Actually, it has to be somewhere else because I get Maxim (for free) and well....I've never seen this suggested in there. The backhand compliment.

A while back (like a year or so ago), I got the "you're hot too bad you're over 30" message from a guy that was my own age.

A different guy sent me this tonight on an online dating site: "Wow too bad you're a tomboy cuz you are quite the looker and you seem to girl up well(Judging from pics) I however like girly girls I just wanted to pay a well meant complimentto a hottie:)"

is that really supposed to impress me or make me feel good about myself? Guess what jerkface? IT DOESN'T. It is actually a painful reminder that the stuff I enjoy actually often keeps me from finding a guy because I'm not girly enough.

Sounds like both guys saved you the trouble of finding out what douchebags they were on an actual date. It is much more a statement on their insecurities than your "faults".

I've found a few guys that were slightly intimidated by some of my tomboy sides (the guns and hunting especially), but none who completely wrote me off because of it. Then again, I'm sure it's easier to find a southern guy who appreciates a tomboy that is also capable of cleaning up.