1yr old tantrums ???? Im lost

Reshitta - posted on 10/04/2009
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My 1yr old has a very short fuse he throws the BIGGEST tantrum when he cant get what he wants when he wants it! He kicks , screams, hits my other kids, he will run off grab something come back shake it at you may throw it at you. But on the other hand he can be the sweetest kids he gives hugs and kisses and can be the little cuddle bug of a lifetime but these tantrums kill me because he screams so loud any advise?

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Brandi - posted on 10/07/2009

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i would say to walk away and ignore him completely. Encourage your other kids to also ignore him and leave the room if necessary/possible to avoid any injuries. He probably wont cry for very long once he sees that it is to no avail. good luck.

Thank You thats a thought hhmmm didnt think of that. The good part is that he is a angel in pubkic it's just when we are at home he has this fit he was such a quiet baby and slept all day but now? O My is all i can say even my husband just looks cause we are so surprised that he can go from smiles and kisses to mean face and rage

I LOVE super Nanny her techniques and advice to parent is wonderful. Set limits and stick to them. Put your littlle one in a safe predetrimend place or if in public a corner give him a 1 min time out, don't talk to him and if he gets out put him back and repeat it is hard the for the first few times but he will get it that if he gets out he will go back until you get him. don't lecture him during or after. and Prays him all day long for all the good he is doing. they say for every no or time you have to disapline there should be 5 prayses or positive feed back given. Give choices You can put it away or mommy can, which one... this helps them stay in control but you still get what you want and if a temper tantrum starts there, count 3 2 1 and then at one put him in a safe spot. this can help shorten and lessen the temper tantrum. 123 magic is also a great refferance although they say a child needs to have the cognitive ability of a 2 year old. But I started useing it with my 18month old and use it all the time with my kids with behavior issues at work. Highly reccomend it. It also comes in DVD and a Book. Happiest toddler on the block has good ideas too that also is on DVD I get all these at the library...I don't have time to read

When my two year old daughter used to have tantrum she used to kick and lash out at everybody I have learn to put her in a room usually on the floor and leave her til she has calmed down, but generally I know the signs and will distract or put to bed because it is a sign of tiredness. If tantrum happens outside of home distraction is good it works for my daughter just keep asking question even if the answer is no it is keeping then distracted.

When the tantrums start walk away - ignore him!! If he does something that he is not suppose to do like get something he wants after you say no - take it way and put him on the floor and tell him to stay there - if he moves put him back - get him to stay there for just a minute and then tell him to get up and come to you - give him a big hug and say you need to listen to mommy or be nice - explain in kid terms what was wrong...it works for my daughter (17months) - so much so that she knows if she is told to stay somewhere she doesn't move and totally understands - she my not like it and cries when she doesn't get her way but the tantrums have almost totally stopped...good luck - some kids can be totally stubborn...

Thank you! Ive tried the bed thing he figured out how to get out of his crib and his play pin and knows how to get off my bed that is very high he has no limits he will try and try until he finds away out or around something. But the telling him why he's on time out is a great idea I do it with my older kids but i never would have thought with a 1yr old lol well I'll try anything right about now!

Put him in his bed and ignore him. Usually I would say ignore him when he starts the tantrum, but if he's hurting other people, then he needs to be moved. Once you put him in his bed tell him he needs to stay there until he calms down. He's old enough to understand this. You may need to repeat this several times until he gets the idea that your not going to give in. Once the tantrum is over tell him why he was there and make sure you end with a positive reminder that you love him and give him a hug. This will give him reassurance and let him know that he is loved even when he does something wrong.

You will need to make sure he doesn't play with toys and that he is sitting on the bed. Every time he gets off, he needs to be put back on until he calms down. This isn't a time out per say, it's just a time for him to calm down. Most kids throw tantrums because they are frustrated and can't tell you what they want or what they need. At this age they don't have many words to talk to you, so maybe you can have him point to what he wants, let him know you are listening to him be repeating what he is pointing to. This doesn't mean he's going to get everything he wants, but he will learn that you are at least listening to him.