So even as I write this I feel silly cause I really shouldn't care what others think....but well, I do.

We are in the fos/adopt process and are so excited as this will be our first child.

So as we are approaching Mother's Day I am a little unsure (OK maybe insecure) about it.. I have a wonderful hubby that wants to spoil me a bit that day and it feels a little weird to me cause it isn't like I have the baby bump or any little one in tow so I feel a little like a poser I guess..

Also, they honor the mom(and-to-be)s at church and he is all like you can go up there this year...and that seems even more weird...

Anyone else feel like this? What did you guys do, or plan to do? Am I just being silly?

I can see why you may feel awkward BUT adopting is a way of preparing for parenthood - it's like pregnancy in it's own way I suppose. I think it's up to you - I wouldn't be ashamed what-so-ever about walking up there or whatever it is. Just because you have no bump doesn't mean you don't have the bump mindset, but that's just my opinion. I haven't adopted a child, but we have thought about it and I actually was going to adopt on my own. My husband is adopted though - not that that's really relevant, and now I'm rambling....either way mama - you rock for adopting!

I probably wouldn't go up or celebrate in a big way because it would feel a little odd to me, but I wouldn't think badly of somebody else if they did it.

Also? Some other people celebrating might not look pregnant or have a baby already either. It's usually a couple of months before you're noticeably pregnant and in my case, I didn't have a proper bump until I was six months along at least. My doctor was amazed... I had a regular chorus of ''I just don't know where he's hiding!''.

I wouldn't go as adoption is a process, and if you don't have a child and just trying its not the same thing to many and most people just don't understand. Personally, I found mother's day really hard but it was also because the process was so long and hard for us. I hope your child finds you soon!

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Do what you want. I think mother's day is a toughie. I was getting close to my daughter being born our first mother's day after starting the process, but I didn't do anything except send our e-mom some flowers. My sister did right me a fab card about everything she's learned as a mom and I cried, loved it, and kept it.

I'm not sure I would do a public thing, but just b/c the questions can get old. But you might want to suck up the attention from the hubby. You are probably doing a lot of new mom research (what diapers, bottles, sleeping situation, etc., etc.). That's work and it's nice when it's recognized. Plus when you get your baby you will miss the days of sleeping in, getting massages, watching movies, and not thinking about what's for breakfast. So I say enjoy that part of the day!

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Wife to my best friend and Mama to S 07/05/09 and S 08/16/12