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Topic: Frustrated...... (Read 5015 times)

HI sandy I am so sorry for you losing your husband. I remember the first couple of months after my don died. I didn't really cry much. I was definitely in shock mode. I also felt that he really wasn't gone and I could feel and see him everywhere. Like he was helping through this awful process. I think you lost your husband suddenly(as did I ) so its so hard to really believe they are gone. I am still holding on with both hands the denial part and its been almost 5 months for me.Take care and don't doubt what you are feeling or question why you are feeling it

Quoted this stanza elsewhere a few weeks ago myself. It fit that leaden, motionless mood perfectly. I have never been a fan of Dickinson, but now - well - I guess she knew what she was writing about. Another of those realizations that you don't really understand this level of loss until you've experienced it.

I am sorry for your loss and sorry that you had to join us but I'm glad you are here. I'm 14 months into this journey and this board has been a big comfort to me.

It may sound silly that everyone keeps mentioning it but it really is important . . . make sure you eat (even if it's a TV dinner or fast food) and make sure you drink a lot of water. I thought it was silly but dehydration is a serious thing.

Make sure to take care of yourself, be gentle on yourself, and remember you aren't alone,