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Saturday, 25 August 2012

Dont like being spanked

I dont like being spanked especially otk but yet a lot of blogs i follow are about spanking and sex and i enjoy reading them, i think its because not only do i like to read other opinions and thoughts..im all for broadening the mind but another reason is trying to understand why i dont get the whole erotic side of spanking.

Ok i know we are all different, hell i suspect that many dont get what i find erotic about being caned or whipped but if i like those then surely a spanking is quite mild in comparison. It is i think how we process these activities in our heads that makes a difference, for me being spanked i associate with being treated as a child (i was not spanked as a child) and therefore find it hugely humiliating on the times he has spanked me, its not the pain aspect it hurts yes but my feelings of being humiliated and how degrading i find it are more profound for me that the pain.

Its not even like the first time he spanked me was in any way associated with punishment or anything negative, but i just recall the first time he made me get over his lap it had me feeling mortified and embarrassed which considering he has had me in more exposed positions really was silly but its how i felt. I will beg for things i dont like rather than be spanked, i can just about tolerate it as a warm-up ready for other implements but i prefer other implements being used lightly as a warm-up to build up to a heavy session.

I dont think i have come accross anyone that thinks like me yet im sure i cant be alone in thinking this, i read blogs of erotic spanking and it sounds appealing and i think what is wrong with me that i dont get those warm fuzzy feelings.

11 comments:

I'm the exact same way. The occasional swat or two on the ass is fine, but an actual spanking, if not done in conjunction with something else to distract me from it, sends me up the wall in a very not good way.Master has never put me over his knee, and I'm incredibly happy for that, because I think if he ever ordered me to, I'd tell him to fuck off. It's for about the same reason as you, but mine goes a little deeper, for various reasons.

You're not alone in not getting those warm and fuzzies, so don't worry.

But this is the beauty of TTWD... we can all get what we need. I need the spanking, but there is no way that I get the caning and the heavier stuff. It's ok that we all dont think alike or even get turned on by the same things- as long as we are in aplace where we can express and receive what we need I think it's all fine. I enjoy hearing about dynamics different from my own, but sometimes it does leave me scratching my head as well.

There is nothing wrong with you. In this lifestyle, there is no one way to do things. Something that turns you on may not turn on somebody else. So just enjoy what you two together. All that matters is what works for you two. Enjoy.

There is nothing wrong with you.as far as the embarrassment and humilation goes to a degree that is normal feeling for some women. Its just the fact that you like something different. Now me I could never handle being caned and I admire women who can handle that.

I hadnt thought of the embarrassment and humiliation applying to other women, i figured if they liked it then they wouldnt feel that way but then i can apply that to some things i do...so it makes sense..thanks.

I actually prefer being caned or whipped to any kind of spanking but I think for me it because we use spankings for discipline and maintenance on a regular basis. When we play we don't use the paddle or spoon so I associate those items with something not so fun. The only exception would be belt which gets used for both and I do love the belt acroos all parts of my body.....even when I beg for him to stop I still love it.