We Can Rebuild Her……..we think

Every once in a while we have those moments where it feels like life is just too much to deal with. Woe is methis or that is making life difficult. I know I’ve had my share of “woe is me” times, especially during the past few months with my struggle to adjust to this back injury. I put on my sad face crown, slip into a black dress and have my own little pity party for a while. I’m not alone in this though. You’ve done it too at some point, or maybe you’re doing it right now. There’s nothing wrong with having a “woe is me” moment, it’s natural. When something bad happens you’re going to get bummed out or depressed for a bit until you find a way out of it. So put on your black duds and have your little pity party. But don’t let it become your life.There’s a difference between having a moment of “okay this sucks” and a full on “eff my life I’m always a victim.” Life isn’t perfect, life will never be perfect. A perfect life would be boring anyways. Believe me I’m not a fan of constantly dealing with BS, but that’s life. Random things are going to happen that you can’t control, and they won’t all be positive.

The problem starts when you let those random moments overwhelm you. You’re rushing down the street and someone else who’s rushing down the street bumps into you and spills coffee all over you. It sucks but it was an accident. You put get out of the car and your cellphone that was sitting on your lap falls to the ground and your screen cracks. Okay that blows, but again accident. Unless you could’ve done something to prevent the act from happening there is absolutely no reason to go on and on about having a rough life if random accidents happen. It’s the people that let their life spiral out of control that I have an issue with.

I bet you know exactly what kind of people I mean before I even start describing them. Tim is always publicly posting on Facebook about how he can’t find a good job. Now Tim goes into interviews in dirty or wrinkled clothes, acts unprofessional or shows up a half hour late every time without bothering to let them know he’ll be late. Tim’s been fired from every job because of attitude problems and not getting his work done. So once again Tim starts whining about how “he had that interview locked down” and he can’t understand why they wouldn’t hire him. Tim says “people just don’t want to give him a chance” and “they are idiots for probably giving the job to some foreigner.” You see how Tim makes it sound like he’s a victim and no matter how hard he tries he just can’t catch a break. Never mind the fact that his first impression is a bad one because he shows up late, doesn’t bother to iron his clothes and make sure they’re clean, and he acts like a moron during the interview. Any reference check of previous employers is going to end up badly because they’ll talk about how lazy and unreliable he is. Plus it doesn’t help that he publicly bashes companies on Facebook. People seem to forget about that wonderful thing called Google. Anything and everything your name is attached to will show on if they search your name. So all those posts about how this company is stupid or that boss is a moron, yeah they’ll see that and it won’t help you look too good before you come in for that interview. Mmmhmm you know someone just like that!

There are so many people out there that don’t bother to fix the things in their life that they have control over. Don’t put things on Facebook you don’t feel like having to defend to a boss or possible employer. We’ve all met or known someone who just sits there and lets their life spin out of control. Letting their kids act a fool and not stepping in to be a parent, they just whine about it. Publicly posting negative things about wondering why people think they have a bad attitude. If you don’t take responsibility for the things you can control, don’t bother bitching after the fact. You’re the only one who can fix your life. If you’re waiting for someone else to do it for you…well you’ll be waiting forever. Get off your pitiful behind, put on your big girl/big boy panties and start changing things.