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This question is for women who don't like public breastfeeding.

I breastfeed my babies as they need it and don't have a problem with it and just assumed that all women didn't either as long as I was not exposing myself. But some answers today have shown me that not all women are ok with this. Would you mind explaining why? I'm truly curious and would love to understand why as I'm only familar with being good with public breastfeeding covered or not.
If you need to answer anon that's fine or would prefer to private msg me that's fine. I'm not looking to bash anyone just looking for insight to understand where you're coming from. I'd also ask that other's respect women who feel this way and allow them to answer freely.

Wow people act like a breast is something to be ashamed of. It is there for the purpose of feeding a child!!! I dont want to put a blanket over my head while eating and I wouldnt expect anyone doing it with their child. If you feel like covering up, good for you, if you dont feel like its something to be ashamed of, good for you. I couldnt breastfeed my babies, but I wish I could have.

I don't mind it if the woman doesn't whip her boob out at the table in the middle of a crowded restaurant. Be discreet. True story, a lady whipped out her boob to breastfeed at the table in a crowded restaurant. EVERYTHING was showing. I have seen other woman breastfeed that were discreet about it. I don't want to have my son yell out, "WHY IS THAT LADIES BOOB HANGING OUT?" People shouldn't have to see the boob while eating.

You don't need an explanation just as I don't owe any busy body an explanation for how or where I feed my child. Those obsessed with other women's breasts need to seek therapy.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 6:16 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

They are worried about their child seeing a baby eat, they are worried about their husband looking (LOL!) or they are scared they might see a little nippliage...I don't care if women BF and I don't care if my child looks at least they know how a child should eat but, of course, they have learned that from my BFing their sister.

I couldn't care less who BF in public. I don't need to see it so I don't look when I happen to notice. But it doesn't have anything to do with being worried my DH is perverted and ogling them because he has seen it and doesn't stare or get turned on by it, or thinking breasts are only for sex so I'm always baffled when that comes up. I have never heard or read on here that people think breasts are only for sex. I just happen to think BF a private thing. Just my opinion but I wouldn't get all upset or run over and tell some woman doing that she should cover up or take it elsewhere. I just don't look.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 7:18 PM on Jul. 10, 2011

Thanks for not exposing yourself. I don't like seeing nipple in public or immodesty.