i called dh a cunt

So after being treated like shit being forced into celibacy for 7 years only to find out 2 weeks ago that he gets his jollies from on line porn I told him I thought he was a cunt. This is very bad as he doesn't like swearing, but you know what? He fucking deserved it. I am sick of feeling like a non woman and have had my self esteem eroded to nothing and tonight I stood up for myself and it feels great...even though I have cried buckets. It is tgr

Sorry Lying I didn't mean to make you feel bad it was my fault as I didn't actually say what led me to call him a cunt in the OP as I was feeling victorious and wasn't really talking about the bad stuff. I can see that it looked like I was just being mean. No need to delete. I was in a strange, powerful mood last night when I had reached my limit.

You don't forget how to treat someone in a loving way - well, not unless you're a cunt. Which he is. And not hitting someone is a given, it's not wonderful plus point - well, not unless you're such a cunt that there's nothing else to back yourself up with. Which he is.

I think relate might be a good idea for me to be honest as I need some validation that how I feel is ok?. I worry though that what if they don't see his behaviour as being bad like I do and he just gets justified? I don't know what the counsellors are like, I don't know whether my reaction to porn is 'out of date'? He says everyone is doing it and certainly this is not the first relationship that has been ruined because of it. Maybe I need counselling to help my realise why I end up in long term relationships with men that are misogynist?

Not everyone in mumsnet has the same opinion of porn but I think it's universally believed that anyone who uses it to the detriment of their relationship has a problem and their partner would be justified in leaving over it.

A counsellor shouldn't be interested in your views over the morals of porn, they should look at the impact if it on the relationship.