I have no numbers for them at allI don't even know where she comes from as it were

I'm tired, I don't want to sit and smile at her whilst she asks me if I've caught up with the washing (which I almost have) or if I've managed to tidy up anywhere (which I have, gutted and rearranged the front room yesterday)

she doesn't really do anything and shes effusively happy which is lovely and kind but wears me out

I just want to have a nap

this afternoon I have my bedroom in my sights to tidy, clean and reorganiseI have clothes to store in the loftphotos to frame and put upmemory boxes to add toI'm going to put more flowers on neils grave from my sisterI want to skype my mum and dad which is always emotonally hard because of how ill my mum is

everything that I want to achieve is an emotional drainI just want to have something to eat and take a napthen I'll feel ready for the fight after a quick showerI want to do as much as I can before the girls get home too so time is precious

Thats what I feel is the unreasonable bitI dont know how to find out where she comes from and how to find a number to leave a message with someoneI only know her first name and she is handing me over to someone new whos name I have forgotten

Not unreasonable at all if she's anything like my old one. I lost count of the amount of times I've sat in waiting for her only for her to fail to turn up. If she's more reliable then you really ought to ring and cancel. You'll be able to ge the number from somewhere. Your GP's surgery should be a good place to start or google local CMHT.

Oh, that's difficult ... sorry, but I think you shouldn't. She's coming for a reason. By all means tell her you're struggling with her visits (she's a professional, she needs to know as mrsL says).

I'd worry you missing an appointment could ring warning bells - I'm sure you are ok, but she will know other people who don't necessarily see the signs that they're retreating into themselves, if you see what I mean? Hope you don't mind me saying that, it's just the first thing I thought of.

I would meet her at the door and say you can't face it today. She should understand. If you cancel with no notice and without a reasonable explanation it could count as a "DNA" (did not attend) and possibly affect your future support. Any mental health professional worth their salt will recognise that you're having a hard day, and be happy to re-arrange if you are open about it.

Hmm, not necessarily MrsLettuce. When I say "meet at the door" I don't mean block access or anything! Just to answer the door and say energy is running really low today, so the session is unlikely to help.

I also agree that if she's trying to jolly someone out of a low mood and it's not helping, this needs to be fed back.