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How To Make Your Husband Happy

Last Updated: 11/17/2017

A happy husband is a man who feels loved by his wife in all ways possible. In the beginning of a marriage there is romance, intimacy and warmth, but over time these feelings sometimes dissipate. It then becomes essential for a wife to do her part to strengthen the marital bond and to send reassurances her husband’s way that he is special.

There are ways to keep your husband happy for many years of marriage. The happier he is, the happier you will both be.

Paying Attention to Hubby

Women talk about and express their feelings more than do men, but remember that men have feelings too. A man can go through a range of emotions from the start of the day to the end of a day. It is vital that a wife pays attention to her husband’s feelings and is sensitive to them. When there is an issue that needs to be discussed involving feelings, sit down and discuss it together.

Never discount the importance of physical closeness during these moments. There is no substitute for a kiss or a hug that communicates the message: I am in your corner.

Criticism and nagging do not make for a happy husband. It is not always easy to hold your tongue but learn to separate the small issues from the larger ones and let petty things go.

So maybe he never fills up the windshield washer fluid in the car when it is running low or he always leaves the newspaper open on the dining room table. These are not major problems. Refrain from nagging. In fact, nagging often causes the action to get worse, not better.

Keep in mind that you may do things that bother him too. Consider yourselves even in that regard and move on.

A happy husband is a man who knows his wife is proud of him. He knows this because his wife makes it a practice to tell him all of the time. But she knows not to go overboard and make the gesture seem phony. A simple, “Wow you are amazing!” can make a man glow with pride.

The wife who knows how to make her husband happy also knows that public acknowledgment is also important. She praises him when she is amongst family and friends and makes sure he knows it. A happy husband likes to have his ego stroked as often as possible.

Happy Sex Life, Happy Husband

To keep your husband happy and keep the zest and zing in your marriage, realize that sex is extremely important to men. Make sex a top priority and your hubby will be smiling from sun up to sun down.

This is an area where men and women often differ. Men need the rush of physical intimacy to feel emotionally connected to their wives.

A happy husband is one who is getting his needs met in the bedroom and who knows that he is satisfying his wife as well. For men sex is high on the list of priorities, and is analogous to the need for food.

It is not always easy for a wife to understand how her sex drive differs from her husband’s. She must make a concentrated effort to get inside his head and figure out where he is coming from in this regard.

Develop a flair for the unexpected and send surprises his way whenever you can. Send the kids to spend a night at their grandparent’s house and cook a special meal for him, but don’t tell him about it beforehand. Make it your secret surprise. Add some candles, wine and a little French maid’s outfit as you meet him at the front door. What husband would not welcome that kind of homecoming?

Leave him a note under his pillow, next to the coffee maker or on the seat of his car telling him how much you love and appreciate him. Forego using a pen and instead think outside the box—use your favorite lipstick! If he carries a briefcase to work, stuff a little note inside with your lipstick print and spritz your favorite perfume on it. He will be so focused on how happy a husband you make him that he will have a difficult time concentrating at the board meeting.

Surprise your husband with his favorite treat such as cupcakes with cream cheese frosting or brownies when he least expects it; this sends the message that you are in tune with what he likes.

Men appreciate being the focal point and love it when their wives know them well enough to care about the little touches that add specialness and “frosting” to life. A small gift from time to time just to show him how much you love and value him is always welcome. You are getting the point across that “I love you and our love is strong.”

Love Language

Show respect for your husband. Pay attention to the words you use when you speak to him and the intonation of the words. Perhaps you meant to say something pleasant but it came out in a sarcastic manner. Men are as attuned to the nuances of speech as women, so be aware of how you say things and be sure to apologize if you are in the wrong.

Likewise, be sure to let him know when he has offended you in a tactful way and build strong, open lines of communication.

Communication between the sexes is not always easy but bear in mind that women and men are more similar than different when it comes to how they feel. While they may communicate in dissimilar ways, it is vital to make an effort to find a happy medium and to work from there. Make sure you are both clear on what the other person is saying before you move on in the conversation. This is a key point when it comes to making joint decisions as a couple.

A happy husband is made happier when he does not feel as though he blends into the woodwork or is a fixture in the home.

Do what you can to show him that he is not an obligation to you, a routine or a pattern but that he is the love of your life, your life partner and that he matters, today, tomorrow and always. Use your special powers as a wife to make your husband shine. Bask in the love you share together. Laugh together, cry together and never stop doing funny, silly or outrageous things together.

Learn his love language at FiveLoveLanguages.com and use it whenever possible. All marriages need spice so heat it up the way the two of you do best!

Together time is important, but so is alone time. Give your husband his space when he needs it. When he goes out to the workshop to tinker around, don’t follow him in there but leave him be.

Wives need time to do their own woman things and husbands need the same consideration. When he wants to have a night out with the guys, don’t let insecurity get the best of you. Encourage him to do so. If he comes home a little tipsy, do not reprimand him like a child but be thankful that he had the sense to call a cab!

Where there is a happy husband there is to be found a happy wife. A couple that are happy together are able to transmit love back and forth, creating a ripple effect to other members of the family.

Happiness cannot be seen but it can certainly be felt and it can lead to a future that is rich in love and joy. Ask your husband if he is happy and the answer you receive could lead to a greater strengthening of your bond. Value the merits of happiness and let it guide the love you have for one another.

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