Comments on: ARA: I’m struggling with turning 40http://blog.timesunion.com/ontheedge/ara-im-struggling-with-turning-40/49851/
What's trending in your life, and in oursMon, 30 Mar 2015 18:59:46 +0000hourly1http://wordpress.org/?v=3.8.3By: tomhttp://blog.timesunion.com/ontheedge/ara-im-struggling-with-turning-40/49851/comment-page-1/#comment-605450
Fri, 22 Feb 2013 07:17:09 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-605450It is fine with so many people saying they have kids… I am a man and while people say (at least you are not a woman at 40), I still am having trouble turning 40, single, and without kids. I just went through my 5th break up in 10 years and never thought about my age. Some of the past years since 35 I have been in both happy and also deep states of depression trying to work out relationships that kept crashing. I can say if as some people with these posts that I was able to “Restart at 36″ and be prepared for 40,… (as oposed to waking up form relationship depressions and comas from the past 4 years)… or if I had children young, then heck I would just enjoy life at 40 now also…. fact is I just woke up from 4 years of living trying to sort out relationship with other people and Im tired of relationships draining me. I want to be alone for a while… but afraid if I wait too long I will have to settle in the future on a partner i dont really feel much for in order to have kids and marry a woman still able to have kids. (if i had kids already, i would be fine also as most of you who are posting)Help with advice? Thanks…
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Sat, 29 Dec 2012 22:16:16 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-476499I just turned 40 and admit for me it is not the best feeling. However f0r me me forty means victory. I became a widow in 2010 and not only am I a widow but I am a widow with 9 children. My husband died of congestive heart failure and I had to start completely over at the age of 36. I went back to school and I am currently a 40 year old student embarking on a new career as a registered dietican. I can not waste time any longer being concerned about the number “40″ life must still go on. I have taken some hits in my life through this struggle, and I am now embracing 40 as a new beginning. Hope this helps someone else who is struggling with turning 40. My 40th was in November 2012.
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Sun, 14 Oct 2012 17:37:18 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-375197Very near 40 myself and feeling for the first time a disconnect with twenty somethings. I guess it’s in some ways natural. I enjoy the company of people my age or older. I don’t social network or have an ipod. I still read the newspapers and write letters to people. I miss being the center of attention as we are when we are young but we all have to age. I lost a good friend to systic fibrosis at age 21 so I think about that too. It’s a bit of a downer. I never really gave age much thought until about two years ago. I’m hoping I can forget the clock and focus on what I can control. I’m surprised and a little mad at myself for feeling down.
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Fri, 20 Jul 2012 16:16:46 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-329536Is it the anonymity of being a blog-commenter that gives people the gall to be so nasty — i.e. “Get over it. Stop whining, you self-absorbed narcissist”? Name calling? Really?
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Thu, 19 Jul 2012 19:55:21 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-328945@34-Ann “when I turn 29 for the 11th time”…hahaha, too funny!
]]>By: Annhttp://blog.timesunion.com/ontheedge/ara-im-struggling-with-turning-40/49851/comment-page-1/#comment-328912
Thu, 19 Jul 2012 18:35:20 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-328912Though funny, I disagree with #9 and #20 too.

It’s the opportunity to celebrate yourself. Rarely do I, myself, do this but when I turn 29 for the 11th time, I will pamper myself or do or go somewhere exciting.

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Thu, 19 Jul 2012 18:05:00 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-328899As many have pointed out, it’s just a number. Get over it. Live a good life without a yardstick or a checklist. Do the things you want to do, not bec they are on a list of things that you think you should have done.
]]>By: Kerosenahttp://blog.timesunion.com/ontheedge/ara-im-struggling-with-turning-40/49851/comment-page-1/#comment-328890
Thu, 19 Jul 2012 17:51:11 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-328890Look at a new decade as a new chapter in which you get to start “fresh.” Make some goals for the coming years and think about what sorts of adventures you’d like to have.

As for a celebration, do what you like best. Everyone’s different. I’d like to go out for dinner at a favorite restaurant with friends or family. Maybe take the whole day off and treat myself to a pedicure and some shopping too.

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Thu, 19 Jul 2012 17:04:41 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-328872Embrace it! You’re lucky to be alive, healthy and surrounded by people who love you. There are some that never make it to see 40.

I say do whatever you want that makes you feel special. Whether it involves a 5 lb. bag of M&Ms, or a freefall from a plane, go for it.

Moving forward, make a promise to yourself to have no regrets in the future. Take steps to grow spiritually, intellectually and physically. Learn from the challenges, and soar through the fun times with a great big smile. It’s so unfortunate that society has cramped everyone’s style by creating drama and stress around a number. Make it your day, and… Happy Birthday!

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Thu, 19 Jul 2012 15:14:25 +0000http://blog.timesunion.com/kristi/?p=49851#comment-328827I’m looking at 50 in a month, you know what it is just a number.
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