How To Love More And Fear Less

This past year gave me new challenges making me peel back my layers one by one, each one exposing a new layer of pain, that was denied the love in which it deserved from the only person who could heal it, me.

I was so uncomfortable and raw at one point I would cry at any given moment and beg for some of the pain to be taken away.

My whole way of thinking was at its most vulnerable state it was as though there was an empty canvas and it was up to me to choose how I was going to approach my next project.

I started reading a book A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson and this book has changed my life. Each page I read, I felt as though a small weight had been lifted from me, and my heart felt a sense of calmness, the calmness I was praying and begging for.

In this book, the lesson is about the practice of love, as strength and not a weakness, as a daily answer to the problems that confront us.

I started to put the basic concepts in which suggest we need to fully surrender ourselves to “love” and to begin the relinquishment of a thought system based on fear, and replace it with the acceptance instead of a thought system based on love.

Immediately consumed with the self realization that I was living for so long from a place of fear I began to feel excited, I had found some answers and finally had direction in which I could start to really heal.

Surrendering my mind, accepting each pain as a building block in my life that was meant to put me that much close to achieving a peace with my higher self and purpose has let me see clear and feel a strength I have never felt before.

When you start to look around and pay attention with the concept of only two emotions “Love” and “Fear” you start to see things in a different way.

I believe at any age can we start this change in our lives but where we really need to focus is our children. So many kids are living from the place of “Fear” and not enough out of “Love” that we have problems such as bullying, more teenagers committing suicide, depression in our children, lack of self worth.

The fear within us confirms what our ego wants us to believe, belief’s in our kids such as:

– “That kid looks different so we should pick on them rather than embrace them.” (Fear of us all not looking a certain way in which society has manifested)

– “If I do not pick on that kid, my friends will think I am not cool, or I will be the next person to be picked on.” (Fear of living their truth even if they know it is wrong)

– To follow rather than lead (the fear of standing out).

– That is they do not dress a certain way or have the newest “it” item that they will be different and not be as good.

These are just a few examples, and being a mom of a 9-year-old son, I see that if we can start teaching our kids about the two emotions that will help them or hold them back “LOVE” and “FEAR” we can help our children be the next generation of Leaders not Followers.

We can help our children grow with a sense of confidence in the decisions they will make, and peace in their hearts no matter what challenge they may face.

Teaching our children early to love themselves and to live their truth is a gift that every child should be given.

We have become a world of social labeling and judgement a world of criticism, following and not leading which brings us to separation from one another.

Together we can guide our children and help them grow into strong, independent thinkers that believe in themselves. Our children need to develop with teachings of empathy and understanding that in the end we are all “ONE.”

I believe that we can influence a bully situation with it becoming a have a positive ripple effect.

“If I make you do bad, I will ultimately be affected by not helping you or loving you as the soul in which you are or by inspiring you, assisting you or encouraging you to grow”

However if I help you grow, be confident, believe in yourself, I will ultimately grow better, bigger, stronger with more LOVE, because we are better, stronger, happier and one working together.

Katie Pasitney is the author of the Growing My AnaHata. In this book, she strives to share an empowering our children to gently awaken with the concept to choose LOVE over FEAR, and that they are whole, perfect and complete as they are. You can find out more at her website here.