how to bring up the whole lets go out or get serious thing?

so i've been in a few serious relationships but each time the girl was the one who initiated the "going out or getting serious" talk and i've never been the one who was in a hurry to push for it so i never really brought up the question on my own

now the girl i'm seeing i am interested in getting serious with and i'm pretty sure she has at least given it serious thought on her own as she has dropped some hints but she i guess won't bring it up directly and i don't know how to go about it myself

so any advice on how to initiate this talk or how to bring it up or we...

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Just come out and tell her that you aren't interested in dating anyone else, that you'd like to be exclusive, that she means a lot to you, you care about her, whatever. I would maybe segue into the conversation from a similar topic...I wouldn't just blurt it out, but I think directness is the way to go.

Just come out and tell her that you aren't interested in dating anyone else, that you'd like to be exclusive, that she means a lot to you, you care about her, whatever. I would maybe segue into the conversation from a similar topic...I wouldn't just blurt it out, but I think directness is the way to go.

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Second this,

Just casually tell her she means a lot to you and you want to take the next step

It takes a sincere conversation. Most of us date in hopes of coming across that one person that totally capitvates us. The one that you cannot ever stop thinking about. The one partner that makes you want to be a better person. The one that you want to give all you have, and don't care what they give back. The one who's faults are cute, or at least an endearing quality. And when you realize you want to wake up every moring with this person, and grow old together, then just let her know. Either she is on the same love-boat, or she's just hitching a short ride.

Just come out and tell her that you aren't interested in dating anyone else, that you'd like to be exclusive, that she means a lot to you, you care about her, whatever. I would maybe segue into the conversation from a similar topic...I wouldn't just blurt it out, but I think directness is the way to go.

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Blusey is right.
But I do have a question, If you feel that you want Her to be yours exclusively
why aren't you able to bring it up in a simple conversation.
if I couldn't talk to a person seriously I sure as hell wouldn't
want to go steady yet.

Blusey is right.
But I do have a question, If you feel that you want Her to be yours exclusively
why aren't you able to bring it up in a simple conversation.
if I couldn't talk to a person seriously I sure as hell wouldn't
want to go steady yet.

Hiker

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i can talk to her seriously i'm just not the type to do a lot of that emotional talk stuff .. guess i'll try when the time is right or somethin

Get used to being the type that does the emotional type stuff. Women need it, and men who aren't able to adapt to giving it at least a little bit of effort wind up isolating the women that they love after years of them feeling deprived. One day they wake up and the woman is ready to leave.... and they wonder wtf just happened!

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Ah, cuz you described 4th of July girl as a girl you "used to date", until she cheated. Does your current girlfriend know that you're hooking up with other women because you see a big difference between dating and going out?