At some point, you need to commit to a wedding vision

There are so many different styles of weddings. But at a certain point, you need to bite the bullet and go with one.

There are so many different styles of weddings. But at a certain point, you need to bite the bullet and go with one. (stock.xchng)

Olivia Hubert-AllenThe Baltimore Sun

Over the past several months of my engagement, many friends told me they grew up dreaming about their wedding day. From the beautiful white dress to the castle-like venue to the prince charming they hoped to meet at the alter, they had a clear vision of their "dream" wedding.

If you’re one of those people, that is awesome. You go into wedding planning with a few starting points. You’re driven and know what you want. And you’ve probably already made some of the big decisions before you even said, “I do.” (Side note: I’ve heard of women booking competitive venue spaces years in advance – before they are even engaged. Are they super on top of it? Or crazy pants? I’ll leave that for you to decide.)

I, however, was not one of these people.

I didn’t start thinking about my wedding day until a few days after I was engaged. Sure, I had watched episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress,” and admired the weddings of friends – but I never created a concrete image in my mind of what I wanted my own wedding to be.

Big? Small? Either way! Fancy? Casual? Doesn’t matter to me! Ball gown, trumpet, mermaid or A-line? All of the above!

It's been kind of like shopping at Forever 21 or an antique mall. Every time I turn a corner, there’s a whole new room full of possibilities. Instead of picking something out, I always keep circling the store, looking for that one thing that is just perfect. There has been such a thrill in imagining the different types of wedding I could have that I've been reluctant to actually make any decisions.

But at a certain point, the browsing needs to end. Just like you commited to the guy, you’ve got to commit to the wedding.

Today I sit with a contract for a venue in my hands. It feels like the biggest decision in this whole ordeal, as it will dictate a lot about our décor and overall vibe. We haven’t signed it yet, but tonight we will. Definitely, tonight.

Probably.

Stay tuned.

(I promise more venue details on a later post. It warrants its own blog!)