Monday, December 31, 2007

Cheaters

Marlo and I are at home doing laundry, cleaning the house, etc. We have the TV on in the background with a show that Marlo chose called, "Cheaters." It is sort of like Dateline's "To Catch a Predator," only without the law enforcement and a lot more drama.

Apparently a person who suspects his/her significant other is cheating can contact this show. The show's PIs then follow the significant other to gather intelligence. Once they have confirmed cheating is going on, they show the injured person who is allowed to confront the cheater. All captured on tape.

Personally, I'm a little horrified. I offer this advice:

1. If you suspect your significant other is cheating, you don't need to wait for actual proof to end the relationship. Even if you are off-base about whether your significant other is cheating, clearly something is way off in your relationship. Get counseling if that is what you want, but you should probably consider ending things if you are to the point that you are willing to include a television show and millions of people in your private relationship.

2. If you really do want confirmation of the cheating before you end things, hire your own PI, without the television show. Just because the person you are with has humiliated you and treated you like trash by his cheating is no reason you should debase yourself.

3. If you do get caught up in this and call the television show, when confronting your significant other, maintain your dignity. No yelling, no pushing, no hitting (it's called assault, people, and has legal ramifications). Confront him/her if that is what will empower you, but be dignified.

Just because your significant other is trash is no reason you should be.