Kinky Sex: 5 Ways to Introduce Her To It

How long have you been racking your brain trying to decide how to introduce your girl to kinky sex? First and foremost, understand this: your girl wants to have kinky sex. Maybe she hasn’t experienced it, but she’s curious. Even knowing she’s likely to be receptive, introducing her to your wildest fantasies is intimidating. Try these simple strategies and be prepared: your life is about to get a whole lot kinkier.

Make Her Feel Sexy. Role playing is an excellent introduction to kinky sex because it’s different without being freakish. If you’ve been dreaming of spending a night with a naughty cheerleader, tell your girlfriend how hot she’d look in a cheerleader costume the next time you’re watching a football game. If she seems even mildly flattered, take it one step farther: bring home a sexy cheerleader costume for her. Emphasize that you can’t stop fantasizing about her all dressed up so she feels hot, not ridiculous, when she puts on the costume. Once she’s all decked out, utter a few choice lines to let her know what role you want to play. You’ll both probably be embarrassed at first but you might be surprised by how uninhibited you feel once you get into character. This basic technique works whether you want her to play nurse, secretary, or anything else; the key is to make her feel like she’d be the sexiest thing in the world playing the role.

Timing is Everything. Certain forms of kinky sex require your girl’s permission while others are best introduced during the throes of passion. Ask “Can I spank your butt during sex?” while you two enjoy a romantic dinner and she’ll probably roll her eyes; give her bottom a gentle smack while you’re getting busy in bed and you’ve just introduced her to some playfully kinky sex. If she doesn’t like it she can simply push your hand away rather than embarrass both of you by telling you to stop. The first few spanks shouldn’t cause any pain; that comes later, once you feel confident she’s into it. But know this going in: spanking can be a huge turn-on but for some women, pain will never equal pleasure so don’t be too aggressive.

Make Her Comfortable. Plenty of guys dream of being porn stars but if you’re looking to star in a hot home video with your woman, you’ll have to reassure her that said video will never end up in the wrong hands. The easiest way to do it? Forgo the tape altogether and simply hook your video camera up to the TV so you can enjoy some live-action shots. This allows you both to play the role of porn star while removing any chance of embarrassment. The upshot? She’ll feel even more uninhibited if she doesn’t have to worry about her sexual escapades ending up on the Internet.

Take it Slow. Bondage is a popular sexual fantasy for both men and women; submission is hot. To introduce her to this type of kinky sex, push her arms above her head and pin her wrists down lightly next time you’re on top. Be firm but gentle and gauge her reaction before proceeding; if she likes it, pull out a necktie during your next romp and bind her wrists lightly. Slowly up the ante from there, but unless you’re absolutely certain she’s into it, ask permission before getting into more serious bondage; this type of play can quickly go from sexy to scary for women, especially if they’ve been victims of sexual force.

Get Her Talking. You’ve introduced your girl to some of your kinky sex fantasies, now it’s time to unlock a fantasy of hers. Don’t worry, she has them. To get her to confess, wait until you’re both basking in the afterglow of sex (preferably the kinky kind) and start asking some questions: “Well, you’ve seen what I’m into. Is there anything you’ve ever wanted to try in bed?” If she’s hesitant to talk, throw out a few suggestions: Spanking? Dress-up? Public sex? Just stay away from hardcore “industry terms” like bondage,masochism, and exhibitionism. If she’s shy about her fantasies these words will only embarrass her.