Send me email updates about messages I've received
on the site and the latest news from The CafeMom Team.By signing up, you certify that
you are female and accept the Terms of Service and have read the
Privacy Policy.

Have you ever lived with your MIL?

My husband and I have recently had to move in with his parents due to unemployment. We have been here a week and no one has killed each other yet. Have you and hubby lived with your in-laws/parents? For how long? Was it a positive or negative experience?

Wow...you are lucky to have family who are willing to put you up. I would love to move in with my in laws but they have a bazillion kids still at home running around and I think our sex life would die.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 10:04 PM on Nov. 4, 2009

yep, we lived with my MIL for about 2 months, while we were waiting on inspections and settlement for our home...let's just say, I was really ready to move into my own place.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 10:05 PM on Nov. 4, 2009

Oh wow. No we would kill each other. Simple as that. And she could not live here without rules. Serious rules. Actually, my own parents could not live with me unless we had some concrete understandings. And I have no problems saying you have to leave if they were to violate any of my rules. Not rules as in treating them like children. But certainly I cannot have other people yelling, screaming or upsetting my child. Or undermining my parenting. A philosophy to go by so that things remain peacefull. No peace then it is time to move on. I have thought a lot about this because my parents both lost their jobs.

I moved in with my husbands mom and him when we were still in high school. She is an extremely nice woman though, and we got along great - for the most part ;) Only sometimes did we want to kill eachother, haha. But for the most part it was nice, and we lived with her for about 6 months.

I have lived with my MIL and FIL twice. The first time was for about 2 months. It was right after my husband and I got married and he had to report to his duty station in Germany. I had to stay behind until I got permission to join him. The second time was when I came home from Germany to have our son. I stayed with them for about 10 months. Overall, both times were great experiences.

My daughter & I lived with her when I was pregnant with her grandchild, my husband & I weren't married yet but I've known them since high school. He was overseas for most of the pregnancy & we got married about 4 months after he got back. It had its ups & downs but emotions ran high in the household since both of her children were deployed & other family stuff was going on. I lived there for about 6 months.

We lived with my mom for almost 2 yrs while we were saving up to buy a house. Hubs and I lived in her basement (it was a walk-out basment). It worked out ok. There were times when we did get on each others nerves but for the most part we got along and did not have problems.