Dealing with death

I’ve been scratching my head on how to write this post for days. Or weeks. You see, I have not really had any experience with the untimely loss of a loved one. Something I thank my lucky stars for every day.

I have a tendency to approach the subject of death with a touch of dark comedy. It’s become my New Years Eve catch phrase to toast another year we are all here. However, that’s easy for me, isn’t it? I do not have to hold my breath and fight back tears when I talk about losing someone, or try and find the positives in painfully happy memories of someone who should still be here.

It’s not something that’s easy to talk about seriously, is it? Or think too much about?

As I have got to know some of my readers, I come to realise that laughing or joking about death is not always appropriate. Maybe, at almost 35 years of age, I have learnt when to have more tact. Tread more carefully. Maybe.

Death has affected my family. Although I have mainly been protected from the hurt of sudden death directly, due to my young age at the time, I have seen the sadness in others – knowing their parents, siblings, friends have cruelly had years of life stolen from them. Family events, for them, have had a huge hole – someone missing, someone who would have loved every moment.

It scares the hell out of me, knowing what could be around any corner; not just for me, but for my children, my husband and my family.

One thing life has taught me, is that you don’t know a whole world of things, until you need to know. Coping with a loss comes not only with the emotional challenge of saying goodbye, but a whole complicated process of legalities. I do know that people are strong when they need to be, and support comes from all directions when it’s needed, when you are least expecting it.

Thankfully, as yet I do not know what I have not had to know about dealing with the legalities of a death.

Coles Solicitors have asked me to help them raise awareness on the support and stress alleviation they can offer if you find yourself in this place. Knowing there is expert help to guide you through the processes might be a small comfort.

If you ever find yourself googling Probate, like I did to write this post, I am sorry. I dread the day I have to become a sudden expert, and hope it is a very long way into the future.

If you are looking for help with Probate, a solicitor is the place to go. The first meeting with Coles is always free and the service can be delivered through any channel that is most convenient for you such as online, by telephone, in our offices or even in your own home.

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I'm Sarah, a nature loving mum of two little girls, living in the Garden of England that is Kent.
I started this blog in 2015 to document the highs and lows of motherhood as I experienced it, after being made redundant from my career in Science. A place to share my thoughts and to offer another parent somewhere a virtual empathetic chat over a brew. Being a Mum has been the making (and breaking) of me, and I invite you to join me in muddling through this chapter of life called PARENTING together x