VENT** Struggling at work

So, I have a very small team in a somewhat larger organization. My team just does not do grace, for me or for each other. Someone misses work, roast them, some one is having a bad day, time to talk behind their backs. Some one gets pregnant, time to look for things they are doing wrong, talk about it behind their back and then roast them.

Honestly, I am super careful where I am. I know that when I am pregnant I can get really short tempered, so I am really careful when I respond to people or interact with them. Just had 1 of the team tell me that I am being short with them so they are now avoiding me. When I asked how, they had no examples, and just said, just being pregnant I guess, lucky some of us get that excuse.

WTH? Now I am sitting here, like am I, am I being short with them? Rethinking any conversation I have had. I just don't know.

Sorry for the rant. I would love to say I feel better, but really I just want to cry.

Comments (16)

Well the way I see it is, if you know they're going to talk shit about you behind your back anyway, give them something to talk about. It sounds like they're just picking you to be the roastee for a while. I'd ignore it and keep on working.

Well the way I see it is, if you know they're going to talk shit about yo...

Posted
05/07/2018

Well the way I see it is, if you know they're going to talk shit about you behind your back anyway, give them something to talk about. It sounds like they're just picking you to be the roastee for a while. I'd ignore it and keep on working.

It's just sad because we have worked together for 10 plus years now and I just always hope we can start treating each other better. But that is probably these crazy hormones getting the best of me.

Sounds like they are using your pregnancy as an excuse. I'll never understand petty workplace behavior. I'm here to do a job, if you want to waste time acting like you're in high school then move along. work is a paycheck in order to make my personal life better. I had to learn a long time ago not to invest emotionally in coworkers.

Sounds like they are using your pregnancy as an excuse. I'll never unders...

Posted
05/07/2018

Sounds like they are using your pregnancy as an excuse. I'll never understand petty workplace behavior. I'm here to do a job, if you want to waste time acting like you're in high school then move along. work is a paycheck in order to make my personal life better. I had to learn a long time ago not to invest emotionally in coworkers.

I should learn this skill. Honestly, I have generalized anxiety and one of the ways it shows up is this. For some reason their petty behavior just gets to me.

One of them totally spilled the beans about my pregnancy before I was ready, she found out because she used to ask me every single time we talk, well I guess I couldn't control my face well enough because she knew right away. I begged her to keep it quiet, I should have known she wouldn't. The worst part, she told our other coworker before I could and then that coworker got hurt.

Girl, just reading that made my blood boil. I will show up for you and give them a piece of my mind for you and triple dog DARE someone to tell me its because I'm pregnant and not because they are a total douchebag. That being said, my work environment is just as shitty and I will not be telling them that I am pregnant until my water is about to break. Jerks. I'm not trying to add any extra stress to my life. I agree with PP, if they are going to be that way anyways, I'd give them something to talk about. If they asked me about it, I'd say "actually, its not pregnancy hormones, this is just the real me. Surprise!!"

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