The adventures of a single woman who combines ministry with parenting a special needs young adult.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

And So It Begins

Today we went to town to run some errands, some of them connected to my departure and aides coming in to stay with her. It is now becoming real to her, and the acting out is beginning. She has come down to help me in the dining room several times, and quickly explodes and retreats to her bedroom. I have to give her credit-- she does keep trying.

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I've invited conversation about her concerns, but she's not able/willing to talk about them right now. It's something new, and even though she knows and likes the aides, she's scared. I have been seeking to reassure her, but she is beyond reassurance right now.

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She was convinced she almost had a seizure in the car while I was in the pharmacy.

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The phone calls I've had about the family drama are not helping. Now there is a great disagreement as to where Mom should go for rehab. We all want what's best for Mom, but you wouldn't think that by the way two of my siblings are talking about each other. Both are beyond reason at this point. I sent them an email asking that they refrain from taking their frustration with one another out on me. One hasn't received the email yet and the other is only communicating with me via text message and email, which is fine.

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Hopefully Daughter will be able to calm down enough that we can address her fears before I leave on Monday. There's just so much I need to get done between now and then....

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About Me

I'm a pastor and a mother. I was ordained in October of 1985, and began serving this suburban congregation in October of 2010. In March of 1990 I was asked to take an almost 3 year old "for the weekend." Five years into the weekend I adopted her. Daughter carries a number of diagnoses: Reactive Attachment Disorder, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Central Auditory Processing Disorder, Bipolar, seizure disorder, and type 1 diabetes. She moved into a group home in November of 2011. She attends a sheltered workshop and sings in the church choir.

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Important People and Places

Daughter became my foster child in 1990, shortly before she turned 3, and I adopted her when she was 8.

Capital is a state capital in the midwest. In October of 2010 I became pastor of a church on the edge of town.

Administrative Assistant is my keeper. She runs the office at the church, and at heart is an artist. She helps turn my crazy ideas into reality.

Program is where Daughter spends most of her days. She does some piece work and participates in some classes and activities. She'd like to get community employment, but still has some work to do to make that possible.

Sister Best Friend and I met in seminary. We vacationed together for a number of years, and then she got married. We still do some cooperative worship planning. She seves a church less than an hour away.

Far Away Sister is 4.5 years young than me. She lives across the country. She was an electrical engineer until she stayed home to raise Tall Niece and Nephew. Now that they are graduating, she is planning to become a high school math teacher.

Sister is 10 years young than me. She is divorced and the mother of Short Niece. She lives in the same state as Capital. She is a teacher.

Brother is 11 1/2 years younger than I am. He finally got married in February of 2009. He lives near Sister. They are the parents of Baby Nephew.