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I LET MYSELF FALL VICTIM

What is wrong with me? This is a question that I had to ask myself several times in the past few months or so and the answer that came to mind was to “QUIT”. I know I didn’t want to do that in my gut, so I decided to take another long break from blogging, YouTube, Instagram and photo shoots. Everything just wasn’t making sense to me, from Instagram algorithms to the effort and money put into creating content and not getting as much love as I anticipated plus dealing with personal life issues. I was not having it anymore but then again, the hustling spirit in me won’t let me give it all up, so began to do some soul searching.

Before I go further, I’m not writing this post for you to feel pity for me or judge me but for you to learn one or two things from my experience. Everyone that knows me can attest to how much I love fashion. I have been doing this way before Instagram came into existence but when Instagram came along, it was an avenue to put myself out there, share my amazing style and fashion tips with new people that I have never met and probably will never meet.

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I decided to start blogging to reach a larger audience, become a brand and influence more people. Well, I thought blogging was going to be easy. No one told me about the bad and ugly sides of it. Don’t get me wrong, I love blogging but man, can we talk about the pressure it can bring if you are not careful. About 6 months into blogging, I started to feel pressured on Instagram to post every day, post the trendy outfit, buy ridiculously expensive unrealistic clothing just to engage my followers and get my Instagram page popping.

As a result of this, my passion for styling pieces that I genuinely love and writing inspiring articles on my blog started to fade away. All I wanted was to get my hands on trendy items and post it as quick as I can on Instagram and the blog, This went on for several months. Fast forward to when I wanted to travel to Nigeria, reality struck me. I realized that I didn’t have any cloths in my wardrobe that can be worn on a normal day. My wardrobe is packed full but all my cloths were unrealistic for day-to-day life.

It was at this point I realized I had to do something. I took my time to go through my blog and its progression from inception to date. Then I saw the change; I wasn’t really engaging with my readers anymore. I went from 40+ comments on posts to no comment at all on my blog posts. Not only did I stop writing inspiring articles but there was a huge change in my style and fashion sense as a whole. What had happened to me? I began to ask myself, what changed? How? When? I couldn’t get an answer. All that kept popping in my head was social media. Then I realized that I had let myself fall victim to the pressure social media can put on you. This had to change. Something had to change!

Visiting Nigeria was a turn over time for me. I started telling myself, (Sugar, when you get back to the USA, there has to be a total paradigm shift. You have to take your time and slowly get back to where you were when you officially started blogging). This was a promise I made to myself but then again, I had some brand collaborations commitment that needed to fulfill and this prevented me from taking a full break from social media at the time I wanted

After I had fulfilled all the brand collaborations that I had, I decided I have to take a break because I just want to be me again. I used this time to rebrand and get back to my zone of writing articles, buying more realistic clothing and not breaking the bank to create content but rather create with what’s within my reach and create fun relatable contents for my readers. I sought mentoring, read books, watched YouTube videos, prayed and above all took the much-needed break.

If you read this article until this moment, thanks for reading, no matter where you find yourself, don’t be pressured into doing something you don’t want to do. The society that we live in now is crazy and its what I like to call (make belief). You are better than most people out there, nobody’s life is as perfect as it seems on social media.

People are living false lives on social media, running after their own shadows, you are better than most people out here, nobody’s life is as perfect as it seems on social media.

Moral of the story is that peer pressure is real, don’t fall for it, if you do at some point I pray you come to a realization as soon as possible and snap out of it.

18 Comments

Olaide Akano

June 6, 2018 / 3:37 pm

This post is a beautiful insight to what happens everyday to us all, we forget our roots,plans and aspirations then drift away. I wish you all best you retrace your steps back to your passion,and hope to read more beautiful posts here. Go girl! 💕💕💕💕

Social media pressure can be really crazy. Am not a brand influencer and I am already scared of posting a picture of me in a dress people have seen me wear in a previous post. Thank you for encouraging us to stop stressing over stuffs like this. God bless you and I have high believe in you 😄😄💪

This is a very nice article shugar 😊 I’m pretty sure you aren’t the only blogger that feels this way…i truly believe that the way that most of these bloggers dress on their blogs isn’t the way they dress on a day to day basis so I applaud you for being you 😌💕

I woke up today feeling so down nd depressed, not happy with my life(as in where I am now). Thinking am all alone nd everyone is living their “Dream Life”, nd most probably, “More Happier” than I am. Shugar May God bless you soo much for this post. I think it’s meant for me. I love you gurl, God increase you in wisdom,knowledge and all areas of life.👏👏

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Hi, welcome to my blog, and here is a little about me. My name is Bukola, but most of my friends call me SUGAR. I was born and raised in NIGERIA, came to the united state a few years ago. I’m Serving in the U.S NAVY (HOOYAH!!!!!) which has touched, changed, and enhanced my life. Welcome to my world of personal style, I love fashion, style, and looking pretty. Sometimes I see myself as a freak, lol! But hey…. I’m just the girl next door who loves dressing/glamming up and enjoys as the camera clicks away each beautiful moment.