hi again yerh so do i .i hope its not a con.i have tried so hard and ive looked at topix and everywere. but i think its too good to be true.im just taking one day at a time.because if im to end it i would never no.so im in a catch situation.but thank you.

hi thank you again.this just gets stranger by the day lol. he has not quite said that but he has said im the only one who is helping him. i pay for his stamps. and give him 60$ a MONTH.thats a gift tho. for hygiene and candy.but i put some pictures of us on f/b his.and not one of his friends like it.i found that odd.it drives me crazy not knowing.

So he just happened to mention that mom will no longer be sending money for hygiene products. Let me guess... you volunteered to fill that void. Of course he didnít ask for anything. They donít HAVE to ask for anything. They just plant those seeds and let them grow.

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I wouldnt worry too much about facebook , who cares who likes what its not important.However if he is slowly getting you to send more money and making you think you are all he has to help him then I would be very cautious. Dont him guilt trip you into more than you can afford, he has a roof and 3 meals a day.

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hi what i find quite strange is when i tell him that i payed 20$ into his acc.he says his usual love crap.then just bursts out.have i sent him the money.and he needs to know so he can buy food e.c.t.he acts like its xmas day.and im thinking what a twat.put what i thought i would tell you.i had set him up.on a penpal site.and i know he is writing to two diff people.and i kinda 3rd party it so he never knows its me.and now when i question him about his new pen pal he lies and then tries turning it around.and says isint he allowed friends.i said yes but not at my cost.if im buying the stamps.so it is what it is.but jesus christ.it has taken most of my time.just to find this lil thing out.and i tell you they are bloody good at scamming.and i think for most folk they dont get the full picture untill there released.and i think they call it gay for the stay.but i will keep you all updated.watch this space.thankyou all.

hi thank you again.this just gets stranger by the day lol. he has not quite said that but he has said im the only one who is helping him. i pay for his stamps. and give him 60$ a MONTH.thats a gift tho. for hygiene and candy.but i put some pictures of us on f/b his.and not one of his friends like it.i found that odd.it drives me crazy not knowing.

I'm sorry, but I smell a serious con-job here.

What is he doing to help himself?
Does he have a prison job?

The "I have no one to help me..." line is seriously manipulative. The appropriate response, from a psychological standpoint, is:

"Wow, that must be really challenging for you. I have a lot of confidence in you being able to sort that out?"

Tell him you're short on funds the next few months and won't be able to send his usual "stipend"... Curious to see how he behaves and responds.

hi and thank you.yes i have decided its gone on long enough.and im now not funding anything.including stamps.i believe true love dose not cost a thing.and i too am egar to see how things go.and yes he is supose to work in the canteen.he is about to start his mrt,and sas.i think its called.which is 6 months.to complete.so i will let everyone know how its going.and once again i thank you.

hi all.and once again i thank you all for your love and support. ok long story short. well i did something very crafty.because all his fam/friends on f/b, were all acting like i was invisable.now i have a friend who comes and stays with me for a few days each week.she brings her laptop. and one morning i left mine upstairs,so i used my friends.i went on f/b. then typed his name in.at the same time did not relize i was logged in in her name.anyway when i started looking down his page, i thought this is odd were is all my stuff i posted.it had all vanished.not a thing from me.i told my friend .also at the same time relised i was logged in her name.then goes on my laptop,log in my own name,and wow yes it was all there.anyway.i know that his mom had it set that anything i posted, only i was to see it.none of his friends or fam could see.so that explained that.so ok yes it hurt me.and yes asked myself why.so ok. here gose the next step. i set up a new acc.as a lady who lived in ky worked as a suply teacher.i put stuff on it as you do.i picked a few people who lived in the area and friended them.so far so good.then i started friending his fam/friends.and yes going great.about 20 of them.then i got talking to one or two of them.one been his uncle. and his uncle said hey what did you think to his and deans engagement the other month.i replyed. i have not hurd much why. then i said i herd that dean was bullying him to stay with him.he said what the other way round and more. so ok i said why you say this for.he said well long story short. but its a good one.and its so funny.so then my heart sunk.i said go on what.he said his mom has told us that her son had joined a gay penpal site,so he can get money out of the gays while he is inside.and that what ever he says to her or asks to just play along with it.and that way it saves her money on her son. well say no more you can imagine how i felt.i felt most of all sick.how discusting and evil is that.i said this to his uncle.and then i said is this what she has said to all his friends.he said yes.well i was shocked.that a mom would allow her son to pull such tricks.so i said to his uncle. they use god like i say sorry and its so wrong.anyway moving on that was that.i told my pp this and some other.and he said yes he said it and its cos i hurt him.and that he loves me hes sorry and he carnt change the past but he can mend us.so im still upset but they you go.and if i can let you no anything else in days to come i will.but at the momment another one bites the dust.

Now you know the true answer. He is far from the only prisoner who scams folks for money, gay/straight/old/young, whatever, and then brag/laugh about it too. Having been in prison myself, I saw way too much of that stuff, so if you continue writing to prisoners, be very careful in the future.

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Do yourself a huge favor and leave him!! That is so shady and if he displays this type of behavior who's to say whatelse he has lied about. You seem to good of a person to allow this to happen. I'm sorry it had to happen to you but I think you should the it as a learning experience and move on.

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hi again, yes i know i should.i have ended it.and told him to leave me alone. he has written me ,and emailed and says he is sorry,and he told that to his mom because to stop her from worrying.also so she dose not give up on him.and as for me he tells me he still in love with me.and althoe he dosent care about anyone else.its only me that he loves and wants.and he dose not care what i think.and he said why carnt he be gay and love and live his life how he wants to.he said he just dosent no what he can do.so i havent washed my hands completly.i will continue to try and educate him as well as one self.i feel he is wanting help.i carny not just do nothing.like i say he is in prison.and he is limited and no access to internet.so im taking it day by day with him.thank you.

Do what you are going to do, just keep a guard up. Demand things and stay firm in your word. Good luck..

hi yes and ty.now i have explained myself better to him who im about.and that i dont give in or give up. a problem shared is halfed.and that if he has problems and then tell me them.im more likely to be more help as ive nearly 20 more yrs livving than him.i told him it dose not matter what you tell people.just tell me why you said it then we sort it out.then we are stright with one another.and he nows what time of day it is.he knows im no fool.and so we are going to try it differently.one day at a time.and i wont quit until i know i have give it my best and all.and i only give him what i can afford.its always a gift.then its better for me too.thats the problem with people today no one is willing to understand these guys.im far from a fool.but if you have good communication then not much will go wrong.and understanding.hey even at the end of the day we go bk to friendship.then im still happy.it what all i only wanted anyways.lol.

It depends on what is available at his prison, like skype? He will have to find out, and then he will need to call you. From what you have already posted, it could be another way for a scam (I need $50.00 for each call?)

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hi all just an update... well things are real good again.he has not asked for anything.he has just been getting his head down.keeping out of trouble.in his final year now.he still says all the great things to me.and i have spoken on the phone with him.6x so far.15 mins each call.says than you for turning his life around.and for loving him.and all the support.and wants to just get home to me.and since we have spoken on the phone.its just got us even closer.so thank you all i will say more as we go on this journey.fingers crossed lol.

Glad to hear that past issues seem to be just that: past issues and that things are going well. Hope things continue to go well for you.

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hi again yerh so do i .i hope its not a con.i have tried so hard and ive looked at topix and everywere. but i think its too good to be true.im just taking one day at a time.because if im to end it i would never no.so im in a catch situation.but thank you.

Dean be very careful. if it seem to be "too good it probably is." Don't ignore the big red flags...Even when things seemingly are going well. But, also keep communicating going, et.al., read into what he says to you, and HOW he says thing to you. ACTION is everything. (Not words) and i am glad to read things "seem ok now and going well etc., however, Dean:

I would already be suspicious just by what i am reading in this thread of yours, and feasibly would leave/dump him/even as just a friend
and i am one who still believe, you're able, to help a man in prison or a lady et. al., and that such "gift" however should be carefully exerted to such loved one in prison or a friend,or partner, "depending on such situation and how the person react to it, and if the person (if you're not able to give)short on funds etc and if the man or woman "still is around/still want you in their life day in, day out, and not angry/mad at "not getting dinero $$$(money)at such moment then i would say it's a sure bet, he is true blue ya know. But sadly, so many have been used/hurt/premise on such cons of an ungrateful, no good inmate. so just be careful please. Life is way too short not to.adios.
Hugs blessings to you tonight.