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Sep 21, 2011

Single's Week!!!

On a less sarcastic note, I find it interesting that (a)
more Americans are remaining single for longer and (b) national “single week” is
not about celebration, partying, random hooking up… it’s about being accepted
as singles and not seen as Nebuch for
it.

But in many ways, I think the state of singlehood comes with
an underlying assumption (probably more than just one, but one comes to mind).
As Mark Grungor says, America sees marriage as a “life sucking institution”
instead of a “life giving institution” (look him up on youtube, I think he’s
hilarious and insightful).The result is
that people wait, try to build themselves up and “be ready” before marriage
begins to suck the energy or life out of them. So people need to have a job, a
car, a house… they should travel and do everything they really want before
getting tied down to the ‘ole ball-and-chain.

I find that idea itself fascinating, and it’s very different
than wanting to be married or not. It’s
an attitude towards what happens in
marriage, which may or may not be related to my desire to get married. While I
think that many of us have social, religious, biological, emotional, personal
and other types of reasons for wanting to get married… what we believe will happen in marriage will still impact our
approach towards dating for marriage and what we’re looking for.

With that, I want to pose the following questions. What do
you believe happens in marriage? Is it energy sapping or energizing? In what
ways do you expect it to require effort and in what ways will it provide
support? Which side do you focus on, which is more important to you?