9 Women Texted Their Partners Pictures of ~Sexy~ Lingerie With No Explanation — Here's What Happened

Lingerie speaks louder than words.

By
Natalie Wall

Apr 14, 2017

If society and advertisers have shoved any one idea about sex down women's throats, it's that men always want to see women in super sexy lingerie. But do men really care about see-through underthings? Do sexy bras and panties really get them excited? To find out, I asked 9 women to send a photo of lingerie to their partners with absolutely no explanation or context. The results? Confusion, some excitement, and a conversation about a Craigslist purchase.

*Some names have been changed for privacy.

1. Alexis and Jakob have been dating for one year.

"We're very in tune with each other in terms of how often [we have sex] and also what kind of sex we want at what time," says Alexis. "We're also down to like, really go for it, when we want to and down to try whatever. We have very little history with lingerie, but he tells me all the time how nice my panties are and also had me keep some too-short skirts I was planning to get rid of. So when he found out I didn't buy the lingerie, his reaction was like, 'Waaaa :( !! Why aren't you getting those?!'"

2. Devon and Tim* have been married for one year.

"We haven't sexy texted in a loooong time," says Devon. "I'm uncomfortable sending [sexy] pictures, since we've been in situations where my texts have popped up when a friend is using our computer. I do love wearing lingerie, though. Tim is usually very into pictures and sexy chats and he loves hearing about any sex dreams I have, so I was expecting a little more from his texts! But he was busy with work, so I'll forgive him for now."

3. Mary and Bob have been together for about 15 months.

"Earlier that morning, I had found a bookcase on Craigslist. It'll be the final major furniture purchase for our new apartment," Mary explains. "I was [surprised at his response], but I shouldn't have been. He is the undisputed call-back king; he'll bring something in from like 8 conversations ago and craft it into a seamless joke. It usually takes a second for me to get, but it's very funny."

4. Michelle* and Chase* have been together for 7 months.

"I wouldn't call us a wild couple. We don't really sexy text because I'm too paranoid that I'll get hacked," says Michelle. "I was surprised by how much he was willing to do to see me in lingerie, though! He knows the way to my heart is through food — in general, he can get me to do anything if he makes me a home-cooked meal. But this deal sounds pretty good for me because I get a home-cooked meal and all I have to do is put on some underwear!"

5. Sarah* and Joseph* have been dating for about 8 months.

"We've been together 8 months and he's super shy about sex," says Sarah. "I can't ever talk about it, because he gets quiet. We have sex and he enjoys sex, he just can not talk about it out loud. And we've never sexted! I would like to wear lingerie, but I think he would be uncomfortable. I might try it now that he reacted somewhat interested."

6. Rebecca* and Sam* have been together for almost 4 years.

"Since this was more of an experiment, I wasn't particularly annoyed that he didn't respond," Rebecca says. "We rarely sext, which is funny because we were long distance for 3 years — we just never developed a sexting routine. When I was living in San Francisco and he was in New York, I would try and send him sexy photos, like a photo of my butt at a cute angle, and get ignored or get a response that suggested he didn't totally know how to respond. So nothing's changed."

7. Rosa and Jake* have been dating for 7 months.

"There's a Jewish tradition of leaving an empty seat for Elijah (the prophet) at the Passover dinner. The joke here is instead of an empty seat, I'm leaving out sexy panties," explains Rosa. "But since there was a Jewish mom in the house, the only panties I would have been confident enough to wear would have been of the granny variety. I should have bought the lingerie, though. When I told him that it was a prank for a friend's article, he was like, 'Wait you didn't actually buy it? Bummer.'"

8. Nicollette and Jon have been dating a little over a year.

Nicollette and Jon enjoy a kinky sex life and like to involve their friends occasionally, whether in threesomes or at sex parties. "We've always been like this for the most part," Nicollette says. "Of course, it took some time discussing all of our wants, desires, and needs, but we were both always very open to exploring all aspects and parts of each other's sexuality." H, mentioned in the texts above, "is just a friend by most standards," she says. "She and I have hooked up a few times, both before and after Jon and I started dating. I mostly mentioned her because I wanted to see how turned-on Jon would get!"

9. Diane* and Nathan* have been together for a year and a half.

"We don't sext often, but it's usually a fun time when we do. And he normally acknowledges if I send a sexy picture!" says Diane. "This time, he literally sent nothing back and never mentioned it. I sent the picture twice, and he never responded to either attempt, which is very odd since I know he would like that lingerie. He asked about it later that in person, and I told him I had been disappointed that he never responded. He'd apparently been on the phone with his mother and thought I'd be wearing it when he walked in."

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