The Real Truth about Chemistry, Part 1

It can get you in real trouble, both good and bad!

This isn’t news to some enlightened men and woman who already figured out that following their attractions consistently ends in a train wreck. But it continues to be a subject that every relationship coach and therapist has something to say about.

The problem is their conclusions are often horribly flawed, because they are missing one critical piece of information. Which means you are going to want to pay very close attention to what you are about to read.

In this series of articles I’m going to take you on the “Chemistry” journey of your life.

As we travel together you’ll begin to look at every relationship you are in differently.

You will be empowered when you felt lost or confused. Our journey will juice you when you haven’t even felt a spark. Most important, now you’ll be closer and more connected to the people you care about than ever before.

Our goal is “Love in the Now”. Let’s begin.

Scientists have a lot to say about attractions. Yes, Chemistry can in part be attributed to increased oxytocin and dopamine levels. Studies have show when you’re feeling it, your body is producing it.

But why?

I know if my finger is bleeding, somehow I was cut. But if I don’t figure out that holding the kitchen knife wrong caused the injury, no doubt I will do it again and again and again, much like many of us have with our relationships when we follow our chemistry!

We have been told that Chemistry has a life span of at the most 2 years. NOT TRUE! What scientist and relationship experts haven’t taken time to figure out is why the chemical releases drop and attractions seem to fade.

The reason is right in front of our faces. When everything thing else has gone to “sh*t in a hand basket” the chemical levels are pushed down. They will bounce right back if they get a chance.

Much like our bodies. If you get pneumonia you don’t stop breathing and your heart doesn’t stop beating. The body continues to attempt to do the best it can. But until you clear up the symptoms of pneumonia your heart and lungs are not at their best.

So it is with chemistry.

A man or woman gets your attention. You can feel them from a across a room. You see them and can’t takes your eyes of them. You attempt to look away, but unknown forces are pulling you back in their direction. You attempt to think about what you were doing or the people you maybe talking to and you realize, “Damn, I’m totally distracted!”