I only had it off bsk, because I wanted to get just raynne talking >_>

I'm the one who ignores chat a lot of the time. I'm not trying to be rude. When I'm adventuring, I stay focused on what I'm doing. If I'm in a party, I turn everything off but team chat. If you send me a whisper, I get an audible "ping" that makes me look at the chat window.