Any chance he could go into inpatient? Get looked at and possibly a diagnosis? If he is not being treated properly (whether it be with medications or what have you) then he possibly can't control his impulses...

CALL his psychiatrist. Tell him your son is a danger and you are afraid for your other children. PUSH him until he agrees to admit your son AND finds a bed for him.

You are not in any way out of line in being afraid for your other kids. IF husband will not agree to admitting your son,then you need to think about possibly removing the other children from the situation.

ER is not a bad idea, but it is best if he is in a full blown rage. If they cannot SEE for themselves that he is a danger to others they will do nothing.

I would (and have) refused to leave with a child I knew would rage as soon as we left.

I also did something many see as manipulative (and it is) but it got the help my child needed. I pushed his buttons so the therapists could SEE what he did while raging. I did this inpatient, with some support from the staff.

I have also done it on the way to the hospital. Mostly I just refused to pet him and calm him and say soothing things. I told him the plain truth. hitting others will not be allowed. If you are dangerous you must leave, I don't care who you are. No bribes or rewards for settling down. Told him the RULES - no violence, go to school and work, comehome and do homework with no rages at me when I ask normal parenting questions.

I NEVER EVER told him they would give him a shot if he didn't behave. I NEVER EVER told him he was BAD, or a bad person. I told him his behavior was unacceptable in any situation. I told him that he needed help and I would do WHATEVER was needed to make sure he got it.

I wholeheartedly think that if you can get him admitted you may be able to help him. NO child really wants to rage, it is a horrible thing to live with the consequences of.

One reason I triggered my son in situations where he might then be able to get help is that I did NOT want him to live with the guilt of having hurt someone badly or killed them. He did NOT deserve this life-long guilt. He deserved HELP.

It was a long road, and it isn't over.

Sending Gentle Hugs and a Shield to keep you all safe from the bad stuff.