Hi i was wondering if i could have some info and hope i wont get judged.

I have just found out i am an aunty again my brother has just had a DNA TEST done on this woman he slept with and he is the dad to this 2 yr old girl called bonnie, now i have never met this child is it bad of me not to feel anything for her, i have 2 other niece's called carley-jade and kaycee-leigh and i love them girls as if there my own but this other little girl i have no feelings for her, and i feel really really guitly for this. i have a 14 month old daughter myself and i am pregnant again but i just cant get it round my head why i dont love this girl like my other nieces.

well you wouldn't love a child you saw randomly out on the street, so why would you love a child you don't know and have no relationship with?

As you get to know her and if she becomes a more regular feature in your life, I expect you'll come to love her every bit as much as your other nieces. Don't be hard on yourself for not immediately loving a stranger to you.

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Sat Mar 26, 2011 4:44 pm

angelwingz1

Joined: Sun Sep 20, 2009 4:59 pmPosts: 0Location: derby uk

I suppose so, but my family are not allowed contact with her, as the baby's mother is funny like that, i dont mind as its up to her and i wouldnt want amelia or the other baby having contact eith bonnies mum as i cant stand the girl, it just really winds me up that she can treat my brother like that then expect him to jump he has never loved this baby as he has never met her either, but do i treat her like my other nieces you know easter eggs presants ect ect???

Do whatever you think is right - if you can afford it and want to, then treat the wee lassie, she can't help who her mother is... but if it's not likely that you'll get to know her, then there's no pressure to treat her the same as your nieces that are a big part of your life.

As for your brother, he may not love the wee girl but now he knows she's his, maybe he can get to know her and come to love her over time - that's his right too x