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Aw, don't worry about it. INTP chicks are awesome! I just wish I could find one. The ones I've known have either been- just friends, not dateable for some reason, or they are dateable but something out of my control prevents me from making it a relationship (one for example was moving a few states away after the semester, FML).

Don't worry about it. Someone out there will accept you for who you are and you'll be happy!

My closest friend X (female INFP) has a close female INTP friend (Z). Z is a friend of mine too and is very fond of me and always wants to hang out. I like her too but, for some reason, I can never truly relax around her. I'm (usually) NEVER ruffled and I can't quite pinpoint exactly why but... I just can't relax around Z. I'm always fidgeting and looking at the clock and...

EDIT: I think it's cause of the way I feel like I don't measure up based on whatever internal meter she has and she's just being nice... or tolerating me. Or she pities me. Dammit, I don't know.

My closest friend X (female INFP) has a close female INTP friend (Z). Z is a friend of mine too and is very fond of me and always wants to hang out. I like her too but, for some reason, I can never truly relax around her. I'm (usually) NEVER ruffled and I can't quite pinpoint exactly why but... I just can't relax around Z. I'm always fidgeting and looking at the clock and...

EDIT: I think it's cause of the way I feel like I don't measure up based on whatever internal meter she has and she's just being nice... or tolerating me. Or she pities me. Dammit, I don't know.

Maybe she likes you? I am an INTJ but close to INTP and if I act like I really like someone, I almost invariably do. And us INTs judge ourselves as much as others, if not more. I have low self esteem, and so does the INTP I like. We both think the other is a better person, so don't worry about not being up enough on her metre. If she doesn't like you, she'll probably criticize what she disagrees with. Niceness from an INTP is a good thing.

Sooo these posts are kind of worrying me..How old is everyone here?
Because I've been hoping for someone I click with romantically for a while now. I know I'm only 18 but still, not ever having a bf has been concerning. Is it more likely for INTPs to find someone later in life? :/ i hope not

i'm in my mid-20s now.

I think it's very normal for INTPs in general to start late or be a "late bloomer", though I hate that expression. It just takes us a while to figure people out but once you do (and experience is the only way) you'll gain a lot of confidence. Use that Fe!

I was 20 when I got my first bf (and had sex), which some might think is late but it was the right time for me.

Also, I find a fair amount of compatible people in academic settings, probably why I never want to leave. But the real world can be a desert for potential mates... just do what you love and you'll find the people that love those things too. That's really the best you can do.

I have come to believe that the whole world is an enigma, a harmless enigma that is made terrible by our own mad attempt to interpret it as though it had an underlying truth.
- Umberto Eco
INTP e9 (sx/so/sp)
Ti = Ne (41.3) > Si (31.2) ~ Ni (31.1) ~ Te (30.1) > Se (24.1) >> Fe (21) & Fi (20.1)

I think it's very normal for INTPs in general to start late or be a "late bloomer", though I hate that expression. It just takes us a while to figure people out but once you do (and experience is the only way) you'll gain a lot of confidence. Use that Fe!

I was 20 when I got my first bf (and had sex), which some might think is late but it was the right time for me.

Also, I find a fair amount of compatible people in academic settings, probably why I never want to leave. But the real world can be a desert for potential mates... just do what you love and you'll find the people that love those things too. That's really the best you can do.

I concur, although I am not female I will agree that I think people become drawn to you around the age of 20. I am 19 and I have had more girls give me looks than I had during high, middle, and elementary school combined. (Well moving from 0 to 1 is still considered a difference.)

Maybe she likes you? I am an INTJ but close to INTP and if I act like I really like someone, I almost invariably do. And us INTs judge ourselves as much as others, if not more. I have low self esteem, and so does the INTP I like. We both think the other is a better person, so don't worry about not being up enough on her metre. If she doesn't like you, she'll probably criticize what she disagrees with. Niceness from an INTP is a good thing.

Yeah, it's definitely not that. She's attached (to an IxTJ. As am I; to an INFJ) and we both want very different things out of a r/ship.

I should add; we get along like a house on fire on IM. I make her LOL lots. In person though, I turn into a nervous preteen...

I think it's very normal for INTPs in general to start late or be a "late bloomer", though I hate that expression. It just takes us a while to figure people out but once you do (and experience is the only way) you'll gain a lot of confidence. Use that Fe!

I was 20 when I got my first bf (and had sex), which some might think is late but it was the right time for me.

Also, I find a fair amount of compatible people in academic settings, probably why I never want to leave. But the real world can be a desert for potential mates... just do what you love and you'll find the people that love those things too. That's really the best you can do.

Lol so true

Took me ages to work people out

Now I mimic their behavior to fit in perfectly, works a charm

To me it still makes no sense to act the way most people do, but at least I won't get punched in the face... or worse

My 'wife' is INTP. I find this to be quite suitable, and have reason to believe she feels likewise. The general consensus from spectators is that we are suffering through a cold and distant relationship. I won't argue the cold and distant aspect, but ironic as it sounds, I think it's the glue that binds us. She's the only woman I've ever known who doesn't believe she has an inalienable right to continually challenge my emotions. I cherish our ability to delve into a wildly ambitious conversation after not speaking to each other for three days, for no particular reason. I love not needing a reason, and love not having to take on the task of demanding one from her to defend my own lack of reasons. Her problem-solving approach is the same as mine...we both need time and space to muse in private. She's the one person I can count on to not punish me for my silence or force a game of 'beat the clock' upon my responses. After nearly fifteen years I still feel an almost giddy anticipation when I sense she's working herself up to tell me something. It's like those final few moments before you step into the roller coaster after waiting in line for so long.

Admittedly, I have no idea if these things are INTP-related, that's just my personal impression of it. Hell, I wouldn't even be here if my wife hadn't brought up the subject of Typology.