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Saturday, 2 January 2016

The pace of time never changes , second by second day month
and year go by and yet at the end of every year one feels that this one just
breezed by. Some years are just change in calendar,our lives , people and surrounding pretty
much the same while other makes a huge change in your life . It defines you who
you are and who will be for rest of your life...... 2015 was such epic year for me !

2015 was the year I became mother for the first time to my
two beautiful twins and as they say life is never ever the same. Sometimes time
just stood still, while others I could not wait for time to pass and sometimes I
wished time would just stop still. Becoming a mother has been the most exhilarating
experience of my life . Its everything that you read / hear about and much more
. More so because we had twins , a sonny boy and little princess. Motherhood is
not easy, most of the time you are wondering if you have done the right thing ,
if you are doing the right thing and how to do ‘right’ things. You are
responsible for lives of these tiny tiny people and it’s not just about raising
them but also ensuring that they are raised in a manner that they become
beautiful individuals whom you and more importantly they themselves would be
proud of .Trust me doing all this while mostly not sure of your own life and
actions is one

I am thankful more than ever to all people in my life who
helped and are helping me in this journey, my family ,friends and doctors I could
not have not anything without these people in my life.

As my mother wrote to me , a girl makes many relationship once
she gets married but nothing is more special than becoming a motherand I could not agree more . Yes there are
times when I really miss my ‘old life’ , when going out meant picking up car keys
and out of the door .Now I have to plan
before I so much venture out of my door, going out means planning for days ,
packing really half your house and still be wondering if you really have
everything that these two tiny ones will need. There is no time for ‘down time’ , you always
have to be on , making sure they are safe and healthy . Even if you have tons
of ‘help’ around, you would be rushing every time one of them even so much as
whimpers and yes it would be ages before you get a full night sleep J

But amidst all the chaos and sleeping nights and now permanent
back pain there are few minutes when they both happy and playful, the smile
that greets you in morning and when they call out ‘ma’ (I know they are too young to talk , but whatever
noise they make to my ears that just ma)

I have so much to look forward this year, watching them grow,
ensuring that both of them are happy and healthy, spend as much time as
possible with them. I want to be in better health, a better cook and overall a
better person to be the best possible mom.

Wednesday, 30 December 2015

Let me start by stating the obvious – the story about a
successful middle aged man falling for a younger beautiful woman ( and no I am
not giving the plot away , its stated on the cover) is quiet a cliché .

Ravi Subramanian in his 8th offering bringsin an almost semi-autobiographical (!)
‘romantic thriller’forindian fiction readers . Having read and
reviewed his earlier novel, I was really excited to read this book , however I am
left with very mixed emotions at the end of it . ‘The best seller she wrote’
falls short from earlier works by the author.this is a slightly different
genere attempted by author and at best seems like half hearted, nothing in line
with his previous work. Having said that cant really say this is a total
washout, there are some redeeming points as well/

So what works for this novel ?

The characterization is real , we all know these Aditya , Maya
, Sherya , and Sanjay in real lives .
All of us have come across such characters in real life , a highly successful,
the devoted wife , the ambitious next gen and a best friend. Characters are
clearly sketched and helps you visualize the narration very well.

The world of contemporary Indian literature, where every
book is a ‘product’ that needs to be marketed. From the right celebrity
endorsement to encouragement on social media, this book gives you a good
insight into how a book is really ‘made’.

There are references to real places , persons and events ,
helps create a mood for the book.

The ‘twist’ in the story is unexpected and manages to retain
reader’s interest in the book

What doesn’t really work?

The story drags around middle , about 20 odd pages are quiet
predictable and adds absolutely nothing to the plot

There are some no so subtlepot shots on his contemporary
Indian writers – dance reality show
judge, !!

The sex scenes in authors own language is quiet ‘thanda’

The banking background , we all know the writer background
in banking and he has leveraged his knowledge beautifully in previous novels,
however for this book it seemed forced . The drama around layoffs due to
financial pressure occupies much of novel space but doesn’t really serve any
purpose. The characters and the plot could have in any setting and it would have worked.

The ending , too Bollywoodish for my liking, everything
works out nicely , Adiyta manages to rise above everything because the other
party was scheming and plotting against him. Given the book is going to be made into a
movie I am not really surprised at the happy ending , but not the way it’s been
portrayed .

All in all, it’s a good one time read but given the past
record you would expect a little more from Mr. Subramanian . The question now
really is who would be playing the protagonist in Bollywood version J

Friday, 7 November 2014

"Travel is more than seeing the world; it’s seeing the world in a new way."

I have had some amazing experience travelling. Some expected , some unexpected . Korea was one such unexpected experience and a total pleasent one to that. I simply loved the experience . Right from food to shopping everything was superlative. Shopping especially was mind blowing , I am not much of a shopaholic but there was something in the air that even I couldn't resist.

We stayed in Lotte Hotel in myendong area which a Mecca for beauty shopping.

Myeondyong - Seoul - The Beauty street

I had no idea about korean beauty industry before landing in Seoul. Infact in general i was not much into beauty and or skincare , my skincare routine till date was face wash and apply simple cream in morning, and the days I felt extra greasy I washed my face at night .

But landing in seoul opened my eyes to a different world, a world of hi tech beauty care. A world so complex and fascinating , a world of mind boggling 10 + beauty care steps !! It was just everywhere and when i realized every single person in seoul had amazing beautiful soft skin i fell for it too.

While I still have not got into that kind of elaborate routine , but have definitely expanded myself beyond clean and cream routine . My medicine cabinet looks something like this today. I clean , tone , moisturise and apply eye cream on daily basis and on a good day either scrub or apply a water pack.

Just a bit of care and trust me my skin never looked so good . So for all of you out there who dream of having flawless skin , give korean beauty care a chance. Ofcorse good food and healthy lifestyle has a huge role in how you look and feel but a little help from these 'miracle bottles' never hurts :)

Monday, 31 March 2014

There have been times when I have returned from a trip and felt that I needed a break to get over the break. Happened to you too ? Well after almost many such breaks I finally put some “learnings’ into practice and for once in my life I returned from a holiday and was ready for daily grind ..well almost. Here is what helped me this time to get back into the groove

1 . Clean your house before you leave or at least make your bed : My packing is always last minute, I am always rushing to find the hat I picked in the last trip or the lovely silk scarf which will go fabulously with all dresses , end result house it topsy turvy and I just have time to lock the door and run. This also means that when I return and I am so tired and one look at the mess and all I want to do is to run away. So the tip this time was to clean up at least the living area before I left and also since we were reaching back late in night , I made the bed. Once back, the house look good enough for at least not to make me call housekeeping and run away J I peeled over the bed covers and slept my jet lag away.

2. Account a ‘break in’ day : So typically our holiday ends on Sunday and we have to be back in office by Monday. This time we actually returned on Saturday that gave us a day to unpack , chill , load up on grocery water the plants and gently get back into the groove, by evening we were feeling so good and relaxed that we actually caught a movie and slept early . Monday was not too terrible for once.

3. Arrange for food : You know what time you would be arriving home so arrange for breakfast / lunch / dinner accordingly. After all these days of eating out , home food is what one really craves for and ofcorse kitchen is not the first place you want to be in. Personally , we are lucky to have a place our area that delivers homemade food . In case you don’t have any such place ask your friends and family nearby. My mum and Aunt live within couple of kms and they have a wonderful arrangement going on , whenever any of them travels the other ensures that hot food is delivered at her place on arrival day. You can have a similar arrangement , in case your friends don’t travel much you might want to ‘repay’ the favour by babysitting for them or taking them out for a nice meal or better still inviting them for dinner while you prepare the new exotic recipe you learnt on your trip. Win - Win for all.

4. Unpack right away : A huge point of contention with my husband always. Whenever he is back from a trip (and he travels a lot – 20 days a month !), he simply unpacks right away, putting clothes in washing machine and such, and I always hated it. Gradually I have realized that this is probably the right way. I may not do the laundry right away but I do put away clothes batches to be cleaned later and clean up the suitcases to be stored away. This also ensures that if I bought perishables (And I always buy local food), they are stored properly and not found stinking after couple of days.

I followed all these tips after a 2 week break this time and somehow the ordeal of getting back to daily routine was not that painful. Try it this time when you are heading to your spring / summer break and you just might be as glad as I am.

Monday, 24 March 2014

After the rather chilling but very exciting experience of day 1 in Ulaanbaatar, next day we planned to take a trip down to Terelj national park , about 60-70 kms away from the city center . Its a national park which is largely un developed and is best to view and understand the landscape of Mongolia away from hustle bustle of capital city . The travel to national park is pictresque with miles and miles of imposing mountains and hardly any settlement .

Landscape on the way

While in summer the there are plenty of activity at the park like Rafting horse riding, hiking and you can even stay in the famous Ger tents , with snow all around for us it was more of the journey than the actual destination. You can attempt skiing in winter but we are yet to learn to ski so there was nothing much 'to do'. We had a rather nice lunch at Terelj international resort and spa hotel .

On the way to national park , there is a mini stopover at Genghis khan statue complex , an imposing structure over 40 meter tall set against the barren hilly landscape. The complex is still work in progress and there is a small museum in the complex. While the museum's collection is not very grand its interesting nonetheless. Do check out the small video playing in a corner room which describes how this structure was made and put together.

Genghis khan statue complex

The imposing structure

Lanscape from the statue complex

There are couple of interesting rock formation on the way like this turtle structure :)

We had hired a cab from our hotel Kempinski Hotel Khan palace and it was great choice , the driver was knowledgeable and car very very comfortable.

And the best part of the trip, we got to see dianosaurs !!

Ok so they were rock stuctures but given the surreal landscape you would almost think they were real, dont you think so :)

Wednesday, 19 March 2014

It all started with a business trip and like per almost always husband's business trip. He gets to travel to some really exotic parts of the world due to his job and although he is not good with exotic or even anything remote, preferring to travel cities and beaches , somehow he thought this was different enough for a return trip and that I must visit it.

Well this exotic place is Ulaanbatar . Don't fret if you have not heard of the place before most of us had not. It's capital of Mongolia. A country landlocked between Russia & China . While i was little tempted with the pictures i saw of him there i was very much skeptical, i mean if i am spending time and money in going somewhere why don't we go to switzerland or even eastern europe, surely prettier and more 'known' , but for once husband was in mood of trying the off beaten path and i was curious enough so i said yes.

After that i got busy with official meetings and trip and just 2 day before we were to leave i finally reached back home to basically pack and leave for holiday. Now before going to any place i like to read up a little about the place, weather , to dos etc but this time i just didn't get any time. Before i started packing i quickly checked the weather and WHAT ?? -30 degree C , seriously why are we going there again ?? I am so not equipped to handle that . I now live in bangalore , i have not shopped for anything woolen in last 3 years and would we even step out of hotel in this weather. Anyways too late to think now , we were leaving next day . So i pretty much packed everything from my cupboard (big mistake, more in next post)

We flew Dragon air (Code share Cathay pacific ) from Bangalore to Hongkong (, after a brief stop over of couple of hours next flight from HK to Ulaanbaatar , we reached in evening after 6 pm.

I was wearing layers and layers of cloth but the moment i stepped out of airport a chill blast hit me really hard. Now i have lived in Chicago and london during cold weather but this is something else. I froze in that 2 minutes walk to cab. On way to Hotel , although it was almost dark outside from whatever i saw it felt little bizzare , like i have landed into Narnia type of place. It was surely not real, unfortunately the traffic jam at the next red light made it all too real and since it got really dark outside and the cacophony of traffic made me lose interest in whatever was outside , i was happily smug in heated comfort of car.

We were to spend 3 days in the city , so on day one we decided to do a city tour of sorts . There are not too many things in the city to really visit but some places worth visiting Sukhbaatar palace , Winter Palace,Zaisan memorial and Choijin Lama Temple Museum. There is also a national museum but we decided to skip that so really cant comment on how good it is. But the first stop we made was at State Department store (must visit in Ulaanbaatar for all your shopping need) , after having foretified ourselves with suitable gloves and caps socks we stepped out to tour the city.

Like most of the developing asian country Ulaanbaatar or UB as it is better known is in middle of crazy growth and that means high end stores (LV has a huge building next to main sqaure), big cars and crazy crazy traffic ! Although its a small city do account for snail pace traffic time to account for travel time.