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The Sooner the better!

For some communities and families, mental health is never talked about and it can feel embarrassing to bring up. It's important to know that 1 in 5 Canadians live with a mental health problem and that these are not caused by weakness or poor will-power. When we break an arm or have diabetes, we will go see a health professional. Mental health also needs attention, time, care, and patience. The sooner someone gets help, (through diagnosing and treating mental health problems) the sooner they can start getting better and lead a full and positive life.

Talking about mental health or mental illness

We like to share good news with those we care about and trust, but many of us find it hard to tell someone if we are not doing so well. This can be especially true for those of us living with mental health challenges or illnesses. In fact, 42% of Canadians were not sure if they would socialize with a friend who has a mental illness! So we know that starting the conversation can be a little overwhelming and maybe even scary. Having said this, we also know that it is important to reach out for help early when you are ready. Here are some great tips to get you started or to help support someone when they share something about their mental health with you:

It's important to feel you are in a safe place and want to share.

Start by choosing someone you really trust. Maybe it's a friend, a family member or a trusted adult like a teacher or a coach.

Ask them if you can share something with them

Tell them how you are feeling.

Some people may not respond the way you want them to. Some communities and families never talk about mental health.

If the person doesn't respond well, think about who else may be a safe person to share with.

You don't have to share everything at once. This may take many conversations.

Some people might even be mean to you. This can be especially true if you talk about your struggles on social media. People can be mean on there! Make sure you are in a good place and ready before you share or post anything online.

Talking to friends about their mental health

So, someone has told you that they are having a hard time and would like to talk. So, now what? It's important to remember that nobody has all the answers. It is best to listen, offer support and find help when needed. These are a few tips to help when someone shares their concerns with you:

Use straight-forward, clear, simple language. If you use big words, talk too much, or try to fix things they are going to tune you out.

Try to stay calm. Getting angry and emotional in a situation won't be helpful.

Try not judge. Instead try to put yourself in their shoes.

Listening is the most important part of communicating. Try to reflect their feelings and try to be understanding. Using statements like "I see" or "Tell me more about" shows you are actually listening and the person will feel herd.

Be aware of your body language. Crossed arms or an angry look on your face might show them that you're not interested in what they have to say. Sometimes our body language speaks louder than our words.

It's important to continue to show, through your actions, that you care.

What if this creates a fight? Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. If someone's health and safety is at risk, a fight is likely worth the price. For instance, if a friend wants to hurt themselves, it's important to get help. When you're looking for help, you can always contact the Youth Services Bureau's 24/7 Crisis Line for support, counseling and advice at 613-260-2360.