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Caregiver of a Strong Man

A really real goal in my life.

I have thought about creating a page about this adventure of being a caregiver to one of the strongest men I know ( my husband) for a while. Then today’s daily post word was Glass. Funny how that strikes me as the perfect intro to this page. Let’s face it men are as strong as the material glass is made of but not as transparent. They are quiet and tough on the outside, but on the inside it is a different story. If you have real intimacy in your relationship you can ask the deep questions. Intimacy is not only sex, it is getting to know that real person that lies next to you each night. I revisited this part of our lives while he spent a week in the hospital. Sharing a king size bed seems very lonely when an illness is this serious.

Everyone I have met in our New Community thinks it is amazing we have lasted thirty -one years after marrying so young. There are times I am amazed also, dealing with five sister -in-laws has not always been the easiest thing in the world and with his illness slowly progressing it will be a challenge to prove myself, although my aunt says do not attempt to prove yourself to No One other than yourself. So that is the Goal, to care for a Strong Man as strong as Glass that could be shattered at anytime by a chronic lung condition.

Glass

Glass is a non-crystalline amorphous solid that is often transparent and has widespread practical, technological, and decorative usage in, for example, window panes, tableware, and optoelectronics. Scientifically, the term “glass” is often defined in a broader sense, encompassing every solid that possesses a non-crystalline structure at the atomic scale and that exhibits a glass transition when heated towards the liquid state.

My husband has Copd and an anxiety disorder. We have been married 38 years. I am his caregiver. He is still relatively active. But I see the s l o w decline. It is a lonely road as you said to give all your love and care to one.