Wednesday, September 07, 2016

'What makes sex such a taboo in this country? What is it about it
which makes us squirm, cringe and glare at the person who just, mentioned the
word?'

Mallica
Patel discusses our non-accepting nature towards the topic.

Even though Salt-n-Pepa in their hit single 'Let's Talk About Sex'
urged people worldwide to talk about sex, nobody really wants to talk about
sex, do they?

What is sex?

A hushed
conversation, a discreet 'shhh' a fast forwarded scene or a censored scene in a
film.

The aforementioned
are all the actions we associate sex with.

Of course, as we
grow older and get sucked into the whirling tornado of hormones, the definition
and explanation clears itself, and we get to see (or experience) sex for what
it really is.

What happens after
that?

We continue to
talk in hushed tones; the awkwardness reduces just a little bit and many of the
other things remain the same; except, you now know what is really happening.

What makes sex
such a taboo in this country? What is it about it which makes us squirm, cringe
and glare at the person who just, mentioned the word?

Isn't the need to
have sex equivalent to eating or sleeping? Then why do people stress on the
virginity of the sexes before marriage?

Why do some girls
go through vaginal binding just so that their husbands are assured of their
virginity on the first night of marriage?

Most importantly,
how long are people going to dodge the sex talk?

Long enough till
their children learn about it from sources which are horrid enough to scar
their childhood.

A wise person once
said that if we make peace with who we are, a lot of problems vanish. Maybe
it's high time we accept the fact that as humans, all of us are sexual
creatures.

All of us crave
for sex and well... some of us have it too!

We need to make
sure that the next generation of children do not grow up considering sex as a
'dirty thing' or a scene in a movie which needs to be fast forwarded.

Why is it that the
censor board still thinks that reducing a kissing scene by five seconds or by
refusing to show a kissing scene all together will make any difference?

Remember that
steamy scene in the latest Bond movie? I don't remember it too, because it was
never there!

Or take the film,50 shades of Greyfor example. Banning the film only
further proves our non-acceptance of sex.

What people don't
understand is that at this stage of technology and reach, no sex scene is going
unappreciated; no kissing scene is being cut, because everyone has their way of
accessing them.

It was only
recently that a Pakistani board had an issue with an intimate scene which was
shown in an Indian daily soap calling it 'indecent'.

An Indian daily
soap usually refrains from showing sex scenes in entirety and if they even
decided to, we all can imagine how minuscule and irrelevant it must have been.

So how can
something as small as that affect an entire country?

The truth is that,
as the creators of Kama Sutra, none of us are averse to sex, but we love to put
up a façade which helps us protect our 'culture', because apparently,
celebrating Valentine's Day impinges upon our cultural mores.

Further, beating
young couples in parks works wonders as it encourages the act of not falling in
love, because in a country where the front page is filled with news of murder,
rape and terrorism, who needs love anyway?

So maybe it is
time for us to let go of the façade, because beneath the facade lies, pervertedbabasor self-styled godmen who believe in a
unique form of imparting wisdom, or the thousands of rapists who were
unfortunately never taught the concept of consensual sex or the Khap Panchayats
that think that Chinese food causes sexual tension in one's body and thus
causes the poor victim of the tension to rape!

Maybe it's high
time that we stopped blaming the Western culture and media for all the possible
problems our country faces, because for a fact, India ranks third in
pornography viewership worldwide -- not very far from America which ranks
first.