Interestingly, on the same long drive north toward the sacred isle of Iona, we discussed the contemporary issue of gay marriage. Randy insisted that we need to define marriage. We spoke of things like “two people committed to one another” – and without getting into what else we explored on that topic, we did reflect on the curious fact that, as lifelong friends, we are irrevocably committed to one another. We never took vows. We have never even brought up the subject to one another. How lovely to realize the commitment was surely made, and was as enduring (or even more durable) than even a marriage – yet with no formality, no legal documentation, not even the simple act of saying to each other “Hey, we’re in this forever.”