Topic: Divorced Moms has options for Child Support Posted: 27 September 2012 at 5:14pm

On Yahoo Answers
yesterday (post since deleted) there was a sister asking a question
about her ex-husband who performed Islamic marriage and then divorced
presumably here in USA. Together they had three children which he is
listed as the father of all three children on their birth certificates.
Yet he is not paying child support and her feeling/question
was because she can afford to provide for them by her own income
sufficiently, that his outright unwillingness to pay child support may
be okay. However her friends and family do not see it that way and urge
her that it is her right, confused she asked others opinions.

The father does
visit his young children and buys them cheap trinkets from time to time
but is delinquent on his child support payments which are mandated by
the US Courts she said in her long post. Caught between the feelings he
might disappear to choose to not see his kids in order NOT to have to
pay child support or he is in his kids’ lives and not force him to pay
child support. She went on to say her children so young unable to
comprehend the fact that, “Mommy and Daddy live apart.” She referred to
her ex in all respects as a, “Dead beat Dad.”

In Islam we know
his actions are very haram (forbidden). Any father that has children is
expected to find work even if not in his field of expertise to provide
for his own kids. He may be a Taxi Driver by trade, but if unemployed
he should find a job shoveling cow manure, pick up cans to recycle in
order to provide.

In explaining this
situation to my husband he shared with me information which how I could
reply back to her in a way that would be helpful to all women in this
type of situation. Idea’s I had never heard anyone speak about! Ideas
that could help many in this situation!

In Islam, it is
REQUIRED that the father support his children. If he has no job, he HAS
to get any job to support his children. What can a sister like this do?
What would you do? She went through her own court to system to ensure he
would make monthly payments but at some point he stopped paying which
is unlawful; he could face arrest and fines right here in USA. She could
easily have him tracked down. Many Muslims in America may be hired
under the table and so report that they receive "no wages" so as to get
out of paying. Which again is illegal, but this is what many may claim.

My husband
explained to me ways in which are prevalent in nearly 80% of all Middle
Eastern Countries and this is that if she can prove she had an Islamic marriage (via a signed document) between her and her husband not
just a civil marriage that she can take this paper, fly to his country,
go to court (In Egypt called Court Al Faisal= family court) where there
is a speedy process where his government will pay her child support and spousal support . Subhan Allah! Someday when he decides to return to his country he will be caught by the police to report to him, “You have a child support and spousal loan to repay us back.”
He will be shocked and maybe try to deny it but the case has already
been through court process (unknown to him) so his stories will go
unheard. He will then have to pay all that his government paid to her,
or he would face being jailed for many years and still would have to
repay this debt! Subhan Allah!

It’s amazing that
how much the women are protected in these countries. For all the garbage
fed to us that they "harm women" or "unfair to women" when there are
laws set in place to ensure your kids will have proper support and you
do not need to struggle if you just knew your rights! Probably the only
hardship would be to travel to his country while someone took care of
your children but usually family and friends can help in this regard.
And you might even receive these as reimbursements from the courts.

Before you hop on a
plane; contact the family court in your husband’s respective country
before you fork over the money for an airline ticket and contact a
lawyer familiar with family law in his respective country.

I think it is not favorable that the father don't have an authorization to see his children because he don't give money for child support because it is being said that he don't have job yet. The child for me though the father doesn't have work still need the comfort of their father.

I know a similar case and this sister needs more information. Would you please be kind enough to tell us if your husband is a lawyer or a faqih, or did he say this from his common knowledge of laws in Egypt.

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