When in doubt: gift registry. Hurry before the best gifts are picked through.

But you’re better than the gift registry.

Co-worker? $100-worth is good. You have to see this person every day.

Cousin? $125’ll do it.

Close family? How much money you got?

Technically, you can wait up to a year to give a gift. But don’t.

Wait a few weeks after the wedding. Mail your gift. It’ll stand out.

Cash is always welcome.

Invited but not attending? You’re still on the hook for a gift.

Where's the bar?

Frequently Asked Questions

Should I go if I've slept with the bride-to-be?How recently we talking here? If you were personally invited, you’ve already been cleared (unless, to borrow Admiral Akbar, "It’s a trap!"). But if you’re somebody’s date, ask your ladyfriend whether she told the bride you were coming. No drama? You’re clear.

Can I make a toast if I'm not the best man?Ask the best man.

How can I avoid small talk?You can’t. But try the Socratic method. Q: How’s New York? A: How do you think it is?