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Does your husband ever buy feminine products for you?

There comes a moment in every relationship or marriage in which the woman is out of tampons and the man is on his way to the store. What happens next is anybody's guess, but in my opinion, it will (and should) make or break the relationship.

The only right response from a man in this case is: "Sure, honey.
What brand and absorbency?" Anything resembling being grossed out,
horrified, or humiliated is grounds for a breakup. For real. If he wants
to be an adult male, in love with an adult woman, then sometimes he is
going to have to buy feminine products for his lady. That's love.

This discussion is currently happening on CafeMom, and most of the women seem to agree with me. Their husbands buy tampons from time to time and it's really no big deal. But I have heard different things from women in the past.

Some
women say their husbands are too embarrassed to buy them. I will say
that very early on in our relationship, when my husband was young and
immature, he made jokes about it. He did it, but he was clearly not into
the idea. As he has matured, he has gotten used to it.

It's like anything else in marriage -- holding a woman's purse while
she shops, having sex on her period, or getting her pickles at 3 a.m.
when she is pregnant. You just accept these things if you are a grownup
man married to a grownup woman.

Now granted, this isn't something I ask every time. Mostly I get them
myself. But it has come up and he has done it. Because he is a good
husband.

Besides, a man buying tampons CLEARLY knows his way around a lady's
parts, right? I mean, I don't ask just anyone to buy feminine products. I
ask my partner. In other words, a man buying tampons is obviously
getting laid. He should be proud, not embarrassed.

In fact, most women would be impressed that a man is willing to do
so, and if a man makes fun of him, well, it's obvious he is in the
minority. Personally, if I were a dude, I might buy tampons just to pick
up women (OK, I am joking. Mostly). But seriously? In what other aisle
would you find so many women? And in what other aisle would you have the
opportunity to prove what an enlightened man you are?

It says: "I am comfortable with my own sexuality. How YOU doing?" That's hot, man.

Yes, DH has bought them. He has told me that when he's standing there looking, women walk up and offer to help him find them for me. LOL I guess they are either hitting on him, or know the pain of having your DH walk through the door with the wrong ones!

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