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Berm Bandit on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/3#post-5266879
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 13:18:21 +0000Berm Bandit5266879@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Life is too short for negativity. Jog on past her infantile behaviour.
</p>vertical climber on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/3#post-5266837
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 13:04:35 +0000vertical climber5266837@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>clearly the woman has no real friends or she would not be on facebook all of the time. </p>
<p>agreed how hard to walk a marathon is she still too large to run it? no offence to ladies who have just had babies though</p>
<p>giving to charity is personal choice. i do it very randomly. ie once a year but do give about the same as people who do a bit a month.
</p>fervouredimage on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266826
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 13:02:21 +0000fervouredimage5266826@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p><blockquote>+ 1, also at adults using 'LOL'</blockquote></p>
<p>+1 @ adults using +1 and @ and LOL and Facebook. LOL
</p>hora on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266800
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:53:40 +0000hora5266800@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Totally agree tonyd but asking to sponsor someone for charity is one of those difficult/have to do/no choice requests. Totally going against the 'act'/spirit. </p>
<p>Everyone knows this - so when that person then says 'hey HE/SHE is a scrooge/ISNT DOING IT/shame them- it flags them up as someone you shouldn't spend another moment talking to.
</p>jon1973 on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266794
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:52:00 +0000jon19735266794@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p><blockquote>Lol @ adults having drama on Facebook </p>
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<p>+ 1, also at adults using 'LOL'
</p>tonyd on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266788
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 12:50:22 +0000tonyd5266788@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Just reply publicly stating that how much and how you choose to donate to charity is not her business. Perhaps also add that her attempts to coerce you into donating feel more like extortion and make you feel anything but charitable.</p>
<p>Personally I'd also suggest that walking a marathon doesn't sound particularly challenging and so not really worthy of my hard earned (and in scarce supply) money.
</p>Torminalis on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266566
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 11:53:17 +0000Torminalis5266566@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p><blockquote>The old fashion-way, living right, ALWAYS getting involved even if it means you are in harms-way, going out of your way. If everyone did this the world would be an amazing place and we would live in great communities.</blockquote></p>
<p>+1
</p>hora on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266332
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 10:50:52 +0000hora5266332@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>@jambalaya</p>
<p>The whole concept of 'acts of charity' (to me) is about YOU doing something yourself not just an annual one-off or tipping a few quid every month someones way. </p>
<p>The old fashion-way, living right, ALWAYS getting involved even if it means you are in harms-way, going out of your way. If everyone did this the world would be an amazing place and we would live in great communities.</p>
<p>Quietly bunging a few quid isn't the right way. It only suffices to make the person feel good about themselves (as though you are paying off your conscience). The whole charity industry-thing. Well.
</p>jambalaya on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266224
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 10:19:49 +0000jambalaya5266224@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>@hora a tiny fraction of your tax money goes in overseas aid. I'm sure if you did the actual calculation of tax paid * offshore aid percentage you'd see it was a tiny amount.</p>
<p>OP as above, de-friend and set mode such that all tags of you/wife have to be approved. Also old fashioned method of speaking to her is an option but as she's clearly a bit of a nut job this will just raise the temperature generally so possibly not worth it.
</p>hora on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266101
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 09:43:56 +0000hora5266101@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>OP I must say 'weird'. I've not been involved in the NCT crowd and post birth/nursery crowd I'm the polite 'hi, how are you' but nothing beyond that. My partner goes out with/gets involved with them on a good basis but I'm a bloke, why would I want to hang out with them and discuss kids? </p>
<p>Unless of course a Milf is present then the dynamics are wrong.
</p>fervouredimage on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266074
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 09:38:10 +0000fervouredimage5266074@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>It's the fanfare of these charity 'challenges' which drives me nuts. As said, just dish out a bit of cash via direct debit or post a cheque if you really care about your charity of choice. People who do these bloody pointless marathons, or walks in the name of charity are full of it. It's not about the charity, it's about them conquering something, achieving something or wanting something to focus on. I'm very happy for them, great, well done but don't insult my intelligence by telling me you're doing it for charity. Do something for charity quietly without a fuss.
</p>FuzzyWuzzy on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266030
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 09:28:07 +0000FuzzyWuzzy5266030@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Lol @ adults having drama on Facebook
</p>wrecker on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266019
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 09:23:33 +0000wrecker5266019@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Tell her you'll donate a fiver for every stone she loses until she looks good. "Still a fair way to go", "Not quite there yet"! <img src="http://singletrackworld.com/forum/my-plugins/bbcode-buttons/default/icon_biggrin.gif" title=":D" class="bb_smilies" alt=""/> </p>RichPenny on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5266006
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 09:18:18 +0000RichPenny5266006@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Can't you just tag her onto all the diet links and running clubs you could find?
</p>wwaswas on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5265988
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 09:11:02 +0000wwaswas5265988@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Perhaps you could decide you're going to push a bicycle up every hill on the South Downs Way.</p>
<p>You could then give everyone weekly updates on your "I'm pushing my bike 'cos I'm too unfit to ride it properly" progress and hassle her for money at every opportunity.
</p>bearnecessities on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5265932
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 08:50:00 +0000bearnecessities5265932@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p><blockquote>Ha ha what a crackin post. Jesus.. Stop being so bloody wet!!! Messin about on Facebook, with the fat new baby crew. Hanging around on there with that many hormones is a sure fire way to get a bitch slapping! Go ride your bike.</blockquote></p>
<p>What??!
</p>Cougar on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5265931
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 08:49:58 +0000Cougar5265931@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p><blockquote> I tell them the truth, I took a decision a few years back that I'd donate to a couple of select charities and do it by regular direct debits.</blockquote></p>
<p>I tell them the truth, what I do with respect to charitable donations is no bugger else's business.</p>
<p>I mean, you're right of course, but it seems awfully complicated that you feel like you have to explain yourself. It's your money.
</p>stur on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5265912
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 08:38:16 +0000stur5265912@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>Ha ha what a crackin post. Jesus.. Stop being so bloody wet!!! Messin about on Facebook, with the fat new baby crew. Hanging around on there with that many hormones is a sure fire way to get a bitch slapping! Go ride your bike.
</p>mogrim on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5265907
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 08:36:19 +0000mogrim5265907@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p><blockquote>"walking a marathon"??</blockquote></p>
<p>Tell her you'll give her a pound for every minute under 4 hours.
</p>surfer on ""Shamed" on Facebook for not giving to charity - what to do?"http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/shamed-on-facebook-for-not-giving-to-charity-what-to-do/page/2#post-5265893
Thu, 22 Aug 2013 08:31:00 +0000surfer5265893@http://singletrackworld.com/forum/<p>"walking a marathon"??</p>
<p>As above if you set yourself a challenge to raise money then make sure the challenge pushes you outside (significantly) of your comfort zone. If she is injured or walking a marathon is particularly difficult for her given her unique circumstances then maybe it would be noteworthy. Otherwise I would not be motivated by her doing something that I would do (at a run) out of choice and for fun on a Sunday morning.<br />
Choose what and who you give to and tell her unless she breaks 3 hrs its not really a challenge.
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