(Closed) Frustrated with Parents!

I don’t want to sound snarky, but your parents don’t HAVE to give you any money. And it’s their decision to do whatever they want with their money, whether it be boats or vacations or whatever.

I would be excited you’re getting that much straight up! FI’s parents are giving us less than that and they’re being all weird about it by choosing to pay for various things instead of just giving us cash. But money is money and I can’t complain!

I can see why you are frustrated, but your parents definitely don’t have to give you anything and its nice they are giving you the $6K. It sounds like they aren’t the most financially responsible people, but it is their money/debt so they can do with it as they choose. Its always hard when people do things we don’t agree with, but that is what happens!

I think everyone does this! You can see it in multiple threads ‘my bm said she can’t afford her dress but she just bought X’ etc. when we want someone to do something for us and they say they can’t financially it’s only natural we will look at and judge their financial choices but that doesn’t make it right.

You parents aren’t required to do nothing enjoyable for a year (I know this isn’t what you are saying and a boat is a huge and expensive commitment – but I’m exaggerating for effect) just so that you can have a nice wedding, they are allowed to prioritize themselves.

I do agree that hearing someone constantly complain about money gets annoying especially if they are trying to guilt you and are spending large sums themselves.