How to inform the child that he is adopted, and not to hurt his feelings

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The main question that parents of adopted children are asking is to talk about this to a child or it is better to hide this information. The truth can be bitter, then, as a lie can seem sweet. What to choose?

Parents ask such a question even before they adopted a foster child into their family. And after adoption, they suffer a similar question all the time, until the truth comes up by chance. Then the question itself disappears and the difficult time of a new reality for a child begins.

At the time of adoption, know that the time will come (choose the moment yourself) when you tell the child everything. Therefore, collect maximum information about his biological parents.

This information is usually not open, but still. Take a picture of the baby house, find out in which hospital he was born and keep the clothes in which he was. In a word - maximum information. After all, the time will come and you will have it "extrude."

For parents, the most important thing is to understand that adoption is not the kind of information that needs to be hidden, ashamed of it, and deleting it from memory in every possible way as something painful.

This is a common situation and in your case, it is better. And then already tell about this baby in such a way as not to hurt him. Understand, nobody threw it once, and you did not pick it up. Just someone gave birth to him for you to love him all his life. Someone gave you a gift, the most important in your life.

Do not judge biological parents, and thank. Now your baby will have a happy life. And remember always - you are real parents, not “pseudo” or adoptive.

You are a real family. Not the father who conceived, but the one who raised. Not the mother that gave birth, but the one that fed. Remember that once your half was a stranger to you too. She lived in a strange family and knew nothing about you. And now you are one. That's life. So with adoption - so what, that someone else gave birth to him, the main thing is that now you have a real, full and happy family.

To speak or not to speak? The answer is simple - to speak. And now let's look at what age is best to do it and what to do if the period for such a story is not the best.