Why Don't Women Make The First Move?

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He who reveals emotions puts himself on the line.

The combat zone of dating usually looks like this: if you show interest in someone by asking them out or kissing them, you are revealing other feelings that may exist. These are brought to the forefront, and are the equivalent of the man going out for combat without ammunition. He is thrown into the line of fire and becomes more vulnerable once he makes a move. Men are more inclined to do so since women have the tendency to become more emotionally attached and would not risk going out on a limb.

This is where I have to give props to the ladies. They know that he who reveals his feelings too early in a relationship or shows interest becomes vulnerable, while he who is on the receiving end can make or break the initiator's efforts. The receiver of affection gets the upper hand by default; now this is a very important thing to remember in the game of love and war.

Women, whether it be on purpose or not, are expected to be on the receiving end rather than the initiators, and thus claim their stake as the ones with the upper hand.

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Somewhere in the days of old-fashioned values — tucked away neatly in movies such as Casablanca and Gone With the Wind — men were expected to approach the women and make the first move. These values have remained ingrained in our minds — at least in women's — as they wait around for the men to be the aggressors.

While women don't necessarily need men to throw pebbles at their window and climb up the tree to get to them, women do wish for some romance; at least the feeling that they are being pursued.

Of course, today's media and pop culture project the image of the independent, strong woman, who doesn't even need a man (Oprah, Madonna, you know who you are). Maybe that's why women want to keep that part of classic times and chivalry alive. They want to feel pursued, they want to be admired, and they want to be showered with rose petals okay, that's pushing it.

So men, I hope you now understand why you have to brush up on your pickup methods. She may be putting you to the test, so know that in order to succeed in picking her up you must act natural, be friendly, and not seem too goal-oriented. Approaching her will make you look comfortable to begin with, so you don't need to add to that confidence. And if she approaches you , all the better.