So, my fiancé's friend is having a destination wedding in May. We just received the save the dates and I know the payments are due by early march. Now we are planning our own DW as well. So, when I came home he told me the save the date arrived and I immediately said, we can't go. We are not supposed to be planning any costly trips due to our upcoming wedding. He responds and says yea he figured I would say that, then proceeds to say we'll what if he just goes. I told him he can't go without me. So I look at the save the date, which is addressed to him and the enclosed card says that the guest list is limited to the person's addressed on the envelope. So now I'm like we'll how dare they only invite my fiance. I think it is incredibly rude, I do know the expenses are high, but my fiance and i are practically married and if I was told my husband/fiance wasn't allowed to go I wouldn't consider going. Yes this is a rant because I think it is incredibly rude. I get not inviting flings and random girlfriends.

I would wait to see if the invitation itself is addressed to both of you- save the dates really can't be a good indication, and if it IS? That's totally rude and a surprise considering most hotels are based on double occupancy and it's weird that they would expect guests to come alone knowing it will cost them more, and when they are part of a household unit! (Married, engaged or loving together).

I would ask your FI to clarify with his friend. If his friend was responsible for addressing "his side's" envelopes... Guys are often clueless and it may have been done in error!

Is the DW another city where it's a quick in and out with one night hotel where you both can manage somehow if it's important to your FI? Did you invite this couple to your wedding?

I would probably ask for clarification before your feelings get hurt any more. Ask the questions you are wondering about and deal with this asap between you and your FI. The last thing you need is to argue about ridiculous people like this before your wedding!

good luck and stay cool!

Married on June 20th, 2015 at the Grand Sunset Princess Riviera Gazebo & Reception at the Chill Out with 60 guests