In the lifestyle, the illustrious and illusive single female is often
referred to as the Unicorn. For many couples, she is the one fantasy that is
desired above all else. Yet, she is the most difficult to attain.

Even Fantasies
Should be Realistic

Here, we
see economic principles come into play- scarcity vs. demand. Single females are
a rare commodity in the lifestyle, but they are out there. The mistake that
many couples make in their quest for the unicorn is setting their expectations
out of their reach. Many people seem to be seeking the young, attractive Barbie
doll type to fulfill their fantasies of a girl-girl threesome. While it’s
wonderful to have high expectations, one must realize that the ‘fantasy’ girl
may remain just that- a fantasy, if that set of criteria is adhered to. You’ll
come to find that due to the ratio of single females to couples and singles
males on a swingers’ site, single females, regardless of age and appearance,
will almost always have the advantage. The high demand alone will ensure that
almost any type of single female can easily find bedmates of her liking.

Broaden
Your Horizons

Women
that possess youth and beauty have their pick of almost any man they desire
because they are so sought after. So again, there is little incentive for them
to go to bed with a couple that wishes to use them to fulfill their fantasy.
Chasing unicorns of this type is usually a fruitless effort, and will serve to
cause only frustration and disappointment. The chances of a couple luring a
beautiful young unicorn into bed are extremely slim.

There are
plenty of couples that do not place so many strict requirements on attaining a
single female, and are more than willing to have the time of their lives with a
lady of average age and average looks. Personality and physical prowess can
make for a great time in bed. There are advantages to seeking an older woman as
a bedmate. Some people falsely equate youth and beauty with dynamic bedtime
skills. While there are certainly plenty of skilled young ladies out there, one
may find that with age comes experience. Certainly, the most important goal for
the vast majority of swingers is to experience something dynamic in bed, and a
more mature woman may be able to provide the experience to fulfill your goal
more than an inexperienced younger woman may. Older women also tend to be more
secure and self-assured, and less likely to need any kind of attachment in order
to partake in adult experiences with a couple. Obviously, the aforementioned
generalizations are just that- general. There are always exceptions to the
proverbial ‘rules’.

Treat Her
Properly

If you
truly wish to have a chance with a single fem, befriend her. From experience,
this has been the best way to make a single lady feel comfortable with a sexual
experience. Women, more than men, need to feel a certain comfort level,
especially when sharing themselves sexually with not one, but two people at
once. She'll most likely need to get to know you a bit first, since most women
don't regularly practice jumping into bed with a couple. Don't pressure, don't
make it your main prerogative, or allude to, getting busy. Act as if anyone
would when making new friends, and get to know her. Have fun, do dinner, go to
a club and talk as friends. If, after a while, she's comfortable with you, her
body language will betray her desires. Even if your dreams do not come to
fruition, you have still made a fast friend. If you don't end up sleeping with
her, please don't give her the cold shoulder because she didn't give herself to
you. Otherwise, she'll know you were after one thing, and that hurts. None of
us are in the lifestyle to hurt others. After all, most of us have been at the
receiving end of such deception, and we know how cruel it is. Bottom line, treat
the lady like a person, and you'll go a long way. This is not only a lifestyle
skill, but a life skill as well.