Have you met someone who you'd like to start talking to? Is he too shy to start the conversations himself? Worried that he's not interested? Have no fear. Read on.

Steps

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Make yourself noticeable. Admit it--sometimes you just don't want to be seen. Even on your worst days, try to make yourself exist. If he acts like he doesn't notice you, he probably doesn't. Go to places he'll be. Put yourself in the center of attention. Make him know that you're alive.

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Smile. It's probably the most clichéd move in the book, but it actually works! Smiling can make you seem more approachable, and also more happy and fun to be around.

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Approach him. If he's shy, chances are he won't come to you first. Bring some of your friends to make the situation more comfortable, and sit by him.

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Talk. Start a conversation with him the same way you would with another friend. Say hello. Introduce yourself, if he doesn't already know who you are. Ask him how his day is going. Talk, talk, talk.

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Make him comfortable. If you just throw yourself at him and drag him into a conversation he doesn't really want to be a part of, he'll get creeped out and most likely leave. Be calm. Stay relaxed, and don't be loud. Anyone who is shy most likely enjoys things being quiet.

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Ask him about his interests. If the conversation is still going well, dig deeper. Ask him what kind of music he listens to. Ask him who his friends are. Letting him know that you're interested in knowing the real him and not just to find out if he's single or not will definitely help him open up.

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Laugh! Make small jokes to show him that you're comfortable around him, so he should be comfortable around you, too. Talk about annoying teachers or classmates. Point out something funny that's happening on the other side of the room. If he laughs, you've succeeded.

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Know when to end the conversation, and how to end it. If you leaving him hanging by saying, "Well gotta go bye", he'll feel used and probably suspicious. Chances are he won't talk to you again. Instead, slowly build up to an end to the conversation. Say something like, "My friend looks tired. They're supposed to be studying. I'd better go wake them up before the test so they won't fail." When leaving, smile and let him know that you want to talk to him again. Giving him your number is a drastic move, especially for a first conversation, but if you feel it went well, go for it!

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Tips

End the conversation in a positive attitude.

Be careful as to who you bring along to help. If you bring your best friend, she may decide she likes him, too. Try bringing a friend who is happily in a relationship, but who also knows how to be outgoing and friendly.

Just talk to him as you would another friend. Don't be afraid of rejection or him not responding positively to your conversation.

Don't push the conversation; if he's uncomfortable talking to you just let him be.

Never give him to much hints that you like him, he might just want to be friends and chances are you'll overwhelm him and he won't know how to react - resulting in him attempting to avoid you.

Ask around. Find out some of his interests beforehand and see if you have anything in common. This can be a huge help when approaching him for the first time.

Be yourself and talk to him as you would talk to another friend.

Never try to end a conversation when he didn't say anything about himself. You don't want to make the conversation seem all about you.

Practice. It sounds odd, but practicing what you can say in front of a mirror is actually a good idea. Practice smiling, nodding, laughing, and most importantly, talking.

Get advice. You don't necessarily have to ask your parents, because they'll probably get more excited over the fact that you're interested in guys than the truth that you're stuck. Ask some of your friends to see how to look most comfortable when talking to him.

Don't act negative, always be positive around him! Positive energy will make him feel more attracted to you! Also make sure to show your fun, cute and flirty side. Guys love that!

Warnings

Don't be pushy! If he seems disinterested in talking to you, immediately but inconspicuously end the conversation and leave. You can try again later or just forget him. Chances are he's not worth it.

Don't get discouraged. This is a try, try again situation. If the conversation doesn't go well the first time, you can try it again, but with a less chipper attitude. Don't get your hopes up too much.

Be careful. Sometimes people aren't who they seem to be. Don't go talk to him in the dead of night or in a room without any other people until you know him well.