It can be incredibly difficult to resist the urge to tell your ex precisely what you think of them, particularly when they are behaving like a complete and utter tit.

However, opening a line of futile dialogue is precisely that, futile and it may lead to a vat full of stress that you probably don’t need.

How’s this for a cover solution; face paint, a nice thin brush and a private canvas, ie your forearm, tummy, thighs or elsewhere, could replace the spoken word and you can write whatever you like about them. This is a particularly useful preparation tip if you have to face them in a courtroom.

Only you know it’s there, it will wash off when you are ready and it can act like a bullet-proof membrane for difficult days, helping to keep their high irritations at bay.

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