Tomgirl

Tomgirl is a short 14-minute film that introduces us to Jake, an inspirational, gender-creative child. Jake’s confidence, style, humor and kindness are inspirational and charming, and provide a visual example of the beautiful life a child can curate for themselves when they are not limited by traditional gender roles and expectations.

Jake loves ice-skating and playing hockey. His long hair escapes his helmet and cascades down his back in a messy ponytail. When he grows up, Jake thinks he might want to be a scientist who mixes potions, or a veterinarian, or maybe even a police officer. Jake’s glasses rest on his nose as he skips past the clothes line where his Hello Kitty shirt hangs next to his Iron Man costume which is next to his black and white skirt, which he exclaims is “the best skirt I ever had!” And as Jake shows the camera his painted toenails, he mentions his new most favoritest color is hot pink – and who can blame him? Hot pink is great!

We invite you to watch the short documentary and hope it helps you not only understand why we have chosen to raise Zoomer without an assigned gender, but also helps you see that allowing children to be themselves is what’s best for kids.

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Tomgirl is a short 14-minute film that introduces us to Jake, an inspirational, gender-creative child. Jake’s confidence, style, humor and kindness are inspirational and charming, and provide a visual example of the beautiful life a child...

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