Have been for 5 years. Same woman. What the eff is wrong with me? I left a 23 year relationship 5 years ago, because I fell in love again "with someone unavailable"....someone who loves me as a friend, and once upon a time she almost left her relationship for me. Yeah, I...

"Hi I'm ____, nice to meet you!"
Are you married? Check.
Do you have a girlfriend? Check.
Are you a few hundred to a few thousand miles away from me? Check.
Do you only like me as a friend or friend w/ benifts? Check.
The Point: Why ask if I know at least one of the answers...

so the unavailable than don't like me. In this story I'm going to talk about several different guys. I'll mention their name at the beginning of each story.
The first story is a story about Ash. Ash was the friend of a distant friend. He just walked up to me one day and asked...

Story of my life...I've gone through so much pain and trouble because of this girl. But I've also learned a lot about myself and life in general. First of all I'm definitely a shy guy. It's not in my nature to go out partying and/or being the life of the party. Now I'm not...

and came to see a pattern in it - and it could not be more obvious:
I FALL FOR PEOPLE I CAN'T HAVE (but I'm unsure why)
I think I've explored almost all the possible cases of unavailability now, followed by heartache and/or rejection. But let's not get ahead of myself...
It...

1st I develop a crush on a guy named Brennen and he's in a really committed with an amazing girl and even though it sucks for me, I'm really happy for them! They look perfect together Now I have two crushes; one on my straight best friend, Avneet and the other one is on my...

for charismatic guys who consider everyone they meet a friend. What usually happens is that they're nice to me (because they're nice to everyone, not because they have special feelings for me), I fall for them, and I get my heart broken. I'm so used to people ignoring me due to...

I've known her since high school. Not the thinnest (might be classified as big boned), not the prettiest (her two sisters got the looks - seriously), but she's the most amazing woman I know. She's always had this energy, this glow, about her that made me want to be with her...

I knew him since last 5 years but fell for him a few months back. I told him all this and he said that he isn't interested. Still, we used to converse frequently as friends. He often used to give me those intense looks but when I asked him he said that no I like someone else.
He...

Ive been in so many wonderful relationships, that I feel we have a connection, an understanding of each other...can say anything and have a great comfort zone where you feel so excepted. And everytime something happens or comes up where they have to or want to leave the state...

I dated a guy who was obsessed with and stalking his ex-girlfriend. He was constantly distracted and hardly appreciated me, sometimes even unfavorably comparing me to her. When I finally gave him an ultimatum, stalking her or being my friend, he chose to continue...

I am attracted to emotionaly unavailable people, and lately I started to think why. Was is just bad luck to run in to them or was it me. I googled it and a lot of articals are saying that you fall for this kind of people because actually you are unavailable too.
I don't know. I...

Perhaps Morrisey said it best, "I want the one I can't have, and it's driving me mad. It's all over, all over, all over, all over my face.."
He's unavailable in every sense of the word (maybe that's part of what draws me to him?). Hundreds of miles away and married with a family...

why they do this? I have been mulling over my so-called love life, of late (couple years), and this seems to be a pattern with me.
They're married (and I won't cross that line), they live too far from me for it to be a reality. Other reasons as well. Or is it possible that...

I had loving parents, didn't have a distant dad, am pretty and confident. But I tend to go after guys who are not available, either because they live in another country or they report to me that they have a long-distant, long-term girlfriend. In either case, they're...

I am so sick of it.Every single time I meet a guy I really like, he's unavailable somehow. Recently I started talking to a great guy who (so far) seems like exactly what I am looking for. He's intelligent beyond belief, emotionally sensitive, kind, easy to talk to, cute, and...

I truly, hopelessly, unconditionally love a married guy. What should I do? I know that I can never have him but I can't stay without him. :( ... I always end up with someone whom I can never have for myself :'(

Ok, ladies, As I prepare to jump into a hornets nest let me say this: Some women don't necessarily want to be in love they just love to be wanted. The challenge to obtain the unattainable or the idea of being picked over the other women is motivating in itself. I am not saying...

I have began to realize that ever since my second divorce (yep, I sure can pick 'em) that I have fallen for two men that are unavailable to me.
A few years ago, it was a much, much older man. He was single, no kids, but he was in his 50s while I was 27. I have no idea why I...

All my life, and I'm 49 now, I've fallen in love with person after person who doesn't return my affections ... I mean, everybody has these experiences, but mine are more like fantasy/obsessions. I had these obsessions even when I was married. My spouse and I were friends but...

Yup, I can sure pick them. I married someone who was emotionally unavailable. I fell in love with a guy who was emotionally unavailable.I recently dated someone who was emotionally unavailable.None of these men hate me. Two of them loved me. The other guy liked me. Now I...

Is it obsession or something real when you can't think about anyone else but this one person, when your day is not fulfilled until you've seen them, spoken with them, laughed at a silly passing joke? Is it something my mind has concocted to pass the time, something to strive for...