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When I first got together with DH...his ex said...

The first time I met my DH's ex wife she told me she hoped I liked cleaning up after him and doing everything in the house.

That has NEVER been the case. We both work full time. We both cook, clean, take care of kids, mow, and whatever else. In fact...lately he has been doing way more because I had surgery. I don't have to ask him to do anything. He sees something that needs doing and he does it. He interacts with all of the kids...his, mine, and ours. Something else she said he never did. His kids have always been super close to him.

She was a SAHM so I would think she would take care of the home.

But I just think it is funny that she thought she needed to warn me. We work well as a team. I don't see it changing. It has been four years.

that's so sad im sorry :( i warned my ex husbands gf (now wife) that he was abusive and she said he hadnt touched her but they hadnt been dating that long. i wonder sometimes if he does to her what he did to me...i feel really bad for her cuz she's a sweet girl and doesn't deserve that! and neither do u! i hope u left him

no my DH ex didn't warn me about anything but she did try me but it didn't fly like that. but she was sorry from wat i hear from everyone so i wouldn't have believed her anyway. he is an amazing man and im so lucky i found him!

by Anonymous 7
on Jan. 23, 2014 at 1:09 PM

I agree with others. He was probably a bad husband to her and learned from that.

I don't think she did everything. But I have to say his work schedule is pretty crazy. They also bought a fixer upper house that he spent a lot of time working on when he wasn't at work. He is still working on it. He had to redo both bathrooms in the house, replace most of the kitchen, do the floors, rebuild the fence, replace a garage door, replace wood paneling in every room of the house....and all kinds of other stuff. It was her DREAM HOME. It is an older home and very pretty now.

I guess my point is..she was home during the day and had lists of projects for him to do each weekend. He also coached his kids soccer team and taught/led a teen Bible study group. He may not have done laundry or cooked dinner on a nightly basis...but he also doesn't get home until after 6...by then dinner should be started.

Normally I start dinner and he either finishes when he gets home or cleans up after. We both do laundry. He runs the vacuum every other day because I can't. The kids all do chores.

Quoting Anonymous: Maybe he was different with her. And being a sahm doesn't mean she should have to do EVERYTHING.

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