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A teen site and community for teenage girlsWed, 16 May 2018 21:34:05 +0000en-UShourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9Here’s The Real Reason Guys Don’t Ever Admit To Being Wronghttp://www.gurl.com/2017/05/03/heres-why-guys-dont-ever-admit-to-being-wrong-relationship-studies/
http://www.gurl.com/2017/05/03/heres-why-guys-dont-ever-admit-to-being-wrong-relationship-studies/#respondWed, 03 May 2017 20:38:34 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=278727If you’ve ever interacted with a man in you life, you’ve probably noticed a few different things. Among those things is that they spend a lot of time mansplaining, because they have been socially privileged enough to think this is what they should be doing (sorry, but it’s usually true). Naturally, they have their moments … Read More

]]>If you’ve ever interacted with a man in you life, you’ve probably noticed a few different things. Among those things is that they spend a lot of time mansplaining, because they have been socially privileged enough to think this is what they should be doing (sorry, but it’s usually true). Naturally, they have their moments when they are wrong, and they can never admit to being wrong. It’s frustrating and annoying and can drive you crazy. Of course, admitting you were wrong about something is never easy for anyone, and sure, there are women out there who have the same issue, but let’s be real: it feels like a lot of dudes have trouble owning up to their mistakes.

Have you ever wondered why that’s happening? It’s not just a nasty stereotype that we can so easily dismiss – there is actual science behind the fact that guys have trouble admitting when they’re wrong.

You might be familiar with a little thing called testosterone. It’s a sex hormone that both women and men have, although men have a lot more of it. Testosterone is responsible for a lot of “typical” male behavior: it can make someone horny, impulsive, and also unwilling to question these impulses. Confused? Let me explain. New research shows that testosterone can limit a guy’s ability to second guess their responses to things, which means that it can be responsible for men acting stubbornly convinced that they are right.

The study was done by a variety of researchers who were testing the hypothesis that more testosterone can make men rely on their intuition instead of making logical decisions. Researchers looked at 243 men selected at random to receive testosterone gel or placebo gel before taking a cognitive reflection test – basically, a test that determine’s someone’s decision making skills. They found that the group given more testosterone was more likely to make quick judgements on something, even if their guess was wrong. One researcher named Colin Camerer, the Robert Kirby Professor of Behavioral Economics and T&C Chen Center for Social and Decision Neuroscience Leadership Chair, said, “The testosterone is either inhibiting the process of mentally checking your work or increasing the intuitive feeling that ‘I’m definitely right.'”

So what does this mean? It means that higher levels testosterone might cause guys to go with their gut feelings instead of thinking things out in a more logical, step by step process. They truly think that this gut instinct is correct, which is why they have trouble admitting they’re wrong, even if they are. I’m not saying this research gives men an excuse to be stubborn AF, but it’s definitely interesting to learn that they might have hormones that make them feel this way. This way of thinking can also cause guys to be overly confident, as testosterone is believed to have an effect on increasing confidence.

So, yeah, this hormone could be making guys think they are a lot better than they are, which can get… frustrating. It might also explain why guys never really understand why their girlfriends get mad when they mess up. The fact of the matter is that they don’t realize they are messing up, or they do, but not until much later. Again, it’s certainly not an excuse, but it definitely is something to think about, especially if a guy is, for any reason, getting more testosterone than usual. Throw this fact out the next time some dude is swearing you’re wrong, if you’re feeling brave.

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2017/05/03/heres-why-guys-dont-ever-admit-to-being-wrong-relationship-studies/feed/011 Popular TV Boyfriends That Are Problematic AFhttp://www.gurl.com/2016/11/19/problematic-tv-boyfriends-gilmore-girls-the-oc/
http://www.gurl.com/2016/11/19/problematic-tv-boyfriends-gilmore-girls-the-oc/#respondSat, 19 Nov 2016 18:00:49 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=250441There are a few good TV boyfriends out there: Seth Cohen from The OC, Ben Wyatt from Parks And Rec, Tim Riggins from Friday Night Lights (well, kind of). But what about all your fave TV boyfriends who are actually problematic? You know, the ones who are cute and ~dreamy~ but actually say and do dumb stuff? What … Read More

]]>There are a few good TV boyfriends out there: Seth Cohen from The OC, Ben Wyatt from Parks And Rec, Tim Riggins from Friday Night Lights (well, kind of). But what about all your fave TV boyfriends who are actually problematic? You know, the ones who are cute and ~dreamy~ but actually say and do dumb stuff? What does it even mean to be problematic? Let me break it down for you: a problematic boyfriend isn’t necessarily an abusive boyfriend, but he can make some stupid decisions, like punch people or start fights for no reason, and that makes them problematic. You want to love him, and most of the time you do, but every once in a while, your favorite TV boyfriend will do something so stupid, you have to label him as your #ProblematicFave.

There’s nothing wrong with having a problematic fave, as long as you are aware that some of their actions are a little unacceptable. Sure, Ezra from Pretty Little Liars is cute, but you have to realize that there is no WAY you should ever date a teacher IRL. So, next time you watch your favorite TV show, you might have to realize it’s time to stop idolizing boys who are actually pretty sucky. Here are some examples of TV boyfriends everybody loves, even though they can be awful:

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Jess From Gilmore Girls

As much as I LOVE Jess, I will be the first to admit he was not a good boyfriend to Rory, and he was definitely a problematic guy in general. I know he was just a teenager, but his immaturity led him to be a pretty shady guy. He would constantly abandon people in his life, especially Rory. Even though he does get a little bit better as he ages, we shouldn't be head over heels for a guy who constantly steals things and gets into fist fights.

Jim From The Office

More specifically, Jim from season nine. In the beginning, Jim is a kind and caring dude, but later on, after he and Pam are married with kids, he begins to make important life decisions without Pam, and then getting mad at her for getting mad at him. In a way, he was gas-lighting Pam when he was the one who messed up. He doesn't take responsibilities for his actions, which makes him not only problematic, but annoying AF. He's still super cute, though.

Barney From How I Met Your Mother

You guys saw this coming, right? Everyone praises Barney for being the funny and charming one, when he was actually suuuuuper problematic. For one, he basically conned Robin, his wife, into marrying him. That is not okay on so many levels. Two, he was a terrible friend to the rest of the group and constantly put them down and criticized them.

Chuck From Gossip Girl

This one is pretty obvious. Everybody LOVES Chuck, but nobody loves to talk about how manipulative and problematic he is. Well, let me just say, he is extremely manipulative and problematic. Not only does he attempt to rape Jenny in season one, he also uses his money and power to manipulate girls (mainly Blair) into falling for him. That actually is abusive.

Dan From Gossip Girl

Before you start yelling at me for this one, you have to realize that Dan was lying about who he was the ENTIRE series. As it turns out *spoiler alert* he was the infamous Gossip Girl, which means he was spreading gossip and personal information about his friends for years, which makes him the definition of a problematic fave. High school, am I right?

Dean From Gilmore Girls

I mean, where do I begin. Dean seemed to get a pass for so many things because he was the "wholesome boy-next-door" even though he was anything but that. He was constantly putting Rory down and even cheats on his wife in season four to be with Rory. There is nothing wholesome about that, TBH. Sure, he was always there for her, but in a weird and sort of stalkerish way. Why do people even like him??

Craig From Degrassi

If you were an early Degrassi-watcher (I'm talking season two to eight) then odds are you had a crush on Craig. Maybe you didn't, but I sure did. It wasn't until I recently rewatched the show that I realized that Craig is actually a super shady guy. He had a tough life, he was abused by his dad and his mother died, but that doesn't excuse the way he treated his girlfriends on the show. He would constantly cheat on them, then leave them, then come back. It was like a vicious cycle and he kept doing it. He strung girls along like it was his JOB.

Ezra From Pretty Little Liars

You guys understand why he is problematic, right?? He pursued a relationship with an underage girl, even after he found out she was his STUDENT. Not to mention the fact that he was lying about knowing all of the girls and stalking them for years, and he's STILL a fan favorite. Come on.

Ryan From The OC

Another fave of mine who, unfortunately, is a problematic "bad boy." Sure, he never does anything outright terrible to his girlfriends, but that doesn't mean he's totally pure and wholesome. Whenever anything slightly inconvenient happens, Ryan is out there punching people left and right. He said it was to "defend" his on again/off again girlfriend Marissa but let's be real, he had a lot of pent up anger that he really should have addressed in a better way. Therapy, perhaps?

Spike From Buffy The Vampire Slayer

Although he was a villain in the earlier seasons, Spike quickly became a fan favorite (probably because of his British accent). But, fans often tend to overlook how violent and abusive he was towards everyone he ever dated. I mean, he tried to force himself on Buffy, but people so often shrug it off. That's not something to shrug off!

Nathan From One Tree Hill

Okay, Nathan goes through a lot during the series, but that doesn't really excuse him for being a bit of a jerk. He only dates Haley to get make Lucas jealous, which is dumb on so many levels. Eventually, he married Haley and they also become #RelationshipGoals couple, but his violent and competitive qualities don't go away. Anyone remember when he threw a piano against a wall? Or is that just me?

Which of these boys is your problematic fave? Tell us in the comments!

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2016/11/19/problematic-tv-boyfriends-gilmore-girls-the-oc/feed/020 Perfect Tumblr Posts About What It’s Like When You’re Single And Your Best Friend Isn’thttp://www.gurl.com/2016/07/06/funny-tumblr-posts-what-it-is-like-when-you-are-single-and-your-best-friend-is-in-a-relationship/
http://www.gurl.com/2016/07/06/funny-tumblr-posts-what-it-is-like-when-you-are-single-and-your-best-friend-is-in-a-relationship/#respondWed, 06 Jul 2016 20:15:20 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=227306It’s reality that your best friend is going to be in a relationship at some point when you’re single. Just like it is highly likely that she is going to be single when you have a SO. It’s just the way it works. Even if you’re twinning with your bestie for most of the time, … Read More

]]>It’s reality that your best friend is going to be in a relationship at some point when you’re single. Just like it is highly likely that she is going to be single when you have a SO. It’s just the way it works. Even if you’re twinning with your bestie for most of the time, you cannot twin with your relationship status. Face it, it would be a bit weird if you and your BFF broke up with different people on the same day, then decided to ~*make it official*~ with two other people on another day.

It isn’t so bad if you’re the one in the relationship and your best friend is single, because you swear to yourself that you’re going to dedicate a good amount of time to both your bestie and your bae. However, it always seems different when the situation is reversed. Your best friend probably swore the same thing, but when you’re the single AF friend, you always seem to feel like your best friend is never quite there 100 percent of the time for you. When you’re used to being on Snapchat for hours with your bestie and spending endless afternoons lounging in her bedroom and it suddenly stops, it can be difficult. I get it. Even if you want your best friend to be happy and you actually approve of her relationship, it doesn’t make things easier on you. If you’re feeling like you’ve been ditched, don’t worry, you’re not alone. These 20 Tumblr posts get what it is like to be a single sister:

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2016/07/06/funny-tumblr-posts-what-it-is-like-when-you-are-single-and-your-best-friend-is-in-a-relationship/feed/012 Attractive Male Fictional TV Characters Who Would Actually Be The Worst Boyfriends Everhttp://www.gurl.com/2014/12/31/attractive-male-fictional-tv-characters-who-would-be-worst-boyfriends-ever/
http://www.gurl.com/2014/12/31/attractive-male-fictional-tv-characters-who-would-be-worst-boyfriends-ever/#respondWed, 31 Dec 2014 19:15:54 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=166867When you’re watching a TV show and feel immersed in the fictional world, the characters always seem like they would be amazing to date. They always say and do the right thing, and even when they don’t, they come off as adorable, quirky, and charming. This is especially true when it comes to male characters. … Read More

]]>When you’re watching a TV show and feel immersed in the fictional world, the characters always seem like they would be amazing to date. They always say and do the right thing, and even when they don’t, they come off as adorable, quirky, and charming. This is especially true when it comes to male characters. They are always wonderful, no matter what their personalities are, and they always make great boyfriends.

But the truth is, even though they seem perfect, most of them really wouldn’t be in real life. Think about your favorite male TV character, and then honestly think about what he would be like in real life. Or, just read this. This Reddit thread on fictional characters who would be terrible to really date is awesome. Here are 12 attractive male TV characters who would be the worst boyfriends ever.

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Nick Miller

fashunkilla: Nick Miller from New Girl...it's quirky/funny to watch him be so cheap and brash but in real life...

Nick is one of my favorite fictional characters ever. But as a boyfriend? Nooooo way. He would be the worst!!!

Danny Castellano from The Mindy Project

Queen_Elizabitch: Danny Castellano from The Mindy Project would be way too Type-A for me, I can't imagine that him and Mindy would make it in real life.

Oh yeah, I could never see that relationship actually working out. Danny is cute, but I would never date him. He's way too freaked out about everything.

Sheldon Cooper from The Big Bang Theory

JustKeepSwimmingDory: Sheldon Cooper (yeah, I have a weird crush on Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory; sue me) would be a nightmare to date for obvious reasons. I wouldn't want to wait for so long for him to hold hands with me lol. Amy is a saint.

From the little bit I've seen of this show, I can't imagine how anyone could date Sheldon.

Basically Every Guy In Supernatural

RashaGirl: Sam, Dean, or Cas from Supernatural. They are strong, independent, intelligent, funny, care for the people they love, do good, and they are really, really hot. But, if you date them, there is a very high chance of death.

Hm. I really need to start watching this show.

Jesse Pinkman from Breaking Bad

noname725: Jesse Pinkman. Like, he's one of my favorite fictional characters and I connected to him and felt for him so much while watching Breaking Bad, but I'd stay far away if I knew him IRL. He's kind of a mess.

Jesse is so cute and he means well.. most of the time. But he would be the worst boyfriend because he has zero control over his life. No thanks.

The Doctor from Doctor Who

RositaYouBitch: The Doctor from Doctor Who. All of his incarnations since the reboot have been cute/sexy plus, adventure, travel, excitement. But trying to get him to settle down and have a nice dinner and conversation would be like trying to wrangle cats.

I've never watched this show, but wrangling cats sounds pretty bad to me.

Elija Mikaelson from Vampire Diaries

Andy Dwyer from Parks and Recreation

thumper5: Andy Dwyer from Parks and Recreation is so sweet and endearing (not to mention incredibly hot), but he'd probably drive me totally crazy if I dated him in real life. His goofiness makes for a wonderful character and good television, but he's just so airheaded.

Andy is a sweetheart, but yeah... no. I would never, ever date him in a million years. He is a literal man-child.

Jax Teller from Sons of Anarchy

nbianca92: Jax Teller (Charlie Hunnam) from Sons of Anarchy. The whole bad boy/biker thing is super appealing but if I had to deal with the constant fear of something bad happening to him, myself, or our family and friends I would go crazy.

I've never watched this show, but yeah... this seems accurate.

Marshall from How I Met Your Mother

WorldStopCarryOn: I actually think Marshall from HIMYM would be terrible. In the context of a sitcom and within a group of messed up people, he seems sweet. But he's sort of a manchild and his family would suffocate you.

I don't like this show, but oof, Marshall sounds awful.

Dr. Gregory House from House

I-EAT-MY-OWN-POOP: House. He'd be all jerk-like but smart, and my friends would tell me he was an addict and that I should dump him but I wouldn't. Because he just needs the love of a good woman to make him change.

Yeah... just seems like a bad idea.

Don Draper from Mad Men

fauxkaren: Don Draper. Jon Hamm is sexy but Don is a disaster of a human being.

Don is the WORSTTTTT. He makes me hate all fictional men with a passion that cannot be healthy.

Which of these characters are you the most attracted to? Which one would you want to date? Which do you disagree with? Who did we forget? Tell me in the comments.

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/12/31/attractive-male-fictional-tv-characters-who-would-be-worst-boyfriends-ever/feed/0Quiz: What Type Of Guy/Girl Are You Into?http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/26/quiz-what-type-of-guy-or-girl-are-you-into/
http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/26/quiz-what-type-of-guy-or-girl-are-you-into/#commentsWed, 26 Mar 2014 22:00:40 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=138639We don’t all have a type, but a lot of us definitely do. I know that I definitely go for creative types who are probably big ol’ music snobs. Oh, and they’ll definitely show off how much they know for good measure. Insert a dreamy sigh here. But I have plenty of friends who are … Read More

We don’t all have a type, but a lot of us definitely do. I know that I definitely go for creative types who are probably big ol’ music snobs. Oh, and they’ll definitely show off how much they know for good measure. Insert a dreamy sigh here.

But I have plenty of friends who are way into sporty girls or shy, bookworm boys.

If you’ve never been able to pin down exactly what type of guy or gal you’re into, check out this quiz and find out what type you gravitate towards. The results might surprise you!

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/26/quiz-what-type-of-guy-or-girl-are-you-into/feed/1I Didn’t Have A Boyfriend In High School And It Wasn’t The End Of The Worldhttp://www.gurl.com/2014/03/04/i-didnt-have-a-boyfriend-in-high-school/
http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/04/i-didnt-have-a-boyfriend-in-high-school/#commentsTue, 04 Mar 2014 22:32:23 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=136227Repeat after me: It’s okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school. It’s okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school. It’s okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school. Oh, and by the way, it’s really, truly, absolutely one-hundred percent okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in … Read More

Don’t have a high school BF? It’s not the end of the world. Seriously. | Source: Clueless/Paramount

Repeat after me: It’s okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school.

It’s okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school.

It’s okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school.

Oh, and by the way, it’s really, truly, absolutely one-hundred percent okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school. But it’s hard to believe that when it seems that every girl on earth–well, the straight ones–has at least one boyfriend within that formative four years time span.

It was hard not to believe that that was the norm when I started reading teen magazines like Seventeen, YM (RIP) and others on a regular basis. I read (and never retained) all the makeup tips even though I barely wore makeup until college. I ate up all of those tragic stories about pregnant high school class presidents, bulimic prom queens and disabled cheer captains. I even pretended to care about the life of the bland cover girl from some new TV show who graced the magazine’s centerfold. But it was the sheer number of questions and tips and advice about boyfriends and sex that truly left me feeling disconnected.

Of course, we offer all of that an more here at Gurl, too. But even as a writer the 16-year-old part of myself that is still locked away inside my 23-year-old body can’t help but scoff, “This isn’t relevant to my life at all.” And it’s true, it wasn’t. I had friends who were boys, but I never had a boyfriend. I suppose I felt a little left out sometimes, like I was missing out on some essential part of my life as a teen, which is silly. But for the most part I didn’t really care. I wasn’t losing sleep over the lack of boy drama in my life because I was too busy hearing about everyone else’s.

Just know that there are a lot more of you out there than you think and there’s nothing bizarre about it at all. Seriously, you’d be surprised by how many other girls leave high school without a single date or kiss or significant other. You’re not some romantically inept loser just because you don’t have a guy in your life and the people who do have a boyfriend in high school aren’t experts at the game of love by default either. They’re not more of a real teen than you are just because their love life is the closest anyone will ever come to a cheesy love-triangle on your favorite CW drama.

Everything happens at different stages for different people and it has no bearing on your maturity. The day that the legitimacy of the so-called best years of your life rests on whether or not you made out with that cute dude in your 10th grade chemistry class or had a prom date is the day that I officially give up on the universe. But no worries, that day isn’t going to come.

So remember, it’s okay if you don’t have a boyfriend in high school. Your worth and your experiences aren’t dependent on your relationship status when you’re a teenager.

Do you/did you care about having a relationship in high school? Has anyone ever made you feel like a weirdo for not having a boyfriend? Tell us in the comments!

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/03/04/i-didnt-have-a-boyfriend-in-high-school/feed/11Which Of These 20 Harry Potter Characters Would Be The Best And Worst Boyfriends?http://www.gurl.com/2014/01/31/which-harry-potter-characters-would-be-good-bad-boyfriends/
http://www.gurl.com/2014/01/31/which-harry-potter-characters-would-be-good-bad-boyfriends/#commentsFri, 31 Jan 2014 17:53:40 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=133187Harry Potter was definitely the most important, formative pop culture phenomenon that I’ve ever come into contact with. I could really wax poetic about this and how emotionally invested I am in this series and its fandom…but I won’t because I’m not here to write an essay. I’m here to talk about which Harry Potter … Read More

]]>Harry Potter was definitely the most important, formative pop culture phenomenon that I’ve ever come into contact with. I could really wax poetic about this and how emotionally invested I am in this series and its fandom…but I won’t because I’m not here to write an essay.

I’m here to talk about which Harry Potter characters would be good boyfriends.

Yeah, in this post I’m focusing on the men of Harry Potter. There are plenty of them, including our main protagonist, of course. I love so so many of the male characters in this series; the besties like Harry and Ron and even the enemies like James and Snape. But which ones would be good boyfriends? I’ve ranked 18 wizards from best to worst based on their pros and cons. Do you agree with the order? Well, it’s time to find out!

And don’t worry, an edition dedicated to the ladies is coming up soon!

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Dean Thomas

Pros: Solid guy with a good head on his shoulders. Great artist and a loyal friend with a lot of heart. I mean, he was kidnapped by Death Eaters and lived to tell the tale so this kid has guts and thinks positively. He's sort of the whole package, you know? Also, tall.

Cons: Total babe magnet so you'll probably have to fight for him.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Neville Longbottom

Pros: He's quiet and a little--okay, very--awkward, but he has a lot of spirit and will definitely treat you with respect.

Cons: A little too timid for his own good sometimes. He can be a bit of a doormat, but it could be a lot worse. Also, he probably smells like dirt because of his love of Herbology.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Fred And George Weasley

Pros: Funny and loving, always got your back and they'll always know just how to cheer you up.

Cons: It will probably feel like you're dating both of them even if you're just dating one.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Cedric Diggory

Pros: Cute and a quidditch captain who was actually pretty damn humble. He wasn't a jerk to Harry during the Triwizard Tournament while everyone else on the planet was.

Cons: Will accidentally die for you.

Remus Lupin

Pros: Empathetic and caring. He's also incredibly patient and he'll help you out whenever he can.

Cons: Will temporarily abandon you when you're pregnant because of reasons and feelings.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Oliver Wood

Pros: Confident and talented, probably has nice arms.

Cons: He will probably get overly emotionally invested in a simple game of Scrabble and will throw a tantrum if he loses.

Ron Weasley

Pros: He's delightfully...typical. Yeah, he's sort of just an everyday, average straight dude. But he also has a good sense of humor and he'll defend you like no other. Seriously, if anyone messes with you, Ron will definitely give 'em a piece of his mind.

Cons: Really, really petty and he has a serious inferiority complex. Maybe he'll grow out of it, but it really makes itself known in some nasty ways.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Seamus Finnegan

Pros: High spirited. Irish.

Cons: Might be a bit of a mama's boy and will seriously listen to anything that comes out of her mouth if it's said with enough conviction. That's why he and Harry were at odds with each other after Voldemort came back. Seamus was in denial and it was so annoying.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Harry Potter

Pros: Brave and loving with a great sense of humor. Seriously, Harry's snark isn't appreciated enough.

Cons: Emotional roller coaster. It's not like that's unfounded or anything, but he's definitely volatile. He'll also have absolutely no idea as to how to cheer you up if you're a sobbing mess. He'd probably grimace, pat you on the back and leave the room.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Hagrid

Pros: Sweet and means well. He'll always stand up for you and he never backs down. Cute dog.

Cons: He's gigantic and might squash you to death if you're sharing the same bed. If not, he'll probably find some other way to make your life pretty hectic. He'd probably give you a man-eating spider as a pet and be really confused as to why you aren't feelin' it.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

James Potter

Pros: He'll seriously defend you 'til the very end. He's incredibly loyal, smart and brave. This is a guy who will take a bullet for you and generally has a pretty good head on his shoulders.

Cons: Immature jackass; might bully your best friend.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Professor Slughorn

Pros: He could totally get you into the coolest parties, offer you some brilliant professional connections. Also, he can turn into a couch so maybe that could come in handy from time to time.

Cons: He will drop you as soon as he decides you're not interesting enough for him. Also, he'll probably be stingy about sharing his sweets.

Blaise Zabini

Cons: Probably thinks he's better than you and isn't very good at being empathetic. Probably takes a billion years to respond to texts.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Sirius Black

Pros: Handsome, charming and owns a damn motorcycle. Of course, the handsomeness and the motorcycle bit was all before he was locked up in prison for 12 years, but he still had his charm! He's also incredibly loyal and brave, almost to a fault.

Cons: I know this is controversial but hear me out: Sirius Black would be the worst boyfriend of all time. He probably doesn't bother with foreplay and will get bored of you really easily. He's awesome, seriously--no pun intended--but he is not someone who would be committed to a long-term relationship.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Draco Malfoy

Pros: He has a lot of money and will probably buy you dope jewelry.

Cons: Bigoted like his dad, just more of a cry baby about it. Probably hates all of your friends.

Source: Harry Potter/Warner Bros.

Lucius Malfoy

Pros: Has silky hair and a lot of money.

Cons: Papa Bigot who will probably think you're a disappointment. Not a good look. Also, his hair will always look better than yours.

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2014/01/31/which-harry-potter-characters-would-be-good-bad-boyfriends/feed/667 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Change The Way You Dress To Please A Guyhttp://www.gurl.com/2013/10/10/reasons-why-you-shouldnt-let-a-guy-boyfriend-pick-your-clothes/
http://www.gurl.com/2013/10/10/reasons-why-you-shouldnt-let-a-guy-boyfriend-pick-your-clothes/#commentsThu, 10 Oct 2013 22:35:11 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=125014Whenever I see articles rounding up the things that straight dudes hate or love to see women wearing, I can’t help but wonder two things: One, why the hell I’m supposed to care about some bro hating maxi dresses and two, are there are actually girls out there who listen to that crap? Unfortunately, lot’s … Read More

]]>Whenever I see articles rounding up the things that straight dudes hate or love to see women wearing, I can’t help but wonder two things: One, why the hell I’m supposed to care about some bro hating maxi dresses and two, are there are actually girls out there who listen to that crap? Unfortunately, lot’s of girls end up altering the way they dress to please their boyfriends or their crushes and, if you ask me, that’s not a good idea.

Doesn’t our society encourage straight girls to do enough tiring, exhausting things to make sure that straight dudes are attracted to them? I know that there are a ton of things that I had to unlearn because I realized that I was changing my behavior to impress a guy and it didn’t even work! And, newsflash, it usually doesn’t. And yet, some of us start second guessing our decision to wear certain things because we heard that guys don’t think that it’s hot? And some girls have boyfriends who think that they dress too hot and make them cover up! Ugh!

Here are seven reasons why you shouldn’t change the way you dress just to please a guy. Honestly, who has the time or patience for that anyway?

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You're Not Being You

Some of you might recall an episode of Daria where Jane ends up dating this guy who has a love for vintage fashion. She ends up having an appreciation for that look too, until she realizes that her new flame is so image conscious that he wants her to wear her impecable 1940s wardrobe all the time. He even cringes when she mentions that she owns sweatpants! What a dbag. In the end, if somebody is only attracted to you when you dress the way they want you to dress, they're a jerk who isn't worth your time!

Source: Daria/MTV

You Aren't A Play Thing!

You aren't somebody's toy! If this guy wants to decide what a woman should wear, he can go buy a doll and pick out some outfits for her to wear. I hear that Barbie has a great astronaut outfit.

It's Much More Fun To Dress For Yourself

Personal style is a beautiful thing! It's also really fun! I get inspiration from people I admire, random style posts on Tumblr or even people I see on the subway. The idea of dressing the way that somebody else wants just so it can please them makes me want to vom.

Source: Skins/E4

If You're Going To Dress To Impress Anyone, Do It For People Who Already Love Your Style

My friends and I are always bouncing style ideas off of each other all the time. I usually always dress for myself, but I'm not going to lie and act as if I don't wear things that I know my friends will love. If you're to dress for anybody, do it for your friends who actually appreciate your style!

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It's A Slippery Slope

I don't mean to get too grim here, but you have to ask yourself where to draw the line. If you dress the way that your boyfriend wants you to, what else are you going to do to keep him satisfied? A control freak who tells you what you should and shouldn't wear is going to be a control freak about other things, too! Relationships are a two-way street. Don't let one person be in control of something that is so personal.

Source: Degrassi/Teen Nick

It's Not Worth The Effort

Aren't there enough things we do everyday to please other people? Our clothes are one of the most noticeable things we have control over. Self-expression is a beautiful thing, and having somebody else control that sucks, especially if it is somebody who you care for.

What Do They Know Anyway?

Okay, there are plenty of stylish guys out there and there are plenty of girls out there who don't give a damn about style whatsoever. That's all totally fine. But come on, how many times have you heard guys say that they love a woman who looks natural only to discover that their idea of looking natural is actually a woman wearing foundation, pressed powder, eyeliner, a little blush and some lip gloss? Like many of us, lots of guys fall for the idea that airbrushed beauties in magazines are real and they look to that as an ideal. That doesn't mean that your look has to conform to that, though!

What are some of the dumbest things you’ve heard guys say that women should or shouldn’t wear? Have you ever worn something that you don’t like just because a guy you were into liked it? Tell us in the comments!

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2013/10/10/reasons-why-you-shouldnt-let-a-guy-boyfriend-pick-your-clothes/feed/710 Of The Worst TV Boyfriends Everhttp://www.gurl.com/2013/10/10/worst-tv-show-boyfriends-characters-ever/
http://www.gurl.com/2013/10/10/worst-tv-show-boyfriends-characters-ever/#commentsThu, 10 Oct 2013 20:00:40 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=124885Just like in real life, there are a lot of bad boyfriends to be found on our favorite TV shows. After all, how would some of our favorite characters ever grow and develop without going through some truly terrible relationships? I’m just not sure. While there are some bad TV boyfriends out there who deserve … Read More

]]>Just like in real life, there are a lot of bad boyfriends to be found on our favorite TV shows. After all, how would some of our favorite characters ever grow and develop without going through some truly terrible relationships? I’m just not sure.

While there are some bad TV boyfriends out there who deserve the benefit of the doubt, there are more that are just basically the worst. You should seriously thank a higher power that these dudes don’t exist in real life, except, of course, versions of them probably do. Bummer. Anyway, here are 10 of the worst TV boyfriends of all time so you can avoid these kinds of people in real life.

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Logan from Gilmore Girls

Anyone who watched the entirety of Gilmore Girls will tell you that Logan is the worst. He basically ruined Rory. He was a huge reason behind why Lorelai and Rory stopped talking, not to mention all of the other problems he caused in Rory's life. Remember when he lied to her about the bridesmaid? When he was a total jerk to her friend Marty? When he bought her that Birkin bag and you were like UGH that is so not Rory you don't know her AT ALL. Then he proposed? Ugh, Logan. So selfish, so full of himself, so annoying.

Tony from Skins

As Ashley , our resident lover of Skins says: "Tony thought it would be funny to fool his best friend and didn’t have a problem with cheating on his girlfriend because he figured she’d still want him anyway. Because he’s an arrogant jerk. He’s just a master manipulator!"

Nick from Freaks and Geeks

I don't want to sound mean, but here goes: what made Nick one of the worst boyfriends ever was that he was just way too in love with Lindsey. He was needy and desperate and sort of demanding and wanted to be with her all the time... he was just annoying and clingy. It was too much! Nick needed to relax and give Lindsey some space instead of smothering her.

Ezra from Pretty Little Liars

Spoiler alert for those who haven't seen all of Pretty Little Liars! Okay, so I know everyone loves Ezra and ships Ezria, but seriously guys, Ezra is NOT a good boyfriend. Let's ignore the fact that he's probably A for a minute and focus on the fact that Ezra is Aria's teacher and has no business having sex with her or hanging with her and her friends. It's actually really creepy and weird and illegal. And if he really is A like the last season finale said? He's a liar and he betrayed us all and I will never forgive him even though I KNEW IT.

Jordan from My So-Called Life

Jordan, with his on-again/off-again relationship with Angela, was so wishy-washy. He was totally emotionally unavailable and, even if he didn't really mean to be, kind of a jerk. He played with her feelings (not to mention the fans!). Plus, he wasn't the brightest TV character ever... and he was a high school kid in a band. We all know what that means.

Schmidt from New Girl

Again, spoiler alert if you're not caught up with New Girl! I LOVE Schmidt so much that I'd say he's one of my favorite TV characters ever. But he also has a long way to go before he's boyfriend material. First, Schmidt is this total player. Then he gets Cece and dumps her because he feels like she thinks she's too good for him. What is that?! THEN he dates Elizabeth and Cece at the same time after spending so much time trying to win Cece back. Come on, dude. What is wrong with you?!

Dan from Gossip Girl

To be honest, all of the guys on Gossip Girl were sort of the worst, but let's go with Dan since he was just basically the worst character on the show. Dan was a little too obsessive with Serena and then throughout the entire show he was just whiney, annoying, pretentious and ridiculous. Also, he dated Serena's best friend. WTF?! Oh and he was Gossip Girl sooo basically he totally deceived everybody.

Mr. Big from Sex and the City

If you've ever watched Sex and the City, you've probably swooned over Mr. Big like the majority of viewers of this show. But, guys, Mr. Big is actually terrible! When he wasn't stringing Carrie along because he just wanted to do whatever he wanted and be completely selfish, he was disappearing for months at a time. And then he would just swoop back in and expect everything to go back to normal. This is a BAD relationship. Not something you should want for yourself!

Dawson from Dawson's Creek

Dawson was sort of like Nick from Freaks and Geeks - whiney, needy, way too emotional and clingy. He was just... I don't know, too much to deal with. Also, he couldn't choose between Joey or Pacey! Not cool.

Ryan from The Office

Ryan literally might be the worst boyfriend in the entire world. Seriously. He does not care about Kelly at all. I don't even know why he pretends to be her boyfriend or why she just accepts it. I mean, I know but still. Ryan is so full of himself, thinks he's so cool and is just completely clueless.

]]>http://www.gurl.com/2013/10/10/worst-tv-show-boyfriends-characters-ever/feed/10The Worst Relationship Advice Ever: 10 Tips You Should Ignorehttp://www.gurl.com/2013/09/07/worst-bad-relationship-advice-tips-rules/
http://www.gurl.com/2013/09/07/worst-bad-relationship-advice-tips-rules/#commentsSat, 07 Sep 2013 23:00:33 +0000http://www.gurl.com/?p=122393There is a lot of really great relationship advice out there (a lot of it is on Gurl.com… wink wink!). I’ve had people give me so many tips that I feel have really helped me in my dating experiences – in fact, I don’t know where I would be without some of the awesome advice … Read More

]]>There is a lot of really great relationship advice out there (a lot of it is on Gurl.com… wink wink!). I’ve had people give me so many tips that I feel have really helped me in my dating experiences – in fact, I don’t know where I would be without some of the awesome advice I’ve heard. But at the same time, there is also a ton of bad relationship advice out there, stuff you should seriously always ignore.

I’m not talking about old-fashioned dating tips, like things that are sexist and out-dated. I’m talking about relationship advice you might be hearing right now, whether it’s in the form of a popular quote, taken out of a magazine or online or told you to by your parents. There are just some tips that make no sense… and following them might actually hurt your relationship and you. So, here is some are 10 of the worst pieces of relationship advice I’ve ever heard. Check ’em out so you don’t make the mistake of thinking they’re correct.

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Love Conquers All

This sounds very sweet and romantic, but - and I hate to break it you - it's not true. This very famous quote is basically saying that if you love somebody, you should put up with everything they do and learn to deal with the bad stuff - because you're in love, it's fine. That's not a great way to look at a relationship. Simply loving somebody is not always enough. There are a lot of other important factors to consider. It also implies that any problem you and your boo have will be fixed because you're in love... but that's wrong. Relationships take work no matter how much you love each other.

Look Through His Stuff If You Don't Trust Him

I've seen a lot of you girls encouraging other girls to look through their boyfriend's phones or Facebook messages if you think he's doing something wrong. This is actually terrible advice. Invading your BF's privacy and being really sneaky about it is not the way to get to the bottom of things. If you think your BF is cheating or doing the wrong thing, ask him. If you still don't believe him or just can't trust him, you shouldn't be dating him, plain and simple. Snooping through his stuff isn't right and will probably only cause more problems.

Get Revenge

Once when I got dumped, one of my good friends encouraged me to get revenge on him - and a lot of people I spoke to agreed that it would be a good idea. Hollywood makes getting revenge seem exciting, dangerous, kind of sexy and awesome - and also really easy. In reality, getting revenge never really works out the way you want it to and often comes off as immature and petty. Instead of doing something mean to get revenge, try ignoring the person and moving on - showing him you don't care is the absolute best revenge.

Always Listen To Your Friends

While it's very important to hear what your friends have to say, it's not necessary to always listen to them. Your friends are not always right! They don't always give the best relationship advice. Yes, sometimes it's important to listen to them, but not every single time.

Honesty Is Always The Best Policy

Before you tell me I'm wrong, hear me out: In general, you should be honest with your boyfriend. You shouldn't lie to him about big stuff (like stuff like this), but that doesn't mean you need to be completely honest 100 percent of the time. Believe it or not, there are things that it's okay to lie to your boyfriend about. Seriously.

Date Someone Who Has Money

No joke, I've heard a few people say this - but no matter how many times it happens, it never stops being horrible. Sure, I guess it would be nice to date someone with a lot of money to spare, but money should never be the most important aspect of a relationship - even saying that is ridiculous!

Everyone Deserves A Second Chance

No, they don't. Of course, there are plenty of instances when someone deserves a second chance - but there are also plenty of instances when it's best to cut your losses and walk away. If a guy is abusive in anyway, you don't need to give him another chance, no matter how much he begs. And, you know what, it doesn't even matter what he does - if you don't want to give out a second chance, you don't have to!

Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder

I've heard people say this about taking a break or breakups - but sadly, it's not always true. There are definitely some cases where a break makes people realize what they truly miss, but there are just as many cases where a break makes people grow apart for good. If you're having problems with your BF, don't assume a little time apart will always fix everything.

Never Go To Sleep Angry

A friend used to tell me this all the time. I hate going to sleep angry, so I used to swear by this, but recently I discovered you don't always need to. Sometimes when you get in a fight with your BF, you guys just need a little time to cool off before you can make up. So, sometimes it's actually better to sleep on things - in the morning, you might wake up with a new realization.

A Little Stalking Is Okay

Seriously, I once had a friend encourage me to stalk my boyfriend. Okay, no, a few friends. His phone had died and I couldn't get in touch with him and she was encouraging me to find out where his friends lived and drive by their houses until I found him. Girls, NEVER DO THIS. Stalking is creepy and weird and will totally push your BF away.