Are you worried about a relationship you are in? The presence of more than one or two of these conditions compels us to re-evaluate our relationship. If there are more than four, definite action needs to be taken.

Exclusivity; other people seem boring, you are spending time alone with each other rather than in groups+

Jealousy

Becoming very close, very quick.

Lack of peace, a sense that something is really wrong, a sense of impending doom, knowledge in your heart that this isn’t healthy

Are These Relationships All Bad?

The women that we let into our hearts are wonderful people!Just because a relationship is emotionally dependent, doesn’t negate the fact that it meets legitimate needs!Life is unbearable without connection. For many women, an emotionally dependent relationship is the only thing standing between her and complete despair.

Exactly where does this gigantic hole in my heart come from? What created it? Why does it keep sucking me in?

It is my hope that if you have some idea why you have a propensity towards dependent relationships, you will have some grace on yourself. Just because you have found yourself enmeshed with another woman doesn’t mean you need to label yourself beyond hope or, “born gay.”

Secondarily, identifying the roots of emotional dependency will help you understand why this is not something that can be solved overnight. A seed can’t be, “cured” of it’s diminutive size. You won’t have someone cast a demon out of you and find yourself free forever more. The dependency habit won’t go away just because you met the, “right person.” You won’t say just say a special prayer and be emotionally healthy. If that were possible, we could pray for such things as an instant college diploma or a sudden healing to the extra 30 pounds we have put on since high school. We are people in process, and there is a beginning, middle and END. Continue reading ‘WHY DOES THIS KEEP HAPPENING TO ME? (Emotional Dependency Series, Part 5)’ »

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Hello, name is Anita.

I come from a background of gender identity issues and same-sex attractions, but God is teaching me how to walk in purity and joy. My desire is to encourage others who want to glorify God in their interpersonal relationships. I hope you find these articles helpful.

I call my site Freshwater, after the verse, "The LORD will guide you continually; and satisfy your soul in drought, And strengthen your bones; You shall be like a watered garden, And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.." Isa 58:11