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teen moms, I have a question..

So, I had my son super young. I got preggo at 14 and had him at 15. I love my son dearly, and I wouldn't trade this life for anything in the world, but knowing what I know now I would have given adoption a better chance. Although his life hasn't been a shitty one by any means, I wouldn't have been able to do any of it without the help of my dad, some great people at the daycare he went to, and really close friends. And I know that if he had been adopted that he would have had a much more normal and stable life from the start.

I dont regret my decision, but if I could go back in time and do it differently I would have considered it.

You might feel it was a mistake but it seems it turned out well...You know him now that he's an adult I take it?? Like I told the OP...everything happens for a reason!!!

Quoting onethentwins:

19. On boy one girl. They're wonderful people. I kept waiting for teen rebellion which never came, unless you call my boy joining the Marines rebellion.

The "one" in my name is my son that I gave up for adoption. Which is why I'm so passionate about this topic, the worst mistake of my life. He's in my avatar with me and his adoptive mother, we're celebrating his 21st birthday.

Darlin that's not selfish...It would be selfish if you were a drug addict or whatever and couldn't care for him but wanted him anyways...You love him and you provide right? So I don't think that's selfish.

Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

youre right, of course.

im just saying i would have at least considered it. I feel like I made the choice because I was selfish. I kept him because I loved him dearly and I needed something to give me meaning in life.

Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

You don't know for sure adoption would have been better...what if he was adopted to someone screwed up...EVERYTHING happens for a reason...If hes happy then your doing good! I was 18 when I got preg and 19 when I had them..I wouldn't trade them for anything...I feel like they saved me

I don't....but I got pregnant at 17 and my husband and I already owned a business and had the life we wanted to provide for our children. It would've taken a hell of a lot for me to put my daughter up for adoption.

I don't....but I got pregnant at 17 and my husband and I already owned a business and had the life we wanted to provide for our children. It would've taken a hell of a lot for me to put my daughter up for adoption.

haha I hear it all the time. You wouldn't believe how many people tell me on a daily basis that they think i'm having twins or a 20 lbs baby since I was so much smaller with my others. I can't believe I still have until the end of the month. Lugging this humongo belly around feels like death. lol

Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

Quoting xomrsweaver:

I don't....but I got pregnant at 17 and my husband and I already owned a business and had the life we wanted to provide for our children. It would've taken a hell of a lot for me to put my daughter up for adoption.

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