No there’s nothing that I wouldn’t do, to make you feel my love….

“Relationships don’t work the way they do on television and in the movies: Will they, won’t they, and then they finally do and they’re happy forever — gimme a break. Nine out of ten of them end because they weren’t right for each other to begin with, and half the ones that get married get divorced, anyway. And I’m telling you right now, through all this stuff, I have not become a cynic, I haven’t. Yes, I do happen to believe that love is mainly about pushing chocolate-covered candies and, you know, in some cultures, a chicken. You can call me a sucker, I don’t care, ‘cause I do… believe in it. Bottom line… is the couples that are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else but the big difference is they don’t let it take ‘em down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time, if it’s right, and they’re real lucky. One of them will say something.”-Dr. Cox (Scrubs)

Good evening SQers! Happy start of June! Is it me or does time just seem to be racing by even faster than usual? Those of you who have come to be familiar with my weekly posts know that I tend to avoid the subject of love. Only on rare occasions like Valentine’s Day or just some other really arbitrary emotional day will I give insight into my views of love. There’s a couple of reasons for that, but here’s a few…. Love is so complicated and individualized to different people & scenarios that it can be difficult to come up with one uniform definition of what love is or feels like. Another reason is that I am no expert on it and I don’t think any of us are. Love has been known to make idiots out of even the smartest, most logical people. As my friends will tell you, my love life is by no stretch of the imagination an example to aspire to. Nevertheless, here’s a post that is based of a lesson I’ve taken from my love life.

So you’re in love and everything is wonderful. You see the world through rose-colored glasses, can’t get enough of the person you’re with and live on cloud 9. Then something ugly and imperfect rears its head and ultimately leads to the demise of your relationship. Now everything is not so wonderful. You walk around like you have a little black cloud over your head hating life and haunted by the memories of your ex. To add insult to injury, maybe you see that while you have been moping around your ex has found someone new. Time has passed, but you still find yourself holding on to the feelings and memories of the past. You can’t let it go and more than that you don’t want to. Well really you have two options: 1) say nothing and get over your feelings on your own 2) tell your ex how you feel

Option #1 is a perfectly viable option. However, it involves you repressing your emotions which is extremely unhealthy. The more you repress those feelings, the more likely they are to reveal themselves at an inopportune moment. Option #2 is the harder option. It involves you taking a gamble and a risk to share your feelings with the person you love. Maybe it will work in your favor and be a fairytale ending for the two of you. More likely it won’t, but either way you have to be ready to accept the consequences are.

If the feelings to you are real and your relationship with the other person matters, then it is worth fighting for. You would be doing yourself a great disservice not fighting at all. The worst that can happen is the other person tells you that they happen to not feel the same way.

As it is the time we get on this earth is fleeting so rather than living with regrets, remorse and what if’s, live with the comfort of knowing you are living life the best way possible: not ruled by regret. You stood by your convictions and fought for what matters….love.

Why Sunday Quotes?

This idea originally came to me when I was going through a difficult time and needed to find a way to deal with things. I started to look for a positive quote at the start of every week that I ended up writing on a post-it note and keeping on my desk to motivate & get me through the week. It usually would reflect whatever was on my mind at the time. I've always been a quotes and lyrics girl so it came naturally and sort of evolved into a weekly tradition. I started sharing my quotes with a few of my friends and figured it would just be easier to turn it into a blog to be able to share with everyone. So enjoy =)