Just in time for Christmas! This short story tells a personal account I had encounter back in 2009. My goal is to inform you about the good of the American people by sharing this. This lesson remains with me to this day and forever.

The Americans combine the notions of religion and liberty so intimately in their minds, that it is impossible to make them conceive of one without the other.

Alexis de Tocqueville

On a warm Spring day in New York City, getting to work on time is the only thing on a New Yorker’s mind. I’ve recently landed a city job with the Police Department within the telecommunications branch. Although thankful for the opportunity to work for the largest police force in America at such a young age (great pay, schedule, and full benefits) I was somewhat uncomfortable at the time.

I was five months pregnant with my second child.

Hardly visibly showing in my pregnancy, I dashed out my Manhattan apartment with a coat on and a purse within my hand. I just have to get there on time. I thought to myself as I did cardio to the subway.

Little did I know, not only I will not make it on time: I will not be at work today.

Finally arrived on a crowded train headed to Brooklyn.

The funny thing about New York’s Spring is the temperature. It is very cold in the morning, warm in the afternoon. What is a person to wear? At this point, the heat started to pick up. Due to my rush of leaving my home, I left my bottle of water. Now thirsty, I stand holding firmly to the standing bar within the train.

My eye scan around the cart went nowhere. No seat available. Who would offer a pregnant young woman a seat with a heavy coat on? Again- I wasn’t showing. It’s appropriate to mention, it wouldn’t have mattered! This is the age for equality. Thanks, feminist! You suck!

But as the ride continued, I began to feel dizzy. All I needed was a cup of water and a seat. Those two basic things were denied to me.

What happened next is unbelievable.

I passed out and collapsed to the ground.

Next thing I knew, I gain back my consciousness slowly while laying on the train’s floor. My head was on a lady’s lap- who was also on the floor with me. But my attention gazed on the man squatted in front of me. He unbuttoned my coat.

That is when he saw my stomach.

“She is pregnant you fools!” He shouted at everyone on the train. “No one could have offered her a seat?!” I looked up. People were standing around me. Those who remained seated had their heads down in shame.

Then someone had pulled the emergency bar to stop the train for a sick passenger. That would be me.

When the doors opened, the man carried me out the train. A few people followed us out.

Similar feeling.

I couldn’t speak. What’s going on? I thought. The man placed me down onto the bench as EMS and the police were on their way. The man bought me a water bottle and someone bought me pretzels. The lady whose lap was a pillow comforted me and reassured help is on the way.

“My help is right here.” I finally spoken with a crooked smile. After I took a large sip of water, I explained to everyone I had to go to work. The man who carried me said “Absolutely not! You’re going to see a doctor. Don’t worry about work.”

“You don’t understand. I just started this job. I don’t want to lose it.” I spoke with my head down, still confused over the faint.

He paused for a moment. Then he asked, “What is your job number? I’ll speak with your boss.”

“It’s 9-1-1.”

We all started laughing.

Even in times of stress, there is always room for a smile. This is something in my nature.

The EMS showed up with a large stretcher and the police came next. Medical services took over when a man lifted me up onto the stretcher. (Gee, was this embarrassing. All on a NYC subway platform!) My stranger friends wish me a great recovery, I thanked them and we departed. The kind lady gave me her phone number just in case I need her help after the hospital visit.

Being that I worked for NYPD, a police officer stood with me all the way until I was admitted into the hospital. We rode the ambulance together and spoke about my scare.

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Intrigued in a sense where I don’t doubt myself, instead I ask myself: who would believe this nonsense?

But as it turns out- many people do buy into the unreal.

Going to college for advertising drew my attention to identify the trickery methods used. For example: The colors red and yellow trigger hunger strikes to the brain. This is why it is used for mostly all fast food advertising- even laced into their logos.

Advertisement works (why else will a company invest millions into it?) for commercial purposes. Advertising also works to influence society. The goal is to sell you something. A product. A service. An ideology.

One of the most common themes of society’s slogans goes as follows: “Girls run the world.” “Girl power.” “The future is female.”

Amazingly enough, society’s messages are great with telling half-truths. Just like all advertisement. What’s interesting about this agenda (girl power) is the reason why society is truly promoting this. There are many spectulations but I tend to agree with this one: to weaken the West/world to set forward for an easy worldwide tyranny.

We all experieced the painful inconvenient to life, One Million Women’s March. Now could you imagine a One Million Men’s March? That is war.

This post will not focus on the possbile motivation to this movement, but rather to zoom in on why women don’t need to submit to this ideology to “feel” empowered. She has already been empowered- without a women’s movement or organization.

Let’s keep one basic principle in mind: if one has to boast (or raise “awareness”) it probably isn’t all that great to begin with. The idea or the product can sell for itself. Think back at your Apple store. How many advertisements have you seen of their products? A few, but not many. When you walk by an Apple store, it’s always busy. The store operates as a showroom. The product sells itself. The consumer knows what he/she wants.

The fable of the girl power. The Making of the New Woman: She sleeps with whoever she likes- without the development of feelings, guilt or risk of STDs. She has access to abortions paid by men while claiming her independence. This New Woman marches troops into Moscow during winter without training and easily capturing the city. She plays a sport with just as much or more endurance of a man. She is able to fight off a large man without any formal training or weapon at hand. The New Woman, almost godlike, receives high-quality wisdom through little to no life experience. Lastly, while she is competeing against men she continues to assault other women and ignores the sufferings of real victims to only focus on her life decisions (always made correctly) and pleasures.

Is this New Woman even human at this point?

This is not a productive, healthy nor realistic view and it actually hurts women in the long run. Causing a stunt to growth of human innovation and relations. It hurts men and children if women have this odd mindset. Instead of seeking an artificial power, women should elevate their given talents and gifts to the highest point.

One easy advantage women have is getting a man to do what she wants.

Yes, it’s really that simple but such a powerful tool when used correctly. The best part is that there is no need to “trick” or mislead a man. There is a common understanding with this, moreover- he welcomes it!

Women shouldn’t waste an entire lifetime playing games that conflict with our natural desires and abilities. While some desires are not helpful to becoming a better person, other desires are.

Most women enjoy being with their family and community. Women enjoy people while men typically enjoy things. Women enjoy shopping and looking beautiful. They enjoy being wanted by a man. The real power is to embrace this with little effort making your life more easier and the less use of muscle labor. If given the option, women should embrace this to help ease the burdens of a painful life.

Take a look throughout the historical figures we analyze. The bravery of those men was only enhanced and executed because of the women in their life. Noah finished building his arc because of the wife he had. The Bible speaks little of her, but we can assume she was a good wife because Noah finished the job God told him to do. The job requires muscle pull, but work is very stressful and Noah needed a mental support system as well.

When men go to war to protect their homeland, do you know what is the top priority? Is it to preserve the lovely skyscrapers and bridges? Yes that is part of it, for surely the enemy will reduce the structures into ashes. But the top concern is to protect their women and children who are indeed the foundation of these structures. Women and children will be the most immediate gift to the enemy if they achieve their goal of conquering, not the real estate or resources which takes longer to see the benefits. (I read a lot of war books.)

Note: take a look at the poorest countries in the world. Then examine the relationship between men and women there. A country’s wealth is determined by the way the women and children are treated. If the men take responsibility or not. If the men abuse the power or not. If the men are present or not.

When women are man’s weakness, all is good for the woman for she has an advantage.

Recently women have subconsciously rejected this gift and subscribed to the notion of “independence”. Only to ask herself why no man loves her? But she rejected love in the pursuit of (at many times unnecessary) labor.

I’ve understood this unspoken power since my father. One look and he gave me anything I wanted. Then as I got older, I applied that logic to the young boys at my school. Let’s just say, Valentine’s Day was never a dull holiday! Moving into the workforce, I would hardly call it work. My experience at all my jobs went well because of the (men) management above me. Who needed a worker’s union when you have a beautiful smile? That was my job security because it certainly wasn’t a worker’s union or my work ethic.

My success is never credited to a woman’s organization.

My success is credited to God, my parents, family and the use of my human mind. (Smiling helped. Bigly.)

Options

To be a professional or not to be? That is the question.

One of the greatest gifts that emerged from the industrial revolution is that women (not men) have an option to join the workforce. If she wants to work 40+ hours then quit her job to world travel, she has that option. If she seeks a part-time job at her hometown to be near her children’s school, she has that option. If she wants to devote herself to a life of a homemaker, there is that option. Underneath all the noise of the world, society will ignore a woman’s (private) decision on this issue more than a man’s decision not to participate in the workforce.

Anyone who attacks these options in the name of the “common good” is not pre-Middle Ages, but pre-language. There is nothing progressive or “new” with the idea of working from sunrise to sunset like an animal without the freedom not too.

The true girl power energy should be directed to being who you truly are. If it truly is a career woman- best of luck to you! But no one should be guilt into doing a line of work, this includes marriage and parenthood. I’ve seen many women tricked, hurt and broken by making bad decisions all because they have listened to what society has told them. If our current wave is taking the woman out of the home or forcing the woman into the kitchen- both can be troublesome and extreme. This is why a balanced lifestyle between structure and freedom to choose should always remain in a civil society.

Meanwhile, those who they took advice from on how to live, never practiced what they preached. Those who attacked marriage were married. Those who attacked money, always had money themselves. (Karl Marx, I’m talking to you.) These are the hypocrites. Then the ones who lack experience want to offer unsolicited advice: childless people writing parenting books or worst- running the board of education. People who have no interest in helping their host country seeks to run public office to (slowly) change the laws. A Spanish Pope rewriting an entire religion because of what he feels.

Once a woman learns to truly love herself. Show kindness. Be polite. Resourceful. Patient. Go through terrible experiences and overcome the tragic events with an optimistic attitude about life. Being thankful. Sincerely enjoy her place in the world. Loving the women in her life before becoming a spokeswoman for the foreign woman. Realizing giving support to the men in her life is helping the women in hers as well. A woman who didn’t fall prey to society’s control hold. She not only becomes more beautiful but inspirational to all.

Honorable mentions of women throughout history that had their cake and ate it too:

Cleopatra’s hold on Julius Caesar and Marc Anthony

Josephine’s pull to a young Napoleon who wouldn’t move his troops without her approval

Mona Lisa’s smile shows the contrast between reserve and seduction

Bathsheba knowing when and where to get the attention from King David- as if accidental

Marilyn Monroe’s walk, soft speech and eye contact to get the US President’s approval

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