'I don't have a love life'

My salary makes me sad and my timings are bad. I don’t have a love life though I have many good friends. I don’t know what to do next with my career. I need something stable financially but my friends think I need to have a stable relationship first to get things in order. What do I do?— Kavin

Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Kavin,You think your life is a wreck but remember there are many people out there who are worse off than you. You can’t spend your days waiting for a good job to find you. God helps those who help themselves — if you want a better deal, start looking for one. If you need love — seek it. You seem to be thinking that everyone else is having fun except you. Life is what you want it to be. You seem to wallow in self-pity. Stop doing it and get going ahead.