7 Ways Dads Can Make Valentine’s Special for Their Daughters

In a culture that markets and sales love wrapped in images of perfect and beautiful, your daughters can be at risk. This season of focus on romance is a great opportunity for dads to counter the culture’s messages and teach about love from a biblical perspective.

No matter the age of your daughter, this season is a great time to let her know she is deeply loved. Be personal and specific. Gary Chapman’s book Five Love Languages is a great resource to use as a guide when thinking about how to express love to your daughters. In his book, he shares five different ways people receive love, i.e., words, gifts, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time.

A special card. Deliver it under her pillow, in her lunch box, or maybe even mailed from your office. Be sure and write a special note just for her, affirming one or two qualities you admire in her and expressing how much you care. For the girl who receives love through words, this can make a powerful impact.

Flowers. They don’t have to be expensive but they can brighten her room and make her smile. One year, Rodney had flowers delivered for both girls at their school. They talked about it all year and as young mothers today, they still talk about getting flowers from their Dad.

A special dinner date. Let your daughter pick. It could be McDonald’s or something more formal. The key is to let it be her choice and you spend the evening focused on her. It will be a wonderful evening to pour into her — to teach her about life and faith.

An ice-cream date. Maybe you go to the store together, pick the ice cream and all the toppings and make an evening of it. Or maybe you go to your favorite ice-cream place. Either way, it is a fun evening packed with joy.

A dress up date. She gets dressed up and so does dad. From the special outfit to fixing up the hair, this is one special evening. Rodney did this on several occasions with our girls. He recalls his last dress up date was when both girls were in college. You book a special restaurant and get it on the calendar. The anticipation is half the fun.

A personal gift. This is a gift that matches your daughter’s interests and let’s her know you celebrate the interests and gifts God has given her. Whether sports, art, music, or just being a girl, make the gift unique for her.

Personal time. Do a project with her, play tennis, or maybe help her with a chore that is normally hers to do around the house. This is the gift of time.

Just letting your daughter know she is special to you, not because of anything external (looks, grades, or accomplishments) but just because God gave you the gift of her. Dads have the opportunity to teach their daughters so much about God’s love. They are also teaching their daughters how boys should treat her!

I am still such a daddy’s girl (my Dad is 90 and I am almost 60)! From the time I was a little girl until today, my Father’s love and affection have given me confidence in myself and taught me so much about God’s love for me.

So go make a fuss over your daughter(s) or maybe there is a girl you could adopt for this season who needs to be reminded that she is special.

“For it was You who created my inward parts. You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well.” Psalm 139:13-14

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About Selma

Selma Wilson is a wife, a mother, a grandmother, an advocate for moms, a cheerleader for marriages, a lover of Jesus, a family and marriage counselor/speaker, and the Chief People Officer at LifeWay Christian Resources. Read more about Selma.