What Value Do You Place On Yourself?

I received quite a few comments yesterday from people telling me that they have no control over the thoughts they have or the people they hang around with……….I don’t normally say this, but they are wrong, so wrong that I thought I had better highlight a few of my views on this subject.

We all have a choice, and I fought with myself about writing the first paragraph in this post. it is not up to me to tell people they are wrong in the way they think. However, after reading the following quote today, I changed my mind.

“If you put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise it” Anon

Now, what has this to do with having control over your thoughts and the people you hang around with? I believe everything. When you value yourself, and the contributions you can and do make to your world, you don’t sell yourself short by being with people who continually make you feel miserable. Unfortunately sometimes these people may be family or friends. If this is the case, and by being with these people, you feel devalued, maybe its time to limit the time you spend together. Or at the very least, understand that their thoughts and actions, are not THE TRUTH.

Do you see my dilemma? On one hand I am saying people are wrong in their beliefs that they have no power to control who they spend time with, and on the other I am saying that my thoughts and actions are not necessarily YOUR TRUTH.

Therefore, I will finish with this…….if something is not working in your life, isn’t it time you valued yourself enough to make changes? If you put up with behavior from others, and yes, even from yourself, that is not in your best interests, place a higher worth on your life and make the changes. YOU are the only person who can determine what the best is for you. I know there are many organizations and groups to guide you. Take their information, do what is right for you, and live with value.

Wow, this post was so relevant to a conversation I had last night. The discussion was based on a negative lifestyle and what changes may be possible. The crux of the conversation was how the individual undermined her own life with negative self talk together with the realisation that she wouldn’t treat another human being so badly.

In the first instance, it was decided that this individual should stop sabotaging herself with negativity. Admittedly, an entrenched mindset requires vigilance to change negative thinking. However, it was agreed that awareness was a major first step in this journey to become her authentic self –a happy confident person.

Secondly, the emergence of this happy confident person will create a new environment in regard to the people that gravitate to and from her.

I shall make her aware of your post which will confirm we are on the right track. Thanks.

It must be the time for these talks. A group of my friends sat me down over the weekend and said very similar things to me. When I read Kath’s post, it was like she was talking to me.
When my friends talked to me, I didn’t take it very well to start, but they really did try to help, and now a few days later, I realize that I did continually look on the negative side of everything. It was a habit I didn’t even know I had. I spent my time blaming everyone else.
While my life won’t change straight away, at least I can start to make changes. I love my friends

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Hi Brenda I have followed you on facebook for some months now and finally clicked onto your blog. I wish to thank you for your 30second snack’s on fb as they helped me to start to think in a clear and positive sense. All of this happened due to me changing my thinking from negative into positive and searching for nothing but the best in order to make myself happy and be able to help those around me be happy. I learnt to take responsibility for me, my happiness and my own destiny. I still have times when negativity wants to come in but I have learnt how to address it and work with getting the positive back in. None of us will ever be perfect and we will slip up but to live in a negative state is not a great place to be. Keep up the wonderful thoughts Brenda. Your beautiful words and quotations are being felt out there and they are helping people get back on track with their lives. I know if you truly wish and want for change with in yourself it is possible and you will get there. Thank you again.

Rachael

Brenda – the infectious and uplifting Brenda! You have such a beautiful way with words. Thank you, thank you