She Said – 4/9/10

Um, what? Well they have the word sex in them, so I guess so. Have you ever googled the definition for sex before? There’s some weird stuff out there. According to the standard definition, sex usually exists when the penis enters the vagina and is followed by an orgasm. Don’t believe me? Look at dictionary.com’s definition of sexual intercourse: "genital contact, esp. the insertion of the penis into the vagina followed by orgasm…"

First off, this definition was clearly written by a man because we all know that men don’t really consider it sex unless they orgasm, while women (never me, of course) have had sex plenty of times with no fun factor at the end. Does that mean that if I fake it, he’s still having sex while I’m not? That’s really silly, dictionary.com. Let me look somewhere else. Wow, Princeton’s dictionary says that sexual intercourse is "the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man’s penis is inserted into the woman’s vagina and excited until orgasm".

See, here’s the thing. By these definitions, all sexual behavior done by bisexuals and homosexuals or anyone that does not perform the standard definitions provided for sex are not having sex. However, these are outdated. If we mandated that oral sex and anal sex were not truly sex, then there would probably be a lot of pissed off people. This is a really sticky topic, no pun intended. Definitions are made by people, but the definition for sex has not been agreed upon enough by everybody. Having said that, I think that the only ones who can really say whether or not anal or oral sex is truly sex are the people experiencing these acts.