“If Black Men See Us With White Men, It Will Scare Them Away!” O_o

December 19, 2013 | Toni |

I don’t know how many ways it can be said that in this life you are free to choose and love whoever you wish. Or that spaces like this featuring women who are attracted to, dating, or married to non-black men does not change the fact black women are indeed entitled to date and marry black men if that’s what they actually want to do.

Knowing this to be so makes me wonder where in the heck some black people get their logic regarding the impact of black women-centric interracial dating on “black love” and relationships. The stupid things some black women choose to believe about themselves and the opposite sex of ANY race or ethnic group can be truly frustrating. Especially when I read an opinion so stupid, I am stunned into silence. W-T-F?

“If they keep putting black women in movies/shows with white men it’s going to scare black men away.”

*pauses because she needs a moment*

I am soooooo tired of thisLIE that black women with non-black men means that there will be no black men for the black women who want them!

Did black men with non-black women scare away the black women who only want black men? Let’s at least imagine the reverse to be true: A black man who wants a black woman is going to go after a black woman and then they are going to be a black couple REGARDLESS OF WHAT BLACK WOMEN WITH NO INTEREST IN BLACK MEN DO! REGARDLESS OF THE INCREASED REPRESENTATION OF INTERRACIAL COUPLES FEATURING BLACK WOMEN!

People who want to be together are going to be together. If a man wants to be with you, wild horses couldn’t drag him away. And if black men aren’t beating down your door, Hon, it’s not because of the idea that black women can be with men who aren’t black and be happy. Because that is a fact. If you’re lacking in black love, then it’s for a different reason entirely.

In short, you’ve been had.

I understand that the black women who believe this nonsense had help forming the idiotic belief system. There is a vocal segment of black male trolls who come to sites like this and tell us about how being with a white guy means that we are “soiled” and no black man is ever going to want us.

They say things like we’re ruined, we’re crazy, we’re desperate, etc. Whatever they feel can say to get at us and somehow trigger the same fear that has these poor women running around like chickens with their heads cut off.

The fear is real….but the threat is toothless.

1.) You are an individual. You are responsible for your own happiness. If you want to be with a man, be with him because of love, not fear. Let a man be with you because he loves and respects you. Not because he’s conned you into thinking you’re worthless because you’re black and “no other man would want you”.

2.) Speaking of “nobody wants you”, this is simply not true. It breaks my heart that I still see black women believing that there’s no men anywhere that would love them because they are black. The idea that a man who is not black appreciating you is somehow wrong is nothing more than the impotent mouth-drippings of cowards who needed other groups of men to notice you before ever getting around to seeing your value. And now that they’re late, they’re mad. That’s their loss, not your problem. You are a hot commodity and the secret is getting out.

3.) Once that secret is out and the wall completely shattered, the floodgates will open. It’s not if, but WHEN. Black women of value and means will be snatched up so fast, it will make your head spin. It’s scary to some DBRs that the day will come where they can no longer convince black women to man-share, “because there aren’t enough to go around.” They shudder at the idea of black women laughing in their face as they step past them and into the arms of whomever they choose.

4.) If you can’t beat them…trick them. Keep black women running around believing that interracial relationships involving other women drop their value in the eyes of black men. That keeps them snapping and yelling at any non-black man who expresses interest. That keeps them going on loud rants about how they only want a black man. And it also has them invading the conversations and spaces of black women who were never checking for the men they want.

These duped women don’t know that-

5.) THE OPPOSITE IS ACTUALLY TRUE. The quickest way to get a black man’s attention is to say, “I like Swedish men. :D” In fact, if these women who want black men so badly were to say this in a room full of black men and stick to the lie, I believe they’d be beating off black men with a tree.

Reverse psychology is a hell of a drug, after all. These women should know: They’ve been downing the pills for some time.

Black women dating whoever they want isn’t going to drive away quality men: the sort of men they’re supposed to be checking for in the first place! If a man is scared away because he doesn’t like the race of the men you’ve dated or that black women are exercising their options, consider yourself lucky!

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