Self-Injury Support Group

Whether you or someone you know or love struggles with self-injury, this is the community to discuss your experience, find support, meet others going through the same, and get advice on how to stop. Working together, we can help find alternative coping skills to reduce the urge to self-harm.

Stopping...

I know this is a site for support, and i would in no way encourage anyone to go down the path i have... but is it just me, or do others feel like the thought of stopping is terrible. Never ever ever doing it again, makes me sad...I used to hate to love it, but i dont even think i hate it anymore, i guess i don't have as much stress with it as i used to, i have become very perticular, the scars on my arms now have faded as much as they ever will, sometimes someone will make a comment, but only because they have for some reason looked, i guess most people arn't looking for it in the way some of us are ?!
I find certain parts of my body tingle when they want to be cut, is this just me ? its relaly weird, my arms have been free for about 2 and a half years =] but goddness me do they tingle, its awful... lol
I do have a slight problem, i am going off to uni in a week... and as much as my SI is under control, im worried without my mums constant presence, my arms will come under use again and i will loose control... everyone alwyas promised it would stop, that eventualy i wouldnt think about it or dream about it or want to do it anymore, and the longer i went i would eventually forget... i think they lied! lol Anyway, who ever is still reading, i hope you arnt asleep by now, but i just kinda wanted to put this up... i used to have a group of friends who i could talk to about this, but as i go better and they didnt and i moved and as friendships do grow and change as you get older i have different friends who dont know this about me, and even the old ones i am still in contact with dont know quite as much anymore so other peoples insight would be nice =] Hope everyone is doing okay! Peace out people ! xoxo

I think I know what you mean. I can picture stopping for a whiel but never the thought of never ever doing it again. that's really bad. I know it sounds horrible but I would completely freak out if I tried to never to it again.It's just completely unbalance me. I can't just can't take the whole idea.

2 and half years is awesome. I don't think the thingling is necessarily bad. It may be a sort of subconcious thing that tries to give you the same feeling even though you aren't cutting. In that sense I'd say it's good. cause you could view as your body tryping to develope it's own way to cope with thsi with out cutting.

I don't know if it ever stops. I think when you've quit for awhile it moves more inot a comes and goes stage. So overall, you're good but you still ahve urges every so often. I'm not really sure as so far my record on that is a month.

Feel free to talk to us. I know it helps me alot to have people to talk too. and I know about the friends issue. Mine don't know either and that creates alot of tension that I can never explain to them.

hugs, It sounds like your mom is a big help for you. could you guys set up a special message or tradition? like haveing a specific time to call each other? or her sending you some special card each week? Maybe just a text each morning saying that she loves you? or a combo of these but just some things so you don't feel quite so alone. Just some ideas. hope they help

Yeah it took me 3 years to stop doing it everyday. I used to think i'd never do it again and the older i get the harder it is for me to have people see the scars. I've cut about 4 times this year. My arms are heavily tattooed and i stupidly cut through them. It sux cos people always want to look at the tattoos, and then i notice them looking at the scars and then they look at me and say nothing. Sometimes i wish they would say what did you do, at least then i could explain it and they wouldn't think i'm a nutter. Probably wouldn't change their mind anyways.

Dont think i am brilliant, the 2 and a half years is only the time that my arms have been free =[ unfortunatley the thought of never ever doing it again is so scary.... i dont think i could ever promise it to anyone.... i do how ever have it under control, well as much as is possible.... i have only cut on 3 seperate weeks this year, when i do do it, its something i need to do... and it has always been when i have been very stressed and needed to finally get some good sleep to keep going with my everyday life... even though the amount i have done in those times have been quite a lot, its a lot better than i used to be, as in i can pull myself back from it, i never used to be able to do that.... and i am oh so carefu as i know just how suductive it is to get stuck, i have gone from 3 times a day to going about 4 months between sessions....Thanks for your replies btw, its nice to finally be able to talk about it, even though a couple of my friends know i used to do it, none of them know i still do, and it would upset them unessesarily.....even though i know that coping in this way is a pretty messed up way to cope, i would rather be doing this, than taking drugs or something else...i dont even hate my scars most of the time... i always hated that my ex bf would stroke my arm, but lift his hand up over my scars as if they were gonna hurt him....more than half of my scars only i know are there, they have faded enough to be unnoticable unless my arm is in the right possition and the light catches my skin right.... my mum has agreed to one phone call a week, i dont mind too much, i just think having her there helps me keep it in control as i know just how upset she would be if she saw anything... her not being around might just make the temptation a little bit morereachable, but we wil see, i can't be sure exactly how i am going to feel once i have left, and you never know things might be good, this year has taken a huge turn for the better so fingers crossed =] Thanks for the replies, im here for either of you if you need me, ive been around all this for a long time now, so im more than happy to talk =] xx

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