Plenty women, VERY few marriageable ones; ARE you marriageable?

The WORD ``Relationship has thrown heart-wreck into many
women’s love life``. RELATIONSHIP
means the way two people, groups
or countries behave towards each other or deal with each other. Many women
have struggled to decode what is in the
heart of man the moment they are into relationship(or on the verge of being
into one)without success.

Many times, I really wonder just how many women are really
able to understand what exactly it is that men want in a relationship. To be
frank, I don’t really blame them for their predicament,although it is a
globally accepted fact that women are the more fragile and complicated of the
two genders; the moment you throw in the word ‘relationship’, suddenly the
entire scene changes, and it’s the men who instantly turn into paranoid ONES.

It’s not that,
men are phobic when it comes to commitment, or for that matter, marriage, NO. It’s just that when it comes to serious
relationships, they do express reservations which ideally, they should share
with their who-to-be partners, and make things all that more easier.

Unfortunately, this doesn’t happen all that regularly, and
that is only because most men do not take communication serious! So many a
time, women end up perceiving expressions, actions or feelings differently or negatively .

All these multitude of women, why are they not getting
married? That is the big question. Let’s look at this burning issue critically
by narrating an incidence that happened to my neighborhood recently.

Infact, this write up came up as a result of what happened
in my neighbourhood.A family of five ladies, all graduates, well to do, and is ONLY one that is attracting men. As of the
time of writing this article, seven suitors are on their kneel soliciting for this
lady’s hand in marriage while the rest ones have attracted none, and this lady
that suitors are swarming for happens to be the youngest among them. You and I know
the restiveness this can cause in a family.

It’s not a secret that men categorize women into two types –
the ladies they catch fun with and no strings attached, and the ladies they
marry.

The trick is to determine whether your guy is thinking of
you as a long-term investment or a ‘good
for now’ lady, and to become the one he’ll want to keep forever.

So, what’s the difference between the casual lady and the one, all men want to marry?

There are certain traits that women display; men pick up on subtle unspoken
signals from the very first time they meet you.

Believe it or not, men instantly identify the value of the
woman and place her in the appropriate category.

If you think that what you’ve heard before about playing
hard to get, about not kissing and not sleeping with a man too soon, and being
aloof and artificially unavailable will get you a ring on your finger you can
be farther from the truth! Now ask yourself, is that the qualities of a
virtuous woman?

In fact, men don’t like women who play hard to get and will
often stop pursuing a woman because they read her games as lack of interest.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that, you should throw yourself to
him;NO,don’t do that.

What men want in a girlfriend, is usually a pretty damsel
who looks hot and is a whole lot of fun. They desire someone they can be comfortable
with and comfortable around. They want someone who’s adventurous, maybe even a
holiday type, someone whose idea of fun can be something very wild. They prefer
to have a lady who is not bogged down with the realities and pressures of
everyday life. They want someone who likes to party, hang out and in general,
live life in a carefree manner without worrying too much about the future.

But on the other hand, what men want in marriage is
completely different.

Once a man is
committed, what he seeks in his partner undergoes a sea of change. Also,
from here onwards, the gap between ‘want’ and ‘need’ only widens, and there can
be several instances when what men want in a relationship is not always what
men need (at that particular point of time, that is).

What men need in a marriage (or a committed relationship) is
someone who will love them in spite of the crazy beings that they are. What a
man needs in a wife is a woman who cleverly understands the words that her
husband doesn’t say, rather than those which he does. Every man needs a godly
woman(who has the fear of God) . What a man needs in a wife, is a woman who,
despite not having any affection for the man’s hobby whatsoever, enthusiastically
cheers him on . A woman who shares a vision with him and contribute to that
vision.

Now, what men want in a relationship. Many a time, what a
man wants in a relationship, is to feel like the knight in shining armour; the
typical masculine macho male who is strong, mighty, and protective of his partner.
However, what a man wants in a relationship, is a partner who is not meek and
is not afraid to stand up and take over the reins when her man is low on
morale, self- belief or plain confidence. What a man wants in a life partner is
a woman who, in times of need, can boost his confidence, his self esteem and
can make him feel good about himself. What a man wants is for his woman to love
him from the bottom of her heart, and stand by him through thick and thin.

What I can say from this narration is that, a man’s want can
be driven by selfishness; much is expected from women if the relationship is to
last still death does the separation.

How do we solve this problem of having so many women who are
not marriageable materials.

A sugar daddy that was
going after teenage girls was asked a
question one day; will you like other men of your age to go after your daughters.
He answered; his daughters are not meant for such men because they are well
trained.

We all like to watch the display of a mad man in a market square
but nobody wants such person to come from his lineage.

Ladies, wake up, you
can’t afford to be losing your crown God as bestowed upon you, your value
system must change for better.

Hi, Glad you became my fan, I will watch your writing now as you have some good ideas.

Aisha Maragarette

7 years ago

I'm happy married my Husband is older 5 years from me , when we decide to get married I never ask any fancy things & fancy Wedding I just told him that if you Love me , you can take care our own future family then I cant ask anything anymore.

As my belief if your seriously in relationship you dont have to make the man you love like a sugar daddy, to ask anything.Love is more important no more no less.

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