Men have done some truly awful things to women. We should all be ashamed – shouldn’t we? How can we men respond to this in a meaningful way and still hold on to our maleness with pride? Should we as men hold to the Possum Lodge oath, Quando omni flunkus moritati, or do we enter into dialogue with our women friends, lovers, and neighbours about what our gender identity means to us and what it means to treat each other with respect and dignity irrespective of gender?