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The dilemma Two years ago, a good friend of my husband’s invited us to his intimate wedding. At the reception I leaned over the bar to grab some glasses. A woman tapped me on the shoulder and said, apologetically: “You may want to watch your dress – my husband is taking photos of your underwear.” She pointed to the father of the bride, sniggering with another man, looking at photos he’d taken on his phone. I was mortified, panicked and confused. He came over, put his arm around me and said: “Now, now. You don’t want to make a fuss at my daughter’s wedding. It was just a bit of fun.”I cannot let it go. I am mad at that awful man. I am mad at his complicit wife. I am mad at the guy sniggering at the photos. I am mad at my husband. I am mad at my husband’s friend. And I am mad at myself. And where are the photos now? I feel unrelenting, destructive, all-consuming, anger. Everyone’s actions, reactions and non-actions are ingrained on my memory. It festers like a wound and I’m afraid it will drive me insane. No one did anything – even, and perhaps especially, me.Mariella replies For the sake of your mental health, you have to consider some form of redress. The guy sounds like the living definition of a total creep – slimy, sexist and unreconstructed, the type of man you really don’t want to get stuck in a corner with at a party. Since he’s as out of his time as a T-Rex wandering down Oxford Street, it can’t be long before someone identifies him for the misogynist bully he clearly is.There are people out there tiring of evangelical feminism (despite millennia of the opposite), who might argue that it was just harmless fun at a wedding, an occasion that’s often a combustive combination of heightened emotions and excess alcohol that brings out the worst in normally rational human beings. In the idyllic, truly equal future, we might be able to overlook the odd pathetic transgression from expected normal behaviour. But right now, while we’re in the midst of seismic change, there are examples to be made – and this man has volunteered himself for the cause.This sort of man can’t be allowed to carry on with impunityOn this occasion it looks like Mr Sleazy may have taken his salacious tendencies a step too far. His behaviour strays as close to upskirting as to be nigh on a crime – and his photos are tangible evidence of sexual harassment. On his part, the only honourable course of action would...