too much to ask?

My FMIL is taking it upon herself to invite people to the wedding who were not on the invitation list. Further, she is trying to get me to send save the dates and announcements to her family and friends who have never met my FH (her son). I’ve expressed my feelings about her imposing people on us and she’s going behind my back to look at the proofs for the invitations which were between me and the printer only. She is not helping financially with any of it. The FH is not concerned and says I’m over reacting, that I should let it go and not talk to her. Is it too much to ask that she just ask us if she can have friends we have never met at our wedding (with a limited guest list), if we were planning on sending announcements to family (whom we do not know/stay in contact with), and that we get to dictate who gets to see the invitations before they go out?

Umm she is way overstepping, and your FI needs to stand up for you… now. Unless you’re rolling in it so don’t care, it’s going to be you and him who are footing the bill.. not her. Maybe your FI needs to be reminded of that!!

@myamyas: Who is giving her the printer proofs? If it is the printer, you should have very, very strong words to them, and probably sack them. It is completely out of line for the printer to be showing proofs to anyone without your permission.