Is it possible to be lonely when you have over 100,000 followers? According to gay adult film star Blake Mitchell, the answer is YES!

Blake may be a super popular adult film star with tons of followers and over 20 adult films to his credit, but in a new video titled “i’m lonely :(” shared on his YouTube channel, he says fame and fortune isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

“In this week’s episode, I wanted to open up to you all and talk about the difficulties and challenges that my career has imposed upon my dating life,” the 20-year-old writes in the video’s description.

Being an adult performer, he says, is a “unique kind of fame” that makes stuff like dating and having a serious boyfriend really challenging.

“The hardest part of it, when you have 100,000 followers, is finding someone who’s genuine,” he laments.

More often than not, Blake says, people are more interested in his profession than in who he is as a person.

“I’ve been out to the bars where people will say things to me that, because I am a sex worker, they think is acceptable to say to a total stranger for example complimenting my d*ck size, my body, making sexual remarks to me.”

It’s almost like they view him as some kind of object or sex symbol or something. And that sucks.

He continues:

I’m missing a piece of life that I could be having right now…and that’s a strangely painful thing to deal with to realize that I’ve picked this job over my personal life… It makes me sad sometimes, but mostly it just contributes to that loneliness… The odds are stacked against me to find somebody who’s going to deal with my job, actually accept it, much less support and encourage me.

Yes, it sounds super whiny and himbo-like (People know I have a big dick, think I’m hot and want to have sex with me. wah. wah.) However, it seems many of these really young dudes get into porn thinking easy money and fvcking hotties and more social media attention. And then if they genuinely mature as they get older they realize how f-ed up the industry, how it didn’t really solve any of their internal issues, how difficult it makes relationships, how difficult it makes getting decent non sex-based work, etc. But very few will be sympathetic to whiny himbo unless a “tragedy” strikes, especially since this seems like another way to net some attention.

He’s young and like many has had to find out the hard way that all the things our ego tells us will fulfill us doesn’t. Admiration, fuckability, popularity usually have something to do with what we have and not who we are. These are things that come from being an object and not a person. It’s a hard lesson and maybe he won’t waste his life counting on these things too long.

It will be hard for him to find someone who is interested in more than the package as long as he uses that package the way he does. Things like dick size and looks will not help him find the intimacy and love he obviously craves.

Perhaps I am a fool, but I feel Blake Mitchell is a good man and deserves a love story just like the rest of us either have or want irrespective of the profession we are in. Blake, if you even get this, indeed, the gay community can be rough to maneuver in at our best, but rest assured there are good men here that would admire you for just the good man you are.

One of the things about Queerty is we get some superficial nonsense about people in the media and we have a choice of putting them down, judging them, being catty queens about them or about people making comments about them, or being a bit compassionate. I’m glad loren_1955 chose compassion.

I only know Blake from his work and from Twitter. He’s 23, bisexual, and drive a Challenger. He shares from the heart and seems to be pretty levelheaded. He’s a sex worker. And to paraphrase J.C. let he who has not watched porn or hired a sex worker in ANY capacity throw the first stone.

Always being “compassionate” gets exhausting considering the amount of young, pretty, white people who unrelentingly whine through social media. He comprised a video practically begging for people’s sympathies and begging to not be objectfied and for people to see him as more than just a sex worker. Yet, from what I can tell he will continue doing porn, still talks endlessly about his penis and constantly posts shirtless pics of himself.

I believe in sympathy and I do have some for him, but what he’s complaining about is rather shallow stuff that he could put an end to if he wanted. On the other end of the “catty queens” spectrum there’s “queers” who will lap up anything a moody pretty boy gives them.

If, in fact he is a good man.
Instagram and twitter feed are not generally indicative of personality beyond one’s level of self absorption and need for attention. It is all curated and polished up.
But one would need to be pretty lacking in insight not to realize beforehand that fame as a sex worker would have predictable effects on one’s ability to socialize.
If everyone has seen your junk close up and spewing, and or your twitching hole why wouldn’t they think they both were appropriate topics for conversation.
anybody with any level of recognition in a field expects to have to deal with questions about that field in social situations. Sex workers should expect MORE in that regard than others, not less.

I think blake is super cute, and if I didnt know who he was and met him, i would ask him out – but I have a major issue with my partner being a sex worker, im the jealous type, and the idea of the man I love having sex with someone else would drive me bananas.

I’ll this talk about “being mature, confident, secure” means nothing to me, something primal takes over my mind and no amount of “logic” will ever make me accept my partner being a sex worker.

It’s not just that… how much of an intimate relationship can you have with someone if they’re having sex with other guys in front of a camera on a regular basis? He sounds like a nice guy, but he also sounds like he’s not about to compromise on what he wants. I’m curious why he isn’t going after other porn actors, which would solve the issue.

If I may be so bold as to suggest, while there may well be unique challenges to being a porn personality and dating, they are challenges unique to nearly every profession. I don’t think Mr. Mitchell is lonely due to his profession, but simply he is at that stage of life when he wants to nest and doesn’t have someone to do it with. One of his challenges may be his job, but I don’t know anyone who hasn’t felt lonely at the stage of life Mr. Mitchell is in. He is young, very attractive, and – I gather from other sources and not personal knowledge – intelligent and well-read. He may want to try different venues from local bars in his search for a mate. There are just so many volunteer organizations that could use an extra pair of hands and a good mind, I recommend he try a few. Don’t mention his job, just say he is an actor. There are enough actors in LA that the job is unremarkable (if anything, the subject would be dropped faster) and he can then shine for his knowledge of 19th century poetry, Argentine wines, Grant Wood paintings, or Hot Wheels cars. If he listens to others, he will find someone who shares his interests and with whom there is a spark.
I am absolutely certain, if he doesn’t focus on his looks and his needs, but the personality of the people around him, he will find someone who loves him for who he is and who he loves back. Loneliness is the impetus to get out there and stop taking selfies at home.

If you don’t want to be treated like an object – then don’t act like an object. I mean, even putting your career aside, in your spare time you pose shirtless in front of a mirror, take pictures of yourself and post them on line. WHY would anyone objectify you??

Have been following Blake on YouTube but it seems a little like Cry Me a River he had a loving boyfriend it seemed Casey who was a pornstar also they live together had a dog seem genuinely loving someone cheated on someone then Blake has a girlfriend who he got pregnant what happened to her?
Doesn’t seem to have difficulties finding someone.

I do think some of these people are genuinely naive when they enter the business. They’re super young, see some quick bucks, and the initial response is people telling you how hot you are and how much they want to have sex with you, which is a great ego boost for a while. Beyond porn, the few articles this site has posted about him makes him seem like a very self-absorbed dude who’s obsessed with talking about himself, talking about sex and showing off his body. So, I don’t see why is shocked about being objectified. And I also thought I read that he was dating a chick or at least had a female friend that he wanted to have his baby, but she miscarried. So, I’m not even sure if this dude is fo’ real trying to be with a dude or knows what he wants. All in all, he seems kinda messy even beyond his profession. But because he is so young there’s room for growth.

And there it is, everyone being the bitchy, catty, judgemental, arrogant, selfish, egotistical and down right hateful bitches that the world knows us to be. Good to see the gays aren’t letting the movie’s stereotypes of us as such queers down. For once can’t we all just support one of our own instead of ripping them apart like the cunts everyone knows us to be……

I know what it is like to be lonely. I’m on the verge of hitting 50 yrs old this year and my social life is nothing. I’m also hearing-impaired and a bit overweight but I’m looking for someone who can see past my flaws and look inside me to see the real me. I’m one with a big heart and I do care!

I think people forget your life as an adult film actor lasts forever. So you have people remembering you forever. Try going into commercial film/stage acting? Few ever succeed. Notice the drug problems and suicides that happen in this profession? Early deaths from other causes? It’s a mine field that you never knew was going to happen when you signed for your first 1 to 4 films. Then the fame/notoriety comes. Rude comments when you are noticed in public places, ‘didn’t notice you with your clothes on! Grabs to ones ass, crotch, chest or liberties that are legally considered illegal sexual harassement … you have to blow off because suing a fan could lose you a contract unless it’s a rape or gross indecency. Little respect and no understanding is given to adult stars. If they retire they have just as hard a time making friends.

My friend is a over 40 yr old adult star. I don’t watch DVD porn. I did not know what he did as he said he ‘retired early.’ I just st thought what a fabulous guy. Good friend. I was naive. When he was asked to be a Pride Grand Marshall I found out why. I was surprised but never really felt anything but pride for his career choice and simple lifestyle as a transition. He has few friends like me that don’t want something or think of him less due to past adult films.

He works for a similar charity … that’s how I met him. I never thought of sleeping with him as a possibility. He’s a great body builder and great in heart. He’s also a wonderful friend that has been their for me in a few crisis moments with compassion and trusted friendship.

When we live in a divisive society that prides judgement and assumptions over giving others the benefit of the doubt we close more doors to our own future friendships, playmates and even lovers.

Serious depression and social anxiety are common drawbacks while in film industry and after leaving the business. Give the guy a break. He works hard for the money in a business where women make double to triple or more for the same thing. He has constant concerns of health, aging, working with people you like and would rather never be with, doing publicity and being harassed in the process. It’s not a dream job. But it is a dream he had, is doing, and is facing honestly the consequences of negativity from others more than anything.

You wouldn’t grab Sir Ian McKlellan’s ass or basket upon meeting him and call it acceptable. It’s human behaviour we all deserve. If I could offer any help to Blake it would be to write me for a genuine compassionate heart to heart and give him the best coping technique to help him cope day to day. No I would not share them here because somethings are sacred. To be respected.

Recharging my system, releasing vibes & energy that isn’t mine and expanding my confidence are my priorities in life. So I attract other people dealing with mental health issues seeking the same goal: peace and well-being with a hold on how to handle the hard times and amplify more happiness as it comes and goes.

Lighten up on judging. The guy is young. He has nothing to apologize for or anyone to answer to but himself and his inner self worth. Judge not lest he hav3 a rock thrown through your condo sliding glass door.

Let’s be happy for his success, if you buy his videos enjoy them and send a thank you note. Clean not sexually charged drooling comments. Some guys who haven’t had sex in years or are disabled need porn because they have no outlet in a world where being over 55 I have just talked to younger men and been called many times a troll. No one knows me or my intentions. So I assume it’s the fact I committed the worst gay crime in history, I aged. Horrors!

Blake you are alright in my book and I wish only the best to you and for your happiness in life now, and in the future whatever you may choose to do.

I have sympathy for Blake. It’s not easy finding a guy
who will accept the fact that you’re job requires you to
have sex with other people. I didn’t know that he was
bisexual. So I’m sure it’s even more difficult finding
a woman who will be ok with him having gay sex.

I’m not a porn star, but I can relate to what he’s experiencing.
One of my hobbies used to be photographing guys nude. I started
a relationship with someone who asked me to stop doing that.
I loved doing the photography, but I loved him more, so it was
easy for me to stop. However, I don’t think it would have been an easy
decision if the photography was my primary source of income.

I was going to suggest that the only solution is to have a
relationship with another porn star. But one of the commenters
mentioned that he already tried that and it didn’t work out.

Blake said it makes him feel uncomfortable when people approach
him and compliment him on his penis. I felt guilty staring at
his crotch throughout most of the video. But hey, he picked that
wonderful camera angle.

By the way, did anyone else laugh when he said his burger was topped with “ho sauce”?

Once again, the man talks ad nauseum about his and other dude’s penises on his social media (which I was provoked to check out due to this article). So, of course, plenty of people are going to talk to him about his “assets”. I don’t believe in shaming sex workers. And I have some sympathy for him, not really concerning what he’s complaining about, but things he likely isn’t revealing. However, you can’t ignore the hypocrisy. He seems obsessed with exploiting and objectifying himself even beyond his work. He wants people to see him as this super confident sex god and constantly looks for social media attention, admirable and sympathy. That has perhaps backfired from both a sociological and mental standpoint.

Ultimately, the dude is just 23 years old. He has no idea what his life will be or how he will even feel about his work and how he’s presenting himself years from now. There are tons and tons of people, particularly queers, who deal with social anxiety and not being able to find a suitable partner. But unless they’re young pretty boys very few have sympathy for them. You have to be a certain type of person to do porn and deal with everything that comes with it. Some people just aren’t built for that stuff, most people aren’t. You have to be very self-assured and give no fvcks about other people’s opinions and comments. That doesn’t even entail all the craziness within the industry And he apparently got into porn as a teen. It’s why I’ve always felt no one should be allowed to enter the porn industry until their mid twenties.

To think I used to watch Blake when he first started on Chaturbate. Him and his friend Parker used to do the straight act thing. It was very real and exciting. I think what made it work so well is that Blake has a great personality. He still does Chaturbate shows once in a while(I guess porn don’t pay all that well.) .
Helix studios snatched him up quick. A bunch of peeps got their porn start on Chaturbate.
A note of advice Blake, I would break free from Davey Wavey and if you really want true love you must leave the porn industry.

This is rediculous. If you are doing porn then what do you expect. I must say this guy must be mentally,socially, and romantically deficient. What an idiot. I am not even sure why he is even slightly popular as a so called porn star. Probably because he looks like the kind of dweeb that would go into porn and then cry that he can’t have a normal relationship. Total loser.

Um yeah I think if you’re in porn, people get to compliment your dick. I’d say the wrong thing would be for anyone to shame a porn performers for sharing their sexuality. Compliments represent progress, not harassment.

Boo friggin HOO. If you wanted a GF you shouldnt have gotten into gay porn and these days all you have to do is enter a name into the web and BAM you get loads of info on them especially if they are in the sex trade. I started in the sex trade in 1980 when I was 15 and have few regrets. I had great friends and lived in some pretty fab places w some very wealthy people. Now a days I have a nice bachelor on the west coast, some nice things and a good life more or less with few complaints. So buck up and stop complaining. You would be better off with a guy anyways.

ditto. he is fine as grade AAA beef. if hes got a brain and personality too, then so much the better. good luck blake. you had casey tanner as a
bf or was that just to market more helix stuff? you guys looked so good together.

Can we stop acting like sex work and social media fame are hard-earned, skilled professions? It’s lazy! I’m not a moralist so I could careless from that point of view. I live for what’s interesting…..This screed is not it. I find that all the carbon copy Instagram thirst traps are getting really late. And I am not buying what his pretty face is selling because, judging by his dialogue, he isn’t selling vulnerability. He is selling dick……That’s fine. I am just not buying.