All that experience has given Jessica Simpson some strong advice for women looking for love: Don’t look to a man to build your own confidence.

“I think you really have to know who you are before you can truly fall in love and give your all, and I don’t think a man can define you,” Simpson told FOXNEWS.com. “You have to own that.”

Simpson, who hosts VH1 reality show The Price of Beauty, also said: “So, if you’re ever with anyone who says you should change something about yourself, then they should never fall in love with you in the first place.”