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Lissy’s Heartbreak

Lissy, a tiny black-haired girl came to Vacation Bible School with her cousin Judy the summer I was ten. I immediately warmed to her, though she was so shy she’d only talk to her cousin. She and her mother had come to spend the summer with her Uncle Joe and his family. I didn’t see Lissy again until August when Mother spent a few days in the hospital delivering my youngest sister.

Lissy was Mother’s roommate. I was almost totally ignorant of anything to do with sex, having only accrued a bit of misinformation at that point, but I did catch on that there was a big secret about Lissy. I overheard Lissy’s mother talking to the doctor, “She wouldn’t start, and she wouldn’t start, but when she finally did, she wouldn’t stop.”

Lissy was crying and wouldn’t answer the doctor’s questions. I never saw her again.

Mother sent me out before I heard any more. I felt bad for Lissy, but was intrigued. Knowing I’d learn nothing more, I sequestered that information in my mind, hoping I’d understand later. Long after I was grown, I remembered to ask Mother about it. She remembered well. Little Lissy had suffered a miscarriage and was admitted with massive blood loss. She was only eleven.

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I can’t imagine this. I was molested at 12 but I didn’t even know I had lost my virginity until later. I think I would have lost my mind if I’d found out I was pregnant. My little sister had a pregnancy scare and my dad “aborted” it by beating her with a belt. To this day she swears it was his even though he told my mum about hearing she’d been with older guys.

My dad beat my sister because she was very verbal and didn’t accept his molestation quietly, and did a lot of acting out to get herself out of our house-he manipulated me with gifts to obligate me into sex. He pretended sorrow with my mother and turned her against us. She had no reason to lie, absolutely none, but my dad scared my mom with images of being stared at and talked about by people and insisted my sister just wanted to run wild, that she was a known liar and exaggerator, trying to get him in trouble because she had rebellion troubles, and my mum wouldn’t be able to keep us all in line without him. Shaking my head.

In jail. 4 years. She got involved in physically and emotionally abusive relationships and had 4 kids and lost all of them. She will get custody when she gets out. And yes, my dad is a bastard. A sick repeat offender now that will not be allowed around my kids. My mom I’m still thinking on.

A child physical abuse survivor. She doesn’t know how to express love and guilt and sorrow except by giving us stuff, and threatening to turn her back on us if we “upset her over that mess.” I can relate to abuse, ha ha, so I’m trying to take it easy on her, otherwise she’d be cut out too. I tried to get her alone to tell her that my dad was harassing and molesting me again but she was so busy trying to control the conversation and my temper that I never got to. I intend to though so she knows I want nothing to do with him anymore and it’s out of the question.

If you mean, Is my father still trying to get into my pants, if I would let him, even now at 29, yes, it IS still a problem, lbeth. That’s why I yanked myself and my kids out of the house and moved to a shelter. I’m just glad a place was open or I’d still be there.

Please explain why you don’t believe “evil” is too strong a word, if you will…? You see, they have plenty of excuses as to why they should be excused, but literally none when I tried to explain why they were such sick people and why I didn’t deserve to be the one conditioned to have a relationship with THEM, as if it were some type of honor they were bestowing on me when in reality I just want to forget them.

It is a parents sacred duty to nurture and protect a child. Having sex with a child or promoting sex with a child or not protecting a child from a person who is having sex with a child is an evil act. There is no defense for that. Do you not understand that you have been betrayed by both parents?

I do very much, my intelligence won’t allow for ignorance, whether it’s in my best interests for my continued relationship with them or not. Please understand that my parents are clergy and have raised me to believe that everyone falls short, but that doesn’t make them evil, and they definitely would not have had me believe anything else. This is where I need serious help unraveling the lies and why I chose a blog.

There is a vast difference in “falling short”and sexually abusing your own child then manipulating that child. Clergy should expect to be held to a higher standard. Sexual abuse is a crime. Your parents should be held responsible.

Like hell lol That’s one sob story he’s played out on me I’m getting help It’s only been about a week I’ve been here so I shouldn’t expect to heal 18 years worth of abuse that quickly But I’d rather do it here

Thank you so much! Your words were so strong, I made a breakthrough. Nothing pisses me off like watching myself puke and moan to people, and conversations like these make me praise God for patient people like yourself. Thank you for every word you sent me, the darkness is banished. It will be back, but it is beaten today, and that is enough for now.

Terribly sad. Don’t know if you remember Jaycee Duggard-kidnapped at 11 and held captive in a married man’s back yard for 18 years (she has a memoir out A Stolen Life). She had his baby at 11 (and two more after that.) So yes, 11 yr olds can have babies. Horrible thought… 😦

It happens more than anyone knows. It’s just accepted by so many as culturally normal. I think men who do that to children should go to trial. If it can be proven, they should no longer exist here on this planet.

That’s terrible. When I taught school, a girl in the 6th grade got pregnant. At first, no one knew who the man was. Her teacher was scared to death someone might suspect him although he was one of the nicest and most dedicated teachers I’ve known and was married to another teacher. It turned out to be a neighbor , The mother was a widow and they were poor. The neighbor man was considered nice to help, but the other children in the family talked and the truth came out. The grandmother kept the child and raised it along with her other children. It’s always so sad. —– Suzanne