Let’s first define
what Self Empowerment is – It is the application of the realization that only I
can empower myself within the decisions that I make and the directions that I
give to myself in any given moment. it is one’s power to direct one’s reality,
based on a decision that one is making in any given moment as a principle that
one lives by.

If we look at the
examples from the previous blog where an image activated a reaction in you - In
that moment, you faced a decision - to either accept and allow yourself to
disempower yourself and spiral in the realm of the mind or to decide to empower
yourself and stand as a support structure for yourself in stopping and not
accepting and allowing the reaction inside of you to direct you, which from
there you can see clearly the direction that you can give to yourself.

So in the context of
our personal and individual processes, we are making a decision in every given
moment – whether it is conscious decision or unconscious decision BUT a
decision is always made by us. Many times in my process I found myself in a
momentary possession where it literally felt like a war zone inside of myself
wherein one part of me can clearly see how and why I am compromising myself
during each moment that I accept and allow the reaction to continue inside of
myself and the other part of me wants to continue and justify the validity of
the reaction and not let go its right to exists inside of me. In these moments,
a decision must be made, to which part of me am I going to “listen” for a lack
of better word – the one where I accept and allow myself to be disempowered by
my own mind or the part that can and will take responsibility for what I have
accepted and allowed within the self-trust that no matter what consequences
I’ve already created, I stand and I will invest the time and effort to correct
and align myself based on the principles that I decided to live by. Meaning,
whether I will accept and allow the reaction to continue (self-disempowerment),
or whether I will stop participating with the reaction and take responsibility
(self empowerment) – I am the one that is making the decision for/as myself.

Here comes the
tricky part – I often look at my life and I see limitations in being able to
direct myself and/or create a reality that is best for myself and others. I
used to see that as disempowerment being forced onto me but that is the mistake
that I’ve made – physical limitations does not mean disempowerment as with any
circumstances, we have the power to direct ourselves with the consideration of
what is available here. We can decide to feel disempowered and give up OR we
can decide to work with that which is here and still direct ourselves as what
is best in any given moment.

For example, I can
sit and cry the whole day about how difficult lifeis or I can decide to do something about it.
When I decide to do something about it, it doesn’t mean that I will be
successful in my application or will see satisfactory results – but what is
certain is that I will keep and find ways and/or align the direction until I
become successful within the goals that I set forth for myself. An example,
when I moved to SA, I refused to learn Afrikaans because I thought that I will
not be successful in learning another language based on my school experiences
so from the get go, I disempowered myself by believing my own mind that I’m not
capable of learning a new language. Until one day, I made a decision to stop
accepting and allowing my own self-disempowerment and to instead invest the
time and effort to learn Afrikaans. Once I made the decision, learning
Afrikaans became easy because I know that the amount of time and effort I will
put into learning a new language, the faster I will see the results that I
placed for myself as goals. The first step was to make the decision to empower
myself and learn a new language and the second step is to continue making the
decision every time I am exposed to a new word in Afrikaans that I want to
integrate. Me making the decision to learn Afrikaans doesn’t mean that I will
learn Afrikaans if I will not make a decision in any moment that I am exposed
to learning Afrikaans if that make sense. This is where giving up is coming
from, from us not understanding that it is not one singular decision to change
and change is manifesting, it is a consistent decision to change in real time
moment of facing the point in our reality and make a conscious decision to
change.

So, at one stage you
find yourself in a point where you say:Enough is Enough. We find ourselves looping around the same pattern,
knowing where the point will lead us, what consequences we will create if we
continue participating in a specific pattern because we’ve already investigated
and yet, nothing changed. That is because we haven’t really made the choice to
change in real time moment and we allowed ONE singular thought to spiral inside
of ourselves instead of just saying to ourselves – enough, I had enough of this
now.

The bottom line is -
for us to empower ourselves as a living expression of ourselves and really
change - the power of making a decision/choice must be understood and applied.
Will continue in the next blog post.