Fano:FTA: "The study, conducted by two psychology professors at the Universities of Mississippi and Tennessee, purports to demonstrate that the way you lose your virginity "is so salient that it is related to future sexual satisfaction and functioning."

So, did their study revolve around "daddy says I'm the best" and "squeal like a pig"?

I hope the coont hole I saved myself for can sleep at night after, you know, pretending she didn't have a husband and then, you know, revealing she did have a husband and, you know, using him for the reason she had to break up with me, you know, after I told her how: being a catholic dude - the first time was special, you know.

/may be a little bitter @ the girl//may have gained 100lbs in protest///may be a little bitter @ the loss of one's eternal soul.////Is happy he will be teaching his sons to... well, you don't want to know

18, freshman year. Passed out drunk in some chick's bed at an apartment party, woke to a bj. Lost focus sometime around when she started bouncing up and down on me. I remember the thought- 'Yay! Sex! Finally' I remember she was thick and blonde and had huge boobs. When I woke in the am, she was gone. I have no idea what her name was.

For one thing, it ignores people whose first sexual encounter involved "physical force," which is, unfortunately, a not insignificant portion of the population. (Twelve people were excluded from the study because their first sexual encounter was rape.) It also defines virginity loss in a way that leaves out most lesbians and gay men, since the participants "needed to have had heterosexual intercourse to be eligible."

I can't stand people who throw their own agenda into their misunderstanding of how science works. Not that this study was necessarily great, but when you're trying to see the effects of some action on a person's future, you throw certain things, SUCH AS RAPE, out of the sample for obvious reasons. To say that they should have included rape victims is absolutely ludicrous. And the study was about heterosexual sex so as to not complicate matters (any more than they already are). So naturally the author tries to turn it into "these people's voices are aren't being heard!" sort of thing.

I used to pester and gawk at this beatiful black girl in my neighborhood for years. I was 12 and she was several years older and used to tease me in front of everyone about how I would never get any so quit looking. Then one day, I guess she just needed some dick, she came at me and I lost mine in my playhouse (a bizzarre miniature version of our actual house made from leftover materials) with her. She told me never to tell anyone or I wouldn't get it again. Yeah, about that. lol

I remember thinking "THIS is what all the fuss is about? Really?". About that time it was over, a minute or two total I'd say, and he was extremely pleased with himself. Wanted to know if it was good for me.

God it was so farking stupid, but I didn't know shiat from shiat. Complete waste of time and foreplay.

I had a friend who finally screwed some fat chick in his senior year in high school. His reaction, "I'm glad I got that over with". He later joined the coast guard, not that there's anything wrong with that.

I kind of figured that's why they didn't include the "rape ones". Plenty of studies have already been done on that.

It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

Christian Bale:For one thing, it ignores people whose first sexual encounter involved "physical force," which is, unfortunately, a not insignificant portion of the population. (Twelve people were excluded from the study because their first sexual encounter was rape.) It also defines virginity loss in a way that leaves out most lesbians and gay men, since the participants "needed to have had heterosexual intercourse to be eligible."

I can't stand people who throw their own agenda into their misunderstanding of how science works. Not that this study was necessarily great, but when you're trying to see the effects of some action on a person's future, you throw certain things, SUCH AS RAPE, out of the sample for obvious reasons. To say that they should have included rape victims is absolutely ludicrous. And the study was about heterosexual sex so as to not complicate matters (any more than they already are). So naturally the author tries to turn it into "these people's voices are aren't being heard!" sort of thing.

sxacho:I had a friend who finally screwed some fat chick in his senior year in high school. His reaction, "I'm glad I got that over with". He later joined the coast guard, not that there's anything wrong with that.

cuzsis:It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.

Genevieve Marie:cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.

Unfortunately, it's not exactly easy to do a study of people like you're describing. By definition, it would take years to come to any sort of conclusion, as you would have to follow the same people for years. But you know that, I'm sure.

Genevieve Marie:cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.

Well said, I didn't RTFA or anything but really, what are they trying to prove?

aaronius:Genevieve Marie: cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.

Unfortunately, it's not exactly easy to do a study of people like you're describing. By definition, it would take years to come to any sort of conclusion, as you would have to follow the same people for years. But you know that, I'm sure.

I do. I understand why it would be challenging. I just also think it's the only way any research on this subject would be at all useful.

I mean, if you'd interviewed me a year after I lost my virginity, I would have still been pining for the guy I lost it to, because I was in love with him and he'd dumped me. It took a solid ten years of perspective to realize that part of the reason I thought I was in love with him was because I had to justify to myself the decision to have sex- and that a lot of the ideas I'd been raised with were screwy.

tinfoil-hat maggie:Well said, I didn't RTFA or anything but really, what are they trying to prove?

Probably that True Love Waits and OMG DON'T HAVE SEX THE WORLD WILL COME CRASHING DOWN AROUND YOU AND NO ONE WILL EVER LOVE YOU AGAIN.

Honestly, I think the idea that you're damaged or ruined by having sex screws up waaay more people than sex itself. Looking back when I was younger- I had a lot of sex. It was mostly highly enjoyable. The only stuff that really hurt at the time was people treating me as damaged because I'd chosen to have sex.

Genevieve Marie:aaronius: Genevieve Marie: cuzsis: It's funny people are complaining about the study having parameters. All studies do. And not every person is a fit for every study. If you tried to do that, there'd be all kinds of problems (funding for your exceedingly large participant base comes to mind quickly).

I just honestly can't see the value of a study on long term sexual satisfaction as related to the loss of virginity that only covers very young people who haven't had much time to enter into other relationships.

Unfortunately, it's not exactly easy to do a study of people like you're describing. By definition, it would take years to come to any sort of conclusion, as you would have to follow the same people for years. But you know that, I'm sure.

I do. I understand why it would be challenging. I just also think it's the only way any research on this subject would be at all useful.

I mean, if you'd interviewed me a year after I lost my virginity, I would have still been pining for the guy I lost it to, because I was in love with him and he'd dumped me. It took a solid ten years of perspective to realize that part of the reason I thought I was in love with him was because I had to justify to myself the decision to have sex- and that a lot of the ideas I'd been raised with were screwy.

Who knows, they may follow up with these people in a few years and see if anything has changed. Anything is possible.

I won't even get into replying to your second point, as I'm just not all that into sharing intimate life details anonymously with people online that I don't even know.