She's Too Smart

This happened last year, as well, so he just brought them over early to spend the day with me. We hadn't discussed it yet this year, but I had talked it over with Anna already. I'd really like them to come over a bit later, like around dinnertime. I have a ton of stuff to do maintenance-wise around the house and yard, and I'd really rather not feel like I've got to frantically fit it all into Saturday. We're not going anywhere on Sunday (I can't afford it, and waiting an hour for a table on Mother's Day when you have a child with autism is a nightmare), so dinnertime is just fine for me.

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I emailed Peter to let him know about the drop-off time, and he seemed to take a real issue with it, even going so far as to remind me that Mother's Day wasn't just about me, it was about my kids and he couldn't believe I didn't want to spend time with them. I reminded him that if Anna had shown any hesitancy or distress about coming over later (and she didn't – it didn't matter to her either way), I would have happily changed my schedule, but since she was fine with it (and David doesn't even know what Mother's Day is), this worked out best. Peter was obviously not pleased, but finally agreed.

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Last night I touched on it briefly with Anna again, just to be sure she was fine (Peter had me second-guessing myself) and she shrugged and said "Whatever works for you is fine with me, Mom. We can give you our presents at dinner." Then she wanted to know why I wanted to know and I shared that her Dad was worried that she might be upset and I wanted to make sure.

She rolled her eyes and said, "I'll bet he wants to spend the day at Stacey's. She doesn't have a husband to pamper her on Mother's Day anymore."

Yikes.

I said something diplomatic about Dad just wanting her to be happy with the arrangement, but she's most likely right. Not that I'd expect him to be pampering me, but still….it bothers me that she remarked on it so bluntly.

Now I wonder if I shouldn't bring them over early, just so he's not in a sour mood for them. Sheesh. Divorce and motherhood – it's a combination sure to drive you crazy.