DH is acting irrational and it hurts. Where is the love?????

So, I just went all hormonal since Monday Night, four days ago now. It was a mood swing and DH (dear husband) totally did not or pretended not to notice. I was slamming doors and really in my zone but he never probed nor tried to comfort me. I guess i feel normal now but it hurts that he hasnt been actively involved in this baby or care deeply about how I feel. (Note: I'm a ftm and we TTC (trying to conceive) for about 18 months) Is it me or it's the hormones? I feel slighted and emotionally bruised.

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Maybe it is just hormones but your emotions should still matter . My DH (dear husband) does the same thing, I could cry in the front of him and he'll give me a ridiculous comment. I'm sorry you're going through this, I'm currently in the same situation but a Secondtime mom... I hope things get better.

I can't relate. It sounds like you might have been over reacting to your frustrations. I feel like you should have come right out and asked for comfort from DH. If the situation were reversed and my husband was slamming doors, I would be in no mood to comfort him. I'd probably want to yell at him for acting that way. Without witnessing the event, my gut instinct is to say he was not acting irrationally. On the other hand I know how intense hormones can get on occasion. I am not some pregnant angel. I've had mood swings too, but I try to refrain from taking it out on people/door frames as best I can. On the occasion I am snarky with DH (dear husband) or the kids I be sure to apologize after I have calmed down and come to my senses.

My husband does the same thing kinda or like tonight what really gets to me is when he bugs the living crap out of me "whats wrong? Please tell me" like he cares but the second I do he drops it and walks off. He only wanted to know for his own curiosity not because he gave crap.

Its crazy how i use to feel like the only one going through craziness . But i can totally relate im a ftm also and its frustrating bc they show you no love or no concern and thats what hurts . I hope things straighten out for you guys .

It's sounds to me like you are the one being irrational; not your husband. To be honest, I would probably ignore that kind of behavior too. I certainly do when my 3 1/2 year-old acts up for attention.

I admit I am very lucky and don't have all the mood swings or hormonal behavior that I read about others having on here, but in my normal course of life if I feel unhappy about something I either work through it myself or if I feel like I can't, I talk to someone about it. IMO (in my opinion) being pregnant isn't an excuse for acting crazy.

I am a hormonal basketcase this pregnancy and I think my dh (dear husband) avoids me at certain times bc he is scared shitless. I am personally glad he gives me my space but I know if I need him I just have to say the word. men are not nearly as intuitive as women. If you want comfort tell him he probably just had no idea how to help you. gl

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