Closet daddy -- Sacrifices and trade-offs: kids versus Corvettes -- My journey to Vietnam -- Being a gay dad -- The adoption process -- How I chose Vietnam: destiny's children -- The bottom line: how much will it cost? -- The current laws on gay parenting in each state -- Other ways of becoming a gay dad -- Big decisions -- Preparing for life with a baby or child -- How to avoid problems and what to do if they arise -- My decision to adopt again -- Life with kids