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February 18, 2014

First Date Deal breakers

Hey hey,

So I just got off Verastic's blog, and she and her fiance have been arguing about whether it's acceptable to use Groupon/Living Social/Dealdey coupons on a first date. Her fiance says it's fine if the price of the deal is over a particular amount. She says 'Hell to the NAW. Coupons can be used later as the relationship progresses, NOT on the first date.' I'm inclined to agree with her fiance, because I've used coupons in the past, and I don't see a big deal about it. However, it should be a deal that's worth a reasonable amount.

The post got me thinking about deal-breakers for First Dates. And it made me recall one particularly bad first date I had shortly before I met Cakes. Here are some of the reasons why that date was a deal-breaker for me...

I had to pick him up. Now, I understand that not everyone is privileged to have a vehicle, and in some cities (e.g. London or New York), it isn't feasible to have a car. In Nigeria, a lot of people don't have cars and either ride with friends, use public transportation or drops (un-shared taxis). If this was the only issue, I might not have minded so much. But apart from having to drive in traffic to pick him up...

Fast food for dinner. Okay, TFC (kinda like a KFC or McDonald's) has okay food, and if you're pressed for time, you can get a quick meal for N600 (less than $4). But this is NOT where you take a woman on the first date! And to make matters worse...

He didn't have cash and I had to pay for it. *insert straight face* Okay, I can be overly nice sometimes so I reasoned that he would be paying for the movie tickets, so I would try to overlook it. However, we got to the movie theater and...

He pulled out his OLD STUDENT ID CARD so that he could pay the discounted price! I said I'm fine with coupons, but this is just ridiculous!!!

I mean, COME ON! You're trying to woo a female, and you do all of the above?!?!? It's almost as bad as the guy I met almost 3 years ago. He asked me out, I went to meet him after work, and he was DRUNK! Chai, I have suffered in this my life o. Thank God for Cakes, enh :D

What are your First Date Deal Breakers? Share any First Date Horror Stories you have too, because there is love in sharing :)

38 comments:

I had just met the guy for the first time and after the date which ended late(not like I enjoyed it,i endured it) ,the guy asked to sleep over at my place!!!!!! The oga Wanted to go back home with me,didn't know if he was a rapist, killer, etc... that's a big no no for me!!!

Some first dates can be really annoying. Had one who left all the nice places on karimu kotun which was closer for me, and made us end up at food court of the palms. Me I jejely deleted pin and number after then. Can't shout!

hehehe....I'm glad i don't have any horror stories oo, but I'll rather a guy doesn't take me to restaurant that requires a coupon than take me to one that needs one.I am a couponer myself (ex-extreme couponer *remember the show*) and would rather not pay full price if i have the option.

I don't think coupons are a big deal. But that guy no try at all. So he could open his mouth to eat when he had no money in his pocket. Really shameless. And why is he bringing out an OLD student ID card, when he is no more a student? That is dishonesty. You don't want dishonest people in your life.

Like that guy who made me pick him up because he didn't have gas and didn't know where the movie theatre was. In addition, wore baggy pants, that he sagged, and a hoodie, and wreaked of cigarettes. And then complained throughout the movie, THAT HE PICKED, about how boring it was. Meanwhile, it was an awesome movie. And then he doesn't understand why I don't give him the time day? My guy, really?-Anon E. Mus

Deal breakers: being late and disrespectful. My date was 45 min late picking me up. When he arrived he didn't offer an apology, rather he asked me if I could go change because he didn't like the way I look. I told him I didn't mind and asked him to wait in the car for me. I went in changed and cancelled the date. Fool actually waited then called me to see what was taken so long.Smh.

Wow, that your date was something else...I think my worst was some guy who I met recently...the date was actually the next day after we met and dude wanted to be using hand to rub me all over, was talking to me like he knew me since forever and was so lousy.

For me, it was him feeling all touch feely with me like we were familiar like that.... I don't appreciate that, that's a violation!!!!! he was also wanting a snog right after the date but what even put me off was that he was just not gentlemanly about it, proper invading and just diving for my lips, but thanks to my reflexes the way i dodged he knew it was not on, never again did i see him and of course his number got deleted straight up

My first bf once called me out and i told him i had some luggage with me and will have to take a cab and he said he'll pay. Well, i stopped over at his and when i was leaving, he had conveniently forgotten he had promised to pay for my cab.

Some other guys, after a first date (without discerning whether im giving them the red light or not) start the groping routine (i think they think its some kind of pay back for dinner). The worst of it all is slobbery kisses in the back of a taxi. Kill me already!!!

But honestly, i just think a guy who cant afford a date shouldnt be out on one either. Its really embarassing especially when the guy in question is on the other side of 30.

LOOL! Oh my days! Hello Berry. I fell in love with you after seeing your wedding pictures and all. You are a real as real comes girl! Congratulations love.

Okay so I met this silly guy on my way to my campus one day and don’t know what possessed me enough to give him my number. He called that evening. First offense, he interrupted my hallowed Mexican soap opera TV time. He called me thrice in 7 minutes to get me out of the hall… Like seriously? I just met this person o!

Shebi you ate? That’s good na. This thing kept me (standing at first until I sat down on d pavement) for a good 3 hours in the cold. Please don’t ask what I was thinking…I obviously wasn’t…I was probably immobilized by the stupidity of the scenario.

No, it did not end there. After the cold snapped me back to reality, I stood up abruptly in a bid to leave. At that point he told me he came with ‘my’ copy of the keys to his apartment...and I was like...Uhn? “Yes”, he says, “I want you to come tomorrow and clean the place and cook soup. There is vegetable oil ‘at home’ but buy turkey on your way…”

I’m not sure how I got back to my hall cos I remember being transfixed with shock…then dread cos I realized I had probably…No…obviously being speaking with a mad man!