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How Hypnotherapy Can Help You Feel In Control

Life can feel very hectic these days, we are always on call to our phones and devices, obediently responding to their pings and notifications. We are inundated with information and prophesies of doom via the 24 hour news cycle, as well as non-stop comparisons to people living seemingly perfect lives via social media and reality TV.​It is easier than ever to enter into a state of overwhelm. When we enter overwhelm we tend to freeze and become stuck. Understanding our boundaries and having a reasonable and compassionate attitude towards ourselves is the key to avoiding this pitfall.

Here are 8 tips to help feel in control:

Understand your locus of control. This means to make a clear distinction between what you can control and what is controlled by external forces in your life; in other words don't waste time and energy trying to make the rain stop, focus instead on what you can do to minimise the impact of the rain with what is within your control e.g. get yourself a rain jacket and umbrella and move on. Putting energy into trying to control something controlled by external forces will lead to inevitable feelings of failure and powerlessness.

Don't allow an 'if only things were different' mindset to take-over. Address circumstances as they are, not as you wish they were; if necessary ask yourself "what can I do about this?" and act accordingly. If there is nothing you can do, adjust your expectations and plans i.e. adapt. Sticking rigidly to expectations that cannot be fulfilled will lead to stress and feelings of frustration.

Be sensitive and compassionate without trying to control and anticipate other peoples feelings. Other peoples feelings are influenced by things far beyond your control so don't try to be a mindreader/fortune teller. You are responsible for behaving like a decent human being, beyond that you are not responsible for other peoples feelings or opinions.

Feeling in control is not the same as being in control. There are many situations in which we are not fully in control, however we can have control over how we respond to them. We can choose to be philosophical and use every experience as a learning tool to inform our future decisions.

Set realistic goals, ideally using the S.M.A.R.T. Goal protocol (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time Limited). This helps to avoid overload. Remember it's ok to say no if you are being inundated, don't bite off more than you can chew. Don't mistake yourself for a superhero or be a martyr to a lost cause. Understand your abilities and by all means try to fulfil your potential but know your limits.

Be psychologically flexible. Rigid views and thought patterns lead to regular angst and let downs. Being flexible enables you to avoid the feeling over overwhelm; to accept that things don't always go according to plan and to be more resilient generally.

Practice mindfulness daily, even if it's just 10 minutes. This allows your brain to reset enabling the pre-frontal cortex to regulate your emotions more efficiently and effectively . Mindfulness has also been shown to increase motivation and improve memory which will also enhance a sense of inner control.

Practice delaying gratification. This means developing the skill of putting off something easy or enjoyable while you tackle more difficult/less enjoyable tasks first. Sometimes this is referred to as eating the frogs first, from a Mark Twain quote in which he advised that "if you eat the frogs first thing in the morning you will go through the day knowing the worst is behind you". This practice increases a sense of discipline and control as well as setting you up for the day in a positive frame of mind with a sense of achievement , this habit is one of the key traits of highly successful people.

If you are feeling as thought life is out of control Hypnotherapy can help you to reset and restart. Hypnosis allows a state of deep introspection and insight which is the foundation for positive mindset adjustments. If you'd like to find out how I can help you, give me a call on 0435 923 817 or use the contact form at the link here. I look forward to hearing from you.

For the best Hypnotherapy Melbourne has to offer ensure to do your research and check your practitioners training. Ensure they have been trained at a recognised training institute and are a member of an accredited association.

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Melbourne Hypnotherapist Georgina Mitchell was born in Ireland, moving to Australia in 1989. Georgina Specialises in helping people with Anxiety Disorders and is an active member of the Melbourne Hypnotherapy Community. In Melbourne Hypnosis is being accepted as effective tool for anyone wanting to achieve a positive change in Mood, Behaviour and Habit.

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"Georgina has helped me overcome depression and anxiety so that I was able to finish my course and get a job. I've started going to the gym again which I had previously given up because I felt too self-conscious and couldn't stand being hot. It's really changed my life for the better, I can manage my thoughts and don't have the overwhelming feelings that used to see me spiraling downwards anymore. I've tried other therapies and this was my last resort, I can't recommend her highly enough"

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