Valentines day is not just for couples, it's about love to share, I hope you had a happy February. If you did not celebrate St Valentine's day you can always treat yourself to a massage and show yourself some love and respect, that's my tip for today;-)

Did you know that St Bridget struck a deal with St Patrick to allow women to propose to men – and not just the other way around – each 29th of February and it falls today! In some places, Leap Day has been known as “Bachelors’ Day” and a man was expected to pay a penalty, such as a gown or money, if he refused a marriage proposal from a woman on Leap Day, now just until 4 years time, would you dare to ask?

Today's Positive Thinking

"You will never know what great things you can do until you try - really try". Norman Vincent Peale.

Learning to Live With (and Love) Yourself

Shiobhan thinks she’d be happy if she could just change her weight, her looks and her job. Sean believes that he’s an okay person except for certain personality traits, such as anxiety, impatience and his quick temper. Amanda’s shelves are bulging with self-improvement books; she’s read them all but she still hates herself.

But, the problem for many is that all the books,
self-improvement tips and positive affirmations don’t seem to make us any happier. Worst of all, the minute we “fix” one ugly piece of ourselves, another nasty monster rears it head and starts screaming for attention.

When does self-help become self-hell? What would happen if we simply started by realizing how wonderful we already are?

As the pioneering psychologist Carl Rogers once wrote, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Believing that something is wrong with us is a deep and tenacious suffering and personally I know I have great difficulty accepting my own "brillance". Tara Brach, in her book, Radical Acceptance writes "The more we anxiously tell ourselves stories about how we might fail or what is wrong with us or with others, the more we deepen the grooves—the neural pathways—that generate feelings of deficiency.” She lists common ways people try to manage this pain of inadequacy:

• Anxiously embarking on one self-improvement project after another.

• Holding back and playing it safe rather than risking failure.

• Withdrawing from our experience of the present moment.

• Keeping busy.

• Becoming our own worst critics.

• Focusing on other people’s faults.

“Convinced that we are not good enough, we can never relax,” Brach writes. “We stay on guard, monitoring ourselves for shortcomings. When we inevitably find them, we feel even more insecure and undeserving. We have to try even harder.”

Accepting ourselves does not mean self-indulgence or being passive. Rather it means turning off the shameful, negative, self-loathing tapes within ourselves and just relaxing.

The blaring voices of our culture certainly don’t help, with promises that buying something, owning something, achieving something will make us better people, that success is measured by looks, wealth or possessions. A healthier life finds deeper meaning and greater satisfaction in self-love, compassion, intuition, taking responsibility and forgiveness (particularly of ourselves).

In the end, all the energy we put out to change ourselves may just take us back to where we started—to: ourselves. And if we can truly accept ourselves as we are, that’s the best place to be.

Five Ways to Love Yourself

Stop criticizing yourself. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

Be gentle with yourself. Praise yourself and support yourself.

Love your negatives. Acknowledge that they fulfilled a need and now you don’t need them anymore.

Take care of yourself. Take care of your body in the ways that please you.

Do it now. Don’t wait until you get well, or get sick, or lose the weight or get the new job or the new relationship. Begin now. And do the best you can.

from Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

In Health and Wellness,

Love, peace & wholeness,

Catherine

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