PARENTING

[ 3 min read ] I think parents should be patient. I mean, obviously they may do as they please but I think being impatient as a parent is the path to the dark side. Or, to sound a little less dramatic, impatience will never do good to your relationship...
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[ 2 min read ] Don’t just say I love you. Tell them what it means. When a child says I love you to his / her parent I guess it means one of the following (or a mix): thank you I feel safe with you you give me security...
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[ 2 min read ] Of course you think your adult child does it all wrong. If they’re doing it differently than you did it, how could it be the right way? If what your adult child does was the right way to go about it, what would it mean?...
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[ 2 min read ] Do members of other species win food for and obsess about the wellbeing and happiness of their adult offspring? No. There is this period of babying the offspring (when they’re babies) - licking them, letting them suck mother’s milk (in mammals), warding off dangers, bringing...
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[ 3 min read ] Why is it that almost all parents want their children to enter “practical” professions? Because they’re selfish and care more (or only) about their own needs being satisfied, rather than their children’s needs being satisfied. They want a peace of mind, have something to brag...
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[ 3 min read ] [This is a letter David Wojnarowicz wrote to his mother Dolores on November 1, 1989. From the book In the Shadow of the American Dream: The Diaries of David Wojnarowicz] Dear Dolores, Thanks for your letter. I was glad to hear that you’re getting close...
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[ 3 min read ] Telling children that their parents and teachers know everything best and that it’s the reason children should listen, is, of course, a very convenient strategy. It is also a tried and true strategy. It’s what teachers and parents have been telling children for years. It’s...
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[ 3 min read ] Frank Williams’s wife Virginia was always very supportive of him and his passion for motor racing (Frank Williams is the legendary founder of British Formula 1 team currently racing in Formula 1 as Williams Martini Racing). Her family members describe the first ten years of...
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[ 4 min read ] Something my father-in-law said this weekend when we were visiting them got me thinking about generations. Again. He said I understand this world no more. I wouldn’t do it. Of course he was referring to something someone from a younger generation did (other family member)....
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[ 2 min read ] Most people assume that certain things should happen after graduation. Like an impressive job, job in their field, pursuing of a profession/ academic career (further studies, diplomas, certifications). Or passion (a startup, doing what you love). Those are the next logical steps for them. Should...
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[ 2 min read ] We associate the word ‘selfish’ with something fundamentally bad. When you are called selfish by people it means you only think about yourself and you couldn’t care less about others. It’s another word for an ‘asshole’. When we grow up we learn that there are...
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[ 1 min read ] “Crazy” people are called crazy by the public opinion (are crazy in the eyes of the majority) because they dare to defy convention, break the established rules and do things differently than anyone else. The majority, on the other hand, got used to a certain...
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[ 5 min read ] I didn't start blogging about parenting, career and life in general for my son. I started it for myself and then realized that what I say in those blog posts (and what I currently write in my diary - My Author Journey) speaks to people....
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[ 2 min read ] Most people don’t like to admit that they’re weak, have dumb beliefs or don’t have the guts to change their lives. If all their lives they told their children that life sucks in general and that for people like them there is no hope, and...
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[ 2 min read ] Last scene from the movie The Truman Show: CHRISTOF (to Truman): You can leave if you want. I won’t try to stop you. But you won’t survive out there. You don’t know what to do, where to go. Christof is like most parents in this...
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[ 1 min read ] Last scene from the movie The Truman Show: CHRISTOF: You can leave if you want. I won’t try to stop you. But you won’t survive out there. You don’t know what to do, where to go. A wave of doubt washes over Truman’s face. TRUMAN...
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[ 3 min read ] Last scene from the movie The Truman Show: TRUMAN: Who are you? CHRISTOF: I’m the creator. Truman looks up to the “heavens”. TRUMAN: The creator of what? CHRISTOF: A show — that gives hope and joy and inspiration to millions. TRUMAN (incredulous): A show. Then who am...
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[ 1 min read ] It was easier to stay calm in the old times when there was no Internet and when young people weren’t bombarded with all this contradictory information (about life, happiness, passion, etc.). Back then the advice those well-meaning adults in our families offered us was the...
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