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Mom..Dad, what should I do if someone at school starts shooting? How would you answer? Unfortunately, this question may be asked and you will need to rise to the occasion and have an answer. The day has passed that you can brush it off and respond, “not to worry.” We are living in it now.

We suggest the following basic responses to your children by helping them understand three encompassing scenarios:

See but CANNOT Hear

See AND Hear

Hear but CANNOT See.

Above all, your child needs to understand that if at any time they feel unsafe or in danger, they need to do all in their power to get safe and out of danger. In discussing this, it is important for your child to understand the difference between cover and concealment. Cover protects you from harm. Concealment hides you from harm. Below, are the three scenarios and ways in which you can help your child know how to respond appropriately.

Scenario 1 – See but CANNOT HearIf you can see a weapon but CANNOT hear anything (it is not being used), do the following: Leave the area immediately and get somewhere where big, heavy stuff (cover) is between you and the person with the weapon. Your kids need to know if there is something that can potentially harm them, they need to get somewhere safe. This step creates distance and cover between them and a potential threat. Report it immediately to a teacher or responsible adult.As soon as possible, while leaving the area, kids need to know the importance of reporting to the first adult they see. Get as safe as possible. Continually get as far away from the danger as possible and keep as much big, heavy stuff between you and the person with the weapon. Being truly safe is a continual process. As things change, so does the level of safety. Teaching this correctly allows for kids to have the mindset of always getting to a safer and more secure position, keeping a few steps ahead of potential danger at all times. If you can’t leave, stay quiet and hide. If you are not able to go anywhere or do so safely, secure and barricade your location as much as possible.

Scenario 2 - See AND HearIf you can see someone with a weapon AND hear them using it, do the following: Protect yourself by getting behind something big and heavy (cover). If nothing is available, get behind something that can hide you from view (concealment). The primary objective is to get safe by finding the nearest cover and/or concealment. Leave the area as soon as safely possible. Use big, heavy stuff to protect your movement or other items to hide your movement. In this situation, there is most likely less of a need to report the danger, since it may be very clear to everyone the danger is present. The goal here is to instill a mindset of getting as from danger as possible. It does not do any good to sit and become a victim. However, if a child is hiding and is clearly not going to be discovered, this may be the best place to stay. Get as safe as possible. Continue to get as far away as possible from the danger and keep as much big, heavy stuff between you and the person with the weapon. Being truly safe is a continual process. As things change, so does the level of safety. Teaching this correctly allows for kids to have the mindset of always getting to a safer and more secure position, keeping a few steps ahead of potential danger at all times. If you can’t leave, stay quiet and hide. If you are not able to go anywhere or do so safely, secure and barricade your location as much as possible.

Scenario 3 – Hear but CANNOT See If you can hear someone using a weapon but CANNOT see them, do the following: Protect yourself by getting behind something big and heavy in the opposite direction of the sound. If nothing is available, get behind something that can hide you from view. For this third scenario, a kid’s first step is always to get safe. This situation is slightly different, since we do not know exactly where the danger is coming from yet. Look around and listen to identify where the shooting/danger could possibly be coming from. There is a definite need to identify the direction of danger. Move in the opposite direction of the shooter/danger if able to identify the location, and it is safe to do so. Again, get as far away as possible and keep as much big, heavy stuff between you and the shooter/danger. Like the above scenarios, distance and cover is always best if you are able to do so safely. If you can’t leave, stay quiet and hide. If you are not able to go anywhere or do so safely, secure and barricade your location as much as possible.

For each scenario the best option is to always do your best to get safe and stay safe.We suggest parents role-play each scenario with their children. Talk through potential dangerous objects that would be of concern, show them how they can hide and conceal themselves, and identify different objects that are big and heavy and explain how they can be used for protection. Also, explain how to hide and be quiet until someone they trust gives them direction to come out. It is important for kids to be willing to follow directions from teachers or those responsible for their care. The value of going through each scenario is that it gives a child an “if this,” then “do this” plan. Caretakers are potentially not trained, not able to manage the situation, or not present. Therefore, as a parent, be proactive by teaching and reinforcing solid principles that can be used time and time again to keep your children safe.