One
of the obvious problems that happens with any kind of mass awakening and
healing (racism, sexism, religionism, dictatorship, political
corruption, narcissism) is that so many humans will just use it to make a
NEW prejudice, a NEW "Us Against Them", and pigeonhole entire groups of
people. Such as: Non-white Caucasians WERE oppressed in some countries at certain periods of history, denying that...
is silly, it's real and it's true. What's NOT TRUE is that all
Caucasians were of the same mind about it. If it were not for Caucasians
who fought AGAINST it, risking life and limb, risking everything, it
would not have been defeated. It may have been overturned in time, but
denying that Caucasians fought with everything they had to defeat it is
just as racist as the other way around. And YET, there are huge numbers
of humans who actually DENY that, and desperately try to make every
Caucasian the same, as if everyone born with lighter skin is
automatically RACIST against anyone else. This is literally an insane
belief, because it is so far from reality that it's not funny. Believing
that all Caucasians are automatically racist is literally insane, like
believing that the world is flat, even though there is obvious proof and
evidence that it's round. So, THEN, in response to this assumption
by one racist group that all Caucasians are racist, certain Caucasians
that rise to personal defensiveness about that pigeonhole all
non-Caucasians as "Against US". So they can not even speak to a person
of African descent without assuming that the person is against them.
They are ALL creating MORE racism, MORE problems, MORE drama, and MORE
serious issues for the world, and for their poor children to have to
deal with.

Also NOT TRUE: That white Caucasians have not been enslaved or oppressed, that's ridiculous, of COURSE they have. That other races don't enslave or oppress other races, or their OWN race; throughout human history, and right now as we speak in the world there is incredible oppression, slavery, and disgusting, horrific violence being committed BY other races, AGAINST other races, and against their OWN people, children included.

Hate obliterates facts and reality. People who hate REFUSE to look at actual evidence or even at what's right in front of their face.

The awakening to Narcissism is causing a similar
problem. We have every right to be pissed off, and vent, and expose it.
We have definitely been mistreated, some of us for decades, by multiple
people, in all kinds of way, in ridiculous ways that have oppressed us,
hurt our very lives, our families, our futures, changed the entire
course of our lives and of our loved ones. We have finally found our voice, and a way to expose the methods and come together and find healing.
The one thing we really need to be careful of is that we don't do the
"HATE" thing. That's what oppressors do, not us. Hate has NO POWER, and
it's not the same thing as ANGER. I have every right to feel angry about
the things that others have done to me, damn straight I do. Trying to
shut down my anger is obviously just another Narc. tactic, one of the
main strategies. But my ANGER is not the same as HATE. As soon as I
start feeling hatred toward one of the people who have "Narc'd" me, I
know I am heading toward a place that is not where I want to be, that is
all about negativity, there's no light there, it's just acidic nowhere
land. It gives me a temporary false sense of power and superiority, but
it's where OPPRESSORS live, not me. Hate is the forfeit of reason,
healing, learning, and growth. Hate is giving up, and laying down, and gets off on CAUSING pain. That's not who I am, or what I want for
myself.

Hating all who show Narcissism traits is redundant
anyway, every human on Earth has Narcissism traits. The "disorder" is
when we are in DENIAL of having Narc. traits, because denying it means
we can't GROW OUT of our Narc. traits. If humans weren't born with
self-centeredness, most of us would die in infancy. The cries for "Feed
Me!" "Change Me!" "I'm Tired!" "Pick Me Up!" are what prompts MOST
adults to do any of those things in a timely manner, whether they want
to admit that or not. We humans aren't automatically perfect, guru
Parents just because we have a child (you can tell that by the state of
the society), so babies and children HAVE TO be self-protective and
express their needs so we do what they need us to do. (Being an
overbearing parent who constantly gives a child what they THINK they
need before the child can ever ask for it is not healthy either.)

We don't need to start another Witch Hunt, or another Prejudice "Us
against Them" mentality, where we condemn every human who shows signs of
Narcissism, that's actually a Narc. behavior all by itself. All men
aren't Narcs, all women aren't Narcs, all attractive people aren't
Narcs, all people with BPD aren't Narcs, and further, all Narcs are not
vicious and violent. They're just people who have a mental illness.
Hating them actually gives Narcissism MORE power, because it gives them a
sympathetic reason to defend themselves. You can see this in the same
way people will sympathize with Misogynists (woman-haters) when they are
defending themselves against fake feminists who are really just
Anti-Male. They hijack the "Feminism" platform to spew their hate, and
completely SKEW what feminism really is, which is what the Anti-Female
groups WANT. (I personally have a feeling that some of the male-hating
fake-feminists are political plants, like shills in a casino.)

When we hate, we put ourselves in darkness, in the same darkness the oppressor lives in.

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∞“We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master.” ― Ernest Hemingway

“If anyone tells you that a certain person speaks ill of you, do not make excuses about what is said of you but answer, "He was ignorant of my other faults, else he would not have mentioned these alone.” ― Epictetus

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Why "Little Gidding"

T.S. Eliot (Thomas Stearns Eliot, September 26, 1888 – January 4, 1965) wrote "Four Quartets", which consists of "Burnt Norton", "East Coker", "The Dry Salvages", and "Little Gidding". The titles refer to places that were important to Mr. Eliot. "Little Gidding" refers to an Anglican community's church that he visited in 1936 in Huntingdonshire called St. John's, which is also the name of the church where I attended Nursery School and Vacation Bible School. That was a sacred, golden time and place, and when I think of it I am there again, completely and unequivocally. All of that aside, I have never been able to read through the "Four Quartets" without stopping to ease the intense quickening in my bones; do not ask me to recite it. T.S. Eliot knew about the Golden in this world, and perhaps the next, and he could spin the words like so much straw into gold... My cheeks flame and my spirit burns when I read "Little Gidding"; if you know then you already know, and if you don't I am not sure that I can explain. You can visit "Four Quartets" here http://www.davidgorman.com/4Quartets/index.htm