Controlling Relationship

Controlling Or Governing Relationships Are Dominating And Dictating

A romantic relationship is supposed to have total freedom and liberty. It becomes a problem when one partner is controlling the other. Controlling behavior of one partner can exist in almost any type of relationship. It can exist in any age group, culture, religion, and sector of the society, and either gender can be controlling. There is a lot of dominance from one partner, while the other becomes submissive. A controlling relationship is one in which one of the partner is dominating and controlling while the other is submissive. The controlling behavior may be in many forms such as monitoring every move they make or restraining their movement or not allowing the partner to keep friends or talk to their family members, or it may be in the form of abuses or criticisms. In all circumstances, regulating a partner or making them captive is part of a controlling relationship. In most controlling relationships, the other partner accepts to be dominated mostly due to the fear of separation.

Following are some signs of a controlling partner.

Your partner controls every move that you make. They tell you exactly where you can go and where you can’t and also who you can talk to and who you can’t. Their goal is to make you totally dependent on them. They want you to lose all your support system from your friends and family so that you can be easily controlled by them.

Your partner controls all financials. They have full control over the bank accounts and credit cards. You have to take their permission even to buy a pair of shoes and even the smallest purchase needs their approval. They want you to be fully reliant on them for even the minutest thing in life.

Your partner controls all final decisions. They make all the shots when it comes to making any sort of decision. You really have no say in what sofa goes where and for every little thing in the house. They just announce how things will be and you are expected to just obey their orders.

Your partner controls all your communications. They have full access to your computer and phone. You can’t have any private conversation with anyone without their knowledge. They know exactly who you talk on the phone or text message with complete lack of privacy.

Your partner controls your time. They tell you exactly how to spend your time even on a weekend or a holiday. You have very little say in how much time you wish to spend with them and when you may need some time alone. They expect you to be with them as and when they need you emotionally or sexually.

Your partner controls your emotional wellbeing. They have the ability to make you feel good or bad. You totally reply on them for every little happiness. They know just how to cheer you up or make you feel awful within split seconds.

These are some of the signs that your partner has you wrapped around their little pinky.

It is extremely unhealthy to be in a controlling relationship. Most people accept their partner just the way they are until things get out of control. It is okay for a partner to be slightly controlling. But aggressive bullying should never be acceptable. It is never desirable to be in a relationship with a control freak. Controlling behavior is hard to break once it sets in. The best solution is to have a direct talk as soon as you think your partner is controlling you so that you can bring some parity and balance in your relationship.

Date Posted/Updated On: 12/19/2018Author: ispace1

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