Digs about c section..

Just need a vent..
My OH's cousins girlfriend has had her baby just a week after our DS (dear son) was delivered via emergency c section. Both our first babies and she ended up with a 3 hour natural labour & I had a 14 hour labour made it to 9cms and concerns were found with his o2 levels so a quick c section was performed.
Anyway she's made several comments surrounding natural birth to other people & has now wrote a post about her 'natural labour' on social media.

I'm absolutely gutted she'd continue to attack me in this way to belittle me, I'm already really struggling with the fact I needed to have one & trying to get over the feeling of been a complete failure 😔

Comments (20)

Oh hon I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Please know that you are not a failure in anyway because you had a section. Everybody's labour is different and to be honest it sounds as if she had it extremely easy (certainly not my experience!). Just remember that you did the best thing for your baby by having the section in the first place. Please ignore her comments and enjoy your first few weeks of motherhood. Sending big hugs your way xx

In an ideal world, we would all have unproblematic 3 hour deliveries. Some of us get sick during pregnancy, some of our babies become distressed for a multitude of reasons and a c-section is necessary. It is life saving and very necessary in these situations. The most important thing about having your baby, however that happens (btw, there is no easy way to get a human out of another human!), is that you both survive it and are well and healthy.

Sounds like this woman just wants to blow her own horn and brag about her easy time of it. You have nothing to feel defeated about. Your child was in distress and you made the decision that most mums would make. You kept your baby safe. Well done, mummy! Ignore her and focus on your little treasure 💞

I'm sorry this is happening, you are not a failure at all, you did what was necessary for the health of your baby. It doesn't matter how they arrive, just that they do safely. Are you sure these comments are aimed at you? It could be that she's just do caught up in the high that she's been a little thoughtless. Please don't let her comments get to you, you are doing a fab job xxx

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TTC baby #1 since October 2013. 1 chemical pregnancy August 2014, another in November 2014. Staying hopeful :)

Why women do this to each other il never know, really pisses me off. Ideally we'd all have lovely births and be up and about baking cakes and doing the washing the day after! However real life is not like that and those who do have a section (myself included) have to go through the recovery of it and cope with a new born, it is not easy and not nice but if that's the way to get the baby out safely then that's what they'll do. I really could slap those narrow minded plonkers who belittle women who have had or need to have c sections! Why women can't just be happy for each other instead of making everything a bloody competition is beyond me!! Don't let her bother you, you have been through enough and should be proud of yourself x

I would say it's a crying shame that her priorites are obviously so out of whack that instead of concentrating on her baby at this time, what she's actually doing is shaming you for birthing your baby in a way that was safest for you and baby.

There are many words for people like her. I'll let you use your imagination ;)

I'm having a c section on Tuesday. It's doesn't mean your a failure because you have to having one. Never even entered my head. F what other people thing. C section is a harder recovery so if anything it makes you stronger. It doesn't matter how baby gets here as long as their ok. X

I'm sorry you're upset. Are you sure her FB post is a dig at you or possibly just feeling proud of herself? You are not a failure in any way, you have a beautiful new baby. But you do need to let her be proud of her own birth story and share it if she chooses to.

I've had a c-sect myself so totally understand your feelings, please don't be hard on yourself (easier said than done I know).

There's so much competition in motherhood! Feeding, sleeping through the night, who's child walks first, svhools , it's never ending!! Don't let it get to you XX

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