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Vaginal pain during intercourse?? plz help

About 2 months back, she went to her doctor for her normal check-up, but at the time, she was extremely tender and swollen. After this showed up, it was very painful for her during any attempt at intercourse. Prior to this, we had used spermicidal condoms and had simluar problems the last time they were used. (not sure why we used them again)

Anyways, she went to the doctor and he said that the pain/swelling was most likely caused by the spermicide, and all of her test came back normal.

Since then, (dont mean to be too graphical) when we attempt the missionary position, it causes her pain as soon I am about half way in. If she is sitting up, such as on the side of the bed or on the edge of the couch, the pain isnt as bad, but still there. The only thing that seams to work without discomfort for her is when she is on top, and even then, its not always completely comfortable.

Other things dont seem to cause pain, such as oral sex, fingers, or tampons, so it is quite strange.

We havnt been sexually active for long, and we havnt been with others so an STD is basically ruled out. She was planning on going back to the doctor but she doesnt think she can get into see him, since it isnt an emergency, before our wedding date.

This has been very ******n her and her confidence. No matter what I say or do, she still blames herself when the problem arrises.

If anyone has any idea what could be causeing this or what we could do, please help.

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Do you two use any lubrication? It could help. My fiance was having swollen pains also, but when we started using Astroglide it all went away. Try it out. Give her a few days to heal up then try using some Astroglide. Don't be embarrassed either, it happens.

We have in the past and once recently to see if it would help, but all it seemed to do was irritate the problem. Does anyone have any idea or has anyone had simular situations? -EDIT-Forgot to mention in my first post, the pain is localized to the left side... that is my left if im on top of her or in front of her... so her right side. Also, she has noticed that afterwards, if she puts pressure on the outside of her vagina, it helps for some reason. Thanks-AcId-

This is very weird to me.... We have been sexually active for a little over a year... and before the incident w/ the spermicidal condoms, we have never had any issues like this. Things had been rather enjoyable for the two of us. Something else i didnt mention... her doctor put her on birth control about a year ago to treat extreme pain during her period. The pain was to the point that she was using heating pads (to the point of blistering her skin) and ice packs (to the same extent) because it was the only thing that would even slightly help. Now that she has been on birth control, the pain is pretty well non-existant anymore. I didnt know if this might have anything to do with it or not, so I thought I would mention. Please help if you can... -AcId-

you may want to ask the doc for a gynea referral,she sounds like me and i have endometriosis.trust me get this looked at asap it can lead to infertility.to get info on endometriosis just do a google search.the pain in the left side...does she explain it as something being trapped under her hip bone?again this is what i feel.also she may have ibs,the two often get mixed up,hope this helps good luck.