Imply She’s Into You

Flirt by telling her she’s so into you or, even better, that you’re worried she is in danger of falling for you.

Her mind be running ;).

When in doubt whether you’re interested in her or in her venture, imply she’s interested in YOU instead ;).

Imply She’s Seducing You

Getting a bit racier and sexual.

Sometimes women want to poke right at your nether region to get a raise out of you. That’s the perfect time to flirtatiously turn the table on them. They’re dressing up? Just right out of shower? Don’t take the bait, go texty caveman and show your cards (leave that for later): tell her she’s using all tricks to seduce you instead ;).

Leave Her Aching for More

And just when fireworks are about to get off and she’s turning into a too hot to handle mess… You pull back.

Women love the mystery, the hinted. Don’t spoil it by trespassing into the obvious and crude, but kiss them good night and tuck them up.. :).

…And guess who they’ll be thinking of when waking up? 🙂

Go Sexual if She Flirts Sexual

She mentioned bondage first: safe play 🙂

And now the big one. Flirting is hinting at sexual. It’s (technically) not flirting anymore if you’re openly discussing sex.

Rule #1: hints and mystery are sexy, clinical and crude are not. Rule #2: fully sexual is very risky: proceed with caution.

Exceptions are: she starts it, she sends nudes or she opens up sexually.

Direct sexual flirting works best with:

Older women (you’re the toy boy)

Online dating (filter in DTF, filter out “no ONS”)

Married women (you’re the sexy distraction)

MILFs (got the baby already, no time for games)

Hint At Babies Together

Hinting at the product of sex is a unique, flirtatious way of broaching sex as a foregone conclusion between you two. If you’re talking babies, sex obviously is going to happen.

Of course, use it only when it’s abundantly obvious you’re kidding or it’s not flirting but family planning (and not cool :).

Perfect for:

A Tinder match opening message

Different “races” where you play the “cute mix card”

Somehow black girls seem to love it

Move From Flirt to Meet

Flirting is the preamble of something better -and real- to possibly happen. Imagine text flirting as the drum-roll. Drum-rolls glorify your daring entrance, but If all you do is drumrolling and no cigar, then… Then you might as well shoot the football breeze with your pals.

Be a guy who gets the job done instead: flirt a bit and then go for the “date”.

And Enjoy Flirting

Flirting excites us, makes us smile and cheers us up. It’s one of life’s pleasure: adopt this mentality and you’ll flirt better.

I love women who can flirt. Big grin when she implied her private dance would be “too much for me” :).

From Russia with Dance Moves, what’s not to Love 🙂

Bonus: These Ain’t Flirting But Cheese

I took a look around before writing this post and I’ve noticed there is some terrible advice from the most popular sources.

Read below what to avoid and in blue why they’re terrible.

“I know you’re probably thinking of me, so we might as well text”

=I was thinking of you but I’m awkwardly hiding behind a smokescreen.

“We’re breaking up, you’re too much trouble”

“Funny” relationship push/pull. But the sexiest flirts are wary of relationship-talk: they know women would tie them down.

“And that makes you my third favorite girl to text to”

Good if you’re a teen. Otherwise it implies you text a lot. And no, implying you text a lot to girls is still not sexy.

“You’ll never guess what I’m doing right now”

=You’re not doing anything obviously. Except pondering of a cheesy way to contact her, that is.

Any fun / smart way of asking for nudes

What’s the nudes’ intended use? Because learning how to flirt with a girl over text is actually all about doing stuff in person.

Summary: How to Flirt With a Girl Over Text

Flirting with a girl is a bit of an art, but follow these guidelines and your text flirting will improve dramatically. And your texts will stand out, because any hint at sex is also a huge attention grabber.

A parting note: in person impression is paramount. Flirting with a girl over text works best when shes thinks you are flirt-worthy… In person. No excuse for cheese, but at that point, even average stuff becomes strong text flirting 🙂

Thank you Anon (I removed an F word from your message FYI). Are you referring to the “mixed babies message?”. Yes I am white but don’t think that the main reason the text works. I’ve been traveling in a few African countries for a month or so and visited a friend of mine living in Guinea. Maybe a hundred or so texts there. Of course there was a difficult to quantify “man from Europe” boost + (white) exotic points, but it was very helpful to skip a lot of “how are you” and neutral texts to jump into heavy flirting. And I also found it to be working great in Europe so it it’s not just a geography thing.