Doc Love: Asking For A Relationship

You simply cannot believe how many people out there are jealous or envious, and if they ever have the slightest chance, they’re going to knife you right in the back. This is especially true at college or on the job — good for you, Xavier, for knowing enough to keep you to yourself. And I hope you’re remembering to be funny as well as light.

impress someone, putz

Now, let’s take a look at your problem. First, all these girls you’re dating are giving you three to four weeks to show them something — and you’re not doing it. You’re not selling them. You’re not increasing their Interest Level, which is what you’re supposed to be doing; you’re doing the opposite and lowering it. So, you’re obviously doing something very wrong.

Second, you NEVER, EVER ask a girl for a relationship. She’s supposed to ask YOU for a relationship, dude. That’s the whole idea of Challenge. The fact that she has to come TOWARD you is what gives you balance in the relationship.

What’s happening to you, Xavier, in salesman’s vernacular, is that you’re blowing all your leads. And you’re landing some great ones, man. You’re getting the chance to go out on three or four dates with these honeys, but for some reason you’re not able to sell them. You’re only lasting three or four outings, and in that time you’re not closing the deal, which is what my book teaches you how to do. In fact, with each shot you take, you’re going in the opposite direction.

getting smacked around

Of course you got smacked down when you asked to advance the relationship; you were pushing too hard and a request like that just proves it.

You tell me that you’re not jumping the gun with any of these girls, but I don’t know that to be the truth at all because you’re not giving me enough information to go on. For instance, you don’t tell me whether you’re waiting a week to call these girls. Are you asking them out for Sunday through Thursday like you’re supposed to? Are you creating a mysterious persona that attracts and keeps a female interested in you? You’ve got to give me more evidence to evaluate.

Since you’re flopping with every babe, my guess is that you’re all over them and that will do nothing to further your cause, as you’d know if you read my book. Those tactics — smothering and pushing — will only make you look like a desperate loser. Worse, you’re no doubt dealing with the 18- to 22-year-old ding-dongs in college. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “That there’s the most dangerous territory when it comes to females.”

kissin’ time

One more thing: By your own admission, you’re not kissing these women at the end of every date. To you Psych majors, it’s a half-truth that waiting to kiss a girl will ratchet up her attraction to you. The entire point of kissing a girl after a date is to test her to see whether she already has existing Interest Level in you.

Xavier, from all of the above blunders you’re committing, I can tell that you don’t have my materials. Until you get and memorize them, you’re going to continue to go through this frustrating cycle of abject failure. You’ll go on being an unhappy guy. So, you have to put in the effort to transform yourself. Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “Everybody wants to be different, but nobody wants to change.”

Here’s your choice, my friend: Memorize my book or transfer to a monastery and give up on women altogether.

Remember, guys: Without my materials, you don’t stand a chance.

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