Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

I do not have that problem. My kids stay with me all the time and he comes by to visit. Not the best arrangement but it keeps the boys connected with there dad. I am not looking forward to the times when he actually takes the kids for the first time over night. For me that will be a huge change. Up to now I have been a stay at home mom. He is navy so will we are used to doing without him, I am not used to doing without the kids.

Yeah I agree its lonely. Right now I am still living in the same house but we do separate things... I hate going to restuarants right now to eat. All my friends except 1 guy are married so I really don't want to ask those guys to hang out incase it gets them in to trouble. So its kind of a catch 22.

I think the problem is that real life friends don't want to hear about after a while. They aren't going through it and it reminds them of how &quot;real&quot; this can be.. The online friends are going through the same thing and are here to support each other - I think that is the difference

My real life friends are busy with their own families and kids...
My friends from work are good to chat with, but not much support outside of work, except one...
My best friend may be moving soon. She is always there for me and my kids (they are friends). She drags me out of the house when I am in the dumps.

But when all is said and done, I am here (my kids asleep) having cyber-cocktails with all of you!!!~P

For some reason divorce still seems like a dirty word to me. I wonder if that deters real life friends... I am sure most people do not want to hear you complain about your failing life and then again you may not even know your doing it after a while.

I really don't have any real life friends yet, most were hers so she got them all in the split. I do have one person that I have been talking to in the real world. Otherwise all I have are my online friends here. Every day pretty much sucks for me, because I don't have my daughter with me. My 20 yo son is my roommate in my apt. I know that he would rather be out on his own, but it is nice to have him around. Now, if Panna can pass me another beer I'll be ready to go.

We are reminders that no marriage is perfect. Married friends are afraid that if they associate with us they might &quot;catch&quot; the dreaded &quot;D&quot;. They might have to face facts and change their behaviors. They might have to improve communication skills, or work to improve their marriages some other way. If they stay away , they don't have to think about these things. People here know exactly how we feel. This site is a give and take. Sometimes you give, sometimes you take.

I am feeling the kind of loneliness I have never had in my whole life. I was alone before I was married, occasionally I would feel lonely back then. But it's so much different when you had someone and that someone was snatched away from you. This is the worst feeling in the whole world. The people I know never showed up again when they learned that I am in the process of a divorce. One of them is the wife of the music pastor in the church we used to attend. She wrote me an e-mail saying that she was sorry to hear the news and that was it. She didn't even address my name in the e-mail and not a single word after that. Lonely? Tell me about it!

I am experiencing what all of you are dealing with. My real friends are worried that I might be contagious to their perfect marriages and at my age, there aren't a lot of prospects, so yes I am lonely and will have to learn to deal with it. My new online community is so supportive that it makes me cry at times with happiness.. I appreciate you all.. kimme

I have my kids and still am lonely as heck. They have their own lives and are always outside with friends. When we were still married, x was deployed or in the field a lot, or else I was, but I wasn't lonely then??? It's no different. I guess because I knew I still had him and he loved me.

I think I sleep a lot of my time away to stop from being depressed and lonely.

I only have married friends too. At work the other day I got upset and she said, &quot;I'm sorry, did I get an invitation?&quot; I looked at her, and thought for a minute, and then it dawned on me that she was talking about an invite to my pity party. I said, &quot;yup, it's upstairs on your email.&quot; :-) She has really stood by me thru all of this, but she's getting tired of it too. She's had to come drag me out of bed a few times on work days when I just didn't have the enery or will to get up.

I think it makes your friends feel awkward. It's like trying to console someone after a death in their family. I think they aren't sure what to say &amp; don't think they can help &amp; they think it is something onlt time and working it out for ourselves can heal. Either that or they just don't care. I prefer to give them the benefit of the doubt and think they detach because they feel helpless to help. There have been some threads on this board that have made me feel so bad for someone and I didn't have a clue what to tell the person, so I just sent a hug instead. Sometimes right here on this board I want to help and feel unequipped and unable and my biggest fear is hurting people's feelings when I am straight with them. I started thinking that maybe that was how my friends felt with me. Plus in the beginning I couldn't talk to them without sobbing and I'm sure that was hard to watch. I know it was hard on my kids. I feel bad about having been so weak in front of my kids. I was just broken. I regret that so badly. Plus one night they heard me call him a 'Narcissistic selfish bastard' when I hung up the phone. Not my finest moment by a long shot. So it seems my pain was hard on everyone who knows me. They could only bear to see so much of it.

I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

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