Confessing crush helped build trust in marriage

11:01 PM,
Mar. 2, 2014

Written by

Carolyn Hax

On confessing (or not) an attraction outside the marriage: Early in my marriage, I was attracted to someone not my husband. I grappled with whether to fess up to him, and ultimately came to the conclusion that it was vital to our marriage that I could unload my burden on my best friend to help uncork the guilt and distress that I was keeping inside (and that was affecting my marriage). I knew that if I didn't share this "armchair affair," then the attraction would likely become that much more powerful.