Stress all AroundWe are living in stressful times. Stressors are everywhere, every day: hectic mornings, long to-do lists, power struggles with kids or partners; work commutes with traffic; discontent clients, colleagues, and bosses; long work hours; tight schedules; unpaid bills; challenging interpersonal dynamics; and so on. Maybe our parents’ generation was able to leave stress at the workplace. But, today with smart phones and social media, there are fewer boundaries and less down time. Take all of this and then add in a traumatic life event like a death of a loved one, a job loss, a divorce, or the current presidential election (if you’re a progressive like! me!) and life can seem pretty darn stressful.

You probably don’t need me to tell you that your stress is costing you BIG in terms of your physical health, mental and emotional health and in your core relationships, but just in case you’ve forgotten, I’m here to remind you that stress disrupts every major system in the body.

The StatisticsChronic stress predisposes you to:

Poor digestion

Headaches

Hormonal imbalances including infertility

Lower immune response

Adrenaline fatigue

Major illnesses such as hypertension, heart attacks and strokes

Degenerative and auto-immune diseases

Anxiety and depression

The physiological effects of just one stressful event in a day last a long time in the body. Anytime you experience a significant stressor, your body’s fight or flight response (the sympathetic nervous system) kicks in and bathes your body with cortisol and adrenaline so that you can battle the saber toothed tiger that is running toward you. But, of course, there is no saber toothed tiger, you just forgot to send off that one email. Long after your stressful experience has passed, stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol still linger in your body, wreaking havoc on your digestive system and causing inflammation.

Self Care Habits for StressAs a health coach and yoga teacher, it’s a major mission of mine to help folks unravel their stress. Whether it’s in a yoga class or in a health coaching program, I want to help people move away from stress and toward ease.

Understanding your built-in Negativity BiasAccording to Hanson, we humans have a built-in negativity bias. That is to say, we are wired to be vigilant and way and to be on the alert for negative or potentially harmful events. Think saber-toothed tiger (or Trump!). This is what has helped us survive as a species. Confronted with a potential threat and a potential reward, our human ancestors consistently chose to move away from a threat rather than toward a reward. Dr. Rick Hanson says to think of these as carrots and sticks. Our ancestors made the evolutionary choice to move away from a stick rather toward a carrot, and this wiring has stuck. The carrot may be there tomorrow but if we get whacked by the stick, we won’t be there to enjoy it. You can read more about Dr. Rick Hanson’s explanation on this subject here, but the short version is that we are hard wired as a species to look out for negative events at the expense of pursuing a reward or pleasurable experience.

Our Brains are PlasticThe good news is that our brains are plastic. That is, neuro-plastic. Our brain circuits can be rewired. We can rewire our brains toward positivity. You know this already if you practice yoga. Watch what happens when you sit down on your mat, close your eyes and deepen your breath. You exhale fully and your stress from the day begins to melt away. You have set into motion a physiological and neurological response which is the opposite of the fight or flight response. Just by breathing in and then exhaling fully, you stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system response which calms you down, and inclines your brain and body toward positivity and well-being. There are other practices off the mat where we can do this as well.

Anti-Stress Habit: Soaking in the GoodSoaking in the Good is Rick Hanson’s simple practice that you can do several times daily to help rewire your brain toward positivity. It’s easy. Here’s how:

Notice what’s already good. There are so many things that are good in your life each day. Start by noticing them. A great yoga class, a fragrant cup of tea, the quiet beauty of the snow falling outside the window, the coziness of your bed, the appreciative comment your co-worker made, the enjoyable music on the radio, the sweet smile on your kids’ face, and so on. Whenever you notice something that is pleasant, enjoyable or good, take a moment and really notice it. Don’t let it pass by unnoticed.

Make it into a good experience. Take a fact, like a nice fragrant cup of tea and turn it into an experience by pausing, softening and really enjoying it. Don’t drink your tea robotically. Really pause and enjoy it. Research shows that the longer a pleasant experience is held in your awareness, the more it creates emotional stimulation that can change your wiring. Neurons that fire together, wire together. This literally starts to change your brain.

Soak it up! Intend for this pleasant experience to soak into your physiology and mental/emotional body. You do this through opening up your senses. Really see, taste, smell, feel and hear the experience. Intend to be changed for the better by the taste of your tea, the smell of the bakery, the colors of the flowers in a bouquet, the feeling of your warm comforter. The longer you take it in, the more your physiology and brain tilts toward positivity. If it’s pleasant enough, your body will start to produce anti-stress hormones that bathe you in a feeling of well-being.