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The question of whether Pig Day is a time to honor pigs by “giving them a break” or to appreciate their offerings (spare ribs, bacon and ham) is an open one.

I would imagine that this holiday was contrived for the winter doldrums and cabin fever when in the middle of the snow covered stretches of lands in our vast country, there was little to celebrate and enjoy. [Read more…] about Pig To Eat or Not to Eat…

Tell me, is it really wrong to like someone more when you find out they have money? Assuming you liked them already.

Wondering in Wichita

Dear Wondering,
I suppose being a gold digger and a social climber is not so bad. There should be no reason for remorse about being shallow and superficial.

You already like the bloke, so there’s no harm in liking him more, for his dough, huh?
After all, money will bring with it comfort and future security. It makes a man seem more desirable since he can take care of you.

It is not so much wrong, as it is immoral. I am not sure that there is a definition to be set to it. Knowing that about yourself, knowing that there was a shift in sentiment over something that materialistic should make you stop and wonder what traits you have that need tweaking and modifying, they need.

I would take a harder look at yourself. A serious look at your trifling sensibilities. Character is what matters in the end. Dig deeper into yourself.

Remaining with him will only make you dependent, weak and less likely to be able to survive on your own, in the future.

The problem with those feelings of liking him more, is, you will overlook serious problems because you see dollar signs in your eyes, ignoring the major issues if they come up.

I wish people didn’t give me presents for my birthday instead of surprising me. I mean, I never get anything that I will use so it just adds to junk I have around the house or have to give away. I was just given a snowman mug, a weird scarf, a cheap wallet, and hooker red lip gloss. None of it will ever be used. I’d really rather have nothing than have a gift. I know I sound ungrateful.

Discouraged in Peoria

Dear Discouraged,

You might be ungrateful but I like you already. I happen to agree with you. I hate it when people give me stuff that I do not need. Crap that sits around useless. It makes them feel better, but is useless to you, completely. I get it. You are right.

The solution is to tell them. Tell your friends that you appreciate the thought. Tell them that you realize that they love you and do this just for you. Then tell them, gently, tactfully, that they should stop buying you things. Knowing that they probably are on a budget, be sensitive and tell them that their company is more than enough. You do not need the gift.

This might alleviate the pressure of spending the money for them and spare you the pressure of getting rid of what you never wanted in the first place. Tell them the truth, kindly.