6'0 215lb college-fratboy beer gut and a tight neck that doesnt give me a good jawline or manly chin, so I hide it with goatee.

I don't try; I have no game, and I'm okay with that. It's all confidence and I have none of that. When you wake up every morning and realize who you are and have to put on a false front just to impress people who wouldnt normally give a shit about you, it doesn't seem worth it.

I have my friends and that's all that matters now.

Discuss Thrower....growing up I always thought I was a decent looking guy. I had the odd girl that was interested in me, but for the most part all my buddies got the attention from the girls. I had buddies who were not good looking, had terrible jobs, etc etc and they could get girls and I couldn't.

Eventually I met a great girl when I was 21 and have been married for 15 years now. Thats not the point though........

I always struggled with confidence growing up even though I had no reason to. About 8 yeas ago I started my own company. Well, it took off and I started to realize that I was good at my job and I didn't need to feel inferior to others. Because of the success of my business I started to feel better about myself. I started to gain confidence in who I was and it started paying off in all aspects of my life. There was a time would I would sit in a bar/pub in the corner with a sour look on my face. When my attitude changed and I became more confident everthing changed. Girls would just come up to me and talk to me. Girls who knew me before but never talked to me would all of a sudden start talking to me and flirting with me. Buddies who i went out with and would always pick up girls would be sitting there wondering why girls would come up and talk to me now. My whole life changed overnight and for one simple reason....... I smiled more.

Sometimes you just gotta put yourself out there and you will be surprised. Believe in yourself and people will pick up on it. Myself now, I don't care anymore what others think. I have a great wife and a couple kids and I couldn't care less about what I wear, what car I drive or what I do for work. But I will tell you one thing...I will never let my kids grow up with no confidence. Having no confidence ruined the first 30 years of my life and I won't let the happen to my kids.

Dont let it happen to you either. Just go out there and put yourself out there. And smile !!!!!!

One of my buddies was on a 2.5 year drought and was thinking of getting a hooker and I told him not to, unless he could guarantee safety in not getting arrested... so we did lots of research to insure his safety.

Turns out there are review sites for hookers. The one we found was http://eccie.net He found one that had a couple of reviews and he was safe and got no police escort... but a live woman escort.

We did some math on it and called it "hookernomics" In the end, it's much cheaper to **** a hooker once or twice a month than to get married, have kids, buy a house, buy 2 cars, put kids through college, etc. LOL

Where do you live, Discuss Thrower, KC area? It sounds to me like you need confidence more than anything.

I'm a fat dude, who has more confidence than I probably should... and I'm married, but I have beautiful women throw me vibe all the time. Confidence, humor and intelligence turn on more women than Jersey Shore abs, at times.

Where do you live, Discuss Thrower, KC area? It sounds to me like you need confidence more than anything.

I'm a fat dude, who has more confidence than I probably should... and I'm married, but I have beautiful women throw me vibe all the time. Confidence, humor and intelligence turn on more women than Jersey Shore abs, at times.

"Simply put, you become your most beautiful self when you begin believing in your own power to attract others. It has everything to do with how you feel about yourself, and how you project that to others."

6'0 215lb college-fratboy beer gut and a tight neck that doesnt give me a good jawline or manly chin, so I hide it with goatee.

I don't try; I have no game, and I'm okay with that. It's all confidence and I have none of that. When you wake up every morning and realize who you are and have to put on a false front just to impress people who wouldnt normally give a shit about you, it doesn't seem worth it.

I have my friends and that's all that matters now.

Don't worry about all that. Just learn to be happy with yourself being single and don't dwell on being "alone". I've been divorced for 11 years and been single almost all of that time. I love the freedom to take vacations and go where ever I want at the drop of hat without having to make plans or ask permission. I only had 2k in the bank when I got divorced and now I am getting ready to close on a nice 3br house that I am paying cash for.

I don't try; I have no game, and I'm okay with that. It's all confidence and I have none of that. When you wake up every morning and realize who you are and have to put on a false front just to impress people who wouldnt normally give a shit about you, it doesn't seem worth it.

I have my friends and that's all that matters now.

This points to some kind of depression or other emotional issues. It's a self-perpetuating thing as well in that you feel like shit, so you don't get laid. You don't get laid, so you feel like shit (and I hate boiling it down to sex, because the same formula likely applies to all sorts of other aspects of your life as well).

The answer is "stop being depressed," but we all know it's not as easy as that. Find some things that you enjoy that you're good at (preferably that involve physical activity, Xbox doesn't count). Engage in those things on a regular basis. Begin to feel better.

__________________In this world of sin and sorrow there is always something to be thankful for; as for me, I rejoice that I am not a Republican.
- H. L. Mencken