Need feminism as protection from compliments? Wow. I hate when strangers assume I want, need, or would appreciate help unless I explicitly ask for it (or they ask me, or if I am not conscious). However, even I see being offended at compliments as nutty. That said, the woman quoted did have a point, if the "compliment" was accompanied by a wink, leer, kissing sound, indecent exposure, etc.

And interestingly, I've had women to tell me not to use terms of endearment with them. I can understand it somewhat if it was coming from a man, but if it came from a woman, I cannot see why it would be offensive, unless they are either a snob (and find being treated as an equal by someone they consider lesser as offensive) or they are feeling patronized to. So a perceived imbalance of power might be part of the issue.

Oh, and the power imbalance thing sounds like a no-win type of thing. If a guy compliments a woman and is seen as her equal, she doesn't respect him because she thinks he is weak, gay, etc. But if she sees him as superior, then it is either patronizing behavior or sexism. So there is no way to win here.

Need feminism as protection from compliments? Wow. I hate when strangers assume I want, need, or would appreciate help unless I explicitly ask for it (or they ask me, or if I am not conscious). However, even I see being offended at compliments as nutty. That said, the woman quoted did have a point, if the "compliment" was accompanied by a wink, leer, kissing sound, indecent exposure, etc.

And interestingly, I've had women to tell me not to use terms of endearment with them. I can understand it somewhat if it was coming from a man, but if it came from a woman, I cannot see why it would be offensive, unless they are either a snob (and find being treated as an equal by someone they consider lesser as offensive) or they are feeling patronized to. So a perceived imbalance of power might be part of the issue.

Oh, and the power imbalance thing sounds like a no-win type of thing. If a guy compliments a woman and is seen as her equal, she doesn't respect him because she thinks he is weak, gay, etc. But if she sees him as superior, then it is either patronizing behavior or sexism. So there is no way to win here.

One of the phrases that feminists (usually lesbians) teach to young impressionable girls is "Are you trying to talk to me?" because they want women to view men as the enemy and never allow the enemy to speak with you.

At least some women are waking up, but a lot of the women out there believe that white men are the enemy. Without a white man, a white woman can not exist.