Impotence & Erectile Dysfunction Support Group

Erectile dysfunction or impotence is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis for satisfactory sexual intercourse regardless of the capability of ejaculation. There are various underlying causes, such as diabetes, many of which are medically reversible. The causes may be physiological or psychological.

Just need to rant

He's depressed, I know he is... and I'm trying to be patient with him still but for God's sake enough is enough already!

There are months that we don't have sex. There are days that he can't get an erection to save his life. There are nights he does get an erection but still insists that he's "not in the mood" And there are nights that we do have sex but its all about me working to please him. Any requests I make of him are ignored or ridiculed. And I can't make him understand how much this is affecting me.

I've done everyting I can for him, and told him I was willing to do anything to help him get aroused. He says sex isn't important to him and insinuates that I am in the wrong for wanting it. As if this wasn't already taking a toll on my self-esteem, now I have to take the blame for his ED as well?

He's tired, he's weary, his stomach is off-kilter, his head hurts, his back hurts, he feels under the weather -- there's an excuse every time... and if I don't accept his litany than I'm being insensitive and demanding. I tried pampering and babying and spoiling him, but that only created new expectations of what I should do for him. And I already have one baby to care for.

Sex is my recharge at the end of the day, my stress-relief, my reconnection with my partner after a long day of work. And what are we both working for if not for this family? For each other? And yet when I reach out to hubby for some adult down time I get rejected time and time again.

It's been three years already. Please oh please oh please won't you break down already and see a doctor?! I don't care about the cost. I care about you and about us and I'm sick of fighting whenever we have time together. Put your energy into something more constructive!

You say you love me... so why don't you want me? Or at the very least, why don't you care whether or not I'm satisfied? I don't know how much longer I can live with these hurtful rejections and constant frustrations and building resentments and the guilt trips you fling at me when you can't bear the shame yourself and all these angry little arguments that have taken over where we used to have fun and intimate moments together. Please... I want those moments back.

been there going throught it for over 2 years, but in that 2 years we have not had sex at all, lucky for me i am on hormons and found years ago if i do not take them i do not want sex, so i do not take them.
your vent was a good one i hope it helped you, it is a shame you can not tell him the things that you wrote

I have told him, and he says he is trying (to overcome the ED), but he still isn't willing to see a doctor and my concern is that there may be an underlying reason for this other than just depression. He keeps asking for more patience, though, promising that things will get better in the days to come.

What he can't seem to understand no matter how many times I tell him, however, is that his lack of desire hurts my self-esteem. His response is that it is not a reflection on me; he doesn't desire anyone above me, he just doesn't desire sex in general. But still, when he doesn't desire me, I feel undesireable. *sniff*

My H has also ED.
He had an affair almost 3 years ago. Durind the Affair he took Levitra.
I filed for divorce and he came to his senses i guess,
and he stopped it with her.
But since then.....no sex!!
If i bring it up he look the other way and don't say a word.
If we watch TV and they advertise Cialis or
Viagra etc...
He watch.. not one word.
I feel like you all.
I told him a few weeks ago that iam looking for an affair, because what is good for one is good for the other.
Just kidding....
No, iam not!!!!!!!!!
He don't want a divorce .
He like our life together.
Go figure.
I don't know what to do.
And he is not depressed.
He is healthy.
I don't know if he has no desire for me or
no desire all.
I get hugs and kisses every day...and that is it.
And he will not talk about that issue.

How about a mans point of view on the subject, I was married and I used the ED EXCUSE because honestly I had NO desire for my wife at all. We went over three years in a sexless marriage, I finally got up the nerve to tell her what was really going on and today I am happy and involved with a woman I truly love admire and desire. A ton of stuff goes on to make men react sexually, also HE needs to feel sexual not only his other head but his entire libido. I tell you this so that you can find out for sure IF he has or does not have ED, if he won't bother to go to a professional then YOU need to take care of YOU and YOUR mental and physical states.

I know it is ED.
I found the prescription
for Levitra.
I also gave him the option for divorce.
He wants to work it out.
He never had a high libidio
and he is 52 years old
and in tip top shape.
He is a marathon runner.
To tell you the
truth... sometimes i am thinking of putting a levitra in his food just to see is reaction.
I know he loves me,
mayby his age and he also has high blood pressure
has a lot to do with his problem.

Well, in our case I know it is some form of ED (and I'm 99% certain that its psychological) because there are times he truly is unable to aceive or maintain an erection. He says he still loves me and desires me but that he can't work past the fatigue and anxiety, and that dwelling on the matter only compounds it because he realizes that he's not meeting my needs and that this then creates performance anxiety.

Our marriage isn't sexless, thank God, just... the sex is less and less and longer periods apart. For me, 2 months is a long time when I have youth, a libido, and a sexy husband at my disposal. I don't want to know what 2 years feels like! And sometimes the &quot;failed attempts&quot; at sex are more harmful than the nights when we don't even bring the topic up.

Last night we tried RP to distract from the performance anxiety, though, and that really seemed to help. I'm hoping it can continue to do so.

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