Dealing With Her Past

How To Deal With Her Past

Using examples of things from her past bedroom escapades may be her way of letting you know the kind of things she is into and she may be trying to see if you are into those things, too. It’s not easy to lay all your fetishes out on the table because they may get rejected. Take her coyness as a sign and really try to read between the lines. If you are intrigued by what she is talking about, press on. You never know where it could lead.

If you are dealing with a girl who reveals too much too quickly, remember that nothing makes a girl feel worse than a reaction like “Why are you telling me this?” Don’t stop the conversation short. It will make her feel stupid and awkward. Instead, manipulate the conversation in another direction and move away from the subject. If she does it again, maybe you are on two different pages and you might want to assess if this is truly a good match. Communication is key. The beginning of a relationship should be the best part, the honeymoon phase, so if you are not having fun, it may not be right.

Don't Ask Questions You Don't Want To Hear The Answers To

As tempting as it is to ask a woman right off the bat about how many people she has slept with or why her last relationship ended or the crazy things she did in her youth, dating is not a job interview (sorry, Mr. Seinfeld). Sometimes it’s best not to pry too deeply too quickly. You need to decide what is best for you and your baggage when it comes to how much you want to know about a girl’s past when you first start dating.

Things should be uncovered naturally, so trolling deep into cyber world for clues about her past or asking her straight up how many people she has slept with is fine if you really want to know the answers to these questions, but, realistically, most of us do not. What’s the point? New relationships are new beginnings, and the details of our baggage will come out eventually. As partners, you will deal with it step by step. Don’t ruin the fun early by playing detective if you know you don’t have the wherewithal to be Dick Tracy.