I have no issues with dating for 10 years, just can't muster up any enthusiasm about playing house for 10 years then then throwing a celebration to legalize the arrangement. Its just not nor will it ever be the same as two people affirming that they are good enough for marriage and co-parenting from the beginning.

Well I've read the thread. I will never understand BHMs rationalization about waiting 10 years to make sure you are ready to marry a man, yet waiting a few months to have his children and move in with him. Why do certain life decisions require purposeful planning and considerations, but others don't?

Well I've read the thread. I will never understand BHMs rationalization about waiting 10 years to make sure you are ready to marry a man, yet waiting a few months to have his children and move in with him. Why do certain life decisions require purposeful planning and considerations, but others don't?

I'm saying. I'm shocked sang's post got so many likes. Marriage is great but I'ma need black people to do better in getting life's arrangements in order....

^^^I said this on another forum and ppl came for me talking bout I have a religious mindset. I'm not religious at all.

At the end of the day IMO its about security. Marriage doesn't solves the worlds ills, it doesn't prevent a man from walking out on his family, but should he decide to, the process of getting what is owed to her the kids is easier.

Him making the vow on the courthouse docs is affirming his responsibility and commitment to her, IMO. I'm glad they did it.

Well I've read the thread. I will never understand BHMs rationalization about waiting 10 years to make sure you are ready to marry a man, yet waiting a few months to have his children and move in with him. Why do certain life decisions require purposeful planning and considerations, but others don't?

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