Dealing with pregnant coworkers

I miscarried a month ago and have been feeling better about things until one of my coworkers announced her pregnancy today. She's super early (we all went drinking Friday, she got hammered, & found out Sunday) and got pregnant on her first try. Work was my safe place where I could go and forget about the sadness - today I just wanted to cry all day.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips on dealing with this. I can avoid her but only for so long. And I know her, soon it will be nonstop baby blabber. I'm happy for her but my heart hurts thinking I wish it were me. I'm just not sure what to do.

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Sorry for your loss.... My. Coworker and I had the same exact due date, so when I lost my baby at 19 weeks I had to deal with seeing her rub her baby in my face. Which she did purposely... I won't get into that. I had to watch her wobble around during her 8th month, I couldn't wait for her to leave. Now I'm just waiting for her to come in showing her baby girl off :( and no one will ever meet my little girl. Some have already forgotten her.

I feel ya on this one all my sisters and friends are pregnant and its people i cant just avoid they would all freak out if i did some times thoe i wish i could just leave or move some where for a year or two im very close with my sisters we use to call eachother evrey day and talk about our pregnancys and now that iv lost my baby boy i feel left out and annoyed when i see them and even talkn with them im deeply jealous and i know its only natural but it sucks i wish i knew how to get passed this one too :(

These women have a right to be happy for their pregnancies, but they really have no idea what we go thru when they share their happiness with us, what is so hard about understanding why we feel bad when we find out they are expecting and we are the ones with the loss? I just don't get it, especially OurAngel511's coworker, really lady? you showing of your pregnancy in front of someone that suffer a loss? how dare you? she a total B*tch if you ask me.

As far as dealing with the coworker, I just tried to ignore their bellies, or even avoid them as much as I can, there were 4 pregnant women @ my job, I lost my daughter and one already gave birth, I just try to ignore the other 2 that are left. Hang in there mama you will be alright, we are here for you whenever you want to vent.

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My daughter Angel born too early (21 wks) and went to heaven on 07/09/12.