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Feeling really old

As I look through this website I see how young everyone is and it's really depressing me because I feel really old. My clock is ticking so loudly and I feel like every month I'm closer to running out of time. I would kill to know I have at least 10 more childbearing years left -I know I wouldn't be as frantic as I am right now. It really sucks having a "deadline", and knowing it's approaching fast is putting so much additional pressure on me...not to mention the higher risk of m/c and birth defects. It all scares the heck out of me. I never felt like I was getting older before - until now - I guess the reality is sinking in.

Just needed to vent - this is something that's making me very sad today.

I went through that when I was told that I had issues. Wishing I had met my DH 5 years ago, etc. But there is no guarantee that I wouldn't have had issues 5 years ago, too. I think that the young ages on this site demonstrate how widespread fertility issues are today. You need to try to think positively, easier said then done.

I feel like I'm to old I wanted to at least have had some by 25, I don't want to be old having a baby for the same reason definitely that needle that they stick inthe navel ( forgot the name of it). I know you make say your young but when you've been trying and no success it doesn't feel like it.

I am 34 and never really felt old. Then I had to go for a level 2 ultrasound when I was 19 weeks pregnant. The tech kept saying over and over how much the risk of Downs Syndrome
is increased because of my advanced maternal age. I felt awful so I called my OB she told me to relax she started having her kids when she was 38 and everything was fine. Good Luck

My mom had me when she was 42 and I came out just fine :o). Women have children well into their 40's now. Try not to let this be an added pressure on you. Take control of the things that you can control (like diet, exercise, and meds) and let go of the rest :o).

I am 34 yet I feel that way too. By BF will be 45 in a few weeks so there is more pressure on that end. I always thought I would have kids by now and as time goes on I get more worried.
But, on a good note, we have friends who had twins in their 40's, so it is possible.

There are days I feel old too, and the clock is ticking. I am 33, and always imagined I'd have 2 kids by now. Ugh.
I am also worried about reaching the &quot;high risk&quot; stage. Not like we don't already have enough on our plate...let's add this, huh?

In some ways, I am starting to feel old. I didn't get married until I was 25 and I will be 29 soon. I know that sounds young but it is making me think about how much closer I am getting to &quot;that age&quot;. I am still holding out hope for myself. I hope that your day gets better.

I know how you feel. I am a year behind you and I felt the panic.{I just looked at your profile- I also had a myomectomy for my huge fibroids a few years ago which caused my tubes to be scarred a little and had 2 ectopics}. Try not to dwell on the negatives risks of our age. I know it's hard. It scares me too, but it's out of our control so we have to roll with it. I recently went through my first IVF cycle and it worked. I have a lot of friends our age that have had perfectly normal pregnancies... Keep your chin up! It's not over yet!

I know exactly how you feel. I just turned 39 and I am currently 7 weeks pregnant. This is my first. My mom was 43 when she had me and my sister gave birth last year at age 43. Both were easy pregnancies. My Mom had her first child at age 20 and always said she was a much better parent with me. Please don't get caught up in the statistics. The trend is for more and more women to have children later in life and many do so with no complications. So, chin up and realise that you are just fashionable and trendy!

I know exactly how you feel! And..as i look through the boards many of the BFP's are with younger women BUT I have been riding this wave for a while now and have seen many women ranging from 27 - 42 who are successful. My Mom has a friend that succeed with ivf at 43 or 44 I believe! I do know no matter what anywone says it is hard not to feel this way! Just recently with my 2nd BFN, I broke down in the RE's office and started saying,,I am too old, I am too old, I waited too long! I made the nurses cry! I figure that must be the reason as my cycles seem to be &quot;text book&quot;...what ever! My accupuncturist sadi to me the age thing is hog wash...she hates to hear that &quot;advanced maternal age&quot; thing, she said for many years women always had babies young, now everything is so different with careers, two working in a relationship,,,the statistical information is based on the younger women so what is there to say for the now older generalion starting families, there is just not enough to go on! Keep the faith! My prayers and thoughts are with you!

I know exactly how you feel! And..as i look through the boards many of the BFP's are with younger women BUT I have been riding this wave for a while now and have seen many women ranging from 27 - 42 who are successful. My Mom has a friend that succeed with ivf at 43 or 44 I believe! I do know no matter what anywone says it is hard not to feel this way! Just recently with my 2nd BFN, I broke down in the RE's office and started saying,,I am too old, I am too old, I waited too long! I made the nurses cry! I figure that must be the reason as my cycles seem to be &quot;text book&quot;...what ever! My accupuncturist sadi to me the age thing is hog wash...she hates to hear that &quot;advanced maternal age&quot; thing, she said for many years women always had babies young, now everything is so different with careers, two working in a relationship,,,the statistical information is based on the younger women so what is there to say for the now older generalion starting families, there is just not enough to go on! Keep the faith! My prayers and thoughts are with you!

I'm 40 next month, wished many times I'd gotten pregnant with 1st hubby (who was slime) and that I'd found DH earlier, hadn't dropped out of college etc. But then would I have found DH, graduated college, gone on to law school to be the person I am today? don't look back, it'll only give you a pain in the neck.

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