Keeping your child safe from abuse (Suitable for 5-11)

Teach your child the Underwear Rule and help protect them from abuse. It's a simple way that parents can help keep children (age from 5-11) safe from sexual abuse – without using scary words or even mentioning sex.

The Underwear Rule is a simple way to help keep children safe from abuse. It teaches children that their body belongs to them, they have a right to say no, and that they should tell an adult if they’re upset or worried. The messages are appropriate for 5-11 year olds.

Each line of PANTS covers a different part of the Underwear Rule and provides a simple but valuable lesson that can keep a child safe.

How and when you talk PANTS to your child is your choice. You’ll know when they’re ready and how much detail you need to go into.

PANTS is a really easy way for you to explain the Underwear Rule to your child:

Privates are private

Always remember your body belongs to you

No means no

Talk about secrets that upset you

Speak up, someone can help

The NSPCC has a guide with everything you need to get those conversations started. To download the guide for parents or listen to some tips and advice from other parents, please go to NSPCC’s website (External link).

This website has been developed by the Welsh Government with the help of a range of organisations and professionals. Every child and every parent is unique. This website gives parents ideas so they can make decisions about what can work for their child and family. It aims to help parents to build a positive, healthy relationship with their children.