8 Ways To Win a Japanese Girl’s Heart (Japanese Perspective)

If you are reading this article, you are probably trying to figure out how to get the Japanese girl who caught your eye. 20,000 years ago, Japanese were not open to change and international relationship was frowned upon. Lucky you, now Japan has evolved to a more open-to-change society. You can see a lot of such couples walking around the city and making you envious. But I am here to tell you 8 ultimate ways to win a Japanese heart. These are the things that Japanese girls sort of expect from a non Japanese boyfriend. Remember to follow these because they are your advantages over Japanese men.

8 Ways To Win a Japanese Girl’s Heart (Japanese Perspective)

1. “Ladies First” Rule

There is an unwritten social rule that Japanese men don’t seem to know. This is one of the top reasons why Japanese girls are attracted to foreign men. Fortunately, for Japanese men, this rule is not a form of chivalry, and you can use this as your edge! Japanese girls who had spent some time abroad or who had dated some non-Japanese men appreciate this kind of gesture. If you are from the West, this doesn’t require a lot of effort for you because that’s how it should be in your home country. Now you are one step ahead.

2. Treat her like a princess (in a non creepy way)

Like any other races, Japanese girls like to be treated in a sweet and gentle way. Apparently, Japanese guys are not programmed to behave this way. Japanese men do not know how to treat girls like men from Western culture do. Treat a Japanese girl like a princess, but just don’t exaggerate it. It doesn’t need to be obvious. Simple things like holding the door for her, carrying some of her stuff if they are heavy, or texting her in the middle of the day asking how her day going so far. Those are just petty gestures but they will appreciate you big time!

3. Like Japanese Food

Japanese food is a big part of the culture. If you want to go out with a Japanese girl, there is a big chance you will dine at a Japanese restaurant (because, hello, this is Japan.) If you can’t eat sushi, that’s fine. There are other options for you. There are plenty of choices that don’t include raw fish. Also, they find it attractive for a non-Japanese uses chopsticks (especially when you are struggling to use them but still trying). They feel like it’s a sign of respect and effort.

4. Japanese language

You don’t have to speak perfect Japanese, but try at least to learn few words if you have not done so yet. Simple words like ‘thank you’, ‘hello’, ‘excuse me’, ‘sorry’, can make a huge difference. On the other hand, what some foreigners think it’s cool but actually not – is swearing or saying inappropriate words in Japanese. It’s okay to speak in casual Japanese or Slangs but don’t curse or swear. That is a big turn off for the girls so be careful! Not cool, man. Never do it!

5. Be nice to her non-English speaking friends and parents/family.

Japan is becoming international, but there are still many people who do not speak English. Your girlfriend may do, but her friends and family may not. Again, you don’t have to speak fluent Japanese to them if you don’t know the language, but try to show that you are interested in the conversation. Say a few words in Japanese at the beginning of conversation, then it’s ok to ask your girlfriend to be a translator later on. And more important thing is that please don’t be upset, or look bored when your girlfriend and her friends start talking in Japanese to each other with your presence. She would feel bad and uncomfortable if you do so, but she has no choice as others do not understand English. They are not talking shi*t about you at all. Just try to enjoy listening to them though you don’t understand. Just imagine girls chatter sounds like a melody.

6. Read between the lines

Like other any other girls in the world, reading between the lines is very important but Japanese girls just take it to a higher level. They might look free from social traditional ideas, especially those girls who go out with a foreign boyfriend, but they are still Japanese and a part of them will always be conservative. Japanese are not accustomed to speak up, debate, argue, or convince others. Instead, they are taught to listen to others, and don’t stand out of the crowd, because all that matters in Japanese culture is peace and harmony. You can still have a discussion, but sometimes it is not easy for Japanese girls to say whatever they want to say (even in Japanese). Try to be patient, listen, try to decipher what is behind her gestures or statements.

7. Help doing some chores

Another way to a Japanese girl’s heart is by helping some of the household chores like cooking together, cleaning, vacuuming, doing some laundry etc. This may make you feel less of a masculine but they appreciate it very much as not many Japanese guys are used to those house work. Remember: You are trying to win her by offering what Japanese dudes can’t. Though doing some chores may not be as fun as holding hands while viewing the metropolis from the Skytree, just think of it as one of your bonding activities. Enjoy!

8. Mother knows best (but there is an exemption)

In some culture, family bonding is stronger than anything else and mother rules the entire family. Yes, family matters in Japan too, but not as much as in other culture. You still show respect and support to your girlfriend as your partner. It is very upsetting and disappointing if they see you just obey your mother all the time like a little boy. Yes you love your mom and she should be respected, but try to make it a bit subtle when you are with a Japanese girl.

Conclusion

These are some tips for you when you go out with a Japanese girlfriend. Etch them in your brain, and always respect each other. There will always be issues about cultural differences but keep in mind that it’s part of the package. Japanese girls are kind, delicate, and one of a kind. If you treat them well, they will treat you like the best gem. Good luck!

8 Ways To Win a Japanese Girl’s Heart (Japanese Perspective)

1. “Ladies First” Rule
2. Treat her like a princess (in a non creepy way)
3. Like Japanese Food
4. Japanese language
5. Be nice to her non-English speaking friends and parents/family.
6. Read between the lines
7. Help doing some chores
8. Mother knows best (but there is an exemption)