Most Helpful Girl

I don't see what the big deal is as long as she and the ex boyfriend are never alone together. If you're with someone and you get along with their family, that's great. But just because you break up doesn't mean you should stop hanging out with other people that you met through them.

In high school I had a boyfriend who introduced me to his friends and I introduced him to my friends. Our breakup was messy but we still hung out with each others' friends. It was weird and everyone thought so but we liked the people we met so we didn't stop seeing them because we were no longer seeing each other. It's like that.

Also, my most recent ex is still angry with me (and it's been over a year) but his mom still comes into my restaurant to eat and we're very cordial. He hates it but there's nowhere else in town that will prepare a veggie burger so there isn't much he can do.

Long story short, just because a girl has contact with the friends and family of an ex doesn't mean she will go back to him or even consider it. Usually a good relationship with the family is a reason to stay so if she got out anyway then she doesn't want to go back.

What Girls Said 8

I don't think you have any reason to worry. Some girls just really fall in love with peoples' families. Doesn't mean she still has feelings for the guy. :) I still hang out with my ex's family, but only because his cousin has been my close friend since before we ever dated.

If they (the family and the girl) have been friends before the boyfriend came along so yeah it's normal. But if she met the family because of the boyfriend, and still hangs out with them, then I do find it a bit weird. :\

This is not a black and white subject, so it's really difficult to say. Especially since you have given us no background info. For instance, if she goes way back with his family, I wouldn't be at all surprised if she didn't want to cut ties with them. Also, I wouldn't think of it as a big deal if she genuinely is close with them. But I'd start getting red flags if she would hang out there all the time, like several days a week, and if she'd keep talking about it constantly. If you do start getting huge red flags from it, then maybe you should sit down and talk to her about it. But don't be aggressive about it, and don't immediately suspect that she's cheating on you. Just casually ask her what's going on.

What Guys Said 4

Me and my ex girlfriend were together for eight years so our family ties were quite extensive. Even now I visit her parents place and she visits my grand parents place. Of course we have some sort non verbal agreement that we don't drag any kind of significant others if we have them when we meet or talk about any thing strange.

The thing is my ex was part of my life for a good part of a decade and we shared and did a lot of things together so there's bound to situations when we see each other and see people from our past and that's just something my girlfriend (if I ever have another) is going to have to accept that. The same way I have to accept that my girlfriends have their own pasts.

So I would say that if she's seeing her ex's family it's not necessarily a bad thing.

Good luck.

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Anonymous

It depends on the situation, like in mine for instance. My ex cheated, lied and took my son away from me after 7yrs of me raising him basically by myself. Come to find out she was hanging out with some of my friends and family, even living with my cousin and sleeping with one of my friends and I suspect she slept with another friend and possibly slept with 2 of my cousins. I suspect because they almost confessed but chickened out when they saw I was getting upset. I'm just saying if your ex was a piece of shit then when you break up it should be also breaking up with your friends and family. With all that said, my friends and family are the Fd up ones for still talking to her. Now I have few new friends and don't talk to most my family.

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Anonymous

It has happen to me ! We acctully got back together , and were getting married next week !

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Anonymous

It's awkward.

If she will get closer to his family, it might be that you'll be really tripping into something.