For a Professor, For Nothing

What’s your gender? WomanHow old are you? 32What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast AsianWhat continent do you live on? AsiaWhat country and/or city do you live in? George TownHighest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)What’s your occupation? Self employedWhat’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)Religious affiliation: BuddhistHow religious are you? SomewhatWhat’s your sexual orientation? HeterosexualHow many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? More than 20How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

For a Professor, For Nothing

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 years+

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Average body with a tummy like most middle aged man, around my height of 165cm, body and facial hair partially grey and balding, dark skin, different ethnicity from me, knowledgeable, father figure. Professor cum programme coordinator for my study, married twice, has children around my age, very experienced and knowledgeable in his field. Met at university, during bachelor degree studies. A father figure, very helpful, very experienced, knowledgeable, sophisticated guy, reference for life

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Started when he had a problem with accommodations and needed to travel long distance daily to work. Arranged for him to rent out a room in my rented house. Increased interaction chances; even touched on personal matter. He claimed to have fortune telling or gifted in shamanic knowledge. He offered solution for my numerous relationship failures in the past. He initiated a ritual to solve the bad omen in me. During the first ritual, one thing led to another. When I realized it, he was already pumping into me.

He instigated it. Guess he planned it out. On my part, not fully being forced. Yet, it’s definitely not fully consensual.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Fingering and missionary vaginal sex involved. Since it was a ritual believed to help my bad omen, his clothing was like a Shaman. At that ritual, he changed from his usual gentleman to a more serious man that was very coercive.
DURING. Without any touches from him, just by following his instructions, I got myself fully naked laying on my bed. He was serious and started some incomprehensible chanting. I was not even fully aware what took place or/and was happening until he was between my thigh, just before his cock penetrated me. When I became aware he was going to fuck me, it was too late to stop (my guess at that moment). Once he was fully impaled in me, I guessed I had fully surrendered. He started to pump himself into me till he came.
AFTER. When he withdrew himself from me, he chanted something that’s incomprehensible again. Then he asked me to cover up and left my room. I felt, I was like a piece of fuck meat at that moment.

GOOD LOVER? Clueless. Didn’t even have a clear view at his cock. Nevertheless, the duration by my guess is quite long for his age. Size and hardness-wise, I think it’s just average.
BEHAVE. Once I dressed up, met him at the living hall. He told me that was just the first ritual of a set of ritual. On number of ritual needed to solve the bad omen, till the bad omen are fully defeated. Can’t stop after this 1st ritual, as the bad omen will retaliate and do more harm.

END. Clueless and speechless by his talks. Just prefer to go back to my room than facing him.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? MORNING AFTER. Since still having the same house, I went to university as usual and followed the same routine as usual. Behaving as nothing have taken place before.

LATER OF THE DAY. Felt heavy hearted to go into own rented house. I braced myself to go in. I pretended and acted normal, continued with my daily chores. Once all things were done, he broke the silence. The chat shifted to the ritual that should take place for that day. I was clueless to respond and did whatever he said. The second ritual was quite similar to the first, except he was more daring. He undressed me and put me on bed. In comparison to the first ritual, I noticed he was more touchy. His hand roamed around every part of me. Once he was done, he seem not too eager to leave me. The one month daily fuck ended with me progressively more accustomed.

Whole hookup took around 1 month. But the ritual been reduced for each passing day. It was around a week time, when he skipped all ritual to have sex with me. Every late evening, he would hint that he had the urge to fuck me. Without any word, I would let him fuck me. It was just like I was obligated to let him do it.

After about two to three week being fucked by him, for once, I felt naughty and initiated a fuck with him. He was asleep after our usual sex and I went to his room to arouse him. Took out his flaccid cock and played until it was hard. For the first time, I was looking at his cock intently. It was a pretty ordinary, if not an old cock. Gave him a handjob and blowjob until I thought he was awake. Then I rode him cowgirl style. He came before me. But I was too horny and rode him until I also came. Beyond having a long overdue orgasm, I wanted him to admit his trick on me. I was disgusted when the sex was done. He told me that the bad omen has possessed him. He was fucking me under the control of the bad omen!!!

FUTURE EXPECTATION. Never thought of it. Even the next day also clueless.

CURRENT FEELING. Nothing. Just some naivety in my past.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I’m not sure / I don’t know

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My husband. At first he was ok. It became catastrophic for him later. The professor was once his buddy. When we first started, my husband knew zero about my hookup with his partner. To make things worse, we believe in open communication on everything, including our past sex adventures. I felt I had abused his trust. I knew it will never be the same again, although he is behaving as before.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? I fell for such a ridiculous trick. Too naive and stupid to have trusted for someone that only look or felt good. Don’t know how to reject.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Don’t know. Maybe beware and be more cautious about people we thought we knew

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It’s a scar for my relationship with my life partner

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? With the companionship of my spouse, I’ve grown more mature. Actually now we r in an open relationship when it comes to sex

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The hookup was somehow went through cluelessly. The old professor’s cock, to be fair, was better than I expected, although not really impressive. We never skipped a day through the whole month and I only initiated it once.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Currently, me and my spouse can be considered as swingers. We can separate sex and love quite evidently. So the past is in the past. Just hope casual sex can have more responsibility and honesty in the journey of fun seeking.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great project. Beyond the collected data that’s usually quite intimately guard to possessed can be utilized, it’s a good venue for confession and self reflection.