Finding the Positive

Trying to change our behavior is often a challenge. Especially if it's a long-standing habit that's been repeated thousands and thousands of times. But, just because it's a challenge, doesn't mean that it can't be done. In fact, when you stop to think about it, even behaviors that you've had for years can be changed in a month or so. That's pretty remarkable.

How many people do you know who always seem to find the negative? Whether it's the dessert at a restraurant, the guest list at a party or the present they received from Aunt Mary, they'll always find something to be unhappy about. No matter how good everything else was. I admit that I find it tiring to be around people like that. It's almost as if the negativity has completely drained their life force and is now going after mine!

One good thing does come out of hanging around them. It's a great reminder for me to check my own attitude. Have I become negative? Do I always look what's wrong? Are my words often critical? If so, it's time to change my perspective. Because that negativity will quickly begin to sap my energy and color everything I see. Noticing what's happening gives me an opportunity to get back on track. And, hopefully I'll be smart enough to take that opportunity!

ps: I know that it's harder to see the good if you've just lost your job or there is sickness in your family. There's no denying that's true. But, it's equally true that those are the exact times that it is even more important to find some positive things to think about. Being able to see the positive is great medicine. And medicine is most needed when times are truly tough not when the going is easy.

This post originally appeared in Financial Independence. FI is a daily message designed to help people take control of their financial lives. To find out more check out the Financial Independence page.

Comments

I believe that you can always find something positive about any situation. A failure, mistake, etx. is always an opportunity to learn and grow.

Before self-improvement there must be self-awareness. We have to become aware of what has shaped us into the people we currently are and our current patterns of behavior (the good, bad, and ugly) in order to change our behavior.

I've found that a challenge or obstacle leads to innovation and the motivation that's needed to make a change. Also, I found that positivity begets positivity... I became motivated to make some positve changes and I am sharing my story.

Looking at things a little differently (usually more positively) like how CAN we fix this, how CAN we use that, how DO we make it work, what CAN this be used for....all positive questions which pre-set our minds to come up with positive answers.

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For more than 25 years, Gary Foreman has worked to manage money effectively. Prior to starting The Dollar Stretcher, he was a financial planner and purchasing manager.
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