AIBU about exP who seems to think we are still together?

I'm really at my wits end with all of this. Me and exP still live together, we broke up just after Christmas but are both trapped into a 6 month contract renting that we stupidly signed in November. Neither can afford the rent here if the other person leaves.

He very quickly moved onto someone else. I found texts talking about passionate encounters and made it clear that this was a dealbreaker for me. Previously we had been in discussions about whether or not we could make it work if we both tried.

Since I have not been interested and moved into the spare room, he's become ridiculously clingly. Like a small child constantly wanting attention. If I am working in the same room as him on my computer at the table, he is constantly calling me asking "did you see that, this is so funny" etc.

I have a really important interview tomorrow for my dream job and a chance at a good career with prospects. It is in a city he has previously lived in. I had arranged to meet up with a colleague toninght who lives in the city for dinner, a lovely young guy. ExP has invited himself along as a "well if you're going that way I might as well get a lift". He has taken it upon himself to book me a hotel (that I was going to book anyway but was at work yesterday) in his name, which means I can't go without his credit card to check in.

I am stressed about this interview. I just wanted to get to my hotel early today and sit and do my preparation, I also have to leave straight after to head to a conference up country for work which is adding to the stress of packing etc. I made it clear I was leaving at 12 today and he decided to go out with friends an hour away anyway. He still isn't back.

His parents are driving down country as we are driving up and now he wants to meet with them and we must meet with them wherever in the country that may be. He says if it means waiting at home for hours for them to drive past, then so be it. He has never cared about birthdays, christmas or mothers day before. But now apparently he must see his mother today. I havn't seen my mother as she lives hours away, so I don't see why it is so important.

He is using my fear of snow and driving in this city to his advantage and I am fucking fed up of him. AIBU?

I imagine he would like the best of both worlds, you at home and a bit of fun on the side. Is it too late to make your own arrangements today? You need to keep him well out of any plans you have. He can't just opt in to your relationship when he sees you striking out on your own and sees his security blanket slipping away.

Go alone. I find driving in cities isn't as bad as I think it'll be in advance - there is more traffic & traffic lights etc, so traffic moves slowly & you can see ahead where you need to go and have time to get in the right lane etc.

He's being an arse, wanting his cake and eating it. Tough luck! He's made his choice!

Get a travelodge and go without him. He can't kick off about it, weityhout looking daft because you aren't together anymore. Which means that you aren't obliged to fall in with his plans or see his parents.

If your tenancy is due to end in may, can you afford to pay up the rent for April and whatever days in may and disappear early? Living with someone after you've split is awful - been there <shudders at memory>

He's sabotaging you. Leave without him, go to a different hotel if you can, and leave him out of all your plans.

Your acquiescence to him means you are still involved too. Detach and ignore. Do your stuff and if he factors himself in, just ignore it and go ahead anyway. Treat all this as if it hadn't happened. None of it is your problem.

Treat him like this us a house share; would you tell the person renting the other bedroom what you were doing? No.

This is a good opportunity for you to reinforce boundaries. Try and keep out of the house if you can and make it clear your plans are your own. So if he asks for a lift, then politely explain that its not convenient for you and do not engage with him any further.