Wednesday, 10 September 2014

What I Learned NOT To Do: Part 1 of Who I Wanted To Be – September 10, 2014

We meet all kinds of people in our lives that
teach us things, for me that has included how I don't want to be, how I don't want to treat people. This is part one of what I have learned of how I want to be in life, and starting with the list of how I DID NOT WANT to be. Sadly, much of this I learned from family, one female character in particular though I it breaks my heart to say whom it is so I won't:

-lie, exaggerate, or change the story of
events.

-put people on the spot with falsities to
impress the crowds I wish to please and make the one in the spotlight feel obligated
to follow through with my lie in order to make it truth for my own benefit.

-never asking people for help or favours
respectfully or politely, but rather demand in a rude manner, all the time... and
worse, if I do anything for you (including giving you gifts) it is for my own
benefit in some way, or, I will try and use it against you as a guilt trip,
call in a favour, or make a demand... so everything I would do for others has
condition behind it with me.

-be lapse in observations of others so badly
that I question people to do something for me even when that individual is right
in front of me doing that very action already.

-behave as if I were center stage, and that
you are all my audience so that I never actually realize that everyone else
already has a center stage that they also have to take care of and maintain.

-I support, love, and care for other people
without any ultimatums or ulterior motives behind it.

-not listening to what others wants or needs
are, nor practicing sympathetic or empathetic feelings for others enough to see
from their point of you or understand where they are coming from.

-swear like a sailor to everyone when I am in
a bad mood (literally assaulting your ears).

-gossip (especially cruelly or to hurt others
to make myself look and feel better)

-lack of listening to others, and trying to
have my say in more than the other person

-instead of saying what’s wrong with me or
venting to others when I am stressed and upset, I take out on others and make
them guess why I am mad, sad etc

-make my own messes in life (metaphorically and
literally/physically) and expect everyone else to clean it up for me.

~Ange.Copyright 2014 Lucky 33: Stories, Experiences, Perspectives, and Opinions of a Woman Who Made It To Her Thirties.

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About Me

My nickname is Ange, I am about to turn thirty-three! Hurray! I celebrate and rejoice in having made it this far; because in the past five years I have known many people both younger and older than me that have passed away before it seemed to be their time. I feel very fortunate to have made it this far. Reflecting that I have made it to thirty-three years makes me feel very blessed and ever-so grateful. I am truly thankful.
On a corny note about this age, I can hardly wait to start saying that number. 33!
Now, about this blog...
I am either really brave, or really silly for creating a spot where I am about to share a lot about myself and my life experiences. Perhaps others will also want to read and share here as well.
What I am sharing is merely what I have learned about myself and my own little world around me along the way; which means this probably feel more like my, "thoughts of the week," or, "thought of the day," as well as a tool for me to reflect about everything in my life as I continue on my journey! Much like an open journal I guess is the best way to put it.