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Husband gets angry if I don't experiment

Good Day maam. I am 29f. I m a working girl nd have been married for a year. My husband is good as a person. He takes care of me, never says no to me and in a way my marriage is perfect. But whn it comes to bed I am finding it hard to satisfy himm. I m not very expeeimental there and he is. He always tries new things believing it would spice it up. I agree but sometimes I don't like a few but he is not accepting a no. He always says that if he is so caring and loving then can't I do only this much for him. I agree. Altho things like anal and all are not my thing. A few days back he asked me to try watersports in bed. I didn't knw what it meant so read about it. I was shocked and disgusted. This time I said a final no. He got angry and since that day he is not talking to me properly and things are not alright. What should I do maam?

Hmmm. well, my dear, you have the right to refuse to do things that are unacceptable to you. He has to realise that while you are happy to be intimate with him, yet there could be some fantasies and experiments that you don't want to be part of. It's all right to draw the line. Its important to have a healthy sex life but when some things disgust you, its OK to say 'no' as well.

Good Day maam. I am 29f. I m a working girl nd have been married for a year. My husband is good as a person. He takes care of me, never says no to me and in a way my marriage is perfect. But whn it comes to bed I am finding it hard to satisfy himm. I m not very expeeimental there and he is. He always tries new things believing it would spice it up. I agree but sometimes I don't like a few but he is not accepting a no. He always says that if he is so caring and loving then can't I do only this much for him. I agree. Altho things like anal and all are not my thing. A few days back he asked me to try watersports in bed. I didn't knw what it meant so read about it. I was shocked and disgusted. This time I said a final no. He got angry and since that day he is not talking to me properly and things are not alright. What should I do maam?

typical..
i always thought sex was weapon for women..
but he is using this to his advantage...
Well if he cares for you, then he should understand that No means No...
from your part, if you can then you can give a try to whatever he is suggesting...
but the consent to do anything should be mutual...ideally

Good Day maam. I am 29f. I m a working girl nd have been married for a year. My husband is good as a person. He takes care of me, never says no to me and in a way my marriage is perfect. But whn it comes to bed I am finding it hard to satisfy himm. I m not very expeeimental there and he is. He always tries new things believing it would spice it up. I agree but sometimes I don't like a few but he is not accepting a no. He always says that if he is so caring and loving then can't I do only this much for him. I agree. Altho things like anal and all are not my thing. A few days back he asked me to try watersports in bed. I didn't knw what it meant so read about it. I was shocked and disgusted. This time I said a final no. He got angry and since that day he is not talking to me properly and things are not alright. What should I do maam?

Well, a NO means NO but a relation is always based on mutual adjustments, agreements, respect for each other and fulfilling each other's desires. Now your husband has some desires, few you might fulfill or you have have some other way to spice the sexual life of yours. I'm not at all suggesting that you should succumb under his pressure but spicing up things will help your relation to him. Turning a cold ear to his desires completely might only turn relation sour.

Wo sab to theek hai but what kind of pleasure it gives throwing water on each other in bed ?
I mean , isn't it annoying if someone throws bucket full of water while you are lying down ? Hain !
And how come it is related with sex ?

Wo sab to theek hai but what kind of pleasure it gives throwing water on each other in bed ?
I mean , isn't it annoying if someone throws bucket full of water while you are lying down ? Hain !
And how come it is related with sex ?

He always says that if he is so caring and loving then can't I do only this much for him.

Emotional blackmail? i bet he said that with rolling puppy dog eyes. Tell him that due to him being so caring and loving (his words) he shouldn't really have a problem respecting the word no. Let him sulk for a while he'll come around.

let me tell you your husband doesnt care for you. you need to correct that senstence you wrote. he is in fact a self centered and a true selfish pig. he is being inconsiderate. thats not called caring. to care is to wonder whether am giving my partner the best, whether my partner likes her life... but he is doing things making you hating your life experiences. you will aged trying to satisfy him and you will never succeed. dont give in with the fear of hurting your relationship. you are torturing yourself. i knw women often think let me accept so that he doesnt go to other women. but thats not true. there is no guarantee that this kind of mentality you can expect loyalty.

today you are trying to accept and please him..... with time these kind of sick porn addicts will feel bored even if you experiment each and everything and may start fanatise having sex with different people. dont be shocked one day he ask you to have a threesome. you never know. you need to let him know that he is hurting you. and you are not at ease of doing all those things... let him know he is not respecting you. and you feel bad about it. and protect yourself!