The Joke’s On Me….

So I’m 26 this year and I don’t drive. I have my learner’s permit, and I know how to drive a little (there are some things that i don’t know how to do, e.g. 3-point turn, reverse park etc) but I don’t feel comfortable in the drivers seat and therefore have not been motivated enough to go out and obtain my full licence. Although this is not an ideal situation, especially when I have two children, but in all honesty, I’ve allowed myself to continue on it this matter because others make it so easy for me to do so. My mother lives very close by and also works in my town and has been a tremendous help in getting me too and from places that I want/need to go. It also means that we get to spend more time together. But this help has just enabled me to keep from taking that uncomfortable step and learning how to drive properly. Also, the fact that my husband does not want to help me and teach me to drive also makes it easy on me to keep on in this way. And as you probably have guessed, I walk a lot.

You are probably thinking that I ABSOLUTELY need to get my permit because of my two children. I mean, what if they are sick? What if they need emergency medical attention? What will I do in that situation? Well, I am a full member of the Ambulance Service, which means I do not pay any fees for using the paramedics services. Also my husband does drive and again, my mother is very close by. I know that there may be a situation in which those options are not at my disposal, and what then? This is the main reason why I am biting the bullet and making my husband allow me to drive, making myself get in that drivers seat and do whatever I need to do to rectify this situation.

Anyway, I told you this tid-bit of information as some background on the actual point of this post.

Today I was made to feel like a laughing stock, and I was made to feel that way by my mother and my brother.

So this morning I sent my mother asking her whether she was working today. And that I was wondering whether she could run me down the street as I needed to do a bit of shopping but the pram wouldn’t be able to hold all the goods. She wasn’t working, in fact she was actually in a town about 45 minutes from our town. She was shopping for lawn mowers. She had recently mentioned that she would be doing this with the assistance of my brother. Normally my brother would be working on a Tuesday. This is the following conversation between myself, my brother and my mother, all via text message…

Me to Mum: Has Sedrick* got the day off?

Mum to Me: don’t know

Me to Mum: I thought you were going with Sedrick to do that?

Mum to Me: when I ready to buy one

Me to Mum: Oh ok. So do you think that you’ll be back this way in time to take me down?

Mum to Me: It will be about 3:30 when I get to Sale**

Me to Mum: That’s ok with me if you are willing to take me down

Mum to Me: I was going to do some shopping first

Me to Mum: Ok. That’s fine.

Sedrick to Me: Do you know where Mum is? she not answering her phones.

Me to Sedrick: She is T’gon looking at mowers and stuff.

Me to Mum: Sedrick is trying to contact you

Mum to Me: What for?

Me to Mum: I dunno, I’ll ask him

Me to Sedrick: Mum wants to know what you want

Sedrick to Me: To see if she wants to play golf on the weekend

Me to Sedrick: Ok

Me to Mum: He wants to know if you want to play golf on the weekend.

Sedrick to Me: If you with her, can you ask her?

Me to Sedrick: I’m not with her, but I already asked her, just waiting on a response.

Me to Mum: Sedrick asked me to ask you if you want to

Mum to Me: I will give a ring

Me to Sedrick: Mum said she would give you a call

So from the above conversation any normal person would assume that Mum was alone and that Sedrick was obviously working like he was supposed too.

Well, was I ever wrong!!

When my mother came around this afternoon, she arrived at 3pm. Early, but not unlike her. We had some small-talk and the general questions about her shopping arose –

A) Did she find a mower she liked ? (She had but didn’t buy it)

B) Had she done her shopping? (Yes)

C) Did she want to bring it in and put the cold stuff in the fridge? (It was already at her house)

It was then that I started getting confused.

D) I thought you weren’t getting to Sale until 3:30?

And then for some reason she asked who did I think she was with today. Now I was totally confused! Then she had informed me that Sedrick had been with her the entire time! And it was actually him that was doing all the text messages.

Well, I felt so stupid and HURT! Here I was just going about my day and trying to help out my brother by passing on messages and there they were knowingly leading me on, out-right lying to me, and laughing at me behind my back. I mean, I could kind of expect it from my brother, but not in a million years did I ever expect it from my mother.

I made a quip about her having a good laugh at my expense and then she said that Sedrick was the one who was doing it, that she was driving etc.

I then had the following text-sation with my brother:

Me to Sedrick: Have a good laugh?

Sedrick to Me: Yep… thanks

Me to Sedrick: Glad I could be of service. Feel free to have a laugh at my expense and make me the brunt of your jokes anytime!

Sedrick to Me: Mum told me what to write

Me to Sedrick: Yeah well, she is blaming it on you

Sedrick to Me: Well, she would.

And that’s where I left it.

Apparently today, the joke was on me!

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* Sedrick is not his real name… for some unknown reason I have the urge to protect his identity.

** Sale is another town close to my home town where we regularly go to do grocery shopping.