Somewhere between the exhausting frustration of a life spent chasing everything in a skirt and the fulfillment of settling down with one good woman is fear. For many men, obsessing over sex and reducing women to sex objects is a defense against getting pulled into a real relationship and the accompanying terror of losing their freedom. (more…) Read more

Guys are eternally cavalier about this sex-first, commitment-never values system. Talk to a group of men in a club or out on the basketball court about their conquests, and before long the whole thing turns into a gathering of fourteen-year-olds in a locker room: a festival of laughing high fives and who’s-had-more comparisons. But this isn’t a laughing matter. Just as some women do real damage by throwing themselves at every potential husband, men inflict genuine self-harm by burning endless… Read more

Let me ask you a question: If for some reason your disobedience disqualifies you for God’s purpose on your life, would the activity that you’re engaging in be worth it? I had made a commitment of celibacy long before I met my wife Meagan. When we got married, I had been celibate for over ten years. What motivated the commitment was the same thing that made me keep it. I was preaching about living a life that put the Lord… Read more

Usually we are tempted to compromise on our promises to God because there’s some reward on the table. The irony is, being steadfast will yield greater rewards that will truly edify our lies and benefit our careers. How do I know this? Because it’s happened to me. People in the business are surprised when I tell them I can’t do something because of what I believe, but by doing so I let them know what I value most. In an… Read more