Truly moving on?

I don't want this to sound negative. I truly have no idea what I would have done without this board and the support of all you ladies who reply to my posts and talk about your own experiences. Lately I've been thinking - I don't want this loss to define me. I don't want it to continue to be the main focus of each day as it has been so far. I've been toying with the idea of deleting this app. Mostly because I've come to depend on it, and I can't go very log without logging on and reading, posting, and commenting. I do want the opportunity to be able to help others the way you all have helped me here, but in moving on, I don't know if its such a good thing to be obsessively on this board on a daily basis. But then again, maybe it really is doing more to help me than I realize. I just wanted to tell you all what ive been thinking and ask what your opinion is? Will deleting it help me to move on, and not make this loss a defining part of my daily life?

I don't want this to sound negative. I truly have no idea what I would have done without this board and the support of all you ladies who reply to my posts and talk about your own experiences. Lately I've been thinking - I don't want this loss to define me. I don't want it to continue to be the main focus of each day as it has been so far. I've been toying with the idea of deleting this app. Mostly because I've come to depend on it, and I can't go very log without logging on and reading, posting, and commenting. I do want the opportunity to be able to help others the way you all have helped me here, but in moving on, I don't know if its such a good thing to be obsessively on this board on a daily basis. But then again, maybe it really is doing more to help me than I realize. I just wanted to tell you all what ive been thinking and ask what your opinion is? Will deleting it help me to move on, and not make this loss a defining part of my daily life?

I just found out about this app today and all the support is amazing. I think you have to do what is best for yourself but it does help to express your feelings to others who have experienced some of the same things you have experienced. I have found in just this first week of dealing with my MC most of my friends and family avoid me and when I do talk to them they treat me different. we all have good days and bad days so its nice to have support on your bad day and give the support on your good day! : ). Good luck!

I just found out about this app today and all the support is amazing. I think you have to do what is best for yourself but it does help to express your feelings to others who have experienced some of the same things you have experienced. I have found in just this first week of dealing with my MC most of my friends and family avoid me and when I do talk to them they treat me different. we all have good days and bad days so its nice to have support on your bad day and give the support on your good day! : ). Good luck!

I just found out about this app today and all the support is amazing. I think you have to do what is best for yourself but it does help to express your feelings to others who have experienced some of the same things you have experienced. I have found in just this first week of dealing with my MC most of my friends and family avoid me and when I do talk to them they treat me different. we all have good days and bad days so its nice to have support on your bad day and give the support on your good day! : ). Good luck!

I just found out about this app today and all the support is amazing. I think you have to do what is best for yourself but it does help to express your feelings to others who have experienced some of the same things you have experienced. I have found in just this first week of dealing with my MC most of my friends and family avoid me and when I do talk to them they treat me different. we all have good days and bad days so its nice to have support on your bad day and give the support on your good day! : ). Good luck!

Maybe try looking at it no more than once a day, unless you post a question. That's the limit I've set for myself. I think it's just habit. I used to read on my month board all the time when PG with DD, then after DD was born. It gradually got boring after a while and I was never on anymore until PG the last time. It is helpful to keep the app though for that random question that comes up, even if you don't visit frequently.

Maybe try looking at it no more than once a day, unless you post a question. That's the limit I've set for myself. I think it's just habit. I used to read on my month board all the time when PG with DD, then after DD was born. It gradually got boring after a while and I was never on anymore until PG the last time. It is helpful to keep the app though for that random question that comes up, even if you don't visit frequently.

With my first mc I was on this app all day every day. After a month or 2 I realized that I needed to delete it and move on because I was only reopening wounds that were starting to heal. But each person is different. I see some women on here now that were on when I was experiencing my first mc, are they experiencing a 2nd mc as well or are they just on commenting on other threads? I don't know but a lot of their comments have helped me a lot. Again, as pp said, it's your call. Do what you need to do to heal.

With my first mc I was on this app all day every day. After a month or 2 I realized that I needed to delete it and move on because I was only reopening wounds that were starting to heal. But each person is different. I see some women on here now that were on when I was experiencing my first mc, are they experiencing a 2nd mc as well or are they just on commenting on other threads? I don't know but a lot of their comments have helped me a lot. Again, as pp said, it's your call. Do what you need to do to heal.

I can understand what you're going through. The first few weeks after my mc I was here every day. As the weeks went on I found myself needing to be here less and less. I also joined two facebook support groups for pregnancy loss, so I was there each day too. I don't know if it was me making a conscious decision to be here less, because I know it probably was keeping it in my mind. Or it was a natural progression of the grief process, so it would happen anyway. Regardless, I still poke in every now and then to offer support to others who are experiencing what I did. I do'nt think I could be here every day like I was in the beginning. I follow other groups on this app, so if you don't want to delete it, check out some other boards and see if you find any interest there.

I can understand what you're going through. The first few weeks after my mc I was here every day. As the weeks went on I found myself needing to be here less and less. I also joined two facebook support groups for pregnancy loss, so I was there each day too. I don't know if it was me making a conscious decision to be here less, because I know it probably was keeping it in my mind. Or it was a natural progression of the grief process, so it would happen anyway. Regardless, I still poke in every now and then to offer support to others who are experiencing what I did. I do'nt think I could be here every day like I was in the beginning. I follow other groups on this app, so if you don't want to delete it, check out some other boards and see if you find any interest there.

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