Over the weekend, we were hit with the shocking news that Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher had shot and killed his girlfriend Kasandra Perkins before putting a gun to his own head at a nearby team facility. He came in contact with the team’s coach and general manager and allegedly thanked them for all they had done for him before he shot himself in the parking lot. Since then, friends of the couple have been reaching out to various websites to give details of the couple’s relationship leading up to the murder-suicide, with some playing the “blame game.”

According to one source, the two had dated for three years but had split up recently. Over the past few weeks, things got tense between the couple when they began fighting over their three-month-old daughter, Zoe. Sources claim that Jovan had also become increasingly out of control because of head injuries he gained on the field, coupled with prescription drug and alcohol addiction.

It was his girlfriend Kasi (Kassandra) Perkins. They have been arguing for quite sometime and had separated 2 weeks ago. He had brought her and the baby back home however, they were both arguing on a regular basis. […] This was the result of a long term conflict. I’m referring to the rumors that this was solely related to an argument about her attending the Trey Songs concert… It wasn’t. Kasi had left and taken Zoe (their daughter) to a relatives house without his consent and refused to come home. In addition to that, she made it clear that she was leaving and would contact a lawyer to “get as much money as possible.” Her friends are speaking to the media so, I only feel write providing his perspective to this situation. It had little, if anything to do with one isolated argument..

On source also tells Deadspin:

[On the Thursday night after the Nov. 12 Chiefs-Steelers Monday Night Football game] he came home and Kasi had taken the baby (Zoe) to Jamaal Charles residence because she is cousins with Jamaal’s wife Whitney. They had been arguing for quite a few weeks prior which was nothing new. The majority of the arguments were due to Kasi failing college classes that Jovan was paying for and quitting her retail job where she worked two 4 hour shifts a week. From my perception, she was lazy and after learning she was introduced to him through her cousin who is married to Jamaal I can only assume she was after money. I’m in no way trying to defame her character, however; she is the catalyst to this incident. With friends/associates of hers speaking out to the media and saying that this incident stemmed from am argument about her staying out late for a concert, I have to disagree and provide the full spectrum. Jovan loved her and more importantly loved Zoe. After their argument and she left with the baby he convinced her to move back in for the sake of the baby. As far as what led to this tragic incident, I would say a combination of alcohol, concussions, and prescription drugs put him in a state that he would not otherwise be in.

When it comes to prescription medication it is unclear from my perspective whether it was diagnosed and authorized by the team or not. However I know he was under the influence of narcotics for pain and I’m sure the toxicology report will reflect this. However, Jovan drank ALOT. On a nightly basis. This is not a mystery as he did so in public and private.

When it comes to his concussions; if you review the footage of the Cincinnati game he took a few hits to the head directly […] he was dazed and was suffering from short term memory loss. He could not remember the events that had taken place prior to that game or what he had said to get Kasi to return home.

Meanwhile, after a few sites published the rumor that Jovan had suspected Kasandra of cheating with Trey Songz when she returned home late from his after party, Trey took to his twitter to clear his name of any involvement:

I don’t delete tweets, nor am I insensitive to death. I had no knowledge of the murder/suicide incident until now & even still…

As sad as it may be, it has nothing to do with me. Sending prayers up to the families and friends of the people involved.

Such a tragic story.

A brief sidenote: Head injuries are becoming a big issue within the NFL. According to an article titled, “Dying To Play” that ran in the NY Times back in September, retired football players are three to four times more likely to die from brain diseases as a result from head injuries acquired during their years of playing football. Also, more than 3,000 former players have sued the NFL, charging that the league failed to inform them of the dangers they faced, protect them against concussions and provide ample health care.

112 People Bitching

It is not right for his friends and family to blame that young lady. Regardless of what happened, they are both dead and their child is without parents. It is sick that they are so cold and calculated to try and save his image. No reason to point fingers, this is a tragic event all around.

point fingers? im sorry i dont give a damn WHAT she did he was a coward, thumbs me down i dont care not only are you leaving your child parentless and two families heart broken he had the nerve to traumatize people at the chiefs facility and people wanna blame her? i can’t let me just pray for baby zoe

He was definitely wrong. But I don’t understand how you all don’t think her friends are wrong as well, providing “probably” inaccurate & most definitely “unnecessary” information to the media? No one knows why he killed her, but her friends are further defaming his character while protecting hers like that needs any help at this point…Of course his side is going to defend him. Duh

+59 Ginger Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 12:30 pm

EXACTLY!!! This ninja killed Kassandra, was too coward to face the consequences so he kills himself and then orphans his own child. Now people want to blame Kassandra???

I don’t care what she was or what they were going thru, she did not deserve to die! To call her a “catalyst” is tacky and pathetic for anyone to say. Ugh, some people! I hope Jovan Belcher is on his way to hell right now!

i don’t wish him to hell but i can undertand your comment. I knew they were going to try to blame it on head injuries or her. Trying to repair his image is not going to hide the fact that he took her life bc she wanted out. Hell if you want 2 take ur own life than fine, but why he had to take hers is what I’m not understanding?

+18 dc Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 1:11 pm

@GINGER- I agree with your comment and I agree with @SCORPIO. Whatever was going on between them( Javon and Kasi) it doesn’t matter now, it always P—-S me off when something tragic like this happens and then everybody and their momma wants to come out and run their mouthes, were you (friends and families) running your mouthes and trying to help when they were arguing constantly (probably not). All that matters now is little Zoe and the fact that she is an orphan, smh, so all these so-called cousins and friends and whoever else that want to come out and try to point fingers, just SHUT UP.

+25 ttclothesminded Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 1:42 pm

ONLY LET GOD JUDGE THEE!!!!!!!!!!!

-5 yoooooo Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 12:34 pm

I agree that he was dead wrong to leave their child parentless but c’mon!!!

Her friends are making it seem like he is some insecure looser who was afraid of Trey Songz ending their relationship while she was the perfect girlfriend dealing with an insecure nagging boyfriend…

No one truly knows why what happened, happened. So of course his side is going to stick up for him too. & Mental illness is a very serious problem, just as serious as cancer & heart attacks b/c if its not fixed the above story can happen…To call someone a coward is…idk

Mental illness is a serious problem, but we havent heard anything suggesting that he had a previously diagnosed issue. He probably lost at that moment, only her mother knows exactly what went down.

+18 yoooooo Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 6:05 pm

Do you know how under-diagnosed mental illnesses are?????? Especially in the Black community?????

+11 Lyz Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 9:43 pm

@yoooooo You are an *****! Let someone kill one of your friends or loved ones and see if your dumb a** defends the perp. Being evil and being a fool such as yourself is a mental illness! There are people who have mental illnesses that seek help, or harm themselves instead of harming others. His move was a bi*** move that had more to deal with his need to possess her instead of depression. Do you excuse terrorist for killing women and children and attacking Americans by blaming mental illness? Do you excuse the KKK for hanging black people from trees and burning down churches with black children in them by saying mental illness? Murder is murder, he knew what he was doing was wrong, it wasn’t accidental, that’s why he shot her 9 times! He plotted! That’s why he convinced her to come back so he could plan this s*** out! He was just another punk who would rather take a woman away from everyone who loved her if he couldn’t have her, so sit your dumb butt down.

-2 yoooooo Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 10:03 pm

@Lyz

Your comment is too ignorant to take serious. My response would be over your head as my initial response to the post was….Read a book.

+11 Lyz Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 10:46 pm

Did you mean to type ‘seriously’ instead of serious? Killing a person when not for the sole person of protecting your own life or another person’s life is a cowardly act. There are too many brave people who seek help before they hurt themselves because they care enough about the people around them to not bring harm to them. From your earlier post, you couldn’t understand why people would call what he did a cowardly act, and would rather blame it all on mental disease and then equated mental illness as being as serious as cancer. The man was not Bipolar nor Schizophrenic, he was a violent male. I am sick of people writing off the evil one person does to others by blaming mental illness. And I will come at person who excuses a violent male for taking a woman’s life because I lost my friend Maria to another ‘mentally ill” black male who covered her mouth with duct tape and beat her unconscious until she suffocated because he was jealous that she moved on with her life without him, and left their son without his mother. And the reason why he still gets to walk around living his life is because people like you who don’t care more about the victim than about the perpetrator’s well-being. His crime was a personal one, he wasn’t some random shooter on a clock tower who was off his meds. You’d rather blame mental illness for Kassandra’s death and that little girl being an orphan instead of blaming the man that did it. The problem with you arguing that this will repeat itself if mental illness is not eradicated is you are calling for people to not be held accountable for heinous acts. Do you not realize how many people get slapped on the wrist everyday now after raping children, killing their babies and others by claiming they were mentally ill? And how many get out and do it again? Next time someone is raped, will you blame that on mental illness? Maybe you should pick up a book, perhaps the Bible. See how many times God excused people killing others because of their jealousy. I don’t recall God saying mental illness can be used as a defense. Last I checked, the people that came up with letting people use mental illness as an excuse for behavior that terrorized others before taking their lives were white. I don’t excuse alcoholics for taking lives when they are too busy driving drunk rather than get help for their addiction, and I for damn sure will not excuse a black man for killing a helpless black female in front of her child by blaming his cowardly bulls*** on mental illness.

Kelly Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 10:59 pm

If the mother was there when the arguments started that ensued in her death, I wonder why, since he was her son, she didn’t go calm down the situation. I know my mother would have. Not blaming her, the whole situation is just heartbreaking. It just seems odd to me. RiP to the both of them and may God bless the child.

-2 yoooooo Reply:December 4th, 2012 at 2:12 am

@Lyz

This response was slightly more mature so I’ll respond.Whats your purpose in constantly bringing up race?? It sounds like you have a personal vendetta in making sure every Black man get his…& for your information, I said the batman massacre shooter who was a white man had a mental illness too…So race is void from my opinion.

Wanna know why I said this man had a mental illness? B/c he put a gun to his ownnnn head & blew his brains out!!! His own! Not someone he was jealous of in a fit of rage but his own! Just stop & think of your mental state for you to do that…No think about buying a gun, putting bullets in it, then holding it to your forehead & saying bye bye to all you know & hello to the unknown! Think of your mental state. Like I said mental illness is real and your other examples of physical abuse & drunk driving are irrelevant. Btw, You have some audacity to bring up God with the vile words you wrote, thats why people take Christianity as a joke! smh

-3 dc Reply:December 4th, 2012 at 11:23 am

@Yooooo- I understand your comment (especially the 1 you typed today), I don’t understand why some (not all) people refuse to acknowledge that mental illness is REAL, do I agree with what Javon did, NO, but something obviously wasn’t right with him in the head, it’s just sad all the way around, and I definitely agree with you about @LYZ, this is NOT about race and this should NOT be about making sure every BLACK man gets his, I can’t stand it when some (not all) people take tragedies like this and turn it into something that it’s not (like all black men are evil and crazy, let’s make sure all black men get theirs and blah blah blah) STOP IT, this is about a beautiful little girl who lost both of her parents AND Kasi, a beautiful young woman who won’t get the chance to raise her daughter, let’s leave it at that and stop making this about RACE, smh.

+20 Jackie Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 1:00 pm

But here’s the thing though….this isn’t an incident or accident…we are talking about someone shooting and killing someone else and then driving and killing himself in front of his coach and GM. No one needs to be making statements clearly but the point of the matter is folks knew he had concussions, taking medications, and mixing it with alcohol. Can we focus on that?

He has no noticeable long history of concussions, said the Kansas City chiefs. These are his friends saying this. Can we focus on the fact that DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and mental illness are mutually exclusive?! He was enraged, shot her NINE times. That is rage. That’s not depression or CTE because that single bullet he took to kill himself, he could’ve used on her while she slept in the absence of their daughter and his own mother. He had more regard for his image as a Chiefs player than he did for his daughter, mother and gf. Dramatic ass. He should’ve killed himself on his lawn or in the garage and left a note or a text, like everybody else. Let’s be real here.

Hate it when people call people that commit suicide cowards. Life is complex, and im sure this situation is not as black and white for us to just put labels on either of the victims. Im going to wait for the mother to explain what it is that went down before coming to any sort of conclusion.
One thing is sure, is the little left behind will suffer the most from this event

well its the truth, what else can u call them? thats taking the EASY way out, everybody goes through BS but you figure out another way to handle it….. and now this LOOSER has not only taken his life but someone else’s as well….. not to mention the baby is only 3 months she will never know who her parents were smh……COWARD!!!!!!

+10 Lyz Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 9:50 pm

He is being called a coward because he made a punk move to take someone with him who didn’t want to die. That is why his b**** a** is a coward. At least a person who only kills themselves only makes the mistake of believing that the world is better off without them, that doesn’t make them a coward, that means they are misguided by their depression. An a****** that murders someone then kills themselves only killed themselves because their punk a** didn’t want to face the criminal system after they carried out their plan to off someone else out of revenge. People who kill only themselves do not have vengeance in their hearts, only sadness because they feel alone. Murders seek to destroy lives. So, yes, he is a coward.

Geena Reply:December 4th, 2012 at 3:07 am

I agree

+50 Yess... Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 11:56 am

I agree.. I was shocked someone said she was after money.. Her life is lost and that has nothing to do with why she is no longer her to raise her child. I wish this whole situation never happened… this is incredibly sad.

for this “source” to really try to blame this horrific act of selfishness on her being a “gold digger” is shocking if every football player killed the gold digger in their life there would be blood splattered all over this country and yes there is the mention of concussions the next step will be suing the nfl

I think no one can deny the fact that he is responsible, as he is the one that pulled the trigger. I think his friends are just trying to put things into perspective, and at least show that this outrageous act did not come out of nowhere and that they were not happy like the media reports first suggested.

Don’t justify murder, if he wasn’t defending his life, it’s called murder. A man doesn’t have the right to take out a woman when she decides she wants to move on. From the way he just did her and their child by leaving her an orphan, it’s obvious she had good reason to leave his violent a**. I am tired of black people defending violent men! And the one’s coming to his defense know whenever a white man kills his family, most of you talk about it and chalk it up to him being an evil crazy white man, and use it as more proof about how evil white men are. But a black man kills a woman he is supposed to protect with his life, and you still find a way to blame the woman? No wonder our race is so lost! Some of you would welcome a wolf into our fold and as long as the wolf is black, if their teeth were dripping blood and they had a dead lamb in front of them, some of you dumb people would rather claim the lamb impaled itself and defend the wolf! He was not a man, he was an evil s***. Black people should not defend people who murder in cold blood, no matter what race the perp is.

+30 IMO Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 12:01 pm

I pray over both of their souls…I know alot of people are insensitive to suicide, but we don’t know his mind frame or sanity. He was definitely battling with some inner issues. You just never know what a person is going through. I just wish he could’ve seeked help :/. This just proves money does not provide you with happiness! I’m praying for the baby especially that she will be in good hands.

I don’t think people are being insensitive to the sucide. If he would have just committed sucide, then maybe we could sit around saying how sorry we are for him and how much of a good person he was, but he killed someone, a 22 year old who was just beginning her life.

He made the choice to end his life, Kassandra Perkins is the victim, not him.

You are correct she was the victim here as I said I’m praying for both. Like I said we don’t know his sanity, his mindset. There are people that deliberately kill and those that are not in their right minds. Killing is bad, HORRID. But there were two lives that were lost. NO ONE should have died her NOR him is my point.

My idea is moreso for those that are giving up on life and people are not reaching out, helping these people seek professional help.

-1 staytrue Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 7:30 pm

wow, I just read this again and realized I misspelled “suicide” not once, but twice.

+41 circ1984 Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 12:01 pm

Wow…I can’t believe they provided a “catalyst” for what led to this tragedy. Regardless if she was a “golddigger” or not, this guy was clearly mentally unstable.

When another man chops down your girl… blame Trey Songz (lol)! Just kidding.

On a more serious note, I think it’s tacky that these individuals are trying to dafame Kassandra Perkins character by pointing out that she was worked a retail, making her out to be a gold digger and calling her the “catalyst” in her own death. Damn, folks are TRIFFLING!!! These people are talking as if they lived with Kassandra & Jovan and knew everything about their relationship. I always say, you never know WHAT is going on with two people behind closed doors.

Whatever the case or whatever this young couple was going thru, this is NO excuse for someone taking another person’s life. Jovan Belcher is a MURDERER, a COWARD and he ORPHANED his own daughter. No sympathy from me whatsoever and I hope there’s a spot for him in hell! That is all…

Right. People always gotta point the blame on somebody. I think just the other day, his “cousin” was on here trying to defend him. Girl, this man took not only his life, but the mother of his child, and now this same child is in a world without parents. How can you defend that?

I find it disgusting the way people are making excuses for him. Head injuries mixed with alcohol and pills does not give you the right to shoot someone. The mother of your child in front of your mother at that. It’s sad to put out the message that a person 1000’s of NFL’er, other athletes, boxer’s, us common folks when times get tough we can fatally shoot someone and use mental illness as an excuse. If he was so mentality ill he shouldn’t have owned a gun, nor should he have been drinking. If he didn’t want to pay child support or felt she was after money he should have wrapped it up. He need to be held accountable for his actions in life or death !

@NO MA’AM- I agree. Like someone else said, if that person really is Javons cousin, it’s probably a 2nd or 3rd cousin that barely knew him and only claimed him because they wanted everyone to know that he/she was related to a pro athlete, smh, I’m sure everyone knows how so-called family members can be, once you have money, everybody and their grandma and pookie down the street comes outta the woodworks, smh.

look at how that baby is looking at him in that photo, bet she knew her daddy wasn’t right. She prob was trying to get away cuz he was crazy & drank & argued all the time. The friends need to stop. It dont even matter no more but dont blame her for the death. He had the gun, she’s just a mom who went to a concert.

+9 And Somewhere Drake Is Cryin' In A Corner Reply:December 3rd, 2012 at 5:12 pm

those statements were extremely tacky, classless, and heartless and while Kasi’s friends shouldn’t have been making statements to the media, for Jovan’s friends to try to paint her as a gold digger is very insensitive, especially to her mother and her daughter who may later read about what happened to her parents. while it is plausible that there were arguements going back and forth over Kasi coming back late from the Trey Songz concert, i will agree with ONE statement that Jovan’s friends made, that that one arguement was most likely not the catalyst for what happened, that arguements between them may have been an on-going thing. his friend in the second statement mentioned Jovan was on prescription drugs and drank heavily in public and in private, so why wouldn’t his alcohol abuse and later his prescription drug abuse be MAJOR factors in the arguements they were having, and possibly the reason why Kasi left with their baby? he also mentioned that those head injuries caused Jovan to have short term memory loss and that Jovan didn’t even remember the conversation he had with Kasi to get her and their baby back to their home. that is a very dangerous combination. i think the mistake Kasi made was going back to their home with the condition he was in. and i’m not trying to throw Jovan under the bus, head injuries are something the NFL needs to take very, very seriously and they need to be proactive with how they handle them. Jovan may have been coping with the effects of the head injuries with alcohol abuse, and then for him to get his hands on prescription drugs (as its unclear whether it was obtained through NFL doctors or not) is just terrible.

Now now now. Let all be reasonable about this issue. To kill the mother of your child and then blow your own brains out…..Lets face it, this guy definitely was struggling with some major mental issues. Where the mental issues were related to his football injuries or not. Let not judge HIM or his GIRLFRIEND at this point (unless you know these ppl).

Here’s my thing. They are trying to make her out to be lazy and a gold digger because she quit her retail job and was failing classes at school.. eehheemmm. Anybody out there a brand new parent that wants to speak up?? because I know how hard school is while working and I don’t have a child. So i can only imagine how it must be with a newborn. The fact that she continued working while pregnant shows that she wasn’t lazy. And who knows how much help she had especially with him being on the road a lot. I feel so bad for her daughter and her family, but I don’t for him. Taking your life is selfish enough but taking someone else’s?

Well damn! they didn’t hv 2 dog her out like that! at the end of the day that nigga picked her ass…whether she was lazy or not, smh…so u mad u got a nothing-ass-chick pregnant & she didn’t wanna do nothing but play house??? who’s damn fault is that??? if he wouldn’t hv bn so quick to live a stereotypical lifestyle, which includes a light skin, mixed chick w/ “good hair,” and would’ve actual took the time to figure out what she was about/ her goals in life, maybe he would’ve seen they weren’t equally yolked…INSTEAD of having to constantly fight w/ someone trying to change thm into something they never were to begin with

When things that are shocking happen, people are always looking for someone to blame and answers. We will never know what really happened because the only people who really know are gone. I think the media is sad, and I think that people on both sides…are wrong but I know who is seeking them out for answers…

I pray for the families and especially little Zoe. Such a tragedy and I hope she is told good things about her parents.

Funny thing about the NFL is they don’t even provide guaranteed contracts. If you are injured you are SOL. Even though that is a far more dangerous sport than say basketball or baseball, that do provide guaranteed contracts. I would never let my son play football for that reason. The owners look at the players as expendable instead of people who put their lives on the line for them.

RE: her golddigging, let that be a lesson to the rest of the golddiggers.

Questions… I know you have a right to your opinion.. But the regarding (RE) part of your comment should have stayed in that little small brain. A murder-suicide should never be a lesson. I agree with Anabelle go bite a cat.

You guys can disagree all you want, but when people use and emotionally abuse people, it should be no shock when the other person has a mental break and retaliates.

Obviously I’m not for murdering people, but people play with others emotions all the time, under the assumption that the other party can’t do anything about it, well, this is a lesson that if you can’t assume people will lay down quietly when you hurt them. It is what it is.

I’ve read about women dating mentally unstable men, i.e., schizophrenia, then tiring of them and discarding them like it’s that easy. Crazy people will do crazy ****, so never forget that when you are out to get something from them.

WTF are you talking about? Just because somebodys feelings get hurt they should be able to respond physically? Sweetheart I’ve broken a few womens hearts, and had my heart broken a few times….kinda nobody ended up dead or even harmed for that matter.

Well that’s good. However, I wouldn’t assume everyone has all their faculties when I’m dealing w/ people’s feelings. I’m not going to antagonize anyone under the assumption that they’ll behave respectfully. The same way that girl got punched on the bus, is the same way this woman got killed. Underestimating people.

i hate that! zoe will have to grow up without both parents ! we all need to take care of ourselves not just physically but mentally as well. instability is a virus and it can ruin/ take your life if you don’t address it .

May their daughter and their families find the peace that they so desperately need. No one knows what happened but those two, and for “friends” to make statements about what was taking place, it is insensitive and shows these “friends” lack class.

Doesn’t matter what they were arguing about or if she was money hungry she didn’t deserve to die period! No respect for this dude had it been my family I’d spit on his grave, u wanna die cool kill yourself don’t bring people wit u.

What a sad sad situation .I doubt we’ll ever know the full story though, but i think the nfl needs to look into the extent of head injuries, the use of prescription drugs, and if they know a player has problems with drinking/drugs they must make them attend therapy so they can get the help. No-one should be talking about who was to blame or who caused this at this point, and just focus on that beautiful little girl and ensure she is taken care of and trying to prevent something like this.
I will be praying for their family, its such a heartbreaking story..

RIHANNA THIS IS HOW YOU GOING TO END UP LIKE IF YOU DONT LEAVE CHRIS BROWN ALONE,DONT SAY I AINT TELL YOU AND R.I..P TO KASSANDRA ,I HOPE THAT LITTLE GIRL GROWS UP IN A SAFE PLACE AND MAY GOD SHED HIS LIGHT UNTO HER.

“I’m not trying to defame her character”…..ummm yeah sir you just did. The way I see it there is obviously only three people , Him, his GF, and God, who knows why the young man took it this far and it is definetly not any of their friends. I know their friends or sources are trying to give their sides of the story, but they are not helping. I think unless your’re immediate family don’t say anything to the media.It’s getting too messy, I pray they all come to peace with this situation.

Even if she was a gold digger, she still didn’t deserve to die. But his as.s. needed help from the jump, we can see he wasn’t all right up there. Abusing alcohol on prescription pills with concussions every now and then damn.

What people need to understand is every action has a reaction. It may not be right, but it is what it is. We are human and at times go off of emotions. Be responsible and treat others how you would want to be treated.

You are totally right regarding your first thought. However, Ebony never stated that murder was a justifiable reaction in this case. (S)he just expressed that sometimes people react irrationally from emotional hurt and that we should all have a little more empathy. Also, to whom was the “we” in your second sentence referring? Ebony never mentioned that it was cool or right for someone to respond with violence in this situation, and I think it is safe to infer that you do not believe this either.

No matter what kind of person she was, she did not deserve a gunshot to the head. Because he was a public figure, we have to try to justify his ungodly actions. She was a lousy person, he suffered effects of head injury, he was on prescription drugs. We will never know what caused the tragedy, but don’t try to right his actions. He murdered the mother of his child in a moment of rage and realized what he had done and attempted to right the situation by taking his own life. In another selfish act, he killed himself in front of people he worked with everyday and obviously respected and tramatized them for the rest of their life’s. I feel sorry for the families and most of all, his child.

I’m sick of people calling him selfish and a coward like they actually knew him. You guys are acting like he was a serial killer who planned out painful executions as a hobby. Clearly he had mental problems that he was not getting help for and I doubt he woke up that morning plotting to kill the mother of his child. Just be thankful that your family and friends don’t have to deal with this and pray for the people who do. There’s no need to be hateful to someone that is no longer living and was obviously lost and in pain. Even if you hate him for what he did, at least respect the people who loved him by not saying anything unnecessary, especially his daughter who may read these horrible things about her father when she grows up.

And I’m sick and tired of reading these comments full of liberal sympathy and political correctness. How many murderers that kill in cold blood are in their right mind or mentally stable at the time of the killing? Thats the reason why the person is dead in the first place; the other person went temporarily crazy or was already crazy and just happened to get angry. Turn on the news tonight, every story you see whether it is domestic violence, motivated homicide or a drug deal gone bad has a crazy person at the beginning of it. How does being crazy, or influenced by pain killers, or too many knocks on the head, or a messed-up childhood, or a nasty divorce an excuse? Mental problems and emotion is not a justifiable reason. This was a sad sick situation provoked by a guy with loose marbles. And it is astonishing that people will actually form thoughts in their mind to come to this guys defense to great proportions to substitute the fact that he is crazy, with socially friendly terms such as “unstable”, “sick”, or “depressed.” Guess what who cares. Most of the little thugs running the street are sick, unstable, and products of terrible upbringings. That doesn’t make them less dangerous or psychotic nor does it make it any better when they hurt somebody. Sorry, if I offended anybody that may read this that suffer’s or suffered from mental illnesses but crazy is crazy…I don’t care if it’s depression, schizophrenia, or OCD. The main point is your elevator is not travelling to the top floor and you are a little off. Doesn’t nessacerily make you a bad person but you definitely won’t be on the list of people that I would leave around my children alone….most likely you wouldn’t even be allowed in my house.

Not to justify for what Jovan did cause it was wrong and I don’t know if he was SANE or NOT cause it hasn’t been reported. But your facts my dear are invalid. Not everyone that commits a crime does it DELIBERATELY. A lot of murders done on the streets are PLOTTED, thought OUT. Some people are very much in there right minds and know exactly what they are doing and why. Doesn’t mean they’re crazy, moreso evil….

On the other hand, there are people who actually suffer from mental illness such as post partum, schiz, severe depression etc, that really don’t know what they are doing. Battling constantly with thoughts they can’t control. These people need professional help, friends to really intervene and try to get them help, medication, and etc….

I dated a college football player who turned down multiple offers to enter the draft and attend the combines. He played in the SEC, where they hit HARD. After one game vs. South Carolina, he blacked out on a country road, and no one could find him for almost 24 hours. an elderly couple was keeping him in their home until he could remember any contacts, since his phone had broken in the car crash. He suffers from migraines that keep him from working and now he has to live on SSI, and his alma mater won’t help at all! Junior Seau also used to lie in bed for days with migraines, and headaches are part of why Lawrence Taylor struggles with addiction even today. The NFL is miserly and contrary to this Saints’ witch hunt, Roger Goodell is not really concerned with these players’ safety. The new rules on hitting came from the NFLPA, not the owners. The owners just want a show. I hope anyone who has a son does NOT put him in football. I love football to death, but my son is playing golf!

What’s more sad is how the baby won’t be able to feel her Mother’s touch anymore… A baby that was in their mother’s stomach for 9 months has a connection to the mom and the fact that she won’t have that anymore brings tears to my eyes.

All his friends and hangers on can go ($#%* themselves. Period point blank, your woman is NOT, repeat NOT a possession. You don’t OWN her. Baby momma or whomever. even if he paid for her college classes. Even if she quit her job for whatever reason, she didn’t deserve to die. And wasn’t his momma in the house watching the baby? Didn’t he kill her GF in FRONT The fact that she left to go to her cousins house to get away from him and took the baby tells a lot. And im sure his drug use played a role in the killign as well, and im sure the NFL will sweep it under the rug.

Btw, if his so called friends knew he was pill popping and drinking etc to excess not to mention having anger management issues, why didn’t they try to help him long before now?

Two lives are gone and a child is without her parents. That is all that matters. What lead up to this really doesn’t matter. I’m sure he had his feelings and so did she in the end he took her life unjustifiably and sadly took his own afterwards. I’m not going to sit up here and call him names because in the end his last thought was knowing he took his daughters mother life and that he was going to take his own. That has to be a horrible way to end life. All I can say is I hope their daughter goes to the right hands and that I hope they both RIP

cat·a·lyst – A person or thing that precipitates an event. This person said that Kasi was the CATALYST to this event..then he says that he is not trying to defame her character? Puh-lease. We don’t want to hear from you, sir. You have admitted that this guy had head injuries, was an alcoholic and a drug attic, but you are trying to sell us on her being a gold-digger? She was full time mother of an infant who was expected to deal with a maniac and make good grades..oh and work too? COME ON! She was living according to a standard set. She could not “THINK” properly and I am assuming that her grades failed as a result of abuse. He also seemed to be a controlling individual which is why she probably only worked 4 hours a week. Then again, she could have been everything that you said, but that does not take away from who he was…obvi an abuser and in fact, a murderer. I feel extreme sadness for her family and his as well…oh and you too because you are in denial and seriously irresponsible.

She was working because he couldn’t make ends meet, and probably studying so that she could have a better future for herself and child. Deep down she saw what the future was like or knew what it would be like. She was struggling. Women know, and just because someone has money, it doesn’t mean that they Will give it to you. You will be surprised at how someone could become a prostitute in their own relationship or marriage for their children.

I, like most, can only cry for the baby and the families and the two men who now have to suffer for what happened.

It’s shameful to blame the victim in this case. I’m not going to condemn either one of the, ESPECIALLY Kasi. My heart breaks for this baby, but I know she will be loved and in good hands even without her mommy/daddy.

I am appalled that this site only chose to publish the comments from “his” side. You paint a very one sided picture. Then to allude to head injury being a possible cause.. The bottom line is that he took her life, then his own. There is NOTHING she could have done to justify that.

Man this right here is so tragic, all prayers going out to the famliy and friends. I still cant believe this happend, its obvious the man was dealing with demons but nobody was there to read the signs. My my im just heart broken over the fact that this lilttle baby girl I to spend the rst of her life without her parents.

In any situation it is 2 sides to a story while I do not condone domestic violence against women or men or anyone I will say Mr Jevon as Ms. Kasi both had people in they lives who love them dearly, Its hard to imagine what ones family is going through on BOTH SIDES Men well some men are built of strength and some men have the mental capabilities to handle rejection while other men cannot its a known fact that men cannot take the emotional pain and distress that women can not all women can deal with pain either this story hurts and its unimaginable to wonder what little zoey will endure when she is able to try to understand a piece of what has happen we as society always point the finger he was wrong no she was wrong at that moment in that young mans life we dont know what he was thinking we do know he didnt see an answer to what was troubling him in my humble opinion I dont have a heaven or hell to send him to and right now it hurts to know that things like this is happening in our world instead of criticize help reach out to a friend stop rejecting those around u who also need help mental disease is an illness and if we dont lend our hand it will be another story the same or worse. Little Zoey I pray GOD gives you and your care taker strength throughout your life and know you will be thought of AND PRAYED FOR more than you know.

The that I have is that family and friends knew the were beefing a lot and did nothing about it. Now everybody wanna play the blame game it realky doesn’t matter what anyone of y’all on these comments say none of us were there to witness what happened so we don’t know why hey did what they did. I just say gob bless there daughter and hopefully the grandparents can raise her the right way

I’ll just summarize what I did earlier and if it gets erased then I’ll know it’s a personal issue. Anywho, as I stated earlier I think it’s childish, immature, and offensive to point the blame at Kasi, especially when she was MURDERED by their friend Jovan. It is egregiously insensitive to her child and the family to blame his cowardice behavior on her. The fact of the matter is that Jovan should NOT be excused bc of his death. He is a coward, he is a murderer, and he is a low down selfish son-of-a-you know what! He left his only child without a parent in this world and I don’t care what anyone else has to say, that makes him selfish and low down. Once again, I pray for Kasi’s family and their child but thats about it. Mental illness is NO excuse to behavior in a socially reprehensible manners.

What if it was someone u knew that u were close to would they still be considered a coward?? No he had no right to take her life its no excuse. But name calling someone that u don’t even know and don’t know why they did what they did is uncalled for. I’m not taking sides I’m just saying have some respect for the dead u didn’t know the man or the girlfriend so stop judging #ijs

My condolences goes out to the family of Kasandra Perkins and well as the baby girl. I wanna know how Trey Songz got mixed up in this. I know she went to his concert and afterparty; but how does he think they’re sleeping together?

The reason for his actions we may never know but calling people “cowards” in these situations is why they don’t get help. He wasn’t known for a previous history of violence or alcoholism and appeared to be a a stable, hard-working guy who had just had a baby and signed a $2 million dollar contract.

He may have indeed looked good from the outside but been struggling with his relationship and the alcohol, head injuries and the like may have contributed. Calling men “weak:” and “cowardly,” who are struggling in this way is why they don’t get the help they need. Think about it, where does a 25-year-old successful black male go when he has relationship problems? Could someone have helped him if he had a safe person to talk to? The mental and emotional problems that men are dealing with impact our entire community yet they have very few places to get any assistance and they often resort to violence. This is just the latest case of the same kind of behavior.

As for those trashing this girl after the fact, shame. She is a victim. Laziness and gold-digging if that’s even true shouldn’t be fatal. She was 22 and a new mother. This is a sad situation for all and will continue if we don’t start to recognize and realize how much silent suffering our men are going through. Considering them “weak” does not solve the problem and until we realize that, it will sadly continue. Prayers to all, especially their baby girl.

Beautiful couple she was a beauty thats why he was jealous!!! He handsome to. He couldnt stand the fact she around other men at that concert. Thats what probably set it off that an other mess like they say!!! God please bless us

If she was a gold digger the blame should be put on the man for choosing someone who was not at his level of financial status. Why is it that they cannot go out and get the rich women who don’t need their money? He was mentally unstable and he ended up killing her. All that vomited gibberish is just that, vomit.

I don’t think anyone will REALLY know what happened in that household or why he committed such an act. what anyone else says is just their perspective on what they THINK was the cause.
very unfortunate situation

The whole thing is just so sad. You take your child’s mother’s life and including yours over her attending a concert. May God watch over that little girl and hope both sides of her family will come together and raise her well.

How is she the “catalyst”?! Regardless of her actions and any arguments prior to her murder, HE is/was the catalyst. He held the power in that situation, just as he held the gun and shot her and then himself.

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