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Posted by: me | 2011/04/07

In love....

Guys and girls...I''m in love!!!!!!! Problem on my side is, she can get any man she like, but why choose me. She''s independent, attractive, one kid, divorce, 29...I''m 41..will this be a problem after 10 or so yr''s..?? She is very much in love with me, so she says...is it just a phase she''s going through?? I realy like her, but I do not want to commit to something wich at the end was just a fantasy...Thanx people

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Nobody can predict whether there will in the future be problems in ANY relationship, but there's no great likelihood, if you love each other, and both sincerely wan the relationship to work.
Is it possible that you have a degree of lack of self-esteem ? It could be what I have called the Groucho Marx syndrome, as Groucho once said he wouldn't consider joining any club that would sink so low as to accept HIM as a member !

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Posted by: Glen | 2011/04/08

Posted by: I | 2011/04/08

I am 10 years older than my wife and she is the most beautiful woman on this earth :) and our relationship is working very nicely. but my big advice to you is get rid of the low esteem of yours, I had the same problem and caused big distrust issue in our marriage, which i sorted out by going to counselling

Posted by: me | 2011/04/07

Thank you all guys...Ja, I thought the age thing might be a problem later on...but why enjoy the ride now, and meantime in my subconscious, I''ll always be worried and think hey...this is not going to last forever, not with her anyway. And yeah CS, I do believe I''m suffering from a low self esteem...any ideas on how I can improve on that.Thanks again everyone.

Posted by: Phil | 2011/04/07

I agree enjoy the ride. You are lucky. KEy word enjoy the ride while it lasts. Some stage it will ctach up. You are now in the middle phase and it is just great for all involved. But let me give you examples.

She was 1 and in nappies you were 13 and in high school. Won''t work.She is grade 7 and about 12 years old you are 24 and would be regarded as a molester.

Now you in the middle phase and both adults. This is where you are now and it can work great.

But now the reverse will also come. she will be getting to 40 and will still be attracting lots of attention. You will go into your 50''s and might start to become older in the way you do things. Worse you hit the 60''s and are looking for old age home and a good pair of cructhes possibly she is only 50 and 10 years away from that.

But again you are lucky and for now it is great. Enjoy the ride and let the future take care of itself. Just be aware age is an issue at some stage or another.

Posted by: Happiness | 2011/04/07

Posted by: cybershrink | 2011/04/07

Nobody can predict whether there will in the future be problems in ANY relationship, but there's no great likelihood, if you love each other, and both sincerely wan the relationship to work.
Is it possible that you have a degree of lack of self-esteem ? It could be what I have called the Groucho Marx syndrome, as Groucho once said he wouldn't consider joining any club that would sink so low as to accept HIM as a member !

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