Men Can be Inhibited by Porn

One common problem with porn is it gives men strong desire for things they would otherwise not want, or not want nearly as much. This can result in him forever pushing her to do things she finds distasteful, uncomfortable, or wrong. We all understand this, right?

One common problem with porn is it gives men strong desire for things they would otherwise not want, or not want nearly as much. This can result in him forever pushing her to do things she finds distasteful, uncomfortable, or wrong. We all understand this, right?

What you may not know is porn can have almost the opposite effect. I’ve talked to plenty of men who do not want to do certain things with their wife because they saw it in porn and they don’t want to disrespect their wife by doing those things with her. Such a man is holding back sexually because of porn.

If a man is holding back things his wife does not want, no problem. What if a woman wants oral sex, but her husband is avoiding it because he saw it in porn? I talked with one man who had seen rear entry in porn, and felt it would be disrespectful to have sex with his wife in this position. Thing is, he also wanted to do it, and he was starting to have inappropriate thoughts about a woman at work with a nice looking rear end. He was wise enough to see what was happening and dealt with it, but for other men inhibited desires may lead to adultery.

You may not want to know your husband’s porn caused sexual desires, and I doubt he wants to share them with you. However, leaving them buried is a bad plan. As we discussed on Wednesday, keeping things secret gives them more power. If he comes clean he’ll feel less pressure and temptation – especially if you offer grace and love. If his list includes something you think you might enjoy, you can tell him and take it from there. If not, you can thank him for trusting you, and know you have helped him take another step towards total freedom from porn.

Sounds good, but it’s no true. Some men turn down sex with their wife because of porn, while others have developed such pornified exceptions no real woman could ever fulfil them.
Besides, most men come into marriage with a porn habit. Hard to blame that on his wife!Paul Byerly recently posted…Sex Gets Better for Her