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Women Who Stray

Today, the fear of the moment is the risk of violence from the mentally ill. Tragedies abound in our media, and sadly, many can be linked to mental illness. Particularly untreated mental illness.But, reactionary responses to mental illness merely guarantee more problems in the future.

The NoFap movement gets lots of media attention, as they trumpet the dangers of masturbating to porn. But, their claims are based on weak science, and subjective anecdotes. Worse, they are regurgitating old myths about sexuality, which treat male sexuality in reductionistic fashion.

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is the fastest growing and most popular martial art of recent years. Beyond its effectiveness in MMA, BJJ inspires powerful dedication and commitment in its students. BJJ taps into many powerful aspects of human psychology, inspiring devotion and promoting personal growth in its students.

Recent research finds that men who have more attractive female partners, who have more male friends (the female that is), have more sex. This might reflect sperm competition, and men trying to fight off the chances that the women could cheat. But, this might also reflect some unique aspects of the woman herself.

Bella loved Edward and Jacob, Ingrid Bergman couldn't decide between Humphrey and Paul Henreid, Guinevere was torn between King Arthur and Lancelot. Why are there so many triangles of love in modern romantic literature and film, and what does it say about love, romance, men and women?

Sarah White offers a unique service, called Naked Therapy. She meets online with men, and offers a therapeutic conversation, while she slowly takes her clothes off. But, her work is more than mere pornography, and she has something to teach us about therapy, sexuality and men.

In the early years of psychotherapy, confidentiality and privilege were sacred, assuring patients of trust and safety in therapy. But, over the past 50 years, society's "need to know" continues to whittle away at patient's right to confidentiality.

Therapists rarely talk frankly, about dealing with being human in therapy. We all have bodies, which produce "impolite" noises, smells and distractions. Therapeutically addressing such issues can be challenging, but productive.

As society and the field of behavioral health becomes more attuned to the subtle signs of trauma, more people are taking advantage of the benefits attached to proclaiming oneself a victim. But, our focus on victimhood may actually be damaging, rather than healing.

In Chicago, a priest who has been vocal about the dangers of porn addiction was arrested, allegedly for sexual exhibitionism. His actions reveal not hypocrisy, but the psychological mechanism of reaction formation, driven by fear of one's own sexual desires.

The media feeds on our anxiety, and uses moral panics to manipulate and control. Ludicrous moral fears over the game Dungeons & Dragons is a frightening example. Psychiatrists and psychologists often allow our positive intent to outweigh the data and healthy skepticism. Can we learn from these historical lessons, or are we doomed to swing from one pseudo-crisis to another?

Men who act like oafs in bed are idiots, and need lessons in being a gentlemen, in and out of bed. But let's stop blaming this age-old problem on pornography, and place the responsibility where it truly lies - on a lack of sex education, poor communication and assumptions by both men and women that great sex "just happens."

Life coaching is a developing field where paraprofessionals offer support and guidance to people trying to achieve change in their life. This can be very positive, but there are risks that coaches may encounter serious problems they're not prepared for as they venture into the areas of mental health.

Common sense says that our fears of pornography are real, and that there are real, serious dangers to pornography exposure. Research disagrees with most of those fears, but the hyperbolic discussion of them continues, particularly in the media. Should we ignore common sense?

Across the Western world, governments are advocating for porn filters. But, the British porn filters recently implemented are filtering much more than sexual material. By limiting access to information, these filters serve to isolate people, increase loneliness, and idealize life before the Internet.

Britain is poised to implement drastic new measures which will restrict access to pornography and sexual material on the Internet. While the arguments are made that these measures are intended to protect children, the new rules will have devastating impacts upon free speech and sexual freedoms.

Psychologist Jesse Bering 's new book, Perv, the Sexual Deviant in All of Us, attacks the modern attempt to label sexually uncommon or misunderstood behaviors as inherently deviant and dysfunctional. We are all perverts, of one stripe or another...

Lots of people are afraid today, and those of us who achieve sudden success feel like we have more to lose. Actor Donald Glover has embraced his fear, and been public about the things that he's afraid we might reject or judge. His fears are special, in that they are his, and they represent things we are all afraid of, sex, failure, loss, rejection.

The attacks of trolls, negative commenters, profane and off-topic commenters negatively affects the impression of readers of the original article. I'm finally turning off their ability to negatively influence people who read my work.

Former congressman Anthony Weiner is embroiled in yet another sexting scandal. But why are people upset? Politicians since the dawn of time have acted like this. The only difference now is that we know about it, that it is very public, and that Weiner doesn't appear to be exhibiting the level of sexual shame that everyone thinks he should display.

Alleged Cleveland kidnapper Ariel Castro claims to be a sex addict. The sex addiction industry has spent decades teaching people that when they are in trouble, blaming their problems on sex addiction is an easy way out. But rape, kidnapping and torture are criminal violence - NOT the result of a sexual disease.