Spanking For Hitting

Recently one of my 22 month old twins has acquired quite the temper. If I don't do what he wants, he'll hit me, throw things at me..etc. This morning he was angry because his brother had something that he wanted. He came over to me, hit me and then threw a plastic block at my face. Yes, this was all in anger as he was screaming at me. He quickly got spanking and time out. While I do allow them to express anger, they are not allowed to express anger by being violent towards one another or to me.

I'm not looking for validation for my discipline techniques as I'm doing what I feel works, but how does everyone else handle those situations? Do you think it's an effective way to discipline for hitting,throwing, biting...etc?

Recently one of my 22 month old twins has acquired quite the temper. If I don't do what he wants, he'll hit me, throw things at me..etc. This morning he was angry because his brother had something that he wanted. He came over to me, hit me and then threw a plastic block at my face. Yes, this was all in anger as he was screaming at me. He quickly got spanking and time out. While I do allow them to express anger, they are not allowed to express anger by being violent towards one another or to me.

I'm not looking for validation for my discipline techniques as I'm doing what I feel works, but how does everyone else handle those situations? Do you think it's an effective way to discipline for hitting,throwing, biting...etc?

If my two-year opld does something violent like hitting, she gets spanked and then sent to time-out. If she bites, she gets flicked in the mouth and sent on time-out. I agree with the way you're going about it. To me, it teaches them that of they hurt someone, they will get hurt back so it's best to not hurt someone to begin with.

If my two-year opld does something violent like hitting, she gets spanked and then sent to time-out. If she bites, she gets flicked in the mouth and sent on time-out. I agree with the way you're going about it. To me, it teaches them that of they hurt someone, they will get hurt back so it's best to not hurt someone to begin with.

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2007Victoria

To: Lisa2273

Posted: Jul-14 01:37 PM (6 of 71)

Yeah, when he was littler I would put him in the crib to throw a fit but he was never violent towards others like in your case. Good luck!

Yeah, when he was littler I would put him in the crib to throw a fit but he was never violent towards others like in your case. Good luck!

I think there isn't any one form of discipline that will work for every child. You've got to find out what works for him/her. If you're using spanking and time outs, and the behavior keeps happening, perhaps it's time to look for something else.

I'm 100% ok with spanking or light hand slapping, if it works.

ETA: my brother always laughed off a spanking, and time outs I think were just used to plot his next bad behavior. What worked with him was a time out on mom or dad's lap, with arms held down. Kinda like a human straight jacket. He HATED it, and it was the only thing that worked.

I think there isn't any one form of discipline that will work for every child. You've got to find out what works for him/her. If you're using spanking and time outs, and the behavior keeps happening, perhaps it's time to look for something else.

I'm 100% ok with spanking or light hand slapping, if it works.

ETA: my brother always laughed off a spanking, and time outs I think were just used to plot his next bad behavior. What worked with him was a time out on mom or dad's lap, with arms held down. Kinda like a human straight jacket. He HATED it, and it was the only thing that worked.

At that age I don't think spanking is effective. I don't have any advise because I am in a situation myself. :/

Hailey threw something at my face yesterday because she was mad, and I just grabbed her and said "you don't do that". Well she looked up at me with these big eyes, smiled and said "mommy". She laughs when I try and discipline her. I don't know what the heck to do.

At that age I don't think spanking is effective. I don't have any advise because I am in a situation myself. :/

Hailey threw something at my face yesterday because she was mad, and I just grabbed her and said "you don't do that". Well she looked up at me with these big eyes, smiled and said "mommy". She laughs when I try and discipline her. I don't know what the heck to do.

Oh this has been my life lately with my 2 year old. He has been so mean lately and full out tantrums. Spanking, time-out, loss of privileges don't work. Just puts a band-aid on the problem temporarily. I'm at my wits end with him. He use to be so sweet. Ugh. If you find a magic solution please let me know. I'm still hoping it's a terrible two phase and if I'm consistent with him, he'll eventually grow out of it.

Oh this has been my life lately with my 2 year old. He has been so mean lately and full out tantrums. Spanking, time-out, loss of privileges don't work. Just puts a band-aid on the problem temporarily. I'm at my wits end with him. He use to be so sweet. Ugh. If you find a magic solution please let me know. I'm still hoping it's a terrible two phase and if I'm consistent with him, he'll eventually grow out of it.

I don't think it's effective to use violence to try to teach that violence is bad. That sends a conflicting message. I also don't understand the double punishment. Wasn't the spanking enough without the time out? If you insist on spanking, then leave it at that.

I don't think it's effective to use violence to try to teach that violence is bad. That sends a conflicting message. I also don't understand the double punishment. Wasn't the spanking enough without the time out? If you insist on spanking, then leave it at that.

I think at two, options are limited. They can't really be conversed with, they have the attention span of a gnat, and consequences have to be immediate otherwise they don't remember why they're even being disciplined. I don't think four swats to the diaper even hurt him. It just surprised him. My goal is not to HURT them, but to TEACH them that there are certain things that are just unacceptable. Two minutes later he was cuddling in my lap and playing with play-doh (well, eating it really,but all the same to him..lol!)

I think at two, options are limited. They can't really be conversed with, they have the attention span of a gnat, and consequences have to be immediate otherwise they don't remember why they're even being disciplined. I don't think four swats to the diaper even hurt him. It just surprised him. My goal is not to HURT them, but to TEACH them that there are certain things that are just unacceptable. Two minutes later he was cuddling in my lap and playing with play-doh (well, eating it really,but all the same to him..lol!)

I watch twins 50 hours a week and whenever they're violent, it always starts because they're arguing about blocks or train tracks or blankets or whatever. If they hit, I take what they are arguing over and put it away. Then they sit on opposite sides of the rug and look at a book. If either one throws a tantrums, they sit in time out until three minutes after they're done crying. We used to have these problems all the time (several times a day) but now its maybe two or three times a week since I started this discipline. We have bad days every once in a while, but if something gets confiscated twice in one day, they aren't allowed to get it back out until the next Monday.

I watch twins 50 hours a week and whenever they're violent, it always starts because they're arguing about blocks or train tracks or blankets or whatever. If they hit, I take what they are arguing over and put it away. Then they sit on opposite sides of the rug and look at a book. If either one throws a tantrums, they sit in time out until three minutes after they're done crying. We used to have these problems all the time (several times a day) but now its maybe two or three times a week since I started this discipline. We have bad days every once in a while, but if something gets confiscated twice in one day, they aren't allowed to get it back out until the next Monday.

That's the thing, it DOES work, the rest of the day he's usually perfect! I think we have to remember that discipline isn't a "one time deal." The truth of the matter is, he doesn't remember being disciplined for it yesterday.

My daughter will laugh off a spanking. We don't use spankings with her anymore. Taking away her toys is much more effective.

That's the thing, it DOES work, the rest of the day he's usually perfect! I think we have to remember that discipline isn't a "one time deal." The truth of the matter is, he doesn't remember being disciplined for it yesterday.

My daughter will laugh off a spanking. We don't use spankings with her anymore. Taking away her toys is much more effective.

It wasn't double punishment. He got four swats to the diaper and I sat him on the couch two feet away from me. I don't think it has to be either/or. There are many people who use a few smacks on the butt and then a short time out. I don't believe I was violent with him. I didn't punch him in the face or throw him to the ground and kick him in the gut.

It wasn't double punishment. He got four swats to the diaper and I sat him on the couch two feet away from me. I don't think it has to be either/or. There are many people who use a few smacks on the butt and then a short time out. I don't believe I was violent with him. I didn't punch him in the face or throw him to the ground and kick him in the gut.

I have done all of that! If I take the toy, he finds another one to throw at me. My boys argue A LOT and normally, I will let them just solve it amongst themselves. They can be angry, they can throw themselves down in a raging fit if they want. When that fit includes me having objects tossed at me or being slapped by a two year old..that is where I draw the line.

I have done all of that! If I take the toy, he finds another one to throw at me. My boys argue A LOT and normally, I will let them just solve it amongst themselves. They can be angry, they can throw themselves down in a raging fit if they want. When that fit includes me having objects tossed at me or being slapped by a two year old..that is where I draw the line.

If another kid hurts mine somewhere, I expect my kid to defend themselves and to hit back.......but I'm big on the principle of what goes around comes around. My parents were the same way. Our school had this policy that the only way we culd not be suspended if we were in a fight was if we curled into a defensive position until the attacker was subdued by teachers or campus police. Our parents said if we ever got into fight and did not win or at least fight back, we were in worse trouble.

If another kid hurts mine somewhere, I expect my kid to defend themselves and to hit back.......but I'm big on the principle of what goes around comes around. My parents were the same way. Our school had this policy that the only way we culd not be suspended if we were in a fight was if we curled into a defensive position until the attacker was subdued by teachers or campus police. Our parents said if we ever got into fight and did not win or at least fight back, we were in worse trouble.

"I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine." -John Galt's Oath

"Mr. Rearden, if you saw the Atlas, the giant who holds the world on his shoulders, if you saw he stood, blood running down his chest, his knees buckling, his arms trembling but still trying to hold the world aloft with the last of his strength, and the greater his effort, the heavier the world bore down upon his shoulders, what would you tell him to do?"- Fransisco d'Aconia "I.....don't know. What could he do? What would you tell him?" -Hank Rearden "To shrug." -Fransisco d'Aconia

I think you did the absolute best because the behavior changed after the discipline.

I call them "attitude adjustments" and they work. I will also not allow my 18 month old throw/slap/hit in anger. He gets swatted on the bottom and then gets a "mommy time-out" until he calms down and the misbehavior is forgotten and he goes on his merry way...

I think you did the absolute best because the behavior changed after the discipline.

I call them "attitude adjustments" and they work. I will also not allow my 18 month old throw/slap/hit in anger. He gets swatted on the bottom and then gets a "mommy time-out" until he calms down and the misbehavior is forgotten and he goes on his merry way...

IMO, spanking is hitting...but hitting is not necessarily spanking. Meaning that there's a difference which (when done correctly) can be automatically understood by your kids when they're being disciplined.

In most cases that I've seen, the kids don't even question it. And I've NEVER had a child act as thought they were confused about why they're getting in trouble. All defiant behavior comes with a warning, I count to 3, and then they get a swat on the leg. Hitting, throwing, ignoring me, telling me no, anything they do that I've told them to stop or discontinue where they ignore me and continue the bad behavior. So no matter the offense, the punishment is always the same.

So they don't associate hitting with spanking. They associate bad behavior (no matter what it is) with a spanking...as I said, as long as it's done correctly - and consistently.

I do. And I'll tell you why.

IMO, spanking is hitting...but hitting is not necessarily spanking. Meaning that there's a difference which (when done correctly) can be automatically understood by your kids when they're being disciplined.

In most cases that I've seen, the kids don't even question it. And I've NEVER had a child act as thought they were confused about why they're getting in trouble. All defiant behavior comes with a warning, I count to 3, and then they get a swat on the leg. Hitting, throwing, ignoring me, telling me no, anything they do that I've told them to stop or discontinue where they ignore me and continue the bad behavior. So no matter the offense, the punishment is always the same.

So they don't associate hitting with spanking. They associate bad behavior (no matter what it is) with a spanking...as I said, as long as it's done correctly - and consistently.

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