The romantic comedies got it all wrong — it’s men who want to cuddle, and women who are looking for steamy sex.

Men put a strong value on kissing and snuggling, despite their tough exteriors, says a new study by the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction.

The researchers found that a lot of tender kissing — and not hot-and-heavy lovemaking — will make a man want to stick with his partner. Women, meanwhile, are more likely to stay in a sexually satisfying relationship.

The study also found that rather than wanting to stray after a few years, men get happier the longer a relationship goes on.