Regular HayLadies! readers will recall that I got married back in April; during the process, I wrote a column called Hitched! for The Frisky. The fun part is that even though I’m an old boring married lady now, they still let me write the column. And this week, I wrote what is probably my favorite one yet.

It’s called “The Myth Of The Happily Married Woman” and it takes on single-lady-shamers and concern-trolls who like to tell single women that they’re broken, and the only fix for their sad is a long-term heterosexual partnership. Of course, this isn’t really about making single women happy. It’s about prolonging the long, slow death-rattle of patriarchy. A sample:

Essentially, people with this attitude are guilting women for not doing something they have very little control over: meeting someone with whom they have enough mutual affection to feel like marriage is a positive and productive step. As if the actual problem with single women is that they’re a bunch of shallow, slutty bitches, as if everyone who ever got married was a saint with no baggage. Single women don’t have a problem. Society has a problem with them. It’s not the same thing.

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About andrea grimes

Andrea is a journalist living in Austin, TX. She has a master's degree in anthropology and did her thesis work on gender and stand-up comedy. Seriously. Also, she has a bunch of cats. Three of them. Is three a bunch? Discuss.

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This is a blog about sex, gender and feminism in Texas. It was borne of love for righteous internet activism, Twitter hashtags and beer. And whiskey. And cats. It is mainly written and edited by Austin journalist and anthropologist Andrea Grimes because she loves to put off real-life responsibilities in favor of blogging. Fellow contributors include graduate students, journalists and corporate shills writing under assumed names. We are always looking for more voices.

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