Yoyoing

So 5 years ago I made a commitment to change my life, I weighed 350lbs depressed and in a lot of pain. I told myself I couldn't hit 30 like this so I took a friends advice and did Weight Watchers. A year and 1/2 later I lost 175lbs, got into a relationship and things looked good.

However, I've been really struggling with my weight since being in a relationship. My partner has a much better metabolism than I do and he doesn't have to work nearly as hard. Since being in a relationship started eating not so healthy food again with my bf and my weight ballooned back up 60lbs before I even knew what had happened. This has happened twice. My bf tries to help me but he doesn't really understand how hard this has been for me and how I have to do this on my own. He never gains weight but eats the same things I do. It's really frustrating.

So now I am back on track and heading back down and have lost 33 pounds in the last 4 months. Trouble is I don't know what to do to maintain and more importantly gain muscle. Anyone going thru this too?

Looking for advice, stories and how any other former heavy guys deal with this stuff.

Don't forget the relationship effect.Once you have a partner, if he likes you for who you are and not just for your look, the motivation to be 'attractive' is no longer that strong.

As a former fat guy, you will always get weight back fast.

You certainly proved you know how to lose weight, and proved also you have enough determination to stay focused on the long run on your goals.

My only advice would be to stand on the weight scale every morning, just for the feedback, just as a reminder.So that when it goes up for more than a few days, you can warn your partner that you are going into food control / sport mode for a while.

You have to understand why you eat. Once you can solidify the reason you eat, you'll eat accordingly. If it's to lose weight, your body will only lose weigh to a certain level. If you continue to eat that way, you will starve and crave food to gain weight. You have to adjust your eating as your weight changes. Also, if you're overeating, you may have other issues you need to deal with. Find a specialist in your area who can help you with this.

Congrats on that major life change!! My b/f gains very fast compaired to me and it is frustrating for him. I don't eat/stuff myself around him. It just wouldn't help. He just can't eat all the same foods I do. As a side we read a book on blood types I am A and he is O. Just wondered what you guys both are? The book said that people with A type do not need to do vigorus exercise daily the way people with type O do. So far I have found this to be true of people we asked. I think the key for him to maintain is making the the time to plan his meals. People with a slower metabolism need to actually eat more times a day than others. It is not good for them/you to feel hunger. The trick is to eat good snacks in between meals and plenty of water. Take almonds with you they store easy. Also bring veggies with you. You can bring them with you in the am in a cooler bag with an ice pak below. I found him a great one at a sporting goods store. It fold up small when empty and it's thermal linned to keep in cold. He always has steel cut oats made and they can be heated in a microwave for a few seconds add cinnamon. It is really important you keep an open dialog in your relationship about weight. It's not something you want to have to think about so much or worry about constantly. Compare it to something he likes to do, something he can't live without, then tell him food is like that for you.

Good Luck you know what to do gym as was stated -you proved it, that is a huge plus.

I'm O-positive and have trouble losing weight, but I've never heard of an association between the two. I wonder what that's based on?

To the OP: Have you ruled out biological causes, like an under-active thyroid or low testosterone? I'd start there just to be sure you don't have something working against you.

Beyond that, it's just following the rules of watching what you eat and exercising to burn calories. I have to do more cardio than most people just to keep the weight off, but that's just the way it is.

MikemikeMike saidCongrats on that major life change!! My b/f gains very fast compaired to me and it is frustrating for him. I don't eat/stuff myself around him. It just wouldn't help. He just can't eat all the same foods I do. As a side we read a book on blood types I am A and he is O. Just wondered what you guys both are? The book said that people with A type do not need to do vigorus exercise daily the way people with type O do. So far I have found this to be true of people we asked. I think the key for him to maintain is making the the time to plan his meals. People with a slower metabolism need to actually eat more times a day than others. It is not good for them/you to feel hunger. The trick is to eat good snacks in between meals and plenty of water. Take almonds with you they store easy. Also bring veggies with you. You can bring them with you in the am in a cooler bag with an ice pak below. I found him a great one at a sporting goods store. It fold up small when empty and it's thermal linned to keep in cold. He always has steel cut oats made and they can be heated in a microwave for a few seconds add cinnamon. It is really important you keep an open dialog in your relationship about weight. It's not something you want to have to think about so much or worry about constantly. Compare it to something he likes to do, something he can't live without, then tell him food is like that for you.

Good Luck you know what to do gym as was stated -you proved it, that is a huge plus.

Are you fucking kidding me? Being O-negative is the reason I'm having a hard time losing weight?

I'm not sure. I just read about it. There are always alot of other factors, but it just seems to be true from all the poeple, men and woman we asked. Just wonderd about all the men here on RJ??

DO you have type O blood and have a weight problem?? Do you require alot of cardio to stay fit?

I have never determined my blood type so that will be something I will definitely ask my doctor next time. Interesting idea Mike!

I do know that I do require a LOT of cardio. Of course having a relatively sedentary job doesn't help much. Important to use your actual break time and move about otherwise that's not a help much either.

MikemikeMike saidCongrats on that major life change!! My b/f gains very fast compaired to me and it is frustrating for him. I don't eat/stuff myself around him. It just wouldn't help. He just can't eat all the same foods I do. As a side we read a book on blood types I am A and he is O. Just wondered what you guys both are? The book said that people with A type do not need to do vigorus exercise daily the way people with type O do. So far I have found this to be true of people we asked. I think the key for him to maintain is making the the time to plan his meals. People with a slower metabolism need to actually eat more times a day than others. It is not good for them/you to feel hunger. The trick is to eat good snacks in between meals and plenty of water. Take almonds with you they store easy. Also bring veggies with you. You can bring them with you in the am in a cooler bag with an ice pak below. I found him a great one at a sporting goods store. It fold up small when empty and it's thermal linned to keep in cold. He always has steel cut oats made and they can be heated in a microwave for a few seconds add cinnamon. It is really important you keep an open dialog in your relationship about weight. It's not something you want to have to think about so much or worry about constantly. Compare it to something he likes to do, something he can't live without, then tell him food is like that for you.

Good Luck you know what to do gym as was stated -you proved it, that is a huge plus.

I'm not sure what an antigen on a RBC would have to do with metabolism. What does the book say about B type?