Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

Holiday Blues

I am sure that there are many of you that are having a rough time during the holiday. I found out that I would miscarry on December 17th. Since then time has been irrelevant, and has had little meaning. The pain and emptiness have almost consumed me. The fact that this is the holiday season has pretty much doubled the pain, emptiness, and extreme anxiety I have felt. There is not much that provides consolation lately, except my husband, who has been an enormous support. We also have our two dogs that are always willing to be hugged or petted. I have pretty much been going through the motions since that horrible day. I have also had a D&C on the 21st, wanting to 'start over' and not to have to wait possibly weeks to miscarry naturally and prolong the emotional and physical pain. Before the D&C, I had not done any holiday shipping and so in an effort to 'get it over with' did my shopping in a few hours in the evening when I actually felt motivated to get out of the house. Christmas actually ended up being a welcome distraction as my husband and I went to his parents and I was able to visit with my sister-in-law. Now that all of that is over, I cry straight though the day with little relief. I am supposed to go back to work on Wednesday, after the New Year holiday. I don't think I can do. I don't think I can even focus on the smallest task right now and don't even know what to do. I am extremely anxious and scared about returning. Perhaps some of you have some ways to cope or some advice.

I am so glad that there is a place where we can all share our feelings. I pray for all of you that you have loved ones who can simply allow you to cry on their shoulder and that you would be blessed in some small way at this time.

I wish I had some great advice but I don't. I just wanted to say that you aren't alone. I've been struggling too. If you choose to go back to work on schedule, make sure you have some support there. Others have written some good ideas about that before. I just don't remember the details of that discussion. Hopefully, some of them will chime it. At least the holidays are just about over. Take care!

I've been struggling too. Just when I think I am making progress it all hits me like a ton of bricks. Halloween night I went in for my induction, I made sure I could take my kids Trick or Treating first (I wanted everything to be as normal as it could be for them.) A week after having my son I was pretty much forced to go on our family vacation that we planned MONTHS ago. I couldn't disapoint my daughter because it was for her birthday. Then there was Thanksgiving which was just AWFFUL. Then there was Christmas and that was even worse. I really hope the new year is a good year for us all....I can't take much more of the holidays.

I have been seriously struggling too, and I miscarried back in October. You will definitley get the support you need here. This site has been my life saver. Do not go back to work too soon. I did that and I regretted it. I will pray for you.

I am very sorry that this is happening to you all. I read your entries trying to learn from you so that I can truly empathise, as a dear friend of mine who m/c and delivered a baby at 17 weeks early December. It has been an awful Christmas for her and she is in sooooo much pain, as you all are. I am trying to support her, but she doesn't want to talk. I hope that she will join this chat room so that she can get support from people such as yourselves. Thank you for helping me to understand. She has shut me out for the moment. Please tell me, what do you need from your friends and family...?? We don't know how to help? M

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement and support. Yesterday was the worst day, I mus have spent the majority of it crying. This has been a great outlet around this time. Thank you msnrn, I am hoping that this is not too soon for me to be going back to work but I fear that it might be just because I feel so delicate right now. If anyone can refer me to more knowledge or advice about that, it would be great.

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