Forum Discussions - The Empathy Foundation Network2019-05-25T15:16:32Zhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/forum/topic/list?feed=yes&amp%3Bxn_auth=noBanning the physical punishment of children in Australiatag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2012-06-15:2732146:Topic:228682012-06-15T12:46:23.236ZTatiana Schildhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/TatianaSchild
<p>Here is a document with references and links re banning the physical punishment of children in Australia for those of you who are interested in this campaign - see next post for the link.</p>
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<p>Here is a document with references and links re banning the physical punishment of children in Australia for those of you who are interested in this campaign - see next post for the link.</p>
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<p> </p> Share your empathy stories here!tag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2011-08-01:2732146:Topic:110722011-08-01T12:10:26.084ZAlice Airdhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/AliceAird
<p>What is your personal experience of empathy day to day?</p>
<p>When do you experience yourself or others being empathic?</p>
<p>What form does empathy take in your life?</p>
<p>Have you stories about empathy to share? </p>
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<p>Also lets ask question here and learn from each other.</p>
<p>Lets gather together the wisdom of our own experience!</p>
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<p>lots of love, Alice</p>
<p>What is your personal experience of empathy day to day?</p>
<p>When do you experience yourself or others being empathic?</p>
<p>What form does empathy take in your life?</p>
<p>Have you stories about empathy to share? </p>
<p> </p>
<p>Also lets ask question here and learn from each other.</p>
<p>Lets gather together the wisdom of our own experience!</p>
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<p>lots of love, Alice</p> Treat sick with empathytag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2011-06-16:2732146:Topic:92752011-06-16T03:33:34.336ZAlice Airdhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/AliceAird
<br></br><font size="-1"><a style="text-decoration: none; color: #777777;">Daily Nation</a><br></br>Private hospitals and clinics are profit-making ventures. They are, indeed, supposed to give handsome returns to the investors. Without this, there would be very few of them around. It defeats logic, therefore, for anyone to expect them to treat <b>...…</b><br></br></font>
<br/><font size="-1"><a style="text-decoration: none; color: #777777;">Daily Nation</a><br/>Private hospitals and clinics are profit-making ventures. They are, indeed, supposed to give handsome returns to the investors. Without this, there would be very few of them around. It defeats logic, therefore, for anyone to expect them to treat <b>...</b><br/><a style="color: #228822;" href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=X&amp;q=http://news.google.com.au/news/story%3Fncl%3Dhttp://www.nation.co.ke/oped/Editorial/-/440804/1180846/-/l25gfe/-/%26hl%3Den%26geo%3Dau&amp;ct=ga&amp;cad=CAcQAxgAIAAoBjAHOAdAs5ri7wRIAVAAWABiBWVuLUFV&amp;cd=gxXs43Ltoz0&amp;usg=AFQjCNFKGX_gJPqguk6E5wta6UETcvfXUA" title="http://news.google.com.au/news/story?ncl=http://www.nation.co.ke/oped/Editorial/-/440804/1180846/-/l25gfe/-/&amp;hl=en&amp;geo=au" target="_blank">See all stories on this topic »</a></font> From Hitler to Mother Teresa: 6 Degrees of Empathytag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2011-06-16:2732146:Topic:95712011-06-16T03:29:16.389ZAlice Airdhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/AliceAird
<p><br></br><a style="text-decoration: none; color: #777777;"><font size="-1">New York Times…</font></a><a href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=X&amp;q=http://www.boston.com/ae/books/articles/2011/06/09/book_review_simon_baron_cohen_examines_the_root_of_all_evil_a_lack_of_empathy/&amp;ct=ga&amp;cad=CAcQAxgAIAAoATAGOAZAs5ri7wRIAVAAWABiBWVuLUFV&amp;cd=gxXs43Ltoz0&amp;usg=AFQjCNGBiiTWVbQPE7cK2P9xWms6tmlMyQ" style="color: #1111cc;" target="_blank"></a></p>
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<p><br/><a style="text-decoration: none; color: #777777;"><font size="-1">New York Times</font></a><a style="color: #1111cc;" href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=X&amp;q=http://www.boston.com/ae/books/articles/2011/06/09/book_review_simon_baron_cohen_examines_the_root_of_all_evil_a_lack_of_empathy/&amp;ct=ga&amp;cad=CAcQAxgAIAAoATAGOAZAs5ri7wRIAVAAWABiBWVuLUFV&amp;cd=gxXs43Ltoz0&amp;usg=AFQjCNGBiiTWVbQPE7cK2P9xWms6tmlMyQ" target="_blank"></a></p>
<p><a style="color: #1111cc;" href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=X&amp;q=http://www.boston.com/ae/books/articles/2011/06/09/book_review_simon_baron_cohen_examines_the_root_of_all_evil_a_lack_of_empathy/&amp;ct=ga&amp;cad=CAcQAxgAIAAoATAGOAZAs5ri7wRIAVAAWABiBWVuLUFV&amp;cd=gxXs43Ltoz0&amp;usg=AFQjCNGBiiTWVbQPE7cK2P9xWms6tmlMyQ" target="_blank">Examining the root of all evil: a lack of <b>empathy</b></a><br/><font size="-1"><a style="text-decoration: none; color: #777777;">Boston Globe</a><br/>Simon Baron-Cohen, a leading autism researcher and a psychology professor at
the University of Cambridge, seeks to push us toward a more nuanced<br />
understanding of the worst of human behavior in “The Science of Evil: On<br />
<b>Empathy</b> and the Origins of Cruelty <b>...</b></font><font size="-1"><br/>“My main goal is to understand human cruelty, replacing the unscientific term 'evil' with the scientific term '<b>empathy</b>,' ” he writes at the beginning of the book, which might be seen as expanding on the views on <b>empathy</b> expressed in his 1997 book, <b>...</b><br/><a style="color: #228822;" href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=X&amp;q=http://news.google.com.au/news/story%3Fncl%3Dhttp://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/14/science/14scibks.html%26hl%3Den%26geo%3Dau&amp;ct=ga&amp;cad=CAcQAxgAIAAoBjACOAJAs5ri7wRIAVAAWABiBWVuLUFV&amp;cd=gxXs43Ltoz0&amp;usg=AFQjCNEZsTfZqg1ePTmvwWHP_kQhvI7RGg" title="http://news.google.com.au/news/story?ncl=http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/14/science/14scibks.html&amp;hl=en&amp;geo=au" target="_blank">See all stories on this topic »</a></font></p>
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<p><font size="-1"><br/><a style="color: #228822;" href="http://www.google.com/url?sa=X&amp;q=http://news.google.com.au/news/story%3Fncl%3Dhttp://www.boston.com/ae/books/articles/2011/06/09/book_review_simon_baron_cohen_examines_the_root_of_all_evil_a_lack_of_empathy/%26hl%3Den%26geo%3Dau&amp;ct=ga&amp;cad=CAcQAxgAIAAoBjAGOAZAs5ri7wRIAVAAWABiBWVuLUFV&amp;cd=gxXs43Ltoz0&amp;usg=AFQjCNEAauJWQuaRwHjQ_T7Zg5cLUUeF5g" title="http://news.google.com.au/news/story?ncl=http://www.boston.com/ae/books/articles/2011/06/09/book_review_simon_baron_cohen_examines_the_root_of_all_evil_a_lack_of_empathy/&amp;hl=en&amp;geo=au" target="_blank"><br/></a></font></p> Alloparenting - How to build a parenting communitytag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2011-05-06:2732146:Topic:76082011-05-06T05:16:57.728ZJosette O'Donnellhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/JosetteODonnell
<p><a href="http://www.naturalparenting.com.au/flex/a-parenting-community/7930/1" target="_blank">Natural parenting - how to build a parenting community</a></p>
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<p>One of the most incredible things I have found about being a parent so far is how wonderful it is to connect with other parents who are also vividly engaging with the parenting journey! I have been lucky to have made many connections in the area that I live but I realise that this is not always easy for new parents to do. So…</p>
<p><a href="http://www.naturalparenting.com.au/flex/a-parenting-community/7930/1" target="_blank">Natural parenting - how to build a parenting community</a></p>
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<p>One of the most incredible things I have found about being a parent so far is how wonderful it is to connect with other parents who are also vividly engaging with the parenting journey! I have been lucky to have made many connections in the area that I live but I realise that this is not always easy for new parents to do. So how do we go about building these connections and building trust in our care for each other's childrens? We are looking for information out there about it...this discussion is a starting point for anyone from the EF network that would like to add some material</p> Empathy’s Natural, but Nurturing It Helpstag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2010-02-25:2732146:Topic:48882010-02-25T10:53:23.000ZAlice Airdhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/AliceAird
<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/16/health/16brod.html?src=twt&amp;twt=nytimesscience">New York Times article worth reading<br/></a>
<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/16/health/16brod.html?src=twt&amp;twt=nytimesscience">New York Times article worth reading<br/></a> Click to help Haititag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2010-01-24:2732146:Topic:48802010-01-24T02:38:29.000ZAlice Airdhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/AliceAird
<strong>If you have 30 seconds today and every day, you can make a difference for the people of Haiti.</strong><br></br><br></br>Care2 just launched our new, free <a href="http://www.care2.com/click-to-donate/haiti/" style="color: rgb(27, 138, 190); font-weight: bold;" target="_blank">Click to Help Haiti</a><a href="http://www.care2.com/click-to-donate/haiti/">,</a>
partnering with respected international relief nonprofit Oxfam to help<br />
fund emergency water and sanitation services for survivors of…
<strong>If you have 30 seconds today and every day, you can make a difference for the people of Haiti.</strong><br/><br/>Care2 just launched our new, free <a style="color: rgb(27, 138, 190); font-weight: bold;" href="http://www.care2.com/click-to-donate/haiti/" target="_blank">Click to Help Haiti</a><a href="http://www.care2.com/click-to-donate/haiti/">,</a>
partnering with respected international relief nonprofit Oxfam to help<br />
fund emergency water and sanitation services for survivors of last<br />
week's devastating earthquake in Haiti.<br/><br/>I'm now reading that <strong>the death toll in Haiti could be as high as 200,000</strong>,
maybe more. That's two percent of Haiti's total population. The scale<br />
of this disaster is almost beyond our comprehension, but what is<br />
crystal clear is this: Haiti will need every global citizen's help now<br />
and for a long time to come to recover and rebuild. And Care2 is<br />
dedicated to being part of that effort.<br/><br/>Please click today to help the people of Haiti: <a style="color: rgb(27, 138, 190); font-weight: bold;" href="http://www.care2.com/go/z/e/AFt0H/zkf6/bzZMn" target="_blank">http://www.care2.com/go/z/e/AFt0H/zkf6/bzZMn</a> <br/><br/><br/><table style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif,sans-serif; font-size: 12px;" cellspacing="0">
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<br/><br/>P.S. After you Click to Help Haiti, find out more about how to <a style="color: rgb(27, 138, 190); font-weight: bold;" href="http://www.care2.com/go/z/e/AFt0i/zkf6/bzZMn" target="_blank">redeem your Butterfly Credits to help the relief effort in Haiti</a>. Foundation course coming uptag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2009-12-26:2732146:Topic:48722009-12-26T08:52:26.000ZCharlotte Robertshttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/CharlotteRoberts
Hi everyone! I met the most amazing beautiful lady Cherie who is facilitating a two day workshop soon! Here are some details. SPEAK PEACE – Foundation Training<br />
Friday 22nd &amp; Saturday 23rd January 2010 <a href="http://www.cnvc.org">www.cnvc.org</a>
Hi everyone! I met the most amazing beautiful lady Cherie who is facilitating a two day workshop soon! Here are some details. SPEAK PEACE – Foundation Training<br />
Friday 22nd &amp; Saturday 23rd January 2010 <a href="http://www.cnvc.org">www.cnvc.org</a> 10 Empathy Tips - based on Bruna Martinuzzi's original listtag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2009-09-10:2732146:Topic:41332009-09-10T07:34:00.000ZAlice Airdhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/AliceAird
<p>Empathy is an emotional and thinking muscle that becomes stronger the more we use it. Try some of these suggestions and watch the reactions of those you work with. I believe you will notice some positive results.<br></br> <br></br> Also notice how you feel yourself. The heart connection of empathy is intrinsically pleasurable. No other results are needed.<br></br>
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1.Listen – truly listen to people. Listen with your ears, eyes and heart. Pay attention to others’ body language, to their tone of…</p>
<p>Empathy is an emotional and thinking muscle that becomes stronger the more we use it. Try some of these suggestions and watch the reactions of those you work with. I believe you will notice some positive results.<br/> <br/>
Also notice how you feel yourself. The heart connection of empathy is intrinsically pleasurable. No other results are needed.<br/>
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1.Listen – truly listen to people. Listen with your ears, eyes and heart. Pay attention to others’ body language, to their tone of voice, to the hidden emotions behind what they are saying to you, and to the context.<br/>
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2. Allow people their moment. Be aware of and restrain as best you can these empathy blockers: interrupting people; dismissing their concerns offhand; rushing to give advice; changing the subject. <br/>
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3. Tune in to non-verbal communication. This is the way that people often communicate what they think or feel, even when their verbal communication says something quite different.<br/>
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4. Be mindful of your non-verbal communication too. We know from a famous study by Professor Emeriti, Albert Mehrabian of UCLA, that words – the things we say – account for only 7% of the total message that people receive. The other 93% of the message that we communicate when we speak is contained in our tone of voice and body language. It’s important, then, to spend some time to understand how we come across when we communicate with others. A simple thing like frowning or a raised eyebrow when someone is explaining their point of view, or looking at your watch, can disconnect us from the speaker and make us appear as though we lack understanding.<br/>
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5. Use people’s name. Also remember the names of people’s spouse and children so that you can refer to them by name.<br/>
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6. Be fully present when you are conversing with people. Ask if it's OK before you check your email, or take phone calls, text messages, or online chat when someone is talking with you. Put yourself in their shoes. How do you feel when someone does that if you are looking for their full attention?<br/>
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7. Smile genuinely at people. When the upturned lip corners lack sincerity, people know it. A genuine smile is an index of your sincerity and without sincerity, there cannot be empathy.<br/>
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8. Encourage people, particularly the quiet ones, when they speak up in meetings. A simple thing like an attentive nod can boost people’s confidence.<br/>
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9. Give genuine recognition and acknowledgement. Pay attention to what people are doing and catch them doing the right things. When you give acknowledgement and appreciation, spend a little effort to make your genuine words memorable: “You are an asset to this team because..”; “This was pure genius”; “I would have missed this if you hadn’t picked it up.” <br/>
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10. Take a personal interest in people. Show people that you care by taking a personal interest in them. Show genuine curiosity about their lives. Ask them questions about their hobbies, their challenges, their families, their aspirations.</p>
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<p>Note from Alice: This list of empathy tips is all over the internet! Many <span class="st">people don't attribute it but on this excellent site <a href="http://www.mindtools.com" target="_blank">Mind Tools</a> they didit like this.</span> <i>The original 10 Empathy Tips come from Bruna Martinuzzi’s book: <a href="http://www.leaderasamensch.com/" target="_blank">The Leader as a Mensch: Become the Kind of Person Others Want to Follow.</a> Bruna is an educator, author, speaker and founder of <a href="http://www.increaseyoureq.com/" target="_blank">Clarion Enterprises Ltd</a>, a company which specializes in emotional intelligence, leadership, Myers-Briggs and presentation skills training. Click <a href="mailto:Bruna.Martinuzzi@mindtools.com">here</a> to contact her or visit her website at <a href="http://www.increaseyoureq.com/" target="_blank">www.increaseyoureq.com</a>. Click <a href="http://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/BrunaMartinuzziIndex.htm">here</a> for other articles by Bruna.</i></p>
<p><span class="st">I have modified the list to express some points in a gentler, less bossy way.<br/></span></p> Good Wishes for the Parenting Heart to Heart Training Next Week!tag:empathyfoundation.ning.com,2009-08-02:2732146:Topic:37682009-08-02T23:10:00.000ZAlice Airdhttp://empathyfoundation.ning.com/profile/AliceAird
Hi Alice and the Empathy mob,<br />
We're now in August! Not long for you to experience the Parenting Heart2Heart training with Robin!<br />
I really love the fact that we ALL can come from the heart... not just the guru's who have studied up on this stuff! I just watched a TED video...<br />
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<a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_our_loss_of_wisdom.html">http://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_our_loss_of_wisdom.html</a><br />
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...it's so true! What ever job we do in this world, if done with empathy,…
Hi Alice and the Empathy mob,<br />
We're now in August! Not long for you to experience the Parenting Heart2Heart training with Robin!<br />
I really love the fact that we ALL can come from the heart... not just the guru's who have studied up on this stuff! I just watched a TED video...<br />
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<a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_our_loss_of_wisdom.html">http://www.ted.com/talks/barry_schwartz_on_our_loss_of_wisdom.html</a><br />
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...it's so true! What ever job we do in this world, if done with empathy, it comes from a place of wisdom. Barry Schwartz says something like, 'we aren't born with wisdom, we acquire it.'<br />
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When thinking about the responsibility parents have and the difference they can make to the future generations... WOW!!! It's HUGE!!!!<br />
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I've been in parenting education now for many years. I can honestly say that since reading Parenting for a Peaceful World and Heart to Heart Parenting, which led me to facilitate 7 x 6-week Heart2Heart groups already - the EASE of 'feeling the process from my heart' has changed my mind about 'parental responsibility'. Actually, it's not in my mind any more... it's in my heart.<br />
It gives me such a depth of satisfaction to see - not just me but our other parent facilitators and participants in our groups, move from the head to the heart.... and just love. WOW!!!! Those oxytocins are better than anything that comes from a bottle!!!<br />
I wish you all the very best of everything you experience in Robin's training.<br />
Much love to the WHOLE group,<br />
from Sofi xo