Why Did I Watch Porn?

I find that dealing with the area of porn, it just leaves the impression that men and women just sit there and watch naked people commit the sin of adultery, fornication, bisexuality, and homosexuality, and then turn off the TV, cellphone, iPad, or whatever device they are viewing and that’s the end.

Nothing else goes on.

But those of us that have been bound to this know that when it comes to watching porn, acting out sexually is part of the package.

Whether we act out sexually with another person or masturbate, the heat of sexuality is ever present. There must be a release of sexual tension.

Charisma put out an article on their page regarding overcoming porn.

Every one of us that came out from viewing pornography applaud anyone that address this issue.

In most articles that Charisma posts, they usually leave a place for comments but evidently, they chose not to allow for comments. And that’s fine.

Thank goodness for bloggers that will reveal a lot more of what goes on with pornography so as not to cut corners or “sugar coat” the anti porn message.

Porn is not just a show. It is demonic activity. Pornography is an “accelerant.”

Lust is already in the heart and mind of a man or woman, and all they want is something a little extra to heighten and “hijack” the chemicals and emotions operating in the body to achieve orgasm or releasing sexual tension.

But on the spiritual side, a man or woman must defect from righteousness, operate in disobedience to the commands of the Lord to remain pure, obey the enticement from demonic sources to be drawn away to commit sexual immorality.

Demons are always involved in sexual immorality and it is covetousness, which is idolatry that takes place wherever and whenever porn is involved.

Men are sight oriented and women are touch oriented.

What is the combination that occurs in sexual activity?

Sight and touch.

What attracts men to porn?

What they see. Then the arousal process begins. Sight and stimulation.

In the case of men, manual stimulation while aroused by sight is what makes masturbation, that leads to orgasm, the number one reason why men are bound to porn. A man doesn’t have to mentally manipulate or coerce a woman into sex. He engages in solo sex without relational involvement.

According to Dr. William Struthers, “porn hijacks the brain,” and he engages in masturbation, pretending to have sex with that image.

He deliberately avoids the normal relational process because all he wants is sex.

In the privacy of his home or hotel room, he engages himself sexually, brings himself to orgasm, and it’s over.

According to a source, the average time a man spends watching porn in a hotel room is 12 minutes.

A man doesn’t need porn to engage himself in masturbation. His mental capacities can engage in solo sex because, again Dr. William Struthers, in his book “Wired For Intimacy,” said that a man is wired for sex. He’s done a case study of individuals regarding the effects of porn on the brain.

While I was taking a course from Liberty University on Sexuality, another person did a case study years ago on the effects of porn on the brain. There is scientific evidence that porn is dangerous to the brain and its objective is to impose and implant abnormal sexual behavior.

But these studies all come to the same conclusion.

Porn is just an accelerant.

In order for a fire to start, all you need is three basic components.

Fire, material, and oxygen.

Eliminate one of these three, and you cannot have a fire.

But a person isn’t satisfied with just the basic components.

To get a bigger fire you need an accelerant.

It’s not a bigger orgasm that will be achieved. It’s the way, methods, or instruments that you use to get to the place of no return.

The man or woman is bound to use this and other accelerants to achieve orgasm.

So he or she returns, day after day, night after night to achieve something that is illusive.

Complete satisfaction.

You could also factor in the emotional episodes that people go through during the day that ties into achieving complete human satisfaction.

HALT.

It’s an acronym for H– Hungry. A– Angry. L– Lonely. T– Tired.

When any of these emotions surface, this is the place where sexual temptation is sure to come, but also remember what James 1:14-16 says.

“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death. Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren.”

These things are always operating in the carnal believer until crucified.

Only those that respond to satan get resurrected from the dead to commit sin.

Remember what Paul said that we are to be dead to sin but alive to God.

We cannot be alive to sin and alive to God at the same time.

With HALT, we could see satan personally attacking the Lord Jesus in the wilderness. Jesus was Hungry. Jesus was physically Lonely. At the very least, two out of the four were present.

Remember. Jesus was tempted in all points like ourselves yet, without sinning (see Hebrews 4:15).

Now men are looking to be seduced and women and men (homosexuality) will use the tools to draw them from strength to struggle. They give in to the struggle because of the reward of orgasm, but it always lead to an empty feeling inside.

Sexual intimacy is to be shared with a person of the opposite sex within the confines of matrimony. Yes, it involves relational involvement so as not to cheapen the person. Hence, “Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled, but adulterers and fornicators God will judge.”

Above that is the fact that sexual immorality is an act of sin, which is an act of betrayal of the only One that could fully satisfy our every need (see John 4:1-42).

When a man or a woman engages in sexual immorality, he or she is seeking intimacy.

The highest form of intimacy is with the Lord in spirit and in truth, worshipping the Father. In the natural, the Lord provides for natural intimacy in marriage. And when the natural intimacy is achieved in legal matrimony, we go back to the Father for full satisfaction.

So when it comes to masturbation, achieving orgasm outside of the marriage, we are robbing ourselves of complete satisfaction as designed by the Lord.