“In our culture, court means contest,” he said. “It means fight. It means you each hire a lawyer who fights for your best interest and a judge makes a decision. That is how we’ve culturally viewed divorce as a battle.”

Today’s Question: Should couples be able to divorce without involving the court?

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The sound emitted by crickets is commonly referred to as chirping; the scientific name is stridulation. Usually only the male crickets chirp, however some female crickets do as well. The sound is emitted by the stridulatory organ, a large vein running along the bottom of each wing, covered with “teeth” (serration) much like a comb. The chirping sound is created by running the top of one wing along the teeth at the bottom of the other wing. As the male cricket does this, he also holds the wings up and open, so that the wing membranes can act as acoustical sails. It is a popular myth that the cricket chirps by rubbing its legs together.

There are four types of cricket song: The calling song attracts females and repels other males, and is fairly loud. The courting song is used when a female cricket is near, and is a very quiet song. An aggressive song is triggered by chemoreceptors on the antennae that detect the near presence of another male cricket and a copulatory song is produced for a brief period after a successful mating.

Crickets chirp at different rates depending on their species and the temperature of their environment. Most species chirp at higher rates the higher the temperature is (approximately 62 chirps a minute at 13 °C in one common species; each species has its own rate). The relationship between temperature and the rate of chirping is known as Dolbear’s Law. According to this law, counting the number of chirps produced in 14 seconds by the snowy tree cricket common in the United States and adding 40 will approximately equal the temperature in degrees Fahrenheit.

Anything we can do to make our society less adversarial and more cooperative has merit, in my opinion.

JQP

It should be an option.
– 0 kids… no question… you’re adults – if you can’t work it out… NO COURT
– 1+ kids … but equal incomes, retirement and willingness to have full/equal custody and responsibility, NO COURT
– 1+ kids, unequal income-retirement or willingness to custody/responsibility. … but friendly… mebbe attorneys and no court, mebbe court.
– 1+ kids , economic mess, fighting and belligerent… COURT… and possibly separate corners.

FactChecked4U

Some would love this idea. I know the Clintons wish this was the case to avoid court and the transparency of income and asset related records. Otherwise Hillary would have left him by now since Bill is ruining her chances at the WhiteHouse over this:

Former President Bill Clinton took a romantic jaunt in 2002 to convicted pedophile pal Jeffrey Epstein’s “orgy island” with “two young girls” from New York, according to a shocking new interview.

Virginia Roberts,
who’s accused Epstein of turning her into a “sex slave” at age 17 and
forcing her to sleep with his powerful friends, claimed Clinton stayed
in one of the many villas on Epstein’s US Virgin Islands estate — where
group sex was a “regular occurrence.”
Not surprising given the five earlier accusations of his infidelity and sexual assaults before becoming president. Poor Hillary.

trina

Couples have choices in divorce. Mediators allow them to not appear in court. I have read that they are not an equalizer though and having recently completed one – I agree. A collaborative divorce uses two lawyers, but everyone meets together and court appearance is still part of it’s process. I have also read that 80% of divorces are filed by one yet undesired by the other. With that kind of lopsided factor, there must be some review process – and courts exist for this kind of purpose so make sense to me.