When it comes to
pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man's native tongue," writes
clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. in She Comes First, a straightforward, intimate, and exuberant guide to
cunnilingus. Kerner first explored "the oral caress" as a way of compensating for his "sexual inadequacies," and quickly
learned that women not only welcomed but often preferred "the way of the tongue," reaching orgasm more consistently than
through intercourse. Kerner educates readers about the clitoris, "the powerhouse of pleasure," with 18 parts and 8,000
nerve endings (twice as many as the penis) and describes female sexual response from "foreplay" through "coreplay" to
"moreplay." A large part of the book is a graphic, detailed primer on "mouth music," including best positions,
step-by-step techniques (illustrated), and tips for tongue and fingers. How long should this last? Until the woman has
an orgasm or many, says Kerner, and "melts blissfully before your eyes." "The vast majority of women complain about guys
who don't like to do it, don't know how to do it, or simply don't do it nearly enough," writes Kerner. This book will
change that. Women: Buy it for your partner! --Joan Price --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

Dispelling the widely held myth of genital penetration as the apogee of sexual pleasure, Kerner, who holds a doctorate
in clinical sexology, offers this witty, well-researched manual for "consistently leading women to orgasm" through
cunnilingus. Loaded with practical anatomical information (the clitoris has 18 distinct parts, and more nerve fibers
than any other part of the human body) and graphic line drawings, the book also touches on the less mechanical, more
psychological aspects of oral sex, including the three assurances every woman needs from her lover to feel
comfortable:

(1) "you enjoy it as much as she does";

(2) "there's no rush"; and

(3)
"Her scent is provocative, her taste powerful: it all emanates from the same beautiful essence."

Since
studies show the average woman takes about 20 minutes to reach her first orgasm during a typical sex session, while men
take a mere four minutes, Kerner advises men to delay their own climax and make oral sex "coreplay" ("the substantive
phase in which sexual tension builds, culminates and then releases itself through the female orgasm"), instead of
foreplay. Breaking down six stages of coreplay, from the "first kiss" to orgasm, Kerner speaks to both beginners and
more seasoned lovers. His candor concerning his own bout with sexual dysfunction adds a compassionate tone and
credibility to this decidedly pro-female methodology.