Survivors of Domestic Violence (continued)

Meet Pauline

I lived in denial for months until he tried to strangle me to death. I found New Beginnings and they helped me move away from my abusive situation. They taught me it wasn't my fault, and I could take care of myself. It took me a long time to get over the guilt I felt at becoming involved in an abusive relationship at 60 years old.

My friends didn't hold it against me, but I was embarrassed and ashamed. My family was angry enough to go after my abuser! But with their strength, the strength I found in my faith, and the support I found at New Beginnings, I now know about self worth. Because I was in an abusive relationship, I can understand why others cannot leave abusers until it's the right time. Using myself as an example, I let others know that abuse they suffer is not their fault. I speak in general about domestic violence; its warning signs, how to cope, how to get help and how to survive. I know that every time I speak to a group, I change the lives of others. There's usually someone in the group who has experienced abuse, and because of my courage she'll come forward and tell her story. That's what's so gratifying about my work now. I am living proof that you can move on and be much better off.