Arrr! See CONTENTS for links to the 125 chapters of The Monstaville Memoirs plus introductions, conclusions, postscripts and appendices. This treasure trove also includes a collection of articles offering further insights into the themes explored in the trilogy. Namely, managing suffering and conflict (dealing with hostile people if you are nervous, sensitive or shy) and learning not to react

You must not react. Someone like
Pigsy tries to push your buttons and get a negative reaction to justify his
violent temper, blaming it on you. Don’t react at all, even mentally. Ignore
him.

The New Sun
by Hilda Charlton (Golden
Quest, New York, U.S., 1989, p.95).

The
New Sun: Why is it
we often yell at the people whom we love the most?

Hilda
Charlton: It’s a
very strange thing that the ones we love the most are the ones we yell at. It’s
because you can’t go into your work and yell - you’d get fired. You can’t yell
at the garbage man, or he won’t take the garbage. You can’t yell at the
superintendent of your apartment house, or he’ll make you lose your apartment.
So who are you going to yell at? There’s only one person on whom to get rid of
your aggravations from the world, and that’s the close one in your house, and
therefore arguments go on. But I give a great edict to this world: I ask
couples not to yell at the same time or on the same day. One can yell on one
day and one on the other day. Don’t fight the same day. It’s like two hands
clapping. If one doesn’t clap, the other one has got nothing to clap against,
and it will peter out, and there will be no arguments.”

Domestic
violence [Notes
from a TV programme I think].

Violence on any level is about power
and control.

One in four women will be abused in
their lifetime.

One in six men will be abused in
their lifetime.

Fear/hate/lack of self-worth
underlies the anger.

A distorted feeling of justice.
Anger is just energy in motion.

It is how we express that energy
that matters.

One feels that one’s boundaries are
transgressed. It is okay to feel anger but we must watch how we express it. We
have a choice.

A lot of abusers are trying to deal
with something that happened when they were children, even before they can
remember.

(Two women are killed by their
partner or ex-partner in the U.K. every week).

The National Centre for Domestic
Violence (www.ncdv.org.uk)
offers legal advice victims of domestic violence to help in the long-term.

“Men cause more damage but women hit
more than men.” – American psychologist (female).

“There are two ways of knowing
someone – through inflicting pain or through seeking understanding. Because so
many are afraid of love, they inflict pain – on themselves and on others. Your
therapists, through psychological studies of surveying prisoners of war, know
that an interesting, if not bizarre, relationship developed between captive and
captor. Through the pain, they came to know each other more deeply than either
anticipated. Yes, one route to knowing is through pain, but there is another
route. Seeking understanding begins with a conscious desire and concludes with
a conscious commitment. It involves taking the time to really reach out –
tenderly to reach out…to develop the skill of loving, seeking understanding of
yourself and others. You are not in this world to be understood. You are here
to be understanding.” - Lazaris
(channelled through Jach Pursel, The
Sacred Journey. You and your Higher Self, NPN Publishing Inc., FL., U.S.,
1987, p.110-111).

Where The Heart Is (directed by Matt Williams, 2000).

Novalee’s friend has been brutally
beaten by her ‘lover’ Novalee supplies some much-needed emotional support on
the front porch that night and gives her some advice in reply to her question
about what she should tell her children.

Lexie
Coop (Ashley Judd):
How did he find me, Novalee? How do men like that find my kids? How'd he know
he could do such a thing to us? He had to be lookin'. He was lookin' for women
like me...who are alone with children...and women who are stupid. And they saw
through him. They could tell he was evil. And all I saw was a Buick Oh, God.
What am I gonna tell my babies? What am I gonna say...to Brownie and Praline
when they ask me why this happened to them? [Sobbing] What am I supposed to
say, Novalee? [Sighs].

Novalee
Nation (Natalie
Portman): You tell them - you tell them that our - our lives can change with
every breath we take. We both know that. And you tell them to let go of what's
gone. 'Cause men like Roger Brisco never win. And tell them to hold on like
hell to what they've got - each other and a mother who would die for them...and
almost did. You tell them we've all got meanness in us. But we've got good in
us too. And the only thing worth livin' for is the good. And that is why we've got
to make sure to pass it on.

This is such a beautiful film. Both
women have a history of going for the bad guy and suffer as a result but they
each end up with a guy who is sensitive and makes their lives more worthwhile.
Even the beautiful people, whom one might imagine having everything they want,
suffer setbacks and persecution, make bad choices and lose their way. There is
a general message of hope that whoever you are, wherever you find yourself in
life, struggling, burdened, making mistakes, if your heart is in the right
place everything will come together eventually. You will pull through and life
will turn around. Specifically, women whose hearts are open may need to learn
through experience what they want
instead of putting other people first all the time, especially people who will
only ruin their lives. Know your own heart and do what is right for you.

“Not the
ones speaking the same language, but the ones sharing the same feeling
understand each other.” – Rumi.

“To help
yourself, you must be yourself. Be the best that you can be. When you make a
mistake, learn from it, pick yourself up and move
on.” - Dave Pelzer.

Eddie (Paul Newman) to Burt (George C.
Scott): You’re dead inside and you can’t live unless you make everything dead
around you.

“Anger is poison. It may hurt the
other, it may not - it depends on the other - but it is going to hurt you,
certainly.” - Osho.

AAnswer not elders who are angry. Let them have
their way. Speak sweetly when they speak bitterly.
For it is a remedy that soothes
the heart. Contentious answers provoke strife and
eventually your will will be broken. Let
not your heart be troubled, for they will soon return to praise you when their
hour of rage has passed.When your words
please the heart, the heart is inclined to accept them. Seek self-mastery then, and your self-mastery will subdue them.@
- Proverb from the ancient Khemetic (Egyptian)Book Of Ani
(an excerpt from The Husia).

“Whenever a person feels the lack of
self-confidence, he becomes easily angry. In fact anger is always an indication
that you are not self-confident. A person who is confident about himself is not
easily angry. It is very difficult for him to get into anger. It is our
weakness that leads us into anger. The stronger you are, the less anger will be
there. The strongest person goes beyond anger. Anger is weakness. So don't be
worried about anger; it is a byproduct. Rather be concerned how to become
stronger. Do three things. One is, meditate regularly. Within six months you
will feel a burst of energy and a confidence arising in you. But don't be
bothered about whether any result is coming or not. Continue for six months.
And choose any meditation you like, but stick to that; don't change - one day
Kundalini, another day Dynamic. One day it will suddenly happen that you will
be full of energy, and suddenly you will see that all unconfidence has gone.
You have become sure about yourself, centred. The second thing. Before going to
sleep, just stand in the room and feel that you are a pillar of energy from the
ceiling to the floor - just the shape of a pillar. Close your eyes and feel
that you are a pillar of energy, and that you are melting. Visualise that the
energy is falling and you are underneath it, as if taking a shower of energy -
just for seven minutes. And feel completely cleansed, purified, bathed, and
then go to sleep. And the third thing. Whenever you feel angry, don't throw it
on persons. Rather, beat a pillow.” - Osho.

We must greet anger with patience
and humility? Well, this is one wise perspective conducive to identifying with
our spirit but one should realise that such an attitude coincides with inner
confidence and power.

Patience is the way of the
intelligent man.

“Patience, the most beautiful of all
the virtues, and the least understood.” - Edgar Cayce.

In fact, patience and humility may
only be required to calm the tiger; that is, they may only be tools to
transcend the ego. Like stabilisers on a bicycle until we are able to express
ourselves fully as the love and power that we are, focus and extend our
awareness wherever we want to, do and go wherever we desire as divine Beings.

‘Everyone’s under pressure in one
way or another. They don’t use it as an excuse to take it out on their
families...We are not animals. We are not beasts.’ (Quincy M.E., late seventies American TV series).

If you don’t learn to master your
rage, it will master you. Overcome the conflicts in you and you’ll overcome
your enemy because they are a projection of something in you. Your inner rage -
or lack of strength and discipline to control the fire of anger on some
level - attracts them. It is wise to remember that depression is a form of
anger directed at oneself!

p.156.
Suppose a man gets angry with you for no reason. Even at that time a sadhak should have the attitude to bow down to him realising that
it is a play of God in order to test him. Only then can it be said that the
benefit of meditation has been attained.

p.157. Children, even when a man is
cutting a tree down from its very root, it gives him shade. A spiritual
aspirant should also be like this. Only he who prays even for the welfare of
those who torment him can become a spiritual person.

"Meditation may require a lifetime to master, but it will
have been a lifetime well spent... If you want to judge your progress, ask
yourself these questions: Am I more loving? Is my judgment sounder? Do I have
more energy? Can my mind remain calm under provocation? Am I free from the
conditioning of anger, fear, and greed? Spiritual awareness reveals itself as
eloquently in character development and selfless action as in mystical
states." ‑ Eknath Easwaran.

“See through the illusion of
emotions and pursue the Tao...The sages say, if the blood is boiling over, you
must learn to abstain from arguments. Centre Your will and do not show anger.”
(Cultivating Stillness, an important
Taoist classic translated by Eva Wong, Shambhala, MA., U.S., 1992, p.142-143).

Dudley: It's best to stay away from a man
when his blood is up.

Exley: His blood's always up.

Dudley: Then perhaps you should stay away
from him altogether.

-
L.A. Confidential (directed by Curtis
Hanson, 1997).

“Anger dwells only in the bosom of
fools.” - Albert Einstein.

“For every minute you are angry, you
lose sixty seconds of happiness.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Master
Kan (Philip Ahn):
Observe the day lily. Each morning with the warmth of the sun it opens in
lovely blossoms. Each night, it closes...Once, your anger warmed you and, like
the flower, you opened to it. That is long past. It is night.

Caine
(David Carradine):
Am I then to do nothing, feel nothing, be still?

Master
Kan: Still water is
like glass. It is the perfect level. A carpenter could use it. The heart of a
wise man is tranquil and still. Thus, it is the mirror of Heaven and Earth. The
glass of everything. Be still like water. You look into it and see yourself.

-
(Kung Fu, Season 2, Episode 6, ‘The
Spirit-Helper,’ 1973).

Two people who see only their anger
- and see only the ghost of the past, not themselves, now, and their positive
potential - project rather than express.

“A hurtful act is the transference
to others of the degradation which we bear in ourselves.” - Simone Weil.

“Today’s idea accurately describes
the way anyone who holds attack thoughts in his mind must see the world. Having
projected his anger onto the world, he sees vengeance about to strike at him.
His own attack is thus perceived as self defence. This becomes an increasingly
vicious circle until he is willing to change how he sees. Otherwise, thoughts
of attack and counter-attack will preoccupy him and people his entire world.
What peace of mind is possible to him then? It is from this savage fantasy that
you want to escape. Is it not joyous news to hear that it is not real? Is it
not a happy discovery to find that you can escape? You made what you would
destroy; everything that you hate and would attack and kill. All that you fear
does not exist.” – A Course in Miracles (Jeshua
channelled through Dr. Helen Schucman, The Foundation for Inner Peace, CA.,
U.S., 1976).

The
aggressor convinced himself that someone is attacking him. He is ‘defending’
himself from a perceived threat, he thinks, in his delusion. In his own mind,
his violence is justified.

“Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around
in awareness.” - James Thurber.

“The point of power is always in the present moment.” - Louise
Hay.

Retrospective inserts.

Jeffrey (Kyle MacLachlan): Why are there people like Frank? Why is there so
much trouble in this world? - Blue Velvet
(directed by David Lynch, 1986).

AThe violent man is another expression of the lack of self worth
and self love that has bred like a cancer in the collective human mind. Violent
people are those who hate themselves and instead of looking inside to find the
cause of that self dislike, they thrash out at someone else. Their victim is a
convenient mirror...the way we react to others is merely an expression of what
we think of ourselves and violent people are a perfect example of this.@ - David Icke (I am
Me, I am Free, Cambridge, U.K., Bridge of Love Publications, Isle of Wight, U.K., 1996, p.89).

“I don’t want to fight anyone. What you fight you become.” – David Icke
(‘David Icke and Jordan Maxwell in Conversation,’ Project Avalon, by Bill Ryan,
May 2010, www.projectavalon.net).

“This man
had been taught early on to keep his pain bottled up. He had stored grief from
the past and hid his fear about the future. The source of the argument was his
fear. It’s a choice, a habit, to take one’s fear and turn it onto others – but
habits can be broken.” [And he “would find someone or something to blame” when
he was feeling angry]. - Betty Perkins (Lion
Taming. The courage to deal with difficult people including yourself, Tzedakah
Publications, CA., U.S., 1995, p.78).

PLAY: ‘Fuck Off and Die’ by The Meteors (2001).

“Laughter
restores the universe to its original state of indifference and strangeness: if
it has a meaning, it is a divine one, not a human one.” - Octavio Paz.

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