What if you look at inappropriate stuff online?

The Internet is big, big, big - as big as the world. So when you are traveling around online, you can go to lots of places and see lots of things. Not all of them are right for you and some might make you feel kind of yucky. We recently received the comment below from a very honest person:

Okay. I'm not sure how to put this, but I think I'm not a good person. I went on YouTube and watched videos that were not meant for kids. I was just curious and it was only like 2 clips, but my parents found out and got really upset. Now I feel really ashamed and feel like I'm the only one in the world who has done this. I'm sorry if this is a long, awkward post, but I really have no one else to confide in. Thanks for any support you might be able to give me.

Anonymous

So first, we want to let Anonymous know that looking at inappropriate stuff does NOT make you a bad person. People are curious and it's normal to wonder about stuff you don't know much about - and have probably heard other people talking about. Anonymous is defnintely NOT the only person in the world who has ever done it. But that doesn't mean we recommend it. I would stay away from X-rated websites and YouTube videos of naked people.

If you have questions about growing up and sexuality, it's better to go to these sources:

A parent, or older sibling

A reliable website, like KidsHealth.org, which is run by doctors and other experts who will explain things in a respectful way, not a way that makes kids feel uncomfortable and awkward.

The good news is that, as you get older, these topics will make more sense and you'll feel more comfortable. But right now, turn to reliable people, websites, and books to help you begin to understand them.

Awwww you're not a bad person! Just stay away from things that are x-rated, its not for us girls! Don't try to grow up too fast, let's enjoy being tween/teen girls! Think about the exciting things of this time like lip gloss and bras and clothes! Leave all of the *other* stuff out for when you're older.

You are definitely not a bad person, try and stay away from adult content, and make sure you put your Google search as "Safe Search" so you don't see something inappropriate and have and be tempted to watch or read it. I have nothing else to say, actually, because Jemma already said everything I would have said! Hope I helped!-PurpleRose

My friend also did this . Her mom found out when I was at her sleepover. Her mom just blocked the vids so she wouldnt get tempted. So just block them. Hoped I help and you and about 2 billion other people have done this you are a great person

You're not a bad person jus' coz of that. Even if it's not appropriate, it'd practically be a miracle if you DIDN'T come across this stuff at some point or other...Peace,The-Girl-Who-Likes-Cheddar-Cheese

awww sweetie, please dont worry. you are growing up ang your body now faces hormonal changesso its very very normal in fact to see or have curiosity owards those things.. and please relax! never if parents know all these things, they were also once of ur age and they too faced these things.... just relax...

You're not a bad pearson! You were just curious! A lot of people do what you did and don't feel bad! You should be proud of yourself for saying "oh crap this is so wrong!" and then stopping! Here is some advice: I go to kidshealth.org and click on the peburity and growing up part. It makes me feel safe that I am not doing something like watching inappropriate stuff online in stead I am looking at a trusted website that my parents allow me to go to if I have questions they can't awnser!

your not a bad person everyone does this including me and to be honest i felt the same way you do/did but than my sister told me a story of how she did the same thing and that my eldest sister told her a story of how she did and how she felt so much better but just like the PLS i do nt recommend doing so

i know it was wrong but my friend told me to go on this website and i did i trusted her and as soon as i went on it there was things that i wasn't supposed to see and that is when i told my self not to go on it again but the next day i did i thought i was addicted to it so from that day i kept on trying not go on it but i can't help my self please help

I suggest telllling your parents or someone you trust. im mad at your friend for telling u about that website and if she does something like that again u should tell her parents. that is wrong and its not tattling if u do tell

Yea my friend showed me something inappropriate... it scarred me probably for life.But anyways, Your not a bad person. Tons of people do it. Trust me I know.At least you know now it's probably not the best thing to do.It's all good.

One day all my friends were talking about something at school so I looked it up to see what it was and I felt so sick to my stomach I then deleted all my history and For some reason, I felt like I needed to know more, so i looked up more stuff and then deleted THAT history. The moral of this story is you are not a bad person but don't look at that stuff. :)

your so not a bad person i almost did that but i thought through my head "what will happen if i do this" and i thought so yeah. next time something like that happens just think through your head and think ok and it will be fine. lots of people do it some i know in my class but whats diffrent is they dont stop it like they dont feel sorry for what there doing. any way hope i helpGod bless you all- bluerocks1001

When I moved to a new school my friends were always talking about things I didn't know about. So on a weekend I got up early and looked it up and I was ashamed I looked it up. But I kept looking it up. But I finally stopped. U r not alone and u r NOT a bad person.

I had something close happen to me, I got curious about The Hunger Games, a movie (that is obviously not meant for kids younger than 13) so I started looking stuff up about it, I didn't watch the movie, but I read a fanfiction based on it and played some simulation games. Well, mom found out and wasn't happy. She screamed at me to go 'watch something innocent'. I went and started watching a really old show called Leave it To Beaver, because that was the only thing I could figure she'd find innocent enough. Anyway, long story short, stay away from inappropriate stuff.

Once I looked up you know "very inappropriate" stuff,and because I was curious I couldn't stop.But then I thought, my parents will find out.So what I did was just trying my best to stay away from it, and my parents have put on parental controls.To stop,just ask your parents to put on parental controls, so this will stop you from finding it.Bye!!!

Sigh. I know that feeling. When I was just seven I was very intrested in ''bodies'' and ''making babies''. I looked some bad stuff on the enternet. My parents found out and were so ashamed and mad at me. After that I never-ever really even thought about "making babies". I am still ashamed of myself, but I am also knowing that I didn't know it was wrong and that self hatred is not the right path.

To: the person who asked "how do i stop looking innaproppriate stuff". Think of how dissapointed your family would be if they found out what you were doing. There are safe websites and books for you to learn about sexuallity in.

You're definitely not the only one! There are tons of people who do that (I myself was guilty) but I learned that it isn't right and I stopped. You won't even remember it in two years from now and even if you do, you shouldn't care!! Keep smiling! :)XOXO~Kitty

I understand what it's like to be curious, you are NOT a bad person for it! It's only natural that as you get older and mature you begin to feel curious about "things" Pretty much everyone has done what you did at one point in there life, and it was probably just out of innocent curiosity. If you have questions about how things work you can always ask your parents or someone you trust :)

My friend showed it to me years ago, and I recently saw more. It made me feel so gross!! Honestly, I felt sad for the people who were on the videos, because everyone can see their *bodies*, sometimes without them even knowing the video is online.

I recently looked up some inappropriate stuff online and I told my mom and she was very disappointed in me cause it wasn't the first time. but I was curious. my mom then told me that I was not allowed to browse on my phone anymore but to use her computer. i was really ashamed,but don't worry. you're not bad at all.

i have a question. So my parents think i shouldnt be into boys yet and i have a crush. And i think that they might not want me to be on this website bcz of that, but i need help and i cant get this kinda help anywhere else!! What do I do?

Don't worry, it's not bad to do something like that. Once I searched my name (it's not actually Anonymous) on Google Images and it came up with some really weird pictures I would rather not have seen. And my brother watches Minecraft videos, and clicks the links at the bottom accidentally. Sometimes, it has not-so-nice stuff. So don't worry! You're definitely not the only person who sees stuff like that. Anonymous

Sometimes things like this happen to everyone, there's nothinng that makes you a bad person. I know everyone is a little curious about some things, even I was, but we should take advice from our parents on such things. - Amanda Jones

1. First anonymous, No you absolutely will not get arrested.2. Second anonymous, Personally, this sort of thing isn't a problem for me, but if it is for you I'd recommend asking a parent or trusted adult - they know you and can help you find the right answer.

Don't worry, you're DEFINITELY not alone. I've had the exact same experience, so relax! And also, being curious doesn't make you a bad person. People are meant to be curious. Without curiosity, we won't learn anything. So please remind yourself that you are a kind, caring human being, and not a bad person ; )

I looked up some inappropriate pictures and couldn't stop for a while. Then I felt SOSOOOSSO guilty and ashamed of myself even to the point of tears but I couldn't bring myself to tell my parents. I told by BFF, who I trust, and she said it's normal to do that, or at least be curious, and I also read this blog post and all the comments but I still feel really guilty, even though they both helped a lot. Please help, I'm struggling a ton right now!!!

Thanks so much Anonymous, it really helps that there's someone out there who listens and cares. For a while I would check back here just to see if my response was even published! It's great to know that there is also a response :) Thanks again to you and everyone else!!

GUYS I REALLY NEED HELP. I'VE BEEN LOOKING AT INAPPROPRIATE PICTURES AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO STOP AND I FEEL REALLY GUILTY. I DON'T HAVE THE COURAGW TO TELL MY PARENTS. I NEED SOME COMFORTING WORDS OF ADVICE!!!!

Hi Daisy 001,I read your comment and a lot of us girls have done that, mostly because we are curious, but in your case, I suggest going to an older girl/sister/cousin and telling them, and you will feel a lot better. I did the same thing once, and felt horrible. Remember, your not alone!!!

Hi! I have to admit I have also been a little curious about these things and have looked at a few things I think I shouldn't have...Oops! I also felt bad but after I knew why these things are bad for me to look at, I understood a lot more and I felt a lot better. Me and my mom talked a little bit about it and now I don't feel tempted to look at inappropriate stuff. Hope this helps!

Hey! Same here! All girls probably do this stuff, and parents shouldn't overreact when they find out. I haven't exactly done it yet, but my friends have and boy, their parents do get angry. I don't like talking to my mom because it's awkward enough at home. Help!

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