I CANT HANDLE THIS!!!

My baby has NEVER sttn!! and now its worse ...he was teethin at 4 mths then he got sick for the first time (a cold) at 5 mths but nothin has seemed to be the problem now hes over the cold and teethin doesnt seem to bother him much now ... but he is a HORRIBLE sleeper!! wakes up for any little noise and will not go back to sleep on his own!!! hes hard to put to sleep 95% of the time and we have let him cio for up to an hour but still will not fall asleep by hisself ... it takes at least 45 min. to put him to sleep by rockin and feedin him... sometimes he fights it for so long that i give up and take him downstairs to play until he shows signs again of being tired!!... he is currently cio... i try all the same things to get him to sleep sometimes they work sometimes they dont!! to top it off he wakes up 2-10 times a night! and will not fall asleep until we get up and put a bottle in his mouth and then he falls asleep almost instantly... only to wake up and hour r 2 later!... i cant take this no more it is frustrating!!! and i do get pissed so i kiss him and put him in his bed and walk out !!

i dont know what to do with this very determined baby!! some ppl say leave him cry until he does fall asleep and some ppl say nvr let them cry and that it will teach them not to trust u!! btw im a ftm with only my SO to help and give advise but he is a ftf too so he doesnt even know as much as i do cause im with the baby all the time!!!

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You poor thing, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I just posted a vent about my non sleeping baby yesterday. I'm not going to tell you it will be ok, but I HOPE it will be ok soon for us sleep deprived Moms. I seriously stomped my feet yesterday like a two year old because he was non stop for days straight and all I wanted to do was clean my kitchen, haha! Cleaning is my therapy. Stay strong!

The sticky posts at the "Teaching your baby and toddler to sleep" board are the greatest resources on BBC.

I reached my breaking point about 3 weeks ago. When my husband came upstairs at midnight to find me sobbing hysterically, holding my crying baby, we knew we had to do something. That was not healthy for me and it was not healthy for LO either. Babies need their sleep just as much as mamas and if you're baby isn't sleeping, chances are he isn't happy about it either. He wants to sleep and he needs to sleep, but he doesn't know how. Go to the sleep board and read the sticky about teaching your baby to sleep, pick a method to teach your baby to sleep (no-cry or some form of CIO--they are outlined in the sticky) and be consistent. Believe in yourself that you can do this and it will be of major benefit to your baby and your family.

There is no scientific evidence that properly-applied CIO methods cause children any physical or psychological harm. But there are also several no-cry and not-very-much-cry methods to choose from. The key is picking a method that you know you can stick to and that fits your baby's personality.

Three weeks after that Come To Jesus Moment and we now put LO down at night awake and he falls asleep on his own within 10 minutes--and he often does not cry or make even a peep at all. If he does cry, it's just for a minute or two, then he gets down to business of sleeping. He wakes once or twice a night to be fed and I put him right back into his crib after nursing and leave the room and he puts himself back to sleep. It's been a roaring success for us and I wish the best for you and your family.

My biggest advice to solve sleep solutions at night is to evaulate your daytime schedule. I would make sure your little one is on a consistent eat/sleep schedule during the day. If so, that will help establish healthy sleep patterns at night. My 5 month old is a breeze at bedtime. But my oldest was more challenging. We had the best luck w/ her when she ate well during the day and got good naps. Sleep fosters sleep (but not too much sleep too late in the day) A consistent routine fixed a lot of our problems. We did have to do some cio at times, but not too often. The more consistent our daytime routine was, the better it was for all of us.

All I can say is try white noise maybe. My baby does the same thing, we co sleep &he wakes me up anywhere from 3-10 times a night to nurse. He also will not sleep through a wet diaper making everything just a lil more complicated.