Mediation begins with the Mediator educating the couple about the process. The Mediator establishes ground rules to help the process move efficiently toward the end goal of an agreement that is mutually satisfactory to both spouses and provides reasonable solutions to benefit all family members. The Mediator then works with the couple to determine each spouse’s concerns and needs, both immediate and long term. The couple provides the Mediator with information and documentation relating to each issue identified and begins prioritizing goals and criteria for decision making.

The Mediator helps the couple identify the issues as well as possible solutions. As necessary, the Mediator keeps the process on track by refocusing the couples away from the emotional nature of separation and divorce, and back toward the couples goal.

The Mediator is not an advocate for either spouse, but is an advocate for the process of mediation. The Mediator does not make any decisions, but helps the couple explore the options and consequences of various decisions. The Mediator ensures that neither spouse dominates the process, even if one spouse is a better negotiator. The Mediator helps the couple reach a conclusion that is fair and satisfactory, with no winner or loser.