Friday, January 12, 2007

emotional vomit

Sometimes you pray for clarity....................................................... and then you get itbut it’s not the answer you were hoping for..You’re happy because you finally know what He wants from youbut a teeny-weeny you feels frustrated – ‘DON’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO’You understand that it’s for you’re own good....................... but you don’t like it.................................... but you have to.................................................. but you don’tIn reality you're glad because it’s clearly what’s best for you…................................................... you remind yourselfBut it’s still not the answer you were hoping for..So you thank Him for the clarity,for taking care of you,for guiding youBut you mumble in passive-agressivity that it’s just not the way it was supposed to be..and hope He will keep answering your prayers,and keep giving you that clarity..and mostly hope that you will soon merit the answer you’re looking for..................................................................... reallysoon..

I think that all it takes to receive clarity, sometimes, is the strength to accept it. Though you're still longing for the answer you wanted, once you're willing to submit yourself to G-d's answer, you see what may have been there all along.

It's All Good Now ..nicely said.. we're usualy more concerned with what we want than with what we need, would def be an added blesing to have those be the same..

David_on_the_Lake ..there's compliment in there, right? :)

Lvnsm27..only a couple? youre way ahead of the game!

kasamba..thanks :)

the only way i know said... ya, we're all pros at the mumbling.. good thing He's the expert mumble deciferer

the sabra..just this past week, i was learning the importance and value of the "sigh"

knaidel maidel..youre right, i was praying for clarity ANd strength, cuz having the clarity without the strength to follow thru or to hear it is pointless..but even with that it doesnt make it any easier to make sense of it, even when you know what to do with it..

nuch a chosid..thats so nice. its sometihing i dont really understand but always worry about.. that i might turn my back on whats good for me..i definitely pray that it shoudlnt happen..we're so proud of our limited and cloudy understanding, when in fact we should be petrified of it and the damage we can do to ourselves when we think we understand better than He does.

While I agree with you in regards to commitment, I must say I disagree with your comparison of commitment. The very problem of our society is when people like you compare choosing a spouse to choosing a blouse.

A shirt, yes you can return it, but that is not the reason for the ease with such purchases.An article of clothing doesn’t change. Yes, it might shrink in the wash, but you may always use the cleaners. Yes, it might pimple, but you know [prior to your purchase] that cheap fabrics have such tendencies. Indeed, if you do mind, then merely purchase higher quality clothing.

With clothing, you know exactly what you’re getting. You know if it fits and the only way that’ll change is if you enlarge your yellow adipose cells. Our society has graduated from its “rinse and reuse” to “buy one, get one free” mentality.

With a guy, no matter how well you think you know him, bottom line is you don’t. You don’t know how a marriage will work out. You don’t know if he cuts his toenails and leaves them sprawled across your bedroom floor. You don’t know if he’ll wake up at night for the crying kid, and you don’t know if he’ll come home from work early and arrange dinner when you are sick. You don’t know if you are stuck in Boro Park and you need him to pick up the children, if he’ll make a big deal about it. You don’t know if he’ll raise his voice to you, and you don’t know how he’ll discipline the children. You don’t know if he changes his boxer’s everyday, and you don’t know if he’s got a pimples on his back. You don’t know if he’ll always respect your parents, siblings and friends, and you don’t know if he’ll stay glued to the computer when you ask him for a glass of tea. You don’t know if he’ll read the children bedtime stories, and you don’t know if tolerate all his shtick. You don’t know if you’ll always support his ways, and you don’t know if you’ll always be that loving, patient, caring wife. [You don’t even know how you’ll be, let alone him!] You don’t know how you’ll manage under stressful situations, and you don’t know if he’ll wipe up your vomit when you’re in your first trimester. You don’t know if he’ll appreciate all you do for him, and you don’t know if he’ll be a good lover. You don’t know if he’ll buy you a card/flowers/jewelry [something] before the Yomim Tovim and you don’t know if he’ll contradict you in the presence of others. You don’t know if you’ll always feel his love, encouragement and passion.

You cannot compare marriage to any physical purchase. Your husband becomes you and you become him; you work together. Today peeps treat marriage like a purchase; ifit doesn’t work out, heck, I’ll dispose of him[divorce] and get a new one [remarry].

When you buy a car you can read its manual, ratings, statistical consumer satisfaction and henceforth. When you marry a guy, you merely assume he’ll live up to the characteristics he presented while you dated.

lady..im not sure i understand. i completely agree with you. that comment was so well expressed.. but..i wasnt comparing choosing a spouse to buying a blouse, i was saying that if we cant even buy a blouse, which is safe and not that important, how the heck are we supposed to commit to another human being, without all the guarantees..we've been crippled by this disposable society and we are having such a hard time realizing the difference between a once in a life time commitment and leasing a car or buying a shirti compltely agree with you! its not AT ALL the same.. and yet we still have a hard time doing it

chaverah.. yupbut whats amazing is that sometimes its hard to accept the clarity, even when its SO clear..