If you want gender equality you aren't a feminist. Feminists are for female gender superiority, and it's also used as a defense for some women to get away with stuff other people normally wouldn't put up with.

The term "feminist" carries a depressing amount of stigma with it nowadays. I know lots of people on forums like the Escapist who maintain that they are for equal rights (they don't appear to be lying) "and feminists are not".

All extremists seem to use the same rationalization for hating the other site, they pick the worst of a group - may it be ethnic, racial, political. religious, geographical or philosophical (yes, some philosophers - established ones - can be batshit crazy too) and use that as a base to smear the entire group. Most of them take up redifining the terms by which the other group identifies itself and change the definition of that term.

This is a perfect example of this happening.

History has disproven those claiming that women are inferior to men, so, not to call themselves feminists, they qucikly change around the definition of the word. And that's the core problem why extremists are extremists and what makes us call them extremists - they don't see that they were wrong and sure as hell can't admit they were wrong.

You're confusing the ideology with the loud, obnoxious minority. Feminists generally just want equality. It's the radical ones that want more power than men. Just like Republicans want to cut spending. It's the radical Teabaggers that want to stop the government entirely.