insecure about the thought of wife having sex with a man with a larger penis

my wife & i have talked about swinging she is very timmed & standoffish about the subject. since we were 15 years old we only been with one another i however am concerned that if she ends up screwing someone with a larger member she wont be satisfied with mine anymore ? my penis is only 5.5 inches long & roughly 5 inches round is this big enough for other women or should we shy away? & should she be concerned of a much bigger penis

Mr here

It is true that Mrs naughty routinely takes cocks bigger than mine and I still seem to get her off plenty good.

I am also an averagely hung dude and I have never really worried about not being able to please her.

Does a bigger cock touch her in places I can't? Sure.
But for me that is the whole point.

I wouldn't worry about it to much.

Let me ask you this;

Do you two play with toys? Do you use toys on her that are bigger than you? After pleasuring her with said toys, do you still get her off?

When you get into swinging you have to be prepared for times when someone she is with does something a little better than you. It happens, and for me, that is the best part facelick . Not everyone can be the best at everything.

Think about it,

What would be the point for her if the sex wasn't at least as good as she gets with you?
"Hey honey, lets go try and meet someone to have sex with that really isn't all that good at it."

Doesn't make much sense does it?

Personaly, when I see Mrs naughty getting her world rocked, I am in awe of what a beautiful site it is! Simply amazing! facelick

As far as average pleasing other women,

We have swung with couples in the past and my average member seemed to do just fine, even with women who were Very expereinced in the lifestyle.

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Mr&Mrs-naughty:
Some of the topics (such as this one) you've posted to provide the insight to work through my problems as they arise. Yes, I'm the man and I'm the one hesitant. The thought of allowing another man to play in my playground is an act that requires small steps forward. Keep the replies coming.

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I want to watch my wife play with a couple of cocks at the same time while I watch....and WATCHING is my big turn-on. I know she's experienced longer fatter dicks then mine before we met and really likes the toys we have that are bigger them me. facelick In the end? She loves me, not my dick; well, you get my drift. We both know that the day may come that we can't have sex, but just each other. If she leaves you for a bigger dick....well, you can't have what you never had.

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Different is not necessarily better. Just different. And similar to what Mr. Naughty said, if there is no difference (for you AND her), why do it. The happy swinging couples know how to seperate pleasure and fun from love.

And for us, talking about what the other partner(s) did for us at a play session is almost as much of a turn-on as the playing itself. The pleasure keeps on cumming (pun intended).

Lastly, if you agree before that you will try it and stop swinging if either of you is uncomfortable with no bad feelings, then you have a good chance of a good outcome even if it goes badly. And just think, you will have something to look back on and laugh.

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You know what my wife says in regards to this..... a dick is a dick...think about it, bigger,smaller, fatter,skinnier its still just a dick. That being said what if you found a women say with a tighter or smaller .... um...area(being PC)? Would she then have to be insecure? No. Sex is just sex, its mainly for procreation and pleasure....that's all. Now love making on the other hand, thats what you and your SO do when its not just about the sex.

i hope that was a typo i read where you wrote 5.5" long and 5 round. OW I haven't met or want to meet any women in or out of the lifestyle that could handle 5" around.
Not sayin it would be bad or anything, just brings to mind a trip to the lumber store is all.

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i have heard alot of people saying they are worried about the same thing.. however, lets be a little logical. Its not like a bigger penis is going to make someone into the black hole. Muscles in the vagina are made to expand and contract ( hence child birth).. so unless someone routienly straddles say a baseball bat, its all good.

secondly, its not about something being better... its about it being different. My husband is about 10 1/2 long.. I have never been inclined to measure the girth but it took some getting used to. Now, one of our fav couples isnt any where near that.. but its really good play. I have never been left hanging nor have I decided that I like smaller better.. I have only been with one with larger.. and still the same.. its just a different "flavor" I have my favorite and then i have my variety of "flavors"

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I am on the small side as far as length and not sure on the girth. Now when we play with a couple for me I like to watch S enjoy receiving pleasure and to also watch her give pleasure meaning I know what she does as far as her movements I know what that feels like. I like watching the guys she is with at the time be surprised by what she does with her muscles and her movements. Here is an example that may help you. She had 3 guys one night while we were playing that were all bigger than me. One guy did something for her only because he took the time to do so she had a few orgasms with him. The other two guys she got them off in less than 3 minutes each and she didn't orgasm and they were much bigger than me in length and one was bigger in length and girth. Now when we got together afterwards and was talking about the whole experience I got her off several times as well. Like it was said it is just play. When the two of you are together it is making love with the others it is just sex and a variety that is all. Hope that helps. D

Do as thou will Harm None!!! Don't sweat the petty stuff, just pet the sweaty stuff.

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Hmmm. I noticed not many of the women posted and said "Size don't matter" LOL.
I'm in the same boat as you in the size department. And we are swinging virgins. Although more interested in wife sharing at this point.
That is what I want is to see her with someone bigger and see her enjoy and or react to it. We have bigger toys and she has a hard time taking them but once she works them in she seems to enjoy it ok. She will ALWAYS pick up the smaller toy if she goes to the drawer. She says keep them and just LICK me!!!!!!!! As long as I have a tongue and my hands I'm confident I can please most women.
Its not all about intercourse, Is it???

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Originally Posted by CandTinLorainCo

i hope that was a typo i read where you wrote 5.5" long and 5 round. OW I haven't met or want to meet any women in or out of the lifestyle that could handle 5" around.
Not sayin it would be bad or anything, just brings to mind a trip to the lumber store is all.

actually, 5" around (around being circumference, not diameter) is about average. So is 5.5" on the length. Dude you are average. Some guys will be bigger some smaller. If you (and her for that matter) can't handle that I would say you probably should not consider swinging.

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