REPORT #253 May 2000
THE OUTSIDE FAMILY, OR MISTRESS CULTURE OF THE PORT OF BELIZE CITY MALE
WORKING MALE!

Produced by the Belize
Development Trust

Sex is an interesting topic. We like to think we have FREE WILL, are
not animals, when in reality, our character is inherited and given by our
genes, supplemented by hormones and other chemicals that drive behavior.
There is FREE WILL within a small environmental envelope, but survival
seems to be the dominant instinct and reproduction! Our behavior can be
altered within narrow parameters according to the social and cultural
customs of where we live and how we are raised. But much of our life
cycle is pre-ordained. In all major essentials, we are a reproductive
skin covered bag of water, subject to instinctive controls of an organic
machine, run by genes, hormones, enzymes, acids, salts, proteins and
small electrical currents.

A recent survey completed last week in three districts of the six
districts of Belize, came up with a startling number. The unofficial
survey was casually done, and attempted to define the sexual behavior of
fifteen year old females. A snapshot of a certain age and level of the
development of females in Belize. It was found that 95% of fifteen year
old females in Belize are no longer virgins!

If you think about those numbers and the age of girls in Belize for a
bit, you will realize that despite the threat of an early lingering death
by AIDS, or the possibility of getting various sexually transmitted
diseases, something else is occuring here. It has profound implications
on education, religion, schooling, legislation and other social mores.
If you want to argue with the numbers, then by all means, conduct your
own survey.

Some things become clear right away with those numbers. Legislation
that is punishing males for statutory rape are useless and should be
discarded. We are not talking about legally underage girls that are
being forced. The numbers indicate something else. Experimentation,
curiousity, an indefinable yearning that is difficult to deny. In
Education, we are talking about the need for Junior High Schools having
compulsory child care rooms and social child care arrangements as common
as toilets, as part of the educational norm. Of condoms freely
distributed. Of early sex education, regarding sexually transmitted
diseases. The list can go on. Legislated legal ages for girls are
meaningless.

The religionists can go on about morals, but obviously GOD in the form
of NATURE has made other arrangements. There is nothing worse than man
made religious rules. Religion is the perfect justification for tyranny,
because while useful to many in groups of society, it does not require an
ounce of reason, or a shred of proof! It is simply a power game. Those
who control the sexual rules and punishments, control you. Even Vestal
Virgins of ancient times were put to death by the tens of thousands for
having sex against the requirements of celibacy involved with their
religious duties. In many Moslem societies, family HONOR and religion
dictate that an unmarried girl found to have sex, be killed by her
father, or brothers to preserve the family honor. But still it happens!
In other societies they are stoned to death, slowly and cruelly for
having sex. In Egypt and North Africa, millions of girls to this day are
mutilated by ancient customs and have their clitorus and vaginal lips cut
off at puberty, as part of rituals to deny the pleasure sensations of
sexual stimulation.

What we know nowadays from many hundreds of clinical studies, is that
some girls start finding pleasurable sensations from rubbing their
clitoris between the age of six and eleven years of age. We also know
from these studies that many girls are not so much interested in sex in
pre-puberty years, but have a yearning for affection, kissing, touching,
embracing and body closeness. Shortly after puberty, the growth of
breasts, hair under the armpits and in the pelvic area, girls like to
press themselves against the ground, or the bed, or a pillow. They also
learn that they are in their prime and have a certain power over all
males. Sex before the age of 14 years of age in many societies is the
magnet, that allows a female to secure a male for herself for the years
of reproduction and child raising. I will not try to explore what
happens to young females, as a male, I do not know for sure and clinical
studies and surveys are dry stuff to read and assimiliate.

But males are something I do know about, not only from my own life, but
from my many friends and also clinical studies. Males get pleasurable
feeling from rubbing the penis by around 8 or 9 years of age. While
girls are into kissing and embracing, males are into genital contact.
Males generally have their first production of semen and ejaculation
between 12 and 15 years of age. For me, it was at age 14. A bunch of us
boys were sitting in the branches of a tree over a stream in Canada,
fishing. The older boys showed us how to produce the white stuff. I
tried it and it felt nice. Boys, and I refer not only to my compatriots
and childhood playmates, but also my platoon army years, are usually
masturbating by 15 years of age. From my own knowledge, I would say the
body of the male starts to produce sperm and the hormonal urges to
ejaculate that sperm about six to eight times a day on average by the age
of 16. By 18 years of age, the production of sperm and need to ejaculate
through masturbation occurs on average, 8 times to 12 times a day.
Indeed, many were my army buddies whose bodies produced sperm and
ejaculated about 12 to 15 times a day. That is why young boys are always
going to the toilet for privacy and a quick relief from an erection by
masturbation.

Any trigger, be it fantasy, the sight of a mini-skirt, perfume, smile,
or touch of a hand can produce sperm in a young teenage male. Indeed, it
was a huge source of embarrasment to myself to be walking around with an
erection in mixed groups. Tight jockey shorts, or a hand in the pocket
to hold the embarrassing erection against the abdomen were the norm.

By age 32, male sperm production becomes more reduced. Perhaps to 3
times a day. By 55 years of age, it may only be once or twice a day.
Around this age, the production of sperm is still something that goes on,
but the separate mechanism of blood control starts to be lost and we get
erectile dysfunction. Not the loss of sperm production and ejaculation,
but simply the ability to keep blood in an erect penis. Viagra a new
drug, has found the cause, it is some sort of nitric acid trigger that
closes the vessels of the blood vessels coming out of the penis. Viagra
supplies the trigger and holds the blood in the penis, turning a flacid
member into a stiff member once again. But even without Viagra, old
males still produce sperm automatically, need stimulating and can
masturbate a soft flacid penis and ejaculate.

Which brings us now, to the subject of the second family culture of the
port Belize City. Or the mistress syndrome. There is a difference
between a wife and a mistress, or second family. Many females do not
realize that the production of sperm is automatic and that various means
of stimulation outside of the control of the male make it so. When sperm
lies in the testes, it effects the brain, the way we think and the
actions that follow. The pressure is enormous to ejaculate that sperm.
Look at USA President Clinton, as an example of a male unable to control
behavior that he knew intellectually was extremely stupid. Females, or
many of them in my acquaintance, seem to have an intellectual control of
their sexual behavior. The survey belies that conclusion, if 95% of
Belizean 15 year old girls are no longer virgins though. Still, I always
assumed that females were more able to control sexual urges and thought
about what was happening in a more intellectual manner. Not so the
male. The urges, the pressure of chemicals can overcome intellectual
thought. Threats of AIDS, jail sentences, loss of the Presidency of the
USA and divorce, all go out the window. Sperm, depending on the age of
the male will accumulate in the testes from outside stimulus and all
means of the reproductive natural urges will do everything to see that
the male ejaculates that sperm. The longer the wait from intellectual
power, the more the pressure until the dam bursts and ejaculation
occurs. The chemicals twist the thinking of a male to make sure
reproduction is carried out.

What studies show, is that this production of sperm occurs in the
average male and above, in every day. Depending on health, work
conditions and other factors, it happens several times, each and every
day. The production of sperm drives the male, whether he wants it or
not. There are of course various abilities and variations in male
behavior to argue any number of type of variations. But in my
experience, females simply do not know, or do not care, that males are
constantly in a state of arousal. Or can be made so quickly. Females in
my experience think males can intellectually control this behavior. Some
few can, but most cannot. Masturbation and a quick trip to the bathroom
for a bit of privacy is the norm, each day and in youth several times a day.

Which brings us to wives, home and family. A wife, is secure. She
attributes her drives and intellectual ability to control the sex drive
once married, to the male. It is not so! The male must ejaculate
accumulated sperm. The sperm in the testes, will turn his thoughts to
doing this and find some way to do this. Wives thus, tending to have
headaches, they have cistitus, urinary infections, are not feeling well,
are tired. Whatever the reason for postponement of sexual intercourse,
the wives fail to realize, the male is suffering from a biological
requirement to ejaculate accumulated sperm every single day, if all other
factors are normal. Thus we developed in Belize City the mistress. The
mistress usually turns into the outside family. For the mistress, unlike
a wife, knows full well, that her role with the male is sexual
satisfaction. She is there for him, in his immediate need, no matter
what might be happening in her personal life. Whether the relationship
started out on romantic ideas, lust, or economic circumstances, the
mistress satisfies the biological need of the male to ejaculate sperm
that is pressuring him. The wife feels intellectually she has choices,
when in reality she has none. For what the male cannot satisfy at home,
he will of biological necessity be driven to find elsewhere.

And so we have in the port of Belize City, the second outside family
culture!

In Latin America, a legal red light district is normal in every
village and town, as a means to satisfy this male reproductive
ejaculation urge. It makes a whole lot more sense than the customs and
laws of North America in the USA and Canada. Their religious based laws
are absolutely nonsense.