Let’s imagine you are a person who loves the ocean and white sandy beaches. Let’s also imagine for a minute that you have had a dream that you will retire at age 45, be financially sound so you can leave the working world behind and fully enjoy the retired life you have always imagined. At […]

The truth about death is that it is selfish. You can also say that death sucks. It is also final which gives none of us living a chance to make amends with the dead or to say something endearing which would appease our ailing hearts. Again, it is selfish, in that each of us takes […]

Ever start the day thinking “what a great day” and by the time you make it to work you are thinking mean people suck? Just the other day this happened to me. Getting onto the major boulevard from my neighborhood has never been anything but a daunting task, so much so that this is the […]

Nothing hits quite as hard as figuring out what to do for the first birthday after the passing of your child. To the parents and families every day is a tragedy of course, but the first birthday is just the first in a long list of firsts that a struggling family will have to contend […]

The year following the death of our daughter I experienced profound changes in my brain. Primarily, I remembered very little of the first six-months following her death which could of course be checked off as the brain managing stress. But the six months following that my memory failed to improve and in fact, I realized […]

I often wonder how important the feeling of “feeling special” is – as in, how special did you feel growing up – to your human development? Did your parents do a good job of making you feel special that you grew into a strong individual – knowing that you were loved uniquely and that you […]

I met with a client the other day and realized midway through the conversation that we were approaching the resolution for the challenge at hand from completely different perspectives. Taking a moment to jot down a note to research how men and women approach tasks and resolutions (which was not the topic at hand) for […]

Religion, or the lack thereof, has been a topic of considerable conversation lately between my husband and me. More specifically, the lack of foundation we gave our older boy and are continuing to not provide to our youngest because we have completely opted out of organized religions. The problem is that we cannot figure out […]

There are two sides to the emotion of guilt. On the one side we learn to wield it heavily to get what we want but on the other side it works against us. It can and often does immobilize and prevent us from making changes that allow us to move forward. In short, feeling guilty […]

The multitudes of books on gratitude all have one common theme and that is: feeling thankful is good for you!Benefits of GratitudeIt contributes to feelings of increased well being and reduces depressed feelings and anxiety. In addition to assisting us in our journey to find happiness, it also promotes forgiveness. Being more generous and compassionate, […]