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Sydney Bondage MassageFri, 30 Nov 2018 14:00:16 +0000en-AUhourly160507952Exploring Taboo to Deepen Self-Love and Connectionhttps://bondassagebliss.com/2018/12/exploring-taboo-to-deepen-self-love-and-connection/
Fri, 30 Nov 2018 14:00:16 +0000https://bondassagebliss.com/?p=1277[...]]]>So, we’ve touched upon this before, but it deserves a little reminder.Have you ever imagined being tied up while your lover teases you to the very edge of ecstasy and beyond?Thought of a delightfully firm smack on the ass between sexy stimulation?Maybe you’d like to be on the giving end, tying your lover and edging them until they can’t think straight.A little bit of bondage, a blindfold, some sensory play.Maybe you’d like to go even further, indulging forbidden desires that have crept through the very edge of your thoughts, but never been allowed to express themselves?

The thing is, if we’re really honest, every single person in the world has these taboo thoughts.They are a part of who we are.Completely natural and, believe it or not, as healthy as can be.We’re built to get a little wild, to play the edge and tap into a bit of deliciousness.Or some overwhelming waves of sensation.We all want to go to some delightfully kinky places.It’s not a matter of depravity.Just the opposite, really.It’s real, and vital, and some of the juiciest play you can let yourself experience.

Letting ourselves explore the taboo is all about acceptance.Instead of denying our desires, we honour them.We own our feelings and our naughty thoughts and bring them into the light.In the process, we create space to explore new territory with our lover.If things have been a bit stale, tapping into your taboo desires can shake things up and bring in a touch of spice.If you’ve had the most amazing lovemaking you’ve ever experienced, then stepping up the kink can take things to places you couldn’t even imagine.

The truth is that we all want to go there.Suppressing these desires means holding a part of ourselves back.And, the same part that we’re holding back is that aspect of ourselves that becomes lost in passion, that abandons itself to the wild throes of intimate connection.Listening to these taboo thoughts means accepting ourselves, maybe on a deeper level than we ever have before.It’s a way of tapping in to our full aliveness.And that’s priceless.

The beautiful thing about this is that in accepting ourselves, we come to a deeper acceptance of our lover.More than that, we invite more excitement and delight into our relationship.Some taboo talk and play can turn a stagnant relationship into a juicy exploration of boundaries and desire.Some kinky play can turn even the most vanilla of connections into the most amazing sexiness you’ve ever experienced.

So, what is it that you really want?What secret desires have been hiding behind that veneer of the good little girl or the polite little boy?Isn’t it time to let them out?

For the coming holiday season, I encourage you to give yourself the best gift you could ever receive, the depth of sensuality that you have always deserved.Just ask yourself, how much better can it get?And then open the door to find out.

Sensually yours,

Taranga

]]>1277A Look behind the Curtainhttps://bondassagebliss.com/2018/11/a-look-behind-the-curtain/
Sat, 03 Nov 2018 05:40:16 +0000https://bondassagebliss.com/?p=1261[...]]]>We’re coming close to the end of the year, and I’ve been reflecting on all the changes that the year has brought.So, I decided to do something a little different with this article and give you all a peek into the inner workings of my business.

I’m blessed to be able to do work that I love.You all know how much I value touch.It helps us to get into our bodies, to unlock feeling and step into our deepest pleasure.And, as a practitioner, that’s what I want to spend my time on, touching bodies and making others feel great.But, to keep that going there are lots of little details behind the scenes that have to be addressed, just like with any business.

To make my services available to you and all of my clients, one of the biggest keys is the website.And, with a website comes SEO upkeep, regular blogs and fresh content.The photos have to be changed to keep things current, content changes to reflect current deals and events.You may know already about my two websites, bondassagebliss.com and blissrising.com.I’m excited to share that I’ve just launched a new site, ladiesandhens.com.au, to showcase my lingam massage Hens Parties and other events.Part of the excitement comes from finally seeing it come together after putting a massive amount of work into it.And, the work is just beginning, as this means three websites to maintain instead of two.

So, moving on to the other little details, keeping up with the scheduling means that the emails are coming in pretty steadily and the phone is none-stop at times.And the social media side of things requires a bit of attention: Facebook, Twitter, Google Plus.None of these do any good without keeping a regular presence.Add to that printing up cards and getting them out there, doing advertising, writing and sending newsletters.Branding a new business model, taking new photos and uploading the images.It seems like as soon as one thing’s been taken care of, there’s another that needs attention.

So, this was just a quick blog to let you know about some of the stuff that happens behind the scenes.I’m always changing, creating content to educate and inform, and exploring new ways to make the healing power of touch available to you all.Since I am addressing the business side of things, this is a perfect time to remind you of some of my services.If you’re on the lookout for bondage, BDSM, or kinky massage in Sydney, I’ve got you covered.Reach out if you have any questions or you’d like to book an appointment.

It’s taken some time for my building to grow to this point, and even though it requires some upkeep, it’s a huge blessing.I’m grateful to all of you that I work with now and over the years.I want to thank you for sharing in this journey with me.

In love and light

Taranga

]]>1261Sexuality: Breaking the age limithttps://bondassagebliss.com/2018/09/sexuality-breaking-the-age-limit/
Mon, 03 Sep 2018 02:58:09 +0000https://bondassagebliss.com/?p=1236[...]]]>There seems to be this unwritten assumption that as we get older, it’s time to stop being sexual or sensual.That we should put our sensual selves and desire nature on the shelf and start acting like “mature older adults”.What a load of crap!

Maybe you’ve been married for a long time, and things have gotten a bit stale, so the spicier and more intimate parts of the connection have been left by the wayside.Maybe you’re older and single, and so you’ve come to think that your time should be spent playing bridge and doing needlework.Nothing could be further from the truth.

For a little inspiration, have a peek at this:

This is the trailer for a movie called Book Club.It follows the experience of four vital, sexy women in their older years rediscovering their sexuality by reading 50 Shades of Grey and seeing where it takes them, in conversations with one another and in their personal lives.It’s exciting and juicy, and a perfect example of how we can all continue to blossom into our steamy sexual selves, regardless of our calendar age.

Our orgasmic nature is part of who we are, all through our lives.It never just goes away.No matter how many candles are on our cake, we can learn some new tricks at any age.If you’ve let your imagination go stale, you can always pick it back up and breathe new life into it.

Maybe it’s time to explore some new sexual techniques.Maybe you’d like to make time for an erotic massage or bring a little spanking into the bedroom.Or perhaps a blindfold and some delicious sense play.A bit of light restraint to bring some novelty into the connection and get the juices flowing.What have you ben fantasising about?Or what would you like to fantasise about if you let yourself go there?

If you’ve been in a long marriage, bringing in some more play strengthens the connection and keeps things fun.And you deserve that.If you’ve been single and thought you had to give up on the idea of steamy, sexy play, it’s time to let go of that silly thought and let yourself be the full orgasmic you that you have been for your entire life.

Our sexual energy doesn’t have to fade as we get older.In fact, sex can be even better!We find ourselves in a place where we can be more adventurous and liberated.We have been around long enough to know what we like and what we want to explore.Sex in our later years can be even more delicious as we let go of some expectations, slow down, and really savor the experience.Or let ourselves go all those naughty places that we might have been too shy to play with in years before.When it comes right down to it, our twilight years can be some of the most sensual we have ever experienced.

So, if this strikes a chord in you, maybe it’s time to rediscover your inner Miss Steele or Mr. Grey.Maybe it’s time to have a little spank or a tie up.Maybe it’s time to read some sensual literature to get the imagination going or get your honey (or a new flame!) to spend some time glorying in your body with a sensual massage.Have some fun and treasure your pleasure!

Whether you’ve explored that kinky, edgy side of your sexuality or not, it’s there. We all have it. Those hidden desires, those spicy little fantasies. Some curiosity or interest that we might never even talk about. A little ripple of excitement at the thought of a blindfolded sensual encounter, of tying your partner and torturing them with delight, or being tied up to receive some sensual attention.

Whether our love life has been adventurous or “vanilla”, we all share a subtle pull to the taboo side of lovemaking. Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, a little spice of pain to enhance the pleasure. BDSM is a part of sexuality, and it always has been. For centuries, it has been practised in the dark, stigmatised, hidden due to judgment and misunderstanding. Only now is it beginning to come into the light and find more widespread acceptance. And, as it does, we’re beginning to understand that BDSM is a key to deep healing, transformation, and a level of excitement that’s hard to find outside of clandestine encounters.

But why is this? What is it about bondage and discipline that makes it so exciting? What is it about dominance and submission that helps us to heal, to find new heights of confidence and bliss?

Part of the answer is self-exploration. When we hide from ourselves, judge ourselves, when we don’t allow our curiosity to flower, then we’re actually cutting ourselves off from some of the depth we can experience. Giving yourself permission to share and play out your fantasies means keeping your love life vital and juicy. This is only the beginning, though. Exploring the shadow side of our sexuality helps us to connect with something deep, powerful, and intense within us. And it helps us to bring this confidence and power into every aspect of our lives.

Here are some of the keys that we unlock with BDSM, and with any deep self-exploration:

1. Surrender

Surrender is powerful. It might not seem so at first. Especially in a society that values control, it might be completely counterintuitive to think of surrender as a strength. But the thing is that we can’t control everything. And it’s exhausting to try. We can’t control the curveballs that the world throws us. We can’t ensure that other people see us in a certain way, or think about us in a certain way. We can’t even suppress and hide all of those things about ourselves that we have yet to accept. Surrender means coming to terms with that.

BDSM is a key for true surrender, in a way that goes to the core of our being. When we work to maintain control, to try to make things happen instead of allowing them to happen, we actually block out some of the most exquisite sensations. We stay in the head instead of getting present and embodied. BDSM, especially in a loving and consensual environment, gives us an opportunity to surrender. And, when we do, we find a place of delicious sensation and juicy excitement. We are finally able to drop the image, the expectations, all the ways we try to control, and just feel what there is to feel. And this stays with us even after our play, helping us to ease into life from a place of allowing.

2. Trust

Trust is huge. It can be a challenge to trust others. Sometimes, it can be a challenge to trust ourselves. But from a space of distrust, suspicion, and guardedness, we close off to the world, and close off to our feelings. Exploring your taboo desires means taking a leap and trusting your partner. Communicating with them about what you would like to experience. Sharing those fantasies that you might never have mentioned to anyone before. That means being really vulnerable, and it can be scary. What if they are turned off by my fantasy? What if they don’t like it or they judge me for it? There’s no way to feel comfortable about these taboo desires until we start to share them. And then, more often than not, we find that our partner is just as curious, ready to explore some new territory and excited about where it could lead.

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Bringing it into the relationship and into the bedroom can keep things really spicy. And, once again, as we learn to share and allow ourselves to be seen, as our partner shows us that we can trust them, that we can share without fear of judgment, we learn to treat ourselves the same way. This allows us to step out into the world with greater confidence, knowing what we want, and knowing that it’s more than ok to want it. It’s not only natural, our desires are thrilling and powerful.

3. Patience and Presence

How often do you find yourself rushing through one thing, only to move on and rush through the next? And if you feel this way, you’re not alone. So many of us are so caught up in the next thing that we can’t fully enjoy what we’re doing right now. This plays out in sex as well, and it’s a shame. Because our sexual sharing can be the most exquisite, intimate aspect of human experience, and often it’s reduced to just going through the motions.

Part of the reason behind this is expectation and performance. Somewhere along the way, many of us pick up some ideas about what sex should be. What needs to happen during the experience. How we need to perform in order to “measure up”. And, with all these thoughts rolling around, it’s hard to feel ourselves and our partner. Only a fraction of our being is really there.

BDSM helps to break out of the expectations and explore completely new territory. It helps us to slow down and savour the experience, to soak up the sensation and let it lead us where it wants. There’s no headlong rush to orgasm, but a slow build of excitement and feeling. There’s no script. The possibilities are limited only by your imagination.

The beautiful thing about this is that it teaches us to slow down and really feel where we are. Think about it. How beautiful life could be if we really tasted that cup of coffee. If we were able to feel the sun on our skin and soak in the deliciousness of it. We are surrounded by exquisiteness in every moment, full of orgasmic potential. BDSM helps us to slow down and really tune in to what we are experiencing.

Letting yourself explore means embracing yourself as a whole. Accepting yourself, and connecting with levels of confidence, power, and sensuality that you may never have suspected. So what fantasies have been rolling around for you? What taboo desires have been hiding, unvoiced within you? Take a leap. Share what you really want, and see where things go from there.

Bondage has been part of the sex life for people all across the world for hundreds of years. But for many, it has been considered taboo, kept behind closed doors and spoken of only in a whisper. Thankfully, that has been changing over the last few years. Odds are, if you haven’t gotten a bit kinky in the bedroom, you have in your fantasies. If it’s time to bring these fantasies to life – and into the light – here are a few things you need to know.

Unless you have experience in the world of BDSM, it’s easy to have some misconceptions about it. On the surface, bondage is exactly what it sounds like: the use of ties, bindings, or restraints to enhance the sexual experience. But it really goes much deeper than that.

Handcuffs and blindfolds come into the scene often, but the core of bondage is trust. It’s about surrendering to your partner, or having them surrender to you. In the process, we are able to let go, become totally absorbed in the sensation, and allow ourselves to be held in a luscious sensual space. On top of that, bondage is a light entry to BDSM, helping us to explore our taboo fantasies and push our boundaries, and to make some really exciting discoveries in the process.

So, when it comes time to spice up your love life with a little kink, here are a few easy tips to get you started:

1. Talk About It

Sometimes, this is the hardest part. If you and your lover have been having vanilla sex over the course of your relationship, you may feel nervous broaching the subject. One way to ease into it is to plant a seed. You may want to bring in some erotic fiction or a sexy film. This can get the idea floating around, and maybe even change your lover’s perspective.

From there, you can start to share some of your fantasies, and open the floor for your partner to share theirs. Explore what turns your partner on – and off. See where they’ve been going in their taboo daydreams. They may surprise you. Plus, even if you never choose to go there physically, it’s incredibly hot to go into some of the exciting things you can explore together in the bedroom. This conversation alone can lead to some steamy sensual time.

2. Trust is Key

I know, I mentioned this above. But remember, bondage is about surrender. And you want to make sure that you trust the person that you relinquish your power to. So, this may not be best to explore with that new Tinder date or the person you’ve just met. Make sure you feel comfortable and safe with them. When shared between consensual adults on a foundation of loving, conscious communication, bondage can be both thrilling and deeply healing.

3. Go Slow at First

Here’s where a common misconception comes in. For those who haven’t explored BDSM, it may conjure images of whips and chains, intense fetish play, gags and blindfolds. And, though you may wish to explore this all in time, it can be a bit overwhelming all at once. The truth is, there is an entire spectrum of bondage play, from simply holding the arms down during sex to some of the wildest and most out there fantasies you can imagine – and probably some you can’t! And light bondage play can be just as exciting as the more intense stuff, especially at first.

Basically, you want to meet where both you and your lover are comfortable, not jump off into the deep end before you’re ready. So, start with simple things. A blindfold is a nice start, and it’s a great way for you or your partner to tune out the visuals and just focus on sensation. Plus, they’re non-intimidating, and can help your partner to feel comfortable with this new sexual exploration. And you don’t need a store-bought blindfold for this; a silk scarf, tie, or pair of tights will work just as well.

When it’s time to move into more official bondage territory, light restraints are an excellent starting point. Practice your knots beforehand so that you know how to untie them easily and quickly. You may even want to work with Velcro or easy- release clips. And avoid things like ties or nylons for restraints. Ties can tighten into difficult to remove knots, and because of the stretch factor, nylons can become uncomfortably tight under pressure. As you explore with your lover, each of you will have new inspirations come in, so you can follow the flow to take your journey from there.

4. Communication is Essential!

The talking doesn’t stop once the play begins. In fact, this is one of the most exciting things about exploring BDSM with your partner. It can get you both talking, sharing about how you feel in the moment, about what you want to feel.
If you’re in the dominant position, check in with your partner. And, if you’re in the submissive position, share how it feels. Is it what you want? Are you coming closer to a boundary that you aren’t ready to cross? Speak up!

Since this is a mutual exploration, there may be things that you don’t know you like until you move into that territory. That’s why, in BDSM, there are soft and hard limits. Soft limits are those areas that we may be hesitant about, but are willing to try if the mood takes us there. Hard limits are absolute “no’s” where to go there is a violation of trust. Remember SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

One of the most important aspects for BDSM is a safe word. This is a word or phrase that you and your lover have agreed upon that signals a “stop!” to the action, whatever that might be in the moment. The more outlandish, the better, so long as it’s a word or phrase that you will both remember and recognise immediately. One common approach for beginners is the traffic light system. Green for “Oh my God, keep going!”, Yellow for “Slow down, take it easy I’m nearing a hard limit”, and Red for “STOP”.

5. Who’s in Charge?

When entering into bondage play, one person is the dominant partner, and the other is the submissive one. One holds the reins, and the other surrenders. But it doesn’t have to be the same person each time. And honestly, before you begin to explore how you feel in each role, you won’t know what you really like.

The best way is to feel into it, to sample each role and see where it takes you. Plus, you may find that you – or your lover – may prefer to be a dom on one day and a sub on the next. There’s no rule that says you always have to take the same role. Again, it’s all about communication, and exploring what turns you both on.

These are just a few tips to get you started. Once you do, you’ll find that the mood will take you into places you both enjoy, and this is part of the beauty of the journey. It’s an exploration and a mutual discovery.

Final tip: Keep it simple at first. You don’t need loads of expensive toys to begin your play – though they can be heaps of fun once you hit your stride. At first, you can just get creative with what you have around the house – ice cubes, feathers, chop sticks, a hairbrush. You’ll be amazed at all the sensations you can bring into your play once you get inspired. Have fun and get excited!

In love and light,

Taranga

]]>1210A time to rememberhttps://bondassagebliss.com/2018/03/a-time-to-remember/
Wed, 28 Feb 2018 22:22:22 +0000https://bondassagebliss.com/?p=1198[...]]]>I love to live my life as a continual opening, a progressive expansion. This means pushing the boundaries, feeling out my edges and pushing past them when it feels right. Recently, I moved past one of my edges in a really beautiful way, and I’d love to share it with you.

One thing I’ve been wanting to do for some time is to have a date with an escort. I hold space for so many clients, offering sensual healing touch and helping them to move into their vulnerability. But it’s rare for me to open up and allow someone else to hold this space for me. And we all need it. No matter where we are on our journey or how wide our hearts have been cracked open.

So, after having had the thought roll through so many times, years, really, I finally did it. I paid for sex. But not just sex. Even on a personal level, the experience offered so much more. Intimacy. Connection. Being seen. Being met and held. I am so used to holding space for others that this was a real journey for me. It has helped me to understand my clients better, how they feel when they come to me, the journey that leads them to my door and my session room.

One beautiful realisation is that the experience begins way before the actual meeting. For me, it began as soon as I really decided to find an escort and gift myself with a new experience. It’s easy to let hesitation get the better of us. I did it for years before deciding to take the plunge. And then, when I finally made the decision, it was as if a weight had been lifted off me. I was cracking open in a way I hadn’t realised I could. But making the decision was just the first step of the journey.

After I decided to go for it, I started looking around. I explored the sites to find an escort that really felt right. I looked for someone that I really resonated with, or thought I could resonate with, at least. And even then, I could feel some hesitation creeping back in. Did I really want to do this? How could I know that the pictures on the site were genuine? How could I find someone I could really connect with without meeting them in person?

In the end, I went with my gut. I found an escort that had a profile I really enjoyed, with pictures that inspired my curiosity. And I let it go from there. Surrender to the experience, let the chips fall where they may. That wasn’t the end of my hesitation, though. Really, it was just the beginning.

After I’d chosen a beautiful man to share an experience with, I started the process of booking a date. I sent an email, and one of the first things I noticed about the experience was the response time. I appreciated that the escort – let’s call him Jason – got back to me quickly and responded openly. Even before the session began, he was holding space. Creating a safe and comfortable container for the experience. After a few emails to feel him out, we made arrangements and set the date.

Aside from the personal experience, I chose to hire an escort so I could feel what it was like to switch roles. To be the client rather than the facilitator, and feel what my own clients feel when they come for a session with me. I feel that you only truly understand an experience when you feel it from the inside, and this has shown me so many subtle things about what my clients experience on their journey to my door.

In the days and hours leading up to Jason’s arrival, I had so many thoughts and feelings come up. I was nervous and excited. Self-conscious and with tendrils of self-doubt creeping in around the edges. Questions flitted through my mind. Would he like me? What sort of first impression would I make? Would we even be able to connect? It’s hard to know when you meet someone online. Another question I had was: how would he smell? Smell is big for me, a huge part of the process of attraction. And there’s just no way to gauge that before a personal meeting.

Catching myself in this spiral, I took a breath. Lit some incense. Did a few deep breathing exercises to ground and come back to centre, to drop the mind and get back into my body. When Jason arrived, I was ready to invite him into my home.

Upon his arrival, I relaxed a bit. I hadn’t even realised how tense I was. But he was young handsome, and fit. And he smelled nice. But, most of all, he was confident, relaxed, and present. We spoke for a while, talked and joked. Jason was witty and funny, honest and well-spoken. He had all the qualities of an outstanding escort, and I found myself really enjoying the encounter, even before the touch began. I appreciated that it felt personal, not like a job or a paid session. Genuine.

We moved into touch naturally. There was nothing rushed or awkward about it. And the touch was delicious. There were a few moments in the beginning where my facilitator side popped in, where I felt the urge to control and direct the experience. But I was able to catch myself, to step back and allow Jason to lead the experience. And this was another beautiful thing I noticed – it felt amazing to let go, to give the reins to someone else and let myself be taken on a sensual journey.

I could go on, but much of what follows was intimate and personal. It is mine, a gift to myself and a delightful indulgence. But I will say that my time with Jason has left me feeling sexy, confident, and alive. And I truly value the reversal of roles, seeing what it’s like for my clients when they choose to book a session with me and when we meet for the first time. And, after the rush of emotions that led up to the encounter, I’m left with even more tenderness for those clients who come to me feeling nervous. The journey was so much more than just a physical encounter.

Thank you for a wonderful, juicy experience, Jason. And thank you, to my readers and clients for receiving me in this space.

In love and light,

Taranga

]]>1198Self-pleasuring and healthy self-lovehttps://bondassagebliss.com/2018/01/self-pleasuring-and-healthy-self-love/
Mon, 01 Jan 2018 03:04:49 +0000http://bondassagebliss.com/?p=1188[...]]]>Regular self-pleasuring is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and our relationships. And all too often, there’s a stigma of shame and guilt around it. Society may have taught us that masturbation is immoral, or unhealthy. This programming is more than just wrong – it can be actively damaging to our relationships with ourselves and others.

Sex is healthy and beautiful. And masturbation is just as important as having sex with a partner. When we self-pleasure, we actually enhance our connection with our lover. By touching ourselves and making ourselves feel good, we learn our body, exploring what forms of touch really turn us on, how and where we like to be touched. Keeping the sexual juices flowing means that orgasms come more easily, and it keeps our body fit so that our orgasms can be stronger and more pleasurable.

Our sexuality is part of the deepest core of our being, and by cultivating a healthy sexual relationship with ourselves, we put ourselves in a space where our intimate times with a partner can be even more juicy and delicious. Self-pleasuring means that we are taking responsibility for our own sexual lives, making sure that our needs are met rather than depending upon a lover to feel fulfilled. One of the really beautiful things about this is that, when we do share with a lover, we come together from a space of true intimacy rather than need. From a desire to explore one another’s bodies, to share touch and intimacy and grow closer through the sharing.

With that in mind, let’s make it exciting! We can add colour, size, and variety into our lives by bringing in some juicy toys. There are so many to try, and each has its own feel, just as each style of touch elicits unique and delicious sensations. Plus, this is a very exciting time in the world of sex toys. We have access to fun and exquisite sensations that people of a couple of centuries ago would have drooled with anticipation over.

Did you know that the first vibrator was invented in the 1880s? These days, you can find one pretty much anywhere in the world, and you can enjoy it in the pleasure of your own bedroom. Or living room. Or kitchen. Or a bit beyond, if you’re feeling bold and kinky. But, back in the early days, the vibrator was patented as a medical instrument. It required an immense generator and was permanently installed in the doctor’s surgery. Now, that might offer a bit of excitement in itself, but consider the luxury we take for granted. We can experience delicious and intense sensations anywhere we want, and at the click of a button.

It doesn’t stop with vibrators, though. There are entire ranges of kinky toys and sex aids, and we each have the freedom to play. To explore the different forms of pleasure that ripple through our body as we explore exactly how we like to touch and be touched.

So, it’s a New Year. A time for new explorations. A time to step out of the rut and live a little. What would you like to feel? And what new toys make you excited just thinking about them? Why not let yourself play!

Love and light,

Taranga

]]>1188Ho Ho Ho! Time for a little reminder from your sexy Santa.https://bondassagebliss.com/2017/12/ho-ho-ho-time-for-a-little-reminder-from-your-sexy-santa/
Thu, 30 Nov 2017 23:44:22 +0000http://bondassagebliss.com/?p=1180[...]]]>How naughty have you been this year? Really, delightfully, unbelievably naughty? I sure hope so. And if not, why not? What are you waiting for?

Think back on all the delicious sexual adventures you have had this year. What’s been left unsaid, and what’s been left undone? Have you been left breathless, taken to the exquisite heights of pleasure? Have you explored your boundaries and pushed the ones that are there only because of fear and taboos? Have you explored intimacy and delight, taking them as far as they can go?

The time is now, boys and girls. Stuff those stockings with some daring, exciting toys. Set up the bedroom with candles and flowers, creating some space for a juicy adventure. Give yourself space to do whatever’s been welling up inside and make it happen. The year is ending, and you want to enter the next ready for a big and beautiful bang.

So, take a little time and take stock. What has the year held for you so far? And what would you like it to hold? What new experiences would you like to bring into your life? How you open now will set the tone for the next year, creating the energy that shapes the next year’s adventures. And if you haven’t made it on to the naughty list this year, then you’ll want to in the coming year. No questions asked.

As huge as this last year has been, the next promises to be even bigger. Ever more expansion, travel, and new horizons to explore. I can hardly wait. And I won’t have to for too much longer. The next year is right around the corner. I’d like to take this changing of the seasons as a time to remember why I’m here. What I really want, and how I can use the choices offered to me in each moment to move towards it. And I would like to invite each of you to do the same.

I’d like to wish everyone an indulgent holiday season. These are jolly times, and jolly means it’s time to bring more delight into your life in every moment. That’s what this season is really all about for those of us brave enough to explore our boundaries and push the limit. There’s nothing like a little bounding and bouncing to make this season all that it can be. And to follow it up, let’s all have the most glorious, delicious, and inspiring entry into the new year. After all, now is the time to be alive. It’s the only time we ever have.

So, without further ado, I give some holiday blessings to each and all. Get excited, get a bit sexy, and above all, make your way onto the naughty list. That’s where all the fun is. Sending a wink and a smile and a “Ho ho ho” to everyone.

How do you like your bush? Neatly trimmed? A triangle or a runway? Completely clean shaven? Or absent entirely? Have you ever thought about it?

So many young women and men feel pressured to remove their body hair. Modern media and the porn industry depict sexuality with hairlessness, but this wasn’t always the case.

Body hair is a symbol of maturity, of our capacity to make new life. Biologically, our body hair collects and releases pheromones, the chemicals that signal sexual readiness and evoke powerful responses in our partners. Our current obsession with the hairless vulva is a reflection of modern media and public opinion more than any real understanding of sexuality. And this isn’t a consideration for women alone. It’s currently come into vogue for men to remove all pubic hair as well. If you enjoy the feel of your body without hair, amazing. The biggest question is one of motivation. Are you grooming your body the way you like, or the way you will expect others to like it?

How do you enjoy your body? How do you like to feel? Is your regimen regarding body hair based upon what you want or what you feel others want of you? Do you shave, wax, or apply depilatories because you like to be free of hair, or do you do it because you feel that this is the way to be sexy, to be accepted by others?

When it comes down to it, personal grooming is a personal choice. It should be something you like. You have every right to groom yourself to fit the way that you like to feel. Anyone else’s opinions are secondary, if they even merit consideration at all.

Just to dispel some of the myths that have arisen around our personal grooming, the clean shaven vulva is neither sexier nor more hygienic than the glorious full bush. Both are beautiful, as is anything in between. The same applies to men. Removing our pubic hair can offer a sleek, smooth finish, but it also removes one of the most tangible signs of masculinity and virility. On a practical level, if we enjoy anal play, a bit of body scaping can clear the path. But practical concerns aside, our body hair is one of the most intimate aspects of our appearance. It is a reflection of our most personal choices, how we would like to maintain the sacred space of our bodies. And there is no one outside of ourselves who can tell us what is right for us.

When it comes right down to it, we are each looking for a person who can see us and love us for who we are. Without masks or games, without expectations or roles. And this extends to even the most personal aspects of how we present ourselves to one another and to the world. What we all want is a person who can see our beauty, regardless of cultural conditioning or societal expectations. And yet, the only way we can know we’ve found such a connection is to do what we love most, on every level, and see how our preferences are received.

So what do you prefer? If you love to shave or wax, amazing. Do what you feel. And yet, if you’re only going through these challenges to appease a man or fit in with some cultural image, have a bit of a think about it. One of the simplest and most eloquent ways for us to take our power back is to determine how we would like to treat and maintain our bodies. And anyone who is worth keeping around in our lives will both respect and love us for exactly what we like. What do you like?

]]>1167The erotic art of spanking: a beginner’s guide to the world of impact playhttps://bondassagebliss.com/2017/09/the-erotic-art-of-spanking-a-beginners-guide-to-the-world-of-impact-play/
Thu, 31 Aug 2017 15:00:24 +0000http://bondassagebliss.com/?p=1153[...]]]>Erotic spanking is one of the most natural ways to enter the world of BDSM. It’s a great way to bring a new sensation into an intimate experience, to introduce a bit of playful pain and heighten the experience of pleasure. And it’s easy. All you need is a hand and a buttock and you’re in business.

The ass is a delightful erogenous zone and a bit of playful spanking can leave your lover dripping with excitement. Spanking stimulates the nerve endings and increases the blood flow, sending waves of endorphins through the body. With a few light taps, you can vary the sensations of your sensual play and make every touch more exquisite. Here are all the tips you need to begin your sensual journey into impact play.

A Word on Safety

Before any impact play, it’s important to address safety issues. The first thing to remember is that all healthy sensual play is consensual. Talk about your limits beforehand and arrange safe words that you can use when things stray beyond your boundaries. The beautiful thing about this pre-play discussion is that it heightens the anticipation and can make anything that follows even more delicious. At, at the very least, it ensures that you have good communication so your needs and boundaries are honoured.

Pay special attention to where you’re spanking. The sweet spots are the meaty areas of the buttocks and upper thighs. Avoid the tailbone or higher up the back near the kidneys, as these areas might be injured with impact. You might want to practice your aim on a pillow or sofa to make sure your swats land where you want them to in the heat of the moment. And, if you’re using implements like canes or paddles, try them out on yourself first so you know the intensity firsthand.

One delightful tip is to consider the frequency of your strikes. Too many blows in one place or too quickly can be painful – and not in the good way. Try to keep at least three seconds between strikes and vary where they land. You want to keep things exciting rather than stray into the territory of discomfort.

If your play has left a few bruises, don’t be surprised. It happens from time to time. Just treat the area with ice for 20-30 minutes after the play is done. If you play with multiple partners, make sure to sanitise your implements thoroughly after play. Also, don’t overdo it. You don’t want to desensitise the butt or cause the skin to toughen.

The Warm-Up

With any sensual play it’s important to ease into things. You might be hot and ready just thinking about your sensual play, but you don’t want to jump out of the gate at 60 miles per hour. Give your lover some time to let the excitement rise. The body needs to be prepared for anything more intense, so start slow and let things build.

A spanking can feel delicious on many parts of the body, but one of the best is the ass. When spanking the ass, you open up the blood vessels and excite the nerve endings of the genitals. This can heighten the pleasure of any sensation that follows. Some other areas include the hands, feet, shoulder blades, and the breasts or pecs. If you do choose to bring your spanking into these regions, remember to keep it light and use a flogger.

The key to getting started is to massage the area to get the blood flowing. Rub the area with a circular motion and squeeze lightly. You’ll want your touch nice and warm, so rub the hands together lightly before you begin. After you lightly rub and tickle the skin to get the sensation going, spank four times, giving a bit of genital stimulation between each blow. Cup the hand slightly and spank with an upward motion, lifting and exciting the flesh with each strike. Once you’ve excited the area and warmed it up, you can add a fifth, more forceful slap.

Now that your lover is good and excited, it’s time to step it up a notch.

Assume the Position!

Each position offers its own flavour to the sensual experience. First, make sure you’re both comfortable. The more relaxed you are, the more pleasurable the sensations will be. The most traditional positions are over the knee and lying down. Lying down is one of the best positions for beginners, as it will allow you to remain relaxed throughout your play. To provide a bit of cushion and give you both a lift, slide a pillow under the hips. Over the knee is great to offer a bit of easy restraint. It’s an ideal position for short range implements and a bit of kinky role play.

If you’re spanking an area other than the buttocks, a restrained or standing position may be preferable. Restraints can be exciting all in themselves, and they can help to keep the bottom firmly in place as it receives your attention. Standing is good for those that want to keep the play light, as it is less painful than bent over or lying down. You’ll want to play carefully, as movement could affect the accuracy of the blows. For those that would like to get really excited, spanking while doggy-style stretches the muscles and nerve endings, making the sensations much more intense.

The Tools of the Trade

There are a number of different tools that can be brought into your impact play, and each offers their own unique sensation. Each implement varies in strength and intensity, so you have a wide range of choice to tailor your sensation to your desires.

The first and most obvious implement is the hand. This is best for beginners, as it is less painful than other implements and you will be better able to feel the intensity of the strikes, moderating it to your lover’s pleasure. The hand produces a thudding sensation and is unlikely to leave lasting welts or bruises.

Moving up, we have the flogger, a whip-like handle with a number of thick/thin tails. There are many variations to the flogger, and each leaves their own distinct marks. Fluffy floggers are light and soft, while the leather variety offers a bit more intensity. Explore to see which one you like best. Next, there’s the riding crop. This is a long, flexible rod with a bit of leather on the end for striking. Even the slightest motion can offer quite a sting and will leave an impressive bruise, so be careful.

The next tool on the list is the paddle. This is less sever that the long range implements, but can still leave quite a mark. The feeling of the paddle is similar to a hand, but a bit more intense. Moving up in intensity, we have the cane. Canes give a sharp, stinging sensation and is likely to leave marks and thin bruises. It’s easy to control, but be carful not to overdo it.

Tawses and straps are the tools that deliver the most force. They are heavy strips of leather with handles. The main difference between them is the the tawse is split into a couple of tails. The length and amount of these tails can vary from one tawse to the next. These offer an intense and thudding pain that reddens the skin and is certain to leave an impression.

Whips are beautiful punishment devices and a delightful addition to any dom’s collection. They give a quick, sharp sting and leave long thin welts. The use of a whip can be quite an art, so make sure you practice before bringing it into your sensual play. Remember to vary the frequency and placement of your strikes, and it can be exciting to alternate each blow with pleasurable sensations.

Aftercare

After a bit of punishment, the sub can feel tender in a few ways. Physically, it helps to use the spanked area, soothing it and letting the sensations fade. On a deeper level, the sub can slip into “sub space” during punishment play. This is an altered state of consciousness that heightens sensation and leaves the sub in a dreamy, unfocused place. The chemical rush can be so intense that it will leave some subs a blubbering wreck. Make sure to ease their re-entry into reality with beautiful, loving attention. Give them time to come back slowly, and they will love the experience from beginning to end.

Last Words

It can be amazing to bring impact play into the bedroom, but take it slow. Ease into the exploration, making sure that both parties love every moment of our journey. Have fun and find out how exciting it can be!