Category: 2 minute relationship advice

Regardless of the status of your marriage, most of the time a wife or a husband may see a request for marriage therapy as a threat or criticism. Ideally, counseling may turn out to be the last resort in saving your marriage. There are four best ways on how to suggest counseling to your spouse and they may include;

The best time to bring up the subject: Look for the best available opportunity when you are not fighting and then come up with the idea. When you raise the issue in the middle of an argument, it is more likely that it will not to be taken seriously, or even it might end up being taken as personal. The information will be taken seriously if the couples are not distracted by every day stress and are alone. Ensure that you bring out the subject quietly.

Be focused: Your focus should be directed on improving your relationship and aspire to become better partners while at the same time avoid making accusation against your spouse thus making them unhappy. If counseling is seen by your spouse as a form of punishment or a way of laying blame, then there are chances that he may not corporate fully during the process. Take and accept responsibilities for marital problems that exist and also explain vividly that you would like to improve on your relationship skills.

Determination to succeed: If there exist unwillingness in your spouse to attend marriage counseling sessions, then you might decide to start going alone and maybe with time, he or she may see your commitment and thus join you later.

Spouse presence: Explain to your spouse vividly that his or her presence is needed in the marriage counseling sessions so as to make progress. If he sees it as a way of helping you rather than accounting for his faults, he might be more convinced to come.

Marriage troubles beset most relationships at some point or another. Seek help before it’s too late.