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Top Three Things Killing Your Confidence

There is an epidemic in the female species going around called “lack of confidence.” It has spread like wildfire. I did not realize it was a problem until I recognized how many women were suffering from the same condition. However, I have a solution that will help turn this situation around. There are three things that you need to check because these three will zap all of your confidence. Your level of confidence will determine your level of elevation. It is important to our own personal growth that we cure ourselves of this epidemic quickly. Here are the top three things that we can change:

1) Attitude

Your attitude is the single most important thing that can make or break your confidence. The things we tell ourselves can convince us good or bad, in one way or the other. Therefore, when you start to think that you are less than, you will believe that you are. That is an instant confidence killer. We have to start thinking the best about ourselves so that we can believe it! A simple attitude adjustment will do the trick. In my book, Confidence is More Than a Word, It’s an Attitude, I explain how confidence equals attitude. When you walk in feeling fierce, you will walk out getting whatever it is you want in life!

2) Appearance

Your appearance isn’t just killing your confidence, it’s killing your swag, too! It is true that when you look good, you feel good. So, why not put more effort into looking your best? Are you still shopping in the Sear catalog circa 1978? When was the last time you tried a new hair style? Do you think you don’t need makeup…EVER? Trust me, ladies, we ALL can use a little makeup more times than not! A dose of modern attire to spruce ourselves up wouldn’t hurt either! I guarantee you that when you change any of these aspects of your appearance that have been less than par, you will become more confident and YOU WILL attract more of what you want! So, step it up…

3) Fear

Finally, your fears will prevent you from a lot of happiness and success. It will ultimately interfere with your level of confidence. The number one thing that prevents anyone from accomplishing anything worthwhile in life is fear. Those fears range from fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear of embarrassment, or any number of negative emotions related to apprehension. Fear is just a deterrent that breeds insecurity. The more fearful you become, the less confident you will remain. Truth is, many of the greatest risk takers in life were probably afraid of something. However, the fear of never realizing a dream is far worse than attempting and failing. Fear is paralyzing. Adversely, the opposite of fear is courage. Confident people are courageous enough to fail, get up, dust themselves off, and then go win.

Winning is a state of mind, an attitude. If you want to overcome the “lack of confidence” bug, then you must first conquer your fears. It wouldn’t hurt to get a makeover in the process. Now watch your confidence level rise!