Lovers gonna love

“There are people waiting for someone just like us to come along. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give.”–Leo Buscaglia

You can’t make a giraffe sing an aria. You can’t teach a goat to do the cha-cha. And you can’t really be happy in this life without being true to who you are.

Take all the aptitude and career tests and Myers-Briggs you want, but your purpose here on Planet Earth is to be love, to demonstrate your true self.

Doesn’t matter if you’re a plumber, a sign painter, a candlestick maker, you will only find meaning if you live to love.

Whenever there’s any kind of question (say, you’re put out because the airline cancelled your flight or your seven-year-old forgot to put his soccer jersey in the laundry basket and it’s crusted in his bedroom corner on gsame day) you will always be happiest when you choose the loving option. Kneejerk reactions often cause us to feel justified in holding grudges or feeling put out. But kneejerk reactions do not a happy camper make.

Choosing the loving response (whether the subject of your ire “deserves” it or not) will always make you feel happier.

As ACIM Lesson 229 points out. We were made by love and we’re here to love. Any other choice makes us miserable.

Because I’m committed to give as much love as I can in every situation that I can, I have decided to join Tribes for Good on their maiden Social Impact Journey this November. These journeys to India are week-long curated expeditions to learn, well, how to change the world.

Like me, Tribes for Good is on a mission to overturn the dominant paradigm.

The current economic model suggests that ambitious, talented people should go to college and then find a slot to fill within the existing structure.

But as most of us have learned by now, squeezing ourselves into a slot is a limited ambition. It’s not the path to joy. We were designed by the big love kahuna to be go-getters, problem solvers, full-hearted givers to all.

Fitting into a big machine will never be as satisfying as discovering your own love mission, creating your own path. Working really hard at someone else’s agenda will never fully satisfy your deepest needs.

That’s what Tribes for Good is all about. Giving us the tools to use our unique talents and gifts to make sure that all of our brothers get a fair shake. The end result is an insanely meaningful, productive and prosperous life.

To find out more about these week-long curated expeditions of discovery, insights and reciprocation, click here. And if you want to read about one of my heroes who successfully used his gifts to change the world (I once wrote about him for People magazine), click here.

And this weekend, as you’re having the best weekend of your life, remember that love is who you are, why you’re here, the reason for everything.

10 Comments on “Lovers gonna love”

Woah! I just clicked on your post about Hal and his Untours. I am in love with him! I will also check out the Tribes for Good. Looking forward to getting more travel and adventure into our (Hubby’s and my) lives, in the not so far future. And down to Earth, connecting with locals and cultures, etc… is my idea of travel. Keeping this e-mail in my in-box is going to keep me on that frequency.
Thank you – as always – Pam!
I wish you and your readers an Amazingly Awesome and Extraordinarily Epic weekend!
xox
Pamela Joy

I love Leo Buscaglia 💖 I’m seriously amazed and inspired by Hal’s philosophy and practise, and his Untours business sounds very cool. Thankyou for your inspirational posts that encourage us to focus on the most important things in life – love and gratitude. Amen sister 😁🙏💗

Hi Pam I have read your books, your blog drops into my inbox regularly and once in a while you inspire me just that little bit more. Something goes ‘ping’, it resonates deep inside me. This is just to say ‘thanks’ and keep on inspiring me and others. Namaste Linda

This confirms what I’ve been experiencing for now 3 years and a half. Please let me explain a little in detail. Three years and a half ago, all of a sudden, I fell in love with a man although I was still in another relationship and I was always known to be “morally more than correct” if you know what I mean. Nothing happened between us for more than one year. However, one day, this man who wasn’t quite good at English at that time and I didn’t even speak his language, this man handed me over a small piece of paper on which he had written in English “I have a crush on you”. This drove me completely mad (in a positive sense) and we started a love affair. The same day I told my now ex-husband about this and broke up with him, although I didn’t know where this love affair would lead me. My ex-husband tried everything to separate us, he had even made research work on this man finding out some bad facts about him. He even managed to make the man lose his job and did physical harm to me. But I continued loving this man, no matter what happened, no matter if people are telling me that this persons doesn’t “deserve” me and my love. I think that only me and the universe can decide who deserves my love and a third person hasn’t got the right to give unsolicited advice. We don’t yet live together, I’m still patiently and lonely waiting to see him twice a week. Now let me come to the point with the unconditional love and happiness: I love this man unconditionally, but recently it has happened that I forgot about this and that I “expected” him to return love to me to the same extent. This was the moment when I started being unhappy and I noticed that i should not ask for anything, I should revert again to love unconditionally to be happy.

The desire to bring about social change is quite simple, but doing something about it can be quite complicated and challenging. Most often, we believe by feeding a child, teaching at a school in India or spending time as a volunteer or donating money, we can leave a positive impact and be part of social change. HOWEVER, the next time you are about to choose any of the above ask yourself –

“Will my contribution of time and effort result in social change which is real, actionable and long-term?”
“Is there a better way to have a great impact and touch more lives and empower local communities?”

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