Baby…Maybe? Contemplating parenthood

Census data show that many couples in the U.S. are choosing to postpone
parenthood, and others are choosing to be entirely child-free. Couples who
struggle with the decision of whether or not to ever become parents find that
they have few resources to turn to. Some doctors discuss pre-conception concerns
with women but the decision to become a parent or not to take on this role can
be incredibly complex. Research shows that when couples become parents without
each partner fully being on board with the decision, their relationship
satisfaction can take a hit. The baby’s well-being in such situations can also
be jeopardized.

Some couples want to have children eventually but are not sure when they
should move to this stage of life. Others are unsure that they ever what to
raise children. Nikki Massy-Hastings and I are conducting a study that will test
out a psycho-educational program aimed to help couples with this decision. Our
study was referenced in this recent article:

The article also lists many questions that couples should contemplate
prior to tackling parenthood Finally, it’s worth repeating that when in doubt,
seek couple or individual therapy to help you gain insight, understand your
partner, shore up your resources and make up your mind.