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It may be the same reason that you never have much financial success, never transform your face/body into a package that girls ask to take pictures with, never experience fucking a 19 year old hottie with a dick undeniably too fat for her pussy, or may even explain why you don't really have much fun with your life.

We'll discuss that another time though.

It's not just your problem.

In hindsight, it was my biggest obstacle too.

It was something I struggled with and still do this day, although to a far far lesser degree.

It's the reason I was a "late bloomer", the Lonesome Bodybuilder, remarkably content for being in a perpetual state of mild depression.

We need to acknowledge the cause so you don't waste your 20s and 30s and wonder, "What Happened?"

At the very least, you'll know what to blame if life doesn't work out for you.

I wish I heard it in my 20's, I would probably have 5 years of my life back.

The Comfortable Life of the Undersexed Male (Why Most Guys Won't Get A Lot of Pussy)

So What Is The Problem?

As you sit in the comfort of your own home or apartmentreading this blog (and many others)enjoying the free conveniences that would be considered unattainable luxuries just 5 years agooften pondering your sexual past, reality and future...

It's time you are told the truth of why large amounts of pussy (via cold approach) will continue to evade you.

Regardless of your socio-economic class, with a few exceptions, if you were resourceful enough to explore far enough into the deep/creepy part of the Internet and find Good Looking Loser - I'm willing to bet that you live a fairly comfortable life, with an excess of conveniences/distractions that you regularly indulge in despite vowing to be productive.

Good Looking Loser, after all, is admittedly - a distraction from what you should be doing.

Your life is simply too comfortable for you to make the necessary physical and psychological changes to really make big time changes in your sex life. (let alone entire life)

Why stress yourself out when you can just jerk off to a girl hotter than anyone you could speak to?

Why test your self-esteem when you know it's fragile?

Why leave the house when staying home makes you feel like less of a loner?

For age 20 and 30-something men, 21st century mediocrity isn't particularly uncomfortable.

In fact - many secretly enjoy it.

Beating AA is like Beating AA(Beating Approach Anxiety is like Beating Alcoholic's Anonymous)

The people best equipped to deal with the coming storm - already have most of their shit together.

Yet, "cold approach" is most appealing with the most fragile guys with the most problems.

They literally have no idea what the hell they just got themselves into and often "take a break" (give up) very quickly.

Mike aka "SquattingCasanova" (who I think is a really good role model, especially for Asian guys - I don't care if he talks "PUA") really understands this issue really well too.(fyi - SquattingCasanova is not "Mike Chang", the equivalent to human spam)

Some will return, only to dropout within the same window. I was guilty of this 2 times (7006, 2007).

I concur with his numbers - they are completely accurate.

That is one of the reasons our Approach Anxiety Program starts off with such laughably easy drills that I demand you DO NOT SKIP the first few weeks - you need to experience successful baby steps and moral victories if you have any chance at getting good at this stuff.

Otherwise, you'll just be another statistic.

Be prepared for numerous temptations to stop or postpone talking to the bare minimum of 20 women a week. There will always be a seemingly justifiable reason.

I don't know anyone like Scotty who left his house 7 years ago to pick up girls and only returned home to fuck them or eating some protein. Literally, I don't know anyone as devoted/crazy as that. He's an outlier, a .0000001% case that hit on 30+ women a week for 7 years straight.

So just listen to me on this - your first 90 days (and entire first year) is absolutely critical.

When I revamp/upgrade the Approach Anxiety Program, my goal is to get that 90% dropout number down to about 67%.

Perhaps wishful thinking though.

9 out of 10 guys aren't successful at anything in life and having sex with 20-30+ random women a year is a game only played by the top 1% of guys.

But 9 out of 10 guys aren't reading this blog post right now.

They are busy being comfortable.

Related: "Can Everyone Beat Approach Anxiety?"

So Why Mess With a Good Thing?

Back to my point.

Instinctually and logically, your mind tries to keep your life as stress and pain-free as possible. Frankly, your mind and body won't even want to go to the gym or healthfully exercise until you program it to.

To your brain, it makes no sense to face your demons when you can comfortably suppress them.

If you have the time to read Good Looking Loser - your life is pretty comfortable.

Even if you aren't overly privileged and often the source of most of your own anxiety, you probably live a comfortable life - provided that you don't live in some failed socialist utopia.

You might argue otherwise, citing your job that you don't love or a boring social life, but overall - you know your life is pretty comfortable.

There's plenty of entertainment and material consumption to keep you from hitting rock bottom which would otherwise really force you to be accountable for those hours that just seem to fly by.

You are just comfortable enough to do what ultimately amounts to nothing and be happy with your effort.

In fact, that's the story of most people's lives.

I believe that most people actually have a decent work ethic, but are lazy at the same time.

This paradoxical life-destroying blend ultimately destroys all their dreams, one by one.

That type of comfortable approach to life isn't going to cut it if you want to be on top (and reap the benefits). And It sure isn't going to transform your mind and body to where you will get regular hot pussy.

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Pour Conclure

Being scared and walking up to hot girls one-by-one (and thinking about it later) will sober you up to reality really quickly.

Every insecurity, issue or problem, past or present - will surface if you continue to proudly resist fear.

The Comfortable Life, perhaps even one that you've admirably earned, is the same reason you will never be anything but.

It won't be a lack of opportunity, a lack of work ethic and won't even be a lack talent that will kill most of your dreams - it's the highly comfortable, mediocre life that you are accustomed to.

- Me

In this case -

It won't be a lack of sex appeal, Social Freedom, Swag Factor or confidence that will prevent you from having all the sex that you want - it's the highly comfortable, mediocre life that you are accustomed to.

- Me again

Your life is comfortable.

You don't have to do anything heroic to survive.

And That's why you are stuck in this never-ending quagmire.

You get it now.

What To Do?

So now you know why most dreams don't come true.

And That's half the battle.

You have to be hungry and more importantly - stay hungry.

Try your best to embrace our concepts of "Nothing in Moderation", "By Any Means Necessary" and acquire an authentic disdain for the comfortable majority.

Although rare for newbies, perhaps the authentic masculine joy of getting good pussy is genuinely your #1 motivator.(eventually this will have to be if you are going to survive/get really good; pure validation only takes you so far)

It doesn't really matter.

If it motivates you, keeps you disciplined and ACCOUNTABLE - it's all good in my book.

If you aren't motivated to acquire endless streams of pussy and money by the time you are in your mid 30's (attainable, promise) - there's nothing that I can tell you that is going to convince you to really go after it.

Comments (126)

Comments (126)

thanks that was interesting , almost depressing so the solution is just to do stuff , put yourself out there huh ? i 'm starting to internalize this.
btw, first sentence typo erro : but / by,
and the youtube vid is not showing

True dat and well said!!! If we all gave up when things didn't go our way - I guess we wouldn't have this website to motivate most of us to keep going - Thanks Chris, keeping my motivation levels high as per norm.

I think most of us have to...

True dat and well said!!! If we all gave up when things didn't go our way - I guess we wouldn't have this website to motivate most of us to keep going - Thanks Chris, keeping my motivation levels high as per norm.

I think most of us have to stop worrying about what can go wrong and start considering what can go right. As my dad always said - face your fears until your fears excite you

So true man. This was me for a long time, so I'd like to share a more specific cause of motivation for change that I experienced.
What did it for me was suddenly finding myself hanging out with a friend who DID want more. And not some other guys...

So true man. This was me for a long time, so I'd like to share a more specific cause of motivation for change that I experienced.
What did it for me was suddenly finding myself hanging out with a friend who DID want more. And not some other guys who just reposts a bunch of "motivational" sayings on facebook. This guy was the full 9 yards. He's in a band, going to school for physics because the military is paying for it and he finds it interesting, modeling, and personal training off and on.
It took SEEING his life and his badgering of my content with mediocrity that made me take the first steps, and I haven't looked back. One of the 3 people from the military I still keep in touch with.
Good stuff chris as always.

Undersexed male post: Long posts
Hullow man,
I read today's post and remembered what I read a few months ago in some other forum. There is this research which was done on rats - called "Utopia". Well, it was the ideal paradise for the creatures....

Undersexed male post: Long posts
Hullow man,
I read today's post and remembered what I read a few months ago in some other forum. There is this research which was done on rats - called "Utopia". Well, it was the ideal paradise for the creatures. Imagine a heaven for them - where they have all their conveniences handed down to them. Talk about food, warmth, safety, great health, great access to good places for sleeping, freedom from parasites and whatever you can imagine in a heaven for rats. That is what they were given.
I donât want to bore everyone with the details of the experiment; but the deal was to try and see what the rat society would do if it had everything it wanted and needed. Anyways, the first few generations had it well. They blissfully mated and had offsprings (which were beautiful in their own right). This happened until there was something else like a storm over the paradise - population explosion.

You see, the more there were individual rats, the lower the value placed among every particular member of the rat society by their members. Males began to shun the females and seemed to take pleasure preening under their own greatness.
Females, no longer able to function in a place where males do not even take care of their young (as they apparently do in normal society) - could not stand the new order by the males. So what happened next? You guessed right if you said that the rat utopia collapsed.
Anyways, to tie this story down, the males in today's society are no longer able to come out of their luxury and face the world as it is, on their own, like their counterparts from the Flintstone era. They are effectively preening themselves. Yap. Said it.

The graph about the day in the life of mediocrity is on point. I know. Many times, me and my friends just come home in the evening and laze around the whole time. I could swear that I pour 15 hours/ week onto the couch. Ouch! It is a sad...

The graph about the day in the life of mediocrity is on point. I know. Many times, me and my friends just come home in the evening and laze around the whole time. I could swear that I pour 15 hours/ week onto the couch. Ouch! It is a sad realization but perhaps I have been taking time with them and doing productive shit? I dunno. If sitting on a chair either watching series and documentaries on the laptop or just browsing some random bs on the net is quality time, maybe I am.
The biggest thing hindering us from even going out is the exact same thing you have discussed here today, chris. It is somewhat depressing if you think about it but I guess it is worth it. the fucking comfort zone is what has caught us by the balls. dude, if you know the layers of fat that tim has accumulated on his waist since we started working around a year ago, you'd gag everytime you think about it. that is how bad it is.
I am sure that we are lacking the motivation needed to get our asses off to the gym, bars or wherever. What do you suggest, GLL? coz we are fucking on a dead end here - the 3 of us haven't gotten laid for over 6 months - not that I have been tracking the shenanigans of others. I am not that guy.

Which one?

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