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The goal of a Twin Flame relationship goes beyond personal. When you are ready for a Twin Flame relationship you have worked through most of your issues -with the help of Twin Souls in the past. This may have taken many lifetimes as we all had and have many wounds that need(ed) healing.
Because you have worked through most of your personal stuff, you are now ready to serve a higher purpose, together with your Twin Flame. This purpose is to experience unconditional love, which raises the vibration of mankind and the planet. It is not just you two, what you two create. The high vibration of Twin Flame love will connect with that of other Twin Flames. So together you create a very high vibrational field of unconditional love that will touch others all over the world. This will help other people to also raise their vibration and to grow and expand, to enter more loving and balanced relationships. When more people do so, the vibration of everything on our planet will go up even more.
This is the goal of a Twin Flame relationship. It is NOT personal, it is NOT the ultimate romantic love relationship. That’s NOT what it’s about. If you want that, you are better off in a soulmate relationship.
Why? Because it is NOT personal. It’s not about you getting all lovey dovey with another person, you are meant to serve a Higher Divine purpose…
Again, it is not about sitting on sofa, holding hands and feeding each other bonbons. It is about servitude. Not a 3D type of serving, which likely reminds you of plodding and slavery. I’m talking about a higher form of serving: As a soul we all came here with a goal, we all are love, we all want to give and share love, unconditionally. That type of serving is what I’m talking about. And that’s the type of serving that Twin Flames have to do.
Of course that’s not a mental decision, it’s what you’re ready for. What you want to do, what you long to do. It’s a Soul craving.
This is why you have to be ready for a Twin Flame relationship!! As long as you aren’t ready as an individual yet to do this kind of serving you aren’t ready. You will need to work through your personal stuff first so at some point you will be ready for it.
If reading that part about serving triggers resistance in you, you aren’t ready yet.
Good news is: That is okay! Where you are on your path is okay, regardless of where it is. It is just fine.

A bit more info on a Twin Flame relationship:
it isn’t always hunky dorey from the word go. Even though you have cleansed and worked through most of your issues, there are still some deeper things or last shreds of them that may need to be healed. For most that is the case. Oftentimes you aren’t aware of that, but a Twin Flame will trigger these things. They can do that because they touch you deeper than anyone else ever has before. So in a way they can get to things that even you may not have seen until they triggered you. In that sense they mirror you, but not like a Twin Soul does. It is different.
Nevertheless, it does mean you will have these things come up, and as they are the last and deepest hidden parts of issues, it can cause a lot of upheaval.
Isn’t that great! Just as you thought you worked through it all, more work to be done! But in my experience, this will go at the speed of light because you have the support of your Twin Flame AND because it truly are the last bits and pieces. You’ve already dumped the garbage bag, it’s cleaning the crumbs out of the bin that were left behind.
THIS AGAIN MEANS YOU HAVE TO BE READY: if you haven’t dumped the garbage bag yet, you cannot get to the crumbs.

And sorry to be so forceful about this, but so many people in the online Twin Flame community just don’t understand this concept. Feel it is about romantic love, finding ultimate love and living happily ever after. They don’t understand (yet) that first they have to do the work, that they have to get that garbage bag out of the bin in order to be ready for a connection like a Twin Flame.
And as Abraham Hicks says: There is no such thing as a quantum leap.
You cannot skip steps, there is no short-cut. Trust me, everyone who is with their Twin Flame has done the work. Many, many lifetimes, and mostly they’ve gone through more crappy stuff this life before they were ready to meet their Twin Flame.
It likely won’t go down well to hear, but most I’ve come across that seem to be with their Twin Flame -and not think they are out of co-dependency- are around 45-50 years old.
Most younger people I come across in the Twin Flame community who claim to be with their Twin Flame all display behavior and thoughts that clearly indicate they are not ready. And thus cannot be with their Twin Flame. They are likely with a Twin Soul.
Sorry… don’t shoot the messenger. But wanting to be with your Twin Flame doesn’t make you ready… Even more so, if you need to meet your Twin Flame, it’s a sign you aren’t ready. You are ready when you don’t need them, when you are not looking for them.Embrace where you are on your path, albeit with a soulmate, Twin Soul or Twin Flame. Don’t try to make a quantum leap. Work on getting your growth by cleaning out any ‘garbage’ (issues, fears, insecurities, self-esteem). And trust that it will come. You do NOT need to be with your Twin Flame in order to be happy! Nor do you get a medal for meeting your Twin Flame. Trust, embrace where you are, love yourself, and live a happy life.

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Many aren’t aware that these are not the same. Many refer to Twin Flames with “Twin Souls”. Theoretically this would be correct, but what is meant is NOT the same.
There are vast differences between the two relationships, but there are similarities as well which doesn’t help define what you’re dealing with.
Let’s visualize it:

As you can see the one and only other half is your Twin Ray. However, mankind has not ascended enough yet for it to be possible to meet your Twin Ray. Of course you are connected to your Twin Ray, energetically.
The next tier down is the Twin Flame. You have more than one. Yes. You really do, from what I understand you have 12 Twin Flames.
BUT… you can only ever meet one Twin Flame this life. Only one Twin Flame has reincarnated with you. The others are not on this planet.Meaning the Twin Flame relationship is the highest vibrational relationship possible.

A tier lower you find the Twin Souls. You have more than one of those as well, 144 (do you notice the Sacred Geometric numbers here?)
Many of them have incarnated with you, so you can meet more than one Twin Soul during your life. They can be your friend, partner, family. Because this is still a very high vibrational relationship they will likely be someone you feel deeply for.

Soulmates, thousands of them. Oftentimes when you meet someone that makes you feel like you know them from somewhere, someone you have an instant click with, they’re a soulmate. Soulmates can enter your life for years, a day, a week or a mere few minutes. No matter what, they often bring you something beautiful. A lesson of sorts. They too are close to you, even though not nearly as close as a Twin Flame. You meet many soulmates in your lifetime, chances are that your friends are, or a neighbor you really like, a colleague you really get along with, siblings, your kids, your parents, or your partner.

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TWIN FLAME & TWIN SOUL?
Mostly the goal of the relationship.
The goal of a Twin Soul relationship is mostly personal. They help you to grow, they trigger your issues so you can work through them and by doing so raise your vibration. It helps cleanse your energy system from blockages: all issues and traumas are also to be found in your energy system.
Twin Souls usually mirror you like you wouldn’t believe, and because this triggers issues in you, such a relationship can be very tumultuous. Lots of conflict as you bang around to work out your issues and heal them.
Some Twin Soul relationships work out, aren’t as much of a roller-coaster ride as it is for others. This depends -as always- on where you are on your path. Maybe you’ve already worked out a lot of stuff in past lives with other Twin Souls, so there’s less ‘garbage’ left to clear out. Then the relationship can be a lot calmer. Twin Soul relationship do not always last… It can become too much, or maybe you need another Twin Soul to mirror different things in you so you can grow more. (I think maybe the reason why so many people these days divorce) This is good!! We aren’t meant to remain stagnant in a relationship that doesn’t make us happy and whole. We are meant to cleanse, work through issues, and grow. Expand. So we raise the vibration of mankind, the planet and everything on it.Personal growth and development is the main goal of a Twin Soul relationship.

The goal of a Twin Flame relationship goes beyond personal. When you are ready for a Twin Flame relationship you have worked through most of your issues -with the help of Twin Souls in the past. This may have taken many lifetimes as we all had and have many wounds that need(ed) healing.
Because you have worked through most of your personal stuff, you are now ready to serve a higher purpose, together with your Twin Flame. This purpose is to experience unconditional love, which raises the vibration of mankind and the planet. It is not just you two, what you two create. The high vibration of Twin Flame love will connect with that of other Twin Flames. So together you create a very high vibrational field of unconditional love that will touch others all over the world. This will help other people to also raise their vibration and to grow and expand, to enter more loving and balanced relationships. When more people do so, the vibration of everything on our planet will go up even more.
This is the goal of a Twin Flame relationship. It is NOT personal, it is NOT the ultimate romantic love relationship. That’s NOT what it’s about. If you want that, you are better off in a soulmate relationship.
Why? Because it is NOT personal. It’s not about you getting all lovey dovey with another person, you are meant to serve a Higher Divine purpose…
Again, it is not about sitting on sofa, holding hands and feeding each other bonbons. It is about servitude. Not a 3D type of serving, which likely reminds you of plodding and slavery. I’m talking about a higher form of serving: As a soul we all came here with a goal, we all are love, we all want to give and share love, unconditionally. That type of serving is what I’m talking about. And that’s the type of serving that Twin Flames have to do.
Of course that’s not a mental decision, it’s what you’re ready for. What you want to do, what you long to do. It’s a Soul craving.
This is why you have to be ready for a Twin Flame relationship!! As long as you aren’t ready as an individual yet to do this kind of serving you aren’t ready. You will need to work through your personal stuff first so at some point you will be ready for it.
If reading that part about serving triggers resistance in you, you aren’t ready yet.
Good news is: That is okay! Where you are on your path is okay, regardless of where it is. It is just fine.

A bit more info on a Twin Flame relationship:
it isn’t always hunky dorey from the word go. Even though you have cleansed and worked through most of your issues, there are still some deeper things or last shreds of them that may need to be healed. For most that is the case. Oftentimes you aren’t aware of that, but a Twin Flame will trigger these things. They can do that because they touch you deeper than anyone else ever has before. So in a way they can get to things that even you may not have seen until they triggered you. In that sense they mirror you, but not like a Twin Soul does. It is different.
Nevertheless, it does mean you will have these things come up, and as they are the last and deepest hidden parts of issues, it can cause a lot of upheaval.
Isn’t that great! Just as you thought you worked through it all, more work to be done! But in my experience, this will go at the speed of light because you have the support of your Twin Flame AND because it truly are the last bits and pieces. You’ve already dumped the garbage bag, it’s cleaning the crumbs out of the bin that were left behind.
THIS AGAIN MEANS YOU HAVE TO BE READY: if you haven’t dumped the garbage bag yet, you cannot get to the crumbs.

And sorry to be so forceful about this, but so many people in the online Twin Flame community just don’t understand this concept. Feel it is about romantic love, finding ultimate love and living happily ever after. They don’t understand (yet) that first they have to do the work, that they have to get that garbage bag out of the bin in order to be ready for a connection like a Twin Flame.
And as Abraham Hicks says: There is no such thing as a quantum leap.
You cannot skip steps, there is no short-cut. Trust me, everyone who is with their Twin Flame has done the work. Many, many lifetimes, and mostly they’ve gone through more crappy stuff this life before they were ready to meet their Twin Flame.
It likely won’t go down well to hear, but most I’ve come across that seem to be with their Twin Flame -and not think they are out of co-dependency- are around 45-50 years old.
Most younger people I come across in the Twin Flame community who claim to be with their Twin Flame all display behavior and thoughts that clearly indicate they are not ready. And thus cannot be with their Twin Flame. They are likely with a Twin Soul.
Sorry… don’t shoot the messenger. But wanting to be with your Twin Flame doesn’t make you ready… Even more so, if you need to meet your Twin Flame, it’s a sign you aren’t ready. You are ready when you don’t need them, when you are not looking for them.Embrace where you are on your path, albeit with a soulmate, Twin Soul or Twin Flame. Don’t try to make a quantum leap. Work on getting your growth by cleaning out any ‘garbage’ (issues, fears, insecurities, self-esteem). And trust that it will come. You do NOT need to be with your Twin Flame in order to be happy! Nor do you get a medal for meeting your Twin Flame. Trust, embrace where you are, love yourself, and live a happy life.

TWIN FLAME SIGNSThis list is not exhaustive and I left out things you usually see that I do not agree with at all. (Often signs are stated that are Twin Soul signs, NOT Twin Flame ones.)

Meeting / recognition feels like coming home, at the same time as a beginning of a journey

You feel a deep connection, soul to soul

Connection is instant

Unconditional love

You don’t feel like changing the other

Sense of knowing each other (deeper than with a soulmate or Twin Soul)

Peculiar timing & ‘coincidence’: You want to phone or text each other at the same time. You think of eating pizza, find out later they had pizza. That sort of thing

You help each other grow. Can be spiritual, but not necessarily the case. I’d already been there, done that. For me reunion triggered manifestation of my goals in life. Things I was already busy with, some things took a completely different direction. It opened me up, got me closer to ‘me’. In that sense you could say it was spiritual, but I did not go through the spiritual awakening so many talk about, because I’d had that some 12 years prior to meeting him. So it depends on where you are on your path. If you haven’t had your spiritual awakening, it could get triggered upon meeting your TF.

You don’t doubt, deep down you know this is your Twin Flame

Sometimes you pick up each other’s thoughts and moods

Your personalities are complementary (2 poles of 1 being) but your norms & values are the same, maybe even your profession is the same

You had this feeling that you were going to meet someone special

No fear to be apart as the knowing you belong together is strong

Your individuality increases because of reunion with your TF

Hidden old pains and traumas can surface and can cause conflict. This can create a push-pull. You can help each other to work through these issues. This will only strengthen the bond you have.

You feel connected at a spiritual, mental, emotional, physical level

There were obstacles during reunion, things that made it difficult to get together. These could be personal or external problems (distance, family and so on)

Very similar/the same fundamental views. Oneness of vision, goal, feeling.

The differences between both TFs complement and increase the other’s perception. 1+1 is more than 2

No competition, instead a strong drive to support each other.

Same ability to love

Others are being influenced by the energy you create together

Around the time of meeting your TF you see a lot of 11:11, often 22’s as well. Any combination of these, but the strongest is 11:11.

Most say there are many differences because you mirror. I disagree. That’s Twin Souls, not Twin Flames. My TF and I have a ridiculous amount of similarities. Which makes sense: you are part of the same ‘unit’, so you can’t be vastly different.

This does not mean you are clones, exactly the same. You are not. You complement each other perfectly. You are Yin & Yang, and these aren’t the same, but they DO complement. There are differences, which is good: you need contrast, it is required for expansion and growth.

That means there can be mild mirroring (=growth), but this won’t cause irreconcilable conflicts. (that is more the Twin Soul relationship, NOT the Twin Flame one)

You can have similar physical problems.

Looking in each other’s eyes can be overwhelming

Both TFs grow in the relationship. The growth of one, will also increase or trigger growth in the other.

You have to be totally vulnerable. I always feel I simply have to be. I want to be. This has to do with the connection being so deep -soul to soul, no secrets- and also because you accept each other as is. You don’t feel the need to change one another. This can be scary, might cause some to want to run away from the connection…

You cannot separate once connection has been made. Even if you do physically part, you will always remain connected

You will meet out of the blue, when you least expect it. That makes looking for him/her pointless. When you are ready, the Cosmos will orchestrate reunion. And typically, like with any romantic relationship, it happens when you are not looking for it, because then you don’t need the connection. Needing it, means you’re co-dependent, and a Twin Flame relationship cannot be sustained with co-dependency. It will make it painful, likely create runner-chaser dynamic which is far from pleasant.

OPEN FOR DEBATE-SIGNS

Age difference. Not always. We have a 4 year age gap.

One runs, the other chases. This can happen, mostly has to do with not being ready for this high vibrational connection yet. It is usually caused by co-dependency issues that still need to be worked out. But runner-chaser doesn’t occur in every Twin Flame relationship. It just depends who much stuff you have already worked out. If you don’t have co-dependency or commitment issues I doubt it will happen.

Hope this helps people out there to get more clarity what you’re dealing with!

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Since some 2 months I’ve been watching weekly Twin Flame Tarot readings. I find they are really helpful and insightful, and always spot on.
I just watched this week’s reading again, because when I first saw it it didn’t resonate with me at all. For the first time. Now it does resonate. I’m in a different place now than I was a few days ago. I was quite stable, loving etc. now I’m questioning the whole thing again.
The number of times I have thought of ending it, unreal. I never thought I’d get to that place with him, clearly I was wrong.
I was trying to get clear whether or not my boundaries were being crossed. That happened too often in the past and I don’t want that again. Ever. Problem is that because it happened so often, most of my life really, I find it incredibly hard to define when they are being trampled on or if I’m just thinking they are.

What I realized after watching the weekly TF reading is that it is my ego. My ego is screaming and is scared. Scared that this relationship will go the way it went in the past. That he is treating me the way my narcissistic ex was treating me. Then I have to use common sense -after I’ve calmed myself- to clearly see what is really going on. And then decide it’s okay. As I type this, my panicking ego still doesn’t agree.
Nothing I can do right now can or will improve anything, if nothing else it will likely force a breakup. Somehow my ego thinks that could be best, because then at least it won’t get hurt. And my boundaries won’t get broken. But that in itself is a sign that I do not trust myself to take care of my boundaries when the time callsfor it which is not now. I feel like forcing things because I want to know now. I need to know now. Have clarity now. It’s my hurt ego who wants and needs that.
A very unempowered place to be at, it stems from a deep inner fear, not from inner stability. And it’s not a place of the empowered feminine which can go with the flow and trust.
This is really so hard. Every time I think I’ve reached inner stability and security, I find out that yes, it is there at times, more often than ever before. It is growing, the duration of it too. But it’s not rock solid yet. I still wobble. I still doubt and question things and then end up being afraid.

If things between him and me would continue the way they are now, I am not going to be happy. It’s not what I want. I know that. But right now it is okay. For the simple reason that I need this time to manifest my own things, to have these old fears and wounds come up so I can heal them.
Do I like it? Not so much. It would be much easier and thus nicer to have him come running to me all the time, wanting to be with me, and doing all he can to make that happen.
Would that make me happy in the long run? I think not, because it would be too co-dependent and smothering. I don’t want a man like that. Right now it would sooth me, would reassure my scared ego. But that’s not what I need. I need to sooth my ego myself. Get rid of all these frigging doubts and fears.
If then he comes running to me, I can receive him from a place of empowerment.

It really doesn’t make sense how the ego or psyche works? In a way I am content with not seeing him very often right now. At the same time my wounded ego gets pissed off with him for not missing me and trying to be with me.

Why is this so hard and why does it take so long? And why can’t I have this scared ego surgically removed? -grin.

I’ll get there, I don’t doubt that for a second. Then hopefully this roller-coaster ride will become a nice boat trip. I don’t like roller-coasters. And when on a boat trip you got time to take in the scenery. It would allow me to relax, dip my hand in the water and feel the water flow around my hand, soft and caressing, the sun warming my skin, a gentle breeze through my hair.
How I’d love that!

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How to tell if someone is your Twin Flame or not? This is a bit tricky, as the similarities with a Twin Soul or Soul Mate relationship can be substantial.
Mostly people say “You’ll know he/she is your Twin Flame!” but even that can be tricky, because when the ego is involved… We can so want someone to be that one other half of our soul, that we cannot see clearly. Or we can simply not trust our own inner voice and intuition.
It can be handy to go through a list of signs that could indicate you indeed have met your Twin Flame.
So here it goes!

(TF = Twin Flame)

TWIN FLAME SIGNS – PART 1– Strong sense that you know each other
There’s an instant connection and a feeling you have known each other before.In my case: Yes. One way or another he looked familiar, in another way he did not as I’d never seen him before this life. That first meeting was odd because it felt so familiar. It was like coming home. Belonging. Being where I was supposed to be; in his arms. Truly home. He felt the same way. We couldn’t stop touching each other. Nothing sexual, just touching, feeling. We simply had to feel each other. That always reminds me of the lyrics of “Starving” by Hailee Steinfeld; “I didn’t know that I was starving till I tasted you.” That’s what it felt like, as if we’d been starved for one another and had to refill a void we didn’t even know we had. And I’m not talking about a void inside that you should fill yourself. It is not the same as the ‘co-dependency void’.

– eye-contact is intense and special Most say that when you look in your TF’s eyes you see yourself. Maybe that is the case for some, but I don’t feel that way. So if you don’t either, it’s not a given that they aren’t your TF. However, eye-contact is extremely intense, unlike anything you’ve ever experienced before. It does go deep, it is an energy exchange of sorts, it’s mesmerizing. Oftentimes I find it difficult to break eye-contact because it feels so good. When we have a special moment of eye-contact, it fills me with joy, warmth. My heart (chakra) opens up, I can totally lose myself in his eyes without losing myself, if that makes sense. I don’t even want to speak during such moments, I just want to revel in the eye-contact. It’s difficult to describe it, but trust me, it’s amazing. But I don’t consciously feel like “Hey, I’m looking at myself.”Him: When he looks in my eyes he often has this sense of “I have known you before.” Especially when I laugh and he is looking in my eyes. As our gazes meet and I laugh, he feels like he knows my laugh, that he’s seen and heard it before.
So yes, eye-contact is important, special. Unusual in one way or another.
Eyes are the mirrors of our soul, and I feel with your TF they are the way ‘in’. Eye-contact allows you to get to the core with your TF. Like a portal to the his/her soul. I think with other people there’s more masks and walls etc. With your TF those aren’t really there. That’s why it’s so deep.

– Distance: You often don’t live close together
This is mostly so that you can work out your own things before you reunite. You sometimes read that people are in another country or on another continent even. But this isn’t necessarily the case. Distance is perceived differently in different countries. For an American or Australian a 1 hour drive is peanuts. In my country it’s “Dang, that’s quite the drive!” The way literal distance is an obstruction also depends on various factors. For instance, a 1 hr drive in my country can sometimes take 2-3 hours. My country is small, and tends to be one major traffic-jam. Money is a factor as well. If your TF is on the other side of the world and neither has money to travel to meet… Big problem. If you have a nice job and money isn’t such a big deal, you’d shrug, buy the ticket and go.
So don’t take distance too literal. For some a 1000 miles could be easier to overcome than a 100 miles for others.In my case: we are 2 hours apart, and yes, that is quite the obstacle.

– External circumstances make it difficult to be / get together
This is for the same reasons as what I said under “Distance”. Of course distance itself is also an external circumstance, but there can also be other factors involved. Work, study, family, whatever. But mostly these obstructing factors are external, out of your control. I think these can and will be dissolved when both are ready for reunion.In my case: His work situation. (and being 2 hours apart)Benefit: We both still have our own things to work out before we can be together. I still get triggered an awful lot and he also has some wounds that need more healing. Had we been closer together and/or had his work not been a factor, we would’ve been together very often because the longing is so intense. We would not be able to stop it. The chances of us making it would be reduced by that, because this purging really is necessary if we want to get to a stable relationship.

– Energy between you / heart chakra openingYour heart beat quickens when you’re together, or you feel your heart chakra opening, pulsing.In my case: We met and hugged -I’d promised him a hug-, grin- he mentioned that he felt a lot of energy between us. Heat. He still often feels that. He’s also mentioned that he felt heat high up on my back, the backside of my Higher Heart chakra (thymus chakra).
I mostly feel my heart chakra pulsing, opening wide. This feeling can be so strong it’s almost painful. I also get that when I think of him.

– You trigger each other
This connection is meant to be pure and high so that you can fulfill the higher purpose of this reunion for mankind and the planet. That means that any issues you still have that can obstruct this will have to be worked out. If you still have (ego) issues to work out, fears, doubts, insecurities etc., they will surface and they can be totally overwhelming. This is a process that should be embraced. It’s purging, healing, making you more whole as an individual. And it is imperative to get to reunion and/or to make reunion work. That doesn’t mean it’s pleasant, nor easy.
It mostly has to do with getting rid of any co-dependency. A TF relationship can never have co-dependency. It is not possible. To be ready for this union you have to get rid of any such issues. This because of the higher purpose of this reunion.
Because what comes up can be so overwhelming you get the ‘runner & chaser’ thing that you read about so often. Some can’t handle the things that come up and run away from the connection. Often the other ends up chasing, overgiving and so on.
My case: Did I get triggered? Hell yes! Meeting him is one of the most beautiful things that ever happened to me, at the same time it was like getting on a wild roller-coaster ride. I’m still on it, although the ride gets smoother.
Did he get triggered, yes. We were both overwhelmed by the depth of the connection, and by the speed that connection was made. It wasn’t even made, it was simply there from the moment I opened my front door and we laid eyes on each other.

– Accelerated growth
Most say you go through accelerated spiritual growth. I say you go through accelerated growth. Not necessarily spiritual. Spiritual is a vague statement anyways. I rather speak of “personal growth”. Spiritual growth IS personal growth, yet not everyone considers personal growth to be spiritual, hence me making this distinction.
You will grow because of what gets triggered by the other. And you work through these things real fast. Fast is relative, let’s say ‘faster than you would have without your TF.” So it can still take 2 years, or longer, but then it would have taken you 10 years without your TF. So it’s still fast.
I know I’m being elaborate, but I want people to really understand and not think “Fast means approx 2 weeks. I can’t do it in 2 weeks, so he/she isn’t my TF.”
You will also grow spiritually, but I feel this is very different for everyone. You may become more intuitive, sensitive.My Case: I already was very intuitive and sensitive, and I don’t feel this increased after I met him. It is easier for me to get in touch with my Higher Self, the real ‘me’, because he truly sees me for who I am. And I can really be authentic around him because he doesn’t judge. That makes it far easier for me to connect with my Higher Self. So in that sense you could say it did stimulate my spiritual growth.

I’d like to tell you a bit about my own personal experience with my Twin Flame. I’m going to mix it up with the things I’ve read and heard elsewhere.
If you’re reading this, you likely take an interest because you have met your Twin Flame or feel you are about to. I hope my story can contribute to your own discovery!

The reason I’m writing my story, while there’s already so much out there on the net, is quite simple: A lot of what I came across isn’t positive, sometimes not right (or at least I feel it isn’t, to each their own of course). What I’ve noticed in the ‘Twin Flame’ community -aka ‘talk about this subject on fora- is that there’s a lot of confusion when people first stumble upon the phenomenon. And a lot of negativity as there are many people who thought they had met their Twin Flame, only to have the relationship end up badly. Many of those who went through that got negative and sometimes even hostile towards people who have met their Twin Flame. Now I understand you can get hurt badly, haven’t we all been there at some point or other? But to start spewing negativity is such a shame. Not only for themselves, but also because it confuses many others who are still finding their way concerning Twin Flames and what it all means. And of course they feed this ‘cloud’ of negativity. I think there must be an ‘anti-Twin Flame’ collective by now, created by all this. I am smiling as I’m typing this, I like a bit of humour you see, but in actual fact it is quite sad to think that there is truth to it…
I am still shocked to see that some 90% or more of what is being discussed on fora about Twin Flames is negative and/or hostile.

So… I am aiming to spread some positive vibes about the subject. I think the ones who are with their Twin or take a serious interest can really do with it. I know I can!

Goal of Twin Flame Reunion & Reunion (or not)From here on I will refer to Twin Flame with TF.
Many people hold the belief that getting together with your TF is about having the ultimate love relationship. It would be very romantic, but a TF relationship goes beyond the personal and individual needs and desires. Of course you can still have romance and love, but that is not the goal of this relationship. It truly is a union of two people who have done quite a lot of personal growth and have thus also worked through a lot of issues. Because of that, they have a broader understanding of life, the universe, and everything. Some may not really be consciously aware of that. I always find it difficult to phrase this correct, because oftentimes people perceive it as judgemental, and there’s nothing judgemental about it. Some are simply further on their path of development and where you are is just right. There’s no right and wrong, no better and no worse. Regardless of where you are, it is just right.
But people who are ready for a Twin Flame relationship have come far enough on their path to be able to handle a real high vibrational relationship with a goal that goes beyond personal.
The goal is to assist the ascension process of the individual and the planet. When TFs get together they generate an energy that will do this. The more TFs get together, the stronger this energy gets. And this combined energy helps to raise the energy of other people, to help them in their ascension process, to help them awaken. It also raises vibration of relationships all over the world. And all this higher energy will help the planet.
Of course this can only happen when TFs get together in love and joy. For many it is difficult, some never come to reunion, others break up.
Also bear in mind that not every TF couple is meant to come together in a romantic relationship (this life). The bond, however, can never be broken.
Why they don’t get or stay together… I’m not an expert. One could speculate. One TF or neither are truly ready yet for this high vibrational relationship. Or maybe reunion clashes with another task or lesson a soul has set out for this lifetime and the TFs will come together in another life. And maybe the person you feel is your TF is not truly your TF. I’ve seen this a lot online, and many people are very disappointed and hurt when they find out. But please remember, meeting and reuniting with your TF is not the ultimate goal in life. Finding true happiness in life is, and you do not need your TF for that. I repeat, you do NOT need your TF for that!
If nothing else, a TF relationship is not per say something to be envious of. Like I said before, it’s not about lovey dovey romantic stuff, it is about the higher goal. So it’s about serving a higher purpose, not about meeting Prince Charming or the Sleeping Beauty, walking off in the sunset together and living happily ever after.
Please, please bear that in mind!

What happens when you meet?There’s an instant connection. You recognize each other. It feels good.
And in most cases you trigger each other. Old fears and doubts and insecurities come up in a way they have never come up before. This is because your TF is the other half of you and can touch you on deeper levels than anyone else could before.
You will have to work through all these ego things before the two of you can have reunion. Not just you, both. And since you cannot control what they are going to do, you can only do your own part of this process.
Typically you will not reunite until this purging is done. You can be in touch, involved even, but usually there will be circumstances that will prevent the two of you coming together. As in living together or getting closer, more involved. Oftentimes these circumstances are external, meaning they’re out of your control. This is to prevent you from prematurely rushing into something that won’t last when you or both aren’t ready yet while it’s meant to last (at some point, not necessarily this lifetime!!).
This purging, the things that come up, can be extremely intense. So much so that it can scare some off, meaning reuniting will become difficult or unlikely. One important thing to come to terms with is co-dependency. In a TF relationship there is no space for that. You both have to stand on your own two feet, not expect the other to fill in a void, and not make them responsible for your happiness. In a way they are the icing on the cake, you have to learn to make your own cake. So co-dependency and TF relationship do not go together. It has to be interdependent.
Logical, because if you cannot bake your own cake yet, need someone else to do this for you still, you are also not ready to carry the higher purpose of TFs. Again, this is not judgement on my part, nor punishment from the universe. It’s sheer logic. You cannot run when you haven’t learnt to walk just yet. And like we don’t punish a baby for not being able to walk or run right away, you shouldn’t punish yourself either. Things take time.
Some TFs might also do a runner because the connection is so deep that it scares them. It’s quite something to meet someone who is your other half, who truly gets you and can touch you in ways no one else has done before.

Here’s some interesting links for you if you want to know more. I only give links to sites that I feel are good and give solid info. And never to sites that come up with overly biased and/or negative views. That doesn’t serve TFs at all. I want to help build a ‘cloud’ of positive stuff about TFs. To nourish the positive TF collective 🙂
I hope you are with me on this! And by all means do check back, because I have more to tell.
In my next posting I will come up with a list of signs that he/she is likely to be your TF. And I will give you my personal experiences with that.
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Somewhere around November I suddenly felt like doing card readings. I had been drawn to this wonderful Romance Angels deck by Doreen Virtue for quite some time and I decided to get it in. It was my Christmas pressie to self.
My new oracle cards arrived the beginning of December. But the thing with these cards is, they’re about love and relationships and there’s only so much you can ask for yourself, however fun it may be to keep drawing one card after the other.

I decided to offer a limited number of 1-card readings on my spiritual forum and 10 on Facebook. And of course everyone wanted a reading. I started the readings, and I could feel myself connecting to this lovely deck straight away. Within 2 days I had done 20-25 card readings, and yes, that was a bit over the top! But everyone was extremely pleased and some were surprised by the accuracy of the cards. A couple of people were deeply touched by the message of their card, and required a bit of coaching. Very rewarding to do, pleasing so many people.
A few days later I offered another 10 on Facebook, and after that everybody was happy. Including me, because I’d had ample opportunity to get connected to and familiar with my new deck.

Having done those readings, I had an appetite for more! And I was inspired to create my own spread for a New Year reading. I had never really successfully created a spread, but the last time I had tried (yonks ago) I wasn’t as experienced with card readings as I am now.
I decided I wanted to do a spread with several different decks and I succeeded! Using about 5 different oracle decks, my Tarot and Lenormand I did the spread for myself, and was happy with the result.
Of course I wanted to put it to the test a bit more, and I offered it on my own forum. Only three, as this was going to be a lot more work than a 1-card reading. And .. it was very successful! All three were very pleased! Two mentioned that it was a true gift and 1 even said it was one of the best readings she’d ever had. Wow!
In the meantime more forum members had shown interest, but I didn’t want to do more of these large readings, instead I offered to do an abridged version. Using part of the larger spread, dumping some positions, ending up with a 4 or 5 card spread. And it also worked really well!
A lot of fun to do, but also time & energy consuming!

What I got out of doing this:
– Sheer practice
– More experience on how to make a spread, and one important lesson concerning that: you can have too many cards in a spread. Narrowing it down a bit more can still give you accuracy, and it’s a little less time consuming.
– It was wonderful to work with more than one deck, I had never done that before. I feel it can give more insight and depth to a reading.
– And another gem: I finally connected with my Enchanted Map deck! I really, really wanted it, but when I got it, felt it didn’t speak to me. I was even thinking of selling it. Now it opened up to me and I feel it’s one of the best decks I’ve got! Go figure!

In the meantime I got yet another beautiful deck in, the Wisdom of the Hidden Realms. And thoroughly enjoying it!