(Closed) Dr said Stay in bed after BD for FOUR HOURS! WHAT?

My hubby and I have been ttc since Sept. I use OPKs, chart(ed) and have regular cycles… plus im young, in good shape and pretty dang healthy. We have had no BFP so I went to the doctors for a check up. Let me first say, the Obgyn was AMAZING! I loved her and felt so comfortable with her, I know when I do get preggers that she will be our dr! Yaya

But.. the only thing that shocked me was that she said I should stay in bed for four hours after BD. She even mentioned the soft cups and said some of her other patients had success. Let’s back track… 4 hours?! Thats insane right? I know they say to stay in bed for a bit and I told her I stay in bed for about 10 minutes… umm should I really aim for 4 hours? Of course I would go to bed if that is necessary. I dunno… just wanted you guys opinion.

Oh and she said I have a beautiful utures ha! I loved her, serisouly. And she said that everything looked great and not to be concerned unless we hit a year. She also kept telling me that it is 50% me and 50% hubby. So, I guess we will keep doing the deep and hope for a BFP before Sept!

There is no hard evidence that softcups and laying down affect your odds of getting pregnant AT ALL! If you have been charting for 9 months, hitting your fertile window every month & still haven’t gotten pregnant, your doctor SHOULD be looking into why you’re not getting pregnant.

I agree that staying in bed for four hours is a little much. I actually just got my BFP this month and did use Softcups. Can I be positive they work? Absolutely not, but they were cheap off Amazon and I figured it wouldn’t hurt to try. Many women get pregnant getting right out of bed after BD, it you are hitting your fertile window you should be fine. Good luck!!!

I also agree with PPs. Four hours seems waaaay excessive. I did try to lay down for 10-15 mins. after each time we BD’d and we did end up getting pregnant our first month TTC. But four hours?! I think that whole idea is based purely on luck, who really knows if that works or not.

I’m surprised she wouldn’t have done more test or talked about other medical options or meds for you to try? I know there’s a common med that is used quite a bit by other bees on here (can’t remember the name?), did she mention anything about that?

I stayed in bed for 20 minutes and got my bfp on the first try but there’s no way to know if that even did anything. I think 4 hours is extremely exaggerated. I agree with others that she probably should have done more than just suggest staying in bed at this point especially if you chart and hit your fertile window.

I have had an pelvic ulteralsound and everything looked great, I also told her that I charted and used Opks that confirmed I O’d. She did an examine and said everything looked perfectly normal and with my history, she wasnt worried that i wasnt pregnant yet. She kept stressing that it is 50% the guy too… and said she would recommend a SA. My husband isnt under my insurance so she couldnt order it or anything along that line, simply suggest it. She also stressed its the luck of the draw…

I really did like her even if her 4 hour comment is a little crazy. I think I will wait another two or so cycles before going to another dr. …. I dunno anymore. Hubby refuses a SA until we hit the 1 year marker.

We dd a lot of different things this month, one of them was to stay with my hips elevated for 10 minutes, then got up for about 5 minutes to go to the bathroom, but then slipped back in bed for the night. Since we bd right before bed anyway, it wasn’t asking too much. I got me BFP last week.

Four hours is excessive. “They” (not sure who they are but I’ve read it in multiple places) say laying down for about 20-30 minutes won’t hurt, after that is just excessive. Also, usually if you are charting and hitting your fertile window “they” say that if you don’t get pregnant in four months to start looking into why… Now, I know things don’t always happen right away, but I would say 6 months trying while charting and not getting anything would bring me to the doctor, and well, she said everything looked good… The next step would be a SA, I know your husband said he doesn’t want to get one until the 1 year mark, but it sounds like that’s the only logical next step, why wait?

Wow. So before I read your OP I thought this was an idea she had specifically for you- for some reason- but it sounds like just her general advice? I don’t know about that! Sounds like asking for a uti! We conceived with me on top- so- no laying down whatsoever! If you have not hit a year, I would not even worry or go to a doc, personally.

Alot of people say that…I don’t think there is anything to back it up…I actually know a couple who had unpotected sex one time and one time only the month they got pregnant….and that day they did not stay in bed, they actually went to the fair and got on the roller coaster many times. lol. They joke that maybe the roller coaster helped.

Having said that…I think the only way laying in bed is going to help you concieve has nothing to do with gravity or position but just that you are resting your body, you aren’t usually stressing when you are laying in bed or lounging around the house, you are resting and we all know stress can play a huge factor.

I do tend to try and take a nap afterward, not get up right away but I worry about UTI’s.

Haha, whoah?! 4 hours?! That’s super excessive. In fact, when we were TTC, I was more concerned about not waiting too long to go to the bathroom after we DTD so I didn’t get a UTI (it’s a little hard to keep BDing when you have a UTI and I used to get them very easily!). I waited around 10 min max before getting up to go to the bathroom. It was plenty long enough for us!

By The Way I think that is a very “old” belief that you have to stay lying down to increase your chances of getting pregnant. Could be that your doc isn’t quite up-to-date that studies have actually shown no improvemet in people who waited longer. At least I am pretty there are studies out there, I am way too lazy to go find them right now, but I think I remember reading that in either TCOYF or the Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant.