owen1 i also think the list is about right. agree with ogd that there isn't really a downside to following them (except having to pay more attention than you might otherwise be to how your actions affect others - which isn't really a downside at all...it's something that most of us strive to do in general...become aware if tehre's something that we're doing that hurts others and then stop doing that)

fwiw, i've experienced every one of the "no-no's" on the list and even when the person doing the "no-no" didn't notice that they did it, _i_ noticed it and it felt shitty. it also felt shitty to know that people in my own community - a community where i thought that all of us considered each other competent, etc. - in fact wasn't really thinking of me and people like me at all.

and you can imagine which path leads to better outcomes. :) we all make mistakes, but when mistakes are pointed out to us, we can choose how to react and in that reaction, we can either contribute to rectifying the mistake or in making it worse.