Introducing “FBomb Talks Sex”

if this is what sex-ed looks like in your school, you better read this column

Sex is probably one of the most taboo, yet most highly discussed topic in any teenager’s life. If you’re not talking about sex, you’re probably thinking about sex. Even if you manage to push all sexual thoughts from your head for a minute — something I’m still working on — you’re bound to be bombarded with some sex-laced commercial, reading, or comment. Regardless of the position you take on sex, it exists and that’s why each and every one of us is here.

We deal with slut shaming, virgin shaming and everything in-between on a daily basis. Now more than ever in a sex obsessed world girls need to own the fact that we are sexual beings. I’m neither encouraging people to sleep around or to keep their legs shut until marriage. Rather, I want to know where you stand. Past Fbomb posts have already displayed girls voicing their opinions about sex. It’s time for the FBomb to create a special forum for girls and guys to ask questions about, talk about and debate all things sex, and I’m happy to be your go-to girl / moderator / sexpert.

I honestly can’t say I’m by any means the most experienced or even the most informed when it comes to sex. Hell, half the time I have just as many questions. But I’m shameless and curious and am willing to find out the answers to your questions, no matter how silly or embarrassing you think they are. Women ahead of us have battled for our right to vote, to use birth control and to be sexually liberated.

All I ask is that you own your opinions about sex and ask me any questions you might have. Here’s a little info about me:

Name: Marie B

Age: 18

Occupation: College Student

Things I Think About Most: Sex, Food, Repeat

So now that you know a little bit about me, I want to hear from you! Email fbombtalkssex@gmail.com. I plan to write a regular column answering any sex-related questions that you have, so please ask me anything! Also, if you have any ideas about what else you’d like to see covered in this column aside from Q&A’s, leave suggestions in the comments or email me!

This is a pretty good idea. I am willing to participate in helping with advice too. I am 27 and have about 10 years in experience in sex. I’m no expert, but there are a lot of things I know.

Now I will say there are some beliefs I have that I hope don’t get in the way. I think there needs to be some changes in our education systems when it comes to sex ed. I don’t believe in only teaching abstinence, but I certain don’t want to advocate minors having sex if they are underneath age of consent. There are a lot of myths that teens think is safe when it’s really not, and that sex in just an act you do when you are in the mood, which is why we have so many unwanted children by teenagers. And now we have all these teen parent shows putting the ideas in their heads thats it’s no biggie to be 18 and a single mom. Sometimes it’s even cool. You won’t believe how many of them are seriously saying things like “Hey you are 17 and pregnant? Me too! We can be the hottest teen moms in the school!” Sounds unreal but it’s not.

Renee @ at 9:23 pm, September 7th, 2011

As a sixteen year old who has had one classmate too many get pregnant I think we need to step up our game in terms of comprehensive sex ed. Just to give some background information I live in Texas (hearts go out to fire victims((i actually live near one of the fires))) and I had Health which is harmful effects of drugs with some aids talk thrown in there and while that was good it couldve been better and the way I see it is….what could it hurt I mean really what/why are we holding back vital information that could lead to a healthier future!
@Ashley telling kids about sex sexuality and condoms isn’t the same as “heres some condoms billy put a helmet on it!”…like no it’s not the same thing AT AAAAAAAALLLLL! I really don’t know why some people think this….

Catherine @ at 1:50 am, September 10th, 2011

I’d be delighted to help as well. While I advocate that the more ‘extreme’ parts of sex be saved for adults, there’s nothing wrong with answering questions about it. If I don’t know the answer to questions about it, I have a great group of people to lean on for answers.

Just remember, safe, sane, consensual!

Catherine

Emma @ at 4:01 pm, September 13th, 2011

Sounds like a great idea!

Kaitlyn @ at 8:12 pm, December 23rd, 2011

I am a 16 year old and I am a virgin. I will have sex one day but I haven’t yet. Its not that I don’t want to, but I haven’t because I see myself as being young, and perhaps impressionable, I also haven’t had a steady long lasting boyfriend that I really want to with . I also think that half the reason I haven’t is because of all of the pressure to do so at my age. I think that with sex everyone has a choice and it annoys me that people judge others for either not having had sex or for doing so, without much emphasis on the choice that people have. I also think that the actual “virgin” thing is stupid because penis in the vagina isn’t the only sexual act out there, there are so many more, also for lesbians do they ever loose their virginity?? Its all bullshit and just another means for society to use sexuality against girls, when we deserve the right to choice, if it is to do so or not. Its funny being a virgin but feeling sexually liberated because I am making my own choice, just like if people chose to have sex if they like the choice there making, then go for it!

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