She wears sexy panties and thongs to work but granny panties at home and sometimes, about 50% of the time, wears no panties to work. When questioned about no panties she explains she wore the same ugly pair because she was expecting her period.

She also wears some quite sexy and fairly revealing clothes to work without a bra and exchanges them for sweats when home.

Am I paranoid or do I have just cause to be worried about my wife?

Further, it seems sex isn't very forthcoming unless I get down or question her about it, then it happens the next day. And she is now doing things of her own volition which she has been against for a long time and it feels like either guilt or she's trying to make a point over not being asked to do these things. Please don't ask me to be specific.

I think that she enjoys feeling sexy and enjoys teasing the men in her office. Maybe you should encourage her during sex like my hub does. He likes for me to go bra-less and when we go out and I wear a short skirt he either wants me to wear a sexy thong or nothing at all...blush. I have breast implants and I always wear revealing tops and men look. It turns me on and my hub always attacks me afterwards...lucky me huh?

Is this new behaviour or has she always dressed up for work? some people love to dress up or really sexy when they leave the house, but can't be bothered to put the effort in at home, especially if they are really comfortable with their partner. I know lots of people who change out of their clothes or work uniform when they get home and put on sweats/pjs/ugly old t shirts.

the no underwear thing is a bit weird, but if that's just something she has always done, then its prob not a sign of cheating.

Well lets see. I used to wear makeup to work, I'd wear thongs and like to look very nice. Now, being in a relationship and not trying to look great for any coworkers (because honestly... Why in the world should I take twice the time and uncomfort to dress up for those guys?) I have stopped trying so hard. I look decent enough for work, but I certainly don't dress like I'm dressing for someone. It seems like even if she isn't cheating she certainly wants to impress someone. And did it just start? Because if this has been her behavior forever then she has insecurity issues most likely and needs to be oggled by other men to feel attractive. Have you talked to her about it at all?

Do you know any of her coworkers who can perhaps shed some light on the situation as far as her interaction with her male colleagues are concerned? Gossip usually travels really fast in an office or work setting, so if she's having an affair I'm sure that her coworkers will know something.

I'm not advocating stalking her at work, but let's say that you find out from one of her friends that she, for example, talks a lot to some guy named John. You should then confront her one day out of the blue at dinner and ask her who John is while looking at her straight in her eyes; after you pose that question pay attention to her eye contact and demeanor, or any stalling tactic in order to make up an answer.

What answer are you looking for? Yes, she's having an affair? No one on here can tell you that.

Does it sound like she is? Possibly. She dresses hot for work and wears no panties...that's all you have. You don't have any physical evidence.

Unless you can start following her around, or show up to her work unannounced to take her out to lunch, you got nothing and looks like you're going to have to drop it. Or hire a private investigator to tail your wife.

I think you should tell her how you feel. Tell her that you love her. But it's worrying you about how she dresses when she is not at home and when she is. She might be having an affair?? But it seems as tho when she is in public, she wants to make herself feel good about herself. And have the world think she is beautiful. But when she is home, she feels relaxed. She feels as if she can be herself. Dress the way she would want to. And you think she is beautiful without her trying to make herself beautiful. That you like her how she is. But idk. I say talk to her about how you feel. Good luck.