tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394541577708014059.post1173871039742969802..comments2018-01-14T23:39:05.054-08:00Comments on It's who I am.: Who heals you?Hollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02265848647559516063noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1394541577708014059.post-12583365307855847622017-06-17T06:27:16.961-07:002017-06-17T06:27:16.961-07:00Ugh. Holly, I&#39;m in tears. For so many reasons....Ugh. Holly, I&#39;m in tears. For so many reasons. One, my heart breaks for him going through this change (and you). Two, he has the best friends IN THE WORLD! Three, He has the best Momma IN THE WORLD. As I read this I realized a few things. Our Jake is much more affected than Parker which is both a blessing and a curse depending on the moment. LOL. He is 24, non verbal (he has maybe 5 words, the rest is signing or just plain Mom and Dad intuition), His receptive language is super high compared to expressive. He perseverates on A LOT of things as most of our kiddos do. As he&#39;s gotten older though transition and new situations are so much easier for him. As long as he is told in advance what is happening he does well. We can&#39;t tell him too early about things he loves though like,&quot;time to take a shower&quot;, or we are going out to eat tonight&quot;. etc. Because he is in the car before you know it. But where we are sort of lucky for lack of a better term is, he doesn&#39;t grasp larger scale things, i.e. When 3 of his grandparents pased away over the years. He just doesn&#39;t seem to grasp any or it. Therefore it doesn&#39;t affect him like it may others. The graduation from HS at age 21 was a bit of a transition, but he went right into an adult Day program which to him is a lot like &quot;school&quot;. So this was pretty smooth for him and us. As long as he has his favorite few things, and electronics, he is a happy camper. It wasn&#39;t always this way though. I believe it does get better with age. We always say Jake has the life, not a care in the world for the most part. We should all be so lucky. We have great support as well. But unlike Parker, he doesn&#39;t have friends. Actually this year was the first time ever he has had a friend! At adult day care he has a friend a little older than him who is also non verbal and also has an IPAD, also likes puzzles, etc. They even sit together in the big bean bag sac chair! So happy about that! But other than that he entertains himself. So I pray for you for strength and peace as you all go through this major adjustment. One day at a time! You will persevere I am positive of that! Hugs and love coming your way!a62cf478-5360-11e7-957a-e3def8643bd2https://openid.aol.com/opaque/a62cf478-5360-11e7-957a-e3def8643bd2noreply@blogger.com