I remember when he would cook this chicken dish long ago. He’d smear on the seasoning, shove a Budweiser can up the carcass, and (voila!) redneck gourmet.

Pecan smoke during my childhood was always accompanied by stories. I’m talking big tales told by men with gray hair who held sweaty cans and wore jeans during the summer.

It would’ve been blasphemy to sit before a fire pit without stories.

So I need a story to go with this pecan smoke. After all, it’s part of my ancestry. Let’s see here…

I’ll tell you about this sleeping woman.

Our first phone conversation lasted nearly two hours. We were strangers then.

That night on the phone, I hardly spoke. She used enough words for both of us. I did, however, manage to ask her to be my plus-one at a friend’s wedding in Birmingham. She agreed.

The next Friday, I wore khakis and a necktie. My mother remarked that she’d never seen me wear a necktie of my own volition.

I used cologne, too.

The cologne had been my father’s. The irony here is that my father was not a cologne man. Still, on my twelfth birthday, he gave me a bottle of French toilet water. For years, I wondered why he did this—since we weren’t toilet-water people.

So this girl showed up at my apartment, driving her mother’s green Oldsmobile. She was wearing a black dress.

She sniffed the air, then coughed. “You smell like you…” she said.

“Thanks,” I said.

“I can’t breathe,” she said.

“It’s French.”

We rode four hours toward Magic City with the windows down.

The wedding ceremony was in a big, old, tall, scary-looking church. When the preacherman said, “kiss the bride,” I heard sniffing from the girl beside me. I started sniffing, too.

Weddings do that to me.

The reception was at a fancy restaurant. They barely served enough finger food to say grace over. The DJ played ear-splitting music, everyone shook their hindparts in rhythm. Everyone except me.

I don’t dance. I wish I could, but I was raised Southern Baptist. My dancing muscles are underdeveloped. When I try to dance, I look like the lovechild of Barney Fife and Eleanor Roosevelt.

The girl and I snuck away from the party early. We found a Mexican restaurant nearby. We sat on a patio. We talked. This girl knows how to talk.

Give her ten minutes and she could make pleasant conversation with an IRS agent.

After our meal, I drove us home. She fell asleep in the passenger seat. Her head rested against the window. She held my hand. And I felt invincible.

I rode I-65 in a dumb daze. Now and then, I’d glance at her, sleeping.

Love didn’t happen the way I thought it would. I thought it would be fireworks and nuclear explosions. It was more like watching ten acres of daisies bloom on a hillside. It was gentle and easy.

I asked that girl to marry me. Mercifully, she agreed. We’ve been married for fifteen years. She has made me who I am. Without her, you wouldn’t be reading this. Without her, I wouldn’t be writing at all.

I still can’t dance worth a cuss, and I don’t touch cologne.

Sometimes I wish I had more to give this woman than a trailer home, a dog, and barbecued beer-can chicken.

“Love didn’t happen the way I thought it would. I thought it would be fireworks and nuclear explosions. It was more like watching ten acres of daisies bloom on a hillside. It was gentle and easy.” – – – Now I know why I like your writing so much. You have put into words what I have been trying to say for fifty-four years.

That made me smile and made my heart puff up. I have a single son (age 31), and I hope and pray he finds someone as you did….I so want him to feel the feeling you described. Thank you for sharing that beautiful love story.

I suspect you’ve figured out by now that it’s not about how fancy your home is or how much material stuff you have, it’s about that daisy blooming, deep abiding love. It’s about that puppy on her lap in the car and sharing the death of a very loved bloodhound. Bless you both.

You don’t know me well enough to trust me (we did meet that one time in Montgomery when you spoke), but trust me when I say this- You and Jaime are perfect for each other and she doesn’t love you for what you give her (except for love). It’s funny how we wish we could give more to those we love and the truth is none of that matters. She loves you for who you are and what kind of person you are. You are one sensitive, special person- and not just to Jaime! I am glad she made you what you are because, without her doing that, I wouldn’t have you to cheer me and make me cry and smile and all every day! Love you, Sean

Sean, this is beautiful. You and Jamie are so lucky to share such a blessed love. Love isn’t things, it’s a feeling deep inside. It’s the warmth and trust between you. Add one Thelma Lou, and you’ve got it all. You have an awesome day, hugs, Edna B.

Okay, I’ve fallen out of my chair laughing TWICE in this piece…love child of Barney Fife and Eleanor Roosevelt. Help us all. I needed to laugh and to smile and to be in awe of this love letter to Jamie. Thank you for sharing these glimpses of you and your love for your wife.
Keep writing. We need you.

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Sean Dietrich

Sean Dietrich is a columnist, and novelist, known for his commentary on life in the American South. His work has appeared in Southern Living, The Tallahassee Democrat, Good Grit, South Magazine, Alabama Living, the Birmingham News, Thom Magazine, The Mobile Press Register, and he has authored seven books.