Parental alienation involves the systematic brainwashing, poisoning and manipulation of children with the sole purpose of destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent. My story involves this form of child abuse & exploring the bias favouring a mother in the social ecosystem around Family Law.

I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Domestic Violence Industry Covers Up Half of
Problem

FathersCan, the National Voice for Canadian
Fathers, estimates that more than two billion dollars of taxpayer money
is distributed annually by all levels of government to various
shelters and other domestic violence programs in Canada. This figure
is based on information from Statistics Canada, Status of Women Canada,
Health Canada, and other similar provincial agencies and government
departments.

The
entirety of this sum is provided to programmes and shelters that
purport to provide services to women who are the victims of domestic
violence. Interestingly, and tragically, not a single cent is provided
to any program or shelter to provide services to men who are the
victims of such violence.

Health Canada (http://www.hc-sc.gc.ca/hl-vs/pubs/women-femmes/violence-eng.php)
defines domestic violence as “Acts that result, or are likely to result, in
physical, sexual and psychological harm or suffering to women,
including threats of such an act, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of
liberty whether occurring in public or private life”.

Nowhere in that
definition is recognition of the fact that hundreds of thousands of
Canadian men are victims of domestic violence, as defined by Health
Canada, at the hands of their female partners. Jeremy Swanson,
National Director of FathersCan notes that this alarming and seldom
reported statistic is borne out by Statistics Canada information.

Mr. Swanson stated, “In 2005, the last year in
which Statscan has released information, it was reported that the 2004 General Social Survey (GSS) on
Victimization indicated some 653,000 women and 546,000 men in Canada
were the victims of spousal violence in the five years preceding the
survey, or about 7% and 6% respectively. The Survey goes on to point out
that nearly all domestic violence victims (95%) who seek out
assistance from social agencies, government programmes, or shelters are
women. The Survey totally ignores the fact that there are no such
agencies, programmes, or shelters for men even if they wanted to seek
them out.”

He went on to point
out that there are about 550 shelters for woman in Canada, as reported
by Statistics Canada, yet “they failed to even mention that there is
not even one single shelter for abused men in the entire country”.

StatsCan reported that in
2006 twenty-one men in Canada were killed by their female partner, an
increase of 75% from just one year previous and a continuation of an
increasing trend. Yet in 2006 the number of women killed by their male
partner decreased by 10% from the year previous, continuing a trend of
5 years of continual decline.

“Men in Canada are
victims of domestic abuse in numbers almost equal to women. The courts
ignore it, and in some cases even laugh in the faces of men who report
it as part of their divorce testimony. Successive governments have
lavished taxpayer money on women’s and feminist groups in support of
Domestic Violence studies, programmes, and shelters, ignoring the fact
that 85% of such accusations made by women during divorce proceedings
are known to be false. ”

“Yet Canadian men
continue to suffer, continue to bleed, and continue to die at the hands
of their female partners. Do Canadian men not deserve equal help from
their government in preventing, escaping, and recovering from such
abuse? Do Canadian men not deserve even one single dollar in their fight
for protection and justice? Is there any party or any party leader that
has the guts to make this an election issue and to step up to defend
and protect men from their female abusers? There are a large number of
votes out there that are waiting to be cast for the party that does.”

Favourite Quotes

“The job of a father is this : to help his children develop, to teach them to express and master their emotions; to avoid physiological distress, to provide a context for their experiences; to help them persevere, reach their goals and take on responsibilities; and to instil the roles of citizen, partner and parent. In short, it is to fill their bellies with bread, their brains with wisdom and their hearts with love and courage.” Camil Bouchard, “On Father’s Ground” 2002.

Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" ~ George Bernard Shaw ~ also quoted by Robert F. Kennedy, US Senator and Presidential Candidate assassinated in 1968.

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length. ~ Robert Frost

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Some Gems on relationships

Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is a husband.

The motto of this Father's Rights Activist

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again ... and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." Theodore Roosevelt,

Facts on violence in Canada Domestic and Otherwise

Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile, 2009.

Of the nearly 19 million Canadians who had a current or former spouse in 2009, 6.2% or 1.2 million reported they had been victimized physically or sexually by their partner or spouse during the five years prior to the survey. This proportion was stable from 2004 (6.6%), the last time the victimization survey was conducted, and down from 1999 (7.4%).

A similar proportion of men and women reported experiencing spousal violence during the five years prior to the survey. Among men, 6.0% or about 585,000, encountered spousal violence during this period, compared with 6.4% or 601,000 women.

Total 611, men 465, women 146Rate of homicides with firearms has increased 24% since 2002. Handgun use on increase (gangs don't register their weapons)Women victims 24% - lowest proportion everMen Victims 76%Both the rate of females killed (0.87 per 100,000 population), as well as the proportion(24%), were the lowest since 196162 spousal homicides - no change from 2007Lowest rate in 40 years45 women 17 (27.4%)men

Many DV homicides of men are not classified as such and this number is higher than 27.4%.

In 2009 based on a million couples it can fairly be said 999,998 wives do not kill their husbands and 999,995 husbands do not kill their wives. (See Pg. 15 chart modified from the rate per 100,000.)

In 2009, 49 women and 15 men were killed by a current or former spouse (excludes one same-sex spousal victim).

Total homicides 610, Men 450. Gang related 20.3 percent.69.1 % of firearm related deaths involved handgunsWomen 160, In 2009 it represented the second lowest proportion (26%) of female homicide victims since data were first collected. The rate of female victims has generally been declining since the late 1960s.

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I am Politically active and right of centre on most issues with the odd exception such as legalization of "Mary Jane".
I advocate on changes to Family Law - an incredibly dysfunctional arena where parents are pitted against one another and children are the victims.
My picture will sometimes show me as a younger man simply because I like them.

An Alienated Child

Is a troubled child

American Coalition for Fathers & Children Petition

A quote by a well known Canadian Jurist

The Honorable Justice John Gomery of Canada stated, “Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

(The above quote arises from PSM vs. AJC, a decision rendered by Mr. Justice John Gomery on February 15 1991 (SCM 500-12-184613895), and confirmed by the unanimous judgment of the Court of Appeal on June 14 1991, the trial judge was confronted by a case involving four children caught up in a heated custody battle between their parents whereby the children became "catastrophically" alienated from their mother.)A good paper on PAS for lawyers by a lawyer, Anne-France Goldwater (Avocate), and excerpts from the above trial are located here.