Getting a girl to the point where she’s willing to have sex with you isn’tthat difficult if you know what you’re doing. It doesn’t matter what your track record for getting women in the bed with you was in the past.

It doesn’t even matter what kind of house you live in, what kind of car you drive or what kind of job that you have. The reason that most men struggle to get women to put out is because these men just don’t know what they’re doing.

In fact, they’re probably making mistakes right now that are continually driving women away from them. You need to use a system like what’s taught in Magnetic Messaging so that you can reel hot chicks in and have success time after time.

Let’s take a look at how you might be sabotaging yourself when it comes to meeting women – and some corrective measures you can take to increase your odds.

The Attraction Lie

One of the biggest lies that men keep on falling for is the lie that to sleep with a girl, there must be some kind of attraction on the woman’s part. This is a belief that will keep you from getting sex from the woman that you want to have it with.

If you believe that there has to be an attraction on her part, this will keep you from getting women to say yes – even when you’re just asking her out on a date. It will keep you from getting to kiss or touch her and it will certainly keep you out of her bed.

These lies that keep men from getting laid can be pretty persuasive, so if you’ve believed them, don’t feel bad. Just don’t keep on believing them. Instead, do something about it right now.

One of these lies teaches that there are no gray areas when it comes to attraction. This isn’t true. When you’re interacting with a woman, it’s not simply a matter of she likes you or she doesn’t like you.

It’s also not a matter of she’s interested in what you’re saying and that in turn leads to her being interested in going all the way with you. And believe it or not, attraction has nothing to do with her being open to the idea of sleeping with you.

It doesn’t even have anything to do with whether she’ll even be willing to give you the time of day or not. Attraction can be taken completely off the table. So if you’ve met a hot girl in the past and she blew you off, you might have thought that she just wasn’t interested because she wasn’t attracted to you.

If that’s been your thought process before, you need to back up a minute. Don’t for one second think that her brush off has anything at all to do with you. That’s all on her.

Getting a woman to sleep with you is a matter of what she’s thinking and it’s not a matter of her feeling attracted to you. Unlike a man, a woman changes her mind quickly and without a lot of dwelling on it. That’s because her emotions rule, whereas a man’s logic rules.

Women are more easily persuaded by what a man says than a man is by what a woman says. That, my friend, is your key to getting into her good places. You can use a technique that teaches you how to get her to sleep with you just because you know how to use the right words.

Now, hang on a second. This is not about some canned line that you can feed her. Trust me, women see right through that bull. This is about you learning how the female psych works enough so that you know how to leverage it to get what you want.

If that sounds sneaky, it’s not. Women don’t always know that you’re the right guy based on communication alone. That’s because a lot of guys just don’t know how to talk to a woman in a way that makes her hot for him.

The Phone Number Game

It happens time after time. You’re out at the bar with your buddies and across the room, you spot a knockout hot chick. You know that you want to end up in that woman’s bed, but you’ve also learned enough to know it’s not only stupid, but downright creepy to walk up to her and tell her you’d like to sleep with her.

That’s moving way too fast for a woman. So, you have to follow a few unspoken dating rules. Topping off these rules is that when you want to get to know a woman – even if to you that purpose is just to get into her bed – you have to ask her for her phone number.

Most women will gladly scribble down their number on a napkin or write it down for you and hand it over. This is where it can get really confusing for a guy. Hey, she gave you her number.

Score for you, right? With your ego swelling up a bit, you show your buddies that the hot chick gave you her number. Now here comes the confusing part. Just because she gave you her number doesn’t mean a thing when it comes to you getting laid.

That’s not how it works. You might be one of the guys who got a woman’s number and she even suggested that you call her. Surely that means you’re in, right?

Wrong. Don’t take that to heart either. You might have even gotten past that first phone call to an actual date. You had a nice dinner, took in a movie, had some lively conversation and got to kiss her goodnight.

When you think about how that went, you just know that she’s a sure thing and that if you play your cards right, she’s going to end up putting out for you. If you think that, you’re going to be in for a rude surprise.

Remember how quickly a woman’s mind can change? How she’s led by her emotions? Guys, that means that just because you got a foot in the door, it doesn’t mean you’re going to get to keep it there.

That door can and has slammed in the face of many a man. You might be scratching your head, wondering what went wrong, what more you could have done.

Well, there is more that you can do like what’s taught in Magnetic Messaging but what you need to know right now is that you have a shot to make what you want to happen occur.

The Emotional Chemistry Opportunity

When a woman gives you her phone number, she’s made the decision right there that she feels something. She might not even be able to completely define it. She just knows it’s there.

Now men, because of their logical brain, the one that they process every aspect of life with, including women, once we have that number, we plan our course of action which means conquer.

That’s a man’s natural drive. With a woman, conquer means win her affection and get into her bed. Some guys plan what they’re going to say, what avenue they’ll take to get her to give it up.

It’s their battle plan. Other men just sort of wing it. Both can backfire without any warning at all. Because while men are busy planning or not planning, what she felt for the man at that first interaction is dissipating faster than dew on grass after the sun rises.

This is because although a woman does have a slow meter when it comes to getting it in gear for sex, they don’t when it comes to beginning an interaction with a guy.

When she first meets a guy, that slow motor changes. It’s now revved up and she’s ready to be amazed by you because this is her emotional brain guiding her reactions.

Like it or not, her emotional side hungers for the stuff that chick flicks all tout. She’s looking for that fairy tale experience. Something fantastic, wonderful, something so great that she can’t stop thinking about or talking about with her friends.

This is natural for a woman to feel this way. She wants Prince Charming and not Mr. Get-Me-Laid. When you don’t deliver that amazing feeling she’s looking for, something starts to happen inside a woman’s emotional chemistry.

She begins to think about that interaction she had with you. She figures, because she’s disappointed and her motor was running while yours was parked, that she was completely wrong about you and that’s all it was.

A mistake. So the next thing you know, she’s changed her mind. When she changes her mind, she’s decided that any more interaction will be as just friends. You will not get a date.

You will not get a kiss. You sure as hell won’t get laid. Because you really, really want to sleep with this hot, amazing woman, you start making the mistakes that put the nail in the coffin of that opportunity.

Textually Active – the Wrong Way

You want this woman, so when you feel that she’s closing the window, you think the smart thing to do is to text her. Keep the connection there and keep the hope alive and surely that’ll change her mind is how many men think.

The truth about messaging with a woman that you want to sleep with is that there’s a right and a wrong way to do it. The right way will get you into her life and into her bed.

In fact, it can change her mind about you even if she blew you off in the past. If you text her the wrong way, you could possibly end up as joke material making the rounds between her and her friends.

And you end up with that opportunity gone forever if you make the same messaging mistakes that a lot of men make. Let’s take a look at some of the wrong ways that a man can message a woman.

There’s the caveman approach. These are messages that make her feel like she’s been hit by a truck or she’s being chased by a tiger. If you come across as too forceful or too powerful, she’s going to shut you down.

This means that you have to keep your testosterone at bay when you’re texting her. So power down and do the messaging the right way – the way that will get you the girl that you want.

Don’t take it to the other extreme or you’ll come across as the guy who needs serious help. These guys text in an anxious, needy kind of way that makes her think that she’s dealing with an immature, overgrown kid rather than a man.

While a woman will always want to help a needy man because of her nurturing nature, you can bet that help doesn’t mean into her bed. Texting a woman is the one place that you want to stand out from the crowd, but in a good way.

You don’t want your texts to be interchangeable with the next guy’s and the only differences are your names. If you send text messages that are just like every other guy’s messages are, these will translate into boring with her and they don’t end up leaving an impression at all.

But you also don’t want to message her like you’re auditioning for a comedy club routine either. Trying to be funny and her not getting your sense of humor won’t give you any points with her.

It will make her confused – or worse – make her feel stupid or think that you’re stupid. So don’t try to be a comedian. You can have a sense of humor, but you have to make sure that she gets it.

How do you know if you’re blowing it with your texting? She’s answering your messages, but you haven’t gotten one single step closer to getting her into bed. You’re trying to take the next step, you’re suggesting meetings or drinks or dinner and she’s always got a reason why it’s not going to happen.

You’re getting the text brush off but you just haven’t realized it yet. The number one way that guy’s go wrong when texting a woman is that put themselves in family member status.

Or friend zone. They send messages that ask how things are going for her, what was her day at the office like, blah, blah. Sounds real sexy, doesn’t it? The problem is that you’re thinking how you’re showing interest and some affection and concern for her well-being.

Meanwhile, she’s either lumping you with her friends or family and she’s thinking about other things. You want to use your messaging as a seduction tool and systems like Magnetic Messaging can show you how to do this.

The Right Way to Message a Woman

If you’re thinking that it takes a volley of back and forth texts to get the woman that you want, you’re wrong. It takes three – and it really is that easy. But the kicker is you have to know what those three texts are.

You have to know how to send them and how to get her response. There’s a lot that you need to learn about women and this is one of the main things. They don’t want to read your little one-word responses or your short, cryptic text messages.

You communicate that way because you’re a guy and what’s wrong with keeping it simple? Nothing if you don’t want to get that hot girl to have sex with you, but because you do, you have to do the messaging the right way.

A guy’s normal response to a woman’s text is usually something like, “Okay” or “What?” or “Yeah, sure”. Lots of sexy stuff in that to make her hot for you. Not. You have to learn how to write things that make her burn for you.

And it all starts emotionally with her. You tap that and you really tap that. It only takes a few seconds to message her with, “I’ve been thinking about you” to open up a conversation that gets her ready to put out.

And it makes her think what a great, thoughtful guy that you are. It takes a little bit of learning to give a woman what she needs through messaging. But in the end, you get what you need so you’re the ultimate winner of the game.