Internet Dating

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Is there really a Coupe de Ville hiding at the
bottom of the cracker jack box? Will I/you/we find what we seek? (and on the
internet no less?)

I’ve had that insta-connection with people I’ve
met online who indicated that it was reciprocated. It hasn’t worked out mostly
from what it seems cause I didn’t “fit” into the “what they were looking for”
criteria and that's [i]fine![/i], that's the risk of the dating game.

Does a potential relationship need that
insta-connection? I dunno, but that feeling is intoxicating and I have no doubt
that what I felt was real and incredible, and I was able to fall into their
embrace and fit like a glove, see them inside and out, hear a volume from every
sentence spoken; and I hope that if and when it happens again it will blossom,
though no regrets on what I have gotten to experience. Better to have loved and
lost... Maybe the bar is now set too high now (but shouldn’t it be set that
high? Should we really settle for less?). If it’s happened more than once than
I guess that connection doesn’t equate to “the one” but I think it does equate
to an incredible potential of what could be. I don’t know if I believe in the
concept of “the one” but I do believe in love, and I can’t imagine there’s
anything in this world that would make me walk away from something that
powerful…when you see someone, the good and the bad, and can embrace and love
and respect and crave the very fibre of their existence.

Don’t get me wrong, I know we can all make
mistakes by following our hearts without letting our heads take lead to be sure
the full picture is there. But when your heart, and mind, and body are all in
agreement, and it’s mutual, isn’t that reason to throw caution to the wind? If
it’s just a sexual attraction that leads your heart to someone then yeah, that
is a bad idea. On the converse, if it’s a person that meets all of your
“checklist” items and has none of your “red flag” items but there's no
spark…maybe you can build something on that, I don’t know, I’ve tried without
success.

But when you look at someone and can say without
hesitation “yeah, that’s someone amazing”, and it’s mutual, AND that spark is
there, I’m sorry…it’s a mistake to walk away.

It’s fine, we all make mistakes and sometimes
they’re made for good reason in the grand scheme of things because we are meant
to be on another path….but don’t let fear be your deterrent when you know what
you know and feel just cause it doesn't make sense; quantum physics is what it
is regardless of whether we understand it.

Do you really wanna look back and say “I wonder…”?
Yeah you’ll probably, almost certainly, meet someone else and fall in love, and
maybe they’ll fit better…but once you settle into the routine of realizing
they’re not perfect, and relationships take work no matter what…think back to
that other “I wonder if that really would have been better and was what I was
seeing really all that it seemed”.