I, myself, could never love someone who didnt understand me or my beleifs.

I agree with my roommate and friend of course, I just like saying roommate.

That is why it is so hard for me to find a "girlfriend." I haven't dated anyone in YEARS, mainly due to the fact that there just aren't very many vegans I bump into at work, around town, or just day to day.

It is so cool that there are vegan communities online like this and of course we do end up meeting in person and hanging out like many did last summer in the UK and many will do this summer in the Caribbean and some will do soon over at Daywalker's house and of course out here in Oregon too.

Finding that "right" person can be tough. I know there are lots of things you have to "compromise" and all that "give and take" and stuff like that but I certainly don't think you have to just "settle" for something or someone that isn't on the same page as you concerning something as important as a vegan lifestyle.

If I made a list of threads I've been thinking about posting this would be it... or at least where this one's gone... Relationships with non-vegetarians/vegans...

I've drawn a line at vegetarian or better if it's someone who is going to be a significant part of my life. But that isn't very frequent it seems. And vegan... well that's even less frequent now isn't it...

I dunno where I'm going with this rambling. But I'm glad this topic came up

At least he's made an attempt....I think that shows there is hope for him. Maybe it's just a harder transition for some than others. Sounds like he hasn't adapted to ignoring the societal pressures to eat meat. In my observations, it's harder for guys than girls - what I mean by that is, it seems like there are a lot of men out there that almost expect girls to be at least vegetarian, and they just write it off as a girl thing without consideration....but for a guy to be vegetarian or vegan, that catches attention and makes him not 'just one of the boys'. Has anyone else noticed that? I don't mean among other veg's obviously, but around the standard population.

So far in my dating history, the boy I loved the most was nicknamed Beefy because of his eating habits....we were an odd pair. He's since changed a lot and no longer eats beef, though he's not a vegetarian. Maybe someday.
After him there was the boy that said at the beginning of our 3 years together that he'd give vegetarianism a shot, but didn't until 9 mos. after we broke up and he wanted to impress another vegetarian girl...I stopped talking to him so I don't know how that turned out.
And most recently, the boy that I 'like' is vegan friendly, and will eat vegan around me. He even went vegan earlier this year for several months but then slipped back into the meat habit. He says he thinks he could go back to vegan, but I don't know what would motivate him to do so. It certainly wouldn't be interest in me since he's just playing me! He does seem to brag about my veganism to others though, which is weird.

Anyway, the point of that is, so far you're doing better than I (or Robert or Topher for that matter) at finding a match, just keep at him. Don't let him be a hypocrite, that's even worse just eating meat.

Good luck!!!!!

Standing on a hill in my mountain of dreams,
telling myself it's not as hard, hard, hard as it seems.

veggymeggy wrote:Don't let him be a hypocrite, that's even worse just eating meat.

I think eating meat is some hefty bullshit, and being a hypocrite is just lame. Hefty bullshit is higher up the scale of crap than just lameness in my opinion.

The more I think about it, the more I think that dating for me is just not possible. I am judgemental of so many things that most people seem to think are 'okay'. There certainly is no way I would date a non-vegan. I can't tolerate vegetarianism anymore, and my feelings about animal cruelty just get stronger and stronger, and people making excuses just make me sick. I won't consider dating a meat-eater even if they say "huhhhhuhh I like animals I just uhhh uhhhhhh" etc, I spit on that. I think I could only date someone who was about as 'strict' as me, or more strict who I would presumably learn from.

Aaron wrote:I always wondered if I travelled to somewhere fun if I'd run into someone who looks exactly like me.

That'd be fun.

No, that would suck!

I always hear things like "Oh, you look just like our nephew Knut!" or "You remind me very much of XY!"

I hate that!

I seem to have a very average face. Argh!

That's why i do bodybuilding! Does Knut do bodybuilding?!

Okay, that's not the reason why i do BB... but maybe it's among the infinite reasons

I ALWAYS hear that I look like Sandra Bullock. Like, random people on the street will walk up and tell me that....it gets kind of old actually. Even my best friend, who always agreed with me that she didn't see the resemblance either, called awhile back and said she was at a grocery store and saw a tabloid photo of Sandra B and that it looked just like me. I guess there are worse people in the world to be compared to though....

You're right Robert, you shouldn't just settle for anyone. But no one is perfect. You're probably going to have to make some exceptions. Like you don't like girls who drink, But some do drink a little and you're probably going to have to live with it. I can understand the Vegan thing though. Any girl who's not Vegan is sick...

ya, I drink a lil - a glass of wine once in a while with a nice dinner cannot hurt. I even dont mind an ice cold beer on a hot day or a dirty martini.

I may have one drink like once every couple fo weeks or something.

dont hate me because I like my wines or my dirty martinis

Hmm, the wine I'm down with but diry martinis....that's a different story! I remember once I was at a bar and guy bought me one, and I took one sip and almost gagged....it was like drinking pure olive brine. But I choked it down anyway cuz he had bought it for me afterall, and I'm a nice girl.
A nice girl perfectly happy to stick to a simple vodka tonic.

veggymeggy wrote:Hmm, the wine I'm down with but diry martinis....that's a different story! I remember once I was at a bar and guy bought me one, and I took one sip and almost gagged....it was like drinking pure olive brine. But I choked it down anyway cuz he had bought it for me afterall, and I'm a nice girl. A nice girl perfectly happy to stick to a simple vodka tonic.

mmm... olive brine I love olive juice and pickle juice, I will drink it right out of the jar. That being said, I would probably like a dirty martini, but I am more of a beer & whiskey kind of guy