Reclaiming Power

Thinking Lesson Nine — Reclaiming power

This particular lesson will be applicable in the entire western world. We all realize that control of our lives has been grossly usurped by our governments. This is because the past two generations have voted for such usurpation. And the culprit is education.

In passing so called “laws” that require all children to go to school, our grand and great grandparents effectively made all children wards of the state. Our children are not thriving as wards of the state. Are any of you surprised at this?

If you have produced any children, you are personally responsible for their nurturing, provisioning, and education. This is only someone else’s job if you are deceased and your children become orphans. I am not going to list a blow by blow break down of all the harm that these “laws” of compulsory education have caused. Rather, that will be your thinking lesson number 9. I will give you a big hint to start you off. Every scrap of malfeasance in public spending and the arrogant disregard of elected officials for the wishes of their electorate are tied directly to compulsory education. When you have completed your thinking lesson for this installment, you will have a clear picture of why it is past time to take compulsory education off the books.

Think about it.

Alieff Farwell

THINKING LESSON #9

Sit down with a pad and pencil and make a list of the harmful effects of compulsory education. Make one heading ‘Emotional Effects on the children’ and the other‘Financial effects on the community.’

I have it on excellent authority that the definition of an idiot is someone who repeats the same actions over and over and expects a different result. This is from the worst collection of idiots I ever met so we are talking the horse’s mouth here people.

If going to college could cure what ails us, we wouldn’t be ailing cause ya’ll have been to college.

Since this type of thing seems to be growing and spreading in our society, we should all take a few minutes to analyze just why this may be so. How do we combat something like this? What is the root cause?

Well, the root cause is lack of natural affection during childhood and adolescence. It really is this simple, people. Combine this with the excessive sexual pressures we subject our adolescents to in the public school system by not adequately supervising them at such a crucial stage in their personal development and you have a great and efficient recipe for social disaster.

All of this traces back to the lack of nurturing.(http://wp.me/p1BaiG-5m) Nowadays, it is the accepted procedure for mothers to deliver in the hospitals and send their newborns almost directly into daycare because Mom has to get back to her real job. There is absolutely no attempt made at nurturing, no personal family bonds are being created. This is very, very bad.

As I have said before, emotional fulfillment is the most important aspect of sentient life and the basis for it is found in our birth families. If they fail to nurture us sufficiently in this respect, we are set up for failure in the rest of our life relationships. Recognizing this early lack can be a great help in processing the way we react to others in our adult lives and in clarifying our relationship choices. Let us consider a few basic facts of emotional life for humans.

1. The expression of natural affection from parent to child(not vice versa) is the blueprint upon which all of us map the course of our life relationships. This is how we learn to show caring and affection and consideration for others, regardless of gender. It is the only relationship we know that does not have an element of sexuality in it. It is not supposed to and if it does, in the form of molestation, it is the worst horror our society knows.

2. We all bond more closely with members of our own sex. This is a perfectly natural thing. Men and women process information in different ways and we are all more socially comfortable with people who think the way we do. We have more in common with members of our own gender on a day-to-day basis, therefore we seek them first when looking for a stable and fulfilling social environment.

3. The lack of natural, affectionate nurturing in childhood leaves us vulnerable (extremely) as we mature into our respective versions of adult sexuality. Physical intimacy becomes a substitute for this first and most important relationship in our lives and since the substitution has no real validity, the sexual relationship fails the minute the “new” wears off.

Sex is a wonderful and important thing to most of us. In an adult relationship, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, trusting that the other person will not betray us, or desert us, or fail to consider our personal needs along with or sometimes even ahead of their own. Because you see, that is what our parents were supposed to do for us and mostly, did not. And that is what most of us are now seeking in an adult, sexual relationship. So. Is this expectation valid?

My opinion? Yes, the expectation is valid. The sense of protection and care we receive from our parents is the pattern on which we base the relationships of our adult life—all of them. This is the way it is supposed to be. There is no sexual orientation to this pattern, also the way it is supposed to be. The sexuality comes later, in adolescence and adulthood. Again, the way it is supposed to. We have raised up several generations of children who have no sense of their sexual orientation because they are all stuck in this childhood mode since it was never supplied to them when it was most needed. When they enter adolescence they combine the two, which is neither surprising or acceptable, either one.

The problem comes from our inherited emotional poverty. After the new wears off of a relationship we have two emotionally deprived people who sit there and wait for the other guy to step up and be the grown up. This is so very seldom the case. And after x number of failed relationships, many people begin to look at other options for that sense of emotional fulfillment that has been lacking in their lives heretofore. For this, they fall back on the premise I listed above as emotional fact of life #2. We all bond more closely with members of our own gender. This particular process is especially seen in women. I have noticed that many women turn “gay” in their thirties and forties after failed marriages and several children.

3. The lack of emotional fulfillment in childhood increases the sense of sexual need in the adolescent. This is especially true for young men. Their entrance into puberty is exclusively sexual, rampant, and since it is not being covered in our society by any type of adult amelioration, particularly emotionally shredding for them.

During adolescence we are looking about us and finding our place in this world, both as citizens and as sexual adults. Given the total lack of nurturing and natural affection we are starting our children out in life with, it is not surprising to me that so many of them are combining their emergent adolescent sexuality with their more important need for social integrationand acceptance and supposing themselves to be “naturally gay” or “born that way” simply because American society totally ignores their basic emotional needs from birth. We are sacrificing our young on the altar of the Great God of Education and ignoring their most human needs.

After these poor, parentless people have turned to a sexual relationship with a member of their own gender in an attempt to supply the normal social intercourse that has been lacking in their lives, they continue their quest for acceptance, which has not been met by their same-sex relationship, by insisting that all the world condone what they have done by public legislation. And the American Christian conservative public is protesting in great horror at the unnatural relationships which their own ignorance and neglect have fostered. I don’t know about ya’ll but I call this a homemade mess. Now let’s look at the physical aspects of this question.

1. What feels good physically, feels good no matter who is doing it. This fact has added its two cents to the emotional mess of same-sex relationships. There is nothing wrong with sex. That is a fact. So what can be wrong with having sex with anyone, regardless of their gender? Can you answer this one? The several generations of young American men and women who have been deprived of their natural affection compass by our current cultural process are particularly vulnerable here. Most of us emerge into adulthood with both social and sexual needs and since the first is not met in any way, the second has become the slide rule used to determine social value. Not a good idea.

2. Lack of sexual satisfaction is common to both genders in their physical relationships. This is also a fact. Many men have been seduced into homosexual relationships simply because their basic physical needs are not being met by women. What does it say about us as a society that our sons feel they haveto go to other men? And what about our daughters? Having to rely on men who have been both emotionally and sexually brutalized during their most sensitive years does not provide them with a reliable adult partner, physically or any other way.

This is because we do not give either gender of our children any advice or training about what should be happening in their bedrooms. Americans tend to be very puritanical about the subject generally. For the life of me, I can’t understand why. The subject certainly requires a sense of modesty, but this guilt ridden, hush-hush, leave your kids to get on as best they can mentality is beyond belief for intelligent beings. Sex is a normal function of life and should be treated as such and yet Americans still purvey this bad, guilty attitude to their children. We need to start imbuing them with the more correct notion that sex in itself is not bad, using other people to wipe your behind sexually, that isbad.

While sexual urges are common to both genders, the motivations for those urges are not the same, at all. For men the urges are predominantly physical, for women they tend to be emotional while in both cases there are elements of both factors. This does not make an easy mix to deal with.

From all the available evidence, neither gender seems to be satisfied with the current arrangement so they have taken to same-sex relationships in an attempt to complete their own needs. This is not working either. Domestic violence and bad emotional breakups are more common in same-sex relationships than they are in heterosexual ones, per couple. The LGBT is not publicizing this fact however. I am writing this in case any of you are thinking that a same-sex lover is going to be your ticket to emotional nirvana. NOT!

I am now going to write a very dirty word. It is a word you do not ever hear anymore, it being so verybad. Tenderness. This word is worse than libido, penis, lust, or even, low be it spoken, desire. It is not a word we allow ourselves to think anymore, let alone speak. Tenderness is supposed to be an integral part of our human emotional experience and it is no longer. It has been replaced by words like “hot.” Someone attractive to the opposite(or same) sex is spoken of as being “hot.” If someone expresses an interest in you, you are being “hit on.” This is intrinsically violent in implication. Our adult sexual needs have been reduced to this on the public level, heat and violence.

Without the natural affection and nurturing of childhood, tenderness has departed from every aspect of our adult lives, not just the sexual aspect. No one has cared for the tenderness of children, there is no allowance made for it in our public educational system. We go into daycare, almost from the moment of birth, into pre-K programs, then into twelve years of grammar and high school. We spend most of our child lives trying to cope with strangers. Is it any wonder that so many are turning to same-sex relationships in an attempt to feel that social bonding that is normal? The method is not going to work, but the motivation is understandable. Sex and affection are not the same thing. How are we going to re-instill this basic fact into such lost children as we have raised?

With the rise of Women’s Suffrage and the ongoing march of Women’s Liberation, we have lost sight of some very basic values. The importance of feelings. Does this statement sound to you like an oxymoron? It’s not. I will explain.

Emotional fulfillment is the most important aspect of our lives as sentient beings. It is not sexual fulfillment, it is not financial “success,” it is not the acquiring of a higher educational degree. The need for refined, emotional fulfillment is what separates us from the other animals whose needs are much more rudimentary and essentially physical in nature. Emotional fulfillment is supplied by others who care about you as a person, people who are genuinely interested in the highs and lows of your life everyday, both the small and the large. The process of fulfillment is completed by your returning of these interests to those who supply them to you. As of this date, the 14th of April in the year 2013 Current Era, America has more college graduates and less emotionally fulfilled citizens than any other country in the history of this planet. Let us now trace the cause of this phenomenon. It comes in two installments.

Part one. The Wife and Mother or — Displaced Homemakers.

Women are the emotional heart of the family. Our ability to empathize makes us invaluable as emotional supporters wherever needed. Being a wife and mother is a bona-fide career. To excel at anything, one must pursue it as a life focus. You do not hear of an eminent neurosurgeon who is also a world-renowned astrophysicist. The reason that men have never wished for their wives to also have a career is that she will be the emotional center of their home. He provides the money to support the home and she provides the emotional fulfillment. If she has to work outside the home, all of that emotional fulfillment will be missing. And nowadays, it is. It is only within the last forty years that our society has deliberately turned it’s face away from the vital importance of the role of wife and mother. This desertion has been engineered by other women. Men really had nothing to do with it.

Women’s Suffrage and Liberation have insisted that all female children born in this country be groomed for high-powered careers outside the home.(whether they want it or not) This notion is not powered by a wish for the girls well-being or personal fulfillment. It is based on the feminist teaching that as husbands and providers, men are not to be trusted so every female must be financially independent of all men. This is what we are currently teaching our girls in our educational process. Being a wife and mother is a minimum-wage type of thing to a Feminist chiefly because it involves a healthy and trusting relationship with a man and Feminists are afraid of, and hate, men. If they want to live their lives based on fear and hate that is their prerogative but why are we letting them teach their personal poisons to our daughters via the schools?

Part two. The Husband and Father or — Displaced Husbands.

Back in the sixties when women’s lib was getting under way one of their battle cries was– “men have a career and a marriage so why can’t women? It’s not fair!” I addressed this issue in the above paragraphs. I know whereof I speak here because I had a front row seat for this bout. This is the year 2013 CE and the decision is in. The American family unit lost on points. The sixties generation of females got what they thought they wanted–careers. The husband is now an after thought. It has been especially informative to follow the husbands that have been ‘supportive’ of her ‘career.’ I have listened to so many brag about that. Until they found he was having an affair with his co-worker because ‘she made him feel special.’ That really was the wife’s job you know, but she was so busy being liberated and supported and career oriented that she paid no attention to his emotional needs. And you know what? It was all his fault for being unfaithful.

This post is about the importance of feelings and I am stating here that men have feelings too. They need to feel needed. Anyone does. Being the provider for the family is really the only way a decent man has of showing his love in a practical hands-on manner. It is especially important to him in his feelings as a husband. We have allowed our daughters to be taught to despise their husbands feelings and needs as being only ‘male ego’ and unworthy of notice. Since the onset of women’s liberation it has become a point of honor with many females to totally ignore the emotional needs of the men in their lives. It really has. Is this humane? Is this an appropriate response to perceived gender issues? Is this what ‘liberation’ has done for females as a whole? So, now we have lots of divorced female wage earners with a career who are really struggling to provide for their fatherless children all alone and about ninety percent of the time this situation has been engineered by the women themselves. This is the financial independence that their schooling taught them to seek. The women are unhappy, their children are unhappy, and the men who have been driven out of their position as husband, provider and father by the totally unrealistic expectations of the women they married are more unhappy than the rest. Yes, most of these men are unhappy with being divorced from their homes and children.

So what’s the bottom line here? The young women of America, our future wives and mothers are being emotional brutalized themselves by our educational system and it’s expectations of them. The Feminist agenda thought to change the world by changing the way our daughters are educated. They thought that by teaching young girls to be assertive, competitive, emotionally hard-boiled, and financially self-centered they would really “show” the evil man’s world what was what and be better off themselves. And just look at the mess they have made.

If a young girl really is motivated towards a career instead of marriage, by all means support her choice. But we need to stop selling our girls the notion that they have to do both. We need to re-instill in our girls the sense of respect for marriage and motherhood that is natural to them and allow room for it to develop. The last forty years have been artificially induced by a small set of unbalanced feminine minds and we are quite capable of seeing that this stops so that our future husbands, wives, and children have a stable home where the importance of everybody’s feelings are given the right attention.

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How many times have you heard this— “children need a college education so they will have a good start in life.” How many times have you silently agreed to the notion that children need a “good education” so they can “make it” in “society?” How many of you are willing to take another look at these two universal constants of our current social rhetoric? Do you understand the difference between need and want?

As I said in my last post, there really is no such animal as “SOCIETY.” It is for this reason that arguments about society, and it’s condition, are always so unsatisfactory. We are all individuals, unique unto ourselves. We use the term society to refer to a collection of such individuals. This is a matter of verbal convenience—not a definition. Therefore, society = individuals.

And even though they use the term “society” for convenience’s sake, in their own minds, people only relate to the individual. For example, why else is there such objection to making broad, sweeping statements about Jews, blacks, women, Hispanics, republicans, democrats, etc., etc.? It is because such statements are an insult to the individual. They totally ignore the principle of the uniqueness of the individual and show no respect for or acknowledgement of it. Therefore, let us agree that the first basic function of society is to teach respect for the individual. Without this teaching, there is no society, there are only lots of individuals in a constant state of emotional anarchy.

Let us further agree that the first step in teaching respect for the individual is teaching respect for the self. The notion of “I” is, after all, the foundation on which all further understanding of the importance of the individual will be built. People who have no respect for themselves will assuredly not respect anyone else.

Taking this one step further we have–Respect for the self must be taught by the primary individuals in a person’s life—the parents. To any child, mom and dad are society, therefore, society = individuals = parents. So how can parents(society) teach the principle of self-respect?

This one is easy. They can’t.

It is not possible to “teach” self-respect to children, you have to provide them with it the same way you provide them with shelter, warmth, food, etc.. You do this by loving them. You do this by spending time with them because you love them and you like spending time with them. In this way the individual child will absorb the notion that they “matter” and this is the basis for self-respect. All children need this. There is no educational “system” that can substitute for this. It is called nurturing.

You see, self respect is absorbed from one’s emotional environment, especially(but not exclusively) by the young. Society(parents) cannot “teach” respect like a course in algebra. Parents can teach little ones their numbers, letters, and colors. Parents can teach growing children about gardening, cooking, auto repair, hunting, and fishing and sewing. As parents take the time and trouble to teach them these skills their children will automatically absorb a sense of self-respect and this self-respect will, in turn, allow them to respect others. They need a sense of self-respect and they need to have consideration for others, otherwise, nothing else they acquire or achieve in their lives will have meaning. Nurturing is what will give children a good start in life. Education, which is only information of various kinds, will not do this.

You will notice that education does not appear in this equation at all. That is because children do not need an education. It is not a physical or emotional requirement in raising a stable individual(society). If one has no education they will certainly feel the lack of it. In other words, they will want some education. For a healthy child, education will provide a broader point of social view, they will learn about other ways of living and earning a living and hopefully, develop some respect for others.

All of our social woes stem from the fact that education is being used as a substitute for nurturing. As a result of this, we are raising entire generations with a syndrome that pediatricians would diagnose as “failure to thrive.”

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My friends have asked me to keep things simple in my posts so I will be making a concerted effort to do just that. This should be fairly easy because the causes of our national ills are really very simple indeed. However, the emotional reactions that will accompany the acknowledgment of these very simple causes will be profound and so readers will have to take a few moments to absorb them. I refer you now to the title of this blog–The Longest Journey Begins… The remainder of this old saying is… with but a single step. I will try to limit the ideas presented in each post to just one or at most, two, single connected steps.

Step one–the social and political dysfunction in America is being caused by our “educational” system which can be very accurately summed up under the more appropriate title of “bad parenting.” Or perhaps “no parenting” will be more accurate still. That may look like quite a stretch to some of you, but think about it a minute. There really isn’t any such animal as “Society.” There are only individual people, you and I, and if we are not raising emotionally healthy individuals the country (society) is not healthy. Our current educational practices are not producing healthy individuals. (I develop this theme more fully in an earlier post–Great Expectations! http://wp.me/p1BaiG-N ) The cause for this is simple.

Human children need to spend the largest bulk of their time at home, under the direct supervision of their parents, especially during infancy and early adolescence. They will absorb the necessary basic functions of society in this setting only. Only here will they feel safe from social pressures they are not mature enough to deal with, only from mother or father will they absorb the feeling that they are being nurtured because they are loved as individuals and that their individual needs are being focused on. Only from their parents will adolescent children receive the sense of familial supervision and personal restraint they will need to develop an ethic of sexual responsibility in their approaching adulthood. The time constraints imposed by our public school system do not allow for this.

It is not possible to overstate the importance of direct parental supervision in the process of child rearing. It is equally not possible to miss seeing the results of ignoring this premise in today’s society. Calculate the amount of time an american child spends at school every day and add in an average 8 hours for sleeping. How much time is left? How much of this time is spent with mom or dad or both?

It is a very sad truth obvious in the entire Western world that most parents are using the howling kant about “EDUCATION” being so important as an excuse for not raising their own children. Children needto be educated they rant. We not only have kindergarten for five-year old infants but now we are having more and more “pre-k programs” to “give our children a more competitive edge in the educational system.” How many of you have heard this particular obscenity? Children do not need to feel competitive, that is an attribute of only certain areas of adult endeavor. In fact, most adults do not need to feel competitive. Children need to be nurtured by their parents. They need to feel loved and protected.They need to have their physical requirements met. Education is NOT a primary need of infancy. It will not give children a “good start” in life.

Archeologists have uncovered what appears to be evidence of whole societies that sacrificed their infant children to the god Moloch by burning them to death at his altars. Evidently it was thought that the society as a whole would be preserved in a prosperous state by this practice. Education has become the new “Moloch” of our world.

At this point, I am happy to state that there is an increasing trend among parents today to home school their own children. An excellent idea and a step in the right direction.

To sum up this post, of course our children will want an education, no one will deny that, it is the system we have created that needs to be revamped. In the first place, we need to stop braying about “THE IMPORTANCE OF EDUCATION” as if it were in itself a be all—end all, it is not. Secondly, small, privately run schools within walking distance, and more of them, should replace the large public school systems currently ruining our future citizens and our pocketbooks. There would be no lack of teachers to run them. School hours should be limited to 3 hours a day. The attention span of most children runs about 10 to 12 minutes, anything over that is a waste of time so 3 hours a day is more than enough time to cover all the basic subjects, plus a break time. Lunch could wait till they got home so no kitchen facilities, personnel, or food budgets would be necessary. Now, take a moment to realize what an educational budget would amount to for a small school building (about the size of the average home)that did not require money for buses, their maintenance, gas, driver salaries, and insurance. Compare what it cost to replace your own roof with that of replacing the roof on your local grammar or high school. Are you getting the picture now? Smaller is in every way better here.

Next, delete the multimillion dollar budgets for school sports programs, equipment, busing to and from games, insurance, maintenance, coaches salaries. building and upkeep for gymnasiums and playing fields.

I know, I know, but education is about reading, writing, and arithmetic, science and literature and cultural studies of other countries. Football, basketball, soccer, swimming, etc., etc., are not education, they are games, and as such have no place in education or the budgeting necessary for it. We can and should be deleting this expense from our educational realities. Left to themselves, children make up their own games, always have, always will. Our towns and cities can no longer afford to be financing the farm teams of the NBA, the NFL, etc., etc.. Let these huge sports franchises donate to the locals out of their multibillion dollar budgets if they want players. If they can afford to pay multiple millions per season to just one of their “stars” they can afford to.

In my next post I will develop this theme in another few simple steps–The basic functions of society.