Post by Gino on Sept 26, 2011 2:07:50 GMT -7

I'm sitting here trying to count the guys I've hooked up with, I've stopped at twenty over the last seven years, although I know there is more. Some of them were ongoing so the number of times is alot more than 20. I'm a Christian, yet I've done the devil's hard labor for him.
As a Christian I should've been salt & light, instead
I've helped satan sew seeds of distruction in these mens lives. It's a horrible feeling knowing that. As if that's not enough, I'm married and each and every time I broke my vows to God, my wife & family.

I have the hope & knowlege God's love, mercy & grace, I'm sure that most of those guys don't, I know alot of them were married too & I was a part of those broken vows as well.

Please, please, if you haven't acted out physically on an ssa or even a hetero lust, don't let it get to this level.

This last one (5 days ago) really hits me hard on multiple levels. He was only 19, he was shaking most of the time, It was obviously in his parents home. He emailed me after and wanted me to see him again...

Post by TM2 on Sept 26, 2011 3:47:14 GMT -7

The problem with erasing contacts and saying you can't keep doing it is that you've probably done that before. I certainly acted out "for the last time" in my addiction how many times? Hundreds?

For me, it made a lot of difference to start accepting that I was an addict, and that all those things other addicts had to do to build new lives were things I had to do, too - going to 12-step meetings, getting a sponsor, working the steps, working seriously with a counselor to understand where my desires were coming from and how to let them go.

All that stuff is scary, but all that stuff is making a huge difference in my life.

You see, we don't just have a vertical problem with God. We also have horizontal problems with our fellow humans, and inner problems hiding from our own selves. Working with other people, both professionals and our fellow addicts, to deal with those issues is essential to most of us. I can't do it alone any more than most alcoholics and drug addicts can do it alone. I have to figure out what works for them, and try it for myself.

Is there more you can do to find support from and fellowship with others? I think it's awfully important, especially for someone with as difficult a history as yours.

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