Love it or hate it, THIS article about rescued marriages is what Fifty Shades of Grey is doing for a lot of people– and that’s a wonderful thing. I get letters from folks all the time about saved marriages and renewed relationships. As educators and BDSM community members, poo-pooing the book (as many in this article quoting 50 sex educators/fetishists on 50 shades do) does nothing but shame people’s very real, valid, life changing experiences. And what we want most is for them to enter the world of BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner (or in a RACK-y way if that’s more their thing ;) ) and learn to differentiate between fantasy inspiration and healthy real-life kink.

An internet orgy is by invite only. It’s usually set up by social media and the invite list is closely monitored. Usually everybody knows each other. What you’ll need is a good computer, webcasting service, and a high speed internet connection.

What if there are repercussions as a result of that doctor finding out exactly how you got those bruises all over your ass? What if they judge or shame you? What if their biases affect the quality of care they give you?

The first time I had an orgasm being relaxed, calm, and breathing deeply it was an amazing experience. I hadn’t realized before that during all of my previous orgasms my pelvic floor and entire body was clenched, I was white knuckled, grinding my teeth, and holding my breath. All of those things going in in different parts of my body detracted from what my genitals were feeling.

If you’re a fan of Fifty Shades of Grey but haven’t seen Secretary, SEE SECRETARY! It’s a much more realistic representation of BDSM, it’s suuuuper hot, and the chemistry between the James Spader and Maggie Gyllenaal is amazing!

Each week following the airing of a new Sex with Sunny Megatron episode I post follow-up videos on my youtube page. The discussion video for episode 1 is up and embedded below. The theme of episode 1 is #Recharge and in the video I talk a little about the episode and suggest additional ways you can recharge your sex life.

I know you’ve all been itching to get a sneak peek of the new show. A trailer is now available right on Showtime’s website and on youtube. It’s also been playing in between shows on Showtime as of late. Here it is!

If you have ever had your labia massaged or tugged on during foreplay, you may have noticed how good it feels. This is because putting pressure on the labia can stimulate the internal clitoris. That little button above the top of the vaginal opening that most of us know as the clitoris is really just the tip of a much larger iceberg.

Think electric sex play is only for people who enjoy pain? Nothing could be further from the truth. Plenty of folks who consider themselves “vanilla” use electroerotic toys to painlessly titillate their partners or achieve hands-free orgasms. Wanna give it a try? Here’s what you need to know . . .

If you haven’t heard the buzz, my husband, Ken and I have been busy all summer filming a TV show. Yep! I’m going to be on the tee-vee! Ken is the consulting producer and I am the host and co-executive producer of a new show about sex on Showtime called SEX with Sunny Megatron.

Did you know that as a CalExotics Expert Sexpert I make kinky educational and product videos? My web Series is called Kinky Korner. So far I have nearly 30 videos in this series in which I teach you kink basics and give you a peek at some of my favorite sexytime products.

The vibrations of the Rechargeable Shibari Wand really make this sex toy work for me. I’m not sure of the exact specs or the science behind the mechanisms, but the Shibari Wand feels as if it’s vibrating at a different frequency than the Hitachi.

I really, really, REALLY like the OhMiBod Adventure. Granted, it took a bit for me to get used to but once I did– DAMN! It’s powerful enough for my iron clit of steel, it can be a few toys at once depending on if I insert it, how I insert it, which way I spin it, etc. It also does amazing things to my perineal sponge my other toys only dream of. We have quite the fling going at this point. We simply can’t get enough of each other!

Ken and I have been busy beavers! Here’s the latest on what’s been happening and what’s to come (there’s a dirty joke or two in there somewhere!) . . . Workshops, podcasts, conventions, blog posts, sex toy contests, sexy meal suggestions, and more!

Listen in as we talk about dating etiquette, Ken’s rule about first dates, the Chicago kink scene, and a whole mess of interesting things that prompted Eric to call us his “most hardcore people on the show to date.” Eric’s takeaways: “Highlights include old ladies and puppetry of the penis, AVN midget blowbangs, ritual fucking on the altar of a seminary school, shoving balloon animals into buttholes and more.”

Recently I was a guest on the SiriusXM radio show, On Air with Club CalExotics hosted by Sheena Metal. Three words: SO MUCH FUN!

Sheena and I talked about exploring kink and took questions from callers. We finished up the episode with my list of Top 10 Fetish Toys of 2013. These are must-have, classic items everyone should have in their naughty toolbox.

When we were in Vegas covering the AVN Expo, the Outside the Box crew and I took it to the streets. Hilarity ensues when you talk to strangers about their sex lives. We also touched on bestialty (I think? I didn’t imagine that, right!? that *is* what we were talking about??). I’ll let you judge for yourself!

Cal Exotics has really been on a roll lately. I keep getting sent review items I just love! This month I got the Body & Soul 10-Function Transcend. I can’t decide what I like most about it or even how to classify it. It’s a lay-on clit vibe. NO! It’s a bullet! NO! It’s a tickle my clit and have […]

Of all the geeky sex facts I have encountered, this one is by far my favorite: If you haven’t had anal play in a while (a month or longer), you can use the Fibonacci sequence of numbers to approximate the circumference of what can now comfortably fit in your butt.

Dear Basic Silver Bullet,
I met you years ago. How long has it been? Five? Six years? In all that time you’ve never let me down. Your vibrations are intense and when you are pressed up against me, you take to me the edge each and every time.

Well, we weren’t ON Sandra but we were guests on her podcast! This episode was all about clown fetish. Oh, you didn’t know about the clown thing Ken & I have? Here’s a clown sex primer I wrote, Diary of a Sex Clown: Life Lessons from a Clown Fetishist. After you’re done reading that, check out the Sex Nerd Sandra […]

When I first saw the Gyration Sensations Gyrating Pleasing Flutter vibrator I didn’t know what to make of it. It kind of looks like a platypus, right? Here’s a quick round-up for those of you doing a drive by. For all the juicy details watch my video review below.

I love reading sex tips. There seems to be a chapter dedicated to great sex in every newsstand woman’s magazine. Sometimes however, I wonder if the authors have tried the suggestions they’ve written as most tend to lack originality and inspiration.

You know, I think I’m becoming cynical. The more sex toys I try, the more it takes to pique my interest. Unless it has a minimum of 8 fully functioning tentacles, makes me coffee or is controlled by mind power—ehhhh it just looks like another vibrator to me. Vibrator, schmibrator. I’m up to my neck in sex toys. My eyebrows don’t easily raise anymore.

Reading this essay was the very first time I felt validated in my suspicions that the world wasn’t balanced. Although I was told I could do anything, be anything, and my value was equal to that of a man, I knew deep down that really wasn’t true. What I was told and my day-to-day experiences were two very different things.

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