So on Sunday I landed badly off a jump and ended up getting a concussion (I was wearing a helmet too...) and I sprained my back. Now my parents won't let me snowboard anymore this season because they don't want me risking injuring myself and not being able to play volleyball (I'm on a club team). They also told me I'm an idiotic reckless teen who doesn't care about her health. Yikes :WTF:
But I really really really don't wanna stop and I'm trying to find ways to convince them to let me go. Help? I can't think of any good arguments besides saying I'll take it easy/not try park anymore.

Casual

03-14-2013 04:10 PM

Ouch that sucks! I'm sure you can understand from their point of view, especially with all the media hype about concusions that they don't want anything to happen to you. head injuries are serious business.

I wish I had an answer for you though...

Ironically I quit volleyball so that I could continue to snowboard... volleyball was wrecking my right knee.

seant46

03-14-2013 04:17 PM

Explain to them its your life and youre old enough to make those type of decisions:dunno: Anything in life has risks to it. I dont think that should stop you from shredding because the worry of getting injured for volleyball, just take it easy out there!

KIRKRIDER

03-14-2013 04:28 PM

Would they let you ride if you stay off the park? ( I'm a parent too)

poutanen

03-14-2013 04:29 PM

Are either of them doctors? I'm not sure how this works in the states, but up here a doc could "suggest" you avoid certain activities for a certain period of time. If there's any chance of damaging your back I'd stay off the board until it's healed.

This coming from a guy who bruised his ribcage and is entering a competition tomorrow anyway! :yahoo:

As for not letting you board, that's a whole other issue between you and your parents! I was lucky enough to have parents that let me try pretty much everything and get my scrapes, as long as it was a healthy activity (instead of getting into drugs, drinking, etc.).

The one line I said to my mom in my teens, when she was being overbearing was "Mom, you did a good job raising me, now let me to my job (and live my life)!" She still quotes it. Show them you're mature enough to think for yourself... Not sure how you're going to do that, I'm not a parent and it's too long since I was a teenager! lol :giggle:

glaucon

03-14-2013 04:33 PM

How important is the park to you? Can you work a compromise and agree not do the jumps (or only small jumps)? Your parents are being overly reactive but there are some pretty big risks in the sport.

How important is the park to you? Can you work a compromise and agree not do the jumps (or only small jumps)? Your parents are being overly reactive but there are some pretty big risks in the sport.

Park is really fun to me, but I'm definitely no expert at it yet. I guess I push myself pretty hard to get better and that's why I got injured. My parents are scared of the mountain in general - they think I'm gonna die out there or something.
Thanks for all the advice though! I'll try and compromise and say that I'll stay out of park for the rest of this season (maybe haha)

john doe

03-14-2013 04:51 PM

Start dating a massive douche bag (or cunt if that's your thing). After not too long it should be possible to use that as bartering power. You will dump the douche if they let you snowboard.

melliemouse

03-14-2013 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Snowolf
(Post 838490)

Explain to them that every activity in life comes with risk. You can be injured playing volley ball just as easy. You could be critically injured in a car accident going to the grocery store. Not only is it impossible to protect you with 100% certainty but it is morally wrong. You are a person and becoming an adult American citizen with freedom. If you are not allowed to start exercising freedom and taking responsibility for your freedom, how will you ever learn to function as a responsible adult?

Let them know what snowboarding means to you and how it fulfills you as a person. Let them know how being denied that fulfillment will create resentment toward them. Let them know all of the mental and physical benefits that you get from snowboarding and explain that the benefits far outweigh the potential risks which really statistically are far lower than many mundane activities. You are hundreds of times more likely to be killed or injured in a car than you ever are snowboarding. How do they propose to protect you from that; never ever let you drive or ride in a car again?

Let them know that you understand and even appreciate their desire to protect you but that the road to hell is paved with good intention. In their desire to do a good thing and protect you, they are causing far more harm to you at least psychologically. Let them know that you learned a lot from this and have an appreciation for slow, steady progression in and out of the park and that events like this actually make you a safer, more competent rider.

In the end though, the sad truth is as a kid under their roof, you don`t live in a democracy and you may have no choice other than to wait until out from under their control. Being able to accept unpleasant realities is a part of becoming a responsible adult. If they don`t give in, take it with grace and don't be a bitch to them about it. Quite possibly, they may relent if not this year, next season if they see that you handle it with grace and maturity. If you go apeshit, they will most likely dig their heels in and never relent. Argue your side rationally and with passion but in the end if you don't win, be mature and show them through you actions that they were wrong in their decision.

best of luck to you and whatever the outcome understand that you are young in in no time you will be free to make any decision you want as an adult. This too shall pass.....:thumbsup:

I would just like to take a moment to tell you that you are a god at advice giving.

poutanen

03-14-2013 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by melliemouse
(Post 838530)

I would just like to take a moment to tell you that you are a god at advice giving.