How to Make Her Squirt – The Definitive Guide

Look – any “guru” who tells you every single girl can squirt is flat out lying to you. You are about to be sold “snake oil” from a “snake oil salesman” about 100% of the time. There are no guarantees in life.

However, all women have the inherent physical ability to ejaculate. Some women are very comfortable with this. But some women have never even had an orgasm before. It is relatively easy to help a woman squirt, if she’s already orgasmic. However, a woman who has never had an orgasm will be a much greater challenge.

Still, making your partner squirt is quite possible. It’s actually fairly easy once you’ve gotten her to do it once. And, just like everything in life – practice makes perfect.

The Pre-Game

Helping a woman squirt is more than just a bedroom technique. You need to be ready for what will happen. This means preparing your home and your body.

Make sure you make a few improvements to your home. First, you need to clean your place. Keep things tidy! Women notice everything. She will notice if your place isn’t properly clean. This will not help her relax.

Next, you’ll want to be sure your place smells good. If your room is clean, then that’s a start. Add a vanilla smelling candle to increase her relaxation. Women tend to have a strong sense of smell. Don’t allow her nose to hurt your chances in bed.

You’ll also want to have a way to dim your lights. Most women don’t want to have sex with the lights on. However, you don’t want things pitch-black either. Try installing a light dimmer in your bedroom. Candles can also provide good, low lighting – if placed in the right areas of the room.

Music can also help a woman relax. You’ll want to put on some relaxing, sexual music. The key is to use music that a woman is familiar with, but not TOO familiar with. This way she won’t be singing the words in her head while you’re naked together. She’ll just enjoy the music. Think R & B, smooth jazz, or something similar. Some women enjoy energetic rock music during sex, but you’ll have to find that out beforehand.

Also, make sure you have a nice water-based lubricant on hand. This will quickly increase her arousal. Also, make sure your fingernails are trimmed short. This is very important – You do NOT want long fingernails! Your fingers will be inside her vagina a lot. If your nails are long, they can scratch and hurt her vagina. This will NOT help her squirt.

Outside The Bedroom

Now, before we go any further I want to make one thing clear…

If a girl has never squirted before, you’ll have to create an incredible amount of arousal for her to do so. A great way to amplify her arousal is to begin stimulating her outside of the bedroom.

This starts right when you two meet. This could be at a bar one night, on a first date, or with your wife of ten years. But if you plan to make her squirt, you have to set the mood and tone of the interaction early on.

Women are not as visual as men. To stimulate a woman, you have to stimulate her mind. Do this from the moment the interaction starts. You have to guide her towards what you both want.

This means you have to be a dominant male.

If you are going to get her aroused outside the bedroom, you have to be a dominant, attractive man. You have to lead the way. You have to tell her what to do. You have to walk like you’re the man. You have to be an alpha male.

Don’t ask questions; issue commands. Now, I’m not saying be a raging dickhead. I’m saying you need to be a firm and self-assured man.

Next, you’ll want to ramp up the dirty talk before you get to the bedroom. This will be easier with a wife or girlfriend, but it can also be done with a girl you just. You can ask what turns her on, or what her favorite position is. Whisper in her ear; say what you want to do to her later (but don’t mention squirting, yet).

You’ll also want to have your hands all over her body before you get to the bedroom. Again, this is easier with a wife or girlfriend. With a girl you haven’t been with before, you’ll have to go a bit slower.

Touch her arms. Touch her legs. Slap her ass every once in a while (wives and girlfriends only). You can ever get a bit raunchy and finger her under a table (again, only if it’s your wife or girlfriend) to get her all warmed-up. Just don’t go too far…

True Foreplay

Now, the actual technique of making her squirt revolves around foreplay. It’s much more difficult to make her squirt with your penis, unless she has squirted before (or you have a banana-shaped penis).

But – don’t forget how turned on she has to be…

This can’t be a normal sexual session for her. You have to make things an experience for her. Once inside the bedroom, you must dominate her. Push her against the wall and passionately kiss her as you (lightly!) choke her. Then, throw her on the bed.

Begin to passionately kiss her as you pull her hair. Kiss her neck. Tease her. Begin to reach down her panties and stop. Get her pussy dripping wet before you even take her panties off.

Once she’s ready, rip her panties off and get on top of her. Grab her neck again and kiss her hard. Then, slowly move your hand down to her pussy. Begin to rub her clitoris, ever so gently. Then, quickly grab some lube. Her pussy should already be wet, but you need the lube to increase her sensation.

Once she is very wet, you can start fingering her. Begin to stimulate her G-spot. Insert your index finger into her vagina so that it touches the front wall. Begin to stroke your finger back and forth in a come-hither motion. Start slow and soft. Begin to build intensity by using longer and firmer strokes.

Next, insert another finger and start again. Go slowly at first – gradually build up the speed and strength of your strokes. You should do this for 5-10 minutes. She should be beginning to moan, but not be orgasmic yet…

The next step what actually makes her squirt. When you have two fingers inside her, adjust your palm. You want your palm to be on top of her clitoris while your two fingers are on her G-spot.

Your other hand will be on the left-middle part of her abdomen and close to her vagina – right above her pelvic bone where her hip bone starts. You’ll be pressing down with a decent amount of pressure on this part of her stomach with you hand.

As you press down with your other hand, your palm with be on her clitoris with your fingers stimulating her G-spot. It’s like your almost cupping her vagina in your hand. Then, you begin to rapidly move your hand up and down. This allows her clit to be stimulated while still stimulating her G-spot.

Speed things up. Then, speed up some more! Eventually, you’ll be doing this movement as fast as you can. Keep going until she squirts. Don’t worry about being too rough with her vagina. That’s where babies come from – and besides, if it hurts, she’ll tell you.

The key when helping a woman squirt is to make sure you pull up and back with your fingers while keeping contact with her clit.

Switch It Up

That method used just your fingers. But some girls don’t enjoy fingering that much. They prefer to get fucked – hard. Treat these types of girls a bit differently.

(You can also do what was described above and then transition into this method.)

So, if you finger her (like we described above) and she doesn’t squirt, there is still hope. Start fucking her – hard and deep.

When she’s getting hot and bothered, get on top of her and throw her legs over your shoulders. Then, spread them until your pelvis is touching her clitoris. Next, begin to rock back and forth. This movement allows your penis to stroke her G-Spot very deeply while keeping contact with her clit.

This will help some girls to ejaculate. If it doesn’t, then keep going until she’s moaning like crazy. Then, kiss her passionately and begin to finger her (as described earlier) as you pull out. Slowly breathe hot air onto her vagina as you finger her. Then, suck her vagina into your mouth as your finger her. Next, do the rapid finger movement we described earlier as you suck and flick her clitoris.

This method provides the same stimulation as the other method. Some girls just prefer to get fucked for a while before coming. Some girls also prefer oral sex.

That’s All There Is to It

Using these methods, you’ll make a majority of the girls you hook up with squirt (or flood). This will instantly create strong emotions in them for you. Remember, with great power comes great responsibility. Literally 😉

About the authorPatrick Banks

Patrick is a Berlin-based dating advisor, motivational speaker, a huge fitness and vegan diet enthusiast and the main editor at Wingman Magazine, specialised in men's health. His ultimate goal is to share with men around the world his passion for self-development and to help them to become the greatest version of themselves. He believes a healthy body and successful social interactions are two main keys to happiness.