Friday, March 25, 2011

I saw an Oprah show awhile back and it got me thinking. She was talking about how she found out she had a sister and how long this sister knew that she was OPRAH'S SISTER and never told the press. Oprah was talking about how this meant a lot to her. How she had been burned by friends and family members in the past. All I could think is HOW SAD IS THAT!

I can't imagine rat-finking out my friends or family. Famous or not famous, how do you do that? When I have a friend I have their back (so to speak).... I don't take my friendships lightly. I may be so busy that I don't get to spend near the amount of time with my friends that I like to but I most definitely value my friendship with them.

True friends don't rat-fink. I have a couple friends who are in the public eye and I could never dream in a million years of putting anything personal out there about them. EVER.. EVER.. EVER.. No matter what.. NEVER. Anytime I even mention their name or anyone in their families name I ASK FIRST to make sure it is something I can share. AND are you ok with how I worded things? It isn't because I want to slant something one way or another, I say what "I" feel or I don't post it BUT just because I'm excited about something doesn't mean they want it shared on my soapbox!

This goes for family and friends who aren't concerned about the media being alerted every time they bend over and have cellulite. It's just common courtesy.

When I saw Oprah talking about this it just made me so sad. Not just for her but for everyone who has had this issue. Some say "that is the price of fame".... Well, maybe the media hounds is the price of fame.....BUT your own family and friends sailing you down the river for a gossip column. Really?

Makes you think....... As a person NOT in the lime-lite I am careful about who I am friends with. For multiple reasons. I think we all are. Everyone wants someone they can trust to share personal things with. Everyone wants someone who is fun loving and brings us up instead of down.

I've met people that I've thought, wow you may be good at what you do and/or popular but I would never want to "hang out" with you or be your friend. On the flip side, I've met people who I INSTANTLY clicked with. I knew within a few minutes that this person has a beautiful spirit.

Can you imagine being in a situation where you have to wonder is this person really my friend? Do they just want something from me? Are they going to find out something personal and sail me down the river?

Breaks my heart!

I was doing 100 things about me on twitter and friendship was one thing I commented about myself....... it brought to mind the Oprah show and here I am spilling what is on my mind to you!

What do you think? What kind of friend are you? Have you had this happen to you before?

Inquiring minds want to know..... No not THE INQUIRER....just Momma on her soapbox. =)

3 comments:

What kind of friend am I? I am YOUR friend, that's what! Yeah, I've had people try to be friends simply for what they could get from me - NOT fun. I'm learning the truth behind the 90 day rule - after 90 days (3 months), the real person comes out because that's about as long as someone can put up a front! I am glad you stayed real 'cause I sure likes ya!!

I read the book Same Kind of Different As Me last year and one of the main people in the book said, "When I become a friend, I become a friend for life. It is either all or nothing." (or something like that. I can't find my book right now.) Anyways, that's how I feel about my friends. There is no part-time friendships for me. It's either all or nothing. Or as we Texans like to say, it's all or nuthin! ;-)

Friendship is a precious gift that we often take forgranted. To me, friends are the family members we choose to have.

EXCUSE ME?? What kind of friend are YOU? You go off to Maui, don't post pictures here & don't tell stories about sand and water to those of us earthbound or landlocked. What kind of friend does that??? It is cruel and unusual punishment and I, for one, am not going to take it. I shall petition the blog gods and ask you be banished to your room until you can play nice and post another post for us.