zinfly: I need suggestions please. i am getting married soon and would like 300 guest maximum. i have already been advised by a few friends that they will be bringing their friends. Firstly i find that rude as i understand weddings are meant for close friends and family. I am considering getting bouncer and security. Is this acceptable in Nigeria.

We both share the same Minds_ am planning doing the same- I resolved at "STRICTLY-BY-IV" things with a pass like a card inside the IV_If a guess is coming without the Pass even with the IV there's not going to be an entry thats my plan for you bro

when U were carrying ur longer throat up and down peoples wedding and parties, did anybody bounce you? now you want to Chase people away from your own. What is good for Obi should equally be good for Musa.

val_dubem: when U were carrying ur longer throat up and down peoples wedding and parties, did anybody bounce you? now you want to Chase people away from your own. What is good for Obi should equally be good for Musa.

Are uyou the person who will pay for his wedding? or are you one of the hungry uninvited wedding crashers

poster i think you should have sent out invitations specifying admittance by invite only. But you know in Nigeria there is no way to stop those hungry mofo's from crashing your event. All you have to do is make sure the people serving food know who your important guests are and as long as those people get served then all the others can suck air if food and drinks run out.

zinfly: I need suggestions please. i am getting married soon and would like 300 guest maximum. i have already been advised by a few friends that they will be bringing their friends.

Firstly i find that rude as i understand weddings are meant for close friends and family.

I am considering getting bouncer and security.

Is this acceptable in Nigeria.

By all means doCall those friends and tell them their guests are not invitedTell everyone invited to come with their invitationsIt is high time Nigerians started acting like civilized people.They can come to the Church service but not welcome at the reception.If I were to have my wedding today in Nigeria it will be strictly by invitation with names placed on the tables. and an usher will be at the door to check off the names on a list i will provide and another lead you to your seats.if you don't have your name there ,you go back homeSimple.This is 2012 for heavens sake

Since you'll be in naija it may be harder but it is possible-Warn your friends/invitees ahead that it will be invitation only-Have a complete list of invited guests at the door and enforce it by --Hiring several bouncers/name checkers/security for 300 people (thats a lot of people to control) -make sure you use non-family members/friends who cannot be talked into allowing people whose names are not on the list in

Don't allow roaches and leeches looking for free food & booze to invade one of the most special days in your life. These people are troublemakers and have no stake in making sure your day goes hitch-free and hence more likely to misbehave. Goodluck & congrats.

Dts not possible here in naija. Invite or no invite, pple wil still crash ur wedding. I think the only alternative is 2cut off the reception. Do only court or church wedding without reception. Or else OYO bcz some wedding crashers big pass bouncers sef.

JeSoul: Since you'll be in naija it may be harder but it is possible-Warn your friends/invitees ahead that it will be invitation only-Have a complete list of invited guests at the door and enforce it by --Hiring several bouncers/name checkers/security for 300 people (thats a lot of people to control) -make sure you use non-family members/friends who cannot be talked into allowing people whose names are not on the list in

Don't allow roaches and leeches looking for free food & booze to invade one of the most special days in your life. These people are troublemakers and have no stake in making sure your day goes hitch-free and hence more likely to misbehave. Goodluck & congrats.

Its funny how you have to address humans as roaches and leeches. Very uncalled for.

I don't believe it is about being broke but rather about wanting your invited guests onlyWeddings are not supposed to be open sports games where anyone can wander in from the streets.It is a private intimate moment especially in this day of kidnappings and Boko haram.People print invitations for a reason and they also want a fair head count for planningI have been to wedding where invited guests could not Find seats and the place is crowded with unknown guests struggling for food and souvenir.Nigerians should learn to respect themselves and not show up to ruin people's occasion .Nothing is limitless including food ad drinksIf she planned for 300,that is the number she wants and folks ought to respect her wishes.

I don't believe it is about being broke but rather about wanting your invited guests onlyWeddings are not supposed to be open sports games where anyone can wander in from the streets.It is a private intimate moment especially in this day of kidnappings and Boko haram.People print invitations for a reason and they also want a fair head count for planningI have been to wedding where invited guests could not Find seats and the place is crowded with unknown guests struggling for food and souvenir.Nigerians should learn to respect themselves and not show up to ruin people's occasion .Nothing is limitless including food ad drinksIf she planned for 300,that is the number she wants and folks ought to respect her wishes.

Its a good move jare,I see no reason why some invitees will still come with friends,as if the host is a father xmas. the RSVP on the IV is to enable the host plan,but not in the case with Nigerian.pls put "strictly by IV" on the IV,its high time we got it right in our way of life.

Whether you like it or not uninvited guests will be at your wedding. So many of this strictly by IV weddings don't work out cause after so much pressure from the bride n groom family you will willingly tell the bouncers to fling open the entrance gate. However any family member that wants to bring in extra people must make provision for their feeding.its simple: you are looking @ 300 guest right?make provision for 300 people if 200 extra people turn up for the wedding its their luck! The major thing is you guyz are now man n wife

Young man if you want to do wedding you do, otherwise you are free to just call the pastor or priest to soleminise then carry your wife home afterwards. Its not compulsory for you to invite people to your wedding. This is Nigeria. Here, we give room for extras in almost everything we do. Nowadays people are only trying to copy the stingy ways of the western world. How do I come to a wedding as an invited guest and glue my bottocks to the seat with nobody to chat with or enjoy the program together. I dont think its fair.

Bros u dey para gan o......the truth is,no matter how hard u try to implement what u are planning,it won't work out.... I've once been to a party where big men and women were in attendance and even k1 played as the musician and a lot of bouncers were used including mopol and soldiers. Even as at that people still gate crashed the event. Just try and plan for the unwanted guests and count it as giving back to the society.... This is africa o....