The ex-wife of “Avengers” director and Justice League co-director Joss Whedon unloaded on him in a devastating guest post on The Wrap—accusing Whedon, among other things, of being “a hypocrite preaching feminist ideals,” using her as “a shield” so others wouldn’t question him being a feminist, and having multiple affairs during their 15-year marriage.

Architect Kai Cole met Joss in 1991 and claims to have encouraged him to turn his “Buffy The Vampire” project, which disappointed him as a movie, into a television show. But once they got married and the hit “Buffy” television show began, things began to take a darker turn.

Cole claims Whedon, after their marriage was over, wrote the following to her:

“When I was running ‘Buffy,’ I was surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women. It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can’t touch it…I would have to lie — or conceal some part of the truth — for the rest of my life…”

After admitting to the affairs, he noted to her:

“In many ways I was the HEIGHT of normal, in this culture. We’re taught to be providers and companions and at the same time, to conquer and acquire — specifically sexually — and I was pulling off both!”

“I have this goldfish, idiot, forgetful thing in that every time I’m confronted with true misogyny, I’m stunned. I’m like, Really? That’s like, I don’t believe in airplanes. It’s like, What century are you from? I don’t get it. So usually I’m shocked, then occasionally amused, then occasionally extremely not amused, but once I get over the shock, it’s very clear that misogyny in our own culture — and not just where they perform genital mutilation and marry off 10-year-olds — runs so deep.”

Now Kai’s post adds another layer to this and other rumors in which the acclaimed director has been accused of being less than a staunch feminist. She also claims that the resulting stress over their tumultuous marriage ruined her health physically and emotionally:

“My entire reality changed overnight, and I went from being a strong, confident woman, to a confused, frightened mess. I was eventually diagnosed with Complex PTSD and for the last five years, I have worked hard to make sense of everything that happened and find my balance again. It has not been easy, because even though in my personal life I have been completely open about what happened, publicly people only know his superficial presentation of us: him as the lovable geek-feminist and me in the background, as his wife and supporter.”