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If you are in danger, please use a safer computer, or call 911, a local hotline, or the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and TTY 1-800-787-3224. Learn more technology safety tips.

It takes just as much courage to admit being abusive as it does to admit being abused. Once the problem is identified, you might believe you can fix it or that it will go away on its own. It won't.

You can change over time with help. It is not easy, and you must want to change. For batterers, the most successful programs appear to be certified batterers programs. Through group dynamics, these programs can help batterers:

Work at negotiating win/win agreements

Learn to deal with insecurities and fears

Learn to control feelings, not people

Reduce isolation and provide friendship with people who also want to change