Ask Lexi: Vampire Sex!

While it appears quite obvious from the previews from 4×02 that Elena will be having her first vampire sex with Stefan, not everyone was so sure just a few short weeks ago. Our next installment of Ask Lexi was a bit lost in the shuffle during our move, but as it now sees the light of day, it addresses the very important question of just who will be “vampire” Elena’s first.

Question from Stella: Lexi, some SE fans are worried that Elena’s first time sex as a vampire won’t be with Stefan. What do you think?

Hello Stella:

It has taken me a couple of days and a couple of drafts to respond to this question because I was laughing so hard. The darn paper kept getting wet! I actually called my ghost friends over to read this and we’re all having a laugh–STILL. Well all except for Rose, who for some reason has a smirk??!!

Nonetheless, it is a legitimate question and one which unfortunately has some of Stefan’s supporters worried. Well folks, it’s time to remove those worry lines from your forehead.

Apart from the fact that it would make no sense literally, it wouldn’t make sense from an emotional standpoint as well–not for the person that we know as Elena Gilbert. (whether she’s a vampire or not) and if you think differently, then your knowledge and perspective about Elena is not evidential.
From all indication, Elena has chosen to be with Stefan because she loves him. She has confessed as much (and often) to Stefan, to Damon, to me, in fact to anyone who has asked and who will listen. Not only that, but she has also shown Stefan how much she loves him.

Now, I’m assuming the other guys that folks are worried about would be Matt and Damon or perhaps some random dude. Now why would these two and specimen xy be contenders?

Matt. Was she involved emotionally with Matt? Absolutely, they have been long time friends, and at one point were ‘involved’. But what of their physical involvement? Their sexual encounters were not spoken of directly but it was eluded to and the encounter apparently was boring at best and downright passion-less at worst. So, I’m thinking to return to that mundane-ness, especially with a) a newly heightened libido and b) having had sex with Stefan–well, the odds of Matt being the one is slim to none.

The xy-factor. Dunno, I suppose it’s possible that Elena would, with this new self awareness have suddenly become a succubus, roaming the streets of MF (without someone with her BTW, given her new reality) and picking up duds dudes. Apparently she would not only be the polar opposite to the type of person she was before she became a vamp, she’d be challenging Katherine. But why? Why would she choose to alienate the people she loves and degrade herself? Because she can? Yeah I suppose, but to what end?

Damon. The protector cum adventurer cum incubus of sorts. Does Elena have an emotional relationship with Damon? Absolutely. Is she attracted to him? For sure. Who among us haven’t lusted in her/his heart for someone? Would she actually sleep with him. I don’t believe that in the long run nor do I believe that this is viable in the short run. One of the things I believe that Elena appreciates is loyalty and certainly respect. Respect for her mind as well as respect for her body. Damon has shown neither consistently. I don’t expect this man to be celibate, but his random encounters while confessing love for her seems sketchy. The message is I ‘love’ you (I don’t think he truly does) but I can’t/won’t wait for you. He’s a risk. A high priced risk. She loses spirit, dignity and soul with succumbing and I don’t believe she is willing to do that, or able to for that matter; not only for Stefan’s sake, but most importantly not for hers.
It has not escaped her what kind of operator Damon is. Wild, charming, (at times) caring, and protective yes, but with that comes erratic, manipulative and challenging behavior; but not the challenge where intellect, self evaluation (positive and negative) and desired physical and emotional outcome take center stage. It’s the type of challenge like that of taking care of a toddler. You have to keep giving him boundaries, and filter behavior and wonder if allowed to roam untethered if his behavior would be acceptable in a given environment.

Who is left then? Hmmmm, let’s see. She would sleep with someone she has confessed to loving many times. Someone who loves her back. Someone who she has been loyal to and loyal to her. Someone who has respected her agency. Someone who loves her as she is. Someone who loves her selflessly. Someone she has chosen to be with because she loves him.
Know anyone who fits that description? I do.

Lexi

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5 thoughts on “Ask Lexi: Vampire Sex!”

good possible answers hoping its stefan… But Lexi can you answer me what is the INTERSECTING MOMENT BETWEEN DAMON AND ELENA IN 4X04… IM SO WORRIED SHE GONNA CHEAT ON STEFAN… PLEASE ANSWER ME RIGHT WHEN YOU GET THIS… BECAUSE I REALLY WANT THIS SEASON TO BE STELENA… US SEers GOT DELENA FOR A FULL YEAR.. I CANT HANDLE ANOTHER ONE..

your analysis seem very ligit but carina mac said they didnt. n then i read she said she has a boyfriend dont understand she meant nina bf or elena bc it happen in first 4 episodes n SE r breaking up in 4-07 now if its elena bf we r 95% sure its stefan but what if she means nina plus on this site i read ian said its not damon . but nina said its very hot n stemey n fun so i thought it cant be stefan bc stefan is gentle n nice .i just dont want it damon it could be matt elija hell klaus too i dont care just let it not be damon