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How to get a one night stand

You might be really curious how it feels to have a one night stand with a stranger but many people regard it as a vacation. It can be therapeutic to be intimate with those who live outside the structures of our daily life. They are not for everyone but for some people, it provides a moment of sexual expression and physical pleasure.

To achieve a one night stand easily and quickly demands highly effective measures that one needs to exercise. So, if it takes you hours just to get a “peck on the cheek”, follow these useful tips as mentioned below:

Get to the point

Always make it obvious from the beginning that you are here for one night stand. Don’t be indirect. Just spend a couple of minutes in getting comfortable with her. Overcome the fear of rejection. Discuss the aspirations and dreams through intense eye contact. Have a small talk and try to touch her at appropriate places like hands, shoulders. If she is willing, she will definitely respond positively.

Don’t surround yourself with a large group of friends

It can be a formidable task for a woman to approach you if you are surrounded by a large group of men especially friends. She will be too much nervous to make a move. Just take one or two friends as wingmen. But remember, avoid going alone to such places as it yields the impression that you are a lonely creeper.

Always keep an eye on available women

You need to identify which women are ready to have sex. You will get used to it once you get the hang of it. Women showing cleavage and wearing a short dress is one of the possible hints. Also, they laugh out loud to draw the attention of people. Their eyes are always looking around, finding a person that is willing for a hookup.

Find the best venue possible

Places like bars, clubs or pubs are the best bet when you are really in a mood of a one night stand. Hookups can also be found at coffee houses or bookstores. So pick a good venue and increase your chances of finding a girl ready for a one night stand.

Online option

There is also an online option too if you don’t feel like going out. The internet offers dozens of sites where you can find a perfect match to fling. The only upside of it is that girls available are pretty down to hook up and the caliber of finding the perfect match is quite low.

Get yourself that date!

From bars to restaurants, and from concerts to pubs – pretty women are everywhere.To actually pretty hard to get them though, so here we discuss some tips so youcan get a date for yourself.

Now, this is all personal opinion and how I go about stuff. Firstof all, you need to make sure you know everything you’re about to do before youactually do it. Let me set up a hypothetical situation – you’re at a bar andyou see a pretty girl across the bar. What do you do? It’s pretty simple as allthe movies only taught us one thing – “Can I buy you a drink?” and yes – thisthing actually works but when? That’s the main question. Usually, it’s not thedrink that gets you the girl, but the way you present yourself. If you have seensomeone in a movie offering drink to someone at the bar, you might have alsoseen the girl then noticing the guy all from up to down. Yes, that does happen.Most of the times, it’s not for the free drink but more about how you go aboutoffering it. (Sometimes it’s just about the drink though **alert: gold digger –keep away**)

So, how to present yourself?

Be confident –

Be natural and be yourself. You don’t have to be shy. If you go upto her with your head facing the floor and then you tell the bartender to giveher what she likes, she’ll laugh out loud(Personal experience). So you have tobe confident, look her in the eye and ask her directly, “Can I buy you adrink?” Be firm and be natural. Be bold. If you stammer on this like, “C-canI-i b-uy you -something” she will think you’re doing it for the firsttime.(Some find it cute, but majority does not). So be confident.

Being confident can also get you her number. If you stick out anapkin and go, “Perhaps you give me your number and I’ll take you out fordrinks” she will do it. But if you go, “Number please”, even I would not.

Analyze her –

Before you make your approach, it really depends on whether she’sinterested or not. Body language can guide you through this phase. Look for thepeople she is with. Wouldn’t it be embarrassing if she has a boyfriend? Whyrisk it by being hasty? So just observe and watch around her and the peoplewith her. If she has already had 2 beers, offer her another one(She probablylikes beers).

Communication –

A big thing that many people fail at is communication. Talk topeople to develop this skill. No one wants to be near a boring person. Do youthink someone would give you her number if you get to sit there not talking atall, or talking so much that you do not let her speak at all. So it all dependson the communication skills. The more you are able to express yourself and askfor her opinions and ideas, the more comfortable she will be while being withyou. A plus pointer.

Also, pick up lines do not work, trust me. It’s one of the worstthings you can do. It just makes you look cheesy. If you have somethingoriginal and good there can be a slight probability that it might work, butmost of the times it does not work.

Communication is everything and so you have to prepare yourselfbefore you go in front of her. Be ready to prepare yourself to face rejectionif so be it. Make sure you have everything prepared and make sure you arefeeling confident. You can simply start by introducing yourself and going for aformal, and firm handshake. Present yourself in an impressive way. Talk aboutyourself, why you are wherever you are and you can talk about your interests orask her interests, or maybe talk about the place you are in. If you’re funnytry making good jokes that make her laugh. Try to make more than 60 percent ofthe conservation about her, but do not ask personal questions. Ask somethinglike work or something else.

Okay, so that’s all you’ll need to actually make things work. Thebasics are what you mainly require to achieve your goals. The basics here were,being confident. Women like the men who approach them with full confidence, thekind of confidence that they are ready to take them. Women also admire theattire, so make sure to fix your clothes before you make a move. Another thingwe talked about was communication – so make sure to present yourself in a
mannerful and respectful way. That way you can make sure that you get a dateand her number. Another bonus pointer: do not over-text her but make sure totext her whenever necessary. Like after the date, make sure to text her if shereached home safely or not.

Another thing that I can say is to compliment her. Complimentingwomen usually tend to them being more comfortable. But make sure to make asensible comment as a choice of words can have a great impact on how she seesyou, A beautiful mature man or a creep, it all depends on a choice of words.

PUA History

Quick PUA Definition: PUA or “Pick Up Artist” is a term given to a community of men whose main goal is to master the art of seduction and sexual interest in women with the goal of seducing women into relationships or sexual encounters. (Sidenote: the seduction community or pick up community is all about picking up chicks and getting them to sleep with you.)

So where did it all begin?

The large majority of PUA’s are on the internet or through newsletters and publications that center around the topic of seducing women and the techniques, tips, tricks, and strategies to meet that end goal. One of the first proponents of seducing women was a man in the 70’s named Eric Weber who wrote a book called “How To Pick Up Girls”. The precursor to Weber was Ellis, a psychologist who wrote books on the subject and claimed to have been doing so since the 30’s.

Communal aspect

The Seduction community started forming around a man named Ross Jeffries who led and taught workshops on who to pick up women using neuro-linguistic techniques and who wrote books on the subject. Jeffries and his students would go on to be the seedling of what the pickup artist community is today.

Premise behind PUA

Stages of pick up success

Like with anything in life, the actualization of or materializing of it comes in stages. In the pickup world, the following stages are this

Appeal: This would be the initial stage by looking, acting, and being that confident alluring person most people want.

Repoire or trust building: This is the second stage after you’ve established attraction based on certain body language cues. In this phase, you want to establish emotional connections, relatability, and accidental or social contact. Building emotional connections seems to be the gateway into the seduction phase with someone.

Seduction/Turn-On: This is the third and final phase so to speak for the pickup artist to get to his end goal, which is to have sex with the woman or make her his girlfriend. This where the firm foundation of attraction and connection easily lead into sex. Now, these three phases can happen in the course of 30 minutes to weeks or even month depending on your skill, confidence, and appeal to the woman. You have to appeal to her animalistic instinctual side and her socialized idea of romance. Pickup artists with high skill can do this fairly quickly all under the auspices of it flowing naturally.

(sidenote)

My uncle was the king of pick up back in his day, I am now writing this blog because of him. He’s now settled down and married with kids like Neil Strauss and the proud owner of his own plumbing business https://www.plumbersofhollywood.com.

Famous PUA’s

We definitely have to highlight some of the famous guys who have paved the way to train men from coy little boys to confident, assertive, and masculine adonises.

Mystery

Probably one of the most if not the most famous pickup artist of them all. Erik Von Markovik AKA Mystery is the inventor of the “Mystery Method” of pickup artist techniques and the main character in a reality tv show called “The Pickup Artist” that aired on VH1 in August of 2006 til November of 2008. In the show Mystery would take less than attractive and confident men, and turn them into modern day Don Juan’s.

Richard describes himself at the onset of his journey as shy and not very savvy with the ladies. Having lost his virginity at 21 years old and not having much success with women until 2005 he later discovered the pickup artist community and learned the skills that it took to be successful with the ladies. He, later on, met some mentors and started his own training of 12 hour 1 on 1 session that he later turned into boot camps, which have now become the most popular pickup artist schools in London. He has been featured in major media outlets and is a world-renowned authority in the PUA community.

Media Criticism

As with anything else, whatever becomes popular enough to garner media attention will also bring with it is many praises and criticisms falling anywhere in the spectrum. The pickup artist community is criticized for being overtly sexist, misogynistic, pseudoscience and fluffy PUA pipedreams. Much of the criticism that has come to the pickup artist community has come on the heels of pointing out the deceptive and manipulative practices and techniques that are used on unsuspecting women. A lot of these women are hoping to find long-term relationships and instead are getting fickle, and uncommitted players that treat fucking women, like a game. Instead of valuing the individual uniqueness of the women these pickup artists pick up, they are reduced to nothing more than objects to satisfy the hedonistic fantasies of these former dorks.

Using psychology and manipulation, this community and its poster boys are dubbed as pseudoscience and nothing more than charlatans in the dating world. They sell young men desperate for love pipedreams and inflated techniques that don’t help them but hurt them and the women they play.

PUA Today

Its 2018 and with the recent revelations of high powered men in influential positions being exposed as sexual predators, the pickup community will probably not be as tolerated as it was in the past. Now that more women than ever are finding their voice and Feminism is gaining more traction, will the playboys of times past be able to do what they’ve done?

These days the #metoo movement will not fly for the same misogynistic games and aggression that some pickup artists employ to land that deal with those attractive women they’re after. Pickup artistry is still as strong as it was or perhaps even more so than before with many would be P.U.A teachers gracing the many pages of youtube to gain a following and sell their own materials on it.

Whether you agree or not, there are things women want in men. Consent being at that top of the list for sure, but confidence, courage and risk are all things women want in a man. That is the ultimate game.