I was in a relationship with a married woman for a couple of years, until several months ago when she broke it off for good. She refuses my calls, returns my mail, and ignores me completely. I desperately want her back. I feel like my life is over without her. I can’t stand it. Can you cast a spell to make her come back to me?
-Obsessed in Florida

Dear Obsessed,

No, no. NO spells. You can’t make someone love you. And why, sweetheart, would you want to? Why do you want someone who clearly doesn’t want you? How would it make you feel to have to coerce someone into being with you? You have to be careful what you ask for, as Emerson advised. You just might get it.

Someone recently told me about her friend Maria who was totally infatuated with a particular man who happened to be in a relationship with someone else. She was determined to have him anyway. She found a Santeria Priest to cast a magnetic drawing spell on him. Soon after, this man’s girlfriend was profoundly injured in a terrible accident. In his misery, he turned to Maria for support and succor. The spell worked. She got him. He beats her. She still has him. She can’t get rid of him.

Some things are just not meant to be. Perhaps a more fruitful approach would be to focus on yourself. Your own needs, your desires, your expectations, and how to best fulfill them. Surely you are entitled to be loved by someone who actually wants to be with you. You deserve to be appreciated for your true self. Especially by you. Allow yourself to experience the love that comes from within. The love that reflects self-respect.

Instead of living spell-bound in the unfulfilled past or the unlikely future, why not try to live more fully in the presence of the flux of the moment. Try to relinquish the need to control your circumstances, and instead, embrace the grand mystery. Welcome the element of surprise into your life. As a testament to your love for this woman, release her with respect and best wishes and sincere thanks for the memories, and then, move on.

Reach out to the world with an open heart and embrace the grace that you find.

Donna Henes is an internationally renowned urban shaman, ritual expert, award-winning author, popular speaker and workshop leader whose joyful celebrations of celestial events have introduced ancient traditional rituals and contemporary ceremonies to millions of people in more than 100 cities since 1972. She has published four books, a CD, an acclaimed Ezine and writes for The Huffington Post and UPI Religion and Spirituality Forum. Mama Donna, as she is affectionately called, maintains a ceremonial center, spirit shop, ritual practice and consultancy in Exotic Brooklyn, NY where she works with individuals, groups, institutions, municipalities and corporations to create meaningful ceremonies for every imaginable occasion.

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