Im looking to put a suspension lift and tires on my truck and am looking for advice.

-I would like to fit around a 35" tire, with that said I have a few questions:

-what suspension kit & how big (3"? 6"?) do you recommend going with?

-can I fit a 35" tire on the stock rims?

I want a lifted look, but I hate the look of a taco thats too high, and looks kind of squatty and tonka cartoonish (I dont know if that makes sense?) But I want to go with a decent size lift, and dont want to have to come back and put another one on later.

Please search. All this info is available on the site and has been answered many times.
Your tires will fit the rims, but wont fit on the truck no matter how high you lift it. You will need to buy aftermarket rims with more backspace or put a spacer behind your stock rims to gain clearance.
32'' tires fit any Taco
33" will fit w/ some rubbing if you go off road and flex your suspension.
Go bigger and you are cutting to make it fit.

I wouldn't recommend running a 35" tire on stock rims. The stockers are only 7-7.5" wide (depending on the model). Also as ThrottleJunky noted, you would need to run wheel spacers as well.

There are a few people on here who fit 35's on their 3" lift, but all of them have aftermarket front bumpers. You can fit 35's on a 6" rather easily, but it will definately fall into the "too high" you said you wanted to avoid.

A taco with a 6" lift and 35's is actually 8" higher than stock, due to the increased tire diameter.