I was at a bar the other night, and three different men felt it was appropriate to touch me. One even went so far as to kiss my forehead. This wasn't a crowded bar, it wasn't like it was an accidental brushing. This was a conscious choice to put an arm around my waist or try to tickle my stomach. I was so uncomfortable and said as much. One guy even said to me "I don't even know you but I feel like I have to touch you." Thankfully, he didn't after I asked him not to. What is the deal? Why do some men think it's ok to place their hands on a female they don't know? Do they think they're entitled to it? Looking and leering is just as bad. Telling me I'd be much more attractive if I smiled (thanks, Salvation Army guy) is just as bad. Objectifying women is just as bad. It is not ok. Doesn't matter if you're a guy at a bar, a movie star, or the President.

I was at a bar the other night, and three different men felt it was appropriate to touch me. One even went so far as to kiss my forehead. This wasn't a crowded bar, it wasn't like it was an accidental brushing. This was a conscious choice to put an arm around my waist or try to tickle my stomach. I was so uncomfortable and said as much. One guy even said to me "I don't even know you but I feel like I have to touch you." Thankfully, he didn't after I asked him not to. What is the deal? Why do some men think it's ok to place their hands on a female they don't know? Do they think they're entitled to it? Looking and leering is just as bad. Telling me I'd be much more attractive if I smiled (thanks, Salvation Army guy) is just as bad. Objectifying women is just as bad. It is not ok. Doesn't matter if you're a guy at a bar, a movie star, or the President.

Well said. And i do believe its a huge entitlement issue.Its SO COMMON that its truly an epidemic. And 1 in 8 women are raped on college campuses. And remember those stats are based on assaults that WERE reported, and think of how many are not? Its NOT funny, its NOT ok and men need to realize its that the boys will be boys mentality IS PART of the problem. Many will come out and say its not right, like Affleck did, only to find hes doing it too. Now, this morning, another big shot with Miramax has been suspended due to possible harassment issues. See, thats the problem....they are all of such a like mind, they dont hold each other accountable, no checks and balances, and POWER.. These men see women as a lower life form for their entertainment. Thats an awful thing to say.

And all this coming out will hopefully get women out of their mode of fear and complacency, out of the "i better not make waves, who will believe me" mentality. Its a part of the problem too. That has to stop. If i was an actress out there, I'd go to all auditions with them knowing i was recording the meeting.

Im not sure whats more frustrating, that THIS is so out of control OR that men get really defensive and try to minimize a seriously deep cultural issue....like Judas did. Thats exactly HOW they think.

Says the same gender that think men are no longer masculine. These are the things that make men think women are crazy"

Can you explain what that has to do with the single issue we are trying to discuss? This isnt about DATING or relationship issues.

I mean no disrespect, but are you autistic or have a learning disability? All your thoughts seem to run together even when theres no correlation, and quite frankly its hard when trying to discuss something. Are you possibly kidding? I honestly do not know.

As for are men objectified question, yes they are. And i assume you are referring to sugar daddy type things? but those are consensual relationship issues, right? This is not a relationship issue, is it?

Sexual harassment is a game of power and the vast majority of time he is the one with it.

Using your power to make or break someone's career based on how they react to your sexual advances, is an abhorrent reality and it happens over every sector of society. From restaurants to corporate ladders to Hollywood.

This isn't new or shocking, it's always been this way no matter the era. Mad Men, anyone?

Dorothy Parker --- 57 min ago - quote - hide commentsUsing your power to make or break someone's career based on how they react to your sexual advances, is an abhorrent reality and it happens over every sector of society. From restaurants to corporate ladders to Hollywood.

This isn't new or shocking, it's always been this way no matter the era. Mad Men, anyone?

Exactly true- and men immediately get on the defensive every time this subject comes up, because it threatens their sense of superiority and control.

We just have to go case by case i guess. THIS case is an open and shut case. There is no defending him. He admitted everything and it is bringing to light that this is a big problem. If its her word against his, we have to call that what it is.

In Cosby's case, it appears that its about the same as Weinstein's, but we dont have a verdict yet. But man, this is just everywhere. Hollywood has alwyas had the casting couch but men deny and then the women dont hold them accountable and it all just goes away, except it dosent.

However, how many times has this type of thing happened when in reality it's been a quid pro quo arrangement gone wrong.?

This is exactly the type of mindset that is so disgusting. It's also victim shaming at its finest. You have women coming out of the woodwork to accuse these men of sexual harassment... And the first thought is "they're just looking to get something out of it." Did you know Rose McGowen accused Harvey Weinstein of rape over and over again but was disregarded because she failed to provide adequate proof? Did you know that women everywhere are disregarded because we fail to provide adequate proof? We are touched, cat called, berated, called names, and forced into situations that are harmful to not only our bodies but our psyche as well. And if we speak out, we are trying to gain something. If we point fingers, we are just scorned women trying to make the men look bad. After all, we're only women. Surely we were asking for it in some way.

By taking a person's deplorable actions and placing some of the blame on the victim you are condoning rape culture.

Emp is the perfect example of why these things continue to happen. All women should dress like trolls and be self loathing so men will not feel tempted by her charms. Otherwise, who's to say she wasn't asking for it? Did no really mean no, or was she just being a tease? Have you seen the way she dresses/acts? She's probably lying, she's a beyotch anyway.

This is why it's important to raise our sons to respect women and lose the sick mindset displayed above.