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At 8pm I passed stbx right outside of my house on the hwy. At the same time he sent my friend a text (she is staying with me for a month or two).

He said, please explain to me why BS is being so uncooperative with me. I think a 30 min sit down and we can have all resolved. What she is doing now is adding fuel to a fire.

-Note- he has a protection order. We have not spoken. I can tell that he does not like child exchange at the Sherriffs office and they have now moved me into a separate room because he always tries talking to me. Outside of that, I have nothing to do with him.

2DS, 2DD
BS-Me 32
WH-Him 43
DDay-All 14 years of our relationship. 3PA's, 3 one night stands, and 6 EA's and still counting as we go. Gained enough strength to face it 11/2012

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Posts: 101 | Registered: May 2013 | From: United States

SBB♀ 35229Member # 35229

Posted: 9:41 AM, September 9th (Monday), 2013

Crickets.

Take a photo whenever you see him or his vehicle near your home. Get a screen shot of the text and send it all to your L.

Document it all and send it to your L. If you can afford one I would seriously consider a PI to track him in case he is stalking you. It is creepy that he knew where you were and who you were with just by passing you on a highway.

"Adding fuel to a fire" coming from someone with an PO against them sounds too much like a threat for my liking.

Why the fuck are they moving you to another room instead of arresting him for breaching the PO by trying to talk to you?

Outside of that, I have nothing to do with him.

You keep doing just that.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5844 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia

Ashland13♀ 38378Member # 38378

Posted: 1:26 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013

My first reaction is that he sounds kind of like a bully who wants to deflect attention away from himself.

These are tactics that Perv uses to get me to try to be a doormat.

He may also be holding onto a grievance about the protection order and its causing him to be a jerk besides the rest.

If he doesn't like the consequence of child exchange, he should have reconsidered his actions that led to having to do it that way.

Good for you for not speaking to him. It's not easy but sends its own message. I hope there won't be problems with him trying to get your friend involved.

I am called the same thing when I can't agree or when Perv doesn't follow the decree. It's not me, it's the law and that's what he wanted!

Your WH sounds a little similar in the joy of drama/finger pointing that Perv has when he causes it.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 1:26 PM, September 9th (Monday)]

Ashland 13

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Posts: 2524 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England

brokenandconfuse♀ 39381Member # 39381

Posted: 1:59 PM, September 9th (Monday), 2013

How much do PI's cost?

2DS, 2DD
BS-Me 32
WH-Him 43
DDay-All 14 years of our relationship. 3PA's, 3 one night stands, and 6 EA's and still counting as we go. Gained enough strength to face it 11/2012