Detect Her Noncommittal Phase

She keeps conversations light and breezy

Even though most women look to be as affable and charming as men, their sentimentality is usually evident. That is, it’s evident if they’re interested in pursuing something “meaningful.” If she’s avoiding deeper subjects — and I’m not just talking about relationship talk — and is really only interested in laughing it up, she’s primed for a casual fling. As I mentioned before, serious topics to avoid would include anything too detailed about her previous relationship — so don’t even think about bringing up the subject. The ready-to-party girl will chat about such things as favorite movies, clubs, music, and TV shows. She’ll also get you laughing by relating silly college tales, she’ll tease you with light-hearted jabs accompanied by a playful wink, and she’ll laugh at just about any joke you have in your arsenal.

Don’t forget to play your part: If she expects you to laugh at that silly story, you better laugh. If she’s in a teasing mood, tease her back. And remember not to get embroiled in a passionate debate, which can sometimes happen even with the lightest of topics. Simply reflect her breeziness, and you’re golden.

She’s a strong career girl

A woman driven by success is a woman who dedicates a great deal of energy to the pursuit of furthering her career. This works in your favor in more ways than one: First, because she’s likely putting in long hours, so the two of you won’t be together long enough to foster anything serious. Second, a committed relationship takes time and energy — she undoubtedly understands this, and a chick who’s hooked on her job isn’t about to get hooked on you.

There is one major aspect of certain “career women” that might unfurl the red flag: The same dedication she has to her work may spill over into other pursuits she has. She might tackle every relationship with the same fervor and unbridled enthusiasm, thus, instantly placing you in a bad position. What you’re looking for in a career girl is a feeling of distance and even indifference — limited availability is definitely something to treasure.

She’s not avoiding you, but she has one hell of a hectic schedule: She has a big family with at least one function a week. She has a job with strange hours and there’s no schedule to your rendez-vous. And she always seems to be in a different place every time you call her cell. While she’s always happy to see you and clearly enjoys your company, she’s not dumping the rest of her life to accommodate you. She wants the frosting, not the cake. But if she is altering that schedule just to be with you, the red flag is at full mast… she wants the cake.