Finding women for a one-night stand can take practice, but gets easier over time. Women are not much different from men when it comes to the infamous "one night stand". Don’t let this fool you. though; it may be frowned upon for a woman to participate, but there are many women who do take part in this activity. The key here is to be able to pick out the right women with the same mindset as you.

Project open, confident body language. If you skulk in a corner alone, she might think that you're not looking for women, or that you're not a very fun person to be with. Show her that you're available, and interested in being approached.

Keep a positive, respectful attitude. Women look for people who will treat them right. She wants to know that you'll listen to her, take her seriously, and take care of her needs. You want her to think that you're a catch.

Rule out women who aren't dressed to impress. Some women "dress down" as a signal that they're not looking for romance, which makes it easier for you to focus on those who are. However, not every woman who dresses up is looking for a date.

Sometimes women dress up because they want to have fun with friends, or to help them feel good about themselves. They may not want attention from strangers.

Focus on body language. This is much more reliable for finding women who are interested.

Look for women who are looking for relationships. Some women bounce around, talking and flirting with people. These are the women to watch, because there's a good chance that their goals are similar to yours.

Watch women's body language. Some women just want to have fun with friends or go about their business, while others are looking for romance. Here are signs that a woman may be open to being approached:

She's looking around at people.

She makes eye contact with you, and smiles.

She has a pleasant expression.

Her body language is open (she's not crossing her arms or legs).

She's not wearing headphones or in the middle of something (like a book).

Start with light, positive conversation. Talk about something small. The goal isn't to have a deep conversation: it's to evaluate her body language and whether she's receptive (and for her to check you out too).

Pick up signals. Look for signs that things are going well. You want one who gives you a good vibe. Here are signs that she's into you, and that she's interested in talking more (and maybe seeing where things can go):

She's an active participant in the conversation. Talking to her is pretty easy.

Let her go and try a different woman if this woman seems stressed. Some women are skittish, and not ready for a hookup. They have a hard time saying "no," because they're scared that you'll get angry or aggressive. If she looks agitated, give a friendly smile, tell her to have a good evening, and walk away. Then look for a woman who's more relaxed. Here are signs that she's not into it, and you should quit wasting your time:

She gives short, one-word (or small) answers.

She keeps looking around, like she's looking for an exit.

She doesn't look at you much, or at all.

She seems tense.

She's fidgeting and looking awkward.

She gives a polite smile (which means her mouth smiles, but it doesn't reach her eyes).

She's crossing her arms or legs.

She turns her body and/or feet away from you.

She'd rather spend time with friends tonight.

She says she has a boyfriend. (Even if she's lying, it means you're wasting your time here.)

You find it hard to keep a pleasant conversation going. You're doing all the work.

Slow down if you get mixed signals. Some women might be confused, unsure what they want, or struggling to make up their mind. Relax, slow down, and follow her lead. If she decides she wants to kick it up a notch, her words and body language will start showing it.

Keep an easy-come, easy-go attitude. Would you hook up with any woman on the street? Of course not. Similarly, women may have a type, or different plans for the night. That's okay. Nothing's wrong with you; it just wasn't meant to happen. Let her go and look for someone more open.

If you're telling yourself "maybe I can convince her," that's a sign that it's going downhill and you're wasting your time. A good catch is one who doesn't need convincing.

Break the touch barrier. Try brushing some lint from her sleeve, or placing a hand on her shoulder. Find an excuse to gently touch her. See if she likes it, or if she touches you in return. This suggests she's interested.

Tips

Bounce back if you get turned down. It's completely normal to be turned down once, twice, or even ten times! If you get turned down a lot, it just means that you're having a hard time identifying women who are open to being approached, or that you need to work on your flirting skills. It doesn't mean anything's wrong with you.

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