Sexual Frustration Does Not Need To Rule Your Life

Updated on August 27, 2018

In a relationship, there will constantly be some sort of turmoil surrounding the amount of sex you have. While one partner may feel everything is perfect, the other may wonder why they are not more active in the bedroom. Sexual frustration does not always have to deal with the frequency of sexual intimacy. Instead, it often deals with the ability of a man to please his woman and vice versa.

The art of sexuality is self-defined. One person may have a list of bedroom activities that define their perfect encounter while another may feel that simply being intimate with the person they love is perfection on earth. This ever changing definition of perfection can leave a couple experiencing sexual incompatibility a bit lost.

The most common form of sexual frustration is waiting. When one person in a relationship wants to have sex more often, they may feel frustrated by the “long” wait between love making sessions. While most of the time men are the ones wanting more sex, there is no steadfast rule assuming he wants it more than her. Even same sex relationships experience bouts of sexual frustration when one partner is more sexually needy than the other.

According to research, women are often the ones putting sex off. This is not because they are not interested, but because the female body requires preheating, otherwise known as foreplay, before sexual desire kicks in. Foreplay tactics will vary from relationship to relationship with some women requiring far less get in the mood to have sex and others requiring far more.

The second most common sexual frustration in a relationship is the inability to please a partner. Communication is the answer to this problem. Believe it or not, many couples have difficulty talking about what pleases them in the bedroom. When a man cannot guide a woman in the right direction or vice versa, animosity can take over leading to erectile dysfunction and lack of desire.

Communication is about more than just telling a partner when something feels good or right. It involves telling your partner what makes you happy in the bedroom. If he or she is doing something that is almost right, accepting that will not promote sexual growth. Instead, praise your partner gently and suggest those last few steps to make sexual satisfaction even better. If a couple cannot communicate about the things that make them happy in the bedroom, sexual frustration will often continue until the relationship breaks down or sex will just become far less important which can be detrimental in long-term relationships.

There is no reason to suffer from sexual frustration due to lack of sex, not having sex enough, or lack of communication. Every couple will have a far different definition of the perfect sexual encounter and not every time in the bedroom will be perfect. But, when a couple can communicate and support intimacy on a daily basis, they may find that the result is bouts of steamy, and more satisfying, sex more often.