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136 Comments

Vidushi Sharma

September 23, 2017

I would like my mother to join the association, She is retired ACP from Delhi Police. With almost 10 years experience in ‘ Crime against Women Cell’, New Delhi. She has vast experience in cases against women and MEN, Lot of people still come to her for consultancy and advice . I would like her to extend her help and support to your association, to be able to help more families and save them from trauma. Please advise, the process to join your organisation. For now, i will give my phone number for you to contact… 8527592030

With reference to the subject cited above I would like to introduce myself Sri Suvadip Sarkar, a social worker, I visit your website and go through your working process. I am also interested work with your associate ngo rendering services to the public in there distresses regarding their leaving conditions, social deprivations and that sorts, in the district of Malda and as well as other districts of West Bengal.

Now I would like to have your guide-line, assistance and advice in those matters organisationally, professionally and financially- whatever you may deem fit for our possible cooperation in the related matters between your steamed organisation.

My DIL filed 498a and dv in 2012 .Married in 2009 and left to her house with all her things and my son’s jewels from USA in oct 2011. She is abusive , filth etc. This her second marriage . I 2002 she ran away from home in UK with all her jewels and came to India . When she was about to be sold in red light area her parents saved her . This was known to us only in 2013. However her parents told us that she was a divorce but no one knows in their family . They want us keep it as secret. Parents did not attend the marriage on very flimsy ground . Further her only brother also came and spent two hrs . He left before marriage could be completed . I got stay order from Chennai HC . Now the hearing came asked my son to be their for counselling . Myself and my wife attended . The judge was wondering why iPP asked for counselling . Any way seeing our age he has given the date as 06Jun2017. Does this call for my son to come or we can proceed ourselves . Kindly advise on this . Can i meet any of your rep at Chennai ? Kindly guide us .

Hello.
my name is sanjeev and I am from (Christchurch) New Zealand.
Basically I am from (Kurukshetra) Haryana.
I am seeking help from you .
I am in big trouble over here.
please I want to be the part of this Organisation.

I live in Amritsar. I am in big trouble.i am married for last three years. My wife is insulting me frequently and use to threaten me of police case. Today while we were going to market to buy a washing machine for my mother, she was constantly telling me that I spend without thinking. On the way to the market I had to stop due to traffic, she just got down from the scooter and started shouting that she doesn’t want to live with me and I beat her. I seriously couldn’t understand, what to do. Public started looking at me. I felt very ashamed. One old man came and started supporting my wife. Then she said she want to file a complaint against me. He helped her to get to police station. It was late in the evening, so I didn’t want my wife to be alone, I went to police station along with them. There she complained about me that I beat her. Police men made me sign an apology letter to my wife and told me that if she files one more complaint, they will take very strict action against me.
Then on the way from police station to home, she said she want to have food in a hotel and will not eat at home.
After eating at hotel, we came back home.
She is acting very odd after that. She told me she will file a case against me and charge money from me in the court.
I am only son of my parent and parents are very old. I have a 16 year son from my last wife, I married this woman, who told me she is unmarried before our marriage and later I found out she is a divorced and also has a son, whom she left with his father.
I felt cheated, but after she said, she had to say that to get married, and convinced me that she had no intention to cheat, I agreed, because it was even my second marriage.
During her last divorce she charged money from her last husband.
But I ignored it, because I thought, I don’t have any right to interfere with her previous life.
Now after just three years she started same with me, and proving that I beat her.
I am living in fear now, I have to go back and join my job, Now if I leave her with my parents and son, she will create trouble for them. She has friends from NGOs.

Just read about you on internet, felt like I have someone to talk to.

I don’t know you will help me or not, but I am relieved, just by writing and hoping that you will read it.

I am trapped in Indian law of marriage.

I don’t want to live this life, but can’t die, because I have old parents to take care and a son to support.

Laws in India are really shameful and biased, legislatures even if they know the fact that married women occasionally torture the husband and his family members, they still make such laws which take away the hope of justice for a man. Really shameful of being a citizen where law itself create discrimination and claim that the same encourage equality. Where is equality and equal rights??

This is Nitin,
I know that my case is not big problem for any one. But it’s a big problem for me as I am a boy and no laws are meant against women. This is the main issue.

Actually I had affair with a girl, we decided to get married but after a certain period of time, she denied to get married with me. Just because I got angry with her on wearing a blue suit.

I spent all of my savings around 5-7lac rupees just for ful filling her all wishes during marriage.
New car
Designer dress
International honeymoon package
Jewelry ,(jewellery are with me but all jewelry is her choice)

Even everything I did as per her choice.
She also had sex with me multiple times and she also stayed at my rented flat with me many times.
We also did private marriage in room before having sex.

But now she Doesn’t won’t to get married, I can’t say anything because she may put allegations on me. And every one knows all laws in such cases are against men.

I just want that is there way to punish her. She played with my emotions and my body

If I were did so then she might have filled a complaint against me. But I m a boy that why I can’t do anything.

I am feeling that she left after raping my emotions. Because she is girl, she can leave. But why?

Pls help me, iwant her to be published. I attempted suicide 1 time.
I want that she must get a punishment. Pls help me

How can I join MRA IN Chennai. Me and my family members are facing legal case. We are stuck. Our life is becoming …..need suggestions and help to fight false allegations against us. domestic violence case Sec 12,
Pls contact..

Hello Sir, good morning.
My apologies for the long history of my case. Below are the details…

I got married (Hindu arrange marriage ) on DEC-2015 and strictly no dowry. From the day one my wife said she will leave before entering into the car. Later in the same after marriage ceremony finished , I found that she was reading her whats app msgs and crying . I found that her last boyfriends birthday was that day. On the day of the marriage her last boyfriend came to her house in the morning and she was ready to elope where her parents forced her to marry me as my barat already near to her house. But, when we were speaking before marriage and she told that she does not have or did have anything and she is completed agreed to our marriage.After 4 days when I stayed together she started the same story that she will leave. 6th day of the marriage , I called her parents and I told in front of my mom and her mom that she is telling me like this ( did not tell everything as my mom and her mom are old and they cannot tolerate all these). But, her mom told that my mom will take it seriously and pls do not tell her and if she will do anything after marriage , I will let her know. Then her parents stayed in our house for more than 8 days where she did not do any weird things. When her parents went to their house and her mom took her phone and destroyed it as there are lot of nude pics with her boyfriends and chats in her cell phone where I do not know her cell phone was gone. Then we went for visa stamping and came back to USA in 3 days. After landing her in USA , she started all the mental torchers where many times are a life risk ( like— breaking glasses, burning my house 5 times while talking/chatting to her frnds/boyfrnds, breaking laptop/phone, breaking plates, crashing doors many many times when she is angry, jumping out of car in the middle of the road where the car speed was more than 75 mils(110 kms)/hr, open gas with unattended , slapping in my face, biting my hand where blood came, extreme violent in the night where neighbors complained in the building management, two suicide notes , always asked for a lawyer in USA or anywhere in the middle of the night to get separated and in the morning , she tells that I love and want to stay with u ;, ran out of my house here in USA 3 times but later after 15 to 20 mins , she came back and told me that I cannot leave without you ; threatened me to poison me when she was chatting with her boyfrnd on that day , at last acted as she had having a heart attack due to I tried to tell all these to her mom then I called the 911 emergency service and she got up and cut the phone and told me that she is ok now and want to sleep; after all that I have all the recordings, pics and adult pics of many guys with her last boyfrnd as well, hotel bills, train and bus tickets.. blah.. blah..). I have been tortured everyday starting from my marriage date to Sept-2016 here in USA where I was not able to go to work on time and at last I lost my job recently. On August , my father was ill then we both went to our house (India) and the next day her father came and she went to her house. She was not ready to go to India or our home any time and also, her mom told not to come to India. She hide her all facebook accounts with duplicate name, gmails ( 20- duplicate and fake), live mail, in mail, gtalk and skype accounts. But due to my father’s illness (cardiac problem) , she agreed to visit India. There are many things where I never Imagine she did with other guys also and at last me. She stole one of her boyfriend’s Indian passport and certificates and brought to USA .When I asked her where u kept all these and we can return to that guy and he may be suffering with all these. but, she lied that all r may be somewhere and later one month she told that she tore it and put it in fire where she is completely lying in this as no one will put a fire in house where fire alarm will start. She lied many things before after engagement / marriage as well and she started talking to her all boyfriends when I was left the house for work where I have the skype chats and pics proof. Also, I noticed her name was changed on 2013 and I found the proof which is totally fake name change certificate then she changed her passport with the new name. I found many fake offer letters , medical certificates proofs where many guys helped her( I have all their names and emails). Presently, I am not sure, if she was secretly married earlier to any of the guy that triggered her to change her last name without their parents notice . we are from a simple family where my life is totally messed up/destroyed by her. She has 20 emails ID and recently ( OCT-6th-2016) she deleted the ids where I have the proofs. She never stayed @ our house and she stayed with me only for 7 months. Later June-2016, I found that she had 2 personal loans where she need money for EMIs payment and she does not have money to pay which was totally surprised to me.
Later she asked me to give her a job if not I will pay her 2 personal loans where she refused to disclose the amount and neither share anything . From the day one she never share anything to me and gave vague excuses to me that we should know each other first then we can share things. I tried her to take to marriage counselors here in USA and failed 3 times after booking the appointments and also, failed 3 times for the psychiatrist doctor appointments (I have the proofs). She told that she will not go any body for our issue, nor to any doctor and threaten me to suicide by pressing her neck in mangal sutra. My apologies, there are many things which I cannot share in the public forum.
I have consulted many colleagues and my family frnds and they suggested to take her some honeymoon places and she may change. I took her many nice places in East cost of USA and spent all my savings in her. But, I want to save my marriage and I tried a lot during these 8 months of marriage. Spraying god every day morning and evening, awake many nights for her bcs, I do not want if she will do any stupid things. But, all r no use and she will never change as I got her chats now recently that she is the same person how her attitude and behavior will change.

Now, my parents ( in India) are asking her parents to visit our house and they want to tell everything. But, last 1 month her parents are not coming to our house as they know how their daughter is. There is an attempt to murder case and torcher ( 498a) against her mother’s name which was given by her uncle’s first wife where I do not till Sept-2016. Her uncle is married to his second wife without the divorce to his first wife where still the case is ongoing in India.

I swear to God, we did not know and never found anything anything before marriage and even if she lied her qualifications ( BTECH and MBA) but later when there was the visa interview, I found that she has BBA and MBA in some online colleges ( she convinced me and told me BBA and MBA where I heard wrong or read her chats or resume wrong). I believe, certificates may be fake where I blindly trust her as she acted very nicely where no one in this world will ever know/ notice. That’s why she succeed in her life till now to screw many guys ( even if married men as well) and companies (reputed IT companies)

Please help me what are my options and how will I get a real justice in this situation. My parents are old and I do not want any case against ( 498A) on them as they are in India and also, our reputation will vanish if that happens then they may die in hearth attack. Presently, I am in USA and looking for a job. Please please help me what are my options so that she will never harm/hurt anyone nor my family and me…. as she did enough to many guys ( have all email proofs and screen shots) and enough to me …

I truly appreciate ur help and many thanks in advance. God bless you all for your guidance and help on my situation. Crying for help here :(((( !

I am from pune. My wife is troubling me physically mentally emotionally my marriage is of 4 years and evry day i have been suffering she has filed 498 and dv case on me and evry now and then she doing false complaint and keeping me in lockup i have a daughter i m not allowed ….i m very badly trapped please i need help can i come and meet MRA team.

My wife left me after 3 months of marriage… she took advantage of my night shit and stole all jwellery from my home. Then called police at my home and told police that husband asking dowry and husband maarta hai… jabke aisa kuch hua he nahi hai. Ab court me domestic violence and dowry ka face case daal deya hai… Maintenance bhi pay kar raha hu wife ko. Ab vo police me FIR kar de hai . Wife ke mother ko breast cancer ho gaya hai toh court me case daal deya hai ke alimony maang rahi hai. Out of court settlement ke liye kaha tha kisi ko toh wife and her family member abused that person. Wife is capable of doing job but she is not doing job… Even differently-able people are doing job these days so why cant an well educated women doing job. I want out of court settlement of all my case and I want to get separate form my wife so that we can live our life peacefully. Please help
Mobile number 9910668733

I am Dinesh belonging to middle class family and married in 2010 with the avergae family girl. Now its been 6+ yrs of marriage and still my wife don’t care much about her in-laws(my parents). She always talks rude and want heropinion to be given priority.

Her parents are the main culprits. They teach her and she being dumbo follow it blindy. We have several incidents that she provide the household things to her parents without my knowledge. Their misdeed got caught on 5th Aug 16 when one of the water bag which my daughter has got as reward was found in her mother’s bag. When asked she said its unknowingly been put in the bag. N ow you tell me how come the water bag will walk on its own and will reside in a bag from 8 feet high shelf :). This is just one incident another incidents are like she provide some of the husehold things(e.g. Musterd, spice) which my parents carry to our home whenever they visit us in Pune. She has given such things to her parents too, becuse how come a 1 kg of mustard beans will be finished in a month
She talks with her parents everyday and never calls my parents. We can understand oon daily basis there is nothing to be discussed for 15/20 mins, their talk for so long itself suggests that they are the main culprits. Because i can see the behavioural change after those mot**** fuc**** calls her.

Even my elder daughter was not talking to my parents on phone. When ever i used to ask my daughter to Aji/Ajoba she used to look/stare at my wife in a very frightened manner. She was then 3 yrs old, i took her to terrace and asked her to tell me freely without any pressure if someone told her not to talk to grandpa and grandma. She finally opend up and said yes mother told me not to talk. I told my daughter that don’t get afraid and if nyone will other you, your fayher(me) will beat him/her(“ala tu ghabru nako tuza baba ekach fight deil tula jo asa shikvat asel tyala”). My daughter being a very innocent told same to wife and she again started argument on it.

There are many such incidents i have documented in my daily diary. I am really frustrated but dont want to take decision of separation as my elder daughter( yrs old) and recently blessed with baby boy(20 days).

They are really thieves because we have heard a lot from their relatives about the kind of family they are.

Dear sir, I am a central govt employee and living 500 kms to my family place i.e. hyderabad. Nearer to hyderabad my wife is working in govt school on contract basis. my mother and my 3 years old son living along with my wife. i am going weekly to hyderabad. i married 4 years back. every time my wife quarrels with me and broughts my in laws for quarreling. last month my mother met with a road accident and brain damaged. now she is at home. as ususal my wife quarlled with me and my in laws beaten me and taken my wife along with them. Now after few days they are block mailing me like “if you not listen to our words and taken your wife by asking apology we will take extreme steps. Dear sir, i am very much struggled with my wife and in laws. Now what may be the legal consequences i have to face if they put cases on me. please suggest me. Thanking you sir, Yours sincerely Vn prasad

I Say our marriage Solemnised in 03/12/2008 Udupi District Karnataka
On dated 02.06.2015 my wife (Preeti) and her father a decree of divorce by mutual consent. Case no: 164/2015 and they mention we mutually agreed that we have no claims against each other. And court gives six months’ time. On date 02/12/2015 her father saying you sign for divorce. but I am not signed. Because below mentioned what they given to me.
When I am not signed the paper they put dowry case and harassment case.

1) I Transferred Around Ind Rs,34,00,028/- For Jayram Salian( My wife father) A/C And Amit Kumar A/c
2) My Father Transferred Ind Rs, 1, 00,000/- For Amit Kumar (My Wife brother) A/C Both I have Bank Transaction.
3) After marriage I took to her Bahrain after 1 year because there is Visa problem.
4) I take land 16.5 Cents (Ind Rs, 18, 50,000.00) With Registration in Padubidri Nadsal Udupi (Survey No.68 1A1). But there are mention only 14 Cents
5) I take other Land 5 Cents Padubidri Nadsal Udupi Same Place(Ind Rs 10,00,000.00 ) But they are not still registration. Now May be 2 year Finish.
6) I ask several time for jayaram salian for the registration for land but they refuse my word (this are all planed)
7) My wife brother threaten me he always saying broken my head. He killed me. He beat me. But I am not complaining anywhere.
8) When she left my house she saying I don’t need anything for myself. this word saying in front for lawyer also( Ullal)
9) There is more then 3,00,000/- my gold with them.
10) Petition No M.C.No 164/2015 we mutually agreed that we shall have no claims against each other but they mention Petition Under Section M.C.No431/2015 i ask Dowry for them. When I already transferred Ind Rs 34, 00,038.00 there A/C then how I ask for dowry for them.And She will mention I will threaten P.V.S Junction kodialbail Mangalore. But why she same time Complaint to Police.
When she came in Bahrain everyday she took any reason fight with me. my boss. Is know that and he will everyday compromise our but she has no listen.
After marriage three years we don’t have any child. Then we treat kims hospital (Kingdom of Bahrain) 9th Nov 2012. But she came in India Jan, 2013 one month
Staying .she came back again Bahrain .i attached report also. Total Treatment expenses
Ind rs.2, 00,000.00 with medicine. Travelling expenses

11) She doing Diploma in Business Administration LCCI (London university Kingdom of Bahrain) I expand more than Ind Rs. 2,50,000.00
12) She Mention M.C.No.164/2015 we staying in Shriyan Nilaya Longlane Hoigebail Urva Mangalore-575006 she is big lier. We are not staying anywhere in Mangalore.
13) She Mention Petition M.C.No:431/2015 heavy Consumption of alcoholic. If I am alcoholic why boss kept me 9 years working. I Woking there intellectual hardworking innovating and keen my work.
14) Totally I expand more then 42, 00,000/-in 6 years then also they put dowry case me.
15) Now father is mental disorder (Senior Citizen) he age is now 80 my mother age is 70.
14) Now i am also in mental stress. Pls suggest me what should be done I am job less also what actions can be taken against them .what are my option…I am thinking of complaining about this to counselors and take next step about separation… I am ready for MCD..but i am not sure if they will agree for it.they will fight it to have huge sum of amount. Will it be advisable to file for divorce on mental cruelty on my own? If i file on my own.
So far I appeal to kind consideration my request, please advise next course of action. Your reply is very helpful and needful me sir,

I want to join MRA. I had love marriage my wife live with me for 3 months and then she used abusive words on my parents infront of me and left my home. My wife and her father both are advovate and they are giving mental harrasment to me and my family.

I want to join MRA. I am suffering from mental harrasment. I had love marriage my wife live with me for 3 months then she used abusive words on my parents in front of me. And left home. Both my wife and her father is advovate and they r harrassing me

Hii Sir,
I’m victim of victim of 498A, I was married in 2007 to the daughter of Sr. Advocate in Mainpuri (UP), my father in law very smartly hide the fact of the mental illness has daughter for quite long, when we came to know about her suffering from Bipolar Disorder and Schizophrenia from VIMHANS, DELHI and discuss about the concealment and cheating, he filed the many cases in 2014 against me and all 6 family members (mother, father, elder sister & jijaji, younger brother & his wife) in following sections 498A, 307, 504, 506 and 3/4 DP Act, another case in 406, 504, 323, 419 etc, also temprory injection and maintenance under 125. By misusing his profession and his administration connection the police has arrested my father and my Jijaji who got bail after 22 days. We have filed FIR quashing, CS quashing ect and got no releif from district court and HC. We are innocent and I would like to fight to get rid of me and my family from all this and need your support.
Rgds,
Akhil
+91 9971005336

Hello Sir,
I had a love marriage from last 4yrs my wife is doubting on me with my school friend an i have affair we have several times clarified but then also she is not listening my brother an rest of relatives are against me now they have brain wash her an she has filed case in domestic violence act 2005.Also she has blamed me of harassment not giving food clothes all are false statement
Kindly suggest me what to should i do

I got divorce with mutual consent on 21-Apr-2014 after paying a lump sum amount to my ex-wife. I have a daughter which was in 5th standard when my divorce happened. I agreed to bear the educational expenses of my daughter provided that they are within my limit, and I am regularly paying her fees through net banking since 6th standard. But recently I have received a notice from family court Indore under section 18 Family court code 1984 and CPC 1908. There she demands me to pay her fees for 5th, 6th and 7th standard. which is around Rs. 78500, I want to know how to handle this case

I am Vijay. I have married in 2014. early days were happy, but after after my wife was not happy with my family because my parents are not permitted to her for any independence and contact with her family. but she was not ready to that situation and she had shouting and torcharing to may parents, we are contacted with her all family persons and sole this questions and get her back home that time she was pregnent.
affter baby birth she come back home. and within five months she was shouting and torcharing to me and my parents.I was giving sum amount of money to my parents and that time she was shouting for for stopsuch payments and she was largely misbehaved with may parents and demading those money back . my family financcial situation is so bad so my parents have impossible to give. That situation was so critical and so I have taken a flat on rent, but she is not comfirtable to arrange that situation and after 20-30 days she was shoutiong and mis behaving with may parents on phone, and demaning a home from them,
Dear sir
What I do for solve this situation

I, Jasdev Singh and my family have been deeply framed by my lawyer wife in false cases. She, along with her advocate colleagues pressurising us to shed out huge amount of money. Harassed at every level, helpless, we are battling a big battle as my wife putting false allegations of dowry and prepared medical report of Domestic Violence with her influence. Although we never demanded any dowry and never ever touched her as we are well educated family and strictly against the curse called “Dowry”. I have 1.3 years daughter which she took along before framing us. Now she has support of advocates union members and she is using the influence over police and in court as well. Me and my family is in shock and ran out of money in court cases and to police defending ourselves. My wife Dipti Mahindru (Lawyer at Amritsar Courts) uses abusive and filthy language threatening us to transfer property in her name. Although the case is in court but police has made us accused & Criminal without any evidence although we have filed a suite in high court. The high court said that the life and liberty of the family should not be breached till the investigation is going on. We are under fear and mental torture as my wife is threatening to put more false cases on us. We are framed . Kindly help us and make changes in the law so that no more innocent families get trapped.

Respected sir,
I am kunal sharma advocate from shimla Himachal Pradesh India..Sir do you have a branch in Shimla..i am intereated in joining your mens rights organisation to support and put forth the value of man in the society…now a days such women friendly laws had made men depressed, harrassed emotionally, mentally and financially…they marry for making a relationships work but the greedy women destroys it including the illegal interferances of the women parents in the couples family…gender neutral law is the only solution and a seperate commission for men….because the blindness is much higher in percentage when the issue of mens rights comes in….please permit me to join the organisation of yours so that as a lawyer i can assume the charge of spreading this message to every village and urban area to men…sir media is a tool for a putting the wrongs in society to be seen by public at large so plz use the media also as a source for the rights of men..regards Kunal Sharma advocate shimla..my mobile number is 098166 03280, 98172 03280.

Dear Kunal,
First of all, I am not a victim of women skewed laws yet. But I like to work for equality of men in our society. Good to see good profiled members like you willing to help men in the society. Any online forum should enable easy membership as this is only key factor to have impact. I found this org charging for membership which many may be reluctant. I hope we can work together to have good impact in the society. kindly drop a mail sridharan2k1@yahoo.com.

Mr. Sharma, you have very well mentioned the current state of the affairs that male members of the society have to go thru. I feel in the wake of protecting right of female government and our legal system is forgetting the rights of a man. The dignity of man have been compromised thru the outlook our society has adopted.

Dear Sir,
My marriage was an LOVE marriage. After a decade & lot of suffering, We have a legal child .i face lot of injustice she file complaint at mahila help line ,dehradun and behalve wildy with me and my child pl suggest what to do . She made a big group of people who can do any evil act. Being alone, she looted me like anything. She always threaten me for the laws in favour of women and associations of women in India. She neither want to live together nor want to take divorce. She used to abuse me and fight like wild animal but now my inner core shaking me to reply and raise the voice after a decade of suffering. That I bear because of future of a child. Could you please suggest me the ways out.

Dear Sir,
My marriage was an arrange marriage. After a decade & lot of suffering, I came to know that my wife, just marry me to have a legal child but not to stay with me. Just after a child, she is trying to prove me wrong as many as ways possible. She made a big group of people who can do any evil act. Being alone, she looted me like anything. She always threaten me for the laws in favour of women and associations of women in India. She neither want to live together nor want to take divorce. She used to abuse me and fight like wild animal but now my inner core shaking me to reply and raise the voice after a decade of suffering. That I bear because of future of a child. Could you please suggest me the ways out.

in india consexual relationship with promise of marry & later refuse to marry the girl is considered as rape in
our country but this is injustise i want to change this foolish law pls give reply for my comment my email id : dexterintegrated@gmail.com

We are (my whole family)in a big trouble because of my wife.Everyday we are facing new troubles as she lodged all types of complaints against us eg murder,dowry,tourture etc.We are now help less and hopeless as police and media both are with her as she is a women and whatever she said is right.Please help us …

What is your reaction on the recent Hindu Minority and Ward Act Amendment Bill done by law commission recently. The major clause in this is ‘making mother also natural guardian for the minor son or daughter’. As it is, Men have been fighting for the custodial rights of the kids and if this comes into effect, men will be even more deprived. MRA should take strong position against this and make sure this is not implemented.
BTW, do you have offices in south? Kochi, Trivandrum, Hyderabad, Chennai, Bangalore??

I the undersigned Shri Gaurav Vargante (28) resident of Thane-Maharashtra married to Kum. Chaitali Handrol (25) resident of Solapur-Maharashtra on Feb. 4, 2014. My father-in-law Shri Shivaji Handrol wanted to take my wife Smt. Chaitali to his house at Solapur on the eve of Raksha Bandhan festival on Aug. 7, 2014 and hence he had called my father at day before coming at our place. Since I was not well and my mother’s hand was burnt hence my father requested him to take her a week later. However he arrived at my house on Aug. 7, 2015 morning and forcibly taken Smt. Chaitali along with him for the festival. Smt. Chaitali too went happily with her father Shri Shivaji without my consent. Shri Shivaji brought back Smt. Chaitali to my house after over 2 months accompanying with them a few more relatives in early morning on Oct. 12, 2014 and started arguments/ accusations with me and my parents. Since the arguments reached at peak, I called my uncles for help. On my uncle resolving the arguments on petty matters, they all left without keeping my wife with me. Later on to my utter surprise, I realised that, my wife filed complaint with Mahila Suraksha Kaksh (MSK)-Solapur in Dec. 2014. MSK held 2 hearings on Jan. 5 & Feb. 16, 2015 and even when I was ready to take her home, she did not come with me. Later on MSK advised her suitably. Then Smt. Chaitali filed another case against me, my parents and grandmother (who stays separatley) under Secs. 12, 17, 18, 19, 20, 22, 23 of Domestic Violence Act 2005 on March 3, 2015(seen on net).
Smt. Chaitali seems to be misguided by her father and uncle in such a way that recently she has filed one more compaint against me, my parents and grandmother with local police against CPC 438 & IPC 498-A 323 504 r.w 34 for which police send me notice dated May 7, 2015 and avised us to remain present in their polce stn. on May 11. However my father received the notice after 3.45 p.m. on May 13, 2015 without any postal seal of Thane post office. Hence my father conveyed to the police officer named Shri Shaikh over phone the status by 4.30 p.m. and assured him to remain present at the police station-Solaur at the earliest. By 7.30 p.m. on the same day, I received a call from Shri Nimkar advising me to report to the police station. I assured Shri Nimkar on May 16, 2015 to report to him on May 19, 2015 (the earliest tain reservation I could get) citing reasons of my parents ill-health to which he okayed.
Accordingly my parents and I raeched the MIDC police station on May 19, 2015 by 10 a.m. and called up Shri Sonone-Investigation Officer (IO) informing him of our presence in the police station as per his said notice. Since IO was at city head quarters then, he asked us to reach us there. On reaching there he took us from one ploice station to another with short frequencies but the purpose of this exercise could not be known as he did not produce us before his seniors-he did not held any inquiry-he threatend us of seveiour actions/consequenses of the complaint on us, throughout the day and negotiated bribe amount with my advocate. IO confiscated our mobiles conveyed to my uncle that he has arressted us by evening. After a while he asked for our id proofs. While my mother was searching her id proof the IO spoted cash (Rs. 30,000/-) and forcibly taken himself from her purse the id proof and cash. When my mother shown surprise he assured her that pleae don’t worry and that he would release her and retain me and my father. By 7.45 pm we all were released and instructed to reach our house at Thane immidietly and told us that he would treat as if we did not attend his police stn. at Solapur that day and that he would visit our house at Thane next day to inspect our house, have a cup of tea and arrest us from there so as to comply with the procedural guidelines/formalities. He had given us an option to travel with him in a private car to our Kalwe house so as to return early. He wanted us to bare the expencess. He also said that he has prepared paperwork in both the ways viz. we attended his police station that day and we did not come to Solapur that day.
However, we could not understand him and all of his actions, since all of his actions during the day when we first met him at city police head quarters till last at MIDC police chowki, narreted above were doubtful whether was he acting in good faith or otherwise and opined to travel ourselves via train with the reason that my father is a diabetic patient and he can take some rest during travel via train to which he agreed and we went to Solapur Railway Station to leave for Thane. Unfortunatly, we could not get any train to Thane late night and we stayed back at Solapur with a view to consult advocate and produce ourselves before the court.
Surprisingly the IO reached Thane the next day (May 20, 2015) and arrested my grandmother from her house at 8.00 am who stays separatly and confiscated her mobile. It may be mentioned that my grandmother is 84 and not keeping well-her medical certificate, was handed over to IO on May 19, 2015. It may also be mentioned that my grandmother has been unnecessarily named in the complaint by Smt. Chaitali keeping in mind that my grandmother loves me a lot and if she is harrassed I might agree to her demand to stay seperatly with her leaving my parents away.
I realised later on that my uncle had contacted DCP-Solapur and therefore we were released on May 19, 2015 evening and that my grandmother was also released by 12.30 after obtaining fresh medical certificate from her and a written statement.
I strongly need suitable legal advice fro you Sir/Madam to defend my interest and the interest of my parents and grandmother.
Requesting you to kindly guide us in the matter.
Gaurav N. Vargante
c/o 9029095003

in my family we are two brothers and a mother and we live in maharashtra state.in year 2012 my brother ages 31 got married to a girl whom she approached through a matrimonial website ,we belong to a maheshwari caste and the girl is from sonar caste. however my mother was against the marraige,so she asked my brother if he wants to marry the same girl,he will have to stay away from our home.

my brother got married to the same girl in kolkata where my tauji and family stays with presence of girls family and my tauji’s family ,me and my mother did attend the marraige.that was in april 2012

after marraige started living seperately in the same city in maharashtra along with his wife, we were not concerned with their home or day to day life.
my brother used to come home to meet my mother every other day or so,also he was doing a construction business for which my mother used to give him financial help,however my mothere didnt kept any property on my brother’s name.

after 6-8 months of marraige, my brother’s wife started troubling him, asked him to take property from mother,to legaly give property in her name,to get seperate share in property as well jewellery which belonged to my mother. she also said to my brother if he wants to have children then she wont allow him untill he gives property on her name.my brother didnt mentioned anything to me or to my mother, he was managing his wife and was trying to keep her happy as he could .

how ever in the month of july2013 girl invited her mother,2 sisters and brother to her home in akola and all of them stayed at my brother’s home for a month against the wishes of my brother. they all tried to harrase my brother by blackmailing him him,that if he want take property in his name,then they will take his wife away and will file for divorce and all emotional blackmailing.

however when my brother didnt reacted to there blackmailing, his wife called up on my mother’s phone and started abusing her.

thinking something is wrong, we called up police and along with them we went to my brother’s home,where we found all of relatives in the house and not allowing my brother to go out and talk to anyone. police took all of them to police station and after counseling them asked my brother to go to mother’s home as per his wish and asked his wife to go home.

his wife was at flat, from where she and his family gathered all the belongings,valuables and even clothes of my brother and ran away at the same night to her home town in rajhasthan by a taxi.

now after a month she is sending a police complaint mentioning all false that all these years she was staying with our family, we used to beat her,torture her and harras her for dowry. we didnt allow her to talk or meet her family in all these 1 & half year. as she has registered under sec 498 which is unbailable offence in rajhasthan, we have applied for bail.

can you please advice, how to move ahead in the case, my brother wants divorce from the girl and want to prove her wrong.

We are (my whole family)in a big trouble because of my sister in law.Everyday we are facing new troubles as she lodged all types of complaints against us eg murder,dowry,tourture etc.We are now help less and hopeless as police and media both are with her as she is a women and whatever she said is right.Please help us …

Hello,
Myself Hrishi Singh and i am from Mumbai. Professionally working as Marketing Manager with film making company, i like to write about vanished places and on social issues. Creating awareness among citizens of our country is the main motive behind writing. I have my own blogging site where i share about certain things.
I will be glad to join your organization. Please let me know the procedure to join your organization.

I want join MRA and fight for man’s right because our whole family my brothers my mother and i also tourtured by my sister in low from 3 years like a hell.in a family not only suffer a boy man or a son but also overall family sister mother brother father. i ill b with MRA my whole life to save another man and their family .

firstly sorry for getting late … best wishes your good thought and spirit i also want to join MRA but still i have same problem of 498a by my wife and her strange father i am not just only struggling with this problem but also searching the citation on false 498a cases with my friend ( who is working in court as stenotypepist ) and his boss ( who is judge at district and session court )
you are suggested that please do not make any emotional decision for family or any individual . make faith on god he will never aside us. he took this all noted get well guidance from MRA and other good lawyer ( some senior )

and most important thing do not afraid that laws are with women only ( in-laws are suffer more )

firstly make strange decision that we will never defeated by wrong people

secondly make little study of IPC and new changes because as per your post dated 26 april 2015 some changes done in 2014 about 498a and other laws , but our evil that lawyer are not telling the correct thing on time so we had to studied hard . and accurate guidance .

I need help as I am charged with a false case under 498a. I am being charged with dowry and domestic violence. Kindly assist on the same. They have put allegations even on my parents and relatives for domestic violence.

I got married in decemeber ’13. I cant forget this month and year and it has scarred me forever. I spent 6 months with my evil wife and what a nasty piece of months they were. I didnt get a good sleep during that duration. She used to torture me like anything. She had a bad temper and goes retarded when she is angry. In this state, she attempted multiple suicides. I couldn’t help but let her go to her parents on the last attempt. Had to make a decision. Couldn’t live a life like that.

Since then , her parents have lodged many cases against me. Don’t know why.

I swear on my life, we didnt ask for dowry. They offered it then also we rejected it. They say i committed domestic violence, though i was mentally and physically tortured when that evil one was with me.

It has come to a point now that i just believe in society,law and especially women. I simple hate all living sorts of women.

I just dont want to live in mental agony like this.I hate my life.It might so happen that this is the last mail i write.

I have finally got u r website and contact no. I have keep trying search this website but now i have did this. i will be now contact you and we can meet very soon. I am working in various ngo from last 12 years. I am also victim of my wife. she made various false allegation on me and with my parents and brother too. after reading through website my confidence increased. Thanks a lot my tigers…..

I am a Hard Core Mens rights activist and I want to fight for Mens rights.Lets destroy this Feminism from its roots.I personally dont have any problem and I want to fight for other Men who are suffering.I cannot tolerate any injustice on Men.

Lets rise like ocen tides to show the bloody feminists the Power of Real Men.

Dear Sir,why dont you people come on national TV News channels and spread awareness among citizens especially for men.Nowadays our biased laws only favours women at every striata of society.Our delhi metro violet line has 4 coaches out of which first coach is reserved for ladies only besides prereserved seats in every coaches.In spite of this many ladies force us to leave unreserved seats for them by incashing their gender superiority and laugh at us.Why 60 % delhi university colleges are women only despite reservations in coed colleges.please raise voice on national platform.We all will assist you.
Thanks

The MRA is doing commendable work. The false NGOs claiming to be working for women empowerment and amassing huge donations from all over the world are also instigating young women to file false court cases and overburdening the courts. The State/Central Govt should make it mandatory for these NGOs to always follow the cardinal principle of natural justice by hearing both the sides of wife and husband and then approach courts. Also, during the first 6 months, these NGOs should be asked to make efforts for amicable settlement between the parties, instead of rushing to the courts.

i am from mumbai & i am paying high price for taking care of my elderly & ill mother..have to part away from my darling daughter.because of my abusive, arrogant wife & her family .my mother & my daughter is my world.cant stay even day without them.my wife is asking to sell my house which i bought from hard earned money & give her half the amount or let my elderly mother go from house..can be any woman like this..

My wife put false 498a complaint against me on 29th oct14 and said to be compromise by accepting her terms. i have two kids one is 4 years and 2nd is 2.7 year old. basically we adjusted her lot because we like her to be in our house and we have two kids now. but she want to seprete from my family, whereas i couldnt take sepreate house because i couldnt afford it being elder in house and refused considering childs eduction and house hold, Bank EMIs etc. but she never agreed on went away to her parents house. we almost completing 6 year of marriage in Feb 15. but she stayed at parents house around 4 years & calling me their. She has 4 sisters behind and no one brother. But her people harrash me to do as she want. Now She lodged 498a its really fearful to me and my mother. i have a yonger brother age 27 year and to be married and my mother is widow and has poor background than my father in law.
me and mother were arrested and got permenent bail because my wife told that she will take back with her terms, but i fear that the stage we are now is confusing what to do come out from 498a. She is calling me to their home and want to make agree on her terms then she will take back 498a. I am really disturbed by arrest by police and their procedure. My charge sheet is not yet submitted in court. pl advise.

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Dear sir,
A female staff has threatened to implicate me in false case and take action against me in front of 30-40 people.
She is doing with everyone with whom she is having a conflict. how to report this incident to the police authority. because such attitude of her will lead to someones harrasment one day. She will surely implicate someone some day in a false case. she starts crying after the incident and then complaint to the seniors in office that she is victimised.

Is there any official helpline/police department/ where such incidents can be reported. from where the copy of such incidents can be taken out later on and verified by the police.

If we directly go to the police, the matter will escalate and she can charge any allegation.
But if we dont go to the police, at some later day she can charge. how can we safequard from a later date complaint.

if a false complaint is done against any male, then he dies when people look at him and no one listens, even after proving that the lady had already made such charges on many men before also.

I want to join MRA bcz recently mu wife has lodge a fake case against me under section 498A even after marriage she didn’t live with me & forcing me to wind up my business and live with her…so i want to fight against these fake cases..i hope you will help me

Hi, I am raju guide from ahmedabad. I am joined with yahoo groups. I am in contact with save indian family. I want to publish my thoughts to all the male victims. I feel a lot for the male gender for gender bios laws. I tried to contact Mr. Amol and Mr. Pravin on their phone Numbers. But I found their phones are out of service. I therefore want to be in touch with you. I want your e.mail address and phone numbers. Pl. contact me on 09879955114

Dear Admin
it’s curse for men that for our safety no rules we are harass from our boss then in market then our wife and his family. many persons think girls and women’s have soft heart and she is weak too. But any body told me in this situation it’s fact are real ?
I am recently married second day after marriage i got threat from wife’s uncle then day to day this threat is continue whenever she’s younger brothers whenever she’s father and other relatives.
I have no my father he was expired long ago my mother is govt. teacher and i was stay at kolkata for job purpose and my home in bihar. when i leave bihar then his family members are attack my home and told my mother “you do the part of your house, which foods are made by my daughter silently you eat may you like or unlike.which salary you take, handover my daughter. After all my wife is with his family and told to my mother if you are not done as per my father narration then i charge on you dowry case in court and police station and your son which is my husband nothing do any thing.
long time my mother nothing say to me and my mother is diabetes patient one day suddenly i came in my home at bihar without any information then which i saw i was shocked. this time i think only one think i am not tolerate this husband wife relation because my mother was not sustain more then two months and at any cost i want mother sustain long life and his bless. when i was asked my wife what you done with my mother then she told me” you keep only silent otherwise pay you hard cost” then i asked my mother why you never told me this type of treat then my mother told me “i never want break your family life” then again i was shocked for both of think one lady which is my mother she want at any cost may be pay his life for save his son’s family and other lady want take all charges, money, and powers of lost any other life, emotions, relations this lady is soft heart she is weak. No, it’s really horror.
lastly she was gone with his family for file a dowry case and torch-er case before 15 days without any permission and knowledge and she was going with his family then she’s father was abuse my mother and my brothers and told to my mother we shoot you and younger son. what you do i see it. can you tell me which law i follow for safety us.
For information: i got marriage in 29th june 2014.

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Hello MRA
I am so glad to join with u very nice approach. Nowdays media and some womens social activist creating picture in socity that all mens in this world are veelans and all womens in this socity are poor and very silent babys and govt is also joining to them for getting vote. As orgsnizations like u make at least orrsence of mens in society

You told exactly what I am telling . but its seems I am shouting in the middle of pitch where all people are only to take care abt females. But somehow I found MRA to join my hands. Now I feels I am nt alone. . Please spread this association all over India.. I want to join MRA.