Why Men Say They Finish Too Quickly

Don't worry, he's not blaming it on you.

Here's a sad but true fact: Around 30 percent of men are dissatisfied with how long they last in bed, according to new research in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

In the study of over 1,200 men, 376 of them reported that they ejaculated sooner than they wanted to during sex. Then the researchers split these men up into two groups—men who met the criteria for premature ejaculation (classified as ejaculating in less than two minutes) and men who lasted longer, but were still finishing sooner than they wished.

Interestingly, most of the men in this study didn't actually meet the diagnostic criteria for premature ejaculation. This could point to the fact that even healthy men may wish they lasted longer in bed (something that we’re sure most women wouldn't argue about). Plus, this finding may point to the need for a broader definition of premature ejaculation, note the researchers.

So what did men blame for their quick release? When the researchers asked guys why they thought this happened, most men from both groups chalked it up to either a lack of control or hypersensitivity, a.k.a. being too aroused. Fewer men cited problems with their partner, anxiety, or health issues.

With most guys attributing this issue to a lack of control, it can be helpful to let your partner know that there are things you both can do to remedy the situation. For starters, check out these five ways to help him last longer in bed. Plus, you can always assure him that are other ways he can please you if he finishes well before you do. He's still got perfectly functioning fingers and a tongue, doesn't he?