I have this one, it's very sturdy and well made, my FWB moved on before we got to try it. But it looks like you just get it to the height you want, then hop on, it has twin seat straps, so you can spread the load, say bum and back, or hips and under your boobs, depending on if you want to be face up or face down, and 2 foot straps like styrups, to support your legs and feet. I can't wait to try it, but I have to meet someone first.

You will be able to get either of you to just the right height, for any thing you want to try.

You may need to do some joinery work in the loft to spread the load over several ceiling joists, unless they are already quite large, but it's not a big job. Your OH should be able to do it if he's any good at diy, or even you if you are handy that way.

Oh if I had a room dedicated to sex I would be sneaky sneaky. I'd cover the door with a wardrobe, cut out the back so you just climb in the wardrobe and open the door...voila! 😅 However I have little ones who would think theyve gone to Narnia so best not.

As for a swing, we have an over the door thing. I'm still trying to work it out a bit. If you have a proper attic hatch it holds securely from it too we discovered.