Pressure to Make Out

"My guy CONSTANTLY pressures me to make out. What should I do?"

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"My boyfriend wants to make out and do other sexual things all the time. He said he will wait until I want to do them, but then he will go and bug me about doing stuff with him. I don't like to do that kind of stuff, and I don't want to. I tried telling him, but he just doesn't get it. What do I do?"

Nikki L., Muskegon, MI

The bad news is: You may have to break up with this guy. If you've already told him that you're not comfortable with his constant sexual advances and he still isn't respecting your boundaries, then there is probably no other solution to your problem. Contrary to popular opinion, boys can control their physical impulses. They are just as capable of keeping their hormones in check as girls are, and should therefore be expected to. A good boyfriend wouldn't continue to make you uncomfortable by pressuring you to make out with him if you're not ready. So, my advice is, tell your boyfriend one last time — and in no uncertain terms — that his physical pressure is making you uncomfortable and you want it to stop. If it doesn't, kick this guy to the curb. You'll find someone who will be willing to wait until the both of you are ready for physical intimacy.