Discuss your life together with your partner and see if there’s still common ground. Because if there isn’t, divorce is likely.

Perhaps you’re getting a lot of negativity from your partner? Or one of you thinks that the other’s beneath them? You’re playing tit-for-tat and keeping score, so that your focus is on mind games and winning? Instead of love, communication and forgiveness.

You’ve lost interest each other’s feelings. Words like ‘whatever’ and ‘fine’ pepper your arguments. You hardly ever have sex any more. One of you’s spending most of their time outside the marriage.

At work, in other relationships, and interests that no longer involve you both. The process of detachment’s started.