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Agree or disagree?

I'm watching Oprah interview Beyonce and she is talking about the decision to drop her father as her manager.

Anyways, Oprah mentioned what she remembered about something someone said about parenthood: parents are managers of their children's lives but as they get older they become consultants (especially about 15-16 years old). Some parents have a hard time with this which causes problems.

I would have to disagree. I saw the book where Oprah got the quote from. It's a parenting book. In the description it tells parents to embrace the estrangement.
I'm sorry, but that's something I'm not willing to do. I don't consider myself a manager to my daughter. That, to me, says that I'm not close to my kid, I just parent from afar. I'm a mother! I will be her mother always and will only take the back seat when she has moved out of the house.

I can agree to some extent. When your kids are younger you are much more involved in making every decision for them and basically running their lives. As they become older teens, you need to give them more independance and freedom. You begin to let them make decisions on their own, while still offering them advice and support.

I agree that the parent-child relationship evolves over time, and that evolution is healthy. I'm sure if having a parent-child relationship that is stuck in the wrong stage for the child's age or development would cause issues, but I'm not sure if those exact words are correct or how I would describe the situation.

There are also aways outliers to the norm. Just because most kids need more independence at 15-16, it doesn't mean some other kids aren't ready yet.

I can agree to some extent. When your kids are younger you are much more involved in making every decision for them and basically running their lives. As they become older teens, you need to give them more independance and freedom. You begin to let them make decisions on their own, while still offering them advice and support.

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