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I feel like a terrible mum today.

hel07ugj

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Posted on 20-12-2010 at 2.14PM

glad mine isn't the only house that Taz has been through :tazz2 :
i popped a disc in my bad a couple of weeks ago and still can't stand upright or sit for very long grrrr.
luckily i did my chrimble shopping early and booked an emergency food delivery for wednesday with tesco but my house is a bombsite. dh is working full time and running round doing the most urgent jobs but things like putting clean clothes away just isnt up there on the list so i feel like such a useless lump
luckily, dd is being an angel but i have been REALLY grumpy over the past couple of weeks she's probably shell-shocked :shock:
hooray for &#034;not quite perfect&#034; mummies :sofabounce:

Last message from previous page:glad mine isn't the only house that Taz has been through

i popped a disc in my bad a couple of weeks ago and still can't stand upright or sit for very long grrrr.

luckily i did my chrimble shopping early and booked an emergency food delivery for wednesday with tesco but my house is a bombsite. dh is working full time and running round doing the most urgent jobs but things like putting clean clothes away just isnt up there on the list so i feel like such a useless lump

luckily, dd is being an angel but i have been REALLY grumpy over the past couple of weeks she's probably shell-shocked

hooray for "not quite perfect" mummies

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Posted on 20-12-2010 at 2.32PM

Gosh i do feel better that so many other mums have talked about this openly. I feel like the worst mum ever for a couple months now. Me and my son use to spend so much time together, i use to always be able to think of things to do and take him out for daily walks. But now im 35 weeks pregnant, my patience is almost non existance, i have no energy to go out, i tell him off alot for moaning. Hes just turned 3. Hes not really naughty but theres only so much i can do now.
So whereas everyone is having a bad day, im having a bad couple months! So i feel worse! But i do feel better for reading what everyone is saying and alot of ppl were reading this thread so im guessing there is alot of mums out there feeling bad! Which is saying its a normal thing if so many mums are feeling the same!

Gosh i do feel better that so many other mums have talked about this openly. I feel like the worst mum ever for a couple months now. Me and my son use to spend so much time together, i use to always be able to think of things to do and take him out for daily walks. But now im 35 weeks pregnant, my patience is almost non existance, i have no energy to go out, i tell him off alot for moaning. Hes just turned 3. Hes not really naughty but theres only so much i can do now.

So whereas everyone is having a bad day, im having a bad couple months! So i feel worse! But i do feel better for reading what everyone is saying and alot of ppl were reading this thread so im guessing there is alot of mums out there feeling bad! Which is saying its a normal thing if so many mums are feeling the same!

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Posted on 20-12-2010 at 6.38PM

glad you feel better,this all just means you are NORMAL!!!
we love the little darlings, but sometimesthey drive us up the wall!!!

glad you feel better,this all just means you are NORMAL!!!we love the little darlings, but sometimesthey drive us up the wall!!!

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Posted on 20-12-2010 at 9.26PM

Aw hope you feel better. You are most certainly normal :hug: It does kids no harm to see they have been pains in the bum, its how they learn to behave better :lol: But if i ever think i have over reacted, i will appoligise then explain to them why i felt so sad, and let them know how to not be pains in the bums next time :roll::D

Aw hope you feel better. You are most certainly normal It does kids no harm to see they have been pains in the bum, its how they learn to behave better But if i ever think i have over reacted, i will appoligise then explain to them why i felt so sad, and let them know how to not be pains in the bums next time :roll::D

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 9.39AM

:nmswave: morning ladies well its my turn to be the worlds worst mother :roll: i had a rotten nights sleep and woke up with a nightmare 1 of those vivid ones ,
anyhoo kids still at school here all was fine and dandy till they started bickering over SOCKS yes socks ,
1 said they are mine no they are mine , and dd2 went mental , so off i went on a tangent i havnt shouted like that for years :( i was almost in tears roaring like a madwoman how i was fed up of petty bickering BLAH BLAH , so they both sheepishly got ready and left for school with me sitting fuming :rargh:
I feel awful because i over reacted and to make it worse DH was stil in so of course he was telling me how OTT i was so he went to work with a flea in his ear too , so ive made my self a coffee and having a sulk :s

morning ladies well its my turn to be the worlds worst mother i had a rotten nights sleep and woke up with a nightmare 1 of those vivid ones , anyhoo kids still at school here all was fine and dandy till they started bickering over SOCKS yes socks , 1 said they are mine no they are mine , and dd2 went mental , so off i went on a tangent i havnt shouted like that for years i was almost in tears roaring like a madwoman how i was fed up of petty bickering BLAH BLAH , so they both sheepishly got ready and left for school with me sitting fuming

I feel awful because i over reacted and to make it worse DH was stil in so of course he was telling me how OTT i was so he went to work with a flea in his ear too , so ive made my self a coffee and having a sulk

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 12.12PM

Hi Jackie! Sorry to hear of your bad night / morning. If its any concelation, I had a rubbish night too, after nursing the kids with all sorts of illnesses this month and DH with the usual December Man Flu, I have gone down with it myself - I knew I would, Christmas is only a few days away - I spend the whole month trying to get everyone else better to fall prey to it every Christmas! Oh well! Anyway spend half the night awake, either from not being able to breathe or coughing so much that DH said, 'Blimey, cant sleep with all this coughing!' To which I stormed out of bed around 4am shouting profanities that I didnt complain when his coughing kept me awake!
Anyway I cant function at all when I so much as lose an hours sleep at night! Moaned at everyone this morning inc DH but they just dont understand! I get a but jelous sometimes that he can walk out the front door and go to work sometimes. I know I shouldnt I just need to sort my head out - So Jackie you are far from alone, esp judging by the amount of replies on this thread!! Hope the rest of your day goes well! :nmswave:

morning ladies well its my turn to be the worlds worst mother i had a rotten nights sleep and woke up with a nightmare 1 of those vivid ones , anyhoo kids still at school here all was fine and dandy till they started bickering over SOCKS yes socks , 1 said they are mine no they are mine , and dd2 went mental , so off i went on a tangent i havnt shouted like that for years i was almost in tears roaring like a madwoman how i was fed up of petty bickering BLAH BLAH , so they both sheepishly got ready and left for school with me sitting fuming

I feel awful because i over reacted and to make it worse DH was stil in so of course he was telling me how OTT i was so he went to work with a flea in his ear too , so ive made my self a coffee and having a sulk

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Hi Jackie! Sorry to hear of your bad night / morning. If its any concelation, I had a rubbish night too, after nursing the kids with all sorts of illnesses this month and DH with the usual December Man Flu, I have gone down with it myself - I knew I would, Christmas is only a few days away - I spend the whole month trying to get everyone else better to fall prey to it every Christmas! Oh well! Anyway spend half the night awake, either from not being able to breathe or coughing so much that DH said, 'Blimey, cant sleep with all this coughing!' To which I stormed out of bed around 4am shouting profanities that I didnt complain when his coughing kept me awake!

Anyway I cant function at all when I so much as lose an hours sleep at night! Moaned at everyone this morning inc DH but they just dont understand! I get a but jelous sometimes that he can walk out the front door and go to work sometimes. I know I shouldnt I just need to sort my head out - So Jackie you are far from alone, esp judging by the amount of replies on this thread!! Hope the rest of your day goes well!

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 12.33PM

I hope you get better soon and HIS man flu clears up i dont think men realise that we struggle on , oh well tomorrow is another day :hug:

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Hi Jackie! Sorry to hear of your bad night / morning. If its any concelation, I had a rubbish night too, after nursing the kids with all sorts of illnesses this month and DH with the usual December Man Flu, I have gone down with it myself - I knew I would, Christmas is only a few days away - I spend the whole month trying to get everyone else better to fall prey to it every Christmas! Oh well! Anyway spend half the night awake, either from not being able to breathe or coughing so much that DH said, 'Blimey, cant sleep with all this coughing!' To which I stormed out of bed around 4am shouting profanities that I didnt complain when his coughing kept me awake!

Anyway I cant function at all when I so much as lose an hours sleep at night! Moaned at everyone this morning inc DH but they just dont understand! I get a but jelous sometimes that he can walk out the front door and go to work sometimes. I know I shouldnt I just need to sort my head out - So Jackie you are far from alone, esp judging by the amount of replies on this thread!! Hope the rest of your day goes well!

I hope you get better soon and HIS man flu clears up i dont think men realise that we struggle on , oh well tomorrow is another day

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 12.39PM

Aww Jackie,
dont worry about it. Just apologise when they get home later (like i finally did yesterday!) and chill out. Easier said than done isnt, but we can try i guess!
Have a bar of choc, a nice cuppa and watch some good telly, that always sorts me out!

morning ladies well its my turn to be the worlds worst mother i had a rotten nights sleep and woke up with a nightmare 1 of those vivid ones , anyhoo kids still at school here all was fine and dandy till they started bickering over SOCKS yes socks , 1 said they are mine no they are mine , and dd2 went mental , so off i went on a tangent i havnt shouted like that for years i was almost in tears roaring like a madwoman how i was fed up of petty bickering BLAH BLAH , so they both sheepishly got ready and left for school with me sitting fuming

I feel awful because i over reacted and to make it worse DH was stil in so of course he was telling me how OTT i was so he went to work with a flea in his ear too , so ive made my self a coffee and having a sulk

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Aww Jackie,dont worry about it. Just apologise when they get home later (like i finally did yesterday!) and chill out. Easier said than done isnt, but we can try i guess!Have a bar of choc, a nice cuppa and watch some good telly, that always sorts me out!

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 4.26PM

your not a bad mother at all. im having one of those days as well. i suffer with PND and just cant seem to cope with anything today i have a 5 year old and a 1 year old and my 5 year old is just playing up big time and all i have done is shout. i hate it when i have days like this i feel guilty afterwards. but trust me your not a lone. and your certainly not a bad mum xxx

your not a bad mother at all. im having one of those days as well. i suffer with PND and just cant seem to cope with anything today i have a 5 year old and a 1 year old and my 5 year old is just playing up big time and all i have done is shout. i hate it when i have days like this i feel guilty afterwards. but trust me your not a lone. and your certainly not a bad mum xxx

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 7.10PM

Having one of those days today ds1 and ds2 have been fighting non stop and dd is just being very very tempermental today and didn't help by my mothers quite sarcastic comments today am so stressed oh is at work on lates feel very lonely :(

Having one of those days today ds1 and ds2 have been fighting non stop and dd is just being very very tempermental today and didn't help by my mothers quite sarcastic comments today am so stressed oh is at work on lates feel very lonely

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 8.02PM

hi so so sos so glad i am not alone ive been like this today ive got a chest infection so ive been running around like mad taking ds to childminder going to work collecting ds running him to various clubs / activities repeating it again for the next 3 days then somewhere in between i have to find time to go and do a FULL shop/ xmas shop, get meat,deliver presents, wrap some up, tidy up, hoover, cook, clean wash the list goes on just want some time to myself and as a single mum cant see anyone else doing it yes my ds helps but i always find i have to redo it after him moan over

hi so so sos so glad i am not alone ive been like this today ive got a chest infection so ive been running around like mad taking ds to childminder going to work collecting ds running him to various clubs / activities repeating it again for the next 3 days then somewhere in between i have to find time to go and do a FULL shop/ xmas shop, get meat,deliver presents, wrap some up, tidy up, hoover, cook, clean wash the list goes on just want some time to myself and as a single mum cant see anyone else doing it yes my ds helps but i always find i have to redo it after him moan over

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Posted on 21-12-2010 at 8.42PM

the fact that you posted on here shows you are not a &#034;bad Mum&#034; just a woman who is not superhuman. We all have bad days for whatever reason . Try not to worry, if you need time on your own try asking a friend/family to have the kids for an our or so,so you can de-stress , it really works.

the fact that you posted on here shows you are not a "bad Mum" just a woman who is not superhuman. We all have bad days for whatever reason . Try not to worry, if you need time on your own try asking a friend/family to have the kids for an our or so,so you can de-stress , it really works.

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Posted on 22-12-2010 at 11.15AM

wah, soooo glad I'm not the only one. Yesterday was a truly rotten day with a teething, congested, bored 14 month old (and too cold/snowy to go outside for long). It really helps to read that other people are going through the same thing and I'm not just a bad mother. Can't wait for spring when she can run around outdoors all day long!

wah, soooo glad I'm not the only one. Yesterday was a truly rotten day with a teething, congested, bored 14 month old (and too cold/snowy to go outside for long). It really helps to read that other people are going through the same thing and I'm not just a bad mother. Can't wait for spring when she can run around outdoors all day long!

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Posted on 22-12-2010 at 12.33PM

LO (11months) has just gotten over 10 day bout of D&amp;V followed by awful teething for a week:ill:, I'm feeling sick and hubby in Afghan :fly:so on own for 1st xmas:humbug :. I'm v tired and struggling ot keep patience with the constant whining and crying. The energy to put a washing load seems to have evaded :wash:me hence we are still in PJ's gone midday waiting for the machine to finish so we can go for a walk and deliver xmas cards:merryxmas:. I am trying very hard to get into the spirit of Christmas but as with every year there seems to be a lot of pressure for one day.
I feel like I am failing in everything other than keeping my Lo clean and fed (which in itself I feel is an achievement at the moment):bath::eating:. I know once I get a bit of energy back after this bug that things will start to look up; but makes me feel less miserable to hear others are in a similar boat.:sadhug

LO (11months) has just gotten over 10 day bout of D&V followed by awful teething for a week:ill:, I'm feeling sick and hubby in Afghan :fly:so on own for 1st xmas:humbug[1]:. I'm v tired and struggling ot keep patience with the constant whining and crying. The energy to put a washing load seems to have evaded :wash:me hence we are still in PJ's gone midday waiting for the machine to finish so we can go for a walk and deliver xmas cards:merryxmas:. I am trying very hard to get into the spirit of Christmas but as with every year there seems to be a lot of pressure for one day. I feel like I am failing in everything other than keeping my Lo clean and fed (which in itself I feel is an achievement at the moment):bath::eating:. I know once I get a bit of energy back after this bug that things will start to look up; but makes me feel less miserable to hear others are in a similar boat.:sadhug

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Posted on 22-12-2010 at 2.02PM

Happy Birthday :)

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especially as its my birthday today!

Happy Birthday

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Posted on 22-12-2010 at 5.00PM

and that's probably the only thing that really matters. Hang in there, try to take a step back from the commercialism and pressure and just make your Christmas as special for you and LO as you can. :nmskissbetter: Just wish I could take my own advice - with all the running around and preparing I worry that I'm loosing sight of what its all really about and my DS (3) is missing out on that!

LO (11months) has just gotten over 10 day bout of D&V followed by awful teething for a week:ill:, I'm feeling sick and hubby in Afghan :fly:so on own for 1st xmas:humbug[1]:. I'm v tired and struggling ot keep patience with the constant whining and crying. The energy to put a washing load seems to have evaded :wash:me hence we are still in PJ's gone midday waiting for the machine to finish so we can go for a walk and deliver xmas cards:merryxmas:. I am trying very hard to get into the spirit of Christmas but as with every year there seems to be a lot of pressure for one day. I feel like I am failing in everything other than keeping my Lo clean and fed (which in itself I feel is an achievement at the moment):bath::eating:. I know once I get a bit of energy back after this bug that things will start to look up; but makes me feel less miserable to hear others are in a similar boat.:sadhug

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and that's probably the only thing that really matters. Hang in there, try to take a step back from the commercialism and pressure and just make your Christmas as special for you and LO as you can. Just wish I could take my own advice - with all the running around and preparing I worry that I'm loosing sight of what its all really about and my DS (3) is missing out on that!

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Posted on 22-12-2010 at 7.03PM

I was feeling it today as DS is 6 months old with Man flu, also teething, and just being weaned! OH is a plumber and been called out to every emergency all week and not been home much bless, but just want to say I can't complain as he will be home for christmas and my heart goes out to Samantha and all other families whos OH are in Afghan and on their own this Christmas, Hope you have a good one.x

I was feeling it today as DS is 6 months old with Man flu, also teething, and just being weaned! OH is a plumber and been called out to every emergency all week and not been home much bless, but just want to say I can't complain as he will be home for christmas and my heart goes out to Samantha and all other families whos OH are in Afghan and on their own this Christmas, Hope you have a good one.x