labia issues

I'm 19 and still a virgin, and im really self conscious about my labia. They hang and they arent symmetrical and they're a darker purplish color while the rest of my vaginal area is a darker pink. My boyfriend is a virgin too and has never seen me down there, and he assumes that its pink and he prefers a light pink shade since im guessing he's obviously seen some before from porn or whatever. Im just scared if i tell or show him, he'll think its disgusting or he wont want me anymore. How would i go about telling him or what should i do?

Hi LemonWedges , Labia come in all shapes, sizes and colors and it was really really dumb of your boyfriend to go and say what type he prefers without knowing what kind you have. He's in for a big surprise if he thinks all labia are light pink and tiny.

Imagine if you were to go on about how you only like one kind of penis, and make fun of the rest (they come in all shapes/sizes/colours too, e.g. circumcised/not, long/short, fat/skinny, curved/straight), and it turns out he's got the opposite of the kind you said you like? He'd feel TERRIBLE!

People can be such bozo's sometimes

You should start teasing him now that yours are big and dark and he'd better like it, if he ever hopes to have access

If he still says he prefers whatever, he's too immature and not worth your time.

Honestly, and I know being older this is easy to say, but it really isn't anything you can control or you should worry about. God made you like that and you are "one of a kind" and any man you feel is worthy of your body should feel honored! The other issue is that if he is about your age, I seriously doubt he's super experienced sexually and just the fact that he's allowed to have access of that nature to you, he's probably floating on cloud nine and could care less. Please relax and enjoy your sexuality, carefully of course.

I'm 18..not a virgin.... my labia hangs too... guys don't care... I've been with one guy who's commented on it and he's nieve and immature. Sometimes when i have sex it swells up like twice the size...I have no idea why but it makes me feel horrible about myself. I never wear underwear and it gets more air flow and looks cuter. My mom and sister told me my vagina is like that because I'm 100 pounds and 5'4"

I'm 18..not a virgin.... my labia hangs too... guys don't care... I've been with one guy who's commented on it and he's nieve and immature. Sometimes when i have sex it swells up like twice the size...I have no idea why but it makes me feel horrible about myself. I never wear underwear and it gets more air flow and looks cuter. My mom and sister told me my vagina is like that because I'm 100 pounds and 5'4"

That's not true!! No more than any guy's penis being small because he's small. I think some of the bigger penises out there are on skinny guys, not that I've seen that many mind you. But that kind of thinking is just crazy. Labia's are as individual as noses, faces and snowflakes. Please don't let it bother you, like I've said before - Any man worthy of you should be more than happy to be with you, our individualities be damn!

A lot of girls worry about this. It's a non-issue. Some guys actually prefer having more to play with. If you meet someone who has a problem with it though, it's because they're immature, inexperienced or uneducated. If they insist on it being an issue, after you tell them it's completely normal, then they're not worth keeping. Some people are like that, unfortunately. Good news is that most people are perfectly happy regardless of what you show up with

The swelling to larger size is also normal. It happens during arousal because of increased blood flow - and can be accelerated by the constant rubbing.

By the way, genital size and body size are only connected proportionally. Thus a very large person may have larger genitals than a very small person, but each person would, on average, have the same size if they were both scaled to the same height.
Girls of all sizes have both small and big labia. It has nothing to do with height or weight.