Pumper: an ez solution! TRUST IN HASHEM! because whatever he does to u … and whatever stage you are in right now…. is simply the BEST for you! im”h you’ll get married trust me… everyone get there! someone a little earlier than the other. and when u get married life starts…. so enjoy your time being.. not everyone gets this quality time. married life may be at times hectic. and if you have extra time… use it to get closer to hashem. to build a relationship with him! daven, say tehillim… or even talk to him with your own words! in this zchus may your find your zivug bkuriv momish! s/o really matchy & good for you. p.s. i am also still single.and it’s proven to get going happy! 🙂 one day will post our mazel tovs on the CR! enjoy!

I wait every wednesday to listen to his shuirim. They just give me so much energy to go on with life. Like before a yom tov he puts such excitement in you. it’s so different when i wake up thursday! all excited. with simcha! he is just amazing! i always like his good sense of humor! stories, and torah on the parshah.

The best solution for your problem is VITAMIN A & B (Amunah/Bituchin)let hashem do his job. The best you can do is to daven and do mitzvahs. The rest is up to hashem.If you’ll trust in him he will do good and you’ll be really CALM!

red head: that’s true! I have friends who got married young and are b”h bz with children when they themselves are still in their childish years. It’s not easy i am not saying. But we gotta be happy & think that hashem only gives tests for a person who can pass it. So i guess whoever was chosen for this test can pass it! never forget hashem loves u!

c’mon let’s go with the positive attitude. I am not saying to be picky. I believe everything is from hashem and he will give everyone in the CR his/her bashert! let’s be happy with whatever the situation is at this point! trust me, whenever it gotta come it will come even if u don’t want! haha 🙂 🙂 🙂

I am still single and shidduchim are very hard!! the only thing that keeps me going is bituchin! there is nothing else i can do! you just feel helpless.. and there is a reason for that to depend of hashem! I never feel down because of my beleif I trust hashem 100%

Of course I didn’t mean to say we have bad days chos v’sholem. only when things don’t look so good to us. Then we have chizuk by thinking hashem is by our side! you guys got it all wrong. chos v’sholem all days are good!

We have been discussing the issue of accepting rechilus, a report that somebody said something negative about you or did something harmful to you. In this segment, the Chofetz Chaim deals with cases where circumstances seem to indicate that the report is true.

Sitting among a crowd at a bar mitzvah, David says, in a voice loud enough for everyone to hear, that Reuven did something which was damaging to Shimon. One might assume that since this announcement was made in public, it is probably true. Can Shimon believe David? No. Shimon has to discern if there is anything constructive to be gained from absorbing this information. If it will help him to prevent further harm, he is allowed to suspect that the information is true and he can investigate further. If the information has no relevance for the future, he should assume that it is not true.

In previous segments, the Chofetz Chaim has offered us several possible reasons for rejecting such a report. Here, he reminds us of the most compelling one.

As we know, when a person does something which affects us negatively, our reaction will often depend on who that person is. For example:

Of course, there could be any number of reasons why the person left without telling you. He may have been mistakenly told that you had already left, or that you wanted to stay late. Perhaps an emergency forced him to leave in a hurry. Or, he may have simply forgotten.

The Chofetz Chaim discusses a case where you have been told that someone said something negative about you or has done something against you (i.e. you have heard rechilus) and you have confirmed that the report is true. Nevertheless, says the Chofetz Chaim, you are obligated to judge him favorably if there is any possible way to interpret his statement or action in a positive light. If you do not judge him favorably, then you are guilty of accepting rechilus.

The Chofetz Chaim concludes by discussing the teshuvah (repentance) which is required of someone who has accepted rechilus as truth:

ok.. so who is in with us? seriously speaking! any one know of a story? Even if u don’t see the good.. know e/t is from hashem! lets share our stories,I once read before moshiach will come.. pple will have to work on amunah. but truth is.. how can we not beleive we see soo many miracles.. look up to the sky an air plane every minute.. thousands of pple in the air.. it’s just AMAZING! lets start to see the wonder of this world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It was the last night to bentch the lavunah all other nights where cloudy

finally after a long time looking for the lavunah they found it.. but there was 1 person that couldn’t make it so they where coming up with a plan on how to save it for him… after long time thinking they came up with plan to take a pail and put in water and they put in the moon and closed it the next day they opened the pail and got pale the moon was missing 🙂

Thanks all for your chizuk. One thing I remember from my teachers.. the tought of thinking that you don’t know where to begin comes from the yetzer horah bec. then u don’t even start we gotta strenghten ourselves and start with 1 small deed!! thanks 2 u all! may we all have a good gebentched yur b’ruchnies, v’goshmeas :))

goody613: Try this i once heared a shiur.. and the speaker spoke about tefillah he said there are times that a person doesn’t have patience to daven… or can’t concentrate.. a person should never give up! bec. these are just eras.. nisoyins.. he gave a good idea… before davening tell yourself… ok today i will have kevuna by oshrie… take one kapital at a time. and then youll see after a while it will get better.. also of course ask hashem to help u concentrate!!!! thats the first step ! Good Luck!! and i wish u the best! to be close to hashem is JUST GREAT!!!!!!!!!

kiruvwife: I agree it is the best feeling to have connection to hashem! to know that hashem can do anything… and he can help me too! every morning when i wake up before i open my eyes… i thank hashem.. and ask him for hatzlacha in the coming day! and before i leave my house when kissing the mezuzah i say a special pussik asking him he should help me through out the day!