Rhoda had always wanted to go to Paris to see the Eiffel Tower, the art in the Louvre and the palaces. It was one of the major things on her bucket list. However, she never took any steps to make it come true and it was a longing that she never satisfied. She was content for it to remain a dream and it unfortunately remained an unrealized goal.

Do you have an important dream that you want to achieve? It could be to quit smoking, lose weight, learn to play the guitar, run a 10K, or build a business. Daydreaming about it and not taking any action won’t bring it into reality. Fantasizing may be fulfilling in the moment, but it will leave you feeling empty when it isn’t achieved. Unless you take action, you won’t trigger the Law of Attraction to work on your behalf.

There are many reasons why you may procrastinate and not pursue your dreams. Here are some of the main ones, and what you can do about them.

1. Your dream takes you out of your comfort zone. Your goal means that so much in your life would change that you’re afraid to get started. If you make these massive shifts too quickly, it would upset your world and you’d probably sabotage your own efforts. For instance, almost 70% of lottery winners go broke within a few years of winning. The windfall takes them too far out of what they’re used to.

To overcome this obstacle, establish a long range plan. Create steps that are comfortable for you to take. For instance, if you want to start eating better, don’t overhaul your diet in a week. Start by including more salads. When that gets familiar, eliminate sugar. Work on one piece at a time until you feel comfortable with it, and then add the next step. By taking action, you instruct the Law of Attraction to draw information and opportunities to you.

2. You’re stuck in planning mode. Planning feels like you’re making progress, but it simply delays taking action. I knew an artist who bought brushes, canvas, and paints, but never used them. Gathering the tools triggered the pleasure circuits in her brain. By not painting, she avoided the anxiety of facing a blank canvas. So she got her reward by simply thinking about what she’d do one day.

Preparation is an important part of any goal. But beware of staying in this place too long or you’ll never realize your dream. Pull together a list of things you need, such as tools, knowledge, skills and tasks to complete. Then begin to follow through on them. As you mark the elements off your to-do list, you’ll get a sense of satisfaction. And the Universe will support you by creating synchronicities that help you.
3. Your dream is not immediate enough. The fulfillment of your dream is too far in the future or too overwhelming. For instance, if you want to lose 50 pounds, you could feel like it’s too difficult. You know it’s going to take a significant shift in your behaviors and you won’t see the final result quickly. So you procrastinate on taking action.

You have to fight through inertia to get started. To combat this, instead of focusing on the 50 pounds, take it in 5 pound increments. You can handle losing 5 pounds. When you set that as your goal, you’ll get that sense of fulfillment, and a job well done, when you see the outcome. With any long range goal, create mini-goals that you can accomplish each week. The brain likes to complete things, and bestows a sense of gratification when you do. And the Universe creates new channels for the Law of Attraction to bring benefits into your life.
4. You don’t have enough motivation. The benefits of your dream aren’t strong or clear enough for you to pursue. For instance, you may want to be healthier and fitter, but your desire isn’t powerful enough for you to change your habits or your routine. So you just keep putting it off.

You can build your enthusiasm for your dream by surrounding yourself with things concerning it. If you want to create, spend time in an art store, a museum, gallery or take a class. To start an exercise program, read articles and books about the benefits you’ll achieve. Immerse yourself in the reasons why you want your goal. The energy will grow until you get started.

When you take action, it tells the Universe that you’re serious and ready to move forward. And the Law of Attraction then begins to draw to you what you need for success.

The solution to each one of these reasons is to start working towards your dream. It doesn’t matter how small the step, as long as you’re moving toward your dream. The brain likes to accomplish things. And achieving small goals is every bit as satisfying to the brain as big goals. Don’t procrastinate any longer. The sooner you begin to work toward your dream, the sooner you’ll reap the joy of the results.

AFFIRMATION

I know I can have what I desire through the Power of my Higher Mind. The Universe wants the best for me, and will support my endeavors to create an improvement in my life. As I take the actions necessary to fulfill my dream, I create the channels through which more good flows to me. The Universe rewards my actions with positive and beneficial results.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

Terri was a very successful counselor. She had a full practice and got plenty of referrals. But she had deep issues with money, and struggled with the idea of being financially successful. A friend used this as leverage against her. When he browbeat her for taking money for her services, she was swayed by his arguments would often not charge her clients.

He said that if you want to be of service or spiritual, you shouldn’t charge for your gifts. She took his perspective to heart, and eventually lost her business. And because of this, many people lost a counselor who could have guided them into a greater sense of well-being.
What Money Actually Is

This is just one of the myths about money that many people have. Unfortunately, money is one of the most misunderstood tools that we have and need. When money is a problem, it’s generally not about the cash. It’s about something much more basic. Much of our core beliefs, judgments and lack of self-esteem are projected onto money.

Money is merely an exchange of energy, a symbol. It substitutes for a barter system. When one person offers a product or service, a buyer offers money in return. The buyer presents the money they’ve received as a result of their product or service. Of itself, money is only metal or paper.

Some Money Beliefs That Limit You

Here are some of the money beliefs that people have that are keeping them from having their best life.

“Love of money is the root of all evil.” This one comes from the Christian Bible and is pounded into its followers. When money is made more important than anything else, then it can instigate greed, unethical behavior, and stealing. It’s the worship of money that causes problems. But without money, you can’t pay your bills or have an abundant life. Kept in its proper perspective, as a tool, money can do a lot of good.

“Money doesn’t grow on trees” or “Do you think I’m made of money?” Did you hear this one as a child? It was created by harried parents to discourage kids who wanted something more expensive than the budget could handle. Instead of handling it maturely, by explaining why they couldn’t afford the desired item, parents brushed off the child with these expressions.

“The rich are selfish/dishonest/corrupt/etcetera.” There are some wealthy people who give the rest of their class a bad name. They have worshiped money, and didn’t care what they had to do to get it. There are also a lot of poor people who have done the same. But there are also a lot of rich and poor people who are honest, fair and caring.

If you have the attitude that the rich are bad people, then your subconscious won’t allow you to become rich. Your subconscious wants you to be congruent with your beliefs. Therefore, if the rich are bad, and you aren’t and don’t want to be bad, then you can’t become wealthy. Your subconscious will protect you and keep you “good” and lacking cash. This attitude needs to be adjusted before you can allow yourself to receive more prosperity.

More Money Beliefs That Undermine You

“If I receive money, I’m taking it from someone else.” If there isn’t a circulation of money energy, then the pool gets stagnant and starts to shrink. When money comes to you, you’re receiving it through (not from) others. And you then pass it on to other people. It goes to the Mortgage Company, utility company, and grocery store, which then pay their employees. The employees then use it for their bills and to circulate it to you. The more money you receive, the more you’re able to pass on.

“If you serve and/or are spiritual, you have to offer your gift for free.” This was the belief that sabotaged Terri. After she lost her business, she still counseled, but only once in a while. Suppose you have a gift you want to share. If you’re working 40 plus hours a week for someone else, how much time and energy do you have to serve others?

Just because you want to serve doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your time and well-being. If people want the benefit of your gift for nothing, then it means that there’s a market for it and there are going to be folks willing to pay for it. And they also will want to show their gratitude for what they receive, and can do this through the exchange of energy called money.
Change Your Beliefs

Your beliefs about money are based on what you were told and ideas you’ve reinforced by thinking of them often. But they limit you and what you allow yourself to receive. Since beliefs are created by what you think, by changing what you think, you can change your beliefs. When you start recognizing what you’re thinking about money, and start letting go some of the distorted beliefs, you open yourself to more of this energy flowing into your life.

AFFIRMATION

Money is only energy that flows. This energy is circulating smoothly and harmoniously through my life. I discard any outdated limiting ideas about money, wealth and riches. The Universe wishes me to have enough financial support to live an abundant life. The more energy I have, the more I can circulate through others.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

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My grandmother used to quote the novelist Lewis Carroll, “The hurrier I go, the behinder I get.” Recently, I had an extremely busy week that epitomized that sentiment. I had multiple appointments with clients, networking meetings, deadlines for my newsletter and the association’s newsletter I edit. So I was running around trying to get prepared for, or getting things done before the deadlines arrived. Additionally, gravity seemed to be heavier, as everything I got near seemed to end up on the floor. Have you ever had a week like that? It can pull you off center and forget that the Universe has everything in order.

The Lewis Carroll quote is true. Whenever you’re in a hurry, pressured for time, and you try to do things faster, events happen to delay you. You drop your glasses, spill your coffee or forget your water bottle and must go back for it. No matter how hard you try to make up time, you stumble and obstruct yourself. You’re out of the flow of the Universe. It seems like life is against you, creating chaos that you must clean up, search for items or go back to get. And all that time you’re trying to make up never appears.
Stressful Situations

The same is true of circumstances. When you rush into a situation, without thinking it through, you tend to experience problems. You make unwise decisions, and then are stuck as you try to extract yourself. By being so pushed, you don’t consult your inner guidance. For instance, have you ever agreed to help on a committee, and realized later that you didn’t have the time for it? Or have you ever been pressured to buy something, which you did, but later regretted the purchase?

When you’re under stress, as when you’re rushed, you cannot think creatively or resourcefully. Stress puts you into a mindset of fight or flight, and you’re simply trying to survive. You act on impulse and, because you’re moving faster than normal, you become slightly clumsy. That’s when you knock a glass of water or something else onto the floor. If you’re under a lot of pressure, it can move you into a sense of fear. When you’re afraid, you can’t think clearly and remember where you put your keys, glasses or report. These negative emotions mean you shut the Infinite out of your life.

Slow Down

When I realized that I was embodying what my grandmother had warned me about, I stopped rushing around. Even though my time was limited, I knew I had to take control and manage myself better. Whenever I started to spin too fast, I reminded myself to slow down and think things through. I checked in with my inner guidance. Planning ahead can ease a lot of tension. I made myself stop and think ahead to make sure I had everything I needed.

For instance, I had to make myself lunch for the networking meeting, which would end immediately before another appointment. I got lunch ready the night before. After the appointment, I was going to the health food store, so I got my list ready ahead of time. Because I thought things through, I was able to be more relaxed. And once I got home, I could focus and be mentally ready for my virtual coaching client later that afternoon.

As you stop and think, you’re able to access your resourcefulness and ability to view the situation in perspective. You pay attention to what you’re doing in the moment, which allows you to be more present and intentional. By being more mindful, you’re more connected with the Universe and Its peace. And you assess what needs to be done, so you can make appropriate decisions. Gravity returns to normal, and your cup won’t tip over just because it’s near you.

Affirmation:

Everything in my life is in Divine Order, working for my Highest Good. I remember that whenever I feel rushed or pressured. By staying present, I’m able to access my inner guidance, as well as my resources. I’m always connected to the Universe and Its peace. I stay in the flow of the Universe.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml

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Many people have an unconscious fear of success. They’re afraid that it could attract negative attention, or affect their life in a detrimental way. But those fears are generally an outdated remnant of the past. This short, guided meditation is designed to recognize those fears and let them go so you can experience the success you deserve.

Transcript:
Thank you for joining me. I’m Linda-Ann Stewart of Heartvision Consulting. And today, I’d like to take you on an internal journey to overcome your fear of success. Many people have an unconscious fear of success. They’re afraid that it could attract negative attention, or affect their life in a detrimental way. Do you have any such fears?

Those fears are generally an outdated remnant of the past. People either have had a bad experience or saw someone who did, and they want to avoid the pitfalls, so they avoid success. Has something like that happened to you? What they don’t realize is that they now have resources and knowledge that can help them deal with any such challenges. So their fears are no longer valid.

If you’re not experiencing the success you want, it’s a good bet that you’re somehow limiting yourself. You have beliefs and fears that are holding you back from taking the actions that are needed to achieve what you want. And that’s what I want to help you address today. It’s something I help many of my clients with.

I’m a vision strategist. I work with women service professionals and small business entrepreneurs who are frustrated because they’re spinning their wheels and lost in a forest of details of their business.

Using my 30 years of experience as a hypnotherapist, I coach them to intentionally develop and focus on the strategies that keep them on course so they bring their vision into reality.

This short guided meditation is designed to help you recognize your fears and let them go. And then to imagine yourself successful. When you do this, you create a new pattern in your subconscious and new pathways within your brain.

Close your eyes, if you want. Using your imagination, consider how much you want to be successful, whatever success means to you. Allow the excitement, enthusiasm for it, anticipation of it to build and fill you up. This is what you choose for yourself and it is appropriate and acceptable for you. You deserve it.

Now shift your attention to however you might be limiting that success, whatever fears you might have about it. Realize that these fears are insubstantial, they are like a mist that surrounds you. It’s a mist that you have created and held onto, but you don’t need it anymore.

Examine the fear and realize that you have outgrown it, that you have resources and knowledge that can help you overcome it now. You have everything you need within you to deal with any challenge that might arise in your life. Allow the mist to evaporate, since you don’t want it anymore.

Return your attention to your desire for success. The way is now open for you. Imagine confidently taking the actions necessary to achieve it. Imagine you are comfortable taking the actions, being successful and making wise decisions. All of this is now yours. You deserve it and it benefits everyone.
Open your eyes.

How did that feel? This is a first step for you to stop limiting yourself. The fear will probably arise again, because it’s a habit. But as you keep reminding yourself that it’s outdated, you’ll be creating a new, more positive habit that will support your success. How can you keep your mind focused on the fact that success is appropriate and available to you? What one thing can you hang onto? That is the key for you.

As a vision strategist, hypnotherapist, and speaker, Linda-Ann Stewart helps women entrepreneurs and small business owners who feel stuck, immobilized and overwhelmed to to get clear, focused and on the fast track to the next level of their business. If you'd like some help to reach your goals, apply for her complimentary "Clarify Your Vision" consultation at http://www.Linda-AnnStewart.com/coaching.shtml