Grief & Loss

advice needed

Amanda_jk wrote:

I need some advice. I'm getting a d and c to remove clots and tissue from my jan mc. I was supposed to get my uterine polyp removed. My dr says he may not be able to remove the polyp at the same time so I may have to get a second surgery and wait another 3-6 months to get the polyp removed. I'm frustrated, depressed, angry a and exhausted by my ttc process and mc. And I don't know whether I should wait it out for the second surgery or ttc and take my chances getting pregnant with my polyp. My polyp is only 1.3 cm and they aren't sure if it caused my mc (blighted ovum didn't progress past 5 weeks) and if it will cause any issues but they suggested I remove it because it causes me to spot between periods.The waiting is killing me and I just want to be pregnant already but I don't know what I do. I feel like I have been waiting to ttc and then ttc forever!

@Amanda_jk I know deep down that I should wait for the polyp to be removed but I'm just having a hard time coping with the grief, frustration and anger about my mc and ttc process. I hate feeling like this. I have never felt so low.

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Larissa37

I know you want to ttc ASAP but if it will help your chances of carrying a healthy baby to term I say wait...taking a chance & having another loss will just make you hurt more then waiting to ttc. Good luck & will be praying for you.

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Amanda_jk

@Larissa37 Thanks. I know that the best thing to do is wait... It's just so hard when everyone around me is pregnant or has a baby :(

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Amanda_jk

@Larissa37 Thanks. I know that the best thing to do is wait... It's just so hard when everyone around me is pregnant or has a baby :(

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Tommysmommy143

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My dr recommended I wait until we do testing on cd 3 next cycle but she also said she's almost positive we won't find a cause for my miscarriages and she wants to chalk it up to a hormonal imbalance because I continued to breastfeed my ds during both losses so I feel like what's the point to even get the testing down if they aren't gonna find a cause. One thing I don't like is having my time wasted so I'm "hoping" to not make it to that testing on cd 3 and instead be going for progesterone and hcg beta testing

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Larissa37

I know it is but it will be better on you & much higher chances of having a lo...you will get thru it & have your happy healthy rainbow but you have to make sure you're healthy too.

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Amanda_jk

@Larissa37 Thanks! I know what I should do it wait its just so hard. I feel like I've only been getting bad news regarding ttc with all the fertility issues and mc. I'm praying they can take care of the polyp and tissue/clots from my jan mc at the same time so I can get in with my life and ttc process.

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Praying for #9

Ok, so if you have to wait 6 mths, How long after they remove the polyp can you start trying? I am just one, that you try to get your body as healthy as possible, and since you spot in between your periods, then it sounds like you should go ahead and have the surgery.. But while you are waiting, figure out when you will be able to try again, and have Faith, Hope and Dreams, You still have all of that to hang on it.. Don't let getting your body back to normal take all of that away, You must have Hope and Dreams, so your mental health will be just as normal as your physical health..Its a Must to have a baby..

I am praying for a complete healing for you, physically and mentally..and peace in your heart...

I think I'm able to try again one month after the polyp is removed. I'm hoping they can remove it this month so I can ttc. But if not I have to wait until sometime around October. I know in the grand scheme of things that it doesn't seem that long but I just want to get back on track to ttc again and be pregnant and every day that I have to wait makes me even more sad. I do have hopes and dreams but they include being a mother and having kids. I try to focus on work, nutrition, exercise and hobbies but it just doesn't fill the void.

I'm working on repairing the heartbreak and depression from my mc but its taking time and patience.

I understand,waiting even one day is rough, let alone, months, take all the time you need to repair, everyone is different, praying your heart and your body will be repaired at the same time, for you to be able to get your dream of being a mom.. we are all in the same boat here, and it is a bumpy ride, with lots of waves, but as they say,There is always a Rainbow,after the rain...take care

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