As Fedotowsky, her husband Kevin Manno, daughter Molly and baby Riley adjust to life as a family of four, the reality star shared her thoughts on her postpartum life — specifically how different her recovery has been this time.

“I went back and forth on whether or not I wanted to write about this topic,” Fedotowsky wrote on her blog. “I finally decided to write about it because it’s an important topic to be open about, but I didn’t want you guys to think that I believe losing weight quickly after childbirth is something that should happen. Because I don’t think that at all.”

Although celebrities have been quick to share a message of acceptance and patience for their post-baby bodies, Fedotowsky stands out. Although she does encourage her followers and fans to be patient, she has a refreshing admission that many moms can relate to.

Fedotowsky shared this photo of her stomach 10 days postpartum. Image via AliLuvs.com

“I guess I’ve just been surprised at how I look after giving birth to Riley because my body has reacted so differently than when I gave birth to Molly. And what is even more bizarre to me is that I thought I looked WAY skinnier when I was pregnant than I do now,” she wrote. “And here I am 10 days after giving birth and still looking five months pregnant. I guess I’m just surprised by it all.”

Fedotowsky said that she gained 45 lbs during her second pregnancy, and weighed herself before and after giving birth.

“I got home from the hospital I got on the scale just because I was so curious how much weight I would instantly drop after giving birth,” she wrote. “Well I went into the hospital at 185 lbs and when I got home from delivering an almost 9 lb baby, I was still 179 lbs! I couldn’t believe my eyes! After delivering Riley at almost 9 lbs, plus a placenta and all the extra amniotic fluid I was carrying, how did I only lose 6 lbs?”

Ali Fedotowsky gave birth to her second child, a son named Riley, on May 24th. Image via AliLuvs.com

While doctors suggest an immediate weight loss of approximately 10 lbs, like Fedotowsky writes, “Everyone and every body is different.”

After giving birth to her daughter, the star said her stomach was “80 per cet back to normal” within a week. At 19 days postpartum Fedotowsky said she has lost half of her baby weight, but is trying to manage her expectations vs. the reality of her body after having her second baby. During a recent shopping trip, she admitted that she was “pretty defeated” when she couldn’t find anything that fit.

Despite the reflex to feel disappointed in her body, Fedotowsky is able to see the bigger picture and focus on what is important.

“I think what is keeping me positive even when I start to get down on myself it my beautiful son,” she wrote. “I look at him and know that would carry this weight for the rest of my life if it’s what needed to happen for me to get to have him in my life.”

The pressure to “bounce back” after having a baby can be overwhelming for some women – especially for those like Fedotowsky who navigate their life and career in the public eye.

With half of her baby weight gone, the mother of two is doing her best to remind herself to be kind and patient to her body.

“I still have 20 lbs to loose to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I am in no rush to get there, I know it will take time and I’m giving myself the time and grace to get there when it’s right for me,” Fedotowsky shared. “So if any of you out there just had a baby and are feeling the same way, I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone.”