~Aunt Mary Left Tonight~

My husband thinks I am crazy, maybe I am. Aunt Mary left tonight and I am feeling guilty. I guess I just feel like I could have handled things better than I did. It was hard at times but I lost patience when maybe I shouldn't have.
I don't know, I'm having an emotional day today. Possibly due to lack of sleep, I'm not sure.
She is spending the night at her one daughter's house and leaving for Louisiana in the morning on a bus. I wish her well and hope she has a safe trip.
I am glad our home is our home again. I think things will be much more peaceful here and I am grateful for that.

I believe, firmly, that you were as good a hostess to Aunt Mary as she would let you be. Now you can really begin to enjoy your home, without the stress she brought with her. Her baggage, literally and figuratively, is not yours to carry any longer. Wish her well on her way, of course, but feel no guilt about the relief you feel at her departure.

@DWDavis Yeah I did try really hard with her but it felt impossible some days not to avoid her any way I could.
I am glad we can have our home be our home again. It was getting to be too much to handle with her here.
Thank you for understanding. =)

Every time we had a house guest leave our home, I felt guilty for them having to leave. However, it is our home. Peace should be in our homes. When the guest disrupts that balance, it is not peaceful. Big hugs to you lady.

@LovingMyBabies I don't think you sound crazy. I think you sound like someone who's spent a lot of time pleasing others and was possibly conditioned to behave in that specific way or you just haven't had a lot of experience in dealing with people who are crazy like Aunt Mary is.
And trust me, as someone who grew up surrounded by it, she's fundamentally broken in a way that can't be fixed unless she wants to change. She probably never will because she doesn't see herself as the problem. Look how she played the victim when your daughter put the chair on her feet. Look how she called one (or was it more than one?) of the kids a cheater during games.
That's crazy. Asking someone to leave because they're abusive and hurting your family isn't crazy. Feeling bad that you had to ask someone to leave because their manners were absolutely atrocious isn't crazy, either. It's human.

You are feeling guilty because you are a good person. Emotions due to lack of sleep I am sure. I am so glad to hear of her departure. You and your husband were kind enough to take her in and she abused that. I think you were very patient Anyone who has had several children is patient. I wouldn't be patient with someone who abused your children as she did. You have been through an ordeal and now you are relaxing and feeling the after math. I am happy to hear that it finally has happened. I thought it was a dream but finally it is reality.

@celticeagle Thank you. I am really glad to have our home back the way it should be again. She did do some really mean things and she had no patience with our kids at all or our dogs which was frustrating.
I'm grateful it is over now. =)

Nothing to be guilty of, she has a roof right now at her daughter's house so its not like you kicked her out to the streets . She was rude to begin with even though you were welcoming her into the home! I'm glad you have your home back and you all can be a happy family again without the extra stress/drama!

@infatuatedbby Yeah I know. I am just feeling bad for how I reacted to the situation. I know her rudeness came out the first day she arrived-which is weird since most guests take some time to show their true colors.
Thank you, I'm looking forward to peace again.

@LovingMyBabies Don't feel bad It could have ended on better terms if she had been nice to you all. But there is a time where house guests can't live permanently as your family and you need privacy too! Enjoy

@LovingMyBabies
Can I say that I am really glad for all of you. Now you can be yourseleves again. If it were me I would have danced an Irish Jig.
Note I said if it had been me.
Just take it easy and don´t feel so bad its truly not worth it.
You have a right to be on your own and be how you want

Glad she is finally gone sorry to hear your husband feels the way he does about it if he only understood how she was with you and the kids. Now you can relax and enjoy your new place more now that she is gone.

@LovingMyBabies I know a lady online who is a bit like that, she can't seem to get along with her family,(in fairness, her son sounds like a jerk) and ended up living in her van at least for awhile. I am not sure what the latest is.

Unless you were deliberately provoking Aunt Mary you should have. Othing to feel guilty about this.
Use this experience as a lesson and a reminder.....if you ever, and I don't recommend doing so.....invite someone to move into your home, make sure ground rules are established in advance, and possibly a deadline for relocation.

@Morleyhunt Nope I would never do anything like that to anyone-I didn't need the stress and headaches.
I just felt bad for losing my patience with her the one time about my daughter.
Yes if there is ever a next time things will be talked about from the very first day.

@LovingMyBabies she was probably much more grateful then she knows how to say. Doesn't excuse it, but she's probably never had anybody treat her so nicely as you did. And she's probably somebody that doesn't know how or why she does the things she does. She sounds a lot like my mother was. And sometimes the best thing you can do is just distance yourself from them. You are very kind woman. And what you did for her was wonderful.