Last night I went on my first ever "getting to know you date that's not really a date cause we're just getting ice cream after work" ...thingWe talked about school, music, video gamesIt was very pleasant.I spent the rest of the night with a cranberry red bull and a Budweiser taking tests *sleep* *wake up* taking more tests, and reading experience lists.

I'm an asexual fetishist

I find ideas sexy, but not actual peoplePorn is gross, but nsfw fan fiction is great

I thought if I went on a "date" with a person I had a crush on I would "get it"

I guess that falls into the "good news and bad news" category?As for "getting it", though; I know what you mean. I lost count of how many times I tried. It never worked, but I eventually decided that no experience is completely wasted. I learned something each time, even if it wasn't exactly what I had hoped for.

It sucks that you don't have anybody nearby that you can talk to. Asexual fetishists are not unheard of at all, in fact they might be quite common. It can be an awkward topic to bring up, and some people will flatly refuse to admit to it even in the face of abundant evidence, but my personal suspicion is that many asexuals are in varying degrees of denial about the causes of their asexuality.

I blame that mostly on the misguided notion that asexuals not only must have no sexual attraction to other people, but that they must have no sexual interest in anything at all, ever.

KAGU143 wrote:I guess that falls into the "good news and bad news" category?As for "getting it", though; I know what you mean. I lost count of how many times I tried. It never worked, but I eventually decided that no experience is completely wasted. I learned something each time, even if it wasn't exactly what I had hoped for.

It sucks that you don't have anybody nearby that you can talk to. Asexual fetishists are not unheard of at all, in fact they might be quite common. It can be an awkward topic to bring up, and some people will flatly refuse to admit to it even in the face of abundant evidence, but my personal suspicion is that many asexuals are in varying degrees of denial about the causes of their asexuality.

I blame that mostly on the misguided notion that asexuals not only must have no sexual attraction to other people, but that they must have no sexual interest in anything at all, ever.