Would you date someone you know your parents would hate?

I just transferred schools and I met a guy who I'm strangely attracted to. He's cute, but he's basically the total opposite of my type and I'm 100% sure my parents would hate him. I usually only like sweet genuine good guys. He drinks, he smokes, he curses a lot, and a lot of other stuff. He's not a good guy but I like him. I'm 100% sure he likes me too, but I'm not sure that I should invest my time in him because I know he's a bad guy and if we ever got into a serious relationship my parents would hate him. We had a little talk yesterday and I told him why I won't date him becuase he's so immature, and he smokes, drinks, etc. He said he'll "try" to do better. But I doubt it.

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Anonymous

Well, i'm old and my kids are on the cusp of dating.

You need (not just around this guy, but in general), to draw a distinction between:- guys who aren't particularly well behaved- guys who are reckless to an extent that's dangerous- guys who are actually not very nice.

If this guy isn't deep down a decent guy who happens to party more than he maybe should, i wouldn't avoid him (though you don't want to necessarily pick up his lifestyle). If he seems like a decent guy who also gets drunk and drives around or something similar, you should avoid him because he's a time bomb, even if he's a nice guy. And if he's not just a bad boy in image, but actually a jerk, stay the hell away from him because he'll make you miserable.

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When you are old, you will want the love of your life to be with you and one reason is because your parents won't be since they'll be dead. You get into relationships that are best for you, not your parents. Respect them, but they need to respect you too.

Depends on why. I can sympathize with parents disliking a boyfriend for being shiftless or irresponsible, that will cause a lot of trouble in life going forward. I'm in a situation where my parents respect my girlfriend as a person, but are having a hard time coming to terms with the religious difference (I'm Christian, she's Muslim, her family seems cool with it and nobody is trying to convert anyone but my parents are convinced it will happen).

Your parents aren't dating him, you are. Date the guy that makes you happy. Drinking and smoking doesn't make you a bad person, a large percentage of our country does both. If you dont think it would be a good idea you probably shouldn't start it, having a negative outlook on a relationship before it starts is not good, and you shouldn't allow him to change to what you want.

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I know drinking and smoking doesn't make you a bad person. But we're both 16, which makes it illegal, and I'm pretty sure my parents don't want me dating an immature, irresponsible, underaged drinker/smoker.

I don't want to hurt my parents so I am cautious about who I let myself fall for

Sometimes I find myself liking someone that I know my parents won't approve. But the feelings fade away before I can act on them, so nothing like that has happened yet.But I feel like if I ever fall for someone with good character, and compatible guy, then I would most likely be with him.

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Anonymous

It's your life, their opinion doesn't matter. They may have valuable advice, bit in the end, it's up to you.

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