Abstract [en]

In this paper we wanted to find out how singles over 30 years experience their position as singles and how they relate to initiate partnership and having children. Single is a term that covers a number of aspects and perspectives. Through individual interviews, we’ve taken note of 4 female and 4 male singles own experience, they’re all over 30 years old and live in central Sweden. We’ve analyzed the empirical material based on the knowledge from our theoretical basis on the modern society that reviles how the individuals creates their own identity and lifestyle. The singles have given us an understanding of their lifestyle and their attitude to the norm of intimate relationships and having children in our society. The empirical material we had access to has been interpreted and analyzed using the Grounded theory. Our results indicate that the experience of freedom and independence is a requisite to the individuals. The singles are pleased with their lifestyle but state that they, at times, yearn the intimacy from a relationship. A feeling of ambivalence occurs when their need for freedom collides with the loneliness they occasionally experience. The experience of solitude and views on partnership and having children between men and women turned out not to be very different.