So what are some things you can do if you don’t want to jump into or partake in vaginal sex? Here are 10 sexual things to do that aren’t “sex.”

1. Groping/”petting” – Not ready to take the clothes off? “Petting” has been keeping hesitant teens busy since your granny’s time.

2. Mutual masturbation – Masturbating next to your partner lets you share an intimate experience without exchanging bodily fluids that could lead to pregnancy or STIs.

3. Manual stimulation – Commonly known as “fingering” or “hand jobs” (depending on the anatomy being discussed), manual stimulation means using your hands to get your partner off.

4. Non-manual stimulation – You might also try stimulating your partner with your toes or feet. And elbows, knees, and whatever other body parts seem fun to play with.

5. Breast play – Did you know that the nipples are a major erogenous zone? Keeping it above the waist can be just as hot if you stimulate the breast area manually or orally. Busty girls might also try what Wikipedia calls “mammary intercourse”, which means sliding the penis between the breasts. Sometimes, this is simultaneously combined with oral sex (see below).

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6. Dry humping – Like regular humping, but without any penetration! This involves keeping the clothes ON and bodily fluids OFF. It’s “dry” humping after all. It can be tempting to try a game of Just The Tip, but if things are heading in the direction of vaginal sex, you need to put on the glove.

7. Scissoring – gURLs hooking up with other gURLs sometimes rub their genital areas against their partner’s. The male equivalent is known as “frotting.” Just make sure you’re both tested and clean before hand!

8. Oral sex – aka fellatio (giving head, blow job) or cunnilingus (eating out). And jsyk, STIs can also be transmitted through oral so you should use a dental dam or condom.

9. Anal sex – Knocking on the backdoor carries its own set of risks and shouldn’t be undertaken without protection or a lot of preliminary research to make sure it’s a comfortable process. Like vaginal intercourse, foreplay is a big component of keeping you turned on and loosened up.

10. Sex toys – You can use dildos or vibrators to simulate the experience, without dealing with the risks of intercourse. These also come in handy when you want to be in more control. Just make sure you clean and care for your sex toys — they’re going in your body after all!

I agree with Bubby. I'm bisexual though. Everything is already hard enough for me as it is because i get criticized about not being just straight or just lesbian. To me, everything that involves the genitals is sex. And honestly I had regular vaginal sex/whatever with a guy before trying many simpler ways of pleasure. I wish i would've done all the little things first before going straight to the sex.

Venus

Ignore the ones who tell you to choose between sexes are whatever! That makes me sick, because you think that maybe they would accept you more, but please, there's no sense in trying to have someone else accept you. Just accept yourself!!!!

So I wanna start off with the fact that I'm a lesbian*. And I want to say that I'm kind of offended that anal sex, oral sex, tribadism (scissoring), usage of sex toys, and mutual masterbation are on this list. Because I am quite sure if you ask any gay guy or gal about any of these things they will attest that they're all sex. I understand that these things are not all vagina+penis penetration, but that's not all that sex is, and with your title you are giving off the vibe that homosexual sex act are not sex acts at all.