(Closed) Stepmom problem…

It’s 9 months to the wedding and i’m doing everything by myself, but one issue has come up…

My dad is dating a woman who my sisters and I sincerely dislike… this has been going on for almost 7 years now so its beyond saying anything. There is just an unspoken understanding that none of us like eachother. This woman is awful- I have said on many occassions that I would be happier if my father was dating one of my own friends. She is just a bad person overall, and it’s very upsetting that my father has chosen to spend the rest of his life with her. My dad WAS my best friend, and so I now keep my mouth shut regarding his choice for a partener– for years my sisters and I fought against it but she has solidified her presence and there is nothing we can do. My dad is just happy to have a companion. My oldest sister is no longer present because of this woman and my other sister sees my dad once every few months… it is always awkward and uncomfortable but my dad doesn’t seem to notice or care.

Anyways, long story short, this woman has very much become a part of all of our lives, reluctantly. She has not met my moms side of the family or my fiance’s family… but the last time I spoke to her, she was talking as though she expected trouble and family drama and excitement. She is saying horrible things about my family who she has not met, and is making wierd comments about the wedding insinuating that she will confront people she doesnt know, and try to gain as much attention as possible.

I don’t know what to do. This is already an inter-cultural relationship, it is going to cost way too much, and nearly everyone is coming from out of town. I’m just not sure how to deal with this woman.

If she is threatening to confront people, talk to you dad alone and share these concerns. Be specific as to her comments. Hopefully he will see the light, and suggest she not be invited, If he is not paying, your only concern should be whether or not he will come (and I doubt he will want to boycott your wedding). If he says she wont be disruptive, tell him this. She will be seated at ceremony not just one row behind family, but several rows back. He can either sit behind your mother, or back with his Girlfriend. At reception, they will have a table away from other parents. Tell dad, if she makes ANY problems, security will ask her to leave. Explain to venue, ahead of time, that you have a guest that may become disruptive. Discuss with fiance, see if you can get a groomsman to play the heavy.