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How women test men on first dates

Perhaps an industrial secret, here are a list of her first-date tests, and how you can pass them.

She offers to pay for dinnerPass the test: Go for compromise. Let her know that you’d love to treat her to dinner and make sure you pay, but joke that she can pay the next time the two of you go out. This makes it even — hypothetically.

She complains about something (the wine or food)Pass the test: Inaction at this point will make you seem wimpy or uncaring. You can either offer to take her somewhere else (if it’s an issue of noise or the establishment itself) or you can speak to an employee but be polite.

She sets you off balance with a cheeky comment or unsettling questionPass the test: Keep your cool and, for goodness sake, tell her the truth. Whether she asks you about your likes/dislikes or about a past relationship, lying is the absolute wrong way to go every time.

She invites chivalryPass the test: Without being ridiculous (don’t run ahead in order to open her door), be sure to comply with the age-old rules. The key to chivalry is to be cool; don’t try too hard and always make your movements natural.

She lets you steer conversationPass the test: If you look back and think you’ve been talking a lot, try asking a few questions for a change. Ask about her life and interests.

She drinksPass the test: Be sure to be in control and responsible, especially if you have to get her home. If you drink too much you may come off as being overly nervous or just a problem drinker.

“As you know, I had been very reluctant to get back out into the dating world following the break-up of my marriage. But I can honestly say that you made it exciting and really very enjoyable. I couldn’t wait to meet the people you thought I might like (and you were always right) and I began to look forward to the adventure and the romance (which didn’t always happen but I had fun). Now I have found Mary and I’m very grateful to you for that.”