I am very dry which makes sex hurt. Is there anything I can do?

Take your time with sex and foreplay - intercourse is recommended as often as possible to stimulate your natural secretions (the “use it or lose it” approach).

I have just got though my menopause and I am very dry which makes sex hurt. Is there anything I can do?

Vaginal dryness - which can make sex painful - is a very common problem during and after the menopause. This is because of a lack of the female hormone oestrogen. When oestrogen levels fall, the vagina becomes shorter, narrower, and less elastic, and vaginal lubrication takes longer to be produced. The amount is also much less, and not so acidic (which can make you more susceptible to vaginal and urinary tract infections, such as thrush and cystitis).

HRT and oestrogen pessaries/creams can help, and also taking your time with sex and foreplay - intercourse is recommended as often as possible to stimulate your natural secretions (the “use it or lose it” approach). Do make sure you always use a personal lubricant when you’re having sex, which will make it much more comfortable for you. Two trusted brands are Durex Play and Yes products, with certified organic status. Smear lube liberally over your ladybits, especially round the opening of the vagina.

Most importantly, you need to rehydrate your vaginal tissues so I’d suggest you invest in a vaginal moisturiser. They work in a similar way to facial moisturisers, and help to replace valuable lost fluids. Try KY Silk- E Vaginal Moisturiser. You use it two or three times a week, and it will coat the inside of the vagina with a non-hormonal moisturizer. This lasts for a couple of days, so they have the added advantage that they don’t have to be used immediately before intercourse.

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