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(serious replies please) What do you do when..

What do you do when a friend of yours is getting with a guy who you know is no good for her? I have a friend who just got into a relationship with a guy I went to high school with for a few years. I know for a fact that this guy has almost killed himself twice OD'ing on drugs during high school and has a slew of other problems. But here's where the complication comes in, she knows I like her too. So I'm afraid I'm just gonna accused of making stuff up about him to get her to break up because I'm after her and that could make things WAY more complicated... What should I do? warn her? Just let her go? Am I only getting on the defensive because I'm jelly? plz help me out

Re: (serious replies please) What do you do when..

What you do is realize that all relationships are ultimately trivial and inconsequential, you then place your focus and efforts on more important things like improving yourself. Afterwards, you end up fucking her anyway.

Re: (serious replies please) What do you do when..

Well, Honestly, you should go after her.
Tell her the truth, and if she does accuse you of trying to get him out of the way.
Then tell her how you really feel, and its not about that, its about you not wanting her to get hurt.

Re: (serious replies please) What do you do when..

Originally Posted by Douryoku

What you do is realize that all relationships are ultimately trivial and inconsequential, you then place your focus and efforts on more important things like improving yourself. Afterwards, you end up fucking her anyway.

Re: (serious replies please) What do you do when..

tell her straight up, just tell her you just want her to be happy and you know there is no way in hell that she can be happy with someone like that. Then of course you say that you don't care if she ends up with you or not but you can't stand to see her with someone like that (this makes you look sincere and caring but not just jealous).

Re: (serious replies please) What do you do when..

If your smart you'll stay out of it.. because of your feelings nothing you do will be seen as anything other than self serving despite your good intentions.. Remember People gonna do what people gonna do! They aren't going to ask if it's a good idea or if you approve or if it'll hurt your feelings... they're gonna do it anyway especially women!

Re: (serious replies please) What do you do when..

Stay out of it. You interfering at this point does you no good. If he has so many problems let her figure out. In the meantime better yourself and pay less attention to the woman who doesn't want you. Find a woman who values you man.