There have been regular squabbles, reports, mini-flamewars(lite), bannings, complaints about the moderation, conspiracy theories, factional disputes etc etc in the 7 years I've been on or lurking on AVEN. I can imagine it was a very different place when there were only a handful of users who all knew each other, much like apositive is now, but I don't think the change was due to the moderation; it was due to AVEN becoming large and high profile.

It's up to you whether you go on vid, but there is nothing wrong with presenting a different view on asexuality. You can give your view; I'll give mine; others will do likewise.

The pictures were taken many years ago when I lived in Coventry and yeah before I had any facial hair. The quote that stuck out for me (and I don't necessarily even agree with but I expect you do):"The criterion? Never feeling a sexual attraction to anyone at all. Ever."

It rather ..as they do..continually show even pt members and long term asexuals are still confusing the lack of sexual attraction..with yes or no to sex

My asexuality is wether I am attracted to anyone sexually..which clearly is what asexuality is...so why is it people are still confusing it with should i or shouldn't I have sex?

The should I shouldn't i have sex is in relation to sexual beliefs, i.e. sexual repulsion, anti sexual etc..but still..when this continues in the largest forum for asexuals..still seems to get confused ..hey asexuality, that's where you don't have sex right? as sellers of a message, aven would not be an agency I would employ.

Oh wow, I commented on this when I still had an account, thankfully my comments gone, probably received some slack from some idiots on there. I said this is in no way is an actual sexual orientation, just possibly a description of what some aces might feel at most. Basically a new word invented for some random phenomenon. Some aces just think it is all just another description, although some are adopting it as a legit orientation.

ewww i'm gonna puke claiming mental illness changes your orientation, essentially claiming your orientation is simply a mental problem. Neurodiversity movement should burn slowly and painfully. I've never seen a more disgusting movement in my life, having struggled with a mental illness and seeing people acting like mental illness is a gift. Ugh.

Abrosexual-A sexual person who goes around calling everyone "Bro" despite not even being related to themAcosexual- A sexual person who has a fear of AcornsAdfectual/Adfectusexual/Affectusexual/Adfsexual- A sexual person who likes to play scrabble and get the highest scoreAegosexual/Autochorissexual- A sexual person who loves holidaying in the Agean and having sex in their carAkoi(ne)sexual / Aprosexual aka Lithsexual- a sexual person who likes to draw on limestone with wax crayons or likes Japanese fishAllosexual- A sexual person greeting from someone who is French... bonjour Renee mon cherAndrosexual-A sexual Person who gets the horn watching the programme Andromeda..i think it's the tight costumes at comi con that does itApathsexual-A sexual person who can't be arsedApothisexual -A sexual Person who may have been dabbling in cannabis..apot headApressexual-A sexual/Asexual person who used to study to be a journalist but now anyone can call themselves a journalist by doing a crappy blogg..Hiya Ivy Asexual-A Person who does not experiences sexual attraction ...Normally life long and 100% but some want to join the gang, hey why notBellussexual*- A sexual person who is obsessed with Harry Potter and the character Bellatrix LestrangeBisexual- A sexual/Asexual very greedy Person Boreasexual-A sexual person who to avoid at parties, they would bore the tits off you..or they get the horn at seeing the northern lightsBurstsexual-A sexual person who experiences sudden orgasms...don't stand too close to them and they always carry wet wipesCaedsexual/Kalossexual- A sexual person who likes to do hair removal and watching the programme about monks at the same timeCupiosexual-A sexual Person who spends more time on ok cupid than they should..and still only ends up with their hand for enjoymentDemisexual-A sexual Person who orders their frothy coffee from starbucksFraysexual- A Asexual Person who used to be a hippy but has now grown older and got a proper job but still wears frayed stringy tie dye clothes at the weekend..hiya Michael Greysexual-A sexual person who goes to starbucks with the demisexual but orders dirty dishwater as a drink Gynesexual/Gynosexual-A sexual Person who takes photos of their nunu and laughs and laughs and laughsHeterosexual-A sexual/asexual Person who is straightHeteroflexible-A sexual person who wants to be a circus performer or gymnastHomoflexible-A sexual person who wants to stand very close behind that circus performer or gymnastHomosexual-A sexual/asexual person who might have to share the remote as they may have a same sex partnerHypersexual-A sexual Person who is a very very horny fuckerHyposexual-A sexual Person who is the opposite of aboveIdemsexual-A sexual Person who often buys products with the letter I at the front of the nameNebulasexual- A sexual person who has asthma and uses a breathing deviceNovisexual-A sexual person who who comes from Novi in MichiganOmniasexual- A sexual Person who just loves sparkles and glitter but not much elsePansexual-A sexual Person who has a kitchenware sexual fetish...and they will f*ck anything given the chancePlaciosexual- A sexual Person who likes to speak and express in exagerated mock Italian styleeePost rubor- A sexual person who is continually trying to shag lampostsPolysexual-A sexual Person who got their best shags when they went to the polytechnic student bar on 2 for 1 night but was too drunk to remember their namesProquusexual- A sexual person who continually tries speaking in Latin but failsQuassexual-A sexual Person who has a fascination with Notre Dame (the French one) and it's most famous residentQuoisexual aka WTFsexuals- a sexual Person who ..well lets be honest..they don't even know what they areRecipsexual-A sexual Person who gets aroused in the kitchen whilst reading a cook book...ooooo hot fudge on a stickRequiesssexual-A sexual Person who spends far too much time online playing league of legendsSapiosexual - A sexual Person who is a sapSkoliosexual - A sexual Person who has a very curved spine Zedsexual- A sexual person who fell asleep reading reading this list of pretend identities which most have absolutely nothing to do with asexuality zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I wonder if the label obsession is linked to the googlization of humanity?

I've used google but it could be any search engine. People are now so used to being lazy and internet searching for an answer.... that they do not take time to discover who they are...they want the answer and they want it NOW!!!!

You do not get a fine wine bottled then within seconds drink it...why would you expect to learn who and what you are within a split second of a google search or ten minutes in a forum?

Why is this related to the subject..according to avens own figures asexuals are between 16-24 and female...most will have decided this not based on years of research, understanding and knowing themselves but more likely a google click.

This is why you see so many come in declaring i AM ASEXUAL...only for a few months later they admit being grey/semi/demi and a few months more never to be seen again

Nothing wrong with discovery...but when you change labels more often than some change their under crackers..then you have to take some responsibility as to why you harm asexuality, our visibility and... asexuals themselves.

I actually agree with this idea on quite a few levels.I strongly suspect that much of the asexual hair-splitting that you see on AVEN (asexual types A-Z, with subsets coming soon to a neighborhood near you ...) is not due to anything that AVEN is doing or not doing, but is instead a product of the times and the ever-increasing inability of (mostly) young people to concentrate and think things through. They have the attention span of a butterfly.Being raised by the TV didn't do anybody any favors, but now we have those from the TV generation, already somewhat damaged when it comes to social interactions, raising their own children (or trying to) and passing on their own social dysfunction which is then magnified even more by society's current obsession with constant but extremely shallow communication that involves absolutely NO personal interaction.

Today we have the soundbite generation. Have you noticed that modern TV scenes almost never last for more than 4 seconds before the view changes? There's a very sad reason for that.

I wonder...I saw something where they said ..We're complex and labeling literally everything about ourselves isn't the answer to explaining ourselves to others.

On this I would sort of agree however I have a different take on that

We're complex..I do not think we are, we are after all nothing more than moving meat sacks just like most most animals...I do think however that we are NOT complex but WE make our own lives complex

labeling literally everything about ourselves isn't the answer to explaining ourselves to others....The more and more I think of this, the more I am inclined to feel labelling is NOT the wish to identify who and what we are....... but instead it is a way to hide and promote something special although we are not ....rather than admit..we are just as average as the next person?

A shield of labels to take away reality and the realisation that we are just the same as everyone else bar a very few minor tweaks

The irony of course is that the labelling system can be used by average people to not only say they are special in some way..but can also use it as "victimhood" rather than admit that level or normality.... so the further you go into adding labels to yourself, the more likely you are to be someone escaping from reality and trying to isolate yourself by using labels and their pro's & cons for your own feel good purpose and advantage but will lash out at those who see you are doing it in that fashion

Respect meeeeeeeee as I have more labels than youuuuuuuu and if you doubt me then You are the problemmmmmmmmmmmmmmm and not meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

It's this level of labelling disorder that i think highlights fakery in what ever field you apply it too...It's just unfortuneate it seems to be quite prominent amongst many claiming to be "asexual of some kind"

It still seems even within the largest asexual forum...people are confusing the lack of sexual attraction with ...not having sex

how can we come up with a message or better way to reduce the common confusion around the two? how can we do it within our own communities first as clearly if we are selling family silver, it helps if it is silver

Most of these labels are really too excessive. I think they mistake prefferences for orientation. The next thing we'll get is cisracesexual and blondesexual.

Also I really don't the squishes and such AVEN seem to be obssessed with. Like, you think someone is cool and want to be friends with them? Isn't that perfectly normal? XD For me it seem like either people who are actually liking someone, but want to be aromantic and then call it a squish, or want the deskre to have a friendship to be something more special than it really is :p And now they've also started to say "lushing"'and other things. That is, they have a strong desire to cuddle someone...