(Closed) Grumble. NWR vent…well kinda wedding related.

I just need to vent. I really, really, really dislike my fiancé’s girlfriend before me. They dated about a year and a half and broke up over a year and a half ago. They’d been broken up OVER a year when we officially started dating, but remained friends which I’m fine with. Plus, she had helped raise his daughter for a year and a half, so his daughter still likes to see her from time to time. And all of that is okay, except she has NEVER been respectful of our relationship. She wrote him love letters in the beginning of it saying she wasn’t over him and thought they would get back together (he showed me) and told him that she would wait for us to break up so they could be together…and he had to sit her down and explain to her that even if we broke up, he still wouldn’t ever date her again. So she “got over it”. And then she flipped out when Rae started calling me mommy. And freaked out when we moved in together. And got upset when we went to the store she worked at (it’s a specialty store and we thought she was out of town). And freaked out when we got engaged. The only reason he is still in contact with her is because Rae likes to see her…but I think he’s finally going to stop talking to her altogether and that’s because….

She’s dating his best friend. He gave his best friend permission to because they kind of get along and my fiancé has no feelings for her, but we didn’t actually think they would date. The part that really bothers my fiancé is she hasn’t talked to him about it at all. it’s just sketch. You’d think if someone was really your friend, she would talk to you about it personally. It’s just going to be super awkward if his friend asks to bring her to the wedding…the small, intimate, family and close friend only wedding. (Our best man and moh are allowed to have dates of course).

I’m going to just go with the flow and hope for the best. If they’re happy, then we’re happy for them. As she is super jealous of me still, I’m not sure how hanging out altogether would work at all, but you never know. Maybe this will help her to mature a bit and make it possible for us to be in the same room together without her sending my fiancé a ten page long text about how awkward it is for her to be around me.

I could be wrong but it Sounds like she is dating your FIs best friend to try and make him jealous. I think your Fiance would be best to stop all contact with her, she’ll eventually get the hint. She probably feels she has a glimmer of hope because they still have contact.

Good luck with this. I sincerely hope it all works out. But I must sayif I were in your shows I would be scared to death to have this woman at my wedding. I would be afraid of some type if drama. I’d probably have nightmares about her tripping me on the way down the aisle.

Thankfully our wedding isn’t traditional and it would be the reception she would be at…but I doubt he would actually bring her. We would tell him not to and he should respect that. I don’t know if he’d even consider it. But it would be sooooo awkward if he did because it’s a family reception…of like 25 people.

I also found out that my ex is sleeping with my next door neighbor (who was our neighbor when he lived here). So hilariously awkward because evidently he’s stayed over a couple times.