Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

Yeah, I think it's just OKC. It's hard to get a response from women on there. One of my old roommates had an account, and she said she got like 40 messages a day. (She was attractive, and 21). Never read most of them.

Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

I met Down Rodeo. I was fairly drunk, but I remember him being personable and attractive. Keep trying, I think it's just hard to stand out from the rest of the people there. As you might have already understood from Courtney's (and others') posts, sending a more personalized message helps. Don't have to pressure yourself to be witty, just make it clear that you actually read the chick's profile and found something that interested you or that you might have in common.

Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

Originally Posted by kitt kat

I guess I phrased it wrong? But I'd much rather be happier telling my parents/friends that I met my boyfriend at a record store when he came up to talk to me about my music tastes than saying I met them on the Internet. I think Internet dating would be looked down upon by my friends and ESPECIALLY looked down upon by my family.

it's 2012. While there's still some stigma to it, it's a lot less prevalent than it was even 5 years ago. At least for those in their 20s and 30s. And in the end, one would hope that friends and family would ultimately just care if you're happy... their disapproval of your method of meeting a significant other should be a footnote to that.

Interesting thread to read. As someone who started trying the OKC and Match thing three or four months ago, it's interesting to see the experience others have had. I joined not because I have a hard time meeting people in general, I'm a pretty social person (and good looking to boot). Usually when I'm out and about I tend to be more too interested in enjoying whatever I'm doing and having a good time to try and think about meeting women. As one of my friends said recently it's this aspect about me which makes me so much fun to hang around, but does nothing to help my love life. So I figured why not try other avenues for meeting a woman. Worst thing is nothing comes of it. It's certainly not going to hurt me to try. But it is odd. OKC I get the most responses on, but have yet to find any where I've met in person. Match I've sent out many emails, and really haven't received any responses. On the flip side the emails sent to me on match seem to almost exclusively come from very large women. Which is... strange to me. (Though based off this thread I appear to not be the only person to have this experience).

Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

Originally Posted by IceyHotshot

Those types of people are probably equally baffled about people like me (it's been three years since my last relationship).

I feel like people find this MORE questionable, than the serial monogamy without any breaks. I haven't had a serious relationship in eons, and nothing I'd call "a relationship" in a couple of years (I've dated, etc, but it was all very casual). For some reasons this really seems to weird guys out when they find out about it. I don't get it... I'm not a commitment-phobe, I'm just fairly picky when it comes to getting into serious relationships.

Some of my friends "fall in love" with a different person at least once a year, and actually LIVE with a different person every year or two. It's horrifying to be around.

Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

Originally Posted by spiggums

On the flip side the emails sent to me on match seem to almost exclusively come from very large women. Which is... strange to me. (Though based off this thread I appear to not be the only person to have this experience).

I wonder if the "very large women," as you guys keep putting it, are perhaps being more forward about contacting guys because they either aren't getting a lot of messages or assume they won't get a lot of messages? I'm assuming that any hot, fit, single girl who has resorted to online dating probably gets flooded with messages.

Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

Originally Posted by chiapet

I feel like people find this MORE questionable, than the serial monogamy without any breaks. I haven't had a serious relationship in eons, and nothing I'd call "a relationship" in a couple of years (I've dated, etc, but it was all very casual). For some reasons this really seems to weird guys out when they find out about it. I don't get it... I'm not a commitment-phobe, I'm just fairly picky when it comes to getting into serious relationships.

Yeah, same, and it's one of my worries that when I do find someone it's going to be a problem that I'm inexperienced.

Re: It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

Originally Posted by spiggums

it's 2012. While there's still some stigma to it, it's a lot less prevalent than it was even 5 years ago. At least for those in their 20s and 30s. And in the end, one would hope that friends and family would ultimately just care if you're happy... their disapproval of your method of meeting a significant other should be a footnote to that.

Interesting thread to read. As someone who started trying the OKC and Match thing three or four months ago, it's interesting to see the experience others have had. I joined not because I have a hard time meeting people in general, I'm a pretty social person (and good looking to boot). Usually when I'm out and about I tend to be more too interested in enjoying whatever I'm doing and having a good time to try and think about meeting women. As one of my friends said recently it's this aspect about me which makes me so much fun to hang around, but does nothing to help my love life. So I figured why not try other avenues for meeting a woman. Worst thing is nothing comes of it. It's certainly not going to hurt me to try. But it is odd. OKC I get the most responses on, but have yet to find any where I've met in person. Match I've sent out many emails, and really haven't received any responses. On the flip side the emails sent to me on match seem to almost exclusively come from very large women. Which is... strange to me. (Though based off this thread I appear to not be the only person to have this experience).

that's odd - i found the more honest you are in emails sent out on match, the higher percentage the girl will respond back. i realize the term honest can be vague, like anything can be honest...just say (almost literally) what you thought when you came across a women's profile that made you stop and think "hmm, unique / cute...maybe i should reach out"

usually (in my experiences) they seem to be taken back, in a positive way, more to an honest/unique email than to a generic one. over thinking initial emails on match usually doesn't help your cause (not saying you're doing that, this was my own case)