Talks by Our Gurus

Everything she needs and everything she wants

Everything she needs and everything she wants

Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami
, 2001-01-04

A cyberspace devotee from Nepal wants Gurudeva to clarify that in order to release the shakti from the wife we need to give her all that she wants and all that she needs. Gurudeva says that the shakti coming from the spouse through the husband's nerve system makes him attractive and people want to buy, deal and be with him. Gurudeva says that she will be reasonable and knows the families means and it is how you fulfill the needs and requests that is the important thing.

Unedited Transcript:

A cyberspace devotee all the way in Nepal, asks the question, "Please clarify, Gurudeva. You have said in order to release the shakti from the wife, give her all that she needs and all that she wants."

Wife abuse in the world today, is a modern sport. Yet, when a young lady marries, she thinks she is going to be the exception of it all.

The shakti coming from the spouse through the husband's nerve system makes him attractive. People want to be with him, buy from him, deal with him, be near him. It is well-known that a woman has eighty-four ways of managing this shakti to make her husband successful in the exterior world. But one harsh word can turn this shakti off. It is like a light switch. You can turn it on and you can turn it off. It is also well known that when the shakti is turned off or pulled in from the husband and is no longer flowing through him, she has eighty-four ways of slowly destroying him, making him unsuccessful, unhealthy, unhappy, tearing him apart on the inside.

When you married your wife you gave her everything she needed and everything she wanted. Her happiness filled and thrilled your being. She will be reasonable. She won't ask for much. She knows the family's means and your ability to give, your finances and all. It is how your fulfill those needs and those requests, that is the important thing.

We asked one lady to make a list of everything she needed and everything she wanted. She said, "I have everything that I need. He is very kind in that way. But the one thing I want is for him to come home for dinner." He changed his habit pattern, starting to come home for dinner. His business began to flourish. He was happy, became a community leader because her shakti was flowed through him, was not inhibited in anyway.

Give the list to me on e-mail. We will look it over and maybe, you will change the way people live in Nepal.