kid behind the couch update- Wedding pg 6 SIL baby pg 12

It's been awhile. It's amazing how much peace a nice long TO can bring.

For a brief background I'm the poster who was babyitting my niece for my entitled and batshit crazy SIL. She went so far as to steal my spare key and leave my poor niece hiding behind my couch early one morning while we were still sleeping after I told her that I would no longer be able to watch her.

DH and I put her in a long TO. About a year later she made a poor attempt at reconciling, but since I'm "so uptght" that I don't consider an apology that involves having popcorn thrown at me to be acceptable, we continued the TO.

Which brings us to now. This weekend DH's brother is getting married. This is DH and SIL's brother. We agreed to go because BIL has never been a problem and he expressed very sweetly how it's important to him to have his big brother and I there. I figure that I'll just follow the whole "pass the bean dip" polite avoidance technique with SIL and any other FMs.

Still, I'm pretty much sure that there's going to be some great llama food coming for you on Monday.

First of all SIL is all buddy buddy with BIL's fiance. So I was not invited to the bridal shower, or DH and I to the rehersal dinner, or any other pre-wedding events that the rest of the family are attending. Whatever, those things aren't my idea of a fun time anyway.

Then SIL is just a trainwreck from what I hear. She is pregnant and due in a week or two. She is still married to niece's father who is in jail but she is engaged to the new baby's daddy. And the most hilarious to me is that she is apparently whining about trying to find cheap infant childcare and tying to hook other family members into volunteering to help.

Just go ahead and delete him off of your friends list. As long as he doesn't disrespect you, just remain cordial. If he gets out of pocket, check him, or have DH check him.

For whatever reason, he's distancing himself from "you" so just keep an eye out. But don't waste your time with idle chit chat or whatever with him either. Don't waste your time letting it get under your skin.

You know what? I just thought of this: what if FSIL deleted it? You already said she doesn't seem to like you either for whatever reason. You may have to duck out of the wedding.

Ask your husband to ask his brother if you BOTH are still invited to the wedding. NOTHING about Facebook. However he words it, make sure it's clear that you are still welcome. If you're not welcome, the kids aren't welcome. DH can go if he wants. He may NOT want to if you're not welcome, though.

That's really weird about the deleted comment. How odd. I'd post again, but it's probably best not to.

I'm sorry to hear about your DS, my cousin has a mild form as well. What has REALLY helped him, along with western medicine, is cranial sacral therapy. He went as an infant, goes back every couple of years for realignment to a clinic in Florida. His mom got certified and does regular treatments at home as well. He went from a 6 month old that couldn't "hold" back at all, no muscle development what so ever, to a regular holding, clutching, pulling, crawling baby. It was a big deal, just a thought!

So, is it just you that everyone hates? In their eyes, is your DH being "punished" because of you, and they would all just rather you not be there, so DH wasn't invited to other things because he would bring you?

Just playing devil's advocate. I've posted on FB, then looked and saw that my comment was GONE! I got myself all worked up over it. "Why would X delete that? Do they hate me?" Then, when I looked again the next day, the comment was there.

I also know that if I depended on my DH to pass info along to his faily, it often wouldn't happen. I could easily see my DH saying, "Yes, I've talked to bro, and they're coming" assuming that meant the rehearsal dinner as well.

That's the problem with assuming. It makes an ASS out of U and ME (ha ha!)