YOU DO YOU BOO | Comparisons & motivation.

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So I wanted to do a post on something that I’ve been feeling a lot lately and I strangely cant quite put my finger on an exact way of wording it – hence the title ‘you do you boo’. But basically I’ve found myself one minute feeling like I’m killing everything I decide to do, love where I’m going with my life, career, blogging, style etc and then BAM it all comes crashing down and I’m like WHAT AM I EVEN DOING? I saw on twitter recently someone wrote something very similar and we shared a few tweets of reassurance and reading them out to my mum she was laughing at how similarly this girl felt to me. Anyway hearing from that girl on the internet was helpful for me. So here’s another girl on the internet that might help you!

With blogging and social media it is so easy to compare how well you’re doing with what others are doing and recently I’ve found myself feeling down that I’m not getting jobs I want to be getting or feeling like I’m lagging behind. My mum told me that I needed to sit down and think about where I was last year and then basically, think again! So I’ve started trying to think less about other peoples aims, goals and acheivements and more about my own. So I just thought I’d write down 5 things I’ve been thinking about, this might help keep you going, DO YOU and feel happy about it.

1. Compete/Compare yourself only with yourself. This I find to be the best for self motivation and generally just having a positive mind set. Last year I could never have imagined the kind of meetings I go to at the moment and with some incredible brands or how much I’ve learnt about this industry. Sometimes jobs, in the blogging world, don’t always fall into your lap (or inbox) but I’ve learnt how to approach brands, PR’s and the jobs I want. This is something I’m proud of and I learnt myself. So whether or not I’m getting the same/more/less/better/worse jobs. Hunnay I got these myself.

2. Algorithms Shmalogorithms. Okay so I hate the instagram algorithm it does nothing for bloggers working their way up. I have endlessly researched how to work with this silly algorithm and the general idea is post good stuff regularly. HUN. If we didn’t already know that….? But yeah basically theres no quick way of helping yourself. So instead of spending nights awake worrying about what I can do to increase engagement. I’m going to do just what they suggest – post regularly and of good quality. It’s the best I can do and if Im happy with my content then my readers will be too. You can only do your best. Good things come to those who wait (whilst they work really hard doing so).

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3. Work like everyones watching. Recently I’ve decided to treat every blog post like it’s a sponsored one. Not that I ever took less attention to detail or care and consideration if it wasn’t. But I find working on collabs and sponsored posts gives you that real push and sense of motivation that’s almost like ‘I mean business’. It changes a hobby, to a job. But, if you treat every post you write like a sponsored one – it makes you feel more business like, more positive towards your blog/social platform and also treat yourself as a business and a brand.

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4. Don’t worry about your instagram grid. Oh girl the grid. The grid really gets us. I actually haven’t really cared too much about my instagram grid look in the past years, however recently I thought I’d try and get a bit more grid friendly. It is so hard! And also so not fun! But if you find it easy to stick to your colour scheme or photo sequence then that is amazing – go you! But remember, life isn’t perfect so why should your grid be? I actually think the best accounts I love looking at are never actually that visually in sync as a whole, but each photo is ON POINT. Think Steph Claire Smith, the instagram wonder with over 1 mil followers. Her instagram is so fun, personable and amazing to look at, but she hasn’t coordinated her theme at all. So I think that’s something I’ll stop worrying about and post more of what I love and think my readers will too.

5. Write down your acheivements. Its so easy to work on a project and forget it the next minute, well for me it is anyway. I work so hard that when it comes to an end I feel like Oh…what next? And if there isn’t a similarly big project right away I feel a bit down on myself. So now, I write down things that Ive worked on, that I’m proud of and remind myself that actually – Im doing pretty damn well.

The other thing I’ve thought about recently is making sure I go through and like and show support to other girls that have their niche and are trying their hand at something. Whatever that may be I make sure I show some support and check out what they’re doing. If you’re anything like me, you’ll know it means the world when someone leaves you feedback and likes what you’re posting or saying.

So that brings us to the end of this post, I’d love to know if any of you ever feel like this? And whether anything Ive said has been of help. Do feel free to tweet me or let me know over on instagram @blaisedyer

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