Parental alienation involves the systematic brainwashing, poisoning and manipulation of children with the sole purpose of destroying a loving and warm relationship they once shared with a parent. My story involves this form of child abuse & exploring the bias favouring a mother in the social ecosystem around Family Law.

I have met and heard the tragic stories of many parents. PA is a function, by and large, of a custodial ex-partner, although some alienation can start while the couple is still together.

This blog is a story of experiences and observations of dysfunctional Family Law (FLAW), an arena pitting parent against parent, with children as the prize. Due to the gender bias in Family Law, that I have observed, this Blog has evolved from a focus solely on PA to one of the broader Family/Children's Rights area and the impact of Feminist mythology on Canadian Jurisprudence and the Divorce Industry.

Sunday, July 25, 2010

THUNDER BAY — Guelph’s Dave Nash
wants to put children’s interests first in divorce proceedings and is
running across Canada to gain support and awareness for a federal
private members bill for equal shared parenting.

Bill C-422 would reform the Divorce
Act by making equal shared parenting the norm when courts deal with
situations of divorce involving children. The Equal Shared Parenting
Bill was introduced in Parliament on June 16, 2009, by Saskatoon MP
Maurice Vellacott.

“Personally, this bill is very
important to me,” Nash said during a stop in Thunder Bay.

“If the presumption of equal
parenting was in place, it would have protected my son and myself from
being put (through) a custody battle,” he said, explaining that Canada
has a so-called family justice system in place that asks families,
during one of the most difficult times in their lives, to go to war with
one another over their children.

According to Nash’s website,
crosscanadarunforthechildren.com, “the current system that we have in
place, and have had in place since 1985, is bankrupting Canadian
families, emotionally, as well as financially, and it needs to be
stopped.”

Nash, 38, a former professional
boxer, started his Cross Canada Run For The Children June 1, in
Victoria.
Along the way, he is also attempting
to break the world record for the fastest crossing of Canada on foot.
The feat is aimed at raising awareness about the Canadian governments’
unwillingness to reform the system.

The Canadian government has been
given many opportunities, over the past 20 years, to reform this broken,
failing system, and demonstrate that they do care about the best
interests of Canadian children, he said, yet they have rejected every
opportunity presented to it, and has continually demonstrated contempt
for the children of divorce in Canada, as well as their lack of respect
for struggling Canadian families who are in need of help.

Nash said he targeted the Guinness
record of 72 days for crossing Canada on foot primarily for the
symbolism of the number.

“The reason I pick the world record
is because the failings of the current system, which gives a child
access to the non-custody parent of six days per month, or 72 days per
year. That’s why I picked the record. It gets people attention.”

That being said, Nash said, he’s not
“on track” to beat the record held by ultra-marathon runner Al Howie,
who ran 7,295.5 kilometres across Canada in 72 days, 10 hours and 23
minutes.

“You have to run about 105 kilometres
per day (to beat the world record) and right now I’m averaging 60 to 70
km per day,” he said.

For more information on Cross Canada
Run For The Children, visit the website
crosscanadarunforthechildren.com.

Favourite Quotes

“The job of a father is this : to help his children develop, to teach them to express and master their emotions; to avoid physiological distress, to provide a context for their experiences; to help them persevere, reach their goals and take on responsibilities; and to instil the roles of citizen, partner and parent. In short, it is to fill their bellies with bread, their brains with wisdom and their hearts with love and courage.” Camil Bouchard, “On Father’s Ground” 2002.

Some men see things as they are and say, "Why?" I dream of things that never were and say, "Why not?" ~ George Bernard Shaw ~ also quoted by Robert F. Kennedy, US Senator and Presidential Candidate assassinated in 1968.

Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length. ~ Robert Frost

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Some Gems on relationships

Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right, and the other is a husband.

The motto of this Father's Rights Activist

"It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again ... and who, at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." Theodore Roosevelt,

Facts on violence in Canada Domestic and Otherwise

Family violence in Canada: A statistical profile, 2009.

Of the nearly 19 million Canadians who had a current or former spouse in 2009, 6.2% or 1.2 million reported they had been victimized physically or sexually by their partner or spouse during the five years prior to the survey. This proportion was stable from 2004 (6.6%), the last time the victimization survey was conducted, and down from 1999 (7.4%).

A similar proportion of men and women reported experiencing spousal violence during the five years prior to the survey. Among men, 6.0% or about 585,000, encountered spousal violence during this period, compared with 6.4% or 601,000 women.

Total 611, men 465, women 146Rate of homicides with firearms has increased 24% since 2002. Handgun use on increase (gangs don't register their weapons)Women victims 24% - lowest proportion everMen Victims 76%Both the rate of females killed (0.87 per 100,000 population), as well as the proportion(24%), were the lowest since 196162 spousal homicides - no change from 2007Lowest rate in 40 years45 women 17 (27.4%)men

Many DV homicides of men are not classified as such and this number is higher than 27.4%.

In 2009 based on a million couples it can fairly be said 999,998 wives do not kill their husbands and 999,995 husbands do not kill their wives. (See Pg. 15 chart modified from the rate per 100,000.)

In 2009, 49 women and 15 men were killed by a current or former spouse (excludes one same-sex spousal victim).

Total homicides 610, Men 450. Gang related 20.3 percent.69.1 % of firearm related deaths involved handgunsWomen 160, In 2009 it represented the second lowest proportion (26%) of female homicide victims since data were first collected. The rate of female victims has generally been declining since the late 1960s.

Profile

I am Politically active and right of centre on most issues with the odd exception such as legalization of "Mary Jane".
I advocate on changes to Family Law - an incredibly dysfunctional arena where parents are pitted against one another and children are the victims.
My picture will sometimes show me as a younger man simply because I like them.

An Alienated Child

Is a troubled child

American Coalition for Fathers & Children Petition

A quote by a well known Canadian Jurist

The Honorable Justice John Gomery of Canada stated, “Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

(The above quote arises from PSM vs. AJC, a decision rendered by Mr. Justice John Gomery on February 15 1991 (SCM 500-12-184613895), and confirmed by the unanimous judgment of the Court of Appeal on June 14 1991, the trial judge was confronted by a case involving four children caught up in a heated custody battle between their parents whereby the children became "catastrophically" alienated from their mother.)A good paper on PAS for lawyers by a lawyer, Anne-France Goldwater (Avocate), and excerpts from the above trial are located here.