But Getting There!

Ignoring the insult…easier said than done.

“The vexation of a fool is known at once, but the prudent ignores an insult.” Proverbs 12:16

I think it hurts more when insults are thrust at you by someone close to you. I know for me personally, I can very easily ignore a strangers insults, rude behavior or bad attitude but have the most difficult time doing the same when it is someone I know very well.

There have been times, not going to point any particular ones out for the sake of those being discussed, that nasty even hateful things have been said and my initial reaction is to bite back in self-defense. It is typically our humanistic nature to bite back, hurt them the way they hurt us but ultimately it only makes us feel worse.

So what do you do when someone close to you hurls an insult in your direction, with your face being the direct target? Should you bite back, confront the hurler, forget it ever happened or give a little grace? The Bible tells us to ignore it, turn the other cheek, forgive 7 times 70.

Let me just be the first to admit, I just answered my own question. A person really dear to my heart said something extremely hurtful, intending to hurt me and instead of ignoring the comment, I have been ignoring the person. Apparently I need to spend a little more time with the Lord and less time trying to avoid the person.

In that same chapter it says, “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” I believe rash words are not the only things that feel like sword thrusts but avoiding/ignoring the person gives off the same pain. I need to be more diligent in using a wise tongue to help bring healing to the situation. Thank you Lord for the ever reminder of Your heart in daily matters.

Not Yet But Getting There (notyetproverbs31)

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Love all of your blogs Sarah!! This is much easier said than done!!! I’m like you, a stranger or acquaintance could say something and I wouldn’t let it bother me….but a friend, family member etc….and it bites hard! I try to let something rude or cruel go, but it eats at me until I have to say something. I try praying about it, but that deep hurt just doesn’t want to go away. I guess I’m a fool! Thanks again for these blogs….Blessings!