Homes as 'Havens of Love'

Wednesday

Sep 26, 2012 at 11:13 AMSep 26, 2012 at 11:16 AM

The definition of Haven is a place of safety or refuge, even shelter. Isn't that what our homes ought to be for every member of our family?All of us should be able to look forward to coming home after a brutal work or school day, to the peace and security of our own 'Haven of Love.

Carmel Aaron/ Carmel's Coaching Corner

The definition of Haven is a place of safety or refuge, even shelter. Isn't that what our homes ought to be for every member of our family?
All of us should be able to look forward to coming home after a brutal work or school day, to the peace and security of our own
'Haven of Love.
I am reminded today that so many homes feel more like a service station instead of a home, where members stop by for food, clean clothes and to stop for a while and sleep, with no thought as to who provides the clean clothes or the good food.
Living in a service station type of home makes people feel that for the rest of their lives-the world owes them a living. It does not promote the loving atmosphere of a real family.
Our homes should be more than just a building; it should also be a place that creates warmth and good feelings in and for us.
We are responsible for showing our children how to be real loving contributors to the family and even to our own community.
Parents are given children so that our children can have proper training. It is our privilege, our blessing and our responsibility to care for them in a kind and loving manner. And of course it is a real job, although the most rewarding one we will ever have.
I heard the above statement about our 'Homes as Havens of Love' this past week-end in conjunction with spiritual training, which included teaching our children in a quiet mild serene atmosphere about how to live as an adult with love and how to be independent as an adult; thus equipping them for a happy successful future life.
The expression struck me as such a wonderful and inviting one; drawing me to it and making we want one for each and every person.
Whether you believe in the bibles' spiritual training or not, everyone deserves to live in a “Home that is a Haven of Love.'
As a parent I too wanted my children to be healthy, happy and capable of enjoying a successful adult life. I worked at making my home as Haven-like as possible.
Now, just why is it so important to create our homes as havens of love?
Let's consider the practical answer:
We all live in a world that can be unkind. Children go to school where bullies make they feel so bad that some have even taken their lives to get away from them. We work with ones that try to get ahead by stepping on each other. Many people only know how to be unkind instead of kindly building each other up.
There are deadlines, escalating prices so we are always rushing to get things done and trying to make ends meet, and sometimes it all seem so very impossible.
That's why a home that is a 'Haven of Love' is so valuable. It is a necessity needed because of the life we live.
When we arrive home we can enjoy the peace and serene quiet, maybe gently stroking a family pet. When we unwind from the harsh day, our blood pressure comes down. We are actually able to digest our supper, and really rest getting that all important nightly sleep with regeneration for our bodies.
Our home being a 'Haven of Love' is no place for harsh words, raised voices, screaming or any unkindness- as it is our haven. We can all work at creating a better Home-as a Haven of Love as we go along. It can continue to be a work in progress- just as we ourselves are.
For other ways to demonstrate our love please go to: http://www.squidoo.com/Demonstrate-our-Love
As we can see, there are many more ways to think about improving our health and wellness, than just good nourishing food and healthy exercise- although those are a great start.
Whether we are single adults, parents or children let us continue to build our Homes as 'Havens of Love' not just for ourselves only, but also for those we love.
(Carmel Aaron lives in Heber Springs, has a degree in biology and has been certified by Proevity in Nutrition and Glycemic Indexing; she operates Anatomy Academy Wellness, where she teaches a Certified Diet Wellness coaching program. New classes starting 2 or 3 times a year–- Group Discounts?-– email Carmel at: AWellnessCoach@Gmail.com)