Why Do Men Like Breasts

Why Men Like Breasts So Much

Why do men like breasts? (And what it means for you)

Thousands of women ask
Google each
month, "Why do guys like breasts?" For most, of course, the question is
more than curiosity. The real question is, "What do I need
to do to
attract and keep a man?"

Why are you asking?

If it's just curiosity, the
answer immediately follows.

If you are contemplating breast
augmentation,
we have included a section on options below. The big thing to remember,
is that the male attraction to body features is impersonal. There are
certainly benefits with strangers. But if you are looking to attract a
man for a personal relationship, once he approaches and gets to know
you, you need to back up the physical attractiveness with personality
traits.

Why do guys like breasts?

There are two parts to the answer to the explicit question, "Why do men
like breasts?"

If we didn't keep breasts
covered, they
couldn't become the objects of desire. Since they are covered,
uncovering them becomes an act of intimacy. Every glimpse beneath the
external clothing gives a feeling of intimacy, of closeness. Don't
underestimate the importance of such intimacy: A man craves a feeling
of closeness, but physical intimacy is all he is really allowed.
Every boy learns not to risk emotional intimacy. If he lets his
vulnerability show, he is ridiculed by other kids and by
adults.
"Big boys don't do that, cry baby."

When I was a student at the
University
of Ghana, I was surprised to find the boys weren't interested in
breasts. The reason is simple: breast feeding in public is common in
sub-Saharan Africa. Similarly, a woman of my acquaintance reported a
strange experience in South Africa: They were scandalized by her
bathing suit; it exposed her hips.

When a (heterosexual) boy
enters
puberty, he imprints on some physical attributes that come to mean
Woman to him. It is somewhat a matter of chance what those attributes
will be, but because we do celebrate breasts so much, the boys are
given opportunity and encouragement to imprint on them.

Boys can imprint on other
things. A
friend reported that when cleaning out his grandfather's effects,
they discovered some erotic pictures hidden in the back of a drawer.
They showed women pulling up their skirts just high enough to reveal
their ankles.

The question of why a man
fixates on
the physical is not particularly useful, since it is simply the way
male sexuality works, and men are not able to change it. You can
probably get a male to pretend otherwise, but demanding he live a lie
about something as fundamental as his sexuality puts a strain on him
and on your relationship. Men crave being valued as themselves, which
includes being male.

It is worth understanding
that a man
gets pleasure merely seeing the outlines through clothing of what he
has imprinted on. If he is gazing on a woman, he is not necessarily
"undressing her with his eyes." He does not need fantasies
of anything. He need not fantasize about having sex or a relationship with
her. He is not always even aware he's looking. The touch of pleasure
he began to feel in puberty conditioned him like a Pavlov dog. That, in
brief, is the answer to "Why do men look at other women?"

Why, of all the parts
covered, are
breasts chosen? They of course aren't in all societies, but they do
offer some advantages:

Breasts clearly mean Woman,
which make
them good symbols of The Feminine.

A woman friend of mine
remarked that
it's not that guys aren't attracted to girls with brains, but their
brains don't jiggle when they walk. Certainly motion attracts the
eye, and his imprinted response to the shape of the breasts gives a
reward for looking.

Here's an evolutionary
explanation of
why breasts are such good candidates for imprinting (and I find women
pretty universally dislike this explanation): In all the other
mammals, the males approach from the rear. Evolution has made
buttocks the target that attracts males. When we began to approach
from front, the breasts began to take on that function. In general,
any hemispheres of smooth flesh can perform that function.

If the eroticizing of
breasts annoys
you, and you would like to change it, support La Leche. If breast
feeding becomes common, breasts will no longer be the objects of
men's attraction, but of course, that will merely shift their
fascination
elsewhere.

Should
you try breast augmentation?

Should you try breast
augmentation? Certainly you should consider it if there's a
professional reason to do
so, for example if you are an actress.

Before you go ahead with breast augmentation, you need to
consider
how you intend to benefit from it. Think of your breast size as
advertising.

A common formula for advertising is AIDA: get their Attention,
hold their Interest, arouse their Desire, get them to take Action.

Large breasts will get men's attention. They can certainly
help build a
desire to have sex. If that is your goal, you're well on your way.

But while large breasts can turn men on, they can't get men to
tune in to you.

Do you want to get a man to fall madly in love with
you — or back
in love with you? Do you want a man to cherish and adore you? Do you
want a man to be romantic and attentive? If that is what you want, then you must immediately get him
interested in that. Breasts are not your "unique selling proposition." They are certainly not unique, and they do not make a sale.

Since fulfilling relationships are built on admiration and
respect, from the moment you have his attention, he must see you as
someone he can admire and respect and who can admire and respect him.

The best person to learn from how to achieve this mutual
esteem is
Kara Oh who used her training in anthropology and psychology to study
men in relationships. She has discovered the quality in women that
men most admire and respect, indeed that men are in awe of. She calls
this quality Feminine Grace, and she can teach it to you. That's why we promote her Men Made Easy ebook and workbook throughout this site. It is probably the best source of help for finding long-term fulfillment.

But more than that, for you to respect and admire men, you
must
understand how they differ from women and you must appreciate their
differences. Viewing a man as simply a defective woman will hurt him
and can drive him away. Kara can also teach you the twelve secrets
about men that most women don't know.

Armed with feminine grace and the twelve secrets, you can melt
a
man's heart and achieve his lasting love and devotion.

We have put an introduction to Kara Oh's discoveries in our
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You had
better first try out padded bras and see how you feel about the effect. If you
really hate men staring at your chest, let that warn you. On
the
other hand, if you like the result, consider whether the padded bras
are sufficient. They can't harm you the way the other techniques can.

If you think that breast
augmentation is right for you, here are some options to try in
consultation with your physician:

What about getting breast
augmentation surgery? It can give you whatever cup size
you specify.
The down sides are: 1) it is expensive and 2) it is invasive, putting
you at risk of infection.
It is costly to get a highly skilled surgeon and the rest of the
surgical team, and the hospital costs are piled on top of that. Don't
try to do it on the cheap. Given
the seriousness of surgery, you had better pay to have it done well.

What
about using herbal
products to grow your breasts? Some women report
success, but it is usually limited to 1/2 to 1 cup size. The herbs
contain phytoestrogens (estrogen-like substances). Combined
with prolactin,
they could stimulate the growth of milk ducts, increasing the size and
firmness of your breasts. Nevertheless, herbs and phytoestrogens
have some potential problems:

Herbs are not regulated as drugs, so they haven't been tested for safety and effectiveness.

If
herbs work, it is because they act like drugs. You can get allergic
reactions to them. You can get bad drug interactions. They can diminish
the effectiveness of drugs you are taking. You need professional advice
about using them.

They
are a lot less potent than real estrogen, and they can displace it,
thereby reducing the growth of breasts. Do not use these herbs during
adolescence — they are likely to leave you with
smaller breasts than otherwise.

They can give you a hormone-imbalance illness unless
balanced with progesterone.
(Some products advertise wild yam extract to provide the progesterone.
Wild yam contains a substance, diosgenin,
that can be processed in the lab into a form of progesterone,
but unprocessed wild yam does not
itself supply progesterone.)

Don't
try herbs while pregnant or breast feeding. They can put your fetus or
baby at risk.

Don't try herbs for breast
enlargement if your family has a history of cancer related
to estrogen levels, except on consultation with your doctor.

I would love to be able to give you a link to some herbal cream or suppliment that works. I can't. I can't find any; Paulette, my assistant, can't find any—not that's proven to work. Our best advice is: Don't waste your money on this.

Another
natural method is exercise
to increase the size of your chest muscles.
It can make your breasts appear larger and firmer, but it is limited in
how large it can make them appear. Of course, it is by far the least
expensive option, and it has health benefits. Breast enhancement
exercise is just one type of strength training, and more general strength training
can help you control your weight and improve your health. Muscle cells consume 5 to 7 times as
many calories as fat cells, even when you are relaxing. If you replace
some fat by muscle, it will make it easier to control your weight and
size and still eat what you want.

What about breast
pumps? Brava
breast enlargement pumps have been tested and (the company claims)
proven to be safe and
effective. They consist of two silicon domes
that cover your breasts, a pump, and a tiny computer to control the
process. It applies a gentle suction to your breasts, stretching them
in every direction, and stimulating the growth of more breast tissue.
The downside? You have to wear it continuously for 10-12 hours per day
for 16-20 weeks. Initially, the breasts will enlarge and then
shrink back to their previous size, but over time, they will retain
some of the increase—again, this is a claim that we've had some difficulty verifying. Also, Brava
breast enlargement pumps are not cheap. Cheap knock-offs of
Brava
pumps may also advertise that you do not have to devote as much time
and discomfort. They have not been proven to work.

A new technique, not
yet widely available, uses your own stem
cells
to grow more fat cells in your breasts. Human fat
tissue contains a large number of adult stem cells that can produce
more fat cells and other needed tissue such as blood vessels. The
technique extracts fat cells from your body and concentrates
the stem cells. The doctors carefully inject the stem
cells into your breasts sculpting the shape. The result is larger
breasts, aesthetically shaped.

If your goal is to attract
a man, before opting for breast augmentation, you would do well to find
out what
men want in a woman. In particular, learn how to
act with a strong, powerful
femininity, which is much more attractive to men than any physical
feature can ever be. Sign up for our mini course on Understanding
Men and learn important secrets about men
and how to emphasize you feminine strength.

Tips

If
you want men's attention, advertise your femininity visually.
Show enough
of your shape to get their attention. Since most North American males
have imprinted on breasts, the outlines of your breasts are most
effective.

How much cleavage should
you show? It's a balance: Uncovering the breasts is an act of intimacy,
and thus some modesty is required. You need to reserve something to
offer. Occasional glances past the outermost layer of clothing give him
an enticing tingle of intimacy, so some looseness of clothing can be
very effective. And of course, it's socially safest to stick
reasonably close to current fashions and the formality of the
occasion.

If
you want to attract
attention quickly, you can try bra padding. (I heard one woman who
tried padding remark in wonder on her first experience of
having a
man talk to her chest.) Won't a
man be disappointed if things progress to the point where he finds out
the truth? Probably not — intimacy is extremely rewarding. As the verse
says:

They are yours, you are mine,
I've got no cause to grouse.
An A in the hand's
Worth a D in the blouse.

Thong panties or swim-suit bottoms are very powerful — in
some parts of the world, too powerful to be seen in public.

Remember
that breasts are like the titles on advertising. They only get
attention. They don't keep interest once you start building a personal
relationship. They don't cinch the sale. As in advertising, you need an
irresistible
offer, and the best offer you can make is twofold: you display a
strong, powerful femininity, and you understand and appreciate men.You
can learn many of the
things you need to know about men in our mini course on Understanding
Men. You can start doing those things that will make you
irresistible to
men. It is a lot more effective, a lot faster, a lot less dangerous,
and a lot less expensive than breast augmentation.

Even
if you decide on breast augmentation, you still need so display a
powerful, graceful femininity and
an understanding of men so you can convert a man's attention into
commitment.

More information on our
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