I would like to start with how ridiculous the "better than you" part is. You think way too black and white. 11ty aspects might make up your 'worth' and everyone is going to do better w/ certain things (maybe looks, or maturity, or being well spoken) than others.
then, wtf does "get" mean?
After that, no, the statements are still false. People can be persuaded to do all sorts of things, people like to do things that are bad for them, people stick to what they're used to even if its maladaptive.

Im going to take "better than you" in the overall relationship sense instead of looks (since looks is more relative). In that case, with all the negatives in those statements, Im going to say that is true for now...

I think if you have any confidence you have to agree with the statement. Also, if you disagree, than you feel you could be doing more to be better, and then why wouldn't you?

I'll just point out that people settling bc they can't do any better is the negative rhetoric, and people being together because they are the best for each other they could ever find is the positive rhetoric, and they mean the same exact thing when you take them apart.

I'll just point out that people settling bc they can't do any better is the negative rhetoric, and people being together because they are the best for each other they could ever find is the positive rhetoric, and they mean the same exact thing when you take them apart.

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Interpersonal relationships are all about perception and feelings, not semantics.

If a guy feels like he's settling because he can't do better, the situation is far different than a guy who feels like he's with the best girl for him.

They mean the same thing denotationally. The only difference is that one has a negative spin and the other has a positive spin. As you pointed out, that is a big difference, since perception is often more important than reality - even if in reality there's no actual concrete difference between the two ideas.

I just find it interesting that two ways of putting the same thing have such a different impact.

No. But even if it was a question we should argue about, if you're with someone, then you're with the person.

There is no better or worse, because it's just the reality of the present moment.

(S)he was a different person the day before and the relationship before, as she will be the day and relationship after. To say that a person can do "better" or "worse" depends on too many factors even if we could have the discussion at all -- which I don't think we can.

Who's the judge? And why does that person have the ability to judge? And better relative to who? And what could be changed (says the unknown judge)? And by how much? Relative to what?

Once we enter the world of "better", even JUST regarding looks, it becomes so subjective.