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Saturday, 12 December 2015

FOCUS ON ME

Happiness is probably one of the most important things in life, and as the years go by and you still haven't found that boyfriend that puts a smile on your face every morning, or you haven't got that friendship group that makes you feel 100% satisfied, you soon realise your happiness is down to no one else but you.

I recently decided to scrap searching for people and things to make me feel a little more fulfilled, now that I've got rid of that dependency I feel like I'm looking at the world from a whole new perspective. The risk with me being dependent on those things meant that I was allowing someone/something else to control my happiness - meaning I could lose it just as easily as I gained it. By going back to basics and starting small, I'm gradually beginning to build my own contentment. Forget the "When I own a Chanel bag I'll be happy" and "When that guy loves me back I'll feel content", and look at the things in your life that already do that. For me simply waking up, listening to a playlist filled with Beyonce during the morning commute, and eating some Reese's peanut butter cups is guaranteed to put a smile on my face. By taking back control of my own well-being, I've taken away the risk of someone else gambling with my happiness.

By committing to building your happy place, you take on the responsibility of ensuring nothing enters your life that destructs that. Obviously there's always little bumps and hiccups along the way that probably won't fill you with joy - that's life. But allowing certain things into your life that could sabotage your happiness goes against everything, love yourself enough to value the smile on your face, and try and ensure you do everything you can to keep you happy. At the end of the day, no one else can do that for you.