if old chubby man buys me expensive house and car for marriage then i will be happy.
if old chubby man buys me expensive jewelry and furniture after marriage i will be very happy.
if old chubby man buys me expensive clothes, all the handbags i want, all the shoes that i want, then i will be very very happy.
if old chubby man and i have a child, then i will love that child.... and one day i will slowly love that old chubby man too.
so the way i see it money does equal love.

i'm messed up that way. wow.. too much yaoi!

That means that relatively 'Old Chubby Man' has invested alot of his own dough on you.

Romantic love is a feeling that need to be delicately handled and nutured with time. The more one pushes for progression, the more damage can be done. It's the same for outside pressure from friends and family as well - the more chances others try to deliberately create(like really lame coincidence or fate encounters BS), the worse it becomes.

Just let love grow slowly and naturally, the more strong and well founded it becomes. See it as a plant, you take the time to water and trim it, and it grows up great! You dunk in too much fertiliser or hormones, you get either a dead plant or a horrid looking stinky plant!

"Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self."
Cyril Connolly

Romantic love is a feeling that need to be delicately handled and nutured with time. The more one pushes for progression, the more damage can be done. It's the same for outside pressure from friends and family as well - the more chances others try to deliberately create(like really lame coincidence or fate encounters BS), the worse it becomes.

Just let love grow slowly and naturally, the more strong and well founded it becomes. See it as a plant, you take the time to water and trim it, and it grows up great! You dunk in too much fertiliser or hormones, you get either a dead plant or a horrid looking stinky plant!

One of the worst things is that the mass media so badly misrepresent what it is to the most vulnerable audience: YOUTH, and elders do an equally bad job of warning them what it is and what it isn't.

One of the worst things is that the mass media so badly misrepresent what it is to the most vulnerable audience: YOUTH, and elders do an equally bad job of warning them what it is and what it isn't.

Its often the confusion between passion and love that fuels the downfall of a relationship - like comparing who loves who more, or acting selfishly as if the whole world just revolved around the two lovers, or comparing them with exs. That's why there are so many bad breakups and divorces. Just stop comparing, think about other people and interact naturally.

Another Archille's Heel is the misbelief that there can only be one true love in one's lifetime. That is a load of nonsense. Each feeling is unique due to the stage of life the person is experiencing. Just cos your partner had a very close lover is the past does not mean that his/her feelings for you are not real. And don't expect people that have a clean slate in terms of romantic history
to be the best lovers. Often they are immature and do not know how to carry out their actions of love. The past is the past. Let it be and enjoy your time together.

"Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self."
Cyril Connolly

Did you ever heard of a phrase from the Cantonese "El Shen Em Shui Pao"?
It means "with love, water can feed the hunger".

Originally Posted by charbydis

Just cos your partner had a very close lover is the past does not mean that his/her feelings for you are not real. And don't expect people that have a clean slate in terms of romantic history to be the best lovers. Often they are immature and do not know how to carry out their actions of love. The past is the past. Let it be and enjoy your time together.

While people who have a clean history are not perfect, they are better than people with a long history. At the very least, people who have clean history are pure and clean. The past matter, it defines the present.