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Toby making conversation

Before I had a baby, I loved reading posts by mothers about the cute things their children would say. I daydreamed about the day when I'd hear cute things coming from my own child's mouth. Well, now that Toby is almost three (!), he's been talking up a storm and I love it so much. For example...

* He likes to start up conversations, but doesn’t always get it quite right. He'll say, “Mama?” I'll answer, “Yeah?” “Um.....remember Daddy?” "Yeah, totally! That guy from this morning? He was awesome."

* The other day, I walked into the living room and asked what he was doing. He answered, "Just chillin'." Another day, he answered, "Doing my thing." Oh. Okay.

* When I sing songs and put him to bed, I'll say, "Good night, sweetie," right before I walk about the door. And recently, he'll whisper, “Thank you so much." The sweetness breaks my heart.

* When he had his first bad dream and woke up crying, I asked him what he was scared of, he said ominously, "The restaurant." He wouldn't elaborate.

* The other night, I was putting Toby to bed, and we were lying in the dark talking about the new baby. Toby told me that the baby could sleep in his room and that he would help feed it. And I said, “What would you feed the new baby? Milk maybe?” And he paused, thought about it seriously, and said, “Pain au chocolat maybe?”

Oh, Toby, you're so awesome. P.S. Mamas, this might be a dumb question, but how can you love another baby as much as your first child?! My heart is already filled to the brim.

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I wondered the same thing when I was pregnant with my second child. But like any mama will tell you, u love your second child as much as your first. It's almost as if you grow a new heart for your second child. They are lovely!

he is so adorable. and i always remember my mom telling me that when my sister was little and she was pregnant with me she was afraid she wasn't going to love me as much because she didn't get how it could happen - how there would be room for more love - and then i was born and immediately her heart grew twice its size. i loved hearing that, and i can't wait to have a second baby and watch my heart grow!

Oh, you have so many comments already, Jo - so I don't know if you will see this one. Actually, I am a second child. And it just so happens that my parents were in town today to see me. The first thing they did as we met, was hug me. Long hugs. I-missed-you-so-much hugs. You-will-always-be-my-child hugs.

You'll love your children differently; they are unique human beings, and you will have a unique relationship with each of them. Take it from the second child: I've never doubted my parents' love. It will be okay =)

Hello Jo! Such a sweet post. I'm 27 years old and have four younger siblings, three of which are from my father's second marriage. I vividly remember one day, when the youngest two (twins, a boy and a girl) were about to arrive, I suddenly felt very insecure and emotional and like I was losing my father to an extent, and hugged him tight and tearfully confessed by fears. He just held me tightly and said that with parenthood, the more you love, the more you are capable of loving. That was over three years ago, and I'm choking up remembering it. I wish your family all the best. :)

My mother did this, and it is amazing; even as a little kid, it just made me feel that I was incredibly interesting and lovable to my parents. My mom would also go on "dates" with each of us individually, and make sure that we all got some one-on-one time.

I expected a little replica of my first, but he's a completely different kid and I love him differently, but the same. There were three great bits of advice I got when I was pregnant with my second--1) give your first a little extra attention, she'll miss being the only child, but the baby won't, 2) make sure the older one feels like the baby is her baby, not just yours, and 3) don't forget that your oldest is still a baby too.

We had our second little boy in August when our first was still just a (19-month old) baby himself. You love the second as much as your first. And having a second makes your love for your first grow even more. You love them as much, but you love them differently, because they are their own little people in a way you can't even fathom until you have two.

Hi Jo! Love this post, as all of your post. But I want to say the thing that no one else has said: do you worry about what your second child will think when he or she reads this one day? It could be really hurtful to be thought of as the one less loved. Just a thought.