Advice Column – Ask Dr. Val

Light Cannot Commune with Darkness

Do you have a person or people in your life with whom, no matter how many attempts you make, it simply is not possible to connect with them in a meaningful or satisfying way?

If you do, and if this person is someone from whom it would be challenging to walk away, then this may be a source of sadness for you. But I am here to offer you words of solace. Be not sad, focus not on the reality that you are unable to connect. Instead, rejoice that you are a person of light, of truth, of joy and happiness. Of course you cannot connect with someone who presents as the opposite – heaviness, dishonesty [often to themselves], and negativity. Why would you even want to?

It is written in 2 CORINTHIANS 6:14, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” There can be no communion; any attempts to shine your light into the darkness will merely absorb your light into the abyss. The only way to commune with darkness is to become dark – give up your light – I am unwilling to give up my light, or even allow it to shine less brightly in order to commune with someone who embraces the dark.

As I see it, the only viable option is for the person in the darkness to come into the light, to open their mind and heart to be enlightened, to believe, to emanate love. Therefore, if this negative person of darkness in your life is someone from whom you cannot simply walk away [perhaps a close relative], then when you interact with him or her, do so from a position of love and light. They must become light to commune with light. It is the only way., for it is not an option for a person of light to enter into darkness.

Shine brightly all you believers; glow and grow in love, light, peace, joy and happiness!