Getting PAID for doing what I used to do for FREE: Part 2. The Realities

It’s all well and good to decide to become a paid sex worker, but going from theory to practice can be a lot more complicated than you might imagine.

Enter Elisabeth

The general knee jerk reaction to sex work is that it’s deadly and degrading. I’m hoping to bust this concept.

My alter ego will be Elisabeth. Elisabeth is my superhero identity, only instead of fighting crime and wearing a cape I’ll be making fantasies come true and taking my clothes off. I wanted to go with a natural sounding name instead of something that sounded like one of the Seven Dwarves— Sassy, Chablis, Jazz. And what’s with all the chicks who call themselves Brittany, Courtni, Ashley, Brandi? Barf. A natural name will prevent men from constantly asking me what my real name is the way they used to in the strip club, where I got christened – god help me - Glamour. Guys get fixated on knowing the Real Name – it’s like a hunting trophy, they get triumphant when they discover it, whether by traveling with you, catching a glimpse of your license, or prying it out of you. Elisabeth is one of my middle names, German spelling, classic, gives the right first impression, sets the mood. It also happens to be my great-grandmother’s name. What a tribute to her! Oddly, there are two escorts in the area who are using my real name. So if anything, men will suspect that’s the fake name.

My creepy lawyer friend (NOTE: He committed suicide this year) told me my $300/hr rate is too high and I won’t get any business. I’m thinking this is a good sign, as it will keep away those of his ilk, those looking for a bargain hole. He cheerfully admits that he prefers girls who look like underage heroin users.

Here are some ads posted by my competition:

“There are some who believe erotic experiences don't exist anymore, well im here to sqaush the myth fellas. Using those fingers is your next task gentlemen Tabitha donations 150 roses”

“Hi guys!
I'm Melissa a 21 year old sensual and very sexy young blonde. I'm very sweet, affectionate and romantic. I woud like to offer you the highest standard in personal service today. So get in touch and let's get together.”

“your place are mines dont make a difference all you need to know is im read juss call...”

“Pregnant is better, you should find out why
You'll never know unless you try it.
Im 5'8,148lbs and 6 1/2 mo along so if
your interested ill send contact info and pics to you..”

“Hi! I'm sparkle,20 years old. I can make you crazy. I want a guy who will do any freakin' thing I want. I'm the sexiest freak in town! I'm alone now, get freak with me in my bed. I've got anything you want. What are you waitin'? Anyway I have more pics to if the one I have up here isnt sufficient for you... it should be all you need”

JESUS.

Incidentally, I asked my creepy lawyer friend if using the word “roses” or “gems” in place of “dollars” like our friend Tabitha’s ad did any good. His response:

“Because hookers all have honorary law degrees, they think that it affords them legal protection to refer to their fee as a “gift” or “donation,” to refer to dollars as “roses” or “jewels,” and to specify that the customer is paying for their time rather than the services they provide during that time. They are wrong. This provides no legal protection.”

So many people are ashamed of their fantasies, and they shouldn't be. I'm hoping to break down some barriers and make some fantasies come true. I'm here to help people and spread good feelings safely.

I’m Elisabeth. I’m 29, 5’4”, 120 lbs., natural, long dark blonde hair, blue eyes, pretty face, bi. I have the body of a Greek goddess—pale, very soft, no tattoos, with small breasts and curvy hips and ass. I’m a writer who loves hands-on experience.

My ideal clients:
• older men (I heart older men!)
• a couple looking for a third (just add Elisabeth!)
• regular, sweet guys wanting a physical connection
• men from other countries experiencing a culture barrier
• geeks experiencing a social barrier
• classy men in town for business
• respectful (as opposed to resentful) men who aren’t getting the female attention they deserve
• guys who want to explore something their partner isn’t down with

Here are some ideas:
• Are you an older man who fantasizes about being with a younger, beautiful woman?
• Do you want someone you can safely confide in?
• Do you want to add spice to your life?
• Would you like to see a beautiful woman bathe? Undress her? Play with her hair?
• Do you want to shave me? Eat at the Y?
• Do you want intelligent conversation in the nude?
• Do you want to mutually masturbate?
• Do you want someone you can wear women's clothing with?
• Do you have a foot fetish? A panty fetish? A role-playing fantasy? A risqué location in mind, such as your office?

Sorry, I’m not into drugs, illegal activities (it’s so lame this is considered illegal! But then again, so is oral sex in this state) racism, bad hygiene, scat, or adults wearing diapers.

Drop me a line and share your kink/fantasy/that thing that drives you crazy. If it’s something I also want to explore, I’ll contact you. I live in town and am available mornings, lunches, afternoons, evenings, and some weekends. I’m not available for late night/midnight calls—I need my beauty rest!

Kendra Holliday is The Beautiful Kind, a 38-year-old bisexual mother living in St. Louis, MO. She has been boldly and bravely exploring sex for over 20 years, and has spent the past four years documenting her wild adventures anonymously online as a Sex Writer, Consultant, and Editor of TheBeautifulKind.com. So, on Coming Out Day, and in keeping with her belief that sex should be discussed openly and honestly in the light of day instead of whispered secretively in the dark, she has made the difficult but vital decision to fully own all that she has done - the good, the bad, and the ugly. And now she is telling you her name, showing you her face, telling you her story (did you see the [http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/sex-and-society/coming-out-day-beautiful-kind-1011101/|video interview] on SexIs yet?!), and taking your questions here.
You may recall that The Beautiful Kind made national news in April when she was dramatically fired from her full-time day job for writing about sex in her personal life under a pen name. In a random Google search, TBK's employer found her real name unknowingly linked to her personal website, and based her immediate termination on this sole instance. The employer has continually declined public comment. Countless blogs and media websites picked up the scandalous story, including Inc.com, Business Insider, Glamour, Huffington Post, digg, Jezebel, Fleshbot, and Mental_Floss. During that difficult time, TBK took her website down for a few weeks and focused on writing her empowering ebook The Book of Goddess: Elevating Your Desirability to Mythic Proportions.
Kendra shares: “I'm grateful to my friends and family for supporting my decision. There's no telling what will come of this bold move, but I'm confident coming out will open up many new doors and be an inspiration to others. We all want to be accepted for who we are.” Kendra writes openly about her current life experiences on her own site, as well as her former days as a sex worker, in her column, [http://www.edenfantasys.com/sexis/columns/the-whore-journals/| The Whore Journals] on SexIs.
Kendra is embracing her future by focusing on ways to give back to the community and to educate others. As a founding member of a new not-for-profit community organization, Sex Positive St. Louis (SEX+STL), she is excited about the potential of this online community resource for local sex positive events, partnerships with organizations, and information sharing. As Kendra plans workshops and speaking events, both independently and with SEX+STL, EdenFantasys will be sponsoring her efforts. We are very much looking forward to this new chapter in the beautiful life of Kendra Holliday, The Beautiful Kind, as she continues to elevate her sex positive mission!