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This blog is inspired by an enquiry I received. It includes a lot of useful information that applies to many of my enquiries so I decided to turn it into an information article that covers many of the frequently asked questions I receive.

I hope you will find it useful! It takes the form of an email response…

“My dear Friend,

Thank you for your request for information.

Please find attached information manuals that explain about Mayastar Academy, Maya Magickal, energy healing, attunements, lightworkers as well as the current syllabus and other options available.

Most energy based systems combine very well with Reiki. Some are based on developing connections with light beings to guide your work and your life and others are more structured or vibrationally specific energies you can use alonside Reiki in healing sessions or on their own. Reiki forms a good basis for practicing within because it is structured but as you develop it’s natural to work in a more intuitive way and including new energies is a great way to do this.

The courses you are drawn to are usually the best place to start. If you feel feel guided to them there’s no better start than that. So for someone wanting to develop their energy healing and spiritual development experience I would recommend a variety – including empowerments to connect to higher beings, systems for healing that work well together and systems that are comprehensive and allow you to develop new ways to work.

A popular option is the Avalonian Trilogy which includes the Avalonian Alignment Programme, Star of Avalon Ascension & Avalonian Spectral Activations – incorporating working with meditation, healing, manifesting through the use of symbols, sounds and energy flows. These can be used together or separately but the system is very comprehensive and works with guardian spirits of sacred land/energy. The Avalonian beings are connected with Pleiadians and what we would call Faery or Earth energy Light Beings so it also allows you to build personal connections with the “tribe” so to speak which can help in many ways – providing personal and professional guidance and facilitating development. You can find more information about the Avalonian Trilogy at www.mayastar.net/aap.htm

This would be my personal recommendation too because it encompasses so much.

Based on your Angelic and Faery connections and experience with Usui Reiki as well as courses that combine well with Usui Reiki…I would recommend (in no particular order):

Lightworker Archangelic Links

Fairy Lightworker Program

Magickal Lightworker Program

Archangelic Flames

Orb of Life

Kundalini Reiki

Ethereal Crystal Healing

Violet Flame Attunement

Rainbow Sequence Healing

Crystal Rose Attunement

Nature Deva & Fairies

Magickal Shaman Lightworker

These are detailed on the complete course list page at www.mayastar.net/courses.htm so you can read more about them and see what resonates with you.

You can receive a personalised package discount if you buy 3 or more options: 20% for 3 or more options; 25% for 6 or more options; 30% for 10 or more; 40% for 20 or more. To enrol on a personalised package please email your order to me and I will send a paypal request reflecting the relevant discount so that you can pay online securely by credit or debit card. (Note – a personalised package can include magical options from www.mayamagickal.net and courses from www.mayastar.net).

As an example, were you to select all of the courses recommended above, the fee would normally be £1020 but with the personalised package discount this would be reduced to £700 with the Personalised Package Discount.

When you enrol on courses with Mayastar you will first receive your course manuals, study guides (Book of Inspiration Volumes 1-5), and an instruction email to guide you in the order to read the materials and explain how attunements work, how you receive them and so on. There is also additional information provided on vibrational healing, quantum theory, metaphysics, lightworkers, meditation, multi-dimensional philosophy and much more to give you an overview of where energy healing fits in to the grand scheme of things. This means courses are accessible to people with no previous experience and also provides inspiration to those who do!

Your attunements are set up by me personally and within 7 days of purchase you are sent your certification and confirmation with instructions.

All Mayastar Academy courses are web based and can be taken by people anywhere in the world. Manuals and Study Guides are in PDF format so you can study from your phone, tablet, computer or print them off.

All courses are accredited by the International Natural Healers Association and World Metaphysical Association; who also accredit Mayastar as an established (in 2004) academy and myself as a teacher/spiritual facilitator.

All courses are to Master level and enable the student to pass attunement on. And all courses can be upgraded (with a £20 administration fee) to a diploma. The Diploma certification requires you submit written work to demonstrate experience and understanding of that system.

Support for students is via email and is included as part of my service during and beyond your course.

There is no fixed time for you to call in an attunement once it’s ready. You can take it at your own pace and prepare for your attunements in the way that suits you. Many prefer this flexibility and privacy to the mass attunement options of seminars and other less personal options. Energy work and spiritual development is an intensely personal experience and over time I have ensured this is maintained while still being able to provide professional but tailored support for individual students.

Enjoying happiness, fulfillment & success in all areas of your life? No exceptions. Achieving your dreams? Manifesting your goals every time without comprise?

It’s a tall order and I am inspired anew so regularly that I think I may write this blog in a number of parts! It’s a huge subject and considering different elements of the overall philosophy can hugely benefit people in truly living a meaningful life. Staying inspired is a big part of ultimate success.

As a witch and energy healing teacher I am often asked about subjects that boil down to be being related to what I am going to blog about so I have considered and studied widely in this area.

I think it’s important to emphasise that to practice magick (real magick) and spellcrafting requires a commitment and dedication to the study and understanding of subjective, objective, internal and external factors involved in any situation. Without that preliminary work, you couldn’t go on create spells at all – let alone ones that work.
An analogy might be – you want to knit a jumper. You know you need wool, needles and a pattern. You get these. A jumper doesn’t manifest itself after you bought them. If you don’t know how to knit or read the pattern you weren’t at a stage of being ready to achieve that.

You are looking at the result as if the ingredients are magickal in and of themselves. When sometimes the most important thing is to enjoy the journey. Know there is work to do. And decide if you want it enough to put that in. If you don’t, you’re just deluding yourself about what you want.

Many people aspire to spiritual gifts but not everyone will be cut out for the one they think they want to choose. But if you are sure of your “destination”, the fact a jumper didn’t magickally create itself spurs you to learn! The idea of being able to make it inspires you. You don’t see any other way. Because it is what you really want. So you study to get yourself into a position where the yarn, needles and pattern are useful to you. This is not a hardship! It’s exciting. Fun. Part of the journey.

Many people gather the ingredients…see this jumper doesn’t make itself. Think in a defeatist way that they have failed. Or externalise it and think he system has failed. “It won’t work. I give up.”

Well, if you choose to see challenges as failures you are doomed to create that reality for yourself!

If you say you have failed and give up I am sure you will manage to fail. It’s what you chose! In this sense we literally create out reality. The emotional blow, the financial cost, the physical stress – all come from your unshakeable assertion that somehow you were a victim. You decide in that way that you can’t change your future too…and so the problem compounds itself.

If instead of this you look at the bigger picture…imagine yourself making or wearing the jumper…imagine yourself knitting as you watch TV in the evening and can see how these are things will make you feel good. They are what you want. Your choice changes your “destination”. Your attitude is liable to be very different! You see you have the ingredients! Excellent! Now you only need the knowhow and skill…you can get them! Fantastic. You take a class, join a club. You practice! You make some scarves and blankets and learn different stitches so you have experience and skill to go with your intention and goal.

It may take time. Maybe years. It will require dedication and practice to prepare for it, begin it and complete it. But if you choose that destination, you WILL undoubtedly realise it. One day you will be in a position to knit that jumper. You know it. You believe it. You don’t even consider failure as an option! You create your reality.

You may use other techniques to support your efforts. Visualisation. Affirmations about yourself to increase focus and self belief. Or magick to resolve your habit of negativity and self sabotage that’s been hindering you in the past.

But even through learning these new supportive techniques you will be acquiring tools and developing a state of mind that is resilient and increases your possibilities of success in all areas if your life.

It’s amazing what a difference to the realisation of your intentions such steps create.

In this Gatsby is a most compelling and inspirational character. He understands the work he needs to do to achieve his goal and sets about it immediately. He lets go of his past or any resistance caused by it in one moment. He becomes unshakeable in his destiny and devotes himself to creating a situation in which he can realise it.

This means he isn’t just Gatsby but truly the Great Gatsby at that point.

You may think the story is a cautionary tale of a narcissist who is so self centred he creates his own world in which he can be who he thinks he should be. Except his motivation for this is love. And all the external superficial storytelling and “self promotion” doesn’t corrupt him. He doesn’t change his personality or motivation. He isn’t swayed by the fact he can have what other people want because his focus remains always on fulfilling his destiny and achieving what he wants.

That’s what makes him Great.

A lesser person would lose that perspective at some stage. A lesser person would give up. A lesser person would become corrupted and allow the world to define them and thereby lose their integrity. This doesn’t happen to Gatsby!

You may think Gatsby is wrong when he believes he can turn back time if you take it as a literal assertion. I see it differently and believe his is absolutely right! If you consider he believes he can change what happens by choosing the course his life will take than if he hadn’t made that choice and given it his all he is asserting his destiny to fail was false and that he knew that he wouldn’t choose it. He would make the decision. He would never waver.

The film (The Great Gatsby) is so inspiring to me that I listen to soundtrack sometimes to remind me of the positive and (in my opinion) accurate belief that life is what you make it. And only you can choose what you make it.

I even picture Leonardo DiCaprio as Gatsby saying “of course you can” whenever his power to achieve his goals is questioned.

I highly recommend the film! And the book. But even if you’re not into that, I recommend the sentiment…

…define your life…and it will never define you. You cannot lose. You cannot be a victim. You cannot fail. Unless you choose to.

I was recently asked this on my FB group page. Answering without sounding so kookie people following the page who hadn’t heard the term might think definition meant answering it quite carefully! Some new age ideas are very old ideas but with new “jargon” or extensions of existing beliefs and ideas not new to all religions but somehow “reframed” out of context so they do come over sounding a bit far fetched!

It’s a criticism I have for the “New Age” in general. Lots of ideas without much basis and without any subjective or objective reasoning behind them…let alone citing sources that have existed for thousands of years that say the same thing in different words. I am also guilty of not citing sources. I have a really good memory (part of my aspergers – high functioning autism). But I draw a blank remembering faces. And apparently names too. When I am reading fiction I notice I almost blank names as I read them! So even if I remember the book…the cover…where I was when I read it etc, I won’t have retained the author’s name. My mind seems to consider names very unimportant which is why most people in my life have nicknames I’ve given them. It’s my weird “name blindness”.

Anyway…back to the topic…in answering the question referring to similar or associated ideas the person was likely to know instead of me rambling on with a lot of new age jargon, I feel I explained the concept well.

As a teacher of energy healing, attunement based spiritual development courses and meditation based courses, I am very aware of ensuring my writing is accessible to people who have no previous experience.

Also, I am not running a cult teaching new words for ideas that promote exclusivity…or fudge the details so people don’t realise they are not being told anything. Those are pet hates of mine.

Also, as a teacher I don’t want to alienate people who hold religious beliefs that may be different to mine. I don’t teach religion and I don’t like it when people dress ideas and philosophies as being facts. We can be as objective in our explanations as possible – but even the best articulated philosophical deductions are open to debate. (I do feel my Autism helps me to communicate higher concepts in a more accessible way because I have to do it so much as my normal life experience. It definitely helps rather than hinders my work!).

I promote freedom and empowerment so I won’t dogmatically preach theories as facts. I know some new age writers do this…but I think real understanding is only available when you digest information for yourself.

I may be hypersensitive to it…aware sometimes that a blog is addressed to people with a prior knowledge…I always try to pitch my writing so it’s useful to people without prior knowledge; defining terms sometimes makes all the difference!
Anyway…enough about my motivations for the way I addressed the question! In my own words, the answer goes something like this…

Some people believe in reincarnation. Some believe some of us had previous lives on other planets or stars perhaps in a different dimension not a physical body, but a life or origin that’s not of this earth and possibly not of this plane (dimension).

People who feel that often refer to themselves as “starseeds”.

For me personally, I think it’s very possible other worlds and types of existance are viable in addition to being a humans on earth with some kind of soul that exists beyond our biological reality.

I also do agree with the concept because as I child I recall feeling “homesick”. My Aspergers may have been part of that; some people also believe some “advanced” spiritual beings choose to reincarnate to help others achieve spiritual wholeness and that High Functioning Autism or some types of epilepsy are a part of that.

That’s not a new idea but the term “starseeded” is a new age term for it. They may also use terms like “earth angels”, “indigos” and “crystal children” etc…depending on the current trend in ideas or new ideas about old ideas!

I do feel I lived somewhere else before I came here as a human. And that it wasn’t like this. And I miss it. I think of it as being “homesick for heaven”. But I don’t claim to understand what it was or where it was. I do feel the work I do now in this life was chosen before I came here. And I feel it will continue when I leave (die). But I don’t have proof of that. It’s just something I feel so strongly it feels more real than real to me. And I have since met other people who also remember the “before life”.

Some people would suggest my feelings are born of delusion…failing to grasp that the Asper brain is not prone to delusion or irrationality; they are experiences more common to people whose beliefs are a reaction to their emotions. Rather than someone whose mind is hyper-rational. Our problems in being understood usually come from our capacity to naturally experience and express our experiences in a far more abstract way than our lower-functioning peers.

This capacity for abstract understand is why many High Functioning Autistics display unusually advanced language skills, may be drawn to mathematics and tend to show greater creativity. Not all share the same special skills or special interests. But I have no doubt that the work I do teaching energy healing and my magickal ‘career’ are advanced by my Aspergers in ways people of a neurotypical function wouldn’t experience. I wouldn’t trade my High Functioning brain for one that didn’t see music, feel colours or understand how to reweave karma (spells) the way I do. My work through www.mayastar.netand www.mayamagickal.net absolutely relies on my mind being as it is!

The long and short of it is some people believe people who are born with Higher Functioning Autism or Epilepsy (I have Temporal Lobe Epilepsy) were “god touched” thousands of years ago. That’s the phrase they would have used here centuries ago. And only relatively recently have the insights, perspectives and non-confirmity of people like me been negatively interpreted as a deficiency or fault.

This is beginning to change. With High Functioning Autistics being head hunted for their unique abilities especially in identifying problems quickly or irregularities in (for example) programming scripts that a Neurotypical wouldn’t be able to do so accurately or quickly.

And of course, the New Age has seen a revival in old spiritual and philosophical understandings that our uniqueness is a gift: an extra abilty not a disability!

I’m awake…I’m awake…maybe just another half hour…god…what I wouldn’t give for a venti caramel macchiato. I’ve got every except a Starbucks next to my bed.

Oooh dear. Audiobook too exciting. Late to bed. Think I may be hungry but I’ve made a deal…every time I lose a few lbs I get a new pandora charm for my pandorabracelet.

Cool idea because I don’t do diets. I do fasts. Or cleanses. But maintain my weight easily (usually) because I don’t have a sweet tooth mostly I think. Plus I dance a lot. However, I won’t do pointe unless I am the low end of normal for my height.

I suppose when dad was ill…and then I’ve been seeing Spider and especially recently his work finishes later, I have eaten junk too often. I honestly don’t know how people live on junk cos it’s put me off food now!

So…green drink and Apple Cider Vinegar cleanse. With enough Maple Syrup to make sure I can workout without getting lightheaded.

So now instead of hanging my stinky Grishko Novas (ballet shoes) by the bed to remind why it’s time to detox, I have a goooorgeous Pandora Bracelet.

I don’t know my weight at the moment. I can judge it pretty well by how my corsets close…at ballet weight I can close a 20″ corset. And I always think, 5lbs adds half an inch.

I put on weight evenly but my ankles, hands and wrists are tiny. If they look skinny compared to the rest of my body, it means I am over my normal size.

So…no Weight Loss diet…because weight isn’t the only thing that matters…I have to be healthy!

My natural waist at 8 and a half stone (I’m 5’5″) is 24″ and my clothes are a 6-8. But if I am not dancing, it could be 25″ – I could be a size or two bigger than when I am normal fitness. So exercise is vitally important to me. Especially when you are on a cleanse in my opinion. Eating low calories (or drinking them), you don’t want your muscles (like your heart) to waste away! Also a good cardio session keeps your appetite in check. Well. It does for me.

So…I will get up in a minute…just need a Lady Gaga fix while I rehydrate on Evian and look at the Pandora website…

Maybe I will weigh myself…just to estimate how many lbs I need to lose to earn each charm to fill up this bracelet. There were some lovely spacers…sparkly…but I want those in pairs…so whatever charms I choose my bracelet looks balanced.

There are also ones that are hanging charms…and Pandora bracelets are sterling silver and made to fit my wrist. Which is amazing as I have to buy kids bracelets and watches usually. I’m totally in love the concept. Even planning to set a goal after this and then another…cos I think I would wear 3 bracelets. This one is heart themed…so I am even thinking of themes for others later already. And wondering if I would go for the necklace at a later date.

I love the “gold star” type approach to self motivation!

For those in the know, my first Pandora bracelet has a heart clasp, a pair of heart clips and the safety chain has hearts on it too. My first charm is an open work sphere made up of hearts too.

So with the bracelets and the blingy clips and clasp, and safety chain it was around £250. Charms range in price massively. I would say an average of £30 each…but it really depends on the size and style. There are some that are higher prices because they’re gold or they have precious stones. But I am going for silver and I’m not a fan of gold jewellery.

Oooh. I totally adore Pandoras at the moment! Really good quality…and subtle too. A bracelet I won’t need to remove for typing is a miracle in itself!

Ok…time to publish and get up! My blog about Midwich Cuckoos and Aspergirls is still being edited…that should be out later this week though!

Sometimes Magick is called a mystery religion or cult. Or “The Black Arts”. The latter sounds scary but using the words “dark” or “black” around magick refers to the secrecy around it. In the wrong hands magick is dangerous but not in the way you may think. It requires facing yourself in all your truth – this can be challenging. And people with a higher than normal ego consciousness balance, may become egocentric; delusional – even paranoid. Because they appropriate universal experiences as personal and literally fall into the trap of thinking they’re “God’s Gift”. When due study and balanced experience would tend towards the conclusion that, everyone you meet is also God’s Gift and as Extraordinary and Special as you are. There can’t be room for racial, financial or situational based beliefs in Magick. These are the comfort blankets for those clinging to ego consciousness.

So Magick isn’t about being something you’re not or identifying as something that the ego resonates with. It is about being yourself. And this is often more a case of “cutting the crap” than it is of being a whizz with the tarot! It’s about becoming but becoming the truth of what you are. A truth that exists as a fundamental even if you aren’t conscious of it. It’s your reality…but tunes you into that most objective concept; “Truth as an abstraction of Consciousness”.

Magick is the path to Self-Realisation for those moved to reconnect in a personal sense with that abstract divinity that exists within, without and in all ways transcends us.

Magick means we are working (through any method; natural as well as supernatural) to align our actions, thoughts and feelings with our Higher Self: elevating our consciousness so that our motivation is to ACT on the promptings of the “Higher Will” rather than to REACT to promotings of the ego. It is a spiritual calling to Source. To manifest that Divine Source through all levels of “being” and for the good of all.

Magick is defined as the art of causing change to occur in accordance with Will. The “Will” is the intent of the Higher Self. This idea of the freedom to “do what you Will” has way too often been interpreted by the more hedonistic, less self-aware among us, to mean we can “do what we want”. That would be very primitive and ego based definition of Will. It would define “Want” or highlight our human flaws if anything. The Mage’s first lesson is to learn the difference.

The Higher Will is beyond “want” or “demand”. Those types of base desires based on manifesting instant satisfaction or the fulfillment of lower desires are typical attitudes of the Ego Self.

Ego based consciousness is an emotionally immature state that reflects a spiritually immature state. Magick is the path to Spiritual Maturity but it is reflected in our mental and emotional lives too so if someone seems badly adjusted emotionally, you can know that there is a spiritual and mental component to that imbalance. It’s important for any aspiring magician or mystic learn to recognise these red flags and to resolve them rather than to passively assume they will sort themselves out.

They say time heals…but it does depend what you do with that time!

Through magick we choose to consciously align ourselves with a more mature state that resonates more with the Divine. Now you may call that external expression of Divinity by a name or define it as an abstract concept. But when you experience moments in life where you are aligned with it (the Divinity within yourself is in harmony with the Divinity that is without), things go smoothly, you feel good, and there is a sense of purpose and deep validation that comes from that intimate connection experienced through Magick. It is unique and undeniable. But to experience it usual requires removal of impediments to Higher Consciousness. It’s not uncommon for a personal tragedy to seem to be the catalyst for a sense of deep spiritual communion during prayer. As if the mind is occupied with our misery enough that our spiritual Higher Mind is free from the usual background noise.

All experiences understood from a spiritual perspective have the potential for growth. It is a common complaint “how can you believe in God when bad things happen?”…well, how many drug addicts and alcoholics would there be if it was never possible to hit rock bottom. We may not know why bad things can happen to good people…but perhaps it’s just that we need to know, this is a level playing field. You can aspire to exceed yourself no matter what your outward situation and status. Spiritually, you are unique and possess potential; the same potential of the greatest evil or monumental saintliness. Spiritual, no one has a silver spoon and it could be argued the more challenging your life conditions are, the greater your potentional is.

Now your path itself is unique. It may be based around personal beliefs and practices; disciplines of religion or philosophy. Observed devotions and practices. There is no single road to Self-Realisation. There is only the goal of achieving fundamental Wholeness through our subjective and objective experiences and understanding. Aspiring to Wholeness is the only path to true happiness.

Through Mayastar Academy Online Natural Healing & Spiritual Development Courses I teach a variety of energy healing and meditation distance learning courses online. These are techniques that may add to your experience – or be a place to begin. These techniques can form a part of conscious spiritual development; and that was why I founded Mayastar in 2004.

My intention is to provide support & assistance to people in achieving alignment with their Higher Will. It is an example of me choosing my vocation in alignment with my Higher Will; of causing change to occur in accordance with my Will. And to support others on the path to Wholeness by my lifetime’s devotion to the process. My ego would probably feel safer with a 9-5 – but my soul would remain unfulfilled.

My life, thoughts, ideas, actions and beliefs are aligned with my Higher Will. Whether I am providing an initiation intensive, reiki attunement or tailored ritual intensive, my relationship with every client and student, reflects my higher intention. For my own journey, that’s how it has to be. And often my journey plays a part in the spiritual journey of another.

There are many other more mundane things that I have to do to make this possible though. I have to feed myself, keep a roof over my head, do my accounts, pay my bills and taxes, choose a diet that doesn’t hinder my work (some of my spells require a lot of dance – they are choreographed Tantric Shamanic Rituals – I couldn’t eat a heavy meal or too many carbs on a ritual heavy day). But these sacrifices for the perfection of my work are part of the work too. The good habits aren’t a sacrifice because they actually have benefits on other levels. But most importantly, they enable to manifest my “soul purpose”.

All these details are parts of that same magickal process and all essential to me being able to provide spiritual facilitation & service in accordance with my Higher Will. My decisions are made with that singularity of intention. Although my decision seems intellectual, the spiritual calling is my motivation. It’s much harder to explain and often harder to define our “destination” (destiny) because spiritual yearnings are different to other yearnings we experience. Our intuition develops as we go but using logic and intellect can be a safer starting point. A wooly intuitive desire could far more easily be confused with an ego based desire. That’s why you hear of people studying Magick. In the early stages, understanding our own motivations can be a bit of a minefield!

Of course there have been times in the past where I made choices that took me out of alignment with my higher intentions. We all do – magick is process of growth and often can mean having thr humility to learn by our own mistakes. Sometimes by “unlearning” our past immature assumptions or beliefs.

But as we practice, our self-awareness develops and as it does, we are increasingly called upon to make (sometimes hard) decisions. But what is consciousness, if not asking questions? When we are younger these crossroad moments can be harder on us; our ego has a loud voice but low aspirations! This can also be the case later in life if we have persisted in ego consciousness for a long time. It can feel like very hard work when we begin to move to the perspective of Higher Consciousness.

The process of magick is a lifestyle. It includes everything that forms part of your life “expression” and it is a life-long path. Not a few years in a coven. But many years of disciplined and focused application. Akin in many ways to Bhakti Yoga (Devotional Practice).

Is it really worth it you may ask? Well, if that’s a question, Magick probably isn’t your path. Magick is a way of life.

It isn’t something you achieve “as if by magick”; it’s the practice of following the path to Wholeness and in being of “one mind”.

It’s sometimes described as “the reconciliation of opposites” or “The Great Work” – these are very accurate names. But Self-Realisation is the one I prefer!

It’s important to remember that whatever path you choose or techniques you use, keeping yourself in alignment with your higher will encompasses all aspects of your life, all of the time.

We may recognise magickal proficiency by some external signs of psychic skills or talent in healing or spellcrafting. But the integration of our ego with our higher consciousness means our thoughts, feelings and behaviour all evolve too. The Whole Self is party to our development. And true Magick is the internal journey – the goal is always the spiritual aspiration.

We can find guidance externally but there isn’t an external authority because the process is deeply personal and absolutely unique. Although we may have relationships and connections with people that share similar goals and can offer support and encouragement, the inner process is only something you can do. It requires discipline and devotion. It requires a personal level of commitment to the process (faith and confidence) that will support us through challenging times.

Even if you’re working with a spiritual group or other group based around Self-Realisation, the journey to Wholeness is one we all make alone. And it is the only path to true happiness.