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They just mean be comfortable and say what you wana say, do what you wana do. which is absolute bullshit. the probability of getting shot down being "yourself" on the first approach... is too high. there are better ways...Hold Up, why as you asking Girls how to approach girls... you ask Guys... not girls. most don't know what its like to approach.

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My guy friends will probably roast me lol, but what do you do and what's your advice for me

Yea, your guy friends WILL taunt you...(so will I) but in the end, we will still offer tips and how to's. its not that hard to approach girls... only like 3 things you gotta work on and none of them have anything to do with the girl...

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Sorry. It's just that all "being yourself" means is to be yourself. Don't lie about what you're into or like. BE HONEST. If she asks you how you feel about something, TELL HER HOW YOU ACTUALLY FEEL. If she wants to know what you're interested in, TELL HER WHAT YOU'RE ACTUALLY INTERESTED IN.

You should never pretend to be into something or lie about something just to make yourself more attractive. So yeah. It has to do with confidence. Be confident in who you are. There is a wonderful episode of Bratzillaz that talks about "being yourself." You might find it useful.

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I'm corny and I say corny things. That's myself and I don't understand how confidence comes into the equation

You have to be confident. Meaning that you have to like who you are. This is often exemplified personally through not allowing what others say or think about you having an effect ont he way you view yourself. So if someone thinks you're stupid for saying corny things, you don't let it effect you. You don't get upset or depressed. You just move on.

So when you go on a date or talk to a girl, you have to be unflappable. If you go in feeling negative about who you are because someone else said that they don't like the jokes you tell or they don't like your hobbies, then you're screwed. You're going to be nervous and you'll doubt yourself. You won't tell the jokes you usually tell and you probably won't mention what kind of stuff you do, because you have this preconceived notion that people don't like that part of you. But if you go in there confident, then that stuff won't effect you. You'll be able to express who you are mush easier.

It means to just go for it, without trying to be someone else. For example, changing your personality and trying to be this cool badass.Just be direct, and be polite. Don't try too hard or be desperate. It will backfire.

"Yea dude, I'm a corny ass nigga who says corny ass jokes. That's myself" well nigga you aren't going to be getting any pussy sadly. Yet if you faked , a lot of girls would probably fall for you just long enough for you to hit it, and quit it.

#PS IMHO this is why the "OMG I thought he loved me" line exists now. Since unless your average guys #fakes it, he won't be able to get laid, right?

@Tdieseler lmao aye this broads be telling these guys all bs on gag. "Omg just be yourself" so what if the guy is a "man who likes to talk down to women and is full of himself" should he really be himself then? Naw cuz if that's the case hell never get laid, right? So he'll fake it until he makes it lol

to some point... no one... guy or girl is ever themselves at first... well, there are a few crazy mofos (me) that will do that but you don't see niggas jumping in a pool without checking out the depth and temperature... gotta test first. its just the way it is.

@Tdieseler agreed and yeah I'm the same way aka wild and random when it comes to meeting girls for the first time... That way they can't say they di&nt know what they were getting themselves into things jumped off between us 😫😣😂😂😂

Be yourself - meaning you don't act differently for different people. You act the way you normally act.

Some people tend to change the way they dress, speak, act just to impress a girl. I am not saying this is wrong, but if you're not comfortable with those changes, you will end up reverting back to whatever comfortable actions you're doing and may make the other person feel different about you.

being yourself means figuring out the truthcause I'm pretty sure half of what you learned is a lienow have you thrown out half of the garbage cause if you believe a lie you are not being yourself you are acting out on your belief

LMAO what you said isn't going to happen, I mean you can't expect him not to want to fuck hoes, right? So after being rejected or not getting the "play" he wants from girls he's going to become a "wolf in sheep's clothing" or should I say "he'll fake it, until he makes it" with women lol.