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She is mad that my DS doesnt struggle like hers...

Okay so my DS is in grade 2 and is very bright... most things come easy to him. Except guessing...he doesnt like it he wants to know how many exactly are in there. But reading, spelling and so on just comes easy.

Now her son really struggles and she told me that it frustrates her son when my son finishes so easily so could I tell him to at least pretend to struggle.

I told her Connor does not gloat. He just takes out his "extra work" folder...should my son really pretend to struggle just so her son doesnt get frustrated??

no, I don't think your son should "pretend" to do anything..................my sil kinda wants my son to learn sign language rather then continue to learn spanish and english, if we made our kids do things to make others happy then we are not teaching our kids anything good.

OT...if the sil signs couldn't you teach signing along with English? If she doesn't forget I asked.

OP...I would never have my dd dumb herself down.

Quoting rmfanfgljf:

no, I don't think your son should "pretend" to do anything..................my sil kinda wants my son to learn sign language rather then continue to learn spanish and english, if we made our kids do things to make others happy then we are not teaching our kids anything good.

That is what I don't understand, my son is speech delayed, however I just learned he is bilingual.......I am the only one in this house that DOES NOT speak spanish, Even my girls are learning.....sil has 2 girls, they both speak spanish and english, english is their first language as is my sons. No one in this house signs, so I would have to learn sigh langueage as well as my son. I don't understand why sil doesn't want my son to learn both languages.

Quoting sthflachk:

OT...if the sil signs couldn't you teach signing along with English? If she doesn't forget I asked.

OP...I would never have my dd dumb herself down.

Quoting rmfanfgljf:

no, I don't think your son should "pretend" to do anything..................my sil kinda wants my son to learn sign language rather then continue to learn spanish and english, if we made our kids do things to make others happy then we are not teaching our kids anything good.

I am wondering if your son could perhaps help her son outside of class time with the material. Perhaps be able to explain it in more peer friendly language and show how he understands the material. I definitely would not tell him to be fake dumb as so many children end up doing as a result from peer pressure.

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