Tamar also revealed that she has spoken to her new Nigerian boyfriend about her painful past. It seems that she never told her estranged husband, Vincent Herbert, about this.

The TV personality wrote: “Today Wendy asked me what happened at my sisters meeting and why did I walk out. Since someone there decided that they would ask me about something so private, so embarrassing, so secretive in front of EVERYONE that was there, I felt like my life was flashing before my eyes and IMMEDIATELY started to cry. Not because someone decided to allow someone else to tell MY SECRET, not because I was asked if it were True in front of a hundred strangers, but because once again my right to choose was taken from me all over again. I decided to Tell Wendy and the world MY secret, MYSELF that I have been a victim of abuse not once, twice, ten, but multiple times by multiple “family members” I’ve never told ANYONE other than Two people in my life, and they both have held this close to them.”

She went on to say: “One Being the man that I am with now and EVERY, SINGLE DAY he says I’m so beautiful and my scars make me even more attractive. I felt that because this has happened to me recently, that something HAD to be done about people who DID know and tried to make People embarrassed and ashamed about something that has happened to them!!! I never again want anyone to feel so little and so small or even ashamed about something they had no control over. I wanted to create a space where you can tell your OWN story without anyone commenting or making you feel ashamed EVER again!! Go to and tell your story and empower yourself starting today! I wanted you to know that no matter how many scars you have… you are the PRETTIEST 💕 I love you all so much noneedTBshame.com”

One fan showered Tamar with love by saying: “I love you for you Tamar. Thank you so much for being yourself. You ARE beautiful inside that’s why your outside has to do nothing much to show it. You have come a long way, and no one can fill your shoes but you.”