Thought I’d put up a poll. Some ladies are totally fine with their SOs going clubbing with out them and vice verse. Where is the line drawn for you? Is it okay if he is dancing/grind style with another girl (or vice verse for you)?

As for going out, yes, it’s perfectly ok for him to go out without me, wherever he wants to go. As for the dancing, I don’t think it’s ok, per say, but I do think it happens, and it’s one of those things that if I do it, he’ll probably never find out and vice versa. I don’t think it’s that serious- if I found out he did, I wouldn’t be happy, but it’s not a relationship-ender and it probably wouldn’t warrant much more discussion than “can you not do that again please?”

That said, I know I tend to have fairly liberal views on stuff like this, so I’d be interested to see what others think.

Dancing with another woman? Not ok in my book. I’m not ok with physical contact with the opposite sex (aside from hugs with friends and stuff like that). I believe certain kinds of touches and contact is reserved only for each other.

Hmmm… the image of FH grinding on some woman in a club has such a negative feel to it so I want to say no, but the reality is, it’s bound to happen. Not the grinding per se, but if your man is at a “dance” a woman will likely approach him to dance. And if you are at a slasa or swing club it will happen even more. My guy would dance with any woman who asked him. He is very sensitive about this subject because he was brought up to believe that when someone asks a person to dance thay are in a vulnerable place; the polite thing to do is accept kindly and then move on. He does this all the time; a simple dance and then thats that. I’m ok with it and think he the perfect gentleman 🙂

What’s the point of going clubbing if you can’t dance with people? Having said that, all my OH does is dad-dancing (and he even texts me to tell me about the dad dancing competitions going on) and tbh, I don’t see dancing synonymous with grinding!

I encourage Fiance to go out with his guy firends –because he never does! However, I would not be OK with him dancing with another girl, but it’s not anything I would ever worry about. It’s so 100% opposite his style. First, the places we (us, his friend, my friends) go out are not “dancing” places, and if there are people dancing it’s usually just girls with eachother. Second, Fiance is so so so respectful of the boudaries of what is appropriate and what isnt, I wouldnt worry for a second.