Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

Road Block

I think the weekends are the worst for me. I'm living out of a suitcase at my parents' house, and, while I am so thankful that I have a place to go during this separation, I get infuriated because I still feel that I am dependent on others right now.

I'm trying to stay busy. I have so much going for me right now. I have a fellowship interview out of state on Tuesday, which is an enormous accomplishment for me, so I am trying to focus on preparing for that and celebrating the accomplishment of even getting an interview.

I'm battling a lot of negative thoughts in my head, though, still. I'm angry that he will be going to the wedding of our close friends tonight, and I will not be there. It wouldn't be a good time for me anyways, but I am still angry for being in this situation where I will miss it.

I ran into the colleague that I ended up developing a very close and intimate friendship with during the initial months of the ongoing separation with my husband, who I regretfully kissed. I told my husband about it upon the advice of my therapist when we were trying to patch up the marriage (this is before my therapist met him at a joint counseling session and has since, advised me to only be around him in the company of others for my own safety) and he uses it against me every time I have seen him.

Anyways, seeing this colleague again brought up a lot of feelings for me as well. I miss talking to him on a daily basis (even though we both agreed that it was the best thing considering my current situation and he is trying to patch up his on and off again relationship with a girlfriend). And, so, now I am feeling guilty for starting that friendship with him, guilty for feeling so attached, angry that I DO miss this guy, and angry that I'm even in this situation.

Where are my boundaries? Why do I feel so good one day, and then the next day, I am feeling so low?

It's not a matter of me wanting to be in contact with my husband-I feel like I am strong in that regard-it's just the other frustrations, negative self-talking, and utter need for distractions for me.

I know exactly how you feel. Once I got out of my rollercoaster marriage I expected the ups and down to stop immediately but it didn't. It's almost like we are so conditioned to this kind of manic lifestyle of ups and downs that it can take quite a while for that feeling to leave. The time after we leave an abusive relationship (or any long-term rela) is called Crazy Time. (there's a great book with the same title and very helpful)

It will take a lot of time and effort for those negative feelings to go away and for you to feel...recovered and peaceful. It will happen, it does take time and lots of self love.

It sounds like you have some good things going on for you...the interview, your age, supportive parents. Many times for me, post-divorce and post abuse, I have to remind myself of the things I have rather than the things I don't.

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