How to Stop Wanting More from Your Love Life

How to Stop Wanting More from Your Love Life

Sometimes you need to unplug and stop comparing your relationship to everyone else’s.

-Elizabeth Marie

Lately, I’ve found myself busy wanting things I don’t have. In full disclosure, and because we’re all friends here, I want a ring of the engagement variety. You know the one that my amazing boyfriend offers me after dropping down on one knee and saying the slew of perfect, romantic things that I have all out planned in my head? Before I met him, I used to hope for the day I would meet a guy as wonderful as my boyfriend. Now that I have him? Well, I want more.

I was confessing this to my best friend the other day when she opened up and shared with me the things that she wants. After a long, draining relationship, she is newly single. While she was going through her break-up, all she wanted was to be single and free. She wanted to go through men like candy. Meow. But lately, all she wants is to meet a guy who doesn’t just want to sleep with her. A guy who will follow through and do the simple things right. A guy who proves all the rest different. Now, she wants more.

When it comes to our romantic relationships, most women want something more than what they have right now. For the most part, this is completely natural and normal. We want progression and we want to feel like we’re evolving. It’s no different from receiving a raise at work, or a promotion. We hate feeling stagnant in any aspect of our lives. Problems arise when we are too busy looking to the future to appreciate what we have in the present. We tell ourselves that when we get what we want-the proposal, the new boyfriend, the commitment talk-that only then will we finally be happy.