Partner is choosing cats over me :-(

For a few years now I have suspected I have a cat allergy, this was confirmed on Tuesday by respiratory outpatients, who I see for my asthma. I'm on 3 different inhalers, a reliever inhaler, tablets for asthma, 2 tablets, nose and eye drops for my allergies. My respiratory consultant has advised me to get rid of the cats ASAP. She has said my next attack could be my last attack eg it might kill me.

I have relayed this to my partner of 9 years and he has gone ballistic, saying the cats cannot go. I said they have to, now he wants to leave with them.

I feel utterly devastated. I can't believe that I am lower in his priorities than 2 cats. I lost my dad at the beginning of the year, my best friend has developed alcoholism and is no longer there for me, and all of my uni friends have gone home now their degree has finished. I've lost contact with all of my regular friends due to the stupid nursing degree I have been studying.

Studying is never stupid. You should be proud of yourself managing to achieve that with everything else going on.

If he does go, it'll be hard, but you'll cope and make new connections. At the end of the day if he values two cats over you he's doing you a favour. At least you don't have to go to the bother of kicking him out.

Wow so would rather something possibly fatal happen to you than give up the cats sorry but he doesn't really love you that much. Let him leave if he wants, you can't reason with someone who values your life as so little.

When he goes with the cats you will be devastated. But, over the next few daays, you will vacuum and clean and dust and your allergic reaction might worsen at first, but then it will start to clear up. As it clears up, you will feel better, and find the strength to get up and fight and survive.

You're going to get exactly the same answers as on your AIBU thread. 98% of people saying he's no loss, ditch both partner and cats; 1% saying "poor cats, it's not their fault" and 1% "you need to stop using your ecig as well". Not sure why you need another 98% telling you the same thing to be honest.

Using an ecig is better than 20 molboros a day. To be honest unless you are a respiratory consultant with more than 20 years experience I'm going to ignore the ecig comments and listen to my actual doctor. Those commenting about a tiny pen are completely trying to detract from the actual issue. That I have a severe allergy to cats that can kill me. The pen will not. What might kill me is taking up smoking again because I'm so stressed at the prospect of losing my partner and possibly my child!

Well your partner is still not coming off great but if you can't put your own life before your vaping then you have some very odd priorities. I know quitting is hard but I've heard a rumour that dying is even worse. My grandpa had type two diabetes and still ate crap then he went blind, deaf, incontinent and dead while we all watched him do it to himself. He made his families life hell for the last few years because of his weakness and selfishness. It was horrible to watch my Nana be put through it.

Sort yourself out. Get rid of the vaping and cats and if your partner goes then he obviously doesn't place any value on your life but at least you can have the self respect to value your own life.

Yes I've had a skin prick allergy test done. The area that is pricked leaves a red ring around the puncture site if you have an allergy. The size of the rings are measured in cm, from 1 to 10. This is a list of my reactions

Op - posts like this usually start with the tip of the iceberg (in this case it's cats). There's obviously a whole back story here, that will drip out. Long story short, your relationship is hardly Rett and Scarlet, if he wants to leave you over couple of cats.

Sort yourself out re: your health, re-establish friendships that you have allowed to fade. Make new friends, move on.

Why are you posting again? Your last post gave you 99% response the same, are you unhappy with that? What do you want to hear/achieve? Clearly there is something major ly wrong with a relationship where one party chooses cats over the other party. Even a unanimous mn jury can't force your partner to change his mind/enforce your wishes/needs on another person it's either he goes or you risk death (slightly different phrasing to your last post but that got positive responses so I am at a loss as to your wishes here). Your situation does sounds rotten I hope you get some rl support.