ETA --> i just noticed your siggy, congrats! How, exactly, are you going to have time to give her even MORE attention though? Have you tried methods like 1,2,3 Magic, Love and Logic, or anything like that? A book that has had lots of useful advice for me dealing with my 7 1/2 year old is called "Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child". Of all the parenting technique books I've read, Setting Limits has been the most effective and most helpful. It's not a cure, but if your DH insists that you can't do anything further, then you may want to read this and try some of what it suggests.