okay... do ya'll think this is fair? (bit of a vent)

Okay, my husband works all week. I understand this, and since I bf I don't wake him up to help me at night during the week. The only tome I wake him up is Friday and Saturday nights and that's only to either warm up a bottle, change a diaper, or rock Riley back to sleep so I can catch a few extra minutes of sleep. Well it's 7:54am and I asked him if after 8 he would take riley, change him and basically just hold him, since I doubt Riley will go back to sleep, but he'll be very content. He refused! He said he was to tired from getting up one whole time last night, for no longer than 20 minutes. Uhmmmm... what?! He never gets asked to do anything except for baths and helping me maybe once a night on his days off. I'm up with him at least 3 times a night, every night, plus all day, and you can't let me get 2 hours of extra uninterrupted sleep? Jerk. So ladies, am I being unfair? I understand he works, but so am I by being at the beck and call of OUR child. And what is he gunna do when I do go back to work? I sure as hell will not be the only one gettin up then. This is our child, and he is not a "babysitter" he's the other parent. Okay, rant over. TIA

Okay, my husband works all week. I understand this, and since I bf I don't wake him up to help me at night during the week. The only tome I wake him up is Friday and Saturday nights and that's only to either warm up a bottle, change a diaper, or rock Riley back to sleep so I can catch a few extra minutes of sleep. Well it's 7:54am and I asked him if after 8 he would take riley, change him and basically just hold him, since I doubt Riley will go back to sleep, but he'll be very content. He refused! He said he was to tired from getting up one whole time last night, for no longer than 20 minutes. Uhmmmm... what?! He never gets asked to do anything except for baths and helping me maybe once a night on his days off. I'm up with him at least 3 times a night, every night, plus all day, and you can't let me get 2 hours of extra uninterrupted sleep? Jerk. So ladies, am I being unfair? I understand he works, but so am I by being at the beck and call of OUR child. And what is he gunna do when I do go back to work? I sure as hell will not be the only one gettin up then. This is our child, and he is not a "babysitter" he's the other parent. Okay, rant over. TIA

And btw, I have told him all of this. He's just really stubborn when it comes to his precious sleep. Newsflash... I was that way too, then I had a child who doesn't understand that, so I made adjustments and sacrifices. Time for him to do it too!

And btw, I have told him all of this. He's just really stubborn when it comes to his precious sleep. Newsflash... I was that way too, then I had a child who doesn't understand that, so I made adjustments and sacrifices. Time for him to do it too!

You are definately in the right. I'm w you I do everything at night and all day ( till I go back to work). I only ask for dh help on fri an sat. My hubby really tries but she just won't stop fussing unless she is w me. But he will usually stay up w me for moral support. You DESERVE a couple hrs of uninterrupted sleep!

You are definately in the right. I'm w you I do everything at night and all day ( till I go back to work). I only ask for dh help on fri an sat. My hubby really tries but she just won't stop fussing unless she is w me. But he will usually stay up w me for moral support. You DESERVE a couple hrs of uninterrupted sleep!

You are fine! It's the same way here, DH gets him on the weekends and I have him week nights. Last weekend he only had him 1 night and tried to get me up at one point to take him! I was pissed! We all deserve a little break!

You are fine! It's the same way here, DH gets him on the weekends and I have him week nights. Last weekend he only had him 1 night and tried to get me up at one point to take him! I was pissed! We all deserve a little break!

It's hard since we don't get off at 5 and get the weekends off. My husband is not a night person so even if he tries to help by time he does I'm up anyways. So instead he does mornings and days on the weekends so I can nap. Might be worth a shot to try that

It's hard since we don't get off at 5 and get the weekends off. My husband is not a night person so even if he tries to help by time he does I'm up anyways. So instead he does mornings and days on the weekends so I can nap. Might be worth a shot to try that

Thanks everyone. He is normally so good, so I don't understand where the attitude is comin from. @dorkfries thanks for suggestion. I think we'll try that, because he just doesn't hear him cry at night, so by the time I wake him, I'm wide awake. @everyone, thanks it helps to know that others agree. hr did drag his butt outta bed to smoke, so whether he likes it or not, he's gettin him while I shower and get dressed. lol on the upside, we're finally gettin pictures taken today!

Thanks everyone. He is normally so good, so I don't understand where the attitude is comin from. @dorkfries thanks for suggestion. I think we'll try that, because he just doesn't hear him cry at night, so by the time I wake him, I'm wide awake. @everyone, thanks it helps to know that others agree. hr did drag his butt outta bed to smoke, so whether he likes it or not, he's gettin him while I shower and get dressed. lol on the upside, we're finally gettin pictures taken today!

That's a parent. They go to work than come home and take care of kids. There shouldn't be oh I work so you can raise the children. That's a sperm donor!!!! I'm glad he helped you some. Hang in there :-))

That's a parent. They go to work than come home and take care of kids. There shouldn't be oh I work so you can raise the children. That's a sperm donor!!!! I'm glad he helped you some. Hang in there :-))

I don't think your unfair at all! It's his baby too. He should be lucky he didn't have to be preggo for 9 months and go through labor and delivery! But then again I sometimes think that's the reason men behave they way they do, unfortunately a mom has a stronger bond right from the start...

I don't think your unfair at all! It's his baby too. He should be lucky he didn't have to be preggo for 9 months and go through labor and delivery! But then again I sometimes think that's the reason men behave they way they do, unfortunately a mom has a stronger bond right from the start...

My hubby gets up at 5:30 every morning for work, so I don't ask his help at all during the night, especially since I'm ebf. BUT we have a deal on his days off. I understand he also needs to catch up on sleep, so I let him pick which day he wants to sleep in, I get the other. After the 6 am feeding, its daddy time, and when our 4 year old gets up, he takes both kids downstairs so its quiet for me. I pump a bottle or two for that morning, so if I'm able to sleep late, there's no excuse to wake me. Good luck, I hope you get some sleep soon!

My hubby gets up at 5:30 every morning for work, so I don't ask his help at all during the night, especially since I'm ebf. BUT we have a deal on his days off. I understand he also needs to catch up on sleep, so I let him pick which day he wants to sleep in, I get the other. After the 6 am feeding, its daddy time, and when our 4 year old gets up, he takes both kids downstairs so its quiet for me. I pump a bottle or two for that morning, so if I'm able to sleep late, there's no excuse to wake me. Good luck, I hope you get some sleep soon!

Ahhh... 9 to midnight... that would be amazing. Unfortunately dh doesn't EVER, even when he's throwing a fit, hear Lo cry. It takes me longer to wake him up, tell him what I want, and have him comprehend it than it does to get Lo up, change his diaper, and latch him on. That's why I usually just do it, it's easier, but makin me go nuts from being overwhelmed all the time. Dh is good at taking Riley in the evenings for an hour or so when he gets home so I can take a long shower, poop in peace, eat in peace, or just lay there. Those moments are nice. Ugh I don't know... maybe I'm just in a funk and lookin to b*tch about something. Lol

Ahhh... 9 to midnight... that would be amazing. Unfortunately dh doesn't EVER, even when he's throwing a fit, hear Lo cry. It takes me longer to wake him up, tell him what I want, and have him comprehend it than it does to get Lo up, change his diaper, and latch him on. That's why I usually just do it, it's easier, but makin me go nuts from being overwhelmed all the time. Dh is good at taking Riley in the evenings for an hour or so when he gets home so I can take a long shower, poop in peace, eat in peace, or just lay there. Those moments are nice. Ugh I don't know... maybe I'm just in a funk and lookin to b*tch about something. Lol

UGH you are soo right and it makes ME mad!!!!! Reminds me of my DH! It is their responsibility too! Yeah they have To go to work and stay up at a certain point but so do we!!! We have to get up all night and then at some point in the morning LO wants to stay up for all day (atleast its that way for me) with 10 minute naps. And I'm still tired from no sleep. Yet I have to stay up and clean, do laundry, take care of reckless dogs and make dinner and try to eat breakfast and lunch and make formula so I don't see why them going to work is an excuse!!! They should WANT to do these Things for their baby! (feed and change and entertain them and snuggle them without us asking them to) not watch us do it! Ugh thanks for letting me rant in your rant. I'm going through the same thing.

UGH you are soo right and it makes ME mad!!!!! Reminds me of my DH! It is their responsibility too! Yeah they have To go to work and stay up at a certain point but so do we!!! We have to get up all night and then at some point in the morning LO wants to stay up for all day (atleast its that way for me) with 10 minute naps. And I'm still tired from no sleep. Yet I have to stay up and clean, do laundry, take care of reckless dogs and make dinner and try to eat breakfast and lunch and make formula so I don't see why them going to work is an excuse!!! They should WANT to do these Things for their baby! (feed and change and entertain them and snuggle them without us asking them to) not watch us do it! Ugh thanks for letting me rant in your rant. I'm going through the same thing.

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