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Interesting points that he makes there….I always wondered the same thing. If it’s because the man/men want to try something new with a woman that they aren’t getting at home, maybe they should try asking the wife/girlfriend and get her take on it before they just assume that she won’t be into it and blow a couple hundred or grand or whatever the cost is on sex with someone they don’t know. If you have a good marriage, your S.O. would probably be open to suggestions…especially if the sex life has recently gone downhill.

The same reason women pay for fake nails and make up, sometimes you just don’t appreciate what you already have. LoL

I think consenting adults should be able to pay for and do whatever they want with each other, as long as its legal and doesn’t involve minors. Live and let live…that’s my opinion.

Adesta, as nice as this sounds, “If you have a good marriage, your S.O. would probably be open to suggestions,” we know having a GOOD MARRIAGE doesn’t necessarily mean the sex is great. If a couple has been married 15 years and dated for 5 years before that, you probably know by now if your wife or husband is a prude or not. If you didn’t have a freaky, wild, sweaty, drunken 3some when you were together in college, now that you’re partner at the firm and he’s just made Detective, I doubt those wild times are just going to HAPPEN. That’s why people shouldn’t settle and hope to change their S.O later on in life…

If you are a porn-loving, sex-toy fanatic, you might want to find someone with similar interests, not the school librarian who loves to do it with the lights off and barely makes a sound…or else you’ll end up spending big bucks on Central Ave. & Robin St. at 2am every Thursday.

Men almost always pay for sex. They don’t control the supply and because of the hormone rush they are forced to live with, will pay almost any price to get it, including dinner, presents, marriage and the threat of losing half of all they have once the woman gets what she wants, kids and the means to support them. Men will avail themselves of the free sex that is out there, but considering that they have to lower their standards so far as to take advantage of a female whose motivation might be only to gain a noticable chin for their kid, it can’t exactly be considered free and with the possibility of child support for a mistake, it can get quite expensive.

The author makes many assumptions about women’s motivation for engaging in prostitution that, while may be true for some or most of the women, he presents as too broad a generalization. He does not provide any hard data or cite any studies showing to what degree prostitution is a negative experience for the women. Is it 35%? Or 95%? What about the women who consider it a positive experience? They are not represented.

He also doesn’t compare any differences in the lives of prostitutes between those who practice it in jurisdictions where it is legal and those who practice where it is not.

To answer the general question that is the premise of his article, many men have extremely high sex drives and want immediate gratification without having to put in the effort required for a relationship. If they have the money and don’t mind parting with it, c’est la vie.

Goose, I have to argue there. As women get older, and alot, after they have kids, their sex drive changes. I haven’t done any scientific studies, but I believe women hit their sexual peaks later in life than men do, so their views of what is ok and not ok in the bedroom (or wherever for that matter) changes as they get older.

And to compare paying for sex to a woman paying for fake nails…that is completely ridiculous in my opinion. Women aren’t going to come away with a sexually transmitted disease from getting her nails done, but that is ALWAYS a possibility when a man pays for sex from a prostitute. And if a guy thinks the prostitute will tell them that she has one beforehand, then wow, that person is 1, very naive, and 2, way too stupid and really shouldn’t be left alone to fend for himself. Might as well just write the word Sucker on his forehead and call it a day.

Anyone consider there is a shortage in available women? The majority of men do not pay for sex or want to. They may end up paying the high price for the mistake of getting married to Mrs. Wrong…..but, I believe a man wants to be monogamous. Maybe women need to not judge a gentleman who approaches them for conversation and dating possibilities. A fair chance should go both ways. Guess maybe men don’t use to word “No” as often as women……yet, the one’s needing to do the approaching of women are mostly still men. Paying for sex falls under 2 categories. 1. Like that of the ex governor of sorts by power of wealth 2. Those men who feel as if they aren’t worthy of any woman to want them.

Spike – after sifting through your bitterness, I see your point. However, perhaps men should learn to use the word “no” when it comes to a woman asking him, “How will you be paying for me, cash or credit?” In my opinion, men who pay for sex are sad, empty, pathetic souls. And probably still live with their parents.

Paying for sex(while young) is A character issue. As A man (or woman) becomes old and physically reflects it, his appeal(sexually) is lost. But just because the appeal is lost, the desire is not! And that is why you see men paying for sex. Personally I dont see the appeal as i think prositiution is plain nasty( I mean what customer are you for the day? customer no.1 or 100?) But I dont see anything wrong with it , if you have to go that route!

I’d like to see the article about how pretty much every woman out there expects sex to be bought and paid for in one form or another – you know, buy me dinner, do the dishes, clean the house blah blah blah. Is there a woman left in this county who is happy to have sex with a man because she cares about him and not because he “paid” her in some way.

Let’s set the record straight. Male bashers…….Spike bashers Whatever your presumptions take you. Be careful who you judge.

I am well read. I am also not promiscuous in teh least. I do not flag down prostitutes. I do not come across bitter or scorned when out and about socializing even though I try to make valid points in OTE. Remember some of the threads in 2008 achieved record amount of comments which revolved around certain topics and I was a part of.

In person I always come across as thoughtful, caring and well meaning. I try to induce conversation at the same time not seduce in a manner which would make a woman worry about the outcome. Yet, they do not have the skills to trust the obvious.

I am average. I am divorced. Friends would say/describe me in the looks department as a cross between Mac Davis and Frankie Avalon. My personality is good. Part of they goes along with the Nickname.

What my gripe continues to be is the lack of good sense in women and the blindness they seem to have when it comes to men. They think all men approach them with bad intentions. I truly believe many women throw men away before they give them an opportunity to make points. Men do more of the opposite before a decision or judgement is made.

Spike, women don’t distrust all men, just those who creep them out. And any man — be he the type who thinks paying for sex is OK or not — can turn women off with even the slightest action or wrong word (and vice versa – women to men).

Stop blaming the women you approach, or thinking it’s them. It’s not. There’s got to be a greater reason all ladies you encounter, as you’ve told us, aren’t interested.

Spike, You had me until your last paragraph. Those are HUGE generalizations to make. I know many women who don’t believe men approach them with bad intentions. However, this depends on the environment. If I’m in a social scene, and a man approaches me…I don’t automatically think it’s for bad intentions. This could change, depending on what comes out of his mouth. If I’m walking to my car alone, in the dark, and a man approaches me…I might be guarded and thinking I may have to whip out my pepper spray. I don’t think you give women enough credit, and perhaps you give men too MUCH credit. Did you ever think that it’s not a battle of the sexes, but more of human nature?

Sheila, I know the risk of Hep C getting nails done. I specifically said, that a woman can’t get a “sexually transmitted disease” from having nails done. Obviously, Hep C isn’t just a disease that can be transmitted sexually if you can get it while getting your nails done.

And this is also the reason I learned to do my own nails…Can’t get a disease doing my own since I don’t have one. :)

There is no such thing as free sex especially in this recession!! A women’s best kept secret is that the laws in America which is a matriarchy society that favors women in a bias way, is their hidden weapon. A girlfriend or a so called commited relationship isnt really a free sex thanks to feminist laws that favor women. Having sex for free with a women sounds nice until you read the laws in this society. While a man is having free sex with a women, the minute that man deposits his sperm in a women, she soley has the right to determine if she wants to keep the baby or not. Remember that famous quote ” My body my choice.” It doesnt matter if that very man doesnt want kids ever, the laws and court system will allow this pregnancy to occur if the women says she wants to keep the baby. So this FREE SEX cost this man $250,000 dollars because thats what it cost to raise a child till 18 yrs or so. Women poke holes in condoms or say they are on the pill but can lie about that and some females even give blowjobs to men and keep the sperm in their mouth until she goes into the bathroom and take the sperm out her mouth and put it in her vagina. They do this because they want that child support check. Prostitutes would struggle to get away with this because their lifestyle as a whore will be used agains them in the courts. Marriage isnt free either. Laws favor women in pregnancy and marriage. After 10 years of marriage with your wife, the laws allows a women to divorce her husband and the husband has to pay alimony FOREVER!! What happened to the LOVE LADIES? For better or for worst. In sickness and in health. If this is LOVE then I DONT WANT TO BE LOVED!! Even if you are the sweeties women in the world and would say you would never do that and never take advantage of the laws that benefits you as a women because you were raise to stay with your husband forever and you take your vows seriously, THE OPTION IS ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU. It is impossible to respect your husband if he has NO POWER in the marriage. After 10 years with the same prostitue, you dont have to pay alimony, no child support and you can alway get a younger chick when you feel like it. You are guaranteed sex with a prostitute but a wife can withhold sex from her husband and this is consider ok in this society of marriage. Sex economics is easy. The whore beats the wife badly. I dont want america’s version of love in my life. I can cook for myself and take care of myself. Dont want kids and thank god I AM NOT MARRIED!! Ladies and gentlemen, buy wantever you want because in the end we cant take the money with us when we die. Wisdom is better than free sex. Calling women on their bullshit in regards to marriage…. PRICELESS!!!!