fabulous wrote:i don't really like marriage. but i love to live my love one. i dislike having wedding dinner. it costs very high up 10,000. however it is a tradition. :P

Yes. Weddings are very expensive nowadays!!! There are two important things in the event: The Bride's wedding dress and the party for the guests that include good music, a lot of FOOD and etc, ( ...) at the end of all, the couple is already moneyless, lol... well, at least in Venezuela is like that!!!! Without taking into account that you wear the dress only once :?

Absolutely! The dress looks like a queen's one for the crowning... airy underskirts, litres of champagne, and this queer tradition to be celebrating for 2 or 3 days, when the justmarried are already blue-lipped (because of kissing in public to substaniate the reason for the guests to swig off a glass ot two) and black-eyed and tired... I want my wedding to be small and cosy and just for my close ones

(((Edu))) wrote:Marryment is more than love. Love is wonderful but nobody lives just in love. Before to get marry with someone, think in a person who you really like to talk, to walk together and to do seemed things.

I'm married. It's very important to me have a family and to build a true home. But pay attention, young people "that's tough to keep a relationship".

Great, Edu! How long have you been married? I'm asking as you sound like you've spent not less than ten years in marriage!
Probably you mess up "love" with "passion", as enjoying time together as you say walking and talking is a part of love as I see it.

I'm sure everyone needs to get married sooner or later, just remember about a glass of water from your family on one's deathbed but no one is thirsty though

oh...... I'm 24....this topic is just for me!!! bc the marriage is hottest theme for me.... this April I'm going to marry!!!!! time has come :) so many people around me say I'm still young for being married...even my relatives my friends my colleagues...I didn't find any support.... but.... I don't care...

komar wrote:oh...... I'm 24....this topic is just for me!!! bc the marriage is hottest theme for me.... this April I'm going to marry!!!!! time has come :) so many people around me say I'm still young for being married...even my relatives my friends my colleagues...I didn't find any support.... but.... I don't care...

sure why not :) but where is she >> kidin'
I feel like I gotta get married after I secure job, have enough money , And find the girl of my dreams. I don't know but I feel it's gonna be a while after I graduate and before I get married. Not an easy business in here

BenM wrote:sure why not :) but where is she >> kidin'
I feel like I gotta get married after I secure job, have enough money , And find the girl of my dreams. I don't know but I feel it's gonna be a while after I graduate and before I get married. Not an easy business in here

I'm wondering, why do you guys always have to work out a fortune before you lead a girl to the altar. I've always thought that working hard both of the spouses, earning money for hiring a flat, than buying a detached house - all these make you closer, I mean gaining your wealth together, getting experienced. at the end of life you will say that you walked it all through hand in hand, through thick and thin

This post is so funny.
Recently i was consdering this problem, although i am just nearly 20 years old .
but i met a boy ,i think i am falling love with him deeply.
But when i saw my own sister preparing for her marrige, i found it is difficult to have an "full house",it needs some important conditions.
The statistics show that the young people in China ,espicially in some developed city, the expense of that is between 30.000 to 70.000 RMB.
hehe ,that is the fact....

BenM wrote:sure why not :) but where is she >> kidin'
I feel like I gotta get married after I secure job, have enough money , And find the girl of my dreams. I don't know but I feel it's gonna be a while after I graduate and before I get married. Not an easy business in here

I'm wondering, why do you guys always have to work out a fortune before you lead a girl to the altar. I've always thought that working hard both of the spouses, earning money for hiring a flat, than buying a detached house - all these make you closer, I mean gaining your wealth together, getting experienced. at the end of life you will say that you walked it all through hand in hand, through thick and thin

this is just exactly what I'm talking about :) the same feeling!!!!!!!!!!!!

First, I would like to achieve all my dreams …. Graduate, find good job,travel around the world, maybe I want to be famous and lastly living in peace without any responsibility,,,

After that I might think about marriage!!

I so know what you mean. For me marriage is such an advanced state of life that in order to achieve it, you should provide yourself with such stuff like job, house, career and so on. It's important to be know that marriage means a new family, new home and also raising children. I guess without having a successful career it would be hard to buy a home and make a living especially with kids. Now my two friends are getting married. Both are 23(they're studying) and they're sure they're doing the right thing. I'm not saying they're not but if it was me, I just couldn't get married if I knew that I had no job to get money to buy a home with my future husband. I think settling down is good if we have means to do it. Marriages shouldn't be happening in a rush. I think that I still have to achieve some things before I get married, at least that' how I picture it.

illusion wrote:
I so know what you mean. For me marriage is such an advanced state of life that in order to achieve it, you should provide yourself with such stuff like job, house, career and so on. It's important to be know that marriage means a new family, new home and also raising children. I guess without having a successful career it would be hard to buy a home and make a living especially with kids. Now my two friends are getting married. Both are 23(they're studying) and they're sure they're doing the right thing. I'm not saying they're not but if it was me, I just couldn't get married if I knew that I had no job to get money to buy a home with my future husband. I think settling down is good if we have means to do it. Marriages shouldn't be happening in a rush. I think that I still have to achieve some things before I get married, at least that' how I picture it.

Exactly! I think so too. That's why I waited for so long (at last it seems long to me) after getting my degree. I'm not getting married yet, though, just moving in together (for now). We both wanted to have a stable job before doing anything. We realize living on our own is no piece of cake, especially when it comes to economy.

I, too, have friends who are already married and even with children. I don't see the rush, honestly. We are young, and there are some things I want to achieve in life before I get married.

I do not think marry is a happy life. I really do not want. What I desire is a comfortable and free life.
After getting married, you will have a lot things to take care, and you will depend on your mate and children.What happen if you realize that your mate is not like you believe, you love, you expect...The would be many thing that make you feel tired, angry and sad.You may become cruel to them(include your mate and th kids). Just one more reason,I think there is extremely rare perfect person but what I want is a perfect one.

Dixie wrote:
I, too, have friends who are already married and even with children. I don't see the rush, honestly. We are young, and there are some things I want to achieve in life before I get married.

It's risky to have kids around that age although my mom had me when she was 30 and 36 when she gave birth to my brother. My aunt had my cousin when she was 44. There are some exceptions, yet in general, it's better to have kids when you're in your 20's. So why don't you make some for Christ's sake!!!

LennyeTran wrote:It's risky to have kids around that age although my mom had me when she was 30 and 36 when she gave birth to my brother. My aunt had my cousin when she was 44. There are some exceptions, yet in general, it's better to have kids when you're in your 20's. So why don't you make some for Christ's sake!!!

Well, here people normally have kids in their early 30s, since they both study and work and it's hard.

HIII!!!
WELL...... OOOOOOH I DON'T KNOW.
HERE IN COSTA RICA NOW A DAYS, ITS VERY DIFFICULT TO FIND SOMEONE TO WANT TO GET MARRIED, BECAUSE WE ARE FINDDING THAT ITS BETTER AND EASY WAY JUST GO AND LIVE WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE. SO IF YOU DON'T LIKE "THE REAL PERSON" AFTER MONTHS LIVING TOGUETHER YOU CAN LEAVE THE PERSON AND THATS IT. THE MAIN IDEA IS THAT YOU HAVE TO TRY BEFORE AND KNOW IF THAT RELATIONSHIP IS GOING TO WORK FINE..
OH MAYBE THATS WHAT I THINK!!! IT IS PROBABLY WHAT I GOING TO DO WHEN THAT DEEP QUESTION COMES TO ME.....HAHA

Marriage should be wonderful and romance only if you met someone in right time, right place n right person. Before all of this happen, I should study hard n get a great remuneration without depending on someone.

LennyeTran wrote:It's risky to have kids around that age although my mom had me when she was 30 and 36 when she gave birth to my brother. My aunt had my cousin when she was 44...

I was born when my Mama was 35. well I'm a bit crazy after all, but does it really count? I'm still nice and smart, aren't I? 8)

It's not also about the biological fact of being able to give birth or not; it's about seeing your children grow up and go through stages of life themselves. So if I was lucky to live over 80, I wouldn't mind to have kids in my 30's. This way I still get to see my kids and my grandkids. However, with my lifestyle I say I'd be lucky if I live pass 70. That's why I get quite jumpy to see myself pushing into 30's without anything happening yet. And they say the things people advise you to do are either something they can or cannot do; they project their own desires on you. Now you know why I keep asking people to get married and have kids before they reach 30.

LennyeTran wrote:It's risky to have kids around that age although my mom had me when she was 30 and 36 when she gave birth to my brother. My aunt had my cousin when she was 44...

My aunt gave birth to her first child at 40. She gave birth to her fourth child at 47 (at that age, most women already have menopause). All of her children are fine and healthy, but she took a great risk. I agree that the best time for a woman to have children is in her twenties. Down Syndrome for instance. As a woman gets older, the risk of her having a child with Down Syndrome increases.

HuahYu wrote:Marriage should be wonderful and romance only if you met someone in right time, right place n right person. Before all of this happen, I should study hard n get a great remuneration without depending on someone.

Thanks~

hi HuahYu
What do your comunity thinks about getting married? and When you should do it?
here is common to get married before 30 years old.

Well,frankly speaking,I haven't seen any successful marriages in my life yet The reasons about it are different,but the fact is people are not happy being married.As for me...I never gonna be married.And I can explain why - too much responsibility,too boring living with one and the same man all your life,too much pain if smth goes wrong.Hope you see my point

I think married with someone is very interesting. you try to agree with him/her it is a bit hard but if you and your husband or wife are percipient, it is not hard for you. love is big suprise in the world i think

I love to get married... I think by 25 you have to be married.. Common being truthful if everyone thinks of getting settled well in life and then get married,we wouldnt be here because our parents have got married in early ages when they were not settled but still they are happy and wealthy enough to support us all..so GET MARRIED GUYS AND GIRLS!!! Its the most relaxing solution for anyone!!

I want to ask that everybody you by youth's angle thought is how many years old? If by parents' angle? Can dispute which different causes because of the values? How if will have you to the peaceful settlement cause two sides both not to be injured

I hate this Qs looolz..coz whenever one reaches a certain age then HERE WE GO WITH "marriage allert" !! com'on there's no age of marriage! plus no one can decide wether he/she will get marry n( ... )age or not . no one knows! it's all about one's destiny & whenever Love knocks one's door ..I like single life bt I wouldn't mind f i found the one I love, even if i found this person at the age of 60 or sumthin :P so wt ?!

U got me wrong ,
I meant by " not all families " : not all families make thier daughters get married ... they rush them just to be marry as soon as they can ! , my family they are open mind ..I can make my own decision..."SO"

maybe at 25 If I feel ready at that time to take responsibility of marriage......and I will be happy with my decision

loooooolz..Actually I did get wt u've said but I meant in "future time" wether n 25 or earlier..I dunno ur age but I think u r still young for marriage..so I hope u find the perfect one 4 u whenever u get ready for it..

My husband and I dedided not make a big, expensive event out of the wedding.

We told our parents that we weren't at home the next week because we are going on holiday. What they didn't know was that we were on a trip to the U.S., having it's height in the wedding.
I know that money isn't important concernig a wedding but it was about 6000 Euro not 10000 or more.

At first our families were a little bit dissapointed because they wern't invited, but they finally were all happy with us. They all liked our photos and stories.

Some people say a marriage changes everything, but I think that's nonsense. Maybe it was that way in the earlier days.
Our marrige didn't change anything in our lives, except my last name.

I believe that if you really love each other a marriage can last forever.

I'm not agree coz,there isn't a real friendship between girl and guy...there is a feeling between them to each other
so,I have a friend but, I don't believe that there feelings to me like my feelings to them !!!
guys are thinking in other hand which girls are doing

Once upon a time a Goddess came down to the earth. He would be my wife. She stumbled into a little worm and that worm was transformed in myself. As I am right now: a human being. She is even a Goddess.

ArnauEstanyol wrote:I'm married. With two children. What can I say about my wife?.

Once upon a time a Goddess came down to the earth. He would be my wife. She stumbled into a little worm and that worm was transformed in myself. As I am right now: a human being. She is even a Goddess.

I am quite pessimistic about marriage, nowadays. My cousin, who's almost the same age with me, divorced after a month. That evil girl had cheated with other guy, her ex-bf. I restrain myself to describe her...Simply a prostitute to me. . Excuse me.

It's clear, all depend on self experience. In my case is good, but I know many people who have had a very bad experience. For example my sister-in-law: She's near two years ago divorced. Their marriage was a total failure. I think all depends of the characters compatibility and flexibility. In marriage sometimes all depends to give down in some situations and take up in another ones. If one of the two always think on itself and never gives up, the situation will go in tension.
Well, experience is the key to understand and specially the true love one another.
That's my opinion and my own experience.

marriage is a circumstances when a couple can unite the different thoughts.. start new life.
this good topic when people want to plan to marry. I plan to marry this year actually. I want a simple moment of my marriage..
what's your marriage will be?

Marriage as a religious ceremony doesn't matter for me. Somebody can choose other kind of ceremony or not and live together with someone without marriage. All it depends to the couple. What I want say is that the most important for me is the freedom to choose and live as we want to live.

Why?
Do you feel that you are unattractive? Do you have any serious problem?
in my opinion every man or woman except who is psychosis or some rare problem, can be worthy to get marriage.
Think positive and be strong.