When we first contemplate divorce, or are surprised by the news that our spouse wants one, how do we feel? Sad, angry, confused, betrayed, overwhelmed…the list goes on and on.Our experiences as divorce coaches, and women who have experienced divorce ourselves, tell us that it does not matter if you are male or female, or the person leaving the relationship or the person being left, there is extreme overwhelm. Knowing this, how is anyone supposed to make good decisions at such a difficult time? The truth is that most people cannot—at least initially.

Divorced Exposed Podcast with Debbie DeChambeau: Nesting: What Is it and Is it For You?Featuring Cherie Morris

EPISODE 11 – NESTING: An innovative way to keep your children from having to go back and forth with visitation. Nesting isn’t for everyone, but it’s a concept that we need to explore more and try to figure out ways to make it work. Parents don’t always get along hence they divorce, but that’s not the children’s fault. Why do they have to pack up every other weekend to go visit mom or dad? Why do they have to have their life disrupted because their parents couldn’t figure things out. Could this be one of the reasons why we have so many issues with millennials today. Parents are over compensating for the divorce. It’s complicated, and there isn’t one right or wrong answer, but the parenting issue needs to be at the top of the divorce discussion.Our guest, Cheri Morris, is a divorce coach with Dear Divorce Coach. She’s an attorney who pivoted her career into coaching, based on her own divorce. Nesting is one of the areas she explores with couples as they divorce. DIVORCEThe first time you get divorced, there are a lot of questions, a lot of overwhelm. How you handle it is somewhat influenced by who is initiating the divorce. If it’s you, the emotions might be very different than if it is your spouse who wants the marriage to end. COACH VS. THERAPYIt’s a process, with phases that many of us go through. We can’t see them when we are in the middle of it, but others on the outside that work with divorcing people will tell you that they see many of the same patterns. A coach can help you through this and keep things in check. At the end of the conversation we talk about the difference between a therapist and a divorce coach. Hiring a divorce coach is an added expense to the divorce process, but it can be one that brings a lot of value to the end results as well. It could also save you a lot of money by staying out of court through some practical negotiating strategies. If you are going through a divorce and have children, get them into therapy right away. You might be ok with the divorce, but they need help processing what is going on! Please don’t ignore this important piece, no matter what their age. It’s particularly important for teens and early twenty somethings. That should be something you do before you start processing the paperwork with an attorney! SHARE THE LOVEIf you like what you hear in this podcast, please share it with a friend or family member. The divorce rate is over 50% in the US and a lot of people are thinking about divorce long before they actually take the first step. Knowledge is power and each episode provides value for helping those who are married or contemplating divorce. You can listen to this podcast on the website at DivorceExposed.com or iTunes if you have an iphone, Spotify if you have an account and if you are a droid user, go to your app store, you can download any number of podcast player apps where you will also find the podcast such as Stitcher and Google Play. ​