The Morning After Sex: Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Do you stay for coffee, suggest round two, or head for the hills? Eight ladies weigh in on what they doand have donein morning-after-the-hookup situations.

I am such a stayer. Mainly because I'm not a morning person. I will stay and sleep in when they go to work. Once, I stayed all day because the guy was at meetings, then he came back early and caught me still there! If I actually like a guy, I'll leave so I look cool, but when I don't care what he thinks, I stay. Sarah K., 26

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When you wake up, you are totally trying to gauge what the other person thinks. There are so many moving parts. It's like a logarithm. If they are cuddling with you, then most likely they want you to stay. If they are not, probably time to save face, get dressed, use the bathroom, and head home. If they are kissing you before brushing teeth, they are really into you and you should probably have morning sex and yes, stay and cuddle for awhile. Vicki F., 26

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When I was single, I would make sure everything would happen under my own territory, as I lived alone. This way—I avoided the morning-after issue altogether. He would leave when he wanted to, then I would go out to brunch with my friends to laugh about the night before, and all the mistakes I made. —Allison S., 25

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I don't think there is any one answer and I think that fact is actually empowering. If you have a great time with a guy and enjoyed yourself, then you stay for breakfast, but never more than that. You don't want to be that girl sitting on his couch at 3pm when his friends get there for the football game. Limit yourself to a bagel, a coffee and some morning sex and then you high-tail it out of there. It's always best to leave them wanting more. If you're on the fence, you tell them you have an early morning meeting and get out of there. Not only does it keep the mystery, but most importantly it gives you the opportunity to decide whether you want to spend more time with this person once you've brushed your teeth and gotten rid of sex hair. —Jo Piazza, author of the forthcoming novel, Love Rehab

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When in doubt, sneak out. I once ruined a potentially good relationship because I hung around the next day until 3pm, watching television in his bed. He told his friends, who I knew through mutual friends, that he thought it was weird. Little did he know it was because I was so hungover I was worried I might throw-up if I got out of his bed. —Catherine B., 27

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I hooked up with a friend of a friend and we went to breakfast afterwards and I really wish we hadn't. It was awkward (we bumped into friends) and it turned out to be totally nothing, but the breakfast created a false sense of intimacy/togetherness. If you're planning to date the person, or you want something more, breakfast is good. But if it's a one-night thing or a casual hookup, I'd skip it. Just enjoy those nights for what they are... skip the forced breakfast and gossip about them over brunch with your friends instead. —Shawna O., 26

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I think the morning-after routine must be considered in context. You got hammered and slept with the quarterback from your ZogSports touch football team? Sneak out the second your eyes open, making as little movement as possible in order to not rouse him from his slumber. If you like the guy, feel free to stick around for a little cuddle time and coffee, but don't stay past noon. He'll think you've got important things to do, even if you're really going home to nurse an epic hangover and watch whichever Bravo marathon happens to be airing that day. —Amy G., 28

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Personally, I'm a big fan of the morning hookup, so I never mind staying long enough for that. In my opinion, the best rule of thumb is stay for the morning snuggle/hookup, but once someone is getting out of bed and starting the day, it is time to go. As my current beau has said, "No one (read: no guy?) wants to hang out the next day unless they're looking to fall in love." —Courtney C., 27