Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Men’s Withdrawment

One of the most frustrating factors of a romantic
relationship with a man is trying to figure out why he behaves in sometimes
confusing ways. Why men withdraw from romantic relationships has been a source
of frustration for women throughout history. If you are currently in a
relationship and you want to get a man to marry you, there are some things
about which you should be aware. Stop asking yourself why he won't commit and
start discovering the reasons he wants to pull away, the feelings he is
experiencing in his mind and heart. When a man distances himself from you, he
is doing it for what he thinks are pretty good reasons. Unless you're an expert
on relationships, you're going to have a tough time figuring out why he does
these things.

Why Won't He Commit?

Whether a man realizes it or not, in his mind he
sees himself as a hero figure on a mission or quest. The explanation for this
is long and a bit complex so for the sake of brevity, let's just say that nature,
society and upbringing are likely the reasons he sees himself in this way. It
doesn't matter why he's this way. It does matter that you see him in this way.
If you can understand this simple principle, you are on your way to unlocking
the secrets that make men behave the way they do. Sometimes he doesn't even
know why he won't commit. He just knows that something doesn't feel right in
your relationship.

Signs He's Pulling Away From You

This feeling he experiences is one of the first
signs that he may be pulling away from you. It's a relatively easy thing to
spot. As an example, imagine that you're used to hearing from your man at some
point during your day - each and every day. So one day he just doesn't call
you. You forget about it until it happens again a few days later. Maybe you
don't hear from him for days after a particularly great date or evening out. Is
he losing interest in you? Maybe not. Is he pulling away? It is possible and
this is one of the signs he is doing just that. Is it your fault? Most likely
he is just feeling a bit overwhelmed with feelings he may not be sure about.

At this point, your man is trying to deal with some
pretty big issues. You see, men are not typically wired to experience emotion.
Society also demands that a man stuff his feelings and not deal with them,
especially new or previously un-experienced feelings. After all, he has never
felt this way about any woman before now. His mode of dealing with this is to
react by getting away from the thing that is causing the discomfort - it is
indeed the most logical thing to do. He is not trying to hurt you; he's just
trying to figure out how he's going to handle it. The last thing he needs is
the source of the pressure putting more pressure on him. That is only going to
push him away further.

Realize That It's Not Your Fault

If you know why men react in this manner, then you
also know that you are not at fault here. Sure, you may have beat yourself up
and spent weeks trying to figure out what you did or said wrong. Stop wasting
your time and stop blaming yourself - it really isn't your fault. Men simply
think differently than women. It is for this reason that women tend to get
confused when they think their special guy begins to pull away from a
relationship. In his mind, he is responding correctly to what he perceives to
be a threat or some emotion that he is not accustomed to feeling. He may even
be a bit scared and so his "fight or flight" mode kicks in - and he
runs. This is all in his own mind and you are not to blame.

What you may be blamed for is not responding in the
right way when your man begins to act in this way. The reason women fail to
understand why men withdraw is because they do not understand what is going on
in the mind and heart of their man. Those women who are successful at getting a
man to marry them understand these principles. If you want your guy to propose
to you, then take some action. Get the right information from experts on a male
behaviour in a relationship.