Okay, gotcha. Well, if you aren't ready or you feel it wouldn't get you anywhere, then I see what you mean. But real local support - someone to talk to face-to-face and ask for help - is what every survivor needs.

Maybe this idea doesn't look so great now, but stick it in your back pocket for later.

Much love,Larry

_________________________Nobody living can ever stop meAs I go walking my freedom highway.Nobody living can make me turn back:This land was made for you and me.(Woody Guthrie)

when i try an talk to her about it shejust gets all upset and then just wants to blowit off like im making a big deal out of it orlike it wasnt as bad as i make it soundor im just being to dramamtic an i know itscuz she dont want to think her fathr or brotrcan do things like they did eithr that orthey did stuff to her to and she cant dealwith it. whatever. i cant talk to her husbandbrad. hes nice enuff be as far as hes concerned im just living there till im 18and dont care about anything i haft to sayso long as i do my chores and dont upsetmy stepsister. and me and him dont talkmuch anyways. he hit me once when me and himgot in a bad fite and since then ive juststayed away from him pretty much.so i think it must be me. cuz it seems likethe people around me are only around me cuzthey hafto be and they have no problemwith hurting me. i dont know.

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My lamb and martyr, this will be over soon. You look so precious.

No adult has the right to lay a hand on you, no matter how pissed he is. That's not just a matter of morality, it's the LAW!

That said, I can see that all this is an extremely high tension situation, and everyone is trying to learn how to relate and cope with it. There have to be clear boundaries, yes, but it must be very confusing and stressful for both Sarah and Brad.

But again, please don't blame yourself. You are the one who needs support and understanding.

Much love,Larry

_________________________Nobody living can ever stop meAs I go walking my freedom highway.Nobody living can make me turn back:This land was made for you and me.(Woody Guthrie)

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