Why is it rude to have sex?

But why do so many people consider it rude to have sex?I have heard people get all worked up if they find out a guest is having sex in their house when they are visiting.I have heard parents who get all worked up if they found out their kids were at a sleep over and the parents were having sex after the kids went to bed.

I mean I get that it can be rude if they are not being discreet and going at it out in the open, but what is the big deal if it goes on behind closed doors?

Not trying to be snarky, I just honestly don't understand what is "rude" about it. Especially the ones who think it is disrespectful to have sex in their parents home when they go to visit. Some leeway can be given if you are not married and your parents are vehemently against sex before marriage and therefor you don't want to disrespect their personal values by having sex with someone you are not married to under their roof. But you won't have sex with your husband or wife of 15 years? I just don't get how it is disrespecting your parents by performing what is one of the fundamental functions of a marriage IMO.

Is it rude to have sex with your partner if your children are home? What if they are awake but occupied else where. DH and I frequently have sex on Saturday afternoons while the kids are watching a movie or playing in the other room. We lock the door so they cannot barge in but I don't bat an eyelash at the fact that they are awake. If we could only have sex at night after they were asleep we would pretty much never get to be together because of DH's wonky schedule. I don't think there ever has been a time that we went to visit the in laws that we did not at some point have sex (at appropriate times when we were alone). It would never even occur to me to think twice about it.

Maybe we are the weird ones?

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We very rarely have overnight guests, but if they want to rock the bed its really not a big deal. We also rarely are guests in someone elses home, but I don't think I would even give it a second thought if we did have sex. Its not like we are going to announce or discuss it. And we don't leave a mess at home so we definitly wouldn't in someones home. I guess this is one more for our reasons we prefer a hotel list, lol.

But if you knew they did would it bother or upset you? Would you feel like they were rude for doing so under your roof?

^^^^ trying to imagine the senario - how would I know that someone was masturbating in my house? give me an example. did I walk in on someone masturbating? are they masturbating so loudly that I can hear them? is a noisy vibrator involved?

They probebly have.....or they have had sex....either way its a lot more common then you think

^^^ so in the new house I've had one overnight guest - though they were babysitting overnight and we weren't home. I actually hope that they did have sex and concieved... she's having fertility problems and I know they are trying so in that case i would not mind. i actually think it would be great if she tells me that concieved in my home!

You could accidentally walk in on them...maybe you go into the room to tidy up and empty the trash can and accidentally run across their vibrator tucked underneath the pillow.

^^^ if I accidently TOUCHED the vibrator with my hand I'd probably douse my hand in karosene oil. LOL I would never mention it to the guest, for god's sake. "hey BTW ran into your vibrator - that's a petty powerful model." yeah...not happening.

I honestly don't know what I would do in the situation of walking in on someone that masturbating in my house. the idea is just so far fetched. but I'm guessing that if that happened they would be really embarrased and I would go out of my way to say that it was perfectly OK and I didn't see anything and try to brush the whole thing off.

I would assume anyone you know well enough to invite them to stay multiple days in your home you would have a at least a semi-close relationship with. So why would you begrudge anybody having sex, be it because they are ovulating or because they want to have sex to feel closer to their spouse at the moment, or because they need the hormonal release of sex to sleep well? Wouldn't you just want them to feel comfortable or happy in your home as your guest? And as long as you don't have to hear it or see it or deal with the mess...what harm is done?

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