Just that you are there. Let them take the lead. This is their time to talk so, any one of life’s scenarios are clearly understood. When laid out for you, asking what their plans are? What will they do about the situation?

Perhaps you disagree with their plan but, don’t discount, and admonish them in the negative. Maybe you have an alternative plan in mind for them but, just ask if they’ve thought in those terms (laying out your thoughts)? ‘Have you thought of this?’ Never speaking of them or, their ideas in the negative.

I remember reading similar advice that Louise mentioned somewhere, except it was in relation to raising and teaching children. It makes perfect sense too. We all remember a time someone pointed out the negative about us, I bet. That sort of thing sticks with me for life! Great advice, Diana. x

Helping sometimes mean just sticking around. When we hurt we already know what needs to be done to stop hurting. Sometimes it takes more than one attempt to get things right. During those failed attempts we just need someone with us with no judgement. So my advice shut up and stick around.