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My husband says he

My little one is an angel when he's with me, but apparently a terror for my husband when I'm at work.
Does anyone have a reason as to why this could be? Or how to remedy it?
Thanks!
He is a great father normally. And when we are together my son loves him. He is happy with daddy around. I just don't know how to help them to get along
I've tried explaining what I do and tried helping but he takes that as a stab towards him and it's not. My son is just a mommas boy. And my husband is a stressed person anyways. He thinks when he's home he needs to do everything to help me out and he doesn't. I'd rather he laze with our son.
And for those saying he needs to grow up, at least my husband is here for me. He is my partner in this and I am blessed that he is here. Please take your disrespectful comments elsewhere.

Dad isn't feeling confident in his ability to care for baby by himself. What you may not even notice much (crying, cranky, etc) may be very stressful for dad. Watch them interact and see where he is feeling the most anxious.

Or set up a camera while you leave to see the difference. He isn't comfortable with the baby is probably the main reason. Do not ignore this though...if he doesn't feel comfortable you both either need to try and remedy it(more time alone with baby but with you at arms reach, discussing particular problems he is having etc, or you need to make other arrangements.

My husband was very good with our son, but there were times where he would call me at work exausted because our son was just crying all day. He got through it though, just needed to vent.

I would strongly encourage you to get very specific in finding out what your husband is having a hard time dealing with, and then helping him figure out how to handle things better, or make other arrangements. I don't know your husband, so I'm not saying he's a bad guy at all but child abuse often starts because of an inability on the part of an adult to cope with difficult behaviors. Not because the adult is an evil person, but he gets overwhelmed and reaches the end of his rope. Even getting a visiting nurse to come in and teach your husband ways to interact with the baby might be helpful. Please don't just ignore the problem because it may not go away, and the results could be very bad.

I am home with our grandbaby all day, alone. Things that are the norm for me would probably drive my husband to believe something is wrong or she isn't happy with him.

In the evenings he sees her cranky side and wants to know whats wrong? I assure him nothing and its not him, that she like us has had a long day and is ready to feel relaxed. They rock and watch silly shows together and most nights she falls asleep in his arms. Sometimes men are not as in tune with children as the moms are.