Self-esteem and confidence - for teens

Healthy self-esteem is feeling good about yourself, and feeling that you are a worthwhile person. This doesn't mean being overconfident – just believing in yourself and knowing what you do well.

Some people have a negative view of themselves, or 'low self-esteem'. This may be because they are affected by critical comments or 'put downs', or because they think that they should be 'better' than they are. Constantly comparing yourself to others can lead to low self-esteem because there will always be someone who can do things better, appear more popular or be better looking.

If you do not think positively about yourself there are things you can do to boost your self-confidence and self esteem.

Notice when you are thinking badly about yourself and try to change this.

Stop comparing yourself to others – everyone is different. If you compare yourself to others you will always find things missing in yourself and your life.

Try some positive self-talk – think about the things you do well and remind yourself of these. Talk yourself up, not down.

Think of times you have tried something new and succeeded.

Think about your qualities that have helped you in your life.

Think about what makes you happy and make sure that you let yourself do these things.

Do things that you know you are good at.

Try something new, like a new sport or a new interest.

Accept compliments when people give them to you.

Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect. If you lack confidence and have a low self-esteem, it may be helpful for you to get some advice from a counsellor, psychologist or your local doctor.

The way you view yourself can be affected by things that are going on in your life, such as too much stress, difficulties with friends or family, or not liking how you look. This website has a range of topics that may help listed under the categories 'Healthy Mind' and 'Relationships'.