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WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU CHASE YOUR DREAMS?

If you have ever had the good fortune of quitting a job;
especially one which you really enjoyed for the longest while- you know how it
feels, to be jobless. You are well versed with, the sudden feeling of euphoria and all that
extra time to sleep and chill with your friends, kill hours on the PS3 and more.

Of course you are also well acquainted with the unprecedented
existential crisis that follows. You soon realize your friends don’t have time
to chill because, they still have their jobs! Also, even though you have a clear idea
about the dream you just HAD TO chase after, let's face it; you don’t know how.

You have no step by step plan on how to get to your dream
destination. It could be the dream of becoming a wildlife photographer, a race
car driver, a deep sea diver; essentially any career (If you like that word!)
that seems glamorous & creativelystimulating. For me it
was and still is writing; so while I should be working on a screenplay I’m supposed
to submit in a few days; I’m here, writing this. Hoping that I’ll be able to
give someone out there the heads up, I didn't quite get. Now without further ado, let me jump right
into it and list out, what happens when you... (Read the title, I'm doing this for you!).

1. You will feel like
an absolute fool!

More often than not you’ll be curled up on your bed staring
into the darkness of the night thinking to yourself: “What on earth am I doing
with my life?” and “Why can’t I just do a regular job that pays bills on time
and buy a small hatchback and rent an apartment of my own!”

The answer: Remember telling yourself you’re creative?
Yeah, that godforsaken moment! Well, let’s face it you are creative, you could
do a regular job but that’s eventually going to seem like it’s beneath you. You
really have only one option- Succeed and for that, you must keep working.

2. You will always be broke!

When I say this, I don’t mean “I can’t afford the new
i-phone 5S” broke, I mean you literally will reach a point when you don’t know how
you’re going to pay rent or even order from Faasos the following month. If you have the
luxury, you’ll probably borrow money from your parents but, it will feel
embarrassing like never before!

The answer: Money will come, it always does. Paraphrasing
Neil Gaiman; you have the ability to make art and that means there is always
work for you out there. You just have to go out and find it.

3. Nobody will understand you!

Not your friends, not your family, not your girlfriend, not
your wife- no one. No one will ever truly understand you or what you want. Why?
Because you have no clue either! It will be a pain in the ass most of the time.
You will hear some of your friends talk and dole out advice to you or others
and simply roll your eyes. Nothing you hear will seem new; have you really
heard it all? Well yes and no.

The answer: We've all heard it all (Okay not All! I
mean if you’re reading this you know you’re special!). Jest aside, it isn't
easy to understand you, so cut those around you some slack. These people who
seem to have the IQ of Neanderthals are your support system and on that day or
night when you need a shoulder to lean on or just a tight warm hug- they’ll
come in handy. Also it’ll be unfair to let these adorable souls go out there
and face the big bad world without your guidance.

Of course it isn't all bad you know! Good things will happen
too!

4. It’ll seem like everything is falling into place!

You’ll have multiple eureka moments, where your mind will
amaze even you (Yup! You’re that gifted!). It will seem like the universe is conspiring
to make things happen for you. Sometimes it will feel so good that you’ll feel
bad.

Yes. That’s another issue with us lot, we feel guilty! You
will feel like it’s too easy and that you haven’t toiled enough and that you
had imagined it would be harder! That big guy from your area of expertise, who
had ‘absolutely loved’ your work will pay you shit loads of money! You’ll get
hired for a job that you have no experience doing, simply because someone
believes in you- yes, that much pressure!

The answer: Don’t
fret. Enjoy it while it lasts. Remember that you deserve every bit of that god
damned success and respect- you've earned it. Even though, it might not feel
that way at times. Have faith.

5. You’ll learn... a lot!

This has to be the cherry, on the icing, on the cake! I mean
what could be better than improving at something you’re already spectacularly
breathtaking at, right? This may initially come to you differently though. It may come as fear and lack of confidence. To realize that you are not at the
pinnacle of your craft and that your finesse isn't finesse at all, can be
depressing.

You will come across others who seem to be better, at what
you do. Some of these folks won’t be humble either- they will be all up in your face
with their awesomeness: Now who does that remind you of? Oh wait you’re humble
is it? Shut up. You’re not fooling anyone! You think you're fabulous!

The answer: Be humble, be modest, be nice to others
because the people you’ll meet along the way, are trying to do the same thing
as you. Cherish what you've learnt from your errors. Wear your mistakes like
battle scars. And always, always, always, ask questions.

Okay so this is the point where my word count prompts me to wrap it up. I
know there is so much more that needs to be said and there are issues that I
haven’t even touched upon. But it’s 2014 and many won’t even start reading an
article that’s more than a thousand words. Hence this! Comment below if you
have something to add to this list or if you'd like to spark a discussion. Share it, because I'm lazy and will probably never share it after today!

Comments

I think everyone has their own path of chasing dreams. Some people's dreams change, some people's paths change. But I guess what is important is to keep walking, to keep believing in yourself and never stop learning.

Yes, this happens. And there is a lack of answer to so many questions, which we want somehow to be explained immediately to us. We look up to a few close peeople, but know it deep down that nothing they say is going to make us feel better.

I think it was a really apt time right now for me that I stumbled upon the link to your post. Feels good to see the situation this way. Knowing that we are not the only ones being faced with such things, that there are so many like us but unlike us who face similar situations...Thanks for the post Rishabh :)

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