Support Thread: Pregnant After A Loss

I wanted to start a thread for December Mamas who are pregnant after a pregnancy loss.

I am very nervous to be pregnant again, but I am trying to remind myself that this is a new, different pregnancy.

I thought we could support each other and talk over our fears.

I loss my 4 month pregnancy in January. But with the help of Clomid and HCG trigger we are pregnant again the first try! We had two mature follies, so we find out if it is a singleton or twins in two weeks.

I wanted to start a thread for December Mamas who are pregnant after a pregnancy loss.

I am very nervous to be pregnant again, but I am trying to remind myself that this is a new, different pregnancy.

I thought we could support each other and talk over our fears.

I loss my 4 month pregnancy in January. But with the help of Clomid and HCG trigger we are pregnant again the first try! We had two mature follies, so we find out if it is a singleton or twins in two weeks.

Congrats on your pregnancy! I lost my first pregnancy on May 3 of last year, I wouldn've been 13 weeks (but we had found out the baby died at 10 weeks- it took 3 agonizing weeks for my body to start the miscarriage!) I am now 7 weeks, and praying that this one goes well. I had my first u/s yesterday and everything looks great, but I am spotting a bit. It is just after I have a BM, and I think it is because I've had intercourse twice this week and then a transvaginal u/c yesterday. My cervix gets irritated easily when I'm not pregnant (I usually spot a little after intercourse), so it is worse now with the increased bloow flow. But I don't even need a pantyliner, it is that light, and light brown. I hope this isn't the beginning of the end of this one.

With my first pregnancy, the first ulstrasound showed that the baby was measuring a week behind and the heartbeat was very low (like in the 90's or something). This time around, Baby is only 3 days behind (which the midwife said is perfectly normal), and HR was 170!. So I just hope things continue to go this well.

The ultrasound yesterday was nervewracking. I was dreading it all morning, I was so scared that I cried before my appointment. Then the u/s tech told me I'm a week behind with the baby and I just burst into tears. So she took higher mangification mearurement and said its only 3 days and told me the HR, so that relieved me. The midwife then reassured me that my chances of m/c this time are very low (I hope she's right!). She also said that the u/s tech I had yesterday is awful and to go on Tuesdays for u/s from now on, because the tuesday tech much better.

Congrats on your pregnancy! I lost my first pregnancy on May 3 of last year, I wouldn've been 13 weeks (but we had found out the baby died at 10 weeks- it took 3 agonizing weeks for my body to start the miscarriage!) I am now 7 weeks, and praying that this one goes well. I had my first u/s yesterday and everything looks great, but I am spotting a bit. It is just after I have a BM, and I think it is because I've had intercourse twice this week and then a transvaginal u/c yesterday. My cervix gets irritated easily when I'm not pregnant (I usually spot a little after intercourse), so it is worse now with the increased bloow flow. But I don't even need a pantyliner, it is that light, and light brown. I hope this isn't the beginning of the end of this one.

With my first pregnancy, the first ulstrasound showed that the baby was measuring a week behind and the heartbeat was very low (like in the 90's or something). This time around, Baby is only 3 days behind (which the midwife said is perfectly normal), and HR was 170!. So I just hope things continue to go this well.

The ultrasound yesterday was nervewracking. I was dreading it all morning, I was so scared that I cried before my appointment. Then the u/s tech told me I'm a week behind with the baby and I just burst into tears. So she took higher mangification mearurement and said its only 3 days and told me the HR, so that relieved me. The midwife then reassured me that my chances of m/c this time are very low (I hope she's right!). She also said that the u/s tech I had yesterday is awful and to go on Tuesdays for u/s from now on, because the tuesday tech much better.

Thank you for starting this thread. I am so sorry to hear about your loss and totally understand how you are feeling right now. I lost my forst pregnancy in November at 19.5 weeks to Anencephaly and tomorrow I will be six weeks pregnant. I am terrified! I am so scared that I am either going to have a miscarriage or loose this baby to Anencephaly. My doctor is sending me for an ultrasound at 10 weeks to make sure that every is going good this time. All the best to you ladies :)

Thank you for starting this thread. I am so sorry to hear about your loss and totally understand how you are feeling right now. I lost my forst pregnancy in November at 19.5 weeks to Anencephaly and tomorrow I will be six weeks pregnant. I am terrified! I am so scared that I am either going to have a miscarriage or loose this baby to Anencephaly. My doctor is sending me for an ultrasound at 10 weeks to make sure that every is going good this time. All the best to you ladies :)

I can relate. Last July i had a D&C. I was pregnant with either triplets or twins and a partial molar pregnancy. My body never got the message that there was a problem . After many Dr visits I had the D&C at 12 weeks. It took until October for my hcg to go back to normal. This is my fifth pregnancy and I have 3 children. I was never nervous before. Now I:m a wreck. Sadly I know even when we see the heartbeat it doesn't mean that all is well. I don't know at what point I will be able to breath a sigh of relief. I"m here is anybody needs to vent.

I can relate. Last July i had a D&C. I was pregnant with either triplets or twins and a partial molar pregnancy. My body never got the message that there was a problem . After many Dr visits I had the D&C at 12 weeks. It took until October for my hcg to go back to normal. This is my fifth pregnancy and I have 3 children. I was never nervous before. Now I:m a wreck. Sadly I know even when we see the heartbeat it doesn't mean that all is well. I don't know at what point I will be able to breath a sigh of relief. I"m here is anybody needs to vent.

i just got my BFP today.i miscarried christmas day last yr.i am nervous but i just feel in my heart it will be ok this time.this is my 7th pregnancy but will be my 5th child.good luck ladies for a happy healthy 9 months.

i just got my BFP today.i miscarried christmas day last yr.i am nervous but i just feel in my heart it will be ok this time.this is my 7th pregnancy but will be my 5th child.good luck ladies for a happy healthy 9 months.

Nice to have this thread. I am a nervous wreck right now. I MC on Feb 7th at 7 weeks after spotting and passing tissue for two weeks. This time i started spotting last Friday, I am now 5w 1d. Got some test results back though and at least my HCG is doubling as it is supposed to. :)

Good luck ladies!

Nice to have this thread. I am a nervous wreck right now. I MC on Feb 7th at 7 weeks after spotting and passing tissue for two weeks. This time i started spotting last Friday, I am now 5w 1d. Got some test results back though and at least my HCG is doubling as it is supposed to. :)

After my first, I lost what I was told were probably twins May 10, 2006. I had to have a D&C that day because even after a month of carrying your dead baby around, hoping they're wrong, and hoping your body will do what it needs to do, mine did nothing. So I still sometimes wonder if I did the right thing or if I should have waited longer! Either way, I've had 2 since and am pregnant again. The trepidation never fully disappears, my friends! However, each child is definitely ever more precious to you knowing how easily they are lost! BABY DUST to each of you!!!

After my first, I lost what I was told were probably twins May 10, 2006. I had to have a D&C that day because even after a month of carrying your dead baby around, hoping they're wrong, and hoping your body will do what it needs to do, mine did nothing. So I still sometimes wonder if I did the right thing or if I should have waited longer! Either way, I've had 2 since and am pregnant again. The trepidation never fully disappears, my friends! However, each child is definitely ever more precious to you knowing how easily they are lost! BABY DUST to each of you!!!

I am hoping to get pregnant again after 2 miscarriages, one in October 2010 and the last one January, D & C. I am also very nervous about this pregnancy but also saying the same things, its new and different. I will find out next weekend. Me and my husband have been wanting a baby so bad, I have a daughter from a previous marriage. I just didn't know what my options were as if there is anything we can do..i mean i know you cant prevent but is there anything???

I lost both babies at about 10-11 wks along in the pregnancy.

I am hoping to get pregnant again after 2 miscarriages, one in October 2010 and the last one January, D & C. I am also very nervous about this pregnancy but also saying the same things, its new and different. I will find out next weekend. Me and my husband have been wanting a baby so bad, I have a daughter from a previous marriage. I just didn't know what my options were as if there is anything we can do..i mean i know you cant prevent but is there anything???

Have you talked abt possibility of incompetent cervix? There's really nothing you can do to MAKE SURE you'll have a healthy baby. Some women do all kinds of terrible things while pregnant & have perfect babies. Some like us do nothing at all "against the rules" and lose a baby (or more). I sincerely hope you have a sticky one this time though!!!!!

Have you talked abt possibility of incompetent cervix? There's really nothing you can do to MAKE SURE you'll have a healthy baby. Some women do all kinds of terrible things while pregnant & have perfect babies. Some like us do nothing at all "against the rules" and lose a baby (or more). I sincerely hope you have a sticky one this time though!!!!!

First off, I am so sad and sorry for everyones losses. Losing a pregnancy, no mater if it is a day after getting a BFP or months later----the pain and sorrow is terrible.

That being said, I am also so happy to see all you mamas-to-be here----pregnant with a new life inside of us!

My story: DH and I tried to get pregnant with no success for about a year. We then were transfered to an RE who said I have PCOS. I was put on Clomid, midcycle Ultrasound and an HCG trigger shot. I got pregnant the first month. Everything was wonderful. We found out we were expecting the first day of a week long cruise----it was perfect. All the early ultrasounds were great. The baby was a several days, but everyone said not to worry. We announced our pregnancy at 12 weeks. I had a Level II ultrasound to get an NT scan around 13 weeks. They immediately saw some "issues" in the baby. I had a single line cord, cysts in the cord, and unknown intestinal blockade. They thought it was T18---a very scary problem. We had a CVS at 15 weeks, the full results came back a week later, all the chromosomes in the baby were normal. The next day we went in for an ultrasound, excited--- thinking the worst was behind us, only to find out the baby had no heartbeat. It was the worst moment of my life.

While at the time it was wonderful news that the chromosomes were normal, now it is even more scary, as nobody knows what actually caused the problems. Meaning we dont know if it will happen again. DH and I are terrified.

First off, I am so sad and sorry for everyones losses. Losing a pregnancy, no mater if it is a day after getting a BFP or months later----the pain and sorrow is terrible.

That being said, I am also so happy to see all you mamas-to-be here----pregnant with a new life inside of us!

My story: DH and I tried to get pregnant with no success for about a year. We then were transfered to an RE who said I have PCOS. I was put on Clomid, midcycle Ultrasound and an HCG trigger shot. I got pregnant the first month. Everything was wonderful. We found out we were expecting the first day of a week long cruise----it was perfect. All the early ultrasounds were great. The baby was a several days, but everyone said not to worry. We announced our pregnancy at 12 weeks. I had a Level II ultrasound to get an NT scan around 13 weeks. They immediately saw some "issues" in the baby. I had a single line cord, cysts in the cord, and unknown intestinal blockade. They thought it was T18---a very scary problem. We had a CVS at 15 weeks, the full results came back a week later, all the chromosomes in the baby were normal. The next day we went in for an ultrasound, excited--- thinking the worst was behind us, only to find out the baby had no heartbeat. It was the worst moment of my life.

While at the time it was wonderful news that the chromosomes were normal, now it is even more scary, as nobody knows what actually caused the problems. Meaning we dont know if it will happen again. DH and I are terrified.

When do you plan on telling people?-We plan on not telling anyone (no parents, friends, no one) until about 16 weeks, or at least until we get our level II ultrasound and we dont see the same problem as before.How are you going to tell people?-Last time we had a big holiday party and we told all our friends at the party. It was so special, but we feel like we cant have the same special-ness this time. "Hi Friends, we are pregnant AGAIN" I hate the word again, I am still waiting for my first child, there is nothing "again" about it.Are you going to do anything different this time?-Since we dont know what went wrong, there is nothing we can really change. I am physically taking it easier....just in case.......Whats your biggest fear about being pregnant?-For me it is DEFIANTLY that I will get my hopes up and I will fall in love with my baby only to be hurt again. My other fear is I am scared the whole time and I miss out on enjoying my pregnancy. Sounds like a lose, lose.

I have my first ultrasound planned for 6w1d and I am so nervous. But then again, as soon as I hear the heartbeat, I am going to be even more terrified for the 13 week level II ultrasound.....

Some questions for you ladies:

When do you plan on telling people?-We plan on not telling anyone (no parents, friends, no one) until about 16 weeks, or at least until we get our level II ultrasound and we dont see the same problem as before.How are you going to tell people?-Last time we had a big holiday party and we told all our friends at the party. It was so special, but we feel like we cant have the same special-ness this time. "Hi Friends, we are pregnant AGAIN" I hate the word again, I am still waiting for my first child, there is nothing "again" about it.Are you going to do anything different this time?-Since we dont know what went wrong, there is nothing we can really change. I am physically taking it easier....just in case.......Whats your biggest fear about being pregnant?-For me it is DEFIANTLY that I will get my hopes up and I will fall in love with my baby only to be hurt again. My other fear is I am scared the whole time and I miss out on enjoying my pregnancy. Sounds like a lose, lose.

I have my first ultrasound planned for 6w1d and I am so nervous. But then again, as soon as I hear the heartbeat, I am going to be even more terrified for the 13 week level II ultrasound.....

Thanks for starting this thread! I found out in Jan I was going to miscarry. Baby should have been 10 week but measured at 6 and no heartbeat. We waited an agonizing week to have another u/s to make sure and then scheduled a D & C since my body was not responding to the loss. I am now 7 weeks along and so nervous and anxious each day that it will happen again. I never thought last time a miscarriage was a possibility but now can't stop focusing on it!

Thanks for starting this thread! I found out in Jan I was going to miscarry. Baby should have been 10 week but measured at 6 and no heartbeat. We waited an agonizing week to have another u/s to make sure and then scheduled a D & C since my body was not responding to the loss. I am now 7 weeks along and so nervous and anxious each day that it will happen again. I never thought last time a miscarriage was a possibility but now can't stop focusing on it!

I found out last Halloween that I was pregnant for the first time. Our due day was 9 months to the day from the date that my husband completed his Army contract. I thought it was the cutest thing in the world. It was unplanned and unexpected but things happen, and we were thrilled, as was the family. Although it meant postponing our wedding. We were married last June, but planning the formal wedding for this June.

I bought the WTE book and got on these forums, and I was bubbling. I saw threads such as this one, and my heart ached for those women. I couldn't fathom that kind of loss, but I was pretty sure that I would be ok. We have a pretty good family history of healthy births. No such luck.

December 12, at around 10 weeks, we lost the baby. My heart broke into millions of pieces, and my poor husband didn't know what to do. He couldn't stand seeing me like that, and did anything he could to try to make me comfortable.

We did decide recently that maybe I should go back on birth control. It was much easier when he was in the Army and they gave it to me for free! I had quit taking them though, because combined with Prozac (which I hate to give up!!!) it slaughtered my sex drive. So I agreed last month that I would start it again, but I wanted to wait until after my next period. Well here I am, a week after it should have ended. Needless to say I won't be bothering with the birth control OR the beloved prozac (sadface). Although being pregnant does make me feel quite a bit happier than the prozac does, I really take it for anxiety and being pregnant makes that worse!

I am extremely worried, and we just lost our military insurance a week and a half ago. My doctor won't make an appointment for me until my Hoosier Healthwise (medicaid) has been approved and what have you, and so I am sitting here trying not to stress, wondering if there is a heartbeat in there, and if it's good enough.

A friend told me that her doctor gave her his unofficial opinion about some women who miscarry their first. Almost like practice, the body needs a little jump start in order to make the perfect baby. She lost her first as well, and now she is carrying a big healthy boy due in June.

Best wishes and sticky dust to all of us, together we will make it through this trimester and come out stronger for the next!

I found out last Halloween that I was pregnant for the first time. Our due day was 9 months to the day from the date that my husband completed his Army contract. I thought it was the cutest thing in the world. It was unplanned and unexpected but things happen, and we were thrilled, as was the family. Although it meant postponing our wedding. We were married last June, but planning the formal wedding for this June.

I bought the WTE book and got on these forums, and I was bubbling. I saw threads such as this one, and my heart ached for those women. I couldn't fathom that kind of loss, but I was pretty sure that I would be ok. We have a pretty good family history of healthy births. No such luck.

December 12, at around 10 weeks, we lost the baby. My heart broke into millions of pieces, and my poor husband didn't know what to do. He couldn't stand seeing me like that, and did anything he could to try to make me comfortable.

We did decide recently that maybe I should go back on birth control. It was much easier when he was in the Army and they gave it to me for free! I had quit taking them though, because combined with Prozac (which I hate to give up!!!) it slaughtered my sex drive. So I agreed last month that I would start it again, but I wanted to wait until after my next period. Well here I am, a week after it should have ended. Needless to say I won't be bothering with the birth control OR the beloved prozac (sadface). Although being pregnant does make me feel quite a bit happier than the prozac does, I really take it for anxiety and being pregnant makes that worse!

I am extremely worried, and we just lost our military insurance a week and a half ago. My doctor won't make an appointment for me until my Hoosier Healthwise (medicaid) has been approved and what have you, and so I am sitting here trying not to stress, wondering if there is a heartbeat in there, and if it's good enough.

A friend told me that her doctor gave her his unofficial opinion about some women who miscarry their first. Almost like practice, the body needs a little jump start in order to make the perfect baby. She lost her first as well, and now she is carrying a big healthy boy due in June.

Best wishes and sticky dust to all of us, together we will make it through this trimester and come out stronger for the next!

~When do you plan on telling people?We've told only those we know are supportive & will pray the whole time for a healthy baby. NO ONE who will blab or be unsupportive is going to know until I can't hide it anymore (which may be a while since they live 2 hours away) or my kids blab it! LOL~How are you going to tell people?Just telling them straight out. No big to-do, just like all the other times!~Are you going to do anything different this time?Well, since I have 3 older children, the oldest being 5 1/2, I will be busier. There is also a possibility of us going on the road to minister during this time. Pretty exciting!

~When do you plan on telling people?We've told only those we know are supportive & will pray the whole time for a healthy baby. NO ONE who will blab or be unsupportive is going to know until I can't hide it anymore (which may be a while since they live 2 hours away) or my kids blab it! LOL~How are you going to tell people?Just telling them straight out. No big to-do, just like all the other times!~Are you going to do anything different this time?Well, since I have 3 older children, the oldest being 5 1/2, I will be busier. There is also a possibility of us going on the road to minister during this time. Pretty exciting!

Thanks for starting this thread MrsKnit. My story seems similar to yours. We had been trying for awhile when I discovered that I have PCOS,and I have been on Metformin for over a year. We got pregnant last June and then the baby died at 15 weeks. We don't know what happened, everything had been normal up until that point. As you all know, it is a devastating experience, but I do have a 8 year-old son, and ultimately it made us more grateful for all that we have.

I just found out on Tuesday that we are pregnant again after trying for the last 5 months. I'm feeling very excited, but of course very scared about the fragility of life and the going through that pain again. I have a cousin who went through this as well over a year ago, however her son was born a month early and then died within 2 days. She just gave birth to her 4th baby last week. He is healthy and they are doing well. In talking to her at the beginning of her pregnancy, I asked if she was going to wait to tell people, and her response has resonated with me. She said that after what she went through the first time, she wanted her friends and family to be there with her. If something goes wrong, I will not be able to hide it, so I have to agree with her point of view. I need the support of my friends and family, so I will probably be telling them earlier this time around.

Thanks for starting this thread MrsKnit. My story seems similar to yours. We had been trying for awhile when I discovered that I have PCOS,and I have been on Metformin for over a year. We got pregnant last June and then the baby died at 15 weeks. We don't know what happened, everything had been normal up until that point. As you all know, it is a devastating experience, but I do have a 8 year-old son, and ultimately it made us more grateful for all that we have.

I just found out on Tuesday that we are pregnant again after trying for the last 5 months. I'm feeling very excited, but of course very scared about the fragility of life and the going through that pain again. I have a cousin who went through this as well over a year ago, however her son was born a month early and then died within 2 days. She just gave birth to her 4th baby last week. He is healthy and they are doing well. In talking to her at the beginning of her pregnancy, I asked if she was going to wait to tell people, and her response has resonated with me. She said that after what she went through the first time, she wanted her friends and family to be there with her. If something goes wrong, I will not be able to hide it, so I have to agree with her point of view. I need the support of my friends and family, so I will probably be telling them earlier this time around.

The only thing i am going to try to do different this time is to make sure I get enough protein. I have been a vegetarian since I was 16 (15 years). If it was infact a partial molar pregnancy I found out later it is common in vegetarian mothers. I feel sick that in an effort to save animals I might have killed my babies.I tried to eat chicken a couple months ago and just couldn't do it. So I am eating all the tofu that I can stomach. Hopefully this will help. So happy we have this place to vent !

The only thing i am going to try to do different this time is to make sure I get enough protein. I have been a vegetarian since I was 16 (15 years). If it was infact a partial molar pregnancy I found out later it is common in vegetarian mothers. I feel sick that in an effort to save animals I might have killed my babies.I tried to eat chicken a couple months ago and just couldn't do it. So I am eating all the tofu that I can stomach. Hopefully this will help. So happy we have this place to vent !

JenWoo- I feel like we have a lot in common. I think its really hard to lose a pregnancy in the second trimester and to not be able to get answer. I mean not having an answer at anytime would be harder, but I think its harder when you are supposed to be in "fun" trimester.

JenWoo- I feel like we have a lot in common. I think its really hard to lose a pregnancy in the second trimester and to not be able to get answer. I mean not having an answer at anytime would be harder, but I think its harder when you are supposed to be in "fun" trimester.

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