I tumbled across this amazing video yesterday and shared it on twitter and couldn’t stop thinking about it, so I decided to share it with all of you as well. Before you watch, I just want to share with you my thoughts on why I think this video is so superb.

First of all, we as women (all women of all races) need to stop looking at one another as though the other is not good enough or in pitty just because she doesn’t have a man…really!!! We honestly need to stop letting our “relationship” status define who we are in society. The older you get, the worse it is. It seems that if you are not married by a certain age something must be wrong with you.

You are NOT right! First of all, just because you have a man, doesn’t mean you HAVE a man. Look ladies, if you are getting the crooked eye from some other married woman because you are single then something might not be right in her relationship…yah know. Most happily married women I know don’t question or judge your “status” it’s the women who are walking a tight-rope on their not so steady relationship that have the most to say about you to make them feel better about themselves and what they do (or really don’t) appear to have.

People with real, true love understand how hard it is to find and know how lucky they are to have it and understand that it takes time…the others, well they just get married because they think it make them a better person in society…then they get divorced when the children go to college and call it “irreconcilable differences” LMAO.

How about this you might not have a man because you are not gonna take whatever is thrown your way just to say you “he put a ring on it” like Kim said “the ring don’t mean a thing” and honey-baby-chile I’d rather wait for that person to come who is going to be strong when I’m weak, shedding the light when I’m in the dark, thinking outside the box when I’m stuck inside….my best friend, my supporter and I want to be him all of thee above to him as well.

So, I don’t know about you but I’m not single because something’s wrong with me. I’m single cause I wanna be. And instead of crying over why I don’t have a man, Imma do me! Believe me, I have kissed enough toads and recently learned that I WILL NOT settle for less just to say I gotta man! So death to the Tragic, Scientifically Less Attractive, Unmarried Single Black Woman!!

It’s a new year and I am exited about what is to come. Although I really don’t know what is ahead, I do know that I am making some new commitments and I am really exited to see them play out.

One thing I want to do new this year is projects. I have found myself surfing the web a lot lately and reading a lot of magazines with creative ideas that I want to try. I consider myself someone who is crafty, but not because I come up with ideas myself, but because I am inspired by others to create things. So, this year I’m going to take the ideas that I have been saving on bookmarks and pintrest and bring them to life. Living it up in the real world. Books on my “read list” will be cracked open. I just want to do a little more.

As far as my natural hair adventure, I am rolling strong. I have found what works for me and I continue to see so much progress. I absolutely love my hair. I can remember being a teenager wanting my hair to be as healthy as it was when I was younger, but no matter what I did I could not obtain the health or the length that I wanted. I will continue to grow in this area as well and record my progress and share what I stumble upon with all who may be interested.

Basically what I am getting at is this:

I am evolving and as a result the purpose of this blog is going to evolve as well. I love to write, but I want to make sure its fun, interesting and relevant to those that stop by. I want you to have as much fun looking through my site as I do writing, As I discover and try new things that I find, I will share with all of you and hopefully you will NJoy as much as I do.

What you will find here are lots of fun crafts, inspiration and ideas on everything from hair, fashion, beauty and style.

Like this:

I don’t post very often…so I guess I’m not a “go-to” blogger! Mainly my blog is my own personal hair journal and a way for me to look back on the growth and the strengths and weaknesses of this process. I was so unsure about going natural in the beginning, but now I realize it was the best decision I have made regarding my hair and my lifestyle. It is so funny how my healthy hair challenge has become the roots of a tree that has spawned branches into other healthy life-style journeys including eating habits and excercise. I have never felt happier and more confident.

Honestly, in order to rock it, you must own it and in order to own it, you must rock it! I am rocking it and owning it and I have become bold and confident because of it. I have learned not to care what other people think of me and my choices. This is my life and I’m living it as best as I can according to the plan and the purpose I was destined to live. I have grown so much as an individual and I am so happy right now and in love with myself 🙂

Anyways…there is my spill! Now fun part! Here are my pictures of my 3 month afro!! I’m pretty darn proud of the growth! You can’t really tell until you do these kinds of comparisons…but I love it! It’s fun and I never have a bad hair day…not even in the rain. I don’t worry about messing up my hair anymore and it’s growing so thick and healthy. OK so here are the pics:

My 3 month 100% natural afro 🙂

The day of my big chop! Compare that to the pic above ❤

This is my hair from the side shortly after the BC

For 6 wks I wore yarn braids. I did them myself! First time ever braiding my hair 🙂

My yarn braids again!

Hope you all njoy! Please let me know if you have any questions 😉
Thanks for stopping by…take care!

Reading will always get you through any adventure. I have been reading tons of your blog posts everyday and they are all encouraging! I love the stories, the advice, the realness!

I read a book a couple of weeks ago calledThank God I’m Natural by Chris-Tia E. Donaldson. This is a great, easy-to-read book for anyone trying to figure out what it truly means to be natural. There are so many stereotypes when it comes to women wanting to rock their natural tresses. She goes through and explains the process for every natural and transition hair styles from a simple twist-out to sister locks. I like this book especially because she tells her own story of becoming natural and the obstacles she would encounter and decisions she would have to make especially when it came time to rock her natural look in the corporate universe.

It’s complete with the natural hair dictionary and everything. Like I said, this book is a great beginners guide. It’s simple; no crazy jargon to get you confused. It’s straight to the point and it leaves you wanting to get to know your hair. Even if you have been natural for a while, it’s a good book to read.

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Book Review: Curly Like Me

Next on the list is Curly Like Me: How to Grow Your Hair Healthy, Long and Strong by Teri LaFlesh

Check out her story here. Her hair type is not at all close to mine, I believe she is in the 3’s and I’m def. a 4b or c, but I think our goal remains the same no matter what and that is to grow and maintain naturally long, healthy tresses! I would love to for you to recommend any good books or blogs for me to check out!