affairs

It's the only commandment that is repeated twice in the Bible. "Once for doing it, and once just for thinking about it," says relationship expert Esther Perel. Infidelity is wrong, most of us would agree, but it's also something that will happen to most people, in some form, at some point in life. In her TED Talk out today, Perel points out that cheating has never been easier thanks to various apps and devices to connect us to others, but then again, keeping an affair a secret is also harder than ever due to the electronic information trail these same opportunities provide. And that's exactly why infidelity is such a hot topic for this generation: more people are being caught cheating than ever before. So, what does that mean for marriage, specifically? Are all of these affairs causing more divorces, or causing couples to confront and work through their issues? Perel says: I look at affairs from a dual perspective: hurt and betrayal on one side, growth and self-discovery on the other—what it did to you, and what it meant for me. And so when a couple comes to me in the aftermath of an affair that has been revealed, read more

The other day, when put out an open call for questions, lots of ladies (I like using the word ladies, but I hope you know I do it ironically) asked in one way or another what they should do about their boyfriends looking up exes on Facebook. Well, LADIES, I have an answer for you... read more

There isn’t a man I know who doesn’t fantasize about anonymous sex with someone other than his girlfriend. Or if there is, I don’t know him. That doesn’t mean we’re going to cheat. Or even that we want to. It just means we have an itch that needs to be scratched, and the good news is that it’s you, our girlfriends and wives, who can scratch it. read more