There is a juxtaposition happening right now in my life. So much is going right for me in so many ways, I am so happy for the little things that are happening around me but two very big things are not what I would like them to be for me anymore. Work used to be fun and I used to enjoy the people I had... Read More

I once ran into someone sitting by the side of the street in New York with a box and a sign that just said "fucked." So I gave her twenty bucks, which she really appreciated, but now I wonder if there was more I could have done. That's what I think of when I see your username.

You can't un-do what you did. You can't make her see you the way she did before. You can't make up for disloyalty in the past with loyalty in the presentthe past is already written. If you want to make things right, first of all accept that it may be impossible. And second, stop expecting anything positive out of her. Stop hoping she will ever forgive you. Stop wishing that she would smile at you. If you can't live without those things, you don't love heryou just have a dependency on her. If you do love her, what that really means is that you want her to be happy, no matter what, whether it's with you, with someone else, or alone. And you want her not to suffer.

So stop doing anything that causes her suffering, no matter how small. And only do things that she actually appreciates from you; if you do something, and it's clearly unappreciated, stop doing it. Let your own ego out of the equation: love is not about you. It's not about getting something. Love is about two things only: restraining yourself from causing harm, and doing welcome kindness.

When do you walk away? When do you stop caring? When do you give up? When do you stop loving someone? I fucked up. There is no question to that. But that never stopped me from loving her. I just never knew how to deal with that love, and the fear that has been programmed into my life of letting someone love you.

You walk away when you are asked to, and you come back when you are asked to, if you still want to. You also walk away if you think that staying is hurting the person you love, even if you are asked not to. If you love someone, you act in their interest. If you aren't acting in their interest, what you feel for them isn't love.

Devastated. We broke up last night. 3 yrs and everything we went through and it's over. It's a lot of my fault. I did things and said things I shouldn't have. I love her more anything and it sucks I wish I could take those things back but I can't. And now I pay for that.

The nuances and memories. The new and the old.
When nothing else matters, where do you go?

My aggressive and abrasive nature is not appreciated by most people. It came to a head again. I didn't fight anyone but My boss is transferring me out of the store. Sucks the one dude I got along with was an ex-Naval Special Warfare dude. We got... Read More

There are intrinsic qualities that great men and women have. These are qualities I think we all share yet most of us fail to realize in ourselves. Among these qualities are patience and determination. These are in fact key to success. Patience comes in to play when things start slowly or you experience set backs, which also requires determination. Without these to qualities, we would... Read More