I have seen several posts where others advise us not to hope or wait for karma for our WS's and good advice it is but so many of the BS's have always taken the high road and yet it seemed to always work against us that we do sometimes take joy when a BS takes that high road and finally more good things finally start to happen for us and also get to see some of that "reap what you sow" come to the WS:s. So I'll bet that most of us BS's would not wish for something terrible..just a little justice. Mine would be that all the horrible lies he told about me would be shown to be lies and it would be known to everyone that he in fact did this...How about you? Is the karma you want for your WS something like mine...more along the lines to help you recover?

Me: Divorced 2012
I know that when I truly love & honor myself I am at my best & most complete; and I will never settle for anything less from myself or from anyone else ever again!

Posts: 355 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: SWFL

rachelc♀ 30314Member # 30314

Posted: 2:47 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

I don't want anything harmful to befall my spouse. I wish the OW would just disappear. That's sbout it.

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Never be so focused on what you're looking for that you overlook the thing you actually find.”

Posts: 7471 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

devasted30♀ 39439Member # 39439

Posted: 2:50 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

What I'd like for my WS is for him to fully realize the extent to which he has hurt me. He sees it - he watches my anguish and my pain, he apologizes and shows extreme remorse and sympathy. But, he does not get it. He just doesn't. He has never experienced pain like this. I just wish he could spend one day - just one day in my body and mind and go through the pain and really, really get it. He's lost both of his parents but that didn't really break his heart because they both suffered from dementia and it was kind of a relief when they passed away. He has never felt real pain. I know that there is no way he'll ever understand, but I just wish...................

And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1631 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada

2kidsandadog♀ 33679Member # 33679

Posted: 2:57 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

My ex's bad karma started the day I left!! And now three years later, he lives in an unfinished basement with a mattress on the floor! The irony is that he was once quite wealthy as a young man and pissed a great deal of his fortune away on HIMSELF!

Yeah I'd say his karma bus hit pretty hard!!

Divorced 05/11/11 -
2kids - 20 and 22 (Thank God for them)

Too many Ddays to count. Enough said!

Posts: 693 | Registered: Oct 2011

wontdefineme♀ 31421Member # 31421

Posted: 3:04 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

The best karma would they end up by themselves and broke.. The two things they thought would be better without us. Old and lonely, best I could hope for.

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Mar 2011

EasyDoesIt♀ 29514Member # 29514

Posted: 3:26 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

Well, for mine the karma bus was actually driven by him and the details surrounding his ability to keep his CDL. When you haul tankers full of hazardous materials, you have to go through federal background checks and fingerprinting, etc. It's especially difficult when you weren't born in this country and you didn't safely store important documents. He doesn't like paperwork, I'm the one who always took care of those INSIGNIFICANT details. Now he's in a pickle and, guess what? After repeated requests from his lawyer to help him with the paperwork, I just reminded her that the two of them believed that I never did anything worthwhile in the 20 years of our so-called-marriage. So, since paperwork wasn't a big deal, they could do it themselves. And I specifically said, "Good luck with that." He has to go through a couple of federal agencies and at least two state agencies now, maybe more. I don't keep track of those things anymore. It isn't to be spiteful. It's because I cannot deal with the drama and I will not allow myself to be shat upon ever again.

I hope he and Mow both die slow and painful deaths. I'm not dwelling on it or bitter, but a girl can hope.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 8366 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA

justjim♂ 41150Member # 41150

Posted: 4:40 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

I'm holding out for that flesh eating disease for the Hell Bitch.

Hope it takes it's time when it shows up. I've got LOTS of popcorn.

Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Oct 2013

IrishLass518♀ 34373Member # 34373

Posted: 5:45 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

Maybe it's the season, maybe it's the question, maybe it's just me. I have been thinking about this thread all day. If I had the choice of the karma, if I could decide what happened, what would it be? It would be that he did what he had to to make it right, not for me but for the kids. That they would see their dad redeem himself and repair their relationships. That he would show my boys and my girls what it is to be a man. That they would see him be humble and know that isn't a bad thing.

If I had the power to chose none of this would have ever happened to him. He wouldn't have reached for someone else, he would have called me or his best friend, his brother, anyone other than her.

I don't have that power, I don't have the choice now just like I didn't back then. I can only chose my karma. I chose to wish him the happiness that he left for and I truly hope it is the best, I do. Cause he sure gave up a beautiful life and so many people who loved, respected and admired him to go after that happiness.

I am okay on my own and maybe he knew that. He kept telling me that I was stronger than him. Maybe he knew that I would leave him alone and go on with my life. Maybe he really never did love me and she is the love of his life, I don't know and it isn't for me to say. I know what I had for awhile and how special it was to me. I will always be grateful for that. That is my karma for me, to be grateful and to move forward wishing him only the best, cause I can't live with that hate in my head or heart.

Well, I feel a little petty after Irishlass's beautiful response, but the truth is...I want him to be lonely and I want him to realize what he destroyed and regret it. He can even move on afterwards and find happiness - I just want him to see it the way I see it once.

D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 621 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California

steadfast1973♀ 24719Member # 24719

Posted: 7:23 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

Dday is still fresh for me... Some bitterness is allowed.

I don't want to punish my husband (more than living with me, and watching me go through this pain, and being powerless against it. That's his karma.)

But really. I want that whore dead. Dead. Worse, i want her friends and family to know what she does for a living... I want everyone in her school to whisper and point when she walks by.

But while i'm still in the trenches, I would like to see him cry tears, in front of me, feeling my pain and feeling pained for causing me pain.

It actually hurts me to imagine him in so much pain, but I think it would be cathartic for us both.

I don't know if that fits with the karma question, but there you go.

Me BS 49, ExWS: narcissist! Jekyll Hyde. Left in secret early July, moved states. Left home, job, whole life behind and difficult** adjusting. Dog injured and too much to handle. Supremely bummed out.

Posts: 557 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: theagonyofit

movingforward13♀ 38405Member # 38405

Posted: 8:34 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

I want OW to get a residency in Alaska or Hawaii... Some where really far away.

I want XH to be beyond broke from OW using him and paying me child support.
It would be nice if OW cheated on XH so he can see what it feels like.

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 652 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC

jstbreathe♀ 40829Member # 40829

Posted: 9:03 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

May the fleas of a thousand camels infect their genitals.

The trust of the innocent is the liar's most useful tool.
Stephen King
Me: BW
Him: WH
Married: 18 years
2 sons, 11&15
Trying to R

Posts: 165 | Registered: Sep 2013

kourt090♀ 34926Member # 34926

Posted: 9:29 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

If I could pick the karma then I would be able to have total control of the karma with no legal ramifications. This would strictly be for AP. Think Law Abiding Citizen.......

Kourt090

Posts: 301 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Utah

HardenMyHeart♂ 15902Member # 15902

Posted: 9:32 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

I would wish for peace, happiness and contentment for my FWW. That one day she will be able to put an end to her emotional suffering.

Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.

Posts: 5951 | Registered: Aug 2007

Brandon808♂ 35619Member # 35619

Posted: 9:48 PM, December 15th (Sunday), 2013

For xww I just wish she'd get healthy for my step-daughter's sake.

xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4272 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast

LoveHerStill♂ 31504Member # 31504

Posted: 1:55 AM, December 16th (Monday), 2013

I wish that OM would do to XWW exactly what she did to me. Cheat on her for 6 months, then abandon her and move in with OW while he divorced her, while lying to everyone about it, then marry the OW on XWW's birthday, and cut contact with her. XWW is terrified of being alone and this would scare the shit out of her. It would also hopefully help her understand the living hell I was forced to endure.

Although I believe no one should ever endure infidelity, I believe that it is the only way XWW would ever "get it."