Retrograde Ejaculation, Manual Stimulation & More

holding in sperm

I recently read about an ancient Taoist art that uses retrograde ejaculation as a method for making intercourse last longer. After some experiences, I discovered that I can do it also. As it doesn't seem natural to me, I want to know if there are any known drawbacks of this technique.

Thanks,Mark

Retrograde ejaculation is a condition that won't cause you any harm because the sperm and semen land in the bladder and are released the next time you urinate. But keep in mind that Retrograde ejaculation occurs when the bladder neck or internal sphincter is not functioning properly.

A closed bladder neck pushes the sperm to flow out of the urethra. If the internal sphincter doesn't close tightly enough, the sperm and semen can either travel out of the urethra or slide back into your bladder. As well, retrograde ejaculation may be a side effect of certain prescription drugs.

Donald Zimmer

two virgins, no pain

Me and my girlfriend are both virgins and I was wondering: when we have sex, will it hurt for her since it's her first time? I have heard all kind of stuff about this and you seem to be the best guy to ask about this.

Thanks for your help,Victor

Chances are that your girlfriend will experience some pain or discomfort, but if you take the appropriate amount of time to excite her with foreplay and make sure that she's adequately lubricated, the pain can be minimal.

As well, when you penetrate her, do so with caution. Pay attention to her reaction and discuss the use of protection to guard against both pregnancy and STD beforehand. Even virgins can get STDs.

Donald Zimmer

uptight wife

When my wife and I have sex, I am always the creative one. Sometimes when she stimulates my penis with her hand, I ask her to add a little BenGay to the lotion. This puts a little fire in the play. Usually she will enjoy this and start role-playing.

Other times she makes me feel abnormal for making such a request and tells me I am the only man in the world that would like that (the only reason we use BenGay is that I do not know of a love potion with the same sensation). I do not need to have BenGay, it's just that it would be too easy for her to turn the event into a humdrum one. Do other men find this kind of playing around interesting or is it just me?

On another subject, I have asked my wife to stimulate my prostrate gland. The answer was an absolute "no!" I can live with that, but she went a step further and said that my request was absurd because no female would do such a thing. Donald Zimmer, if she refuses, so be it, but can you assure her that this is a practice done by some couples and that her husband is not nuts for asking this?

Jim

Because BenGay contains menthol, it provides a very stimulating and intense feeling that causes the nerves to pulsate. Not to mention, the cooling air also adds an aura of stimulation. No, Jim, you are not alone in your request.

As for stimulation of your prostate gland — that is the male equivalent of a woman's G-spot, so yes, you are absolutely normal in your request, and more and more men are getting in tune with their bodies. Many couples engage in such play, and if your wife would give it a chance, she may just be pleasantly surprised by the results. For more on the male G-spot, read this article.