I'm sorry for your lost. Wanting another baby so badly and having to wait is very difficult.

My daughter was delivered by classical C-section at 27 weeks. Four months later, the MFM told us we could start trying again anytime. So, it sounds like there is a lot of variation in wait time recommendations. We sat out another cycle so due dates wouldn't accidently line-up. The MFM had me start on LDA before conception. On Thursday, I'll be 30 weeks pregnant. Emotionally, this pregnancy has been rough. Physically, everything looks perfect.

Amy, mom to almost 5Quinn, 4/28/06, no complicationsLou, 5/8/09, no complicationsRosie, 3/13/11-3/29/11, eclampsia at 27 weeks and then died from NECSara, 5/3/12, no complications other than an obscene amount of monitoringBaby #5 due in 2/15

My OB said wait 3 months (and that was after a classical c-section, but since it took us a year and a half to get pregnant the first time, I'm guessing she expected it to take awhile.) My MFM said 6 months minimum. I actually stopped using protection at 6 weeks postpartum (kinda idiotic in hindsight but my cycles were nonexistant so there really wasn't much risk of getting pregnant.) I ended up finally getting pregnant at the end of Aug.2010 after delivering our daughter in Sept.2009, so almost a year. In hindsight, I'm glad it took awhile because that gave me time to grieve for my daughter before the stresses of a new pregnancy started too. Subsequent pregnancies are VERY VERY hard and I imagine it would be even more difficult in the first year. During my second c-section, my OB noted that my previous c-section had healed "perfectly".

I was on LDA and lovenox throughout my second pregnancy (which went very well) and would have found an MFM willing to put me on both if mine hadn't suggested it. The needles are NOT fun, but you get used to it. And it was definitely "worth it".

My doctors asked me to wait 12-18 mos. before trying to conceive again. It was very difficult to hear because of my age and because my arms were so very, very empty after Millie died. Preeclampsia does a huge number on our bodies and loss does a huge number on our hearts. I ended up getting the okay to ttc again after about 10 mos. and in retrospect I needed every minute of that time. (in the end they got their way though bc I'm still ttc). As for aspirin and heparin- I have seen two MFMs and both said NO to lmwh (not enough science showing benefit) and let me make my own decision about lda (I decided to take it).

I am so sorry your visit today did not go as well as you had hoped for.If it were not hard enough to lose a baby due to PE, to hear from the doctors to have to wait to TTC for a year is the ultimate curveball. The important thing to remember and keep in mind is that our doctors usually have our well-being in mind and also their reasons why they have us waiting on the sidelines. Have your doctors explained why they wanted you to wait for one year? My doctors both OB and MFM asked me to wait for 9-12months before TTC and I was 37 at that time. Not great, but I needed to heal from PE, my c-section and I desperately needed to grasp of what had happened in a very short time (PE, pregnancy cut short, being a NICU mom, a BLM a week later burying my son). All of this happened in a very short time. I truly needed time to 'catch my breath'.

Meeting with your MFM will surely help to put together a TTC plan for you, which will be based on your personal situation and constitution ( your case of PE, underlying disorders, your recovery, and so on). S/he might want to do some more tests if these haven't been done yet, check in on your recovery and so on. If you need help with a list of questions to bring to your appointment with the MFM, let me know, so I can dig up some info for you.

I am really disappointed after meeting with my blood pressure doctor this afternoon. Two and a half weeks after delivering my sleeping baby girl at 21 weeks pregnant, my pressures have been normal for a week and I am off medication for a week and a half. I thought he would be more positive, but he told me that he wants us to wait at least a year to try again and my ob/gyn agrees. I have to go back in a month for results and do some more blood work and another urine test to make sure things are looking better. I am so sad that the doctors want us to wait a whole year. He mentioned that I'll have to be on low dose aspirin and heparin the next time. Giving myself a needle all the time will be difficult since I'm terrified of blood work and needles but I think that's not a huge price to pay if it allows me to bring a baby home. I'm meeting with an MFM on the 28th of March and am hoping that he will allow me to try again sooner. I just really would like to try sooner rather than later. I'm only 26, but my husband and I wanted a large family and waiting a year would make me 28 when I'd have my first baby and that's if we get pregnant right away and if all is uneventful. When were you allowed to try again? Was it a successful pregnancy if you lost a baby before? Were you on heparin and lda?