OT: Need Advice

Hi ladies... I know ultimately this is a decision that is up to dh and I, but I would love to hear what u guys think. We are currently living with my parents and my husband is currently working for my brother! Well my parents and my brother are moving 8 hrs away to where we originally grew up... My brother is thinking about either moving the business to where he's going to be or close it down completely (he changes his mind daily on what he wants to do) my husband has been working for my brother for 9 months and the day before thanksgiving things hit the fan and my husband quit... Which I don't blame him, my brother is by far the most difficult person to deal with let alone work for... He's a mixture of severe OCD with a little of bi polar and a**hole all mixed in together. Anyways when he quit, dh was looking for another job and was home alot... My brother sent me a text saying that we are taking advantage of my parents by living there and basically said that my parents aren't the red cross... Oh and we originally didn't plan on moving in with my parents we had found a townhouse 15 mins from them and put a deposit on it but my parents told us that it didn't make any sense to get our own place cause my dh was working 7 days a week... 12 hours a day and I'd be home all day alone with the baby...anyways back to the text... So needless to say it made us very upset that he would even say something like that so we left that night and went to go find an appt and we planned on moving closer to his parents which is an hour and a half away from where we live now and would be 6 hrs away from where my parents and brother are moving. We put a down payment on an apt and we were suppose to move in today. Well on Christmas my brother and dh disappeared for a couple of hours then that night he tells me that him and my bro had a heart to heart and he's going to go back to work for him. Anyways now my bro doesn't know what he's going to do and were kinda in limbo! My parents have an empty house near where theyre moving to and they said we can move there rent free for the first 3 months then pay only 1000 per month after that... That way we have time to establish ourselves and get on our feet ... By the way the house is 5 bedrooms 3 bathrooms, 3000+ sqft on a golf course in a gated community... And the rent in that area for that type of a house is usually $2500/mo! So we can move there or we can move closer to his parents and we would rent an apt for approx $1800/mo... The only problem is nither one of us are working right now and that would eat up our savings... And who knows how long it would take him to find a job and me get started and making money in real estate again. He wants to move closer to his parents obviously and i just want to do what's best for us! So I want to move into my parents empty house cause we'd be saving money and we have a chance to get a head start and i know my way around and it woukd be a lot easier to get started in real estate again...But then again I'm not too excited about moving to my hometown... As far as moving closer to his parents it would be nice to live closer to them but I'm so scared that we will blow our savings and still have no income coming in... At the same time my Dh and I don't want to feel like a charity case and continuously depend on my parents either.... Gosh I feel so confused. I guess if I knew we were more financially stable I wouldn't have a problem moving closer to his family... Just feel like we have to think about DS... And what's more stable for him. Well that's the story in a nutshell... Please give me your input on what you would do... Thanks

Hi ladies... I know ultimately this is a decision that is up to dh and I, but I would love to hear what u guys think. We are currently living with my parents and my husband is currently working for my brother! Well my parents and my brother are moving 8 hrs away to where we originally grew up... My brother is thinking about either moving the business to where he's going to be or close it down completely (he changes his mind daily on what he wants to do) my husband has been working for my brother for 9 months and the day before thanksgiving things hit the fan and my husband quit... Which I don't blame him, my brother is by far the most difficult person to deal with let alone work for... He's a mixture of severe OCD with a little of bi polar and a**hole all mixed in together. Anyways when he quit, dh was looking for another job and was home alot... My brother sent me a text saying that we are taking advantage of my parents by living there and basically said that my parents aren't the red cross... Oh and we originally didn't plan on moving in with my parents we had found a townhouse 15 mins from them and put a deposit on it but my parents told us that it didn't make any sense to get our own place cause my dh was working 7 days a week... 12 hours a day and I'd be home all day alone with the baby...anyways back to the text... So needless to say it made us very upset that he would even say something like that so we left that night and went to go find an appt and we planned on moving closer to his parents which is an hour and a half away from where we live now and would be 6 hrs away from where my parents and brother are moving. We put a down payment on an apt and we were suppose to move in today. Well on Christmas my brother and dh disappeared for a couple of hours then that night he tells me that him and my bro had a heart to heart and he's going to go back to work for him. Anyways now my bro doesn't know what he's going to do and were kinda in limbo! My parents have an empty house near where theyre moving to and they said we can move there rent free for the first 3 months then pay only 1000 per month after that... That way we have time to establish ourselves and get on our feet ... By the way the house is 5 bedrooms 3 bathrooms, 3000+ sqft on a golf course in a gated community... And the rent in that area for that type of a house is usually $2500/mo! So we can move there or we can move closer to his parents and we would rent an apt for approx $1800/mo... The only problem is nither one of us are working right now and that would eat up our savings... And who knows how long it would take him to find a job and me get started and making money in real estate again. He wants to move closer to his parents obviously and i just want to do what's best for us! So I want to move into my parents empty house cause we'd be saving money and we have a chance to get a head start and i know my way around and it woukd be a lot easier to get started in real estate again...But then again I'm not too excited about moving to my hometown... As far as moving closer to his parents it would be nice to live closer to them but I'm so scared that we will blow our savings and still have no income coming in... At the same time my Dh and I don't want to feel like a charity case and continuously depend on my parents either.... Gosh I feel so confused. I guess if I knew we were more financially stable I wouldn't have a problem moving closer to his family... Just feel like we have to think about DS... And what's more stable for him. Well that's the story in a nutshell... Please give me your input on what you would do... Thanks

To me this sounds like a case of sibling jealousy. What's it to your brother if you're living with your parents? It's none of his business if you are aren't paying to live there. As for moving out on your own or the empty house, I certainly hope you're getting your money back on all these deposits you've made but not kept. Personally I'd move to the cheaper & nicer home. 1 it's a home not an apt, 2 it's much less expensive & 3 you're familiar with the people & area. If you do this then you're not mooching off you're parents because you're paying rent & you can help yourself by finding a job. If your brother keeps the business running then it's an added benefit if not, then your so has 3 months to find a job. Personally I'd sit down with him & crunch the numbers. $1800 a month in rent will eat up your savings much, much faster then 3 mos free & $1000 a month. Plus who would want to raise a child in an apt if they had a choice of a nice spacious home with a backyard?! Not this momma! (that's why we're moving soon:-) in the end in sure you'll do what's best for your lil family & you. GL

To me this sounds like a case of sibling jealousy. What's it to your brother if you're living with your parents? It's none of his business if you are aren't paying to live there. As for moving out on your own or the empty house, I certainly hope you're getting your money back on all these deposits you've made but not kept. Personally I'd move to the cheaper & nicer home. 1 it's a home not an apt, 2 it's much less expensive & 3 you're familiar with the people & area. If you do this then you're not mooching off you're parents because you're paying rent & you can help yourself by finding a job. If your brother keeps the business running then it's an added benefit if not, then your so has 3 months to find a job. Personally I'd sit down with him & crunch the numbers. $1800 a month in rent will eat up your savings much, much faster then 3 mos free & $1000 a month. Plus who would want to raise a child in an apt if they had a choice of a nice spacious home with a backyard?! Not this momma! (that's why we're moving soon:-) in the end in sure you'll do what's best for your lil family & you. GL

What's the job market/prospects in both of these areas? I would go where the job potential was better (not your brother as he doesn't seem like a reliable job for your dh). If your dh (and possibly you IF you'd like to work also) could find similar jobs with similar pay in both areas I would say near your parents would be better so that you could rent a home for cheaper than an apartment. I think the best thing to do though is to have your dh start a job search (in both areas if you're really unsure where you want to live).

What's the job market/prospects in both of these areas? I would go where the job potential was better (not your brother as he doesn't seem like a reliable job for your dh). If your dh (and possibly you IF you'd like to work also) could find similar jobs with similar pay in both areas I would say near your parents would be better so that you could rent a home for cheaper than an apartment. I think the best thing to do though is to have your dh start a job search (in both areas if you're really unsure where you want to live).

I agree I think the home near your parents makes more sense. The 3 mths free and only $1000 will be a big help in setting up your new lives and also not be a big financial burden on you both while you look for work. Also the baby will have the added bonus of staying close to your parents which I'm sure he is gonna love seeing as they probably already watch him for you when you need it. As for your brother you need to do what's best for you not him. Good luck!

I agree I think the home near your parents makes more sense. The 3 mths free and only $1000 will be a big help in setting up your new lives and also not be a big financial burden on you both while you look for work. Also the baby will have the added bonus of staying close to your parents which I'm sure he is gonna love seeing as they probably already watch him for you when you need it. As for your brother you need to do what's best for you not him. Good luck!

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