sex

By now, you should know this is both a true story about dance and a metaphor. I am a paradox of confidence and innocence, sometimes imagining more quickly than I can learn and sometimes learning more than I can practice. But there are a few things I know to be true.

If you want to build resilience, visit a bar. There are things that sometimes happen in a bar that will make you strong. He looked at the woman to my left and the woman on my right and said ‘You two are amazing girls.’ His pronunciation pointed in a direction anywhere but me.

Still, layered in perfume she is not yet naked before you. She undresses but she does not leave herself unclothed. It is beyond silk and lace, beyond what the skin wears and beyond costume of the day. There are symbols and stories painted on her body in scars and ink; some of them you know but others you have not listened to yet.

And I remembered then; this is the Lonely. There was something within me longing to be heard; but the one to hear was not with me.

So I let it sit, let it dwell with me for the day. Loneliness becomes a more tolerable companion as soon as you acknowledge its presence, I’ve found. I let others assume the reason for my quiet reticence that day and then in the evening, alone in the quietness of my room, I said to the Lonely, ‘Thank you for today and good night.’ I will not be any more or less lonely simply because I might one day share my Lonely with another. They will not be able to banish the lonely, but they may share it.

“Still,” he said (being the recipient of a recently shattered heart), “you’ve got to be thankful that you don’t have any of that baggage of poor relationships to carry into the future. Everything’s a fresh clean slate.”

If there is one thing in this world that I know how to do.. it’s crush. I’m really good at seeing the beauty and wonder in the people around me. Still, something in the wind has changed and sometimes love and romance needs a trigger; sex certainly does.

Hooray! Same-sex marriage is legalised in the United States. Don’t be an idiot in your social media feeds. Here’s a brief list of what Conservatives can start worrying about next and the list of what Liberals should really be fighting for.

I wrote this piece in the last few days. It’s a simple prayer really; it has a lot of uses and it echoes a number of sacred acts. i. my body welcomes your body my blood rises to meet your blood our body welcomes your body our blood rises…

Why has sex become so reductionist? Because I think we’ve lost the art of learning when it comes to our sexuality and I also think we’ve lost a connection with the senses that fuel our sensuality and imagination. It’s hard to have one without the other. It’s crucial to develop our sexual tastes and understanding of how we work in this same learning process and to encourage young people and young adults to understand their sexuality in healthy ways. I believe we can do this through embracing and engaging with the broader art of sensuality.

People seem to keep blaming men for the state of things. But some of the most emotionally aware and grounded people I know are men. They are teachers, artists, scientists, single, married, fathers, gay, straight. So it’s not ok for our culture to perpetuate the stereotype of the emotionally unengaged and purely sexually motivated man.

we find our way into those relationships through complex webs. More often than not, people enter into any sexual relationship with stories of past experiences or expectations that need to be given voice. We should talk more about how to have good sex and less about when to have sex.

Emotional intimacy isn’t just sharing part of yourself, it’s also having that part of you accepted and acknowledged by another person. My desire to share all of my secret self the moment I connect with someone who feels trustworthy is pretty flawed. The point is to discover those things, not to lay them out all at once. It’s helpful to observe those who are willing to do the work of discovery. Those who want to unpack the hidden woman behind the Facebook feed. Previously, I’ve thought that intimacy was to be known, but now I see that true intimacy is to be in the knowing. An ongoing process – where two people choose to continue to discover each other.

A friend of mine once said the only thing that prevents a man from getting laid is the woman before him. I laughed at the time, because I thought to myself it was true! I was sitting in front of him, laughing at his jokes and enjoying his intelligent banter. I was wearing phenomenally great underwear, beautiful perfume and everything that ought to have been waxed, tidied, buffed and moisturized had been. It was a collision amongst the stars – almost.