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Topic: Am I Safe? (Read 1782 times)

Had my 1st sex last Feb 2006 thats 8 months ago with my girlfriend, we have not done any till today. Its not really sex, more to foreplay which involve fingering, oral sex and some rubbing, where I just rub the head of my penis on her vagina lips, without a condom. There was NO sexual intercourse. As for now, Im in a normal state, had the normal flu and cough like a month ago, Im recovered now.. but I think theres no signs of HIV infection, coz I'm feeling fine... Im alil just worried.

Question

1 - What are the signs of HIV and when does this signs happens?2 - Without sexual intercourse, just rubbing without condom is it a high risk?3 - Am I safe and do I need to have a HIV test, even after 8 months?

Thanks for your answer RapidRod... I know I was somewhere in the low risk area... However, just to ignore the whole oral sex, coz I know the risk factor is very very low. But can you tell me how can one get infected tru sexual?? Is it Only tru sexual intercourse??

Coz what worries me, is the tot of me n my girlfriend did some 10sec rubbing stated above without me using a condom... can I get infected? With in mind she is HIV positive.. Which honestly I do not know if she is or not.. but she looks fine..

Last answer: You don't get infected doing frontage. You can't tell anyones status by their looks. The rest of the answers will be in the "Welcome" thread which you were suppose to have read first before you posted.

Thanks alot for your direct answers, that 'frontage' really scares me... anyways thx it eases me down now... after 8 months of wondering n thinking... probably its just guilt coz it was my 1st time... and its not even sexual intercourse. Coz since after the incident, I got a one time flu and cough, a lil sweat when a sleep, even when I'm in the loo.. if I see my stool looked differently I get worried... lol.

It would be great if anyone else has an opinion regarding on my situation.

Rod is, as usual in these matters, spot on. You didn't have a risk for HIV transmission and you don't need to test as a result. What you do need to do is read our sparkling Welcome Thread which contains links to our lessons on HIV testing and transmission.

All sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least twice a year. A full screen includes an HIV antibody test. If it's been a while since your last test or if you've not had one before it might want to make an appointment to see your doctor or with your local clinic. I'm not saying this because I think you need to test as a result of what you describe here, but just for general genital maintenance. If you get my meaning.

Im not sexually active... that was my 1st time.. and probably my last until I found someone to marry with.

With all this worryness and questions in mind.. i dont think I wanna go tru this again.. even tho doing it right and safe.. it will stuck in ur mind if ur safe or not, and going to doctors and stuff.. just cudnt bare the hessle and stuff...

Dude, maybe you won't have sex again. Maybe. But hormones and happenings can lead you into different directions sometimes.

So make sure you have read those lessons on Transmission and Testing which Rod pointed you to. You'll get all the basics there that you need to know about what to do for safer sex. That way if you do have sex again you can enjoy yourself, protect yourself and spare yourself of the kind of unnecessary worry you have been experiencing.