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2018 – What does it hold in store for me?https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/12/31/2018-what-does-it-hold-in-store-for-me/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/12/31/2018-what-does-it-hold-in-store-for-me/#commentsSun, 31 Dec 2017 09:40:38 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=598Continue reading →]]>I haven’t got a clue but this is the most exciting part about life. I don’t have any preconceived notions. I have a great family. I have a terrific life. My goals are to be fearless and achieve more than I think I am capable of right not so there is an opportunity to learn more and that is always exciting. My challenges are to walk more. To write more! To achieve more and be more than I have ever thought I could be.

My thoughts create my life and my life is looking really good. The hardest part is to re-learn so much stuff that I have been taught since I was a child. The expectations of others on me and myself have always stopped me for achieving more so this is my year to find myself and make sure that fear doesn’t stop me for enjoying the life I know I am capable of.

So here’s to 2018 being an adventure I am willing to take. Happy New Year.

]]>https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/12/31/2018-what-does-it-hold-in-store-for-me/feed/1daysnetWhen do you say “enough is enough”?https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/10/16/when-do-you-say-enough-is-enough/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/10/16/when-do-you-say-enough-is-enough/#commentsMon, 16 Oct 2017 07:32:22 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=596Continue reading →]]>I am usually tolerant of sales people – I know they have a job to do and it’s a thankless one – I am in an area of “customer service” myself but there has to be limit.

I wanted a couple of quotes for a blind and a fly wire door. I found a site that arranged for people to contact you regarding the quote process – I found three.

I contacted them all on Monday with the same information and offered for them to come over on Saturday, I thought that would give them enough time.

Unfortunately the first one came back to me to tell me that he was selling his house that day and rather than make another time he sent me photos and average prices. Nothing of what I wanted. I went back and asked if he could make it the following Saturday – I’m still waiting.

The second people contacted me to advise that they were all full and could they make it the following Saturday. Sure no probs and I’ll see them then.

The third came back to me and agreed to Saturday but didn’t give a time. I got a text the night before advising that he would be there at 1.00 pm and could he have my address (I put it in the original email). Saturday rolled around and at 11.00 am he text to advise that his horse was sick and could we make it another time? OK I understand that, however, I sat around all morning waiting until 1.00 pm – he could have text earlier.

We then changed it to 5:30 Monday. Simple – I get home and wait, 5:30 rolls around no sight of the guy. 6:00 comes around and I text him. “Are you coming to quote?” No response. I finally sent another text at 6:15 pm. “Our appointment was for 5:30 are you still coming?” Finally he responded “Sorry got held up in a job in Port Melbourne can we make it another time?” Now I can tell you that from Port Melbourne to my home at that time of day would have taken 3 hours! Sorry isn’t goo enough. He had all afternoon to text and advise me.

I very tersely responded that I did need a quote and will change it to the same time Thursday …. but if he doesn’t show he’s lost a sale.

What is it? I give them enough notice, even am willing to fix a time suitable to them, and yet they still don’t have the common courtesy to let you know that they may not make it in time.

I NEED quotes. I cannot purchase what I need without them and yet I can’t get anyone to make the effort to come out and see what I require. Right now I want to scream but what good would it do? I need blinds and a fly wire door and I don’t want to contact more people to disappoint me.

So many people wish to travel, save up so many dollars and for 2 – 8 weeks a year they take time out to visit those places they have wanted to travel to for years and jam a whole heap of “work” into a small space of time.

Me? I’ve never wanted to travel, where I live is where I love to be. So. Rather than save up dollars and vacation days with my employer I make it a priority to take one or two days off a month, preferably before and/or after a weekend.

Why? Well first I’d like to sleep in an extra day but mainly because I need to regenerate. To get my bearings and find a way to enjoy the life that I have right now.

You could be going through a hard time at work or a hard time with the family at home all the time and you don’t have any “ME” time but just making the time is beneficial for so many reasons.

You can sleep in, you can take your kids to school and come home and go back to bed. You can meet up with friends you haven’t seen for awhile who are also home; you can go to the movies (yes by yourself); you can go to a shopping centre and window shop before stopping for lunch at a cafe and just “chillin” (yes by yourself). You can do whatever you want.

OK so yes, plan for holidays, travel, do it all but remember to take a TIME OUT for yourself and just BE! You’ll find yourself enjoying it more than you thought you would.

Today is my ME DAY and I’m loving every minute, I made muffin quiches for breakfast, went shopping, sat and watched a movie, washed some clothes and am now sitting at my computer just enjoying the fact that I can write my blog. It doesn’t happen often but when it does I make every minute count.

Do it! You’ll wonder why you didn’t do it earlier or more often!!!

Have a great day….. at work!!

]]>https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/08/28/holidays-your-own-interpretation/feed/1daysnetWhen you haven’t been made redundanthttps://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/07/14/when-you-havent-been-made-redundant/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/07/14/when-you-havent-been-made-redundant/#commentsFri, 14 Jul 2017 03:48:18 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=578Continue reading →]]>Just yesterday a department was made redundant which means that two people will be leaving in due course.

Now I have been made redundant twice in my life time so I am aware that at this moment the future is scary but having done a lot of soul searching and applying the Law of Attraction I remember that when I was last made redundant I thought of it as an OPPORTUNITY. I had become quite “comfortable” in my life and it became increasingly boring that I was doing the same thing day in and day out. By focusing on “what can I do next” I went online and did a few online courses to improve my skills, updated my resume and even read anything I could find on what I really wanted to do in the future. I knew what I wanted but didn’t think it would occur.

I wanted to work for a small company, I had worked for an International Company for 10 years and was becoming a number rather than a person. I wanted to be appreciated for the work that I did and I wanted to be happy doing my job.

I didn’t think that was too much to ask but so many people, who were also losing their job, were panicked as to where they would get their next pay cheque. Sure I wanted to be paid well but that wasn’t a major issue for me. Of course I wanted to make my house payments and be able to afford petrol and groceries but it wasn’t a priority when thinking of my next life choice.

So I had a plan – well I gave myself a time limit. When I finished work I would give myself six months. I found a few temporary positions which went for a couple of weeks at a time and this gave me the opportunity to appreciate my down time since I didn’t take too much time for myself in the past but I was still looking for more permanent work.

Then a phone call came in asking me to attend an interview. I hadn’t even remembered applying for the position but I made a time for an interview. I came out of the interview convinced that this was the job for me. A small company that needed my skills and wasn’t far from home. Who could ask for more?

The second interview was with the Directors and I still remember one of them saying at the end of the interview “If it was up to me you’d be working for us now.” I came out of there happy as…and before I got home I got a phone call offering me the job. Of course I said yes, even though the money they were offering was less than I had been getting at my old job. But I wanted it so bad.

I started with the company – it was small with only 19 staff. Just what I wanted and things were going well. A year in and I received a very lucrative pay rise which, of course, I accepted.

Then I realised that their overheads were more than the money they were making. Time has passed and little by little staff have been made redundant. It has nothing to do with the people who worked very hard but the company grew too big too fast and they couldn’t keep up with the demand and the costs involved.

The last of the redundancies will occur in the next couple of months and staff is reduced from 19 to 6. I feel terrible for the people who are leaving, and I can smile and say “change is a good thing” but when you’re in the midst of trying to figure out “What my next move is” it’s pretty scary. I know that they will all do well because they have achieved a lot of experience in the years working here, they just have to take a leap and believe it themselves.

I will still be here, in this little company that is returning to its roots and I’m sure they will thrive and become lucrative again and I look forward to being a part of that.

Change is not bad – it’s scary but if you embrace it possibilities are endless.

]]>https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/07/14/when-you-havent-been-made-redundant/feed/1daysnetShopping and the Single (Singleminded) womanhttps://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/03/26/shopping-and-the-single-singleminded-woman/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/03/26/shopping-and-the-single-singleminded-woman/#commentsSun, 26 Mar 2017 09:44:39 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=556Continue reading →]]>I know I’m about to get very petty but I seem to have so many peeves when it comes to shopping I want to name, just a few.

My biggest problem is that I am single and when I go shopping I go alone. I know some people don’t consider that a problem but when you go with a set ‘course’ and don’t like to deviate from it then you get yourself into so much trouble.

There’s the time I went to a book shop to find a colouring book. OK, simple enough but I get to the section and there are three people standing there taking up the space. The woman who is actually there looking for a colouring book, her daughter, aged 10 who is standing beside her playing a game on a mobile phone and then her husband who is there for no other reason but he wants to go shopping with his wife. Hello?? It only needs one person to pick a book. Get out of the way!!!!!!

Going up or down an escalator and you get to the end and you want to head off in the direction you are going but……. the people or person in front stops and looks around to see which way they want to go. For heavens sake!!! You’ve been on the escalator, surely you could have figured it out BEFORE you got off.

Going up or down an escalator and you get to the end and you want to get off BUT the group or person in front sees someone they know and they STOP!!! Forgetting all the people behind them. They don’t move off to an area where no one is walking they just stop and take a stand. GET OUT OF THE WAY!!!!!

You’ve been standing in line to get to the checkout and there are four people in front of you. Guess what? All four of them are from the one family. So they all go to the register together. What? They don’t allow anyone to buy something ON THEIR OWN!! Stand off to the side and let someone else in if numerous registers are open at the same time.

Then there’s the trolley hoggers. I just love it. Sure if you’ve got groceries you don’t want to leave them in the car but go shopping FIRST and then go get your groceries before you go back to the car. Or if you have bought items that could go in the car and they are large.. then take them back to the car and ditch the trolley but GET OUT OF MY WAY!!!!

The family who shops together, stays together and rather than walk in a single line they walk side by side, all FIVE OF THEM!!! Seriously? You don’t think anyone wants to get past you?

Shopping has always been fun for me and I even love to window shop but I seem to get behind the people who HOG THE WAY with either a trolley, a pram or an entire family.

Shops are small but when a trolley or pram comes in all bets are off – I just want to plough right through them or better yet, get the hell outta dodge. Seriously people have no consideration for anyone else when it comes to shopping. I only seem to go once a week but it’s becoming an “CHORE” rather than FUN.

Worse still, this coming Friday is the end of Term One here in Melbourne, which means that all kids are home only holidays for two weeks. OK so I don’t go shopping during the week but why do their parents insist on taking them on Saturday and Sunday when it’s my turn to go shopping?

Yes I’m becoming one of those people who complains about shopping but, in my eyes, I have every right to. What do you think?

A week ago I had a conversation with a work colleague who claimed that when he took drugs he saw things so clearly and feels that drugs are not bad for you used in the right way.

I have been grappling with this ever since.

Now to be honest I’ve never smoked or taken drugs and I have a brother who used drugs excessively to the point of having a breakdown in his late 20s so I might be a little biased but I have never seen the necessity to take drugs.

Maybe in my younger years I wanted to lose weight and all those “diet pills” might have tempted me but I thought of my body and what I might do to it in the long run.

Today I have high blood pressure, high cholesterol and diabetes type 2 (due to my weight) but I have been attending Weight Watchers who are teaching how to eat well, adopt a healthy lifestyle and accept that I can change. I am now healthier than ever, my blood pressure and cholesterol is down and my diabetes is definitely under control.

Having said all that I have used my brain in ways that give me peace, I meditate and adopt a positive and refreshingly upbeat attitude to life – meaning? I don’t need drugs to give me clarity, in fact, the clarity comes from my optimism and faith that I am the best me of my life and I can be and do anything I like in this world even at 57.

Drugs are an option when you feel that there is no other option available to you and it’s a shame that it took a drug to make him see clearly but see what? He’s still stressed, he has a young child and hasn’t had a decent night’s sleep in two weeks, he is constantly sick and has, at times, looked like he hates his life. If you hate it so much, change it!! But don’t depend on drugs for clarity otherwise your “Senior years” might be tempered with drug induced hazes.

I do hope that by writing this blog someone has a chance to take stock and realise that you are able to be whoever you are with a positive attitude and supportive friends and family who love you enough to help you through any problems and that drugs aren’t the best option or answer.

]]>https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/03/21/drugs-yay-or-nay/feed/2daysnetIt’s amazing how stress, habit and worry are so intertwinedhttps://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/03/20/its-amazing-how-stress-habit-and-worry-are-so-intertwined/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/03/20/its-amazing-how-stress-habit-and-worry-are-so-intertwined/#commentsMon, 20 Mar 2017 01:06:02 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=552Continue reading →]]>I have finally decided to take two days off from the stress and worry of work and suddenly here I get two totally different emails regarding worry and habit and I realise that all three are connected.

I am coming up to two years in my job. A job I love – it’s a small commercial painting company but it has good bones and so many possibilities. The problem is, however, money, there’s too much money going out (eg large tax bill) and not enough coming in so everyone is stressed and I worry, not because I might lose my job (although it is a consideration) but that I have to take the phone calls from the irate customers demanding their money. I don’t have a thick skin at all and that tends to weigh heavily on me.

Added to that I am finding my daily life is becoming habit forming – I get up at 6.10 am every morning, I feed the dog, have a shower, get dressed, get in the car and drive the same way to work every day. Once at work I turn on the lights, the computer, fill the photocopier, the water tank, the coffee machine, put away the dry dishes and generally clean up and go back to my desk ready to read my emails and start work. Going home I get in the car, prepare to sit in traffic for double the time it took me to get to work this morning and once home either go for a walk or started dinner or if I’m a little later I’ll start dinner and then go for a walk. It’s all a bit boring.

Taking these two days off is encouraging me to stop trying so hard and just relax. I drive to work and see people walking in the morning. This morning that person walking was me. I was out in nature, walking around a couple of parks and a lake close to home. I needed to get out and just relax. Whenever I found myself thinking of work I have been able to tune into a song that I was listening to on my ipod and keep going.

Having said all that I haven’t just been sitting on my laurels, I have been thinking about what I do on a hourly, daily, weekly and even monthly basis and I am “re-learning” to do things a little different.

My bedroom was a complete and utter mess. Being a writer I was always dragging books into my bedroom at night to either read or write and then they hung around under my bed or in my wardrobe and even take my ipad to bed with me – all the while not realising that my sleep habits were being interrupted. So what did I do? I finally made the decision to move all those books out of my bedroom and into the office. Why I hadn’t done this years before I do not know but there I was removing all pieces of paper from my “sanctuary”. I also decided that when I do go to bed I take one item with me, mainly the book I was writing right now and that was it. I still have the television in my room but at this time it’s not something I can move. I have learned to turn it off though and spend quality time on my writing. When I finish and want to turn off the light I put my book under the bed so it cannot be seen. I can’t tell you how lovely my room is looking right now and I’m even working on improving it’s ambiance.

The kitchen was my next port of call. Every single night I’d just leave the dishes in the sink or wash them and leave them on the sink or the oven to dry and go to bed. No more. I take the time to clean up all the areas of my open plan living kitchen, family, dining area. I don’t want to get up and have to clean and I don’t understand why I haven’t done this from the beginning. I don’t like the look of mess and yet mess keeps appearing. Why? Because I tell myself I haven’t got enough time or worse yet I’ve become quite lazy and I don’t want to be considered that kind of person.

So here I am two habits down and while there are still days I let things creep in I am determined to win this one and create a habit (which I believe can take up to 3 months before it can be achieved) that is worthwhile and decluttering my life.

By just doing these two things my worry has dissipated quite considerably and I am finding I have more time for my books and writing or typing or working on something that means more to me.

What it has also taught me is that I have to be aware NOW of what I am doing, where I am going and stop putting myself on “auto pilot” to get to places and do things that are detrimental to my life’s energy. I am not a robot and don’t want to be considered one at all. I love what I do and by changing my thoughts and habits maybe the thoughts and habits at work can change and we can look forward to a more prosperous future.

Anything can happen if you have a positive attitude and believe change is coming.

That’s my sermon for today and I hope at least one person takes something from this and makes a positive change in their life today as well. Here’s hoping.

]]>https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/03/20/its-amazing-how-stress-habit-and-worry-are-so-intertwined/feed/1daysnethttps://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/01/08/545/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/01/08/545/#commentsSun, 08 Jan 2017 04:22:37 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=545Continue reading →]]>Wow – Christmas and New Year is finally over. It’s been so great to have two weeks off and then it’s also been terrible because I gained 1.2 kilos. I walked almost every day and while my first week was way off (with so much chocolate in the house it was hard to stop) but by the second week all the sugary foods were moving out and I was getting back on track. However, my biggest problem has always been portion control so I guess that needs a little more work in 2017.

I used to be a workaholic – and for years I found holidays to be an “interruption” to my work schedule but I don’t feel that way any more – must be getting too old. I go back to work tomorrow and I’m not looking forward to it. I find this unusual too especially since this is my dream job but I’m not sure it is my dream anymore. Don’t get me wrong I love the work and the place I work but some of the people are just so different and I’m finding myself worrying a little more than I should. I really want to feel settled and that’s not the feeling I get when I think of work.

I need to stop worrying for one. Worrying only takes away the happiness. I know tonight I won’t sleep very well and that alone will frustrate me and I really used to love Mondays;mainly because everyone else hated them – now I’m one of THOSE PEOPLE and I hate myself for it.

I have NEVER liked New Year’s Resolutions because, for me, they always fall flat but as the month of January is where we start I must find something to get passionate about and once I have that the rest of the year starts to fall into place.

It’s 2017 and I’m going to be a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister, a better mother and more kinder to myself. I am an important part of my life and I need to acknowledge that fact and work on that accordingly.

I wish you all a PASSION FILLED 2017. (Here are some quotes from my all time favourite person – Eleanor Roosevelt)

]]>https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2017/01/08/545/feed/1daysnetaac98f5b6f4dea9a2e5bd0404a7b2bedeleanor-roosevelt-quotes-1eleanor-roosevelt-quotes-5enhanced-10737-1428077211-102016 wasn’t so badhttps://daysnet.wordpress.com/2016/12/30/2016-wasnt-so-bad/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2016/12/30/2016-wasnt-so-bad/#commentsFri, 30 Dec 2016 02:34:04 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=539Continue reading →]]>I’ve been reading around the traps that everyone is looking forward to 2017 and that it can “only get better” but no one seems to be mentioning that 2016 wasn’t so bad. OK it might not have been great for some people but I don’t have anything to whinge or complain about. My family are still fit and well and safe, my life is not boring (even if a few people would consider it so) and I’m healthy. I can’t ask for more than that.

I had a good year and expect the next couple of years to be just the same. Why? Because I do. I don’t expect much and appreciate everything I have and will be given. I have read about people wanting more and being “pissed” when they don’t get it but why is it necessary to have more? I have a roof over my head, food on my table, I can afford a mortgage and also groceries. I can afford little luxuries and definitely enjoy my time on my computer and the online community.

So I shall finish 2016 with a big THANK YOU – thank you for taking care of me and my family. THANK YOU for the new people in my life whether they be real or online and THANK YOU for just getting me through with a minimum of fuss.

I cannot ask for anything more and I wouldn’t want to.

So just THANK YOU!

]]>https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2016/12/30/2016-wasnt-so-bad/feed/1daysnet02710_648414668506874_603563589_n5963_610264668997648_612680942_nDon’t know how I feelhttps://daysnet.wordpress.com/2016/10/29/dont-know-how-i-feel/
https://daysnet.wordpress.com/2016/10/29/dont-know-how-i-feel/#commentsSat, 29 Oct 2016 09:27:33 +0000http://daysnet.wordpress.com/?p=537Continue reading →]]>Today is a weird day. Why? Because my ex-husband got remarried. Under normal circumstances it wouldn’t worry me and frankly it didn’t until……. my children came home from the wedding and showed me the wedding pictures.

First of all – I’ve never seen the “new bride” and while she wasn’t much to look at I have to say wasn’t a fan of her dress. A white bohemian number but it has nothing to do with me and I am not wearing it.

But then I saw the photos of the guests. Sure his sisters and brother were there with their families but then I noticed “friends of ours” in attendance. These are people that we lost touch with almost five years prior to our separation and yet here they were in attendance at his wedding. Obviously he had “reconnected” with them after we split up.

Wow! Am I being ungrateful right now or just petty? I feel disappointed. I guess it’s almost like they “Chose him over me” syndrome. Silly I know. If I wanted to I could have reached out to them myself and asked them over but being a “single woman” a lot of people are loathe to “meet up” again after a break up.

Being single is my choice – I have no ill feelings towards my ex but I feel like I’m the one being left out of the conversation. What are they saying about me? Who cares? Well I guess I do right now. Tomorrow might be a different story and it usually is but it’s almost like he gets the “happy ending” and I get what’s left over.

Gee I guess I’m talking myself INTO this right now. My life is full and I’m extremely happy with the choices I have made. I decided a long time ago (even before the divorce) that I could no longer live with someone in my life (except my kids of course) and when it happened it was a relief but…..on a day like today I begin to wonder WHAT IF…..

I guess it’s my day to talk myself into and out of anything as I sit alone writing on my blog. I’m disappointed in myself right now – why? Because I’m thinking about the What If, when I know it was the best decision for me and I am happy. What more can I ask for?