Important communications work best
when each per-son intentionally maintains a
"two-person bubble" of awareness that includes their and their
partner's cur-rent feelings + needs + thoughts +
reasons
for communicating +
true-Self
symptoms + other
relevant factors. Common alternatives are one or
both people focusing on (a) only themselves,
(b) only
the otherperson,
or (c) something
else, the past, or the future.

Awareness
and
metatalk
skills can help you develop the habit of keeping "two-person" (me +
you) awareness bubbles. Are you aware of your and your partner's bubbles in important
communications yet?