“Fear can manifest in a number of ways: fear of intense feelings, of personal vulnerability, or of potential victimization. Fear is a natural and healthy response to much of what we witness. If we lived in a society where all people were supported in the full spectrum of their feelings, if there were no right or wrong feelings for a Read more…

Two years ago, I was attending a workshop for play therapy when a profound statement reached my ears: “What you give as a therapist is what you always needed.” It struck me on different levels and in all of my different roles- therapist, sibling, daughter, friend, and human. I thought about my “style” or “theory” of therapy. Nearing the end Read more…

I come from a branch of therapy that believes in the power of words. Even subtle differences between words can make a large impact. One of the examples that is frequently used is the difference between these two questions: 1. Can you tell me of a time when the two of you were getting along? 2. Will you tell me Read more…

I stumbled across this article today called: How not to say the wrong thing and thought it was incredible. I wrote a post previously about not telling people not to be sad, but this expands on it in a rich, tangible way (and especially helpful for very sensitive cases). In this “Ring Theory,” you draw rings in this system (read article for Read more…

one of things people seem to be most surprised about when it comes to therapists is that they too, have seen or may also need to see a therapist of their own. this admittance and truth can be difficult for both therapist (e.g. myself) to acknowledge, as well as for the client to believe. i find this to be true Read more…