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Monday, February 27, 2012

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

I've spent a lot of time researching spiritual abuse, the kinds of people who spiritually abuse and found this great article called "Narcissism in the Pulpit" about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Be sure to check out the very informative website. Here is a snippet from the website:

Sam Vaknin, described by the New York Times as the “world’s leading
expert on narcissism”, describes
narcissism as: “Narcissistic Personality Disorder
(NPD) is an all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour),
need for admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by
early adulthood and present in various contexts. Five (or more) of the
following criteria must be met:

1. Feels grandiose and self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements
& talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior
without commensurate achievements).

2. Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power
or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily
beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal,
everlasting, all-conquering love or passion.

3. Firmly convinced that he or she is unique &, being special, can
only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other
special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions).

8 comments:

As I was in this church (BGBC) for some time, I recall on several occasions he (the pastor) would be having a conversation with one group of individuals, while simultaneously listening to another conversation going on with different individuals several feet away. I personally witnessed this myself on several occasions.would this be considered narcissistic personality dissorder? or just plain evesdropping?

As a mom, I'm pretty good at multi-tasking, but I don't think I could effectively listen to two conversations at once. Funny that you mention it, but I do remember him doing that as well. It seems that hearing only parts of conversations could lead to problems down the road, though. As far as your questions - my opinion is that he liked to be in the know about all things going on in the church.

interesting. I think it really is all about control. And the most dangerous person to have a degree in psychology is either a narcissist, sociopath our psychopath. The difference between the first and the latter two is that narcissists may still have a conscience whereas the others do not - they never feel sorry for harm they cause others. They are often the "captains of industry" (presidents, ceo's, etc) as they tend to be very intelligent, ruthless, and do not care who.they harm in the pursuit of profit & there own monetary and/or advancement of power. The reason the knowledge of psychology is so dangerous is that they use it as a skill set to learn more about people and what they are about, then use that information to manipulate, control, and, if they wish, destroy that person our people either figuratively our literally if that person poses a threat to their power & control, or stands in their way of it's pursuit.

Your pastor sounds much more like a sociopath than a narcissist. Sociopaths will never be able to be convinced that what they are doing is wrong or hurtful, and frankly, would not care at all. Guilt is an emotion they never experience. In fact, they are unable to care as they are devoid of both empathy and conscience. There is nothing that can help this disorder; for example it's been found that criminal sociopaths & psychopaths cannot be reformed.

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