How can I be less shy?

I'm really shy, and when I'm with people I don't know very well, I always just back out of the conversation and stay by myself. Do you have any suggestions on how to be more open?

Paige, 13, Dunbar, PA

I can definitely relate. I've always felt awkward entering any parties or conversations where I didn't know people really well. I used to wish I could just melt into the ground.

But then I read an interview with my boss where she revealed her secret--it's not so revolutionary, but it definitely works. Just stick out your hand and say, "Hi, my name is Paige" (with a big smile!). OK, you're probably not shaking people's hands in high school, so the smile will be enough.

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Another way to enter a conversation is to pay the person a (genuine) compliment, like, "I love your belt." People respond positively to upbeat, confident, and nice people, and you have all of those qualities--you just have to show them. And gradually you'll believe this about yourself and know that your point of view in any conversation deserves to be heard. Start practicing over the summer so you feel natural doing this by September.