Do You Desire A 3 Way?

Before you read this make sure you let her pick her out. What am I talking about and why is it so important to have her pick the one she wants.

You’ve been dreaming of this night for most of your adult life. It seems like it’s every man’s ultimate sexual fantasy: meeting the woman cool enough to want to invite a friend over for a three-way.

You’ve heard rumors about the three-way. You’ve had friends who have experienced it, and they all tell you it’s like living your own private porn.

What people fail to talk about when it comes to a three-way, however, is the emotional repercussions that occur the day after a three-way. Welcome to a really tough time in your adult adolescence.

In order to make a three-way successful and make it work, you need to realize that this “ultimate male fantasy” has to be only about her. Let’s say your girlfriend comes to you and says, “I really want to do this because I think it will really turn me on to see you and I with my best friend.”

In that situation, you need to ask her some questions and talk to her more about it before you even consider doing it. You need to talk to her ahead of time about what the parameters will be, because if you overstep certain boundaries she has you might ruin the relationship (not only with her but also between her and her friend).

A three-way always sounds good ‘on paper.’ Three-ways in fantasy land are always amazing.

Three-ways in the real world are very emotionally confusing, especially if you get so turned on that can’t keep your hands off the friend (and end up ignoring your girlfriend). That does happen.

It happens because as men, we are wired to always want the new. Take a man to a car dealership for two hours, and watch him test-drive four different cars for two straight hours. The man will leave with a car. Why? Because we always want bigger, better and more fun.

Put a hot woman that your girlfriend brings over in front of you, and no matter what the boundaries are — whether it’s no penetration or not — and you are going to spend more time on the friend (because she is the “new one”). You’ve already had the old one plenty of times. That toy is getting old for you now.

A three-way is a male fantasy, but be sure to realize that it has to be all about her and be done according to her rules and parameters. So whatever your girlfriend says, you need to respect.

It’s fun to have a wild and crazy woman in bed. It’s a lot of fun to be with a woman who likes a lot of sexual exploration. You don’t want to ruin that just because you think the three-way is supposed to be a certain way.

Allow it to be however it’s going to be, and remember one thing which is the most important advice I can give you: Make it about her and her pleasure, and it’s amazing how far you can stretch those boundaries.

Three ways will never work with a woman you want to be with seriously or for long-term. Why, men may ask? Because most women (if they like you) will not want to share you. Think about it, would you want to see a woman you really like being banged by another guy, is you say yes then try it and I’ll bet anything you will be upset (only if you like and care about the girl). It’s def. a fantasy for most, and if you need to play it out never do it with a woman you think you want to be with, the relationship will only end.

Another thing, if you’re girlfriend wants to have a threesome with you and another woman- she is probably in the closet and wants to experiment with her sexually (not always the case but most likely). She might end up leaving you for that other girl, who will likely please her more than you can (it’s a scientific fact that women are more likely to have orgasms through oral sex and most men suck at it).

I first noticed him in the movie, “The Notebook” and I hear a lot of woman fantasize about that movie and wish they could experience a similar romance. They say romantic movies gives false expectations for people who seek a romantic relationship. I can understand why after watching that movie.

@Intern Dan: Yeah. It is crazy what kind of things are out there in the world that some people are unaware of their existence. I am freaked out to rent a hostel in Europe after watching that movie Hostel. I’m gonna check out that movie you mentioned Lars and The Real Girl. It seems pretty interesting. I saw that movie Drive with the same actor (Ryan Gosling) and I thought that was pretty bad ass.

@Tom: Stop making assumptions about a place you have never been to. The place does exist and there are others like it. You should at least check it out. You might enjoy it.

@John: It was just a suggestion. Many people use it but if you don’t see yourself using it, then disregard what I said. I find people who are able to satisfy themselves sexually through self-pleasure when they have not had sex with a person for a long period of time can be more relaxed and at ease. It can also give people better control over their sexual urges.

Roy, I’ve read King Warrior Magician Lover and it really helped me understand myself. It also turned me onto Jungian analysis which I find fascinating. It led me to some books about the Shadow which were incredibly fascinating. You pick good books to read!

Godfather, I’ve heard of things like that in a lot of towns, towns that you wouldn’t expect. Heck, I’m curious about Calgary now.

KC, I’m not sure about a doctorate. I’ve lost a lot of my passion for school (an MA will do that to you)and I’m totally passionate about becoming a coach. One thing I’ve learned is that life is going to lead me where I’m supposed to go.