After 40 long weeks of pregnancy, my little guy made his entrance into the big wide world one day past his due date. Leading up to my due date, I felt a little apprehensive about knowing when exactly it would be time to head to the hospital. But as it turns out, my body gave me pretty clear-cut signs that baby was on the way. My contractions were timing out by-the-book, and I just knew that it was time to go.

Once we arrived at the hospital, it was a whole new world to navigate. Obviously as first-time parents, we were new to the labor and delivery experience, and I told myself going into it that I would ask any question I had, even if it felt stupid or simple. And if there ever was a time that I was glad I made that deal with myself, this was it. There’s so much that can happen so fast, and in a haze of pain (or pain meds), you want to be sure that you feel comfortable with everything that’s happening around you. During our experience, here are a few things I asked about that ended up being good for my comfort level and state of mind before and after the delivery.

1. “What does that mean?”Lots of doctor lingo and abbreviations were getting thrown around, and I wanted to be informed. When I arrived and they told me the baby was “minus one,” I never would have known they were referring to his position, or how it played into the labor if I hadn’t asked.

2. “Can I have more (or different) meds?During my pregnancy, I question whether an epidural was for me, and it definitely was. I had a super-positive epidural and pain medication experience. And it partially was so positive because we kept open communication with the anesthesiologist and nurses about what I was feeling and how the pain meds were working. We worked together to keep the pain at a manageable level but to also keep me alert and aware about what was going on with my body.

3. “What should this feel like?”With each stage, I was a little nervous about what to expect. What would the epidural feel like? Should I be feeling faint? Is it normal to be shivering? I asked everything I could and when the answer always came back that things were completely normal, I was put at ease every time.

4. “Do you have more socks/ice chips/barf bags/tissues?”This is a moment when the people surrounding you are willing to do anything within their capability to make you comfortable. Don’t be shy about asking for what you need.

5. “Are we doing this right?”After the delivery, you’re catapulted into the world of caring for the baby, immediately after you’ve been through this whole crazy labor thing. It can be overwhelming, but there should be a nonstop parade of people coming through your door to ask whether you need help. If you have even the slightest doubt about something to do with your new little one, ask. Are we swaddling right? Does this latch look good? Should we wake up the baby more? There’s no stupid question when it comes to learning how to care for that tiny new person.

Wishing all of you mamas-to-be out there an easy labor and delivery. And if you’ve got more words of wisdom about the experience, do share with us all in the comments!

Chelsea Foy is a blogger by day and a musical theatre performer by night. Her blog, Lovely Indeed, focuses on a DIY lifestyle and all of the happiness that comes along with it. Chelsea recently co-authored Make Your Day, a digital crafting book, and is proud to have had her projects featured on HGTV, Buzzfeed, Babble, Apartment Therapy, Huffington Post, and more. Chelsea resides in Los Angeles with her most adorable husband Ryan, where they spend their time diligently becoming familiar with every shop, restaurant, beach, and flea market within a 50-mile radius.