The Greatest Gift To Give To Yourself and Others...Freedom From Not Good Enough.

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I’ve been feeling this post brewing for a number of days now, inspired by a conversation between myself and a lovely friend, but I listened to my intuition telling me to wait before writing it. I waited until I had my session with my Theta Healer (look up Theta Healing if you are not familiar with this modality. Alongside Reiki it has made a profound and speedy difference to me in healing PTSD and issues around eating disorders). I wanted to see if anything else came through which I could transmit to readers of this post, any messages for people at large, along with learning and guidance for me which if I shared, might shine light on what readers may be feeling, particularly at this somewhat frenetically charged time of year. I was right to wait.

We humans are all fair game for the energies, conditioning and emotional and physical states of a well-known phrase….. “not good enough”. What reaction does that phrase trigger inside you? For me it’s; physical tension in my shoulders, churning and aching in my lower abdomen, a pain in my womb, increased heart beat, sweat on my back, migraine and the racing thoughts of anxiety, victimhood, acting out my fear and defensiveness towards others, particularly the person, place or thing which has triggered my NGE wound (not good enough wound). In the past, the triggering of NGE within me was so frequent that it wasn’t even like a deeply hidden scar, but more like I wore the NGE as a visible way of being and energy which manifested in addiction and self harm.

These behaviours are symptomatic of the trauma we carry from the first moment we ever felt NGE. Of course, not every person on the planet becomes a self-harming, anorexic drug addict, but we do all find ways to mask and numb our pain of NGE whether it’s being the best employee, the hardest worker, the most glamorous, the joker, the super rational one, the intellectual, the life and soul of the party, the helper, the one who has time for everyone (except ourselves). Until I fell into the arms of my healing journey (a journey which is endless) I had no idea of the pain I was living in as result of my ego latching on to the belief that I was NGE. NGE was sucking the life out of me and true to the words from A Course in Miracles my ego was “at best suspicious and at worst, vicious” reinforcing my belief that I was not only NGE, but the worst of the worst.

But what if this NGE is not really yours? It will definitely feel like your own brain is thinking those thoughts triggered by the NGE wound, because it is the ego in you reacting to a threat to its survival that it needs to be good enough. Good enough for what? For whom? Who made the measure for what is good enough anyway? It is conditioning that is hundreds of hundreds of years old. We inherit it from our ancestral lines, this belief that we are somehow lacking, somewhat defunct, not good enough. If we choose, we can inquire into this belief of NGE. This inquiry can be anything from gently and lovingly challenging it, asking is this belief/thought really true? All the way through to looking back into our ancestral lineage (with a healer and meditation) and see where this NGE began impacting our families, and at what point we inherited it as gospel truth. For it is not your truth. You can heal your ancestral line by choosing the truth that you are enough.

Your truth is that you are Divine Consciousness in human form on this three dimensional planet. You are a soul in a bodily container. In other words, and I feel this one really suits for me; on this planet, but not of it. There is nothing NGE about this.

On this gorgeous, sensory 3D planet where our souls can experience some of the most beautiful moments of life, we are at the same time born into a system of rules, regulations, comparisons, competitions, judgements, hierarchy, patriarchy, lack and fear. These systems are breaking down (which is very messy to see and a challenge to stay grounded through!) but it is the soul energies coming forward and breaking our NGE conditioning which can make space for us to live a heart governed life, instead of an ego driven one. Said another way, we can let our hearts drive and our ego do its thing if we really are in danger or need a quick reaction, instead of being in the judgement led NGE zone quite so much. We can combine our Divine truth with our 3D human experience for a more free and compassionate experience here on planet Earth.

So how would it be for you to live with less NGE? How would you like to feel? It is possible and you can have it.

The NGE got triggered in me this week as the ego got hooked into the conditioning of needing a ‘proper job’, needing money, feeling inferior to those on a consistent payroll, and that fact that I have no table and chairs in my flat for guests to sit at(!) Hilarious now, but it felt painful as I let it all come up, and come up it did. Up from the shadows for healing.

This Christmas time let your Self and soul feel the merriment and warmth of being enough. Bathe in it. It’s yours.

Hi!
I am one of the Psychologies magazine Ambassadors and I am so thrilled to be here writing on this blog.
I am a teacher, mindfulness practitioner, yogi, writer, Reiki healer, law of attraction lover and burlesque performer.
I am on a spiritual path and as part of this path I have recovered from anorexia, body dismorphia and sexual assault. I have recently begun my own Reiki Healing practice called Reiki Renge, based in South East London.
We all have the potential to alchemise our past into healing and power. I look forward to our journey together as we step into light.

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At school, one of my nick names was whitchy poo. My NGE has thrown me completely off course, to the point where I have walked out on the love of my life 2 long weeks ago, walked out on numerous good jobs in the last 6 months and have ended up thankfully with the support of a few loved ones, but my soul is broken. And it is all my own doing.

Your post just now has touched me deeply, as I sit cross legged at my laptop, in a room in a house share, 18 years after house sharing was OK with me, and I thank you.

My journey of self worth, love and understanding only started in earnest when I found this website, in the Spring I think.

For anyone else out there hurting and wondering where on earth it all went wrong, that is the lesser question, the real question is what shall I do now. Today. And what can I hope to do tomorrow. I have to write a list for tomorrow, as I have more than 3 things to do, and I feel that I can't cope.

I can. I write a list. I do my yoga, I give thanks that I have work to start and a roof over my head. I am grateful for my loved ones, but I put myself at the top of the Christmas tree this year....maybe not a fairy, but certainly not a witch, but first and finding my own way to happiness, looking towards the horizon.