This is just to say:

mood: irate

To everybody who has opined recently that sexual harassment policies at conventions mean an end to flirtation, dating, and romance at cons--

I'm involved in a relationship with somebody I met, befriended, and grew to love largely at conventions. He never once felt the need to grope me, make an inappropriate comment on my body or dress, or ask if anything I was wearing was meant as a coded sexual message before the moment when we figured out that we were each interested in one another in a romantic sense.

Neither flirting nor building emotional connection is harassment, folks--and harassment is not flirting.

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Neither flirting nor building emotional connection is harassment, folks--and harassment is not flirting.

Hear freakin' hear.

Why the fuck would I want to date someone who doesn't respect my boundaries in the most platonic possible sense? If you see romance as the conquest of another person's space and bodily autonomy then there's something seriously wrong with you.