How do men tell the difference between and uninterested woman and a woman who's interested and scared so she backs off. Only one date has gone on?

How does a woman who really likes you but is almost scared of her own feelings about you, act? Will she cancel dates, say no promises, still contact but not as much, or what? How can a man tell the difference between an uninterested woman and a woman who's scared?

Most Helpful Girl

Don't believe the BS about "being scared", when we like someone we are the bravest! Like who the fuck get's scared and rejects because of that even though she likes him? Makes no sense right? So if the girl you're talking about backed off that means she doesn't like you. No need to analyze it more.

That means you didn't liked her enough. And this girl doesn't like you enough. The only reason why you are still trying is because you are a guy and it's in your instinct to chase. I hate that guys do that. And I'm sure that the more she is running the more you gonna chase. Just be with someone who wants to be with you.

Actually I really liked the woman like really liked her but I was scared to get her so I backed off and went for mediocre women that I liked but not women that I had feelings for. Me the girl I backed away from became friends and then we started becoming more and then she died in a car accident so please don't assume things! Thank you!

And the chemistry I had with this woman was just like the chemistry j had with my friend who died! Now I'm on then receiving end this time and I don't to lose a chance again. Try to understand it from my point. His woman has trust issues just like I did that's why I'm so drawn to her we understand eachother!

I can't speak for ALL women, but generally speaking women don't push away guys because they are scared of having strong feelings - it's not in our nature. We may say that's the reason because we don't want to lose the guy completely or hurt his feelings. But really, the whole pushing away thing is more so a guy thing to do (I hate it as well lol)

Well she warned me right off the start she's not kookingn for anything serious! She still doesn't know where she's on a live and all that stuff! I get what you two are saying but I've got my own intuition telling me that it's worth a chance

Most Helpful Guy

Body language.Supposedly, women have 50+ signs of body language that show attraction. Look them up. But the easiest way that I could tell the difference between a shy girl Vs someone who doesn't like you is a if you talk to a shy girl she'll either look you dead in the eye when you talk or look down. An uninterested girl will act distracted and annoyed when you talk.

What Girls Said 2

So she's emotionally damaged and it sounds as if that was a self admitted proclimation... anyhoo, you sound like you fell very deeply in love. Why not just tell her the way you feel... and you can see from there where it goes. Once you talk to her it'll settle your mind

If she really likes you and you've only gone one on date (or the dating is new), there is no way she is going to back off. She will be excited to do things with you, and if anything will want to see you as much as she has time to. It is too early for the woman to be scared.

An uninterested woman will make up excuses why she can't see you - and those excuses might be designed to not hurt your feelings.

Ok what if this woman falls really easy? What if you've been talking for a month? What if you put pressure on her without knowing or meaning to? What if she opens up to you and tells you that she's always fallen to easily for her exes and she never could think clearly. Then after opens up to you she starts backing off more. We hit it off right from the start. Her pof says she wants nothing serious. She and I had a wonderful date where she thanked me with a text. I kissed her on the lips and everything. She canceled date #2 for a legitimate reason and now won't make plans too far in advance. Interested it not?

She might still be hung up on an ex. Sounds like she got hurt, and isn't emotionally available enough to open herself up to taking you seriously (by that, I mean she maybe be unable to fully feel something for you and start fresh in a new relationship).

It's very possible that you have great chemistry and naturally get along - but in my experience if a girl is in any way emotionally hung up on an ex, it will be easier for her to cancel dates or back off of someone new - because her heart isn't in it or available.

For real though, if she's in a healthy emotional place (and that means NOT on the rebound or still hung up on an ex), then she will not be pushing you away; she'll be excited to make plans with you and want to spend a lot of time with you.

Plenty of fish dating site lol. Well she was all excited for our date and then excited afterwards and then i guess I put pressure on her by telling her that I really liked her when I didn't hear from her. Then she cancelled the date but said she really wants to play pool. I think it went too fast for her and now she wants to slow things down. She told me she falls to easily and that was her mistakes with her exes. There's more signs she likes me but now she's showing no interest but my gut tells me she is

You know... I don't want it to be a punch to your ego, but I still think she is emotionally hung up on someone else - or has met someone else she is more into. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG, by the way. I think it's actually really sweet that you told her you liked her. That takes courage, and shows your maturity.

I do think she may have some interest - but definitely not a high enough level for you to invest anymore of your feelings in her at this point. She doesn't want to flat out turn you down (hence some interest), but she's also not showing enough for you to cut off other options. You should probably seek out other girls on the site who are good matches for you, and see if anything develops with them. Don't go around and sleep with them or go crazy, just see if other genuine connections develop (because once the casual sex is over, you could still be stuck thinking about the other girl if you're emotionally closed off to the new women you meet)

Very good advice but I really do think I scared her I really do. It was progressing naturally and she added me on Facebook after we started talking and hasn't added anybody since! She likes my photos and my statuses and everything. Latel not as much. I think she doesn't want anything serious and I do that's why she's backing away but she will come around! I know there's nobody else.

I kinda hit her with it out of left field. She's a really attractive girl and I'm a nice guy. I'm a strength athlete so my body isn't perfect I've got a little belly and all her exes were skinny bastards lol. I think I'm just a new type that's she's not used to and I think it I'm her friend it will go further, she's not like most girls she's very mature and smart and caring but she's also very emotionally damaged. There were way too many hints at first to show she really like me and now they vanished for no reason. It's not normal. Sheba a very busy woman who herself admits that she shuts down her emotions

You seem like a really nice and down to earth guy - and hopefully I'm wrong! I just have a lot of dating experience and have been on both ends of being the one who got distant from someone and also had people get distant on me. 99/100 times it's because they have lost interest or don't have enough genuine interest to being with. This to me sounds like an ex reached out to her or something... Sometime a girl can start to feel ready to move on, and then if a serious ex comes back in the picture, it stirs up a lot of emotions and can put up a huge wall for developing feelings for someone new. Again, hopefully I'm wrong and she gets it together emotionally. But also, don't let her make you jaded if things don't work out!! Nice guys are a rare commodity lol.