Here's a first: A MOM wrote to our blog!

OK, so this blog comment really stuck out. The writer wasn't asking about periods, bras, or boys. She was a MOM writing to say that she's worried her daughter doesn't ask her for advice anymore.

Here's her comment:

Dear Jemma, I am a mother and believe that you are doing a brilliant job. However, perhaps you should tell the girls, frequently, that a mother is the best source of advice. It saddens me to see so many young women who don't feel able to talk to their parents...so many are turning to the Internet more. My daughter used to talk to me everyday, but started using this website. Consequently, she no longer tells me anything. She does not ask me for advice, she does not want me to know her personal things. I don't even know whether she has had her period or not! Please reinforce the saying "mother knows best", as it is true. Girls, your mother had to go through this too- but it was a lot easier. Why? Because we talked to OUR mums. Turn to your mum first, Internet second. Keep up the good advice. Regards, Elizabeth

The good news is that we often recommend that girls talk to their moms. In fact, the post that Elizabeth commented on was a post that included that advice.

PLS is ALWAYS my first choice. If I ever try to go to my mom for advice, she gets all freakish and wants to know every little detail and gets in my buisness and my space. She hardly understands me most times! Don't get me wrong, I love her, but she's not the one I turn to with my problems. I understand the whole "Mother knows best" thing, but it doesn't imply to everyone! For example girls with less strong bonds with their parents. Me, I have a pretty good bond, but I just can't tell her these things.

I respect wat ur saying but i only go on this blog cause there is no moms asking questions .Dont get me wrong i love mom but now that they are posting it is akwark.so I think that there shoul be a blog for moms ONLY if u think it is a good idea leave a :) below

I think having a moms only blog is a pretty good idea because it help moms get ideas on how to bond with there girls. But also I think that if they look at this blog it will give them an idea of how we feel. Personally I go to PLS first because I just feel more comfortable. Sometimes I just never know how to bring up the boy topic with my ma.

I guess it depends, usually i ask my mum first, except when it comes to guys, in which case i usually keep it to myself anyway, and sometimes not even My mum has the answer, plus she is à much kinder person than me so she doesnt always understand My point of view.

im the same with maybeyoudontunderstand. the pls is first. my mom whenever i tell her something, instead of her understanding and getting what im trying to say, she finds a way to make it my fault or will later use it to embarras me. ex: she told my crush's mom some embarrasing things like that i dont like to talk about the p and first b. im glad my crush wasnt there at the time but he was close. i dont talk to my mom cause she then will talk and talk about it when she knows i dont like to tal about it, and she'll tell everyone! when she does that i sarcastically say, "u tell everyone, just put it on facebook." and she still doesnt get the hint that when i tell her things that i dont want her to repeat it to everyone! i turn to my friends or anonymous ppl on the iternet. at least know one on the internet know who i am. thats why i turn here cause then my friends dont know all this embarrassing things. this is more like a interactive diary for me. things that u wont tell ur friends but u can still have other ppl know what ur going through and understand and help u in situations that can be embarrasing to ur friends and family. ex: crushes. i would like to say THANK YOU to everyone here for helping me through my teenage years!!! i love the PLS!!

usually when i have a problem i just want to be alone, but then my mom purpously talks about awkward stuff like when my dad had to go bra shopping with her. eventually i can`t take it and fess up.i get what dancegirl22 is saying about other people talking about you because of your moms. this is especially annoying with boys, for example:my bro:mom, is cassie getting her period soonmom:(puts hand on arm) i don`t know,(name) or:bro 1:cassies bras are so hard 2 foldbro 2:cassie has bras(surprised)i didn`t know that or:my crush:cassie youre developping arm hair boys just don`t understand

@dancegirl22Exactly! I love my mom and would tell her anything, but she always turns it around on me, or tells everyone! (For example: I tell my mom about a mean girl at school, she somehow twists it around and says that it's my fault she's being so mean; or I tell her a guy asks me out, then she post on facebook *and this was an actual post* "Baby girl got asked out! Can't wait to drive her and her new BF to the movies this weekend") So PLS is now one of my firsts options because when you get advice from other girls, it's the kind you wanna get, the one that gives you ideas on how to handle things. And the thing is, most girls still go to there moms first! PLS is just a way to get other ideas. Please Jemma, keep that in mind. I feel like people think this is the only place for us, but we also go to our friends, our family, etc. Please, keep this in mind.Peace, Love, and Sparkles!Kelsey ;)

My parents always baby my little sister who is only 3 years younger than me. When I do something like yell at my mom I get in BIG trouble, but when my sis does that (which she does all the time) she doesnt even get yelled at. It's so not fair. I've already tried talking to her about it but I doesn't ever work. Any advice??

I don't know about everyone else, but like Anonymous (Cassie) I have brothers who fold the clothes occasionally. I am also the only girl in my family, and my family is really close-knit. We always tell each other everything. That's why I don't want to tell my mom anything about what I'm experiencing! I always turn to my best friends who are older and have experienced girl stuff. Otherwise, I like to go on PLS as a comfort to know that girls are going through the same stuff as me. Anyways, I don't feel comfortable telling my mom I need a bra because my brothers mess up the laundry. Ex: My mom's underpants are in my clothes pile, and my camisole (That's my alternative to an actual bra so far.) is in my mom's pile. I just do not think it is THAT easy to talk to your mom about girl stuff, especially if you're the only girl in your family.

Honestly this is pretty much the only place for me. My friends don't talk about this and my mom is so mean that I just don't tell her. It's hard for me cause she never pays attention to me, and when she does it's to yell at me or something. She babies my little sister and brother, and ignores me, so she doesn't even really know WHO I AM. And when she's angry she takes it out on me or my dad. At home I'm just an emotionless lump, and at school, or a friends house I'm all happy and funny. And talking to my dad about this stuff is just awkward and weird. So this is one of the only places i have to turn. So Jemma please understand that some of us don't really have anywhere to go except here

Dear Elizabeth,I really do agree with that you have to tell your mom or a relative first I tell my mom everthing! She is like my best friend she gives me a lot of advice! Because shes been through the same things!

dear elizabeth, its hard to say it, but ur rite. alot of us do come to the internet for help more often than we do ppl. I found this site by thier books. i thought it was the greatest help tool i could find. but now that you, a mom, put her foot down and said that, it opend up a new window in my head, (i geuss u can call it that). it's hard to talk about that stuff though. I as a girl, im honestly not liking this chapter of life right now. But all of us go through it, like i said, I hate to admit it, but ur rite, we do go to the internet for help more than we do our parents. makes me feel stupid.

i dont like talking to my mum about stuff like pubic hir and bras and periods annd tampons nd pads annd all of that stuff it kinda just freaks me out and makes me get all uptight and awkward and when i get freaked out and awkward and then i get itchy and i cant talk to my mum for like 4 hours it soooo horrible but mom bog amaz idea hope everyone gets there problems figured out luv hillary ]i live in Canada :)

hey i dont know about u girls, but im way to embarressed to tell my mum anything other than how my day at school was. the internet or friends are always my first choice. i know that sounds super bad, but its truth.ps if you have tips on approaching private matters with parents, please send them!!!

hey, i got a question 4 all u gurls. what do u do if you need to shave or buy a bra, but u totally cant talk to ur mom about that stuff? PLS is where i ask things or get advice, but it cant take me shopping.

HopeYouCanHelp I just do it in the most subtle way possible. While me and my mom shop I just say Oh i need this, and we get it. Easy. So Yah. And my mom will bring it up most of the time anyways, like when we go clothes shopping for school she will say something like How are you doing with bras? and i just say good or not good.

i have i problem like every1 elses. when i tell my mom about "girl stuff" she runs out and tells my grandmother and my grandmother tells her group of friends. one of my grandmothers friends has a 15 year old daughter and my grandmother told her about my 1st bra. when ever i say mom i did not like it when u do that she says to my grandmother "she is getting secretive about her body". any tips 2 make her stop???

I tell my mum everything, and she totally understands. If I'm upset, she will sit and talk through it with me, and explains why all the body things happen. She tells me why we have to wear bras, and that life has its bumps, but everything will turn out OK. So listen to your mums when they say, 'talk to me' ;)

Here's my advice to girls worrying about brothers or dads seeing their bras in the laundry. I wash my own bras with a certain soap that my mom uses for stockings and pantyhose. That way, no one sees them. Then I just hang them to dry in my shower so no one sees them. My sports bras go in the laundry though because my dad already knows about them. Once on a trip he said, "that is cool!"Awesome huh?

I suggest you go to sites like PLS if you are just too embarrassed to tell your mom. When I go nutty for something, I go to PLS when I am so embarrassed to tell my mom. But always remember: MOTHERS KNOW BEST because they have gone through all sorts of stuff like bra shopping and stuff like that. Mothers know best!

I cant talk to my mom she just says i'm to young and changes the subject .she"ll talk about my mood swings sometimes ( underline!).and when I(!) talk to my mom about MY problems she"ll try to make it my fault! This is my first choice.then my sister and cousins. I like the idea if a mom blog maybe they"ll be able to work there problems like us but on a different subject. Ex. Mom1:i just had to yell at my daughter for everthing.Mom2:thats wrong,your mom never did that to you.mom1:your rightmom3:yeah! All moms think " this is wrong my mom NEVER did to me" And every female lives happily ever after.Teehee P.S. my mom maybe not the best at times but i can still trust her just not with personal things.

y mom is really emotional cuz of her divorce. Though id be embaressed to be by my dad every day because hes a pediatrician. So when ever I snapp because I get moody for liie, a min she gets all frazzeled, holds back tears, and wont talk to me for like, a day, and then she acts like nothing happened 10 mins later. And I know she knows its about time I learn but she never talks about stuff and Im to shy to talk to her or my older sister, my only sibling. She told me about periods for like 5 mins when I was 7 . So Ive been like paranoid of getting my period. Im 11 nothing. No talk. By my age she already talked to my sister. They used to sneak downstairs and talk and leave me with my dad upstairs even though i think my parents already slept in separate rooms( it all came as such a shock i dont remember very well) when i was 9 my dad moved out they started droping me with him so they could go off off and have mother daughter time. Im still sort of hurt by it and they wont ever understand me. Plus i was invired to a gifted school and academic tests that my mom ignored so my friend got to go to them and an honors ceremony and i didnt even know i could of gone to the past 4 years she never told me. So its just an emotional barrier ill just keep inside. Any advice. Pls is my total resourse im too embarressed.

Moms are the best because (in my family) she's done a whole lota things and she's patient and understands. Not so much about my school problems, so I talk to my older brother. Oh, I wish I had a older sister. But, my mom said we may be adopting I hope I love the person and she loves me!!! I'll think PINK

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