A Mommy Star Chart

Last month I shared the start chart that my kids and I made to promote good behavior. If you missed the article, I basically went crazy with dicuts of “treats” and velcroed them to a chart. Each child gets to pick the treat they’re working for and then attach it on the star chart as a reminder. The charts are working really well and the kids are having fun picking their “treats” and then working for them.

This month I’ll be talking about a “Mommy Star Chart.” I have to preface this by saying that I can’t take any credit for this idea, but instead have to give all the credit to my 5 year-old daughter.

A few weeks after we started the kid’s star charts, my daughter was acting up and I was trying to patiently discipline her, but it wasn’t working very well. After some time has passed, and we were driving in the car, my daughter said, “Mommy you need a star chart.” I was taken aback and asked her why – she replied that then I could get stickers when I was patient with her. “You can get a sticker when you’re patient with me, when I’m upset or angry.” I was shocked, to say the least, but started to think about it. (As a side note, I did explain to her that being patient can mean ignoring her during a tantrum and that being patient does not mean I let her get away with everything.)

But now I have to think through the logistics of this idea. It’s a great visual way for me to constantly be examining my parenting skills (even when I might not want to admit my shortcomings) but where will I put the chart? I thought about letting my daughter give me the stars, but I think she’ll miss use this as a way to battle/control the situation. I’d like to open this idea up to further discussion, so please take a moment to share your thoughts on a Mommy Star Chart. I’m trying to get myself to try the idea for Lent, we’ll just look past the fact I’m over a week late J I’ll look forward to sharing ideas about the Mommy Star Chart and discussing our growth together!

About Author

Courtney Vallejo is a Catholic wife and mother who lives in California. She and her husband are raising and homeschooling, their three adopted children. She holds a Master's degree in Film Production and a California Multiple Subject Teaching Credential. She also writes for her own blog, courtneyvallejo.com.