Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

During my own counsilling throughout my brothers murder i was given a tool by a brilliant man whome took the time to reach me through those dark days. I still use this tool and for me it helps if it can help any one of you try it and see how you feel afterwards.When i feel my body reacting to a certin situation, i look for the triggers and their realionship to me that cause the feelings, i ususlly now can find the source. During the onset i close my eyes and verbally tell my own mind that it is not happening now, it is not real at present , the past has gone, i am safe. I do this until the feelings have elapsed and i can move about normally. Practising this gives me strength against the realitys of the demons of trauma and that is what we all have we cannot change it, you learn to live with it , not being in denial gives me the power to over come. love to you all..xoxoxo

That is a really good tool to use. Discovering your triggers and the reason's why they are triggering is really difficult. It sounds like you are working with a recovery based model of therapy. Very healthy. Have you heard of WRAP? It is all about wellness and recovery. Practice is the key to anything we do. Bad habits are hard to break and Good habits are hard to make.

Such great advice! I wish I could stop in the middle of a meltdown and recognize that I am reacting to a trigger from something in the past! Problem is, I am so caught up that I can't think straight until after I blow up! Afterwards, I always think to myself, &quot;Wow, I really overreacted! What triggered that?!&quot;

I just have one question that perhaps someone maybe able to answer, when I start having overwhelming anxiety, my body will completly shut down where I am unable to handle simple situations, It is just like all &quot;the lights go out&quot; Why do we shut down like this? Sometimes without any warning signs. I just don't understand, anyone have any answers? It really doesn't seem like a normal panic attack, just something I can't even begin to explain. Lisa

i shut down too so i have trouble putting the feelings with the situation. this is something ive done since childhood. its a coping mechanism. im not sure how to tell myself that im safe when im shut down. does this make any sense?

Every one is different and the chemical reactions in the brain and body for everyone is different. The moment you feel a change this method can be used for some not all. Getting a saliva test from the mouth is far more acurate than most blood tests esp for hormonal distruptions , check with your doctor on the latests tests on chemical levels.Going through any door of conflict is painful, but continually being thrown through one and not of your own doing is hell.........love to you all stay beautiful xoxoxoxo

TC Green i used to be like that, blow up after the event , this method does take time but once you feel the anger disapate and you find the triggers that make your reactions so bad, this method does free you up a lot to allow you to catch your breath as well, let me know how your doing with it......love to you xoxoxo

Cyndi , talk to your mind , tell it even when your shut down that your safe its okay to come out now. When you come out after the feelings have gone look directly at what put you there, when you face the demons no matter how bad they are the demons will lose their power, beacuse your tool is handed directly to your mind by you . Self protection is a normal thing, for all, along with it you know have a tool to help combat your demons until you are strong enough to face them head on and kick them to the curb once and for all.ps by the way its okay for us all to give ourselfs a hug and tell ourself that we really are okay..love to you all xoxoxoox

Sometimes when I'am reacalling in my mind something from my childhood,or even something that took place with my ex and I, I start talking out loud &quot;this is not happening now, you are in your bed, or you are in your car depends on where I'am. I then look around at all my stuff and say that was something you went thur and you are remembering it. You are safe now, you can observe it....but you are safe.It was something I had started doing on my own with out anyone telling me.I just did it one night because I needed to stop my body from shaking and remove that image from my mind. It worked.I dont know what triggered it though, the thinking about it or remembering it in the first place.It just popped into my mind, I was back in the truck with my husband and he was yelling and freaking out, my newborn baby son was in his carseat. I was crying and crying and crying.But it was like I was RIGHT back in the truck again.It was crazy.I kept telling myself out loud as well.....it happened a long time ago, your son is 7 now.Just typing about it makes me tense up I feel it in my legs!!!!But I just want to know how I knew how to do that, use that tool when I knew nothing about it????? Does someone have a answer for that? Thank you.

I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????

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