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Snoring!

loveleigh20 wrote:

So it's 3am and I'm lying here awake (as I have been for the past 4 hours) listening to my partner snore like a pig and resisting every urge to smother/punch him. Waking him isn't an option as all that leads to is lots of swearing aimed at me and, quite often, a huge fight (he's extremely grumpy when woken up). This has been an issue for the last year, but recently got much worse. I don't know what to do! I don't want to sleep in separate rooms, we are a couple and I believe we should sleep together. I've suggested going to the doctors and trying all sorts of over the counter treatments such as nasal strips etc but he just doesn't do anything about it. I'm fed up of getting no sleep, and am dreading when the baby arrives because when baby is quiet in the night, my partner certainly won't be!

If anyone has any tried and tested methods they can recommend me and my sanity would appreciate it.

Like I said I really want to avoid separate rooms. Earplugs will be no good when baby arrives as I'll have to be able to hear! And I've tried the poking technique, it only quietens him for a few seconds!

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melissaked

He really needs to see a doctor to check yo make sure it is just snoring and not something more. Does he snore only when sleeping on his back? If so you can take a tennis ball and put it in the pocket of a pocket t and that will help keep him from rolling over.

I know you don't want to sleep in different rooms, but if he is unwilling to get checked out so you can sleep, there is nothing you can do. Good luck!

Don't just poke him, roll him over! My dog snores like a bear and we went to the doctor for it (it's THAT bad). Doctor suggested rolling him onto his side and it works great! But now that we have a little one again hubby sleeps downstairs as I need my sleep and so does baby. Good luck!

Oh girl, I cannot stand snoring. I'm the lightest sleeper in the world. I have had insomnia my whole life and I cherish the sleep that I get.

I am on a sedative that knocks my ass out, but I still wake up at the slightest noises.

My ex and I shared a bed and it really got to me. The next time I'm with someone, I'm going to tell them that I prefer separate rooms. If they aren't okay with that, then that's not the person for me haha.

My mom and dad had separate rooms and it worked really well. They loved each other very much and were best friends. Sleeping apart didn't make their relationship worse. My dad liked to fall asleep with the TV on and my mom hated it. And he snored so loud we heard it all throughout the house haha!

My ex tried all kinds of methods to stop snoring but nothing worked.

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LukesMom2015

I can totally relate. My DH snores SO LOUDLY to the point where I told him he MUST sleep in the other room. MY sleep was being severely compromised and it was hard to function....and this was years before a baby entered the picture. I know you said you don't want to sleep in separate rooms but I see two things happening if you "try it out" for a bit: 1) your fiance will see that you're serious and may consider alternatives to minimize his snoring so you guys can sleep in the same bed again, and 2) you will get some quality sleep which you NEED to function as a new mother (and as a person in general).

After my husband starting sleeping in the other room he reaslised that his snoring was a much bigger problem than he originally thought. He went to a sleep clinic and got checked out. He has sleep apnea and his snoring was actually keeping him from fully sleeping properly throughout the night (so he would always be tired, would be cranky, etc.). He got a CPAP machine and it has been LIFE CHANGING. We can sleep in the same room again because he doesn't snore AT ALL and the machine is so quiet. He is finally getting the quality sleep that he should be and feels so much better during the day. He won't sleep without it. Good luck; I know how hard dealing with a chronic snorer can be. But....you are important too and deserve as much sleep as you can get.

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lonakermommy13

I guess Im a weirdo Bc snoring helps me fall asleep! Lol my early teen years I had a pug who slept in bed with me and he snored sooo loud, I just got used to it. Then when I got with my dh he snored too. And now my 2 yr old (he sleeps between us) snores even louder then my husband! Lol I guess it's just turned into a security type comfort thing for me! Maybe u could sneak one of those nasal strips on him while he's sleeping lol

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loveleigh20

I tried a little experiment last night and left him to snore without waking him. I have slept for an hour and a half all night and I'm exhausted. While we were cuddling this morning I mentioned this and politely suggested that he go and see a doctor about it because I can't function on so little sleep. I know he's not doing it deliberately and I'm scared to wake him for fear of causing an argument..

He went mad at me and told me to shut the f**k up and he's sick of it.

I snore but I somehow it's a new thing that started after I was on some med. I feel bad for Dh bc I get annoyed by snorers (at bachelorette overnights, etc) and I have tried many things to help.

I tried the nasal strips, but those just help me breathe easier not stop snoring.

I tried the pure sleep retainer which works great for a while then you have to remake it which is difficult bc you have to get it just right. On the fourth retainer it started moving my teeth around and my dentist was even concerned so I stopped that!

DH let me know that the problem only happens when I sleep on my back so I focused on that next

I put on a sports bra (may or may not work for a guy haha) and stuck the pure sleep retainer in the back (similar to your tennis ball idea but I think one wo). It worked great!

However, a year or so later I have gotten used to the retainer case and am switching to a kitchen wisk.

My husband has snored for years. And now unless we go to bed together... He just sleeps in the spare room. I don't love the fact that most nights we don't sleep together... But honey you need sleep and you need to do what's right for you! And him getting mad, swearing at you and being mean about it is not nice. My husband feels bad for me. He realized I get no sleep when he's sawing logs next to me. That's why he just sleeps in the other room. You need to just do what's right for you. Go sleep in the other room and get a good nights rest. He does need to go to the doctor and get checked on. My husbands problem was weight. He had put on about 40 pounds since we got married 12 years ago... And that is a huge cause for snoring! He's been losing weight so I'm hoping any month he will be back in my bed! Good luck! Get some sleep tonight and get out of the bed with him! If he can't be emphatic then he's got other issues!

I've put the Young Living oil Valor on hubby's big toes before bed(because they claim it helps with snoring) and it works! For my husband it doesn't take it completely away but it definitely brings it down a decibel! Other people claim that's all their spouse needs and it's gone! Wouldn't hurt to try if you know anyone who is a Young Living distributed. I believe the oil is about $25!

The advice I gave was based on what I did with my snorer. I could hear my baby through the silicone earplugs (having a video monitor helped too) but they muffled the snoring enough to let me sleep. But when I'm pregnant or trying to sleep with an infant, he goes to the spare room for a while.

He cursed at you and told you to shut up? To me, that is incredibly disrespectful and would not be tolerated. I'm not sure I would still sleep in the same building, much less the same room.

I agree with pp, your partner is being rude and disrespectful to you. Why in the world would you even want to share a bed with him? If your so desperate for sleep either tell him to sleep in another room or you sleep elsewhere. Otherwise just put up with it. He's not willing to even bother to get help or do anything about it and he undermines your need for sleep and your pregnant. I'm sorry but you need your sleep especially when the baby comes. He's being selfish and rude and I would not tolerate it. It's not a big deal to sleep in separate rooms.

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LukesMom2015

Another thing you could try in order to get your point across of how disruptive it is, is to record him snoring on your phone (you're already up anyway). Then, play it at night as he is trying to fall asleep. I did that to show my husband just how loud he was. He moved to the other room the next day.

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