How to Keep Momentum With Someone You’re Talking to
Long-Distance (Matthew Hussey)

If you feel like you had a connection with someone, but now you’re worried you’re becoming invisible to him, the advice in today’s video is for you.

Maybe you went into the quarantine with a love interest already who is now “long-distance.”

Or maybe you just met someone online during isolation.

Either way, my guess is you want it to actually go somewhere and not fizzle out during this time while you can’t see each other.

So how do you keep the momentum going? Today’s brand spanking new video (woohoo) shows you exactly that, with something blindingly obvious that 99% of people are not using to their advantage.

If you feel like you had a connection with someone, but now you’re worried you’re becoming invisible to him, the advice in today’s video is for you.

And if you just met, this will make you stand out from anyone else he may be talking to. Once you try this, your voice will be a burst of color in a sea of gray interactions. And to help illustrate my point, I’ve taken us back to the 1920s…

Stay strong, friend.

Transcript provided by YouTube:

00:00[Music]00:01[Applause]00:02[Music]01:01dating today is making people invisible01:03people meet online or through an app01:05they exchange messages through an app01:07they then graduate to exchanging phone01:10numbers they begin texting and most01:12people never graduate from that point01:15and if you think about it all of these01:18exchanges are all happening on the01:20screen through texts this is making01:23people invisible because it’s really01:25hard to compete with everybody else when01:27everyone’s doing the same thing how do01:29you stand out in a world like that I01:32think there is a resource that is so01:34underutilized it is ridiculous that01:37would enable you to stand out to truly01:40make a connection and to make yourself01:42much harder to ignore the voice note01:46imagine that someone says your message01:48that says how are you and you write back01:50I’m good I just left the movies with my01:52friends what you up to let’s find this01:55kind of message that most people send01:57it’s not that funny entertaining it01:59doesn’t matter even if it was because at02:01the end of the day it’s still just a02:03text message someone doesn’t really feel02:05like they’re getting to know us they’re02:06getting to know the text version of us02:08but if someone sent us a message that02:10said how are you and instead of sending02:12a text message you literally picked up02:13the phone hit the voice note button and02:16said hey it’s good to hear from you I’m02:18good02:19I just left the movies with my friends02:20we saw that movie the mr. Rogers movie02:23it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood02:24I don’t know if you’ve seen it but well02:27I may have cried a little bit or a lot02:31but I’m on my way home now what are you02:33up to how’s your night in that moment02:35think about how much I’ve done I want02:37you to think about voice notes in three02:39different benefit categories number one02:42it’s different it’s different everyone02:45else is texting in a sea of grey text02:47messages your voice represents color it02:50leaps off the screen and into someone’s02:52ear you’re literally attacking a02:54different sense than everybody else03:04voice03:07on the telephone secondly you can say a03:12lot more think about how much more03:14nuance how much more context how much03:16more of myself I was able to show in03:18that twenty seconds which is probably03:21shorter than it takes most people to03:22write a text message and number three we03:25get across our humanity a real micro03:29personality moments those moments where03:31we have a little nervous laugh where we03:33haven’t slightly awkward silence or an03:35unknown are where we’re trying to figure03:37out what to say next or a moment where03:39we say that movie made me cry a little03:41bit or a lot we’re showing ourselves our03:44humanity and I don’t care how great your03:46writing is in a short text message that03:48is impossible to get across I’m not03:51saying you should leave a voice message03:52in response to everything someone sends03:54you that would be annoying and it would03:56miss the point the point is the contrast03:58once in a while instead of sending a04:00message send a voice note let them get a04:03taste of who you really are and what you04:05really sound like because today04:08connection is the game everybody has04:12options everybody can get online and04:14speak to another ten people but when you04:16can actually connect with someone you’re04:19using the greatest asset you have and04:21that is you people on a screen are04:23replaceable but the one thing someone04:25cannot replace is you but the asset that04:28is you will never come across if you’re04:31not willing to make yourself visible or04:33audible in three dimensions instead of04:36what everyone else is doing which is04:38texting in two dimensions as it just me04:43or do we look fantastic04:46[Music]04:58you