The diagnosis of cancer poses a powerful threat to the emotional
stability of a patient and their family. It can create a state of
communication paralysis and denial, even when family members want to
talk freely. The forging of family support, however, is an essential
component to physical and emotional healing.

The Life Tapes Project began in January 2002 following nearly 20
years of development by Dr. Ernest Rosenbaum. It is being sponsored by
the Cancer Supportive Care Program with the goals of providing a safe,
nurturing environment to open communication between family members
touched by a diagnosis of cancer.

During a time when the psychological tension produced by disease
frequently drives people apart, the communal production of a permanent
record of a family's history, stories and legacies can be a powerful
reminder of family bonds. The taping process not only allows
participants to present themselves to people who are significant to
them, but also fosters self-observation, both of which are powerful
coping tools. A permanent copy of the interview, as either a videotape
or DVD recording allows future generations to identify the roots and
philosophies of their ancestors.

Interviews are generally conducted in the comfort of a patient's home,
although it may be scheduled in a hospital or clinic setting if
necessary. All family members, or whomever the patient wishes to have
present, are encouraged to participate in the 1 ½ to 2 hour videotaped
interview. A videotape and DVD of the interview is professionally
edited then provided free of charge to the family (please allow up to several weeks).

This program is made free of cost by being part of a study on the
effects of participating in the LTP, so that we can better understand
and meet the needs of persons and families confronted with
life-threatening illness. The person being interviewed must be willing
to complete confidential questionnaires at three points in time (taking
less than an hour each) and a brief telephone interview at the end.
Many participants feel additional satisfaction from knowing that they
may be helping us to help others in the future who face a life
threatening illness.

What topics are generally discussed during an interview? The patient is encouraged to choose topics that are meaningful to them. Suggestions include, but are not limited to:

- Geneology: who were your parents/grandparents? What was your relationship with them and strongest memories of them
- Your philosophy of life and what is meaningful to you
- Stories about: meeting your first love, raising your children, etc.
- Turning points, struggles, adventures, etc.
- How you coped with your illness from the time of diagnosis and beyond
- Your legacy to your children and grandchildren

If you would like to create a life tape for your family, here are some possible questions for an interview.

- What is your first memory of life (or one of your significant first memories)
- Tell me about your family history (genealogy): who were your
grandparents( mention names, first and last), where did the come from,
what did they do for living, what kind of people they were. If you knew
them personally, what kind of relationships did you have with them. Are
there any powerful memories you have of them?
- Same for parents (and siblings)
- Tell me about the values you absorbed in your family of origin. What values you decided to transfer to your own family.
- Significant life events: Talk about living your parent's home,
meeting your partner (if both partners present each one can tell his
version), exiting moments in raising the kids.
- Can you talk about your philosophy of life- What are the values
that are most important to you. What kept you going and hoping during
difficult times (If the family wants to talk about struggling with
cancer, thats a good time to rise that question- ask each family member
about his unique way of coping).
- What is your personal legacy to the significant people in your life. What way do you want them to follow in the future.

"Since learning about my wife's cancer, we all have had a need to
share the warmth of our past - not only the history, but the emotional
past as well. The taped interview was especially important at this time
as it was a way to focus on areas that are very meaningful to all of
us."

"I felt great support from all after having shared my feelings. This was a beginning for me to open up."

"I felt this was a non threatening way to bring us together that brought up many intense emotions."