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Respect

Respect is something that is at the core of the M/s relationship. In all successful relationships of this type, a slave will have respect for her Master. This is a quality which ensures the hierarchy exists. I have seen many relationships fail when the respect for a Master’s ability to lead and dominate is questioned.

Respect is something that is earned; it is not something that is asked for. Many new Doms try to claim they are worthy of respect because they are Masters. This is incorrect. What is the basis for that respect? Can You exemplify the qualities that merits that esteem from another? Too often I witness these same people wanting to be addressed a certain way believing the title or salutation will make them a Master.

The best way to get respect is to go out and prove You deserve it. Acquire the abilities to properly lead and own someone. Increase the knowledge that You have in the areas of psychology, domination, leadership, and BDSM. Gain the experience that is necessary to be successful in this lifestyle.

Another way to garner respect is to develop a model that works for You. Too many try to live according to the concepts or ideas of another. Just because Gorean is successful for many does not mean this is the only way to structure a relationship. Having an individual style shows One’s ability to create a life for Oneself and His slave(s). Personally, I use a few aspects of Gorean but am not much for the philosophies of life that it offers. My “style” is a blend of various components of BDSM, slavery, vanilla relationships, and common sense. This is something that works for Me as a result of evaluation over the years.

Demanding respect from another in any facet of life never works. It is something that is earned over time. Applying knowledge gained through other interactions in life will be beneficial in the M/s world. Consider if a new manager came into an office and demanded that everyone respect him the first day there. What would be the outcome? In the majority of cases, it would fail. The M/s relationship is identical. Begin the process of gain the respect of another instead of trying to demand it.