Tantra-Slut Lesson #2: Sound Builds Sexual Energy

We learned that some people didn’t understand the previous week’s assignment. I didn’t practice “yabyum” with my partner the night before even thought it was our “homework,” because it didn’t occur to me that we could do it without penetration. This whole penetration business with condoms is a total drag, because in Tantra you switch from penetration to oral sex to stroking one another, to fucking for a while, then G-spot massage, then male genital massage, on and on, one practical item making me reconsider my commitment to polyamory. (Polyamory means being emotionally connected or loving more than one person. There are lots of forms of living "poly." Check it out on the lovingmore website.)

To practice Tantra successfully requires either an exclusive monogamous relationship or “fluid bonding,” the level of trust in which you expose yourself to whomever else your partner is fucking (and the STDs you know she has) and you trust him/her enough to believe that he or she is practicing safer sex with everyone else. I’d like to tell you more about what I learned from the other couple’s experiences with the “daily devotional” homework, but part of the agreement in the class is respecting the confidentiality of other people’s sharing. I can share my story, because it’s mine. I can’t share their stories (unless I ask them permission).

We learned how to chant “Lom, Vom, Rom, Yom, Hom, Om,” learned where the energy chakras are in the body, and got the assignment of chanting a couple times a day.

She had our male partners cup their hands like a mini-megaphone, put their cupped hands against our yonis (pussies) and chant “Lom” into the second chakra, the genitals, which was absolutely delightful. It's like the hum part of a "hummer" that makes it so much fun.

Then, we learned we could choose whatever activities we wanted during the daily devotionals–oral sex, chanting together, intercourse, going for a quickie as long as we weren’t always going for the quickie. A big part of Tantra is building up one’s sexual energy and not shooting one's wad all the time.

The Tantrika explained how men could enjoy the charge of their sexual energy and erections during the daily devotional and then pull the energy up and move it back into their spines, rather than going for orgasm. The intent is not to deny pleasure, but to build up the energy and connection between the couple so that the man is always attentive to the woman, keeps coming back to her for the sexual connection because he hasn’t shot off all his desire for connection.

As I know from experience, even men who really like me, they’re done with me once they’ve gone off. Building up this sexual energy is also really valuable for women because they feel more closely connected to their Beloveds and desire that sexual connection with him more. Tantra is a great practice for revitalizing flagging long-term relationships.

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