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Friday, June 27, 2008

Black Women Are Worth 10K

I came across this story at The Root but it was originally posted at Aunt Jemima's Revenge. Chiman Rai So hated blacks that he hired a hit man to kill his black daughter-in law, Sparkle. The case was labeled an honor killing. Eight years ago Rajeeve came home to find his daughter unhurt, and his wife brutally murdered. When asked by police during the investigation of his wifes death about his parents, he referred to them as "a little racist". This from a man that told his wife, and her family that his parents were dead, rather than deal with their racism.

Eight years later the prosecutor is seeking the death penalty, and a little girl is growing up without both of her parents. Yes I said both, you see since the death of his wife, Rajeeve has remarried an Indian woman, and has not bothered to see his daughter. It seems that Sparkle's death taught him which bodies matter in this society.

When I first read this story, I must admit to openly weeping, not only for the light that was so sadly doused, but for the child that is now denied the birthright of her mothers love. Once I moved past the sadness, rage settled upon me, like fog rolling across a series of hills. A rage so deep that it leaves me nearly inarticulate. As I have said many times before, black women occupy the bottom of the racial and gender hierarchy in the western world. That we continue to pay for this positioning with our very lives, is evidence that this so-called post racial society is non existent. What was this young mothers crime, but existing as black and female in this world?

We claim to believe in equality, and to value people equally, but daily black women are assaulted, and murdered. Our deaths and our rapes go unrecognized by traditional media. It seems that we are only visible when we are committing a crime, and not when a crime is committed against us. We are silenced in feminist circles, and minimized in the civil rights struggle. Where is a WOC to receive validation of her worth? We must turn to each other as shelter from a world that treats our bodies akin to disposable refuse. Sit silently no longer my sisters because very few will truly speak on our behalf.

I often wonder behind the PC speech where is the anger at our treatment. It seems it is fashionable to pay lip service these days to the oppressed but to articulate from a position of rage is a rare phenomenon. Passion and outrage are saved for the more legitimate causes, while daily the war against WOC is raged and the bodies are buried, unnoticed, unvalued, and forgotten. How many feminists have even bothered to ask the question why WOC are not featured when they are missing, or why there is no discussion when pregnant black mothers are killed? It does not diminish you as a woman to admit that WOC hurt too. How many men will continually privilege race over gender and in the process treat us, and our concerns as though they were invisible? I cannot sit in peace and watch as my sisters are made to pay the price for being black and female in our racist, and patriarchal society. I am an angry black woman and my rage is justified.

Renee, if I am upsetting you today, I am sorry. I have written on both you posts when maybe I shouldn't have done.

But, I am strong like you. I will say what needs to be said if I believe it needs to be said.

But at the same time I will understand if my words are unwelcome. I have passion just like yourself. That is the only excuse I have. Sorry, if I offend. I have not been on feminists sites. I don't know the rules. Oh, I made a couple of comments ages ago.

Julie, I don't agree with a lot of what espouse. I make that very clear in my responses but you are entitled to your opinion and as long as you continue to do so respectfully I will continue to publish your commentary. I encourage all women to speak their truths whether or not I agree with them. It is not my place to put my experience ahead of yours but I will certainly always point out when I disagree. Regarding commenting on feminist blogs I am warning your right now, you will not get the kind of open reception that you find here at womanistmusings but good luck.

I am very pro women and men working together equally but I wonder how much power we give away as being victims. You are going to have to expand on that statement for me, I am not sure that I am following you correctly.

I like being a woman. I like it a lot. And I like men. I like them a lot. I think some of our roles are natural. Not nurture

Everyone has a different take on the nature vs nurture debate. I personal believe that a lot of gender difference simply comes down to nurture. As a society we continually reinforce gender difference so we can hardly be surprised when it manifests itself.

Everyone has a different take on the nature vs nurture debate. I personal believe that a lot of gender difference simply comes down to nurture. As a society we continually reinforce gender difference so we can hardly be surprised when it manifests itself.

I do not want to insult your intelligence Renee. Always know that in everything I say. I have taken a path where I have had to listen to the feminists that were discarded and put down as failures as well as challenging the ones that threw in my face that I got it wrong raising my sons.

But the fact is that this stuff really happened. We made nurture look right.

We must look at our own movement's past to understand why we are going where we are going.

I never knew any of this. How could I? The only information I was fed was what was meant to be fed to me. And so many important feminists held their head in shame to this movement. They were silenced in shame. How bad is that?

How dare we shame women!! How dare we shame and stop women's voices. Either we are for ALL women or we are not.

@ Julie if you can believe that you an impart certain moral guidelines to your children, it should not be a leap to assume that you can also teach gender performativity. Tell me why is it that we teach little girls to cross their legs...walk into a room and how many women have their legs crossed when they sit? This is not because it is a natural position but that we have taught them that the female body is closed whereas the male body is open.

if you can believe that you an impart certain moral guidelines to your children, it should not be a leap to assume that you can also teach gender performativity. Tell me why is it that we teach little girls to cross their legs...walk into a room and how many women have their legs crossed when they sit? This is not because it is a natural position but that we have taught them that the female body is closed whereas the male body is open.

At the end of the day both genders are nothing more than monkeys wearing stolen animal skins that we use to put away our sex organs so we are not 24 hours a day trying to have sex or mastibating.

But the woman is smaller than the man. We somehow evolved to use what power we had which is sexual. So we learnt to cross our legs. We learnt to control with sex.

The men have competed with each other just like the monkeys and we have the men up the top like David Rockefeller holding power over the world as King. He has no intention of allowing another man to get close to being king. Others parade animal skins like feathers. 1 feather means he is a seargent, 2 feathers means he is a general.

but now where are we trying to go.

We are now at the stage where we are putting ourselves down as humans to allow other animals to become superior than the weaker ones of us.

http://tinyurl.com/5n3rv3

Now we want to have the right to kill born babies even up to a month old if they are weak.

We won't be doing any favours for women with an attitude like this.

You may find some men in humanism that are right into respecting women as an equal but it won't last. Men and women are wired differently.

The second part about women crossing their legs is about the power women have over men being sexual. (yes some of us are a shallow lot, lol)

After all, we are (supposed to be) the smaller of the 2 genders. Of course we gain from it as we have learnt (nurture, sure) of it's power.

The second comment also explains what the male species is doing. A Hierarchy. They are competing for the sex.

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My comment before that shows how many women have failed to feminise their sons. It wasn't that the women were hopeless but that the boys followed their fathers or some other male role model. Mothers lose son's. And mummies boy's are very lost and harmed from what research shows.

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To me ... putting forward humanism isn't a good thing for MY culture.

But then I think about YOUR culture and I see what we have as difference. But I still wonder how different we really are?

This is turning into a great opportunity for me having discussion with you.

To be honest with you, a friend of mine a couple of streets away has a wife whose sister married one of David Rockefeller's nephews just for the name. Just for the status.

Some of the men speak out on the radio about all this. They say that they are not able to challenge their masculinity because the women won't accept them. It is almost as if both genders behaviour is forcing the other to behave the way they do.

I have a question for you.

Does your husband act as a protector of you as a woman? Is he the one who will get up at night if there is a noise in the house? Do you accept him and expect him to be the protector of you and your children?

I only ask because it is little things like this where women are letting down equality themsleves.

@ Julie actually I had a computer virus and am only just now getting back online. Sorry for the delay.

"The second part about women crossing their legs is about the power women have over men being sexual. (yes some of us are a shallow lot, lol)"Actually women close their legs because it is a way to control female sexuality. Mens bodies are open because they are constructed as the aggressor.

Does your husband act as a protector of you as a woman? Is he the one who will get up at night if there is a noise in the house? Do you accept him and expect him to be the protector of you and your children?

No my husband does not act as a protector to me. We don't do the whole knight in shining armor thing in my home because it is limiting. In case of emergency we seek to protect each other because we love and respect each other.

The response that I received at work today is that we cross our legs for men. Well, Duh!!!

You are saying the same.

Actually women close their legs because it is a way to control female sexuality. Mens bodies are open because they are constructed as the aggressor.

But have you read what people (men and women) in humanism want?

They want to have sex too! No big deal, this is what it is all about ... but they don't want to have sex with aged men and women. They want it with children.

Renee, I am hoping you know all about the humanist, feminist and homosexual platforms that came about 1973.

Homosexual movement.

7. Repeal of all laws governing the age of sexual consent.

8. Repeal of all legislative provisions that restrict the sex or number of persons entering into a marriage unit; and the extension of legal benefits to all persons who cohabit regardless of sex or numbers.

If you don't know about this you will find it interesting. Most of these are done except these two.

http://tinyurl.com/3zl8l9

I am not keen on the Lesbian movement either if it stays unsophisticated. If only Ellen DeGeneres was a part.

Women only have "sexual power" in relation to men because patriarchy gives it to us.Additionally,if we are deemed unworthy of having a sexuality or wielding "sexual power", we are not depicted as desired.

All this aside, what does nature v. nurture have to do with the murder of this woman and the mistreatment of black women in general?

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