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Hi,

I'm just looking for some advice or whether anyone's been feeling the same way as me. I'm 20 weeks today and scheduled to get my anomaly (hate that they call it that!) scan tomorrow. Since about middle of last week, I've had some uncomfortable pains in my tummy and groin area. It continued for most of the week and by Friday, I was exhausted with it. I did think it was maybe round ligament pain and kind of dismissed it. Now, I'm terrified it was something more sinister and I should've contacted the mid-wife and now it's too late. I also had some discharge - which I've had most of my pregnancy but for some reason, seemed a bit worse yesterday.

People keep asking if I've felt the baby move and I'm panicking because I haven't. Everything I read suggests this is normal but now, combined with the other symptoms, I'm really worried. Today, I don't even feel pregnant and I feel I've just got a fat and flabby tummy instead of a pregnant one.

We had an early scan at 7 weeks and were told we were having twins but unfortunately, by the 12 week scan we only had one heartbeat. I know this probably has made me dread these scans and I keep thinking the same thing's going to happen tomorrow. I can remember the mid-wifes face so clearly at our 12 week scan and knew instantly something was wrong.

Feel so scared and don't want to tell anyone how I'm feeling because I don't want to worry them.

I feel I've rambled on but think I just needed to get it off my chest. I know it all seems a bit irrational.

Hi Cherryblossom,
I too have had bad experiences at scans, and it is completely normal to worry about them, dread them even, after that has happened.
Having said that, nothing you have described sounds worrying to me... (and I was the queen of worry!). There are so many different aches and pains that happen around this time, things are stretching and moving out of the way. Being uncomfortable for several days and then getting better again sounds all part of the course, but you can always ring your midwife to check. And for movements, every baby and pregnancy is different. Many ladies don't feel their babies move until later, this is more likely in a first pregnancy, if the placenta is anterior, and depending on where the baby is lying.
I wish you lots of luck for tomorrow,
M
x

I had my scan this morning and thankfully, you were all right! Baby was fine - I cried when I saw it's wee heart beating! Such a huge relief. All the measurements were taken and everything's good. Another milestone reached and one step closer to meeting my baby. Still can't quite believe it. Feel very lucky and very blessed.