Our parents demanded it. My FMIL also said that the women’s names go before the men’s (which I don’t like, but it wasn’t worth arguing) and because women go first her and her husband went before my FFIL and his wife. AND all six parents came before either me or my FI’s name, since they are both contributing to the wedding. That annoyed me to, since FI and I are contributing the most LOL.

@engleman10513: We will not be including parents’ names on ours. His mother is deceased, his dad will not be contributing financially and neither will my mom. My dad might help but we aren’t going to just put his name. We put their names in the engagement announcement in the newspaper. Maybe we’ll do the same for the wedding announcement and call it a day.

I also don’t care if they get offended 😉 I have been pretty good at disregarding every decision they are trying to influence so far. Open your wallet or shut your trap! We paid for our own college and now are footing the bill for the wedding and I’ll be damned if we don’t do it our own way if it’s our money!

…. Sorry for the rant. Can you tell I just got off the phone with my mother who is mad that we aren’t having a full service bar? Wine and beer and signature cocktails will be plenty unless someone else wants to pay the difference – we don’t even drink!

I think my parents assumed they’d be on it. His aren’t from the US and weren’t aware of the tradition, either way. We WANTED to put them all on it, however. Our situation is a bit odd, since FI’s parents are paying for the reception we chose to put all four of their names at the top, before ours, instead of breaking it up with our names in the center and his parents below.

I agree with jennmariee. My parents paid for the wedding so their names were on the invite. I figured it was the least I could do since they were paying for the whole thing! I always thought it depended on who was “hosting” IE – paying. If DH and I had paid I probably would have just put our names on the invite.

Traditionally you put on the names of whoever is helping you pay but I’m not sure how many people actually do that anymore. We just wrote “Together with their parents” because we really didn’t want 6 names written above ours (all were helping pay). I don’t think MIL was too happy but it was just way too busy with all of the names on there.

Both sets of parents contributed greatly so both sets of parents r in the invite. They did not expect it. Honestly though, I would’ve had their names on there regardless of whether or not they gave us any money. for us, it was a respect thing to add their names.