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Sunday, September 06, 2015

A couple of updates

I thought I’d give you a few updates. Nick first – he seems
just fine. He’s had no repeat of the A-fib since the night we went to the ER.
He saw the cardiologist last week and he lowered the dose of his medication and
told him to come back in four weeks. All Nick’s said it that the medication
make him a little tired, but it also messes up his sleep some. He tells me that
part is getting better so all seems well.

The next update is about my new boss. First I’ll say I
really like

her. She isn’t so popular with my partners. It’s not that they
dislike her, but they are both a little OCD. The best way to explain the
difference in the old and the new is that old boss was like Mussolini, a real
asshole, but he did make the trains
run on time. New boss has traits more like an old hippy – calm, laid back and
things will get done when they get done. Peace. My partners really like the trains running on time.
I could care less. I find it much easier to deal with an old hippy than a
fascist.

Now I have a decision to make. You all know I like to write.
I feel I can explain myself, my positions, etc. very well when I write. I had
toyed with the idea of writing old boss a letter– not an ugly hateful letter,
but one congratulating him on his new position and telling him things that I
thought he could have handled so much better when he was at our school. I knew
he could care less, but I would feel so much better to just politely tell him. I’d pretty much reluctantly decided to let the
idea go… until. The vice principal decided we should have a reception for old
boss – what?I mean he didn’t retire; he left the county
for a better job, but whatever. Then he mentioned he was getting him a new
tackle box and we should fill it up with card we write him.

You want me to write old boss? Really? I might, I’m still
thinking about it.Hope everyone is enjoying his or her Labor Day weekend whatever country you're in – it does
feel wonderful knowing I still have tomorrow off!

26 comments:

Oh PK...so happy that Nick is doing well...hope the good health continues. I also prefer the 'laid back hippy' approach...maybe it's the generation we were raised around. ;)

As to writing the letter to your old boss...I can understand how it would help you to vent and really think you should write it. However, unless you truly believe he would use the 'feedback' to improve, I think it would do you more harm than good to actually give it to him. Of course, this is just my opinion which along with $1 will get you a cheap cup of coffee. ;)

Hi PK, so glad to hear Nick is doing well and that you are enjoying working with the new boss. As for the letter, I'll add my $1 to Cat's comment. I'm not sure it will end up being a good thing for you.

Hi PK, it's good to hear Nick is doing well, must be a load off your minds.I turned on comments to say I thought you should write the letter to get it all off your chest, but not send it, and see that Cat and Roz think the same. Their opinion is worth more than mine though, because in England we only give our two penn'orths, which isn't a lot!

Hi PK, I’m a lurker who enjoys reading your blog, and could not pass up the opportunity to encourage a creative telling-off, which I would grab with both hands…

Make a card for Old Boss that says: GO JUMP IN A LAKE! Inside, put a picture of a fisherman standing in a lake. Add a caption that says something like, “Good luck in your new lake catching the ones that got away from you over here!”

Then write all the things down that he did NOT get during your time together in the water around him, like fish swimming away. To be kind, you can also add the things he DID master (if you can think of any!) as fish on his line, maybe…

Having said all this, is there any chance that Mollie might end up under Mussolini’s supervision one day? Just a thought…

Hi to Nick!

(I’m laughing at myself right now because, after months and months, this is the post that made me step out of the shadows and stop lurking!)

What an interesting idea! I do love using my creative side, hmm…I have thought of Mollie - she is in a different county from me and Mussolini is in a third county. Also since he only recognizes computer program and not people I doubt he knows I have a daughter and would never put it together if they ended up in the same county - that being said I suppose it could still happen.

I don't care why you chose to de-lurk, I'm so happy you did! Please comment again, honestly it makes reading blogs so much more fun!

Good morning, PK, So glad to hear Nick is getting good reports and feeling more like himself. We were in the ER with my SIL last week, and we were very scared. Still trying to get her stable.

I have felt as you do in the past about telling off a boss when you or they move on. It's like all the stuff that you had to hold in for so long is just begging to be said. Remember that it will not change a thing about that person. Instead, you may be the one that looks like the smaller person. It could also reflect on Mollie, and I know you wouldn't do anything to jeopardize her career.

Just think of something clever to put on the card, eat a piece of cake, and slide out with some lame excuse. "Fish tremble when they hear your name."

When I read this I put myself in your place...it was easy. I had one boss from hell...I had even welcomed her with a picnic at my home. She was at the least a good match for your own principal. The only good thing, she only lasted a year...she forgot that parents ...for the most part ...had grown to love and support the staff. Now I was tempted to throw a good by picnic....with lots of reasons why...I did not...and did not write a note. Really just having not to deal with them again is enough....hugs abby

HI there PK! :) SO glad to hear that all is going well with Nick! I am sure that it is a HUGE relief! Been thinking of you all.

I'm in agreement with most people here. In your head, you can perhaps thank the fella for teaching you how NOT to run a school, and then... move on America. You want to go out strong, for Mollie but mostly for you!Many hugs,

Hi, How great Nick is feeling better. I hope your relationship has gotten over this little bump soon too!

As far as the letter goes, I am with the majority: don't do it. He's out of your life and has moved on...I hope you can let him go out of yours. The best revenge is that one day you'll see him on the street and not even remember who he was. :-)

PK so glad to hear Nick is doing well. As for writing the letter to old boss. Write it, then tear it up. Not worth it in case it back fires and your last year is made miserable. sounds like new boss is wonderful, love hippie types.Lindy x