(Closed) Vent!! really uset

Few days ago, i called up my Maid/Matron of Honor and my closest Bridesmaid or Best Man and told them I’m a mess. I need their opinions on so many things and i would really appreciate it if we could have a girls night and just discuss some of the wedding stuff that has driving me latley.

They said” Okay not a problem,we’re here for you let’s meet after tomorrow”

Today I called them and asked what time they want to meet they said 7:30

Since I’m in back pain and can’t go out they are coming over

Now as we speak it 9 and they’re not here.

My Bridesmaid or Best Man told me she’ll be here around 8 and still no show and didn’t call to appologize or anything, I called she didnt answer

I called my Maid/Matron of Honor half an hour ago asking why she’s late she just said I’ll be 15 minutes with people laughing around her!

Im just so upset. I dont ask for any help..ever really..and the one time i do i get stood up by supposedly the two closest people??

that sucks – i’m so sorry! i hate when i invite people over and they are late/no shows. that happened to fi and i last weekend – we had a group over, said come around 8, most people did and a few didn’t show till after 10! it’s like, don’t do me any favours by swinging by when you’ve obviously been out somewhere else…it sucks to be double booked, especially when you specifically let them know that you’re feeling overwhelmed and reached out for help. i hope they come through for you!

I dont have any advice since my friends are ALWAYS late and/or dont come if they dont feel it’s important. BUT where is your FI? Can you vent to him or get advice about wedding plans from him since he is the other person actually getting married?

Your friends were really rude for being so late, I hope they showed up eventually.

However, I don’t think it’s their duty to give you opinions on your wedding. Some people are just not that into weddings or details. For instance I would have absolutely no opinion on friend’s flowers, centerpieces, napkin colours, chair covers, etc. Also, what if you hate one of the bride’s ideas? Do you say something, and risk upsetting your friend?

You can always ask your FI’s opinions, or turn to all the Bees here. I’m sure you will get lots of feedback from the hive.

Alsace: I’m not asking for their opinios on major things, mainly just Bridesmaid or Best Man things and some minor things. I didn’t actually want them to make the decisons for me I just needed to blow off some steam and just feel like there is someone supporting me. Me and my friends are really honest with eachother. If they think there is something poor looking or tacky or maybe the guests won’t like the say so and am happy they do cause sometimes i lose sight of what im doing.

My Moh came but she was over an hour late but sat with me till like 12 to help and was really feeling bad she was late but was out of her hands. My Bridesmaid or Best Man didn’t come, didn’t call to appologize and waitined till the next day ( a few hours ago) to tell me sorry i didn’t come i was busy lol