Hmm interesting question! I am gradually coming to terms with this being a 24/7 job...even if I am not feeding/ changing/ cuddling/ playing with Jude my body is still on the clock making milk and my mind is always working, thinking 10 steps ahead about what I have to do next.

Hubby...not so much lol. It's not his fault I know. So I am also actively trying to be nicer to the person I am sharing my life with. Rather than throttle him because he doesn't 'know' what it is like lol

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12/09/15

Hmm interesting question! I am gradually coming to terms with this being a 24/7 job...even if I am not feeding/ changing/ cuddling/ playing with Jude my body is still on the clock making milk and my mind is always working, thinking 10 steps ahead about what I have to do next.

Hubby...not so much lol. It's not his fault I know. So I am also actively trying to be nicer to the person I am sharing my life with. Rather than throttle him because he doesn't 'know' what it is like lol

I'm a tad on the lazy side (hehe) and always wondered if I had the stamina to stick out the hard slog of long hours settling a baby... Turns out I do! This week my 5 wk old daughter has decided that her 3.30am feed is now also play time. Up till now she would always go straight back to sleep. Here I am, 1 1/2 hours later just about to put her back to bed cos I just have stay up and care for her.

I have learnt that sometimes you just need to put the baby down and walk away to catch your breath and come back when you are settled. A screaming baby is stressful on Mumma and has ended up with a crying Mumma more than once in this house. But once you have a 3 min breather and come back, the baby settles like he was never screaming bloody murder.

In reply to lilmickey15

12/09/15

Hmm interesting question! I am gradually coming to terms with this being a 24/7 job...even if I am not feeding/ changing/ cuddling/ playing with Jude my body is still on the clock making milk and my mind is always working, thinking 10 steps ahead about what I have to do next.

Hubby...not so much lol. It's not his fault I know. So I am also actively trying to be nicer to the person I am sharing my life with. Rather than throttle him because he doesn't 'know' what it is like lol

This parenting lark is complex!

Well said, similar here, except my milk never came in which you feel like such a failure. Learning (very slowly) not to beat myself up over things I cannot control. If you have a healthy and happy baby it's really all that matters. Also not to let interfering inlaws upset me with all their ridiculous advice from India. That's been a hard one when you're sleep deprived. I finally told my MIL I'd appreciate it if her and her daughter would stop telling me how to do everything. I thought I was quite polite about it really. And yes trying hard to be kinder to hubby. He is trying. All else fails I give my dog too many cuddles because it makes me feel better. :-) My best advice to all new mums, just be kind to yourself. If your baby has nappies on his bum and food in his belly, you're doing alright. ;-) Xoxo

Learning that you can't control everything. My new saying is whatever will be, will be.

I always preached before I had kids, happy and healthy who cares how you get there. Shame I didn't listen to this myself in the first month, I was so hung up as my milk never came in. I wasted those weeks crying and worrying I had failed my daughter.

Im sitting here now, she is 6 and a bit weeks old. Is on formula and she is thriving. And now, with a happy mum, we are slowly finding our rhythm. We are happy and healthy! And I'm not hung up on how we got there.

I have learnt to trust my instincts, the mother and baby bond is so much stronger than I ever imagined it would be and before having bub I was so worried about what I would do if I was in public and couldn't settle him but now I'm confident in my ability, I know that i know what is best for him deep down.
I have also learnt a whole new level of love for my husband, we sometimes have differing approaches but have learnt so much off one another when finding our feet as parents.

I am generally pretty lazy at home so was surprised when every night im up every hour to feed bubs which takes an hour, when i have to burp him and change his nappy, fill my water bottle have a snack and clean my nipple shields all by myself in the middle of the night repetitively and feel totally fine with it because my baby is so fricking beautiful id do anyrhing any time for him.
I am totally selfless when it comes to him. Thats a first.

Also remembering this too shall pass.. when hes screaming in the car on the way out or home because he hates car rides i remind myself that it will pass.

The bond we have, my instincts are unbelievable. I never knew we would he sooooo connected.

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