(Closed) Lost my job and my wedding motivation

I lost my job a few weeks ago. Ever since then I have lost all motivation and excitement for my wedding and the wedding planning. All I can think of is how much everything costs and how it’s just another stress I don’t need. We’ve actually planned a small wedding, and had already kept costs down as much as possible before I even lost my job. However, I am now aware of every cent I spend and so thinking of the wedding just reinforces that it is going to cost money. My fiancée says I shouldn’t worry about the wedding as he can pay most of it if necessary, but still I am stressed. 🙁

I know I am being silly. I have gotten some short term work and will likely get more. However, the reality is that I no longer have guaranteed income of a certain amount of money per month; I don’t qualify for unemployment benefits and I will only earn a low amount per month until I get a proper job. I’m stressed about where my life is going now. The country I live in has about a 20% unemployment rate, so it could be a long time before I get a proper job again. Plus, I work in a niche industry anyhow. 🙁

I don’t do well with change at all, and I feel overwhelmed by everything.

@Bainise2013: ((Hugs)) I know it is so hard. I’ve been unemployed for various reasons for almost 3yrs. I sort of gave up on it and just began calling myself a housewife for the time being because it can be really demoralizing when friends and family constantly ask about your job hunting. Luckily for me, Fiance can support the both of us on his pay. It sounds like your Fiance can do the same for you, and that’s great. Try not to let it get to you too much. Instead of focusing on how much things for the wedding costs, remember that the two of you have been working so hard to keep costs down already, which puts you in a great spot now of being able to still afford it!

Remind yourself that the wedding isn’t just a random event that is costing you money. That will be the day you and your beloved will become husband and wife! You’re having a ceremony to reaffirm your love and committment to each other in front of loved ones. Cherish it 🙂

In the meantime, if it would help keep you from being too stressed, try to put together a budget of your new finances. For example, it really made me feel worlds better when we realized that Fiance would be SAVING money by supporting me! That sounds so crazy, I know, but he just never watched his money and spent it without really thinking about savings. Now that I balance the books, he’s been able to put a little bit away each month. You can see in your budget whether there are some cost-cutting strategies you can employ and therefore soften the blow of the lost income. Keep posting here as you need for support. Good luck!