Thursday, March 29, 2018

Yes. This is a post about divorce.

Leaving is often a melancholy business. Ten years ago I left
the Vermont Studio Center for the first time, and tomorrow I leave it after my
second residency here. When I left a decade ago, I was newly divorced and happy
to have cut myself off from the life I’d been living. I hadn’t yet established
my new life, and I was free but also in a sort of free fall. I spent all of
February here that year, and it snowed like it might never stop. I felt
buffered by the whiteness as if I was in the blanched room of an asylum, taking
some cure meant to heal me. The cold held itself against me, and I held it
back, hoping for numbness.

I forgot all this until I arrived back here four weeks ago.
And then during this very snowy March I felt these things come back into my
body. Remembrances of this sort can serve as a gauge, and it was fulfilling to
sense the needle tipping toward full this residency. I’m all right now. More
than all right. But I wasn’t then.

Oddly, the Someone reached out to me while I was here---on a
perfunctory matter of post-divorce business. That was a gauge too. Winter’s
power over us can be absolute during a snowfall that shuts everything down. An
adversary’s power can feel absolute too.