LIFE, LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS

The simple things…

I know that for me and a lot of others respect goes a long way. But the question is how do you say you respect someone when you tell them lies constantly? I don’t know about others but in my opinion when you are in a relationship and you are building a bond and strong foundation for the relationship it should be a very simple process to the tell the truth. A lot of things are easier said than done but I won’t compromise with this one only because it’s to simple to do. Just imagine not having to tell a million lies to cover up just one lie!

Understanding…

I want to completely make it clear that no man nor woman will be perfect! I want you to also understand that if you are looking for the perfect man or woman you should just stay single FOREVER! I know that may sound harsh but trust me its real and it came from a very sincere place. When your decide to lie to your partner about something that you already know may jeopardize the relationship that means you made a calculated decision to do so and that’s selfish. Just because you may think your partner will flip out or leave the relationship is just your thoughts but what if just maybe you tell them the truth and although they are furious they begin to respect you more for telling them the truth?

I just can’t hurt the one I love…

So after some thought you have chosen to continue with your lies because of selfishness which in your mind you think you are protecting your partner’s feelings. My question is and I know your partner’s question is as well deep down were you really looking out for them or are you are just looking out for yourself? Let me help you understand something, this is deep this isn’t the small lie that you have told in order to throw a surprise for her that she would love that you know she has been wanting. This lie will last in her mind for a possible lifetime because as a woman I can speak for us and let you know upfront we forget nothing! Something to remember is you are only hurting the person more by not giving them an option of how to handle how they feel. You are not trusting in the fact that they are capable of making the best decisions for themselves which in turns hurt them more.

Let’s fix this…

So lets just look at another option which is the BEST option! Let’s say you decide to tell the truth and your partner is mad but says “I know how hard it was for you to tell me the truth but I appreciate that you respected me enough to tell me and although I’m mad lets talk about how to fix this”. Now I have to tell you that you may not get the response in those exact words and not at the exact moment that you tell the truth but you will get a better response than if you lied! We all have to learn to trust in our partners and know that if the bond is strong don’t throw it away for momentarily people or things that try to come between the two of you. Always work on having a healthy, loving, and trusting relationship. Don’t allow no one to ruin what you have and that includes yourself as well! Lies will ruin a relationship so just be honest and trust in the fact that you and your partner have a bond that shouldn’t be destroyed by selfish lies! Please also read this

I agree on so many levels! And once again this topic is so current for me… I have just suffered from lies in what I thought could be a great relationship with a guy who took pride in ‘not being selfish’ and ‘honest’. Well, I was all that. Unfortunately, turned out not only he lied about these two things but also about a hell of a lot other things.. So… my question is, why do you try to cover the fact you are lier by posing yourself in the position of somebody that never lies…? I mean… aren’t you sick just saying that out loud?!
As you – I can NEVER compromise on this one thing..

Thank you so much for sharing. That’s exactly how it is they will manipulate you into believing everything then change up and act as if they did nothing wrong! It is very selfish on their part but I am happy you realized what he was doing because you deserve someone who will be honest with you as the same you are for them. I don’t see and will never understanding or agree to compromising on something that should be natural in a relationship to do especially when you are being loyal and honest with that person!