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Breaking! Even Married Women Like Sex (And How This Loosely Relates to Stepping Up My Game)

The not-so-funny joke is that once the honeymoon is over and the kids come along, sex becomes a distant memory. And usually it’s the guy in the relationship lamenting the days when his wife was revved up and ready to go like his first Camaro. Sigh.

According to this study, this is NOT a promise to have less sex like she first thought.

Apparently, it’s not just the dudes who think sex is vital to their existence (DUH). iVillage's Married Sex Survey got to the bottom of just how important sex is to women. It might come as a surprise to the guy with the Camaro, but 75 percent of married women “say a good sex life with their spouse is extremely or very important. A majority of married women are not only happy with their sex life, but also believe their spouses are happy with their sex life.”

While this is great news for anyone who thought differently, the real zinger for me is the number of women who reported that they were the initiators. The study reported 38 percent of women saying they initiated sex as often as their partner did. While it’s unclear if that means the other 62 didn’t ever initiate, or whether that means they always did, I’m going to assume the former. And it got me thinking why is it so hard for women to make the first move?

Speaking for myself, I worry about being rejected. What if he’s not in the mood or has something on his mind? The last thing I need is to be up all night obsessing about a sex snub. Then again, I’m also aware that he wants to feel wanted and desired, and I figure he’s already in my bed, so the hard part is out of the way. I think it's time to step it up and take charge.

How often do you initiate sex in your relationship? If you don’t, is there a reason for it? Do you feel comfortable making the first move?