March 6, 2010

If I have seen further, it is only by standing on the shoulders of giants.
--- Isaac Newton

We get further with help. That's true for Olympic athletes and us. A coach helps you build specific skills. A mentor helps you build a better you. A mentor is more of a psychologist than a trainer. You set the agenda, typically.

Proven success: they have achieved what you want to emulate (ideally, more than more money)

A coach can also help, but a coach may not have succeeded. A coach is more of a teacher than a doer. Each has a role. You can have more than one mentor and more than one coach.

Know how to listen, and you will profit even from those who talk badly.
--- Plutarch

Yes, you can learn from flawed people if you're careful to avoid contamination from their bad elements.

Are You Ready?
To warrant a mentor's time,

be reasonable: Mentors have their own lives and issues. You can only ask for so much, so often.

help others: this is an ideal way to give thanks for what you've received

listen: before rejecting suggestions, reflect (which may take days or weeks or years)

act: apply what you learn to show progress

show you're worthy: how does investing in you payoff (not necessarily for the mentor; perhaps for your company, clients or society)

Can't Find One?
There are other ways to get mentored if you can't find a volunteer

Read books (e.g., from the library)

Read blogs for contemporary ideas, and participate by leaving comments

Listen to audiobooks (classics and current)

Attend group meetings (e.g., through Meetup but avoid the ones that are just selling)

Hire a coach, ideally one you have gotten to know through their blog

A book that's new to you doesn't need to be new to the world. You don't need to read the latest ones. There's great value in classics and they're usually available from the library without a waiting list. You can get mentored by people who died. Autobiographies and biographies can help you get inside the head of another. Books written in previous decades or centuries will show you how little we've truly changed.

When You're Done

Mentors move on and pass away. You might outgrow them.

Over time, you'll learn principles. You'll see the world though a new lens. You'll anticipate what the mentor would say. You'll think in new ways. You'll start cutting your own trail through the wilderness. You'll be ready to mentor.

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About

Promod Sharma ("pro-MODE") has devoted his life to insurance. He designed life & health insurance products and then helped advisors sell them. In February 2007, Promod started started this blog to share insider insights directly with you. This lead to requests for help and the launch of the Taxevity Insurance Advisory.

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