Ask Amy Amy Dickinson

ASK AMY AMY DICKINSON

October 21, 2005|ASK AMY AMY DICKINSON

Dear Amy: I signed on to Classmates.com on the Internet and found a posting from a close childhood friend, "Wendy." She and I went to school together from first through eighth grades. Then she moved, and we lost touch.

I thought the world of Wendy, but in eighth grade she had me help her clean out her basement, move furniture and decorate for a party she was giving. After it was all finished, she told me I wasn't invited to the party because I wouldn't fit in with that crowd. Cruel kid stuff, right?

Anyway, Wendy and I started an e-mail correspondence, and she was gushing about how happy she was to hear from me. We were in touch once or twice a week. She made comments about how I look "so young and thin" and that she was "jealous."

We talked constantly about getting together, and she suggested that I should come to her house. She gave me a date two months in the future. I was so excited about the prospect of us finally meeting up again and booked an inexpensive flight.

Then I got an e-mail from her that said, "Something's come up over that weekend, so we're not going to be able to have our reunion after all. Maybe we can get together after the holidays."

I was crushed, but then I started to think that something was wrong, so after three days, I sent her a carefully worded e-mail stating that I was hoping that everything was OK.

That was 11 days ago. No further word from Wendy.

My daughter tells me to accept what she said at face value and that we'll get together at a later time.

What is your take on this? Should I call her, e-mail her or just let this die? The devil on my shoulder is telling me that Wendy has played "gotcha" with me twice now! -- Stumped, Angry and Dumped

Dear Stumped: Listen to the devil on your shoulder. Don't listen to him when he tells you to take up smoking or join the circus, but listen to him now.