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New day.. New office location.. New Seat..
So many new things happened to me before this new year comes.
Newness always brings enthusiasm and excitement.
Hope this New Year also comes with hand full of surprises as Every Day is a New Day indeed..!!!

When: 31 BC
Where: Rome and Egypt
What’s So Special about Their Love: These two had a love so strong, war was waged against them to break them up. When Mark Antony left his wife, Octavia, for the mesmerizing Cleopatra, Octavia’s brother Octavian brought the army of Rome to destroy them. These two lovers were so entranced with each other that they committed suicide rather than be apart- the ultimate Romeo and Juliet true love story.

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Bosses usually have a strong sense of
recall (if your boss is the forgetful kind, then yoo-hoo! for you), so you
better watch out what you say to them.

What you say today could land you in
trouble in future if you’re not careful with your words. There is a reason
they’re the boss and you are well, you. There are things better left
unsaid. Like they say, if you don’t have anything positive or productive to say
to your boss then shut up and eat your fries! (Or something like that).

For those of you who lack tact, we’ve
compiled a list of what not to say to your boss. (We asked bosses, of course.)

1. “Do I really
have to get this finished today?”

Yeah Sherlock, you do. D’uh. You’re
being paid to get it finished, aren’t you? Or were you sucked in by some sort
of a tornado of misinformation – one that made you believe that it’s the water
cooler conversation that’s getting you the top reviews? Apart from managing
their own life, your boss has the added responsibility to manage you and other
members in your team – don’t add to their burden by being noncommittal. Do your
job before you log off. Hey, that rhymes. Sweet. Now get back to work.

2. “Give me a
better desk now or I quit!”

And I wanna sing along the streets of
Venice. How do you expect ultimatums to work out with someone higher up in the
power structure? Throwing tantrums never helped anyone; even a 4-year-old will
vouch for that (after they’ve grown up). Take the mature road and understand
that an open dialog always works.

3. “Umm… isn’t
it my turn for a promotion yet?”

Oh hell yeah! Why not just go for
gold and become the CEO instead? Why bother vying that VP or SVP position?
You’re obviously flowing with the self-entitlement needed to embarrass
yourself. Well, here’s the thing, those guys probably worked their tails off,
took risks, and braved many obstacles instead of sitting in a corner and
sulking about their ill fate. If you want to be taken seriously at work and not
treated like a 9-year-old, quit whining and get productive.

4. “That’s not
my problem.”

Ahem, but your boss says it is. So,
you don’t have much choice now, do you? The responsibility to rectify the
problem fell into your lap. Stop wasting precious time throwing silly questions
around and take the opportunity to be a part of the solution. Your
boss wouldn’t have approached you if you weren’t capable of
handling it. So, buckle up and get it done.

5. “Just tell me
what to do and I’ll do it.”

Playing a damsel in distress will
gain you no sympathy from your boss. You have been selected for your position
for a reason, you know. If the boss has to instruct and direct every assignment
then the boss may as well do the job. Based on intensive third-party research
and in-house surveys (which we also like to call ‘common sense’) — being
proactive and far-sighted hasn’t killed anyone yet.

6. “That’s the
best I can do!”

If everyone is just to keep
repeatedly mouthing these words, why don’t we all throw our hands up in the
air, buy tickets to Tahiti and forget about even tryingto do great work? Instead of taking
the defeatist way, how about you look at your work and see how you can improve
it — make it better in whichever way you can? Adopt the problem-solver
approach, become a valuable asset to your company and maybe you’ll actually
start enjoying the challenges that you’re currently bogged down by.

7. “Why can’t
you have XYZ get this done instead?”

And while they are at it, can they
can start on my other unfinished assignments too please? Well, go ahead and
take the week off, or maybe a month, why even better, just stop showing up for
work altogether! XYZ can take care of everything, thank you. Nobody likes
themselves a lazy employee who can’t even run to the cafeteria to get their own
chocolate donut. If your current work doesn’t motivate you, do
everyone a big favor — find out what you enjoy doing, drop what you’re doing,
and get started with the former instead. Not too hard now, is that?

8. “It’s 6 PM
and I am leaving.”

Only sitting ducks count hours.
Unless you’re Paris Hilton’s third cousin’s cocktail friend — the social life
can wait. The idiot box and your fluffy couch won’t be going anywhere anytime
soon either. Every organization faces a crunch situation from time to time, the
leadership expects all hands on deck during such times. If you’re going to be a
little, riddled-with-homework-kid about it — well, buy a cotton candy and go
home really. Nothing much to be done here.

9. “That’s what
she said!”

Innuendos are a strict no-no at work.
Just because it sent you running on a laughathon when Steve Carell and team
said it in The Office doesn’t mean it’s okay to replicate it at your
workplace. You may not only get a cold stare from your boss, but you will also
be at risk of being sent to a ‘well wisher’. Nobody fancies themselves a
branded ‘office perv’ (at least most normal people certainly don’t). So hold
your tongue in front of your boss (not literally though — that would be just
weird as hell) and leave the off-color jokes for your obnoxious drink buddies.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Asking people for what we want can sometimes be a difficult process
involving awkward discussions and potential conflict. However, it
doesn’t have to be that way.

The secret to getting what you want from other people
is to develop a genuine sense of reciprocity by giving before you
receive.

The term ‘reciprocity’ describes the expectation that
people will respond to you in the same way that you respond to them. So
if you give another person something of value, they will be much more
inclined to give you something in return.

Next time you want something from someone, instead of
simply asking or demanding what you want, try using the following
Reciprocity Formula.

The Reciprocity Formula

Step 1: Analyse the situation from the
other person’s point of view and try to identify what they currently
want. If you can’t figure out what they want, the best thing to do is to
ask them.

Step 2: When you have identified the
main thing they want, present your case by saying something like, "If I
help you achieve… [what they want], could we discuss… [what you want].
Most reasonable people will be open to this approach because they are
receiving before they have to give.

Step 3: Follow through and help the
other person achieve their objective. The more time and effort you put
in during this step, the more reciprocity you will develop.

Step 4: When you have achieved the objective you agreed upon, revisit your initial discussion and ask for what you originally wanted.

Here’s an example that shows how the Reciprocity Formula works in the real world:

Sherry worked as a Sales Rep in a software company and
wanted to ask her boss for a raise. From previous experience, she knew
that simply asking for a raise was rarely effective so she decided to
apply the Reciprocity Formula.

Step 1: Sherry had lunch with her boss
and asked him what his major goal was for the quarter. He informed her
that what he really wanted was to sell 1000 copies of the companies new
accounting software before the end of the financial year.

Step 2: Sherry then presented her case
by saying, "If I can sell 1000 copies of the new accounting software by
June 30th, would you be open to discussing a raise?" Her boss said he’d
be happy to.

Step 3: Sherry got down to work and
devised a viral marketing campaign on the Internet. She worked extremely
hard and her boss could see that she was serious about achieving her
goal.

Step 4: Sherry achieved her sales goal
and arranged to have lunch with her boss again. In a three month time
frame, she’d added a great deal of value to the company and in doing so,
she’d also built up a genuine sense of reciprocity with her boss. Over
lunch, Sherry’s boss confirmed that he would be happy to give her a
raise.

Giving before you receive and developing a genuine
sense of reciprocity is one of the most effective ways to get what you
want from other people. So today, I’d like to encourage you to use the
Reciprocity Formula to develop true WIN-WIN agreements that will help
you achieve your most important life goals.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

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Friday, August 5, 2011

Macho, insensitive bosses share certain characteristics. Their behavior is arrogant, quick-tempered and controlling. Their motives are typically selfish and manipulative. They show little concern for others and few signs of understanding why others don’t trust them. Most of all, they are quite unaware of their failings and the impact they have on their subordinates. No only do they see no need to change, they often make their high-handed behavior a source of pride.

That’s why you can trust them to be some of your best teachers about productivity and success.

Before you decide that I’ve lost my mind, I’ll explain.

Most human beings are amazingly consistent in the way they behave. That’s why we can say of some action, “That isn’t like you,” or “It’s so out of character.” Without that consistency, such a remark would be pointless. And amongst the most consistent groups of all are those who spend least time in any kind of introspection: the extreme extroverts, the loud, slap-you-on-the-back hearty types, the arrogant, the pompous, the selfish and the self-centered — the people who, if they become bosses, are most likely to prove to be bad ones.
Powerful lessons from powerful (and hopelessly unaware) people

Bad bosses can become useful teachers precisely because their behavior tends to be so consistently bad. You can be fairly sure of their motives and intentions, which allows you to compare cause (what they did and probably why they did it) with effect (how it turned out).

The pompous boss, convinced of her superiority and the rightness of whatever she does; the lazy boss, sure that status confers the right to live off other people’s efforts; the rigid, controlling boss, firm in his belief that all subordinates are incompetent without his oversight; all of these (and many more) hold to their actions so tenaciously — and are so blind to what they are doing — that they will provide some of the best lessons in what not to do that you will ever be offered.

Here are seven of the lessons you might come across, beginning with productivity:

* See how much effort bad bosses have to use to make things happen their way; effort that would be unnecessary if they behaved better — all that time spent micro-managing and checking; all the ranting and raving to reduce others to obedience; all the lies and stratagems needed to manipulate others instead of asking them openly.
* See how others react to them; how people become adept at sabotaging their efforts and undermining their success. Even when they dare not oppose the boss openly, subordinates will show great ingenuity in finding other ways to frustrate them.
* Look at the effect bad bosses have on trust — how this type of behavior ruins relationships with customers as well as employees. Once discovered, as it always is in the end, cynical manipulation renders future trust impossible too.
* What about the impact on motivation? Consider how you feel if you find yourself going along with the boss’s bad behavior. Do you feel motivated or depressed? Does it make you want to exert yourself or limit your output to no more than is needed to preserve your safety and career prospects?
* Rigidity next. Most macho bosses see changing a poor decision as an unacceptable sign of weakness. How many times have you seen a bad leader produce disaster from what could have been a triumph, simply because he or she refused to admit to — and change — a bad decision?
* Take some time to consider what survival in the lifestyle of a bad boss demands. Is that how you would be willing to live? Are the rewards they get worth what they have to do to get them?
* Most important, observe the way bad bosses are regarded by those above them. Are they genuinely fooling the top dogs about their weaknesses? Or are those executives simply playing the same game — but far better — manipulating middle and junior managers to enhance their own positions, then throwing them to the wolves when they become too much of an embarrassment?

I’m sure you can think of many more situations where a bad boss has taught you a valuable lesson. Observing and learning from others’ mistakes is as important as learning from your own — and a good deal less painful.

Besides, the macho tough guys can never admit to being wrong. They can’t learn from their own mistakes. Since you can, it’s an advantage you can use for all it’s worth.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

What do i actually want has become the biggest question of my life which
I am facing these days.

"samajh samajh kai jo naa samjhe meri samajh mai wo nasamajh hai"

I am proving the phrase by doing the same mistake again & again & again.

People come & go after leaving their strong impression in life.
Attachment happens easily but detachment.. uff! It is the real scary thing
i always fear of.

Missing some one & holding onto the memories for so long is quite obvious.
You get habitual of talking to some1, seeing them, meeting them or going out
with them and one day you make an decision to separate..

But its not as simple as that.

But as they say time heals everything and everything happens for the reason.
I am hoping to get out of my old memories (all bad ones) and focus on myself now.

But hey wait.. this is what i am not clear about in this present state of mind.

I am having so much of expectations from myself only and I am the only one who
is not able to fulfill any.

I guess i need to understand myself by trying different things.
God knows where i will stick now and get addicted again..

Monday, September 8, 2008

I know a couple people like this (and if you are reading this,it's not you). It is my hot button. When someone behaves like this,I just want to choke the life out of them. Instead of going to jail, I choose not to be around people like this. :-)

Passive Aggressive (adj.) Of, relating to, or having a personality disordercharacterized by habitual passive resistance to demands for adequateperformance in occupational or social situations,as by procrastination, stubbornness, sullenness, and inefficiency.

Passive Aggressive behavior is a form of covert abuse1.When someone hits you or yells at you, you know that you've been abused.It is obvious and easily identified. Covert abuse is subtle andveiled or disguised by actions that appear to be normal,at times loving and caring.The passive aggressive person is a master at covert abuse.

Passive aggressive behavior stems from an inability to express angerin a healthy way. A person's feelings may be so repressed that theydon't even realize they are angry or feeling resentment.A passive aggressive can drive people around him/her crazyand seem sincerely dismayed when confronted with their behavior.Due to their own lack of insight into their feelings thepassive aggressive often feels that others misunderstand them or,are holding them to unreasonable standards if they are confrontedabout their behavior.

Common Passive Aggressive Behaviors:

* Ambiguity: I think of the proverb, "Actions speak louder than words"when it comes to the passive aggressive and how ambiguous they can be.They rarely mean what they say or say what they mean.The best judge of how a passive aggressive feels about an issue is how they act.Normally they don't act until after they've caused some kind of stress bytheir ambiguous way of communicating.

* Forgetfulness: The passive aggressive avoids responsibility by "forgetting."How convenient is that? There is no easier way to punish someone than forgettingthat lunch date or your birthday or, better yet, an anniversary.

* Blaming: They are never responsible for their actions.If you aren't to blame then it is something that happened at work,the traffic on the way home or the slow clerk at the convenience store.The passive aggressive has no faults, it is everyone around him/her who hasfaults and they must be punished for those faults.

* Lack of Anger: He/she may never express anger. There are some who arehappy with whatever you want. On the outside anyway! The passive aggressivemay have been taught, as a child, that anger is unacceptable.Hence they go through life stuffing their anger, being accommodating andthen sticking it to you in an under-handed way.

* Fear of Dependency: From Scott Wetlzer, author of Living With ThePassive Aggressive Man. "Unsure of his autonomy and afraid of being alone,he fights his dependency needs, usually by trying to control you.He wants you to think he doesn't depend on you,but he binds himself closer than he cares to admit.Relationships can become battle grounds, where he can only claim victoryif he denies his need for your support."

* Fear of Intimacy: The passive aggressive often can't trust.Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attachedto someone. A passive aggressive will have sex with you but they rarely makelove to you. If they feel themselves becoming attached, they may punish youby withholding sex.

* Obstructionism: Do you want something from your passive aggressive spouse?If so, get ready to wait for it or maybe even never get it.It is important to him/her that you don,t get your way.He/she will act as if giving you what you want is important to them but,rarely will he/she follow through with giving it.It is very confusing to have someone appear to want to give to you butnever follow through. You can begin to feel as if you are asking too muchwhich is exactly what he/she wants to you to feel.

* Victimization: The passive aggressive feels they are treated unfairly.If you get upset because he or she is constantly late, they take offense because;in their mind, it was someone else's fault that they were late.He/she is always the innocent victim of your unreasonable expectations,an over-bearing boss or that slow clerk at the convenience store.

* Procrastination: The passive aggressive person believes that deadlines arefor everyone but them. They do things on their own time schedule and be damnedanyone who expects differently from them.

The Passive Aggressive and You:

The passive aggressive needs to have a relationship with someone who can bethe object of his or her hostility. They need someone whose expectations anddemands he/she can resist. A passive aggressive is usually attracted toco-dependents, people with low self-esteem and those who find it easy to makeexcuses for other's bad behaviors.

The biggest frustration in being with a passive aggressive is that theynever follow through on agreements and promises. He/she will dodge responsibilityfor anything in the relationship while at the same time making it look asif he/she is pulling his/her own weight and is a very loving partner.The sad thing is, you can be made to believe that you are loved and adored bya person who is completely unable to form an emotional connection with anyone.

The passive aggressive ignores problems in the relationship, sees thingsthrough their own skewed sense of reality and if forced to deal with theproblems will completely withdraw from the relationship and you.They will deny evidence of wrong doing, distort what you know to be real tofit their own agenda, minimize or lie so that their version of what is realseems more logical.

The passive aggressive will say one thing, do another, and then deny ever saying the first thing. They don't communicate their needs and wishes in a clear manner, expecting their spouse to read their mind and meet their needs. After all, if their spouse truly loved them he/she would just naturally know what they needed or wanted. The passive aggressive withholds information about how he/she feels, their ego is fragile and can't take the slightest criticism so why let you know what they are thinking or feeling? God forbid they disclose that information and you criticize them.

Confronting the Passive Aggressive:

Beware, if you confront the passive aggressive he/she will most likely sulk, give you the silent treatment or completely walk away leaving you standing there to deal with the problem alone. There are two reasons for confronting the passive aggressive. One, if done correctly you may be able to help him/her gain insight into the negative consequences of their behaviors. Two, even if that doesn't happen, it will at least give you the opportunity to talk to him/her in a frank way about how his/her behavior affects you. If nothing else you can get a few things "off your chest." Below are some ways you might approach your passive aggressive:

* Make your feelings the subject of the conversation and not his/herbad behaviors.

* Don't attack his/her character.

* Make sure you have privacy.

* Confront him/her about one behavior at a time,don't bring up everything at once.

* If he/she needs to retreat from the conversation allow them to doit with dignity.

* Have a time limit, confrontation should not stretch on indefinitely.

* If he/she tries to turn the table on you, do not defend your needto have an adult conversation about your feelings.

* Be sure he/she understands that you care about what happens to them,that you love them and that you are not trying to control them.You are only trying to get to the bottom of your disagreementsand make the relationship better.

Inside the Passive Aggressive:

The passive aggressive has a real desire to connect with you emotionallybut their fear of such a connection causes them to be obstructive andengage in self-destructive habits.He/she will be covert in their actions and it will only move him/her furtherfrom his/her desired relationship with you.

The passive aggressive never looks internally and examines their role in arelationship problem. They have to externalize it and blame others forhaving shortcomings. To accept that he/she has flaws would be tantamount toemotional self-destruction. They live in denial of their self-destructivebehaviors, the consequences of those behaviors and the choices they makethat cause others so much pain.

The passive aggressive objectifies the object of their desire. You are to beused as a means to an end. Your only value is to feed his/her own emotional needs.

You are not seen as a person with feelings and needs but as an extension ofhim/her. They care for you the way they care for a favorite chair.You are there for their comfort and pleasure and are of use as long as youfill their needs.

The passive aggressive wants the attention and attachment that comeswith loving someone but fears losing his/her independence and sense of selfto his/her spouse. They want love and attention but avoid it out of fearof it destroying them. You have to be kept at arms length and if there isan emotional attachment it is tenuous at best.

The only hope for change in the way they deal with relationship issuesis if they are able to acknowledge their shortcomings and contributionsto the marital problems. Facing childhood wounds, looking internallyinstead of externally to find the cause of problems in their life willhelp them form deeper emotional attachments with a higher sense of emotionalsafety.

Friday, January 4, 2008

Now, I m more active in this new "facebook" thing then "orkut".Actually in this new year so many new thgs will be going to happen wid me as u all must b aware that "8" is the only number which ends up when we write.

So Headds up ! but slowly not in hurry coz so many people are in so much hurry !

I remember that guy in a silver Swift behind my cab who is honking is in a hurry to get to his office( Yaar overtake karte hue gaali kyun deta hai ? Accha hindi ki gaali to mat de ) .

Students are in a hurry to read their chapters before they face the exams .My boss is in a hurry to get that report .That waiter at McDonalds is in a hurry to serve table number 4.People sitting at table number 4 are in a hurry to eat what comes to the table.People at the boarding gate are in a hurry to get onto the plane .When it lands , they are in a hurry to get out of it. Everybody is in a hurry to get somewhere .Very Few people want to stay in the moment they are in.Now I don't know . Maybe these guys know where they want to get to.They see where they need to get to and they want to get there fast .You see , driven , focussed people. Achievers .Desh ko aage badane wale log. (People you see shaking hands with white people on NDTV Profit .)Maybe I am just a slow guy who likes to listen to music and type down words which interest nobody while the world around me reaches for the stars .You see , I don't have a problem with the 'wanting to achieve things' thing .Even I want to achieve things , even if they are a vegetable burger with cheese , and a TV remote , and someone who shares all that with me .But what I don't understand is that why hurry ? Jaldi kya hai . Kidhar jaana hai ?I mean , life is not in the future . Life is now . This moment .I mean , it's like..When I was in school , people told me happiness is after clearing board exams. We know that , kid .When I cleared , they told me happiness was getting into a engineering college. ( Note kiya , kitni intelligent hoon main ?)When I got that , they told me that happiness is definitely getting into MBA. Pakka . Sachi . Muchi. Confirmed. ( Note kiya , kitni intelligent hoon main ?)When I did that , happiness was defined completing it and earning a handsome salary. Arre 100% happiness yehi hai .USA mein researchers bhee yehi kehte hai.... lolz!Now When I have done that , happiness is ? Hello ! What is it nowwww ? Bol do kaka . Kidhar jaana hai ab ?So ladiesh and gentlemans ,now that the world has been telling me what to do , this is what I have learnt - all the above stuff is important ,but happiness is something they dont need to tell you about . It is something you feel . And only you decide what makes you happy .When others don't know where you want to be , how can they tell you how to get there ?Like , for me , happiness is..On a lazy Sunday , I watch a Shahrukh flick on TV , eat a full lunch , and watch another Shahrukh movie.When ma asks me to take a bath and I put my arm around her shoulders and say "Chill , ma.Do dinn hee to hue hai."When I say stupid things to someone who would not think "Huh? Isko problem kya hai?."Sitting in my balcony on a December morning and eat an orange and squeeze the orange peel in the left eye of my brother. Right eye mein bhee .Talking to someone who understands me , and accepts me even when I am all boring .Playing cards with Dada , and beating him at it too . ( We dont do that anymore , he is tired oflosing)Caring for someone I want to care for.Meeting a bunch of friends over a couple of huge pizzas and crack pathetic jokes about our college professors and why worst girls get the best guys.Happiness is just , being me .So you see , what makes me happy is stuff I have not achieved , but stuff , which , I already have , had all the way along .

So I know I need to achieve things , but hey , there is no hurry .Because I need to achieve things to survive , but to be happy , not much is needed .Some music and a vegetable burger , with cheese , will do just fine for now.