The body is constantly talking, and our role as therapists is to provide you with the guidance to listen to — and trust — your gut.

Neuroscientist Michael Gershon refers to the gut as “the second brain,” and the intelligence of the unconscious.

While we often spend our time honoring the brain in our skull, the one in our bellies hosts its own nervous system, the enteric nervous system. It is the home to over 30 neurotransmitters and over 90% of our serotonin, the hormone that impacts our mood.

The butterflies in your stomach while awaiting his text messages are actually the result of these two systems working together — to either increase your joy or make you sick.

Your digestive system behaves in response to your relationship issues.

Before you place anything in the sacred space of your lush lips, ask yourself, “Is this real food?” If so, what part of my body will it nourish? Do I know the source? Am I eating it for nourishment, or from a place fear or rage? Pause after each question, and check-in with your body. Believe that you have a wealth of innate wisdom there, that will always tell you whether it is pleased with your choices.

2. Talk to your gut.

I often engage my clients in a writing exercise in which they engage in a dialogue with their physical symptoms. I ask them to imagine their physical ailment is an actual person with thoughts, feelings, and a plan.

Try it for yourself:

Take a few moments to yourself in a quiet room.

If you like, play some soft music in the background.

Imagine your symptom of physical discomfort has transformed into a human being — and talk to it.

Begin with the question, “Why are you here?”

Allow a dialogue to emerge.

End with the question, “What do I have to do to experience some relief?”

The answers may surprise you. And they may invite you toward real change.

3. Embrace forgiveness.

There’s a reason why forgiveness is rooted in every spiritual tradition, including 12-step practices — it is the root of healing and connection.