i really want to celarate this new baby

So i have a son who is 3 1/2 and had a huge baby show. This time we are have a little girl and my mom refusing a throw another shower. So i just sent her an email with an idea for a sprinkle shower. Any thoughts.

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Sprinkle shower? I don't know what that is, but I think every new baby needs it own celebration- not just the first! Most of my friends have small cook-outs or just get-togethers to celebrate their babies after the first. I'd like to do a little party for this LO after the holidays are over, just to celebrate her arrival, without calling it a "shower" really, so no one feels obligated to buy more gifts...

For my friends second little girl we through her a "pamper mommy party". The invites were "from" her older daughter and those of us that threw it were listed as her helpers(so people RSVP'd to us etc.). Instead of "normal" gifts people brought a package of pampers and/or chipped in money towards a massage for my dear friend. So in one way or another they "pampered" her.

My mom is thinking about throwing me one because this ones a girl and I have a boy. I think a shower is fine when its the opposite gender. I've heard of people doing sprinkles, or a "meet the baby" party after the baby is born. But all babies deserve to be celebrated. So maybe she'll agree to do something thats not classified necessarily as a shower where people feel required to bring gifts.

Ya know... The closer I get to march the more I realize that none of my dh's fam really cares about my dd and def not this one. And none of my family live close... And sadly, they care more about her and see her more.
I feel like this baby girl deserves to be shown love, but I know better than to think his fam would do anything. (My sick mom and my god-sister planned my first shower. Not many people came but it was nice.)
This time I wish I knew how the birth process was goin to happen, so I can plan for a 3rd birthday party for dd & welcome baby sister party for my family so they can start planning now to come here. (Dd was 5 weeks early, but so far there is no reason to think this one would be early... But as far as I know and can tell same went for dd, so who knows). I'm having a bad emotion day today n can't stop thinking about how my dd has all kinds of family (dh's) close but they are all worried about their extracurricular activities than they are seeing dd, and my fam who love seeing her, are so far away but cherish every moment they are in and see her as much as possible... I can't help but think this baby girl is going to be even more left out. And it breaks my heart.

With my rant over, I say do whatever makes you happy and will be the most enjoyable for everyone. And celebrate the princess!!!!

Dunno what a 'sprinkle shower' is either, but really, it's uncouth to ask a relative--especially your mom who has already thrown you a shower before--to throw you a shower. Etiquette says--and yes, this is a more traditional, older way of thinking--that friends should throw you a shower. If you really want to celebrate your baby, have your own party, invite guests, and specify that this is in no way an obligation in terms of bringing gifts, but simply a gathering to rejoice in the joy of your newest family member. Cuz that's what it's really about, right?

no one said anything about planning a party for this lo and with my dd no one was going to throw a party for her either til my friend asked about a shower and said well hell i'll throw you one if your fam doesn't. as soon as i mention this to gil she takes over it, due to guilt i suppose. this time i knew nothing would happen for this lo bc my fam is old fashioned and the other part of the fam doesn't care anything to do with it if it doesn't benefit them. so i threw my own gender reveal party. just close family. i bought pizza and cookie cake. didn't call it a shower or anything just a gender reveal. i knew i wouldn't get anything anyways and i didn't. my step sister just had her first and fam didn't even though her a shower. no point in trying to force someone into caring. if they don't then they just don't. don't let it get to you by trying to make them care and try getting them to plan a party for your lo that they could care less about. some people only care about themselves. i think you'd be better off throwing your own party. don't call it a shower and don't expect anything (gifts). that way you will not be hurt. just have fun and celebrate your baby your own way. hell you don't have to even invite anyone you don't want to. they don't have a say since they aren't the ones throwing the party. good luck!

I don't see anything wrong with having another shower. Especially since it is a different gender. I know it is not proper by old standards, but most ppl need diapers, wipes, clothes, etc... You don't have to try to get big things like with the first shower. If family won't do it see if a friend, co-worker, or church will do something.

NuclearAnemone, It is traditional for the mother, MIL or sister to throw the baby shower. I don't think you should ask for one from ANYONE, because that kind of ruins the point, but there is nothing wrong with a family member throwing the shower.