Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love Scales

Intimacy

1. I am actively supportive of _____’s well-being. 2. I have a warm relationship with _____. 3. I am able to count on _____ in times of need. 4. _____ is able to count on me in times of need. 5. I am willing to share myself and my possessions with _____. 6. I receive considerable emotional support from _____. 7. I give considerable emotional support to _____. 8. I communicate well with _____. 9. I value _____ greatly in my life. 10. I feel close to _____. 11. I have a comfortable relationship with _____. 12. I feel that I really understand _____. 13. I feel that _____ really understands me. 14. I feel that I can really trust _____. 15. I share deeply personal information about myself with _____.

Passion

16. Just seeing _____ excites me. 17. I find myself thinking about _____ frequently during the day. 18. My relationship with _____ is very romantic. 19. I find _____ to be very personally attractive. 20. I idealize _____. 21. I cannot imagine another person making me as happy as _____ does. 22. I would rather be with _____ than with anyone else. 23. There is nothing more important to me than my relationship with _____. 24. I especially like physical contact with _____. 25. There is something almost “magical” about my relationship with _____. 26. I adore _____. 27. I cannot imagine life without _____. 28. My relationship with _____ is passionate. 29. When I see romantic movies or read romantic books I think of _____. 30. I fantasize about _____.

Commitment

31. I know that I care about _____. 32. I am committed to maintaining my relationship with _____. 33. Because of my commitment to _____, I would not let other people come between us. 34. I have confidence in the stability of my relationship with _____. 35. I could not let anything get in the way of my commitment to _____. 36. I expect my love for _____ to last for the rest of my life. 37. I will always have a strong responsibility for _____. 38. I view my commitment to _____ as a solid one. 39. I cannot imagine ending my relationship with _____. 40. I am certain of my love for _____. 41. I view my relationship with _____ as permanent. 42. I view my relationship with _____ as a good decision. 43. I feel a sense of responsibility toward _____. 44. I plan to continue in my relationship with _____. 45. Even when _____ is hard to deal with, I remain committed to our relationship.

Answers are scored on a 9-point Likert scale from “Not at all,” to “Moderately,” to “Extremely.”

Reference: Sternberg, R.J. (1990). A triangular love scale.

Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love Scales

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