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I've been MIA because of computer issues so I'm going to try to catch up.

But my biggest issue right now is I was told at my 16 week appt. that I would be getting an ultrasound....JULY 24!!!! ***!!!! I'll be 22 weeks, Roald died at like 24 weeks and I had him at 25. That's cutting it awful close. Ever since 16 weeks I have been an emotional wreck and nothing in my life seems to be going right either. I just am not happy about anything except this baby coming and most of that excitement is now overcome by anxiety and worry.

I have an appt. (but no US) July 10. I want an actual lay out for my prenatal care from then on. Because I was told at 11 weeks at 20 weeks I would get an US then get one every 4 weeks and then after 30 weeks have a weekly NST. But of course they switched it up on me. Ugh!

Not to mention I am sooo worried because my fundus (the top of my uterus) passed my bellybutton at 17 weeks-and according to all the pregnancy literature that's not supposed to happy until 20 weeks. It's actually above my bellybutton now and I'm 18 weeks and it's all telling me that's a 22 week measurement!!! And DH is telling me not to worry, etc.

Plus here lately I am a mess about Roald. It has hit me very very hard lately. I'm just having a really sucky time.

Don't apologize - that's what we're here for! I don't know about funduses much, but could he be big or just be riding high?

I am sorry you are having a tough time, and I'm sorry the doctors are being jerks. In the past I have found that having a meltdown over the phone encourages receptionists/nurses/doctors to see things my way, sometimes.

Maybe at your July 10th appointment you can ask your doctor to do a quick Ultrasound just for your reassurance...it doesn't hurt to try.

AND I am only 15 weeks and the fundus is at my belly button. I think because we are both in our second pregnancies things move more. I am also a LOT bigger this pregnancy than last. At 15 weeks at my last pregnancy I wasn't even showing and this time I look like I already have a watermelon in there.

I hope at your July 10th appt the doctor can provide you with some reassurance.

It's so upsetting when they tell you how your appointments are going to go and then they change it. Can you call and explain you need an u/s earlier and that you were told that is how it was going to be and you need the reassurance? everything becomes a worry after a loss, everything about it is unfair.

__________________Owen, Avery, Samantha and forever missing Jake born still 08/01/99.

Fundus measurements are different for every pregnancy. I was measuring 2 weeks 'ahead' and the midwives told me that it is within the acceptable range of normal.

If you are really worried I would call and ask for an US, if they aren't willing to do it for you peace of mind you can always c/o some type of pain or discomfort. Or if they are just being completely inconsiderate of your emtional state you should consider switching to a practice that has more compassion.

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When they persisted in questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let the person among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." John 8:7 Sail Back to Me