That’s common for women of all sizes. I hear thin girls complain that they are too fat all the time and that loosing 5 pounds is the magic man magnet. But you are right, it’s just sad. I have told many BBWs who fat-shame themselves, that they are beautiful. They just think I am being nice. If I press further, they seem puzzled. Which ends up being a huge turn off. What I really want to say is “You look how you look, now shut up and own it! There are guys out there you would drive crazy with your looks.”