LORI'S STORY - Life as a Female Quadriplegic-----The saga of Lori Ann, both before & after the car accident that left her paralyzed from the chest down and took away hands that once created awesome paintings, photograghs, & drawings. The story will include Eric her live in fiancee of 16 yrs , her attendants & caregivers Kristi, Sharlene, and Michelle & her friends and colleagues.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Now, you can choose to tell him face to face if you think you’re strong enough not to fall for any of his emotional manipulation and psychological head games, just keep in mind this person is a professional when it comes to leading you away from the real issues, placing blame and laying on guilt trips. So be careful and be strong! Keep reminding yourself you’ve taken enough bullshit from this individual and now it’s your turn to talk, to vent, to unload and to have the upper hand. You will be amazed at the response you get when this other person who has been controlling you hears you standing up for yourself. One important factor to keep in mind, if you are the LEAST bit afraid of physical harm from your soon to be ex, bring a friend or family member along when you have this final confrontation. Make it quick and clean then get your things if they’re not already packed and go to the prearranged place without looking back. Or if you’ve made up your mind that this person is the one who is leaving tell them to pack it up post haste and get out of your home. Give them a fair but not too long amount of time and leave them alone. Don’t stay and fight. Or run the risk of feeling sorry for them. Stick to your guns, this is why having a true and trusted friend by your side so important. You can turn to them in your moments of weakness to help remind why you are doing what you are you doing.

Once the initial split is made I honestly wish I could tell it’s over, but it’s not. You will second guess your decision, blame yourself for things that never happened and talk yourself into the fantasy that now that you’ve shown your strength, things will be DIFFERENT. Friends, I beg you do not fool yourselves, forget this one, work on you and the right one will come along…trust me on this, I’ve been on both sides. I have words I swear and live by; “Never go back, only go forward.” It has served me well. For one thing, there is no going back, not really. You may choose to live in the past but while you’re there your life is passing you by. Then one day you wake up, you’ve lost control of your car, the resulting accident breaks your neck and you end up a quadriplegic. Now I try to make certain every day counts and my relationship comes second to me.

Believe me things are still complicated and doubly so now that Eric is disabled. I feel guilty as hell for helping to cripple him. He’s not the same man since I became injured. The man I knew before never would have cheated on me and we had a wonderful, sensuous, no holds barred sex life. Now he won’t even touch me without a glove. Can you imagine how that makes me feel? Yet he stays to care for me while it cripples him more and more each day when all he would have to do to get better is put me in a home or leave me. So what kind of love is that? I’ll tell you, it’s unconditional, it’s Biblical. I will leave you with my favorite passage my dear friends and hope that you become healthy enough and learn to love yourselves enough to settle for nothing less.

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

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The DisabiliKeys Project - by Eric Hursh and Lori Bosley

THE DISABILIKEYS PROJECT *GETTING A LAPTOP COMPUTER INTO THE HANDS OF EVERY DISABLED PERSON NO MATTER HIS OR HER ABILITY TO PAY*1. We would like to make certain every disadvantaged person with a disability has a working laptop at NO cost to them. 2. We rely solely on donations and are NOT YET a non-profit organization. So any donation including money, old laptops or laptop parts are considered gifts and are YET tax deductable.3. Since we are just starting out we will accept ALL help including broken and non-working laptops. Eric has 20 years experience when it comes to fixing, updating, and upgrading computers and laptops.

4. As stated earlier we will try to cover shipping costs by sending call tags for donated goods.

5. Anyone in a nursing home will be first in line. PLEASE USE MY COMMENT BOX to nominate individuals you think may benefit from this program. 6. I WILL have an application available within a week for any person interested in receiving a free refurbished laptop. PLEASE FRIENDS...HELP ME GET THE WORD OUT ...HELP US HELP OTHERS!!!

About Me

I used to been high strung with an innate lack of self of esteem & confidence due the to constant tension in the home. Despite the fact that 1st my husband was a drug addicted wife beater cheatr, our tumultuous marriage lasted 10 yrs before I finally gave up the fight. I went back to college with the intention of finishing my degree but ending up going off the deep end. I left without a degree, a serious drinking problem.Tail between my legs I went back to Mom's small apartment. About a year later, I met Eric. a guardian angel, a mentor, a father figure a savior. He was my champion my best friend my greatest lover my soulmate my world. God had put him in my life. After several years of tragedy happened & I was in an auto accident that me paralyzed from the chest down taking my artists hands as well. Now my goal is help newly injured SCI victims regain their sense of self esteem,confidence,worth,and image. to show them they be whatever they were & more beutiful,intelligent,sexy athletic,WHOLE women & men again even if done in a new way.