Dragging our feet about the first day back at work tomorrow. Talking to others in the team about the ton of encouraging messages flooded into our various emails for 2018 and wondering, now what?

We thought about all the lies in our head ( you know the shame or guilt about work success) and how loud they were becoming in our heads . e.g. The harder we tried in some areas of our business , the harder things became. We felt shame and guilt because we are the London Flower Lovers, are meant to be upbeat. The truth was sometimes we were not even putting flowers around in our personal space. Finally something snapped. We enjoyed the winter solstice and we decided we needed to run the show.

We had decided to ditch all the ideas which came from fear or desperation and made peace with the current experience of the flower business. and let go of attachment of making more of the business and instead focused on extreme service- like we used to do. The question was slowly being answered about how do we honour ourselves as we approach going to work tomorrow.

Well we love to make ‘our’ customers to feel good. And we notice that when push comes to shove, we lean into encouraging clients into feeling good more than anything. We love making people to feel good. We notice that when we do the self guilt or self shame thing, that we end up disconnecting from the very people we want to serve. And that feeling good becomes forgotten and we just crumple. So what next?

So of course showing up with the right energy is the right thing for us to gently focus on because at the heart of it, we are not high pressure gals.

So what next?

Beating ourselves up!

Nope,

Not fun,

Feed up of not being turned on……no way.

Our mindset about the bewildering array of techniques out there- was it was just all too much!

So we decided to chuck away our leads. Stop going to intense networking events . To let go of high maintenance clients, (you know the ones, who were only focused on the short term and cheapness ). And then we decided to make a list of all the things we used to shame and guilt ourselves. And after writing it out. BREATHE IT OUT on the EXHALE and BURN the LIST.

We decided to stop hustling…..we were fed up.

Then after listening to lots of good ideas we personally opted on Jeanna Gabellin’s approach on clearing up ones energy. We opened ourselves to the beauty of our flowers again.

She talks a lot about taking a low stress approach to life. To allow a dream of joy. To guide selves using the fuel of joy, rather than forcing yourself into things you do not want to do. To avoid the push yourself through your comfort zone stuff, to let that mentality go completely……mmmmm sounds delicious.

We took her main ideas on. They are:

Focusing on what the client wants? rather than focusing on getting the client. focusing on servicing them only. There powerful ally to get them to achieve

Do what we want, rather than what we feel forced to do. In other words focus on joy and love.

Act like all clients are coming. Act like everything is right. To let go of all the pressure each day. Just being relaxed. This will inspire the good feeling. When you don’t need the client, you step into the feeling of abundance. In the energy of abundance. …. Jeanna we love this!

Feeling better already, seeds of ideas started to flow into our minds with a smile. So the next step before we go into tomorrow is to write up our answers to the next five questions.

How do we want to feel about ourselves as we interact with clients?

What do we want to bring forth for our clients?( values, skills)

What do we have to release? ( any shameful/guilty secret insecurities, like “oh gosh we need to make x amount of money by now”, or “it’s taken this long”, ” its too expensive to live here” , or “we should be better at this by now”, etc)

Why do our services rock?- write that down

What’s the best, most fantastical possible outcome?

Feeling good already, this is the energy we carry into tomorrow. The energy we carry before we make any phone call or even touch a flower.

We are ready to move through the next day, next week, next quarter, next year!

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Welcome to The London Flower Lover. We are florists who create floral collections to tell your real life story. With colour and texture, we take floristry into an entirely new direction based on the challenges and joys of your life.
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3 Responses to Dreading the first day back at work and decided to use the love for flowers to clean up our energy before we walk into 2018’s office

Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I have followed you for years and this post is by far your most trusting, empowering, honest and loving.
I just st came back from Hawaii and since you taught me how to appreciate flowers (already a lover of flowers but you taught me depth).
I was fed by the burst of abundance of energy with the islands flowers. They spoke a language of beauty, abundance, sweet fragrance, generosity and being. So it was so beautiful how your writing connected it all together for me in my business to the flowers I just experienced. Such a subtle shift but profound. I love your work and your mission. Thanks for keeping me educated and uplifted!
Sending the love back to you🌺💐🌈🤙🏽💕