Hi eveyone. Sooo, i recently started wearing my hair curly a lot because i just turned 13, & wanted something different . my curls are 3c with some 3b. All my friends in my neighborhood are some how fascinated with it. They all want to pet my head and rake their fingers through the curls >.< most of them are mixed race too, so you'd think that seeing curly hair wouldnt be such a big deal, but its annoying having people & sometimes strangers wanting to put their hands in it or make remarks like why is it so curly? Does it do that on its own or do you so somethig to it? No no, like when you come out the
Shower is it like that? And they dont even ask to touch it >.< does anyone else have this problem? Because after this, the race questions come up & to me its a little uncormfortable :/ please help!!
Xoxo , Goldi Locks

Well...I'm a bit older than u...I think they know better now that to just touch my hair..lol

When I was ur age my family (mostly white) always loved my hair and wanted me to leave it curly. It was such a hassle to deal with cause is so super-duper curly it tangles so easy. I also didnt know how to deal with it then. I relaxed and straightened. I didn't leave it curly till like 27. Maybe pull away some when people go to touch ur hair...or say no..u'll mess it up.

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.

Poor baby. My daughter told me she has the same problem. She also is 13. Her hair is 3a in front and a combo of 3b&c throughout the rest of her hair. The kids at school and in the neighborhood loves to touch her hair and ask her race. She says it's worse when the kids see me. We are African American. Just have type 3 hair with multicolored eyes. I tell her to move when they try to touch her hair and let them know that they can't touch her hair. That's really all you can do.

Poor baby. My daughter told me she has the same problem. She also is 13. Her hair is 3a in front and a combo of 3b&c throughout the rest of her hair. The kids at school and in the neighborhood loves to touch her hair and ask her race. She says it's worse when the kids see me. We are African American. Just have type 3 hair with multicolored eyes. I tell her to move when they try to touch her hair and let them know that they can't touch her hair. That's really all you can do.

Originally Posted by Luvmycurls3

Yeah! Thats another thing! My hair is light brown & blonde , my eyes are greenish, but my skin is caramel so race comes up all the time

People are naturally curious and some of them don't think before reaching to touch curly hair (or even body parts). (For the record, I think this happens to a lot of curlies and coilies who aren't mixed, too). You can let people know you feel uncomfortable. Tell them you don't want your hair touched when they see you reaching to touch it.

The other thing you mentioned - that neverending "What are you?" question - is trickier because people may keep asking you that a lot even once you're a lot older. I still get that question constantly as an adult. Constantly. If you don't feel like answering that, don't. You can walk away, remain silent or simply change the subject. Another thing I've done is, instead of answering, ask them the same question ... "What are you?" Once they've answered, change the subject.

One thing I try to remember is that this kind of attention can often be a form of flattery. I mean, the person found you interesting enough to tug on your hair, or ask you a pointed question about yourself. So try not to get too upset, if you can help it.

Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.

People are naturally curious and some of them don't think before reaching to touch curly hair (or even body parts). (For the record, I think this happens to a lot of curlies and coilies who aren't mixed, too). You can let people know you feel uncomfortable. Tell them you don't want your hair touched when they see you reaching to touch it.

The other thing you mentioned - that neverending "What are you?" question - is trickier because people may keep asking you that a lot even once you're a lot older. I still get that question constantly as an adult. Constantly. If you don't feel like answering that, don't. You can walk away, remain silent or simply change the subject. Another thing I've done is, instead of answering, ask them the same question ... "What are you?" Once they've answered, change the subject.

One thing I try to remember is that this kind of attention can often be a form of flattery. I mean, the person found you interesting enough to tug on your hair, or ask you a pointed question about yourself. So try not to get too upset, if you can help it.