How old do children need to be to be tested or treated for this (ADHD/ODD)? Four major explosions already today and it's not even noon. Hitting, throwing silverware at me. Can't stop moving, can't stop speaking. Nothing I say penetrates. NOTHING. We go through this every day. She fights evewrything no matter how small. She argues everything. EVERYTHING. Even things that don't matter. Example: I say "I like this song". She says, "NO YOU DON'T, I DO. It's MY SONG." That's for the stuff that doesn't matter. When I make a request of her. Like, "let's go in the bathroom and brush or teeth", or "It's time to brush teeth". She screams hits me, throws things at me. EVERYDAY.Her father has been diagnosed with ADHD. I know it's genetic. We have been trying Gluten free/casein free, supplementation, being firm and loving with her. She seems to just be resentful, hostile and hateful, no matter what. She is going on 4 years old. When can she be tested? I am going crazy. I am at home with her. He father goes to work. It's just me, with all of this, every day.

The approach is explained well in this book http://www.amazon.com/All-Children-F.../dp/0967050782 This changed our lives. I can't recommend it enough. Glasser (author's) original approach was made for kids with ODD and ADHD. He then figured out it works for all kids--from the most difficult to the "easy" ones. This is his new book and is much better to read than past ones and the approach has been modified to work even better--specifically with young kids.
His older book http://www.amazon.com/Transforming-D...0679735&sr=1-1 has more reviews as it has been around a lot longer. But the co-author is different and I've been told by multiple people that it is repetitive and hard to get through reading wise. People who have read both definitely recommend the All Children Flourishing book. It is the one I've read. It's the one to get. I hope you'll get it because I think it could make a huge difference in your life and that of your daughter. Quickly if our experience is any indication.

If you want more support or want to learn in a video and electronic way this is another option-- http://www.energyparenting.com/ More expensive but immediate and presumably more direct help. I've not used this--we just got the book.

Rachelle, mommy to 8 year old boys!

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