Opinion: How Do Men Stand-up to Toxic Femininity?

As a man, I know how to stand up to a person who’s unfairly trespassing against me. The reason I know this is because the parameters for my resistance are quite well defined.

As men, we talk; we argue; we push, and then it becomes physical. If we move the boundaries of civil discourse, we know what the next step is.

However, that’s forbidden in discourse with women in general. In that sense, I don’t think men can engage “crazy” women. Let me give you an example, it was a cold morning in Cape Town when I met my ex-girlfriend at the Cape Town Metro train.

I walked up to her and asked how she was doing. A few moments later, she slapped me because I’d broken her heart in the past (I don’t think she’d moved past the break-up). I walked away without saying a word.

No one in that carriage said anything.

For a man, in our culture, there’s no step forward that he can take under those circumstances. Just imagine what would have happened if another man had slapped me?

When men are talking to each other in any serious manner, that underlying threat of physicality is always there. Unless it’s a conversation that remains civilised to some degree. Psychology 101.

I feel defenceless against this insanity because the techniques I would use against a man who has taken an aggressive approach are forbidden to me in the workplace, public areas, at home or anywhere for that matter.

I feel defenceless against this insanity because the techniques I would use against a man who has taken an aggressive approach are forbidden to me in the workplace, public areas, at home or anywhere for that matter.

I don’t think men can stand up and say, “Enough of this” – even though that’s what they should do. I don’t see any regulating force for that “terrible” femininity which is beginning to invade business, workplaces, homes, etc. undermining the masculine-power in a way that I think is fatal.

It seems to me that it’s sane women who have to stand up against their crazy, harpy sisters and say, “Look, enough of that! Enough of men-hating! Enough pathology!”

This is not a sexy thing to say. It’s not a popular thing to say. It requires patience and time. Takunda has set the ball. It’s up to the proverbial church to spike it.

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