All I have ever wanted is to become pregnant. I found out that I was five days ago. I am now feeling really down and anxious. The pregnancy was...

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I found out that I was five days ago. I am now feeling really down and anxious.

The pregnancy wasn’t planned, but my husband says that we will cope. I even rang a clinic in one hour of desperation for an abortion but two days later cancelled.

Is it normal to be so scared and frightened with your first pregnancy?

All I ever wanted was a baby now that the reality had arrived I find myself feeling sick and worried just looking at children.

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What is wrong with me?

Answer

I'm so sorry to hear about this conflict of emotions you are suffering, just when you seem to have achieved your heart's desire.

I am sure that many of the conflicting emotions you are feeling are down to the fact that you are pregnant – women can get many disturbed emotions even in early pregnancy, with all the rapid hormone changes that are going on.

I don't think what you are experiencing is that uncommon, and I don't think there is anything wrong with you – it is an emotional time and a big responsibility – but I am sure you will quickly settle down.

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If you and your husband are together in this, and you really want this baby, then just give it time for you to get used to the idea, and then you can relax and start to enjoy your new status as a pregnant mum and start looking forward to having your new baby.

You should contact the community midwife soon – your practice will tell you how to do this – and of course if you continue to be fearful of your emotions, then go and have a chat with your doctor.

But I'm sure everything will turn out ok and you will wonder what this phase was all about later on.

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