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Confident by definition is “feeling or showing self-assured; and feeling or showing certainty about something.” Have you ever felt your confidence slipping? Fear and doubt creeps in? Those nasty inner gremlins play with your emotions?

I have a choice – it is time to make a decision and take action. Time to stop wallowing in self-pity. Time to find the independent confident woman I was. Time to STOMP on those inner gremlins. Yes, there may be tears. Yes, there may be angry moments. But in the end, all will be well. God has a plan for me and I need to have faith.

Has “self confidence” been a struggle for you? I know I am always talking about it but I but I am often surprised by the people who share they lack confidence. On the outside they appear strong, capable of overcoming anything while on the inside they are fighting the same inner gremlins many of us do. Here are some of the tips which might help:

Practice makes perfect. We have all heard this a million times growing up – from sports to school to musical instruments. As I got older, practicing seemed silly. I was a fan of winging it but have found when I do, my confidence is sometimes shaken. “My mission is to bring a smiles and paychecks to those who are struggling and love #ThirtyOneGifts as much as I do!” Something simple but definitely worth practicing. My party scripts are becoming a little bit more natural too since I have been practicing. Practice may not make me perfect but it will help to build confidence.

Find a mentor. I have an amazing upline, Hope Shortt has been supportive and knows just when to challenge me. Find someone who you want to be like, ask them if you can shadow them. Find someone who you can trust and respect and build a relationship. I also am blessed to have Desiree Wolfe in my corner. Her kick in the butt is what I need sometimes.

Find a partner. Find a close friend, family member or even your spouse who can share in your accomplishments and help to bolster your confidence.

Dress for success. This is something else I have heard since my college days. Wear something which makes you feel good when you go to a presentation or a meeting. It should fit well and be put together with accessories and hair style. Someone asked me the other day if I had a makeover. I was THRILLED. No, not a formal one but I did in my head. How? Hair style instead of just hair hanging straight. Out of my jeans for meetings and into a pair of khakis (capris right now) with a nice shirt and jewelry. Makeup. I never leave the house without some. You never know who you will run into on the trip to the grocery store to grab a gallon of milk.

Simple tips but for those of us who have a small comfort zone, this is a BIG deal. Things I have heard for years but thought I was “too old”. You can teach an old dog new tricks – really! Are you ready to challenge yourself? Try one of these tips, if not all of them. DREAM BIG! The sky is the limit.

Time to accept your strengths and weaknesses. Challenges will come but it is how we deal with them which makes the difference in the end. Time to be confident in myself and how I want my life to be.

How do you find your confidence? Please share, I would love to hear and at the same time, you may help someone else. Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!