how the fuck did we go a week without a post in the relationships thread?!?!?!!?

anyway, bad/good newsour 10 yr old cocker ...oops 11 yr old (his bday was yesterday) had to be put down earlier todayhe had a tumor in his jaw that was spreading to his throat and had closed it off. yesterday he was really sluggish, but today he was active, but couldnt eat or drink anythingthere was nothing that could be done.

we had him since he was 9 months old, when he was a birthday present to my mom from her brother and rescued from death row in a shelter. now we are down to 5 yr old Bo and 3 yr old Willy

RIP Freckles, you will be missed *wipes tears from eyes* dam allergies

Brekkie:Tanks are like shitty DPS. And healers are like REALLY distracted DPSAmirya:Why yes, your penis is longer than his because you hit 30k dps in the first 10 seconds. But guess what? That raid boss has a dick bigger than your ego. Flex:I don't make mistakes. I execute carefully planned strategic group wipes.Levie:(in /g) It's weird, I have a collar and I dont know where I got it from, Worgen are kinky!Levie:Drunk Lev goes and does what he pleases just to annoy sober Lev.Sagara:You see, you need to *spread* the bun before you insert the hot dog.

Sorry to hear about your dog; it's quite incredible how strong bonds we can form with animal companions. I've never really had any myself. Parents had a cat when I was little, but it just up and decided one day that we weren't worth its attention and pissed off into the forest never to be seen again. As cats often do. I have a theory that he lives there to this day, ruling the beasts of the wild with an iron paw. Saw him chase off a fox once. Massive cat, never did anything but eat and hunt. >_>

A guy asked if it's true that people claim cops have quotas for issuing tickets

My ex-gf is a cop, and here's how she explained it.

When you're getting a performance review, tickets get thrown into a big pot called "self-initiated activity." The more stuff you have in that, the better your performance review. Not just tickets/warnings, but contacting people who wave you down, investigating suspicious situations, stopping for disabled motorists, stuff like that. It shows that you are active on your job, and not just answering dispatch calls. They also want variety in that activity, so if you have 60 tickets written in two weeks, but nothing else, they're going to be asking what you are doing with your time besides sitting on a roadside (unless you've been assigned to a traffic detail).

Other things that impact your performance reviews are the percentage of your cases that get cleared, how fast they get cleared, number of civilian complaints against you, percentage of cases in which you appeared for court (mostly has to do with tickets, and shows that you are following through on your case load), amount of training you take, shifts/duties you volunteer for, and any statements made for/against you by fellow officers and supervisors.

So let's say you are dating a coworker who went home sick early yesterday. She has a penchant for letting her phone die and her charger is here in the lab. You usually talk via text constantly, but haven't heard anything from her since last night and it's already after noon. Additionally, her roommate is psychotic and verbally abusive to her, and hates you. If you don't hear from her by late afternoon, is it considered stalkerish to show up at her apartment unannounced with chicken soup and flowers?

1) Define "psychotic"2) Make sure she likes chicken soup3) I'll let the others give the actual advice, since I'm apparently a bad option for not following the norms

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More abusive than psychotic. She is constantly verbally abusive to her and hates it when she gives attention to anyone else. Such outbursts as when she didn't get her way and my girlfriend left the apartment to come see me resulted in kicking a large crack into a bathroom door and threatening to mess up her room.

Edit: She does like chicken soup.

I get worried when I don't hear from her for a day anyway, as it often means her roommate is in the middle of screaming at her.

Brekkie:Tanks are like shitty DPS. And healers are like REALLY distracted DPSAmirya:Why yes, your penis is longer than his because you hit 30k dps in the first 10 seconds. But guess what? That raid boss has a dick bigger than your ego. Flex:I don't make mistakes. I execute carefully planned strategic group wipes.Levie:(in /g) It's weird, I have a collar and I dont know where I got it from, Worgen are kinky!Levie:Drunk Lev goes and does what he pleases just to annoy sober Lev.Sagara:You see, you need to *spread* the bun before you insert the hot dog.

firstamendme wrote:So let's say you are dating a coworker who went home sick early yesterday. She has a penchant for letting her phone die and her charger is here in the lab. You usually talk via text constantly, but haven't heard anything from her since last night and it's already after noon. Additionally, her roommate is psychotic and verbally abusive to her, and hates you. If you don't hear from her by late afternoon, is it considered stalkerish to show up at her apartment unannounced with chicken soup and flowers?

I'm curious why you would even consider that stalkerish. It sounds incredibly nice and thoughtful to me.

firstamendme wrote:More abusive than psychotic. She is constantly verbally abusive to her and hates it when she gives attention to anyone else. Such outbursts as when she didn't get her way and my girlfriend left the apartment to come see me resulted in kicking a large crack into a bathroom door and threatening to mess up her room.

Edit: She does like chicken soup.

I get worried when I don't hear from her for a day anyway, as it often means her roommate is in the middle of screaming at her.

This could be in poor form, and if it is, I apologize, but it sounds like the roommate thinks (or wants) there to be something more to the "roommates". I once had a situation like that, which is probably what made me think of it. Time for your coworker to find a new roommate me thinks.

My wondering about if it was stalkerish stems from having just got out of a marriage, so I was used to being with a person every day. I didn't want to move too fast and do something too quickly. Additionally, due to why the marriage ended, there is always that little voice in my head that says if I'm not hearing from her it's because she's with another guy. Stupid, I know, and I can logically refute the 'little voice,' but it means that impartial anonymous opinions help me separate what I think might be crazy from what is actually normal behavior.

I think you are right, Shoju, and I've been trying to get her to find a new roommate, but as with many recipients of verbal/emotional abuse it's hard to break through the wall of 'It isn't that bad' that gets put up.

Thanks for the opinions! I went with soup, her favorite flavor tums, and her favorite flavor power aid. (and a flower, naturally).

My wondering about if it was stalkerish stems from having just got out of a marriage, so I was used to being with a person every day. I didn't want to move too fast and do something too quickly. Additionally, due to why the marriage ended, there is always that little voice in my head that says if I'm not hearing from her it's because she's with another guy. Stupid, I know, and I can logically refute the 'little voice,' but it means that impartial anonymous opinions help me separate what I think might be crazy from what is actually normal behavior.

This is completely understandable. I have gone down that path before. It was awful. It was terrible. The broken trust bleeds into parts of your life that you never thought would be effected. Being able to logically refute the 'little voice' is a good step in the process of moving beyond what has happened.

I think you are right, Shoju, and I've been trying to get her to find a new roommate, but as with many recipients of verbal/emotional abuse it's hard to break through the wall of 'It isn't that bad' that gets put up.

Thanks for the opinions! I went with soup, her favorite flavor tums, and her favorite flavor power aid. (and a flower, naturally).

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That is the hardest part. Especially when it is a "friend" and not "Family" that is being abusive. People don't seem to think of relationships with friends being able to exhibit that level of "behavior".

The other solution? Move her in with you (kidding, unless you are at "that" point, though it doesn't sound like it)

GAHHHHHHHHHHH! Awesome internal job posting that someone's just pointed out to me (it's right up my alley, hence them suggesting it to me). It's a step up in the corporation and a payraise... but we noticed the posting late so I've only got until this Friday to submit my full application. [panic mode activated]