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I have a question and please keep this unknown. My brother and his girlfriend had a child after a week knowing each other(planned). Well the baby is here and of course it is cold. well they don't dress her right and when they come over she is in a long sleeved oncie and that is it with a blanket over her. The Mother has told her 1 month old daughter that she will put her in the trash if she does not stop crying(have heard it twice). The mother was told my me and my parents to take her in to the hospital cause of a cough but instead she when to her school to get her books. I feel that unless they do not go to parenting classes that the mother will cause her daughter to get very very sick. Is there something I can do? I want to take the kid away till they get help but can i do that with out it being call kid napping. I don't want to call Child services cause i don't want it to go that fare. Please I need to know soon what i can do as a Aunt

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first of all you need to sit down and talk about how you feel with them then you need to see if your brother and her would like for you to help them with their baby and pray also your brother might consider getting custody of the child hope this helps but try these first before you do any desperate tactics

Hey, I just seen this post and was wondering how things are going with your brother, his gf and their baby. It's so saddening to hear when a new mom won't step in and engage in taking care of her baby. But from my own experience, I can safely say it sounds like she has some serious postpartum issues and she herself should get help managing her feelings. Maybe she just needs a break for a while. Perhaps offer to take the baby for the weekend? If the baby cries a lot perhaps her formula is hurting her belly? Baby should definitely see a doctor maybe offer to go with her to her next well baby visit to "keep" her company. Then while there casually bring up your concerns about the baby in a way that won't make the young mom feel bad, Like "I notice the baby cries a lot could she need a different formula?" "or how many layers of clothes should the baby wear outside on cold days?" And try to play dumb.

I have a good feeling that it would be considered kidnapping. However, I would definitely bring it up to your brother first. Have him talk to her and perhaps they can learn how to deal with the stress of a newborn together. If that doesn't work and you can't talk to her I wouldn't risk the health and well being of a child longer than you need to. Remember the poor child has no voice and only those around the child can speak for it. It's not like the baby can ask for help or ask to be changed, or asked to be put in warmer clothes. Be that child's voice because it doesn't seem like the mother can.

Have you tried talking to your brother? ANd It doesn't sound like parenting classes is what his GF needs...women that threaten to throw their babies in the rtash for crying usually are in desparate need of an outlet - other moms to talk to, good friends to hang out with and/or call when things as a mom get tough, etc. I sounds more like a "Please someone tell me what the hell to do" kind of comment...though I haven't seen her with the baby so you might be a better judge of whats going on. Try talking to your brother first, or her if you have a decent relationship with her. But be gentle with your words. remember how hard it was with your first...

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