To be Happy, Let Go!

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”– Deborah Reber

For most people, happiness is achieved by gaining something. It could be a reward, an achievement, a recognition, a relationship, or a pleasant experience. Some of us fail to realize that becoming happy may also mean letting go of things, or to some extent, even people.

Sometimes, it is difficult for us to detach ourselves from people especially if we’ve invested in them, and treated them as friends and family. However in reality, there are people who, instead of being grateful that they are valued and cared for, take advantage of the kindness of others.

It is painful and not easy to let go especially if we care about the person, but this is one thing that we need to learn in order to be happy.

We should set the standard of how we like people to treat us. If we allow them to take advantage of us, they will continue to do so. But if we set boundaries, they will learn to respect us.

Don’t be afraid to be honest and let people know how you feel about them. Don’t be shy to say “No” when you feel that you’re being used and abused. Don’t be scared to lose people in your life if you know in your heart that they do not value you or respect you as a person. You owe it to yourself to not allow other people to drag you down.

Remember that forgiving and understanding others do not mean that we have to tolerate their behavior. If you want to be happy, distance yourself from the people who makes you feel sad. You may be surprised how liberating it will make you feel.

You are absolutely correct and this is a valuable information. As you have written ,we should learn to say “NO” but what to do when a person asks for our help. I just can’t easily say “ NO ” . I try to indirectly give a hint that I can’t do this or that thing as I have a bad habit of saying “ yes”. If you have any tips, please share.

Sometimes, helping others may not necessarily doing things for them but allowing them to do it by themselves and learn in the process. As the saying goes, “Don’t give them fish. Teach them how to fish.”
If you don’t want to do things for others because you disagree with it, or it compromises your values or beliefs, just say “Sorry, I can’t do it. I am not comfortable doing it.” You don’t owe them any explanation. And if they care for you, they would understand.

Thank you Steve. This happened to me just recently. At first, I was kind of second-guessing and analyzing myself if I was not understanding or patient enough but after deep and thorough thinking, I realized that I am doing the right thing in protecting myself and family from being taken advantage of. It pains me because I care for the person, but I know I have to do the right thing. Hopefully, she’ll learn from this experience too.

I’m sorry you had to experience that, Nina. But it is not only what the doctors and Psychologists tell us to do, it is a commandment from God to be careful of the company we keep. Some relationships are just toxic for us and need to be cut away…(1 Cor. 15:33).Yes, hopefully she will learn and be reconciled to you in a healthier manner…

Hello Nina!
What a beautiful post that I feel is heartfelt and honest.
You have touched on a very important issue and yes, it’s great advice to say no in order to protect ourselves. It can be when we are unable to tolerate negativity too especially if we are aiming to become more positive in our outlook.
A lovely post Nina. Thank you 💐🌟

Thank you Di. You said it perfectly- it is to protect ourselves. We can’t be positive if we’re keeping inside us negative feelings toward others…it’s always best to let them know, compromise and come up with agreeable win-win solutions or let go.

Yes, that’s it Nina. As well as constantly being around negative people. They say to move forward we need to surround ourselves with uplifting people… of course that’s not always possible in some places but who we choose to ‘let in’ at least we decide that.
A great post for a great discussion Nina 🌟🌟

True 🙂 and to learn one has to give himself/herself some solitary space . If you love the person ,it is ok if you can’t permanently let go ( and this is the thing that stresses us the most , leaving or quitting something permanently ) , try temporary basis . Give yourself a small break and time to yourself , if it works out in the small run we can always go for the long run too 🙂

How To Be Happy?

#1- Make face in front of the mirror...
#2- Do or say something nice for others #3- Pray for yourself, for the people you love, and the people who do not like you
#4- Forgive and ask for forgiveness...
#5- Have someone to love, and do something you love...

Quotable Quote!

"There are two ways to live: you can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle."- Albert Einstein