I mean I get it, he spends more time with me than with the other girls in our group and sits with me and plays creative games because he considers me on his level, which I'm totally fine with. But fuck your mixed signals, dude. Seriously.

I don't really get what you mean by "friendzoned". This is the classmate? He's said to you something like "We're only going to ever be friends?"

Good god, I actually had to google "friendzone" and there's an actual wiki page for the term Why is life so complicated it needs a whole internet page dedicated to a term about having a crush on someone and them not reciprocating.?

In popular culture, the "friend zone" refers to a platonic relationship where one person wishes to enter into a romantic relationship, while the other does not. It is generally considered to be an undesirable situation by the lovelorn person.[1] Once the friend zone is established, it is said to be difficult to move beyond that point in a relationship.

I reckon fuck that guy. He's a dork. Get blunt with him and tell him you like him and want more, or just stop hanging around with him. He's being a mindfuck and you don't need that.

From the guy's perspective, Irina's being a mindfuck too. I would feel horrible if I learned that someone I liked me back but didn't tell me because they didn't want to screw it up like me.

Yeah, I don't get it. I always had a hard time telling a guy how I felt but I learned to just be upfront about it as possible because all the guys that I liked but never told would always tell me they had a thing for me as soon as they would hook up with some other girl. It sucked. Even though being up front hasn't gotten me very far with guys I feel better that I'm not trying to play games or having to hide how I really feel.

Irina, take your time being friends. The romantic stuff will come naturally. You are an amazing, stylish chick. There is no way that he doesn't realize that!! Or he wouldn't be spending so much time with you.

*Personally I would rather be friends with a guy for a year or two, before a serious relationship. I actually like to watch them lightly date, so I know if the guy has a Dr. Jeckle/Mr. Hyde syndrome, before I date him. Let it be known to him, that you like him, but are in no particular rush. That way, he will consider you. He may jump you immediately or at a later date. Moreover, this will also save you from the torture of watching him get into a serious relationship with another girl, before you get a chance to tell him how you feel.

Your guy will come around. And the perfect time will come for both of you.
Do you want a roll in the hay or a deeper best friends/lover relationship?
Guys take things really slow with girls that they think are special.

Maybe, but at the same time he's the only person in my class I keep eye contact with for more than one second, I'm not exactly being very subtle and come on, he read that stuff here and then I rushed home to edit everything. Wasn't that obvious enough? I'd go for if he did like me, he would've said something by now. And the Christmas thing can only mean there's another girl involved, right?

Hah I doubt that. He also declined two invitations to go out this week - once with our group of classmates, the second time with just me and another girl.

Maybe the "who" part was a poor translation on my part. Would "someone" have worked better? I have someone to spend Christmas with? In Romanian we don't make a difference between the singular and plural in such a context, we use the indefinite relative pronoun that's equivalent to "who".

I'll think about it. Maybe he comes for drinks on Sunday (when we all meet for the last time this year, because the other people in our group aren't from Bucharest and will go home for the holidays) so we'll talk then.

To roger is an English slang term commonly used to mean have sexual intercourse. However, it is used only for men towards Women, and not the other way round. It is also commonly used to describe the taking of a woman from behind.

No, Amber, he only came here once, as I was sitting next to him in the pub. I hadn't even mentioned the Cult to anyone in my class back when that happened. I didn't give more details about his wandering about this place last week because I was still worried he'd come back. He seemed really offended when I told him how much it had pissed me off, but how supportive everyone had been. "How old do you think I am to do that?"

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