5 Signs that Tell You It’s Time to Break Up

As singer Neil Sedaka puts it, “breaking up is hard to do.” It’s true, of course. No one really wants to break up with someone they love. But the hard and painful truth is that there are certain instances when you will need to muster all your strength and willpower to end a relationship simply because it is the best thing to do.

Here are tell-tale signs that would tell you if it’s time to break up and move on with your life.

1. When things get physical.

Yes, it’s true that there are moments when things can get really heated up during an argument, and you or your partner would have that strong urge to just lash out. But when your partner gives in to that urge and you become the target of the lashing, then it is time to seriously consider getting out while you still can. Remember, once your partner sees that you would be willing still to forgive and to continue the relationship even after hitting you, it will not stop.

2. You catch your partner cheating.

Trust is one of the key pillars to any relationship. Once it is shattered, you can never really bring it back no matter how much you try to convince yourself to “forgive and forget.” Even if you’ve somehow managed to, at the back of your mind, there will always be that nagging thought to always want to know where your partner is and if your partner is telling you the truth. And just like in the first, there is always that possibility that it could happen again.

3. The relationship is stopping you from growing.

While it’s true that you need to be willing to make a few sacrifices in order to make your relationship work out, this shouldn’t come to a point where you find yourself being placed in a situation where you have to give opportunities for you to grow and become successful. People who are in a healthy relationship are those that support each other and build each other up so that they can become better. If your partner is putting you in a position where you have to always limit yourself, then that’s a really good sign to break up.

4. No one wants to give in.

Most fights, especially those that happen when you’re just starting out happen because you and your partner have different opinions about certain issues. That’s pretty normal, and that should be a sign that there are some adjustments that both you and your partner need to make in order for the relationship to work. However, if you or your partner keep on having the same issue and neither one of you is willing to give in and adjust, then probably your relationship isn’t meant to be right from the start.

5. Differences in priorities.

Long before you and your partner got involved in a relationship, you each had a set of priorities that you want to accomplish within a certain period of time. In order for your relationship to work, you and your partner must be willing to respect each others’ priorities and even support each other towards them. Sadly, there are many cases when these priorities become the root cause of a lot of quarrels and fights between you two. If you see that your priorities and that of your partner are totally opposite and contradicting to each other, then it’s seriously time to reconsider your relationship