LOL...I've been facing this dilemma as well. Girl is 23, turning 24 this weekend. We've been hanging out a lot, I can tell she likes me, and her daughter loves me. So much so that she lays on me while watching TV, always wanting to play, etc. (daughter is 2 almost 3) I actually really like her kid but I'm only 25 so I feel young for a 3 year old daughter.

I feel bad for her daughter the dad is a complete douche and hasn't even been picking her up latley. My biggest concern is I haven't seen her naked yet and I'm wondering how everything's gonna look!

Not gonna date this girl, prob just set up a FTF situation and then in return for the poon, I will entertain the kid.

LOL...I've been facing this dilemma as well. Girl is 23, turning 24 this weekend. We've been hanging out a lot, I can tell she likes me, and her daughter loves me. So much so that she lays on me while watching TV, always wanting to play, etc. (daughter is 2 almost 3) I actually really like her kid but I'm only 25 so I feel young for a 3 year old daughter.

I feel bad for her daughter the dad is a complete douche and hasn't even been picking her up latley. My biggest concern is I haven't seen her naked yet and I'm wondering how everything's gonna look!
Not gonna date this girl, prob just set up a FTF situation and then in return for the poon, I will entertain the kid.

Unfortunately, you can treat every case separate, but generally it will always be the same.

They're codependent, desperate for attention, and eccentric in order to attract you from typical women. What got them in the situation came from bad choices, and it's almost always both parties' fault.

Edit: they're eccentric because they know being a mom hurts their chances, so they become very sociable. That subsequently attracts guys that aren't good at meeting women, or dating--resulting in catastrophe.

Edit2: not surprised many guys on a BMW forum have done it/in one right now. The car usually masks the owners lack of abilities with women. Perfect match.

You definitely just made me not want to get pregnant for another 10 years lol.. Ouch.....

right?!!! I've heard some horror stories and I honestly give props to any girl that goes through with having a baby. you would have to pay me SO much money to be pregnant and deliver a kid.

It seems like the whole 9 months really sucks and then all you have to look forward to at the end is getting your pussy ripped open. Girls must have something special ingrained in their heads that lets them go through with all that.

right?!!! I've heard some horror stories and I honestly give props to any girl that goes through with having a baby. you would have to pay me SO much money to be pregnant and deliver a kid.

It seems like the whole 9 months really sucks and then all you have to look forward to at the end is getting your pussy ripped open. Girls must have something special ingrained in their heads that lets them go through with all that.

Eff that. I like my body just how it is and its staying that way for a while!!

Unfortunately, you can treat every case separate, but generally it will always be the same.

They're codependent, desperate for attention, and eccentric in order to attract you from typical women. What got them in the situation came from bad choices, and it's almost always both parties' fault.

Edit: they're eccentric because they know being a mom hurts their chances, so they become very sociable. That subsequently attracts guys that aren't good at meeting women, or dating--resulting in catastrophe.

Edit2: not surprised many guys on a BMW forum have done it/in one right now. The car usually masks the owners lack of abilities with women. Perfect match.

some real shyt right here.

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Originally Posted by Augenbrauezug

Just got out of a relationship with a girl with a 4 year old kid. It made things way more complicated and I doubt I'll do that again any time soon.

What made things way more complicated and curious as to why did it end?

My ex was a Washington Redskins Cheerleader and a Swimsuit Calendar cover girl.

We were married eight years.

She ultimately cheated twice, once with a convicted felon - and took a bunch of money from my family and I...all while I was teaching her kid how to play softball, or teaching her kid how to drive a car, or taking her kid on some fantastic vacations, and also carting her kid and her friends all over the place before she got her driver's license. By their own admission, I gave both my ex and her daughter a great life...my ex is pretty emotionally unstable though. A lot of that came from being told how hot she was for all those years. She never got over being the NFL Cheerleader / quasi-celebrity - she needed that attention and when it was over, she struggled with it. I have no kids of my own but I treated her daughter as if she were my own...I put in a lot of time, love, and money only to get kicked in the teeth for all my efforts.

My ex apologizes all the time and even asked me to take her back a few times...as she still currently lives in our $300k custom built home with her unemployed ex-con boyfriend.

No thanks.

It may work for some...but for me personally - no way, never again.

If it doesn't work out, how do you break away totally from a kid that you helped raise? It gets pretty messy after a break up...it's not fun at all.
Not to mention all the drama with her biological father over the years.

Dating or marrying a "hot" chick brings all kinds of complications all by itself so when you add children to that mix...you can be really rolling the dice with your future and your finances.

My ex was a Washington Redskins Cheerleader and a Swimsuit Calendar cover girl.

We were married eight years.

She ultimately cheated twice, once with a convicted felon - and took a bunch of money from my family and I...all while I was teaching her kid how to play softball, or teaching her kid how to drive a car, or taking her kid on some fantastic vacations, and also carting her kid and her friends all over the place before she got her driver's license. By their own admission, I gave both my ex and her daughter a great life...my ex is pretty emotionally unstable though. A lot of that came from being told how hot she was for all those years. She never got over being the NFL Cheerleader / quasi-celebrity - she needed that attention and when it was over, she struggled with it. I have no kids of my own but I treated her daughter as if she were my own...I put in a lot of time, love, and money only to get kicked in the teeth for all my efforts.

My ex apologizes all the time and even asked me to take her back a few times...as she still currently lives in our $300k custom built home with her unemployed ex-con boyfriend.

No thanks.

It may work for some...but for me personally - no way, never again.

If it doesn't work out, how do you break away totally from a kid that you helped raise? It gets pretty messy after a break up...it's not fun at all.
Not to mention all the drama with her biological father over the years.

Dating or marrying a "hot" chick brings all kinds of complications all by itself so when you add children to that mix...you can be really rolling the dice with your future and your finances.

Just my opinion.

That's a tough one. Yea that's something to think about, you don't just break up with the lady, it's the kid too.