Q: Allana, my boyfriend still talks to his ex. They say they are just friends but it still makes me jealous. Should I give him an ultimatum or should I learn to accept that this is OK? Is it now the norm to keep in touch with your ex’s?

A: I get juicy when man knows what he wants and it’s me. I adore a man who honors my heart, mind and body and wants to spend time with me. Texting and emails are great once a day or even every other day which gives me space to desire you. I love it when men notice the slope of my neck, or my goofy giggle, or to know they were thinking of me. Personally I have a life and don’t care for several texts throughout the day, yet sexting at night for half and hour can be hot. I have zero tolerance for harassment and stalking.

I was talking about one of them with my client a few years ago… as she had gone on a paddle board outing. We both love how on a paddle board you have to be alert, strong and aware, yet you can’t be tight, in control or rigid or you fall off… it’s SUCH a metaphor for life and SUCH a great way to see how your partner reacts to life.

Question: I have a guy friend that is my best friend. And he’s having a rocky relationship in his marriage…we have gotten together. I have been single for nine years. How can I be nice and just let it go? I keep communicating this with him and he’s not listening!! Read More →