What is erotic humiliation?

Erotic humiliation is consensual sexual humiliation that degrades and demeans the submissive by breaking down their ego and sense of self. Used with psychological knowledge of the submissive, erotic humiliation can be an exhilarating experience. By breaking down walls within the subconscious, humiliation often opens up hidden and primal parts of the male submissive's sexual blueprint and exposes them for exploitation by the dominant. While some aspects of humiliation might be a huge turn on, others prove to be destructive. Some doors should be left closed. The difference between erotic and humiliation and outright abuse depends largely on his history (sexual and otherwise), personality, and fears. The key to an excellent erotic humiliation session lies in finding a balance between extreme vulnerability and the level of excitement it arouses in the submissive.

What are common forms of erotic humiliation?

The most common form of erotic humiliation is name calling. While most males don't consider it such, the casual slut or whore whispered in the throes of passion qualifies on some small scale. Anything that humbles, but excites can be considered erotic humiliation.Most forms of erotic humiliation can fall within changing the male submissive's appearance to reflect a different sexual persona, using language to insult, demean or degrade and performances of activities that are menial, distasteful or embarrassing.

Erotic Humiliation by Appearance Change

By changing a submissive appearance, the dominant takes control of the male submissive's identity. Think about a powerful businessman in his expensive suit and tie, his uniform reflects his place in the world. A man such attired presents his alpha male identity upon the world, masking his secretly submissive nature. By dressing said slut in female attire, the dominant changes the way he looks at the world... and how the world looks at him.

While the experience of coerced feminization is at first extremely humiliating to the submissive, ultimately the experience is freeing. The confusion and humiliation he feels thus attired reveals new facets to his desires and personality. By tearing down his ego and expectation, his Mistress rebuilds his sexual persona to reflect this new girlâ€. In doing so, the dominant creates a safe world for his inner slut to explore the fantasies. She gives him room to explore feelings that he can't express in his work-a-day world. The wearing of unusual attire, makeup and female clothing all reinforce the feeling of separation from the everyday world.

The dominant might even invite others over to witness her slaves degradation. Each subsequent act of subservience leaves the slave more vulnerable and exposed leading to a greater feeling of submission and shame.

Verbal Erotic Humiliation

Words have undeniable power. Words define your world, reinforce your feelings and have the ultimate power to create and recreate your reality. The ego responds to both compliments and insults in distinctive ways. While a compliment might make your head swell, the right derogatory name or word at the right time makes another part of the anatomy swell! Insults like bitch, whore or slut or phrases that reduce the submissive to a vulnerable age or time set the stage for entire fantasy scenarios.

Erotic confession can be both liberating and humiliating. While exposing the past experiences and fantasies of the submissive, erotic confession also frees him to explore the dark side of his sexual psyche. The knowing look his dominant gives whilst he confesses his most secret longings gives her more ammunition in her erotic humiliation arsenal. A competent femdom will quiz and question her new toy to expose those hidden places, forcing him to answer in humiliating detail. Interrogation exposes sore spots that bring arousal and shame, just the thing to bind the submissive tighter to his Mistress.

Performance Based Erotic Humiliation

Erotic humiliation often is defined by making private acts public, exhibitionism and self exposure. In this context, public humiliation might require the male submissive to take his female persona out on the town... or to masturbate or be nude in a public place. While such acts are dangerous, for the male who fetishizes exposure, public humiliation is the ultimate thrill. Perhaps he longs to be 'caught'.

CFNM or clothed female, naked male erotic humiliation scenarios are common with the male in question being thoroughly exposed to his Mistress and other women of her choosing. Usually, the male is coerced to masturbate for them and perform other humiliating acts at their command. Acts such as undressing or masturbating become a stage for the male submissive to perform for his Mistress's amusement. Turning the tables with objectification, Mistress might make him dress up for a strip tease and pole dance. Dancing whilst dressed as a sissy, doing cheers and singing are common ways a femdom will humiliate her submissive. Micromanagement of his activities, rituals designed to reinforce his new world view and repetition of humiliating words and phrases leave his mind open to new areas of exploration with a gentle brainwashing.

What can erotic humiliation do for you?

To a male who's used to power and privilege, life often feels unbalanced. He knows deep down he's not worthy of all the accolades given. Inside he knows for better or worse, he's just like everyone else, perhaps even smaller, less worthy. Erotic humiliation and power exchange create a new world where the male submissive can explore what if?

By giving his secrets, his dignity, his pride and ego over to a dominant female, he gives her the power to pull back the layers and explore what lies beneath the surface of his sexuality. As the boundaries break down, far from bringing him down, this new knowledge of himself and what makes him tick leaves him open for new, exciting experiences he might have passed on before. It creates a level of confidence that never existed in the old, pre-submissive boy he was.

While the vanilla world might see erotic humiliation as abuse, it's the direct opposite. Erotic humiliation serves as a tool for finding the true self hidden beneath the surface. By stripping away the ego, the male is brought to his raw, primal form free of arrogance and conceit, ready to learn and eager to experience life in an entirely new way.