Healthy Relationships Support Group

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I need help and lots of it!! I say that I trust her but at the same time I always wonder what she is doing, who she could be with, and so on. When she wants to go out with friends I often times try to find her just to see what she is doing, or if she really did what she said she was going to do. I read her emails, go through her phone when I can get it and even listen to her voice mails. I know that all of this is wrong, but once I get started I can't stop. I have not been able to find a way to stop all of that, to control myself, and then when we start fighting, if she hangs up the phone I start calling and I mean calling 200 times back to back or the same with txt mgs. If we are together and start fighting and she gets up to leave I will often times stand in front of the door, or walk to her car and wont move out of the way...I have even jumped in front of her car to stop her. If none of that works or I give in and let her leave, a few mins later I am in the truck trying to catch up with her to follow her. I have called her at work, showed up at work, and just done stupid stupid things. I do have bipolar but not all of this is bipolar. Can someone please offer some advice as to how I can save this. We have been together for almost two years now, and she has put up with this the whole time, and when she leaves we might not talk for a week or so but then she comes back, so I know that she loves me and that she really wants this to work, but I have to control myself. THANKS

you are extremely insecure....only a counselor can help you....nobody needs to go through that crap....you are violating her privacy.....and there is no trust...without trust....there is no relationship....

I had an ex do that crap to me....that's why he's called an ex now....

she cant fix your insecurities...only YOU can....good luck !......

you don't own her....you can own material things.....that's way too possessive....not healthy....and scary too !

she has to be able to have her own life....apart from you...and when you 2 are together....

I wouldnt put up with that from anyone for one minute...you would be gone...

You said it best, you need help........and you have to control yourself.
From the way you described things, you are SMOTHERING her, and overstepping many boundaries. These are sooooo important.
You've been very honest, and that could be a start to getting better.

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