I'm so glad that OKC finally got hip! I used to hate having to
explain being both married (see my husband here mwcinindy ) and available. We're
not swingers, and we're not poly ... somewhere in the middle. The
term we use (and the basis for my username) is "friends with
benefits." This means I'm not looking for "nice shoes, wanna fuck?"
or "let's be madly in love and move in together!" Every now and
then, we schedule "play dates" either one-on-one with someone else,
or in a group setting.

Our rules are pretty basic - you be honest with us and we'll be
honest with you; and my husband reserves the right to meet any new
people first and has veto power (no questions asked!). If you're
not OK with that, just move on. Also, if you're married/otherwise
partnered (and they're not on here as well), I do insist on
confirming with them that everything's kosher; I don't condone
cheating.

Life is pretty busy these days, especially with the addition of
baby #3 last May. When we do have free time, we like to hang out
with friends and family in low-key get-togethers. Sitting around a
fire with an adult beverage in hand, BSing and laughing our heads
off is always good. When the weather doesn't cooperate, we like
board games, movies, and trivia. Camping and associated activities
(such as drinking around a fire and canoeing) are thoroughly
enjoyed when we can get a sitter for the weekend, which is very
rare.

Cooking homemade meals, making people laugh, remembering obscure
facts/stories/trivia, dancing poorly, and drawing blood from the
medial saphenous vein of a cat. I can also recognize most of the
AKC dog breeds at a glance (except for some of the super-new ones
... haven't studied the breed book in a while). Oh - and wasting
boatloads of time lurking on Reddit. Damn, it's addictive.

I'll read just about anything that catches my eye, but I'm not
really into sci-fi / fantasy. Recently, I decided to try out The
Hunger Games trilogy and was pleasantly surprised. I devoured
everything by RA Salvatore in high school; maybe I should give it
another chance. I have read all of The Wheel of Time (except for
the last one), and while I'm sad that Robert Jordan passed away,
this new guy is awesome. It's about time for me to re-read the
whole series to get back up to speed for the last one. Other
authors I enjoy include Judith Tarr, Patricia Cornwell, Tom Clancy,
Jane Smiley, Faye Kellerman, Phillipa Gregory, Stephen King, Ann
Rice, JK Rowling, Harry Turtledove, Barbara Kingsolver, Alice
Sebold. Unfortunately, I don't have much time to sit and read
uninterrupted these days, so I'm mostly content with magazine
subscriptions, and the occasional weekend reading binge when I go
through an entire book in two days.

I have ADHD, so watching movies can be a chore, but I like
outrageously funny stuff that doesn't require deep thoughts to
enjoy. My husband and I met at a Rocky Horror Picture Show cast
party, and used to be Brad and Janet together, while we were
engaged in real life. Is that cute or what?? Movies I like: Wedding
Crashers, The Hangover, Anchorman, Something About Mary, any Monty
Python movie, Harry Potter, and we LOVED "This is 40".

We ditched cable a while ago and watch everything on Netflix now.
I'm a fan of funny and light-hearted shows - Scrubs, How I Met Your
Mother, Doctor Who, 30 Rock, and Mythubusters are in heavy rotation
at our house. I am just not interested in drama, horror,
vampire/werewolf stuff. We used to watch CSI, Without a Trace, Cold
Case and all that, but it's just too damned depressing.

Dave Matthews Band is an old favorite of mine. We try to go every
summer, but things like having babies and going to the Police
reunion tour get in the way some times. Some artists I like off the
top of my head: Sting, The Police, Jack Johnson, John Mayer, Jason
Mraz, Fiona Apple, Norah Jones, Grateful Dead, Beatles, Harry
Connick Jr., James Taylor, Metallica (old stuff, please), Paul
Simon, Peter Gabriel, Pink Floyd, Santana, The Doors, Eric Clapton,
Michael Buble, Adele, Katy Perry, No Doubt, Jimi Hendrix, Lily
Allen, and that one Eminem song from the movie "8 Mile". I gotta
jam to that one! I was recently introduced to Mumford and Sons by a
coworker, and now I'm hooked. It's one of my favorite Pandora
stations.

Food-wise, I'm pretty open to most cuisines. However, I do NOT like
fish (yes this includes sushi!), mushrooms, raw onions, or super
spicy food. Mexican, Thai, Italian, Greek, Japanese (yes there is
Japanese food that's cooked), Cajun/Creole a la Yats, good ol'
Midwestern comfort food ... so long as it's got good flavor and
none of the above ingredients, I'm game. I'm interested in trying
new cuisines, so if you know of a great ethnic place, let me know
and I might be interested.

My family (my husband is my rock, as cheesy as it sounds)
My glasses, (without them I am blind as a bat)
Our fantastic 46" LCD Hi-def smart TV
Fresh cold water to drink (nothing is more refreshing)
My memory foam mattress pillow (I take it with me if I have to stay
overnight somewhere)
And laughter (not just a giggle or a chuckle, but the overwhelming
belly laugh with tears running down your face that leaves you
breathless and then comes back again until you're worn out)

How weird it is that while our cells constantly die and regenerate,
the new ones pick up where the old ones left off, seamlessly. Like,
how many times have the cells in my muscles been replaced since I
was born? And yet, I can still walk and talk and eat and swim. I
guess it's a good thing that neurons stick around to send those
same messages. Deep, eh?

You realize that I don't have much time meet right now and may not
for a while but are still interested in talking on the rare
occasions I have enough free time to compose a coherent message. If
you can't be bothered to use correct spelling, punctuation, and
grammar I won't be bothered to send you a reply. Yes, I know you're
on your phone, but it's not that hard.

I don't generally reply to anyone who's less than a 70% match
(previous history) or has spelling / grammar errors on their
profile, and will not reply to "hey i think ur hot r u dtf?" Does
that shit EVER work?! And you need to have some sort of profile
filled out ... give me something to go off of.

And please be local. I don't have time to drive an hour to see /
meet people.