BANTAM -- Court documents revealed that a non-sexual relationship between a 41-year-old man and 16-year-old female began during "an outing" at Lake Compounce theme park but escalated following the pair's involvement at the New Hartford Ambulance Association's Christmas party -- when she was still 15.

Now, the 41-year-old Torrington man is facing charges of risk of injury to a minor after he told police the relationship was "beginning to get out of control."

Sonny James Pilbin, of 3251 Winsted Road, was arraigned Friday in Bantam Superior Court following a state police investigation into a complaint by the victim's mother. She told police that the entire incident was bothering her daughter for some time and that Pilbin told her daughter not to go to the police.

Police discovered that Pilbin, a married man and father of two, was having constant conversations via Facebook chat and text messaging with the then-15-year-old girl. The victim later told police that when she asked Pilbin about his family, he said "he and his wife had an 'open relationship' and it was OK."

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The victim also alleged that Pilbin "pursued her in a far more serious and aggressive manner in their relationship than she pursued him. He even stated that they could move out of state and live like boyfriend and girlfriend, and that he wanted their relationship to be more then it was."

Both the victim and Pilbin said the relationship never turned sexual, although they did share a "French kiss" outside the Torrington bowling alley, where he also grabbed her buttocks and brought her in, closer to him.

Pilbin, the victim told police, would often say "he loved me" and "he wanted to cuddle with me."

When police initially questioned Pilbin, they asked if he thought having a relationship with a 15-year-old was normal. According to police, Pilbin responded that she "was no longer a 15-year-old, but now 16 years old."

The second time police interviewed Pilbin, he responded that he "didn't know why [police] were making such a fuss over this."

Police inquired about the constant Facebook messaging and text conversations and Pilbin told them, "Yeah, sometimes I just couldn't get the [victim] to leave me alone," and "I think she was starting to like me more than a friend."

In the arrest warrant, police explained that Pilbin began to change his story after further questioning. Troopers said that Pilbin admitted that he was becoming "more than friends with the now-16-year-old victim." According to police, Pilbin also stated that things with her were "beginning to get out of control."

Police read over the Facebook messages, stating that "many of these conversations had sexual undertones throughout and [Pilbin] seemed to be obsessed with the 16-year-old. "If she didn't respond back to him immediately, usually within minutes," Troopers stated, "He clearly became upset and demanding. He would also say things to her like, 'You don't love me anymore' hoping to solicit a favorable response from the [girl]."

Pilbin is at liberty on a $10,000 cash-surety bond and is court-ordered to stay away from the victim, her family and requires supervision of any minor aged 16 or younger. He is scheduled to appear in Bantam Superior Court again on July 5.