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Maybe I have this dating thing all wrong. Maybe I’m asking too much when I expect monogamy. I grew up with siblings, I’ve always sucked at sharing. And sharing a man is something I’ve never wanted to do.

But of course, there has been those times when I’ve shared and didn’t even know it. The cheaters who failed to divulge the fact that I may have been in a monogamous relationship with them, but they weren’t with me, will always have a place inside my jaded heart.

Am I dumb to think that monogamy still exists? Or that I should expect it when I’m in a relationship?

In a recent interview with InStyle, Cameron Diaz says to hell with monogamy.

“I don’t know if anyone is really naturally monogamous. We all have the same instincts as animals,” the actress says in the May issue of InStyle (on newsstands April 18). “But we live in a society where it’s been ingrained in us to do these things.”

As much as I’d rather not compare myself to my pet dog, or any other animal, I don’t think I quite agree with the analogy.

Only 3 percent to 5 percent of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals (including humans) are known to form lifelong, monogamous bonds , the loyal animals beavers, wolves and some bats.

There are also scientists who believe that monogamy is more of a societal structure and not natural at all.

“I don’t think we are a monogamous animal,” said Pepper Schwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle. “A really monogamous animal is a goose – which never mates again even if its mate is killed.”

She added, “Monogamy is invented for order and investment – but not necessarily because it’s ‘natural.'”

So what is a single woman to do? Say ‘eff the societal system and put aside the need for monogamy? Or just wait around until the needle in a haystack of a man comes around who’s on the same monogamy page?