Self-Awareness

How is being aware different from being conscious? The term “Consciousness” has been defined as “Anything that we are aware of at a given moment“, however there is no real consensus among philosophers and psychologists about what consciousness is. Rather than try to engage in this battle, I am going to stay with the simpler concept of awareness.

I can be aware of my internal feeling state (angry, depressed, happy, etc.) and I can be aware of external phenomena like the weather or problems with my house that need fixing. I may be aware that the the weather report today says that the temperature is 29 degrees out and that sun is shining, but that does not mean that I am aware of my inner process. So I can be aware of the weather, but I may be unaware of how I am showing up in relationship.

In relationship, I see awareness as applying mostly to what is happening with me in the moment and what clues my partner is giving me as to her internal state. In order to become aware of my own internal state, I find that I must slow down (breathe) and notice my internal signals. How is my body feeling in this moment? What defenses are active right now? What thoughts are niggling in my ear?

One tool I use that is quite effective here is a “Pattern Interrupt” which requires me to stop, breathe, think about what is going on and choose my response wisely. Easy to say, but not always easy to do.

Bob Jones

I live in two worlds: my head and my heart. My head world involves computer programming while my heart world lives in connecting deeply with people all over the world and in teaching people to connect more deeply and authentically.

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I Appreciate the vision and intention

“I very much appreciate the vision, intention, of this workshop and passion and commitment of the instructors.” – Sanae O

Most Helpful

“I am on a journey. This weekend has been most helpful in helping me grow and become more positive in my life.” – Richard S

Workshop provided a place of safety

“This workshop provided a place of safety and offered useful tools to enable me to continue my journey to living my life in the moment, in awareness, being equanimeous and being of service to others.” – Daphne S

In all honesty…

“In all honesty, I was not looking forward to coming to the ConneXions weekend but I knew it was important to my husband, Dave. It was our 23rd Anniversary so I put my excuses aside and made the decision to go. I am so glad I did. I felt closer to Dave than I had in over twenty years. This workshop was incredibly powerful for me and it greatly increased the connection I have with my husband.” – Jen G

Very powerful

“Very powerful overall. I experienced growth on a personal level and that is why I attended.” Kim F

Workshop was deep, rich and stimulating

“The content of the workshop was deep, rich and stimulating. The manual is superb and greatly appreciated. Facilitation was authentic, transparent, passionate and sincere. I appreciated Bob’s humility, Ipswa’s fluidity and assertiveness and Howard’s openness. Clearly all 3 of you bring huge heart to this mission of connection and awakening.” – Sharon A

Empowering Heart-Opening Experience

“Both and intelligent overview of the elements of human interaction and how to use them to deeper intimacy and an empowering heart opening experience.” – Travis C

Deep Dive

I was amazed by the deep dive into all of the material presented, including the additional resources offered with the connexions.world Website, and I look forward to participating in the ongoing community of ConneXions attendees!” – Dan G

I learned New Ways to Listen

“I attended the ConneXions Intensive with my husband and went away with a better understanding of him and of myself. I learned new ways to listen and speak, great reasons for making growth in this area important in my life, and hope that with the workshop’s materials to take home, my learning will continue.” – Jo Ann H

Master of Understanding

Bob Jones is a master of understanding the dynamics of relationships and of our own self-awareness and responses. I’ve had the pleasure of watching Bob facilitate many processes during which someone had a significant “a-ha” moment and they claimed back a huge chunk of their power, choice, and joy. Bob is very well read and experienced and this shows up in his ability to draw upon many modalities and tools when helping someone rediscover their own truth. But most importantly, Bob brings a huge depth of caring and sweet fierce curiosity that results in one feeling totally heard, valued, and… Read more “Master of Understanding”

Well done Connexions!

“I have attended numerous relationship programs over the last 25 years. This one stands out. I am refreshed with appreciation and awe for the many miracles of healing that I experienced in this program. Well done Connexions!” – Howard S

Fabulous Workshop

What a Fabulous workshop, the facilitators, the content, the concept of the participant interactions in dyad and in group exercises lead to an awesome group connection right from the start! As a facilitator myself I recognized the talent that each facilitator brought to this workshop! The ability of each facilitator to hold the participants at a grounded level during each and every level of the weekend was truly inspiring! I would do this workshop again and again! So much gratitude ~ Brock F

Overall a positive experience

“Bob has an amazing ability to hear what people’s input is, and openly accept even criticisms without reacting (i.e. voice tone, impatience, arguing, ego battling, etc.) The total lack of criticism of anything that was voiced (I think) created a space for total trust. Participants who brought up trust issues the first evening of the workshop quickly flipped to opening up in a trusting way, risking the vulnerability to make changes quickly. Overall a positive experience. I look forward to seeing where it grows to under Bob’s direction.” – Laura G

Life changing workshop

“A life changing workshop that provided me with a sense of hope and movement away from feelings of hopelessness and stagnation. It provided excellent information and facilitation in a safe and supportive environment. The exercises were challenging but helped me to identify the blocks in my behaviors that have held me back from continuation of personal growth, development, health and ultimately a sense of joy and happiness. I feel better prepared, informed to continue movement in personal growth, integration and development. Working towards a sense of joy.” – Judith S

This course is clearly important and needed

“Glad to have participated in a workshop that has even more relevance in this world of separation through many experiential exercises through connections (with self and others.) This is a course that is clearly important and needed in today’s disconnected world, bringing the heart of the matter into awareness.” – Musa K

Highly Recommended!

“The ConneXions workshop offered a wonderful and insightful deep dive into human relationships – what it means to connect and what keeps us from connecting more fully. I left the workshop clearer on what I want from life and how I can go about getting it. I also formed the beginnings of several meaningful relationships with the other participants. Highly recommended!” – Peter S

I experienced a container that created safety

“I experienced a container that created safety for the participants and me to be open and authentic. I didn’t learn a great deal of new ideas here, the surprise was how they were welded together to form a road map to a better destination.” – Robert W

I was in a safe space

“I felt I was in a safe space that allowed me to explore my inner child in a beautiful way.” – Alex T