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Dec 14, 2015

Some Days I Am Happy

Are you possibly known as that lady or man that is happy one second and the next moment you get into a depressive state or angry mood? Bipolar is what your friends may call you and you may have even started thinking that you are but we believe that you probably aren’t bipolar and need help controlling your emotions.

If you are a female you may have most likely grew up allowed to express your feelings and as a young boy you probably have been taught to control those feelings except maybe the feeling of being angry. Of course some of you may be exact opposite of this stereotype and that’s fine too.

If you’re known as an overemotional being and you know that you are always out of control with your mood, then you my friend, have a problem.

Controlling your emotions doesn’t mean holding everything in. It means understanding that emotions are red flags that let you know something is up with you. They don’t mean you let them out or share them with people all the time. Whenever you feel upset it’s your job to ask the big question, “Why do I feel like this?”

You aren’t supposed to go figure it out online or ask people what to do with your feelings or share them with your spouse. it’s your job to understand why you have them and how to act upon them. Letting out your feelings all the time is pointless. Yes you let them out but you haven’t actually solved the problem of actually understanding why you have that feeling.

If you’re angry, find out for yourself why you are angry. Did you step on a Lego? Did someone yell at you or did you disappoint yourself? When you know the reason for your current feelings you can defeat them and begin to smile once more.

If you’re down in the dumps, figure out what may have caused this feeling to come about and how can you fix or deal with this emotion.

Some time ago someone made it okay to express your emotions all the time. That person was wrong. Little things should be handled by you constantly. it’s your job to discern what is a big deal and what’s not.

No one can deal with all your emotions because everyone has their own problems. Do not blame others for not understanding you, it’s not their job to. It’s your job to.

With this understanding I hope you can begin to enjoy more days of happiness. Remember you aren’t perfect and you will mess up so constantly apologize and forgive yourself and move on. Let go of the emotional baggage and live another day free from feelings holding you down.