“Blood, Sweat & Heels” star Demetria Lucas D’Oyley has left her husband after just three years of marriage.

The Bravo personality, 37, revealed the summer split in a new Facebook post, saying, “I woke up on my birthday in July and instead of celebrating, I was thinking of ways to die. Our marriage had been in shambles for nearly a year. I think it’s tacky to drag a partner or spouse publicly, so that’s all I have to say about that.”

She said that after telling friends about the separation, many asked if the marriage had been abusive. “He didn’t beat me. I only mention that because a surprising number of people have asked, and upon hearing he didn’t, have encouraged me to work it out. Apparently being beat on is the only acceptable reason to leave your husband. So what if a woman is perpetually unhappy, keeping a husband is far more important than that.”

The author married Greg D’Oyley in 2014 and appeared in on the show in 2015. She later confessed that she didn’t watch the episode where Greg got into a spat with her cast mate Geneva S. Thomas.