https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news.atomBodybinds - News2020-02-27T08:12:53-10:00Bodybindshttps://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/the-truth-about-taboo2020-02-27T08:12:53-10:002020-02-27T08:12:53-10:00The Truth About TabooJacqueline Lee“What would your mother say!?!?!” That is what I read when I logged onto facebook a few years ago. I had just posted images from my very first pole dancing photo shoot and I was so excited. Honestly speaking, I had not thought about what anyone would say or think or do. I had already been a pole dancer for one year and was preparing for my first public showcase. As luck would have it, I was able to book a professional photographer to take some sensual, yummy pole dancing images of me. I was so excited about this new found lifestyle of mine and all I wanted to do was live it out loud. I read the comment again. “What would your mother say?!?!” In that innocent yet chastising statement was so much gunk and grime from years of societal standards regarding women’s behavior. Ideals surrounding what I could and could not do with my body, especially publicly. Expectations regarding my family’s name. A not-so-subtle implication that reputation proceeded my own pleasure. That statement was loaded! I wrote her back. “Actually, not only does my mother approve of my latest exploration into sensuality and sexuality, she also wants to learn to pole dance too. More-so than that, if she did not approve, that would change absolutely nothing for me. I am a grown woman. My life is my own.” A few hours later my mother, who is on facebook too….and my facebook “friend” wrote under the brewing comment that she was proud of me! It made me smile. I do know however, whether my mother approves or not, my life as a pole dancer is a taboo.

According to dictionary.com, ""a taboo is a vehement prohibition of an action based on the belief that such behavior is either too accursed or too sacred for ordinary individuals to undertake…. usually under threat of supernatural punishment."" Taboos are improper and unacceptable as proscribed by society but they are subject to alter, change or be completely done away. I love the definition that states, “….set apart as sacred.” My life as a dancer is sacred and not for the faint of heart or the ""ordinary."" You know what else use to be taboo in the US and still is in many parts of the world?

A woman seeking an education.

A woman wanting a career.

A woman wearing a bikini.

The list could go on in many different directions from simple attire to major lifestyle issues. You get the point. Despite the fact that I had graduated from high-school at the age of 16, attended college on a full academic scholarship, and lived a successful and artistic life on my own terms while traveling the world, volunteering and embarking on a self reflective spiritual transformation that even led me on a 10 day silent retreat deep in the woods…..I was still being asked, “what would your mother say?” All because I had decided to take pole dancing classes. I hadn’t even lived at home in over 10+ years but apparently my mother's voice or society's voice was to have a ruling effect over how I lived and expressed myself. Even though living on your own terms is LEGAL and your human right, I know that many GROWN woman (and men) find it hard to do so. There are many reasons.

They are afraid of being ostracized.

They are afraid of being ridiculed.

They are afraid of failing.

They are afraid of what their mother might say….or their husband, best friend, cousin, neighbor, sister, boss, etc.

I understand the fear but I am going to have to side with Laurel Thatcher Ulrich. Her quote resonates with my soul. “Well behaved women rarely make history.” The first well known documented case of this is EVE! She ate that forbidden apple...or fig. That one bite, according to Christianity, changed humankind FOREVER. If the bible isn’t your cup of tea, take a look at the book, “Scandalous Women: The Lives and Loves of History’s Most Notorious Women” by Elizabeth Kerri Mahon. In her introduction, she wrote, “All the women in this book have one thing in common: they caused a scandal, a commotion and they bumped up against the status quo. Each ran counter to conventional behavior and each caused gossip, furor, and anger among her contemporaries. They were free, unafraid to take a stand, to make a mess if necessary to achieve their goals, whether it was against oppression or liquor or for religious freedom. Some were movers and shakers in terms of changing events; others left behind a legacy of brilliance and great art. “ Elizabeth gives voice to familiar and unfamiliar names such as Cleopatra, the woman who was never meant to be queen and yet her face launched 1,000 ships. She tells the stories of others such as Anne Boleyn, Calamity Jane and Joan of Arc, a woman who threatened notions of power, religion and gender sexuality norms…all stemming from the fact that she claimed she spoke directly to god. She was considered a witch, by the way. Most of these women were considered witches, whores, and hysterically institutionally crazy. Yet they paved the way for me to pole dance, travel, date whomever I want, sign my own lease to my own apartment, write blogs stating my opinions, thoughts and epiphanies and more. In reading that book a few key characteristics stood out about these phenomenal and notorious women. They seized every advantage. They were charming, independent, intelligent, witty, powerful, brave, influential, fascinating, vivacious and not to be denied. Most were indifferent to public opinion, lived a life of reckless courage and were not passive participants in their lives.

I believe that exploring taboos can lead to your personal truth. Whether accursed or sacred, I know for a fact that pole dancing, or dating on my own terms, or exploring the depths of my sexuality have led to a greater sense of awareness, satisfaction and clarity. At the risk of being ostracized for living on my own terms, my sense of curiosity showed me what I was really made of in relation to the rest of the world. Want some quick tips on exploring, challenging or breaking taboos?

Speak your mind.

Follow your gut.

Ask questions.

Experiment.

Create your own definitions.

Each chapter in Scandalous Women, highlights a woman in history that will not be forgotten. I close with an excerpt regarding Jane Digby. “Jane lived a remarkable life but she paid a high price for the choices she made, ostracized by most of her relatives and polite society and alienated from her children. She saw her name become a byword for scandal. Despite all this, Jane was able to look back on her life with no regrets. She had lived fully and loved.” To answer the lady who wrote on my facebook wall, ""What would my mother say?"" I’m not quite sure. But I do know that each day, I live fully and I have loved. That is what matters to me.

Do you have a lifestyle or hobby that runs counter to “proper” culture? Are you a pole dancer? Maybe you like bondage? Perhaps you swear like a sailor? Maybe, just maybe you’re the only religious or spiritual person in your close group of friends?

What has your experience been due to your taboo lifestyle? Is it worth being counter cultural or would your life had been better if you had only behaved yourself?

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/5-ways-to-style-your-bodybinds-for-everyday-wear2020-02-27T08:12:53-10:002020-02-27T08:12:53-10:005 Ways to Style Your Bodybinds for Everyday WearJacqueline Lee
gorgeous ... and began to fantasize of who I could be in these pretty things. I love clothing. I love all that clothing allows you to be. What we put on our bodies in is so much more than just a covering to keep the elements out – its self-expression, creativity, a statement, a transformation. It can shout, “World, this is who I am!” or whisper “Don’t you want to know more?” A woman in a full skirt and heels walks into a room very differently than one in doc martins and a leather jacket. And while a flowy maxi dress can transform you into a Grecian goddess, a perfectly tailored suit will demand others to pay attention. You decide how you present yourself and what sides of yourself you want to share. You decide who you want to be and clothing communicates it. That is a pretty powerful thing, but unfortunately, easily forgotten. The arrival of my Bodybinds reminded me of the joy of dress up. They practically beg you to experiment with them and demand to be worn as often as possible. They have the ability to transform even the most basic outfit into something fresh and new. So you better believe once I got my Bodybinds, I had one massive session of dress-up!

1. Add interest to a basic look

We all have our tried and true essentials in our closets, but why not use Bodybinds to take your boring basics to the next level and create a truly unique look? I layered the Betty Skirtover a staple black pencil skirt, but you can also add the Diamond Monokini over a tank and under jeans or experiment with the Fleur Dress over a solid bodycon dress for a one-of-a-kind look!

2. Layer your Bodybinds over soft, flowy layers

Nothing accentuates soft, feminine curves like hard, straight lines shown in juxtaposition. Use pieces like Bodybinds' Cage Top or Rebecca Bondage Top over a maxi dress or flowy top to nip in at the waist while allowing the layers of fabric to cascade over your curves.

3. Add your Bodybinds to a traditionally masculine outfit

Bodybinds has the ability to be both feminine and masculine, strong and soft, and it is one of my favorite aspects to play with when putting together an outfit. Try going for a pop of femininity with a harder, masculine outfit by giving the world a peek of your lingerie-style Bodybinds. Try layering items like the Kitty Bra under a flannel or the Betty Skirt over jeans to give viewers an unexpected tease of naughtiness.

4. Give retro items an edgier, modern flare

I am partial to 40's and 50's styling and designs, but after awhile all those girlish full skirts and sweet pastel details can leave a girl in desperate need of some modern edge. Make Bettie Page proud by layering Bodybinds' bondage inspired pieces, like the Michelle Bikini Top or Emily Bra, over a fitted wiggle dress or peter pan collar button-up. Try pulling out your vintage store finds from all eras and mix and match with Bodybinds for an updated look!

I am thoroughly obsessed with small, unique details in clothing and love to call the viewers attention to them. Bodybinds Classics Collection comes in a plethora of colors and their BLACK Collection all feature a reverse side in multiple colors which can be used to draw your eye to areas of interest. I used the red side of the Cage Topto focus on the exposed red zipper. The bold graphic design of Bodybinds' stark lines on the body can also frame gorgeous body art and jewelry.

So what amazing, one-of-a-kind looks will you create with your Bodybinds? Be sure to share your results with us!

One lucky winner will be gifted with a $200 Bodybinds giftcard. The contest is open to everyone everywhere and is only voided were prohibited by law. To enter the giveaway, head on over to the #PDBloggers website for more details! The contest begins TODAY and runs until March 31, 2014!

Often times, we skip (or skimp) on another important aspect of fitness....stretching our muscles after we work-out.

If you are looking for a well-rounded work-out and want to get the most bang for your buck, then on option worth exploring is yoga. Depending on the type of class you choose, you may be able to combine weight training (using your own body weight), cardio (flow) and stretching in a single class.

There are many types of yoga to fit the need of every budding yogini. If you believe adding yoga to your work-out regimen would benefit your body, here are descriptions of some of the more popular types of yoga, so that you can find the right one for you. Keep in mind that every posture can be modified, so with a few exceptions, no matter your level of fitness, you can experience great results in most classes.

ASTANGA

Ashtanga is a vinyasa flow class (""vinyasa,"" among other things, generally means the sequence of poses you hold). You often move fairly quickly through the poses, which helps work up a sweat. The breath should be linked with the movement. Years ago, there was a belief that Americans didn't understand Ashtanga yoga, so ""Power Yoga"" was created. It operates under the same theory, however.

IYENGAR

Iyengar yoga, named for its creator, encourages reaching a deeper level of flexibility by holding poses longer and using props. Alignment is extremely important and adjustments are encouraged due to the extended length of time the poses are held.

VIN

Vin yoga or viniyoga is gentle and restorative. Sometimes used post-injury, this type of yoga still syncs the breath with the movement but will rarely cause you to work up a sweat.

BIKRAM

Bikram yoga is performed in a room heated to over 100 degrees. It is designed to be a 90-minute class performing 26 specific poses. The theory is that the heat helps your body rid itself of toxins. Some believe the heat also allows the body to reach a deeper stretch. Some critics claim working out in high temperatures can be dangerous and sometimes the body may over-stretch due to the heat.

HATHA

Hatha yoga is generally a mix of various types of yoga. You often may not be able to tell how vigorous the class is just by looking at the schedule, so you may want to inquire as to the instructor's chosen yoga techniques.

YOGA POSES 101

One pose common to every yoga practice is downward-facing dog (Adho Mukha Svanasana). Downward dog is such a great pose all by itself (provided your wrists are not giving you trouble). The weight placed on the arms and shoulders helps build upper body strength, it can help ease back pain and loosen stiff hamstrings. Gentler options include dolphin pose or child's pose. For most vigorous yoga classes, this is your resting pose. Keep in mind if you have high blood pressure, going upside down may not be appropriate for your yoga practice.

A lot of people complain of hip and back pain. That can sometimes mean that you are plagued by a tight psoas muscle. One-Legged King Pigeon pose (Eka Pada Rajakapotasana), even modified, is the perfect pose to stretch that muscle. Want to build strong legs? The Warrior pose series (Virabhadrasana I, II, and III) is where you want to head. Need to loosen your hips? Happy baby pose (Ananda Balasana) is a good starting place. Tight lower back? Cobra pose (Bhujangasana) can help you there.

You may be tempted to miss the final few minutes of class, usually reserved for savasana (corpse pose). We often rush through our days, taking little time for ourselves. As challenging as it can be to quiet our mind, savasana helps you reach complete relaxation and is a very important part of yoga practice. It allows our mind, body and spirit to realign. If you are new to yoga, you may not succeed in completely clearing your mind the first few times. However, with practice, this pose may become one of your favorites.

As class carefully rolls out of savasana, many yoga instructors end with chanting or thoughts-of-the-day. Typically, the final word spoken is “Namaste” as hands are brought to heart center and instructor and class bow to each other as a sign of respect. Namaste does literally mean “I bow to you,” however, many instructors explain that it also means that the light in her or him is recognizing the light in each of their students.

Yoga could possibly be the perfect exercise. Most cities and towns have multiple yoga studios with classes for every level. Certainly, you could do any of these poses on your own, but joining a yoga class with an excellent instructor could mean the difference between getting a good work-out and just doing a few stretches. Challenge yourself: take yoga classes three times a week for a month and see if and how it changes your life.

Is yoga part of your exercise regimen? If not, take a class and come back to tell us about it. Please feel free to comment below with your yoga stories!

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/tie-me-up-please2020-02-27T08:12:53-10:002020-02-27T08:12:53-10:00Tie Me Up, PleaseJacqueline Lee
Binding the female body is a tradition that has existed across a number of cultures and has been around for centuries. What is this obsession with forcing female bodies into a more aesthetically pleasing shape at any cost? As someone who will suffer through an evening of wearing 4-inch stilettos because I like how they make my legs look, I can hardly get on my high horse about the issue. In fact, my fascination with binding the body is perhaps even tinged with a bit of awe at just how far women will go in order to appear more beautiful. Binding, however has a special connotation. It implies – even demands – restriction. And it is inherently oppressive. Right?

Foot binding started in the 10th or 11th century in China. It involves applying painfully tight binding to the feet in order to prevent further growth. Bound feet were known as “Lotus Feet” and were considered not only beautiful but a sign of wealth and status in Chinese culture. The foot binding process started early - between the ages of two and five. Young girls toes were broken and bent back, then bound. The average foot length for bound feet was 3 inches. It was not until 1912 that foot binding was outlawed in China, under pressure from Christian feminists. Thank God. I don’t think we have to debate whether or not foot binding had any merits. Beautiful or not, it was a cruel punishment to the young girls who suffered from the practice. Corsets are another form of binding that became popular in Europe in the 16th century and reached their peak in the Victorian era. The corset was thought to highlight and accentuate the beauty of the female form. Corsets, like foot binding, also posed health risks to women, yet in spite of doctors’ warnings their popularity continued to thrive until World War I. Today corsets have seen a resurgence in fashion in both sexual fetishism and in high-end couture designers like Peter Soronen. Corsets today are far kinder than the ones of yesteryear. While I would never want to be forced to wear one continuously, I love putting one on for an evening. The effects on the silhouette can be dramatic and to me they feel deeply feminine and extremely erotic. Because of their connection today to both binding the female body and sexual fetishism, corsets have a sexual charge to them. They are lingerie and shapewear at the same time. They highlight the female form. And yet, they are cumbersome and restrictive. It is difficult to bend in them much less dance. And so they have their limitations, quite literally.

I hate to do away completely with binding. As a woman who occasionally likes being tied up and who understands the various pleasures of restriction, I think the bound female body has its place in our culture not as a symbol of oppression but as a living paradox. The binding of the female body, when initiated freely by the woman being bound, represents submission and exhibitionism at the same time. That’s an intoxicating combination. Am I advocating that we return to corsets and foot binding, or, worse yet, condone visual representations of women being violently restricted against their will? Absolutely not. But I am suggesting that a sensory exploration of body binding, done in a safe, sane and consensual manner could actually be pleasurable for some women. And who knows, you might actually become a little less restricted.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/8-little-ways-to-show-your-body-love2020-02-27T08:12:53-10:002020-02-27T08:12:53-10:008 Little Ways to Show Your Body LoveJacqueline Lee
I’m talking about our bodies. If we were dating our bodies, they would have broken up with us long ago and moved on to partners who appreciated them for the wonders that they are. Today, I want to encourage a loving relationship with our bodies. Take a moment to think about how truly amazing your body is. Really think about all it is capable of. It’s pretty awe-inspiring, right? If you need some suggestions on showing your body how much you care, take a step in a more gracious direction with these gestures of love.1.Write Down Your Love Everyday write down something you love about yourself. Really challenge yourself! You can go old school and write your daily notes on pieces of paper and keep it in a jar or, like me, keep a running list on your phone. Push yourself to focus on more than your appearance. Include all the amazing things your body does for you. On days where you are doubting your awesomeness read through your list and remember how incredible you and your body really are! 2. Snuggle Up in Lux Fabrics Grab your favorite cashmere sweater or cocoon yourself in satin sheets. We are tactile creatures, but we often forget to slow down and really experience our surroundings. Take the time to fully enjoy the sumptuous feeling of soft fabrics on your skin and the natural sensuality it brings out. Make a conscious effort to bring materials into your life that allows you to enjoy your silky soft skin. Avoid fabrics that irritate your skin. 3. Unplug Turn Off Your TV/Cellphone/Computer for 30 min a day. I know, I know this is a tough one, but all those “oh so helpful” electronics in our lives are also major contributors of stress. Stress wreaks havoc on the body. It keeps you up at night, drains your energy, and it shows on your face. Treat your body and your mind to 30 minutes a day of quiet stillness. Take 30 minutes a day to remove the strain on your eyes, the hunching of your shoulders over a desk, and feeling the need to be at the immediate beck and call of others. Taking a hiatus will give your mind an opportunity to stop multitasking and rest, leaving you refreshed and ready to take on each new day. 4. Dance Like No One is WatchingTurn off the lights, kick out the cat, and get down with your bad self. Don’t judge, don’t second guess, don’t think! Allow yourself a song (or two) to let your body move to its' natural flow. If you are a pole dancer you may be tempted to cling to the pole, but do yourself a favor and let go of the security blanket as you let go of your inhibitions. When you move your body, not only will you feel more in tune with yourself, but a burst of exercise will leave you feeling rejuvenated. 5. Sniff Your Body GoodSmell is our strongest sense and is one of the quickest ways to improve your mood and relax your body. When you need a boost, incorporate essential oils into your self care routine with a diffuser, candle, or for bonus “body loving” points, add to a relaxing bath. Use rosemary to fight aches, cramps, and exhaustion. It can also be used topically to relieve muscle aches and pains. Both jasmine and lavender have calming properties and relieve nervous tension. My personal favorite, cinnamon, is a great mood booster and helps relieve fatigue. 6.Stand Tall Bad posture is one of my biggest pet peeves. Why? Because it is one of the simplest and most effective ways to show pride in your body and many people fail to do so. To start, stand up straight, rolling your shoulders back and squaring them off - your ears, shoulders, and hips should be inline. Your chest will be pushed forward and your stomach pulled in. Make sure your weight is centered on the balls of your feet, not your heels. Good posture not only prevents backaches and pains, but it shows your body off to its' best advantage. 7. BreatheThis is a simple one so no excuses. Take 5 - 10 deep breathes. That's it. Allow yourself to focus on each inhale and exhale, relaxing your muscles and centering yourself as you breathe. You will instantly feel calmer and more focused. 8. Say No How many of us pack our days and nights full of commitments only to get to the end of the week dead tired? Show your body and mind some love by giving it a break. Say no to something … big, small, anything… and experience the glorious feeling of weight being lifted off your shoulders. I promise the world will not collapse if you actually leave work on time or if you don’t make it out to your coworker’s sister’s husband’s birthday party. Make your mental and physical wellness a priority and your body will return the favor. What do you love about your body? Share the body love and let us know in the comments.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/meet-your-bodybinds-bloggers-sheena-of-sheenalashay2020-02-27T08:12:52-10:002020-02-27T08:12:52-10:00Meet Your Bodybinds Bloggers: Sheena of SheenaLaShayJacqueline LeeEditor's Note: I've been asked how I came to be the Editor of the Bodybinds blog. I do consider it an honor and it fascinates me that I find myself in this place. For those seeking new adventures whether it be to write for certain publications, manage new projects or go to the moon, here are some short tips. Always be ready for an opportunity. You never know when you're going to get your chance. Therefore even in your downtime, make sure you're always developing your skill set. Find your favorite places, businesses and websites and get to know them intimately. Clicking every button on the Bodybinds site revealed they were looking for bloggers. (It revealed a few other things too which is why there are a lot of things in the works! Stay tuned) Put yourself out there. Pitch your idea. Then try again. It took a couple tries to get Bodybinds attention....because they are so busy creating amazing things. So in my final pitch I catered my proposal knowing what their challenges were. And when you pitch and when you deliver.... BLOW THEIR MINDS AWAY. You wanna write for a website? Manage a team? Secure a sponsor? Get the guy? Start a business? These tips are universal. And now, a girl who used to have one bra, a side ponytail and over-sized clothes to hide her body, lives in pleasure and fashionable lingerie while writing about it!

Bodybinds: Describe your fashion?

SheenaLaShay: If ModCloth and FreePeople and Anthropologie and AllSaints had a baby that's how I'd imagine my style to be. I like really short shorts, girly dresses, high heels and patterned tights. I also have a love affair with pretty panties. Check out my pinterest board to see items I have purchased and that live in my closet HERE if you really want to see how I dress.

Bodybinds: Describe your writing style?

SheenaLaShay: I write, for the most part, in the same way that I dance. It's a freestyle format and then I edit, edit, edit. I write very emotional pieces that explore my thoughts and experiences. Sometimes I swear. Sometimes its a little too long. Sometimes its a little too revealing for comfort. In other words, I keep it real.

Bodybinds: What's the most subversive thing you've ever done?

SheenaLaShay: Live out loud! Years ago, my entire existence would have been banned. I like to pole dance. I have a few fetish tendencies. I'd walk around naked if I could. I date multiple men. (They all know.) I like to talk about and explore sexuality and sensuality and pleasure. And I feel no shame or guilt. Living fully in my power...that's been the most subversive thing I've ever done.

Bodybinds: What's your favorite part about being a woman?

SheenaLaShay: I love my body. I love my curves. I love my skin and my eyes and my curly hair. I like the way I feel against and with a man. And I like my connection to my girl friends as well. So basically, my favorite part of being me, is dwelling in my own beauty & wellness, as well as living very connected to others.

Bodybinds: Who is your favorite style icon?

SheenaLaShay: Dita Von Teese.

Bodybinds: How do you like to indulge yourself and/or experience pleasure?

SheenaLaShay: I love delicious, decadent and flavorful foods. I love long luxurious showers and baths. I love mind blowing sex. And I love sensual dance in a dark room, with candle lights and 7 inch heels. ULTIMATE PLEASURE!

Known as an Intellectual Sensual Shaman and Wild Magical Woman, Sheena LaShay has one mission: To inspire authentic and powerful living. Sheena is a Writer, Editor and Producer in New York City. More specifically she is the Co-President and Editor-in-Chief of the #PDBloggers, Editor of the Bodybinds Lingerie blog, a Lifestyle Tech Blogger for Verizon Wireless and a Contributing Writer for OwningPink.com under the direction of Lissa Rankin.

Sheena LaShay is also a Motivational Speaker and has delivered keynote addresses at Lehman College, the historic Poet’s Den Gallery and Theater and has an interview featured in Abiola Abraham’s soon-to-be-released book, “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self Love.” Most notably, Sheena LaShay was also recently interviewed by Dr. Richard Besser of ABC News for “This Week with George Stephanopologous” regarding sexual abuse, politics and culture.

Having spent the formative years of her life in a repressive cult and surviving childhood sexual abuse, Sheena decided to live in abundance, freedom and joy after hitting rock bottom. Knowing the transformative healing power of art and creativity, Sheena created the ""Crafts + Cupcakes"" DIY parties, ""CREATE"" retreats for women artists, and ""Wild Magical Woman"" workshops. She also travels around the country capturing portraits and intimate boudoir moments of women. To follow her adventures, her healing journey and her creative art visit SheenaLaShay.com.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/what-to-expect-during-your-first-boudoir-photo-shoot2020-02-27T08:12:52-10:002020-02-27T08:12:52-10:00What To Expect During Your First Boudoir Photo ShootJacqueline Lee
Boudoir photo shoots are kind of like spa days; they're both designed to help you look and feel your best. Long before the camera turns on, you can begin your day of pampering.

Before you begin posing for your boudoir photographer, you can enjoy "a day in the life of a model" as you get your hair styled and makeup done. It's not every day that you have your own styling team, so whether the photographer provides it or you treat yourself, on the day of your intimate photo shoot, go all out and enjoy it! Right before your boudoir shoot, this is the perfect time to relax, have a snack (fresh fruit, green smoothies and lemon water are healthy options for boosting your energy), and fill your mind with sexy thoughts. Then when you are mentally and physically in the zone, you can change into your preferred lingerie and heels. Once you're ready for your close-up, the photographer can create amazing images of you against a gorgeous backdrop. During my first boudoir photo shoot, I learned a few things:

1) The more uncomfortable the pose, the cooler the photo.

The number one suggestion the photographer kept hollering at me all day?

"Arch your back! Arch as much as possible. More!"

I don't normally walk around, booty and chest portruding (to exaggerate that I have junk in the trunk and the front). However, the day of a boudoir photo shoot is not quite like any other day, and the same rules do not apply.

An arched back is universally flattering. Use this to your advantage!

It creates curves in all the right places, flattens your stomach, and makes you feel naughty, suggestive and flirty - all those things you want to express in your boudoir photos.

During boudoir photo shoots, you'll need to hold poses anywhere from 30 seconds to two minutes. The photographer might direct you to make small changes in your facial expression (smiling, not smiling, lips parted), the placement of your hands and arms (in your hair, on your body, on the furniture), and the way you look at the camera (tilting chin up, down or to the side).

By the time you're finally "in place" and the photographer is ready to snap photos of your current pose, you'll notice it takes effort to hold the position. Between remembering to breathe, staying still and putting a sexy expression on your face, modeling can be quite the physical task!

Once you see how your boudoir photos look, you'll totally get why holding unnatural poses is worth the discomfort.

2) Props can spice up your boudoir photos.

Depending on what tickles your fancy, you could grab a flogger or heart shaped paddle to play with in your photos. If you're like me, you'll grab both toys and a friend for some extra naughty snapshots!

Boudoir photography is all about capturing a fantasy world, where your sensual side comes out to play and you can bring wild dreams to life. Bring props that go with the persona/character you're expressing or the theme of your boudoir photo shoot.

If you're dressing up like a French maid, for example, have your feather duster, pretty spray bottle and vacuum cleaner with you.

With props, you could go the sweet route and have lollipops or candy. If you're craving something kinkier, use hand cuffs or blindfolds in your photos.

Shibari rope bondage looks especially hot in boudoir photography. If you like the idea of getting tied up and bound with intricate rope designs, consider including shibari as part of your boudoir shoot outfit.

3) Implied nude photos can be playful and sexy.

Even if you're nervous about your first boudoir photo shoot, you'd be surprised by how quickly you can get comfortable in front of the camera. Before you know it, you might even be stripping down for beautiful implied nudes.

Implied nude means that your private areas are still covered (but not with clothing).

For example, you might be topless but have satin sheets or your arm covering you. You could be facing the wall and looking over your shoulder at the camera.

The fun thing about implied nude photos is that you get to be naked yet coy, bared but still mysterious, undressed but still letting 'em guess! You're showing some skin, but not all of it.

Some of my favorite shots from my first boudoir photo shoot are implied nudes. I like that they have a "teasing" feel... it's almost as if I'm in the process of getting undressed and the camera catches that moment in between being clothed and completely naked.

During your first boudoir photo shoot, you'll be bending and arching into beautiful poses, playing with sexy props, and maybe even teasing the camera with implied nudes - if that's something you'd like to try!

Whether you're doing a boudoir photo shoot as a sexy gift for someone special or to give yourself the fun experience of feeling like a supermodel for a day, the whole process can reconnect you to your sexual side. Boudoir photography accentuates what makes you uniquely sexy. That could mean the freckles on your shoulders, the colorful tattoos on your body, the hint of mischief in your eyes, or the joie de vivre that you express with your laughter and gorgeous smile. Boudoir photo shoots are especially fun to cross off your bucket list. Planning to do your first one can be both thrilling and nerve-wracking... but with the positive experience you're going to have during your shoot, you'll be ready for your next boudoir shoot before your first one is done!

Have you ever done a boudoir photo shoot? What was the experience like for you? Did you have to do any uncomfortable poses? Did you use props? Share your story below or a fun tip to add to our list!

Tinie writes about sexuality, open relationships and pole dancing at DanceTinyFox.com.Her favorite hobbies are conducting life experiments and writing about them. Tinie is also an active member of the #PDBloggers.

Image Credit: Vixen Photography / Scott Saw

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/feel-beautiful-empowerment-through-photography2020-02-27T08:12:52-10:002020-02-27T08:12:52-10:00Feel Beautiful: Empowerment Through PhotographyJacqueline Lee"I'm not hot enough!" We might not always say it out loud, and instead of "hot," we might use the word "skinny" or "pretty" or "toned." Whatever word you use, I know that I am not the only one who has destructive thoughts about personal body image at times. And while I think we all know deep down that we're being hard on ourselves, these thoughts often hold us back. The destructive thoughts hold us back from wearing a bikini to the beach without a coverup, from having our picture taken without making a silly face and from allowing ourselves to feel beautiful without hiding it. My friend Iman Woods is a strong believer in empowering women through photography, and I knew writing this blog post for Bodybinds would be the perfect opportunity for me to do the same. I wanted to show both the women who modeled for me and the readers of this blog that the inner critic is wrong and that we are allowed to feel beautiful. But I also expected to have a hard time finding volunteers. I was wrong. When I posted on Facebook that I needed women to pose for me wearing Bodybinds, my phone blew up with notifications from friends and strangers who all wanted in. It didn't matter that the modeling was unpaid, that the pictures would be posted online, that the time and location was inconvenient for many. I even had one friend drive a two hour round trip for a five minute photo shoot, and she explained it best:

"When I saw your post I thought that I could never do something like that. And so I had to."

Posing in any state of undress is for many considered taboo, and having the pictures shared online even more so. Yet by putting on Bodybinds lingerie and allowing me the opportunity to take their picture, sixteen brave women allowed themselves to feel beautiful, and they are letting you see their beauty as well.

These are the results.

Have you done something like posing in lingerie before? If not, is it because the opportunity hasn't presented itself yet, or because you find it too exposed/taboo/risqué? I would love to hear your thoughts on this!

And can we please give a (virtual) round of applause for the women who posed for me? You all look gorgeous!!Nina is a photographer with a love for all things aerial and sensual, works as studio manager and pole dance instructor at Vertical Fusion, runs the Colorado Pole Championship, and was a founding #PDBloggers board member. Nina also writes at NinaReed.com.]]>
https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/meet-your-bodybinds-bloggers-lisa-of-poledancing-professor2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00Meet Your Bodybinds Bloggers: Lisa of PoleDancing ProfessorJacqueline LeeEditors Note: I first met Lisa virtually many years ago when I began pole dancing at Sheila Kelly S Factor New York. She dances in the California studio and we bonded because we both blogged about our experiences. Since then, we've maintained a wonderful, sensual and playful blogging relationship. Lisa is poetry in motion. Her words are magic and utterly inspirational. Enjoy her. I am thrilled to welcome Lisa to the Bodybinds blogger team.

Bodybinds: Describe your fashion?Lisa: Sensual comfort. Danceable layers. In pink, leopard and colors of the ocean. I know. I know, Stacy & Clinton from TLC’s What Not To Wear would not approve. Oh well.I let my body choose. Lacy lingerie under a pencil skirt, colorful leggings or yoga pants. Top with cotton tank and long-sleeved t-shirt. Or jeans and a Tinker Bell t-shirt (gifts from my husband). Polartec outer-layer for warmth in SF Bay Area wind and fog. Birkenstock clogs or sandals and Olukai ankle boots for my hard to fit feet. For special occasions, a curve hugging dress.Bodybinds: Describe your writing style?Lisa: Thoughtful and playful. Sexy and smart. Feisty and vulnerable. Just like me. I hope readers feel sprinkled with iridescent pink glitter. Inspired. Empowered. And that they learn something.The first time I found my storytelling voice I received this compliment: “This is so lyrical and sweet but feisty.” It still makes me do a happy dance.Bodybinds: What's the most subversive thing you've ever done?Lisa: Dance on a plane. I didn’t think this was revolutionary until I told my mom. I expected her to be proud. Her response? “I wish you wouldn’t do those things.” ​Bodybinds: What's your favorite part about being a woman?

Lisa: Kissing my husband. Even after 10,000+ days of kissing, I’m insatiable for them. I’m like Audrey Hepburn. I believe in kissing. Kissing a lot! If you’d like to calculate how long you’ve been kissing someone, here’s the duration between dates calculator.

Bodybinds: Who is your favorite style icon?

Lisa: I fell for Sue Monk Kidd’s voice in essays I read in junior high. I loved how she learned from little and big events. In my late thirties, her book Dance of A Dissident Daughter awakened a longing in me for the divine feminine that I found in pole dance. I strive to teach well in my stories with as recognizable a voice.

Alexandra Frazen is my most recent writing crush as I seek ease in my writing process. I look forward to her emails because they are full of wisdom + wit + so few words.

I suspect this question meant fashion, rather than writing. For that, I pick my 10-year-old niece who’s had her own sense of fashion since she was 2. And we share a love of leopard.

Bodybinds: How do you like to indulge yourself and/or experience pleasure?

Lisa: Through senses and sensations.

With a luxurious massage. A hot tub soak. Dancing in the sand and with waves. Or in the rain.

On sunrise walks. Savoring a sweet albion strawberry or juicy Cal Red peach. Letting the sound of saxophone caress my skin like the sultry tropics. Stepping off the plane into those tropics to feel the balmy breeze and inhale the plumeria scented air.

And so much more…

Lisa Faulkner has longed to live in world filled with vibrant individuals since writing her first research paper on biofeedback in junior high school. She spent 20 years in academia researching and teaching public health and holds a PhD from UC Berkeley.

It wasn’t until discovering sensual dance that she found the secret to radiance.

Now she’s creating a world where dance, play and passion help women shine as founder of the Siren Institute—an educational and research center that celebrates tears of joy and yearning, intuition and sensuality. Because when women feel sexy they radiate enough power to heal and transform the world.

She’s currently completing her memoir, How Pole Dancing Changed My Life, and an anthology of stories about the transformational power of sensual dance. She teaches an e-course called I Heart Sexy—a virtual treasure hunt designed to take a woman in search of her sensual self. And Lisa’s launching a live workshop in July 2014.

When she’s not educating, you can find her skipping through waves, making sand angels, dancing in her dining room, or sipping champagne with her husband.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/meet-your-bodybinds-bloggers-tinie-of-dancetinyfox2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00Meet Your Bodybinds Bloggers: Tinie of DanceTinyFoxJacqueline Lee
This week we're interrupting our regularly scheduled program to introduce you to our Bodybinds Bloggers. Some voices you have come to know over the past few months and others are newbies round parts. We have a lot of great content in store for you and we want you to know the bloggers behind the words. Editors Note: I first learned of Tinie of DanceTinyFox while actually googling myself. I know. Sounds so self serving. But as a writer and blogger, I do it occasionally. Tinie had taken a blog post I had written point by point and wrote her own response to it. I love it and soon found a kindred spirit. It is with such joy that I welcome Tinie to part of the Bodybinds blogger team.Bodybinds: Describe your fashion?Tinie: Sweet, with an edge.Bodybinds: Describe your writing style?Tinie: Like a best friend filling you in on all the juicy details!Bodybinds: What's the most subversive thing you've ever done?Tinie: Sharing my personal stories of open relationships, threesomes and play parties onDanceTinyFox.com.Bodybinds: What's your favorite part about being a woman?Tinie: Having a clit is pretty awesome.Bodybinds: Who is your favorite style icon?Tinie: Miranda Kerr. She's sweet, sexy and sophisticated.Bodybinds: How do you like to indulge yourself and/or experience pleasure?

Other dreams on her bucket list that she brought to life were going to circus school, doing a ten-day silent meditation retreat, trying just about every hair color under the sun, going from long hair to her first pixie cut, and dating a married couple. (They both of were aware - Editor)

Tinie thinks of herself as a guinea pig, although not in the hairy or chubby sense. her favorite hobbies are conducting life experiments and writing about them. Tinie is also a member of the Pole Dancing Bloggers Association.

Photography Credit: Scott Saw of Vixen Photography

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/bbxml-stassi-clutch-launch-press-event-recap2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00#BBxML Stassi Clutch Launch | Press Event RecapJacqueline Lee
On Thursday May 8th, 2014 Bodybinds and Marylai hosted their first collaborative fashion launch event to celebrate the "Stassi" clutchinspired by Bravo TV's Stassi Schroeder at the swanky and chic Beautique restaurant. Marylai New Yorkis a ultramodern luxury handbag company and is the perfect partner for the "Stassi" clutch collaboration with the couture bondage lingerie that makes up Bodybinds. The bag is SEXY folks! I also love when women in business come together to create amazing things.
WOMEN DOING BUSINESS

I had the pleasure of working with both Jackie and Mary during the editorial photo shoot of the "Stassi" clutch and it was so great seeing them work together, problem solve, create and lead the team. I would really love to see more small businesses, boutique businesses and entrepreneurs collaborate on great business opportunities! I also hope that Mary and Jackie have more things in store. The clutch is great but I would also like a bookbag, a weekend bag, and a shoulder bag too. :-)

Great Food. Great Vibe. Great People.

It's a great night in New York when you can meet engaging and creative people, enjoy delicious food & drinks and have an all around good time. The #BBxML event was that and more for me. One of my favorite parts of the evening was introducing in person one of the new Bodybinds' bloggers, Milan Staples to Bodybinds' owner Jackie Hopson. My second favorite part of the evening was chatting it up with Ona Bags founder, Tracey Foster. I had met her at a previous event celebrating the launch of one of her bags and it was great to catch up some more. After you purchase your Stassi clutch, go on over to Ona's site and check out her products too. :-)

Some of the bloggers and fashionistas spotted throughout the night were latin lifestyle blogger Jessica Flores of DomesticatedMe, fashion blogger Naty of ALoveAffairWithFashion and fashion blogger Beau Alexander Castro of BeauTalksNow.In addition to the guests exploring the Stassi clutch and other Bodybinds and Marylai products, 3 guests won the various #BBxML giveaways by photographing and socially sharing the most creative pictures of the night. To see images of the evening and the behind the scenes process, just search #BBxML on instagram, google and twitter!

Beautique

Thank you Beautique for hosting such a lovely event. If you're ever in New York, you must visit. I've now eaten twice at this swanky restaurant and everything I've tasted is YUM. Beautique is located at 8 West 58th Street. New York, New York 10019

LaceyCakesNYC

One of the #BBxML event sponsors was LaceyCakesNYC. OMG!!! I had never had her cupcakes before and that night I believe I consumed 10. Not only does she create branded cupcakes that are perfect for events, parties and more....her cupcakes are DELICIOUS. (I hope she makes red velvet cupcakes. Those are my favorite.) Also, I must give a special thank you to the event photographer of the night, Jennifer of Jennifer Matos Photography.

#BBxML Stassi Clutch

Last, but not least, the #BBxML Stassi clutch. There are a few things I need from a clutch: style, portability, slight storage. The Stassi clutch obviously has style for days. Its sparkly. It's black. It plays with a bondage design. YES! By portability, I mean the ease with which I can carry it in my hand when out on the town. And yes, the clutch does not disappoint. There has to be a balance though between having a suitably sized clutch and actually being able to use it. I've had clutch purses that could only fit my id and credit card inside. That's of no use. I need to at least add my cell phone and house keys. At least! I personally feel as if the Stassi clutch is a great size. Its a little bigger than your average clutch and can hold an iPad mini! Or if you're a geek like me, it can hold a journal or small book....while still being small and stylish to take the the clubs, date night or some special event. (Also, the photograph above was taken by Matt Licari. )

The #BBxML Team Speaking of Matt, the #BBxML editorial team consisted of:

Definitely stay tuned to read more behind the scenes of the photo shoot! And Mary & Jackie, THANK YOU so much for inviting me to your special event. I have such a wonderful, fashionable, sexy time! Sheena LaShay is a Wild Magical Woman, Boudoir Photographer, Videographer, and most importantly a Pole Dancer. She writes for SheenaLaShay.com, Owning Pink, Verizon Wireless and is the Co-President & Editor-in-Chief of the #PDBloggers.]]>
https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/on-wanting-more-and-the-4-ways-i-found-it2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00On Wanting More and the 4 Ways I Found ItJacqueline LeePhoto Credit: Bhumika Bhatia

"I want more."

That is what I told him. Him being my ex. When I told him, "I want more," he wasn't an ex. He was my boyfriend of five years. He was handsome, successful, affluent and his entire body was made of muscles. His skin was perfect. I loved his curly hair and the sound of his voice reminded me of jazz. He did all of the cooking and he did all of the cleaning. Also, sex was good. Very good. In fact, I often had to tap out after a handful of orgasms. He seemed to have an abundant well of energy and could keep going as long as I wanted him to. After weekend excursions with him, I would return home sore and tired. The "good kind" of sore. :-) And yet, during a heart to heart about pleasure, desire and passion, I said, "I want more." "What more do you want?" he asked. Thank goodness he didn't get defensive. However, I could tell he was frustrated. Frustrated because I found it hard to articulate what "MORE" meant. "Do you want to try something different? Do you want to try different positions? Is there a fantasy you want us to explore? Tell me and I'll do it," he said. So we did. I told him I had fantasized about being tied up. I wanted to be blindfolded. I wanted....well, I wanted some things that might make you blush. Basically put, a part of me did want to explore fetish and perhaps kinky things. So we did it. And still I would keep insisting, "I want more." It took a break up, pole dancing classes, a fetish lover and an intellectual lecture on the fourth wave of feminism before I understood what this inarticulate urging of "more" inside me meant.

The Break Up

Despite my Ex having a "boyfriend resume" that highlighted the "best of the best" when it came to men on the surface level, I realized that our wild physical sex was only part of the equation. I was emotionally reserved with him because I felt like he was emotionally unavailable with me. Therefore in essence, I did not feel free. Honestly put, emotionally our relationship was a disaster and I'm sure that hampered the peak of pleasure I could possibly experience. We also didn't have much of a friendship. Mentally, I was still dealing with my own sexual syndromes. The "Act Like a Lady" Syndrome and the "Its Probably Better to Measure and Reserve My Wants" Syndrome which really is the "Act Like a Lady" Syndrome. Basically put, I had my own issues emotionally and mentally and they affected the pleasure I could truly attain. And also, "we" had issues of how we related to each other and that limited pleasure too. We could have had sex for a week straight, trying every position in the book and yet my orgasms would have been incomplete because I myself was not whole and the totality of our relationship was lacking. Ultimately I wanted pleasure that touched my core and not just my g-spot. I wasn't going to get it with him. We were too committed to our emotional depravity to work towards wholeness.

Pole Dancing

I literally started taking pole dance and sensual movement classes at the same time that I broke up with my Ex. From day one, the dance studio I attended encouraged us to explore, experiment and dwell in our sensual pleasure. Up until that point, no one in my life had given me that kind of talk. I was given behavioral advice and rules on being a sensual and sexual woman. I was given warnings on who to interact with emotionally. I was told that spiritually, I should be pure. It wasn't until I started taking pole dance classes at S Factor New York that I experienced encouragement to explore pleasure, sensuality and desire. I was told to feel. I was told to do what pleased me to do. I was told to physically take up space. In our yoga/pilates style warm up, our instructors gave us sensual cues for our movement. When doing a spine circle or when laying down flat on our backs, they told us to use our fingers to trace our bodies. "Have a conversation with your skin," one instructor insisted. My classes showed me that I needed my own individual sacred space, outside of any relationships to explore pleasure and sensuality. A lover cannot be the totality of my sexual, sensual and pleasure filled life. My classes showed me that I took pleasure in movement, in a slow build up, in fliratious eye contact and in pushing my body to its limits. This related to dance but I realized I wanted those same things as it related to sex. Simply put, I learned howI wanted to experience sex with a lover through my sensual explorations in pole dance class. This means inspiration for desire can be found in the unlikely of places. Perhaps the most amazing meal at a restaurant can expose to you, clues on how you really want to explore sensuality with a partner. For those who are stuck in the "I want more" but don't know how to go about getting the "more," maybe you've got to find inspiration. You've got to experiment outside your comfort zone. You've got to look at every day experiences in a different way to show you clues as to what turns you on and what helps you connect to the people in your life.

Fetish Lover

I found him via online dating and had no a clue what I was in store for. After all the pleasantries, as a lover, he showed me a side of sexuality and sensuality that I did not even know existed. Yes, of course from the inference, he was into a fetish lifestyle. The "fetish" you're probably imagining is right. Bondage. Whips. Clamps. Oh my! But that's not what stood out to me. Yes, the physical exploration was exciting and different and stretched what I thought my boundaries were, but more-so than that my experiences with him pushed me towards sexual spirituality. In order to try kinky things with him I had to learn to have absolute trust in myself and in him. I did not simply give him my heart. I shared the entirety of myself with him. I had to be open, curious and willing. Never in my life had I taken a risk like that before. And what I found when tied up and bound or when fully encased was a place of peace. It sounds crazy. I know! However its true. Through sensual play, breath play and dominance & submission, I found a stillness inside myself. A stillness that engaged every part of me. I felt as if I were everything and nothing at once. I felt and experienced a spiritually sexual "more." I was Sheena. I was Goddess. I was Siren. I was Nothing. I was Everything. I was Energy. I was Spirit.

Intellectual Lecture

Somewhere around the time of my fetish excursions and pole dancing adventures, I attended a lecture series that explored women's rights, women's history and the fourth wave of feminism. The lecture was soul stirring but more-so than that, one book reference mentioned by the speaker led me on a search for even more literature that would give me the vocabulary to express what the urging growing inside of me was. I want to leave you with a few book recommendations that may aid in the next stage of your sexual and sensual evolution. The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passions by Gina Ogden"Instead of viewing desire as a commodity, something that we're in danger of losing or missing out on, I'd like us to agree up front that sexual desire is energy - a sustainable resource that's available to all of us if we want it, even those of us who may not have it right now. The key to finding desire sometimes request a deep and fearless search for yourself."Full Exposure: Opening Up to Sexual Creativity and Erotic Expression :by Susie Bright" [Sex] is first and always about the capacity to create and feel, and express and connect...I don't think anyone loves without an element of erotic tenderness, anxiety, and sense of wonder...Your erotic comprehensive is about being alive."

"If there's one thing that French women seem to know....it's that love and sex rarely conform to predetermined strategies, how-to ground rules, or dating dogma. As they'll often tell you without much hesitation, finding happy trails in love and sex often involves trekking into Terra Incognita with a compass, but with a resolute openness to experiencing life in all its ravishing complexity."Shameless: How I Ditches the Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure...and somehow got home in time to cook dinner by Pamela Madsen"I got it fully that we have to stand up for what we want on this earth. Others may very well judge it, condemn it, and laugh at you. This world is not necessarily forgiving. We like to think that if we follow our desires and dreams, those around us will support and love us. But it doesn't always work that way. We have to really be committed to our own truths and be prepared for the occasional shit storm." Or perhaps more poignantly, this quote resonates even more. "There was one thing I knew for sure: I was going back for more."

Have you ever wanted "more" even when you had "everything"? Did you go on a search for what that "more" meant? What was your experience like?

Sheena LaShay is a Wild Magical Woman, Boudoir Photographer, Videographer, Writer and most importantly a Pole Dancer. She writes for SheenaLaShay.com,Owning Pink, Verizon Wireless and is the Co-President & Editor-in-Chief of the #PDBloggers.]]>
https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/nonsense-succulent-prompts-for-experiencing-each-day2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00NonSense - Succulent Prompts for Experiencing Each DayJacqueline Lee
Photo Credit: Elena Gatti

I sat in the dark room, eagerly anticipating the show. The music started softly but quickly built into a crescendo of notes filling my ears. It seemed that she appeared out of nowhere: gyrating, writhing, sliding on the floor, and twirling around a pole. I could smell her perfume. It had vanilla undertones. She also had a red silk scarf, which she used to seductively cover body parts or flick around the room. She stopped in front of me and let the scarf settle around my neck. The silk was slightly cold and so soft against my skin. It was strangely erotic, even though she never physically touched me with her hands. It added a whole new element to the performance and I found myself completely awe-struck. The scarf seemed so simple, yet it completed the show. All of my senses were on overload and I left ready to take my dance to the next level. I recently felt like I'd lost my mojo when it came to dancing, but experiencing this show with my entire body inspired me.

Our senses make our life experiences so much more intense. A visit to the ocean might not be so enjoyable if we could not hear the waves breaking on the sand. A visit to the Grand Canyon would be less intense without sight. A dozen red velvety roses might be slightly less beautiful without smell. Getting into bed with fresh sheets would not be as amazing without touch. Decadent chocolate cheesecake would go unappreciated without taste. Our senses are so sensitive that if we lose one, the others step up to pick up the slack. Our bodies are amazing!

Sight

I am a visual person and could spend hours taking photographs of interesting scenes. Pinterest is the mecca of inspiration. After spending a few minutes there, I am certain I need to throw a bunch of fresh veggies into my crockpot while I decorate ornate cupcakes, dye my hair purple, paint a cool design on my nails, glitter my own shoes, and start a burpee challenge -- all in one day. What happens if you lose your vision? Try dancing with a blindfold. It sounds dangerous but a blindfolded dance is a very intense experience. Your hands instinctively feel your surroundings and your hearing seems instantly sharper. You feel the air move as others dance around you and you will be surprised to dance an entire song without running into anyone else. Should you encounter another body, however, it doesn't ruin the dance but becomes part of it as you mold your bodies around each other. All of your other senses are heightened in order to allow you to continue moving. It is very eye-opening -- no pun intended.

Sound

Our ears can alert us to danger or bring the sweet sound of music into our day. I love music -- especially live music. Attending concerts is one of my absolute favorite life experiences. Not only am I listening to the sounds, but my body can feel the vibrations -- the bass of the speakers and the electricity in the air from the excitement of those there to enjoy the show. Bodies sway together, damp with sweat. We hear the songs, sing along and then we dance together. Touching each other and feeling the music just as much as we hear it. It is like no other feeling in the world. Try dancing to a variety songs in different genres. Does your body prefer to move to a deep bass, the haunting sound of a longing voice or the strings of a guitar?

Smell

My nose is ridiculously sensitive. I can smell when someone is wearing raw silk. The slightest whiff of a certain men's cologne turns me into a raging sex goddess. While dancing, I would have thought our noses wouldn't matter but the sense of smell definitely comes into play. I can smell sweat on our bodies -- a sign of how hard we are working. I can smell the shampoo in my classmates' hair. I can even sometimes tell which fabric softener they use on their clothes. All of these scents help move me in different directions. I want to move closer to pleasant scents and further away from those I find less pleasurable. Certain scents can whisk me away to another time -- as if I was in that exact moment again. Without smell, our next sense -- taste -- is pointless. The next time you're set to dance, spray an article of clothing with your favorite perfume, cologne or essential oil. Does it make a difference when you dance?

Taste

I love food and often actually miss out on the enjoyment of this sense. I am so concerned with powering down certain foods that I don't spend enough time actually tasting them. While I don't find that I incorporate taste into my dance often, I do enjoy many tastes. My man's skin on my tongue. Chocolate mousse. Crisp watermelon. I like to say that food is for fuel not pleasure, however decadent foods were created for a reason -- to satisfy our sense of taste. How many social situations are centered around food? We go out to breakfast, we brunch, we meet for lunch, we sit down to dinner with the family, and no party is complete without snacks. So much of our day surrounds eating food, so we might as well eat foods that not only bring us nutrition but satisfy our sense of taste. While dancing with food might bring on some challenges, try treating your self to a decadent treat after a dance class or performance. Before the class, fuel your body with a super food that will give you energy throughout your dance....but after...pleasure yourself with something yummy and tasty! (You can check out Nina's post for some tips!)

Touch

The sense of touch is probably my favorite. How else could I feel the soft velvet of a horse's nose when I kiss it? How would I enjoy the breeze on my damp skin after a vigorous workout? How would my feet know I was at the beach if I couldn't feel every single grain of sand? We wear luxurious fabrics as clothing. We go to the day spa to have oils rubbed on our bodies. We control the temperature of our environment to keep ourselves as comfortable as possible. The sense of touch is so amazing -- alerting us to heat that might burn our skin, or bringing pleasure as we wrap ourselves in silk sheets. We can physically touch things like dewy grass and a baby's soft skin. We also feel, even if we cannot physically touch, the wind on our face and the sun on our skin. I use the sense of touch in every dance as my feet feel the floor or my hands grip the pole; it guides me from the pole to the floor, and back again as I dance. Jillian suggested it and Sheena as well. The next time you're set to dance, try dancing in different fabrics that you normally do. How does cotton feel as you spin? How does silk or lace feel? Which one does your body prefer?

Inspired by Senses

While each and every sense is not required for a perfect life experience, it would be exponentially intensified by fully utilizing each sense available. I use my senses to inspire greater movement. Like the dancer who incorporated the scarf and appealed to my senses, I aspire to make each and every day a memorable experience. Life is an adventure so anything you can do to enhance the experience should be encouraged.

We love sexy stories! Comment below and tell us how you've used your senses to help you enjoy life just a little bit more.

What is awesome about the Modern Arrow design is you can apply the concept of keeping your design close to the nail base to create infinite amount of designs, all without ending up with chipped polish at the end of the day. I created the Modern Arrow design based on the traditional moon shape of the 40s and 50s only with an updated twist. Start with completely polish free nails. Next using scotch or painters tape place your first piece of tape from the bottom corner crossing to the top opposite corner, place the second piece of tape from the opposite bottom corner crossing over the first piece. You should have created a triangle. Now take your polish of choice and paint two coats. Making sure to let your polish almost completely dry, slowly remove the tape. Finish off with a q-tip dipped in nail polish remover and clean up any messy edges.

Dripping in Gold

Sometimes I can't help myself and I just have to have rich dark plum or red nails, but the pole never fails to ruin my lux mani. This clever and cute trick to fix chipped nails was given to me by make-up artist and fellow poler, Kelly Thorpe, and allows you to have the best of both worlds! First, paint the chipped tips of your nails. You kinda want to glob it on a little more than usual. Second, add 1-2 drops of nail polish in the middle of your nail, keep them uneven for a more natural drip look, that you will then drag up to your painted tips. Finally add a drop or two towards the base of your nail for extra drippy goodness.

Have you given our nail art a try? Share your results and your take on workout proof nails!

Jillian is an avid pole dance student, accessories and costume designer, rhinestone aficionado, and a PDBloggers Executive Commitee Member. She also writes at PoleGeek.blogspot.com.]]>
https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/what-your-workout-wear-says-about-you2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00What Your Workout Wear Says About You!Jacqueline Lee
Zumba Power by Thomas Gierke on 500px

Whether you are rocking neon and spandex or just happy the tank you threw on was clean, what you wear to workout says a lot about you! Lets explore...

Head to Toe Workout Branded Gear

You take Zumba or Crossfit and you sure ass hell lift! You know how I know? It says it on your leggings, your tank, and most likely every gym accessory you own! You found your one true workout love and you don't care who knows it. You may not have been big on fitness before you met your ideal workout, but now that you have you can be found at the gym every chance you get. Your free time is spent following all the biggest fitness stars on instagram and twitter. You've got a one track mind and when you decide to achieve something you won't rest till get it! You are known for your determination, loyalty, and enthusiasm. No one could ever accuse you of being a Debbie Downer! You can often be found spreading your fitness gospel and encouraging your friends and family to join you in your workout lifestyle.

Matchy Matchy

You lay out your workout gear the night before, making sure your on-trend sport bra perfectly matches your figure flattering capris. You take pride in finding complementary accessories, like sneakers or your gym bag. If we were to open your dresser, we'd find your workout wear laid out in rainbow order. You may not be an athlete, but you'll make damn sure you look like one! You have a classic Type-A personality. You always dress for success and know how to make a lasting first impression. You love to plan ahead and have your day scheduled to last minute. When you aren't busy in your high-stress job you can be found relaxing with a glass of white wine making your latest Pinterest board. Even when you are relaxing, you are planning ahead!

Neon, Prints, and Oversized Crop Tops

Your closet is filled with aztec print legging and perfectly slouchy crop tops that allow for your neon sport bra to peek through. Your workout wear often doubles for regular street clothes and you look fab in both settings. You've got an eye for fashion and can mix prints like no one else! You most likely get your sweat on in fusion dance classes, but you'll try anything once as long as the music has got a good beat. You are irreverent, cheerful, and the life of the party. When you aren't busy learning to twerk you can be found pursuing a myriad of creative endeavors. And while you aren't afraid to stand out in a crowd, you prefer to surround yourself with like-minded friends and achieve your goals together.

Latest in Workout Tech Gear

If you are going to workout, you are going to do it right! Every workout wear purchase you make has been heavily research and vetted. You believe in function over form and if your gear isn't working for you then it has no place in your life. You wouldn't be caught dead running without your Fitbit tracking your every step and calorie burned. And while your Iphone is filled with tons of fitness apps you are easily distracted by the newest, shiniest toy on the block. You are tech-savvy and love to multitask! While taking on the elliptical, you'll be listening to your favorite podcast and answering emails. You prefer to take on projects by yourself since few people can live up to your high standards. You are smart, driven, and always ready to take on a challenge!

The "I Just Rolled Out of Bed" Look

Most days you are just thankful to have found a clean outfit before you had to run to gym, so you sure as hell don't have time to care what it looks like. You might double a swimsuit top as a sports bra or rock your faded band camp tee, but you are putting in the effort to be healthy and that should be commended. See you've got kids, or school, or an all consuming work schedule and no time to care what others think. You are caring, supportive, and always willing to help out a friend. That might be why you have often got a million things on your plate, but you wouldn't have it any other way. Working out is your ""me time"", it is one of the only times in the day where it is all about you and your body. So while it might be hard to get your booty to class you love every minute you are there!

I happen to rock the "I just rolled out of bed" look when I am spinning around the pole, what about you? Share what your workout look is and lets us know if we got it right!

Jillian is an avid pole dance student, accessories and costume designer, rhinestone aficionado, and a PDBloggers Executive Commitee Member. She also writes at PoleGeek.blogspot.com.]]>
https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/sexy-superfoods-for-an-amazing-date-night2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00Sexy Superfoods For An Amazing Date NightJacqueline Lee
"When I think about sexy foods, my mind goes straight to the land of indulgence. Chocolate covered strawberries, whipped cream, a slow drizzle of honey ... you know what I'm talking about. It's all about rich, luxurious flavors, but it doesn't have to be unhealthy. Many aphrodisiacs are also super foods, meaning they are nutrient-rich and considered beneficial for your health and well-being. While few aphrodisiacs have scientifically proven effects, I think the mental effect is just as important. Put together this meal for your next date night in with your partner, open up a good bottle of red wine, casually mention that the meal is filled with aphrodisiacs, and let nature take care of the rest.

Honey & Walnut Crusted Salmon with Salad

INGREDIENTS

For Salmon:

1/2 cup raw unsalted walnuts

1 tablespoon honey

1 tablespoon Dijon-style mustard

1/4 teaspoon sea salt

1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper

2 salmon fillets with skin on, 3/4 to 1 inch thick

For Salad:

Leafy greens

Peppers

1 avocado

1 small handful of pine nuts

Finely chop the walnuts, by hand or in food processor, and spread them on a plate. Preheat the oven to 375 degrees. Grease a baking dish that is big enough for the salmon fillets to not touch. Whisk honey, mustard, salt, and pepper in a small bowl, then brush the fillets with the mixture. (Don't be afraid of adding too much!) Press each fillet into the walnuts to coat the top and sides, then place in baking dish with the skin side down. Bake for about 15 minutes, or until the salmon easily flakes apart with a fork. Move the salmon up in the oven and place under broiler for a minute or two to make the walnuts crispy; but keep an eye on it to make sure it doesn't burn. While the salmon is baking, mix up a quick salad of leafy greens, avocado slices, and pine nuts, and top with your choice of salad dressing. (Onions might not be the best idea before a sexy evening, but my husband will not eat salad without it, so keeping him happy was worth the bad breath;)

WHY IT WORKS

Walnuts are natural anti-depressants, contain zinc which regulates the level of testosterone in the blood, and are full of essential fatty acids which helps simulate good heart health, which again translates to blood flow to the organs. Walnuts were even used as a fertility drug in ancient Rome! Salmon is an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids, which promote glandular development and lead to increased response to arousal, and honey increases the level of nitric oxide, the chemical released in the blood during arousal.

Raw Strawberry Chocolates with Maca

INGREDIENTS:

3 large strawberries, hulled

65g raw cacao butter (in solid form)

3-4 tbsp cacao powder

4 tsp maca powder

pinch of sea salt

Set the oven to its lowest setting. Cut the strawberries into thin slices and place on a baking sheet lined with baking paper. Dehydrate in the oven for two hours. When completed, puree the strawberries. Use a grater to shave cacao butter into a stainless steel bowl that will fit over the top of a saucepan. Boil a little water in the saucepan and remove from heat, then place the bowl with cacao butter over the top and let melt, stirring gently a few times. Add in strawberry puree, sift in the cacao and maca powders, and add sea salt, then stir to combine. Pour the chocolate into moulds and allow to set at room temperature for around 2 hours, or in the fridge for 30 minutes. Remove the chocolates from the moulds and store in an air-tight container in the pantry or fridge.

WHY IT WORKS

Maca is said to boost libido for both men and women, and increases immunity, energy, vitality, and fertility, while cacao stimulates the reproductive organ of women. It also supplies phenylethylamine, a chemical compound that releases feel-good hormones in your body! If you try one or both of the recipes let me know how it goes, and if you have other suggestions for aphrodisiac super foods I would to hear them!Nina is a studio manager and pole dance instructor at Vertical Fusion, was a founding #PDBloggers board member, runs the Colorado Pole Championship and works as a photographer for all things aerial and/or sensual. Nina also writes at ninareed.com.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/diet-tips-for-performance-days2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00Diet Tips for Performance DaysJacqueline Lee
I love food. And I don't discriminate; I love my healthy spinach smoothies and indulgent chocolate ice-cream equally. But before I started pole dancing, I never really paid attention to how certain foods made me feel. The day of my first solo performance I was so nervous that I couldn't eat all day, then crashed and wolfed down a McDonalds cheeseburger half an hour before going on stage. Bad idea. Two years and many shows later, I have my performance-day diet down to a tee, and today I want to share some of the tips and tricks I have learned with you.

Drink tons of water

This should be a no-brainer, even on days when you're not performing, but it still needs to be said. Carry a water bottle everywhere you go, and set a reminder on your phone to go off every hour so that you don't forget to drink. If you're dehydrated by as little as 2.5%, your ability to perform high-intensity exercise like pole is reduced by up to 45%. If you are 130lbs, that means that a 3.25lbs drop in body weight from not drinking enough water can make or break that deadlift!

Take your time

While performance days can be stressful, between getting hair and makeup done, making sure that your costume is ready to go, and quietly freaking out about dancing in front of an audience, it is important to slow down when eating. Allow yourself 30 minutes for each meal, and avoid eating on the go. Taking the time to enjoy each meal not only reduces bloating, it also forces you to stop stressing about remembering your choreography!

No carbonated drinks or caffeine

I'm sure there are coffee-lovers who are shaking their head right about now, but hear me out. Carbonated drinks, including diet soda and sparkling water, can cause gas, which means you end up looking and feeling bloated. In addition, soda, coffee, tea, and even most energy drinks, work as diuretics in the body. A diuretic is basically any substance that promotes the production of urine, which means you will have a higher risk of dehydration, so stay away from these on performance days! If you can't make yourself drink plain water, add slices of lemon, strawberries, or cucumber to your water for a bit of flavor.

Avoid sodium and starches

The worst foods I can eat before a performance is anything high in carbs and sodium, which is why that cheeseburger was such a bad idea. Sodium retains body fluids, leading to a bloated stomach, while starches like bread, potatoes, and pasta are hard to digest. Still your body needs carbohydrates as it's the biggest energy source for your muscles, so try to include complex carbs in the form of whole wheat toast, bagel, or cereal with your breakfast.

My go-to performance day meals:

I like starting with the biggest meal of my day, and usually eat a homemade breakfast of scrambled eggs with spinach, chorizo, onions and peppers. It's a simple recipe where I throw frozen spinach in a pan with some coconut oil and fry over medium high heat, add chorizo, onions, and peppers, and when everything is almost done, crack two eggs in the pan and stir it all together. If you don't mind the extra fat, throw some shredded cheddar on top! Eat it with a slice of whole wheat toast, and the combination of carbs and protein will keep your energy levels high without giving you a spike in blood sugar. For lunch I love a giant smoothie, where I throw in a handful of spinach, a whole banana, pineapple, cucumber, frozen raspberries, a cup of water, and shred some ginger on top. If you want something even more filling, make the smoothie with milk or greek yoghurt instead of the water, or add a scoop of protein powder. Throughout the day I like snacking on fruits, especially melon and bananas, unsalted nuts, or my go-to snack of single packets of almond butter. Make sure you keep that water bottle close by as well! I only eat a dinner before performing if I am going on stage after 10pm, so most of the time I will just skip it. If you do need dinner, eat something light and filling like baked salmon with a salad; again avoiding prepackaged meals or fast food. The best part of my performance day diet is my post-performance indulgence. The venue I usually perform at serves a 4-cheese pasta dish with bacon and chicken that completely blows my mind. The high carb to protein ratio (you're going for 4:1!) is optimal for recovery, especially when eaten within 40 minutes of getting off stage. And after seeing months of training and choreographing culminate in your performance, you deserve a big meal!

What do you eat on performance days? And more importantly, what's your favorite post-show indulgence?

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/8-little-ways-to-show-your-body-love-12020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:39-10:00Granny Panties and Lace BrasDavid MorrealeI wouldn't say the women had on granny panties, but during my first few months of pole and sensual movement class, I saw a lot of plain jane nude colored underwear sets in the locker room. This only lasted for a moment though because there was a buzz in the room. The women had rushed to the dance studio after work to ensure that they made the six o'clock class in time. Shirts and shoes flew as the women changed for class. What should be noted is that it happened in an unsuspecting way.

Photo Credit: Sheena LaShay

Transforming in the Locker Room

I noticed the women taking off their suits, uniforms and sensible pearl studs. Next they took off their skin tone seamless panties and discreet bras. THEN magic happened. The women swapped the discreet and tame bras for expensive lace lingerie. They pulled out exquisite panties made of silks and other fabrics and joyfully adorned their bodies. They took off the black pumps and replaced them with gorgeous heels. Heels that were seven inches. Stilettos with labels on them that I had never seen up close and personal!

They put on accessories and jewelry. They took down their prudent buns and let their hair cascade down their face. They transformed from your "everyday working woman" to sensual models and vivacious bombshells in the most gorgeous lingerie I had ever seen. Some had deep blues and purples and reds. Others were mysterious and smoky in their blacks. Some had pastels. They were all vibrant, bright and full of life.

I was baffled at first. I had never seen women change out of their sensible underwear into jaw dropping lingerie for a dance and movement class. As a beginner, I wore yoga shorts and a plain t-shirt. That behavior of mine didn't last for long. I changed my dance wardrobe. I had figured out the why!

The Body Language of Fashion

The "why" is that fashion influences movement. Our dance classes at this particular studio centered on sensuality, emotionality and presence. Instructors encouraged us to freestyle dance based off how we felt. Were we sassy? Angry? Joyful? Flirtatious? Whatever our mood, we were encouraged to find not only music and movement that expressed those emotions but also to find costumes and lingerie that expressed those feelings. For women still exploring what emotions their sensual sides embodied, we were occasionally given assignments. Just as a writer is given a prompt to freestyle write too, we as dance students were given body prompts with enticing themes to move to. We were encouraged to also find clothing that explored that theme as well.

Whether a dancer had a dark or light personality, hopeful, joyful or dominating personality... I could see that each women loved to feel and look sexy in their clothing choice. "Sexy" meant different things for each woman. For a lot of women it meant their most luxurious, glamorous and most beautiful lingerie. Their bodies moved differently in class while wearing the lingerie than it had when they initially walked into the studio fully clothed in their street attire or work attire. The difference was even more pronounced over time as I got to know the ladies personally. Sometimes we would go out for dinner after class. So I saw the reverse happen. I saw them take off the magnificent lingerie and re-dress into their everyday clothes. While the women were still confident and beautiful, their body language changed.

A Sexy Exercise

My assignment to you. Pick a song you love. Perhaps a short one for this experiment. Dance to the song in yoga shorts and a t-shirt. Next, try dancing to the song in lace panties and your favorite, glamorous bra. Maybe try a thong and some heels. Even if you don't have a pole, you can still freestyle dance. Do hip circles, if need be. Does a hip circle feel differently in yoga shorts than in lace boy shorts? Is it different in silk panties? What if you add a garter belt? Does color affect you? Maybe try black lace and then white lace? Maybe try a corset? Or that extra fancy lingerie set you've been saving for something important? Well, you are important and moving your body is important and adorning yourself in luxurious and sensual fabrics is important. So pull that nightie or baby-doll negligee out and dance. Notice how your body feels.

It's rare these days that I'll wear yoga shorts to a freestyle sensual movement class. Perhaps maybe a practice season or training class. But<strong> if the point is to tap into my sensuality, my emotionality and my personal expression as I dance my heart out, I need to ensure the fabrics that touch me provoke me and inspire me and delight me.</strong>

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/intern-life-photoshoot-day2020-02-27T08:12:39-10:002020-02-27T08:12:40-10:00Intern Life: Photoshoot DayJacqueline Lee
All I have to say is "wow" This was my first professional editorial shoot, and I got so much out of it, as with just about every aspect of this internship thus far. Thanks to reality TV, you have a pretty good idea what goes on during a shoot, but seeing one unfold live is another story. The energy and positive vibe during the day only enhanced the awesomeness that was seeing Bodybinds showcased at its best. The adventure first started on a short trip on the 7 (RIP 5Pointz) to Studios LIC. Thank goodness the studio was only a few blocks away from the train because that Wednesday was THE coldest day, at least up until that point. Amusingly enough, I arrived just as Jackie was parking her car. Then at the door I met my photographer counterpart, Matt's assistant/friend Mitch. Later on, I would meet the other assistant, Jay. One by one, the rest of the players showed up--Britt (hair & makeup super artist), Flore (the unicorn/model), Jess (stylist extraordinaire/our raison d'etre), and Matt (awesome photographer, heavy on the awe). Although this was my first shoot, I had a good idea what was supposed to take place. Since I was only really responsible for hanging the Bodybinds and arranging our version of craft services, I decided to take in the whole scene.

I've seen models all the time around here, especially in the garment district (if you see a ridiculously tall and lithe girl in NYC, she's probably a model), but I'd never been right next to one. Mythical creature she is, and rather easy on the eyes regardless of her makeup status. No jealousy here, just simple appreciation that all of us come in a a variety of packages we can all appreciate. Watching Britt transform Flore into our avant-garde vamp was fascinating, since it wasn't bridal or everyday makeup that she was applying. As cliched as this sounds, it really was like watching an artist paint on a canvas.

Then there was the photographer's side. The last time I'd seen any type of photography done on an artistic level, that photographer was using contact sheets. It was impressive that Matt hauled around a 20"" iMac in its original box whenever he worked. (Later on, I'd be even more impressed that he fit all his equipment into the car he had.) Throughout the day, I probably harassed him the most, as his world was the least I knew about. Luckily he's generous with his knowledge and passionate about his work!

Of course, my favorite part of prep was Jess' arrival with her stunning apparel. One of the many cool things about Jess is that she strives to use up and coming designers when she styles shoots, which is how Bodybinds' relationship with her came about, through an editorial shoot for Oribe haircare. This time she brought a collection of faux and real fur coats, one of which was from Brooklyn designer Nathalie Kraynina, and swimwear from Mirame. Once Jess put Flore into her first outfit with the Bodybinds, you could already tell we had something very special in front of us, even without one picture being snapped.

As you can imagine, the day went by like this: set up, shoot, check, change, repeat. Since I'd never seen tethering in relation to photography before (seen it on movie sets), I was amused to watch the picture transfer from the camera to the computer in a matter of seconds. I can't remember which image it was, but during the time the model was laying on the ground, Matt took a shot that made all of us say "wow" in unison. I hope Jackie chose it!

What made the experience worthwhile was observing it, and the great thing was this group of merry men and women worked extremely well together, so time flew by so fast. I felt like I was among great friends goofing off on a random Saturday afternoon, rather than being at work with colleagues in the middle of the week all day long. At one point, the shoot moved outside to the rooftop access Studios LIC had. Boy, did I feel sorry for Flore, but she shrugged it off, probably partially due to being able to wear a nice fluffy fur coat. At the end of the day, I was really surprised at how tired we all were, considering we had a lot of fun working together, and I think the images reflect that.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/damn-im-sexy-body-love-affirmation2020-02-27T08:12:38-10:002020-02-27T08:12:38-10:00Damn, I'm Sexy! | Body Love AffirmationDavid Morreale
Modesty is overrated. Women spend far too much time apologizing for their bodies, explaining away genuine compliments, and not celebrating their gorgeous, sexy selves. I am a firm believer in being cocky. Of looking at your juicy booty, sensual smile or Bodicelli curves and luxuriating in their lush feminity. This doesn't mean ignoring what you want to change in yourself, but to own what makes you awesome and not explain it away as anything less than it is. So next time you are standing in front of the mirror, look yourself straight in the eyes and say, "Damn, I'm sexy!"

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/why-pole-makes-you-sexy-even-when-you-re-not-trying-to-be2020-02-27T08:12:38-10:002020-02-27T08:12:38-10:00Why Pole Makes you Sexy (Even when you’re not Trying to Be)Jacqueline Lee
Photo Credit: NFG Photo. Creative Commons Photo License Within the pole community, we often try to force the dichotomy of sexy vs. non-sexy. There are so many different styles of dance on the pole just like there are off the pole, but the idea that one person’s preference means that they are vehemently against any other form of expression is not grounded in reality. Nonetheless, when you go into a routine you usually have an idea, at least subconsciously, if you are going for the sex bomb look or for something more cirquey-sporty. The truth of the matter, however, is that no matter how athletic and non-slinky your movements, you look sexy anyway! The pole is glamourizing and flattering, even for those stepping away from the "stripper look." Why is such an innocuous apparatus so titillating? Contrary to what might be your first guess, I don’t think it’s because of its adult connotations and phallic symbolism. Rather, there are several physical aspects of pole fitness that simply bring out the bombshell in us, whether we like it or not.

Gravity working in your favor

When you are standing on the ground, gravity is your enemy. Everything sags. But when you are upside-down, or even leaning back against the pole, the tide is turned. Your belly fat melts away from the surface, your boobs perk up to your chin, your leftover leg meat rushes to your bum. There’s no faster way to turn back the clock. Talk about turning that frown upside-down!

Elongation

While earth-based art forms have you compacted, again at the mercy of gravity, pole and the aerial arts constantly have you hanging, reaching, stretching. Even the act of resting your arms above your head as you lean against the pole elongates your torso, exposing muscle and sinew and distributing excess padding across a wider area, minimizing it. Ballet dancers have to work hard at elongation—you just have to reach up and grab the pole!

Asymmetry

Unlike most aerial arts, such as silks and trapeze, pole is inherently asymmetrical. That’s not because the apparatus itself is lopsided, but because it generally has to be on one side or the other of your body. One hand is above or below the other. This emphasizes those famous “S curves” on which Sheila Kelley, the mother of modern pole dance, based her fitness empire. When you lean or tilt or turn one way… that means this corner of your body is a little bit higher… and that one is a little bit lower… and this one is a little back, and that one a little forth… all adding up to a curve-inducing torque that brings out the woman in you.

Flexed Muscles

Pole is known for being a full-body workout. That makes us look good in general—tone up those muscles!—but it also makes us look good while we're doing it. Think of how many muscles you're flexing while doing a shoulder inversion. Triceps, biceps, lats, abs! Now think of how much better your muscles look flexed. You don't have to be Mr. Olympia flexing for the judges in order to show off your athletic goods. You just have to be poling.

Skin

Fitness pole dancers are always having to defend their paucity of clothing to the uninitiated masses. But the perfectly logical explanation, that we need the friction of bare skin to grip the pole, doesn’t negate the fact that you are traipsing around in a bikini, and it’s kind of hot. We polers can get desensitized to each others’ flesh and general sexiness, but if you’ve ever walked out of a pole class in a gym and felt the stares of the gym enthusiast on your abs, it’s a reminder that, oh yeah, normal people keep those covered up.

We’re kind of staring right at your crotch

Pole dance is full of straddles and splits, and those little booty shorts or bikini bottoms you’ve got on don’t leave a whole lot to the imagination. Nothing wrong with that. Don’t feel self-conscious or anything. I’m just saying… “Hello, boys!”

Whatever stylistic debates we polers are fond of having, you don’t need to be in stilettos and garters in order to be sexy on the pole. You just are. Enjoy it.

Pippi Parnasse is a poler, #PDBloggers member and writer in the Boston area. She has over 10 years of experience both in pole and in writing professionally.]]>
https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/finding-freedom-through-restriction-in-dance2020-02-27T08:12:38-10:002020-02-27T08:12:38-10:00Finding Freedom Through Restriction In DanceJacqueline Lee
Tied Down

Surrendering to limits, especially those imposed on us by others can be challenging. Years ago, during a house move, my husband and I encountered one challenge after another. From foot long gashes on a refinished floor to ants, dry rot, a mouse, loud street noise and a huge gap in the flashing of our roof, my normal calming influence had spiraled into buyer’s remorse. It seemed each problem we encountered led to the discovery of two more. My patience reached such a boiling point that I exclaimed to my husband, “I hate this house of 7…11, no 12 plagues!” One of my coping mechanisms during this transition time was dance. Pole dance, to be exact. I knew I needed to dance out my frustrations. But even in pole class during the most hectic times of my house move, I couldn’t catch a break. Instead of our normal freestyle dance, our latest assignment involved us being tied to the pole. With one ankle tied to the pole, I began dancing. Initially I felt like a wild animal, captured and tied to a post. At first I fought against the limits by testing boundaries. I pulled the rope. I tried to reach other things. Eventually, I accepted it. As I let the tension in the rope ease, so did my muscles. The pole was all there was. I stopped worrying. I just moved and the rope moved with me. As mentioned earlier, surrendering to limits, especially those imposed on us by others can be challenging. However, experimenting with limits in pole dance can teach us lessons and build skills for the chaos of life. When I got home from dance class, I told my husband I decided to stop fighting the house. I surrendered to the idea that we’d be in the house for at least a year or two. If you find yourself frustrated, stressed or facing challenges in life, take an hour here or there to try something different. Give one or more of these pole dance activities a try. You can adapt most of these activities to most types of dance, movement or other creative exercises.

1. Tether Yourself to a Pole

Use a nylon rope. Tie it around an ankle or a wrist. Then tie it around a pole, giving yourself as much room to play as you need. Three to four feet is comfy for a first time. Dance. Explore boundaries. Test limits. Struggle against them. Feel the frustration, if it’s there. Then surrender to the restriction. Can you find fun in it? What do the limits have to teach you? Can you escape them? Do you want to? If you’ve been tethered to a pole before, try it again in a different way.

Tie one end of rope to the pole & the other around your waist.

Have a friend tie one end of 3 to 4 feet of rope to left wrist and the other end to right wrist so that the pole is between the rope and your body.

Stand against the pole with your back to it and have someone wind rope around you like a cocoon.

Use something stretchy or silky.

Try fabric or metal cuffs.

Make a loop with a yoga strap and step into it. I did this recently and it felt supportive instead of restrictive. A friend tried it and said it felt like dancing with a partner.

Be safe. Have a friend nearby ready to cut the rope in case you get tangled up or the knots get stuck. If you don’t pole dance (yet) tie yourself to any pole or column in your house. Be sure it’s secure and won’t topple down as you tug against it.

2. I Want You But I Can’t Have You

Play a song you’re dying to dance to. Dance to it, but don’t let yourself touch the pole.Try something full of yearning like Matthew Mayfield’s Heart in Wire or The Zone by The Weeknd. Stare at that pole. Stalk it from across the room. Strut by it. Get so close you can smell the metal and almost feel the chill. But don’t touch it. Dance around it. Then retreat. Turn your attention to a nearby wall, chair or the floor. Close your eyes. Don’t forget that the pole is there waiting for you to grip it, spin around it, climb it, flip upside down, or fly like superman. Escape to a far corner. Slither to the floor. Crawl back…dance to the whole song. Just don’t touch that pole. How long can you go without surrendering to the desire to touch the pole? Is it exquisite torture? Or just torture? How else can you use the energy you stirred up in your body? You can do this exercise with anything (or anyone) you adore. Try your favorite outfit or piece of jewelry. Your signature perfume. Strawberries or bittersweet chocolate. Your lover. It conjures ecstasy.

3. Go Back to Basics

Choose the first move or trick you learned and loved. Get your dance on from that single move/trick. One of my favorites is the hip circle. It’s part of any sensual dance you can think of including hula, Tahitian, Latin, belly and pole dance. Explore every nuance of your favorite move/trick/transition. Vary speed. Try it slow. Slower. As slow as you can go. Then rev it up. Can you create a breeze? Settle into a pace you like or continue to vary it. Change the size. Go big. Feel the lusciousness in the stretch and reach. Take up space. Then make it small. And isolated. So imperceptible that only you know you’re doing it. Like a secret. Then let the movement ripple through your entire body. One inch at a time. Or like a wave crashing onto shore all at once. What do you love? What can you incorporate into more advanced moves?

4. Non-dominant Hand

Let your non-dominant hand lead the way. This is something we’re taught for balance as beginners but most of us have a side we favor. Unless forced into it by training or injury we typically don’t let our non-dominant hands lead the dance. Try it for a song. Or an entire class/workout. Wear a glove, mitten or sock on your dominant hand to remind you. Make a fist. Or hold something like a quarter in your dominant hand so you won’t be tempted to grab the pole with it. This is an especially good exercise to try outside the pole studio too. Write your name with your non-dominant hand. Try your hand at poetry. A letter. Draw. Paint. Since most of us are right handed, using our left hand can also help wake-up the right side of our brain.

5. Floor Dance

Dance at the pole. However, you cannot go higher than if you were on your knees upright. Experiment with starting tricks from your knees, belly, butt or back. Allow your feet and shins to approach the pole instead of your hands and arms. What favorite moves can you do from this low position? Try something that you’ve struggled with while standing. Slithering into an invert from the floor is how I built muscle memory and body trust to get my first inversion.

6. Share the Pole With a Partner

Share the pole with a partner. Play a game of high/low, where one person climbs high on the pole and the other stays close to the floor. Switch places. Coordinate tricks using body queues. Start with 3 steps into simple forward spins like fireman and chair. Stalk each other in freestyle one as predator, the other as prey without letting go of the pole. Which exercise do you prefer? Which makes you feel strong? Vulnerable? For what reasons?

7. Dance in Silence

At one point in my dance journey none of my music worked for me. When I asked a teacher what to do about it she suggested I dance without music. I looked at her like she was crazy. Moving to music was the essence of dance. It’s very definition. And then I danced in silence with Nature: Moon, clouds, breeze, seagulls, seal, handfuls of sand, rose petals and the rising sun. I adored it! Try dancing with nature. Or the pole with only your own internal rhythm. How do you dance and move without the influence of music?

Which of the exercises have you tried before? Which are you most looking forward to trying. Which is your favorite? If you’ve done these exercises before, how did your body respond to the restrictions?

How easy or challenging was it for you to surrender? What kind of freedom did you find within the limitations? What did it teach you about yourself?

My own experiences with dancing with limitations continue to teach me lessons about

accepting what is

surrendering to the experience and conditions without giving up

Finding ease and play rather than struggling and fighting.

And after declaring a truce with the house, we eventually became friends. Brian and I have been happy in the house for 5 years.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/body-rituals-to-help-you-love-your-body-more2020-02-27T08:12:38-10:002020-02-27T08:12:38-10:00Body Rituals to Help You Love Your Body MoreJacqueline LeeBeauty, sexiness and body love is all about your energy, how YOU feel about yourself and what you exude.
To love your body you have to be kind to yourself and it. No one is perfect, so stop being so hard on yourself!

Identify and accept the things you cannot change

Identify and change the things that can be changed

Identify at least one physical feature you like about yourself and celebrate it.

You can start creating energy that promotes loving your body by creating fun and/or relaxing rituals unique to you. It may feel “forced” at first but after a while, it will not only start to feel good, you will begin to look forward to it and honor it.

Talk to Your Body

Create 3-5 positive affirmations that celebrate your body overall, characteristics of it you like or that encourage you to make positive changes to it. This may be hard at first because many times, we’re hard wired to be “our own worst critics.” We can easily share what we don’t like about ourselves but trip on our words and thoughts when it’s time to share what we like. This is self defeating and counterproductive because it will never result in you being happy with yourself. This ritual re-wires you to eagerly seek out the good FIRST instead of the bad and either accept the bad or change the bad, if possible. You can do this naked or in your underwear in front of a full length mirror in the morning after waking up or in the evening before bed. Try not to wear clothing because the point of this is to have an honest look at yourself and a positive talk with your body sans distractions or hiding from yourself. Some examples of some affirmations are: “I like my blue eyes. They sparkle in the sun and look great when I wear purple”, “I like my bum, it’s cute and plump”, or “I like my shoulders, I look great in strapless dresses thanks to them.” Whatever resonates with you, write it down and say it out loud at least once a day rockin your birthday suit or undies. Remember, no negativity. Be nice to yourself.

Celebrate Your Body with Abandon in Song and Dance

Dance in your underwear or birthday suit around your home. If that's not private enough, try dancing in your bathroom. or in Your Bathroom. Lip sing or let your ""terrible singing"" out with a hair brush as your microphone. There’s something so freeing about dancing naked or half naked, carefree for a few moments or minutes in the privacy of our own home, wailing Whitney Houston “I’m Your Baby Tonight”, bad singing and all. It lightens the soul. We take ourselves way too seriously at times; it’s imperative that we let loose from time to time and let our bodies go; have fun in our skin and in the moment. If you have children or a roommate and dancing around naked or half naked isn’t an option, you can keep it contained to your bedroom or bathroom and play some jams as you shower or hang out in your room. Even one 3 minute song you love makes a difference. I shower almost every morning to Marvin Gaye playing. His music talks about love and sexy lovin too, so I start my day clean and feeling loving and sexy. Whatever songs you pick, just make sure they make you feel good, happy, empowered or sexy. Again, no clothes on, you’ve got to strip away the distractions and anything that allows you to hide from your body. The idea of these rituals is to have pride and celebrate.

Pamper Your Body

You can choose to spend money to do this or spend little to none; money should never get into the way of you pampering your body. Make it a self pampering ritual to visit a spa every few months to recharge. Get a facial, body scrub, mani and pedi and/or a good massage. If your budget doesn’t allow for that currently, make it an annual or bi-annual ritual and budget a small amount each month towards your spa visiti. You can also create your own spa/pampering day at home on a designated frequency, day or time of year. Treat it as if it’s a real appointment and don’t schedule other things during this time just because it’s at home. It is important that you honor this ritual for yourself. This home pampering session can be your special alone time or you can invite your friends in on the self love for a DIY spa gathering. Pinterest is littered with great skin care and body care recipes for body scrubs, hands & foot soaks and face masks that are easy and don't call for sophisticated, expensive or numerous ingredients. Invest in the materials and supplies and do your own mani/pedi. Try to live in the moment of this; be present and focus on the tasks at hand. Concentrate on your spa moment and let any thoughts go of what happened yesterday or what you’re making for dinner later GO. Take this time for you and recharging your body. Those thoughts will be there when you finish but for this time, let yourself enjoy being kind to your body.

Wear Sexy Lingerie to Bed No Matter What

I think it’s healthy for every woman to have a set of at least two sexy lingerie pieces she can wear for herself. The frequency of when you wear your sexy lingerie wear is specific to your own timing. It is also important to note that everyone’s definition of sexy lingerie is different. For some a clean pair of underwear is winning- I kid, I kid! If you don’t like thongs, wear lace hipsters or bikini cut panties instead. If you’ve never tried a thong, do have an open mind and try a pair out. You may like them. Have fun with bra types like lace, see-through ones or a mega push up. The key here is that you have to like what you’re wearing and feel beautiful and/or sexy in it. Don't buy what everyone else is buying, buy what you like and will make you and your body feel great. It can be in a one piece or two piece. There are no rules when it comes to what makes you feel your best because if you like what you have on, you'll exude fabulous. Purchase these items in colors that excite YOU because this is about loving YOUR body. You also do not have to be a size 4 to rock lingerie; there are options for every size. Find your size, what you like and start prancing rather you live alone and are single or have someone waiting at home for you.

Love Yourself

Just be nice to your body. If you are good to it, it will be good to you. Your body is eager for your love and when you shower love on it, watch it show off for you and glow. It really will and you will feel the difference. Love is powerful like that. Don’t believe me? Try it! What have you got to lose! Love yourself.

Milan is a bohemian, new age, Scorpion lady with sophistication and funk. She has a passion for life and adventure and is a glutton for books and all things creative. You can find her at any of your local cultural events, in the park practicing yoga, in the kitchen jamming to A Tribe Called Quest songs while cooking dinner or her blog www.AGrlCanMAC.comtalking about life and beauty.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/meet-your-bodybinds-bloggers-jillian-of-polegeek2020-02-27T08:12:38-10:002020-02-27T08:12:38-10:00Meet Your Bodybinds Bloggers : Jillian of PoleGeekJacqueline LeeEditors Note: Jillian is an absolute breath of fresh air. I have the honor of working with Jillian on the board of the Pole Dancing Bloggers Association and over the past few months, I have come to respect her more and more and more. Along with providing great value to our PDBloggers team, Jillian is an incredibly gifted writer, dancer and creator. When she writes, she inspires and finds the fun in everything. She's refreshing, sweet and gorgeous. On top of that, I know she has an incredibly subversive dark side and that makes it all the more better. You have seen her post on Bodybinds before, but lets officially welcome her to the blogger team.

Bodybinds: Describe your fashion?Jillian: Cat lady with a dirty mind.Bodybinds: Describe your writing style?Jillian: I write exactly as I think. Lots of excitement, passion, sincerity ... and sometimes confusion.Bodybinds: What's the most subversive thing you've ever done?Jillian: The most subversive thing that I can share is that I have far too many that I can't. ​Bodybinds: What's your favorite part about being a woman?

Jillian: Too many to count! I love it all ... except for cramps, they suck.

Bodybinds: Who is your favorite style icon?

Jillian: Isabella Blow, Dita Von Teese, and Wednesday Addams.

Bodybinds: How do you like to indulge yourself and/or experience pleasure?

Jillian: I love to surround myself in soft, sumptuous fabrics.

Jillian is a costume and accessories designer, entrepreneur, and Jill-of-all-trades. When she isn't knee deep in faux fur and rhinestones, either creating cosplay accessories for Gimme Paws or custom dance costumes, she can be found pole dancing. Jillian writes for her blog, Pole Geek, where she geeks out over pole dance, design, and her healthy living journey.

Jillian aspires to live fully and authentically herself, learning and traveling as much as possible. Her current goals include writing the trashiest romance novel ever, learning to be a badass boss, and seeing the aurora borealis in Iceland. Jillian resides in sunny Los Angeles with her ginger boyfriend and two kitties, Gomez and Pugsley.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/meet-your-bodybinds-bloggers-pippi-of-acrobaticpole2020-02-27T08:12:38-10:002020-02-27T08:12:38-10:00Meet Your Bodybinds Bloggers : Pippi of AcrobaticPoleJacqueline LeeEditors Note: I met Pippi online via our Pole Bloggers group and found her to be incredibly helpful. She wrote a lot of review post and helpful tip post and she's a valuable resource. It wasn't until we started discussing blogging for Bodybinds that I realized she's a spitfire and a voice to be reckoned with. Pippi is outspoken, assured and assertive. It was highly refreshing and definitely challenged me to stay on top of my game. I appreciate that and am so excited to welcome Pippi to the Bodybinds blogger team.

Bodybinds: Describe your fashion?Pippi: Chameleonic. I wear so many different hats in life, housing a wardrobe to go with each is an exercise in closet optimization.Bodybinds: Describe your writing style?Pippi: Thought-outBodybinds: What's the most subversive thing you've ever done?Pippi: One time I sprained my wrist on a guy's face. ​Bodybinds: What's your favorite part about being a woman?

Pippi: Being a hot female bass player. And I like that my instrument is bigger than the guitarists'.

Bodybinds: Who is your favorite style icon?

Pippi: I take inspiration from the professional women around me. I observe and notice women I interact with in everyday life whose style impresses me.

Bodybinds: How do you like to indulge yourself and/or experience pleasure?

Pippi: Delayed gratification.

Pippi Parnasse is a pole instructor and aerialist living in ""Witch City"" Salem, Massachusetts. She has been poling for 10 years and doing aerial silks for 7. As a pole instructor, Pippi focuses on empowering women in the literal sense: by helping them build sheer physical strength. Pippi has been freelance writing for magazines since 2003 and looks forward to sharing her thoughts and ideas with the Bobybinds community.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/meet-your-bodybinds-bloggers-milan-of-agrlcanmac2020-02-27T08:12:38-10:002020-02-27T08:12:38-10:00Meet Your Bodybinds Bloggers: Milan of AGrlCanMacJacqueline LeeEditors Note: I first met Milan through twitter and when I realized we both lived in New York, we made it a priority to meet in person. While Milan is known for writing about beauty, fashion, creativity, travel and finances, I have always been fascinated by her quiet yet rumbling spirit. She's soft spoken and reserved, yet she's powerful. She reminds me of a volcano right before it erupts. You know, that deep, ethereal stirring of power. That is what I love about her. She will write pretty things but she will also explore powerful things too. I'm so excited to welcome Milan to the Bodybinds blogger team.

Bodybinds: Describe your fashion?

Milan: I don't follow trends, I wear what I like and what flatters my shape. My style is vibrant, timeless and all about accessories. I often take tribal and/or funky accessories/statement pieces and pair them with at times bohemian looks and at other times classic chic styles. I love color and prints and am a stickler for fit; tailored clothing will make you look like you have a body that's gold rather you're a size 0 or 50. Fit is everything.

Bodybinds: Describe your writing style?

Milan: I would describe my writing style as a creative, empowering and a soulful adventure. I delight in living well and encouraging others to identify and pursue what encompasses them living well.

Bodybinds: What's the most subversive thing you've ever done?

Milan: I don't think i know what this means?! Lol. I looked up the word in the dictionary and everything and still don't get it. Haha.

​Bodybinds: What's your favorite part about being a woman?

Milan: Our intuition. We magically receive knowledge many times without any proof right away or ever. The more I listen to mine, the more it talks to me about any and everything like whether to take an opportunity or not, which side of the street to walk down and how the seemingly quiet and nerdy man reading the paper two tables down is a freak behind closed doors and will rock your world. If a woman can quiet her mind and trust herself, her intuition will share with her the Universe's treasures. These treasures can save her life or others. That's dope to me.

Bodybinds: Who is your favorite style icon?

Milan: Dorothy Dandridge. I love how she organically oozed grace, talent, sophistication and sex appeal all at the same damn time.That balance is feminine bliss to me.

Bodybinds: How do you like to indulge yourself and/or experience pleasure?

Milan: Anything that cultivates and fosters that head back and eyes closed savoring the delicious moments type of energy is pleasurable for me. I indulge in experiences that put me into the present by slowing me down and exciting any of or a combination of any or all 5 of my senses the same time: sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch. Candle lit baths with warm bubbles and sensual scented bath bombs while any Kem album is playing and I'm sipping on a glass of Reisling is sensory euphoria. Slow dancing to 90's slow music with a fine man who smells good in room full of people but it feels like no one else exists or matters in those moments is pleasure. A savory piece of key lime pie that's the perfect fusion of tart and sweet or adorning my body with pretty things to celebrate it like ornate metal cuff bracelets, African waist beads and body chains create an experience for me. Swinging on a swing in the park at dusk, that feeling of freedom and weightlessness, turns me into a puddle of pleasure too.

Milan is a soulful and mysterious Scorpio woman, creative writer and artist residing in New York City. She's a professional makeup artist, fashion industry professional, accessories designer and insert anything else creative you can think of. Although she loves indulging in all things creative, writing will always be her strongest passion and favorite way to express herself. With her imagination still in tact, she can turn anything into an adventure rather solo or with friends and loved ones in tow. She stands by empowering women and encouraging them to explore themselves and their femininity. She believes sexiness and feeling sexy isn't just about a look; It's about an energy one oozes. Not everyone feels sexy in a thong and 6 inch heels, maybe you feel like a porn star in boy shorts and flats, she's just saying. Whatever is your sexy, find it and revel in it. Whatever is your joy, find it and revel in it.

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/classy-cursing-or-how-to-talk-like-a-potty-mouth-and-still-be-a-prima-donna2020-02-27T08:12:37-10:002020-02-27T08:12:37-10:00Classy Cursing or How to Talk Like A Potty-Mouth and Still Be a Prima DonnaJacqueline Lee
Don’t curse like a sailor. Curse like a lady. I’ve seen a lot of pictures on Facebook (mostly someecards-type memes) shared from a Facebook community called Intelligent, classy, well-educated women who say F*ck a lot. That page has, at the time of this writing, 424,690 likes, which says to me that 424,690 women like to think of themselves as intelligent, classy, well-educated cursers. Which has quite a ring to it, but it begs the question: what exactly does it mean to be classy and cussing at the same time? The image that comes to mind is of a woman in a gown and an up-do holding a cigarette holder and speaking with an anglo-esque accent that you can’t quite place but you just know she’s going to say “droll.” But considering that most of us don’t often wear gowns and smoke from cigarette holders (or say “droll”), what does classy cursing look like? It’s a balance that I suspect few among those 424,690 people have managed to strike. I’m not always the classiest motherfucker around, but I have some upscale qualities (I sing opera, I speak French, I occasionally drink wine that doesn’t come from a box). Let’s just say I “clean up nice.” And if I hadn’t thought to mention it yet, sometimes I use profanity.

So here are my thoughts on how to talk like a potty-mouth while remaining a prima donna.

1. No shouting. A lady keeps her cool. (Yes, you can slap a man in the face with a satin-gloved hand, but only if you don’t bat an eyelash and only if he’s a cad.) Vulgarity is for adjectives, verbs, and the occasional noun. It’s not for exclamations or imperatives. If you’re upset, don’t yell “SHIT!!!!” Just say reflectively, “Oh. Shit.” 2. Don’t swear at people. That’s rude and unkind. Classy cursing adds color, not insult, to conversation. 3. Swear in complete sentences. Intelligent, well-educated people form complex verbal structures. This isn’t a reality TV show—you should be swearing at a 10th grade level at minimum. 4. Surround your four-letter words with longer ones. I’m especially fond of anything French-tinged. Which sounds better: “Where’s the fucking bellboy with my suitcase?” or “Where’s the fucking concierge with my valise?” 5. Enunciate. Don’t get all Foghorn Leghorn with your rootin’-tootin’ cock-suckin’ vulgarities. Finish your words. Vulgarity should be cock-suckING. 6. Know your audience. A lot of what we think of as “classy” comes down to etiquette, which is all a matter of making people feel comfortable. If someone looks taken aback by your language, try to judge if they’re startled because it’s out of context (who would expect trash talk from such an intelligent, well-educated, classy bitch?) or because they’re offended. If it’s the latter, either tone it down or find someone else to talk to. The above advice applies strictly to using profanity while trying to maintain a typically “classy” image. Really, you can swear however you want to. Want a mouth like a metalhead? Rock the fuck on. Wanna talk like a townie in a dive sports bar? Go Red Sox, ya cunts. Want to not swear at all? Well you go ahead, gosh darn it! But I kind of like the image of the classy curser. I love comedy, and the reaction you can get from the unexpected combination is hilarious. I mean, it’s fucking droll. Pippi Parnasseis a poler,#PDBloggers member and writer in the Boston area. She has over 10 years of experience both in pole and in writing professionally.]]>
https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/creating-a-romantic-sexy-evening-with-a-partner2020-02-27T08:12:37-10:002020-02-27T08:12:37-10:00Creating a Romantic/Sexy Evening with a PartnerDavid Morreale
Some like it hot... and spicy.
Before the sexual talent show began, we enjoyed organic, vegan, spicy chocolate aphrodisiac beverages. Made from scratch by the chef catering the event, the chocolate drinks, hot in temperature, warmed us up from the inside out. The spicy kick of flavor adrenalized our bodies and got blood circulating and flowing towards vital parts.
The way to my heart is through my parted lips, into my mouth and deep down my throat. I'm talking about delicious cuisine, of course.
All the meals we shared together throughout the weekend were beautiful in presentation, bursting with vibrant color, made with healthy ingredients, delicious and nourishing. I think it's helpful to note how powerful food can be in creating a romantic evening, because it affects the way we feel - and that could mean bloated, lethargic, even a little bit sick... or alert, lighter, excited and simply better than before eating.

Did someone say aphrodisiacs?

Not to mention, foods known to be aphrodisiacs can be especially fun to have during your date. These foods can stimulate increased sexual desire in people eating them. According to the purveyors of love advice over at Cosmopolitan, the list of aphrodisiacs includes bananas, walnuts, pomegranates, avocados, vanilla and watermelon. Also, chocolate and chili. (Hence, the chocolate and chili beverages we had before the super sexy fun began!)
Cover my bareness in soft kisses that build my desire. (And give me soft blankets, which are equally awesome.)
The large room where we gathered for the sexual talent birthday show had big cushy pillows on the floor and plush blankets for us to feel comfy. Some people love the cool feel of satin, but I've always preferred cotton and warm, soft, fluffy textures in my blankets. So, the furnishings this evening were just what I liked!

Put on a show, pull off your clothes, push my body into the freefall that it desires, send it spinning into erotic surrender.

The sexual talent show is a yearly tradition in this particular group of my friends. Intended to entertain, surprise and make each other laugh, the show featured acts such as: one of our friends playing ""Happy Birthday"" on the xylophone by bouncing "his little friend" on the keys; and two girlfriends playing ping pong with no hands (just their lady bits... and ping pong balls and ping pong paddle, both impressively squeezed, aimed and controlled by the two women).

What's the moral of the story?

The point of these odd stories is that creating a sexy evening doesn't have to be something we approach with so much seriousness. It can be done in a lighthearted and playful way. Being freaky in ways like these might not particularly appeal to you, and that's totally okay. But think of things you can do for your partner that are surprising, that they totally wouldn't have expected. Things that make them laugh, and that make you both lose it in huge heaps of laughter. Things that help you both relax and open up to each other. Things that turn them on especially because you're so present and attentive.

How have you incorporated surprise during a romantic/sexy evening with a partner? What's something that a lover did for you that was totally unexpected and surprising? What are your favorite ways of creating a romantic/sexy evening with a partner?

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https://bodybinds.com/blogs/news/have-your-kale-and-eat-for-pleasure-too2020-02-27T08:12:37-10:002020-02-27T08:12:37-10:00Have Your Kale And Eat For Pleasure TooDave Morreale
#82256651 / gettyimages.com What’s your favorite food? The one you adore so much that you savor it like a kiss from a lover when you’ve been apart too long. Describe your ideal meal featuring this wonder food. For most of my life, mine was lobster. Warm on a roll with melted butter. Served with a steamed ear of yellow corn. Eaten for lunch outdoors on a picnic table by the ocean. For dinner, I’d add candles, cloth napkins and sunset view of ocean. Start with a salad or cup of clam chowder. Feast on lobster tail, squeezed with lemon and dipped in butter. Add a baked potato, ear of yellow corn and broccoli with Parmesan fritelle. Accompanied by a glass of Dijon clones chardonnay. For desert, a slice of warm blueberry crumb pie with a scoop of vanilla ice cream. Enjoyed with a cup of decaf coffee or espresso.

Which means I maximize the micronutrient density of my diet. Micronutrients include vitamins, minerals and phytochemicals. Most diets focus on tinkering with macronutrients—fat, protein and carbohydrates. But the magic wands are the micros. And those are found most abundantly in green vegetables, other colorful vegetables, and fresh fruits.

Nutritarianism and other plant-based eating have the power to prevent most leading causes of death. And even reverse heart disease, cancer, diabetes and respiratory problems. After I changed my diet, asthma I had for two years disappeared in ten days. When I enthusiastically shared my ‘fountain of youth’ discovery with my public health class one astute student asked: “What’s the catch?"" Avoiding ‘foods’ that harm and minimizing those that have little nutritional value. Applying Dr. Fuhrman’s “Ten Best and Worst Foods for Health and Longevity” to my favorite meal plate leaves salad, followed by broccoli finished with a bowl of blueberries. Butter and cheese were on his original 7 worst list, so they were off-limits. I could (and do) eat corn and potato, but they aren’t the most nutrient dense vegetables. Sadly, lobster isn’t safe for regular consumption because of mercury and other contaminants.

It's too hard. And restrictive.

Many people say that nutritarianism is too radical, too hard or impossible to follow because it eliminates all their favorite foods. Relief from a specific health problem draws some, but even that isn’t enough for everyone. I keep trying to convince my mom who suffers from diabetes and muscle and joint pain her doctors can’t alleviate, but she says food is one of the few pleasures she has left. Dairy was tough for me to give up, but after reading The China Study for motivation I imagined it with a skull and cross bones because it’s toxic and addictive. My husband sometimes still eats dairy. After about six months of being a nutritarian, I took a bite of my husband’s pizza, another old favorite of mine. I was delighted to discover that I didn’t like it. It was too salty!

More pleasure!

Eating a plant-based diet awakens the taste buds from their salt, sugar and saturated fat induced coma. They become so sensitive that the standard American diet becomes unpalatable. My mom tells me she doesn’t like vegetables enough to live on them. Yes, mom would feel worse for several days as her body detoxifies and food will taste bland while her taste buds recover. But then a surprising benefit becomes more pleasure rather than less. In season produce dances like fireworks on the tongue.

My current favorite food is Charentais melon (ie french cantaloupe) with black raspberries. Last week it was homemade marinara sauce made from first-of-the-season San Marzano tomatoes. A couple weeks ago blueberries were at their peak from my favorite farm. (Note to self: next year ask what varietal it is.) Before that, it was Albion strawberry and cantaloupe breakfast smoothies. Next week it might be an heirloom tomato salad. Come August I’ll be savoring red Gravenstein apples and Frog Hollow Cal Red peaches. In Fall, I salivate when Kobocha squash and japanese yams appear in the market in anticipation of making a silky smooth soup spiked with cinnamon and ginger that makes an orgasmic pairing with velvety Pinot Noir. Winter brings the sweetest curly Kale. And juicy navel oranges.

Try it yourself.

Wake up your numb taste buds by avoid the worst foods from Fuhrman’s list and consume an abundance of the best for at least ten days, preferably six weeks. Then go on a tantalizing treasure hunt at your local farmer’s market. What makes your taste buds sing?Lisa Faulkner is the passionate + playful pole dancing professor. She also writes for PDBloggers and Bad Kitty. Come learn and play with her at poledancingprofessor.com.]]>