How long till he calls?

Following the rules is ingrained in my soul, except when it comes to dating. If there is a guideline society says to follow, I want to do the opposite. And if someone tries “the rules” with me- I see it as playing a game. If you want to invest time & energy with games, rather than getting to know me, I want nothing to do with you.

So when I met a guy (we’ll call him Joe) Saturday night while waiting to be seated for dinner, I was impressed he text messaged, say, three or four hours later.

“since your the dating expert what is the rule for a guy calling a girl is it 2 or 3 days”

The text was the perfect approach. It was funny, light and flirty (and I can not fault him for grammar and punctuation, seeing as it was a text). The nature of the electronic exchange was more overt- and less expected – than a phone call. This allowed me to text back if I wanted, and made it pressure-free. My ideal, seeing as I don’t do pressure in relationships.

When we did talk, I told him if he tried the “let me wait a set no. of days” thing, I wouldn’t have agreed to the date. He told me if I was the type to be weirded out by the direct approach, I wouldn’t have been someone he wanted to date.