Engagement is an intent to marry. You're seriously making up the immediate future part bc engagements used to be very lengthy.

I'm
not making up anything. At the end of the day, people are speaking on
their perspective. In my culture engagement of over a year is
impossible. Your family, his, and everyone who knows you would just
assume the wedding isn't going to happen. I've never had a family
member or friend engaged for longer than 1 yr aside from one person who
had to postpone their plans due to a death in the family. Its unheard
of.

My culture aside, for most of U.S. history, the etiquette has
been to marry within a year. Even now, many people marry within that
time frame, so I don't see what's "made up" about that.

That's why I said 6 months. I've never seen a nigerian couple call an engagement and it lasted longer than 6 months. As soon as its announced then preparation starts and everyone chips in. For those with long engagements what the hayell are you guys doing?

in that case epitome, I agree get married at the courthouse and have a re dedication when everything else simmers down and you've caught your breath financially

My GF did this on her 1 yr anniv because she got married quick fast & in a hurry (planned in 3 days) the first time. She basically did a re-creation of the wedding day. We all wore same bridesmaid dresses, and everybody was in the same roles as for first wedding, same church, etc. It was nice.

eta: the wedding was a quickie because he had to leave country in a week for business and wanted her to go w/ him and she said /put a ring on it then/ (before bey lol); he did.

I agree Ricky. My only issue w/ op is that he becomes difficult when it's discussed. Two people getting engaged and married at their own mutual pace is fine. But if one person wants something else that's the issue IMO.

I feel like if I do the courthouse thing I will never have the wedding......like when people hold off on their honeymoon and they never have one.....

Girl I did the court house thing then fed everyone a year later. The wedding was really for everyone else. Hubby just wanted to go to Bahamas and call it a day but noooooooooooooo all the family members from both sides were pressed to have a wedding ceremony. Everyone was pressed to wear their outfits and eye lashes.

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