I had a delivery person bring a rose dipped in gold, a box of chocolates and a singing teddy bear…my husband answered the door and no sender or card just addressed to me. He trusts me but is not a happy camper…any advice on how to get him to chill. I’ve never cheated on him…

Yeah I threw away, but for a long time he would make little sarcastic remarks. If situation was reversed I’d be pissed too. As I told him everyone knows I hate gold, two I am a chocolate snob, and three came from a notbso good family and remember when I was 11 my dad came to visit bringing a teddy bear, and I thre it at his face cuz teddy bears don’t hug back and you can’t buyback what you’ve done to me. I pointed also pointed out he knows I hate flowers cuz I had to tend to my mom’s elaborate rose garden when I lived with her. Roses are a pain in the ass.

So, after he simmered down he got all lovey doves and didn’t go to his game because he wanted to spend more time with me. He did get a wee bit angry but I would be, too.

Now might be a great time to update door locks, install cameras around the house and take a few SD classes with your husband. Would you consider carrying? Secret admirer and stalker aren’t too far apart in the adult world.

This would also show your husband the romantic gifts from dbag unknown weren’t welcome. Plus you’re going to home despot anyway.

Sounds like he doesn’t want you going to the gym now… that could cause problems. Does he work out? Or is this a honeymooners scenario with a fit wife and a… less fit husband?

I have my chl. The case makes it look like a day planner. Also, one of my dogs is extremely protective of me. I’m going to have to change my schedule around though. I have an alarm system, and two dog alarms, too. Haha, I took self defense as a kid when living with my dad. I know how to defend myself…but guys are a lot bigger. Almost makes me want to feel codependent.

The direction of that comment about him working out was that if you’re getting unwanted attention from guys now, he may interpret you going to the gym and getting even better as attention seeking behaviour (which you hinted at in the OP).

Obviously if he was a gym rat too he’d understand your desire to lift.