both sides pierced

by visalakshi
(tamilndu)

Hi, i am visalakshi aged 36.I am

also nose pierced on both sides.Iwould lkie to share my experiencethrough this forum.I was born in avillage near Thiruvaiyar inThanjavur dist of Tamilnad as theyoungest of 3 daughters and ason.The eldest daughter was 12years older to me and the seconddaughter was 10 years older andthe brother was 6 years older.Weare orthodox iyer family and grewup in the village. The villagecustom in those days was thatgirls were given the right nosepiercing at around 7-8 years andwere sent to school around thatage only.When they reached theage of 15 the left nose was alsopierced and the average age formarriage was 15-18, by whichtime SSC would becomplete.Beyond SSC was rare.Inline with this policy my sistersKamakshi and Meenaksi got theirright nose pierced ar around8.The eldest, Kamakshi also gotleft nose pierced at 15 and gotmarried at 17 after completingSSC.She is also wearing only 9yards saree after marriage.Thenext sister, Meenakshi got her leftpierced at 18 just before hermarriage on completing SSC. Now ibeing the last and a bit pamperedhad some relaxation.My right nosewas done when i was 10 and icontinued to do my HSC as well.Iwas 19 when completed HSC andsoon a match got fixed.in Feb. Thein laws however sought time of 6months in order to cater to thedelivery schedule of theirdaughter.There was also no talk ofleft nose piercing by in laws aswell as my parents since times hadchanged a lot from 1st marriageto now ie a gap of around 15years and village policy was also abit relaxed and double nose studswas not compulsory.I was hopingit would pass off with only theright nose.Now the unexpectedhappened.Suddenly 2 weeks aftermy marriage got fixed a proposalcame for my brother too and gotfixed for April wedding.My motherwanted her DIL to wear on bothsides but was hesitant to askthem.Kamakshi stepped in andtold them that the bride shouldwear on both sides as that wasthe custom and all daughters arefollowing and DIL would be noexception. They reluctantlu agreedand my SIL who is only 3 monthsolder to me and is also HSCpassed like me got 2 nosestuds .At my brother's wedding myil laws were also invited.At theceremony the 2 sambandhisinteracted and my in lawswondered why their DIL shouldnot be wearing on bothsides.Immediately they took upwith my father and here againKamakshi stepped in and said thatit was a foregone conclusion thatmy left nose would be pierced andi was never exempt from familytraditions.Thus my fate wassealed.At 19 i got married withwearing sparkling diamond studson both the nostrils and am stillwearing them .The piece ofconsolation is i am not wearing 9yards like Kamakshi .Another goodnews is that my husband's sisteralso got her left nose pierced andis wearing on both sides.Sorry forthe long story. Visalakshi