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Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Confessions of a Social Media Stalker

He was going through Facebook updates on a
friend's wall when he saw a pretty face in the comments section. It was his second
love-at-the-first-sight this week. He had been religiously following the other pretty damsel he saw in his Gali 4 days back. But this
time, this time this girl seemed fairest of all the loves-of-his-life. He went through her page. She seemed to be a Facebook
queen. 'Ah! Over 500 followers, 400 likes on her photographs. 70 likes on her
status even when she just 'yawns' in it. I can see she is popular on Twitter
too! I should send her a message- probably a HI…’ and he did what he
thought. She didn't respond and he waited patiently for a week. Post a week he
sent her a message again. Meanwhile he read comments on her updates and by the method of random sampling checked out profiles of her friends and of their friends. He found out two things about her; one was that she had a cool group of friends, and she had a breakup few months back. He checked his message box, there was a dense dark silence again. Finally with
no hope in hell he decided to send her a friend request this time which
eventually got rejected. ‘Probably she doesn't know what she is missing. She
looks young and naive, unaware of worldly matters.’ He decided to take up
the task to help this innocent creature who has hazel eyes, long hair to find her a knight
in shining armor- that was him of course. He had fallen for her and it was the
time for her to return this favor, to love him back, to make the
right-selection. He never felt so strongly for anyone else before, which he
thought always after falling in new love once or twice a year, sometimes even
thrice. He called up his relationship adviser, his best buddy- "I think she is
the one I was waiting for all my life, have I ever said same for anybody
before? No, right? Help me dost, I need you!" His friend like always agreed to
help him out. She was his current rage, his madness. There was some sort of
stark connection between themHe decided to message her again. She replied promptly- "Hey, I am sorry but I am
genuinely not interested in you. Bye Take care!"'We have common friends and probably she
replied because she doesn’t want to be misjudged. Ladies ah! They are scared
little rabbits always thinking about the reactions of their family, friends and
society on their deeds. She needs a person like me, who doesn't care about the world.', he thought to himself. He gave her his reference
and told her what he does (besides stalking). He asked her the reason behind
declining his request without giving him a fair chance- the chance he believed he deserved
because he had fallen for her. She said she doesn't accept friend-requests from unknown
people, besides that she has a freedom of choice. At the end of every message she wrote bye,
take care. She was caring, like a girl should be. He thought about her soft face again. 'Her first point is no more valid since he
I had given his introduction and now he was not a total stranger to her.
Besides they have a Common-Friend on Facebook.' He didn’t lack anywhere. He was
handsome, probably the most good-looking man on earth as his mother claimed. After looking at the reactions of his
friends, how they laugh even when he abuse people, he concurred he was a uber-cool and popular too. His father was a rich man, which had exempted him from the worries of earning, saving and investing money. What else a girl needs! He decided to message her again, "If you weren't
interested, you would have blocked me. Can we meet and talk about things over a
cup of coffee?"

He could no longer see her profile. 'She blocked me? Really!!!
My friend said I shouldn’t have talked about blocking, that was rude. She might be upset
with me.' He thought about it for two days, and then about their interactions for
past months, her eyes, her smile and 500 likes on her last display picture.A chill ran through his body.First love always made him nervous like
hell. He realized he over said something. He Googled her name, dug her email
address and got her twitter handle, her phone number, and her Email-ID. He
re-tweeted her Tweet and mentioned Her in another tweet- this was start of
their new interaction. When she didn’t respond to his internet gifts, he
inferred that she was extremely upset. 'Ever swinging moods of these ladies- blame it on their
hormones. I never said anything that bad', he reasoned her rude-reactions with
his understanding of human nature. He sent her a mail and got no reply. Thinking,
probably she hadn't checked her email, he sent her another message on her Whatsapp.

"Hi, I am terribly sorry for saying block-thing
on Facebook. I hope you liked my tweets about you. You are really very pretty.
I respect you and understand that you are quite busy and may be that is the reason you
couldn’t check the message I had sent you on Gmail two days back. I promise you I will keep you very happy. Can we go out for a cup of coffee as an
apology? Waiting eagerly for your reply."

'She lost her temper saying she will
call the police if I further stalked her. 'Stalked' was a very rude
word but I understand, these women loose their cool when PMSing. She is my true
love and I will not let her go like that, I know I will keep her happy...'

Someone who is a pro at conducting intensive research of an individual will find one way or the other to interact after been blocked. I prefer the term stalker and really feel that they need an aim in life.. wait a moment it appears that stalking is their aim. POKER FACE

Haha Gaurab, it was a message to the people who stalk. May be they will read and reflect upon themselves! ;) Yeah I left FB for a month too and I lived in peace. But then I needed society back in there too! P.S. One of my male friend yesterday told me how a girl stalked him, it was quite hilarious and annoying both!

This is a piece from real life...i had had a similar experience few years back...now I block people ( I know it's rude but can't help it) getting even the slightest hint that they are demanding something more than a naive internet friendship...

You've almost psychologically delved through the stalker's character ! well done...!

Maniparna, I feel blocking is not rude. When someone doesn't respect our privacy or our space then that person has no right to know anything about it. I have always been a block-him-on-fb-gmail-twitter-everywhere fan! I don't want to be bothered with people I don't like. Peace of mind is above everything in the world! Isn't it?

I think a lot can relate to this post.. ya grass on the other side do looks green and people interfere in others life... nice post!!but at times we dont know people directly but still feel connected as thoughts may match!!

I don't know if it is the curiosity that motivates a stalker or its his general tendency to haunt a person till one shouts back or takes a stern step to ward them off! About the connection thing you are talking about, it should be welcomed from both the ends. If not mutual, such connection becomes intrusion and nothing else!

Yaa I know. While writing it I had two things in mind. First they are extremely optimist because of bollywood movies we have been seeing while growing up. Also they are in denial that anyone can say no to them for some or the other reason