Cant get DH to like anything, HELP!?!

Im sure some of you have had difficulty getting your DH to help out in the baby naming process but im losing my mind. Everytime I ask him about a name he makes a wise crack about it or something and refuses to take it seriously. He knows its important for me and I cannot figure out why he is determined to make it impossible for me. The best reaction I can get is thats OK. But I can only get that out of him after I have to pitch a fit about him not giving me input. When I tell him if he wont help then ill chose it all by myself he says "Absolutely Not but im not even going to discuss names until the end of the pregnancy". UGH I need some advice on how to handle him. I really dont want to wait to the very end because im afraid I will be under pressure and not be able to make up my mind. I would love some input.

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That's tough and really annoying! If I were you I would pretend you were naming the baby yourself and come up with your very favorite top three for each gender. Make sure you LOVE all of them. When he finally decides to talk about it with you, tell him your 3 favorites and tell him to help you pick one of them. I realized that my DH gets really annoyed talking about name after name after name, so I stopped bugging him about things like "well, maybe I like this one..." etc. and saved the name talk for "this is my absolute favorite, can we please use it?"

My hubby was a bit like this. He wouldnt talk about names before we were pregnant, then once we were pregnant he would still put it off. I ended up choosing a name I liked and said this is what I want and I kept referring to those names. Fortunately for me, he's not too phased so I pretty much got what I wanted but I definately think Betsy's suggestion is the way to go. Choose your favourites then ask him to choose from them.

I did that. My husband was kind of like yours. I choose my favorite two and told him to choose. It was kind of funny because when he did choose he wouldn't tell me because he said I would change my mind. Right after our son was born he said "mommy this is Zachary, Zachary meet your mommy". I still remember that very special moment!

thank you for the input ladies! I think Betsy is right I think I will go ahead and pick my favorites and make him chose his favorite out of those. Its nice to know there are other people out there with the same problem. My husband told me today its just overkill to talk about the same topic for 9 months, so I guess naming is just a girl thing!

zjpmom- Loved your story about the birth of your son, thats really a beautiful memory! Thank you for sharing it, I like your idea of doing that!

If your husband goes along with picking from your short list, fabulous. My husband rejected all my top girl names, so I had to go to plan B. After I got over mourning my favorites, I made a super long list of names, about 50, that I felt could live with. I demanded a straight "yes" or "no" on each name. He approved 5 names, including some pleasant surprises. I reserved the right to make the final selection, but as it turned out, we had a boy, so I've tucked away my official list of husband approved names for future use. Anyway, just my two cents.

With our first baby, my husband was coming up with some pretty unique names. We agreed on a girl’s name, but could not decide on a boy’s name. When we found out the gender (a boy) a just referred to the baby as my favorite boy’s name. My husband wasn’t crazy about the name, but took pity on me, due to my horrendous morning sickness. Calling the baby by the name you favor will do one of two things 1.) Inspire your husband to come up with name suggestions 2.) Get him to agree to your favorite name. With this baby my husband came up with two names boy/girl that I really like. So that was easy! I chose the middle names. Can’t wait to find out what we’re having.