How to pick a sex position based on the size of his 'manhood'

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Different sex positions work best for different penis sizes

You know when you really hit it off with a guy, only to discover once his clothes come off that he's packing something... interesting? It happens way more often than you think, but it shouldn't be the reason you run for the door.

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Penises, much like snowflakes, vary considerably in size, shape, color and even orientation. And while you may think you know what your ideal is, that might just be because you haven't experienced the others. Women tend to get freaked out if they come up against a, shall we say, different tool. We think sex might not be as good if one looks too small, wide, curved or even too big. However, all penises are just as capable of delivering fantastic orgasms. You just have to know what to do with them.

Best positions for each penis size

1. Long

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You might think having a long penis is ideal, but sometimes they can be so long, they go too deep in a bad way. Sexuality expert and author Charlie Glickman, Ph.D., says the best thing to do in this scenario is give the partner being penetrated the control. If the woman's on top, she can control how deep she lets him go by squeezing her legs together. Reverse cowgirl is a fun alternative here that actually gives you even more flexibility, because there's more penetration distance at this angle.

2. Small

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Now penis size is often a sore spot for many men, even though only six percent of women commonly report having a problem with their man's size. Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Astroglide’s Resident Sexologist, tells us that depth of penetration is surprisingly not the key to having a satisfying orgasm. "Shallow penetration can be more desirable for a number of reasons. Not only are the most sensitive nerve endings of the vagina located in the outer third of the canal (sometimes referred to as the orgasmic platform), but other orgasm hot-spots like the G-Spot and the frenulum of the penis light up with pleasure at a shallow depth."

With that in mind, she recommends the "Bend Over Baby" for men with a smaller than average penis.

You stand upright while your guy stands behind you. He bends you to a 90-degree angle, and pins your arms behind you as if you're being handcuffed. You can either lay your upper half on a bed or other flat surface, or just remain standing at that angle. He then penetrates you from behind, while you experiment tipping your pelvis at different angles to achieve the perfect sensations.

"The rear entry angle ensures activation of her sensitive A-Spot as he squeezes into the tight space between her lower vaginal wall and her tender cervix," says O'Reilly.

3. Thin

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Keeping your legs squeezed together helps tremendously with a thinner penis. You can try starting out in doggy style, then moving to lying flat on your stomach, keeping your legs together while he continues to penetrate from behind with his legs on either side of yours. O'Reilly says it also feels great to grind your clitoris on his pelvic bone in missionary position.

4. Thick

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Penises with considerable girth tend to be somewhat intimidating, because it looks like they may not fit, but you'd be surprised. It's all about keeping your legs (and therefore vaginal walls) wide so as not to get too much friction. One great position for this is the scissors according to Dr. O'Reilly's new book, the New Sex Bible.

You lie on your sides facing each other, but with heads at opposite ends of the bed. He puts one leg between yours and penetrates you while you roll slightly backward, keeping your pelvis spread wide apart.

5. Curved

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This really depends on the curve angle. If it curves up, missionary is best; if it curves down, doggy style. However, if you lilt to the left or right, you might wanted to go for spooning. You both lie on your sides, knees at an almost 90-degree angle. He lifts your legs and penetrates from behind, all the while both pressing your legs together to keep things snug.