How the unique
proven systemcalled "A Practical Guide To Deciding
Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce" came about.

This page contains the literal account
of how this decision making system about deciding about getting a divorce
or staying married, was born.

You can use this unique
system (as hundreds of other people have) to make the decision that
is best for you. The information on this page
should be sufficient for you to happily decide to use this system. Of
course, you can always go back to the main page and read further for
more information...I encourage you to do so if you need to find out
more, but I've found through testing that doing so usually isn't necessary,
the information on this page suffices 90% of the time for people to
use this system.

Moving on...

Now,
for a look back at a specific time frame in my life that brought me
here and can help you improve your life today...

A few years ago I was in a similar situation
to the one you are in right now because I couldn't decide whether
I should stay married or not.

My marriage was "on the rocks"
and I felt miserable.

My work suffered, my relationships with
family and friends were flailing, and sleep was a luxury.

Life wasn't what I wanted it to be...in
fact, it was torture.

It wasn't the fact that my spouse and
I weren't getting along that was so bad, it was the fact that I was
in limbo which is really a 'negative stagnation'.

In 'limbo' means you ignore the problem,
time passes, it only gets worse...'limbo' is a place where you don't
want to be, and I was definitely there.

As I said earlier, I was living in indecision...I
was living in "marital limbo" which was unhealthy - I didn't
enjoy my life and I felt I rightfully deserved to.

I couldn't deal with that indecision,
it wasted too much time, time I didn't have...I felt that I was wasting
my time. After all I thought, "I've only got 70-80 years or so
to live!".

I wasn't myself, and was confused about
what to do next. I'd always been a person who had a plan and was relatively
centered.

But, because of my marital situation,
my clarity was pretty much gone and my usual "confident self"
was dulled by the dealings of my "everyday".

I dreaded seeing, interacting with, and
communicating with my spouse.

(This isn't one sided, I imagine she
felt the same about me!)

This went on for months and months. And,
the longer this went on, the worse it got.

The situation certainly wasn't "self-correcting"
and I knew if I remained idle and did nothing, then nothing would change,
I'd be stuck in the same unhealthy situation I was in.

I knew I had to make a decision for myself,
for my own well-being, for my happiness. It wasn't necessarily anyone's
fault, but I knew in my gut that I had to do something about it.

I knew I needed to take a honest and
thorough look at the state of my marriage in order to make a decision,
one way or the other, regardless of the outcome.

In simple and
clear terms, I knew I had to take action.

Here's what
I finally did:

One hot Saturday afternoon in Florida
(yes, I still remember the exact day and all
the details) I sat down all alone at a friend's house
where I was "living" at the time, and figured it out.

I soul searched.

I did a serious
and tough "gut check".

I asked myself
hard and frightening questions that I had been avoiding asking myself.

I self reflected
on a deeper level than I had ever reached before.

I prioritized
what was important to me, no one else.

...I looked
long and hard at my situation.

After I confirmed
that I needed to make a decision one way or another, I knew
things would be different forever.

Admitting that I needed
to make a decision turned out to be the first step in my becoming happy
again and truly changed my life for the better, forever.

Actually 'deciding to
decide' was a tremendous emotional lift for me.

It turned out that my
indecision was being fostered by what I didn't know.
And, what I didn't know was,
I didn't know how to decide.

I didn't know how to
decide because I had conflicting feelings about my situation.

I had feelings (emotions)
that were overpowering that couldn't be ignored but I also knew that
I had to include logical thought into the process as well, or else wisdom
through reason would never come about.

The following thought was, by far, the
most important thought I had that hot day in Florida because it started
a clear decision making process that changed my life forever.

I thought to myself...

"I've
got gut feelings about all this that are truly emotional which can't
possibly be a good thing to focus on alone...but, my sense of logic
just keeps nagging at me.

There's got
to be some cross section of reason that is made up of my emotion AND
logic that will lead me to my correct path, now I just have to find
it!"

Once I realized this,
everything changed instantly.

This realization was
what lead me to the system that hundreds of people, like you and I,
have used to make a good decision...and that decision has been made
by themselves AND for themselves.

I
carefully mapped out a detailed plan of attack to decide
what was best for me which included things that I could actually do
rather than just think about in order to decide whether
to stay married or get a divorce.

I labeled these things
that I should do in order to decide, "Action Items".

These "Action
Items" are thought provoking psychological exercises that
helped me organize my thoughts and feelings so that I could separate
the emotion from logic.

Separating emotion from
logic then allowed me to prioritize the details into reason. And "reason"
through self-reflection and action, equates to wisdom.

This "wisdom"
was the "key to the puzzle" and still is to this day, for
me, for you, for anyone who is in this situation!

This wisdom allowed
me to decide, definitively, what was best for me
and act accordingly so I could be happy. This "wisdom" came
as a result of reflection that are the "Action Items".

These "Action
Items" make up a thought provoking process for lucid decision
making about getting a divorce or staying married that is proven to
work.

These "Action
Items", and the process that supports them, are what make
up the unique 'decision-making' system in "A
Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce".

This process, which led
to true wisdom, helped me (and hundreds of people since) make a good
decision, regain clarity, and get peace of mind about that decision...and
this is exactly what you need in order to be
happy.

It applies because human
beings have common thought processes due to the way the human brain
works, and this system utilizes thought processes we all use to decide...

The uniqueness of the
system is defined by applicable general tactics you'll use to stimulate
your brain AND the "Action Items"
that are based on the specific question that you are asking yourself,
"Should I Get A Divorce?".

These "Action
Items" in"A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether
Or Not To Get A Divorce" will work for you because
these "Action Items" are based on basic human
psychology in answering the question, "Should I Get A Divorce?"
rather than a generic situation about any decision.

So, to re-iterate...the
"Action Items" are specific to anyone who is wondering whether
or not getting a divorce is right for them...and that includes you!

Marriage counselors and
professional relationship coaches agree, there are common threads to
making a decision about deciding whether or not to get a divorce or
to end a romantic relationship.

And those common threads
are what will allow you to make your decision if you take the opportunity
to read this eBook and use the system it contains.

Important:
I strongly encourage you to take a look at what 2
different professional marriage counselors and relationship coaches
have to say regarding this system...bear in mind, these people have
advanced educations in this very field and are also
recognized experts in this field.

Their credentials
are expert level and their recommendations speak volumes for
the effectiveness of this system.

Looking back, that
sunny day in Florida turned out to be one of the best days if
not thee best day of my life because the plan that was
developed led me to a decision that brought me the happiness I now feel,
every day.

And now you can use the same structured
plan that I used to re-surge my life to do the very same thing
with your life.

The detailed and thought
provoking system that worked for me will work for you as well, I
guarantee it.

Thanks very much
for your time and I wish the best to you during this
difficult period in your life,