I have everything anyone could ever want but ....

I feel so unhappy I don't feel complete at all ..... I own a house that my husband has got for me have three cars BMW truck an sports car..dog my loving son an expecting yr daughter all at the age 23 my husband is 21 but I am not totally happy with my marriage it sucks because I feel stuck n a way .... Idk just kinda talking to my self need to figure things out

I feel so unhappy I don't feel complete at all ..... I own a house that my husband has got for me have three cars BMW truck an sports car..dog my loving son an expecting yr daughter all at the age 23 my husband is 21 but I am not totally happy with my marriage it sucks because I feel stuck n a way .... Idk just kinda talking to my self need to figure things out

It's a very long story he cheated before we got thu it we are doin fine now but I always have this feeling like I don't trust him an he knows it I expressed that to him an told him it will take time it's been also a year since it happened but I guess I feel like he is not my soul mate he don't complete me ......he stress me out sometimes with arguing about nothin he was in iraq when we got engaged for almost a year come Bacc depressed an angry an a totally different person than I fell in love with an plus he has memory lost he would ask me things over an over an over all n one day an this happens almost daily I know thats not his fault but it's taking a tol on meh he also got hurt while being out there which left him with back problems so we can do the things that young people do feels like we are 45 years old can't do anything because of the scars that the military has left on him it's so much more but thT should give u an idea of what I am talking About an it's not so much of the cheating because that's n the past but it's very very had to except

It's a very long story he cheated before we got thu it we are doin fine now but I always have this feeling like I don't trust him an he knows it I expressed that to him an told him it will take time it's been also a year since it happened but I guess I feel like he is not my soul mate he don't complete me ......he stress me out sometimes with arguing about nothin he was in iraq when we got engaged for almost a year come Bacc depressed an angry an a totally different person than I fell in love with an plus he has memory lost he would ask me things over an over an over all n one day an this happens almost daily I know thats not his fault but it's taking a tol on meh he also got hurt while being out there which left him with back problems so we can do the things that young people do feels like we are 45 years old can't do anything because of the scars that the military has left on him it's so much more but thT should give u an idea of what I am talking About an it's not so much of the cheating because that's n the past but it's very very had to except

Yeah I talk to him about all the time but he says its something he really can't help ... It makes him cry when I bring it up because he said he feels like the military has took his life away from him he said he knows he act different but he doesn't do it on purpose .... I think it just is what it is he might act this way for the rest of his life which makes me sad because we were so perfect before he left an he has took steps to help with his prob counseling an tell the doc Which helped at first then the discoved he as ADHD .... It's just a mess it's a lot but I know I can't just give up when things get hard because they might get better I just hope it does soon it's like trying to fall in love with someone else an u don't that other person but I know it's not his fault an I cant just give up on him because I don't think he would give up on me ... Other than those issues he is great he is a great father provider an a very fun person if he allows thT side to come out

Yeah I talk to him about all the time but he says its something he really can't help ... It makes him cry when I bring it up because he said he feels like the military has took his life away from him he said he knows he act different but he doesn't do it on purpose .... I think it just is what it is he might act this way for the rest of his life which makes me sad because we were so perfect before he left an he has took steps to help with his prob counseling an tell the doc Which helped at first then the discoved he as ADHD .... It's just a mess it's a lot but I know I can't just give up when things get hard because they might get better I just hope it does soon it's like trying to fall in love with someone else an u don't that other person but I know it's not his fault an I cant just give up on him because I don't think he would give up on me ... Other than those issues he is great he is a great father provider an a very fun person if he allows thT side to come out

Is he getting counselling and physical therapy through veterans' services? The war has been proven to be damaging at both a mental and physical level as far as the brain goes. And you should consult with his doctor on what he should be able to do as far as recreationally. Other than that, I hate to be insensitive, but if those are your main issues, that's where the "for better or worse" of the wedding vows comes into play. It's not all going to be happiness and roses. People change, especially when influenced by strong outside forces like war. I think you need to face this and step up to the plate. You and your husband are partners. It's your turn to support him, like he should support you if you're in trouble with your health. If you got into an accident that left you physically impaired in some way and maybe mentally scarred as well, would you expect him to give up on you or do his best to help you get better? This is real life.

Is he getting counselling and physical therapy through veterans' services? The war has been proven to be damaging at both a mental and physical level as far as the brain goes. And you should consult with his doctor on what he should be able to do as far as recreationally. Other than that, I hate to be insensitive, but if those are your main issues, that's where the "for better or worse" of the wedding vows comes into play. It's not all going to be happiness and roses. People change, especially when influenced by strong outside forces like war. I think you need to face this and step up to the plate. You and your husband are partners. It's your turn to support him, like he should support you if you're in trouble with your health. If you got into an accident that left you physically impaired in some way and maybe mentally scarred as well, would you expect him to give up on you or do his best to help you get better? This is real life.

I agree. Maybe some counselling? Maybe he could do individual counselling, and you could both go to couples counselling?Also, about the memory loss thing: have him take fish oil tablets. They're very effective at giving you "brain power". Go to your local natural health store and see what sorts of natural remedies you can get for his issues. St john's wort for depression; fish oil for awesome brain power; enzymes for achy body parts... Just to name a few.

I agree. Maybe some counselling? Maybe he could do individual counselling, and you could both go to couples counselling?Also, about the memory loss thing: have him take fish oil tablets. They're very effective at giving you "brain power". Go to your local natural health store and see what sorts of natural remedies you can get for his issues. St john's wort for depression; fish oil for awesome brain power; enzymes for achy body parts... Just to name a few.

You are so blessed to have a husband, a son and a daughter on the way, (and a roof over your head). Don't think for a minute that the grass is greener because it's not. I am a single mom, it's just me and my son and i wish I had a husband and a second child. I think you should go get counceling. Just don't give up on your marriage without really trying to make it work first. good luck.

You are so blessed to have a husband, a son and a daughter on the way, (and a roof over your head). Don't think for a minute that the grass is greener because it's not. I am a single mom, it's just me and my son and i wish I had a husband and a second child. I think you should go get counceling. Just don't give up on your marriage without really trying to make it work first. good luck.

We are def in counseling which helps us a lot an help me understand how serious These things are I am so glad that we do we just have to pay for it ourself now since he got out so we dont go as much as we want to go whoch for me would be ever week an yes he takes meds for his probes besides the pain pills for his back because he feels a lot of his friends are addicted to them I am not saying I want to leave him it's just very hard an trying on our relationship I guess I never thought about what if he goes to Iraq an get hurt or come back a whole other person something's I can't talk to a counselor about because he would get n trouble like if I say he tried to choke me when he first came back an was punching wholes around my head n the walls but he has totally got the under control because I told him no man would ever ever beat me an I stay !!!!!!!! That's a no no for me. I know u guys might think my problems are nothing but trying living with some of these issues for over 2 years I just want to wake up one day an be happy, smile, an love my growing family ....also I have been a single mom myself before he come into my life an took our son n so I for damn sure know the grass is not greener on the other side I don't want to leave just wondering what could I do to help how do I learn to love him all over again .....

We are def in counseling which helps us a lot an help me understand how serious These things are I am so glad that we do we just have to pay for it ourself now since he got out so we dont go as much as we want to go whoch for me would be ever week an yes he takes meds for his probes besides the pain pills for his back because he feels a lot of his friends are addicted to them I am not saying I want to leave him it's just very hard an trying on our relationship I guess I never thought about what if he goes to Iraq an get hurt or come back a whole other person something's I can't talk to a counselor about because he would get n trouble like if I say he tried to choke me when he first came back an was punching wholes around my head n the walls but he has totally got the under control because I told him no man would ever ever beat me an I stay !!!!!!!! That's a no no for me. I know u guys might think my problems are nothing but trying living with some of these issues for over 2 years I just want to wake up one day an be happy, smile, an love my growing family ....also I have been a single mom myself before he come into my life an took our son n so I for damn sure know the grass is not greener on the other side I don't want to leave just wondering what could I do to help how do I learn to love him all over again .....

Actually, at the time you should have told your counselor. I'm pretty sure they're under the HIPPA umbrella of patient confidentiality. They could have worked through those anger issues and hair trigger responses (common in returnees) at the time. I also think it would be beneficial to bring up in current sessions because those memories are obviously still very present and could be part of what's affecting your reactions to him. In fact, they can't help you as much as they could otherwise if you don't do full disclosure. Then you're not getting your money's worth out of the service you are paying for.

Actually, at the time you should have told your counselor. I'm pretty sure they're under the HIPPA umbrella of patient confidentiality. They could have worked through those anger issues and hair trigger responses (common in returnees) at the time. I also think it would be beneficial to bring up in current sessions because those memories are obviously still very present and could be part of what's affecting your reactions to him. In fact, they can't help you as much as they could otherwise if you don't do full disclosure. Then you're not getting your money's worth out of the service you are paying for.

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