If there’s one phrase that could describe the era we’re living in, it’s “the death of the average.”

It’s already been happening in the business/marketing world – nobody hires the second best applicant, chooses the second best product, or uses the second best network.

It’s #1 or starve.

Now we’re heading towards the same thing in the sexual market:

Soon enough, the majority of men will be off the sexual market. The competition will between the alpha males she knows and anonymous sperm donations sold as “good genes.”

Never underestimate a woman’s hypergamous drive for good seed… or the average man’s preference for convenience and avoidance of pain when it comes to getting sexual release.

Hypergamy + convenience will be the death of the average man. He will literally exit the gene pool.

Obviously, if these two forces play out unhindered, there will be a major disruption to the nuclear family model as the cultural norm. The vast majority of women will be unable to find men for monogamous long-term pairing… unless said men can be convinced to give up their easy life of government welfare, video games, and unlimited sex with robots that “feel better than the real thing.”

The future is unpredictable. There may be some unforeseen event that changes this trajectory. But the biological, economic, and political incentives for “saving the common man” are quickly disappearing.

On the one hand, I feel sympathy for the average man. He really did get screwed over by all the institutions that promised him a good life.

On the other hand, with the exception of height, every quality that increases a man’s sexual market value can be improved through training. So this crisis will likely force a lot of men to pull themselves together and become the man they were meant to be.

“The obstacle is the way.”

The silver lining to this is that mass culture does not equal micro culture. Wherever a tiny kingdom exists of both men and women who share the same values, there will be marriage.

Of course, if the church keeps shaming men and driving them away, the men will have to build their kingdoms elsewhere…

This is a prayer I delivered at my church this morning. About a dozen people or so expressed appreciation for the prayer after the service (out of a congregation of maybe 100 people)… including an elderly woman who thanked me with tears in her eyes for addressing the issue.

It’s a small sample, but I think the high response rate indicates people are ready to start talking about this problem.

Feel free to plagiarize or revise this prayer for your own purposes.

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Father, I want to pray a special prayer this morning for the young men of our nation.

Today’s young men are growing increasingly apathetic and cynical. They are passively observing the downfall of Western culture, yet they have no motivation to save the good.

A large number of young men today have become bitter towards women and are “going their own way.” And this movement is gaining more and more momentum. As a result we are on the verge of a major crisis in the marriage market.

And these young men are afraid, Father. They are afraid to take risks. They are afraid to build. They are afraid of being rejected.

These are the Lost Boys. The orphans. They lack positive examples of masculinity. And they are shamed in every corner of society for their so-called “toxic” masculinity.

We live in a culture that exalts the weak. And strength is made into an evil.

We have lost the way of men, and as a result, we are losing our men… either literally through suicide, or figuratively through apathy and aimlessness.

Our young men today are without direction. Without confidence. And without hope.

Father, we live in an age of abundant information. We have access to more information than ever before. And yet deception is all around us.

It can be difficult to determine what is true… what will stand and what will crumble over time.

To navigate this era of great uncertainty, we need men to rise up. Men to lead their families. Men to lead the weak. Men to rebuild the culture.

So I ask Father, that you will allow examples and teachings of positive masculinity to break through the noise in the next few years so that more young men can be reached before they lose hope.

I pray that any man who is seeking perspective and guidance on how to lead himself and lead his family, will have easy access to such knowledge and that he will have no need to feel ashamed for being a man or for developing his strength to lead as you have called him to do.

We certainly live in interesting times and I’ve no doubt it’s about to get much more interesting.

The great military strategist John Boyd taught that the key to strategic advantage is the ability to orient yourself to new situations faster than your opponent.

There are some rising trends that I (and people much smarter than myself) have been tracking that I expect will result in some massive culture shifts.

Most people will be caught completely off guard. They’ll experience so much cognitive dissonance they won’t be able to act or adapt.

But, hey, since you’re a smart person and read my blog, you won’t have to be surprised 🙂

Even if this stuff doesn’t come to pass as I predict, the trends behind the predictions are already in motion. It’s a good exercise to at least prepare yourself.

Keep in mind, I’m not passing judgment yet on whether these things are good or bad. The first step is awareness.

The 3 major shifts:

Culture Shift #1: Massive existential crisis

Automation will leave most people with no work to do. At least no work in the traditional sense of somebody telling them what to do. The work that is done will be self-defined and creative. But few people are prepared to make that shift.

The people who own the machines that replace workers will become insanely wealthy and will be heavily taxed.

Assuming the government doesn’t let the masses starve to death, most people will live on a “basic income” provided to them from the tax revenue.

With no pre-defined work for people to do, there will be a great hunger for meaning.

Spiritual teachers will be in high demand and will be able to earn a comfortable living off of their teaching… for better or for worse.

Culture Shift #2: Virtual tribes

This is already happening. But I think it will become more common in the near future.

People are interacting less and less with their physical neighborhoods. Nowadays, you can even earn your income online.

People still seek community, but they seek community by beliefs rather than geography.

The red pill is great example of this. I only know one “real life” person who is red pilled. Yet I’ve interacted with dozens of red pilled men online.

Sooner or later though, people crave face-to-face fellowship. So meetups are organized. People travel to a location to meet like-minded people.

In the future, I doubt local community will be important. Less people will own homes. The ease and lowered cost of travel will give rise to a more nomadic lifestyle… at least in the early stage of people’s lives.

People will form “tribes” that initially congregate online. Later, they will meetup in the flesh. And perhaps later, they will even form a physical community and live together.

Communities will be determined not by where you were born, but by what you believe.

Culture Shift #3: Breakdown of the nuclear family

By “nuclear family” I mean one father, one mother, and one or more children. Some will still live like this, but it will no longer be the norm.

The majority of men have been pussified through propaganda and a variety of testosterone sapping schemes. This leaves the majority of men undesirable to women.

And yet hypergamy and the instinct to breed still drives women. So we have the “alpha fucks” and “beta bucks” phenomenon on a widespread scale.

MGTOWers are realizing it’s a shitty deal to be a beta buck and are deciding to opt out of marriage and women altogether.

So we have a bit of a problem here.

Every woman wants to get pregnant. Most men are undesirable and/or unwilling to perform the task.

Severe shortage of men.

Logically, there will be two types of women in the future:

Those that want an long-term relationship with the father

Those that don’t

Those who don’t want an LTR with the father, will become either single mothers or have some sort of “open relationship” arrangement that pairs her with a beta provider or two while she fucks alphas on the side.

Maybe she lives with her parents or girlfriends or whatever.

Point is, it’s anything but a nuclear family of father, mother, children.

On the other hand, some (many?) women will see the value of being paired with her child’s father.

But this young woman will face a crisis.

80%+ of men are undesirable. They are lazy slobs who don’t have a mission, watch porn and play video games all day, and would rather use a sex doll than a real woman to relieve themselves.

And of the 20% or less of men who are desirable, most of them are not prepared for fatherhood. Either they are choosing to delay marriage or they are not mature enough to be a parent.

And so most women who wish to find a husband and father for her children will be unable to do so.

On a cultural level (not the individual level) monogamy and the nuclear family is fragile. It will not be able to withstand the upcoming changes.

It’s a story about a couple of programmers who automated their entire workload then got fired because their employee realized they weren’t doing any work.

Supposedly, automation is designed to liberate workers from tedious tasks and long hours. But, as the article describes, most workers face a reality more like this:

Automation continues apace; millions of jobs once carried out by humans are accomplished by software and mechanized factories, while Americans are working harder and increasingly longer hours. The gains from automation have generally been enjoyed not by those who operate the machines, but those who own them.

I faced a similar problem in my last job. I got a full-time job writing emails designed to sell a software-as-a-service product as well as a bunch of business coaching programs. Once I wrote a couple hundred or so emails covering every product, everything was automated. There was nothing left for me to do except send out an occasional social media post on the rare occasion I could get my overscheduled boss to review them.

Those emails I wrote could be worth hundreds of thousands of dollars to the company. They paid me what I agreed to be paid. Then they let me go when they no longer needed me.

Somehow, all the problems I avoided causing while being an employee went unappreciated 🙂

As comforting as it is to say, “not everyone has to be an entrepreneur” I think this reality is changing. If you can’t figure out how to own something… even just a part of it… you might find your income suddenly disappears.

There will be 3 classes of people:

Those who own the machines (or the assets the machine works on)

Those who work long hours on the machines

Those who get replaced by the machines

Yes, there probably will be a rising market for servants. But the competition will be high and the wages relatively low. Probably not the ideal position to be in to attract women or comfortably raise a family.

What is telling is that Kanye judged hosting awards for a pornography site to be a worthwhile activity to fit into his busy schedule.

Kanye West is no dummy. He recognizes what few are afraid to openly acknowledge: that the pornography industry is a major influence on culture and worldview.

Porn reaches people precisely at the moment when they are most receptive to suggestions: acutely aware of a problem (e.g. unfulfilled sex drive) and indulging in a fantasy where that problem doesn’t exist.

Add to that equation the mind-altering effects of masturbation, and porn is probably the most powerful propaganda tool in existence.

This is why most porn is not designed as art. It doesn’t help you appreciate sex. It is designed to get lonely men to jerk off so they can become more receptive to ideas like:

You don’t deserve to have sex with a woman unless you have a 8″ cock

Blacks are a superior race that deserve to breed with white women

Letting a better man have sex with your wife is a good idea

You can never perform as well as these alpha studs, so just let the pros do it while you watch

All women that want sex are out of your league so you might as well just watch from a safe distance

The net effect of these suggestions is that men feel inadequate to satisfy a woman and therefore resort to passive voyeurism.

This is the state in which a man is most politically useful to the elites. Docile. Powerless. Ready to yield his family to stronger men.

“Alright dads, buckle up, because I’m gonna lecture you for the next 30 minutes on why you’re all so terrible,” he began. “I’ve got a 42-point sermon lined up here, and each point is an ironclad argument for why every father today is a lazy, useless, selfish jerk. I don’t wanna see any of you all dozing off or checking scores on your phone, because you really need to hear this, you incompetent goofs.”

“I know this is going to go in one ear and out the other, because you are all so awful,” he continued before launching into his scathing address on the day designed to honor the nation’s fathers.

At publishing time, sources were also able to confirm that Pastor Mills had asked all the fathers in the congregation to stand and be recognized for the worthless oafs that they are.

The author, Greg Morse, goes on to dismiss the following four cliches:

“Happy Wife, Happy Life”

“Your Spouse is Your Best Friend”

“Be a Servant Leader”

“Marriage is 50/50”

This article is significant for at least two reasons:

These are the same ideas that red pilled Christian men have been objecting to for years

The author is the content strategist for Desiring God, so this article indicates a deliberate decision. It’s not simply an allowing of an alternative perspective to “slip through”

The article goes on to drop some surprisingly red pill statements. For example:

Just letting her have her way is much more comfortable than making unpopular decisions on weighty matters, that you think (and pray) are spiritually best for her and your family: Whether they be where your children go to school, what church you join, where you live next, when to have children, or countless difficult choices that require spiritual energy, courage, and faith.

And this one on why the husband can’t be a follower:

It isn’t a symmetrical partnership in which the relational patterns are interchangeable. The elegance of the dance consists in the man leading assertively, lovingly, thoughtfully, and the woman following fearlessly, receptively, joyfully — which is much more than mere friendship. The dance is improper when the husband attempts to follow.

And on “servant leadership”:

The paradox of servant leader devolves, in some minds, into merely meaning servant: You sacrifice your convictions for any and all of her ambitions. You take on her calling, not because of exceptional circumstance but only because you wanted to lay your aspirations down for hers. You coddle her, never asking her to do anything that she does not already want to do — even if you think it best for her ultimate joy in the Lord.

And, perhaps most surprisingly, an explicit acknowledgement of feminism:

Our feminist-influenced, Bible-ignoring, headship-shaming society wishes real men to be milder. They wish you passive. They wish you silent.

But God entrusts you to speak, to sacrifice, to crush serpents. He calls you to be true to your nature — the one he gave you — and play the man that you are. And that man is not timid, not unassertive, not feeble in the faith: “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong” (1 Corinthians 16:13).

On the surface, this looks like a major victory for the red pill movement. But I wouldn’t be too quick to celebrate. There are at least a couple red flags that raise my suspicions.

First, the author never says the old advice is wrong. He merely describes the advice as “naive” and “easily-misunderstood.” This sounds like a politician’s apology.

Secondly, there is an odd discrepancy between the title and the introduction. The title suggests (at least to young men) “hey, you’ve been lied to and we’re going to open your eyes to the truth.” But the introduction does not empathize with young men. Instead the introduction is about women who are struggling to get their husbands to be less passive. Then the remainder of the article is addressed to men.

Odd.

I see one of two possibilities here:

One, Desiring God has suddenly (and inexplicably) turned red pill. And since they write for a broad audience they’re trying to give a “soft” introduction that empathizes with women.

Or Option 2: Desiring God has recognized that the old rhetoric is no longer effective as perhaps revealed by this incongruent remark from the article:

[The ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’ mentality] backfires on us, leaving even a growing number of unbelievers wondering how to get their men to be less passive.

Translation: “Putting the wife on the pedestal has backfired on our agenda. We now have a passive men problem and every one is suspicious. We need to address this now.”

If Option 2 is the case, we can expect to see Desiring God and other Christian leaders start to absorb red pill rhetoric and address the masculinity crisis. But it won’t be to help men. It will be to co-opt the movement for the fem-centered agenda. I believe this is what Rollo Tomassi refers to as the “purple pill.”

I was saddened,, though admittedly not surprised, to see the following article published on the CCEF (Christian Counseling and Education Foundation) blog:

Sexual Abuse in Marriage

The title alone should be a red flag to those with an advanced understanding of the red pill.

I was saddened because the (now deceased) founder of the institute, Jay Adams, did a lot of great work for the Church. He was the pioneering voice that helped spark a revival of biblical counseling at a time when people assumed the Bible had no relevance to people’s personal problems.

One of the key ways that Satan infiltrated the Church in modern times was to trick pastors into believing that mental and emotional problems were best handled by “qualified” secular psychiatrists. This meant that pastors could provide abstract “spiritual” guidance, but practical problems were best left to outsiders. Apparently the Enemy was fine with leaving the church to teach theology and share inspirational Bible stories… so long as he had influence over the practical matters like sex, relationships, abuse, anxiety, finances, and all the other personal problems.

But Jay Adams boldly stood against all this nonsense back in the 1960s. The Lord blessed his work and it turned into a movement.

And now feminism is ruining it.

I’ve provided a commentary below on some relevant excerpts for those who are interested. This is how today’s Biblical Counselors, who genunely want to help people change by applying God’s Word, are going to be taught to deal with marriages. [Emphasis mine.]

Though the recent #metoo movement has revealed the prevalence with which people are violated sexually, my heart remains heavy for wives who are victims of marital sexual abuse. Their stories remain untold, and I am concerned that many pastors and counselors are unaware of its occurrence. I hear many stories (too many stories) of women being abused, violated or even raped by their husbands.

“Abuse” is a vague concept. What’s going on in these “many stories”? Is he punching her in the face? Pulling a gun on her? Keeping her in a cage? Given the timidness of most Christian men today, I find this doubtful. Also, a husband cannot “violate” or “rape” his own wife. Here’s the common definition of rape:

1. unlawful sexual activity and usually sexual intercourse carried out forcibly or under threat of injury against a person’s will or with a person who is beneath a certain age or incapable of valid consent because of mental illness, mental deficiency, intoxication, unconsciousness, or deception — compare sexual assault, statutory rape

2: an outrageous violation

3: an act or instance of robbing or despoiling or carrying away a person by force

Sexual abuse in marriage occurs when husbands make demands on their wives that are not based on love .¹ These demands for sex are not sanctioned by 1 Corinthians 7:3-5,² though the passage is often used as a goad to require a wife’s compliance. To be clear, the men who do this are troubled themselves. They usually have deep-seated problems including a weak or non-existent relationship with God and an inflated sense of entitlement. They believe that other people (including their wives) exist for them—for their comfort and to meet their needs, including sexual ones. When their wives fail to respond as desired, it often results in a pattern of coercive and punishing behaviors designed to force their compliance.³

Having sex with your wife is part of love (Ex 21:10), so this reasoning doesn’t make any sense. And wives do, in fact, exist to help her husband, including meeting his sexual needs (Gen 2). And if your wife has some repressed submissive desires, establishing “a pattern of coercive and punishing behaviors designed to force [her] compliance” might actually be the best thing you can try for your marriage.

The author then lists some examples that are indeed unloving, or at least are stupid strategies for getting sex with a woman. But judging by the dishonest start to the article, I doubt these scenarios are as common as she’d like us to believe.

Marriage does not equal consent. It does not obligate spouses to participate in any sexual act at any time. But devastatingly, many Christian women have come to believe that sex-on-demand is their “wifely duty.”

Actually, this is exactly what the Scriptures do NOT say (1 Cor 7:5).

Those suffering from these distorted, abusive demands should not be left questioning what God says about such evils. The Apostle Paul speaks clearly here. “Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming” (Col. 3:5-6). Paul is calling on us to eradicate all sexual sin that stands against our identity in Christ—any sexual impurity. He is not setting a low bar here and saying “just don’t cheat on your spouses.” He is saying: Wipe out all sexual covetousness—all your greedy taking—for all sexual impurities deserve the wrath of God.

The author claims to have a “Master of Divinity” degree from Westminister Theological Seminary. But apparently they don’t cover reading comprehension in that program or how to use a Greek lexicon or concordance.

sexual immorality (porneia): a “selling off” of one’s body (as in prostitution and other promiscuous sex)

impurity (akathartos): being not pure because of a mixture; being adulterated with a “wrong mix” and hence unclean (such as keeping company with sexually immoral people)

passion (pathos): raw and depraved strong feelings (implicitly, feelings that are not guided by God)

evil desire (epithymian kakos): a passion to do evil, rotten things

covetousness (pleonexia): the desire for more things; a desire for beyond what is needed; implies fraud and extortion

I have a hard time believing that any of these terms could possibly apply to “demanding” sex from your wife. The worst it could be is a poor sexual strategy executed by a sex-starved beta husband.

As if the Church wasn’t in for a big enough shock already, here’s yet another sexual movement on the rise:

The above screenshot is the estimated traffic stats (from SimilarWeb.com) for Incels.me, a discussion forum for men who have taken the “black pill.” The site’s terminology page is telling of the frustrations:

So what’s different now? Well, to start, we have a generation of lost boys who’ve been acculturated to think that even asking a girl out is a form of sexual misconduct. The Village has raised boys as if they’re defective girls, devoid of any of the masculine discipline necessary to teach these young men how to cope with real rejection from a girl, how to deal with defeat or how to come back stronger as a result. As we’ve feminized these boys so to have we embedded the same feminine victimhood narrative that women rely on into their collective psyche. Except these boys are still beholden to the old social contract that women believe incumbent upon men. This puts these boy-men into a very precarious position: they are educated like defective girls and as such adopt the same frail sensibilities and are subject to the same entitlement narrative as most women are, but they are also male and therefore are expected to suck it up, take it on the chin and carry on. They are told to express their feelings and in the next moment are told to check their male privilege.

Most of the lost boys generation are not ready for the disillusionment that the Red Pill brings to them, but it’s not the manosphere that’s opening their eyes so much as they are having it thrust in front of them by a communication age steeped in the Feminine Imperative. Today, Red Pill truths are harder and harder to get away from as Open Hypergamy and all of the unflattering truths about the female nature are triumphantly lauded by women themselves. Every swipe left on Tinder is one more confirmation of exactly the harsh truths that push Incels to their limit.

Of every article I’ve read on Incels since the Toronto killings not one author has analyzed the problem correctly, but also none have any actionable idea about how to solve the problem of Incels snapping. There are no longer the same outlets that ‘losers’ had back in my day to channel that sexual frustration to more productive ends. Many a frustrated high school boy became his generation’s iconic artist or musician. I think it’s the height of irony that Mark Zuckerberg essentially created Facebook to stalk his ex girlfriend. There are no longer the creative ways to deal with the discontent that comes from sexual rejection. Some will say to me there are, it’s just these guys are too unmotivated to apply themselves. And while that may be true, there are much easier outlets that further stunt that boys development. Rather than redirecting that sexual angst to something creative, it’s much easier to lose themselves in online porn or immersive escapisms facilitated by this age’s technology.

Or they can seek out a forum of similarly disaffected young men and commiserate about the truth of a world that has no place for them. I read that Dr. Jordan Peterson suggested that a social order based on ‘enforced monogamy’ might be a cure for Incels. I get what he was trying to say, but it’s just one more flippant redirection away from the real causes of this rise in Incels. I can remember reading a post that Roissy had made about a knife wielding man in China who had gone to a day care center to specifically kill women and children. As horrifying as that is what had prompted the guy was the understanding that he’d essentially been selected out of the reproductive game because there was a huge imbalance in the ratio of men to women in China as a result of their one-child policy for so long. Roissy went on to suggest that as more and more men are disaffected by a feminine-primary social order, one that bases all its legislation and social doctrine on optimizing Hypergamy, the men disenfranchised by it will become either more violent (in their effort or angst to reproduce) or more suicidal – which we also see in men killing themselves at 5 times the rate of women.

Incels are the canary in the coal mine that is a gynocentric social order. They are what results when a society prioritizes and incentivizes Alpha Fucks (enthusiastic consent) while Beta Bucks is more or less assured by direct and indirect resource transfer to women. When 80%+ of men are evaluated as ‘unattractive’ to women fed on a steady diet of ego inflating social media, you get Incels.

I don’t know if the world has ever faced a problem of this sort at the magnitude we’re going to experience it. But there will always be plenty of work for the righteous to do.

Be as a father unto the fatherless, and instead of an husband unto their mother: so shalt thou be as the son of the most High, and he shall love thee more than thy mother doth.
–Ecclesiasticus 4:10

I’m not sure how to apply the “husband unto their mother” part, but it is obvious who the fatherless are in this generation.

The author, George Swanson, explains the growing popularity of this once taboo arrangement:

Today, classic dating sites are slowly but surely dying while sugar baby sites are on the rise. Not only has their user base grown tremendously over the past few years but this kind of relationship has been more and more pushed as normal into the mainstream media. Even feminists found a way to support it. Owners of these sites are speaking freely on Oprah, CNN, and others, doing what they know best, marketing their websites.

Thanks to the unbalanced sexual marketplace and declining public morals, being a sugar baby is a new way to monetize your body as a woman.

(In case you’re not familiar with the term, a “sugar daddy” is an older male who pays a much younger woman a generous sum of money to keep him “company.”)

Apparently, this arrangement is rather popular and has only just recently (i.e. in the last few years) been leaking into the mainstream conversation in a positive light. Other than social proof, Swanson touches on three reasons this trend is on the rise:

Why would young sexy women continue to extract tiny financial favors from their boyfriends once they realize they could earn several thousand a month for the same service?

Most men are tired of the online dating game and those that can afford it will gladly switch to sugar daddy sites

Two-thirds of college students/grads with student debt are women… hence the economic incentive to join the sugar daddy lifestyle

I checked the traffic estimation on SimilarWeb for the top sugar daddy site to see if this trend was legit. He wasn’t lying:

The site gets around 7.5 million visits a month.

Now, as a Christian, I don’t recommend anyone debase themselves by poking around with whores. But I see several probable cultural changes on the horizon that we should be prepared for:

First off, age-gap relationships will become socially acceptable. Expect to see 40+ year old men openly walking about with college-age women. Once the age-gap stigma is eliminated, most women will prefer to be in a relationship with older, more successful men. The young guys who haven’t got it figured out yet will be out of luck.

Unfortunately, as is always the case, most men will never achieve success. They will have no vision. They will be failures in their careers. They will become unmotivated and depressed. Their health and appearance will decline as they age. They will congregate online to gripe about what a bad hand they’ve been dealt in life.

In all likelihood, there will be more attractive young women than successful men. The sex robots will only serve to widen this gap. Many men who could have potentially been sexually successful will opt for the easier path.

The secular dating market, with it’s loose morals, will adapt to this trend seamlessly. But the Church will face an unavoidable crisis: where have all the good men gone? This question will probably trigger at least one of three responses in the Church:

The Church will realize the error of her ways, embrace red pill truths, and equip more young men to be successful and masculine

There will be a revival of Christian polygamy

Most attractive women will leave the Church in favor of the “sugar daddy” lifestyle. The Church will (literally) become so ugly that it fails to reproduce itself.

It’ll be interesting to see what happens and how the Church responds. These are just a few ideas. Who knows how it’ll play out?