Velazquez allegedly hit Hamill several times, threw him to the ground and threatened him with a knife during the altercation shortly after midnight, according to an Atlanta police arrest affidavit.

Velazquez–who has performed in gay sex films–apparently became enraged when he found Hamill watching porn on an iPad.

“[Hamill] stated he was watching porn on his iPad Pro when Mr. Velazquez asked him, ‘Do you really need to do that?’ Mr. Hamill added he then went to the restroom and heard a loud noise. He came out of the restroom and asked Mr. Velazquez what was the noise and they began arguing,” according to the arrest affidavit.

Hamill, co-owner of a local gay bar, tried to leave, but Velazquez allegedly grabbed his keys, pushed him into a wall, choked him, threw him on the ground and hit him repeatedly.

This isn’t the first time Velazquez has gotten into trouble for domestic violence. He was already on probation for beating and choking Hamill a year before.

According to the Domestic Violence Hotline, it takes a victim an average of seven times to leave an abusive relationship. Factors like social isolation, cultural values and the threat of even worse violence makes leaving an abuser difficult.

Domestic violence is a serious, but often-neglected problem in the LGBTQ community. A 2010 survey released by the Center for Disease Control found that 43.8% of lesbians and 26.0% of gay men suffer violence from a domestic partner during their lifetimes. A 2014 review by the Northwestern Medicine scientists suggested the rates are even higher.

Richard Carroll, professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine and one of the authors of the survey, attributed the higher rate of violence to the fact that same-sex couples “are dealing with the additional stress of being a sexual minority.” Carroll added,” The hope is that with increasingly deeper acceptance, the stress and stigma will disappear for these individuals so they can get the help they need.”