I totally think that the moms get it easier. BM took the kids and went to FL she was gone for 6 months and DH had no contact. If it was the other way around DH would be in jail for kidnapping. We fought for 2 years to get the temporary order put in as a full order. She never cooperated and did as she was told but it was chance after chance after chance. And then when she did get clean and got her visits back the CPS worker removed the need for supervised visits after less than a month So far we haven't had any problems but I think the only thing is that she isn't primary custidian anymore so if she takes off with them then she will go to jail for kidnapping.

I also see the kids in these situations giving the moms chance after chance. I know my boys have, but when it is a dad that leaves then they are the scum of the earth.