Having dealt with a friend with BPD, I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone with it. If you're abused in any way then it's time to get out. 8 years is a long time, but if you haven't made any headway in the respect department then you should get out. I can imagine it's pretty scary (I've been with my husband for almost 10 years and the idea of something like that happening frightens me) but you said it yourself, you cannot save the world. You need to think about yourself, your life, and it's a good sign that you're here. That means you are trying to improve your life. If she's actively holding you back.. How long can you live your life for someone else?

Don't listen to what Saoirse said- no divorce lawyer has ever walked into someone's life and demanded to clean up someone else's mess.

confused, what did i say? i was only pointing out that the lawyer is out to make money, so be wary. if he's married and she's as described, there's a 99% chance that he will need a lawyer. he should just remember that the lawyer's not a friend.

Originally Posted by DarthFriendly

He describes a woman he's been living with for 8 years as a "psychotic bitch" and no one seems to question this.

"Awwwww. I feel so bad for you, get out as soon as powssibwell, you have to think of yourself...." seems to be the most common response.

Anyone who's read dildo's bullshit would have to wonder that if after 8 years of putting up with that crap any woman might not a little testy.

Where's the sisterhood at bitches?

You're just taking a man's side on scant evidence.

"Yeah, you go dildo, run out on the woman who's been paying your bills, cooking, cleaning, supporting and wiping up after you for 8 years. You deserve better."

Not that any of that is accurate, just wondering about the assumptions people are making here.

it's definitely crossed my mind. but then i realized that if he's describing his SO as a bitch, she's better off without him.