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Sunday, February 5, 2012

The declining female sex drive

Interestingly enough, it appears that it may actually be women who are the sex more bored by a lack of sexual variety over time than men:

The participants reported being generally satisfied with their relationships and sex lives, but women reported lower levels of desire depending on the length of their relationship. "Specifically, for each additional month women in this study were in a relationship with their partner, their sexual desire decreased by 0.02 on the Female Sexual Function Index," the authors wrote online Jan. 23 in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

In fact, relationship duration was a better predictor of sexual desire in women than both relationship and sexual satisfaction. While the 0.02 decrease in female desire was small, it contrasts with male desire, which held steady over time, the researchers said.

While I am always very skeptical of studies that rely not only upon self-reporting, but self-reporting by the least self-aware group of people on the planet, namely, college undergraduates, this would be potentially useful information if the conclusions hold up over time.

This is because men tend to take it to heart as a wife's sexual interest in him declines over time. He might try harder, thereby annoying her, he might attempt to freshen things up, thereby upsetting her, or after meeting with consistent failure no matter what he tries, he'll eventually give up in despair and subsist on a guilty mix of porn, prostitutes, biweekly missionary sex and the annual birthday blowjob.

But if it is true that the declining female interest in sex is the simple result of proximity and familiarity, then a man in a long-term relationship has one of two choices. He can either remove proximity on an occasional basis - this could be seen as a gentler variant of the Dread approach - or he can simply do as men always did prior to the advent of the so-called love marriage and arrange to burn off his excess desire in other venues. The third option is not presently legally permissible in most Western countries, but the long-term trends suggest that some form of polygamy will soon be legalized.

But more importantly, men will be able to make much more informed decisions about whether or not they want to make themselves entirely dependent upon someone whose sexual interest in them is likely to decline regularly over time. While it is far too soon to take these findings seriously, if science does eventually collect a sufficient amount of material evidence to render it a reliable fact, this has the potential to be as significant a game-changer in intersexual relations as reliable male contraception.

20 comments:

stg58
said...

What a contrast between Munson's relationship and this article/set of findings.

If God has decreed that a man and woman shall cleave together and become one flesh, it is disconcerting that the woman we are supposed to pledge undying loyalty and love to will inevitable lose attraction for us. There has to be an answer somewhere.

I suspect some of this decline is related to a woman's tendency to slack off in terms of lifestyle over time, especially when she's confident her man's not going to leave her. When I got back on a serious workout regimen and permanently cut out sugar and starch, my desire for my husband shot up significantly.

I understand the need for frame control.I understand the need for outcome independence.I understand the need to be a man rather than some kind of slave.

But damn, why does it seem like every new piece of data reinforces the message that women need to be managed as if they had the self-knowledge and self-control of a child?

If they are supposed to be a helper then when I have to spend a significant amount of time and energy to keep them from hurting themselves or others that help becomes a hindrance. Does that situation in any way sound sane to you? Shouldn't an adult act like an adult?

Everything in my life up to the time I learned about game told me that women grew up to be adults, meaning a person that takes responsibility for their actions and takes other people into account in regards to their own actions. My parents told me this, society told me this, mass media told me this. Now I find out that it was all a lie.

My mother acted as an adult so why shouldn't I expect the girl I was to marry to act any different? I've seen that it is possible but now I find that it is exceedingly rare and getting rarer every day.

I tell you the red pill is bitter but I would rather see the truth than be blind to it.

"But damn, why does it seem like every new piece of data reinforces the message that women need to be managed as if they had the self-knowledge and self-control of a child?"

Because men no longer know it to be true. Only in this era would you spend money on studies and having it published. Time was, every man knew 99% of the women he would come across would need to be treated and reprimanded like a child. Studies exposing how ridiculously childlike women are should be treated like studies declaring that water is wet.

They're helpers and semen receptacles. Nothing more. If you want more, you've already lost the battle and are doomed to writing terrible poetry.

Seriously, getting married -- to the right woman -- is a perfectly good way for a man to go, providing of course that he has found the right woman. Not "the One", but one he can work with.

It involves a lot of selection criteria, more involvement than simple Single Game, and then of course you have to learn Married Game all over again. But if played properly, the results can be very fulfilling.

But even if you don't, pure Game PUAs actually serve a valuable function for the more marriage-minded men: you guys screen out the losers pretty quick, and can sometimes keep the rest of us from making horrible mistakes.

What's funny...funny odd not funny 'ha ha' (Well I guess that depends on which side of the cheap motel you live on) is that the "Studies" and "numbers" that show how many wives and husbands will cheat in their marriage. I think many times it's laziness on both parts. Women aren't perfect. Men aren't perfect. Not to mention love blinders...(the girl your dating who has to be talked into a blowjob is not going to turn into Linda Lovelace after you get married...just saying)

When I'm out I've started paying attention to couples who look (obviously) married. Couples that look to have been married for a relatively long time.

I see guys that look they somehow swallowed a bowling ball, sporting a comb over and walking next to a 40 something chick. A woman who walks by a group of teenage males and causes a penile version of the wave.

WTF? I bet this is the same guy who's bitching that his wife doesn't want to have sex anymore. Shit, with that belly he'd need a 12 inch tool just to attempt doggy style. What woman wants their man's belly RESTING on her ass as they go at it?

What woman wants to give her man a BJ and try to look up sexily in his eyes, only to see a belly blocking her view and more hair on his stomach than on his head.

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