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Dr. med. R. Febres Landauro

FAQ's Sexsucht

Quelle (u.a.) & Empfohlene Literatur: "The Game Plan" by Joe Dallas

"People suffer from sexual obsession when sexual thoughts control them rather than being able to control the thoughts."[Earl Wilson, Sexual Sin' , p. 15] "To be controlled by anything other than Jesus Christ is idolatry andtherefore sinful." [ibid., p. 18]

Now, you may ask what burning cedar and sin have in common., or have one with the other other.

This morning I fed my wood stove early in the morning with some small cedar blocks to boost the heat output. Later on when I opened the door to add more firewood, bits of cedar hot coals spit out onto the floor.

It crossed my mind at that time that sin is just like that. When we open the door to sin, a small fire begins to grow in you. The more you add to it's pleasures, the hotter it gets. And when you try to close the door on it on your own, you are able to control it for a short time. But later on as temptation arises and you give in that temptation and open up the door once again, sin spits out at you with even more fury, consuming you. I had a hard time controlling the embers of coal that were spitting out at me. Each time I reached out and picked up one ember and opened the door to throw it back into the firebox, another ember spit out at me, and often a few more wouldcome at the same time, to the point that I was having a hard time to keep it under control. Isn't that just like sin. The more we play with it, the more it keeps coming at us.

The moral of this little story is, do not open the door to sin at any time. And if you have, then lock the door permanently to it, so that it cannot gain control over you ever again. The more you play with sin, the more it controls you. And the harder it is after the fact to get rid of it.

"Forgiveness does not mean ignoring what has been done or putting a false label on an evil act. It means, rather, that the evil act no longer remains as a barrier to the relationship." Martin Luther King

Pure Restorationwww.purerestoration.orgThe Pure Restoration workshops help men of all ages better understand & recover from pornography addiction (including internet pornography) & infidelity. Pure Restoration.s co-creator Joe Dallas & his inspiring, results-oriented, 4-day recovery workshops have helped thousands of men over the last 3 years. If you are ready to take control of this problem instead of continuing to let it control you, then we can help.

At New Life Ministries we receive hundreds of calls every month from Christian men who are struggling to stay pure in the midst of daily challenges to their sexual integrity. We are committed to helping men win this battle for sexual purity, & have developed workshops for men, their wives, & pastors, all of which are focused on helping men achieve & maintain victory over these temptations.

Every Woman's Battlewww.everywomansbattle.comThe only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind & heart as well. Every Woman's Battle, an outreach of New Life Ministries, can help you learn to do that using real-life stories & examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you - whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.

Desert Stream MinistriesFounded and directed by Andrew Comiskey, author of Pursuing Sexual Wholeness and the Living Waters program, this ministry brings the healing power of Jesus to men and women struggling with sexual and relational issues such as homosexuality, sexual addiction, and sexual abuse. Ministry groups are held throughout the U.S.P.O. Box 17635, Anaheim, CA 92817-7635714-779-6899714-779-6899www.DesertStream.org

Focus on the Family This ministry features the resources of author Dr. James Dobson and other Christian experts on a myriad of topics including marriage, the family, pornography, and unfaithfulness.800-A-FAMILY800-A-FAMILY (232-6459)www.Family.org and www.PureIntimacy.org

Heart to Heart Counseling CentersFeatures the resources of Dr. Douglas Weiss, a counselor, lecturer and author of such books as Faithful and True: Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World and 101 Practical Exercises for Sexual Addiction Recovery.5080 Mark Dabling Blvd., Colorado Springs, CO 80918719-278-3708719-278-3708www.SexAddict.com

Pure Life MinistriesThis ministry offers the resources of author Steve Gallagher, plus residential care, phone counseling, help for wives of men in sexual sin, and Men of Purity Weekends.14 School Street, Dry Ridge, KY 41035877-301-7566877-301-7566www.PureLifeMinistries.org

Theophostic Prayer Ministries Pastors, professional counselors, and lay ministers use this method of prayer counseling to bring the healing power of Jesus to people with a wide variety of emotional wounds.P.O. Box 489, Campbellsville, KY 42719270-465-3757270-465-3757www.Theophostic.com

What If? Freedom MinistriesPhil and Bobi Naukam founded this ministry to assist others in escaping the grip of pornography.P.O. Box 470252, Tulsa, OK 74147-0252918-249-FREE918-249-FREE (3733)www.WhatIfMinistries.com

Further Reading

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker with Mike Yorkey, Waterbrook Press. (This book also contains sections written especially for the wives of men who struggle with pornography.)

Addicted to "Love," by Stephen Arterburn, Servant Publications.

Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction and the Healing Power of Jesus, by Russell Willingham, InterVarsity Press.

Personal Holiness in Times of Temptation, by Bruce Wilkinson, Walk Thru the Bible Ministries.

Restoration Manual - A Workbook for Restoring Fallen Ministers and Religious Leaders. A step by step process of organizing a Restoration Team for a repentant pastor with practical recovery steps. This unique workbook will help the broken minister pick up the pieces of his life as it gives hope and direction.

You Can Become Porn Free - Learn how to stop the habit with God's help. Includes tips on avoiding porn, steps to breaking the habit, spiritual warfare points, deliverance, salvation steps, testimonial, links and much more!

Pure Intimacy - A resource for those struggling with online pornography

Breaking the Power of Pornography - Pornography seems to make everything better--until it makes everything worse. Ironically, the journey to freedom and change is just the opposite. Everything usually gets worse before it gets better. The one thing a man can expect to encounter is the unexpected. It is a trademark of God to use the unusual to bring about His purposes.

Great Support System for Recovery - The support group participants, whatever their need, find the extra care and encouragement necessary to grow beyond the wounds of life's battles, the difficulties in family relationships, the bondage of addictive habits and behaviors, and the isolation caused by shame. OO meetings are filled with the faith, hope, and love that only God can provide through Christ

Home Site for Sex Addicts Anonymous - Sex Addicts Anonymous, SAA, is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other so they may overcome their sexual addiction and help others recover from sexual addiction or dependency.

Healing From Sexual Brokenness - Mastering Life Ministries is an interdenominational, non-profit Christian ministry. It exists in order to target areas of life where people are caught and deceived into unhealthy, dysfunctional life-styles that separate them from the power and blessing of God, and to equip the Church to redemptively minister to such people.

Our primary focus is sexual sin and brokenness, and related issues such as intimacy with the Father, performance orientation, anger management, etc. The tools of our ministry include film, television, and radio as well as seminars and publications that communicate the truth of Jesus Christ.

MORALITY IN MEDIA, INC is a national, not-for-profit, interfaith organization established in 1962 to combat obscenity and uphold decency standards in the media. It conducts public information programs to educate and involve concerned citizens, and maintains the National Obscenity Law Center, a clearinghouse of legal materials on obscenity law.

ObsenityCrimes.Org - A Resource for Educating the public and for Reporting possible violations of Internet Obscenity Laws.

The Good Shepherd Restoration Ministries - We're here to help both Believers and non believers overcome all forms of addictions; Alcoholism, Drug Addiction, Compulsive Gambling, Over-Eating, Compulsive Sexual Behaviors, as well as Co-Dependence and Love Addiction.

Beattie, Melody Codependent No More Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1986. Recovery has begun for millions of individuals with this straightforward guide. Through personal examples and exercises, readers are shown how controlling others forces them to lose sight of their own needs and happiness.

Schneider, Jennifer, Corley, Deb Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal "We are only as sick as the secrets we keep." This central tenet of recovery from addiction celebrates the liberating, healing experience of disclosure. But the actual process of revealing sensitive secrets related to addiction can be difficult, even excruciating. With a straightforward, step-by-step approach, Jennifer Schneider and Debra Corley help readers discern the type of information that is advisable to share as well as develop a plan for constructive disclosure.

Spring, Janis After the Affair New York: Harper Collins, 1996. No matter the cause of the affair, this book describes how each party feels and how to recover.

Cooper, PhD, Al Sex and the Internet: A Guidebook for Clinicians This is the first professional book covering issues related to sex and the Internet. Leading scholars, clinicians and academicians in the field have contributed to this emerging and often misunderstood area.

Greenfield, David D. Virtual Addiction Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Productions, 1999. Written in simple language, a book on how to break addictive connections to the Internet. Some discussion of cybersex addiction.

Hunter, Mic Joyous Sexuality Minneapolis: CompCare Publications, 1992. This book was written for those raised in families that were negative about sex, overvalued sex, or were sexually shut down.

Kort, Joe Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives Openly gay psychotherapist Joe Kort brings his experience of working with hundreds of gay men in individual and group settings as well as workshops and retreats to his book, "Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives (Alyson Publications) which provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to achieve a healthier, more rewarding life. Chapters include overcoming-avoiding sexual addiction, stages of love, family issues and more.

Maltz, Wendy The Sexual Healing Journey San Francisco: Harper Collins, 1991. A step-by-step guide to recovery from sexual abuse offers first-person accounts of women and men at every stage of the sexual healing journey and includes exercises and techniques for survivors.

Understanding and Recovering From Sex Addiction

Carnes, Patrick Don't Call it Love New York: Bantam, 1991. Results of research on over 1,000 sex addicts.

Ferree, Marnie C. No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Shame This book is a definitive work on sexual addiction issues in women. It will no doubt inspire many who have suffered in silence to seek the professional help they need. Marnie shares her story in a powerful way that will encourage the reader in their personal journey of healing.

Silverman, Sue William Love Sick: One Woman's Journey Through Sexual Addiction In this powerful, often lyric memoir, a woman learns to value herself as a whole person rather than as a sexual object. Silverman explores her skewed belief that sex is love, a belief that began with her father's sexual abuse from early childhood into adolesence. This utterly candid account may be the first memoir by a woman to examine sexual addiction.

More Links

Here is a great list of other choices from our SA friends. **Be
aware that what works may shift/diminish and change over time and
according to the intensity of emotions. BUT....If it stops working, go
to something else.

Phil (TX)

100 ways to stay sober

1 ) Don’t forget the past.
2 ) Don’t overdo any "medication"
3 ) Stay away from acting out places, people, websites
4 ) Acknowledge a total slip will follow the first look, phone call, or turn you shouldn't make.
5 ) Listen and try to help another sex addict today.
6 ) Attend S-Group, AA, or other 12 Step regularly and get involved.
7 ) Help someone today even in the smallest way, not expecting something in return.
8 ) Think about the word "insanity" and "restore" in step 2.
9 ) Maintain a conscious contact with God
10) Ask what you can do for your group.
11) Pause!!! when insanity comes.
12) Ask God to come into your heart and mind in that pause.
13) Get a sponsor immediately!
14) Call your sponsor daily
15) Offer to help your sponsor with some thing
16) Visit a recovery house, or do some volunteer work.
17) Visit a depressed friend
18) Listen to learn
19) In problems, examine your part, first
20) Remember, your disease is incurable, progressive and fatal.
21) Do first things first.
22) Don't become too tired.
23) Eat at regular hours.
24) Use the telephone to call someone in recovery, when upset.
25) Be active - don't just sit around. Idle time will kill you.
26) Say the Serenity Prayer daily.
27) Change old routines and patterns that are not positive.
28) Don't become too hungry.
29) Avoid loneliness.
30) Practice control of your anger.
31) Air your resentments.
32) Be willing to help whenever needed.
33) Be good to yourself, you deserve it.
34) Slow down. Easy does it.
35) Get out of the "IF ONLY" trap.
36) Remember HOW IT WAS. Your last slip, the feelings etc.
37) Beware of how you will react beforehand. Expect your emotions.
38) Help another in his/her recovery, extend your hand, listen.
39) Try to turn your life and your will over to your Higher Power.
40) Avoid all mood-altering drugs, read labels on all medicines.
41) Turn loose of old negative ideas.
42) If you must go to a situation where there will be temptation, take a sober 12 step buddy with you.

43) Replace old acting out buddies with new SA/SAA buddies.

44) Read the AA Big Book slowly.
45) Try not to be dependent on another.

46) Be grateful and when not make a GRATITUDE list.
47) Don't feel sorry for yourself.
48) Seek knowledgeable help when you are troubled.
49) Review step ONE. "We were" is past tense, if we use our new tools.

50) Discuss a paragraph out of the Big Book with someone.

51) Turn your will over to God, knowing some action is needed by you.

52) Say Thank you at the end of each day.
53) Plant the "recovery" seed and accept the rest.
54) Don't try to test your will power Once a pickle always a pickle.

55) Live TODAY, not YESTERDAY, not TOMORROW.
56) Remember that God alone sets the element of QUALTIY and Quantity of time.

68) Get a sponsor and use him/her to learn how to LIVE the 12 steps
69) Know that no matter what your problems, someone's had them before.

Don't be afraid to share, as a problem shared is one 1/2 solved.
70) Strive for progress not perfection.
71) When in doubt ask questions. The only stupid question is the one not asked.
72) Live step 11 with prayer and meditation.
73) Balance yourself.
74) Don't use other things obsessively as a maintenance program.
75) Learn to take spot check inventories.
76) Remember the fact that NOTHING will make you act out again.
77) Know that it’s okay to be human, to make mistakes.
78) Be kind to yourself. Don't be hard on yourself.
79) Take the disease seriously! It can kill you.
80) Know that whatever it is that's causing pain - it shall pass.
81) Smile at the worse problem and see what you can learn.
82) Don't give away more than you can afford too.
83) Don't stay inside too much. Get out, go somewhere!
84) Get a home group and attend it regularly.
85) Don't expect life to be all roses, even in sobriety. Without
problems there would be no use for our existence. 86) Remember step one
begins "WE" You are not alone.
87) Be willing to go to any lengths to stay and be sober.
88) Know that no matter how bleak and dark your past may be, it will get better!
89) Read the Promises in the Big Book page 83 and 84.
90) Don't be in a hurry.
91) Watch out for your EGO.
92) Protect your sobriety at all costs. Keep the light on you.
93) Learn to listen, not just hear. Be open-minded and nonjudgmental.
94) Don't use bad language and dishonor your Creator, Giver of Sobriety, God.
95) If the rest of the world looks bad, check yourself out first.
96) Show gratitude for your clean and sober time.
97) When times get tough.....go to tons of meetings and share!
98) Remember you can cut down any fear, into half or none, by discussing it with another individual.
99) Try to manage your money, budget yourself.
100) Look for those LIVING the 12 steps, not just talking them.

“To be pure, to remain pure, can only come at a price, the price of knowing God and loving him enough to do his will. He will always give us the strength we need to keep purity as something beautiful for God. Purity is the fruit of prayer.”

The 14 Steps

1. We admitted that we were powerless over our homosexuality and that our emotional lives were unmanageable.

2. We came to believe the love of God, who forgave us and accepted us in spite of all that we are and have done.

3. We learned to see purpose in our suffering, that our failed lives were under God's control, who is able to bring good out of trouble.

4. We came to believe that God had already broken the power of homosexuality and that He could therefore restore our true personhood.

5. We came to perceive that we had accepted a lie about ourselves, an illusion that had trapped us in a false identity.

6. We learned to claim our true reality that as humankind, we are part of God's heterosexual creation and that God calls us to rediscover that identity in Him through Jesus Christ, as our faith perceives Him.

7. We resolved to entrust our lives to our loving God and to live by faith, praising Him for our new unseen identity, confident that it would become visible to us in God's good time.

8. As forgiven people free from condemnation, we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves, determined to root out fear, hidden hostility, and contempt for the world.

9. We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs and humbly asked God to remove our defects of character.

10. We willingly made direct amends wherever wise and possible to all people we had harmed.

11. We determined to live no longer in fear of the world, believing that God's victorious control turns all that is against us into our favor, bringing advantage out of sorrow and order from disaster.

12. We determined to mature in our relationships with men and women, learning the meaning of a partnership of equals, seeking neither dominance over people nor servile dependency on them.

13. We sought through confident praying, and the wisdom of Scripture for an ongoing growth in our relationship with God and a humble acceptance of His guidance for our lives.

14. Having had a spiritual awakening, we tried to carry this message to homosexual people with a love that demands nothing and to practice these steps in all our lives' activities, as far as lies within us.

While the Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship was inspired by the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, they are not really an adaptation. Rather, they were created specifically for this Fellowship, and should not be construed otherwise. AA, which is a program concerned only with recovery from alcoholism, and is not in any way affiliated with this Fellowship.

Arthur Goldberg

My Prayers for You

(An Email to A Christian Online-Support Group)

If I were to have but only one breath left in my life knowingly, I believe I would not ask and pray to God for another for myself. But I would pray and ask that He would allow me but a few more breaths to reach out and plead for you my brothers to look to Him with all of your heart, with all of your soul, seeking, searching for Him, to fill you full of the Holy Spirit. That in doing so, you would find the maker of your life, and turn to Him, fully, seeking and desiring the milk of Life, His son Jesus Christ. I would plead that He would give you but a few more breaths so that in that short time, you might repent of your sinful ways, as I have pleaded and prayed for myself many a time.I have prayed many a time to take the place of some of you, and be condemned to hell rather than seeing you to fall into the pits. I am not worthy of such a task, but if God would but allow it , I would for you. Such is my love for the lost. I am but a servant of His, yet, weak and lowly, a sinner such as you. I do not seek gratitude for my love for others. But what I seek, is what God Himself seeks in others., He wants you to humble yourself and admit, that you are a sinner as I am, in need of a Savior. He want you to surrender all to Him, all your love, all your sins, all your weaknesses, all your cares, all your worries. None of us can carry these burdens alone. We need Him.

If I could, I believe I would hang on the cross for you. And yet I know, I cannot. For only a righteous Lamb as Jesus can accomplish and do that feat. But if I could I would try for you.

I cry many a tear for you all believe or not. I anguish that some are only here for a time and will fall away, as we have seen many a time. And yet we have some, who come as lowly children, who come and believe, and grasp the promises of God, and are transformed into His image. For some it is a quick transformation, for others, it is much slower, not because of their own lack of will, but because of the will of God for His own reason for which we may never understand on this side of eternity. Never-the- less, it is not for us to question why, but to accept and do our best to live for Him.

Until He takes us home to be with Him, I will continue to pray for you all , that he will keep you and hold you and mold you to be the man you were made to be. And until He comes I will plead for you all, and if I can, I will step in to hell for you, if it would be His will.

Go Sin No More!

When Jesus told the woman to "go sin no more", what did He mean? Did He mean that she would not sin? I don't think so. I think that Jesus was saying don't sin wilfully like you did before. We have sins of omission, we forget to worship god and sins of comission, we comit sin and know it's wrong. Jesus sets us free from our past sins and asks us as Christians to follow Him .. how often we fail to do this.Yet to sin and induce another to sin as well compounds the sin (makes the sin worse). To know how to do right and then do wrong is sin. And we fall short of the glory of God, God calls us to be 'holy' as He is holy. Our sin takes us away from God and we break our fellowship with God. Sin destroys our union with God. Of course we can confess our sins to God and He will forgive us and cleanse us, isn't that great to know. But we should as the Bible tells us to, "avoid sin", as God understands the ramification of sin in our life.We must practice our Christian faith. Going to church will do noone any good, unless they are 'born again'. Reading many books may give us knowledge but unless we apply the knowledge gained our reading is in vain, much like our Christianity, unless we practice it we are still "without hope and without God' in this world.Believe me I know that sin is powerful, yet I have found a power greater than sin that has set me free. You also can attain freedom by reading and doing and avoiding all places where you may find sin.

Homosexuals Anonymous

Homosexuals Anonymous is an international organization dedicated to serving the recovery needs of men and women who struggle with unwanted same sex attraction.

This fellowship of men and women, who through their common spiritual, intellectual and emotional experiences have chosen to help each other live in freedom from homosexuality.

Welcome to our website

If you are a person who struggles with unwanted same sex attraction, you are not alone Homosexuals Anonymous and many other related ministries, counselors and therapists provide valuable resources that can be of great use to you.

Remember always that while no one chooses to have same sex attraction, many do choose to diminish and eliminate those feelings of attraction. All people have the right to self determination, the right to choose for themselves the aspects that comprise their identity. Through HA, you will meet many people who see their identity as being rooted in their faith and not in their unwanted desires and behaviors.

If you are a parent, relative or friend of someone who struggles with unwanted same sex attraction, you can find helpful resources they will appreciate.

If you are a parent, friend or relative of someone who embraces and lives a gay lifestyle, you can find support, encouragement and hope in the material you will find available to you in website. If you are interested in online support groups or forming a local parents support group, please contact us and let us know how we can serve you.

If you are a minister, counselor or therapist looking for a support group and other resources to serve the needs of a counselee wanting freedom from homosexuality, then please read through our website. In your exploration you will learn who we are and how we can help you.

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Seek Me!

My King

Funny thing, if I remember correctly there once used to be a rabbi who did not have any business plan for church mega-growth. No publicity department. No homepage. No emails. No money. Even those He chose as followers were - theologically speaking - illiterates. A handful of dudes, and one even was a bum.

What was He thinking?

When He preached, He used words that drove people away from Him. He couldn't care less. He even asked the remaining rest if they wanted to leave, too. No political correctness here.

Again: What was He thinking?

He could have used other means. He could have been the kind of leader that people back then (and today?) were waiting for. The mighty warlord. The knight in shining armour. The one that kicks some .... and throws those Romans out.

Yes, He could have. He had all the power to do that - and more than that. And what did He do? He dealt with the lowest of the lowest and humbled Himself to their level. He loved people in a way unknown before. With a love that asked for nothing and gave everything. With a love that puts us to shame even today.

He did not fulfill people's expectations. He did not give them what they wanted. He gave them what they truly needed. And to do so, He gave His utmost: He sacrificed Himself and gave His life so we can live. He came down on earth to become man so men could become sons of God. Dying on the cross like a criminal, He even prayed for those who helped nailing Him up there.

And what's worst: He even asked everything of His disciples. They were told to give - no: to sacrifice! - everything they have. To sell all of their possessions, give their money to the poor and follow Him without even looking back. They were even told to give their own lives!

I guess He would still be sort of out of place in some of the churches today.

If I remember correctly, His name was Jesus.

Anybody by chance remember Him?

He is the ruler of my life. He is the one I love and follow.

He is my king.

My saviour.

Rob

I Have Decided to Follow Jesus

"I have decided to follow Jesus. Though no one joins me, still I will follow."

Assam, north-east India, who held on to Jesus when being told to recounce his faith by the village chief. His wife was killed and Assam as well - while he was singing these words: "The cross before me, the world behind me." His strong faith kept on shining: The village chief and others in the village converted afterwards. (see: Wikipedia)

Freedom from SSA

Guys,

there are many professionals who are able to scientifically explain to you how to find freedom from same-sex attractions.

I am a simple man so I will try to tell you in simple terms.

Imagine a father who wants to teach his son how to ride a bike. He will not give him a lesson on the functioning of each single part, where it came from and what it is made of. Nor will he lecture on how the human body works and how the mind coordinates things. He loves his sonny and wants him to be able to ride that bike on his own.

Of course, he could let him continue to ride with additional wheels, but this is not what the father wants. Daddy knows that his son will likely fall a couple of times. There will be tears and some pain as well. But as a loving father he buys his son a bike and takes him out to teach him how to ride.

Now the son does not expect a big lesson or a manual to start with. Yes, he might be somewhat scared as he does not know what to expect and how to handle this bike without additional wheels that keep it stable. But he knows that he can fully trust his father. He loves his daddy more than anything - and daddy loves him. So he takes a courageous first step and lets daddy show him how to do it.

Daddy will fist be there all the time to hold his son while he rides. However, step by step he will let him run a little bit on his own.

Sonny will ride this first bits all shaky and insecure, but then again he trusts his daddy, so he manages to do it - sort of.

Sometimes he will fall and have his knee scratched. Tears will roll down his cheek, but daddy will hold him im his arms and encourage him to take another effort.

Day by day little sonny will drive a little longer all by himself, until he finally manages to ride that bike completely alone. Daddy will be so proud of his son and his son will come running into his arms, thanking his beloved daddy for keeping his promise to be there all the time when things were getting rough on him. Daddy told him that he will ride that bike and all his little son had to do is to trust him just enough that he goes for it.

Sometimes all that keeps us from succeeding is the lack of belief that it can be done.

Is Homosexuality An Addicition?

I don't see homosexuality as an addiction. Not every homosexual is a sex addict. And even if we talk about behavior or thinking patterns, it's much more than that.

I've done seminars with people from 12-steps groups. Real addicts with eating disorders, alcohol problems, codependency and so on. And while 12-step programs do a great job, I could tell there is a difference between them and "people like us" - even though we sometimes have their problems in addition to ours.

The causes sometimes are the same: family problems and so on. But I wouldn't qualify myself as an addict. Not because I deny things, but because I think there is a LOT more to homosexuality than that. The sex part or even the addictive behavior or thinking part is only the top of the iceberg.

Being a Christian, it ends up the same: sin is sin and Jesus died for us on the cross so sin doesn't have power over us any more.

The biggest problem I had in recovery was not sex or the lack of it. It wasn't really breaking homosexual patterns either (although I don't deny I had a sex or a wrong conditioning problem).

Having had a 12-year relationship with a man, my biggest problem was an emotional one.

You know how that feels like - when you have him in your bed every night? You wake up and turn around and he is laying there, breathing regularly? You wake up in the morning, you have breakfast with him - you simply spend you life with him. And then - BOOM - you're alone. It was male love that I really missed. I know now that this was an illusion and not real love. More some puberty kinda love. But after all it was love. The wrong kind of love, but love.

So during therapy I often found myself REALLY alone. You might call that self-pity, but that's not all. I've always been really disciplined and hard to myself. I know how to work hard and pursue a goal. But boy did I hate being alone. I was alone all of my childhood days and there was nothing that I was yearning for more than love.

Well, to cut it short: now I found healthy relationships. Men and women that God sent me to fill that void in my heart.

And if I learned one thing in all of that: only God can get you out of this.

And it's way more than an addiction. I could have much easier dealt with an addiction, but when it gets to my heart, I am lost.

Saint Mary Magdalene de Pazzi

"Homosexuality is a misguided search for love and affirmation in sexual behavior that is contrary to nature." - Frank Worthen, Father of the Ex-Gay Movement in the USA

"Interesting
that they call it "gay pride" because pride is the worst of sins and
the root of all other sins - in essence a stubborn rebellion against God
and his commandments. This parade in Tel Aviv is awful and shameful not
only because Israel promotes
sexual perversion and the distortion of God's purpose for the human
person, but it's even worse because they celebrate it with "pride".
Remember that God will extend His protection upon you, Israel, only to
the extent that you keep his commandments. In other words, you are
inviting disaster upon your nation. Repent!"

Andre Villeneuve on the Gay Pride in Israel

"What works best? You need a love greater than your desire for the same sex. A love that transcends everything. A love that goes beyond your wildest imagination and dreams. A love and a deep desire for God."