Wedding gift not intended for bride?

FI is a web and graphic designer. His boss offered to buy FI a new computer as a wedding gift. FI works from home, and his computer is super important. FI doesn’t need a new computer, but agrees that it would be nice to have a back up.

FI asked me how I feel, and I’m not sure. What do you think? I don’t even have a computer, but would like one in the year after we are finished wedding-paying. FI said that maybe we can share the new one, but since it will also be his work computer, I don’t think this will work. FI has always been very protective of his computer, so I doubt he will be offering the new one so that I can browse the Bee!

What do you think? We are hoping to receive gifts toward a future home, primarily, but we have a regular Macy’s registry too. I guess in all honesty, I’d rather have the money toward our future, but then I will feel terrible if something happens to FI’s current computer.

I had a close friend who registered AND received Star Wars Lego Sets for their wedding gifts. Those were really just for the groom!

I think it’s okay to have some gifts that are more for one person out of the two.

I mean I assume I will get a lot of home and kitchen stuff that let’s be honest even if FI “benefits” from it…like he sleeps on the sheets or gets food I cook in the kitchen, he could not really care less if someone gets me a new kitchen tool or beautiful new bedding. So I’d be fine with someone who is close to him getting a gift that the groom would love as much as I love a nice set of bedding! LOL.

I’m confused – so your Fiance isn’t willing to share a computer he won’t even be using? If it’s a backup that means he will only need it if something happens to his. Why can’t you guys have seperate user accounts on the computer? I guess I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t be willing to share. I think you should definitely take it and tell your fiance he better learn to share! Ha ha 🙂

To be honest, I would be highly ofended if I offered someone a wedding present and they said no, pretty much no mater what it was. My FI’s firm often gives office stuff for wedding presents. I think the last one was a nice pen or something else similar that gets kept in the office. If they did that for my FI, I would just smile and nod. These aren’t “my people” and are going to think of my FI more in the wedding gift giving thing, and that is okay to me.

@Ms_Purple: That’s very true- one of us will probably naturally use some gifts more than other. We are also registered for a coffee maker and I don’t drink coffee, and I didn’t think twice about registering for that.

@Misswhowedding: FI and the boss are pretty close. FI needs new software for his current computer, so his boss said “why don’t I just buy you a whole new computer and call it a wedding gift, ask the bride?” We would never be ungrateful, and we know that gifts are not even a requirement! The boss asked FI if I would be ok with it.

Sort of in the same boat – FI’s boss also owns a really prestigious DJ/Event service in the area. She basically told us she’s getting one of their DJ’s, got on the phone, and made it happen. Then called it our gift. Not that I’m complaining (I’m actually happy it’s something my parent’s don’t have to pay for, as they are paying for everything else without any help), but it was just… odd. I would never have been able to afford their services, so I guess it’s cool. Plus it’s also the work game – you can’t really say “no, sorry boss,” and choose your gift with your boss. It’s one gift, and I’m sure you can both use it at some point. I know I have a crap load of stuff on our registry that FI doesn’t give a flying fadoodle about, so it’s all good.