If your gf/bf wasn't a good cook would you tell her/him?

Let's just say that their friends and family tell them they're a great cook all the time even if they're not. Would you tell them how you feel?

My gf thinks she's a great cook and nobody but me tells her otherwise. She constantly tries to make random things just off recipes she finds online and if she doesn't have ingredients she swaps them out for something random or just skips them. Sometimes this works out ok. But a lot of the time it doesn't. She constantly complains about feeling sick too after eating but she doesn't want to hear that it could be her cooking haha. She made a lasagna for her mother and I a month or so ago where she didn't bake it in the oven, just put it straight in the microwave. It was obviously undercooked and the pasta was still hard. She thought it was perfect and her mother was like "Oh this is great, mines just not as warm as I'd like" and then she basically cooked hers in the oven. I'm sitting there just like wtf.

A couple of times I've told her I didn't like what she made and she constantly brings it up around others "jokingly" but I can tell it upsets her. A friend of mine didn't like a muffin or some shit her friend made once and just straight up said "this is dry" and threw it out. She wouldn't stop going on about how disrespectful that was, so I know it bothers her when I tell her how I feel.

I pretty much just end up buying us ubereats when she offers to cook. I love her tho

If you have a good relationship, she should be able to handle constructive criticism. Otherwise, you'll either have to pretend (and lie) for the rest of your relationship, and she'll never get the opportunity to improve.

It might even be that she's a good cook when she has all the ingredients and follows the recipe, but needs to stop improvising.

Is she new to cooking? I was like that when I moved out of home and was just trying to wing it, but then I took cooking classes and they were really quite helpful.

Recipes and online tutorials just show you how to follow instructions, the classes made me think about flavour profiles and get an understanding how to achieve the flavours and tastes I want out of a dish. Now I only look at a recipe if I'm cooking something I've never cooked before.

From the limited information we have about her through OP's posts, he tells us that she often improvises poorly when cooking, is not focused, and displays at least moderate levels of narcissism. We can extrapolate further that she is significantly younger and less mature than OP, but that some quality or qualities about her make the relationship worthwhile. Either she has other, more endearing qualities, or OP rates himself as less worthy in some way (and thus deserving a substandard gf) or some combination thereof.

I'm not sure what he's doing is bragging, unless just having a girlfriend is bragging, which says far more about you (e.g. desperation, lack of self-esteem) than it does OP.

From the limited information we have about her through OP's posts, he tells us that she often improvises poorly when cooking, is not focused, and displays at least moderate levels of narcissism. We can extrapolate further that she is significantly younger and less mature than OP, but that some quality or qualities about her make the relationship worthwhile. Either she has other, more endearing qualities, or OP rates himself as less worthy in some way (and thus deserving a substandard gf) or some combination thereof.

I'm not sure what he's doing is bragging, unless just having a girlfriend is bragging, which says far more about you (e.g. desperation, lack of self-esteem) than it does OP.

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This is a creative and well thought out ether of lightsout in a way

You're spot on though. We have quite the maturity difference. But that's because of the age gap. She really is quite sweet and fun to be around. There's obviously a lot of growth necessary, but the little inconveniences are just that, little. On a scale of pros and cons her pros out weigh the cons, otherwise we wouldn't be together.

Is she new to cooking? I was like that when I moved out of home and was just trying to wing it, but then I took cooking classes and they were really quite helpful.

Recipes and online tutorials just show you how to follow instructions, the classes made me think about flavour profiles and get an understanding how to achieve the flavours and tastes I want out of a dish. Now I only look at a recipe if I'm cooking something I've never cooked before.

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Yeah she's only been out of home for about 2 years and she grew up a hippie too. So that explains some of it

I'm a terrible cook. My husband isn't bad but we don't always like the same foods. We're pretty honest with each other when it comes to our cooking. I think you're going about it right by not placating her. Especially if you really love her otherwise. If you tell her everything is fantastic she'll just never improve and you'll be stuck pretending her shitty food is amazing forever.

Even if she seems like she just ignores your criticism, I'm sure she hears it and sometimes probably agrees with it. I mean, she's eating the same food, right? How bad can her sense of taste be?

I would just encourage you to be specific about what you don't like. Tell her if its over/under cooked, seasoned, etc. and be really supportive when she actually makes something you enjoy. It'll keep you from seeming too negative and the positive reinforcement might help to persuade her to try a little harder on her future meals.

She made a lasagna and cooked it in the microwave? Jfc, she’s not a bad cook, she’s mentally retarded.

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I was so shocked. We've had "arguments" about that and she still stands by her decision. She's the type of person who leaves things out on the bench that are perishable for a day or more and is like "nah it's fine". She'll open a packet of potato chips, leave them open unwrapped or closed and still eat them two days later. She eats stale or off things all the time and I just can't wrap my head around it. She offered to cook dinner for me tonight but this thread has scared me so I'm just gonna buy something close to hers haha

I think I was spoiled cause my mother is quite a good cook. We've been down twice to visit my mother and both times she's raved about how good my mums cooking is.

I would yell, 'Hanna, you donkey! These potatoes are raw! They're fucking raw you donkey! And these fish fingers are cold! Touch them! Cold, you donkey! Give me that apron, and get the hell outta my kitchen!!!'

She made a lasagna and cooked it in the microwave? Jfc, she’s not a bad cook, she’s mentally retarded.

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I was so shocked. We've had "arguments" about that and she still stands by her decision. She's the type of person who leaves things out on the bench that are perishable for a day or more and is like "nah it's fine". She'll open a packet of potato chips, leave them open unwrapped or closed and still eat them two days later. She eats stale or off things all the time and I just can't wrap my head around it. She offered to cook dinner for me tonight but this thread has scared me so I'm just gonna buy something close to hers haha

I think I was spoiled cause my mother is quite a good cook. We've been down twice to visit my mother and both times she's raved about how good my mums cooking is.

Let's just say that their friends and family tell them they're a great cook all the time even if they're not. Would you tell them how you feel?

My gf thinks she's a great cook and nobody but me tells her otherwise. She constantly tries to make random things just off recipes she finds online and if she doesn't have ingredients she swaps them out for something random or just skips them. Sometimes this works out ok. But a lot of the time it doesn't. She constantly complains about feeling sick too after eating but she doesn't want to hear that it could be her cooking haha. She made a lasagna for her mother and I a month or so ago where she didn't bake it in the oven, just put it straight in the microwave. It was obviously undercooked and the pasta was still hard. She thought it was perfect and her mother was like "Oh this is great, mines just not as warm as I'd like" and then she basically cooked hers in the oven. I'm sitting there just like wtf.

A couple of times I've told her I didn't like what she made and she constantly brings it up around others "jokingly" but I can tell it upsets her. A friend of mine didn't like a muffin or some shit her friend made once and just straight up said "this is dry" and threw it out. She wouldn't stop going on about how disrespectful that was, so I know it bothers her when I tell her how I feel.

I pretty much just end up buying us ubereats when she offers to cook. I love her tho

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lmfao what the fuck am i reading. i'm sorry that she lacks the self-awareness to realize that she isn't a great cook even after trying something like that. i'd keep it straight with her - i'm sure she makes some meals that are okay, so i would start by telling her that it isn't that she's a bad cook, it's that she could use some work in certain areas. if she gets offended i would ask why and work from there.