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I believe you have to do what you think is best. My older children know and they are 12 and 14. I did wait for them to come to me and this is what I told them. "While it is true that daddy and I buy the gifts the meaning of Christmas is more then just getting presents." I do think my children did not really know so when they first started talking about it one of them said "there is no way you and dad would pay for all that stuff we get." It was very cute. I think it is also a little sad when your kids do find out.

For me I would let them believe as long as they do believe, I would not just tell them.

this breaks my heart.....i struggle with this also....my daughter is 11 and still believes strongly....she has mild autism and I know I need to tell her because she already gets made fun of for so much...my family has begged me not to spoil it for her, but now i think i left it too long....when she finds out, she will think of me as a liar....in some ways i wish i never did the santa thing....i wish i followed my heart and didn't go in for all that stuff...just telling her the stories were all fictional from the beginning....still celebrate, but we would have been celebrating for the right reasons ...know what i mean? sorry, this is a sensitive thing for me, lol....i truly struggle with what to do with this !

I don't think that there is a magic number to when they stop believing but when they do it's sad. I know with ollder ones youdon't want them to say anything to their younger siblings and ruin it for them. I was 15 still getting from Santa because my sister is 5 years younger then me. So far, I think my 8 year old has no idea but I'll bet it's coming and then I think I'll still do the Santa thing but as a surprise type thing not what we do now.

My son is 10 and my daughter is 6. My son is starting to wonder, and last year I thought would be the last year he believed. The other day we were talking, and he said he still believes but if he friends ask than he tells them no.

you might as well let him know before he goes into kindergarden, cause some other kid will. Mine is 3 almost 4 and she has never believed in santa. Last year was the first year I tried and she was so scared of him at the mal, I didn't know what to do. My cousin's daughter, who was then 4 told her 'don't worry Abby, Santa isn't real, it's just a story parents tell stupid children to get them to behave". Not the way I would have chosen but at least she wasn't scared anymore.