I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this, Stephanie. I've felt the same about my dad for the past 5 years and I know it isn't a fun feeling. Honestly, your mom is right. The best thing that you can do is ignore him. But, don't listen to what he says and try to ignore the effects of that. Just ignore him. Period. Let what he says go in one ear and out the other. If you can manage to tune him out completely, things will be a little bit easier. Also, it's so important that you talk about these feelings with someone, whether it's a friend or a counselor. Trust me, it helps more than you realize. Oh, and please stop hurting yourself! Do you remember when you were a little kid and people said never to let bullies get to you because they weren't worth it? Same idea. Your dad is being a big bully and he's not worth you hurting yourself over. So, please just try to stop. My PM box is always open if you need to talk.