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During Disasters (Like This Hurricane!), Do You Check In On Your Ex?

Are all you guys safe after Hurricane Sandy yesterday? I’m thinking of everyone and I hope you're all OK!

I’m fine here in Ohio, but I’ve spent a good part of the last 24 hours following news of the weather on the East Coast and checking in on my friends (and my fellow members of the Glamour team, of course!) who might have been in danger. Thankfully, everyone I know seems to be safe despite a few crashing trees and lots of power loss.

Seeing all the updates on Facebook and Twitter, letting friends and family know about each other’s safety and whereabouts got me thinking about how you would handle this situation with an ex loved one. Specifically it got me thinking about how I should handle it with my ex, who happens to live in New York where the storm hit pretty hard. I’ve confessed in the past that I haven’t been so good about following the no contact rule, but recently I’ve been trying to be a little better about it. I didn’t want to use the storm as an excuse to talk to him, and I was pretty sure he wasn’t in a flood zone, but still--I was a little concerned for his safety and wanted to hear that he was OK.

It turned out, I wasn't alone. In fact, both my ex-boyfriends were apparently having similar thoughts. My ex in New York texted me, unprompted, to let me know he was fine, and THEN my college boyfriend here in Ohio also texted me to make sure I wasn’t in New York (I travel back pretty often) and that I was safe. I guess it’s nice to know I’m not the only one who still cares!

Do you do the same thing when there’s a natural disaster or any other kind of dangerous situation? Or does no contact mean no contact, even in these situations? If you do contact, do you keep it brief just to make sure everyone's OK? And really, I hope you all are safe and dry!