tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911917248033923490.post1207668576836260604..comments2017-04-08T06:33:57.903-05:00Comments on Not Living on Ramen: Financial talks with my fiance are making me nervous.E.C.http://www.blogger.com/profile/05595667311126848588noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911917248033923490.post-69673079652008907862011-05-08T13:37:18.631-05:002011-05-08T13:37:18.631-05:00Possibly irrelevant question here: when did Boy mo...Possibly irrelevant question here: when did Boy morph from boyfriend to fiance? Was that just kind of a natural progression or is it just an accepted thing? <br /><br />And I get what you&#39;re saying about the baby thing. In your shoes, I couldn&#39;t really help planning it like that either. Heck, I HAVE been evaluating it like that and I&#39;m not even in academia. Just in the context of the difficulties of our financial lives, it simply hasn&#39;t been possible to add yet another dependent and take my wages out of the equation. <br /><br />It is good to keep talking about it since Boy&#39;s timetable is a bit different to yours, though, otherwise he&#39;s going to be even more frustrated about the mismatch in desires.Revanchehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07293868300535734672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911917248033923490.post-5573343251390291862011-04-22T13:54:38.938-05:002011-04-22T13:54:38.938-05:00My sister is 25, has 3 kids (6, 3, 15 months), jus...My sister is 25, has 3 kids (6, 3, 15 months), just graduated with her masters at a very competitive college, and is going on to get her phd at the ivy league school of her choice. This summer she has an internship with the government that will put her on the road to being a high level employee. This year she&#39;s being extra frugal because she&#39;s going to buy a house. You just have to make it work. If you are determined enough, it will work. Financial planning is smart but you shouldn&#39;t put aside something you really want because tomorrow isn&#39;t promised to even the most dedicated planners. Keep working hard! Good Luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911917248033923490.post-20675823685087515052011-04-12T17:09:07.994-05:002011-04-12T17:09:07.994-05:00Mary Sue,
I know, I know, plans can and will chang...Mary Sue,<br />I know, I know, plans can and will change a lot over the coming decade, but I&#39;m something of an obsessive planner so I at least want to have some sort of target in mind, even if it is constantly shifting. <br /><br />Plus, the Boy has made it pretty clear he wants kids soon; pretty much he&#39;d be happy with a baby tomorrow even though he respects my timetables and focus on my career so when we talk about saving for medium term goals, babies are kinda going to have to come up.E.C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05595667311126848588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8911917248033923490.post-22695564190563957742011-04-12T17:00:57.836-05:002011-04-12T17:00:57.836-05:00Planning a baby that far in advance is insane, you...Planning a baby that far in advance is insane, you know. <br /><br />I suggest (and I&#39;ve suggested this to a couple of tenure-track women I know) that you keep your focus on your education and building savings, and during your annual review in the summer, look at yourself and your life and what&#39;s coming up in the next 12 months and ask yourself, &quot;Is now the time?&quot;<br /><br />If the answer is, &quot;No,&quot; then move on. In 12 months, revisit the question. With the wacky, wooly, wildly shifting world of academia, life decisions such as planning for babies or house purchases really shouldn&#39;t be specified more than 12 months in advance.Mary Suehttp://eatdrinkandbemarysue.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com