Is there is difference how men and how woman deal with conflict. I find in the mediations that I do with couples there is a distinct difference how they approach the mediation as well as conduct them in the mediations. Women tend to be more comfortable in sharing their frustrations and fears than men seem […]

We all have people in our Circle of belonging that enriches us so that we can go out and face the world. Circle of belonging are the tapestry that enriches our lives. We can look at the tapestry that you have woven around you and determine who and what you are. Know a person by […]

I left the Army in December 1984 and then went to study at university. The university was approximately 1500 km from my hometown. I remember not having money to go home by train or bus, that left me to hitchhike home during the long holidays. Also in that time one should remember that it was […]

“When what you say do and think is consistent with your conscience ” That definition stolen from a friend has stood me in good stead for the last 18 odd years. Being a trainer and teaching people about values and discussing how their values define them I have found that although people say that honesty […]

Caring is not a word associated with men, and as such when it does happen it shows the true nature of a man. I was visiting a good friend , army friend, from about 30 years ago , (wow getting old),and i was struck down by a attack of gout. The worst have had in […]

” being aware of another persons state of being” For me that is still the best definition for a relationship. It takes courage and commitment to become aware. Being aware of what happens to the party that you are in relationship with, creates a sense of connectedness also referred to as intimacy. Oprah Once once […]

Having had a N.D.E. (Near Death Experience) in the late 90’s made me realize life in itself are made up of and consists mainly of relationships. We are as individuals always engaged in some kind of relationship. As the popular culture a while ago has demonstrated “emotional intelligence” consists to a large extent of relational […]

The search for a partner, communion, intimacy the idea to lose yourself in the other is one of the reasons we as humans go into relationships. We search for that in the other, we lambaste them for not being close enough not sharing enough. In a resent article they differentiate in your language whether you […]