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Are you a Passive, Assertive or Aggressive Communicator? Take a Communication Test; Are you aware of the type of communicator you are? What feedback do you get from others? In relationships, Assertive Communication is usually the most appropriate, healthy type of communication.…Read More

Taking Care of Relationships Healthy relationships are dynamic, not static. Relationships continually change, and must be nurtured so that they continue to grow. Think of your relationship as something that is alive, talking care of relationships brings you the highest reward. Se…Read More

Are you Respectful? Do you take turns, acknowledge the needs of your spouse. Can you wait and listen carefully as they speak? Do you share your needs and feelings with respect. Do you manage your emotions or do they manage you? We must be able to accept and respond to emotion. …Read More

Relationship Help; Are you Respectful?Do you take turns, acknowledge the needs of your spouse. Resist being self-focused and pushing for what you want. By focusing on the needs of your partner, you initiate reciprocity. Can you wait and listen carefully as they speak? Do you sh…Read More

Pre-marriage counseling doesn’t need to be a long process, especially if you feel you’re starting out with a very solid foundation and only need some clarifications and goal-setting. Some couples have done this relational work before marriage, others flourish with the guidanc…Read More

Anger is one of the most often misunderstood, yet significant concepts in life. Best understood as a response providing energy to protect; to respond to a real or perceived wrong doing or injustice in life, anger motivates a person to action. Self-awareness— Identifying the cau…Read More

The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. Actually, other people are not responsible for any of these things. The truth is that each of us is responsible for 5 things; Wha…Read More

Is It Possible to NOT FIGHT? In our culture, people often say “All couples fight, everybody fights.” Do you think it is true? Is it possible that we are socialized to think that way? What is your definition of the word “fight?” The Free Dictionary online says the definiti…Read More

Constructive feedback. Our personal filters, assumptions & judgments of what is being said distort the message. Our role is to understand what is being said. This may require reflecting the other's statements, asking questions. Reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. “W…Read More

Pay attention; Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. Recognize that what is not said also speaks loudly. * Look at the speaker directly. * Do not think about yourself. * Put aside distracting thoughts. Don’t mentally prepare a rebuttal! * Avoi…Read More

Active Listening, Pay attention; Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. Quality time is when you focus on each other, eliminate distractions and give undivided attention. Recognize that what is not said also speaks loudly. Pay attention to body l…Read More

Avoid dysfunctional behaviors; Never ask for help, Stockpile anger, be defensive, Use silence as a weapon, Pretend you don't hear, Refuse to give information, Use threats, or make a statement in which you Claim to be the only one interested in the relationship! Repair Relationshi…Read More