Wednesday, 27 January 2016

Last week, we discussed that when there is a relationship, there must be an expectation. Alternatively expectation arises only there is some form of relationship. Now we understand why someone is expecting from us or we are expecting something from our relationship?Insight 2:Why someone is expecting from us? Because others are believing that you are capable of fulfilling their expectations.For example, you are expecting more from you, because subconsciously you believe that you have more potential.In a professional environment, your boss is expecting more from you than other colleagues, because he believes you have more potential and capability to deliver.In family life, family members are expecting more of your time with them,because they believe that you are the source of love, source of care, source of affection.Your friend is sharing his problems with you, because he is believing that you can provide perspective or solutions to the problem.In a nutshell, someone who is having a relationship with us, believing that we can fulfill their expectations.If you understand this fact, Is it not previlege for you for having such a relationship in your life ????..If this is previege or a gift you got in your life, is not your responsibility to make an effort to fulfill the expectation of the relationship ??If you internalize this insight, you will never be feel stressed on managing the expectation..You thank God for having so many people in your life believes that you can deliver, then managing expectation becomes easier… Reflect on it till next week!!!

Friday, 22 January 2016

As discussed last week, as most of us struggling to manage the expectation and in this process, we get into disappointment, frustration, personal vengeance or stress. We discuss this aspect into insights and solutions approach. Before getting into solution approach, let us understand some of the truth or insights about the expectation management.Insight 1: In personal life, expectation arises between you and yourself, expectation arises between you and your parents / brothers, expectation arises between husband and wife, expectation arises between parents and child, expectation arises between teacher and students and so on. In a professional environment, expectation arises between you and your boss, expectation arises between you and your team, expectation arises between peers and so on. In a business environment, expectation arises between supplier and customer, expectation between client and service provider, expectation arises between business and society and so on. Likewise, expectation arises between one element and another. In all the above examples, what does exist in common? In all the examples, there exists "RELATIONSHIP". Expectation arises only when there is a RELATIONSHIP. Alternatively, we can say when there is a relationship; there must be expectation in the relationship. . Generally, we are not expecting much about someone who does not have much relationship with us. We expect something only someone is associated with our life through some relationships. Hence, when there is a relationship, there must be some expectation. If we internalize this fact or insight, this would bring a new dimension to solve the managing the expectation problem. The next insight would be when there is a relationship, why someone is expecting from us .Let us discuss the insight next week

Wednesday, 13 January 2016

As outlined
last week, in personal and professional life, most of us are struggling to
manage the expectation as we have limited time andresources.

When there is a gap between the expectation and reality, it
becomes problematic. This problem may
result in disappointment, angry, self deprivation, frustration or in
modern management terminology STRESS.

For example, at a personal level, you may like to give up some bad habits and in reality, if you are not able to give
up, that makes you disappointment, that
shakes your self confidence or you start to hate yourself. How to manage about
yourself during such circumstances?

Similarly, in professional front, you may expect
high performance levels from your
team and the team is not up to your expectation, you get into disappointment,
frustration or personal level vengeance
with some team members. Eventually it starts spoiling the quality of relationship with the team. How to manage the
expectation from others? In the reverse situation, your boss is expecting more
from you and if you are up to his expectation, the same level of stress your
boss may be undergoing as you are going
through!!!..How to manage the expectation of others for you??

Similarly, even in family front, you may expect something
from your spouse, children and the reality may be different. You get into disappointment and
sometimes the disappointments turn into
anguish and verbal battle situations. How to manage those
expectations in a domestic environment?

The point
for realization is that there is no guarantee that reality will always be same
as you are expecting. What we need to learn is how to cope or manage the
gap between the expectation and reality.

We discuss
some of the insights about expectation
management next week!

Sunday, 3 January 2016

Thanks for the positive response to our survey on weekly insight initiative and we had received a lot of suggestions to improve the learning experience. One of the suggestions was that instead of discussing random topics every week, take one topic and discuss it from 360 perspectives. We also realized, this suggestion would improve the depth of understanding on a particular topic and now we have chosen “ Managing expectation “ as one topic and next few weeks, we will be discussing all aspects of management in depth. Your views or comments are solicited.

In personal and professional life, most of us are struggling to manage the expectation as we have limited time and resources. On the personal front, there is a need to manage the expectation from SELF as well as from family members. In the professional front,there is a need to manage the expectation from bosses, subordinates, peers and in business environment, there is a need to manage the expectation from customers and other stakeholders.

When we are not able to manage the expectation well, it creates a lot of pressure within us.To manage the expectation, we need to understand some of the insights and discuss the solutions approach.

Let us discuss the following aspects in the coming weeks

1. Misunderstanding about the expectation management

2. Some of the insights about expectation

3. A paradigm shift in approaching the problem

4. Solutions approach to manage the expectation

Mastering the art of managing expectation leads to high performance, extraordinary human being and above all makes you stress free. (Which is good for you and others!!!) and let us strive for it.!!