stage, smiling beatifically, using a hand- held video camera to pan the crowd. Scor- sese was nowhere to be seen. Within a few minutes, Jagger was preening and singing duets with Jack White and Christina Aguilera. In contrast to the higWy man- aged vibe of the rest of the evening, the performance itself was stripped-down and raw. Some of the statuesque seventy-five- dollar women looked bored, some walked out. But when the band played "Satisfac- tion," for an encore, many of the remain- ing pretty girls bounced up and down and even sang along. Debi Gula made the cut for both nights, and she noticed the transformation from one to the next. "Diehard fans got screwed out of this," she said. "Honesdy, it sucks." But when she was asked how she enjoyed the show, her eyes sparkled. "Did you see Keith give me the pelvic thrust? Some people think hè s God, others think it's time to go to the bathroom when hès on. You never get up when Keith sings." -Shauna Lyon TRUCE DEPT. BELLA V5. BETTY I n a year of all-too-public reconciliations (ranging from Tom and Brooke to Paris and Nicole), word of a rapproche- ment between the followers of the late Betty Friedan and those of the late Bella Abzug has been relatively slow to spread. /t:\ " II'" :, ""t . hut . It all started, inauspiciously enough, with F riedan' s death, in February. "The family wanted the funeral to be a family cere- mony," Sidney Abbott, the founder of a group called Women's Rights Are Human Rights, explained recently. "But there were many frustrated feminists there who wanted to hear what Katè'-Kate Millett, the author of the 1970 manifesto "Sexual P 1 .. " " d h h d " o !tICS - an ot ers a to say. Abbott, the co-author of the 1972 book "Sappho Was a Right-On Woman," decided to plan a proper sendoff Having set a date-Women's Equality Day, the eighty-sixth anniversary of the Nine- teenth Amendment-she prevailed upon N.Y.U. to lend space at its law school. Coretta Scott King, who passed away the same week as Friedan, would be remem- bered, as would Abzug, who died in 1998. Millett would at last deliver her eulogy, but the event would not be a wake: it would be forward-looking, with work- shops, awards, and calls to action. Abbott set about enlisting old acquain- tances, some of whom were wary of a Betty- Bella doubleheader. "Feminist lore has it that the National Women's Politi- cal Caucus was Betty Friedan's brain- child," Abbott said. "But then Bella and Gloria Steinem came in." As Judith Hen- nessee wrote in her biography of Fried an, "Bella and Bettywere like the North Viet- namese and the Americans fighting over the shape of the table at the Paris Peace Conferences." In her column for McCall's, Friedan called Abzug and Steinem "fe- male chauvinist boors." A typical Abzug retort: "Once again Betty F riedan is exer- cising her right to be wrong." In the weeks .11 II' (I' (tt IC . -'Í :-' -::: -==- = :;:; - -- -=- "- - --- --===- o .(\111 fi1i l' ø ,'I, '" __ · 0 II (\.. f t-T) ,: ; ( '^" ---- m " 1f1t- 'T've arranged our options according to their legality. " leading up to the event, the two camps re- mained divided. Abbott said, "Each side was saying, 'That's a Bella person!' or ' Th ' B f ' " at s a etty person. But on the day of the conference peace prevailed. There were crudités and iced tea, hugs, exclamations of names, and a display of old photographs by Bettye Lane, a longtime chronicler of the femi- nist movement. "A lot of my friends from the seventies are gone now," Lane, who was wearing blue-tinted glasses, said. She spotted Millett, whose hair is white and who was wearing a pink shawl and sneak- ers. "Kate, you're in the display!" she shouted. Barbara Love, whose encyclope- dia of second-wave feminists came out this fall, was busy locating people men- tioned in her book and affixing to their blouses yellow stickers that read "A Fem- inist Who Changed America, '63-'75." Soon the women began filing into Tishman Auditorium for the afternoon's main program. There were lots of speak- ers, but the subject of Friedan and Ab- zug's relationship came up again and again. "In those days, Bella and Betty, it seemed, were always at odds," Jacqui Ce- ballos, the head of Veteran Feminists of America, said. "But a few years ago they were coming in on the bus from Long Is- land, the Jitney, and when they saw each other they told their friends to get out of the way," she said. "The two of them sat down and talked. Such powerful, won- derful women. We were so lucky to live in their time." There were murmurs and nods across the audience, from Bella peo- ple and Betty people alike. The proceedings were interspersed with music. ("It's kind of hard to get peo- ple into a militant state of mind without music," Abbott said.) The singer-song- writer Sandy Rapp had composed a song for the occasion, "Rise Up Ye Women," which started like this: ''It was a time of dark and sad songl Seven years with Bella been and gone." There followed a stanza about Friedan, one about Rosa Parks, one cataloguing other recent losses ("Molly Yard went marchin' to the rally in the sky I And C. DeLores Tucker left as weIr'), and then the final verse: "And let us sing, Coretta Scott King/F or out from Alabama did she go I And there was Bel- là s scribe Mim Kelber IThere was Wendy Wassersteinl And we lost' em all within a kn " year, ya ow. -KateJulian