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I just had a major fucking meltdown

I just lost it about 20 minutes ago, I was on the phone with my mother and she as usual said something to trigger me. I was telling her that i've been most likely suffering from Post traumatic stress on top of the PPD from the birth of my daughter and that its been fucking difficult. She told me that I was only making excuses for my behavior. I hung up the phone and threw it down so hard i dented the dresser. I started pulling out some of my hair and crying and shaking and i almost punched my husband for intervening. I feel so helpless and so out of control, she makes me feel like its my fault, she tells me Im the one who chose to get pregnant so deal with it. Honestly im glad she was not in the room because i would have beat the living shit out of her, she makes me feel like im a piece of shit that will never amount to anything.

Oh sweetie, I have a mother like that too. I finally found that if she starts condescending me, I tell her I want to change the subject. She is usually pretty compliant about it. At times, though,she isn't. My advice: don't talk to her about anything to do with your PSTD or anthing of that nature. Don't discuss your symptoms with her, this will keep that door closed. If she tries to open it, politely tell her you don't want to discuss it, and if she continues berating you, simply hang up. You have to care of your own mental health. She obviously isn't going to help you with her responses. Get in a better place with yourself, and don't let her push your buttons. I know how hard it can be but it can be done. Hang in there!
TC,
Rosey

I'm sorry that she is so unsupporive of you. I was in a bad place after my daughter was born too so I totally understand. It is not your fault. I had a planned pregnancy too but the after effect were not planned. My husband was very unsupportive and that's why I'm now divorced that and many other things. The others are right, don't tell her anything that you don't have to and lean on other people for support. Your husband sounds like a good choice. Hang in there with the PPD it does get easier. HUGS

Yeah the &quot;get over it&quot; line is just amazing. Just goes to show you how ignorant, insensitive and thoughtless people can be. Like others have said, set your boundaries with her in what topics you discuss. Your obviously still dealing with the feelings that come along with issues, don't need someone pushing buttons.
OMG...Mindchatter...are you trying to make me fall out of my chair laughing...getting awful close here. The metal trash bin was over the top LOL.

Yeah the &quot;get over it&quot; line is just amazing. Just goes to show you how ignorant, insensitive and thoughtless people can be. Like others have said, set your boundaries with her in what topics you discuss. Your obviously still dealing with the feelings that come along with issues, don't need someone pushing buttons.
OMG...Mindchatter...are you trying to make me fall out of my chair laughing...getting awful close here. The metal trash bin was over the top LOL.

My father is the same as your mother. He's belittling, insulting and abusive emotionally and mentally. I don't argue anymore as I have nothing to prove to him. It used to cause me to crumble. It still stings when he makes callous ignorant remarks but I made a choice long ago that my neither my identity nor my sanity depends on him or his uneducated perspective.

It's hard when it's your parents, I know. Just know you are worth more than that treatment from anyone. What's important is that you concentrate on yourself and your family. BTW, your baby daughter is precious! I hope you feel better soon.

I had to distance myself from my mom for awhile. Actually, I distanced myself from my mother, my mother in-law, and my grandmother in-law. They were giving me too many triggers so my husband and pdoc. decided it would be best if I withdrew from contact for awhile. After a few weeks I was able to handle them again, but they were about to drive me to the point of pulling my hair or actually cutting. My pdoc and husband agreed for me to take a vacation for awhile. When they would call, I wouldn't answer or my husband would say I was unavailable. We did not hide what was going on and now they are more sensitive to my triggers.

Oh boy, it just goes on and on, one generation to the next. My mother could trigger me so quickly, now I trigger my daughter. As a mother, you're right, we don't know when to SHUT UP and just listen. We think we have to point out anything we think is wrong, anything you're doing wrong, and what you should do to fix it! I HATE MYSELF WHEN I DO THIS. Just today we were arguing andshe sais &quot;Mom, quit treating me like I'm a child, you treat me like I'm stupid and incompitant.&quot; NEVERwasthat the intent of what I was saying, she says it's the &quot;way&quot; I say it. As a mother, I wish I could STOP! For you I am soooooo sorry that she pushes your buttons so hard and is not
more compassionate. The good news is you have your own family now and you don't have to talk to her any more than you want to. I'm heart sick to read this. I wonder if by the time mothers have adult children, we've been through so much crap of our own, we drag it into our conversations with our children. I guess the question is, How happy is your mother?

I wince as I type this, but I've even told my daughter &quot;don't be like me&quot;, and am so glad I just thought of my daughter, as it wasn't even a conscious thing, that I may even do this with her.

You have a beautiful baby. I know It can be hard, just hold your baby. My mom was a trigger to but now I realize that my mother is not capable of anything else. I don't expect anything from her so when she does anything it is a surprise. I try to let her comments and others roll off of me, It is hard. My mom is not a mom that I wanted or should of had. Taking those expectations away has helped alot. Also your mom will never know what you are going through, So forget your mom and you just do everything you can do to be a great mommy. good luck.

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