My Best Friend Needs To Say Sorry

HURT ASKS,

My best friend and I are in a fight. I miss her and miss talking to her, but she said some hurtful things and I think she needs to apologize. Is it wrong that I’m waiting for her to say sorry first?

Hurt

Hey Hurt,

You’re not wrong to want her to say sorry. However, it’s not about wrong or right. It’s about dealing with hurt feelings and getting your friendship back on track. Friends fight and sometimes someone says the wrong thing. What’s important is working through it.

Is this argument worth missing your best friend? I think you already know the answer to that question.

Chances are she is missing you too but feels awkward saying sorry. It’s okay if you reach out to her first. Put the hurt aside and talk to your friend. Talk to her about how the fight made you feel. Be honest. Tell her why you are hurt, but don’t play the blame game. If she knows that she hurt you, she probably already feels bad enough.

Arguments usually go two ways. Was there anything negative you might have said during the fight? Own up to it. Get everything out in the open.

Then comes the important part…move on! The point is to mend things and get your friendship back to BFF status.

Then go have fun. Be friends again! We suggest a movie. It gives you a chance to hang out together without having to do a lot of talking. Then afterward you can talk about the movie instead of having to think or talk about the fight.

We hope you get back to being besties soon. Let us know how everything goes!