Tag: healing

I don't think it is possible for some to work on healing right now for the following reasons: 1) You have too many triggers in your current life. For real true healing to happen, one must feel supported and be in a safe environment free from more abuse. 2) You are too fragmented. There is... Continue Reading →

Truth is 100% objective. It's perception that is subjective and individual. We are all mutated and unhealed in some fashion and so long as we have unhealed wounds, we might unconsciously continue to see the world and others through the lens of wounds (the child mind). This is why we all have unique perceptions. Our... Continue Reading →

Ordering people to get out of victimhood, to suck it up, that they created their own reality, that others have it worse, to snap out of it, to get over it, to let it go, to move on already, to not be dramatic, to cheer up, that they are lazy or life isn't supposed to... Continue Reading →

When we carry unresolved trauma (and we all have been traumatized to some degree or another), our past rules our thoughts, our dreams, our behaviors, our addictions, our choices, our beLIEfs, and our health. One thing that brings us all together is that we are living in the past while not being conscious of it.... Continue Reading →

...and how to help people when they are down...... People can appear to be "stuck in victimhood". To resolve this, ask yourself why this happens. When you feel you have the answer, but are still silently condemning or are still irritated or feel the need to lecture, then you might not know the real reason... Continue Reading →

The word "healing" in our culture has two different meanings depending on who is talking. There is one kind of healing that is false-healing which does not involve much pain. The main goal of most therapists, spiritual teachers and life-coaches (even if they have good intentions) is to get you to trick your mind into... Continue Reading →

I came across an article written by an advocate of Dr. Arthur Janov on meditation that I found to be fair and brilliantly written. For psychology nerds and/or those on the healing path, I highly recommend this piece. You might be surprised with his take on meditation and feeling feelings.

Cathartic Healing: Realistic VS Unrealistic Expectations |What happens when you start to rise from the ashes... Some might find I am on the healing path and expect me to be devoid of sin and expect me to be nice and sterile and squeaky clean since I am doing the cathartic self-work. Just the opposite is... Continue Reading →

Nobody ever forgets what happened to them as every traumatic event is stored and remembered by the body and subconscious mind --- especially in the case of preverbal wounds. We remember everything, but for now, for some of us, those memories are blocked from our conscious mind until we can get all parts of self... Continue Reading →

When you start waking up and deprogramming, if you think you're not going to resent those who are still sleeping, think again. Resentment might be part of this. I think it might be inevitable due to the deep crushing isolating factor. "Being free from the brainwashing does tend to be isolating to some degree, you... Continue Reading →

Healing takes place in relationships where transference is allowed to exist. And I DO realize this is a very tall order! In an exclusively therapeutic context there is no such thing as too much transference. In fact, rebellious attitudes about it could be counter-transference. Very few will likely admit it that is so. Transference is... Continue Reading →

Very few tell the truth about what the healing phase looks like. When I was reading “Your Soul’s Gift” by Robert Schwartz, I came across the below passage and it made a lot of sense. What so many don't realize is just how messy the healing phase is. It is not pretty. It is not... Continue Reading →

It is believed that the more we heal from our past, the more mature and stable we become. This might be a myth. If we are doing the emotional body-centered cathartic healing work, our hearts might begin to open. Once our hearts start opening, we can become more susceptible to emotional and physical flashbacks. This... Continue Reading →

You know how they say the eye of the storm is the safest place to be? Some practicioners in body-centered cathartic therapeutic models might call this a "primal". The primal is the "eye of the storm"... For the cathartic emotional release aspect of our healing journey, we might find that we start out emoting outside... Continue Reading →

I used to be concerned with being spiritual back in 2014 when I started dipping my feet into popular spirituality, but over the last few years, my main concern is centered on being authentic. That is going to include (expressed in a safe environment) all of my authentic violent blood-red rage, anger, shame, sadness, terror,... Continue Reading →

​ ​FOR THOSE ON THE HEALING JOURNEY: We might start doing the healing work addressing childhood trauma only after an adult trauma takes place. Why must adult trauma happen? Haven't we been through enough BS in our childhoods? So many of us are not doing the nose-to-the-grindstone grueling blood sweat and tears work of healing... Continue Reading →

Part of the healing process is apologizing, feeling the guilt for what you did to harm other people. I know that in my own process, my inner guidance took me to places in my past where I have harmed other people and animals and I have cried again and again. I got instant forgiveness from... Continue Reading →

I am always fascinated by how repression works because I know how it had worked within me. It is simply amazing how our bodies remember every single thing, but our conscious minds do not. All of us have stuff repressed. It is either fully repressed or partially repressed. We are not supposed to remember what... Continue Reading →

A really good question someone might ask about reincarnation is "If we cannot heal our traumas in one lifetime, that means in another lifetime we have old pain to work through and then new pain to work through on top of that. That's too much and we'll never get the work done that way." I... Continue Reading →

HUMBLE PIE You know you're staring to get real when you realize how fake you are. You know you are genuinely healing when you realize that you have a long way to go. You know you're becoming self-aware when you realize that you don't understand all of yourself yet and why you behave and think... Continue Reading →

​Never own a disease? Can you heal from disease using your mind? I have tried the "never own a disease" thing as in not talking about it, not saying "my restless legs, but instead saying "the restless legs"​. I had tried accepting it, ignoring it, denying it, talking to it nicely, asking it what it... Continue Reading →

Why I support activism and the search for Truth ...And how my friend's activism saved my own life. I woke up under unusual circumstances. On May 1st of 2013, I saw a video posted on my friend's timeline. I got post traumatic stress symptoms for quite some time after watching it and spending months doing... Continue Reading →

Today, I challenge the notion that we can never heal completely. I think it really depends on if we are talking about getting it all done in this lifetime or at all in terms of eternity. My opinions are based on the belief that our souls are eternal and that reincarnation is real. From the... Continue Reading →

Is it possible to fully heal from trauma without feeling any pain? What does "healing" even mean? I attempt to address the problems with New Age Therapy and Energy Healing in my post: One thing we can all collectively agree on is that we all hate pain and we do whatever we can do to... Continue Reading →

Why Anger and Rage are Our Friends and Why God (the energy of Love) Gave us These Two Magical Emotions // Sorry this is long, but I hope you will read this in full before arriving to any conclusions. I know this is a difficult subject, but it's important for those on the path to... Continue Reading →

The inconvenient truth about healing. So many of us think all we need is one good cry and we are healed. Nothing can be further from the truth. It has become a cliche. One good cry is the start, however, not the end of it. I have heard from so many before saying things like,... Continue Reading →

We can do only the physical work to heal and neglect the emotional work or we can do the emotional and neglect the physical. Doing one or the other might only take us so far. I have noticed that working with my physical body is making it a bit easier to work with my emotional... Continue Reading →

If we sincerely want to see child abuse end and if we want to see better quality adults, it's starts in validating survivors' experiences and feelings as real. Validation, if sincere, helps people heal. A healed person is likely to become a productive member of society and very unlikely to create more victims.

Our culture says that anger hurts you but we are only getting a half truth here. Anger only punishes you when you keep it inside and suppress it. When you, however, give it full expression in a safe place, once released, you might find that grief was underneath it. Then finally, we feel the grief... Continue Reading →

The ones who are doing the work of healing are actually letting go of their past are oddly the ones we judge for being stuck there, we judge them because “it happened a long time ago” and "you gotta move on" and we judge them for not getting over it fast enough. We judge them... Continue Reading →

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