How to layout a backflip someone please help

I know how to do a backflip on skis very well, and I land them very consistently, though as I move to bigger jumps I keep wanting to learn a layout more and more. Although every time I try to layout I end up either tucking on accident or flailing my arms and legs right after I am completely upside down. I keep feeling very unbalanced when I try layouts and I almost feel "stuck" right when I'm upside down. It's almost like I feel at that point that I am out of control of my rotation, while when I tuck I feel in control of my balance and rotation. Can someone help?? I can send videos if you would like.

chill. I used to have the same problem. id set the correct speed, not be at the ground yet, panic, pull my knees in and over rotate.
if you rotate to slow (stop midway though) make sure you are setting more with your chest/shoulders, than arms or knees. you aint doing gymnastics or tricking, were skiing, and skis are heavy.

hard to tell but i feel like youre trying to lay them out with the wrong timing

on a big lay out backy, i feel like i only set the first bit a little slower than normal and i still spot the landing pretty early. THEN you can let your legs trail behind you and bring them around slowly. if you just set the whole thing really slow and havent spotted the landing halfway through, well of course you panic and are worried about landing on your head

You only need to focus on two things. Get the perfect pop that will set the rotation. Then you spot the landing.

You got the pop right so the rotation is set, you just control how long you stay inverted. The faster you whip your head around and spot the landing the faster the rotation. If you wait until the landing comes into view it will be a much slower rotation.

for laying out i always think of throwing my hips forward and looking back, i dont try and through my arms at all, if your hips and head set the rotaion your legs will automatically be trailing behind, then you can pull them in as and when you need to.

You should feel a little stuck. Get hips forwars, hang skis and judge landing. Doesn't always half to be a real snap but pull er in when its time.

You want to guage the speed of the spin but just trying to do a perfect flip without a little stall and getting that head around to spot is kinda sketch imo. Hips forward and arch back hard. If you need to pull in pull in, if you need to layout just hang it or extend lega and arms a bit.

Idk. That said aim personally at a point where 35 is about the biggest i want to throw a flip anymore. I like to hang it out but a mix of overahoots, and not wanting t be hanging upaide down over a huge jump has rained me in. The 20 to 30 range is fun though.