I fully agree with your explanations. They are good. But then the realizations of your templates aren't always as pretty as a real aqua Interface. In my opinion your templates should base a little bit more on Apple's Aqua Interface Design Guidelines.

There are other FileMaker Templates that I personally find have better design implementations.

Have a look here:
http://homepage.mac.com/jhobegi/Menu4.html
http://homepage.mac.com/jhobegi/.Pictures/aqua3.jpg