First off, I’m not the one suffering through this, it’s my younger sister. Her best friend, Sally, is out-of-town on a camping trip and Sally’s boyfriend, Jesse, decided this would be the perfect time to tell my sister that he has feelings for her. She flat out told him “I DO NOT feel that way about!” It’s gotten pretty outta hand and he won’t leave her alone. He also keeps going back and forth, saying crazy things like “Oh, you’re blowing this outta proportion. I don’t want anything romantic. I just wanted to sweep you off your feet.” Obvi, he is crazy and confused. My sister hasn’t told her BFF what’s going on yet, because there’s no way to get a hold of her right now. She plans to talk to her tho.

Best case scenario- she rats on the boyfriend and her friend will say “omg thank you, you’re a great friend for telling me!” Then DUMPS the loser.

Worse case scenario: her friend believes the guys lies when he says "that never happened SHE CAME ON TO ME! And their friendship is ruined.

Very rarely do these cases work out smoothly.

Like I said, if it were me, (and yes, I’ve been through this before) I wouldn’t say anything and just keep the friendship. Meanwhile she can threaten her boyfriend and use it as blackmail. Shell ALWAYS have the upper hand with a secret like that.
On the flip side if she doesn’t tell now, then she can NEVER TELL.
BECAUSE WHEN THEY BREAK UP, THE friend will say “why didn’t u tell me then? You mean u let me date a jerk?”

If she tells now and he lies, and she loses her friendship…it may be just temporary, but so much drama.

I told her a lot of the same things, like “Sally may choose him over you.”

I forgot to mention, most of his advances are in writing! He’s sent a lot thru Facebook and text message, so my sister at least has proof.

He’s already tried to turn it around and tell her she took things the wrong way, but that is hard to do when he’s like “When you look into my eyes, I feel connected like I never have before” and cheesy stuff like that.

It really could go either way right now, but I’m hoping her bf won’t blame her.

I feel sorry for the guy. You can’t choose who you fall in love with, right? But I guess he should have at least told his own gf before going for your sister. I think she should tell her friend before it gets worse…