Ive become one of "those" moms

I am new to the sahm league. I am terrible at it. I sleep in. And watch Netflix and read most of the day. I find the laundry goes undone and I can't ever figure out what to cook for dinner. I am short-tempered and lazy. I have a hard time admitting this to myself and I honestly don't know what to do. I can't budget. I can't cook. I'm not hands on with my 3 kids. I hate cleaning and I miss work. I need help ladies. How do I make this better? Today on fb my dear friend posted pics of her daughter's and her at a "tea party". I started to bawl. I've never done anything like that with my girls. Is there a sahm boot camp? Something needs to change and I don't know how

I am new to the sahm league. I am terrible at it. I sleep in. And watch Netflix and read most of the day. I find the laundry goes undone and I can't ever figure out what to cook for dinner. I am short-tempered and lazy. I have a hard time admitting this to myself and I honestly don't know what to do. I can't budget. I can't cook. I'm not hands on with my 3 kids. I hate cleaning and I miss work. I need help ladies. How do I make this better? Today on fb my dear friend posted pics of her daughter's and her at a "tea party". I started to bawl. I've never done anything like that with my girls. Is there a sahm boot camp? Something needs to change and I don't know how

hey i do the same sh*t. i dont work out. i watch desperate housewives all day on netflix. i occassionally clean and do dishes and i only do laundry when my bf b*tches. i cant cook im not creative i have 3 kids. i hardly get on here email me babycakeloves@gmail.com

hey i do the same sh*t. i dont work out. i watch desperate housewives all day on netflix. i occassionally clean and do dishes and i only do laundry when my bf b*tches. i cant cook im not creative i have 3 kids. i hardly get on here email me babycakeloves@gmail.com

I was the same way but I find I feel a lot better about myself, my house, and my kids when I get up in the morning and get dressed. It's easier for me to get kids dressed, get food cooked, etc, when laundry and dishes are done on a reg basis. There isn't any format to follow. I struggled for a yr before I figured out what worked for us. Ad yes, there are still ruts. For instance I have done almost nothing other than dishes and cooking since DH has been off for Thanksgiving. I'll tell u what really made the diff with us. No lie. I cut tv for the kids to 2 hrs per day. When they nap I "nap" which means either sleeping or watching tv. I don't do any housework during nap. It my recharge. My kids are happier when they get tv time bc they enjoy it and all the other time they have fun playing or helpin me. Good luck!

I was the same way but I find I feel a lot better about myself, my house, and my kids when I get up in the morning and get dressed. It's easier for me to get kids dressed, get food cooked, etc, when laundry and dishes are done on a reg basis. There isn't any format to follow. I struggled for a yr before I figured out what worked for us. Ad yes, there are still ruts. For instance I have done almost nothing other than dishes and cooking since DH has been off for Thanksgiving. I'll tell u what really made the diff with us. No lie. I cut tv for the kids to 2 hrs per day. When they nap I "nap" which means either sleeping or watching tv. I don't do any housework during nap. It my recharge. My kids are happier when they get tv time bc they enjoy it and all the other time they have fun playing or helpin me. Good luck!

it took me a year to realize I'm a lazy excuse making no cooking are cleaning type of sahm LOL. I was killing myself trying to live up to everyone else's expectations including dh. I've worked a fulltime job since I was 16 & only cooked & cleaned when it was convenient. I'm now 14months in & I'm just starting to get a routine. Not a schedule cuz me & time dont no each other LOL. dd & I roll out the bed between 10 & 11 which works out for dh cuz he gets off at 7am so when he gets home he has time by himself. do what works for u & ur family. the perfect house wife does not exist anymore there's far to much entertainment in the world today. hth

it took me a year to realize I'm a lazy excuse making no cooking are cleaning type of sahm LOL. I was killing myself trying to live up to everyone else's expectations including dh. I've worked a fulltime job since I was 16 & only cooked & cleaned when it was convenient. I'm now 14months in & I'm just starting to get a routine. Not a schedule cuz me & time dont no each other LOL. dd & I roll out the bed between 10 & 11 which works out for dh cuz he gets off at 7am so when he gets home he has time by himself. do what works for u & ur family. the perfect house wife does not exist anymore there's far to much entertainment in the world today. hth

I'm the same 4 kids and I have to force myself to be hands on ( I'm just not good at it) I like coloring so ill do that glady over playing barbies, I also enjoy puzzles/DS & things like that. My house is slowly going down hill since having my 4th ... I'm tired/unmotivated luckily my hubby is VERY understanding & doesn't care.. I try usually to stay on top if it but not lately i would rather nap. In fact I'm a clean freak yet still that is not enough motivation for me to get up and clean the sticky hand prints off the walls. As for meals meh ill pat myself on the back for alpha getti with mixed veggies yay me lol. Don't beat yourself up. Perfection is a joke. Someone suggested a moms calendar which I'm going to purchase and sit down with the kids and plan out supper (that will help with shopping and hopefully the eating part of it- I have suddenly picky kids) and everyday let the kids pick something to do - puzzles, coloring, movie ... Things I enjoy doing and the kids will be happy I'm hanging with them) GL

I'm the same 4 kids and I have to force myself to be hands on ( I'm just not good at it) I like coloring so ill do that glady over playing barbies, I also enjoy puzzles/DS & things like that. My house is slowly going down hill since having my 4th ... I'm tired/unmotivated luckily my hubby is VERY understanding & doesn't care.. I try usually to stay on top if it but not lately i would rather nap. In fact I'm a clean freak yet still that is not enough motivation for me to get up and clean the sticky hand prints off the walls. As for meals meh ill pat myself on the back for alpha getti with mixed veggies yay me lol. Don't beat yourself up. Perfection is a joke. Someone suggested a moms calendar which I'm going to purchase and sit down with the kids and plan out supper (that will help with shopping and hopefully the eating part of it- I have suddenly picky kids) and everyday let the kids pick something to do - puzzles, coloring, movie ... Things I enjoy doing and the kids will be happy I'm hanging with them) GL

I feel good to know that there are others out there whose day goes almost the same as mines but I do try to make sure dishes are done before going to bed n at least a load of laundry a day.......no it doesn't get folded or put up most of the time but hey there are clean clothes its better than feeling guilty about being unproductive!

I feel good to know that there are others out there whose day goes almost the same as mines but I do try to make sure dishes are done before going to bed n at least a load of laundry a day.......no it doesn't get folded or put up most of the time but hey there are clean clothes its better than feeling guilty about being unproductive!

I felt terrible the fist 6 month I was a SAHM! I did the same things u do but felt guilt bcuz I wasn't doin any of the things I had longed 2 do with my kid while stuck at work!Lol I eventually made a daily schedule....Monday is cleaning house, Tuesday is laundry/cleaners day, Wednesday is lunch with a friend....stuff like that. Evenings I planned an activity with my kid after I help with homework. Then cook dinner b4 hubby gets home, by the end of the week I feel like Supermom.Lol

I felt terrible the fist 6 month I was a SAHM! I did the same things u do but felt guilt bcuz I wasn't doin any of the things I had longed 2 do with my kid while stuck at work!Lol I eventually made a daily schedule....Monday is cleaning house, Tuesday is laundry/cleaners day, Wednesday is lunch with a friend....stuff like that. Evenings I planned an activity with my kid after I help with homework. Then cook dinner b4 hubby gets home, by the end of the week I feel like Supermom.Lol

Go to flylady.net. She is super honest and kind about how to get your life organized 15 minutes at a time. Start with the baby steps program and soon your house will be clean, dinner on the table and you will still have time for netflicks I promise.

Go to flylady.net. She is super honest and kind about how to get your life organized 15 minutes at a time. Start with the baby steps program and soon your house will be clean, dinner on the table and you will still have time for netflicks I promise.

I would unplug the tv. It's not good to do that all day especially with children in the house. They will grow up modeling that behavior. As for cooking, I suck at it lol. But I can stir things in a pot and set an oven timer and I'm sure you can too. The most important part of being a parent is the interaction you have with your children. There are awesome and easy things you can do with them everyday and can even use the web to find ideas. Find a big box, make a rocket ship and spend the day living on the moon. Your kids will love it and it gives you an opportunity to teach them about space! Read books to them and act the scenes out!

I would unplug the tv. It's not good to do that all day especially with children in the house. They will grow up modeling that behavior. As for cooking, I suck at it lol. But I can stir things in a pot and set an oven timer and I'm sure you can too. The most important part of being a parent is the interaction you have with your children. There are awesome and easy things you can do with them everyday and can even use the web to find ideas. Find a big box, make a rocket ship and spend the day living on the moon. Your kids will love it and it gives you an opportunity to teach them about space! Read books to them and act the scenes out!

Oh I can relate! I was recently diagnosed with depression/anxiety. I try but it's still tough to be happy and active. Look up things you can do with your kids. Even if you give them ALL your attention for a little they will appreciate it very much. What I was suggested is clean every room for about 15 min each, you'll be surprised how much you get don't it that little time. If you turn off TV and put phone down for 30 min or an HR at a time and you'll be surprised how much your kids will love it

Oh I can relate! I was recently diagnosed with depression/anxiety. I try but it's still tough to be happy and active. Look up things you can do with your kids. Even if you give them ALL your attention for a little they will appreciate it very much. What I was suggested is clean every room for about 15 min each, you'll be surprised how much you get don't it that little time. If you turn off TV and put phone down for 30 min or an HR at a time and you'll be surprised how much your kids will love it

Time to start making some big changes. Unplug the TV first off. Second, write down a list of things that need to be done and divide them up on what day you'll do what and stick to it. Maybe give yourself a "reward" for it...like a half hour of tv when the kids are sleeping. Dinners, try looking up Rachel Ray's 30 minute meals, those are fairly easy. If you don't have a crock pot, get one. Seriously, throw ingredients in, turn on and your done...it is great! As for what to do with your kids try www.notimeforflashcards.com lots of awesome project there. Commit to one a day at least and tell your children about the one you'll do next and they'll hold you accountable ;)

Time to start making some big changes. Unplug the TV first off. Second, write down a list of things that need to be done and divide them up on what day you'll do what and stick to it. Maybe give yourself a "reward" for it...like a half hour of tv when the kids are sleeping. Dinners, try looking up Rachel Ray's 30 minute meals, those are fairly easy. If you don't have a crock pot, get one. Seriously, throw ingredients in, turn on and your done...it is great! As for what to do with your kids try www.notimeforflashcards.com lots of awesome project there. Commit to one a day at least and tell your children about the one you'll do next and they'll hold you accountable ;)

It has to change from within. Boot camp won't help. Your daughters need you to be 'present' not depressed and watching the tv. You know that, or you wouldn't have cried over the tea party. Every day is fresh, with no mistakes. Start today by devoting it to unselfishness. Sacrifice your tv and laziness for one day. Plan a tea, dress up and read fairy tales, and bake some cookies. Afterwards, lay Mary Poppins and sing and clean. I bet you will feel proud of who you are, your girls will revel in the attention, and you will see that you might not be 'enjoying' your routine as much as you think you are. Please write if you want ideas for the tea!!!!! We have a formal trea daily. I'd love to help if you need it.

It has to change from within. Boot camp won't help. Your daughters need you to be 'present' not depressed and watching the tv. You know that, or you wouldn't have cried over the tea party. Every day is fresh, with no mistakes. Start today by devoting it to unselfishness. Sacrifice your tv and laziness for one day. Plan a tea, dress up and read fairy tales, and bake some cookies. Afterwards, lay Mary Poppins and sing and clean. I bet you will feel proud of who you are, your girls will revel in the attention, and you will see that you might not be 'enjoying' your routine as much as you think you are. Please write if you want ideas for the tea!!!!! We have a formal trea daily. I'd love to help if you need it.

Turn the tv off! Make it a point to wake up everyday at least 30 minutes before your kids so you can shower and get ready for the day. If your kids nap, use about 30 minutes of that time to sit down and maybe watch tv, or just enjoy the silence. Use the rest of the time to do a load of laundry, clean dishes etc. Join a mommy n me group, look for one in your area on Meetup.com. Or maybe you just need to go back to work?

Turn the tv off! Make it a point to wake up everyday at least 30 minutes before your kids so you can shower and get ready for the day. If your kids nap, use about 30 minutes of that time to sit down and maybe watch tv, or just enjoy the silence. Use the rest of the time to do a load of laundry, clean dishes etc. Join a mommy n me group, look for one in your area on Meetup.com. Or maybe you just need to go back to work?

I ve been home from work since may. While I do stay in bed some days, other days I get up as if I go to work. I either do laundry or the dishes. I also sit and watch Criminal Minds and Snapped all day.

I ve been home from work since may. While I do stay in bed some days, other days I get up as if I go to work. I either do laundry or the dishes. I also sit and watch Criminal Minds and Snapped all day.

I'm struggling with this too.I am 28w3d with DD #2, I have a 3.5 yr old, and I just put movies on my laptop for her all.day while I do practically nothing. Sigh. I hate myself for it. I need to get rid of my phone and the internet or something. I'm just sore and tired and I don't feel like being fun mommy. But my baby is about to not be the only child anymore. I.need to.get off my ass and go.play with her, and actually get my house ready.for this baby.

I'm struggling with this too.I am 28w3d with DD #2, I have a 3.5 yr old, and I just put movies on my laptop for her all.day while I do practically nothing. Sigh. I hate myself for it. I need to get rid of my phone and the internet or something. I'm just sore and tired and I don't feel like being fun mommy. But my baby is about to not be the only child anymore. I.need to.get off my ass and go.play with her, and actually get my house ready.for this baby.

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