1. Lean back, both physically and energetically when you're around him.

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Stay at least 10 feet away.

2. Look at him when he looks your way.

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​Hold eye contact for as long as you can — 3 to 5 seconds — and SMILE. Breathe.

3. It’s okay if you're nervous and shaky.

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Don't try to hide it.

4. Keep smiling.

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Keep holding eye contact, then at about 3 to 5 seconds, turn back to whatever you were doing — eating, talking to a friend, looking at the wallpaper.

5. Now forget about him.

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If he doesn't come over to talk to you, he's not for you. Not today.

Mastering this and feeling relaxed takes a little bit of practice. Practice on men you don’t care about and aren’t attracted to first. Practice on young men, old men, bus boys, waiters, men at work, strangers on the street if you feel safe, and anyone behind a counter.

Instead of standing around waving your hands and body in front of him, trying to get his attention, you'll be like a bright beacon of good feelings for him. He’ll get that you’re a warm, safe, wonderful place to be — but that you won't let him close to you unless he makes you feel good.