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How to Pick Up Girls Efficiently (If You Don't Have the Time/Desire To Meet A Lot of Girls)

How to Pick Up Girls Efficiently(For Guys That Think Hitting On A Lot of Girls Is Stupid)

Not everyone has the time or desire to prioritize Getting Laid for 2-3 years in their 20's.

Some guys simply don't care that much about getting a ton of pussy but still want to Get Laid without turning their lifestyle upside-down.

Here is what you can do if you just want a decent sex life with minimal effort.

"How to Pick Up Girls Efficiently (If You Don't Want to Hit On A Lot of Chicks)"

Bear with me, I'm going to get to some valuable stuff after the geekspeak.

A few times a year there is a discussion and debate on whether "pick up" is dead.

The short answer is -

Yes.

Excitement over 'seduction community' and demand for secret digital social intel or "hacks" is dead.(the peak was between 2004-2008 when "The Game" and VH1's show "The Pickup Artist" was popular)

Also dead is the notion that really cool guys go out by themselves every single day, for weeks on end to practice "spam approaching" women at book stores and shopping malls who don't show any obvious or subtle interest.(we will reconcile this later)

What isn't dead is the fact that -

Guys still want to Get Laid and will always want to Get Laid.

Guys still want access to random chicks that they see during the day.

That will never change.

Some guys (Scotty, myself for 3 years) wanted to hook up with tons and tons of girls and do tons and tons of drugs as part of a "Mid 20's Fun Stage". It was just our personality type and obsessive tendencies, given our lackluster early 20's and years of lonely nights at the gym trying to impress girls we were scared to speak to.

We are a minority though.

An ever-declining minority in the world of greater opportunity and unlimited potential for guys in their 20's and 30's.

Whether they admit it or not, most guys would be happy fucking 10 new girls a year (or 1-2 broads a month) and agree anything more (and making any more effort) is overkill and a waste of valuable time.

Guys, especially those with more important financial aspirations, want the most efficient way possible to Get Laid.

They don't have 2 years to go out 4 or 5 times a week and party up.

Hell, they don't even have Friday and Saturday night.

It's a ROI (return on investment) thing to them.

Time is money.

Getting Laid still matters to them, even if they promised themselves that they'd get a lot pussy after they got financially established.

In fact, we could argue that it is more important for hardworking young professionals and future millionaires to get good with women - they simply don't have the hours to put in to get lucky with the numbers game.

How to Pick Up Girls Efficiently - What You Need to Know(The Non-Party Boy Blueprint)

I'm going to tell you how you can have a reasonably hot sex life (1+ girls a month in your bed) if you don't have the time or desire to put in the hours or genuinely think that devoting a few years to Getting Laid is stupid.

My advice is largely based on my post-party scene period of 12-14 months where I worked as a private personal trainer (um, HGH vendor), wrote for Livestrong.com and decided what I really wanted to do with my life.

There's 4 things you have to do if you want to make this work for you.

#1 Look As Good As You Can, As Much As You Can

This is the key to making this work.

Physical attraction = sexual attraction

First impressions are the only impressions.

You need to get to the point to where chicks are checking out, even if they just think -

He's not exactly 'hot', but he's kind of cute...(the second you speak to them your "personality" will make you HOT)

So long as you can look better/cooler than the average guy, at least some females will be happy to sleep with you if you're their "type", fairly confident or they simply want to fuck someone reasonably attractive.

If you can get yourself into "good looking" territory you will have absolutely no trouble Getting Laid a couple times a month if you follow the rest of this discussion.

The better looking you are, the better it is, but you do not have to look like the 'dream guy' to efficiently pick up girls. You DO need to look above-average though or at least have a "cool" edge that sets you apart from the average joe.

Keep in mind, being efficient requires you rock a good style too.

Don't expect to be successful if you go to the grocery store, gym or coffee shop (to do work) dressed like a scrub. You'll have to invest some time to looking sharp every time you leave the house if you want to be efficient.

The good news is - so few guys do this and it's super easy to stand out during the day.

What to Keep In MindLooking and feeling as good will become a key ritual in this 'efficient' lifestyle. Girls, especially those in office jobs, rarely meet or even see a well put together heterosexual male during the course of a day.

#2 Everyday - Ask 1-2 Girls To "Grab a Drink" With You Later That Night(Talk to ~10 Girls/Week)

Over the course of your day, you need to ask out 1 or 2 girls with the following line -

I gotta run/get back to work, you want to grab a drink tonight?

Just 1 or 2.

While your odds are obviously better if you hit on 10 or 20 girls, you simply don't have the time.

You also don't have the time to 'work on' girls that might be on the fence or require more emotional investment.

You probably don't have the nerve to do anything more aggressive (screening), but this method works pretty well to see where they stand (sexual availability/DTF) for that night.

It goes like this -

* Ideally - Get eye contact and smile (like I said - you should be getting eye contact from at least some girls who are single; smile big if it's in your nature, a confident smile is warm and sexy to girls - not goofy)

Give the girl a compliment / Say "Hi, I wanted to meet you" / Say "Hi, I was checking you out too".

Introduce yourself.

Talk about literally anything for 3-4 minutes.

Say that you have to go and ask if she wants to meet up later that night for a drink.

Done.

No matter how choppy the conversation is - you have to ask the girl out for that night.

Lose the ego or "she needs to earn it" attitude.

You are are man who is looking to Get Laid and it's time that you embrace that.

You are two strangers who are physically attracted to each other at that moment in time.

You have a penis.

She has a buhgina.

That is how sex happens.(there is a process in-between that we talk about)

No games necessary.

Provided that you look better or are noticeably cooler than the average guy (or are simply better looking than the girl), over the course of 2 weeks (20 girls you ask out), you can expect 4 or 5 to give you their number and 1 or 2 of them to meet up with you that night or soon after. (The numbers will be lower if you are very inexperienced or have body fat to lose, but eventually they come)

Perhaps those odds seem low, but the good news is - most girls know what "grab a drink" with a guy entails. You won't end up on a date with a girl that thinks you are strictly 'boyfriend material' and wants you to pay for her salad, unless you totally look the part.

If you aren't getting 1 in 10 (or 1 in 20) girls to meet up with you - you have to work on your appearance.

How to Ask a Girl Out For a Drink (2013)

What to Keep In MindTalking to 1 or 2 random girls a day is not a lot. You know that. But over the course of a month (30-60 girls), it is more random chicks than many guys speak to in their entire life. You are virtually guaranteed to have an above-average sex life if you can make your appearance above-average and talk to 1 or 2 girls a day. Don't be afraid to use this "polite invite" (the drink offer) on girls who are working mundane jobs, in fact - some get really excited.

#3 Invite Every Girl Back to Your Place For Another Drink

Just as it is mandatory to finish your 1 or 2 daily interactions with, "you want to grab a drink tonight?", it's also absolutely mandatory that you invite every girl you meet up with back to your place for another drink.

Remember, any girl that shows up to a bar alone to have a drink with you ALREADY LIKES YOU and knows what you have in mind.(she shaved her pussy and spent 2 hours getting ready while texting her friends about how she met you)(unless you are a hot scumbag type - she hasn't and won't tell anyone about you)

You can keep it low-key -

Hey I have an early morning tomorrow, but why don't you swing by and we'll have a final drink and chill for a few minutes.

aka

Alright, I'm done with this bar thing now. Time to have sex, you in?

You will get your answer.

It goes without saying -

Try to go to a bar/place that is as close as possible to your place. Walking distance is ideal.

What to Keep In MindWhen a girl shows up by herself to a bar because she ALREADY LIKES YOU and knows what might go down. Plan accordingly and don't look for signs that she's into you.

#4 Try Not to Worry About 'Approach Anxiety', "Game" or Any Other Crap That I've Put In Your Head

Unless you are trying to nail 40+ girls a year, you can have your cake and eat it too.

Every time we discuss "Approach Anxiety", I send the wrong impression that it's MANDATORY to conquer your social fears if you want a regular sex life.

It's not.

What you WILL have to do is - try your best and suck it up.

You are nervous.

So what.

You don't have any time for approach anxiety, a program or any other of my bullshit - you are trying to Get Laid.

If you have the social skills to have a 3 minute conversation with a girl you've never met and the courage to ask her out, then that's all you need.

Besides, girls will think you are confident if you have the balls to talk to them during the day, lead the conversation and can hold it together.

You'll gain confidence once you get used to talking to a couple of girls a day.

What to Keep In MindAlthough I'll never admit it and certainly never tell you, I probably still had approach anxiety until I slept with over 30 girls. It didn't prevent me from getting chicks in bed and it won't stop you so long as you can hold it together and slowly move things forward.

Pour Conclure

So that's it.

Typical GLL brainwashing and a practical, repeatable, efficient way to get a fair amount of chicks in bed if you have neither the time, desire or skills to live a full on party/player lifestyle.

No, this 'method' is not hardcore by Good Looking Loser standards but asking whichever girls you want to fuck to "grab a drink" is plenty aggressive and should give the average, above-average guy, a decent sex life.

You have to try to look your best (above-average threshold), fight through the anxiety so you can have a ~3 minute conversation and finish each interaction by asking a girl out for a drink - no matter how little chemistry you had with her.

It will start to pay off, some of these girls will become repeat customers and you'll be set.

I always read&rate your stuff and sometimes reread almost the whole site every few months. I dropped all other blogs a long time ago and only read the best and my favourite four that are: GLL, Danger&P. Bold&D and John Doe...

Awesome Chris :)

I always read&rate your stuff and sometimes reread almost the whole site every few months. I dropped all other blogs a long time ago and only read the best and my favourite four that are: GLL, Danger&P. Bold&D and John Doe Bodybuilding) but GLL was my first and still the king blog for me. Wouldn`t even have found it, if it wasn`t for a steroid hair loss video almost 2 years ago on youtube. Otherwise I would probably be a legitimate fuck up in a few years. Btw. everyone who reads this comment --> only read GLL and the blogs mentioned above to get the fastest results and DONT read any other blogs and especially DONT watch any (motivational) youtube videos (usually just a waste of time)!

Have 2 questions Chris:
1. I have read about penis enlargement on this site, but this was one of the topics I almost did not really care about. I almost always thought my dick was average or a bit small- at least compared to porn stars. A few months ago though I measured (correctly) when erect and have 7 inches length and 6,5 inches girth (so yes I think pretty thick). i guess that is not too bad? do you think I should still go into the penis enlargement stuff?

2. I am a 22 year old business law college student now and I think I am really into women who are 30-39 years old (something just turns me on about many of them.) I am at least an 8 now , tall muscular,attractive and in good shape and improved in many areas. I literally look like Daniel Craig- just more muscular,a bit darker hair, better haircut imo and younger looking of course (I lack a bit in the logistics department though. my conservative parents make problems pretty often. ) However most above 30 year old women have their own place usually and probably wouldnt mind if I came to their place I guess. But is this even a realistic thought? Most women at that age ofc want men with money and status the most I guess, but I would take advantage of the fact that I am a younger guy and there should be some women that would be horny as well and wouldnt say NO especially to a fresh 22 year old muscular tall handsome guy because they dont have that opportunity too often right?? I have to mention here that I have no anxiety when it comes to approaching some women who are older; I would just talk to them similar to the 20 year old women I guessâ¦ But is this whole idea even realistic or BS? Would something about approaching and talking and the whole process change?- What is your opinion on the whole thing

Hey Dave - thank you for writing in, I appreciate the long comment. I'll have to answer with a shorter reply however.

1) 7 x 6.5 is huge --- I'm 7 x 6 after years of bathmate, PE and chicks think I'm really big.
Since you are asking me if you...

Hey Dave - thank you for writing in, I appreciate the long comment. I'll have to answer with a shorter reply however.

1) 7 x 6.5 is huge --- I'm 7 x 6 after years of bathmate, PE and chicks think I'm really big.
Since you are asking me if you should do it, I say - No
Simply because it is clearly not a primary goal.
However, if you use Bathmate for 12minutes, every other day --- you'll get nice, easy, fun gains

2) Absolutely, older women (30+) don't mind hosting at all. Totally realistic. In fact, I'm done more women (33-39) in their bed than in my own. A helpful pointer is to tell women that are 31-39, that they look like they in their 20s. They aren't attention whores like younger girls - but they really appreciate that type of compliments, regardless if it's true or not

Great stuff, as always, AND JUST WHAT I NEEDED, since time isn't exactly an abundant commodity at this point of my life.

Will try and practice these principles. I did half of your AA Program, but it was enough to obliterate my Approach Anxiety...

Great stuff, as always, AND JUST WHAT I NEEDED, since time isn't exactly an abundant commodity at this point of my life.

Will try and practice these principles. I did half of your AA Program, but it was enough to obliterate my Approach Anxiety for most cases. I could easily approach 20 girls/day... if I had the time. Now I just do 5 a day, so long as I can leave the house.

Never told you this before (how ungrateful), but THANKS A MILLION for all the stuff you put out there. Really. Best of lucks in all future endeavours.

Hey Chris, great article. My question is, what would you reccomend for someone under 20 (without a fake ID) to ask women? I actually have a spot back at my house separate from my parents that I could ask them to have a drink at. But do you think...

Hey Chris, great article. My question is, what would you reccomend for someone under 20 (without a fake ID) to ask women? I actually have a spot back at my house separate from my parents that I could ask them to have a drink at. But do you think it's to forward to invite chicks directly to my house for a drink? If so, what are my other options. Thanks so much.

Chris, for the period where you first moved to LA to join the PUA coaching program into the "golden era", you didn't have any source of income outside of your parents? For what 2-3 years? And then you started as a personal trainer to get some...

Chris, for the period where you first moved to LA to join the PUA coaching program into the "golden era", you didn't have any source of income outside of your parents? For what 2-3 years? And then you started as a personal trainer to get some income and get your priorities in order and slowed down on partying? Just curious.

Hey Eric - I worked some odd jobs (catered big parties in Beverly Hills, Pepsi promotions, etc.) and a had a few trainees (and diet clients) before I really got into the personal training. But yeah, largely I didn't have a consistent income for 2...

Hey Eric - I worked some odd jobs (catered big parties in Beverly Hills, Pepsi promotions, etc.) and a had a few trainees (and diet clients) before I really got into the personal training. But yeah, largely I didn't have a consistent income for 2 years after I moved to LA from San Diego

There was def. some guilt associated with it. Especially on slow nights when I'd be walking around Hollywood drunk by myself. Some low times. The first half of that first year (the pickup program) was pretty rough and my heart wasn't in it. once...

There was def. some guilt associated with it. Especially on slow nights when I'd be walking around Hollywood drunk by myself. Some low times. The first half of that first year (the pickup program) was pretty rough and my heart wasn't in it. once I left the program, I took a month off (a friend died) and I really started taking life seriously on all fronts. It was a turning point, a 'do or die' type of thing.

Which one?

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