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Hope you’re doing good! I am again here with some anger
this time. I have experienced one practice in India,
if you’re a girl, may be you are right but still you should
be sorry for that, in front of your : Father, Husband, Brother, Son..
In short, we should be sorry towards Male society for our
thoughts, opinions, freedom of speech etc….

One day I was sitting alone and thinking, Why my Mom is teaching all these things to me? “How all this started?”

Then I started backtracking for such thoughts, as
I am an Engineer and when engineers stuck in something
they do reverse-engineering, of the problem.

What I found will shock you all :

My mom was teaching me all that, because her mom told her that and from generations we are inheriting that females should wear properly, should behave properly,
should do house hold chores, should not open her mouth even when something wrong is happening.

In short, “Learn to Tolerate“!

Let me remind you about few instances about “Women Injustice” and “Male Dominant Society”, there are actually a lot, on which we can write a Book :

1. All our great Hindu Mythological books like Mahabharata and Bhagwad Geeta written by Ved Vyas (Male), Ramayan by Tulsi das (Male) and so on…..

Great guru’s like Vishwamitra , who taught Lord Ram and Lakshman. Dronacharya for Iklavya and so on…..

My point is, Do you remember any lady saint’s name or Lady Guru who was intelligent enough to write any such kind of Books or teach someone to make famous personalities like them?

Our Mythological books , written by “MALES”, explains : “what a women should do and what a men should do?” Males themselves decided what they are supposed to do and what a female should do. And we are happily following this from decades.

I don’t think that there were any mutual discussion happened between 2 genders to decide the responsibilities : who will do what?

2. Sati Pratha/Practice : is an obsolete Hindu funeral custom where a widow immolates herself on her husband’s pyre or commits suicide in another fashion shortly after her husband’s death.

You know who stopped this pratha : Queen Victoria (A Lady) in 1861.

No such pratha/practice for males??

3. Widow Remarriage : Widow should not think for remarriage, she should cut her hairs, should wear white saree, no ornaments, should eat food like animals, in short hell for her.

5. Till Date only 1 Female president (Pratibha Patil) that too after 60 years of Independence in 2007 and just 1 lady prime minister Indira Gandhi, till date.

Dear Girls/Ladies :

I am not against any gender, I know there are so many males who raised their voices against female Abuse, did so many things for female betterment. But now, we should understand, Where we should say No, Where we should raise our Voice, if something is happening wrong in our society. We have the right to decide for our own life.
No one else should drive our life.

After reading above examples What you think : ” Why Females are not having any strong presence in our History or even in our Present“?

Don’t have ladies that potential or Something is stopping them to Achieve ?

Don’t do things blindly, because our ancestors also did that. Now we should take the onus of creating Better Future by giving Better Environment, Better culture of Respect, Equality, Freedom of putting her thoughts, in our society, for Women.

I always follow one principle, And I would like to thank my parents for teaching me that :

Give Respect and Take Respect! Think Rationally and Behave Accordingly!

On this friendship day, I would like to dedicate this article to all my friends.

What is a Friend?

“Friend is someone who understands you, and able to bring a smile on your Face, no matter how bad the situation is.”

What is Friendship?

“A relation which demands nothing, but believe ingiving so much : Love, Care, Fun, Support and a lotwhich can’t be expressed in words.”

Who is your “True Friend”?

“When rest of the world walks out, the one who walks in and stands with you in every Good and Bad. Don’t loose that friend ever.”

Why everyone should have at least a Friend?

People today, in all this new world technology and thinking have lost sight of
what a true friendship is. No way do friends have to be exactly the same,
I mean come on friends do have similarities but they also have their differences.
The key to opening up the world of friendship is not just to focus on the similarities
but to accept each others faults because true friends do not judge each other.

“Friends love unconditionally”. They do have their little angry moments from time to time
but at the end of the day all is forgiven and forgotten.
Why let something that happened in the past ruin
what great friendship you could have together in the future?

You know you have a friend for life
Whenever something bad happened to you they’d be there for you,
no questions asked. When you can look at them when something is wrong and
they know it just by their eyes and all they have to do is offer a hug and you feel a thousand times better. 🙂

At last, Few lines dedicated to all my dear friends

“Thanks for always listening to me, supporting me, andencouraging me. You all are Awesome and Unforgettable.”

When I was a kid and started speaking, I used to say Mum-ma, Pa-pa, Ba-ba and so on
I have learned, to whom I should say Mumma, Papa and so on.
But now I understand the meaning of Father.

Father is :

1. A “Teacher” : Who teaches me and helped me in started walking on my 2 legs,
He teaches me how to ride a Bicycle by holding my bicycle from back and running behind me,
He teaches me how to make sacrifice, compromise, adjustment in life to make our Family Happy.

2. A “Doctor” : After telling or discussing my problems, worries, pains with him, all my
Problems, Pain, Worries vanishes, as they were never there.

3. A “Painter” : Who painted “Canvas of my Life” with lots of colors of Happiness.

8. An “ATM” : In this ATM, we didn’t deposit anything but still we can get lots of love,
Happiness and Care, anytime we wish to.

9. A “Magician” : who can make anything possible.

10. Most Importantly, A “Bestest Friend” in My life.

Message for all Kids :

“We enjoyed our life a lot because of our “Father”, But being a Father is a very big Challenge, for any Men.He took that challenge and make himself so strong : “Emotionally”, “Physically”, “Financially”,so that he can play all roles (whatever I have discussed above), to give us a Better and Happy Life.”

2. If a girl wear Trouser, Jeans, Tops, Shirts and is having a TomBoy look.
They feel “Proud” that my “Daughter” dressed like a “Boy”.

But why feel “Ashamed”, if their Son wear Salwar Suits, Sarees etc….?

3. They feel “Proud”, if their “Girl”- Drive a Car/ Bike/ Airplane etc…

But why feel “Ashamed”, if his “Son” – cook for his family (Parents/Wife/Kids etc..) or do Household Chores?

4. They feel “Proud” if their “Girl”, play sports like Boxing, Football etc..(Basically strength based sports)
But why feel “Ashamed” if his Son learn Classical dance like Kathak/Bharatnatayam etc..?

5. They feel proud after Daughter’s Marriage that she is Independent, Working, Handling her family
But feel “Awkward/Hesitated”,if she give them something, or taking care of them(even after her marriage).

But why they expect from their “Son”, that he should take care of them even after his marriage also?

Conclusion :

In our Society we just “Teach”, “Preach”, Equality among Genders.
We never practice it.

God has created two different Species “Males” and “Females”
Every Specie has its own Beauty, Weaknesses and Strengths.
We cannot expect same out of each.

So why promote equality when God himself, didn’t create them Equal.
Both “Male” and “Female” have different “Physiology”, “Psychology” , “Strengths” and “Weaknesses”

So why our society wants a Girl to behave as a “Girl” as well as a “Boy”, and not Vice-Versa ?

My dear friends, “Change” is the only Constant, which will
definitely happen. Don’t overlook the fact that,
You also “Changed”, “Changing” and will definitely “Change” (both Physically and Emotionally).

So why to expect from your Husband that he will remain the same all through your life?

In fact, if he is not changing then something wrong is happening.
Don’t try to be a girl friend after Marriage,you do so
because you want to see a Boyfriend in your Husband.
But Unfortunately,you will not get your Boyfriend back, Now he changed to “Husband”.

Relations and Humans are not like Water which will change into
Liquid, solid, vapors and retain its all original form again if we give them
respective environments.

1. Every year our age count change, can we stop that?
2. Everyone enjoyed their school life, can we continue going to school all though our life?
3. After School, now its college, “Best Phase of Life” , can we continue going to college, all though our life?
4. After college, Some are working, Will our First Job, First Assignment,
First Manager, First Team Lead, will remain the same all through our life?
5. Most Important for Married Women, the most important part our life,
“Our Maid”, will it remain the same all through our life?

Conclusion : Humans are meant to change and so relations,“Important thing is change should be positive”,
I know not all changes we can accept, but that change
which are bothering u will itself change after sometime.

So have Patience and give time to yourself (For accepting Changes),
Don’t get hyper, Don’t get worried if something is changing.

No one can stop it, what we can do is, we can also change as per the “Change”.