Sunday, 11 May 2014

Amma : Blog # 175

Amma

The
earliest vivid memory that I have of my mother is her asking me what Saree she
should wear whenever we went out. I should have been in 1st standard
if I remember right. I always used to ask her to wear a particular Saree and I
can’t remember a time when she did not oblige. But I also remember her
asking me to put on a particular shirt and my refusal to do it time and again. To
this day, the pattern continues. Coming to think of it now, little deeds like
these show how much of a selfless relationship a mother has with her
daughter/son. A mother gives and gives and gives!

I believe if not for mothers, we
never would have understood the concept of love in its wholeness. I can’t think
of any other relationship which is completely devoid of ego. Whatever the circumstances
and situations are, a mother’s first instinct is to love. It is not that the
relationship doesn’t go through transience. One of my friend's sister says that she could see how her son is changing now that he has entered
adolescence. He doesn’t have time to talk to her and if at all he talks, it is
to argue. I am sure most of us can relate to this. We have all been through
that phase. Have you ever stepped in to her shoes? The void that she would have
felt when her son/daughter moved from being completely dependent on her to her
struggling to finda few minutes in a
day to talk to him/her!

I think the moment of truth comes
when we finish college and move out of our homes to another city on work. It is
then that it suddenly hits us. Now that friends are at different places and
many of them who used to be around for day and night slowly drifting away, a new
found solitude sets in. The realization sets in that this is exactly how our
mothers would have felt. If one is sensitive enough, he/she takes efforts to
make up for the lost time. And when it comes to mothers, it is never too late,
isn’t it?

My cousins and friends who are
married say it is after they have a kid that they understand what being a
mother means. They talk about how taxing and tiring it is and how still they
can’t help feel happy to be a mother. Whenever my grandmother visits, my father
asks her to cook one dish or the other for him and in spite of her age, she
happily obliges. I ask my grandmother why and she says “For you, he is an old
man. But for me, he is still my little son”. Doesn’t that sum up how a mother
feels for her children all her life?

I don’t think we can even attempt to
love the way a mother does. All we can do is to try and respond to the warmth
she exudes and be eternally grateful.

p.s.
Amma,I can't thank God enough for your presence in my life. I try and express my love for you in more ways than one. But I know I haven't done enough and it will never be.

More often than not, a father’s love goes unacknowledged. More so, when it
comes to the relationship that he shares with a son! So here goes; I love you
dad J.

4 comments:

Feels like ......just because someone will tell your dad, that you have written a page for your mom and not even a sentence for him.. you have added in the end "So here goes; I love you dad :) " - Parvathy