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Why is this posted in the Living forum? This should be in off topic as it has nothing to do with living with HIV. If experienced users can't post in the right forum, how can we expect new folks to understand the rules?

Why is this posted in the Living forum? This should be in off topic as it has nothing to do with living with HIV. If experienced users can't post in the right forum, how can we expect new folks to understand the rules?

I honestly wasn't sure what forum to post it in. Most online forums have a forum specifically for forum issues. Oddly, this one doesn't.

I have only one person on ignore. Reading his posts was at best slightly annoying and at worst downright offensive. I have not been on that much so I didn't notice that I would now have to face the music and actually read his dreary, irrelevant rants. Oh well.

Madbrain is someone I'd miss, though. He's so smart and talented and level-headed and ballsy. How many people do you know who would fight for the right to have a license plate saying HIVPOZ?

I'm curious to know who Madbrain was ignoring. I think the person I'm ignoring has the most ignores of anyone on the site so I'm not alone.

I have never ignored anyone on this forum, not even in the PM's ...I just don't have the heart to, and that's not the way I roll you all just have to have lived in California to understand what it's like to have HIV/AIDS, it's a little different and a lot of FUN.... 'Mad, I do hope you don't stop posting in this forum, it just wouldn't be the same without you

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"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

Why let someone else's posts control your ability to interact on these forums? There are people I detest here but for the most part I disregard the things they say. Out of curiosity I would love to have known who the people were who had me on ignore and I will admit that the only person I had on ignore was Etay because I got exhausted trying to convince him to change his mind.

Another thread about ignoring, un-ignoring, and the delicate sensitivities of a certain and selected group of people around here. This pansy attitude of some members never seems to change... So... fucking... tedious.

Nobody forces anyone to read what somebody else has written, all that it takes is a fucking scroll of a mouse or a goddamned click on the browser's back button.

And I for sure will not be missing the individual who claims that he won't be coming by these forums just because the ignore function was disabled.

OH come on Trey, who would want to ignore you, your much more fun to abuse in other ways

That chile enjoys (and proactively seeks) the abuse.

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"I have tried hard--but life is difficult, and I am a very useless person. I can hardly be said to have an independent existence. I was just a screw or a cog in the great machine I called life, and when I dropped out of it I found I was of no use anywhere else."

Another thread about ignoring, un-ignoring, and the delicate sensitivities of a certain and selected group of people around here. This pansy attitude of some members never seems to change... So... fucking... tedious.

Nobody forces anyone to read what somebody else has written, all that it takes is a fucking scroll of a mouse or a goddamned click on the browser's back button.

And I for sure will not be missing the individual who claims that he won't be coming by these forums just because the ignore function was disabled.

That chile enjoys (and proactively seeks) the abuse.

Well said, Rev.

I mean really...we ALL have stuff that we have to put up with in this forum, whether it's whiner threads like this one, endless pompous entries from the priviledged and self indulgent...or simply a series of rather dubious tales of sexual exploits from someone who, if I recall correctly, is about as attractive as Phyllis Diller's twat with a personality that's about as appealing as a fart in a bath tub.

And yet we all manage to carry on.

The funny thing is...we all know that none of these people REALLY ignore the people they are complaining about. By their own admission, they find them so compelling that they cannot resist reading everything they say.

I see, I guess I haven't been around here much lately and missed this unfortunate development. I guess I will be here even less now.

Really, I mean really, all you have to do is skip over posts that you don't want to expose your overly sensitive self too. I just wonder when we had the ignore feature if those that used it frequently were into "group think" in a big way and when someone dissented they were ignored.

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"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it." Nelson Mandela

on the discussion I have to agree, I think the ignore function was not needed. I never put anyone on ignore though, I like to read what everyone has to say. Everyones opinion is unique, and brings a new perspective too the conversation.

I've been ignored once, and all I can say to that person is if u dont like what I have to say then just scroll past me, or ignore any threads I start. Or if u have a problem with me, just pm me and we can work it out.

Who the fuck needs a ignore button to ignore someone , you should practice ignoring without a mechanical device in case you ever need to ignore someone in real life . They will only laugh at you if you are punching an imaginary button and screaming I cant hear you ... so will the folks here when they know you are reading post of people you have on ignore .

Who the fuck needs a ignore button to ignore someone , you should practice ignoring without a mechanical device in case you ever need to ignore someone in real life . They will only laugh at you if you are punching an imaginary button and screaming I cant hear you ... so will the folks here when they know you are reading post of people you have on ignore .

I remember the "human" ignore function, which requires only you. It involves plugging both ears, while singing "LA LA LA I CAN'T HEAR YOU" rinse, repeat.

I remember the "human" ignore function, which requires only you. It involves plugging both ears, while singing "LA LA LA I CAN'T HEAR YOU" rinse, repeat.

I remember doing that to my brother on road trips. Mom and dad would just ignore us both and let us work it out the best we could.

Just think, that stupid ignore function probably started in a brainstorming meeting in software development then became a mandatory requirement for other groups when it hit production. Somebody got paid big bucks to bring it to forums like the one we are on now.

I remember the "human" ignore function, which requires only you. It involves plugging both ears, while singing "LA LA LA I CAN'T HEAR YOU" rinse, repeat.

Oh I see how it works now ... for an ignore function to be affective people must be actively able to see or hear that you are ignoring them . That must be why people are always telling other people on here they are ignoring them , interesting

Oh I see how it works now ... for an ignore function to be affective people must be actively able to see or hear that you are ignoring them . That must be why people are always telling other people on here they are ignoring them , interesting

Maybe. But if you ignore someone, by simply not reading their posts, are you "really" ignoring them. Is a requirement of officially "ignoring" someone, predicated on the use of a forum function? Could you do it manually instead and if so, is it an "official" ignore?

The most interesting thing here is that a lot of people that use the ignore button still can't stay away from the ones they're ignoring. How many times have we seen someone say they're ignoring someone else, only to start screaming about something the ignored person posted?

Another thread about ignoring, un-ignoring, and the delicate sensitivities of a certain and selected group of people around here. This pansy attitude of some members never seems to change... So... fucking... tedious.

I feel the word "tedious" is a direct remark against me--a way to describe being like Ted. Where is the ignore button..lol.

Seriously, I have never ignored anyone on purpose. I did have one member on ignore somehow by accident. I don't even know how it happened. Did the ignore button use to be right next to the person's username in threads? I must have clicked ignore by accident or something. I took them off ignore as soon as I realize it. Mad may have had a really bad experience with a member (not just a small spat, but something very personal), so I could understand that. But, I agree that for normal spats, you can just skip what they said. I've gotten angry with some things people said to the point where I could feel my blood pressure rising--that feeling where you can feel your heart beat in your ears and they get all red. But, I have not been so upset with someone that I wouldn't be friendly with them in a few days. I guess I'm use to having big fights with family and then all is better in a few days.

The difference between ignore in the real world and here is that in the real world you can choose to not be near someone, here you're stuck in small rooms with chatter going on around you.

When I think about it I actually have an ignore list in real life. There are a few people who I refuse to be near. To the point of not going to an event if I know they will be there because I don't want to get stuck listening to their dribble. Now if you could get a mute button in real life and be able to use it on selected people I'd be all for that.

I'm curious if anybody really does have an issue with members using the 'ignore' button? I don't use it, but why would I care if somebody else did / does? It kinda seems like some don't like others being able to ignore.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I'm curious if anybody really does have an issue with members using the 'ignore' button? I don't use it, but why would I care if somebody else did / does? It kinda seems like some don't like others being able to ignore.

I don't care if someone uses it -- you must have missed it, but the conflama was about forum members who used the ignore button and then felt the need to announce it over and over in various threads in the most astounding example of internet passive aggressive behavior.

Now tell me, which is the most offensive -- offensive commentary or offensive passive aggressive behavior?

There are some folks who have me on "ignore", which is actually pretty funny when you think about it. For those who know me, can you imagine someone feeling the need to "ignore" me? As if I am that threatening or intimidating...LOL

Oh well, to each his own...

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"Remember my sentimental friend that a heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others." - The Wizard of Oz

There are some folks who have me on "ignore", which is actually pretty funny when you think about it. For those who know me, can you imagine someone feeling the need to "ignore" me? As if I am that threatening or intimidating...LOL

Oh well, to each his own...

Well Alan, the only thing I can think of is maybe they were on a diet - cuz you're just so darn sweet. Love ya, mate.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

There are some folks who have me on "ignore", which is actually pretty funny when you think about it. For those who know me, can you imagine someone feeling the need to "ignore" me? As if I am that threatening or intimidating...LOL

Oh well, to each his own...

Really Alan? Of all the people in the world to ignore, I would never choose you....