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Do you strive to be Happy? It may be important to be Happy, however Happiness does not come knocking on your door.

Understanding the components of what makes you HAPPY is paramount to living your life with a powerful level of energy, peace and satisfaction.

MY POINT HERE IS…

(1) You cannot wake up each morning holding on to negative emotion and expect to have a good day. Wallowing in one’s misery can be an addictive exercise that erodes the mind of repair and regeneration.

(2) This very moment is the only moment you are living in and you choose the emotion to hold onto. Why not strive for something (lasting) that lifts you up.

STRIVING TO BE HAPPY is a fruitful task that becomes easier and more successful the more you are tapped into your true self. It allows you to embrace the next moments of your life with a stronger sense of self-reliance and confidence.

It is a conscious act that is at its most powerful when performed subconsciously.

Being HAPPY is a process that requires definition and refinement whereas JOY (see article “The Concept of Joy”) can come instantly and leave just as quickly. One is “happy” when experiencing a moment of joy, but true HAPPINESS is a more deep-rooted and highly valuable state of mind.

ACHIEVING HAPPINESS is possible beginning the moment you decide to say the following 3 statement out loud yourself (yes, OUT LOUD) whenever you catch your mind dwelling on things that make you unhappy;

“I want to be happy”

“I can be happy”

“I will be happy”.

You will immediately enter into a mindset that you have created yourself – and that you alone can control. You have decided that happiness is possible but you have also implanted the desire and belief that happiness is achievable. Without this desire and belief, you will be fighting a losing battle against the effects of any deep-rooted negative thought-processes you may be holding on to.

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.

Jim Rohn

Being Happy is an active process and the more you feed your mind with positive imagery and ideas while purposefully terminating the growth of further negative influences, the closer you will be to BEing HAPPY.

Know any cantankerous, bad-tempered, difficult, bitter people? Met anyone you may term a grouch, sour-puss or cross-patch who is not happy unless there is something to complain miserably about? Look at anyone who has lived past the age of sixty and you will find that their outlook on life is clearly marked on their face. Is their face set in a permanent scowl or do their eyes dance with light?

Now, I am sure that no one goes through life planning to end up an old curmudgeon,but rather, may become so due to choices made during their lifetime. I know there are those that sincerely believe that you have no choices in how your life turns out at the end; that if your life was meant to take on a stream of unfortunate occurrences then there is little you can do to change the forgone conclusion.

My point here is that despite how each and every one of us came into the world – completely innocent and pure, we were meant to exist for the purposes that we were created. We don’t have to know what those purposes are because not all of them will be revealed to us.

The conclusion then would be to make the right choice from the information that is available in the environment we grow in and with the people we associate with. Two infants presented with the same amount of clay with which to create anything they please will unlikely create the same thing and the same goes for two identically trained architects when building their own personal abodes.

I am not speaking here of the whole “nature vs. nurture” argument which has been hacked to death over the decades. I am simply speaking of the uniqueness and significance of every single person alive. Unique because each person is an original and has a choice in everything they do and therefore solely responsible for the results of their own actions. Significant because even when a tragedy occurs in a person’s life that makes no sense as far as one is able to reason with the limitations of our human thinking, the tragic event itself had a purpose. This purpose may never be known for a decade or a century, but could just as easily be revealed in the next 5 minutes.

CONSIDER THIS…

One winter evening on a busy street in Manhattan, Helena James fell from her tenth floor balcony, landing on the concrete pavement below. She dislocated her jawbone, damaged her spine and broke her legs in twelve places upon impact. She was rushed to the nearby hospital and had to have half of her left leg, just below the knee, amputated. The balcony was found to be faulty in its construction and the property builder had to face some harsh questions.

So who is Helena? Did she deserve this? Some may thing that it would depend on who she was and what type life she lived. If she was a pregnant nurse with three young boys to raise and a husband away in the military, some may feel that such a thing happening to her was unjust and cruel and made no sense. However, if Helena turned out to be a diseased prostitute or a drunken child molester, some may feel she deserved her fall. Why do we judge? Perhaps we do so instinctively..…but that is a topic for a separate discussion.

Going forward, Helena is confined to a wheelchair. Let’s say she is the Helena that is described first who now has to find a way to care for her family while her husband is away fighting a long drawn-out war. She lost her baby and is told she cannot conceive any more. There goes her hope of having a little girl. A month after the accident she is told that her husband had been killed in the line of duty. He was a hero. She hadn’t even seen him since the accident and her sons are too young to comprehend the concept of never seeing their father again.

Consider that across from the condominium building where Helena took her fall was a small unobtrusive bar inside which a young girl of about twenty-two sat hunched over her third vodka. Val watched Helena fall and thought she had imagined the whole thing until the noisy ambulance appeared. She also saw the pain in Helena’s eyes before Helena passed out. Val watched the 3 little boys screaming as their mother was taken away, yet she was too numb to register any emotion at that time. Her vodka was the anesthetic.

While staggering home with her mind on the plan she had conceived over the past few days, she kept seeing Helena’s face swimming before her. Back at her dishevelled apartment, even when she pulled out the gun from the back of the closet, she saw Helena’s face. Val had decided to splatter her blood over the bedroom wall, with the express hope that her stepfather would be the first to find her.

Now instead, Val dropped the gun and fell asleep with Helena’s face spinning in her head. Later that night, she awoke to the sound of the phone ringing. It was her bible-quoting friend Melanie, who kept bugging her about coming to hang out with her. Melanie revealed that ” something told her to just keep on ringing until the phone was answered….” They talked for a long while.

Fast-forward a few years an we find that Val founded a center for abused children with a special focus on the effects of incest. She has single-handedly saved countless children from living in fear, self-hatred and hopelessness. She never met Helena, but also never forgot her face. What happened to Helena? Well, Helena learned to walk with a prosthetic addition below her knee and cannot remember not having it. Her experience developed strength in her she never had before which earned her the courage to create a non-profit nursing home for disabled women.

The complexities of life and the very frailty of our humanity can create confusion regarding choices. However, making those basic choices in life are simple. Having the right foundation enables us to move through our time on earth with the peace in knowing that being happy is a choice.

Therefore, one can instead end up a perpetually joyful octogenarian without so much as a backward glance in regret. No one on earth knows what it is like to be anyone else other than who they are. It is a choice. It’s that simple.

Yes, times are tough, etc. Yes this happened to this person and that happened to that person – and it’s not pleasant. You wonder how you can cope with all these changes. Well here are some helpful boosters to remind you how to harness a positive outlook especially when it seems impossible to do so.Here are 7 Actions To Enable You To Better Deal With Tomorrow’s Challenges

Turn the TV off! Yes, OFF! Well… mainly the major news networks. You only need to catch the main news ONCE a day otherwise you will find yourself being subconsciously affected by the constant onslaught of bad news and the “latest economic downturn”. Remaining constantly plugged into the bad news has the same effect on your mind as attending funerals of people you know on a daily basis. It abuses your emotional system.

ACCEPT situations that you can do nothing about right now and instead look to situations that you can do something about to effect a positive change.

Avoid gathering that involve friends, relatives or colleagues where topics of conversation are anxiety-ridden, dreary, complaining sessions. These again are an abuse to your emotional system even though it may at first seem healthy to share how you feel. This only works if in the process of sharing you are assured of being provided with positive, encouraging feedback or support.

Set goals that make you WANT TO achieve them. CELEBRATE each baby step taken. And keep going.

Keep looking forward with a certainly of GOOD things to come. Wake up each morning and remind yourself that “Today is a brand new day and I feel GOOD about it”.

Be conscious of what activities energize you and ensure you maintain a regular dose of such activities. This could be hiking, swimming, meditating or even sleeping (who knew).

Build your external support system – this could be family, friends, colleagues or of course, someone like me perhaps…