Love can be the ever-present context within which we breathe, move, and relate to life. Love can change into Lovingness, an energy that one has become. Thus, it becomes a constant experience of Reality, with healing, compassion and joy as its main modes.

Happy Anniversary! Best wishes to you and your wife, and the kids! I am just a couple of years behind you! It is not very often folks can boost a few decades of marriage! Life is good, and the grass is greenest on my side of the fence! Again, Congrats! Best, SSK

Not all people have partners. I do think that saying that "Show me a persons choice for life partner and I will show you who that person is" is a bridge to far. I love reading your blog and I greatly respect most of what you say but I believe that this comment contains some self delusion. It also shows some lack of love because as jung said where there is love there is no will to power.

I have a query really, not a comment. I've been searching your past posts for one on advice you gave when you were a psychologist at a college/university. It was advice on finding the best partner. At the time I forwarded the link to each on my university enrolled boys, but the link failed. The boys are still in school and I'd still really like to offer a bit of advice in this regard, but cannot find the post.

You see, I have a very good relationship with my wife, but I'm not sure I can express why or even if I could achieve the same success again, but I believe it has made a wonderful difference in my life. It was very good advice to all at a challenging time of life. I hope each of them can make excellent choices in a partner.

Dr. Brett: I am impressed, but not surprised, that a thinking, quantitative-minded individual such as yourself (or the way I perceive you) can have a balance of feeling and qualitative philosophies of life.

Perhaps it is your psychology background, lessons as a trader, who you are, or a combination of all three that allow you to see that there are some things, such as emotion, that are best separated from science -- from quantification, categorization, or measurement.

"The emotions aren't always immediately subject to reason, but they are always immediately subject to action." ~ William James

About Me

Author of The Psychology of Trading (Wiley, 2003), Enhancing Trader Performance (Wiley, 2006), and The Daily Trading Coach (Wiley, 2009) with an interest in using historical patterns in markets to find a trading edge. I am also interested in performance enhancement among traders, drawing upon research from expert performers in various fields. I took a leave from blogging starting May, 2010 due to my role at a global macro hedge fund. Blogging resumed in February, 2014, along with regular posting to Twitter and StockTwits (@steenbab).