They also have other types, but here I am focusing specifically on this types only. The rest of it, you can find it in another sources.

What is it??

1. Body language (kinesics)

– Kinesics is the non-verbal behavior related to movements. Kinesics is a study of body movement or body language which includes facial expressions ( eyebrow, forehead, eyes, and mouth), postures and gestures.

– Facial expressions like smile, sad look, eye contact, etc. These expression are the most frequently used aspect of body language.

– Sometimes our face may communicate with multiple emotions which is called affect blends. E.g. surprise and angry look of a person who just found out of the bad news.

– Postures include positions of the head, shoulder, and body, e.g. the way we sit down and place our hand on the table, etc.

– Gestures include the movements of the head, arms, legs, hands and feet, e.g. how we wave our hands or move our head to indicate something, etc.

– In a simple word, postures is position of our body while gestures is movements of our body.

There is a guideline to how you interpret the body language.

Eyes – Eyes tend to look right when the brain is imagining or creating, and left when the brain is recalling or remembering. This relates to right and left sides of the brain – in this context broadly the parts of the brain handling creativity/feelings (right) and facts/memory (left).

Left and right are for the person giving the signals and making the movements.

signal

part of body

possible meaning(s)

looking right (generally)

eyes

creating, fabricating, guessing, lying, storytelling

looking left (generally)

eyes

recalling, remembering, retrieving ‘facts’

looking right and up

eyes

visual imagining, fabrication, lying

looking right sideways

eyes

imagining sounds

looking right and down

eyes

accessing feelings

looking left and up

eyes

recalling images truthfulness

looking left sideways

eyes

recalling or remembering sounds

looking left down

eyes

self-talking, rationalizing

direct eye contact (when speaking)

eyes

honesty – or faked honesty

direct eye contact (when listening)

eyes

attentiveness, interest, attraction

widening eyes

eyes

interest, appeal, invitation

rubbing eye or eyes

eyes

disbelief, upset, or tiredness

eye shrug

eyes

Frustration

pupils dilated (enlarged)

eyes

attraction, desire

blinking frequently

eyes

excitement, pressure

blinking infrequently

eyes

Various

eyebrow raising (eyebrow ‘flash’)

eyes

greeting, recognition, acknowledgement

winking

eyes

friendly acknowledgement, complicity (e.g., sharing a secret or joke)

2. Mouth – The mouth also has more visible moving parts than other sensory organs, so there’s a lot more potential for variety of signalling.

signal

part of body

possible meaning(s)

pasted smile

mouth

faked smile

tight-lipped smile

mouth

secrecy or withheld feelings

twisted smile

mouth

mixed feelings or sarcasm

dropped-jaw smile

mouth

faked smile

smile – head tilted, looking up

mouth

playfulness, teasing, coy

bottom lip jutting out

mouth

Upset

laughter

mouth

Relaxation

forced laughter

mouth

nervousness, cooperation

biting lip

mouth

Tension

teeth grinding

mouth

tension, suppression

chewing gum

mouth

tension, suppression

smoking

mouth

self-comforting

thumb-sucking

mouth

self-comforting

chewing pen or pencil

mouth

self-comforting

pursing lips

mouth

thoughtfulness, or upset

tongue poke

mouth / tongue

disapproval, rejection

hand clampedover mouth

mouth / hands

suppression, holding back, shock

nail biting

mouth / hands

frustration, suppression

3. Head – The head is very significant in body language. A person’s head, due to a very flexible neck structure, can turn, jut forward, withdraw, tilt sideways, forwards, backwards. The head usually has hair, ears, eyes, nose, and a face, which has more complex and visible muscular effects than any other area of the body.The face, our eyes and our hands, are the most powerful parts of our body in sending body language signals.

signal

part of body

possible meaning(s)

head nodding

head

Agreement

slow head nodding

head

attentive listening

fast head nodding

head

hurry up, impatience

head held up

head

neutrality, alertness

head held high

head

superiority, fearlessness, arrogance

head tilted to one side

head

non-threatening, submissive, thoughtfulness

head forward, upright

head / body

interest, positive reaction

head tilted downward

head

criticism, admonishment

head shaking

head

Disagreement

pronounced head shaking

head

strong disagreement

head down (in response to a speaker or proposition)

head

negative, disinterested

head down (while performing an activity)

head

defeat, tiredness

chin up

head

pride, defiance, confidence

active listening

head / face

attention, interest, attraction

4. Arms – Arms are quite reliable indicators of mood and feeling, especially when interpreted with other body language. This provides a good opportunity to illustrate how signals combine to enable safer analysis.

5. Hands – Body language involving hands is extensive. This is because hands are such expressive parts of the body, and because hands interact with other parts of the body.

signal

part of body

possible meaning(s)

palm(s) up or open

hands

submissive, truthful, honesty, appealing

palm(s) up, fingers pointing up

hands

defensive, instruction to stop

palm(s) down

hands

authority, strength, dominance

palm up and moving up and down as if weighing

hands

striving for or seeking an answer

hand(s) on heart (left side of chest)

hands

seeking to be believed

finger pointing (at a person)

hands

aggression, threat, emphasis

finger point and wink

hands/ eyes

acknowledgement or confirmation

finger pointing (in the air)

hands

Emphasis

finger wagging (side to side)

hands

warning, refusal

finger wagging (up and down)

hands

admonishment, emphasis

hand chop

hands

emphasis – especially the last word on a matter

clenched fist(s)

hands

resistance, aggression, determination

finger tips and thumbs touching each other on opposite hands (‘steepling’)

hands

thoughtfulness, looking for or explaining connections or engagement

steepled fingers pointing forward

hands

thoughtfulness and barrier

palms down moving up and down, fingers spread

hands

seeking or asking for calm, loss of control of a group or situation

cracking knuckles

hands

comforting habit, attention-seeking

interwoven clenched fingers

hands

frustration, negativity, anxiousness

index finger and thumb touching at tips

hands

satisfaction, ‘OK’

thumb(s) up

hands

positive approval, agreement, all well

thumbs down

hands

disapproval, failure

thumb(s) clenched inside fist(s)

hands

self-comforting, frustration, insecurity

hand held horizontally and rocked from side to side

hands

undecided, in the balance

rubbing hands together

hands

anticipation, relish

hand(s) clamped over mouth

hands / mouth

suppression, shock

touching nose, while speaking

hands / nose

lying or exaggeration

scratching nose, while speaking

hands / nose

lying or exaggeration

pinching or rubbing nose, while listening

hands / nose

thoughtfulness, suppressing comment

picking nose

hands / nose

day-dreaming, inattentive, socially disconnected, stress

pinching bridge of nose

hands / nose

negative evaluation

hands clamped on ears

hands / ears

rejection of or resistance to something

ear tugging

hands / ears

indecision, self-comforting

hands clasping head

hands / head

Calamity

hand stroking chin

hands / chin

Thoughtfulness

hand supporting chin or side of face

hands / chin, face

evaluation, tiredness or boredom

chin resting on thumb, index finger pointing up against face

hands / chin

Evaluation

neck scratching

hands / neck

doubt, disbelief

hand clasping wrist

hands / wrist

Frustration

running hands through hair

hair / hair

flirting, or vexation, exasperation

hand(s) on hip(s)

hands / arms

confidence, readiness, availability

hands in pockets

hands / arms

disinterest, boredom

removing spectacles

hands / spectacles

alerting wish to speak

playing an imaginary violin

hands / arms

mock sympathy or sadness

thumb and fingers formed into a tube and rocked side to side or up and down (mainly male)

hands

offensive – mockery, dissatisfaction, expression of inferior quality

two-fingered V-sign, palm inward (mainly male)

hands / fingers

offensive – derision, contempt

two-fingered V-sign, palm outward

hands fingers

victory, peace

6. Legs and feet – Legs and feet body language is more difficult to control consciously or fake than some body language of arms and hands and face. Legs and feet can therefore provide good clues to feelings and moods, if you know the signs.

– Different cultures value touch differently Asian cultures promote very little touching behavior due to the norms and traditional customs.

Evaluating nonverbal signals

Eye contact

Is eye contact being made? If so, is it overly intense or just right?

Facial expression

What is their face showing? Is it masklike and unexpressive, or emotionally present and filled with interest?

Tone of voice

Does their voice project warmth, confidence, and interest, or is it strained and blocked?

Posture and gesture

Are their bodies relaxed or stiff and immobile? Are shoulders tense and raised, or slightly sloped?

Touch

Is there any physical contact? Is it appropriate to the situation? Does it make you feel uncomfortable?

Timing and pace

Is there an easy flow of information back and forth? Do nonverbal responses come too quickly or too slowly?

Sounds

Do you hear sounds that indicate caring or concern?

Non-verbal messages allow individuals to:

* Reinforce or modify what is said in words. For example, people may nod their heads vigorously when saying “Yes” to emphasise that they agree with the other person, but a shrug of the shoulders and a sad expression when saying “I’m fine thanks,” may imply that things are not really fine at all!

* Convey information about their emotional state.

* Define or reinforce the relationship between people.

* Provide feedback to the other person.

* Regulate the flow of communication, for example by signalling to others that they have finished speaking or wish to say something.

REMEMBER THIS!!

* When we interact with others, we continuously give and receive wordless signals. All of our nonverbal behaviors—the gestures we make, the way we sit, how fast or how loud we talk, how close we stand, how much eye contact we make—send strong messages. These messages don’t stop when you stop speaking either. Even when you’re silent, you’re still communicating nonverbally.

* You may be familiar with advice on how to sit a certain way, steeple your fingers, or shake hands just so in order to appear confident or assert dominance. But the truth is that such tricks aren’t likely to work (unless you truly feel confident and in charge). That’s because you can’t control all of the signals you’re constantly sending off about what you’re really thinking and feeling. And the harder you try, the more unnatural your signals are likely to come across.

“Body language is the unconscious and conscious transmission and interpretation of feelings, attitudes, and moods, through:

body posture, movement, physical state, position and relationship to other bodies, objects and surroundings,

facial expression and eye movement,

(and this transmission and interpretation can be quite different to the spoken words).”

~ Alhamdulillah, praise to Allah. I got to finished it. Hope you enjoy read this. I hope it can help us in our communication skill especially in interpersonal skill. Develop it by the guidance above. This is just a little things I can do with the help of Allah. Thank you so much for read it and apply it. I wish I’m doing it and try our best, insyaAllah. Kindly refer to another sources for the best feedbacks. Jazakillahukhairan kathira, barakallahufik..~

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