#BETHE1TO ASK

SEPTEMBER 11, 2017

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What seems like such a simple task, people often can’t find the right way to say it or get up the nerves to say it. What seems like such a simple and easy task can actually be what saves someone else’s life.

Are you thinking of killing yourself?

Research shows that acknowledging and talking about suicide may reduce, rather than increase, suicidal ideation. Having the feeling of someone recognizing and addressing the immediate issue can be a lifesaver for so many. Peoples main motive for taking their lives is the idea that they are somehow a burden to all of those around them. Showing interest and asking the direct question can show them that we do see them and they are not a burden.

Knowing when to ask is very important as well. There are many warning signs of someone considering suicide. Not everyone has the same motives, or demonstrates the same signs. Some people might not show warning signs at all. However, if we can pick up on the signs that we can see, we can ASK them about it.

SUICIDE WARNING SIGNS

Talking about wanting to die or kill oneself.

Looking for a way to kill oneself, such as searching online or buying a gun.

Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.

Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.

Talking about being a burden to others.

Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.

Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.

Sleeping too little or too much.

Withdrawing or feeling isolated.

Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.

Displaying extreme moods wings.

Taking the time to recognize the signs, reaching out, and asking straight up if someone is considering taking their life, it can save them. When I had attempted to take my life I felt like I had no one. I was isolated and felt like I was causing everyone around me to be so stressed out that it would have just been better to remove the problem; me. Thankfully those attempts ended in failure so that I could take my experience and help others realize there is so much more to life than that one moment.

At the time of the last attempt, I had burned so may bridges and pushed so many people away, that I really didn’t feel like I had anyone to ask me if I was ok or considering suicide. After the fact I realized I had a few people who did care, but they didn’t know how to reach out to me anymore since I had basically cut all the strings along the way. I was wishing and hoping someone would prove me wrong and go that extra mile to break down that wall and reach me. I was still trying to leave a back door there.

Be the one to ask someone if they are considering suicide. Go further with your concern and worry. Make sure they hear you. Even though it takes some extra effort on your part, it could save that persons life. That is a low price to pay to keep someone in your life. More often than not the people who want to take their life are usually still holding out some amount of hope that someone will break through that wall.

What seems like such a simple task, people often can’t find the right way to say it or get up the nerves to say it. What seems like such a simple and easy task can actually be what saves someone else’s life.

Are you thinking of killing yourself?

Research shows that acknowledging and talking about suicide may reduce, rather than increase, suicidal ideation. Having the feeling of someone recognizing and addressing the immediate issue can be a lifesaver for so many. Peoples main motive for taking their lives is the idea that they are somehow a burden to all of those around them. Showing interest and asking the direct question can show them that we do see them and they are not a burden.

Knowing when to ask is very important as well. There are many warning signs of someone considering suicide. Not everyone has the same motives, or demonstrates the same signs. Some people might not show warning signs at all. However, if we can pick up on the signs that we can see, we can ASK them about it.

SUICIDE WARNING SIGNS

Talking about wanting to die or kill oneself.

Looking for a way to kill oneself, such as searching online or buying a gun.

Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.

Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.

Talking about being a burden to others.

Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.

Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.

Sleeping too little or too much.

Withdrawing or feeling isolated.

Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.

Displaying extreme moods wings.

Taking the time to recognize the signs, reaching out, and asking straight up if someone is considering taking their life, it can save them. When I had attempted to take my life I felt like I had no one. I was isolated and felt like I was causing everyone around me to be so stressed out that it would have just been better to remove the problem; me. Thankfully those attempts ended in failure so that I could take my experience and help others realize there is so much more to life than that one moment.

At the time of the last attempt, I had burned so may bridges and pushed so many people away, that I really didn’t feel like I had anyone to ask me if I was ok or considering suicide. After the fact I realized I had a few people who did care, but they didn’t know how to reach out to me anymore since I had basically cut all the strings along the way. I was wishing and hoping someone would prove me wrong and go that extra mile to break down that wall and reach me. I was still trying to leave a back door there.

Be the one to ask someone if they are considering suicide. Go further with your concern and worry. Make sure they hear you. Even though it takes some extra effort on your part, it could save that persons life. That is a low price to pay to keep someone in your life. More often than not the people who want to take their life are usually still holding out some amount of hope that someone will break through that wall.