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I have a new manager who sits in a different state. He wants us to schedule weekly meetings to go over what we're doing, concerns, etc.. It's a 30 minute meeting, and I think we've had two in the past two months. The new management structure is very top heavy, and very quick to blow off the employees if someone upstream wants something.

So for a 30 minute meeting, how long do you stay on the line before hanging up? I'm down to 5 minutes.

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EvenKeel♀ 24210Member # 24210

Posted: 1:11 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013

I give ppl 15 minutes.

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wifehad5♂ 15162Member # 15162

Posted: 1:42 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013

After ten minutes I got an IM stating he was on a critical call.

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sisoon♂ 31240Member # 31240

Posted: 1:53 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013

I used to wait longer if I could be productive while waiting and shorter if I couldn't be. I sent a v- or e-mail if I was ringing off, though.

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Bigger♂ 8354Member # 8354

Posted: 3:25 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013

Wow WH5Ö
Thatís ineffective and disrespectful and definitely does not show good management.
We used to have these weekly 30 minute status meetings that always extended to an hour and had all these issues about attendance and punctuality. Recently we made a change thatís working fantastic for my department.
We meet twice a week for 15 minutes. The meeting is scheduled at 5 past 9 (the team is coming in from 7 to 9) and is held in front of a Kanban wall we use to monitor projects. Two of the group always phone in and anyone that canít make it phone in. If in a rush you can ask to go first and leave after reporting your status.
Basically you simply state your present projects and any issues you might be having. Sometimes my report is simply ďsame as last time Ė doing fineĒ. We have never gone over 15 minutes with a group of about 10.

In your case I would ask the manager to confirm any planned meeting in advance. Itís totally within your rights to point out the missed meetings. Maybe even ask him whether a weekly status report would be better.

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wifehad5♂ 15162Member # 15162

Posted: 4:09 PM, October 1st (Tuesday), 2013

That's a good idea about the status report Bigger. I've learned that the new management is no help at all when issues arise, so the best bet is to go around them