This hit me like a punch in the stomach. Instant flashback to six years ago when my only son took his life. I feel your pain. I'm now to the point where I can make it through each day without doubling over with the grief, but reading this first thing in the morning just flattened me. I can't tell you that you will ever get over this but you will learn to live with it. It will take time. I don't remember the first two years after my son died. My mother gave up on life six months after her beloved grandson died. She didn't want to live without him. I wanted to give up too but I couldn't do that to my daughter. Somehow we've found a way to keep on living and to treasure each other. He left so many questions behind that we will never know the answers to. We've learned to accept that. Your grief will always be with you but time will soften it some. I'm sitting here crying for you and your family, for me, and for all the other parents who have lost a child in this horrible way. I'm sending you my prayers for your pain to lessen as time goes by. Hang in there for the sake of the rest of your family.

I'm so very sorry to hear this. As a pastor I had to help families deal with this . . . and it was almost impossible. There are simply no easy answers. It's a nightmare that can only be lived through until you come out the other side.

All I can say is, lean on your loved ones and friends. They're your lifeline at times like this. Don't try to handle the pain alone. You need them.

The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It's a long road from denial to acceptance. Sending up a Divine Mercy novena for your son and prayers for you and family. Hugs help.

So sorry I could not post a reply the first time I saw your news - it just hit us too hard.Our thoughts and best wishes, and a hope that you can all come out the other side without leaving bits of yourselves behind in the storm.Our sincere condolences,Bryn and Diane (Isle of Anglesey, UK).

Every parent's nightmare. We lost two sons in 2013, separately but within weeks of each other.

You have before you a long series of very depressing tasks ahead of you, that you never anticipated. Short term and long term, stuff that just has to be got through. You will get through. Take care of yourself, and take care of the rest of the family.

My wife lost her 38 Yr. old son on the 21st. It is a truly terrible place to be. May time dull your pain and bring you some peace. Truly, my best regards and most sincere of sympathies. Send my condolences to your wife as well.

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