Any of you ever ask your LO to do things for you against BOP/DOC policies?

Did any of you ever ask your wife to do things for you. Like stuff that would put her at risk. Like, bring in tabacco at visit. Or the most recent: make a 3 way call for another in mate ( him, his bank, me ) so he can approve funds to be put into my account then sent to him. I of course am not stupid. And refuse to do any of this crap. Which has led to what may be the fight to end this marriage.

Yea I already know this. And that's so hard to admit. He is so angry at me. Because I called him out on it. " I'm tripping over nothing" I don't care about his life in there, etc etc. He is seriously acting pyscho. Got in 2 fights. Said it was my fault. Because I had been messing with his head all day. No buddy that's all on you dude. Says he's just gonna do his own thing. Since I obviously don't care about him. I told him he needs to get him a dumb wife if that's what he's wanting. Because I'm not it. In one day he managed to lose me. Very intense anger. But I'm ok with him saying it's all my fault. As long as he's gone. I spent 5.5 years building a life for us. So he would have something to come home to. He's spent it on cases no school, no change. Nata. So he's done me a favor here. Gave me a ticket out. See ya!!

The 3 way call was recorded by the prison, as was his request for you to smuggle tobacco during a visit (if it was done over the phone). You were right to refuse both, and to get away from someone who is willing to risk your freedom for something as stupid as a cigarette.

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If I could tell you how many women I have seen get arrested as they get on line for visits, while children watch, then have vehicle search, taken away in handcuff...social services if necessary if would break your heart. They listen to calls, they know what's going to happen.
No person who cares for you would treat you so callously and then try to make it your fault when you are strong.
Sometimes people tell us EXACTLY who they are. I'm glad you listened before you got lost.

I'm sorry that you are going through this but to ask you to bring in tobacco is a horrible thing for him to do. He is putting your freedom at risk. You deserve so much better than that. I don't agree with the three way call either but the worst that could come out of that would be loss of phone privileges but by asking you to sneak something in, he is putting you at risk. That is just a mean and selfish thing to ask of the person that stood by him during his sentence.

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The first time he asked was 2 years ago. Which we fought about for over a year until he finally let it go. He has no one but me. No one goes to see him but me. He's been in and out since he was 16. In all those years he's been on his own in there. Idk I don't know what goes on in there. I just loved him and wanted to show him there's another way to live. With family that sticks by you. Etc etc he can't get past the prison mentality. It's where he was raised. It's what he knows. Makes me very very sad.

I just wanted to let you all know that I am filing for divorce this week. I can no longer. I am ready to be free from all things prison related. I appreciate all of your advice when I was feeling mixed up. Thank you all.making this decision has taken tons of weight off of me.

I am glad you found the courage to do what is best for you; I know this couldn't have been an easy decision but I am confident, based on what you've shared here, that it is best for you in the long run! Good for you, wishing you all the best

I just wanted to let you all know that I am filing for divorce this week. I can no longer. I am ready to be free from all things prison related. I appreciate all of your advice when I was feeling mixed up. Thank you all.making this decision has taken tons of weight off of me.

Good for you! I would not put up with that if a person loves you they would never risk your freedom they would never risk putting you in jail that to me is just ludicrous. I never understood why some people just put up with that kind of stuff.