We are surrounded by success. Although rarely within our grasp, success stories constantly encircle us. The medium is the message and throughout such mediums one stumbles upon daily occurrences of the unacceptable becoming the norm, the unbelievable taking the shape of countless possibilities, the impossible, probable. The young investment banker making a fortune on his IPO, the first successful Asian bastekball player in the NBA breaking stereotypes, the Astrophysicist who defied all laws and rewrote our current knowledge of the universe, some kid from a poor town in Georgia who somehow got a scholarship to the London School of Ballet and managed to be the first man to do whatever it is that you do in ballet, a 19 year old DJ from Sweden becoming a world sensation in the music industry are but few of the millions of examples.

Nature vs. Nurture can be argued in virtually all success stories. On the one hand, nurture is a significant factor in defining any achievement. Someone born in the First World and raised appropriately with two parents in fortunate circumstances will be given way more opportunities and has a far greater chance of success than an ill-fated third-world byproduct of poverty and poor family planning. Nevertheless, roughly 80% of accomplishments and actions one undertakes are directly related to genetics. This correlation exists in virtually all fields. As concrete examples, however, let us dabble into easily seen instances: someone measuring 6'7 above ground will have a 300% higher chance of becoming a basketball player than someone who stands at 5'10. A symmetrically good looking person, has a much better shot at working in modelling, acting or other entertainment realms than someone who does not exhibit photogenic traits. Regardless, in the end, all we are left with to critically examine so as to bring out the essential elements is DRIVE.

DRIVE is loosely defined by how relentlessly we exert inescapable pressure to force something we desire. How badly does someone born with an extremely tall gene (Nature) wants to be an NBA all-star? What is the character of Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting prepared to go through to be the next Einstein?

Consequently, one's drive for women is also genetic. Inherently different in all men, it can be largely stereotyped by extremes of black and white with a huge shade of gray encompassing a middle majority. Nonetheless, throughout this spectrum, men experiencing different variations of DRIVE will have a common initial reaction. At busy night venues in the fun districts of Vegas, NYC or LA, beautiful women float around like fish in an undiscovered pond. An eclectic mix of professionals and celebrities, mingle through the latest sounds of dirty house beats and overpriced watered-down Vodka drinks. All heterosexual males heedless of marketability status to women (i.e. BETA, White Knight, Alpha, men relatively new to Venusian Arts, those who have not traveled or those who have been around the world) are overcome by feelings of desire when gazing at these women. This is completely normal and natural. The difference, of course, lies on the levels of their DRIVE. As the rest of this article will demonstrate, the contrast between their DRIVE as measured by how much one is willing to put up with or go through to actually achieve it, will be vastly different.

In order to further illustrate this point, a description of a typical 'hot girl' scenario, recurrent in all night venues is suitable where the THREE most common reactions experienced by men are noticeably observed.

The scenery:

A New York City Nightclub. The dated electronic timepiece, edgily displayed from the ceiling, reads way past midnight. A symmetrically gorgeous, thin-wasted Blonde with shapely thighs, Brazilian like bottom and amazing cleavage [for the purposes of this post she will be "Big Tit Blonde"] holding the arm of a mediocre looking individual, massaging him, playing with his glasses is seductively motioning only steps away. As men see this phenomena rampant throughout the night, there are several thoughts that run through their head. The first initial thought is undoubtedly..."I wanna fuck her," something that every heterosexual male of every background or walks of life will feel. However the delayed reaction could not be more diverse.

There are THREE different reactions associated with the above scenario resulting in THREE immensely different 'types' of guys. For the sole purposes of this article they shall be dubbed as Guy #1, Guy #2 and Guy #3

After witnessing the above scenario, Guy #1 will respond with something along the lines of "damn...she is hot, I wanna fuck her." However, he will bottle up that feeling and go on with the rest of his life given that his main focus is somewhere else. His DRIVE, while presently existent in every core of his body is severely dominated by different elements. This guy might have a passion for surfing. He gets with women but surfing comes first. He might even be in a monogomous relationship with a girl simply because he wants to maintain that part of his life as routine and orderly in order to continue his surfing career. Hanging around as many Guy #1's as possible can only improve one's life as most of them help bring about positive results in many areas. The DRIVE they dedicate to their craft is not only inspirational but also filled with positive nuances of well balanced energy.

Guy #2 glances at that exact same scene in the club. Initially he will unsurprisingly think, "god damn, she is hot." Immediately, he will then hide himself and go through his entire life ignoring any feeling that might arise those exact same desires. The troubles this 'type' undergoes to not expose himself to anything remotely resembling "Big Tit Blonde" equals only his desperate attempts in search of the antidote. Engaging in sexual intercourse with his mediocre girlfriend, putting up with a lot of bullshit, staying in a mundane and boring relationship while having the once in a while satisfaction of drinking beer with his buddies, fantasizing about pouring bbq sauce all over the waitresses tits, a site he will need in order to perform in bed with his girlfriend/wife, sums up his life in and out of the bedroom. Guy #2's delayed reaction is FEAR of the unknown and any negative feelings associated with it. The thoughts of her being a Gold-digger, connected to wiseguys, slut (as if the girl he will end up with hasn't blown 20 guys in College including his best friend and 2 monks from the local monastery) are but a few of the 37 illusions that pollute his mind. Guy #2, realizing that achieving something like her will be an insurmountable not to say impossible task, gives up even dreaming of possessing women of that calibre altogether. The whole idea simply scares him and he will say anything negative to convince himself and others that the mediocre looking dude with the glasses is really unhappy inside and that his own Beta male fuckup life is the epicenter of happiness.

Now there exists a third guy that will have a different reaction to the above scenario from the previous two 'types'. He belongs to a minority of men that exist in any society regardless of race/culture/population size etc. As Guy #3 looks at the scenario, his heartbeat is elevated. He is overcome with feelings of desire, want, must-have and whether he realizes it or not, he will never be happy unless he is in the companionship of "Big Tit Blonde" and hundreds of girls like her. This guy, has a very high DRIVE. His, is very different than sex drive. It is a drive to hunt and fuck these women. Sex DRIVE is fucking the same women five or six times, falling asleep, waking up and repeating the same act nine more times. Men who exhibit such traits are most likely premature ejaculators, which is not a great ailment to embody. Guy #3, on the other hand, will entertain the companionship of "Big Tit Blonde" for the evening and perhaps the night, wake up, take a walk around the neighbourhood and fantasize about gaining the companionship of the new Barista at Starbucks...simply put, he is planning his next move. The idea of possessing these women, chasing them, sleeping with them will never leave his mind. He can lie to himself as much as the Beta male, but he is genetically different. He can end up marrying, but he will most likely end up cheating, divorced, living a double life or brutally unhappy. Unless he realizes that this is who he is and accept the fact that his DRIVE for women is different that someone else's, he will never be content.

While Guy # 3 may exhibit few feelings of jealousy towards the guy with the glasses, instead of unleashing negative feelings towards the guy or the hot blonde he tries to figure out the method to his success.

I first realized this, in my younger years, a time when hunting in Toronto actually produced results. Fearless, I would approach and chase after (literally running after) young girls that gave me half a smile and thought ill of everyone that did not do the same. I simply could not understand it and dismissed them as stupid. One night, I was having a beer at a sitdown pub chosen by some friends for the sole purpose of sitting down, drinking beer and not talking to any chicks. As I said it was a venue chosen by my lame ass friends. A hot girl sat down at another table nearby. I immediately got these feelings inside me. I wanted to get up, go over to her table, talk to her and hopefully fuck her, always thinking of the end result. Looking around the table, my friends (there were four of us) said "damn that girl's hot", "god i wanna cum on her tits" and "I hope she comes and sits on my lap" respectively. These were idiotic, eighth grader, childish remarks that do not yield any results (event to an eighth grader).

I said, "Ok, well, why don't you get up, walk over there and talk to her..." (this was a different time in Toronto, it has be spiraling down the last 4-5 years). I simply did not understand how they could say something so profoundly sexual and than leave it at that. So, naively, I would persist "Dont you wanna fuck her, dont you wanna fuck her friend? Dont you wanna fuck the waitress? I wanna fuck all 3 of them and I will not be able to sleep at night unless I know I tried, because I know, I will go out to a similar venue and have the exact same feelings and never be rid of them unless I brainwash myself by joining a crazy religious cult."

For years, I could not connect the dots and just said "oh well, these guys are pussies..". While that is partially true, it is also true that my DRIVE was far, far higher. To explain this let us use an athlete example. Everyone dreams at some point to be a pro-athlete, an NBA star, playing for Barcelona FC, winning Wimbledon, scoring a touchdown at the Super bowl but very few actually manage to even play at Varsity level and even fewer manage to go Pro, whereas a select minority get off the bench and make the headlines. The higher they succeed, the higher the drive they have and the stronger their passion for that sport. The successful football player, lives and breaths football. Does he get laid? It would be an understatement to say with very beautiful women. But his main concern is not banging some model. Football always comes first. He trains every day non-stop, programs his mind, so that he is successful at playing the game. Usually, the bench-warmers are often the womanizers of the team just because their drive is for "something else" while also been blessed with the physical attributes to actually make it to the bench.

Men have different drives. Some men are driven by money. The drive these men experience for $$ is so meticulously powerful that they are in constant maneuvers finding quick money making schemes, business ideas and models, hard core networking, salesmanship etc. Sure everyone wants to be rich, but the guy that gets there (assuming his dead uncle did not leave him a substantial fortune) is the guy with the highest drive for Capital. These are men that wake up to a big large sign over their bed that says "Are you a millionaire yet?" (yes, there's actually people that put up such motivational signs).

Some guys, have a drive for working out and continually confusing their muscles, finding different ways to challenge their bodies. These are guys with superstrict workout routines always thinking about their next meal.

Yet others are driven by a thirst for knowledge. Challenging the laws of physics, math etc. This of course is not black and white. Just because you do not fall into any of these categories does not mean you do not have a drive. The guy who wins the Nobel Prize in Mathematics for coming up with a ground breaking formula has a very high drive for the last category, but a Phd. Professor teaching Advanced Logarithmic Statistical Theory at Guelph also has that drive, just not at the levels of the Nobel Prize winning Laureate. There's a correlation between the drive you embody and the success you have or will achieve.

Lastly, there are guys who for some reason have very low testosterone levels, equating in low drive (see def: men that simply slide through life, taking as few risks as possible). They are willing to put up with a monotonous, intellectually inferior, but safe government job, involving the exact same repetitive tasks their whole life. Men that dream of having ONE mediocre girl they can later call wife. Men that continue to lie to themselves. These men fall into the Guy #2 group. Limiting your time with the aforementioned group can only result in excellent social politicking although cutting them off completely would be unsavvy. It is always interesting to know what the "other side" is like every once in a while. However, time spent with such men should be confined since they have a pessimistic attitude and a tendency to abuse any goals or ideas with skepticism. One should never try to "convert" them!

For anyone that fits into the Guy #3 category, take note. You should not consider yourself cursed or unlucky because one woman will not be able to satisfy you or because you cannot lie to yourself like the second guy. You should consider yourself lucky. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. The rest is up to you. You know that the only way you will have a positive level of happiness is if you bang the "Big Tit Blonde" girl and many like her, continuing for more opportunities with others.

Like I have argued numerous times, Guy #3's exist in every community. Those who find themselves in a society that bathes in morals of sexual liberalism, involves favorable ratios of males to females and more importantly is blessed with a copious amount of "Big Tit Blonde" girls playing with "mediocre guy", are lucky and are able to satisfy their thirst and maintain a DRIVE-BALANCE. With tons of "Big Tit Blonde" girls around, Guy #3 is involved with one or two, looking forward to meeting another on the weekend whilst currently developing himself financially, physically, mentally in order to achieve his full potential.

Unfortunately, if Guy #3 happens to be in a society that is deemed unsuitable for men, even by Guy #1 and #2 groups than Guy #3 is looking at a terrible scenario. How can he satisfy his drive when "Big Tit Blondes" are a rarity? Moreover, how can he gain the companionship of "Big Tit Blondes" (the very few that are available) when no access is granted due to unsuitable terrain, cliquey culture, over-evaluated sense of self. In this societyGuy #2 WINS. He has a very low drive to begin with and sooner or later will stumble across that monotonous job and 'princess' syndrome prone girl he can bathe with flowers and gifts at the same time being extremely happy seeing Guy #3 continue to fail.

Toronto is a hellwhole for Guy #3, heaven for Guy #2 and mediocre for Guy #1.

As time passes by, Guy #1 will most likely convert to Guy #2, however most of his drive will shift towards family and other activities. Toronto is infested with Guy #2s that satiate a woman's social craving with the opposite sex at a worrisome rate. This troublesome invasion of low testosterone males results in utter failure for Guy #3s plight as his chance at producing results and thus balancing his drive gets even smaller.

Take a good look at yourself, think of past experiences and current ones. If you are closer to Guy #3s end of the spectrum than this is definitely not a town for you and unless things change in the coming years, which i doubt they will, your best option is LEAVING. Any material will tell you that part of game, besides the 3-4 times a week outings, routine openers, dresscodes, sexual escalation etc...is leaving your current location for a geographic area that is suitable to run GAME. On a positive note, after years of being Guy #3 in a city like Toronto, you will CLEAN UP in another town (eg. NYC, LA).

I gotta hand it to you man. This is one hell of a read. I have always known I belonged to Guy 3 but could never word it like this. AMAZING POST. Keep it up

G

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brazilq

5/18/2012 19:52:04

As the first guy i feel im startin to slowly getting into habits of guy number 2 here. im an attractive, tall, muscular guy. i have what you would call a swimmers body. but dealing with girls here is just ridiculous. they act like theyre all kim kardashians. fuck that. i think those self entitlement posts were awesome. you have no idea the online profiles and stories a guy like me has

Im currently guy # 1. I tend to drift from being only guy 3 to being only guy 1. After Im done with schooling Im very sure Ill be a blend of guy 1 and 3

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J

5/30/2012 21:02:46

In all honesty, this was the piece that was always in production from a writing perspective since it took me a while to figure this out, But after years of dating, travelling and discovering I was finally able to put the pieces of the puzzle together.

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garvan

6/6/2012 08:19:51

In Toronto, being a guy #3 requires that you transcend normal PUA game, and essentially redefine interactions.

It takes a long fucking time to do though, and requires one to hone in on a niche.

Good thing I love alt-girls.

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J

6/7/2012 12:18:49

I hear okcupid is filled with them...

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Rt

9/7/2012 04:03:52

Very true. If you can stomach them - OKC is filled to the rim with horny hipster chicks. Some offer quality, but most are just easy fun.

Walker

4/22/2014 14:39:25

Toronto is hell on earth for Guy #1 and Guy #3 who eventually end up emigrating to the USA, Asia or Europe etc...heck even south America where countries like Brazil are coming up in the world. F*ck the Venusian Arts. Once you're out of canada, you don't need that bullshit - in fact it acutally becomes counterproductive.
My advice for guy #1 and #3 still stuck in Canada - focus 100% on self improvement, forget about experiencing women and life in general there.
To satisfy sex drive/ hunger you're gona have to engage in LTR (long term relationship with at least 1 girl). I myself had 2 gf's in Ontario, both in different cities far from each other, but now finally moved back to the States after wrapping up family business in Toronto and successfully earning hard Univ. Credits :D
- DO NOT GAME IN CANADA - THE NO FUN COUNTRY. GO LTR with a girl who has a foreign background (NOT ANGLO) otherwise just slap the monkey, if you're not good at abstinence.
Canuck Anglo are very different than American and British "Anglo" girls. American and British are not 1/2 bad - canuck anglo girls are NASTY, ill-bred, banal, hateful, offensive with a stick up the ass - JEALOUS OF Guy 1 and 3 the way the type 2 beta guys typically are but not afraid to show it due to their perverse brand of misandric canuck feminism. A country full of Betas plus the bitches who think they can do whatever they wanna do. Some ill shit - must see to believe otherwise it be unconscionable for you as an American or other foreigner despite your superior intelligence and life experience compared to a typical canadian.

Walker

4/22/2014 15:43:51

"On a positive note, after years of being Guy #3 in a city like Toronto, you will CLEAN UP in another town (eg. NYC, LA)."

- You gotta stop saying this. This is not true. NYC, LA and the US in general is superior to Canada, especially with regarding to social life. A canuck would be a social dud anywhere.
Type 3 will only clean up after he unlearns the ingenuine crap he had to learn to survive in dreary piece of shit town like Toronto where finally learning to loosen up and act like a human being for once.
If the type 3 was intelligent enough to not buy into canuck Brainwashing through it's wretched social engineering to begin with, then he'll probably shape up sooner than other 3's upon living in the US or elsewhere for sometime.
A person who spend the first 18 years of his life in Canada has to re experience true life all over again in the US or another country. Has to abandon the ingenuine canadian ways. Similar to a rebirth.
Only someone who's seen Canada can understand the f*cked up Canadian frame of mind.

Boy Toy

10/25/2012 03:07:39

Very good post. Im a clear type 3, and it is a good way to understand why other guys act different. Thank you :)

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Walker

4/22/2014 15:14:19

YEAH YOU CANUCKS ARE ALL GUY 3s. MY Ass. As a well travelled American I can tell you that Toronto (and Canada in general) is a no man's land for the guy 3 type hence rare. True Guy 3's aren't emotionally nurtured in Toronto and rest of Canada, tho there are very few exceptions to this rule. MARKOVIK IS ALSO NO GUY 3 by American or World standards - he's just good at pretending he's a guy 3. Keep painting your nails black and using eye liner big man LOL.
I have many European and Russian European friends who are guy 3's (none of which I met in Toronto) and their influence rubbed off as I was growing up in my teens.
When I was in Canada (a 9/10 Mediterranean guy myself) I was forced to become a guy Guy 1 temporarily. Now that I moved back to America, I'm now a blend of both 1 and 3. Most men in US are blend of both while 3/4ths of Canadians are still guy 2s.
Thats just the way the girls and women in Canada like their boys and men, (dumb in the head who don't ask too many questions) just give them shitty sex and tell them how pretty they are too from time to time.
The only true Canadian guy 3 is the author of this "Living The Dead city" submission, he's probably not even living in Canada anymore. My guess - probably picked up and moved to a big US city somewhere.
The rest of you are mostly still guy 1s, who I have tremendous respect for, which is good or at least transitioning to a guy 1 from a guy 2, due to the awareness you gained from reading this exceptional piece.
KEEP FIGHTING THAT SHITTY, PARASITIC AND WRETCHED CANUCK SOCIAL ENGINEERING. Don't let it bring you down.
Mind you, ultimately you're gonna have to permanently leave canada to preserve your sanity and protect your new found identity from working on yourself.
For example, my father was a guy 1 but he married my mom who was very good looking in her prime. But before meeting my mom he was also a blend of 1 and 3. The highly intelligent types who NEED women :)
Why do you think USA and a lot of other nations are light years ahead of canada?! one reason among many is because our girls put out to the good quality, high caliber men instead of scaring us away where we transfer our ingenious talents to other countries. Ask yourself why is canada such a branch plant economy and the USA is not? You are louzy at setting up your own companies because your women and people (shitty social atmosphere) scare away all the talent.
When it comes down to it, Canadian women prefer to give the time of day and even put out to type 2's or other similar and worse (bad boy wannabe) trash due to their unique brand of insecurity which is unconscionable anywhere else in the world. They hide behind mixed signals to type 1 and 3 guys without doing anything tangible with you or even talking to you - in fears of being labeled a slut or worse (dealing with other bitches jealousy). I'VE NEVER EXPERIENCED THIS KIND OF WEIRD BULLSHIT IN THE USA OR ANY WHERE ELSE IN THE WORLD BEFORE EXPERIENCING CANADA FIRST HAND FOR A FEW YEARS LOL.
backwards, ill-bred, banal country = canada.

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Walker

4/22/2014 15:47:48

"On a positive note, after years of being Guy #3 in a city like Toronto, you will CLEAN UP in another town (eg. NYC, LA)."

That's like saying after year of surfing in the coast of Northern Norway, you'll be beating all the other pro surfers in Hawaii and Australia. LOL I DON'T THINK.
The rest of the article tho is right on the money. The reason why a 3 does well in the USA is because the people and women in general are responsive (like human beings should be) unlike f*cking abnormal piece of trash Toronto, Canada. A 3 from Canada is just starting to learn how to socialize in the US, Asia or Europe etc etc.
You cannot adapt to a place like Toronto and Canada in general which doesn't respond to you. NO WHERE LIKE IT IN THE UNIVERSE. WEIRD COUNTRY MAN.

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