Need to tell this guy, I don't want a relationship. How can I do this?

I'm still in love with my ex bf, but i'm not telling anybody because I know that everyone will disapprove as they think I can do better (and he has a gf so I can't do anything about it). My ex's mate who I was into once has been showing an interest in me. We flirted and kissed but I told him I've a lot on my mind and i'm not looking for a relationship. He said something like 'we can still do stuff together though' and i'm not sure whether he means sexually or just hanging out. How do I tell him I don't want to do anything with him, without lying, but without giving any indication that I'm still in love with his mate?

ooohhh. I'm in the same place my ex and I have been getting back in contact and my friends tell me to forget him and so I'm left telling my friends we've broken all contact (which is a lie) and i told my ex i don't want a relationship i have a lot on my mind and he said we can do other stuff though and he can "be there" for me haha, men are great haha.

Anyway just tell him you're not interested, don't go out with him, don't respond to txt's or calls....you get the gist, he'll get the gist

If he invites you somewhere, just tell him no thanks you've got other plans. After being turned down a couple of times, he'll get the idea. Although staying busy is the best thing to mend a broken heart so you may want to take him up on an invitation.

He is male. Therefore he almost certainly means sex!!! In any case you are not interested so you just need to tell him that you are not interested or don't fancy him. There is no need to tell him how you feel about your ex.