Thursday, January 12, 2012

3 Steps to Abate Worry and Live Now

There
is nothing that can invade the mindfulness of a true Present Moment
thinker such as worry. It is that egoic nature that can take the
tranquility of the present Now Moment and give the ego complete and
total charge of all that surrounds your Mission. Worry is that
ever-present reality, it seems, for most as they travel from Now Moment
to Now Moment.

But why is that?

In a study i read recently,
it was stated that a mere 8% of things people worried about actually
manifested as reality. I would add that of that 8%, probably most things
were so desired, so worried about, that they were going to happen no
matter what. it is the Law of Attraction in action in a not-so-good use.

So what does that tell us?

It
tells us that we are so desperate to desire some unforeseen future that
we will manifest it even to the detriment of our very existence. It
tells us that the ego will go to extreme lengths to keep a hold on you,
because worry is such as life itself. You forget about the actuality of
that which might happen for the understanding that it might happen.
Essentially, most are in such a common place of worry that when one
thing happens that they have indeed worried about, it becomes 100%. It
happened just as you thought it would and now the ego can use it to
bolster its claim on you as the defender of your safety.

In the
world of theatre, it is as i have seen. An actor has an overall great
performance and one person out of a hundred tells them that they didn’t
like their performance. One person! Guess what happens? That’s correct
my young Jedi, they obsess about the one, not taking into context at all
why that one person didn’t like it, as if it matters. But i have seen a
single bad comment take an actor and make them doubt themselves because
they worry about another comment to the point that their performance
suffers. So the very thing they worry about does indeed manifest.

Worry,
really then, is all about the ego. The funny thing is that we have all
done it, have we not? Because worry brings forth doubt in ourselves and
our situation, we then define ourselves by the very worry we are in any
moment we decide to commit ourselves to it. Even more bizarre is our
capacity to see others commit themselves to worry and tell them not to.

But
since the ego is really at the heart of worry, how can we make sense of
it all? Worry is a natural part of life, is it not? I mean, our very
existence is given images of worry in every facet of living by our news
media alone. The media feeds on worry and 90% of commercials are worry
about some future event happening in your life if you don’t use their
product. I have even seen a pill you can take in case you might have
heartburn in the future. I am not kidding.

What is the number one
cause of heart troubles in the USA alone? Stress. What is stress usually
caused by? Worry about some future outcome.

I had a coaching
client who recently came to a session in tears. Her daughter was in the
midst of a divorce and she was “worried” about the grandchildren and the
long-term affect on them. As i probed deeper, as that must always be
done with worry, it came out that it her daughter’s divorce was somehow a
reflection on her. Her parenting, her life in general. Her ego had so
encased her in worry and how it was somehow an attack on her very core,
that some perceived outcome with her grandchildren was now
keeping her in a state of worry about some unknown future.

You see
how clever worry is used by the ego? Ultimately, most worry is somehow
an attack on YOU and must be dealt with. Just the absurdity of it all
makes most laugh but it is an ever-present danger within us all if we
are not vigilant in keeping worry at bay.

Living in the Present
Moment is freedom from worry but takes a conscious effort to rid
yourself of the egoic nature that inhabits the very core of worry.

3 Steps to Begin the Process of Ending Worry

First, when worry is presented as an option, take it to its end.

What do i mean by that?

Be
an actor and write the script. Take the object of worry and make a play
out of it, which is what worry is, by the way. The ego makes a whole
play out that you actually believe it to be true. This time, however,
you write it in your head with whatever far-fetched conclusion that
could happen. Make a game of it. There is an old saying that you
“illustrate absurdity by being absurd” and this is what is the intent.
When you see the ridiculousness of all that must happen for the worry to
become manifest, it really is quite amusing.

Second, decide that
you are going to be ever-present in this Now Moment and that worry will
not determine a future that does not exist. Just the very act of making a
solid commitment will alert you when worry rears its ugly head.

Third,
acknowledge the egos effort. Now, that might seem a bit strange, but if
you treat the ego as it should be, as nothing more than someone from
the mailroom, instead of the CEO of the company known as YOU, then you
will go far in abating worry.

The ego will tell you all kinds of
things to supposedly be in your best interest, but what the ego is
trying to do is to be the one who makes all the decisions for you. The
sad part is that most allow the ego to be in charge. Take back the
night, here. The ego HATES Now Moment living and by keeping you in a
constant state of worry about the future gives it full control. Be
better than that. Be ever-present in the Now.

Worry is the beast
that will rear its ugly head in your life and you must be aware, but it
is a beast that can be eradicated for as Benjamin Disraeli was quoted as
saying, “Worry (the ego) - a God, invisible but omnipotent. It steals
the bloom from the cheek and lightness from the pulse; it takes away the
appetite, and turns the hair gray.”

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the higher we lift all others around us.

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DA
Southern is a Strategic Personal Development Coach, teaching the spirit
of living in Now Moments with the principles he experienced during over
35 years as an actor and director in live theatre. DA coaches his
clients to rid life of limiting beliefs that have kept them from
achieving miracles in all areas of their life by embracing Mindfulness
of the Present Moment with a renewed Vision for life. Contact DA
Southern for coaching @ directyourownlife@gmail.com

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DA is a Now Moment coach, teaching the spirit of living in Now Moments in abundance and joy, as well as a motivational writer and novelist. He helps you to rid your life of limiting beliefs that have kept you from achieving miracles in your life and teaches the way of living that is expectant of those miracles in the relationships of the heart, the freeing of the mind with incredible, uplifting thoughts and the epiphany of the soul in everyday living.