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Every new year is a time for trend prediction and, in 2009, even sex isn’t immune.

Karla Tolstoy, an Internet entrepreneur from Oakville, Ontario, and regular “Sexploration” reader, recently e-mailed asking about sex trends for the coming year. Karla is starting a Web site for couples and she wanted in on the next big thing.

The idea of a “sex trend” may strike you as odd, as if sex were like hemlines, or reality shows, or top 40 music — one of the fizzy bubbles that float pop culture — but in recent years there has been a lot of churn about sex. It’s all latex! No, wait, it’s goth! Swinging is back!

Even Candida Royalle, the pioneering erotic actress, director, author, and sex toy designer tells me she is amazed at how sex has been “gobbled up and spit out as just another trend.”

So here’s my 2009 prediction about trendy sex: It’s over.

While more information is good, sex-as-trend imposes pressure to conform. Never heard of a sex toy called “The Cone,” never been flogged by a dungeon master, or have yet to invite six strangers over for a little observational masturbation, also known as a Jack and Jill? How square. Hipsters have been so busy mining every tiny seam of our erotic underworld for nuggets of obscure novelty, and then feeding those nuggets into the crusher of pop culture, that those of us who have yet to attend a CFNM — Clothed Female Naked Male — party can feel hopelessly mainstream. (OMG!)

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Waning of hypersexual age
Every generation thinks it has invented sex. But now high school girls can accurately define “shibari” as Japanese rope bondage and tweeners, like, totally get that Katy Perry is fashion-quoting Dita Von Teese, who, in turn, made a living quoting burlesque strippers and the late, great Bettie Page.

We live in a culture of quotation. True sexual invention is practically an oxymoron and fashion has turned sex into pop style with such ferocity we have begun to mistake riffing for true creativity. Is there a designer left who hasn’t used bondage elements?

But the trendy erotic payload is especially heavy on the Internet where medium is mistaken for thought. A lot of sex on the Web is there simply because we can put it there. Once you get over the idea that the guy with the studded leather strap around his scrotum who is doing the ironing under his wife’s stern supervision looks suspiciously like your seventh-grade science teacher (Hi, Mr. Grunwald!), much of it just isn’t very interesting.

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As a result of such overkill, there's an atmosphere of ennui seeping into “trendy” sex. Porn companies are scaling back. FriendFinder Networks, the family of sex hookup sites that was purchased by Penthouse Media, has been losing millions and is at risk of going out of business. Edgier sex writers at publications like The Village Voice and Wired.com have quit or lost their jobs.

There is more to this than the economic downturn. These are signs of a waning hypersexual age.

The prediction does not ratify a phony moral revival. The end of sex trendiness has a lot to do with the fact that efforts to enforce religion-based sexual conservatism are over, too, at least for now. Defiance helped animate the rise of sex trends. With less force pushing in, there will be less force pushing out.

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Doing it, but not so much talking about it
Neither does it mean we are about to stop having sex, or trying things new to us, nor will we stop needing solid information about sex or having fun exploring it.

Rather, people are going to choose their own sexual paths but not talk about it so much. Some will choose abstinence until marriage and monogamy and intercourse strictly for procreation. Others will experiment and explore. To each his own.

No, I am not googling "the cone". Whatever it is, I'm sure a $1.35 can of Aqua Net will work just as well. :p

Sixteen function 3000 rpm gold brush motor
The outside is silicone
Base is about seven inches in diameter, five inches high, and it weighs just over one pound.
Push button controls
Requires 3 “C” Batteries
Cost is between $110-$130

If you didn't know what it was you would think you were buying a disk sander from the description. :-)

That's where the bucks are,the gay/queer crowd.When the Japanese high end sex toy guys finally figure out the queer bondage market in America they will come up with some real goodys.

The current inflateable teen age school girl/robot market is for the older Japanese business men with money to spend.These things are programmable and have so many sensors that they are just about human.They walk ,talk, sing, pose and cuddle.They come with a library of voices and can be pre programmed to behave like a goofy oversexed young woman.They have a 'sleep mode' and selectable spontinuity to gladden an 'dirty old man's heart but not so queer '!..Maybe a Japanese inflatable 'boy toy that looks like Barney Franks would sell in the Bay Area '?

This may be off topic, and if it is perhaps we should split this thread, but look what I found in the article quoted in the OP.

Recent studies showing that abstinence pledges can be harmful because they don't stop teens from having sex, especially unprotected sex, is only further evidence that religious ideology makes for bad public policy. With any luck, we are about to install a government that will actually listen to the data.

This is a COMPLETE misrepresentation of the "no sex pledge" study we discussed in another thread.

The current inflateable teen age school girl/robot market is for the older Japanese business men with money to spend.These things are programmable and have so many sensors that they are just about human.They walk ,talk, sing, pose and cuddle.They come with a library of voices and can be pre programmed to behave like a goofy oversexed young woman.They have a 'sleep mode' and selectable spontinuity to gladden an 'dirty old man's heart but not so queer '!..Maybe a Japanese inflatable 'boy toy that looks like Barney Franks would sell in the Bay Area '?

Japan will officially market the worlds first sex robot that's as lifelike as a human being within 10 years, mark it down people! From a country where not only can you get beer in vending machines (why isn't the US on board with this yet???) to girls panties in vending machines (okay....kinda creepy) to Anime porno (even creepier...), the world will see a "Super happy yum fun time Pleasure mecha robo!" before you know it. :p