I recently read at article by Mark D. Ogletree that I applies to me now, but I also want to be reminded of it later, so I am making note of it here. Being a good parent is difficult. Life can be harsh and we have a natural inclination well most of us anyway to want to shield them from some of that harshness. There is a balance between guiding and protecting and being a helicopter parent. This article gives five suggestions to consider as we try to find that balance.

Look for opportunities to allow your children to do things for themselves, even if it means more work for you. I can clean up my kids messes a lot faster than they can, and often I break down and do it because I can’t stand the mess. However, I know that they are learning important lessons by picking up after themselves.

Teach your children to work. Learning to work builds self-esteem and confidence, and prepares them for life in the real world.

Teach your children that choices have consequences. Be clear in your communication and follow through if rules are disobeyed. If we mitigate consequences of their choices they may find it difficult to understand the need to follow rules and laws.

Stand up and be courageous. We need to give our children freedom without being permissive. It takes courage to put forth the effort to teach your children what is right.

Allow your children to have heartaches and setbacks. Learning to deal with disappointment can make them into more resilient and resourceful adults.