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Building self confidence after so many years of it being absent, can be a truly hard thing to achieve. I have had problems with self confidence for as long as i can remember. If you are reading this, then you probably had or have problems with growing your own self esteem.

Being a person that lacks self confidence, it is extremely hard to communicate efficiently with people. It is crucial for it to be within standard values to maintain a good conversation with someone and benefit from it.

Lack of self confidence is associated mostly with introverted people. Why? Because they are subjected to bullying in kindergarten, elementary school, high school, college, university, other parts of their lives.

Depression could be a definitive result of lacking self confidence. Depression is like the final stage to where you endanger your own being. Eventually, one does not feel like he/she should live anymore in this world.

I’d like you to hear my story. Throughout my childhood, i have been subjected to numerous obstacles that would not allow my personality to get to extreme high level that is right now.

Before I started school, I had no problems communicating with my family and friends. It was not bad being the center of attention. Just a bit later after I started school, some of my classmates figured out I was an Introvert (a new term used by me … was not present at that time because I was too young) . Click here to find more about what an introvert is .

Everyday bullying was like a normal part of my life. Giving money, food, getting a beating, eventually leading to self confidence meltdown.

Only 1 year was required for that meltdown to happen. I have never recovered since then, they were the most agonizing days of my life.

In the present, I have a hint of depression and still a low level self confidence. Mornings are hell because of job (another agonizing part of my life).

I have researched about most topics in my life, psychology and spiritual concerns intrigued me the most.

I managed to find some techniques to gain some of my lost self confidence even though it will take a lot of time.

Abraham Maslow posted in his 1943 paper, a theory that defines the psychological development of a human being. He created this hierarchy of needs. Surprising enough, self esteem and self confidence are key points on that pyramid.

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What did I do to gain a portion of that self confidence back?

Read further and find out

Found a passion or hobby. Express yourself through them, can increase the chance of meeting people with similar interests.

I don’t give in too much info about myself. To your friends , workmates , bosses and relatives. They will use that information to blackmail you in the end. Besides they don’t care anyway, everyone is an individualist.

I don’t let my parents take control of my actions. Learn to do things in your own way. Experience life, through your actions, not through theirs.

Facing my fears. Ever had something you were afraid of? Do it, what’s the worse that could happen? If it’s not dangerous as provoking death, face it and get experience. You just earned 2 levels and few new skills.

Reading books.. psychological ones. Get to know more about the power of thoughts, how does the brain function, mind, subconscious and increase your self confidence.

Setting myself some goals. Everyone must have a goal in life. Find your goal but never give up the next day you wake up.

I care for animals . If I see a dog or cat, i would try to communicate emotionally with them. That increases my self confidence and love for beings other than myself.

I try to smile everyday. It should not be a fake masked smile. It should be a genuine one, coming from heart.

Don’t take the world too seriously for looking at you. If you do mistakes, learn, forgive yourself, move on. If they insult , make false statements , don’t give them too much attention unless it goes too far, but usually they get bored before that happens.

In the end, the most important ingredient of building self confidence is to express yourself with no limits. The limits are those that we impose on ourselves. It is not about the world, it’s about us, as individuals. Learn to harness that power, conquer the world.

About the authorAlin Samson

Meet Samson Alin , a tempered guy with lots of patience in what involves blog articles. Being an internet addict, he became a talented person, being able to process high value information, values health and likes to share with other people his methods. He is currently learning how to become great at many things in the future and how to cope with life tough moments like any of you. He is learning web design, 3D modelling & animation and gets involved into a lot of projects that requires a different perspective.