I actually only do this, because the type of guys I like seem to be very shy. I wouldn't date if I waited for them.
But then, I don't really date, we generally go right to having a relationship or friendship off the bat.

I actually only do this, because the type of guys I like seem to be very shy. I wouldn't date if I waited for them.
But then, I don't really date, we generally go right to having a relationship or friendship off the bat.

In this kind of society it is really possible that a girl will ask a guy out. How if the guy likes the girl also but he's shy and afraid of rejection? This is the time when the girl show her motives. It's kinda looked bad because the girl will look desperate but nowadays it's not really a big deal. I've seen many of my schoolmates doing this. But so far my friends, including me, are a little disgusted with girls that do this. It's flirting and if a guy don't want the girl back it'll be bad for her image or the guy might turn off. And we're aware of those things and if the guy, that we like, really likes us he must do the first move and he must have a courage to say that to us despite of being a shy type.

I actually only do this, because the type of guys I like seem to be very shy. I wouldn't date if I waited for them.
But then, I don't really date, we generally go right to having a relationship or friendship off the bat.

The world needs more alicorn83s.

Well, I'm actually shy myself, but it gets to the point I'd rather try than mean nothing to him .
I never really said anything in high school and only found out any guys liked me after the fact so I swore from that moment on I would never just leave it to fate/chance again.

Women enjoy keeping the power in situations but when they have too much power they lose interest.

Women want to know if a guy likes them, but when she knows she loses interest. So the guy has to walk a tightrope and ask her out feigning disinterest. Dating is strange.

Trust me, we aren't as easy to disinterest as you might think. It's all about if you come across as needy or not. If you just talk to us like you would any other friend you are getting to know, as a person, and say you like us, it can work. We're not tigers about to attack or birds about to fly off, we're people

Women enjoy keeping the power in situations but when they have too much power they lose interest.

Women want to know if a guy likes them, but when she knows she loses interest. So the guy has to walk a tightrope and ask her out feigning disinterest. Dating is strange.

Trust me, we aren't as easy to disinterest as you might think. It's all about if you come across as needy or not. If you just talk to us like you would any other friend you are getting to know, as a person, and say you like us, it can work. We're not tigers about to attack or birds about to fly off, we're people

Well, I'm actually shy myself, but it gets to the point I'd rather try than mean nothing to him .
I never really said anything in high school and only found out any guys liked me after the fact so I swore from that moment on I would never just leave it to fate/chance again.

I kinda wish I had moments like that in the past which would have given me a kick in the butt in the right direction.

As far as I know no one's had any interest in me, so I've never really had the nerve to act against my own shyness or lack of confidence.

Where most guys when they see someone nice they might think "I should try talking to her" or something, I just tend to think "I'd probably just be bothering her" or "there's no way she'd be interested in talking to me" or "we probably have nothing in common." Stuff like that tends to be the first things that come to mind. Sucks, huh? That's how I've been conditioned to think since I was old enough to be interested in the opposite sex. It's like a snowball effect.

So... That's why I really wish more women took the initiative to start interaction.

Not to be unkind, but the way we are so computer based now in our culture it has kind of made real life interaction even harder I think. While I am usually the one saying I like the guy, it doesn't help that I am better with typing words than speaking them. I'm sure that hampers both fronts.

Not to be unkind, but the way we are so computer based now in our culture it has kind of made real life interaction even harder I think. While I am usually the one saying I like the guy, it doesn't help that I am better with typing words than speaking them. I'm sure that hampers both fronts.

I agree. When typing something out online you have the time to compose, edit, proofread and revise what you want to say and it tends to come out way better than if you were to try to say it to someone's face in the moment. At least that's how I feel about my interactions online versus real life. When I'm nervous I tend to stutter and hunt for the right words and I have trouble expressing myself well. Since I don't have the practice needed to be skilled at real life social interaction I am, admittedly, very bad at it.