Puppy love=your first few feelings as a kid. A mix of feelings such as love and hate. It's confusing and primarily non-sexual in nature.

Crush=that hot and bothered feeling from 1 to 90 days. You can have multiple crushes at a time.

Infatuation=Burns hotter than a crush, all consuming. You can only have 1 infatuation at a time. You think and dream about the person and obsess over them. Infatuation can start after the first few days of a crush, but generally develops after a crush burns for a month or so and becomes more embedded.

Love=Can only form with time-served and after an intimate bond forms deeper than mere friendship. You can only have one true love at a time.

......so it sounds like you're majorly infatuated with someone. It's not a bag thing. I think it's perfectly normal and I think most psychologists would agree from what I've read. Just embrace it and enjoy it as much as you can.

If you can't get that person off of your mind, the answer to your question is both! lol. I'm so happy for you, hahaha. It's a rare thing that you are experiencing now with this person. And it happens less and less the older you get and learn what people are really like in this world. Enjoy this man.

Ravensong: So after reading these responses, answer truthfully, do you (1) simply like that people are talking about and reminding you of the guy in question OR (2) do you feel defensive of the guy in question?

If you simply are enjoying that this discussion reminds you of him, then you're likely just crushing on him, and it'll pass in a week or few months.

If you feel defensive of the guy, as if people are "attacking" the situation or your feelings, then you're likely REALLY emotionally invested in the concept of you two and your superego is going into overdrive to protect that union.

So if this is all fun, you're crushing on him. If you feel hurt, insulted or defensive after reading the comments, then you're infatuated and need to prepare for months of idealization of this man until your mind gives up and lets go. I had an infatuation that lasted 2 years (straight guy in school I couldn't have, but we were best friends, and he kept saying if he were gay he'd want to be with me, so that kept it burning).

It's a crush, or maybe a mixture of crush/infatuation.Unless you personally know this guy very well, I'd say it's more of a lingering 'lust at first sight'.Then again, I can't really say because I'm very unfamiliar with this particular feeling.

Svnw688 saidRavensong: So after reading these responses, answer truthfully, do you (1) simply like that people are talking about and reminding you of the guy in question OR (2) do you feel defensive of the guy in question?

If you simply are enjoying that this discussion reminds you of him, then you're likely just crushing on him, and it'll pass in a week or few months.

If you feel defensive of the guy, as if people are "attacking" the situation or your feelings, then you're likely REALLY emotionally invested in the concept of you two and your superego is going into overdrive to protect that union.

So if this is all fun, you're crushing on him. If you feel hurt, insulted or defensive after reading the comments, then you're infatuated and need to prepare for months of idealization of this man until your mind gives up and lets go. I had an infatuation that lasted 2 years (straight guy in school I couldn't have, but we were best friends, and he kept saying if he were gay he'd want to be with me, so that kept it burning).