The Difference Between SM and Abuse

Negotiation occurs before an SM scene to determine what will and
will not happen in that scene.

Abuse:

One person determines what will happen.

SM:

Knowledgable consent is given to the scene by all parties.

Abuse:

No consent is asked for or given.

SM:

The "bottom" has a safeword that allows them to stop the scene at
any time they need to for physical or emotional reasons.

Abuse:

The person being abused cannot stop what is happenning.

SM:

Everyone involved in the SM scene is concerned about needs,
desires, and limits of others.

Abuse:

No concern is given to the needs, desires, and limits of the
abused person.

SM:

The people in the SM scene are careful to be sure that they are not
impaired by alcohol or drug use during the scene.

Abuse:

Alcohol or drugs are often used before an episode of abuse.

SM:

After an SM scene, the people involved feel good.

Abuse:

After an episode of abuse, the people involved feel bad.

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