Sensitive portrayal of women need of the hour

Experts feel that while media has to be responsible and understand its limitations, it can not hide facts at the same time.

Media, including the film and advertising fraternity, is often accused of commodifying women. There have been several instances of objectionable advertisements, portrayal of women in bad taste by a section of the fraternity. However, industry players feel putting everyone in the same basket is incorrect.

Prasoon Joshi, president of McCann Worldgroup South Asia said both things exist. “You find all kinds of films, people and portrayals. Some people actually are very careful about it and would not try and objectify a women or unduly disrespect or degenerate her image. But at the same time, there would be others who don’t care and bother. As a result you see advertisements and films with objectionable content,” said Joshi adding, it is for this reason there are various bodies to regulate such a mindset.

Media has been regarded as reflection of the society. While media has to be responsible and understand its limitations, it cannot hide facts. That said, media also needs to follow certain rules, have a line of control, but some entities do go overboard in an attempt to play the TRP game.

“There are a few instances of women being commoditised on TV for high TRPs,” said Raj Kamble, managing director of Strawberryfrog.

“Introspection is necessary anytime some atrocities happen. It should not be restricted only to the advertising and film fraternity but every other place, fraternity, discipline where there are women. They are all part of a society and media can not be singled out as the reason behind why this is happening,” said Joshi.

Joshi added that media is not only the mirror of the society, it also shapes the society. “While mirroring part is taken very seriously, shaping is not and that’s what I end up arguing with most media professionals including some who are good friends,” he said.

Indian psyche, experts feel, is among the various reasons responsible for problems. “It’s not as if the film makers in this era are responsible. Advertisements or films in the past have showcased women in a different light. You can find things that are objectionable throughout,” said a media professional.

14 Things Successful People Do On Weekends

Spencer Rascoff is only 37. Yet, the Harvard grad and father of three has already accomplished so much.

He co-founded Hotwire.com and served as a VP for Expedia; he held the roles of CFO, vice president of marketing and COO at Zillow; and in 2008, Rascoff was promoted to chief executive of the popular real estate information site.

Wondering how the Zillow CEO has achieved and maintained his success? His weekend routine has something to do with it.

“My weekends are an important time to unplug from the day-to-day and get a chance to think more deeply about my company and my industry,” Rascoff says. “Even when I’m technically not working, I’m always processing in the background and thinking about the company. Weekends are a great chance to reflect and be more introspective about bigger issues.”

He says he always spends weekends with his family. “Even if I’m on the road on a Friday and have to be back in that same city the following week, I always come home no matter what.”

Last year Rascoff’s New Year’s resolution was to refrain from checking e-mail during the day on Saturdays–but it didn’t stick. “I’m trying again this year and am having more luck,” he says. “I have three young children so weekends are usually an exhausting but fun smorgasbord of fort-building, bike-riding, soccer-playing, chess-tournament-competing, stroller-pushing, zoo-going, diaper-changing, book-reading and birthday-party-going. I never go into the office on weekends but I do check e-mail at night, and I use weekends as an opportunity to catch up on work-related reading.”

Laura Vanderkam, author of What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast (Portfolio, 2012) and What the Most Successful People Do on the Weekend (Portfolio, 2012), says successful people know that weekends are actually the secret weapon in professional success. “You need to hit Monday ready to go,” she says. “To do that, you need weekends that rejuvenate you, rather than exhaust or disappoint you. Cross-training makes you a better athlete, and likewise, exercise, volunteer work, spiritual activities, and hands-on parenting make you a better worker than if you just worked all the time.”

Executive coach Dale Kurow, M.S., says successful people usually spend their weekends participating in a “combination of family activities with their kids and spouse, errands, and creative activities to exercise the right side of their brain.”

Penelope Trunk, a career coach and author of Brazen Careerist: The New Rules for Success, adds: “A highly successful person is very focused on what they want to be doing. The weekend and the week look very similar: They are focused on creating the life they want.”

So who are “successful people,” and what exactly are they doing on weekends?

Sometimes success is defined by an internal compass, says Marsha Egan, a board certified professional coach.

“A successful person is usually one who has achieved a measure of happiness and fulfillment in their work, family, and spiritual life (however that is defined for the individual),” Kurow adds. “Most successful people need to feel a sense of accomplishment and are self-motivated to tackle the next challenge.”

Roy Cohen, career coach and author of The Wall Street Professional’s Survival Guide, believessuccess is often defined in two ways: Achieving and exceeding financial milestones or achieving great satisfaction through one’s work. “From my perspective as a career coach, real meaningful success bridges the two–great prosperity combined with real joy and passion for your work.”

Here are 14 things successful people do (or should be doing) on weekends:

1. Make time for family and friends. This is especially important for those who don’t spend much time with their loved ones during the week.

2. Exercise. Everyone needs to do it, and if you can’t work out 4 to 5 days during the workweek, you need to be active on weekends to make up for some of that time, Vanderkam says. It’s the perfect opportunity to clear you mind and create fresh ideas.

“I know an owner of a PR firm who takes walks in the park with his dog to spark ideas about how to pitch a new client, or what angle to take with the press for a story,” Kurow says.

Cohen suggests spin classes and outdoor cycling in the warmer months. “Both are energizing and can be organized among people with shared interests. For example, it is not uncommon for hedge fund folks and Wall Street professionals to ride together on weekends. It is a great way to establish and cultivate relationships based on membership in this elite professional community.

3. Pursue a passion. “There’s a creative director of a greeting card company who went back to school to pursue an MFA because of her love of art,” Kurow says. “Pursuing this passion turned into a love of poetry that she now writes on weekends.”

“Successful people make time for what is important or fun,” Egan adds. “They make space for activities that add to their life balance.”

4. Vacation. Getting away for the weekend provides a great respite from the grind of an intense week at work, Cohen says.

5. Disconnect. The most successful people avoid e-mail for a period of time, Vanderkam says. “I’m not saying the whole weekend, but even just a walk without the phone can feel liberating. I advocate taking a ‘tech Sabbath.’ If you don’t have a specific religious obligation of no-work time, taking Saturday night to mid-day Sunday off is a nice, ecumenical time that works for many people.”

6. Volunteer. “I know a commercial real estate broker who volunteers to help with cook-off events whose proceeds are donated to the Food Bank,” Kurow says. “The volunteer work provides a balance to the heavy analytical work she does all week and fulfills her need to be creative — she designs the promotional material for the non-profit.”

Cohen says a lot of successful people participate in fundraising events. “This is a great way to network and to meet others with similar interests,” he says. “The visibility also helps in branding a successful person as philanthropic.”

7. Avoid chores. Every weekend has a few have-to-dos, but you want these to take the minimum amount of time possible, Vanderkam explains. Create a small window for chores and errands, and then banish them from your mind the rest of the time.

8. Plan. “Planning makes people more effective, and doing it before the week starts means you can hit Monday ready to go, and means you’ll give clear directions to the people who work for you, so they will be ready to go, too,” Vanderkam says.

Trunk agrees. She says successful people plan their month and year because “if you get stuck on short-term lists you don’t get anything big accomplished.”

9. Socialize. “Humans are social creatures, and studies of people’s experienced happiness through the day finds that socializing ranks right up there, not too far down below sex,” Vanderkam says.

Go out with friends and family, or get involved in the local community.

“It has been demonstrated that successful people find great satisfaction in giving back,” Cohen says. “Board membership, for example, also offers access to other successful folks.”

10. Gardening/crafts/games/sports/cooking/cultural activities. This is especially important for those cooped up in an office all week.

Kurow knows an attorney who uses her weekends to garden and do mosaics and tile work to satisfy her creative side. “Filling her life this way enables her to be refreshed on Monday and ready to tackle the litigation and trial prep work. Artwork for her is fulfilling in a way that feeds her soul and her need to connect with her spiritual side.”

Bridge lessons and groups can also sharpen the mind and often create relationships among highly competitive smart professionals, Cohen says. “I once saw a printout of a bridge club’s membership list; its members were a who’s who of Wall Street.”

Theatre, opera and sporting events can also enrich one’s spirit, he adds.

11. Network. “Networking isn’t an event for a successful person, it’s a lifestyle,” Trunk says. Wherever they go and whatever they do, they manage to connect with new people.

12. Reflect. Egan says truly successful people make time on weekends to appreciate what they have and reflect on their happiness and accomplishments. As Rascoff said, “weekends are a great chance to reflect and be more introspective about bigger issues.”

13. Meditate. Classes and private instruction offer a bespoke approach to insight and peace of mind, Cohen says. “How better to equip yourself for success in this very tough world?”

14. Recharge.We live in a competitive world, Vanderkam says. “Peak performance requires managing downtime, too–with the goal of really recharging your batteries.” That’s how the most successful people get so much done.

Successful people know that time is too precious to be totally leisurely about leisure, Vanderkam concludes. “You’re not going to waste that time by failing to think about what you’d like to do with it, and thus losing the weekend to TV, puttering, inefficient e-mail checking, and chores. If you don’t have a busy workweek, your weekend doesn’t matter so much. But if you’re going from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m. every day, it certainly does.”

Why do some woman wear no ‘panties’?

I’m genuinely curious, why do some women choose not to wear panties? I am a woman myself and I always wear them but I am wondering what… benefit.. it is to go without?

p.s. this question came about because I was watching a Boston Legal episode where Sara Holt says she is not wearing any and it made me think!

Hi there,

I chop and change with the whole panties things. If I’m wearing jeans or tight trousers, I won’t wear panties. I find they chafe my groin area and give my folliclitis (ingrowing hair) which is unsightly. Also, in summer on a hot day, I quite often go without panties if I’m skirted. It feels fresher and there is something to be marvelled at the feeling of air on ones thru’penny bit!

There is of course the thrill one gets when whispering to ones lover in a crowded restuarant that you seem to have accidentally lefts your panties at home … The look they give you … Well swoooooon …

yeah it may be great until they get their periods…

Why do some men wear “NO BRIEFS”????GOT IT ???

Maby they like the breeze.LOL

open plumbing is risky

SPEED!!! lol ihave no idea i’m a guy and find it a big turn on w/really attractive girls. maybe they no this and do it to turn us on?

Most women do it so they don’t have any panty lines showing through their dress or outfit.

I’m sure others do it to feel sexy, etc.

because its comfortable & sexy.

to get some air down there i guess

It’s comfy and makes you feel like a bad girl.

It simply feels good. If your pan’t aren’t tight.

Various reasons I suppose:
Makes them feel naughty cus they think they’re breaking rules and they won’t get caught
They genuinely find it comfy
They don’t want a panty line
=] I wouldn’t go without lol..

When I was younger, I discovered that many women who wear full length furs don’t wear anything at all underneath. I asked my mother why this was. (She had worked in a posh retail clothing establishment in her 20’s.) She told me it was very common. She told me the fur was very soft and it felt good against their skin.

I imagine it’s something similar with women who wear no panties. They must like the texture of the fabric of their other clothing against their skin.

Less laundry to do later.

well, to some people think its more comfortable.
some women just dont like the feel of underwear. =]

i would say comfort. its much more comfortable

Because I wear nylons that go to my waist. To have panties under the nylons….I am uncomfortable.
Must tell you though, I was at work, and went to
before the ladies room, before leaving for home, and when I came out….( I worked at a military base), a young man was
following me…calling Miss, Miss….I turned around and he
said, you stuffed your Mimi skirt into the top of your nylons…..( the nylons were clear)……I did not think you
would like to go out like that…..Wow…..I had a friend that
picked me up at work….it was across the street….with all
the wind that blew…etc……it naturally would lift my skirt, as
I always tried to keep it down……that would have been so
embarrassing!! After that I wore panties….altho, I do not
at home…I do not like the edges against by body…
Happy New Year to you and yours!!

Well I don’t wear them because they annoy me, if I attempt to wear them they tend to roll down and then fall off my backside, so I have given up trying to wear them…

well you should go without them sometime and see whats so great about it.

turn men on,
because they just do not like them,
be sexy,

I actually dont know ….
But maybe because they think its sexy ..
There partners might like it ..
Or just they have noneleft to wear.

I think it’s cause men think that its hot and it’s also mildly suggestive

its actually refreshing.its really comfortable and it gives u a chance to let ur privys breathe, keeping them cooped up is not good, thats how people get all types of infections, its really comfortable an d actually really relaxing, people need to let it breathe down there!

For comfort, to save on washing, one less thing to put on/take off and for the fact that you may feel a little bit naughty.

Cos it makes you feel really naughty!

Number one it makes them feel naughty and number two they used all their spending money on a $500. purse.

I am an ER nurse and this is the best description of this event that I have ever heard. Please read, pay attention, and share!

FEMALE HEART ATTACKS

I was aware that female heart attacks are different, but this is the best description I’ve ever read.

Women rarely have the same dramatic symptoms that men have … you know, the sudden stabbing pain in the chest, the cold sweat, grabbing the chest & dropping to the floor that we see in movies. Here is the story of one woman’s experience with a heart attack.

I had a heart attack at about 10:30 PM with NO prior exertion, NO prior emotional trauma that one would suspect might have brought it on. I was sitting all snugly & warm on a cold evening, with my purring cat in my lap, reading an interesting story my friend had sent me, and actually thinking, ‘A-A-h, this is the life, all cozy and warm in my soft, cushy Lazy Boy with my feet propped up.

A moment later, I felt that awful sensation of indigestion, when you’ve been in a hurry and grabbed a bite of sandwich and washed it down with a dash of water, and that hurried bite seems to feel like you’ve swallowed a golf ball going down the esophagus in slow motion and it is most uncomfortable. You realize you shouldn’t have gulped it down so fast and needed to chew it more thoroughly and this time drink a glass of water to hasten its progress down to the stomach. This was my initial sensation–the only trouble was that I hadn’t taken a bite of anything since about 5:00 p.m.

After it seemed to subside, the next sensation was like little squeezing motions that seemed to be racing up my SPINE (hind-sight, it was probably my aorta spasms), gaining speed as they continued racing up and under my sternum (breast bone, where one presses rhythmically when administering CPR).

This fascinating process continued on into my throat and branched out into both jaws. ‘AHA!! NOW I stopped puzzling about what was happening — we all have read and/or heard about pain in the jaws being one of the signals of an MI happening, haven’t we? I said aloud to myself and the cat, Dear God, I think I’m having a heart attack!

I lowered the foot rest dumping the cat from my lap, started to take a step and fell on the floor instead. I thought to myself, If this is a heart attack, I shouldn’t be walking into the next room where the phone is or anywhere else… but, on the other hand, if I don’t, nobody will know that I need help, and if I wait any longer I may not be able to get up in a moment.

I pulled myself up with the arms of the chair, walked slowly into the next room and dialed the Paramedics… I told her I thought I was having a heart attack due to the pressure building under the sternum and radiating into my jaws. I didn’t feel hysterical or afraid, just stating the facts. She said she was sending the Paramedics over immediately, asked if the front door was near to me, and if so, to un-bolt the door and then lie down on the floor where they could see me when they came in.

I unlocked the door and then laid down on the floor as instructed and lost consciousness, as I don’t remember the medics coming in, their examination, lifting me onto a gurney or getting me into their ambulance, or hearing the call they made to St. Jude ER on the way, but I did briefly awaken when we arrived and saw that the radiologist was already there in his surgical blues and cap, helping the medics pull my stretcher out of the ambulance. He was bending over me asking questions (probably something like ‘Have you taken any medications?’) but I couldn’t make my mind interpret what he was saying, or form an answer, and nodded off again, not waking up until the Cardiologist and partner had already threaded the teeny angiogram balloon up my femoral artery into the aorta and into my heart where they installed 2 side by side stints to hold open my right coronary artery.

I know it sounds like all my thinking and actions at home must have taken at least 20-30 minutes before calling the paramedics, but actually it took perhaps 4-5 minutes before the call, and both the fire station and St Jude are only minutes away from my home, and my Cardiologist was already to go to the OR in his scrubs and get going on restarting my heart (which had stopped somewhere between my arrival and the procedure) and installing the stents.
Why have I written all of this to you with so much detail? Because I want all of you who are so important in my life to know what I learned first hand.

1. Be aware that something very different is happening in your body, not the usual men’s symptoms but inexplicable things happening (until my sternum and jaws got into the act). It is said that many more women than men die of their first (and last) MI because they didn’t know they were having one and commonly mistake it as indigestion, take some Maalox or other anti-heartburn preparation and go to bed, hoping they’ll feel better in the morning when they wake up… which doesn’t happen. My female friends, your symptoms might not be exactly like mine, so I advise you to call the Paramedics if ANYTHING is unpleasantly happening that you’ve not felt before. It is better to have a ‘false alarm’ visitation than to risk your life guessing what it might be!

2. Note that I said ‘Call the Paramedics.’ And if you can take an aspirin. Ladies, TIME IS OF THE ESSENCE!

Do NOT try to drive yourself to the ER – you are a hazard to others on the road.

Do NOT have your panicked husband who will be speeding and looking anxiously at what’s happening with you instead of the road.

Do NOT call your doctor — he doesn’t know where you live and if it’s at night you won’t reach him anyway, and if it’s daytime, his assistants (or answering service) will tell you to call the Paramedics. He doesn’t carry the equipment in his car that you need to be saved! The Paramedics do, principally OXYGEN that you need ASAP. Your Dr. will be notified later.

3.Don’t assume it couldn’t be a heart attack because you have a normal cholesterol count. Research has discovered that a cholesterol elevated reading is rarely the cause of an MI (unless it’s unbelievably high and/or accompanied by high blood pressure). MIs are usually caused by long-term stress and inflammation in the body, which dumps all sorts of deadly hormones into your system to sludge things up in there. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let’s be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive.

We spend most of our living hours at office and still do not follow basic toilets habits and manners. In simple words, it is shameful and more importantly ill-concern for personal hygiene for fellow office colleagues. And the fact that office toilets are in use throughout the day, makes it critical that everyone using it must follow some basic hygiene habits and bathroom etiquettes:

Cleaning the bathroom after use: Why should other person use the washroom that has been dirtied by another person in the first place! Men specially have a problem in terms of “lack of accuracy” and if their “aim” was not correct, then least they can do it to clean up with water and dry it with tissue paper after the use. For those who feel this is a “dirty” job, it will be nice to remember that colleagues following them in using the toilet will be using the same “dirty” toilet and even catch infection! Those who do not wish to do this “dirty” clean-up job should be careful that they always “aim” correctly! In very direct language, please do not sprinkle on the seat, clean it if you do and always remember to lift the lid before leaving the toilet.

Flushing after use: NEVER forget to flush the toilet after the use; it is not other person’s job to do this for you.

Toilet paper and soap: These two are the most used items in any office washroom. What you do after using them also determines how clean the office toilet is! One should only use as much toilet roll as one needs and ensure that the used paper is properly disposed into dustbin. There is nothing more disgusting then used toilet paper roll lying around in the office toilet. Talking of soap, ensure to let the tap run for 2-5 seconds extra so that wash basin is cleaned of soap. Ensure to clean the wash basin after you have used it.

Office bathroom – make-up and hair-styling: There is no doubt that this is one of the places in the office that offers privacy for make-up – Hair and face. But do ensure to clean all the hair and remains of make-up lying around the bathroom before you leave it

Office toilet maintenance – If you find that basic toilet necessities like paper roll and soap are finished or lights are not working or toilet is dirty, it becomes your duty to inform the maintenance or office boys. They will ensure supplies are immediately provided. Supplies also include a good sized dustbin and bathroom freshener like “odonil”

Limited time use please– Some people use office toilets for their private phone calls and sometime read to relieve stress! Well you come to office for work. Limit the use to 2-3 minutes, especially in the evening hours when everybody is in a hurry to leave for home!

Office bathrooms are not gossip rooms: Bigger offices have bigger bathrooms and over a period of time, they become favourite gossip place for some of us. Well, not only is it not right, you run the risk of others hearing your gossip! And where it is single use bathrooms, at times colleague’s gossip with each other across the door, with one inside and other outside. Well, there has to be a difference between office and home and doing such actions goes against the basic office etiquettes.

Wash your hands after use – Remember that you are in office and not at your home. Maintaining personal hygiene is not only for self but also important for other colleagues.

Here is “All the Very Best” for a nice, hygienically clean, nice smelling office bathroom and its hygiene conscious users.