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Take charge of your healing. You are not alone on this journey, but only you can do the work necessary for your own heart. These two simple techniques will turn that burning pain into amazing strength. You are stronger than you think!

Remember that your kid is a fellow human being. Yes you brought him/her into this world. But they are still a separate human being, with their own ideas, thoughts, dreams, fears, feelings, and life. Look at them as such. See them for who they really are.

When we have experienced abuse in our life, our perspective of reality suffers. Abuse comes in many forms and from many different types of relationships. It can be physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, child abuse, spousal abuse, and so on. When any of these happen, life gets blurry for the victim, and you often don’t even realize it. Seeing life from outside of your own perspective is a large part of the healing process.

It is so easy to talk ourselves into staying in a painful and abusive relationship for way too long. Just because someone else may be in a worse situation than you does not mean that you shouldn’t tend to your own pain and get help.

When does a relationship with a narcissist get worse? When that narcissist decides that they must “fix” the relationship. When they decide to “take charge” of making things right. This is a disaster! This is emotional abuse at its best.

Recovery from a narcissistic relationship is no small task in life. I have broken it down into 3 phases: Victim, Survivor, and Victor. It is possible to get past all the abuse and see life as a beautiful thing again. Where are you on your journey?

Narcissistic relationships are the most confusing things. The emotional roller coaster you find yourself on is unbelievable and crazy-making. At one point, this person was the love of your life. And you still see glimpses of that from time to time. Yet the abuse between those glimpses is devastating. Your heart feels like a ping pong ball ricocheting back and forth. In the midst of this chaos, please know that it is okay to have feelings for them and yet to still walk away!

Narcissists seem to have absolutely no emotional intelligence, inside themselves or with the world around them. They continuously stomp all over your feelings and don’t show an ounce of care about it. They can talk harshly and callously one minute and be confused as to why you don’t want to make love with them the very next minute. The confusion this creates is crazy-making!