5 things you don’t need to prove in a relationship

Your daily life brings many struggles, and often, these centre around what you imagine other people think of you, and very often, what your partner thinks of you. You could worry about what he says about when you are not around, or what his exact opinion about you is. Even if these worries seem normal in a relationship, there are a few aspects that you must know that you should not have to prove to anyone, especially to your partner in a relationship. These are the cornerstones of the foundation of any relationship, and if you think they are unsteady, you need to do something about it. Read on to find out more.

CharacterYou don’t have to get down to proving this all the time. It cannot be tested on the basis of how you have reacted in a certain situation and what the other person has interpreted. True character will just come through in everyday dealings, it does not have to be announced or emphasised.

PragmatismIf you think a certain way that is more practical and less emotional, you shouldn’t have to keep defending your decisions. Don’t tend to suppress your thoughts and ideas in taking care of the little things or planning in advance since you don’t want to ‘wing it’ just because he might not like it. Your individuality matters as much as his in the relationship, and suppressing it now can only lead to troubles later.

Happiness

The definition of happiness differs for everyone. If you get happy with little things, or simply because you got all the green signals on your drive to work, so be it! Go on, be happy, you don’t have to measure it with his happiness meter or even fake it if he doesn’t like it. In fact, any emotion you feel, you should not need to justify to your partner if he doesn’t see the reason for it. It’s not for him to decide what you should feel and how much you can feel!

EducationOnly you know the hard work that has gone behind what you are today, and what you have studied. If your partner believes that some qualifications are better than others, then he needs to change his perspective. It’s not for you to listen to what he thinks and start to explain to him why you chose the path of education you did. If he challenges you with information on a topic that might be out of your interest, you shouldn’t feel the need to pour over materials on it, just to prove a point.

WillpowerYou can choose what you care about and what you want to put your mind to. If you want to push through an untoward circumstance to achieve something, just do it! You don’t have to keep waiting for your partner’s nod, if he doesn’t get onboard immediately. You just need to bank on your willpower to productively engage in the exercise and meet your goal. Keep the negative wisecracks on how you won’t be able to do it, out of your mind.