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johnringer42

I am a grandad of 66 who has always looked after my grandaughter of 13?

my daughter is having a babby in febuary and wonts me to lookafter him I dont have a problem what do you thinkAdditional Detailswot I said I dont have a problem looking after my granson it will my daughter and son in law to go back to work to pay off there morgage thhat cant be bad can it I walk each day and keep busy

Everyone has read this wrong!! The 13 year old is NOT having the baby, the DAUGHTER of the 66 year old is! And it sounds like maybe he means "look after" him, not RAISE him. Correct Granddad?? Another thing; this is posted in the "Cancer" section...is this because Granddad has cancer?? I think more details are needed to get the proper feedback. If you do indeed have cancer then how will you have energy to care for an infant? Are you done with chemo and/or radiation? More details please.

kwhotrods

I Know you think you are helping your daughter,but she needs to take responsibility for her children.

sky

I think its nobel of you to want to do so, but her children are her responsibility, not yours. Why is she having kids to pawn them off to you? If she cant take care of her children, she needs to keep her legs closed or have surgery. Yes, that is harsh, but when does she quit thinking about herself and start thinking about other people.

-Apple-

When you say "look after" does that mean babysit while she is at work? And what kind of health are you in? Are you able to take care of a baby? If your in good health I would say go for it... 66 is not that old... (I'm 28)

Billy M

You're 66 and you are on Yahoo Answers??

Wow.

And your spelling is a little off too.

But if it is her baby it is her responsibility.

sukito

Looking after thirteen year old is ok as she is not in dependant on you But a baby is a lot of hard work and responsibility for you to have to do .And a baby needs its mother .Give it a lot of thought .

kpk

I think it is absolutely appalling that a 13 year old is in a position where she's having a baby, however, that's just my opinion. What's done is done and now she has to live with the consequences, as do all of your family.

My only qualm with this would be that someone that young might feel that she could just dump the baby with you all the time whilst she goes out doing what normal 13 year olds do. The baby won't hold facination for long. You will need to be firm with her and not allow her to walk all over you.

My thoughts are with you and your family. I hope this works out for you all.

grenadacherokee

If you don't have a problem with it, why should anyone else? Is the question because of your age? As long as you are physically healthy, and you have a backup plan in case you get sick, I don't see why not. You didn't say whether it was temporary as in babysitting, or taking on full responsibility, but in the case of the latter, you both need to consider the possibility that you may not be around to see the child grow to maturity. Need a little more information to really be helpful.

Taf

If you want to, nothing wrong with it. But a baby is a lot of work and as long as it is for the amount of time that suits you, rather than you being used for excessive hours.

I think it sounds great. Good luck and have fun.

Looking at some of the answers here it seems true the old saying 'youth is wasted on the young'.

Sunshine Smile

Hello! It sounds a bit like your daughter doesn't take responsibility for her own children?? Is that correct?? Its hard to answer because no-one here knows the whole background - how come you looked after your 13 year old granddaughter?? By 'looking after' do you mean you brought her up and she lived with you?? Is that what you daughter wants to happen with her new child?? Can you cope with a baby?? If you can now at 66 will you be able to do so in the future ?? If your happy and shes happy and the children are happy then thats fine but if there is a shred of doubt on yours or the child's side then you need to sit down and have a good chat with your daughter - if she is physically or mentally unable to look after her child you may need to get outside help such as the social - by that I don't mean someone to take them away - just someone to give the family a helping hand! Good luck to all of you!

bec_sing

If you want to take care of the baby, I think that's great - a baby deserves a family that loves him/her. However, make sure that you can also take care of yourself. By the time this baby is an adult, you'll be 84. Are you in relatively good health and do you believe you'll likely live that long and be able to continue caring for an active teenager? Can you afford to care for yourself and both children? You don't want to end up eating cat food in an alley in your old age - and you deserve better after raising your granddaughter. Good luck with this difficult and emotional decision!

Remember that, if you can't care for the baby, adoption is a good option. There are lots of families out there who want to give a baby a stable, loving home.

caseymitchum2000

Its good to spend time with grandchildren but just remember that. You do not want to be raising your daughters children for her or be a glorified babysitter when it suits her.

You've raised your children so now its time for you to relax and kick back.

tanika971

if everyone is happy about the situation, why should you not look after your grand daughter.

Away With The Fairies

I'm gobsmacked at the cruel reactions you've received! I'll keep very quiet about my age in future. In answer to your question, if you're happy to look after your grandson, then you go right ahead. Best of luck to you.

Peo

its up 2 u and her mate.

essentiallysolo

you are of legal age and can make such decisions for yourself, why would you bother to ask what a bunch of strangers think?