Post by solodriver on Oct 23, 2018 21:02:47 GMT -5

Thanks elle I appreciate your support. Every one helps me to know I'm going to make this happen. It will be the second hardest thing I've done in my life. My last hardest thing I did was go through my first divorce.

But this time I'm the one leaving and making it happen, which is different than having your spouse do it. But it won't be hard because I have 19 years of rejection to remind me why I'm doing this. And a hope for a brighter future that I'm going to keep in front of me.

It’s hard to continue to love someone romantically who doesn’t love you back in the way you need to feel like a whole person.

Post by solodriver on Jan 10, 2019 0:15:14 GMT -5

"This is Solodriver Divorce Launch Control. We are at T-Minus 192 days, 8 hours, 42 seconds to the planned launch of the Solodriver.

All still going well with the countdown at this time. Solodriver had a chance to relax a little over the holidays and is now ready to focus on the exit plan and fine tuning the specifics of each step as it comes up in the countdown sequence. Once we get down to 3 days, actions will be automatic based on conditions as they are occurring at the time. This will lead up to launch day when "The Talk" will take place and the "Commit" is made to separate. At separation, the Solodriver will depart for the start of his new life.

"This is Solodriver Divorce Launch Control"

It’s hard to continue to love someone romantically who doesn’t love you back in the way you need to feel like a whole person.

Post by baza on Jan 10, 2019 1:36:17 GMT -5

192 days and change to go eh ?

Be sure that by 180 days (that's only 12 days away) that you have consulted a lawyer here on earth and know precisely how the launch process is likely to shake out for you.By 150 days, you need to have tweaked your launch plan to accommodate any legal niceties that emerge from the above.By 120 days, your support network needs to be in place, some of that group may need to know that you are about to launch.By 90 days, your ongoing research as to how best shepherd your junior astronauts through the launch process needs to be well advanced.Then, you've got 90 days to check, re-check, revise, tweak and refine all the things you are in control of in this complex situation. And, as far as is possible, have solid contingency plans for all the things you are NOT in control of too.

Then, you wait, and have your antenna tuned to any opportunity to launch earlier, and of course, you are also prepared for the not unknown event of pre-ignition of the launch caused by your missus getting wind of the mission you are planning and activating your ejection seat herself.

Post by shamwow on Jan 10, 2019 9:13:40 GMT -5

Be sure that by 180 days (that's only 12 days away) that you have consulted a lawyer here on earth and know precisely how the launch process is likely to shake out for you.By 150 days, you need to have tweaked your launch plan to accommodate any legal niceties that emerge from the above.By 120 days, your support network needs to be in place, some of that group may need to know that you are about to launch.By 90 days, your ongoing research as to how best shepherd your junior astronauts through the launch process needs to be well advanced.Then, you've got 90 days to check, re-check, revise, tweak and refine all the things you are in control of in this complex situation. And, as far as is possible, have solid contingency plans for all the things you are NOT in control of too.

Then, you wait, and have your antenna tuned to any opportunity to launch earlier, and of course, you are also prepared for the not unknown event of pre-ignition of the launch caused by your missus getting wind of the mission you are planning and activating your ejection seat herself.

Well done so far, good luck with the rest.

100 percent agree. When I told my ex that I was leaving, her mother and I had a 4 hour talk to try to convince me to go to counseling, work on the marriage, blah blah blah. Most of the discussion was crap except for one thing she told me:

"things will not go exactly according to what you have planned"

She was right. So is baza. If you've got 6 months or so to plan then you should get as many ducks in a row as soon as you possibly can. Then just sit back and enjoy the countdown.

When you get to 0 and leave, you will meet the person you married for the first time as you navigate the divorce process. Thus begins the next countdown.

Signing off from the space station. Good luck!

Sham's Law #1: Everything in life is simple. First you figure out what you want. Second, you figure out how to get it. Third you do it. The first step, unfortunately happens to be the hardest.

Post by worksforme2 on Jan 10, 2019 9:25:52 GMT -5

Maybe it's way too early to be thinking about this. But when I knew we were separating I began thinking about the re-entry process and how I was going to be dealing with some of the new problems and opportunities that would bring with it.

Post by northstarmom on Jan 10, 2019 16:54:59 GMT -5

Worksforme2 said: “Maybe it's way too early to be thinking about this. But when I knew we were separating I began thinking about the re-entry process and how I was going to be dealing with some of the new problems and opportunities that would bring with it.”

frednsa: i saw something on the wedding night (in the 60's) should have ended it during the honeymoon. i was played so perfectly. she is so wonderful in almost every other way, so...still wondering...thinking frigidity is a real thing and untreatableAug 29, 2019 12:07:04 GMT -5