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MOM Guest Post: HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO MY STEPMOM!

It takes all kinds of Moms to make the world go round and I'm pleased to be hosting "The Evil Stepmother" who blogs and offers advice to other step parents at theevilstepmotherspeaks.com, plus she's just plain funny!

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO MY STEPMOM!(NOT SO MUCH!)

As a stepmom, I secretly always thought to myself…what would
I rather do?Face Mother’s Day or poke
my eyes out with sticks?I choose the
second option.If stepmoms were going to
be honest, they would tell you that Mother’s Day is a nightmare.

Mother’s Day is a guiltfest for the stepchildren. It is just a lose-lose proposition for
them. If they spend the day with their
bio mom, then there is a chance their stepmom and/or their dad will be angry
with them. If you spend any time with
your stepmom, there is a good chance that your bio mom will be mad.

Sometimes, the children have to measure exactly what they
are doing so that the presents or events are ‘better’ for their bio mom. Can you imagine trying to decide how to
celebrate every year? The whole event is
just exhausting.

Here is what has worked for me. Let the whole Mother’s Day thing go. If you think about it, the day does not
really mean anything. Our thoughts give
the day meaning. Tell your stepchildren
that they are off the hook and to enjoy the day with their bio mom. Then, create a special day that works for
you. Do something that you really enjoy
and invite your stepchildren to join you.
Play tennis. Go bowling. Take a hike.
Take a cooking class. Whatever
you do, label it with a fun title like:
“She’s Not My Mother Bowling Classic” or “Cooking with the Woman Who is Not My
Mother”. Then, add a ‘winner’ to the
day. So, one of your lucky stepchildren
will be come the champion of the bowling tournament or the top chef. Present a fun award.

Next year, your stepchildren will be begging you to repeat
the event. Try it. It will work.
Email me your stories!