A married woman may dream of getting a divorce either when there is a momentary wish to do so or when she is “divorcing” herself from a particular situation or person. When a single woman – or one who is engaged; dreams of divorce, she may be warning herself against a certain relationship.

To dream of one of your friends getting a divorce suggests there is something for the dreamer to gain from this action. As always, the dreamer must ponder what the characters represent. One should also consider whether one of the marital partners who is getting divorced is of romantic interest to the dreamer. If so, the dreamer may be hoping the couple will break up so that she will have a chance.

Whether married or single, a woman’s dreams of divorce sometimes have little to do with love or marriage. Instead divorce dreams may refer to a wish to separate from a job, or from some problematical aspect of life that is no longer productive. The dreamer needs to contemplate the symbols of the dream carefully in order to decipher the meaning that applies.

Listen well to your dreams. They are a barometer of your inner emotions. They will tell you where your heart is at the moment. Only you will know if it is a passing feeling or an ongoing state that requires action. If you are troubled with nightmares about your mate that become worse or more frequent, seek professional counseling. You will be more able to judge whether your issues can be resolved or whether you and your spouse are better off apart.

- Even Sigmund Freud didn’t believe this completely – he said some war dreams were fear enactments.

All Men’s Dreams are Sexual:

- A classic study by Calvin Hall and Robert Van de Castle, at Miami’s Institute of Dream Research, found that only 12 per cent of male dreams have sexual content.

Remembering your Dreams is always Helpful:

- A study of Holocaust survivors by psychologist Peretz Lavie of the Technion-Israel Institute of Technology found that those who didn’t remember dreams about the horrors they experienced were happier than those who did.

Dreams cannot Predict Illness:

- Michigan State psychiatrist Robert Smith found that among 49 patients about to undergo heart catheterization men who dreamed of death and women who dreamed of separation became sicker than those who did not. In an upcoming book researcher Oliver Sacks writes that people with multiple sclerosis, strokes or neurological injuries sometimes dream of improvement before it comes. Psychologist Roseanne Armitage has found that EEGs taken during sleep may predict the onset of depression.

We spend a third of our lives in the vast, unfathomable secret world of sleep.

With the help of science, we are at long last discovering what this world is made of, and what our dreams can do for us!!

We all dream, even if we don’t remember our dreams. Our most fertile dreaming occurs in REM sleep. We enter REM about 90 minutes after nodding off, and it occurs more frequently and for longer periods as sleep progresses.

We spend two of every 24 hours dreaming, which adds up to more than five years of our lives spent dreaming.

About half of us are lucky to remember one dream a month, says psychologist Rosanne Armitage of the University of Texas. The rest of us remember as many as four dreams a week. Researchers agree we tend to remember vivid dreams more easily than boring dreams. Sleep and dream researcher Ernest Hartmann has found that some people have what he calls thin boundaries. Such dreamers are trusting and vulnerable people, they have more nightmares and remember their dreams better than those more orderly and rigid – with thick boundaries.

To remember your dreams more easily, be like The Little Engine That Could and tell yourself that you can. “Virtually everyone improves with practice”, says Stanford University sleep researcher LaBerge. Then sleep as long as you can (dream periods get longer and closer together with time).

When you wake up, try not to move until you remember the dream – that helps trick the mind into believing the body is still in REM paralysis. Fix on a key image to help you remember. Keep a journal by your bed to write down your dreams.

Of course dreams of getting married are sometimes especially for a young girl, simple wish-fulfillment dreams. For instance the unmarried woman, who dreams of being given a wedding ring or of finding one, is usually expressing a wish for the relationship it represents.

Because the wedding ring symbolizes union, the unbroken wholeness and continuity of a loving relationship, its appearance in a dream is always significant. The gold, from which the majority of rings are made, adds to the symbolism of the circle the further meaning of the precious metal – durability and unchangeability.

People in different cultures have traditional ideas about the meanings of certain dream images. In Thailand the dream of finding a diamond – whether loose or in a ring – is a sign that something nice will happen soon.

Married women who dream of losing their wedding rings or finding that they are somehow deformed or broken often refer to a current married condition in their relationship with their mates.

To dream of finding a lost ring may represent the rediscovery of something valuable in a relationship.

Just as dreaming of getting married when you are planning to do so refers to the significant life event about to take place – to dream of getting married when you are not planning to do so refer to a significant ‘inner’ event taking place. When such a woman awakens from a dream of getting married she may find herself less depressed or less anxious or more at ease, or she may feel outright joyful – all for good reason.

According to the Jungian view, the bride and groom in a wedding dream symbolize different parts of the dreamer. Their wedding ceremony depicts the union of these opposite elements.

“I was walking down the street with my father, and a tiger was walking next to me on my right, on the street side. The tiger was tough and full of energy, very beautiful. Then he turned at a right angle, crossed the street and disappeared in an old apartment house, and I continued on with my father.

The sidewalk got narrow, very tiny. A big truck came and there was no place to go.
It hit me or almost hit me, I don’t know which.”
This is a growth direction dream where it is clearly the tiger in your dream.

I keep going the way I’ve been, with my father.

When I stay, in relation to my father, my aggression force stops walking with me. Soon it comes ‘at me instead – and runs me over. Maybe I should have stopped walking with my father and gone with the Tiger or, indeed, become the tiger in my dream.That was not just an idea because I could sense the tiger-image in my body, in the dream.
Great beauty, or obviously, healthy, energetic, animals easily give us the life-instinct direction in our dreams. Of course, the form of living it is up to us to develop over a period of time. We won’t act like tigers in every way but we can have the energy and strength from them when making our decisions.
It is then, when faced with obstacles or whatever in our waking life that we can call upon the tiger!

School experiences are the most formative in life, and appear frequently even in the dreams of elderly people. Sometimes the dream relates to specific happenings that still fill the dreamer with remembered pride or (more often) embarrassment, but sometimes it uses a generic school as a metaphor to convey its message. Dreams of finding, oneself back at school, but demoted to a lower level, or stripped of some coveted responsibility, symbolise childhood insecurities that have still not been resolved.

In addition to the school setting, school personnel may also feature in dreams. The school teacher is a classic symbol for authority, and may represent the father or mother, or elder sibling, or the dreamer’s love for or fear of those who have determined the course of his or her life. Alternatively, a school teacher may stand for that censoring aspect of the dreamer’s personality that keeps the more unruly impulses in check.

Dreams in which the dreamer is summoned to the head teacher’s study may signify inferiority, guilt, or simply a dread of having one’s misdeeds found out. Being publicly praised by a teacher, or being awarded a school prize, or winning a sporting fixture may illustrate the dreamer’s belief, or need for belief, in his or her abilities.

Remember, these dreams often occur when you are facing a ‘test’ of some dimension connected to your waking life, like getting together a new CV for a career move or anything of that nature.
Someone may be ‘testing’ you to the brim so that’s when the dreams of school tend to pop up.

Anxiety is probably the most common emotional state expressed in our dreams. In waking life, the mind is often able to distract itself from troublesome issues, but in sleep they rise into awareness, filling our dreams with unsettling, highly charged symbols, and with dark troubled moods. Such dreams not only indicate how deeply rooted our anxieties can be, but they also remind us of the need to tackle the source of these worries, either by confronting a specific external challenge or by learning to be less fearful of life’s predicaments.Anxiety dreams are recognised by the emotional charge that they carry. Typically, the dreamer has the sensation of trying to cope with several duties simultaneously, or by trying to complete a never ending task.
Other anxiety dreams include walking through clinging mud, moving in agonisingly slow motion and crawling through a narrow tunnel (a symbol often believed to represent birth anxiety), being choked by smoke, watching helplessly as cherished possessions are destroyed, and trying in a high wind to hold together the broken fragments of something the dreamer holds dear. If anxiety stems from social inadequacy, the dream may involve public embarrassment such as spilling a drink, grotesque incompetence on a crowded dance floor or forgetting the names of important guests while trying to introduce them.

The dreaming mind is not always shy of melodrama – a walk to the scaffold or falling into the arms of evil captors or being forced into committing some terrible crime, may reflect relatively mundane problems. The point of such extreme forms of terror is to impress upon the subject the need to bring into consciousness (as a prelude to dealing with them) repressed desires and energies of a powerful nature.
Whatever form they take, anxiety dreams are not there to torment the dreamer, but to draw attention to the urgency of identifying and dealing with the sources of anxiety, which may wreak havoc in the unconscious if left to themselves.

That there is good ground for belief. In some omens seems indisputable – though whether this has arisen as of result of experience, by the happening of some particular event close upon the heels of signs observed – or whether it has been an intuitive science in which premonition has been used to affect an interpretation, is not quite clear.

It seems idle to attempt to dismiss the whole subject as one of mere superstition, guessing, or abject credulity, as some people try to do. The fact remains that omens in numerous cases have been found to give useful warnings. To say that these are just mere coincidences, is to beg the question, for the universe is governed by laws set and fixed as the universe itself. There is no such thing as accident or coincidence in these laws, they conform to fixed rules.
We may not be able to see the steps or recognise the connections, but that does not mean that they are non-existent.
Many observances have been made into omens, which to disobey is supposed to bring trouble.
For instance, for a bride, a maid should marry only in white, while a widow should always choose colours, but not green, black or yellow. (No mention of divorcees!!)
Brides should not choose the month of May, nor the thirteenth of the month.
If a flight of birds is seen on the way to the church, it is an indication of a large family.
To meet a funeral on the way to a wedding is considered a bad sign; one of speedy separation, or at least many quarrels.
“Blessed is the bride that the sun shines on,” has become a proverbial omen, and even on a dull day, if the sun emerges suddenly from behind a cloud, it is a good sign, while if it shines on the altar during the service; it denotes future prosperity and connubial bliss. (Thank heavens for that!)
To most people all these omens are considered as old fashioned superstitions, yet many secretly believe in them though they outwardly deride them, and these people will often wear either openly or hidden in their clothes or bags , some mascot that they consider will avert the ill luck, or bring them good fortune.
I have a special little tiny statue from Notre Dame which I can’t live without!!
Final one for you is – Never tell a dream before breakfast and never relate a Friday’s dream if bad! The proverb runs “Friday’s dream on Saturday told, is sure to come true before nine days old”.
Don’t you just love it!!! I had to share these with you – ENJOY!!!

Throughout the history of all nations, dreams and their meanings have been regarded with a wonder and interest transcending mere superstition; indeed, far from being looked upon only as idle fancies, they have been studied for thousands of years by scientists, as a subject worthy of their attention and investigation, both as to their cause and their meaning.
In ancient times they believed in all good faith and reverence in Dreams.
The Scriptures say – ‘’ God speaketh once, yea twice, yet man perceiveth it not..In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falleth upon men, in slumbering upon the bed, then he openeth the ears of men and sealeth their instruction”.
Thus they looked upon dreams as direct messages from God, and regarded Angels as his chosen messengers.
Again in the Old Testament, one reads “Hear now my words; if there be a prophet among you, I the Lord will make myself known to him in a vision and will speak to him in a dream.” These words were spoken to Moses.
In these olden times, kings were not above seeking the services of soothsayers and dream interpreters. One of the best known examples is that of Pharaoh, when he dreamt of the seven lean kine and the seven fat kine. When he was troubled as to how to read this riddle, his chief butler, who already had his own dreams interpreted by Joseph, told him about the young Israelite prisoner. Pharaoh at once seized the opportunity, and Joseph versed in divining, read the seven kine to be the coming fat and lean years, of plenty and famine.
Another Biblical ruler, Nebuchadnezzar dreamt that he saw a great image of gold, silver, brass, iron and clay. But when he awoke, he could not remember the details of the dream. Accordingly he summoned the sorcerers and known dream interpreters, even sending for men in the Chaldeans, a race especially known for their gifts in interpreting dreams. He ordered them to not only interpret the dream itself but to tell him the full details which he himself had forgotten. Here surely was a problem indeed, and it is not surprising that one and all failed to produce an answer to these unreasonable demands. Equally, in those days of complete despotism it is not surprising that one and all were condemned to be put to death, amongst them Daniel, who “had understanding in all dreams and visions” and he appealed to the Captain of the king’s guard to stay his hand and allow him to try.
Then Daniel, we are told, not only succeeded in actually dreaming the dream himself, but convinced Nebuchadnezzar of the probable meaning. He thereby saved the life of himself and his fellow interpreters.
The dream itself is interesting, as it is one that might well be considered as an adventure into the future. The king had dreamt that this image was made of various substances; his head was of fine gold, his breast and his arms of silver, his body and thighs of brass, his feet and legs, part iron part clay. Then they were all smashed and even the gold broke into pieces that became like chaff on the threshing floor.
Then Daniel interpreted the dream. The image was the welded kingdoms, over which Nebuchadnezzar ruled. He, according to David, was the golden “head”, the other kingdoms beneath him were to be broken up by wars, and only the one kingdom, that of Nebuchadnezzar, should remain triumphant to the end. This interpretation was not only pleasing to the king; it fulfilled the interpretation in every way, and made it as additional proof to the veracity of dreams.
There are countless other famous men in the world who have not been ashamed to take credence of their dreams.
Napoleon believed in his dreams, and probably had he followed their warnings, the retreat from Moscow might not have taken place.
Bismarck, the German minister, also believed in dreams and had his own dreams interpreted many times before proceeding on any momentous course of action.
It is exciting to share with you all these comments written many years ago but surely people should realise, in to-day’s world, that they need to understand and consider their dreams as important and part of their future.
Always encourage and discuss your dreams and visions for the future – it is great conversation and can lead to new adventures and new careers and relationships without you even knowing!

You have to recognise that children these days are very keen to be the Boss of their Sleep!!
• Toddlers should have 12-15 hours, including their daytime naps.
• Three to Five year olds – 11-13 hours, most of this at night.
Remember children’s sleep needs vary. You can tell if your child is getting enough sleep by observing his or her mood and behaviour during the day.

WHAT IF THEY DON’T GET ENOUGH?
Studies show that when poor sleep persists in young children, it can undermine cognitive and emotional development, making it harder for them to manage their feelings. It can also weaken the immune system, increase the chance of unhealthy weight gain and be a precursor to anxiety & depression.
It is vital that parents have workable sleep solutions that do no harm. There are many exhausted parents who need help, but don’t want to use the commonly promoted methods based on controlled crying, because it’s simply too distressing. They tend to ignore a young one’s cries even if it is only for two minutes, which to the mother can be like two hours. “Controlled comforting” is where parents attend to their young child at defined increasing time intervals, such as at two, five and then ten minutes, or until the child settles.
“Camping out” is where the parent sits with a child as he or she learns to fall asleep. Then parents slowly remove themselves from the child’s room. These methods are not recommended for infants less than six months old.

A new study from Murdoch Children’s Research Institute showed that children, who experienced controlled comforting or camping out, were not more likely to have significantly poorer emotional health, sleep or behaviour problems, chronic stress, and poor attachment with parents, depression or anxiety. Changes in parenting styles could be disrupting children’s sleep patterns. Parents are much more flexible than they used to be, so consistent bedtime routines are often missing. Some parents say that they can’t get their toddler to bed until midnight. With more parents in paid work, there’s greater pressure to get the child to sleep- through at six weeks. Some parents keep their infant or child up till 9pm to see dad when he gets home from work. By that time the child is beside itself, but can be up again at the crack of dawn to get to day-care in time.
A lot of sleep problems are caused by parent’s unrealistic expectations of when their child should sleep through and they are trying too hard & trying to do too much.
Persistence and consistency are the two major roles for parents to play when educating their new babies into their sleep patterns – Don’t let the baby be the one who controls the bedroom.