IMPORTANT! Weight gain... PLEASE READ

Okay Ladies...I'm not here to say anything negative about anyone, but I just want to know what is going on with so many people posting about how little weight they have gained and seeming to boast about it. Unless you were over weight to begin with, you should be gaining 25-35 pounds! I'm reading both the What to Expect book and Your Pregnancy Week by Week (which I would think most of you are) both of which say that in week 28 an average weight person should have gained between 17 and 24 pounds. My doctors alo say this so I am wondering if there are hardly any other women on this message board who are reading these books. I am not saying that anyone is being a bad mother, but this weight gain is something necessary for the health of your baby...Why do some women insist on trying to gain as little as possible and not understand that the distribution of weight is going to be all over your body? I myself am not always happy looking in the mirror at the dimple or two that's shown up on my butt:( but fat stores are a necessary evil for the well being of your baby. I've gained 20 pounds and am now in my 28th week. I work out five days a week, eat healthy and have my splurges when I really feel like I need then, Why is it then that I among a few others read these posts "how much weight have you gained" and feel like I've done something wrong because I'm on track with my weight gain? I'm not asking anyone to stop these posts, I'm just trying to urge the women that have gained under the recommended weight gain for their average weight to remember that other people read these posts. To remember that others out there may be struggling with their weight gain and when reading that someone has only gained 12 pounds in 30 weeks and feels that this is an accomplishment...that it is not. We all want to take care of our baby, but this message board is also here to take care of eachother. Lets try to encourage a healthy weight gain and not discourage the natural growth of our baby.Wishing everybody well.

Okay Ladies...I'm not here to say anything negative about anyone, but I just want to know what is going on with so many people posting about how little weight they have gained and seeming to boast about it. Unless you were over weight to begin with, you should be gaining 25-35 pounds! I'm reading both the What to Expect book and Your Pregnancy Week by Week (which I would think most of you are) both of which say that in week 28 an average weight person should have gained between 17 and 24 pounds. My doctors alo say this so I am wondering if there are hardly any other women on this message board who are reading these books. I am not saying that anyone is being a bad mother, but this weight gain is something necessary for the health of your baby...Why do some women insist on trying to gain as little as possible and not understand that the distribution of weight is going to be all over your body? I myself am not always happy looking in the mirror at the dimple or two that's shown up on my butt:( but fat stores are a necessary evil for the well being of your baby. I've gained 20 pounds and am now in my 28th week. I work out five days a week, eat healthy and have my splurges when I really feel like I need then, Why is it then that I among a few others read these posts "how much weight have you gained" and feel like I've done something wrong because I'm on track with my weight gain? I'm not asking anyone to stop these posts, I'm just trying to urge the women that have gained under the recommended weight gain for their average weight to remember that other people read these posts. To remember that others out there may be struggling with their weight gain and when reading that someone has only gained 12 pounds in 30 weeks and feels that this is an accomplishment...that it is not. We all want to take care of our baby, but this message board is also here to take care of eachother. Lets try to encourage a healthy weight gain and not discourage the natural growth of our baby.Wishing everybody well.

I haven't actually seen anyone boast about how little weight they've gained. But believe it or not there are lots of women on this board who did start out overweight. There are also lots of us who have struggled to put on the little bit of weight we have gained for a whole host of reasons.

Guess what, I spent nearly four months unable to eat because of nausea. I also in that time had to continue to work and function as an adult. It resulted in a ton of weight loss. It wasn't planned or ideal. But getting lectured by you that I'm not doing enough for my child is both mean and unfair. I've worked my a$$ off to gain the 9-ish pounds that I've finally gained. My doc isn't thrilled with the low weight gain but I'm measuring on track and so far everything looks good. I also know I'm not the only one on the board who's struggled with this from this end. Maybe next time you want to lecture someone about something you'll take everything into account instead of insulting people you don't know through a message board.

I haven't actually seen anyone boast about how little weight they've gained. But believe it or not there are lots of women on this board who did start out overweight. There are also lots of us who have struggled to put on the little bit of weight we have gained for a whole host of reasons.

Guess what, I spent nearly four months unable to eat because of nausea. I also in that time had to continue to work and function as an adult. It resulted in a ton of weight loss. It wasn't planned or ideal. But getting lectured by you that I'm not doing enough for my child is both mean and unfair. I've worked my a$$ off to gain the 9-ish pounds that I've finally gained. My doc isn't thrilled with the low weight gain but I'm measuring on track and so far everything looks good. I also know I'm not the only one on the board who's struggled with this from this end. Maybe next time you want to lecture someone about something you'll take everything into account instead of insulting people you don't know through a message board.

While I understand your frustration, it's not fair to assume that these women are purposely trying to not gain weight. I was diagnosed with Hyperemesis early on in my pregnancy and dropped a ton of weight in the beginning of my pregnacy. Every pound I gained was an accomplishment to me. So when at 5 months pregnant I hit the 11 lb mark I was thrilled and so was my doctor. I had worked hard to gain those pounds.

At 28 weeks I fluctuate between 11 and 20 lbs depending on my good days and bad days ( still sick ).

While yes, my doctor was concerned at first, numerous u/s showed my baby was growing and healthy and her words a "happy baby". According to her the baby takes what she needs and usually we the mother are the ones that are left malnourished and depleted.

To avoid feeling bad for gaining or not gaining, I typically just ignore the weight gain posts. Yours said important and to please read so I did because it appeared you needed help.

I am in no way telling you that your feelings are not valid because they absolutely are. But I will say that you should never let anyone make you feel bad directly or indirectly about the weight that you have gained. Like I told another poster..we are almost done and we will get our bodies back very soon :)

While I understand your frustration, it's not fair to assume that these women are purposely trying to not gain weight. I was diagnosed with Hyperemesis early on in my pregnancy and dropped a ton of weight in the beginning of my pregnacy. Every pound I gained was an accomplishment to me. So when at 5 months pregnant I hit the 11 lb mark I was thrilled and so was my doctor. I had worked hard to gain those pounds.

At 28 weeks I fluctuate between 11 and 20 lbs depending on my good days and bad days ( still sick ).

While yes, my doctor was concerned at first, numerous u/s showed my baby was growing and healthy and her words a "happy baby". According to her the baby takes what she needs and usually we the mother are the ones that are left malnourished and depleted.

To avoid feeling bad for gaining or not gaining, I typically just ignore the weight gain posts. Yours said important and to please read so I did because it appeared you needed help.

I am in no way telling you that your feelings are not valid because they absolutely are. But I will say that you should never let anyone make you feel bad directly or indirectly about the weight that you have gained. Like I told another poster..we are almost done and we will get our bodies back very soon :)

I am one of "those women" and I am not boasting in the slightest. Also, you say you are not trying to make anyone feel like a bad mother but then you turn around and say how horrible it is to not have gained a bunch of weight. I am 29 weeks, 4 days. I am 5'2, I was 115 pre-pregnancy and I am now 123. I never had morning sickness (thank god) I take my prenatal vitamin every day and I eat every 2 hours because that is when I am hungry. I eat well balanced, healthy meals. I crave TONS of fruit. I also splurge once a day whether it be my favorite cookie or a bit of chocolate. I work out every day as I did before pregnancy so my doctor recommended that I continue. I see my doctor regularly and I am measuring right on track. My baby was measuring 5 days ahead and in the 92nd percentile at my 20 week ultrasound. I am doing everything I am suppose to do to have a healthy pregnancy. My baby is completely healthy and my doctor is fine with the progress I have made. Just because I have only gained 8 pounds does not mean that I am doing anything wrong. If I am asked how much I have gained, I am going to answer honestly. People are different.. People gain differently. I know there probably are women out there that do try to not gain a lot of weight and that is sad for them but you can't assume all of the women on here that haven't gained weight are doing it on purpose.

I am one of "those women" and I am not boasting in the slightest. Also, you say you are not trying to make anyone feel like a bad mother but then you turn around and say how horrible it is to not have gained a bunch of weight. I am 29 weeks, 4 days. I am 5'2, I was 115 pre-pregnancy and I am now 123. I never had morning sickness (thank god) I take my prenatal vitamin every day and I eat every 2 hours because that is when I am hungry. I eat well balanced, healthy meals. I crave TONS of fruit. I also splurge once a day whether it be my favorite cookie or a bit of chocolate. I work out every day as I did before pregnancy so my doctor recommended that I continue. I see my doctor regularly and I am measuring right on track. My baby was measuring 5 days ahead and in the 92nd percentile at my 20 week ultrasound. I am doing everything I am suppose to do to have a healthy pregnancy. My baby is completely healthy and my doctor is fine with the progress I have made. Just because I have only gained 8 pounds does not mean that I am doing anything wrong. If I am asked how much I have gained, I am going to answer honestly. People are different.. People gain differently. I know there probably are women out there that do try to not gain a lot of weight and that is sad for them but you can't assume all of the women on here that haven't gained weight are doing it on purpose.

My situation was exactly the same as yours. I started out not overweight but because of horrible morning sickness list 9lbs by week 16. It was such a horrible feeling to not keep any food down and constantly worrying about the well being of my child. So yes I am now up 15lbs and so proud of it. Not because I've only gained 15lbs, but because I'm finally able to gain weight. My dr is thrilled too!!!! And yesterday we found out that baby is in the 90% for growth. To the OP... I've honestly never seen anybody boasting on here about gaining such little weight. I have seen posts about weight gain asking "how much have you gained?". Then I see women answering, not boasting, just giving honest answers. Before you post something that says something like this you should consider that there may be other circumstances to women not gaining as much weight as they are supposed to. The previous posts have already stated them, so I won't repeat them. I wish you a very healthy and happy pregnancy...

You took the words right out of my mouth Natalie!!!!!

My situation was exactly the same as yours. I started out not overweight but because of horrible morning sickness list 9lbs by week 16. It was such a horrible feeling to not keep any food down and constantly worrying about the well being of my child. So yes I am now up 15lbs and so proud of it. Not because I've only gained 15lbs, but because I'm finally able to gain weight. My dr is thrilled too!!!! And yesterday we found out that baby is in the 90% for growth. To the OP... I've honestly never seen anybody boasting on here about gaining such little weight. I have seen posts about weight gain asking "how much have you gained?". Then I see women answering, not boasting, just giving honest answers. Before you post something that says something like this you should consider that there may be other circumstances to women not gaining as much weight as they are supposed to. The previous posts have already stated them, so I won't repeat them. I wish you a very healthy and happy pregnancy...

I understand what you are saying. I am 28 wks tomorrow and I have gained 17 lbs. I started at normal weight and Dr said that I should gain around 25 but would be happier if I only gained around 20. I think I am more on track for the 25 but that is just perfect. I get that you aren't trying to 'attack' those who have struggled to gain weight or those who had terrible MS and lost in the first tri and are still trying just to get back to their starting point. It is the people who via the internet sound like they are bragging about it or who aren't overweight to start with and only want to gain like 15 lbs total. I have seen those posts on here as well and as much as it is difficult to watch the numbers creep up and up week after week I know I am doing what is healthy, eating, working out, and gaining for my baby.

So to the other women who have struggled, don't take this as being against you!! I get that you want nothing more than to be able to gain what you need to and are doing everything within your power to get there! It is for the women how should gain 25 but just don't want to. I have even heard stories from people about women taking up things like smoking or cutting calories because it can cause smaller babies so that it is 'easier' to push them out. Those are the type of people I believe she was referring to...

I understand what you are saying. I am 28 wks tomorrow and I have gained 17 lbs. I started at normal weight and Dr said that I should gain around 25 but would be happier if I only gained around 20. I think I am more on track for the 25 but that is just perfect. I get that you aren't trying to 'attack' those who have struggled to gain weight or those who had terrible MS and lost in the first tri and are still trying just to get back to their starting point. It is the people who via the internet sound like they are bragging about it or who aren't overweight to start with and only want to gain like 15 lbs total. I have seen those posts on here as well and as much as it is difficult to watch the numbers creep up and up week after week I know I am doing what is healthy, eating, working out, and gaining for my baby.

So to the other women who have struggled, don't take this as being against you!! I get that you want nothing more than to be able to gain what you need to and are doing everything within your power to get there! It is for the women how should gain 25 but just don't want to. I have even heard stories from people about women taking up things like smoking or cutting calories because it can cause smaller babies so that it is 'easier' to push them out. Those are the type of people I believe she was referring to...

I think that maybe you should do a little (read: a LOT) more reading than the What to Expect book and email updates. All women are different and what is important is that every mama is healthy and focusing on putting good food in as best they can as well as exercise in moderation.

I have only put on 4kg (9lb?) and I'm at 30 weeks. I kept getting stressed about it because I certainly haven't stopped eating, I don't over-exercise, my blood test results are good, I feel good and baby is measuring perfectly and yet people like YOU are telling me that something is wrong.

Luckily I have a great midwife who says that everything is absolutely perfect and I just happen to be using my own stores quite effectively and over the next 10 weeks I'm expecting to gain more.

I have read many many books, spoken to colleagues who specialise in pregnancy care and so I know that people's bodies work differently.

Maybe people aren't boasting but are posting their weight gain (or lack of) as a way of ascertaining whether they are 'normal' to see where everyone else is at. Have you considered that?

I think that maybe you should do a little (read: a LOT) more reading than the What to Expect book and email updates. All women are different and what is important is that every mama is healthy and focusing on putting good food in as best they can as well as exercise in moderation.

I have only put on 4kg (9lb?) and I'm at 30 weeks. I kept getting stressed about it because I certainly haven't stopped eating, I don't over-exercise, my blood test results are good, I feel good and baby is measuring perfectly and yet people like YOU are telling me that something is wrong.

Luckily I have a great midwife who says that everything is absolutely perfect and I just happen to be using my own stores quite effectively and over the next 10 weeks I'm expecting to gain more.

I have read many many books, spoken to colleagues who specialise in pregnancy care and so I know that people's bodies work differently.

Maybe people aren't boasting but are posting their weight gain (or lack of) as a way of ascertaining whether they are 'normal' to see where everyone else is at. Have you considered that?

I haven't noticed much boasting about not gaining much, but I have noticed lots of women feeling bad about a normal gain for how far along they are (and also giving their starting weights, indicating that they weren't overweight to start with). I think a better way to go about this without offending people is to say that weight gain during pregnancy is a GOOD thing (as long as your dr. agrees of course), and let's all stop feeling bad about ourselves for gaining the healthy amount, or even a little extra ;) (as is my case). I don't think you meant to direct this at women who were overweight to start with, or have been unable to gain weight because of nausea, but it may come across that way to some.

I haven't noticed much boasting about not gaining much, but I have noticed lots of women feeling bad about a normal gain for how far along they are (and also giving their starting weights, indicating that they weren't overweight to start with). I think a better way to go about this without offending people is to say that weight gain during pregnancy is a GOOD thing (as long as your dr. agrees of course), and let's all stop feeling bad about ourselves for gaining the healthy amount, or even a little extra ;) (as is my case). I don't think you meant to direct this at women who were overweight to start with, or have been unable to gain weight because of nausea, but it may come across that way to some.

Also it is not for you to say what should and shouldn't be posted on this forum. This is a PUBLIC forum and everybodies opinion and questions are important, not just yours. I could say to you that your post was rude and you're attacking women who have struggled to maintain healthy pregnancies and you shouldn't make posts like this one, but I wouldn't dare...as you are allowed to post on here as every other mommy to be. It truly makes me sad that you were so OK with coming on here and making a post basically telling women who haven't been able to gain weight to basically get on the ball and read a book. I'm a dietitian, I know what I'm supposed to eat and not eat, and I definitely know how much weight I'm supposed to gain. Sometimes life doesn't work out the way you plan it. So next time just put a little bit of consideration into your post, and please don't lecture mothers that are doing their best, whether you think so or not....

Also it is not for you to say what should and shouldn't be posted on this forum. This is a PUBLIC forum and everybodies opinion and questions are important, not just yours. I could say to you that your post was rude and you're attacking women who have struggled to maintain healthy pregnancies and you shouldn't make posts like this one, but I wouldn't dare...as you are allowed to post on here as every other mommy to be. It truly makes me sad that you were so OK with coming on here and making a post basically telling women who haven't been able to gain weight to basically get on the ball and read a book. I'm a dietitian, I know what I'm supposed to eat and not eat, and I definitely know how much weight I'm supposed to gain. Sometimes life doesn't work out the way you plan it. So next time just put a little bit of consideration into your post, and please don't lecture mothers that are doing their best, whether you think so or not....

I did say in a post yesterday that on a positive note I had only gained 5 lbs BUT I was a bigger girl when I got pregnant (5 foot and 195 lbs when I got pregnant) and at my appointment my doctor said I am right where I should be. I have by no means "tried" to not gain weight and I eat as I always have. Like others have said every woman is different and trust me I have plenty of "fat stores" for baby. With my last I gained 11 lbs total and she was almost 9 lbs and TOTALLY healthy! In fact at 14 months old she has never even so much as had a cold so I dis something right. And no I don't want to gain a bunch of weight because it will make delivery harder and is not necessary but with that said I am not dieting or anything either.

I did say in a post yesterday that on a positive note I had only gained 5 lbs BUT I was a bigger girl when I got pregnant (5 foot and 195 lbs when I got pregnant) and at my appointment my doctor said I am right where I should be. I have by no means "tried" to not gain weight and I eat as I always have. Like others have said every woman is different and trust me I have plenty of "fat stores" for baby. With my last I gained 11 lbs total and she was almost 9 lbs and TOTALLY healthy! In fact at 14 months old she has never even so much as had a cold so I dis something right. And no I don't want to gain a bunch of weight because it will make delivery harder and is not necessary but with that said I am not dieting or anything either.

Yeh, I'm not sure of anyone actually boasting... I think people are just bring honest. I eat pretty much whatever I want and don't keep calorie counts and actually haven't been eating very healthy at all and I've only gained about 13 lbs and I'm 28w5d. I was on the border of overweight to begin but I've read that the more overweight you are at the beginning, the less you should be gaining. Thus, I'm right about on track..... I bet there's a lot of people in similar situations. If anything I'm rather relieved I haven't gained a lot of course, but according to the stats Im right on track!

Yeh, I'm not sure of anyone actually boasting... I think people are just bring honest. I eat pretty much whatever I want and don't keep calorie counts and actually haven't been eating very healthy at all and I've only gained about 13 lbs and I'm 28w5d. I was on the border of overweight to begin but I've read that the more overweight you are at the beginning, the less you should be gaining. Thus, I'm right about on track..... I bet there's a lot of people in similar situations. If anything I'm rather relieved I haven't gained a lot of course, but according to the stats Im right on track!

I am one of those that have gained the " only 12 lbs " you're talking about and I am boasting because I have worked hard to be healthy during this pregnancy! With my son I gained 35 lbs. I am 5 feet so that took a toll on my body! I, therefore know that 35 lbs is too much for my body to handle. I am eating sooooo healthy and working out six times a week. I do not starve myself at all.I wish you and your baby well.

I am one of those that have gained the " only 12 lbs " you're talking about and I am boasting because I have worked hard to be healthy during this pregnancy! With my son I gained 35 lbs. I am 5 feet so that took a toll on my body! I, therefore know that 35 lbs is too much for my body to handle. I am eating sooooo healthy and working out six times a week. I do not starve myself at all.I wish you and your baby well.

In my first pregnancy, I had only gained about 5 pounds at this point (28 weeks) but ate everything under the sun. My doc said I would gain more later, which I did and ended up gaining a total of 26 pounds. This time around, I am right at 20 pounds or so with my weight gain. I think it depends on the pregnancy. Also, with my first pregnancy, I started out at 146 lbs and with this one I started at 128 lbs. So I bet my body is trying to gain more fat stores because I weighed less this time around. I'm not worried at all about losing it and still eat what I crave (in moderation). I, too, was surprised at the # of women who haven't gained much weight, but then I remembered with my 1st pregnancy, I tried everything I could to gain. Maybe some are like this?

In my first pregnancy, I had only gained about 5 pounds at this point (28 weeks) but ate everything under the sun. My doc said I would gain more later, which I did and ended up gaining a total of 26 pounds. This time around, I am right at 20 pounds or so with my weight gain. I think it depends on the pregnancy. Also, with my first pregnancy, I started out at 146 lbs and with this one I started at 128 lbs. So I bet my body is trying to gain more fat stores because I weighed less this time around. I'm not worried at all about losing it and still eat what I crave (in moderation). I, too, was surprised at the # of women who haven't gained much weight, but then I remembered with my 1st pregnancy, I tried everything I could to gain. Maybe some are like this?

I think WEIGHT is such a personal concern (not because of the emotional side) and individual that it is so unique and we can't just assume that women boast about gaining 8 to 12 pounds by weeks 24 to 28.We all have different frames and different issues during the pregnancy.So while 8 pounds might be perfectly ok for some, it might not be that ok for others.I think we need to shift the focus away from weight and start talking more about what we EAT.PERIOD.it is not about a number.it is about making sure your body is getting thr right nutrients.

Do we see postings about food journals? about a meal plan for the day? about dealing with strange cravings that provide zero nutrients? rarely

I propose more posting on meal ideas, on different ways of adding good 300 calories to our meal plan.But again, we are talking in general as some people may not need to add those extra 300 calories now.We are getting ready for last trimester. We should be starting posts on nutrition now to promote brain development

As for the issue you posted, I feel heavy regardless of the number I see on the scale and it will become more unbearable as the heat starts in Los Angeles and I prefer to deal with that and not with the number on the scale.The number is actuallt weird as it is not a big gain but the belly looks way bigger than the pounds I gained.It does not bother for beauty reasons.It bothers me cause the way I walk/ move and the activities I was doing before are changing

Tana

I think WEIGHT is such a personal concern (not because of the emotional side) and individual that it is so unique and we can't just assume that women boast about gaining 8 to 12 pounds by weeks 24 to 28.We all have different frames and different issues during the pregnancy.So while 8 pounds might be perfectly ok for some, it might not be that ok for others.I think we need to shift the focus away from weight and start talking more about what we EAT.PERIOD.it is not about a number.it is about making sure your body is getting thr right nutrients.

Do we see postings about food journals? about a meal plan for the day? about dealing with strange cravings that provide zero nutrients? rarely

I propose more posting on meal ideas, on different ways of adding good 300 calories to our meal plan.But again, we are talking in general as some people may not need to add those extra 300 calories now.We are getting ready for last trimester. We should be starting posts on nutrition now to promote brain development

As for the issue you posted, I feel heavy regardless of the number I see on the scale and it will become more unbearable as the heat starts in Los Angeles and I prefer to deal with that and not with the number on the scale.The number is actuallt weird as it is not a big gain but the belly looks way bigger than the pounds I gained.It does not bother for beauty reasons.It bothers me cause the way I walk/ move and the activities I was doing before are changing

I am trying to do the same but now by week 28 working out has started to change.Are you still feeeling the same way when working out?I still enjoy long walks and I can handle a 2 hour walk but the speed is not the same.Running has changed as well.I thought it was going to last a little moreTana

I am trying to do the same but now by week 28 working out has started to change.Are you still feeeling the same way when working out?I still enjoy long walks and I can handle a 2 hour walk but the speed is not the same.Running has changed as well.I thought it was going to last a little moreTana

I have actually already gained 26 lbs this pregnancy (ugh!) and its hard to read the posts about the women who haven't gained anything yet because I was that lady last time! I had horrible morning sickness for the first 6 months and actually lost 15lbs so I had to gain that back and then start putting on weight when I could actually eat. Rest assured I gained my 35lbs before that 9month mark. You'd be amazed how hungry you get in those last 3 months! At this point in my pregnancy last time I was thinking "wow..staying under 25lbs should be no issue" guess I went a little overboard! But my babies have always been healthy.

This time around its hard for me to look at the scale because I didn't gain this much at this point in my pregnancy last time, but I am measuring perfectly. My doctor is happy with my weight gain. I don't read any of those books anymore. I'm on #3. I kinda know how it works.

I do get where the OP post was going though. On the "how much weight have you gained?" posts there is hardly anyone that has gained more than 10lbs. Which is fine--you don't know everybody's story or body type or doctors orders--but it sure doesn't help me feel like less of an oompa loompa! I recognize those are my own insecurities though, not a problem with someone being a bad mother.

I have actually already gained 26 lbs this pregnancy (ugh!) and its hard to read the posts about the women who haven't gained anything yet because I was that lady last time! I had horrible morning sickness for the first 6 months and actually lost 15lbs so I had to gain that back and then start putting on weight when I could actually eat. Rest assured I gained my 35lbs before that 9month mark. You'd be amazed how hungry you get in those last 3 months! At this point in my pregnancy last time I was thinking "wow..staying under 25lbs should be no issue" guess I went a little overboard! But my babies have always been healthy.

This time around its hard for me to look at the scale because I didn't gain this much at this point in my pregnancy last time, but I am measuring perfectly. My doctor is happy with my weight gain. I don't read any of those books anymore. I'm on #3. I kinda know how it works.

I do get where the OP post was going though. On the "how much weight have you gained?" posts there is hardly anyone that has gained more than 10lbs. Which is fine--you don't know everybody's story or body type or doctors orders--but it sure doesn't help me feel like less of an oompa loompa! I recognize those are my own insecurities though, not a problem with someone being a bad mother.

Only reason I haven't gained any is because I'm still throwing up everything. It sucks and I know the baby is fine but I don't feel healthy at all. Im hoping to try to gain at least 15 in the next few months.

Only reason I haven't gained any is because I'm still throwing up everything. It sucks and I know the baby is fine but I don't feel healthy at all. Im hoping to try to gain at least 15 in the next few months.

i was wondering this myself. all the women that are gaining so little, that's really dangerous for the baby's health. UNLESS they are pretty overweight. i started this pregnancy what i thought was ten pounds overweight but my doctor said that i should still gain the 25-35 pounds. with my first i gained 36. i also followed one of these boards when i was pregnant that first time and it was the same thing with a bunch of women saying they'd only gained 10 pounds. not good. gain the weight! you really will lose a ton of it in the hospital and then a bunch more the first few weeks.

i was wondering this myself. all the women that are gaining so little, that's really dangerous for the baby's health. UNLESS they are pretty overweight. i started this pregnancy what i thought was ten pounds overweight but my doctor said that i should still gain the 25-35 pounds. with my first i gained 36. i also followed one of these boards when i was pregnant that first time and it was the same thing with a bunch of women saying they'd only gained 10 pounds. not good. gain the weight! you really will lose a ton of it in the hospital and then a bunch more the first few weeks.

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