What Are Little Boys Made Of?

In this original BTB Investigation, we unveil the tragic story of Kirk Murphy, a four-year-old boy who was treated for “cross-gender disturbance” in 1970 by a young grad student by the name of George Rekers. This story is a stark reminder that there are severe and damaging consequences when therapists try to ensure that boys will be boys.

Slouching Towards Kampala: Uganda’s Deadly Embrace of Hate

When we first reported on three American anti-gay activists traveling to Kampala for a three-day conference, we had no idea that it would be the first report of a long string of events leading to a proposal to institute the death penalty for LGBT people. But that is exactly what happened. In this report, we review our collection of more than 500 posts to tell the story of one nation’s embrace of hatred toward gay people. This report will be updated continuously as events continue to unfold. Check here for the latest updates.

David Benkof: Behind the Mask

At first glance, David Benkof appears to be a young gay man who believes that same-sex marriage will damage the institution of marriage, that there are better options for gay couples than marriage, that the community should join him in prioritizing other more pressing issues, and that the marriage discussion is harming the efforts of gay couples in red states to get recognition for their unions. He also claims that he’s a gay columnist, that he speaks for an influential collection of gay thinkers, and that he is part of the gay and lesbian community and that he shares our goals and dreams. But none of that is true.

“Repeat After Me”: The Reparative Therapy Echo Chamber

The April 2008 edition of the pay-to-publish vanity journal Psychological Reports featured a new report from NARTH. Written by NARTH president A. Dean Byrd, past president Joseph Nicolosi, and Richard W. Potts, the report carries the unwieldy but self-descriptive title, “Clients perceptions of how reorientation therapy and self-help can promote changes in sexual orientation.” While the title describes what the authors meant to show — how clients describe the benefits of reparative therapy — the report itself actually illustrates something very different: the ex-gay movement’s remarkable ability to instill an almost robot-like parroting of ex-gay rhetoric among their clients.

Testing the Premise: Is MRSA The New Gay Plague?

The Toronto Star said that a new study “discover[ed] a new strain” of a super-bug “hitting gay men.” Headlines in Britain screamed, “Flesh-eating bug strikes San Francisco’s gay community,” and anti-gay extremists across America spread the alarm that gays were introducing another plague into “the general population.” But there was a small problem with all of this: None of it is true!

Paul Cameron’s World

In 2005, the Southern Poverty Law Center wrote that “[Paul] Cameron’s ‘science’ echoes Nazi Germany.” What the SPLC didn”t know was Cameron doesn’t just “echo” Nazi Germany. He quoted extensively from one of the Final Solution’s architects. This puts his fascination with quarantines, mandatory tattoos, and extermination being a “plausible idea” in a whole new and deeply disturbing light.

From the Inside: Focus on the Family’s “Love Won Out”

On February 10, I attended an all-day “Love Won Out” ex-gay conference in Phoenix, put on by Focus on the Family and Exodus International. In this series of reports, I talk about what I learned there: the people who go to these conferences, the things that they hear, and what this all means for them, their families and for the rest of us.

The Heterosexual Agenda: Exposing The Myths

At last, the truth can now be told.

Using the same research methods employed by most anti-gay political pressure groups, we examine the statistics and the case studies that dispel many of the myths about heterosexuality. Download your copy today!

Testing The Premise: Are Gays A Threat To Our Children?

Anti-gay activists often charge that gay men and women pose a threat to children. In this report, we explore the supposed connection between homosexuality and child sexual abuse, the conclusions reached by the most knowledgeable professionals in the field, and how anti-gay activists continue to ignore their findings. This has tremendous consequences, not just for gay men and women, but more importantly for the safety of all our children.

Straight From The Source: What the “Dutch Study” Really Says About Gay Couples

Anti-gay activists often cite the “Dutch Study” to claim that gay unions last only about 1½ years and that the these men have an average of eight additional partners per year outside of their steady relationship. In this report, we will take you step by step into the study to see whether the claims are true.

The FRC’s Briefs Are Showing

Tony Perkins’ Family Research Council submitted an Amicus Brief to the Maryland Court of Appeals as that court prepared to consider the issue of gay marriage. We examine just one small section of that brief to reveal the junk science and fraudulent claims of the Family “Research” Council.

Review: The Gay Report

When Karla Jay and Allan Young published The Gay Report in 1979, it quickly a favorite source of statistics for many anti-gay extremists. But before you accepts these statistic at face value, you should examine the inner workings of this survey very carefully. What you learn might surprise you.

Daniel Fetty Doesn’t Count

The FBI’s annual Hate Crime Statistics aren’t as complete as they ought to be, and their report for 2004 was no exception. In fact, their most recent report has quite a few glaring holes. Holes big enough for Daniel Fetty to fall through.

GOProud talks to Big Government about gay conservatism

Timothy Kincaid

February 26th, 2010

In September, Andrew Breitbart’s BigGovernment.com launched with a splash by releasing the undercover video done by James O’Keefe and Hannah Giles on ACORN. The scandal, which resulted in Congress cutting ACORN’s funding, propelled Beirtbart and his websites to conservative stardom.

This week, columnist Bob Parks posted an interview with GOProud’s Jimmy LaSalvia, in which the gay conservative defended his positions. I think LaSalvia did well in explaining himself, and was more proactive and less defensive about gay issues than I had given him credit for in the past.

BOB: Let’s move on to gays in the military.

JIMMY: Cool.

BOB: While serving in the Navy, I had a supervisor who was gay. He wasn’t in your face about it, and because he was (and everyone knew it), he had to be doubly squared away. Through him, I became a much better writer and journalist and our department won two Chief of Information 2nd Place awards for excellence amongst 600 ship and shore commands. With that, why would there be a need for him to come out and force his sexuality on his shipmates?

JIMMY: I don’t think it’s a matter of forcing his sexuality on anyone. It’s a matter of whether he has to lie about it or not. Listen, conduct should be appropriate in the military no matter who you are. But gay and lesbian servicemembers are forced to lie everyday, just to serve their country. It can be significant, like who should we inform if you are killed or wounded? or somewhat trivial just in conversation like “what did you do when you were on leave?” In 2010, our fine servicemembers are more than capable of doing their jobs as professionals whether straight or gay…we shouldn’t make some of them lie in order to do it.

But Jimmy could not resist getting in his digs about the “not like me” gays with whom he finds so little in common.

BOB: How do you feel about gay pride parades. Personally, I cringe when watching rap videos because of the impressions it leaves on others of who black people are. Do you see gay pride parades, as lewd as some can be, as a serious PR blunder?

JIMMY: Certainly in this day and age, as more and more gay people have come out and live their lives openly and honestly, the stereotypical images of pride parades don’t accurately portray the reality of the lives of the vast majority of gay Americans. For the most part, we are just like everyone else…sitting at home on the couch as boring as most other folks watching those nuts on TV! Yes, I suspect it’s very similar to your reaction watching stereotypical images of black people. The best thing that gay people can do (from a PR point of view) is just live your life like any other person, and the rest of America will realize that we are no different than them.

Comments

Lucrece

I was irritated he didn’t call the intwerviewer out on the idea of “flautning” sexuality.

He should’ve responded to the question by asking why do straight people force their sexuality on gay people by making their spouses and sexual inclinations obvious? What does Spring Break or St. Patrick’s Parade say of straight people?

Burr

What really bugged me was Bob’s constant assertions that the gay experience is nothing like and completely irrelevant to the black experience. That’s just selfish and bigoted to claim civil rights as black territory only.

Pintuck

I fully agree with Jimmy’s comments about “not like me” gays. “Gay culture” is a shame to all gay people who want acceptance instead of a substandard, “separate but equal”, ghettoized lifestyle. Screw gay culture.

andrew

Pintuck, I think that’s a bit overstated, but a little context here really comes in handy.

Gays are undergoing a radical process of mainstreaming. 30 years ago, the notion that gays could be teachers was highly controversial, that they could be in the military was laughable, and that’s before we even discuss parenting or marriage. Homosexuality was a drop-dead secret that people would kill to keep, and which allowed gays to be victimized — whether by organized crime that owned the bars where gays secretly congregated, or the medical community that vicimized us through reparative therapies. Society put gays in a box, and the response of the marginalized community was to turn inward and develop its own culture with a serious “screw normal” attitude. This is not atypical — we see aspects of this is the deaf community, Aspergers community, racial communities, and religious minority communities.

The community was maturing anyways, but the HIV / AIDS crisis significantly accelerated the change — the LGBT community became more proactive about being “out” as a matter of survival (and indignation). Outing meant visibility. Visibility meant normalization. Normalization meant that hiding stopped being the de facto behavior and became weird and creepy (and weak and sad).

With the maturation of the community, we see the death of many aspects of gay culture. Gay bars are closing in droves or converting to “gay friendly” bars… making them hardly different from most other bars, given the tolerance of the barhopping age brackets. The “screw you” attitudes have been subverted by marriage, SUV’s, baby strollers, and other aspects of normal, married life.

While “being fabulous” will likely always be something that appeals to gays (especially younger gays) and being outrageous, ironic, and even charicatured seem to come part and parcel with the outsider membership of any minority, the days of the 1970’s gay pride parades are going to be increasingly behind us.

So, Pintuck, be patient. “Gay culture” is becoming “just culture” more and more every day. And folks like Bob Parks, who probably grew up in an era in which the LGBT community was more in your face (hence verbs like “flaunting”) are increasingly going to be replace by a new generation of more wordly heterosexuals that says “flaunting? WTF are you talking about, Bob?”

Mel

There is something bizarre about the interviewer keeping insisting gays not compare their struggle to Blacks because their circumstances are totally different. He keeps going on about that. Plus he makes some blatant and absurd logical errors like assuming that before DADT, young soldiers 18-25 never spoke about their lives outside specific job details and remained totally anonymous and asexual. WTF?

Mel

The other thing that really bugs me is how gay Republicans complain about pride parades, drag queens, and the like. The reason drag queens fought at Stonewall, and a lot of queeny gays are the ones who gained our initial rights and visibility is because THEY ARE OUT! You can’t hide in the closet, like so many gay Republicans do, and then complain that you are represented in the gay community profile. You yourselves have created the situation by total cowardice.

Uki

Well..this is good. Sexual orientation should not be a reason for a certain idealism. Gay people should be anything and anyone they want, conservative or liberal.

I never liked how many gay activist distorted sexual orientation with sexual liberation.

And I dislike how gay conservative are being portrayed as cowards. Because from my experience, the mainstream gay people are the one who rejected the gay conservatives. The mainstream gay culture have become exactly like the bigots, reject and shun anyone who doesn’t conform to their idealism.

Maybe it has to do with how they were being rejected the bigots, and they somehow put their revenge on the gay republicans.

Besides, I think the gay republicans had it worse than the mainstream gay. They are rejected by other conservatives, and also rejected by the mainstream gay people. They are, practically, alone.

darkmoonman

“The best thing that gay people can do (from a PR point of view) is just live your life like any other person, and the rest of America will realize that we are no different than them.”

Same BS that the Log Cabin Republicans have been spouting since the early 80’s: don’t show anyone that you’re different and we’ll win our full rights overnight. It’s the squeaky wheel that gets the grease.

rusty

Pride Parades, and parties, happen once a year. . .much like Mardi Gras, The Superbowl Party, The party following the NBA finals and even the party following the World Series. Many of these events have similar OUT rageous events and incidents similar to even the most OUT landish PRIDE event.
Let’s see: Half dressed men WWF and women cheerleaders. . .Ever been to a monster truck rally.

Events are not truly representative of any culture. Been to a Revival Meeting and Baptism lately. Not certainly held in high regards by most ‘Organized’ religions.

GLBT folk are living normal lives, taking partners, holding family ceremonies, taking care of friends, family and elders. GLBT folk may go to a parade now and then. . .but they are also attending work sponsored family events, go to political rallies, and even shop for cars. . .and other consumer events.

On the other hand, there are the folk who are trying to promote the ugliness and falsehoods and maybe it should be the conservatives to call these ‘folk’ out on their propaganda ‘bull$41+’!

Pintuck

Thank you for your middle of the road stance, it’s a moderate voice that is welcome. I can’t post under my real name because of the viciousness and hatred that comes from “gay culture” gays toward me because I choose to integrate into culture at large. Truth be told, I never left the culture I grew up in. When I came out, I wanted acceptance, not separation. I still do!

And that’s the key difference between me and ghetto gays: I want acceptance whereas they do not. They WANT to live a “separate but equal” lifestyle and they think that people like me aren’t “truly gay” and are outright hateful and vicious toward them — which is to say, me.

So I find it disgusting that Timothy Kincaid is annoyed that Jimmy (above) doesn’t want anything to do with those ghetto gays. Frankly, neither do I. To me, it shows that Kincaid doesn’t get it. He’s not aware, or in denial, that there is an ever-larger number of gays who are integrating and becoming accepted by society and who have little in common with gay culture. He is wrong to criticize them for that.

Ray

“When we take over we’ll sweep the drag queens under the rug just like the black did with Uncle Tom.”

I know what he means. Drag queens are the accepted “clowns” of the Pride parades in every city. And when they show up, THEIR picture is what appears on the evening news and the daily newspaper as if to say, “This is what GAY is, folks.” It’s a distorted view of gay life to have the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence bannered every year in the media as representative of “what gay is” and I did the watchdog work in this subject for six years at the Palm Springs Pride parade, so I know what the media does.

We could have a contengent of 50 military veterans or floats feature 50 of our elderly gays (Prime Timers is HUGE here), or a float with PFLAG displaying gays and lesbians and their parents and children and what would be the story? Why, The Sisters! Of course! It’s STILL that way. I wrote letters to the newspaper and asked them why the picked the most outrageous to represent the gay community and, naturally, I never got an answer. So I started asking them other question.

The Palm Springs paper was pretty good about publishing studies on sexual orientation. It was serious science so the published it under the bold headline – SCIENCE NEWS.

Ah, but there was a catch. Normally when serious science is published in the paper, if there is any criticism of it, it comes from a PEER – an expert in the field in which the research is done.

Who were the “peers” cited in the articles on sexual orientation?

Why, the entire cast of Family Research Council, usually Tony Perkins, whose PhD in Religious Studies qualified him as an expert social science “peer”. I wrote to the newspaper about THAT, too. Haven’t seen ANY studies since then (with or without review by Tony Perkins). The last time the newspaper pulled that stunt, it coinsided with a visit by FRC’S “Love Wins Out” roadshow of professional ex-gays and complete with billboards on the freeway that promised “freedom from homosexuality” in five-foot letters.

So, yeah, I agree with Jimmy LaSalvia to an extent. When we march in a parade we OUGHT to look like nice, right-deserving people instead of Sister Bee Attitude. But with the way the media depicts our lives, what freaking difference does it make. They will shape THEIR image of us even if we all dressed like Mormon Missionaries.

Fred in the UK

I share your aspirations regarding acceptance versus separation. However minorities that divide themselves up into even smaller competing sects, squander what power and influence they do have.

Ray,

I totally agree that the media will never paint a fair picture of us, it’s too boring. Biased pictures are more interesting, get more viewers, sell more copies, etc. The real solution is for straight folks to get to know us directly, as neighbours, co-workers, etc.

Timothy Kincaid

You have expressed a great deal of hostility to those whom you imaging want a “separate but equal” life and whom you think “do not want acceptance”. You want “nothing to do with them”.

And you think they mean you harm. You say that they are “outright hateful and vicious” to you and don’t think that you are “truly gay”.

But if you look, I think you’ll find that not only has no one here been hateful of vicious to you, no one has criticized you at all for your assimilation or for your rejection of stereotypical or ghetto culture.

Why do you think that is?

Pintuck

To answer your question, I think it is because the type of gay people who typically post here are not the kinds who inhabit the gay ghetto.

Your choice of words is very telling, though. You used the word “assimilation” instead of “integration” or “acceptance”. I’m well-aware that “assimilation” and “assimilationist” are slurs employed by ghetto gays to insult and demean those gays who do not live in the “fabulous” gay ghettos. It’s the same thing as calling me a “sell-out”. That is how you feel about me, correct?

Pintuck

“Same BS that the Log Cabin Republicans have been spouting since the early 80’s: don’t show anyone that you’re different and we’ll win our full rights overnight. It’s the squeaky wheel that gets the grease.”

This is the “good enough” argument that ghetto gays make. It usually takes this basic form:

“You assimilationst gays think that if we’re just ‘good enough’ then straight people will accept us. You’re wrong! They will NEVER accept us, no matter how ‘good’ you try to be!”

It is nothing but an argument for a “separate but equal” lifestyle for gay people. It is an anti-integration and an anti-integrationist argument. Ghetto gay BS is what it is.

Timothy Kincaid

Your choice of words is very telling, though. You used the word “assimilation” instead of “integration” or “acceptance”. I’m well-aware that “assimilation” and “assimilationist” are slurs employed by ghetto gays to insult and demean those gays who do not live in the “fabulous” gay ghettos. It’s the same thing as calling me a “sell-out”. That is how you feel about me, correct?

No, I don’t think you are a “sell-out”. And whatever you are “well-aware” of, my word choice was not intended to insult or demean you.

I think that you have a lot of hostility and anger towards those persons whom you call “ghetto gays”. You are rather abusive towards them. But, as I’ve never met anyone who thinks that all gay people should be apart from society and live in gay ghettos, it’s difficult to know exactly who it is that you dislike so much.

And, frankly, I think you are trying to pick a fight. Perhaps if you find these “ghetto gays” that you and Jimmy so dislike and fear, they’ll fight with you. But I don’t think you’ll find them here.

“It is nothing but an argument for a “separate but equal” lifestyle for gay people. It is an anti-integration and an anti-integrationist argument. Ghetto gay BS is what it is.”

FALSE.

It has nothing to do with separate but equal. Nothing at all.

This way of thinking:
““You assimilationst gays think that if we’re just ‘good enough’ then straight people will accept us. You’re wrong! They will NEVER accept us, no matter how ‘good’ you try to be!””

is in direct response to this way of thinking:

“Could all you leathermen, gym bunnies, draq queens, and freaks please just dress like normal people for once?! You’re the reason why they won’t accept us, you’re harming us, you’re making us look bad”

You’ve somehow missed that. I’m surprised.

I read a lot of blogs, and invariably that subject eventually comes up and some “genius” eventually lays the blame for homphobia, hate crimes, and inequality at the feet of queens, leathers, kinksters, and the pride parades —- completely ignoring the fact that it’s the Loud and Proud, Out gays, the queens, the dykes, the in-your-face gays that got us to where we are now. Somehow, some gays honestly think and will EVEN SAY OUT LOUD that we should not let “the freaks” out in public. That somehow, if we all looked just like Wally and the Beave that straight people would warm up to us, no problem. That this whole struggle for equality would be over in seconds. Complete and total lie.

Hal Sparks, who played one of the main characters on “Queer As Folk” was asked in an interview about the critics, some who say that the show was hurting gays buy showing such extreme stereotypes. I can’t find the quote, but he basically said that a lot of straight people watch the show, and if they can accept, care, love, and see the humanity of the characters on Queer As Folk, than accepting everyday gay people would actually be easier. From what I’ve experienced in the past 32, living in several cities and in two hemispheres, that’s very much true.

A drag queen is not more out, or more authentic than a button-down gay man. They’re just different.

The drag queens want integration, but not at the cost of their personal freedom. It’s not freedom, it’s not equality, if it comes at the price of your personal integrity.

Not everyone who lives in the “gay ghetto” (talk about use of words being telling, Pin, take your own advice) is there because they hate everyone else. That’s what we call false dichotomy. That’s what we call seeing things in black and white. Many of those people live their because they actually LIKE living there. They work there. Their friends work and live there. Hell, some of them GREW UP there! Some are there because they needed somewhere that they feel welcome, safe, somewhere that they feel they belong. Birds of a feather, flock together, but that doesn’t mean they hate all the other birds.

For someone who doesn’t like being insulted and demeaned, you seem to care little if you do it to others.

Pintuck

The hostility I feel toward ghetto gays is mutual, whether or not you choose to see it. In truth, they started it. The way I feel about them is a common feeling, but most gays who feel like I do are too afraid to say it openly because of the vicious abuse that usually follows those kinds of sentiments.

I do wish you would take back your “could not resist getting his digs in”. That, to me, ascribes a dirty motive where there is none.

Fred in the UK

You seem to be working under the absurd assumption that ghetto gays and I inhabit some kind of “community” together. Lots of people share that delusion.

I was assuming that you both share the same country, are subject to the same laws, contend with a vocal religious minority determined to deny you the right to marry, etc. How is this either absurd or wrong?

Frijondi

@Timothy. I don’t want to offend, as I have been reading this blog for much longer than I have been posting on it, and greatly appreciate what you and the other writers here do.

But I would like to mention that I have encountered the attitudes that Pintuck describes — frequently, and for many years — and I understand his/her anger. In fact, I think that it is only very recently, and largely thanks to the internet, that other, more mainstream GLBT voices have begun to be heard. Of course, I live in one of those coastal bubbles.

@Pintuck. I think you have misjudged the writers/posters here — I have observed very little of the gay ghetto POV on this blog.

Mel

During her ‘debate’ with Andrew Sullivan, Maggie Gallagher said that she knows and works with several gays at NOM. If GOProud gays consider themselves bold and courageous, wouldn’t the gays working for NOM be the most heroic and noble? How else will we achieve civil rights unless we work and financially support homophobic institutions “from the inside” (that’s the argument GOProud uses). GOProud, why do you idolize the righteous and amazing glbt people who work with Tony Perkins and the Family Research Council?

Ray

I’m a “ghetto gay” as Pintuck calls it. I lived over two-thirds of my life in a “straight ghetto” where my home was shot at, we were threatened, my kid was taunted and bullied, my property vandalized and my teaching career was sabotaged by “straight ghetto” dwellers. We are politically conservative and MODEST in our dress and behavior. We lived in the *best* neighborhood in one of the *best* homes, yet we were taunted and terrorized. That we were the *best* of neighbors mattered not a whit.

The violence and threats were too much. So we moved to that “gay ghetto” of old queens in the Palm Springs area. I live in a 55+community where 30% of the nearly 600 homes are gay families. I’m still surrounded by straight people, I’m still a conservative and I’m still modest.

But I feel a whole lot safer here than I did in the finest neighborhoods in Fresno and Orange County. So Pintuck’s distain for the “gay ghetto” is just like the testimony we heard from Prop 8 Propenents. He can dish out all the imagined negativity but somehow gets amnesia about the horrors gays experience in the midst of the “straight ghetto” that drives them to find at least psychological comfort in having gay neighbors the don’t have to be fearful for their lives living around.

Pintuck seems to think that one loses the ability to maintain a life of modesty and independence once they live among a large population of gays. I’ll ask the question then: Who taught you to believe THAT?

It sounds like you’re afraid of being converted to some slobbering left-wing radical by virtue of your home address. What in fact happens in the “gay ghetto” is that you find more people LIKE YOURSELF than your self-enforced exile from your community will ever produce.

Timothy Kincaid

I too have encountered the attitudes that Pintuck is describing. There are some nasty people out there.

But that is not – and never has been – indicative of some shared attitude or value of any group of people, be they “ghetto gays” or some other insulting description. Few people actually look down on or have animosity towards those who integrate. I literally have not run into that attitude this Century.

I don’t think that Pintuck knows much about the people that he fears and hates.

Frijondi

@Ray. Even living in an area with a high gay population, I have been threatened, screamed at, and, on one occasion, assaulted for looking too “masculine” (I’m a woman.) I have no doubt it would be worse if I lived in Fresno.

At the same time, I remember being given to understand by the majority of lesbians I knew in the eighties that I was some sort of traitor, Uncle Tom, or stool pigeon for a)being a Christian as opposed to an atheist or Wiccan, and b)generally not participating in the separatist subculture.

Those attitudes shifted, or course, in the nineties, but with the upshot that one subculture replaced another. The lesbian separatists gave way to lesbian sexperts. I remember encountering a certain, widespread contempt among the gay people I knew in the nineties for anyone who had reservations about pornography, or “sex positivism,” or the word “queer.”

I agree that it’s perfectly possible to “maintain a life of modesty and independence” even in the heart of a gay mecca, but one’s fellow gays do not always make it easy. It sounds as if your gay neighbors do not attack you for being conservative. That’s great. Not everyone has had the same experience.

Ray

” It sounds as if your gay neighbors do not attack you for being conservative.”

Why would they? I’m as modest about being conservative as I am about being gay. I have debates with liberal AND conservative gays all the time and I find most liberals to be Very respectful. The one’s that aren’t respectful are the LEAST informed about gay issues in the same degree that conservative gays who display that same palpable contempt are mostly the LEAST informed about gay issues. I also find an unsettling amount of what seems like self-hated in both extremes. Both of the fringe groups trend heavily toward fabrication in the extreme and show no inclination toward intellectual labor at ALL. What they THINK is what constitutes their “high bar” so to them, it’s never necessary to read social science or study a topic or issue with rigor and discipline. Among them you consistently find people who re-draw the lines and make up a litmus test that will always and forever exclude YOU even when you AGREE with them in principle. If you are a conservative and you butt heads with an extremist gay conservative, you will promptly told that “you’re not a conservative, you commie.” With a liberal wingnut you’re a religious nut even when I openly declare my atheism (BTW, I’m also a modest atheist).

Yet most of my conversation with gays is friendly and respectful. I think there is a great deal of mutual respect in the middle of the gay political spectrum and that’s my life-long ghetto. We all know what is central to our political goal – Equality. We don’t always agree on the detail, but we all DO fight for each other. I’ve no doubt about that.

Mel

Has GOProud ever explained in detail how they differ from Log Cabin? They hinted that LCR is too queeny and gayish, but they never site any specifics. Is there some crucial GOP issue for which LCR and GOProud differ?

Mel

Timothy Kincaid, hopefully you know how to use Google. Sullivan and Maggie Gallagher spoke at the Cato Institute recently and the videos are all over the net. Maggie specifically said that gays (presumably gay males) work for her at NOM to oppose gay marriage. Deal!

Burr

mel, considering how much, and how often Maggie Gallagher defames, insults, and outright lies about gay people — her suggesting or stating that she works with gays (the old “I have gay friends, too” cliche) is about as surprising as it is believable. It’s page 5 of the anti-gay handbook to say “I have gay friends, and they agree with me” as it’s an attempt to simultaneously distance oneself from the label of “bigot” while suggesting that gay people really, truthfully, don’t think they’re being oppressed.

Yet these gay friends never show up.

We’ve yet to hear from Sarah Palin’s gay friends, and I doubt we’ll here from Maggie’s either. Or any of the other fictious gay people that anti-gay folks claim to know, love, and yet still want to oppress and defame.

I’m not saying there aren’t some Uncle Tom gays out there, wrapped in a Stockholm Syndrome snuggie, I’m just saying that their alleged existence while curious, isn’t a trump card.

Donnchadh

I find the use of “Uncle Tom” here rather strange. To me an Uncle Tom -I think it comes from some blacksploitation novel- is a quietly powerful, dignified character with an understated heroism who is willing to sacrifice himself for those he cares for. Before using the term pejoratively, I invite you to be chained, whipped and forced to work on a cotton farm.
Oh, and I love the idea of a “viscous” lie.

werdna

@Donnchadh-Not exactly a “blaxploitation” novel, the book is “Uncle Tom’s Cabin” by Harriet Beecher Stow.

Regarding the use of the term, I think the Wikipedia article is not far off:

Uncle Tom, the title character, was initially seen as a noble, long-suffering Christian slave. In more recent years, however, his name has become an epithet directed towards African-Americans who are accused of selling out to whites…

In a gay context an Uncle Tom might be a gay man who seeks to ingratiate himself to homophobic people by denigrating other gay people (e.g., expressing his disdain for flamboyancy or his outrage at the behavior of people at a pride parade).

I was also amused by Timothy’s amusing adaptation of “viscous”.

Pintuck

Notice him trot out the “Ward Cleaver” gay ghetto cliche. This is because he inhabits a world where a gay man either A) celebrates the compulsive pursuit of sex and drugs, or B) is Ward Cleaver and deserving of mockery. It is black and white to Jason D. There is no middle ground. It would be predictable for Jason D or one of his friends to next accuse me of being a “bitter, fat old queen who can’t get laid any more”. If that accusation strikes you as odd, then you aren’t part of gay culture, either.

That said, will you please retract your claim that Jimmy “couldn’t resist getting in his digs”? It ascribes a nefarious motive where there is none. He’s admitting the fact that there is a rift between gays who integrate and ghetto gays who delight in making them look bad.

Jason, I’m glad you disapprove of me. Your approval is the last thing that I want. I agree that you and your people stand in the way of gay acceptance. And I think you agree with me that you don’t want acceptance because that would preclude you and your friends from living your freaky lifestyle, which you wrongly equate with “being gay”. We are two very different people, inhabiting two very different communities with little in common except for our mutual contempt, and I think we both prefer it that way. I think that’s the common ground that can help us find mutual respect.

Pintuck

First of all, I am very, very sorry that you endured such horrible and unwarranted abuse from your neighbors. Everyone knows that the principal cause of gay misery everywhere is conservative Christians and their hateful, stupid attitudes toward gay people. What you suffered you did not deserve, and I’m sorry.

It is not fair for you to assume that my “self-enforced exile” is as bad as yours. I have not suffered like you have. We integrate into the area where we live and haven’t had problems like yours.

It’s not fair for you to assume that I equate your 30% gay community of 55+ median age with gay culture. There are plenty of gay men out there who aren’t compulsively searching for sex parties and the best drugs. You wanted a safe place and it sounds like you found it, and I’m happy you did. My criticisms of gay ghettos aren’t aimed at your community and your neighbors.

Go watch the movie “Gay Sex in the 70s” to get an idea of the culture that I bemoan. Are “The Trucks” and “The Docks” in 1970s New York City parts of gay culture that we gay men should be proud of?

I do not think I’m going to become a slobbering left wing radical if I move among a population of gays. I fear that I would be around a bunch of self-important, superficial people who inject sex into every conversation and are very familiar with all sorts of drugs. I don’t want to live like that. I would love having more gay people as neighbors, but not gay neighbors like that. Like you said, I want to find people who are LIKE ME. And there is little in “gay culture” that is like me. When a gay person assumes that I’m going to the pride parade, and I tell him that I’m not (because I despise the pride parade), then he gets mad and accusatory. I don’t want friends like that, but so many gay people are like that. That’s because the pride parade is a big part of “gay culture” and I don’t like gay culture. Gay people don’t deserve a “separate but equal” culture. I want acceptance. It sounds like you do, too, and it sounds like you found a minority-gay community that accepts you. That doesn’t strike me as a gay ghetto at all.

Pintuck

Why is it nasty for me to use the phrase “ghetto gays”? Is it because we don’t want to admit that there is a subculture among gay men who want to live in a pit of compulsive sex and drug abuse, and then equate that lifestyle with “being gay”? What does “PnP” mean, anyway? A little bit of candor goes a long way.

I do not think that gay people deserve to be drug addicts inhabiting gay ghettos, so it disgusts me when some people want to celebrate that lifestyle as part and parcel of “being gay”. Someone please tell me why that attitude is offensive or wrong.

Burr

Pintuck you obviously know very little about the regular posters here if you label both Timothy and Jason D as ghetto gays. Both of them are actually fairly conservative.. Just because they disagree with you doesn’t mean they embrace the entirely opposite perspective. You should restrain your reaction a bit..

Pintuck

Jason D stated that it’s the “out and proud” “queens, leathers, and kinksters” who “got us where we are today”. In other words, if not for cross-dressers and gays who made their sexual fetishes public, we wouldn’t have the rights and acceptance that we have today.

1) Is that idea “fairly conservative” to you?

2) Do you agree with that idea?

I haven’t labeled Timothy as a ghetto gay. I think he has the welfare of gay people at heart. But I don’t think his criticism of Jimmy is fair.

Mel

‘Jason D’ are you saying that if courageous gay men are working at NOM and financially supporting it (as GOProud is the GOP), they have no right to righteously create “change from the inside” as Log Cabin and GOProud have so effectively done over the last decade? I think any gay man (not very many lesbians do this) should be applauded for joining and financially supporting homophobic organizations so that it may one day “create change from the inside”.

Burr

I don’t see how agreeing that the Stonewall riots and the pride parades have had a positive effect on the fight for equal rights by making us more visible to society automatically turns one into a “sex and drugs ghetto gay.”

It’s hard to argue that we HAVEN’T seen much more progress since the “freaks” got out there and rocked the boat. Remember gays were far more quiet, integrated, and hidden within the community in our closets for centuries before and were put to death or into jail when dragged out without much remorse for it.

Because those people stood up for us, it’s moved the goal posts and created room for us to move out of the closet and out of the ghettos and into a more normal place in society.

Pintuck

I think your ideas are nonsense. The biggest contributor to gay acceptance has been the dying off of previous, more gay-hating generations. The second biggest contributor to gay acceptance has been the liberalizing of Christian beliefs. The second contributor is tied to the first.

You are arguing that:

1. Gays were “integrated” in the closet (I think you put it that way because you are trying to accuse me of wanting gays to “go back in the closet” when I say I want “integration”).

2. Gays came out.

3. Gays responded by becoming very vocal and very public about the things that straights hated them for, with an attitude of, “If you’re offended, then you deserve it!” They also used lots and lots of drugs.

4. We all have those gays to thank, for without them and their antics, the straights would not love us as much.

I think the Stonewall riots had a positive effect on creating a “separate but equal” gay culture, which is what you are standing up for. I think they had a negative effect on gay acceptance, which is what I want.

Were you alive and in New York City or San Francisco in the 1970s as an out and proud gay man?

Burr

I don’t want a gay ghetto or separate but equal existence. I live with straight people and have more straight friends than gay ones, and I share the same distaste for what you describe as “gay culture” as well. Stop putting words in people’s mouths and assuming the utter worst of everyone who has the temerity to have a different opinion. It’s very unbecoming of you.

Anyway your whining and our debating with you is pointless as none of us can control what other people do with their lives. Things are changing and this will look like a really stupid gripe in the future.

Pintuck

If you share the same distaste for gay culture that I do, then why did you lionize the antics of “queens, leathers, and kinksters” (Jason D’s description, which you agreed with and you didn’t object to his terminology) as the bringers of gay rights to whom we are all indebted? It sounds like you revere them.

Matt

Stonewall was not about anything besides a bunch of queens who wanted to be left the f*ck alone by the cops–free to dance, drink, make out with members of the same sex without harassment. Just about every freedom we have fought for and earned to-date emanated from that moment (of course that was preceded and succeeded by others–both of the “straight-acting” types and of the “radical” types).

These queens fought back while the “straight-acting” closet cases lived in miserable fear that they would find an anonymous envelope under their door with a picture of them holding hands or kissing a person of the same sex or even–heaven forbid–being seen in the company of a “known” homosexual.

Without Stonewall, there’d have been no Harvey Milk. Without Harvey Milk, thousands of Gay and Lesbian teachers in California would have been fired in the 70s. Without a Milk, gays would have continued to be marginalized and relied on others to represent us.

So don’t act like these were aliens or had nothing to do with you and what you enjoy today.

I am too young to have been at Stonewall, but in NY I have met many Stonewall era people who talked about what life was like back then. I have even been blessed to meet a few actual Stonewall veterans, like the fierce Sylvia Rivera (RIP) who struggled for us while being abandoned by the movement when we got confused about whether the “T” belonged.

Learn some history or shut the f up.

I could pretty much guess where you would have been back in ’69 (probably in hiding like I’m pretty sure I would have been).

Uki

Wow…..decades of gay struggle in America since the Stonewall Riot, and gay people there are STILL not allowed to become whomever they want, because of their sexual orientation?

But in this case, gay people aren’t allowed to become conservative? gay people aren’t allowed to disagree of Pride parade? gay people aren’t allowed to dislike drag queens? etc.

It’s not right to attack the idea of conservatism just because of the believer’s sexual orientation. It’s plain homophobic!

And it’s not right to attack the idea of liberalism just because of the believer’s sexual orientation. It’s also plain homophobic!

Where’s the discussion of ‘gay bashing’? Where’s the passionate talking about the two lesbians being rejected of housing because of their sexual orientation? Where’s the talk about young people being forced to sell their bodies after they get kicked out of their house after he/she came out? Where’s the arguments about debunking the stereotypes to hate LGBT? Where are those kinds of talking?

Don’t sway from the REAL problems LGBT people has. LGBT people out there are still being a subject of hatred. And that’s the real problem is.

And here we are talking about liberal vs. conservative, or monogamous vs. non-monogamous. Like it is supposed to be related to sexual orientation at all.

I mean..come on Box Turtle Bulletin. Surely you can make a better article than this one?

Pintuck

“But in this case, gay people aren’t allowed to become conservative? gay people aren’t allowed to disagree of Pride parade? gay people aren’t allowed to dislike drag queens?”

Not only no, but hell no. Any gay person who commits those sins is an “Uncle Tom” and a “sell out” and will be viciously, relentlessly attacked for it. That’s why gay people who have those opinions usually don’t voice them. They have been cowed into submission.

“Where’s the discussion of ‘gay bashing’? Where’s the passionate talking about the two lesbians being rejected of housing because of their sexual orientation? Where’s the talk about young people being forced to sell their bodies after they get kicked out of their house after he/she came out? Where’s the arguments about debunking the stereotypes to hate LGBT? Where are those kinds of talking?”

I think it is because many gay men have escaped into a “separate but equal” lifestyle of compulsive sex, superficiality, and drug abuse. We glibly call this the “club scene”. When people think about “gay issues”, they think about this lifestyle. They don’t give a shit about gay teens who get kicked out of their house when they come out. They don’t give a shit about school abuse. They care about meth and sex, and that’s all. It is their life.

And, ultimately, I think they feel a little bit guilty when they look at themselves and realize that they are living lives of unabashed hedonism and calling it “gay”. I think that’s the source of their defensiveness. I think that’s why they call it “homophobic” when someone says that the Folsom Street Fair isn’t good for gay people.

And, on this blog, we have Timothy Kincaid to carry water for those people. And that’s why I keep posting: because Timothy won’t explain himself!

Pintuck

Matt is whom I’m talking about. That’s the ghetto gay POV, loud and proud. Did you notice the outrage and contempt that I deign question gay culture? Notice the hatred for “straight-acting”? Notice his tacit accusation that I want gays to go back in the closet? Completely predictable.

Matt, I’m glad you disapprove of me. I don’t want your approval. I don’t want to buy into your false view of the drug-addicted, compulsive sex freak history of gay culture. I see gay culture and I feel sad and ashamed that straight people drive gay people to depths like those. You, on the other hand, think it’s sublime. I think it’s harmful that you celebrate that ghetto lifestyle instead of wanting a better quality of life for gay people. You and I are very different people, with different values, in different communities. We have very little in common outside of our mutual contempt for each other. It honestly strikes me as strange and incorrect that you and I would both be described as “gay”, and I suspect you would agree with that.

Timothy Kincaid

Maggie specifically said that gays (presumably gay males) work for her at NOM to oppose gay marriage. Deal!

If you want to tell me at what point in the video that she said that gay people work for her at NOM to oppose gay marriage, then I will go listen to the tapes and you will have proven your point. Until then, I think that you are bluffing.

“Go google it” is not the type of support that we allow for unsubstantiated claims.

DN

Not taking sides on the ghetto gays vs. non-ghetto(?) gays, although I certainly have a position. Anyhow, Maggie at Cato was one of my favorite things in February.

In the Cato link from above(http://www.cato.org/event.php?eventid=6987), Maggie is answering a question at the 73:30 mark. She says she has gays who work for her at 75:41. A minute later (76:24), she also says she got an e-mail from a California gay guy who was at a dinner party with eight other gay guys and they all realized they were going to vote for Prop 8.

She also claimed to have gay employees during her campaign for Question 1 in Maine, but I don’t have a link for that.

Now, as for her claims – it’s pretty easy to make up a story about a fictitious e-mail (it’s also easy to have an employee create a gmail account and send phony letters of support from an internet cafe – just sayin), and I’ve never seen Maggie name names of the gays on her payroll. She continually claims that she won’t name the gay employees because she’s concerned that those employees will face retaliation from other gays.

Maggie’s performance at the debate was absolutely abysmal – she won’t answer a question directly and she can’t refute anyone’s argument. It’s all about nailing herself to a cross. Around the 61:00 mark, Andrew challenges her about Catholic Charities in DC and she outright admits she has no idea what she’s talking about.

Truly, this is one of the best point-and-laugh-at-her moments. If only it wasn’t so dreadfully unfunny.

rusty

I did watch Maggie and Andrew at the Cato and remember here saying that she did have gay folk who work at NOM that oppose Gay Marriage but not sure if she was referring to past or current folk. . .Benkof comes to mind.

but at the new civil rights movement David Badash writes:
And then there’s Maggie Gallagher. I love Maggie. I truly do. Because she so steadfastly believes in her bigotry, she wields and displays it openly and proudly. It makes it so easy to expose her hate and bigotry.

You’ll see Maggie claim she knows many gay people who don’t believe in gay rights. She claims some of them work for her. I hope she is wrong. I can’t imagine any greater treasonous act to one’s community.

Timothy Kincaid

Pintuck

I did not claim that you carry water for the Folsom Street Fair. I claimed that you carry water for the people who would say it is “homophobic” to say that the Folsom Street Fair is bad for gay people. Which is to say, ghetto gays. You know, the people I have nothing in common with, and you think I suck because I don’t want to have anything to do with them.

Instead of badgering you to explain why, I’d like to offer that your motivation in criticizing Jimmy is more pragmatic than it is principled. What you are attacking is the notions that gay people should be divided and attack each other, not Jimmy or integrationist gays. In other words, you’re standing up for the notion of “gay community”. And if you’re going to defend unity among groups of people with different values and goals, then someone ultimately has to get slighted in the compromise: that’s just the way things are and sometimes people have to be sacrificed for the greater good. In that sense, you would reject as nonsense the notion of “taking sides” because, in your point of view, you’re standing up for all gay people. It would also cause you to see me as nothing more than a belligerent jerk since, in your view, my “side” is nonexistent and thus I have no legitimate gripe. Let me know if this analysis hits the mark closer than my “carrying water” accusation, because, ultimately, I’m trying to understand, not fight. But I don’t suspect expect you to believe that at this point.

For what it’s worth, I think you have the well-being of gay people close to your heart, and I appreciate what you do here.

Priya Lynn

Pintuk said “It would also cause you to see me as nothing more than a belligerent jerk since, in your view, my “side” is nonexistent and thus I have no legitimate gripe.”.

Gays who are into sex and drugs and pride parades aren’t forcing you to do those things and aren’t forcing you to be their friends so you have no legitimate gripe. You’re free to live your life as you choose so do so and stop whining about others doing the same.

Timothy Kincaid

You are mistaken in the motivations, attitudes, and beliefs that you have attributed to me.

If you are “trying to understand” and are willing to accept any advice, I’d suggest that you spend more time listening to others and less time telling them why you disagree with what you assume to be their opinions. You have made for yourself enemies that exist only in your own imagination.

While there are no doubt people who would not care for you or your chosen manner of living (that’s pretty much a given for everyone, gay or straight), at present you seem mostly to be tilting at windmills.

Notice him trot out the “Ward Cleaver” gay ghetto cliche. This is because he inhabits a world where a gay man either A) celebrates the compulsive pursuit of sex and drugs, or B) is Ward Cleaver and deserving of mockery. It is black and white to Jason D. There is no middle ground. It would be predictable for Jason D or one of his friends to next accuse me of being a “bitter, fat old queen who can’t get laid any more”. If that accusation strikes you as odd, then you aren’t part of gay culture, either.

That said, will you please retract your claim that Jimmy “couldn’t resist getting in his digs”? It ascribes a nefarious motive where there is none. He’s admitting the fact that there is a rift between gays who integrate and ghetto gays who delight in making them look bad.

Jason, I’m glad you disapprove of me. Your approval is the last thing that I want. I agree that you and your people stand in the way of gay acceptance. And I think you agree with me that you don’t want acceptance because that would preclude you and your friends from living your freaky lifestyle, which you wrongly equate with “being gay”. We are two very different people, inhabiting two very different communities with little in common except for our mutual contempt, and I think we both prefer it that way. I think that’s the common ground that can help us find mutual respect.”

Wow, I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone cherry pick and intentionally misrepresent what I’ve written this much or this badly. It’s like you read the bizarro world version of my post, where some of the words are the same, but everything else is the exact opposite both in tone and meaning.

Nor have I ever seen someone paint a life for me that doesn’t come anywhere close to what is actually going on. I mean, wow, I’m glad my life isn’t a movie, and this post from pin isn’t the trailer — everyone would be greatly disappointed.

I could write a lengthy response, but I think I’d get tired of writing “no, that’s not even close to the truth” that many times in a row.

Pintuck

What I trying to understand is why YOU scornfully criticize gay people for wanting to distance themselves from ghetto gays and their freak culture. If not a pragmatic concern for “gay community”, then what?

You had at least two ways you could have prefaced Jimmy’s comments about pride parades:

Option A) “And Jimmy had some valid points some of the stereotypical behavior displayed at pride parades.”

Option B) “But Jimmy could not resist getting in his digs about the “not like me” gays with whom he finds so little in common.”

Pintuck

“I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone cherry pick and intentionally misrepresent what I’ve written this much or this badly.”

1. You are defended the “leathermen, gym bunnies, draq queens, and freaks” who don’t give a sh!t about acceptance or about gays who want acceptance.

2. You accused me of wanting all gays to be like “Ward and the Beaver”.

That is the standard, black-and-white, ghetto gay POV. You perfectly represented yourself and your culture, which is very different from and separate from mine. And that’s exactly how you want it. You think my “Ward Cleaver” culture sucks, and that is exactly how I feel about yours. We see eye-to-eye.

“I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone cherry pick and intentionally misrepresent what I’ve written this much or this badly.”

1. You are defended the “leathermen, gym bunnies, draq queens, and freaks” “

Yes

“who don’t give a sh!t about acceptance or about gays who want acceptance.

No
This extra part is all you, Pin. I said nothing of the kind. You are connecting the dots between two ideas that are not necessarily connected. I defended “leathermen, gym bunnies, draq queens, and freaks” but I did not ascribe to them the attitude of “not giving a sh!t about acceptance or gays who want acceptance.” That’s you layering into what I said your own biases against those groups. As if to say leathermen, gym bunnies, drag queens, and freaks are by definition anti-integration. I plainly said the opposite.

2. You accused me of wanting all gays to be like “Ward and the Beaver”.

No, I accused you of nothing. Period. I did not even address you. I said this:

Somehow, some gays honestly think and will EVEN SAY OUT LOUD that we should not let “the freaks” out in public. That somehow, if we all looked just like Wally and the Beave that straight people would warm up to us, no problem. That this whole struggle for equality would be over in seconds. Complete and total lie.

I was illustrating a point of view that I have run into. I did not say it was yours. At that point in the conversation, I would have no reason to apply this very specifc mindset to you. It would’ve been unearned. You had not framed your argument in that way, and nothing I said even implied I thought you did. I am VERY careful about how I pick and choose my words. You’ll notice I did not say your name, I used the words “some gays”. If I were to accuse you of this mindset, I would’ve just said so directly. I’m not exactly known for beating around the bush, here or elsewhere.

That is the standard, black-and-white, ghetto gay POV. You perfectly represented yourself and your culture,

I’ll stop you right there. You know nothing of me, or “my culture”. Just for the record: I have lived in the gay neighborhoods of Chicago, but I do not anymore. I live with my monogamous, sober, partner of over 3 years in the suburbs. I don’t drink or smoke. Jon had some wine with dinner on Sunday (birthday party for our brother in law at Moms) but beyond that, I don’t remember the last time he had a drink. It’s 10pm here and he’s passed out on the couch with the Discovery Channel on. And no, it’s not because he’s on meth, it’s because he has to be at work at 5am tomorrow and he was waiting for me to get back home from my rehearsal. Most of our friends are straight, not that it matters, and none of our gay friends (even the ones that live in the “gay ghetto”) resemble in any way shape or form the absurd stereotype you keep laying at my feet. I have yet to meet any gay people, in the gayborhoods or elsewhere, who come anywhere close to what you describe. I’ve no doubt they exist, they just don’t seem to be very easy to find in Chicago.

which is very different from and separate from mine. And that’s exactly how you want it.

You knew nothing about me until moments ago, and you certainly have no clue what I want.

You think my “Ward Cleaver” culture sucks,

No, and I said nothing close to that.

I said this: “That somehow, if we all looked just like Wally and the Beave that straight people would warm up to us, no problem.”

My criticism is of the notion that supression of individuality would lead directly to equality. I never said I had a problem with Wally or the Beave. I just don’t think everyone wants to be Wally and The Beave, nor should they. Substitute in GI Joe, Martha Stewart, Bill Gates, or anyone else for “Wally and the Beave” and the point is exactly the same. Equality is not, and should not be contingent on conformity to some arbitrary standard. That’s the point.

and that is exactly how I feel about yours. We see eye-to-eye.”

I wonder if your attitude has changed now that you know something about me other than the stuff you pulled out of thin air. I suspect not, because it seems you’re more interested in raging against people than having conversations with them.

Priya Lynn

Pintuck said “Likewise, gays who are trying to integrate aren’t trying to force ghetto gays to integrate, either. Way to miss the point.”

No, I didn’t miss the point. What I see is you coming here and whining about “ghetto gays” and how badly they reflect on you and how their lifestyle sucks but I don’t see anyone whining about your lifestyle, claiming it reflects badly on them and how it sucks. Its all you complaining about their lifestyle and no one complaining about your lifestyle. If you weren’t trying to stop them from living their lifestyle you wouldn’t be ranting about it. The “ghetto” gays are content to leave you to your lifestyle without complaint so why don’t you do the same.

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