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You have a wonderful dream. You are all excited about it and you start out gung ho. Then it gets hard, you hit an obstacle. It is not working out like you thought it would. During challenging times this is where most people stop short on their dream.

They seem to give up and settle. Making it okay not to reach their dream. But, you can be different.
This is the point where you can make a choice to go with the current state of feelings or breakout of it. How do you break away from the habit of repeated habitual thinking and feelings?

Here are 3 steps to help your breakthrough the challenge to your success.
The first step is to stop and breath. When we get stressed we tense up and hold our breath. The second step is to feel the frustration or anger. When you feel the frustration or the anger, acknowledge it and then breathe through it, letting the frustration go. The last step is to reframe the event so that it ends the way that supports you.
Most of the time, we get upset or quit the project, because the outcome is not what we expected. We become disappointed or frustrated and it is easier to settle than to figure out a new way of creating our desire. Next time you are ready to throw in the towel and settle. Pause for a moment and ask yourself, “If I settled would I be happy?” If the answer is no, then find another option and keep moving forward towards your dream.
When you push through the last obstacle more than likely things work out better than you could have ever imagined. It is like the last test from The Universe to see if you really want your dream. I know you can do it. Keep going towards your goal, dream or vision and breakthrough the last barrier to your success. Then celebrate all that you have accomplished. You deserve it.

Most people stop short, just before they succeed. They seem to give up and settle. Making it okay not to reach their dream. Are you going to stop? Or are you going to keep going towards your goal, dream or vision and breakthrough the last barrier to your success? The key is to be aware when you are giving up and settling.

The other day I was traveling with a friend from San Francisco to Santa Rosa. It was a beautiful Sunday morning. The sky was bright blue. The trees were still glistering from the evening dew and we assumed the drive up the coast would be easy. We were going against traffic and we left with extra time to spare for our two hour trip. The first couple of highways that we traveled on were light with traffic as we chatted the morning away. It wasn’t until we got to the very tall and long one lane bridge that we got stuck in traffic. It was a steady line of red tail lights as far as you could see. We were cruising at the high speed of ten miles an hour.

My friend started to get frustrated and wanted to turn around and go home. But the problem was there was nowhere to turn around on the bridge. We were surrounded by cement and water. We were almost there. At the top of the bridge I could see the signal light ahead. All we had to do was go straight down the bridge to the signal light. Then we would be free from the traffic. Most of the traffic was turning right at the signal light to the race track. My friend and I had no idea that there was a big race in Napa Valley that day. My friend was getting very upset and was saying things such as, “I knew this wouldn’t work out. It was a mistake. I shouldn’t have gone.” When I questioned her about it and asked, “What was so important that you should have stayed home?” She didn’t have a real answer. They were excuses, such as cleaning the house, gardening or paperwork.
Are you like my friend, wanting to turn around, throw the towel in and go home? Are you ready to give up just before the great breakthrough to your dream and happiness? Are you willing to go through that last challenge to get what you really want or do you settle for something less?

What do you do when you drive yourself into a place of frustration or anger? The energy of frustration or anger that you are sending out keeps circling around you like a dust bowl. It sticks to you like glue until you shift your energy. When you’re frustrated or angry your mind keeps replaying the same thoughts. Those thoughts keep circling around and around in your mind like a hamster on a wheel. The thoughts start feeding on each other and the problem get bigger and bigger as the mind blows it out of proportion.
When we become disappointed or frustrated most of the time it is easier to give up and settle than to figure out a new way of creating our desire. Next time you are ready to throw in the towel and settle. Pause for a moment and ask yourself, “If I settled would I be happy?” If the answer is no, then find another option and keep moving forward towards your dream. It has been my experience that if you keep going then all of a sudden there is a shift in the energy and the outcome turns out better than you could have ever imagined. You are so happy that you stuck with it. What is the new idea or option you can do today?

Have you ever forced yourself to do something that your heart just wasn’t into? It seems the more you push yourself the more tired you get. I don’t know about you, but when I push myself harder, it is even harder for me to keep my eyes open. All I want to do is take a nap.

On the other side of the coin when you are excited to do something time flies. You are wide awake into the wee hours of the morning or you jump out of bed ready to go, full of excitement for the day.

Did you know willpower is like a muscle? Let’s take your bicep for example. It can only exert itself so long, before it gives out and gets tired. The same is true with willpower. You can only do it for so long before you give up.

The question is then, “How do I get something done when I’m not excited to do?” The secret is to do something first to get your excitement up. You could dance, stretch, or go for a short walk. Do something for yourself, which you like to do.Set a time limit that states at such and such time I’ll start the project that you have been putting off.

Then with this new frame of mind you can jump right in and get started. The switch is in changing how you think about your project. Here are two ideas to make the task more enjoyable. First, take the excitement that you just created doing the thing that you wanted to do and put that same excitement towards the item you do not want to do. Idea two: Set the timer the race is on. How fast can you get it done? Make a game out of doing it and in no time you will be done.

The other evening I was standing in the kitchen talking to my brother and nephew. It was getting late, so I decided to get the coffee maker ready for the next morning.

The conversation was traveling along at an even pace as I started to count the scoops of coffee into the basket, one scoop, two scoops. My brother decides to start teasing me. He starts counting four, five, and six. I am trying really hard to concentrate on my counting, three, four. I am starting to get confused. I hear four, five, six and it get louder with giggles. I can’t remember what number I am on.

All I hear are odd numbers and laugher, as the noise gets louder in my head.I try hard to concentrate and give it my best try.I scoop two more tablespoons of coffee into the basket, not sure how many are in the basket right now.My brother is still counting numbers at random, when I throw up my arms and say I give up. My brother laughs as he hugs me and says never change. Then he walks out of the kitchen.

My nephew is still standing there in the kitchen. I ask him, “How many scoops of coffee did I put into the basket?” He tells me six. Oh, I only need one more scoop and I add it to the basket.

That is when it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was only one scoop away! I went through all the teasing, laughter and confusion to give up one scoop away. It is just like success. You go through all the steps of learning, struggle and hardship only to give up one step away.

What I got out of the playful event was not to give up one step away before you hit success. You are almost there, Keeping going! No matter what you are trying to do. Do not give up.

Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or work, all you have to do is change your mind.

–Anonymous

Where your thoughts go, man follows and the result of those thoughts is what is appearing in your life. I believe thoughts lead us in life. Your thoughts are mapping the course for your life. It is like a captain of a ship. He cannot reach his destination without a chart and a compass. The same is true with your thoughts. The style of thinking that you have is pointing you in a certain direction. It could be a wonderful life that is full of gratitude with happy, loving positive thoughts or it could be a life of struggle, hardship and pain with thoughts full of anger, judgment, and criticism. The choice is yours.

Attitudes and Perspectives

Your thoughts are causing you to have certain attitudes and perspectives about life. They affect every area of your life and relationships that you have with others. People will treat you the way you are thinking about them. If you think the person is a jerk, then the person will be a jerk in your eyes. If you see the person happy, fun and exciting, then they will be happy, fun and exciting towards you. The person who is reflecting this attitude is really a mirror reflecting back to you what you are thinking and feeling. The way the person is acting towards you really has nothing to do with the other person, because it is your thoughts about them that cause them to act a certain way towards you. If, you change your reaction, thinking and feelings towards the person they will either do one of two things. They will change or leave.

There was a man who was an accountant and in his office was someone he did not like. The man practiced thinking kind thoughts about the person he didn’t like and did the best job he could. Time went by and nothing changed, but he kept knowing that a better position would open up for him or the man would leave. He got sent to the audit section of the company for a month as someone had sick leave. It turned out he loved it. Everyone was happy and friendly to him. When the month was up he was hired on permanently in that department, because he did such a good job.

Your thoughts determine how productive you will be and they influence the quality of your work. Such was the case with the above story about the accountant. He had it firmly in his mind that things would work out for his best and highest good and they did. It may take some time for things to change and there may be some twist and turns, but your daily thoughts will create a new opportunity for you. The secret is to focus on what you want in your life instead of what is not working. What do you want? What are the thoughts that you say to yourself on a daily basics? Are you will to shift them to a more positive statement? Practice just for today no complaining. Let me know how it goes by leaving a comment below.

In the beginning you want or wish for something. For example: I want a new car. I wish I had a new car. The want or wish is a normal feeling.

We all want something, but if you stay there in the wanting and wishing for too long is when you become stuck.

The reason why you become stuck is because the energy of wanting turns into lack, scarcity, or not enough. The wishing energy never manifests. Wishing is just talk without any movement or action. The secret to wanting or wishing for something is to change the energy of it.

Change the Energy of Want or Wish

How do you change the energy of your wanting? One way to do this is with your langue. Once you figure out what you really want delete the word want or wish from your vocabulary. Instead use words that give you power towards your desire.

Use present tense language that will help bring your desire into your life. Here are some examples of phases I use to create my desire: I have… or I am creating…or I’m excited at the thought of having… or I’m in the process of receiving. This tells your mind that you are creating your desire.

The second thing that is really important to do is to get moving, and take some type of action towards your desire. What is it that you need to do to bring your desire into reality? Lastly, if you have a really big desire, break it down into little steps. Then spend each day working on the little steps. Those little steps are what bring your big desire into reality. What steps can you take today towards your desire? Leave a comment below and let us know what little step you are taking today.

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stressed or worried with all that you have to do in order to be successful in your live or business? Do you have old junky negative words rolling around in your head repeating themselves day after day? Telling you that you can’t do it, you’re not smart enough, good enough or whatever? Do you feel stuck?

If you feel stuck then here is a tip that you can use to shift from a limiting belief that is hold you back to an empowering belief that will move you forward.

First you want to make a conscious choice to move from an old belief to a new belief, which means that you have to pay attention to your thoughts. Next, follow these easy 3 steps to change the limiting belief.

Step 1: Willingness

Have the willingness to choose the new empowering belief

I’m willing to believe I can…

Step 2: Courage

Have the courage to act on your new belief

I’m willing to do…

Step 3: Practice

Have the ongoing practice where you do it again and again. Until you move from the old limiting belief to the new empowering belief. This is where you have moved on through to the other side and made the shift to the new belief. The best part of this is that the old belief is not even on your radar screen any more.

What is your new belief that you are choosing today? Here are the questions again to ask yourself, “What matters to you now?” “What is important to you now?”

What one step are you going to take to move you towards your new positive thought? What one step are you going to take this week? Go ahead, do it now! Leave a comment to tell us what you will be doing.

By Jolen Philbrook

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The choice is yours to be stopped or push through to success. Are you going to let one little thing stop or are you going to keep going and breakthrough your last barrier to success?

It was a beautiful Sunday morning. I was traveling with a friend to an event. A great day to travel, so we assumed, but it turned out it was race day at the race track. All of a sudden we got stuck in traffic. The traffic crawled along at the high speed of ten miles an hour with a lot of red brake lights, stop and go movement. My friend started to get frustrated and angry. She wanted to turn around and go home. I felt calm and wanted to move forward and go to the event. I could see the light ahead where the traffic started to flow. She couldn’t see it. For her, it was too far off in the distance. Was she being blinded by her frustration?

Are you like this?

Where in your life do you feel like stopping, quitting or doing something different? I looked at this driving experience, as an experience we all have in life. When life gets hard, we get frustrated. When things may not go as planned most people give up, but what if you just hung in there a little longer. Did you know the universe gives you one last test to see if you really want what you are going after before it shows up in your life? Also, what you want never shows up the way you expect it to show up. The question I leave you with is, “Are you going to stick with it and succeed or quit?”

Do you allow yourself to be happy? Did you know that some people will not allow themselves to be happy? All they do is complain or find something wrong with everything or person around them.

When you allow yourself to be happy, you are really giving yourself permission to be happy, valued, loved, and appreciated, which can only come from one source. Only one person can make you happy and that person is you. Why not give yourself permission to be happy. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks you are capable of or deserve. It only matters what you believe about yourself. By giving yourself permission you fill your most basic needs, which are safety, belonging, self approval and love. When you give yourself permission to be happy you can completely override your inner system of emotions.

This system of emotions is controlled by your responses to different experiences that you have had in your life and it’s calibrated to what you think you deserve. If your system is calibrated too low, then you will start to feel out of balance, whenever you begin to experience success in your life. This is because internally you feel that you don’t actually deserve success. This out of balance will cause emotional conflict. You don’t need to feel that you deserve happiness either. You just need your own permission to fully experience it. There is no reason to make happiness, love or success conditional. You don’t need to measure up to some self-imposed standard, so that you feel like you deserve it. All you need is your own permission!

Would you like to give yourself permission to be happy? Great!

Put your hand on your heart and say with me, “I ask myself for permission to be happy.” Take a deep breath and allow it in. You can put your hand down now.

As you go about your day look for ways that you can be happy. It’s all in your attitude. Put a smile on your face and be happy. If you enjoyed this post sign up for a free e-book 53 Insightful Tips to bring more happiness into your life.

Have you ever heard play at a level ten, play full out or lean into your problem? It seems that these statements are the new buzz words. Every workshop, boot camp or event I go to the speaker is saying that you need to step into your problem or play at level ten. What does that mean?

One speaker had us say, “Good morning” and rated it at a level six. Then, he has us say, “Good morning” with a little more enthusiasm. We yelled back, “Good morning!” He said, “Great, now you are at a level eight. One more time and give it your all.” We all yelled, “Good Morning!!” He said, “Yea! You reached a level ten.” Great, now we are all excited to sit down to listen to the speaker. It did not make sense to me.

Until one day was I reading Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker. Who said, “Rich people are bigger than their problem. Poor people are smaller than their problem.” Well that did not really click until Harv explained on a scale of one to ten your character in relation to your problem. Everyone seems to stop, get stuck or get derailed by their problem. If you are like most people you try to avoid or run from the problem, which only makes it worst. Instead work on yourself, your beliefs, and pay attention to your inner talk.

The bottom line is when you keep growing and working on yourself you actually become bigger than your problem. Now you are playing at a level ten. You have ways to deal with and get through your problems. You now focus on solutions.

The key here is to grow so strong and confident enough that you can handle any size problem. Your business and wealth will only grow to the extent that you do. The bigger the business, the more responsibility, employees, customers and money you can handle. Become a master at overcoming problems and you too will be playing at a level ten.Leave a comment and tell us how you are going to play at a level 10.