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previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first lesson is, "What is tantra yoga?"

Q: I would like to seek your advice on the holdback and
blocking methods. I am 55 years old and have a problem with early
ejaculation, which has been a problem all along for me and my wife. I can
usually hold out for about 5 minutes at most. I started using the holdback
method recently, and it seems to be working quite well delaying orgasm and
ejaculation. But the problem is I can't stay hard after a while. It's the
same for the blocking method. I can manage the control of ejaculation, but
immediately after 'its' dead. Your advice most appreciated.

A: Sounds like you are doing well with the tantric techniques. It takes time
to settle in and gain the full results. Tantric methods will work best in
conjunction with twice-daily sitting practices as covered in the main AYP
lessons deep meditation, spinal breathing pranayama, etc.

It is normal to lose erection after orgasm, including with blocking. Gaining
experience with holdback can greatly increase staying power. You are on the
right track with that.

Regarding maintaining erection prior to orgasm, and for erectile issues in
general, that is somewhat outside the scope of AYP. Some suggestions may be
available in the Tantra section of the online
AYP Support Forums, where many
issues related to sex are discussed. You can also seek professional help, if
it is important for your marriage. But this will have little bearing on your
progress in yoga, which is neither dependent on erections nor a cause of
erectile dysfunction. Do keep in mind that the older we get, the less
utility there is for reproductive sex, contrary to the macho images (and
drug prescriptions) we are bombarded with in the media. It may be better to
be enlightened in old age than to be macho, though we can certainly find
ways to do both if the motivation is there.

Wishing you all the best on your continuing path. Practice wisely, and
enjoy!

The guru is in you.

Note: For detailed
instructions on the methods of tantra in relation to the broad scope of yoga
practices and the enlightenment process, see the
AYP Tantra book.