Monday, November 14, 2005

I love the changing seasons. In Central Florida, where I live, we don't experience seasonal weather changes as much as our friends in other parts of the country, but we do enjoy the change in focus and the cooler weather fall and winter bring. We may not have snow, but we can enjoy lighted snowmen on the porch during the holidays!

Years ago when I taught school, I would change the décor of my home as often as I changed the one in my classroom--out with one season and in with another. I'd get rid of the old so we could embrace the new. Being a creature of habit, I still like to change my surroundings about every three months.

The Bible says that there is a season for everything in life (see Eccl. 3:1-8). If only we could embrace the seasons of our lives as willingly as we embrace the seasons of the year! It's been said that the only thing that is constant is change, but unfortunately, that's what we tend to resist, especially if it means going outside our comfort zones.

God has planned the seasons of our lives with infinite wisdom. He has ordained each one, knowing exactly what fruit is to be harvested during each time frame. I believe that since His desire is to do us only good, He enjoys each season He plans for us (see Jer. 29:11). So why are we so prone to resist the season we're in?

"But I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope." ~Jer 29:11

It's as if we are never satisfied. When it's summer, we want fall. When it's winter, we want summer. When we are single, we want to be married. When we are married, we want children, and when we have children, we want them to be grown and out of the house. When the nest is finally empty, we miss them and want them back - at least for a little while.

Yet we tend to criticize the children of Israel, who sinned against God for their continued murmuring and complaining. Like spoiled children in the natural, they continually demanded more. God brought them out of 400 years of slavery, gave them rest from their enemies, and provided daily food, water, and protection.

But no matter what He did, it wasn't enough. It seems that what they really wanted was control of their own destiny and circumstances, not total dependence on an invisible God whose plans were for their good (see Jer. 29:11). As a result, an entire generation perished before receiving their promised inheritance.

The wilderness journey was not a picnic. It was an adventure into the unknown, and it was a change of season for an entire nation. But the Lord knew the way through that wilderness, just as He knows the way through ours.

He ushers in the seasons in our lives and walks us through them. All He desires is that we embrace what He is doing in our lives with faith and gratitude (see 1 Thess. 5:18).

God is always working, even in seasons when we don't see much activity. During the season of planting, when there is no harvest, God is watering, nurturing, fertilizing and containing us so that in due season we can bring forth the fruit of righteousness He desires.

After a season of harvest, He often initiates a time of pruning (see John 15:1-2). Painful though this may be, it is necessary for us to produce even more fruit. We can trust God to do whatever He needs to do in our lives today because of His proven faithfulness yesterday (see Lam 3:22-23).

During this season of thanksgiving, let's determine to count our blessings and enjoy, as He does, the season He has us in. Every day is a gift, and we should savor all the sights, sounds, smells, friendships, fellowship, family, food and fun of the season. Let's also be thankful that God, in His infinite wisdom, planned our lives and leads us through many fruitful seasons. Instead of wishing we were in a different one, let's embrace and enjoy the one we are in right now (see Gal. 6:9).

"And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart." ~ Gal 6:9

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Scripture of the day: "Let no corrupt communication proceed out our your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers." ~Ephesians 4:20During the course of a day with all the responsibilities and tasks before us, we can easily become stressed and lash out verbally at our children.

I must admit that this has been an area in my life that I had to overcome. I didn't really lash out to others, but could easily respond with sarcasm which is just as bad. I am better, but daily I have to consciously work on my verbal responses and tone.

I am becoming more and more aware of the impact of how our family life as a child indirectly affects us as adults. It seems as though the older I get, the more I realize how certain parts of me, be it good, or not so good, chiefly come from habit or a way of life to which I have been accustomed.

Of course, I want to pass on the good things to my children, but I don't want to pass on the negative. Negative habits or ways can easily pass from generation to generation.

"..But be transformed by the renewing of your mind." ~Romans 12:2

I did not grow up in a christian home. Yes, my family went to church, and they were "good" people, but living for the Lord was not there goal.

The life of our home and our relationships with our children will affect them in someway for the rest of their lives.

Lord,As homeschooling mothers, we have so much that we are responsible for. Help us to create the homelife for our families that will glorify you, and affect generations to come.Amen.

Saturday, November 05, 2005

Friday, October 21, 2005

The heart of the righteous studied to answer: but the mouth of the wicked poureth out evil things. ~ Proverbs 15:28

Spending all day with children, teaching and training, can sometimes cause moms to get frustrated, frazzled and angry.This scripture is so profound in teaching us to respond properly to our children.

I am truly enjoying the daily devotions that are found in More Devotions for Homeschoool Moms by Jackie Wellwood.(ISBN 1581343833) The author of this book is a mother of seven children, and she really touches on topics that are sensitive to the homeschooling mother. She gives scriptures, prayers, and food for thought in each daily devotion. I highly recommend it.

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"Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with PERSEVERANCE the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on JESUS, the author and perfector of our faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider HIM who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."-Hebrews 12:1-2

Thursday, October 13, 2005

" To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven.." Ecc: 3:1As the temperature and the earth changes, it always allows me to reflect on the season of my life. As I reflect on all the many blessings that God has bestowed upon me, I am thankful. Though I am thankful, I am at a season of many changes and challenges within my personal life. I know that change can be good, but it is no always comfortable.( I am sparing details).It can be very difficult at times to be far away from your family. Though I have been living away(over 500 miles)from my hometown for close to twenty years, it is a continuous challenge. I have friends, but I often feel extremely lonely and long for the comfort of my family. I wish I knew when I moved away, what I know now. I didn't think about the day when family members would age, or that the family relationships would be needed for myself and my children. I know that God will continue to take care of me during this season.

Tuesday, September 27, 2005

Be joyful always: pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. ~ 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18Being joyful is something that I truly struggle with. It's not that I'm not a happy person, but I think that my mind is always focused on " the next thing to do." I am constantly preoccupiedand my expression shows it more than I'd like it to.

The Lord has really been dealing with me lately on this issue. My eleven year old, has recently asked me a few times "Mom what's wrong? Are you happy?" Of course, I tell her yes because there really isn't anything wrong. Her response "Then be joyful-smile!"

I'm not sure if my disposition has been like this, or if it has developed recently. It's hard to see yourself as other see you. I don't want to offend my family or anyone else, especially when there REALLY isn't anything wrong.

I'm working on not being so intense. It is so easy to get caught up in the things that really are not that important. (Like a spotlesss home..) I pray that the Lord will show me how I can change in this area and be ... a joyful mother of children ~Psalm 113:9

Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Scripture of the day: Do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased. ~Hebrews 13:16Seven years ago, I quit working full time. My daughter "graduated" from preschool, and I quit my full time job. My husband and I had felt it would be the best situation. I had been commuting 32 miles to work one way, and experienced all the traffic jams, frazzled evenings, and late nights that went along with it.

That first summer of being home with my daughter all day, every day was interesting. At first, it was exciting and I planned this and that. After a few weeks, I was irritated. I did not know what to do with my child. I did not know how to just be with her and enjoy her. I felt out of place. I remember praying about the fact that I wasn't suppose to feel that way. I was really exasperated and wondered how I was going to make it all summer with her. I was looking forward to her going back to school.

Fast forward seven years, and here I am homeschooling for the fifth year along with chasing an adorable toddler. I am truly enjoying watching my girls change and grow. It is so natural to have them with me all the time. This is how it should be. They are MY children. How did I ever feel that way?

It is so easy to get caught in the mentality of society that says indirectly that our children are a burden. Of course, people don't verbally say it, but the comments about children, and the lifestyles that are lived speak louder than any words.

Homeschooling is a huge sacrifice, but what better way to live than to impart into the lives of your children all day every day.

There are days that are long and frustrating, but they are not the majority. I thank God for His mercy and grace, and for the blessing of being home with my girls.

Saturday, September 10, 2005

so·cial·i·za·tion n. The process of learning interpersonal and interactional skills that are in conformity with the values of one's society.The homeschooler's favorite question was posed to me today as I sat in the dentist's office waiting for my daughter. I had a brief conversation with a very friendly gentleman who was waiting for his two sons as well.The conversation went something like this:

"...that's great that you home school, but are you planning to continue through high school?" "...yes, we believe we can do it with all of the available resources and my daughter will probably complete some classes at a local community college while in high school.." "....that's great but what about SOCIALIZATION?..."duhhhhhhhhhhhh!

This is our fifth year of homeschooling and I can't believe that every time someone asks that question, I am momentarily speechless. I went on to say something like this:

"..We're really not that concerned with it......It's not as if we live in some remote area and don't interact with others..."

I really can't remember exactly what I said, but I'm so disappointed in myself for feeling........awkward. Why didn't I just say what I really believe in my heart?--

".....socialization?....socialize with who?.....tons of other kids who are grouped into cliques....socialize in an environment full of profanity and promiscuity......NO THANKS!..that's not what God has called our family to do..."I am very aware that the things I just mentioned are not a part of every public or private school, but in our area the public schools are pretty bad.

My 7th grade daughter is not by any means lacking in the socialization area, just by the shear nature of her personality. But even if she wasn't as outgoing, would I thrust her into high school to socialize her?

Out of all of the facets of homeschooling, why is socialization the only facet that people question?

I must develop a way to respond to this question in which I can share our family's view without being offensive.

____________________________________________________________________After the dentist, we went to the pediatrician's office for my toddlers check-up. While there the nurse asked my older daughter about school. She informed her that she is homeschooled. The nurse asked me---"What do you do about physical education?" Now that's a question that I can handle. (LOL)

Tuesday, September 06, 2005

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"Commit your works to the Lord, and your plans will be established" ~ Proverbs 16:3

This is our fifth year of homeschooling, and we are in the middle of the fourth week. Things are basically going well, but I'm finding that I must "tweak" our schedule. Teaching with a toddler at bay has given us extra excitement this year. :)

Through all of the pre-planning and "tweaking", one thing is for sure: without the Lord guiding me, I would not be able to teach my children. I have already experienced those days when my plans would not work. I have to seek the Lord daily so He can show me how I need to orchestrate our day. It never fails that when I seek Him, the day runs smoothly, and when I don't, frustration and chaos abound.

I am so glad that the Lord is leading my life and taking me along the path of this homeschool journey. Allow Him to lead yours.

Saturday, August 20, 2005

Scripture of the day: "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." Galatians 6:9We have completed our first week of school. This first week has been interesting, because this year we have an active little toddler prancing around our feet. :-)Time truly flies by...."T" my 11yr old dd is amazing. I really can't believe she is in 7th grade already... And then I look at "GG" my toddler, and it seems like yesterday that T was her age.I am gaining new perspective on cherishing every moment.

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It has been such a blessing to connect with others moms through blogging who have similar values, are striving for similar goals, and who go through very similar trials. There are many times that I recognize how different I am from many moms around me. (some friends, neighbors,church members) It is comforting to know that I'm not as "weird" as I thought. (tee hee)

Homeschooling is definitely a different lifestyle. Every year during the back to school season, many relatives and acquaintances ask "Are you still going to homeschool?" "Are you going to put T back in school for high school?" "I couldn't do it, my child would never listen to me!" etc. etc. etc. --

They don't understand that this is what God has called my husband and I to do for our family.Is it easy? No--Do I get tired and want to quit sometimes? YES --But-- I love seeing my daughter get excited about learning something new, I love laughing with my children, I love sharing God's Word and discussing issues with my daughter, I love traveling during the public school season..... I could go on and on.

As we enter our fifth year of homeschooling, I count it as a great blessing. I am encouraged that the Lord will guide me every step of the way if I stay focused on Him.

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. ~Matthew 6:33

Thursday, July 28, 2005

Quote of the day: "Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony." ~ Thomas Merton

I'd like to share some information that I received vie e-mail. I had an opportunity to hear Kathryn Stout speak at a Homeschool Convention 3 yrs ago. She was very encouraging and shared a great deal of wisdom as an educator and homeschool mom. You can read more about her at www.designastudy.com

Here's an excerpt from a recent teaching help e-mail. I found this very helpful by reminding me about the importance of keeping balance in our home school:

Balance also applies to daily schedules. Even meaningful or appealing approaches will leave children discouraged if little time is allotted to building up areas of talent or extreme interest. There's often something a child just "must" do daily in order to feel calm. Some draw or work on a craft, others write. Some need to move-running, bike riding, shooting baskets, others need to build something. My daughter "had to" have time to read books of her own choosing, while my son "needed" to create songs on the piano or violin.

Adults look for jobs where the required skills come fairly easily, not where they must rely on weaknesses day after day. Therefore, kids need to spend time building talents and abilities, working on weak areas to the degree that they won't hinder their future. Therefore, a balanced educational approach will include focus on building our children mentally, physically, and spiritually over all, but with an eye to meeting their need for personal expression. We are each unique, with a God-given purpose. As homeschooling parents we are in a position to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit in order to train our children in a way that will prepare them for their destiny in Him. ~ Kathryn Stout

Tuesday, July 05, 2005

Quote for the day: "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit"~ Aristotle

excellence- 1. The state, quality, or condition of excelling; superiority. 2. Something in which one excels.

As I continue to review curriculum, read books for literature, and create lesson plans, I am constantly looking for a structured way to monitor my daughter's work each year. I usually look over her yearly work and assess standardized test scores, but I did not have a general plan that I used each year to make these assesments.

I read about Evaluating for Excellence by Teresa Moon on a curriculum board, and came across a copy of it at a used curriculum fair. What a gem! It really gives direction for evaluating student progress and setting goals from year to year. It is definately a valuable resource.___________________________________________________________________

Summer is quickly flying by! I am enjoying the extra time with my family, along with the summer heat.

I had anticipated blogging more during the summer, but it has turned out to be a less. I guess when the usual routine returns in mid August, then I will blog a little more.

Tuesday, June 21, 2005

Quote of the day: "To read is to empower. To empower is to write. To write is to influence. To Influence is to change To change is to live." ~ Jane Evershed ~ My 11yr old daughter is currently reading The Count of Monte Cristo by Alexandre Dumas. She and a friend decided to read this book, so that they could meet for discussion.

When she informed me of the book that they had chosen, I was quite surprised. The book is unabridged and all of 1095 pages. When I was eleven, just looking at the size of the book would have scared me away.

Nevertheless, she is engulfed in this book. She approached me after dinner last evening because she wanted to share the excitement of the book with me. As she described the events of the book, I was captivated as she gave the vivid descriptions.

When moments like these take place, I am thrilled that she has embarked on one of my loves--reading. I am also amazed at her willingness to challenge herself and perservere. It are these moments that I'm glad that my husband and I chose to homeschool some 4 yrs ago.

I pray that she continues to challenge herself in this area, and allow books to take her to places she's never been, experience ideas that she never thought of, and give her knowledge to build upon.

Monday, June 06, 2005

Scripture of the day: "But the seed on good soil sands for those with a noble and good heart, who hear the word, retain it and by preserving produce a crop." ~ Luke 8:15

Whew! After the hustle and bustle of a school year. Life is back to a normal pace. We completed school May 27, and are in the midst of our two week total break. How relaxing!!!

My little one celebrated her first birthday this weekend. It is absolutely amazing how times seems to just fly by. She is such a joy and blessing to our family. She is approaching a new stage in life---a time of exploring, rapid development, language, and independence--toddlerhood. What an exciting time for our family.

I am looking forward to the lazy days of summer. We have a few "school" things to accomplish over the summer, and a few activities for my preteen. Other than that, I'll continue to plan for the upcoming year, and we can just go with the flow.

Monday, May 16, 2005

Quote of the day: "Just as eating against one's will is injurious to health, so study without a liking for it spoils the memory" ~ Leonardo Da Vinci

Our schedule has been very busy with softball season and our other regular activities, but I can see rest on the horizon. :-) This is the last week of the softball season, and Memorial Day is two weeks away. Memorial Day has been our school cutoff date. After Memorial Day we take off two weeks of "school". Learning is constant in our home, but during this time I do not plan anything or give any type of assignments. My daughter will still pick up a workbook or her math book on her own. After those two weeks I usually schedule some type of work for a couple of times a week during the summer. Typically it is review like math to stay fresh, or if we need to catch up in any areas. We resume our usual school schedule in mid August.

As I mentioned in previous posts, our schedule this past year was overbooked especially with a new baby. We decided to limit outside activities for the upcoming year. Of course since this decision, every class or co-op possibility has been offered. I'm happy to say that I have not been enticed to enroll my daughter. :-) This year has been a learning experience! Babies change things--especially your energy level :-)

My latest read has been Ignite The Fire by Terri Camp.(www.ignitethefire.com) She talks about seeking God's direction for our homeschool and asking Him for direction in the way we should educate each of our children.She also describes the importance of adding activities that will help children be excited about learning and enable them to better retain the material that they learn. This is where I realized that I needed to add more spark to our studies. She gives a lot of good ideas that can be implemented into any teaching style.

One of my goals for my daughter this year is to incorporate more creative ideas and activities into her studies. This part of the planning has been really fun, and I know she will be very excited with some of the ideas and activities. :-)

Monday, May 09, 2005

Mickey Mouse

Quote of the day:"Our heritage and ideals, our code and standards - the things we live by and teach our children - are preserved or diminished by how freely we exchange ideas and feelings." ~ Walt Disney

I haven't blogged in quite a while. I've been on vacation with my family to--Walt Disney World, Florida. :-) We had an awesome time. It was not our first visit to Disney World, but it was still totally awesome. It was exactly what our family needed-an opportunity to spend time together away from the daily "pulls" from the outside, and just focus on one another and have fun.

During our last visit to Disney (3yrs ago) our then 8yr old daughter wanted to go on almost every rollercoaster that existed! I'm not very fond of rollercoasters,but I didn't want to be a party pooper, and decided to ride on all the wild rides with my husband and daughter. What a big mistake! When we returned from that vacation, I had a backache for weeks.

I have gained much wisdom from that experience, and I no longer ride anything that goes faster than the merry go round.--I have nothing to prove.-- I was content hanging out with my 11 month old. On the other hand, my dear hubby still decided to ride with the "wild rollercoaster rider", who not only wants to ride the rollercoasters, but ride them over and over and over....... After the first day at the parks---He was pooped and confessed "I can't hang with her anymore!" (Next time we'll let her take a friend!)

The vacation was great, but it's back to the daily tasks. We have three weeks of "school" left. I am continuing to plan for next school year, and I have purchased a few curriculum items. I've got my list, and I'm checking things off. :-) I finally feel like I'm making progress.

It' s late. I better get some sleep............

"These things I have spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full." ~ John 15:11

Sunday, April 24, 2005

Scripture of the day: "Wherefore, seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us." ~Hebrews 12:1

I did it!!! I finally made the decision not to indulge and overburden myself or my children in extra activities next year--and I told my ll yr old daughter--who loves her co-op class (that's 40min away). (Don't forget softball, basketball, bible-study, art class, music lessons) .

For some strange reason, over the past few years, I have always felt compelled to have my daughter in quite a few extra curricular activities. At the time we began homeschooling, she was an only child, and we don't have other children in our neighborhood, so I felt she needed others to "socialize" with. I think that was my reasoning. Nevertheless, we always seemed to manage the logistics of things pretty good. Since I had my 2nd daughter almost a year ago, life has changed for us--Momma is exhausted!

My daughter is a social butterfly. She makes friends wherever she goes, and is well liked. So, I must admit-- I was ready for a complete preteen hormonal melt down when I told her the plans for next year.--NO Co-Op! and one weekly evening activity. Gulp! (Why was I feeling this way?)

Initially, her eyes looked like they were going to pop out of her head. I shared with her that the pace we were going at was not inline with our goals. I shared my tentative plans for various subjects and activities and she was fine with it! (Hurray!)

It is amazing how children can change our pace. (Or am I just getting too old for all this stuff) My little sweet cheeks will be walking before you know it, and our household will change once again. It's all good though. This season will pass before I know it. I can't believe my 11 yr old is 11. It seems like just yesterday she was reciting entire Winnie the Pooh books from memory! She still doesn't forget a thing.

Well, after making the schedule changes and sharing them with my daughter, I feel like a load has been lifted. I'm free. I can breath. My planning has been going much smoother just knowing that we will be at home everyday. It will be much easier to plan field trips and occasional extras.

Tuesday, April 19, 2005

Scripture for today: " And we know that all things work together for the good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose" ~ Romans 8:28

Wow! It seems like it has been a challenge getting to the computer to sit down and blog lately. Our schedule is too busy!

As I plan for next "year", I am really looking at how we are spending our time with school. This has been our first year in a co-op, and it has really taken a big chunk out of our days. The class meets twice a week. It has been great for my daughter, but it has definitely affected the other subjects that I am teaching. When we return from the class -which is midday, not much gets done. Not to mention the other seasonal activities, basketball, softball, mid week Bible study, art class, and piano lessons.--And I have and 11month old!

I don't want to be too rigid-(I have been known for that), but I do have goals that I want to accomplish with her. As a pre-teen, soon to be 7th grader, I am challenged with making decisions to maintain balance. I think that it is interesting for her to have another teacher other than myself. At her age, I think that it breaks up the monotony with just me. (Even though I'm a great teacher :-)

I have thought of asking my husband to take a subject to teach. Sometimes his work schedule can be very busy, and I don't know if it will be too much.--Decisions, decisions!

As I continue to prepare a tentative schedule, I will just continue to pray and ask the Lord for guidance.

Thursday, April 14, 2005

Scripture of the day: "And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the pagans run after all these things , and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." ~ Matthew 6:28-33

Why worry?

This is an area that occasionally sneaks up on me. My latest concern has been about planning for the next school year.. (I am sooo behind in my planning compared to previous years) Am I doing this right....Should I change this...... How can I change this... Is she getting enough of this....Should I omit that ...Which curriculum should I use for this subject..Etc. Etc.... Does this ever end????

Things have been very different this year with my little one (who is quickly approaching 1yr). I expected that, but I'm a little challenged about where to make necessary changes.

Nevertheless, I know that God will help me with this challenge.

"Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ" ~Philippians 1:6

Tuesday, April 12, 2005

Quote for today: "The unexamined life is not worth living" ~SocratesSpring is such a great time for renewal! I often find this time of year energizing. There is something about spring that make me re-examine my life, plan and recommit to those things that are undone.

The Art of Renewal...

It is a time to re-evaluate your past as a guide to your future... It is a time to toss old hatreds, resentments, grudges and fears into the wastebasket of life; a time to forgive and forget, a time to stretch your soul...It is a time to list the things you have left undone and to do something about them...It is a time to dust off your dreams and shine up your ideals...~The Art of Living by Wilferd A. Peterson

"And be renewed in the spirit of your mind" ~ Ephesians 4:23"For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day." ~ 2Corinthians 4:16

Wednesday, April 06, 2005

Quote for today: " If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant. If we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome." Anne Bradstreet (1612?-1672) US poet What a beautiful spring day!! The spring sun is shining and the birds are singing their songs. Oh, how I long for these days after the bitter days of winter.

Isn't it funny how as human beings, we are never satisfied. When it's spring we want summer, so we can hit the beach. After a few weeks of 80-90 degree weather and the cars and central air are overworked, we long for autumn days. Autumn is beautiful with the leaves and all, but we then long for the holiday festivities and the snow so the kids can play and we can ski. After the holiday energy has diminished and our New Year's resolutions have failed (mid Jan.), we long for spring.--I'm exaggerating, but there's truth to this that can be applied to many parts of our lives."Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have; for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee." ~ Hebrews 13:5I will enjoy this beautiful spring day. I will also thank God for each new day that He allows me to see, be it spring, summer, winter or fall --knowing that He is with me through them all......

Scripture of the day:"But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another. This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other; so that ye cannot do the things that ye would." ~ Galatians 15-17When someone mistreats us, gossips about us, or says unkind things to us, it is very difficult to hold down "fleshly" responses.

Recently, I had a situation arise where someone's said some things that were quite unkind--okay very unkind, and it came as a shock. I didn't know how to respond or what to say. Initially, my first response was to say unkind things also, but I didn't. I couldn't . I was deeply hurt. It actually took me a few days to get over the shock.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof." ~ Proverbs 18:21Words are powerful. They resonate in a person's mind for years to follow. Whether the words are good or bad. It is important as Christians, that we keep this at the forefront of our minds. Let our words be encouraging, and let us speak blessings upon all those that we come in contact with.

As we live this life for Christ, these types of challenges will face us more that we'd like to admit. However, I find comfort in God's Word. His Word is the Truth and it will set us free.

Friday, April 01, 2005

Scripture for today:"And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose." ~ Romans 8:28purpose n. The object toward which one strives or for which something exists; an aim or a goal.

What is your purpose?

This question generates great thought. How many of us continue to seek our purpose is in this life? There are thousands of Bible Studies currently using The Purpose Driven Life. (Which I have not read) I know that I have come across this question many times in my own life.... What is it that God wants me to do?

As women, wearing the many hats that we wear, life can often seem repetitious and mundane. I have personally felt this way in seasons of my life, but I have also talked to countless numbers of women who have felt the same way. Many women are constantly looking for that "Ah Hah" moment, job, or hobby. (As Oprah puts it) (Whom by the way, is not married). In addition, many women are in search of a ministry, outreach or position in their church to help fulfill this "purpose."

I once heard a minister state that "your ministry isn't any good , unless you have ministered in your own home first." Those may not be the exact words, but that message which was many years ago, has remained in my thoughts for years. As women, we can take a lot away from that statement.

Our purpose or ministry begins in our home, with our husband and children, whether we like it or not. If we can not manage our home life first, how can we reach beyond those walls, and minister to others?

"And the Lord God said it is not good for man that he should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." ~ Gen 2:18

Feminists would pass out reading this scripture, but this is our primary calling. We are to be a helper suitable for our husbands.

Over the years, I have personally struggled with this. My parents were divorced, and I grew up in a home where feminism reigned! But thank God for his Word!!!! I still occasionally struggle, but I know God's purpose in this area and my desire is to honor it.

"Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it." ~ Proverbs 22:6This duty in itself will take 18 years minimum per child. (smile) Within this training we have great opportunities of purpose and ministry. Children are a great blessing.

It doesn't mean that we can't have other interests and activities (I'm not legalistic), but these scriptures guide us on our focus.

Purpose? It begins in the home. Look around and see where you can improve so that God will be glorified.( I'm doing a mental scan right now.) (Gulp)

Thursday, March 31, 2005

After returning from a 5 day vacation, my family and I returned home yesterday. We had a great time full of fun and family celebrations. It's always great to see family members. We live far away from our families, and I always wonder if it's really the best thing.

Each time that I leave my family, no matter how long I spend with them (days or weeks), I always feel a sense of emptiness that I can't explain. I have been living far away for over 15 years, so I don't understand why I still have this feeling even though I am looking forward to returning home. It usually takes me a few days, and then I'm okay.

These next few days will be spent getting things in order to return to our normal routines next week.

Wednesday, March 23, 2005

I am still in the process of planning for our next school year. I came across this information last year. It really makes me think about how I approach "schooling" and a few areas that I fall short in that could really help my days go smoother. I thought that I would share it:

Do You Sabotage Your Homeschool? If you answer no to one of the questions below, you might consider if this is an area that is sabotaging your homeschool. All families are different, so what works for one may not work for another. At the same time, most of what is compiled in this handout comes straight from homeschool moms and their experiences. Have an open mind and ask yourself, Do *I* sabotage *my* homeschool?Do you have children that know what you expect, and show you respect? (Bad attitudes ring the death toll for a happy homeschooling atmosphere.)If they were to follow your example, would your children be learning to manage their time wisely? Most of the time

Do you discipline yourself so that you are not sidetracked by the computer in the morning? (You know Im just going to quickly check my e-mail this morning... and then school starts an hour late with a guilt ridden, grumpy mom. Not a pretty sight! ) EEEK!

Do you use the answering machine during school time? (Even if you are not helping a student right at that moment, you will not be as available if you are chatting on the phone. You might also be distracting them if the students are younger.) NO, I stick to this one

Do you have some sort of lesson plan? (If you shoot at nothing, you will always hit it! Winging it can be so stressful, and usually does not produce what a well thought out plan can generate.) Yes, I love checking things off.

Do you look over your lessons ahead of time? (If you try to prepare materials while the student is sitting there, you will totally lose their attention, as well as waste their time.) Not always

Do you have all school supplies ready to use? (i.e. pencils sharpened, paper well stocked, everything in a special place so that its accessible) Yes

Do you have supplies ready for projects and reports? (Dont wait to visit the library the day the unit begins.)Most of the time

Do you have realistic plans for the day? (Dont over burden yourself, or your children, with too much to do, and not enough time.)Are you careful to plan ahead for the unexpected? (Dont let things like your monthly cycle, company, events, etc., take you off guard.) Sometimes I am guilty for overscheduling. This is definitely an area that I need to work on.

Can you be flexible, but not too flexible? (There is a necessary balance!)Are you careful not to make appointments during school hours? (doctor, hair, friends, etc.) Allowing visitors during school hours can also become very disruptive to quality school time. I have gotten better over the years at learning to be flexible ( I have an infant!)

Do you have a regular bedtime, and rising time, for you and the children?Are you eating, and feeding your family, a well-balanced diet for health and energy. MostlyDo you have a regular time to start school? Yes

Are you careful about excessive outside activities (soccer, ballet, karate, art class, etc.)? (Running from one activity to another eats up valuable home time, and will burnout kids as well as mom. The activity might be legitimate, but is it necessary? ) I need to work on this one. I 'v e gotten burned out with all the running and having a little one. This will change for next year.

Are *you* over committed to outside activities? (Learn to say, No! Others should not have priority over your family and homeschool.) No

Do you have a regular schedule for household duties? (Everything always runs smoother with a plan.)Yes.Is your house clutter free? Working on it (books!)Do you have your children help with household duties? (Training and education should not just be in academics. All children can do chores that are appropriate to their ages.) Yes, but could do more

Are your curriculum choices stable? (Jumping from one curriculum to another can be costly. Do not feel the need to purchase every new curriculum on the market. Careful thought and research can really pay off in the end. Also, try to find some who is using the program you are interested in. Ask for their input, and if you can come and take a look at it first hand.) Pretty stable

Are you enjoying the learning process? (Sometimes we can lose sight of the joys of homeschooling because we become obsessive with finishing a certain amount of workpages, etc.) Yes, Yes, Yes!

Do you ask your husband for his input on school issues? (Disregarding your husband in matters of homeschooling is like shooting yourself in the foot. Dont forget, he loves those kids, too.) Not as much as I should.

Do you let other moms decide much of the above for your family rather than your husband and you? NO

Do you have a clear vision for what you want to accomplish in your homeschool? Yes

Tuesday, March 22, 2005

Scripture of the day:"Dear Children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and truth" ~ 1 John 3:18My heart is saddened this morning.... My thoughts and prayers are with the parents, community and family members of those in Bimidji, Minnesota. How sad it is to hear of the shootings spurred by a high schooler. I can't imagine what this community is feeling. It brings tears to my eyes....I am still in prayer for Terri Schiavo's family, as they are enduring the painful process of watching their daughter fade away.....In this life we can not take one moment for granted....I don't have many words this morning..I will give many hugs today.... I will call those I love today.....and let them know that I love them...

Saturday, March 19, 2005

Scripture for today:"The Lord will give strength unto his people; the Lord will bless his people with peace." - Psalms 29:11Why am I up at 6 am on a Saturday morning?????? (Actually, I've been up since five, read a few chapters in a history book that my daughter will start in a couple of weeks, gave my little one a bottle, and had my first cup of coffee) --- Because, sometimes is seems that it's the only time I can have a little uninterrupted peace.Peace. What is peace? One of the definitions is: Inner contentment; serenity: Hmmmm. It seems as though this comes from within not related to outside factors. (Okay, Lord. I get it.)Well, as for "schooling" here. The weeks party is over! :-) All the shopping trips, and wasting time is over. My dd has completed her standardized testing this week. She enjoyed seeing her old friends and spending time with them. On Monday, it's back to homeschool life for three days before our spring break trip. The weather reports states that we will have a beautiful weekend--60's & 70's. My kind of weather. I am going to enjoy the weekend with my family and focus on inner peace. :-) Shalom.

Scripture for today:"The Lord will give strength unto his people; the Lord will bless his people with peace." - Psalms 29:11Why am I up at 6 am on a Saturday morning?????? (Actually, I've been up since five, read a few chapters in a history book that my daughter will start in a couple of weeks, gave my little one a bottle, and had my first cup of coffee) --- Because, sometimes is seems that it's the only time I can have a little uninterrupted peace.Peace. What is peace? One of the definitions is: Inner contentment; serenity: Hmmmm. It seems as though this comes from within not related to outside factors. (Okay, Lord. I get it.)Well, as for "schooling" here. The weeks party is over! :-) All the shopping trips, and wasting time is over. My dd has completed her standardized testing this week. She enjoyed seeing her old friends and spending time with them. On Monday, it's back to homeschool life for three days before our spring break trip. The weather reports states that we will have a beautiful weekend--60's & 70's. My kind of weather. I am going to enjoy the weekend with my family and focus on inner peace. :-) Shalom.

Thursday, March 17, 2005

Quote for the day: Be still, sad heart, and cease repining; Behind the clouds the sun is shining; Thy fate is the common fate of all, Into each life some rain must fall, Some days must be dark and dreary. Author: Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

It's cold and wet here in our neck of the woods. It's one of those days where you just want to curl up and nap ALL day. Unfortunately, that can't happen today-- I have too many things to do.

Wednesday, March 16, 2005

Quote for today:" Public schools are the nurseries of all vice and immorality. "Henry Fielding (1707-1754) English novelist, dramatist

This week has been an interesting one. My daughter has been taking her annual standardized testing this week. (It's required in our state.) Every year, she returns to her former private school for a week of testing with her grade level. She spends the mornings there and she gets to see her old friends.

Each year I usually take this time to do some extra things ie, spring cleaning, painting etc. This year I haven't done any of those things. I have been spending the mornings with my infant and "hanging out in the sun and having fun!" My little one and I have been hitting the craft stores, and the mall. :-)-- Is this what I did when my daughter was in traditional school?-----Yes! Spend too much money!

I must confess, as I drove around town this week and watched the school buses drive around with the kids, --the idea surely crossed my mind. If she was in school all day I could.........Then the Lord nudged me. (He does that you know) --As if to say "Snap out of it Mikki!" "Back to earth" "Remember why you are homeschooling, it's definately not about you!" (GULP!)

Okay.. Okay.. I truly believe in how my husband and I have chosen to educate our children. Educating them at home has been a blessing, and we can see some of those fruits. However, I must confess-- for that moment, the school bus looked pretty good!

Monday, March 14, 2005

Scripture for today: "Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them." ~Deuteronomy 4:9What an awesome calling we have as mothers. Sometimes is seems a little overwhelming. Thank God for his faithfulness. He never leaves us or forsakes us, and He gives us the strength to go on.

My preteeen daughter is growing quickly and beautifully. Inside and out. :-) I was recently looking at some of her pictures when she was a baby and a toddler, and boy those years have passed almost as a blink of an eye. Before you know it, she will be off to college. (Super Gulp!)

As you know, I also have an infant, who has truly brought additional excitement and joy to our home over the past few months. The gift of life is soooo precious. The Lord has blessed me with two angels.

What a gift He has given us,with this precious thing called life.It is such a special blessing,being a mother and a wife.

~Mikki

On Mothering: I highly recommend The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson.

Thursday, March 10, 2005

Scripture for today: "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. ~ Galatians 6:9

How many time have you felt like giving up or quitting homeschooling? Me~ A lot!

Though I know that homeschooling our children is the best for our family until God directs us otherwise, there have been days when I have wanted to quit:1. One day a month when PMS is raging2. Every February in the midst of the winter

The times that encourage me to continue homeschooling far outway the previously mentioned:1. When we just sit and discuss a spiritual/biblical issue uninterupted2. When my daughter and I have incredible laughing moments (almost daily)3. When my daughter gets engrossed in a book for hours4. When my dd makes and educational connection (aha moment!)5. When we take family vacations any time of the year :-)6. When I see spiritual/emotional growth in my daughter7. 9/118. The daily news: child abductions, school bomb threats, school bus accidents...

I'm sure that I can name plenty more... Be encouraged!

Don't QuitWhen things go wrong, as they sometimes willWhen the road you're trudging seems all uphillWhen the funds are low and the debts are highAnd you want to smile, but you have to sigh

When care is pressing you down a bitRest, you must - but don't you quitLife is queer with its twists and turnsAs everyone of us sometimes learns

And many a failure turns aboutWhen he might have won had he stuck it outDon't give up, though the pace seems slowYou might succeed with another blow

Success is failure turned inside out, the silver tint of the clouds of doubtAnd you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so farSo stick to the fight when you're hardest hitIt's when things seem worst, That you MUST NOT QUIT!

Tuesday, March 08, 2005

Quote for today: "Children are unpredictable. You never know what inconsistency they're going to catch you in next." ~Franklin P. Jones

Now this is a quote that I can relate to! Throughout this journey of homeschooling my daughter, I have frequently encountered my inconsistencies being noticed.

As parents, I think that we unintentionally play this "game" for lack of better words, with our children. Let me give you an example.

When my daughter was in traditional school, I did my daily activities at home, volunteered at her school, went to the gym etc. The days that I didn't feel so great for whatever reason (pms, stress, etc), I could drop her off at school with a smile-- mope through a day(not all days of course), eat chocolate/soda during pms days etc. :-) I'd pick her up from school with a smile and the rest of the evening was full of the normal activities. She didn't always see how I really lived, behaved or thought during those few hours in the evening.

However, as our children get older, and because we homeschool them, they are with us almost all of the time.---OUR TRUE SELVES COME THROUGH!!! What an eye opener! My daughter (not knowing of course) has shown me so many things about myself, that I was unaware of. It has really put me to the test to truly live the life that I am teaching her to live.

I truly thank God for giving my husband and I the insight to homeschool our daughter. I knew that she would get a better education, but I was unaware as to how much I would grow in the process.

Monday, March 07, 2005

Scripture for today: " Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.. Proverbs 31: 11-12Wow, I can't believe it's been 5 days since I've blogged. We have had a busy weekend with activities. Life just happens.

Well, this morning I a woke up bright and early to get the week started on the right foot. 515am. I tried to blog but had a few difficulties trying to add pictures to my blog. For any of you tech savvy individuals, I would appreciated any help. I tried to add the appropriate tag to my template as suggested by blogger, but I couldn't seem to get it to work.

It's mid day and we are completing the assignments that are in my lesson plan book. It makes me happy when I can check off things that have been completed. :-)

Wednesday, March 02, 2005

Quote for today: "Books are the liberated spirits of men" --Mark Twain

Ahhhh! Books... I must admit that I am a self-proclaimed bibliophile. I truly enjoy books, andI have the books to prove it. I am constantly trying tofind ways to make room for my varied collection. That being said, I can spend hours at Borders, Barnes & Noble, or Books-A-Million at any given time. And don't forget the precious library.

Reading relaxes me. I also enjoy pursuing knowledge about a topic that interests me. However, I must admit that I don't always read a book from cover to cover. Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested.--Frances Bacon.

I am currently reading The Good Earth by Pearl Buck and rereading The Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson. I have Jane Eyre by my bedside but have not began to read it yet.I have passed this passion on to my 10 yr old. She is currently reading The Giver and The Little House on the Prairie (for history). She enjoys fiction, especially mysteries. She also keeps a stack next to her bed that she reads at night.

Which book has most inspired your life?Here are a few quotes about books:

I cannot live without books. Thomas Jefferson

The book to read is not the one which thinks for you, but the one which makes you think. James McCosh

I must say that I find television very educational. The minute somebody turns it on, I go to the library and read a book. Groucho Marx

Anyone who has a library and a garden wants for nothing. Cicero

Reading is a basic tool in the living of a good life. Mortimer J. Adler

He who destroys a good book kills reason itself. John Milton

Be as careful of the books you read, as of the company you keep, for your habits and character will be as much influenced by the former as the latter. Paxton Hood

Except a living man, there is nothing more wonderful than a book. Charles Kingsley

To acquire the habit of reading is to construct for yourself a refuge from almost all of the miseries of life. W. Somerset Maugham

Never read a book through merely because you have begun it. John Witherspoon

Monday, February 28, 2005

Scripture for today: "Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."--Phillipians 4:8

I was reading a popular parents magazine today, and the topic was basically about some of the challenges of mothers who transition from working away from home to becoming a full-time stay at home mom. It addressed the issues of the change, and how difficult it could be. One thing that it mentioned was the importance of moms to get out and meet others who are also at home with their children. It encouraged women to find ways to channel their energies etc. As I read this article, I began to think about the stay at home mom who homeschools her children. We also have special needs and at times, challenges where we need the support of others. From my own recent experience, I have really realized how important it is to fellowship with other moms. I have an infant, and recently have not had the energy or desire to go to the gatherings etc, that I have gone to in the past. I have to admit that I have noticed a change in my attitude, and I think that it is related.

When we don't take/make the time to refresh, spend time with friends, or work on a favorite hobbie, it becomes so easy to focus on the minutia in life that is really insignificant. After visiting with a friend last week, I realized how much I needed that fellowship.

Support group meetings, Mom's nights out etc. are so refreshing and much needed especially during this time of the year. We really have to put forth the effort to make it to some of the fellowships. Sometimes it's challenging (getting a sitter etc.), but once we atttend it's usually worth all of the effort to get there.

I'm looking at my March calendar to see where I can pencil in some time for me! :-)

Friday, February 25, 2005

Life's small treasures..For me, this time of year can feel a little lonely. After the hype of the holidays are over, the new years resolutions have flopped and the chill of the cold weather sets in, I can feel a little slump. But what better way to lift one's spirits than to fellowship with a good friend.I had and opportunity to share yesterday afternoon with a good friend who also homeschools her children. As home school moms we share a lifestyle and concerns that I really don't think other moms understand. Having the opportunity to encourage, be encouraged, share views , opinions, and just good old laughter, is great for the mind, body and spirit. :-)Today is Friday (Fun Friday)! We will finish a family project today (painting) and have dinner out this evening. (No cooking for me!) Later this evening I will work on my lesson plans for next week.On to my first cup of coffee......

Wednesday, February 23, 2005

Scripture of the day: "Better a little with righteousness than much gain with injustice." Proverbs 16:8

Good Morning! I didn't get a chance to blog yesterday. Yesterday was a good day. I did do a little schooling ( I couldn't resist) but everything went well. We've been enjoying hubby at home working on a few family projects. It was a long day--my oldest had practice last evening for a church group activity and we didn't return home until 9:45 pm...... zzzzzz -- I was pooped.

I am going to continue to take it easy and do a little planning for next weeks lessons. My daughter is in the 6th grade. I am beginning to look ahead for curriculum next year. This is a fun time of the year. I can't believe she will be in the 7th grade next year.--Time Flies!

We are currently using the following curriculum:Math: Saxon Algebra 1/2, Spelling: Abeka6 Spelling, Vocabulary and Poetry ( We don't follow the poetry selections, we select separate memory work), Latin:Latina Christiana I DVD (highly recommended), Logic :FallacyDetective, Mindbenders and other logic puzzles, History: We are just beginning 1850-Present. In the past I have used Biblioplan but I am going to follow the WTM approach using KF and Library books etc. English: Rod & Staff 6. For Science we have been using Apologia's Exploring Creation with General Science. Art/Music Studying various artists and composers of the time period. Plenty of Reading apprx. 1hr or more per day.

As you prepare for the next "year's" studies, what is your greatest challenge?

My greatest challenge is the scheduling aspect of planning, and not overdoing it. I have an infant this year and it has definately made me relax a little more. Next year she will be a toddler, and I'm sure I'll have to make more adjustments to our daily schedule.

Monday, February 21, 2005

Scripture for today:"Do not show partiality in judging; hear both small and great alike. Do not be afraid of any man, for judgementbelongs to God" Deuteronomy 1:17

Most children in our area have the day off from school. My husband is off from work this week too. Of course, I still decided to have a half day of school.--Not a good idea! There are just too many distractions when my dh is at home. The schedule gets thrown off and it causes me a little frustration. Why? I'm not sure. Nevertheless, I think I'm going to relax the rest of the week and just enjoy time with the family and work on some family projects. We will pick up where we left off next week.

How do you handle public school holidays? Do you typically follow thereschedule?

Sunday, February 20, 2005

As I begin to think about planning for the next "school year", it's hard to believe that I have been teaching my daughter at home for 4yrs. I truly didn't expect to continue for this long after pulling her out of private school. I guess God had other plans! It has been both a challenging and exciting journey.

Why did you begin homeschooling? What has made you continue?For my husband and I, we were not satisfied with my daughter's school at the time. Great school, but not really meeting our daughter's needs. We pulled her out rather quickly, and jumped headfirst into this journey. We have continued for many reasons to name a few: The time we have to talk about God's Word and prayer is priceless. We have also seen our daughter's love for learning flourish and her true talents spring forth. I don't think we could have gained a clear picture of those talents with her away from us 6-7hrs a day. It is also extremely convenient for our family travels.