Shy About Approaching Guys? This Subtle Flirting Move Works (Almost) Every Time

World-renowned relationship coach, New York Times best-selling author, and English dreamboat Matthew Hussey is like the real-life Hitch. According to him, men have four primal, emotional buttons that, when pushed, trigger a positive response. You can use this information to your advantage to flirt more effectively and help create a deeper connection between you and a new guy.

The "provide and protect" instinct is a relatively easy one to trigger. How it's done: Ask him for a favor. "When you ask a favor of a man, you create an emotional bond," Hussey explains.

He adds that picking something easy for him to do will increase his feeling of connection to you. (The technical term for this is the "Ben Franklin effect," and it comes from an old study that confirmed a positive link between doing someone a small favor and your feelings toward the person on the receiving end.)

So, what's the best way to implement this? Next time you're at a bar, ask the guy you're interested in to hold your jacket while you grab drinks for your friends. And don't forget to say thank you. He'll feel good about himself and good about you. Everyone wins!