Found a trilobite fossil out camping as a kid, in some exposed rock on the side of a hill. I'd seen pictures of trilobite fossils in books and it was precisely one of those.Can't for the life of me remember where that was, just one of those segmented childhood memories you recall in middle age.Kangaroos chased me and my sisters out of the area, I had to dodge around a sapling from this big red roo that came right to me and gave me the distinct impression I was in serious trouble. We were pretty young, the roo was much bigger than me. That sort of got in the way of the archaeological expedition.

I put some AMG upgrades in my old Merc now, bigger engine and brakes, nice wheels and suspension. Still needs a respray but drives very well.I like the way cops don't pull it over. I gave it a squirt merging the other day and spun wheels a bit, saw a cop car with flashy lights behind me in the mirror and thought, oh no I'm going to get done with that hoon legislation or something, but when I slowed to the left he overtook and went off chasing someone else. Coolies.

Yes of course. Generally unless your message contains precisely what the woman wanted to hear, you never get a reply. Women at these sites have very specific ideas of exactly the type of person they want to date, it's like shoe shopping. However they will also respond if swept away by thickly laid sleaze, which is like seeing a pair of shoes they didn't particularly have in mind but they're on sale.

So you really need to stick very strictly within the goalposts of what a particular woman is looking for, meaning be very crafty on picking up on that, or,They do also get swept away by a great sales pitch, like you're asian, so you're a software engineer with a multinational and drive a Ferrari, right? Or, put a photo of your terrific six pack abs, say half in a wetsuit with a hand on a jetski. You get the idea.

Women are extremely complicated when you listen to them. Total opposite if you just watch them in action and take note of what they actually do, not so much what they say they think. Believe me it's just white noise. It works the same in reverse, this is a unilateral observation and not restricted to either sex; women will note you get a lot more blatancy by watching a guy's actions than you will by listening to his well practised sales pitches, ego and self delusions.

Of course it's the exceptions anyone intelligent prefers, which are by definition rare and probably a relative measure. Maybe one on that whole subway train. Just like there maybe one on an entire dating website any given week.You are correct in the presumption you have better chance in person than online. It is easier to identify that exceptional woman you're after and conversely, she probably prefers your type of guy, that's the way it works, but is much more likely to recognize serendipity on sight than by correspondance; ie. the same woman that would be quite pleased to meet you in person, is just as likely to blow you off online as any other unwanted advance.The reason is another trick about all this: a person you're attracted to can do exactly the same things as someone who's behaviour you abhor and you like them doing that, because you like them, and often behaviour you don't like is because you don't like the person doing it. It's not what it is, it's who it is that counts in attraction. And you can't see who online, you only see what. You see who in person.

That's also why as you said women you've met weren't anything like what you assumed about them online, ie. you thought you liked them, met and you didn't. If you met in person you'd know at a glance, wouldn't even need to say hi, which saves awkward moments. By the same token you tend to recognize someone you really like at a glance, tiniest quirks and mannerisms display thought processes and are too quick to control absolutely; as mentioned it's a relative thing but you do tend to recognize things you look for in a person on sight and that works both ways, so if a woman is right for you that fact works for you.All you have to do is invent any excuse to talk and start that interaction, you will find you can be awkward and stumble all over the place but if she likes you, which is decided as you were walking over, then she'll help make it work.

I'd tell her to climb off her high horse and stop being so pretentious. You get what you're given when it comes to people who like you, and you're a moron if you select by any criteria in priori to someone that actually likes you.

Bed hopping your way into select subcultures is for ho's. When you get there I hope you know the way you'll be referred to behind your back by the very social group you then count yourself amongst. Groupie is a polite term, cumslut is the one used in the other room. You get it?

Find your social circles on merit of independent endeavour and interest, find them gravitating towards you. Don't bed hop your way there like shoe shopping for your social circles. It is this inherent contempt for human socialisations as a whole that produces the contempt that it garners among the very group you liked, and you'll be pretty hurt being the last one to hear how you're regarded for going about things the way you did.

You convinced yourself you knew of someone by PMs on the site and then reinforced it via phone calls. What really happened is that you don't even nearly have an accurate perception of someone until you're face to face, and once you were doing that for long enough it shook all the things you made up in your head about them in priori.

Move to meet face to face before you convince yourself you know the slightest thing about someone.

PMs have one purpose: screening obviously bad contacts, ie. people who can't even interact on paper without being lascivious or abusive.Phone calls have one purpose: prelimenary to a meet so you can, for the first time, start to get to know the person.Meeting face to face is the first time you know anything about someone.

Among street thugs false accusation is like a first stop shop for misdirection. It is extremely commonplace around the low bar of human character.

Just a few days ago a good mate whom was contracting as a painter was accused of stealing workplace equipment by the employer, who is now witholding thousands of dollars of wages. My friend has no way stolen a single item, has the best equipment himself to start with. The employer had already shown himself to be a workplace bully and is simply trying to get away with defaulting on owed monies. Perhaps the employer doesn't have the wages money handy so he's just delaying to get out of paying immediately.

The situation won't last in the courts, it's illegal to withold payments on the basis of criminal accusations without any evidence and without going through the authorities. You can't just accuse someone of stealing then hold their money or property, you have to get police involved and try to have them charged and prosecuted, which hasn't happened because the accusation is clearly false.

In the meantime my friend has to go through the courts to get his money, and can't pay his bills. It's frustrating, and I've been counselling him not to get drawn into emotional arguments with the employer about it, but simply go through legal representation and letters of grievance and demand. Keep it legal and get the money.

But false criminal accusations as baseless claims without any evidence is so very common in general, personally I see this sort of thing several times a year. It's like part of the culture of idiots. I've seen idiot women who can't control their drinking nor their behaviour claim rape when they've gone wandering off with every intention to screw a stranger in a pub. Smart guys learn to recognize women that are this kind of trouble in short order and avoid them like the plague.I've seen idiot thugs claim homosexual assault towards a passive stranger they beat up and mugged in the car park. Very commonly I've seen thugs who attacked a stranger and promptly got their butt handed to them try to play victim when the police arrived, accusing their victim of all sorts of justifications for their criminal actions.

Counterclaims is something you virtually always see in any civil proceedings. Someone owes rent so straight up they claim abuse by the landlord.

False accusation is basically the first recourse of the child mind. With one hand in the cookie jar: It wasn't me, this other person did it.

Child minds in adult bodies are dangerous creatures. That's what's most shocking about it. The false accusations themselves are childish, but it is the fact an adult is doing it which is disconcerting.

The maternal sentiment that your child can do no wrong and must be socially defended/protected is based in ego and more about you than her.If her defacto and his ex-squeeze created issues with her, that's her personal social environment and if she wasn't the problem in need of change to suit, then the only other alternative is changing that social environment to suit her, ie. they're both the wrong people for her and she needs a different boyfriend with different social circles.You can't really do it halfway and get the father in her life without inviting his entire type of social circle, and as you mention it is not the most appropriate for your daughter's best light. Someone he was drawn to is back in your daughter's life and it's not a welcome event. That'll keep happening with new people too, suited to him not to her.See the dilemma? I don't think this will get any better. She got pregnant young, with the wrong guy for her. It's all really quite simple.Getting pregnant young with the wrong guy means you don't get the white picket fence or hollywood dream. Everyone is told this all through school. Now what you do is you just live with her decision and leave it alone. She'll have to wait until the child grows up and see if she can reconnect with the dreams she had of what she wanted from life single again later in her thirties or something, it's the story of most women so it's just the normal standard of how things are going to be.Youth is wasted on the young as they say.

It's not at all uncommon for me to read womens profiles that state "not seeking a relationship or any type of commitment" and then in the profile description is written "all you guys looking for a one nighter I'm not interested".Or vice versa, "seeking a relationship" but the description says "I'm just looking for something casual".

It's kind of a headdesk moment. Enough people appear to use a different kind of intelligence than I do, that I've come to the conclusion a profile is basically nonsense unless that person interprets things like the english language the same way you do.The schism I believe is related to maintaining appearances, even women that are really just after a bit of nooky with someone they find hunky, are cultured by conservative society to claim they're looking for a relationship so not to be called slutty. Combined with the polite turn down, if they don't think someone is hunky they might prefer to say they're just not looking for a relationship right now, then bang someone they do think is hunky and try to sex trap that one into a relationship because he was just probably looking for something casual.It's all so relative, that makes sweeping statements about your status or objectives very much change with circumstance and who you happen to be facing at the time.

I'm guessing she just wants something physical on-call and you want something more intimately emotional.You say she's been put through a lot but that's counter-intuitive. Superficial people are ignorant by and large, not overly bent over barrels. Discovering the necessity of being a genuinely decent person is typically the result of real hard experiences, people who are still all about their own convenience still haven't had enough of hard times yet, they want more because its lesson hasn't taken yet. That's an ignorant person, not a streetwise person. Just because they seem rougher around the edges, doesn't mean they're any more than a child in mind, one which sees breaking a nail as an earth shattering hardship, for the billionth time over even.

Drop her like a sack of potatos mate. Seek a like mind, find some appreciation to inspire your devotion instead of wear it thin on a waste of time. She's just going to eat up some of your years like a black hole, then you'll part ways and all you've done is lost time.

Well you must like the type of person who does this because you chose them rather than the type of person who wouldn't do something like this in a million years.You don't blame the raspberry for how it tastes, you don't eat one if you don't like them. That simple. You chose, so you got exactly what you wanted. Choose differently if you want something different.

I used to work in the food industry, and will admit...if a younger person likes an older, mature person, this is the field to go and find 'em :) seems like it goes on a lot. Anyway, she may be in love with being in love. she enjoys all the emotions that come up with having you around, but transfering that to, "let's take our clothes off" may be an entirely different matter.

If you're willing to just bask in the glow of platonic intimacy, then don't push it. If you want an answer to the question of "does she or doesn't she?", then you're going to have to start asking pointed questions....and you may not enjoy the answer.

one thing's for sure, there's no magic thing to do. she either has certain feelings, or she lacks them. you aren't going to screw up what isn't there, if it isn't there.

All the other cautions and speculations are pretty irrelevent. And searching for an appropriate moment to steal a kiss and find out that way can easily become the kind of mistake that winds up in a courtroom and on a sexual offenders registry, due to the workplace environment and respective ages (could be deemed by a court as a position of power by default, which turns misunderstanding into statutory sexual assault).The most you can know a person is a combination of what they choose to show you and what you choose to assume about them. Touchy doesn't mean "like", it could mean "danger". What mature people do is find out safely if they'd like to know where they stand.And if she's not mature enough to respond to that then she might also be immature enough to make any advances you make establishing the nature of your relationship in other ways go very badly for you, in a professional or even legal sense. I've seen people do this in the workplace and it's not even about maliciousness, it's pure immaturity.

It's really only the low bar of meatheads who glide on past reading the profile and they're best suited to those who don't put anything on their profiles. That way the party girls stick with the sleazoids and intelligent people can date each other.

It's really a red flag on the women who select suitors that clearly glide on past reading anything in their profiles, as clearly they specifically select suitors they can feel superior to. And that's a bad character trait full of trouble.

Some threads are like everything everybody has ever learned about anyone just gets thrown out the window and we all start fresh over with no knowledge of anything ever even though we're all many years up on knowing a little.

I have an uncanny knack of zeroing on a hot babe's hangups with surface thoughts whenever I try to flirt back. It just happens, it's like whatever she spends day to day trying not to think about, it's the very first thing I say the very first time we speak. You can guess the ending.No idea why that is. It's a skill. I hate it.

As far as things like "why can't we stamp out rape, why is it allowed to happen?"

It comes down to the simple realities. To put in a more male orientated context, prison rape. Most guys would be completely adverse and initially claim they could never allow this to happen to them. Then if they go to prison are confronted with the reality that nobody else is going to disallow this from happening to them, and much of the time they're not going to get any say in it either.Confronting? This is the rape issue. Something you can't allow for yourself, something you can't do anything about by definition.

Now a person could assume, oh that's because prisoners in the prison system deserve bad things happening to them, that's why it happens in prisons.But that's the same as the rape victim assumption that the victim is always blamed and there is still misogyny in our culture. It's just the natural assumption of the victim, guilt. Neither assumptions are true.Rape is just as illegal in prisons as it is in supermarkets.

What it comes down to is the simple reality. What you can physically prevent. Crime you can't. You can prosecute it, but you're smoking your own stash if you think the federal war on terror is going to stamp crime out everywhere using telepathic evidence of guilty intentions.

Crime and violence is a human constant. Guaranteed to happen. With that in mind, the more concerned you are, the more you need to do, not everyone else. You're the one who loses when you lose. You don't want to get raped, don't get in prison, and don't go wandering around central park at midnight drunk and stoned in a miniskirt.

If it happens, either way the bad person will be prosecuted, or you'll be blamed for the whole thing, depending how the evidence plays out. But the point is what you do when you didn't want bad things to happen. That's the point.

Statistically around 80% of rape charges are proved false accusations in court. I think any sweeping generalizations don't apply to any rape case. There are frame ups that look just like brutal premeditation, and vicious sexual violence concealed among orgies of evidence leading in every direction. The more serious the crime, the more evolved and adaptable you need a circumstantial criminal justice system, the less you need mediaeval philosophies and sweeping generalizations.

Well in our defence, when we guys say 3-4 hours love making it's more like 3 3/4 hours of harassing women for sex and a few minutes of hitting it and high fiving yourself. We just tend to regard all the groping and begging as foreplay.

Perhaps don't focus on the phone as a proxy to move towards meeting, but keep focused on moving towards the meeting conversationally.

If the phone becomes a proxy through which you organize your life that's okay, but some people specifically dealbreak on iphone obsession.

ie. if you wanted to move towards meeting curtly, then instead of focusing on presenting your phone number for direct contact, you might start with moving conversationally towards meeting using site based messages first. It's what they're designed for: screening.The whole idea of date sites isn't the same as introduction agencies, it's partly to provide a secure messaging system which doesn't threaten anyone's personal security as strangers. Personal emails contain trojans. Unsolicited phone numbers contain phantom charges. Date site messaging systems are so that you can screen a new contact in a safe environment with no security threat and decide if you want to meet them.

Make sense?

"Here's a really cool place just down the road from you we could meet at for a late lunch..."is a much more relaxing message than,"Look, let's get this thing off the computer screen, my phone number is XXX-XXXX."I mean you start wondering, do I need to stop at the ATM and chemist first, should I wear a nametag in case she forgets my name, should I wear a bulletproof vest?

I mean if you gave your number in conjunction with a meet, like "If you get lost my number is xxxx just ask for candy and press three", that would totally make sense until you thought about it.But just out of the blue, hey here's my number oh by the way I'm a real profile honest. Well it's just disconcerting.

If you were a teacher at cool school you'd already be so stoned the original post would have you talking to yourself answering your own questions, which even a straight edge high on mango juice could probably accomplish.

Sending messages online is probably a lot better than inadvertently flirting with female students because the back of your mind is all geared towards wanting some sweet and nasty.Send the messages, leave your students alone.

I like the way I usually have good clarity day to day, so can approach tasks with some degree of competence and pick things up easily. I like having a strong sense of self discipline since that usually brings a degree of authority at least as far as running my own show goes, which I like to do.I like the way I feel about women, I like the way the ones I find tremendously attractive coincides with the ones whose personalities I adore or admire. My eyes have matured, when I was younger it didn't go that way, often I was most attracted to women I was least likely to get along with. Very glad that matured with a few finger burns.Physically I guess I like being at least average, I was a very small build in school and wanted to be bigger. Average build is okay, it feels big to me still. I've worked most of my life so I like the way I'm much stronger than I look. I built a good resource of fitness when I was in my twenties being so heavily into martial arts for that whole decade. I was doing jumping spinning kicks over my head and the works, doesn't make you tough but it does make you fit and that's good a few years on when you still feel fit and competitive among 30-something workmates. Won't be kicking over my head anymore but I've got a good habit of squirming my way out of workplace accidents.I like the way my hair is brown but my beard is red, and I like having blue eyes.Those are some plain things I like about myself I guess.

Oh yes I'm an expert at having a midlife crisis and handled it in the tried and proven method.I bought/made a fast car.

Now that women also have midlife crises these days I suppose we're going to see Barbies doing 150mph in corvettes all over the place. It's not the worst of it though. For some reason you get an urge to wear hawaiian shirts and slippers, which for women is like putting rollers in their hair. It's scary.

I like going deep and breathing together and things like that, combining sex with intimacy, but I rarely hit the cervix. The two women that did were really grinding away trying to achieve that result so I'd have to assume they prefer it that way, I was almost like a bystander those times anyway tbqh (it was awesome). Now, I really enjoy sex, so I can't really say if one particular sensation stands out from all the rest as far as enjoyment goes, but you're aware you're brushing up against something. Generally you get plenty of guidence about how shallow/deep she prefers things, I mean it's pretty hard having regular sex if you can't tune into what your partner enjoys or finds discomfort with, how would you keep it up if it was just like masturbation? Nah you have to tune into your partner if you'd like to keep them.

Example: when I finished a flight model for a warbird in a flight sim mod expansion, I felt pretty buff and was socially extrovert for weeks. Once that happens you stop and go, hang on a minute, do these constructive things I think are cool, and you feel right with the world, and naturally confident moving around amongst its other population.That feeling based on merits is natural confidence. Some technique to act more confident out of the box, that's a sales pitch, it's fake confidence, literally a con.

Method 1 you earn your confidence, it's natural, it's a whole new place to be in.Method 2 you learn to lie so well you can suspend your own disbelief at your own lies. This is how you fake confidence. Tell yourself you're the toughest guy in the room, crap like that, obvious delusion, say it with conviction and suspend your disbelief of your own lie, you look confident. Except to anyone streetwise, then you look like lunch.

Old school fix: get off your butt and do some work until you figure it out. Schoolwork or work work doesn't matter, just work until you figure it out. Train your mind to think logically isntead of neurotically with action. When eventually you'll figure it all out, it's because you changed. It's the way you look at things differently with different lifestyles.When yours says mamas boy, man up and mature your concsciousness, do it with work. It's how men have been doing it since forever.

I don't understand where you're coming from because I've never been tempted to cheat in my life.

I also don't get how you (general you meaning people who feel the same) can simultaneously expect a relationship and act like you're single. You have to decide which is more important to you, because trying to walk the tightrope is going to end up in some very hurt feelings for your partners. And that's a very disgusting thing to put another human being through; nobody else should suffer for trusting you just because you can't figure your sh*t out.

I'll help. An intellectual decision to be in a committed relationship is obligation, not desire. Desire has more stamina, just that simple.

Anyone who fights themselves can only lose. Even if you win, you lose.

At the moment your "autopilot" would do you injustice to your life, yes? If you just acted on "autopilot", without thinking, you would find regret.

That is actually a pretty serious situation for anyone quite intelligent.

I, for example, absolutely rely upon a very well cultivated "autopilot" to always do the right thing even if for some reason I'm complacent consciously and lose perspective.When I micromanage my activities I'm more likely to give myself moral issues than I am when I let it run on "autopilot" basically. That's the ideal situation, a proverbial "angel on your shoulder". Takes years to cultivate your autopilot like this, meditation, good morality in thought/word/deed, strict self imposed rules for long periods, but eventually you construct this totally fantastic autopilot that just knows how to run things in your own life without you even trying or thinking about it anymore. You can make snap decisions as good as delayed and deeply thought ones.Maybe that's what the authoritarian discipline in some fundie religions is trying to achieve, hell if I know.

But I do know what it was like when I was young and had a kinda hard-ass life, having to constantly second-guess myself on everything just not to wind up somewhere a person might not come back from. And the difference between living like that, and living in a way where it's almost like your own subconscious is a guardian angel looking out for you making all the right decisions without even your input, it's vast.

What I do know is you can't fight yourself. You can try, but you won't sustain it. You either fix your disparity with your heart, or you will splinter eventually and take down whatever collatoral is around you at the time. Cheat on your devoted husband whilst there's 3 children under 10 at home, something like that. Not what you want to do, but there will be a point you just can't control the uncontrollable. It's not up to you some things that happen in your life even by your own hand.Some decisions are always up to your autopilot, that's just how it is.

On genetically predisposed behaviour, Oxford and Cambridge did an exhaustive eight year study to prove genetic predisposition at the most fundamental level and proved the opposite. They used dog breeds cultivated for behavioural traits but kept in a closed environment and found no distinct genetic predispositions between any breeds, all dogs basically act like each other until they are exposed socially where physical differences between them garner behavioural tendencies.

In the world of medical research no conclusive evidence of behavioural disposition in genetics has ever been sound, the results are entirely ambiguous.It is however a very popular premise in many schools of clinical psychology. That maybe more related to the methodology of clinical diagnoses than actual genetic predisposition.

The most likely conclusion is that behaviour is elective and wont circumstantial. Behavioural tendencies are likely genetic only via proxy, not directly like some sort of mind controlling pogram buried in your hard drive.

Any thoughts? You're really hot. You talk Russian, that's also really hot. Not very relevent I guess.

Topically,The wandering heart generally has to be settled before you'll every truly settle into a permanent monogamy without doing yourself an injustice you'll regret down the track, when you married via obligation and subsequently divorced when you got to know yourself as a friend rather than a foe. If this happens, you wind up right back where you were in your twenties, but you'll be in your forties or fifties and short on time to find what you were really looking for.

I've come to believe most of the things I argued about in my life didn't matter.

I'm at a point now of just wanting to get past a problem rather than win an argument.

As I said though, it depends on how important the issue is to the safety of our relationship.

A good, rational answer, probably reflected in some other previous posts too (I just clicked to the last page).

Important things are important, things like ego not so much."Yeah I won that argument", when you're alone at night isn't the greatest consolation in the world. Whilst sticking with someone who demands you burn your own moral bridges isn't any better.

Being yourself can sometimes be the worst thing you can do if you don't know how to self govern. Other times it can be the most necessary element in an individual's survival instinct for keeping it together in a society of human communities you want to remain well adjusted and approachable within.

She re-registered her phone number as a pay-per-minute service call and put you on hold.

He replaced the engine in your car while you were sleeping with a turtle.

Federal police raid your house on a terrorist suspect warrant from an anonymous tip.

Several vagrants have erected tents in your front yard due to a posted sign that reads "free accommodation to the unemployed".

Someone broke into your house and tie dyed all your business suits.

You get three weeks of text messages from random people asking if you'll really give anyone a headjob.

You begin receiving replies from prison inmates to letters you've never sent.

Sometime during breakup sex she gave you a sedative and you wake up in a third world, highly conservative country with a punitive legal system, a dead busboy and bag of drugs in your room, and knocking at the door.

FYI imho your hubby's sister considers your marriage rushed and wants to turn up the heat, probably prefers his ex as a better wifey material for him, and is trying to smoke you out of the kitchen. But invulnerability is always the best defence. Sounds like yours was a whirlwind romance followed by a sudden marriage in the total space of time you can probably count in weeks. It's reasonable his family might be concerned but it's untouchable if you're rock solid together and that's what this is about. So be rock solid together. An ex is no challenge. Be nice. It'll scare the pants off him if you actually get along well and he'll be the one keeping you two apart.

It's the sister it sounds like you might want to avoid getting too chummy with. I'm guessing things you say to her will come back completely out of context through him. Watch that.

Why not just put on your best lingerie, a sexy dress, wrap your husband around your little finger and say bring it on biatch! And enjoy the party. Just don't be catty or the chivalry in hubby has to back her instead of you.

As for why aren't you getting any replies, I had a look at my sister's account inbox. Unfortunately (sic) for her she's a bit of a hottie even if I do say so as a brother, got no problem saying so, and believe me, I kid you not, in three days flat her inbox was well beyond the amount of messages any person could possibly read let alone reply to. I'm talking dozens within hours, every few hours, and they just build up, and keep building up. She tried clicking on the ones that superficially stood out at least but even that was beyond her in short order and she gave up and quit the site. Just too swamped with scores of desperate men all wanting to date hotties, it's like walking into a room and being pack-tackled by a football team.

Join the Military. Buff up. Get Tough. Get Paid. Travel the world and boink exotic babes.

Problem solved.

That's actually the smart play, about making lemonaide from lemons. Don't whine about the world from a hole in the ground, argue with it from a position of strength ;)

You're shooting yourself in the foot if you delude a bunch of blame for your loneliness and then the one that came to fix it all for you gets chased away by the fictional baggage you've adopted in the meantime.A lot of adulthood is about patience in the face of adversity. Truth be told, everyone gets their highs and lows and character is what you do about the lows.

Here's an example of political relevence to this kind of logic test wrt Australian interests.

Our parliament has been on the anti-terrorist legislative kick lately. But if we allow this hypothesis of terrorist activity within Australia to be a falsifiable hypothesis, and consider the inverse, that there is no terrorist conspiracy to unveil and prosecute in Australia: nothing changes. No evidence suggests otherwise, nothing in either direction. There are no terrorist attacks in Australia, has never been. Nobody is swerving to avoid IED's on the way to work, there are no military bases being car-bombed. Nothing. The assertion fails the logic test of falsifiable hypotheses...and we're allowing reduced freedoms (dramatically) upon its basis? Yeah something's wrong with this picture.

Police, want to reduce speed zones again...and again, and again. Speed is a contributing factor in road fatalities. But if we look at observation in nature we'll find in smash repairs industry many clients are repeat clients. Many of the same drivers have repeated collisions under a variety of conditions. The disparity is enough at onset to assert the hypothesis of speed in relation to road toll is conditionally falsifiable. We maybe don't want police in a position of absolutist legislative authority.

You see how this logic test is important, and works? Little things become big things if you don't think right on the little things, like the way you word something when it becomes policy. Religion versus atheism could be seen as a microcosm of this mechanic, it could very well be a case of meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

You must begin with a falsifiable hypothesis.You must show testable results of reproducible experimentation, and/or observation in nature, subject to peer review.

So if someone says there is a god and you say there is not a god, you both failed the very first rule of scientific method.If someone says I believe in god and you say there is no god, you are the only one who failed the first rule.You see how this works? It's a logic test. It doesn't actually matter which one fails the test, it's about identifying idiots so you can keep them out of legislative bodies, or put them in one if you want that kind of world.

My agnosticism is wholly due to a strict self discipline to adhere literally to the scientific method, under which is categorically stated all hypotheses are falsifiable, ergo any absolute statement lacking absolute evidence and carefully worded to represent only the evidence itself, without conclusion is strictly unscientific and fails the simple logic test.

Any supernatural assertion, no matter how infantile or ridiculous cannot be tested by very definition. It is I whom are the bigger man to say, of course it's possible under the given condition. A space dragon could fart universes if it has the special powers of not being constrained by any physically observed constraints in observation of nature. How realistic you think it is just doesn't come into it, they worded it right, and a no is arrogance and ego, not very scientific.

The very premise of divinity is supernatural in nature. So any answer other than being absolutely possible (under the elicited condition), is personal and unscientific.

Now get over yourselves on that point, then start telling religious people about how morally wrong they are in other ways. Because you're hardly a shining role model if you can't even manage that. Put simply: people who think wrong can't tell others they think wrong.

All proxies to a lack of social success are self fulfilling prophecies.

Due to diversity alone there is no such thing as a recipe of social success or social failure. There is only wax and wane. The most politically incorrect ape has more available acquaintences on any given day than the most perfect alpha pretty boy, all the guidelines to social success are a sales pitch about selling you something else.

Just do what you do as you do it. Some days you're all alone, never be lonely. Others you're swamped with comaraderie but might find it irritating. Socialisation is the greatest gift we have, it happens all by itself, no matter what you do, and all your concerns and disconcertination are exactly 100% self delusion. But don't even worry so much about that, economic systems are structured on the latent tendency to self delude, otherwise we'd never have put clothes on and built cities.It's all theatre, don't take it so seriously. It happens by itself and when it doesn't, you're just arrogant thinking that's anything but perfectly normal and perfectly common.You're not a god basically, no there is no hand waving to command the humans to dance, dance like puppets. Your life is the same as everybody else's.

You don't need to do anything for social success, including being sexually accosted by underwear models, other than just remain healthy and well adjusted in every other area of your life. Have the time a degree of social success goes unnoticed by the very person experiencing it simply because they're all stuffed up inside their own heads and can't see the forest for the trees. Got loneliness? Do more as an altruist to salve your boredom because that's boredom.

Hi Polly. Sounds like your only fundamental lacking is a simple little rule you learn as you get older about self confidence.1. you always have your own opinion, even if you don't quite know what it is yet.2. if you are unsure or undecided about some suggestion or decision: the answer is no.

Unsure is a no. The only time you give a yes is when it's a definite yes. That's actually the difference between yes and no.People think no is the definite answer, which is ignorance. It's easy to make someone pick a yes if they're not sure and think no should be definite. No isn't definite, yes is definite.