DATING A GIRL VS. A WOMAN (11 THINGS)

February 12, 2014
Elijah Ogidi-Olu
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I was just starting to sit back in my chair after publishing the post on DATING A BOY VS. A MAN. However, we can't deny that
there are some fundamental differences between men and women -- from how we are
socialized to the chemical and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus,
I thought it appropriate to come up with a post on the difference between DATING A GIRL VS. A WOMAN. Again, many points on this post would apply if you
switched the genders around.

A boy is attracted to
girls. A man is attracted to women. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual
age of a person. I'm referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In
fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. Also,
this isn't to say that a woman won't ever have "girlish" or immature
tendencies or vice versa. This post refers to one's maturity and most points would
also apply if you switch the genders as well.

If you are a boy, then
expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man
(independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is
considerate and an able communicator and doesn't let insecurity dominate your
psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can't spot the
difference just yet, here are some pointers:

1.
A girl throws tantrums. When
displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she
didn't get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting,
giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman
still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the
skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and
communicates clearly what is bothering her.

2.
A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her
like so. She is entitled and feels
that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has
standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to
others).

3.
A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated
through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get
what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A
woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her
values, her contributions, her humanity.

4.
A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent
-- she banks on... herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship
dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it's
considered a bonus, not the expected life line.

5.
A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and will even tear down another
in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows
that there's plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to
get what she wants.

6.
A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that
she cannot cook or clean. A woman
understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one
way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the
event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can
contribute domestically is important.

7.
"A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman
wants to be adored by one." -anonymous

8.
A girl does not respect her body. She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that
it's important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with.

"A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize
possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents
as her greatest assets." - N. Mah

9.
A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the
example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what
she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and
consequently, is often inconsistent.

"After spending time with a girl, you
feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with
a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a
passion for life." - N. Mah

10.
A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything
else. Here is an example of how
this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over six feet tall,
rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity,
intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available...

Now, a lot of these
differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple
of your eye is indeed a mature woman, or someone with an immature mindset.
However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is
this:

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2 comments:

This is really nice and to the point, but that one about silent treatment? Na you dont have to be a girl to do silent treatment, if am really angry at my boyfriend and he is at fault but wont acknowledge i just keep to my self till he realizes, even married women do that, thats how you know a woman is really angry with you, no woman will tell you oh am angry at you they will wait for you to realize it. www.thatnigeriangirl.net

Thanks for comment "That Nigerian Girl". Every Woman has girlish traits. As stated in the post. Every adult has a little bit of child in him/her. That's nature's uncontrollable humour. A lovely blog you have but I can't get my comments to be published. Thanks.

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