I don't like my doctor!

I haven't even met my doctor yet and I already don't like how they do things there. Please tell me if I'm being selfish or whiney.

I had to have a fasting blood test [normal] and after 6 tubes of blood and 13 hours of no food, I was feeling dizzy. I told the nurse that and she wouldn't even give me a little juice or anything so I could drive myself home! She just kind of blew me off. I barely made it home before I almost fainted. Scary!

They haven't even done a pregnancy test on me! Not even a urine test! [Except the one that checks for proteins and such] As far as I know, they're just taking my word for it. This just doesn't seem normal to me. My GP runs a urine test as soon as I tell her that there's a chance I could be pregnant.

They also didn't run a quant on me at all. They did a full prenatal panel but didn't check any of my numbers like progesterone or HCG. They said that since I didn't have a history of miscarriage and I wasn't bleeding, that it wasn't necessary.

I just called to ask if they are going to do a scan at my appointment next Tuesday so I can have DF take that day off if I need to and they said they won't do a scan until 20 weeks! Even though I told them that I don't know how far along I am because I have irregular cycles, they won't do it. I wanted to wait to announce to family until after I have scan but more importantly, I want to make sure my baby and I are healthy. I have to wait 3 months! I hear that it's pretty standard to not do one until then but I thought they would at least do a dating scan!

I just feel like they're not listening to me or supporting me. I've never been through this before. I don't know what's normal or what to expect. I was fighting back tears telling them how scared I am and all they can say is "Yup." I just called another hospital and talked to the nurse and she was...better. But they also don't do an ultrasound until 20 weeks. She said that they MIGHT do one earlier since I'm not sure how far along I am. [I have a ballpark idea but I could only possibly be a few days off.]

Am I being a brat? Is it normal for a doctor to be this way? I can get a midwife but the closest one the popped up on my insurance website is 81 miles away.

I made an appointment at a different Dr. just to get my pregnancy confirmed [since my current OB hasn't done that to my knowledge]. I'm starting to wonder if I should save myself the trouble and the money and just stick with my OB. Maybe after I actually see the doctor I can talk to her about my concerns and maybe she will listen. But so far the nurses won't. The first girl I saw was nice and kinda fibbed to the receptionist so I wasn't charged for that visit.

If you dont like how the office is.doing things, change the.office. call around.your area and see what each one offers, and when. Set up interviews if.you have to until you feel comfortable. My doctors office for this pregnancy also.didnt have me.come in for a urine or blood test. Ny first appointment with them was at 10+6, and they sent me for a scan first thing! You should b comfortable with who.you are seeing.

With my first pregnancy, I had a Doctor's office very much like this. When they took blood, I got very faint like you, and the Doc actually rolled his eyes at me (although they did get me OJ).

They treated me and my pregnancy like it was no big deal, and routine. Well, it was a big deal to me, ya know?

Unfortunately, with that one, I m/c at 12 weeks after we had heard the heartbeat at 8 weeks. I opted for a d&c. When I went in for a follow up, the Doc actually said "Good news, your tests came back that it was fetal tissue". Um, I think I figured that out when I saw a HEARTBEAT on a screen.

Anyway, I switched for this pregnancy, and am so happy that I did. I found a Doctor's office that listens, and actually treats me like my pregnancy is special, if that makes sense (telling me congrats on the day of my first appointment).

You should definitely find someone that you are 100% comfortable with. They should at least have tested your progesterone and other levels, because those are huge indicators of viability of the pregnancy.

Thanks girls. I've been calling around for an hour. I've either gotten machines or the same answers. Everyone I talk to, I have to fight back tears. I'm so frustrated. I think what I'm going to do is just keep my appointment at my current OB and hopefully talk to them there. I just want to be heard! I want a scan to make sure everything is okay. Like Mjane said-I want my pregnancy to feel special. Maybe I'm being silly. I've heard good things about my doctor but so far I don't like the first nurse I saw or the nurse who drew my blood. I seriously think a scan would make me feel a lot better.

I looked up elective U/S and didn't really see much except for early scans for gender. How much does an elective cost? I'm sure I could do that but if I can talk my OB into doing one, I'd like to do it that way so my insurance will pay for it.

It is important that you feel comfortable with the place you choose. And the nurses should be more compassionate and listen to your concerns.

That said, I think its pretty normal for them to take your word for it that you're pregnant. Its also normal to only have one scan which is at 20 weeks. That is the way it was for me with my 1st and it's what I'm expecting this time as well. Im in the US and my insurance wont cover more unless it's medically necessary.

Every dr is different, and it's really hard to be on here and to compare your doctor experience with all of the girls from the UK. My drs office only does one routine ultrasound, it is the one at 20 weeks. However, i do have friends whose dr's do an ultrasound at every appointment because they have a machine in every room. So really it just depends. But if you don't like your doctor then switch. There's no point in staying where you are uncomfortable.

as far as elective ultrasounds go... there is a place near me (after i did some research) in a mall that does them. I paid 50$ for a pregnancy verification ultrasound. I think for others it was like 75. they are pretty cheap and im sure you could find some place to go if that is important to you.

I did find a place that will do it for free. BUT! They won't do it if you already have a Dr. There's 1 more place near me that I can call. I don't want to choose a hospital that's too far from my house.

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