tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.comments2012-10-02T09:08:17.306-06:00The Hardest PartCalvinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00319267507059206227noreply@blogger.comBlogger218125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-84953378248641071582012-10-02T09:08:17.306-06:002012-10-02T09:08:17.306-06:00After see your site ,I feel so good.If you want I ...After see your site ,I feel so good.If you want I exchange my link with you .This will so better increase our PR .Some of my Keyword is <a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti story</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangladeshi choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti book</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">kolkata choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">free choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti online</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Bengali choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti blog</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti golpo</a> <br />If you search in google by this keyword you find my site.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-46970794855327630562012-10-02T09:06:44.096-06:002012-10-02T09:06:44.096-06:00After see your site ,I feel so good.If you want I ...After see your site ,I feel so good.If you want I exchange my link with you .This will so better increase our PR .Some of my Keyword is <a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti story</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangladeshi choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti book</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">kolkata choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">free choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti online</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Bengali choti</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti blog</a>,<a href="http://allbdchoti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">bangla choti golpo</a> <br />If you search in google by this keyword you find my site.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-46076830663868370402011-04-20T23:24:46.078-06:002011-04-20T23:24:46.078-06:00I&#39;m so sorry to hear that Calvin! I wish I co...I&#39;m so sorry to hear that Calvin! I wish I could be there to help you feel comfortable.orem chiropractichttp://www.cstonechiro.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-90832877442120555182010-10-05T18:50:11.141-06:002010-10-05T18:50:11.141-06:00I like that you &quot;hate that you can&#39;t danc...I like that you &quot;hate that you can&#39;t dance in people&#39;s living rooms&quot; - that made me smile and laugh. <br /><br />I hope that you love that you can make people smile and laugh - because you canrecover and thrivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17270876156041876537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-64559084562301057712010-08-25T19:02:28.977-06:002010-08-25T19:02:28.977-06:00Thanks for the post buddy. It was something I nee...Thanks for the post buddy. It was something I needed to be reminded of too. Sometimes I want to quit but I look back at the sacred experiences I&#39;ve had and think, I can&#39;t give up because I want to feel that again and forever.<br /><br />It&#39;s worth the fight!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-90630693870925871792010-08-12T00:49:08.394-06:002010-08-12T00:49:08.394-06:00Oh man, Calvin, I don&#39;t know you nor have we e...Oh man, Calvin, I don&#39;t know you nor have we ever meant, but as I read this I just wanted to hug you. You are so sweet, and it makes me so sad to see you so hurt. I only just stumbled upon your blog about five minutes ago, but I just want you to know that in that tiny glimpse that I&#39;ve had of your life and personality, I&#39;ve seen an amazing person with amazing heart. I know, I&#39;m being a bit cheesy, but you really have touched me with your post. I really wish you the best in all things, and if you ever want to talk- whether it be to philosophize or rant or cry or laugh or just to make a new friend- I&#39;d love to hear from you. I hope you are doing better now, and look forward to a new day. Best of luck<br /><br />(my email is kadynw@gmail.com, if you wanted to take me up on that lol)Kadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08745278776979036841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-7799660743778666732010-08-01T19:44:20.477-06:002010-08-01T19:44:20.477-06:00Love the Brooke Fraser song. I had never heard of...Love the Brooke Fraser song. I had never heard of her until reading your post. Thanks. :)JonJonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14158807819966424747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-7112868947655943882010-07-30T12:40:36.321-06:002010-07-30T12:40:36.321-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Ezrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-90038555768468172452010-07-30T12:40:27.386-06:002010-07-30T12:40:27.386-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Ezrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-32936233750576372492010-07-30T12:39:56.275-06:002010-07-30T12:39:56.275-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Ezrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-19268510603862308052010-07-30T12:39:26.831-06:002010-07-30T12:39:26.831-06:00I used to be very involved with the Moho community...I used to be very involved with the Moho community, but since I left the church and got a boyfriend, I&#39;ve felt I had less to contribute because I can&#39;t relate as well as I used to to those turmoils. But here&#39;s my 2 cents, for what they are worth (probably less than 2 cents, adjusted for inflation)<br /><br />EVERY MORMON BOY&#39;s patriarchal blessing tells them they will marry a woman. It&#39;s part of the Mormon life template. So don&#39;t think because you aren&#39;t going to and are not attracted to one means you did something wrong. It means that your Patriarch didn&#39;t know any better.<br /><br />Secondly, you&#39;re 25. Every decision you make is your own, and you know this. If you don&#39;t feel reparative therapy is helpful (I firmly believe it isn&#39;t just unhelpful, but damaging, but that&#39;s for you to decide) then leave.<br /><br />Lastly, I just want you to know that there are so many people who will love you unconditionally for who you are (a gay mormon man). I know it doesn&#39;t feel that way because you are currently surrounded by poisonous people--people who only will love you when you perform to their standards and rules.<br /><br />I haven&#39;t read much of your blog, but I already know I&#39;d be your friend and love you, support you no matter what you do. Anyone who attacks you for following your heart, whatever that may be, IS NOT your friend.<br /><br />You will someday find that Mormonism does contains great truth, but that it is NOT &quot;the truth&quot; as you&#39;ve been told. God&#39;s love and redeption cannot be found, because we are born with them, deep in our souls. He loves you, and wants you to be happy. If you can&#39;t find happiness where you are (it certainly doesn&#39;t sound like you are happy) then you need to do what WILL make you joyful, productive and exhaulting of God. And trust me, he will be pleased, and you will know a peace you&#39;ve never felt before.<br /><br />God bless you Calvin.Ezrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-81288707695947164502010-06-30T23:37:09.560-06:002010-06-30T23:37:09.560-06:00Calvin, I&#39;m not sure if I met you or not, but ...Calvin, I&#39;m not sure if I met you or not, but I&#39;m glad you came. Trying to organize a fireside with so many moving parts and people wasn&#39;t easy, and we would likely do some things differently another time. <br /><br />I&#39;m really glad you gained from the experience. I need to work on hearing the music as well. I appreciate your reminder. <br /><br />J4K, you&#39;re in trouble for not coming over to the house afterward!Bravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-9979187852289106962010-06-29T08:17:20.423-06:002010-06-29T08:17:20.423-06:00I was there too, thanks for reminding me of that p...I was there too, thanks for reminding me of that part of Ty&#39;s answer. <br /><br />I had similar feelings when i left the fireside. it was great for beginners, kinda like a SGA 101. But in the time since then, i&#39;ve realized how much it did affect me. I&#39;ve been thinking about things said, been much less anxious, more happy, and feel like my heart of anger is being replaced by a heart of hope. <br /><br />So while i&#39;m pumped for the people who learned how to support us, i&#39;m also excited for the things I learnecj4khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00693280094971664961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-40282784504665291792010-06-17T20:40:55.306-06:002010-06-17T20:40:55.306-06:00I know this is a random comment, but this reminds ...I know this is a random comment, but this reminds me of the brilliant song &quot;I Hate Seagulls&quot; by Kate Nash. <br /><br />Randomness appreciated.A Gay Mormon Boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02366029507118022319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-75095318840139421072010-06-05T10:44:20.733-06:002010-06-05T10:44:20.733-06:00I get the whole spending money makes me feel bette...I get the whole spending money makes me feel better thing. Story of my life. Problem is, I only feel better for a few minutes, and certainly not beyond the day I receive the credit card! On the other hand, I do truly like most of what I buy.<br /><br />I&#39;ve never completely understood the &quot;reparative therapy&quot; thing and it&#39;s seminal assumption that there is something to be repaired. As I see it, we are gay because, well, we are gay. Two basic choices then: Accept the church&#39;s teachings and find happiness in that life - which can be done. Or follow your nature and seek love with a member of the same sex. Either way, I just can&#39;t see happiness without accepting you are gay with nothing to &quot;repair&quot;.<br /><br />Good luck my friend. Just make sure you stick around. There&#39;s too much of interest happening not to be hear to see how it all turns out.ControllerOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04161975934417545717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-58753180751788571592010-06-04T15:35:11.406-06:002010-06-04T15:35:11.406-06:00I can&#39;t let it go at that.
&quot;This is a si...I can&#39;t let it go at that.<br /><br /><i><b>&quot;</b>This is a situation where Calvin really needs to do what HE feels is right, and it isn&#39;t as easy as calling him stupid for not choosing happiness. Since when did we start telling other people what will make them happy? That&#39;s one of the things I hate about religion, lets not do it here.<b>&quot;</b></i><br /><br />Where do I even start? <br />1) Calvin needs to do what he feels is right… <br />2)He cannot be judged for not choosing happiness… <br />3)What is the basis for letting people choose happiness, anyway… <br />4)[choosing happiness] is one of the things I hate about religion. <br /><br />Did I get that right? Because that sounds insane.<br /><br />A religion that tells you to be miserable and <b>tortures your psyche when you can&#39;t quite pull it off</b> is no religion of God.playasinmarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998841658611428960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-56135030177757533012010-06-04T15:31:20.407-06:002010-06-04T15:31:20.407-06:00Do you feel contention to be antithetical to help?...Do you feel contention to be antithetical to help? Truly?<br /><br />&quot;I do support people…&quot; Could you make a more asinine statement?<br /><br />I don&#39;t support <i>people</i> any more than I support <i>cardboard</i>. Fact of the matter is - this matter, not <b><i>people</i></b> in general - this poor sap is being savaged by a church that doesn&#39;t want him.<br /><br />Savagery is the issue. And I don&#39;t support it.playasinmarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998841658611428960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-7060705532599437492010-06-04T01:46:27.352-06:002010-06-04T01:46:27.352-06:00Playasinmar,
I have no idea who you are. I&#39;m...Playasinmar, <br /><br />I have no idea who you are. I&#39;m worried that I somehow know you in real life and I&#39;m gonna get myself in trouble but... do you really think you&#39;re helping, or do you just like being contentious?<br /><br />I am going to assume that you really are trying to help. I can see where your coming from. I don&#39;t support reparative therapy myself. However I do support people and nothing that you claim is actually as simple as you say it is. <br /><br />Personal decisions about what one will do with their life are complex, painful, and sometimes almost impossible to make. Just because certain spiritual matters mean nothing to you, doesn&#39;t mean that they are as easily discardable to others. This is a situation where Calvin really needs to do what HE feels is right, and it isn&#39;t as easy as calling him stupid for not choosing happiness. Since when did we start telling other people what will make them happy? That&#39;s one of the things I hate about religion, lets not do it here. Everything is so much more complicated and real then you&#39;re little diatribe about you&#39;re own personal beef. This is a mans life, not an opportunity for you to throw out a talking point.<br /><br />Calvin, <br /><br />I love you and respect you. I realize that you are being asked to choose between two things that you feel you cannot part with. But don&#39;t think that it is simple and easy for all of us. Even those of us that seems to have made decisions still struggle with them. But also know that you are not alone and that you bless so many lives. You bless mine at least. <br /><br />You have no reason to feel guilty about anything. You are a brave man and you are doing the best you can with a horrible mess. Know that there are those that love you and will support and help you with anything you choose. If you are wrong in the end, then I will be proud to stand wrong by your side supporting you, even if i disagree, because your happiness is what matters.<br /><br />And in that vein, search your life for the things that make you happy and thn, discard the things that don&#39;t. I know that is complicated, but a life lived in misery is not a life, and there is no reason people like you and I can&#39;t have happiness.... eventually. :)<br /><br />Love you.Aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10575575783384159563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-6836475082528277252010-06-03T19:12:48.226-06:002010-06-03T19:12:48.226-06:00So, I deleted my post because I mispelled &quot;ho...So, I deleted my post because I mispelled &quot;hotel.&quot; And then I wrote it wrong again. Lol.Justinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374785769065640253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-4410284846457368942010-06-03T19:11:19.780-06:002010-06-03T19:11:19.780-06:00I like movies that make me cry, too! (I can only t...I like movies that make me cry, too! (I can only think of one for sure [Hotwel Rwanda], but I wish there were more...)<br /><br />Oh, I also like Gattaca, Coldplay, and Big Fish. And I think the Killers, but I don&#39;t remember.<br /><br />I already consider us friends, P.S. Hope your summer&#39;s an adventure.<br /><br />JustinJustinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374785769065640253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-76955810852984186862010-06-03T19:10:20.338-06:002010-06-03T19:10:20.338-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Justinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374785769065640253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-91591805469033539132010-06-03T16:38:03.396-06:002010-06-03T16:38:03.396-06:00Don&#39;t play that game. Disagree with me if you ...Don&#39;t play that game. Disagree with me if you must but don&#39;t play that game. <br /><br />Never anything negative about gays nor anything bad about you, a gay?<br /><br />Then what is being repaired? <br /><br />Therapist thinks you&#39;re defective. Church thinks you&#39;re defective. But worst, you consent to being treated like a defect.playasinmarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998841658611428960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-35291579920073489752010-06-03T16:15:47.732-06:002010-06-03T16:15:47.732-06:00Whoa. I seriously thought that almost nobody woul...Whoa. I seriously thought that almost nobody would see this post. Thanks, all. This was a mood I got into last night which, to be honest, I was out of by the time I was halfway done writing the post.<br /><br />playasinmar... lol. In two and a half years of seeing my therapist, I don&#39;t recall ever hearing a single negative thing about myself or about being gay. And, well, you obviously haven&#39;t been in the same grocery stores I have been in.Calvinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00319267507059206227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-76948174618681322022010-06-03T14:38:52.951-06:002010-06-03T14:38:52.951-06:00I think Sean is right - isolate yourself from othe...I think Sean is right - isolate yourself from others including what friends you have left. <br /><br />Why should your therapist be the only one trying to kill you?playasinmarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998841658611428960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3533953861297752512.post-8017582321097295602010-06-03T12:48:13.604-06:002010-06-03T12:48:13.604-06:00I love that you posted again.
I hope posting this...I love that you posted again.<br /><br />I hope posting this made you feel better. And I hope you know that you are never alone in this.Jack-Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06878307409356418933noreply@blogger.com