Shame! Shame! Shame! Not only I am have not been here at all with a blog, now I show up and use the same title as the last one. But what can I say? I am getting older and learning all these new things.

But they are not new it is just what we always heard but didn’t believe or realize how it goes. When we are young we are invincible and think we can do it all. In reality the wall of invincibility breaks down with age and that’s when the “OH I GET IT OR OH I SEE WHAT THEY MEAN!!” comes to us!

I have lost several more people in my life. It is so hard sometimes. Some have led long good lives, some not so good but all taught me many things. All leave a small hole in my heart. I choose to remember the good from all of them.

I choose to pay attention now more than ever to what I say and how I treat people. One never knows when it may be the last thing you say.

I choose to show more kindness to everyone, again now more than ever. I see how life can just vanish! I see more and more I need to keep learning and keeping my mind open and non-judgmental because I have not walked in their shoes. And even if the stories of people are the same it never is just the same. Everyone’s experience is different even under the exact circumstances. And no matter how bad one story is there is worse!

So now that I will attend another good-bye to someone I loved. I am now really starting to appreciate getting older! Think of the Alternative!

I learn how precious our time is and the way I want to spend mind is in peace and love! Now I will appreciate life and my loved ones more and I Thank God for everyday I get to be here and appreciate life AND as I get older!

Yes I have them too! I have had a lot to deal with this year, and it was several things at once and yes I have had several really good pity parties. I think it is good to have them once in a while and clean out all the left overs of the emotions that caused you to need the Pity Party and after all I am a really good party thrower and hostess. I do my best to make my quests feel comfortable and have fun and if it is a pity party they want, that’s what they get. So of course I took full advantage of it. I won’t go into the blah, blah, blah of it all but it is easy to get down and feel sorry for oneself and hide out when these obstacles come up in your path. I am fine and I will get thru as I always do. Now it is easier because I have learned I don’t need to carry things around forever.(“No monkeys on my back”) There are some things we cannot change. And it is certainly no reason to use it as an excuse for not living and enjoying a good life. But sometimes it takes something or someone to remind you.

I had a friend send me a response to an e-mail I sent her and I was so touched. She didn’t tell me what to do or how to do it she just listened and offered to be there. (Thank you Mama C) I saw the fog parting in my head and the cobwebs swept away and remembered again how lucky and blessed I am with a loving wonderful family and some awesome good friends along with my faith. Yes some things in life are awful Many things are unfair. And there can be a lot of pain in people’s life. And yes I think it is good to cry and let the tears wash away what they can. But then it is time to remember what we do have and use that to lead us through this storm we may be in. If we know we are doing the right thing and we focus on the good we do have we will be able to make it through the storm. It may be something that can never go away or be taken back or will impact your way of life but it should and will become a distant memory filed into the lesson section of your brain if we let it. Basically it is all lessons and we learn how or how not to handle the issues we face.

So for now the Pity Party is done. I am about celebrating all the good I have. It will take time and work but I am ready for it!

I haven’t been too good about doing my blog as I should. I am working at getting better. For today I have taken a poem I wrote a year or so back using what I call my backward style. Why, who knows? lol! This time I rewrote it as it came out. No form or style just thoughts from the heart as the words lept to the paper they landed hard and in that spot they well stay! I think you will get the point anyway! I hope Dear Santa that makes up for being slack and this year I hope to be back.

PS: Ok! OK! So I don’t have to sweep the floors, lol We are off to the kids house this year!

Thank You Santa! And Sincerest Thank You to all my followers!

It was the day before Christmas and all through the house,

They were all asleep!

Except for mom, who had her headphones on to be quiet as a mouse,

she was busy listening to her music while her house she did sweep.
She started the cooking and was expecting her kids.
Excited and wanting to give them all kinds of gifts.
She wanted them to be happy, and have a good life.
Hoping it was filled with love and no strife.

She wished them love, health, happiness and joy.
Don’t forget laughter and yes, she would even give them a toy.
And to all her family and friends she wishes the same. She sends good wishes for you of joy and happiness and health, and love.
And she prays to one up above, for those who are alone and sad.

So to Everyone Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, or Happy Holiday of your belief, she hopes in your life, these things, you all will have bringing you peace and relief.

I want to wish a Happy Holiday Season to everyone! That means what ever color, race, religion you are. That means to the cooks, the maids, the CEO’s, the single parent, the kids EVERYONE! Yes I usually say Merry Christmas but I mean no offence and I don’t think most people do it is just what many of us grew up with. I believe in doing the right thing always but I think this time of year is especially important to be nice to everyone. And that means to the clerks in the stores with the long lines and the crowds. Remember they are doing their job and it is rough on them and when you get up to that counter and start yelling and complaining because your frustrated how do you think they feel! Your server at the coffee shop is probably overwhelmed with the sudden rushes of people demanding coffee now so they can rush out to get gifts to spread the Xmas cheer while they bully their way through the stores.

How about the postmen and women and the UPS and Fed-Ex people, it isn’t their fault the package is late. It isn’t their fault the roads are snowy or icy or crowded and they didn’t get to your house right at 1 pm or whatever. How do you think they feel? Maybe they have problems of their own and maybe they are trying to be nice to you and hide what they are going through.

During the holidays people who have problems suffer more. Their problems seem worse. Because the holidays are supposed to be good and happy and they aren’t. So why can’t we all be nice to each other. If everyone just smiled and used basic manners saying Thank You and Please, and holding our impatience in someone’s day could be made so much better. After all isn’t that what the Holidays are about???? Smiles and good feelings??? I think so. Nothing else should matter except helping everyone enjoy them.

I have watched people rip through a store clerk over nothing. Rudeness and bad manners are not acceptable to me at any time but during the Holidays when so many have so little and are so sad it is just wrong.

So I put out a challenge to everyone. Please be kind to the clerks, the cleaners, the stock clerks, the people working in the restaurants, the other shoppers, to every color and race and your holiday will be better and so well theirs. Is it so hard really to put on a smile?? If it is then maybe you need to be smiled at. And maybe someone will make your day by a smile and a kind word. If we all try maybe for this short time we could have Peace and Love and Joy for everyone. Everyone deserves that. Don’t forget the Police and Fireman , and Service Men and Women too, and all the people who are their for us always.

I want to Personally Thank all the clerks and workers out their that have to work in all this commotion. I appreciate all your work and personally I have gotten many smiles and good service from you all.

I wish for you all a wonderful Holiday full of Joy, Love, Peace and lots and lots of laughter!

Writing is medicine to me. I write a lot of poems because it is fun, it is serious, it is happy, it is sad and it comes from my heart and head that way! Oh I can make up stuff for a book, my imagination comes up with all kinds of things but for some reason poems always seem to pop up. These last few years I have met a lot of great writers and poets. It has taught me a lot. Not only on the how of writing but the how, who and what of life. There are so many perspectives. There are so many opinions to hear and learn from.

Every few years it seems I go through a spell when nothing wants to spill down the fall onto the paper. Words might start to form but they don’t fit with each other. That is why you see this blog go on for quiet mode for a while without movement. So for awhile I take a break and read different blogs and books or stories to see what is out there.

I was doing that today and I read a friends poem and it was beautifully put of something I know I need to remind myself of and I know many other people also that get into the rut of life instead of living every moment we worry about what is ahead or behind or both. I want to be aware of today, now, this minute! I know I don’t enough. I try, I enjoy every day but thoughts of past sneak in or worry or just excitement of tomorrow and what it may bring sneaks in to take you eyes away from the prize and that is this very moment, every one of these very moments.

I loved the way Daron captured it with his words put together in such a wonderful way that I felt I was there in that moment with him with the birds and the sun and the breeze. Daron gets a lot of good thoughts on his front porch and this may be the start of a wonderful series I hope.

Thank You Daron for letting me share this!

From the Front Porch

I’ve been out here for hours now And not one word has been put to paper But the sun is warm and the breeze is a gentle caress Maybe this moment is exactly as it should be; To sit here and marvel at the gift of the consciousness That records and governs my life.

All of it is Life: The mailman, greeting as he walks past, and the trees above me whispering to each other, and the birds, always the birds, overhead. I’m going to sit here a while longer Like nothing is happening and experience every moment of this thing we call Life.

This is just a little fun thing I wrote a few weeks ago when I was telling my hubby that fall was here and he said he didn’t think Summer was over yet. LOL well Mother Nature always wins and Summer can try but Fall was given permission to come on in by Mother, LOL!

Writing is such a good exercise for a brain, for a heart and for a soul. You can say anything you want on paper and then you can throw it all away. That can soothe a heart. The thinking of it stimulates your brain along with the writing of it helps the brain and dexterity. You can write on paper and tell a special someone something nice to brighten up their day. They may want to keep it and reread it. Maybe little notes tucked under the windshield wiper of their car to find on their way to work or long love letters. That will put a little joy into both your souls. You can express any feelings about things and express things that should be said but can’t and feelings that need to be released and not hurt anyone and free yourself of those feelings. You may need several letters, who knows it may take a book! Isn’t that” a novel idea”!!! Loll!! Loll!!! Ok I am sorry just had to try that line our once, lollop!!

I fell away from that part of writing which is so important for me. I focused on the fun part of it and such and came across too many road blocks. I forgot you have to do the work to finish the job. You most certainly should not give up the fun part which can use ones imagination beyond our wildest dreams. That is good for the brain, the heart and the soul. But you have to put in the work and balance it out. Although as in most things good in life there is usually a little more work that makes the fun part so good.

Well it is off to work for me. Hopefully and can get down to the business of writing that I love.

I think instead of writingwildly I should be the Absentee Blogger, lol!

This is a re-blog from the beginning of the year. I have several friends that are dealing with the loss of or soon to be of a special friend, their pet. As all of us animal lovers go I think you all know how close we become and attached and how much they mean to us and how hard it is to take. I have also known a couple of dogs with disabilities and this is what I have learned from it.

WELCOME TO MY GARDEN!

I got this goofy idea one day! I always wanted an old fashion claw foot bath tub. But at my age and shape getting in and out would be too much plus it wouldn’t fit in the house. SOOOOO! I told hubby I wanted one or so for the garden. Well the first one cost him more than he had hoped plus he had to drive two hours to get it. He didn’t like the idea ,lol! Well we have six now, four are behind the white picket fence with veggies in them. As you can see hubby built the garden up on cement and bricks and put a fence around it for me.

Well Now for the Roses: I have moved these rose bushes many many times. Some of them are quite a few years old and I am surprised they are alive. Most of them were given to me for Mother’s day or Birthdays from my kids so I just kept moving them with me, lol. This time they really seemed to be dying off. So I decided to dig them up one more time and see if I could save one or two so I put them in the tubs. WELL!!!!! They LOVE THE TUBS! Someone told me it is because the heat stays around the roots in the tubs. Whatever!!! It works, This is the 3rd set of blooms already. Anyway Besides making great yard art it is recycling and it helps you not have to bend over and down so much while working in the garden! It is just one fun way to garden! ( I don’t do toilets!) LOL!!!