? For Those Of You With More Than 1 Child...

I am about 11 weeks along with baby no. 2. Audrey and new LO will be about 20 mo. apart. My question is, is it tacky to have another baby shower? My sister and DF keep saying "oh well at your baby shower...", and I'm thinking "um, I'm not having another baby shower, that seems so tacky!" So, even if it's a boy this time, is it rude or is it not? Did you have a baby shower for baby no. 2? Again, in our case they will only be 21 months apart...

I am about 11 weeks along with baby no. 2. Audrey and new LO will be about 20 mo. apart. My question is, is it tacky to have another baby shower? My sister and DF keep saying "oh well at your baby shower...", and I'm thinking "um, I'm not having another baby shower, that seems so tacky!" So, even if it's a boy this time, is it rude or is it not? Did you have a baby shower for baby no. 2? Again, in our case they will only be 21 months apart...

I only have 1 little one but most of my family thinks you aren't supposed to have more than 1 baby shower. But I think that's kinda old school now. I'd like to have another one when we have another baby. So I don't think it's tacky. Obviously I wouldnt expect the same kinda of gifts but a baby shower is for celebrating a baby. Why is baby #1 anymore important then baby #2?!

I only have 1 little one but most of my family thinks you aren't supposed to have more than 1 baby shower. But I think that's kinda old school now. I'd like to have another one when we have another baby. So I don't think it's tacky. Obviously I wouldnt expect the same kinda of gifts but a baby shower is for celebrating a baby. Why is baby #1 anymore important then baby #2?!

Of course you can! It's a new baby. But maybe this time you can ask for advice about having more than one child under two, or quick and easy recipes, or have the guests bring canned goods to donate to a cause or something like that. I don't see anything wrong with a shower for each child.

Of course you can! It's a new baby. But maybe this time you can ask for advice about having more than one child under two, or quick and easy recipes, or have the guests bring canned goods to donate to a cause or something like that. I don't see anything wrong with a shower for each child.

For baby #2 my friends threw me a sprinkle-a mini shower. I got small gifts and enjoyed hanging out w my friends. I think it is tacky to have a full shower where you register and "ask" for gifts regardless of the gender for #2 but I see no issue w having an intimate celebration of this baby to honor him/her. Best wishes w #2! Congrats!

For baby #2 my friends threw me a sprinkle-a mini shower. I got small gifts and enjoyed hanging out w my friends. I think it is tacky to have a full shower where you register and "ask" for gifts regardless of the gender for #2 but I see no issue w having an intimate celebration of this baby to honor him/her. Best wishes w #2! Congrats!

Didn't get a shower for the second. They were 4 years apart and different sexes. Would have been nice if someone had done something even my siblings and dh's siblings didn't do anything (ie just a card to keep in lo baby book wasn't looking for anything crazy).

Didn't get a shower for the second. They were 4 years apart and different sexes. Would have been nice if someone had done something even my siblings and dh's siblings didn't do anything (ie just a card to keep in lo baby book wasn't looking for anything crazy).

I think it depends on what the norm is where you live and what you are comfortable with. That being said, the first baby shower is not for your baby. It is to outfit the parents of the baby with the gear necessary to help with a new baby in the house, since they would not have any baby things yet. If you live in a new area and different people are invited to your shower, your children are spaced far apart in age, or you do something smaller like a "sprinkle", I think a second shower is more acceptable. I'm sorry to say I do think it's tacky to have a full on second shower for a sibling less than 4 years after the first one. I didn't have a second shower, and I would think it weird to be invited to be invited to one after I gave presents at the first one a short time ago.

I think it depends on what the norm is where you live and what you are comfortable with. That being said, the first baby shower is not for your baby. It is to outfit the parents of the baby with the gear necessary to help with a new baby in the house, since they would not have any baby things yet. If you live in a new area and different people are invited to your shower, your children are spaced far apart in age, or you do something smaller like a "sprinkle", I think a second shower is more acceptable. I'm sorry to say I do think it's tacky to have a full on second shower for a sibling less than 4 years after the first one. I didn't have a second shower, and I would think it weird to be invited to be invited to one after I gave presents at the first one a short time ago.

Thanks for all of the imput ladies! I'm still leaning towards bypassing the full blown shower. I'm thinking about maybe a diaper party or maybe a gender reveal party, sans gifts, just for fun because we didn't keep the gender secret at all with Audrey. I would like to celebrate this pregnancy too, but definitely don't need gifts! Thanks again!

Thanks for all of the imput ladies! I'm still leaning towards bypassing the full blown shower. I'm thinking about maybe a diaper party or maybe a gender reveal party, sans gifts, just for fun because we didn't keep the gender secret at all with Audrey. I would like to celebrate this pregnancy too, but definitely don't need gifts! Thanks again!

I think it is extremely tacky to have a 2nd baby shower- especially with children so close in age. What more could you need? It's selfish to ask for people to shell out more money/gifts when you haven everything you already need.

Now, having a shower just to celebrate the baby is something different. No gifts and just a party for the new baby sounds nice. I just think it's greedy to expect more gifts when these people, just 2 years ago, bought you gifts for your first baby.

I think it is extremely tacky to have a 2nd baby shower- especially with children so close in age. What more could you need? It's selfish to ask for people to shell out more money/gifts when you haven everything you already need.

Now, having a shower just to celebrate the baby is something different. No gifts and just a party for the new baby sounds nice. I just think it's greedy to expect more gifts when these people, just 2 years ago, bought you gifts for your first baby.

Lol, wellllll...I had two showers, and my girls will only be 15 months apart. ;) All girls too. Both times a friend offered, and both times I said yes. Although with the second baby shower I made sure my friend knew that all I needed was diapers and bigger ticket items, like furniture. I had plenty of clothes, bottles, baby hygiene products already. So a few people put money together to get a swing and carseat, and everyone else brought diapers. Well and they all brought clothes anyway, even though i didnt really need them. How could they not...baby clothes are just so darn cute. Lol.

Lol, wellllll...I had two showers, and my girls will only be 15 months apart. ;) All girls too. Both times a friend offered, and both times I said yes. Although with the second baby shower I made sure my friend knew that all I needed was diapers and bigger ticket items, like furniture. I had plenty of clothes, bottles, baby hygiene products already. So a few people put money together to get a swing and carseat, and everyone else brought diapers. Well and they all brought clothes anyway, even though i didnt really need them. How could they not...baby clothes are just so darn cute. Lol.

I don't see why not. My two younger children are 23 months apart (a boy and a girl) and my mom and SIL had a baby shower for me both times. Really this is the first time I've heard of it being tacky. I guess like many other things it depends on the way you and your family thinks about it. The way I see it, it is to celebrate the coming of the new baby, the same way you would celebrate a birthday. I mean, I do have friends that celebrate their childrens birthday every year and I always go to those, so why wouldn't I go to a friends second baby shower....or third

I don't see why not. My two younger children are 23 months apart (a boy and a girl) and my mom and SIL had a baby shower for me both times. Really this is the first time I've heard of it being tacky. I guess like many other things it depends on the way you and your family thinks about it. The way I see it, it is to celebrate the coming of the new baby, the same way you would celebrate a birthday. I mean, I do have friends that celebrate their childrens birthday every year and I always go to those, so why wouldn't I go to a friends second baby shower....or third

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

I had two baby showers for Vin alone (a month apart and thrown by
different people; one was a surprise while I was involved in the other,
and neither party knew about each other *lol*).

I did not have
one for Alena, but even if I had, I would be having one for a new baby
because she literally made her crib unusable for a new baby: she chewed
the rails and has taken whole splinters/chunks out of the wood! Since it
converts to a toddler bed, the idea is that we'll take the rail off
that she's chewed the most (she mainly chews one side), and keep it for
her as a toddler bed, and reuse the bassinet and MAYBE get a new crib or
playpen with a bassinet so the baby can sleep in our room while I nurse
(I co-slept with Vin until he was 15 months, and I'm okay with doing so
again especially since I plan to nurse).

And no, I'm not
pregnant again so far as I know (yet; I have a period due this weekend,
so waiting to test/see if AF shows), but we'll see how things go.

I
wouldn't think it would be tacky, especially if like me there are some
****** items you'll need: even if you don't need the bigger stuff, you
can always use plenty of newborn diapers and supplies!! I say if you
want one, go for it. So maybe somebody thinks its tacky: its not their
baby or their shower, now is it?

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