Hello
all! First let me say I am honored to be on my buddy, Serenity King’s lovely
blog. Since she let me intrude today, I thought I’d make it worth your while.
And you know I can.

For
those who need an introduction, I’m Stacy-Deanne. I am a big supporter of
interracial relationships, I love white guys and I write mystery and suspense
novels that often feature interracial romance. I am known as “Interracial
Romance’s First Lady of Crime and Mystery”.

Now
let’s get started. I don’t just blog to entertain but to educate and provide
guidance to those in need. There are common misconceptions from outsiders about
interracial relationships. Some folks just don’t get it. I would like to point
out the most common misconceptions in hopes that it leads people to being more
open to IR relationships and to realize that even though color is part of the
attraction, it is not the most important thing in the relationship.

Misconception 1: People Date
Interracially Because They Are Ashamed of Their Own Race

This
might be true for some people. I know for a fact that some people do date
interracially because they have issues with their own race. They’ve either got
burned too many times or they have some self-hatred for their own culture. This
can be true but it is definitely not the main reason people date out of their
race. People who date interracially do because they have a genuine attraction
to other races.

Misconception 2: People Date
Interracially Because They Do Not Like the Looks of the Opposite Sex in their Own
Race

Once
again this does come into play for some people but definitely not the majority.
It comes down to a preference. Most people who interracially date have dated
others in their own race and do find them attractive but date interracially
because they have met others through circles like work or social hangouts. It’s
mainly about personalities and how much you have in common with someone. It can
be true that people of your own race might not be into what you are into and
you can’t find someone that you wanna be with. Just because you’re painted with
the same brush does not mean you belong together.

Misconception 3: Women Look Down
on Interracial Dating More than Men

This is
completely untrue and a general assumption. What gets me is that people are
always spotlighting black women and making it seem like they are jealous when
black men date out of their race. You might have some that don’t care for it,
but you have white men and black men who don’t care for interracial dating
either. It’s always made into a big deal
to make black women look bitter. The ones who squawk the loudest about it do
not represent all women. Most women couldn’t care less who a man is dating no
matter the color.

Misconception 4: Blacks Date out
of Their Race to Have Kids Look a Certain Way

This is
disturbing but unfortunately I’ve heard this said by some black men and women
who have admitted that they want biracial kids because of how they look. This
is not the norm and most people do not think like this. You should be with
someone because you are truly in love with them, not because you want your kids
to have “good hair” or light skin.

Misconception 5: People Who Date
Interracially Do It to Prove a Point

Nope.
Interracial couples aren’t going around with an agenda. They are just like couples
of the same race and the last thing they think about is the outside public.

There
are many misconceptions about interracial dating and some people will never
understand. But it’s 2011 and this is a time when someone’s acceptance of your
relationship shouldn’t be overly valued. Interracial dating is becoming more
popular throughout many cultures everyday. We can’t change people’s opinions
but we can attempt to educate to put an end to these myths once and for all.

Be
loved, be joyous and be happy!

Check
out my latest release: “Giving up the Ghost” (Book 1 in the Bree and Steven
Interracial Crime series)