When parenting eight children, one may understand the need to be slightly controlling—but as a new report surfaces claiming Kate Gosselin forces her family’s staff to spy on her children’s phone calls with their father, Jon, some are questioning whether she’s taken it too far.

The Gosselin matriarch allegedly has a strict rulebook that staff is ordered to follow while caring for Kate’s children and home. The content of the rulebook covers everything from the mundane tasks like housekeeping and landscaping.

It’s the rules about how the children interact with their father that have fans concerned.

“ALWAYS listen with one ear to hear what they are saying,” Kate reportedly commands. “You are always my eyes and ears and need to report everything you see and hear!”

A former nanny tells Radar there are limitations on how often Jon can speak to his children.