#MeToo I Am A Victim!

January 3, 2018 Michel

Now that the hype is over first and foremost, I want to express my deepest heartfelt regrets to all victims of such heinous crimes and I hope that they all look for and get the necessary compassionate help and support they so badly need to go through such a difficult episode in their lives.

Harassment and sexual abuse doesn’t discriminate because of genders or races. Abuse conducted by males or females is equally reprehensible. So first and foremost, I wish to take a moment and I want to express my deepest heartfelt regrets to all victims that had to endure such heinous crimes and I hope that they all look for and get the necessary compassionate help and support they so badly need to go through such a difficult episode in their lives.

The pain and damage such actions cause in our society daily to millions of beings is unimaginable, the lives it destroys, and the negative impacts it has on our DNA is unbearable. This needs to change for the sake of all Earthlings around the world who are suffering already and to do our part to prevent it to happen to others.

As a boy I was sexually abused by one family member and physically abused by another one, so I know what impact this could have on a person’s development, life and future. My two predators aren’t from this world anymore, which is a relief to me as they can’t harm others but getting justice at this point isn’t an option here anymore. But the mistake we all make because of shame, fear or ignorance because you are a little child that doesn’t understand what happened to him is that we don’t expose the psycho predators!

By exposing the predators, we allow them to cure themselves, victims hopefully to get justice as well as supporting counselling and closure, but also prevent others not to become the predators next victim!

It is now the forty-years anniversary that I got abused sexually by my predator and even though I felt that what was happening to me didn’t feel right I kept it for myself and by doing so I protected the predator. Even when I became a teenager and years of regular abuse where behind me and I started realizing what was done to me I kept my mouth shut at that point to me I feel I became an accomplice to other similar crimes he might have committed from this point forward.

I am writing down my life-story from that time and the more I work on my past, the clearer the development of a predator behavior comes to daylight and how the pattern could have been stopped by prior victims in my family by a complicit omerta, to spare me to become his prey too. But to be fair I have to look myself in the mirrow of conscious too and ask myself if I could have prevented another member of my family, which I am pretty convinced due to his behavior as a teenager and now adult became a victim of my predator too, because not speaking-up and allowing it to happen to someone else to me in my book I have a share of the blame to carry as well and that fact makes me infinitely sad.

Now that Harvey Weinstein as a public figure is the pig that is driven through the public opinion village through the social as well as traditional media and has now been exposed for what he did over decades. Let’s continue and let us not stop here and expose all the other predators out there, so they could be brought to justice if they committed a punishable crime or just warn others to avoid further persecution by these kinds of tyrants. And for those predators who think that harassing others is casual and just because they can’t be brought to justice because the legal system doesn’t doom this sort of behavior yet, let’s expose them so they can get the help they desperately need and that’s stopping them from doing the irreversible at one point.

But let me make it totally clear that I don’t ask for anarchy or a public pillory to hang people out to dry. Public figures who use their notoriety and connections to intimidate victims need to be exposed publicly to mount the pressure on them and make sure they can’t get away with it even though they are not condemned for a crime they are on record that they are dangerous. But of course, I would prefer to see those wrong doings to be handled and exposed in families, shared with your friends, exposed at work and in the communities where you live in and where it happens so these issues can be handled if necessary pursuit by the competent authorities and other people could be kept safe from such inappropriate misconducts or even crimes.