Good Kisses

Dear Emily,

How important is a guy’s ability to deliver a kiss to you? If a guy kisses really well, does that make up for other things he might not do as well in? As importantly, can a guy who struggles to deliver the kiss ever make it up somewhere else?

Thanks,
Jeff
Dublin, CA

Dear Jeff,

The kiss, especially the first kiss, is a very important barometer for women. Often, this first kiss is an indicator if they’ll want to move the relationship to the next level of intimacy. So, in short, yes it is important. But there are things you can do to ensure the first kiss, and the many kisses afterwards are up to muster. First, you can ask your partner to kiss you the way she’d like to be kissed. Then switch! You kiss her the way you like to be kissed. Now that you’ve both demonstrated what you like, you can learn from these instructions and implement ASAP.

As for your second questions, “can a guy who struggles to deliver the kiss, make it up somewhere else,” I’m afraid this is a case by case basis. But if kissing is like a dance and if you can figure out how to flow together with your kisses, everything else will fall into place.