Hubby annoying me post

Long story short I'm a teacher but took this year off to finish my masters which is required we I work and I need to have it by 2020 in order to keep my certification. Once I get it I also get a pay raise. we decided together last August we would try for baby so I could have the summer theb take classes. I'm half way done and in the process of 2 more right now. My hubby I feel like doesn't think this is hard. I ask him to help more with baby and he's like I gotta go to work u can't have it both ways. I understand he has to work but like help me watch our dd (dear daughter) and such when you are home!

Anyway im just venting how he made that annoying comment when we both planned our fate last year. doesn't help my dd (dear daughter) has been super fussy and he said also said that he doesn't get stressed about her like I do. Must be nice to be the one that doesn't have to wake up to feed her twice per night,;bathe her, etc. Men is all I have to say!

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I feel you, definitely! My boyfriend works a lot and when he's home I ask him things like would you like to feed the baby or give her a bath? And he goes I'm trying to relax I have to go to work in a few hours and I'm like THATS EXACTOY MY POINT! spend some time with her because she will be in bed when you get home! Or on a day off and I go to take a shower I ask him to hang out with her and I'm hoping and praying the whole time I'm washing up that she doesn't get fussy because I feel like I should be able to take a complete shower and take care of myself when he's here to help out but nope. He comes in the bathroom with her crying and looks at me like he can't imagine what he should do. And it's crazy because he's really good with her when he wants to. But if I actually need help when he's home? No way.

Yeah. MEN.

But I understand. It's hard for the working parent to truly see how difficult it is to be home with the kids all day.

My husband has always helped but now that I work on Sat and Sun and he has the baby all day by himself, he has a lot more understanding of what a typical day alone with him is like. Now he comes home and helps out more then he used to.

Maybe your husband needs several hours alone with baby to see that it really is work!

This is my life right now. I didn't go back to work because my daughter was born with a medical condition. I personally feel like being a SAHM (stay-at-home mom) is 10 times harder than a 9-5. When you're doin working, you're done working. Having an infant is a 24/7 job and you literally don't get any time to yourself. Its consuming! Not that I'm complaining - I am so in love with my daughter; I just need a little help.

My husband feels like because hes working, he's off the hook for everything! He doesn't help with much abd when he does, I have to beg, botch and plead in order to get it. We are now constantly AT each other and its getting old. I told him the other day that I might go back to work sooner and that duties would need to be split, like night shift. He panicked and said "thats not what we talked about", because he doesn't want to help with anything tough or that affects his sleep.

I'm pretty angry about it all. Don't know what to do.

Edited to add that SAHM (stay-at-home mom) its not harder than a mom doing a 9-5 and coming home to taje care of her family, its 10 times harder than giing to work alone as a single person, which is basically what my husband acts like.

This is my life right now. I didn't go back to work because my daughter w...

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09/20/2018

This is my life right now. I didn't go back to work because my daughter was born with a medical condition. I personally feel like being a SAHM is 10 times harder than a 9-5. When you're doin working, you're done working. Having an infant is a 24/7 job and you literally don't get any time to yourself. Its consuming! Not that I'm complaining - I am so in love with my daughter; I just need a little help.

My husband feels like because hes working, he's off the hook for everything! He doesn't help with much abd when he does, I have to beg, botch and plead in order to get it. We are now constantly AT each other and its getting old. I told him the other day that I might go back to work sooner and that duties would need to be split, like night shift. He panicked and said "thats not what we talked about", because he doesn't want to help with anything tough or that affects his sleep.

I'm pretty angry about it all. Don't know what to do.

Edited to add that SAHM its not harder than a mom doing a 9-5 and coming home to taje care of her family, its 10 times harder than giing to work alone as a single person, which is basically what my husband acts like.

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