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How come there has to be signs for when we want to get frisky with our men?

I made the mistake of teling one of my friends that Im at the point in pregnancy where my sex drive is gone!! I hate it!! But Im tring. Well I figured that at 11:30 at night he would come to bed, and maybe I could get something started. Well 12:15 rolls around and Im like. oooookkk.. hes out n the livng room watching roomate play call of duty.. So I text him from the room, saying Unglue your butt from the gaming couch and come to bed, im about done waiting" with a smily face. Well he came to bed annoyed. NOT MY INTENSIONS at all. I guess to him it came off bitchy.. and I will say it did come off a bit that way, but I was expecting him to reply with a why or somthing to that effect. Well needless to say, he was mad. and im like I meant that funny not bitchy. hes like well you need to give signs you want to do something cause your the one that said your not wanting to do anything right now. UGH.. i felt bad, but why do i need to give signs?? I was just gonna do something when he came to bed. dont tell me your coming to bed in 2 min and 35 min later your not here. UGH.. so that killed our moods... I hate not having a high sex drive anymore. and im not one to talk dirty.. im just not good at it

You have discovered that your communication isn't working the way you hope, so you need a different technique, yes?

When you're not busy doing something else... and neither is he... ask him how he likes to be approached. And, maybe before you do that, think about how you like to be approached, so you can tell him.

Don't be surprised if his answer is 'I dunno' --because yours is, isn't it? I mean, when you've never thought about it, you're both flailing around in the dark... some things seem to work sometimes and other times what you think is the same thing doesn't work at all.

Be confident in the ability to have more than one conversation --or a continuing conversation--on the same subject. Share what you've discovered, ask what your s/o has learned, see if you can figure out a pattern or a trick --code word, or gesture or facial expression...

What you're trying to say isn't 'gimmme' but 'I'm interested, you? No pressure.

I do think we need to not just give subtle "signs" to our partners when we are sexually interested, but that women should take the initiative and flat out tell their partners when they are interested. Our partners can't read our minds, just like we can't read theirs. Many women try to give subtle hints, or just expect their partners to just know that they are interested. Some if not many of the women who do this, end up with hurt feelings and feeling resentful because their partner didn't "get" the signs they were tossing out. The best way to avoid hurt feelings, possible resentments or angry when it comes to this ares, is by actually telling our partners what we want/need/have in mind/would like to do..etc. You say what happened wasn't your intention. Did you tell him what your intentions were? If not, how could he have known/interpreted what you unvoiced intentions were. KWIM.