Leaving aside the details of these two celebrities’ personal lives, their fertility problems point out a bigger problem that has gone unnoticed among most African-American Black women (AABW). Here’s what most AABW don’t fully comprehend because we tend to have such segregated social lives:

Middle-class, professional, reasonably attractive White
women’s “wedding season of life” is
from age 24-28 years old. More or less. This is the normal—and really, optimal—age
range for this particular life experience in a modern, industrialized society
like the U.S. For middle class White American women, this is a season of life in
which they’re almost constantly serving as bridesmaids in
their female friends’ and relatives’ weddings.

What I’ve noticed is that the few AABW who do get
married to AA Black males are for the most part getting married approximately a decade later than their WW
peers. AABW who marry AA Black males are getting married a decade later because
of African-American Black males’ anti-family values and refusal to offer
marriage to Black women, including the women they impregnate and shack up with.

Let’s remember, it’s the man who proposes and offers
marriage to the woman. It’s not like there’s ever been a bunch of AABW refusing
marriage proposals. NO, what’s been happening for decades is that AA negro
males have been withholding the opportunity for marriage. So, please let’s not
play dumb and pretend that the lack of marriage among AAs is due to AABW
refusing Black males’ proposals.

Doing Things “Out of Season” Creates Unnecessary
Hardships in Life

Doing things “out of season” creates unnecessary
difficulties in life. Contrary to new school Fantasy Island ideology, there
really are seasons in life. It’s best and
easiest to do things during their proper season.It’s often possible to do
things late, but doing things late typically increases the difficulty involved
ten-fold:

Balancing work and getting a G.E.D. is much harder than simply staying in high
school and graduating at the normal age and stage of life.

Balancing work, parenting responsibilities and college
is much harder than getting your
undergrad degree before [getting married and] having children.

Similar negative dynamics apply to women who get
married a decade after the optimal professional American woman age range of 24-28.
Delaying marriage until one’s 30s increases the odds of fertility problems.
This delay also means that both parties are coming to the marriage with a different
“head space”—they’re coming to the marriage more set in their own ways after having spent an extra decade living as a
single adult who didn’t have to factor anybody else into their decisions. This
is not particularly conducive to the cooperation needed for successful married
life.

These older marriage ages among AABW (and the
quality of life penalties created by these older marriage ages) are caused by
AA negro males’ anti-family values and resistance to marriage.

Here’s another “quality of life penalty” that a lot
of AABW who restrict themselves to dating AA negro males don’t want to face:

I won’t even get into the extreme emotional stress that fertility problems and fertility treatments put on a couple’s marriage. Even when biologically successful, older parenting increases the
risk of dying before your children are ready to face the world:

What haunts me about my children, though, is not the embarrassment they feel when their friends study my wrinkles or my husband’s salt-and-pepper temples. It’s the actuarial risk I run of dying before they’re ready to face the world. At an American Society for Reproductive Medicine meeting last year, two psychologists and a gynecologist antagonized a room full of fertility experts by making the unpopular but fairly obvious point that older parents die earlier in their children’s lives. (“We got a lot of blowback in terms of reproductive rights and all that,” the gynecologist told me.) A mother who is 35 when her child is born is more likely than not to have died by the time that child is 46. The one who is 45 may have bowed out of her child’s life when he’s 37. The odds are slightly worse for fathers: The 35-year-old new father can hope to live to see his child turn 42. The 45-year-old one has until the child is 33.

These numbers may sound humdrum, but even under the best scenarios, the death of a parent who had children late, not to mention the long period of decline that precedes it, will befall those daughters and sons when they still need their parents’ help—because, let’s face it, even grown-up children rely on their parents more than they used to. They need them for guidance at the start of their careers, and they could probably also use some extra cash for the rent or the cable bill, if their parents can swing it. “If you don’t have children till your forties, they won’t be launched until you’re in your sixties,” Suzanne Bianchi, a sociologist who studies families, pointed out to me. In today’s bad economy, young people need education, then, if they can afford it, more education, and even internships. They may not go off the parental payroll until their mid- to late-twenties. Children also need their parents not to need them just when they’ve had children of their own.

Any way you slice it, this is not a pretty picture. What’s
truly bizarre is how AABW have normalized this epidemic of fewer and much later
marriages (and the problems created by such). AABW normalize this mess in order
to cater to the Damaged Beyond Repair masses of AABM who are anti-marriage and
therefore are anti-stable family. As was discussed in the post Catering To Damaged Black Men By Deliberately “Getting It Twisted”:

During the course of several recent conversations about the No Wedding, No Womb campaign, I’ve heard some Black women make incredibly nonsensical and convoluted arguments in support African-American women continuing to have the majority of their children out of wedlock (oow). They are opposed to any suggestion that more (heterosexual) African-American women should get their childbearing choices back in sync with time-tested human norms. Specifically, the time-tested human norm of “no wedding, no womb.” They take this position despite the unmitigated catastrophe oow has caused for the African-American collective. Basically, according to them, marriage is for every other type of human woman except Black/African-American women. . . . [ ]

Frankly, I don’t believe that many Black women are that stupid. Instead, I believe that many of them adopt these arguments because doing otherwise would mean the end of “nuthin’ but a brother” business as usual. Adhering to normal, human standards for mate selection and procreation would mean acknowledging that the vast majority of African-American males are unfit and unwilling to function as men by serving as competent protectors and providers.

Once an African-American woman acknowledges this fact, the next logical step is for her to expand her dating and marriage options to include non-Black men the global village. Doing that would require a woman to leave the (false) comfort zone of dealing with the dysfunctional collective of Black men.

Furthermore, most AAs refuse to tell the truth about the normal age range of non-AA women during their first marriages in this society. Instead, far too many AA slaves (of both genders) propose having a baby out of wedlock during one’s 20s as the solution to the AA marriage-related fertility problems created by AA negro males’ aversion to marriage and their stalling to delay marriage. That's downright crazy.

Yet More Reasons To Expand Your Dating &
Marriage Pool If You Want A Healthy Marriage

In summary, if you as an AABW want to maximize your
odds of a happy, fulfilling married life you need to get your life choices back in
synch with middle-class White America’s seasons of life experiences. As much as possible.

The reality is that the majority of [mostly
fatherless, born as bastard babies themselves] AABM aren’t willing to align their
baby-making with the human norms regarding marriage.

Which means that if you’re
serious about marriage and family, you need to remove the masses of fatherless
and anti-family AABM from your dating pool and date and marry out.

Saturday, September 5, 2015

Random Singing in Public = Something That Only Skid
Row Winos Would Do Back In The Day

I’ve seen some comments during recent online
conversations at various BW-centric spaces that show just how widespread mental
illness has become among modern day African-Americans, in particular
African-American Black women (AABW). So many new school AAs are doing so many
weird and bizarre public behaviors
that previously you used to see only among skid row winos and bums.

One example is the increasing phenomenon of AA women
randomly singing in public. I don’t mean AABW quietly humming along to a song
they remember. I’m talking about full-out, loud singing in public as they walk
down the street, shop in stores, etc. Loud enough for passersby to hear you.

I hate to break it to those who don't already know this, but it’s PECULIAR and obnoxious
behavior. The rest of us don’t want to hear you singing.

And then more than a few of you have the nerve to be
offended when the other people you’re inflicting your unwanted public singing
on back away from you and/or look at you funny. You also have the gall to
wonder why you’re increasingly unwelcome in various public places.

It was disturbing to read a recent exchange by a couple of BW commenters (I’ve deleted the names):

Lol

Well well I sing sometimes in public when I get really stessed and my anxiety
starts to spike to keep me from wilding out or crying, it's my own coping
mechanism. But I don't get loud I didn't realize it was that immoral to sing in
public

You missing the point [deleted]. No one said its immoral,
but who really wants or needs to hear you sing in public? People have their own
shit going on and dont need your singing interrupting their thoughts if you are
singing loud enough to do so.

And you may not think you are loud, but you never know.

If
you’re so stressed out and anxious that you need to sing in public, PLEASE GET
SOME THERAPY!

Of course, the Randomly
Singing In Public Commenter ultimately got belligerent and defiant when other
commenters (like the second comment quoted above) suggested that this behavior was inappropriate and a nuisance to
others around her. Well, she’ll probably have to learn her lesson the hard way that
sometimes it’s better to yield—like Sandra Bland learned the hard way. Oh, well . . . in this modern era, hard
heads make dead bodies.

Furthermore, if your first reaction—as a purportedly
responsible adult—to the news story about the BW who recently were ejected from a wine train is to ask “How loud is too
loud?” then you’re probably an uncouth, ghetto individual—the type of individual that sane,
civilized people (of all races and ethnicities) don’t want around. Or at their
events. Or in their neighborhood. Or on their job. I stopped having knee-jerk reactions in support of self-proclaimed aggrieved AAs because too many AAs really ARE doing various inappropriate things in public. Oh, like the Black actress who decided to have sexual relations with her boyfriend in public view and then cried racism. I’ve learned to take a breath and wait for the other shoe to drop before taking a position regarding various controversies about random, Unknown To Me Black folks’ public behavior. Anyhoo, if you’re the kind of person whose first reaction is to ask “How loud is too loud?” then get used to being shut out
of things because the rest of us are sick of savages who cheapen and destroy
everything nice they come into contact with.

are ALL talking about discrimination on the job, how the EEOC doesn't really help people facing discrimination, etc. whining about how "White people need to understand X, Y, Z"......

Not a word about the murder victims and their families.

Not a word about the uninvolved woman who was being interviewed who was also shot by this killer negro.

Right now there's a negro calling in who's scolding the BM host for referring to the killer as a killer. Because "all the facts aren't in" and "We don't know if the [murdered WW] TV reporter was on marijuana the way 'they' said Trayvon Martin had marijuana in his system.." {gasp}”

In addition to this, I heard (during that show) and
saw (during online conversations at AA-oriented sites) commenter after
commenter begin their killer-sympathizing comments with the phrase “White people need to understand [X,Y, and Z
about racism] . . .”

White America Doesn’t Need To Understand Anything
About African-Americans Since We Collectively Depend On White America For
EVERYTHING

Just read through many of the comments to THIS
Facebook post by Bougie Black Girl. A mindset of celebrating unnecessary
struggle while simultaneously “hating on” and resenting common sense and
excellence is a first class ticket to the African-American Permanent Underclass.

It’s one thing to be born into a bad situation
created by one’s biological parents (since most Black underclass problems have
their origin in out of wedlock childbearing and single parenting). It’s one
thing to do the right things, exercise common sense and have one’s plans
derailed by circumstances that are truthfully out of one’s control.

It’s something totally dysfunctional to celebrate
people recovering from their SELF-created problems. While many of y’all quietly
(and sometimes not so quietly) hate and resent Black folks who use common sense
and do the right things. That’s sick.

Anyhoo, I had no idea there is so much widespread
untreated mental illness among modern day African-Americans. If you have these
type of people in your personal social circles, I respectfully suggest that you
purge them. These kind of people are liabilities. Liabilities that you can’t
afford if you’re seeking abundant lifestyles. You might want to take a look at
these previous posts: