Month: April 2015

First off, being in our 30’s is perhaps the actual coming off – age for most people including me, You get to be so much better at being friends with yourself

It’s all right to be alone, but it’s NOT OK to get lonely

Girlfriends are not be forgotten esp., when there is a new boyfriend /manfriend in the picture

Well, friends are the extended family that you’re blessed with, and it is so important to be one too!

It definitely takes a village to raise a child; asking for help is good for you and the child

Being aggressive is a sign of weakness but being assertive is so cool and liberating

Saying NO, when you feel like it, brings so much peace

Exercise is so much better than therapy, you get a better hormonal rush and you finally fit- into your old jeans in the process

Somethings are an effect of our genes, you can’t fight them, like hair fall or the glasses, make peace with them, the other stuff like diabetes and hypertension ,can definitely be gotten over

You don’t have to be a hypochondriac, or clingy and a needy person to get attention, by this age the last thing you want is too much attention

Respect other people by giving them their space, don’t compromise on your’ s either, this space allows for growth at many levels

Write down your feelings , it’s better to get it out on paper, than on someone, there isn’t a delete button which works on memories

You realize that “parents do understand”

Life gets as good as you want it to get, your reactions to things pretty much makes it a good one or a bad day/month/year/life

On some days you will not want to get out of bed, and that’s the day that you do everything possible to get up and do something

On the days that you feel like you’re e on a rollercoaster , stop and breathe, and then get back on the ride

That I have only so much of mind space, so it’s important to think about the right things, people and keep only those memories which makes me feel warmer

That things that for my highest good and which will make me happy will happen to me with the least effort from my end,

Pushing for things to happen or people to respond does not help, you end up pushing it all away in direct proportion to the level of force applied

Karma is truly a byproduct of what one does or thinks or feels, so at some point you’re going to have to face the music, and no one will have to tell you, you will know exactly what tune you’re dancing to

However, sometimes, bad things happen to some good people and it’s better to not overanalyze the why’s but to focus on the “how to feel better” part

Constantly talking about your problems does not make them go away, if anything, the more you focus on what’s not right, the more it tends to be not right

Our kids are wiser than they look, they are tiny people, there is so much you can learn from them if only you pay attention

A hug from a child, a kind word , chai and conversation with a friend, a glass of wine while listening to “Swan Lake”, curling up with a book on a rainy day(or anyday), playing scrabble, running, reading a story with your kid and other such mundane things bring so much joy and peace than an evening spent drinking in a pub

There is no need for validation from others anymore, on most days , at least, you learn to be your own cheerleader

You can look at those in their 20’s and get to think ”oh wait till you get to our side of the grass”, it’s definitely much more greener

You get called re-christened as aunty and you’re no longer “didi” and that can be somewhat of a jolt, but then people assume you’re wiser, so it’s not such a bad deal

Being employable is important, being self-reliant is even more so

Sweets and chocolates , basically any carbs will get you through anything, but getting them out of your system gets little more difficult when you’re in your 30’s

My final learning: this list will change completely by the time I hit my 40’s and I will be totally ok with that too

If I never say no more, just know that this is all I ever want to say to you.

“I cannot express how proud and loved I am, because of you. Somehow, I feel, you already know.

Today, you may not be old enough to read my words. But in a few years, you will be. I am writing this because these may be the only wise words I ever say to you.

You’re a boy now. You’ve lost your baby belly. You have exchanged your chubby thighs for spindly legs. You sleep on your own bed. Through the night. You close the door when you pee. You can write your name, and mine, draw a cat, count to 100 and eat your own food. You even dress yourself. You question me, each time I screw up. And then you forgive. You are caring. Always ready to help. Always full of life.

Like this:

Taking up a challenge is not really challenging, sticking to it , invariably is..In my case its always the universe and its legion of human beings, aka..relatives, friends, bosses, cab drivers,who all seem to conspire against me, stopping me from completing the challenge .. therefore, to set the premise , I will be supremely impressed by myself If I am able to write every single day for the next 100 days.. This is therefore Me challenging Myself, to become what I refer to myself often, a writer who actually writes.

I am not sure what will happen with a laptop, a mind, deft fingers and external stimulus all coming together in a cauldron of imagination, emotions and drama when stirred slowly for the next 100 days. However, today for the first time, I don’t wish to overthink of what the outcome might be, because sometimes not knowing gives one a bigger brighter canvas to play with the unknown and create something so fabulous that you didn’t even know existed in the tiny spaces of our mind.

What I do know is that at this moment the universe and me are in alignment, I can feel myself breathe and relax because I have the grace and opportunity to spend time on Me. I am grateful that my closest friend, my soul sister is able to share my dreams and hopes with me, something I always took for granted but realize now that moments spent with people we love are tiny specks of snowflakes that can be shaken and stirred anytime by the hands of fate and time…So I have decided to spend my time now onwards, being present in these tiny moments, for the One big moment is only just a mirage..I am grateful for being a mother ;to be chosen to be a mother, to bring a life into this world is a sign that I am special. I realize that this tiny person is not mine to mould but that in fact I have been given the job to help this speck of divine light, this soul to pattern itself along its own path of learning..My child does not just bring joy to me she touches the lives of so many people around me, and has helped me mould myself into a better version of me.

I am amazed at the many forms of love in my life, at work, with a prospective partner, my friends whom I adore and who are always a phone call away.Of course, there is depravity and illness and pain around me , and yet today and hopefully for the next 100 days I am going to focus on the other side of the spectrum, and I will learn to surrender and flow towards the natural course of my life ..More importantly I will focus on my breath, the singular motion that is at the crux of my existence and of so many others..I will allow life to breathe through me and see where that single breath takes me into the future, a 100 days later, maybe I will truly be breathing in my authentic self and the journey that I begin today into the unknown would have reached a destination.