How To Handle A Tease

There she was, sitting ever so eloquently with her long eyelashes fanning a breeze in your direction as if she was dying to get your attention. Her piercing eyes seemed to be focused on you, yet they looked innocently away when you tried to meet her gaze.

Could it be? Could she be trying to flirt with you? Does she find you attractive? Could it be that, for a change, you are the one who's being hunted? It must be, because for the last few minutes, this beautiful doll has been trying to get your attention.

You wonder if she's alone or in the company of another man. It doesn't matter; she smiled your way before submissively looking down while her fingers gently circled the top of her glass. Her body language suggests that she's open to your approaching her. And that's exactly what you're going to do.

You introduce yourself, and she invites you to join her. You appreciate her kindness and offer her a drink. She looks surprised yet pleased, and accepts your offer. By the end of the night — after a bit of kissing, some very erotically engaging conversation and a few expensive drinks — she interrupts the conversation and leaves you hanging (no pun intended), claiming that her boyfriend is waiting for her.

she's got game

You thought she was eager to please but were blind to her tease. Confused? Why would she invite you to join her in a sexually-charged discussion if she already has a boyfriend? Because she can, that's why. Because you gave her exactly what she wanted without her having to give you what you wanted, that's why.

There are a few women out there who have discovered how easy it is to flirt with men in order to get what they want. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. You're playing your game, and she's playing hers. It's called teasing .

the nature of teasing

Of course, just because you think she's teasing, that doesn't really mean that that is what's happening. A good player can tell the difference between a defensive teaser and a professional teaser.

Defensive teasers aren't really teasers per se. They actually have honest intentions of pursuing a sexual or romantic encounter with a man, up until he screws up and does something to turn them off. Of course, the man who gets rejected finds it easier to call such women teases rather than accept the fact that he couldn't close the deal.

Professional teasers are masters at leading men on, without ever intending to get intimate. They exhibit all the artificial buying signals with no interest other than to satisfy a material or egotistical need. They stare at, smile at, and touch their victims. They tell men how stimulating they are and even make very subtle, ambiguous hints about the possibility of furthering the relationship.