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Family inspiration show discussing how families can discover and design their collective vision, values, communication, and traditions that shape our family culture.Tue, 13 Nov 2018 07:00:26 +0000en-UShourly1https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.8This is a family inspiration podcast where I discuss how the culture in our homes and families - the environment, habits, traditions, language, expectations, and feelings at home - are shaping the minds, hearts, spirits, and bodies of our children, and the nation, with parents, educators, authors, and leaders who are inspiring children toward success.Jodi ChaffeecleanserialJodi Chaffeejodi@homeandfamilyculture.comjodi@homeandfamilyculture.com (Jodi Chaffee)Home & Family CultureOur Modern Heritage: The Home & Family Culture Podcasthttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/wp-content/uploads/powerpress/Untitled_design-17_copy_4-1.jpghttps://homeandfamilyculture.com
Richmond, VirginiaWeeklyEpisode 055: The Family Board Meeting with Jim Sheilshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-055-jim-sheils/
Tue, 13 Nov 2018 07:00:26 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=4032When my oldest turned nine this year, it really dawned on me that we are already halfway through her childhood, and that we only have as much time left with her as we've had so far. It was alarming to think that we really only have nine short years left with her!
This idea that we only have these 18 Summers with our children is so important to remember. We aren't going to suddenly have a good relationship with them when they are teens, or adults! The relationships we have with our children needs to start when they are young by establishing regular times when you can spend quality time together.
Jim calls these times "rhythms" that allow him to have regular, consistent times with his wife and children to foster communication and strengthen the relationship one-on-one. He calls them the family board meetings. He talks about all of these rhythms in his book "The Family Board Meeting: You Have 18 Summers to Create Lasting Connection with Your Children."
The reality is that whether you're an entrepreneur or not, life is busy. And, life can get away from us if we aren't intentional about how we spend our time. Jim talks about how important it is to be grounded in your values, and making sure that family is at the heart of your priorities. When we lose that connection with our family, we are left feeling guilty and depressed. Our family connections can not only strengthen us, they can heal us!
Introducing Jim Sheils
We only have 18 summers with our children, and the time goes by fast!
Overwork is a "badge of honor" that detracts from family time
Work and family life required integration
Jim shares his story about establishing a relationship with his sons
Board meetings are the "crazy glue"
The "board meeting"
Jim's definition of family culture
The difference between rhythms and habits
How to establish these rhythms and encourage your family to participate
Quality time spent with the individual is not time to lecture or have a hidden agenda.
Simple and effective board meetings
Where to connect with Jim
My closing remarks
About Jim
Motivated by what he saw as one of the most tragic challenges of modern life—the disconnection of busy entrepreneurs from their families—Jim developed the Family Board Meeting process to help business owners bridge the gaps between themselves and their loved ones.
Since then, both Jim’s message and his book, the Amazon best-seller “The Family Board Meeting,” have spread around the globe. Often called “Crazy Glue” for families, Jim’s popular and simple frameworks now reach thousands of parents worldwide, helping them feel more connected with their kids, be happier at home and leave a lasting legacy.
Jim is the founder of 18 Summers, which specializes in live events, workshops and private consulting for organizations looking to strengthen their family lives while still succeeding in business. He’s an in-demand public speaker, and owns a private real estate company that has done more than $200 million in transactions.
Jim is an avid surfer and enjoys traveling with family and friends, especially his beautiful wife Jamie and their four children, Alden, Leland, Magnolia, and Sampson. His greatest adventure to date? Donating a kidney to the best guy on the planet, his father.
To contact Jim about media appearances or speaking at your event, visit www.JimSheils.com or www.18Summers.com
This post contains affiliate links. For more information, click this link.When my oldest turned nine this year, it really dawned on me that we are already halfway through her childhood, and that we only have as much time left with her as we've had so far. It was alarming to think that we really only have nine short years lef...When my oldest turned nine this year, it really dawned on me that we are already halfway through her childhood, and that we only have as much time left with her as we've had so far. It was alarming to think that we really only have nine short years left with her!<br />
<br />
This idea that we only have these 18 Summers with our children is so important to remember. We aren't going to suddenly have a good relationship with them when they are teens, or adults! The relationships we have with our children needs to start when they are young by establishing regular times when you can spend quality time together.<br />
<br />
Jim calls these times "rhythms" that allow him to have regular, consistent times with his wife and children to foster communication and strengthen the relationship one-on-one. He calls them the family board meetings. He talks about all of these rhythms in his book "The Family Board Meeting: You Have 18 Summers to Create Lasting Connection with Your Children." <br />
<br />
The reality is that whether you're an entrepreneur or not, life is busy. And, life can get away from us if we aren't intentional about how we spend our time. Jim talks about how important it is to be grounded in your values, and making sure that family is at the heart of your priorities. When we lose that connection with our family, we are left feeling guilty and depressed. Our family connections can not only strengthen us, they can heal us!<br />
<br />
Introducing Jim Sheils<br />
We only have 18 summers with our children, and the time goes by fast!<br />
Overwork is a "badge of honor" that detracts from family time<br />
Work and family life required integration<br />
Jim shares his story about establishing a relationship with his sons<br />
Board meetings are the "crazy glue"<br />
The "board meeting"<br />
Jim's definition of family culture<br />
The difference between rhythms and habits<br />
How to establish these rhythms and encourage your family to participate<br />
Quality time spent with the individual is not time to lecture or have a hidden agenda.<br />
Simple and effective board meetings<br />
Where to connect with Jim<br />
My closing remarks<br />
<br />
About Jim<br />
Motivated by what he saw as one of the most tragic challenges of modern life—the disconnection of busy entrepreneurs from their families—Jim developed the Family Board Meeting process to help business owners bridge the gaps between themselves and their loved ones.<br />
<br />
Since then, both Jim’s message and his book, the Amazon best-seller “The Family Board Meeting,” have spread around the globe. Often called “Crazy Glue” for families, Jim’s popular and simple frameworks now reach thousands of parents worldwide, helping them feel more connected with their kids, be happier at home and leave a lasting legacy.<br />
<br />
Jim is the founder of 18 Summers, which specializes in live events, workshops and private consulting for organizations looking to strengthen their family lives while still succeeding in business. He’s an in-demand public speaker, and owns a private real estate company that has done more than $200 million in transactions.<br />
<br />
Jim is an avid surfer and enjoys traveling with family and friends, especially his beautiful wife Jamie and their four children, Alden, Leland, Magnolia, and Sampson. His greatest adventure to date? Donating a kidney to the best guy on the planet, his father.<br />
<br />
To contact Jim about media appearances or speaking at your event, visit www.JimSheils.com or www.18Summers.com<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
This post contains affiliate links. For more information, click this link.Jodi Chaffeeclean30:44Episode 054: “To Whom Much is Given, Much is Required” with Marissa Levinhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-054-marissa-levin/
Tue, 06 Nov 2018 07:00:12 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=4027Every culture needs to be intentional. Establishing your values starts with understanding that you are a leader as a parent, and that you are always being observed by your children. Always being honest as a parent is the foundation of integrity for your family. It all starts with us leading out with our example of living our values.
I've been thinking a lot about this concept of being goal-oriented and how this is what having a family culture is all about. When you have a set vision for your family, then you have to set goals to achieve those ends. Becoming goal-oriented means getting clear on that vision, getting clear on why you do what you do, and setting clear boundaries for how to achieve those goals. Marissa talks a lot about being very values-centered, and that she would reinforce their goals and vision by reinforcing their values.
I also think that there is something to this when it comes to culture in general. I recently read a book that discusses poverty culture, and how often those in poverty cannot see into long-term ends because they need to tackle their immediate problems. While my family is far from being in poverty, I feel that I often catch myself getting distracted by the immediate crisis that I forget about the long-term gains of staying focused on a larger goal. I will likely post an episode on this next week, so I won't go into it too much here. I just think this is something that is very important for developing our family culture: our beliefs, our mindset, and our habits filter through to become our culture.
Introducing Marissa
The importance of being intentional
Components of a successful culture: leadership, ownership
How to encourage your kids to adopt your vision and values
How to cultivate open communication with your children
How to develop trust between parents and children
Kids have a responsibility to use their opportunities and resources to fulfill their potential
Upholding boundaries
How to encourage goals-centered thinking, and encouraging children with ADD or ADHD, etc.
How to cultivate a legacy
Marissa's final word of advice
Where to connect with Marissa
About Marissa
Website: https://www.successfulculture.com
inc.com profile
LinkedIn
Twitter
A 25-year entrepreneur, speaker, & globally recognized growth strategist, Marissa’s lifetime legacy mission is to educate, equip, & empower 100 million entrepreneurs & leaders with the skillsets and mindsets they need to reach their greatest potential.
Marissa Levin’s entrepreneurial journey began in 1995 when she launched Information Experts, a strategic communications and education firm. She launched her firm as a solopreneur with a $35,000 contract and led/grew the organization to approximately $13 million in revenue until she resigned in 2012.
Under her leadership, Information Experts won more than 80 awards for creativity & leadership, was named to the Inc. 5000 List of America’s Fastest Growing Companies for 2009, 2010, and 2011, won the 2010 SmartCEO GovStar Industry Star Award, and was known as a trailblazer in establishing an extraordinary employee-centric culture that fully supported work-life integration and a core value of "responsible flexibility."
In 2012, she launched Successful Culture, a leadership consulting organization that helps CEOs master the 3 most critical aspects of busi- ness growth: leadership development, strategy formulation & execution, and organizational culture assessment & improvement.
In 2017, she co-founded Women’s CEO Roundtable, a professionally facilitated year-long program for women business owners from non- competing organizations that are committed to scaling beyond $1 million in revenue.
Also in 2017, Marissa merged Successful Culture with PeopleTactics, a national leader in Strategic HR Consulting to launch Successful Culture International (SCI), a global corporate culture consultancy that leads organizations undergoing significant transf...Every culture needs to be intentional. Establishing your values starts with understanding that you are a leader as a parent, and that you are always being observed by your children. Always being honest as a parent is the foundation of integrity for you...Every culture needs to be intentional. Establishing your values starts with understanding that you are a leader as a parent, and that you are always being observed by your children. Always being honest as a parent is the foundation of integrity for your family. It all starts with us leading out with our example of living our values.<br />
<br />
I've been thinking a lot about this concept of being goal-oriented and how this is what having a family culture is all about. When you have a set vision for your family, then you have to set goals to achieve those ends. Becoming goal-oriented means getting clear on that vision, getting clear on why you do what you do, and setting clear boundaries for how to achieve those goals. Marissa talks a lot about being very values-centered, and that she would reinforce their goals and vision by reinforcing their values.<br />
<br />
I also think that there is something to this when it comes to culture in general. I recently read a book that discusses poverty culture, and how often those in poverty cannot see into long-term ends because they need to tackle their immediate problems. While my family is far from being in poverty, I feel that I often catch myself getting distracted by the immediate crisis that I forget about the long-term gains of staying focused on a larger goal. I will likely post an episode on this next week, so I won't go into it too much here. I just think this is something that is very important for developing our family culture: our beliefs, our mindset, and our habits filter through to become our culture.<br />
<br />
Introducing Marissa<br />
The importance of being intentional<br />
Components of a successful culture: leadership, ownership<br />
How to encourage your kids to adopt your vision and values<br />
How to cultivate open communication with your children<br />
How to develop trust between parents and children<br />
Kids have a responsibility to use their opportunities and resources to fulfill their potential<br />
Upholding boundaries<br />
How to encourage goals-centered thinking, and encouraging children with ADD or ADHD, etc.<br />
How to cultivate a legacy<br />
Marissa's final word of advice<br />
Where to connect with Marissa<br />
<br />
About Marissa<br />
<br />
Website: https://www.successfulculture.com<br />
inc.com profile<br />
LinkedIn<br />
Twitter<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
A 25-year entrepreneur, speaker, & globally recognized growth strategist, Marissa’s lifetime legacy mission is to educate, equip, & empower 100 million entrepreneurs & leaders with the skillsets and mindsets they need to reach their greatest potential.<br />
<br />
Marissa Levin’s entrepreneurial journey began in 1995 when she launched Information Experts, a strategic communications and education firm. She launched her firm as a solopreneur with a $35,000 contract and led/grew the organization to approximately $13 million in revenue until she resigned in 2012.<br />
<br />
Under her leadership, Information Experts won more than 80 awards for creativity & leadership, was named to the Inc. 5000 List of America’s Fastest Growing Companies for 2009, 2010, and 2011, won the 2010 SmartCEO GovStar Industry Star Award, and was known as a trailblazer in establishing an extraordinary employee-centric culture that fully supported work-life integration and a core value of "responsible flexibility."<br />
<br />
In 2012, she launched Successful Culture, a leadership consulting organization that helps CEOs master the 3 most critical aspects of busi- ness growth: leadership development, strategy formulation & execution, and organizational culture assessment & improvement.<br />
<br />
In 2017, she co-founded Women’s CEO Roundtable, a professionally facilitated year-long program for women business owners from non- competing organizations that are committed to scaling beyond $1 million in revenue.<br />
<br />
Jodi Chaffeeclean45:43Episode 053: Friending Culture with Noelle Rhodeshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-053-friending-culture-with-noelle-rhodes/
Tue, 30 Oct 2018 07:00:26 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=4022My life has been a roller coaster around friendships. I learned early on about rejection. Family friends were the way to go when I was little, but then during elementary school, it was all about BFFs. I had a close friend for three years, and then she actually dumped me in middle school. It was rough. I spent the rest of those middle school years virtually friendless. I lived right next door to my school, so I got a laminated pass to go home for lunch where I would spend the hour snacking and watching the A-Team.
Things changed again when I got into high school. Kids who knew my older siblings took me under their wing, and I became a band geek (only not totally geeky since I played the drums), and my confidence grew. Through my junior and senior years, I had friends in all sorts of groups, mostly because I hated cliques and I refused to join one. I remained somewhat charismatic beyond high school.
When I got home from serving a mission for my church, I had few reservations. My true charisma shined, and a friend even described me as having an "electric personality." I could be friends with anyone, and I made it my goal to make anyone I met feel welcome and accepted. I was enthusiastic about life, and loved meeting people. This was probably the happiest season of my life to date.
When Michael and I got married, we thrust ourselves into a crazy transition. We were newly married for one whole week when we moved across the country to go to school. It took us a good six months to recover from that. But, we were given assignments at church that brought us out of our shell, and we loved feeling valued and connected.
Then, ten years ago we hit our crisis mode. We'd moved into a new area and struggled to make deep connections. Noelle talks about this in the episode, that the hardest times to make friends is during a transition. We were in severe transition when shortly after we moved, we started having children. For the eight years we lived in that area, we made few deep friendships. I had a falling out with my very closest friend in the world, and it was an incredibly lonely time. Michael and I grew very close as a couple, but we have always struggled with this missing element in our lives.
Having friends is crucial. I discuss the important of friendship in my 30-Day Coping Challenge how important friendships are to our ability to be resilient. Friends help us cope with our insecurities, they help us resolve our conflicts, and lend a compassionate ear. They help us feel acceptance, and grace. They are there to make us laugh, or to vent, or to coach us through a rough time.
When we value friending in our family culture, we teach our children what it means to be a friend, how to make friends, we model friending for them, and we are consistently making our friends a priority in our lives. Don't underestimate the importance of our friendships!
Why I'm vulnerable about friending
About Noelle
Noelle's inspiration for starting her podcast
Grown-up friendship is no joke
Why is friendship so important?
Why is it so hard to make friends?
The antidote to shame is connection
Busyness is belief that we are important. We need to give that up to make room for our friendships.
Be invested in your people
How to make friends when you don't want to
Have the courage to be disliked - to take the chance on people to like you, or not.
What demographic has a harder time making friends?
Look for our similarities rather than focus on our differences
Noelle's advice for people who have anxiety or depression, or are introverts, for making friends.
Friending and family culture
Be practical when teaching kids how to make friends. Be specific about exact behaviors that make friends.
Dealing with your kids' friendship struggles
The biggest gift you can give yourself if you struggle to make friends!!
Most friendships are seasonal
Don't count on social media for authentic friendships.
My life has been a roller coaster around friendships. I learned early on about rejection. Family friends were the way to go when I was little, but then during elementary school, it was all about BFFs. I had a close friend for three years,My life has been a roller coaster around friendships. I learned early on about rejection. Family friends were the way to go when I was little, but then during elementary school, it was all about BFFs. I had a close friend for three years, and then she actually dumped me in middle school. It was rough. I spent the rest of those middle school years virtually friendless. I lived right next door to my school, so I got a laminated pass to go home for lunch where I would spend the hour snacking and watching the A-Team. <br />
<br />
Things changed again when I got into high school. Kids who knew my older siblings took me under their wing, and I became a band geek (only not totally geeky since I played the drums), and my confidence grew. Through my junior and senior years, I had friends in all sorts of groups, mostly because I hated cliques and I refused to join one. I remained somewhat charismatic beyond high school.<br />
<br />
When I got home from serving a mission for my church, I had few reservations. My true charisma shined, and a friend even described me as having an "electric personality." I could be friends with anyone, and I made it my goal to make anyone I met feel welcome and accepted. I was enthusiastic about life, and loved meeting people. This was probably the happiest season of my life to date.<br />
<br />
When Michael and I got married, we thrust ourselves into a crazy transition. We were newly married for one whole week when we moved across the country to go to school. It took us a good six months to recover from that. But, we were given assignments at church that brought us out of our shell, and we loved feeling valued and connected.<br />
<br />
Then, ten years ago we hit our crisis mode. We'd moved into a new area and struggled to make deep connections. Noelle talks about this in the episode, that the hardest times to make friends is during a transition. We were in severe transition when shortly after we moved, we started having children. For the eight years we lived in that area, we made few deep friendships. I had a falling out with my very closest friend in the world, and it was an incredibly lonely time. Michael and I grew very close as a couple, but we have always struggled with this missing element in our lives.<br />
<br />
Having friends is crucial. I discuss the important of friendship in my 30-Day Coping Challenge how important friendships are to our ability to be resilient. Friends help us cope with our insecurities, they help us resolve our conflicts, and lend a compassionate ear. They help us feel acceptance, and grace. They are there to make us laugh, or to vent, or to coach us through a rough time.<br />
<br />
When we value friending in our family culture, we teach our children what it means to be a friend, how to make friends, we model friending for them, and we are consistently making our friends a priority in our lives. Don't underestimate the importance of our friendships!<br />
<br />
Why I'm vulnerable about friending<br />
About Noelle<br />
Noelle's inspiration for starting her podcast<br />
Grown-up friendship is no joke<br />
Why is friendship so important?<br />
Why is it so hard to make friends?<br />
The antidote to shame is connection<br />
Busyness is belief that we are important. We need to give that up to make room for our friendships.<br />
Be invested in your people<br />
How to make friends when you don't want to<br />
Have the courage to be disliked - to take the chance on people to like you, or not.<br />
What demographic has a harder time making friends?<br />
Look for our similarities rather than focus on our differences<br />
Noelle's advice for people who have anxiety or depression, or are introverts, for making friends.<br />
Friending and family culture<br />
Be practical when teaching kids how to make friends. Be specific about exact behaviors that make friends.<br />
Dealing with your kids' friendship struggles<br />...Jodi Chaffeeclean48:15Episode 052: “A Double Minded Man Is Unstable In All His Ways”https://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-052-a-double-minded-man-is-unstable-in-all-his-ways/
Tue, 23 Oct 2018 07:00:16 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=4016Last night I had a dream that woke me up like a nightmare, but the weird this is, it wasn't a scary dream. Still, I woke up shook and afraid. Here's what happened: I dreamed my family had gotten a nice new car. We were preparing to park it in a city, and trying to figure out how to hide our valuables so we wouldn't draw attention to our car when we left it. For some reason, I got out of the car to try and figure out this detail, and I'd forgotten to put the car in park. We realized this when the car actually started to roll away! I panicked! I started chasing the car, running as fast as I could! I was upset, and shouting at anyone I could see for help. I saw the car twist and turn down the street, rolling down hills and out of sight. I could see in the distance a highway, or series of highways where I knew my car would be destroyed if it got that far. When I caught up to the car, it had crashed, and authorities were already clearing the debris. I was so upset, and I woke up jolted by the trauma of what I'd just witnessed in my dream.
I asked Michael to help me figure out the meaning, and at first we both thought of chasing after the world and temporary pleasures. But, then I thought about it a little deeper. I realized that my dream meant that we had been distracted by the details of the situation and our vehicle slipped away. If family culture is the vehicle, what happens if it escapes us? What happens if we aren't inside steering where it goes? It is up to us to define where that vehicle is going to take us, but we need to get inside and start driving!
Lately, I've learned that part of my own personal problem with making the decision to get in and drive is I always second-guess myself! I always question myself! Then, I heard this scripture during a talk:
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.
A double minded man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:5-8 KJV).
When I heard "a double minded man is unstable in all his ways" my mind went directly to the realization that I was always second-guessing myself. I knew that by always doubting myself, I was as good as being double-minded!
In this episode, I go into more detail about how to solve this double-mindedness, and get clear on your identity and purpose, as individuals and families!
I describe my dream
Interpreting the dream
Quote: "'Company culture' doesn't exist apart from the company itself: no company has a culture; every company is a culture." Peter Thiel, Zero to One
What does it mean to be intention?
My feelings of self-doubt and second-guessing myself
Get in the car!
James 1:5-8 Double mindedness and how to solve it.
Adulting requires us to live our own lives and follow our dreams
Keep the vision in front of you every day to keep it clear
Discover yourself on the path!
The Matrix analogy
Do the work of developing your family culture by doing those things that reveal who you are and develop your character as a family
The Family Reset from TJEd and Rachel DeMille.
"Living After the Manner of Happiness" by Jeffrey R. Holland
the mind dump by Mel Robbins
Time blocking
Resources mentioned in this episode:
"Firm and Steadfast in the Faith of Christ" by D. Todd Christofferson
"Zero to One" by Peter Thiel
"How to Raise an Adult" by Julie Lythcott-Haim
"The 6-Point Plan: Advice for new Homeschoolers and Families Needing a 'Reset'" by Rachel DeMille
"Living After the Manner of Happiness" by Jeffrey R. Holland
"How to stop feeling overwhelmed right now" by Mel Robbins
"Get Organized the Clear & Simple Way" by Marla Dee
"The 'Block Schedule' System - LIFE CHANGING Productivity Hack" by Jordan Page
Assume my articles contain affiliate links.Last night I had a dream that woke me up like a nightmare, but the weird this is, it wasn't a scary dream. Still, I woke up shook and afraid. Here's what happened: I dreamed my family had gotten a nice new car. We were preparing to park it in a city,Last night I had a dream that woke me up like a nightmare, but the weird this is, it wasn't a scary dream. Still, I woke up shook and afraid. Here's what happened: I dreamed my family had gotten a nice new car. We were preparing to park it in a city, and trying to figure out how to hide our valuables so we wouldn't draw attention to our car when we left it. For some reason, I got out of the car to try and figure out this detail, and I'd forgotten to put the car in park. We realized this when the car actually started to roll away! I panicked! I started chasing the car, running as fast as I could! I was upset, and shouting at anyone I could see for help. I saw the car twist and turn down the street, rolling down hills and out of sight. I could see in the distance a highway, or series of highways where I knew my car would be destroyed if it got that far. When I caught up to the car, it had crashed, and authorities were already clearing the debris. I was so upset, and I woke up jolted by the trauma of what I'd just witnessed in my dream.<br />
<br />
I asked Michael to help me figure out the meaning, and at first we both thought of chasing after the world and temporary pleasures. But, then I thought about it a little deeper. I realized that my dream meant that we had been distracted by the details of the situation and our vehicle slipped away. If family culture is the vehicle, what happens if it escapes us? What happens if we aren't inside steering where it goes? It is up to us to define where that vehicle is going to take us, but we need to get inside and start driving!<br />
<br />
Lately, I've learned that part of my own personal problem with making the decision to get in and drive is I always second-guess myself! I always question myself! Then, I heard this scripture during a talk:<br />
<br />
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.<br />
But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.<br />
For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.<br />
A double minded man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:5-8 KJV).<br />
<br />
When I heard "a double minded man is unstable in all his ways" my mind went directly to the realization that I was always second-guessing myself. I knew that by always doubting myself, I was as good as being double-minded!<br />
In this episode, I go into more detail about how to solve this double-mindedness, and get clear on your identity and purpose, as individuals and families!<br />
I describe my dream<br />
Interpreting the dream<br />
Quote: "'Company culture' doesn't exist apart from the company itself: no company has a culture; every company is a culture." Peter Thiel, Zero to One<br />
What does it mean to be intention?<br />
My feelings of self-doubt and second-guessing myself<br />
Get in the car!<br />
James 1:5-8 Double mindedness and how to solve it.<br />
Adulting requires us to live our own lives and follow our dreams<br />
Keep the vision in front of you every day to keep it clear<br />
Discover yourself on the path!<br />
The Matrix analogy<br />
Do the work of developing your family culture by doing those things that reveal who you are and develop your character as a family<br />
The Family Reset from TJEd and Rachel DeMille.<br />
"Living After the Manner of Happiness" by Jeffrey R. Holland<br />
the mind dump by Mel Robbins<br />
Time blocking<br />
Resources mentioned in this episode:<br />
"Firm and Steadfast in the Faith of Christ" by D. Todd Christofferson<br />
"Zero to One" by Peter Thiel<br />
"How to Raise an Adult" by Julie Lythcott-Haim<br />
"The 6-Point Plan: Advice for new Homeschoolers and Families Needing a 'Reset'" by Rachel DeMille<br />
"Living After the Manner of Happiness" by Jeffrey R. Holland<br />
Jodi Chaffeeclean24:43Episode 051: Supporting Innovation with Chaz Freutelhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-051-chaz-freutel/
Tue, 16 Oct 2018 12:36:28 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=4004About this Episode
I've been learning a lot lately about why it's so important to have an entrepreneurial mindset, and it isn't just to become an entrepreneur. I've been listening to a talk by Oliver DeMille of A Thomas Jefferson Education (tjed.org), and he talks a lot about the development of our economy and our education. In this talk I've been listening to, he's talking about how our society has come through an institutional era, and has now crossed into an innovation era. Yet, our education and our beliefs are still stuck in the institutional era. There are still reasons why we need institutions, and institutional education, but our economy is shifting toward the development of innovation.
I've been talking so much about entrepreneurship because I think this is an important concept for shaping our family culture so that we can develop this idea of supporting our families to be more intentional. Being intentional often means being innovative, creative, and adaptable.
In this episode with Chaz, we talk a lot about how families can intentionally support opportunities for developing an innovative attitude through service, through intentionally creating memorable experiences with neighbors and friends, and through helping our children be more capable of giving of their talents and resources.
Chaz says, "show up filled up" meaning that we don't walk into situations, like neighborhoods, church, work, or even school, waiting to be given something. We show up asking ourselves "what can I contribute?" Being resourceful makes it easier to network, and to make an impact through your own contributions. When that becomes a habit, you begin to build a reputation of service and resourcefulness that allows you to connect with people who need help, or can help you reach your goals.
A family culture that values service, resourcefulness, connection with our friends and neighbors, innovation, creativity, and building a legacy is what my message is all about. I want to help you find ways to instill these values into your family culture, and that's what this episode is all about.
Time Stamps
Chaz's bio.
Chaz's experience with starting a business after losing his job.
Get out of God's way to follow His path for you. God readies you to do what He wants you to do to -- it's an evolution of your life, a process of growing.
It's important to keep ourselves open to new relationships and opportunities. Every experience builds on developing skills and knowledge that prepare you for what can happen down the road.
The importance of building relationships, and intentionally planning opportunities for our families to connect with our community.
People are becoming more internal and aren't going out to interact with their neighbors so much because everything is so organized. Being unstructured, or even planning experiences for unstructured time with neighbors encourages creativity.
Chaz describes an experience with interacting with some friendly millennials who he describes are non-judgmental and tolerant.
There are many types of entrepreneurs, and many don't even have a business plan.
The importance of networking and "show up filled up".
Learn to use your gifts to follow the path God shows you. Don't be afraid to leave an unrewarding job when something else is calling you to innovate.
Younger generation is better at taking risk, although it is important to build a solid reputation and repertoire of experience.
Even institutional/professional occupations need to be business owners: doctors, lawyers, etc.
Services are available in most communities to help develop business skills and networking.
Connect with Chaz.
About Chaz
Chaz Freutel is blessed to have served and currently serve many wonderful organizations. Chaz started his business, Get-U-Connected LLC, in 2009 to connect small business owners with the products, services and people they need to succeed.About this Episode - I've been learning a lot lately about why it's so important to have an entrepreneurial mindset, and it isn't just to become an entrepreneur. I've been listening to a talk by Oliver DeMille of A Thomas Jefferson Education (tjed.About this Episode<br />
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I've been learning a lot lately about why it's so important to have an entrepreneurial mindset, and it isn't just to become an entrepreneur. I've been listening to a talk by Oliver DeMille of A Thomas Jefferson Education (tjed.org), and he talks a lot about the development of our economy and our education. In this talk I've been listening to, he's talking about how our society has come through an institutional era, and has now crossed into an innovation era. Yet, our education and our beliefs are still stuck in the institutional era. There are still reasons why we need institutions, and institutional education, but our economy is shifting toward the development of innovation.<br />
<br />
I've been talking so much about entrepreneurship because I think this is an important concept for shaping our family culture so that we can develop this idea of supporting our families to be more intentional. Being intentional often means being innovative, creative, and adaptable.<br />
<br />
In this episode with Chaz, we talk a lot about how families can intentionally support opportunities for developing an innovative attitude through service, through intentionally creating memorable experiences with neighbors and friends, and through helping our children be more capable of giving of their talents and resources.<br />
<br />
Chaz says, "show up filled up" meaning that we don't walk into situations, like neighborhoods, church, work, or even school, waiting to be given something. We show up asking ourselves "what can I contribute?" Being resourceful makes it easier to network, and to make an impact through your own contributions. When that becomes a habit, you begin to build a reputation of service and resourcefulness that allows you to connect with people who need help, or can help you reach your goals.<br />
<br />
A family culture that values service, resourcefulness, connection with our friends and neighbors, innovation, creativity, and building a legacy is what my message is all about. I want to help you find ways to instill these values into your family culture, and that's what this episode is all about.<br />
<br />
Time Stamps<br />
<br />
Chaz's bio.<br />
Chaz's experience with starting a business after losing his job.<br />
Get out of God's way to follow His path for you. God readies you to do what He wants you to do to -- it's an evolution of your life, a process of growing.<br />
It's important to keep ourselves open to new relationships and opportunities. Every experience builds on developing skills and knowledge that prepare you for what can happen down the road.<br />
The importance of building relationships, and intentionally planning opportunities for our families to connect with our community.<br />
People are becoming more internal and aren't going out to interact with their neighbors so much because everything is so organized. Being unstructured, or even planning experiences for unstructured time with neighbors encourages creativity.<br />
Chaz describes an experience with interacting with some friendly millennials who he describes are non-judgmental and tolerant.<br />
There are many types of entrepreneurs, and many don't even have a business plan.<br />
The importance of networking and "show up filled up".<br />
Learn to use your gifts to follow the path God shows you. Don't be afraid to leave an unrewarding job when something else is calling you to innovate.<br />
Younger generation is better at taking risk, although it is important to build a solid reputation and repertoire of experience.<br />
Even institutional/professional occupations need to be business owners: doctors, lawyers, etc.<br />
Services are available in most communities to help develop business skills and networking.<br />
Connect with Chaz.<br />
<br />
About Chaz<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
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Chaz Freutel is blessed to have served and currently serve many ...Jodi Chaffeeclean50:20Episode 050: Growing Up an Entrepreneur with Christopher O’Rearhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-050-christopher-orear/
Tue, 09 Oct 2018 07:00:33 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3993About this episode
There are so many similarities to starting and growing a business, and growing a family. When you start a business, you need to have a clear reason why you’re doing what you do, and a goal about how to accomplish your purposes. You need to create a mission statement.
There are also skills that entrepreneurs have that support family culture, and ways to encourage the values that support your family. Things like, perseverance, and service come up in this conversation.
Such an important concept! I have learned so much about the importance of failure as a way to learn how to be resilient, and to develop a growth mindset. You cannot grow if you are always afraid of failure, or if your decisions are always fear-based.
Christopher and I covered a bit about how his parents encouraged him to be an entrepreneur in the way the ran their homeschool. He said that they started out being very “hands-on” when he was young, guiding him, coaching, and correcting a lot. But that as he grew older, closer to high school, they started to back off, and allow Christopher to learn from his own experiences and choices. He started to learn how to be accountable for his own choices, and recognizing that the outcome depended on him.
Not every kid is going to want to become an entrepreneur, but this idea of supporting our kids to be independent is crucial for their own creativity, freedom, and life satisfaction. I’ve been thinking a lot about this as I homeschool my children how much This is also important to family culture because I think that we sometimes forget about our ‘why’ for our family vision because we get distracted by voices outside of our family. It’s important that we learn how to be intentional about what our own family vision is in spite of what others might be saying.
Time Stamps
Christopher tells us about the inspiration for starting his business
Christopher's homeschool experience growing up, and how his parents transitioned into a more "hands-off" style as he became a teenager
Christopher's thoughts about what family culture means
Creating a mission statement
Characteristics of developing an entrepreneurial mindset
Christopher discusses how families can encourage kids to be entrepreneurs
Books the Christopher recommends for starting a business
About Christopher
Christopher O’Rear is a homeschool graduate now entering his junior year at Boyce College in Louisville, KY. Having grown up around small business, he was eager to put his learning into practice, and by the age of 18 had opened a small social media marketing firm. By the age of 20, he had developed an online entrepreneurial course that teaches students about the nuts and bolts of starting and running a small business. He currently serves as the CEO of this business course, 1-2-3 Entrepreneur!, and also serves as the President of Boyce College’s student-led business group, The Boaz Society. In his free time, he enjoys playing piano, playing soccer for his college's varsity team, and having deep talks with friends.
www.my1040academy.com
http://facebook.com/123entrepreneur
http://instagram.com/123entrepreneur
Books Christopher Recommends (click on the image)
(This post contains affiliate links).About this episode There are so many similarities to starting and growing a business, and growing a family. When you start a business, you need to have a clear reason why you’re doing what you do, and a goal about how to accomplish your purposes.About this episode<br />
There are so many similarities to starting and growing a business, and growing a family. When you start a business, you need to have a clear reason why you’re doing what you do, and a goal about how to accomplish your purposes. You need to create a mission statement. <br />
There are also skills that entrepreneurs have that support family culture, and ways to encourage the values that support your family. Things like, perseverance, and service come up in this conversation. <br />
Such an important concept! I have learned so much about the importance of failure as a way to learn how to be resilient, and to develop a growth mindset. You cannot grow if you are always afraid of failure, or if your decisions are always fear-based. <br />
Christopher and I covered a bit about how his parents encouraged him to be an entrepreneur in the way the ran their homeschool. He said that they started out being very “hands-on” when he was young, guiding him, coaching, and correcting a lot. But that as he grew older, closer to high school, they started to back off, and allow Christopher to learn from his own experiences and choices. He started to learn how to be accountable for his own choices, and recognizing that the outcome depended on him. <br />
Not every kid is going to want to become an entrepreneur, but this idea of supporting our kids to be independent is crucial for their own creativity, freedom, and life satisfaction. I’ve been thinking a lot about this as I homeschool my children how much This is also important to family culture because I think that we sometimes forget about our ‘why’ for our family vision because we get distracted by voices outside of our family. It’s important that we learn how to be intentional about what our own family vision is in spite of what others might be saying.<br />
Time Stamps<br />
Christopher tells us about the inspiration for starting his business<br />
Christopher's homeschool experience growing up, and how his parents transitioned into a more "hands-off" style as he became a teenager<br />
Christopher's thoughts about what family culture means<br />
Creating a mission statement<br />
Characteristics of developing an entrepreneurial mindset<br />
Christopher discusses how families can encourage kids to be entrepreneurs<br />
Books the Christopher recommends for starting a business<br />
About Christopher<br />
Christopher O’Rear is a homeschool graduate now entering his junior year at Boyce College in Louisville, KY. Having grown up around small business, he was eager to put his learning into practice, and by the age of 18 had opened a small social media marketing firm. By the age of 20, he had developed an online entrepreneurial course that teaches students about the nuts and bolts of starting and running a small business. He currently serves as the CEO of this business course, 1-2-3 Entrepreneur!, and also serves as the President of Boyce College’s student-led business group, The Boaz Society. In his free time, he enjoys playing piano, playing soccer for his college's varsity team, and having deep talks with friends.<br />
www.my1040academy.com<br />
http://facebook.com/123entrepreneur<br />
http://instagram.com/123entrepreneur<br />
Books Christopher Recommends (click on the image)<br />
<br />
(This post contains affiliate links).Jodi Chaffeeclean36:47Episode 049: Jade Jones – Global Cuisine and Family Mealtimehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-049-jade-jones/
Tue, 02 Oct 2018 07:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3974I had a great time talking with Jade, and catching up with her! She and I met eleven years ago while attending school at Brigham Young University. Since then, we both have started our families, and our projects! Jade started her blog, Jonesin’ for Taste nine years ago to share her favorite easy recipes, and maybe earn a little income on the side. Her husband’s job over the years has had a varied schedule so she has had to find creative ways to have family meals together every day.
It’s incredible how mealtime is such an anchor for our families to spend time together and talk, and experience new cuisines together. It can be challenging to learn about new recipes with our busy and stressful lives, especially when those recipes have unfamiliar ingredients or a long list of steps. Jade is on a mission to help families introduce new food to our families without sacrificing quality, or time with our families.
In fact, she has teamed up with Jenni over at The Gingered Whisk to create a Global Cuisine Challenge this month! You can go over to https://thegingeredwhisk.com/family-global-eating-challenge/ and subscribe for the challenge. There will be new ideas each week from different regions of the world. And, not just recipes. Jade and Jenni will be suggesting videos or TV shows that will encourage your family to try new food, foreign language phrases to go along with each region, as well as live discussions, and giveaways!
Jade and I discussing the challenges of feeding our families
Jade and I talk about how blogging and freelance is shaping family culture
Dietary challenges while feeding our family
Jade talks about her family culture and fitting mealtime together each day with their varying schedules
The challenges of depression and expectations
Jade tells us about the Global Cuisine Challenge
About Jade:
Jade currently lives in Southern California with her husband and 3 children, one girl and two boys. On her blog Jonesin’ For Taste she creates easy recipes that allow you to explore the amazing flavors of the world AND spend more time together as a family and less time in the kitchen. Jade is a huge Harry Potter nerd, loves Winnie the Pooh, and is not so secretly obsessed with brownies. You can usually find her binge watching episodes of The Great British Bake Off, crocheting or sewing, or reading a book from her gigantic stash.
Jade's website: https://jonesinfortaste.com
Social media: Facebook, Pinterest, InstagramI had a great time talking with Jade, and catching up with her! She and I met eleven years ago while attending school at Brigham Young University. Since then, we both have started our families, and our projects! Jade started her blog,I had a great time talking with Jade, and catching up with her! She and I met eleven years ago while attending school at Brigham Young University. Since then, we both have started our families, and our projects! Jade started her blog, Jonesin’ for Taste nine years ago to share her favorite easy recipes, and maybe earn a little income on the side. Her husband’s job over the years has had a varied schedule so she has had to find creative ways to have family meals together every day.<br />
<br />
It’s incredible how mealtime is such an anchor for our families to spend time together and talk, and experience new cuisines together. It can be challenging to learn about new recipes with our busy and stressful lives, especially when those recipes have unfamiliar ingredients or a long list of steps. Jade is on a mission to help families introduce new food to our families without sacrificing quality, or time with our families. <br />
<br />
In fact, she has teamed up with Jenni over at The Gingered Whisk to create a Global Cuisine Challenge this month! You can go over to https://thegingeredwhisk.com/family-global-eating-challenge/ and subscribe for the challenge. There will be new ideas each week from different regions of the world. And, not just recipes. Jade and Jenni will be suggesting videos or TV shows that will encourage your family to try new food, foreign language phrases to go along with each region, as well as live discussions, and giveaways! <br />
Jade and I discussing the challenges of feeding our families<br />
Jade and I talk about how blogging and freelance is shaping family culture<br />
Dietary challenges while feeding our family<br />
Jade talks about her family culture and fitting mealtime together each day with their varying schedules<br />
The challenges of depression and expectations<br />
Jade tells us about the Global Cuisine Challenge<br />
About Jade:<br />
Jade currently lives in Southern California with her husband and 3 children, one girl and two boys. On her blog Jonesin’ For Taste she creates easy recipes that allow you to explore the amazing flavors of the world AND spend more time together as a family and less time in the kitchen. Jade is a huge Harry Potter nerd, loves Winnie the Pooh, and is not so secretly obsessed with brownies. You can usually find her binge watching episodes of The Great British Bake Off, crocheting or sewing, or reading a book from her gigantic stash.<br />
Jade's website: https://jonesinfortaste.com<br />
Social media: Facebook, Pinterest, InstagramJodi Chaffee3049clean49:25Confessions of a Mompreneurhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/confessions-of-a-mompreneur/
Wed, 26 Sep 2018 03:57:11 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/confessions-of-a-mompreneur/It's still Tuesday somewhere, right!
I felt like I owe it to you to explain why there was no regularly scheduled episode. I want to be consistent with you, and provide you with useful content every week!
Subscribe to my newsletter, and join me on Instagram for updates!
Thank you for following along on this journey!It's still Tuesday somewhere, right! - I felt like I owe it to you to explain why there was no regularly scheduled episode. I want to be consistent with you, and provide you with useful content every week! - Subscribe to my newsletter,It's still Tuesday somewhere, right!<br />
<br />
I felt like I owe it to you to explain why there was no regularly scheduled episode. I want to be consistent with you, and provide you with useful content every week!<br />
<br />
Subscribe to my newsletter, and join me on Instagram for updates!<br />
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Thank you for following along on this journey!Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 048: Kerry McDonald – Self-Directed Learninghttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-048-kerry-mcdonald/
Tue, 18 Sep 2018 11:00:22 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3579I learned so much from Kerry, and the importance of unstructured time. I have been focusing a lot of my studies lately around coping skills, and she and I talked about this idea that we all have a coping strategy to escape from our stressful lives, right?! How often do we come home from a stressful day and watch TV? Well, kids spend time on their devices because it is their way of coping with how over scheduled their lives are!
When our kids are spending lots of time on their devices, we need to give them more freedom, and with freedom, they will be less likely to engage in these escape-type coping mechanisms. But, with that freedom, we need to provide them with opportunities. This can be challenging since it isn't as easy to encourage free play, or less structured time. We are often coerced into the institutionalizing everything we do as families. We turn them over to our schools, day cares, camps, sports, and classes to keep them busy. We parents need to be more deliberate about creating space, and opportunity for our kids to explore their freedom and engage in productive activities without the pressure of doing things because they are required by some institution. As parents, we need to figure out how to get away from over-scheduling their lives.
Subscribe here to take the challenge to improve your coping strategies and
get away from the cycle of stress and consolation!
One important reason is the decline of play. Studies are showing a correlation between play deprivation to mental disorders! Watch this video of Kerry's colleague, Peter Gray explaining why play is so important: "The Decline of Play."
Kerry makes a distinction between structured time, and providing opportunities for engaging in productive activities on their own. Kerry gives an example of a camp called Camp Stomping Ground where kids have free time most of the week they are at camp, and they have unlimited access to electronics! But, they also provide lots of opportunities to do other productive things! The might be playing a video game, but then they see a shaving cream fight going on and get swept into the action. Soon, the devices hold little interest because there is so much going on to capture their attention. Plus, they don't have anything to escape from because they experience freedom all week.
This all reminded me of my conversation with Carol Danaher in episode 036 where we talk about allowing more freedom for kids at the dinner table. But, something to remember is that not everything is going to be OK according to your family standards. Kerry talks about a study by Peter Gray on civilizations that provide their children with access to adult tools including bows and arrows, except for their poison darts. Even when we are providing freedom for our children, we will all have those "poison darts" that we will always want to guard our families from. They may be different in every family, but we will all have something we believe our kids should not have access to.
Have better coping skills in thirty days with these powerful
constructive coping skills: 30-Day Coping Challenge
So, what are your family's "poison darts"? What are your important values? How can you create space for your children to have freedom so they can create a life they don't need to escape from? Do you have that kind of life? Wouldn't you like to have that kids of a life?!
About Kerry:
Kerry McDonald is an education policy writer and unschooling advocate whose articles have appeared at Forbes, Newsweek, NPR, Education Next, and Natural Mother Magazine, among others. She first became interested in alternatives to school while a graduate student in education at Harvard, but it wasn’t until she became a mom that homeschooling and Self-Directed Education really resonated. Kerry is the author of the forthcoming book, Unschooled: Raising Curious, Well-Educated Children Outside the Conventional Classroom, being published in early 2019 by Chicago Review Press.
I learned so much from Kerry, and the importance of unstructured time. I have been focusing a lot of my studies lately around coping skills, and she and I talked about this idea that we all have a coping strategy to escape from our stressful lives,I learned so much from Kerry, and the importance of unstructured time. I have been focusing a lot of my studies lately around coping skills, and she and I talked about this idea that we all have a coping strategy to escape from our stressful lives, right?! How often do we come home from a stressful day and watch TV? Well, kids spend time on their devices because it is their way of coping with how over scheduled their lives are!<br />
<br />
When our kids are spending lots of time on their devices, we need to give them more freedom, and with freedom, they will be less likely to engage in these escape-type coping mechanisms. But, with that freedom, we need to provide them with opportunities. This can be challenging since it isn't as easy to encourage free play, or less structured time. We are often coerced into the institutionalizing everything we do as families. We turn them over to our schools, day cares, camps, sports, and classes to keep them busy. We parents need to be more deliberate about creating space, and opportunity for our kids to explore their freedom and engage in productive activities without the pressure of doing things because they are required by some institution. As parents, we need to figure out how to get away from over-scheduling their lives.<br />
Subscribe here to take the challenge to improve your coping strategies and<br />
get away from the cycle of stress and consolation!<br />
One important reason is the decline of play. Studies are showing a correlation between play deprivation to mental disorders! Watch this video of Kerry's colleague, Peter Gray explaining why play is so important: "The Decline of Play."<br />
<br />
Kerry makes a distinction between structured time, and providing opportunities for engaging in productive activities on their own. Kerry gives an example of a camp called Camp Stomping Ground where kids have free time most of the week they are at camp, and they have unlimited access to electronics! But, they also provide lots of opportunities to do other productive things! The might be playing a video game, but then they see a shaving cream fight going on and get swept into the action. Soon, the devices hold little interest because there is so much going on to capture their attention. Plus, they don't have anything to escape from because they experience freedom all week.<br />
<br />
This all reminded me of my conversation with Carol Danaher in episode 036 where we talk about allowing more freedom for kids at the dinner table. But, something to remember is that not everything is going to be OK according to your family standards. Kerry talks about a study by Peter Gray on civilizations that provide their children with access to adult tools including bows and arrows, except for their poison darts. Even when we are providing freedom for our children, we will all have those "poison darts" that we will always want to guard our families from. They may be different in every family, but we will all have something we believe our kids should not have access to.<br />
Have better coping skills in thirty days with these powerful<br />
constructive coping skills: 30-Day Coping Challenge<br />
So, what are your family's "poison darts"? What are your important values? How can you create space for your children to have freedom so they can create a life they don't need to escape from? Do you have that kind of life? Wouldn't you like to have that kids of a life?!<br />
<br />
About Kerry:<br />
Kerry McDonald is an education policy writer and unschooling advocate whose articles have appeared at Forbes, Newsweek, NPR, Education Next, and Natural Mother Magazine, among others. She first became interested in alternatives to school while a graduate student in education at Harvard, but it wasn’t until she became a mom that homeschooling and Self-Directed Education really resonated. Kerry is the author of the forthcoming book, Unschooled: Raising Curious,Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 047: Connor Boyack – Free Market and Family Culturehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-047-connor-boyack/
Tue, 11 Sep 2018 15:00:13 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3547Throughout this episode, Connor often refers to the importance of incentives. In any situation, there are rewards and there are incentives. Incentives are the anticipation of a reward, and the reward comes after the work is done. Without an incentive, it may be harder to motivate yourself or others to do a job well done. There are some inherent incentives to certain things. For example, we have an incentive to earn a living so that we can provide for ourselves and our families, and avoid going into debt. We have a natural incentive to exercise, even a little, because we know that it will help us stay healthier than if we didn't. These are systems that work because we have motivation to follow a certain course to avoid unpleasant outcomes, or to affect desired rewards.
Connor describes an example of an initiative in his state to encourage young entrepreneurs by setting up a summer farmers' market run only by kids. By learning about what it takes to run a business, these kids gain an incentive to learn about business accounting, production, and sales. Incentive is nothing more than being inspired because you can visualize the outcome. When that vision is blurry, or the promised rewards aren't received, those incentives dissolve.
Even children can understand the proper role of government. This is how: The Tuttle Twins Series
But what about an incentive to break from standard procedure to do something that deviates from the norm? What is the cost to you for going against standard systems that are "normal" for our society? If you are in a work setting, will you look insubordinate, or like you're brown-nosing? When family culture is concerned, if you do something that deviates from the norm, will it cost you friends, relatives, or maybe even a struggle with your own self-confidence??
These are the things I explore with family culture. We have an incentive to intentionally shape our family culture by doing what Connor is suggesting in this episode: to take some time to have the initial thought and creation of a plan, and then defending that plan. When we are intentional, we recognize when there is something that is worth defending. That takes work, and it takes commitment, and maybe some sacrifice. It isn't easy. Sometimes the promised rewards of family life, and intentional living don't seem to be there at times. Life is hard, and the challenges are real. Family culture is about getting clear on that vision so that we can realize that the incentive to keep up with our goals, and our values, and the culture we envision is important and worthwhile!
The ability to work, and understand these things about family culture, are really interwoven into this idea of economic understanding. A free market society described by Connor is about how people interact in pursuit of a common goal. Our families have the capacity to develop these kinds of values, with education, and understanding that how we develop our culture matters. Our national culture is the aggregate of our family culture.
Do your kids understand liberty? They will after reading this: The Tuttle Twins Series
It's important to have these conversations with our families, to discuss what a free market is, and to discuss our place in this bigger puzzle of society. It's important to question whether the systems we adhere to are serving our family and encouraging these appropriate incentives, or if we are simply falling into an expected mode of thinking simply because that's just what is done.
What I appreciate about the Tuttle Twins, and the work of FEE.org is that they are creating conversations around systems to help us recognize them for what they are. They are stirring our minds to consider whether we agree with societal expectations, or if we need to be a little more proactive about what is being offered.
You can learn more about the Tuttle Twins by clicking the banner below or clicking here.
About Connor Boyack:
Throughout this episode, Connor often refers to the importance of incentives. In any situation, there are rewards and there are incentives. Incentives are the anticipation of a reward, and the reward comes after the work is done. Without an incentive,Throughout this episode, Connor often refers to the importance of incentives. In any situation, there are rewards and there are incentives. Incentives are the anticipation of a reward, and the reward comes after the work is done. Without an incentive, it may be harder to motivate yourself or others to do a job well done. There are some inherent incentives to certain things. For example, we have an incentive to earn a living so that we can provide for ourselves and our families, and avoid going into debt. We have a natural incentive to exercise, even a little, because we know that it will help us stay healthier than if we didn't. These are systems that work because we have motivation to follow a certain course to avoid unpleasant outcomes, or to affect desired rewards.<br />
<br />
Connor describes an example of an initiative in his state to encourage young entrepreneurs by setting up a summer farmers' market run only by kids. By learning about what it takes to run a business, these kids gain an incentive to learn about business accounting, production, and sales. Incentive is nothing more than being inspired because you can visualize the outcome. When that vision is blurry, or the promised rewards aren't received, those incentives dissolve.<br />
Even children can understand the proper role of government. This is how: The Tuttle Twins Series<br />
But what about an incentive to break from standard procedure to do something that deviates from the norm? What is the cost to you for going against standard systems that are "normal" for our society? If you are in a work setting, will you look insubordinate, or like you're brown-nosing? When family culture is concerned, if you do something that deviates from the norm, will it cost you friends, relatives, or maybe even a struggle with your own self-confidence??<br />
<br />
These are the things I explore with family culture. We have an incentive to intentionally shape our family culture by doing what Connor is suggesting in this episode: to take some time to have the initial thought and creation of a plan, and then defending that plan. When we are intentional, we recognize when there is something that is worth defending. That takes work, and it takes commitment, and maybe some sacrifice. It isn't easy. Sometimes the promised rewards of family life, and intentional living don't seem to be there at times. Life is hard, and the challenges are real. Family culture is about getting clear on that vision so that we can realize that the incentive to keep up with our goals, and our values, and the culture we envision is important and worthwhile!<br />
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The ability to work, and understand these things about family culture, are really interwoven into this idea of economic understanding. A free market society described by Connor is about how people interact in pursuit of a common goal. Our families have the capacity to develop these kinds of values, with education, and understanding that how we develop our culture matters. Our national culture is the aggregate of our family culture.<br />
Do your kids understand liberty? They will after reading this: The Tuttle Twins Series<br />
It's important to have these conversations with our families, to discuss what a free market is, and to discuss our place in this bigger puzzle of society. It's important to question whether the systems we adhere to are serving our family and encouraging these appropriate incentives, or if we are simply falling into an expected mode of thinking simply because that's just what is done.<br />
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What I appreciate about the Tuttle Twins, and the work of FEE.org is that they are creating conversations around systems to help us recognize them for what they are. They are stirring our minds to consider whether we agree with societal expectations, or if we need to be a little more proactive about what is being offered.<br />
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You can learn more about the Tuttle Twins by clicking the banner below or...Jodi ChaffeecleanSeason 3 Trailer: The NEW Home & Family Culture Podcasthttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/our-modern-heritage/
Fri, 07 Sep 2018 04:36:09 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3521The time has finally arrived! A new season of the podcast!
Announcing season 3 of the NEW home & family culture podcast! It is now "Our Modern Heritage" to represent the culmination of the collaboration and reconciliation between honoring history while writing our own.
Family culture is about the values and traditions that make your family who you are, and it is about creating your own legacy while honoring the legacy of your ancestors.
The mission of this brand is to help families intentionally discover and design their family culture to reflect the vision and values they have for their families. It isn't enough to rush around "putting out fires" or event to just defend ourselves. We need to create a solid offense, or plan for how to guard our family culture to keep it from falling apart.
Learn more at http://homeandfamilyculture.com and follow along on Instagram at @familyculturepodcast
New episodes will be broadcast on Tuesdays, and I will host a live Q&A on Instagram on Thursdays at 7pm.
I look forward to chatting with you about this topic, and I hope you know I am in your corner rooting for you and your family culture!
The time has finally arrived! A new season of the podcast! - Announcing season 3 of the NEW home & family culture podcast! It is now "Our Modern Heritage" to represent the culmination of the collaboration and reconciliation between honoring history wh...The time has finally arrived! A new season of the podcast!<br />
<br />
Announcing season 3 of the NEW home & family culture podcast! It is now "Our Modern Heritage" to represent the culmination of the collaboration and reconciliation between honoring history while writing our own.<br />
<br />
Family culture is about the values and traditions that make your family who you are, and it is about creating your own legacy while honoring the legacy of your ancestors.<br />
<br />
The mission of this brand is to help families intentionally discover and design their family culture to reflect the vision and values they have for their families. It isn't enough to rush around "putting out fires" or event to just defend ourselves. We need to create a solid offense, or plan for how to guard our family culture to keep it from falling apart.<br />
<br />
Learn more at http://homeandfamilyculture.com and follow along on Instagram at @familyculturepodcast<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
New episodes will be broadcast on Tuesdays, and I will host a live Q&A on Instagram on Thursdays at 7pm.<br />
<br />
I look forward to chatting with you about this topic, and I hope you know I am in your corner rooting for you and your family culture!<br />
<br />
<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 046 Solo: What Family Culture Boils Down Tohttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-046-solo/
Tue, 26 Jun 2018 09:00:12 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3312It’s hard to say which would be more discouraging: drifting from job to job because you’re always the first to be laid off, or laboring in monotonous obscurity at the same job. The first results from not doing what you are told to do, the second from doing only what you are told to do. You can “get by” for a time following either approach, but you will never get ahead. Personal initiative is more important in today’s enlightened, high-tech workplace than it was during the Industrial Age, when the ability to follow orders was a critical skill. As technology makes many supervisory functions obsolete, every one of us is expected to do more with less, determine what needs to be done, and do it. Don’t wait to be told. Know your company and your job so well that you can anticipate what needs to be done — then do it! Stop explaining and start doing!
--Napoleon Hill
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I know that quote is about our corporate journeys, but it is about so much more than that. We need to know our families so well that we can anticipate what needs to be done. We need to be conscientious of our offense as much as our defense.
I mean, we need to work on our own "can do" plans that protect our families and intentionally shape us. We need to plant good seeds, but also weed our gardens.
This episode is basically a summary of what I have been learning from my experience with this podcast. It is also a heads up that I will be concluding the season and will resume episodes again in the fall, with gusto!
Remember: "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts" (Winston Churchill).
Her are a few resources I mention in this episode:
“There appears to be ‘no other way’ to learn certain things except through the relevant, clinical experiences. Happily, the commandment ‘Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart’ (Matthew 11:29) carries an accompanying and compensating promise from Jesus—'and ye shall find rest unto your souls.’ This is a very special form of rest. It surely includes the rest resulting from the shedding of certain needless burdens: fatiguing insincerity, exhausting hypocrisy, and the strength-sapping quest for recognition, praise, and power. Those of us who fall short, in one way or another, often do so because we carry such unnecessary and heavy baggage. Being thus overloaded, we sometimes stumble and then feel sorry for ourselves…However, if sufficient meekness is in us, it will not only help us to jettison unneeded burdens, but will also keep us from becoming mired in the ooze of self-pity. Furthermore, true meekness has a metabolism that actually requires very little praise or recognition” (Neal A. Maxell)
Episodes referenced:
Waters + Bennet
Bolaji Oyejide
Kathy Mellor
Wonder Crate - Developing Social/Emotional Skills
Books referenced:
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success
Outwitting the Devil: The Secret to Freedom and Success
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Pocketbook Guide to Fulfilling Your Dreams
For a full list go here: BOOKS
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amzn_assoc_linkid = "aa2ce6140c249fa8e877487402a2ee4f";It’s hard to say which would be more discouraging: drifting from job to job because you’re always the first to be laid off, or laboring in monotonous obscurity at the same job. The first results from not doing what you are told to do,It’s hard to say which would be more discouraging: drifting from job to job because you’re always the first to be laid off, or laboring in monotonous obscurity at the same job. The first results from not doing what you are told to do, the second from doing only what you are told to do. You can “get by” for a time following either approach, but you will never get ahead. Personal initiative is more important in today’s enlightened, high-tech workplace than it was during the Industrial Age, when the ability to follow orders was a critical skill. As technology makes many supervisory functions obsolete, every one of us is expected to do more with less, determine what needs to be done, and do it. Don’t wait to be told. Know your company and your job so well that you can anticipate what needs to be done — then do it! Stop explaining and start doing!<br />
<br />
--Napoleon Hill<br />
This post contains some affiliate links. Click here to learn more.<br />
I know that quote is about our corporate journeys, but it is about so much more than that. We need to know our families so well that we can anticipate what needs to be done. We need to be conscientious of our offense as much as our defense.<br />
<br />
I mean, we need to work on our own "can do" plans that protect our families and intentionally shape us. We need to plant good seeds, but also weed our gardens.<br />
<br />
This episode is basically a summary of what I have been learning from my experience with this podcast. It is also a heads up that I will be concluding the season and will resume episodes again in the fall, with gusto!<br />
<br />
Remember: "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts" (Winston Churchill).<br />
<br />
Her are a few resources I mention in this episode:<br />
“There appears to be ‘no other way’ to learn certain things except through the relevant, clinical experiences. Happily, the commandment ‘Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart’ (Matthew 11:29) carries an accompanying and compensating promise from Jesus—'and ye shall find rest unto your souls.’ This is a very special form of rest. It surely includes the rest resulting from the shedding of certain needless burdens: fatiguing insincerity, exhausting hypocrisy, and the strength-sapping quest for recognition, praise, and power. Those of us who fall short, in one way or another, often do so because we carry such unnecessary and heavy baggage. Being thus overloaded, we sometimes stumble and then feel sorry for ourselves…However, if sufficient meekness is in us, it will not only help us to jettison unneeded burdens, but will also keep us from becoming mired in the ooze of self-pity. Furthermore, true meekness has a metabolism that actually requires very little praise or recognition” (Neal A. Maxell)<br />
Episodes referenced:<br />
<br />
Waters + Bennet<br />
<br />
Bolaji Oyejide<br />
<br />
Kathy Mellor<br />
<br />
Wonder Crate - Developing Social/Emotional Skills<br />
<br />
Books referenced:<br />
<br />
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success<br />
<br />
Outwitting the Devil: The Secret to Freedom and Success<br />
<br />
The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Pocketbook Guide to Fulfilling Your Dreams<br />
<br />
For a full list go here: BOOKS<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
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Tue, 19 Jun 2018 09:00:12 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3249Kristen A. Jenson is the author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of read-aloud books including the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds. She is the founder of ProtectYoungMinds.org, a website dedicated to helping parents empower their kids to resist and reject pornography. Kristen is a popular guest on radio and TV broadcasts as well as podcasts and webinars. She is a leader in the Safeguard Alliance of the National Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation and has testified before the Washington State Senate Law and Justice Committee on the public health crisis of pornography. Kristen continues to be a strong voice for protecting children from all forms of sexual exploitation.
Kristen is the mother of two daughters, and a son who is waiting for her in heaven. Her latest honor is becoming a grandma! She lives with her husband and sassy chocolate Schnoodle puppy in the beautiful state of Washington. Kristen earned a B.A. in English Literature and an M.A. in Organizational Communication.
This Post Contains Affiliate Links
Find Kristen and Protect Young Minds
Website: www.ProtectYoungMinds.org
Twitter: @ProtectYM
Facebook: ProtectYM
Instagram: @ProtectYoungMinds
From this episode
This is a difficult topic to discuss, but I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to talk about. Kristen tells us that porn is predatory. Kids do not have to look for it, it is looking for them. It will find them. The discussion needs to be centered around what our kids can do when porn finds them.
Kristen offers several resources on her site to help parents with this topic, with media literacy, and creating a plan to help our families navigate this over-sexualized culture.
Help children understand three things:
what pornography is
teach our children that pornography is dangerous
have a plan for what to do when they see pornography
Learn why filters are good for our devices, but more than that, we need to help our children develop internal filters.
We need to be the ones talking to our children about pornography and sex so that we become the authority. They don't want to be the ones who don't understand when their peers refer to these things, so they are going to seek out this information. Parents need to be the authority and give their children permission to talk to them about these things.
Protect Young Minds has amazing resources to help parents learn how to become their child's mentor to talk through difficult topics, and talk out big emotions. Parents can become the safety for kids who need to understand, and navigate their development into adulthood.
As Kristen says, put on our big girl/big boy pants and talk about this stuff.
Robyn Fivush, "Do you know" study
Bobo the Clown aggression experiment
"Switch: How to change when change is hard" by Chip and Dan Heath
"The Power of Habit: Why we do what we do in life and business" by Charles Duhigg
Covenant Eyes, accountability software
Circle with Disney - Parental Controls and Filters for your Family’s Connected Devices
PROTECT YOUNG MINDS LINKS:
20 Questions to create your family stories
Why we don't depend on digital filters alone
Tech Etiquette for the Digital Family - Free Download
Family media standards - Free Download
Digital citizenship
8 Books to Help you talk about sex
Emotional Care Tags
Note: around timestamp 30:55 is a trigger story. I left it to illustrate why children need to know all human anatomy, not just their own, and they need to know proper names of the body parts. This story illustrates why this is so important.
Kristen A. Jenson is the author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of read-aloud books including the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.Kristen A. Jenson is the author of the Good Pictures Bad Pictures series of read-aloud books including the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds. She is the founder of ProtectYoungMinds.org, a website dedicated to helping parents empower their kids to resist and reject pornography. Kristen is a popular guest on radio and TV broadcasts as well as podcasts and webinars. She is a leader in the Safeguard Alliance of the National Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation and has testified before the Washington State Senate Law and Justice Committee on the public health crisis of pornography. Kristen continues to be a strong voice for protecting children from all forms of sexual exploitation.<br />
<br />
Kristen is the mother of two daughters, and a son who is waiting for her in heaven. Her latest honor is becoming a grandma! She lives with her husband and sassy chocolate Schnoodle puppy in the beautiful state of Washington. Kristen earned a B.A. in English Literature and an M.A. in Organizational Communication.<br />
This Post Contains Affiliate Links<br />
Find Kristen and Protect Young Minds<br />
<br />
Website: www.ProtectYoungMinds.org<br />
<br />
Twitter: @ProtectYM<br />
<br />
Facebook: ProtectYM<br />
<br />
Instagram: @ProtectYoungMinds<br />
<br />
From this episode<br />
<br />
This is a difficult topic to discuss, but I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to talk about. Kristen tells us that porn is predatory. Kids do not have to look for it, it is looking for them. It will find them. The discussion needs to be centered around what our kids can do when porn finds them.<br />
<br />
Kristen offers several resources on her site to help parents with this topic, with media literacy, and creating a plan to help our families navigate this over-sexualized culture.<br />
<br />
Help children understand three things:<br />
<br />
what pornography is<br />
teach our children that pornography is dangerous<br />
have a plan for what to do when they see pornography<br />
<br />
Learn why filters are good for our devices, but more than that, we need to help our children develop internal filters.<br />
<br />
We need to be the ones talking to our children about pornography and sex so that we become the authority. They don't want to be the ones who don't understand when their peers refer to these things, so they are going to seek out this information. Parents need to be the authority and give their children permission to talk to them about these things.<br />
<br />
Protect Young Minds has amazing resources to help parents learn how to become their child's mentor to talk through difficult topics, and talk out big emotions. Parents can become the safety for kids who need to understand, and navigate their development into adulthood.<br />
<br />
As Kristen says, put on our big girl/big boy pants and talk about this stuff.<br />
<br />
Robyn Fivush, "Do you know" study<br />
<br />
Bobo the Clown aggression experiment<br />
<br />
"Switch: How to change when change is hard" by Chip and Dan Heath<br />
<br />
"The Power of Habit: Why we do what we do in life and business" by Charles Duhigg<br />
<br />
Covenant Eyes, accountability software<br />
<br />
Circle with Disney - Parental Controls and Filters for your Family’s Connected Devices<br />
<br />
PROTECT YOUNG MINDS LINKS:<br />
<br />
20 Questions to create your family stories<br />
<br />
Why we don't depend on digital filters alone<br />
<br />
Tech Etiquette for the Digital Family - Free Download<br />
<br />
Family media standards - Free Download<br />
<br />
Digital citizenship<br />
<br />
8 Books to Help you talk about sex<br />
<br />
Emotional Care Tags<br />
<br />
Note: around timestamp 30:55 is a trigger story. I left it to illustrate why children need to know all human anatomy,Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 044: Bonnie Simon on Raising Musicianshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-044-bonnie-simon/
Tue, 12 Jun 2018 09:00:51 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3196Bonnie Ward Simon is President of Maestro Classics, the award-winning classical music company which produces the Stories in Music™ series for children and families featuring the London Philharmonic Orchestra. From 1989-1998, Bonnie was the Executive Director of the Washington Chamber Symphony, the resident chamber orchestra at the Kennedy Center for Performing Arts in Washington, DC. She has served as an advisor to Scholastic Publications and is an internationally published writer in the fields of music and children.
Bonnie Ward Simon holds degrees in music (Vassar College) and music education (New Jersey State College), as well as Japanese Labor Relations, Modern Japanese History, and Ancient Chinese History (Columbia University). She has also taught middle school music, worked in administration at Carnegie Hall, and written extensively for Washington Parent Magazine. Before moving to Washington, DC, she served on the boards of directors of Carnegie Hall, the Guggenheim Museum of Art, and New York City Opera.
Bonnie is the mother of Basil and Sebastian Simon, the stepmother of David, Daniel, James, and Adam Simon, and the pack leader for Lulu Simon, their golden retriever. She loves to sail, skis in the winter, travels, sews, knits, paints, and delights in the seasonal changes in Central Park.
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I really enjoyed my discussion with Bonnie Simon of Maestro Classics. I learned a lot about how the company began, and why it can be so difficult to introduce our children to classical music!
Music is the soundtrack of our lives. We can make our lives so much more interesting with music in our homes, and in our cars while we travel. The type of music is important, too, because we want our families to listen to good quality music, and music that is not degrading.
Classical music is music that is complex, and interesting, and you can listen to it over and over and still hear something new. But, some people think that classical music is an acquired taste. Perhaps we just need to listen to better quality productions of classical music!
What I love about Maestro Classics is that it is a way to introduce our families to classical music in a way that speaks to them on a level that is fun and engaging! My family has listened to “Peter and the Wolf” and “Casey at Bat” and “The Tortoise and the Hare” many times, and they are fun every time! This music, coupled with story, is exciting, and introduces our children to great quality music, and entertainment in a way only classical music can!
Classical music is part of our cultural fabric of art, music, history, culture, and class. It is they type of music that exercises our brains and helps us to develop an affinity for something beautiful, powerful, and inspiring.
Another resource Bonnie recommends for growing an appreciation for classical music is
kickassclassical.com. It's a site where they pick out the best selections of classical music that make it exciting to listen to.
Please listen through to the end of this episode because I get serious about why all of this even matters! We want our kids to grow up to be producers more than consumers. Being a producer doesn't mean they become entrepreneurial, necessarily. Our culture at large is steeped in consumerism as a means of coping with stress and anxiety, and life. But, we can never consume enough to ever be satisfied. However, if we could turn to productivity and creativity as a means of coping - WOW! The world would be a different place. Look back at my post about how we will all become whatever we think about, and if we spend our time giving up the opportunity costs that come from consuming in order to take on the benefits of producing, we would be a different people, and we would make a different impact on the world. We just need to be intentional about being productive!
Connect with Maestro Classics:
Website
Facebook
Bonnie Ward Simon is President of Maestro Classics, the award-winning classical music company which produces the Stories in Music™ series for children and families featuring the London Philharmonic Orchestra. From 1989-1998,Bonnie Ward Simon is President of Maestro Classics, the award-winning classical music company which produces the Stories in Music™ series for children and families featuring the London Philharmonic Orchestra. From 1989-1998, Bonnie was the Executive Director of the Washington Chamber Symphony, the resident chamber orchestra at the Kennedy Center for Performing Arts in Washington, DC. She has served as an advisor to Scholastic Publications and is an internationally published writer in the fields of music and children.<br />
<br />
Bonnie Ward Simon holds degrees in music (Vassar College) and music education (New Jersey State College), as well as Japanese Labor Relations, Modern Japanese History, and Ancient Chinese History (Columbia University). She has also taught middle school music, worked in administration at Carnegie Hall, and written extensively for Washington Parent Magazine. Before moving to Washington, DC, she served on the boards of directors of Carnegie Hall, the Guggenheim Museum of Art, and New York City Opera.<br />
<br />
Bonnie is the mother of Basil and Sebastian Simon, the stepmother of David, Daniel, James, and Adam Simon, and the pack leader for Lulu Simon, their golden retriever. She loves to sail, skis in the winter, travels, sews, knits, paints, and delights in the seasonal changes in Central Park.<br />
This post contains affiliate links. Click here for disclosure statements.<br />
<br />
I really enjoyed my discussion with Bonnie Simon of Maestro Classics. I learned a lot about how the company began, and why it can be so difficult to introduce our children to classical music!<br />
<br />
Music is the soundtrack of our lives. We can make our lives so much more interesting with music in our homes, and in our cars while we travel. The type of music is important, too, because we want our families to listen to good quality music, and music that is not degrading.<br />
<br />
Classical music is music that is complex, and interesting, and you can listen to it over and over and still hear something new. But, some people think that classical music is an acquired taste. Perhaps we just need to listen to better quality productions of classical music!<br />
<br />
What I love about Maestro Classics is that it is a way to introduce our families to classical music in a way that speaks to them on a level that is fun and engaging! My family has listened to “Peter and the Wolf” and “Casey at Bat” and “The Tortoise and the Hare” many times, and they are fun every time! This music, coupled with story, is exciting, and introduces our children to great quality music, and entertainment in a way only classical music can!<br />
<br />
Classical music is part of our cultural fabric of art, music, history, culture, and class. It is they type of music that exercises our brains and helps us to develop an affinity for something beautiful, powerful, and inspiring.<br />
<br />
Another resource Bonnie recommends for growing an appreciation for classical music is<br />
kickassclassical.com. It's a site where they pick out the best selections of classical music that make it exciting to listen to.<br />
<br />
Please listen through to the end of this episode because I get serious about why all of this even matters! We want our kids to grow up to be producers more than consumers. Being a producer doesn't mean they become entrepreneurial, necessarily. Our culture at large is steeped in consumerism as a means of coping with stress and anxiety, and life. But, we can never consume enough to ever be satisfied. However, if we could turn to productivity and creativity as a means of coping - WOW! The world would be a different place. Look back at my post about how we will all become whatever we think about, and if we spend our time giving up the opportunity costs that come from consuming in order to take on the benefits of producing, we would be a different people, and we would make a different impact on the world.Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 043: Morgen Reynolds – The Art of Storytellinghttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-043-morgen-reynolds/
Tue, 05 Jun 2018 09:00:13 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3161Morgen Reynolds has been telling stories for most of her life! She remembers tying on a bandana and lying upside down, with magic marker "eyes" painted on her chin to perform "Wide Mouth Frog" for her friends. It was a huge hit. When her oldest, now 14, was a toddler, he had an endless appetite for stories. He would give her three animals and a place and she had to create a story off the top of her head. Eventually, she had to create story "tickets" that he would use to "buy" a story. There had to be some rationing. That grew to telling at family reunions, and soon after--"Miss Mo" was born.
Morgen started performing on stage when she was 12 years old and dreamed of being a professional actress. That is a difficult dream to realize--especially with three kids! Storytelling came to her as a way to perform on her time, with total control over the content. She just started telling stories, without realizing that there is a storytelling world out there! Now she has performed at festivals, attends workshops, and teaches storytelling to others.
Some of the most powerful storytelling occurs in the unplanned moments. The experiences around the dinner table that start with, "Did I ever tell you about that time when I was a kid that I. . . . " That's when you've got them! Kids love to hear stories, especially about the grownups in their lives, and especially if it involves the grownups in their lives getting into some trouble! Those stories, told honestly, have far more power than any sermon we could attend.
Morgen is using modern technology to spread the art of storytelling. She has a YouTube channel with playlists of stories geared towards school aged children. She is also on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. Living in rural Montana makes traveling to live performances difficult, but she has high hopes of building her online brand and connecting with children and adults all over the world through the power of story. Here we go with Miss Mo!
This post contains some affiliate links. Click here for disclosure statement.
From This Episode
Storytelling festivals are LEGIT! If you do a google search, you will find one near you, and they look amazing! I am seriously excited to check these out!
Here are some festivals Morgen mentioned:
National Storytelling Festival in Jonesborough, TN: http://www.storytellingcenter.net/festival/
Mount Timpanogos Storytelling Festival: https://timpfest.org
More festivals: http://www.sostoryfest.com/festivals.html
Storytellers Morgen tells us about:
Laura Simms http://www.laurasimms.com
Bil Lepp https://www.leppstorytelling.com
Kim Weitkamp http://www.kimweitkamp.com
Sam Payne https://www.sampayne.com/home
The Moth on NPR https://www.themoth.org
Jane Yolen Folktales http://janeyolen.com/works/favorite-folktales-from-around-the-world/
Why Storytelling:
Stories connect families, our past, our identity, our experiences. Our stories are what make up our family culture.
Storytelling is also a way to develop cognitive skills as a means of working our brains to remember things, which is why storytelling is so cultural. Storytelling is how family history and culture is perpetuated because they are easier to remember.
Stories help us learn about conflict resolution, and connect us with the heroes in the stories, too.
Storytelling and The Well-Educated Heart with Marlene Peterson http://librariesofhope.com/storytelling.html
A way of keeping track of your family stories is with a five year journal, where you write down a line each day and then you come to it for five years recording one line each day. It's a great way to capture the snippets of life over a long time period.
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Recommended books:
"Stolen Words" by Melanie Florence
Jane Yolen folktales
You listened to the end of the episode so you get to listen to a special treat!Morgen Reynolds has been telling stories for most of her life! She remembers tying on a bandana and lying upside down, with magic marker "eyes" painted on her chin to perform "Wide Mouth Frog" for her friends. It was a huge hit. When her oldest,Morgen Reynolds has been telling stories for most of her life! She remembers tying on a bandana and lying upside down, with magic marker "eyes" painted on her chin to perform "Wide Mouth Frog" for her friends. It was a huge hit. When her oldest, now 14, was a toddler, he had an endless appetite for stories. He would give her three animals and a place and she had to create a story off the top of her head. Eventually, she had to create story "tickets" that he would use to "buy" a story. There had to be some rationing. That grew to telling at family reunions, and soon after--"Miss Mo" was born.<br />
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Morgen started performing on stage when she was 12 years old and dreamed of being a professional actress. That is a difficult dream to realize--especially with three kids! Storytelling came to her as a way to perform on her time, with total control over the content. She just started telling stories, without realizing that there is a storytelling world out there! Now she has performed at festivals, attends workshops, and teaches storytelling to others.<br />
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Some of the most powerful storytelling occurs in the unplanned moments. The experiences around the dinner table that start with, "Did I ever tell you about that time when I was a kid that I. . . . " That's when you've got them! Kids love to hear stories, especially about the grownups in their lives, and especially if it involves the grownups in their lives getting into some trouble! Those stories, told honestly, have far more power than any sermon we could attend.<br />
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Morgen is using modern technology to spread the art of storytelling. She has a YouTube channel with playlists of stories geared towards school aged children. She is also on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. Living in rural Montana makes traveling to live performances difficult, but she has high hopes of building her online brand and connecting with children and adults all over the world through the power of story. Here we go with Miss Mo!<br />
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From This Episode<br />
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Storytelling festivals are LEGIT! If you do a google search, you will find one near you, and they look amazing! I am seriously excited to check these out!<br />
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Here are some festivals Morgen mentioned:<br />
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National Storytelling Festival in Jonesborough, TN: http://www.storytellingcenter.net/festival/<br />
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Mount Timpanogos Storytelling Festival: https://timpfest.org<br />
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More festivals: http://www.sostoryfest.com/festivals.html<br />
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Storytellers Morgen tells us about:<br />
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Laura Simms http://www.laurasimms.com<br />
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Bil Lepp https://www.leppstorytelling.com<br />
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Kim Weitkamp http://www.kimweitkamp.com<br />
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Sam Payne https://www.sampayne.com/home<br />
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The Moth on NPR https://www.themoth.org<br />
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Jane Yolen Folktales http://janeyolen.com/works/favorite-folktales-from-around-the-world/<br />
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Why Storytelling:<br />
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Stories connect families, our past, our identity, our experiences. Our stories are what make up our family culture.<br />
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Storytelling is also a way to develop cognitive skills as a means of working our brains to remember things, which is why storytelling is so cultural. Storytelling is how family history and culture is perpetuated because they are easier to remember.<br />
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Stories help us learn about conflict resolution, and connect us with the heroes in the stories, too.<br />
<br />
Storytelling and The Well-Educated Heart with Marlene Peterson http://librariesofhope.com/storytelling.html<br />
<br />
A way of keeping track of your family stories is with a five year journal, where you write down a line each day and then you come to it for five years recording one line each day. It's a great way to capture the snippets of life over a long time period.<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 042: Crystal Paschal on Raising Readershttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-042-crystal-paschal/
Tue, 29 May 2018 09:00:50 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3138Crystal Paschal is a wife, mom of 3 boys, and a teacher-turned-homeschooling parent. She’s also the bookworm behind Fundamental Children’s Books, an online resource that helps parents find great books for their kids. Crystal loves to read (of course!), and she also loves running, crochet, and a good cup of coffee. You can find her online at itsfundamental.info.
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From this episode
Crystal and I discuss why reading is so important to our family culture.
Reading to our children is like glue that brings us together to have a shared experience. Reading conveys to our children that reading is an important value. Reading books that express our values also helps teach our children those values, such as empathy, or resilience.
Start making reading a habit, even if it's just five minutes a day. Put away that shame that you aren't doing enough if you aren't reading the "right" amount or at the "right" times. The right amount, and the right times, are the amounts and times that work for your family.
Audiobooks can be a great way to get into reading. There are lots of ways to access great audiobooks. Of course there's Audible, or you can use your local library app to borrow audiobooks, and CDs from the library. Or you could check out LibriVox.org where you can access any public domain audiobooks. (Side note: I gave volunteering at LibriVox a try, and you can listen to my chapter (15) in Little Women, here).
We like to listen to books while we're doing chores, having quiet play time, or while we're driving.
This is the bluetooth transmitter I use for my car since it did not come with bluetooth already, and it has been great! Nulaxy Bluetooth Car FM Transmitter Audio Adapter Receiver Wireless Handsfree Car Kit W 1.44 Inch Display - KM18 Black
You can pick just about any Bluetooth Speaker that you like, just make sure to check the reviews carefully, and pick one that's fair quality. We have found that the AmazonBasics Portable Wireless Bluetooth Speaker is working great for us. I don't have any complaints so far.
Crystal's recommendation for reading aloud:
The cool thing about this book is that it serves as a check list, and a journal for your kids to record their thoughts about the books!
A few more resources that offer great books lists (click the image to get the book):
Also, Institute for Excellence in Writing, iew.com has great resources.
One of my favorites: LibrariesofHope.com
Connect with Crystal:
Website
Facebook
Instagram
Twitter
Pinterest
Crystal Paschal is a wife, mom of 3 boys, and a teacher-turned-homeschooling parent. She’s also the bookworm behind Fundamental Children’s Books, an online resource that helps parents find great books for their kids. Crystal loves to read (of course!Crystal Paschal is a wife, mom of 3 boys, and a teacher-turned-homeschooling parent. She’s also the bookworm behind Fundamental Children’s Books, an online resource that helps parents find great books for their kids. Crystal loves to read (of course!), and she also loves running, crochet, and a good cup of coffee. You can find her online at itsfundamental.info.<br />
This post contains affiliate links. Click here to read my disclosure statement.<br />
From this episode<br />
<br />
Crystal and I discuss why reading is so important to our family culture.<br />
<br />
Reading to our children is like glue that brings us together to have a shared experience. Reading conveys to our children that reading is an important value. Reading books that express our values also helps teach our children those values, such as empathy, or resilience.<br />
<br />
Start making reading a habit, even if it's just five minutes a day. Put away that shame that you aren't doing enough if you aren't reading the "right" amount or at the "right" times. The right amount, and the right times, are the amounts and times that work for your family. <br />
<br />
Audiobooks can be a great way to get into reading. There are lots of ways to access great audiobooks. Of course there's Audible, or you can use your local library app to borrow audiobooks, and CDs from the library. Or you could check out LibriVox.org where you can access any public domain audiobooks. (Side note: I gave volunteering at LibriVox a try, and you can listen to my chapter (15) in Little Women, here).<br />
We like to listen to books while we're doing chores, having quiet play time, or while we're driving.<br />
<br />
This is the bluetooth transmitter I use for my car since it did not come with bluetooth already, and it has been great! Nulaxy Bluetooth Car FM Transmitter Audio Adapter Receiver Wireless Handsfree Car Kit W 1.44 Inch Display - KM18 Black<br />
<br />
You can pick just about any Bluetooth Speaker that you like, just make sure to check the reviews carefully, and pick one that's fair quality. We have found that the AmazonBasics Portable Wireless Bluetooth Speaker is working great for us. I don't have any complaints so far.<br />
<br />
<br />
Crystal's recommendation for reading aloud:<br />
<br />
The cool thing about this book is that it serves as a check list, and a journal for your kids to record their thoughts about the books!<br />
<br />
A few more resources that offer great books lists (click the image to get the book):<br />
<br />
<br />
Also, Institute for Excellence in Writing, iew.com has great resources.<br />
<br />
One of my favorites: LibrariesofHope.com<br />
<br />
Connect with Crystal:<br />
<br />
Website<br />
<br />
Facebook<br />
<br />
Instagram<br />
<br />
Twitter<br />
<br />
Pinterest<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 041: Results of the LDSHE East Homeschool Conferencehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-041-ldshe-east-2018/
Tue, 22 May 2018 09:00:12 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3117This Post Contains No Affiliate Links
I did something a little different for this episode. I went to a homeschool conference in Williamsburg last week run by the Latter-day Saint Home Educators (LDSHE). I volunteered to help organize the conference this year, so I had the chance to get a behind-the-scenes look at the conference. I was even given the chance to speak at the conference in the Beginners' Seminar on homeschool philosophies. You can view my slides here. And, you can listen if you purchase the audio here.
I had the opportunity at the end of the conference to ask a small handful of attendees how they felt about the conference, and how they will apply what they have learned to their family culture.
There is quite a bit of ambient noise from the crowds, but I used some quiet ambient music to cover it up a little bit!
The overall message I got from the conference this year is the need we all have for mentors. When parents are starting out, we need an experienced mentor who can help us with this transition to parenthood who is compassionate, and not overbearing. Any time we are making a change into something that is new, we need someone to coach us into learning about the rules, or helping us understand ourselves as we cope with the change. Homeschooling is definitely one of those things. I'm grateful for the women I met last week that I see as mentors helping me process all the information that is out there vying for my attention.
Isn't it so true that there are so many different factors trying to change our values or trying to pull at our attention? Being able to process all of this information is helping me to filter out what is really important and ignore the rest. That is truly what it takes to form a thriving family culture. When we flesh out our mission statement, our family vision, or intentions, we are basically saying that this is what defines our family based on our identity and values.
When you and your spouse come from two different backgrounds, coming together to get clear on your family culture helps you agree what will work for your family, and what won't. It's important that we have that conversation to help us be more intentional about our family culture. We need to get clear on our identity and goals as a family, and the rest will fall into place.
I think that you will find this episode uplifting, even if you don't homeschool your children. And, if you are considering homeschool, let me reassure you there is lots of support here for you.
Thank you for listening.This Post Contains No Affiliate Links I did something a little different for this episode. I went to a homeschool conference in Williamsburg last week run by the Latter-day Saint Home Educators (LDSHE). I volunteered to help organize the conference th...This Post Contains No Affiliate Links<br />
I did something a little different for this episode. I went to a homeschool conference in Williamsburg last week run by the Latter-day Saint Home Educators (LDSHE). I volunteered to help organize the conference this year, so I had the chance to get a behind-the-scenes look at the conference. I was even given the chance to speak at the conference in the Beginners' Seminar on homeschool philosophies. You can view my slides here. And, you can listen if you purchase the audio here.<br />
<br />
I had the opportunity at the end of the conference to ask a small handful of attendees how they felt about the conference, and how they will apply what they have learned to their family culture.<br />
<br />
There is quite a bit of ambient noise from the crowds, but I used some quiet ambient music to cover it up a little bit!<br />
<br />
The overall message I got from the conference this year is the need we all have for mentors. When parents are starting out, we need an experienced mentor who can help us with this transition to parenthood who is compassionate, and not overbearing. Any time we are making a change into something that is new, we need someone to coach us into learning about the rules, or helping us understand ourselves as we cope with the change. Homeschooling is definitely one of those things. I'm grateful for the women I met last week that I see as mentors helping me process all the information that is out there vying for my attention.<br />
<br />
Isn't it so true that there are so many different factors trying to change our values or trying to pull at our attention? Being able to process all of this information is helping me to filter out what is really important and ignore the rest. That is truly what it takes to form a thriving family culture. When we flesh out our mission statement, our family vision, or intentions, we are basically saying that this is what defines our family based on our identity and values.<br />
<br />
When you and your spouse come from two different backgrounds, coming together to get clear on your family culture helps you agree what will work for your family, and what won't. It's important that we have that conversation to help us be more intentional about our family culture. We need to get clear on our identity and goals as a family, and the rest will fall into place.<br />
<br />
I think that you will find this episode uplifting, even if you don't homeschool your children. And, if you are considering homeschool, let me reassure you there is lots of support here for you.<br />
<br />
Thank you for listening.Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 040 Linda McGurk: Rain or Shine – the Importance of Outdoor Playhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-040-linda-mcgurk/
Tue, 15 May 2018 09:00:28 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3074Linda Åkeson McGurk is a Swedish-American journalist and author of the parenting memoir There’s No Such Thing As Bad Weather: A Scandinavian Mom’s Secrets for Raising Healthy, Resilient, and Confident Kids (from Friluftsliv to Hygge). She believes that the best childhood memories are created outside, while jumping in puddles, digging in dirt, catching bugs and climbing trees. McGurk blogs about connecting between children and nature at Rain or Shine Mamma, and hopes to inspire other parents and caregivers to get outside with their children every day, regardless of the weather.
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American culture has less emphasis on outdoor play and free play. Americans are over-scheduled and place a greater emphasis on academics.
Sweden makes outdoor play mandated by law. Childhood and preschool is seen as the time for free play. Swedish children have fewer problems with childhood obesity and mental/cognitive disorders.
Playing outdoors increases physical and mental health.
Free play allows children to get creating, and problem solve, and conflict resolution.
Being bored allows space for kids to develop their creativity. This means that we need to intentionally allow them to have unstructured time in their day, without access to electronics or personal devices.
There is a push for things to always be educational which makes parents feel insecure about unstructured time, but actually, there are many, many benefits of unstructured time.
Electronics. The antidote to electronics and virtual reality is establishing a sense of identity outside of their virtual identity. Giving our kids a foundation of being outdoors and being connected with nature allows them the space to connect with their identity, and gives them space to appreciate their own capacity to create and have free time. This prepares kids to have a sense of being grounded in their identity, and prepares them to not center their lives so much around their electronic devices.
Friluftsliv is this idea of spending time together as a family outdoors. It is most often used during the summer time. Hygge is the feeling of warm coziness, often around some form of glowing light or fire. These are part of the Swedish culture that has been perpetuated in folk lore and generations of practice and stories.
We can reproduce these practices by making outdoor time a part of our family culture, preparing for larger excursions out of doors, and creating family stories.
The closest thing I could think of that could be similar to higgle is nostalgia, but I don't think that quite captures it either. Nostalgia can be almost any kind of experience that creates a longing for a time in the past, but hygge is a practice of creating those feelings now.
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Linda Åkeson McGurk is a Swedish-American journalist and author of the parenting memoir There’s No Such Thing As Bad Weather: A Scandinavian Mom’s Secrets for Raising Healthy, Resilient, and Confident Kids (from Friluftsliv to Hygge).Linda Åkeson McGurk is a Swedish-American journalist and author of the parenting memoir There’s No Such Thing As Bad Weather: A Scandinavian Mom’s Secrets for Raising Healthy, Resilient, and Confident Kids (from Friluftsliv to Hygge). She believes that the best childhood memories are created outside, while jumping in puddles, digging in dirt, catching bugs and climbing trees. McGurk blogs about connecting between children and nature at Rain or Shine Mamma, and hopes to inspire other parents and caregivers to get outside with their children every day, regardless of the weather.<br />
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From this Episode<br />
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American culture has less emphasis on outdoor play and free play. Americans are over-scheduled and place a greater emphasis on academics. <br />
<br />
Sweden makes outdoor play mandated by law. Childhood and preschool is seen as the time for free play. Swedish children have fewer problems with childhood obesity and mental/cognitive disorders.<br />
<br />
Playing outdoors increases physical and mental health.<br />
<br />
Free play allows children to get creating, and problem solve, and conflict resolution.<br />
<br />
Being bored allows space for kids to develop their creativity. This means that we need to intentionally allow them to have unstructured time in their day, without access to electronics or personal devices.<br />
<br />
There is a push for things to always be educational which makes parents feel insecure about unstructured time, but actually, there are many, many benefits of unstructured time.<br />
<br />
Electronics. The antidote to electronics and virtual reality is establishing a sense of identity outside of their virtual identity. Giving our kids a foundation of being outdoors and being connected with nature allows them the space to connect with their identity, and gives them space to appreciate their own capacity to create and have free time. This prepares kids to have a sense of being grounded in their identity, and prepares them to not center their lives so much around their electronic devices.<br />
<br />
Friluftsliv is this idea of spending time together as a family outdoors. It is most often used during the summer time. Hygge is the feeling of warm coziness, often around some form of glowing light or fire. These are part of the Swedish culture that has been perpetuated in folk lore and generations of practice and stories.<br />
<br />
We can reproduce these practices by making outdoor time a part of our family culture, preparing for larger excursions out of doors, and creating family stories.<br />
<br />
The closest thing I could think of that could be similar to higgle is nostalgia, but I don't think that quite captures it either. Nostalgia can be almost any kind of experience that creates a longing for a time in the past, but hygge is a practice of creating those feelings now.<br />
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Twitter<br />
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Book: There’s No Such Thing As Bad Weather: A Scandinavian Mom’s Secrets for Raising Healthy, Resilient, and Confident Kids (from Friluftsliv to Hygge)<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 039: Kelly Stanley – Our Energy IS Our Family Culturehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-039-kelly-stanley/
Tue, 08 May 2018 09:00:38 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=3007Kelly Stanley has a M.A. degree in Clinical Psychology and is a Certified Professional Coach. She has been a Psychology Professor for 12 years and a mother for 13 years. Her coaching practice, Rising Up, provides mental wellness coaching to help moms deal with the mental load of motherhood.
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From This Episode Mothers play a significant role in shaping their family culture. Kelly's advice on how moms can be more confident in their role, and manage the stress and pressure are the following:
Get clear on your values and your vision, and your aspirations.
Be grounded in your own identity.
Use self-care as an opportunity to get in tune with your abundance, and fill your self.
Get clear about your boundaries.
Learn how to interact with people that doesn't compromise or sacrifice who we are.
When are firm about boundaries, we can know where to delegate responsibilities, what our limits are, how we can balance the responsibilities to share the load, and also manage the times when we feel inadequate and give ourselves some grace. The energy we bring to our family is the underlying family culture that our family feels. What we bring to our family energetically is our family culture!
"If I'm working on me, and I'm trying to be the best human I can be, that's enough!"
Reading is a form of self-care and modeling your abundance mindset, and growth mentality.
Recommended Books:
Just read! :)
Any of Brené Brown's work.
"No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame" by Janet Lansbury
"The Self-Aware Parent: 19 Lessons for Growing with Your Children" by Cathy Cassani Adams
"The Self-Aware Parent Two: 23 More Lessons for Growing With Your Children" by Cathy Cassani Adams
"Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn: The Power of Self-Aware Parenting" by Cathy Cassani Adams
"The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children" by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
"Middle School Makeover: Improving the Way You and Your Child Experience the Middle School Years" by Michelle Icard
"The Available Parent: Expert Advice for Raising Successful and Resilient Teens and Tweens" By Dr. John Duffy
And, for some fun reading: Liane Moriarty books
Where to Find Kelly:
Rising Up Coach
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From This Episode Mothers play a significant role in shaping their family culture. Kelly's advice on how moms can be more confident in their role, and manage the stress and pressure are the following:<br />
<br />
Get clear on your values and your vision, and your aspirations.<br />
Be grounded in your own identity.<br />
Use self-care as an opportunity to get in tune with your abundance, and fill your self.<br />
Get clear about your boundaries.<br />
Learn how to interact with people that doesn't compromise or sacrifice who we are.<br />
<br />
When are firm about boundaries, we can know where to delegate responsibilities, what our limits are, how we can balance the responsibilities to share the load, and also manage the times when we feel inadequate and give ourselves some grace. The energy we bring to our family is the underlying family culture that our family feels. What we bring to our family energetically is our family culture!<br />
"If I'm working on me, and I'm trying to be the best human I can be, that's enough!"<br />
Reading is a form of self-care and modeling your abundance mindset, and growth mentality.<br />
<br />
Recommended Books:<br />
<br />
Just read! :)<br />
<br />
Any of Brené Brown's work.<br />
<br />
"No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame" by Janet Lansbury<br />
<br />
"The Self-Aware Parent: 19 Lessons for Growing with Your Children" by Cathy Cassani Adams<br />
<br />
"The Self-Aware Parent Two: 23 More Lessons for Growing With Your Children" by Cathy Cassani Adams<br />
<br />
"Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn: The Power of Self-Aware Parenting" by Cathy Cassani Adams<br />
<br />
"The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children" by Dr. Shefali Tsabary<br />
<br />
"Middle School Makeover: Improving the Way You and Your Child Experience the Middle School Years" by Michelle Icard<br />
<br />
"The Available Parent: Expert Advice for Raising Successful and Resilient Teens and Tweens" By Dr. John Duffy<br />
<br />
And, for some fun reading: Liane Moriarty books<br />
<br />
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Rising Up Coach<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 038: Corrie Wiedmann & Kelsa DeBrabant on Teaching & Modeling Resiliencehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-038-corrie-wiedmann-kelsa-debrabant/
Tue, 01 May 2018 09:00:24 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2972Corrie is a mom, educator and entrepreneur at heart. She has a degree in elementary education and psychology and has spent years working in the field of education. Kelsa is a mom, designer and teacher that has spent years working in the mental health field. In 2013 she launched her first business, Happy Patches.
Wonder Crate is an educational box for kids that promotes social emotional learning. Kids gain real world skills to be more confident, manage emotions, embrace challenges, increase social skills and stay positive. Skills are developed with the help of a book, fun activities, an online lesson and tips and resources for parents. www.wondercratekids.com
Wonder Crate Mission: To teach all children the social and emotional skills that will empower them to explore their world, challenge their current abilities, look for ways to make the world a better place, and expect their own efforts WILL change the future!
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From This Episode
So many amazing tips and tools about how to help our kids develop resilience.
Often, we are tempted to shelter our kids from pain and struggle, but actually, those challenges they face each day are there to help them develop their ability to face obstacles as opportunities to grow!
I love the Kelsa described resilience as a muscle that we develop through practice and expose to challenges. We are not talking about dangerous challenges, just daily tasks that create frustration, like learning to tie their shoes, do their homework, or finish a chore. When we jump in to do it, it's like telling them we will do their workout for them!
Can you imagine going to the gym with your kids and telling them, step away from that barbell, I will lift that for you?!
We develop resilience just like we would our muscles with practice, with working on our mindset to see challenges as opportunities rather than setbacks.
Resilience is "the power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., afterbeing bent, compressed, or stretched" (dictionary.com). The ability to recover from a challenge is something that needs to be practiced, like a skill that needs to be learned, or a muscle that needs to be developed.
Parents also model for kids how to cope with challenges. Being resilient is about recovery, and it is also about coping: recognizing when we are having strong feelings, and then modeling appropriate ways to deal with them. Perhaps you cope by going for a walk, or talking out your feelings with your own parents, friend, or spouse.
These soft skills are part of learning how to parent, too. Something I have learned is that I have to be able to model resilience so that I can teach my kids how to develop that skill, too! That is the challenge! We can also talk about the challenges we face, how we feel about our mistakes, and how we are facing the issue. When you talk about "highs and lows" at the dinner table, for example, you can talk about how the lows are challenges that are a part of life, and discuss how to cope with them.
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Wonder Crate is all about empowering children! This goal directs every decision we make, from what topics they cover, to who they partner with, to the individual items we include in each box. They want to teach ALL children the social and emotional skills that will empower them to explore their world, challenge their current abilities, look for ways to make the world a better place, and expect their own efforts WILL change the future!
Wonder Crate Kids mission is to help you raise kids that are:
Eager to take on challenges
Confident in social situations
Believe in themselves
Aware of the feelings of others
Able to regulate their emotions
Open to new ideas and experiences
Passionate about using their skills to make the world a better place
Corrie is a mom, educator and entrepreneur at heart. She has a degree in elementary education and psychology and has spent years working in the field of education. Kelsa is a mom, designer and teacher that has spent years working in the mental health f...Corrie is a mom, educator and entrepreneur at heart. She has a degree in elementary education and psychology and has spent years working in the field of education. Kelsa is a mom, designer and teacher that has spent years working in the mental health field. In 2013 she launched her first business, Happy Patches.<br />
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Wonder Crate is an educational box for kids that promotes social emotional learning. Kids gain real world skills to be more confident, manage emotions, embrace challenges, increase social skills and stay positive. Skills are developed with the help of a book, fun activities, an online lesson and tips and resources for parents. www.wondercratekids.com<br />
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Wonder Crate Mission: To teach all children the social and emotional skills that will empower them to explore their world, challenge their current abilities, look for ways to make the world a better place, and expect their own efforts WILL change the future!<br />
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So many amazing tips and tools about how to help our kids develop resilience.<br />
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Often, we are tempted to shelter our kids from pain and struggle, but actually, those challenges they face each day are there to help them develop their ability to face obstacles as opportunities to grow!<br />
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I love the Kelsa described resilience as a muscle that we develop through practice and expose to challenges. We are not talking about dangerous challenges, just daily tasks that create frustration, like learning to tie their shoes, do their homework, or finish a chore. When we jump in to do it, it's like telling them we will do their workout for them!<br />
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Can you imagine going to the gym with your kids and telling them, step away from that barbell, I will lift that for you?!<br />
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We develop resilience just like we would our muscles with practice, with working on our mindset to see challenges as opportunities rather than setbacks.<br />
<br />
Resilience is "the power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., afterbeing bent, compressed, or stretched" (dictionary.com). The ability to recover from a challenge is something that needs to be practiced, like a skill that needs to be learned, or a muscle that needs to be developed.<br />
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Parents also model for kids how to cope with challenges. Being resilient is about recovery, and it is also about coping: recognizing when we are having strong feelings, and then modeling appropriate ways to deal with them. Perhaps you cope by going for a walk, or talking out your feelings with your own parents, friend, or spouse.<br />
<br />
These soft skills are part of learning how to parent, too. Something I have learned is that I have to be able to model resilience so that I can teach my kids how to develop that skill, too! That is the challenge! We can also talk about the challenges we face, how we feel about our mistakes, and how we are facing the issue. When you talk about "highs and lows" at the dinner table, for example, you can talk about how the lows are challenges that are a part of life, and discuss how to cope with them.<br />
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Find Corrie and Kelsa<br />
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Wonder Crate Kids<br />
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Facebook<br />
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Instagram<br />
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Pinterest<br />
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Twitter<br />
<br />
About Wonder Crate Kids<br />
Wonder Crate is all about empowering children! This goal directs every decision we make, from what topics they cover, to who they partner with, to the individual items we include in each box. They want to teach ALL children the social and emotional skills that will empower them to explore their world, challenge their current abilities, look for ways to make the world a better place, and expect their own efforts WILL change the future!<br />
Wonder Crate Kids mission is to help you raise kids that are:<br />
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Eager to take on challenges<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 037: Solo – Why I Home Educate My Kidshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-037-solo-why-i-home-educate-my-kids/
Tue, 24 Apr 2018 09:00:48 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2887This Post Contains Affiliate Links
From this Episode:
I am discussing why I homeschool and what philosophies have influenced my methods. Listed below are a few of the sites, resources, and books that have influenced me.
One thing I want to note that I didn't mention is that any of these values can be applied whether or not you homeschool! Intentional education happens in the home, it's true. BUT, you can do these things after school, weekends, at the dinner table, etc. The ideas I talk about are things that apply to family culture no matter what educational style your family follows. The important thing is the intentionality of it, the parental involvement, and guidance that kids receive to lead them toward a great education!
TJEd.org (Interview with Rachel DeMille)
WellEducatedHeart.com (Interview with Marlene Peterson)
Engaged Homeschooling withe Jeanne Faulconer
Math for Kids
Math Inspirations (Interview with Emily Dyke)
Mentoring Moms (Interview with Donna Goff)
Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HSLDA)
Home Education Council of America
Latter-day Saint Home Educators
World School Academy (Interview with Greg Denning)
"The Successful Homeschool Family Handbook" by Dr. Raymond and Dorothy Moore
Books by Raymond and Dorothy Moore
"The Read-Aloud Handbook" by Jim Trelease
"The Millionaire Fastlane" by MJ DeMarco (Interview with MJ DeMarco)
Books by John Holt
Books by Charlotte Mason
"For the Children's Sake: Foundations of Education for Home and School" by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay
More Recommended Books: Also check out my list at http://homeandfamilyculture.com/books
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From this Episode:<br />
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I am discussing why I homeschool and what philosophies have influenced my methods. Listed below are a few of the sites, resources, and books that have influenced me.<br />
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One thing I want to note that I didn't mention is that any of these values can be applied whether or not you homeschool! Intentional education happens in the home, it's true. BUT, you can do these things after school, weekends, at the dinner table, etc. The ideas I talk about are things that apply to family culture no matter what educational style your family follows. The important thing is the intentionality of it, the parental involvement, and guidance that kids receive to lead them toward a great education!<br />
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TJEd.org (Interview with Rachel DeMille)<br />
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WellEducatedHeart.com (Interview with Marlene Peterson)<br />
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Engaged Homeschooling withe Jeanne Faulconer<br />
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Math for Kids<br />
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Math Inspirations (Interview with Emily Dyke)<br />
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Mentoring Moms (Interview with Donna Goff)<br />
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Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HSLDA)<br />
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Home Education Council of America<br />
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Latter-day Saint Home Educators<br />
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World School Academy (Interview with Greg Denning)<br />
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"The Successful Homeschool Family Handbook" by Dr. Raymond and Dorothy Moore<br />
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Books by Raymond and Dorothy Moore<br />
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"The Read-Aloud Handbook" by Jim Trelease<br />
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"The Millionaire Fastlane" by MJ DeMarco (Interview with MJ DeMarco)<br />
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Books by John Holt<br />
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Books by Charlotte Mason<br />
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"For the Children's Sake: Foundations of Education for Home and School" by Susan Schaeffer Macaulay<br />
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More Recommended Books: Also check out my list at http://homeandfamilyculture.com/books<br />
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Tue, 17 Apr 2018 09:00:28 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2815Carol Danaher is Board President and Faculty at the Ellyn Satter Institute. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist with a Master in Public Health from Johns Hopkins. She co-founded the Childhood Feeding Collaborative, of Santa Clara County, CA, creating partnerships and training in feeding dynamics for pediatric service providers of all kinds. Carol worked at the national level at the United States Department of Agriculture evaluating child nutrition programs. She consults with childcare programs helping them design and establish positive feeding policies and environments. She is an experienced educator. Volunteer work in the 1970s in Jakarta, Indonesia led to her interest in Public Health. Carol was a Girl Scout leader for 12 years. Carol has two married child, and a toddler aged grand daughter.
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From This Episode Ellyn Satter has established an understanding of the "Division of Responsibility" when it comes to feeding our children:
Parents' role: WHAT, WHEN, WHERE to eat.
Child's role: IF, and HOW MUCH to eat.
Competent eating has to do with our ability to listen to our bodies' needs, perceiving satiety (fullness), and appetite. Social cues, or parents dictating whether a child should eat certain food, and how much, creates a power struggle. This pressure creates a dissonance between the parent-child relationship, and the child's capacity for eating competence. Most issues arise from either the parent or child taking over the other's role. When parents apply too much pressure, or when children are allowed to decide what and when to eat, there is confusion in the roles that make eating competence for effective. Families who eat together three to five times a week, regardless of what meal or what is being served, have been shown to be more resilient, and have a myriad of other benefits. Carol referred to a study done by Columbia University on the influence of family meals on adults likelihood toward substance abuse. And if you do a google search of the importance of family meal time, you will find lots of support! Here are a few references from the Ellyn Satter Institute site: "Not all family meals are perfect; eat together anyway" "How long should my child stay at the table" "Everybody does better with family meals" "Getting started with family meals" The definition of a family meal is just four key elements:
People sit down and face each other
the same food is offered everyone
the conversation is pleasant
no media distractions
Meals can be breakfast, take-out meals, anything that meets these four criteria. Meals need to reflect your family's needs, be regularly spaced, and regulated by parents. In the Ellyn Satter model, foods are not labeled good or bad. Sweets and treats are neutralized as neither good nor bad. Parents limit the amount of sweets allowed during a meal, and allow them occasionally without labeling them or rationalizing. It's ok to let our kids eat their holiday treats for the first couple of days! Check out an article on Halloween candy: "The sticky topic of Halloween candy" Kids will outgrow the desire to binge on treats when they are a non-issue. Tune in to this episode for even more tips and tools. Where to Find Ellyn Satter Institute ellynsatterinstitute.org Facebook Instagram Ellyn Satter Institute Webinars (Particularly, the "ABCs of Child Feeding") Recommended Books Ellyn Satter Books "Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook" by Ellyn Satter "Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense" by Ellyn Satter
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Carol Danaher is Board President and Faculty at the Ellyn Satter Institute. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist with a Master in Public Health from Johns Hopkins. She co-founded the Childhood Feeding Collaborative, of Santa Clara County, CA,Carol Danaher is Board President and Faculty at the Ellyn Satter Institute. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist with a Master in Public Health from Johns Hopkins. She co-founded the Childhood Feeding Collaborative, of Santa Clara County, CA, creating partnerships and training in feeding dynamics for pediatric service providers of all kinds. Carol worked at the national level at the United States Department of Agriculture evaluating child nutrition programs. She consults with childcare programs helping them design and establish positive feeding policies and environments. She is an experienced educator. Volunteer work in the 1970s in Jakarta, Indonesia led to her interest in Public Health. Carol was a Girl Scout leader for 12 years. Carol has two married child, and a toddler aged grand daughter.<br />
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From This Episode Ellyn Satter has established an understanding of the "Division of Responsibility" when it comes to feeding our children:<br />
Parents' role: WHAT, WHEN, WHERE to eat.<br />
Child's role: IF, and HOW MUCH to eat.<br />
Competent eating has to do with our ability to listen to our bodies' needs, perceiving satiety (fullness), and appetite. Social cues, or parents dictating whether a child should eat certain food, and how much, creates a power struggle. This pressure creates a dissonance between the parent-child relationship, and the child's capacity for eating competence. Most issues arise from either the parent or child taking over the other's role. When parents apply too much pressure, or when children are allowed to decide what and when to eat, there is confusion in the roles that make eating competence for effective. Families who eat together three to five times a week, regardless of what meal or what is being served, have been shown to be more resilient, and have a myriad of other benefits. Carol referred to a study done by Columbia University on the influence of family meals on adults likelihood toward substance abuse. And if you do a google search of the importance of family meal time, you will find lots of support! Here are a few references from the Ellyn Satter Institute site: "Not all family meals are perfect; eat together anyway" "How long should my child stay at the table" "Everybody does better with family meals" "Getting started with family meals" The definition of a family meal is just four key elements:<br />
<br />
People sit down and face each other<br />
the same food is offered everyone<br />
the conversation is pleasant<br />
no media distractions<br />
<br />
Meals can be breakfast, take-out meals, anything that meets these four criteria. Meals need to reflect your family's needs, be regularly spaced, and regulated by parents. In the Ellyn Satter model, foods are not labeled good or bad. Sweets and treats are neutralized as neither good nor bad. Parents limit the amount of sweets allowed during a meal, and allow them occasionally without labeling them or rationalizing. It's ok to let our kids eat their holiday treats for the first couple of days! Check out an article on Halloween candy: "The sticky topic of Halloween candy" Kids will outgrow the desire to binge on treats when they are a non-issue. Tune in to this episode for even more tips and tools. Where to Find Ellyn Satter Institute ellynsatterinstitute.org Facebook Instagram Ellyn Satter Institute Webinars (Particularly, the "ABCs of Child Feeding") Recommended Books Ellyn Satter Books "Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook" by Ellyn Satter "Child of Mine: Feeding with Love and Good Sense" by Ellyn Satter<br />
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Tue, 10 Apr 2018 09:00:16 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2779Kirstynn's daughter Nora started a business together called Nor's Macarons:
NORA’S MACARONS 11 year old Nora, has been baking the most delicious Italian style macarons since she was 8. Her spin on the delicate, and sophisticated little cookie, are exactly what you would expect from a tweenager. Her macarons are not only gorgeous and colorful, they taste amazing! She currently sells her macarons, at a local farmers market in Peoria, Arizona. She bakes towers of macarons for weddings, favors for baby showers, and all other special orders. Her biggest accomplishment of her young career is when Cover Girl contracted her for a very special event they were hosting for KODA modeling agency! Her mommager manages her social media, ordering, contracts and has been cheering her on all along the way. Nora has two younger brothers, she studies ballet, and has performed in the Nutcracker, Wizard of Oz, Tarzan, and Cinderella. She is a student mentor in her school, and hopes to join the honor program in middle school next year.
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From This Episode:
Nora became interested in Macarons when she was eight and it quickly evolved into a business when she was motivated to earn some money for herself.
Starting a business has taught Nora a variety of incredible skills: entrepreneurship, management and leadership, customer service, communication, networking, hiring, grit, resilience, and the process of starting and growing a business.
Kirstynn has learned that there are things that she has had to develop as a parent too. She has needed to learn patience, and especially how to truly be supportive. Often, our kids will burn out simply because we are nagging them! We tend to point out their weakness, and things that need to be improved, and forget to compliment and encourage their strengths. We are required to encourage their crazy ideas, too, and help them to experiment and try out new things by trial and error. I felt inspired by Kirstynn's experience of how she and Nora started their business.
There are so many resources and ideas that kids can start, and kids are often supported to start a business. My daughter talks about wanted to have a lemonade stand, or be a mother helper so that she can start her own business. It's my job to support her and encourage her, and find ways to help her find the resources that will help her, and encourage her crazy ideas!
I love this topic a lot because being an entrepreneur is a lot like being an intentional family culture.
You have to be intentional and you have to think about your values, and your vision. I love this quote from "E-Myth" by Michael E. Gerber: “I believe it’s true that the difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next … The difference between the two is living intentionally and living by accident.”
Starting a business may not be part of your family culture, but business culture will teach us a lot about our families and how we can model business and structure our family vision around how business structure their vision.
Where to find Nora's Marcarons:
Instagram
Facebook
Recommended Resources:
Udemy
Coursera
Books:
"The Millionaire Fastlane: Crack the Code to Wealth and Live Rich for a Lifetime" by MJ DeMarco
"Unscripted: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship" by MJ DeMarco
"The E-Myth Revisited: Why Most Business Don't Work and What to Do About It" by Michael E. Gerber
"Ecommerce Evolved: The Essential Playbook to Build, Grow, and Scale a Successful Ecommerce Business" by Tanner Larsson
"DotCom Secrets: The Underground Playbook for Growing Your Company Online" by Russell Brunson
"Rich Dad Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not!" by Robert Kiyosaki
Kirstynn's daughter Nora started a business together called Nor's Macarons: NORA’S MACARONS 11 year old Nora, has been baking the most delicious Italian style macarons since she was 8. Her spin on the delicate, and sophisticated little cookie,Kirstynn's daughter Nora started a business together called Nor's Macarons:<br />
NORA’S MACARONS 11 year old Nora, has been baking the most delicious Italian style macarons since she was 8. Her spin on the delicate, and sophisticated little cookie, are exactly what you would expect from a tweenager. Her macarons are not only gorgeous and colorful, they taste amazing! She currently sells her macarons, at a local farmers market in Peoria, Arizona. She bakes towers of macarons for weddings, favors for baby showers, and all other special orders. Her biggest accomplishment of her young career is when Cover Girl contracted her for a very special event they were hosting for KODA modeling agency! Her mommager manages her social media, ordering, contracts and has been cheering her on all along the way. Nora has two younger brothers, she studies ballet, and has performed in the Nutcracker, Wizard of Oz, Tarzan, and Cinderella. She is a student mentor in her school, and hopes to join the honor program in middle school next year.<br />
<br />
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From This Episode:<br />
<br />
Nora became interested in Macarons when she was eight and it quickly evolved into a business when she was motivated to earn some money for herself.<br />
<br />
Starting a business has taught Nora a variety of incredible skills: entrepreneurship, management and leadership, customer service, communication, networking, hiring, grit, resilience, and the process of starting and growing a business.<br />
<br />
Kirstynn has learned that there are things that she has had to develop as a parent too. She has needed to learn patience, and especially how to truly be supportive. Often, our kids will burn out simply because we are nagging them! We tend to point out their weakness, and things that need to be improved, and forget to compliment and encourage their strengths. We are required to encourage their crazy ideas, too, and help them to experiment and try out new things by trial and error. I felt inspired by Kirstynn's experience of how she and Nora started their business.<br />
<br />
There are so many resources and ideas that kids can start, and kids are often supported to start a business. My daughter talks about wanted to have a lemonade stand, or be a mother helper so that she can start her own business. It's my job to support her and encourage her, and find ways to help her find the resources that will help her, and encourage her crazy ideas!<br />
<br />
I love this topic a lot because being an entrepreneur is a lot like being an intentional family culture.<br />
<br />
You have to be intentional and you have to think about your values, and your vision. I love this quote from "E-Myth" by Michael E. Gerber: “I believe it’s true that the difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next … The difference between the two is living intentionally and living by accident.”<br />
<br />
Starting a business may not be part of your family culture, but business culture will teach us a lot about our families and how we can model business and structure our family vision around how business structure their vision.<br />
<br />
Where to find Nora's Marcarons:<br />
<br />
Instagram<br />
<br />
Facebook<br />
<br />
Recommended Resources:<br />
<br />
Udemy<br />
<br />
Coursera<br />
<br />
Books:<br />
<br />
"The Millionaire Fastlane: Crack the Code to Wealth and Live Rich for a Lifetime" by MJ DeMarco<br />
<br />
"Unscripted: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship" by MJ DeMarco<br />
<br />
"The E-Myth Revisited: Why Most Business Don't Work and What to Do About It" by Michael E. Gerber<br />
<br />
"Ecommerce Evolved: The Essential Playbook to Build, Grow, and Scale a Successful Ecommerce Business" by Tanner Larsson<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 034 Part 2: Waters + Bennett – Why Home Management is Important to Our Family Culturehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-034-part-2-waters-bennett/
Tue, 03 Apr 2018 09:05:59 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2681Brityn has a BA in English literature from BYU and a masters in library and information science from Catholic U (Washington, DC). She's a Jill of all trades, her resume including English teacher in Russia, Forest Service firefighter, lobbyist, and most recently, special collections work at the Virginia and Oklahoma Historical Societies. She has a medical resident husband and three young children.
Lee grew up in the Southern states and now resides outside of Richmond, Virginia with her husband Sam and three children. She attended undergraduate school at both BYU-Idaho (studying interior design) and BYU (studying art-education) before teaching art in the Utah school system. Lee worked at two universities in Virginia prior to and while attending graduate school at VIrginia Commonwealth University. She owns her own interior design company, but is currently on an undetermined length break from it while she pursues raising her children and blogging about solutions for parents.
Waters + Bennett is our solutions guide to staying present and collected while parenting in the 21st century.
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From This Episode
Brityn is selective about what she allows into her space
Wants the time she’s influencing her kids to count.
"The Stories That Bind Us" Discusses how family culture is our stories and our family history. These are what create resilience.
White noise concept: so much noise to fill our time with that we have to be willing to filter out the noise so that the messages we want to send to our kids doesn’t get drowned out.
You know what a family’s culture is when they have specific characteristics that you identify with that family. Refer to themselves as a team, e.g. “Team Smith”
Families come with a particular flavor, family culture is like your brand
Similar Content: Episode 030 with Kimberly Amici of The Family Culture Project
Stuff is not the priority. Breaking home management down into bite-sized chunks allows you to fit it in without it consuming your life.
Simplify makes it easier to focus on what’s important, it allows us to slow down and make it easier to train our kids how to manage a home because it’s just easier (whether you have toddlers or teens, this applies)
Take inventory and troubleshoot regularly to make sure that you are where you want to be with regard to maintenance and routines
Challenge to maintaining: consistency. We fall prey to reward ourselves when it seems like we are doing ok, and then we quickly fall behind.
Having systems in place allows you to break down the jobs to manageable chunks so we can spend more quality time with our families.
Be aware of the big picture and what your priorities are
Know your character so you can know what your needs are.
The Tendency Test by Gretchen Rubin
Simply Organized
Clean My Space - Decluttering and Organizing
Real Simple Cleaning Calendar
7 Habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey
Happiness project by Gretchen Rubin
Happier at home by Gretchen Rubin
Fly Lady
3 in 30 Podcast
Dressing Your Truth with Carol Tuttle
Connect With Lee and Brityn
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Brityn has a BA in English literature from BYU and a masters in library and information science from Catholic U (Washington, DC). She's a Jill of all trades, her resume including English teacher in Russia, Forest Service firefighter, lobbyist,Brityn has a BA in English literature from BYU and a masters in library and information science from Catholic U (Washington, DC). She's a Jill of all trades, her resume including English teacher in Russia, Forest Service firefighter, lobbyist, and most recently, special collections work at the Virginia and Oklahoma Historical Societies. She has a medical resident husband and three young children.<br />
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Lee grew up in the Southern states and now resides outside of Richmond, Virginia with her husband Sam and three children. She attended undergraduate school at both BYU-Idaho (studying interior design) and BYU (studying art-education) before teaching art in the Utah school system. Lee worked at two universities in Virginia prior to and while attending graduate school at VIrginia Commonwealth University. She owns her own interior design company, but is currently on an undetermined length break from it while she pursues raising her children and blogging about solutions for parents.<br />
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Waters + Bennett is our solutions guide to staying present and collected while parenting in the 21st century.<br />
<br />
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From This Episode<br />
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Brityn is selective about what she allows into her space<br />
<br />
Wants the time she’s influencing her kids to count.<br />
<br />
"The Stories That Bind Us" Discusses how family culture is our stories and our family history. These are what create resilience.<br />
<br />
White noise concept: so much noise to fill our time with that we have to be willing to filter out the noise so that the messages we want to send to our kids doesn’t get drowned out.<br />
<br />
You know what a family’s culture is when they have specific characteristics that you identify with that family. Refer to themselves as a team, e.g. “Team Smith”<br />
<br />
Families come with a particular flavor, family culture is like your brand<br />
Similar Content: Episode 030 with Kimberly Amici of The Family Culture Project<br />
Stuff is not the priority. Breaking home management down into bite-sized chunks allows you to fit it in without it consuming your life.<br />
<br />
Simplify makes it easier to focus on what’s important, it allows us to slow down and make it easier to train our kids how to manage a home because it’s just easier (whether you have toddlers or teens, this applies)<br />
<br />
Take inventory and troubleshoot regularly to make sure that you are where you want to be with regard to maintenance and routines<br />
<br />
Challenge to maintaining: consistency. We fall prey to reward ourselves when it seems like we are doing ok, and then we quickly fall behind.<br />
<br />
Having systems in place allows you to break down the jobs to manageable chunks so we can spend more quality time with our families.<br />
<br />
Be aware of the big picture and what your priorities are<br />
<br />
Know your character so you can know what your needs are.<br />
<br />
The Tendency Test by Gretchen Rubin<br />
<br />
Simply Organized<br />
<br />
Clean My Space - Decluttering and Organizing<br />
<br />
Real Simple Cleaning Calendar<br />
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7 Habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey<br />
<br />
Happiness project by Gretchen Rubin<br />
<br />
Happier at home by Gretchen Rubin<br />
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Fly Lady<br />
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3 in 30 Podcast<br />
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Dressing Your Truth with Carol Tuttle<br />
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#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; } /* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 034 Part 1: Waters + Bennett – Why Home Management is Important to Our Family Culturehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-034-part-1-waters-bennett/
Tue, 03 Apr 2018 09:00:56 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2680Brityn has a BA in English literature from BYU and a masters in library and information science from Catholic U (Washington, DC). She's a Jill of all trades, her resume including English teacher in Russia, Forest Service firefighter, lobbyist, and most recently, special collections work at the Virginia and Oklahoma Historical Societies. She has a medical resident husband and three young children.
Lee grew up in the Southern states and now resides outside of Richmond, Virginia with her husband Sam and three children. She attended undergraduate school at both BYU-Idaho (studying interior design) and BYU (studying art-education) before teaching art in the Utah school system. Lee worked at two universities in Virginia prior to and while attending graduate school at VIrginia Commonwealth University. She owns her own interior design company, but is currently on an undetermined length break from it while she pursues raising her children and blogging about solutions for parents.
Waters + Bennett is our solutions guide to staying present and collected while parenting in the 21st century.
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From This Episode
Brityn is selective about what she allows into her space
Wants the time she’s influencing her kids to count.
"The Stories That Bind Us" Discusses how family culture is our stories and our family history. These are what create resilience.
White noise concept: so much noise to fill our time with that we have to be willing to filter out the noise so that the messages we want to send to our kids doesn’t get drowned out.
You know what a family’s culture is when they have specific characteristics that you identify with that family. Refer to themselves as a team, e.g. “Team Smith”
Families come with a particular flavor, family culture is like your brand
Similar Content: Episode 030 with Kimberly Amici of The Family Culture Project
Stuff is not the priority. Breaking home management down into bite-sized chunks allows you to fit it in without it consuming your life.
Simplify makes it easier to focus on what’s important, it allows us to slow down and make it easier to train our kids how to manage a home because it’s just easier (whether you have toddlers or teens, this applies)
Take inventory and troubleshoot regularly to make sure that you are where you want to be with regard to maintenance and routines
Challenge to maintaining: consistency. We fall prey to reward ourselves when it seems like we are doing ok, and then we quickly fall behind.
Having systems in place allows you to break down the jobs to manageable chunks so we can spend more quality time with our families.
Be aware of the big picture and what your priorities are
Know your character so you can know what your needs are.
The Tendency Test by Gretchen Rubin
Simply Organized
Clean My Space - Decluttering and Organizing
Real Simple Cleaning Calendar
7 Habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey
Happiness project by Gretchen Rubin
Happier at home by Gretchen Rubin
Fly Lady
3 in 30 Podcast
Dressing Your Truth with Carol Tuttle
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Brityn has a BA in English literature from BYU and a masters in library and information science from Catholic U (Washington, DC). She's a Jill of all trades, her resume including English teacher in Russia, Forest Service firefighter, lobbyist,Brityn has a BA in English literature from BYU and a masters in library and information science from Catholic U (Washington, DC). She's a Jill of all trades, her resume including English teacher in Russia, Forest Service firefighter, lobbyist, and most recently, special collections work at the Virginia and Oklahoma Historical Societies. She has a medical resident husband and three young children.<br />
<br />
Lee grew up in the Southern states and now resides outside of Richmond, Virginia with her husband Sam and three children. She attended undergraduate school at both BYU-Idaho (studying interior design) and BYU (studying art-education) before teaching art in the Utah school system. Lee worked at two universities in Virginia prior to and while attending graduate school at VIrginia Commonwealth University. She owns her own interior design company, but is currently on an undetermined length break from it while she pursues raising her children and blogging about solutions for parents.<br />
<br />
Waters + Bennett is our solutions guide to staying present and collected while parenting in the 21st century.<br />
<br />
This Post Contains Affiliate Links<br />
From This Episode<br />
<br />
Brityn is selective about what she allows into her space<br />
<br />
Wants the time she’s influencing her kids to count.<br />
<br />
"The Stories That Bind Us" Discusses how family culture is our stories and our family history. These are what create resilience.<br />
<br />
White noise concept: so much noise to fill our time with that we have to be willing to filter out the noise so that the messages we want to send to our kids doesn’t get drowned out.<br />
<br />
You know what a family’s culture is when they have specific characteristics that you identify with that family. Refer to themselves as a team, e.g. “Team Smith”<br />
<br />
Families come with a particular flavor, family culture is like your brand<br />
Similar Content: Episode 030 with Kimberly Amici of The Family Culture Project<br />
Stuff is not the priority. Breaking home management down into bite-sized chunks allows you to fit it in without it consuming your life.<br />
<br />
Simplify makes it easier to focus on what’s important, it allows us to slow down and make it easier to train our kids how to manage a home because it’s just easier (whether you have toddlers or teens, this applies)<br />
<br />
Take inventory and troubleshoot regularly to make sure that you are where you want to be with regard to maintenance and routines<br />
<br />
Challenge to maintaining: consistency. We fall prey to reward ourselves when it seems like we are doing ok, and then we quickly fall behind.<br />
<br />
Having systems in place allows you to break down the jobs to manageable chunks so we can spend more quality time with our families.<br />
<br />
Be aware of the big picture and what your priorities are<br />
<br />
Know your character so you can know what your needs are.<br />
<br />
The Tendency Test by Gretchen Rubin<br />
<br />
Simply Organized<br />
<br />
Clean My Space - Decluttering and Organizing<br />
<br />
Real Simple Cleaning Calendar<br />
<br />
7 Habits of highly effective people by Stephen R. Covey<br />
<br />
Happiness project by Gretchen Rubin<br />
<br />
Happier at home by Gretchen Rubin<br />
<br />
Fly Lady<br />
<br />
3 in 30 Podcast<br />
<br />
Dressing Your Truth with Carol Tuttle<br />
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Connect With Lee and Brityn<br />
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Tue, 27 Mar 2018 09:00:03 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2606Kelli McCarty is a Marriage and Family Therapist and has worked as a School Counselor in both the San Francisco/Bay area and in Houston. Her experience includes working in a Waldorf school, Charter Schools, public schools and a top private college prep school. In addition to schools, Kelli also has experience in play therapy, individual and family therapy, and teaching social emotional curriculum.
Kelli has worked in schools and the mental health field for over ten years and has recently launched her new business, Toys with Intent; a site dedicated to providing social and emotional toys, products, and resources to children and teens. Her mission is to help parents raise children to be emotionally intelligent and to also help parents be intentional regarding the toys and products they bring in to their homes.
Kelli lives in Southern California with her husband and two children and you can find her on Facebook and Instagram.
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In December, I created a page for finding non-toy gift ideas, to reduce clutter, and also create a more intentional list of ideas for gifts. I love what Kelli is doing with Toys With Intent to help families find resources that are actually useful for our children's play time! The gifts we give, the toys we bring into our home are more than just stuff or clutter. If they aren't explicitly for the purpose of helping our kids develop, they could actually be harmful to their development. Kelli and I talk about some things that may be harmful, and some things that are better for encouraging soft skills, like empathy and emotional intelligence for our kids. Her site has lists of toys, books, and games that teach specific skills.
Family culture is about our norms and default behaviors. It can be so easy to just fall into patterns that leave us coasting without realizing what we are bringing into our homes. Before we get anything, it's important to pause and mindfully evaluate whether the things we consume actually serve our family and the values that we hold. Seek trusted advice to make sure that what you are getting is appropriate and useful. Keep in mind that, like being intentional about our family culture, being intentional about our gifts and toys may seem somewhat counter-cultural and sometimes hard to understand. Kelli's site is a great resource to help our families and friends understand what we want to accomplish when we tell them that we don't want gifts, and activities in our home that do not serve our family.
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Kelli has worked in schools and the mental health field for over ten years and has recently launched her new business, Toys with Intent; a site dedicated to providing social and emotional toys, products, and resources to children and teens. Her mission is to help parents raise children to be emotionally intelligent and to also help parents be intentional regarding the toys and products they bring in to their homes.<br />
<br />
Kelli lives in Southern California with her husband and two children and you can find her on Facebook and Instagram.<br />
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From This Episode:<br />
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In December, I created a page for finding non-toy gift ideas, to reduce clutter, and also create a more intentional list of ideas for gifts. I love what Kelli is doing with Toys With Intent to help families find resources that are actually useful for our children's play time! The gifts we give, the toys we bring into our home are more than just stuff or clutter. If they aren't explicitly for the purpose of helping our kids develop, they could actually be harmful to their development. Kelli and I talk about some things that may be harmful, and some things that are better for encouraging soft skills, like empathy and emotional intelligence for our kids. Her site has lists of toys, books, and games that teach specific skills.<br />
<br />
Family culture is about our norms and default behaviors. It can be so easy to just fall into patterns that leave us coasting without realizing what we are bringing into our homes. Before we get anything, it's important to pause and mindfully evaluate whether the things we consume actually serve our family and the values that we hold. Seek trusted advice to make sure that what you are getting is appropriate and useful. Keep in mind that, like being intentional about our family culture, being intentional about our gifts and toys may seem somewhat counter-cultural and sometimes hard to understand. Kelli's site is a great resource to help our families and friends understand what we want to accomplish when we tell them that we don't want gifts, and activities in our home that do not serve our family.<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 032: Lindsay Goulet – Exercise is so much more than self-care!https://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-032-lindsay-goulet/
Tue, 20 Mar 2018 09:00:23 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2518Dr. Lindsay Goulet is the founder of Hot Mama Health & Fitness Ltd, a fitness franchise company dedicated to building community through family fitness. She uses her Ph.D. in Exercise Physiology to motivate and inspire women to not only get active, eat well and become healthy role models but to also accept and love their bodies. Using the franchise system and finding incredible women to work with, Lindsay has been able to spread the word of family fitness from her home, with her kids right beside her.
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Lindsay's mom was an aerobics instructor so she grew up loving fitness and seeing it as a chance to be with friends doing something fun.
Exercise is not self care, it is essential care!
Exercise is mental care. Exercise is about giving yourself energy, improving your sleep, improving your health overall, aside from whether or not you lose weight.
You will not be in a worse mood when you get over a workout.
Exercise is a great way to diffuse anxiety. Lindsay has set an example for her kids that exercise is a stress relief.
Go for a walk with your kids to diffuse stress and it has a dual purpose: movement, and connection!
Our bodies are incredible!
Connect with Lindsay
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www.lindsaygee.ca
http://www.lindsaygee.ca/category/podcast/
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Lindsay's mom was an aerobics instructor so she grew up loving fitness and seeing it as a chance to be with friends doing something fun.<br />
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Exercise is not self care, it is essential care!<br />
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Exercise is mental care. Exercise is about giving yourself energy, improving your sleep, improving your health overall, aside from whether or not you lose weight.<br />
<br />
You will not be in a worse mood when you get over a workout.<br />
<br />
Exercise is a great way to diffuse anxiety. Lindsay has set an example for her kids that exercise is a stress relief.<br />
<br />
Go for a walk with your kids to diffuse stress and it has a dual purpose: movement, and connection!<br />
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Our bodies are incredible!<br />
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Safety Kids Class (Audio)<br />
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"Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World" by Cal Newport<br />
<br />
"You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life" by Jen Sincero<br />
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"Three Feet From Gold: Turn Your Obstacles in Opportunities" by Sharon L. Lechter and Greg S. Reid<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 031: Ann Visser – Some Things Are Worth Fighting Forhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-031-ann-visser/
Tue, 13 Mar 2018 09:00:41 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2388A late bloomer in business, Ann started a new adventure working with women as a relationship mentor, coach and speaker after raising her 5 kids. For the past 15 years, she’s helped ordinary women live their extraordinary lives by redefining their marriages, families and professional careers. Ann is a certified John C. Maxwell coach, mentor and speaker.
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Ann teaches women in a course based on the book "How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk" by John Van Epp. Our relationships can shape the course of our lives.
Family culture is the vehicle that takes us toward our vision. Family culture is rooted in connection and fostering the love we feel for each other. Our family culture is rooting in stories, your family stories, your history and memories that you create. Stories are a way to process grief and difficult times.
Foster connection through stories, and through the dinner table. We learn and connect at the dinner table.
Establish and keep reinforcing our values. Consistency is the important key to helping our kids know what to expect. Our values establish
Connection: stories, dinner table, reinforcing values, play!
I love the stories Ann relates in this episode to illustrate how we can share stories that strengthen our family connections.
Five Magic Hours that strengthen our marriages:
1: Partings
2: Embraces when we come back together
3: Meal times
4: Hugging and praying together
5: Discussing high and low points of the day, and other points of discussion
Also, weekly dates. All of these add up to create space for a thriving marriage.
John Gottman marriage books
"Hold On To Your Kids" by Gordon Neufeld
Our marriage relationships consists of three: you, me, and US. We have ourselves, and we have our relationships, and both are important to nourish.
"His Needs Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage" by Willard F. Jr. Harley
Marriage is a team effort, though you may ebb and flow between strengthening each other.
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4better4ever.com
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Ann teaches women in a course based on the book "How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk" by John Van Epp. Our relationships can shape the course of our lives.<br />
<br />
Family culture is the vehicle that takes us toward our vision. Family culture is rooted in connection and fostering the love we feel for each other. Our family culture is rooting in stories, your family stories, your history and memories that you create. Stories are a way to process grief and difficult times.<br />
<br />
Foster connection through stories, and through the dinner table. We learn and connect at the dinner table.<br />
<br />
Establish and keep reinforcing our values. Consistency is the important key to helping our kids know what to expect. Our values establish<br />
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Connection: stories, dinner table, reinforcing values, play!<br />
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I love the stories Ann relates in this episode to illustrate how we can share stories that strengthen our family connections.<br />
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Five Magic Hours that strengthen our marriages:<br />
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1: Partings<br />
2: Embraces when we come back together<br />
3: Meal times<br />
4: Hugging and praying together<br />
5: Discussing high and low points of the day, and other points of discussion<br />
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Also, weekly dates. All of these add up to create space for a thriving marriage.<br />
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John Gottman marriage books<br />
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"Hold On To Your Kids" by Gordon Neufeld<br />
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Our marriage relationships consists of three: you, me, and US. We have ourselves, and we have our relationships, and both are important to nourish.<br />
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"His Needs Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage" by Willard F. Jr. Harley<br />
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Marriage is a team effort, though you may ebb and flow between strengthening each other.<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 030: Kimberly Amici – Using Family Retreats to Develop your Family Culturehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-030-kimberly-amici/
Tue, 06 Mar 2018 10:00:18 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2260Kimberly is known for her creativity, strong faith, and commitment to living life with purpose and passion. Together with her husband Carl, she is the co-founder of The Family Culture Project, which empowers families to create a thriving family culture. Kimberly is also a life coach, entrepreneur, designer, and co-host of the Slice of Life podcast. She writes on her personal blog as well as for Faith Gateway and More to Be. She lives with her husband and their three children in the NYC suburbs.
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From This Episode
Family culture is similar to corporate culture.
"Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don't" by Jim Collins: helping to define what culture is and what it looks like.
"The Hands-Off Manager: How to Mentor People and Allow them to be Successful" by Steve Chandler: allowing space for our children to grow and be guided by our beliefs even when we are apart.
Family culture is a reflection of who you are as a family. Family evaluations allow the family to pick out characteristics that family members can work on, or how they can better honor their family mission.
Annual retreats give your family a chance to step away and evaluate what is working and how you can improve. Retreats give everyone space to speak and feel heard.
Value words mean little until you turn them into a verb. Define what each of the words in your values mean and stand for so there is meaning and purpose behind the words. Progress becomes measurable when you define what the values mean.
"Unscripted: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship" by MJ DeMarco: Action taking vs. Action faking.
"Fundamentally Different" by David J. Friedman: defining your character/value words, turning values into practices.
Family culture is a lot like branding. When you go to a store or restaurant, their brand is obvious because of their commercials and slogans, colors and character. Families are the same way. You can tell what a family's culture is like when you go into a home and see what they identify with. How does your home make people feel? How do you identify yourself? What is your family brand?
"Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to take Action" by Simon Sinek: Your why is what will allow you endure any obstacle. In the "12 Week Year," Brian P. Moran says that a lack of passion is not a crisis of passion, but a crisis of vision. It's important to define your why so you can fuel the passion for following through with your family vision.
Please check out Kimberly's post about "Harnessing the Power of Peer Reviews for your Next Family Retreat" and sign up to receive her family retreat packet!
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Kimberly is known for her creativity, strong faith, and commitment to living life with purpose and passion. Together with her husband Carl, she is the co-founder of The Family Culture Project, which empowers families to create a thriving family culture...Kimberly is known for her creativity, strong faith, and commitment to living life with purpose and passion. Together with her husband Carl, she is the co-founder of The Family Culture Project, which empowers families to create a thriving family culture. Kimberly is also a life coach, entrepreneur, designer, and co-host of the Slice of Life podcast. She writes on her personal blog as well as for Faith Gateway and More to Be. She lives with her husband and their three children in the NYC suburbs.<br />
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From This Episode<br />
<br />
Family culture is similar to corporate culture.<br />
<br />
"Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don't" by Jim Collins: helping to define what culture is and what it looks like.<br />
<br />
"The Hands-Off Manager: How to Mentor People and Allow them to be Successful" by Steve Chandler: allowing space for our children to grow and be guided by our beliefs even when we are apart.<br />
<br />
Family culture is a reflection of who you are as a family. Family evaluations allow the family to pick out characteristics that family members can work on, or how they can better honor their family mission.<br />
<br />
Annual retreats give your family a chance to step away and evaluate what is working and how you can improve. Retreats give everyone space to speak and feel heard.<br />
<br />
Value words mean little until you turn them into a verb. Define what each of the words in your values mean and stand for so there is meaning and purpose behind the words. Progress becomes measurable when you define what the values mean.<br />
<br />
"Unscripted: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship" by MJ DeMarco: Action taking vs. Action faking.<br />
<br />
"Fundamentally Different" by David J. Friedman: defining your character/value words, turning values into practices.<br />
<br />
Family culture is a lot like branding. When you go to a store or restaurant, their brand is obvious because of their commercials and slogans, colors and character. Families are the same way. You can tell what a family's culture is like when you go into a home and see what they identify with. How does your home make people feel? How do you identify yourself? What is your family brand?<br />
<br />
"Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to take Action" by Simon Sinek: Your why is what will allow you endure any obstacle. In the "12 Week Year," Brian P. Moran says that a lack of passion is not a crisis of passion, but a crisis of vision. It's important to define your why so you can fuel the passion for following through with your family vision.<br />
<br />
Please check out Kimberly's post about "Harnessing the Power of Peer Reviews for your Next Family Retreat" and sign up to receive her family retreat packet!<br />
<br />
Connect with Kimberly<br />
<br />
Blog - kimberlyamici.com<br />
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Facebook<br />
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Twitter<br />
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Pinterest<br />
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Instagram<br />
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Etsy shop<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 029: Keeping Your Child’s Hearts Even When You’re Apart (Solo)https://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-029-keeping-your-childs-hearts/
Tue, 27 Feb 2018 10:00:55 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2177-This post contains affiliate links-
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Last week, I took my two older kids to a birthday party at a laser tag place. My oldest, who is usually super friendly and bubbly, was terrified. It was rough because she was SO excited about this party and was looking forward to it all week! I can see why she was so scared. The place was noisy and flashy, and other than the birthday girl, and her brother, she didn't recognize anyone else.
The birthday girl’s mom had not arrived at the party yet, and her dad, whom we had never met, was the one running the show. He was very busy so I didn’t get a chance to meet him before my daughter burst into tears. It was kind of alarming since she had been so excited to come. She told me it was very different than what she had expected. I waited with her for a little while. I didn’t want her to miss out on this because I knew she would seriously regret it. As much as she was upset now, I knew she would be even more upset if she passed. Especially if her brother still went, and came back with a happy report.
I knew I needed to find the adult in charge and make myself known to them. I went up to the birthday girl’s dad and asked if he was indeed her dad. I shook his hand and pointed out my kids. I tried to connect with him over the noise and convey to him the fact that my daughter was kind of upset, but he was too busy. My daughter calmed down enough for me to leave her there which was a relief. I knew she was going to have so much fun!
When I came back to pick her up, I was so relieved to find out that she had indeed had a blast! Then she told me the story of how it happened. She was super nervous at first. It was such a new experience. During the first round of laser tag, she was still pretty apprehensive. But then, during the second round, a guest’s mom was there and told my daughter she would help her and they would play together. She got over her fear, and learned to play laser tag.
In the book "Hold on to your kids", by Gordon Neufeld, I learned exactly what had happened in this situation, one reason my daughter had been so scared, and why the mom at the party was so important.
Our children need to receive their orientation about the world from trusted adults. Ideally those adults are their parents, but sometimes, many times, that is not possible. They are often gone all day at school. We are gone all day at work. But, kids need a trusted adult to mentor them because the alternative is peer orientation which is like the blind leading the blind. I won’t go into detail about that here, you’ll have to read the book. So how can we keep our kids oriented to a trusted adult.
1: When you have to separate, transfer their orientation to an adult you trust. This is why I knew I needed to meet the birthday girl’s dad. If her mom had been there, the trust has already been established, so my daughter would have had an easier time transitioning. I do this a lot with my toddlers when they need to go to nursery at church. I talk to the teachers and smile at them. I might touch their shoulder and show my child that I trust this person and that I know they will take good care of them. I introduce my child to the adult and let them get to know them.
This would work with any situation where you need to drop off your child. Meet their teachers. Talk with them. Let your child see that there is an adult they can trust and look to for direction, protection, and guidance.
2: When you need to separate for a long time, like going away for a trip, call them each day, FaceTime would be even better. Send them notes. My husband and I are going on a trip, and we are going to leave their sitter with videos of us talking to them and telling them stories about them. Do the kinds of things that let them know that even though you’re apart, you still care, and you’re still thinking about them. Dr. Dan Seigel has said that our children need to feel seen, soothed, safe, and secure.-This post contains affiliate links- Transcript - Last week, I took my two older kids to a birthday party at a laser tag place. My oldest, who is usually super friendly and bubbly, was terrified. It was rough because she was SO excited about this par...-This post contains affiliate links-<br />
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<br />
Last week, I took my two older kids to a birthday party at a laser tag place. My oldest, who is usually super friendly and bubbly, was terrified. It was rough because she was SO excited about this party and was looking forward to it all week! I can see why she was so scared. The place was noisy and flashy, and other than the birthday girl, and her brother, she didn't recognize anyone else.<br />
<br />
The birthday girl’s mom had not arrived at the party yet, and her dad, whom we had never met, was the one running the show. He was very busy so I didn’t get a chance to meet him before my daughter burst into tears. It was kind of alarming since she had been so excited to come. She told me it was very different than what she had expected. I waited with her for a little while. I didn’t want her to miss out on this because I knew she would seriously regret it. As much as she was upset now, I knew she would be even more upset if she passed. Especially if her brother still went, and came back with a happy report.<br />
<br />
I knew I needed to find the adult in charge and make myself known to them. I went up to the birthday girl’s dad and asked if he was indeed her dad. I shook his hand and pointed out my kids. I tried to connect with him over the noise and convey to him the fact that my daughter was kind of upset, but he was too busy. My daughter calmed down enough for me to leave her there which was a relief. I knew she was going to have so much fun!<br />
<br />
When I came back to pick her up, I was so relieved to find out that she had indeed had a blast! Then she told me the story of how it happened. She was super nervous at first. It was such a new experience. During the first round of laser tag, she was still pretty apprehensive. But then, during the second round, a guest’s mom was there and told my daughter she would help her and they would play together. She got over her fear, and learned to play laser tag.<br />
<br />
In the book "Hold on to your kids", by Gordon Neufeld, I learned exactly what had happened in this situation, one reason my daughter had been so scared, and why the mom at the party was so important.<br />
<br />
Our children need to receive their orientation about the world from trusted adults. Ideally those adults are their parents, but sometimes, many times, that is not possible. They are often gone all day at school. We are gone all day at work. But, kids need a trusted adult to mentor them because the alternative is peer orientation which is like the blind leading the blind. I won’t go into detail about that here, you’ll have to read the book. So how can we keep our kids oriented to a trusted adult.<br />
<br />
1: When you have to separate, transfer their orientation to an adult you trust. This is why I knew I needed to meet the birthday girl’s dad. If her mom had been there, the trust has already been established, so my daughter would have had an easier time transitioning. I do this a lot with my toddlers when they need to go to nursery at church. I talk to the teachers and smile at them. I might touch their shoulder and show my child that I trust this person and that I know they will take good care of them. I introduce my child to the adult and let them get to know them.<br />
<br />
This would work with any situation where you need to drop off your child. Meet their teachers. Talk with them. Let your child see that there is an adult they can trust and look to for direction, protection, and guidance.<br />
<br />
2: When you need to separate for a long time, like going away for a trip, call them each day, FaceTime would be even better. Send them notes. My husband and I are going on a trip, and we are going to leave their sitter with videos of us talking to them and telling them stories about them. Do the kinds of things that let them know that even though you’re apart, you still care,Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 028: Dina Alexander – Body Image and Technologyhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-028-dina-alexander/
Tue, 20 Feb 2018 10:00:09 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=2105About Dina
Dina Alexander is the founder and president of Educate and Empower Kids (educateempowerkids.org), an organization determined to strengthen families by teaching digital citizenship, media literacy, and healthy sexuality education—including education about the dangers of online porn. She is the creator of Noah’s New Phone: A Story About Using Technology for Good, Messages About Me: A Journey to Healthy Body Image, How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography and the 30 Days of Sex Talks and 30 Days to a Stronger Child programs. She received her master’s degree in recreation therapy from the University of Utah and her bachelors from Brigham Young University. She is an amazing mom and loves spending time with her husband and three kids. Together, they live in Texas.
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From this Episode
Our kids need to be stronger than we are. Our kids experience much tougher issues than we could have imagined as kids. We need to be able to open up and have tough conversations with our kids about these issues.
Smart phones are shaping our kids’ realities
Be deliberate with the time we spend with our kids and the conversations we have. Visualize what kind of adults you hope your kids become.
Be deliberate about the activities you allow your kids to engage in, whether digital or otherwise.
Be the example by showing them that your relationship with them is more important than our devices.
Consume media that reflect your values.
It’s a habit, a practice that you develop over time. Regularly reevaluate habits to determine if they fit your values.
Seek out useful ways to use technology, and set boundaries.
Be deliberate for yourself! Set a timer for limiting your own.
Our phones have become coping tools. Part of the conversation is asking our family what we do when we are tired, stressed, or alone.
Always speak kindly about our bodies.
Give our kids compliments about their character, and the abilities of their minds and bodies beyond aesthetics and looks.
Give our kids opportunities to succeed so it develops their confidence and abilities, and sense of accomplishment. See Episode 020 with Merrilee Boyack.
Focus on health practices rather than body image.
Don’t label foods as good or bad. (See EllynSatterInstitute.org)
Keep sports fun for as long as you can.
Be deliberate about what sports, and programs you select for your kids. Do they bring you closer to your goals? Talk to the teachers about your values.
“Stand tall Molly Lou Melon” by Patty Lovell
“Beauty Redefined” web site
Speak kindly to yourself.
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About Dina Dina Alexander is the founder and president of Educate and Empower Kids (educateempowerkids.org), an organization determined to strengthen families by teaching digital citizenship, media literacy,About Dina<br />
Dina Alexander is the founder and president of Educate and Empower Kids (educateempowerkids.org), an organization determined to strengthen families by teaching digital citizenship, media literacy, and healthy sexuality education—including education about the dangers of online porn. She is the creator of Noah’s New Phone: A Story About Using Technology for Good, Messages About Me: A Journey to Healthy Body Image, How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography and the 30 Days of Sex Talks and 30 Days to a Stronger Child programs. She received her master’s degree in recreation therapy from the University of Utah and her bachelors from Brigham Young University. She is an amazing mom and loves spending time with her husband and three kids. Together, they live in Texas.<br />
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From this Episode<br />
<br />
Our kids need to be stronger than we are. Our kids experience much tougher issues than we could have imagined as kids. We need to be able to open up and have tough conversations with our kids about these issues.<br />
<br />
Smart phones are shaping our kids’ realities<br />
<br />
Be deliberate with the time we spend with our kids and the conversations we have. Visualize what kind of adults you hope your kids become.<br />
<br />
Be deliberate about the activities you allow your kids to engage in, whether digital or otherwise.<br />
<br />
Be the example by showing them that your relationship with them is more important than our devices.<br />
<br />
Consume media that reflect your values.<br />
<br />
It’s a habit, a practice that you develop over time. Regularly reevaluate habits to determine if they fit your values.<br />
<br />
Seek out useful ways to use technology, and set boundaries.<br />
<br />
Be deliberate for yourself! Set a timer for limiting your own.<br />
<br />
Our phones have become coping tools. Part of the conversation is asking our family what we do when we are tired, stressed, or alone.<br />
<br />
Always speak kindly about our bodies.<br />
<br />
Give our kids compliments about their character, and the abilities of their minds and bodies beyond aesthetics and looks.<br />
<br />
Give our kids opportunities to succeed so it develops their confidence and abilities, and sense of accomplishment. See Episode 020 with Merrilee Boyack.<br />
<br />
Focus on health practices rather than body image.<br />
<br />
Don’t label foods as good or bad. (See EllynSatterInstitute.org)<br />
<br />
Keep sports fun for as long as you can.<br />
<br />
Be deliberate about what sports, and programs you select for your kids. Do they bring you closer to your goals? Talk to the teachers about your values.<br />
<br />
“Stand tall Molly Lou Melon” by Patty Lovell<br />
<br />
“Beauty Redefined” web site<br />
<br />
Speak kindly to yourself.<br />
<br />
Find Dina<br />
<br />
educateempowerkids.org<br />
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Instagram<br />
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Facebook<br />
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Educate Empower Kids on Amazon<br />
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Recommended Books<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 027: Jeanie Cisco-Meth – Bully-Proofing Youhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-027-jeanie-cisco-meth/
Tue, 13 Feb 2018 10:00:46 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1987About Jeanie:
Two-time best-selling author, professional speaker, experienced educator, and parent Jeanie Cisco-Meth shares her scientifically proven system for improving communication and decreasing conflict. She has written articles for many magazines, been quoted in Forbes, and is a contributor for TheBlaze. She has been a guest on radio stations across the country and locally on KSL. She has been seen on television on ABC4, Free Speech TV, and others.
As a high school educator for more than 17 years, she witnessed firsthand what bullying can do to a person, a family, and a community. Her solution was to design a program to end bullying. Bully Proofing You is the result of that effort.
Jeanie had many learning disabilities and differences growing up that made her a target for bullies. When she entered school, the labeling began. She dyslexia, couldn’t speak well, was legally blind, was six feet tall, had survived cancer, and more!
At one point, she remembers sitting with her parents in a classroom listening to teachers predict her dismal future. Jeanie and her parents had different ideas. They knew she would find a way to succeed.
When Jeanie entered high school, she refused to let others determine her future. She sought the tools to help her graduate high school and then college, something very few people thought she could or would be able to do.
Jeanie has found either success or a lesson in everything she has ever tried to accomplish. She loves teaching people who want to improve their lives and make a difference. She now teaches her special techniques on overcoming adversity to all types of audiences.
Her high energy educational program has helped people improve communication and productivity and decrease conflicts. Her expertise and knowledge have helped many overcome obstacles and challenges in their lives.
Jeanie finds pleasure watching people change their lives by implementing the lessons learned from her program. Her trainings are comprehensive. The parents, teens, or staff of your organization are trained to make sure that lasting change takes place. “As you increase your personal value others are more valuable.” Jeanie Cisco-Meth.
How do you end conflict? Find out today by contacting Jeanie Cisco-Meth.
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So many amazing gems from this episode. Jeanie is an amazing person, full of love and energy!
The first step to bully-proofing your kids, is to bully-proof yourself. You can teach them that they can choose what messages to believe. Parents model how to cope with their imperfections by accepting them, celebrating them, enjoying them!
We disrupt our habits of negative thoughts by keeping a thought journal and recording your thoughts on the hour. When you notice your negative thoughts, you can change them.
You may notice your child is being bullied if they start acting out with violence and anger. If you notice they are listening to violent music or watching violent media, that could be another clue.
From this episode:
Jeanie likes this tool from "Love and logic": Say, “Aren’t you glad I don’t believe that?!” when children come and tell us they heard a disparaging message.
“You are special” by Max Lucado - you have a choice whether to believe those messages others are telling you about you. Watch the video I made reading the book here!
Tony Robbins pattern interrupt
Jeanie says, "Hurt people hurt people!" What a way to teach empathy and realize that people who are hurting do things to hurt others. My mom told me when I was little that people who are a problem have a problem. That made a big impact on me when I was young and helped me realize that I don't know what is going on in someone else's life that is causing them to think that hurting someone is OK. I also loved Jeanie's insight into recognizing that when we are hurt, and afraid, we aren't thinking, so we should do things that get us to think!About Jeanie: Two-time best-selling author, professional speaker, experienced educator, and parent Jeanie Cisco-Meth shares her scientifically proven system for improving communication and decreasing conflict.About Jeanie:<br />
Two-time best-selling author, professional speaker, experienced educator, and parent Jeanie Cisco-Meth shares her scientifically proven system for improving communication and decreasing conflict. She has written articles for many magazines, been quoted in Forbes, and is a contributor for TheBlaze. She has been a guest on radio stations across the country and locally on KSL. She has been seen on television on ABC4, Free Speech TV, and others.<br />
<br />
As a high school educator for more than 17 years, she witnessed firsthand what bullying can do to a person, a family, and a community. Her solution was to design a program to end bullying. Bully Proofing You is the result of that effort.<br />
<br />
Jeanie had many learning disabilities and differences growing up that made her a target for bullies. When she entered school, the labeling began. She dyslexia, couldn’t speak well, was legally blind, was six feet tall, had survived cancer, and more!<br />
<br />
At one point, she remembers sitting with her parents in a classroom listening to teachers predict her dismal future. Jeanie and her parents had different ideas. They knew she would find a way to succeed.<br />
<br />
When Jeanie entered high school, she refused to let others determine her future. She sought the tools to help her graduate high school and then college, something very few people thought she could or would be able to do.<br />
<br />
Jeanie has found either success or a lesson in everything she has ever tried to accomplish. She loves teaching people who want to improve their lives and make a difference. She now teaches her special techniques on overcoming adversity to all types of audiences.<br />
<br />
Her high energy educational program has helped people improve communication and productivity and decrease conflicts. Her expertise and knowledge have helped many overcome obstacles and challenges in their lives.<br />
<br />
Jeanie finds pleasure watching people change their lives by implementing the lessons learned from her program. Her trainings are comprehensive. The parents, teens, or staff of your organization are trained to make sure that lasting change takes place. “As you increase your personal value others are more valuable.” Jeanie Cisco-Meth.<br />
<br />
How do you end conflict? Find out today by contacting Jeanie Cisco-Meth.<br />
This post contains affiliate links<br />
So many amazing gems from this episode. Jeanie is an amazing person, full of love and energy!<br />
<br />
The first step to bully-proofing your kids, is to bully-proof yourself. You can teach them that they can choose what messages to believe. Parents model how to cope with their imperfections by accepting them, celebrating them, enjoying them!<br />
<br />
We disrupt our habits of negative thoughts by keeping a thought journal and recording your thoughts on the hour. When you notice your negative thoughts, you can change them.<br />
<br />
You may notice your child is being bullied if they start acting out with violence and anger. If you notice they are listening to violent music or watching violent media, that could be another clue.<br />
<br />
From this episode: <br />
<br />
Jeanie likes this tool from "Love and logic": Say, “Aren’t you glad I don’t believe that?!” when children come and tell us they heard a disparaging message.<br />
<br />
“You are special” by Max Lucado - you have a choice whether to believe those messages others are telling you about you. Watch the video I made reading the book here!<br />
<br />
Tony Robbins pattern interrupt<br />
<br />
Jeanie says, "Hurt people hurt people!" What a way to teach empathy and realize that people who are hurting do things to hurt others. My mom told me when I was little that people who are a problem have a problem. That made a big impact on me when I was young and helped me realize that I don't know what is going on in someone else's life that is causing th...Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 026: Shelly Stasney – Making FUN a Part of Your Family Culture!https://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-026-shelly-stasney/
Tue, 06 Feb 2018 10:00:42 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1937About Shelly
I am a wife and a SAHM to two boys. I have a master's in education with a principal's certificate. I taught elementary school for 15 years with some admin positions along the way. I loved professional development, and I always had way more hours than was required, not to mention all the reading I did and gurus I followed on social media. I always tried to put best practices in place in my classroom.
When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately turned that energy into research about pregnancy, childbirth, later on, infants, toddlers, then preschoolers and I have not stopped. I research every question I have about my children, and then some.
I hope that all of the time that I have put into research can go beyond benefitting my children. I want it to benefit my followers by helping them to make informed parenting and family decisions. The purpose of my blog is all things parenting professional development, This -N- That Parenting
From This Episode
This Post Contains Affiliate Links
Being able to have fun creates a lightness to our family culture that makes everyone want to be together! Having fun (for fun's sake and not at the expense of someone else) creates a resilience in the family because having a sense of humor, and making home a place where you can have fun makes it all worthwhile! When we are having fun at home, we aren't looking for it in other places. When we create a space for fun in our family, you may naturally fall into rhythms and habits that work for your family and allow you to thrive, even without thinking about it too hard! Still, sometimes we need to intentionally create that space when it doesn't come naturally, or other things creep in and take away our attention from doing fun things together.
Some things we like to do for fun is have tickle fights, play board games, go on fun field trips or day trips as a family, spontaneously drop in to get ice cream, donuts, or fro-yo, call grandparents and tell a funny joke, watch a fun show when it is not our usual media time (cause we kind of regulate that in our house), make cookies together, go to a park and play tag. There are so many ways that we can have fun, and make fun a part of our daily rituals. I like how Shelly talked about the book about why the author didn't rebel, is because the fun was at their house! When I was a teenager, my house was the one where all our friends liked to come. We would play fun party games, and have yummy food on hand, and watch movies, and we kept it all clean! I loved that about my family culture growing up. That's totally the kind of home I want to have, too: a place where my kids and their friends want to be because they know mom and dad like to have fun!
There is an element of grace when you are having fun. It's like you can have a sense of humor about life in general and that brings light and peace to the home. Both grace and humor, really, take humility. Being a humble parent opens us up for guidance and the ability to cope with anything that comes our way!
Books and other resources discussed:
Why I Didn't Rebel: A Twenty-Two-Year-Old Explains Why She Stayed on the Straight and Narrow---and How Your Kids Can Too by Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach
AhaParenting.com with Dr. Laura Markham
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Dr. Laura Markham
Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp
Connect with Shelly
Blog: http://www.thisnthatparenting.com
Instagram and Twitter: @TNTParenting
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/thisnthatparenting/
Start your own blog. Sign up for web hosting at Sitground. About Shelly I am a wife and a SAHM to two boys. I have a master's in education with a principal's certificate. I taught elementary school for 15 years with some admin positions along the way. I loved professional development,About Shelly<br />
I am a wife and a SAHM to two boys. I have a master's in education with a principal's certificate. I taught elementary school for 15 years with some admin positions along the way. I loved professional development, and I always had way more hours than was required, not to mention all the reading I did and gurus I followed on social media. I always tried to put best practices in place in my classroom.<br />
<br />
When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately turned that energy into research about pregnancy, childbirth, later on, infants, toddlers, then preschoolers and I have not stopped. I research every question I have about my children, and then some.<br />
<br />
I hope that all of the time that I have put into research can go beyond benefitting my children. I want it to benefit my followers by helping them to make informed parenting and family decisions. The purpose of my blog is all things parenting professional development, This -N- That Parenting<br />
<br />
<br />
From This Episode<br />
This Post Contains Affiliate Links<br />
Being able to have fun creates a lightness to our family culture that makes everyone want to be together! Having fun (for fun's sake and not at the expense of someone else) creates a resilience in the family because having a sense of humor, and making home a place where you can have fun makes it all worthwhile! When we are having fun at home, we aren't looking for it in other places. When we create a space for fun in our family, you may naturally fall into rhythms and habits that work for your family and allow you to thrive, even without thinking about it too hard! Still, sometimes we need to intentionally create that space when it doesn't come naturally, or other things creep in and take away our attention from doing fun things together.<br />
<br />
Some things we like to do for fun is have tickle fights, play board games, go on fun field trips or day trips as a family, spontaneously drop in to get ice cream, donuts, or fro-yo, call grandparents and tell a funny joke, watch a fun show when it is not our usual media time (cause we kind of regulate that in our house), make cookies together, go to a park and play tag. There are so many ways that we can have fun, and make fun a part of our daily rituals. I like how Shelly talked about the book about why the author didn't rebel, is because the fun was at their house! When I was a teenager, my house was the one where all our friends liked to come. We would play fun party games, and have yummy food on hand, and watch movies, and we kept it all clean! I loved that about my family culture growing up. That's totally the kind of home I want to have, too: a place where my kids and their friends want to be because they know mom and dad like to have fun!<br />
<br />
There is an element of grace when you are having fun. It's like you can have a sense of humor about life in general and that brings light and peace to the home. Both grace and humor, really, take humility. Being a humble parent opens us up for guidance and the ability to cope with anything that comes our way!<br />
<br />
Books and other resources discussed:<br />
Why I Didn't Rebel: A Twenty-Two-Year-Old Explains Why She Stayed on the Straight and Narrow---and How Your Kids Can Too by Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach <br />
AhaParenting.com with Dr. Laura Markham<br />
<br />
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Dr. Laura Markham<br />
<br />
Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul David Tripp<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Connect with Shelly<br />
<br />
Blog: http://www.thisnthatparenting.com<br />
<br />
Instagram and Twitter: @TNTParenting<br />
<br />
Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/thisnthatparenting/<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Start your own blog. Sign up for web hosting at Sitground. Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 025: Blaine & Audrey Rindlisbacher – 12 Principles of Successful Marriagehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-025-blaine-audrey-rindlisbacher/
Tue, 30 Jan 2018 10:00:50 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1894(Contains affiliate links)
About Blaine and Audrey
When traditional marriage therapy failed them, Blaine and Audrey Rindlisbacher became intensely passionate about finding the answers to what makes successful marriages work. Their commitment to finding the answers has driven them to make significant time and financial sacrifices in order to send Blaine through both a difficult and lengthy Liberal Arts Bachelor’s Program and an intensive Marriage and Family Therapy Master’s Degree Program at Liberty University while raising and providing for 6 children. In addition to his degree programs, Blaine has spent 100’s of hours reading every marriage and relationship book he could find. Through his study and experiences in his own marriage, Blaine discovered the GREATEST SECRET to obtaining and maintaining a fulfilling marriage—the 12 PRINCIPLES of Happy Marriages! As he’s used these principles in his Couple’s Coaching Practice, he has been overjoyed to watch these principles work miracles in the lives of the husbands and wives who apply them. In an effort to make these principles available to couples everywhere, Blaine and Audrey have worked together to found ADORE YOUR SPOUSE where couples can learn more about the 12 Principles, take the FREE Marriage Assessment, watch FREE weekly tip videos, sign up for a FREE online class and get involved in other programs that will strengthen their marriage. Find these free marriage tools and more at AdoreYourSpouse.com!
From This Episode
Principles are true, whether they are principles of health and wealth, or principles of a successful marriage. You know that the principles of health are physical activity, good nutrition, rest, healthcare, etc. You know the principles of wealth are saving, getting out of debt, and investing. Marriage success has the same kind of principles.
Living the principles of a successful marriage are like a muscle, a skill you can strengthen with practice and consistency.
Follow along with the principles we discuss on Adore Your Spouse.
Each of these principles build on the one before it, so you need to master each one in sequence. Principles 1, 2, 3, and 4 address our personal development. Principles 4-10 are about becoming informed and educating ourselves about marriage, ourselves, and our spouse. Principles 9-12 are about taking your marriage to the next level of relationship, becoming supportive and unified. Listen in for all the details, and understand how each principle leads into the next one. Blaine's practice is to coach individuals and couples through each of these principles in sequence. I really consider him an authority because he has experienced the process of learning these principles for himself.
Put your marriage first
Ensure individual needs are met
Regularly forgive and repent
Safeguard against addiction and abuse
Frequently express love and make sacrifices for your spouse
Respect and appreciate your differences
Truly understand your spouse and yourself
Build and preserve complete trust
Engage in kind and effective communication
Maintain healthy boundaries
Clarify roles and fulfill responsibilities
Create unity in all areas of the marriage
Audrey mentioned the author Scott Peck - the opposite of love is laziness.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman - Do you know your spouse's love language?
Living After The Manner of Happiness by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland
Find Blaine and Audrey
AdoreYourSpouse.com
January 30th workshop on Addiction: http://adoreyourspouse.com/online-workshops/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/adoreyourspouse/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adoreyourspouse/
To check out the books we mentioned in this episode, click on a book below(Contains affiliate links) - About Blaine and Audrey When traditional marriage therapy failed them, Blaine and Audrey Rindlisbacher became intensely passionate about finding the answers to what makes successful marriages work.(Contains affiliate links)<br />
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About Blaine and Audrey<br />
When traditional marriage therapy failed them, Blaine and Audrey Rindlisbacher became intensely passionate about finding the answers to what makes successful marriages work. Their commitment to finding the answers has driven them to make significant time and financial sacrifices in order to send Blaine through both a difficult and lengthy Liberal Arts Bachelor’s Program and an intensive Marriage and Family Therapy Master’s Degree Program at Liberty University while raising and providing for 6 children. In addition to his degree programs, Blaine has spent 100’s of hours reading every marriage and relationship book he could find. Through his study and experiences in his own marriage, Blaine discovered the GREATEST SECRET to obtaining and maintaining a fulfilling marriage—the 12 PRINCIPLES of Happy Marriages! As he’s used these principles in his Couple’s Coaching Practice, he has been overjoyed to watch these principles work miracles in the lives of the husbands and wives who apply them. In an effort to make these principles available to couples everywhere, Blaine and Audrey have worked together to found ADORE YOUR SPOUSE where couples can learn more about the 12 Principles, take the FREE Marriage Assessment, watch FREE weekly tip videos, sign up for a FREE online class and get involved in other programs that will strengthen their marriage. Find these free marriage tools and more at AdoreYourSpouse.com!<br />
From This Episode<br />
<br />
Principles are true, whether they are principles of health and wealth, or principles of a successful marriage. You know that the principles of health are physical activity, good nutrition, rest, healthcare, etc. You know the principles of wealth are saving, getting out of debt, and investing. Marriage success has the same kind of principles.<br />
<br />
Living the principles of a successful marriage are like a muscle, a skill you can strengthen with practice and consistency.<br />
<br />
Follow along with the principles we discuss on Adore Your Spouse.<br />
<br />
Each of these principles build on the one before it, so you need to master each one in sequence. Principles 1, 2, 3, and 4 address our personal development. Principles 4-10 are about becoming informed and educating ourselves about marriage, ourselves, and our spouse. Principles 9-12 are about taking your marriage to the next level of relationship, becoming supportive and unified. Listen in for all the details, and understand how each principle leads into the next one. Blaine's practice is to coach individuals and couples through each of these principles in sequence. I really consider him an authority because he has experienced the process of learning these principles for himself.<br />
<br />
Put your marriage first<br />
Ensure individual needs are met<br />
Regularly forgive and repent<br />
Safeguard against addiction and abuse<br />
Frequently express love and make sacrifices for your spouse<br />
Respect and appreciate your differences<br />
Truly understand your spouse and yourself<br />
Build and preserve complete trust<br />
Engage in kind and effective communication<br />
Maintain healthy boundaries<br />
Clarify roles and fulfill responsibilities<br />
Create unity in all areas of the marriage<br />
<br />
Audrey mentioned the author Scott Peck - the opposite of love is laziness.<br />
<br />
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman - Do you know your spouse's love language?<br />
<br />
Living After The Manner of Happiness by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland<br />
<br />
Find Blaine and Audrey<br />
<br />
AdoreYourSpouse.com<br />
<br />
January 30th workshop on Addiction: http://adoreyourspouse.com/online-workshops/<br />
<br />
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/adoreyourspouse/<br />
<br />
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adoreyourspouse/<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 024: Max Weichert – Fostering a Flourishing Environmenthttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-024-max-weichert/
Tue, 23 Jan 2018 10:00:59 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1863Born in 1984 in Flensburg, Northern Germany, the life after finishing highschool led me from working in a sheltered workshop farm for people with disabilities over to 10 months work & travel in New Zealand. After that I studied Environmental Engineering in Bremen (Germany) and Sweden followed by studies in Biomimetics in Villach (Austria).
Changing course after that I worked 3 years in Innovation Management, Crowdsourcing and Crowdfunding in Graz (Austria), during which time I also began to teach Innovation Management at the university to international master students of Electrical Engineering.
Personal development, inner work and consciousness as well as Martial Arts (Karate, Wing Tjun Kung Fu, Taiji) were always part of my main interest and natural longing. IN 2016 I followed passions a bit further by co-teaching Wing Tjun Kung Fu and movement to kids between 3 and 12 years. And after quitting the work in Innovation Management I follow my passion into the realm of systemic coaching and took part in a 1-year systemic coaching programme, which was like a big opening for me.
Currently I assist in a Montessori school in Styria (Austria) once a week, after a 1-year break in Kung Fu training took up again the kids-training (and my own) and started to build my own business with systemic coaching and helping parents develop a better family culture by helping them building a nourishing environment to grow in for their kids, in which they can develop social and emotional skills to be successful in life aligned with their own strengths, passions and their heart wide open for connections to the wonders of the world around them. My aim is do my best to foster the ability of people to connect with each other and especially to support parents and their children with my best effort to build strong, loving and trustful relationships.
It's very fascinating that we often think that if we stand over our children and direct every course of their lives that they will be perfect little angels and will always do exactly as we say. I don't know about you, but that doesn't seem to work much with my kids!
I like what Max describes as a flourishing culture, that it is just about creating the type of environment that allows for optimal growth and development. Max describes how he has observed this kind of environment during his experience with a Montessori school. It seems that when children actually enjoy more freedom and trust, they are allowed to become what they should and develop to their full capacity.
I also love the reasons for why Max chose The Happiness Project as the book that he recommends because family culture is really all about this process of working on ourselves. It is never about perfection. And, when we can create an environment where happiness abounds, it is an optimal culture for safety and development!
Find Max and his courses:
Website & Course:
https://www.maxweichert.com
https://www.maxweichert.com/courses/sel
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MaxPhilippWeichert
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/maxpweichert
TWITTER: https://twitter.com/MaxPWeichert
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/max-weichert
Other resources mentioned in this episode (contain affiliate links):
The German brain researcher:
Gerald Hüther
The Power of Starting Something Stupid by Richie Norton
The Anatomy of Peace by The Arbinger Institute
The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
Born in 1984 in Flensburg, Northern Germany, the life after finishing highschool led me from working in a sheltered workshop farm for people with disabilities over to 10 months work & travel in New Zealand.Born in 1984 in Flensburg, Northern Germany, the life after finishing highschool led me from working in a sheltered workshop farm for people with disabilities over to 10 months work & travel in New Zealand. After that I studied Environmental Engineering in Bremen (Germany) and Sweden followed by studies in Biomimetics in Villach (Austria).<br />
<br />
Changing course after that I worked 3 years in Innovation Management, Crowdsourcing and Crowdfunding in Graz (Austria), during which time I also began to teach Innovation Management at the university to international master students of Electrical Engineering.<br />
<br />
Personal development, inner work and consciousness as well as Martial Arts (Karate, Wing Tjun Kung Fu, Taiji) were always part of my main interest and natural longing. IN 2016 I followed passions a bit further by co-teaching Wing Tjun Kung Fu and movement to kids between 3 and 12 years. And after quitting the work in Innovation Management I follow my passion into the realm of systemic coaching and took part in a 1-year systemic coaching programme, which was like a big opening for me.<br />
<br />
Currently I assist in a Montessori school in Styria (Austria) once a week, after a 1-year break in Kung Fu training took up again the kids-training (and my own) and started to build my own business with systemic coaching and helping parents develop a better family culture by helping them building a nourishing environment to grow in for their kids, in which they can develop social and emotional skills to be successful in life aligned with their own strengths, passions and their heart wide open for connections to the wonders of the world around them. My aim is do my best to foster the ability of people to connect with each other and especially to support parents and their children with my best effort to build strong, loving and trustful relationships.<br />
<br />
<br />
It's very fascinating that we often think that if we stand over our children and direct every course of their lives that they will be perfect little angels and will always do exactly as we say. I don't know about you, but that doesn't seem to work much with my kids!<br />
<br />
I like what Max describes as a flourishing culture, that it is just about creating the type of environment that allows for optimal growth and development. Max describes how he has observed this kind of environment during his experience with a Montessori school. It seems that when children actually enjoy more freedom and trust, they are allowed to become what they should and develop to their full capacity.<br />
<br />
I also love the reasons for why Max chose The Happiness Project as the book that he recommends because family culture is really all about this process of working on ourselves. It is never about perfection. And, when we can create an environment where happiness abounds, it is an optimal culture for safety and development!<br />
<br />
Find Max and his courses:<br />
<br />
Website & Course:<br />
https://www.maxweichert.com<br />
https://www.maxweichert.com/courses/sel<br />
<br />
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MaxPhilippWeichert<br />
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/maxpweichert<br />
TWITTER: https://twitter.com/MaxPWeichert<br />
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/max-weichert<br />
<br />
Other resources mentioned in this episode (contain affiliate links):<br />
<br />
The German brain researcher:<br />
Gerald Hüther<br />
<br />
The Power of Starting Something Stupid by Richie Norton<br />
<br />
The Anatomy of Peace by The Arbinger Institute<br />
<br />
The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 023: SJ Barakony: The Importance of Soft Skills to Prepare for the Futurehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-023-sj-barakony/
Tue, 16 Jan 2018 10:00:24 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1839SJ is a CMA (Consultant, Mentor, & Advisor), as well as the founder + C.E.O. (Chief Encouragement Officer) of SBSL, an Educational Solutions Provider.
He is 41 years old and has been an entrepreneur in the education field for 5 years as of the fall of 2016. His business model includes designing &/or implementing customizable solutions for business owners to address three deep, fundamental problems with the traditional approach to the K-12, college/university, & also graduate tracks of education in America.
He is presently involved (or has been actively involved) in the following mentorship and/or advising programs / organizations:
YEA ( Young Entrepreneurs Academy )
Teen Entrepreneurial Camp
AWANA
OWU’s EMF ( Econ Mgmt Fellows )
Sundown Group’s ‘Ask an Expert’ Program
HECOA’s special events ( Sept 2015; April 2016; Sept 2016 )
ECDI ‘s Professional Advisory Network (PAN)
He is a National Steering Committee member. He serves his alma mater, Ohio Wesleyan (OWU) on the Central Ohio Alumni Leadership Board & is also an active member of a non profit board (ChefVet).
His favorite pastimes are traveling; reading ( 220+ paper & audio books in the past six+ years’ time ); listening & watching inspirational content; connecting people who may not otherwise have met in the course of time; and being a futurist/visionary when it comes to organically transforming the education system for the Gig Economy age/era in which we now find ourselves.
Soft skills, including empathy, people skills, emotional intelligence among others, lend to our ability to adapt to new situations, to cope with change, and to innovate.
7 Tips for encouraging soft skills:
"Drip approach": small doses, consistency, over a long time frame (six-nine months).
Keep a score card. Anything you want to work on needs to be tracked.
Disconnect as much as you can from mass media. Why? Listen and find out.
Distinguish between leisure-centric, and pleasure-centric activities.
Be Accountable. Build a tribe.
Focus on one skill per month per family member.
Be aware of what schooling and education are, and aren't. C.A.R.: Compliment,
servicebeforeselfleadership.com
Mentioned in this episode (contains affiliate links):
SJ's presentations on HECOA (membership required)
Learn more about what a gig economy and a digital era economy are, and what they mean for the future.
Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us by Seth Godin
Noel Tichy
The Cycle of Leadership: How Great Leaders Teach Their Companies to Win by Noel Tichy
Future Shock by Alvin Toffler
Trends Journal
The Art of Neighboring: Building Genuine Relationships Right Outside Your Door by Jay Pathak
Growing Your Business Can Be As Fun & Easy As Giving Candy To Strangers: Tips for Creating Abundance through Heart-Centered Sales by Stan Holden
8 Attributes of Great Achievers, Vol I, Vol II by Cameron C. Taylor
Ten Thousand Horses: How Leaders Harness Raw Potential for Extraordinary Results by John Stahl-Wert
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
How to Have Power and Confidence in Dealing with People by Les Giblin
Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink
Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change by Kerry Patterson et al.
Positive Personality Profiles: D-I-S-C-over Personality Insights to Understand Yourself and Others by Robert Rohm
Personality Plus: How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself by Florence Littauer
SJ is a CMA (Consultant, Mentor, & Advisor), as well as the founder + C.E.O. (Chief Encouragement Officer) of SBSL, an Educational Solutions Provider. - He is 41 years old and has been an entrepreneur in the education field for 5 years as of the fall ...SJ is a CMA (Consultant, Mentor, & Advisor), as well as the founder + C.E.O. (Chief Encouragement Officer) of SBSL, an Educational Solutions Provider.<br />
<br />
He is 41 years old and has been an entrepreneur in the education field for 5 years as of the fall of 2016. His business model includes designing &/or implementing customizable solutions for business owners to address three deep, fundamental problems with the traditional approach to the K-12, college/university, & also graduate tracks of education in America.<br />
<br />
He is presently involved (or has been actively involved) in the following mentorship and/or advising programs / organizations:<br />
<br />
YEA ( Young Entrepreneurs Academy )<br />
<br />
Teen Entrepreneurial Camp<br />
<br />
AWANA<br />
<br />
OWU’s EMF ( Econ Mgmt Fellows )<br />
<br />
Sundown Group’s ‘Ask an Expert’ Program<br />
<br />
HECOA’s special events ( Sept 2015; April 2016; Sept 2016 )<br />
<br />
ECDI ‘s Professional Advisory Network (PAN)<br />
<br />
He is a National Steering Committee member. He serves his alma mater, Ohio Wesleyan (OWU) on the Central Ohio Alumni Leadership Board & is also an active member of a non profit board (ChefVet).<br />
<br />
His favorite pastimes are traveling; reading ( 220+ paper & audio books in the past six+ years’ time ); listening & watching inspirational content; connecting people who may not otherwise have met in the course of time; and being a futurist/visionary when it comes to organically transforming the education system for the Gig Economy age/era in which we now find ourselves.<br />
<br />
<br />
Soft skills, including empathy, people skills, emotional intelligence among others, lend to our ability to adapt to new situations, to cope with change, and to innovate.<br />
<br />
7 Tips for encouraging soft skills:<br />
<br />
"Drip approach": small doses, consistency, over a long time frame (six-nine months).<br />
Keep a score card. Anything you want to work on needs to be tracked.<br />
Disconnect as much as you can from mass media. Why? Listen and find out.<br />
Distinguish between leisure-centric, and pleasure-centric activities.<br />
Be Accountable. Build a tribe.<br />
Focus on one skill per month per family member.<br />
Be aware of what schooling and education are, and aren't. C.A.R.: Compliment,<br />
<br />
servicebeforeselfleadership.com<br />
<br />
Mentioned in this episode (contains affiliate links):<br />
<br />
SJ's presentations on HECOA (membership required)<br />
Learn more about what a gig economy and a digital era economy are, and what they mean for the future.<br />
<br />
Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us by Seth Godin<br />
<br />
Noel Tichy<br />
The Cycle of Leadership: How Great Leaders Teach Their Companies to Win by Noel Tichy<br />
<br />
Future Shock by Alvin Toffler<br />
<br />
Trends Journal<br />
<br />
The Art of Neighboring: Building Genuine Relationships Right Outside Your Door by Jay Pathak<br />
Growing Your Business Can Be As Fun & Easy As Giving Candy To Strangers: Tips for Creating Abundance through Heart-Centered Sales by Stan Holden<br />
8 Attributes of Great Achievers, Vol I, Vol II by Cameron C. Taylor<br />
Ten Thousand Horses: How Leaders Harness Raw Potential for Extraordinary Results by John Stahl-Wert<br />
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie<br />
<br />
How to Have Power and Confidence in Dealing with People by Les Giblin<br />
Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink<br />
Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change by Kerry Patterson et al.<br />
<br />
Positive Personality Profiles: D-I-S-C-over Personality Insights to Understand Yourself and Others by Robert Rohm<br />
Personality Plus: How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself by Florence Littauer<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 022: Pat Hade on Virtual Safetyhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-022-pat-hade/
Tue, 09 Jan 2018 10:00:58 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1828Pat Hade’s business works with youth sports and educational organizations to form their presence in the digital world, so her team sees hundreds of thousands of posts, tweets, searches and images from students every month. In addition to writing and presenting about using and abusing Social Media and the Internet she collaborates with Virtual Safety Monitoring entities to develop educational content for parents and students.
Her book, Social Media for the High School Athlete, has become a staple in the youth sports community and both Teaching Social Media and a new educational series on Social Media are slated for publication in the spring of 2016. Hade’s work has been featured in numerous publications, media and blogs including USAToday
We know that kids need to be trained to drive a car, or manage their money. But, for some reason we disregard that kids need to be trained and guided on how to use their electronic devices, social media, and messaging. The internet and social media are relatively new, and the hazards are relatively unknown.
Pat's job is to help make people aware of the dangers and benefits of using these tools appropriately. Kids need to learn the skills necessary to navigate the internet, know the rules, and the boundaries necessary to use these tools properly. People need to be aware that employers, colleges, landlords, and even banks use our social media for vetting their potential employees, tenants, students, athletes, and loan candidates. People need to be aware of predators, and posting too much information about their personal lives online. People need to be aware of the addictiveness of social media and personal devices, and how it affects our brains - our attention span and executive function, and delayed vs. instant gratification.
As parents, we set an example. When we are constantly looking at our phones and immediately reacting to the notifications, then kids get the message that these devices are important, and maybe even a priority above reality. Make it a habit and a rule that you don't need to react immediately to a notification, and not to use the device when we need to be with our children. It's about being present, being available, and making our children the priority. We don't need to constantly be in contact with the outside world. Just BE WITH our kids.
In his talk Things as They Really Are, David A. Bednar warns of the dangers of virtual and augmented reality.
I plead with you to be aware of the sense dulling and spiritually destructive influence of cyberspace technologies that are used to produce high fidelity and that promote degrading and evil purposes.
Please be careful of becoming so immersed and engrossed in pixels, texting, earbuds,Twittering, online social networking, and potentially addictive uses of media and the internet that you fail to recognize the importance of your physical body. And miss the richness of person to person communication. Beware of digital displays and data in many forms of computer mediated interaction that can displace the full range of physical capacity and experience.
Where to find Pat:
pl@hssocialmedia.com
@HSSocialMedia . on Twitter
https://www.facebook.com/HSSocialMedia1 . on Facebook
Our course Digital Literacy for HomeSchooling can be accessed at
https://teaching-social-media.teachable.com/courses/digital-literacy-for-home-schooling
Your listeners can get 25% off the course purchase price with the coupon code:
HOMEANDFAMILY
The Screenagers website is https://www.screenagersmovie.com
Mentions in this post (may contain affiliate links).
Home Education Council of America
Social Media for the High School #Athlete by P L Hade
You Post What!?: How to Help your Teen use Social Media to Gain an Advantage for College and Future Employment by Tiffany Sunday
Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in their Digital World by Deborah Heitner
Pat Hade’s business works with youth sports and educational organizations to form their presence in the digital world, so her team sees hundreds of thousands of posts, tweets, searches and images from students every month.Pat Hade’s business works with youth sports and educational organizations to form their presence in the digital world, so her team sees hundreds of thousands of posts, tweets, searches and images from students every month. In addition to writing and presenting about using and abusing Social Media and the Internet she collaborates with Virtual Safety Monitoring entities to develop educational content for parents and students.<br />
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Her book, Social Media for the High School Athlete, has become a staple in the youth sports community and both Teaching Social Media and a new educational series on Social Media are slated for publication in the spring of 2016. Hade’s work has been featured in numerous publications, media and blogs including USAToday<br />
We know that kids need to be trained to drive a car, or manage their money. But, for some reason we disregard that kids need to be trained and guided on how to use their electronic devices, social media, and messaging. The internet and social media are relatively new, and the hazards are relatively unknown.<br />
<br />
Pat's job is to help make people aware of the dangers and benefits of using these tools appropriately. Kids need to learn the skills necessary to navigate the internet, know the rules, and the boundaries necessary to use these tools properly. People need to be aware that employers, colleges, landlords, and even banks use our social media for vetting their potential employees, tenants, students, athletes, and loan candidates. People need to be aware of predators, and posting too much information about their personal lives online. People need to be aware of the addictiveness of social media and personal devices, and how it affects our brains - our attention span and executive function, and delayed vs. instant gratification.<br />
<br />
As parents, we set an example. When we are constantly looking at our phones and immediately reacting to the notifications, then kids get the message that these devices are important, and maybe even a priority above reality. Make it a habit and a rule that you don't need to react immediately to a notification, and not to use the device when we need to be with our children. It's about being present, being available, and making our children the priority. We don't need to constantly be in contact with the outside world. Just BE WITH our kids.<br />
<br />
In his talk Things as They Really Are, David A. Bednar warns of the dangers of virtual and augmented reality.<br />
I plead with you to be aware of the sense dulling and spiritually destructive influence of cyberspace technologies that are used to produce high fidelity and that promote degrading and evil purposes.<br />
<br />
Please be careful of becoming so immersed and engrossed in pixels, texting, earbuds,Twittering, online social networking, and potentially addictive uses of media and the internet that you fail to recognize the importance of your physical body. And miss the richness of person to person communication. Beware of digital displays and data in many forms of computer mediated interaction that can displace the full range of physical capacity and experience.<br />
<br />
<br />
Where to find Pat:<br />
<br />
pl@hssocialmedia.com<br />
<br />
@HSSocialMedia . on Twitter<br />
<br />
https://www.facebook.com/HSSocialMedia1 . on Facebook<br />
<br />
Our course Digital Literacy for HomeSchooling can be accessed at<br />
<br />
https://teaching-social-media.teachable.com/courses/digital-literacy-for-home-schooling<br />
<br />
Your listeners can get 25% off the course purchase price with the coupon code:<br />
<br />
HOMEANDFAMILY<br />
<br />
The Screenagers website is https://www.screenagersmovie.com<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Mentions in this post (may contain affiliate links).<br />
<br />
Home Education Council of America<br />
<br />
Social Media for the High School #Athlete by P L Hade<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 021: New Year, New Goals (Solo Episode)https://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-021-new-year/
Tue, 02 Jan 2018 10:00:37 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1810Solo episodes are really just a few of my thoughts. I hope you'll find this episode helpful as you plan your 2018 goals. It's just a short episode, and I STILL have a scratchy voice. It's been, like, two months or something! I think you'll find the content insightful and brief.
Thank you again for listening. Thank you for your support!
Please remember to like and share on social media. Click the links here to connect with me.
Instagram
Twitter
Facebook
Check out some helpful tools for planning your goals (contains affiliate links):
5 Tools to Maximize Your Time
12-Week Year by Brian P. Moran
Fly Lady
Solo episodes are really just a few of my thoughts. I hope you'll find this episode helpful as you plan your 2018 goals. It's just a short episode, and I STILL have a scratchy voice. It's been, like, two months or something!Solo episodes are really just a few of my thoughts. I hope you'll find this episode helpful as you plan your 2018 goals. It's just a short episode, and I STILL have a scratchy voice. It's been, like, two months or something! I think you'll find the content insightful and brief.<br />
<br />
Thank you again for listening. Thank you for your support!<br />
<br />
Please remember to like and share on social media. Click the links here to connect with me.<br />
<br />
Instagram<br />
<br />
Twitter<br />
<br />
Facebook<br />
<br />
Check out some helpful tools for planning your goals (contains affiliate links):<br />
<br />
5 Tools to Maximize Your Time<br />
<br />
12-Week Year by Brian P. Moran<br />
<br />
Fly Lady<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 020: Merrilee Boyack Raising Independent Childrenhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-020-merrilee-boyack/
Tue, 19 Dec 2017 10:00:21 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1785Merrilee Boyack loves life and loves every season of life--especially this one! She enjoys hanging out with her hubby, four sons, daughter-in-law and two grandchildren and discussing politics. She is an estate-planning attorney preparing trust, wills and powers of attorney and her law practice covers Utah and California. Merrilee is also a professional lecturer and speaks all over the country, featured for many years at BYU Education Week and Time Out for Women, and a published author. She loves to travel and meet people all over the world. Her perfect day is camping in a tent, reading a good book, taking a perfect hike, and eating FREE food.
Her current passion is working with Family Watch International as President for Utah. She is working to protect the family and children at the international level at the United Nations and in supporting governments around the world to institute measures to protect families. Merrilee also has created the Empowered Families Coalition of pro-family organizations in Utah to support family and traditional values. She is a passionate community activist working to protect traditional values and liberties.
She is the author of several books and talks, including The Parenting Breakthrough, Strangling Your Husband Is Not an Option; In Trying Times, Just Keep Trying. and her most recent, “The Mismatched Nativity.”
I have owned Merrilee's book, The Parenting Breakthrough since I was a newlywed. I think it was part of a bundle that was giving out at a conference because it was a new book. I loved reviewing its contents in preparation to talk to the author. It is a very inspiring book that is a guidebook for parents to give their children life skills. There is even a list of what skills children should learn by what age. Merrilee has so many amazing tips for preparing her kids for adulthood, and she includes them all in that book.
There are so many great tips and tools in this interview, from how to know when your kids are ready to learn a new skills, to money management, to preparing your kids for the workforce by lining them up with internships while they are teenagers! So many incredible tips and tools here!
To be clear, Merrilee is not so supportive of "free range parenting." Her perspective is about being supportive and training our children up to be independent by mentoring, coaching, training, teaching, and nurturing. Depending on your interpretation of free-range parenting, this does not include selfishness or simply dumping your child out into the world and expecting them to figure it out!
How to find Merrilee:
merrileeboyack.com
facebook/merrboyack
Resources mentioned in this episode (includes affiliate links):
Merrilee's books:The Parenting Breakthrough: Real-Life Plan to Teach Kids to Work, Save Money, and Be Truly Independent, Strangling Your Husband is Not An Option: A Practical Guide to Dramatically Improving Your Marriage,
Merrilee Boyack
John Rosemond: New Parent Power; Toilet Training Without Tantrums
Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare You Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-HaimsMerrilee Boyack loves life and loves every season of life--especially this one! She enjoys hanging out with her hubby, four sons, daughter-in-law and two grandchildren and discussing politics. She is an estate-planning attorney preparing trust,Merrilee Boyack loves life and loves every season of life--especially this one! She enjoys hanging out with her hubby, four sons, daughter-in-law and two grandchildren and discussing politics. She is an estate-planning attorney preparing trust, wills and powers of attorney and her law practice covers Utah and California. Merrilee is also a professional lecturer and speaks all over the country, featured for many years at BYU Education Week and Time Out for Women, and a published author. She loves to travel and meet people all over the world. Her perfect day is camping in a tent, reading a good book, taking a perfect hike, and eating FREE food.<br />
<br />
Her current passion is working with Family Watch International as President for Utah. She is working to protect the family and children at the international level at the United Nations and in supporting governments around the world to institute measures to protect families. Merrilee also has created the Empowered Families Coalition of pro-family organizations in Utah to support family and traditional values. She is a passionate community activist working to protect traditional values and liberties.<br />
<br />
She is the author of several books and talks, including The Parenting Breakthrough, Strangling Your Husband Is Not an Option; In Trying Times, Just Keep Trying. and her most recent, “The Mismatched Nativity.”<br />
I have owned Merrilee's book, The Parenting Breakthrough since I was a newlywed. I think it was part of a bundle that was giving out at a conference because it was a new book. I loved reviewing its contents in preparation to talk to the author. It is a very inspiring book that is a guidebook for parents to give their children life skills. There is even a list of what skills children should learn by what age. Merrilee has so many amazing tips for preparing her kids for adulthood, and she includes them all in that book.<br />
<br />
There are so many great tips and tools in this interview, from how to know when your kids are ready to learn a new skills, to money management, to preparing your kids for the workforce by lining them up with internships while they are teenagers! So many incredible tips and tools here!<br />
<br />
To be clear, Merrilee is not so supportive of "free range parenting." Her perspective is about being supportive and training our children up to be independent by mentoring, coaching, training, teaching, and nurturing. Depending on your interpretation of free-range parenting, this does not include selfishness or simply dumping your child out into the world and expecting them to figure it out!<br />
<br />
How to find Merrilee:<br />
<br />
merrileeboyack.com<br />
<br />
facebook/merrboyack<br />
<br />
Resources mentioned in this episode (includes affiliate links):<br />
<br />
Merrilee's books:The Parenting Breakthrough: Real-Life Plan to Teach Kids to Work, Save Money, and Be Truly Independent, Strangling Your Husband is Not An Option: A Practical Guide to Dramatically Improving Your Marriage,<br />
Merrilee Boyack<br />
<br />
John Rosemond: New Parent Power; Toilet Training Without Tantrums<br />
<br />
Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon<br />
<br />
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare You Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-HaimsJodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 019: Bolaji Oyejide – Brave Young Heroeshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-019-bolaji-oyejide/
Tue, 12 Dec 2017 10:00:41 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1736BOLAJI O (DOCTOR HERO) is a superhero movie producer and the bestselling author of the 50-book Brave Young Heroes series. His goal is to give every kid who’s ever felt like an underdog, a superhero that is just like them. Bolaji uses story to teach children how to overcome adversity, and change the world.
This is another longer episode, but SO worth it! I had such a great conversation with Bolaji! He's such an amazing person, and it was so easy to talk about this topic with him. There are so many great gems in this episode!
Bolaji and I start our conversation talking about how he got started on his journey as an entrepreneur. I loved this part of our conversation because this is something I have been learning about myself, especially after my conversation with MJ DeMarco, the entrepreneur and author. He talks about the hero's journey, just like I talked about with Kathy Mellor in more detail, and how he was reluctant to answer the call to do something different than the status quo at first. He told of the inspiration for starting his journey and changing the course of his life.
Then, Bolaji talks about the inspiration for why he writes about super heroes to help kids cope with the trials of their lives. There is a subtle difference between super villains and super heroes. We can all raise our kids to be super, but are we also guiding them to be heroes? Bolaji talks about what distinguishes heroes from villains. The difference comes from how the heroes and villains react to trauma, and whether they have the virtues Bolaji lists as qualities of a hero in his latest book (below).
Gem: "Are we preparing the path for our children or are we preparing our children for the path?"
We talked in detail about his new book I, S.U.P.E.R.: How to Raise a Superhero; and what each letter in the acronym stands for:
I - Identity
S - Super Powers
U - Unlimited Gratitude
P - Purpose
E - Empathy
R - Resilience
You will have to listen to find out how each of these apply to the hero's journey, and how they distinguish heroes from villains. We can incorporate each of these traits into our family culture through our values, our conversations, in the way we instruct and discipline. We are guiding our children to be heroes, not just to be super. Make super hero training a part of your family culture by supporting the hero in each of our kids.
Find Bolaji:
Brave Young Heroes: braveyoungheroes.com
Facebook
Twitter
Instagram
Other resources mentioned (Affiliate links included):
Unscripted: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship by MJ DeMarco
Audible - great for listening to all your favorite audiobooks: Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks
The Obstacle is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday
Brett Culp: Mentor to Bolaji
Martin Seligman - Positive Psychology
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth
Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell
The Talent Code: Greatness isn't Born. It's Grown. Here's How. by Daniel CoyleBOLAJI O (DOCTOR HERO) is a superhero movie producer and the bestselling author of the 50-book Brave Young Heroes series. His goal is to give every kid who’s ever felt like an underdog, a superhero that is just like them.BOLAJI O (DOCTOR HERO) is a superhero movie producer and the bestselling author of the 50-book Brave Young Heroes series. His goal is to give every kid who’s ever felt like an underdog, a superhero that is just like them. Bolaji uses story to teach children how to overcome adversity, and change the world.<br />
This is another longer episode, but SO worth it! I had such a great conversation with Bolaji! He's such an amazing person, and it was so easy to talk about this topic with him. There are so many great gems in this episode!<br />
<br />
Bolaji and I start our conversation talking about how he got started on his journey as an entrepreneur. I loved this part of our conversation because this is something I have been learning about myself, especially after my conversation with MJ DeMarco, the entrepreneur and author. He talks about the hero's journey, just like I talked about with Kathy Mellor in more detail, and how he was reluctant to answer the call to do something different than the status quo at first. He told of the inspiration for starting his journey and changing the course of his life.<br />
<br />
Then, Bolaji talks about the inspiration for why he writes about super heroes to help kids cope with the trials of their lives. There is a subtle difference between super villains and super heroes. We can all raise our kids to be super, but are we also guiding them to be heroes? Bolaji talks about what distinguishes heroes from villains. The difference comes from how the heroes and villains react to trauma, and whether they have the virtues Bolaji lists as qualities of a hero in his latest book (below).<br />
<br />
Gem: "Are we preparing the path for our children or are we preparing our children for the path?"<br />
<br />
We talked in detail about his new book I, S.U.P.E.R.: How to Raise a Superhero; and what each letter in the acronym stands for:<br />
<br />
I - Identity<br />
<br />
S - Super Powers<br />
<br />
U - Unlimited Gratitude<br />
<br />
P - Purpose<br />
<br />
E - Empathy<br />
<br />
R - Resilience<br />
<br />
You will have to listen to find out how each of these apply to the hero's journey, and how they distinguish heroes from villains. We can incorporate each of these traits into our family culture through our values, our conversations, in the way we instruct and discipline. We are guiding our children to be heroes, not just to be super. Make super hero training a part of your family culture by supporting the hero in each of our kids.<br />
<br />
Find Bolaji:<br />
<br />
Brave Young Heroes: braveyoungheroes.com<br />
<br />
Facebook<br />
<br />
Twitter<br />
<br />
Instagram<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Other resources mentioned (Affiliate links included):<br />
<br />
Unscripted: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship by MJ DeMarco<br />
<br />
Audible - great for listening to all your favorite audiobooks: Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks<br />
<br />
The Obstacle is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday<br />
<br />
Brett Culp: Mentor to Bolaji<br />
<br />
Martin Seligman - Positive Psychology<br />
<br />
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth<br />
<br />
Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell<br />
<br />
The Talent Code: Greatness isn't Born. It's Grown. Here's How. by Daniel CoyleJodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 018: MJ DeMarco – Raising Kids with an Entrepreneurial Mindsethttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-018-mj-demarco/
Tue, 05 Dec 2017 10:00:27 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1715MJ DeMarco is a semi-retired entrepreneur, investor, self-made multimillionaire and international best-selling author of The Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted, Life Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship.
He currently is the founder of Viperion Corporation, a small publishing company and The Fastlane Forum, a worldwide global business community with over 40,000 entrepreneurs registered and over 500,000 contributions.
Update: For some reason, the last few minutes of the recording was cut off, so I re-uploaded the episode to include the conclusion of the episode. Thank you for your patience!
You'll notice this episode is a bit longer than the usual length of my podcast. I normally keep my discussions under forty-five minutes! I guess that just shows how important this discussion is to me. I don't know if I did the topic justice, but I hope that you will take the time to listen to the whole episode because there are some gems about how to be open-minded about the way our culture at large shapes our mindsets around education, finances, and our day-to-day norms.
Raising our children to be, and becoming entrepreneurial-minded ourselves, begins with education, namely becoming cognizant of the biases and constructs that make up the "script" or what I like to call the "conveyor belt."
When I read MJ's books, I felt like I had just seen the Matrix, and I had just taken the "red pill" and woke up! While it is a good idea to budget, and stay out of debt and be responsible, MJ goes into such detail on how to truly be financially free that it woke me up to a whole new concept of what freedom really is.
Financial freedom comes from creating relative value by creating a system that is duplicatable that exists outside of your time, designed to pay you time and money. These systems can be physical products, digital products, or anything that can be perpetuated or duplicated that you invent or create that brings value and impact to the world around you.
These systems aren't necessarily going to be something that you are passionate about. Being an entrepreneur requires work and investing a great deal of time and energy especially at the beginning stages of development. However, the amount of time to create an entrepreneurial system may take five to ten years, as opposed to the forty to fifty years required to create financial "freedom" in a corporate setting.
Winning inspires passion. When you start seeing the results of your efforts, you will feel passionate about the work you are putting in to create your future.
Even if you create something that is challenging or difficult to create, you do it knowing that you are creating a wealth system that will eventually lead to freedom.
I talk with MJ about how we can raise our kids to be aware of the biases in our educational systems, in our political systems, in our media (briefly), and how we can teach our kids that they have options. We don't have to default to following the "script" that MJ talks about in his books. I talk about unschooling, but I don't want you to think that homeschooling or unschooling is the only way to prepare our kids to be aware of these social constructs. Just teaching them how to recognize the messages of the script will help them to become more free to choose their lifestyle, and to realize there are options for their education and careers.
We are so conditioned to think that going to a good college, having degrees, and getting a good job is the only way to success. But, what if there were other ways that didn't involve a crazy amount of student debt, or trading your weekdays for a weekend? Technology has made it easier to get education in more unconventional ways, and has made becoming an entrepreneur easier in a lot of ways.
Like MJ said, the entrepreneurial lifestyle is not for everyone. It does take a lot of work, and involves risk. But, for those seeking to get away from a corporate lifestyle or explore optio...MJ DeMarco is a semi-retired entrepreneur, investor, self-made multimillionaire and international best-selling author of The Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted, Life Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship. MJ DeMarco is a semi-retired entrepreneur, investor, self-made multimillionaire and international best-selling author of The Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted, Life Liberty, and the Pursuit of Entrepreneurship.<br />
He currently is the founder of Viperion Corporation, a small publishing company and The Fastlane Forum, a worldwide global business community with over 40,000 entrepreneurs registered and over 500,000 contributions.<br />
<br />
<br />
Update: For some reason, the last few minutes of the recording was cut off, so I re-uploaded the episode to include the conclusion of the episode. Thank you for your patience!<br />
<br />
You'll notice this episode is a bit longer than the usual length of my podcast. I normally keep my discussions under forty-five minutes! I guess that just shows how important this discussion is to me. I don't know if I did the topic justice, but I hope that you will take the time to listen to the whole episode because there are some gems about how to be open-minded about the way our culture at large shapes our mindsets around education, finances, and our day-to-day norms.<br />
<br />
Raising our children to be, and becoming entrepreneurial-minded ourselves, begins with education, namely becoming cognizant of the biases and constructs that make up the "script" or what I like to call the "conveyor belt."<br />
<br />
When I read MJ's books, I felt like I had just seen the Matrix, and I had just taken the "red pill" and woke up! While it is a good idea to budget, and stay out of debt and be responsible, MJ goes into such detail on how to truly be financially free that it woke me up to a whole new concept of what freedom really is.<br />
<br />
Financial freedom comes from creating relative value by creating a system that is duplicatable that exists outside of your time, designed to pay you time and money. These systems can be physical products, digital products, or anything that can be perpetuated or duplicated that you invent or create that brings value and impact to the world around you.<br />
<br />
These systems aren't necessarily going to be something that you are passionate about. Being an entrepreneur requires work and investing a great deal of time and energy especially at the beginning stages of development. However, the amount of time to create an entrepreneurial system may take five to ten years, as opposed to the forty to fifty years required to create financial "freedom" in a corporate setting.<br />
<br />
Winning inspires passion. When you start seeing the results of your efforts, you will feel passionate about the work you are putting in to create your future.<br />
<br />
Even if you create something that is challenging or difficult to create, you do it knowing that you are creating a wealth system that will eventually lead to freedom.<br />
<br />
I talk with MJ about how we can raise our kids to be aware of the biases in our educational systems, in our political systems, in our media (briefly), and how we can teach our kids that they have options. We don't have to default to following the "script" that MJ talks about in his books. I talk about unschooling, but I don't want you to think that homeschooling or unschooling is the only way to prepare our kids to be aware of these social constructs. Just teaching them how to recognize the messages of the script will help them to become more free to choose their lifestyle, and to realize there are options for their education and careers.<br />
<br />
We are so conditioned to think that going to a good college, having degrees, and getting a good job is the only way to success. But, what if there were other ways that didn't involve a crazy amount of student debt, or trading your weekdays for a weekend? Technology has made it easier to get education in more unconventional ways, and has made becoming an entrepreneur easier in a lot of ways.<br />
<br />
Like MJ said,Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 017: Wendy Ulrich on Forgiveness and Apologieshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-017-wendy-ulrich/
Tue, 28 Nov 2017 10:00:15 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1651Wendy Ulrich, PhD, MBA, has been a practicing psychologist for over twenty years, and is the co-author with Dave Ulrich of the Wall Street Journal best seller, The Why of Work: How Great Leaders Build Abundant Organizations that Win (2010, McGraw Hill), as well as other books on personal change including Forgiving Ourselves: Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down and Weakness is Not Sin: The Liberating Distinction that Awakens our Strengths. She is the founder of Sixteen Stones Center for Growth, providing seminar-retreats on personal growth and creating an abundant life, and she is a learning partner with the RBL Group. She has taught psychology at Brigham Young University, and is a fellow and former president of the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists.
I like to say that I am a recovering perfectionist. Forgiving ourselves it about allowing yourself some grace to do what Wendy says, quoting Beverly Flanigan: giving up the hope of ever having a better past. Just move on from where you are, and do enough to make progress with what tools and skills you have. Wendy says that "mental health is the ability to respond to what really is from our deepest values." That's what I'm learning. When I think about forgiveness, the words that come to my mind are meekness and humility, faith, vulnerability, and trust. In order to apologize legitimately, we need to be humble, open and vulnerable. That vulnerability is not weakness, but it opens us up to be trusted, and to be forgiven.
Wendy tells a cool story about a couple working to overcome the husband's addiction, and another about her willingness to help her young son stop hitting. She shares some tips on how to apologize and how to strengthen the family with forgiveness.
I liked what Wendy says about weakness not being a sin. I think it can be compared to what Brené Brown says in her books about shame - that shame is not the same as guilt. Guilt means 'I did something bad' while shame is ' I AM bad.' When you think your weakness is a sin, you feel ashamed and you may not feel like you can change so easily, if at all. But feeling guilty means you can overcome the weakness with time and effort. Guilt is an invitation to change something that you feel bad about, and that's OK. Shame, on the other hand, may suppress the feelings that compel change because you assume change is not possible. Weakness is just a natural part of being human. When weaknesses are pointed out, it doesn't have to be shameful. It's just an invitation for growth.
Wendy's Site: Sixteen Stones Center for Growth
Affiliate Links: These books are Wendy's books, and also books I have read that apply to this discussion.
Wendy Ulrich Amazon Page
Beverly Flanigan books on forgiveness
The 12 Week Year mentions that to be effective, we need to be accountable, that accountability is not so much consequences, as ownership.
Crucial Conversations is a great book about how to have a discussion about difficult things. We have a tendency to revert to "silence or violence" whenever we are confronted or challenged. This book taught me that you can have important conversations even when the person I'm talking to wants to run or fight.
Love & Respect is a marriage book that has helped me understand how couples can undermine each others' needs because they aren't sensitive to a wife's need for love, and a husband's need for respect. Excellent read.
Daring Greatly is by Brene Brown. If you haven't read any of her books, you need to. This book is life-changing. It's about how vulnerability is crucial to our development and growth, that empathy is the remedy for shame, and to overcome anything we need to show up and be willing to face the consequences.
| | | | | |Wendy Ulrich, PhD, MBA, has been a practicing psychologist for over twenty years, and is the co-author with Dave Ulrich of the Wall Street Journal best seller, The Why of Work: How Great Leaders Build Abundant Organizations that Win (2010,Wendy Ulrich, PhD, MBA, has been a practicing psychologist for over twenty years, and is the co-author with Dave Ulrich of the Wall Street Journal best seller, The Why of Work: How Great Leaders Build Abundant Organizations that Win (2010, McGraw Hill), as well as other books on personal change including Forgiving Ourselves: Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down and Weakness is Not Sin: The Liberating Distinction that Awakens our Strengths. She is the founder of Sixteen Stones Center for Growth, providing seminar-retreats on personal growth and creating an abundant life, and she is a learning partner with the RBL Group. She has taught psychology at Brigham Young University, and is a fellow and former president of the Association of Mormon Counselors and Psychotherapists.<br />
I like to say that I am a recovering perfectionist. Forgiving ourselves it about allowing yourself some grace to do what Wendy says, quoting Beverly Flanigan: giving up the hope of ever having a better past. Just move on from where you are, and do enough to make progress with what tools and skills you have. Wendy says that "mental health is the ability to respond to what really is from our deepest values." That's what I'm learning. When I think about forgiveness, the words that come to my mind are meekness and humility, faith, vulnerability, and trust. In order to apologize legitimately, we need to be humble, open and vulnerable. That vulnerability is not weakness, but it opens us up to be trusted, and to be forgiven.<br />
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Wendy tells a cool story about a couple working to overcome the husband's addiction, and another about her willingness to help her young son stop hitting. She shares some tips on how to apologize and how to strengthen the family with forgiveness.<br />
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I liked what Wendy says about weakness not being a sin. I think it can be compared to what Brené Brown says in her books about shame - that shame is not the same as guilt. Guilt means 'I did something bad' while shame is ' I AM bad.' When you think your weakness is a sin, you feel ashamed and you may not feel like you can change so easily, if at all. But feeling guilty means you can overcome the weakness with time and effort. Guilt is an invitation to change something that you feel bad about, and that's OK. Shame, on the other hand, may suppress the feelings that compel change because you assume change is not possible. Weakness is just a natural part of being human. When weaknesses are pointed out, it doesn't have to be shameful. It's just an invitation for growth.<br />
<br />
Wendy's Site: Sixteen Stones Center for Growth<br />
<br />
Affiliate Links: These books are Wendy's books, and also books I have read that apply to this discussion.<br />
<br />
Wendy Ulrich Amazon Page<br />
<br />
Beverly Flanigan books on forgiveness<br />
<br />
The 12 Week Year mentions that to be effective, we need to be accountable, that accountability is not so much consequences, as ownership.<br />
<br />
Crucial Conversations is a great book about how to have a discussion about difficult things. We have a tendency to revert to "silence or violence" whenever we are confronted or challenged. This book taught me that you can have important conversations even when the person I'm talking to wants to run or fight.<br />
<br />
Love & Respect is a marriage book that has helped me understand how couples can undermine each others' needs because they aren't sensitive to a wife's need for love, and a husband's need for respect. Excellent read.<br />
<br />
Daring Greatly is by Brene Brown. If you haven't read any of her books, you need to. This book is life-changing. It's about how vulnerability is crucial to our development and growth, that empathy is the remedy for shame, and to overcome anything we need to show up and be willing to face the consequences.<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
| | | | | |Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 016: Jody Moore of Bold New Momhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-016-jody-moore/
Tue, 21 Nov 2017 10:00:49 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1694Jody Moore is the owner and Lead Coach at Bold New Mom where she helps women with LDS values improve their relationships, their confidence and their lives. She believes that if you want to impact the world, the most effective entry point is mothers. She is honored to work with adult women as well as young girls helping them to become the next version of themselves.
Jody has a Master’s Degree in Adult Education and Training and she is a Certified Coach through The Life Coach School where she also works part time helping new coaches achieve their business goals.
Prior to becoming a full-time Coach Jody worked in a corporate setting as a Leadership Coach and Corporate Trainer. She currently resides in Washington State with her husband and four young children.
Jody and I had a great discussion about why moms are so important, and why she has chosen to focus on moms in her efforts to lend support and guidance. Jody is a mom, too, and she has learned great skills in the corporate setting that will help moms. In the corporate world, people get to have retreats, personality tests, and things that help with employee development, but moms need those kinds of things for their development, too! I have found that for myself I love reading business books because they help me learn to take care of myself, and be a better mom. It seems like corporate culture is one of those things that people understand and will pay big bucks to develop, but family culture is really the same thing. When we take the same tools corporations use to develop their culture, we can use them for our family culture!
Affiliate disclosure page The following links may be affiliate links.
Jody's Site and Podcast:
boldnewmom.com Bold New Mom podcast (iTunes)
Jody's classes
Other resources discussed in this episode:
Entreleadership podcast (iTunes)
Gabrielle Berstein The Universe Has Your Back
Marianne Willimanson A Return to Love
What got you here won't get you there
Sell or be Sold
Leadership and Self-Deception
The Anatomy of Peace
10% HappierJody Moore is the owner and Lead Coach at Bold New Mom where she helps women with LDS values improve their relationships, their confidence and their lives. She believes that if you want to impact the world, the most effective entry point is mothers.Jody Moore is the owner and Lead Coach at Bold New Mom where she helps women with LDS values improve their relationships, their confidence and their lives. She believes that if you want to impact the world, the most effective entry point is mothers. She is honored to work with adult women as well as young girls helping them to become the next version of themselves.<br />
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Jody has a Master’s Degree in Adult Education and Training and she is a Certified Coach through The Life Coach School where she also works part time helping new coaches achieve their business goals.<br />
<br />
Prior to becoming a full-time Coach Jody worked in a corporate setting as a Leadership Coach and Corporate Trainer. She currently resides in Washington State with her husband and four young children.<br />
Jody and I had a great discussion about why moms are so important, and why she has chosen to focus on moms in her efforts to lend support and guidance. Jody is a mom, too, and she has learned great skills in the corporate setting that will help moms. In the corporate world, people get to have retreats, personality tests, and things that help with employee development, but moms need those kinds of things for their development, too! I have found that for myself I love reading business books because they help me learn to take care of myself, and be a better mom. It seems like corporate culture is one of those things that people understand and will pay big bucks to develop, but family culture is really the same thing. When we take the same tools corporations use to develop their culture, we can use them for our family culture!<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Affiliate disclosure page The following links may be affiliate links.<br />
<br />
Jody's Site and Podcast:<br />
<br />
boldnewmom.com Bold New Mom podcast (iTunes)<br />
<br />
Jody's classes<br />
<br />
Other resources discussed in this episode:<br />
<br />
Entreleadership podcast (iTunes)<br />
<br />
Gabrielle Berstein The Universe Has Your Back<br />
<br />
Marianne Willimanson A Return to Love<br />
<br />
What got you here won't get you there<br />
<br />
Sell or be Sold<br />
<br />
Leadership and Self-Deception<br />
<br />
The Anatomy of Peace<br />
<br />
10% HappierJodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 015: Seasonal Traditionshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-015-seasonal-traditions/
Tue, 14 Nov 2017 10:00:36 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1674Traditions are one of the important keys in shaping our family culture. Traditions shape our family stories and create an identity, and shape values and priorities. In an article by The Art of Maniliness, traditions come in daily, weekly, and monthly forms. They also come in seasonal forms. Perhaps your family has an annual road trip, or have a special way to initiate a new school year. Maybe you have a seasonal purging session in your house each year, or "spring cleaning". Yes, even those are family traditions. I love holidays because it's like an annual reminder to foster some tradition. Holidays tend to come with some expected traditions that are based on national or ethnic norms. This can make it easier to have traditions, but it can also make it easier to fall into default traditions rather than designing customs that serve your family culture. In this episode I discuss how we can evaluate the traditions and values we have around this holiday season, and how to be more deliberate.
If you follow me on social media, you may have seen my post about what I like to do when I’m out shopping with my kids. With the holiday season approaching, it’s like kids just know they can start asking for stuff. Instead of enduring their “gimmies” all season, or waiting until the last minute to figure out what they want, I have a little trick. When we are out, my kids will always see something that sparks their interest. At first, they would ask if they could get it. Of course, I cannot get them every little thing they ask for, but I also don’t want to have mega tantrums every time we go out. In the book, How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk, when kids say something like, I want to fly to the moon, you say something like, wouldn’t that be so cool, instead of, don’t be silly. Or when they say, I wish I could get all the toys in the whole toy store, you say, Wow, what would that be like! Just last week, my kids had all their Halloween candy in a big pile on the floor, and I announced I was going to eat all the candy, and pretended to ravenously shove handfuls of candy in my mouth. We laughed and laughed at how silly that idea would be! So, when my kids bounce up to me with something that makes their heart sore, I tell them I will add it to their list, take a quick pic of their beaming faces holding the thing, and they happily put it back on the shelf.
As far as gifts go, I read once that it would be cool to get “a thing to wear and thing to read, a thing they want, a thing they need.” In theory, that sounds pretty good. But it was way too simple. While I appreciate the minimalist approach, it didn’t end up working for us. So, I started thinking about what would work. We don’t want to keep loading up on toys, so our policy for gifts became about things that we felt would serve our goals. So, each birthday and Christmas, we choose a book, a puzzle or game, and an experience, and one thing they really want. This is expanded to include one thing that encourages movement, and the experience can include anything from concert tickets to class tuition. I love doing this because it makes the focus on experience, quality time, and developing knowledge and skills. We don’t need more toys, but my kids always love getting more games, projects, and experiences. I have created for you a 20-page list of ideas based on this idea of avoiding toy gifts, and focusing on experiences and relationships. You an access my list here.
Other mentions in this episode:
Episode 013: Kathy Mellor
My 175+ Toy-Free Gift Ideas
The Art of Manliness on Family Culture
Art of Manliness 60 Family Tradition Ideas
25 ways to Light The World
The Red-Headed Hostess: Light The WorldTraditions are one of the important keys in shaping our family culture. Traditions shape our family stories and create an identity, and shape values and priorities. In an article by The Art of Maniliness, traditions come in daily, weekly,Traditions are one of the important keys in shaping our family culture. Traditions shape our family stories and create an identity, and shape values and priorities. In an article by The Art of Maniliness, traditions come in daily, weekly, and monthly forms. They also come in seasonal forms. Perhaps your family has an annual road trip, or have a special way to initiate a new school year. Maybe you have a seasonal purging session in your house each year, or "spring cleaning". Yes, even those are family traditions. I love holidays because it's like an annual reminder to foster some tradition. Holidays tend to come with some expected traditions that are based on national or ethnic norms. This can make it easier to have traditions, but it can also make it easier to fall into default traditions rather than designing customs that serve your family culture. In this episode I discuss how we can evaluate the traditions and values we have around this holiday season, and how to be more deliberate.<br />
<br />
If you follow me on social media, you may have seen my post about what I like to do when I’m out shopping with my kids. With the holiday season approaching, it’s like kids just know they can start asking for stuff. Instead of enduring their “gimmies” all season, or waiting until the last minute to figure out what they want, I have a little trick. When we are out, my kids will always see something that sparks their interest. At first, they would ask if they could get it. Of course, I cannot get them every little thing they ask for, but I also don’t want to have mega tantrums every time we go out. In the book, How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk, when kids say something like, I want to fly to the moon, you say something like, wouldn’t that be so cool, instead of, don’t be silly. Or when they say, I wish I could get all the toys in the whole toy store, you say, Wow, what would that be like! Just last week, my kids had all their Halloween candy in a big pile on the floor, and I announced I was going to eat all the candy, and pretended to ravenously shove handfuls of candy in my mouth. We laughed and laughed at how silly that idea would be! So, when my kids bounce up to me with something that makes their heart sore, I tell them I will add it to their list, take a quick pic of their beaming faces holding the thing, and they happily put it back on the shelf.<br />
<br />
As far as gifts go, I read once that it would be cool to get “a thing to wear and thing to read, a thing they want, a thing they need.” In theory, that sounds pretty good. But it was way too simple. While I appreciate the minimalist approach, it didn’t end up working for us. So, I started thinking about what would work. We don’t want to keep loading up on toys, so our policy for gifts became about things that we felt would serve our goals. So, each birthday and Christmas, we choose a book, a puzzle or game, and an experience, and one thing they really want. This is expanded to include one thing that encourages movement, and the experience can include anything from concert tickets to class tuition. I love doing this because it makes the focus on experience, quality time, and developing knowledge and skills. We don’t need more toys, but my kids always love getting more games, projects, and experiences. I have created for you a 20-page list of ideas based on this idea of avoiding toy gifts, and focusing on experiences and relationships. You an access my list here.<br />
<br />
Other mentions in this episode:<br />
<br />
Episode 013: Kathy Mellor<br />
<br />
My 175+ Toy-Free Gift Ideas<br />
<br />
The Art of Manliness on Family Culture<br />
<br />
Art of Manliness 60 Family Tradition Ideas <br />
<br />
25 ways to Light The World<br />
<br />
The Red-Headed Hostess: Light The WorldJodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 014: Mary Ann Johnson – Creating an Intentional Family Culturehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-014-mary-ann-johnson/
Mon, 06 Nov 2017 17:38:43 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1513Download Mary Ann's guide for creating a family mission statement here: Basics of Creating a FMS 2
Mary Ann Johnson is the mother of seven children and has been happily married for 46 years and blessed with 13 grandchildren and is a family connection expert.
Her book, Becoming a Present Parent, focuses on what she knows and does best – helping children and parents connect. She has presented her Presence concepts in workshops and webinars for over seven years. You can get a FREE chapter of her new book at becomingapresentparent.com
Her website, maryannjohnsoncoach.com, is an online community reaching thousands of people. She created Family Connection Mentoring and is well known in the homeschool community as The Home School Coach.
Excerpt from the description of Becoming a Present Parent:
"Small and simple things, done consistently over time, bring the greatest rewards. In as little as five minutes you can become a Present Parent. Connect with your children in the big and small moments you share with them every day and help them reach their potential-all without adding to your to-do list. Mary Ann Johnson, the Present Parenting guru, shares the simplest methods you can use to build lasting relationships with your children.
Use technology wisely-not as a crutch
Create transitions that all will enjoy
Learn to be consistent, not perfect
Establish goals and healthy habits for your family
Change the little moments into big opportunities
Give your children more time, more engagement, more you! Find purpose, intent, and happiness in parenting and build a strong bond with each of your children."
Nuggets from this episode:
No family is perfect!
Families come together with baggage
You can have joy in the process
CONSISTENCY IS THE NO. 1 KEY TO SUCCESS
Family culture is just like corporate culture
Family culture happens either by default or by design
Steps in the process of designing your family culture
Modeling, parameters, and boundaries shape the feelings in the family
Intention is "a design a purpose, the fixed direction of the mind, to a particular object, or the determination to act in a specific manner"
How to remind your family every day of your family intention
Our journey is like a road trip with red lights and green lights along the way
Religion is only a guideline for our culture, but we must decide for ourselves what our family culture is
Being consistent is the glue that keeps your family together
Creating an intention for your family can be so simple
Family intention is open for revision periodically
I have been thinking a lot about Mary Ann's message about family culture by design or default. Your family intentions will be unique to your family and what your needs are. Right now, my family functions on survival mode, so we know a lot about those "red-light" days Mary Ann is talking about. But, you can still be intentional even on those days, weeks, or months by opening up to your family and discussing what your intentions are going to look like during those times. Being intentional about your family culture doesn't mean that everything is going to always be perfect. But, you will still be on course if you are committed to your vision and goals for your family.
Thank you for visiting my site. Please, share your thoughts and comments, follow me on social media @familyculturepodcast (click the link in my profile for more) or @_FamilyCulture. You can also subscribe on many of the available podcasting apps, like iTunes, Stitcher, Podbean, TuneIn, and even YouTube.
Affiliate Links:
Download Mary Ann's guide for creating a family mission statement here: Basics of Creating a FMS 2 - Mary Ann Johnson is the mother of seven children and has been happily married for 46 years and blessed with 13 grandchildren and is a family connectio...Download Mary Ann's guide for creating a family mission statement here: Basics of Creating a FMS 2<br />
<br />
Mary Ann Johnson is the mother of seven children and has been happily married for 46 years and blessed with 13 grandchildren and is a family connection expert.<br />
<br />
<br />
Her book, Becoming a Present Parent, focuses on what she knows and does best – helping children and parents connect. She has presented her Presence concepts in workshops and webinars for over seven years. You can get a FREE chapter of her new book at becomingapresentparent.com<br />
<br />
Her website, maryannjohnsoncoach.com, is an online community reaching thousands of people. She created Family Connection Mentoring and is well known in the homeschool community as The Home School Coach.<br />
<br />
Excerpt from the description of Becoming a Present Parent:<br />
<br />
<br />
"Small and simple things, done consistently over time, bring the greatest rewards. In as little as five minutes you can become a Present Parent. Connect with your children in the big and small moments you share with them every day and help them reach their potential-all without adding to your to-do list. Mary Ann Johnson, the Present Parenting guru, shares the simplest methods you can use to build lasting relationships with your children.<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Use technology wisely-not as a crutch<br />
Create transitions that all will enjoy<br />
Learn to be consistent, not perfect<br />
Establish goals and healthy habits for your family<br />
Change the little moments into big opportunities<br />
<br />
<br />
Give your children more time, more engagement, more you! Find purpose, intent, and happiness in parenting and build a strong bond with each of your children."<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Nuggets from this episode:<br />
<br />
No family is perfect!<br />
Families come together with baggage<br />
You can have joy in the process<br />
CONSISTENCY IS THE NO. 1 KEY TO SUCCESS<br />
Family culture is just like corporate culture<br />
Family culture happens either by default or by design<br />
Steps in the process of designing your family culture<br />
Modeling, parameters, and boundaries shape the feelings in the family<br />
Intention is "a design a purpose, the fixed direction of the mind, to a particular object, or the determination to act in a specific manner"<br />
How to remind your family every day of your family intention<br />
Our journey is like a road trip with red lights and green lights along the way<br />
Religion is only a guideline for our culture, but we must decide for ourselves what our family culture is<br />
Being consistent is the glue that keeps your family together<br />
Creating an intention for your family can be so simple<br />
Family intention is open for revision periodically<br />
<br />
I have been thinking a lot about Mary Ann's message about family culture by design or default. Your family intentions will be unique to your family and what your needs are. Right now, my family functions on survival mode, so we know a lot about those "red-light" days Mary Ann is talking about. But, you can still be intentional even on those days, weeks, or months by opening up to your family and discussing what your intentions are going to look like during those times. Being intentional about your family culture doesn't mean that everything is going to always be perfect. But, you will still be on course if you are committed to your vision and goals for your family.<br />
<br />
Thank you for visiting my site. Please, share your thoughts and comments, follow me on social media @familyculturepodcast (click the link in my profile for more) or @_FamilyCulture. You can also subscribe on many of the available podcasting apps, like iTunes, Stitcher, Podbean, TuneIn, and even YouTube.<br />
<br />
Affiliate Links:<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 013: Kathy Mellor – The Importance of Being a Herohttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-013-kathy-mellor/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:48:36 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1391Kathy is the mother of six and the mentor to hundreds of youth. For the last nine years she has had the opportunity of training parents to be mentors with the Leadership Education Mentoring Institute (LEMI), which specializes in the unique (and sometimes terrifying) teen years. In addition to being a trainer for LEMI, she also travels all over the country doing Unleashing Your Voice! public speaking and debate seminars and offers an online monthly webinar series called Mentoring the One. She provides one-on-one mentoring online for homeschooling success, finding mission, entrepreneurship, writing, public speaking, and life coaching.
This post contains affiliate links
Find Kathy on Facebook, and at unleashingyourvoice.com
A few things we discussed in this episode:
How family culture is like a garden
The Hero with a Thousand Faces (The Collected Works of Joseph Campbell) (Afflink)
We are all heroes
Learn what a hero's journey or cycle looks like
The difference between tests, trials, and traps in the hero's journey
How to be an example of a hero
How to cultivate your family vision
Why Am I Here?
Where to find heroes
Unleashingyourvoice.com <--Kathy's Site
NYTimes "The Stories That Bind Us"
Listen to your favorite books on Audible, click on the banner below to sign up!
Kathy is the mother of six and the mentor to hundreds of youth. For the last nine years she has had the opportunity of training parents to be mentors with the Leadership Education Mentoring Institute (LEMI),Kathy is the mother of six and the mentor to hundreds of youth. For the last nine years she has had the opportunity of training parents to be mentors with the Leadership Education Mentoring Institute (LEMI), which specializes in the unique (and sometimes terrifying) teen years. In addition to being a trainer for LEMI, she also travels all over the country doing Unleashing Your Voice! public speaking and debate seminars and offers an online monthly webinar series called Mentoring the One. She provides one-on-one mentoring online for homeschooling success, finding mission, entrepreneurship, writing, public speaking, and life coaching.<br />
This post contains affiliate links<br />
Find Kathy on Facebook, and at unleashingyourvoice.com<br />
<br />
A few things we discussed in this episode:<br />
<br />
How family culture is like a garden<br />
<br />
The Hero with a Thousand Faces (The Collected Works of Joseph Campbell) (Afflink)<br />
<br />
We are all heroes<br />
<br />
Learn what a hero's journey or cycle looks like<br />
<br />
The difference between tests, trials, and traps in the hero's journey<br />
<br />
How to be an example of a hero<br />
<br />
How to cultivate your family vision<br />
<br />
Why Am I Here?<br />
<br />
Where to find heroes<br />
<br />
Unleashingyourvoice.com <--Kathy's Site<br />
<br />
NYTimes "The Stories That Bind Us"<br />
Listen to your favorite books on Audible, click on the banner below to sign up!<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 012: Marlene Peterson – Heart Education and A Mother’s Influencehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-012-marlene-peterson/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:38:03 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1388I loved talking with Marlene. She is such a genuine person. Her mission to empower mothers has been inspirational to me. As a homeschooling mom of four young kids, I have often struggled with feeling inadequate. It can be easy to wonder if I couldn't be more useful outside of the home. Not so. Marlene has established a haven for mothers who are searching for empowerment and enlightenment. Heart education is all about mothers nurturing the hearts and spirits of their children to become powerful leaders.
I shared this quote from a lesson given from the ministry of Gordon B. Hinckley: "Each day we are made increasingly aware of the fact that life is more than science and mathematics, more than history and literature. There is need for another education, without which the substance of secular learning may lead only to destruction. I refer to the education of the heart, of the conscience, of the character, of the spirit—these indefinable aspects of our personalities which determine so certainly what we are and what we do in our relationships one with another" (Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Gordon B. Hinckley, 2016). I highly recommend reading the rest of this chapter.
The education of the heart and the spirit is the education of the whole person and cannot be neglected. Imagine if more people had such a balanced education and could reason more from their conscience and humanity, than on intellect alone.
While this episode is simply an introduction to Marlene's work, I hope you will take the time to check out the resources she has created over the course of her work.
Where to find Marlene:
Motherofinfluence.org - the Delphian Course
LibrariesofHope.com
WellEducatedHeart.com
Well-Educated Heart Facebook Group
momsmarchusa.com
On Pinterest
Marlene's episode on heart education
Marlene's episode on Delphian Course
Mentioned in this episode:
Sharon Eubank's Talk
Sally Clarkson (Afflink)I loved talking with Marlene. She is such a genuine person. Her mission to empower mothers has been inspirational to me. As a homeschooling mom of four young kids, I have often struggled with feeling inadequate.I loved talking with Marlene. She is such a genuine person. Her mission to empower mothers has been inspirational to me. As a homeschooling mom of four young kids, I have often struggled with feeling inadequate. It can be easy to wonder if I couldn't be more useful outside of the home. Not so. Marlene has established a haven for mothers who are searching for empowerment and enlightenment. Heart education is all about mothers nurturing the hearts and spirits of their children to become powerful leaders.<br />
<br />
I shared this quote from a lesson given from the ministry of Gordon B. Hinckley: "Each day we are made increasingly aware of the fact that life is more than science and mathematics, more than history and literature. There is need for another education, without which the substance of secular learning may lead only to destruction. I refer to the education of the heart, of the conscience, of the character, of the spirit—these indefinable aspects of our personalities which determine so certainly what we are and what we do in our relationships one with another" (Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Gordon B. Hinckley, 2016). I highly recommend reading the rest of this chapter.<br />
<br />
The education of the heart and the spirit is the education of the whole person and cannot be neglected. Imagine if more people had such a balanced education and could reason more from their conscience and humanity, than on intellect alone.<br />
<br />
While this episode is simply an introduction to Marlene's work, I hope you will take the time to check out the resources she has created over the course of her work.<br />
<br />
Where to find Marlene:<br />
<br />
Motherofinfluence.org - the Delphian Course<br />
LibrariesofHope.com<br />
WellEducatedHeart.com<br />
Well-Educated Heart Facebook Group<br />
momsmarchusa.com<br />
On Pinterest<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Marlene's episode on heart education<br />
<br />
Marlene's episode on Delphian Course<br />
<br />
Mentioned in this episode:<br />
Sharon Eubank's Talk<br />
Sally Clarkson (Afflink)Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 011: Emma Jacobs Briggs on Resiliencehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-011-emma-jacobs-briggs/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:33:13 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1385I really enjoyed talking with my friend, Emma. She was so patient with me! I learned a lot about endurance and resilience from her experiences.
So many lovely gems in this episode about how trials and oppositions shape our character and mission in life; that endurance and resilience is work and they take grit. We talked about Emma's childhood growing up in a home of child actors but that they adopted twins from Romania while she was young and the trials they endured having two special needs children to raise together.
Emma is a strong woman and a beautiful example for her daughters. I'm so grateful to know her, and I'm grateful she took the time to share her thoughts with me.
You can learn more about Emma and follow her career at http://emmajacobsbriggs.com
FYI: The links below are affiliate links, and I hope you find them useful.I really enjoyed talking with my friend, Emma. She was so patient with me! I learned a lot about endurance and resilience from her experiences. - So many lovely gems in this episode about how trials and oppositions shape our character and mission in...I really enjoyed talking with my friend, Emma. She was so patient with me! I learned a lot about endurance and resilience from her experiences.<br />
<br />
So many lovely gems in this episode about how trials and oppositions shape our character and mission in life; that endurance and resilience is work and they take grit. We talked about Emma's childhood growing up in a home of child actors but that they adopted twins from Romania while she was young and the trials they endured having two special needs children to raise together.<br />
<br />
Emma is a strong woman and a beautiful example for her daughters. I'm so grateful to know her, and I'm grateful she took the time to share her thoughts with me.<br />
<br />
You can learn more about Emma and follow her career at http://emmajacobsbriggs.com<br />
<br />
FYI: The links below are affiliate links, and I hope you find them useful.Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 010: Michael Chaffee – Interview with Jodihttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-010-michael-chaffee/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:30:30 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1382This episode was a little different! My husband, Michael, volunteered to interview me about my family culture, and what I hope to get out of doing this podcast. Our hope is that you will be able to get to know me a little better in spite of my vulnerability and weakness!
Below are a list of resources we mention in this episode. They are indeed affiliate links (except Elder Bednar's talk). Affiliate links make it possible for The Home & Family Culture Podcast to operate (or will eventually), and I only endorse products of value to me or my audience!
Elder Bednar Talk about Now Moments
Photo credit for this post goes to Kat Foley PhotoThis episode was a little different! My husband, Michael, volunteered to interview me about my family culture, and what I hope to get out of doing this podcast. Our hope is that you will be able to get to know me a little better in spite of my vulnera...This episode was a little different! My husband, Michael, volunteered to interview me about my family culture, and what I hope to get out of doing this podcast. Our hope is that you will be able to get to know me a little better in spite of my vulnerability and weakness!<br />
<br />
Below are a list of resources we mention in this episode. They are indeed affiliate links (except Elder Bednar's talk). Affiliate links make it possible for The Home & Family Culture Podcast to operate (or will eventually), and I only endorse products of value to me or my audience!<br />
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Elder Bednar Talk about Now Moments<br />
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<br />
Photo credit for this post goes to Kat Foley PhotoJodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 009: Ashley Logsdon – The Importance of Understanding Personality Styleshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-009-ashley-logsdon/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:27:31 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1379Ashley is the host and creator of the Mama Says Namaste.
Ashley takes families from surviving to thriving by helping them uncover how "the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us". She guides parents through identifying their strengths - and also their triggers - to live with intention and not simply reaction to the chaos of an ever-growing family.
Ashley, her husband, three unschooling daughters and dog are RVing the States full-time. They focus on authenticity, awareness, and embracing love in the present moment.
Download Ashley's free worksheet for understanding personality styles here: http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/culture/
10+ take-aways from this episode:
1. Living in intention and not just reaction, living your life based on what your need are, not just reacting to the demands placed on you by outside standards.
2. What is the goal? What is the feeling behind the goal?
3. How can you add that feeling into your daily lives? How can you intentionally add that feeling to your lives? Set intentions for how you want your family to look.
4. Namaste: The peace, the calm, the kindness with my soul recognizes appreciates and adores the peace, the calm within your soul."
5. Corporate culture translates to family culture.
6. John Maxwell: If you don't believe you can invest in yourself, you have a scarcity problem, not a resource problem.
7. Personality styles is like a portrait highlighting your strengths and the way you compliment one another.
8. Mind, body, and soul approach rather than a "band-aid" solution.
9. Personality profiling helps you see members of your family as individuals with dynamic character and needs, communicating and connecting effectively to develop your relationships.
10. Creating a family vision with small children with pictures and simple words or phrases.
11. Shift your perspective of what your children have the potential to become, being humble, teachable.
A few sources mentioned or referenced in this episode (note: links below do include affiliate links. I only promote products I can get behind, and by clicking on these links, you may support The Home & Family Culture Podcast and the work that goes into creating it!)
Ashley is the host and creator of the Mama Says Namaste. - Ashley takes families from surviving to thriving by helping them uncover how "the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us". She guides parents through identifying their strengths - and ...Ashley is the host and creator of the Mama Says Namaste.<br />
<br />
Ashley takes families from surviving to thriving by helping them uncover how "the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us". She guides parents through identifying their strengths - and also their triggers - to live with intention and not simply reaction to the chaos of an ever-growing family.<br />
<br />
Ashley, her husband, three unschooling daughters and dog are RVing the States full-time. They focus on authenticity, awareness, and embracing love in the present moment.<br />
<br />
Download Ashley's free worksheet for understanding personality styles here: http://www.mamasaysnamaste.com/culture/<br />
<br />
10+ take-aways from this episode:<br />
<br />
1. Living in intention and not just reaction, living your life based on what your need are, not just reacting to the demands placed on you by outside standards.<br />
2. What is the goal? What is the feeling behind the goal?<br />
3. How can you add that feeling into your daily lives? How can you intentionally add that feeling to your lives? Set intentions for how you want your family to look.<br />
4. Namaste: The peace, the calm, the kindness with my soul recognizes appreciates and adores the peace, the calm within your soul."<br />
5. Corporate culture translates to family culture.<br />
6. John Maxwell: If you don't believe you can invest in yourself, you have a scarcity problem, not a resource problem.<br />
7. Personality styles is like a portrait highlighting your strengths and the way you compliment one another.<br />
8. Mind, body, and soul approach rather than a "band-aid" solution.<br />
9. Personality profiling helps you see members of your family as individuals with dynamic character and needs, communicating and connecting effectively to develop your relationships.<br />
10. Creating a family vision with small children with pictures and simple words or phrases.<br />
11. Shift your perspective of what your children have the potential to become, being humble, teachable.<br />
<br />
A few sources mentioned or referenced in this episode (note: links below do include affiliate links. I only promote products I can get behind, and by clicking on these links, you may support The Home & Family Culture Podcast and the work that goes into creating it!)<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 008: Solo – Introduction to Season 2https://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-008-solo/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:21:44 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1376Dear Friends,
Thank you for your support on my journey of discovering my purpose for doing this podcast! I am so excited to get back on the saddle again! I have had my doubts about what I am capable of doing going forward. I started this podcast with no expectation, and with the attitude that I would not hold on to any outcome because of fear of success. You thought I was going to say failure! No. I am sure I will fail a hundred times. But if I expect to succeed and then don't, then that is the real tragedy.
Ultimately, I don't know what will become of this little podcast I feel called to do, but I do hope that it will make an impact in somebody's life. If one thing I say makes a difference to one person, than it was all worth it. I hope that what I have to say today will resonate with someone and that it will help that someone make a different choice.
Resources mentioned in this episode: (Note these are affiliate links. By clicking on the links and making a purchase you are supporting me to create this podcast!)
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families by Stephen R. Covey
The Hands-Off Manager by Steve Chandler
Spiderman
Disney's Moana
Also check out Chatbooks and start creating your family memories and stories! Stories that cultivate our identity create resilient kids.
Subscribe, share, comment, and rate!
Thank you!
Dear Friends, - Thank you for your support on my journey of discovering my purpose for doing this podcast! I am so excited to get back on the saddle again! I have had my doubts about what I am capable of doing going forward.Dear Friends,<br />
<br />
Thank you for your support on my journey of discovering my purpose for doing this podcast! I am so excited to get back on the saddle again! I have had my doubts about what I am capable of doing going forward. I started this podcast with no expectation, and with the attitude that I would not hold on to any outcome because of fear of success. You thought I was going to say failure! No. I am sure I will fail a hundred times. But if I expect to succeed and then don't, then that is the real tragedy.<br />
<br />
Ultimately, I don't know what will become of this little podcast I feel called to do, but I do hope that it will make an impact in somebody's life. If one thing I say makes a difference to one person, than it was all worth it. I hope that what I have to say today will resonate with someone and that it will help that someone make a different choice.<br />
<br />
Resources mentioned in this episode: (Note these are affiliate links. By clicking on the links and making a purchase you are supporting me to create this podcast!)<br />
<br />
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert<br />
The Millionaire Fastlane by MJ DeMarco<br />
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families by Stephen R. Covey<br />
The Hands-Off Manager by Steve Chandler<br />
Spiderman<br />
Disney's Moana<br />
<br />
Also check out Chatbooks and start creating your family memories and stories! Stories that cultivate our identity create resilient kids.<br />
<br />
Subscribe, share, comment, and rate!<br />
<br />
Thank you!<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 007: Paul Schulte – Visualize Successhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-007-paul-schulte/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:17:13 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1372Today's episode is my conversation with Paul Schulte, a wheelchair basketball player. He has played in five world championships, and three paralympics throughout his career, and also happens to be a childhood friend of mine. Paul and I grew up in the same little town in Michigan, and our families were/are very close.
I remember the day that he talks about when he and his mom and brother had their accident. I was very young, but it is one of the only times I ever witnessed my big brother cry. Yet, looking back over the years, I don't think I have ever felt like Paul let his wheelchair limit him, or make it an excuse. His story is inspiring, to say the least. One fond memory I have is the year our church had a pioneer trek for the youth in our area. We hiked over twenty miles over two days in sweltering heat, up and down hills, across plains with no shade, and through forests. A lot of people struggled with the heat, and blisters, and even a giant storm that blew around our camp one night. Paul never missed a beat and trekked along with the strongest of us.
A few nuggets I got out of this discussion:
Paul's parent's support matched his excitement for a sport.
Paul was fueled by his excitement when he saw himself getting better at a sport.
He liked challenge.
Mentors were in front of him, living life in an active way that inspired him to follow.
Life is a product of your own decisions. Your life is what you make of it, and is a reflection of your daily decision and habits.
Everyone's passion has value.
When looking to see what a child's passion is, wait, watch, and see what they gravitate towards.
Visualize the future.
Today's patterns shape your tomorrows.
Paul's dad was his mentor, he got Paul excited about his goals, and fostered a vision for Paul rather than create one for him.
The one thing that inspires athletes when it comes to family...
Listen and find out.
Resources mentioned in this post:
Paul's "Real Life" video:
Affiliate Links - Books Mentioned in this episode:
Today's episode is my conversation with Paul Schulte, a wheelchair basketball player. He has played in five world championships, and three paralympics throughout his career, and also happens to be a childhood friend of mine.Today's episode is my conversation with Paul Schulte, a wheelchair basketball player. He has played in five world championships, and three paralympics throughout his career, and also happens to be a childhood friend of mine. Paul and I grew up in the same little town in Michigan, and our families were/are very close.<br />
<br />
I remember the day that he talks about when he and his mom and brother had their accident. I was very young, but it is one of the only times I ever witnessed my big brother cry. Yet, looking back over the years, I don't think I have ever felt like Paul let his wheelchair limit him, or make it an excuse. His story is inspiring, to say the least. One fond memory I have is the year our church had a pioneer trek for the youth in our area. We hiked over twenty miles over two days in sweltering heat, up and down hills, across plains with no shade, and through forests. A lot of people struggled with the heat, and blisters, and even a giant storm that blew around our camp one night. Paul never missed a beat and trekked along with the strongest of us.<br />
<br />
A few nuggets I got out of this discussion:<br />
<br />
Paul's parent's support matched his excitement for a sport.<br />
<br />
Paul was fueled by his excitement when he saw himself getting better at a sport.<br />
<br />
He liked challenge.<br />
<br />
Mentors were in front of him, living life in an active way that inspired him to follow.<br />
<br />
Life is a product of your own decisions. Your life is what you make of it, and is a reflection of your daily decision and habits.<br />
<br />
Everyone's passion has value.<br />
<br />
When looking to see what a child's passion is, wait, watch, and see what they gravitate towards.<br />
<br />
Visualize the future.<br />
<br />
Today's patterns shape your tomorrows.<br />
<br />
Paul's dad was his mentor, he got Paul excited about his goals, and fostered a vision for Paul rather than create one for him.<br />
<br />
The one thing that inspires athletes when it comes to family...<br />
<br />
Listen and find out.<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
Resources mentioned in this post:<br />
<br />
Paul's "Real Life" video:<br />
<br />
Affiliate Links - Books Mentioned in this episode:<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 006: Brad Wilcox – You Are Part Of The Solutionhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-006-brad-wilcox/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:09:56 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1368I had the honor of talking with Brad Wilcox about the importance of family culture. He is incredibly insightful, and it was a real privilege to talk with him.
I'll be honest, I have been pretty overwhelmed with my roles lately, and I was starting to question where I wanted to take this podcast. I had this interview scheduled and I knew I didn't want to miss this opportunity. Talking with Brad helped me remember why I wanted to start this podcast in the first place. He was great to talk to, and I was inspired again to keep doing this even if it is just for a handful of listeners who may need some inspiration too.
Brad is the author of the book The Continuous Atonement, and he deliver the BYU address His Grace is Sufficient. I just picked up his book at Christmas time and I'm looking forward to reading it. His talk is one that I read over and over, and I highly recommend it.
I hope you enjoy this discussion as much as I did.
Below is a video I found of an interview about his book.
Mentions in this discussion:
The Continuous Atonement
His Grace is Sufficient
Brigham Young University
The Book of Mormon
The New Testament
Time Out for Women
Especially for Youth
Education Week
Gordon Neufeld
The Read Aloud Handbook by Jim Trelease
SaveI had the honor of talking with Brad Wilcox about the importance of family culture. He is incredibly insightful, and it was a real privilege to talk with him. - I'll be honest, I have been pretty overwhelmed with my roles lately,I had the honor of talking with Brad Wilcox about the importance of family culture. He is incredibly insightful, and it was a real privilege to talk with him.<br />
<br />
I'll be honest, I have been pretty overwhelmed with my roles lately, and I was starting to question where I wanted to take this podcast. I had this interview scheduled and I knew I didn't want to miss this opportunity. Talking with Brad helped me remember why I wanted to start this podcast in the first place. He was great to talk to, and I was inspired again to keep doing this even if it is just for a handful of listeners who may need some inspiration too.<br />
<br />
Brad is the author of the book The Continuous Atonement, and he deliver the BYU address His Grace is Sufficient. I just picked up his book at Christmas time and I'm looking forward to reading it. His talk is one that I read over and over, and I highly recommend it.<br />
<br />
I hope you enjoy this discussion as much as I did.<br />
<br />
Below is a video I found of an interview about his book.<br />
<br />
Mentions in this discussion:<br />
<br />
The Continuous Atonement<br />
<br />
His Grace is Sufficient<br />
<br />
Brigham Young University<br />
<br />
The Book of Mormon<br />
<br />
The New Testament<br />
<br />
Time Out for Women<br />
<br />
Especially for Youth<br />
<br />
Education Week<br />
<br />
Gordon Neufeld<br />
<br />
The Read Aloud Handbook by Jim Trelease<br />
<br />
SaveJodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 005: Donna Goff – Shepherding Parentinghttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-005-donna-goff/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 19:06:05 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1365Donna Goff, owner of mentoringourown.com discusses how she went from a factory-type home management style to a Shepherding-style home culture through family work, and mirroring The Good Shepherd style of parenting.
Donna's Site: MentoringOurOwn.com
Affiliate Links - Books mentioned in this episode:Donna Goff, owner of mentoringourown.com discusses how she went from a factory-type home management style to a Shepherding-style home culture through family work, and mirroring The Good Shepherd style of parenting. - Donna's Site: MentoringOurOwn.Donna Goff, owner of mentoringourown.com discusses how she went from a factory-type home management style to a Shepherding-style home culture through family work, and mirroring The Good Shepherd style of parenting.<br />
<br />
Donna's Site: MentoringOurOwn.com<br />
<br />
Affiliate Links - Books mentioned in this episode:Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 004: Rachel Demille – Prioritizing Our Family Culturehttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-004-rachel-demille/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 18:59:45 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1362Rachel DeMille of TJEd.org discussing how we can prioritize our family culture and realign with our values. This is really just a preview of the information that Rachel has available on her website. She is adding value daily helping families shape their family culture.
I would also appreciate if you would look into the DeMille's content on liberty. Rachel touches on this topic only for a moment, and I didn't have the time or presence of mind to dive into it deeper. But, more and more our family culture needs to center around liberty, self-government, educating ourselves on current events. I believe this is a topic very important to the DeMilles.
Find Rachel DeMille's work at TJEd.org
I also mentioned Leadership Education - The Phases of Learning, and excellent guide by Oliver and Rachel DeMille.
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Rachel DeMille of TJEd.org discussing how we can prioritize our family culture and realign with our values. This is really just a preview of the information that Rachel has available on her website. She is adding value daily helping families shape th...Rachel DeMille of TJEd.org discussing how we can prioritize our family culture and realign with our values. This is really just a preview of the information that Rachel has available on her website. She is adding value daily helping families shape their family culture.<br />
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I would also appreciate if you would look into the DeMille's content on liberty. Rachel touches on this topic only for a moment, and I didn't have the time or presence of mind to dive into it deeper. But, more and more our family culture needs to center around liberty, self-government, educating ourselves on current events. I believe this is a topic very important to the DeMilles.<br />
<br />
Find Rachel DeMille's work at TJEd.org<br />
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I also mentioned Leadership Education - The Phases of Learning, and excellent guide by Oliver and Rachel DeMille.<br />
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Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 003: Greg Denning – Building Character Through World Class Educationhttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-003-greg-denning/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 18:56:30 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1358The more I learn about family culture, the more I know it is so important to our development and happiness. All families have a culture, whether intentional or not, whether good or not. Our family cultures will lead our children to flourish, or flounder. When we intentionally cultivate the language and activities of our family culture through the books we read, the activities that foster learning and character building, and through conversations that teach correct principles.
Greg has an amazing story, and his work is helping youth develop into balanced individuals by helping them cultivate their spiritual, social, emotional, intellectual, and physical attributes.
Thank you for listening.
You can find Greg at
gregdenning.com and
worldschoolacademy.com
Instagram
Facebook
The more I learn about family culture, the more I know it is so important to our development and happiness. All families have a culture, whether intentional or not, whether good or not. Our family cultures will lead our children to flourish,The more I learn about family culture, the more I know it is so important to our development and happiness. All families have a culture, whether intentional or not, whether good or not. Our family cultures will lead our children to flourish, or flounder. When we intentionally cultivate the language and activities of our family culture through the books we read, the activities that foster learning and character building, and through conversations that teach correct principles.<br />
<br />
Greg has an amazing story, and his work is helping youth develop into balanced individuals by helping them cultivate their spiritual, social, emotional, intellectual, and physical attributes.<br />
<br />
Thank you for listening.<br />
<br />
You can find Greg at<br />
<br />
gregdenning.com and<br />
<br />
worldschoolacademy.com<br />
<br />
Instagram<br />
<br />
Facebook<br />
<br />
Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 002: Emily Dyke of Math Inspirationshttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-002-emily-dyke/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 18:52:01 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1355Emily Dyke, creator of math curriculum Math Inspirations, the discovery method of math. Emily and I explore how to cultivate curiosity by taking interest in the process of learning truths rather than just being satisfied with the ends, giving kids the power of learning how to learn, empowering them with confidence and trust, and a passion for learning.
Find Emily
https://mathinspirations.com
Facebook
Instagram
Resources discussed in the episode:
Affiliate links -Emily Dyke, creator of math curriculum Math Inspirations, the discovery method of math. Emily and I explore how to cultivate curiosity by taking interest in the process of learning truths rather than just being satisfied with the ends,Emily Dyke, creator of math curriculum Math Inspirations, the discovery method of math. Emily and I explore how to cultivate curiosity by taking interest in the process of learning truths rather than just being satisfied with the ends, giving kids the power of learning how to learn, empowering them with confidence and trust, and a passion for learning.<br />
<br />
Find Emily<br />
<br />
https://mathinspirations.com<br />
<br />
Facebook<br />
<br />
Instagram<br />
<br />
Resources discussed in the episode:<br />
<br />
Affiliate links -Jodi ChaffeecleanEpisode 001: Nicholeen Peck of Teaching Self-Governmenthttps://homeandfamilyculture.com/episode-001-nicholeen-peck/
Sat, 04 Nov 2017 18:42:29 +0000http://homeandfamilyculture.com/?p=1339"When it comes to parenting, Nicholeen Peck is a worldwide phenomenon and leader — and for good reason! Her proven system based on Four Simple Skills transforms even the most out-of-control teenagers and homes from chaos to calm within days. Though she’s an international speaker, author, mentor, former foster parent of many difficult and troubled teens, and even President of the Worldwide Organization for Women (an approved consultant for the United Nations), Nicholeen spends most of her time at home with her husband and four children, which she knows will be her greatest impact and legacy. The fact that she has such an international influence while still being a stay-at-home mom is evidence of the effectiveness of her teachings. Learn more about her mission and methods at www.teachingselfgovernment.com."
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A House United: Changing Children's Hearts and Behaviors by Teaching Self Government
Roles: The Secret to Family, Business, and Social Success
BBC World's Strictest Parents
Nicholeen Peck Amazon Page
Londyn Larae Says Okay (Four Basic Skills Series, Volume 1)
Porter Earns a Quarter (Four Basic Skills Series, Volume 2)
Big Win for Quin
Paije Takes the Stage, Character Building Picture Book, Teaching Manners
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Thu, 17 Nov 2016 08:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/love-is-a-verb/Stephen Covey also said: "When parents see their children's problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. Parents become more willing, even excited, about deeply understanding and helping their children. . ." This is not easy. Being a parent is hard! Sometimes I just need a little "me" time, amiright?! There is definitely a place for proper self-care as a parent, but I think we are also asked to make a lot of sacrifices that require putting our kids before ourselves sometimes. But it is so important to remember that our children are NOT a distraction, they are the purpose. It's important to establish a family culture where our kids feel like we are available to them, to listen, and to teach. I once heard about this mom whose kids knew they were loved because they always felt as though she "delighted" in them. She took notice of what they were doing and she delighted in them. In one of my favorite stories about being available to our kids, Mary Ann Johnson talked about when her little daughter kept coming to her and interrupting a project she was working on. She kept coming in, and Mary Ann kept appeasing her superficially and sending her on her way. Finally, she had done this so many times that she decided that if it happened again this little daughter was going to get a scolding. But then, just as she heard her coming back, she felt a thought come into her mind that she should give her little daughter a hug and tell her that she loved her. So she did. She held that little daughter for just a moment, looked into her eyes and said, I love you. That was the last time the daughter interrupted her project that day because all she really needed was to know that her mom was available to her and that she loved her. That was all she needed. How often to we really see our kids, and just love them for who they are? They are sons and daughters of God, and they have been entrusted to our care. What a privilege. What an honor. Stephen Covey also said: "When parents see their children's problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. Parents become more willing,Stephen Covey also said: "When parents see their children's problems as opportunities to build the relationship instead of as negative, burdensome irritations, it totally changes the nature of parent-child interaction. Parents become more willing, even excited, about deeply understanding and helping their children. . ." This is not easy. Being a parent is hard! Sometimes I just need a little "me" time, amiright?! There is definitely a place for proper self-care as a parent, but I think we are also asked to make a lot of sacrifices that require putting our kids before ourselves sometimes. But it is so important to remember that our children are NOT a distraction, they are the purpose. It's important to establish a family culture where our kids feel like we are available to them, to listen, and to teach. I once heard about this mom whose kids knew they were loved because they always felt as though she "delighted" in them. She took notice of what they were doing and she delighted in them. In one of my favorite stories about being available to our kids, Mary Ann Johnson talked about when her little daughter kept coming to her and interrupting a project she was working on. She kept coming in, and Mary Ann kept appeasing her superficially and sending her on her way. Finally, she had done this so many times that she decided that if it happened again this little daughter was going to get a scolding. But then, just as she heard her coming back, she felt a thought come into her mind that she should give her little daughter a hug and tell her that she loved her. So she did. She held that little daughter for just a moment, looked into her eyes and said, I love you. That was the last time the daughter interrupted her project that day because all she really needed was to know that her mom was available to her and that she loved her. That was all she needed. How often to we really see our kids, and just love them for who they are? They are sons and daughters of God, and they have been entrusted to our care. What a privilege. What an honor. Jodi Chaffeeclean“To Live is to Choose…https://homeandfamilyculture.com/to-live-is-to-choose/
Mon, 14 Nov 2016 08:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/to-live-is-to-choose/As I am preparing to launch my podcast soon, I am learning more about the importance of family culture. I think, so often, our society tries to get us to question who we are, where we come from, and where we are going. I am learning that, in many ways, our family culture can help us find and create those answers because we establish an understanding of where we come from by creating memories, telling stories about our lives and our histories, establishing roles and traditions, and expectations. Resilient kids know who they are, where they have come from, and an idea for where they are going. Here are a couple of sources to look into about this subject: The Stories that Bind Us -NYTimes The Stories that Bind Us - LDS.org Family Search As I am preparing to launch my podcast soon, I am learning more about the importance of family culture. I think, so often, our society tries to get us to question who we are, where we come from, and where we are going. I am learning that,As I am preparing to launch my podcast soon, I am learning more about the importance of family culture. I think, so often, our society tries to get us to question who we are, where we come from, and where we are going. I am learning that, in many ways, our family culture can help us find and create those answers because we establish an understanding of where we come from by creating memories, telling stories about our lives and our histories, establishing roles and traditions, and expectations. Resilient kids know who they are, where they have come from, and an idea for where they are going. Here are a couple of sources to look into about this subject: The Stories that Bind Us -NYTimes The Stories that Bind Us - LDS.org Family Search Jodi Chaffeeclean“Our Success as a Society, Depends Not On What Happens in the White House…https://homeandfamilyculture.com/our-success-as-a-society-depends-not-on-what-happens-in-the-white-house/
Thu, 10 Nov 2016 08:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/our-success-as-a-society-depends-not-on-what-happens-in-the-white-house/In 1990, James E. Faust said that being a parent is a divine calling. He said: "In my opinion, the teaching, rearing, and training of children requires more intelligence, intuitive understanding, humility, strength, wisdom, spirituality, perseverance, and hard work than any other challenge we might have in life. This is especially so when moral foundations of honor and decency are eroding around us. To have successful homes, values must be taught, and there must be rules, there must be standards, and there must be absolutes. Many societies give parents very little support in teaching and honoring moral values. A number of cultures are becoming essentially valueless, and many of the younger people in those societies are becoming moral cynics" (The Greatest Challenge in the World - Good Parenting). We must be the change we want to see in the world. You can't fight hate with hate. You can't teach your children compassion if you don't show them what compassion looks like. If you want to see a difference, be the difference. Our homes are the training ground for the next generation and they pick up our language, our habits, our literacy, our skills, our traditions through the culture we create in our homes. Faust quotes Barbara Bush: “But whatever the era, whatever the times, one thing will never change: Fathers and mothers, if you have children, they must come first. You must read to your children and you must hug your children and you must love your children. Your success as a family, our success as a society, depends not on what happens in the White House but on what happens inside your house.” (Washington Post, 2 June 1990, p. 2.) Especially true as another Election Day has passed. Whether you agree with the results or not, the power is in our hands to create the success we desire if we turn to our homes, our local communities, our congregations, and to ourselves, and work together to be the change. In 1990, James E. Faust said that being a parent is a divine calling. He said: "In my opinion, the teaching, rearing, and training of children requires more intelligence, intuitive understanding, humility, strength, wisdom, spirituality, perseverance,In 1990, James E. Faust said that being a parent is a divine calling. He said: "In my opinion, the teaching, rearing, and training of children requires more intelligence, intuitive understanding, humility, strength, wisdom, spirituality, perseverance, and hard work than any other challenge we might have in life. This is especially so when moral foundations of honor and decency are eroding around us. To have successful homes, values must be taught, and there must be rules, there must be standards, and there must be absolutes. Many societies give parents very little support in teaching and honoring moral values. A number of cultures are becoming essentially valueless, and many of the younger people in those societies are becoming moral cynics" (The Greatest Challenge in the World - Good Parenting). We must be the change we want to see in the world. You can't fight hate with hate. You can't teach your children compassion if you don't show them what compassion looks like. If you want to see a difference, be the difference. Our homes are the training ground for the next generation and they pick up our language, our habits, our literacy, our skills, our traditions through the culture we create in our homes. Faust quotes Barbara Bush: “But whatever the era, whatever the times, one thing will never change: Fathers and mothers, if you have children, they must come first. You must read to your children and you must hug your children and you must love your children. Your success as a family, our success as a society, depends not on what happens in the White House but on what happens inside your house.” (Washington Post, 2 June 1990, p. 2.) Especially true as another Election Day has passed. Whether you agree with the results or not, the power is in our hands to create the success we desire if we turn to our homes, our local communities, our congregations, and to ourselves, and work together to be the change. Jodi Chaffeeclean“Your Family and Your Love Must Be Cultivated…https://homeandfamilyculture.com/your-family-and-your-love-must-be-cultivated/
Mon, 07 Nov 2016 08:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/your-family-and-your-love-must-be-cultivated/The root of "cultivate" is "culture" and is a thing to be developed and grown. Our family culture is not something we perfect overnight. The culture in our homes is a thing that we practice, a thing we promote and foster. Parents are actively engaged in promoting an intended culture that will optimize the development of the family. That does not mean it is concocted or fake. A family culture is intentional. Your default behaviors and habits can be shaped when you want to intentionally change the environment of the home.The root of "cultivate" is "culture" and is a thing to be developed and grown. Our family culture is not something we perfect overnight. The culture in our homes is a thing that we practice, a thing we promote and foster.The root of "cultivate" is "culture" and is a thing to be developed and grown. Our family culture is not something we perfect overnight. The culture in our homes is a thing that we practice, a thing we promote and foster. Parents are actively engaged in promoting an intended culture that will optimize the development of the family. That does not mean it is concocted or fake. A family culture is intentional. Your default behaviors and habits can be shaped when you want to intentionally change the environment of the home.Jodi Chaffeeclean“The Most Important Thing a Father Can Do For His Children…https://homeandfamilyculture.com/the-most-important-thing-a-father-can-do-for-his-children/
Thu, 03 Nov 2016 07:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/the-most-important-thing-a-father-can-do-for-his-children/And the most important thing a mother can do for her children is to respect their father! In his book "Love & Respect" Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says that while women require unconditional love, men require unconditional respect. This is how to avoid what he calls "the crazy cycle" in marriage. Ultimately, the tone of the marriage relationship will play a major factor in the culture of the home. When children know their parents love and support each other, they feel more secure, they have a better sense of what a healthy relationship looks like, and they are more likely to be resilient. Alright, so that isn't a scientific quote, but I know I've read it in psychology. Even so, it is just good practice, and everyone is happier. If a happy marriage isn't in the cards for you, just setting a good example of respect to other adults, even an ex, has the same result. By only using respectful language in front of our kids, they will get the message.And the most important thing a mother can do for her children is to respect their father! In his book "Love & Respect" Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says that while women require unconditional love, men require unconditional respect.And the most important thing a mother can do for her children is to respect their father! In his book "Love & Respect" Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says that while women require unconditional love, men require unconditional respect. This is how to avoid what he calls "the crazy cycle" in marriage. Ultimately, the tone of the marriage relationship will play a major factor in the culture of the home. When children know their parents love and support each other, they feel more secure, they have a better sense of what a healthy relationship looks like, and they are more likely to be resilient. Alright, so that isn't a scientific quote, but I know I've read it in psychology. Even so, it is just good practice, and everyone is happier. If a happy marriage isn't in the cards for you, just setting a good example of respect to other adults, even an ex, has the same result. By only using respectful language in front of our kids, they will get the message.Jodi Chaffeeclean“No Other Success…https://homeandfamilyculture.com/no-other-success/
Mon, 31 Oct 2016 07:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/no-other-success/ "No other success can compensate for failure in the home. The poorest shack in which love prevails over a united family is of greater value to God and future humanity that any other riches. In such a home God can work miracles and will work miracles." -David O. McKay And don't we all need a miracle or two? "No other success can compensate for failure in the home. The poorest shack in which love prevails over a united family is of greater value to God and future humanity that any other riches. In such a home God can work miracles and will work miracles.... "No other success can compensate for failure in the home. The poorest shack in which love prevails over a united family is of greater value to God and future humanity that any other riches. In such a home God can work miracles and will work miracles." -David O. McKay And don't we all need a miracle or two?Jodi Chaffeeclean“The Hand That Rocks The Cradle…https://homeandfamilyculture.com/the-hand-that-rocks-the-cradle/
Thu, 27 Oct 2016 07:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/the-hand-that-rocks-the-cradle/ Though this was written in homage to mothers, this applies to all who are involved in raising our children. The culture and feeling in our homes are what shape the world. If you are a mom and you have ever heard, "just a mom," I want you to consider the power in your role. Parents are arguably doing more to shape our culture than any individual in any other vocation. Teachers and politicians are shaped by their parents. The culture around them is manipulated by the families near them. Parents do well to educate themselves about their role and the power they have to inspire the hearts and spirits of their children with love and hope, and to be educated in general. Their children will grow up to shape the world. Though this was written in homage to mothers, this applies to all who are involved in raising our children. The culture and feeling in our homes are what shape the world. If you are a mom and you have ever heard, "just a mom, Though this was written in homage to mothers, this applies to all who are involved in raising our children. The culture and feeling in our homes are what shape the world. If you are a mom and you have ever heard, "just a mom," I want you to consider the power in your role. Parents are arguably doing more to shape our culture than any individual in any other vocation. Teachers and politicians are shaped by their parents. The culture around them is manipulated by the families near them. Parents do well to educate themselves about their role and the power they have to inspire the hearts and spirits of their children with love and hope, and to be educated in general. Their children will grow up to shape the world.Jodi Chaffeeclean“If you want to change the world…https://homeandfamilyculture.com/if-you-want-to-change-the-world/
Mon, 24 Oct 2016 07:00:00 +0000https://homeandfamilyculture.com/if-you-want-to-change-the-world/Hi friends! I will be launching my very own podcast about home and family culture!! Soon I will be airing a description of what inspired me to pursue this topic. I will be interviewing parents, educators, coaches, and leaders about how the culture in our home and families influences the hearts, minds, spirits, and bodies of our children. I was inspired by kids who are making it, and I wondered what was different about their homes and families that has made their success possible. I'm inspired by parents who seem to be raising stellar kids. Is that just a front, or is there something different going on there? I want to know what is going on in our homes and families that is creating an intentional culture. When I'm talking about home and family culture, I'm talking about what you default to as a family. It's the tone you use with each other when you speak. It's the activities you are most comfortable with. It's conversation, discussion, relationships. It's traditions. It's beliefs and customs. It's routines and expectations. It's roles and responsibilities. It's attitudes about and toward each other and the environment. Mantras. Mission statements. And I want to know how these cultures are shaping our nation. I'm so excited to get started on this journey! I hope you will join me! SaveHi friends! I will be launching my very own podcast about home and family culture!! Soon I will be airing a description of what inspired me to pursue this topic. I will be interviewing parents, educators, coaches,Hi friends! I will be launching my very own podcast about home and family culture!! Soon I will be airing a description of what inspired me to pursue this topic. I will be interviewing parents, educators, coaches, and leaders about how the culture in our home and families influences the hearts, minds, spirits, and bodies of our children. I was inspired by kids who are making it, and I wondered what was different about their homes and families that has made their success possible. I'm inspired by parents who seem to be raising stellar kids. Is that just a front, or is there something different going on there? I want to know what is going on in our homes and families that is creating an intentional culture. When I'm talking about home and family culture, I'm talking about what you default to as a family. It's the tone you use with each other when you speak. It's the activities you are most comfortable with. It's conversation, discussion, relationships. It's traditions. It's beliefs and customs. It's routines and expectations. It's roles and responsibilities. It's attitudes about and toward each other and the environment. Mantras. Mission statements. And I want to know how these cultures are shaping our nation. I'm so excited to get started on this journey! I hope you will join me! SaveJodi Chaffeeclean