Hey girl, you are so right on this one! But you know what? The truth shall set you free.

Thanks for stopping by. I know I’ve been quite tardy with visiting your space….meh sorry, meh will try to be a bit more consistant/regular.

As for the ‘pseudo ass’, that is not the right name! But I do agree with you, I am the FOOL here, because I ignored all of the warning bells, but such is life. I’ve truly learnt my lesson and trust me, there will not be another one. It will be NO, NADDA, NAY, NEVER NIL, GET THE HELL AWAY!!!!

.Although sometimes difficult, truth is freeing and easy to recall, lies sting and very difficult to remember. No one dies from truth, and in hindsight it has a way of washing pain.. I have enjoyed browsing your posts and wrapping myself in your words. Thank you for sharing Barb

A lie is like medicine to help ease the pain of the truth. But A lie is only going to last for so long and wear off, as the truth is only going to be more painful then it would have been before the lie. What we fail to realize is that the truth is not a temporary medecine like a lie, but a complete healing process. Hope it made sense.

After reading all the comments I had to re read the post! Man! Are the possible results of the truth ever really that devasting……………………or is it just plain easier to tell a lie and rationalize the reason why we told it in the first place?

Obviously we dont wanna advocate telling lies...but how truthful you are depends on the situation sometimes. I think there are certain situations where you should just keep quiet to avoid the pressure of telling a lie or being truthful and ultimately hurtful.

It's a judgement call. One can only hope one makes the correct decision and says the right thing.. I know I have made mistakes along these lines in my life.Thank you for the award. I will place it on my blog when I change a few things around.

Bitter truths and the trail damage they leave behind... I'm not going to sit on a high horse and say i've never lied in an attempt to protect the people i love. It's easier not to say anything or deliberately omit the truth but sometimes, you get asked directly and have to either say the truth and cause a world of hurt or lie and die silently

Quite a choice isn't it? Life is simple in so many ways and complex in on so many levels. A lot depends on where you are, how you feel about said situation and if you are willing to face the truth yourself and the impact on those surrounding you because you will have to deal with it all once the truth is let out of the bag.

hmmmmm, the telling and revealing of truth is subjective, where one determines it time another determines its not. One big hinderance of telling the truth is often what we preceive the person's reaction would be, we creating on our imagining how much they would be hurt and further that be predicting how the impact would inform the person receiving the truth. It is this that sways if the whole truth is told, half-truths, or no truth all together. Weighing through human emotion can be a mindfield, you just never know what you gonna get till you get it.

I know what you mean. I have started to ask folks if they want me to be honest and look at their non verbals when they are responding to help me decide if I should keep my mouth shut. Sometimes I decide it is better to not say a word because I'm not about compromising my integrity to make somebody 'feel good'.

Situations sometimes puts us in some tight corners that we feel we have to lie to get out of...hmmm, the fact that we can rationalise it in our minds and give excuses doesnot make lying right....but like its said Honesty is a virtue, but if my lying is going to save "a life" ..then sincerely I dont know if I wont lie.

I agree with you Life is simple in so many ways and complex in on so many levels.

Not a simple black and white solution is it, at least not where the human heart and emotions are concerned. Standing away from a situation one can easily say, i would do this or i would do that, taking a black and white view of things but once the issues comes into ones orbit impacting ones life well then,it is when the many shades of grey and under laying colors springs forth complicating everything. Complex, yeah, I'd say

i have a hard time with this one. my daughter died of alcoholism because no one would believe me - i was chicken little going around telling my family "she's drinking, she's drinking, she's drinking" and nobody ever saw her drink.

then she dies of alcoholism. what??? she's only 34 years old.

my family was lying to themselves but i was trying to tell them the truth but i thought i had more time...

now if i could go back in time i would gather up all the boxes of wine and dump them in my family's living room and say "explain this" to mamma chicken little.

the consequences could be great if secrets are held. i answer all questions asked. no more, or no less, but i answer them truthfully.

wow that is powerful and must have been very difficult for you. I am sorry you had to experience/live through that trauma. Unfortunately the ones we want to support and believe us are the last ones to be there. ....

and there in lies the dilemma, what to do? If we do this or that, is it right? we are first with these questions so often in life yet we don't seem to get any better at answering them if they are tied to us emotionally and pyschologically.

It certainly feels that way doesnt it? Too soothe, smooth over, to make this right if only temporarily unless one is lucky and the lie is never discovered only when we are no longer of this world, that way we don't have to deal, see, feel the impact. It so has the taste of cowardness-though at times in our imperfect human fraility we choose cowardness as a solution against the harsh reality of truth.

Much of this experience when I was growing up. Brought up to always be honest. Even when I always am, there still times, lies would have saved me from being punished. I remember, I was always confused. When I tell the truth, I get beaten. Perhaps a mix? haha. Thank God, I didn't fall for that.

Sometimes experience is a great teacher though at times the lessons get lost in the disillusionment. I too experience some of those truths that was rewarded with punishment and it thought me the lesson of silence and also the wisdom in knowing who to trust with trust with truths that is close to the skin and under belly.