Breaking up with my boyfriend?

I really think its time I break up with my boyfriend he's soo selfish it's just all about him with everything he never tries to put in any effort and I'm just mentally emotionally drained from him I just can't keep going on like this, only problem is I'm now not strong enough to end it and he knows this so he doesn't care at all I don't have the strength in myself right at this point to tell him I'm done and it's killing me even more, I have really low self esteem now as well what can I possibly do?

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Thanks for your advice, it's just seems so hard for me right at this point, see what I think doesn't help is he also lives with his brother who is against marriage and having relationships because he's been burned badly so I really think he has a huge influence on him

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It's time to take the bull by the horns here, dear. If you are not happy with him, know that he is Not right for you and that it's a losing battle with a loser to boot, time to be strong, take control of your life and if you can't do it face to face, send him a text or call him on the phone and just end the madness.If you continue down the path you are going, you will end up losing your mind and never having a life... just one with strife.Good luck. xx

Oh, so welcome, sweetie... I just found out through a friend of mine on here that I needed to drag my text down so I can see everything.. lol.. I never had to do this before so something different for me... Just be strong and don't waste your time or life on someone you do not really want to be with, unless you are scared of being alone or are afraid you will not find anyone else. You will if you start over. Someone is out there for you that you can be happier with and you will Not be alone, believe me. xx

I think I might be afraid of not finding anyone else, so I think that's why I put up with being treated like a piece of crap and let him keep doing it... This has never been me I've always been such a strong independent woman until he came along and I let down my walls for him in a big way and now he has just crapped on them :(

You have allowed him to do this to you, have depended on him to 'carry' you in this relationship and now he has brought you down to the level where he thinks you really need him... get your independence back by telling yourself he will never change, this relationship will never change and believe me.. more fish in the sea. xxoo

Thank you, sweetie, for allowing me to lend a helping hand with the man... if you stay, it will only get worse because he will never change and you will only be more miserable. He will be like he his now but the older he gets, the less effort he will put into your relationship and eventually just may leave you in the end. Move on, you deserve better. xx