Whatever your spouse is complaining about you would have also been noticed by others that are not in relationship with you and therefore have no reason to correct you or bring it to your attention…. Therefore, look into those complaints and make a better you out of it.

A spouse that’s not willing to change is a spouse that doesn’t want the progress of his or her relationship/marriage ….

If he or she doesn’t or cannot point out your flaws, why are you then in a relationship or marriage? Maybe you are only helping each other out in the sexual department or payment of mortgage/bills/rent etc…

Accepting corrections and changing for the better is a mark of honour in someone that respects himself or herself….

Majority of the things we do have no basis, they are just habits that we are always looking for reasons to justify out of stubbornness or laziness to do the right things.

As you grow in KNOWLEDGE, WISDOM AND UNDERSTAND you will begin to understand this, whilst as you grow in age, you may never grasp it…..

Wisdom, knowledge and understanding is the key. You are not living on earth to SATISFY another human but to LOVE others, so stop tying yourself to the ideas that has no true basis other than destruction and stagnancy.

Sister Abefe, my girlfriend has got few financial and accommodation issues at the moment and i feel like asking her to come and manage with me for the time being, however I dont want her to feel too comfortable that she would think she’s already my wife or we have become a couple. We have been dating for about 2years and believe doing this for her shouldn’t be a problem but I am worried about her thinking or concluding too far ahead. How do I go about it please?

‘Owe nothing to anyone-except for your obligation to love one another….’ Romans 13:8

If you think winning the lottery would solve all your problems, you couldn’t be more wrong! Almost half of those who become overnight millionaires end up bankrupt within a few years. Why? For a variety of reasons: bad business deals, extravagant living, crazy schemes, and fast-talking relatives. And here’s another one-a big one! Believing that they now have the Midas touch and that Lady Luck is on their side, they continue to gamble at an even higher level-and end up losing it all.

Try to understand this: unless you spend less than you earn, no amount of income will ever be enough! So if you’re wise, when you get a salary increase or an unexpected windfall you won’t adopt a more extravagant lifestyle. You’ll reduce your debt before it becomes an albatross around your neck that drowns you. No amount of income will be sufficient if your spending is not brought under control.

The only way to get ahead financially is to deny yourself some of the things you want and save for the future. If you don’t have the discipline to do that, you’ll always be in debt. Now, when the government gets into debt, they simply tax you. But when you get into debt-you’re on your own. That’s not how God wants you to live. True contentment doesn’t come from getting all you want, but by discovering the blessings you have been given and learning to enjoy them.

This should be your goal: ‘Owe no one anything-except for your obligation to love one another.’

We are now living in a world where more and more women are becoming single parent and it is therefore becoming barbaric, painful and gross.

Every woman in this millennium must know that having a child even in wedlock must be seriously planned and must never be about cultural or religion beliefs or JUST SELF WISH. E.g. “I just love children”, stop being a fool, just loving children doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use your number six when having them. Many women both married and single are now having to cater for their children singlehandedly and it is not a good start for any child.

Understandable if you lose your husband to death, but anything outside of that is pathetic and that is why every single woman need to know why they want to have a child and WHO WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CHILD’S UPKEEP. Yes you are married, but when I was married, I was the only one financing the children and there are many homes like that. My sister who advised me then to have another child so my daughter won’t be the only child is yet to give that child (my son) £50 in the whole of the 12years the boy has been living.

People are quick to say “don’t let your child be the only one, at least have another”, but they will never be there to assist you when the other person you have the children with is no more in your life. I was told to try for a son, now I have the son, none of those who advised are yet to contribute a dime to the life of my son, NOT EVEN A BIRTHDAY CARD.

I was desperate to have a child in my marriage DUE TO CULTURAL BELIEFS, if I know then what I know now then, maybe I wouldn’t have had any children. Don’t get me wrong, I love my children to bits but the truth is, I NEVER WISHED NOR DREAMT THAT THEY WOULD GROW UP WITHOUT A RESPONSIBLE FATHER.

Close your VAGINA, TIE YOUR WOMB, SEEK LOVE NOT CHILDREN AND CHILDREN WILL FOLLOW WITH EASE. Marriage is not about just having children, it is about love and companionship and children, IF YOU CAN GIVE THEN QUALITY OF LIFE. Sex in marriage is for pleasure and child bearing and there is NO LAW OR RULE IN HEAVEN TO SAY, IF YOU DONT HAVE A CHILD/REN, YOU WONT GET TO HEAVEN. As a matter of fact, you may end up in hell for not being a responsible mother or father.

Loan yourself some brain, you are on your own. Children would tie you down and dont ever blame them when they leave you, as the bible says “wife leave and cling to her husband” and vice versa. And it didn’t say “CLING TO HER CHILDREN”.

It is a beautiful thing to have a child, BUT IT IS ALWAYS MORE BEAUTIFUL AND AWESOME TO HAVE A CHILD THAT HAVE RESPONSIBLE PARENTS/FATHER/MOTHER…

Children are not ornamental pieces, not decorations, they are in your career to be nurtured and PAMPERED, not for hawking or beating or as slaves ….

One thing I have found revolting and abnormal is how people manipulate their children to hate others as a result of the nonsense or rubbish they have installed in their minds…

Telling your children bad things about their mother, father, your friends, sisters, brothers or your parents is not the best way to teach them forgiveness, especially when all you have told them is half baked stories. Nothing pointing out what and where you also wronged them.

It has become a common occurrence with many so called men and women of God getting involved in bringing down families.I implore you today to please learn how to leave your children out of any strife or argument you may have with anyone. You are not building these children’s lives positively, instead, you are making their future to become obscure and unsettled. Allow them to discover people’s behaviour. Give them the basics, general rules on how to live life with greatest peace.

I lived with those who told me nothing good about others and today, I regret ever living with such demonic people and these are people that treat their own children like eggs. What they said around me created fear and anger towards the people that don’t even have any thoughts towards me.

To find out why a family is crumbling, ask the women living their or the women that are from the family; and the men that find joy in finding excuses to cover their bad tracks.

Stop using your children as a weapon of mass destruction, you are only killing your children’s future indirectly because they would become paranoid and allergic to those that can be good to them. They will also develop unexplainable bitterness to those around them just because they want to fight the battle they know nothing about its genesis.

Children of this millennium are not stupid, they are more clever than the latest laptops or mobile phones so allow them to fish the TRUTH out without you fabricating the stories to them.

Let your children grow up in love, as all the things you sow in them will eventually cause them to hate each other at some point also ….