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why is it in your profile you state you have blond hair. or brown hair or black hair and you have a picture posted of yourself and your hair is, if not totally grey a good part of it grey.don't you think we woman can see!!!!!lol do you think we are coloured blind.....

when someone does the comb-over...you don't think they think they are fooling us.Delusional absolutely but people do live in their own make believe land.If their ego won't accept aging or realities of something about their looks they will deny it and believe we don't see it.Just my two cents.

If they give me a penny for my thoughts and I give them my two cents they are up a penny.But I still haven't given them my thoughts so depends[and I don't mean the diaper style things]if they are still wanting my thoughts or my two cents.My head hurts can we stop this?

I agree on the hair thing. Tell the truth after all if you are going to meet that person they will see it. Even the ones they post there photos of 20 years ago. Helloooooooyou think they wont notic the diffrence?

On the other hand why is it that most ladies say they are looking for a good man when what they really want is a good looking man... LOL

What did I get myself into here. LOL a penny two cents how about 2 bits..

true for some women but I think most woman are looking for a good man but obviously there must be attraction and that is not necessarily needing the guy to be good looking...attraction is a complicated thing no?

I think you hit the nail on the head ( janedoe16) COMPLICATION but why does it have to be like that???I met a few ladies on here and went out with them only to find that the photo they had on the site was not what they look like today. LOLI am on the heavy side and thats the first thing I tell them before meeting after all unless she is blind LOL she is bound to see it...

why does it have to be a complication? ....you never talked with a lady that was kind, intelligent,....but in your mind thought why can't I be attracted to her ?Maybe it was simply because she had a annoying laugh, a gruff voice, ate like she came from the zoo,maybe just that mole on her nose with a long black hair growing out of it.Whatever the reason this "thing or "things" about the other person that you find unappealing add 10 or 20 years of having to deal with it and then you will realize why it's complicated.Why men date a brain dead woman that is gorgeous?When their friends hear her talk and look at him like where was she when brains were given out?They all know ya but look at her .Then think lucky guy.But most woman[I know not all but much more then men].Will do the reverse a very attractive woman will date a unattractive man and when her friends look at her wondering which monkey at the zoo he is related to?she says ya but he is so intelligent, kind......Basically way more woman dismiss the physical looks if the character of the guy is worth it but not many men consider that when dating.Therefore being witness to this injustice maybe...just maybe more women are insisting men higher the bar for themselves saying if I gained 40 pounds no one would look at me so I want a stud.

is it in the same line as women using colorant for their hair?Or like the one who contacted me last week: profile says 39...bones, cartilage and skin movement indicate +50!Or the usual Minus 5-10-15 and in some case 30 pound LESS that most women (it seams) post on their profile versus reality?What about silicon and botox...ROFL!

Yeah, we can go on years on that. I always say to all: "you are shooting yourself in the foot if you "mislabel" yourself", but Ok a little variation can happen, photos are not always a good reflection and there is weeks we are more active then others....

Been apx 10 years on this site: Not a SINGLE time, not ONCE did I had a pleasant surprise (better then advertised) and I can count on ONE hand the times when they where the SAME as they advertised.

OP: I believe guys do this to state the color of their hair before turning grey. No harm done if you actually see the pic.

But if they would say 'black hair' , show you pics of them with black hair, and show up to meet you with a full head of white hair...well then yes, it's a problem. And it does happen all the time with men and women. Old pics are usually to blame.

In my case, there is no way to describe my hair colour/style with the choices listed. I have "some" grey hair, but mostly brown hair, I'm not bald but thinning in certain areas, and I keep it short. If you can find a description other than "mixed color," then I'd like to see it. Mixed color would also describe someone who has a ton of hair and has added blue streaks! It would take exactly four seconds to add choices to the drop-down menu in the 'edit profile' section, but then, look at how long it is taking to put a forums link on the main page or fix the spelling mistakes prevalent on this site. It's not a lying issue, it's a limited choice issue. Who cares anyhow, I'll talk about it in my profile, or tell her about it when we chat. Besides, ever hear of 'Just for Men'. Makes a wonderful gift idea.

Well its because the men who do this are trying to make themselves better than what they are. Mostly because people on this sight or superficial. This whole sight is set up that way. If a hidious looking person puts a pic of themselves in their profile, how many people are going to click it? As apposed to a sexy pic of sombody else?

This sight defies logic, mostly because if your good looking, smart, witty, funny, chances are you arn't single and on here. And thats what everybody apparently wants.

Its the same reason half the women on here take a downward angle face shot, a so they show off their clevage making it look bigger than it really is, and b so they look really skinny, when in reality they are over weight. Of course, they put average body type, or athletic, or my favorite is prefer not to say.... Because the woman with the six pack abs that has been working out super hard to get, isn't going to boast about it....

In short, its all about deception, lying, and missleading people on this sight. Its the cold hard truth. Everyone does it, its human nature to want to put your best foot forward and make a good first impression. I hope that answered yourquestion..

Who said "evil" ? YOU did: <div class="quote">Guys... do you think we are coloured blind....just curious as to why you do this.

so not only generalizing the gender (is the use of "SOME guys" been banned or something?), but by stating that this way, you imply voluntary deception and lie from the person who did.

Now, to reverse your question, if a woman has some grey hairs but dyes them, what color should she put on her own profile? grey? other? "temporary" "partial" ? will that be considered, if using the same standards applied to men, as deceptive and lies?

I see where you come from. from a full black set of hair to be completely grey (or bald) is a whole matter, and I agree with you wholeheartedly; and that it is a minority (some and not all) who does that.

Pomolive, you might not remember me, but I do remember you... and this means what??????/ your point being??????

I know of you yes your ID is almost the same as it used to be.but what does it have to do with this post??

Since I see only men's profiles and pictures I was addressing them.......I'm sure women dye their hair and say what ever colour it is,,,,,,,,.but that wasn't my point..... on a profile in the catagory hair colour they say black,,,,,,,,but in their picture it shows grey.......why do that.the pict.shows it grey then say "haircolour' grey......or whatever colour it is not what colour it used to be.......

I'm just wondering why people have the need to refer to other people as ugly in the general sense. What may be unattractive to you is attractive to another - physically I don't think people can be labelled as ugly or attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But I do think that somebody can be ugly in their nature of being. Like purposely going out of their way to insult someone on the way they look when most of the time it can't be helped. Way to contribute to low self-esteem!

As far as the physical attribute debate; I put on my profile that I am a few pounds over weight because I in no way consider myself to be obese. I do however stipulate in my profile that a few pounds does not equal small girl with cute belly. So I am honest, why? Because why would I want to date someone who is not attracted to my body type? First off it would never get passed the first date if I misled anyone and second off it's a waste of everyones time. There are men out there that don't mind a chubby girl and I personally think I have a great personality and I don't find that I am "ugly" so why would I attempt to false advertise my goods? The problem isn't that men who don't find me attractive are shallow, the problem is that I would have absolutely no self-respect for myself or respect for those men if I wasn't honest about who I am.

As far as the hair issue is concerned...who cares. My hair color changes everytime I go to the hairdresser. Possibly the pics were taken after the "just for men" application and you caught him on his off week. Does anyone complain about the "beautiful" movie stars and rock stars out there that are airbrushed in magazines and plastered with make-up? No, It's just us down to earth folk that are the most critical of each other - trying to live up to expectations of people that personally don't give a damn and forgot you even existed the second their eyes skimmed your profile pic.

Have respect for yourself and others. Stop with the labels of this person is ugly and this person is hot. Ever heard the song "She aint pretty she just looks that way..."....