Work takes up almost all the time these days. Get up in the morning, send him off to work, pack lunch and rush to office hopping through traffic, battling with the crazy passengers in the bus to get myself a seat! Talking of which reminds me about these so-called “men” in the city of Bangalore.

When you get into a bus, and a man is sitting on a ladies seat, do the men get up for you or do they continue sitting there pretending as though nothing’ wrong..as though they are exactly where they are supposed to be? This is the case in this metropolitan city. In fact, sometimes you find these homo sapiens pretend to be in a deep sleep the moment a lady enters the bus! Else he would be in his own world..imagining his own dreams and all the time gloating over the fact that he has got himself a seat in the bus.

Can u BELIEVE such kind of men??!!! Some of the local women are worse! They don’t even bother to ask these she-men to get up. Instead they remain standing by the driver’ side creating more of a jam inside the bus and the men sit luxuriously as though everything is as it ought to be.

And in the case of pregnant ladies, women with babies on their arms and elderly people, the case just gets worse. Neither our she-man nor does our weak woman offer their seat to her!! They actually turn away hoping that they are not asked to “MOVE IT”! It truly is a pathetic situation.

There are very few guys who are gentleman enough to give up their seat and do the right thing. All said, I think gentlemen are very few in Bangalore.

Gentlemanly behaviour such as opening the door for her, pulling the seat for her to sit, standing when she enters, etc…

Think the world of her.

Put his arms around her protectively at night especially.

Sometimes it is hard for a woman to say exactly what she wants.. but if you listen to her carefully, you can understand what exactly she wants.. coz’ the female species keep dropping hints hoping that the male gender might pick them up and act accordingly.

It is not playing games that they are doing.. Its just that they are built in that way and just keeps hoping that men would understand them! But that never happens. That is the saddest part of life.

Love makes people so blind that you see nothing wrong in the person. But those rosy glasses need then be kept on till the end of your life. Coz’ once you remove them and see the uglier aspects of the person you thought was your soul mate, then love can hurt with such an endless unendurable pain that you would rather wish you were dead than go through with it.

Women are gentle. Easy to get hurt. Very touchy with a whole lot of stubborn-ness. Guys just have to handle them with care. Nothing much to it.

Its been awhile since Ive posted anything here.. Its just that there’s been so much happening..what with the wedding coming up and all..

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So, as I was sitting here, tag surfing and playing on all the various networking sites, the thought suddenly struck me.. Why is it that men do not undergo the same problems that a woman goes through in her life? Why does the woman have to suffer the pain of both menstruation as well as childbirth? Why not a man? Why were we created this way?

Doesnt a man need to know how it feels with all the hormonal changes, physical changes and mood swings and the aches and pains and the tumultous feelings rushing through us…???

Why can men not realize the strength of a woman which lets her undergo all these things in life and emerge victorious.. overcoming her fears, her sorrows, her pains and working her way through life.. slogging in the office to better those who think that women are just not as capable as men. Working hard at home also, to care for and love her husband, kids and family…to turn a house into a home and make it shining with love beams..

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Ive always hoped that some day men might understand exactly how strong a woman is and what makes her tick and what makes her snooze.. ie; what turns her on and what turns her off.. and yet understand also that women however strong they maybe, require that much the more amount of love and affection from a man to make her mentally strong and give her inner strength its brute power!!!

I don’t know why I even bother to try to help my partner learn me and get to know my likes, dislikes, wants, tastes and desires!!! cz’ basically, there is no use. He does not care. He has so many things happening in his life and so many more things that he cares so much more about that I feel I am an extra baggage that he longed for once upon a time in his life when he had nothing else better to do… 😦

Are all men like this? Are all men so selfish? Why don’t men understand that all women want is a little love…? A missed call occasionally, to show that he misses her.. surprises, to show her that he thinks about her.. late night talks, to show that he wants to be with her.. picking up her call, to show her how important she is to him.. just talking to her.. nothing special or nothing important or nothing worldly..just to show her that he likes spending time with her.. doing things for her, to show her his affection.. complimenting her upon her looks and the dress/hairstyle/sandals she wears, to show her that he notices every little thing that she does for him…

Why? Why is it soooo hard for a man to express such small things such as these? This is all it takes to make her feel like a princess.. like the most important person in his life.. like he cant live without her.. like she is all he needs to make his life complete.. like she means everything to him!!! These are such small things.. but at the same time, so meaningful…

But, NO! He won’t do that. He won’t do any of that. Instead, he will say “Ive apologized.” Like as though that is what she wanted to hear.. like as though that’s going to make up for what he did. An apology meant from the heart means something .. but when u say “Sorry” and then these two really male chauvinistic words, it sounds more like “Ive told you sorry. So now if you want u can accept it. I basically don’t care!”

Why would any guy say such words to try to make up with a woman?!!! If he had to say these words and believe that thats going to make everything alright, then I would say he is completely out of his mind!

I think it is only a wife who will be with her husband for the rest of his life. So, all that a man can look forward to in his old age, is his wife. She’ the only one who will be there for him, with him.. But for that to happen, he has to make her feel loved by him when he is young! It doesn’t take much.. but it would mean a lot to her!

We are not talking about material or worldly stuff here.. Wouldn’t you also like to be shown a little love to.. Wouldn’t you like to be the most important person in your girl’ life? Wouldn’t you like it when she smiles at you? Wouldn’t you like her to be with you when you meet your friends? Wouldn’t you like to show her off to the world? Wouldn’t you like her to call you? Wouldn’t you like her to send you mails/sms? Wouldn’t you like it when she says “You look gorgeous, honey..” ? Wouldn’t you want to be in her mind? Wouldn’t you feel very important if she hung up on her friends just for you? Wouldn’t you feel great if she dedicated her time for you.. whether it be to do something special with you or just stay in..? Wouldn’t you just love it if she travelled all the way from where she lives just to come see you and tell you how much she loves you and misses you??!!!! O yes, I know you would be happy!! … Maybe guys don’t need it to that extent…but its exactly these small things that can make a girl yours forever!!!