I'm traditional, I suppose. I am a "date only one person" kind of girl and right now, I'm in a straight relationship (though I am essentially a lesbian otherwise). I did have sex before marriage, though. But I lost my virginity to my (current) boyfriend and I don't ever plan on dating or having sex with anyone else. Well, except maybe the occasional girl in a three-way or just me and her.

That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it comes to intimacy and sex stuff, not that we eliminate people from our lives in general, just in those ways) we don't do what couples these days consider normal. He's respectful and happy to be. He's a "gentleman" and happy to be, monogamous and happy. Sex before marriage? Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol.

I would say I'm traditional in that I met someone, dated her through college before marrying (many years ago) and have remained faithful to her ever since. We probably do some untraditional things in the bedroom, but that's what keeps the relationship fun and alive all these years later.

"Traditional" means different things to different people. My husband and I certainly had sex before we were married, at one point we had an Open Relationship (which was then Closed when we got engaged)

But, we live a somewhat D/s relationship, with him as Alpha. We have a "traditional home life" I was home with kids (although I worked outside the home on an off, and now that the kids are older, I'm working outside the home again) we make many decisions together, but often he has more sway over the finances. We're monogamous, but have talked about playing with other couples (I kind of feel it isn't the greatest idea for us. My husband is more jealous than he lets on to.)

On the surface my partner and I have a very traditional looking relationship. We're married and have been together for a decade (since high school). That said, I'm trans identified, she's bi, and we've both explored sexually with others (with each other's blessing).

That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it
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That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it comes to intimacy and sex stuff, not that we eliminate people from our lives in general, just in those ways) we don't do what couples these days consider normal. He's respectful and happy to be. He's a "gentleman" and happy to be, monogamous and happy. Sex before marriage? Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol.

I have a bit of a probing question (and it's really only to make you think ) You said about pre-marital sex, Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol. Does that mean you ] consider your sexual life before marriage "wrong?" Did the two of you enjoy it? Did it strengthen your love? Are you glad you got to know each other's sexual needs before you actually took the plunge to a lifelong commitment? If so, then HOW could your premarital sex have been "wrong?" (As you said you did "everything else right." What constitutes "right" ?

Think about it. The two of you are in love. Making love is not wrong, whether you have that piece of paper or not.

I think the choice to make love before marriage was more "right" than you think it was.

That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it
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That's a little vague to me right now, but I guess I'm more what you'd consider traditional. That is, if you mean traditional as in monogamous and all. My partner and I ONLY involve each other in our relationship and sex lives (when it comes to intimacy and sex stuff, not that we eliminate people from our lives in general, just in those ways) we don't do what couples these days consider normal. He's respectful and happy to be. He's a "gentleman" and happy to be, monogamous and happy. Sex before marriage? Uh... well... OK we done everything else right so I think we can let that one slide. Lol.

traditional, for sure. I just feel most comfortable with monogamy and I currently want to wait till marriage to have sex, but I wouldn't be surprised if that changes in a few years.

I would've considered pre-maritial sex to be more deviant as a teenager, but I don't think our culture, even christians (as I know very few who are still virgins at this point) view sex in 20's and up as necessarily deviant.

How much you want to be the definition will change by the end of the week?

I probably am traditional - I tend to be fiercely monogamous and want exclusivity on his part as well. Although we don't have to be married for it. Perhaps wanting emotional intimacy is considered nontraditional now. *shrug*

In some sense of the word my relationship is traditional. We've talked about kids in the future but I've stated I want to be married before kids. But we are also swingers. So, we are both traditional and non-traditional.

I consider myself pretty traditional and old fashioned... mind you obviously there are certain aspects of my relationship that arent exactly traditional, like that we're not married yet but that we have a very active sex life... but other than probably that I'm very traditional... the only reason we do live together and all is that I KNOW were getting married, just not quite yet

I subscribe to whatever works between both parties in my relationships. I mean, I often date people of the same sex, and of course and I'm into some kinky things, but generally speaking, I feel a lot of the everyday aspects of dealing with relationships for even the most non-vanilla people tends to be "traditional" in the sense of being the same throughout the ages.

I'm queer, but my partner is a straight male, an alpha male gone liberal would be the best I could explain him, so we've queered our relationship in a way that makes it a bit different from typical straight ones. We seem really hetero and traditional but we discuss things like what we can do with other people in really flexible and open ways. I also am not sure I want to get married. I am really interested in something like a triad, as well. However, there are many ways that I'm traditional. I'm a feminine woman and I typically am attracted to butch, soft butch, gender queer, or trans* people with female parts and I prefer to be treated a certain way (brought flowers occasionally, etc) and that has translated into the relationship I'm in now also.

Traditional I suppose. Atleast in the sense that we're straight (well, he is) and monogamous. But we moved in together after a very short amount of time, still 8 years later engaged but not married, had a (planned) baby last year...so in that sense I guess we're not as we did everything "backwards" to what's traditional.

On the surface we look very traditional. I'm a stay at home mom living in a nice neighborhood. I'm married, which is the traditional thing to do.. but I date and play with others (both men and women) outside of my primary relationship and am into some serious kink.