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Questions tagged with 'culture' at Ask MetaFilter.Thu, 30 Jul 2015 19:57:45 -0800Thu, 30 Jul 2015 19:57:45 -0800en-ushttp://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss60What is the view of trans men in India and the Philippines?http://ask.metafilter.com/283696/What%2Dis%2Dthe%2Dview%2Dof%2Dtrans%2Dmen%2Din%2DIndia%2Dand%2Dthe%2DPhilippines
I'm a white American project manager who works extensively with engineers in India and the Philippines (almost all male). All of them know me as female but I am going to come out as a trans man fairly soon. I have no idea how transgenderism (and specifically trans <em>men</em>) are viewed in Indian/Filipino culture. What might I expect? Should I handle the transition any differently with them than with American/Euro colleagues? It's important to me that I keep a good working relationship with them. They do not report to me, but I do manage their projects and talk to them very frequently. I have never met them; our primary contact is email/chat but there are also regular conference calls. They are very polite and are good workers but I don't know them well at all. "Have a good weekend" is generally the extent of our small talk. Everyone is fairly fluent in English. <br>
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I imagine (hope) that my American coworkers will take my transition in stride. They can already see how I dress &amp; what my body language is like. They have a cultural frame of reference because trans people are in the spotlight right now. They will either get used to it or HR will twist their arm and <em>make</em> them get used to it, but I have no idea what to expect from international colleagues who come from more patriarchal and religious countries.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.283696Thu, 30 Jul 2015 19:57:45 -0800AFABulousHelp Little Fluffy Grads + Postdocs Fly The Nesthttp://ask.metafilter.com/283588/Help%2DLittle%2DFluffy%2DGrads%2DPostdocs%2DFly%2DThe%2DNest
What can a Professor do to help Grad Students (post-Masters) and Postdocs when they go to another country? What problems did you, as a grad/postdoc, have abroad? What helped? What resources exist to help such people? My partner is prof. at U Chile and students who earn a masters or doctorate working for her often then get positions abroad. Particularly in the UK and USA. Unfortunately, these young men and women then seem to have quite a hard time of it, and we're wondering how to help.<br>
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Brainstorming we've come up with the following issues:<br>
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<li>For many, this is their first time away from home. It's quite normal for Chileans to live with parents until married, and about half the population is in Santiago, which is also where the students study (in contrast, in the UK, almost everyone moved to a different town - yay freedom - to go to university).</li><br>
<li>This is also, usually, their first time living in a different culture. And speaking a different language (one they can read, but don't have much confidence with in conversation).</li><br>
<li>They're moving from a culture that prioritises being friendly and "nice". That means that in addition to the academic competition any grad/postdoc faces, they are in a less-than-normally welcoming environment (I am not trying to insult anyone here - just trying to explain huge differences in Hofstede "individualism" ratings for the cultures).</li><br>
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But we're not sure if those are complete; nor are we sure how to help. Paulina already encorurages independent work in her students (she's tries to be "hands off" but also "always available"). There's also an increasing age difference between us and the students, which shifts the relationship.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.283588Tue, 28 Jul 2015 15:24:33 -0800andrewcookeYou suck at working in a foreign culture bub.http://ask.metafilter.com/283518/You%2Dsuck%2Dat%2Dworking%2Din%2Da%2Dforeign%2Dculture%2Dbub
Short of saying flat out what I said in the title, how can one help people learn to become “bicultural” and adapt to a foreign work style if they are unaware of the need to do so? There is a ton of information and training materials about learning to adapt to other cultures for people that are aware of the need to do so. There is little info about helping others that don’t know that they are not proficient in the ways of a foreign culture.<br>
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I have worked for a person that was completely ignorant of how to act in the foreign culture we worked in. He would say the locals, “Act like children and are unprofessional.” He didn't get that time was viewed differently, that communication was more nuanced and that he shouldn't push people to make a sale. He lost us two very important customers and cost us a lot of time and money.<br>
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Currently I have a foreign national answering to me in my country and his communication style among other things isn't working and could cost him his job.<br>
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Telling people directly that they need to adapt and how should they do it could be seen as condescending and is not the right way to approach something like this. Any suggestions for a better way to do this?<br>
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BTW, I’m purposely not mentioning the specific cultures in order to get more general advice. Next week I would like to ask how to handle the specific situation I am facing now with more details.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.283518Mon, 27 Jul 2015 07:21:57 -0800Che boludo!From the 1940s on, what songs/artists are key to trans* issues in rock?http://ask.metafilter.com/283177/From%2Dthe%2D1940s%2Don%2Dwhat%2Dsongs%2Dartists%2Dare%2Dkey%2Dto%2Dtrans%2Dissues%2Din%2Drock
<em>This coming week begins the revisiting of my intro to rock music course syllabus. I will need your help. One key topic is considering transgender issues in rock music, from~1940s to present. What songs and artists are essential to discuss here? [I'm] not quite asking for a list of trans artists, but for songs, themes, and personas that open up to questions of queerness.</em> I've stolen this question wholesale from <a href="https://twitter.com/datageneral">@datageneral</a> on Twitter. I'm not a college professor, just an avid consumer of music who's also interested in gender. If you can recommend some books I should look at as well, I'd appreciate it.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.283177Mon, 20 Jul 2015 09:07:25 -0800Going To MaineWhose idea was it to have an open bar at a lecture?http://ask.metafilter.com/282418/Whose%2Didea%2Dwas%2Dit%2Dto%2Dhave%2Dan%2Dopen%2Dbar%2Dat%2Da%2Dlecture
I was watching a movie where a scene included an academic lecturing on her work. The event was a black tie affair and there was an open bar at the lecture. I suddenly realized that this is common in movies and I've actually been to something like that in real life. Why? Why do these events have a prominent bar? What's the rationale behind boozing up your audience? Is the bar an incentive to attend an otherwise dull presentation? Is a bar standard equipment for every black tie event? Is the presence of the bar an admission that adults need alcohol to function with strangers? If an open bar is included because it always has been, who started that tradition?tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.282418Fri, 03 Jul 2015 11:13:36 -0800MonochromeArticles or Papers on depolarizing the US?http://ask.metafilter.com/282184/Articles%2Dor%2DPapers%2Don%2Ddepolarizing%2Dthe%2DUS
I'm tired of reading about how congressional gridlock is the result of increasing political and media polarization. That much is obvious. What I'm interested in knowing is, what proposals are there to end or ameliorate this trend in American culture and politics? Who's thinking about this and writing articles or white papers? What ideas have been floated? Please note, I'm not looking for your personal opinions (even though I'm sure they're great!). I'm looking for well-written articles, papers, blog posts, etc. where folks are proposing specific actions that can help heal the divide, or at least restore a semblance of civility that would allow for occasional compromise in the political sphere.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.282184Sun, 28 Jun 2015 19:06:58 -0800chrisamiller Looking for books about different world cultureshttp://ask.metafilter.com/281842/Looking%2Dfor%2Dbooks%2Dabout%2Ddifferent%2Dworld%2Dcultures
I'm looking for books that:
1. List different beliefs and practices of many different world cultures, both contemporary or historical cultures.
2. Are accessible, as in not needing an anthropology degree to understand them.
3. Preferably have pictures.
4. Are non-fiction, NOT a narrative with characters. I just want the facts.
5. Can be for kids or adults.
6. Preferably not internet resources because I want to minimize screen time. Example of the kind of thing I'm looking for: "The _ peoples of _ are polygamous, except for the priests"; "The _ peoples of _ have a day of silence every 10 days for fear of their spirit escaping".<br>
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The goal is to get a better sense for which parts of my own (American) culture are constructed, versus which things are universal/cross-cultural to all humans.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.281842Sun, 21 Jun 2015 07:48:07 -0800TheOptimizerExploring the intersection between cuteness and horrorhttp://ask.metafilter.com/281417/Exploring%2Dthe%2Dintersection%2Dbetween%2Dcuteness%2Dand%2Dhorror
I'm interested in exploring a particular aesthetic that I associate with the art of Yoshitomo Nara. I've recently become really curious about the work of <a href="http://www.artnet.com/artists/yoshitomo-nara/">Yoshitomo Nara</a>, particularly images of scary-cute little girls like <a href="https://www.google.com/search?q=yoshitomo+nara+not+now&es_sm=122&tbm=isch&imgil=wBdRnn_fUgG9VM%253A%253BtoYCUV_K8E4aUM%253Bhttp%25253A%25252F%25252Fwww.dailyartfixx.com%25252F2010%25252F01%25252F04%25252Fyoshitomo-nara-pop-art%25252Fnotnow-yoshitomo-nara%25252F&source=iu&pf=m&fir=wBdRnn_fUgG9VM%253A%252CtoYCUV_K8E4aUM%252C_&usg=__ODUPt0_JWszrAE1g40Cof-bWcJU%3D&biw=1164&bih=597&ved=0CDYQyjdqFQoTCK6k_LaUiMYCFQsMrAodHwgAzg&ei=hMR5Va7SH4uYsAWfkIDwDA#imgrc=wBdRnn_fUgG9VM%253A%3BtoYCUV_K8E4aUM%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.dailyartfixx.com%252Fwp-content%252Fuploads%252F2010%252F01%252Fnotnow-Yoshitomo-Nara.jpg%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.dailyartfixx.com%252F2010%252F01%252F04%252Fyoshitomo-nara-pop-art%252Fnotnow-yoshitomo-nara%252F%3B570%3B644">this</a> and <a href="http://www.artnet.com/artists/yoshitomo-nara/hello-from-hell-IBvvzxrlCexFdqCrpiF9Sw2">this</a> and <a href="http://www.christies.com/lotfinder/drawings-watercolors/yoshitomo-nara-sorry-couldnt-draw-right-5895394-details.aspx">this</a>.<br>
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Following this trail, I came across the work of <a href="http://www.markryden.com/paintings/snowyak/index.html">Mark Ryden</a> and <a href="https://keane-eyes.com/">Margaret Keane</a> and other "Big Eye" painters, which also led to Tim Burton; I'm also waiting for Sianne Ngai's book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0674046587/metafilter-20/ref=nosim/">Our Aesthetic Categories: Zany, Cute, Interesting</a>, to come in from the library. I've found the keyword<a href="http://www.tofugu.com/2013/06/18/kimokawaii/"> kimo-kawaii</a> and the TVTropes entry on <a href="http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/CreepyCute">Creepy Cute</a>.<br>
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So what else do you have for me? I think my current interests lean more towards art than kitsch; self-awareness vs accident, and genuinely scary vs. a little bit creepy; I'm more interested in high culture that's getting its hands dirty than pure pop (i.e. the Chucky movies) and I'd love to get my hands on some novels and music that really digs into this aesthetic... but really, any examples are welcome. <br>
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Thank you!tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.281417Thu, 11 Jun 2015 10:44:09 -0800pretentious illiterateIt's certainly not like Tumblr...http://ask.metafilter.com/280144/Its%2Dcertainly%2Dnot%2Dlike%2DTumblr
What would a culture that doesn't hate women look like? I'm looking for books, movies, works of fiction and non-fiction in various formats/media, and your own musings and imaginings. (Inspired by a line in <a href="http://www.metafilter.com/149599/Tattoo-essay#6047021">this comment</a> in the "lower back tattoo" thread on the blue.)tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.280144Thu, 14 May 2015 23:39:16 -0800gakikoCommunity arts/activist/development orgs in Central Asiahttp://ask.metafilter.com/279228/Community%2Darts%2Dactivist%2Ddevelopment%2Dorgs%2Din%2DCentral%2DAsia
Which organizations working with arts, culture, activism, and/or social justice are based in Central Asia (especially Uzbekistan) and would take international volunteers? I've been thinking about visiting Uzbekistan (and maybe the surrounds) for a spell, since I apparently have some ancestry there but know nothing about it. I really enjoy volunteering and community work, and was wondering if there were organizations or groups based there that I could work with - as a volunteer, artist in residence, anything.<br>
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I'd especially be interested in groups that worked with LGBTQ rights, gender/feminism, arts, and/or international relations, but I'm also really open to suggestion.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.279228Sat, 25 Apr 2015 11:05:18 -0800divabatYou've gotta know the rules if you want to play the gamehttp://ask.metafilter.com/277959/Youve%2Dgotta%2Dknow%2Dthe%2Drules%2Dif%2Dyou%2Dwant%2Dto%2Dplay%2Dthe%2Dgame
For the first time in a long time, I have a full-time, long(ish)-term contract position in a "typical" office (one with more than like, 10 employees). I am <em>very</em> excited about it, but need pointers on how to play the game. Even though I've been working in some form for 15 years, aside from a couple months when I temped, this is the first time I'll be in a normal office environment. I've worked for jobs that had no actual office, freelanced, worked manual labor when I couldn't find anything else, but mostly I've worked in a lot of offices where there were only 3-8 staff (although in some cases the company was much larger, I was just in a subsidiary office). When I worked retail, I just ignored the politics because I in my youthful arrogance, I believed was way too smart to get involved in sales floor drama, and even now I don't regret not being involved, although I'm no longer that arrogant and youthful. I really wish that jobs were 100% merit-based and that office politics didn't exist, but knowing that it does, what do I (especially with my low bullshit tolerance) need to keep in mind to do and definitely not do? Reading suggestions very welcome.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.277959Sat, 28 Mar 2015 11:57:26 -0800Enchanting GrasshopperDoes everyone feel special? http://ask.metafilter.com/277321/Does%2Deveryone%2Dfeel%2Dspecial
Is the sense of personal specialness cross-cultural, or a mark of more individualist societies? Please help me understand differences in cultures. I was just having a conversation about a society's influence upon the individuals within it. It's my opinion that an individual's sense of feeling special is universal, but is it? I posited that in a society like the US at least, someone who didn't feel at core special was likely suffering from some sort of psychopathology, probably depression. But it occurred to me that I don't know if that's true in more collectivist societies. Is it the opposite? Is feeling too special a sign of narcissism? Do parents in other societies routinely tell their children that they're special? Is there a reciprocal relationship with encouragement to fit in and contribute to the group?<br>
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I hope I'm not stepping on any cultural toes - genuinely interested.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.277321Sun, 15 Mar 2015 21:39:48 -0800namesarehardWarmer climates, jobs, and cultural fit - where to consider moving?http://ask.metafilter.com/276399/Warmer%2Dclimates%2Djobs%2Dand%2Dcultural%2Dfit%2Dwhere%2Dto%2Dconsider%2Dmoving
My wife and I currently live in Boston, but I want to live in a warmer climate and she (Industrial Engineering MS) wants to find a job. Which places should we consider moving to? She's had a large amount of frustration finding a job - one year after graduating and getting her CAPM she is still looking. Picking a place where there are many job options for her is important. I would also need to find a job, but with my MS in math and 3+ years of web dev experience I am less worried about myself. Huge plus if work-life balance is part of the local culture.<br>
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We both dislike long winters. I would be in heaven if I could swim most of the year. She dislikes temperatures much above 90 F, but I'm ok with a bit higher. I love the ocean but a nearby lake, river, or good city pool might do. We feel way better when we are active, ideally spending time outside regularly.<br>
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We're both pretty progressive and non-religious, and while we don't need an echo chamber we also don't want to be harassed or have a hard time finding friends with our mostly-nerdy hobbies (video games, board games).<br>
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Finally, we want to be at least within a half hour drive of a decent sized city or metro area, for the culture and variety. It would probably have to be in the USA - I am a citizen and she has her green card from China. We'd consider elsewhere, but English would have to be the primary language. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated!tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.276399Tue, 24 Feb 2015 19:02:12 -0800Earl the PolliwogCultural Rules of Thumbhttp://ask.metafilter.com/275884/Cultural%2DRules%2Dof%2DThumb
The advice to "always look both ways before you cross the street" is fairly common in the United States but I once heard of someone from another culture reacting to the concept like it was a genius-level epiphany. He was amazed by what many school children would consider a simple rule of thumb. I'd like to collect a similar set of idioms that might be seen in that way: common in their country of origin, but unknown (and potentially useful) in other parts of the world.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.275884Fri, 13 Feb 2015 10:56:17 -0800Jeff HowardSeeking audio of Septa Regional Rail conductors' calling the next stophttp://ask.metafilter.com/275801/Seeking%2Daudio%2Dof%2DSepta%2DRegional%2DRail%2Dconductors%2Dcalling%2Dthe%2Dnext%2Dstop
"This is the R-5 train to Páólí. Néxt stóp, Ò::vèr::bróók! Tickets, please!" The Regional Rail train conductors in the Philly region will forever be associated with formal, stentorian, prosodically elaborated station announcements. Where can I find a recording of these? "This is the R-5 train to Páólí. Néxt stóp, Òvèr::bróók! Tickets, please!" In 1999-2000, before the GFC made it cool, I was a tenant in my parents' basement and commuted to work at Penn. Between stops on the R5 Regional Rail line, the "Main Line," conductors would announce the stops in each car, usually in viva voce, rarely on the rather antiquated PA system. The sing-song cadence and rising and falling tone of their patter is imprinted forever in their minds. Most Septa conductors and staff struck me as friendly and charming; <a href="http://www.septa.org/media/short/2014/6-9.html">what they say on their blog about civility is true</a>. They are upholding a very high, very old-fashioned standard. <a href="https://soundcloud.com/septa-4">They're experimenting with SoundCloud</a>. Has anyone recorded their station announcements? Could you share them with me?tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.275801Wed, 11 Feb 2015 16:25:13 -0800rschramEndangered U.S. culture: what remains underdocumented?http://ask.metafilter.com/275771/Endangered%2DUS%2Dculture%2Dwhat%2Dremains%2Dunderdocumented
Tell me about what cultures, cultural practices, arts, religions, languages, lifestyles, hobbies, habits, fashion, unconventional individuals/families, or any other aspects of human life in the U.S. still remain severely underdocumented; or are at risk of fading away before they can be properly or meaningfully documented. The <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gullah">Gullah/Geechees</a> are an example of an at-risk culture (but are relatively well documented at this point, compared to many others).<br>
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Likewise, the English Restoration-descended dialect that many residents still speak in isolated Tangier Island, Virginia. <br>
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Your suggestions and examples don't have to be like these, per se; I am keeping this open and broad to avoid the kind of exclusionism that often leads to the endangerment of such cultures. <br>
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I'm interested to learn about as many "micro" examples as I am "macro" - not just cultures or languages at large, but individual musicians, artists, inventors, teachers, revolutionaries/leaders/etc and the scenes that they occupied. And anything else I could possibly be leaving out. <strong>What and who are we at risk of losing soon?</strong><br>
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<strong>To emphasize</strong>: I am looking specifically for examples of human culture and behavior that are still 'alive' in some way - in other words, there are still living people, or <em>likely</em> to still be living people (if unknown/uncertain, that's fine), engaging in these cultural practices. They should be endangered, but not <em>extinct</em>.<br>
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If any resources/research/reading do exist on the topic, however minimal they may be, please feel free to make mention of them and/or provide links.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.275771Tue, 10 Feb 2015 18:48:51 -0800nightrecordingsHow to find an intellectual / creative community of South Asians in NY?http://ask.metafilter.com/275285/How%2Dto%2Dfind%2Dan%2Dintellectual%2Dcreative%2Dcommunity%2Dof%2DSouth%2DAsians%2Din%2DNY
Seeking advice on how to find out about events, screenings, lectures, workshops, and gatherings organized by and for the South Asian community in New York City. I'm asking because my boyfriend, a Sri Lankan novelist / philosophy PhD student living in New York, claims it's impossible to find a community that he relates to here in New York. (He has lived here for four years.) <br>
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My stance? New York has everything, you just have to know where to look. <br>
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Details: He is specifically interested in finding a creative/intellectual community of South Asians here in New York. He is very smart and has great taste in film and books. His politics are far left of center. Experimental stuff is a-ok. <br>
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Things already on our radar: NYU and Columbia lectures and events; Platform for Pedagogy; the South Asia Institute; the South Asian Film Festival; the Indo-American Arts Council; the Asian American Writers' Workshop; the South Asian Women’s Creative Collective; Dark Matter. <br>
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Do you have any other ideas? I feel like there must be a listserv or (throwback!) a message board out there... <br>
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Advice on finding the kinds of events/gatherings where you can actually meet people would be ideal, but any suggestions are welcome; thanks in advance!tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.275285Sat, 31 Jan 2015 16:36:17 -0800coastisclearBenefits, to majority group members, of being in a minority at school?http://ask.metafilter.com/275273/Benefits%2Dto%2Dmajority%2Dgroup%2Dmembers%2Dof%2Dbeing%2Din%2Da%2Dminority%2Dat%2Dschool
Do members of majority groups benefit from going to schools where they are in a minority? I'm interested in research and information about benefits experienced by majority group members who attend schools where the majority of people do not share that background.<br>
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Primarily my question relates to ethnic and religious majorities, but I am also interested in material relating to other areas, like sexuality.<br>
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I am in Britain, and I'm mainly thinking about the experiences of white British children in schools with a majority of non-white children, but I am interested in broader answers to the question above the fold.<br>
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<a href="https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&ei=MgTNVODPC4n67Aa-54B4&url=http://www.school-diversity.org/pdf/DiversityResearchBriefNo8.pdf&ved=0CCkQFjAD&usg=AFQjCNGIFxfnAuDik7J3UMD7KXhHygaL1A&sig2=Bdnc-LjZjAKEFC8L3_9B7A">This pdf</a> examines some related issues, but isn't sufficiently focused on the specific situation I'm interested in here.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.275273Sat, 31 Jan 2015 08:48:16 -0800howfarArt and Chance: A listhttp://ask.metafilter.com/274723/Art%2Dand%2DChance%2DA%2Dlist
I want to compile a list of art works that used chance operations and/or randomness in their creation. I am keen to incorporate pre-20th century, non-Western works, and lots of works by female artists, but anything you can think of will be super helpful. Chance operations doesn't necessarily mean random, for instance, some Oulipo stuff fits. Like Georges Perec using the knight's move in chess to structure 'Life a Users Manual'. And chance doesn't have to mean the generation of a pattern or structure, for instance, Yoko Ono's 'Cut Piece' created the opportunity for chance events to take place that were hugely influential on how the work played out.<br>
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Works by John Cage, Alison Knowles, Stan Brakhage, Yoko Ono, Robert Filliou, Brian Eno, Burroughs/Gysin, Ewa Partum, Simone Forti, Nam June Paik, Cildo Meireles, Hans Haacke, Francis Alÿs, Jeremy Hutchinson, Daniel Temkin and others come to mind, as well as tonnes of Dada, Fluxus and computer generated work.<br>
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As I say, I am keen to move outside well known 'canonical' stuff, but really influential pre-20th century works would be particularly useful to know about. Also, any very early computer stuff. Thanks in advance!tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.274723Tue, 20 Jan 2015 10:45:31 -08000bviousKids these dayshttp://ask.metafilter.com/274045/Kids%2Dthese%2Ddays
What is the best fiction that accurately portrays the thoughts and lives of teenagers or young adults in 2014? (Characters are under 25 and made in the last 5 years, let's say, or the work is older but ahead of its time. Can be about any place/culture in the world that's real. Can be in any medium.)tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.274045Tue, 06 Jan 2015 12:49:09 -0800michaelhDemisexuality http://ask.metafilter.com/273791/Demisexuality
Am I demisexual and is this rare? First, demisexual basically means that you have little to no sexual attraction to someone unless there was an emotional bond and is often compared to asexuality because it's not the majority of the population and seems to be a rare breed. You can read more here: http://lonerwolf.com/are-you-demisexual/<br>
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Anyway, I recently learned this definition and thought maybe I am demisexual. Too often, people get overly excited over someone's looks about how hot they are, would rip their clothes off, and practically drool over them. I can't stand it to be honest, there are very few men I find handsome physically and even if I did find them hot, I would get over their looks short term after seeing it so many times. Also, their demeanor and personality largely affects if I am attracted to someone, can't be a cocky jerk! I find it difficult to participate in a conversation who's sexy and who's not. I can think of a few handsome men but I don't really have any crushes or desires for them except my boyfriend.<br>
I met handsome guys before and don't think of it sexually unless I have a big crush or attraction to them. I've crushed from afar and had sexual thoughts back in high school.<br>
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Another reason why I may be demisexual is because meeting my bf, I had a huge crush on him the first meeting. I was instantly attracted and felt butterflies...but I couldn't try to even think of us being sexual because I just met him and felt like it was wrong? Lol, but that definitely didn't mean I was open to getting physical with him. <br>
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Reasons I may not be demisexual: I sometimes watch porn. <br>
It's rare but happens, I'm like "woah" if I see a muscular masculine naked man unexpectedly or in a sexy photo but again I get over it and if I see it again it's eh. But I feel sexual urges for my bf mainly. I've met men in clubs (before my bf) I felt sexual attraction to if they flirted and danced up on me but was still being respectful.<br>
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So am I demisexual? Also, how is this rare? It seems like it's normal for many women to be this way and for some men...but not a lot. Thoughts??tag:ask.metafilter.com,2015:site.273791Thu, 01 Jan 2015 06:46:32 -0800Asian_HunnieWhen Did "Well THAT happened...." First Happen?http://ask.metafilter.com/273670/When%2DDid%2DWell%2DTHAT%2Dhappened%2DFirst%2DHappen
I know it's hard to trace memes back to their very first occurences, but can anyone offer at least early sightings/citings of the phrase "Well, THAT happened...."? This shiftless little utterance is actually one of the more profound contributions of modern pop culture. Whole spiritual traditions are condensed by those three words!tag:ask.metafilter.com,2014:site.273670Mon, 29 Dec 2014 14:48:57 -0800Quisp LoverMethods for maintaining children's culture and language http://ask.metafilter.com/273363/Methods%2Dfor%2Dmaintaining%2Dchildrens%2Dculture%2Dand%2Dlanguage
How do families maintain cultural heritage and language when living in other cultures AND the parents are the exclusive transmitters of home country culture (I.e. there are no nearby communities and infrastructure for language lessons, cultural activities and groups)? I know some people have grandparents come and live with them or hire an au pair or nanny to increase language and culture exposure. And yes books and videos in the home country language are obvious. What I'm looking for are true strategies by people that have lived like this. I'm also interested in what people do when only one parent is from that culture/speaks that language.tag:ask.metafilter.com,2014:site.273363Mon, 22 Dec 2014 00:28:13 -0800k8tInvoice vs. Receipt - Am I Culturally Clueless?http://ask.metafilter.com/273251/Invoice%2Dvs%2DReceipt%2DAm%2DI%2DCulturally%2DClueless
Are there areas outside the U.S. -- or well-run organizations within it -- where the words Invoice and Receipt are <em>properly</em> used interchangeably?
Cultural issues below As a small part of my job, I deal with hundreds of individuals per year who order our product. When they order our product online, they can choose to pay immediately via credit card, or pay later via check or money transfer. If they pay immediately, our system automatically sends them an email receipt and an email confirmation. If they choose to pay by check or money transfer, they automatically receive an emailed invoice and emailed payment instructions. <br>
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The issue is people who do not seem to know the difference between an invoice and a receipt. I have always understood it--and every credible source I've seen says--that an invoice is given to people who OWE money and a receipt is given to people who've PAID money. <br>
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We are a U.S. based company. I've had issues with this with many of our customers--or, more often, their secretaries--who seem unclear on this concept. That is, I often get asked for an invoice when people have already paid us. When I say, "I'm sorry, our system sent you a receipt because you are paid in full; the receipt shows you are paid in full." They say, "But I need an invoice."<br>
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Now, I believe several things might be going on here: 1. Their need to satisfy some bizarre bureaucratic requirement. 2. Their genuine confusion, among English speakers, as to the difference--I've met and worked with many fellow Americans who literally do not know a difference and we've had to get a high-up in accounting to tell them the difference. 3. Many of our customers are from outside the U.S. (from countries all over the world) and perhaps they are not knowledgeable of the English words--or perhaps their language does not distinguish?<br>
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The real reason I'm asking is because I've had several instances, in the past, where I've worked with people from a certain culture who were doing things "wrong" with our ordering system, only to find out that in their culture, they were using, say, capitalization, in the correct way. <br>
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So does anyone know of 1. Well-run American organizations who have deliberately decided to use "Invoices" and "Receipts" interchangeably? or 2. Countries/languages that recognize no such distinction in their business culture?tag:ask.metafilter.com,2014:site.273251Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:21:00 -0800HypatiaIs office culture in England really as lewd as portrayed in The Office?http://ask.metafilter.com/273187/Is%2Doffice%2Dculture%2Din%2DEngland%2Dreally%2Das%2Dlewd%2Das%2Dportrayed%2Din%2DThe%2DOffice
Of course I am referring to the BBC version of the show here. I am currently rewatching the series and a few scenes stuck out to me as kind of bizarrely sexist and lewd, in a way that goes above and beyond the usual bounds of a comedy. If there wasn't some bit of truth to these scenes I can't imagine they would have worked that well as jokes in the first place, so I ask thee who have worked in that culture... Of course I am referring to the BBC version of the show here. I am currently rewatching the series and a few scenes stuck out to me as kind of bizarrely sexist and lewd, in a way that goes above and beyond the usual bounds of a comedy. Plus, if there wasn't some bit of truth to these scenes I can't imagine they would have worked that well as jokes in the first place. <br>
The scenes I am referring to are....<br>
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• New girl is being introduced to assembly of coworkers and its jokingly mentioned that her dad is a cop so out loud and in front of everybody, dudes start saying things to her like "would you like to receive some swollen goods, love?" and "I've got something she could take down in evidence!" etc.<br>
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• Brent takes the big boss lady down to the warehouse where warehouse workers joke right to her face about her having sex with a dog.<br>
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• This exchange between Brent, Chris Finch and (shockingly since he's presented as a sensible good-guy) Neil: <br>
She's looking for a job.<br>
- If it's a blow job, I'll help.<br>
- She's not desperate.<br>
- I'll take her up the dole office! - Dole orifice! <br>
- I've got a vacancy she can fill! <br>
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I get that they have a different office culture over there with alcohol and remnants of the class system at play but this stuff all seems baldly inappropriate and I would think illegal, no? <br>
So was this stuff just exaggerated for effect? Meant to show how dysfunctional this one office was?tag:ask.metafilter.com,2014:site.273187Thu, 18 Dec 2014 10:22:31 -0800Senor Cardgage