This what you wrote I believe might be my exact thoughts and experiences. Reading this has helped me alot. I feel like recently I have been struggling with the fact that I used to escort and Ive been so confused as to why I dont feel much shame either..I mean Im not proud of it I guess but Ive always been curious about the type of lifestyle, and business. It definetly is a different world and theres can be some danger going along with it but I think maybe thats the reason I was so concerned while doing it.

Anyways, while I was escorting I was going thru a stage I guess but it taught me alot of new, different things and perspectives that u could only learn from doing something that alot of people consider degrading and what not but really its an experience and even taught me to be alot more comfortable with my sexuality.

The only reason I stopped was because it got to be extremely difficult trying to keep secret from this guy I had gotten to know for quite some time once we started getting serious. However, I dont think I could bring myself to letting him in on my secret? hmmm it would be great if I could get a reply back if u ever told your boyfriend..not necessary but interesting!

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RE: I used to be an escort.

I just came across this blog, and just wanted to give my insight on it, even with no expierience. People have and use sex for there own satisfaction, regardless if it is for money, being in a relationship, married, or just to have fun (one night stands, ect ..). If the individuals are consenting to it, nobody is getting hurt, there is an agreement, everything is perfectly normal with no problem, and everyone is happy with it, there shouldn't be an issue.
When your having sex for your own satisfaction needs whatever it may be, why is it that it is looked down upon in society to do it for money? If you choose to do it for money, it is satisfying you in your needs, and it serving something for your life at that time, what is the issue? For example if you are horny ( and not an escort) you went to a bar met a guy, brought him home and slept with him, that right there is just an example of you doing something to please yourself. Regardless of what aspect it is.
In regards to escorts ruining marriages, remember **PEOPLE LIE ALL THE TIME** It's inevitable. An escort is not a detective. When you choose to trust and believe someone, you cannot stop them from doing whatever they want to do. In the end they are there own person. If this world was lived in with no money, (minus everything that would come with it, where talking about the sex aspect) there are people would still sleep with different individuals for just there own personal satisfaction.
REGARDLESS IF IT IS FOR LOVE OR NOT.
Not everybodys path walks in a straight line, things do happen and people do change there are circumstances. Even if you choose to sleep with ONE MAN when you are married, and have a family. Things can possibly change, he might not be in love with you(vice versa) and you guys choose to go your seperate ways and find new people. You are sharing yourself with more then one individual. I don't condone NOT having respect for yourself or your body, but if everything is done in a healthy right safe manner, there shouldn't be an issue. There are ALOT of jobs out there that arn't healthy for you, that do put your life at risk. It's all the same IDEA but just a different aspect on things. Escorting is focusing on the sexual aspect of life, and every other job focuses on what it needs to focus on in life. All I AM SAYING IS NO ONE IS TO JUDGE. (This is how I view things in society's world , not in gods way)
If your going into the religious part on things, if you have already had sex before your married, you have absaloutley NO RIGHT to judge an escort.
Because all escorts and even pimps are fornicators. Also the couples who just "live together" according to the Bible, are committing the same sin that an escort commits. Singles who "make love" fall into the exact same category. So if you truly want to judge just READ THE BIBLE then think twice. Remember in gods eyes NO SIN IS GREATER THEN ANOTHER.
God hates sin but ... He loves the sinner.

**** Also adding to the top post *****
Being said THATS JUST MY PERSPECTIVE ON SOCIETYS / JOB BUSINESS
ASPECT ON THINGS. AND SOME OF MY RELIGIOUS VIEWS ON THINGS ASWELL. If an escort chooses to make a buisness out of herself / himself that is THEIR CHOICE . They have there own reasons behind it.
In life CHEATING, STEALING, AND LYING IN GENERAL , IN SELFISHNESS, OR TO GAIN SOMETHING OUT OF IT IS NEVER EVER THE RIGHT WAY.NOT CARING ABOUT HOW YOUR HURTING OTHER PEOPLE IS NEVER THE RIGHT WAY.

You know, if you want to say prostitutes and escorts are the same, that's on you. Just know you insult those of us who are legit escorts who don't spread our legs for cash. Next time use the proper term, you were a whore, nothing wrong with being a whore but don't try to clean it up or confuse people by calling yourself an escort which you clearly were not.
Sincerely,
A real Escort
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Just found this old post. Anyhow, I used to know a guy who did some enforcement work for a drug dealer. It was just a JOB. He was a nice guy, funny, too. I knew another guy who sold drugs. He sold to parents who used money that should have gone to their kids, who were in a decrepit state. It was just a job and he never forced anyone to buy drugs. To the person who said escorting was just a job, I say BS. Anything you do for money is just a job, but not all jobs should be done. Society has dictated that prostitution is illegal and wrong. As a result, society condemns this young woman. She condemns society for its views and actions and society returns the favor. Just the way it is. As to the happily married escort. I am glad you are happy and married, and happily. Still, you are a societal outcast. If you are so proud, go tell your kids teacher's and parents of their friends about your career. I'm sure you would not want your kids hanging out with my two acquaintances described above. Why not give those people the choice? Being a whore is a choice, it is a bad one. To the originator of this post, if you are so proud of it, tell prospective employers, lovers, friends, etc. Let them decide how to act. If they reject you, good riddance to them. If you keep it to yourself, then you are a hypocrite, no make that a self righteous, deceitful one. Besides, the more you can convince people of how great prostitution is, the lower the stigma. be the champion of your profession and change society.

I used to be an escort for a couple of years. I met this amazing man last year and now I am married to him. For the obvious reasons, I could not tell him that I used to sleep with men for money. But he eventually found out soon after our marriage. Maybe, part of me wanted him to find out. I wanted a marriage where I did not have to feel bad about what I used to be. He told me that I had ruined his life, that I should have told him before our marriage. I could not afford to lose him because of what I used to do. I wanted a life where I can be happy. It's not that I was not happy before that. It was different. I wanted a man, a partner, a lover for life.
Perhaps, I should have told him before our marriage. Sometimes the hurt and confusion I see in his eyes, it's too much for me. I have even considered leaving him for his happiness. He is struggling to forgive me and get past all these. I know he loves me still, he assured me of that. But he told me many times to leave him. I could not do that.I can't imagine a life without him now. I feel so insecure. Each time, he speaks to a woman, an attractive woman, I get worried. I am even having nightmares where I lose him to another woman.
This marriage has been like a roller-coaster. For a day we are so perfect and the next my past comes in and we argue. I am getting used to him saying some things that really hurts.
I do not know what the future holds for me, this marriage. I am just praying that this marriage works and maybe some day my husband will let go of all this that he is feeling and accept my love for him.