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In general I think so. But my kids are backwards. DS learns like a girl and DD learns like a boy. It's weird lol. But DS is just like me in his learning styles and DD is much like my brother (who is dyslexic) even though she is biologically not related to him, lol. I'm guessing her mom has a harder time learning. I have tried having DH tell me ways he learns so I can teach her but she doesn't quite learn the way he does either.

I think of it more as personality/child based, not gender based. But I know that there are a lot of those thoughts, he learns like a girl and she learns like a boy. So I would assume that predominantly those concepts are true.

Only if you believe in stereotypes. I think different " somethings"--I suspect temperaments--account for it.

I have 3 sons and 1 daughter. My second son and daughter are more alike. Myself and my dh are opposite from the stereotypes. My kids got their mathematical ability from me, while their dad struggled with algebra. This carries over into his daily life. He is the worst problem solver, when he has to think through cause and effect and plan the solution out. He is good in an emergency, as he only ever thinks of one possible solution, while I get caught up in thinking of all the possible solutions.. not so good when the requirement is to act now.

Anyway, this is inborn wiring, a learning/thinking style. More men do tend to be wired like me, not 100%.

If yur kid is a stereotypical boy or girl then yes. My son is a mommys boy so he mimics me in learning (I read therfore he reads lol, I like to do work on he couch so does he etc.)...athletically he is like daddy so he learns his wrestling moves the same way ds does (repetative and action). So with schoolwork he learns like a stereotypical girl (like workbooks, doesnt do messy things well etc) but athletically he learns like a stereotypical boy (hands on quick no long explanations and repetative). To me he just learns like him lol.

Yes. And I do not believe it is stereotyping. It's not about whether or not they like to do workbooks or messy things. That can be either gender. But boys are much slower to have fine motor skills, slower to develop the ability to make abstract connections, and typically have more trouble with the skills of putting themselves in another's shoes. These skills all develop in boys, but it is slower than with the girls.

I suggest watching the documentary Raising Cain. It beautifully shows the difference between how boys and girls think and learn, and how boys are falling behind in educational attainment because public schools are catering to how girls learn.

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