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My daughter won't let me be around my husband?

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Hello!
I've been having this problem with my daughter ever since she started crawling.
My daughter is VERY clingy to me, she doesn't like it when I walk to the other room or close the door when I use the restroom.
She doesn't have any problem with her dad(my husband), they play together and laugh and get along just fine.
The problem I'm having is that my daughter starts whining when I try to be affectionate towards my husband.
She won't let me hug/kiss/cuddle or even SIT NEXT to my husband without getting upset for whatever the reason.
I don't know what to do, sometimes I try to just let it slide and ignore it but if I do ignore her she starts screaming.
Has anyone else had this kind of issue?
My husband doesn't like that he's not getting any affection and it's interfering with our sex life.
Thanks in advance.

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My daughter who is the same age says "No Kissing!" when I hug or kiss my husband. I try to laugh and tell her its daddy's turn. Then I make a point of including her in a group hug or giving her her own turn. She will eventually learn that I get to control my body and that just because Daddy gets hugs doesn't mean she misses out.

Not to be rude but I must be blunt. Your Post reads: My DAUGHTER wont let me...Now take a look at that phrase. You have allowed a 2yr old CONTROL you and apparently she has been doing a good job. Your husband has every right to be upset and YOU need to take control of your child and put her to bed and have some quality time with your husband before someone else will. PUT ON YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES..be her MOM not her playmate.

Sounds like your daughter is plenty old enough to learn there's a chain of command in the family, and that she is NOT on top. One tactic you could try is to get cozy, tell her to quit screaming, and if she continues to scream take her to her room & tell her she can come out when she stops screaming. Kid's aren't dumb; it won't take long before she realizes that interrupting you two gets her less attention, not more.

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