"Our Pain Is That Maryam Sanda Is Not Remorseful For Killing Husband" - Bello Family

The family of Bilyaminu Bello, the son of ex-PDP chairman, Haliru Bello,
who was recently stabbed to death by his wife, Maryam Sanda, have
finally broken their silence on the very sad incident that occured on
Sunday, November 19th.

A brother of the deceased who spoke to the
Nation, said the family is still in shock over the unfortunate
incident. The brother who spoke on condition of anonymity, said they are
waiting on the law enforcement agencies to ensure that justice prevails
in this matter. The brother of the deceased spoke at a night of tribute
held in honor of the deceased in Abuja last Thursday.

“So far,
the family is grieving. Maryam’s family have come to pay their
condolence. The mother has come but what is more painful is the fact
that Maryam does not look remorseful for what she did at all. I just
pray one day, she finds it in her heart to honestly say what it is that
made her do what she did. As a family, we are looking at the authority
to do what is right, to let justice prevail. This is an example to
others. The way this case is treated will determine how we move
forward…Bilyamin was not just my older brother but best friend.” he said

A
friend of the deceased, Hakeem Ali, who also spoke at the night of
tribute, said Bilyaminu was a prisoner in his matrmonial home. He denied
allegations that Bilyaminu was a serial cheater.

'My friend was
being held a prisoner in his own home. He couldn’t leave the house in
the sense that it was an ongoing thing; the abuse went on for a while.
For me there is a difference between love and when somebody is being
obsessive. People tend not to understand the difference between love and
obsession. It wasn’t the best marriage and I believe either of them
could have just walked away. It’s easier to sit down in that sorrow and
think you can change things, or that if I can’t have him, no one will. I
don’t consider it love.

I can’t speak on his behalf. I can’t speak on
his personal issue, he is a good friend and he is gone. He was that one
guy that the minute we step out, we will be like, it is time for you to
go home, your wife is about to call, after hanging out for as little as
an hour or even 30 minutes. Even in the afternoon because she always
calls. So we formed the habit of going to see him at home. The situation
with the law, there are a lot of speculations right now on social media
but if Nigeria should excuse people for murder just because they have a
child, then if I am a murderer, then I will keep on having babies every
week, that is not an excuse, for me.

If somebody has committed a
murder, either intentionally or by mistake, she should not be allowed to
even see her baby because you don’t even know her state of mind. I
don’t understand the system. A conversation has to begin on domestic
violence against men as well because it’s becoming recurrent. If it is a
case of murder by mistake then there is a price to pay of which a
family can forgive but only God gives life and only God can take it. So,
if you take a life, then your life should be taken. It is that simple.
If the evidence shows it is a murder, then there is no excuse. It should
be a case of an eye for an eye. It is that simple.”

Another
friend of the deceased, Jemila Shehu, who was also at the tribute night,
suggested that Maryam might have bipolar disorder or Post Traumatic
Stress Disorder PTSD

'Our pain is that Maryam Sanda is not remorseful' family of Bilyaminu Bello Speaks

”I
have no idea. I was not in her mind. I don’t know what she was
thinking. All I know is that they both loved each other. There was love
there, only God knows. It beats my imagination and I don’t want to think
about it or give any excuse as a Muslim. He is gone but I don’t know
what she was thinking. I don’t know what to think about her. For me, she
should be punished. She committed murder. So, she should serve the
punishment fully.

This happened to someone that was loved by a lot of
people. He was kind, quiet and people knew them to be in love. So, it
beats everybody’s imagination. Domestic violence should be treated.
People should relax, love is not by force. Obsession is a disease. There
are a lot of people in Nigeria that are sick but people don’t know
because you think that if you go to the therapist, they look down on you
or think you are crazy but there are a lot of PTSD, bipolar patients
and they live among us. Maybe she flipped, maybe it was a psychotic
break or maybe she planned it.”

"Our Pain Is That Maryam Sanda Is Not Remorseful For Killing Husband" - Bello Family
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Monday, November 27, 2017
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