Frienships

Submitted by betsjo_johns on May 28, 2015 - 10:30am

I love to have meaningful friendships and connect with people on a deeper level, but its hard to find a kindred soul. Most people seem to be happy with not-so-deep connections. This mostly left me feeling lonely and misunderstood. Finding friends who could be authentic and supportive seemed like such a hard task, I thought it was just me , but I guess I am just an INFJ!
Which personality types do INFJs befriend and feel the most comfortable with? Fellow INFJs or any others?

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gabsterthejoy1513 says...

2 years 8 months ago

I'm an INFP (which type is frequently confused with the INFJ type!), and I know how you feel! I feel like I'm never happy in a relationship where two people only ever make small talk, like they can settle for that level of shallow knowledge about me! I love having really deep talks with people, but it feels like I can never find anyone who simply wants to take the time to have one. Anyway, I've found that ENFJ's are my peeps when it comes to deep talks. One of my best friends is an ENFJ, I realized, and that's why I love her so much! She is reassuring of my opinions, she lets me know that I'm not misunderstood, and she listens so well! She makes an effort into the conversations, too, and we talk for literally hours! So, I suggest looking for ENFJ's, because they'll be sensitive to your feelings, and they'll do a lot of talking (probably more than you) and listening, which is what everyone needs at some point.

Like I said, I'm an INFP, so maybe I feel differently about ENFJs than you would, but it's worth a try! :) Good luck!

Gabriel (not verified) says...

2 years 8 months ago

I'm an ENFJ (maybe a bit of INFJ) and I totally agree with you. Personally I LOVE deep conversations about life,love,dreams etc. but I never really find anyone who willing to have one (only my grandmother). INFJs and ENFJs are kindred souls, we share opinions,values and beliefs so you can feel understood. My friends keep telling me that I talk a lot so yeah we possibly do the most of the talking :D

betsjo_johns says...

Courtneyapletcher says...

2 years 5 months ago

I have the greatest conversations with my ESTJ friend. Sometimes my INTJ friend goes too far down the rabbit hole, but if you're an INFJ up for a challenge, he's the one to talk to. My husband is an ENTP, and sometime he plays his youtube videos too loud, but I still love him and everything about him.

smashtash says...

1 year 5 months ago

In the exact same boat - I have good friends, but they are very different to me, and most are content meeting up once a month at most if they have the time. It's so hard to find kindred spirits! I wonder where to find ENFJs?