03 October 2010

Mother Father-child Relationship its impacts on mental and emotional development of the child: The Hyperactive Child

Child develop well if they have their parents live together. The mother's love is like a drug and is difficult to lack. A good mother could viewed among other qualities as the one who creates a child 's feelings of safety ,being wanted and freedom. Due to breakdown of families because of HIV & AIDS pandemic ,high rates of divorce ,prostitution and poverty motherly love is difficulty to comeby and left most children feel neglected. The children might lack comfort and grow up suspiciously,unfriendly towards other people. These children might not understand why other people show affection to them.They become indifferent to life and even feel rejected by the community and society as whole. Such feelings and attitudes could affect them in their education and likely to feel grieved and develop poor relationships with their peers . These children eventually might find it difficult to appreciate any affection shown by the teachers.Whilst lack of motherly love and care might have an adverse effects on child's development, too much motherly love and care might also affect the child's performance in school. Like an overdosed drug lacks its importance of relieving pain. A mother who is over protective tries to keep her child for as long as possible . She does most of the things for her child .The child is kept away from other children lest they might hurt him /her.This child is never treated as a grown up boy or girl and therefore lacks necessary experience ,and this results in retardation.
A restrictive Mother:Children develop motor skills through manipulating things. They need freedom of movement to discover and to master the movement of their hands and other parts of their bodies. They are very active at this stage. At school, the mother will not be there to impose her motives to her child. The child will evenually become retarded,helpless and even lazy this leads to lack of self-confidence,initiative and perseverence.
The Father: In most societies and religious belief the father is regarded as the head of the family. He is a disciplinarian and protector of the whole family.The father has the task of winning both love and respect from his children ,this is a formidable task.
The disciplinary attitudes of many fathers has adverse effects on their children later in school. The father who mercilessly punishes his child is likely to lose the child's love. The child will fear and hate him. The said child will become a pretender,cheator,cloak, or a lier when only doing things that will please this father .The child lose self-confidence and withdrawn.These qualities are likely to be carried in the classroom.
The spirit of individuality in child is turned down by the needlessly harsh father and the child is afraid to express himself/herself and might upset this father.
The child develop to be submissive ,silent and socially backward , in which becomes a rebel,bully and at times a coward.
A very lenient father who is not firm is likely to spoil the child. A father who lets
his child get away with everything s/he does wrong could be spoiling the child. This child would falsely believe that everyone will let him get his own way. The child might eventually become selfish ,conceited ,bossy and lazy.
The emotionally Disturbed Child who have difficulty in adjusting to their environments.The child with problem behaviour.Lets look at this emotionally disturbed child who exhibit problem behaviour like hyperactivity ,the withdrawal and runaway reaction ,and over -anxiousness.
Hyperactivity refer to a neurological impairment .It is highly visible in the classroom .A hyperactive child is generally overactive ,restless ,excitable and impulsive in the classroom.This child rarely completes assignments ,as is constantly in motion and never seem want to sit still and concentrate on a given work. Frequently this child resort to fighting ,lying ,stealing ,vandalism and cruelty to other children.
Hyperactive children aren't ,however characterised by inferior mental ability .They may have high intellectual potential ,but their impulsiveness and restlessness prevent them from achieving this potential.(Gibson 1976:418)
The possible causes of hyperactivity have been attributed to health problems occurring when the child is young.Poor coordination and delayed speech are but a few of the many possible causes.