How important is self-feeding?

My usually awesome mom is getting on me because I don't make Zora try to feed herself with a spoon. The thing is Zora hates her highchair and has the attention span of a 1 year old....it is more important to me that food actually reaches her belly, not how it gets there. She self feeds finger foods like a champ....am I setting myslef up to feed her until she's 20?

My usually awesome mom is getting on me because I don't make Zora try to feed herself with a spoon. The thing is Zora hates her highchair and has the attention span of a 1 year old....it is more important to me that food actually reaches her belly, not how it gets there. She self feeds finger foods like a champ....am I setting myslef up to feed her until she's 20?

I think they are too young to seriously worry about that. To me it feels like one of those things that one day they'll just decide they want a spoon/fork and go for it. Like a PP said, I think after next birhtday I'll think about that, unless she goes for it on her own. Do what you feel is right for you and Zora, not your Mom.

I try and put one of her spoon/forks on her tray with her meals but its a noisemaker still. She knows what its for, if I put food on the fork and hand it to her she'll eat it, but do I can, no. She's also fascinated with her plates, if she sees me dump the food off her plate onto her tray she throws a fit....she has to dump the food out herself, lol.

I think they are too young to seriously worry about that. To me it feels like one of those things that one day they'll just decide they want a spoon/fork and go for it. Like a PP said, I think after next birhtday I'll think about that, unless she goes for it on her own. Do what you feel is right for you and Zora, not your Mom.

I try and put one of her spoon/forks on her tray with her meals but its a noisemaker still. She knows what its for, if I put food on the fork and hand it to her she'll eat it, but do I can, no. She's also fascinated with her plates, if she sees me dump the food off her plate onto her tray she throws a fit....she has to dump the food out herself, lol.

I wouldn't be worrying if my mom wasn't bothering me about it. But for months my mom's been telling me that when your baby is 1 you give her a bowl of food and a spoon and let her go at it until she eats it all. I am famous in the family for being such a good eater and that's what mom did with me.

I wouldn't be worrying if my mom wasn't bothering me about it. But for months my mom's been telling me that when your baby is 1 you give her a bowl of food and a spoon and let her go at it until she eats it all. I am famous in the family for being such a good eater and that's what mom did with me.

kaylee loves playing with little spoons, but can't get any food to her mouth, lol. we'll put a couple pieces of food on the spoon & she'll pick it up, flip it upside down & drop all the food off it, then put it to her mouth. kinda defeats the purpose!

but.....she's really good with a little fork. she'll stab a piece of food & put it to her mouth (although feeding like this would take us ALLLLLL DAY LONG!!).

don't worry about it - they'll all figure it out eventually!

kaylee loves playing with little spoons, but can't get any food to her mouth, lol. we'll put a couple pieces of food on the spoon & she'll pick it up, flip it upside down & drop all the food off it, then put it to her mouth. kinda defeats the purpose!

but.....she's really good with a little fork. she'll stab a piece of food & put it to her mouth (although feeding like this would take us ALLLLLL DAY LONG!!).

Uh, why are you worried about this now? I didn't think ANY of the babies on here were feeding themselves with a spoon. I mean, if I put something on one of his forks, Aiden will bring it to his mouth but he doesn't know how to stab the item first nor does he scoop up things with a spoon yet. They are way too young. I don't think my DD learned until she was close to 2 if I am remembering correctly.

Uh, why are you worried about this now? I didn't think ANY of the babies on here were feeding themselves with a spoon. I mean, if I put something on one of his forks, Aiden will bring it to his mouth but he doesn't know how to stab the item first nor does he scoop up things with a spoon yet. They are way too young. I don't think my DD learned until she was close to 2 if I am remembering correctly.

The ladies at Valeria's daycare told me not to worry about it. Just give her the spoon for her to play after she's almost done with her meal. They told me I can't expect Valeria to be good at self-feeding with a spoon it until she's about two.

The ladies at Valeria's daycare told me not to worry about it. Just give her the spoon for her to play after she's almost done with her meal. They told me I can't expect Valeria to be good at self-feeding with a spoon it until she's about two.

I don't think she'd be worried if her mother wouldn't have said anything to her about it. You know how mothers can be, though!! My mom WON'T LET UP if there's something she's stubborn on!! It drives me insane!!!

I don't think she'd be worried if her mother wouldn't have said anything to her about it. You know how mothers can be, though!! My mom WON'T LET UP if there's something she's stubborn on!! It drives me insane!!!

i dont think its very important, well i hope its not! lol cause Laiken wont even hold her bottle, let alone use a fork or spoon! hahaha. I should rephrase that, she can hold her bottle, but gets bored easily and stops drinking, but if i hold it for her she will take a lot more

i dont think its very important, well i hope its not! lol cause Laiken wont even hold her bottle, let alone use a fork or spoon! hahaha. I should rephrase that, she can hold her bottle, but gets bored easily and stops drinking, but if i hold it for her she will take a lot more

A fun way to help your infant learn to use a spoon is to dip the spoon either in peanut butter or cream cheese, depending on your babyâ€™s food preference and giving them a bowl of small oat cereal (like Cheerios). Be sure that if you are using peanut butter that your infant is over 12 months old and has been exposed to peanut butter in small amounts to be sure that they do not have a food allergy.

The peanut butter or cream cheese will help the cereal pieces stick to the spoon and give your infant the feeling of success. The extra flavor of the peanut butter or cream cheese is a fun addition to the dry cereal for your infant. You can experiment with different food combinations to give your infant some variety.

Some fun food combinations would be:Peanut butter and oat cereal

Cream cheese and oat cereal

Jelly and rice puff cereal

Peanut butter and banana slices

This is a neat idea:

A fun way to help your infant learn to use a spoon is to dip the spoon either in peanut butter or cream cheese, depending on your babyâ€™s food preference and giving them a bowl of small oat cereal (like Cheerios). Be sure that if you are using peanut butter that your infant is over 12 months old and has been exposed to peanut butter in small amounts to be sure that they do not have a food allergy.

The peanut butter or cream cheese will help the cereal pieces stick to the spoon and give your infant the feeling of success. The extra flavor of the peanut butter or cream cheese is a fun addition to the dry cereal for your infant. You can experiment with different food combinations to give your infant some variety.

i would be shocked to see a 1 year old feeding him/her self. carson will feed himself finger foods, but to use a spoon and get it in his mouth? no way. he knows the spoon goes in the bowl and the stuff goes in your mouth but to get it in there successfully would be amazing. i wouldn't worry about that at all. i felt the same way tho about the whole sippy cup thing ... but then i realized that they're just babies. they will get the sippy cup and they will learn to feed themselves. but for now they're still just babies and as long as their hitting their regular milestones then theres no need to worry.

i would be shocked to see a 1 year old feeding him/her self. carson will feed himself finger foods, but to use a spoon and get it in his mouth? no way. he knows the spoon goes in the bowl and the stuff goes in your mouth but to get it in there successfully would be amazing. i wouldn't worry about that at all. i felt the same way tho about the whole sippy cup thing ... but then i realized that they're just babies. they will get the sippy cup and they will learn to feed themselves. but for now they're still just babies and as long as their hitting their regular milestones then theres no need to worry.

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