Dating a hiv

There are plenty of good reasons to utter the words “lets just be friends” after a first date.

Regardless of what your reasoning to either call or not call him again, his HIV status shouldn’t be a factor.

Pay attention, and you two may live happily ever after – or at least not break up over HIV. So when in doubt, ask as many questions as you like.

He will be happy that you feel comfortable talking about it with him and, more than likely, will be able to allay any worry you may have. Don’t assume that you are the only one who is afraid.

After our make-out session, I was relieved to find out HIV can only be spread through certain bodily fluids — blood, semen, rectal and vaginal fluid and breast milk. I hadn't spoken to my date since he told me, aside from a quick apology for reacting so harshly. And we both hoped our talk would open up a conversation about those living with HIV and how they continue to make the most of their lives, despite the stigma that comes with being infected.

But had he already suffered through worse reactions? So it's time you all listen up: Sean Abrams: So, when did you find out you had HIV?

Maybe I thought his mannerisms were off-putting, or he might've been a bit too feminine or too masculine for my liking. But then, I stopped talking to someone because they had HIV... The guy told me his status after two relatively successful dates. As I grew more overwhelmed and flustered, he explained we never would have had sex without him revealing his status to me.

He didn't have to do that, but as our conversation gradually shifted in the direction of sex, it was bound to come up. I had never met someone who was HIV-positive, and frankly, I knew close to nothing about the disease at all. We had never gotten to the point of anything close to sex, but we did make out in my room. I had been feeling sick the days prior, so was I now infected? And he also explained more about his low strain and how undetectable it was due to the medicine he was on.

However, there are a few things you should be know when starting a relationship with an HIV-positive guy. You may be worried that a question or concern you have may hurt his feelings. People living with HIV understand that you may have fears or trepidations, especially if you're dating someone with HIV for the first time (at least, the first time that you know about).

There are plenty of good reasons to utter the words “let’s just be friends” after a first date.

Perhaps there was no chemistry or a lack of shared interests, or maybe he was just a little bit of a dick.

Tom*: Technically, I contracted HIV in December of last year (2015).

I tested positive for it around the end of January, and I had three different tests because I didn't think it was correct.