Becoming the best version of yourself

It Ain’t Rocket Science – – –

You’ve heard the ol’ saying that goes something along the lines of: “Don’t talk the talk if you can’t walk the walk”.

I thought of that when I saw this photo and it’s accompanying sentiment.

How many times have you been frustrated by friends, family or even new acquaintances who just “don’t get it”?

Women going through, or coming out the other side of divorce have a hard time when it comes to having people understand what it’s like. If you haven’t been there, you really can’t understand. You may think you can imagine the horror of it all, but please don’t try to act like you get it. You don’t.

I know you can perceive the pain and the injustice, and we really do appreciate you caring and wanting to help in any way you can. I know when I’ve learned of a tragedy that someone close to me has experienced, I want to be there for them and ease that pain any way that I can. I will never, however, claim to know what they’re going through or how they feel unless I’ve shared that same tragedy.

This harkens back to one of my earliest blogs when I went off about well intentioned people who tell you that you’ve just got to “Move On”! Really? Move on how? Even the GPS in my car knows there’s more than one way to get between point A and point B and the time needed and miles driven are different in every scenario. There are never ending roadblocks on your trip toward recovery that even the GPS can’t get you around.

During your journey when you encounter these people who are trying to help but haven’t seen your path, or walked a mile in your shoes try to be kind back and just thank them. They’ll feel better, surprisingly you’ll feel better for understanding they’re really trying to help. But know deep down that there’s really only one person who understands your path – and that’s you.