Why does it seem so hard to find a good honest man these days. I am attracted to men that ride because they seem to be the most real people on earth. But yet it seem that men are either too nervious to start a conversation or feel that women should try to find them. Hey guys there are still some good honest women out here all you have to do is look and speak to us. Come on life is too short.

A good man....we can debate the definition of that another day.
this advice is good for either a man or a woman...I think
if you have no bucketlist........and want to be in a relationship....embrace someone who has one and go for the ride.......(not sure what i would call this relationship)
or make a bucketlist and join with his/hers.................Soulmate

a relationship with no dreams or aspirations....is just treading water till you drown

I would agree with a couple of other gentlemen here who stated that you might looking in or at the wrong things.
I find that most women wont give me a second look because I am overweight, yet if they got to know me they would find I am emotionally stable, finanically stable, a hard worker, and not "damaged goods". Though all those things aside, each person must decide for themselves what they want.
I think its just as hard to find a good woman

I can relate, about men being confusing and complicated, although they say the same thing about woman. I am a great woman, hard working, great personality, I love to have fun. I'm a single mother. I seem to be the one that my guy friends call to tell me how broken hearted they are because yet again they are chasing after a woman that does not deserve them. It seems like men only want woman that are screwed up and constantly want to treat them like crap. I don't know how many times I have made it more then clear that I am a great woman and they should try dating me, they wouldn't regreat it!! I just don't get it, here I sit a dam good woman home alone!! I am fine not being in a relationship but I am like ever other person out there we have needs to be treated with affection and what woman doesn't want to feel wanted!! Just relating to some things that were said....

Why does it seem so hard to find a good honest man these days. I am attracted to men that ride because they seem to be the most real people on earth. But yet it seem that men are either too nervious to start a conversation or feel that women should try to find them. Hey guys there are still some good honest women out here all you have to do is look and speak to us. Come on life is too short.

We all have insecurities and today's man is supposed to be sensitive and caring and and willing to show ALL of his feelings. Which is all good and fine- but where does the man part come in? I for one think that most men feel a lot of imagined pressure (unless you think it is real). So when I open a door for you a smile would be great instead of a look that says "thanks but I san open my own dam door".

Could it be that your not looking at what is in a persons heart, from what I have seen most women look at a man and if he is not tall,dark and hansom or uses perfect grammer, they won't consider them as a possible date or lover or what ever. I know a lot men are that way also but not all.
Just take a second look before judging.

Men are confusing and complicated. I fail to understand them myself, I am highly educated, stable and a good woman too. Yet at 37 I find myself single. It sometimes scares guys away my husband died - I did not kill him - it was a car accident which nearly killed me too.

So I am a good catch - where are all the good men - because so far all I see are flakes and damaged goods.