There's a free tweak in cydia called "disable multitasking" (I think that's what it's called). Obviosly you would have to be jailbroken. It is activated (& deactivated) via winterboard. Works as described. Also there is "remove bg" which closes all backgrounded apps at once via sbsettings toggle.

thanks for the help. I was wondering if anybody knew how to make it where only certain things went into the background or if there was a app or tweak for it. if not I'll stick to disabling it. thanks again