Aibu to be a bit upset that they think I can cure me/cfs by drinking a bit more water and thinking positively? You wouldn't do the same to someone who has cancer

Despite having this bastarding illness I always look on the positive side of life and try and see the best in everything - get joy from little things so it's not like I'm depressed and need help with overcoming mild depression.

Pil don't come round that often as I'm too ill to cope with the sensory overload - I can only really have one visitor a week as it really exhausts me to have to think and speak and listen. I think they've got the hump that they can't come round as often to see the dc's as they did before I fell ill.

So Aibu to send these unwanted presents off to the charity shop and maybe get dh to tactfully suggest that they might want to read up a bit more about the illness?

I can see why you're upset. There's a chance that they didn't mean to be so insensitive and dense but you know them better than I do. Just pass it on via a charity shop if you like, someone who is into that kind of thing might bit

You would be amazed what people will give ill people. My auntie had cancer and she got given this sort of stuff all the time. Her husband was given a book about how natural treatments can cure cancer, when she was in the hospice hours away from dying.

Yanbu it pretty shit.

Maybe try hope you can get better to see their GC more. I understand it's difficult for you, but why can't they see the kids more?

If it were just a gift to try to offer some support it may be misjudged but well meaning.

From your side though I don't think it is fair to say that they have "got the hump" about not seeing their grandchildren as often, it would be normal to be upset about that even if they entirely understood the reason.

I would read the book anyway - you have nothing to lose by doing so. I doubt they meant anything bad, and probably had no idea you'd be insulted. Studies have proved that positive thinking can have a huge impact on overcoming illness. I'm sure they were trying to help.

It's insensitive and would still be so if you had depression, another illness that people can't cure themselves of by saying "pull yourself together". If "positive thinking" was a simple cure then there would be no illness in the world.

My friend had a rare autoimmune disease her brother told her positive thought and crystals would cure her CRYSTALS !! I am sorry this upset you but i think they are a bit loony and only tried to help. chronic pain doubled with ME must be exhausting having to function daily takes all your strength your inlaws dont understand that sadly. Could your Dh take the children to them or thdpil could take the kids to theirs

The kids are teens now and have their own lives - I do try to arrange for them to see them every few months but with school, activities and homework there's not much free time - I'm not sure the pil have realised that they're growing up and have their own lives.

It's difficult, because people want to help. Like you've acknowledged, you do get people offering the most insane cures for cancer, too. There are bloggers who have made thousands selling people vegetable cures. People will do anything for hope.

CFS is one of those things that gets it twice as bad, because some people do recover and that inspires friends and family to believe that you will too, if you just find the right cure. They want you to be better and honestly think they are helping, they don't see that it's a very small percentage who recover and it's unlikely anyone ever recovered by thinking positive and living off weird smoothies and hot water bottles.

They suck as presents. Get someone to take them to a charity shop and try not to waste too much emotional energy thinking about them. I'm sorry that you got such bad presents.

If you think that they're struggling with not seeing the GC, could DH take them to visit your GPs once a week or something? You'd get an extra break, and they might find it easier to sympathise them. Of course, you might not want an extra break, and your DH might not want to visit them very often, but it could be a short-term compromise and it might make them more understanding. Something for you to ponder, I guess.

Part of my illness means that I struggle to read books as I can only concentrate for short bursts of time - that's why the Internet is so brilliant - I also have memory loss so there's no point in reading it as I'll have already forgotten what the previous paragraph said

As far as Positive Thinking goes, it might help some people in terms of how they cope with being ill but its so over used I worry it puts pressure on the ill person to put a brave face on when they just want to cry/shout etc.