Tag: moms and sons

I am learning that as my son is getting OLDER …… I have to let him go day by day via treating him like he will NEVER leave the house! Only a few more years left and I will be saying >>> SEE YA LATER BUDDY BOY!! ( hiding my tears )

The toughest thing about being a parent (or a teacher) is learning when NOT to be one. You don’t have to take my word for it, just ask Marlon. (The mivie Finding Nemo ) His wife was brutally attacked and killed by a man-eating barracuda, thrusting him into the role of a “single dad.” Now we know that in AMERICA there are more single mothers than single fathers. Not discounting single dads at all but ……….. ( LOL )

Although only an animation film, “Finding Nemo” portrays the real life struggles many parents face in “letting go of their children.” I have to say that I have been doing great though….. He has been finding new things to do with his life and his SELF lately…just look at this CRAZY hair cut that HE WANTED!! Inside I was screaming like, baby this isn’t you, is it?

As in real life, most parents (and children) don’t see the potential dangers of a parent being overprotective. And it’s easy to understand why many parents would respond the way Marlon did. Growing up in an inner city ghetto myself, there were many barracudas waiting to devour me.

Like most children, Nemo became very upset with his “loving” father’s obsession with protecting him from unforeseen danger. During one heated exchanged, Nemo uttered the phrase that strikes fear in the heart of every parent, “I hate you.” As a result of his father’s controlling behavior, Nemo intentionally rebels against his father and is consequently “fish-napped” by a diver.

I am letting my son go DAILY…… Keep him grounded in Godly principles and heavily involved and push him even at times when I know that pushing him / teaching him to do MORE will allow him to depend on me LESS. That is a good thing but the love of a mother is something ferocious! My son calls me MOMMA BEAR because when someone bothers him – a whole NEW PERSON “comes over me”….. LOL I get into a mode that I will crush anything in my when it comes to protecting my son…. ( in a diplomatic and lady like way of course – lol )

I am proud of myself…for “choosing” to start MY PROCESS of letting go daily while he is young. As a parent, you cannot start trying to cope that your child is going to be moving out of the house when they are GRADUATING HIGH SCHOOL! You do know that is WAY too late right? LOL

Listen…… It is a RULE that my oldest son is NOT permitted to be out and about with no hair cut – he states that it is a college thing….. I have heard that even when I was in college from guys and I did NOT get it then – and still don’t get it NOW! Nontheless, I do see that it indeed is an athlete little thing that they all do regardless of what sport they play – be relaxed…..

WHATEVER THAT MEANS right???? Why do kids go away to college and just dress like “who done it” or they feel that they can “just chill and relax” 24 hours a day!!!! Welp, As soon as he got in the car – I gave him a love letter / Mom to Son poem and just STARRED at his head like…ummmmm after you quickly place your seatbelt around your body think about this…….

“Baby, we are going to the barbershop right?”…………………he laughed and said yes ma’am….. ( love this boy )

However, the boy has so many different type of barbers that he likes to go to one was busy, the other wasnt there yet and finally got to the other place and I was sitting in the car STEAMING MAD – not mad for real BUT LISTEN – that sun was not nothing nice because we all know that the air conditioner in any car seriously kills the gas and I keep my air on!

I sat there Sweaty…..Sticky!!!!! Hot!!!! ans just talked on the phone with like 6 different people complaining about my kid taking too long!….LOL and I didnt want to go inside the barbershop because it REMINDS ME OF A BUILDING FULL OF DOGS BARKING – so no thank you.

When I surely was about to text my baby – he grabbed the car door and hopped in and seeing the GOOD RESULTS – the wait didnt matter to me anymore!!! LOL >>>> I AM SO LYING! …..hahahaa… but it was perfect timing – Quality time is a blessing!