-- Windrider – I like your comments.A little dancing in the rain is good thing.Slow dancing with someone you love.Ah yes.Clearly the words “being smooth and polished” denotes different things to different people.So far two different takes on them, both different from mine.

Thanks,

RMac

-- Windrider – I like your comments.A little dancing in the rain is good thing.Slow dancing with someone you love.Ah yes.Clearly the words “being smooth and polished” denotes different things to different people.So far two different takes on them, both different from mine.

1. Being "Attractive' is different to each of us. For me, it becomes apparent after getting to know a person. At first glance, it's in the way a man carries himself, the look in his eyes and his ability to express himself. Looks fade, but self confidence and personality only get better with time.

2. Definitely being able to make me laugh...and to laugh at himself. Some people take themselves much too seriously, and they soon become tiring to be around.

3. I'm not much of a dancer...haven't been since the 'twist' went out, but I still like to slow dance with someone I have deep feelings for...especially in a warm summer rain or by a cozy winter fire...up close and personal. Since I don't enjoy doing the night club scene, I seldom dance at all any more.

4. Definitely the Blarney, as long as they're willing to accept it as well as dish it out.

5. Being smooth and polished is basically the ability to make people feel at ease, and I'm all for that. Trying to impress someone by showing off is a negative for me. I don't care what a person has materially, but I do care a great deal who they are as a person. Money can't buy character.

6. Dressing up or down isn't a deal breaker for me. I don't care one way or the other, because I'd rather be out exploring new places and working with animals than appearing at an 'event' where people try to out-dress each other simply to impress. I'd rather spend time at events where people get together simply because they like each other's company, or are trying to raise money for a worthy cause. That wouldn't be very high on my list at all.

7. I'm not sure if you're referring to global travel or just exploring the wilderness around you...I'm assuming it's the global thing. I guess for a lot of women it could be a deal breaker, and it would be nice once in awhile, but personally...it wouldn't be that important to women like me. A treat, but not a deal breaker.

It all boils down to what each of us values in life. The trick is to find someone who enjoys the same things we do, and compromise on the things we each enjoy that the other doesn't. Not all that difficult...with the right person.

There are no right or wrong answers when it comes to what attracts us to another person, just personal preferences.

Easyman...

ROFLMAO...you do have a talent for that!

The ebony card, if run through the right knife sharpener, makes a dandy tomato slicer, or so I've been told. As for the shoe stores...women like me couldn't care less, although I have to admit the chocolate supply certainly does add a nice touch.

As for the pot belly and missing teeth...the ebony card could take care of that before you sharpen it up. The accent is enchanting, and if the lack of hair bothers you, get a 'piece'...most women I know consider bald sexy on most men. I was told by a bartender I used to know that it resulted from too much work done undercover! Bwhahahaha.

Hope...

You're certifiable!!! No wonder I like ya so much! For being almost opposites, we seem to see life very much the same!

Quoting rmac22:

What makes a man attractive to a woman?

Forever classy asked the reverse question.So I, and maybe we, would like to know.

Some observations; not in any order of importance.

1.Being what women would consider attractive helps, but it is by no means a sufficient condition.

2.Being able to make a woman laugh definitely helps.It seems almost a sufficient condition.

3.Knowing how to dance and being willing to do it.Women, far more than men seem to love this.

4.The gift of blarney.They know it is blarney.You know it is blarney.They love it anyhow.

5.Being smooth and polished.Women seem far more vulnerable to this than is good for them.

6.So many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.Being able to easily and willingly dress up or down from jeans to a tux.

7.As in #6, so many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.Must love to travel.

Any additions, corrections, and comments in general?

RMac

Quoting rmac22:

What makes a man attractive to a woman?

Forever classy asked the reverse question.So I, and maybe we, would like to know.

Some observations; not in any order of importance.

1.Being what women would consider attractive helps, but it is by no means a sufficient condition.

2.Being able to make a woman laugh definitely helps.It seems almost a sufficient condition.

3.Knowing how to dance and being willing to do it.Women, far more than men seem to love this.

4.The gift of blarney.They know it is blarney.You know it is blarney.They love it anyhow.

5.Being smooth and polished.Women seem far more vulnerable to this than is good for them.

6.So many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.Being able to easily and willingly dress up or down from jeans to a tux.

7.As in #6, so many women ask for it in their profiles I must assume it is critical.Must love to travel.

Any additions, corrections, and comments in general?

RMac

rmac22...

Interesting list, but not completely true for all of us.

1. Being "Attractive' is different to each of us. For me, it becomes apparent after getting to know a person. At first glance, it's in the way a man carries himself, the look in his eyes and his ability to express himself. Looks fade, but self confidence and personality only get better with time.

2. Definitely being able to make me laugh...and to laugh at himself. Some people take themselves much too seriously, and they soon become tiring to be around.

3. I'm not much of a dancer...haven't been since the 'twist' went out, but I still like to slow dance with someone I have deep feelings for...especially in a warm summer rain or by a cozy winter fire...up close and personal. Since I don't enjoy doing the night club scene, I seldom dance at all any more.

4. Definitely the Blarney, as long as they're willing to accept it as well as dish it out.

5. Being smooth and polished is basically the ability to make people feel at ease, and I'm all for that. Trying to impress someone by showing off is a negative for me. I don't care what a person has materially, but I do care a great deal who they are as a person. Money can't buy character.

6. Dressing up or down isn't a deal breaker for me. I don't care one way or the other, because I'd rather be out exploring new places and working with animals than appearing at an 'event' where people try to out-dress each other simply to impress. I'd rather spend time at events where people get together simply because they like each other's company, or are trying to raise money for a worthy cause. That wouldn't be very high on my list at all.

7. I'm not sure if you're referring to global travel or just exploring the wilderness around you...I'm assuming it's the global thing. I guess for a lot of women it could be a deal breaker, and it would be nice once in awhile, but personally...it wouldn't be that important to women like me. A treat, but not a deal breaker.

It all boils down to what each of us values in life. The trick is to find someone who enjoys the same things we do, and compromise on the things we each enjoy that the other doesn't. Not all that difficult...with the right person.

There are no right or wrong answers when it comes to what attracts us to another person, just personal preferences.

Easyman...

ROFLMAO...you do have a talent for that!

The ebony card, if run through the right knife sharpener, makes a dandy tomato slicer, or so I've been told. As for the shoe stores...women like me couldn't care less, although I have to admit the chocolate supply certainly does add a nice touch.

As for the pot belly and missing teeth...the ebony card could take care of that before you sharpen it up. The accent is enchanting, and if the lack of hair bothers you, get a 'piece'...most women I know consider bald sexy on most men. I was told by a bartender I used to know that it resulted from too much work done undercover! Bwhahahaha.

Hope...

You're certifiable!!! No wonder I like ya so much! For being almost opposites, we seem to see life very much the same!

I first observed the power of the ability to make the lady laugh when in high school.The boys in that high school thought I told my younger sister who to date.I did not.I told her who not to date.One that I told her not to date, she did anyhow.He had no socially redeeming qualities that I could see.He was tall, but ungainly, the very example of not being good looking.I did not trust him as far as I could have thrown him.However, he could make her laugh.

To me Blarney and BS are not the same at all.To me blarney is not meant to deceive.It is more like light hearted flirting.Complements just a bit over the top, but not too much.Being charming in a not deadly serious way.The people I observed at the various places I worked, who were good at it, were in fact considered charming by the ladies.

I first observed the power of the ability to make the lady laugh when in high school.The boys in that high school thought I told my younger sister who to date.I did not.I told her who not to date.One that I told her not to date, she did anyhow.He had no socially redeeming qualities that I could see.He was tall, but ungainly, the very example of not being good looking.I did not trust him as far as I could have thrown him.However, he could make her laugh.

To me Blarney and BS are not the same at all.To me blarney is not meant to deceive.It is more like light hearted flirting.Complements just a bit over the top, but not too much.Being charming in a not deadly serious way.The people I observed at the various places I worked, who were good at it, were in fact considered charming by the ladies.

I find that a man becomes more attractive, physically and mentally to me, when he has the ability to put me at ease. A man that may not be considered "physically attractive" by society's standards can become even more appealing and magnetic by the warmth he exudes. This I can only put into words by saying it is that quiet confidence, of knowing who he is and what he wants and not having to prove it or flaunt it. He sets himself apart from others by his geniune and sincere demeanor. There is nothing to me more attractive than being able to feel comfortable and respected in his presence- it allows you to let your guard down, be yourself and see the man at his sexiest.

Quoting Livelight:

I find that a man becomes more attractive, physically and mentally to me, when he has the ability to put me at ease. A man that may not be considered "physically attractive" by society's standards can become even more appealing and magnetic by the warmth he exudes. This I can only put into words by saying it is that quiet confidence, of knowing who he is and what he wants and not having to prove it or flaunt it. He sets himself apart from others by his geniune and sincere demeanor. There is nothing to me more attractive than being able to feel comfortable and respected in his presence- it allows you to let your guard down, be yourself and see the man at his sexiest.

My freshman year in college I took an eight week evening course in dancing.Discovered that it was full of pretty freshman girls; not many guys at all.So, I repeated it every year. At one time I could do a bunch of the ballroom stuff.Now, I do my variant of the Foxtrot and my version of swing.

So far all my ladies have told me I was handsome, but then, they were also all good at blarney.

Thanks for your comments.

RMac

SeekingDepth – I like your explanations.

My freshman year in college I took an eight week evening course in dancing.Discovered that it was full of pretty freshman girls; not many guys at all.So, I repeated it every year. At one time I could do a bunch of the ballroom stuff.Now, I do my variant of the Foxtrot and my version of swing.

So far all my ladies have told me I was handsome, but then, they were also all good at blarney.

Diana – Thank you.I accept all complements.To me blarney is not meant to deceive.It is more like light hearted flirting.Complements just a bit over the top, but not too much.Being charming in a not deadly serious way.The people I observed at the various places I worked, who were good at it, were in fact considered charming by the ladies.I did not try to rank my numbered observations.Wish I could live up to all of them.

I appreciate your insight regarding them. Thanks,

RMac

Diana – Thank you.I accept all complements.To me blarney is not meant to deceive.It is more like light hearted flirting.Complements just a bit over the top, but not too much.Being charming in a not deadly serious way.The people I observed at the various places I worked, who were good at it, were in fact considered charming by the ladies.I did not try to rank my numbered observations.Wish I could live up to all of them.

I find that a man becomes more attractive, physically and mentally to me, when he has the ability to put me at ease. A man that may not be considered "physically attractive" by society's standards can become even more appealing and magnetic by the warmth he exudes. This I can only put into words by saying it is that quiet confidence, of knowing who he is and what he wants and not having to prove it or flaunt it. He sets himself apart from others by his geniune and sincere demeanor. There is nothing to me more attractive than being able to feel comfortable and respected in his presence- it allows you to let your guard down, be yourself and see the man at his sexiest.

I find that a man becomes more attractive, physically and mentally to me, when he has the ability to put me at ease. A man that may not be considered "physically attractive" by society's standards can become even more appealing and magnetic by the warmth he exudes. This I can only put into words by saying it is that quiet confidence, of knowing who he is and what he wants and not having to prove it or flaunt it. He sets himself apart from others by his geniune and sincere demeanor. There is nothing to me more attractive than being able to feel comfortable and respected in his presence- it allows you to let your guard down, be yourself and see the man at his sexiest.

a man is atractive to a woman when he smile , when he make her leaf ....a man is much more atractive when he is supriseing her ......but a man is atractive when he is always a step in front off her and he is the man , letting her to be the woman :)

a man is atractive to a woman when he smile , when he make her leaf ....a man is much more atractive when he is supriseing her ......but a man is atractive when he is always a step in front off her and he is the man , letting her to be the woman :)

Glad you brought up the subject. I think a lot of men could benefit from understand the motives behind some preferences women have. Here's my thoughts and my preferences...

1) Physical attraction does help, especially to make that first connection. But if the guy doesn't catch the lady's eye at first, then he has to have other attributes that make him outstanding, such as his masculinity, authenticity, charm, ability to "get" her, etc.

2) Sense of humor is important, although the man doesn't have to be entertainingly funny. The style of humor tells a lot about a person's personality. If a woman appreciates what a man thinks is funny, chances are they share some values which is important in chosing a mate or a date. It's a way of seeing if someone is on the same page or not.

3) Many women like it when men can and are willing to dance. It's got nothing to do with dancing. ;-D

4) Blarney.... I personally try to avoid the BSers. I may enjoy their stories which may be entertaining, but I don't generally think of these guys as somebody I want to be romantically involved with. But I do love it when a guy is genuinely charming, which is very different.

5) Women generally like guys who are confident and assertive--the take-charge kind of guy. These men are also often naturally smooth and polished. There's nothing that drives me crazier than a man who says, "I don't care, whatever you want to do, or wherever you want to go is OK with me." We want you to take the lead. Most smooth and polished guys take the lead, so we're going to be attracted to these guys first. This is a REALLY BIG THING.

6) The dress up thing..... It's a horrible experience to be out with a guy who feels uncomfortable in a formal situation and embarasses you or wants to go as soon as you get there. So chances are if he says he feels comfortable in jeans or a tux, a woman knows she will probably have a good time no matter what the occasion.

7) What women are saying when they mention they have a desire to travel is.... I don't want a couch potato. I want to enjoy life and go places and do things and not just sit around the house and watch movies or sports on TV.

Good topic...... BeWell ;-D

RMac,

Glad you brought up the subject. I think a lot of men could benefit from understand the motives behind some preferences women have. Here's my thoughts and my preferences...

1) Physical attraction does help, especially to make that first connection. But if the guy doesn't catch the lady's eye at first, then he has to have other attributes that make him outstanding, such as his masculinity, authenticity, charm, ability to "get" her, etc.

2) Sense of humor is important, although the man doesn't have to be entertainingly funny. The style of humor tells a lot about a person's personality. If a woman appreciates what a man thinks is funny, chances are they share some values which is important in chosing a mate or a date. It's a way of seeing if someone is on the same page or not.

3) Many women like it when men can and are willing to dance. It's got nothing to do with dancing. ;-D

4) Blarney.... I personally try to avoid the BSers. I may enjoy their stories which may be entertaining, but I don't generally think of these guys as somebody I want to be romantically involved with. But I do love it when a guy is genuinely charming, which is very different.

5) Women generally like guys who are confident and assertive--the take-charge kind of guy. These men are also often naturally smooth and polished. There's nothing that drives me crazier than a man who says, "I don't care, whatever you want to do, or wherever you want to go is OK with me." We want you to take the lead. Most smooth and polished guys take the lead, so we're going to be attracted to these guys first. This is a REALLY BIG THING.

6) The dress up thing..... It's a horrible experience to be out with a guy who feels uncomfortable in a formal situation and embarasses you or wants to go as soon as you get there. So chances are if he says he feels comfortable in jeans or a tux, a woman knows she will probably have a good time no matter what the occasion.

7) What women are saying when they mention they have a desire to travel is.... I don't want a couch potato. I want to enjoy life and go places and do things and not just sit around the house and watch movies or sports on TV.

You are so smart!!! I was going to respond by saying I agree with all of them except......

but then I couldn't find which statement I disagreed with. I would say to reverse #1 and #2. Then you will pretty much have it down.

Hmmmm....."blarney". I had to look that one up. Yep.....we love it! lolol I prefer to think about it as 'pillow talk'. I don't like to be deceived during the light of day....but if a man can lace the evening with some romantic or seductive 'blarney'.....I would certainly call that within the rules of fair play. *wink* :))

Let's see.....here's my order of preference: 2, 5, 3, 1, 6, 4, 7.

PS: Men should not mis-judge the importance of #3. Dancing = Foreplay!! If a man can swoop me around a dance floor to a beautiful waltz.....well...let's just say his chances are up around the high 80s!!!! lolololol *wink*

RMac~

You are so smart!!! I was going to respond by saying I agree with all of them except......

but then I couldn't find which statement I disagreed with. I would say to reverse #1 and #2. Then you will pretty much have it down.

Hmmmm....."blarney". I had to look that one up. Yep.....we love it! lolol I prefer to think about it as 'pillow talk'. I don't like to be deceived during the light of day....but if a man can lace the evening with some romantic or seductive 'blarney'.....I would certainly call that within the rules of fair play. *wink* :))

Let's see.....here's my order of preference: 2, 5, 3, 1, 6, 4, 7.

PS: Men should not mis-judge the importance of #3. Dancing = Foreplay!! If a man can swoop me around a dance floor to a beautiful waltz.....well...let's just say his chances are up around the high 80s!!!! lolololol *wink*