So You’re A Straight Guy Who Wants To Try Butt Stuff

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4. First of
all, your sexual orientation is not dictated by what you like
to do (or wear) in bed.

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There is no rule or checklist out there that determines your
sexual orientation by tallying up your turn-ons, your
favorite sex acts, or your underwear preferences. It’s aboutwho you’re sexually attracted to and how you identify,
says Kort, not what you’re sexually attracted to.

“Your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation, it just likes
pleasure,” says Kort. “There are also lots of gay men who
don’t like anal sex. That doesn’t make them any ‘less gay.’”

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7. There
are lots of ways to stimulate your prostate, but the experts
suggest starting slow and solo.

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Just like you probably got really good at masturbating before
you had sex with someone else, Kerner suggests getting
comfortable with this new sensation before trying it with a
partner. Kort also suggests doing some research and reading
to learn more about it first (he suggests Anal
Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin, PhD).

To start, you’ll probably just want to explore the area with
your fingers. So wash your hands, trim your fingernails, and
get some lube. Then, when you’re masturbating, first focus on
the perineum (the area between the anus and the scrotum, aka
your butt and your balls). Then focus on the anus, then the
anal entrance, and finally (when lubed up), you can insert a
finger into the rectum.

Once you’re comfortable with that sensation, you can try to
stimulate your prostate by reaching up and back with your
finger(s), explains Kerner, almost like you’re trying to
reach your belly button.

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8. After
that, you might want to try a butt plug or prostate massager.

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The sheer amount (and popularity) of sex toys specifically
designed for anal pleasure should help to reassure you that
this is a thing lots of people of all sexual
orientations are into.

Kerner suggests starting with a thin, silicone butt plug,
like this
one from Aneros. You
can also try a prostate massager, like this stainless steel
pure
wand from njoy.
There are also some vibrating options from Lelo, like the
Loki Wave, which
actually makes a “come here” motion when you turn it on.

There are obviously lots of different options, so spend some
time looking around and reading reviews if you’re not sure
what you want. And be prepared to spend a little more for a
really good quality toy. As Kerner says, “They’re a little
more expensive, but hey, you’re putting this up your
butt.”

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