Emotional and Financial Abuse

My parents are/were abused by my live-in sister. What does a family member do when there is no evidence of physical abuse, and elder will not talk about any mental abuse? At this point we are down to the sister has forced my parents that the other 5 children are all bad people. And all are being cut out of a substantial will and shortly with the will drawn up when mother’s estate probate is concluded. We are devastated and concerned about what she will do to our father once the will is hers, and why is she getting away with this. I have reported this abuse to father's doctor and his attorney. We do not have the money to hire an attorney as suggested.

Brennan in Illinois, 43

In cases of abuse, whether it’s physical, mental, or emotional, you need to hire an appropriate advocate for the family and the person being abused. An elder care lawyer would understand the legal ramifications and can direct you to the correct authorities.

It appears there are many people involved here which can make things very complex. When you are in a "he said/she said" situation, it’s important to get clarity such as exact times and instances. Write them all out so you can show how this abuse has manifested itself.

Though you don’t have the finances to hire an attorney, some attorneys will spend an hour with you pro bono if you come to them with a clear list of questions. This is a good way to get some answers for solutions that you can pursue on your own. There also may be agencies in your community that are devoted to helping abused elderly. And contact your local department of aging and your police department for help.