Need some TTC Friends!

This is all very new to me, I have never joined a message board in my life, but my husband and I are TTC and have not told anyone as I cant cope with the potential pain and pity I will experience of the continued questions of "hows it going?" "are you pregnant yet?" etc etc.... So I thought I would join and see if any of you fellow girls out there want someone to chat to and share experiences? I'm from the UK and stopped BC 3 years ago with no intention of TTC, but to get it out of my system and get my cycle back to normal. Phew! It took a whole year for me to even see AF again. Well I've been regular for about two years and seeing as I'm now 30 (my husband is 31) we thought it a good time to try. I thought I would be all calm and natural about it, but I'm already worrying about O'ing and when its best to TTC and how often etc. I'm only on my my first cycle (we started trying in December) but I'm already stressed about it - which I know only makes it worse!! Anyways, just thought I'd see if anyone else is new to this and would like a sympathetic ear ...?

Good luck girls - look forward to sharing our stories x

Hello All,

This is all very new to me, I have never joined a message board in my life, but my husband and I are TTC and have not told anyone as I cant cope with the potential pain and pity I will experience of the continued questions of "hows it going?" "are you pregnant yet?" etc etc.... So I thought I would join and see if any of you fellow girls out there want someone to chat to and share experiences? I'm from the UK and stopped BC 3 years ago with no intention of TTC, but to get it out of my system and get my cycle back to normal. Phew! It took a whole year for me to even see AF again. Well I've been regular for about two years and seeing as I'm now 30 (my husband is 31) we thought it a good time to try. I thought I would be all calm and natural about it, but I'm already worrying about O'ing and when its best to TTC and how often etc. I'm only on my my first cycle (we started trying in December) but I'm already stressed about it - which I know only makes it worse!! Anyways, just thought I'd see if anyone else is new to this and would like a sympathetic ear ...?

Welcome! I find this board a stress relief. It is nice to talk to people in the same situation. My husband and I are not TTC but not really preventing. I went off birth control in October. My husband doesn't want to be pressured about the topic so he labels it not trying but if it happened he will be ok with it. This board prevents me from driving him crazy talking about babies ;-) I am just hoping my mother was right when we had our first sex talk when I was a teenager "It only takes once without protection to get pregnant so don't ever have unprotected sex!" lol

Welcome! I find this board a stress relief. It is nice to talk to people in the same situation. My husband and I are not TTC but not really preventing. I went off birth control in October. My husband doesn't want to be pressured about the topic so he labels it not trying but if it happened he will be ok with it. This board prevents me from driving him crazy talking about babies ;-) I am just hoping my mother was right when we had our first sex talk when I was a teenager "It only takes once without protection to get pregnant so don't ever have unprotected sex!" lol

Thanks for the quick reply! I'm pleased I'm not the only one. My husband is the same, he's happy to let it happen naturally, but I'm worried in case it takes us forever, or worse not at all, and I'm 30 so time is still on my side, but not as much as it might have been 10 years ago. I have tried to mention all the boring things about O'ing, and CM and CP etc, but he's not interested (I cant blame him) and even when he tries to listen he doesnt really follow it ("its all a bit technical!") so I end up just thinking about it on my own.

haha! I hope your mum is right too! I'm more concerned that my husbands lifestyle doesnt help; he drinks a fair amount, smokes, doesnt exercise and has a very stressful job! Typical! I have given up coffee and alcohol (which has been interesting trying to 'hide' from my family who I know would ask questions) and dont smoke.

Well, I wish you luck, and hope to keep in touch on developments. I already feel better ... like you say just relieving some tension discussing thoughts with others. Thankyou x

Thanks for the quick reply! I'm pleased I'm not the only one. My husband is the same, he's happy to let it happen naturally, but I'm worried in case it takes us forever, or worse not at all, and I'm 30 so time is still on my side, but not as much as it might have been 10 years ago. I have tried to mention all the boring things about O'ing, and CM and CP etc, but he's not interested (I cant blame him) and even when he tries to listen he doesnt really follow it ("its all a bit technical!") so I end up just thinking about it on my own.

haha! I hope your mum is right too! I'm more concerned that my husbands lifestyle doesnt help; he drinks a fair amount, smokes, doesnt exercise and has a very stressful job! Typical! I have given up coffee and alcohol (which has been interesting trying to 'hide' from my family who I know would ask questions) and dont smoke.

Well, I wish you luck, and hope to keep in touch on developments. I already feel better ... like you say just relieving some tension discussing thoughts with others. Thankyou x

I love having this board- nobody knows DH and I are TTC either, because we don't want the pressure and constant questions. I'll be 30 in a few months, and we're trying for our first child. We got married in July, but we've been together a few years. I stopped taking BC in November, planning to just take it easy. But it consumes you! I am now doing OPKs and just started temping, lol. For me, I like having information about what my body is doing, so it helps me feel in control. DH is happy to talk to me about it, although he doesn't totally understand all of it. And I really don't want to take away the romance or make him feel pressured. I love having people here to talk to. Welcome!

I love having this board- nobody knows DH and I are TTC either, because we don't want the pressure and constant questions. I'll be 30 in a few months, and we're trying for our first child. We got married in July, but we've been together a few years. I stopped taking BC in November, planning to just take it easy. But it consumes you! I am now doing OPKs and just started temping, lol. For me, I like having information about what my body is doing, so it helps me feel in control. DH is happy to talk to me about it, although he doesn't totally understand all of it. And I really don't want to take away the romance or make him feel pressured. I love having people here to talk to. Welcome!

Thanks Shelley - great to *virtually* meet you. Its such a relief that I can share thoughts with others who are going through the same thing. I havent even told a best friend or anything so I have these thoughts and fears that I seem to be containing, but I'm so glad I can talk to others about it.

You sound SO similar to me, I have always thought when it came to me and my DH TTC it would be all natural, well why wouldnt it be, we've been together 10 years now, so we've been through everything, this would be a breeze? Not so! I've downloaded the WTE app and look forward to checking out the advice, and making my own notes. I havent gone so far as getting my BBT yet, but I cant imagine many more months will pass before I do!

My DH is the same, happy to listen, and I see the sympathetic face but he cant exactly advise me about BBT, or share stories about CP etc!! We did have a bit of a disagreement becuase he didnt want to do the BD *everyday* over my fertile period, MUCH to my surprise :) so I'm now trying to take the pressure off him and share it on here instead.

Good luck to you and I look forward to sharing stroies and news over the coming months (but not too many I hope :)

Thanks Shelley - great to *virtually* meet you. Its such a relief that I can share thoughts with others who are going through the same thing. I havent even told a best friend or anything so I have these thoughts and fears that I seem to be containing, but I'm so glad I can talk to others about it.

You sound SO similar to me, I have always thought when it came to me and my DH TTC it would be all natural, well why wouldnt it be, we've been together 10 years now, so we've been through everything, this would be a breeze? Not so! I've downloaded the WTE app and look forward to checking out the advice, and making my own notes. I havent gone so far as getting my BBT yet, but I cant imagine many more months will pass before I do!

My DH is the same, happy to listen, and I see the sympathetic face but he cant exactly advise me about BBT, or share stories about CP etc!! We did have a bit of a disagreement becuase he didnt want to do the BD *everyday* over my fertile period, MUCH to my surprise :) so I'm now trying to take the pressure off him and share it on here instead.

Good luck to you and I look forward to sharing stroies and news over the coming months (but not too many I hope :)

Good luck to you, as well. Hopefully neither of us will be hanging around *too* long. I haven't told a single friend (not even my mother or sister) about TTC. It's tough, but we want to keep it our secret. And I can't wait to see the surprise on all their faces when we can tell them we're pregnant!

Good luck to you, as well. Hopefully neither of us will be hanging around *too* long. I haven't told a single friend (not even my mother or sister) about TTC. It's tough, but we want to keep it our secret. And I can't wait to see the surprise on all their faces when we can tell them we're pregnant!

I am in a similar boat as you ladies! We have been together almost 9 years and I will be 29 in may and my husband is 33. I am a *huge* wine lover. I have been cutting down ALOT. We are even going out to dinner tonight and I am not drinking :-( I want to prove to him that I want to have a baby super bad. Today, I completely cleaned out a room in our house to make room for a nursery. Just to let him know I am more than ready for a baby!! I hope we get pregnant fast once we "really" start trying.

I am in a similar boat as you ladies! We have been together almost 9 years and I will be 29 in may and my husband is 33. I am a *huge* wine lover. I have been cutting down ALOT. We are even going out to dinner tonight and I am not drinking :-( I want to prove to him that I want to have a baby super bad. Today, I completely cleaned out a room in our house to make room for a nursery. Just to let him know I am more than ready for a baby!! I hope we get pregnant fast once we "really" start trying.

OMG, me too! I've given up coffee and alcohol, that was SO hard over Christmas and NYE, but I did it, wasnt hard to hide from people either (they were too busy getting drunk themselves to notice my untouched glass of red wine ALL night!). My DH isnt really trying to give up anything because he believes it will just happen. I really hope he's right! :)

Have a lovely time tonight, and if you want support from someone else trying to enjoy life without wine (its hard isnt it? I LOVE wine ... and gin... and ****tails ... and beer for that matter!!!) message me afterwards.

Take care, Michelle

OMG, me too! I've given up coffee and alcohol, that was SO hard over Christmas and NYE, but I did it, wasnt hard to hide from people either (they were too busy getting drunk themselves to notice my untouched glass of red wine ALL night!). My DH isnt really trying to give up anything because he believes it will just happen. I really hope he's right! :)

Have a lovely time tonight, and if you want support from someone else trying to enjoy life without wine (its hard isnt it? I LOVE wine ... and gin... and ****tails ... and beer for that matter!!!) message me afterwards.

I have given up caffeine completely (over a month now... very tough for me). I have cut back majorly on alcohol. I used to have a couple drinks after work with friends every Friday, and now I will have maybe one glass of wine or a mixed drink and only during AF or before I ovulate.

Since none of my friends know we're TTC it would be really obvious to them if I stopped drinking, I'm trying to cover it by just cutting it back and only doing it occasionally. Or just pretending to sip my drink, lol. Every time any of us (we're all in our late 20s/early 30s) isn't drinking, everyone asks if she is pregnant. I want to avoid telling them until I'm 12 weeks or so, so I keep trying to be misleading. They think we're waiting until at least May to TTC because DH is in school right now.

I have given up caffeine completely (over a month now... very tough for me). I have cut back majorly on alcohol. I used to have a couple drinks after work with friends every Friday, and now I will have maybe one glass of wine or a mixed drink and only during AF or before I ovulate.

Since none of my friends know we're TTC it would be really obvious to them if I stopped drinking, I'm trying to cover it by just cutting it back and only doing it occasionally. Or just pretending to sip my drink, lol. Every time any of us (we're all in our late 20s/early 30s) isn't drinking, everyone asks if she is pregnant. I want to avoid telling them until I'm 12 weeks or so, so I keep trying to be misleading. They think we're waiting until at least May to TTC because DH is in school right now.

As I'm a typical English girl I've not been able to give up tea, but I've given up coffee and I used to have a proper ground coffee every day. That's not been that hard to give up and noone at work has noticed. Alcohol is a little harder. It's EXACTLY the same for me, in fact I used to be a bit of a party girl and could drink A LOT, trying to hide that has been hard. I've been doing a lot of the driving to get out of it. I also did the 'fake sip' on NYE too, but noone seemed to notice as it was a big party and we mixed up groups of friends a fair bit. I'm also telling people I'm detoxing January which is common in the UK so I know noone will really ask questions. Might be harder after January! I think I'll be having a wine while AF is around though. Need something to commiserate the arrival of AF!
We're the same on keeping it a secret too (I'm so glad someone else is in the same boat!!) it's going to be a massive surprise for sure because neither me or my DH really say much about kids (we keep that private) so people just think we don't want them! I can't wait to see their faces... Just hope it happens ok.
When do you O? I O mostly on or around the 31st/1st of every month, but that's only with taking the average 14 days thing,I'm not charting BBT or anything yet though. Only done one cycle NYE funnily enough, so only time will tell, have all symptoms that I'll be getting AF again though :(

As I'm a typical English girl I've not been able to give up tea, but I've given up coffee and I used to have a proper ground coffee every day. That's not been that hard to give up and noone at work has noticed. Alcohol is a little harder. It's EXACTLY the same for me, in fact I used to be a bit of a party girl and could drink A LOT, trying to hide that has been hard. I've been doing a lot of the driving to get out of it. I also did the 'fake sip' on NYE too, but noone seemed to notice as it was a big party and we mixed up groups of friends a fair bit. I'm also telling people I'm detoxing January which is common in the UK so I know noone will really ask questions. Might be harder after January! I think I'll be having a wine while AF is around though. Need something to commiserate the arrival of AF!
We're the same on keeping it a secret too (I'm so glad someone else is in the same boat!!) it's going to be a massive surprise for sure because neither me or my DH really say much about kids (we keep that private) so people just think we don't want them! I can't wait to see their faces... Just hope it happens ok.
When do you O? I O mostly on or around the 31st/1st of every month, but that's only with taking the average 14 days thing,I'm not charting BBT or anything yet though. Only done one cycle NYE funnily enough, so only time will tell, have all symptoms that I'll be getting AF again though :(

If it's like last month, I'll probably O sometime near the end of January (prob during the last full week). We will definitely have to keep in touch though our cycles. It helps to have people to talk to- I've been bothering DH a lot less about all this stuff lol. I also feel like I have a more positive attitude about things.

If it's like last month, I'll probably O sometime near the end of January (prob during the last full week). We will definitely have to keep in touch though our cycles. It helps to have people to talk to- I've been bothering DH a lot less about all this stuff lol. I also feel like I have a more positive attitude about things.

I love this site! I haven't been bothering my husband that much either! I O around the 5th/6th but not charting or anything crazy. I officially gave up wine (unless I have AF) we are having a huge superbowl party and I washed out a bag of wine and filled it with white iced tea and planned on "drinking" all night long!

I love this site! I haven't been bothering my husband that much either! I O around the 5th/6th but not charting or anything crazy. I officially gave up wine (unless I have AF) we are having a huge superbowl party and I washed out a bag of wine and filled it with white iced tea and planned on "drinking" all night long!

They are excellent ideas! I thought about just buying cokes and telling people they're vodka and coke, but it means I'll have to keep buying so people don't know! Could turn out expensive!!
Just thought I'd also let you ladies know I just got a BFN. I know it's early but I couldn't resist it, im due AF on the 15th so it's not *that* early so it's looking doubtful this month. :(
Do either of you girls get O pains both sides? I've noticed I get them on the left but not the right. Im just hoping that's normal and I'm still O'ing, hope I'm not just O'ing off one side and not the other that would half my chances :(

They are excellent ideas! I thought about just buying cokes and telling people they're vodka and coke, but it means I'll have to keep buying so people don't know! Could turn out expensive!!
Just thought I'd also let you ladies know I just got a BFN. I know it's early but I couldn't resist it, im due AF on the 15th so it's not *that* early so it's looking doubtful this month. :(
Do either of you girls get O pains both sides? I've noticed I get them on the left but not the right. Im just hoping that's normal and I'm still O'ing, hope I'm not just O'ing off one side and not the other that would half my chances :(

Hey, I'm from Canada and we are ttc as well. I've been off the pill since last January, just getting it out of my system, not trying but not stopping it either. I still thought it would happen within a year, but here we are, one year later and now we are really trying. I've given up drinking and coffee, and it's been difficult but will hopefully pay off. I really want to conceive this month and am in my fertile week right now, so we are doing the bd daily!

Hey, I'm from Canada and we are ttc as well. I've been off the pill since last January, just getting it out of my system, not trying but not stopping it either. I still thought it would happen within a year, but here we are, one year later and now we are really trying. I've given up drinking and coffee, and it's been difficult but will hopefully pay off. I really want to conceive this month and am in my fertile week right now, so we are doing the bd daily!

Hi :) My husband and I have started to TTC this week. Had my copper loop taken out 2 weeks ago. Doctor said we can start straight away :) The Big O is this week so we have been doing the baby Dance every day.

we are also not telling any one we are TTC and I'm having a hard time with this. I have no idea how i'm going to hid it from my friends We go out for ****tails once a week.

Hi :) My husband and I have started to TTC this week. Had my copper loop taken out 2 weeks ago. Doctor said we can start straight away :) The Big O is this week so we have been doing the baby Dance every day.

we are also not telling any one we are TTC and I'm having a hard time with this. I have no idea how i'm going to hid it from my friends We go out for ****tails once a week.

Welcome :) it's good to meet women in the same boat as us; we've got a good group here! It can be hard hiding the 'not drinking' but not impossible. Perhaps pretend to alternate alcoholic c*cktails with soft drinks. When it's your turn to buy pretend you're having an alcoholic one but actually have a virgin one instead. When it's their turn and you have a soft drink you could say youre cutting back/got an early meeting/ on antibiotics etc. You could perhaps have one or two when you've got AF too. I think I'm probably going to do that. Good luck and let's keep each other posted. Looks like we're now on cycle two, *but* I have a development!!! My DH has agreed to quit smoking AND he's taking supplements. Not bad for a weeks encouragement from me and a BFN to help eh?! X

Welcome :) it's good to meet women in the same boat as us; we've got a good group here! It can be hard hiding the 'not drinking' but not impossible. Perhaps pretend to alternate alcoholic c*cktails with soft drinks. When it's your turn to buy pretend you're having an alcoholic one but actually have a virgin one instead. When it's their turn and you have a soft drink you could say youre cutting back/got an early meeting/ on antibiotics etc. You could perhaps have one or two when you've got AF too. I think I'm probably going to do that. Good luck and let's keep each other posted. Looks like we're now on cycle two, *but* I have a development!!! My DH has agreed to quit smoking AND he's taking supplements. Not bad for a weeks encouragement from me and a BFN to help eh?! X

Hi Michelle. I'm living across the pond from u in Ireland. I have being TTC for at least 6 years now with no luck so far. Last year I decided to stop all tracking and medication just to give my body a break. The other reason I took a break is because people knew what I was doing and kept asking me how I was getting on and any pitter patter of tiny feet. In the end I told all I gave up. Its a new year now so I'm going to start again and tell nobody only my new friends here ( obviously hubby will be told. He's kinda vital :-) ).

Hi Michelle. I'm living across the pond from u in Ireland. I have being TTC for at least 6 years now with no luck so far. Last year I decided to stop all tracking and medication just to give my body a break. The other reason I took a break is because people knew what I was doing and kept asking me how I was getting on and any pitter patter of tiny feet. In the end I told all I gave up. Its a new year now so I'm going to start again and tell nobody only my new friends here ( obviously hubby will be told. He's kinda vital :-) ).

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