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Cheater Update!

Me and my Husband are working on his cheating incident, even though he only got caught talking to her, the intent was there if I hadn't intercepted the t ext. Anyway we are trying to work on it taking it one day at a time...he thinks were really OK but in my mind it will never be ok..
I'm not rocking the boat I talked to him and told him what i want and expect so now i'm playing the waiting game hopeing it won't happen again, but it wont be forgiven the second time.
Am I crazy for trying to make our marriage work? I stay confussed everyday and everyday I think about it.

You both need to do counseling...together and apart.
There is going to be a lot of resentment on your part, completely natural.
It's going to take a lot of time and a lot of working on trust issues...which brings us back to the time factor.
He should definately be apologizing to you and trying to explain his view points as communication IS the key here.
Good Luck to both of you.

Oh yeah and he know's I will I have already told him that and I told him he wont find another women like me either....He has been as sweet as honey like he use to be...so I don't even know why he did what he did. He's his old self but Im NOT and wont ever be.

I think you are a strong woman for trying but if it was me, I wouldn't be able to forgive or trust again and in my opinion no relationship will work without trust. It's not worth the stress of worrying about what your DH is doing and who he is doing it with.

I say try the counseling so that you know that you've tried your best and can leave him without any regrets if he cheats again. Taking him back again and again and accepting any excuses only teaches him that no matter what he does, you'll always be there and he can disrespect you and get away with it. You need to set boundaries right away or he will treat you like a doormat. I find that men often respect a woman that can walk away and sometimes test women to see if they have a backbone or not, then they act according to how much they can get away with. There are lots of men out there and keeping your options open keeps you from acting in desperation. He is not a child. He is an adult that knows full well the consequences of his actions. No one made him do what he did. He may try to purposefully confuse you and skew the facts just to keep things the way he likes it. When you feel like you're in the twilight zone, leave.

I think you are a strong woman for trying but if it was me, I wouldn't be able to forgive or trust again and in my opinion no relationship will work without trust. It's not worth the stress of worrying about what your DH is doing and who he is doing it with.

Well my ex husband did the same thing. In 2001 I caught him lying to me about talking to a girl. He had her on his friends list and had changed her name to "Terror" thinking I guess I would think it was a guys nickname. Something was weird to me (gut instinct) and I got up early with the baby and went to his computer and updated the profile and saw she was NCSweet_T. I thought well, weird name for a guy haha. And she sent a message right then about how she needed him and hoped he had a good night. I told him youre busted. We moved, worked on our marriage and I thought it was over.
By June 2002 I caught him cheating outright with the SAME girl. She knew he was married I had emailed her. We went to marriage counseling and ended up divorcing.
My point is be careful. I never could get over it, and if theres a woman like this one I dealt with theyll keep on and on.