"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life...it goes on."- Robert Frost

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Stop sugarcoating a fuck up as a weakness. Stop justifying why someone did what they did. Accept that the person did something low, inconsiderate, and hurtful. Yes, they may have been weak, to fall for temptation...but you don’t have to be weak back. Know you’re worth having the kind of relationship that doesn’t hurt. You’re worth not having to stress where or who someone may be with. You are worth feeling secure in your relationships.

Gentlemen, I get a few emails from you questioning why the ladies you’re pursuing are standoffish, show no interest, etc. 9/10 Times, I’ve asked them when their previous relationship ended. Often, you don’t know. When pursuing a woman, it is important to know things that have shaped her. Not to “punish” her, rather to have a greater insight to know if she’s ready for commitment or what she’s looking for. Also, it allows you to know what parts of her need healing. Maybe it’s not her heart. Maybe it’s her thought process. For a short period, before I decided enough is enough, I had a negative outlook on men. All men. I didn’t care how good they treated me or that they’d send me flowers at work, I ignored all of them. Why? Because my head wasn’t in the game. The prince of Egypt could have tried to court me and I would have ignored him. A woman who’s been hurt is not a bitch. She’s guarded. Rather than trying to win her over with things she’s seen before, gifts and flowers, sit her down. Don’t butter up with words that have lost value. Just simply, get to know her. Find common interest, hobbies, and remind her of the good. With time, if she’s meant for you, she’ll always remember you as the guy who cared more about her heart than her ass. Women talk. We tell our friends about these things and good friends, won’t let good guys pass our friends. We tell them who’s worth giving a shot and who isn’t. So, be kind to her heart. It’s been broken. Be yourself and allow quality time, memories, and good conversation to give her that confidence she needs to try again.

The RIGHT guy for YOU won’t give up easily...I promise you. If they see your value, worth, and know what you bring to the table from the very beginning, they’ll continue working to be the keeper of your heart vs. giving up easily. A man who knows what he wants will always have his eye on you, even if you’re stubborn and push him away...he will respect your needs, but will always have his eye on you, ready to pursue you again when you’re ready. Find that man. The one who never gave up on you because he knew you were worth the wait, energy, time, and most of all, the commitment.

The wrong kind of people will have you feeling like you’re “crazy.” I think we’ve almost all been there before. Questioned our sanity, our mental state. When in reality, we were probably not in a good state. Remember, you alone are in control of the thoughts in your head. The same way you get to decide what you want to let bother you. However, having the wrong kind of lover who doesn’t acknowledge your hurts, strengthen your confidence, or boosts your ego won’t help. You alone must carry these things before, but the right person, will help you not only maintain them...but allow you to feel stronger in each. Never settle.

I’ve been recently listing to an audio book that focuses on how we all perceive, receive, and accept love differently. I’ve been so intrigued on the topic because of all the friends I’ve gained through this blog. Relationships are such a large part of who we are and I’ve noticed, as much as we deny it, we all want and strive for real love. At dinner last night, I noticed things in my other half that I’ve learned to value more with age. Those things are eye-contact, undivided attention, and interest in my day. No two loves are the same, but I feel it is important to acknowledge that no matter how much we grow, evolve, and change....the littlest things always go a long way.

Many years ago, I gained a strength within me that made all the difference in how I went about life. It is something we are all born with, taught, but easily forget. It is the God forsaken right to CHOOSE how we want to feel day in and day out. When times feel stressful, we naturally like to take the path of least resistance. The one that will get us from point A to B, with the least amount of hurdles, twists, and turns. The truth is- those climbs, steep hills, and rough roads are the very moments can be where making the right choice makes all the difference. To reap great results in life, you have to try hardest when you don’t feel like it. Take the road less traveled.

"Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. Who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. Fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight."

You’re deserving of the most delicious kind of love there is. The nurturing kind. The uplifting, loving, hopeless kind. The sort of love that keeps you wanting more, yet somehow brings you enough fulfillment. It’s not about finding the perfect person. Its also not about finding someone to complete you. You are complete alone. It’s about finding the person that makes your days sweeter, brightens your smile when you receive their texts, and reminds you how damn deserving you are of this amazing kind of love.

"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes...including you."

It’s always been in my nature to work, work, work. I get it from my parents. However, I also love my downtime -it’s how and where I refuel my drive, passion, and creativity. We all need a place or thing that gives that to us and I don’t think a person should be it. Find something you love like walking, laying in the park, doing a puzzle, hiking, etc. Whatever it is, build your schedule around it. That was the best advice a doctor once gave me. We put things like taking care of ourselves after we’ve build our busy schedules like getting a massage, facial, etc. The truth is- these are the important, take care of yourself activities that will ignite your fire again. Rest, when you need to. Today, I’m taking an off day and taking my dogs hiking. It’s important for me to spend time with them and more importantly, to feel at one with nature. It’s where I feel inspired to write for you. This year, I ask you to do more kind things for yourself. Watch how much you’ll glow with a little more rest.

"I care more about my relationship with my inner being than anything else. If I'm not in alignment with myself, I have nothing to offer anyone."

My life motto is simple. “I’ll take care of me for you if you take care of you for me.” Supporting, encouraging, and rooting for your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend should be a given. However, it is not your job to do things for them. You have a lot to take care of on your own-#1 being your mental health. No one can give you enough love, fulfillment, or confidence until you feel it for yourself first. When you do, you learn to distinguish the difference between feelings and your thoughts. Don’t let your feelings ever control your thoughts, mind, or have the power to break you. Why? Feelings are always temporary. Your mindset is not.