Is it Bad to Fall in Love?

So, as many of you know that I live in India, and here’s it’s not that normal to have relationships like that. May be because of the old orthodox thinking or just because it’s “bad” as told by our parents. But is it really that bad? Let’s discuss.

I know many of you who are reading this have girlfriends/boyfriends and you are in love with them. But do your parents know about it? Are you afraid to tell them, because they may get mad and you’ll never ever get to talk to the person you loved?

Parents – Old Gen

We must keep in our minds that our parents belong to an old generation and in their generation it wasn’t so good to love someone. They failed to realize its beauty and focused on its negative consequences like getting bad grades, and the biggest fear of all – suicide.

But on the other hand that feeling of love is awesome. You can’t deny this fact if you’ve ever been in a relationship. The more love you feel, the more loved you will be. There’s no one closer to you than the person you love.

You think of them every time and you do crazy things that you would have never done in your whole lifetime. But do you feel regretful for those things? Of course not.

Lovers – New Gen

We are the lovers – We are always been taught to love, so why can’t we have boyfriends/girlfriends? It’s too good to love someone, innit? So we should express the love we feel to that person and if he/she also loves you, there’s no reason to not love.

Yea, I agree, sometimes they can result into blunders, but why can’t we at least try to fall in love, rather than just stamping it with “THIS IS BAD”?

If you feel the same, or you don’t then please feel free to share your opinions in the comments section below!

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Hello,
This post of yours deals with the question that many of us (Indian) teenagers ask ourselves, at one point of time or the other. I don’t know if it’s bad to be in a relationship or not, but I certainly know that it’s not bad to fall in love. It’s nothing we can keep ourselves away from, and it’s okay. Even the parents can’t deny they haven’t fell for someone when they were teenagers themselves, though they might never admit. But, the point is, they know how hormones can mess up with our sense of right from wrong, how we believe in someone who might end up breaking our hearts, how sometimes, some people get caught in the heat of the moment and end up screwing up their lives, they know how painful heartbreak can be. It’s not that they don’t understand, most of the parents do this because they are protective of their children, they don’t want the society to think lowly of their children, they don’t want the children to make mistakes and end up depressed,
But I agree that sometimes, the parents must let the child be with whoever he/she wants and let them learn from their own mistakes. Because even though, the whole thing might end up with one of us getting hurt, love is beautiful.

Okay, that was one hell of a long comment, so, I’ll just end here.
That was just my opinion.
Great Post! 🙂

Yea, I do agree that parents are protective to their children, and we should be proud of them. But sometimes, we need some extra space – Some space for other people to come in who love us.

Yea, it’s that hormone thing as well, but it’s not all of it. There’s no age to fall in love. There’s no “rule book” that says that you should love at this time and you should not before/after this age bracket.

No, it’s not wrong to fall in love, I think parents fear the child would get hurt or ‘neglect’ his/her career. Sometimes parents are not sure what to think… I am sure they all wish to be able to have open communication… but get confused, read about the parent’s confusion here, Don’t fall in love now!

Its not wrong to fall in love in high school – except that you can’t ‘fall in love’…at the most, I guess, you would have a crush on someone. I guess its time for the oldies to change the rigid attitude on all things related to relationships – but don’t you think we should also stop being as crazy to fall in love as we are?
Just a thought.

Well, I’ll say it again – There is no particular age to fall in love… Crush is one-sided love, on the other hand, love is when both, girl and boy, love each other. They care for one another. That’s true love. 🙂

Teenagers often find it attractive to actually fall in love with the concept of being in love! Since we are very vulnerable and curious people, we tend to try out new things.. You need maturity and a degree of responsibility if you want to be in a relationship. Usually, at the start, there is a lot of passion in the relationship but then it slowly fades away, making it dry and sombre.

Instead, I personally feel that ‘relationships’ are just like birth and death. They should take place only once in your life. Unless you believe in reincarnation! 😛

No, it is not bad to fall in love and then look forward to a better relationship. But it is bad to think that we get married to get a servant or maid at home to take care of our household and parents. You do not owe anything to your parents in matters of heart,learn to be independent and know that she(your love) too has a dream and do not make her out into a slave ever.God bless you.

I think its not at all bad to fall in love at any point of time in Life…so age is no bar for falling in love..as long as the person understands that its love and not infatuation Parents don’t have to worry 😀

The new trend catching up in India of ‘boyfriend girlfriend’ thing is just a western copycat. Very few youngsters are serious about it. It is just the ‘in thing’ to do. Don’t get sucked into it. If it is to be, it will…no amount of wishing will help it thru.

The generation argument holds no water…it’s not wise to generalize…people caught up in a closed society with strict beliefs can be found in all generations.

Hey gr8 work dude!
Long time since i read ur blog!,.
N about relationship., im ok with it..until n unless you dont have a break up when you propose only :D! Or rather you get ‘ditched’ 😀 !
Keep on ur work hope to c more from u!

Well thats a good question. Sitting on the right side of the auditorium ( ppl who attended the Indiblogger meet will know the meaning), it really feels that it is upto us to decide whether or not we want to do something. For always I believed that we are like a plant. During the initial years, we must be cared to make our base strong. then when it is quite strong, we should be left at our discretion. Only then we will know whether what we are doing makes sense or not..