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Powerful Communication: Understanding What’s NOT Being Said

See the mime. Every movement is graceful, leading to the next movement. Each muscle has a specific purpose. Every glance is positioned with precision.

What are you thinking as the mime performs?

You need to be fully in tune with every movement and every gesture to grasp the meaning of what is going on. To have impact, the mime shifts in utter silence to have maximum impact.

When you’re in a business meeting, I’m sure you’re aware that there are so many more things happening than what’s being said on the surface. Just like the mime.

There are glances, subconscious noises and movements that you don’t even notice that tell others exactly what you’re thinking. People share their inner most thoughts unknowingly through every physical shift just as the mime provokes meaning with each movement.

In poker, it’s known as a tell. In business, it’s known as an advantage. In influence, it’s known as smart observation.

So what are some of the basics for learning to read body language that can give you the upper hand when influencing?

Positive Body Language

In general, when someone is in agreement with you or likes what you’re proposing, their body language will change to reflect this. Look for some of the following behaviors to indicate positive reactions:

Leaning closer to you

Long periods of eye contact

Relaxed arms and limbs that are uncrossed

Genuine smiles (I’ll go into this a little later)

Remember, even when a person is playing hardball, a lot of times, their body and unconscious movements will give them away.

Negative Body Language

How can you tell when someone isn’t taking very kindly to you or your presentation? There are a few key things to look for in the way a person behaves:

Moving away from you

Looking away to the side, as if distracted

Crossed arms or legs

Rubbing or scratching their nose, eyes or the back of their neck (careful, during some seasons, this can just be a case of allergies!)

If you start to see some of these signs, you might want to back off or change your tactics until you see a positive reaction.

Spotting a Liar

How can you tell when someone isn’t being completely truthful in a meeting? There are a few tells that most people have:

Fake Smiles: When we involuntarily smile (that is, smile for real) our whole face smiles. People cannot fake the wrinkles in the skin next to our eyes, which crinkles when we’re really smiling. If the eyes don’t smile, the mouth is lying.

Too Much Eye Contact: That is, eye contact that feels almost calculated. These people aren’t paying attention because they’re interested, they’re keeping eye contact to prove to you that they’re interested and definitely not lying.

Stiff Upper Lip: Again, people who are lying try to keep everything very still, so a stiff, unmoving upper lip is generally a sign that they’re lying.

Now get out there and influence some amazing deals based on the lessons you’ve learned here!

· · The 3 major mistakes people face when attempting to influence others

· · The 7 traits all influential people possess (HINT: You have them too!)

· · The biggest and most important first step you can take to develop your influence

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From regional manager to international executive with quadruple the pay, Karen Keller’s unique blueprint carefully outlined the step-by-step process for creating high-impact influence and let me know when I was being influenced in a way that didn’t serve me.