Remember, I will still be hereAs long as you hold me in your memoryRemember me. ~~Josh Groban~~

Our findagrave activity stemmed from my love of genealogy, photography and old gravestones, strengthened when we saw the damage one year of weather does to an older stone that cannot stand the test of time well. We believe everyone deserves to be remembered, beyond plain, cold statistics, and document as much as we are able, especially as we travel. This is a wondrous site where the upcoming generations can easily find their history and ancestors. Even after we are gone, our work will remain. Thank you, Findagrave.

We are all simply the guardians of those we have kindly added until their family comes along. I am eager to transfer anyone who is not family to family. Demands will be ignored, "please" is simply common courtesy. People with kind, sincere words make my day.

I take my heritage, 'graving' and documentation very seriously and most respectfully. Accuracy is of the most utmost importance to me, not who 'owns' a memorial. If I have made an error, please, please, let me know, politely. Cooperation is the entire point of this site. I now understand why people leave Findagrave. If you are rude, I will ignore you.

** I spend over half my time on Findagrave JUST sending edits to admin for duplicates, not documenting cemeteries any more. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE double check before you add a historical person from the 1600's or back. Nine times out of ten, they have already been added.

** PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read the FAQ concerning BURIALS UNKNOWN. They are to be used for RECENT deaths only, not your 176th great grandfather whose burial is 'not located yet.'

**If you will not honor an update sent in by another volunteer, you are doing the memorial, AND the hard work of the volunteers a real injustice, not to mention the Findagrave admins who now have to do YOUR WORK. If you don't want to do updates, give your memorials to someone who will, PLEASE.

**Do not use my photos without permission, and ask BEFORE you use them. Simple, reasonable. And, if your pictures are crooked, poor quality, out of focus, too dark to read, taken at night, shadowed, or the stone is covered in dirt or weeds, or your finger was in front of the lens, I will add my photo on the memorial. Sorry. Please have the respect to post only decent, well thought out photos.

**USE THE MEMORIAL EDIT/SUGGESTION OPTION ON THE MEMORIAL you want updated for updates requests, transfer requests, general inquiries ANY memorial. I will IGNORE AND DELETE suggestions, requests and updates and inquiries left HERE or in EMAIL, as they are REPEATEDLY, DESPITE THIS stupidly bold NOTICE.

RE: Elba FrancisHi, Anne! No, I'm not actually related. I've been working on a tree of Page County, Iowa families. Of course, there's a lot of movement among the various neighboring counties. As I work through them, I try to fill out their Find A Grave sites because those are such a wonderful resource. Thanks for your help! Barbara

Lydia Cushing White Houghton, FredoniaSomething is wrong here and there are several Lydias with these last names to muddy the waters but according to this, Lydia was married for the second time at age 15. Note also that Fredonia Pioneer Cemetery is adjacent to and expanded into Forest Hill so many families cross the fence.

RE: RelationshipsI do not send edits for anyone not related to me.I am related to 99% of the memorials I have created and I work at them all the time...The edits I send are connected to my family....don't have the time to chase unrelated people:)

I really appreciate how respectful & diligent you are about your Find-a-Grave work. I have only been doing this for about 6 mos. Since I have retired, I have been bitten by the genealogy bug & have been trying to get all of my family connected up on Find-a-Grave as well as putting together the family tree. I'm the family caretaker of a lot of old photos of the Pitmans & Swansons. I have come to realize that it takes quite a bit of time to double-check information, set up these sites & coordinate information. Thank you for your efforts with all of your memorials!