The road of life includes processes and events. Many prefer the events, and that's a problem. Events are not the enemy, it's the over-attraction to them that creates the pitfall. But it's understandable why we prefer that moment of elation, since events gives us immediate stimulation that we want and maybe crave. Nobody talks a lot about processes because it tends to require faith, imagination and vision. Did I mention that it can feel like drudgery.

One of the my best experiences in the process and event arena has been my marriage. It began with a big event, the ceremony. Great joy and happiness. The future seemed unbelievably bright. And then she had to face the reality of living with me(humor is important here). That event was 20 years-plus ago. We're still happily together because of the process, and not the event. Ironic how the thing that feels like work produces the happiness we so desperately desire.

Certainly there is no substitute for knowing what you're doing is a fit. Be it in your career, your money, your learning, etc. But once that's been settled, you've got to embrace the process.