At one point in my life I felt like I didn't belong anywhere, still feel that way. I feel as if I am alone in the universe and there is no one who can relate to me. I mean, I don't mean to sound like an asshole or anything, but whenever I'm talking to someone about something personal about myself like an experience I had or my thought pattern, a lot of them are quick to shoot off "I know how you feel" and follow that with the most stupid thing I could imagine someone who understood saying.

I don't understand why people always feel like they must tell these stupid lies! If you don't understand, it's perfectly okay to say so, I can't take you to court for it. Although maybe if I was American I'd try lol (Jamaican humour).

All I really want from a person, is honesty. If you are honest with me then I know where we stand, but if you lie, I'll constantly be expecting something from you, in accordance with your lie, like a particular behaviour or reaction. And I really wish people would stop expecting me to lie to them.

I'm not the sort that lies to people, about anything. I'd more likely say to you that I'm not gonna answer your question than lie to you, be it a white, pink, green, or orange lie. A lie is a lie and I hate lies and liars.

People say they wanna hear the truth.... but they don't. So I end up talking to these guys, usually older, more educated, and I am always forthcoming with the fact that I am brutally honest (obviously to a fault) and they are always saying how great that is, and they value honesty. But when I am honest with them in a way that matters, they shrivel up like a snail when you throw salt on it. They get their puney little feelings hurt, take offense, and never speak to me again.

It's funny, but it's sad. I'll never find a mate in this condition, and I wont become something I hate just to have a mate. And not just a mate, but proper friends. Which leads me to conclude that there is not, indeed, a place in the world for everyone. I AM, however, too young to be concluding such a thing, so I'll hold of for another decade or so- if I live that long. And then I'll start adopting all kinds of animals and simulate their natural habitats in my yard.

At one point in my life I felt like I didn't belong anywhere, still feel that way. I feel as if I am alone in the universe and there is no one who can relate to me. I mean, I don't mean to sound like an asshole or anything, but whenever I'm talking to someone about something personal about myself like an experience I had or my thought pattern, a lot of them are quick to shoot off "I know how you feel" and follow that with the most stupid thing I could imagine someone who understood saying.

I don't understand why people always feel like they must tell these stupid lies! If you don't understand, it's perfectly okay to say so, I can't take you to court for it. Although maybe if I was American I'd try lol (Jamaican humour).

All I really want from a person, is honesty. If you are honest with me then I know where we stand, but if you lie, I'll constantly be expecting something from you, in accordance with your lie, like a particular behaviour or reaction. And I really wish people would stop expecting me to lie to them.

I'm not the sort that lies to people, about anything. I'd more likely say to you that I'm not gonna answer your question than lie to you, be it a white, pink, green, or orange lie. A lie is a lie and I hate lies and liars.

People say they wanna hear the truth.... but they don't. So I end up talking to these guys, usually older, more educated, and I am always forthcoming with the fact that I am brutally honest (obviously to a fault) and they are always saying how great that is, and they value honesty. But when I am honest with them in a way that matters, they shrivel up like a snail when you throw salt on it. They get their puney little feelings hurt, take offense, and never speak to me again.

It's funny, but it's sad. I'll never find a mate in this condition, and I wont become something I hate just to have a mate. And not just a mate, but proper friends. Which leads me to conclude that there is not, indeed, a place in the world for everyone. I AM, however, too young to be concluding such a thing, so I'll hold of for another decade or so- if I live that long. And then I'll start adopting all kinds of animals and simulate their natural habitats in my yard.

Okay, I'm going out on a limb here. Kitsune1st, if you really want some honest responses, no nonsense responses to your profile--are you ready????--I'd nix that cleavage shot and put up something less sexually provocative.

You sound like a really sweet young woman. A genuine seeker of love. But that photo you've got up there as your number one pix shouts out "F**k me." It's not going to garner you many serious responses, I'm quite sure.

You do sound as though you want honest, heartfelt responses, Kitsune1st. So, how about it? A far less sexually explicit photo that shows a great smile and exhibits far more of your personality and character than that "boob" shot which shows--to men, most certainly, only one thing. That you want to get f*****.

You most definitely want more than that, so show it. I've been on these blogs a long, long time, Kitsune1st, and I can tell you from experience that super-sexy photos from women garner nothing for them but men on the make looking for nothing but sex.

Just saying.

Pat

Quoting Kitsune1st:

At one point in my life I felt like I didn't belong anywhere, still feel that way. I feel as if I am alone in the universe and there is no one who can relate to me. I mean, I don't mean to sound like an asshole or anything, but whenever I'm talking to someone about something personal about myself like an experience I had or my thought pattern, a lot of them are quick to shoot off "I know how you feel" and follow that with the most stupid thing I could imagine someone who understood saying.

I don't understand why people always feel like they must tell these stupid lies! If you don't understand, it's perfectly okay to say so, I can't take you to court for it. Although maybe if I was American I'd try lol (Jamaican humour).

All I really want from a person, is honesty. If you are honest with me then I know where we stand, but if you lie, I'll constantly be expecting something from you, in accordance with your lie, like a particular behaviour or reaction. And I really wish people would stop expecting me to lie to them.

I'm not the sort that lies to people, about anything. I'd more likely say to you that I'm not gonna answer your question than lie to you, be it a white, pink, green, or orange lie. A lie is a lie and I hate lies and liars.

People say they wanna hear the truth.... but they don't. So I end up talking to these guys, usually older, more educated, and I am always forthcoming with the fact that I am brutally honest (obviously to a fault) and they are always saying how great that is, and they value honesty. But when I am honest with them in a way that matters, they shrivel up like a snail when you throw salt on it. They get their puney little feelings hurt, take offense, and never speak to me again.

It's funny, but it's sad. I'll never find a mate in this condition, and I wont become something I hate just to have a mate. And not just a mate, but proper friends. Which leads me to conclude that there is not, indeed, a place in the world for everyone. I AM, however, too young to be concluding such a thing, so I'll hold of for another decade or so- if I live that long. And then I'll start adopting all kinds of animals and simulate their natural habitats in my yard.

Quoting Kitsune1st:

At one point in my life I felt like I didn't belong anywhere, still feel that way. I feel as if I am alone in the universe and there is no one who can relate to me. I mean, I don't mean to sound like an asshole or anything, but whenever I'm talking to someone about something personal about myself like an experience I had or my thought pattern, a lot of them are quick to shoot off "I know how you feel" and follow that with the most stupid thing I could imagine someone who understood saying.

I don't understand why people always feel like they must tell these stupid lies! If you don't understand, it's perfectly okay to say so, I can't take you to court for it. Although maybe if I was American I'd try lol (Jamaican humour).

All I really want from a person, is honesty. If you are honest with me then I know where we stand, but if you lie, I'll constantly be expecting something from you, in accordance with your lie, like a particular behaviour or reaction. And I really wish people would stop expecting me to lie to them.

I'm not the sort that lies to people, about anything. I'd more likely say to you that I'm not gonna answer your question than lie to you, be it a white, pink, green, or orange lie. A lie is a lie and I hate lies and liars.

People say they wanna hear the truth.... but they don't. So I end up talking to these guys, usually older, more educated, and I am always forthcoming with the fact that I am brutally honest (obviously to a fault) and they are always saying how great that is, and they value honesty. But when I am honest with them in a way that matters, they shrivel up like a snail when you throw salt on it. They get their puney little feelings hurt, take offense, and never speak to me again.

It's funny, but it's sad. I'll never find a mate in this condition, and I wont become something I hate just to have a mate. And not just a mate, but proper friends. Which leads me to conclude that there is not, indeed, a place in the world for everyone. I AM, however, too young to be concluding such a thing, so I'll hold of for another decade or so- if I live that long. And then I'll start adopting all kinds of animals and simulate their natural habitats in my yard.

Okay, I'm going out on a limb here. Kitsune1st, if you really want some honest responses, no nonsense responses to your profile--are you ready????--I'd nix that cleavage shot and put up something less sexually provocative.

You sound like a really sweet young woman. A genuine seeker of love. But that photo you've got up there as your number one pix shouts out "F**k me." It's not going to garner you many serious responses, I'm quite sure.

You do sound as though you want honest, heartfelt responses, Kitsune1st. So, how about it? A far less sexually explicit photo that shows a great smile and exhibits far more of your personality and character than that "boob" shot which shows--to men, most certainly, only one thing. That you want to get f*****.

You most definitely want more than that, so show it. I've been on these blogs a long, long time, Kitsune1st, and I can tell you from experience that super-sexy photos from women garner nothing for them but men on the make looking for nothing but sex.

It is hard sharing difficult life experiences with others as you are right some people will never really understand, some people can relate to a similar experience and others can try to imagine. When people say I know how you feel. They most likely mean they can relate , imagine or in some cases perhaps they do understand. People are just trying to show they care.

In terms of honesty. Honesty is important unless that means hurting peoples feeling. Then perhaps a more delicate approach is needed. I think also it's important especially with new people in your life not to reveal the whole life story. For example I have recently started dating this guy. It came into conversation where I had to say my dad had died of cancer. I left it at that as I could feel like I could talk forever about the hurt and the trauma of it all but to someone new in my life that is too much to reveal and plus I don't know him well enough to be that open. Perhaps a few years down the line I'd have an in-depth talk to him about it. However, for now we focus on life and the positives.

S.L. great idea about getting a pet. I'm going to get two kittens. I miss having a cat.

Sarah :-)

It is hard sharing difficult life experiences with others as you are right some people will never really understand, some people can relate to a similar experience and others can try to imagine. When people say I know how you feel. They most likely mean they can relate , imagine or in some cases perhaps they do understand. People are just trying to show they care.

In terms of honesty. Honesty is important unless that means hurting peoples feeling. Then perhaps a more delicate approach is needed. I think also it's important especially with new people in your life not to reveal the whole life story. For example I have recently started dating this guy. It came into conversation where I had to say my dad had died of cancer. I left it at that as I could feel like I could talk forever about the hurt and the trauma of it all but to someone new in my life that is too much to reveal and plus I don't know him well enough to be that open. Perhaps a few years down the line I'd have an in-depth talk to him about it. However, for now we focus on life and the positives.

S.L. great idea about getting a pet. I'm going to get two kittens. I miss having a cat.