Your Values Can Be Really Valuable – How to Create Your List Of Values

There are things in life that you know that you just must have. Like being respected or treated in an honest way. Like living in a beautiful environment that inspires you. Like having clients that you have synergy with and you enjoy working with them. What you already know must be serving you in many ways, yet there are things that are important to you but you have not (yet) devoted some time to bring them to the surface and claim them as your right. Maybe freedom and peace are one of them (or both).

The greatest benefit that I found in putting together a prioritized list of my values is that I experience more joy and fulfillment in my life and the magic that always almost happens is that I am attracting to myself more experiences and circumstances that are congruent with those values.

You can decide first if there is an area in your life where you'd like to get clarity of what your true values are, or you can do a general one.

Here are a few areas:

1. Your Personal Value List – In general what is important to you as a human being at this time.

3. Relationship Values – What is important to you in intimate/family/friendship relationships? (You can even split this list depends on the area you'd like to become more clear about. What are the things you wish to bring or to receive? How do you want to be treated?

4. Health Values – Here you think of things like your vitality and energy, your state of mind and your relationship with your physical and emotional being. If you want to better your health or to upgrade it from where you are, this will be an excellent way to get more clarity. If your health is not where you want it to be then your values might not be in place.

Get your values in place first and start noticing
the shift and the choices that you make
based on putting this list together
And remember to enjoy doing it 🙂

When you have clarity about your values, whenever they are not met, you will most likely become so aware of it that it will enable you to communicate, confront address your needs and that will feel good. You will feel that you are honest with yourself, that you live your truth and therefore the result will be that you'll find more fulfillments in the endeavors you are engaged with.

One of the things that are on my values list is calmness and relaxation (that's away from being overwhelmed. I refuse to live in overwhelm). I believe that when we practice calmness and relaxation we contribute to our overall health. And being and staying healthy is something that is very important to me. I am not going to say "yes" to something that I believe will damage my health. Like getting a ride with someone that is smoking. Or eating a desert with sugar and carbs when I just had one recently.

Be your own coach, you can really do it yourself.

Here are the steps that will make it super-easy for you:

1. Schedule a time with yourself to do it.
I believe that everything that you want to do needs to be scheduled or else it will have less chance to be done.

2. Decide how long you want to devote, 20, 30 minutes, and hour,
and you ask yourself what is important to you.

3. Make a list of values that are important to you. Choose between
20-25 or less. Don't go beyond that because then it would not be
clear. If everything is important than what is really important.

4. Prioritized the list. This is the part that will give you the clarity that
will start shifting things. You need to know what's on the top of your
list and what's on the bottom. That way when a situation presents
itself you'll know how to operate and what decision to make.

5. Complete the list, don't start and let it sit. You can do it in 20-30
minutes. No need for a long term project.

So are you ready to open your day-planner, palm pilot (or any other means for scheduling) and mark it down?
How soon do you want to become clear and avoid those pitfalls you are finding yourself falling into?

I'd love to hear your thoughts and even take a look at your list of values.
In a future post I will write about how you can choose values of someone that you like. Like Gandhi, or Martin Luther Kind or anyone else that you want to get results like they do and install their values in your mind so you can create similar or greater results that they have accomplished. So please feel free to RSS to my feed, so you can be notified when that post is up.

If you would like to have a list of values to
choose fromclick hereand download this PDF.

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I would love to read your comments, tell me how you liked this post, tell me what you are planning to do with this information, ask questions and come back to share what have opened up for you.Meanwhile, many blessings and much love to you and may you experience freedom, health, prosperity, happiness and love, every day you are living on this earth.

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I believe that balance is extremely important in life and this is the first time I have seen this approach to values, finding them for each of the major areas of life. It reminds me of the teachings of coaches where they work on balancing areas of life like spokes on a wheel. When there are too many highs or lows they wheel won’t be round and won’t work.

First visit to your blog. I love this article. A List Of Values! That’s a really interesting concept and one which most could very well do with.

Here are some of the items on my own list of Values.

1. To thank my wife daily for her love
2. To thank my kids, each and every one, however old and young they might be
3. To let my kids lead the way they choose and give my opinion only when they ask
4. To be thankful for my life as it is sweet and lovely
5. To continue to learn from those who willingly and unwillingly know how to teach

Hi Sigal,
What a great post! And it shows that I need to work some more on this! I now can see that going through life “willy-nilly” has caused me to waste time and energy on less important values. For example, I have a tendency to give people a lot of opportunity to have great values around me, so when they do not, maybe I am not quick enough to recognize it and take appropriate action. This can be upsetting for me so that I am less calm and relaxed than I want to be. In the long-run, I won’t accept unacceptable behavior–I just need to be quicker to recognize it and do something about it.
Wow, your “Values List” is extensive. I have printed it and will
spend some time on this project.
Thank you for sharing!
Linda

I appreciate your detailed thoughts about making values lists. I’m like many who commented already – I make “to do” lists as well as lists of things I want to achieve and so forth, but never though of making a list of my values. It makes sense!

That’s a powerful post, SIGAL! And I love as well the link to the PDF file you posted at the bottom of the post… a very thorough list of values! A quote I came by often says: “Set yourself straight before starting anything”… This is a great advise before you let yourself into something and values put in the right order is one of it. Thx for sharing this area of selfdevelopment with us. Look forward to learn how to implement values of other people. All the best,

Hey Sigal,
It was a pleasure reading such a brilliant post. We all have values we want to work out and while some works out we struggle with some. Its good to prioritize the things we want to achieve and start working on all the good values. I believe these good values helps us to go ahead in life enriching our lives with good health, sound mind and happiness. Whether we achieve our goals or not working on good values makes us feel more organized and stress free.

Hi Sigal! I am big on making lists but have never made a list of my values. I think this is a great idea. What a great way to set priorities in your life so you know what is important and what to focus on. Thanks for sharing!

Hi Sigal – I love the way you have outlined these steps – this is an awesome way to get to know yourself better! I love it! Writing it down – scheduling a time to do this is definitely a key item – I know I need to do this or it most likely won’t get done! Thanks!
Lori

Hi Sigal! What a great way to get to know yourself better! Sitting down and really identifying what is important to you – then focusing on bringing more of that into your life the way you have it outlined above is fantastic!! Making sure it is scheduled is very important, too – I know if I don’t have it written down – it generally doesn’t get done 🙂 Thanks for putting together a great setup for getting it done!

Sigal, great post with lots of good advice. I agree it is very important to take time to outline your values that way you will have focus to concentrate and succeed at what is important to you. All the best Rosemary.

I love your post! It is so important to prioritize what is really important because otherwise we do get overwhelmed. I’m taking your advice too and refusing to be overwhelmed (which is something I feel all the time). Thanks for sharing!

Most people have a very general sense of their values. This is okay most of the time, but clearly defining them as you recommend cal allow people to make fine distinctions and clearer choices; ones that more truly reflect who they are and where they want to go.

Great post. I know that when I talk to people this is one step that they don’t think about really when they look inside….

Defining in words what is important to you and what you will not deviate from no-matter-what is key for discovering more about yourself.

The clarity in understanding your values helps you make better decisions and as you state, provides for more enjoyable experiences, especially when you choose not to engage in practices that are opposing your values and having the ability to articulate why.

Sigal,
I love the introspection this post encourages. I have truly identified my list of values. I believe in being honest, kind, serving others and at the same time setting limits for myself. I have found as you that I am attracting people with the same values. I am honestly a happy person!
Linda

Hi Sigal, I never thought about putting together a list of values but you are so right. Certain things we ‘take for granted’ but if we really want to make sure that these things are present in our lives, we should take the time to prioritise them and make sure they happen.
Thanks for providing a really different perspective on how to view things 🙂

Thanks for a great post; I found it motivating and inspiring. Making lists and prioritizing is so valuable to being productive. I especially like to make a list before going to bed at night of the priorities I will work on the next day. It helps me to stay focused and committed to my intentions. I do admit though that when I fail to make my lists, I am not as organized or productive and I feel that I’ve let myself down.

Thanks for your comment Rick. For things to go smooth, there are lots of factors at play. I tend to deal with those factors that I can change and usually when I do that, things do go smoother
And I am having a great day 🙂 Really.
Sigal

Hi Sigal, I’m looking forward to your next posts on values. Gandhi and Martin Luther King are great examples of values people should follow. The tips on building a list really can be calming and relaxing but it’s so hard sometimes to have a plan to help make business activities go smoother. You have some great tips that I’ll start with right away. Thanks and hope you’re having a great day!

Hi Sigal, You are so practical and offer really great advice. After speaking with you on Skype, I know that you do indeed practice what you preach. 🙂 I am lucky in that my personal and professional values are congruent – I am me in both areas of my life – very synergistic! The relationship part – when the other values/goals don’t get in the way – which is always a rough juggling act as they take up a LOT of time – that part is good too. The Health Values? Now that is an area I really need to pay attention to or my other values will have no meaning. I am way behind on doctor’s appointments, dentist, and haven’t worked out since my dad got sick this past August. I have NO excuse for that one anymore because thank God he is fine now. So in order for me too to be “fine” I need to get moving on that list. Writing a note to myself right now – make doc appointments tomorrow and get your arse moving on that exercise machine that is sitting all alone in the basement. Thanks for the reminders. 🙂

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