It’s in his eyes

11Dec 2017

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It happens in the oddest places. In a gay bar, okay, its expected, but then there’s the train, the sidewalk, the hospital waiting room  even that mega-straight local pub you go to on time out from gay space. You catch an eye. Wherever. What do you do next?

If you’re looking, at least beyond the first split-second, thats already a sign of curiosity. What stops people running with that? Perhaps its the fear if you so much as smile, let alone exchange words, youll be inevitably gay-honour bound to have sex with someone you might not actually like.

If thats the case, theres a simple solution. Smile, wink, wave. Then go and say hi. If everyone did this the fear that you might end up having to have sex would evaporate. You wouldn’t need to keep yourself furtive. Saying hi to people who seem on the whole pretty fit would be a regular human exchange.

Theres a selection of phrases to master. I dont want to have sex with you. Im not really looking right now. Not tonight. I dont fancy you. I have to go and talk to him now.

Its probable you won’t have to use them, but as a last resort its handy to know they’re there. It means youre free to say other things, such as: Hi! How are you?