How do I tell dh that he didn't flush the toilet?

I have just finished feeding dd and quickly went to the downstairs loo, where I found that dh didn't flush the toilet after doing a number 2! I'm so disgusted! And oddly enough, there was no paper on it....this would explain all the skid marks on his under wear I don't get it! What is it with not wiping your bottom after doing a number 2???Every time I do the laundry I don't dare to look at his underwear, I just quickly throw it in! I'm so disgusted by this and don't know how to talk about it with him? Or do I just keep quiet? Although this was the first time he left the loo like this, but I feel I should voice my concerns over it.I just don't want this to happen again! I almost threw up!!! Apologies for the disgusting thread...What would you do?What would you say?

Gather up some of his skiddy pants (5 pairs should be enough). Fold them in such a way that the skids are uppermost and obvious then line them up in front of his dinner plate. When he asks "what the hell is going on?", simply say "any more of this and you're on your own, you disgusting specimen". Job done (excuse the pun).

'Dh, you need to flush the loo when you've had a shit in it, you minging grotbeast. Also, do you have special fairies who polish & perfume your bum for you? No, you do not, so WIPE IT. Ffs!'

In our house, all skiddy/soggy pants end up in the Tub of Shame, soaking in a bucket in the bath. The dc thought it was quite hilarious when they spotted a pair of their dad's pants in there. I only had to do it once...

The couple of times DP has left Atomic Shit in the loo (being crass, he does humongous 2s. He gets a bloody poop-baby.) I've just crashed into the bedroom (does night shift) and said something along the lines of "fuck sake man check to see if your dump flushed, you disgusting knob!" And then he drags his butt out of bed to deal with it.

I would initially assume he forgot to flush and will be mortified... What with it being the first time and all...

I would then also assume (ahem) that it was giant man sized shit, and that he had in fact flushed it which took care of the bog roll, but didn't manage to shift the log itself, what with it being so giant and man sized, and all.

A two-flusher, no less.

I don't do much boxer-peering, but I can't say I'd still be fussing about it half an hour later, I'd have just gone with 'oh my actual god, dh, that's revolting!' As loud as possible to draw his attention to the fact, and then flushed it noisily and elaborately for him.

And then forgotten about it, and peed.

I don't think I'd have bothered to think about it and post for advice on a a parenting forum...

I know Marjorie! This only happened now an hour ago, haven't had the chance to talk to him yet, he is sleeping.I know I'll have to say something...Now you wrote it, it made me realise its so true...about the turn off I don't know why I feel it difficult to say something....

Why didn't you just say to him, "Hey, you forgot to flush the loo!" You could have followed that up with, "And it looks like you forgot to use any loo paper too." And then go on to mention the skiddy pants and how that is a. not normal hygiene, and b. a big turn-off, and c. smelly, and d. has got to stop.

Obviously that conversation gets harder as it goes on, but the opener (ie calling his attention to the unflushed loo) should be as straightforward as telling someone they'd left the freezer door open, say. IMHO, anyway.

Just say "eeeeuuuuwwww DH, you didn't flush the loo and I don't want to see your poo so get in there and flush it NOW! Also I saw no loo paper in there which explains the disgusting skiddies in your boxers. I am not going to wash any boxers with poo on them. OK!"