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Are Your
Friends Hurting Your Chances at Women

“Tell me who
your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are” may not exactly be the most
accurate way to judge a person’s character, but if you’re trying to judge
someone from afar, your friends and their characters may be their only gauge in
judging the kind of person you are.

And this
could be a great thing and a bad thing, all depending on the kind of company you keep.

See, the company
you keep becomes a reflection of yourself. After all, like minds think alike.
It’s only natural and logical for people to assume that you are practically the
same people, interested in the same things, doing the same stuff, and are cut
from the same pie. SO if your friends are rowdy, rude to women, a bunch of
players, or generally turn-offish to most women’s standards, you had better
work elsewhere on your A-game in dating away from these men.

However, this
is not the only way that your friends could hurt your chances at women. Keeping
a generally more handsome gang of friends will more or less make you look a
little less handsome than you actually are. After all, what else would be a
better way to gauge the looks of a man than to look at the man next to him,
right?

No, you don’t
necessarily have to change your set of friends to a bunch of less than average
looking men or befriend the saintly gentlemen just so they don’t hurt your
chances with women. You don’t even have to fully avoid your buddies just so you
could focus on your dating life and make sure that women will notice you for
who you are not for who your friends are.

But you might
have to change one thing about yourself. When you’re out with your guy buddies
and you’re expecting to have women around, make sure that you stand out from
them. Always look your best, behave your best, and let your beautiful character
shine through you

If your
friends are doing something awful, something that could probably turn women
off, stop yourself from doing it simply because you’re different from your
buddies on so many levels.

However, you
don’t exactly need to look at your friends as competition or distraction. After
all, your friends have been there longer than the girl you’re courting, and
they’d probably stay even if your relationship with the girl turns sour.

Simply said,
what I’m really trying to say is that you can always enjoy the company of your
friends but don’t forget to make yourself always – always – shine through.
Women will notice you for it and not for how your friends look or behave.

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