How do you celebrate your child's birthday???

My Angel would have been 1 next month. I want to celebrate it somehow, but I don't know what would be appropriate. I was thinking to have just the immediate family go to the beach for a BBQ. I have her ashes in a Teddy Bear, so I'm thinking it would be safe to bring it with us, just so our family knows that this outing is in her honor.

For those that have passed over a year, how do you celebrate your Angels birthdays?

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My celebrations were usually very private. My son was 17 months old when he died. My dh and family were not really supportive of a celebration of a birthday celebration kind of thing. Personally I got some helium balloons and released them in private.

To celebrate Tori's birthday we have our family ( me hubby and her siblings) together and share memories we have of her. We just have a special dinner and a small cake to remember her birthday.

My youngest son (our rainbow baby) has learned a lot about Tori and knows he has a sister that isn't here with us. He sees her picture and says "My Tori is an angel. She my big sissy"

However you decided to remember your little one's birthday, the best advice I can give is take it easy. These "special" days drain you more than you really think. you go through all sorts of emotions from happiness you had her, sadness realizing that this is one of many days you won't have her in your arm, to love realizing all the people who have come to be with you to remember your child.

Well, mine is a little different than most. Thomas has a twin, Ty. On their birthday we go to the cemetery with balloons (one for each person and a couple for his grave) and a cookie cake (Thomas was 5 and LOVED Chocolate chip cookies!). We each write a message on the balloons to Tj and release them. We tie a few balloons to his grave and eat the cookie cake.

That is a sweet idea to write a message on the balloons. I think I may do that.

You think it would be tacky to blow up red, yellow and green balloons, or should I just go with white and pink? My baby was always soothed by Bob Marley's music, so I was thinkning reggae colors would fit her personality. I haven't talked about colors with my husband yet, so I have to see what he says.