Friday, March 2, 2018

Are you enduring your unhappy marriage for the sake of kids and to honor vows that you've made? Do you fight for your marriage because you believe in it; you still see a future and you're not ready to give up on the history you’ve created together?

Leave that crap as soon as possible.

When marriage is no longer healthy – you must jump out of the ship and abandon it. If you continue to fight for it, you're actually fighting a losing battle, holding onto the understanding that your marriage is imperfect and although it goes through rough patches, sooner or later things will settle down and improve... They won't.

Once upon a time, I was a married guy, I had a wife. And then she decided to live her life without me. I said okay, I took my stuff and left without question. Now I'm on my own.

I am truly glad that you are, my reader, married and in love, that you're working on fixing that leaky marriage by redecorating the master bath. I think that sounds like more fun than being alone and wrestling "Illusion vs Reality" book from Randjit Maharaj. Honestly.

Be careful, divorce is contagious thing. More you read about it, more closely you are coming to your own separation. I know, it may seem unimaginable to you now, but rest assured, your marriage is not as stable as you think it is, but you're going to survive. I know this because I was there.

Don't think that getting a divorce sucks. I'm not sugarcoating it and I hope like hell it won't happen to you and your loving partner but it might.

That woman taught you what love feels like. And then she'll teach you how it feels to lose it. She's drawing a line. She wasn't yours to begin with. On the beginning, you looked like everything she wanted and then you became something she hated.

You see, once she turns against you, forget it. She loves you, then something turns, something changes. She can watch you dying on a street, run over by a car, and she'll spit on you.

Let her leave, if you wish to stay with her she'll kill you, but you won't die.

Think, somewhere out there on a planet exactly like ours, two people exactly like you and her made totally different choices and that, somewhere, you're still together. That's should be enough for you.

Divorce isn’t just the death of a relationship, it is the death of a dream you had held since you met her. As that sounds so horrendous, all you really need are three days to get back, collect yourself and move on. Rather than staying stuck in the pain of your broken heart, the divorce calls you to reconnect to your being. It is a step forward toward awakening.

Use the divorce to improve your life and presently, work hard to make this painful experience one of gain rather than loss. Divorce brings you back into the presence of your forgotten self. Heal your wounds, learn, grow, and develop yourself into more conscious human being.

Nothing occurs by accident, and there are no coincidences. You are always evolving, whether you're aware of it or not. And your life is designed for you to get exactly what you need to support your own unique evolutionary process.

Life is a dream. Sometimes, this dream script calls for separation. Let go of your judgments and beliefs about what is right and what is wrong and I try to find compassion for yourself. Refuse to be a victim of life. Marriage is an agreement between two people, as a rule. Sometimes agreement needs to be changed.