(I haven't updated this in years, slowly updating a section at a
time, bear with me)

Hi, I'm a polyamorous male withtattoos, a goatee and a
Buddha belly that makes a great pillow. For simplicities sake, I
identify as bi but I
really like the term Queer, aside from being all-encompassing
it also just sounds cool, no really, just let it role off the
tongue, Qqquueeerrrrrrrr. There, doesn't that sound like an
expensive French cheese? MMmmm I'll have a Queer omelet
please:)

I'm Pagan and love
camping and being
out in nature but
don't do that nearly as much as I would like.
(10/15/12):I've found I get along best with folks that have some
spiritual side to their life but also have a very high regard for
things like evolution, critical thinking and science (I use spiritual in a very
broad and not necessarily religious sense here). Agnostics,
Buddhists, Humanists, Thelemites, Unitarians, the more liberal
Jews, Muslims, and Christians as well as non-evangelical Atheists
are all welcome as are fellow Pagans obviously.
To quote JMS: "Brother
Michael, faith and reason are like the two shoes you wear on your
journey. You get a lot farther with both than just one" (extra geek
points if you get the reference)

I'm a huge history/mythology/folklore geek, and a bookworm. I also
love Science
Fiction (a Poly Heinlein fan, how unique), especially
B5. I love martial arts
but haven't practiced in many years.
Politically I'm VERY left. I self identify as a feminist,(if you don't think it's
possible for a cisgendered male to be a feminist, we're probably
incompatible) and get along best with other lefty, tree hugging, liberal,
sex positive,
commie, blue
state, pinko scum. I also have a bit of a mischievous and rebellious nature and
tend to have a problem with authority figures. I guess New York
attitude with San Francisco politics is a good way to describe
me:)

I live with my female primary partner, (her profile is crista42). While the two of us
would like to eventually find a third partner, we also date
individually and I'm open to anything from a potential long term
partner (including ongoing long term committed secondaries) or
casual fun, or friends with benefits or just friends. (UPDATE
10/2012: At the moment, I think I'm ideally looking for something
long term, weather that be casual friends with benefits or someone
that would end up a life long love of-course depends on chemistry
but I'm at a point in my life where I'm not interested in short
flings and would prefer a small number of ongoing deep
connections)

A NOTE on the above part: We have a beautiful baby boy, and while I
am now dating again, I'm starting off slow due to the time eaten up
by the little dude. I am also very interested in making new friends
(We're new to the area), preferably other Poly, liberal, kinky, queer, low
drama,freak
like beings, and if that leads to more then friends down the
road, that's cool too. And we're both very interested in meeting
other alternative parents for friendship, community, mutual
support, and play-dates for the kids. (you know you're a parent
when the word play-date has a whole new meaning :):):)
(UPDATE 10/4/12: The above paragraph is a bit dated. It's mostly
still true but our son is 7 now, so while my time is still limited,
I'm a bit less sleep deprived)

I guess I'm a typical Poly person in that I've always felt like
this is the life style for me but didn't hear of the word polyamory until the late
'90s. I've been with my primary partner for over twelve years now,
and we've lived together for nine. (we were Poly before we met and
were introduced by each others lovers, it's a fun story)

Ok, what else can I say about myself, I'm a Pisces, and tend to be
shy around new people, however once I get comfortable with someone
I get very outgoing.

Some of my most intense spiritual experiences have involved being
alone in the woods sitting by a tree.

I've now been told by two completely unrelated people (and had it
confirmed by a third) that I remind them of the character of
"Stuart" from "Dykes to Watch Out for",
I'm still trying to figure out if that's a good thing or a bad
thing??????????????????????, but I'm starting to realize that
either way, it's at least partly a true thing. OY!!! (though I
think I'm a lot kinkier then Stuart:)

I love the Urban life and am equally comfortable in a rural setting
but strongly believe that suburbs are the root of much evil and
anyone that actually prefers suburban culture(or rather, lack
thereof) when given a choice should be deported to Coventry (no not
the British city of that name, I wouldn't saddle the Brits with
American suburbanites, that would just be cruel. ), (UPDATE
10/4/12: I'm really not as pretentious as this paragraph may make
me sound, really:)

I've been told my sense of humor is demented, perverse, highly cynical and often inappropriate. I'd like to think
I'm also kind, loving, affectionate, loyal and funny, as well as
goofy (and sometimes
Sneezy and Grumpy
and Lazy and Doc:). I can also be very, very, kinky, you're gonna have to ask if
you want specifics or you can look me up on Fetlife
(green-purplegoo). I enjoy being lazy on Sunday mornings. I like chess and some board games
("RISK" brings out my competitive side like you wouldn't believe.
Must be something about that world domination thing) Oh, and I
can't spell to save my life.

So I used to have this whole snobby and pretentious sounding
paragraph in here about sports, but honestly, I don't care about
sports either way as long as you don't make me watch stuff with
you. Mostly I just wanted an excuse to say
corporate-military-industrial complex :) who doesn't?)

there is also a bunch of stuff I don't necessarily seek out on my
own but which i tend to enjoy if I'm with someone that's into it,
including Anime, live music, RPGs, live theater, renaissance fairs,
or Hentai among other things.

Volunteering for a sex-positive non profit.
Planning on going back to school soon in a year or two (as soon as
is practical with the kid, as I am the stay at home parent for a
few years) I'm always happier when I'm learning something new, that
way, instead of a job I hate that pays next to nothing, I can have
a job I love that pays next to nothing:):):)

Oh, and spending large amounts of time bitching about how Barnes
and Nobles and Starbucks have pushed all the used bookstores and independent
coffee bars out of New York City, damn corporate bastards. Yet
another reason I moved to SF

Procrastinating, listening, pontificating, snuggling, cuddling, being able to justify
anything, planning my eventual rise to Supreme Overlord of
the Universe, being a good friend, cooking for multiple people,
reorganizing your book shelves according to my "master book
organizational theory", OHhh and I love a good friendly
debate/argument. (I'm told I'm good at some .... Ahemm.... other
things too, but we can leave that for another time)

Music: Pretty much anything except country. Used to be a big Metal
Head in high school, now really like world music.

Food: I'm mostly omnivorous, love chocolate, Ethiopian, Thai,
Chinese, Indian, and the Eastern European peasant food I was raised
on (Mmmm fried everything, yum), most meat (don't worry, I get
along very well with vegetarians, I cook for one all the time)
actually, the only food I really can't stand is eggplant (eggplant
is the work of the devil, no, really, it's all part of a conspiracy
to take over our souls by making our insides slimy, I kid you not)

Actually I'm pretty adaptable, so the only things that I could
NEVER live with out are: Oxygen, H2O, nutritional sustenance, and
the proper air pressure to keep my body from either imploding or
exploding.

Alternative political structures, especially some of the ideas in
Kim Stanley Robinson's "Mars Trilogy" (what would you call that,
Privatized Socialism?). I especially like the idea of a drafted
legislature.

How to get more people to leave the suburbs and go urban. How to encourage space
exploration and the different ways to best implement my plans for
world domination. Oh and one of my current obsessions is Monolithic Domes
these things are so cool, I want one. OK I admit it, I also think
about my hair:):):)

I want to be the meat in a Patrick Stewart and Whoopie Goldberg
sandwich:):):)

UPDATE 12/4/12: I've been feeling the lack of a penis in my
love/lust/sex/cuddle life lately and would love to fix that, though
I'm definitely looking for something more then a hook up. I'm not
hung up on the gender identity of the penis owner though. Not sure
if this is actually that personal?

UPDATE 10/4/12: So I've reached the age where messaging adults
substantially younger then me can very easily come off as creepy
which is a place I'd rather not go. So, to avoid the appearance of
creepatude, while there are plenty of folks in their 20s that I
would probably be very compatible with, if you're under 30 or so,
I'd prefer for you to message me first.

If I've saved you to my favorites, I'm either interested but
waiting for you to message me first due to age based power dynamics
imbedded in our culture (thus avoiding the above mentioned
creepatude) or if you are Female or Trans identified, the gender
based power dynamics similarly imbedded in same culture, or I just
didn't get a chance to look at the whole profile and wanted to find
it easier later, so feel free to say hello:)

Also, you don't have to be low maintenance, but please be
"relatively" low drama (I recognize that there is no such thing as
absolutely no drama, we all live in the real world and poop
happens).

-You know great places to go hiking in the Bay Area that one can get
to by public transit and want to show them to me
or:
-You are a fellow alternative parent and want
to set up play dates for our wee beasties, or otherwise network,
hang out, ext.
or:
-You've read this far and chuckled at least once
or:
-You're interested in getting to know me better
or:
-You know what the word compersion means
or:
-You've realized that you want to become one of my minions and want to help me take
over the world
or:
-You've realized that you want me to be one of your minions and
help you take over the world
or:
-You just feel like it.