Kinky Ideas For A Sexy Time

Sex is infinitely complex, multi-faceted, and diverse. I love it because it’s always bringing me something new to play with, challenging me to think about the world with more openness, and connecting me to my own and other people’s bodies. Sex is beautiful, and messy, and playful. It breaks my heart that many people have so much shame tied up with their bodies and sexuality that they don’t even feel like they can enjoy or explore it. That process has been so rewarding and enlightening for me.

My Favorite Kinks

I’m a big fan of a lot! Some things I love now I could have never fathomed participating in even a couple of years ago. I’m personally into very raw, messy sex. I like spit on every surface of the house, and seeing a beautiful face of makeup slowly ruined as the passion of the night intensifies! I’ve also learned recently that I’m a huge voyeur, and even probably a Cuckquean.

It goes into the polyamory concept of compersion, where seeing your partner happy, even if it doesn’t include you, makes you happy. It’s that same concept, except I get to get off on how good someone else is fucking them. There’s a quite humiliating aspect as well, of the dominant being better to my partner than I am, which is a fun mind fuck. And of course, since I’m a switch through and through, there’s nothing like giving my sub a nice flogging that takes them to a heavenly, ecstatic, and absolutely destroyed subspace. I just love how far kink can take you.

Do I Enjoy Being A Dominant Or Submissive?

It really depends on the partner. I have more experience as a submissive, and that is 100% due to the way women are socialized to be the receptors of men’s pleasure before pursuing their own. In that sense, being dominant has been absolutely empowering and beautiful for me. It’s given me a real sense of accomplishment and self-esteem. I do enjoy being roughed up and ‘put in my place’ so-to-speak though, and I think having been dominant makes subbing even more fun, because it takes more from a dominant to impress me. I like sexual challenges.

Popularity Of Kink Requests

I cater to a lot of men who are interested in exploring kink but haven’t had the resources or confidence to, who may be intimidated by seeing a traditional Dominatrix, or want more than a traditional Domme would offer. My GFE background makes it less threatening for clients to confide their desires in me, and my knowledge of both worlds can help them navigate that. Fetish and BDSM interests are slowly becoming more mainstream and less taboo, and I think people feel more comfortable exploring them than we’ve been allowed to in decades, if not centuries.

Shamelessly acknowledging our true desires and reveling in them can be so liberating in a society that consistently tells you your body, sex, and interests are wrong and dirty. In BDSM and kink, you get to create the world you want to live in. On the flip side, embracing the inherent shame that comes from mainstream conservative mores can be quite a fun edge for some people, myself included.

Kink Tips For Beginners

It really depends on people’s personal interests. Just like with sex, we all have things that attract us, scare us, trigger us, or empower us. What excites one person may totally traumatize another. It’s really important for that person to be in control of their own experience and explore their own personal desires in risk-aware and consensual settings. I’d say most newbie/ vanilla people like to start off with more simple things like spanking, anal toys, and breath play, and go from there based on how they feel.

Others have fantasies they’ve been dreaming about since their early youth, and want to jump right in with a dark-age play scene with themes of degradation and incestuous abuse! More important than any specific act or path to take is for newbies to remember that you don’t have to do anything you don’t like to to be kinky or practice BDSM. It’s there for you; it’s yours to craft to your liking, not anyone else’s. Make it work for you, whatever that means.

Sadie Prescott – Sadie Prescott is an independent escort and professional BDSM switch who tours frequently and is currently living in Minneapolis, Minnesota. When she’s not having fantastic chocolate-covered orgies or torturing her clients, she’s cuddling her two bunnies, reading queer academic literature, or working on her fine art photography series’. She absolutely loves her job and is fighting for sex worker rights and the decriminalization of sex work across the globe.

Sadie Prescott is an independent escort and professional BDSM switch who tours frequently and is currently living in Minneapolis, Minnesota. When she's not having fantastic chocolate-covered orgies or torturing her clients, she's cuddling her two bunnies, reading queer academic literature, or working on her fine art photography series'. She absolutely loves her job and is fighting for sex worker rights and the decriminalization of sex work across the globe.