i found this poem on another form that someone had written and i had to share this just sums up my introduction why i am here because i am in love with a survivor.

Understanding…I know you’re hurt, confused, angry and sad.And I try to understand…Unspeakable and unfair horrors you’ve had to endureAnd I try to understand…You’re unable to distinguish what is real or just a pattern in your lifeAnd I try to understand…The pain and sorrow inside consumes youAnd I try to understand…The scars are there and unfortunately can’t be erasedAnd I try to understand…You feel the need to run away from the present to escape your pastAnd I try to understand…My words and feelings trigger your emotions like a fuse to a bombAnd I try to understand…You feel uncomfortable around me, our home and our childrenAnd I try to understand…You believe nothing is ours, it’s yours or mineAnd I try to understand…My attempts to protect you trigger perceptions of controlAnd I try to understand…Your world is shatteredAnd I try to understand…You don’t need to face these demons on your ownI’d like you to understand…I’ll always be here for you, I’ll stand by your sideI’d like you to understand…You are my best friend with whom I can confideI’d like you to understand…Take the ring and the vows and put them aside if that’s what you needI’d like you to understand…I can be a trusted friend, just a shoulder to cryI’d like you to understand…I won’t judge or attempt to make you feel guilty of your emotionsI’d like you to understand…Please turn around and don’t run awayI’d like you to understand…Please come back and confide in me’I’d like you to understand…Please reach for my hand instead of that drink or that highI’d like you to understand…I’m not an enemy, I’m your biggest supporterI’d like you to understand…Even if you decide I’m not the one you loveI’d like you to understand…I’ll still be here for youUnderstand??

That is a very good poem, foreverloved, thank you for sharing. Indeed, many of the lines do closely describe the struggle for survivors and supporters alike in living with sexual abuse victims. Welcome to MaleSurvivor, here you can ask for and receive support and encouragement. You sound like a loving spouse for your survivor, thank you for supporting a fellow sufferer. Sam

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