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“A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest.” Irish Proverb

Stressed Out K – 12 Education Series 3.3

Be Encouraged

My mother, Winifred E. Carter, is my shero. For three quarters of my life she has been a phenomenal single mother and guiding light in my life. Watching her strength and ability to endure all of our challenges has had big influence on how and why I do what I do. Be encouraged momma. You deserve the very best that life has to offer and I will do everything within my power of faith in God to channel your blessings. And I know one of those blessings you desire is to be a blessing to others. So, I write today in honor of you to all the single mothers born to teach their children.

Get Confident

For a new teacher teaching in it self soon becomes overwhelming. Each young professional new to the art has his or her own set of variables that factor into their learning and teaching experiences. The purpose of the Confident Teaching Category is to make a serious connection between the things you want to know about reducing stress within the difficult task of solving classroom problems whether at work or at home. Your confidence will take a bold stance to assure your boss, your students, and yourself that you “Got This” once settled in clearly identifying the problems, develop effective action plans, and monitor your results for staying on course.

Go Deep

While working through the writing challenges of this Stressed Out K – 12 EDU Series I’ve had to navigate through extraordinary life hardships. All of which have built my faith upon the things I hope for. Becoming all that God has created me to be is no small task, nor is it for you. And this is why. Once you set a goal that is bigger than you and attach high standards of operating along the way, all hell will come against your good pursuit. Like a football wide receiver I have to go deep in order to give my best everyday. You can do no less for those you serve day in and day out. They need you to go deep. Whether it’s in the classroom, at home, or in your place of worship, stay focused and stay confident. Let your phenomenal shine, it’s your day, it’s your time. And by the way, Happy Mother’s Day!

As always please comment and share. Are there any words of wisdom my mature mothers can pass on to young mothers or mothers to be?

This is a new series called Stressed Out K – 12 Education. Over the next several weeks we will explore classroom issues surrounding special needs, at-risk behaviors, student – teacher and teacher – parent relationships, and much more as it relates to reducing stress created from educational systems, narrow minded thinking of difficult colleagues, and the headaches from someone else’s undisciplined kids.

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“High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation.” Jack Kinder

Stressed Out K – 12 Education Series 3.2

Does It Make Sense?

The purpose of this blog post is to spark internal discussion into the idea of whether or not your mission statement makes sense. The mission statement shouldn’t only sound good; it must applicably address the needs of those you serve, right? If you fall short here you bound to increase your stress levels.

Does It Breathe?

Now just because you have a mission statement that makes sense for all the right reasons, it still may not make sense to those you serve. When a concept or idea is so far removed from the normal life style of those hearing what you have to say, it sounds whack. I’m specifically talking about the part that breathes high expectations into low expected outcomes. You know the win-win stuff champions are made of.

Understanding Mission Framework

Your mission statement isn’t any good to anyone if you don’t believe it. Now by some sort of slick skill sets may be a few will opt in if you’re in the game to get over. Don’t be that teacher just showing up for a paycheck. Everyone loses when a teacher loses focus of the purpose for taking the job. An effective mission statement should be tinseled with questions like:

• How do I want my classroom operation to look?
• How do my students and parents want the program to best serve them?
• How will I set-up safety systems to guard my students mentally, physically, and spiritually?
• What are my student’s strengths that I can expand on?
• How do I know if I’ve clearly identified my student’s challenges?
• What must I do to enhance my life coach and learning skill sets?
• Who are all the players needed to engage my students intellectually?
• Who are my model educators and how do I Get Lock In?
• What is my vision for my student’s exit plan?

As always please comment and share. Has this information help you in any way? Do you need help with constructing your mission statement? Would like to post a display link of your mission statement?

This is a new series called Stressed Out K – 12 Education. Over the next several weeks we will explore classroom issues surrounding special needs, at-risk behaviors, student – teacher and teacher – parent relationships, and much more as it relates to reducing stress created from educational systems, narrow minded thinking of difficult colleagues, and the headaches from someone else’s undisciplined kids.

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If I hear of one more man telling a woman, tweeting, or shouting her out in other media as having been the cause of her rape or assault I will personally punch his ass in the face. Yeah, this is a rant, but don’t get it twisted. This is also an investigation of ideas surrounding cause and affect as well as my own ignorance behind the argument of causality. My OpEd has been on the launching pad for several weeks if not months. And I’ve had a lifetime of teen and adult discussion on the subject. Basically, my parents raised me better than to violate another person sexually, which in return affects my opinions.

Cut the Apron String

My parents are not alone in having embedded moral values into their children. But it’s harnessed discipline to make the right choices that endorses those principles and separates the violators of family values. And for the record, violators are not gender discriminative. Parents, you must be able to discern where to draw the line between how you have raised your children and the choices your children make as individuals. A child’s choices will most often reflect your positive parenting practices, but realistically there are times they won’t. At some point you need to pick up the shears and cut the apron string for your own sanity’s sake. May I proceed?

Cause and Affect

The inspiration to post this blog came after one more added straw. Not the short straw, just another straw and I won’t get into particulars. Let’s just say I was watching The Matrix Reloaded. Remember the seen when Morpheus, Neo, and Trinity went to find the Keymaker at the restaurant? While sitting with the rich Frenchman Merovingian and his wife Persephone a very special dessert was sent to the woman two tables over. The matrix program had been designed to produce an affect caused by the woman taking an innocent bite of dessert. Typical rogue’s move if you ask me.

He’s in the Restroom

You saw the movie. Once the chocolate made its journey to the woman’s pallet a sexually explosive chain of physical reactions began taking over her body. The Merovingian argued Morpheus’ philosophy of everything beginning with choice. Dude was so stupid, oh excuse me ignorant, in his argument that he was oblivious to his role in manipulating the woman’s choice by his choice to violate her with a cyber-mickie. I see this on the streets all the time. The affect of his cause rippled far beyond being caught in the restroom with the un-expecting woman. Is it all about cause and affect?

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Reloaded was only a movie, but those choices are played out in real life every day affecting relationships, children, jobs, and lives are lost be-cause the why and the reasons are gone and behaviors are out of control. I’ve been really dumb at spots on my intellectual timeline, but not recognizing that teen girls and grown women can be extremely manipulative prior to being violated is not one of my dumb spots. In my own marriage I’ve had to painstakingly assess how far to go before drawing the line between cause and affect violations. But at the end of the day I still have to be accountable for my choices as an individual. Passing the blame to someone else as being the cause for your choices just doesn’t fly in my court of love and respect.

It’s Not Cute

Guys, think before speaking. It’s just wrong to assume that one spouse must have done something to cause another spouse to cheat. I don’t care what they did passing the blame is as irresponsible as the act of messing around. And who invented, “Everybody has their extra marital affairs with someone or something.” I’m just saying, though it may bare substance . . . Stop being ignorant, it’s not cute and one does not substitute the other for disciplined choices. If you want to teach something learn this, “The problems you have plus the actions you take to resolve them equals the results you get.” This is my rant whether you feel me or not.

As always please comment and share. Understanding that each case is different am I just being ignorant to what is really going on? If you are a man or woman being abused please post service agencies that can help.

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