Studies
show that ten to fifteen percent of all women who live in the
United States have never had an orgasm. They also show that
thirty five percent of women will never have an orgasm from
sexual intercourse alone. This often leads many couples feeling
that they are somehow inadequate or dysfunctional when it comes
to having a satisfying sex life.

What
Is A Female Orgasm

What
makes a woman's orgasm unique is the way that it occurs and
how she is able to achieve it. During sexual arousal, a woman's
vaginal area fills with blood.

Muscles
contract, physical tension builds and when her orgasm is finally unleashed,
the tension, muscles and blood all course through her body in waves
of pleasure. Her pelvic floor muscles contract and the uterus pulls
in fluid in case sperm is there so that it can be sucked in and given
a chance to create life.

During
the stage of arousal a woman's vaginal lips (the labia minora) will
swell and spread apart. Her clitoris, like the penis of a male, fills
with blood and becomes erect. It becomes sensitive to touch and protrudes
from beneath it's protective hood. Some women find that their nipples
become erect, however this is not the case with all women and just
because her nipples may not be erect, does not mean that she is not
sexually aroused. During arousal a woman's breathing and blood pressure
will increase. Her face will become flushed and vaginal juices will
begin to flow, lubricating her vagina for the possibility of penetration.

There
are no studies that have been able to demonstrate how all
women are able to neurologically build to an orgasm. However,
we do know that the muscles in a woman's pelvic floor (AKA
PC muscles) will contract. As pleasure radiates through her
body sometimes there is a desire to moan or deeply exhale.
Others however, may find a quiet peace with no sound at all.
There are many reactions to orgasms including laughing, crying
and even combinations of the two. Women do not always experience
orgasms the same way and can have some that are more deeply
felt over others.

Variations
of the pleasure and sensation of a female orgasm can depend
on many factors such as mood, type of stimulation, intensity
of stimulation, hormone levels, sobriety, fatigue, and partner.

If you
want to help a woman have an orgasm, what I can suggest is
to never neglect the clitoris. For those men reading this,
take a moment to think of what it would be like to try and
masturbate without touching the head of your penis. It is
a real bummer to think about isn't it? After all, that is
the most sensitive part and what feels best.

Well,
that is the equivalent to the clitoris gentlemen and if you
think that she is going to have an orgasm by gspot stimulation
by itself I am going to tell you that honestly, unless she
is very stimulated and has a sensitive gspot, it is a long
shot. I am not saying it is not possible with the right intensity,
stimulation and positioning but I am being very honest when
I say that most women will not climax without her clitoris
being stimulated in some way.

There are of course sexual
positions that allow for her or you to rub against her clitoris
and even manually stimulate it during sexual intercourse. We of
course are also big advocates of vibrating rings as they accomplish
stimulating the clitoris while making a man feel firmer and more
engorged during sex which is a win win situation. There are also
vibrating cockrings that have a second
ring that holds the testicles away from your body helping men
to last longer.

If
you are interested in learning more about the eight types of orgasms
that a woman can have and specific tips on how to achieve them,
make sure to the check out my book The
Art of Female Ejaculation as there is a great deal of
helpful techniques within it.

How
Can You Tell If She Faked An Orgasm?

The
truth is that women are so good at faking orgasms you will never
really know. Many males out there will swear that they would be
able to tell, but let me assure you even the best lovers can be
fooled. Women can moan, squeeze their Kegel muscles to mimic an
orgasm and even bear down at push. To learn more see - Why
Women Fake Orgasms