However, one of the most important questions I ask is this: How often do you kiss?

The answer to that question gives me a lot of information about a couple’s connection.

A romantic relationship involves sexual intimacy — a friendship does not. If you are married to someone and you have no sexual intimacy, you are in a friendship, not a romantic relationship, and that is something you will need to decide if you want to change.

Too often, people tell me that they feel like they’re just friends with their spouse. They say that there is no longer any touching in their relationship. They talk about being really great roommates.

When a relationship has gotten to this stage, couples often try to get back into the routine of having sex. Starting with hand-holding, hugs and kisses is a more gentle way to reintroduce yourselves to that kind of romantic intimacy, as both partners need to feel comfortable with this level of intimacy before they can reintroduce sex into their relationship.

Once a couple becomes comfortable with kissing, they often find that more intimate steps simply follow along naturally.

If you find your relationship faltering or turning into a roommate situation, refocus it with a kiss.

Once you both commit to prioritizing yourselves in this way, things will begin to shift — and you will find that old intimacy rising once again.

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