Yeah but I feel like that's an impossible thing to target...unless I message her something like "will you dominate and humiliate me mommy" which I imagine would have her running in the opposite direction.

I met up with a Domme chick at her place once. Turns out she was a femdom escort and she lived with her 2 femdom escort friends. They were 27, 25 and 19. Ending up having a kooky 4some (free obviously). Even these so called dommes were yearning to be submissive at the end of the day. It's in all women's nature