Teenagers and puberty

What is puberty?

Puberty is a period of time during which the onset of sexual maturity occurs and the reproductive organs become functional.

This is manifested in both sexes by the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics – growth of the breasts, pubic hair and first menstrual period (menstruation) in girls, and facial and pubic hair and deepening of the voice in boys.

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How will a child's puberty affect the parents?

A year or two before reaching puberty, the child will start to change physically and emotionally.

Their growth (and appetite!) increases suddenly, before slowing and finally stopping around the age of 18. The accelerated growth that girls experience in puberty happens at an earlier age than for boys.

At puberty, the child's attitude towards his or her parents is likely to change. Often, children think their parents are hopeless, annoying and old-fashioned.

In return, parents may find their child cheeky and sullen. Obviously, it can be a time of conflict.

It's perfectly natural and inevitable that tensions and controversies between parents and teenagers arise. In fact, it may be more alarming to the parents if there are no conflicts at all because it may be a sign that their child is hiding their problems.

If teenagers continue to suppress emotional problems, they may eventually have problems establishing a normal relationship with other people.

How do young people view themselves at puberty?

At puberty, most children are uncomfortable with their image. They may not like the way they look. They feel clumsy, shy and insecure.

For boys, their voice breaks – and for both boys and girls acne and pimples makes the situation even worse. However, a pharmacist can help with over the counter products, which teenagers will use if they appear in the bathroom!

Few teenagers consider consulting a doctor with these problems and a request by their parents seldom helps. However, there are excellent treatments available and spotty teenagers should seek the advice of their GP.

During puberty your child is developing into a sexually mature adult. Their sexual organs grow and their body changes physically. Boys and girls begin to grow hair under their arms and pubic hair between their legs. Girls develop breasts and boys grow hair on their faces.

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During puberty young people want to be like everyone else of their age. So girls may be unhappy if they have their first period before the rest of their class or if they're the first – or last – to develop breasts.

For boys, the growth of pubic hair may cause similar problems.

Puberty – child or adult?

Puberty is a time of contrast because the child shifts between feelings of being a child and becoming an adult.

Friendship with others of the same age may strengthen a teenager's self-confidence. Insecurity may make them want to imitate other people in their age group.

Puberty is a time of life when the child begins to feel liberated.

But support and security from parents is still of paramount importance. Parents are not only a safety net, but also the platform from which the child can jump out and eventually experience the whole world.

Parents should read as much as they can about the challenges of living with teenagers – the better prepared, the easier the inevitable conflict will be.

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