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Though I would prefer my partner take my name, I wouldn't mind sharing names (smith-Johnson) but I wouldn't want my partner keeping just their name. Taking my name or mixing names is (to me) a sign of loyalty and respect. You must give your all to the other person and respect them as an equal

This is pretty much exactly how I feel too. I would never force or even expect her to take my name, but having my future wife adopt my name would mean a lot to me. I really have no explanation for why I think this way other than that I have old fashioned approach to it.

I took my husbands surname. I've never regretted it and I'm glad that it made things easy and united when we had children.He was very happy that I was willing to because he's from South Korea and they don't do that there. He thought it was very generous on my part.

I'd prefer him to take mine or that both me and him have both surnames. The reason why I'd rather we have my surname is that my family are the only ones who have my surname so it's really rare and it also makes me feel connected to my family even when I'm not with them :) His surname is pretty common and all his relatives have different surnames, even his parents, so it's not that special for him either :)

@kep79:My idea of happiness? Well, that's quite a big question. I'd say, being with the ones I love and seeing them happy, doing what I enjoy most in life, being healthy and safe, having a lot to laugh about, and eventually also having a partner by my side. These are the things that come to mind when I think of happiness.

He will take my surname..No way out if he enters that parade to get married with me.

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I would prefer my future husband to take my last name, I really love my surname ;)

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I'd like to have a double barrell surname. I hate the connotations attached to taking my husbands name, that is I would become his property. It's more equal if we both took eachothers plus more romantic.

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I'm not really closely tied to my last name. I have no problem taking his instead.

Yes, I know that a woman changing her last name has roots in a woman and children being a man's property, but as long as my husband didn't see me as his property I wouldn't care.

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I would take my bf's surname. I love his last name way more than mine and why would I get rid of tradition? My parents got 5 sons to continue our family name. Plus if he's going the traditional route why would I be selfish and break it by asking him to change his last name over to mine?

Yes and no. I wouldn't get seriously involved with a girl that is opposed to taking her future husband's name. If I dropped the ball and somehow didn't find out that she wouldn't take my name until we were already in pretty deep, I would do everything in power to persuade her to my side. If that proved to be unsuccessful, then yes, I would end it.

I wouldn't mind changing my surname to that of my girlfriend, because I don't like my last name, and I don't really care about so called "traditional" crap.

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I wouldn't really mind. Her taking my name is probably the most traditional way of doing it and I would kinda like that. If she wanted to keep hers, that's fine too.

One thing that does interest me that might make me weird comes from a girl's opinion I saw here a few days ago. It said that she planned to use her own name and her daughters would take her name too, while the husband and sons would get the husbands name. I'd rather the opposite, the sons take her name and the daughters take mine. I'm not sure why, I'm not really mad on what is essentially dividing the family by name and gender. My way kinda connects everyone together a bit more. Plus, I've 2 brothers who are a lot more traditional than me so our name will be fine. It's hardly rare anyway.

Traditions are important to people. If she expects me to follow the tradition of buying her a diamond, then I can expect her to follow the tradition of taking my name. Besides in this day and age, that is really the only difference between just living together, and being married. If she didn't want my name I would feel like she didn't want to be a part of my family. Besides my children will have my last name. There is no room for debate open on that one.

It depends on who has the cooler last name. I seem to have a theme of going for Latinas so if I ever fall on my head and suddenly decide that marriage sounds like a good idea for me, then it would be pretty cool to ditch my boring sounding last name that has roots in English and German... and adopt an awesome sounding Hispanic name :D