"I Will Find Words, Smith them Down. For Love Is Infinite And So Are They."

“The good times and the bad times both will pass. It will pass. It will get easier. But the fact that it will get easier does not mean that it doesn’t hurt now. And when people try to minimize your pain they are doing you a disservice. And when you try to minimize your own pain you’re doing yourself a disservice. Don’t do that. The truth is that it hurts because it’s real. It hurts because it mattered. And that’s an important thing to acknowledge to yourself. But that doesn’t mean that it won’t end, that it won’t get better. Because it will.”

When I was first widowed, I inadvertently helped someone, an absolute stranger, who was in desperate need of help (a car wreck). I never thought about my actions, I just did what I knew was right. Later, she found me and sent me a thank you card along with a quote, something about how when we are at our darkest, most empty, but find it within us to give to others, that is where healing begins.
Anyway, don’t deny the pain, acknowledge it and work with it. Crying is ok, as long as you stand up stronger when you’re finished.

Awwh what a story Swoosie, and very rightly put “when we are at our darkest, most empty, but find it within us to give to others, that is where healing begins.” I need to put this up as a quote on my wall so I could read it all the time. Thank you so much for sharing such a heart warming story with me, That was really helpful ! ❤

i never stop anyone from crying (unless they are in physical pain) i always say to them cry it out finish it, cuz that inside you has to come out, seems a little odd but that’s what i say….. thanks for sharing this 🙂

Beautiful words…Though I am not sure if it is a disservice trying to reduce somebody’s pain…Isn’t it a little subjective…? I think the way to heal , varies from one individual to another…and some people do heal faster ,when there is somebody around to console them and guide them to move ahead in life……….
Love and hugs
Sweety ❤

Absolutely sweety, I agree with you. I think trying to minimize someone else’s pain is the most kindest thing you can do for another person. Pain is easier to deal with someone around. Thank you for your lovely and thoughtful comment ❤

Sorry little devil, it´s all nice and well written quote but I just don´t buy it. Yes, everybody has rough times, tell me about it, and people deal with it in different ways. I was raised by family to not show weakness, minimize pain by doing something productive or just changing the mindset which to me seems to come more easily than others, so yes I suppose you obviously acknowledge the pain but don´t sweat it all, come on, have some balls here.

Still love you though. ( I was going to put a freaky yellow picture kissing but have no clue how to do it)

Yes you are right Old guy ! We have to endure it because there is no other way. Everybody deals with it differently but I have to say avoiding it has its own perks. But I don’t think you can ask someone to have balls as you don’t know the extent of their pain. But nice thoughts ! 😉

And Yeah I still love you too ❤ (And you can put a heart instead of a kiss too 😀 )

All was not so well so couldn’t really sit and read…I was ill, then Vi, then me again and now Vi again. Still loop is on. But yesterday and today he has wanted to lie in bed and I have to be next to him..so caught up with all the reading 🙂