Mine does as do I and we were both so passe about talking about It causes no issues at all. I think if it's secretive or if someone has a strong objection to the industry or the women has a lot of insecurities then it becomes a problem.

The reason I ask is just that it had never come up with us before.. Been together 2 years and he has his daughter every other weekend. We don't usually have sex those weekends but went to watch something on his iPad while he was still asleep and a web page of porn came up. We only see each other weekends - and now I'm feeling a bit like he might be watching that and then not wanting to be sexy with me instead if that makes sense

The actual porn thing doesn't bother me, it's just if it replaces us being intimate it would upset me

I think most people would find that upsetting op. I have a fairly low sex drive at the moment, so although I despise him doing it, and find it upsetting that he's looking at women who I feel I just can't compete with (my issue entirely a he swears up and down that he finds me attractive), I get why he does sometimes... He still initiates stuff in the bedroom and rarely turns me down if on the odd occasion I initiate it. If that all stopped then I'd know we were having serious problems.

Talk to him, you may not want to, he may be embarrassed. But being open about this sort of thing and knowing where you both stand on the matter is the best way.

I'm so glad you started this thread! DH watches it and always has. Sometimes I do too. Sometimes we watch together. Looking at threads on here I was starting to think I was weird because I didn't mind at all!

Mine did when I first met him. He's much younger than me and of that generation where online porn was freely available in his teens, all of his peers did without thinking about it.

But I hate it, for what it does to perpetuate harmful views of women, as well as never being sure who is coerced into the sex industry. He'd never really given thought to those arguments/that point of view before, and since then, he's been rather turned off by it, thank heavens.

I get you, I'm shy too. I tend to stew over things for ages before plucking up the courage to say anything which is horrible! Does me no good at all and makes the situation more awkward than it needs to be. It sounds silly, but I've sent my dp texts in the past, in order to try and break the ice a bit and get a conversation on difficult subjects going.

Mine does a couple of times a week, I don't particularly like it and try not to think about it to be honest, but it's more from a me having low self esteem perspective than anything else. However I suspect most men I know watch porn (we're of the age where we grew up with the Internet) and DP doesn't watch anything particularly outrageous (judging by a few I stumbled across a few years back which led to us talking about it - no camera sites or hardcore stuff), is very discreet and I don't think uses it excessively, and has never ever turned down sex with me. If any of these things wasn't the case I would have an issue with it though. Not a popular opinion around here, but it's not a deal breaker personally so I try not to let it bother me.

My ex on the other hand didn't want to sleep with me for the last year or so of our relationship, and slept on the sofa for the last six months by choice, watching weird porn and messaging girls. Amongst other things (him being a general twat!) it was a dealbreaker. Before this I was quite unbothered about porn, but this gave my self esteem a huge knock. I try not to judge DP by this though since the relationships are like night and day.

My exes used to watch it and I felt I had to accept it because society tells us everyone does it etc and I sort of talked myself into thinking well that's ok then... But really deep down I never felt happy about it.

My now dh hates porn and openly said he never watches when we first got together (before he knew my feelings on it) and in the 6 years we've been together I've never once had any feeling he's been watching it or whatever else. We are very open with our phones and iPads etc.

To be honest if I suddenly found out he had been watching it I would be very hurt because that's not how he "sold" himself to me at the beginning and I wouldn't want to be with someone who enjoys porn (again).