Back after a break

Havent posted on BE for quite some time but have been reading everyday, so feel like i know you all and am so happy for those that have had their BFPs!

Me and my OH have been trying for 15 months, i had a mc last November and another in February. Luckily, i was referred to see a specialist. Had my appt and he bascially said there was nothing wrong with me and that im healthy and its just something that happens, dont know what i was expecting him to say to be honest, but still feeling pretty low about it.

OH said we just try bd'ing even more than normal aroung OV so this was the first month that we werent going to use OV sticks (was a POAS addict lol) and we would just see what happens if we were laid back about it all - im still counting days though lol.

Writing this late because i am soooo pissed off and needed to get it off my chest. We have BD on cd 8, 10, 11, 14, 15 and today being cd17. Wanted to BD last nite but OH was out so thought tonight would be catch up. Just got into bed and he said he was tired FFS! He was the one out till 2.45 am this morning and tonight is tired!!!! Im so cross!!!!!!! Just got out of bed and came down stairs because i just didnt want to start a row.

He wants this as much as me, but i just feel totally let down now. I have a 30 day cycle and am very regular, according to calendars on the internet i usually OV around cd 16, so im just so gutted that this yet again might not be our month!

Oh huni, im so sorry to hear about your mcs, youve certainly had a tough 15 months!! Its no wonder that your feeling so low about it all! I know its hard to believe at the moment but its really good news that the doc says theres nothing wrong with you. I think i would be really p***** off too if oh said he was too tired especially if you think that might be the day of ov! Men just dont have a clue, im sure they dont realise that theres only one day in a womens cycle on which she can get pregnant!!!!! Hopefully you would have caught it because you have done plenty of bd up until now. You could allways pounce on him in the morning.Have you ever thought about investing in a cbfm so that you can be certain of ov dates?Im on my 2nd month of using mine and im just waiting for ov, im so glad i bought it.Try not to stress to much hun because the last thing you want to do is stress your oh out, ive learnt the hard way, i freaked oh out so much he wasnt able to perform last month when the time was right!! This month im keeping quiet and just keeping dates, cm and temps to myself. lol. I really hope your feeling a bit calmer now and will be able to sleep. Good luck for this month, im sure your very sticky bfp is just around the corner, take care. xxxxxx

Hi W-T, I'm so sorry to hear about the rotten time you've been having. A friend of mine had two M/Cs in 18 months of trying before she got pregnant for the third time, and her baby is due next month, so try not to get too disheartened - if the tests have shown nothing up, then there's no reason why it shouldn't be third time lucky for you.

If you OV on day 16, BD on day 15 should be fine - the swimmers will have been waiting there for the egg when it was released - so you're not completely out for this month, although I know how irritating it is when you really want to BD and OH makes himself unavailable.

We've been trying on and off for a long time now and it can get really stressful and we can end up bickering. You just need to remember you're both in it together and try and get through it best you can.

Why don't you have a romantic evening tonight it will make you feel tons better about each other.

I wouldn't worry too much about missing your ov date, it sounds like you did plenty of bd'ing before and those ov predictors online aren't 100% accurate you might have ov'd a day or so before you think (or later maybe today??)

Take care and fingers crossed you'll get your bfp soon and it will be a sticky one! xx