7 Steps to Go From Stressed to Refreshed at Your Funeral Home in 10 minutes

Feeling stressed? Chances are, if you clicked on this post, the answer is yes.

First of all, we want to tell you that everything is going to be okay! Just take a breath, remind yourself that you GOT this, and take these 7 steps to go from stressed to refreshed in just 10 minutes:

Step 1: FEEL it!

Feel the stress, let it boil your blood. Feel it consciously, instead of pushing it away. Why? Because if you don’t feel it, you certainly won’t heal it.

Tip: Realize you’re not going to feel this way forever. And it’s okay to feel this way, so that you can learn from it.

Step 2: Ask yourself, what’s going on?

Tip: Exaggerate your emotions by breathing deeply, using your arms, using the tone of your voice, or even shouting (as long as you don’t hurt anyone along the way!) You’ll feel much better.

Timing: 30 seconds – 1 minute

Step 3: Decide you want to change the way you feel.

This requires raising your standards on the spot. We get what we tolerate, and if we tolerate stress, we’ll continue to feel it. Once you make this decision to raise your standards, the power is in your hands. If you don’t’ decide to feel differently, you can’t move on to feel better.

Tip: Instead of saying “I don’t want to feel this way anymore!” say “I am deciding to change the way I feel in this moment.” Notice the difference between the two? The latter is far more empowering.

Timing: 30 seconds

Step 4: Choose the way you want to feel.

Tony Robbins, the ultimate self-help guru, says that each of us has an emotional home. For some of us it’s anger, for others its guilt or sadness. Whatever our emotional home is, he says, we WILL find a way to feel that way in our lives, no matter what.

Where are you living? What’s your home, what’s your habit? If it’s usually a negative or disempowering one, choose a new emotional home right NOW, in the moment. I.e. “Relaxed, inspired, open.”

Tip: Name the way you want to feel very clearly, and perhaps aloud.

Timing: 30 seconds – 1 minute

Step 5: Ask yourself WHY?

WHY do you want to feel differently? If you’re just phoning it in without a strong why, you’re not going to eliminate your stress. Get clear on why you want to feel your desired feelings.

Are you doing it for you, for your family? For your families? Find the feeling that feels the most emotionally charged, and stick with that. Then…

Timing: 1 minute

Step 6: Take action.

You know how you WANT to feel now. So how can you feel that way? What action would you have to take? What action can you take right NOW to feel that desired feeling?

Tip: Doing something physical is scientifically proven to help you generate feelings quickly. Emotion IS motion.

Timing: 5 minutes (ish)

Step 7: Anchor into these desired feelings.

It’s easy to generate these good feelings if we put our mind to it, but we’ve really got to anchor ourselves into them so they stick and stress doesn’t come back in a flash. We’re creating a new emotional home after all, not just a quick bandaid fix.

The fastest way to anchor? Find a way to feel grateful for this feeling. Name 3 things you’re grateful for in this moment now that you feel this way.

Tip: Ask yourself 3 things you’re grateful for everyday when you wake up, and you might start to see how you can consistently anchor into your desired feelings with little or no effort, making them your new emotional home.

Timing: 1 minute

Lastly, remember that you’re always in control.

Hopefully you’re feeling refreshed, and this should be celebrated with a happy dance. It’s easy to forget how physical stress really is, and how easy it can be to work with it in a physical and manageable way. It doesn’t have to be an overwhelming task to work with your stress. It’s just a state. It will come, and it can go. You are the sky, your emotions are just the weather. It’s just a matter of sitting down with it, instead of pushing it away constantly.

A safety reminder: If long-term or chronic stress is an issue for you, we recommend trying these tips for a couple weeks, but if you still feel stressed, we do recommend seeking a professional, such as a qualified life coach or therapist.

How do you find that feeling of being refreshed when you’re stressed at your funeral home? Tell us in the comments below!