To tell DP he's invited to the wedding but I don't think he should go?

DP has met my family and friends. I have met most of his family but none of his friends (he's introduced me when passing but that's it). If ever he gets invited to anything, he never invites me along.

We've now been together just under a year (about 10 months to be exact) and I have been invited to a wedding. He is also invited as my "other half".

However, I'm a little sick of him always having the pleasure of being 100% involved in my life yet never inviting me into his so AIBU to tell him that despite being invited, I don't actually want him to go as he wouldn't take me along in similar circumstances? Or is it childish/petty?

Very childish, very petty. (And also I would have thought an own goal - I don't think there are many men who will boo hoo and change their minds because they aren't allowed to go to a wedding of one of their girlfriend's friends. I reckon he'll consider that a result and will cement the separate social lives thing you have at present since "you do it too".)

Well on his work nights outs I can kind of understand why he doesn't invite me and he is entitled to go out with his mates without having to drag me along - totally understand that. But he's been invited to a wedding which he didn't invite me to and there was a family do at new year which he decided not to go to as he'd arranged to spend it with me. My suggestion of us BOTH going was quickly rubbished.

Are the events things with his friends? I wonder if there is an ex girl friend who is part of the social circle and friends are just not inviting you as his plus one out of respect. I am not for one minute calling you the OW just wondering.

I think I'd be pretty concerned where this relationship was going, in your shoes. It strikes me as odd that 10 months into a relationship you don't socialise as a couple (or at least not with his friends), and that if he's invited to stuff he goes as a single man.

By all means go along to the wedding on your own if you wish to. But I think you probably need to accept at that point, if you do so, that you and he are not really in a relationship together. It sounds like you are casually seeing each other rather than committed to any kind of partnership.

Wow - loads of posts today that I could have written except mine has been almost 2 years!!! Never met any of his family or closer friends!We are having a 'chat' tonight to try to bottom things out.I would suggest you do the same.I have loads of notes to go through with him.Write down your thoughts and talk them through.

If it's causing such resentment that you want to stop inviting him to things in order to get back at him then now is the time to talk about it and ask why you have never met his friends. I think it's really rude for him to integrate himself into your life and enjoy all of the events you go to and friends you have, but you get nothing in return.

I find it very very strange that after 10 months you have met none of his friends; I would want to have a conversation about why that is. I wouldn't even mention the wedding invitation, until I was sure I actually wanted this man to be in my life at all, given that I feature so little in his.