Another babies post… GRRR!

So I just got a facebook message today from FI’s cousin asking if she could bring her baby to my shower, which is, of course, 5 days away.

The thing is, I really am not a fan of babies. FI has 3 cousins (all invited to the shower) that just had babies at the end of last year (we’re talking infants). I did not include any baby information on the shower invites, and I wasn’t even the one that sent them out (my mom and MOHs are handling shower business).

I feel like I’m in an awkward position no matter what; I, personally was asked about this, so I think I can’t really duck out and have a MOH or a mom answer. I really don’t want babies at my shower, and we’ve already told my venue that children aren’t invited. I can’t really say yes, without contacting everyone else who has kids (FI’s other cousins included), to let them know it’s okay to bring them, which just opens the door to having a kid fest. Yet, I feel like I’m being a B*$@! even if I politely say no.

@kittymama426: You can definitely duck out of this question. Tell her you have no idea what your mom and MOH have planned and if it’s baby appropriate or if the venue will allow it and give her contact information for those two if she doesn’t have it.

Plus maybe that will politely point out that her bringing her baby might be an inconvenience for those that have slaved away planning the party.

@kittymama426: I always think people should make an exception for newborn infants, like this one. They’re not mobile, so there’s no safety issue with him or her crawling or walking around. And they’re almost impossible to get babysat, especially if the mother is breastfeeding. There’s no way I’d be able to attend without my baby, when I had a baby that age.

A nursing infant is very different from an older child, and allowing a baby doesn’t mean you need to allow older children.

You are within your rights to say no of course, but then you should expect her to decline the invite.

@aussiemum1248: I guess I understand that, but it’s a few hours. If her baby can’t stay with her husband for a few hours, then she should have simply declined or inquired about it weeks ago. I think it was extremely rude to call ME out on it, since I am not the one throwing the shower, and I am not the person she RSVPd to, weeks ago.