Pet Etiquette 101

We send our cats and dogs to trainers and behaviorists in the hopes of raising polite, sociable pets. But sometimes it's the people who need a refresher course in good manners. Here, 10 tips to becoming a well bred pet owner.

The Scenario: Guests are coming to your house and you have a dog.

The Scenario: Guests are coming to your house and you have a dog.

The Proper Petiquette: It depends on the dog and the guests, says Victoria Stilwell, star of Animal Planet's TV series It’s Me or the Dog. A fearful dog may be more comfortable if confined to a safe space behind a baby gate, while a canine with aggressive tendencies should be kept away from strangers. Even a well-mannered dog should be separated from visitors, especially children, who are afraid of dogs. If your guest is an animal lover and your dog is friendly, introduce the two after the initial excitement of welcoming visitors has worn off and your pup has calmed down.

The Scenario: Your pet hurts another animal.

The Scenario: Your pet hurts another animal.

The Proper Petiquette: Keep aggressive dogs on a leash at all times, as “aggression is a reaction to fear or frustration or it’s prey drive,” says Sarah Hodgson, trainer and best-selling author. If, despite your best efforts, your dog does somehow injure another pet, immediately gain control of your animal, apologize to the other owner, offer up your contact details, and pay for all medical bills. Do not blame the other dog or turn a blind eye to your pet’s behavior.

After the incident, consult a qualified trainer who uses positive reinforcement (Stilwell offers a global database of trainers who use only humane, progressive methods at positively.com) or a behaviorist — often a veterinarian trained in dog behavior modification — because canines that bite need professional help. And remember: Never respond to your dog’s aggression with your own. “If you scream at your dog, he only becomes more frantic,” says Hodgson.

As for cats, they should be kept away from other felines, says Hodgson. You can expect a hefty vet bill if your cat, faced with another animal in its territory, lashes out.