Teacher being very pushy about speech therapy- WWYD Update pg. 17

DS (now 27 months) is very speech delayed. We had him assessed with the "Help me grow" program (for those who are familiar) with the school district at 16 months. He didnt have any words at that time but wasn't behind in any other areas so he didnt qualify for services.

We took him to private speech therapy which he qualified for and did therapy for about 4 months. The travel distanct and time we had was very hectic on our family and DS wasnt getting much out of the sessions. We discussed this with his therapist and then decided it was best it we took him out and worked at home. Everything she was working with him there are things we can work at home with. He still is not speaking any words.

DS goes to early childhood family education (bascially mom or dad and me classes) 3X a week and he gets more out of those than anything.

However I was taking with one the the instructors and she mentioned the help me grow program and we told her that we had already applied but he didnt qualify, and we told her the reasons we pulled him out of speech therapy.

The next week she asked us if we knew that we had to reapply for services if we wanted them for DS, which we new.

Over the next few weeks she would bring up websites that we could use and now she emailed me asking if she could meet with us to discuss DS's speech development.

I guess I just dont really think its her place to discuss this, we know of the resources available to us and how to get them. We are choosing not to do therapy through the help me grow program because they do the visits at home which we are not comfortable with. DS also gets very distracted when other people are working with him which is why we and his former provider decided that it was best if we worked with him ourselves.

What do I tell her? I really don't want to discuss our sons speech with her, but dont know how to get her to back off our case.

I know that help me grow has a preschool (early childhood special education) but DS wont qualify untill he is 3 which we would absolutely love for him to do (he has an end of october birthday, does anyone know if he could start when he turns 3 or have to be 3 by september 1 and wait untill the following year?)

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How is she supposed to know all of the things you already know? She is trying to help your son, not personally offend you, this is HER JOB.

I'm kind of surprised that you wouldn't take advantage of every service available to you since your son hasn't improved from 16-27 months. My good friend did home visits with her daughter and it helped her tremendously.

My middle child has a neurological disorder, I was in denial about it for a time too, so I think I may understand your thought process here OP, but you really should be taking every.single.opportunity that you can get here to help your child. Birth to age three are crucial for brain development in all areas and you don't want to miss that window. Besides, whether you realize it or not, your OP kind of made you sound like you were put off from having to deal with a child with a SN.

No words at all at 27 months? How long have you been working at home now? How is his receptive language?

He's actually improved alot since we took him out and started working with him. He can almost say a few works although we are working on articulation. He's picked up "co" for cold "Kiii" for kitty "haa" for "hot" he can say "ma" and "me" separately and is working on putting them together and he's started saying "yeah" and "K" to answer questions. But DH and I dont really consider those real words.

His ability to understand words and phrases isnt behind at all, he is right on target if not ahead. Its just his expressive language that is very behind.

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DS (now 27 months) is very speech delayed. We had him assessed with the "Help me grow" program (for those who are familiar) with the school district at 16 months. He didnt have any words at that time but wasn't behind in any other areas so he didnt qualify for services.
We took him to private speech therapy which he qualified for and did therapy for about 4 months. The travel distanct and time we had was very hectic on our family and DS wasnt getting much out of the sessions. We discussed this with his therapist and then decided it was best it we took him out and worked at home. Everything she was working with him there are things we can work at home with. He still is not speaking any words.
DS goes to early childhood family education (bascially mom or dad and me classes) 3X a week and he gets more out of those than anything.
However I was taking with one the the instructors and she mentioned the help me grow program and we told her that we had already applied but he didnt qualify, and we told her the reasons we pulled him out of speech therapy.
The next week she asked us if we knew that we had to reapply for services if we wanted them for DS, which we new.
Over the next few weeks she would bring up websites that we could use and now she emailed me asking if she could meet with us to discuss DS's speech development.
I guess I just dont really think its her place to discuss this, we know of the resources available to us and how to get them. We are choosing not to do therapy through the help me grow program because they do the visits at home which we are not comfortable with. DS also gets very distracted when other people are working with him which is why we and his former provider decided that it was best if we worked with him ourselves.
What do I tell her? I really don't want to discuss our sons speech with her, but dont know how to get her to back off our case.
I know that help me grow has a preschool (early childhood special education) but DS wont qualify untill he is 3 which we would absolutely love for him to do (he has an end of october birthday, does anyone know if he could start when he turns 3 or have to be 3 by september 1 and wait untill the following year?)

It honestly sounds like a bunch of excuses on your part. Of course the teacher is concerned that an almost 2 and 1/2 year old child doesn't have any words. You should be too. Why not do home visits? My son has a therapist come to our home. Heck, I go to homes to do regular therapy for kids. They're not judging you. You need to do any and everything you can to help your son. Obviously you and your husband working with your kid at home by yourselves is not working.