Understanding the Law of Attraction in Childhood~Train vs. Re-Train

IMAGINE! Where would you be and what would your life be like today if you had been aware of the power of the Universal Law of Attraction at work in your life when you were a child?

Society has created a multi-million dollar business from the many "self-help" and "how-to" books on the market that focus on the Law of Attraction. Every day I receive emails and bulletins announcing the latest and greatest techniques to receive your heart's desire using the principles of the law of attraction.

I am not disputing the value of many of these ideas. I know the law of attraction works. I know it is at work all of the time for everyone regardless of age, positive or negative. I also know that most everything on the market is designed to help adults alter their thoughts and perceptions learned during childhood to allow their intentions to manifest. But what if we, as parents, could change this for our children?

For example: Let's say your heart's desire is to own a magnificent beachfront home.

As a young child you spent family vacations on Cape Cod. You were raised in a "middle class" family with modest means so your family's vacations were camping trips. That was great fun, but you always admired the luxurious homes that other people vacationed in and sometimes even owned!

You remember the family conversations that took place as you would drive by these exquisite houses:

Your father would say, "What a waste. People with that kind of money should think of a better way to spend it…"

Your mother would say, "I am glad I don't have to clean a house that big…no one needs a house that big!"

Your older brother would say, "I am glad I don't have to mow that big yard…"

Here's the confusion…

All of this is being said while everyone was obviously admiring the property! You knew they admired it because when the property first came in to view, the comments began with things like, "Wow! Look at that house; it's awesome, right on the beach, and look at the size of that yard!"

To the young mind, these are conflicting messages. On one hand, a beautiful home on the beach is very impressive and exciting, but on the other hand, it must also be a bad thing because the people who own it are selfish and wasteful… and let's not forget, who would want to have to work so hard to maintain it?

These conflicting thoughts are embedded into your mind during the years that children are most susceptible to absorbing information. Your thoughts contain this negative confusing message about owning a beachfront property and the people who own them. These thoughts are stored away in your subconscious mind and they become a part of who you are without your awareness, choice or consent.

Now, fast forward to the point where you are a successful business person. You still find that you are drawn to those magnificent beach front homes and decide that you want to own one.

You are aware of the Law of Attraction, the power of positive thinking and have learned through many publications about the process of manifesting. You begin by clearly putting out your intention, you focus on how it is going to be when you realize your intention and are living in that awesome home. You are doing everything that all of those self-help books on the law of attraction have told you to do. You have even created a vision board with pictures of the beachfront homes of your dreams. You put your focus on owning that house, and yet it doesn't happen.

In response, you purchase one more self-help program. This one, "The Missing Secret" by Dr. Joe Vitale, is designed to explain why; why if you are doing everything these books and programs have told you to do are you not seeing your intention manifested?

As you work through Dr. Vitale's program, the answer takes you back to those childhood vacations and those conflicting messages that took root in your subconscious mind. The limiting beliefs that said…"Who would want to be selfish and wasteful? Who would want all that extra work?"

You argue within your mind that you do in fact want that beach house, but as you are now learning, you don't want it in your subconscious mind! Your thoughts that have been stored in your subconscious mind override your thoughts in your conscious mind. Now, you learn that in order to receive what you truly want in your conscious mind, you need to "re-Train" what lives deep within your subconscious mind!

These limiting beliefs that say people who own these beautiful properties are selfish and wasteful and that having such a grand home is way too much work, needs to be removed. With work and dedicated effort, this can be done. This is good news. You are confident and determined and so the "re-training" process begins.

Parents with this knowledge and who understand this concept have the opportunity to greatly impact their children's lives.

The first and by far the most important is to begin by monitoring the thoughts, opinions and perceptions you impose upon your children.

In addition, you can "train" your children by empowering them with an understanding of their power to choose to have a positive mindset that allows for all possibilities for all people, encouraging them to form their own thoughts, rather than automatically accepting the thoughts, ideas and opinions of outside influences without carefully examining them. You can teach your children that they have the power to choose what thoughts they will accept as their own and which thoughts are negative and need to be discarded.

Putting in the effort to "train" your children to choose and accept only positive and healthy views, opinions, and thoughts will remove the need to eliminate limiting beliefs and "re-train" their minds when they reach adulthood. Thus, empowering them with the skills to intentionally create the life they were born to live now and in the future.

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Denny Hagel is a child advocate and parenting coaching, devoting over 25 years to the success and well being of all children. She is the published author of over 150 articles on parenting, many of which have attracted international attention.

Denny was blessed with forward thinking parents who raised her to live according to the principles of the law of attraction long before it became a household term. Subsequently she has purposefully studied and practiced the law of attraction for the last fifteen years. Her formal education was in early childhood education, psychology, and substance abuse.

She is the founder of Awakened Parenting LLC, and created the discussion group "Awakened Parenting Discussion Forum" on Face Book. She does on line coaching with parents and teachers who consult her on a regular basis. Denny collaborates with counselors, authors, coaches and others working with parenting and the law of attraction. Denny Hagel is the author of "The Missing Secret to Parenting", "Mini-Me Syndrome", “Parenting Using the Law of Attraction” and “Becoming an Awakened Parent".

This reminds me of the passage in the New Testament that says a “double-minded man should not expect to receive anything from the Lord” … that he’s like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. Asking with faith, believing, requires a clear focus. I’ve been double-minded for too many years… and it’s just like you’ve described, all those childhood conflicting messages! Time to clean house Thanks, Denny, for another beautifully written and valuable article!

http://www.debpilgrim.com Deb Pilgrim

Thanks Denny for not only a great article but a wonderful reminder of the amazing role we have as parents.

Beau Henderson

The “allowing” step is the last and biggest hurdle to clear. Great article about programming the mind correctly. Children are highly impressionable and have limitless potential. Thanks for your wisdom!

http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

Thanks for commenting Beau! You are absolutely right…children see no limits to their capabilities until “we” point them out!

http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

I appreciate you stopping by and commenting Deb…parenting is such a beautiful experience…we get an up close and personal view of an amazing soul exploring the journey we call life! Life is Good!

http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

I love the correlation with Scripture…that is what I find most amazing…nothing really new “under the sun” just different ways of presenting the same laws of life…a clear and focused mind accompanied by a belief and expectation that our heart’s desire will be. Thanks for commenting Susan!

http://www.annemariecross.com Annemarie Cross

So very true Denny. Many years ago when my youngest was around 9 and my eldest 11, I was trained in NLP and learned the powerful affect our words and actions can have on our beliefs and actions. It was then that I changed the way I parented AND thankfully so.

My children all know that they may not have the ability to change or control other people’s thoughts or behaviors, however they certainly know they can control the way it makes them feel. Very important message. Here’s to reframing and retraining!

Victoria Gazeley

I grew up in one of those homes where we heard there was never enough and rich people were crooks. Of course, we don’t realize the ramifications til so much later. Thankfully, I’m usually able to catch myself if I ever feel compelled to tell my son “we can’t afford it”. I’ve never felt that way, so it’s usually fairly easy, but every once in awhile it comes up out of nowhere. Fascinating. Thanks, Denny.

http://www.facebook.com/denny.hagel Denny Hagel

Thanks for commenting Victoria. These beliefs when put into our programming as children are so deeply embedded they become a part of who we are…so difficult to reverse totally.

Thanks, Denny, for the reminder. I was also raised in a home where I was told that we were poor and that it was never going to change. Thank goodness, as I got older, I was able to get the help I needed to get that negative thought(s) out of my head. God bless you for sharing.

Gary Hyman

A great reminder Denny. Much of what we currently are are molded from our past thoughts, many of them being negative. I totally believe, that we as parents, CAN change this for our kids. Thanks for sharing.

http://www.internetsuccess4you.com/ Sally K Witt

What a great thing to teach children!

Meire Weishaupt

This is such an inspiring post Denny, and reaffirm the importance of our thoughts, and opinions and the way we pass them to our children!

http://www.facebook.com/suzanne.jonesimpens Suzanne Jones Impens

“Putting in the effort to “train” your children to choose and accept only positive and healthy views, opinions, and thoughts will remove the need to eliminate limiting beliefs and “re-train” their minds when they reach adulthood.” This is why we do what we do! Love this! I have made my own mistakes and would love to see others understand the effects it has so they can choose wiser.

http://twitter.com/LisaBirnesser Lisa Birnesser

Great post, Denny. It’s so important to be conscious of how we respond to children’s dreams. That can stay dormant in the subconscious and impact the future plans of children. Thanks!

http://twitter.com/sarahkuglin Sarah Kuglin

Great read Denny, very inspiring and something we must all remember! Thanks for sharing!

http://anitafiander.com/ Anita Fiander

Great message and we do have to be conscious of how we respond to childrens dreams.

http://twitter.com/Jilleysue Jill McCarthy

I love your blog and have sent many of my friends your way to read. Great stuff

http://twitter.com/JulieMcAdoo Julie McAdoo

Thank you so much for your insights! I had not thought of that, and I’m sure I make those kinds of limiting statements all the time as I rationalize why I am happy with what I have and would not want more. We adults understand why we say such things, but it is very contradictory and even dishonest. Great insight!

http://twitter.com/JustPamelaGail Pamela Gail Johnson

Hi Denny, love the example of a beach front home … great post as usual.

http://twitter.com/kimgarst Kim Garst ツ

IMAGINE! Where would you be and what would your life be like today if you had been aware of the power of the Universal Law of Attraction at work in your life when you were a child? Right? What a difference it would make!

Dawn Lanier

I actually grew up with parents that encouraged me to appreciate that thoughts are things, and that you will block your good by focusing on doubt or fear. I consider myself very fortunate to have learned to see and expect the positive early in life. Wonderful post!

Delia

Amazing how we pass onto our children things that were passed onto us without even realizing it! Thanks for bringing awareness, I love your blog and updates on your Facebook page, Denny!

http://www.facebook.com/rwardlow7 Rebecca Wardlow

Denny ~ What a great post! I enjoy how you tied in the beach house

http://assistsocialmedia.com/ elizabeth Maness

love this Denny! I Have worked really hard to do just that. I always tell the girls they can do what every they want..;0 They believe they have the power to think about something so hard they can make it a reality.;) I love this notion they have and it can happen!

Amy

What an interesting post, Denny. I haven’t heard about this in relation to parenting, but I think when the Law of Attraction makes sense to you personally, weaving it into parenting is almost intuitive. It will certainly help me to be more conscious of my thinking and the messages I’m sending to my sons. Thanks for sharing this.

http://www.sherievenner.com Sherie Venner

Yes, those conflicting messages can do so much harm…because children see that our behavior is not congruent with what we say. Those limiting beliefs that are instilled in childhood can linger for a lifetime if they aren’t released. Excellent post, Denny!

It makes sense that it would work with children. Very innovative, Denny! You’re the best…

Vicky

Great post and very inspiring. Thank you for sharing Denny.

Susan Myers

Once you get this–> learn that in order to receive what you truly want in your conscious mind, you need to “re-Train” what lives deep within your subconscious mind, you can have anything you want! Great post Denny!

http://www.helenabowers.com/ Helena Bowers

What you say makes so much sense. Your blog should be required reading for all parents!

Lorii Abela

This is great
Denny! It is a very effective tool to raise children – empowering them with
the skills to intentionally create the life they were born to live now and in
the future.

http://twitter.com/EdmundSLee Edmund Lee

I can’t wait until the day I have children and I can teach them how to utilize their mind in this manner

http://DesignerRobRusso.com/ Designer Rob Russo

Great points here, denny. My wife and I are trying to re-train our brains while (hopefully) training our kids’ brains the right way.

"Just received Mini-Me Syndrome and can't believe I have been guilty of exactly what you describe. I consider myself a conscious parent and yet I never realized how I was sabotaging my kids. Thanks Denny for writing this."
~Donna Brenker

"Mini Me Syndrome contains vital information that will supplement every parent's desire to provide their children with the best foundation upon which to grow and create a great future for themselves.

Author Hagel describes the importance of awareness; awareness of ourselves and the ways in which we pass along the beliefs we hold regarding our own, or the world's limitations. We all do this, not only to our children but to our friends and other family members as well. Denny suggests specific ways that we can identify this in ourselves and alternatives that we can easily use to circumvent passing these same limiting patterns along to our kids.” ~ James Andrews, author of “The MindTech Principle”

“Mini-Me Syndrome shares with the reader the secret to giving your children the life they want to live. And surprise…it all starts with you, the parents. By helping to give your child high self-esteem and a positive attitude at a young age, you as parents can help your child achieve all they want to and to be the person that they desire to be.

Positive mental awareness is a learned trait and this book helps you understand the basics behind it. Denny Hagel shares with you, in easy to understand language, the 6 tips on how to avoid the “Mini-Me Syndrome” from showing up in your life and that of your child. Remember, as she says “Choice is what determines who we are and what we will achieve.”

All parents and grandparents need to read this information filled e-book. The future of your child may just depend on it. Mini-Me Syndrome made me think about how we are raising my eleven year old son.”~Philip Nork

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"Wow, Denny. This is great. It makes such good sense to make them think about what they want and why they want it. I sure wish someone would have guided me to critical thinking and decision making as a young girl, perhaps it wouldn't be so difficult today. Thanks for putting this out there for our parents of today, good stuff for our leaders of tomorrow." ~Carla Gardiner

"Denny, this is a great example of helping our children operate in their true identity, going against the common current of peer dependency. I can't help but wonder what it would be like if we all raised our children (and were raised this way ourselves) without control, fear, and shame - the three most common motivators and effects. Thank you for speaking up for the next generation!"~Susan McKenzie

"Hi Denny, Wish I had read this 30 years ago when I was raising my 4 children! They ultimately did turn out to be wonderful, loving, and amazing adults who now all have children of their own. Your information is timeless and I can continue to use it with my Grandchildren. Thanks!"~Carol Douthitt

"Denny, thank you so very much for giving me tools to be a better parent..! It's obvious how much you care....."~Dr Scott

"Denny ... Where were you 50 years ago ...??? I was brought up in a dictatorship and it totally colored all of my relationships for a very long time. I don't have any children of my own, but I was responsible for managing lots of people from diverse backgrounds, so I can totally relate to what you wrote here. Only when I moved from "it's my way or the highway" to "let's work on this together and give me feedback on what is going on for you" was I able to create cohesive, top-performing teams. The residue of childhood goes with all of us for a long time. Excellent info !!"~Rose Mis