Ok. So here I am at my new T's office waiting for the appt. Of course I am 30 minutes early. I wonder I she has any clue about CSA. Wow all I can say is she is about to get a crash course if she doesnt. Ha. The wife is with me also

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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

First session with new T went well. She is a believer and she seems very well equipped for CSA issues an how it affect the brain. I was pretty impressed. She talked about tools and goals. Really good first session. I am so relieved right now. She seems very proactive and not reactive. I like that trait

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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

My opinion on this may be off but here is what I think. I think that when a person is sexually abused they are on of two types. Type 1 is a sex addict. One who feels like they need sex to make themselves feel worthy. They assaociate any type of touch to sexual feelings. This may also involve alot of porn and masturbation. Type 2 are the ones who feel repulsed by sex because it triggers them to the abuse they suffered. I think this type may even feel that seclusion is there any way to feel safe. There are probably so many different types but this , I think, are the 2 main types. I am interested to hear from others on this.

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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

I am amazed by the number of people we have here at this site. There is alot of survivors and spouses of survivors... I want to challenge those who sit back and read and don't post to take a step out of their comfort zone and start posting. I think I have learned alot by seeing what some people have been thru and what worked for them.

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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

I think that when a person is sexually abused they are on of two types. Type 1 is a sex addict. One who feels like they need sex to make themselves feel worthy. They assaociate any type of touch to sexual feelings. This may also involve alot of porn and masturbation. Type 2 are the ones who feel repulsed by sex because it triggers them to the abuse they suffered. I think this type may even feel that seclusion is there any way to feel safe.

yep - i agree.

that has been the story of my life - alternating betweeen the extremes.secretly - type 1.publicly - with other people - type 2.really screwed up - either way.no "happy medium" or "normal."

lee

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