It seems like Tinuviel is safe? So it's down to Niniane versus Belphoebe?

Why not try them out? See if the smush worry is actually a problem-- if anyone (relatively trusted versus strangers) asks you what you're considering, say 'Belphoebe" or "Niniane" and measure their reactions.

Yeah, that's a great idea. Thanks, Bladey. I don't know which one is safe... I have four months left (exactly! today!), so I know I'm not in a rush, I just want to sit on the names for a while, let them grow with me a bit before I meet my child.

uniquenamelover: I love Illyria too, it sounds so happy. I don't think I'll use Columbine, it's a very cute flower, but it symbolizes folly, I don't want that. And I know about that shooting, don't want that connection either. We have other ideas for middles...