*Important note: Be sure to read to the end to have a chance to win a free copy of Lori Deschene’s newest book: Tiny Buddha – Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions. Take 20 seconds to tell us one of your hardest life questions in the comments and you’ll be entered to win. If you’re reading this in email, I suggest you click here to read it on the site to participate.

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Creating Happiness

A few years ago a struggling writer and someone a tad bit lost in the world, decided she was going to take to the online world to see if she could both get some help and offer what help she could to others. She first started a simple Twitter account where she posted a quote a day. Something inspiring about happiness, purpose, embracing fear, love and all else.

Just a few words a day. But she did it every day.

Fast forward to today and that Twitter account now has over 241,000 followers. Her Facebook page has over 72,000 fans. It turned out she wasn’t the only one struggling with these big topics. A couple years ago she also created a website and blog, called Tiny Buddha, as a place to write deeper articles to further explore our biggest challenges.

When you help people, interesting things happen…

Her site now serves as a virtual lighthouse for those of us (all of us, really) who need a little direction. There are hundreds of contributors (I’ve even been fortunate enough to write a few articles for her).

And it’s a damn bright lighthouse at that. Since the day Tiny Buddha went live, the site as received 8.5 million visits and 16 million page views. To put that into perspective, that is in the absolute top tier of all websites on the planet. People from every country in the world routinely visit the site, and her following is now over 300,000 people strong.

The amazing thing is that none of this existed a few years ago. Before then no one had heard of Lori Deschene or Tiny Buddha.

When I first started blogging and writing online, there were a few people who not only inspired me as to what was possible, but who even took the time to personally show me the way. Those few folks opened doors for me (some I didn’t even know existed), helped me form my ideas and were sounding boards on the most pivotal stuff.

Lori was one of those people. I’m grateful for the time I’ve gotten to spend with her both online and off. She’s a friend, Living Legend and mentor all in one.

And now she’s taking her next big step. Lori just published her first hard cover book, Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questions. I have an early copy of it right next to me, and it’s been a blast to get through, especially right as the new year’s about to go live!

Lori’s been awesome enough to answer a few questions about the book and her online success, and as a little bonus, she’s offered to give away a couple free hard-cover copies to the Live Your Legend Community.

Without further ado…

Here are Lori’s thoughts on life’s hardest questions:

Scott: You and I both share an obsession for helping people find meaningful work. How can this book be used as a tool for getting people closer to finding what they’re passionate about and building a career around it?

Lori: I’ve learned that creating a career from a passion requires a great deal of self-inquiry. For me, it wasn’t just about identifying what I loved or finding the right professional situation; it was also about understanding the internal blocks that convinced me I couldn’t or shouldn’t create a passionate, meaningful life.

My book delves into a lot of these issues to help readers answer the questions that may be holding them back.

I split it into 9 sections, each covering one of the hardest questions in life, including: What’s the meaning of life? Can people change—and how? Do you need money to be happy? How can you make each day count?

In each section, I shared a little of my own experiences grappling with these big issues, and then offered a number of possible ways to answer these questions, as supported by Twitter-submitted responses, ancient wisdom, and modern research. I also included action-oriented tips to apply these different ideas, starting right now.

Readers won’t finish the book feeling like they know all the answers, but they may have a stronger idea of which possibilities feel right for them—what makes them feel meaningful, happy, connected, engaged, and satisfied in their day-to-day life.

When you understand yourself and what you need to feel empowered and purposeful, it’s a lot easier to design your life in a way that will feel fulfilling.

Scott: What is the most vulnerable experience you’ve had that you share in the book (I’m talking the one that you cut out and put back in 3-4 times before leaving it in for good).

Lori: The story that I felt most vulnerable sharing was the one in the relationship section, because it’s not easy to acknowledge how little I valued myself and how much I was willing to compromise just so I didn’t have to be alone. It’s really the only one I feel exposed sharing, which may seem odd considering how personal the other ones are.

I think it’s because I’ve told many of the other stories countless times over the years, but very few people knew about that one before I chose to publish it in a book.

I knew I wanted to be honest about my struggles with these questions, and there were two reasons for that. The first: I wanted anyone reading who may have had similar experiences to know they are not alone—that their struggles, past or present, do not define them, and there is no reason to feel trapped in shame.

The second reason: I wanted to encourage other people to be honest about how they’ve gotten in their own way. I still get in my way at times, but my saving grace is self-awareness. I am always willing to call myself out, publicly or not. That’s what keeps me growing, and that growth is a big part of my peace, happiness, and purpose.

Scott: This book is not just written by you. How is it different than others?

Lori: There are other books that include tweets, but for those ones, the tweets are the book. I included around 200—and I didn’t just weave them throughout Tiny Buddha; I shaped the book around them.

To start the writing process, I asked the questions on the @tinybuddha Twitter stream, and noticed pretty quickly that there were a lot of similar answers. For example, there were more than 100 responses to “What’s the meaning of life?” But really, there were many variations on five different ideas.

I chose the sections for each chapter based on the main ideas that came from Twitter, and started each with five of those tweets. In that way, the community is the backbone of this book.

Scott: It must add so much to a book to be able to pull from the experiences of over 240,000 people among your Twitter followers. It makes it so much more relatable for the rest of the world. With that said, you have been helping hundreds of thousands of people via your writing, site and work in the past years. What are your biggest goals about how this will help the world?

Lori: Well first of all, thank you! I love knowing I’m helping people. Really, that is my biggest goal: to do what I can through the site to help myself, help other people, and help them help each other.

That’s why I run Tiny Buddha as a community blog. It’s a place where anyone can share what they’ve been through, what they’ve learned, what they’re going through, and what they’re learning.

From what readers tell me, it’s a space that helps us all remember that we’re not alone, and we can all make a difference in the world. It’s definitely that space for me. I can’t think of anything bigger than doing my tiny part through the site every day.

Scott: It’s no doubt making all the difference Lori. Seriously – nicely done! So can you tell us a little about the experience of getting a book deal? What made that possible?

Lori: Things fell into place nicely because publishers had started contacting me to review their books. One day, I decided to ask one of them if they were accepting new proposals—and they were! They were planning to attend a conference where I was scheduled to speak. Once we were able to meet face-to-face and explore a few ideas, it all snowballed from there.

One thing I learned in the beginning weeks is that publishers look for new authors who have some type of existing platform, and are willing to invest their time, energy, and resources to promote their books. I had a growing social media following, and I had a specific, creative marketing plan—part of which is this blog tour that’s been going on for two weeks now.

Thank you so much, Scott, for being part of it and allowing me to share Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hard Questionswith your readers!

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It’s honor to host Lori, especially at such a crucial time for change being right at the end of the year. Those of you who’ve been around for a while, know that I absolutely love the New Year as it’s my favorite time to set big goals and get inspired to put an even bigger dent in the world. I hope Lori’s work will get you in the right mindset. It certainly did for me.

You can learn more about Lori’s new book or pick up your own copy here at the book website here.

Also, be sure to keep an eye out next week for the totally free Live Your Legend 2012 Goal Setting and Action Workbook. I’m putting all the finishing touches on it this week and it will be available to you all in just a few days. I can’t wait.

Happy New Year – there are big things to come!

-Scott

Leave a comment to win a free copy of the Tiny Buddha book:

Take 20 seconds to leave a 1-2 sentence comment below sharing one of your hardest life questions (email readers click here). Two of you will win a free hard-copy of the book. Lori’s publisher has been awesome enough to send it directly to your door. Tell us what you think (and I might even get Lori to jump in to provide some of her own responses ;). You can also be entered to win by sharing this on Facebook or Twitter.

Enjoy…

*Update 1/2/12: Congrats to Renee and Chris for winning the two books! They will be in the mail and on their way shortely! Thanks to everyone else for contributing your questions. We loved reading them.

122 Comments

My hardest life question at the tail end of 2011 is — what’s my “big thing”? I left my corporate security blanket this year and have a gazillion ideas for things I can do to start earning income and providing for my desired lifestyle, but I’m still stuck on — what do I really WANT to do? And I’m starting to think there’s not going to be a magic answer to that question, just a process of trial & error, and that it will probably change over time. I love photography, I love writing, I love helping people, I love being active & physical — so many different things. And who knows — maybe there is no ONE big thing for me, but MANY big things?

Steve

David
I’ve had a similar problem (and am still working though it) but have found the following helps:
a) Identify your values and check which ideas fit these best
b) Identify your 3 main interests/skills, look at the areas they overlap (in a Venn diagram), especially where all 3 overlap
c) Just follow your heart/nose – see what you naturally spend your time/energy on and pursue it further. Sometimes this leads to a blind end, others times it stimulates new ideas or twists on existing ideas
d) Talk about your ideas with others, especially those that also have a passion for the same thing, and see where this takes you
e) Consider a ‘portfolio’ career/retirement – do two or 3 things (but don’t spread yourself too thin)
f) Cut down on the thinking/planning (procrastinating) and just try out one or two ideas (as in c above)
g) Are there any ideas about which you get emotional (tears in the eyes or fire in the belly)?
h) Which of your ideas are people crying out? Which do people come to you already for help? Which will really help others the most?
i) Which is most compatible with your partners interests or way of thinking? Which will your partner support you most in doing?
j) Have some sessions with a life/career coach

Vivek

The hardest(?) and most profound question is “Who am I?” It is a question where the value is in the question – not the answer. You keep the question and throw away all the answers. One famous spiritual teacher from India once said, “One who knows the answer to this question will not tell you. And if someone is telling you, know that they have no clue.”

My big question as the mother of 3 young children: How can I teach my children the life lessons that have taken me 40 years to learn so that they can live happier and more peaceful lives? Things like personal responsibility, mindfulness, a knowing that all the answers they need are inside of them, trusting themselves, that they are connected to everyone and everything else…. All I can do is be a great role model and hope that they absorb the teachings (and hope I can continue to be a great role model).

Lois Kubota

The hardest question for me is should I put my mom, who has alzheimer’s on hospice. Is it time to let her go? I think she would say so at this point of her disease. Why do we keep fixing her knowin whe won’t really improve any longer?

David Bozin

The questions that we ask ourselves result in our own self-realization, and the harder the question, the greater the potential. The gateway to self-realization is knowing which questions to ask. Thus, the true question is one that is asked many times, and keeps producing: The question is different, but the path is the same.

Patricia Ortiz

Life’s hardest question is “Am I living my purpose on this planet?” I am the only me there will ever be, and I ask myself if my uniqueness is being shared in such a way that it leaves a lasting impact on the world. I have a legacy to leave to future generations so am I living my purpose in order to make that happen?

Galina Angelova

Hardest question: How to become the person I want to be? How to change my mindset and dare to do what I love and which scares me to death? How to win the love of a special somebody? I’d love to read the book! Success!

C Monnet

My hardest question:
Why can’t I have a family? My family is very disfunctional and I have had to set strict limits with them to avoid being drawn into their endless drama. I have 1 child and am now going through a divorce. What am I doing wrong that I do not have a family?

Also what am I doing to bring on all this suffering? I wonder if I did horrible things in a past life to have all this misery and drama in my life.

Susie

The hardest question for my life has always been ‘Why?’ Why do we bother, what’s the point, why are we here? If there is a purpose to our lives, why can’t we see it, why can’t I see it?
It’s ironic to me that I am considered a high achiever and spiritual by those that know me and I all I can ask myself is, why? I guess I ended up successful and driven because what else was I going to do? More of a why not do something productive while you flail around lost but my why still is hanging out there.

My toughest question is how do I get to the other side of 40 years of baggage about how things are supposed to be in life (a cultural definition of success) instead of how I passionately feel life should be for me? I’m learning to make very small incremental changes as I don’t think there is one big answer, but many smaller ones.

Carolina

How to let go of our silly fears and useless worries, of the need of acceptance by others, of all the business and clutter and junk from these modern times, of the routines and frustrations that slowly drain our will to do something new and different?

How can we let go of the small and unimportant – though usually painful – things?

How can we do this and finally focus on what is truly meaningful for our lives?

Toughest life question… What is the fastest method one can use to completely reprogram one’s mind to become the person who they envision that they want to be? Is it possible that a complete life transformation (mind, actions, ridding bad or destructive behaviors, health, thoughts, finances, spiritual, etc.) can be made in under 7 days – emerging as a completely different person – the person that you (or they) want to be?

Congrats on your undertakings, for both of you! I find it always inspiring to find other people who live their passion too. Scott I’ve discoved your site not long ago, and Lori I’ll make sure to follow you.

So my biggest question is a dualist one, how to be fully aware in this reality and help people be like that. I blog and I’m a new author too, and I try my best to embody to be the change we wish to see in the world. It’s hard at times but definitevely worth it.

All the best!

Vicky

As a very new Tiny Buddha reader, I would so love to immerse myself in what I’ve been missing. But then I didn’t miss it, did I? Turning 61,large parts of me are at peace, other parts struggling against nameless dreads and habits. How can I release what does not serve me?

Mikka

Initially, it goes with a strange feeling. But since the day I defined my purpose, everything just fall into place. I experienced God’s love and blessings in every event of my life… as simple as giving a smile to strangers.

My big question is “How can I be more present in my day-to-day life?” So often I find myself daydreaming or second guessing myself or obsessing on the future. I want to relish the here and now and as a new mom, be present for my son.

Toby

Amy

My biggest question in the present moment is why can’t I let go of my insecurities and worries of what other people thing of me to live my life the way I want to? I keep reading these blogs and books and I get it (at least I think so), but when push comes to shove I often find myself flustered and not being the person I want to be. What am I missing that I need to change my patterns of thought?

Tiffany

After diving into Scott’s e-course Live Off Your Passion, I’m discovering what my passion actually is. Now that this e-course has me thinking about it, I can’t stop thinking about it! However, now one of my biggest life questions is how to I start to fund what I’d like to do?!

My parents are immigrants from Vietnam and the fear of letting my parents down is my greatest obstacle in life. I recently read Amy Chua’s, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” and it has really gave me optimism about the future. The question of satisfying my parents is the greatest task. Thanks again for this opportunity!

Christine Green

My hardest question – am I being and becoming who I want to be or who someone else wants me to be? And am I OK with disappointing other people by being true to who God has made me to be?

Something I’ve started to realize is that even though they may sometimes act otherwise, the people who care about me most do want me to be my true self. This has been a struggle I’ve faced with a recent career change, but the people I thought would object didn’t object quite as much as I thought they would.

How do we say goodbye? I lost my Mom on March 27th and it hasn’t been getting any easier. All I know how to do is live every day in tribute to her. I strive to make her proud with every action and decision.

Joshua

My hardest question at the moment is should I keep fighting to keep my marriage and my wife. She has a really messed up disease that’s slowly killing her and she’s pushing me further and further away. The worse she gets the more she lashes out at myself and anyone around. She has this fear that she needs me to much but I’m willing to care for her no matter how bad things get. Sorry this comment turned into a vent. It’s been a really messed up few week.

My hardest life question is something like this: I have a passion for helping people, I enjoy creativity, I like finding new ways to evolve myself, I’d would like to keep developing an entrepreneurship spirit and I also enjoy tech stuff… How can I mix all of this in the same bowl and then create something to do for a living (my dream job)?

Hardest Life Question: Staying in a small dead end town so I can have regular time with my kids, but no career with a crap as the town fails; or pursuing my dreams in a place I dearly want to live, but sacrifice a large part of being with my kids? I’ve always chosen my kids. It’s still a difficult choice at times.

KC

I have been doing a lot of soul searching and life learning as of lately and have been able to develop a very positive way of presenting myself. The only problem is I continue to nurture a very bad habit, one which I have quit and saw the light but restarted again, yet I keep going back to the darkness and hiding that light. Why do I keep falling back into bad habits when I know the light on the other side?

Candyce C. Fleming

One of life’s hardest questions for me is why do I stop at the 85%? Where to I find the momentum to get over that final 15% hump. I have seen the pattern repeatedly, different topics, different projects. I genuinely believe getting to that 100% on something important to me – will open to door to the path of understanding for many other questions.

sandra

my hardest question right now is should I divorce my husband. He’s a good man, and we’ve built up a good life over 25 years. However he is a workaholic, and has a hard time taking a vacation. My life has been on hold for the last 25 years with basically work, work, work. But I’m retiring soon, and I’d like to start working on my bucket-list instead. He has just scoffed at all my suggestions, but I really want to do some of these things.
Sad, worried, & concerned.

My hardest question is should I continue with my alcoholic wife? I don’t think that we really want the same things out of life and, even though we may love each other, maybe we are keeping each other from being happy and fulfilled.

My hardest question was the decision to put my Father, who was suffering from Alzheimer’s on NoCode and allow him to die of Pneumonia with dignity rather than keep him in a vegetable state for more years. It was the right thing to do and I hope that someone will make the same decision for me if and when it is necessary.

Hardest question: We are often urged/reminded to live like we’re dying (or like tomorrow is our last day), but how does one REALLY do this. Even though tomorrow COULD be our last day, we have to live like we’re in it for the long haul. Have puzzled over this for years.

I think one of the most difficult and recurring questions I face is:
Am I offering my biggest and most valuable gift to the world?
I have lots of passions and do go after the ones that call to me, but I often wonder if I’m overlooking or taking for granted a more important role or gift that I need to share.

Dee

How can I achieve TRUE happiness?? I’m a mess right now in my life and I just need guidance from someone, somewhere or something. I know it starts from within, but I’m having trouble accepting myself so I try and look from an outer source which I know wont help any.

Nikki

The toughest question I’ve ever had to ask, and try to answer, is, why did my son die before he had a chance to live? My son died while I was in labor with him six years ago. The only answer I’ve come up with is, sometimes really jacked-up crap happens. Not comforting, but true.

Wow. I seriously want that book. I’ve actually always wanted to buy products on the Internet (not all of them of course) but as a 10 year old, how am I supposed to do it?

Well…my biggest question in life is…how do I know if someone can be trusted? I ask this because I want to keep accountable to others – but how do I choose who to be accountable to? Are they naysayers, will they get jealous? Will they pull you down and discourage you?

Mare

Renee

One of my hardest life questions at the moment is “What do I want to do?” In terms of career, I am stagnating where I’m at and see no future in it. I long to be free to do what interests me, but what specifically is that?

Scott

Hi Renee – I just wanted to congratulate you on being one of the two winners of Lori’s Tiny Buddha book give away (we used random.org to pick the winners). Congrats! I will send you an email so I can get your full mailing details and we’ll get a copy out to you. Thanks so much for the comment.

And actually that’s the main question I’ve dedicated Live Your Legend to answering. That’s also why I created the Live Off Your Passion self study course. You might want to check it out if you haven’t already.

Happy New Year!

Jim Krenz

D Waring

My hardest question: How do I deal with the fear and sheer terror that spoil an otherwise wonderful life?
(My wife at 44 has been given only a few years to live; our toddler is growing up and must deal with the poor education of the country we live in; we have no money for emergencies; I – at 54 – am getting older and also face an insecure future. Apart from this, life is very positive.)

Kylie

My hardest question is how do I juggle being a mum of three while still pursuing my career/study dreams? I find it very difficult to allocate enough time to two things in my life that are really important to me. On the one hand I can spend a lot of time with my kids, reading to them, helping with schoolwork, crafting, playing outside, etc but then that leaves little time to develop and improve my skills and techniques that are so important to keep me up to date with my working peers. It’s very give and take and I find it hard to balance the two, without detriment to one or the other…

chris

Scott

Hey Chris – Congrats, you won a free copy of Lori’s Tiny Buddha book. You are one of the two winners chosen using random.org. I will send you an email so I can get your full mailing details and we’ll get a copy out to you.

Thanks so much for the comment too. It’s a great question and I have a feeling I will be facing that one more and more as my wife and I decide to grow the Dinsmore family in the coming years.

Carlos

My hardest question is: Why do people have to be so mean and just not understand the meaning of kindness?
I know that each person has his/her own story but it really is frustrating some times when you think that the world would be so simple if everyone was a bit more kinder.

Maria

Why do some people not like me and others do even though I try to be kind, considerate and thoughtful to everyone the same. What is it about me that they don’t like? Is it something that is real or something they’ve imagined?
And does my life really have a purpose or is that just something we tell ourselves to help us understand why we are here? Is there actually no purpose at all?

Trace

I’ve been following you both for some time and Thank you for all of the great ideas. Unfortunately I’m still trying to find a passion. Life has made me so jaded that I don’t even know what makes me happy anymore and I greatly want and need to make a change.

Like both Lori and Scott I too have a strong desire to help the world. I want to do this by finding ways to share the positive. Pointing out examples of what is good in the world in contrast to the opposite perspective that we see way too often in the mainstream media. I also want to write about my experiences as a way of helping myself learn from those experiences and also as a way of helping others that might be working through the same life issues. This is my passion. A main vehicle for sharing this perspective is via blogging. I started a blog about about six months ago but so far my main audience is family and friends. I am grateful for their readership but would like to reach a wider audience. What are the key moves you made in the early days of your blogging experience to start reaching more people?

I realize this question does not sound like one of life’s hard questions but there is a hard question behind it that I do not want to share publicly at this time. The answer to my question above will help me with the bigger question that I cannot share. Thank you!

Sharee

There are so many hardest questions, so many of them similar to my own. My hardest question…I want the best for my children and the best for me, sometimes they conflict. How do I let go of so much guilt? I even carry it from my past.

Stephanie Rogers

Great blog post and interview. I’m really looking forward to reading the book. My toughest question is how do I continue to love my bipolar dysfunctional brother without letting my concern for him get in the way of my passion and inspiration to do great things in my own life? My current challenge is that I allow myself to get sucked into his drama and end up derailed from my own personal goals.

Thanks so much for featuring my interview Scott! And thank you to everyone who commented on the post. I could relate to so many of the questions mentioned, especially the ones about trusting your instincts, being the person you want to be, letting go, and being present–and also the one about when to start a family. In fact, I’d say that’s the biggest one in my life at the moment, now that I’m in my early 30s.

Lisa

Misha S.

My hardest life lesson is: Undersatnding and reiterating that my value, as a life, a woman, a person, can be found at a place much deeper and eternal than the external things I temporarily have, amongst behaviors from others that convey the opposite.

Quite simply, I feel like that’s the originating belief, meandering around deep inside, that’s precipitated every instance at which I’ve denied my greatness and settled for less. I’ve always had the gift of choice- and I choose to believe that my honoring myself and simultaneously dissappointing those who only wish to control me is compassionate and encouraging of others greatness too.

James H.

My mind keeps turning back to the question of focus: how can I find more of it and where does it belong? Paring my unread RSS feed down from over 500 items to less than a 100 left me with an incredible sense of relief, despite all of the items that I will never read, and I want to repeat that experience with more of the myriad sources of constant updates in our digital lives.

Aaron

One of the toughest questions I ask myself from time to time is, how can I help inspire confidence in others who lack self confidence without being either overbearing or “cute”, for lack of a better word. Any ideas or suggestions would be great, thanks.

Lori’s story is definitely an inspiration – as is yours. I definitely want to check out the book as I find myself wondering if I have really latched onto my big passion yet. And if there’s really any more room in the online world for new inspirations… I feel a little late to the party.
I’m confident I have a unique contribution to humanity – and hope to discover it in 2012!

grace parkhouse

This is my second try and putting down in words what I am thinking . How to figure out what kind of person I truly am. I feel like the world sees me as a nurse, wife, mother. But inside I feel different and feel there is more I can share with people but do not know how to share. How does a persosn learn to open up to those around them, to communicate in a clear manner?

Dee Partridge

My widowed father has Parkinson’s and is just at the point of needing more assistance for basic daily tasks than I may be able to provide — I drive more than 40 miles daily to make sure he has been able to get out of bed and to assist him with getting dressed, for example. Plus do grocery shopping, housework, and other driving tasks. Our parent-child relationship is shifting and he’ll need to accept third-party assistance soon.

Also, I am a stepmother to a 17 yro daughter who is struggling with whether or not to go to college or “take a year off,” and a 10 yro son with learning challenges.

In addition to my relationship roles, I am currently “between positions” and trying to find or create work that speaks to my passions, is flexible enough to accommodate my care-giving responsibilities, and pay the bills, which are beginning to pile up.

The life question: how do I ensure I am able to “be” with all that I “must do”?

Becky vance

My hardest question sounds so simple but it’s not for me. How do I follow MY hearts desire without letting others influence me? How can I be sure it is my heart’s desire in the first place? I feel lost and left alone with the most important question looming. I really want to figure this out. At 52 most people know. Bless you and this blog!

Mark

Life’s hardest question is “How do I extend my career into new work that will be work that I love? How do I with certainty find and accept work that will be my passion for the next chapter of my career/ life?”

“Men lose their health, to raise money.
And then lose money to restore health.
By thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present.
So just do not live in the present or the future, live as if they were to die and die as if they had never lived. ”
Buddha

angela

One of life’s toughest questions for me is how can i find true inner peace? Also, once I have that,.how do I share it with someone to have a truly loving, trusting, dedicated and honestly real romantic relationship with another human being?