Description

Fix deadlock between STM and throwTo

There was a lock-order reversal between lockTSO() and the TVar lock,
see Trac #15136 for the details.

It turns out we can fix this pretty easily by just deleting all the
locking code(!). The principle for unblocking a BlockedOnSTM thread
then becomes the same as for other kinds of blocking: if the TSO
belongs to this capability then we do it directly, otherwise we send a
message to the capability that owns the TSO. That is, a thread blocked
on STM is owned by its capability, as it should be.

The possible downside of this is that we might send multiple messages
to wake up a thread when the thread is on another capability. This is
safe, it's just not very efficient. I'll try to do some experiments
to see if this is a problem.