The life is going ahead and no one can foresee his/her future. For a man marriage and job are the most important factors which seriously change his life. Your idea for staying in Damghan and not moving to your hometown is good.In this way you have time to be beside your wife and children. Spiritually they need you to be there. A friend of mine like you moved to Zanjan , because he couldn't bear weekly travelling from hometown to Zanjan . There are both good and bad in all situations, all people and all things. But we have to choose one of them which is more beneficial to our life ,which is more suitable for improvement. A man who is responsible for improving of his family ,dedicate his life to his wife and children ,so he has an open look and choose his plan for living according to general growth of his family.

Spiritually I like living in the downtown. I can't stand living in the country ,in a small cities or in the mountain slope , I prefer to be squeezed in the bus door in the centre of city or to be pressed by the people who are around me.

This was happen when I went to celebration of 22th Bahman , ( celebrating of the 35th anniversary of Islamic revolution ).Hundred thousands of people were gathered in the Imam Square, I was close to the pavilion where Mr Zarghami ( The TV and Radio administrator ) delivered his speech then a singer ( Hamed Zamani ) song his famous singing ( Mark Bar Amrica ,it means Down with USA government policy). People who were exciting shook their flogs and song the singing together with the singer and the crowd waved from right to left ,at the same time two gliders men with parachute were diving in the sky, they tried to come down and fly over the crowd and then go up. The People were singing and whistling. I enjoyed being in this ceremony as well as visiting many old friends there.

I am quoting the following paragraph from your writing to say that I do agree one hundreds per cent with you on that.

In the end, I always remember this Aya: إن الله لا يغير ما بقوم حتى يغيروا ما بأنفسهم and hope that we change in the way that god loves according to get his acceptance and change our country situation.

Before, we blame foreign enemies and go for a war, we should kill our inside enemy!

I hope you deal with an impressive change soon , when you read forty rules of love you enjoy it a lot , that is good ,but not enough , you should change your world of fantasy to real world ,taking action and find someone to establish your loving relation in real world , stopping in fantasy is destructive , because love tale fantasy says that life should always work out in an ideal way in every detail like in movies, songs or books. In real life four rules of love doesn't work out, let alone forty rules .

Life is not a dream ,dream make us to be afraid of taking action ,because in world of fantasy everything is perfect and things do not work out that way in real life.

When we ride a bike for the first time, we may fall down , we don't think the failure is something bad ,we see it as something temporary and just keep moving after we fall down. Life is full of mistakes and stumbles, but a bump or an obstacle in the road is not the end of the world. They are simply a part of the life.

I hope to give you a good motivation for making a big change in your life.

I think we have to change ourselves before someone or something forced us to do it and that would be more effective!

In the end, I always remember this Aya: إن الله لا يغير ما بقوم حتى يغيروا ما بأنفسهم and hope that we change in the way that god loves according to get his acceptance and change our country situation.

The interpretation of this Aya is that God never change the comfort and blessing of a society to misfortune unless they themselves change

Ibn Abbas," he says: whenever God showed favor to the community a favor and they thank them indeed ,he increase his blessing, but when the unappreciative adopted, he would deny them his blessings.

Thanks for your post, it's really meaningful BUT you misunderstood! The book wasn't a forty rule about love, well, not that kind of love which you meant! It is a forty rule to love god and become closer to him. Therefore I loved it!

The book is a quest infused with Sufi mysticism.. In the book there was a story which I loved the most, it was called " Sweet Blasphemy"

While "Mosa سيدنا" was crossing the mountain, he saw a shepherd who was praying so he felt happy and stopped to watch him from a far place. The shepherd's prayer was like: Oh my God lover I love you more than you know, I'll do anything for you , just tell me what you want, I would cook and clean for you... استغفر الله -and more other things which I prefer not to say- When Mosa herd him he became angry and asked him loudly to stop praying and told him that isn't a prayer, it's blasphemy.

The shepherd felt ashamed and he apologized and Mosa taught him how to pray. At night Mosa herd a voice, it was god's voice, blamed him about what he did with the shepherd because although he was praying in a wrong way but his heart was pure and had a good faith. God told him that it might his words sounds blasphemy for Mosa but it's a sweet blasphemy for him.

In the next day, Mosa looked for the shepherd after he understood his mistake, he found him praying in the way which he taught it to him but he was fumble without any passion. Mosa apologized from him and asked him to return to his old prayer since it was valuable for god but he refused and even he didn't ever pray in the way that Mosa taught him. However, he created a new way, a way which made him closer to god.

The moral of the story that we shouldn't judge the way in which people communicate with god. Each person will have his own way and prayers. God does not take us for our word, but look to the depths of our hearts, not rites or rituals are what make us believers, but the hearts if they were pure or not.

Sorry if it was a tall post but I loved to share it with you. Thanks for reading.Best wishes,

How are you? I hope you are great, enjoying last weeks of the winter. This is to let you know I've missed you and writing here very much. I have got a lot of things to do these days; making myself ready for the classes as a teacher, completing the assignments, preparing slides for presentations that the professors ask for, studying many books and papers to deeply understand a subject, downloading and watching online courses related to the topics I am involved in, being on traveling on the weekends are just few to mention.

Luckily, my English is good enough to watch online video courses; which are extremely useful, and to refer to the references to study more and get the main ideas. Briefly speaking, I spend almost all my time on studying or doing something about my major. I really love it.

The professors and the people in Bonab are kind and friendly. I am really happy to be studying at Bonab university.

There are many interesting subjects and fantastic phenomena in Photonics. Photonic crystals, Metamaterials, Quantum Optics, Nanophysics, Plasmonic, ...! One thing that may make you amazed: Invisibility and cloaking are going to be real. Invisibility is not a dream or science fiction anymore! Metamaterials are going to revolutionize the world. Oh, something bad about it: the thieves will come to your home; wearing dresses made of Metamaterials, and will steal things but you won't be able to see them! Security and privacy are both threatened by Metamaterials. This is one of its drawbacks! Everything has got two sides; advantages and disadvantages! In other words, nothing can be absolutely useful.

Thanks for sharing the story , The story of Moses and Shaban ( shepherded) is a famous story in Iran. It was composed in the form of poem by Iranian famous poet Maulana Jalaal ul DinHe wrote this beautiful poem in his famous book ,Masnavi

The story says that one day Musa passing through a way ,hearing a shepherd is saying, oh God if you were here I would comb your hair, take your nits out, bathe you, wash your dirty clothes, massage you, give you milk to drink etc. Upon hearing this Musa (as) reprimands this man and tells him that he has blasphemed as he is likening God to the creation and God is pure of all that he is ascribing to God, it is profane, sacrilegious, the shepherd becomes upset and runs into the dessert. Musa is then reprimanded by God, God says to him, I have sent you to unite not to disunite, I have sent you into the world to bring people to me, to bridge people with me, but not to take my lovers away from me. And that's exactly what you have done. That man is one of the MOST intimate to me. what the shepherd was saying about me was acceptable as he was saying it out of love and sincerity, that is how he thinks of me. If you do not go and apologies to him, Go back! Apologize, I will no longer talk to you. Musa (as) then searches for the shepherd and tells him that he was right and I was wrong, the shepherds blasphemy was belief and Musa (as) was mistaken all the way.Amal these are the illusion of Sufism, they have lost the right track, the have isolated from the world ,while the Islam is a social religion and a person should active and follow what God messenger taught us.

Thanks for your writing , I am happy to see that you are enjoying your life . You have engaged in many activities , and you haven't enough time to scratch your head ,let alone writing here , but you always are kind to your friend and write as much as you can, thanks.I am not busy , but you know that new year is coming and many orders from house manager is on the way , This Friday I uninstalled the curtains ,washing them ,then I fixed them behind windows and doors, the plan for the next Friday is to remove dust from all over the house , oh my God , I feel the backache ,may God have mercy on me.The story of invisibility is very exciting , If the thief wearing dresses made of Metamaterials, How he is invisible , Is it because of our eyes error ?

I make a dent by shovel and put slips geranium of in a row ,the vase of petunia ,pansy ,wallflower are putting on the stair case , Spring returns again, as it does every time, may God breathes a story into our frozen minds and the mental, emotional, or physical prison doors fly open, and we’re FREE!

Come, come whoever you are! Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving. It doesn't matter. Ours is not a caravan of despair. Come, come even if you have broken your vows a thousand times. Come, come yet again, come!

How life is going? I hope all is going well with you. These days I am too busy to write. I am studying hard. Right now, I am here to download some books from the Internet. You may know that http://WWW.bookza.org and http://WWW.bookfi.org are two famous sites to download books. I often go there to download my favourite books.

For doing a PhD, that's essentially important to professionally use the English language. It really helps.

Dear Mohsen, thieves wear dresses made of metamaterials will be invisible. It is not because of optical illusion or something similar; it is the effect of metamaterials. An airplane made of metamaterials won't be visible in the sky! We will look at it, but we will see the things at the rear through it, as if it is totally transparent.

Have you ever thought about the variety of colours in nature? What is the physics behind it? Think about it, the answer isn't easy. Human just can detect a small region of electromagnetic waves by his eyes; the wavelengths between Ultraviolet and Red. How can we see? What makes colours?

What is light? Light is, maybe, one of the most fascinating and mysterious thing(what should I call it? Thing? Stuff? Subject?..) in the world. Actually, we don't see it, we detect it by detectors! Our eyes are sensitive detectors. They are sensitive to the optical spectrum of electromagnetic waves such as blue, green, yellow, red, etc. We don't see the colours. We detect them!

How do we detect electromagnetic waves? We detect the interactions of light with the matters! Yes, the interaction of light with atoms and molecules produce different colours? How do they interact with each other? This is a delicate challenging matter.

Male peacocks have beautiful feathers; right? What is the reason? Butterflies have beautiful wings, yes? What is the reason? Why don't you think, at least to satisfy your own curiosity? Aren't you curious about the physical phenomena around yourselves? Maybe no, because you may prefer money to knowledge! Yes, this is true for the majority of people in the world.

As you may know, 21st of March is the first day of our New Year. I would like to say 'Happy New Year' to all people who celebrate it as the beginning of the year, particularly, my Iranian friends. Needless to say that the first day of spring is celebrated in some countries such as Iran, Afghanistan, Kazakhstan, Uzbekistan, Azerbaijan, etc. These countries and some others(from India to Niel) were called Iran. Therefore the ancient Iran has been a large country. How was it governed? I don't know!

Oh, I am not going to give a lecture on the history of Iran. I don't bother! I just wanted to take this opportunity and say 'Happy New Year'! I hope 1393 will bring you more success, happiness and prosperity.

I waiting for 3 days to find a good SMS for New year,finally receiving 30 SMS from friends ,I send my answer to all of them , In the parties people shared their SMS to each other , it is important for everybody to send his/her new year message ,but the best one , people are sinking in the world of poem ,and funny words which is written for new year occasion , For example, behave with others' pistachio the same as yours, laughing, some behavior for making laugh ,in the party I eat the pistachio and put the pistachio shell in my wife 's plate, makes her angry , laughing… also it is interesting that everybody wear new dress and clothes , my brother asked me what is your idea about my new suit .looked at it carefully ,thinking a second ,shaking my head I said , it seems to be second hand ,that made him angry ,laughing… speaking about people who are single and why they have not married and ,why people who have got married ,don't have child , that is usual between some ladies, nosy.. Some people are sensitive ,woe is to these people ,they become nervous.

Dear friends,

Wishing you all a happy, healthy prosperous New Year, I hope all of your dreams come true in 1393, This year brings us the blessing because it started with the name of Fatima (AS) the prophet Mohammad's daughter

Happy New Year to you and to your family. How are you? I hope everything is fine.

Your post motivates me to write something about loneliness that is the main problem of human in 21st century. According to some experts, loneliness is threatening human's life in this century. Many things are involved in loneliness, but it is actually one of the bitter fruits of materialist philosophy.

As you have written, as I have noticed to repetitive messages on my mobile phone, these days people wait for a message to receive from someone, then to forward it to others! Not only don't they physically spend time with each other, but also they don't spend some time thinking about each other; at least by writing a message, creating a message by using their own words!

We go to visit friends or relatives. Well, everybody has had something to do before our visit. For example, the boy of the family, perhaps, had been playing computer game, the girl of the family, maybe, had been chatting etc. so they cannot stand us even for some minutes. They don't like our presence there, although they share some words with us to show that they are good hosts, their eyes yelling at us; "you are disturbing us and we don't like your presence. We wish you left here as soon as possible!"

Old members of the families don't know how to use modern devices such as advanced mobile phones and computers. Therefore, traditionally, they have to sit around for a while, but they have nothing to share with each other! Most of the time, they gossip about others or they complain about the gossips which they have been received from others, somehow relevant to the hosts! For example the woman of the family says, "You have said something about me to such-and such-person, that's not true. Your words have made me sad for some days!". At least, this woman is a frank person and opens her heart! The majority of people are two-faced! They don't reveal their true thoughts!

The men of the family share some words about the financial problems or politics; depends on the taste of families, and eat something to kill time!

These days, the situation is very much similar to the story of Sheikh Saadi in Golestan which is about putting a crow and a nightingale into a cage! Both were nagging each other! The crow keeps saying; "How unlucky I am. What a bad situation I am in! Nothing could be worse than this!" On the other hand, the nightingale is saying the similar words! They cannot tolerate each other!

I am not saying that some people are crows and some others are like nightingales. However, the situation that we are in is like the cage! We cannot tolerate each other!

Our words prove that we, as the creator of those words, had been thinking about you, the receiver, while we were writing them. However, people even don't spend some time on writing their own words as short messages to send to others.

All of us know these things in our lives. We are all familiar with these things, because we experience it, as guest or host, in different particular situations. What is the reason? What has happened?

Something strange has happened. New generations are different from old generations! To be different is normal. Nothing is wrong with that, but in what aspects they are different? How much gap, and in which aspect is acceptable? Humans are different from animals, but is it normal to have such a cultural and social evolution between two generations? To what extent the difference between two generations is normal or acceptable? Let me give you an example. Suppose you want to connect two different objects into each other by heating them(imagine metal-to-glass sealing which is widely used in lamps). They have different thermal expansion coefficients. To what extent this difference allows them to have constructive and compatible connection? If we want to connect two different objects, to seal between them by heating, the difference between their thermal expansion coefficients must be less than 10(order -6)1/c, otherwise the stresses and strains don't let them keep sealing!

The existence of gulf between two generations is OK, but the difference must be bridgeable, otherwise human beings cannot tolerate each other(=destructive connection)!

Satellite TVs which are responsible to destroy all traditional cultures and then to westernize all nations are one of the main reasons. The dominant materialist philosophy is another reason. This philosophy says; "Enjoy your life as much as possible. This life is given to you once, you haven't got another chance, so live as you wish!" =Individualistic!

I have to leave quickly. Thank you for reading. I don't have time to correct the mistakes. So sorry.

Although I am a physicist, I am familiar with the history of Islam, because I am a Muslim. I am also familiar with the Holy Koran. Thanks to God and His grace, I understand the majority of it. Today is death-day of Prophet Muhammad's(PBUH) only daughter; Fatima(PBUH) the great. According to the history, she has been prophet's only daughter. However, her death has been so tragic! Some questions in my mind are always bothering me: 1) Why didn't they respect the only daughter of Prophet? 2) why did she die so early; at a very young age? 3) Why did they kill Prophet's grandchild in Karbala? 4) Some people believe the majority of Arab people aren't respectful and grateful, I personally disagree, but they often give some examples of the dark points of Islam's history after the death of Prophet Muhammad.

Forget everything, just answer to this question: Why didn't (some Arabs) have respect for the only daughter of Prophet Muhammad while her mother Khadije(PBUH) spent all her life in the improvement of Islam, and her father Muhammad(PBUH) was the honour of Arab. As a matter of fact, Arab was(and is) nothing without Muhammad.

Some other questions: 1) Why did Saddam Hussein(May God do not forgive him) listen to the westerners and attack Iran and kill our people? We are still suffering from the negative impacts of that imposed war. We were both Muslim, weren't we? 2) Right know, some Arabs from other Arab countries are killing people in Syria and destroying cities! Why? 3) Saudi Arabia is a close friend of America and other Islam's enemies, why?4) Why does Saudi Arabia support Islam's enemies? 5) Why Arabs aren't united? 6) Why the world of Arab is not developed? 7) Some Arabs betray their friends easily why?.....

Generalizing isn't fair and I am not generalizing, but those questions are always in my mind, as some dark points in the history of Islam. Specially, it really makes me wonder they had no respect for Muhammad's family, whereas Muhammad was(is) the honour of humanity.

On occasion Fatima martyrdom (Prophet Muhammad's(PBUH) daughter), there is 10 days different ceremonies in my city , I took part in these mourning ceremonies at mornings and nights. There is a kind of meditation for me when listening to Dr. Mohammad Ali Ansari ,describing parts of Imam Ali's book ( Nahjol balaghe). So I didn't have time to check my emails and posts. Tonight I was very tire and stayed at home.

I read your posts about some Arab people ,there are many questions which needs to write a book to answer them. Unfortunately today the world is in the hands of some people who have military force and money ,so they are able to show the facts upside down. I read what European parliament resolved against Iran while thousands of criminals caused by them, without any trial, wolves in sheep's clothing passed a resolution expressing grave concern over the human rights situation in Iran and the “continued, systemic violation of fundamental rights” in the country. What the Europeans take into consideration are based on their own policies and serve their own interests.

The European countries militaries who accompany USA military forces in Afghanistan help them to kill thousands of innocent Afghan people and looting this country , the mineral mines , uranium.

After 14 years of occupation by U.S.and European military forces, they help Afghanistan to grow opium poppies, cultivation amounted to 210,000 hectares, they also support smugglers and lead them to Iran borders to distribute opium between Iranian youths. The biggest smuggling group are working between Afghanistan and Iran borders by supporting these foreign military forces. This is one of thousands activities of Europe –american anti-Iran polices .

When some of these smuggling groups were arrested by Iranian soldiers and executed to death , it is obvious that European passes a resolution and say that they deeply concerned about the continued and repeated violations of human rights in the Islamic Republic of Iran . No surprising ,when they have lost their friends ( smugglers),they surely object, nothing else is expected from them. They have addicted to looting, their history proves it. I don't know if they show any reaction when French military helped the rebels to kill 800000 people in Rwanda during 100 days and made a bloodbath in Rwanda.Surly this parliament don't consider the people of Rwanda as human being ,so there is no right for them to live..This is a long story, but their faked faces are being cleared for world

Hi evry body,I hope you have smile on lip while enjoy spring and beautiful sceneries. I don't know why some governments don't want to have peace in the earth . they are not content with their rights and continue to their oppression while people like to have peace and good relation.

Many Americans love Iran , one of them was Arthur Pope ,he was an Iranologist who passed away many years ago in Esfahan. His mausoleum is in the bank of Zayandehroud river, his wife is also buried beside him. At least I pass beside his tomb two times in a week , because his tomb is in a park where many people go for morning running.I don't want to judge about him ,but Iranian are very skeptical to westerners ,because during history many of historical objects were stolen from Iran ancients buildings and monuments and they are in European museums now. Each famous museum in Europe has a section for Iranian arts and culture ,display many ancient objects.

Another American professor Richard Nelson Frye has passed away one month ago at the age of 94. Famed as “dean of the world’s Iranologists” among scholars, Frye died in Boston on March 27, 2014 .Frye founded Middle Eastern studies department at Harvard University. His works and researches on Persian culture and civilization have played significant role in expanding Persian studies across the world.He has researched and taught the cultural history of Iran, Central Asia and the Near East for over six decades. He had great affection for Iran and the Iranian people and traveled to Iran several times. He wrote more than 20 books and over 150 articles about the ancient Iranian culture. Frye, in his will, had expressed his wish to be buried next to the Zayandehroud River in his beloved city, Esfahan. This request was approved by Iranian president Mahmoud Ahmadinejad in September 2007, but American government cruel policy against Iranian at present, effects on everything that we can't forbearance it and let Frye 'wish comes true.

I dreamt about Amal and Marina last night. I actually dreamed of being in Syria and at Amal's home. It was such a sweet dream. I was also a long dream. You don't believe if I say in the middle of the dream I got awake, but after sleeping, I continued dreaming the same scene! It was wonderful.

I could talk to Amal, directly, face-to-face. Her father came and saw us talking(we were talking formally)! Her father was an old man in my dream. First, her father got shocked, then I introduced myself; "I am Behnam....". Suddenly he said, "Oh yes, professor Behnam...". But, he put his finger on his lips and made a sound like 'Hiss'. Actually, I understood he was asking me to speak quietly.

There were many people at the home. After some seconds, Amal went to the lady part of the home. I was with her father. I asked him about Marina. In this part of dream, Marina was Amal's sister!!! Then he said, "A few seconds ago, two ladies went out. They got through us, didn't you notice?" I answered, "Yes, yes, ..". He continued, "They were Marina and her mother." Marina could not talk with me. I just saw her from distance, she was a little bit darker than her photo. She was keeping a baby in her arms too. Strangely, all people knew the story of me and Marina! However, I deduced that they wanted to keep it unknown, due to marriage and...

In front of Amal's house, there was a very large garden full of high trees. In my dream, half of the garden belonged to Russia and the other half belonged to Turkey! The Russia side of the garden was been bombarding by some people(not Syrian). We could see the bombs coming down to the Russia part, and we could hear bomb explosions. In this part of the dream, I was an officer(but people didn't know that), I knew that Russia would reply firmly and strongly to that sudden attack. Some people in the market were happy. They were saying, "This is the act of God...Enemies are fighting with each other.." I wanted Amal's dad to leave that part of the country to go to the north with his family. He was proud(in this scene) and said a very quiet 'OK'. In fact he agreed to leave, but I didn't see any action.

Amal's home was on the border between Turkey and Russia! Oh my God! What a terrible mistake in the dream! Syria and Russia haven't got common border!

Amazingly, in the market people could understand Turkish very well. I spoke to some of them in Azerbaijani and they replied me happily.

I was talking in English in the dream, but Amal's family could understand me. They were holding a party and men and women were separated. There were men part and women part. I just saw her family from distance. Nobody introduced them to me, but I deduced from some signs that such-and-such lady is Marina; such-and-such lady is Amal's mother and so on!

It was a very very very nice dream. It was so sweet that I talked about it with my close friends. It was amazing.