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err.. my hubby is being an a-hole.. what would you make of this situation? kind of stuck in the middle.

okay i am babysitting my friend's two kids tonight so she can go out. last week she babysat 2 of my 3 for two days and two nights (picked them up early the third morning) and i gave her forty bucks for it because i know she was being put out to have to watch them for so long, on top of it my 22 month old needed nebulizer treatments every 4-6 hours. plus, she is babysitting them again friday night so we can take our oldest to Mickey's Christmas celebration at Disney.

anyway he thinks she should pay me. before the time i paid her, we always swapped kids for free. neither of us ever had an issue with not being paid. it was like a "you babysit mine, i'll babysit yours" type deal and the only reason i paid her was because we were out of state (taking care of HIS business) for two days! not just overnight. i would feel terrible to ask her for money. both of us are pretty tight on money as it is. what to do? :(

Sounds like a typical man thing to me. I would tell him why you gave her the money and you didn't expect anything in return and ask what he would do if it was his friend.....he shouldnt tell you what to do with your friends anyway.

tell him to shut it.. not his arrangement and he's only mad because you paid her last time - i say stick with your original arrangement unless YOU plan to pay her also from here on out... see how he'd like that too -

I would tell him to stay out of it, you and her will work it out so that you both are happy. Tell him to worry about his deals with his friends, and that you will worry about yours. Explain it to him just like you explained it here, don't assume he knows because men are generally clueless! Point out all the times you have swapped sitting duties,and explain that when you were gone for two days you kinda pushed the limits of the swapping thing. I wouldn't ask her for any money, I'd tell him to get over it!

I would tell him that she and I have a 'swap' system going on for babysitting-- we swap time and not money. I would also explain that when you paid her there were "special circumstances" involved that time.