7. Celebrate at your own party. If you’re in the kitchen at 9:00 folding phyllo dough into bolero jackets and fezzes, stuffed with a 19-spice Moroccan fandango, you’re ruining your own party. Make most things ahead; have just a little last-minute assembly. That way, you can be a guest at your own shindig. That’s a modern miracle: good friends, good food and time to enjoy them.