The old timeless saying “an eye for an eye” resonates soundly even today. Simply stating, it means “if you do something bad to me, I will do something bad or even worse to you.” Upon first attempt at disambiguation, it seems perfectly logical, however, just like many things in life, it is not that simple. Countless lives have been lost and immeasurable human suffering have been exacted throughout the long history of human existence. All because people wanted “an eye for an eye.”

This brings us to a quote by Mahatma Gandhi, “An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”

Bitterness can consume you. It will destroy your soul from the inside if you let it overtake your life. Oftentimes people with a lot of fighting spirit have an offensive reaction when someone inflicts emotional pain on them. They want to fight back. Fiery passionate people are capable of achieving great things in life, but it also has disadvantages, in this situation it can cause them to fight back through bitterness. If this person directs their energy negatively, it will have many negative emotional repercussions. You think getting back at someone will make you feel better for what that person did to you? No it will not. It will only fuel the cycle of hatred until it consumes not only both of you, but the people around you.

Free Yourself

Liberate yourself from hatred, and from negativity. The greatest reward you can receive is freedom from negativity whether its a thought, a person, or a situation. Stay positive, surround yourself with positive individuals, and strive towards positive goals in life. Direct your fire towards something constructive and you will amaze yourself with your own amazing potential.

Artistic Inspiration

I was experimenting with a new painting style in this particular drawing. It made the shadings look quite realistic in my opinion. The downside was it literally took me the entire day studying how to do it correctly, and this was the only thing I was able to create. I think in the future it could make my drawings look a lot better, but I will definitely need more practice before I start using it regularly.

Laughter is good. Motivation is even better. Combine those together and you have something that can help you become a better person while having an awesome time. Here are some hilarious funny inspirational quotes from some famous people and some not-so-famous people.

“Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.”

MORAL – Learn to have fun during the good times, but you have to also learn how to enjoy life during the bad times. It’s easy if you realize the fact that you are lucky enough to have a lifeboat. Things could be way worse.

“All generalizations are false, including this one.”

MORAL – Never ever ever ever assume anything. Hold your judgements until you have concrete reliable proof to make assumptions, even then proceed with caution.

“A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing.”

Emo Philips

MORAL – Everyone is terrible at something, but don’t forget every person has their own unique strengths as well. Use those to your advantage.

“You can’t wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.”

Jack London

MORAL – Go for what you want. Don’t expect life or someone else to do the hard part for you. The harder the tribulation the greater the rewards!

“Everybody wants to go to heaven; but nobody wants to die.”

Hospitals For Souls

MORAL – Everyone want better things but no one wants to take the time out of their day or make the commitment of actually going through with it. If you want to get better things you need to have the willingness to sacrifice.

“Friendship is like peeing on yourself: everyone can see it, but only you get the warm feeling that it brings.”

Robert Bloch

MORAL – Don’t be worried about what other people think because they do not feel what you feel. It’s best to decide your life according to your terms. You are the one who will feel the direct impact of your decisions.

“A diamond is merely a lump of coal that did well under pressure.”

MORAL – Them more pain and pressure you can withstand the stronger you become. If you going through some hardships right now just know that it will make you even stronger and better when you rise up from the ashes.

“Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”

Will Rogers

MORAL – Even if you know the answers, if you don’t do anything with it, you will eventually be left behind as things change and adapt to new challenges that emerge.

“Life is like a sewer… what you get out of it depends on what you put into it.”

Tom Lehrer

MORAL – If you put in little work, you will get little rewards If you put in a lot of work, then you might get even greater rewards.

“The road to success is always under construction.”

Lily Tomlin

MORAL – Which is why you should make your own path in life. Even if you get a few cuts and bruises going through the bush, you will get there before everyone else.

“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.”

Truman Capote

MORAL – Failure is what makes success so sweet.

“There is a fine line between fishing and just standing on the shore like an idiot.”

Steven Wright

MORAL – You have to realize when something is a fruitless endeavor. If you keep doing something that doesn’t work, you are wasting your effort, your money and precious time.

MORAL – Never skip a day of motivation for your sake, but more importantly never skip a day of bathing for everyone else’ sake.

“I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.”

Lily Tomlin

MORAL – There’s no better person to be than yourself.

“There are no traffic jams along the extra mile.”

Roger Staubach

MORAL – Going the extra mile always puts you at an advantage because most people usually stop before the actual finish line.

“People who think they know everything are a great annoyance to those of us who do.”

Isaac Asimov

MORAL – Always be humble. Never let your success get to your head, because when you do, that is when you start thinking you are right even when you are horrendously wrong.

“If you hit the target every time it’s too near or too big.”

Tom Hirshfield

MORAL – Keep stepping slightly outside of your comfort zone because if you don’t you will never improve. Seek great challenges and those challenges will turn you into a force to be reckoned with.

“You grow up the day you have your first real laugh – at yourself.”

Ethel Barrymore

MORAL – It’s good to laugh and it’s good to find the humor in everything, but the most important moral to take from this article is that its best to learn to laugh at yourself. Learning to laugh at your own mistakes and flaws mean you have learned to love and accept yourself. That is how you have a life full of happiness and laughter.

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One of the biggest companies in the world, Apple, is responsible for the current tidal wave of mobile technology (iphone, ipad, mac). Like a sudden mole that appears out of nowhere, unless you laser that thing it won’t go away, mobile technology is here to stay. The visionary mind behind this is none other than Steve Jobs.

Despite the fact he has passed away, his legacy remains. He has changed the world and his masterpiece is still being experienced by billions of people around the world and will continue to be experienced many years into the future.

Even though some would not approve of his personal approach, there is no doubt he has achieved something amazing due to his sheer determination to succeed. Here are the 18 most memorable Steve Jobs quotes of all time.

1. “Everyone here has the sense that right now is one of those moments when we are influencing the future.”

2. “Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.”

3. “Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling sugared water or do you want a chance to change the world?”

4. “Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”

6. “No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.”

7. “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

8. “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”

9. “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.”

10. “My favorite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time.”

11. “Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.”

12. “Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn’t really do it, they just saw something. It seemed obvious to them after a while. That’s because they were able to connect experiences they’ve had and synthesize new things.”

13. “Bottom line is, I didn’t return to Apple to make a fortune. I’ve been very lucky in my life and already have one. When I was 25, my net worth was 00 million or so. I decided then that I wasn’t going to let it ruin my life. There’s no way you could ever spend it all, and I don’t view wealth as something that validates my intelligence.”

14. “Things don’t have to change the world to be important.”

15. “Design is a funny word. Some people think design means how it looks. But of course, if you dig deeper, it’s really how it works.”

16. “Computers themselves, and software yet to be developed, will revolutionize the way we learn.”

17. “I have a great respect for incremental improvement, and I’ve done that sort of thing in my life, but I’ve always been attracted to the more revolutionary changes. I don’t know why. Because they’re harder. They’re much more stressful emotionally. And you usually go through a period where everybody tells you that you’ve completely failed.”

18. “I think if you do something and it turns out pretty good, then you should go do something else wonderful, not dwell on it for too long. Just figure out what’s next.”

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]]>https://yawncentral.com/the-18-most-memorable-steve-jobs-quotes-of-all-time/feed/012 Revealing Habits of Extremely Successful Peoplehttps://yawncentral.com/12-revealing-habits-of-extremely-successful-people
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1. THEY WAKE UP EARLY

One of the most ubiquitous habits among extremely successful individuals is waking up early. The most successful CEOs are awake by 6 am. The earlier you wake up, the more you can do while the sun is up. This essential habit enables successful people do more things during the most productive hours of the day.

2. THEY READ A LOT

Winston Churchill’s daily routine included waking up at 7:30 am to read the mail. According to Warren Buffet the way to get smarter is by reading a lot. Warren Buffett adds, “I just sit in my office and read all day.” He estimates that he spends 80 percent of his day reading and thinking.

3. THEY EAT A BIG HEALTHY BREAKFAST

Benjamin Franklin, as shown in his original daily routine note, along with many other extremely successful individuals never skip breakfast. If you expect to do great things then eat a great healthy meal to start the day.

4. THEY RELAX BEFORE STARTING WORK

In one of Oprah Winfrey’s daily routine accounts, she sometimes plays scrabble right before a shoot. Taking time to relax right before work helps us get ready for the tough road ahead. If you feel rushed at the start of the day, it may affect your confidence when faced with tough decisions later on during the day.

5. FAILURE INSPIRES THEM

In an interview with ESPN Michael Jordan revealed when he first tried out for his high school basketball team. You would think it must have been a breeze for him, but in fact he didn’t make varsity. Instead of giving up, he used the mental picture of him not being in the list in the locker room as motivation. Michael Jordan stated, “Whenever I was working out and got tired and figured I ought to stop, I’d close my eyes and see that list in the locker room without my name on it… that usually got me going again.” Successful people use failure to succeed.

6. THEY ARE ALWAYS BUSY

You won’t be successful simply thinking about doing great things. Extremely successful individuals got to where they are by working their butts off. 67 percent of successful people watch less than an hour of television per day. According to BLS American Time Use Survey the average American spends 5 hours watching television and spends a total of 9 years of his entire life in front of the TV. Successful people see what a huge waste of time and energy watching television is, so they limit it, especially since the only thing on nowadays are “reality” shows.

7. THEY ARE HUMBLE

Humility comes a long way. It is not simply about talking humble its about a more profound sense of humility. That means you should not take things for granted. Two of the most successful boxer of this generation Manny Pacquiao and Floy Mayweather say they always train as if it’s they’re first time training. Both these two champions got to where they are by taking their competitions seriously. In boxing and in any competitive field, letting your ego get in the way will knock you back down to reality.

8. THEY TURN BAD LUCK INTO CHALLENGES

Sometimes we easily get discouraged by minor setbacks. You can’t always wait for the perfect opportunity. Franklin Roosevelt was partially paralyzed at the age of 39. A person with a weak will use that as an excuse. Roosevelt pushed on and became the president of the United States at age 46 and was known to be the most energetic president to ever set foot in the White House despite his disability.

9. THEY SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS

Success isn’t all about working. Its about establishing real connections with people and forming symbiotic relationships that benefit everyone involved. Many extremely successful people leave time to relax with friends and family, such as Steve Jobs who always leaves time at the end of the day to have dinner with family and friends. Many of the greatest achievers have succeeded with the support of the people they trust and love.

10. THEY ENJOY THEIR WORK

In a study of general managers in industry, many of them worked 60 to 65 hours per week which is 6 days of working 10 hours. How does one achieve that? You have to love your work. If you do that, it will feel like you have never worked a day of your life.

11. THEY THINK DIFFERENTLY

In the video “day in the life” of famous billionaire Richard Branson, the founder and chairman of the Virgin Group, he talks about making a “positive difference.” Distinguishing themselves from the crowd, successful people like Branson rose to the top because of their habit of tackling problem in unexpected ways. As a result, they gained unexpected rewards.

12. THEY ACT IMMEDIATELY

One of the most important habits of extremely successful people is the tendency to take action right away. As Benjamin Franklin states, “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” The tendency to take the initiative is a very powerful trait. Everyone has a tendency to procrastinate. Successful individuals counter-act that by doing something small but immediate to get the ball rolling. Normal people tend to obsess and obsess until they talk themselves out of doing something productive.

SUCCESS IS A STATE OF MIND

The common assumption about success is it’s something you attain, when in fact is a state of being. Many extremely successful individuals were already mentally successful before they attained material success – it just took a while for the world to notice. Your habits mold you into the person you are and these habits of extremely successful individuals will surely mold you into a person capable of achieving great things.
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We hear it everywhere, read it everywhere, and we even feel that procrastination is a bad thing. However, is it really detrimental to our well being and personal development?

From personal experience

I’m not gonna lie, I procrastinate. Just before I wrote this paragraph I went to r/jokes and chuckled a bit. I then went on YouTube and searched some Louis CK clips until I realized I’m supposed to be writing. If you look at it from a productivity perspective, procrastination is a bad thing since I spent time just fooling around on the internet. But is that really all I gained? One thing I’ve learned about the human mind is that many of our natural reactions to stimuli have a purpose.

To really be sure, we need to understand what procrastination is.

So what is procrastination

In layman terms, procrastination is basically doing things that are relatively fun instead of stressful activities such as writing a research paper or getting your chores done. Psychologically speaking, it gets a bit more complex than that. In 2010 Peir Steele wrote “The Procrastination Equation.”

Temporal Motivation Theory

In this book he mentioned the strong connection between impulsiveness and procrastination. Steele and Cornelius J. König formulated a mathematical equation called temporal motivation theory. Now don’t get a heart attack, the equation below may look more complicated than it actually is.

Now I will tell what each of the variables mean before I explain to you the meaning behind the equation and how its related to procrastination.

Motivation is the desire for the outcome. Expectancy is the probability of you succeeding in what you are motivated to achieve. Basically, it’s how easy it is to achieve the outcome. Value is the reward you get for achieving the outcome. I believe the number 1 is just there as a mathematical rationalization, so don’t even worry about that for now. Impulsiveness is the person’s need for instant gratification. And Delay is the perceived time it takes to achieve the outcome.

What the equation means

So if you touch up on your math division skills, the number on top is divided by the number at the bottom. That means the bigger your Expectancy and Value is, aka the easier it is to achieve the outcome and the greater the reward, the more motivated you will be.

Now the bigger the bottom number is, the greater it divides the top. The bigger the Impulsiveness and Delay, aka the more you want instant gratification and the greater delay it takes to achieve what you are trying to achieve, then the more it will divide the product of Expectancy and Value thus decreasing your overall Motivation.

How it applies to procrastination

In reality you are actually dealing with several of these equations. You basically assess how motivated you are to do the productive activity or how motivated you are to do something more pleasurable. Productive things obviously have greater rewards but the time it takes and the effort it takes to achieve them are often more difficult than pleasurable easily accessible activities. If your need for instant gratification (impulsiveness) is high, then it just destroys any of your motivation for the productive activity.

Simply speaking if your impulsiveness is always high, you will continually opt for doing the more pleasurable activities resulting in chronic procrastination.

So is procrastination really bad for you?

From this perspective its pretty obvious that procrastination is destructive and I’m just doing the whole “Is procrastination really a bad thing” to create some artificial controversy in this article.

It has a purpose

Procrastination actually has a purpose. It is our minds way of escaping stress and comforting ourselves by subconsciously choosing to delay our action. Imagine how frightening it would be if we can’t procrastinate while doing something that gives us a lot of mental stress.

It would be the definition of mind forged manacles. A physical example would be similar to not being able to instinctively move your hand away when your arm starts to get burned.

Procrastination is one of our coping mechanisms that allow us to move away from what we find psychologically painful. So taking from that not all procrastination should be seen as a bad thing.

When is it bad

In psychology, they used to group people under “personality disorders” such as borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder etc. They found that it is not exactly accurate to label these personality characteristics as disorder when they are merely traits.

Each person has a certain level of narcissism, certain level of having a borderline personality, certain level of histrionism because we all have different life experiences. It is only considered a “disorder” when it prevents you from normal functioning.

It applies to procrastination as well. Some procrastination may in fact be helping us function because it keeps us psychologically sane. However, there are situations when procrastination is keeping us from doing normal functioning such as staying in bed for hours everyday playing Candy Crush because the thought of getting up and doing important day to day things such as eating and showering is too stressful.

So what is the correct way to control procrastination

With all that said, to truly reduce procrastination, we should stop looking at it like its a bad thing, but rather look at procrastination as a natural reaction.

I will tell you the correct way of reducing procrastination by teaching you how to live with it in a way that will allow you to maximize productivity but still allowing yourself enough psychological relief that you don’t end up getting overwhelmed. I’ve written The Definitive Guide to Overcoming Procrastination.

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Conversations are one of the greatest simple pleasures in life. It helps us connect and it helps us express our feelings. Sometimes they go well and our lives are changed forever, and sometimes they go horribly wrong, and well, our lives are also changed forever.

I was an awkward kid

A long long time ago when I was in grade school I had one of the most awkward social interactions of my entire life. It was shaping up to be a good day because we finished our in-class homework early so me and my best friend decided to take a stroll.

Overwhelmed with the amazing feeling of being out of class early, I was literally galloping along like a fawn in a Disney movie. It was then that I caught sight of my crush, and more importantly she initiated a conversation with me. It was the best day ever, or so I thought.

So a cute girl said hi to me, it was a great day, but guess what – I did not know what to say. I just stood there staring at her looking like a weirdo. Eventually something came to my mind and I tried cracking a witty joke. The joke was okay. Unfortunately, I was so tense that I made the huge mistake of laughing through my nose instead of my mouth. It just so happened that I had a heavy cold that day, so my runny nose made itself known like a firework on new year’s eve.

Looking back, I remember her face went from ecstatic to utter fear in an instant. The funny thing was she didn’t even pretend to not see that, she just saw and left and we never talked again. It’s funny to me now, but it was an extremely embarrassing moment for me back then. My best friend was laughing and I just laughed along with my tail in between my legs.

Awkward interactions always happen

We all have had awkward conversations, most of them not as extreme as my experience above, but most of them could be avoided if we simply knew the important aspects of a good conversation and a genuine connection. Just like what happened to me, we often times gets so tense that we do something stupid. I have come a long way from that awkward kid, not because I am “Mr.Smooth” but because I have made many more embarrassing mistakes that they have literally been carved into my memory.

Mistakes help you learn

Wouldn’t it be nice if we were taught the secrets to a great conversation by our parents or in school. Well here I am to save you all the trouble. You won’t have to go through all the awkward silences, bad jokes and face palms I had to go through. Just kidding, you probably still have to, but at least not as much. So here are the 10 conversation secrets everyone should know about.

1. RELAX AND LISTEN

It is true that relaxing is easier said than done. When we are faced with a person we like, we tense up because we don’t want to make a mistake. This makes us self-conscious and all the pressure dramatically increases anxiety. Anxiety that inhibits our judgement. It also affects our body in many ways such as involuntary stuttering, uncontrollable sweating, panic farting etc. We all know those things can lead to embarrassing results that can haunt you for years, especially if its so bad you become a meme.

Secret: Instead of focusing on yourself, focus on the person you are talking to. Instead of being insecure about your self-worth flip the switch and see if you truly find something unique about the person you are talking to. It works similar to a technique used by people with social phobia. Instead of looking and thinking about people around them, they focus on other things such as counting the tiles on the floor, browsing through their phone, looking at passing cars, and many more things that distract you from what may trigger your anxiety.

The thing about these things is they are merely crutches and hinder your ability to connect with other people. I mean it would be pretty weird if you just suddenly start counting tiles on the floor while in the middle of a sentence. The best way to deal with anxiety during a conversation is to remove the focus from yourself and focus understanding the personality and situation of the person you are talking to. It builds connection and reduces anxiety – a win win situation.

2. WHY SO SERIOUS

There is a time and place for deep heart felt conversations. Meeting new people is not the place for them. Unless it’s a special circumstance, people will often be overwhelmed by the sudden rush of intimate conversation and pull away. Being easily offended will equally repel people from you. Being too stiff is just no fun, and makes for an unrewarding interaction.

Secret: Don’t take things too seriously. Joke around and roll with the punches. It will make for more interesting non-committal conversations that will make someone more comfortable to stick around and chat. It’s not what you say that matters, its how you say it.

3. BE GENUINE

There are minute facial reactions that occur when we are interested in someone or when we are genuinely happy i.e. raised eyebrows, wider eyes, better posture, dilated pupils etc. that we can’t fake. People pick up on those tiny body languages subconsciously and emotionally react to it. When we become dishonest, the discomfort shows in our body language and people instinctively react to it and the conversation becomes awkward.

Secret: Its best to be honest. I’m not saying wear your heart out on your sleeve, since that can be overwhelming especially for people you just recently met. But if you are feeling down, let someone know in a subtle way such as “Sorry if I seem a bit down today, I’m just having a bad day so anyways what were you saying?” There are polite ways to say sensitive topics for the sake of being honest. Doing so will make you feel better which in turn will make the person you are talking to reciprocate the positive attitude.

4. BE POSITIVE

It can be draining to talk someone who is always negative. If all you talk about is bad news and negativity, you become associated with it and people will develop an aversion towards you.

Secret: Its best to look at the bright side of things. You become a beacon of excitement and fun, and people gravitate towards positivity. That being said, it is not a good thing to feel like you should keep things bottled in, and you should always be “Miss Perfect.” There are ways to discuss negative aspects of life in a positive way, so don’t think for a second that you have to be fake. We are all human, we all have flaws. Those flaws make you unique and you should not see them in a negative way, but in a positive way. See, you even become a better friend to yourself.

5. BE INTERESTING

A lot of people have the common misconception that they have to show others how “cool” they are by talking about the “cool” stuff that they do. That is by far the most boring thing you can do when meeting people. Ask about them, talk about their amazing experiences and relate those to your experiences creating a connection between their experiences and yours. That “Me Too!” moment is the eureka where a simple conversation blossoms into a so-close-ill-fart-even-when-your-around type of friendship.

Secret: Avoid asking too many “interview questions” that require only one answer. Instead throw in some open-ended questions. Let’s say your friend talked about her recent trip to India, ask them a question that requires them to think creatively like “What was the most exciting part of your trip?” or “Did you experience anything unexpected?”

6. TELL A STORY

The most captivating people are people who know how to tell an amazing story. You’re capability to tell a good story will highlight your personality. It helps the people you meet get to know you better and makes them want to know more about your experiences because the way you share your experience makes people care about you, makes them sympathize with your struggles, makes them feel your joy when you accomplish what you have attained. Basically if you know to how to tell a good story, you are basically taking someone on a journey with you not using your feet but using your words and expressions.

Secret: Talk about your story with emotion. Tell them how you felt about what you saw, heard, or experienced. Adding some physical gestures into it will certain increase the impact. A story with no emotion is like a 4th of July with no fireworks or a Christmas with no gifts. For a more detailed analysis Andrew Stanton, the writer and director of Pixar, talks about how to tell a great story on his TED talk.

7. DON’T BE TOO AVAILABLE

People become uncomfortable when they feel like they are trapped in a conversation even if they like the person they are talking to. It’s some kind of social pressure that tends show up once in a while and takes you off guard.

Secret: If you are in a party or gathering, exit politely by going to the bathroom or getting some food if you think the conversation is going stale. It’s also nice to give someone opportunities to exit a conversation just in case they have to get going. People have stuff to do, don’t stress about it if they to leave prematurely there is always a next time.

8. EYE CONTACT

This is by far one of the most overlooked aspect of connecting with people. If you talk to someone who doesn’t give you enough eye contact, they seem either distant or awkward. Too much and it becomes intimidating.

Secret: Don’t be afraid to make facial expressions with your eyes. A creepy stare is often times a blank emotionless stare.

9. BE UNDERSTANDABLE

Talking too fast is a common reaction when nervous. When people don’t understand you, they can’t relate to you and they will often end up just cruising through the conversation.

Secret: Take out your mobile phone and record yourself telling a story. It should give you a very good indication of what you need to work on.

10. GIVE COMPLIMENTS

Every person has something amazing to offer and it is an amazing feeling when someone acknowledges that. Don’t forget that after getting to know someone, its best to give someone a little bit of genuine compliment. Something like “You’re pretty smart” or “You’re having a good hair day” can go a long way.

Secret: A genuine compliment about someone’s uniqueness helps establish a deep connection because people often times give generalized compliments. People like to be appreciated for who they really are.

Enjoy yourself

It’s easy to get lost in your own head when it comes to dealing with social matters. We feel vulnerable when we feel like we are being rejected. Don’t feel like there is something wrong with you when someone you like doesn’t reciprocate. If things don’t work out then simply move on. Don’t obsessed over it because the reason for things not working out can be one in a million reasons. Just relax and enjoy the ride.

Enjoy the little things, enjoy the small conversations, even enjoy your mistakes and the funny anecdotes. Simply enjoy meeting all kinds of people because we live in a golden age of inter-connectivity. It used to be that you’d need to ride a camel 10 days just to say hi to someone new. It’s a whole world out there, meet friends, build positive relationships and ignore the haters.

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You are too afraid to speak your mind. Too afraid to try anything outside of your comfort zone. Despite your numerous chances, you never had the guts to talk that cute girl in your biology class. You are so afraid at offending anyone you just agree to do whatever anyone tells you. You think you are being nice and polite whenever you let people push you around at their will. You never do the things that you want to do due to fear of people’s opinion. You feel this huge void inside, and you feel empty.

” I’d rather die on my feet than live on my knees. “

What’s the deal?

Recently I ran across the soundtrack of 300 rise of the empire and this music just gave me the inspiration to draw the above piece. It was an immensely interesting experience as I drew this while listening to such an epic soundtrack.

However, most importantly it made me realize my primary drive as to why I’m doing everything in my capability to rise beyond mediocrity – I don’t want fame, I don’t want riches. What I do want with every inch of my existence is to live on my own terms. To live according to my own free will.

I believe I am not alone. The United States after all is a country founded on freedom. To dig hard on the ground, get calluses, sweat and bleed just so you can breathe freely and spread your arms as you look towards the sun saying you are free.

But we are already free

Everyday we are subjected to “mind-forged manacles” by the people around us, but often times by our own selves. Freedom is not given it is earned. It is earned by having the courage to break free of your psychological bondage. And you break free of that psychological bondage called fear, by stepping outside of your comfort zone.

As humans we are naturally programmed to fear the unknown. That vast of land of possible failure and pain – it is true that you may fail and you may fail horribly. That is life. What isn’t life is living afraid unwilling to take any risks. You will only realize it once you are old, ragged, burdened, tired and unable to pursue your dreams. At point you have have done nothing, you have accomplished nothing, and you were nothing but a sudden pop of space in this quick blink in reality’s eye.

Only you can determine your significance. It is up to you to determine how to live your life. Many men throughout the history of the world have sacrificed life and limb to experience a brief taste of this sweet feeling of being unhindered. Today, the only thing between you and freedom is your own mind, the people who may say “you’re lame” or those who would dislike your status updates. You are living on your knees and you are being held down by something as simple as a word.

Die on your feet

Take a stand for what you believe in. Speak your mind. Fail and fail and fail even more. At least you will know you are alive and free. Smile whenever someone criticizes you because you know it means you are brave enough to go against the grain. Get rejected by countless women. Let pain be your friend, and when that day comes that you are looking down as you stand over all your challenges, all your doubters, all your fears, you will remember that day you said “I’d rather die on my feet than live on my knees.” And with that I leave you with the question.

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]]>https://yawncentral.com/motivational-quotes-8-id-rather-die-on-my-feet/feed/0Massage Therapy Just As Effective As Listening To Relaxing Music With Many Disadvantageshttps://yawncentral.com/massage-therapy-just-as-effective-as-listening-to-relaxing-music-with-many-disadvantages/
https://yawncentral.com/massage-therapy-just-as-effective-as-listening-to-relaxing-music-with-many-disadvantages/#respondFri, 19 Oct 2018 13:07:29 +0000http://yawncentral.com/?p=166Read More »]]>The massage therapy business model is a humongous success. Wherever you live in the United States, you can’t take a drive without seeing a massage center somewhere along the way.

Many people lay face down on massage tables in hopes that the skillful hands of a licensed therapist would rub all of the stress away.

However, it sometimes doesn’t work out the way we want it. I remember my many attempts to find a good massage therapist.

Related: Is Avoiding Stress Good For You?

There are the ones who seem to never know their own strengths almost literally separating your muscles fiber to fiber with their sharp elbows.

There are some therapists who treat their massage sessions like gossip time. Its not that I don’t like small talk, but it can be quite difficult to talk with your face smushed into a massage table. And somewhere along the conversation, you often end up saying something you feel is awkward that obliterates any of the relaxation benefits of the massage therapy.

Massage Therapy is Expensive

Truly it should take some trial and error, but by the time you have found your masseuse of choice, you might have also found your wallet noticeably lighter. Because for me and many people, the main disadvantage of message therapy is its cost. An hour of massage therapy would run around 60 to a hundred dollars.

Cheaper massage centers often have a steep decline in service so finding a quality massage therapist or a clean bed for that matter, would be quite a challenge.

Massage Therapy is Just as Effective as Heat Therapy or Listening to Music

According to a study by Group Health Cooperative Center for Health Studies massage therapy eases relaxation, but no better than simple relaxation does.

The researchers assigned 68 Group Health patients with Generalized Anxiety Disorder to 10 one-hour sessions among three groups – massage therapy, thermotherapy, or relaxation therapy. All three treatments were done with the participants lying down in a pleasant environment with relaxing music playing in the background. After 3 months, the study found all three of the treatments decreased anxiety by 40 percent and to 50 percent after another 3 months.

Bang for the Buck

With its high costs, one would expect massage therapy to have a more effective relaxation response, but the data says otherwise. Other than anxiety reduction, the patients also reported reduced symptoms of depression, worry and disability. The researchers were not able to detect any difference among all three treatment groups.

Save Money if You Can

I am not here to completely sabotage the viability of massage therapy. Truly there are conditions which cannot be fixed by relaxation therapy alone, including muscle-tension induced stress and other kinds of conditions. If that is the case or if you simply like visiting the massage center, or if money is not a factor then more power to you.

However, if you are using massage therapy to ease your anxiety and stress, you are not getting the most out of your money. You are better off spending your money redecorating your room to make it more pleasant and relaxing, and buy yourself a relaxing music CD and perhaps some relaxation literature to guide you (just google it).

WORKS CITED:1. Group Health Cooperative Center for Health Studies. (2010, March 11). Massage eases anxiety, but no better than simple relaxation does. ScienceDaily. Retrieved March 4, 2014 from www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/03/100309102521.htm

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Sometimes you meet someone that has an inexplicably captivating personality. Its your intuition telling you there is something different about this person. Something about their expression, how they handle themselves, how they communicate and most importantly how they have an elevated perspective on life.

Khalil Gibran said, “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”

Pain creates monsters

There is something about pain that shapes people. It has the power to reduce people to the lowest of the low. Wanting to simply escape the pain, many will not hesitate to lie, cheat, kill and destroy just to escape from the pain they are experiencing. Let’s be honest, they never had it in them to overcome suffering so they turn into ash the moment they experience the slightest test of will life throws at them. Its almost as if pain is like fire that strips away all the facade and shows people for who they really are.

Pain reveals the great

There are these rare breed of individuals who despite pain and suffering, they choose to do the right thing. Pain in this situation, further solidifies their commitment to their principles. I personally believe that this is the true form of free will. They are capable of overcoming the biological and psychological tendencies of being human in order to hold on to what they believe is right. They do things not out of fear or anger or greed, but they do it out of their desire to create or share something positive to the world around them.

Artistic Inspiration

I wanted to draw something epic for this quote. For some reason it really resonates with me emotionally and I really felt like I could create something very interesting with this quote. The resulting art turned out okay. It did not turn out as captivating as I would have liked. I wanted to add some details to the skin, however, my Photoshop drawings skills are not developed enough to attempt such an ambitious project without eating up the rest of the day just obsessing over this and not getting anything else done for the website. I am certainly working on improving my painting proficiency.

If you feel like it, you can visit my deviantart page at mrcloudart.deviantart.com

]]>https://yawncentral.com/motivational-quotes-3-the-strongest-souls/feed/010 Greatest Love Quotes of All Time by Dudeshttps://yawncentral.com/10-greatest-love-quotes-of-all-time-by-dudes/
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1. MR. HANDSOME JAMES BALDWIN

“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.”

One of the best thing about love is honesty. If you love someone, you are honest with them and that is often times very liberating. In today’s world where everything is judged, people often times find it better to keep their masks on. These are often masks of emotion for the sake of professionalism or simply social etiquette. When we talk to the person we love, we don’t need to pretend we are happy when we are actually sad. We can just show them that we are in fact feeling like poop and they help us in their own unique way.

2. SINCERE BRANDON SCOTT GORRELL

“When you love someone, you are scared of getting hurt, and you will get hurt.”

Love isn’t all about puppies, pixie dust and free hugs all day everyday, it is also about pain. Because when you love someone you will go through many hardships and tests. For we are humans after all and one thing about humans is that we are not perfect. We make mistakes, and we do stupid things. When someone loves us and we do these mistakes, it can hurt them one way or another. So be careful taking and giving love because people do get hurt and things can get ugly if you play around with people’s hearts.

3. ERUDITE E.E. CUMMINGS

“Love is the voice under all silences, the hope which has no opposite in fear; the strength so strong mere force is feebleness: the truth more first than sun, more last than star…”

I remember when I was in high school I read an an entire book talking about light aka “photons.” It was an enjoyable read no doubt (it had cool pictures), but after reading that entire book and countless google searches later, I am now a full grown man and I still have no idea what light really is. All I know is it helps me not ram my face into walls. Love is similar to light. You might never know exactly what it is or truly understand it, but it is a fact that it is an amazing thing.

4. DISTINCTIVE DR. SEUSS

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

There is this phase in love called infatuation phase. It is that moment when the two of you just can’t get enough of each other. When you are together, you just can’t help but touch each other or make stupid cutesy noises that annoy everyone around you. If you are apart, you can’t help but think of your better half. It’s the fun phase. For some people, it runs out quick. But for some it lasts for quite a while. Either way it forms great memories that both of you will treasure for the rest of your lives.

5. STEADFAST F. SCOTT FITZGERALD

“I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.”

There are some people who care too much about whatever everyone else thinks. If you love someone you should not care what other people think. It is after all your happiness that is at stake here. People oftentimes jump to conclusions and judge other people on very little information. It is not up to your mom, your dad, your sister, your best friend, and its not up to any smart ass on the internet either. You decide who you love and no one else.

6. OUTSTANDING ORSON WELLES

“We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.”

The world is a scary place. It is filled with scary entities that take advantage of you at the first sign of an unholstered guard. Truly humanity has witnessed many unspeakable acts in its long history on this earth, however, love acts like a light in the sea of darkness. It lets us know that there is also a lot of good people out there. Love gives us hope.

7. HONEST HARVEY MILK

“Go after her. Fuck, don’t sit there and wait for her to call, go after her because that’s what you should do if you love someone, don’t wait for them to give you a sign cause it might never come, don’t let people happen to you, don’t let me happen to you, or her, she’s not a fucking television show or tornado. There are people I might have loved had they gotten on the airplane or run down the street after me or called me up drunk at four in the morning because they need to tell me right now and because they cannot regret this and I always thought I’d be the only one doing crazy things for people who would never give enough of a fuck to do it back or to act like idiots or be entirely vulnerable and honest and making someone fall in love with you is easy and flying 3000 miles on four days notice because you can’t just sit there and do nothing and breathe into telephones is not everyone’s idea of love but it is the way I can recognize it because that is what I do. Go scream it and be with her in meaningful ways because that is beautiful and that is generous and that is what loving someone is, that is raw and that is unguarded, and that is all that is worth anything, really.”

Stop waiting around for love. Many people complain about love and how they could not find love while they do nothing whatsoever to find and let opportunities slip away. Fortune favors the bold. Just get out there and do something.

8. THE TALENTED PAUL MCCARTNEY

“And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.”

People treat you according to how you treat them. People who do a lot of unselfish deeds not for any personal gain, but because they genuinely want to help always gravitate positive people towards them. These types of people receive lots of love because they radiate it. Those who take advantage of love and abuse those who love them eventually ends up alone and surround by similarly abusive people.

9. TIMELESS LAO TZU

Love gives people strength. Many times a person at a low point in their life who receives genuine love finds the strength to keep going. It gives them hope and most of all it lets them know that someone believes in them. Love also gives you courage because there is nothing more painful than watching someone you love suffer. People will go through fire and brimstone to save the people they care about the most. Love is a powerful thing.

10. MARVELOUS MAHATMA GANDHI

“Where there is love there is life.”

Love brings life to everything. Without it, we are all simply walking around doing pointless things. Conversations would mean nothing but sounds waves in the air to transmit data. Houses are simply empty husks harboring equally empty organism. Life would mean nothing because we all die anyway. However, with love, we have a purpose. The things we do have weight. Life, in essence, becomes worth living.

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