He says I tricked him into getting pregnant!!! OMG!!!

Me and DH got into a fight this mornig because I didnt want to do the deed I was busy getting our 3 other children ready for school and was in a rush and not in the mood....one thing lead to another and it came out where he thinks I tricked him into getting pregnant! OMG....a little background info. my DH ex tricked him into getting married by getting pregnant and they only last 4 whole months...so I have an amazing step DD who lives with us full time...and them we have a DD and d DS together....well like a year ago I decided I wanted another baby....he didnt...so I stayed on my B/C pills and then when my SIL had her baby we BOTH decided we wanted another one....this was now 7 months ago....so I got of my pills and he was FULLY aware of this and I was using OPK's and taking PG test all the time....and I would even tell him "i'm Ovulating lets get going" and he was all on borad...now all of a sudden 15 weeks into this pregnancy he says I tricked him? OMG!!!!! I am so upset! I don't know what to do!

Me and DH got into a fight this mornig because I didnt want to do the deed I was busy getting our 3 other children ready for school and was in a rush and not in the mood....one thing lead to another and it came out where he thinks I tricked him into getting pregnant! OMG....a little background info. my DH ex tricked him into getting married by getting pregnant and they only last 4 whole months...so I have an amazing step DD who lives with us full time...and them we have a DD and d DS together....well like a year ago I decided I wanted another baby....he didnt...so I stayed on my B/C pills and then when my SIL had her baby we BOTH decided we wanted another one....this was now 7 months ago....so I got of my pills and he was FULLY aware of this and I was using OPK's and taking PG test all the time....and I would even tell him "i'm Ovulating lets get going" and he was all on borad...now all of a sudden 15 weeks into this pregnancy he says I tricked him? OMG!!!!! I am so upset! I don't know what to do!

He just wanted sex this morning. He will soon forget it. Maybe tonight makeup sex is what he has in mind. Words are hurtful. I say pick your battles or calmly tell him how hurtful he was in telling you that this morning. Just remember it was during an argument not just out of the blue.

He just wanted sex this morning. He will soon forget it. Maybe tonight makeup sex is what he has in mind. Words are hurtful. I say pick your battles or calmly tell him how hurtful he was in telling you that this morning. Just remember it was during an argument not just out of the blue.

I know it hurts, but like the previous post said he was in the mood! Men say things all the time to hurt us when we arent in the mood! After I had my twins I never wanted to be woken up for the deed, I would never do it and I would get so mad, I was tired and he just would never try anyother time! Well he has told me that he would go find it somewhere else, hes thrown his pillow and a condom across the room, tells me that if I loved him I would do it! It hurts but he ends up apoligizing the next day when I tell him how he sounded! Yes, we dont have it like we used to but Im tired after dealing with kids all day and all the housework, then going to work at night time! Just let him know it hurt you and that you will not tolerate him lashing out at you for not being able to get any!

I know it hurts, but like the previous post said he was in the mood! Men say things all the time to hurt us when we arent in the mood! After I had my twins I never wanted to be woken up for the deed, I would never do it and I would get so mad, I was tired and he just would never try anyother time! Well he has told me that he would go find it somewhere else, hes thrown his pillow and a condom across the room, tells me that if I loved him I would do it! It hurts but he ends up apoligizing the next day when I tell him how he sounded! Yes, we dont have it like we used to but Im tired after dealing with kids all day and all the housework, then going to work at night time! Just let him know it hurt you and that you will not tolerate him lashing out at you for not being able to get any!

So I told DH that I was hurt an he said it doesnt change anything...I asked if he wanted the baby and he said doesnt matter what I want it still dosent change anything...I told him that if he doesnt want the baby then we could seperate and that he didnt have to have realtionship with the baby....he said he wants the baby but he feels he was tricked into getting me pregnant! OMG...I am just going to let him stew for a while....he is on vacation from work until 11/1/2010 because every year him and his dad go to Montana on a deer hunting trip and he will be leaving on Sunday....so he is out getting stuff for his trip...I will just let him stew and I will act like nothing happened...I dont need of want this stress...so maybe if I act like I wasnt effected then maybe just maybe he will get it together....who knows...men are so stressful sometimes...and I know I'm pregnant and my hormones are crazy too....but thats why I get a 9 month free pass on the crazy right?!?!

So I told DH that I was hurt an he said it doesnt change anything...I asked if he wanted the baby and he said doesnt matter what I want it still dosent change anything...I told him that if he doesnt want the baby then we could seperate and that he didnt have to have realtionship with the baby....he said he wants the baby but he feels he was tricked into getting me pregnant! OMG...I am just going to let him stew for a while....he is on vacation from work until 11/1/2010 because every year him and his dad go to Montana on a deer hunting trip and he will be leaving on Sunday....so he is out getting stuff for his trip...I will just let him stew and I will act like nothing happened...I dont need of want this stress...so maybe if I act like I wasnt effected then maybe just maybe he will get it together....who knows...men are so stressful sometimes...and I know I'm pregnant and my hormones are crazy too....but thats why I get a 9 month free pass on the crazy right?!?!

Oh yes! I understand the oh my opinion doesnt matter, it wont change anything! I hear that when we fight!!! lol Like you said act like it doesnt bother you! Just use the attitude it dont matter, be distant from him, dont talk to him unless you have too!!! It usually brings them around!!! Ive used that trick alot! It makes them even more mad when you use the idc attitude, cuz they are wanting some kind of reaction!!! lol

Oh yes! I understand the oh my opinion doesnt matter, it wont change anything! I hear that when we fight!!! lol Like you said act like it doesnt bother you! Just use the attitude it dont matter, be distant from him, dont talk to him unless you have too!!! It usually brings them around!!! Ive used that trick alot! It makes them even more mad when you use the idc attitude, cuz they are wanting some kind of reaction!!! lol

these ladies are so right...he just wanted sex and said whatever he could to hurt you because you turned him down. i had the same issue last night when i told my husband i was too tired.

to be honest, i don't think i am the only woman on here that feels like they are doing everything at about fifty percent. 1/2 of an employee, 1/2 of a mother, 1/2 of a wife.

we just can't go to work all day, come home, make dinner, give baths, clean, and then still be expected to play sexy kitten for the hubby. some things have to give and unfortunately when you are pregnant...it's sex. sometimes not...but more often for us...it is. :(

these ladies are so right...he just wanted sex and said whatever he could to hurt you because you turned him down. i had the same issue last night when i told my husband i was too tired.

to be honest, i don't think i am the only woman on here that feels like they are doing everything at about fifty percent. 1/2 of an employee, 1/2 of a mother, 1/2 of a wife.

we just can't go to work all day, come home, make dinner, give baths, clean, and then still be expected to play sexy kitten for the hubby. some things have to give and unfortunately when you are pregnant...it's sex. sometimes not...but more often for us...it is. :(

I'm so sorry. He is just being s j---. He was totally an active participant and agreed. He is just doing this now because he is scared and isn't getting what he wants supposedly because you are pregnant, but it was actually because of the kids you already have. You aren't being hormonal. He needs to accept his role in the pregnancy. It sounds like he was just mad and took it out on you. Let him have some time to cool down and then he can apologize. Don't feel bad and don't feel guilty. This is his issue. He'll work through it and realize he was wrong.

I'm so sorry. He is just being s j---. He was totally an active participant and agreed. He is just doing this now because he is scared and isn't getting what he wants supposedly because you are pregnant, but it was actually because of the kids you already have. You aren't being hormonal. He needs to accept his role in the pregnancy. It sounds like he was just mad and took it out on you. Let him have some time to cool down and then he can apologize. Don't feel bad and don't feel guilty. This is his issue. He'll work through it and realize he was wrong.

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