I’ve been telling her what to do and now she’s got herself a job in another city

And all she’s done since she’s reached there is complain about the people and then shout at me.

Why is she suffering?

A : She’s learning the lesson of Tolerance and Patience. What you’ve been telling her for the past 25 years to learn, Life will teach her in minutes.

Q : I always tell her to get along with all kinds of people , to overlook differences, to be respectful of another’s culture or religion, to just hang in there and understand the way they communicate before jumping to conclusions. Still, all she does is criticise and complain and sulk around people.

A : It’s her lesson. Not yours. You’ve done your best. Just let go.

(one second later)

Q: I was wondering now that the kids are grown up, if I should go on that cruise I was reading about. A few of my friends are planning to travel in a couple of months…..

Sometimes in relationships, one partner wants a little time for himself or herself. Time to introspect, process their emotions, or focus on studies or work. Most often enough the other partner panics a little, fearing the loss of the relationship and starts to frantically message the person, and if ignored they turn to readers, to find out why he or she is not responding to their texts, or if they are leaving them for good.

With the Tarot in cases like the these, the message is always the same. Leave them be. If someone truly loves you they won’t forget you and your importance in their life. Just like fields are left fallow for a while to nourish and strengthen the soil, souls too need a little ‘time out” to recharge their batteries and gain perspective. Understand and respect their need for space. Trust that things will work out. By messaging them repeatedly we only end up creating tension in the space and sometimes it drives the person further away.

Letting go doesnt mean I do not love you. Letting go doesnt mean I dont care. Or wont be there when you need me. It just means i have to focus on me for a while you focus on you. And I know when we meet again I’ll be a better me and You’ll be a better you. – Excerpts from Meditation

“Realise the futility of effort. If something is meant to be, it will come of its own accord. When you sop seeking, searching or expecting, it will begin to happen.”

The more I clamour for something, the further it slips from my grasp. The more I obsess the more tired I get from thinking about all the possible answers in all combinations. That’s my mind telling me to take a break and figure out how much energy I’m wasting in the process. Better to just be.

Before we began her reading, I told her the Tarot cards could answer “why” questions in a way no other tool of divination could. Her eyes lit up for a second and she prepared herself for a session.

“Why me?” she demanded, as the cards were shuffled and laid across her. “Why do I always face the challenges? The delays? The obstacles on my path. The heartbreaks. The hidden enemies. Why me?

We meditated on her energies and this is the message her cards revealed.

“If you had it easy in your life you would have been a selfish and blindly ambitious person who would have stepped on people’s toes, cared little about their feelings and would have not shared your wealth with the underprivileged. You would have been explosive and impatient with the slow and the elderly. You would have bragged about your wealth and status to others and few would have warmed upto you.

Adversity came in your life to teach you patience, persistence, hope and compassion. If you received everything you wanted when you desired it, you would have turned scornful and fearful of losing what you earned.

Adversity has shown you the value of everything you have because you’ve worked hard for it. Adversity has also taught you to give to the less fortunate with compassion and little expectation, because in your heart you know man is never grateful for what he gets freely.

You have learnt to expect little from others, experience has taught you self reliance. You have also learnt that good things come to those who wait. Success is yours, you have already accomplished things few would have only dreamt of. You know it’s not a huge windfall, it comes in bits and pieces and in your case success will be sweeter.

Your soul has learned quite a few lessons in your lifetime. Now in order to get what you want. Just Let Go.