please help me respond sensibly!? FURIOUS

When dh and I met he told me about a female friend of his who had an obsession with him!?

In between girlfriends he would get together with her.I think he took advantage .By all accounts she had an obsession.Many of his friends confirmed some very odd behaviour.

When we decided to have a family I made it clear I didnt want this woman around .It was agreed.

He has told me that he has used her in the past when relationships broke down.He is not proud of this, but that is how it is .

100% by accident I saw a text on his phone from her last night.It turns out that he has been in touch for a couple of weeks.Gone to the establishment she works at with a mutual friend and have been in touch.She asked him for an item he sells and he obliged.Essentially the friendship has restarted without my knowledge.

Well, she approached him, rather than vice versa, presumably a lot of time has passed since they were shagging, he hasn't seen her alone. Yes, he should definitely have told you but presumably didn't because he knew you'd be livid rather than because he has any bad intent.

So be cross, but unless you really really think there is bad intent then don't be furious. He fucked up in not telling you, but that's the extent of it.

See, this is a man who used a woman for sex who he knew really liked him was obsessed with him (how big is his ego??) He sounds like a catch I wouldn't trust him as far as i can throw him, he clearly doesn't have much regard for women

He approached her as a mutual friend who was in town wanted to visit her work place.He chose to go.The item she requested could have been ordered online.She is saying she can help him promote the item .