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My husband and I are fighting...bad...I'm staying at my parents house (I left yesterday/) ..my parents are out of town right now..my husband came and brought me lunch today I told him he can see our son whenever he wanted....he asked me to come bring him to the house so he could spend time and asked if I wanted dinner...I said no, I'll drop him off and pick him up....well when I handed him over he decided that he didn't want to give him back to me. I told him I would call the cops..he said go ahead..he's not doing anything wrong..his son as at home with his father...I explained it's important that I'm with him to breast feed...he said we have milk herw for him (frozen)...now our son is currently sleeping and he won't let me take him.....do I call the cops? Will they even do anything? He is 6months old.

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i’m sorry that you and your SO (significant other) are going through stuff.

if you feel like you need to then call the police, to me he shouldn’t be withholding your child like that knowing you breastfeed. if you don’t want to call the police then maybe try to see if he’ll let you BF (breastfeed, or boyfriend) and then let LO (little one) stay a little longer? but if you called the police they would probably make him give him back to you bc from everything i know unless there’s custody established mothers always have the most rights over their children. it’s very unfair and childish and almost abusive of him to be doing this, it’s not fair to you or LO. but do what you feel is right, you know the situation best. i wish you the best and hopefully things can be worked out between the both of you.

Oh no I'm sorry ur going through this and I agree pp u need get help and try get custody asap but if "just a fight" I would try talk to him if his being greedy cops cant really do anything...I would shush trying talk to him or get chansey take the baby with u and just dont give baby back until the problem is solved

. But please make sure ur baby is ok witch I'm sure baby is fine but its hard be in this situation... try get help ASAP.

If you're fighting to the point that you're living separately, and if you're in the US, go online today and see if you can file electronically for emergency custody. If you can't file electronically, go to your courthouse first thing in the morning tomorrow and file there.

If your husband files first and gets custody, your baby could be kept from you for months until you go to court, breastfeeding or not. Don't wait. Police can't do anything unless you have a custody order as long as your son is with his dad.

There's nothing wrong with calling the police. Even if they can't do anything it will document the issue and you can use it against him in court if it goes that far. Start documenting everything though.

Thank you all for your advice. Luckily my husband called me and told me I can come pick our son up..he said he never meant for the night to turn in that direction. I ended up staying the night (separate bedroom) because after I feed our son he fell back asleep and I didn't want to wake him again. I went back to my parents and he called me and told me to come back home. He would leave. He didn't think it was fair to our son to stay away from his home. So I packed our stuff back up and home now. For now, my husband is gone until we stop our bickering....I went to my parents because WE keep arguing over stupid stuff and dont want our son to grow up in an unhappy home....so that's it for now... Hopefully we can both get our act together,get some sleep, and get along!

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