quote:So you don't do it at school. You do it in the hidden places. You do it behind closed doors.

And when you do, you stare past his eyes and let your rage permeate his soul. You strike so hard and so fiercely that it shakes him to his core. And you leave no doubt that if he continues his reign of terror, there will be no safe place, no peace, no rest. That he will forever look over his shoulder for the wrath of righteous vengeance to fall upon his head. You must become the bogeyman.

This shite never happened after everyone turned 15 or 16. I never remember anyone getting bullied at my school after like the 6th grade. Everyone pretty much got along. Of course my school was abunch of red necks. No skate boarders

I got jumped at a party when some kid had his friends turn out the lights. He tackled me from behind and hit me in the face. I kneed him in the balls, got him off me, the lights came on and he was standing there with hands up ready to go. I stared at him and his 3 buddies around me and all the people in the basement, and asked, "What the hell was that for?" and walked away. I got a call from a girl I had a thing for the next night and she was all over me saying how big I was for walking away from it. The guy who hit me was ostracized by all the girls for a long time after that. He didn't frick with me again. Embarrassment goes a long way, I guess.

My brother got jacked in the face as he was getting off the bus. He went full rage mode and had to have his buddies pull him off the kid when a neighbor said she had called the police. He couldn't ride the bus anymore, but nobody fricked with him again.

Each situation warrants different responses. Typically, it involves the parents talking with the bully's parents, but you never know how that will play out. He'll figure it out.

quote:I'm thankful that my son's size and physical abilities in athletics has given him a reputation among his peers as someone who a bully should avoid unless he wants his arse beaten mercilessly. This means my son will never have to live the day to day horror of someone who is being bullied. But even more than this, I'm proud that instead of being a bully himself, he has on numerous occasions stepped in and protected the small and the weak from bullies. If more parents taught their kids the important lesson of being leaders, even as children, then bullies would not be the big issue they are today.

quote:I hope my kids are like this

I hope so as well. And i think, from seeing your posts on here, you are the type of person to be just the type of parent your kids need.

The most important thing is to remember that kids are always learning. And they learn more from what they see us as parents do than what we say. In other words we have to live the example of what they should be. This also means it will take your time to be with them and ensure that it is you, as their parent, that is the major influence on their life and is the main shaping factor in the type of person they grow into. Your child will have a main influence in shaping who they become. It's up to us as parents to make sure that influence is us and to make sure the example we set is the right one. Being a good parent and raising your children right is not rocket science but it is a lot of hard work. But still, there is nothing you can ever do in this life that will be as rewarding or as important.

No parent in their right mind wants to get a phone call from the school or worse yet another parent telling them their child has been bullying another child. The best way to ensure this or worse things than this never occur is to teach your children by your actions and your words (yes, sit down and talk to them on a regular basis) on how to be a good person and a leader, teach them not just the how but the why of being a good person. Instill in them the fundamental hallmarks of a leader. Like I said before, if more parents would take the time to do these things, bullies would be a much less problem than they are today.

quote:It's apparently several kids that are bullies in the school. Principal won't even talk to my friend about the incident today in the gym.

quote:Bull shite .. I'm not buying that

Actually it's quite plausible. The OP mentioned (if memory serves me) this is a rural school. I grew up in such as school in a county full of such schools. One thing is true in these small rural schools. There is a power click that rules the roost so to say and this click is always in the good graces of the school teachers and administrators. Usually they are the kids or relatives of the school staff or the kids or relatives of the powerful and connected members of that community. These kids know they are in a postion of privilege and many will take full advantage of it. Worse yet, many times the adults will allow them to do it.

quote:Actually it's quite plausible. The OP mentioned (if memory serves me) this is a rural school. I grew up in such as school in a county full of such schools. One thing is true in these small rural schools. There is a power click that rules the roost so to say and this click is always in the good graces of the school teachers and administrators. Usually they are the kids or relatives of the school staff or the kids or relatives of the powerful and connected members of that community. These kids know they are in a postion of privilege and many will take full advantage of it. Worse yet, many times the adults will allow them to do it.

If it really was some negligence on the part of the administration, tell your friend to contact the local news channel. They eat this kind of stuff up. Once a reporter shows up to interview the principal, the kid will be treated much differently.