Scientific reasons why you should show your Valentine love and physical affection even if you hate the day itself

You don’t have to buy expensive gifts to show your partner you love them.

Physical affection is always appreciated, and it’s also good for your health.

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, but not everyone is on board with the idea. Some people see it as nothing but a commercial nightmare, while others may well be expecting a romantic day filled with expensive gifts and elaborate gestures.

But if you’re totally against the idea of spending money for the sake of a day, you can still make Valentine’s Day meaningful with your partner by showing them some physical affection.

It may sound obvious, but according to Becky Spelman, We-Vibe’s relationship expert, some people suffer „a sort of performance anxiety“ about Valentine’s Day.

„Because they feel under so much pressure to be romantic, they also feel paralysed and worried that whatever they do will not live up to the hype,“ she said.

„Often, people in this situation opt to do nothing at all or end up panic-buying tired flowers or a battered box of chocolates … If their partner is the romantic sort who longs to be pampered, they are likely to feel unappreciated and unloved, and this could even cause a crisis in the relationship.“

Not only is it bad for your mental health, but avoiding touch with your partner can signal something is wrong.

„If touch communicates ‚I’m here, I care about you, I have your back,'“ then avoiding touch may communicate a lack of availability, concern, or commitment and ultimately undermine the relationship,“ Jakubiak said.

„In our research, we also see benefits of casual touches that occur accidentally or the in process of doing something else — like just sitting with legs touching on the sofa,“ said Jakubiak. „People also provide affection by saying things like ‚I love you‘ or ‚I appreciate you,‘ or by being available to celebrate accomplishments and to help when problems arise.“

You certainly don’t need to spend a lot of money to show someone you care, said Spelman.

„Making your loved one heart-shaped pancakes for breakfast wouldn’t break the bank, for example,“ she said.

„More than a quarter of Britons say that they would prefer to do ’nothing‘ for Valentine’s Day, and they might be on to something — the key to a good day might be to not do very much, but to do it together!“