‘I’m curvy and don’t have perfect boobs … but when I go naked in films it empowers women’

Actress Kate Winslet on ageing, children and acting like a diva

By GRANT ROLLINGS

1st July 2012,11:57 pm

Updated: 5th April 2016,11:28 pm

TO her legions of male fans Kate Winslet is a true screen goddess.

But the Oscar-winning Brit, who often tops sexiest actress polls, thinks she
looks no better than the average woman.

And while her body has sent temperatures rising in cinemas, Kate insists: “I
don’t have perfect boobs.”

The 36-year-old star most famously went topless as Rose DeWitt Bukater in the
1997 box office sensation Titanic.

And even though she believes she has imperfections, Kate has no qualms about
signing up for sexy romantic scenes.

She has appeared partially naked in films such as Little Children, The Reader,
Holy Smoke! and the recent Emmy-winning US television drama Mildred Pierce.

Down-to-earth Kate is pleased if her relaxed approach to nudity makes other
women and actresses feel comfortable about it too.

She is also clearly not shy about swearing, littering our interview with bad
language to get across her typically forthright views.

Kate says: “I look like the people that walk down the street. I don’t have
perfect boobs, I don’t have zero cellulite — of course I don’t — and I’m
curvy. If that is something that makes women feel empowered in any way,
that’s great.”

She adds: “On a deeper, subconscious level, it’s one of the reasons why I’ve
allowed my stupid self to be so naked on screen.

“It’s partly because I do believe that it’s right for the character and it’s
right for the story but it’s also knowing that not many people do that,
actually — and not just that, but I’m a normal person.”

Even so, “normal” isn’t the word that most people would use to describe Kate’s
career.

She won the Best Actress Oscar for her performance in 2008’s The Reader and
has received five other Academy Award nominations. And she was awarded a CBE
in the Queen’s recent Birthday Honours for her services to drama.

Earlier this year the 3D re-release of Titanic showed she could still pull in
the crowds when it returned to No 1 at the box office.

Reading-born Kate was only 21 when she made the romantic drama with Leonardo
DiCaprio but she has no concerns about having aged 15 years since then.

With typical frankness, she says: “Oh my God, I couldn’t give a s***. I mean,
I’m so much less self-conscious and I think that’s something to do with
getting older and acceptance of one’s self, feeling stronger, feeling more
confident.

“I think confidence does come with time and I’ve been really surprised by that
actually.

“I mean, I remember being 21 and imagining that at 36 my t**s would be around
my knees and I would have bad hair and terrible teeth.

“When you are younger, somehow being in your later thirties just seems really
old.

“But I feel stronger, fitter and more comfortable in my own skin now than I
have ever done.”

However, Kate recognises that her confidence and happiness have taken knocks
over the years since Titanic.

During that time she has been divorced from two film directors — first Jim
Threapleton in 2001, then Sam Mendes in 2010.

She has one child from each marriage — Mia, 11, with Jim and Joe, eight, with
Sam. She continues: “Of course, it’s easy for me to say those things. I have
this lovely career and I have these two beautiful children and I get all
that. But there is something about hanging on to your sense of self as a
woman in spite of having children and in spite of going through a lot of
fairly big-deal things in my own personal life.

“I’m just like anyone else when it comes to those things. It doesn’t matter if
you are a successful individual or not, you are still a human being and it’s
tough.

“That’s the stuff of life — it’s tough — and lots of us have been there. I
think I have emerged from some of those times feeling genuinely good and
well and strong and together and with my children.”

Kate is now dating Richard Branson’s madly monikered nephew Ned RockNRoll — he
changed his name by deed poll from plain Ned Abel Smith — but she remains a
hands-on mum to her two children.

She is currently juggling parenthood with her career, filming Labor Day, in
which she plays a depressed single mum.

One of her recent movies was Carnage, which is about two couples trying to
resolve a row between their children.

But Kate believes it is generally better for kids to deal with any fall-outs
with classmates.

She says: “As the mother of two kids, sometimes I might have to pick up the
phone to so-and-so’s mum.

“For example, if Mia or Joe come home and so-and-so has hurt their feelings
and they really don’t think they have done anything wrong, I’m not the kind
of parent who jumps down the next parent’s neck and says, ‘My kids are
perfect and yours is an ****hole’. One does try to be diplomatic but for the
most part I believe in kids working these things out for themselves.

“It’s part of childhood, isn’t it? It’s part of growing up.”

Kate was bullied when she was at school because she was what she describes as
“chubby” and says: “These things are what shape and mould us, “I guess, even
if in the moments that it’s happening it hurts like hell.

“I was bullied for quite a large part of my early education and it was
terrible at the time, but it definitely has made me stronger.”

Today Kate, whose parents Roger and Sally were both stage actors, is not
afraid to say what she thinks.

And Kate reveals that she is keen to stand up to any film stars who want
special treatment on set. For her, it is important that all the cast are
equal.

She says: “I had great examples set to me at a very young age and to this day
I am still grateful for that because whenever I am working with a younger
actor who I think might be slightly out of line, or getting a little bit too
pleased with themselves, I know I really have to set my good example and
really set it well.

“I really have to make sure they know that that kind of s*** is not going to
go down.

“I might be playing the lead but no one’s trailer is going to be bigger than
anyone else’s, no one is going to have all these stars flopping around, no
one is going to have a great big entourage.

“As for the perks package that a lot of famous people do tend to have, I will
either completely avoid it, or do something like roll that person’s job into
one. Sometimes I watch the credits at the end of movies and I count people’s
assistants and I just think, ‘You ****ing ****er’.”

Kate says she is grateful to fellow British star Emma Thompson for guiding her
away from any diva-like behaviour when she was young.

And she thinks her parents would not have accepted her getting too big for her
size-nine boots.

Describing Emma as her acting mentor, she says: “Still now I thank her. I just
say, ‘God, you can’t imagine how grateful I am to have had that so young.’

“I mean, I very much doubt this would have happened because my family is
so solid and would never have allowed it, but I could have turned into a
right little s*** if I hadn’t been shown how to behave.”