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I have four boys, twins who are 9, a just turned 3 year old and a 13 month old. I am thrilled to find this website as I have been on the net looking for other Mum's who have only boys but would also really love a daughter! I absolutely love my boys but some days I feel really down if I dwell on the fact that I won't have that special friendship with a girl that I have with my Mum. Also I feel that one day my son's will get married and become part of their wife's family. I always wanted a big family and I always want my house to be filled with kids. Everyone keeps telling me that daughters stay with you while son's tend to move on which really doesn't help!

I love this website and everyone is so positive. I feel really guilty for feeling this way and have been keeping it to myself so long that I am getting depressed about it! Am I just being crazy? What do all you MOB's feel about this topic?

I hope I don't sound really negative. My son's are my total obsession and I love being their mummy, I just wish I had one little girl as well! We will probably have one more baby as we always wanted five or six, but I just don't know how I'll cope if it's not a girl!

I really look forward to hearing your comments on this, I am sure that all you great MOB's can help me see how lucky we are. Thank you thank you for this fantastic website!!!

....well sweetie, I have three fellows, 29, 26 and 23. I didn't want ANY children when I first got married, we waited seven years and at that point, decided I wanted five. I got married at 18. We stopped at three because each of the boys almost died at birth, I just don't have babies right for somereason Anyway, back to you, that's a natural feeling for most folks I would think. I wanted one little girl, for my husband, not necessairly for me. I hate that he will miss the relationship with a daughter. There probably will always be a little place in your heart for the little girl you didn't have, that's ok. You will fall in love with your DIL's if your fellows choose to marry. I now have one "daughter" and will get another in Sept. My husband has had transference of his longing for a daughter to them and spoils them rotten!!!! No, it's no like having your own flesh and blood but it's the best we will get. You will be fine, don't feel guility. It's nice to meet you.

I can totally relate to you - I have 3 boys, 5,3 and 8 months and desperately want a little girl. My husband doesn't want any more but would most likely agree if I sincerely asked. Only problem is, there is no guarantee we will get a girl and like you I'm not sure I could handle the news of another boy (even though I do love my guys). I think every woman probably has a desire to have a daughter, some are able to get past it easily while others just keep going until they get to a girl! I also believe God gives you what you need and not always what you want so I'm trying to be happy with what I have been given - 3 healthy, happy, energetic little monkeys - but praying for that girl none the less. Hope it helps to know you are not alone in this. Keep posting to let me know how you are doing.

I can so relate. I cried for days in a row when found out my now 5 week old was another boy! Right now I can't imagine my life without him and how selfish and horrible I feel for even crying about it. But I do long for a girl still and though husband says we are done he jokes about a 4th. Which I joke will be twin boys! I'm close to my mom now (not at 16-23 years old!) and so want a daughter to bring her kids over every weekend. My husband's parents never see our kids and they live in the same town as my parents! Just different with girls/boys I guess.

I have 5 boys now. I really wanted a little girl when I was pregnant with my second. I cried when I found out I was having another boy. I got over it and then just decided I needed to accept whatever God gave me. With each subsequent pregancy I thought this time it would be a girl. I would dream about buying girl clothes, decorate with pink and do all the little girl things I did as a little girl. Well, it's God's sense of humor that I was such a prissy little girl(for years I refused to wear pants) and I was given five, very rambunctious boys! Now I have the opportunity to learn and grow from my boys. It has turned out to be much easier having all boys. All the clothing is passed down. They attend the same events. Dad has no problem taking over when I need a break. And a big plus is that I am the Queen! Boys love their mamas and always will. Be proud of your boys, spoil yourself as you would a little girl, and find a friend's little girl to send gifts on special occasions.
God Bless,
diana

Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2007 10:13 pm Post subject: How long to get over wanting a girl

I have three boys and also long for a girl. My husband travels and we are very busy with our business and I feel as though my youngest hasn't had the attention the first two had so I would be stretching it to have another. I joke about adoptin but cannot afford it. I am often sad that I have a third boy, I loved having two I assumed the third would be a girl ( right up until delivery as we did not "find out" at the ultrasound. I thought it would pass but he is three now and it is worse. When he was a baby he was such a doll, now he is getting in to full boy mode so he is not looking like a baby anymore, plus he is a vicious biter hitter etc.. kind of like a pitbull version of my other two.

Recently my parents have been ill and it is my sisters and I that are taking care of them, getting them to the doctor's, cooking checking in on them etc.. My one surviving brother, calls and fights with their Doctors but really is quite distant emotionally. This just brings back all those girl yearnings. I told my husband we better not get sick when we are old becuase we'll be up the creek!

Anyway I just wanted to ask how long it takes to get over these girl yearnings and has anyone sought counseling/ medication to help deal?
I am trying to stay positive going to sports, camping etc... My husband travels a lot and I am alone with them so I also fear they will be odd, they know that I wanted a girl and I feel guilty for talking in front of them but at least I am being honest._________________Amy M
mom to
Nick 10
Stewart 7
Luke 3

I have 3 boys ages 10,7 and 20 months. We had 2 miscarriges after baby number 2. After I went to a ferlility specialist and he determined the problem I was able to get pregnant and things went along fine. I told myself I was so thankful to be having ababy I would be fine with another boy. Ireally really tried to feel this way. Well when we found out it was another boy I cried all the way home and off and on for weeks. Like others have said, of course I love my sons but I long to have a daughter. I relate to so many of the feelings that I read here. I reaaly thought i would be over these feelings by now, but they are as strong as ever. I cannot have anymore babies and I think that makes me feel so much sadder. After my second son I still felt that it was possible that I would have a daughter but knowing that it is no longer possible is so hard. Anyway I am glad to be able to express my feelings here because it makes me feel so guilty to have these thoughts.

As I can't totally relate because I do also have a daughter, I just wanted to mention that I also have 2 brothers and can honestly say that they stuck around longer (at home) than me or my sister. lol
I am very close to my Mom and my Dad for that matter, but my brothers are both very close to my Mom and check on her weekly and are very protective of her, as are thier wives. As long as they marry the "good ones" you get daughters too eventually._________________Gloria

My second son is 10 months and I am obsessed with thinking about whether to have a third child because I so desperatley want a girl, my DH thinks I should 'talk' to someone but I would have no clue who to talk to. I also feel so guitly to feel this way as I have been blessed with 2 gorgeous healthy boys. I never really wanted a third child but am afraid I will really regret it if I don't at least try again. I am very close to my Mum and want that relationship for my future - maybe it is really selfish but it is a dream I have had for a very long time and feel I cannot move on with Life until I make up my mind to have a third baby, but of course I need to be able to cope if it is a boy ! It is great to be able to write these feelings down.