My wife and I only started playing a little over a year a half ago and we were both over 50. Neither of us had any experience - I won't count a pre-Jen bi girlfriend that I credit for some FMF - and we were both monogamous.

We've been like a couple of kids in a candy store and find ourselves playing, with close friends we've developed, nearly every weekend. We've discussed it a lot and are unsure if our level of play is due to the fact our mature ages have lead us to drop pretenses, whether we might be facing our own mortality, or simply that it's a hell of lot of fun and is so new to us.

We've read a lot of forum posts from people who've been in and out of the lifestyle with breaks while they raised families, built careers, etc., but we haven't encountered any who started later in life as we have. We're interested in knowing if we're an anomaly, and if our level of play at our age is, or if we're typical of late bloomers. We'd love to hear from those who also started late in life as well as those with a lifetime of experiences.

As background, we're financially secure empty-nesters and our weekend time is our own. I'm a workaholic during the week and Jen's slowing easing herself into semi-retirement. We have four regular playmates - two handsome males in their 40's and two stunning lades in their mid-30's - and the ladies will occasionally have an additional single male join us as a seventh.

We started playing in our 30s, though she played before that as a unicorn (not sure they had a name for it back then). Looking back, we used to see folks in their 50s and think, we would not still be playing when we reached that point..perspective is everything. The best thing is we have lifestyle friendships that go back more than 20 years and you guys are very special to us.

Virginia Beach VA

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We're what you would call late bloomers. Other than an occasional fantasy the thought of having sex w/ other people just didn't occur to me. Between both of us working and raising kids finding time for just the two of us was difficult enough. Now the kids are grown and we've let go of some our inhibitions or rather I've let go and we're enjoying this time in our lives. He likes to say that I waited till the kids left home to "break bad."

Youngstown OH

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We're late bloomers - started swinging over ten years ago, a few weeks after we had first met. We'd both been fairly promiscuous until we married our exes and then settled down to lives of monogamy, but both of us found it impossible to be faithful (her husband didn't mind her extramarital adventures, but his wife certainly did!). We decided to try swinging as a means of being able to have sex with others openly and without the stress associated with hidden affairs and deceit. Our first visit to a swinger club was a revelation and we went every month until we had a circle of friends and started having home foursomes and moresomes.

The lifestyle has worked perfectly for us; far from interfering with our relationship it has brought us even closer together. We married after a couple of years and we've maintained an average of about one swing a month since we started. The big unknown at the start was how both of us would feel watching the other having sex with someone else, but when it happened we had the same feeling - fascination, not jealousy, and it's still the same today.

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I guess we would be classified as late bloomers because we didn't get into the Lifestyle until our early 50's and didn't start swapping until a few years ago. We were always dedicated to raising our children so that is where most of our time and treasury went. We started just by going to Desire back in 06 for vacations. As we were still both working we eventually started to go to conventions in Florida and clubs in PA, so as not to run into anyone that we might know. We eventually meet some really nice couples in Fl and started with a full swap. I must admit being in the Lifestyle put a charge into our lives. We both started to take care of ourselves by going to the gym on a regular basis and eating a bit healthier. We only recently started partying with local couples and have really started to enjoy house parties but still go to Fl a couple of times a year to meet our swinger friends down there.

Middletown NY

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We started at ages 50 (me) and 49 (she). Lucked into a great group of friends early on. Like you, we found ourselves playing nearly every weekend for a while, either with one other couple or several couples or at a house party.

We enjoyed it immensely, MOST of the time. There were, of course, some uncomfortable moments which are going to occur when you are pushing your boundaries.

After a while, we found we didn't need to play so often, and that the sex might occasionally equal, but never exceeds how good it is at home.

Now it's just fun to have friends you can greet with a French kiss and a fondle!!!! If more happens, that's fine, but it doesn't have to.

Jim

Culpeper VA

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Been in the LS for a while and have enjoyed it immensely.

Knightdale NC

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I am "new" to the LS. My husband is not, and his late wife and he were in the LS. He was married 31 years before she died. I'm mostly enjoying it. Sometimes, I don't enjoy it, because of older men "issues" - other men, not my husband; which take a toll on my esteem. But my husband keeps telling me it's not me, it's them. LOL!

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welcome tbn! I believe you're never too old for fun! Some people start this very early, when they have to shuffle babysitting and work around kids, don't have the money to go to hotels, etc. We don't have those "issues." This is the fun stuff, and we enjoy it when we want to enjoy it.

Gina

San Antonio TX

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Qua, you have videos but didn't post any. : (

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My wife of 19 years had a vast array of sexual partners before we met. We have been sexually adventurous over the years continually pushing the envelope. Her orgasims are my biggest turnon and she can have almost unlimited with the attention of two men. We just got started this past year and are having a great time. At 66 I'm not worrying about it ending anymore than my mortality. Just enjoying what I've got while I've got it. If it stops before my ticker does I'll have the memories and, oh yeah, the videos!!

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