(Closed) FI May not get time off for the honeymoon.

I’m so frustrated!! I HATE HATE HATE the company Fiance works for. They had to close one day this week because of icy roads so they told him last night that he’d be working tonight. Less than 24 hours notice. So he’s expected to just drop all of his plans and work. They do this all the time. If they get behind on production or have a big project come up, they’ll just throw in an extra work day and you have no choice in the matter. Many weeks he works 7 days a week. They are so money hungry that he MAY get Thanksgiving or Christmas off (he works 3rd shift so he’d technically get the night before off) but then he always has to go in on the nights of the holidays which really means he doesn’t get them off because he has to spend a good chunk of the day sleeping so he can stay up all night. And I’m a nurse, I understand having to work some holidays. But he has to work ALL of them and for a company that has no reason that they have to stay open besides wanting more money.

Well to top all of that off, he put his vacation request in to be off for our wedding and honeymoon but he hasn’t heard back. So he went to HR this mornig to check on it. They said, “I’m sure it will be fine. Just come back two weeks before to fill out the form for it to be official.” Two weeks before?!?! So what? Do I just not pay for honeymoon stuff til then? Do I pay and just cancel at the last minute if they decide he can’t have the time off? I wouldn’t be as worried but the first shift guy put in for a week off around the same time last year and about a week before they pulled his vacation and he had to work. I hate that company. How do they expect anyone to have a life when they basically expect you to be available every day. (And every hour too because if someone calls in they expect you to stay over 4 hours or come in early 4 hours…if he doesn’t he gets 1/2 a point on his record as if he missed part of his own shift)

Hmm, that really does suck – he can’t get his boss or HR or whoever he reports to, to sign off on his vacation sooner? That seems a little ridiculous. I would go ahead and plan everything assuming your husband will get the time off. What else can you do?

Yeah.. we are taking a 2 week honeymoon – I’ve already had fi ask HR about it because I wasn’t going to pay for anything for the honeymoon until we KNEW he would be able to get it off.

Luckily, his work is very reasonable and pretty much gives you off whatever days you have ask for, and if for some reason they can’t, they give days off in order of priority [wedding, funeral, ect], if there isn’t any high priority cases, then it goes by seniority, which my fi holds over his department.

@Sea_Ashley: That is what I’m doing. It will just really suck if they decide to pull their usual crap and we are left with the options of forfeiting any deposits, him calling in for a week, or him quitting.

@babycuddlebee: This is what I think he should do but he isn’t as pushy as I am. I sent him a message at work telling him to get something in writing. He said that it’s “basically approved.” I told him that basically approved pretty much means approved unless something else comes up that they decide is more important.

@jenilynevette: Unfortunately FI’s company is not very reasonable at all! And he doesn’t hold seniority either so if someone else comes along that wants those days they could take them since he doesn’t have official approval.

But.. end of April is like really soon. Remind him it’s a month away..

and it’s not even a case of: “if you don’t ask you don’t get.”

Because he did ask and he didn’t get !

That is why it is doubly important to badger them for an official answer..

(How does he think now famous people who had no contacts got anywhere? By pushing. People don’t think less of you for doing it. They expect it.)

Tell him it’s a question of importance: your wedding and honeymoon rank higher than someone just planning a trip and running it by management. This whole: yeh yeh yeh it will be fine attitude from them is actually a little bit insulting to his ‘arrangement’ with you.

People who put themselves last mean less work for management in the here and now, but then you run the risk of being stressed when they start dallying and you simply need to know where you stand.

So, can he at least get a conversation going with them over email, then he will have something in writing. I mean that is the absolute minimum here..

Tell him it’s all very well taking a relaxed approach but that this would mean a lot to you and is quite crucial for your future. He will be marrying you (and not the company) so it is *you* he needs to impress.

Perhaps he really believes it will be fine and you know.. I’m sure it will. But it is peace of mind you are after because you want to be enjoying the run-up to your big day and not have the company feature as being in the power position because they already dominate in his life.