Hello Everyone,
I have only been on here a short time but it appears the
newbies" and/or widows appear to be easy targets for all the liars out there. This takes away from what this site is meant for and just really pisses me off.

I think we need to dedicate a FORUM/BLOG to expose these men and women that try to cheat us out of money, love, and just waste our time. I am on this site to truly find love and don't want to invest my precious time on someone who wants to take advantage.

The newest scammers are Jeffrey Milliam who will insist that you email him at his yahoo account with the same name

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I totally agree, I
m the same, just looking for my soul mate not interested if they have money or not. Iwould also like to say, there are a lot of woman scammers too. I
ve had a few myself, they chat you up, say wonderful things and then ask for your email but when you start asking a few questions thats the last you here from them. The last one I had I googgled her email address and kept getting sent to a russian dating site? Hmmm! I questioned her about it and not heard a dicky bird since. The first red flag for me is, I
m 58 and these women are gorgeous and between 21 and 30, I
m not an agist but I cant honestly see the attraction unless there looking for something more than love.

It has been over a year since I wrote this blog.....since then I have learned so much. You are right, Fish, those sights are helpful and I have checked them out several times. MM also posts scammers and the photos they use.Best advice is to NEVER....EVER....send money to anyone. A true gentleman or woman would ever ask you to do such a thing. I am financially stable and I would expect the man in my life to be the same.I am no longer a paying member but I have made some wonderful friends on this site and stay in touch with them. The experiences they shared have made me smarter and wiser in my decisions. Stay safe on the internet folks!!Thanks for sharing Fishyme, you always have great advice.....hugs.

Everybody should search the web for 2 sites.One is called romancescam and it is a dot org. The other is 419 scambaiters and it is a dot com.These sites will inform you of who a great many scammers are,how they work what to look out for,and so very much more information.

If you online dating you need to arm yourself with this information.Years ago I blundered upon romancescam and there was the woman that I was about to send thousands of dollars to come here.I GOT LUCKY!A few years later I saved a friend $6000 by mer minutes so he was only out $2000 from the week before.

Look at these sites,learn from them,they are updated often if not daily.SHARE these sites with others as I'm doing with you now.LISTEN to your friends and look up their new online love for them.My friend thought I was nuts untill I e-mailed him his "girl"

PLEASE share this information,you'll be saving someone you may never meet a lot of money and a lot of grief.

I am new to the site and just posted a comment under USA - thinking the scammers come after USA more? But I trully hope all the scammers are caught but the sad thing is they usually come back in another identity. . . grrrrr! They do ask for your email up front and their story is too good to be true . . . it is very frustrating because you fall for him at first but when you realize he is a fraud (instinct sets in) you feel like the biggest fool.
All I can do is not give out my email or cell phone - stay on the site and even gotten to where I want them to verify their identity, age and possibly income before I send my email. Just stay on the site until you can meet in person. Heck have them email their ID to yourself? that would snag them.
Carla
P.s. I also enrolled in People Smart (not sure how valid) but if I put their names and location in - some of them do not show up. I put some of my friends in and they do. Next time one of my first questions will be "Where do you work - name of your company" and actual location - then you can narrow down the search on "People Smart" and the age has to be accurate as well. Kind of fun playing detective too LOL!
My true wish is to meet someone in person by accident - heck I live in Houston, TX - 4th largest city in US - I just need to get out more

it's crazy. i seen so many woman compline about men being fakes. . i seen so many woman ask for money after a few hours. i am anice guy cant find a good woman. some ask for to much.Ya i seen all scams. i dont think anyone on this site rich. dont think any good woman on here. everyone looking to be taken care of

Hey JEN.... I will have to look your blogs up. I find it much more difficult to utilize this forum than the regular blogs though... Too hard to see when something has been posted..
Yes, my mother was not very kind to me. I was laughing when you mentioned empathy and sympathy. They are similar, so you should have paid attention in class girl! LOL... Actually I only posted that stuff B/C it was MY BLOG and someone came in adding sympathy to the mix and we weren't talking about that. But since another blogger had mentioned empathy and co-dependency being he same, I felt a need to make sure no one felt that.. Anyway, yes, you do remind me of a gator! ;)))
Oh and PS... No need for further explanatin... As soon as I read..
"I'M FROM DETROIT!!"
I "GOT" it!! Bwahahaahahaha!! ;)

While this may be true for a good number of men, I don't think you can throw a blanket application on all men here.
I am a man who seeks an attractive woman who will love me for the man I am, & not be concerned with anything monetary I can give them, or a comfortable life. That is easy for me to say, since there is no way I can provide that for a woman now.
I am weary of women who are physically attracted to me, yet, they look elsewhere because I am not wealthy. To be honest, I would rather be with a woman who has money simply because she doesn't need me for that purpose, but WANTS me for every other reason.
The most sad commentary about my life is the fact that I have never found that one person who I have loved more than my own life & ambitions. This is amazing, because I have been married in the past, & had long term relationships. In each case, I felt a sense of longing for someone who could understand me, & not berate me. My continuing mission to discover this elusive life mate, with no tangible success, is disturbing & frustrating.
What I am about to tell you is one of my most closely guarded secrets. I have never been with a partner who could satisfy my basic, instinctual attraction level, & I mean this on the deepest physical echelon.
I have the tools that are considered the archetypal female magnets. I am attractive, I sing, & can communicate rather effectively. Yet, her I stand... Alone. Any woman can find me on a search engine under michaelantonio live. Mostly, I hear crickets, or there is merely no connection there.
What good is my appeal, if I cannot be mutually satisfied by a beautiful woman? If she is out there, & she finds me, oh how beautiful life will be for us...

Hello everyone, hope you all enjoyed the holidays :) Thanks for the input Hoping and Bepostive (and anyone else!)

Hoping, you made me laugh and that's a good thing, thanks. I just may have a little gator in me. I have 3 words I use that may help others (or not) and is my explanation for everything- I'm from Detroit! It's an interesting mix,.. shy, little Catholic School Girl grows up on the wrong side of the tracks in tough Detroit,lol.

Hoping, I'm sorry about your mom. The best person I had growing up was my mom. Actually she was the best person I will ever know. If you have a good one, the world can be harsh all around you but your mom is your rock. Because I know both sides, good and bad parents, I sympathize with you. Or is it empathize? or??? I didn't take notes on that post of yours :)

For anyone to know; I do have a couple of long term threads in the forum that may be of interest. They don't get much participation from others but I do welcome it!

Look for:
Entertainment, then under Entertainment & Hobbies, my title is Quotes/Sayings/Poems

Another one to be found in the forum :
Life & Living, then Life, my title is Tell us something/anything about yourself.

LOLOL... Let's see JEN... You still want to push the scammer off the cliff... but yet can't figure why I consider you a GATOR! Girl, I'm from GATOR country and those things iz meaner than a snake! HA! You do NOT want to ever be clinched in gator jaws! They can't open them once they bite down... That's why the trappers tape their mouths shut.
JEN... I never felt you would be the type to call MM and complain about V. You appear above that level and too abled bodied to care for yourself. You took him on in a well-trained vicious manner.. HA! And for those like me, Well.. I have most times, enjoyed both of you. At times, he was out of line, but I still hold by my contention you read him wrong at times. But I know you already know how I feel. I didn't think telling you repeatedly my thoughts was the proper way to handle it. I did however ask him to reconsider his actions and to please just stop, regardles of hwo was right or wrong so he wrote the truce. I wish everyone had seen more than words written. I don't feel anyone who involved themelves handled things properly, but I am glad the fighting has ceased. However, I kinda miss seeing some of his little antics. I realize you don't see good in every person, (at least not him,) but I try my best to and I felt I was blessed to see some of the positive he had to offer. I grew up with a very judgmental and mean mother who always made me feel "unworthy" so I hold no doubt this makes me more tolerant of others. I am sorry you did not get to witness some of his good qualitites. None the less, I have always felt you were articulate and quick witted and I admire your tenacity. I hold that same spirit, I just don't choose the same battles...
I'm glad you reviewed NGL's profile. Though I have not had tons of interaction with him, I am extremely observant on the boards, and he is a "good one." :) Sometimes I think you read tooooo fast.. kind of like a "knee-jerk reader".. (Yes, I DO make up words! LOL.. ) and this creates your brain to knee jerk type! Had to make sure you noted you wuz reading too fast! HEY! Your name has KNEE!! See! Its fits! SLOW DOWN YOUR READING LADY BUG!! ;)
Jeez.. The Princess has such a heavy load keeping all you guys in line! All that... AND delivering toys once a year! Whew.. I'm beat! Bwahahahaha!!!
HOPE YOU HAVE A MERRY NEW YEAR! I am headed to Charleston!! Never been before, but very excited!!
God Bless You Sweetie! Now BE HAVE!! I don't wanna have to fire up my old broom .. and break out the duct tape for your jaws!
PS.. I don't know about wrestlin no gator.. But I might could take this guy on!! Heehee~

AWWW... JEN!! On CHRISTMAS TO BOOT! That stinks!! GLAD YOU FOUND OUT BEFORE TOO LONG THOUGH! I don't understand how so many women get these "scammers?" I don't ever get scammers... " Once, MANY years ago, I got one, on another site, (NIGERIA ring a bell anyone!!) but that is it.. and I knew it within days.. I must be "Non-Scamming Appealing"... LOL... I was watching Dr. Phil yesterday and he had these women on that were all scammed... BY THE SAME WOMAN!! She had used these really hot guys photos and they had even had phone sex etc.. One really pretty young lady, (early 20's.. very adorable) She had been speaking to this guy for 2 1/2 years and never met. I did not get to watch the entire show, but personally, more so than the scammer, I hope Dr. Phil addressed all the womens issues as to HOW they could get strung along for MONTHS and YEARS by someone they had never even met or webcammed with! That is not a healthy emotional balance! He said they find the woman's weakness and needs and works with that. It was horrible! It was what one lady called the "Ultimate Mnipulation." JEN, there was one GF of one of the ladies who knew her frined was being "taken".. well,,, she reminded me of you.. She knew her friend was being used and she hunted the perpetrator down via emails, etc.. That's how they found out it was a lady I think! You remind me of that. You are like a "gator".. You clinch on something and don't let go! Heehee~ her frined was very embrrassed and hurt, but very "grateful" her friend found out the truth! Now that's friend! NGL... I saw what you wrote.. JEN... RE-READ!! NGL said he LIKES women our age. (He's one of the good guys!!) He does NOT want a YOUNGIN!! Only thing he said about older women was to be leery if the youngins start wanting us.. I agree! I receive "children" and men far younger write me all the time.. BUT, I'm sure I would hold their attention span about as long as it took my 20 YO daughter to enter the room! Bwahahahahaha! Jeez.. I gotta hide that girl in the closet in order to find me a date!

Hi Hoping, I hope yoru Christmas was merry!!

Yeah, I know NGL is one of the good ones :) He's from Michigan,lol, my homestate. I looked on his profile and saw his age range AFTER I typed what I did. Sometimes it is just too time consuming to type another post even when I really should. I am definitely not as good a typist as you. I do pretty good in person conversing but I don't always clarify things as much as I should when typing. I apologize now for not always replying when I should to you. I do always appreciate the acknowledgement though :)

I actually saw part of that Dr. Phil episode myself but ONLY part of it. I had to laugh but was also flattered that you compared me to a gator. I just wonder what I did that made you think of me. Still, I do try to protect my friends and family when I can, more so than for myself. I think we could all use such a good friend as that lady had on Dr. Phil.

I did somewhat fall for a scammer once. If he could get to me, he could get to anyone. The guy deserved an Academy Award for his lying and yet I told him that I wasn't sure what the truth was and if I found out he lied, that I would lose my faith in all humanity. I still picture pushing him off the cliffs of Dover.
Ahh, the stories I think we all could tell!! I can't tell some of them because unfortunitely, I could be helping the rotten side by giving them tips on how to succeed.
Maybe since "V" is gone, we could tell some stories of our miracles without feeling we would be attacked. Opposition is one thing but mocking,etc. is something I absolutely don't want when telling something so personal. By the way, I never did ask MM to remove him so it wasn't me.
Hoping, you still hold plenty of attention from males, I'm sure. I do feel though, no matter how good ,attractive and intelligent,etc. you seem that men online have just about ten minute attention spans. I call it "The Kid in the Candy Shop" syndrome. He could be really enjoying what he has at the time but still, he's eyeing all the other candy and can't wait to try the next piece! It is what it is, maybe it is worse here in CA.? It wouldn't surprise me if it is worse here, if only I could transplant a bunch of Midwest men here.
Take care, see ya around the forum.

AWWW... JEN!! On CHRISTMAS TO BOOT! That stinks!! GLAD YOU FOUND OUT BEFORE TOO LONG THOUGH! I don't understand how so many women get these "scammers?" I don't ever get scammers... " Once, MANY years ago, I got one, on another site, (NIGERIA ring a bell anyone!!) but that is it.. and I knew it within days.. I must be "Non-Scamming Appealing"... LOL...
I was watching Dr. Phil yesterday and he had these women on that were all scammed... BY THE SAME WOMAN!! She had used these really hot guys photos and they had even had phone sex etc.. One really pretty young lady, (early 20's.. very adorable) She had been speaking to this guy for 2 1/2 years and never met. I did not get to watch the entire show, but personally, more so than the scammer, I hope Dr. Phil addressed all the womens issues as to HOW they could get strung along for MONTHS and YEARS by someone they had never even met or webcammed with! That is not a healthy emotional balance! He said they find the woman's weakness and needs and works with that. It was horrible! It was what one lady called the "Ultimate Mnipulation." JEN, there was one GF of one of the ladies who knew her frined was being "taken".. well,,, she reminded me of you.. She knew her friend was being used and she hunted the perpetrator down via emails, etc.. That's how they found out it was a lady I think! You remind me of that. You are like a "gator".. You clinch on something and don't let go! Heehee~ her frined was very embrrassed and hurt, but very "grateful" her friend found out the truth! Now that's friend!
NGL... I saw what you wrote.. JEN... RE-READ!! NGL said he LIKES women our age. (He's one of the good guys!!) He does NOT want a YOUNGIN!! Only thing he said about older women was to be leery if the youngins start wanting us.. I agree! I receive "children" and men far younger write me all the time.. BUT, I'm sure I would hold their attention span about as long as it took my 20 YO daughter to enter the room! Bwahahahahaha! Jeez.. I gotta hide that girl in the closet in order to find me a date!

I am so sick of scammers, I may just snap when the next one lies to me. I found my latest interest was a scammer yesterday, on Christmas Day :(

At least I didn't waste too much time this time. I traced his first email to my personal address and found out he was in Ecuador, not California.

What is beyond disgusting is how capable they are of lying and stealing. They will web a whole set of intricate lies (if they're good) while others are not good at lying or grammar,etc. and u know right away what they are.

NGL, since you're in Michigan, you are probably one of the better choices of men in their 50's :) Don't take what I say in general about men personally. Midwest men are usually the best!! Most Californian men suck :(

Hello Everyone, I have only been on here a short time but it appears the newbies" and/or widows appear to be easy targets for all the liars out there. This takes away from what this site is meant for and just really pisses me off.

I think we need to dedicate a FORUM/BLOG to expose these men and women that try to cheat us out of money, love, and just waste our time. I am on this site to truly find love and don't want to invest my precious time on someone who wants to take advantage.

The newest scammers are VERA49 and some guy named Jeffrey Milliam who will insist that you email him at his account with the same name Thoughts anyone??

@ Bepositive, I've been off and on this site for sometime now and I can tell you us men deal with the same types of stuff. I've had several women waste my time and energy. I firmly believe this, the majority of the women on this site are not ready for a relationship.

Scammers,,,I think there are a few ways to notice when someone is not on the up and up so to speak. 1- they ask you right away to go to another IM site, like you mentioned ,immediately close out the conversation because 9 time out of 10 they are a scammer, 2- They only have one pictures, (not always but for the most part) or they will send more to your private email,,, don't give them your private address, they can attach it to an email right through MM. 3- at any point in a conversation they ask for money, I don't care if you've been talking for a minute or a month NEVER NEVER EVER EVER send money to anyone from here. 4 - this is just my experience, if they are significantly younger than you,,scammer or gold digger, and fiinally keep in mind (for you women) most younger man/boy's fantasy is to be with and older more experienced woman for a short time. I mean you have to figure for the long term why would a man in his 30's want to be with a woman in her 40's-50's, when he can realistically be with women/girls in there 20's & 30's. (nothing against women in their 40's 50's & 60's,,Thats my preferred age range, so I love you Gals) ;) I guess the bottom line is, if they say something thats makes you feel uncomfortable, or the age range just doesn't make, (and you have to use common sense),, rational dating sense, close out the conversation, or block them from contact. 5 - if the conversation turns sexual in nature right at the start,, stop it then and there, close out and block,,No Gentleman would do that, NONE !! and your all grown women you know whats approriate and what isn't,, use you head not your heart all the time. and just because someone sends you an email that you've been emailing chatting with,, doesn't always mean you have to answer them. Please all you beautiful, wonderful women, don't let the a**holes ruin your chanes to meet a nice man.

Wow NGL, you obviously don't know what you're missing!! Women in their 40's and 50's have a lot to offer that a good amount of younger women can't. Through our life experiences, we know exactly who we are and what we want. We look a lot younger than women tended to look that were in our age range in the past. I could go on but it would be wasted on you since you prefer Girls to Women.

I could add that I find most men in their 50's repulsive and quite a lot of them in their 40's are looking way older than their years. Not only do they look like they have one foot in the grave ,they also act like they do.

Do I want someone to have to take a blue pill? No way,lol. I like men with endurance and enthusiasm..about life ;) That is not found with most men in their 50's and up.

There are scammers on this site including cheap gigolos posing as wealthy men. But there are scams that personally, I can't see how these men can benefit or gain from. What motivates these types of scammers? Like this one posing as a widow with a big house and a big boat looking for a good woman. He made me buy an air ticket which he said he would reimburse and after I did he just vanished. So, what is the point? Unless he works for that ailine and simply scam women into increasing their sales :) Gosh! What a cheapie!

Hello Everyone, I have only been on here a short time but it appears the newbies" and/or widows appear to be easy targets for all the liars out there. This takes away from what this site is meant for and just really pisses me off.

I think we need to dedicate a FORUM/BLOG to expose these men and women that try to cheat us out of money, love, and just waste our time. I am on this site to truly find love and don't want to invest my precious time on someone who wants to take advantage.

The newest scammers are VERA49 and some guy named Jeffrey Milliam who will insist that you email him at his account with the same name Thoughts anyone??

@ Bepositive, I've been off and on this site for sometime now and I can tell you us men deal with the same types of stuff. I've had several women waste my time and energy. I firmly believe this, the majority of the women on this site are not ready for a relationship.

Scammers,,,I think there are a few ways to notice when someone is not on the up and up so to speak. 1- they ask you right away to go to another IM site, like you mentioned ,immediately close out the conversation because 9 time out of 10 they are a scammer, 2- They only have one pictures, (not always but for the most part) or they will send more to your private email,,, don't give them your private address, they can attach it to an email right through MM. 3- at any point in a conversation they ask for money, I don't care if you've been talking for a minute or a month NEVER NEVER EVER EVER send money to anyone from here. 4 - this is just my experience, if they are significantly younger than you,,scammer or gold digger, and fiinally keep in mind (for you women) most younger man/boy's fantasy is to be with and older more experienced woman for a short time. I mean you have to figure for the long term why would a man in his 30's want to be with a woman in her 40's-50's, when he can realistically be with women/girls in there 20's & 30's. (nothing against women in their 40's 50's & 60's,,Thats my preferred age range, so I love you Gals) ;) I guess the bottom line is, if they say something thats makes you feel uncomfortable, or the age range just doesn't make, (and you have to use common sense),, rational dating sense, close out the conversation, or block them from contact. 5 - if the conversation turns sexual in nature right at the start,, stop it then and there, close out and block,,No Gentleman would do that, NONE !! and your all grown women you know whats approriate and what isn't,, use you head not your heart all the time. and just because someone sends you an email that you've been emailing chatting with,, doesn't always mean you have to answer them. Please all you beautiful, wonderful women, don't let the a**holes ruin your chanes to meet a nice man.

Wow NGL, you obviously don't know what you're missing!! Women in their 40's and 50's have a lot to offer that a good amount of younger women can't. Through are life experiences we know exactly who we are and what we want. We look a lot younger than women tended to look that we're in our age range in the past. I could go on but it would be wasted on you since you prefer Girls to Women.

I could add that I find most men in their 50's repulsive and quite a lot of them in their 40's are looking way older than their years. Not only do they look like they have one foot in the grave ,they also act like they do.

Do I want someone to have to take a blue pill? No way,lol. I like men with endurance and enthusiasm..about life ;) That is not found with most men in their 50's and up.

@Jen,,I guess I didn't make my point clearly when I said ", (nothing against women in their 40's 50's & 60's,,Thats my preferred age range, so I love you Gals) I guess I should have said, nothing against women in their 40's 50's 60's because you are my preferred age range, I love you gals) any better ?

negativity about men in their 50's, Jen, way to harse my mellow,, thanks ! LOL

I too am new to the dating/online game. I knew going in that there are no millionaires, but picked this site in the hopes of meeting a better class of people, then one can meet at the nightclub. To my disappointment, I have come across the same mentality of the lounge lizard, with the exception of a handful of lovely men. The assumption is that if a woman is on this site, she is looking for a good time. So offensive!! To avoid any further scammers and lewd presumptuous men, I have hidden my pics. Limits my potential to meet the right one, but will hopefully weed out the riff raff.