Why do I never get any compliments?

Good day ladies and gentlemen,

I am sort of new to fragrances, and I read and hear everywhere that people receive "compliments" on how they smell.
well I have been wearing fragrances daily for the past year and I only received ONE compliment from a young gentleman. ( I was wearing CK Eternity)

I want to know what you mean by "I get many positive compliments"
how often do people comment on how you smell?

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

Giving unsolicited compliments is a social courtesy, pretty much like complimenting on the dress or the haircut. I assume that many of the times compliments are given simply because the smell is so loud that people notice, not because the person actually likes the smell. (I have never received any compliments, by the way).

I think you have to find that right spot on how and where to wear your fragrance. Sometimes more and sometimes less. My compliments start flying when I start putting 2 neck 1 or 2 to the chest and 1 to the arm with a touch of the other arm. Of course all fragrance can't be applied like that.

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

Originally Posted by cmax

I think you have to find that right spot on how and where to wear your fragrance. Sometimes more and sometimes less. My compliments start flying when I start putting 2 neck 1 or 2 to the chest and 1 to the arm with a touch of the other arm. Of course all fragrance can't be applied like that.

Cmax...

by 2 shots on the chest, do you mean you first apply on the chest then wear a shirt, or you apply on the clothes?
Thanks

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

It depends on where you live, how much you use and how people perceive you. A large majority of men in my area don't use frags, (although the number is increasing a bit) so people aren't used to talking about it and generally don't make any comments at all unless it's super loud, then the comments are of course negative. Because of that, I don't apply frag so people around me notice it unless they get very close, so most people wouldn't notice my frag anyway. Assuming someone notices your frag and is an outgoing friendly person who might comment, whether they do or not depends on how they perceive you, whether they get the vibe that you're friendly, approachable, and would appreciate the comment. Most of that is communicated non-verbally, more in the way you carry yourself than anything else. That's my $.02 fwiw...

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

Yeah it does depend a lot on who you are around. I barely ever get compliments from randoms unless I'm at a house party or town dancing etc. In terms of everyday they always come from people I hang around a lot so are very comfortable discussing anything. As people have said before, most woman (or men) will be afraid to comment as they feel it will be seen as coming onto you. Whereas around friends and especially ex's who know how much I'm into my fragrance will always give me compliments if we go out to coffee or something like that. Dorje is 100% right aswell compliments come on how you carry yourself

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I think a lot depends on how others perceive you. If you seem very open--you make eye contact with people, smile, etc.--then people will be more likely to comment on your fragrance. It really does require some degree of social intimacy to feel comfortable commenting on another's smell, just as it requires some social intimacy to say that another person looks nice. If you come off at all as distant or cool, then others would probably be reluctant to say anything.

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

I really only get compliments (and sometimes other than compliments) from my wife.

I think it depends on 2 things - whether people can smell you, and what kind of people you spend time around. Unless I hug someone (and I rarely do that at work) they probably don't get close enough to smell me at all. Even if they could, most of the women I see on a regular basis would probably think it's inappropriate to tell me I smell good, and the guys just wouldn't do it.

If I spent time around a more artsy or bohemian crowd, maybe that would be different. Then again, maybe I smell like crap, and my wife is just being nice ;-)

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

There are many factors.
Age, the younger you and the more male the less the compliments you will get. If said male is in a metoropolitan city, then it will be almost non-existent. People are busy and weary of communicating with strangers.

If I were a feeble lady (I am a 6 foot guy) I would think twice about telling a stranger on the street of Chicago or NY that he smells good. But thats the sad part of society we live in.

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

I have received perhaps one or two compliments in about 20 years of wearing fragrance. My impression is that complimenting others (especially men, especially strangers) on how they smell is not very common in my country and may be perceived as weird and/or creepy.

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

Firstly, you have to be wearing something compliment-worthy. Consider your wardrobe.

Secondly, wear more.

Two shots to each pectoral muscle. Two shots to the middle of the chest. Two shots to each side of the neck. Two shots to the crook of each elbow.

I dont know which fragrances are compliment-worthy, please help me out.
I have :
CK Eternity, Burberry Brit, David Beckham Instinct, Davidoff GoodLife , Paco Rabanne 1 million (Dont wear the last one, blind buy mistake)
I finished a few bottles but no compliments from those : Cool water, Joop Homme,..

I am wearing Brit on a daily basis in university now. I think if I apply that much I will get kicked out of the lecture hall lol.
I do 2 on the chest, 1 on torso, 1 each side of the neck 1 to each elbow crook, 1 to each wrist, one back of the neck for scent trail.

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

I think there are two situations that present themselves:

1. Generally, I receive compliments from co-workers that understand my interests in fragrances and truly like what I'm wearing that day.
2. A stranger might feel that this type of compliment may be a bit too presumptuous and won't voice their opinion without some careful evaluations. If they compliment, they may also want to know what you're wearing for the sake of future investigation for a self purchase or perhaps something for a spouse or partner.

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

First and foremost it is a comfort level thing. I elicit many compliments from my coworkers on a near daily basis. However, we know each other and it is an easy conversation to have. Going up to a stranger just to tell them they smell nice is questionable to most people. Second it is a setting thing. You are much more likely to have someone come up to you at a party or a bar versus shopping or out on the street. When the mood is jovial, the barrier breaks a little. Thirdly, they have to actually believe you smell good!

Re: Why do I never get any compliments?

My idea is that compliments come in many different forms and not always verbal. Are you approachable ? Are you wearing a nice scent that does well in the specific season ? Or you wearing a very average scent ?