I was so excited to post my forum and to actually receive replies that I forgot to post my husbands findings . I am reading this from my husbands biopy patjology report so here goes: He is 49 yrs old, his gleason score is 6 (3+3) involving 60% of surface area. His report read he is positive 1 core was positive for pc. His first psa was 5.4 on 6/07 and the last psa was in July reading 5.2. How many hours will the robotic surgery require.

At first we were confused about the findings. Making a decision was heart breaking, depressing and mind boggling. His decision on robotic surgery vs. radiation and harmone therapy was one of the biggest decisions ever in our marriage. I was so depressed and sad for him. I then became Angry. Then, came acceptance and peace. I realized i needed to Support his decision fully because life does go on. A part of what I was feeling was selfish and i at first considered my own needs (if you know what I mean). All of thought was "he's so young" and why us? Then I sat down a thought to myself HOW DARE YOU? I prayed and prayed and prayed for acceptance in whatever decision he made and for a positive recovery. I want to be 100% there for him so that he can heal and recovery. I don't know what to expect post op because every patient is of course a different recovery but mentally, I want to be educated well on how to help my husband.

Truly, your husbands report is not too far off of mine and all the feelings you are going through are completely normal. You have to find strenght where you can whether through faith, family, friends or all of the above. The DiVinci surgery "usually" takes around 4 hours and he will probaly out of the hospitial the next day. Your husband will need you 100% but you'll find it's not so bad. Once he is on the other side of this surgery the best support is listening and patience because the post op can be all about the mental side of recovering. You'll do fine. Age 44