Hello, thanks in advance for trying to help me with my problem. Here it goes...I have fallen for a friends girlfriend, and I know the usual answer is dont get involved while they are together, but this situation is a little different. Or is it? Lately she has been saying to quite a few people of how she is tired of being with him, but she doesn't want to break up with him to hurt his feelings. I have had a thing for her for awhile but haven't really even thought about it because of them being together, but now that their relationship is on the outs, my feelings for her have been growing stronger. When we are around each other, it seems to me that she has been much more "friendly" around me. For example for the past 2 nights a group of friends have hung out, the first night her current b/f and some friends went to hang out outside and I said that I was gonna go to get some coffee and she said, "im gonna go with him to get some coffee". Like she made it a point to leave and be with me.Both nights she has made it a point to sit next to me, slightly lean over me reading what I was reading on a computer, resting her leg on mine, the small stuff.I got up at one point and went to sit in the kitchen to talk to some other friends and she came in there and leaned up against the bar right next to me, and stayed there nearly the entire night. Oh and mind you her current boyfriend was around the entire time when all this stuff was happening, and when he would try to get around her, she would walk away or kinda ignore him.There is more but it is too much to type right now. I just want to get an idea from the ladies on the forums on the signs that she is putting out. Is she interested in me? Or is it nothing? Please help me and I would be willing to discuss more of the "small things" that she does around me if needed.... Thanks

You definately need to talk to him first. If he's a good friend to you, then do you really want to lose him for this girl? If you talk to him and he doesn't accept that you want to be with her, than if she is really that special, you could make a move, but this will affect your friendship with him, you need to decide what is more important to you.You should talk to her too, but only after you've talked to him about it. She might not have real feelings for you so this would be a risk, but from what you've said, she seems pretty into you.

He is a friend, but not a "good friend". I should talk to him about it, but he isn't the kind of guy you have this convo with, he has a short temper if you know what I mean. As for her, she is more laid back... I'm so confused, but I will figure it out, maybe I shouldn't say anything and just let it go, but I do want her to know how I feel eventually, and she seems like the kind of girl that I could build a good relationship with, we have so much in common

If she feels like her boyfriend isn't paying her enough attention she could just be using you to make him jealous - Quote: "her current boyfriend was around the entire time when all this stuff was happening, and when he would try to get around her, she would walk away or kinda ignore him" Just be careful you aren't being used to make her boyfriend realise what he is losing.

She could just be trying to make her current boyfriend, your friend, jealous so that he will break up with her so she does not have to do it, and hurt his feelings... OR.. she really does have a crush on you and she is putting those "small things" out there to try to get a response from you. I bet that when she anounces that she would like to break up with him, that you would chime in and encourage her to do it. Although, that is just my view of the situation, and I dont know this girl. Hope some of this helped.

I don't know how much the situation has progressed, if even at all...but here it goes.Talk to her, and talk to him. Subtle gestures are some of the most confusing ones. You could think it's something pure, but for it could be a means to an end. You need to get to the bottom of it. But also remember brah, if she'll do it for you, she'll do it to you.