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enHow to Clash with Love: Some Conflict Resolution Basicshttp://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships/how_to_clash_with_love_some_conflict_resolution_basics
<div class="field field-name-field-introduction field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">A starter guide to managing and resolving interpersonal conflict. </div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="How to Clash with Love: Some Conflict Resolution Basics" id="md1" />Tue, 08 Aug 2017 15:20:35 +0000Sam W8560 at http://www.scarleteen.comI Beg Your Pardon? Dealing with Rude Nondisabledshttp://www.scarleteen.com/i_beg_your_pardon_dealing_with_rude_nondisableds
<div class="field field-name-field-page-intro field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Nondisabled people can be invasive, clueless, or rude at the best of times, but especially when it comes to sex. Fortunately, we have tips for dealing with them!</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="I Beg Your Pardon? Dealing with Rude Nondisableds" id="md2" />Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:49:59 +0000s.e. smith8471 at http://www.scarleteen.comWhen you really, really want something, how good are you at respecting limits and boundaries?http://www.scarleteen.com/node/6758
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<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Dylan19</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Consent (and other social conundrums) When Clubbing" id="md3" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I am a 19 year old guy and I have a question both about club etiquette and general advice. I have gone to nightclubs/pubs a few times with my friends and on the dance floor sometimes girls seem to stand very close to me and seem to be &quot;inviting me&quot; or waiting for me to make some kind of move (everyone tells me, and I suspect its true). Occasionally they even rub up against me with their bum and such. I usually try to escape or pretend it didn&#039;t happen because I just get TOO nervous. Later, I kick myself because half the time it&#039;s a girl I find attractive and would be interested in either getting to know or having some kind of frisky contact with on the dance floor. One of the things is I am terrified of moving badly or out of rhythm, of doing something awkward. My friends are all kinda fed up with me as I ask them about their encounters and seem to pass up any potential encounter I could have out of nerves or fear. They think I&#039;m kinda &#039;living through them&#039; by not doing anything myself. I&#039;m also wondering about consent. If a girl dances up to me and rubs against me, that shows interest but isn&#039;t 100% consent, so how can I put my arms around her or dance close to her but ask? It&#039;s hard to ask because of loud music, maybe running away as I do is the best option.</div></div></div>Tue, 10 Sep 2013 17:05:46 +0000Heather Corinna6720 at http://www.scarleteen.comAs a trans person, how can I navigate authentic gender expression and avoid the identity police?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/as_a_trans_person_how_can_i_navigate_authentic_gender_expression_and_avoid_the_identi
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">catpaw</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="As a trans person, how can I navigate authentic gender expression and avoid the identity police?" id="md4" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I&#039;m a 17 year old transmale and I&#039;ve identified as male for about 2 years now. I am 100% confident that I am a boy, but I am also fine having breasts and a vagina. I don&#039;t think of them as female. They&#039;re just my parts! I like wearing things like dresses and skirts as well and I enjoy makeup, none of these things make me less of a boy in my eyes. However, I fear that people will not take my identity seriously because of this. Even in the LGBTQ community, I feel like people will say I&#039;m not &quot;really trans.&quot; Dressing the way I want to really boosts my self-esteem (and I have struggled with horrible self esteem my whole life, so I really need it) but being called &quot;girl&quot; and &quot;she&quot; really hurts. I guess my question is, how do I deal with wanting to present a certain way but hating how it makes others perceive me? I will be going off to college in a few days as well, and I know that could be a time to show how I really want to be, but I&#039;m scared of how people will react or treat me.</div></div></div>Tue, 20 Aug 2013 22:23:48 +0000Mo Ranyart6706 at http://www.scarleteen.comI'm an introvert, but I want to start dating.http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/im_an_introvert_but_i_want_to_start_dating
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">firefly21</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="I&#039;m an introvert, but I want to start dating." id="md5" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I&#039;m 19 and I&#039;ve never even been kissed. No guy has ever shown any interest in me in that way. I am so tired of waiting. I feel like I&#039;m missing out on this huge part of life, like there&#039;s this line separating me. I think part of the reason might be that I don&#039;t go to parties and things like that. But I don&#039;t know what to do about that, I don&#039;t have many friends that are into that scene and the one friend who is, I don&#039;t want to go with because I would just end up standing awkwardly in the corner.
I&#039;m an introvert and I just don&#039;t know what to do. People see me as the cute innocent girl, but I don&#039;t think I could be any more interested in sex. I&#039;m constantly reading smutty romance novels and I love learning about sex. I feel like I&#039;m going to end up knowing too much considering I&#039;m a virgin or I&#039;m going to be freaked out because I&#039;ve waited too long.</div></div></div>Sun, 06 Jan 2013 18:25:24 +0000Robin Mandell5906 at http://www.scarleteen.comI liked masturbating, but then I felt really gross about it. What now?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_liked_masturbating_but_then_i_felt_really_gross_about_it_what_now
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Csherenow</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="I liked masturbating, but then I felt really gross about it. What now?" id="md6" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I&#039;m 13 years old. I&#039;ve had an interest in sex since I was 10. So when I heard about masturbation for women, I was all for it. When I tried it, it felt great. But afterwards, I felt sick to look at my self in the mirror. I was disgusted by what I had done. Whenever I went back to school, I felt like everyone knew what I had done. I know they don&#039;t, but it still feels like it. It felt so good, though! Should I try again or just give up for the time being?
</div></div></div>Fri, 22 Jun 2012 19:23:47 +0000Heather Corinna5293 at http://www.scarleteen.comI'm 14 and sure my boyfriend wants sex: but is now the right time?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/im_14_and_sure_my_boyfriend_wants_sex_but_is_now_the_right_time
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Hannah0035</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="I&#039;m 14 and sure my boyfriend wants sex: but is now the right time?" id="md7" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Hi I am 14 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months on the 20th... we&#039;re mostly all teenagers here and young adults and can tell that guys want more than just make-outs, hugs and kisses they want sex... I wouldn&#039;t have a problem having sex with him. I am pretty sure he is still a virgin by 99.9% and I am also still a virgin and was wondering when the best time it would be to have sex, where and I am nervous that I will mess up some how.... Help please??</div></div></div>Wed, 21 Sep 2011 17:32:33 +0000Heather Corinna4432 at http://www.scarleteen.comMale Bodies Vs. Female Bodies: Why Go There?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/male_bodies_vs_female_bodies_why_go_there
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">r89</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Male Bodies Vs. Female Bodies: Why Go There?" id="md8" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I don&#039;t mean to ask a silly question, but is there anything that makes being female good in terms of sex? It seems to me men have all the biological luck - they are aroused more easily, they orgasm more frequently, they can orgasm regularly from both oral/manipulative sex and intercourse, their is more square inches of erectile tissue to play around with, etc. I often listen to my guy friends talk, and lately it has been making me feel very inferior. Is there anything going for us?</div></div></div>Sun, 07 Aug 2011 18:14:44 +0000Heather Corinna4279 at http://www.scarleteen.comSp[ace] Exploration: What Sexual People Can Learn from Asexual Communitieshttp://www.scarleteen.com/article/politics/space_exploration_what_sexual_people_can_learn_from_asexual_communities
<div class="field field-name-field-introduction field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Asexuality saved my sex life. No, seriously -- I mean that. I will declare it from the middle of a courtroom, with one hand on Our Bodies, Ourselves. Asexuality, as much as sex-positive feminism and far more than any amount of &quot;hon, you just need to get laid already,&quot; helped me to access a confident, positive, and excited relationship with my sexual self.</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Sp[ace] Exploration: What Sexual People Can Learn from Asexual Communities" id="md9" />Thu, 14 Jul 2011 02:30:39 +0000Heather Corinna3871 at http://www.scarleteen.comLiving In a World of Prudes, Sluts and Nobodies At Allhttp://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2011/07/12/living_in_a_world_of_prudes_sluts_and_nobodies_at_all
<div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description"> <blockquote><p>In my experience it feels like there are two crowds, those who are 'cool' and have frequent <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sexual" title="About or relating in some way to sex or sexuality." class="lexicon-term">sexual</a> activity, hookups etc both in and out of relationships (or at least portray themselves as doing so) and those who are 'pure' who have decided at this point to abstain from <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sex" title="Different things people choose to do to actively express or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. The word sex also means a way people, animals or plants are classified based on their chromosomes, genitals or reproductive organs." class="lexicon-term">sex</a> until marriage, who are frequently Christian or otherwise religious. I think there's pressure to fit into one of those groups, either to go out and have lots of sex or to not have sex at all.</p></blockquote>
</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Living In a World of Prudes, Sluts and Nobodies At All" id="md10" /><div class="field field-name-taxonomy-vocabulary-3 field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/history">history</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sex">sex</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/teens">teens</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sexuality">sexuality</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/culture">culture</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/identity">identity</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/choices">choices</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/ethics">ethics</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/youth">youth</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/social">social</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/media">media</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sexual_politics">sexual politics</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/pressure">pressure</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/slut">slut</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/values">values</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/adolescence">adolescence</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/prude">prude</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/judgment">judgment</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/america">America</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/lgbtq">LGBTQ</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/young_people">young people</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/cultural">cultural</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/mores">mores</a></div></div></div>Tue, 12 Jul 2011 15:22:43 +0000Heather Corinna3862 at http://www.scarleteen.comSome basic gay-tiquettehttp://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/some_basic_gaytiquette
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Capturetheworld</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Some basic gay-tiquette" id="md11" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">My best friend just came out to me and I came out to him... now he wants to have sexual relations, what do I do?
It all happened a week ago. He told me he was bi, I told him that I am gay. After an awkward conversation he told me that he wanted to have sex with me minus an actual relationship and he told me that he prefers women but likes men as well. This is all troubling to me because I don&#039;t have any interest in him as a partner and telling me that he likes women is a big turn off. But the guy has never had a relationship with a man or woman. I kind of feel bad for him, he has had a lonely life. I have had several relationships both platonic and sexual. I would like to find a way to tell him that I am not his guy without hurting his feelings. We have been friends for 6 years now and the only reason why I haven&#039;t told him that I was gay before this point is because of his families very conservative views.
On a side note, What is the best way to tell girls who are infatuated with you that you are gay without offending them? For whatever reason, people have a hard time actually believing that I am gay. Thank you for your help!</div></div></div>Thu, 24 Mar 2011 16:38:26 +0000Heather Corinna3627 at http://www.scarleteen.comHow Do We Best Define Sex?http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2011/02/09/how_do_we_best_define_sex
<div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description"> <p>When we're quality <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sex" title="Different things people choose to do to actively express or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. The word sex also means a way people, animals or plants are classified based on their chromosomes, genitals or reproductive organs." class="lexicon-term">sex</a> educators; when we are or aim to be inclusive, forward-thinking and do sex education in ways that can or do serve diverse populations, we will tend to <strong><a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/whats_sex">define sex very broadly</a></strong>, far more so than people who don't work in sex education often tend to, even if and when their experiences with sex and sexuality have been broad. Often, the longer we work as sexuality educators, and the longer we also just live and experience our own <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sexual" title="About or relating in some way to sex or sexuality." class="lexicon-term">sexual</a> lives, the more expansive the definition becomes. If we live and/or work on the margins, like if we or people we serve are <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#queer" title="In the context of sexuality, a broad term for sexual orientation that can describe any number of orientations which are not heterosexual. People who identify as queer may be bisexual or pansexual, gay or lesbian, questioning, asexual or more. " class="lexicon-term">queer</a>, <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#gender" title="Characteristics that are seen or presented as distinguishing between male and female. Gender may or may not include assigned or chosen: sex, social roles, feelings, behaviors and/or presentation or appearance.
" class="lexicon-term">gender</a>-variant, culturally diverse, have disabilities, the diversity in our definitions of what sex can be will become even greater.</p>
</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="How Do We Best Define Sex?" id="md12" /><div class="field field-name-taxonomy-vocabulary-3 field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/relationships">relationships</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sex">sex</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/communication">communication</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sexuality">sexuality</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/sex_education">sex education</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/culture">culture</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/identity">identity</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/ethics">ethics</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/language">language</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/social">social</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/work">work</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/diversity">diversity</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/privacy">privacy</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/fear">fear</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/inclusion">inclusion</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/terms">terms</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/opinions">opinions</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/consequences">consequences</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/ideas">ideas</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/words">words</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/lgbt">lgbt</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/people">people</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/agreements">agreements</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/cultural">cultural</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/views">views</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sex_educators">sex educators</a></div></div></div>Wed, 09 Feb 2011 19:02:24 +0000Heather Corinna3569 at http://www.scarleteen.comI'm her one and only...and I don't think that's a good thing.http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/im_her_one_and_onlyand_i_dont_think_thats_a_good_thing
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">somethingeasytoremember</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="I&#039;m her one and only...and I don&#039;t think that&#039;s a good thing." id="md13" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">My friend wants to be in a relationship with me, but I am afraid to because I am her only means of support (that&#039;s not me being full of myself, she&#039;s actually said that) and if things were to turn sour I have two parents and countless friends and trusted adults whom I have no problems talking to, whereas she would have no one to talk to, me being her only confidant, and she can&#039;t very well talk to me about me, can she?
She&#039;s just so shy and not good with people and she and her parents are not exactly on good terms. I don&#039;t want to enter an unhealthy relationship! What should I do?</div></div></div>Sat, 07 Aug 2010 17:47:16 +0000Heather Corinna3175 at http://www.scarleteen.comSocietal and Familial Disapproval of an Age-Disparate Relationshiphttp://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/societal_and_familial_disapproval_of_an_agedisparate_relationship
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">ccangl</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Societal and Familial Disapproval of an Age-Disparate Relationship" id="md14" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I&#039;m 21 years old and my boyfriend is 52. The age difference does not matter to me or to him but it bothers me that our families do not approve of the relationship. We love each other and even want to get married. Our sex life is great, we are on the same level spiritually and have lot in common. I just need some advice dealing with peoples&#039; reactions to our relationship (family, friends and even strangers!). As far as family goes, his family does not tolerate me, they think I have some kind of conspiracy to hurt him. They think I&#039;m going to use him and break his heart, they cannot believe that I truly love him. My family (especially my mom) is more understanding, he spends time at my house, etc. My biggest concern is that we will not be able to be happy (if we get married) because people disapprove of our relationship. I&#039;m used to people looking at us and wondering if we&#039;re a couple or not but it bothers me when they try to make us feel bad by giving us the &quot;look.&quot; How can we tell people to get off our backs about our relationship without being rude? Thanks for your help.</div></div></div>Sun, 19 Apr 2009 20:41:16 +0000Lena2461 at http://www.scarleteen.com