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Article #73 - Apr. 2016

“Resolving the Conflict between Your
Medical Practice and Your Home Life”

In clinical medical practice married
physicians are forced to
compromise their time and energy of
varying degrees
to maintain a reasonable balance
between their obligations
and responsibilities inherent to
their profession
and to their families.

The life style of work/home
balance is so limited to personal
conscious and subconscious
influences that the integration of
such a complex issue into your
professional lives often
becomes a task relegated to a time
after a tragedy has already
occurred.

It’s a tragedy that results
from the imbalance in the equation,
commonly ascribed to an increasing
distance between home
responsibilities and obligations
verses the intense desire
and need to reach your highest level
of competence, skills, and knowledge
in your profession… no matter what
it takes.

There is, however, a way to
look at the issue and to resolve it
for you if both participants
can conquer two primary issues…

The mutual depth of love and
commitment to the marital
relationship

The belief that the greatest
happiness comes with an
agreement
by both marital partners to
provide enough time and energy
to the relationship and the
profession to satisfy the both
of your needs.

The problem then is how to
accomplish it without a wrestling
match or worse. Either
you agree to change a few things
permanently or you get a divorce.

First, as a professional, you
need to make some tough decisions
about your relationship
with money, your medical career
objectives, and where you find your
greatest and enduring satisfaction.
Yes, you are the professional that
rides on the heavy end of the stick.

Second, you have been the
victim of the extensive subconscious
impact on your place in
the practice of medicine. Everything
fed to your mind during the medical
school years, and specialty training
after that, serves to brainwash you
into the need for maximizing your
capabilities. You reach a point when
nothing else matters… you have no
choice and you just
have to do it. That imbedded emotion
continues to persist from medical
school on into your medical practice
years… a time when earning money
drives you even more.

Third, your new professional
credo in the beginning becomes your
standard for your professional life
and your relationships with your
family. Is it easy to change? Hell
no. At this point you expect your
spouse and family to agree with your
thinking and actions and must go
along with it. Why would they
disagree when you are providing
everything for them that is
needed or wanted? Unfortunately,
your spouse will only take that for
so long… following you
into your goal-driven paradise… not
hers (or his).

You may be thinking that your
spouse must be happy having all the
advantages of a doctor breadwinner
and career social order, income,
upper middle class position, and the
social
position your spouse is raised up
into. At first, satisfaction with
the arrangement seems
important and contributes to the
welfare of both people. But it
doesn’t last longer than a
cigarette or bottle of tequila…
seems like.

For a spouse who also has a
real job and is earning money and
gaining the advantages of
their position both in the workplace
and home, the widening distance
issue starts immediately.

As a professional, you have
your fulfillment, satisfaction, joy
in what you do and is fed to
you in daily doses in your medical
practice mode, while your homie
spouse spends the day in relative
isolation working on chores without
a real paycheck… at least none that
he or she ever sees. Have you ever
considered becoming invisible and
following your spouse around for 12
hours a day in your absence, to see
what your spouse is really doing,
feeling, and confronting.
If you could do that, it might make
you somewhat more considerate of
their situation.

You may think you’re providing
the family with continued huge
benefits so there shouldn’t
be any complaints. Your spouse
doesn’t perceive your formidable
“benefits” as anything more than
normal life experiences showing up
now and then. It’s a different world
on the other side
of your dollar bill.

What you have now is, more
often than not, a complete lack of
communication in the areas
of personal wants and desires.
You may believe, “She already knows
me, what I’m trying to do
for the family, and why it’s
important.” The truth is that both
you and she are silently making
personal sequential adjustments to
your goals, desires, and, most
important of all, your expectations
of what your future will be like.

The verbal updating of the
changes that you both hold in your
own minds never seems to be
important enough at the time, so the
conversation never happens. Ask
yourself, when was the
last time you both sat down and
discussed what new issues are, or
will be, now starting to affect your
relationship? It’s so easy to avoid
a serious conversation and so hard
to bring up potential problems that
might cause friction.

Your wife will never admit, or
tell you, that she is unhappy. Why?
Because she’s supposed
to be happy in that environment
while you are at the office, so she
pretends… until the
frustration bubble eventually
bursts.

Some conclude that it would be
much better if medical professionals
never got married or
had families of their own. But we
all understand the innate nature we
were born with that invites
us into family relationships. Most
of us start out with a loving
marital relationship which over time
becomes a burden. No one has been
able to come up with a set of
guidelines for wives or husbands to
follow to maintain the work/life
balance. The strategies for doing so
are numerous.

There are some things that
professional husbands or wives have
to do for themselves… and
one of them is to actively keep the
family circle tight. Doctors usually
have a big advantage over their
spouse because you can fall back on
your medical practice for support,
validation, and self-esteem.
Housewives don’t or can't.

Now it’s time for a
calm level headed discussion with
your spouse…

First, you have to learn to
recognize the symptoms of an
impending clash with the home-boss.
Of course, you won’t be able to do
that unless you are looking for the
right signals. All medical
professionals at home should be
paying attention to one of many
leading tip-offs of pending trouble.
If you’ve already made the
unilateral decision to split, then
don’t continue to hang
around pretending to enjoy
home-life… get out. Otherwise the
torment and anguish within the
family will persist.

Pretending doesn’t last for
long. It becomes obvious to the
spouse simply by intuition… yes, you
just talk and act different. Body
language, even without opening
you’re your mouth, unveils your mood
and temperament.

Do you “know” when you are
irritating your spouse or even your
medical patients? Most doctors
recognize it happening. You also
quickly recognize when your spouse
is worried, irritated, and short
tempered.

Often both your spouse and you
are aware of a disintegrating
relationship, but both refuse to
bring up the problem for fear of the
many consequences that can occur as
a result… just better
to stay silent and pretend as long
as you can. And one day in the
future something, some words, some
event, some activity, some upheaval,
will trigger a cleansing of the
mind. Think of a mind that has been
heaping up piles of frustrations,
blame, torment, and anger just
waiting for the
trigger to explode.

It seems normal for people to
avoid the final clash as long as
they can because there is always the
possibility that things will
magically be rectified without a
battle. That thought can be the
thing that precipitates a
reconciliation or restoration of the
relationship. Nothing will change by
getting back together again unless
both agree to changes they have to
make, or at least work on over a
short trial period of time.

Second, by recognizing the
problems early enables time to face
them and intelligently work
out the solutions so both end up
happier and more satisfied with the
relationship. Your children often
recognize what’s going on sooner
than the adults. Prolonging the
agony and insecurity of your
children impacts their emotions
forever.

Third, your discussion with
your spouse must be only between you
two, isolated from interruptions,
and at a time when thoughts about
recent conflicts have dissipated.
Either person must make a decision,
not just intend to, to start the
conversation and choose the right
time
to do it.

The best approach to
the problem relationship between
doctor and spouse

Many couples contact their
minister or other religious leader
to use a counseling approach
that is framed around Biblical
admonitions. If both doctor and
spouse are strongly into their
religious beliefs there is a better
chance that a pastor can really help
them mediate
their differences.

The majority of professionals,
doctor or not, seem to have a
greater resistance to counseling and
counselors. Understandably, doctors
are quite adept at counseling their
patients which may create in their
minds the belief that they are just
as qualified as a pastor or other
outside person
to resolve their own issues. That’s
the way I
with my first wife
felt about our pastor's counsel.

I’m not an expert on this topic
but I believe that marital
counseling with individuals outside
the family only helps to persuade
the two people to look at the
positive possibilities available to
them. Then they can decide between
the two of them what to do about
their situation.

I also believe that religious
leaders are not qualified to counsel
professionals about marriage,
because their solutions are based on
their religious beliefs in one way
or another. During such highly
emotional and potentially explosive
sessions, the religious elements
being introduced
just seem to add fuel to the fire.

If one or both of the couple
being counseled are deeply
religious, then the introduction of
religious references only serves to
create even more self-induced
criticism, humiliation, depression,
and self-destructive thoughts…
contrary to the intended result of
counseling. Like, "I'm a complete
failure in the marriage relationship
and haven't had enough
self-discipline to approach my
spouse about resolving issues, so
better to just dump it all."

I’m not saying that a pastor’s
counseling is unproductive, only
that their limited span of knowledge
and experience outside of religion,
compromises their thinking and
advice. It’s no different than a
doctor counseling their patients,
because their solutions to their
patient’s
medical problems may not be what the
patient wants or needs. Just try to
talk a patient out of
not needing narcotics for treatment
of their pain.

In the case of a patient, the
consequence of losing the patient by
refusing to prescribe medication has
to be considered. And in this day
and age loss of a good but demanding
patient
hits at the core of a doctor's money
problems, might be self-destructive
motivation compared to your
obligation to serve your patients
the best you can. The same fear is
present in the marital situation
with comparable consequences. The
question that arises is, "Which
action is more important to me?"

Doctors are unlikely to discuss
their marital problems with their
peers. And if they do, the advice
they get is somewhat inappropriate
or twisted by their own poor marital
experiences.

Before I get to the meat of
this article… I want you to be aware
of a few of the facts from a recent
survey of “doctors vs. divorce.”

The study included a wide range
of health professionals. Physicians
had the
lowest divorce rate among all of the
medical care professionals. The
rates were
for dentists 24%, healthcare
executives 31%, nurses 33%,
pharmacists 23%,
lawyers 27% (for comparison), and
physicians 24%. The overall divorce
rate in
the USA has dropped over the last
two decades seems to indicate that
less of them
are getting married and are simply
living with their partners.

Considering that about 50% of
physicians in the U.S. are in
private medical practice today…
about 500,000 in number, leaves
125,000 that do get divorced.
That means about 125,000 practices
are essentially destroyed or
severely compromised, moved, or
sold. Additionally, the same numbers
of families
are disrupted.

Because so much of medical care
is reduced during those instances,
many in
the profession are looking for a
means to reduce the incidence of
divorce among health professionals.
No doubt those who are divorced are
wondering who was responsible for
causing the divorce and how the
divorce could have
been avoided if that was the
intention.

Good honest communication between
marital partners,
regardless of fear of consequences,
is by far the most satisfactory and
important factor in resolving
marital issues. Otherwise, the
relationship will always become
worse with time
and results will commonly be the
same as they would have been way
back then. The difference is that
the months and years of delay in
having that conversation
increasingly effects all aspects of
your medical practice.

That's because over time, your
irritation turns to frustration,
frustration turns to anger, anger
turns to abuse, and abuse turns to
actions that you will always regret.

Now back to the most successful
means for physicians to remain
married and maintain their families
while continuing to practice
medicine. Dr. Andy Stanley, well
known pastor, on You Tube, on TV,
Internet at
www.YourMove.is and highly
regarded in the business industry as
a motivational speaker and writer
lays it all out for you to use
effectively yourself. Rev. Robert
Morris also teaches about marriage
exclusively, on "DAYSTAR" channel on
Sunday TV.

Dr. Stanley calls the process
“Breathing Room.”

All medical professionals understand
that they will, for as long as they
practice medicine, primarily in
private medical practice, be
spending much more time with their
medical practice than a 9-5 job
requires. The problem is that their
medical professional duties may
require hours, days, and sometimes
weeks away from their families well
beyond the 40 hour work week.
Spouses need to be reminded about
that obligation to your profession,
should success be
your goal.

I believe strongly that before
marriage the non-physician spouse
must be made fully aware of what
disruptions will be occurring in the
marriage as a result of your
thankless job of trying to balance
your profession with your family
life. For most physicians that are
married early before the full gamut
of medical education has been
completed, sex, companionship, and
emotional needs usually obliterate
any attempt at being honest with
their spouse about the challenges he
or she will face later. Likely, most
wives have no idea about what may
happen later to their
marital relationship.

Resolution thoughts

The first question to ask is, “What
would be the ideal
situation/solution that would
prevent the increasing antagonism
and unhappiness between the two of
you?”

This
avoids starting out with a
list of mistakes, abuse, faults,
irritations, lack of concern for,
and neglect of the spouse.

Since the spouse is usually riding
on the high end of the stick and
more vulnerable, the doctor should
begin with the sentence above. It
opens doors and permits discussion
on the critical
things first. Most often the
critical issue is that you are not
spending enough time with the
family. In effect it says that you
have transferred all responsibility
for the family to her/spouse.

Most wives/spouses accept that
because they assume that you will
come back home and take back the
responsibilities at home… but you
never do. The promise to do better
never happens
and things don’t ever change.

When excuses, reasons, delays, and
promises to do better routinely
continue, then trust is
lost in the doctor by the spouse for
the relationship ever to get better.
This relationship will
then become irreparable.

Doctors love progress. When you get
home there is not much chance for
progress. Your
need to make more progress in your
practice and career eventually will
become out of your control… maybe so
automatic that you don’t recognize
it.

Your wife may ask you to come home
at 4 PM instead of 6 or 8 PM every
day. If you agree, then you are
giving up your emotion and drive to
do more in your practice. You then
have your own fear of what will
happen to your medical practice if
you actually trade office time for
home time. It becomes a big obstacle
for you. Your employees can handle
your office for short
periods of time and you know that’s
true.

As a physician there are two keys
that spouses require above all
others…

Be a husband to your wife (or
visa versa) in
real terms

Be a dad (or mom) to your kids,
something she (he) can’t do

Dr. Stanley’s advice is to trust God
completely to resolve your
absenteeism with your family. When
you do, then the elasticity of your
limits becomes compatible with
spending more time with your family.
If not God, then activate your due
diligence to your marital contract.

I believe that this is the same
magic or supernatural experience
that happens to those who
step out of their box or comfort
zone in spite of their skepticism.
This experience is something that
has been confirmed by
neuroscientists and brain function
researchers. Maxwell Maltz, MD,
discusses this concept in his book,
Psycho-Cybernetics, written
back in 1960. It has been read
by 30 million people and remains a
standard classic still applicable
today.

The experience goes like this…

When you finally decide to step out
of your comfort zone, vault over top
of all of your self-induced
limitations, and step into the mist
of entrepreneurism, something very
unexplainable happens to your mind.

Suddenly, you discover that new
ideas, thoughts, solutions, and
information flow into your mind
spontaneously. This has been
explained to be the result of the
subconscious mind being given the
order to search the memory banks of
the brain and pulling out any and
all information that might have to
do with resolving the issue that
pushed you our of your comfort zone
in the
first place.

This activity goes far beyond the
capacity of the conscious mind to
get access to.

Millions of people have confirmed
that it has happened to them. It’s
the factor that enables
entrepreneurs to accomplish more
than most can and do it much faster.
One just has to believe that it will
happen. Once you experience the
triggering power of stepping out of
your "self-limitations," belief
follows.

Comment

Most
physicians don’t seem to understand
where true happiness
originates. You may think that the
accomplishments you make in the
practice of medicine is what drives
your satisfaction, happiness, and
fulfillment. But your greatest and
enduring happiness originates in
your relationships with our
families. Medical practice can
disappear suddenly for many reasons,
but families continue on for a
lifetime.

Being successful in medical practice
and your career helps, but is prone
to be victim to destructive
governmental and societal changes
such as we are seeing today. A
loving
relationship with your wife/spouse
is perpetual and enduring regardless
of external
circumstances, quite opposite of a
medical practice.

Remember,
medical research scientists report
today that about 10% of the brain
function is allotted to conscious
thinking. The other 90% is managed
by the subconscious mind. The secret
about using the subconscious mind is
that it has to be "asked" to do its
part and may need a
trigger to make it happen.

"Professional Nudge"

Now,
if you add the number of sensory
intakes estimated to be around 5
billion per day, how can the
brain have enough room for all
these intakes daily?

That's where the
subconscious mind becomes
important, storing all the data
and images. And it's why the
subconscious mind
never sleeps.

Article
#73 - A

The
#1 Thing Holding You Back From
7-Figures

By:
Dan Kennedy on: October
31st, 2014

Personally, I’ve never liked it.

But I realized early on, it was
irrelevant whether I liked it or
not.

The question wasn’t, “Did I like
it?”

The real question was “How much
money did I want to make and how
much freedom did I want?”

Kind of like dieting and
exercise, the question isn’t “do
you like to exercise and eat
right?” No the real question is
do you like the alternative if
you don’t exercise and make the
right food choices?

So it’s important, although
again, not something I
particularly like.

What I’m about to tell you is a
transcendental factor in income.

And if you listen to what I say,
you could find yourself making a
lot more money across every
communication channel.

You see, for at least the past
30 years or so, I’ve been
teaching that the one thing that
usually gets people who are
earning below six-figures or a
low six-figures in any business
up into a high six-figures is
the quantum leap of shifting
from being the “doer” of your
thing to the “marketer” of your
thing.

That is still true.

Shifting from being a fitness
instructor to a marketer of
fitness training. Changing from
being a veterinarian to
marketing veterinarian care.

Switching from a photographer to
marketing photography services,
and so on, will carry you a
pretty good way.

I mean, most people locked into
relatively low incomes,
regardless of their level of
expertise or excellence that
they deliver, are stuck there
because their primary view of
their business is the doing of
the thing.

The cooking of the food, the
cracking of the bat, the fixing
of the tooth, the waxing of the
car, the styling of the hair,
the – whatever. And when you
shift out of that so that you’re
actually now in the marketing of
that thing, that’s a pretty good
income leap.

But truth be told, it has its
limits.

It’s NOT the thing that gets you
to a 7-figure income.

And it is questionable whether
it will give you the exact
freedom you are seeking. Because
although you are making more
money, you are also most likely
still working a lot of hours for
it.

Let me show you what making the
next shift can do.

I make 7-figures from
copywriting alone. That is only
partially the way I make money
though. I only spend 20% of my
time writing.

Imagine making that leap in your
business and only working at
your “thing” 20% of the time.
How would THAT change your life?

So here’s the thing you must do
to make the next quantum leap.

As I mentioned, personally it is
a thing I never really liked,
but I do it because the
alternative is worse. So this
really is pretty important.

You must shift from focusing on
being the “marketer of your
thing” to focusing on “the
status of the individual
providing the thing.”

Because even when you are the
marketer of your thing, the
focus is still on the thing, not
on the greatest possible point
of differentiation, which is the
status of the individual
providing the thing.

Increasingly all other options
for differentiation are becoming
harder and harder to use and
sustain. But one thing that will
always make you different is who
you are.

The easiest place to look for
examples of this is with
celebrities and professional
athletes.

There are professional football
players who make a good
six-figure income. They are
elite athletes who reach an
income level that many never
will. But, unless you are a
diehard fan, you likely wouldn’t
recognize their name even if
they offer big contributions to
the team.

As an example, NFL player Ryan
Taylor is probably a name you
aren’t familiar with. You
probably don’t even know what
team he plays for, but he makes
a solid 6-figure income and is
in his 4th year playing
professional football.

In comparison, Johnny Manziel
better known as Johnny Football
is in his rookie season. He has
less experience than Ryan
Taylor, yet Manziel makes $2
million a year not including
endorsement deals. You probably
also recognize the name Johnny
Manziel or at least have heard
the name Johnny Football even if
you aren’t a fan. .

The big difference is that
Manziel knows how to market his
personal brand. That, more than
his ability or experience, has
put money
in his pocket.

For instance earlier this year,
prior to knowing whether or not
Manziel would be a boom or a
bust in the NFL, Nike signed him
to the largest endorsement deal
from this year’s NFL rookie
class. It had nothing to do with
experience or even how well he
plays.

So if you want to join the
7-Figure club, then you’ll have
to get out of the business of
marketing your thing and get
into the business of marketing
you, even if you dislike doing
it as much as I do.

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