FWB told me I don’t taste good

A couple of weeks ago I was giving my fwb a blowjob and he suggested we 69 which I had never done before. A couple of seconds after we started he pushed me away from him and told me I didn’t taste good. My self-esteem was honestly crushed because that has always been my biggest fear. I’ve had multiple partners in the past and it has never been an issue. I get tested frequently so I know I’m clean. I also try to eat pretty healthy. I don’t understand what the problem was but I have not been able to stop thinking about it. My sex drive has plummeted and I don’t know if I’ll ever be open to receiving oral sex again. After he said that I got extremely upset and stormed out. He followed me and wouldn’t let me leave until we talked. He said that he believes “honesty is the best policy and that no one can handle real honesty these days.” Part of me thinks he has a point. I do want someone to be honest with me but should there be a limit?? It’s humiliating to even post this but it has been eating at me and I want others’ opinions on it.

You should be able to just rinse your labia & outer genital area thoroughly with water; soap from washing your body will travel to your nether regions, which is more than enough. Soap down there is not really good. (All info consulted to me by my gynecologist)

Change your washing practice, and let FWB know that you think it was your soap. But also tell your FWB that while honesty is good, delivering potentially sensitive information to someone with tact is also a skill that people really lack (including FWB). Pushing you away and informing you DURING SEX was not considerate.

He could have transitioned you to another position or act if he didn't want to continue going down. And then afterward state that he wanted to talk about somethings, your taste was a little _____ (acrid, bitter, etc.), and maybe you should see a doc just to be sure? Or something similar. Even a confident person isn't going to react well to being pushed away and told that in that way during sex, when naked, vulnerable, and in a sexy mood.

Yeah. Honesty is useless if it's not paired with sensitive delivery. He was very insensitive. He should have realized that the honesty he was delivering would be hard to hear and offered a lot of support and reassurance.

Try not to sweat it too much. Realize that he acted like a dick. Sometimes we stink, man. It's normal and human. He was being very insensitive.

But, please realize this could be a one-time thing. I’ve never had any complaints from my FWB and a few weeks ago he told me that I just didn’t taste/smell like I normally do. It was the first time I heard it and we’ve been having sex for like 2.5 years. I had walked a lot that day and didn’t have the oppurtunity to take a shower first. It doesn’t make you a dirty person, vagina’s are just able to smell or not be perfectly clean like a flower all the time and that’s okay. Next time, for your self esteem (cause I’d understand if you’d be insecure about your vag now) take a shower together and have sex afterwards.

Don’t be ashamed! It can happen, as long as it’s not your all time natural smell/taste nothing’s wrong!

I find it definitely depends on the partner. Some partners the arguably ‘bad’ smells would actually be a turn on; with others oral would need to be right after a shower. I think a lot of it is bio-chemical compatibility with the person.

I'm all about it. The scent and taste of my girlfriend's vagina is a HUGE aphrodisiac for me, especially if we've been going at it and she's all sweaty.

I'm pretty talented at eating a woman out, large in part because it's my absolute favorite thing to do in bed, and large in part because it's important to me that I can make her toes curl. I love teasing her by kissing down her belly then all up and down her legs, biting her thighs, etc, because as I'm teasing her she's getting wet and the scent is unbelievably attractive. There's nothing hotter to me than when I tease her and I can just smell the scent of her vagina getting increasingly stronger, then finally sliding my tongue inside her and tasting how profound it is as I tongue fuck her. Usually by the time I take her clit between my lips and start stimulating her g spot with my fingers all my senses are her taste and scent, which I positively love. We usually have me perform oral on her before p in v and I'm always dripping precum by the time she comes and stops me to penetrate her.

All the scents and tastes in sex are of the best parts of it for me. I love her dearly and I love every inch of her. Nothing about it grosses me out, it just makes it hotter. I came in her the other night and after some cuddling and me combing my fingers through her hair and telling her how much I loved her she started getting turned on again and asked me if she could grab the headboard and climb on top of me and ride my mouth while my cum was dripping out of her. I was all for it. She's the most beautiful girl in the world, she makes me feel super loved and handsome, so I had her grinding herself into my tongue while she was dripping cum all over my face. And you know what? It was super intimate and romantic knowing we were both so turned on by one another's bodies. Nothing about her or her body is even remotely gross to me.

Hey dude, I (and others) would appreciate not having the full damn rundown of what you like to do. It is possible to talk about it without getting completely in depth like you did and risking making people extremely uncomfortable. Which I am. If you are looking for some kind of validation, take that stuff somewhere else. This was gross.

Yes, women tend to get a stronger odor the longer they go without a shower. If I hadn't showered recently, I would scoot off to the bathroom and wash up with some tissues and a dot of soap, then rinse. I think of that part of my body as I would my mouth, in a way. I would not kiss someone deeply after a long day of food and drink with no brushing. I would brush first. Same for down there. But the chemistry can change regardless of when you showered. Sometimes the time of month or diet can change things.

True! I always made sure I was clean but sometimes sex was just really spontaneous or on a weird place so that I couldn’t wipe/shower beforehand. But we just accepted that shit from each other because oh well smells happen.

Yes, true, and if you choose to be down there you have expect a little funkiness at times. Most men realize this. For myself, I don't care if my husband is sweaty or whatever, I'm just glad to be there.

Talking from my own experience, personal hygiene is not a granted way to not smell. I personally only rinse with water and give it a good scrub under the shower as soap is lowering the acid level and thats bad for the immune system the vulva has. It is very efficient at self cleaning and sustaining, more than society believes. Cleaning too much can enhance the growth of bad bacteria and even fungi or make yourself vulnerable to urinary tract infections, creating a bad smell. My husband and prior partners never ever complained and even said they like the taste/smell after i stopped using soap for health reasons.
(I also think that men smell way more, especially when they have ejaculated before and haven't showered yet...)

I always have wipes on me too in case I don’t have time/a place to shower. I use the unscented ones from CVS, it’s a white and green package and says ‘gynecologist approved.’ I love it, especially in the hotter months.

Guys balls vary in smell at different times and depending on what they've been doing too. I hope with his 'honesty policy' that he is keeping in the forefront of his mind that he is not perfect and that you are making allowances for some of his less than perfect physical features right now, which you chose not to mention.

This! Both men and women can taste differently depending on what they’ve eaten that day, how much sugar consumed, if they’ve been drinking or hungover. I’ve given a bj to my boyfriend who was hungover and he tasted horrible, purely because what he had the night before.

I wouldn’t take this negatively as if you’ve never had an issue before then there’s probably nothing to worry about!

Also some people have mentioned trying different soaps; vaginas are very sensitive to ph levels so using regular soap may harm the ph balance and cause an off taste or yeast infections. Try buying soap that is specifically designed for the ph of your vagina, such as fem fresh.

Yeah I don’t recommend it, but we had a strong connection and we weren’t looking for a relationship with anyone anyway. And I’m not someone keen on one night stands. We had a great time but it ruined our friendship eventually.

Yeah, not really the same thing. Perhaps instead of being entirely tactless (and running the risk of destroying the confidence of someone you purportedly care about) the thing to do would be to move things along and discuss it later?!? At least then you’ll get the opportunity to eat at said ‘restaurant’ again, so to speak.

while honesty is good, delivering potentially sensitive information to someone with tact is also a skill that people really lack (including FWB). Pushing you away and informing you DURING SEX was not considerate.

This.

u/throwaway2372841823, your FWB wasn't "just being honest," he was being tactless and insensitive. And then he made you feel that if you couldn't accept the rude way he just spoke to you, that was some sort of shortcoming on your part. (Spoiler: It's not.)

His shitty communication skills aside, please don't let this one experience turn you off to receiving oral, if it's something you enjoy. You've had multiple partners in the past and it's never been an issue. You know you're clean and eat healthy. Based on everything you know, the issue is isolated to him, on that day, for that particular session. Period. I hope you'll give yourself time to bounce back from his callous and thoughtless approach, and when you're ready, I hope you keep yourself open to oral again, with partners you feel comfortable with who aren't assholes.

You should be able to just rinse your labia & outer genital area thoroughly with water; soap from washing your body will travel to your nether regions, which is more than enough. Soap down there is not really good. (All info consulted to me by my gynecologist)

Applying soap directly to the vagina is not recommended

BUT you should definitely 100% wash the area where your thighs connect with your genitals. Especially if you are heavier. Sweat and debris and build up there, giving you painful acne.

Yea IMO he could have given some context. Just “not good” is a pretty arrogant and counter productive choice of words. My gf would kill me if I said that. If I would say “something is different. It tastes soapy / sweaty / not as usual and she could work with that. Same as when she gives me a BJ and tells me something is off. Your FWB really fucked up.

Just wanted to add that gentle cleansers like Cetaphil are also considered ok for your outer genitals according to my gyno. Water is fine for most people, but if you have sensitive skin like mine using a gentle cleansers down there helps.

I think the trick is that harsh surfacants and foaming agents like sodium lauryl sulphate are too rough and drying for the pink fleshy tissue on both male and female genitals. Scrubbing too hard just makes the tissue behave like it's been dried out or damaged and produce more secretion that is prone to odor. The surrounding skin is just regular skin though. The trick is to keep everything hydrated and healthy. So gentle cleansers like cetaphil or cerave are probably best because they are specifically designed to be gentle and hydrating.

Yeah he could’ve just been like “oh I wanna fuck you too bad now” and then MAYBE bring it up later
He just sounds like an asshole. Don’t let ANYONE make you feel inferior. Life’s too short to deal with fuckboys.

Nah she should also stop being FWB with the dude, sounds like a real asshole. It's not that hard to know what to do and what not to do in this situation. He was acting like a toddler that didn't like his food.

I agree he sounded insensitive, but it's not fair to expect someone to keep having sex if something turns them off. Nothing against OP- But I can say from first AND second hand experience, that if someone gets turned off and wants to stop, you let it go. There's always another sexy time around the corner!

(Also more in FWBs defence, he did chase her down and try to talk about it after. Not like he threw her out or anything)

That's what I was thinking. I'm an honest policy guy to the point that my girlfriend calls me a dick like 10 times a day, but even I would never tell someone some shit like that mid-performance. Guaranteed mood killer. OP you should let him know that while you appreciate his honesty, he should work on his timing and refrain from pretending that it's your fault that you became insecure from a blatantly distasteful (sorry about the pun) comment.

Thank you for addressing the fact that the FWB handled that in an incredibly insensitive manner and the whole "some people can't take honesty" really is just a way to try blame others for the fact the "honest" usually lacks tact and is just a dick.

Tbh OP the guy seems like a self centered ass in the way he handled that, and no one deserves that.

This My ex-wife was the only woman I've been with that had no smell and no taste. She only had 1 yeast infection in 13 years, and that was when she was pregnant. She would shower with a mild soap (often baby shampoo), but only rinse her vag with water and use her hand on the outside (similar to washing your face). She never used soap in that area, and never sprayed water inside. Her mom taught her that as a child, and said a womans body is equiped to clean itself. Using scented soaps, and especially antibacterial throws off your bodies natural skin flora and Ph level. Also, she only showered every other day. What she ate had zero impact from what I could tell. But she said my semen's taste did change with diet. Drastically, if I had a beer, orange juice, or ate something with vinegar.

From my experience, the more a woman is into bath and skin products, the more trouble and inconsistentancy they seem to have with smell and taste. If you haven't had a complaint before, maybe it was just an off day. I wouldn't worry that much about it, but you can check it yourself and try eliminating products you use and see if that has any impact.

I sometimes use mild glycerin soap on my external bits. Rinse thoroughly. A lot of people get a bit of sebum buildup around their clit: gently pull your labia back and gently “scrub” your clit with your finger while in the shower.

Also avoid bubble baths and those scented bath bombs as the fragrance can cause irritation and yeast infections.

So you expect him to continue the act, even though it made him uncomfortable. You realise what consent is, right? What you just said has nothing to do with tact.

Edit: dear lord, people. The act of SEX. It's stated above that it's inconsiderate to push her away when he felt uncomfortable, which is bullshit. If he didn't feel comfortable, he should be allowed to stop, and not told/suggested that he "could've changed positions".

The OP states that they decided in that moment to perform a 69, so if he suddenly changed positions, she would instantly know something was up, anyway.

You make a good point but it’s also not what you want to hear during sex. Yeah, “honesty is the best policy” but he wasn’t uncomfortable with it. He straight said “you don’t taste good”. He could have very easily just said, “Y’know, let’s switch positions again, I’m not feeling this one.” Or something else and then discussed why later. He wasn’t revoking consent, he was commenting on her body. There’s a difference.

Start 69ing. He could actually stop going down and kiss/lick her thighs and use his hands on her for stimulation. And/or say, "Actually, I really want to (blank)," or "Actually, I really want you to (blank), it's so hot when you do that."

I've had lots of sex where we try something new to the session and then immediately pivot because it's just not working, or as fun as what we were just doing, or just not feeling it. And when someone suggests another thing, there isn't usually a "no, tell me why" discussion. It's not like if you start one act you've committed to seeing it through to the end.

You shouldn't be using actual soap at all down there. When you need to clean down there, there are special feminine hygiene soaps - the stuff that comes in bottles, not bars - you can get specifically for that area (obviously still only on the outside).

It's called Dove white balance lol I'm not sure of there is a line. But I use the white balance bar soap. My ph is great, I hardly have any smell, my taste is fairly normal. I have zero problems with yeast infections. :) I had some cervical cancer issues so I am very thorough in the vag care department.

That being said all vagina's are special! And have different reactions to different things! So this is just my experience!

Products like summers eve, douches, etc. that are marketed as “pH balancing” are misleading and can actually throw off the acidity in that area leading to bacterial infection, yeast, or other problems. You shouldn’t wash anything in that area with more than warm water.

Honey, you taste fine. I like IPAs, some people like Guiness. You're not going to find vagina that tastes like honey-baked ham. You are capable though, of finding a more mature partner who has more refined tact or taste buds.

Never use soap on your nethers, sis. Seriously, it will fuck up your Ph quick! Rinse your labia and Vulva with plain water. I used to use soap and I was always having issues and the minute I quit my stuff went back to normal. Also, you could use mothers apple cider vinegar once in a while in a bath (don’t douche it).

What he did was NOT cool, but don’t let that ruin oral sex forever. He could have been much more gentle about it. I am sorry that happened to you. :(

Same here. Thank goodness I'm not the only one. I've never had a yeast infection, used to have periodic bacterial vaginosis until I stopped tub bathing, never since. I wash the outer genital area with soap and water and let the vagina proper deal with itself.

I'm 30 years younger than you, but it's the same for me. Just random body washes or soaps (or even shampoos every once in a while if I ran out of soap), and I've never had issues, as far as I know. I've always just washed the outer bits, though.

Maybe so. When I used to soap in the past I’d get UTI’s and this is probably tmi, but it legit makes me smell funky as hell. Idk why soap does that to me? I can only assume the fragrances the add just doesn’t work well my natural body scent idk. LOL.

My OBGYN said that dove is the best soap for your nether regions. Also sometimes your body is working out some bacteria, you might not notice it... maybe he did. I wouldn’t worry too much and that guy probably should have handled it nicer. He also could have waiting until it he tried it again to make sure it wasnt a one off. Too bad men dont know more about the vagina... its a crazy place 😂

I personally suggest not to use soap while cleaning your vajayjay. Though I understand that there will be times of the month where we need to wash our girl (period smell) but then I only use a very mild vaginal wash. Soap alters vaginal pH and natural microflora in our vagina :). And dump that asshole. Even if he didn’t liked your taste at least he could’ve approached you more nicely.

This. You’re not SUPPOSED to use soap on your vagina. I’m absolutely astounded that family traditions have carried that practice down against medical knowledge. Listen, I’m a very, very sexually active woman who receives oral sex from men and women regularly, and I’ve never once in my life had any type of infection, nor any smell. I’ve also never once in my life used any soap on my vagina, save for unscented, all-natural wash for my thighs and ass that may have migrated. You’re going to throw off your Ph balance and lead TO bad smells by not allowing your vagina to self-cleanse. Water and a rag are just fine.

Dove always made my ph go haywire, my mom had me using it as a kid and I never understood why it felt so uncomfortable!! I switched to Summers Eve and it feels so much better physically and I never have to worry about taste or not feeling fresh

When I got an infection a few years ago, the dr said to get some of the unscented dove soap because it tends to not mess up the pH and healthy (good/needed) bacteria down there.

Also, honesty is always best. That was still over the line. There’s a way to present the truth. The speaker needs to think about their intent. If he intended to just inform, then that should have been done when you had at least some clothes on. I’d be pissed. Maybe not enough to break off the FWB, but I’d be having a follow up convo about that.

One thing with kombucha is that it can also cause a yeast infection due to die off. It’s best to start out with a small amount every day. Especially if it’s a home brew. It would be good to read up on what the benefits are before drinking a lot of it.

Your scent also changes throughout the month due to your cycle. My ex used to always tell me this. Not that it was bad or gross, but that sometimes it was just different. And your diet also affects it, too.

And sex can affect it. Your ph level can be thrown off due to your partner. I dated this guy and every time I had sex with him, whether it was with or without a condom, I would smell HORRIBLE after. I could smell it every time I peed and it was disgusting. I told him and he got super offended at first and then I sent him a bunch of research online and he understood. We just didn’t mesh, physiologically. We still dated for a little bit, but damn if my vagina didn’t smell every freaking time I had sex with him.

Don’t beat yourself up because he was an asshole and was rude to you. I’m sure you don’t smell/taste bad at all.

For the love of Christ don't put any soap on your vag! Use it on your upper thighs and butt but you need the good bacteria to thrive in your vaginal area and soaps will fuck up your flora. Warm water is enough. You can use diluted apple cider vinegar too but soaps will make you taste gross for sure! Feminine cleaning products are a scam. Your vagina cleans itself. Also make sure you dry it properly after a shower.

I don’t know if this matters or helps, but Dove isn’t actually soap. There’s an internet famous, snarky blog post about it. That might be why?

But besides that, I have a few body piercings and I noticed that some soap gets “stuck” in the piercing hole (even though the piercings are in there) and ends up smelling bad, like moldy old soap, since that’s what actually was happening — soap getting stuck in there and getting old. I found that this doesn’t seem to happen with body washes. Not that a piercing hole is the same, but maybe it’s the same concept of soap getting “stuck” and then getting moldy.

I’m a man and probably know less than I think but dove is much gentler than normal soaps however still not a great choice for your genital area. Soaps designed for that area like Summers Eve are watery and very gentle. I would say use one of these products or use nothing and just let suds running off your body do the work.

Make sure your using a wash cloth to clean your vagina. There are lots of creases down there, so you need to get in them. Warm water is really all you need. Also, you can do a coconut oil douche. Learned this trick from porn stars. Make sure you're not allergic to coconut anything first!!!

DO NOT FOR THE LOVE OF THE GODS USE ANY SOAP BUT INTIMATE SOAP ON YOUR GENITALS BOYS AND GIRLS! It's seriously bad for you! You have to use a soap with the same pH balance as your genitals otherwise you risk serious rashes that hurt for DAYS. I did once see an elderly lady who'd washed with normal soap for her entire life and had got a yeast infection that they couldn't get rid off until they figured out she used normal soap. DO NOT! Not scented nor unscented.
- nurse student

Honestly, just warm water is more than enough, you shouldn't use any soap at all as it washes all the good bacteria that keep it clean naturally. It took me a few years to properly adjust and it was sooo strange at first but I've never had any problems at all since I switched

So his tact wasnt up to your standards? He was honest and upfront with OP...seriously how much more could he have done to not offend your delicate standards? You must have a really difficult time in life not being able to handle other people when they dont abide by your standards

His tact wasn't up to my standard, yes. Honest is great but what he did was insensitive. It wasn't insensitive in a subtle way. It was insensitive in a way that most every person would know. There was a very predictable outcome for his action. There were better ways to address said issue.

So NOT lying to her is being an ass. It'd be much better if she kept on being oblivious to it (perhaps her previous partners didn't want to tell her and they had a problem with it too), as opposed to now being able to find a solution. Gotcha.

No. His delivery makes him an ass. It's good to have open and respectful communication with your partner. His communication while, to him, was honest, was far from empathetic or kind. That's what made him an ass.

He's not an ass (I assume), he was being an ass. Big different. He was tactless. He doesn't need a hand written letter but there's a level of sensitivity which could be used to convey the identical information while preserving someone's dignity. Why is this hard to grasp?

No. You don't just come out an say "you taste bad" in the MIDDLE of oral. If your significant other asked you how their hair/makeup/outfit looked and you didn't like it, would you just say "you look ugly?" There are so many different ways to broach the subject and he chose the least tactical one possible.

Taste changes depending on diet, cleanliness (as in from 10 minutes after shower to 1 hour after), water intake, and probably a bunch of other stuff I haven't realized. As an avid cunnilinger, I would say just be shower fresh and drink a good amount of water before. Being an FWB, I don't think he has any obligation to power through for the sake of the relationship.

Yeah I’ve eaten pussy of varying tastes, but there’s got to be a more polite way to say it, most women are very sensitive about that. Being a FWB doesn’t mean you have a pass to be cruel. It’s as close to the female equivalent of “you have a small dick” as it gets for women. A lot of women have a hard time even letting a dude be down there

Also I would definitely power through it unless I legit thought it was a hygiene issue personally, because I enjoy getting off my partner more than my own personal taste(aka I don’t think it usually necessarily tastes “good”)

I also found that some people just don't taste good because of how you react to people's pheremones. You ever notice how some people smell irresistible and some smell repulsive to you? It's not really all too much about BO, rather it's about chemical compatibility.

This. Some people smell delicious to me even if they personally think it's time to bathe.....dunno what specific scent it is because I don't see consistency regarding a particular odor, but I know it when my animal instincts kick in; I want to atomize that person and increase my lung capacity so I can breathe all of them in at once.

To me my boyfriend always smells amazing, but the second he gets a hard on his entire smell changes. Like even his breath smells different. It's very strange, but he said when I'm in my period my smell changes too, not like period smell but natural scent changes.

But yes, if someone is attractive but smells bad to you, it could very well be your pheromones telling you they're not a suitable partner for ideal offspring. Evolution is weird.

This is very important. It took me several partners (being a man myself) to figured out that a woman's scent and taste changes all the time around not just the menstrual cycle, but diet, exercise, and of course cleanliness. I wish most societies didn't have this stupid vendetta against learning about the human body, maybe then most of us could know this kinda stuff.

People are just ignorant. Someone with experience can tell a lot of things by going down there... ovulating or not, coming up on secretory phase, been eating savory foods, been exercising that day, how long ago was last shower, having vaginal issues (possible yeast or bacteria), dehydrated, excited or not, the list goes on and on.

A woman can have excellent hygiene and taste different from day to day. One day can be sweet and mild and the next day metallic and slightly bitter.

Also people mentioning douching... come on guys. I don't think anyone healthy needs to be frequently douching.

OP's "FWB" needs to read up, practice and branch out in his culinary and cunnilinguary tastes. It's a delicacy to be enjoyed and appreciated. Unless OP actually has a vaginal issue, in which case go see the gyno for a checkup.

It's probably nothing I've gone down on my girlfriend after work or something, and she was sweating at some point in the day and it just tastes bad, if she takes a shower or something I can be down there all day.

also you think a woman would be LESS offended at you "just moving onto something else" in the middle of oral?

If I had stank dick, I'd rather my girlfriend tell me in plain honest terms, than just "move onto something else" in the middle of my blowjob.

(Which I've literally had a girlfriend say, "Ewww you're sweaty! go shower!" I didn't get mad, she was right. I showered, problem solved.)

Also, just "politely moving on to something else" isn't gonna address this problem for next time. The adult thing to do is be honest.

(Which I've literally had a girlfriend say, "Ewww you're sweaty! go shower!" I didn't get mad, she was right, I showered, problem solved.)

also you think a woman would be LESS offended at you "just moving onto something else" in the middle of oral? If I had stank dick, I'd rather my girlfriend tell me in plain honest terms, than just "move onto something else" in the middle of my blowjob. Also, just "politely moving on to something else" isn't gonna address this problem for next time. The adult thing to do is be honest.

I’ve had some nasty tasting girls but I knew they were clean so I just kept going, she enjoys and that’s more important to me than dealing with a bad taste for a little, now if it was to the point of gagging it would be a different story but I’d do what you said and move positions or something.

I hear what you're trying to say but I think it's important to note they were 69ing meaning she was likely sitting on his face and if that ends up being an unpleasant experience pushing her away may be the best move especially because she's going to be pretty occupied with a dick in her mouth and it's probably better than yelling "you taste bad get off me please"

I don't think it is unreasonable to change your mind for oral if your partner tastes bad. I've had my girlfriend say shower or we're done here when my shit has been marinating all day on a hot day.

Some people take sex far too seriously. As someone who can only really have anal i can’t tell you the amount of dudes who said they were grossed out and uncomfortable when air would get pushed out and it sounded like farts, it’s like wtf man you’re the one putting the air up there in the first place. Sex should be fun and your partner and you should be comfortable enough to laugh at things like that with each other.

I dunno man you get a mouth full of something foul and unexpected in anyone’s nether regions, male, female, trans, whatever.... there’s gonna be a bit of revolt I think no matter the case.... that’s your nerves’ reflex arc doing its thing.

Now the word choice is going to be really important following this event...

I get that it's a point if vulnerability for women but that isn't something that's advertised to men in most cases. It's not in the forefront of a guys mind that mentioning the taste could set someone off like this. This is a relationship lesson, not a 'wow you're an asshole' lesson.

Or she has a yeast infection. Or bacterial vaginosis. Or maybe she's showing symptoms of an STD she's contracted between her last test and making this post. Or...

Vagina's are tricky creatures and yeast or bacterial infections are very common and can be caused by something as simple as changing soaps, throwing off vaginal Ph balance with a douche, or where the woman is in her monthly cycle.

In other words, she may have been "ripe" or she may actually need medical attention.

Came here to see if someone had suggested bacterial vaginitis (BV) which can sometimes cause a slight fishy odour. To be properly diagnosed, a doctor will need to take a swab and order a lab test to check the balance of micro flora and the presence or over abundance of certain “bad” bacteria. A course of antibiotics will usually restore normal vaginal health but unfortunately the condition can be recurring. Vaginal acidifiers in the form of gels can help to maintain healthy vaginal microflora.

BV generally only causes a fishy odor in response to semen and ejaculate reacting with the bacteria, so if you're not fluid bonded (or you're not having sex with penises) it won't smell fishy but it will affect the overall smell and taste!

Did want to second BV as well. As someone else mentioned, the fishy smells is a reaction between the ejaculate, but even the consistency of discharge will be noticeable without that. I had issues with recurring BV due to my birth control, so I started taking a probiotic daily, and then as needed. Unfortunately I no longer have any distinct smell or taste, as opposed to the (I thought) good one before.

But anyway, due to the issues I had, i have a habit of sticking a finger in while I shower and doing a sniff test. I can tell right away if I need to start taking the probiotics again, before it culminates to a larger imbalance that can start to become noticeable.

she was sweating at some point in the day and it just tastes bad, if she takes a shower or something I can be down there all day

This is my experience 100%. If my wife hasn't recently showered when we start getting busy (eating pussy is part of our routine) I have to air that shit out before I can handle it. Spread and blow in there. She thinks I'm playing around, I'm really just ventilating.

I can take honesty but it doesn’t mean it wouldn’t hurt, what a douche he is and saying that after knowing she didn’t take it well.

So I know personally if I were to taste different or smell different than usual after maybe a second time my boyfriend would go down on me then I would like to know because it could be VB or a yeast infection. I wouldn’t want him to just deal with it, because it could be a problem for me. But yeah a guy doesn’t always smell good or taste good either. They want us to swallow their salty cum but can’t deal with a vagina odor like what.

Taking aside that he was the one who suggested it and that he stopped after a couple of seconds already, it would be somewhat counterintuitive and stupid to stop something because you don't want to do it, and then starting to lie by insulting the one you're going down at. The truth would have been better than that, and even the dude would have known that.

So I think she indeed was probably not tasting that good in that moment.

Taking aside that he was the one who suggested it and that he stopped after a couple of seconds already, it would be somewhat counterintuitive and stupid to stop something because you don't want to do it, and then starting to lie by insulting the one you're going down at

You have never suggested something, started, and then changed your mind?

He did do that. The question is why he changed his mind.
You said, that he just wasn't into it and that's the reason why he stopped (seconds after he started).
The guy said that he stopped because she tasted bad.

What do you think is the likelihood of you being right or he being honest taking the context (he stopped after seconds, and the content of what he said) into account?

If you think you're right, then that must mean he blurted out the most stupid lie, which doesn't seem very likely.

Came here to say this. He was using “honesty” to shift the focus from being a dick to you “overreacting”. Being honest is one thing, being an asshole with no tact is another. I don’t blame you for leaving and for feeling insecure now. Everyone else has offered you great suggestions about managing your taste but I wanted to reassure you that while honesty is important, so is the delivery. He can be honest and be kind.

I mean it still applies tho. Being a douchebag and being husband arent mutually exclusive as nice as it would be. It's problematic to perpetuate that only good men are real men or any sort of variation on that theme because then it absolves men who identify as "real men", a husband, a "good guy", etc. If they're one of those things, they can't be bad so why evaluate their actions or behaviors? It also introduces the opportunity to write off their misdeeds and allow them to shirk away from accountability because they're not "qualified" to be held responsible. (ie if you're not a real man, you're a boy, and boys will be boys, etc).

All I'm saying is "good guys" and husband's can be bad people too. Pretending like only the morally elite excel in life is delusional. Bad guys aren't monsters or immature children. They're men/husbands/etc all the same.

He still wanted to tap it and he realized really quickly that he fucked up. If she leaves as-is he's gotta put in real work to mend it so he's still got ass on tap. Pretty masterwork dick maneuvering there, too, hate to say. He not only stopped her from leaving but did the inversion with the whole pushing 'honesty' bit to throw it on her.

The guy is a dickhead but he knows that he's hitting the switches right.

That's it though. It's not that people "can't handle honesty these days", it's that nobody has ever liked it when people have been shitty in their delivery of uncomfortable things. There's a very fine line between using the truth to inform and using the truth to insult, and when you put no effort towards tact, it reads very insulting.

Delivery is key here. The first time I did this sort of thing with my now wife I wasnt really a fan of it, but I talked to her AFTER the fact and in a way that wasnt extremely abrasive. Now we use Dental Dams and all is well. The situation would have went 100% better if he just handled it like a logical human being lol

Deadset had a similar issue with a guy I just started dating. I'm sitting on his face, I hear him say 'Hmm,' and ask what's up. He tells me that I'm tasting a bit funky. I get embarrassed, he reassures me to not worry about it. I go and shower anyway. I assess the area and conclude that I have BV. I finish my shower, come back to his bedroom and despite him telling me it's okay, I'm still self-conscious. So we had anal.

Point is, there's no need to be a dick about it. My guy was a champion for not getting grossed out over it. So he was rewarded.

I've discovered through similar topics of conversation that there are two groups of people. Those who have licked multiple 9 volt batteries and those who never knew that was a thing. (Which spawns group 3 of people hearing about it for the first time)

It’s the fact that he went into straight defender mode after making that comment. It was insensitive and his first thought was “well you can’t handle the truth!” He didn’t think “hey she’s clearly very upset, I should try to explain this better,” it was “no your wrong still!”

Pretty sure she’s an adult and she can handle the truth. Why don’t you try being tactful instead of just blurting shit out? You learn as a kid there’s nice ways to say certain stuff. She’s right to be upset because while it was honest, it was also rude.

Now honesty can be construed as abuse? This is the kind of nonsense rationalization people use when they lie all the time by telling themselves they’re being “nice.” Your point of view encourages dishonesty, which is gross and amoral. Holy shit we’ve truly jumped the shark.

My abusive ex started his abuse with these types of comments... "truth bomb" is a triggering phrase now for me. So yeah, not indicative of abuse, but sure as hell raises red flags and alarm bells now when people use phrases like "truth bomb" or "you cant handle the truth" or basically what OP says her fwb did.

What is he supposed to do? Keep eating her out when it tastes bad? That’s horrible.

No need to put the responsibility of communication AND coddling her ego on him. That’s not fair, and doesn’t treat OP like an adult. It’s patronizing.

I’m wondering why OP is so fragile that she can’t take hearing that she tastes bad? People taste bad all the time. Maybe OP should learn how to hear that without making it about her and her insecurity, go wash up, and then get back at it when she doesn’t taste bad.

No need to demonize a dude when he did nothing wrong just because she got her ego bruised.

I don’t think it’s cruel at all.. at least she knows now so she can fix it. Would you rather be honest with someone and tell them their chatch doesn’t taste good so they can fix it or continue forcing yourself to lie and go down on them lol

Pushing her away and stopping it was cruel. There are plenty of other things he could have done down there in the moment, or he could have shifted positions and waited until after to tell her. Yes, he should tell her- that’s honesty. The way he handled it was not the best.

Lol I’m sorry but if someone’s dick doesn’t smell or taste good I wouldn’t force myself to do any of that.. I would probably push them away to. You have to think about it as if it was you in the situation... like I get how it may have hurt her feelings but it’s for the better.

A smelly nether region can be a sign of infection or STD ,I'd stop too and tell them I'm bothered. Now if it was my husband and I know its neither,I'd probably just do something different and assume it's a ph balance issue or he needs a shower but not someone I'm not married too or been dating a very long time.

He could have easily changed positions and done something else. He could have stopped 69 completely to do something else and that would have solved the problem. Stopping sex and addressing it in that moment in that way is a what an immature partner would do. That’s the cruel part. No one should tolerate being treated that way. He’s clearly not very experienced or he’s very selfish.

Edit: a good sign of an ass is someone who says things like “no one can handle honesty anymore” to mask their lack of compassion and excuse their behavior. OP don’t worry...eventually men grow up and this is not how they handle it!

Mature would have been finishing the sex some other way and bringing it up after, tactfully. A display of disgust during sex is going to shatter the other person's self esteem - if you cant find a nicer way to bring something like that up then I am sorry, you are an ass.

And the changing positions thing I don’t entirely agree with because if someone’s hygiene is poor there.. would you really want to risk that they don’t have an STI or infection and continue to mash your genitalia together or put your hands there? Yikes..

So switch positions and bring it up in a nice way later. There’s absolutely no reason to be a dick about it, and the way he told her was mean. You can be tactful about this stuff without forcing yourself to do something you don’t like. It would have been so easy to be like, “Oh baby I have to be inside you right now” and gently bring it up later.

As I just wrote to someone else.. do you really want to risk changing positions if someone’s hygiene isn’t up to par and risk that they don’t have an sti or infection and proceed to mash your genitalia together or put your hands there.. just for the sake of savings someone’s feelings.

Why would you need to push the person away?
Just stop doing oral and move on, there’s no need to be a dick about it (ha! Dick about it!)
It’s not for the better, she’s clearly feeling self conscious and insecure now, yes, honesty is important but there needs to be sympathy, now the poor girl is dealing with a traumatic experience where she doesn’t even want anyone else to go down there again.
That’s not cool. Be kind, specially to the people who allow you in their intimate space.

The cruel ness is not in telling her, at all. It’s telling her by physically pushing away her naked body and not even suggesting an alternative or anything positive. That’s gotta be such a negative and embarrassing situation! (And OP doesn’t seem to be at all gross or unhygienic - everyone has moments where their genetalia are less than fresh :p)

Wouldn’t the only reason to not go down on a girl is if it tasted or smelt bad? Unless it’s one of those things were you don’t do it unless you’ve been in a long term relationship. Besides that I don’t see how you can just not want to eat out some girls and not others

Well, I’m bisexual and have gone down on girls (and I’ve found the same thing to be true with guys/penises, FYI), sometimes I need to have more connection/attraction to the person as a whole, before I am interested in giving them oral.

As I’ve gotten older and more experienced, this isn’t as much the case. But I still sometimes don’t want to give someone oral, even if the smell and taste are fine and we are having sex.

ETA, this also sometimes goes kind of the opposite. If I REALLY like someone, I may not mind going down on them, even if I otherwise would be bothered by the smell/taste/amount of pubes/etc. :p

I guess it’s pretty close to that, but I wouldn’t put it that way, because often it’s more about the individual themselves, rather than my relation/comfort around them or duration of knowing them.

I was kinda unclear in my previous comment, sorry about that! It’s like there are 3 categories (the first two are basically what you said, the third is where I’m likely an outlier):

I want to do oral the first time we hook up and basically any time.

I don’t want to do it because I don’t know the person well enough/like them enough.

Or I simply don’t want to give them oral, ever. We could know each other for years, and I could be very comfortable around them during sex, and still just not feel like putting my mouth/face on their genitalia.

Very unique perspective, which I see nothing wrong with. Personally I can see me not wanting to go down on someone at times but I don’t feel Id ever refuse. I mean I don’t like the taste of salty pennies but I gotta take one for the team sometime 😂

How would you go about expressing it, out of curiosity? I've struggled with how to phrase this to someone in the past, sometimes the taste/smell is too strong to just suck it up and do it anyway. There's only so many times you can lie to someone that you're not in the mood for head.

Oral sex, like a good beating, is something I much prefer to give than receive, and as such, I've had plenty of opportunities of sampling it (oral sex, that is) with the same partner. As someone else wrote, they "really enjoyed the act, but that doesn't mean he'd bottle the flavor."

That said, there have been times I would have considered it, and conversely, a fair number of time when I most certainly would not. What I'm saying is that the flavor changes, and although hygiene is most certainly a factor, it is only one of many.

Diet can have a huge impact, and it is not so much healthy vs unhealthy, it is just that some foods, some of the best known are asparagus and pineapple, can have a profound impact on taste and smell. I think we can agree there is nothing especially unhealthy about asparagus, nor especially healthy about pineapple, but the former can make oral pretty unpleasant, while the latter seem to quite improve the taste.

Then there is the effects of various bacteria, fungi etc that can point to health problems, but often are just a matter of shifting balances in pH etc. Where the woman is in her menstrual cycle, or if she is on hormonal birth control, can also have a huge impact.

OP's FWB seems to have been at best an AWB (aquaintance with benefits), because although you can be sufficiently turned off by a bad flavor to not want to continue putting your tongue there, what he did was in pretty bad taste, as well as rude.

He could have switched to fingers, he could have transitioned into PiV. But oh no, he had to be "honest" and shove her away like she was last week's shrimp shells and then proceed to shame her for not being happy about his assholery.

If you have any respect or love for another person, you treat them with kindness and consider their feelings when you have things to bring up with them that can be sensitive, and anything related to sex and genitalia tend to qualify.

So my advice to OP would be to #1, ditch this rude loser. #2, don't let this worry you too much. #3, if you fail at #2, then yes, as suggested, maybe use a finger and take a sniff/taste yourself.

In fact, maybe do #3 semi-regularly, and see if you can find correlations between bad/good smells and what you ate or did previously.

If you do not think that it is possible to be honest and an asshole at the same time then someone failed in your upbringing. It may have been a parent or guardian, or perhaps the education system where you come from, but someone really fucked up. Not realizing that one can be honest to varying degrees of cruelness is profoundly ignorant.

Yes I certainly think that people feel differently after hearing information based on how that information is conveyed. If you don't then "someone failed in your upbringing. It may have been a parent or guardian, or perhaps the education system where you come from, but someone really fucked up. "

So you're mind-reading his intentions as cruelty? Now thanks to him she's aware there might be a problem and she can solve it. The short-term bad feeling from that realization far beats continuing on blindly.

Let me ask you something. Did he taste like strawberries? I’m gonna guess not. I’m gonna say he probably tasted like salty sweaty boy balls. Vaginas have odors. Our hormones change our odor sometimes. A great man doesn’t give a shit. A great man buries his face in your puss anyways because he wants to make you feel good and confident and get you off. Don’t let this dick make you shy away from oral forever. Do what you have to do to feel more confident down there. Do a quick cleanup in the bathroom before engaging in sex if it makes you feel better. Switch soaps. Shave your pubes into a cute triangle shape. But don’t let this dude between your legs or in your mouth again. He’s an immature little boy who doesn’t know what women taste like. I’m sure you taste and smell normal (unless you notice an odor yourself. Then I’d ask your doc). Own that shit. You are a strong beautiful woman with a womanly musk. Not a little girl. You will meet a dude who will beg to drink you up babe. Guaranteed.

This, yes! Someone describing a vagina's taste once told me he "really enjoyed the act, but that doesn't mean he'd bottle the flavor." Sex tastes like sex, and everything about it is gross if taken out of context.

He's a massive jerk for acting like that; and I somewhat resent the comments suggesting you change your diet, etc. for him. You can change things if they make you feel more confident, but your job is to take care of yourself, not to worry about some asshat who expects women to taste like sugar and insults you during sex. You're a human woman, not a dessert plate.

Let me ask you something. Did he taste like strawberries? I’m gonna guess not. I’m gonna say he probably tasted like salty sweaty boy balls. Vaginas have odors. Our hormones change our odor sometimes. A great man doesn’t give a shit. A great man buries his face in your puss anyways because he wants to make you feel good and confident and get you off. Don’t let this dick make you shy away from oral forever. Do what you have to do to feel more confident down there. Do a quick cleanup in the bathroom before engaging in sex if it makes you feel better. Switch soaps. Shave your pubes into a cute triangle shape. But don’t let this dude between your legs or in your mouth again. He’s an immature little boy who doesn’t know what women taste like. I’m sure you taste and smell normal (unless you notice an odor yourself. Then I’d ask your doc). Own that shit. You are a strong beautiful woman with a womanly musk. Not a little girl. You will meet a dude who will beg to drink you up babe. Guaranteed.

This is actually the only advice worth listening to on this whole fucking thread. Did 12 year old boys who have never seen a vagina just invade this thread? Wtf. Eat fruit. Seriously? Fucking pineapple for chrissake. That’s ridiculous.

Not to negate or not acknowledge people sounding like idiots on here but pineapple is really good for your stomach and digestion which is directly related to ph balance of your vagina. It wouldn't surprise me that eating acidic and sweet things might do something. But in all honesty that's pretty topical because what really affects ph balance is a good overall diet.

So he is obliged to lick her even if he doesn't like/want it because of the odor? What if it was the other way around?
I agree he should have approached her in a better way and "people don't handle sincerity well" is the douchebag's motto. But you can't say he's not a great man because he didn't stood there with a smelly vagina in his face, licking and sucking it. If it was the other way around you'll probably would say that she isn't obliged to anything and if the experience was not great for her she was right in not continuing it.

I dont know I encountered that problem before and it was always an yeast or bacterial infection or very close to the period. I would still consider myself a very passionate person when it comes to giving oral pleasure. He was very insensitive about it but the honesty itself is good.

I'm confused here, u/gurlpearl is doing exactly the same thing as OP's FWB by degrading someone by his sex odor and nobody bats an eye ? Who is in the wrong here ?

A great man doesn’t give a shit.

No, a great man gives a shit about you. I totally agree that he could have delivered in a more clever and nicer manner that OP's vagina smells bad... But I still think honesty is key. It's normal that you don't want to eat a pussy that smells bad just like you don't want to suck a dick that tastes horrible.

This man wishes he could hurt YOU

Well, if you're ready to buy a plane ticket to go to France you're more than welcome !

This is honestly a constant fear of mine. I’m clean, eat fairly well and drink plenty of water etc so there’s no reason for anything to taste/smell bad yet I’m still terrified someone will say something one day.
I mean, they’ve got their whole face in your junk, they’re not gonna miss a fuckin thing

Then I learned what vaginas taste/smell like (including my own) and I can definitely say that my ex was an inexperienced man-child.

I’m always surprised when I hear how many women aren’t familiar with their own smell(s). I don’t think it’s that difficult or strange to acquaint yourself with it. Scent can let you know if something’s off down there, and it’s a pretty good indicator of taste as well.

Not everyone might want to taste their own bodily fluids. For some, it might just happen sometime during sex. You might notice it and be like, “Oh, huh.” I do know several people — guys and girls — who tasted their (pre)cum/discharge because they were curious about what it’d be like for their partner. One person said to me, “If I wouldn’t give myself head, how could I expect anyone else to?”

This isn’t to say that everyone needs to adopt this mindset. However, getting acquainted with my own smell and flavor made me realize that they’re not “bad.” Vaginas (and penises, ballsacks, buttholes, etc.) all have different smells and tastes. “Normal” doesn’t taste like candy...but it’s alright. Genitals taste like genitals. If someone’s clean and healthy, their natural flavor can be really nice, or like...not a problem. Idk. Learn about your own body. You just might prove your ex wrong and get your self confidence back in the process.

You can tell someone they don't taste good without being a massive dick. Pushing you off of him and blurting out that you don't taste good is being a massive dick. And being a massive dick does not equal "people not being able to handle honesty anymore." I know he's just FWB, but nobody deserves to be spoken to like that and gaslit. Go find you a FWB who doesn't shatter your confidence and then talk down to you for it.

I swear Reddit is a legion of sociopaths. Every problem that involves even the most remote sign of human conflict results in a chorus of voices singing: "GTFO! Leave him/her! He/she is awful! Get out while you can!" Seriously, we need to learn some coping and conflict resolution skills and work through our shit. Actual abuse is another story, but some fruity tasting vagina? Jesus, get a mild, non-scented soap and get a grip. Life is too short and friends too precious to throw everyone away for the smallest slight.

This person didn't say to OP not be his friend anymore, just to not hook up with him anymore with doesn't sound likr bad advuce since chances are she'll be thinking about it every time they try something.... she explicitly said in the post this ruined orals for her.

I would absolutely throw a guy away who was that bad, that cruel and unwilling to let me leave without arguing like a baby. Unless he wants an itemized list of why his dick smells like shit, has crust and he is a one minute man, best to part ways and find a better lover.

This is a FWB relationship, not a life partner. I would suggest not continuing to sleep with someone who made me self conscious and was cruel in the name of being “brutally honest.” By all means they can remain friends!

What? Coping and resolution skills are great when you have a relationship. A committed one. When you have a FWB, all of that goes out the window. That's time and energy wasted that could go into something more meaningful than a dead end FWB situation. Relationships take work, FWB shouldn't. In fact, I think she's way too emotionally invested in this guy and she will just get all the heartache and pain of an actual relationship without any of the commitment and security.

So yes, gtfo is the best response when your fwb sucks at benefiting you

Not taste related per se, but in the past, I went down on the girl I was dating at the time and I could smell her last BM. I had no idea how to broach that topic without making her super embarrassed or guilty. After that, I avoided going down on her unless she had very recently showered. Hygiene folks (and clear communication, I do regret not telling her).

There's a difference between honesty and being tactless. If she can't feel comfortable around this person sexually because of the way he chooses to conduct himself, she shouldn't continue... benefiting with him. Dump him? I don't think you understand how fwb works.

Consider the fact that there isn’t anything wrong with you or your scent. People can be naturally drawn or repelled by other people’s natural scent due to body chemistry. So while one partner may love your taste, another partner will not be crazy about it and it may have absolutely nothing to do with your hygiene or your vaginal “maintenance.” If anything, his own dick and fluids are the culprits behind the so-called taste he doesn’t like. Sex (unprotected or not) will throw off your PH balance. If all else is well-taken care of down there, chances are, it’s him or the condoms.

That said, he handled that poorly; no class or maturity. Real, grown men know how to be honest without being boorish imbeciles. Your FWB don’t deserve pussy of any kind. Stop giving it to him. You can get good, decent and definitely better dick easily to satisfy your needs without crushing your confidence. Stop overthinking it.

There are so many good comments before this one (so many variable to this) but I came here to say what /u/canelita808 said. Sometimes scents/tastes are just incompatible. It's backed by science. There are all kinds of factors. I remember reading about birth control affecting it so much that people can be compatible when the female is taking it but once she goes off they end up not being compatible any longer (in a scent/pheromone way)

All that said your FWB was a complete and utter ass about it. I almost said "screw that guy" but in fact, you should STOP screwing that guy and find someone that treats you with respect and dignity.

Do a taste test on yourself. Is it normal? Any strange odor or discharge? No? Then you're fine, and should find someone nicer to have sex with. He's a rude dude. If you think someone has BV or a yeast infection, there are much more kind ways to express that.

Everyone says to eat fruit and drink water- that's just normal diet advice. There's no amount of strawberries that'll make pussy not taste like pussy lmao.

The guy is just rude. If she has a pH imbalance or bacterial infection, there are gentle ways to bring attention vs how he hamfistedly handled it. People like to use the excuse of being honest/blunt as a way to say whatever without being held accountable for it, just shrugging and calling the other party too sensitive. Have some tact, at least try to get through life with a little bit of oil greasing the wheels.

Honesty is one thing, physically pushing your partner away and exclaiming they taste bad in the middle of everything is totally different He could have moved to fingers, or said OMG I'm so turned on I just have to have you and moved on to the big show. Then AFTER that while you're all post-coitus and endorphin drunk, brought up the issue. Nicely. With TACT.

All the people saying hes just being honest let go of your ego are tone deaf. A woman telling a man in the middle of sex his penis was too small would be all over the internet for how terrible of a person she is, even if it was the truth.

Being honest doesn't mean you should blurt out whatever you're feeling whenever you're feeling it. Finding appropriate times and places is extremely important.

Edited to add: When in relationships with people I know really enjoy that kind of thing I take it upon myself to kind of monitor the situation down there, and I will say, some days are just off days. Maybe I didn't drink enough water, maybe I ate too much garlic, maybe it's close to my period, Idk. But I can have a long time of everything being hunky dory then there's just that one day where it's a li'l funky, you know what I'm saying? So yeah reflect on this as best you can, but if you don't find anything physically wrong I'd chalk it up to one of those funky days.

Probably an unpopular opinion but I would want to know. I wouldn’t take offence to it just try and improve it.. honestly if the tables were turned and I was giving head to someone that didn’t taste good.. how else do you get out of it without being honest lol...I would probably say the same thing but respectfully obviously.. when it comes to that sort of thing it makes a difference if it’s done right and if there’s that sort of issue it’s not going to be.. it kind of requires honesty.

Like if you were going down on someone and doing something wrong you’d wanna know so you can fix it so they enjoy it right? You wouldn’t want them to fake.. not really fun.

I tentatively agree, but honesty requires tact. I know we’re only getting one side’s account of the matter (“the way it went down,” if you like), but it doesn’t sound like this guy was very kind about it.

“FWB” status doesn’t exempt you from treating your partner with kindness. The “F” stands for “friend,” after all.

Right lol I’ve had to say some pretty honest things to people before that come off assholeish but usually the person appreciates that I told them and laughs it off.. or is like shit let me do this to fix it

It imagine if your kissing someone they suddenly stop push you off, and say geez you breathe smell like elephant dung, total shit, your disgusting. There may not be the nicest way to say it but they’re ways you shouldn’t

There’s few ways of saying something like that in a way that it’s not going to come off as an asshole. People are saying the guy should have just continued in a different position and told her later.. ummm why risk getting an STI or infection to save a persons feelings. He was kind of put in a difficult situation and there are few ways of getting around not coming off rude and not lying. Maybe he stopped her at the door because he wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt.. like wash up first or something, it’s hard to say. How does one say something like that without hurting their feelings?

This asshat just had to be nice. The first time I gave my bf head it did not taste good. I didn’t shove his cock away and tell him he tastes gross. I toughed it out told him I wanted him to fuck me so I could stop giving him head. Later I requested he either wash his cock in the sink or have a shower before sexy times.

Yeah honestly he’s a friend with benefit not a boyfriend how can one even get mad. The point is the sex is enjoyable and nothing else. If he hadn’t told OP odds are no bf ever would and no one would ever go down on her.

OP.. this isn’t a permanent life sentence or something you need to dwell on forever. It’s like if someone had bad breath. They just go to the dentist figure out why then move on with their life. They don’t never kiss again.

I didn't see this suggestion here so I had to chime in. Probiotics are your best friend. The reason that vaginas are self cleansing is because of the healthy bacteria in them. If you truly do not taste good it is because your healthy bacteria it's off. Start taking a daily probiotic, with the specific strains needed for vaginal Health like RepHresh Pro-B or Jarro-Dophilus Women (I alternate there two daily).

That’s great!! Another suggestion for UTI prevention is Uva Ursi, D-Mannose and Cranberry.
These packets are great, and provide a little extra probiotics, too! It’s always beneficial to get a different strain added in, etc.

Take this from a medical professional: Every day is waaay too much! Probiotics are supposed to help you build up a heathy vaginal environment again, not replace it. Trust your body, it's a wonder weapon!

Generally you take it for some defined time regularly. for example for one week, sometimes a bit longer, depends on the situation you are dealing with and the product you are using. After that you stop with it, and concentrate on other factors of a healthy lifestyle (hygiene, healthy food, avoid taking antibiotics too often...) and let the good bacteria take over again. Don't trust any products that are supposed to be taken daily, there is no medical purpose behind it. It's just an enormous industry that is taking the money from people that don't know better.

I also drink a fair amount of pineapple juice (about 6 oz/day) and definitely notice a difference when I don't drink it for a few days. Smell and taste are majorly improved and I like pineapple juice so win win!

Probiotics are great but she also needs a new guy to taste her. She owes this guy nothing. She's not committed to him. He's not worth the effort. He hasn't even made her his girlfriend, why would she waste any time pleasing him?

Girl, you need self respect. Don't ever contact him again or he will never respect you.

They colonize the vaginal vault through the urine. Where do you think the natural bacteria in the vagina comes from after you take antibiotics and kill it all?

Probiotics are absolutely not bunk, lol. They are not weird, or even cutting edge. Most doctors will suggest that if you take antibiotics for a UTI that you also eat yogurt for it's probiotic effect to keep you from getting a yeast infection. There is a significant amount of scientific data. Here, check out this scientific study:

It's not about not being able to handle "real honesty" it's about how he said it. He has no tact. He didn't take your feelings to account. That's what assholes do. They say whatever they want without regard to other people and then tell them that they're being too sensitive. This dude sounds like an asshole.

That guy is a jerk! Don't listen to him. No girl tastes "good." Vaginas aren't meant to taste yummy. Does cum taste good when coming from a guys dick? Um no. Don't let it get to you. Definitely don't let it crush you or mess with your self esteem. The fact that he told you something that hurt your feelings and instead of apologizing turned it around on you and said you can't handle real honesty is a major red flag imo.

Id say thats wrong. Ive been down on good tasting vaginas and bad tasting ones as well. Its different for person to person. Its not a jerk move to be honest or do you expect him to continue even tho he doesnt like it at all?

I mean if a vagina tastes bad (not like a normal vagina) something is wrong. It could mean infection or something else is going on. If a vagina tastes like a normal vagina (which OP says she gets regularly checked and never had any other complaints) I'm assuming it's him. Maybe he couldn't handle it? He definitely could have been nicer about it. I've been down on girls and they all taste differently but I've never experienced a bad tasting vagina. If I had I definitely wouldn't be rude about it.

Thats the thing, we dont know if he was rude or not, if something doesnt taste good its natural to not wanna be close it. He maybe said it in a "good" way but it was perceived as rude as it is a sensetive topic. I wouldnt be so fast to label him a jerk.

I guess he just sounds kind of jerkish to me throughout the whole story. Pushing her off and telling her she tastes bad. Not allowing her to leave when she wanted to. Him telling her people can't handle honesty instead of apologizing for hurting her feelings. I know I shouldn't be so judgmental from a post. He's probably not a jerk and we're only getting a very short story about him.

We only see one side of the coin here, what we read is how OP perceived things. Taking the story with a pinch of salt there could be the possibility you first assumed or a person that honestly cares. He wanted to talk so there isnt any questionmarks left to make wrong theories. I do agree with that most people are a little bit too sensetive and cuts relationships off for small things (in general) instead of talking it through.

I agree with that too. I also think if someone is upset they should be allowed to leave though. When they're more calm they can talk it out. I know if I was upset and tried to leave if my boyfriend wouldn't let me I would just become angry. Everyone is different though. You have a point about only reading one side of the story.

When it comes to being upset its more difficult imo, some can take it good others bad. I know my current partner would need to stay and sort things out when we have a missunderstanding before going. As she would otherwise make up alot of wrong theories that would later make it worse, but when we talk it out there isnt any questionmarks left for her to theorise about and maybe this is what he wanted. He wanted to make sure that he didnt mean no harm but if he thinks it smells bad or taste bad i can completly understand that he doesnt wanna be down there and so close. I think we both have good points :) we are after all different and with different experiences.

Some girls taste great, others taste terrible and majorly turn off the guy.

If OP does indeed taste bad, it's a huge disservice to her to pretend that's not there. She should see what she can do about it before pretending like it's not a thing. Even if other guys don't say anything, they'd know, and they'd avoid going down on her if she doesn't do anything about it.

Exactly! Say it. But not that way and not in that moment. Just skip ahead a bit or be done with 69. Finger her? I mean...c’mon. This is what people say when they realize they fucked it and don’t want to own it.

Different people have different tastes in chemical terms. It's highly likely that your very douchy FWB has a different chemical taste preference. I think maybe you are very young and experimenting with non exclusive sex. Your FWB is likely also very young and has no clue how to be with a woman. There is probably nothing at all wrong with your taste, it's just not his. If you are inclined to be kind to him after his nonsense behaviour, give him an honest appraisal of his appeal to women. He is only interested in honesty, after all!

It's never nice being told something we don't want to hear but if he had said "Get the fuck off me you stank pussy bitch!", then I would understand. However he just wasn't enjoying something and decided against it.. how is that a "dick move"?

I will say that the way he got defensive and said no one can handle honesty was a bit rude.

Smh at the people in this thread saying they'd want to know. Of course you would want to know, but do you want that being thrown in your face in the middle of sex, or would you prefer he switched positions again and brought it up afterwards? I personally would prefer the latter, and if you say otherwise then I envy your apparent stong self esteem.

I find it concerning that he told you in such a tactless way in a very vulnerable moment, but what is even more alarming is that you said he wouldn’t let you leave. Even if honesty is the best policy to him, he doesn’t get to hold you hostage if you feel the need to leave for any reason. It sounds like he has boundary issues. Both of these things are huge red flags. I’d consider getting a new FWB before you get any further invested.

It’s his opinion. He’s entitled to his opinion. However, I think he sounds rude as shit for the way he expressed his opinion. For me, receiving oral is pretty intimate and it would fuck me up if someone told me that so cruelly. It’s bullshit that men feel like it’s all right to joke about women’s vaginas smelling but then expect women to suck on their hairy balls, literally choke on their sweaty dick, and swallow their cum. If your gyno says you’re healthy and you shower frequently, you’re fine. Maybe you were sweating a lot that day. Tbh most vaginas and most dicks don’t smell like flowers. Don’t let it keep you up at night, and tell your FWB that he needs to express his opinions more kindly.

I think this is every girls most sensitive point, and the most tense part during sex.

How long has he been going down on you?

Is this the 1st time he says it?

Yes its not chocolate cake, and there's only a few things that you can control. Not only do soaps and perfume affect the taste, what you eat and your hormonal balance affects it too. Plus research shows that changes in the micorbiota of the tongue affect taste so it might not just be you.

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In my case I became self conscious cuz my ex that avoided it at all cost and after breaking up told me that we should have seen signs of incompatibility since he didn't like my taste and I didn't like his.

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In my new relationship with my current boyfriend previously my FWB, I was always on top of my V cleanliness to the point (super self-conscious) that he told me to chill out. He love 69 more that me, (I can't concentrate in 2 things at once) and he has allowed me to feel comfortable enough to talked freely about my odor/taste insecurities and he has constantly reassured me that if he notices anything he will let me know.

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Your FWB didn't have to be so harsh but since he is not your BF he has no lasting repercussions, for me that's a sign of disrespect that you can talk it out with him or replace him. But you will have to work now with your insecurities.

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So :

Get over the insecurities by talking and creating a safe space in the bed.

Keep a check on you taste since it changes with your menstrual cycle that way you'll know which days your body is producing funky taste/odor. Yes taste it!

Vaginal discharge changes throughout the cycle. A person can usually see differences at each stage, including:

At ovulation. Discharge is typically clear, stretchy, and watery. A thin consistency helps sperm travel to the egg. Before ovulation, there is usually more discharge, possibly up to 30 times the usual amount.

After ovulation. Higher levels of progesterone cause discharge to appear white. This type of discharge may last for up to 14 days. It may be thick and sticky, but there will be less than there was during ovulation.

Aw girl my ex once told me that my vagina was like “one continuous fart”. And yes I’m very hygienic. I completely understand how devastating it is. I’m still a little weary when my new bf asks to 69 or eat me out. But with time and a new FWB you will eventually heal and move on. It’s a self cleaning orifice. I say get a more mature FWB.

I was told by a gyno to just clean with water.
I prefer a ph balanced gentle feminine wash .
I honestly check myself first.
If I'd be turned off then so would he.
PS I'm bi and I don't mind checking my own. Lol.
Also eating pineapple is great for changing up the taste. Works for men too.

Well he is not your FRIEND and being insulted so harshly is hardly a BENEFIT.

He could have said "Oh, yeah, I love what you're doing, this feels so good! I thought I was into the 69, but it's not working for me right now, let me try something different (maybe fingers, maybe something else), how does this feel?" And then, maybe the next day, at a non-sexually charged time, he could have said "I wanted to talk with you. I was into that 69 yesterday at first, and I love your body. I think I didn't exactly mesh well with the taste of your vagina, and I wasn't sure if it was me or not. Maybe next time, we can jump in the shower together first? Your pleasure is important to me, so I know that we can communicate through this."

That would be both HONEST (which is oh so important to him) and COMPASSIONATE (which is oh so NOT important to him).

There's a difference between "real honesty" and being an asshole. It's called empathy, and it seems like dude has none. Kick that boy and find someone who isn't going to make you feel shitty and call it honesty.

Forgive me, my memory is hazy, I remember biology in HS(roughly 10 years ago), we did a PH lesson. We all had to taste our own "strip" provided by our teacher. Everyone had to taste a tiny piece of the paper strip and our teacher asked on who thought it was bitter and who couldn't taste anything. Roughly 70% of the class couldn't taste anything and the other 30% could.

Maybe it has something to do with PH levels on his end. Or maybe it could be a ph imbalance on your end? Vaginas are a great place for bacteria(good or bad) to thrive. You could have a yeast infection, potentially. I would most certainly look into that.

Has he gone down on you before? Did he have any issues then? Do you bathe prior to having any sexual relations?

Yes, being embarrassed and self conscious is going to happen. Especially after an incident like this. Personally, being in a committed relationship, I have some "rules". I must have my vagina washed prior to any head receiving, that way I'm not overthinking, "do I taste bad?", "do i smell bad", mainly thoughts along those lines. Washing definitely subsides that self-consciousness.

Honestly, my BF is the only person who has gone down on me to give me orgasms. All the others in the past, it was kind of a waste of both parties time lol are you really satisfied receiving head from him anyways? Maybe just stop that part of the foreplay if you're wanting to continue having benefits with your friend.

It really is. And yes, he could be honest without being offensive about his honesty. It's all about how people word things, along with their tone and reactions. Definitely not the nicest way to tell someone that they're not tasting that great that, although, I'm not sure how to kindly tell someone that, but his actions and tone could have made it less embarrassing for OP.

Im personally not a fan of eating pussy. It tastes sour and gross but that just me or so i thought. Try doing it in the shower or just right after a shower. I find then its great and fun. And its been like that for every woman ive been with so to me its just not my flavor

I'd love insight into how one could make cunnilingus a pleasant experience for either party while in a shower. Is she supposed to stand? Does this mean he's kneeling on the tile floor? I mean maybe it's a big shower so somebody can lay, but still so uncomfortable. If you don't want to be uncomfortably cold in a shower the water has to be kept on, so at what point should the guy just drown trying to breathe and eat pussy through a constant flow of water?

Well he would be picking you up and holding you while 69ing. And stand outta the water, let it be hot and let the steam flow over you. You have a kik or something. I could send a pic, though it would be from google lol or you could jusf look it up i suppose, just type in ‘standing 69’ and look through the images

Lmao idk if you're an acrobat in your personal life but being held upside down is not comfortable. I get most men haven't had a partner trying to toss them into weird positions or upside down and expect them to stay aroused. when the position is as distracting and unpleasant as you've described (fear of being dropped, pain from their tight grip, blood rushing to your head) the quality of sex goes down. Standing, and one leg over their shoulder is the only half decent position that I have ever found for this type of shower fun. And even that is way less satisfying than being laid down on a bed or bent over something. The key for many women is to be relaxed and able to enjoy it, which standing up, or upside down, or being on somebody's shoulders doesn't achieve very well.

As a dude who loves to go down let me say that there are so many factors involved that can affect smell and taste.

hygiene

body ph

time of the month

diet

stress

chemicals like scented lotions, soaps, body wash, and perfumes

STI’s

When my wife has a long day at work it can be a little ripe down there sometimes, but a quick shower fixes it.

The best tasting pussy is fresh out of the shower on a chill low stress and relaxed day/evening.

In your case, he was kind of an asshole about it. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. You just have to find out what works for you down there. It will take some experimenting with certain things to figure it out, but as long as he is into you and willing to try things with you it can be good in the end.

Use an unscented baby soap for sensitive baby skin to clean down there. After the shower don’t put any lotion or perfume down there, natural is best.

My bf has told me I didn't smell good before. Yeah it does make me feel bad initially but I just take a shower and that usually solves the problem.
I don't get upset because I always think "I wouldn't want to give a BJ if he smelled bad".

To be honest with you I think your FWB was a bit of a jerk.For one I think he should have been able to identify what the flavor was and politely asked you to rinse off.For example this tastes a little soapy would you mind rinsing off real quick so we can get back to business.Perhaps I think I taste a little pee would you mind rinsing off real quick so we can get back to business.He didn't have to be a jerk about it. That whole honesty is the best policy and nobody can handle real honesty that's crap.If he wasn't being an ass about it. It could have been remedied within a couple of minutes in the shower and you could have finished having a good time.Are you sure he wasn't just looking for a way to break it off with you? Because the way he handle it seems very immature and deliberately hurtful.Like perhaps he knew that was one of your insecurities and that was the easiest way to get to you.But either way don't let this throw you off your game if anything he was the one being immature and acting like a jerk. As these things are just a natural part of sex and generally easily remedied.

He should have taken a different way to tell you that you did not taste good but the way he talked to you was horrible. You were giving him a bj and he suddenly told you that you tasted bad down there which is disrespect and it shows that he takes you for granted.

You have a right to end things with him as it is clear he does not care about your feeling. Check with the doctor to make sure that there is nothing wrong with your vagina before you find a new partner. Things will be okay when your next partner goes down on you and felt good. You should not hold yourself hostage as this is not the way to deal with it. Be kind to yourself and treat yourself well.

Yeah it just caught me so off guard and I haven’t known how to deal with it. I am definitely gonna get checked out again just for peace of mind and so I can stop feeling gross about myself. Thanks for the advice

I know a male who has a very sensitive tongue. It's pretty amazing actually. He can tell you what spices were used in recipes. We like to test him and he's always right. He's an amazing cook. He also has cuts all over his tongue. Anyway, his sense of taste is so good he can pick up any taste which women's golden cave taste tastes like Tylenol for him even though he really enjoys the activity. I'm not entirely sure what would work for your FWB but drinking (alcohol, juice, minty chews) works for him. For you, drink a lot of water!

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Also, don't dwell on this. It's vagina juice, jizz doesn't taste that amazing either. Ask him to try his own juices for the sake of "just being honest!"

He could have chosen his words better, could have waited until afterwards.. but even if he would have just quickly changed the position you would have been wondering if that was the cause.
I have a friend who broke up with her bf because of the taste of his cum....it's definitely a mutual thing.
He's a FWB, you'll move on. I don't think everyone is suited for everyone, that includes taste. I know people who dont care for the taste of ice cream (weirdos obviously), but I've never had a bad ice cream.
So find someone who enjoys your taste, I promise they're out there.

Honestly sometimes you can’t wait till after because it’s such a gnarly taste and that goes to both a girls taste and the guys taste. He definitely could’ve chosen a different method to deliver the news though. And the OP says that past lovers haven’t had any issues but maybe they didn’t want to stir the pot up and speak up, I’ve been worried to speak up in my past like that before. Everyone’s palette is different for sure. And yes you’re correct that there will be plenty more FWBs where he came from to fill the gap.

Your sex doesn't always taste the same. Sometimes, it has a strong, acidic taste, sometimes it doesn't have any taste at all. I don't know what factors into it, but what I'm sure of is that if you wash right before sexy time, there won't be a problem (if there's still an unpleasant taste / smell right after washing, you may want to go to your OB/GYN).

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Take note: When you do 69, your BF's nose will literally be right against your butthole. What he smells there may have translated into what he's "tasting". Did you wash your butthole before doing 69?

I tried eatting a girl out last night but I couldnt do it. There was a smell. It wasn't fishy though. It threw me the fuck off. I am a girl too by the way. I always suggest we rinse or wash before I engage in sex. I asked if she rinse. She said yes and went to rinse again. We were at a janky hotel and there was no soap other than my face wash cause I forgot my body wash. When she came back we went right back to it but no tongue action. The sex was still great just couldnt get my tongue down stairs. Anyways sometimes it just happens. I have a lot of sex with girls and I dont put my tongue everywhere.
I suggest in the future you smell yourself first. I don't always have good days either and if I feel like it isnt the day. I just let the person know not to go downstairs. It takes both partner's judgement... Don't feel weird. Just know its apart of the game

Once I was going downtown on a nice lady, she was returning the favor, we were FWBs and I really cared about her. She had some soap residue left down there, so I gently explained what was up, it was awkward but we giggled a bit, we got in the shower and rinsed each other off until both our titties and asses were sparkly clean, got out and I went back downtown to blow bubbles while she returned the favor. I never pushed her away, I never said cruel things, and I definitely didn't try to turn things around and make her feel bad for my insensitivity. This guy shouldn't get any more benefits, he's a shitty friend.

Going to chime in with my two cents. Any partner I’ve had that “didn’t taste good”, the taste lasted for a couple of moments until my saliva diluted it. If your sexual partner can’t handle the natural musk of a vagina for a few moments then maybe they have no business going there.

Just as a penis can taste off for a couple of moments due to lingering urine or dried pre-ejaculate (we all get it it’s natural); a vagina can taste odd too.

I often clean my penis with luke warm water before I engage in sexual activity but it is more because I am conscious that I will have lingering scent from the day.

Find yourself someone that is mature/experienced enough to get past those few moments and I’m sure your foreplay will be a lot more enjoyable and intimate.

Some people are too sensitive about natural bodily functions, never mind “handling real honesty”.

You don’t need that sort of negativity in your life. Don’t wash with scented soaps, let your vagina clean itself like it naturally does, and if you’re really worried about it, luke warm water and a soft towel do wonders!

“Honesty is the best policy and that no one can handle real honesty these days” is something that douche bags with no sense of tact or courtesy say to justify being shitty, rude people. See also: People who boldly proclaim that they have "no filter".

The products you use to clean yourself are the problem. As long as your vagina is healthy, there is no reason to "taste bad" as long as you wash correctly and don't use bad products and by bad I mean products that have different kind of scents that are not meant to be "tasted".

This happened to my girlfriend too once.
She realized that I wasn't really enjoying giving her oral like other times and told me to stop and asked me what's up. I told her she tastes different than usual but not in a pleasant way. She got a bit embarrassed by it as you would guess. We talked and she was a bit better after. I went to the bathroom to take a shower and noticed she had a new soap.
What the brilliant me did? Of course, I licked the soap. Yeah, it tasted almost the same. Went back to the bedroom and told her why she tasted different and what's the problem. She straight up grabbed the soap out of my hand and threw it out the window. She was funny as hell but pissed at the same time that "the little bastard" as she called it ruined our sex earlier.

Girl if you want honesty we’ve all been through this at some point! Look, my SO has gone down on me and been like babe yo pussy stank and tastes bad! What do I do? I go clean my pussy off and put a little coconut oil down there on the lips ya know and boom we are back to the sexy times! Would you wanna suck his dick if it tasted bad or smelled like BO? No? Goes both ways. Don’t be embarrassed, just be like oh my bad I guess I got sweaty let me go wash my shit off! Good luck!

First of all, ditch him for being so callous. There's a way to handle these things, and what he did wasn't it. Second, drink more water and eat a lot of fresh pineapple to prep your area for your (hopefully more deserving) next man.

Your vagina is going to taste badly some days. It's a vagina. Some days, you had an extra sweaty day or had a lack of water, stress (it does really effect almost everything) or a smelly bacteria is having a bit of a fight before it goes back to normal.

It's a vagina, it's normal. If no ever complained about your vagina tasting bad, then you should consider this 'a bad vagina day' event at it's worst and a 'this dude doesn't like the taste of my vagina' event at it's best.

I do think that you should try to be less sensitive about it or give a warning beforehand to your partners that you are sensitive about this topic. I'm not saying this as a sensitivity = bad thing. Everyone is sensitive about something. You better not be mentioning my scars while I'm having sex with you.

But you are sensitive about a topic that's kinda normal to discuss. In some cases even needed. If the flavor of your vagina changes flavor and stays that way for a few days, you need to know. Your partner needs to tell you. That could be a medical issue.

And since it's normal, people will tell you unless you tell them that this isn't a good topic for you. So you need to take control beforehand. It's not wrong to give limits to your sexual partners, even if your limit is otherwise completely normal sex use. This is your limit, so say it.

In terms of your partner, was this the first time you had sex? Because it's normal etiquette to not be TOO honest with a new partner and to take responsibility when it goes wrong when you bring up a grey-area topic (like this topic). But if you have been having sex for a while and he even had oral with you and didn't complain last time, then I do see his comment as ok.

Honestly, sometimes we just taste or smell a bit 'off'. My vagina starts tasting like a piece of iron right before I get my period. I shower in the morning and sometimes, especially when it's hot outside, my vagina just doesn't smell as good as it does in the morning when I go to bed. It's nothing to be ashamed of or to feel bad about.

First off, I read that you wash your vagina with soap. Stop doing that. If you desperately want to use a soap, use one that is specifically made for vaginas and not soap you use for your body (the ph balance is completely different) and use it sparingly, maybe twice a week or only if you know you're going to be having sex if you're really insecure about it.

I know honesty is the best policy, but he could have been a bit more delicate with you. I've been with my partner long enough to tell him I'm not going to suck his dick if his balls smell like cheese, but we can laugh about stuff like that. It was not very nice of him to push you away and tell you you smell bad so blatantly. I would address that if I were you. He should be able to tell you (if he's not comfortable with eating you out if you smell a bit stronger that's his own choice) but he can be nice about it at least.

You take it too far, and he was a bit to straight forward. You don't taste good FOR HIM. But maybe you do really don't taste good ALSO. In the end you don't know what's the problem and you're touched. Enlighten your own situation, what if you don't taste good ? You said you had other partners who were ok, so even if it's the truth as of now FOR him, it doesn't mean you don't taste good at all.

In the end if you really has a problem, instead of flipping and say it's your worst nightmare, try to get him to help out on how to taste good ?

Also, it can happens sometimes someone doesn't taste good. For various reasons from the worst shrooms to the little change in chemistry. It's no big deal. OP, just relax, and take it cold headed.

Also, what is humiliating ? You tasting bad from there ? We're all humans, we ain't perfect 100% of the time, everyone knows it. I'd say, you're an average person. Heads up !

I’m so sorry.. that’s fucked up. The first time I ate my gf out it was sour and I hated it but I kept going. Now I actually loooooovvveee it and the sour taste actually reminds me of like a pineapple citrus flavor.

You snowflake. So one bad experience. Five words or so from an FWB (whatever that is) is going to affect your sexuality for the rest of your life? My advice is to get some self esteem, and grow a pair of balls. Yeah, this guy could probably work on his tactfulness - but you really need to grow up.

Oh, you mean your Vagina is working exactly the way that it is supposed to?

Your man just needs to buck up and be an adult. Sometimes vaginas taste bad and smell, other times they don't (ovulation cycles and whatnot constantly change your chemical makeup down there). If he loves you, then he'd accept that. You aren't an object, you are a person needing love and affection and the recognition of that fact should outweigh his personal "appetite".

A couple of things, in my experience people’s tastes/smell has little to do with hygiene (beyond the obvious stuff), and more to do with human chemistry. Some people just taste/smell good to us, and others don’t. I know it’s hard not to do so, especially given how your partner behaved, but you should not take it as a personally. Secondly, your fwb is ignoring the “f” part. I’ve been with people whose taste/smell I haven’t cared for and the way you handle it is to just do your thing for a bit, use your hands, and move on to something else. Would you ever say anything to a friend that you knew could hurt them in that insensitive of a manner? I have an ex who used to be married to a massive fuckface that her she smelled and tasted bad, and she was extremely insecure about it. I loved her taste/smell, and I made sure she knew it, and she loved me for it. Fuck this fwb, but not literally, and go find someone who is into you. There’s no point in wasting your time on someone who isn’t.

He should be more delicate. Tell you that maybe after sex. Like: honey, i would like to to talk to you about sth.
Not during sex while pushing you away.
I would push him away too in this case.
Very often men are oversensitive about tastes/ smell. Your vagina will have certain light smell and taste. Try it yourself as others suggested and don't let yourself be brainwashed by this man.
We are human. It's normal that living bodies have some taste. Especially that places. Some men actually love it.

Sometimes people are not "chemically" compatible if I can say. I have a friend who I know we're not compatible because of what she smells like (I mean her skin). It's not like she smells bad or anything it's just that I don't like it while others do. I do have a pretty strong sense of smell so finding someone who is "physically" and/or "chemically" compatible is very important. Aside from all the other important points. ;)

I see some people recommending different soaps and such and fair enough but also, consider that every person has different taste buds and different ideas of what tastes good and what doesn’t taste good.

Just because he didn’t like the taste does not mean every dude won’t like the taste. You even said yourself that past partners have never said anything and happily gone back down there.

He’s just one guy, don’t let him stop you from enjoying that cunnilingus from other people gurl!

“No one can handle real honesty these days” always sounds to me like a bullshit excuse why that person shouldn’t have to worry about other people’s feelings. There are lots of ways to express your honest opinion, fuckface.

depending on the day of the month, the smell and flavor changes a bit. tbh I've found that in the few days after the period is over is the worst time to get eaten out, but even on those days its not as big a deal.

this guy is a jerk to not care about your feelings or insecurities like that. get a better friend that knows how to eat

You might have just been a little sweaty that day or had a lot of garlic the day before? Just make sure you take a shower before encounters! Not to be blunt but this guy sounds like a total dick. There are much nicer ways to go about saying something like that, none of which involve pushing you away. Please consider not seeing this person again they sound like they don’t have much compassion and you deserve compassion!

Most likely he is being dishonest and just doesnt feel he should have to go down on you so hes making shit up. You probably taste fine and probably need to evaluate wether you caught feelings for this “FWB” or not

He's not a monster. Nor is he a monster for stopping someone from literally running away angry and upset because of something they said that wasn't even an insult.

I mean, just think for yourself what your reaction would be if the person you're with gets irrationally angry and upset over something that you said that you thought was innocuous like "you kinda smell a little." And as soon as you said that, as soon as those words left your lips, they got pissed off and started storming away?

I mean, I don't know a single person who WOULDN'T follow them and see what's wrong and why they're upset.

If anything the worse thing would be for them not to give a shit and let that person storm off angry and upset because then you at least KNOW that they don't give a shit about that person because they don't care why they're upset.

Because dick tastes so good right? I'm tired of people acting like genitals are supposed to taste sweet like candy or something. I mean obviously if the person's hygiene sucks then I get it. But since you do everything right I'm taking it as he is uneducated or has no idea what he's doing. Take this how you want. I've honestly never had this happen but if it did I would feel exactly the same as you.

110%, do not let this deter you from enjoying the physicality of life. Your friend with benefits sounds like he has the tact of a running chainsaw, and doesn't seem worthy of the time you spend with him, nor deserve the parts of yourself that you "give" to him. The tips throughout this forum that may help get your sexual confidence back into shape seem to be worth listening to. But, at bottom, this sort of unbridled insensitivity towards you is straight up poisonous. Regardless of a human's ability to process potentially hard-to-hear, but need-to-know information is one thing. But, really, the way the information is conveyed makes all of the difference.

Don't let this cramp your steeze. Tell your 'friend' to go kick rocks, do a little soul searching, and get back to tending life's garden. :-)

I want to say this without sounding like a total creep, but, I love eating women out. I’ve only ever noticed a change in taste shortly before, during and for a little bit after their periods. It’s NEVER anything to complain about and it’s certainly nothing to throw a fit about. Move past it if you can, there’s certainly nicer faces to sit on out there.

There can be a million reasons for a woman to taste bad, or less mjummy. But in a good relationship you can tell your partner and still go down next time. Maybe the real lesson here is that fwb is no longer your thing.

What does a “normal” vagina taste like?? I haven’t eaten one before. Hold on, I just realized I can taste my own vagina. Hold the line— I’m going in....
I didn’t really taste anything, a very very mild salty flavor. nothing pungent.
I drink about a gallon of water a day. Maybe that has something to do with it?

He wouldn't let you leave? And he invalidated your appropriately hurt feelings? Fucking hell, never have sex with him again. He didn't have to say it right in the moment and he sure as hell could have said it better.

Sis dump his assssssss. If you’re having sex with someone you’re exposed to them and you’re vulnerable. If you’re FWB is treating you like a shit person then they are in fact a shit person. As for “down there” vagina is going to taste like vagina. I use dove soap and water and it’s pretty flavorless tbh. You’re not supposed to wash inside of your vagina with soap but you can use soap on your clitoris. Once you’re done make sure you run over your vagina with water and you’re good. Don’t get it (water/soap) inside of your vagina because it’s unhealthy for your ph levels. Otherwise practice safe sex, dump his ass, and know your self worth.

Does he know that a vagina... is a vagina??? This would honestly crush me because I’m always concerned with how I taste. That moment of his “honesty,” was just straight up douchey. Sorry you had to hear that :(

Let me start with a small back story. I'm a lesbian, I've tasted my fair share of nether regions, I was going down on one female who I swear to you, hadn't showered in weeks. However the rest of her didn't smell.

While I was down there I began to become very nauseous. So much so, that I couldn't do it. I told her the alcohol was getting to me and wiped my face. Kissed her and got her off another way.
A day or so later we were talking and she said that she had noticed a smell and went to the doctor and she had a really bad UTI. It clicked shortly after. She apologized and I apologized. She said she'd started washing down there w some floral soap and it messed up her PH.

I asked her how I could've brought that up and she told me that in the future I could say, hey did you change soaps? Or hey I think you ph might be off. I didn't tell her she smelt bad. I didn't make a scene. I made sure she felt comfortable, I got her off and we were fine.

I was in a relationship for two years with a guy who was verbally abusive and manipulative and one of the things that hurt me the most was when he would try to go down on me and then make a disgusted face and tell me “I just can’t do it. You’re too gross” after HE was the one who initiated it in the first place. I know for a fact I was very clean and neat, he was just a pussy. Then, he expected me to go down on him with no issues even though he never would for me. It completely wrecked my self esteem and I didn’t let anyone go down on me for two years until I finally let my current boyfriend who has made it very clear he loves me and EVERYTHING about me. He totally gave me my confidence back and now I don’t hesitate or feel embarrassed about my body. Find someone who will go down on you to give you that pleasure, not only for their enjoyment. Don’t let this guy, who clearly can’t handle a woman correctly, ruin an enjoyable and intimate thing forever. Just take some time to heal and find someone who will appreciate you and your body

People today often cite honesty when they're just being rude. Your FWB is an asshole. If you said his dick was the smallest you had ever seen honest or rude? Maybe a bit of both....but does that mean you should say it?

Sounds like he’s pretty immature. Guys don’t taste that great either but I’ve never pushed one away in disgust before 🙄 You shouldn’t feel insecure about how you taste down there, you’re not supposed to taste like fruit or flowers or whatever, it’s supposed to taste like PUSSY. However, if you’re set on trying to taste better, a quick shower beforehand can help, along with drinking lots of water and eating less processed foods. Good luck.

The real issue is how he told you this. Both my husband and I have had moments where the other person's junk had something up with it (smell, taste, something toilet paper fuzz in there or worse). Pushing someone away and saying "you don't taste good" is rude and selfish.

Please don't let it ruin your confidence or interest in sex. Your vagina is a good, sexy vagina even if she had one off day in the taste department. If you went to your favorite restaurant for the thousandth time and had a bad waiter or the food tasted weird, would you stop going? I know I wouldn't, but I sure might ask for a different waiter.

Your FWB sounds like he's a bit self-focused and doesn't really think about the way things he says are perceived. If he's an otherwise good person, I would ask him to sit down with you and walk through how he thinks you felt during that experience. Ask him how he would feel if you refused to blow him because of smell or taste and reacted like he did. If he genuinely tried to understand, apologizes, and wants to help you feel better about yourself, I would suggest you two work your way back up to oral because trust had been broken on top of everything else.

If he doesn't seem capable of hearing or caring or understanding what you're saying, I wouldn't invest in him emotionally and, at least myself, would stop seeing him.

Hang in there, my friend! You and your vagina have years to go together and I hope you can get back to your groove quickly!

The guy is creepy. He probably doesn't like to eat pussy and that was the only thing he could think of. Forget about him. There are plenty of guys out there who would love to eat your pussy, no matter what time of the month. I can vouch for that.

“honesty is the best policy and that no one can handle real honesty these days.”

Ugh people who resort to this kind of bs are shit.

No OnE cAn HaNdLe My HoNeStY

Okay, sure, but have you tried being less of an asshole? People who justify being rude with "but I'm hoooonest" are giant babies imo who can't handle honesty themselves. Saying "hey you hurt my feelings" is being honest, but do they appreciate it? No, he got defensive and complained about the very thing he says he is all about -- honesty! He didn't want you be honest, he wants to be able to just say whatever he wants with no repercussions.

I think he's just a jerk and I wouldn't really worry about it. If you were fine before then you're probably fine now. He could have handled it tactfully, he did not. On top of that, he basically declined to be more tactful in the future, didn't apologize, didn't acknowledge he could have been a little nicer. Nothing. Not really a great guy to hang out with.

If you have multiple partners frequently it can mess up your levels in your vagina making you taste or smell more “sour” once your body gets used to a partner(about six months? Took me about a year to get used to my now husband) the scent won’t be an issue or the taste really but the taste is what depends more on your diet try drinking more water and lean towards healthier foods but most importantly if you told your FWB that his penis smelled disgusting and you didn’t want to give him head how would he react? Would he say “well honesty is the best policy!” Probably not.

One issue here is that since there is no emotional connection there is no room for a loving heartfelt conversation it’s a “you smell bad get off” not a “hey this is something that stuck out to me, we should look at ways on how to fix this. Just know this doesn’t make me feel any different about you.”

I think what hurt more (besides what he said) was that there was no real reassurance(what assurance there was was probably to get you back into bed) just a “honesty is the best policy deal with it”. Go to your local doctors and talk to them about a healthy diet for your PH levels and how partners affect us.

Dump him. If a man doesn’t eat pussy like it’s his last meal on earth, he’s worthless. FWB is supposed to be a fun, casual hookup type deal. If he’s making you feel bad about yourself, it’s not fun. Don’t waste your energy on men who refuse to be good lovers. Part of being a good lover is making you feel sexy and desirable. If he’s not doing that, what’s the point of even having sex with him.

As a bisexual women, I’ve tasted a variety of men and women and I will be honest that the worst tasting girl tastes like candy compared to the best tasting dude’s semen. It’s just facts. Women can smell and taste tangy, musky, or coppery. Men always smell like straight up bleach. Do you go around making faces at men when you give them oral? Of course not because you’re a civilized and considerate person. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t do the same.

I used to be really self-conscious about receiving oral because my first boyfriend pulled away during, made a face, and said it was too overwhelming with how wet I get and would make comments if he could smell me getting aroused. Got over that when I met my current boyfriend. He will finger me and then lick his fingers off, like a cat with cream, looking smug as hell and telling me how good I taste. Totally erased any self-consciousness about how I am. You deserve that kinda attention, girl!! Get it!!! Go have sex with some ladies. Try out pussy and see that they come in all sorts of shapes, tastes, and smells and they all are delicious and beautiful.

Honestly it sounds like you're not giving yourself enough credit. If I were in your shoes I would explain that his dick doesn't exactly taste like peaches and cream, but you do it because you've agreed to be sexual and that means giving as well as receiving. If he doesn't like that, he can go fuck himself.

It also sounds like this guy is a douche given the "nobody can take real honesty" language, so maybe it's not even worth a confrontation. You can find someone to fuck you and make you feel good without putting you down. A FWB relationship should be fun and avoid the emotions that come with a real relationship. If you're having to deal with that, you might as well find a more secure space and a more mature guy.

I’ve never had any complaints UNTIL my current boyfriend. He said I tasted sour. All my other partners said I tasted sweet/tart. Like watered down sweet tarts or kind of like cranberry. Well one time my boyfriend was drinking some cranberry juice I had bought because he wanted to try it and he got a look and said it was awful because it was sour. Had an aha moment. His taste buds are jacked up. He doesn’t like mustard or anything with a tangy taste to it. He likes things plain and boring. No condiments on burgers, no pickles, no cranberry juice, like everything he eats is plain. So it wasn’t me, it was him. We solved it with flavored lube. I love him and that’s the only reason I put up with that because I love oral. Anyone else would have been gone lmao don’t take it to heart honey, change your soap and if he still complains either try flavored lube or drop him for someone else that likes your taste. He’s not even a boyfriend. He’s an orgasm donor. Get a different one if it bothers you too badly. He sounds insensitive and is using the honesty policy to be harsh and tactless.

You can try using wipes before you plan on being intimate, or doing a quick smell check yourself, but honestly I wouldn't worry about it.

How many men do you know, about to get a bj, worry about how they taste? Dicks and balls stink and don't taste great, but most guys are just like awww yiisss.

If someone's going down on you, you should be able to focus on yourself and feeling good, not worrying about how HIS experience is while pleasuring you. If your partner is too immature to handle that, he doesn't deserve the "benefits."

Anything can change the pH of a vagina, mostly it's going to just taste like a vagina unless you've been extra sweaty, recently intimate, or using perfumed soaps. Get to know your 'normal' smell, and don't worry unless that changes significantly, turns foul, or there are texture issues.

Mostly, dude's a jerk. Even if my partner was a lil funky that day, I'd never tell her that unless I thought she had some kind of infection or something that needed medical attention and genuinely wasn't aware, because WHO does that?

If you're not down with your partner's natural musk, there are SO many solutions besides being hurtful. Sexy showtime first, flavored lubes, or just don't go there.

Firstly, it’s not you, it’s him. Unfortunately, a lot of men don’t know what a natural healthy human smell is.. so they automatically react. I think the problem is more with his communication style re: he doesn’t seem to have any. It’s also troublesome how when honestly expressed yourself, you were wrong. I’d reconsider having this person in your life. Even if it’s a causal relationship, there must always be mutual respect. I think you can do better 🙂

There were a few years where I struggled with recurring BV. My bf mentioned the same thing (much more nicely, but still bruised my ego). Maybe your flora is out of whack? It took awhile to get under control, but I haven't had an issue for almost 2 years now.

So something similar happened to me (male), I was super excited for a girl and when the moment came up she went down and I think because I had pre-cum it was unusually salty. She immediately went to the bathroom and spit. I was softer than boiled spaghetti and couldn’t get it back after that.

As it turns out, the flavor isn’t always consistent. I’m no gyno, but I think like anything else your body has different smells and tastes. If he is the only person who has complained it could have been just that time.

A side note, one of my friends started doing the keto diet, it was super high in protein and I noticed she had an unusually strong aroma down there—that hadn’t been there before. So I’m my unmedical opinion it seems taste can change very quickly and isn’t always consistent.

Side note: I would consider not keeping him as a FWB if he is damaging your self-esteem. It’s supposed to be fun for everyone.

He’s clearly an asshole. Even if you did have some weird taste down there are better ways of communicating that to you that don’t involve pushing you away. IMO drop the benefits part and maybe even the friend part.

Yeah. I think honesty is the best policy but also to be as nice as you can about it. Your ph is probably just off. There are little ph- balancing suppositories you can insert and leave in over night. You can get them at any drug store. Try one of those and you’ll probably be fine. Also, I scented soaps. If you plan on sleeping with him again in the future I’d let him know that you need him to be a little gentler in the future.

Look i agree with your fwb about honesty. That being daid.i am an asshole that tells truths so that others feel as shit as i do. Your fwb sounds similar to that and even i know i shouldnt be around people and maybe he shouldnt either.

We have hormones and personal smells. Usually a week before my period my smells are stronger (as my sexual drive) then after it, everything decrease. Please don't feel upset because of that guy. Try to smell yourself and see if you can shower before sex or just feel comfortable with yourself. Don't let anyone ruin your self esteem

I almost explicitly only go down on woman after a shower. The taste has never been great in my opinion, but I still enjoy doing it. Luckily for me my partner doesn't want to do it without taking a shower first anyways.

I've experienced a very similar thing. My bf has never gone down on me and decided to randomly one day, he did it for a few seconds and stopped, I figured he didn't find it pleasurable or he didn't know how to do it, but afterwards he told me that I tasted bad and apparently salty. I was confused because he had told me previously when he fingered me I smelt and tasted good, but worst of all I felt humiliated. I wash myself with water every time I use the bathroom and generally my vagina is in good health so I didn't understand the issue. Whenever I give him head and I swallow, his semen doesn't taste great but it is bearable, yet I would never dream of humiliating him the way he did to me. I understand that honesty is important but you also have to take your partner's feelings into consideration. Ever since then he's gone down on me a few times but again literally for only a few seconds and that's all, now he has totally stopped and doesn't do it anymore which is quite disappointing. I've asked him why he doesn't do it anymore and he said he doesn't like the taste and he doesn't know what he's doing and I sort of just said fair enough, I can't force him if he doesn't want to.

Epsom salt bath once a week. Something about the pH? Anyways, Epsom salt makes everything feel better, a bath is relaxing, and it helps with your lady bits. I'm sure there's an actual scientific way to explain it, but all I know is that it works for me.

Look at it this way, if his junk smelled a bit ripe or tasted bad, you probably wouldnt wanna continue either lol. He definitely could have, and should have been more tactful about it however. Have you changed soaps or washes recently? Had you showered before doing the deed? Dont let one bad experience put you off xo

I mean, it sucks but sometimes it's true. I've had a girlfriend who ate some garlic chips and I had to say no until the smell went away. Another time with another GF, she had to stop mid bj because I happened to be a bit sweaty from earlier and it wasn't pleasant, so we stopped I took a bit of a shower, problem solved! I guess it depends on how he said it. Was is: sorry, the funk got to me but let's look for solutions, or was it blamey and directed to hurt you? I've also experienced having a gf whose general body odor wasn't pleasant. Not dirty or anything, but her personal scent was repelling. It sucked because it took two years for me to finally say something about it (she was devastated, and took it personally) and it took two more years for us to break up because there was nothing either of us could change it. Again, not a hygiene issue, just our antibodies or hormones didn't work together and because she took it so personally (and I knew she would) we never were able to really adress the problem, just try to ignore it until the subconscious resentment built up and it's was not fun emotionally. Maybe this is your case, or may be you guys can give yourselves a wash before sex and solve this problem that way. It's up to you guys to solve, but by being self conscious you're preventing any dialogue towards a solution. Get over yourself. Maybe you just happened to be funky that day, or maybe HE was self-consious about his scent and is projecting. Either way, you can't find a solution unless you talk about one. If he doesn't want to talk, then you've found your solution.

Sounds like he’s extremely immature and inexperienced. He should have bit the bullet and dealt with it. I really doubt it was as bad as he made it seem but regardless, pushing you off and stopping everything is ridiculous and extremely hurtful.

So he insults you mid fucking blowjob then prevents you from leaving “until we can talk” (which actually means until he can defend himself and try to dig out of his hole). THEN when you don’t immediately forgive him and jump on his dick he throws out the “sorry I’m just being honest” card....

This guy is a fucking jerk and you shouldn’t put up with this literal fuckboy anymore.

That is just sad. Don’t take it to heart. I’m sure that if you are as healthy as described that your pussy just tastes like pussy. It’s an acquired taste. If you have ever given a girl head u know it is like licking a battery. It’s a shock the first time. But if you are attracted to her-that’s not a big deal. All pussy is like that. I bet he never had done it before and he is just a prude.

I think the focus here should be less about how to fix your “taste” and more about his reaction. A woman is going to have something different going on down there every single day. Doesn’t always mean there’s something wrong with you. For me it depends on where I am in my cycle.

His reaction? He used “truth” to act cruel. He pushed you away and you have every right to be upset by that. If I were you? I wouldn’t see him again. Have more pride than that, OP. You shouldn’t be with someone who pushes you away in disgust. You don’t need treated that way. Especially by a FWB.

Okay I've been in this situation and it makes you feel awful. I totally get it, it makes you feel like shit and don't want to have oral sex anymore. But he went about it all wrong, and it sounds like he was saying you're gross. Fuck him, find someone who will make you feel amazing because not all guys are like that. Get it girl don't let the fuck boys bring you down ✊

I've had a similar experience with a FWB and my honesty may have prevented her from contracting something as deadly as cancer.

She had a horrible smell down there which prompted me to query and the next day she rushed to the OBGYN only to find that she had some residual tissue paper, yes, you read that right, stuffed up her coochie.

Why, you ask.

According to her she had ran out of tampons and resorted to using toilet paper and didn't realize some of it had been lodged up there and that developed a very bad smell over time.

So if dude gives you a heads up, question everything until you've resolved it.

I have a condition that means I go for regular check ups with the gyne. As everyone else here is saying using soap of any kind is bad. It’s highly recommended to use something called “Epiderm” to wash. Although they say you can just use water I don’t feel clean enough. Since using this honestly the symptoms of my condition and general health down there is better. See if you can find it, I’d recommend it to everyone 😊

I started using probiotics for vaginal health and it made a big difference in the way I smell and taste. Also...

Smell and taste can be so subjective right? Some people think pickles taste great, some people think they are nasty. Some people like the way a certain perfume smells and it makes other people sick. Don't let his opinion ruin your enjoyment and destroy your confidence!

Well I had a girlfriend and she didnt taste good. I told her and she went to the doctor. Turned out she had an yeast infection for years that got overlooked. She took some pills and all was good. Maybe he wasnt gentle enough about it but I still believe he did nothing wrong to tell you. When my cum didnt taste good I got told and it turns out alcohol and smoking has a huge impact on body fluids.

Dont feel embarrassed. Its quite normal that sometimes something is wrong and a good partner should be honest about it. Imagine he wouldnt tell you and just stops going down on you. Now you can investigate the problem.and find out if its something temporary or maybe something more concerning.

I was actually in this exact position with a FWB, while it was embarrassing I’m really grateful he told me because I went to the doctors and turns out I had an infection. He’s my boyfriend now, and we joke about it all the time.

Sounds like he had a strong reaction to it, as a guy, it's never bothered me at all. They come with varying levels of taste and smell. Though I do remember one tasting of curry once, I'm not sure why this was but that wasn't to my taste (excuse the pun). Definitely a dick move on his part being so insensitive about it. You can be honest and not make someone else feel like shit. It shows a lack of maturity in my opinion.

Dated a vegetarian for a while... she tasted like old acidic veggies. It was... unpleasant. Maybe diet has something to do with your case? Who knows - I wouldn't put too much stock in to his opinion anyways.

Uggh, this is a really sensitive thing for you or anybody, but I think he's right, honesty is the best policy in this case. With that said, his delivery is shit, and you likely don't have anything wrong with you, he just probably does not like the way you taste, and that's his own problem, not yours. Plain and simple.

Do you smoke? (Weed or Cigarettes) I noticed a trend in my youth that girls who smoked tasted "different". Also heavily scented hygiene products tend to have a negative effect. Also the dude sounds like a dick. You never tell your girl that.

Tell him to try tasting his own dick. That’s what you should leave him doing after this, anyways.

There’s a way to approach honesty, but he was a fuckhead about it. He should have suggested trying a flavoured lube or something, another way to be gentle about this. That’s fine if he doesn’t like how you taste, but he didn’t need to hurt your feelings like that and then refuse your leaving so he could preach about how he’s the honesty dealer and how you’ve got to accept the card he gave you. Fuck that. He’s an asshole.

You deserve good sex. And you deserve to have good sex with good people. He isn’t a good person. I suggest you find another FWB.

DRINK MORE WATER! I swear to god that drinking more water is correlated with your taste!! (I mean time of month also has to do with it, but less so I swear). The more hydrated you are, the better you taste!! My boyfriend noticed this with me too and we tested it out and it seems to be my taste depends on how hydrated I am. Trust me. It will change your LIFE

The first time im with a new girl to me the taste is always kinda funky no matter how clean she is. It usually the 2nd or 3rd time before I start to enjoy how they taste maybe thats just me. I love going down on my fiance the first time though I almost gagged. Sounds like an asshole move on his part though. I seriously doubt anyone truly enjoys the taste of dick it wasnt stopping you.

Honesty is great, but only about things you can fix easily. He is such an immature little man for bringing up what is really just a personal preference by literally pushing you away and telling you he doesn't like your taste. Every woman tastes differently and you know you're healthy. He can quite literally go fuck himself, because you deserve better.

For sure, your fwb should be a bit more considerate, and it's often hard to know if people are being honest because they think it's the pest policy, or because it's an easy way of being cruel, with plausible deniability.

This being said, aside from that, if you can lose your sex drive because of one incident like that, you seriously need to get your shit back together. The only person responsible for how you feel (mentally) is yourself.

There are great tasting flavored lubes! Whenever you think you’ll get intimate have some with you and do the honors of putting some on yourself. That way it’ll take the urge to feel self conscious away! Down there doesn’t taste “good” it just tastes like something and it varies throughout the month. Don’t allow one bad day to make you feel self conscious it’s okay! Your FWB should’ve been a little less blunt about it. It’s only natural!

There’s something called “tact” which you should teach FWB about.
What a disgusting way to tell someone something so personal!
I’ve been in a relationship with someone similar to this, it really does eat away at your self esteem. It carried on to other relationships but it does improve.
Personally, I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that and if your relationship is focused around sex and you’re not wanting it because of FWB’s comments and actions then it’s kind of a pointless endeavour.

Another point;
Many women use soaps etc to wash and it’s really not necessary.
So, if you do use soap try just rinsing your intimate areas instead.
It could just be that your vagina is reacting to unnecessary hygiene products.

From experience you can be clean and healthy and still taste weird down there. There are multiple soaps and products for you to try and improve that. I mentioned to my wife this same thing and she went out and bought some summers eve (or whatever its called) that is made for the more sensitive areas on a female.

He sounds like an asshole, and I don't think this is worth your time. Yeah honesty is a good thing, but so is tact. And honesty without any bedside manner is just damaging.

If his dick is the smallest you've ever had, it would be an honest statement to tell him. It wouldn't be useful though, and would crush his self esteem.

He sounds like an asshole, and I don't think this is worth your time. Yeah honesty is a good thing, but so is tact. And honesty without any bedside manner is just damaging. And sometimes it's not something that should be commented on.

This is something that can be damning even years from now but it will be ok. I hope hes not too crazy and holds it against you. Otherwise, time for a new one! I have had several partners. And for extended periods of time. Each woman has a different flavor and each woman can taste differently at different times. I hope your self esteem rebounds gracefully. It'll be ok.

I read above you normally use dove....I have the same issue anytime I switch to anything else. I guess it throws my ph off or something but it definitely gets a stronger scent going if I use anything other then dove

Don't be so sensitive. Women make comments about men's dicks all the time and our sex drive does not plummet and we don't have self esteem issues. Just learn to brush this crap out and find a new boyfriend. I am sure there is plenty of good men out there looking for pussy.

FWB should have just stopped oral and flipped you over and used hand actions and avoid the honesty until AFTER you’ve had sex.
Also, how do you know he didn’t have a funky taste in his mouth to begin with? Lol. Best of luck, get a FWB who’s sensitive and smart in the bed.

Regarding your problem my exes Vag changed taste a lot and only once it was too unpleasant to keep going and it turned out she had a UTI, maybe you should get that checked, but trust me vaginas don't taste bad, and no one should push you away just like that because of taste.

If you are in a keto diet that could be the reason?
Maybe you are too clean and you use a lot of soaps and make the chemistry of it change?
Maybe your couple is manipulative and is playing with your fears...

Honestly is the best policy but there is a proper way to deliver their opinion and the incorrect way, he chose the incorrect way. I have been with a few different types of girls with different physiques and when it came to oral they tasted different, some better that others. Don’t completely shut out the possibility of receiving oral cause of this incident

Do the smell test if it’s anything you could smell off of someone’s body through body odor or if someone was cooking and you walked in the room and could smell strong odors you want to avoid on those days and days leading up to oral.

I mean how tactfully can you really do something like that though? I see some people saying he should’ve waited until after & just chowed down anyway and no, just no. What’s worse a simple, “hey we got a problem down here” or having to solider through eating something that tastes bad. There’s no easy way to say something like that & it was probably awkward for him too. One of the funkiest smelling/tasting girls I ever dated just had to clean herself really good down there, like detailed it between the folds & lips. She didn’t have any infections, she was more or less a healthy individual. I’ll probably sound ignorant when I say this but sometimes it’s just more funky down there than others?

This guy sounds like an asshole. Time to find a new FWB. Don’t let him bring you down. As long as you’re using the proper soap (I like dove sensitive) then you should be good. Even if he wanted to be honest or whatever, he could have been nicer about it. That was just low blow. Fuck that guy! Or....stop fucking that guy!

While being deceitful is always bad, it is also true that honesty is not always the best policy. Furthermore, your partner acted without tact and caused you embarrassment with lasting consequences. Your reaction is understandable. I'm kinda mad at him for you....if you cant tell by the tone of my typing

Don't use scented soaps to clean the area and don't put any soap on the actual vagina. Use warm water. It's self cleaning.

Time of the month will have an impact. If you were due on or just done, it'll taste metallic.

You say you eat healthy which is another factor.

Theres also a factor of personal taste.

Honestly some people can just be so blunt about it and he didn't sound like he apologised there either - just complained that he insulted you during sex and didn't like how you took it. Not cool. I'd suggest forgetting his useless, pointless comments and finding yourself a new FWB who is more respectful. Or tell him no BJs with his funky spunk til he grows the hell up and just gets ON with it.

Dairy products such as milk can cause you to smell and taste bad, along with asparagus (ik, pretty random, but when I was in public school, we learned about it in health.). So maybe try to cut down on those things? I hope this helps. Good luck, OP!

It might sound gross, but I always try to remain on top of my smell down there to know what exactly I’m putting out when my boyfriend goes down. When something starts to smell weird to me (and it will because bodies are changeable like that), I try to pinpoint the cause and correct it. Changing smells and tastes down there are completely normal and happen all the time though so it’s a totally natural thing that’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Just don't worry about it. It's not the end of the world and it doesn't mean you're disgustig or anything. Everyone is different and sometimes we don't have control about our bodies.
Talk to your bf and be open about your feelings. It will be okay.

It's good to be honest, it's not good to be blunt about it. We're social creatures, so some emotional intelligence and tact is needed to properly speak "the truth." No one ever hates someone for them being honest, they hate them for being insensitive

Sometimes if the weather is pretty hot and you sweat a little your area can smell a bit. Also, it could be the material of your panties in fact it’s recommended using cotton underwear. Therefore it could be the pH of your area, you should use a soap with acid pH.

You probably didn’t taste good because he had just started and you weren’t even wet, he was probably tasting his own nasty saliva along with maybe some sweat of yours.

That’s kinda rude of him honestly because how many penises have you had that tasted good? Semen doesn’t taste good, balls can get kinda smelly and giving head isn’t all fun and games esp if pubic hair is involved lol. You do it for each other to please each other! And it’s hot because you get to get the other person all hot and bothered and hear them finish!! It’s worth any kind- bad taste imo.

I say dump this fool bc he could be the type that only wants to receive and not give and this was just an excuse so from here on out he doesn’t have to eat you out.

Some guys just don’t like eating girls out and that’s okay but maybe you should find you someone who does.
Good luck op! Please keep us posted

"Had multiple partners in the past...never been an issue" BUT this one time, with one person, now you lost your entire sex drive and can never be eaten out again because one guy doesn't like your flavor? Just really think about how ridiculous you sound.

Well it happens, I’ve dated women that had some funky smells and tastes down there, it happens. Usually a good amount of saliva goes a long way to forget about those problems. Maybe you could try showering together as foreplay and also get clean before any oral happens.

Also, did you wash right before seeing him? Sometimes a long day can leave a not so great smell.

Edit: After reading a few comments I think many people don’t understand what a proper FWB is. It’s not a relationship, that means that feelings do not have to be spared. It’s strictly sex, that’s it. So if he told her right then and there that she didn’t taste good, it’s normal. It’s nothing to take offense about, just something to find out the problem and solve it.

Ehhh it happens. Most of the time my partners have smelled alright, and then there were days when they haven't. Sometimes I've been told I smell or taste sweaty down there even ater a shower. Not a big deal, just stop and move on to something else.

So, real talk here: there are things which can lead to both a man and a woman's cum to taste better or worse, and the biggest factor s one's diet. How has your diet been lately? Do you eat a lot of junk food and meats? Guys make jokes all the time whilst drinking pineapple juice - "my girlfriend likes the taste" - but that is based in the real scientific fact that pineapples happen to be one of the best foods a person can eat to make their cum taste good. I've actually had discussions with women I've been serious with about this, and anecdotally speaking, they can tell when my diet suffers and I can tell when their diet suffers.

Obviously there are a lot of other things that can go into it, but one of the most overlooked - and probably the most important aspect of one's health with or without sex - is diet.

I’m sorry he said that, it’s a real self-esteem killer. But it could be just the smell of sweat. I saw a comment about using unscented soap - but also there are soaps available that are specifically made to be used for the outside labia (pH balanced to prevent both smell and irritation). But the best thing to do is to shower right before oral, it works both ways for both partners too. No one likes a sweaty dick or sweaty pussy ( maybe some people do haha) but showering before will leave you with no scent or taste and will be more enjoyable for both of you

Late to reply but sometimes it's just what you ate that day that makes it particularly more odorous than other days. Things like garlic and onions (which are healthy!) might do that for some people. To be honest, I think some changes people don't really think about might help. These include not using soap on the area at all, just rinse with water when you shower. Also try using only baking soda to wash your clothes - 1/2 or up to 1 cup per full load is plenty, and you can just start with underwear to see if it makes a difference but keep in mind some pants that also lay firmly against your private area can have an effect. Then of course there's food. Much like it is for men, if you avoid foods that are high in yeast or feed yeast (like high-sugar diets, including a lot of fruits and breads), that will also have a positive effect in reducing odor.

In a healthy woman, the natural vaginal environment ist designed to protect you from illnesses. From washing too intensively with cleaning products, this environment might be disturbed. Just water is the best solution. In the beginning, you might feel, that you are smelling stronger, but that's a good thing. Your vaginal fluids contain a lot of pheromones. Pheromones play a huge role in choosing our most suitable partners for reproduction. They are some kind of who we are. Also the taste of your body fluids might change during your cycle. Again, this is perfectly fine!

If he continues not liking your taste, there are a couple of options:

Your vaginal environment is disturbed, f.e. by unhealthy bacteria. You can talk to your Gynaecologist about this, and further options how to build up a heathly vaginal environment again.

The guy is a douchebag and still has a lot to learn about women.

You are not compatible as partners. (You shouldn't see this one too strictly, more like a plausible explanation, if other things aren't adding up either.)

Some dudes just don’t like the taste. I really wouldn’t worry too much about it. Guys who enjoy doing that wouldn’t have that reaction unless it was really bad I feel like. Which that doesn’t seem to be the case here.

I just had a talk with a couple of male friends about that! They all agreed that they love some womens smell and they think it's nasty from others. In german we got the phrase "I can't smell that person" means you don't like them. Looks like that phrase doesn't come from nowhere.
I understand how insecure it made you feel and I can also relate a lot that even though you agree with being honest is important, it hurt you and that's normal. I reckon specially because we aren't used to it that people are that direct, we get very surprised. If everyone would be like that it probably also wouldn't have hurt you because you would have as well believed all the other guys telling you they like your smell.
So don't worry. HE just didn't like your smell, others will even like it.

You said you want honesty, how is this too much honesty? I see why you’re hurt but it’s definitely something you guys should be able to discuss. I get why you’re hurt, I’m a guy so I can’t totally relate, but I do definitely understand why you’re hurt.

Still, maybe discuss with him? Maybe he doesn’t know what it should taste like? Maybe you had a bad day down there? There’s a lot of info still left unsaid.

There is such a thing as flavored lubes which can help things taste better... Plus most people don't taste like lollypops and rainbows down there. It's something that is more of an acquired taste that I've come to enjoy so his opinion might change with time. Also, getting rid of the hair down there seems to improve the taste in my opinion.

Honestly being a person who enjoys going down on women i have never once had a girl "not taste good" . I think some guys who don't like to do it say that just as an excuse, same as women who don't like giving bjs. He was very insensitive for sure to tell you that, even if he is just a FWB

This dude acts like dick & cum isn't the nastiest tasting crap on the planet. Meanwhile I've never met a pussy that tasted bad. I'm sure your pussy tastes just fine, sounds like he's just being a pissbaby and is trying his hardest to never get head again. You should never give him head every again for his bullshit honestly.

If you're that worried, you can taste it for yourself by sticking a finger in and taking a lick. If it just tastes like pussy, you're probably good. Maybe he just doesn't like the taste of V in general.

I agree that the initial shock of being told something like this might be a hurdle.
However I firmly believe he did the right thing by telling you.
It opens possibilities for you to both explore other options and/or is an indication that something like your pH values might be off for various reasons.

An uncaring individual might have not said anything and then begun to lose his/her own drive and it would result in drifting apart etc etc.

Hope things work out for you both.

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I realise I glossed over the FWB, and I agree that some tact should have also been applied and that the fwb could have chosen a more appropriate time.

I would use his honesty to your advantage. Try all the different ways suggested in this thread to help. Make him your personal "taste tester" and dont be shy about it. He said he wants honesty so use that to your advantage so down the road if this relationship is no longer working you know how to correct it moving forward (especially for someone you care about more than FWB).

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Also, personally I like to shower before and after sex lol. No soap before just warm water. Also, maybe this is his first time? How old are yall? Pussy doesnt taste like strawberries and I assume dick and our cum doesnt taste like pineapples. Maybe if you guys are young he needs that reminder... lol

Hey! Make sure to use soap specially made for genital regions. They're more sensitive to the skin and tissue. What probably happened was you were using soap for a long time that was too strong and it started eliminating the microbes in your nether regions. Those microbes are essential in fighting fungi. Even though you may not have a severe fungal infection like a yeast infection you could still have some there that are contributing to the funny taste.

I don't know about this one. On one hand, it's good that he let you know why he doesn't want to eat you out. On the other hand, he could have withstood the taste for a bit and never eaten you out ever again. Sounds like you would prefer the latter, but got the former.

What do you partly agree with? That honesty is the best policy or that people don't appreciate honesty?

I mean, either one is bullshit. He could have been honest without being a fuckwad and people do appreciate honesty, just not when it's fucking insulting.

If you were in the middle of having sex and you just pushed him away and said, "Eh, not feeling it. Your dick isn't satisfying enough.". His reaction would be similar. Why? Because we're self conscious of these body parts and to have someone chip at our self esteem, like that, is shitty.

There is definitely something to be said about people being attracted to certain pheromones. Where one person may find your smell just ok or not attractive, another person will be intensely turned on by it.
Not saying don’t get checked up or have the chat FWB about that approach.. just keep in mind that your chemistry may just not be there hormone wise.

It seems like this is a HIM problem. If nobody else takes issue with it, and you're clean, smell ok, and personally think you taste ok, it probably isn't abnormal. Some days I taste like another commenter said, licking a battery. Other days nothing, basically water.
Maybe he caught you on a "bad" day (battery days).
Maybe he has a problem with how vaginas taste in general.
Maybe you didn't notice that you hadn't cleaned very well that particular day.
In either case- unless you seriously do have an issue which you haven't expressed- not your problem that vaginas are acidic.
Cum can taste like shit too sometimes.

I've been with my fair share of women and every vagina is different every day of the week. I'm sure there are tons of factors that play into smell, taste, etc. But the fact that he cast you aside and basically embarrassed you and made you feel insecure tells me this guy might be quite the asshole. I'm all for honesty is the best policy, but there are things you just dont say to a woman especially one that you love and this would be it.

I mean I love eating my girlfriend and her taste isn’t offensive or anything but even I wouldn’t classify it as good. Tbh this guy just blurted out some dumb cringe shit. Don’t worry about it or get in your head about it.

Good god this guy sucks. Reminds me of my ex. We were walking around the park with friends and talking about sex. Out of the blue he made a comment that I smell like fish. I was like, “dude what are you talking about?” Then he TAPS MY VAGINA and says “sorry, SHE smells like fish.” Like, excuse me for getting a yeast infection one time. Dumped. Like you should do to this guy. Wether it’s your soap or he has bad taste, there was ZERO reason for him to say that to you in the middle of sex.

You could have had a different taste in that moment. Was this the first time for him?

That whole bit about honesty that he spoke about is a bunch of bullshit and he didn’t need to say it.

I bury my face in my wife when she’s ready. I know most women do a lot to make themselves clean down there. Sometimes it’s soapy, yeah, but I really don’t care and neither should he. He should be more specific next time instead of just saying “oh you taste bad” like a fuckin goof.

They have feminine soaps specifically for the vagina. Some that ever regulate the PH balance. It does change depending on the time of month. I notice I have a stronger scent and taste a week after my period has ended. I use feminine wash only once in awhile I will use it after my period is over just to make it smell all pretty and it feels cleaner. But that's only once a month if that. I only rinse with water which is what you are supposed to. Never wash down there with any other soaps besides ones made for that. Even if it is unscented it can fuck with the PH balance causing yeast infections or bad smells or taste. Even irritation and pain. The guy was being a dick. No offense but guys rarely smell or taste good unless they showered right before. Unless they eat amazing and drink lots of water their cum they beg you to swallow can taste like something died and you just poured salt on it. But I never would be rude and say that in the moment or what ever. I have only said something once and it was after and I asked about their diet lately and then said they tasted a bit different and that's it.

Allow me to be 100% honest and share some wisdom gleaned from experience. I am 50 years old, and have been with a fair number of women of all ages, shapes, sizes, ethnicities etc - everyone's definition of fair will differ but mine is less than 50 but more than 20. That said, I have only encountered in that time only one woman who had an issue....one. I highly doubt you do. Sounds like the guy is an asshole. Even if you do/did, he's a tactless asshole any way for the way in which he addressed the issue you describe.

You can have vaginosis without knowing it. I’d check the smell/taste yourself to see if anything is off. Could be a medical thing.

That said, he handled it horribly. You never tell someone your being intimate with something insulting. And like everyone else said...taste/smell varies. I’ve swallowed some loads that were awful but I’d never tell a guy that. There’s ways to have a mature and kind talk about something if it’s an issue, not shove them off you and say what he said.

Was this your first encounter? Was this the first time he’s given you oral? My opinion, don’t see this guy again. You’ll be on your toes the whole time worried he’ll say something else that hurts your feelings.

Honesty IS the best policy, but you don’t have to de a jerk about it. Move on honey...like you said you’ve never had an issue before so don’t let this one schmuck give you a complex.

Had a similar issue with my ex-GF. Turned out she had bacterial vaginosis which is easily cured with some antibiotics. Go to your doc and ask about it. As for your FWB it's nice he's honest but probably could have gone about it a nicer way. Ex-GF was also embarrassed but i was right back to doing the deed and tasted great.

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Had a similar issue with my ex-GF. Turned out she had bacterial vaginosis which is easily cured with some antibiotics. Go to your doc and ask about it. As for your FWB it's nice he's honest but probably could have gone about it a nicer way. Ex-GF was also embarrassed but i was right back to doing the dead and tasted great.

Ugh, the struggle is real with the cunnalingus hygene. I understand it might cut down on the romance factor but I always try to shower before letting my man down there. For my comfort and for his because lets face it, I'm not so sure I would wanna bury my face in there either lol. As for his comment, yikes. I mean its so nice that honesty is important to him, perhaps suggesting next time he speak his truth a little gentler because hello.. feelings? Try not to let it bother you, that particular female organ can change with the slightest PH imbalance. I'm sure you'll be fresh as a bed of roses the next time, PLEASE make sure there is a next time because life is FAR too short to let our insecurities make us miss out on some good lovin' ;)

I was having this conversation with a friend recently. She has never had any scent related issues and has been with the same partner for a about a year now i think and he told her that she tasted off for some reason... she got her period a couple days later. Could it have been due to that? and if so it's not something you can really control, it's hormonal. Either way as a women so many things ca cause stronger scent or taste. type of detergent, tight pants, working out in thongs, allergies to different foods, diet... it could be multiple things. Not sure if you have communicated things with friends or professionals but the more research you do, the more comfortable you might become.

Advice from someone who had a similar douchy FWB, if he constantly puts you down by the things he says (which it sounds like because it’s affected you that much), I’d go find someone else.

Not only did my previous FWB shatter my self esteem with some of the things he said, but he was wrong in a lot of ways too. The guy I’m currently with is much nicer and gasses me up way more and I feel more confident about myself and my body.

Fuck guys like that, they’ll always be douches.

Edit - it’s still always good to practice good hygiene down there too. I’d suggest r/healthyhooha for advice on that.

There have been times where I've thought this with my fwb, but it really just depends on circumstance. Some days it'll be fine, and good, and other days it won't taste so good. I've noticed that those days are usually the days right before or after her time of the month.

I'm sure she thinks the same things about my dick, but in both circumstances some things are better left unsaid.

The only time I've said anything was during an unfortunate circumstance when I realised about half was through that my fingers were covered on blood. I mentioned that and she just shrugged it off. I didn't overly care, but I made sure to crack the window and keep my mouth far from that area.

Agreeing with everyone here that you can taste differently due to so many factors. There's nothing wrong with you.

I'm sorry he was so unnecessarily blunt about it. I hate when people say something hurtful and then throw "I was just being honest" at you. You can be honest without being hurtful. He could have asked if you ate something weird or were around your cycle, said he wasn't enjoying the taste, and go back to just a blow job. Also, at the beginning of oral you're going to taste whatever is on the labia and vulva. Just sitting for a while or wearing tight clothes can make the taste and smell different. You could have a little dried pee there. It's totally normal.
I understand you're upset and you have the right to be. He was unkind. That's upsetting and hurtful when it's someone you care about and who cares about you.

Please don't let this get you down. You're a fucking goddess who deserves all the sex.

Try using only soaps that are made for that zone. Try different brands, but they are the most gentle and don't alter your ph balance. Also, maybe freshen up before you start? Go to the restroom and clean with a wet baby towel or just a bit of water to make sure you're always clean. My bf and I always clean up super good before we do anything; it might not be as spontaneous but it's better than being already into it and then having to stop to go wash up because we don't smell/taste good.

I have noticed that some women taste not bad but different. They should do a study 😂 I noticed that my ex wife tasted unpleasant to me and i have only had that issue with her. I havent found it to be an issue with anyone else since.

As was already said here before, you don't need to worry, hormones fluctuate, Ph balances sway, there is nothing you can do about that, sometimes it will happen where taste or smell changes. This has happened in my life, albeit I didn't handle it the way your partner did, I just slowly moved away from the situation by advancing the play to something that did not involve oral, I never mentioned it to her and decided I wouldn't unless it was something that happened more than once or twice.

People who are brutally honest are generally much more interested in being brutal than being honest. Your FwB doesn’t seem very nice!

But my biggest recommendation would be unscented soap. Me and my partner had this issue once and switching to unscented soap fixed it 100%. Although, everyone’s body is different so it may take some experimentation to see what works best for you. Good luck!

Sometimes you have to learn to like the other persons taste. Sometimes the first time is the worst. Then you get used to it and then never notice again. That’s happened in some relationships I e been in. Don’t change anything. It’s his problem. Give me your info. I’ll finished where he left off : )

You should also consider that you might not be compatible from biological point of view. Sometimes it happens that a person smells “off” to you and it has nothing to do with personal hygiene. Similarly, sometimes you smell extremely good to someone to the point where they sniff you. I can imagine how it would translate to “taste” as well.

So, if you know that you’re healthy, on a good diet, and your personal hygiene is on point then I wouldn’t worry too much about it. You should definitely not fear oral sex.

That being said, that guy is an insensitive jerk and I’d dump him. It’s one thing to gently bring it up and different to straight-up say “yuck, you taste terrible”.

Yeah, he was being a dick. Even if you do have something wrong he could have been tactful about it. I don't get the guys on here saying that pussy tastes good- genitals taste pretty gross to me. I still give oral because it's not bad enough to hinder my enjoyment- I still enjoy giving my partner pleasure even if their junk doesn't taste like candy and sunshine.

I’d view it completely different than you are. Him telling you is a blessing. You don’t want him sugar coating it do you? Others in the past may not have said anything, but that doesn’t mean they liked your taste, only that they didn’t express their thoughts (probably out of fear you’d act like you did in this post).

OP, you are overreacting this one. Vowing to never let anyone giving you oral just because a fuckbuddy said you don't taste good? Come on... I don't love the taste of a vagina either, but since I don't have a 6 inch dick, I go down on my partners regularly and they love it. Your guy should do the same, IMO. That part with being honest is somewhat bullshit, but I wouldn't say he is a jerk. Anyway, if everybody would behave like you, vowing to never accept something sexual just because the experience was bad or they were rejected, nobody would have sex. Ever. Check yourself, if everything is ok, talk to him and if he insists on not going down because of your taste, just let it go. Also, I don't recommend 69. You have to concentrate on doing your part properly and enjoying, too and it's hard. But you do you

It’s just hard because I deal with major self-esteem issues already and I’ve always been afraid of not tasting good. It was my worst nightmare realized basically. I guess I shouldn’t say I’ll never let anyone go down on me again but I will definitely not let him again

Do not stay with someone or continue with someone who damages your self esteem like this. Even if it was an accident. Your mental health is more important than getting some vitamin D trust me girl. I was just like you. Thankfully I got free counseling in university and learned how to combat my self esteem issues. and honestly even though I ran into some pretty bad depression I have NEVER felt worse than I did before I went to therapy for my self esteem. Never. It is probably the biggest most influential thing that happened to me, as an introverted dork who always worried about what other people thought growing up. A high sex drive is not enough to make up for your self esteem issues. I also had and have a high sex drive, it actually made it worse because i wasn't pursuing sex for my own sake, if that makes sense. I tried taking pride in how much men liked my sexual performance instead of prioritizing my own enjoyment and finding partners who actually care about me more than just a fleshlight

If you lack self esteem issues staying with a fwb is not a good idea. I’ve done it on and off for years and it was noting but heartache. I know this isn’t the issue but in the long run and for your own well being I’d stop sleeping with this guy.

Don't let him do anything sexual with you either. He doesn't deserve it, he's not owed any relationship fixing because you're not even together. Spend your emotional energy fixing, maintaining and creating meaningful relationships, a FWB is not it.

That guy handled it like a dope. I've eaten stinky ass with a smile on my face because intimacy is hard for a lot of people, and those comments can really mess up someone's sexual confidence. I also am clean and eat well and have had troubles in the odor department down there. Here is what I did, and it has worked wonders.

2) Nightly vaginal suppositories of boric acid. You can get them on Amazon. They make your vagina more acidic, which kills the bad bacteria and allows the good, nice-smelling bacteria to flourish. Since I started this regimen, I have been told I have the best smelling kitty cat ever. (Note: insert at least 5 hours before intercourse to allow it time to do its magic and to avoid overly-acidic discharge.)

This solution is all-natural, recommended by OBs who have treated women who don't want to take antibiotics, and it worked WONDERS for me. I hope it helps you, too!

1) Castille soap on vagina. No other kinds. The detergents in regular soap mess up your natural bacterial balance and allow bad, stinky bacteria to grow.

2) Nightly vaginal suppositories of boric acid. You can get them on Amazon. They make your vagina more acidic, which kills the bad bacteria and allows the good, nice-smelling bacteria to flourish. Since I started this regimen, I have been told I have the best smelling kitty cat ever. (Note: insert at least 5 hours before intercourse to allow it time to do its magic.)

"The difference between honesty and cruelty is tact." Being honest doesn't give you leave to say whatever you wish without consequences. So it was done in poor taste and could have been better said. However, if there's a reason you do taste "off" it could be for health reasons. So, I would make sure everything is ok south of the border by visiting a gyno.

Also, everyone has insecurities. Don't let one person's opinion dictate your life. He could be wrong, or, could be not the one for you.

Wash your junk. Instead of crumbling under the horrific notion of honesty and feedback, why don't you show some goddamn appreciation for being treated like an adult and actually talked to? Half the problems on this sub exist becuse people are too afraid to talk to one another. So. Now you know what's up, figure out how to correct it, and drive on havine no-strings-attached-sex with your friend.

Bit of a dick move on his part. But eat pineapple or fruit in general, you could have the cleanest hotdog parlour going sometimes a little fem fresh does the trick. Side note I remember my ex girls doctor telling her some women have a pH in balance like high acidity or something along those lines that can cause smell or bad taste. Don't worry about it or what he said.

Well it’s not like dick tastes like candy either. He shouldn’t do it just for the taste. That’s weird. He should do it because it’s pleasuring for you or him. Kind of an odd thing for him to say, unless you really just taste or smell foul. Which from what you’re saying, that’s not the case. Tbh, he sounds a bit insensitive.

I mean if a vagina tastes bad (not like a normal vagina) something is wrong. It could mean infection or something else is going on. If a vagina tastes like a normal vagina (which OP says she gets regularly checked and never had any other complaints) I'm assuming it's him. Some guys taste differently so who knows. Maybe he couldn't handle it? He definitely could have been nicer about it. I've been down on girls and they all taste differently but I've never tasted a bad one. And if I had I definitely wouldn't be rude about it.

Had a FWB who tasted AMAZING like this girl was sweet as fuck, and no vag smell.

Only two partners in my life have tasted great. The only time I ever mentioned my partners taste was when she was good. Your FWB is a cock, he's there to boost your self esteem and confidence not tear it down. Find yourself a new one if he really doesn't like your taste.

There is also the chance that you guys just aren’t compatible chemically.
Nothing wrong with that. It’s a thing.
More likely FWB is a selfish ass. People who are asses under the guise of “honesty” are high-ranking asses. You’re not a James Beard nominated chef cooking dishes down there, you’re a human with a body that has natural smells and tastes. He probably isn’t much of a culinary explorer is he? Probably gets chicken fingers with honey mustard at Chinese buffets.
All jokes aside, seriously do not let this bother you as much as you are.

I don’t know why everyone is so hostile in this thread. I’d say nobody wants to be told that, but me, personally I would want to know and fix it this making me overall more desirable in the long run. If I were you, I would look at this as an opportunity to improve your taste not only for your fwb, but possibly future guys who might think that you taste really good. Food for thought in my opinion. Good luck and definitely don’t take it to heart, he probably just wants to give you oral badly, but would like to communicate with you on an adult level.

Well that was fucking blunt of him. There is a difference between honesty and just unfiltered reactions. He was rude. That is not what real honesty is. Because all things can be brought with tact.

And btw. Everyone tastes different down there at any given time of the month. And I always wash up before doing that. I think it is considerate for my partner and it makes me less self conscious. You don't have to be ready to go at any given time :)

Did you just get your period recently? There is post-period odor, which is more prone to those with pubic hair. So your period might be over but there will be left over smell. Wait 24 hours and you should be good to go. If the smell lasts longer, it might be an infection

Most men don't realize this, but even though they don't have the same equipment as females, and even when they've showered, they don't always smell like roses down there either. Please don't let his inconsiderate words affect your self esteem. There are plenty of men who truly appreciate and are even totally turned on by the natural smell and taste of female genitalia. His lack of respect for your feelings and the change it affected in you are good reasons for you to look elsewhere for that level of of intimacy. He's the one with problem, not you.

Two things here. 1 I'm almost positive a the taste of a man's region changes too. 2. These things happen could be a lot of factors he should have manned up or just say he wasn't comfortable. Literally, the skin will taste different from when you just showered to diet. Type of soap can do it. Remember it was his idea don't let him ruin this for you.