How to handle an intimidating spouse

However, the sooner we learn to stand up for ourselves the sooner the bully will go away.

Sometimes that means giving back some of what they dish out.

The Love Busters -- selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, and angry outbursts -- are all examples of the way one spouse tries to force his or her will onto the other.

Whatever it's named, if you are hurting your spouse, you should stop doing it.But what they usually can't understand is that they are both perpetrators of abuse, as well.However, there's an issue that's far more important than how abuse is defined.The reason I feel obligated to include so many letters is that each one addresses an important aspect of abuse that I want to discuss.The first letter is from an abused wife who has not yet decided to separate from her husband to protect herself from his abuse.