If the thought of spending the holidays with in-laws gives you fits, this might be a good time to do something about it.

"Three out of four marriages are impacted by problematic in-law relationships," according to Deanna Brann, author of "Reluctantly Related: Secrets to Getting Along With Your Mother-in Law or Daughter-in-Law."

Brann offers these five tips on enjoying the holidays together:

Be a team player. Regardless of who is hosting, ask questions, compliment, offer help.

Don't take things personally. Everyone is stressed during the holidays, so as long as you know you're on your best behavior, you can be certain it's not all about you.

Find the humor. No matter what happens, look for the humor in the situation.

Find some time for yourself. Take a few minutes to reflect and to re-energize.

Establish ground rules in advance. Talk to your spouse and agree on how long you'll be staying. If necessary, take two cars and let the family know what time you plan to leave.