InMegan'saboutsectiononherLivingWholewebsiteshedescribesherselfasthefollowing,"I finished college at nineteen with a degree in political science.... My desire to save the world from itself motivated me to go to law school, and my love for food and natural medicine (along with my desire to do 5,000 things as once) led me to the study of natural health. I have a law degree, am a certified Natural Health Educator, became a certified Naturopath after completing four years of training at two different institutions, am a certified yoga instructor (Yes, I went through that phase.), am Pn1 (Precision Nutrition) certified, founded Live Beyond Words Inc.., which focuses on orphan care and poverty alleviation in the Democratic Republic of Congo, and worked as a marketing manager for a social media company before I jumped into blogging full-time." ItdoesappeartobetruethatMegangraduated fromcollegefromtheUniversityofMissouriat19yearsold. According to WMU ThomasM. CooleyLawSchoolMegan graduated with a Juris Doctor on January 22, 2011. Meganadmitsshehasnottakenthebarexamas yet. PartofthereasonforfailuretodosocouldbebecauseoftherankingCooleyLawSchoolcurrentlyhasasafour-tierlawschool. In a screen shot from her Living Whole Facebook page, MeganthenclaimstohaveattendedtheNaturopathicInstituteofTherapiesandEducationforthreeyearsandthenattendedtheTrinityCollegeofNaturalHealthwheresheobtainedadegreeasanaturopathora "DoctorofNaturopathy (N.D.). ShegoesontosayshewasalsocertifiedasaNaturalHealthEducatorthroughtheNaturopathicInstituteofTherapiesandEducation. AsfarasbeingPn1 (PrecisionNutrition) certified, Iconsultedaregistereddietitian, ErinBurke RDN, LDN, toseewhatthatentails. Ms. Burkeexplainedhowshehadlookedintothiscertificationattonetime. Shecontinuedbysaying, "Idon'tknowtheexactcontentofthecert, butmyunderstandingisthatitprovidesbasicnutritioneducationandbehaviorchange/coachingtrainingtoavarietyofhealthandfitnessprofessionals." I find it important to also note the poor standing of Trinity College of Natural Health. The "college" is currently not an accredited institution in the U.S. The diplomas and/or certificates are not accepted for licensing or professional registration in the U.S.

According to Megan's Linkedin page, she is the founder and a blogger at Living Whole. She continues by saying, "I write about all things health and wellness and manage a platform with more than 40,000 social media followers and 150,000+ monthly readers." However, according to the most recent data from Worth Of Web, the website has an estimated worth of only $2,726 and has a daily income of around $6.56 per day. According to Cutestat, Living Whole has 336 daily unique visitors and 672 daily page views. Megan's Facebook page by the same name, Living Whole, has a total of 32,030 likes and 31,860 followers. However, once I compare page activity to our page, What's The Harm, I see that Living Whole has had 0% page likes over the past week, 2 posts this past week, and 188 total engagement over this week. To give an idea through comparison, our page has almost 10,000 followers. Over the past week our page has gone up 1.7% in page likes, we have had 37 posts, and 4.1K total engagement this past week. If Megan's Facebook page had organically earned three times as many likes and followers as our page has earned, then she should see at least the same amount of activity as our page sees. That isn't the case though. Her page sees almost zero activity.

Megan begins to tell her story with,"My adopted children were unlawfully withheld by DFS (the "Department of Family Services", also known as CPS), in a state that neither I, nor they, are residents of, and were placed in foster care on no grounds so they could be illegally adopted out to a family who was given the resources that I, by law ... should have been given. I have been deprived of my rights, my resources, visitation and contact with my children, have been lied to and lied about, have been the recipient of false judgements when not a shred of evidence was presented against me, and I am taking my case up with the Court of Appeals."Shesayssheremembersitlikeitwasyesterday, whensheandherthenhusband, SethWilliamHeimer, adoctorofosteopathicmedicine (D.O.) intheU. SAirForce, decidedtoadopttwobabiesfromtheDemocraticRepublicofCongo. Megansaysitseemedliketherightthingtodo, tocarefortwoorphans "whowouldhavediedotherwise." ThisclaimofsuredeathisoneMeganmakesoftenthroughthetwoblogpostsofhersIamreferencing, thoughhowtheywouldhavediedorwhatdirethreattheywouldhavefacedhadtheynotbeenadoptedisneverexplainedbyMegan. Theadoptionsofhertwochildren, asonandadaughter, aresaidtohavebeenfinalizedonDecember2, 2013, howeverMegansaystheordealtoarrangepassagetotheirnewhomeintheU.S. turnedintoa3-yearnightmarebecauseofasuspensionthatpreventedtheirexitfromtheircountry, alongwiththousandsofotherchildren. Duringthis3yeartimeperiodMeganstatesshetraveledbackandforthtovisitthechildrenandpaid "anastronomicalamounteachmonthtokeepourchildrenalive." ItwasthenthatMeganhadalsostartedanon-profitinCongothat "focusedonpovertyalleviationandorphancare.....drilledwells, fedandclothedorphans, builtschools, andprovidedmedicalsuppliesandfoodtoorphanages." Then, Meganexplainshowhermarriagefellapart.InSeptember 2015, shesays, "I remember the night my then husband came home from his six-week Air Force training. His uncharacteristically cold stare was enough to tell me that something was off. With no emotion whatsoever, he stated that he had unilaterally decided he would not allow our adopted children to come home (as they were projected to be released). No discussion allowed. All I could do was cry. I was told nothing that would make it even remotely okay to leave two kids in a third world country to die. Does such a justification even exist?"Shecontinuesontosaythatdayslatershelearnedhehadbeenhavinganaffairandhadspenttheirentireeightyearmarriagelivingalie. Sheclaimsherhusbandnolongerwantedher, thebabyshewascarrying, theadoptedchildren, theirnon-profit, orthelifetheyhadtogether. Theonlykidsitseemsherhusbandwaspreparedtolovewerethetwobiologicalgirlstheyalreadyhad. InMegan'sdefense, ifwhatsheclaimsistrue, herthenhusbandwasanass. Though, Isuspecthehadsomejustifiablereasonsforwantingout, butitwashistimingthatmadehimanass. Next Megan reveals that she moved back to their old town, a town near family and faith. She says she found a job working from home as a marketing manager for a social media company, saved up for a place to live, and continued to pay the overseas fees for her adopted children. It was then, Megan says she hired a private investigator to locate her adoptive children's birth mom to see if reunification was possible, because the orphanage where her kids had been staying was about to close down. Once reunification was deemed not possible, and she could not find alternative care, she then decided to bring them into "her home." Megansayshersoon-to-be-exhusbandwasnotexactlycooperativeinthisgoal. Sheclaims, "Hepretendedhewantedtoreconcileinordertogetinformationandthenthreatenedalawsuitagainstouradoptionagencybehindmyback..." Longstoryshort, betweencallstotheU.S. embassy, callstotheCongolesegovernment, hiringalawyerinCongousingmoneyborrowedfromherparents, whosoldtheirhousetohelpheraffordthis, andbookingticketsondifferentairlines, theywerefinallyreadytobereleased...or, soshethought. MegansaysherdaughterwasbeingheldforabribeattheairportinD. RCongo, abribesherefusedtopayasamatterofprinciple. Shethensaysshecouldn'trisklosingthemboth, sosheflewhersonouttothestates.

HeradoptivesonarrivedattheairportwhenMegan'sbiosonwasonlysixweeksold. Threeweekslaterheradoptivedaughterarrivedaswell. Asaresultshesaidhersoontobeexwaslivid. Herefusedtoacknowledgetheadoptivechildrenashisown. Meganexplainshowshehadadifficulttimecaringfor5childrenonherown. Kidsaged4,4,2,2, andsixweeksold. Shesayssheputherkidsinintensiveadoptionpreservationtherapytohelpthendealwiththeir "trauma," attachmentissuesandtolearnnecessaryskills. Meganalsoputherselfintherapytohelpherthroughherdivorceandnewlifechallenges. Meganthenliststheissuesshesobravelymartyredherselfthroughsuchaslanguagebarriers, foodhoarding, bed wetting, tantrums, biting, hitting, lying, chewedupcrayons, approachingstrangers, homeschooling, cleaningupwhitepoopduetoworms, andattachmentdisorders. Megansaysshetaughtthemhowtoeatwithutensilstaughtherdaughter "Englishandhowtoactaroundmen," learnedhowtodotheirhair, wentto "hoursandhoursoftherapymultipledaysaweek," taughtthekidshowtonavigatelights, noises, sounds, taughtthentopraytoJesus, andworkedfromhome, sotheycould "cocoon"forfourmonths. Sheeventhrowninthefollowing,"When these babies were lying on a cold floor in an orphanage starving to death, before they even became my children, I gave them MY milk and then I shipped them the best possible formula so that my son wouldn't have to drink tea in a bottle. I paid extra to a nanny so that my son would not be left on a cold floor crying, but would be comforted and cared for"Megansayshersonadjustedwithoutmissingabeat, butherdaughterwasmoreofachallenge. AtonetherapysessionaboutsixmonthsinMeganrecallsthetherapistsaidtoher, "Megan, anyotherparentwouldhavegivenupalongtimeago. Idon’tevenknowhowyou’redoingthis." Sheexplainshowshecouldn'tobtainservicesforherchildrenduetobeing "intentionallydeprivedofinsuranceandthecitizenshippaperneededtogetsocialsecurity." AfterayearandahalfMegansaysshecouldn'tgoonwithouthelporresources. ShecalledtheDFSinhercountytoseeiftheycouldhelp. Shesaysshewastoldtheycouldnothelp, andtheyreferredhertoheradoptionagency, buttheagencyhadsincecloseddown. Megansaysshehadnoservices, norespite, nohelp....exceptforsomerelativesofherex-husband. Shesaystheserelativeshavealwayswantedtoadopt, lovedherkids, lovedher, andwouldbehonoredtoprivatelyadoptherchildren, heradoptivechildren. Meganagreedwiththeexceptionitwasanopenadoption. Shesaysshehadnoreasontobelievetheirintentionswereanythingotherthantohelp. Megan assures readers that this was not a case of re-homing, where people bypass the legal system. The adoptive family completed a state approved home study, they signed a guardianship, they filed their petition to adopt, and made an official announcement of the adoption. Megan signed over her guardianship, and then she was cut off from her adoptive kids by the new family.InFebruary 2018, theadoptionbythenewfamilystillhadn'tbeenfinalized. Meganwasledtobelievethenewfamilywasalsonowlookingto "re-home" thechildren. Meganobjectedandhadalawyerdrawupaletterstatingshewantedherchildrenback. Aboutonemonthlater (ninemonthsafterthenewfamilyhadtakenoverguardianship) Megansaysshereceivedatextatabout6:00amtellinghertocomegetherkidsby6:00pmthatevening. Megandidnotpickherkidsup. Shegivesreasonsforfailuretodoasnothavinginsurance, childsupportforthem, transportationtoandfromschool, notherapyservices, nohelp, nocarseats, ahorribleattorney, noprotectionfromherex-husband, andnowaytopickthemup. Sincesheneverpickedupherkidslikeshewasaskedbytext, thenewfamilythen "abandoned" thekidsatDFSintheircountyandstate, andallegedlymadeupafalsestorywhendoingso. MegansaysthatDFSofficecalledheraboutthekidsandasMegantriedtoexplainthesituationthewomanfromDFShunguponher. Nextbeginsthecourtbattles...

ThisbringsustoMegan'ssecondpostconcerningherplightagainsttheevilforcesatDCF. ShebeginsthepostdescribinghowshewantedtobeseenassomesortoflongneededsaviortorescueallwhohavefallenvictimtosuchnefariousagenciesasDCForCPS, "I wanted to share my story. I wanted to be transparent with the thousands of people who follow me about what I was going through. I wanted to encourage others in the hardest of places and be a voice for anyone else finding themselves in the receiving end of a juvenile system that needs nothing short of an overhaul. I wanted my story to be told because quite frankly, my platform is the only place where the truth is going to be..... They don't want me to speak out, but what I write here is a watered-down version of what they're really doing. If they want me to change what I write, then they need to change the narrative because this is about more than just me or my children. It's about the families who were targeted before me and those who will undoubtedly be targeted after me if things don't change, for the families unnecessarily ripped apart, the ones that could have been put back together, the people who adopted because they just wanted to love orphans and were deprived of resources, and for those who don't know how to fight or that they even have that option. Most importantly, I'm still here fighting because these are my children and they deserve that."Shethengoesontoclueusallinonwhathappenednextinhersaga. Shesaysthefamilythatcurrentlyhadherkids, thefamilysheknewfromhavingadoptedfromtheCongoatthesametimeasMegan, nolongerwantedthekids. Meganclaimstonotknowthereasonforthis, butaddsthatthefamilywhohasbeen "postingfamilyphotos with my kidsinthemformonths, talkingabouthowadoptionislove, andactivelyworkingagainstreunification. Aftersevenmonthsofadditionaltraumatheywereabandoned." Sheaddsthatsheandhernewhusband, ChaseRedshaw, werenowwillingtotakethekidsback, butthecourtandGALwerenotgoingtostopunderminingtheintegrityof "theprocess" atthispoint. Megan says that by this point, she knew Missouri law and the states that relatives have preference over any other foster placement. In other words, if anyone in her family wanted and was able to take the kids, the law states her family is given the right of first refusal before any other non-relative foster home can be considered. Megan claimed she had to hurry up and present the court with familial options since DFS were "once again trying to shuffle them [kids] to another foster family who is under the impression that they're adopting my children."

ReadingMegan'sblogonherLivingWholesite, youlearnalotaboutherparentingapproach. Forexample, shedoesn'tbelieveinvaccines, modernmedicine, sheusesEarthleymedicinalproducts, pregnantwomenshouldnotreceiveanyvaccinations, thereisawaronhomeopathy, vitaminBcausescancer, youshouldnevergivechildrenTylenol, catchinganillnessissaferthanbeingvaccinated, measlesisnobigdeal, anddoesn'tbelieveinseeingdoctorsregularlyorhardlyever. Towardstheendofhersecondblogpostshedescribesherselfas, "I was the woman who abandoned her children - not the woman who saved the lives of these two kids and have fought to get them resources every day since. I'm not the woman who single-handedly single parented five small children - two who were twinned, two with special needs, an infant, and four who were in diapers. I'm not the woman who took three biological children and shuttled them through their father's abandonment, who sacrificed her career to be with them 24/7, who got her adopted children to a place where they could speak English, go to school, use utensils, poop in a potty, and function in public, who held them when they cried because their father left, answered their questions when their world changed, handled their outbursts when they witnessed the disfavored treatent, took bullets for them, gave them a nuclear family, and has taken then to every single appointment, been at every single school function, and single-handedly single parented then to a place where they are now thriving."That'sthethingthough. Yes, shehadadoptedthesekids, butherperceptionofwhatsheisandwhathappenedisimmenselyskewed. Herex-husbanddidnotabandonthesekidssincehetriedtotellherhedidnotwantthelifeshewasmakingforthem. Forgranteditcanbesaidthatherex-husbandwasanassholeforthis, buthestilltoldherbeforethekidsarrived, beforethiswasallfinalized. Sheknewthatshefacedahugeuphillbattleifshedidthisalone, butshestillchoseto. Shekeepsclaimingthesekidswould'vediedandthatshesavedtheirlivesbutneveroncegivesanyideaastowhatthatmeans. Arewejustlefttoassumethey'ddiebecausetheywereinAfrica? Shethenexplainshowshewasnoteligibleforanyhelp, socialservices, orrespitebecauseherhusbandwaslistedonaformasthekids' father. ForgrantedIknowstatesvaryinfamilycourtlawsbutinmanystatessocialserviceswillstillofferthingslikefoodstamps, healthinsurance, respite, andotherassistance. Ifnotsocialservicesthenfamilyorganizationswillgrantthesetofamilieswhoapply and who are in need. Iadmitthatinherstatethismaynothavebeenapossibility, thoughitdoesn'tseemasthoughshetriedallavenueseither. Instead,itreadslikelaundrylistofexcusesratherthanalistofefforts.

ThepartsthatIjustcan'tgetpastthoughisboththemomentwhereshegaveupherkids, andthenafterfightingtogetthemback, she refusestopickthemupwhenshefinallyreceivedatexttellinghershecancomeandpickthemupandtakethemback! Regardingwhy shedidn'tpickthemupthatdayshegivesanotherlonglistofexcuses, ratherthananefforttogetacarandpickthemup. Shementionsearlierwhenshefirstmovedherkidsheretothestatesthatsheandthekids "cocooned" forfourmonths. ThatmeansthesekidswhowerestrangersinastrangelandweretrappedinahousewithMegan, herthreeotherkids, oneofwhichwasanewborn, andonlyleftforthenon-stoptherapyMegansetupforthekids. Sheexplainshowtheyprayed, howshetriedtohelpthemadjusttothingshere, andevenhadtoteachherdaughterhowtobehavearoundmen. SheexplainssomemedicalissuesthekidshadbutwithMegan'sparentingapproachonhealthIcan'thelpbuttowonderhowoftenthesekidswerefedKateTietje'sunregulatedconcoctionsthattheModernAlternativeMamawouldwhipupinherdirtykitchen.Whatismosttellingthough, ishowMeganwrapsallofthisupinthissecondblogpost. Firstshesays, "I don't know where I will go from here. I have spent six years advocating for my adopted children, over seven months wrapped up in this process, missed my bar exam to attend their hearing this summer because I supposedly "don't love my children," took the forced psych evaluation that was ordered on no grounds, have been interrogated, lied to, lied about, harassed, undermined, and deprived of my rights, provided 300+ videos to their therapist to counteract whatever false narrative she's been given, filed my case in the Court of Appeals, have contacted senators, representatives, and governing authorities, filed grievances, and continue to advocate for my children."Andthenshegoesontogiveastepbystepofhowthingsneedtochange. Thisincludeseveryonestandinguptofightagainstthesystem, then inonepartshesays, "Maybe we should start requiring mandatory education for all DFS employees so that they understand the policies and repercussions for not following them, as well as mandatory education on special conditions many parents face like reactive attachment disorder, autism, PTSD, and sensory processing issues and how these various conditions vary among different ethnic groups and nationalities. Talking to these people about how reactive attachment disorder presents in a children that have come from a third world country and spend most of their lives inside a concrete room is like trying to teach a car mechanic how to make the perfect pesto. They just don't get it, or they downplay the severity of these conditions which hurts both the families and the children who desperately needs resources." For the record, I know some car mechanics that are awesome cooks, pesto and all. In all seriousness though, Irealizeorphanagesindevelopingcountriesarelikelytolargelybelessthanideal. ButtohearMeganexplaintheseplacesislikeabunchofkidslivinginfilthandfecesinadungeonlefttofightfortheirownsurvival. Thatit'sonlythroughthegoodChristianheroicwomenlikeMeganthatthesekidsnotonlygetachancetothrive, butevengetachancetosurvive. Betweenherperceptionofherroleastheadoptiveparenthere, andherconstanttestamenttothisvictimizationbynotonlyachildrenandfamilyagency, butbythecourt, theguardianadlitem, herex-husband, eventhecountrysheadoptedherkidsfrombytheirattempttobribeherformoremoney, andfromtheprosecutorsineachofthesecourtvisits, itbecomesapparentthatMeganhasavictimcomplexandaneedtobeseenbyoutsidersasasaviortothesekids. What'ssotroublingaboutthisthoughisthatshelikelycausedoraddedtomuchoftheirtraumaduring the time they haveknownMegan. Sheaddstowardstheendhowherdaughteriscallingthisnewmom "mom" alreadyasthoughthisisabadthingforallinvolvedwhenin actualityit'sjustabadthingforMeganbecauseshewantstobethe "mom" morethanshewantsthesekidstobeadjustedandtofeelathome. Ifherdaughterfeelsshefounda "mom" inthisnewhome, thenIcan'tthinkofanythingmorewonderfulforherdaughter. Thisisn'tanadoptionvsbiologicaldifferenceofopinioneither, atleastnotentirely. IfMeganhadadoptedthesekidssinceaveryearlyageandhadthemforalongtime, Iwouldfeeldifferentlyaboutthis. IfMeganbecametheirmomshortlyafterbirthandhadthesekidsforcloseto5yearsthenMeganwouldinfactbetheirmomineverysenseoftheword. Thisisn'twhathappenedthough. Shehadthesekidsforashorttime, struggledtheentiretime, andexplainstheirtimewithherasahugeanddifficultpathtoadjustment, justbeforeshegivesthemupandthenfailstogetthembackthefirstchanceshe'sgiventotakethemback. Atthispoint, everyattemptshemakesappearstodoingmoreharmthangoodforthesekids. Bothoftheseblogpostsreadasvictimizations ofMegan, slightsagainstMegan, Megan'sstruggles, Megan'sfights, Megan'sunfairtreatment, andMegan'swants. Theydonotreadasatroubledroadfortwoadoptedchildrenwhoneedandwantafamily. These posts are in fact so little about these two children that I still have no idea what fatal fate they faced in their home country should they had been forced to stay there. Instead, I hear all about how Megan saved them, it's about her heroic deeds, her martyrdom, it's not about the children or any troubles they faced.

I didn't get a chance to really add this to the blog post, though it is too good to go unmentioned. There's a website called pandce.proboards.com, and on these boards is a thread called"Dr." Megan Heimer's lies, falsifications, and inaccuracies.The thread was started in 2014 and tapered off in 2016. It is about 48 pages long and it is nothing short of hilarious. I believe there is another thread regarding Megan on this website but this thread is the most entertaining. I'm serious....make some popcorn. At one point Megan even tries to comment as a fan defending Megan (herself) but is busted by the thread moderator due to Megan using the same IP address as she used in the past as herself. I'll post screen shots below for a teaser.

Love this post! I’ve been popping onto her FB page every once in a while to see what’s going on. I would love to hear her ex husband’s side of things. My gut feeling is that Megan got completely overwhelmed with the adoption and couldn’t handle all of those kids. She gave them up, then when she got remarried she wanted them back.

She has a history of lying on the internet. There was a blog post about her on another site a few years ago, in response to her “Dear Parents” post. She made up user names and pretended to defend herself. They caught her through IP checks!!