I think that yoga and meditation are quite helpful in learning to calm the mind. You should consider any meditative approach, simply to help you learn that you can let go of any thoughts that create emotional friction. Always keep in mind that habits are stubborn things. In a very real sense, you are retraining your brain with what I call habit re-formation. Stay determined to not embrace insecurity driven thinking (i.e., doubts, fears, negatives).

Yours,
Dr. Joe

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now my conditon is: will be nervous when relate w/other people, and don't want to meet people who I well known.
sometimes will be nervous w/o reason.In the most bad condition, my hands feels very cold because of the nervous.

as mentioned above, what's yr advice, dr. do I need to take some medician?

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With social anxiety you're dealing with your own negative projections of insecurity. Typically, social anxiety has to do with insecurity's anticipation of being embarrassed. Because of the erosion self-confidence and lack of self-trust, you put yourself in a position of what we call self-fulfilling prophecy, i.e., you expect to be anxious, nervous, flushed, etc., and this anticipation causes you to have difficult, embarrassing social experiences. The goal is self acceptance, however as long as insecurity dominates causing a lack of self-trust, then you will continue to struggle.
Social anxiety is not simply a behavioral habit, your brain (as with any habit) has become patterned (wired) according to this fear response. You must interrupt this resistant habit and begin to "rewire" you and your brain. We call this neuroplasticity. This can only be accomplished by consistent, persistent effort over time. It's a matter of learning to live more spontaneously, i.e., to "risk" trusting that you can learn to simply react to what takes place in any given social situation rather than to have to rehearse or anticipate what might happen. Try to find situations where you feel relatively relaxed and safe, perhaps with a family member or close friend. Observe your interactions in these situations. Notice how you just "react." We call that stimulus-response, i.e., someone says something (stimulus) and you simply respond. There's no self-monitoring (i.e., "How am I doing? Am I anxious?), you simply just respond spontaneously without regard to your performance. This is the ultimate goal in all social situations, i.e, the ability to react spontaneously without self scrutiny.

A good deal of social insecurity/anxiety begins with projections of insecurity, the "what ifs." Bottom line: you should always work to let go of congested, insecure thinking while becoming more reactive to life i.e., letting life unfold naturally and spontaneously. You do this when you begin to live in the present without trying to protect yourself by anticipating chaos that may or may not occur. It's all about letting go of control. Controlling life is insecurity's excuse for why you go on and on worrying and anticipating. Controlling life according to insecurity's projections is never the answer and always the problem.

Yours,
Dr. Joe

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Last week I joined a mental illness are network group. Some patients take medicine, recover quickly, some people are still struggling with. Rehabilitation of people I admire. At the same time also sympathize with struggling people, so I recommend they read your book. They have second days to buy your book. I hope to help them.

Dear Dr. in these 3 weeks, I'm always fell a little nervous when going outside.
although sheeping is well, but still feel vervous when in society, and talk very less.
also can't focus on work some times.
in this condition, do I need to take some Medication?

meanwhile, I already kept in doing yuga 5 times one week for 7 months.

With social anxiety you're dealing with your own negative anticipations perpetrated by insecurity. Typically, social anxiety has to do with insecurity's anticipation of being embarrassed. Because of the erosion self-confidence and lack of self-trust, you put yourself in a position of what we call self-fulfilling prophecy, i.e., you expect to be anxious, nervous, flushed, etc., and this anticipation causes you to have difficult, embarrassing social experiences. The goal is self acceptance, however as long as insecurity dominates, causing a lack of self-trust, then you will continue to struggle.

Social anxiety, as with any habit, eventually reshapes the brain. You can, through consistent, persistent effort over time actually "rewire" your brain. We call this neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to repattern itself. With anxiety, and social anxiety in particular, it's a matter of learning to live more "reactively." Rather than having to rehearse or anticipate what might happen, you must learn to "risk" being more spontaneously reactive (rather than neurotically proactive with worry and anticipation). Try to find situations where you feel relatively relaxed and safe, perhaps with a family member or close friend. Observe your interactions in these situations. Notice how (when you're relaxed) you just "react." We call that stimulus-response, i.e., someone says something (stimulus) and you simply respond. There's no self-monitoring (i.e., "How am I doing? Am I anxious?), you simply just respond spontaneously without regard to your performance. This is the ultimate goal in all social situations, i.e, the ability to react spontaneously without self scrutiny.

A good deal of social insecurity/anxiety begins with projections of insecurity, the "what ifs." Bottom line: you should always work to let go of congested, insecure thinking while becoming more reactive to life i.e., letting life unfold naturally and spontaneously. You do this when you begin to live in the present without trying to protect yourself by anticipating chaos that may or may not occur. It's all about letting go of control. Controlling life is insecurity's excuse for why you go on and on worrying and anticipating. Controlling life according to insecurity's projections is never the answer and always the problem.

Yours,
Dr. Joe

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