A second honeymoon can never be like the first

April 28, 2014

It's a real "togetherness" treat for many couples to go away alone together, without the children, without their friends - a chance to concentrate on nothing but each other. No wonder such a vacation is often called a "second honeymoon."

Sometimes a couple planning this special togetherness will try to make it a recreation of the original honeymoon, returning to the same resort, even asking for the same accomodations they had the first time. This can be a trap leading to real disappointment.

Trying to make a honeymoon out of a vacation together is a little like trying to be young again: it really doesn't work, and the attempt can feel dishonest.

The couple has matured and experienced more of life; they relate to each other in new and varied ways. A second honeymoon can never be just like the first one - but it can be a whole lot better.

Presented as a community service by the Rev.Warren Watts, Tri-County Pastoral Counseling Service, Martinsburg.