Archive for February 2013

Where do I start? This has me numb. A nine-year-old boy has ended his life because of bullying. You wouldn’t know it by reading this, but just typing that caused me to walk away from the keyboard for a bit in order to re-collect my thought. It’s truly that mind-numbing. Focus.

As hard as it is to wrap ones brain around, 9-year-old Aaron Dugmore, ended his life after being relentlessly bullied at school for being…white!!!According to news sources, the school that Aaron was attending was 75% “different ethnic background”.

Aaron was threatened with a plastic knife by one Asian pupil, who warned him: ‘Next time it will be a real one.’

He was also allegedly told by another pupil that ‘all the white people should be dead’ and he was forced to hide from the bullies in the playground at lunchtime. (source: u.k.dailymail)

This is too much. My mind doesn’t want to go here. Focus. Aaron Dugmore committed suicide at age 9because of what amounts to racist bullying. Racist bullying that, once again!, nothing was done to prevent. It’s not just in this country: it’s a worldwide lack of caring!! That lack of caring breeds inaction. The inaction allows the bullying to continue to fester and the suicides to continue to mount. Aaron Dugmore was 9!! Where does this end? Where is the line drawn!?

“I went to see [the school principal] a few times, but he only said, ‘You didn’t have to come to this school, you chose to come here’.”

You tell a parent who is coming to you out of concern that her nine-year-old son is being constantly bullied, and instead of acting upon her complaint and concern, “you didn’t have to come to this school, you chose to come here. You blame her for her choice in schools. Then, the nine-year-old son ends up dead because he felt, at nine-years-old!!!, helpless and hopeless. No matter how you attempt to spin it, the death of this 9-year-old boy is on your hands for life. That, unfortunately, won’t bring Aaron back to his family, will it? Holding this callous “school administrator” responsible (which I sincerely hope is done!) won’t put that smile back on his face and back into the hearts of his parents. Finding these young racists who bullied Aaron to the point of no return and expelling them from school as well as holding them legally accountable for his death won’t bring him back, either. All of the above would be a great place to start; however, all of the options are reactive as opposed to being proactive. And, as long as we continue to be reactive in our response to these tragedies, this epidemic will continue to escalate.

If I had the one, definitive answer that would end this once and for all, it would’ve ended years ago. Rather, I do have some ideas that I think would make an enormous difference in the culture we’re seeing today. There are certainly things that could, and should,be done that will make a difference:

An absolute must has to be accountability. The current culture of “there are no reported incidents…” has to come to an abrupt end. In the majority of these cases, the bullying has been reported to “school officials”. In a recent case, it was even well-documented! In the case of Aaron Dugmore, however, his mother was told that she “chose to send him” to that school, which is to absolve themselves of any responsibility and place the blame on the mother! Teachers, and school administrators, are responsible for the safety and well-being of the students in their care. Period. If they are unable to provide them a safe environment, they need to find another profession. Too many lives are being affected by their negligence. And, needless to say, far too many lives are being lost.

There needs to be accountability for the parents of the bullies, as well. That bullying is leading some to a lifetime of emotional problems is very well-documented. Even in the cases where the bullying doesn’t lead to teen suicide, the emotional scars run very deep. And, then there are the instances where the bullying does lead to suicide! The bullies need to be identified, and their parents need to be held just as accountable as the child who committed the act of bullying. Some will say that’s easier said than done. I say not. It all starts in the home. One of two things are occurring: either the home environment is one that fosters and promotes bullying, of the lack of parental control is such that these young people are free to do as they please, with no worry of consequences. In either case, the results are far-reaching and devastating.

Most importantly, the young person(s) involved in acts of bullying absolutely must be held accountable. In Maryland, just yesterday, a 15-year-old boy was sentenced to 35 years for shooting one of his schoolmates on the first day of school. No one died, and the shooting victim is back in school. Aaron Dugmore can’t go back to school. Neither can the many, many other victims of suicide because of bullying. His actions didn’t kill anyone, yet the 15-year-old teenager here in Maryland will be in prison until his 40s at the earliest. The actions of some of these bullies are leading directly to the death of their victims, yet they are not being held accountable!!! How are we, as a society, continuing to allow that to happen? Am I saying that all bullies need to be locked up for decades? Of course not. What I am saying, though, is that as long as they know (and, understand that they are well aware!) that there will be no consequences for their actions of intolerance and, in some cases, hatred, they have no reason to even reconsider their actions.

It’s time to get very serious about the bullying and related youth suicide issue that we’re seeing. Bemoaning another loss and mourning their death is a perfectly natural response; however, it’s time to demand action that will prevent this from continuing to happen. Right now, with the climate currently in place, we’re seeing a lot for posturing. Smoke and mirrors. Ineffective “zero tolerance” anti-bullying policies, policies that look great on paper and sound really good to tell parents and the media, but do absolutely nothingto address this continuing problem. And, sadly, the only way this is going to end is for you, the concerned parents and citizens, to stand up, make sure your voices are heard as you tell them that you’ve had enough of reading about yet another young person ending his/her life because of bullying. Tell them how empty your home, and your heart, is without your young son or daughter who was bullied to the point where they saw no other way out but to end their life. There really is power in numbers.

You’ve read it here many times before. The school “officials” and administrators absolutely must be held accountable in cases of bullying especiallywhen it results in the suicide death of the one being bullied. Of course, their “out” is always, always, always,“there are no documented incidents of bullying…”. Well, now there are.Miguel Rodriquez was just 12-years-old when he ended his life. He had suffered brutal bullying from schoolmates that his mother acted upon and documented.

“My son Miguel Rodriguez is a victim of constant bullying. Since he started school at West Hernando he has been shoved from behind while on his knees, kicked in his privates, kicked in his head, name calling, constantly being hit and thrown with a full water bottle to his face. All these incidents have been reported, documented and in some cases handled.” (Hernando Today)

“Kicked in his privates”. “Kicked in his head”. “Boys will be boys”.

In a complaint filed by Miguel on Nov. 10, 2011, he writes how someone dropped a pencil, and when he went to pick it up, was kicked in the genitals by another student. He was sent to a clinic where it was determined he did not have blood in his urine, refused ice treatment, and if still in pain could have his mother pick him up.

School officials dismissed this as “horseplay”.

In another complaint filed by Miguel on Dec. 8, 2011, he writes how a rubber band was flicked at him, and when he went to pick up the rubber band, was kicked in the head by another student. Miguel was again sent to the clinic where ice was applied to his head, his mother notified, and a “head injury” form provided.

With this being a separate incident, it was shrugged off, again, as horseplay “…by two different boys”.

Another Dec. 13, 2012 statement by a guidance counselor at the school describes a verbal argument that took place between Miguel and peers, noting that Miguel’s mother would be notified should the dispute continue.

Miguel said the dispute did continue, [his mother] said, although she was never notified.

If you think this is an exception, think again. This is the rule!! This is how this instances of bullying are being handled all around the country and probably around the developed world. What makes this stand out is that Miguel’s mother has documented proof against the school officials claims of “…no incidents [of reported bullying] documented”. Miguel did what he’s been told to do when there’s bullying involved: he reported it to an adult. Miguel’s mother did everything she was supposed to do as a parent: she became rigorously involved, and she very wisely documented everything that was going on. Yet, it didn’t stop the bullying from happening. And, because it didn’t stop the bullying, it didn’t stop Miguel from ending his life.

What this finally gives us a very clear illustration of is something I, for one, have been saying for quite a while now: “they” simply don’t care about bullying!! To many, including many school officials, law enforcement officials, even parents, the “boys will be boys”, “kids will be kids” is very prevalent. With that attitude firmly entrenched in our society, it’s no wonder we’re seeing a redundancy not just in the instances of bullying but, just as importantly, the response from people who shouldbe making a difference.

The way I see it, some people think that fighting it is stupid, and some say they hate bullying, but they really don’t care. We need to get more people to REALLY care.

It’s really as simple as that. Regardless of your own personal beliefs, if a child is coming to you and complaining that (s)he is being bullied, for whatever reason, that complaint needs to be taken seriously!! It needs to be taken as seriously as them telling you that one of their classmates brought a gun to school and threatened him or her. It’s that serious! Why? Because in some cases, as it was with Miguel Rodriquez, it may have well beena gun brought to school!! The results are the same. His life is still over.

Make no mistake: this type of inaction has been going on for as long as I can remember!! It’s always been much easier for these teachers, principles, law enforcement agencies to shrug it off, to look the other way, to write it off to “boys being boys”, “kids being kids”, or “horseplaying”. But, when the kid who complained ends up dead, please figure out a way to explain…not to me but to the families of these young people you failed to take seriously and protect…how that was “boys being boys”, “kids being kids”, or “horseplaying”. Said another facebook blog page member:

…sounds like one of the administrators at the high school I went to when I was attacked. She SOOO didn’t believe I was attacked when you could see the bruises already and my hair was messed up and clothes were dirty. And to top it off, they hid the truth. They covered up what happened.

There absolutely must be accountability, especially in the event of a suicide. There has to be some ramifications for parents having to live the rest of their lives with the pain of not having their son or daughter in their lives anymore because a.) their schoolmate thought it was fun or cool to verbally, emotionally, or sometimes physically abuse them to the point where they couldn’t take it anymore; and, b.) no one in a position of authority did anything to remedy the situation. There. Must. Be. Accountability.

Miguel’s mother has the documentation that proves that she did everything she was supposed to do to protect her son, and the school simply dropped the ball. My hope is that this is the starting point for the necessary change. It is also my hope that someone is held accountable for this tragedy.

Bullying, and bully-related suicide, isn’t restricted to the U.S. borders. It’s happening worldwide. The stories and the circumstances really don’t vary that much: one or more misguided kid dealing with his or her own self-esteem issues, or just trying to fit in, verbally, emotionally, or sometimes physically abuses one of their peers to the point where that peer can’t take anymore and ends his/her life. Add to that, the “official” response to it is also quite universal…to the point of frustration.Joshua James Maddox was a month away from celebrating his 16th birthday. He apparently dealt with Attention Deficit Hyper Disorder for which he “suffered months of cruel taunts from classmates“. He also had a girlfriend who was two years younger than himself, for which he was labeled and “paedo” and, again, taunted brutally.

The list continues to grow.

We’re no closer to a solution today than we were last year at this time.

I woke up earlier this week to a voicemail from a distraught, tearful mother who had just lost her young son to yet another bully-related suicide. It was heartbreaking to hear the depth of her pain. Through my own tears, I was reminded how real this is and how devastated families are following these tragedies. I was reminded that we need to be doing much, much more to prevent this from continuing to happen.

Here’s the deal: this is not going to get any better until we truly reach the point where we say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! and truly mean it. It’s that simple. Parents of the bullies must be held accountable for their kids actions, especially when their child’s actions lead to the death of another child. The bullies, themselves, must be held accountable, especially when their actions lead to the death of another person. The school “officials” absolutely must be held accountable when they fail to take action to prevent bullying to continue to fester in their classrooms and schools. The only way out of this is total accountability! As long as no one has to answer for these life-changing tragedies, they are going to continue to happen.

I want young people to see what effect bullying can have and educate them better about how to deal with children who have mental health issues.

I think bullies need a stronger punishment, I feel deep down that nothing will be done about this and I worry it could happen to another family.

Those are the words of Joshua’s heartbroken mother, but they could be the words of many, many other mothers, and fathers, of past suicide victims whose child had endured insufferable bullying. They are also the words that are now being echoed around this country and around the world. There HAS to be accountability!!!

It’s becoming increasingly hard for me to believe anything other than the fact that these bullies simply do not care about human life. They have no regards for the lives of others. Bullying and bully-related suicides are in the news with such regularity, the only way to not know what’s going on is to live with your head tucked safely in a place where the sun doesn’t typically reach.

There are still those who say that these young bullies should face no punishment, that they should not be held accountable when their actions lead directly to one of their schoolmates ends his/her life. There are still those who say that we need to coddle the bullies because they are dealing with issues, themselves. To those people, I will simply say tell that to some of these parents who are now left with unfathomable grief, with a gaping hole right in the middle of their hearts and lives, for the rest of their lives!! Explain to the grieving mother who just told me, through tears, that she just wants to hear her son sing again that his bullies shouldn’t be held accountable. Tell Joshua’s parents that the bullies who tormented her son because he had ADHD and a girlfriend 2 years younger than himself that no one should be held accountable for her having to live the rest of her life without her talented son. You can’t. And, you know why you can’t? Easy answer. You can’t because you’re speaking theoretically. You would have a much different point of view if this were your own child or someone close to your life. Then, you, too, would want to see heads roll. There hasto be accountability. Anything less than that, and we’re sending the message that these young lives are expendable. They’re certainly not.

The “Sweet 16th” birthday is a milestone that Joshua Maddox won’t get to experience. How much longer are we going to allow this to continue before we finally mean it when we say enough is enough!!!???

On Sunday, January 13th, George “Buddy” Peterson surrendered to the nonstop bullying he’d been subjected to. At age 13, he ended his life.On the facebook blog page, one of Buddy’s relatives described him:

Buddy was an amazing kid..almost to a fault….He was such a cute, witty, funny, talented true friend

The accolades don’t end there. The online obituary for Buddy had this to say:

Buddy had such a thirst for knowledge and discovery, he was always ready to invent “the next greatest thing”. He loved to draw and had an amazing talent for art, and had great computer ability.

Buddy was a bright, shining star in the lives of his family and friends. He had a life full of enormous potential and possibilities ahead of him. But, like many of those who went before him, he couldn’t get past the bullied he endured.

If ever there was a case of bullying and bullycide that screamed for investigation and accountability, this is the one. There are a few very disturbing facts involved that require full attention:

It is known by the school, who was responsible for the relentless bullying that Buddy endured.

His parents did everything the right way and was at the school regularly. They were told that the boys responsible for the bullying would be removed from the school. That never happened.

Because of technicalities in the Utah school districting laws, Buddy was not permitted to change school districts until the end of the school year. Instead, he was forced to stay there and continue to endure the abuse he was receiving.

It goes even deeper than that, actually. In what is becoming a disturbing trend, it appears that Buddy’s mother took all the right steps, reported everything that needed to be reported, was persistent in trying to protect her son, but the school system failed her. And, ultimately, Buddy.

Earlier, there was a bit of a debate about bullying on the facebook blog page. A couple of people were voicing the opinion that those who are being bullied should “get a backbone” and “stand up to their bully”, that would make the bullying magically disappear. That’s a great, macho response. And, perhaps, it’s worked for some. But, rest assured that that is not the way we’re going to overcome this menace that’s claiming so many lives. Buddy Peterson is a prime example of why that mentality, that “solution”, is grossly ineffective. Buddy Peterson was a second-degree Black Belt in the Martial Art of Tae Kwon Do. A second degree Black Belt. Being able to defend himself was certainly not an issue. Yet, the bullying he endured was too much for him to handle. Why? Simple answer: the bullying Buddy Peterson endured had nothing to do with physical bullying. He wasn’t being physically attacked or pushed around. Rather, his torture was of the psychological and emotional brand.

“All he wanted to do was go to school and fit in”, said his mother, Karen.

It’s time to have a very open and honest discussion about bullying. I don’t mean engaging your CAP LOCK and typing “BULLYING SUCKS” or “STOP BULLYING”. We’ve seen how effective that is. It’s time to really have a much deeper, broader conversation about:

What bullying truly is;

What are the long-term effects of bullying;

How do we prevent it?

It’s obvious that the bullying prevention programs that are currently in place in schools today are largely ineffective. Zero tolerance has proven to have no meaning. It’s still going on on a regular basis, little-to-nothing is being done about it, and these young people are still ending their lives because of it. I’m not okay with that. No one should be!

One thing that’s become obvious is that bullying has many different faces. It’s not just the name calling, it’s the physical abuse. It’s not only emotional warfare, it’s exclusionary actions. Talk to 10 different people, you’ll get 8 different answers. That’s the U.S. trying to tackle Al Qaeda. We know it’s there, we see the devastating harm it does, there’s no specific place to go to fight and eradicate it. In the homes? In schools, with better bully prevention measures in place? In schools, with more, and more stringent!, accountability for the school staff? With the students?

As I see it, the starting point is no mystery, actually. THIS HAS TO START WITH THE ADULTS!! What we’re seeing in the schools with the young people is simply a manifestation of what they are learning, either directly or indirectly, from the adult influences in their lives. It’s. That. Simple. What’s not as simply, however, is expecting all adults to simultaneously and instantaneously change their behaviors so that they’re being better, more positive role models for the young. Negative, spiteful people will always be around. So, to combat this at its core, it has to be done in the homes. That is where the ball is being dropped. Period. And, that dropped ball is costing lives.

There’s still more that needs to be done. Starting in the homes only attacks the head of the beast. Meanwhile, in every single school across this country, and around the world, there’s bullying going on right now, as I type this. And, at least one of those cases of bullying will lead to another teen suicide! Will…not “might”. This war on bullying will be won in the homes, with the parents. However, this war’s “battlefield” is the classroom, the school bus, the school yard, the cell phone, the Internet. That’s where it needs to be “contained”. And, the only way that’s ever going to happen is we mustget serious about ending this path of destruction we’re on.

School officials must be held accountable for what’s happening inside of the schools and classrooms;

The bullies, especially when the bully or bullies are readily identifiable, must be held accountable. That’s an absolute;

More, and better, resources must be readily available for those who are being bullied;

And, if my child were being cyberbullied, that’s an easy one: their computer usage if restricted to “in common area only” and is heavily monitored. Period. Their cell phones would no longer have texting capability.

It’s a matter of life and death. To look at it any differently is to invite this to continue to escalate. I, for one, don’t want to see that happen. This is war. The battlefield is the classrooms, the hallways, the school yard, the school bus, the Internet, the cell phones. The troops on the front line are your kids!!!

The U.S. is winning the war against Al Qaeda. We’re going to win the war against bullying. It’s time to stop shaking our collective heads and saying “this has to stop” and get busy with the business of making it stop.

It’s really not getting any better. This one is as painful as they come. Hailey Petee was 11-years-old. Eleven years old! The preteen girl from London, Ohio ended her life over the weekend. Her lifeless body was found by her mother very early Sunday morning.I don’t even know where to start.

It is reported that the London, Ohio school district is very proactive when it comes to bullying. In fact, officials as well as Hailey’s mother have said that the bullying she endured didn’t occur in school or on the school grounds. Rather, she was apparently severely bullied by middle-schoolers while riding her school bus. Her mother explains that Hailey was tormented by these middle-schoolers on the school bus as well as around town. It became so bad, they had to change Hailey’s bus route to avoid them. Further, she was also restricted on where she could go around town, and with whom. “She couldn’t even go to the park anymore”, says her grieving mother. Apparently, even that wasn’t enough.

One of the bullies was an adult, a “neighborhood woman who had a daughter Hailey’s age”:

A neighborhood woman who has a daughter Hailey’s age was charged in October with disorderly conduct and telephone harassment. According to the police report, she had been yelling and cursing at Hailey when she saw the girl outside, and she had been taunting the family on Facebook. (The Columbus Dispatch)

Hailey Petee reportedly hated to wear the thick-framed glasses she was forced to wear in order to see. They were a source of her harassment. She was a very pretty young lady, glasses or no.

So, now what? Here’s a case where the parents were proactive and did what any good parent would do to protect the welfare of their child. It wasn’t enough. The school system at least appears to be one of the few proactive systems that actually takes bullying very seriously and takes action when they hear of incidences of bullying. It wasn’t enough!

Increasingly, people seem to be coming to the realization that one step that hasto be implemented is there absolutely hasto be some sort accountability placed on these people who are determined to wreak havoc on other people’s lives. They know what they’re doing is wrong! They know what they’re doing is malicious! They know that bullying is leading some to suicide! Yet, the continue to do it anyway! Why? Well, there’s no one right answer; however, there are a few that comes immediately to mind:

they know that there will be no consequences;

they just don’t care;

no one is taking the time to teach them any better;

their older role models (parents, older siblings, older friends) are showing them, by example, that it’s okay to be a bullying. It doesn’t matter what you do or say to another human being, even if it mean they end up committing suicide.

Dispute any one of those, and I’ll tell you you’re not paying attention to what’s going on. It’s really that simple. We are a society in great turmoil. It’s hard to convince young people that bullying is wrong when they continuously see adults in their lives do it. Role models. Parents. Teachers, in some cases. Politicians. Religious leaders. Look around you!! There are great examples of “it’s okay to bully others” in our faces every single day…by adults! I’ll continue to say this until I’m blue in the face that in order to address this epidemic, what must start with the adults. Period. There is just no other way out of this.

Even on the facebook blog page, a page that is dedicated to a.) this blog; and, b.) raising anti-bullying awareness, it’s split 60/40, with the 40% being of the “suck-it-up-and-grow-a-backbone” mentality. That gives you a snapshot of how deep-rooted this problem is. How can we begin to work on teaching these young people that bullying is just plain wrong, how can we think about saving these young people from ending their lives, if we can’t come together, ourselves, as adults, on finding a solution? Meanwhile, the young people are watching…and, listening. And, we’re continuing to see the sad results of our indecisiveness. WE need to figure this out!

I often get the argument “I was bullied when I was in school, but I didn’t kill myself! There’s always been bullying. These kids today are just soft.” Someone posted a similar comment last night. My response is worth repeating here:

Yes, make no mistake: bullying has ALWAYS been around…in one form or another. Here’s the difference with today’s kids, and bullying. You and I couldn’t send texts; you and I couldn’t tweet; you and I didn’t have facebook; there was no Ask.fm. WE DIDN’T HAVE THE INTERNET! The Internet has changed EVERYTHING!!! For starters, yes, today’s youth’s coping skills aren’t what ours were back then. You know why? Because they don’t get enough opportunity to interact, read: cope, in REAL LIFE!!!! Everything is OMG!!!, LOL!!!!, etc. These kids live their lives in the cyber-world. So, naturally, their coping skills are lagging from when you and I were in school. (thank GOD there was no Internet back then!!!!) Secondly, and this is important to understand, bullying in our day had a whole different face than bullying does today. I dealt with the schoolyard bullies, push you around, call you names, take your lunch money…the typical stuff back then. Big deal. Once the last bell rang for the day, WE WERE FREE!!!! We went home, we did our homework (maybe), then we were outside playing with our friends. That was then. Once again, today’s youth are cyber-kids. Therefore, bullying has the potential of being a 24/7 ordeal. Texts don’t end at the last bell of the day; tweets don’t stop just because they’re no longer in school; facebook status updates and comments proliferate after school for these kids. The bullying has the potential of NEVER ending!! We absolutely must stop comparing their world to ours if we’re ever going to figure this out. Two completely different worlds! These kids are in serious trouble unless, and until, we adults figure something out.

We, the adults, are failing these young people miserably. They looking to us to lead them out of this disaster, and we’re dropping the ball. Again, and again, and again. In young Hailey’s case, it seems that everyone actually did do everything they could to prevent it from coming to this. It just didn’t work out that way. Now, they must go that next step and identify these youngsters who mercilessly bullied Hailey and make certain that they are held accountable for their actions. There’s no other way. As long as they realize that nothing is going to happen to them, they will continue doing what they’re doing. And, we’ll continue losing one young life after another. We can do better. We owe it to this generation to do better.

By now, Jadin Bell’s name isn’t news to anyone. The story began to circulate even before he had taken his last breath. Days before that, one of his relatives who is also a member of the facebook blog page had told about this tragic turn of events. We knew this day was coming.Jadin Bell was just 15. He was vibrant. He was a cheerleader. He was bullied, “viciously”, both at school and online, because of his sexuality. Jadin’s suicide is particularly troubling for me on a few levels:

It has a “hit’s home” feel because his relative had been talking to me about even before the Internet media machine picked up on the story. His relative has been a part of the facebook blog page for quite some time. Family;

It shows that for all of the historic and marvelous gains the LGBT community has made just over the past year, we still have so very far to go.

It, at once, saddens and angers me that, in 2013, we’re still dealing with bullying and intolerance to a point where young people feel no other way out but to end their lives.

The question is asked regularly: “When will this end?” It’s often accompanied by “What can I do to help make this stop?” They are two very powerful questions, questions that must be answered before we can expect to see any real changes in this landscape of bullying, intolerance, sexual identification discrimination, and teen suicides. Of course, there are more factors that must be dealt with, as well. The point is clear: more must be done!

“When will this end?” “This” will end when more people become fed up with seeing these young people feel that the only option they have to end the pain and struggle they’re dealing with is to end their lives. “This” will end when we, as a society, stop tip-toeing around the scoundrel named bullying and tackle it head-on. “This” will end when can finally come together on what is the best way to address the issue of bullying and bully-related teen suicides. We’re still miles apart on that part of the equation!

There is something inherently wrong with the way we’re teaching our young when middle-schoolers believe that bullies are the cool kids!!! Yet, an article I read just today reports a study that says exactly that! Surely, tackling the bullying issue in middle school will continue to be difficult, at best, as long as the students there believe that the bullies are the cool ones.

“What can I do to help…” Get involved!! Roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty. There is a Jacob Rogers right there under your nose who just needs someone to let him know that he really does matter, that he’s not invisible, that there really is someone who will stand beside him as he tries to get his footing in life. There is a Jadin Bell right there in your backyard that needs someone to let him know that he’s perfect just as he is, that he has a lot to offer the world, that the bullying he’s enduring right now will end.

See, this isn’t rocket science! What’s needed is for more people to become more deeply and directly involved in the business of saving these young people’s lives. Period! Is your son or daughter a bully? How do you know? “Because they said they’re not!” Really? How do you know? You need to know in order to prevent it. Is your child being cyberbullied? Then, why on Earth is (s)he still online!? Simple things. What is needed is for more people to become more deeply and directly involved in the business of saving these young people’s lives. Period!Jadin was a cheerleader. He was loved by his friends and, obviously, family. One friend said of Jadin:

Jadin is one of the best people I have ever met. He makes everyone around him feel good all the time.

A friend of the family had this to say about him:

He was different, and they tend to pick on the different ones. If someone was down and out he would walk into a room and say a couple quick words and everybody would just forget about their problems and smile. He just had a gift.

“He just had a gift”, a gift that the world has been robbed of. Enough really is enough. This really does have to end. The time really has come for us, as a society, to dig in, roll up our sleeves, get our hands dirty, and bring this torturous chapter to a screeching halt.

So sorry you felt no other way out, Jadin. Rest in peace.

******************SUICIDE IS NOT AN OPTION!! TALK TO SOMEONE…PLEASE!!!!******************