tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83727566308334651122018-12-03T17:55:05.367-08:00The Right Side"I pushed my bed against the wall so I never wake up on the wrong side"Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-37815718054046405542012-05-29T12:54:00.002-07:002012-05-29T12:54:28.022-07:00Changing The Meaning<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style><![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">It is inevitable that you are going to encounter some uncomfortable situations in your life, everybody does. Our untrained egos are very sensitive and can easily feel threatened, causing emotions of insecurity, worry and fear to develop in the center of our hearts. These emotions can quickly spiral out of control as our negative thoughts multiply in a chain reaction and tighten their grasp around the pit of our stomach.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I used to think that the trick to getting rid of such negative emotions was to simply stop thinking about whatever it is that’s bothering you, to just change the subject and block it out. Your thoughts have direct control over your emotions, so if you just start thinking about something happy and positive then your emotions will follow your lead. If only it was that easy! Sometimes it’s impossible to get such uncomfortable subjects and situations out of your head, not matter how hard you try.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">But alas, the trick is not to rid yourself of these thoughts and just avoid thinking about the situation that is causing you pain. Instead you need to change what this situation <u>means</u> to you. Step out of your current position that’s creating these negative emotions and see things from a different angle. Don’t try to push your thoughts away altogether and sweep the dirt under the rug, for you will be missing a prime opportunity to grow! Allow yourself to reflect on whatever it is that is causing that discomfort at the bottom of your heart and ask yourself some important questions. How can I learn from this? What lesson is this situation trying to teach me? What virtues do I need to practice in the face of this discomfort?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">It is true that our thoughts control our emotions, but instead of entirely changing WHAT you’re thinking in order to alter your feelings you can instead change HOW you’re thinking. And in having control over HOW you’re thinking you will exercise your power over your ego and become a stronger person within. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So the next time you encounter a difficult situation or thought pattern that you don’t want to face, rather than pushing it aside, look at it dead-on, change what it means to you, find the hidden lesson to be learned and give yourself a pat on the back for taking advantage of the opportunity to grow.&nbsp;</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-32986182257146917762012-05-21T21:03:00.000-07:002012-05-21T21:03:03.141-07:00Practicing Gratitude<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style><![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I’ve noticed an unsettling bad habit that far too many people have acquired: neglecting gratitude. Rather than being thankful for what we do have, it seems that our natural default state is to focus on what we don’t have. We don’t have enough money. We don’t have a nice car. We don’t have a perfect relationship, or a perfect job, or perfect teeth. It’s like we live in a dark cloud of scarcity that prevents us from ever being truly happy.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">All of that stuff that we wish we had but we don’t, or we wish was perfect but isn’t, is ALWAYS going to be there. That will never change. And the sooner we realize that the better, because if we spend our time and energy worrying about what we DON’T have rather than appreciating what we DO have it is literally impossible for us to be happy! <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">&nbsp;</span>I know this is a very simple concept that we’ve been taught since we were children but it seems to me like many of us have forgotten the basics and need a little reminder.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">If you focus on what’s missing in your life then you put yourself in a negative state that’s fueled by fear, doubt and worry. You cut yourself off from the empowering feelings that we need to be successful and happy. On the other hand, if you start exercising your gratitude muscle and spending time each day to give sincere appreciation for all the greatness in your life, you will not only begin to experience a much happier state of being, but you will also begin to attract even more things into your life to be thankful for.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So we have two choices: complain about what we don’t have or be grateful for what we do. It’s really that simple. Sometimes you may have to stretch a little bit to find those things to be grateful for but once you make that switch I guarantee you won’t go back.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-72808588466241018572012-05-07T00:50:00.003-07:002012-05-07T00:50:16.002-07:00Taking Time For Yourself<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style><![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Not everyone is born equal. Some people start their life with more money, better health, more opportunities and more love. But the one thing that absolutely everybody has the same amount of is time. There are 24 hours in a day, no matter what. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So where does all of that time go for you? Let’s say you sleep for 8 hours a day and work for 8 hours a day, that adds up to 16 and you have 8 left. Showering, eating and driving probably takes up about 2 more. Maybe you go to the gym, there’s another hour. You might have a husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, maybe even kids too so there’s the rest of your night. And if you’re single you probably have some sort of hobby that keeps you busy like playing an instrument or a sport. Happy hour after work with friends can easily eat up the rest of that time and send you straight to bed when you’re done.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">As you can see, that 24 hours can disappear pretty quickly. . . and then we wake up and do it all over again! But an extremely important part of living a balanced and healthy life is taking time for <u>ourselves</u>, to focus on our own growth and education. In order to<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">&nbsp; </span>make progress in our lives it is vital that we invest some time and energy into looking at everything: identifying what’s going well and not going well, coming up with solutions to our “problems” (both internally and externally), setting goals, making gameplans/strategies and continuously learning new things. When we begin to set that process in motion we embark on an upward spiral of personal development that can be extremly rewarding and exciting.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">At the end of the day, many people feel like they’re stuck in the “rat race”. And most people think of that in just financial terms, of getting by from paycheck to paycheck. But this also applies within, and all too often. If you’re not taking the time out of your day to focus on your growth then you’re going through your own internal rat race that leaves you right where you were the day before and with an endless feeling of being “stuck”.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;">So if you’re spinning the wheel in either of those races, ecomically or personally, realize that the only way to break free from that cycle is to start taking time for yourself. Grab a journal, grab a friend, grab a mouse and a keyboard, whatever it is you need to grab, grab it now and stop waiting for some special day when your life is going to magically change itself. Cause it’s not! You are going to change it and only you. And it’s going to start with finding those few extra minutes everyday to spend with yourself and have a sincere, honest and loving conversation. Good luck </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Wingdings;">:)</span></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-36313874163528340222012-04-28T12:09:00.000-07:002012-04-28T12:09:15.805-07:00Letting Go Of The Past<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> <!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style><![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> </span></span><br /><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I think one of the biggest problems that people have, including myself, is that we get “stuck in our ways”. I’m talking about more than just bad habits. We also have certain <u>mindsets</u> and <u>worldviews</u> that we’ve developed over years of conditioning and influence from outside sources like our parents, schools, the media, ect. Our perspective of life is largely a result of our past experiences, drawing from everything that we’ve seen and learned so far to formulate opinions and beliefs about what is possible.<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri, Verdana, Helvetica, Arial;"> <div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Unfortunately, many of these opinions and beliefs can be limiting to us and prevent us from reaching our full potential. For example, if you grew up in the ghetto of South Central LA where more people were getting into drugs and gangs than getting into college, you would probably not think that your destiny would be much different. Being immersed in that environment would have a negative psychological effect that distracts your focus from seeing beyond the confines of the ghetto. On a larger scale, since there has never been a female president, most girls are part of a collective consciousness that thinks it’s impossible to become president. It was the same situation for African Americans until Barak Obama and now an entire nation’s mentality and belief of what’s possible is beginning to change.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">One of my favorite quotes is “The past does not equal the future”. No matter what has happened previously in your life, do not let it limit the person that you are today and the actions that you take to create your destiny. We have the power to choose who we are in each and every moment. We can recreate ourselves and shed the weight of any negative characteristics that we’ve developed over time. It just takes an awareness of what those unwanted characteristics are, what we want to replace them with and a little bit of effort each day to make those changes.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So what limiting beliefs from your past are preventing you from being the person you really want to be and living the life you really want to live? Do you have something about your self that you say “oh that’s just the way I am, that’s the way I was brought up”? Don’t blame it on your parents or your neighborhood or your school. Take responsibility for you own life and start designing it how you want it to be. The possibilities are endless, you just need to identify what’s holding you back and choose to let it go.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 15px;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><!--EndFragment--></span>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-3409294426867553332012-04-16T20:44:00.001-07:002012-04-16T20:53:27.675-07:00For Better or Worse<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I recently had the great pleasure of officiating a wedding. When my friend called me and asked me to do it I immediately accepted the offer with great enthusiasm, feeling honored that they would think of me for the job. And I was totally excited about doing it. . . right up until I arrived at the wedding and realized what I had gotten myself into. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I was about to marry these people! This was one of the most special moments in their lives and I was placed right at the center of it, juggling the power to make it a great experience or totally mess it up. What if I forgot what I was going to say? What if I slurred my words or dropped the microphone? All of the possibilities of how I could completely ruin this ceremony ran through my head and I got nervous.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Whatever you focus on is bound to come true. It’s the Law of Attraction, the universal principle of manifestation. Wherever you direct your thoughts is where you’re going to put your energy and bring what you’re focusing on to life. When you think about negative things, negative things are going to show up.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Fortunately we are able to control our thoughts and can steer them in the right direction. It is difficult at first because most people spend their lives letting their emotions control their thoughts, rather than the other way around, but as you become aware of this power and start to practice controlling them you will soon develop enough mental strength to steer clear of negative thought patterns.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I noticed myself falling into this downward spiral of self-doubt and worry so I quickly changed my thoughts and moved them in a different direction. A wedding is supposed to be FUN so that’s what I focused on. I visualized how happy and excited the bride and groom would be up there, I saw their smiles and thought about the great celebration we would have afterwards. I filled myself up with such great thoughts and emotions that by the time I went up there to seal the deal I was buzzing with energy and ready to rock and roll. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">And rock and roll we did! Everything went perfectly and I had the wonderful privilege of sharing in that special moment. So if you ever find yourself entering a situation with nervousness, anxiety or doubt, remember that it’s entirely in your power to change those feelings into ones that will better serve you. You just need to change what you’re focusing on!&nbsp;</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-63617550154230619392012-04-13T08:12:00.002-07:002012-04-13T08:12:33.991-07:00Driving Forces<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style> <![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">What is your driving force? What gets you out of bed every morning and fuels you throughout the day? Each of us has some sort of goal we are reaching for everyday, whether it’s to save the world or simply to pay the bills. We all have something that keeps us going and pushes us to carry on down the twisting road of life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Unfortunately in our society that driving force is often a selfish agenda, most commonly money and power. We want the big house, the new car and the high-paying job that makes all of our friends jealous. We want to be recognized and admired by our community for doing something amazing that no one else thought of or worked hard enough to accomplish. So much of what we do is motivated by our desire to better our own lives and “get to the next level”, creating the best lifestyle we possibly can before our time runs out.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">And fair enough, significance is one of our basic human needs and we all want nice things. But I believe that once you find a driving force that is outside of yourself you will experience a whole new kind of supercharged motivation that isn’t possible when it’s only about you. It’s a different kind of drive when you’re working hard to make money so you can provide for your children or buy a house for your mom. And it’s a different kind of drive when you’re starting a nonprofit because you really care for those you’re helping rather than your own resume and inner craving to feel “accomplished”. It’s a fine line but it changes the kind of energy that you put into all the hard work you do everyday, and that energy is more powerful when it’s not just going in circles around your own personal sphere.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So what is your driving force? Who are you fighting for everyday? If it’s only for yourself then that’s going to be one long and lonely battle. But if you can find that person or cause that gives you a new reason to wake up in the morning then I guarantee you will discover a strength inside yourself that’s enough to win the entire war.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-48652600794446208122012-04-04T10:23:00.001-07:002012-04-04T10:25:39.161-07:00Matching Paces<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I used to think that the perfect girl was somewhere out there in the world waiting for me. She would have amazing characteristics in every aspect of her life and embody excellence in all she did. Every dimension of her wellness would be at its peak potential. But I also knew that if I were to have any chance of attracting this perfect girl to me, I would have to be at a similar state of excellence in my own life. I too would have to reach this heightened stage of brilliance and I had a firm image of the person that I would have to become in order to be at that same level.<br />&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So I spent some time attempting to get there. I thought that there was a finite point that I could eventually reach where I would be at my absolute best in all areas of my life. And then, only then, would I be able to attract this perfect girl.<br />&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">It took me some years to realize that I had it all wrong though. There is no finite point that you can reach. We as humans are constantly evolving each and every day, whether consciously or unconsciously, and we will continue to until that day that we die. Being aware of this evolution and putting our time and energy into the process will allow us to grow at a faster pace and to greater heights. So what is ultimately important is not that we reach a certain point of growth and find someone that is at an equal level with us. Instead, we need to find someone that is growing at the same rate as us so that you can continue your evolution together!</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br />That perfect girl <u>was</u> out there waiting for me, but I did not have to become the perfect guy I had created in my head in order to attract her. I just had to cross paths with someone that was moving at the same pace as me and extend an invitation to team up for the journey. So keep your eyes open! That perfect person you’ve be been waiting for might not be way up ahead, waiting for you to catch up. They’re probably right next to you, cruising through life at the same speed as you are just a few roads down.</span></span>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-50865186902835107352012-03-28T20:04:00.000-07:002012-03-28T20:04:10.021-07:00The Voice Inside Your Head<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style> <![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Many times we are pulled in different directions by the countless external influences in our lives. It seems like everyone we know has an opinion about what we should be doing and often their ideas are quite dissimilar. With so many suggestions and possibilities, how do we know who to listen to?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I think that if you clear away all of the outside pressures and turn within you will find the most important voice of all: your own. This voice has been there since the beginning of your existence and will continue to be there for the rest of it, guiding you as a trustworthy inner compass that will always point in the right direction. It is hard to hear sometimes because of all the chatter from other sources, but if you practice silencing the distractions then you will find that your greatest asset in navigating the roads of your life is right there inside of you, waiting for you to listen.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Everybody hears this inner voice, but many are afraid to listen to it because it contradicts what that rest of the world is telling them. They ignore it in fear of the consequences they’ll have to face. But I dare you to be brave. I dare you to go against the grain and do what you really know you should do, even though no one else is saying so. This is your life and you’re the only one that can hear what that voice is telling you. Follow your intuition and trust that you know the correct steps to take better than anyone else. Many of the greatest leaders in the world have chosen to take the path less traveled because they knew in their heart it was the right one to take. Be one of them.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-10100550094066223592012-03-12T10:29:00.000-07:002012-03-12T10:29:14.970-07:00Finding Yourself<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style> <![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We always hear stories about people trying to “find themselves”. And it seems like the most common path chosen during this journey is to uproot and leave home. It’s like their true self is out there in the world somewhere and they have to travel every corner of it in search of this lost treasure.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Believe me, I’ve been trying to find myself for quite awhile too. And I definitely plan on picking up and traveling the world at some point as well. But I’ve begun to realize more and more everyday that I don’t need to “find” myself, because my true self has never been lost. It has always been right there, inside of me at the core of who I am every single day.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We come into this world as our true selves, pure and untainted in any way. As we grow older we develop habits and learn customs from our parents, schools and cultures that begin to mold us and ultimately we claim an identity that says “this is who I am”. We become a product of our environment, for better or worse. But many people eventually realize that they’ve been heavily influenced by their environment and seek out new ones, hoping to expand their perspective on life and learn more about themselves in the process.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Fortunately for those of us who are still trying to find ourselves but do not have the resources to hop on the first flight to Tibet there’s good news. Your true self is right where it has always been, inside of you and waiting to be explored. That little voice of intuition that’s been speaking to you throughout your whole life is who you really are. We just get so caught up in our day-to-day matters of survival that most people don’t take the time to listen to it, and that’s when you start to feel lost. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So go ahead and book that Eurotrip (and take me with you), but in the meantime start the inward journey that’s going to show you what you’re really looking for. You've been there all along.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-73110047737025887282012-03-04T23:48:00.000-08:002012-03-04T23:48:02.696-08:00Let's Get Deep<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0in; mso-para-margin-right:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0in; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ascii-font-family:Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-theme-font:minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family:Cambria; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin;} </style> <![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">How much time did you spend on facebook last week? Be honest with yourself. I’ll be honest with myself too. Between updating statuses, posting pictures, sending tweets and watching youtube videos the minutes really begin to add up. It’s no question that today’s society has become preoccupied with a technological revolution. And unfortunately part of that revolution includes a growing deficit in real human interaction.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all for social networking. Just today I was talking online with friends from elementary school that I would have otherwise lost touch with. And you wouldn’t be reading these words right now without it. But I think we all need to be reminded about what’s real and most important in life: personal connection. It’s one thing to text your best friend that you’re thinking of them but it’s a whole different story when you can give them a hug, look them in the eye and tell them you love them to their face.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Living in such a fast-paced society we often only skim the surface of our relationships with quick hellos and superficial conversation. To really connect with someone, heart to heart and soul to soul, requires us to open ourselves up and allow other people into a deeper place within us. There’s a lot going on in there that even you might not be aware of. Having a real, authentic connection with another person involves an exchange of energy that can help bring out a lot of new discoveries about yourself. It’s exciting. It’s growth. It’s life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So next time you go out on a lunch date with your friend, leave your blackberry in the car and give that lucky person your full attention. Listen attentively, be open and see if you can get a little bit deeper than reliving the party you went to last weekend or updating each other on celebrity drama. If you have kids, take the time to really have a connection with them. Turn off the TV, find out what they’re learning in school and who their new friends are. There’s a whole world of thoughts, desires, fears, dreams and dilemmas that exists inside of each of us and we should all have the courage to explore this world and share it with others.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-5230322290229878722012-02-26T22:46:00.006-08:002012-02-26T22:58:31.506-08:00Good Morning Sunshine!<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Just like breakfast is the most important meal of the day, I believe that your first hour awake is the most important as well. It sets the tone for what the rest of your day will look like. So if you’re one of those people who claim to not be a “morning person”, I strongly encourage you to reassess the way you see yourself and take some serious steps towards becoming one.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I used to snooze for as long as I possibly could, squeezing out every last possible minute of sleep and dreading the moment I had to detach myself from the comfort of my bed. From there I would check my blackberry and browse all of the work emails that were demanding my attention, filling my head with a jumble of stressful tasks and my heart with a sense of worried anticipation. Not even 5 minutes out of bed and I would already be spiraling into a negative emotional state. As I rushed to work and barely arrived on time I would feel like I was one step behind and playing catch up for the rest of the day. Have you ever been there?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Then I started to get up earlier and go to the gym. This simple modification of lifestyle was literally one of the biggest life changing habits I’ve developed so far. First, there’s a change in physiology. Your mental, emotional and physical states are entirely connected and when your body is strong and active the other states will follow its lead. Second, when you’ve already got a great work out in by the time you normally wake up you feel an empowering sense of accomplishment that carries with you throughout the rest of your day. You put yourself in a state of productivity and gain momentum that increases with each new task you face and complete, making you an unstoppable force to be reckoned with.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Besides exercising physically, exercising mentally is important as well. Instead of grabbing your blackberry or the daily newspaper first thing in the morning, read an inspiring article or book or watch an uplifting video. The newspaper covers nothing but crime and despair so if that’s the first thing you put into your head you’re going to be in a negative mindset as you start your day. Instead read something from <a href="http://tinybuddha.com/">http://tinybuddha.com</a> or <a href="http://thedailylove.com/">http://thedailylove.com</a> or one of the countless other blogs that share great wisdom and stories with the world for free :)</span></span><br /><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> </span></span><br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Every day that we are alive is an amazing gift and something to be completely excited about. When that alarm goes off in the morning you have an important decision to make: are you going to snooze for as long as you can and continue to hide from the world? Or are you going to jump out of bed with enthusiasm and embrace the once in a lifetime adventure of today that’s awaiting you? Sleep when you’re dead, cause it’s time to wake up and live!<o:p></o:p></span></span></span></div><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> </span></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-19838619066514960672011-08-18T21:30:00.001-07:002011-08-19T08:43:13.643-07:00Elements of Life<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">You woke up today, took a deep breathe of air into your lungs and got yourself out of bed. That may not sound like an amazing accomplishment but it’s something to be endlessly thankful for. Not everyone is as lucky as you.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We often take for granted the fact that we’re alive and healthy, choosing instead to complain about our jobs or our relationships or whatever miniscule nuisance we may be faced with at the moment. But if you just pause your life for one minute, step out of the physical world that’s immediately in front of you and look at the big picture of things, we are incredibly blessed. How fortunate we are to be experiencing the ups and downs, the good and bad, the happy and sad. That is life, and we are so privileged to be a part of it all!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Don’t wait for your last days on this planet to start appreciating the magnificence and beauty that surrounds us. It’s everywhere we look, we just need to remember to open our eyes and see past the immediate charade that constantly keeps us moving in circles. What’s really important is something much greater than that promotion you want so badly or that new car you’ve been saving up for. It’s the ever-present opportunity to smile at a stranger, the one guarantee we have that the sun will always rise tomorrow, and those three simple words that cost us nothing but earn us everything we need: “I love you”.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So take that minute right now to put aside any of the stress and negative emotions that may be distorting your vision of reality and fill that space with the countless amazing things there are to be thankful for and cherish. If you’re having trouble finding them, go take a look in the mirror because one of them is sitting in your seat right now.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-35765683735099213732011-08-02T19:50:00.001-07:002011-08-02T19:50:44.535-07:00Balancing Pride<!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">You’ve heard it before and know it’s true: life is all about balance. It’s just like surfing. Sometimes the waves are knocking you down and sometimes you’re shredding them with grace and style. Every aspect of our lives needs to be in balance and it takes constant practice and awareness to reach a happy level of equilibrium.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">There’s one particular aspect that this applies to twofold: Pride. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">First, there’s the sense of outward pride you have with yourself and other people. And I think the golden rule in this sense is to “check your ego at the door”. Humility is a virtue and one that should be practiced by all. It doesn’t matter how much money you make or how popular you are, you’re just as much a human being as every other person on this planet so don’t ever act like you’re better than anyone else. Always stay modest and humble because no one likes the company of a cocky person.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Second, there’s your inner pride, your self-confidence. I think that it’s good be aware of the areas of your life that need improvement because that allows for you to set goals and take steps towards reaching your full potential. But too much attention on your shortfalls can be very unhealthy and cause damage to your self-esteem. We can’t always focus on what we’re not happy with. There needs to be balance. We must also recognize the greatness within ourselves and take pride in knowing that we are amazing people with lots of wonderful qualities.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I think the key to finding balance in this area of our lives is to stay outwardly humble and inwardly proud. Practice modesty and humility in your interactions with others but also make sure to take the time to appreciate and acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments and character. Check your ego at the door then give yourself a pat on the back.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-25251339295079725992011-07-19T23:42:00.001-07:002011-07-20T00:04:52.981-07:00Seeking Perfection<div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Nobody is perfect, that is for certain. But I’ve always thought that it is admirable to take your best shot at attaining perfection anyway. Now when I say perfect, I refer to the frequency in which we demonstrate life’s virtues. Demonstrating all of them 100% of the time would be “perfect”.</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">&nbsp; </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Admitting that it is an impossible conquest, if you do embark on the challenge you are most definitely bound to make significant improvements in your character that are well worth the effort.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Many people would argue that we should be happy with who we are, just as we are now, and love ourselves unconditionally with all of the imperfections we naturally possess. And I agree with this to a certain extent. We should love ourselves in each and every moment and always nurture internal happiness. But we all know that there are certain character traits in each of us that we can improve (because we're not perfect) and I believe that passively accepting them as they are, leaving them underdeveloped and lacking full potential, is ignoring our responsibility as humans to strive for moral excellence.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So many people coast through their day-to-day lives without every stopping to take a step back and look in the mirror, repeating the routine of mediocrity that finds their personality in the same exact place as the day before. But I believe that all it takes is a raised awareness and a little self-analysis to jumpstart this unproductive cycle and turn it into an upward spiral of personal growth.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We first need to know what virtues are: courage, kindness, loyalty, honesty, self-confidence, humilty. . . the list goes on and on and each shares the common value of being a building block in the foundation of good moral being. Then we need to recognize these traits in ourselves and measure the frequency in which they are demonstrated. Are you loyal 100% of the time? Are you honest 100% of the time? Certainly not, as you will never be “perfect” in any area. But I guarantee that if you make perfection your goal and put conscious effort into attaining it, you will develop these virtues to a great degree that is much higher than where they were before.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-53067973657667238062011-07-10T23:04:00.000-07:002011-07-10T23:04:13.474-07:00Open Your Mind<!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We can’t help what culture or society we are born into, or what family we are raised by. We enter the world at a very specific time and place and automatically accept the philosophies and traditions that surround us, for that is all we know. We grow up seeing the world through our own paradigm, like a pair of glasses in front of our eyes that interprets the world as it is, causing us to believe and support certain things and ideas.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Someone that grew up in the South in the 1800’s is going to have a very different worldview that someone who is growing up in Los Angeles today. And that person who is growing up in Los Angeles today is going to have a very different worldview than someone who is growing up in Zimbabwe today (the poorest country in the world). Every person in every corner of the world from every day and age carries with them an inherited set of beliefs and values, and many carry them their whole lives.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">For those of us that are fortunate enough to live in an advanced society and be educated enough to read these words, it’s important that we are aware of the glasses through which we see the world and question the validity of our innate viewpoints. Once we reach a certain age and point of personal growth it’s our responsibility to start thinking for ourselves and replace some of the undeserving perspectives and attitudes that we were born into with more positive and powerful ones. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So let go of the limiting beliefs and negative opinions you’ve had of things and open yourself up to new possibilities. Start to understand the world from other people’s perspectives and step out of your own shell. Don’t succumb to stereotypes and “popular opinion”. Go experience things for yourself and be your own judge. Broaden your horizons. Open your mind.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-83106846720879624472011-06-29T20:47:00.000-07:002011-06-29T20:47:16.752-07:00Just Say Yes<!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Everyday we are presented with an infinite amount of possibilities for what we can do. Every single second is another opportunity to take action and do something. But most of us have become so accustomed to living within our comfort zone that we rarely take advantage of these opportunities and stick with what we are familiar with. Even when these opportunities are directly presented to us we will often choose to let them pass us by because we lack that adventurous spirit that keeps things exciting.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">But I say screw that. We have one life to live so we should take advantage of every single opportunity, every single second, and say yes every chance we get! You know those times when you’ve been invited to do something but refused to because you were too “tired”? Well wake up! The clock is ticking and the train of life isn’t stopping for anybody so next time you get that invite you better say yes! <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Obviously there are consequences to every action we take and you need to be smart in making your decisions. And sometimes those consequences aren’t going to be the ones we were hoping for. But I’d rather be out there experiencing those consequences and going on new adventures than hiding inside my comfort zone and never really living life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So be exciting. Take a risk. Do something you would never imagine yourself doing. Live a little. Live a LOT. Sleep when you’re dead. Have fun. Be crazy. Say yes!</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-80179723596446806702011-06-19T23:57:00.000-07:002011-06-19T23:57:59.442-07:00You Gotta Have Faith<!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I never went to church as child or had any religious influence in my upbringing, but I truly understand the power of faith and know it’s a vital part to having success in life. When you completely believe in something and erase all doubt from your mind and heart, anything is possible.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">When I decided to move to LA and start my career in the music industry, all odds were against me. Most major record labels were laying people off, not hiring them. I had zero job experience, I only knew one person in the whole city and on top of that, I severely broke my leg after being here for less than 3 months, requiring surgery that put me off my feet for the next 4. It was like trying to ride a bike uphill with two flat tires.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">But deep down inside me I KNEW with absolute conviction that things would work out and I would succeed in my goal. I didn’t care what the odds for success were, failure was not an option. I trusted in myself and in the universe with 100% faith and removed all uncertainty from my life and I absolutely credit that mindset for getting me to where I am today. If I had ever faltered and allowed even an ounce of doubt to affect my journey then I honestly don’t think I would have come this far.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Whatever it is you’re facing, whether it’s something positive and exciting like getting a new job or achieving some goal, or whether it’s something negative and challenging like </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">losing</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> a job or experiencing an illness, approach it with faith. Know from the bottom of your heart that things are going to work out in the long run and that the one thing you have most control over is how much you believe in yourself. You have all of the tools and resources inside of you to create any outcome you desire. So trust yourself, trust the universe, and silence any voice inside your head that says “no”. Because the answer is “yes”. You just gotta have faith.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-37039966132554163812011-06-13T21:23:00.001-07:002011-06-13T21:23:54.886-07:00No Matter What<!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I’ve always thought of myself to be a very loving person. I have strong feelings of love for my family and friends and care about them all very much. But I learned a very powerful lesson somewhere along the way about the difference between loving conditionally and unconditionally. And while I had truly loved many people in my life I was doing so with a faulty foundation that was contaminated with judgment and expectations, loving them on the surface but fostering feelings of disapproval deep down inside. One day the reality of my conditional love exploded in front of me, forcing me to re-examine my role in the relationships I had and giving me the opportunity to commit myself to changing the way that I love people. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Nobody is perfect. People have some amazing qualities that are easy to love but they also have some not-so amazing qualities. . . and we should love them anyway! Accepting a person from head to toe, inside and out, just exactly the way they are is what it means to love someone unconditionally and it takes great maturity and a big heart to do this. Let go of any internal standards you may have created for people (including yourself) and love them for the unique individuals that they are. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Now this isn’t to say that we should all be completely content with our bad habits and character flaws. We should always push ourselves and those around us to grow and become better people. But when we do this it should come from a place of love, of genuinely wanting that person to be the best version of themselves so THEY can be the happiest they can be, not because WE think they need to change or improve.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I encourage you to make the same commitment that I have made and love everyone in your life unconditionally. From those days when everything is working great and everyone is happy to those days that everything goes wrong and emotions are distraught, love them just the same. Fill your heart with nothing but love for the people in your life and let this be the only feeling you have towards them in any situation. Love them no matter what.&nbsp;</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-62852486180292190942011-06-07T00:42:00.000-07:002011-06-07T00:50:23.507-07:00Be All You Can Be<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">When I was sophomore in college I took an economics course that said a college degree is merely a piece of paper that proves two things: 1. That you are at least <u>this</u> smart and 2. That you are at least <u>this</u> hard working. And in reality, that’s pretty accurate. So whether I worked as hard as I could and got straight A’s or partied as much as I could and got straight C’s I would end up with the same piece of paper. Being the wise 19 year old that I was I took the latter approach and crawled my way through college getting by with the bare minimum. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Two years later I dated a bioengineering pre-med student that was quite the opposite of me and had a very different outlook on things. She valued having a strong work ethic and believed that if you were going to do something you should do it to the best of your ability and apply yourself to reach your maximum potential. Fortunately this philosophy rubbed off onto me and completely changed my perspective.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">This is an important concept that I feel defines what kind of person you are: one that “gets by” doing the bare minimum or one that holds themselves to a higher standard. I believe that if you are going to do something then you should do it the best you can! If you’re going be a babysitter for the night, be the most fun and most responsible baby sitter those kids have ever had. If you’re going be a garbage man, be an amazing garbage man that loves his job. If you’re going to be someone's friend, be a true, sincere, fun and incredible friend. Whatever it is you are facing, commit yourself to doing your absolute best and giving it everything you got!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I think the reason that most people don’t take this approach is because there is usually no one to hold you accountable. YOU are the only person who knows if you’re working at your full potential, no one else is looking. So stop and ask yourself this question: what kind of person do YOU want to be?</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-84859056029270755312011-05-31T21:32:00.000-07:002011-05-31T21:32:28.254-07:00Random Acts of Kindness<!--StartFragment--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I believe that happiness is contagious and a great way to spread it is through random acts of kindness. Something as simple as smiling at a stranger can really turn a person’s day around and put them in a great mood. In a society where we’ve become so disconnected from each other, living through our cell phones and the internet, it’s amazing how powerfully you can affect someone by reaching out a generous hand.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Just recently I had two close friends randomly send me letters in the mail filled with loving and thoughtful words of praise and admiration. There was no special reason for this, it wasn’t my birthday or Christmas and I hadn’t done anything nice for them. They committed these random acts of kindness out of the sincerity of their hearts and let me just say. . . the positive emotions of joy and happiness that they have aroused in me is truly incredible! With such a simple gesture they have made me feel so loved and honored and now I’ve</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">&nbsp;been inspired to keep the momentum and spread this message of optimism to the rest of you :)</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Sending personal, hand written letters to your loved ones is a great way to not only brighten their day but also your own. Doing nice things for other people makes them feel good and makes yourself feel good too, knowing you have positively influence that person’s life. Personally, I’ve been trying to smile and say “good morning” to every person I walk by on my way to work in the morning and while I don’t always get a response I do always feel great about my efforts. Going out of your way to give someone a compliment or helping push a broken-down car out of the road or paying the toll booth for the person behind you. . . all of these little things make the world just that much better of a place and help tip the scale towards a more positive atmosphere.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We have endless opportunities throughout our day to demonstrate kindness to others so take advantage of having the power to do so and make somebody smile!</span><o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment-->Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-40725040135568664262011-05-24T21:42:00.000-07:002011-05-24T21:45:39.379-07:00Interrupt Your Pattern<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">At one point or another everyone gets stuck in a negative frame of mind. We find ourselves in a funk that’s just seemingly impossible to break out of. My friend at work and I call it wearing your “cranky pants” and it can be really hard to get them off sometimes.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">What we need to do is interrupt our pattern. When we’re in these bad moods, it’s easy to focus on the fact that we’re in a bad mood and having trouble breaking out of it, which puts us in a worse mood and the cycle continues. It’s like when you can’t sleep at night and all you can think about is how you can sleep, which keeps you up even longer and on and on. We need to put our foot down eventually and say “Hey! I’m ready to be in a good mood now and I’m going to break this pattern!”<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Now, however you interrupt your pattern is up to you, it just needs to be something new and different that you’re not used to doing. If you’ve been going straight home from work, in a bad mood and locking yourself in your room everyday then don’t go home after work, drive the opposite way and find a new restaurant to eat dinner at. If you’re stuck in the middle of work or school in a bad mood, go take a 10 minute break to give a homeless person a dollar. Anything that is a change to your daily routine will shift your state and give you an opportunity to start over in a better mood.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I was in a bit of a funk the past couple days after partying a little too hard in Vegas and spending a little too much money.&nbsp; I felt like my life fell of course after all the great work I had been doing on my personal growth. So, instead of going straight home for another night of moping around, I stopped by the library on the way home, opened up an account and checked out a book. On the way home someone on the street commented on the book I was holding and I ended up having a great conversation with him and making a new friend. Obviously my previous routine of being in a bad mood the couple days wasn’t working so by simply changing up one course of action I opened the door to new possibilities and put myself in a much better place.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">So use your imagination. The next time you find yourself in that repetitive cycle of sulking do something spontaneous and interrupt the pattern. Jog through the park, learn your favorite recipe and make it for your neighbor, jump in the pool of hotel you’re not staying at, howl at the moon, get out your old yearbooks, go on Pandora and listen to genre of music you never listen to. . . or write a blog ;)&nbsp;</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-53850889831377409782011-05-15T22:34:00.000-07:002011-05-15T22:39:15.015-07:00The Secret<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> </span></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">You have probably heard of “The Secret”, a book and movie that came out in 2006 claiming that you can have anything you want in your life by using the law of attraction. It basically says that if we desire something, all we have to do is focus our thoughts on what we want and we will attract it into our lives. Sounds kinda cheesy huh? Well guess what, it’s true!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I completely believe in the secret because I have experienced its power first hand. When I graduated college I took a job with a financial services company, soon realizing that I had no passion for that industry and that what I really wanted to do was work in the music business. There was a one in a thousand chance that I would actually make it in the super competitive world of Hollywood but I had a concrete vision of myself accomplishing my goal and total faith that things would work out and by the end of that year I had my own office in the famous Capitol Records building. How’s that for cheesy?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Most people tend to be fearful. They sabotage their dreams and goals by thinking about what would happen if they failed and not believing in themselves. The secret is that we will attract into our lives whatever we focus our thoughts on, so if you’re predicting failure and worst case scenarios then that’s exactly what you’re going to get! <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">If you can clear your mind of any negative thoughts and replace them with visions of success and prosperity, truly believing that the amazing things we dream of are possible, then I guarantee that you will start to attract the things you desire most into your life. So go ahead and start using your imagination to create the most rewarding and fulfilling life possible and have complete faith that this vision will come true. . . because it will!<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">*if you have 30 mins, listen to this recording, he explains everything much better than I can: </span><a href="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-8448018326921957619"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">The Strangest Secret - Earl Nightingale (1956)</span></a><o:p></o:p></span></div></span>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-16349883539433475232011-05-10T21:18:00.000-07:002011-05-11T11:26:34.651-07:00What are your values?<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I think it’s important to have a clear set of values, a list of the characteristics that you define yourself by and seek to demonstrate on a daily basis. All of us have values whether we are aware of them or not and they serve as the pillars to our personal identity. I encourage you to take a few minutes and get clear about what yours are. What are the most important principles in life that guide you everyday?</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">I recently sat down and wrote out my top ten values and composed this list: </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">1. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Happiness/Fun</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – I think the most important thing in life is to ENJOY it! To smile, to laugh, to play, to sing, to dance, to be happy and have fun!</span></span><br /><br /></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">2. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Love</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – This is strongest emotion we can experience. Both giving and receiving love is a vital part of being human and we must create endless opportunities in our lives for doing so.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">3. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Passion</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – I have to be passionate about what I do. For me, passion is like the breath of life itself, fueling every action I take and pushing me to move forward everyday with excitement and energy.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">4. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Honesty</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – Being honest with other people and also with myself is something I greatly value and am committed to demonstrating in all situations. </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">5. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Sincerity</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – I want to be regarded as a sincere person that truly cares about others and am genuine in my interactions with all people. There is no room for being “fake” in my world.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">6. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Growth</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – I think that everyday is a chance to grow and that it’s important to put significant work into my personal development, allowing me to become a better person and reach my full potential.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">7. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Integrity</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – If you say you’re going to do something, do it! I try my best to be a man of my word and never let people down.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">8. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Health</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – I believe in taking care of my body through eating healthy and exercising, which has become a positive and beneficial habit that I greatly enjoy.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">9. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Intelligence</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – Leaders are readers. Books, essays, stories, articles, blogs and anything that can inspire an expanded insight and teach new things are vital tools that I use to satisfy my thirst for knowledge.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">10. </span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Contribution</span></u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> – The act of giving back to your community, of helping those in need and offering your services to people who need them is an admirable exploit that should be practiced by all.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Hopefully this inspires you to take a look at what your own values are and really consider the hierarchy of principles that guide you through life. Are you holding yourself to a higher level of standards or simply drifting by without a strong definition of your moral code?</span></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-8853886578428920322011-05-01T19:09:00.000-07:002011-05-02T09:35:30.210-07:00Learning your lesson (and other people’s too)<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">It’s easy to get caught up in the moment, to only see what’s right in front of&nbsp;us at that particular time and place and focus solely on the immediate problems we are facing. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us as we react to other people, finding ourselves absorbed in conflict and argumentative behavior and then replaying or recreating situations in our head till we go crazy. Don’t worry, this happens to the best of us and it’s definitely hard to keep your head above water during these times.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">But I think there are two powerful questions that you can ask yourself to help break out of this negative thought process and put yourself in a place of emotional authority and growth:</span></span><br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">1. What am I learning from this situation/interaction? Hit the pause button for a minute and get out of that particular moment so you can step back, rise above the situation and look at the big picture of things. The world and everyone in it are constantly teaching us lessons and sometimes we just need to open our eyes and ears and learn them! This will immediately change the way you feel, shifting your focus from the negativity of the problem to the positive opportunity for growth you’re embracing. Rather than giving your time and energy into something unconstructive you’re now becoming stronger and believe me, that feels a </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">whole</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"> lot better!</span></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraph"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">2. What did I do to get myself in this situation? Whether you want to admit or not, your choice of actions and words have lead you to where you are. The sooner you take personal responsibility for that the better off you’ll be. By looking at your own behavior, rather than pointing the finger at other people and directing blame, you can retrace your steps to realize where things went wrong and then take a different approach next time around.</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Also, make sure to learn other people’s lessons too, not just your own! People around us are always doing great things and not so great things. It’s easy to recognize what behaviors and attitudes lead to success and what do the opposite so model your life accordingly. A friend of mine was recently telling me about a guy at her work who was failing to accomplish his tasks and talking back to his supervisor, therefore developing a bad reputation around the office after not even working there for that long. I know it’s pretty obvious but. . . don’t be that guy! His strategy apparently isn’t working so learn the lessons from his mistakes: get your work done, don’t talk to back and you’ll soon develop a good reputation with your coworkers. Amazing!</span></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8372756630833465112.post-35508461331863291772011-04-24T22:51:00.000-07:002011-04-24T22:52:55.238-07:00De-fense! De-fense!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Do you ever have the feeling like you need to defend yourself? Like someone is attacking your character and forcing you to stick up for your actions or beliefs? It’s a very annoying and frustrating position to be in.</span></span><br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">However, we don’t NEED to defend ourselves against anyone! When someone is “attacking” you it is usually a reflection of that person’s own insecurities and lack of inner strength. Think about it, if you had solid confidence in yourself and true control over your emotions why would you ever be concerned with criticizing and judging other people? You wouldn’t! You would be fine letting other people live their lives as they please, unaffected by the decisions they make or beliefs they have.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">We often react to such “attacks” by becoming immediately defensive, like a turtle pulling into its shell at any sign of danger. We get a tightening inside our chest and stomach that tells us to go into self-protection mode. But it’s important to realize that the problem is not with you, you are doing just fine and walking the path you choose. It’s the people that lash out towards you in discontent that have the real issues here.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><br /></span> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Now that’s not to say that we should just unconsciously plow ahead with our lives, ignoring anybody else’s opinions and advice. It’s important to honor constructive criticism and really listen to people because many times you can greatly benefit from making some adjustments in your life, nobody’s perfect after all. But if you are investing the proper time and energy into your personal growth and have a firm understanding of who you are and what you stand for, let those that are less evolved say and think what they will. You are fine just the way you are.</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>Nik Cherwinkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10965200675490913007noreply@blogger.com0