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1.You
feel like punching the wall for no reason?2.Easily
angered or irritated by the people around you?3.Emotionally
charged?4.Feeling
down and low for no apparent reason?5.Feel
that you are bombarded by problems?

In my case, I call it a BAD DAY.
I usually feel it once or twice a month. Actually, I always expected it to
come. It is sort of expecting the unexpected so the blow would not be as bad as
I thought. I have several ways of coping with my bad days, and one of those is
crying. Yes, the old fashion whining and tears falling ease my mind and soul.
Whenever I feel alone, I cry. When I feel anger surfacing from the deep chasms
of my ID, I cry. Even when I’m watching a sappy movie or documentary or
listening to a mellow tune, tears will start streaming from my eyes to my
cheeks.

Nowadays, crying is viewed as a
sign of weakness, especially if you are an adult. People around you will
consider you as a crybaby, or like the Brits says, “a big girl’s blouse.” But I
came across an article on PsychologyToday.com titled, Crying Older Adults by Dr. Mario Garrett.

Dr.Garret regarded the act of
crying as a sign of relief and can be beneficial in some instances, depending
on your psychological makeup and condition. A study conducted by Lauren Bylsma
of University of Pittsburgh stated that 4000 men and women in more than 30
countries said that they feel oddly relieved and relaxed after having a good
cry. But is also depends on the situation. Crying can have a negative effect
when you watched a sad feel and it made you feel worse.

Another interesting find of this
study is people with alexithymia –the lack of understanding of emotions – cry less
but feel less positive than the average person who cries.

Encouraged by this study, I also
researched some articles that pertain to crying and its advantages. I found
another article on NetDoctor.co.uk that tackles the benefits of crying. It also
discussed the three types of tears which are the emotional/stress-related
tears, basal tears, eye watering. Emotional/stress-related tears contain
natural painkillers which released when we are under stress. Basal tears, on
the other hand, are a natural “moisturizers” for our eyes. Eye watering tears,
also known as reflex tears, functions when our eyes are under attack by outside
irritants.

Mainly, this article listed down
the positive benefits of crying:

1.Stress
release. When we’re upset and stressed, chemicals are building up inside our
body. Crying can help reduce and balance these chemicals. It washed the
chemicals related to stress and release the tension.

2.Dealing
with sorrow. Psychologically, crying can lift our mood and help us deal with a
painful situation. And crying is an act of catharsis or cleansing to let out
the negative and traumatic emotions,

3.Too
much tears is not good. Too much crying can be a sign of depression and other
mental illness. It also states that crying is not for everyone. Those who
suffer mood disorders feel more low and depressed after crying.

Well, what I learned from these
articles is it is not bad to have a good cry sometimes. It will not make you
less of a human. And crying is a form of expression – expression of fear,
guilty, and sorrow which will lead to you to articulate your emotions better to
other people.