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Monday Motivation: Acceptance

Hi lovely people! Welcome back to another dose of my Monday Motivation.

How’s your Monday? Are you stressed, upset or annoyed for the things you are unable to change or achieve? As you’re aware, there are some things beyond our control. At times we do not have all the answers and solutions to a problem. The only thing that’s keeping us from letting go is wishing things were different. The only way to let go is to not dwell and to accept things as they are.

It was a frustrating Sunday night and Monday morning for me. For those who do not know my mom’s situation, she has Alzheimer’s disease. Each day is always a new day but not easy for my mom. Her situation is starting to get worse. She’s starting to confuse past memories and present realities. She’s starting to forget important events and even yesterday’s activities.

Last night, my mom went with us to our place so she can have a change of scenery. It was also to give my sister,who is her caregiver and companion a break. She’s not easy to care for now as she’s forgetful and behaves like a child.

I was only too happy when she acquiesced to go with us since I can treat her for her birthday the day after. After a few minutes of settling her in my daughter’s room, she started acting weirdly. She started to whine like a child and made a fuss that she can’t fall asleep. She told me she can’t stay long and wants to go home right away.

The night was definitely long for me as I had a hard time convincing her to sleep. She stayed only in her room when I told her I’ll need sleep if I am to bring her back home.My parent’s home is more than two hours away from us without the traffic.

As you’ll see, any attempt to convince my mom to stay will only be futile. Her mind was made up already. Though it makes me sad that I can not take care of her, I am comforted by the fact that she’s better at her familiar place.

How about you? How did your Monday was like? I hope you’ll have a great Monday or you had one and a great week!

58 thoughts on “Monday Motivation: Acceptance”

Winnie, I’m so sad for your Mom’s condition and the struggle you and your family are in for. My Grandpa’s battle with Alzheimer’s was blessedly brief, and even though we were all devastated to lose him, we were grateful he didn’t suffer longer than he did. Bless you for being willing and able to give your sister a break.

No, I’m not stressed, I am fortunate only to suffer infrequently from the s-word. Yes, my weekend, my Monday, my life is almost always complex and hectic, and I am often frustrated by the current state of affairs in America and the world, but I can do nothing but hang on tight and laugh at the absurdity of the ride. May you be able to do the same as often as I am.

Hi, Denny! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! I appreciate your words of encouragement.

I know my sister is having a hard time with my mom but she’s stronger than all of us. I know she was really disappointed that her breather was shortlived. My husband and I agreed to visit my mom every week so she can have a break even for one day.

It’s the same in our country, Denny. Our economy is suffering because of what’s happening in our government.

As I woke to rain splattering the window I realized I had overslept 😉 I woke my son and hurriedly got the day started, Got him off to school and went to my grandmothers to get her up and make her breakfast as that is part of my morning routine. Made it to work with ten minutes to spare. What started late ended up falling all into place. Thank goodness. Now to get on to my Daily deadlines.

God bless you Winnie! I’ve had several people in my family with Alzheimer’s. It’s nasty… I had an aunt who’d leave her home and wander. She’d hallucinate and had child like tendencies. Family lived next door to her, kind of uppity folk.. and they acted worse because they had to watch after her.

Your mother is blessed to have loving family to watch after her. Though, I’m sorry you have to see her this way. I know it’s hard. Bless you Winnie!

Hi Winnie. So sorry about your mum’s condition, I truly understand how distressing Alzheimer is especially for the family and caregiver. The only thing you can do is to keep loving her and let her feel the love too, she might not remember but will always feel it. It’s normal when she says she wants to go home, it’s called sundowning which usually starts in the evening time, give her meds at the same time every day, it will help with the hallucinations and no need to argue with her once she’s had her mind made up on discussions but be gentle with her. I’m sure you will be fine. Have a blessed week 💕

Thats so painful winnie…mothers are so precious and thinking of your mother in that condition really hurts but just take heart winnie my dear. I just hope you stay happy. My monday was quite boring tho😕

My heart goes out to you and your family, I can’t even imagine watching a loved one struggle like this know that it’s only going to get progressively worst. I’m glad she’s able to at least find comfort in her familiar surroundings. ❤❤

thank you for sharing about your mum and how your feelings are unsettled, it is so brave to speak out loud. it gives a lot of us who are reading this comfort to know we are not alone in life’s struggles. and we have access to others thoughts that empower us with clarity and new wisdom or even a new perspective on life. you are right, there is so much out of our control, I have never been really in control of my life till now, and while it is liberating for the things i can accomplish, it can be very frustrating for that is out of reasonable reach. But it teaches me patience, I am patient with people but not with situations, I get frustrated with meanness, and want kindness to prevail, but hope fights with logic and sometimes I have to let hope rest. the last line of your quote is stuck in my heart now – “the people we can’t live without but have to let go” – this is so hard to do, but your writing encourages me today. Thank you Winnie!

Your words gave me a lot of encouragement this morning. It also warmed my heart. Talking about it really helps. That’s why my sisters and I catch up always so the one who’s taking care of my mom will have her burdens lessen somehow. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Gina. Have a great day!

We developed a special bond when we were adults. Maybe it was because we faced a lot of problems together. It was a far cry from childhood days when we used to fight hahaha. My mom always emphasized the importance of love between us and to help each other.

like me and my siblings too, our bonds were always there like yours formed through tough times together even in adulthood we stood together. your mom sounds such a an amazing person, you are very blessed as she is to have all of you

Lovely post Winnie! Your sister might be strong, but she still needs a support system. It wonderful that you were that for her; even if it was just for one night! Blessings, and strength my friend; for you and your family!!

Monday is a day of beginnings and new starts. It’s a day where the week is before you and possibilities are endless. Begin the week with momentum and you’ll look back with great satisfaction on all you achieved. Thanks ….. make this Monday one of the good ones. One where you demonstrate the power of a positive attitude and rocket toward your goals.

That seems like a pretty long day.
I’m incredibly saddened to hear about your mom though, I really admire the positivity you’re still trying to spread.
Sending warm hugs and prayers your way. Have a fantastic week ahead xx.

Thank you for this post, and sharing the intimate details about your mom. It must be really difficult for your family, and especially your mom. Sending you all love, and thinking of you. I’m already looking forward to your next motivation Monday post, I found this one to be inspirational and thought-provoking. Thank you. Xx, Antasha

Hi, Antasha! That’s so sweet of you. Yes, it is difficult as her disease is progressing. Yesterday, our sister who’s taking care of her message me and the youngest. Our mom was bothering her to let her go home in her own place while she’s home already. I think all the memory she has now was before the renovation. It saddened me that the once loving, caring and full of life mom was slowly fading away. Thank you for the love you’re sending as we need it to make it through this phase.

P.S. Thank you for liking my posts. ❤️ The next Monday Motivation is under way. 😉

I’m so sorry that you are having to go through this with you mom, it’s so hard to watch. My step mom is In The same boat, but I am comforted to know that every day is a new day for her and she forgot that she was so upset the day before. It’s had to find the silver linings in what is happening to her but I’m trying! My thoughts are with you and your family ❤️
Raegan

Thank you for your encouraging words! I have to agree with you on finding it hard to find the silver lining. I cried the first few days she’s with us. In order for me to move on and accept things as they are, all I have to do is think of the good things she did for our family. It far outweighs the difficulties I’m having with her. Hugs to you! ❤️