«I have enough»: why, in Russia, more and more people-singles

«How to spend the New year alone», «tours on holidays for one», «where to go in the evening alone» — such queries on the Internet every year more and more. Psychologists say: the number of those who consciously refuses a permanent relationship and family, is constantly growing. They call themselves singletons — singleton-English (loner. — Approx. ed.). RIA Novosti has tried to understand how attractive a Outlook on life.

Alone, all alone

Financial analyst Alexander Sutyagin as if he surprised his lifestyle. «I finally realized that I’m a loner, when he refused all invitations to celebrate the New year in the company and clinked glasses with the monitor. During the holidays evaded two sentences skiing, although one was from a cute girl. She told me, basically, like, but, knowing her character, I feel that she wants a relationship. And I don’t want,» he says.

He has a prestigious car, own apartment, several times a year he travels abroad. «Once I was married, traveled everywhere with his wife. Remember always we had a debate — she wanted a beach holiday, and I enjoy day trips, like to learn something new. Now travel exclusively alone. Own boss, spend time as they see fit,» explains Alexander.

Psychologists say that conscious individuals the world more and more. Ahead of the rest in this sense, the countries of the West. Doctor of psychology and PhD, psychotherapist European registry, mark Sandomirsky says that in wealthy European countries among the young and middle-aged singletons are already 20-30 percent. According to him, is rapidly gaining popularity is a way of life in Russia, especially in Moscow and other big cities.

«The second half is just the brain, ass and tablets is Faina Ranevskaya said, I totally agree with her. I have nothing against relationships and family, when based on spiritual kinship, trust, acceptance and understanding of the other as yourself. Although I — so — don’t need that. And the romantic relationships that I was never interesting,» admits 26-year-old Anna Kuznetsova, designer.

The second group of thirty. It is, as a rule, ambitious, single-minded careerists. Sacrifice business success brings family.

In the third group — lone of those who are over forty. After the collapse of a private life, everyone has their own painful story. They rely on solitude, in order not to get burned again, says Sandomierz. According to him, in the last few years all rapidly growing this group of singletons.

«My favorite anecdote on this subject: «One man all the time persuaded to marry. They say, will live one will die and no one even a glass of water will bring. Well, he married, he sired children. Lies, dies and thinks: «And drink something and do not want,» jokes the 41-year-old Bank analyst Vladimir Morozov.

According to him, more than anything, he likes to follow clear plans: as of now know that in August I will go on vacation to Majorca, and in October will visit the training of leadership skills. «My wife always was chaos. Although I loved her, the divorce was for me a real hell… I Have many friends, girlfriends, sex me now, and so lacking. At work regular meeting, the hassle. The evening usually no one to see and not want to. Three years after the divorce, but I don’t think once will someone to live,» he says.

In the experience economy

The phenomenon of lucid solitude is already grown his philosophy. In the book the new York sociologist Eric Kleinenberg «Life of solo» singletons progressive phenomenon. The scientist believes that the community, including family life, rooted in the past. Modern man, in his opinion, live for himself, asserts individualism and engaged in self-development. However, according to some studies, people with weak social bonds are more prone to depression, life expectancy is less.

Experts indicate that the phenomenon of the singletons, contributes to the character of the modern economy. The production of goods one way or another of course. Bought the car for the following is unlikely to go the next day. More and more industries are oriented to providing products and experiences that can be consumed almost without interruption. For an economy single — find. After all, the sense of fullness of life they often find, through Hobbies and entertainment.

«It’s simple arithmetic. How many one person needs the TV? That’s right, one. A family of three? Well, probably the same one. And so many other parameters,» shows on your toes analyst group of companies «Finam» Alexey Korenev. According to him, the loners are much more willing to make a purchase, but not prone to extravagance.

«Many have significant financial savings, they are willing to invest. Someone the old fashioned way, buys dollars and euros, someone studying the issue more carefully and invests in mutual funds,» notes Koren.

On the verge of an epidemic

Another factor contributing to the popularization of this way of life, is social media. It would seem that the Internet provides limitless opportunities for communication, but often virtual contacts only create the illusion of a busy life. And require no other obligations. As soon as you feel uncomfortable to communicate with various interlocutors in the Network, you can easily change them and go to another topic. In reality, have to answer for their words and for those with whom you build relationships.

«Sometimes I have parties with myself, — says the owner of a beauty salon in Perm Elena Ignatiev. — Buy your favorite dried apricots and dates, with legs climb on the sofa, put your knees on a laptop and chat with friends on Facebook. Tired — went to sleep. In the morning I washed three plates and have order in the house.»

Scientists are constantly researching the phenomenon of loneliness. They recently came to the conclusion that it’s contagious: the state of mind how the virus is transmitted. It turned out that, if the person at least one day a week feels lonely, his loved ones, too, arises the feeling. It is not excluded that in the near future, developed countries are waiting for another epidemic of loneliness.