Give Yourself The Best Chance With Women

When I want something, I want to make it as easy as possible for myself to get it. I don’t understand the whole “I like a challenge” mindset. I think people who say that are either full of shit or are unnecessarily giving themselves a hard time.

Don’t get me wrong, the process of development over time whether it’s a work project, increasing your body mass or gaining money is, to a degree, an exciting thing. You can watch the gradual improvements and feel excited about the journey you’re on. Looking back on anything in life, you tend to enjoy the moments you worked hard and strived for something more than actually achieving the goal.

Saying that though, if you told me I could have £20 million by working hard for a year and having a sense of satisfaction of coming from nothing to something; or winning £20 million on the lottery tonight, I’d take the lottery win.

That doesn’t mean I’m lazy. I just want the easier option to the same end goal.

I give myself the best chance with women by working hard on different aspects of my life. I’m sorry to say, but Game alone can’t get you with the top tier of women. You need to address other areas about your make-up in order to be able to pull these women with ease.

Who stands a better chance of pulling a supermodel? One of the many PUAs walking around Oxford Street with the cliched leather jacket, boots, scripted lines and fake confidence? Or the ripped guy in smart casual clothes with an aura of being self assured from having his life in order and having money in the bank?

It’s obvious what the answer is – so why aren’t more guys striving to be like that?

Well, I believe too many guys judge their lives and happiness based on their success with women. They require validation from girls and Game is an easy way to get that from low value girls. Typically, in my opinion, learning Game is mainly picked up by guys who have some kind of lonely or broken background. So, mostly, they’re easily pleased when it comes to pulling girls whether it’s a 6 or a 9 – with the latter only accessed regularly by very few, no matter what the internet people tell you.

With easy satisfaction comes laziness and a lack of motivation to address the areas that are holding you back. What I mean by this is that, if I can pull 6s or 7s regularly and have the sex which I never used to have, what’s the point of changing anything about my lifestyle?

Sure, some guys are happy with that. Well, I don’t think anyone is truly happy at that level, but as I said, they’re easily satisfied. So, if they’re content to continue that way, then so be it. What they eat doesn’t make me shit.

For me, I’m not the finished article by a long stretch. But I like to give myself the best chance with women as possible when I meet them. Long term readers will see that I’ve become location independent, and I’m currently free from the shackles of the corporate world – an interesting prospect for a lot of girls, as I’ve discovered.

Having a keen eye for good style, and with the help of places like Masculine Style, I’ve redefined most of my wardrobe so that when I go out, I stand out from the crowd. This also goes a long way into impressing girls, and the higher value girls appreciate a guy that knows how to dress. They react better to me when I’ve dressed up well compared to if I’ve thrown a t-shirt on.

I’m saving money and working on some things in order to reach my financial goals of becoming a millionaire by the time I’m 30. I’m also going to get back into the gym consistently again soon after 18 months out.

To put it in geeky terms: imagine you’re playing an RPG. I’d rather spend time before big bosses training my characters up and maxing their stats so that I can strike through the boss with a single sword blow. That’s a much better scenario than going in and trying one tactic, dying, then coming back with another over and over again. Although my way takes a bit more work before the application, the results come easier.

You’ll also find that when you focus on yourself, seeking validation from women becomes meaningless. Sure, you may want to propel your image in order to satisfy the attention of more women, but ultimately, you’ll start wanting to do more things for yourself. I, for example, have an image of the lifestyle I want and the person I want to be. That’s all for me and nobody else. But, in satisfying myself (and I’m very critical of myself so it’s hard to do), my chances with women will inevitably improve when I want to pull one – all while living a kick ass lifestyle that I’ve built for myself.

Chasing women to fill a hole is futile. My philosophy is that you should just objectively look into the mirror and address the issues instead of going around in a cycle that doesn’t really provide you with happiness. By this time last year, I’d slept with 9 or 10 girls when I was in “PUA” mode. This year, I’ve slept with 4 girls, but I feel a lot more at peace in my mind with my current situation and the direction I’m heading in.

Taking a step back and addressing what I feel needs to be addressed will serve me much better in the future, both in my chances of making a success of myself and giving myself the best chance with women as possible.

This topic is the most interesting for me right now. I always preferred self development before I knew game, was well dressed, studied medicine, travelled, read a lot, but my game was pretty poor until I implemented advice of Tom Torero, Steve Jabba, Krauser…then I read the advice on “Becoming a ten”, “SMV” etc. I already had most of those things going on, but I tightened up my fashion and went to the gym etc. Basically I analytically solved every area of my life that could be improved, then distillied it to essential steps, then implemented those as regular habits. The areas are: physical development: style, hygiene, body, social skills: game, lifestyle: career/mission, hobbies, social life/people. well, this “works”. BUT! There are several problems I face. First, the improvement must be what you genuinely want and value. And let’s face it, style obsession is, for most men, means to an end, not a genuine hobby. The same is true for “lifestyle game” where you try to avoid the market by putting yourself into “better position in the hierarchy”. So you are now building this RPG persona and suddenly the fun and relaxed lifestyle is diminished, because it’s not you. You avoid games on ps3 because you have to be serious, maybe even delete Facebook because McQueen said it, or Leo Babauta said it…etc. I did all that. Sure, you believe it makes you better man. But honestly? It often doesn’t. It’s just another shield and source of pride. I still love self improvement but I gave up on this stressful mister perfect thing, because I already was/am rich(parents), live in a house with three bathrooms with huge garden, drive audi, have top clothes, can buy any gadget I want, I read the best game books, I lift weights HIT style, study medicine at the top uni ( I am clever bastard, no “parent advantage” except support and high IQ, my grandpa’s IQ was measured 138 this year at the age 86 because of driving license renewal) , speak czech, latin, english, french, know about art, history etc. But all this stuff isn’t nearly as important to girls as it looks. Some literally told me I am too dressed up, sure, could have been competition anxiety, but…which brings me to my second point: building SMV first is avoidance, you have to be very careful it is not a weaseling mechanism and also very careful about positioning yourself as K or R selected. I used to ignore this advice in Daygame Mastery and I was wrong in doing so. For example, fashion pushed by Masculine Style, or Well Built Style, is “masculine” but often K-selected. I display status for several years and as a 24 year old male, it only hurts me. There is no “contrast game”. Girls put me to boyfriend box, I wait for sex, sometimes I don’t, but I made this an uphill battle for myself. Girls sense the value and the top tier slavic chicks from Czech or Slovakia simply want me as a boyfriend, the perfect one, R-selected one…My SMV improvement in terms of style doesn’t raise their genuine, primal attraction to me. I believe it is way more effective to present yourself as purely lover or purely provider, face the consequences and be honest with yourself about what you want. So I actually moved to more casual fashion where my physique is more accentuated. I am still kind of smart casual, like James Bond in summer, or even less “smart”, but life is so much easier… I feel you really need that strong message. One way or another. Don’t be a clown who levelled up everything to the max and now confuses girls with threesome offers. Ok, this is one possible way, pure K-selection game, but you cannot effectively be “a player” or even have mutliple girls. There is a friction that is always present. This is why Krauser, Jabba, Torero don’t use gentleman fashion anymore. I understand why “building the high value life” sounds appealing, but there is no true “top tier” society and if there is, it is built on lie, or sand, and not worth pursuing. Now, there are still areas a man can work on, like R-selected fashion that is clever, gym, game, career for his own benefit, having a lifestyle he truly loves. I am not onedimensional broke guy…I love medicine, I will face the depression it creates long term, because that’s my mission, but doing it for “SMV raise”? Impossible. This shit drains you. Very depressive long term. Not worth it. I did autopsies of 3 day old child, 22 ear old athlete etc. and sorry guys, “SMV building” is important but it should be done with minimal effort for maximum benefits for the short time we get on this planet. Cheers.
P.S.
My 23yo hot slim slavic chick friend did cheat on future surgeon, ripped, top james bond fashion, he is my best friend, he has model face as well, is very clever, loves fast cars etc, yet has mediocre game. She still fucked the guy with game and move to him very quickly after she was in a relationship with my friend for years. She was tur “family type”, made me food for no reason, super kind, she was already an author of anatomy textbook and publicly presented her artwork…also a medical student. As high quality girl as it gets, yet the R-selected route was still activated by some guy from less prestigious uni…and she rationalised “she wants to be happy”. I am not angry about it, but be aware of madonna-whore complex or you’ll be surprised later on by even the “highest quality girls”.

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