" I don't need a man." Is it really a turn off?

Guys, you've probably heard a girl say one time or another that she doesn't need a man. How does this phrase sound to you? is it a turn off? The way I interpret this is that this girl is content with being single, but if she was in a relationship she'd need HER man. I've heard men say they like a women who can hold out on their own and others who say that they want a women who needs a man in there life. Which one is it?

Most Helpful Guy

Yes, it's a turn off. I can't stand it when I hear girls say this. I interpret it as if they think that men have nothing to offer them, so why bother getting married. So, of course this annoys me because men (including myself) certainly have A LOT to offer a woman. Will I do some stupid things, we'll yeah most definitely. Hell, I'll probably do some real stupid things, but that doesn't mean that I don't have other positive qualities/characteristics.

I like confident and independent women who are not full of themselves. They DON'T NECESSARILY NEED A MAN in their lives, but want one because they're not ultra feminists who believe that men are meaningless, unnecessary, or just obsessed with sports. Basically a girl with good perspective on life.

I respect women who're independent and take of themselves. These are the type of women whom I'm generally more attracted to because they're more capable to survive in society without financial help from their parents, government, or friends. This would mean that they don't absolutely NEED a man to take care of them because they're fully capable of taking care of themselves.

However, when a woman says "I don't need a man," I interpret it as if they're saying that men have nothing to contribute whatsoever. They're saying that they already know everything any man would know and more. It's comparable to people who say they never need help on anything because they know how to do everything all by themselves. And this is certainly not true, so no person with accurate perspective on life would say such a thing.

It really wouldn't matter to me. The way i see it is every person has gotten threw there life so far without a significant other. I don't think most women need their man to be just fine. So any women that in my opinion actually comes out and says this, probably has a grudge in my opinion, so i would probably avoid them.

Yeah it's a turn off. If you don't need a man, then I won't try to go after you. Whenever I hear "I'm an independent woman who don't need nobody", I wonder what good I would be to her if she apparently doesn't need anyone, and move on to the next girl.

Big turn off, if she "doesnt need a man" then have fun being single/lesbian and stop complaining about guys.

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Yeah its a turns off.

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Anonymous

Yes, it is a turnoff. She sounds hard and cold. Not feminine and warm.

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Opinion Owner

I wonder how you would feel if a guy said "I don't need a woman". first off why do you feel the need to say it secondly it seems like you would leave a relationship quickly, because you don't need it. It is a signal that here is a problem ahead, i would be like 'okay... I'm outta here '.

What Girls Said 2

It can go both ways. A girl who says it is probably someone who needs one but doesn't want to show the guy that they do. Insecurity is loud while confident is silent. But a woman who shows a guy that she doesn't need him by her actions can get her statement across in a right way. Cause at the end of the day we all know a man needs a woman and a woman needs a man.. that is how the world evolves