Spin off: where will your kids go.

I noticed people making decisions of who would get your children in the event something happen to you (ours would go to dh's cousin and her dh). What I noticed (and I don't have older children, so I'm not sure what I would do) is that some posters said that their older children would get custody of the kids. While I agree that staying together is an awesome decision, what happens if the older child is in school? I may be totally off base (like I said, I don't have older children). I am guessing that the older child has been talked to about this though. I would most likely want to take my siblings in this case though. Thanks in advance for the replies.

I noticed people making decisions of who would get your children in the event something happen to you (ours would go to dh's cousin and her dh). What I noticed (and I don't have older children, so I'm not sure what I would do) is that some posters said that their older children would get custody of the kids. While I agree that staying together is an awesome decision, what happens if the older child is in school? I may be totally off base (like I said, I don't have older children). I am guessing that the older child has been talked to about this though. I would most likely want to take my siblings in this case though. Thanks in advance for the replies.

Our daughters are 10 years apart. We will amend our will when our oldest turns 20 to appoint her the guardian of her little sister (of course she will have to show herself responsible to care for herself and her sister). We have two substantial life insurance policies that would allow our oldest to financially take care of the two of them and be able to pay the mortgage off on our home to have a place to live. What we have in various retirement accounts plus the two policies would allow her to continue with college and pay for any necessary daycare for our youngest so she can continue school Of course we will have this conversation with her when the time is right. Our reasons for this is that we both feel our parents will not be up to the task of taking care of a tween and eventually a teen and we will prob feel more comfortable with our oldest taking control.

Our daughters are 10 years apart. We will amend our will when our oldest turns 20 to appoint her the guardian of her little sister (of course she will have to show herself responsible to care for herself and her sister). We have two substantial life insurance policies that would allow our oldest to financially take care of the two of them and be able to pay the mortgage off on our home to have a place to live. What we have in various retirement accounts plus the two policies would allow her to continue with college and pay for any necessary daycare for our youngest so she can continue school Of course we will have this conversation with her when the time is right. Our reasons for this is that we both feel our parents will not be up to the task of taking care of a tween and eventually a teen and we will prob feel more comfortable with our oldest taking control.

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