up once I put him in. I was so against putting him in my bed but as I was tired I did what I had to do for him to sleep and myself. Some people kept saying you should not do it they will just get use to it or just let him cry he will settle after. Hate oriole telling me how I should feed my baby, when I should wean him and how I get him to sleep. Everyone has different styles of caring for their child. It’s ok to have an opinion but they should maybe keep it to themselves and remember not everyone does everything the same.

Emma Taylor

Worrying too much about my daughter. I have been given the title ‘one of those mother’s.’ This has prevented me from talking about any concerns which has made my worry worse. Luckily I have a mother and partner who are supportive and are judgement free when it comes to worrying.

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