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One thing The Lord has taught me so far this year is that “in all things, be ye ready“. In my personal life, there is a lot of divinely and timely things going. I don’t fully know what God is doing behind the scenes but I still trust Him. I have decided that every day I will wake up with a “Yes Lord“, even when I don’t feel like it because my purpose is bigger than me. There are times when I ask God, “why me, why couldn’t I have just had a simple calling that didn’t require much”. His reply, “my grace is sufficient“. Like, I’m pretty sure God knows my flaws and weaknesses, yet He calls me to do the exact things I feel is way out of my comfort zone. Again, His reply, “my grace is sufficient, I will perfect that which I have started in you, and it will all be for My Glory“.

I thank God for His Word, and I thank God for His patience. You see, though my flesh may be weak, my soul is willing to say “Yes Lord”. Though my flesh wants to shy away, run and hide to what it know as to be a comfort zone, the Holy Spirit is willing to equip me to do all that The Lord has called me to do. I may not feel qualified or have all the answers, but I serve a God that will lead the way.

So I press forth and walk in faith, knowing that through Christ all things are possible and that strengthens me to get ready and get in alignment with The Lord’s Will for my life.

I say all that to share what The Spirit of The Lord has placed on my heart, and that is to, “be ye ready“.

Be ready to be called, to be given an assignment, to receive a long awaited promise, to step into a new territory. Just be ready!

God is about to open new doors quickly and what you went through last season and the season before that, even the season before that one, was to get you prepared and ready for right now. We know that all things work together for the good of them who love The Lord and are called according to His purpose. We also know that we will reap that which we have sown. Those two scriptures go for the two different kinds of people that will be affected by this Word from the Lord: either you will be ready or you will feel overwhelmed and unprepared. Either way, the doors are opening.

God is doing His part, are you doing yours?

“We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 KJV

“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” Galatians 6:7 KJV

God isn’t concerned about how we feel, or what we lack. No, He is concerned about our obedience and our faith. Will we trust God, even when can’t see what’s on the other side of our obedience? Will we trust God to be with us when we are scared walking in the unknown , outside our comfort zones. Will we allow the Holy Spirit to be our encourager? Or will be continue to allow our flesh to hinder us for what God has in store for us? Will we wait for every time we are ready, in order to act on something God is telling us to? We have to be prepared. We have to be ready.

There are people attached to our obedience. There are divine connections waiting to align together, but it is in your obedience. God doesn’t want your perfection. He just wants your yes, and He will take care of the rest; that includes finishing what He started in you.

If God has been pressing you to do something, but you keep putting it off, repent for disobedience and decide today that you will do that which is required of thee. See God doesn’t tell us to do certain things for fun, it all plays a role in the big picture. So take heed to the instructions from The Lord, and in all things, be ready!

Cast your cares upon the Lord, for He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

Did you know that He even cares about your personal life, your desires, you know the desires you have for marriage, babies, and a family? There is nothing too small for God to care about that concerns you. Remember The Lord will perfect all that concerns you, even your love life (Psalms 138:8).

But, will you trust Him?

Will you be patient as He brings the man who you desire into your life?

Or will you throw in the towel and go looking for your “Adam”, and end up finding and falling for an “Ishmael” when God had your “Isaac” on the way. Then, regret it when you are married to that man because he doesn’t fit you, he can’t lead you properly, or he pulls you away from God?

A beautiful love story takes time and it will not be perfect but if you keep God as your foundation, He will take care of the areas that are imperfect. God has all things under control. Though we don’t understand why things take so long, it will all be worth the wait in the end.

I truly thank God for delivering me from the impatient syndrome, and wanting so badly to be in love and married. I realized that God makes no mistakes. He is not the author of confusion and He is not a man that He should lie. I know what He has promised me, and He knows what He has promised me. Now I may have made mistakes along the way, but God kept me and didn’t allow me to fall too far away. I might not have passed all the tests that I should have, and I’ve tried numerous times to outrun my process and failed EVERY SINGLE TIME, still His mercy and His grace covered me.

Now today, I can’t express how important it is to WAIT ON THE LORD. Trust me, your strength will be renewed. I am living witness. I am still here and even more determined to wait on Him. During a season of stripping things from me and opening my eyes to what was still in my heart and how unready I was for marriage when at times I thought I was, it gave me no choice but to submit to His Will.

Since then I have learned what it truly means to wait on God and to be content as I trust God to bring His promises to past according to His perfect Will.

I know there are many women who desire marriage, and I want to share what I have learned along that is beneficial to a waiting season. While you are waiting there are few things you can occupy yourself with to keep you focused on God instead of the time.

Seek the face of The Lord.

Start setting side time to speak to God and pour your heart out to Him. The man you really need to be desiring it Jesus.

“For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.” Isaiah 54:5

Jesus is going to be our ultimate husband, so it doesn’t hurt to get to know Him more. If you are not filled with Jesus, you will be empty and then try to fill voids with men. This is how counterfeits and lust distract you. Seeking The Lord in this time will help you to become in tuned with Him and if you have not received the baptism of the Holy Spirit yet, well this is the perfect time. Trust me, you will need all the Jesus you can get while single so that when a man comes into your life, you won’t be deceived if he is not for you, and you won’t run him away, if he is. Seek God to find out why you were created, because you were created for more than just being a wife. Reading God’s Word and fasting is very essential in the life of a believer. God will even reveal things to you about yourself and even about your purpose. Which leads me to number two.

Get busy doing work for the Kingdom.

This is so important! Yes, marriage is considered a ministry, but you haven’t been elevated to that assignment yet. This is where a lot of women shy away from because a lot forget that we too, as women, have a purpose and a position in God’ Kingdom. So in seeking the Lord, He can reveal to you what He wants you to do. Get busy in church, but be led by God.Don’t just join every ministry because you have so much time. Quality is more important than quantity. Maybe God has been tugging at you to start something for His kingdom, like a small study group. Or maybe He wants you to step out and get busy by spreading His gospel to your coworkers, family, friends, strangers, to people of this world. Maybe He wants you to share your testimony. I mean you would never know unless you spend time with Him. Being busy for God will position you to be in His Will and you never know, God may have someone waiting for you to be obedient to where He is trying to take you.If you don’t have church home yet, this is the time to find one, so you can start growing spiritually.

Prepare yourself.

I know you have a list of what you want in a husband, we all have a list (lol). However, just as you are looking for certain qualities and traits out of someone, make sure you possess the same or at least qualities of a good wife. It is kind of silly and childish to want so much out of someone but not willing to be the same. I know when I look at my little list (lol), I make sure that I am bringing just as much to the table. If you want a man who works, are you working? If you want a saved man of God that loves the Lord, make sure you love The Lord too. You want a man who is faithful, make sure you are faithful as well, to The Lord. You want a man who will lead, make sure you’re ready to practice submission.

Let me state that getting yourself prepared doesn’t mean you should focus your entire waiting time on being prepared for marriage. You need to make sure you are prepared individually to take care of yourself. Learn something new, learn how to cook, fill your mind with things that are educational and beneficial to take along with you in this life. Don’t just sit and let life pass you by waiting for an event to happen first.

Keep in mind that the man God brings you will not be perfect.

He will not come perfect in a pretty box and as everything on your “list” when you first meet/get to know him. Don’t expect God to drop a fine-looking man of God, that’s a prince charming, romantic, every Tuesday flower sending, attends to your every need, always puts you first, knows all the right things to say, super-duper sweet, posts pictures of you, show you off on social media, makes you his WCW every Wednesday, buys you everything; basically a straight out of a notebook movie fairy tale guy.

I am sorry to burst your little bubble, but we live in a world with imperfect people who make mistakes and don’t always get it right. Now, if God sends you someone like that, that is all around perfect, well… fast from them, QUICKLY and really make sure he is sent from God because that sounds a little too good to be true and normally when it’s too good to be true, it’s not true (lol).

God is really dealing with me in this area, because I just wanted a fairy tale man but I realized that just like I’m not perfect, he won’t be either. It helps me to be less selfish and more loving, but I still have my deal breakers as any woman should, well person in general should. Make sure your basic standards are met, a preview of mines: Saved, sanctified, and filled with the Holy Ghost, prays in tongues (doesn’t have to all the time but I need personal evidence to know He has the Holy Ghost besides the fruit of the Spirit; I’ve dealt with too many counterfeits), beliefs on doctrines are the same, study his bible, did I mention prays!, respectful, communicates effectively, purpose oriented (which means he’ll have a job lol), and his attractiveness meets my eyes, then everything else can be workable through communication and prayer.

Also I want to throw in, don’t think you must have daily communication with someone you just met, we are grown and have lives. People work and I’m learning that the whole puppy love, texting/calling every second and every day is high school and causes pre-mature love/lust to develop. If you two are talking all day every day, what are you doing with your lives? What are you doing for God? There should be space and boundaries. You should take things slow and let the Lord lead the relationship since He should be the foundation. This section is long because God convicted me about this topic and I get it now (lol).

Understand the true meaning of waiting on The Lord.

I truly believe a lot of us have the concept of waiting on The Lord misconstrued. Waiting on God does not mean to sit back and allow life to pass by until an event or something happens. It doesn’t mean to stay in your comfort zone until God calls you out. Waiting on The Lord means to step out on faith and trust that God will do what He said He will do. Isaiah 40:31 says that they who wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength. As you wait, your strength is being renewed. You will be strengthened in your weak areas, you will be prepared for what’s to come, you won’t be weak and lonely waiting for a man because as you are waiting on God you are being renewed. Soon you won’t even notice “how long” God is taking because you will be more focused on kingdom things, with a new mindset. You will then look up and see that God has been working on your love life this entire time and you will go into a relationship as a better person with the right person.

I pray these inspire you to want more of Jesus before wanting a man. These five things and more have helped me to keep my mind on Jesus and not on my cares and desires. One day you will look up and thank God for shutting the doors to the wrong men, for the right man to find you. Trust God and don’t forget to keep Him first. It would be a shame to spend all your life waiting to be married and you look up and Jesus comes back before that event and you weren’t ready for HIM. At the end of it all, give your heart to Jesus and He’ll place it in the hands of a man who has been waiting on someone as special as you. Lastly, enjoy your singleness because once you’re married, you can’t get it back (lol)!

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 KJV

I was listening to Travis Greene’s song “He’s intentional”, and it ministered to me in a new way this morning. Now I’ve heard that song like a million times but today it settled in my spirit, just how intentional God is.

This year started off with a twist then turned rocky, and as much as I thought I knew it all, I didn’t. As ready as I thought I was for certain things I involved myself into, I wasn’t. Nothing catches God by surprise, He knew every obstacle and mistake that I would make. Only God knows what I would’ve entangled myself more, into had He not put a halt to my plans.

Today, I thank God for the closed doors, they gave me motivation to work harder with godly wisdom towards the right doors. I thank God for hardening the hearts of men towards me, they pushed me closer to a King who I know will NEVER leave me nor forsake me. I thank God for allowing me to go through it all, because it redirected my steps and desires back to Him. He has and is still working everything out that I’ve been through, the good and bad, for my good. His Word does not lie!

It’s amazing to see how much God has matured me in these last few months. I have learned a lot about myself. My desires have transformed. My perspective has changed, and I completely just want to be in God’s will.

I can truly say I overcame the sin of turning desires that were in my heart into idols. I can truly say I feel free from past mistakes. It’s still a daily process, but each day I feel a change in myself. I thank God because He used what the devil thought would take me out, to bring me out of myself and closer to Him.

I shared all that to say, whatever you’re going through, whether it is a heartbreak, job loss, depression, hardships, remember that God is intentional, and He’s never-failing, so don’t lose trust in Him. He will turn it around. He will heal your broken heart. He will provide for your every need. He will loosen the grip of the enemy’s hands off your life. You just have to be a warrior! You have to keep pressing forth! Let your faith increase by overlooking your “now”, and looking to the creator of your future. I know it’s easier said than done but I wouldn’t share this if I didn’t believe it.

It took me a while to truly understand that God has a plan, and I must trust Him. You must trust Him. I don’t have to worry about how the plan will manifest, I just have to remain obedient and have a repenting heart when I do make mistakes.

When life gets tough, don’t stay down. Dust yourself off and get back in the race. I would’ve never thought I would be here, at this point, this quickly. I feel free and whole, with clarity, and it’s because I never gave up on God. As many times as I wanted to throw in the towel, I kept moving forward. I gave my heart to men, and they let me down, but I kept moving forward. I had no idea how I was going to pay bills, but I kept moving forward. I felt like I what I was doing, going to church, trying to live right, was for nothing, but I didn’t stop, I kept moving forward. Sometimes I feel alone in this walk, but I still move forward, because I know God will use my perseverance for His glory.

I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14 KJV

Pressing forth and looking ahead will allow you to reap the benefits of letting Him heal, restore, and transform you. So, trust Him through your situations. Don’t look at the closed doors as the end. Don’t look at someone leaving you as the value of your worth. God will restore what the devil stole, and most of what the enemy stole, belonged to him and wasn’t meant for you anyway.

God is intentional with every step of your life. Place it back in His hands and keep moving forward, as He works it all out for your good.

I know being a single woman can be hard when you desire to be in a relationship, and being a single Christian woman can be even harder because being married is like one of the number one goals we are pressured to accomplish sooner rather than later. So any man who gives a little attention you immediately start wondering “is he my potential husband” ” I wonder if he’s interested” “how can I show him I like him without looking desperate” etc. I used to be guilty of driving myself crazy wondering if every man who walked past me was my husband (thank God for deliverance!!! oh and disciplining myself to control my emotions #theStruggleCanBeReal lol). I think a lot of women take the fun out of waiting on God to work out their love life because of anxiousness, pressure, and obsession of being married. I say all this because I’ve been there before and God had to show me that I MUST keep my eyes on Him: at all times (Isaiah 26:3). You must not awaken love before it’s time (Song of Solomon 8:4). You must guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23). Not to get too deep but for the simple fact that the devil is just prowling around looking for someone to devour, and when your focus is off Jesus and on worrying about a man, you become weak and easy to distract and destroy. (1 Peter 5:8). Also, your mind and heart can fail you, if it’s not renewed on a daily basis. You’re troubling your heart when you are led by your imaginations and over analyze everything, (one day you think he likes you and the next day you’re not sure). Your thoughts can lead you to borderline walking into lust and idolatry if you don’t cast down vain imaginations and reports that are not from God. On top of that, let’s be real; God gives us wisdom and it doesn’t take rocket science to know if someone is interested or not. It doesn’t take confirmations and a million and one prayers to God. If a man is, he will tell you, better yet, he will SHOW you. You won’t have to wonder and worry your pretty self, by over analyzing every single detail. At the end of the day, you are worth someone willing to not waste your time or his. So keep your mind focused on Jesus and remember your worth! So beautiful, fix your eyes on back on Jesus and think on things that are true, honest, pure, and of a good report. NOT on a man, worrying if he likes you or not. Stop bringing confusion to yourself!

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV

God will not put more on you than you can bear. There is no temptation that can overcome you, that God has not made a way out, for an escape. Sometimes we think that God is being unfair and allowing us to be in the same situation after praying to be relieved from it. Someone reading this needs to know that God has not forgotten about you. Your prayers are not going up in vain. You are not being looked over. In fact, God is working on your behalf, He has been, from the very beginning. One thing I had to learn was that God will often times change us before He changes our circumstances. No, let me rephrase that, God WANTS to change us before changing our circumstances. As I am typing I am getting a word in my spirit about temptation and how it comes in all forms. For me personally, my desire for marriage used to rule me and my decisions, but thank God for deliverance and on time messages, from preachers and teachers to help me realize that I must trust God and not my desires. We must trust God and not our flesh. We must trust God’s Word and not settle for what entices our flesh.

Every day temptation knocks on our doors. As long as we are in the flesh, we will be tempted by something because let’s face it, our flesh is weak. The form of temptation varies for different individuals. Maybe for you, there’s a temptation in

Picking up a doughnut that looks so good, but you just asked the Lord to help you with your weight goal.

Entertaining your imaginations that are leading you away from Christ and to anxiety lane, worrisome boulevard, or lustful street. (Maybe I’m the only one with that struggle.)

Listening to that new Beyonce album, when you know all she sings about is everything that will hinder your walk with Christ. (Okay, that one was for me too lol.)

Checking up on your ex, when you know God told you to look forward and forget the former things. (Okay I’m just putting myself all the way out there lol.)

Pursuing someone because God is taking too long in bringing your man, when you know that He who findeth a wife findeth a good thing.

Calling into work with a lie because you’re just too lazy and tired to get up out of bed. (I can’t be the only one who’s thought of doing that.)

Missing Sunday service because you just don’t feel like going.

Whatever the your case is, temptation is all around, and if anyone says it’s not they are lying to you.

That’s why in Matthew 26:41, The Word says to “watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation, because the spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak“.

The spirit is willing to be strong and trust in God’s timing but the flesh wants its desires to be given right now. The spirit is willing to get up out of bed and go to work or church even though the flesh wants to soak in its feelings and stay in bed. The spirit is willing to cast its cares upon the Lord, including the anxiety, worries, concerns and believe that God has it all under control. Truth is, our flesh is too weak and wants to entertain the scenarios and imaginations of the mind that’s not from God.That’s why we are told repeatedly to crucify our flesh, deny our flesh, not to walk in the flesh, and not to give into our fleshly desires.

“This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” Galatians 5:16

It’s difficult to walk in the spirit if we are filled with flesh. We have to do our part by fasting, consecrating ourselves, and making ourselves available to God’s spirit to help because we cannot do it on our own. I repeat, we cannot do it on our own. Our flesh wants to do what it wants. It wants to play around with temptation. It wants to see how far can we hang out with temptation before we actually fall into it and become controlled by our desires. However, today I have come to let you know that God has made a way out and expects us to take the escape route.

What’s the escape route? Well for starters you must read your Word and know what is from God and what is not from God. Know what’s coming from your flesh and what’s from the spirit. You will also know the tricks of the enemy and be alert and watchful. You will know when you are being led by your flesh and when you are being led by the spirit. Then you must have a prayer life, so you are connected to God and can hear Him speak to you, warn you, then guide you to the right path. By reading your Word, and staying in tuned to Him, you are able to see God and follow Him an able to resist the devil.

“And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.” Galatians 5:24

So today I encourage you to choose the way out. I encourage you to crucify your flesh and all its lustful desires.and start walking in the spirit intentionally. Don’t allow your desires to overcome you and lead you into temptation.

When you ask God to search your heart, be prepared to get wrecked! When we asked to have our hearts searched, we are seeking The Lord to cleanse us and remove from us that which has been holding us back from being closer to Him and more like Him. When you ask, be prepared to find out things about yourself that you either were trying to deny or was plain ol’ oblivious to. These last couple of months God has shown me myself and let me tell you, it’s no fun; well minus the hidden spiritual gifts I’ve learned that He’s placed inside of me. I decided to share a few things God is teaching and showing me that not only myself but we as believers must let go of in order to truly live free and for God.

Letting go of your “idea of something”.

One thing that I want to touch on first is letting go of the “idea of something”. Meaning letting go of your idea of how something is supposed to happen, how your plans will turn out, how things will be, how you will get married, how you will walk into your blessing. I have struggled and apparently still do, struggle with letting go of my idea on how things will play out in my life. If I want to stress myself out or ride an emotional roller coaster, then having this particular expectation about something will surely do it.

Today as I was spending time with God, I realized that a lot of my emotional distress, disappointments, and stumbling blocks come from when something isn’t going how I expect or when something else happens other than what I imagined. You see where I’m getting at; I cause myself to have enlarged troubles because I’m trying to lead my own life instead of letting God put the pieces together in my life. When I surrendered my life over to God, that included my plans, visions, desires, and “ideas of things”. When I pick them back up, I’m picking back up the heavy burden I gave to God in exchange for His peace and His Will (Psalm 55:22). You are giving away God’s peace within you when you try to take control over your life by creating this ideal life for yourself and how things play out. Which leads me to another thing to let go of.

Letting go of control and having everything figured out!

Now this is something that takes time to master but with the grace of God and the Holy Spirit, it can be done. Well how, you may ask, I’ll say by simply taking life ONE DAY AT A TIME! Yes, it’s that simple yet hard when if you’re like me, like to have your life planned out. However, if you look to the Word of God, it states that there are many plans in a man’s heart, but it’s the Lord’s purpose that will come to pass (Proverbs 19:21). So that means that if what you are planning is not in God’s will, it may not happen unless you step out and live according to your own will. (Which correlates to the first one “Letting go of expectations”). Now don’t get me wrong, it’s important to plan and have goals, but you have to make sure that on this very day, you are in God’s peace and His Will. If you remain in Him, He will establish your plans, but again, according to His Will (Proverbs 16:3). So you have to be okay with praying and submitting your desires and plans to God, then taking your hands completely off your life and watching Him work.

Today God reminded me that He has already predestined everything to happen in my life and what is in His will for me will come to pass; the promises, the ministry, the career, the husband, the family, the blessings (natural and spiritual), they will all come at its appointed time. HOWEVER, what I do on this very day, determines what happens next. If I fall into temptation and become disobedient, I will delay the blessings, I may even mess up a blessing if I am not mature enough for it.

So in this very moment, God wants you to live in this day, in this moment, surrendered and submitting to His will and living a life right now pleasing in His sight. Don’t worry about tomorrow because tomorrow already has enough going on. The Lord can come back anytime and you want to make sure you are always prepared and not stressing over temporary things. Don’t get so focused on planning ahead and trying to control how your life plays out that you miss out on the blessings and lessons of today. Which brings me to another thing to let go of.

Letting go of people pleasing.

When you stop worrying about what others think about you, what others have to say, their opinion on your life, you will be free from people bondage. People bondage is no joke and very real, and it hold a lot of us back from fully living the life God has destined for us. People will always have something to say, good and bad, but it is up to you to determine if you will let them lead your life or God. One area I strongly had a people bondage problem in, was my church life. I didn’t grow up in the church, so I had no idea about different denominations and church doctrines, I just thought you pick a church and go to it. Thank God for His wisdom, His Spirit, and maturity because it was only a year or two ago when I was a lost sheep being swayed back and forth between different churches because I was relying on man’s opinion to lead me and guide me, instead of God. My church story is a book in itself, which I’ll share one day, but long story short, I decided to do what God wanted me to do and ever since then I’ve been free. God gave me instructions but He had to let me decide for myself if I was going to continue to please men or Him (Galatians 1:10). God wants you to decide if you are going to continue to please men or Him? Are you going to allow your parents, friends, church family, people in general to lead you and pour their plans for your life in you? Or will you trust God and obey His personal commands and calling in your life even when others are against you?

These a few I was led to share and I will share more as The Lord leads because there were a lot, but I didn’t want an extremely long post.

When we let go of certain habits and mindsets, we will obtain God’s goodness and His best for our lives. Whoever wants to control his life, save his life, and create his own way will lose out and lose his life. Whoever lets go, surrender, give up his ways and his mindset, will gain life, a new life.

“Whoever seeks to save his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life will preserve it.”

Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NKJV

When I recently went shopping I felt like an old lady. I felt everything was “too short”, “too revealing“, or “too cropped”. There was this one dress I tried on and immediately thought, “Ummm, this is not something a woman of God can wear”. I kept asking myself like “where is all the classy stuff, goodness are they shrinking the clothing???”

What’s funny is that I used to wear all that revealing type of clothing and justify it as, “It’s just fashion”. As I started getting closer to God, He started personally convicting me of how I was presenting myself. I loved fashion, still do, but I wasn’t putting biblical standards to thought then. I wasn’t looking like a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). How can I proclaim to be a godly woman, yet I’m wearing things that are saying otherwise? So I eventually had to get rid of all of my mini dresses, crop tops and short shorts and fell in love with long maxi dresses and comfy cardigans. I had to change and be set apart by covering up and dressing like a wholesome church girl (lol).

…”in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, …”1 Timothy 2:9 NKJV

Today, I LOVE modest clothing. I love dressing in a way that exemplifies a godly woman, that not only honors God, but it will also show respect for my future husband. See, the world is all about revealing everything, but God wants us to start concealing our precious body and covering up (Romans 12:2). Our body should only be uncovered for our husbands. We shouldn’t be walking around showing cleavage, every single curve, or showing off our thighs; like leave something for your husband to look forward to. If you practice dressing modestly and classy now, you eliminate causing your brothers in Christ to stumble by being presented your revealed goodies. In my opinion, the longer the better and the more covered up, the better. You’d actually be surprised at how many cute modest outfits you can put together. One tool I’ve used was Pinterest!

I say all this to remind you that your body is a temple of the Most High and you should strive to glorify Him with it, instead of showing it off. I know in today’s world modesty is looked down upon. Behaving with good morals and dressing in a respectful manner, is down upon. You may feel you will be overlooked by that guy you like, you won’t fit into what’s “trending” this season, you won’t stand out among your friends, or society says that modesty is boring, but why does any of that matter? God will reward you for the little sacrifices you make here on this earth. God called you to be set apart, so that means looking like this world may be out the question.

As you grow in Christ, you will realize that how you present yourself, matters. I know for me, before I matured in Christ, I didn’t know dressing modestly was important. I felt that clothing was fashion, I am expressing myself, it shouldn’t matter what I wear because God sees my heart. Well that is true, God sees my heart, but He also seen that I was more into pleasing others and my flesh with my style, than Him.
I’m not saying there is a certain way to dress, and I am not saying if you dress any other way you are wrong. What I am implying is that as a Christian woman, you should take in consideration what you wear. Ask yourself before you walk out the house, “Am I revealing too much? Is what I am wearing glorifying God or my body? What type of guys will I attract wearing this?” You may think that is doing too much, but can we really do too much for God? I believe a lot of us do too little. Jesus died on the cross for us, the least we can do if we call ourselves Christians, is allow the Holy Spirit to guide us in presenting ourselves to God, our entire being, including how we dress, as holy, sanctified, and an example of what a woman of God should look like.

Dressing modestly is an outward result of an inward change, attributing to the godliness inside of you.

In this life, we are bound to encounter unexpected situations such as loss, termination, being laid off, heartbreak, failures, or whatever meant to bring us down, and how we respond to them can make us or break us. When we are faced with unexpected changes and events, we have to find the strength from within to respond with a sound mind. Here are three responding ways that I have learned along in life that I hope can encourage you.

Stop seeking for a man and seek God. A lot of women are so concerned about marriage and dating that they forget the ultimate wedding is with our bridegroom Jesus Christ. Pray this message inspires someone to seek more of God and less of a godly man. You will be found when it’s time. (Proverbs 18:22)

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My name is Brittany La'Vell, and welcome to Building A Beautiful Soul. Here you will find all things that make up a Jesus centered life; from encouraging biblical approaches to every day life, modest beauty and fashion tips, and healthy living. I pray that you are able to take with you, peace, love, and inspiration that leads you closer to Jesus. God bless!

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Proverbs 3:5-6

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My name is Brittany La'Vell, and welcome to Building A Beautiful Soul. Here you will find all things that make up a Jesus centered life; from encouraging biblical approaches to every day life, modest beauty and fashion tips, and healthy living. I pray that you are able to take with you, peace, love, and inspiration that leads you closer to Jesus. God bless!