The Hollywood version of divorce is, naturally, very dramatic. Blockbuster films like Kramer vs. Kramer, Mrs. Doubtfire and Changing Lanes present custody battles one might describe as knock-down, drag out fights. Many Hollywood stars bring the drama into their real lives, too: Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger, Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards, and Kelsey and Camille Grammer, just to name a few.

Divorcing parents often think, “My children are worth fighting for!” However, what is best for the children might be not fighting. No doubt this is easier said than done. Your soon-to-be ex knows how to push your buttons, already has a new partner or lets the children stay up late and eat chocolate cake for breakfast. But keep in mind that research shows children involved in high-conflict custody cases suffer psychological effects. Research from the Massachusetts General Hospital showed that 65% of children in contested custody battles experienced “clinical symptoms of anxiety,” including bedwetting, depression, aggression, and sleep issues.

By no means are we suggesting that you give up custody of your children in order to avoid conflict. Certainly, conflict is sometimes unavoidable. However, take a moment to weigh the pros and cons of a prolonged battle. Not letting a skirmish turn into a full-fledged war will benefit your children and save you a lot of heartache, not to mention stress.

Consider mediation, a less adversarial approach to divorce and custody issues that allows you to resolve issues through open communication and agreement. At the Law Offices of Mary Grace Condello, we make every effort to help you settle child custody issues out of court in so far as possible. Our experience has shown us that the best solutions for child custody issues are agreements parents reach outside the courtroom. In the event you are dealing with an uncompromising spouse, we are always prepared to fight for your rights in the courtroom. Call our Brooklyn Law Offices at (718) 758-5480 or toll free at (888)-970-6279 to arrange an appointment and find out how we can help you.