It’s impossible to predict what will bother you most about a partner’s exes. The beauty of this exercise in testing your own self-esteem is that you often can’t know what’ll get you until the precise moment you discover one of them was a particularly talented artist, a manic pixie dream girl, or really good at… »7/22/15 11:40am 7/22/15 11:40am

Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris are practically slobbering on each other in public and it’s a beautiful thing. You look at them and can’t help thinking: Those two lovebirds are in love.»7/21/15 5:20pm 7/21/15 5:20pm

Being in a romantic relationship when one (or both) of you suffer from depression is a massive challenge. Depression can make your partner seem distant. They may feel like they’re a burden or close themselves off. None of that means your relationship is the problem. You two can tackle this together. Here’s how. »7/14/15 12:13pm 7/14/15 12:13pm

If you’ve ever been ghosted—your urgent pleas for contact suddenly ignored by a lover, or a prospective lover, or yes, even a friend—then you know the particular breed of torture, self-scrutiny, and turmoil the act summons. But how, we started wondering, does the ghoster feel? »6/30/15 3:20pm 6/30/15 3:20pm

There’s a popular perception that your relationship’s health can be measured by the frequency of your lovemaking. So it only follows that if you wanted to fine-tune your rapport, adding more sex ought to tip the scales toward greater satisfaction, right? Wrong—according to a new study that suggests that doing it more… »6/27/15 1:30pm 6/27/15 1:30pm

Recently, some of my friends have been lamenting the lack of good crushes in their orbit as of late. All in their thirties, the majority married, they found themselves longing for old crushes who’d faded from their social circles or workplaces, taking their crushability with them. Which got us thinking: What makes for… »6/26/15 1:30pm 6/26/15 1:30pm

The same day my father sold my childhood home, I headed to the airport. I was 21 and had finally mustered the courage to buy a flight to a country I’d always wanted to visit: India. I was prepared for nothing but surprises and adventures. Unfortunately, that’s what I got.»6/25/15 3:01pm 6/25/15 3:01pm

Recently, a 23-year-old woman posted an astonishing inquiry on Ask Metafilter. Just a warning, though, her question—titled “Did my boyfriend just get married?”—might make you want to hop into one of Bruce Willis’s spaceship drills from Armageddon and burrow yourself 10,000 feet into the core of a dying star: »6/24/15 7:10pm 6/24/15 7:10pm

Miley Cyrus, who’s recently spoken about the fact that she’s dated both men and women and referred to herself as genderfluid, may be dating again. According to sources, Cyrus has been dating Victoria’s Secret model Stella Maxwell for the past two months. »6/19/15 4:00pm 6/19/15 4:00pm

Player Gets Played is a new show on Oxygen that’s taking a lot of cues from The Other Woman (starring Cameron Diaz and Kate Upton as The Other Women). In it, cheating partners are confronted not only by their current main flame but also by the people they’re cheating with. This week, three women confront a guy who… »6/17/15 3:50pm 6/17/15 3:50pm

Over the last week, fans, tabloids and this very website inferred from a series of cryptic Instagram posts that Her Minajesty, Onika Maraj, may have dumped recent manfriend Meek Mill right on his ass. Those posts included two May 31 photographs of Minaj quoting lyrics from Beyoncé’s “Best I Never Had” (“Thank God ya…»6/05/15 11:10am 6/05/15 11:10am

It comes up eventually in every long-ish dating scenario: A back-and-forth exchange of not just bodily fluids, but sexual histories—maybe by vague reference to exes or past singlehood, maybe by a specific tally. But research shows most people don’t know want to your actual number, and amen to that. »5/19/15 12:10pm 5/19/15 12:10pm

Life is full of regrets. And for so many of us, those regrets live inside our phones, in the form of awful, terrible, no good sext attempts we can never, ever take back. In this world, each of us is doomed at some point to be the Jonathan Franzen of our own private erotic novel, churning out the most genital-withering… »5/18/15 4:40pm 5/18/15 4:40pm

Have you ever been rejected by a god among men, so you just surveyed the scene and grabbed the next average dude in sight? No? Me either. Luckily, almighty science has finally gotten around to debunking this popular “rebound” wet dream of regular dudes everywhere that I’m pretty sure was never real in the first place,… »5/16/15 4:00pm 5/16/15 4:00pm

Relationships require work, no matter how great the distractions out there, and sometimes the distractions are pretty great, like any site where you can make your own avatar. But know this: If your phone is destroying your relationship, the only person you have to blame is yourself.»5/13/15 12:10pm 5/13/15 12:10pm

Back in January, you probably came across that Modern Love essay asking whether you could fall in love with a stranger by answering a series of 36 increasingly intimate questions together. The answer, posited the column, was yes. But the more important question is probably: what next? What happens after your essay… »5/06/15 11:50am 5/06/15 11:50am

Sex is one of the most difficult topics to talk about openly, and there are plenty of people out there who have never had a single honest conversation with a partner about their intimate relationship. If you’re a total sexual communication beginner, here are some straightforward steps to help you get started. »5/06/15 10:24am 5/06/15 10:24am

Who among us has never had doubts about a relationship? Who among us has not also wrestled with which doubts to take seriously, and which to sideline? What if someone told you that, despite your doubts, a relationship ought to be sturdily defensible—that you ought to be able to defend it in a court of law? »5/03/15 12:00pm 5/03/15 12:00pm

Porn has existed since man first discovered how to draw naked people on cave walls, and we’ve debated whether or not it’s healthy for just about as long. I doubt we’re ever going to have a clear consensus on the effects of porn usage, but there are still some simple guidelines you can follow if you’d like to improve… »4/23/15 1:25pm 4/23/15 1:25pm