So you’re on three dating sites, you’ve tried speed dating, had your share of blind dates, all in the hopes of finding your Mr. Right. But does it feel like you are going nowhere?

Feel like you are lost and doomed in this whole dating business? Stop feeling sorry for yourself!

The reality of this situation is that luck has nothing to do with it

If you are like many people, you are probably dating blindfolded, without even realizing that you are doing so. If you feel unsuccessful and dissatisfied with your dating patterns, then it is time for you to take a few steps back to see where things went wrong for you.

Think you have been doing everything right? Think again!

If you look back, you will be surprised to learn that you got so caught up in the whole dating experience, that you forgot what to look out for and neglected your true needs and desires. What are you really looking for in a lover? What do you want? What are your needs? What qualities are important for a person to have and what other qualities are you willing to compromise with and accept?

Getting back in touch with what you are really looking for will help prevent you from staying in the dating scene forever.

It is essential that you know what you want. Don’t settle. Don’t just date in the name of dating!

If you find that you are not sharing the connection - that spark - you crave with a person, then you must stop seeing him! Don’t worry about him. You are the most important person in your life and you must do what’s best for you.

In fact, I would suggest dating casually, i.e. more than one guy at a time, until you’re sure you have that spark and think that you could take it further with one specific guy.

Now when you are on your dates, it is very important to be yourself

Yes, you’re going to make your hair and make-up look stunning and maybe even buy a new dress, but don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Now don’t go to the opposite extreme and tell him all about your bad habits and personality flaws on the first date. Laugh if you think he’s funny, chew with your mouth closed and bat those lashes if you can feel the spark!

There is one thing that you can put on a show for

Nothing will drive a guy away like the smell of desperation. So even though you are looking for love, before you leave for your date, stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself over and over again, that you are happy with and by yourself.

It may be a fake confident boost, but you only need it for a few hours and it may just be the key to unlock your door to a lifetime of love and romance.