We’re back this week with part II of our “what’s in our bedside drawer” post where we are revealing what products we sisters actually use, having had the privilege of trying a LOT of the toys on the market. My toy preferences have changed a fair bit this year now that my hubby is fulfilling a two-year contract at Oxford University in the U.K. We've been together a really long time and have enjoyed an active and satisfying sex life, so in the past most of the toys we used were more couple oriented (like small clitoral vibes such as the Nea). Now you’ll find a wider range of toys in my bedside drawer designed to help compensate for some of the stimulation I am missing in my hubby’s absence.

You’ll notice there’s a bit of overlap with Kim’s top picks, perhaps because we have similar taste, perhaps because these are quite simply the best toys, probably a bit of both. ;)

What you’ll find in Amy’s bedside drawer:

The Leaf. The Lelo Nea used to be my go-to “mini vibe” but then I got my hands on the Leaf. I prefer the soft silicone texture and appreciate that the button is on the top of the toy rather than the bottom making it less awkward to change the settings while it’s in use. Because it’s small it works well during intercourse with my husband when he’s around, but I use it solo too.

Njoy. If you know me, you know I like surrounding myself with beautiful things. So, of all the butt toys we carry, Njoy is definitely my fave thanks to the pretty design. From a practical perspective, I like that the stainless steel becomes super slippery with a little lube making it easy to insert. Plus, the bulbous shape helps keep it in place and the handle helps with removal.

Blossom Organics. This my favourite all-around lube – it’s compatible with toys, has a nice consistency, and I don’t mind the taste (‘not minding’ is saying a lot since I find most lubes can be a bit funky). I also like how pretty the bottle looks on my bedside table and the fact it says ‘organic’ right on the label makes me feel very ecosexy :)

Luv It. As a parent, alone time doesn’t happen all that often or for all that long. With simultaneous internal and clitoral stimulation, this toy gets the job done quickly (34 seconds to be exact).

Big Boy. Unlike Kim, I like toys that have a more realistic appearance. With a textured head, veins, and a nice curve, this is my favourite dildo. It’s made from silicone so it’s easy to clean, and the fact it’s handmade by a local family fills it with some good karma.

When it comes to toys and lube, it’s all about personal preference. We’re certainly not suggesting that just because we love a particular toy means that it will be the right choice for you. As always, if you’d like a recommendation or have a question, we’d love to hear from you!

Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters and ecosex.ca, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for women seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.

We've been debating whether to share this post for a while, because, well, frankly it may be TMI (for our more mature followers, that’s text lingo for “too much information”)! Those of you in the healing professions will be familiar with the importance of privacy and boundaries with clients. And, since many of you are not just customers but also clients, we were concerned that sharing details of our private sex lives would be considered over-sharing.

But while it is true that in some cases we are your coaches and counselors, for most of you we are educators and more importantly, fellow sisters. Our schtick in the world is to help women break down the walls of the most taboo topics and love their bodies. The best way to do that? Model it. So, in that vein, we decided “what the hey?” Let's go for it.

One caveat ladies – we haven’t included the toys we most often use on our partners – to give them some semblance of privacy. ;)

We’re starting things off with Kim. So, without further ado, here’s what you’ll find in her goodie draw:

Hitachi Magic Wand. The Original Magic Wand has two settings - high and higher. That's why I'm partial to the new Rechargeable Magic Wand which features four speeds and four different vibrational patterns (it's also nice that it doesn't have to be plugged in). Sometimes I use it solo but more often I use it with a partner during intercourse to provide clitoral stimulation.

Hathor. I keep a few lubes in my bedside drawer but Hathor is the one I reach for most often. The consistency is versatile and because it’s water-based I can use it on toys without worrying I might ruin them (I love Pjur for manual stimulation because it lasts longer but you shouldn't use it on silicone toys). I also like that I'm supporting a Canadian, mother-daughter business.

Luv It. The first toy I ever bought was a rabbit and I hated it. But once we opened the store I kept hearing our customers rave that it was the best thing they’d ever used. So, I decided to give dual vibes another try (to clarify, when I say “dual vibe” I mean toys that are designed to be used internally and externally at the same time). And, let’s just say, I’m glad I did. I consider the Luv It my “lazy” toy because it takes approximately 45 seconds for me to orgasm :)

Perk. Of all the dildos we carry, Perk is my fave. Partly I love that it’s made by Happy Valley, a family-owned company that handcrafts all their toys in a 100 year old farmhouse (how cute is that?!) but more importantly, I find it’s the perfect size and shape – not too big, not too small, with just the right amount of texturing. Personally I don’t like toys that look too realistic so I’m also a fan of the bright blue colour.

Njoy Plug. Finding a good anal toy can be tricky. Size is obviously an important factor, plus you want it to stay in place (they have a tendency to pop out), and be easy to clean. Over the years I’ve had a few butt plugs that I liked – Pleasure Plug, B-Bomb – but the Njoy is the one that has the status of being in my bedside drawer. It covers all the bases – the curved design keeps it in the right spot, it’s made from non-porous stainless steel, and it’s so pretty!

When it comes to toys and lube, it’s all about personal preference. We’re certainly not suggesting that just because we love a particular toy means that it will be the right choice for you. As always, if you’d like a recommendation or have a question, we’d love to hear from you!

Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters and ecosex.ca, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for women seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.

Kim & Amy Sedgwick love to discuss sex, periods, and all the other things we’re not supposed to talk about. The co-founders of Red Tent Sisters, they’ve been featured in every major Canadian news outlet and have become a trusted resource for people seeking natural (effective!) birth control, a more joyful sex life, and an empowered journey to motherhood.

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Kim & Amy Sedgwick are the Co-Founders of Red Tent Sisters, a business that has been providing holistic fertility, sexuality and contraceptive solutions since 2007. Amy is trained as a Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioner who specializes in helping women coming off the pill adopt natural, effective birth control using the Justisse Method. Kim runs their “sister” business, ecosex.ca (Canada’s first eco-friendly sexuality store) and coaches women who are ready to begin claiming and communicating their erotic desires. Together they provide support to women worldwide through their online courses, YouTube videos, and social media channels, and are known for their professional yet candid sisterly advice.