My Utopia

I wrote this when I was still smarting from the rejection
that I felt as a depressive -- it
certainly shows, and some of it is now a good reminder to me to be
careful of how I treat people who I find difficult.

No hustle hassles

Time-space constraint obligations would never be tight -- you'd never
have to rush anywhere.

This implies that you can live your everyday life in a fairly small
geographical area.

No cliques

There would be no cliques (groups from which someone is excluded).

It would always be acceptable to talk things through with someone
whose presence you found awkward, perhaps with other people present,
to come to some genuine agreement. Where the awkwardness is due to one
person having been hurt in the past (e.g. people being creepy and
sycophantic because they're desparate for company) the hurt would be
talked through with them lovingly and sympathetically by their
community, resulting in the hurt being healed (or at least made
bearable) and also resulting in everybody else being understand of
strange behaviour resulting from past hurts.

Those who feel a need to be in an in-group (requiring some people to
be out of the clique) would likewise have their problems talked
through sympathetically, so if they need to feel ``special'' to feel
worthwhile, it can be arranged not to be at the emotional or social
expense of other individuals.

You take what responsibility you can

This means that people are expected, for example, to be sensitive
about occupying under-supplied resources (bathrooms, the kitchen sink,
etc) and to watch for other people wanting to use them. It would
always be considered reasonable to point out that you are waiting for
something. Exceptions would only be made for those with mental
handicap sufficient for them not to be able to understand the idea of
considering others' needs for a resouce. Those who simply can't be
bothered, or who have no sense of wanting to get on with things, would
be educated about these matters, or asked to explain to the whole
community why they feel they should not need to take anyone else's
needs into account.