Calling Her for the First Time

Has this ever happened to you? You finally gathered the courage and asked you secret crush for her number, and tried calling her up the moment the next attack of bravado overtook you.

But the moment you started dialling her number you freaked out and hung up. Or you did work up the nerve to call her up, got her on the phone, had a nice friendly conversation, but when the time came to ask her out, you froze up because you didn't know what to say?

Hey don’t worry. Such things happen to the best of players (perhaps not the best). But there are several ways of making sure that you are able to ace the first phone call and get her to go out with you.

Buzz her in the evening

Like the rest of us, she too has a life and a job. So calling her up in the morning or evening when she’s in her office slogging her ass off is not a good idea. Call her after eight when you can safely assume that she is back from office and before ten, so that you don’t interrupt her dinner. If she sounds busy or rushed ask her if you have caught her at the wrong time. If she says she’s busy, don’t ask her to call back, but instead ask when it would be better time to reach her.

Call her from a place where you are comfortable

Make sure that when you call her you are feeling relaxed and comfortable. If there are other people in the room or there is loud music playing in the background, avoid making that call. Other people prying on your private conversation will only make you uncomfortable.

Sound good

Women like their men to sound cool and confident. So if you hate the way your voice sounds in the answering machine try training it to make it sound deeper and more resonant.

Hum a tune with your mouth closed. This little trick is often used by public speakers to make their voice deeper and more sonorous.

Call her while standing up. When you stand up and talk you will notice that your voice will immediately sound deeper and thus more confident.

Talk slowly and take your time with your words. You must have noticed that people who are nervous have a habit of talking really fast. If you feel that your mind will go blank the moment she picks up the phone, write out what you plan to say and read it to yourself a couple of times. If it sounds good to you then chances are that they would sound equally good to her as well.

Engage in good small talk

Obviously before you get to the all important question It's but natural that you would make a bit of small talk. But steer clear of questions that border on the yawn-kingdom like the weather and politics. Avoid talking too much about yourself, and engage her in an interesting conversation by bringing up topics that are relevant. TALK ABOUT HER. Girls love talk about themselves.

Make her laugh

Humour is a quality that has always worked beautifully with girls. Try to drop a few jokes during the conversation to let her know that you have a sense of humour. But please try and use contextual humour and nothing that you got from the Santa-Banta website.

Propose a specific date

Make sure exactly where you plan to take her, before you call. So be specific about a particular location and tell her exactly where you plan to take her. So be very clear about your plans. This would go to show the amount of thought you have put into making the plans, which will make it that much harder for her to say no.

Hang up once you’ve secured the date

Don't feel obliged to extend the conversation once she has agreed to go out with you. The objective of the first phone call has been met so hang up a few minutes after she has given her consent. The less time you chat, the smaller the window to blurt out something stupid.

Don't fall into the friendship trap

You probably have a lot of friends and don’t need any more. So be crystal clear about your intentions. You are interested in this woman romantically. So make sure she gets to know it. But if she just wants to hang out as friends, don’t start wailing over the phone and take up on her offer. If its meant to work out it will, so don’t spoil your chances by refusing to be her friend.

Remember you are already through with the hard part – you have already got her number. Getting the courage to dial her number is really not half as difficult as getting the number because she is already expecting a call from you. So once you get her on the receiver’s end just follow these 8 great tips and bowl her with your natural charm.