it was felt to be unsafe for her to go to public school. There she had her first kiss at 11, lost her virginity to a basketball player at another school at 16 and discovered her bisexuality at age 18.When she was 13, her family moved to Fort Gratiot, Michigan, then to Lake Forest, California a one year later, fulfilling her grandparents' dream that the family be together in one place. She graduated from high school in 1999 and enrolled in college