Master The Art Of Erotic Spanking

Feeling naughty? Master The Art Of Erotic Spanking

That nice, hard (but not too hard) smack across your girlfriend’s backside might have felt a little risqué the first time you did it, but now it’s such a part of your sexual routine that you can’t imagine not doing it when she’s bent over in doggy style. Right? You’re not quite as kinky of a couple as you think you are, considering 60% of women say they enjoy being spanked. But if your desire to leave a handprint and grab her backside keeps growing, you may be interested in a whole new level: erotic spanking.

What is that? Sex expert Sienna Sinclaire explains: “Erotic spanking is all about spanking someone for sexual pleasure or both parties. It's always a good idea if you're being spanked to enjoy it, but the person spanking can get highly aroused too. Sometimes the person being spanked can lead to orgasm and even squirting.”

Even if you’re not open to being spanked yourself, if your girlfriend is into a little more intense attention on her backend, here’s how to take those loving smacks into a new sexy world:

1) Where Does Spanking Come From?

Before you even get started with a little booty-play, take a moment to realize just how far back spanking actually goes. It might surprise you. Sex expert and commentator, Coleen Singer, says that while the earliest mentions go as far back as recorded human history, erotic spanking really became a thing during the Renaissance where it was practices in French courts. She adds that it grew to popularity in Victorian England and was referred to internationally as ‘The English Vice.’

It really became something that was more widely accepted centuries later. “Erotic spanking gained international appeal in the 1940s via John Willie’s Bizarre magazine which published illustrated fetish stories and articles, many of which had a spanking theme,” Singer explains. “By the 1970s, spanking groups sprang up around the United States, many of which are still active today (such as Shadow Lane, Crimson Moon and Paddles Club NYC) with the most famous retreats organized by spanking, BDSM and fetish film director Carter Stevens, which took place several times a year at a resort in the Poconos.”

2) Why Is Spanking Such A Turn On?

As children, the hickory stick was the worst punishment of them all and the very threat of ‘throwing you over my knee’ was enough to send us running. But as adults, why does spanking seem, well, hot? Singer explains it’s the mix of pleasure and pain — and that it’s mental. “The same neurotransmitter that helps control the brain's reward and pleasure centers, dopamine, is also active in the body’s chemical reactions that make us feel pain,” Singer says. “Erotic spanking — a perfect combination of the two — can be an arousing addition to foreplay and sex.”

Dawn Michael, who is a certified sexuality counselor and marriage and family therapist with a Ph.D. in human sexuality, also adds that being submissive or dominant with your partner can be a sexy role play that spanking easily falls under. “Spanking can be a turn on for both a man and a woman who enjoy being submissive to their partner, working it into a role of submission to their dom for a man or their master for a woman,” she explains. “When spanked the blood rises to the top of the butt giving it a tingling sensation and then a light feather can create chills after or a soft blow or kissing the area. Also some people like the anticipation of when the spanking is going to happen, it again speed up the adrenalin as well as dopamine levels.”

3) What Are The Different Levels Of Spanking?

You might have a sexual fantasy of whips, chains, leather and a dark room where your girl's dressed up in all black, and maybe even (if you’re really kinky!) — tied up, waiting for you to spank her. Hey, it’s normal and being dominant (as we described above) can be a big turn on for a lot of dudes. But before you work all the way up to intense erotic spanking, it’s important to understand what the different levels are. And where you should get started.