How To Restore Your Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse

Who Are People Really?

I remember when I was struggling to connect with people and trust them after narcissistic abuse.

Before my development in the areas I am talking about in this article, I was on the lookout for narcissists everywhere … and unconscious and underdeveloped people used to freak me out.

I used to feel like everyone had the potential to be “unsafe” – and was therefore capable of hurting me or letting me down.

I looked at family and friends and thought “look at what they have done at times, and look at how they are capable of behaving.”

Even as my journey in this Community was taking place with people who were wounded and still unconscious, I was still at times triggered and feeling an anxiety that I had to “change them” and get them to “see it” in order to be safe.

I still had a lot of work to do on wounds that I was carrying about other people and their supposed impact on my life.

“If I don’t fix sick people then I will be in peril.”

“If people don’t agree with me I’ll be annihilated by them.”

“I am at risk for my survival when people are damaged.”

These were fears from childhood, and also deep DNA survival programs that I was still carrying.

One of the most powerful Life orientations I have learned since recovery from narcissistic abuse is to go inside and work through ANY “off emotions”, because they are ALL telling me my subconscious programming is not in agreement with my True Self on these topics and needs adjustment.

And when I have healed these wounds, a great peace and compassion entered where the anxiety once was.