03 March 2011

Go F**k Yourself... Literally

I absolutely love my “Women in Society” class. My teacher is a Hispanic lesbian—a girly masculine one. How cool is that? Lol. The best thing about my class is that it isn’t a lecture class. We come into class, she shares some of the newest happenings in society regarding women, and then we discuss whatever may come to mind regarding the topic for the remainder of the 2 hours and whatever minutes of class. Some people reading this may not like to speak up in class, and may find this a little awkward. Don’t worry. I am the same way. I dislike public speaking with a passion, BUT with this blog, I have learned to open up and speak out more.

Anyway, why am I telling you about my class? Good question. Well, last night we were discussing a wide range of topics and the subject of HIV, marital rape and masturbation came up. Even as adults, most of the class shied away from the topic of masturbation until my teacher said, “Come on, you guys’ attitude towards me just saying the word ‘masturbation’ exemplifies what society has taught you guys. Be afraid of your own body.” She went on to say that studies have shown that females are more likely to stay in a (unhealthy) relationship with the guy to whom she lost her virginity because she’s “sprung.” She claims that masturbation can be a good thing not only because the woman is sexually liberated, but she is less likely to stay in the relationship.

Some women will stay in an unhealthy relationship simply because the sex is amazing. If women encourage their daughters (and even sons) to masturbate before they lose their virginity, it will be less of a chance for her to get sprung later because she’ll realize that she can get herself to “that place” and she doesn’t need a man for that reason alone. While I’ve never been much of a masturbator, I don’t disagree. Last night was my first time ever hearing that and the argument makes lots of sense. Some women think that only a man has those magical powers to get her to orgasm, but that is untrue.

Masturbation isn’t only good for emotional reasons, but here are other reasons why it is healthy.

So it is safe to say that you can have great sex by yourself and get more in tuned with yourself at the same time. As the saying goes, you have to love yourself in order to love someone else. You must also be able to (or at least know how to) please yourself before pleasing someone else.