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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?Dinner is a reward. Reward doesn't mean that it's special. But it reinforces the behavior. I think we essentially agree, I just think that anything that motivates a behavior is a reward for that behavior. You are thinking rewards as special treats, toys, etc. My point is that they don't have to be.

May22

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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?My point is that if you establish a plan, whatever your rewards and consequences are, it should work. I don't give them presents for doing the things they should do, but I reward them with thank you's and good jobs; if they don't do it, I punish them with a sermon of why they should do it. I'm lucky that works pretty much all the time. But each parent/kid combination needs to find what works for them.

How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?what you explain is a reward system. No matter what the reward is, if you point out what you get in exchange for doing something, it is a reward. Like I tried to explain, a reward is not always candy or video games. Food in itself is a reward. "You can come to dinner once you've picked up your dirty clothes"|"You get to eat dinner after you pickup your clothes". It's all how you sell it.

May20

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How do I deal with a child that refuses to do a chore or task?Giving back privileges is the same as giving rewards. As I mention in my answer, it is all the same, just depends on how you sell it. And I agree in general that they shouldn't get a new video game each time they make their bed; rewards|privileges can be pretty much anything...