Category: Advice

Ok. So you’ve just dropped more than a few stacks on your premium college/university education and now you find yourself going back to that old summer job as camp counsellor. It’s only natural to be disappointed as you’ve just spent the last four years being filled with ideas surrounding the promise of success and a dream career. Think again. Being 20-something and FOC (fresh-outta-college) is the equivalent of being stuck in an awkward unemployed limbo that will seem impossible to get out of. While this stage of your life is bound to be nothing short of disappointment, late nights, hard work, and an endless life-supply of coffee… I assure you there is light at the end of the tunnel (I REPEAT: LIGHT. AT. END. OF. TUNNEL).

Now that we’ve come to a mutual understanding that the economy is pretty much a sad pile of sh*t right now offering little to no jobs for college graduates, it’s time to be more positive. So yes, landing a good job is like clawing your way to the finish line of a spartan race, but no, it’s not necessarily a bad thing.

In my experience, FOC job hunters seem to have this sense of unnecessary self-entitlement. As though reading textbooks and writing exams for the past four years gives a person the “right” to a good job. While you might have an amazing education… you have pretty much no practical skills or experience that lands you the right to a good job (with the exception of those do-gooders who took advantage of internship opportunities – go you!).

Valentine’s Day. Even the thought of it is cringe-worthy for the single ladies out there… or so they say.

For every 5 girls who claim they “hate Valentine’s Day” at least 3 of them are lying. Why lie you ask? I thought it was obvious – no one wants to admit they’re lonely. The truth is, for most girls it’s easier to spend the day faking their hatred rather than roll around in a bed of self-pity spoon feeding themselves ice-cream (been there, done that). What most singles desire most, is to be in a relationship celebrating this hallmark holiday for themselves and their significant other. Unfortunately, this is not a reality everyone gets the “pleasure” of experiencing and this is why people project hate towards the world on this day. I don’t blame them. Even though most singles don’t actually hate the holiday, there are many reasons to have it out for V-Day. Here are a few of my favourites:

First of all, what is it with the correlation between chocolate and V-Day? I mean I love chocolate and all but I don’t need to be receiving heaps of it from my significant other just so they can watch me stuff my face – pass.

And what are you supposed to do when V-Day falls on a weekend? If you’re going to go out on Valentine’s Day you might as well walk around with a giant sign that reads “SINGLE & DESPERATE”.

The whole world has built up this expectation around V-Day that it’s meant to be spent with someone. If you’re single you’re better off staying home and avoiding anyone whose going to hit you with the “awe, it’s ok… you’ll find someone someday!” spiel.

Ok, so you’re single and have decided to embrace it. You and your fellow single ladies (or fellas) make dinner plans, but unfortunately every restaurant is impossible to get in without a reservation. You find yourself sitting in a Mickey D’s at the end of the night stuffing your face with a Jr. bacon cheeseburger and once again, reminded of how single you all are.

While the above circumstances are harsh realities every single person has experienced at least once in their life (if you don’t agree with me stop lying to yourself), it’s all a part of the viscous cycle. And as much as being single on Valentine’s Day can suck, it’s really not all that bad. Here’s why the single’s need to stop pretending to hate this holiday and just embrace it:

Indulge yourself: you can’t expect another to love you without loving yourself. Corny? I don’t care.

Throw a party: Ok. So you can’t go out without appearing desperate. All I hear is an excuse to bring the party to your house.

While it’s completely natural for most people to feel a sense of competition here and there, it too often happens between friends. As a woman, its hard not to compare yourself to the other women around you. Unfortunately in my case, the women around me most also happen to be my best friends. Comparing things like clothes, beauty, hair, and style are really only minimalist, trivial things and usually aren’t enough to encourage actual competition.

But what do you do when the comparisons start to happen with bigger, more important components of life such as school or college applications? This is where it gets tricky. Meeting your best friends in college or university also means there is a high chance they are in the same program as you. While this can be a positive thing (having friends in your classes, sharing notes, having good partners for group projects), it can also be not so positive.

Going beyond the competition that comes with college applications, what do you do when you and your bestie also have the same dreams, goals, and career path? In this case, it becomes EXTREMELY hard not to get competitive.

Here are some examples of NORMAL thoughts that might go through your head:

How could she apply to the same program as me, its MY dream not HERS.

What if she gets in and I don’t?

What if she becomes successful and I’m stuck waiting tables my whole life?

JENN MARLEE

Hi there & welcome to my blog! I am an aspiring PR pro interested in the lifestyle, fashion, and beauty industry. I currently dedicate my time to getting as much experience in the field as necessary to achieve my goals. This blog is my creative outlet where you can find information about myself, my journey, and hopefully some inspiration along the way!