Have you ever wanted to spy on people or hide from people you know? Creating and having a separate persona can help you achieve this.

Steps

1

Describe yourself. Take a piece of paper and write down how you think everyone else sees you: on one side put physical things like 'short brown hair' and 'green eyes' , and on the other put personality traits like 'caring' and 'nice'. This is also where you'd put your religion (if any) and favorite color.

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Disregard all that. Look inside yourself and see if you can find another person. For example, maybe you've always wanted to not have to worry about behavior. Search deep inside yourself and see if you have another, underlying personality with few or no connections to your first. This is your separate persona.

3

If you're not finding anything, take a stereotype and bend it a little. Pick a stereotype opposite yours, for example, if you're mostly flower-child hippie, go for Goth or punk.

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Find a name for your persona. It shouldn't sound too much like your current name or be a name you've told friends and family that you'd prefer, but it shouldn't be way too far-out unless you're pretending to be a different race or religion.

5

Go shopping in your persona. It's best to go without your parents, for example, with friends or alone, but try to stuff things that fit your persona in the basket while they're not looking. If all goes wrong and they find out, say it's for a Halloween costume.

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Practice being in your persona. You will want your persona to have interests (unless they're emo), or at least a favorite band, so with your headphones on, google music that would fit your stereotype. A good-girl might like a pop singer, and Goth might be hard rock. Find something you can do that your parents don't know you can do to be your hobby, whether it completely fits or not. Just remember not to make your persona's hobbies identical to yours.

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Hide the stuff for your persona when you're not using it. Maybe in an opaque bin in your closet, or in a shoebox under the bed.

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When you want to go out as your persona, sneak the clothes/makeup/wig out in an opaque bag. Tell your parents you'll be at the mall (or wherever you're going) and act as usual. When you get to wherever you're going, change in a bathroom and hide your bag (with you regular clothes in it) either in the bathroom, or inside another bag that you will carry. Hang around places your persona might go. Would you really see a punk outside Bath & Body Works? Probably not. Instead, stay outside places your persona would like.

Try not to let pieces of your persona leak through into your current personality. For example, don't play out-of-character music without headphones or ask questions that are out of your personality or that you haven't asked before.

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Tips

This will all work better if you have a car, or at least a license, so your parents won't have to drive you.

If you know you're going to want to spy at an upcoming event, create the persona long before then, meet people, etc., so you will be recognized by at least some people, not brand-new.

Making your voice sound different never hurts.

Really get into persona. Change your outlook on the world to match your persona.

Remember to choose something that the you everyone else knows would never go for.

A wig and eye-color-changing contacts might help

Create a backstory. Maybe you could write an autobiography of your persona, including where they were born, where they came from, favorite everything, etc. Don't print it and leave it around for evidence, though.

Warnings

Any friends you may make while in your persona might resent you if they find out you've been 'lying' to them.

Parents are most likely not going to approve of this, so keep it secret.