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Now before we go on, I’d like to offer a little bit of a defense as to the purpose of such a long running moral notion.

Spiritually speaking, when two people share in a sexual connection they transfer energy back and forth to one another, possibly unbeknownst to one partner or the other.

I dated a guy, on and off, for about five years in my 20s. This guy: lived with his “cousin” (girlfriend), was having sex with my best friend, and was even fellated by our co-worker (40 years his senior) in the parking lot of the mall we both worked in.

Of course I didn’t know about any of this at the time.

And, make no mistake, no matter how well you negotiate, feelings will get hurt on either path.

Now before we go on, I’d like to offer a little bit of a defense as to the purpose of such a long running moral notion.

Spiritually speaking, when two people share in a sexual connection they transfer energy back and forth to one another, possibly unbeknownst to one partner or the other.

I dated a guy, on and off, for about five years in my 20s. This guy: lived with his “cousin” (girlfriend), was having sex with my best friend, and was even fellated by our co-worker (40 years his senior) in the parking lot of the mall we both worked in.

Of course I didn’t know about any of this at the time.

And, make no mistake, no matter how well you negotiate, feelings will get hurt on either path.

That’s life: of monogamy (before two parties are ready) that creates the problem.