"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

Posts: 2943 | Registered: Aug 2011

heartache101♀ 26465Member # 26465

Posted: 3:49 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Aubrie
We can not change our past.
We can have a happy future by learning from our past.
Our true selves shines thru on how we handle our mistakes in life.

Good Luck!

There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3222 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana

plainsong♀ 37826Member # 37826

Posted: 3:51 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Sending you prayers and support. I hear your concern about your kids being affected. Remember that they will also benefit from seeing their parents set boundaries to protect themselves (and the family as a whole) from abusive or unhealthy relationships.

Also remember that it is ok for you to make the decision that you think and feel is best for you now. If the situation or people change later, you can renegotiate.

The most important thing now is to respect yourself and your own family unit. If you can speak respectfully to your FOO members while setting boundaries in this difficult situation, so much the better, but you can only do the best you can. I trust that your heart will lead you to a good choice.

Me,WW,just turned 70 - the new 50!
Him,BH,70
Dday,12/22/2010
I use capital letters for emphasis, not yelling.

Posts: 97 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Chicago area

Jrazz♀ 31349Member # 31349

Posted: 3:59 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Prayers and mojo for you. Will be sending good thoughts.

We're here for you.

(((Aubrie)))

"It is impossible to get a man to understand something if his livelihood depends on him not understanding." - Upton Sinclair

Posts: 23911 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California

ThoughtIKnewYa♀ 18449Member # 18449

Posted: 4:09 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

(((Aubrie)))

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knightsbff♀ 36853Member # 36853

Posted: 4:21 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Prayers for strength, peace and guidance.

(((Aubrie)))

fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 23, 16, 11. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.

Posts: 1680 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA

Aubrie♀ 33886Member # 33886

Posted: 5:44 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Thanks everyone.

Plainsong, you're right. On every account. It is healthy, it is the right thing to do.

Its just facing the monster straight in the eyes that is so terrifying. Its facing the abuse head on. Its putting your foot down and saying "No more."

Terrifying.

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 7104 | Registered: Nov 2011

wifehad5♂ 15162Member # 15162

Posted: 6:03 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Good luck tonight. We're all behind you

FBH - 43
FWW - 44 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 8 & 13

The people you do your life with shape the life you live

Posts: 40539 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan

gonnabe2016♀ 34823Member # 34823

Posted: 6:07 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Strength vibes >>>>>>>

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

Posts: 8628 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest

Joanh♀ 39146Member # 39146

Posted: 6:32 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Will be thinking of you and hope all goes well.
((Aubrie))

BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

Posts: 442 | Registered: Apr 2013

AFrayedKnot♂ 36622Member # 36622

Posted: 7:14 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Prayers

BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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Aubrie♀ 33886Member # 33886

Posted: 9:13 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Well that was worthless. You cannot discuss anything with a NPD P/A nut job. It all just gets turned back around on us.

There were no fights. No raised voices. But we were treated very condescendingly. Whatever. I'm done.

I can be civil. But they know where I stand and how I feel. You wanna think I'm stupid? Fine. Whatever. My life goes on.

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 7104 | Registered: Nov 2011

Aubrie♀ 33886Member # 33886

Posted: 9:14 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Thank you everyone for your words, care, and support. Means the world to me.

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

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Jrazz♀ 31349Member # 31349

Posted: 9:17 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Well that was worthless. You cannot discuss anything with a NPD P/A nut job. It all just gets turned back around on us.

1,000,000% true. This is why we do not engage with NPD/PA IL's anymore. We have the full support of our counselors, and basically anyone else who knows them.

It's going to be ok. You have YOUR family, and that's a perfectly worthy place to put your energy.

"It is impossible to get a man to understand something if his livelihood depends on him not understanding." - Upton Sinclair

Posts: 23911 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California

Aubrie♀ 33886Member # 33886

Posted: 9:35 PM, October 18th (Friday), 2013

Just pisses me off. Ya know?

Be a dick. Doesn't care. Because HE is right. Dontcha know. Noooooobody else knows anything. He is God's gift to humanity.

Good luck with that Dude.

I have my husband and children. That's all that matters. I almost lost them once. Ain't gonna happen again.