(Closed) Bachelorette bs, canceling it…

Am I being ridiculous, one of my bridesmaids is getting married around the same time I am. When I was asked about a date for my bachelorette I made sure it was going to be ok with her before weplanned it. It is now the night after. We were supposed to be going to two different spots doing I hope different things. Well I guess there has been issues so they changed plans it is now the same spot mine is at. I want to cancel but everyone has been saying just don’t go to hers. I can’t do that it’rude, I just wish she would of taken the same precautions as I have.

I’ve been in tears for the last hour. I know I will get sick of the place by the time we get there for mine.

Well I would have a chat with her. Is combing the parties an option? Have everyone celebrate both of you getting married? That COULD be fun! Or you can just go ahead with your orginial plans and explain to her that you’d love to be there and celebrate for her, but your party had already made plans and reservations (etc) and that you hope she has a fun and safe evening. Even send her a ‘yay your getting married!’ card and a little gift.

It was rude for her not to double check with you, but I know as a busy planning bride if things don’t go as planned you make a plan B and you make it quick. She probably did that and completly blanked on your party.

Just so I understand: her bachelorette party is on one day at one place, and your bachelorette party is on the next day at the same place?

Is the place a bar/club? In that case, I don’t think it actually matters. You can still go to the same bar with your friends two nights in a row and have a lot of fun. You will be there to celebrate your friend the first night; your friends will be there to celebrate you the next night.

Anyway, it seems like your friend has no idea that your party is supposed to be in the same place, so I doubt she scheduled it this way on purpose. I wouldn’t cancel your own party because of an accident.

It’s a casino, and I know I won’t be able to handle two nights of the same crap at the same place. I kind of wanted mine to be special for me, especially since I am going to be tired from her night out.

That’s not fair to her. Or us, it’s a night out for her, I don’t want to come in. Plus we don’t have many mutual friends. I know I sound ridiculous but this whole bachelorette has been a headache. And my shower was awful. I’d rather cancel it and celebrate her. I’m done with the bullcrap.

@FutureMrsSpencer: No friends are the same.. which I know sounds like why don’t we just keep it the way it is. I know I am going to be bored, I have ADD and things get boring quickly. Plus I’m sure we will have different things to do within the casino that we wouldn’t be at eachothers.

Honestly, I think you’re overreacting here. Your Bridesmaid or Best Man shouldn’t have to sacrifice her plans because you think you’ll be sick of the casino and don’t want to go 2 nights in a row. If you had a bunch of mutual friends, I could understand being annoyed because it’s a lot to expect out of people, but since you don’t, I fail to see an issue here. Her friends planned a party they wanted (and hopefully one your Bridesmaid or Best Man wanted) at a time and placed that worked for them. Just like you friends did for you. If it’s that big of a problem you can do something different for yours or just leave hers early.