Saturday, March 23, 2013

Once there was a
girl, about fifteen years old, who had a very good friend. In fact,
it was her best friend, who unfortunately lived far away – worlds
away, it seemed. But they had been “pen-pals” as long as she
could remember, because their families had known one another. You
know what that's like – when you adopt the sons and daughters of
your parents' friends, right? Sometimes you don't have much in common
with them and that can be a little awkward, but in this case it had
worked marvelously. They understood each other quite well – they
enjoyed many of the same things, such as the outdoors, and stories,
and poetry. The only hard thing was that the move away was so long
ago that she had a hard time recalling exactly when it had been. It
was almost like a dream. Still, they both faithfully wrote, and their
friendship lived vividly in the lines of their letters.

Their
correspondence was voluminous. It is hard for us to imagine in our
day and age how people used to have the energy, patience and wit to
write daily letters, but it used to be true. In this case, it was no
different. Almost every single day, she would scribble down on a page
or two -expressing her thoughts, hopes, fears – nothing was off
limits in their discussions – and seal it up, and send it with a
stamp. And in return, there was always something waiting for her to
read, something really interesting or encouraging or uplifting. Think
about what that would be like – to come home from school every day,
knowing that there was a fresh letter waiting from your best friend.
Sometimes she would find it hard to concentrate on schoolwork,
because she was so excited to rip open the day's envelope and see
what was there to read.

At a certain
point, her friend began to write the phrase “I am with you.” She
wondered how could that be, until she realized that the piece of
paper she was holding – all of those words and feelings – were a
sort of presence. She began writing that back, as a sort of inside
joke but also something that was kind of true - “I am with
you...too.”

You might be
thinking: does this girl have any “real” friends? Isn't it kind
of pathetic that she's living for these things arriving in the mail?
Well, let me put your mind at ease; of course she had other friends
around. But there's nothing like a best friend, and hers just
happened to live far away, so that's how it had to be. Plus, you and
I both know that we can surrounded by flesh-and-blood people – and
still feel quite lonely. Her friends at school and in the
neighborhood were generally kind, but if they had a misunderstanding
or if they were busy, her friend in the letters would help her sort
it out and she always felt as a huge burden had been taken away. You
know what that's like, when you can just talk it out with someone.
She had that possibility all the time.

Her parents, as
you might have guessed, were astonished at the volume of letters
passing in and out of their mailbox, but when they saw the return
address, they knew that there was nothing to worry about. Their
daughter seemed cheerful enough, and though she was a little obsessed
with writing and reading, most parents do not consider that a cause
for alarm.

A few years went
by, and as the girl grew older she was more preoccupied with her
day-to-day life and also the decisions ahead of her. She focused on
what she was supposed to do, studied hard, and managed to win
scholarships to a handful of colleges. The long nights of studying,
as you can imagine, left little time for letters. She tried to keep
up with three a week, then it dwindled to two, and finally she
reasoned: “my friend will understand if I can get around to it once
a week. I'm so busy.” Meanwhile, the letters had not stopped coming
in her direction, and they laid in a pile, unopened, or half read.
She felt guilty seeing them there, and then a little resentful - “why
do they need to write so often? don't they know how busy I am?”

When she did
write, she was desperate for advice, and she knew her friend would
know what to do. Where should I go to college? Should I date this
person? What should I major in and what profession should I choose?
To her frustration, the return letters never answered her questions
directly. The responses were vague – the words seemed “nice”
enough, but didn't answer her quandaries, and she started to wonder
if she was growing out of her childhood friendship. “Pen-pals” -
she thought- “that's kind of a childish thing.” (You'll have to
forgive her - she was a little ignorant about the massive history of
letter-writing, and how many important people have been pen-pals in
the history of the world.) In this particular moment, though, she
felt that the letters weren't really helping her much anymore on her
end.

Still, she felt a
sense of duty – maybe her friend still needed her. So every
weekend, when she could grab a little break from school and sports
and all the other things, she would still sit down and write a note.
It seemed very tedious, though, and she was very uninspired. She
herself writing about the weather, and her family's news instead of
her own, and still had some space on the page, so she asked a few
questions. One was, “Were you going to visit someday?” It was an
idle question – she'd asked it a million times before, so it was
more out of habit than curiosity.

But the next day
when a letter – smaller and thinner than usual – arrived, she
ripped it open right away on a whim. Her old taste for the written
words had come back a little at the strange envelope, and when a
small square of paper fell into her lap, she almost squealed. The
paper read:

Wednesday, March 06, 2013

I am still currently writing at lifelongfling, but I've been busy lately setting up a casual food blog for snacks, mainly gluten-free. It's calledSixth Hour Snack

The name comes from the time of day when I get very hungry (Well, one of them; there are many.) I dislike vending machines, and was getting burned out on faculty room coffee. As one of my colleagues in graduate school put it, "snacks are the key to success!" Yet somehow, three individual Doritos chips in a bag for $1.75 didn't seem worth it somehow.

Thus, I decided to challenge myself to bring something new everyday that was: nutritious, energizing, tasty, gluten-free, inexpensive, and easy. Every day for a couple of weeks, or longer if I could keep it up. I'm in my second week, so if that's your kind of thing, enjoy!

Meanwhile, I'll be back to posting here again very soon on other topics.