First of all , I would like to thank our honorable course instructor Mr. Abdus Selim, for his unconditional support through out the whole semester . Whenever I need any kind of support, I have got from him. There is also a great honor for me to give the opportunity by selecting a topic like this. I also like to thank my friend who helped me a lot by giving their valuable help. There are some websites which have associated me by providing all important information. I would also like to thank all the universities students who have helped me out with the questionnaire.

DECLARATION

I hereby, declare on my honor that this research paper has written by me and no part of it has been copied from any source except the one mentioned in the parenthesis and bibliography.

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CONTENT

SI. NO. Description Page No.

a. Introduction………………………………………………….5

b. What is premarital sex? .........................................................7

c. Pre-marital sex in Bangladesh as a third world country….8

d. A recent survey By World Bank ……………………........10

e. Pre-marital sex as an expression of love………………..... 14

f. Pre-marital sex for physical demand…………………......23

g. Pre-marital sex in student life………………………….....26

h. Pre-marital sex in other countries……………………….28

i. Questionnaires survey…………………………………..…32

j. Conclusion …………………………………………………41

k. References……………………………………………….....42

INRODUCTION:

Thesis Statement: In case of building a sustainable premarital relationship the basis should be pure love, strong commitment and a very good understanding to each other rather than any unacceptable physical touch (pre-marital sex) which may jeopardize one’s personal, family and social life as well.

People of our country are very conservative; they are very strict about their traditional values and culture. Actually the culture didn’t support this relation. We should not involve in those things which should not supported by our culture. In that way our family thinks for their children. They should not allow their children to engage in that kind of relation. Our tradition and socio economic background should not allow us to involve in that kind of relation. So our society as well as our family should not allow this kind of relation. I agree that pre marital sex should not be supported but no one can treat this relation narrowly.

Physical Relationship before marriage in our country should not be supported, but a particular couple should be committed about their relation. They must think about their future, and very clear about themselves what they are going to do. If they can maintain this relation to each other then I don’t think that it’s going to prove wrong. But if they make this relation only for fulfilling their physical need, then the whole thing would messed up. Without commitment this relation should prove wrong to themselves. They should be very committed to each other on the basis of true love & commitment where there will no unacceptable kind of behavior.

What is premarital sex?
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