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Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Eight Months Later...

So... I just realized that it's been like EIGHT MONTHS since I did one of those "and this is what we've been up to" posts.

What the hell Eden, pull it together!

With that being said, I just went back through my photo files from the last few months and I'm here to update all of you in a fashion that can only be described as "overwhelming."

For that, I apologize.

I know that a lot of you were relying on me to describe the free or low cost activities that we attend so that you could look for similar things in your area, and I completely dropped the ball! For that I really am sorry. Life just kind of got away from me and I'm going to back up that explanation by taking you all the way back to December and showing you how we have spent our weekends.

We started out the holidays by attending a free local Winter Wonderland thing with my kids, The Guy, and My Platonic Hubby and her family...

Can I just take a moment to brag about how The Girl Child has not gotten THREE years out of this dress? I'm impressed.

...And then we found bunk bed cots. Because why wouldn't we want those?

I honestly feel like we did SO much in December, that I'm not even really sure what photos to choose. From parades to multiple Santa meetings, to holiday parties and local events, a few of our favorites were visiting a local "old fashioned town" with my Board Member Friend and her daughter, and walking through an amazing lights display with The Guy.

The Girl Child still had stitches in her forehead, if you remember that incident.

We spent the holidays with some amazing neighbors, my Bestie, and her family. And thanks to some of you amazing readers, my kids were very blessed on Christmas morning.

We rang in the New Year at a local family fun center that held a "Kid's New Year's Eve," complete with ball drop! It was only a couple bucks per kid and included all the activities, so it worked out great!! When we got there and politely turned down the pizza (due to the kid's diet) that was included in the price, the owner went above and beyond to get gluten and dairy free food for the kids, which was totally unnecessary but much appreciated.

When Valentines Day rolled around, the kids and I made Valentine cards for their friends, a Valentine mailbox for the class exchange, and a Valentine cookie (or two!) for us!

We also attended a free Valentine Dance at our YMCA with my Board Member Friend and her daughter. The Boy Child especially loved showing off some dance moves that I sure didn't know he had!

And speaking of dances, if you remember, The Girl Child got to the daddy daughter dance at her school, thanks to my Bestie's amazing husband escorting her for the evening.

Being Irish, I certainly couldn't forget St. Patrick's Day. The kids set a trap to try and catch a leprechaun, but that sneaky guy got away! Thankfully he did leave a few little surprises behind that he may-or-may not have found at the one dollar store.

During the Easter season we made sure to carve out some time for a free flashlight Egg Hunt and a visit with the bunny, again at the YMCA.

There were actually a ton of activities there, but I won't bore you will all the pictures. With that being said, if you like bounce houses and relay races, make sure to check out your local YMCA when Easter rolls around again!

Here's a great tip for my low-income readers: I recently found out that there is a nationwide program called Museums For All, and it allows low income families to obtain memberships to a variety of museums and family centers, for just a few dollars (you will need proof of your income... or lack thereof). I spent quite a bit of time finding out which places were included in my area, and then I set out to give my kids the best winter money can't buy. I always say that it's important to focus on what you do have rather than what you don't, and I am determined to help my kids understand that. So while we may not be able to do the expensive things that our friends seem to do on a never ending basis, it doesn't mean that we still can't find fun things to do.

We went to the Children's Museum

The Zoo (It was really cold when we went, so we only did the indoor play area).

Indoor greenhouse

For places that didn't offer any sort of financial assistance rate, I called each and every place that I thought my kids might like to visit, and I asked if they ever had any free or discounted days that were open to the public. To my surprise, nearly every single place gave me a few dates to make note of on my calendar, which really helped to fill in our "fun schedule!"

We went to a Kid's Play Center with my Board Member Friend and her daughter...

.... Where I snapped this odd photo that makes it look like a stranger is kissing The Boy Child on the head!

We went to The Girl Child's favorite place, "Old Fashioned School,"

And we spent one afternoon attending an open gym day with The Boy Child's "girlfriend" and my friend, The Future In-law.

Aside from visiting local attractions, we also attended a ridiculous amount of (really fun) birthday parties for my kids friend's or my friend's kids.

The girls at this party were doing a pinata when I noticed The Boy Child was missing. I found him lying on his friend's bed where they were watching a movie on a very tiny phone!

We also attended a few graduation parties, like this one for my Platonic Hubby's daughter, who graduated college!! (Can I hear a congratulations!?)

Moving on, one day, when I felt like I was going to lose my mind was really loving parenting, I took $3 and the kids, went to the mall, and let them ride the quarter rides. It turned out to be a big hit....

...But not as much fun as riding the large motorized stuffed animal was.

Also, thanks to an amazing blog reader's generosity, we went to see his hockey team play!

Other days we just hung out at our friend's houses, which can be the best kind of fun! Here we are making cupcakes at my Ballerina friend's house:

Eventually, finally, spring rolled around, and we began to venture outdoors again, starting with the free Touch-A-Tractor event (welcome to rural living).

Then we climbed a few trees at a local park, because every kid needs to learn how to climb a tree!

We also fed the ducks/geese,

And visited a farm.

Then, SUMMER FINALLY ARRIVED, and we lived it up by spending as much time outside as possible!

I even feed the kids outside on most days. (Obviously we did that because was nice out, not just because it was easier to clean up. I'm not that lazy.... you believe that... RIGHT?)

We were thrilled when the pools finally opened up for the season and even more thrilled that My Future In-Law friend splurged for the membership, complete with guest passes!!

And when we weren't there, we were relaxing in another friend's backyard pool.

Besides the pool, we spent plenty of time at the local splash park. Seriously, whoever invented those was a GENIUS. They are free, and I didn't even have to get in the water with them!

Here we are with my Bestie and her kids.

We went to the free Movie In The Park near my house.

And the free Touch-a-Truck event.

She's in the firetruck

And another free local event.... Ninja Turtle Day!

The 4th of July was kicked off with a friend/neighbor's party.

Jello shots!

Goofy games

Then the next day was spent at our town's festival. I always love this festival because it has lots of simple, free activities for the kids, and of course ends with fireworks. We went with my Bestie, her husband, and sons, and another good friend of mine and her family.

The Boy Child mastered this toy...

So of course I wanted to try too.

It was much harder than it looked.

One weekend when the carnival came to town, the kids, The Guy, and I spent the evening with my Future In-Law friend and her daughter. We didn't stay long because The Girl Child wasn't feeling well (and it is so pricey to go!), but the kids were able to do a few rides which was nice.

The Guy is hiding behind the white block lol

This summer, the kids were once again approved for a YMCA scholarship, so The Girl Child took ballet and hip hop again, and thankfully the recital pieces this year were MUCH more appropriate (because good grief, do you remember the fiasco from last year?).

Now The Boy Child, well... I had him in baseball... but he got kicked out. Whose 4 year old gets kicked out of baseball!?

Mine.

Yep.

He kept running away. Apparently all that outfield-ing was too much for him, so we tried tumbling instead. I figured a class where he could basically just throw himself around might be a little more fitting for his personality right now.

Seemed to work.

Health wise the kids have been doing 50/50. By that I mean one half of my children — The Boy Child half — has been doing amazing. The other half — The Girl Child half — well she has had a rough year. I had a TOUGH time getting her to wear her braces, and I would often find notes like this one, which I found sitting next to her sleeping braces, which were next to her bed, which were obviously not on her feet:

We had a lot of re-fitting appointments, and every time I would think we had a good fit, she would grow just enough that they would hurt again. The kid basically spent all summer growing and barely wore the braces at all, which meant that by the end of summer she was being fitted for a wheelchair to use for long distances.

Her orthotist also went above and beyond to make her a new pair of braces which will hopefully eliminate many of her other complaints (they are too hot!). We literally just got them, so we shall see!

Thankfully though, she still managed to dance all summer and made it to her recital last week. There wasn't a happier mommy in the crowd, or a smilier little girl.

I'm happy that she's happy, because she is a really great kid. A few weeks ago daycare had a Fun Fest, and the poor Boy Child was sick and couldn't go. The Guy was nice enough to stay with him so that I could spend a little time alone with my girl, and so off we went. We bummed around filling ourselves up on totally free, gluten and dairy free, cancer causing tasty treats.

No, that is not a photo edit, that was cotton candy that was so full of who-the-hell-knows-what, that it is basically glowing in the picture!

We didn't stay long since my mommy heart wanted to race home and check on The Boy Child, but it was really nice to get to spend a little alone time with my girl!

And randomly changing subjects because I'm just realizing what time it is and I need to get moving so that I can pick the kids up from school, but hey, the kids started school !

The Girl Child is in 3rd grade this year, and The Boy Child is in Kindergarten (oh my weepy heart!!). Neither of them are currently enrolled in daycare right now, so please wish me luck that this new schedule will work out for us!

It's nice to have them both in the same place, but when they get home in the afternoon I won't have daycare while I'm working... so there's that...

Thankfully though these past eight months haven't been all about the kids... mommy had some fun too...

The Guy treated me to a concert at an outdoor venue known for it's lavish picnicking and tasteful drinking, and we went with my Future In-Law friend and her husband.

My Future-In law friend and her hubby, with our picnic.

I didn't really take any great photo's of us, so you get this. Sorry.

In other news, I went on a double-date with The Guy, my Bestie, and her husband, where I learned that I absolutely SUCK at mini golf.

Here's a picture of my friends and The Guy golfing:

And here is a picture of me sucking at golfing.

And here is another picture of me still sucking at mini golf.

Apparently golfing is not my thing.

Now drinking... drinking can sometimes be my thing... so I'm thankful for good friends who treat me to things that don't require as much skill as hitting a ridiculously small ball through a windmill that I believe was moving way too fast.

But hey, it hasn't been all about dating and drinking because that would be ridiculous for the life of a busy single mom, so sometimes, sometimes it has just been about masks.

Yep, masks.

I mean what else would you expect when the Platonic Hubby and I get together for a party?

Well, that's what the last eight months have looked like for us! I worked really hard to give the kids some good memories, and not make our house all gloom-and-doom all the time because of our financial situation. I have to say that I think it worked well! Now that things have calmed down from the summer, we are just enjoying the last of the warm weather... and I'm getting tired of editing photos, and need to run and pick up the kids....

So I'll leave you with: I hope you are all happy, enjoying your days, and finding things to keep you busy!

Lol, hey, many girls would kill to have that many dicks at their disposal... just sayin'...

The book comes out when a publisher picks it up lol! My agent is busy submitting my proposal now. So if you know anyone.... but realistically, since I'm no celebrity, I'll probably run the gamut and then ebook it.

Wow. Just wow. So many awesome memories for the kids and how outstanding are YOU to find all these activities and things for them to do? I get it - these are highlights - but still. Lucky lucky children you have!

Wow, certainly looks like you guys have been having a lot of fun! I'd noticed you hadn't told us what happened with Christmas and was like... okay, is she ever gonna do that? Glad we're up to date now!

Though of course it's not all great. :( I'm hoping The Girl Child won't need to be in the wheelchair for very long (and it looks like her doctor is? Interesting...) The new braces look way cooler than the old ones, I hope she'll at least wear them.

Me Defined

My husband said he was going to the store... and never came back. It's been a crazy life that's left me functional enough to survive yet dysfunctional enough to make me funny. I'm living my life devoid of most social graces while single parenting two young children, and I absolutely love it....most days.

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