If you cannot accept every tiny bit of your sexuality, you will never discover your true spirituality. Your sexuality leads to discovering your Spirituality. As men we must present ourselves in both our sexual and our spiritual selves. At the same time we must remain conscious that our spirituality expands and will one day make contact with the entire universe. While our sexual self is limited, our spiritual capacity is utterly vast. Sexually we reach only a few people, while our feelings and especially our thoughts (spirituality) are capable of reaching all. Connecting our spiritual and sexual thoughts is far more powerful and embraces infinitely more, it is also more subtle and has greater possibilities, allowing us to do dream any dream that we want. One day, however, after numerous incarnations and immense spiritual work, our spiritual will activate our sexual instantaneously. As g(o)d’s men we have to learn how to connect our sexual pleasures to our spirituality. We need to be taught this skill; we need guides to show us how. If we don’t our spirituality gets made up for us by other people, and our sexual pleasures are far too fucking sacred for us to allow that do happen. I’m older than you, this is wisdom speaking.

There is a community of the spirit. Join it, and feel the delight of walking in the noisy street and being the noise. Drink all your passion, and be a disgrace. Close both eyes to see with the other eye. Rumi

Dear Mr Cox, One of the most important things which happened in the last times, has been knowing about you. Always wanted to know if sex could be spiritual, if souls can make love… if pleasure could be enjoyed in a less instinctive way. Know I know it’s not a dream… you exist! Thanks for sharing so many things with us through your website. It’s incredible. However my dream will become someday truth when I meet you. I’d like to talk about so many things with you. Have you thought about having disciples? somebody hungry of knowledge, willing to learn from zero that sex is not what most people think and make? I guess I can have an appointment with you, as an introductory session, just for asking things and let you diagnose all the expectation and “training” I could need in order to enjoy sex in this tantric way… I guess I’ll be able to do it… me and my partner… I just relocated from France. At the moment I have other priorities while I settle down, but I’m sure I’ll have the honour and pleasure to meet you and realize that what I always dreamt can be true: you exist! and as far as I know you’re the only one, the best one, unique. I recently subscribed to your mailing list, and I’m so pleased that you have new plans and projects. Perhaps I arrived late unfortunately I was not here years ago… but never is late for tantra sex, for a new perspective, for a full experience. Again, Seb, thanks for your work and dedication. Thanks for your website. Thanks for being you. A big hug and all my respect…

Real divinity cannot be separated from real physicality. Marco del rey explains, as I dont believe there is such a thing as an eternal soul separate from the body then divinity and sexuality and physical intimacy are the same and interchangeable, the real trinity of love.

Just wanted to say that I like you new and ever expanding website. I know you said a year ago that you had lost the old one in the expanse of the universe…….but you have rebuilt it and it looks different, a little less black background but a lot of good stories and information and every link still leads to a new and exciting place, like a sex maze. Its obviously by you but its a different shape. It must have been a lot of hard work. I have a question, well more of a thought…..as I grow older I find that I dont want to have full on sex with men and dont….but I do want to be intimate, touching massage, working on each others jade stem…of course, which is what we do with you and thank the gods for you, you have given me a safe and nurturing place to find such amazing male intimacy. You have provided a great and safe gift for all men. when i was younger I cruised areas when I was horny, not a safe option. I have used sex lines but they are expensive and again just about raw sex or pure fantasy and not a safe option nor a wise one.

Sometimes i want touch and intimacy with men more often that once a month in Mr Cox`s palace of dreams and pleasure. I have visited (a place) once and its a real sex place, not very intimate or friendly and lots of unsafe sex happens and older guys like me, are not really that welcome. I stayed 20 minutes and left. I have stopped watching porn, because your groups have taught me to be more real about sex, so as I am watching porn less my desire for real intimacy is returning and so I have greater need. Plus with no porn I have started to have really hot dreams, which I have not had for years….amazing. I have put `jerk off/ masturbation groups for men` into search engines, I think they exist in fantasy but not in reality. Maybe San Francisco was the only place they actually happened as a reaction to AIDS…who knows. I also like the `no lips below the hips` idea, even though oral sex is amazing it can be intimidating if expected. Gay Sex groups/leather clubs and the like push away str8/bi/health conscious gay males because of their expectation of full sex or the risk of STIs and the expectation of a young body and a hard cock, and also the big performance thing hides a million anxieties. I dont want to take viagra,

I would rather have a head massage. apart from your wonderful group are there groups of guys who meet to touch and wank and relax in the safety of a private home or is this an urban myth…it might be just you? Perhaps the sauna scene is where such intimacy happens, I dont really know. These are my thoughts and I dont expect you to solve them or come up with an answer but I thought I would put the thoughts out there as I cant be the only guy, bi/gay/str8 who would just like some mutual masturbation/ erotic touch without the worry that STIs bring, and that it happens in a safe place. I have been in a men`s group for 6 years and occasionally talked about such things but such real sex talk is rare and not always appropriate or what men want in that therapeutic setting. I know you have talked about having a spirituality group but I think that spritualising sex moves it away from the reality of intimacy. The church fears sex so turns it into some kind of intimate god talk but with your pants firmly on, when in reality men want someone to touch them for real, only then do they see the divine. Real divinity cannot be separated from real physicality. As I dont believe there is such a thing as an eternal soul separate from the body then divinity and sexuality and physical intimacy are the same and interchangeable, the real trinity of love. I think a group of men talking about their desires and anxieties and real needs and fears is missing. If we talk about it then men may gravitate to meeting that desire and need for intimacy, who knows…..So I have said it and its out there flying around the heavens. so much love power and respect to you mr sex wizard, and mr love men wizard. Marco del rey

All men can experience a sensational orgasm by stimulation of their rosebud. An erection is required, because stimulation of the rosebud combined with cock massage will simply take you to heaven, and back. Pull your pants down and shake you arse. Warm your cheeks by giving yourself a spanking. Remember your intention is to warm your arse up, not to hurt yourself. Now take your pants off and find a place where you can lie down and really relax yourself. Spend about 81 minutes taking huge big breaths and tease/touching your anal lips. There are two muscle rings called sphincters(anal Lips) surrounding the arse opening. They function independently. After the “81 times exercise” rest the tip of your finger on your inner lips about one eighth of an inch inside your arse and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the second sphincter muscles. They are very close to each other. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system – just like the muscles of the arms.

It’s easy to tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the involuntary part of the nervous system, which governs such functions as heartbeat. You will find after some minutes your finger is drawn inside. Put lots of lube on your finger and slowly put your finger a further quarter of an inch inside. Squeeze the other fingers on the same hand against the bit between your arse and your balls. Use your finger as a pen. Slowly and sensually, in your best joined on writing write your inner most secret. Write every letter slowly and sensually. And seriously slowly move your finger in another 1/4 inch.

Write another secret, as you sensually move your finger in another 1/8, another 1/16 another 1/32 another 1/64. The prostate is located only about one knuckle deep. Lift your hand so the outside edge of your little finger presses against your tail bone. Press the end of your little finger against your prostate. Agitate your hand gently. Once inside there are two different sensation for you to experience. If you slowly and sensually move your inserted finger towards the front of your body you will feel a small lump, that’s your prostate. Massage it in small circular motions 81 times to the right, and then 81 times to the left. Repeat this exercise while slightly vibrating your finger, yes 81 times to the right and 81 times to the left. Then slowly and sensually turn your inserted finger to a 90 degrees angel and move your finger backwards towards your tail-bone(coccyx) and massage 81 times to the right and 81 times to the left. In tantra this is the location of your kundalini energy, from where life energy flows.

Remember inside your arse is a very sacred place, a sacred place that holds many secrets to the pleasures of life. Talk to yourself tell yourself how good it feels. Enjoy your anal orgasm. The uncontrollable, juddering, screaming orgasm re-connects us to our original self, where heaven is to bask in Gods love with no need to control, or be described, as anything other than, that that is spiritual. You are most likely to experience an anal orgasm when you are very relaxed, sexually and not putting any pressure on yourself to have one. You need to relax and enjoy being anally satisfied, the anal orgasm will cumm naturally. Many guide books and sex manuals declare that not everyone can experience an anal orgasm, do not believe that bollox. With thanks to Jack for the inspiration.

It was many years ago and I have not experienced it again since that time. I was alone and masturbating when my mind seemed to leave my body. The most extraordinary sensation of watching myself spiritually enjoying myself physically.it was as if a lifetime of orgiastic pleasure was being experienced ina few seconds of delirious delight. But when I emerged from this state I found that several hours had passed and I was completely and utterly spent. . thrasher6best