Wednesday, March 25, 2009

I guess there are two kinds of women: those who take charge in life and those who don't. Actually, maybe I should say that there are those who want to take charge and there are those women who want other people to take charge. This is especially pertinent to the significant other. Some men want to be bossed around. Some men boss their women around. And more and more men are allowing their women to boss them around, or they are recognizing that if they don't let their women boss them around, they won't have any women.

Of course I don't like the word "bossing" used in this context. Take charge is more appropriate. No one should be bossed around. One will more often take charge, but they doso without bossing anyone around.

How does this relate to dancing? It's HUGE because what I have found by being involved in hundreds of beginning classes in many different dance styles is that women who naturally take a back seat in life, are generally quicker to figure out following in dance. The quicker a woman learns to follow, the quicker the dance will be fun for her. Women who have a lot of practice following in life are generally easier to lead. Does this mean that all women who have difficulty following boss their boyfriends or husbands around? Well, maybe. But it might not be because they are naturally bossy. It might be that the boyfriends or husbands aren't being the leaders in life that they could be and their women have HAD to take the lead and they developed a habit of leading.

This is why I would recommend all couples learn to dance with each other, especially if the woman wants a take charge man. Dancing teaches men to be the strong take charge Men that many women find desirable. It also teaches women to let go of their take charge attitude so they don't step on the toes of the men they want to take charge. I still believe that many women would follow a man in life provided he is quick to take charge, he looks after her, and especially if he puts her interests above his own interests. This last one is another benefit of dancing. If we approach our relationships in life the way we approach them in our dancing, then our relationships would be more harmonious.

Ladies, do you want a take charge man? Do you want YOUR man to take charge more often? If you do, then learn to dance. Learn to follow. Learn to trust. And enable your man to learn to lead. He'll never take charge if you beat him to it.