No, not really. I mean, it used to be "normal" for Catholics to force Protestants to convert at sword point, and on failing to do so, burning them alive at the stake for heresy. I wouldn't call that not self-destructive. But it was certainly for the time.

YES REALLY -you stated as much yourself: "Normal" is just the mean and median of the data points, graphed along a bell curve." Normal people do not express love by engaging in self destructive intrinsically disordered activity...