Monday, November 1, 2010

Working the Poll

Get your mind out of the gutters you pervs...I am not working "the pole" but the election polls tomorrow! Get out and vote people!! Trust me, there are no openings for plus size strippers!!

On the band front I am doing well. I am down about 54 lbs now. My zumba starts back tomorrow, but since I will be at the polls until about 8 tomorrow night I won't be able to go :( But my butt will be shaking on Thursday night!

I went to the Domestic Relations courthouse today to find out what it takes to file for divorce. Even though he walked out on me and this was his doing I am going to file because he never will. What motivation does he have to file? NONE! Did y'all know it was so expensive to file? I sure as heck didn't! I joked with my stepmom today that I am going to ask people for $ for Christmas to help me file for divorce or I am going to start a website....helpkimfilefordivorcefund.com :) My stepmom posed a question to me tonight that kind of surprised me. She asked why file for divorce? What difference would it make in my life? I was like what?! Physically she is right, it would make no difference - we don't see each other, we never talk. All communication is via email. However mentally & emotionally it is going to make a HUGE difference. I don't know if that sounds crazy or not, but it's how I feel. I feel like I'm chained to this failed marriage and I want out and to move on with my life. I want to make it final so I can change my name back and go forward with Kim's life and not Kim and Joe's life like it was supposed to be. It makes me sad, don't get me wrong, but I know it truly is the best thing for both of us. Everyday is better than the last and that is all I can ask for. Thank y'all for your words of encouragement, I really appreciate them.

*hug* You deserve a chance to put this behind you and move forward and be happy.

If you and your husband agree and can cooperate, you can file your divorce yourself. And possibly get it finalized much more quickly and for a lot less money than going the "traditional" route with an attorney and so forth. :)

Kim, I feel for you. As still a married person, you will have to file taxes together as most deductions don't work for "married filing separatly. As Erika mentioned, is there a way that you could work out all of the paperwork and just file pro se and get it over with that way. My husband and I divorced for $150 in filing fees. No attorneys or anything like that. We found the forms online at the legal help center at our local university. Just filled them out and went on with our lives. Good luck to you!

My first Zumba is tonight and I am SO excited! I tried Nia Fitness last night and loved it. I am so sorry to hear about your divorce :( My brother's wife (of 17 years) up and left him and their 6 babies (ages 2-13) about 2 months ago. He's in the $1,000s already, if you contest. Non-contest's are usually around $300 (TN). I wish you luck and happiness in this process and the road that lies ahead.

About Me

I am 30 years old and live in Birmingham, AL. I had Realize band surgery on August 10, 2009. I love to read, watch movies, travel, spend my saturdays watching Alabama football (RTR) and spend time with my family. My mama says I'm funny, so it must be true! I am sarcastic and a smartass most of the time, but sweet at the same time. I am working on saying Good-Bye to Fatty McButterpants.