(Closed) Proposal Question

This is my first post here. A month ago I purchased my gf’s engagement ring, but since it is a special order it would take approximately 6 weeks to be ready to pick up. While waiting for the ring to be ready, I went ahead and booked the reservations for the proposal (special restaurant & sunset horse-drawn carriage ride downtown in the city we live in)….the date set for the second week in April.

A few days ago my gf received a message from her bestfriend’s boyfriend saying he was planning to propose to the bestfriend very soon and asked my gf what she thought about the two ideas he had come up with for his proposal. My gf’s bestfriend’s proposal will most likely be this coming week, which would put less than two weeks between their engagments.

Don’t you dare postpone a thing! You shouldn’t change when you embark and special moments in your life because of other people – you go right on ahead as planned. Besides, if they’re good friends then they will enjoy this planning time together and no one will feel like their thunder has been stolen. Good luck and congrats!

I thnk its fine!! They’ll have fun planning together. I’m DYING for my sister to get engaged soon bc I want to plan stuff and shop together but she has told me her bf is reluctant to do bc he thinks for some reason that it would be stepping on our toes or bother us.. but I’ve reassured them a hundred times that I WANT them to get engaged soon!

You could always tell the friend what you’re planning to do, that way when she’s surprised with her own engagement, she’ll already know it’s coming. My FI told my best friend and her FI before he did it… I think it’s totally fine!

Thank you to everyone for putting my anxiety at ease! I was worried about the bestfriend being upset thinking I was trying to steal her thunder. My gf is going to be the MOH in her bestfriend’s wedding, and the best friend is going to be the MOH in our wedding. So they are extremely close, and I didn’t want to cause any tension or hurt any feelings. I won’t be changing the date now that I’ve received so much positive feedback. I was starting to panic about changing it all! I will definitely post pics of the ring after I pick it up. I think it should be ready the 29th! I have read through all of your comments several times because you have no idea how much you have helped me, and I’m very appreciative for your time, thoughts, and opinions! Thank you all again!!

@talkderbytome: no worries! you’ve been planning this too, it’s not fair you should have to push it back just because he mentioned it first! would he have moved it back if you’d have been the one to first say something?

if their friendship is very strong, this will only make them stronger. good luck! and introduce her to us here!