I've been having an affair with a married women for about one month. I am aslo married. I've had 10 unprotected sexual(vaginal)encounters with this women and unprotected oral sex. What are the risk factors of contracting HIV? She is not an iv drug user, her husband is not an iv drug user and as far as I know he doesn't have sex with other men. My brother has been an HIV counselor for the past 13 yrs and he has not come across a male who has contracted HIV through heterosexual contact.

Response from Dr. Frascino

Hello,

You are shagging Mrs. Jones unprotected and you ask "what are the risk factors of contracting HIV???" Hmmm . . . seems to me you just answered your own question. The HIV risk is unprotected shagging!

Your brother is an HIV counselor who has not come across a male who has contracted HIV through heterosexual sex in the past 13 years???? Hmmm . . . where does he do his counseling, at the gay health center? I can assure you the vast majority of HIV-positive men worldwide have contracted the virus from unprotected heterosexual sex. The estimated per-act risk for acquiring HIV from unprotected insertive penile-vaginal sex with an HIV-positive partner is 5 per 10,000 exposures.

I would suggest three things:

1. Level with your wife. Decide if you both want that relationship to continue and if so, what the parameters for sex outside the marriage will be.

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