Stay at home mom wants to leave boyfriend but no money

Chantelle - posted on 08/03/2013
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Please help! I had a WONDERFUL career and a not so wonderful relationship when I got pregnant with my now 6 month old son. My boyfriend was the "bad guy" i knew was toxic but i just kept going back. My sons father was so unsupportive and demeaning throughout my whole pregnancy but by point it was too late to turn back so my only choice was to try and make things work. of course after the baby came i was (and am) the proudest mommy and when it was time to go back to work after my maternity leave i couldnt imagine leaving my little guy and decided to leave my job to stay at home with my son. FIRST BIG MISTAKE. My sons father is emotionally unavailable and treats me like i am his personal assistant and nanny ( and no I am not overreacting) Since we are not married we do not have joint bank accounts and he convinced me that it was unfair for me to have money in my savings account and spend "his money" so i have now drained my whole savings (except a few hundred dolars) SECOND BIG MISTAKE. Things have gotten progressively worse between us to the point it is unbearable. we fight every time we talk and sleep in different rooms. I have suggested couples counseling but he is not interested. So I have now come to the realization that the "bad guy" was the wrong guy and its a little too late. I am in Florida and all of my family and close friends live just outside of Boston. I want to leave him but he has already threatened me with the fact that I have no money for a lawyer (for custody) and no where to go. the awful thing is he is right... I have no money and no source of income and I definitely can't afford an apartment never mind a lawyer) I would give anything to be able to go home to my loving family and amazing friends but im stuck in florida where i have no one. he loves his son and is a good dad (when he wants to be) so i would never want to completely take his son away from him. Please help I feel like I have hit rock bottom. It's so crazy how I can be so happy (with my baby) but so miserable at the some time. I just want to know what the first step is to be able to leave and start a new life with my baby. Thank you :)

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Fanoodles73 - posted on 09/27/2013

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You have to have faith in situations like this. If you know that you need to leave than do it. You will be provided for somehow. Search for women's help agencies, etc. contact friends and family that may be able to help. I don't really know better than you what to do but I do know that if it's right for you to leave than you WILL be able to. You just have to believe in what you can not see.