The urethral rod was embedded in the memories, at least, of GIs in the 1940s and 1950s, referred to as the “umbrella needle” and meant to be a terror-item (in “instructional” film) to scare the male soldiers, sailors, et al. from casual sex…indeed scraping that scar tissue, even given that penicillin was available for gonorrhea already.

Certainly seems less scary than tales of experimentation with pipe cleaners and other things misguided adventurous men have used…

Towards the end of the ‘cast, you asked ‘why are guys focused on making a girl climax’ and personally, I kind of feel like movies and television put the notion in my head that if a guy can’t give a girl an orgasm, or if he climaxes before she does that he sort of ‘fails’ at sex.

I get what you said about how things shouldn’t necessarily be ‘goal oriented’, but for myself, as a guy, I kind of feel like that’s really the only direction I know — unless I get to do really awesome things to the other person, my goal is usually to climax and have things just stop.