RBF

There seems to be a pretty consistent piece of feedback people give me once they’ve gotten to know me — “Wow, you’re so much nicer than I thought you’d be.” For years this was totally puzzling to me (duh guys, I’m super nice). I got this comment in high school, in college, but work seems to be the place I get the comment the most. Finally a boss stared me in the face and gave it to me straight, “You have a real resting bitch face.” Woah. My whole life of being told I looked mad, sad, mean, bored, all explained with 3 little words — resting bitch face. And I totally do! It was a revelation. Some people look approachable and friendly at first glance, a natural smile is gracing their face… I just don’t have this. When I try to pull of the “casual resting smile” (ya know the one that nice people seem to be able to do while walking down the street alone) I look creepy and murdery because the expression just isn’t how I naturally rest my face. I also rarely smile with my teeth which doesn’t help matters. I thought I’d share because I can really see my RBF peeking out in this post. I am not naturally a big smiler, but I am naturally quite happy! Promise

What is one misconception about you? I’d love to hear so be sure to sound off in the comments below!

This outfit totally inspires me to transition my similar leather skirt into spring – so glad too because I hated to put it away!

Also, I’ve been told that I look “unapproachable” and when I pressed someone to explain WHY WHY WHYYYYY would anyone think that they responded – “because you kind of hold your head up high when you walk into a room.”

Hey. I have rbf. I’ve been told this my whole life, and then the same conclusion once people get to me know me that I’m a lot nicer than I look. I just don’t know what I look like cuz I can’t see my face most of the time! I swear I’m nice!!

I have the same problem! Haha I come off unfriendly as well but honestly it’s just because I’m a little shy. Anyway, I have a similar skirt and I love the way you styled it! I think I bought mine from impulse but hopefully one day I’ll find a use for it

I’m new to your blog and I just want to say I LOVE your style. It’s so relaxed but still feminine, which to me is the ultimate combo. And then I landed on this post. I know exactly how you feel. I too suffer from SRB. :o) I’m a very happy person the majority of the time. But for some reason I look like I have no time for you or the whole world for that matter when I’m not smiling. Since I was a teenager people have told me I look stuck up, unapproachable, disinterested….you get the picture. Which couldn’t be farther from the truth. I’ve actually had people tell me, just like you, that I have a very bitchy resting face. For a while it really bothered me because I knew how nice I was and didn’t want people avoiding me because of the “SRB”. But ya gotta find the humor in it really. Guess happy people can’t have it all! Just thought your post was hilarious!! Hope you have a wonderful day!