Sonata For Sale, People are not in love with their suffering. Rather I'd say that either it saddens them, or they hate it. In either case their emotional reaction of hate and sadness to their suffering causes them to suffer more.

What is important to breaking this cycle is the awareness that our emotional reactions are not something that we control. But this very idea that we are not in control,,, this frightens people more. So to avoid their fear they cling to the idea that it is reasonable or justified to hate or feel sad about their condition. In effect they close themselves off to the truth out of fear of acknowledging something that is already happening.