A story of a 37 year old woman named Alex, working through the trials of infertility, and now raising a little Alex...

Friday, October 15, 2010

Not Yet…

Notice the positivity – not YET! I started the testing marathon today, and it was a BFN. Not even a shadow that could play mindtricks on me. But it’s super early (10 dpiui) and last time when I tested positive at 10 days, my hcg levels were so high they were off the chart. So maybe this time my levels are simply normal – right? So I will continue testing every day, because that’s the kind of obsessive freak that I am… And then the beta is on Tuesday!

It really helps that I now know that the next step, if this doesn’t work out, could be IVF. Now that we have infertility insurance up to $25K, it opens up this possibility. I don’t know a ton about the whole process, but I don’t think my clinic has any kind of waiting list or anything. The insurance kicks in on November 1, the date my hubs starts his new job. So assuming this IUI didn’t work, I’ll get my period around the 23rd after I stop taking the progesterone. So I’ll get another one on or around November 20. I know the IVF process takes awhile, as you usually go on birth control pills first. Is there any chance I could do the actual retrieval and transfer prior to the end of the year? I guess it depends on what my clinic’s Christmas schedule looks like. I’m very busy at work all January, so I wouldn’t be able to take the time off required for IVF, so it would have to wait until February if we can’t do it in December. But any thoughts from those of you who have done this would be helpful.

I know I’m getting ahead of myself, but it helps to think of our options if this IUI didn’t work. You guys understand that, right? My hubs doesn’t want to talk about it – he keeps saying “let’s talk about it later.” That’s ok – I can think about it myself, and then present it to him later – right? In the meantime, I’m crazy busy at work, so that’s good at least for today. And this weekend is the hubs’ first weekend at home since August, so we plan on just vegging and watching movies. So it should be a great one!

19 comments:

hey babe - every clinic differs on their scheduling. some batch ivf women together in groups and put you on bcp's so that you all start at the same time. others let you start as soon as you get your period. so find that out from your clinic first. if yours does the latter, december sounds totally reasonable and doable to me. am really hoping that you don't need to do ivf. but super glad that you have the coverage, *should* you need. i'm discounting your hpt test today bc 10dpiui is so early still. hang in there and big hugs!! xoxo.

I am no help with IVF, obviously, but I think it is totally fine to plan stuff in your head and present it later. Husbands (mine at least) need stuff in small chunks. P does not see the point in stressing about something until we get to it... must be nice!

Still very early, my fingers are crossed for you.A plan is not a bad thing. (Everyone keeps giving me crap for talking about my plans if this IVF doesn't work.)You need to have peace & clarity and a plan helps that!!Here's to hoping you don't need the plan :)

I am like you in the getting ahead of ones self category. It has always helped me cope by planning ahead, even if I don't even know if I will need said plan. I'm still hoping you're pregnant right now though!

Having a plan is great for your sanity, I think. (And coverage, of course!) And we'll listen/read if you want to think about it, even if the husband needs more time.Good luck for this IUI -- 10dpo sounds super-early to me!

I'm not sure why you'd want to move on to IVF, the "success rate" of your IUIs is through the roof! I'll bet anything all you need is some tweaking with the added aspirin, Lovenox and Medrol and your next BFP is a keeper!Just imagine how many IUIs you could do for 25K! IVF may have better stats per attempt, but it's a much more intense procedure.

Don't give up on iui yet! Even 2 out of 3 is great odds, if this cycle doesn't pan out... And if not, you'll likely be 3 out of 4 after your 11/20 cycle! But yes, it's amazing to know you can do ivf any time now and have it be covered!!!

Fingers crossed for you, Alex! It is definitely still early. I agree that making plans for next steps is a healthy way of handling the disappointment of a BFN. I already started looking into ivf clinics for summer 2011 if my upcoming IUI treatments don't work! I also agree with the comments about your past successes with IUI--it seems that this method works at getting you pregnant. Best wishes that this time you get a BFP AND a baby. Congrats to the hubs on the new job and way to go on the insurance score! Stay positive, lots of love.

Oh Alex, I wish this was easier and that we did not have to jump so far ahead of ourselves. I do it all the time, even though I know I shouldn't :(Just so you know, most clinics will have you wait at least a month between IVF and IUI's to let you body come off meds and give your ovaries a rest (at least the 2 I went to did this). This will give you some time to get things together. I hope this never is something that you need to worry about, but email me if it is. I am happy to help you through the process if I can (cgd.adventures@yahoo.com)Hoping for a BFP this weekend.

Im so happy you have a plan B....It always made me feel better when I knew there was a next step or new treatment to try...You still have a world of hope even if this cycle does not work....I know with my clinic chances IUI was only like 19% where IVF was something like 80% so the fact that you are even getting Prego from an IUI is a good sign:) I have done IVF twice if you have any questions def ask:)

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I always wanted to be called Alex, and nobody listened to me. I dreamed of the day when I would have my own daughter to call my own, and I would call her Alex. My dream has come true...
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