just a rant....

i t sucks being lonely, and girls just don't like the way i want them too. even if it a girl is friendly towards me, i can't get it out of my head. i instantly like the person because i never get any attention from the opposite sex and that feels good no matter how fake it is.

this waitress at a restaurant that my car club goes to every thursday. there is a waitress there that plays around with me and that i have come to like quiet a bit. and i really enjoy the attention, i never have gotten attention like that so it just make me thing she likes me but i dunno. im too scared to do anything either way you look at it, ive failed so much with women that its not even worth it to try anything, i already know where its going to go.

im such a fucking idiot for feeling this way, wish i had no emotions at all.

I was in your situation 3 years ago man. Now I'm in a totally different place.

you have to be motivated to change your life. being scared isn't going to get you anywhere. there are steps you need to take to change your life and the first is to change your perspective, especially on yourself and what you are capable of achieving.

it takes effort, time, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, but it's worth it. trust me.

harsh true though. If you get trapped in that kind of mentality it's gonna be really hard to meet anyone. Build some confidence, just in general not necessarily with chicks. It's kinda weird but after I started playing guitar and got really good at it, I felt better about myself and was able to meet more women because I put out a better vibe.

harsh true though. If you get trapped in that kind of mentality it's gonna be really hard to meet anyone. Build some confidence, just in general not necessarily with chicks. It's kinda weird but after I started playing guitar and got really good at it, I felt better about myself and was able to meet more women because I put out a better vibe.

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I just have no sympathy for people who don't try then bitch about their lack of success.

ForevererZero89 you just have to ask yourself what you're more afraid of:
Getting rejected by a girl?
Eventually turning into the 40 year old virgin?

i t sucks being lonely, and girls just don't like the way i want them too. even if it a girl is friendly towards me, i can't get it out of my head. i instantly like the person because i never get any attention from the opposite sex and that feels good no matter how fake it is.

i'll probably have more for later when i think of it.

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people with worse dating problems have done great things.

rejection > regret!!!!!

good luck.

make sure not to use your bad past experiences with women as a sympathy card with women.

it may be tempting to do, but making yourself into the object of pity is not attractive.

you got some good advice in here dude, i used to be the same way, well i still am but i'm working on fixing it, you can either be stuck in this hole forever and not do anything about it or you can do everything in your power to get out of it and live your life. No matter what people say, stuff like this will always hold you back from fully enjoying other things in your life because that insecurity is always there.

Just ask her if shed like to go out to dinner/grab a drink/go bowling/whatever with you. Thats it. if she says yes, take her out, show her a good time, then kiss her. If she says no, say "ok, cool. catch ya later"

Why exactly is it that noob guys always wanna create these shit show awkward moments where they tell the girl "how they really feel"? even if the girl did like you, doing that out of the blue is going to be awkward as hell.

Just ask her if shed like to go out to dinner/grab a drink/go bowling/whatever with you. Thats it. if she says yes, take her out, show her a good time, then kiss her. If she says no, say "ok, cool. catch ya later"

Why exactly is it that noob guys always wanna create these shit show awkward moments where they tell the girl "how they really feel"? even if the girl did like you, doing that out of the blue is going to be awkward as hell.

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This is the problem here. He has given up before he had a chance to learn anything. It's like trying to learn how to sink a 3 pointer, missing the basket a few times, then giving up altogether because it wasn't easy. OP you HAVE to keep trying in order to learn, yes you're going to fail, who cares if you do? It's not the end of the world, suck it up, start interacting with women, fail BUT LEARN, and you'll eventually figure out what works for you.

Because the alternative is to stay on the path you are going, by the time you are 30 this will be such a fear in your head that'll you'll never have a chance.

Why exactly is it that noob guys always wanna create these shit show awkward moments where they tell the girl "how they really feel"? even if the girl did like you, doing that out of the blue is going to be awkward as hell.

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It makes perfect sense:

You know how you feel. You want to know how they feel.

So you say how you feel, and then ask how they feel.

The Catch-22 is that women are turned off by this, but how would you know better without experience?

This is the problem here. He has given up before he had a chance to learn anything. It's like trying to learn how to sink a 3 pointer, missing the basket a few times, then giving up altogether because it wasn't easy. OP you HAVE to keep trying in order to learn, yes you're going to fail, who cares if you do? It's not the end of the world, suck it up, start interacting with women, fail BUT LEARN, and you'll eventually figure out what works for you.

Because the alternative is to stay on the path you are going, by the time you are 30 this will be such a fear in your head that'll you'll never have a chance.

Just ask her if shed like to go out to dinner/grab a drink/go bowling/whatever with you. Thats it. if she says yes, take her out, show her a good time, then kiss her. If she says no, say "ok, cool. catch ya later"

Why exactly is it that noob guys always wanna create these shit show awkward moments where they tell the girl "how they really feel"? even if the girl did like you, doing that out of the blue is going to be awkward as hell.

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You can't give up without a try. But gushing your feelings out without having any solid ground to work from is going to get you the awkwardness everyone is talking about. Take it easy... go slow.... step by step...think tactical...

edit: Tactical not as in sneaky as in not rushing into something without knowing what your getting into. Caution probably would have been a better word here...