I am new to this site. Can someone enlighten me as to why a man would post a picture of himself looking like he just crawled out of bed? What I mean by that is a profile picture of themselves sitting in front of their computer without a shirt on and hair messed up?

I am new to this site. Can someone enlighten me as to why a man would post a picture of himself looking like he just crawled out of bed? What I mean by that is a profile picture of themselves sitting in front of their computer without a shirt on and hair messed up?

I'm with you, Olivia. I also don't get the pics of kids, cars and pets. And while I'm at it - and no offense to anyone with a suggestive screen name, but do people really respond favorably to those whose screen names are very sexual in nature? Big turn off to me, and I don't think I'm a prude.

I'm with you, Olivia. I also don't get the pics of kids, cars and pets. And while I'm at it - and no offense to anyone with a suggestive screen name, but do people really respond favorably to those whose screen names are very sexual in nature? Big turn off to me, and I don't think I'm a prude.

Personally, I don't care HOW well someone "cleans up". I want a man that is respectable in his presentation to the world. When meeting / dating appearances should always be "best foot forward", so that's a given. My impression of a profile is VERY important to me. I prefer to rely on my instincts, and my instincts tell me that if a man does not care how he looks to other women, that he will not care much how he treats me. Good luck to all--True

Personally, I don't care HOW well someone "cleans up". I want a man that is respectable in his presentation to the world. When meeting / dating appearances should always be "best foot forward", so that's a given. My impression of a profile is VERY important to me. I prefer to rely on my instincts, and my instincts tell me that if a man does not care how he looks to other women, that he will not care much how he treats me. Good luck to all--True

My first reaction is if that's HIS idea of a first impression I'd have to hesitate to find out what more.
A picture, in my way of thinking, old fashioned or just common decency, is that it's the one thing on a singles ad that "should" first catch ones eye. If it caught your eye was it a positive reaction? if not just move on. If it was positive then find out more. Did his written profile written in good form? Was it blank? that could add some insight into why he would do that.
I've discovered that some folks are just so comfy in the skin their in that they don't give it much thought. This is me and how I like me. There are just so many things that come to mind.
Send him a note and ask if he has a shirt ! LOL LOL
Aimee Fla

My first reaction is if that's HIS idea of a first impression I'd have to hesitate to find out what more. A picture, in my way of thinking, old fashioned or just common decency, is that it's the one thing on a singles ad that "should" first catch ones eye. If it caught your eye was it a positive reaction? if not just move on. If it was positive then find out more. Did his written profile written in good form? Was it blank? that could add some insight into why he would do that. I've discovered that some folks are just so comfy in the skin their in that they don't give it much thought. This is me and how I like me. There are just so many things that come to mind. Send him a note and ask if he has a shirt ! LOL LOL Aimee Fla

I agree that some of the photos that are used Lacking good taste. Not the best ones that I feel some could use. some of the older Bloggers may know which photo I am talking about. It was showing a guy lying on the bed in what looked like a diaper "Diaper man Photo. " That photo probably was meant to be sexy for the ladies but to most It was a Joke.One should at least look like they took some effort to look presentable , not like they just crawled out from under a rock in the sewer.Also some of the Ladies photos need to be improved some are on the verge of being skanky and in poor taste.I know that I probably get flamed for this but. If you cant post a picture that your kids could see you should not post it on this site. If you want to send sexy pics, do that after you email each other . Just my 2Cnts worth

I agree that some of the photos that are used Lacking good taste. Not the best ones that I feel some could use. some of the older Bloggers may know which photo I am talking about. It was showing a guy lying on the bed in what looked like a diaper "Diaper man Photo. " That photo probably was meant to be sexy for the ladies but to most It was a Joke.One should at least look like they took some effort to look presentable , not like they just crawled out from under a rock in the sewer.Also some of the Ladies photos need to be improved some are on the verge of being skanky and in poor taste.I know that I probably get flamed for this but. If you cant post a picture that your kids could see you should not post it on this site. If you want to send sexy pics, do that after you email each other . Just my 2Cnts worth

Quoting: Originally posted by limeade
Oh, definitely! The answer to "What is sexy?" varies so much from one person to another.
I like the shirtless, sleep rumpled look. However, I don't think it is the best choice for a main photo- or perhaps any of the profile photos. Our profiles are often our only chance to engage someone's interest. To some people that sort of photo may say "I don't care how I look- this isn't worth my effort" or " I want sexxx" when they really might want say "I'm so huggable like a big squishy, fuzzy kitty!" Um, sorry. I must be experiencing some sort of hug deficiency, lol :)

((((((Limeade)))))-- Sorry but it's the best I can do for you.

Quoting: Originally posted by limeade Oh, definitely! The answer to "What is sexy?" varies so much from one person to another. I like the shirtless, sleep rumpled look. However, I don't think it is the best choice for a main photo- or perhaps any of the profile photos. Our profiles are often our only chance to engage someone's interest. To some people that sort of photo may say "I don't care how I look- this isn't worth my effort" or " I want sexxx" when they really might want say "I'm so huggable like a big squishy, fuzzy kitty!" Um, sorry. I must be experiencing some sort of hug deficiency, lol :)

Quoting: Originally posted by islandgal64
Lol, I might enjoy a peek but I wouldn't be able to take them seriously. Chances are if their own physique is so important to them they're gonna be seriously disappointed when they see mine!
I can just about accept a shirtless pic if it's on the beach, poolside or similar, but indoors? Just comes across as seedy to me!
I guess it depends on what an individual is looking for whether male or female. My instincts tell me if they can't keep their own clothes on, chances are their main focus isn't going to be having deep and meaningful conversation...... :)

OK, so perhaps a deep and meaningful converstaion isn't their main focus, but then again I wouldn't know that until I gave it a real chance. right?
And if he looked like a chipendale dancer (or anything that looked sexy to me), then why wouldn't I? :D Especially if we're only talking about a bare chest. I think the male form is much more beautiful than the female form. And who am I to judge a book by it's cover, or assume I know how a man thinks and feels without getting to know him first. :O
I've chatting with very attractive men who also have big hearts and good minds.
So ... Please feel free to forward all the hot ones to me if you find you just can't take them seriously. lol ;)

Quoting: Originally posted by islandgal64 Lol, I might enjoy a peek but I wouldn't be able to take them seriously. Chances are if their own physique is so important to them they're gonna be seriously disappointed when they see mine! I can just about accept a shirtless pic if it's on the beach, poolside or similar, but indoors? Just comes across as seedy to me! I guess it depends on what an individual is looking for whether male or female. My instincts tell me if they can't keep their own clothes on, chances are their main focus isn't going to be having deep and meaningful conversation...... :)

OK, so perhaps a deep and meaningful converstaion isn't their main focus, but then again I wouldn't know that until I gave it a real chance. right? And if he looked like a chipendale dancer (or anything that looked sexy to me), then why wouldn't I? :D Especially if we're only talking about a bare chest. I think the male form is much more beautiful than the female form. And who am I to judge a book by it's cover, or assume I know how a man thinks and feels without getting to know him first. :O I've chatting with very attractive men who also have big hearts and good minds. So ... Please feel free to forward all the hot ones to me if you find you just can't take them seriously. lol ;)

Quoting: Originally posted by bigtom77
Tell me this, Limeade, isn't it funny what some people think is sexy? Then if it's working for them I say more power to them.---Tom

Oh, definitely! The answer to "What is sexy?" varies so much from one person to another.
I like the shirtless, sleep rumpled look. However, I don't think it is the best choice for a main photo- or perhaps any of the profile photos. Our profiles are often our only chance to engage someone's interest. To some people that sort of photo may say "I don't care how I look- this isn't worth my effort" or " I want sexxx" when they really might want say "I'm so huggable like a big squishy, fuzzy kitty!" Um, sorry. I must be experiencing some sort of hug deficiency, lol :)

Quoting: Originally posted by bigtom77 Tell me this, Limeade, isn't it funny what some people think is sexy? Then if it's working for them I say more power to them.---Tom

Oh, definitely! The answer to "What is sexy?" varies so much from one person to another. I like the shirtless, sleep rumpled look. However, I don't think it is the best choice for a main photo- or perhaps any of the profile photos. Our profiles are often our only chance to engage someone's interest. To some people that sort of photo may say "I don't care how I look- this isn't worth my effort" or " I want sexxx" when they really might want say "I'm so huggable like a big squishy, fuzzy kitty!" Um, sorry. I must be experiencing some sort of hug deficiency, lol :)

Quoting: Originally posted by smiles79
Hi all, just out of interest would any woman on this site,or any dating site for that matter mind if the men without shirts were built like chipendales? would we question it or simply enjot it ?

I don't know if I would mind so much as I would think "this is a fake pic". I prefer to see a man who is neat looking with his clothes on.

Quoting: Originally posted by smiles79 Hi all, just out of interest would any woman on this site,or any dating site for that matter mind if the men without shirts were built like chipendales? would we question it or simply enjot it ?

I don't know if I would mind so much as I would think "this is a fake pic". I prefer to see a man who is neat looking with his clothes on.

Quoting: Originally posted by smiles79
Hi all, just out of interest would any woman on this site,or any dating site for that matter mind if the men without shirts were built like chipendales? would we question it or simply enjot it ?

I for one would ask the same question that I originally asked. Maybe it is my "old fashioned" side coming out.

Quoting: Originally posted by smiles79 Hi all, just out of interest would any woman on this site,or any dating site for that matter mind if the men without shirts were built like chipendales? would we question it or simply enjot it ?

I for one would ask the same question that I originally asked. Maybe it is my "old fashioned" side coming out.

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62
Hi Olivia,
Well who can guess what they are thinking?? lol
I would maybe surmise that they may think they are sexy that way, and that we wont be able to resist them. Or maybe they think that if we see them at their worst and still like them then things can only get better from there?
You are not really trying to understand the male mind here are you? Think that is brave of you. he he :)

You are too funny!

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Hi Olivia, Well who can guess what they are thinking?? lol I would maybe surmise that they may think they are sexy that way, and that we wont be able to resist them. Or maybe they think that if we see them at their worst and still like them then things can only get better from there? You are not really trying to understand the male mind here are you? Think that is brave of you. he he :)

Quoting: Originally posted by smiles79
Hi all, just out of interest would any woman on this site,or any dating site for that matter mind if the men without shirts were built like chipendales? would we question it or simply enjot it ?

Lol, I might enjoy a peek but I wouldn't be able to take them seriously. Chances are if their own physique is so important to them they're gonna be seriously disappointed when they see mine!
I can just about accept a shirtless pic if it's on the beach, poolside or similar, but indoors? Just comes across as seedy to me!
I guess it depends on what an individual is looking for whether male or female. My instincts tell me if they can't keep their own clothes on, chances are their main focus isn't going to be having deep and meaningful conversation...... :)

Quoting: Originally posted by smiles79 Hi all, just out of interest would any woman on this site,or any dating site for that matter mind if the men without shirts were built like chipendales? would we question it or simply enjot it ?

Lol, I might enjoy a peek but I wouldn't be able to take them seriously. Chances are if their own physique is so important to them they're gonna be seriously disappointed when they see mine! I can just about accept a shirtless pic if it's on the beach, poolside or similar, but indoors? Just comes across as seedy to me! I guess it depends on what an individual is looking for whether male or female. My instincts tell me if they can't keep their own clothes on, chances are their main focus isn't going to be having deep and meaningful conversation...... :)

Hi Olivia,
Well who can guess what they are thinking?? lol
I would maybe surmise that they may think they are sexy that way, and that we wont be able to resist them. Or maybe they think that if we see them at their worst and still like them then things can only get better from there?
You are not really trying to understand the male mind here are you? Think that is brave of you. he he :)

Hi Olivia, Well who can guess what they are thinking?? lol I would maybe surmise that they may think they are sexy that way, and that we wont be able to resist them. Or maybe they think that if we see them at their worst and still like them then things can only get better from there? You are not really trying to understand the male mind here are you? Think that is brave of you. he he :)