quest

I am a woman of 65 and my quest is to find a mindmateto grow old together as a mutually devoted couplein a relationship based upon theegalitarian rational commitment paradigmbonded by intrinsic commitmentas each other's safe haven and secure basis.

The purpose of this blog is to enable the right manto recognize us as reciprocal mindmates andto encourage him to contact me:marulaki@hotmail.com

The entries directly concerning,who could be my mindmate,are mainly at the beginning.If this is your predominant interest,I suggest to read this blog in the same orderas it was written, following the numbers.

Maybe you have stumbled upon this blog not as a potential match.Please wait a short moment before zapping.

Do you know anybody, who could be my mindmate?Your neighbour, brother, uncle, cousin, colleague, friend?If so, please tell him to look at this blog.While you have no reason to do this for me,a stranger, maybe you can make someone happy, for whom you care.

Do you have your own webpage or blog,which someone like my mindmate to be found probably reads?If so, please mention my quest and add a link to this blog.

First of all, of course it is wrong and not acceptable, that this man has used his power to burden the consequences of his own affliction and weakness upon someone else. The solution chosen by him was not appropriate, but the need to act and solve the problem was real.

This man's rare self-awareness deserves admiration. He bluntly admits, that his instinctive urges towards abusing the body of his assistant were overwhelming his reason and disabling him from doing his job properly. In contrast to many dangerous jerks, he owned his weakness of an insufficient cognitive control over his too strong instincts.

He acted, before it was too late, by taking responsibility towards his own wife, towards the assistant's marriage and towards his patients. He prevented dire consequences of his detrimental instinctivity.

If all men would admit their weakness and act, before they have harmed others, the world would be a better place.
Whenever other peoples' life or health depends upon a person's work, no matter if he is a dentist, a pilot or a general, it is important to avoid jeopardies. While it is obvious that a dentist with hemiparesis or a pilot having become blind are no more fit for their work, it is time to recognize and acknowledge, how much a man's too strong sex drive is also a risky disability, which becomes virulent in the presence of attractive women. It is time to take this into account and give up the denial, which causes so much harm.

While the dentist in this case principally did the right thing by ending the dangerous collaboration with this assistant, it was his moral duty to do this by bringing the damage upon himself instead of harming her. It was his moral obligation to find another appropriate work for her and to not deprive her of her source of income. As long as he did not succeed, he owed her to continue to pay her salary without her working.

But this case is also a reminder, that women should be more supportive and considerate to men fighting against their affliction of a too strong instinctivity. Wise women appear at work in an attire suitable to avoid triggering male instincts, they reserve seductive and lascivious attire to the privacy of their own relationship.

COMMENTING is deactivated. A deranged weirdo had been stalking me by email, until he found out, that his emails are automatically deleted. Then he abused this blog for adding his diatribes as comments.

Reactions are welcome by email to:marulaki@hotmail.comWARNING:If there is anything fishy or if there is incongruity:My profile text elsewhere including the suggestion to read this blog has been stolen and used on other women's profiles.Also I have joined decent dating sites, which share the database with filthy sites without me even knowing it.I have no control over the context, in which some links and references to this blogappear.

Only the contents of this blog are certainly a genuine expression of my person.

BAUCIS looking for PHILEMON

I have chosen the couple of Baucis and Philemon from the Greek mythology as a role model, because they were childfree, they were poor and nevertheless content just the two of them, supporting each other in the survival under difficult circumstances without getting bitter, and they were so much bonded, that they did not want to ever live without each other, so they wanted to die at the same time.

Also they were not afflicted by the ingroup-outgroup instinct, their hospitality was the same to strangers as to social contacts. It is Greek mythology, so the guests, whom they treated with kindness, were described as deities. As an atheist, I am not referring to that part.

About Me

F 65, childfree, left-wing,
rational, atheist and skeptic, monogamous and anti-promiscuous. German equivalent of a Master's, non-smoker, social
drinker, 5'4, 120 lbs. Speaking German, English, Spanish, French, Italian and Dutch
There is no picture of my person anywhere on my blog or on the web and never will be. I am willing to
send pictures in private, as soon as I am convinced, that someone is
interested in my person based upon what I have written.
I want to avoid to be either chosen or rejected because of my exterior.
I communicate by email and on Skype, both by instant messages and spoken
word.

Concerning google+ and facebook: I am not adding people, and if personally not known people have added me, it is not my doing. I am not collecting strangers as pseudo-friends. I am only on the web to find a mindmate as a partner for a committed real life relationship. My blog is all about my search.

I appreciate +1s, because they add to blog entries being found by google searches, and this enhances my chance to find a mindmate.

If you have come here primarily to find out, if we are compatible, then below you find a list of the entries that are mainly about what kind of a relationship I am looking for and who can be my mindmate.