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david d. responds

You get it all, and you're trying to tell me that you didn't know what to say in this situation?

How about this: After she said, "How can you be so mean to a complete stranger?" you could have said:

"I'm not being mean at all; I'm just trying to let you know that it hurts my feelings when you treat me like a sex object — like a piece of meat to be used for your entertainment. Can't you just get to know me for who I am? And then later use all the makeup tricks to seduce me?"

There are all kinds of directions you could go with this — you were doing great.

Just make sure you always end by turning it around, playing hard to get and getting her e-mail address and number.

Try this: "OK, look. You're nice and everything, but you're moving a little too fast for me. Here’s a pen. Write down your e-mail address and number, and maybe we can talk on the phone later. Then we'll see."

Or, if you want to get together right after you get off the plane, say: "Hey, I'll tell you what. I see that you only want to use me for my charm, but why don't we have a drink tonight so that I can find out if there's more to you than just the makeup and cheap lines?"

David DeAngelo is the author of the book Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, and several other products that can help men become more successful with women and dating. He also publishes a free online Dating Tips newsletter, available at www.DoubleYourDating.com.