Why Women Like Rough Sex

by Beth Divine•15 Dec 2018

This title is something of a misnomer. It really should be
Why (Some) Women Like Rough Sex. Although probably more women do like it that
do not – up to fifty seven percent, according to researchers – there are a
significant number who are horrified and appalled at the idea of being
physically restrained, hurt or forcefully stimulated. Obviously, it is very
important question that must be asked: you might find yourself on the wrong end
of an arrest record should you suddenly decide that your lady’s ass needs a
firm spanking without checking that it does it for her!

As with everything sexual, consent is king. You may feel
that having to pause and ask permission at every stage is boring and a
mood-killer – tough. When you’re getting to know someone, you absolutely check
with them that what you are doing is okay, before you proceed with it and before
you try anything else. Women – or even simply the smaller, physically weaker
partner in any relationship – may not always feel able to say, ‘Stop’ or ‘Don’t
do that’, but being asked ‘do you like that?’ or ‘May I do this?’ gives them a
window to saying, ‘Not really, that hurts’ or even, ‘Oh god, yes, yes, yes!’
the latter of which can be quite reassuring to a younger, less experienced man.

For some women, being manhandled (pardon the pun) is a
release. These tend to be women in high-powered or stressful, responsible jobs,
and being able to hand the control over to their sexual partner, completely
submitting to his domination is something that they find very sexy. These women
respond very well to being told what to do in bed, and are acquiescent about
changing positions on demand.

It is also a form of abdication from personal
responsibility. Women are raised (or traditionally, they have been – hopefully
new understanding of sexuality and female needs will see a long term shift in
attitudes) to repress and deny their own sexual urges. They are taught that
feeling sexy is wrong, and that women are ‘dirty’ if they actually enjoy sex –
never mind fetishes or anal and the like, women who like those are just beyond
the pale! For these women, letting their man dominate them absolves them from
any guilt that they might otherwise feel, which allows them to lie back and be
pleasured, rather than feeling that they should be resisting or denying their
orgasm in some way.

Finally, being thrust into roughly, having the man seem almost out of
control is a huge ego boost to some women. The idea that they are so desirable
that a man literally cannot control himself any longer, that he must thrust
himself into her urgently and rapidly until he comes hard, is a very rewarding
one to a woman who might otherwise feel insecure about her looks, her body or
her sexual skills.