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When you startle awake with the streaming revelation in response to your daily inquiry of “whys”, sequentially demonstrating how one internal disposition led to a series of deficient events you’ve been internally bellowing about… it’s time to GET UP!

They say that the ‘witching hours’ are those dark few just before dawn. Most of us have heard that the veil is thinner, both literally and metaphorically and anyone who has endured a deep and dark night of the soul gets the metaphor full in the face.

The past two years have been a journey of incessant inquiry for me. It has also been two years of some serious dismantling and personal and professional re-branding. The two years of playing anchor to my knowing and seeking has been bounteous and fruitful…. In fact overwhelmingly so! Conscious confirming data of the soul and it’s purpose has flowed generous and consistent rounding out my wisdom base and clarifying earlier suspicions on lesser known details weaving a constellation of truths I now overflow with.

And, like all obedient and earnest seekers, I have laid at the teet of truth yearning to suckle more until the epic moment of evolution in human consciousness drew me to my feel in a cacophony of brotherhood and transcendence and took my place among the masses in song and common purpose! Can you hear the heavenly choruses now?

And I waited. I read the prophecies, interpreted the signs and waited some more. And I grew deeply, darkly impatient.

I have many a time referred to this earth home, era in civilization and it’s current sentient consciousness as the “dummy rock”. Ugly, I know. And why so cynical? Or as Jack Nicholson in his role as Joker with his charismatically sinister smile,…. “Why so serious?”

My immediate shout back would be, isn’t it perfectly obvious? All the experts agree. We either evolve or we are headed towards a very rapid extinction event!

Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. He also said we cannot solve a problem with the same thinking we used when we created them. I am effectively paraphrasing here but this rather well respected physicist and early quantum investigator would be hard to argue with. No reasonable person would.

And yet, that is STILL the condition of most of humanity today! Do I hear “dummy rock?”

At this risk of sounding arrogant, the path to understanding why society is so cyclical in it’s inequality and hostility, who has been in charge, how long this has been the case, what their motives might be and if those motives are in my and the rest of humanity’s best interest is ultimately pretty damn easy to investigate and ultimately decipher. Especially with the “all seeing internet”. It is now spectacularly easy. Follow the money folks.

So why so many souls indignantly morose and equally complacent about the status quo?

Perhaps they don’t know their limitless options? Potential for change? Boundless solutions already in implementable templates? Are they unable to decipher genuinely moral leadership, transparent in motive and deed? Maybe they don’t feel sufficiently elected to direct others and collaboratively act upon available solutions? Ahhhhhhhhh!…………..

And in comes the stream of revelation. This Reluctant Intuitive has just as poignantly been the reluctant leader, barricading my own receptivity in wishful aspiration of steadfast philanthropy. And it has stripped me bare and left my field interpreted as “open for the takers!” Before we can give, we must receive. We cannot be givers unless tapped into receiving. Of course I knew this. And the natural progression of the apprentice, maturing student, novice teacher and growing sage is LEADERSHIP.

And there it is.

Global solutions require SOLUTIONARIES that are bold and brazen enough to lead. That includes me, without self deluding thoughts of inadequacy, squirming away from the call by perpetual intimidation and even meaningful distraction.

NOW, calling all reluctant leaders; would be solutionaries in your various states of activation and becoming! ARISE and fill your place as change agents and LEADERS! Seeing what is ‘wrong’ and articulating it well IS NOT enough.

Time to stand and be counted among the active leadership in our evolving world in transition. There is so much brilliance here and it’s time to raise the IQ and EQ of our global leadership!

We have all heard the news….. it’s not just a niche concept anymore! The news can be heard from the airwaves of television talk shows, late night radio, news and magazines, and the latest and hottest self-help books. The news has gone mainstream and is becoming widely accepted to be a new way of relating to the world around us. What is this “News”?

Our thoughts create based upon our belief system. We are constantly creating and magnetically attracting experiences, opportunities and people who mirror our inner beliefs. Yikes, some might say! And there is a genuine reason why many may want to dismiss this news altogether…… it’s not good news to know that we have SO much responsibility over a reality that we aren’t satisfied with.

Solution? Absolutely!

First,…. get in touch with what beliefs are surfacing and running much of your life. Are they even your beliefs, values and thoughts? Are they your mothers, or dominant great aunts? Are they outdated versions of yourself? Are you still reflecting on your post college ideals of your potential success 15 years into your career? Check these out! Question them and put them to the test to determine if they are even a part of your ever-developing sense of self. If not, let them go and let them go BIGTIME!

Second,…. take a moment to do some real inventory of what latent fears lurk deep within you. What concerns are lying just under the surface? Are you secretly running a program in the backroom of your mind that your partner is too good to be true and just waiting patiently for a sign of betrayal or rejection? Perhaps you carry concern that the next promotion shouldnt really be yours regardless of your seniority and effort because it would rock the boat with your friendliest of colleagues… let someone else shine and remain peacefully well-liked?

Fears are often revitalizing and provoking those outdated and foreign beliefs that don’t serve you. They are the beliefs that may never have been truly yours, simply adopted from an influential family member or respected mentor that is now keeping your growth on many levels at bay. As a matter of fact, regardless of the work that you pursue to make conscious change these are the very thoughts that may sabotage you from real break throughs again and again!

Sit down and take a genuine and unabashed inventory…… what have you got running the show in there? What is running amok? How does it feel to get a glimpse of the fears lurking in the darkness of your inner consciousness? Uncomfortable? Off-putting? Don’t ignore them…. make friendly with those fears! Gently encourage them out of the darkness and into a more enlightened view and gently examine them from many angles. What’s there now? Have they lost some of their solidity? Do they seem less reasonable or less likely?

Look again.

And after the excavation and dissection….. SHAKE THINGS UP A BIT!!! I mean, why not? Have a ball…. throw a party and celebrate that you know what you have been fearing and it is no way as frightening as you had allowed yourself to feel! Claim your renewed freedom and gently and lovingly retrain yourself to allow that fear to exist without feeding its silent, sucking momentum. You know the truth and the truth is, it really will ALL be OK.

Whenever a new belief fed by a latent fear rises to your attention from your new openness,… welcome it compassionately. Shake it’s hand in a warm greeting and be a good, yet temporary host. Get to know it for a while and then see it clearly from all sides. Watch it shrink in its stature through its revealing of itself, just like a formidable foe that has come into need of you and somehow becomes less threatening in its weakness. Beliefs and fears are exactly the same. They need YOU to be fed. They require your focus on them to even be real. Gently strip back their power through your familiarity with them.

Celebrate the moment you are in right now….. and take time every day to see and feel how many aspects of your life are just RIGHT!

Is there any greater frustration than being misunderstood? Is there something more agonizing that being pigeonholed in a clouded opinion of one who cannot see and hear you objectively? For me this IS the greatest of pains and the most difficult to rise above!

Years ago I was asked by two family members what I considered to be the largest personal challenge to my ego. I knew it immediately and the answer I gave them then is still the same answer I would give today…… being misunderstood!

My upbringing was entrenched in moral referencing, codes of ethics, religious underpinnings and lists of do’s and don’ts for which I made ridiculous efforts at being fastidious. I was actively aware of what was expected of me and my 6 siblings and also what living this immaculate lifestyle was meant to somehow guarantee in future reaping. There were covenants and promises built into this system of living, so by following this simple subscription I was bound to find eternal happiness.

We all grow into the adults that we were favored to become. Most of that growth came by great trial and effort and often many pitfalls and failures. The self-criticism born out of those failures is the first hurdle in the encounter we have with misunderstanding. We ask, “Did I misunderstand the rules”? “Could I have misunderstood the rule makers”? “Could I have over-estimated my ability and misunderstood my own strengths and weaknesses”, and worst of all, “Is the judgment that I feel from those observing me my failure or their misunderstanding of my intentions and best efforts”?

I have severely failed to meet the expectations built up for me by those who reared and molded me in childhood. It has been made perfectly clear to me that judgments around the results of my choices are concrete in the minds of my jury and regardless of my personal soul shaping and growth, the intentions behind my experiences are veiled in cloudy, half-formed and often absent perception from those attempting observation from the outside.

Isn’t that true on some level for every one of us?

The shaping of our sense of self may be riddled with these moments of self-inquiry, self-doubt and external misunderstanding.

“The teacher didn’t see the kid behind me flick me in the back of the head and is now punishing me for turning around in my seat”!

“The officer didn’t see the pothole in the road and pulled me over for swerving with a warning”!

“The surprise birthday I painstaking planned only annoyed my spouse rather than being appreciated for my efforts”!

“My inability to show up for my childs second parent/teacher conference this year due to work constraints has been misperceived by the teacher to be poor parental involvement and a disinterest in my childs academics”!

We all have our personal and painful lists throughout our lives and these disappointing moments are not likely to always remedy themselves with certainty. Some of these deep misunderstandings linger and destabilize commitments, break down trust and destroy relationships.

While we cannot shape the opinions and perceptions of others what we can do is to hold a special kindness for ourselves in these moments and deeply acknowledge our genuine intentions. Yes, our best intentions.

No one will ever maintain a spotless record of successful communication, execution and completion without ever failing to be perceived from the intentions of their heart. Human nature and communication in all it’s complexities guarantee that. Consider the many angles from which one can read and understand a casual text.

TEXT: “Why aren’t you here”? It could be a frightened cry,… it could be an antagonistic inquiry,… it could be a formal scolding,.. and it could be a casual question.

When we acknowledge with gentleness that our best intentions may miss the mark and be subject to misinformed judgments, we can hold ourselves harmless and exhibit kindness to ourselves for what we consciously meant to see manifest. This awareness within ourselves simultaneously opens us to the compassionate posture of seeing others intentions more clearly.

In a recent wedding that my spouse and I were honored to be witnesses for, the bride and groom had chosen to write their own vows. Included in the deeply personal vow exchange was the inclusion of the commitment to “Patiently forgive one another for personal failings in communication and execution of anticipated duties and to acknowledge their best intentions first.” Beautiful!

So what standard to you hold yourself to as a spouse, parent, employee, devotee, neighbor, friend? What do you hold others to? Compassionate inquiry and acknowledgment of our own and others greatest of intentions frees us from harming ourselves and those we love and respect. It honors who we are becoming and draws us closer to heart based relationships where forgiveness is found and relationships flourish.