It happened without warning, early one day last summer as they prepared to go out. Gloria Rapport's husband raised his arm to her, fist poised.

"He was very close to striking me," she said.

What had provoked him? "Nothing," she said. "I asked him to get in the car."

Mrs. Rapport's husband, Richard, 71, has Alzheimer's disease. His forgetfulness and confusion began about nine years ago, not long after they married. More recently, emotional troubles have loomed. Anxiety came first: he suddenly feared being left alone in the house. Outbursts of anger followed. The man she had always known to be kind and gentle could in an instant turn "cunning, nasty, aggressive, menacing," she said.

"The behavioral changes I've seen are absolutely frightening," she said. "I understand now why so many families institutionalize someone, because I was afraid of him."

Though memory loss is the best-known Alzheimer's symptom, the disease can also cause psychiatric problems that lead to profound changes in personality, mood and behavior. People who were happy and good-natured for most of their lives suddenly become fearful, depressed, deluded or angry, sometimes even violent.

Many families hide such symptoms, and perhaps as a result, psychiatric problems were long thought to affect only a minority of people with Alzheimer's disease or other types of dementia.

Only recently has it become clear that emotional and behavioral troubles are nearly universal among people with Alzheimer's disease, and the problems are frequently intractable and more upsetting to families than the mental slowing. Depression and apathy are the most common psychiatric symptoms. But agitated, aggressive and psychotic behaviors are a leading reason Alzheimer's patients are put into nursing homes. (The other is incontinence.)

"They are extraordinarily distressing and wearing on caregivers," said Dr. Constantine Lyketsos, a psychiatrist and Alzheimer's expert at Johns Hopkins.

More than four million Americans have Alzheimer's disease, and the number is expected to increase as the population ages.

Dr. Lyketsos said that doctors had become increasingly aware that elderly people who suddenly showed signs of mental illness might actually have Alzheimer's disease, though in the past they might have been given a diagnosis like "late-life psychosis," depression or nervous breakdown.

Mrs. Rapport said: "Most families won't talk about it. I equate this disease to how leprosy used to be. We've lost good friends, and we have family members who won't have anything to do with us. I think they're afraid of it, and there's a real stigma that the person is crazy. I think it's why a lot of families hide people away who have it."

The symptoms distress not just families, but the patients themselves.

"If your moods are labile or you get anxious and scared, there's a fair bit of suffering that goes with that," Dr. Lyketsos said. "If you have visions, or develop ideas that people are trying to steal from you or hurt you, there's a fair bit of suffering."

The emotional disorders can be difficult or impossible to treat. There is no drug specifically approved for psychiatric problems in Alzheimer's patients, so doctors try to treat the symptoms, using drugs meant for other illnesses. They prescribe a wide array of medicines, including antidepressants, antipsychotics used to treat schizophrenia and stimulants and drugs approved for anxiety, epilepsy and memory impairment. Sometimes the drugs seem to work, sometimes they do not.

Dr. Lon Schneider, a psychiatrist who studies and treats Alzheimer's disease at the University of Southern California, said: "Whenever you see a long list of drugs of different classes, you know there's no good treatment. You get a high degree of uncertainty, and companies hyping their antipsychotics."

Over all, Dr. Lyketsos said, the effects of the drugs are moderate. But he added that depression seemed to be the most treatable symptom, and could be eased in half to two-thirds of Alzheimer's patients with drugs like Prozac, which enhance brain levels of the chemical serotonin.

But some psychiatric drugs can have troubling side effects, particularly antipsychotics, which may increase the risk of stroke, diabetes, weight gain, high cholesterol, sleepiness and Parkinson's-like movement disorders.

There is "substantial and increasing controversy" about the use of antipsychotics and other drugs to treat behavioral problems in people with dementia, Dr. Schneider said. Twenty percent of all antipsychotic prescriptions are for the elderly, but there is no good evidence of their effectiveness, he said, adding that the results of a government-sponsored study are due next year.

Meanwhile, behavior therapy and activity programs at adult day care centers may work at least as well as drugs in some patients, and families are urged to try them first. Teaching relatives and the nursing home staff what to expect from a person with dementia and how to avoid confrontations can help to keep the peace.

"There's a tendency for us to want to correct people who are demented," Dr. Schneider said. "You don't do that."

Researchers think the psychiatric symptoms result in part from brain damage, as the disease eats away at nerve centers that regulate mood, perception and the ability to control impulses. But some problems may also arise from patients' anguish and frustration over their increasing confusion and inability to function.

Apathy, depression, irritability, sleep disturbances, agitation and aggression are common. Anxiety, delusions, paranoia and hallucinations may also occur, as well as disinhibition, or loss of impulse control. Patients sometimes think family members are impostors or intruders, or are out to harm or rob them. They may accuse spouses of cheating and slap, push or shout at relatives.

Testifying in March before a Senate hearing on violence among people with dementia, Dr. Lyketsos said that every year, about 15 percent to 18 percent of dementia patients had physically violent outbursts. They can be set off by changes in routine or even a room that is too hot or cold, or discomfort from dental problems or illnesses like colds or bladder infections that patients may not be able to interpret or express. Patients who can no longer bathe or use the toilet without help often misinterpret and resent efforts to help them.

Most of the incidents are minor and no one is seriously hurt, Dr. Lyketsos said.

"In fact, most of the time we never hear about it, sometimes because the caregivers feel embarrassed or ashamed to report it, or may blame themselves," he told the committee. But on rare occasions, real harm is done.

Last year, a man at an assisted living center in Eugene, Ore., shot and killed his wife, an acquaintance and himself; all three had dementia.

Dr. Jason Karlawish, a geriatrician at the University of Pennsylvania's Institute on Aging, said one of the first things he advised families with Alzheimer's patients was to get rid of any guns in the house.

Mrs. Rapport, who lives in Williamsville, N.Y., a suburb of Buffalo, gives her husband a drug called Seroquel to decrease agitation. It is an antipsychotic made by AstraZeneca, and is generally used for schizophrenia. The drug was prescribed by Dr. Pierre Tariot, a professor of psychiatry, medicine and neurology at the University of Rochester, who studied it for 10 weeks in 333 Alzheimer's patients and found that a high dose, 200 milligrams a day, reduced agitation without severe side effects.

Mrs. Rapport said: "I think the drug is absolutely wonderful. It brought him back to the same pleasant person he's always been."

Mr. Rapport has been taking Seroquel for about a year. Several times, he has become combative again, and so Mrs. Rapport increased the dose. Without the drug, she said, she would probably not be able to keep her husband at home.

Each family seems to have a different - and changing - recipe of drugs. Gertrude Affannato, 82, of Philadelphia was taking a memory drug, Aricept, and an antidepressant, Celexa, but a few years ago, as her dementia progressed, she became lethargic and reluctant to leave the house. So her doctor, a specialist at a dementia clinic, added vitamin E and Ritalin, a stimulant.

"It seemed to get her out of her shell and get a spark out of her," said her husband, Louis, also 82. "We were able to go out and do things."

But recently, he said, "she started to get belligerent with me at home and with some of the patients at the day care center."

"She never said a foul word in her life, and now, the least little thing and she'll curse you out," he said. She sometimes hits or pinches him when he tries to bathe her, and he said he worried that she would strike another patient or a nurse, and be thrown out of day care.

"Without that," he said, "I don't know if I could handle it."

Their doctor reduced the Ritalin, and Mrs. Affannato seems to be getting along better with the other patients, he said. But the lethargy and apathy have returned. As soon as she gets home from day care in the afternoon, she wants to eat dinner and go to bed. Then she wakes at 3 or 4 a.m., and wants him to get up, too.

"This is one of the toughest jobs I've ever had to do," he said.

Bob Simons, of Westmont, N.J., took care of his wife, Sylvia, 78, a former kindergarten teacher, at home for three years after her Alzheimer's disease was diagnosed.

"My wife is apathetic," Mr. Simons said during a telephone interview in August. "She's not depressed. Nothing makes any difference to her. She can spend hours in the bathroom examining all the jars and bottles she has on the counter. Once, I waited to see how long she would stay in there, and it was eight hours. She didn't come out for food or anything."

At times, Mrs. Simons suffered from hallucinations, imagining there were strangers in the house. She became careless about her appearance and sometimes wanted to sleep in her clothes instead of changing at bedtime.

"Sometimes I have to physically push her down on the couch and say, 'Take off your blouse, take off your skirt,' '' Mr. Simons said, "and she'll say, 'Oh, I was talking to the nice Bob before, now I'm talking to the mean Bob.' " "It's like I'm married to a different woman," he said.

She was taking several medications meant to slow memory loss, though Mr. Simons said he did not know whether they were helping.

"She might be the same way if I took her off all these drugs, but you're afraid to take a chance," he said. "If she had a good day when I waved a rubber chicken over her head, I'd be waving a rubber chicken over her head every day."

But Mrs. Simons seemed to get worse each day, he said, adding that he might eventually have to put her into a long-term care facility.

In September, he did.

It is a decision that most spouses dread, but must consider.

Mrs. Rapport said: "I'm happy because we can still have a life together - a different life. We still have the companionship. I know Richard would do the same for me. It's part of our journey together. There are no guarantees. I want to keep him home as long as I can."

My grandmother atacked my then 4 year old son twice. Once with a large book and then with a pair of scissors. She was not provoked either. That is when I knew I could no longer care for her in my home. Alzheimer's is one of the most evil and vilest diseases out there.

My mom has encountered problems with patients before. They revert back to their childhood. If their childhood was violent, then it's likely the patient will act out. It's take real skill and talent to deal with them.

My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's about 4 years ago. Her's ended up being a very aggressive form. I went through hell for 2 years....Alzheimer's victims tend to take it all out on their closest and most loved ones. My mom is currently in a nursing home and the worst is over. By that I mean the violent, aggressive outbursts that break one's heart. She remembers basically nothing other than her childhood. She still thinks her parents are alive even though they died over 20 years ago. I, my cousin, her brother and a few close friends are the only people she remembers. She will, sometime in the near future, even forget us. This is the most excruciating, heart breaking thing I have ever gone through. My mother was a dynamic individual, a business leader who was elected business person of the year in our community 25 odd years ago. To see what this disease does is absolutely the saddest thing I've ever witnessed. My heart goes out to all Alzheimer's victims and expecially their families who must cope and love the victim in spite of the progression of the disease.

I dunno, my husband's grandmother (for whom our youngest is named for was the sweetest lady, but... she strangled nurse's aid with panty hose and almost killed them. At the time she was under the strong delusion that she was protecting her home and family.

My grandmother was always throwing tableware and fruit (especially apples) at my kids because she thought they were theiving grifters (her words). Most of the time she thought she was on a train going to meet up with her husband who had been a train conductor most of his life and they traveled a lot by train after the war.

I don't know that they were angry and aggressive, just that their reality and our reality crashed into each other a little hard every now and then.

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posted on 11/02/2004 10:57:01 AM PST
by Valpal1
(The constitution is going to be amended, the only question is by whom?)

Alzheimer's is not something I would wish on anyone....including John Kerry. It is the most cruel disease to both the victim and his/her family. My mother in law was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 7 years ago and is still the same, sweet person she always was, only she has NO short term memory. My husband and I call her Dory when we're alone because she is just like the blue fish Dory in Finding Nemo. That might sound cruel & mocking to some, but when a family watches a loved one slip away, sometimes the only thing left is to laugh. The best part of her condition is that she has no idea what is wrong with her as she has since forgotten her diagnosis. Prayers for anyone who is suffering.

My father in law died of Alzheimer's last year after he had reached the point where he forgot how to swallow and inspired food, leading to pneumonia. Over the previous four years, we had watched the progress of this disease until he no longer recognized any family members, knew who he was or what he was doing. This from a man who had been the auditor of a major corporation, who was well read, and who enjoyed life.

He was good natured to the end and never got violent or mean. This is a cruel disease.

You sir, are an idiot. You know not of what you speak. I'm going to take a shot here and guess that your comment is out of youthful ignorance. For their sakes, I hope your parents will NEVER have to depend on YOU for care in their declining years.

"You sir, are an idiot. You know not of what you speak. I'm going to take a shot here and guess that your comment is out of youthful ignorance. For their sakes, I hope your parents will NEVER have to depend on YOU for care in their declining years."

Huh?

Many of my relatives had Alzheimer's and WE TOOK CARE OF THEM. We didn't farm them out to an old age WAREHOUSE to be neglected and die and NONE of them were violent.

How dare you point your finger at ME. OTOH, you sound like the typical cantankerous hypocrite.

My sister and I cared for Mom till her passing. For 7 years that disease charged along on it's way to destroying a sweet, dear lady. Her violent outbreaks mainly resulted in self injury. My Dad passed about 3mos. before Mom and although she had recognized no one for several years, she would ask for him each day. When told he was gone, it was like she found out for the first time. Tore our hearts out. Try to remember the fun things. With Mom it was tissues and mini Tootsie-Rolls. When I'd undress her for bed, it was like a pinata(sp?) tissues and Tootsie-rolls stuffed everywhere and falling to the floor. We buried her with both in her pockets. I never thought that I'd be changing my Mom's diapers, but hey, she did it or me. You do what ya gotta do and every once in a while, a different light would come in her eye and I liked to believe that she understood. Good luck.

My prayers for anyone with a family member suffering Alzheimer's. Truly one of the cruelest of diseases. My grandmother and both of my wife's grandmothers died from it.

This thread caught my eye because I had just gotten off the phone with my wife. She hosts a Bible study in our home every Tuesday morning and this morning an elderly lady who's been visiting our congregation showed up. [I'd be interested to know what first brought her since our worship service is decidedly contemporary in style. She keeps coming because she said she could tell our congregation was genuine in our faith...] She told my wife she's been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and it saddens her because she's been forgetting things about her faith. Sorry, something in my eye...

My wife told her that even though she might forget, the Holy Spirit doesn't and he knows just how to pray for her even when she doesn't. She seemed to get a lot of comfort from that. I think I'll change from my usual seat this coming Sunday and try to get to know her a little better.

We're just about to complete a home addition to house my mother-in-law, who has alzheimers. We should have her with us by Thanksgiving. We'll keep her as long as we can. My wife's grandmother also had the disease..... so needless to say.... my wife is researching anything she can do to make it skip her.

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posted on 11/02/2004 11:32:29 AM PST
by kjam22
(What you win them by, is what you win them to)

Commendations to you and your family for the care you gave your relatives. OTOH, there are people who, for health reasons, cannot care for an Alzheimer's patient in the home. Everyone that I know kept their family member at home as long as possible. I don't know anyone who "farmed" anyone out at a "warehouse."

I've cared for a number of Alzheimer's patients, and they are different at different stages. Some do become violent, and I wonder if sometimes that's because of minor strokes that go unnoticed...in any case, it's an organic disease, and can affect different areas of the brain in different people. When a small, frail wife has a large, aggressive husband with Alzheimer's, she can be harmed, particularly after he no longer recognizes her.

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posted on 11/02/2004 11:34:49 AM PST
by Judith Anne
(The last time Kerry said "Reporting for duty!" he betrayed his comrades, his flag, and his country.)

Of all things to be nasty about - ALZHEIMERS is not it! Save the ugly for the enemy. We are not the enemy. And God bless and keep each of you who have cared for and loved a family member stricken with "A"

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posted on 11/02/2004 11:36:47 AM PST
by daybreakcoming
("The American press is all about lies! All they tell is lies, lies and more lies!",,,,,,Baghdad Bob)

My boyfriend had atypical Parkinson's Disease. It started when he was in his forties and developed with a mixture of Parkinson's and Alzheimer's symptoms, also including paranoia and, at times, violent outbursts. He died after twelve years -- from a brain tumor that hadn't shown up on MRVs a year earlier. I empathize with all who have to care for these patients. And decisions about what to do become more complicated still when the individual is not married. Note that all these stories involve people who -- for all their suffering -- are lucky enough to have a devoted spouse who will devote himself totally to their welfare. When you are not married to the ill person and have to earn your own living, the choices become even more difficult. I had my boyfriend committed once because he was threatening suicide -- and seemed to want me to take this action. After that, however, he became more secretive. Drug addicts preyed on him, pretending to be his friends and running up enormous credit card bills ($67,000)by taking out cash advances. At times he wanted to be rescued by me, at other times he insisted on seeing these people and there was nothing I could do. He punched a stranger on the street and knocked him down. When I let him stay at my apartment, he could not be left alone for an hour -- started fires,called our friends to complain that I was holding him prisoner, and so on. Unlike the patients in the article, he still youthful looking and powerfully built, so if his medication was working it wasn't always obvious how sick he was. I lived in terror that he would end up arrested. Though it was clear to me that he was not competent, he managed to pull himself together during visits to his doctors and pass their tests, so he was not considered a candidate for residential care. He could turn on the charm and seem like the most reasonable person in the world. I was the villain for thinking it might be necessary to hospitalize him. I'm sure this case isn't unique -- and in the future,with so many adults who are single, divorced or otherwise alone, the problem will become more acute.

Tragic and sad but very real. My husband's grandfather, Granpa George, had Alzheimers. He had some occasions where he burst out at Grandma. Part of it was frustation and loss of memory. He was agitated for a time. One he progressed beyond that, the episodes stopped. It's hard as a family to see someone forget them. Grandma developed it later. They always cooked in aluminum cookware...don't know if that is a factor, but I threw away all my aluminum cookware.

There is a condition called NPH that mimics Alzheimer's. Can be found with an MRI. Worth checking our if you have a loved one with problems. NPH is fluid in the brain and there is successful treatment for it.

The first three years, including the six months before the diagnosis was made on my Mama, she was unusually gullible to mailed scams. My sisters found out about it when she called my just younger sister's husband telling him to come get her because she had just won a truck. He and my sister went to her house, and through talking to her and surreptituously looking through her things, found out that she'd sent almost $2,000 (that she didn't have) to these scams. Once she returned the first one, she was on ALL their lists. After that, they took the checkbook away, and after almost killing herself and my older sister in the car, they took that away, too. She was very belligerent to them, but not to me, since I didn't live nearby. She was always a very gregarious person and talked a lot, but when she was diagnosed she just shut down. It was like she didn't want to speak because she was afraid that people would discover what was wrong with her.

We hired a woman who lived with Mama and took care of cooking, etc, because she was still ambulatory, but just needed supervision. While she was ugly to my sisters, she was NEVER mean to the caregiver, Mary. Once, when she yelled at Mary for some reason, Mary just told her that she must have mistaken her (Mary) for one of her (Mama's)children. Mama apologized!

When she no longer recognized her house as her own, and when she'd become more medically needy, we put her in a nursing home. She lived for a couple more years; she died this past summer. But she enjoyed the nursing home. She chatted with the nurses, but not so much with the other patients, and was more like her old self. She even still recognized her children and grandchildren, her siblings and some of her nieces and nephews; the great grandkids were too difficult to remember.

When she died this past July, peacefully in her sleep, all of us breathed a prayer of Thanks to God. She had never gotten to a bad stage where she didn't know anyone, so we were grateful for that.

I don't know that there's anything people are doing that is particularly causing Alzheimers. I recall about 20-25 years ago that Alzheimer's was only diagnosed if you got it in your 50s or 60s *and* had a conclusive brain autopsy. Senility or dementia in older years (i.e. 80s) wasn't considered to be Alzheimer's.

Now the diagnostic criteria seem to be greatly widened, and so practically every loss of memory/personality in old people, even the very old, is considered to be Alzheimer's. Is it? I don't think (correct me if I'm wrong) that there's any conclusive diagnostic way to tell during life.

IMO, we're seeing far more senility of all kinds because people are simply living longer, unlike decades ago when people died more frequently, and more quickly, from strokes & heart attacks.

Your personal accounts are so much like our family's - my father, age 69, died 11 years ago on Thanksgiving morning of Alzheimers-caused pneumonia, having lost the ability to swallow, speak, or just about anything else. It was really strange to hear that he had lost even his gag reflex. In his last few years, he was paranoid and delusional, and nothing like the gentle, dignified, successful, accomplished television executive he had been. It is a horrid disease.

My brother-in-law has it and he goes around drinking everyone else's drink at family get-togethers, can't see the sugarbowl when it's staring right at him, and mistakes grown-ups for children and waves to them in restaurants. He once got lost on a cruise ship and ended up walking out on the runway during a fashion show.

Hint for restaurants. Mom's hands had contracted to an almost claw-like state. She had a tough time with utensils. We started taking her to a local Chinese restaurant that had an all you can eat smorges-board. All finger foods were the order of the day. Tied a plastic apron around her neck and she would have a ball.

"I am having to doubt that you have ever been around Alzheimer's....much less did any one on one care for them. That's one of the most ignorant statements I've ever heard on this forum, bar none."

Wrong again!

My Grandmother passed away in Feb. of this year. Had she lived to June she would have been 101. She was docile but stubborn. It was a trait we didn't often see but we knew it was there.

She was to the point where even the earlier years weren't so clear any more.

All I can say is if a person is bitter in life they will be bitter in their old age. It's the truth and Alzheimer's will enhance that disposition. People don't want to hear that but it's true. I've seen this with MANY who have Alzheimer's.

People with Alzheimer's REGRESS mentally. They don't remember from one minute to the next. The neurons are not mapping anymore to form new memory.

Part of aging includes faculty decline. More often then not they have the skills of someone in pre school or kindergarten. It's simply the body breaking down.

It is also true that how a person lived their life when well will also be the way they die. What I mean by this is their disposition. If they are bitter, they will have a more bitter outlook at their life ends. If they were pleasant and content they will have this disposition when they fade away. This is rather obvious to ANYONE who has cared for a loved one they knew all their life. Interestingly enough, hospice websites also state this FACT.

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