I know how difficult the holidays can be when you are missing someone like crazy. Been there. I also know that it is next to impossible to miss someone to the point of heartache during the holidays and be the only person feeling that. Always remember ladies that if you are missing someone like crazy, the chances are all better than not that they are feeling the same way, ESPECIALLY during the holidays. It’s just the way the laws of attraction and love work. The holidays are that one time of year when you remember traditions, people, and everything that is really important to you in life. So it can be a tough time, but you are not alone. This I know.

I get a lot of letters from women that feel this missing period is never going to end. They write in feeling like hope is lost, and asking for anything that can help them stop feeling this way, and feel better. I wouldn’t be here trying to help you with relationship advice and make him miss you if I thought hope was lost for any of you. I firmly believe that love is never lost, it is only ever replaced, but it can always find its way back again.

But I also know how normal it is to feel in that place where it truly does feel like there is no hope, that place where you almost consider moving on. It really stinks! But the truth is, moving on, in your own unique way, is what is absolutely necessary for that love to find its way back to you again. That’s why the No Contact Zone is so important.

The universe has given you a wake up call, angels closing doors as my grandmother would say. Something’s not working and it’s time for a time out. So take it!

It’s the best thing you can do for yourself. And your relationship. You deserve healing time and focusing on the wound is not going to help your case. At all. Ever. No man ever wants to keep hearing about how sorry you are and how you just want to explain to him one last time.

Even if you are the daughter of Mother Theresa and look like Jennifer Aniston, no man is ever going to take you back under those circumstances because the only purpose that serves is constant reminder of the pain. That he caused. He doesn’t want that reminder, he wants to remember you as a sweet girlfriend where things just didn’t work out and it was nobody’s fault.

Trust me, it sucks for him too. But you may be too busy sitting in your own pain and grief to have the fortitude to take the role of the other and just see his side for just a second. It’s hard, I know, I’ve been there. He may be a “man”, but despite the fact that he shows his feelings differently than you do, doesn’t mean he doesn’t have them. You just don’t see them the same way you see yours, or your girlfriends. So that’s when you have to watch his reactions to you, especially those after the breakup, and mirror them. That is what you need to do to begin getting back into that sync with him.

When you are trying to get your boyfriend back, the first thing you want to do is whatever you can to fix the situation. But a nasty moment or conversation is probably the reason he broke up with you, so why would you remind him of that as much as you possibly can? What will the end result be?

Driving him away.

But when you make the choice to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and find YOU again, you pull away from him just enough to get him to start noticing you are gone. That he isn’t the center of your world anymore. And that you are an awesome amazing person doing all of these awesome amazing things, without him. That’s when he starts to remember what an awesome amazing girlfriend you were too, and those seeds of attraction begin to kernel again.

If there is a true love there and the two of you were meant to be together, the love is never lost. It will always find its way back again. I couldn’t tell you how many times I’ve seen the prescription roll out for itself, and it’s even happened to me as well. Hope is never lost.

We have a reader who needs some encouragement in this area. Here’s what she has to say:

Hi Michelle,

This is going to be a long one, I hope you can bear with me as I’m in dire need of some good advice from someone who knows a thing or two about relationships, so far, the advice from my friends and relatives isn’t giving me a clear head to look towards the future.

I was with my boyfriend for two years, he was amazing to me in every way, we planned a future together and really loved each other, but there were some problems that kept us from going that extra step, from realizing out full potential as a couple. A little background, we are both 27 years old, we’ve known each other since we were in junior high, we dated when we were 12(junior high sweet hearts), we dated briefly when we were 18 again, and then reconnected when we were both 25 and had a better go at it that time around.

When we initially started dating I had recently gotten out of a 5 year relationship that left me with a lot of bitterness and sadness, I was just starting to pick myself up again when HE, the man I always wondered about came back in my life. It was amazing really, like all starts of a relationship I was filled with hope for the future and he seemed to be very serious about reconnecting and having a relationship with me, my only concern with him was his previous behaviour, having known him since we were 12 years old and dating him a couple times when we were younger, I know a lot about him to say he is unlike any guy I’ve met in a sense that he has a very unique way of handling relationships.

I knew that relationships are hard work, sometimes people fight, sometimes it’s harder to keep it together but when two people know what they want and love each other it can work. But this guy, this guy is different, he’s always gone through phases in his life when if he’s unhappy with his personal life he will neglect his relationship, or if things start to get too hard in a relationship or things aren’t going the way he hoped he will check out and emotionally shut down, i’ve experienced this first hand with him before, but I thought since time passed by and we were older and wiser, that it would be worth a shot with him. Having my own issues about my past relationship also did not make it any better, needless to say I took a chance and decided to try it out. It was great, everything I hoped for and more, but after things started going towards the end of the honey moon phase like all relationships and the arguments started, my own unresolved issues from past relationships came up, his own issues came up, and as soon as we knew it we were fighting over petty things. I broke up with him a couple of times, and he did the same, not really meaning it, but just to prove a point, so we would get back together after a couple of days and things would be good again, until something else came up. This was our cycle, and no matter what, we always fell into the same circle of arguments.

It reached a breaking point when he called me and told me it was over, at first I didn’t believe it, but when it finally sunk it all of the damage I had done to our relationship hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized I had sabotaged the relationship by letting my unresolved issues from my past relationship keep me in a bitter state. I realized I wasn’t the same person he had fallen in love with. I regret my behaviour, and this time I have been given a new perspective into what it really means to make a relationship work.

When he broke up with me he told me several things that didn’t give me much hope.1. Things have changed for him
2. He has been unhappy for a while and doesn’t want to force anything
3. Things don’t flow with us, our personalities don’t mix
4. He would like to be friends but he needs time
5. I didn’t make him feel good about himself
6. He thinks two years is enough time to try
7. He’s not in love with me anymore
8. I’m a great girl, but it’s not working

I asked him if he knew it could work between us if he would be with me,and he said of course he would, this is why I don’t understand why he would say he isn’t in love anymore.

After the break up I blamed everything on myself, I texted him pages and pages of apologies and of things I wouldve done differently. I did this for about two days. I left him alone for another two days then texted him again, but this time as if things were normal, friendly, and just asked him about his day, he replied we exchanged a couple of texts then I left him alone for another couple of days. I began to panic and then resumed to texting him my apologies and my regret for another two days after that. I sent another text a couple of days later telling him that I was going to leave him alone and respect his decision because he had told me that when I text him it makes things harder on him as well. After a few days I couldn’t stop thinking of why he hadn’t given me the benefit of seeing him in person so I texted him just to ask him if he would be willing to meet up with me to discuss some things, he replied saying “we’ll see, but please respect my decision.” After that we texted again, in a friendly manner after i initiated the conversation just asking about trivial things…he replied to my messages about every 40 minutes and we exchanged a few texts. After this I have cut down on the times I’ve texted but still messaged him about once a week to see if he’s free to meet up, every time he will only reply with what he’s doing that week and that he’s busy. He hasn’t told me to move on, he hasn’t flat out told me leave him alone…I decided I will try no contact for good this time for at least a month. I’m getting frustrated thta he hasn’t even been able to give me a face to face to tell him so much of what I wanted to tell him. It’s been 6 weeks since the break up and I think after 2 years it’s the least I deserve. I‘m contemplating writing him a letter because there is so much I need to explain to him about what went wrong and how I see thins now. It hurts so much not being able to tell him or see him….I’m stuck in limbo and hoping the NC will still work and I haven’t done too much damage.

Once again I’ve highlighted what I think are the most important sections of the letter, the ones that speak volumes about what should happen next. Dear Reader, put down the cell phone immediately. Put it in the freezer if you have to. Do not send one more text.

You are doing exactly what I just mentioned above is the exact opposite of what you should be doing. You are reminding him of the pain over and over again to get your own ease of guilt from this situation, and you aren’t making him miss you at all. In fact, he’s even out right told you that hearing from you is painful, and yet you keep doing it.

What does that do? It sends the message to him that what he needs isn’t as important as what you need. I know that sucks to hear, but we’ve all done it, so don’t feel like I’m singling you out. If this wasn’t a problem global to the female human race I wouldn’t even print the letter. I would go find a letter that was. We have ALL been the Operations Commander of the text wars, no question about it. But as you know, that is not getting him closer to you, so why would you even consider that? Or better yet, a letter that is carefully written that will be written proof to him for years to come of all of the mistakes that you made in the relationship?

Don’t do it. He gets it. He is not blameless here. If you are taking ownership of all of your stuff, then he is sitting there trying to find a way not to have to take ownership of his stuff too. And that place is not the one that is going to have him crawling back to you. You need to make him miss you to achieve that goal. But as I have said it time and time again, he can’t miss you if he keeps hearing from you.

But you, definitely are not in the hope is lost category. You gave me about 15 different reasons for that in your own letter. You haven’t been dating him for 2 years either by the way. By my calculations it looks closer to 15. Okay give or take some breaks and some coming back togethers, three times already, but this has been going on for 15 years. That is some solid history.

But, getting him back is not going to be helped by reminding him about pain. Reminding him about the good history you have will help, you just can’t do it right away. You NEED to take at LEAST a 30 day No Contact Period, my recommendation is 60 though. Or maybe squeeze it out 45. Can we do No Contact until Valentine’s Day? Then surprise him with something sweet and flirty on Valentine’s Day and take it from there?

I think if you can spend some time on you for a while, do the things you like to do when you are single, and the time will fly. It will be a fun thing to look forward to, and it will definitely make him start to wonder what you’ve been up to. Then he will hear from you after a while, see this sweet, sexy Valentiney thing in his email one day, and he will begin to remember the awesome. Trust me. This is precisely how I landed the sweet gem I am with right now. But it’s not even been close to 15 years for us, so you have a serious advantage here.

Also remember, the two of you together have created the history that you CAN get back together. You already have proven, at least twice by my count, that you keep coming back to each other. There’s a reason for that. And yes you should explore it. But, it’s been 15 years. 45 days of salon time and yoga classes and shopping for a new wardrobe to pick you up isn’t going to suck, is it?

You definitely should not feel like hope is lost. You can get your ex boyfriend back, if you make him miss you. Put down the phone, do not send a letter, do nothing until some serious time has passed. It won’t be easy. Keep writing in and we will help support you through this.

I’ve got a good feeling about this okay, so please do keep us posted! Readers! Did I miss anything? Drop your comments in the box below and let’s help our friend get through this tough time. Always remember dear Readers, no matter how sad things may seem right now, everything is only for a season. Hope your holiday season is beautiful, and bright! Until next year friends : )

At least it feels like the worst and the end of the world to you. Instead of planning your winter vacation with the love of your life, you are trying to figure out how to get your boyfriend back. It’s okay, we’ve all been there. We’ve all wondered at one point or another how to make him miss you after he’s given the big heave-ho to you.

Right now, you aren’t thinking straight.

You think you are, but you aren’t. All you can think about right now is how sad you are, and how being back together with him is the only thing that will change that. How close am I on how you are feeling?

We’ve all been there.

Because you aren’t thinking clearly, we are going to clear up that muddled hotbed of emotions you are going through to help you and so that you can get your boyfriend back. But how?

It’s time for Relationship Ninja

Let’s face it. You’re in pretty dire straights if you are online trying to find ways to make him miss you. Or trying to make your ex boyfriend miss you without looking like the needy clingy girl.

Again, that’s okay. We’ve ALL been there.

But the sad truth is that trying to reason or convince him into doing so is going to work against you. So what you need to do is step away from all matters that seem logical and rational to you, and follow these Relationship Ninja techniques that will make him miss you.

If you want to get your boyfriend back, what you have to do is tap into that part of the mind that loves you, this will help make him miss you… and when he misses you, he will come back.

Here are two very powerful Relationship Ninja techniques that will get his motors running again.

1. Send him a thank you note… for breaking up with you.

What, Michelle??? Yes. If things weren’t clear and you never found that infamous “closure” that all breakup-ees seek, this will be a cinch. If you both are confused about “what happened” or “who broke up with who”, make it official, and break up with him.

Or, if things are a little more crystal clear than you would like, do the opposite of what you want to do, and send him a thank you note for breaking up with you. Thank him for what he taught you to learn and grow and be a better and bigger person, and wish him all the best. Yes, it sounds final, but it will make him miss you.

Why? For starters, if you do it with the right intent, you are now officially the bigger person, and have some serious points on your side. This is a good position to be in, because the other side of this is that he will take it as rejection, and rejection is a very powerful tool when it comes to breakups. Ask any man OR womam. It makes the other party go running back in the opposite direction they started in, hopefully, right back into your arms.

You know this because of how you reacted when he dumped you. You didn’t want to be rejected. You wanted validation that you were still lovable. Do the same thing to him, but be the bigger person about it, as nice as possible, and….if nothing else, it will get him thinking. What he will be thinking about is how to reverse this rejection in his favour so that he doesn’t feel so rejected any more. Chances are, you’ll be the first call. “Hey, I just got your note, that was nice, so…what was that about? And….how are you?” Send that note. Wait for the call.

2. Have some fund and start dating again.

Yes, of course this makes it seem counterproductive to YOU, you don’t want another boyfriend, you want to get your boyfriend back. RELAX. This is a Ninja technique.

Where you once started with rejection in step one, now you are going to use the powerful tool of jealousy. You’re starting to get it now?

What you want to accomplish with this step is very simple. You want to make the point that you are moving on with your life. You are sending the message that you don’t need him, that you don’t even need to win him back, because you are fabulous, and now it’s time for the rest of the world to see that.

Do you see the true power of Relationship Ninja? It’s about you.

Instead of trying to figure out how to make him love me, try and figure out how to love you. You don’t know how this is going to work out, but you do know one thing, you need to move on with something at some point. A true Ninja has not only stealth in their favour, but true intentions.

Follow these Ninja techniques with the truest of intentions, and you’ve got a very good shot at making him rethink a few things.

There is a saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and in most cases this is true. But whenever a little distance is put between a couple, be that geographic distance or emotional distance, many women tend to think that this distance is the beginning of the end.

When it comes to geographic distance such as long distance relationships or business trips however, attracting a man or seducing a man is easier than you think. A lot of women get very concerned when their squeeze is away, but it is these times where you can truly capitalize on what you have with him to make him miss you, and make him love you even more. Here’s how.

Consider the case of Jenny, whose man was a frequent traveler due to business and their dates were anything but regular. Just when she thought he was calling her to setup another date, instead he was calling to cancel because he was getting sent away again. Ugh.

Potential freak out moment in the making.

But did Jenny freak out? No, she didn’t.

She helped him pack, made a lunch for him for the plane, and made sure he got one last kiss he wouldn’t ever forget.

The result?

He called her every night after his meetings to let her know how exciting things went, and to tell her he had in fact found the sexy little surprise she tucked in his suitcase when he wasn’t looking. He even had a present delivered to her door while he was away, just to let her know he was thinking of her.

Awwwww. Lucky girl, right?

That girl could be you too, if you want to know how to make him miss you or are wondering, “how do I make him love me,” then you just need to get your game on, even when he’s going out of town. Jenny’s guy was so stoked about how she responded to his trip that he fell in love with her – from a different city!

The key to making him miss you and loving you more while he’s away involves stoking the fires of romance without putting any pressure on. When you attach expectations to the little things you do for him, you won’t make him miss you, you will make him feel pressured and guilty into doing something in return. Doing something nice for men just to make their lives easier is so welcomed and appreciated by somebody that already cares about you that you will see just how easy it is to make him miss you.

In the meantime, while he is out of town, keep yourself busy!

Yes, of course this may be the oldest advice in the books, but the reason it keeps getting repeated is because it works! Keep yourself busy, and don’t be afraid to let him know before he leaves just HOW busy you will be. Men like to know that their women don’t depend on them for every little facet of their happiness. So, if he knows you have other things to do (and people to be with) and think about while he is gone, he will feel a little more secure in the relationship himself because you don’t depend on him to fulfill you.

One advantage for women when their man goes away is that they have some time to do the things they don’t have time to when they are doting on their man. They get to go out with their girlfriends, shop for as long as they want, and eat ice cream right out of the tub without worrying about getting “the look.” When you have the opportunity to do all of these things, it’s impossible to obsess about missing him, because you’re living your fabulous life, which will only get more fabulous when he comes home.

The trick to truly make him miss you when he’s away is to focus on you (and avoid the freakout).

Just because he’s going away doesn’t mean he’s leaving you forever. Keep doing all of the things you do that make you the fabulous girlfriend and woman that you are, and you will not only make him miss you, but make him love you more.

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder… fonder, not fungus. ;-)

You can possibly read many romantic stories and real testimonials about women how successfully got their ex boyfriend back and managed to stay together. But the key here is: building a long term relationship by solving previous problems and making the commitment stronger. Let me tell you about the method I discovered on how to make him love me, and stay with me. You will also get a few great tips on how to seduce your ex-boyfriend, even if right now he would never think about getting back together again.

I broke up with my boyfriend because he wanted more freedom and I wanted him to spend more time with me. After a week I felt miserable and started thinking about ways of how to make him love me again. As I knew that at the time his freedom and independence was more important for him than me, I had to work on a plan to change this. I wanted him to suffer and read a lot about how to seduce your ex-boyfriend on the Internet. I even bought some books to achieve my goal. And I succeeded. Here is how…

I made it clear for him that I wasn’t angry at him at all. I told him that I would be available for him as a friend any time, and I went on to live my life. We met a couple of times (only bumped into each other) and I looked very happy. I always made sure that I looked my best when there was a chance to meet him. I also made the impression that I was now truly enjoying my life. Obviously, this was not true.

I wanted him back but he had no idea.

After seeing me a few times, he started to ask more questions. He had no idea that I was thinking about how to make him love me. He started to become interested in me again, because I wasn’t heartbroken and I had moved on.

Then I started mentioning a few things just casually about things we did together, like: “You remember the hotel we went to on our anniversary? They just renovated it. It looks stunning.” Then we started talking about the times we had together, and I left. I told him I had someplace to be and was running late. This is how to seduce your ex boyfriend: never say anything directly, just mention things and let him remember.

Tease him a bit and then move on.

He may even say, “I finally realize what I lost” or “I really miss you.” But at this point you should contain yourself, and go away. Become the hunted, not the hunter.

I knew that I chose the right method of how to make him love me, and carried on. But I never said anything about getting back together at all. If you want to know the best way how to seduce your ex-boyfriend, you need to know that the less you show of your emotions and real intentions, the more chance you will have.

Get him interested but stay mysterious.

After a while he invited me to a party. As I was single, and kept on thinking about how to make him love me, I knew that this was my time. I arranged a complete makeover and turned up at the party. I went in so confident.

He never knew what hit him.

I’m here to tell you, this is a proven way to seduce your ex boyfriend.

There are many women struggling alone and are looking for ways to get their ex boyfriend back. Most women go through a break up more than once in a lifetime, but if you feel that this was the real love you found, it is hard to let it go.

Fortunately, clever women and psychologists have developed some proven methods to get him back, and all you have to do is to make him miss you. There are different techniques used, and which one you use will depend on how the relationship ended, too. If you were arguing a lot and broke up with hard feelings, you will not have much chance to win him back the normal way.

You can’t just turn back and say: “I withdraw what I just said.”

However, you can still find great ways to make him miss you and come back on his own, if you are setting up a strategy. Women are great at this, but you will have to make sure he does not see through you. If he notices that you want to win him back, he is going to try and escape. Therefore you should always behave naturally, and never show your real intentions. Don’t tell anyone about your plans, especially not their friends.

And most importantly: don’t ask him out.

If you really want to make him miss you, you will have to change some things. If you were the one who ended the relationship but changed your mind, he is going to be too proud to let you come back. You hurt his feelings, and you will have to work hard to win him back, and give them courage to make the first step. But you will be able to offer him to be friends shortly after the break up, and voila, you already have a plan in place. All you have to remember, if you really want to make him miss you, is to leave him enough space and don’t be around all the time. Otherwise he would think that you can’t live without him, and this is when men can get really self-conscious.

If you separated with hard feelings, you should make him forget about the scene. If you said something you have regretted, in order to win him back, you need to apologize first. Not as a partner, but as a friend. And offer your friendship.

If he ended the relationship, you can still change his mind and get him back. You just need to make him realize what he is missing. You can do that by changing your style, buying new clothes, having a complete makeover or getting new hobbies, friends. Anything he hasn’t known about you so far will make him think about you. And the better picture you can paint about the new, single you, the more you can make him miss you. And once he does, he will try and get back together.

You should make him interested in you again, by making him remember about the good times you spent together. This is how you can make him miss you and want to come back.

But it is important that you let him make the decision, and will not call him or beg him to come back. It will just have an adverse effect and you will never get him back.

If you have been burned by a relationship and either want to prove that you were not the bad one, or want your ex back, you need to know that there are many ways to make your ex boyfriend miss you. Many women have been using the very same techniques to turn around the relationship and get back together successfully.

When you think that you are no longer needed and you can’t take care of your man any more, it is a horrible feeling.

You can still make your ex want you by changing your behavior and working on a successful plan.

Let’s face it: there is nothing harder than making your ex want to see you or arrange meeting by accident. Unfortunately, this is not something you can do without help. I don’t mean that you would need to spy on him if you want to make your ex boyfriend miss you, but if you suggested to meet he would possibly refuse. Men are very proud and wouldn’t come back on their own, no matter how much they suffer. That is why you have to try and help him.

The best way to make your ex want you is to try and get him to notice you in a new light.

If you stay the same, he might not be interested in you, as he thinks he knows you inside out. But if you are getting a makeover, start hanging out with different people, take on a new hobby, start a new sport or just behave differently, you can make your ex boyfriend miss you.

You might be thinking that he will forget about you, right after breaking up. Although men don’t usually like showing their feelings and can try and stay strong, they will still miss you. As they are practical creatures, they will remember the things you did for them first. So you can work on reminding him about these things –obviously indirectly- to make your ex boyfriend miss you.

You should be trying to look indifferent and happy; this is the best way to make your ex want you.

He might see how content and satisfied you are and he will be jealous of the people you spend time with.

And now you are on the way to get him back. When he sees your new single life, he will want to be a part of it, too. If he sees you having fun and going out with your friends, he will instantly remember the times you spent together. If you don’t even mention your relationship, you will be able to make your ex want you.

You still should not flirt with every guy, and certainly not start a new serious relationship. Instead you need to look happy on your own and show no need for getting back together. Stay in touch but a bit too busy to spend time worrying about him. Soon, he’ll be back trying to get your attention again.

While many girls think the best way to make your ex boyfriend miss you is to beg him every day, the opposite of this is the truth. If you are disappearing for a while and become mysterious, he will suddenly become interested in you again. Then you turn up, with new friends, looking great, and you seem to be happy.

He will immediately think that something is not right, and he shouldn’t have let you go.

This is the best way to make your ex want you.

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There is an enormous amount of information available all over the Internet on seducing a man. Unfortunately, most of the articles are written by people who have never been successful in dating and keeping a guy.

That is why you should not listen to just any advice when you want to get your boyfriend back. There are many ways a woman can behave, and some tips you will read will only make you look ridiculous and lessen your chances of seducing a man.

The worst advice I have ever heard in my life was the following: “Write a poem to him”

I am going to explain you why this tip is never going to work. Initially, I am just going to tell you that the real secret to get your boyfriend back is to not to look needy; not even bothered. If you are writing a poem, you are submitting yourself and are admitting that you are weak without him.

Here are the five reasons why you should never listen to this advice

1. Writing a poem makes you look needy.

You will never be seducing a man, if you are showing how much you want him. Even if you got them for a short term, they would never respect you, and you would be treated as a slave. Men think that you would do everything they want just to keep them. If you want to get your boyfriend back, you should look happy and content, to make him miss you.

2. Most guys hate poetry (or would never admit if they did like it).

If you bought him the miniature model of his favourite car, he would possibly be more interested. You will even reduce your future opportunities to get your boyfriend back, if you do this. Men get embarrassed and scared by emotions, so you should not even mention them until they do. This is the secret of seducing a man.

3. You will push him further away.

Even if he was thinking about returning to you, you just pushed him further away. He will start thinking about all the emotional commitment a relationship means for a guy, and start to run away. If you want to get your boyfriend back, you should try giving him more space instead of invading his personal and emotional life. It is just as if you were breaking down the door to get in. You will never be welcomed this way, and it is certainly not the way of seducing a man.

4. Men love a little mystery.

You will give out everything and will stop being mysterious. If you have your own secrets and don’t share every single piece of your life with him, he will think about you more. And this is how seducing a man works. But if he thinks that he can read you like a book, you will no longer be interesting for him, and you will get your boyfriend back.

5. HE should be doing the writing.

You should have made him write a poem for you, not the other way. Men are hunters and women like being hunted down. This has been like that for thousands of years. Men like being in control and making their own decisions. The only way of seducing a man is to make him want what you want. You should not pressure him in any way, or he will never come back to you.

In case you have just broken up with your boyfriend, you might be thinking about attracting a man who is no longer interested in you. Even if they have regretted the separation, you need to know that they will not make the first step. Men are too proud to do that, and you need to make him miss you so badly that he will overcome his pride. In most cases this can be a hard work and can take long months. But if you are using the proven to work techniques below of attracting a man, you will be able to get your ex boyfriend back fast.

Do not look heartbroken
The most common mistake women make when they want to succeed attracting a man is to look miserable and sad. You can’t expect them to feel sorry for you, especially if you gave them a reason to break up. You need to keep your dignity all the time, have fun, go out and don’t show any sign of being devastated; this is the best way to make him miss you. If he sees that you get along all right without him, and he is missing the things you did together (deep in his heart he will confess himself), that you will look more valuable in his eyes.

Make changes
You can change your wardrobe; have a new hairstyle, something he will notice immediately. But don’t look as if you did it for attracting a man; him or anyone else. Look as if you felt better inside than any other time, and you are not missing anything of your life. You can take on a new hobby, sport, lose weight, but not because of him, Just look like someone who is having loads of fun alone.

Become mysterious
You can make him miss you by having your own secrets. You can even disappear for a while, and turn up totally changed. The secret of attracting a man is to remain mysterious, and be impossible to see through. That is what men like about women, and you should always keep your secrets, to remain interesting. Attracting a man is all about to avoid being boring.

Make new friends
There is no harm making new friends to make him miss you. You have to ensure that he will not see you flirting with other people, as he will think you are just showing off. The best way of attracting a man is to look happy and content. He will be jealous of your friends, and immediately want to spend more time with you. If you look miserable, nobody, not even him, will want to be with you. To make him miss you, you will have to make an impression that he can be replaced by other people. This will hurt his pride and make him miss you.

Do not call him
The number one mistake girls make after breaking up with their boyfriend is starting calling them. You should look as if you have accepted the separation, and can live your life perfectly fine alone. You should avoid calling him if you want to make him miss you. You can even change your daily schedule to try and avoid him. The less he sees you the more he will miss you or think about you.

There are not too many words from a man that make a girlfriend get nervous, particularly when things seem to be going well. But the phrase “Honey, we need to reschedule next week’s date, I have to go away on business” can send even the coolest girl into a shockwave of emotions.

Frustration, disappointment, sadness…sound familiar?

When your man has to go away on business, it’s so easy to get caught up in what is going on with YOU, that you forget what is going on with him. Chances are, he’s not too thrilled about it, particularly if you had a long awaited hot date planned with each other. Women however have a tendency to snatch these emotions of theirs and run with them right to crazyville.

A million things go through your mind.

Where is he going? Who will he be going with? How long will he be gone? How many pretty girls will be in his vicinity at any point in any day? See how easy it is to get carried away? For the girl whose man is packing up to close an account, the last thing you want to worry about is how you feel about it, because you can’t change it. The first thing you want to do is prepare to make him miss you…so that you don’t miss him. Focus on what he’s going through, so that he’ll be ready to fly back home at his earliest possible convenience. And if you play your cards right, how you feel will change dramatically.

The key in how to make him miss you is about changing the way you think.

Those days away on business are long, particularly if you are the one left behind, but if you really want to make him miss you, you have to change your mindset completely. We keep saying that because that’s just how important it is. When women have no choice over any matter in our relationships, we start to get a little squirrely about things. Sending a man into the world to *gasp* conduct business makes us feel unsettled because well, anything could happen while he’s there, and we won’t be there to make it stop.

We get so caught up in the notion that by unleashing him onto another city filled with gorgeous women that he will forget all about us. In fact, we convince ourselves that this is exactly what is happening, and because we have decided this (or any other worst case scenario) is the case, one of two things happen.

You don’t make him miss you because you have done something that’s a little extreme, or falls into either of the needy or clingy categories. Women do crazy things when they’ve convinced themselves they’re about to lose someone they care about. It doesn’t make THEM crazy, it just makes their actions counterproductive to the task at hand which is, to make him miss you. Men find this “crazy” behavior because they are rational creatures and don’t understand why you are getting so emotional about one little business trip. If you want to be successful at seducing a man, even when he’s not around, you have to appeal to his logical senses.

Your reaction to his news makes him feel guilty about something he has no control over, and this will lead to a buildup of emotions with him. Maybe even a fight. And they aren’t the emotions that are going to make him miss you, they are the ones that will send him running as fast as he can to just get away from it all. Is that the guy you want to unleash into a new city full of gorgeous women? If you want to know how to make him miss you, you have to trigger the positive emotions that will do just that…make him miss you.

You already know how easy seducing a man or attracting a man is, because you’ve already done it. You’ve got the guy, but you’ve also got some bad news. If you want to know how to attract a man, and ensure he only has eyes for you even when you are on business, you need to change your mindset.

Change your mindset, change your relationship.

Do not convince yourself before he even opens up his suitcase to pack that he WON’T miss you. If you do that, you will create what is called a self fulfilling prophecy, and he won’t.

If you decide that you are going to be the calm, cool, and collected girlfriend that he adores, the one that makes all of his buddies jealous because they are dealing with daily cling-ons, then you need to be that girl. Wanting to be that girl isn’t enough. It’s so easy to forget this when we are freaking out about some bad news, but if you want to know how to make him miss you when he’s on business, you have to be the girlfriend he fell in love with. If you convince yourself he won’t miss you, your actions will reveal the hotbed of emotions inside and you will likely make some mistakes here. If you show him the cool girl he worships, you will make him miss you, and he’ll show it.

Don’t think you can make him miss you? Try shifting your mindset, and see how wrong you are.