Sonam Kapoor claims she is your average millennial. She cusses online, fights her trolls, occasionally states she’s “looking like a mess” and is unabashed about Instagramming OOTD pictures of herself. And yes, like the rest of us, she’s addicted to her phone too; as we talk, it beeps constantly with Twitter notifications (no doubt triggered by her gargantuan fanbase). She is quick to Google every time she gets stuck, like the number of times she’s been on the cover of Vogue—counting this issue, that’s seven in total. So Kapoor might seem like she’s like the rest of us, but how many millennials can stake claim to her credentials?

We are sitting in the three-storeyed home she shares with her parents, sister Rhea, brother Harshvardhan and two fluffy Pomeranians, nestled in a quiet but decidedly star-studded lane in suburban Mumbai. The living room is brimming with coffee-table books, paintings, oversized sculptures and globes of marigold blooms propped up on sticks—objects that lend it the dramatic flair of a Bollywood home. “I spend so much time with my family that they want me out of the house. I speak to my mom five times a day, I speak to my dad every day,” she says. And yet, Kapoor is fiercely independent, has managed her own finances since she was a teenager and is determined to better herself this year “by being healthier, fitter and happier.” Despite this self-improvement mission, she doesn’t shy away from embracing her frothier side: she dreams about filling her wardrobe space (it was actually a dream) with a certain pair of Stella McCartney loafers that she is certain she would look ridiculous in…“like Donald Duck.”

For someone who dreams about fashion, it’s hardly surprising that she tops every style survey—including Vogue’s very own. “The best shoots that Vogue has done have been of me,” says Kapoor. She sure knows a thing or two about loving herself, though she insists “it’s not in a narcissistic way.” Turning 30 last June has made her shift gear. Damn the critics who chide her for her fashion craze and her motor mouth, Kapoor’s philosophy is simple: what she does, she does for herself. And she’s made peace with it.

This is Sonam Kapoor 2.0, embracing herself. She speaks to Vogue about her goals for 2016.

1. “I will be a better friend”
Kapoor’s a girl’s girl all the way. Her gaggle of girlfriends and their equally popular social media presence, reaching us via Snapchat and Instagram, form the very core of Sonam Kapoor’s BFF persona. From her make-up artist Namrata Soni to hotelier-turned-designer Samyukta Nair, to stylist-turned-entrepreneur-turned-actor Pernia Qureshi, her closest and dearest form a girl group poised as India’s answer to Taylor Swift’s squad. (Just don’t expect a 2.0 version of Bad Blood.) This year, she wants to tighten her G-bond.

2. “I will think before I react”
Kapoor admits she lets her motor mouth get the better of her. “Sarcasm gets lost a lot of times…especially with me. People tend to take me very literally,” she says. This year, the actor will attempt to practise brevity in speech and “think things through and react with a little more patience.”

3. “I want to do more meaningful cinema”
Kapoor strongly believes that young girls need to have a voice in India. It’s the reason why, since the early days of her career, she has tackled female-centric roles head-on, she says. “I want to be remembered for good work or not remembered at all,” she declares. Films like Aisha (2010) and Khoobsurat (2014) had strong female leads, even if they were a bit silly. With her upcoming release, Neerja, Kapoor hopes to better herself (it’s the most emotionally challenging role she has done so far). Produced by photographer Atul Kasbekar and Fox Star Studios, Neerja tells the story of the 22-year-old Pan Am flight attendant, Neerja Bhanot, who was killed while trying to help three children escape the Mumbai-New York flight hijacked in 1986. Playing the lead character has humbled Kapoor, who says that on most days of filming she felt like a fraud. “[It’s] one of those films that inspire you to have courage in the face of things that are not going your way.”

4. “I will shop less”
“There are so many ways to cheat [on this resolution], so I’ll give up half my credit cards and add a credit card limit. If there is something that I want, I won’t buy it. Save more, shop less—that’s the only way.”

5. “I won’t stand bullying”
Last year, Kapoor’s tweet about misogyny and the beef and porn bans went viral. “It was a general mindset that I was critiquing,” she explains. Being in the film industry doesn’t make her a politician or even a social worker, she points out, but that didn’t stop people from wondering if the actor owned a dictionary. Kapoor isn’t one to sit back and let others tell her what to do. “Initially, I tried to respond to each one and after that I was just like, “&*^% it. I will say what I want to say,” she declares. Expect more badass retorts from her this year!

6. “I will fight my own battles”
Living with family comes with its fair share of security. She spends a lot of time with her sister, which essentially means Kapoor’s always had someone to fall back on. With her moving into a new decade, the actor aspires for a more independent life. She says, “I should be able to handle my issues on my own,” something that she’s not sure she’s ready for but is willing to try.

7. “I will be more mindful”
“My trainer [Radhika Karle] recently told me that it could be very difficult for people to live up to my expectations,” says Kapoor. “I’ll keep a check on my OCD,” she says. But filming Neerja has been a life lesson. “Neerja always looked at the brighter, more beautiful side of things and I would like to emulate that.

8. “I will make healthy the new sexy”
“I’m a food-obsessed human being—I don’t know anyone who isn’t. I get excited ordering pav bhaji, which is so embarrassing for my team,” she says with a laugh. “I eat absolute rubbish, [and this year] I need to stop doing that and start taking care of my health.” A healthy lifestyle starts with the right diet and for Kapoor that’s where the struggle lies. “I don’t mind being bigger or having bad skin, but I do mind being unhealthy.” Appreciating her body through a healthier and fitter lifestyle is the key to looking and feeling good and in the process if she becomes a size zero “it’ll be amazing” because she loves wearing nice clothes.

9. “I will support young artists”
Kapoor is proficient in painting—she studied elementary and intermediary art in school and was on the merit list for both. But she doesn’t fancy herself an artist. “I am not an amazing artist—I don’t have my own voice and individuality and that’s why I never pursued it.” But she’s an avid art collector and encourages young artists. “We have so much talent but not the infrastructure to support it.”

11. “I would like to pay it forward”
Kapoor doesn’t want to restrict herself to good roles. In her bid to be a better person, she wants to lead by example—though she’s still figuring out how to go about it. She hopes to start by “saying and doing the right thing and being more conscious of the world.”

12. “I will strike out Japan from my bucket list”
“I studied Japanese and Chinese history in high school,” she says. She wants this to be the year she finally visits Tokyo to indulge in her fascination for all things Japanese. Incidentally, she’s a big fan of Vogue Japan.