46 Ways Your Sex Life Just Got Way Better

The huge desire in everybody’s hearts, minds, and actual cells, driving them towards sex means that sex occupies a lot of our thoughts.

That’s nature.

That’s how it is.

60,000 thoughts a day, and if you were to count, a lot of them would be on sex/relationships.

So okay, if sex is gonna be on your mind, wouldn’t it be good to have really good thoughts?

Yes. And I’m gonna help you by giving you 40 resources that most people miss. 40 websites, authors, and ideas on sex that’ll blow the doors open for you on all kinds of stuff.

People wanna know about protection, about fantasies, about relationships. Below I’ll cover all that and so much more.

And I’ll do it with fresh views on stuff that matters.

Note: I often talk about polarity, masculine-feminine balance, and how everyone has their own choice to be anything at any given time. For this post I’m just gonna use "chick" to mean feminine and "guy" to me masculine. Cool? Cool.

Note 2: Many of the ideas here are… "out there". They push boundaries. Ryze-readers are smart, you can make your own decisions. These are here to help you explore and enjoy a little self-discovery. Booyah.

I’ll also divide the list up into 2 sections, one more for guys, and one more for chicks, for easy reading 😀

Psyched?

Dig in.

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Guy Stuff

"Before success comes in any man’s life, he’s sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and the most logical thing to do is to quit. That’s exactly what the majority of men do. — Napoleon Hill"

So there ya go, hopefully this stuff helps you become a better man. It’s all helped me 🙂

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Chicks Stuff

"I with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman." — Anais Nin

A fellow Toronto-ite, G.I. has a really fresh perspective on body image, relationships, and more.

I’ve read all kinds of stuff on femininity, masculinity, and self-development, and personally I’d love some nicer, clearer, more appealing resources to help chicks excel. Feels like there’s a gap in the market, but the stuff above is pretty awesome 🙂

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Relationships

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." — Khalil Gibran."

Safe Sex

Considered by some to be an unreliable and foolish method of birth-control, FAM is also considered by many of those to be the ultimate form of birth-control. At advanced levels it requires no tools, freeing partners up completely. See also: Taking charge of your fertility.

Control your ejaculation and enjoy the beauty in accessory-less, condom-less, skin-to-skin sex? Sounds pretty good eh? Worth exploring? If you’re happy doing what you’ve been doing, by all means keep at it. If on the other hand you’re open to more, perhaps check this out.

Sexual Control

Menstruation is often thought of as a burden: automatic, and unchangeable. Healing Tao shines a different light. It’s viewed as a beautiful part of the body, and as a guiding sign and a cycling system. See also this.

Attitudes

Submissiveness in the past was kind of like… status quo for women, and then it became something seen as ‘weak’. There’s another way – a simple, freely made, conscious choice.

"Submissive acts grant me an inherent license to experience pleasure in acts that my mind would usually fear. Usually, that is when I am not bound, not gagged, not restrained by word or deed, when a man is fucking me forcefully, usually, my mind remains active. Those busy, busy whirring hamster wheels of my head keep me feeling afraid, and they keep me from experiencing fully every tidbit of pleasure I could get from the experience.

Those hamster wheels get in the way, what with their furry and fearful ceaseless whirring."

"All those nasty, to-the-limit, semi-rape, full blown gang-bang scenarios that my mind seem to slip into in the most matter-of-fact manner…They are simply mind fuel, scenes and gestures, still pictures, words and details that my mind have found to be the most arousing bits and pieces it can come up with. And sometimes, they will inspire reality. Small parts of them can be lived out and tested, limits can be pushed and challenged…Somehow, those fantasies are also the very core of my sexuality. They tell me how my sexual mind works, what it is attracted to." – Bliatz

Ah yeah, the good stuff. These are resources on some of the most intense aspects of sex, power dynamics, and deeper feelings that many people don’t want, or won’t let, themselves experience.

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Gurus

"Only in sex the noise sometimes stops. I say "sometimes". If you have become habitual in sex also, as husbands and wives become, then it never stops. The whole act becomes automatic and the mind goes on its own. Then sex also is a boredom." — Osho

These peeps are worth paying attention to, their lives are dedicated to wisdom, and they live and breathe it. You could read another Cosmo and hope to really get some life-changing stuff, or you can read the links above. Your call.*

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