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Friday, August 31, 2018

Consequences of an Adulterous Relationship

Holland State Park

Many are now writing about the implosion of Willow Creek, due to the sexual immorality of its founding pastor Bill Hybels, the failure of the church's leaders to listen to the abused women, the resignation of Hybels, and the leaders, plus the resignation of the two newly installed pastors who could no longer work with Willow Creek's failed leaders. Randy Alcorn has commented on this here. Alcorn links us to a post he made in 2009, where he and a friend listed the consequences of marital unfaithfulness. Their list is sobering.

Personalized List of Anticipated Consequences of Immorality

Grieving my Lord; displeasing the One whose opinion most matters.

Dragging into the mud Christ's sacred reputation.

Loss of reward and commendation from God.

Having to one day look Jesus in the face at the judgment seat and give an account of why I did it. Forcing God to discipline me in various ways.

Following in the footsteps of men I know of whose immorality forfeited their ministry and caused me to shudder. List of these names:

Suffering of innocent people around me who would get hit by my shrapnel (a la Achan).

Untold hurt to Nanci, my best friend and loyal wife.

Loss of Nanci's respect and trust.

Hurt to and loss of credibility with my beloved daughters, Karina and Angela. ("Why listen to a man who betrayed Mom and us?")

If my blindness should continue or my family be unable to forgive, I could lose my wife and my children forever.

Shame to my family. (The cruel comments of others who would invariably find out.)

Shame to my church family.

Shame and hurt to my fellow pastors and elders. List of names:

Shame and hurt to my friends, and especially those I've led to Christ and discipled. List of names:

Guilt awfully hard to shake—even though God would forgive me, would I forgive myself?

Plaguing memories and flashbacks that could taint future intimacy with my wife.

Disqualifying myself after having preached to others.

Surrender of the things I am called to and love to do—teach and preach and write and minister to others. Forfeiting forever certain opportunities to serve God. Years of training and experience in ministry wasted for a long period of time, maybe permanently.

Being haunted by my sin as I look in the eyes of others, and having it all dredged up again wherever I go and whatever I do.

Undermining the hard work and prayers of others by saying to our community "this is a hypocrite—who can take seriously anything he and his church have said and done?"

Laughter, rejoicing and blasphemous smugness by those who disrespect God and the church (2 Samuel 12:14).

Bringing great pleasure to Satan, the Enemy of God.

Heaping judgment and endless problems on the person I would have committed adultery with.

Possible diseases (pain, constant reminder to me and my wife, possible infection of Nanci, or in the case of AIDS, even causing her death, as well as mine.)

Possible pregnancy, with its personal and financial implications.

Loss of self-respect, discrediting my own name, and invoking shame and lifelong embarrassment upon myself.