Self-Injury Support Group

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cutting + relationships = hell

Not yet but I can imagine it might. A lot of people are really understanding and it's awesome if you find someone who isn't scared of it or judgemental. Of course there will always be those people who can't handle it but that's life. Then there are the people who try to 'rescue' you..ahh don't get me started on that haha...

yes. its hard to have a good relationship and be a cutter. because guys(and sometimes even girls) cant handle it if they dont understand the pain ur going through. people who dont cut dont understand, its very hard.

I think the SI can cause problems in any relationship. One because the partner doesn't understand why you would want to sit there and cut you body. Second because they feel like they are doing something wrong in the relationship to make you want to cut. Even if they are not doing anything wrong.

I've struggled with SI for many years now. My boyfriend at the time who is now my husband didn't not understand or agree with it at all. Both times he found out I was SIing he got really angry and upset, and told me I had to stop. After stopping after the second time for 3 yrs. I started back up. He of course found out and at first he was really upset and angry, but now he is trying to understand and be more supportive of me.

So what I think is if that person loves you enough then your problem should never be to much to handle. Yes it might take them awhile to understand what you are going through, but love should be able overcome any problem in a relationship.

Sorry for this being so long. I was just really interested in this post.

I've been with people who have cut in the past, but gave it up. They understood, they said they were always there to listen, but I always hated bringing into relationships because it was a daily thing and I didn't want our relationship to be based around that.

I've also been with a guy who was a cutter. We both leaned on one another so much that it wasn't healthy. If one cut, the other would do as soon as they found out. Mainly because we were disappointed that the other couldn't talk about what was going on..

So, yes, I think it always messes up relationships. I was friends with this one guy and he had never cut, but he was VERY understanding. He knew that if I absolutely needed to cut, then it was better to do that than to attempt suicide. He knew it kept my alive, but he was always worried. He had to talk to me every night before bed and he was the first to call me each morning just to make sure I was okay. If I had cut, I would tell him and he was okay about it. He would just ask me how bad it was and if I was being safe about it (cleaning them, etc).

So, unless you get something like that last guy I mentioned.. Well, you're pretty much screwed.

my current boyfriend has left me over it before, about a month after we started dating. but we got back together and since then he's only left me one other time, and that was because he thought that no matter what he did or said that i was going to kill myself. things since then for us have changed. he understands cutting more, he knows that i really really need to cut, that it's better i do that than drink, do drugs, or attempt suicide. he's really supportive of me but i always wear the guilt that im a burden to his life and that hed be so much happier if i were normal. i have stopped cutting now (hasnt been long...but im trying...) but my alter personality has not. she is bent on hurting me though...she hates me...she's had my boyfriend in a panic more than a few times and its really really hard for him...we're working through things and hes starting to understand cutting more and moree. but yes, i do think that cutting hurts relationships. like another said, they either dont understand or they think that they've done something wrong and have caused you to do it. if that's the case for you, then i think that you should maybe sit down and talk with him about it. that might really help, cuz it helped my boyfriend and i.

its i causing problems with my current boyfriend and were on the verge of breaking up at the moment becuase he openly struggles to find me physically attractive covered in scarring. so now we just ignore th eissue which isnt to healthy.

Me and my boyfriend are ok about it. He would be a wreck if I ever do it again though. We started dating 5 months ago and its been almost a year since I cut so he's never seen cuts on me, just the scars. He says they don't bother him at all and he still thinks im beautiful ...Im just so self conscious...and terrified about slipping up...I know he wont leave, but his reaction would kill me

I'm sort of getting into a relationship, where it'll soon be intimate against my will, but I will, I'm just worried because everything is on my upper thigh and I told them I stopped. I don't know what it will do.

Today is my 25th birthday, to my somewhat lack of surprise I can see already no one really seems to care. I've always been the kinda person to make sure that everyone I Care about feels appreciated and knew somebody had their back. I can count 4 times this year when I Went out of my way to make sure a "friend" felt good on their birthday, especially if they got left hanging. Its early in the...

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