The scandalous pictures are just a smaller window into a bigger conversation about how you feel toward each other.

"This is a matter of respecting one another, finding areas you can compromise on, and seeing whether you have enough shared values to last," Sherman says.

Maybe it's her form of self-expression—which is to say, she sees nothing "scandalous" about the photos.

(Remember, that's a judgment call.) Or maybe it's just part of her job (is she a model, spokesperson, or advocate for commercial platform? "You can't assume her feelings or motives unless you ask, but you can intuit where she be coming from instead of only considering your own feelings," Sherman says.

the former foes connected for the first time since Danielle left the show in 2010 by taking a yoga class together.

If your relationship is already on rocky foundation—you feel she's not committed to you, your communication is poor, and you don't feel like an equal in the relationship—then you need to decide how much this issue threatens your trust.

This could signal larger problems in your relationship, and it's best to figure out these flaws sooner rather than later.

You want it to stop, but have no clue how to broach the subject.

You don't want to go in guns blazing any more than you want to head into nuclear warfare with a water gun.