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Sunday, June 17, 2012

Missing you Daddy

Thanks for helping me find my balance

This
Sunday marks yet another Father’s Day…the day which reminds us all that how
lucky we are to have a father figure around us. We celebrate by giving them
gifts, spending time with them, playing sports, enjoying movies together etc
but my case is a bit different though. My father is in Merchant Navy and his
job doesn’t allow him to be home all year. For many, it may seem normal or not
a big deal because at the end of the day, he is doing that for our well-being
and I do agree. But yet sometimes, especially when Father’s Day, birthdays, and
other auspicious occasions are around the corner, I do feel a tad bit of
emptiness somewhere inside me. This has made me realize the sorrow of children
whose fathers are away from them…at the border protecting us, doing jobs in
another city, too far away to reach home or not alive anymore.

I
always think about my father’s plight…how would he be feeling right now? He has
nobody of family around to talk to...what would he be thinking? And then his
respect in my eyes just builds up more and more. It’s really not easy to leave
your family and go on a job for months...without seeing them. Only their memories
and photographs serve as a contact between you and them.

Talking
about Pakistan, what I have observed is that Father’s Day is not much of an
event here unlike Mother’s Day. Yes we do have ticker messages running on television
screen all day and morning shows honoring fathers but it’s still not as huge as
Mother’s day. Why is this discrimination? Isn’t father as much of an important
person as a mother is? I remember an incident where I was discussing this
issue with a friend and she said that because heaven lies below mother’s feet,
she should be respected more but my argument is that isn’t father the door to
heaven???

One
of the questions asked in exams or even today in companies is that who is your
role model? Now for many, the answer maybe people like Richard Branson, Steve
Jobs etc but sometimes it’s a bit closer to home…its our father…the person who
has inspired us to walk and maintain the balance so that we may not fall and
face what’s coming up front.

For
me personally there is a lot I want to thank my Dad for. A blog…a book…or
anything is not enough to tell what he has done for me and for my siblings. I am eternally thankful to my Dad and try to let him
know of my appreciation throughout the year. Because after all, parents don’t
need a special day once a year to let them know just how much you care about
them…just remembering to let them know from time to time is all that’s needed.

9 comments:

Good blog post, specially the line in the last paragraph which says "parents don’t need a special day once a year". if Parents celebrate each day as "happy children day" then how come we restrict ourselves to celebrate Father or Mother Day once a year.

A very well written article.I totally agree with you that hype of father's day is much lower as compared to mother's day.Lets hope to restore balance in years to come.Also in agreement with you that each day is a day for parents and we must try and express our love & respect for our parent each day of year.

father's day or mother's day have been created by the business community as a tool to make money money money.parents should be a role model for their kids while the kids should stay respectful towards them to please Allah SWT.So every day is father's or mother's day for us the children regardless of commercial techniques of the greedy elite.

Your posted article is very impressive--keep up the good work KIRAN!!!!!!!