You know that feeling deep inside that you have something important inside of you dying to come out? But you don’t know how to get from feeling to actual message or product? That fear you have that nothing you have to say is worth hearing? That you can’t begin because you have nothing to write, …

Starting a business or any endeavor in which you put your whole heart is never easy. I’ve read hundreds of resources, from blog posts to business books to manifestos to memoirs about success and failure and what I’ve learned is that there are difficulties inherent in starting a business and even more in having a …

Why You Stay in Bad Relationships and How to Help Yourself As I sat watching Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday, an issue came up that has been on my mind for a while. In working with clients and friends and just over life experiences I have realized that a lot of people stay in bad relationships, …

This post is a continuation of a previous post. So how do you change your reactions?? Look at the ways that you have always reacted and examine them to see if they serve your highest good. Is this the way that you want to react to this situation? Ask yourself about the impact that your …

Perfection is a subjective value. You determine what works and does not work for you. You are the only person who knows what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. No-one’s definition of perfection should be holding you hostage. You decide. You choose. No-one and nothing in this world is perfect. We should take …

Everyone has a story. This is the story we tell our friends when we’re sad. This is the story we tell our therapists about our lives. This is the story we tell ourselves about why we are the way that we are–we’re the children of a broken home, we were abused as children, we were …

Life happens every minute of the day. Life has been happening to you since the day that you were born. The current emotional and psychological space that you are in is the combination of these experiences and, most importantly, your reaction to these experiences. It has often been said that “it is not what happens …

I was born in a culture in which the women of the lower echelons (of which I am very familiar) do not participate in “mushy shows of affection” like hugging their children, telling them they love them or showing any sort of emotion that could be mistakenly taken to mean affection. In 1982, I come …

What do you like about yourself? Are you proud of yourself? If these questions make you feel uncomfortable, or you cannot answer them, chances are that you have a problem with self esteem. Why is that? Why do so many of us basically dislike ourselves? Why are we embarrassed to “esteem” ourselves? Before answering this …