Saturday, January 12, 2008

There's been plenty of time~ A poll

It's been over two weeks since Christmas. There are three people that I know very well, who received very nice gifts from me and I have not heard one word from them...not a "thank you," not a "I hate what you gave me," ~ nothing !!!!! To my knowledge these people are still alive, I haven't heard that any of them broke both their arms...which tells me they can still pick up the phone and make a "thank-you" call or write a note. I've been wanting to put a poll in my journal and this subject matter came to me today as I passed near the home of two of these people.

If you give, expecting something in return, even just thanks, then your giving is for the wrong reason. Giving is something you do from your heart for the joy of giving with no expectation of anything in return. But believe me, you are a kind person and it doesn't go un-noticed. Hugs Lanny

I understand Lanny's comments below but when you give a gift and don't get any thanks for it, it makes you feel as though you don't want to bother again. I DID tick the second box however, if only to make them feel a little guilty next time!!! Pat http://journals.aol.co.uk/pm71blackfen/ramblings-from-pat/

Hello Linda. I spoke to my mum on the phone last night and she said that she was hurt and upset that a few family members didn't acknowledge her cards and gifts at christmas. I suppose the moral is to give and not expect anything in return but where their is giving, there has to be good manners to, even at the very least, acknowledge receipt of a gift or card. If i received a card or gift I would always no matter what, say thank you. I chose number 1. If friends can make you feel sad, then maybe it's best not to put yourself in that position next time. Love Pam xx

Gabby wrote out thank you notes last week and her lazy Mom still hasn't mailed them! They are sitting here and it is my fault...only good thing is she did talk to all these people on the phone earlier and say thanks but we always follow up with a card too. Or always too...

It does hurt when no thank you comes but i always say to myself, do i still want a relationship with the person and if yes then i must give without any thought of something in return, even a thank you.

Are you positive they did in fact get the gifts? That is just so rude and inconsiderate. I voted not to give them anything next year...there is no excuse for rude behavior, especially since it sounds like you are fairly close with these people.Lisa

I would maybe contact them and ask them if they did get their gifts and if they liked them...then when they say yes...or no you can say oh because I never heard anything from you so I was wondering. That's exactly what I would do. I wouldn't let it bother you....I said to keep giving because that's the whole point of the season...although they should have given you some sort of thank you for that.

I think I'd call to make sure they got the gifts ... unless of course you actually handed them the gifts. This way you can confirm they got the gifts and maybe they will at least say thank-you. However, I've noticed more and more people don't take the time to say Thank-you.

I don't ever get a thankyou from any of my kids for what I send them anytime. I must have brought them up all wrong, or maybe it's the world we are living in today! I won't ever stop giving to them, but an acknowledgement of the gift would at least be nice sometimes.Mariehttp://journals.aol.co.uk/mariealicejoan/MariesMuses/

hi linda, i know what you mean, i spent alot of time making gifts (50+) this year and only got a couple of thank-yous. My MIL is not speacking to her daughter aparently because she never said thank-you, it's causing alot of upset in the family. I don't think you should fall out over it, is't the whole point of christmas about the giving of gifts. I know that it is rude not to say thank-you but sometimes it is hard to get round to everyone. it took me months to get all my thankyous out after our wedding. take care mrs t xxhttp://journals.aol.co.uk/mleppard06/eternity/

A bit late I know. I'm still playing catch up. This is a hard question. It is annoying when people don't say thank you. I can hold my hands up and say that sometimes I too forget to say thank you. I'm a bad person I know. I do have a relative who has never ever said thank you and who hates everything I buy her and makes it known. It has made me more inventive in what I buy her every Christmas. Sorry I've rambled a bit. I think I would probably carry on buying for them. Take care Carolxx

Hi Linda. Sorry I'm late with this comment. I'm still playing catch up since Dec 20. I just wanted to share a story about my sister's snafu from Christmas. Since she is working two jobs, she didn't have time to go out and shop, so she decided to send everybody a generous check in their Christmas card with the note "Go out and buy yourself something nice." She never received a thank-you from anybody. Two weeks after she sent the cards out she found all the unsent checks still in her dresser drawer. LOL. And she's not even a Blonde. Well, not at the moment, anyway.

Sometimes the seeds of kindness fall on barren soil.

Hoping the New Year brings you health and prosperity and many new friends.

Clyde in VAhttp://journals.aol.com/oldetownephotos/olde-towne-walk-about/

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I've lived in beautiful western Washington all my life. I'm divorced and the mother of a married son (Jim)and a married daughter (Julie). Julie and her husband are the parents of my two grandchildren Harrison age 21 and Meghanne age 20. I retired in February 2007 from a large health system and love to travel locally and up and down the west coast with my friend Bob. We've also been on several cruises & loved the experience. I love to buy & sell on eBay and after being an Avon Rep since 1976, I retired from Avon in May of 2009.