Monthly Archives: July 2013

The following post was inspired by a conversation (the story and link to the blog are at the bottom). “If by “modern age” you mean Pinterest-guilt-inducing-judgmental-I-only-use-positive-parenting-therefore-I-am-always-right age…I agree.” Amber Perea mom extraordinaire.

I went to reply and instead turned it into todays blog! ‘Positive parenting’ is only positive if it comes from a place of love and understanding. Otherwise it’s ‘superiority parenting’. It is my own internal fears of being judged that make me want to say F*#K the positive.

Saw a recent facebook post that loveful is a word. Webster’s revised unabridged dictionary published 1913 and Dictionary.com show the word as meaning “Full of love”. The post mentioned how we’ve all heard of hateful. Did you know loveful was a word? This brought me to the topic of what most of us focus on.

Why does the word “consistent” seem synonymous with dull, boring, monotonous, mind numbing and uncreative? My EGO hears that word and it feels trapped in a tiny cell with no light. It pops up at every turn and my ego runs in the other direction indignant at the mere suggestion the solution to all my problems is consistency. Continue reading →

“A separated or divided mind must be confused. It is necessarily uncertain about what it is. It has to be in conflict because it is out of accord with itself.” Course In Miracles.

Some people are committed to a state of disappointment. What does that mean? It means they are unable to maintain a joyful state. It is only a matter of time before they register a new grievance against a new target. It may be the IRS or political theology. Next week it’s a family member or co-worker. It’s the store clerk, an institution or a public policy. It does not matter, they will find a platform to ‘rail against’.

Release your resentments and take back your life!What is the difference between anger and resentment? Anger is a temporary initial reaction toward an event. Anger may quickly pass, linger for some time or fester into a resentment. Resentment is the long held disappointment of an unmet expectation of how another person or event should have treated us or gone our way. In short, anger is our reaction to the present and resentment is our reaction to the past.

Children will laugh so hard they fall over. They fully indulge in life. Why gently sniff a flower when you can bury your face in it and drink in all it has to offer. Children can be our greatest teachers; are we open to their message? Continue reading →

“What matters to you is not necessarily what you say or believe, but what your actions and reactions reveal as important and serious to you. So you may want to ask yourself the question: What are things that upset and disturb me? If small things have the power to disturb you, then who you think you are is exactly that: small. That will be your unconscious belief.”

“…If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace. If peace mattered to you more than anything else and if you truly knew yourself to be spirit rather than a little me, you would remain nonreactive and absolutely alert when confronted with challenging people or situations…..”

“…The more limited, the more narrowly egoic the view of yourself, the more you will see, focus on, and react to the egoic limitations, the unconsciousness in others. Their “faults” or what you perceive as their faults become to you their identity. This means you will see only the ego in them and thus strengthen the ego in yourself….. “

“Very unconscious people experience their own ego through its reflection in others. When you realize that what you react to in others is also in you (and sometimes only in you), you begin to become aware of your own ego. At that stage, you may also realize that you were doing to others what you thought others were doing to you. You cease seeing yourself as a victim.” Eckart Tolle, A New Earth Continue reading →

Fear is that little gnawing knot in the pit of our stomach. Easy tasks appear larger than life when shrouded in fear. We may never be totally free from fear. However, we may be able to feel the fear, but tackle what we are afraid of anyway. Continue reading →

Teach only love? How is that possible against one’s enemy? America’s beloved superheros practice ‘higher’ principals against dark forces but they all still fight. Are we not supposed to fight? If we just allow the injustices of some, to harm the masses, then does that not make us complicit? How do we turn the other cheek and still take a stand? Continue reading →