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Here you will find blog posts on resources to help you recover from your divorce. I hope you find it helpful. This website has evolved from focusing on the doom and gloom of divorce (blech!) to now post divorce and recovery (yay!) because all of us eventually get to a point where we say "no more" to just surviving and oh holy yes to thriving! It's time. Let's get there. ​

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So if you know me you know I love reading books that help encourage growth whether that means emotional growth, spiritual or achieving goals in life such as growing a business, blog, income or finances. I truly believe that if we want to be better we need to learn from those that are in a better place than we are, that have traits we admire and want to emulate. The book I feature in this post covers all that. ​

Currently I'm reading 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do by Amy Morin and I will definitely read it again. You know those books you could read more than once because they have so much great information and as you soak in what is relevant to you in that moment or phase of life there will be something that rings true to you and of value later on? This is that book. I believe this is one worth buying because it will be one to come back to again and again as you progress through life and just want a reminder of totally relatable encouragement.

Bad Habits & Mental EnergyReading this book I gained a lot of insight. In the latter half she talks about mental muscles and how we must lose bad habits because they literally drain us of mental energy (for real, I know that firsthand) and our ability to live effectively. We can each as she describes become our own mental strength coach... and I believe this is so valuable for pretty much anyone. I mean, think about it... that pertains to just about anyone at any age or life stage. If you're in your twenties you want to use your mental energy as effectively as possible to establish yourself career wise and financially. If you're in your thirties you may be all about buying your first home, juggling a family and career and trying to stay focused on what you need to do without distractions that will only serve to take you to a negative place. If you're older or going through really any life change such as a loss of a spouse, a child, or even a divorce... it's imperative to keep your mental muscles in shape. Making sure you are the keeper of your thoughts, feelings, emotional well being, behaviors etc means you stay true to you and what you need.

Staying Stuck?Staying stuck where we're at in life often means becoming stagnant and falling behind while everyone else moves forward and betters their life. Whether it's staying in a job you hate and only tolerate or remaining in a relationship that is not healthy... reinventing yourself begins with YOU. In her book Amy discusses this and gives actual examples of situations in which people either had the choice to stay where they were or rake the risk to reinvent themselves. I love her story telling where she shares actual examples of situations people shared with her via social media for her book. These mini stories are totally relatable and eye opening.

Women & CriticismShe also covers criticism, feedback, vulnerability, over thinking, worrying, over apologizing, mindfulness, risks, bravery and decision making. Women as a whole are very sensitive to any criticism and feedback often leading them to not taking any and then not being informed about what information they need to move forward in a positive manner whether that be personally or professionally. What ends up happening is you begin to avoid any and all challenges to begin with so you cannot fail and will not endure anything that could be perceived as mean or hurtful when it truly may not be. Think of your best friend who honestly yet tactfully tells you your dyed blonde hair is NOT flattering or youthful on you but a softer natural look would look better. You can either become incensed and hurt and attack with defensiveness or retreat or gracefully accept it and begin to assess yourself more honestly. It goes with anything... sometimes people try to tell us how we truly can improve but if we are highly sensitive people it might be taken wrongly and then it only hurts us in the long run because we put up walls and shut people out... ultimately staying stuck and wounded.
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​​Great Read I would say this book is a great one to purchase and now is the best time due to it being summer.... get those thoughts churning on how you can begin self improvement so when school starts back this fall and the kiddos are in school you have already begun implementing new ways of living and becoming mentally more resilient. Not only will you benefit but everyone in your circle will too.

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