Soooo — you want to patch things up with your ex girlfriend, but you aren’t sure how to do it, or what role text messages should play in your mission to get her back.

Well, the number one first step that you need to take before you do anything else is to take a break from her. I’m talking about no texts, no calls, no in person contact, in other words… no nothin’!

This may seem drastic, but if you want her back then you need to follow through with this because it has been proven time and time again to be critical to the ex-recovery process.

It’s like relationship ju-jitsu… To reverse who has the power in the relationship.

You see, if you keep texting your ex and always being there available for her then she isn’t going to feel any need to see you. And for whatever reason us human beings take things that we can easily have for granted.

Think about it this way, if you hadn’t eaten an orange (or had any OJ) in ten years and somebody offered you one you a glass of fresh squeezed orange juice you’d probably be pretty excited to get to drink it, right? But – if you lived in an actual orange grove down in Florida and could have as much orange jusice as you wanted then you probably would get sick of it…

So you want to get her to start missing you, and make her thirsty for your juice LOL!

I know it may seem like so doesn’t care about you at all anymore and you might feel like it would be useless to try to get her to miss you, but you would be surprised. After all, she did like you at some point. She used to be attracted to you… So it’s highly possible to get her to feel that attraction again, you just need to play your cards right.

This could be seen a somewhat “manipulative” and I’m not gonna BS you here, I actually feel that it is manipulative.

BUT – if you think about it, people are constantly manipulating others in interpersonal relationships, including family memebers, friends and lovers. That’s live. The onlyt people who don’t manipulate others to some degree are either some sort of holy monks or they are people that are just completely passive and ineffective.

So if you want your ex girlfriend back, then for the sake of your relationship you need to accept the fact that you are going to deed to manipulate her emotions a bit (trust me bro, I’m sure that she has manipulated your emotions more than a little!)

Okay – so that’s the first step. No contact. And if she calls you up which she probably will, let it go to voicemail.

Give it a month, and then send her a little text to remind her of how awesome you are and how much she is missing out by not being with you. At this point she will probably have called/texted you several times and will be very eager to hear from you even if the reason you broke up was all your fault in the first place.

As far as what exactly to write in this email, the truth is that it doesn’t need to be anything too special, believe it or not.

In fact, sending a text that shows her that you are totally chill and are having a good time in your life is perfect. So, for example if you just saw a funny movie with an actor that she likes in it you could send her a text that says:

“Just watched (insert name of movie with actor actor she likes)… too funny, made me think of you”

This will accomplish A LOT!

It will get her thinking about you again, wondering who you saw it with, thinking about the last time she watch a movie with you etc… Plus it is much better than the weak and whiny texts that most guys send their ex girlfriends after a break up.

Alternately you can send a text saying:

“Just went to (insert name of a restaurant you used to go with her)… they’ve got a new pizza (or whatever food) on the menu. Yum, thought of you”

Which accomplishes the same things…

So try these out, after the no contact period, and let me know how they work for you.