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Diana, when I got up this morning and looked out my window, two little corpses of mice lay on the doorstep. The thing is, my cats hunt for the sport, not for survival. They never eat what they hunt (except for flies, which must be especially tasty!) because they are full and satisfied on their cat food. So maybe mouse flavour isn’t what it’s cracked up to be. Ha ha!

Yes, we can always control our own behaviour.
I think, having been hurt, I wonder whether I had been too ‘forgiving’ of people in the past, whether that is what my problem is. Now I think that is the correct behaviour, and it is not my fault if the other person behaves badly and misuses my trust.

I have a photo of my daughter as a five year old on my desk too. I miss her and I miss my mothering role. I think that is why I keep the photo of her as a child near-by rather than her as the determined 26 year-old. Because I sort of accept that her childhood belongs in the past and so therefore so does that role.
Off topic from your post a bit xo

Amen to that, Sistah! Think Residential Schools and all those other forms of “Missionary Work”: not to mention processed food, baby formula, GMO’s… (How on earth could anyone survive without The Great White Way?):

Of course there are some good things too! But, like Lisa (great advise, not so easy to implement) and you (practice, practice, practice) both said, I’d add the olde “if, at first, you don’t succeed, then try, try again”. (‘Cause, I figure, so long as you’re still working on something, you’re bound to get better at it; )
Oh, and Happy Canada Day!!

If folks are referring to multiple wives, this would have been crucial to the survival of, and growth (I am assuming) of the human race when the population was low.

As far as male dominance goes, I guess it depends on time period and culture. I remember studying First Nations people and in eastern Canada they had clans in long houses and ancestry was traced through women and each long house had a woman in charge.

Anyway, I’m no expert on this subject – I could be totally full of it. 😉

There were certain parts of India and Indonesia where women had multiple husbands – as recently as the 1950s. Who is to say that was wrong. For me, if it works for you and you’re not hurting or forcing anyone – go for it.

Yes, and not only do we lessen our ability to understand and care about others’ beliefs when we consider ourselves superior — we also lessen our ability to reflect upon and understand our own experiences. Excellent post. 🙂

This is oh so true and relates nicely to my last post on some of the more irksome things foreigners experience here. It’s SO interesting to think about how everything we interpret is only ever going through one sort of filter, which is the “this is what I know, so it must be right” filter.
I think we have such incredible opportunity for growth when we drop what we “think” we know and open ourselves up to the possibility of new perspectives.
Empathy and compassion are key if we are to become more understanding of the whole.
I love this, great message/thoughts!
~ Andrea ❤

Well, I think it’s fair to say that we don’t have to like everything, but it’s the judging of it as being right or wrong that’s maybe more at the heart of the issue.
I have to catch myself all the time, especially here, to just mellow out and see that it may not work for me but it obviously does for others.
A definite work in progress… 🙂

Yup! Back to the spreading germs thing… Did you know that mice find their way (back to where others have been) because they track through their excrement? (Sorry Diana, I know you were already retching before):

Diana I never thought of that, there should be mouse flavoured cat food. My father taught us to appreciate other cultures and beliefs. What a boring old world it would be if we were all the same. Great post thanks. i watched my cat devour a poor little mouse the other day because I was late with his can of food.

Doesn’t it depend, at least a little, what that that belief is? If someone believes that driving without seat belts is A-Okay, or that cheating others is just what suckers deserve, or that women are inferior to men, doesn’t that deserve someone saying something?

It’s certainly true it begs the question: How does one determine between harmful beliefs and others that are just opinion or matters of taste? The trick, I’ve always felt, is to question beliefs, especially our own!

I love Seth Godin Diana! Before I read the post I noticed my own ugh reaction and then a thought … if I was a cat I would want this!
We are all constrained by our beliefs and how we see the world around us.
Believing that our culture is better than an other is called ethnocentrism. A global survey was taken some time ago and the US leads the way. Sweden was the bottom of the list.
Not sure where Canada or the UK was ….
I used to do a lot of cross cultural training back in the 90’s. I really enjoyed helping people see different perspectives and to be open minded. Every culture has its own way of responding to the world around it.
There is no good or bad, it is only our thinking that makes it so 🙂
Val

OMW! I bet you were good at facilitating this training Val! I think a good flag for me is whenever I catch myself feeling superior to my fellow (wo)man. Life is a journey of learning, isn’t it?
Diana xo

I read – or intended to read – “Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee” many years ago. As a reporter, I also covered some stories involving a dispute on the St. Regis reservation – Mohawks, and the Oneida Indians. Most of the stories related to casinos on their territories.