My friend: i'm not home.... and i seriously want to know because i'm crying....

i feel horrible... i'm sorry...

And i dont know what i did but it must have been bad... but honestly i am SO sorry..

other girl: HA

you know exactly what you do you bitch.

Call me if you ever get home

my friend: you know Emily, i have stood up for you when people call you a bitch, i have called you a friend, and i had a lot of respect for you. And i always supported yours and
jays relationship even when people talked shit about it. I dont know what i did wrong, but honestly i'm sick of you always being jealous of me being friends with jay. and having
to convince you that nothing will happen between us. But whatever.

Other girl: "Supported me and Jay's relationship?" LOL

I'll remember that one

But I'm busy, so I'll deal with you some other time.

my friend: you'll deal with me? How will that do down?

go*

you gunna yell at me? bitch at me? all you have is words emily.

OG: That's because it's a lot of gas to get to your house, and I know if I do anything you'll whine about it until our 89.

you're*

So shut up.

MF: You know what. Grow up emily, i pity that you think your all that, but honestly more people hate you and now i can tell why.

OG:And a lot more people hate you. It's a lot easier to be friends with someone who's no nonsense then someone who is a bitch, a whore, and an attention whore.

Stop lying to me.

Im not jealous of you and Jay. I never was.

You and him are just friends, and I'm sure you'd change that if he ever is single.

I wonder how many of the guys you dated actually cared about you.

But then again, did you care about any of them?

You just wanted the attention.

But again, Im busy. I'll deal with you some other time.

Have fun sending angry messages at me, I'll enjoy them later.

MF: Emily i hope someday you will look back on your self today, and be very disappointed.

Comments

Childhood and adolescence is the time to learn how things work and how to deal with situations. It is the time to learn how to deal with bullies, especially when the subject and / or consequences are trivial.

If your friend does not learn to handle conflict now, can you guess the result when she encounters military Basic Training, bill collectors, or aggressive police investigators?

I stood behind my kids and let them fight it out for themselves. They are normal adults now.

One more thing. Long ago I resolved that no one but me would control my emotions. I was once in a management meeting where both sides were screaming, pounding the table, and personally insulting the opposing actors. My reaction to cutting insults was "That's an interesting statement. What else does he have?"

I did not take ownership of the insults like the others did and so I was not upset. I merely responded by saying something like, "Well Bob, that fact is ..." in a non-argumentative way. Bob moved his focus from me to my boss because I was unmoved by his insults.

When I sensed the time right (as their arguing waned), I stepped between Bob and my boss and thanked Bob for bringing these issues to our attention and that we would look at it carefully. Not long afterward I was promoted to a position equal to my boss and Bob.

Lastly, here is a passage from the Book of James, Holy Bible, "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

In short, it means welcome the trials and tribulations in life because they make you better. If your life were like a Hawaiian vacation, how would you find your weaknesses and vulnerabilities?