Thursday, July 23, 2009

Thank you so much for this beautiful, insightful glimpse into who is hiding beneath the surface of my being. You clearly are incredibly gifted intuitively and the things you were able to glean from my astrological chart really blow all those cookie cutter computerized reports (my only experience with astrology in the past) out of the water. I really feel a tremendous amount of clarity about life purpose and direction after having read this. It was also exactly what I was thinking about in a tiny corner of my mind that I was afraid to really shine light onto for fear that it was an illusion that would disappear if I looked directly at it. Here is the confirmation of those suspicions that I so dearly needed. I feel tremendous gratitude for being drawn to your website and the reading was certainly worth much more money than I paid for it. I can't wait to read the books you've recommended.

Eclipses act like adding a new background color to a tapestry for 6 months. Things stay the same but they really change.

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Friday, July 10, 2009

how did your relationship get started =: We met on campus at college, he was in a couple of my writing classes. We started meeting in between class to talk, we both began to look forward to it. We started emailing each other and finally admitted our attraction. There was always a spark between us, and I felt drawn to him. A May-December romance, I am 23, he is 46.

how long did it last =: on going. It has been about 4 months.

how did it end =: on going.

would you do it again = : yes.

never done this before =: He's had affairs before. I believe, he is a chronic philanderer. I don't know that this bothers me because I don't feel the need to 'possess' him and own him. I figure, this is who he is, he loves women. I can accept it, or leave.

did he have any kids =: His kids are grown, 24, 26.

did you know his wife before or gret to know her?: I have never met her, no.

did you ever contact his wife = : I would never contact her.

spend a lot of money on you =: No, nothing like that.

what did he promise you =: Nothing. He told me he would like to be my friend and lover for a long time. I feel we will engage in a long-term affair as long as our feelings remain good for each other.

did you want to marry him or just have the affair =: No, I don't know that we would succeed at a marriage, even. Or anything to structured and conventional. I am satisfied w/ just the affair.

are you still in contact with him = : yes

did you have an abortion or a child =: He's had a vasectomy.

did you date others =: I still consider myself single. I have seen other men, yes.

what advice would you give someone who is considering an affair? = : Keep it in perspective. Be careful of whom you choose as your affair. Be prepared to be alone and unable to reach him sometimes. Take it for what it is, as long as it is enjoyable.

what advice would you give a wife whose husband was having an affair =: Communicate with him. He's lonely and just wants to feel alive, emotionally intimate, accepted, and have a passionate lover and a best friend.

why do you tnink men have affairs =: A passionate lover and someone to confide in and trust. Someone to nuture his spirit.

did you ever feel guilty about what you were doing -: no, never.

where how often regularly =: We meet randomly, depending on his work schedule and mine. The very first encounter we had was in the elevator at the college! Now, we meet at my house, every few weeks or so.

did you tel did you tell friends or relatives =: I've told a few friends. Some support me and others don't say much. I am honest. I say he makes me feel secure and happy and that I am realisitc about what the relationship is.

what did you learn =: I would say I am still learning...mostly, I've learned to be vulnerable and open up to this man and allow him to care for me.-------------------------------------------------------------------

how did your relationship get started =: We met at work. He had been giving me looks for a while, but didn't ask me out until November. I guess they were on a "break". He had moved out, and was very attentive. We began to spend time together. Then he told me he was getting back together with his ex. After 2 weeks he was back at my office door.

how long did it last =: Its been 7 months

how did it end =: It stops and starts, depending on how freaked he is, or how frustrated I am with the lies.

would you do it again = : Ask me in a year.

never done this before =: No. I know he's been divorced twice because he can't stay faithful. Unfortunately, we have the common connection of compulsive sexual behavior. I could never tae him to meet my family anyway, but its annoying to be so restricted on when I can and cant see him. He claims he loves her, but that I provide him experiences he's always dreamed of. Neither of us seems to be ble to walk away, no matter how much we drive each other crazy. Its a big mess.

did he have any kids =: He has 2 with his ex wife (who, technically is stll his wife...)plus her older son. His fiancee has a daughter, who he refers to as "our" daughter, but the rumor mill at work says shes not actually his. Hard to know.

did you know his wife before or gret to know her?: Never met her. Read her myspace blogs out of curiosity.

did you ever contact his wife = : haven't as of now, but I might...

spend a lot of money on you =: He doesn't really have any money, and i have family money. Hes bought dinner or little things, but not much.

what did he promise you =: orgasms and the excitement of messing around at work.

did you want to marry him or just have the affair =: He's so not a man I could introduce to my family. He has no money, no future and is very immature. But in the back of my mind, I guess there are feelings I don't want to admit.

are you still in contact with him = : yes

did you have an abortion or a child =: no

did you date others =: I wish I could.

what advice would you give someone who is considering an affair? = : Run away. Its not worth the frustration and the guilt.

what advice would you give a wife whose husband was having an affair =: Cheaters don't change. Especially without therapy.

why do you tnink men have affairs =: he and I bonded of common sexual addicton. Men cheat when they feel entitled to. It goes along with a self-centered and immature view of the world.did you ever feel guilty about what you were doing -: yes

where how often regularly =: work, almost daily at times. Sometimes we go a few weeks without talking but he always comes back.

did you tel did you tell friends or relatives =: My friends, a few of them. None of them judged me, but they hate to see me unhappy or frustrated.

what did you learn =: I think I am learning to admit that I am unble to control my compulsive sexual behavior, and have recently returned to therapy. I know I am not in control of myself around men, some men, and I have to make changes to find better men and better relationships.-------------------------------------------------------

Monday, July 6, 2009

"Michael Jackson, as I’ve noted earlier, was a Sun conjunct Pluto Virgo. Unless given almost shamanic-like life training, Sun Pluto individuals approach existence from an impetus that most of us can barely fathom. [emphasis added] And if we can’t understand it, imagine what it must be like for them to actually live it."

how did your relationship get started =: I was married and so was Javion. Javion pursued me for years, flirting constantly but not to outrageously, until I finally divorced. I was always attracted to him but did not give in until after I was separated from my husband.

how long did it last =: So far it has lasted 2 years 8 months.

how did it end =: It is close but has not ended yet

would you do it again = : Yes. I truly love him.

never done this before =: No, he never told me he had not been unfaithful. However, our relationship was a first for him...a long term relationship outside the marriage had not occured before.

did he have any kids =: At this time he has 2 kids 6 and 2. He does feel responsible and wants to be a present father for the kids.

did you know his wife before or gret to know her?: Yes I knew his wife.

did you ever contact his wife = : I have never given his wife any details about our relationship. And would not because that would hurt him.

spend a lot of money on you =: No. I was able to support myself. He bought me gifts, and helped me out in small amounts if I needed it, but I did the same for him.

what did he promise you =: That he loved me. That he didn't love her. That he wanted to be with me. That he wished he could leave, and if he ever did he would be with me.

did you want to marry him or just have the affair =: I wanted both, but I never pressed him to get divorced. He is still married.

are you still in contact with him = : Yes

did you have an abortion or a child =: No, but we tried.

did you date others =: Yes. In the beginning it was to cover up the affair. Later it has been to continue to live my life, and not let it be only about him.

what advice would you give someone who is considering an affair? = : Don't do it. It is full of pain and heartache. Find a single man who will fulfill your needs. He will never leave his wife.what advice would you give a wife whose husband was having an affair =: Don't take out all your anger on the other woman. She probably did not pursue your husband. Instead, consider that maybe if some of the things your husband is telling you sound a little far fetched and distant from the truth, they probably are. Men in this situation will usually say anything and blame everything on the other woman so they don't lose their wives.

why do you tnink men have affairs =: His marriage was missing excitement, love and a connection. We have a deep, strong bond that has always been there and remains to this day....so much so that both of us have tried to end it with the other, but we are simply unable to do so.did you ever feel guilty about what you were doing -: Yes constantly. I don't want to break up his family, even though I love him with all of my heart.

where how often regularly =: We met in various places around the town we lived in, my house, his house (1 time) motels, hotels. Anywhere we could see each other. For the first 2 years we met often, at least one or two times a week. It is long distance now and is more like one or two times a year.

did you tel did you tell friends or relatives =: I have told a few people. They have told me it will not end well. I am worth more. I need to find someone who can be with me.

what did you learn =: I began the relationship thinking that we could explore our mutual strong attraction for each other and have some fun. However, it turned out quickly that I realized the years of friendship and attraction had turned to love. It is really like playing with fire.

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Friday, July 3, 2009

One reason for so many deaths (including Michael Jackson's') is to look at the elipses. The most recent have been in Cancer and Capricorn, esoterically the way in to and out of life.

The July 7 eclipse foreshadowed MJ's death. Look at how it sits across his Midheaven and IC. Death is often predicted from preceding eclipse activity.

I find it more interesting to talk about MJ's death in terms of his abusive childhood and pataterns thaat brings up. His untimely death has stirred up my most vulnerable clients a they identify with the fragile hold MJ had on reality. I've recently become interested in spreading the word about Alice Miller's work on abused children. Her conclusion is that "the body never lies" and that abused children face years of agonizing health problems and breakdowns, even early death, because ... the body remembers everything. Unless and it's a big UNLESS there is intervention by an "enlightened witness" to the child's suffering at the time or later.

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Despite having Mars and Aries Rising in this rectified chart, MJ is extremely sensitive as his Sun and Moon are in the 6th and 12th houses, Virgo and Pisces. Saturn in the 8th indicates a strong possibility of sexual abuse probably a grandparent or older male relative, even an older brother.

Abused children become hypervigilant. Many are not safe anywhere least of all their own beds. Hypervigilance puts an extra strain on the nervous system that can lead to lifelong auto immune issues, bouts of CFS and fibromyalgia, to name a few high stress conditions.

Michael -- whatever else he was trying to do -- was always only trying to relax.

The role of the enlightened witness in keeping an abused child intact is so critical it cannot be overemphasized. This is NOT a traditional therapist but someone with special training and qualities. Learn more ....

If you suffered as a child and continue to have physical conditions with a strong emotional ocmponent (multiple car accidents, adrenal fatigue agoraphobia ...), here's the best enlightened witness I could ever reommend. Kathleen Rick does this type of healing work via phone.

If you were abused as a child, my point is, it won't just "go away". You have to do something. It's never too late. If you have depression, fatigue or ongoing bouts of poor health, contact Kathleen Rick today. Please tell her Nancy sent you!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

how did your relationship get started =: He was my boss. We worked together for a couple of years. When it was 4 o'clock and I didn't want to start a new project, I'd go into his office and just start asking questions, chatting. We'd sit and talk for a long time. There was just a wonderful connection.

how long did it last =: After 25 years, we still have a relationship. It's been an on-off relationship.

how did it end =: On-going.

would you do it again = : Yes! He has been a unbelievable presence in my life. He's my mentor, has always believed in my abilities even when I didn't. No one, no one knows me as well as he does.

never done this before =: No.

did he have any kids =: Yes. He has kids. They were in elementary school. I think he's always felt an obligation to his family. He married young. They grew apart very early. But he feels a devotion to being there for them.

did you know his wife before or gret to know her?: Yes. Since I worked for him, I would talk to her on the phone, see her at parties.

spend a lot of money on you =: He paid my expenses to meet him in other cities. Wonderful meals, finest wines, great locations, fabulous hotels, spa treatments. It was always about pampering, feeling special. Small gifts here and there. Not many. He contributed to my rent for a bit in the beginning. I've always liked being independent. The relationship has always been on my terms.

what did he promise you =: He didn't make any promises for anything.

did you want to marry him or just have the affair =: Never asked him to divorce his wife. I knew he wouldn't.

are you still in contact with him = : Yes.

did you have an abortion or a child =: No. But he told me once, very recently, at one point he wondered what our children would've looked like.

did you date others =: Yes. But when I was in a serious relationship, whether married or in a long-term relationship, I would never sleep with him. And we didn't speak very often.what advice would you give someone who is considering an affair? = : You have to be very honest with yourself about the reality of the relationship. If he says he's going to leave his wife for you, that's fine. But don't bank on it. Continue with your own life. Don't put anything on hold for him.

what advice would you give a wife whose husband was having an affair =: If he's done it once, he'll do it again. But if you really want to make it work, seek counseling. And don't let him back in until he agrees to it. Otherwise, you won't really know the truth why it happened. But it's something deep seated.

why do you tnink men have affairs =: My lover is very high powered. He has people wanting a piece of him no matter where he goes. Including his wife. When he's with me, he can talk to me about things he doesn't talk about with anyone else, including his wife. His true desires, his true feelings. He could never say that he wants to get away from it all. Nor could he really get away and leave it behind. He has such enormous responsibilities to his family, his company, his shareholders. He knows it's not possible right now. I'm his escape. For a night or two, I bring balance into his life and he brings balance into mine.

did you ever feel guilty about what you were doing -: Every now and then.

where how often regularly =: My apartment. Hotels. New York, DC, Puerto Rico, Europe. Well, when we worked together, we saw each other every day. We actually would be intimate once or twice a month. But now that we're in different states, it's random, whenever he has business here. But when I was married, we didn't have any contact. After my marriage ended, we reconnected. During a couple of long-term relationships that I had, we didn't have as much contact. We spoke periodically, met for dinner or drinks once or twice, but never had sex.

did you tel did you tell friends or relatives =: I've told a couple of my close friends. One of my sister-in-laws. They were very non-judgmental about it.

what did you learn =: This man was definitely meant to be in my life. I've never regretted. I don't like to use the term soulmate because that doesn't always have a good connotation. But we were together in this life for a reason. For him, I believe his marital relationship in this lifetime was about devotion and service to others but not his devotion to himself and his desires. I'm here to fill that void. For my lifetime, he opened up the world of wealth, knowledge and possibilities. An appreciation of the finer things in life. Not just material, but the simple beauty and intelligence in my surroundings and, most importantly, myself.------------------

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

From Dutch word "vrijbuiter" meaning "pirate". An attempt to block or delay Senate action on a bill or other matter by debating it at length, by offering numerous procedural motions, or by any other delaying or obstructive actions .

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Nancy R. Fenn is a professional astrologer, Tarot card reader, numerologist, Jungian and infp healer based in San Diego with an international clientele. She is a Saturn Return and family astrology expert. Nancy's gentle and powerful appearance in your life may bring transformation and deep healing. It is not by chance that you came here.