Dumped on Valentine’s Day? Dr Pam Spurr reveals the 7 signs which could mean you could be ditched on the day of romance

Valentine’s Day is not only red-hot for romance, but red-hot for heartbreak

By Dr Pam Spurr

14th February 2018, 8:45 am

Updated: 14th February 2018, 1:27 pm

VALENTINE'S Day is a time for extremes. There are loved-up couples canoodling over cafe menus, without a care they’ll pay inflated prices. Having someone to cuddle makes it worth it!

V-Day is not only red-hot for romance but red-hot for heartbreak. So here are the seven signs to look out for so you won't be surprised if a split is sprung on you...

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What are the seven signs you could be single again on Valentine’s Day?

A Split Might Be Coming Sign No. 1

He’s gone off the boil in the bedroom and has stopped caring if you have sex.

You’ve tried teasing him with your fingertips, hoping he’ll spring to life. You’ve pranced out of the shower, letting your towel slip to reveal all.

Previously he might’ve been coaxed into the mood... now your attempts put him in a bad mood.

A Split Might Be Coming Sign No. 2

He’s always been a cheapskate and with Valentine’s looming, you fear his trouser pocket’s tightening over his wallet.

Mention a meal out and he gets the hump the rest of the evening…or longer.

A Split Might Be Coming Sign No. 3

Previous years he’s made some attempt to celebrate Valentine’s – a gift, a card, a surprise meal. But this year he hasn’t even noticed it looming. Let alone made any plans.

Alamy

If he seems reluctant to spend anything on Valentine's Day, Dr Pam says this could be a sign he wants out

A Split Might Be Coming Sign No. 4

You notice he seems a bit panic-stricken, or uneasy about things. Or you mention Valentine’s coming and he withdraws from any chat about it.

If you haven’t been together that long - and his previous relationships have been short-term - this time of year can kill off a fledging relationship for someone with commitment issues.

A Split Might Be Coming Sign No. 5

When you hint the day of romance is ‘round the corner, he groans and rolls his eyes.

And in fact, he increasingly treats you with contempt when you make any suggestions about what you two should do. He’s simply not thinking about you being a ‘two’ anymore.

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Another sign for concern was if your man has started talking about regrets like the opportunities he’s missed, such as lads’ holiday he wished he’d gone on

A Split Might Be Coming Sign No. 6

He hasn't bothered messaging over the crucial pre-Valentine’s week. He goes on the missing list and can’t bother to give you a good explanation.

A Split Might Be Coming Sign No. 7

He's started talking about regrets like the opportunities he’s missed, the choices he has made, and the lads’ holiday he wished he’d gone on.

Beware, such life-regrets often include regrets about being in a relationship, full stop.

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The love guru advised women to let their partners know the positives in the relationship so they don't focus on the negatives

How can you rescue your relationship?

If these signs ring a bell in recent weeks, and you want this to work, don’t panic.

Try these:

He might be going through some kind of stress and what’s needed is communication. Instead of complaining about your relationship, ask in a loving way if there’s anything he wants to talk about. Sometimes a little encouragement helps people open up about worries.

Don’t go all clingy if you fear the worst. That’ll drive him away faster than petrol-station bouquets wilt. Show him you want to get together or talk, but don’t bombard him with messages.

Let him know the positives about what you share. Sometimes when in a ‘risky relationship period’ a partner focuses on the negatives. Innocently mention that fantastic weekend or holiday you two had last summer. Or tell him how much you love his support over your bullying boss. Get him focused on the good things!

Get out with a girlfriend instead of sitting and waiting for him. Waiting never won anyone’s heart.