Monday, 12 February 2018

Why We Never Fitted In with Boohoo.com

How many times is too many times to apologise for the lack of blog content - I am so sorry! To be honest there is no real excuse for it, I just became very lazy with my blog. With all the rigma'roll going on about bloggers here in Ireland - I kind of just took a step back. In all honesty I am really disappointed that I did but it was something I needed to do for myself, to re-evaluate what I want and where I want to go with my life. My Instagram has also been doing v.bad lately due to the algorithm always changing so unfortunately I have been losing followers. I noticed it happening to a few big bloggers that I truly admire & now it's happening to me. I don't know how and I certainly don't know why but it's happening and it has been getting me seriously down lately so really that is why I took a massive step back.

At 23 years of age though, sometimes I feel like I have lived a lifetime of experiences because I have a fair idea of what I want out of life & what kind of person I want to be remembered for - I wish I could have told myself this when I was back in school, not fitting in & feeling like the "weirdo" because I liked different things (it's still something I need to remind myself of at times). I think if you've been following my blog for sometime now you will know that being yourself is something I truly do believe in - I don't think anyone should apologise for living the life they want or dressing how they want. In reality we are all made up differently and that is what makes each and everyone of us unique. There is very few people in my life that have the same thoughts as me on the "being yourself" topic so I enlisted the help of my friend Adam from ThisBoyKnows to share his thoughts on the whole thing. Both of us were the kids that never fitted in growing up, we constantly felt like we had to apologise for being ourselves and no one should ever feel like that! See what Adam has to say on the whole thing below.

"For me fashion was actually a reason I never felt like I fitted in, yet it helped me to care less of what people thought. I’ve always loved being creative, in all kinds of ways, and of course one of those ways was how I dress. Countryside Limerick in an all boys school, fashion wasn’t a big thing with my circle of friends, but something about experimenting always appealed to me - especially when I found the internet, all these runways and magazines from the UK & USA at the click of a button.

I started online shopping as soon as I found boohoo.com & ASOS. People always questioned my sense of style because of the small town I lived in. When entering college, I done a creative media course, so there was a little more acceptance, but still some frowns of confusion and criticism. It played back and forth on my mind for years, but everytime I went out at the weekends or to parties I was sick of thinking will I or won’t I wear a certain outfit. Fashion was something I loved, but I just didn’t want the attention of standing out.

That’s the thing with my sense of style, while people always described it as “out there”, I don’t ever want attention, I don’t want to be looked at. I don’t see it as crazy, when I walk the streets of London it’s completely normal. It’s just the society I was raised in, the area, the “normal” I was thought to believe. I just do it for me, because I love it, because it’s what I feel comfortable in.

When I started blogging there wasn’t many big male bloggers around, and I was terrified. But at the start it was just another creative outlet that I loved and I did it for me. I never expected my love for fashion to turn into something so big. Fashion is the reason I started blogging, and while my work is so much more than that now, it all draws back to fashion where it started. Meeting such like-minded people with similar creative passions not only made me feel like I fit in somewhere, but made me realise it’s ok to not fit in.

In 2018, there is no normal anymore. I’m happy now to be called “unique” or “out there”. I like that nobody blends in anymore. Blogging has definitely thought me above all, to care less and just do things for myself! And always take risks!"

I think it is easy to see from how we both feel that fashion can play a huge role in peoples lives. For me personally, fashion is a way to express myself without saying a single world. So to the kids out there today that feel like they don't fit in - don't worry about it. It may all seem horrible now but time will show you that you do fit in but outside the "norm" and how exciting is that? One day you will find your tribe who will accept you for who you are and nothing will stop you then! #MyBoohooStyle