Is my partner justified in taking a new photo of his ex wife and keeping it on his phone?

Am I justified in being bemused as to why my partner would visit his ex wife's house, see a new photo of her he liked and then carry it around with him on his phone? Apparently I'm over reacting but I really can't understand why this is necessary.

He was there to see his child. I am completely accepting and understanding of this as it's for his child's benefit, But..taking photos of his ex?

I'm not going to go into details about how I found this but please trust that I wasn't snooping or looking - I was actually trying to do my partner a favour at the time. It was a shock.

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You have been more than understanding in this situation. I agree with post below that the focus should be on the current condition on your relationship, not necissarily the picture, which I would find extremely disturbing as well. You haven't met the fam after 3 years? Wow! This guy doesn't know what he has in the form of an incredibly patient and understanding partner in you! He is taking you for granted and I am concerned for you because after this length of time you should be a priority in his life and he doesn't seem to be making you one. Does the ex-wife know about you? I'd be getting some answers, which none will be reasonable, I fear, and I'd probably be walking. You deserve more.

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He started by saying it's just a photo id in his phone book. When I asked why he would need that and when he asked his ex to pose for it etc he told me that it's a photo of a photo he saw on the side at his ex's house. he said he thought it was a nice photo so took a photo of it for himself on his phone. It's just of her face. Thanks for reply.

Thanks for your answer and good question. It's for many reasons really but the main one being that I was told that he would really prefer not to see her again ever but has to for his child (complete support and understand this). I don't understand why he would need/want to see her face every time she texts him. It just seems reminiscent of something more. Add to this that after a three year relationship he still doesn't invite me over to his place/hasn't introduced me to his family

Well, I think you have a lot more things to address besides the photo, and if it were me, I would not at all bring the photo up as the issue. I would focus on the fact that the relationship that the two of you have is not progressing.

I agree - I think this has just been the icing on the cake though. I guess I've tried to be extra sympathetic to the fact that he has children and so enjoyed our time together but not been demanding. I think there comes a point though when I start to think ho wlong can I be this understanding for?! It is too late for me not to bring it up though - did that 48 hours ago and hasn;t been in touch since.