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Romance: Step 9

Abstract:

Romance is hard work. It does not come naturally for most of us. According to Webster’s dictionary, to romance is “to try to influence or curry favor with especially by lavishing personal attention, gifts, or flattery.” Romance is our way of saying to our wives that they are worth pursuing. It requires that we learn to treat our wives as men instead of boys. Most men mistake foreplay for romance, but there is a difference between the two. Foreplay means pursuing her body; romance means pursuing her as a person. Romance is about forethought, not foreplay. Most men brush off the notion of romance with the excuse, “I’m just not romantic.” But as Christian husbands, it’s not about what we aren’t; it’s about what she is. It’s part of our job description as husbands to romance our wives. Are you doing your job?

Reflection Questions:

Are you a student of your wife? What is your wife’s love language?

Distinguish between romance and foreplay. List several romantic examples that you can immediately implement.

Meditation verse:

He has taken me to the banquet hall, and his banner over me is love. (Song of Songs 2:4, NIV)

Jeff has been happily married to Jenny for 18 years and they have two daughters. He joined the staff of Trinity Bible Church of Richardson, Texas in 2001, and became its fifth Senior Pastor in 2005. You can follow Jeff's blog at www.jeffreyemiller.com.
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