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The husband knew the wife would not do it if God wasn't telling her to, so while he never gave his blessing he semi supported his wife. the wife would have been sinning if she told God no.

No, because she was OBEDIENT TO GOD when she submitted to her husband. That's the point I'm trying to make but quite a few of you keep ignoring...

WHEN YOU SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND, YOU ARE OBEDIENT TO GOD.

God knows you, your DH, etc. It's not like He isn't aware of what your DH said to you. You obey what SCRIPTURE teaches, which is to submit to your HUSBAND.

AGAIN... SUBMITTING TO YOUR HUSBAND ISOBEDIENCE TO GOD.

It's not DH vs. God. That's not how it is. It's God telling you to obey Him by submitting to your husband. So your FIRST priority is to follow scripture, and what it teaches--quite plainly. If you submit to your husband, even if you think God is telling you to do something else, your submission to your husband is STILL OBEDIENCE TO GOD.

Scripture trumps whatever we "hear" God saying to us. If it doesn't line up with scripture, it wasn't God. He is the same--always. He doesn't change. So why on earth would He tell you to do something that would mean not submitting to your husband?? That would be contradicting Himself!!!

And maybe it is your husband who is not listening and is in sin. But guess what? It is on HIM. It's on your husband if he doesn't submit to God. It's not your problem. You are under your husband's covering, according to scripture, so if you don't do something that God tells you to do, and it's because of your husband, HE will be held responsible for that, and YOU will be considered obedient because you submitted to your husband. But if your husband says no, and you do not submit, then you will DEFINITELY be in sin, because that's exactly what scripture says in black and white.

I'm not talking about a feeling, I'm talking God telling a woman to do something and for selfish reasons the husband says no. Where in the bible does it say the man's feelings trump God's order to the woman?

I'm not talking about OPs situation or a situation where the husband is praying and not getting a clear answer....I'm talking that because of selfish reasons the husband says no.

Where in the bible does it say the woman is to go against God and obey her husband?

Wow so you are relying totally on yourself to interpret Gods will for your life? No checks and balances? Not what the bible says or what your husband wants, just you yourself and God. I love God with all my heart and trust Him completely, but I don't trust myself alone to always know the way God wants me to go. Lynn, you've received incredibly wise advice on here, but you seem set that you are going to go the way you want. I truly fear the consequences of that on your family. The bible says "in the presence of many counselors there is much wisdom". I'm sorry you're not seen that and you're only hearing what people are saying that support your choice. I see this often on this board. People ask for advice, but what they really want is to be told to go ahead with what they want to do. On the other hand I've seen threads where women seem to be really pondering the different advice given. These women are the ones truly seeking God's will because they aren't set on an outcome. In their cases I'm certain they will find it. Someone set on there own way never will until they give what they want up to God.

So Lyn, with your theories you've posted the last few pages, why are you angry with your husband? You could have chose to do your calling from God over his opinion? You compromised with him, you willingly agreed to stay home with your children. Your anger is misdirected then.

And there is no reason you can't go back to school now & complete your own dreams now. I'm doing it, in a medical field. My 2 toddlers won't have to go to daycare for it & my husband is gone out of town for work M-F. Where there's a will there is a way. Quit holding onto anger & allowing resentment towards the one who should be your rock (and obviously is if he has put up with being treated with resentment for this long). Be proactive instead. It'll make you a much happier person.

ringer - this isnt about what I want. The point I am arguing is that God comes first, over my dh. We are to follow God always. That is what our preachers teach, and honestly I don't know anyone IRL who believes their dh's opinion over rules God.

Not all who are not Christians purposely pull a Christian down. I think if God REALLY was making your calling to be in this band, it would be a clear cut decision, and not form a huge divide.

Are you needing the money? Because what I gather from your posts is that you want your calling to pay. Their may not be any working music positions in your church available but there is always the opportunity to minister with music in your church...for free. I suggest finding a way to get involved.

bowhunter - Neither my dh nor I were Christian at the time, so that wasn't really relevant then. I am tying to let go of my anger. I started a thread a couple days ago asking for advice on how to do that.