Cuckolding Can Fire up Your Sex Life Again

Gone are the days when sex was considered the legitimate right of married couples only. The subject itself remained a hush-hush affair for quite some time.

Sexual fetishes and fantasies rarely entered the bedroom, and if they did, the couples took care not to wash their dirty linen in public. But, subjects like Literature and Art denied societal restraints, allowing the patrons to express their ideologies through the work of Art, as early as 15th – the 16th century.

In Shakespeare’s play, ‘Much Ado About Nothing,’ terms like cuckolding and horns made their presence felt, wiping out our belief that the concept of exploring sex differently is a fetish of modern men.

‘There will the Devil meet me, like an old cuckold, with horns on his head.’

Fetishism and pornography dominated the literary world of the 19th century too

Robert Browning’s Porphyria’s Lover, Oscar Wilde’s Dorian Gray, Stanisla de Rhodes’s Autobiography of a Flea, and Krafft-Ebing’s Psychopathia Sexualis are few noteworthy works of art that explored The Role of Fetishism in 19th Century Literature.

If envisioning and implementing sexual fantasies with your partner behind closed doors sounds distasteful to you, then you need to read the mentioned literary pieces.

In fact, attempting BDSM, flagellation or cuckolding with your spouse can reignite the fire of romance between you two. And who knows, you can relive your honeymoon days once again!

“I think what’s going on here is that our psychological needs change as we age and, as they do, our sexual fantasies evolve in ways that are designed to meet those needs. So, for example, when we’re younger and perhaps more insecure, our fantasies focus more on making us feel validated; by contrast, when we’re older and have settled into a long-term relationship, our fantasies focus more on breaking sexual routines and fulfilling unmet needs for novelty.” – Dr. Lehmiller

And there are few other experts like David Ley, Justin Lehmiller, and the writer Dan Savage, who consider cuckolding fantasy generate a positive experience for the couples rather than a shame-filled guilt trip.

Yet the term ‘cuckolding’ can give a reason of doubt to the partakers.

What is cuckolding?

Wikipedia defines the term cuckold as ‘the husband of the adulterous wife.’ ‘In fetish usage, a cuckold or wife watching is complicit in his (or her) partner’s sexual “infidelity”; the wife who enjoys cuckolding her husband is called a cuckoldress if the man is more submissive.”

It is all about adding a little variety to your sex life and a chance to witness unscripted porn.

The inability of a person to express sexual impulses leads to sexual repression. And this is the reason why partners take refuge in infidelity and substance abuse.

But, who wishes to find pleasure elsewhere if variety is served on your plate at home? And if mutual consent is there, sexual abusement in marriages can take a back burner.

3. Improved communication leads to better expression of desires

Cuckolding marriages can thrive irrespective of the prejudices attached with the concept.

Communication between partners just gets better when practicing sexual fetishes like cuckolding takes place within the boundaries of a healthy relationship.

Dr Watsa stated that “Couples must learn to communicate their feelings to their partners rather than gratify themselves elsewhere through unsafe practices like having one night stands with strangers.”

Exploring sexual fantasies together can, in fact, heighten your love for your partner and spares no room for infidelity.

Complex social factors usually feed into kinks and other forms of sexual fetishes

Now, you can hardly point out to a specific reason when it comes down to sexual fetishes. But, Dr. David Lay, the author of the book, ‘Insatiable Wives,’ has observed that the possibility of witnessing your partner with someone else leads to sexual jealousy. Often, the resentful partner resorts to extreme actions to get even with the unfaithful one.

At other times, the betrayed partner feels a surge of sexual arousal at the thought of beholding the other half getting sexually abused in the hands of a few strangers.

The monogamous society condemns the practice of polygamy and adultery.

It is considered a taboo and this is one of the reasons that conceptualizes the sexual fantasies of men and women.