He won't marry me

His divorce appears to have been rather protracted and financially he has come out of it badly.

So perhaps he is afraid that if he remarried it could happen all over again.

He is obviously a good father and supports his children financially, which is absolutely right.

But he is able to do this partly because he is living in your house, presumably rent-free and not sharing many of the running costs. Equally importantly, you are welcoming to his children.

Try and draw him out about what his fears are second-time around. If he is worried about money, talk that through and see if you can allay his fears or suggest a pre-nuptial agreement. Does he now cynically think that marriage wrecks relationships? It's not true - people do that. If his reluctance to marry is because he wants to keep his options open, that is not acceptable.

If he loves you and wants to be with you forever, surely he should be prepared to marry you?

Perhaps he needs to know that if he won't, he risks losing you. The alternative is to settle for a live-in relationship.