You find yourself in an interesting situation: You’ve met a woman you like, you’re really enjoying her company and the sex is great. But you just don’t feel like you can fully commit. You’re hanging out with her, say, two nights a week. You’re staying over at her house, and she’s staying at yours. But you’re also still going out without her, playing the field and open to meeting new women. You’re just not ready yet, whatever your reason (maybe you just got out of a relationship, you’re dating at the moment and want to be careful before jumping into the next relationship, or you’re looking for more experience).

Wherever you’re at right now, it doesn’t matter, because as long as you’re honest with yourself and about what that woman means to you right now, you can open the door to having multiple sex partners.

Don’t mislead her

Throughout my life there have been many times when I’ve slept with multiple women on a regular basis, and I enjoyed it. It’s a lot of fun to be able to sleep with somebody on a Monday night and sleep with someone different on a Tuesday night, and I felt no guilt about it at all, because I had a wonderful time with all of them. The key is that I was open and honest with every woman I was sleeping with. I expressed to each of them that I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the moment, but that I still enjoyed and appreciated the time I spent with them. I never misled them down a path of thinking that we were exclusive or that we were something more.

Now, if they ever ask me if we’re exclusive, I’ll always, always tell them honestly, “I can’t be exclusive right now.” I never hide the ball or avoid the question. If they are not comfortable with it, then it’s their decision to stop seeing me. I am OK with that, because when it comes to relationships, I never try to take more from her than I can give to her. Whenever I had multiple sex partners, I found that being honest was the best thing to do. It was the only thing that was fair for both of us, and I didn’t deal with unnecessary stress in my dating life.

Sleeping with more than one woman can be a lot of fun. Sure, it’s great for the ego. Sure, it’s a blast going from one woman to the next. But if you’re doing it, there are some other key issues you need to consider besides the obvious one of being honest with all of them.

Give her a choice

I want to reiterate that you must tell each person you’re with that you’re also sleeping with somebody else, that you’re not into being exclusive right now, but that you’re still enjoying your time together. You must always be fair and let her know where you’re at so she has the choice to look for something else if she wants to.