Girl thinking of breaking up with her boyfriend for me?

Girl has been very flirty with me last few months at work. Got her number recently. She's hesitant to text because she doesn't want her boyfriend to see the texts...but says she wants to "get to know me better". When I asked to hang out she says "I really want to but not yet".

I know she does want me but I think she's stuck in a crappy relationship that may be on its last legs.

Last time we talked was early last week. She knows how I feel so I haven't texted her or anything since then. I figure the ball's in her court.

Should I initiate any kind of contact or just wait and see what happens?

some lowly chap gets some sort of female contact with an attached girl... get oneitis because he is desperate and has no other options... tries to convince himself that she will leave her boyfriend for him and that they will live happily ever after.

some lowly chap gets some sort of female contact with an attached girl... get oneitis because he is desperate and has no other options... tries to convince himself that she will leave her boyfriend for him and that they will live happily ever after.

some lowly chap gets some sort of female contact with an attached girl... get oneitis because he is desperate and has no other options... tries to convince himself that she will leave her boyfriend for him and that they will live happily ever after.

I wouldn't tell her to do it, but if she brings it up just be like "hey if your not happy and that's what you wanna do" type of thing. Basically I say this because if she gets the idea that you want her to leave him for you be ready for a clinger...........until she does this again.

If she does it just be casual and honest. Nothing wrong with ****ing around with her, just don't commit.

Yea, find girls that are less work. You do realize with the amount of effort you have put into this hoe you could've banged 3 others right?

My only problem with girls with boyfriends is they are too much work when they are sober. They are easier than single girls when they're drunk though. Anyway back burner her because you surely have better things to do than be an emotional tampon or bf in waiting. Right?

Girl has been very flirty with me last few months at work. Got her number recently. She's hesitant to text because she doesn't want her boyfriend to see the texts...but says she wants to "get to know me better". When I asked to hang out she says "I really want to but not yet".

I know she does want me but I think she's stuck in a crappy relationship that may be on its last legs.

Last time we talked was early last week. She knows how I feel so I haven't texted her or anything since then. I figure the ball's in her court.

Should I initiate any kind of contact or just wait and see what happens?

I wouldn't tell her to do it, but if she brings it up just be like "hey if your not happy and that's what you wanna do" type of thing. Basically I say this because if she gets the idea that you want her to leave him for you be ready for a clinger...........until she does this again.

If she does it just be casual and honest. Nothing wrong with ****ing around with her, just don't commit.

Yeah just looking to smash really.

Originally Posted by DocHol1day

Yea, find girls that are less work. You do realize with the amount of effort you have put into this hoe you could've banged 3 others right?

My only problem with girls with boyfriends is they are too much work when they are sober. They are easier than single girls when they're drunk though. Anyway back burner her because you surely have better things to do than be an emotional tampon or bf in waiting. Right?

of course, I was just wondering whether I should contact her again or wait for her to contact me. I know she wants me, but maybe she just needs a little encouragement

of course, I was just wondering whether I should contact her again or wait for her to contact me. I know she wants me, but maybe she just needs a little encouragement

Every woman I've ever known is a monkeybrancher

Yeah but that's four months of glorious sex.

Wait for her to call you, dont be her doggy. if u put too much emotion in this from the beginning then you'll end up chasing her and beating up guys that flirt her. If she wants to get together with you she will contact you if she really wants you, but i think from what you tell us she is unreliable and not to be trusted for many things, just a quick ****.

What has been said is basically your situation. If you think you're special then go ahead. You'll be back looking like an idiot for not taking the said above users seriously. Way too much wishful thinking gets you nowhere.

Come on. Even if she breaks up with him, she's still going to be attached to him for awhile. That means she'll be likely to go to him for sex, even if she decides to do you. This girl just doesn't seem worth the trouble.

Just an update on this chick. I kind of stopped paying so much attention to her, have been dating other girls etc. I'm not quite sure what's going on with her or her relationship, but anyways the other day she asked me if I wanted to hang out on the weekend. Seemed like a genuine interest on her part so I accepted the offer. However the weekend came and went and I didn't hear from her.

Not sure what to do from this point on. I'm expecting some excuse from her about the weekend. I know she is interested but I think she's a little confused right now and isn't sure if she wants to leave her bf.

Is this the time to come on strong and tell her how I feel, or back away completely and withdraw, citing the fact that she's still with her bf?

I'm dating other girls right now which is good, but I still do like this girl very much so I'm still interested what way I should be playing this.

Just an update on this chick. I kind of stopped paying so much attention to her, have been dating other girls etc. I'm not quite sure what's going on with her or her relationship, but anyways the other day she asked me if I wanted to hang out on the weekend. Seemed like a genuine interest on her part so I accepted the offer. However the weekend came and went and I didn't hear from her.

Not sure what to do from this point on. I'm expecting some excuse from her about the weekend. I know she is interested but I think she's a little confused right now and isn't sure if she wants to leave her bf.

Is this the time to come on strong and tell her how I feel, or back away completely and withdraw, citing the fact that she's still with her bf?

I'm dating other girls right now which is good, but I still do like this girl very much so I'm still interested what way I should be playing this.

This is the weakest foundation you could possibly build with another person... attempting to profit off a recent break-up, or worse - cause it. Weak morality leads to weak relationships.

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Yea, find girls that are less work. You do realize with the amount of effort you have put into this hoe you could've banged 3 others right?

My only problem with girls with boyfriends is they are too much work when they are sober. They are easier than single girls when they're drunk though. Anyway back burner her because you surely have better things to do than be an emotional tampon or bf in waiting. Right?

Originally Posted by Zyzzle

the typically story...

some lowly chap gets some sort of female contact with an attached girl... get oneitis because he is desperate and has no other options... tries to convince himself that she will leave her boyfriend for him and that they will live happily ever after.

success rate = 0.000001%

Both of these are spot on. Look buddy, she is using you for the attention. Just because you get her number, doesn't mean she wants to fcuk you, it means you're another boy in her cell that she can feel validated from KNOWING that there are other men that want her IF her boyfriend leaves. If her BF is a huge WK phaggot, chances are she will fcuk behind his back.

If her BF can stand his own ground, and isn't afraid of her (alpha), then chances are she will want to stay because HE can leave whenever, and she doesn't want that.

She's using you for attention. Girls do it all the time.

Also, I love what Doc said. From his perspective, his advice is always solid. If you want to fcuk this girl, go ahead. But a girl with a BF takes a lot of time, and should just be disregarded. (been there done that)

Originally Posted by Abitofmuscle

Just an update on this chick. I kind of stopped paying so much attention to her, have been dating other girls etc. I'm not quite sure what's going on with her or her relationship, but anyways the other day she asked me if I wanted to hang out on the weekend. Seemed like a genuine interest on her part so I accepted the offer. However the weekend came and went and I didn't hear from her.

Not sure what to do from this point on. I'm expecting some excuse from her about the weekend. I know she is interested but I think she's a little confused right now and isn't sure if she wants to leave her bf.

Is this the time to come on strong and tell her how I feel, or back away completely and withdraw, citing the fact that she's still with her bf?

I'm dating other girls right now which is good, but I still do like this girl very much so I'm still interested what way I should be playing this.

Just like others said, you disregarded advice. She's using you for attention. This way she can tell her BF she's still attractive to other men. Lots of people do this for validation. It's typical (not hating on it).