Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Romantic Tricks to be an Eternal Boyfriend to Your Wife

You splashed on her favourite fragrance, booked the best suite for the
wedding night, and celebrated your union in every way possible, all
because you were thrilled about starting a new episode of life with her.
But, once you became "man and wife", why is your bond becoming dreary?
What is now stopping those butterflies in your stomach that were there
earlier during your dating days? The shift from being “lovers” to a
“married couple” brings certain changes in your equation (for better or
for worse!). But, wouldn’t you wish you could once again get back to
those days where you were just her “boyfriend”? We are sure she secretly
desires the same as well. So, here is how you can beat those marital
qualms just by being her boyfriend all over again.

"Re-treasure" her presence

When was the last time you said, “I’m
lucky to have you in my life” after getting the “Married” tag? Or, when
was the last time you whispered “Gosh! You look stunning” to the mother
of your kids? We realise that your chaotic lifestyle keeps you busy. But
does that mean you will overlook those goodbye kisses and praises that
made her feel loved and treasured? You just have to be your old self and
your love life will get back on track. Do all those unusual little
things that once made her feel special and admired.

Spend time on yourself

Earlier on, you always turned up
impeccably dressed, shaved and groomed while you were going out with
her, right? Just because you are now living together, doesn’t mean you
stop putting in efforts to look smart and well-groomed. Just like in
"those" days, when you loved to see her in that little black dress, she
too loved it when you wore that blue t-shirt with denims. So, once in a
while keep the formals at bay, and dress to impress her.

Hold her

Before marriage, you always looked for
an excuse to hold her hand or steal away a simple hug. But now, you
hardly get time to whisper sweet nothings, leave alone anything else.
While you are out with family or watching TV at home, hold her and see
what magic it does for your bond. Just putting your arm around her
shoulder or holding her hand can do wonders for your relationship.

Get as adventurous as you were

Demanding work schedules take a toll on
your love life. But that doesn’t mean you will stop planning things to
do together. Just try to recall a shared passion, like listening to
music, hiking, travelling, clubbing or exercising. The shared activities
will bring you closer, and reignite the dying spark. It will help you
reconnect with each other and prevent your marriage from becoming
boring.

Surprise text messages

While you two were dating, you used
to sent her hundreds of “I love you” texts during the day. But now you
can go on for days without expressing it. It is time to be her beau
again with those magical words. Even if you are too busy to verbalise
them, you always have opportunity to send her love notes through text.
Something like, “Fantasising about you!” or “How is your day going?”
will build that flirty momentum you had during your dating days. Even a
wink via text can make her day special.

Date her again

Remember the time you booked the entire
restaurant for your date or pleaded at the movie ticket counter to get
hold of corner seats? It is time to bring back that same spirit and
essence to your marriage. Visit the same place where you first met and
let those sweet memories and emotions to rush back in your mind. Just
because you are now “officially together”, does not mean that you let go
of those special alone times together. Remember, a wedding is like a
fire. The more you feed the flicker, lesser is the chances of it dying
out.

Non-occasional gifts

Before marriage, the gifts were there
for no other reason than to woo her. Be it chocolates, spa session, a
bestseller novel or a movie DVD; you made everything available to win
her over. So, why not show that interest in her again by doing those
same old things. Don’t make the mistake of waiting for special occasions
to make her feel treasured and happy. And we are sure, it will not take
you much time as you already know about things that would truly impress
her.

End your day with closeness

During those courtship days, you had
spent endless hours in the night listening about each other’s day on the
phone. But over the years such romantic gestures have withered away.
So, choose to close your day in a striking note. Just you and her,
enjoying a candle lit dinner or some intimate moments afterwards will
take you away from all the worldly worries. This will definitely bond
the two of you together with never ending love.

Give her space

We believe you have a different role to
play once you become husband. But just a ring and a vow shouldn’t change
you completely. We are talking about you becoming possessive as a
"husband". She vowed to devote her life to you, but her own desires and
passion in life matter as well. So, it is important that you don’t make
it tough for her to enjoy it. Behaving like a possessive husband is most
likely to turn your relationship foul. Just give her some space and
alone time, because she too needs it as much as you.

Your time and resource

She was so easy-going, peppy
and passionate when you two had met. And now, after having poured
herself into the household chores and kids, she hardly gets time to be
her real self. So, apart from acknowledging the qualities she possesses,
give her that time and resource to be the girl you fell in love with.
Take her out for shopping, help her out with the household chores and
give her a break every once in a while from the endless
responsibilities. She will truly love to "re-gain" her caring beloved,
wouldn't she?