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Change your language.

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.

I’ve been conducting a war on the word “should.”
And substituting “I want.”

So, not “I should change the cat box,” but “I want to change the cat box.”

Or, not “I should go work out,” but “I want to go work out.”
If I think, “Oh, no, really I don’t want to do that,” then I have made a valuable insight. And I can say, “well, I *do* want to feel better so if I go to the gym, I’ll feel better.”