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Sex Question: Why Do I Feel Burning During Sex Without the Use of Condoms?

Dear Dr. Kate, My husband and I stopped using condoms because we are trying to get pregnant. But now, every time we have sex I feel burning with every move and thrust. What’s happening to me?

Were you using lubricated condoms before? The burning may simply be due to the lack of lubrication that your body was accustomed to during sex. The tricky thing is choosing the right lube to use when you’re trying to conceive. Fertility doctors don’t recommend using traditional drugstore lubricants, because the chemicals may kill sperm and decrease your chances of getting pregnant. (That said, know that lube is definitely not a reliable method of birth control!) The safest form of lube when you’re trying to get pregnant? Plain mineral oil—you can find it in Bed, Bath and Beyond or stores like it, near the wooden salad bowls. Just be aware that the oil will stain your sheets and PJs, so you may want to throw down a towel first, and have a box of tissues handy for clean-up.

Has this ever happened to you, dear readers? What was your solution? Did lube help?

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