Don’t bail – The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

Don’t pressure her – Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.

Don’t forget – You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as sharing your thoughts.

Don’t ignore your own concerns and desires – Don’t tell her you’ll support her decision without being honest about your own feelings. She can feel abandoned and left to make the decision alone if you fail to be honest about your own concerns and desires.

Clear your mind and listen to what she is saying. Try to understand her feelings. Gather information about the options available to her. Talk to family and friends you trust for support. We are here for you to provide caring, free and confidential help for you and your partner.

The first thing you need to do is find out that she is really pregnant and learn about your options. Hope Pregnancy Center provides confidential and free pregnancy testing services, along with many support services. We are here to help both of you come to an informed decision. To help show your support go with her for the pregnancy test appointment. If she truly is pregnant, then she is already being overwhelmed by hormone changes that can have a great effect on her. Having your support will reassure her that you care.

At Hope, we know you may have concerns of your own that you would like to talk through with another man. You can schedule an appointment to meet with a male Client Care Specialist on your own or when you accompany your partner for a pregnancy test.

Hope Pregnancy Center can help you in a variety of ways should she actually be pregnant. We offer classes on pregnancy, parenting and other practical topics as well as countless referrals to helpful organizations. We also assist with maternity clothes, baby furniture, diapers, baby food, etc. You won’t be alone in supporting her through this pregnancy.

Remember the decision is ultimately hers to make. You should be able to express your opinion but you should never force her into a decision.

Men, it’s time to stand up and take part in your pregnant partner’s life. She needs to know that you care and you are ready to walk through this with her.