Why Gay Marriage Is Not a Civil Rights Issue

EDIT: I just wanted to say that I no longer agree with this article — I’ve changed my mind about a number of things since then. However, I’ve so far decided to leave up my old posts as a record of the evolution in my thought processes over the years.
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If you’ve paid attention to the recent news surrounding Proposition 8, you’ve heard the argument that gay marriage is a civil rights issue and should be legal. I’ve run across two articles (there are countless out there) that make this same point, and if you’d like to read them, you can do so here and here.

Personally though, I disagree. Proponents of gay marriage say that gay people are being discriminated against because they are not able to marry the person of their choice, while straight people can. This excellent article makes the point that straight people can’t necessarily marry the person of their choice either. For instance, a straight man might be in love with his sister, but he can’t marry her.

In fact, gay people actually have the same rights as straight people when it comes to marriage. Any straight person can marry a willing member of the opposite sex. Any gay person can do the same thing; they simply choose not to. I’m not trying to be flippant about it, but calling gay marriage a civil rights issue is grasping at straws. Their rights are exactly the same as anyone else’s.

From a personal standpoint, I honestly have nothing against gay people. I think domestic partnerships and civil unions are avenues that should be open to them. Gay couples should be able to visit each other in the hospital and have access to the financial benefits and rights that married couples have. I’m just not in favor of changing the word “marriage” to include same-sex couples. My brother has said that he might want people to refer to him as an astronaut, but if he doesn’t work for NASA and has never been to space, no one’s going to accomodate him. That’s not an equal rights issue, it’s a reality issue.

Ultimately, it will be interesting to see where future debates on this subject end up. But hopefully, enough people will eventually realize that the civil rights argument simply doesn’t fit this issue.

I am a married heterosexual, so ane could argue that I am biased, but I do not understand the desire for a homosexual to participate or partake in a union that was initiated by God when homosexuality is called a sin by God. And I think the author of this blog is right, marriage is defined as the union between a man and a woman under God. I could tell everyone that I am a runner and join a running club, but if I dont run then I am not really a runner — even if I have convinced others that I do… taxes or no taxes.

I am not trying to be rude (I really am curious – as I have only looked at this from one way), but what is the desire to be in a God-created union, when you have no intension of being united in a Godly way? Or is it that you believe God views homosexuality in a positive light?
Also, what if a man loved two women and wanted to marry both of them, should the law recognize that union? The same question with an adult who is in love with a minor and the minor is in love with the adult. Same question again with someone who may love their pet and want to marry it. Should these marriages be recognized?

Lastly, if the government said that I could not have married my wife, I would not have worried too much about it because I know that my union would still be recognized by God. Could any of these other scenarios be the same?

I’ve checked out the link to his blog, and I think his main complaint is that gay couples don’t have the same estate and financial rights that married couples enjoy. I can understand that frustration, but again, that doesn’t mean the answer is to define a homosexual relationship as a marriage. Just fix the legal rights of domestic partnerships, civil unions, etc.

As far as paying taxes goes, that seems to be a rather knee-jerk reaction to this situation. Should those against abortion stop paying taxes because they think the practice should be illegal? If people want to change society, they need to realize that it’s a lengthy, difficult process. I don’t see why this one issue should make someone so ashamed of their country that they refuse to support it.