First, PLEASE fix your writing. I cant even read most of it. Second, no. Just no. The entire point of hackban is to stop people hacking in the first place. If you hate being banned so much you can pay $26 to buy another account.

Aside from the facts that player turn-over is normal, hackers are normal, and toxic behaviour on the internet is normal, I would suggest it is this attitude of yours that worked against you.

Clearly, you did not get every single thing right. Don't despair though, because nobody every does get every single thing right. All you can do is admit things aren't perfect, learn from your mistakes, and work towards making things better. Assuming that players only would complain in order to "get staff" is another mistake. You need to engage with people that aren't happy, and try to find out why they aren't happy. You can't make everyone happy of course, but you can use feedback to find ways to improve.

You sound like you put a lot of effort into getting your server started, and while I understand the emotional roller-coaster that you are on is probably near the bottom of the ride, it would be a shame to just toss everything out now and willingly join the legions of failed server owners out there.

Sit down and make a list of everything that went wrong. Now get some more paper and start writing down the solutions to those problems. Lastly, develop a plan to enact your changes and get to work. Nothing should ever be set in stone, so these documents can become living docs that change and evolve with your server. Never make a big decision without referring back to your "mission" for what your sever is supposed to be.