Hidden truth of quarrel free husband and wife relationship

Questioner : But seeing all this sends shivers
down my body. It is also amazing that, despite daily quarrels,
husband or wife does not feel like coming up with a solution, is it
not?

Dadashri :This has
been going on for so many years, ever since they got married. They
quarrel on one hand and continue to have sex with each other on the
other hand. That is why I have said that both should take the vow
of brahmacharya, and then your life would be of the highest
quality. All the fights are for selfish reasons. She knows
that he is not going to go anywhere away from her. He too knows
that she is not going to go away from him. Thus the relationship
survives only to serve each other's selfish needs. Everything
remains, the fights and the sex, unchanged.

Misery of dependency on sex is greater
than the transient happiness derived from it. When one
realizes this, he will be free from the false infatuation and vice
grip of sex. It is then only that he would impress females.
Otherwise they feel that they can play with him through the medium
of sexuality. The impression of this nature gradually leads to an
aura of awe and respect. Thereafter they leave him alone.
Otherwise, even the greatest of spiritual men in this world have
suffered at the hands of women and their sexual ploy. Only the
vitarags, the liberated ones have understood this, as is. It is
because of their aura of purity that women stayed away from them.
Otherwise women carry so much power that
they can make any man helplessly subordinate to them in no time.
This is the nature, sexual character of women. You must stay away
from women. You must not try and deceive them otherwise you
yourself will come under their deception. And this web of misery
has been happening for many lives.

When a woman pushes her husband around and
scolds him repeatedly, what is the reason behind it? It is because
the man is deeply passionate about sexual gratification. Woman does
not push him around just because she feeds him food; she does so
because of sex. No woman would push a man around if he were not
interested in sex. She takes advantage of this weakness but if
there were no weakness, she would not be able to bother him in any
manner. Women are very deceitful and men are naive. So the men have
to keep sexual desire under control for two to four months. She
will then get tired and she would not be able to control the
man.

When will a woman respect you and be
deferential to you? If you were very sensitive about sex, easily
aroused by sexuality, then she would control you. If you are sexual
but not sensitive, not easily aroused, then she will develop
respect for you. If she invites you for sex and you say not
now, after two to three days, then she stays under your command.
Otherwise you will be under her control. I understood this at the
age of fifteen. Some people beg for sex. You fool, do you have to
beg for sex? What would then happen to you if you do? What will the
woman do? She will abuse you. She will boss you around, 'Hold this
child, and go take care of him'. Our mahatmas have sex but
they do not have the craving for it.

One woman makes her husband prostrate to her four times, before
she will allow him to touch her once. You fool, why don't you go
jump in the ocean instead, what is wrong in doing that? Take
samadhi, final peace, in the sea, at least the sea is
straightforward; at least there is no hassle there. What kind of
nonsense is this of prostrating for sex?

Glossary : Mahatmas: Highly
spiritual person; One living in harmony with the Real Self. Great
Soul; Self realised person,followers of Akram Vignan.

Did you know: Did you know
that you can follow Brahmacharya even if you are married and have
kids. There are many married couples who are in Brahmacharya
(Celibacy) who follow the path of Akram Vignan.