The more you live with, in, from, and through unresolved past issues in your life, the more you are and will remain disconnected from who the Self in you really is today – from who you really are. Footsteps of unresolved emotions from the past cast a long shadow that effects people knowing who they really are and negatively impacts relationships.

Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying degrees of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Does everyone who has unresolved abandonment end up being diagnosed with a mental illness?

Grief is what it is. Grief is a part of life. Grief is a process that unfolds whenever we suffer, experience, or feel loss. Some reasons for grief are obvious – the death of a loved one, loss of a job or relationship, for example. Reasons for grief can be subtle – unfinished emotional baggage (abandonment issues) from childhood interfering with goal identification and achievement in the here and now, for example. Life Coach, A.J. Mahari outlines 7 keys that help the grief process and 7 keys that hinder the process of grieving.

Many people experience their emotional suffering as something that is outside of them. Something over which they have no control. The fact is that suffering is really a choice. Say what? Before you get angry or think I’m trying to say everything is your fault, please consider the difference between reacting to feelings related to the experience of events and/or circumstances – abandoning your emotional control versus empowering yourself by realizing and becoming more aware of the many choices that you can make. Choices that don’t have to involve you reacting to what you feel based upon events or circumstance.

A.J. – The Pscyhe Whisperer

Unresolved abandonment is a wide-spread reality. It effects many people's lives. Unresolved abandonment negatively impacts relationships and is one of the central reasons that people end up in abusive and toxic relationships - looking for love in all the wrong places. As a Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health and Self Improvement Coach, I work with a large number of clients who, despite other reasons for seeking out coaching, come to realize that they have unresolved abandonment wounds that are blocking their ability to meet their needs, identify and attain their goals and dreams.