Life can be hard for you on the outside. I think most inmates
understand that but no matter how hard it is, it can never be as hard as life on
the inside.

Hopefully being on the outside you will have friends to get you through the
man's sentence and they usually are men that are on the inside! This page
is looking at what you can do on the outside for your man on the inside.
Maybe we should start with what not to do.

Do not write to the inmate about problems you have over which he can have no
control, has no knowledge, can do nothing about. All that can happen is he
will worry and be concerned. In extreme cases it could end up with him
committing suicide. If you have problems find someone to help who can
really help you, or can stand a good chance of doing so.

Visits

You are entitled to three visits each month if your inmate is on Standard
Regime. Help can be provided for traveling expenses and you should ask by
telephoning the Prison or talk to the Probation Officer. To a Prisoner
these visits are a life line. Do not be tempted to use them to smuggle
drugs or anything else into the prison. If you are lucky only the inmate
will be punished, if you are unlucky you could find yourself in Prison.

You will be searched. This might just be a rub down but it could be a
full strip body and internal search. Similar searches apply to
children. More open prisons have less strict search regimes but you are
still liable to be searched.

You might think that giving your inmate a small gift would be allowed.
It will NOT be allowed so don't try to pass anything over, not even a newspaper.

Letters

Another life line is the letter and get your friends to write. These
are a welcome break from the monotony of prison life. Even if you have
nothing to say they are great. One 10 page letter I received was complete
and utter rubbish - it was just as though I was sitting next to the rambling old
dear. It was great.

Phone Calls

You cannot phone in but do try to be there at the times your inmate normally
phones. Believe me it is not much fun talking to an answering
machine! Be cheerful.

Visits out

In the months leading up to release some prisoners will be entitled to days
out or home visits. Do ensure that your prisoner goes back on time and
sober, otherwise you may not see him again for a long time.