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Being unequally yolked can be one of the hardest relationships you will ever be in. Single women are waiting on a true man of God. Married women are waiting on their husbands to get saved. The whole process can be so frustrating. I wrote this book to inspire people all over the world. There are some biblical principals that will not only give you the strength, but give you the wisdom to walk out the emotional roller coaster of an unequally yolked marriage. It also gives insight to the single woman on what to expect if she marries an unsaved man. It is so much better to wait on God for the right man for you. This book is nothing but real. You need to add this to your library and bless a friend with a copy too. Help me get the word out so others can be inspired too.

“This book gives a wonderful, transparent view of the first years of marriage despite the details of your unique marriage. I wish I had had this book at the beginning of my marriage. I felt some of the same emotions and had some of the same thoughts however my husband and I were both believers but I still remember having most of the same thoughts and emotions. I chose to hold on!
Thank you for being transparent in your experience and sharing! So many times we think that we are the only one going through tough times and that it is unnatural but by sharing your experience many will be able to relate and will be able to make a clear choice to hold on!
This is a great bridal shower gift or a newlywed.” ~Kacey Ferguson

Thank you for supporting the vision to inspire and empower women everywhere. Please share this, favorite it, like it, re-blog it…Help me spread the word! Be encouraged! And don’t forget to get your copy today!

Our perspective of being single and being married is hilarious. Single people are dying to get married and married people are wishing they were still single! Either life is wonderful with God and miserable without him. Some equate single to being lonely. If you think you’re lonely now, wait until you are married. Having a husband does not cure loneliness, it magnifies it. It’s a miserable thing to have a mate that doesn’t make you their priority. You are hungry for all this ATTENTION from the man you’re married to and you don’t get it…..deal with your loneliness first. Only God can fill your void. But here are some amazing things about being single!

Single people, you can come and go without answering to anyone. (I’m running to the store, be right back!)

You can spend your money on anything you want without “Making a decision together.”

You can come home from work and not have to worry about cooking for anyone. (Thank God for Zaxby’s lol)

You don’t have to deal with another personality or mood swings, and trying to please somebody else. .

You can lay out prostrate in the Lord, uninterrupted in any room of your house at any given time (Unless of course, you have children 😁) Mommy, why is your door locked? lol

You can travel where you want! (If you have time off)

You can live where you want! (eeny meeny miny moe)

You can hang out with your girls all night long. As a matter of fact, you can have sleepovers and watch chick flicks like Baggage Claim, Just Wright, and Mother’s Day while eating a bunch of unnecessary calories! (From my lips to my hips, yay!!)

But seriously, singleness is what you make it to be. It can be amazing or it can me miserable! Enjoy it to the fullest because if you don’t, you will find yourself being one of those married people looking back at your single life, wishing you were single again. Being Single is not a curse, it’s a blessing! And once you master the art of singleness, you will move on to the ministry of marriage. Then you will want me to blog, “Being married is not a Curse!” Just kidding. All smiles and have a Happy Friday!

On this journey, you may have encountered a magnitude of disappointing things. As a protection mechanism, you have set up walls. Your loving heart may have become a heart of stone. Everyone can see the the anger and the frustration, but they don’t know the story behind what you may be feeling right now. God desires to heal you from all hurt, disappointment, and bitterness. He is not asking you to open up to the world. He is just asking you to let him in. It is okay to admit your fears, anger, and frustration. It is okay to cry when it hurts. One mistake we make is trying to deny our feelings and look super strong, when in fact, we are weak and broken. In order to heal, you must feel! Talk about your feelings with someone who will build you up. Let God know exactly how you feel. After you have honestly dealt with your feelings, forgive. Now you are ready to start healing. As a start pray this simple prayer:

Lord I forgive those who have wronged me, as I ask you to forgive me of all of my wrongdoings. Lord I pray for a new heart and a new spirit. I am free from all condemnation, guilt, and chains from my past. I am loosed from the bonds of wickedness and defeat. I receive a new heart and a new spirit. I am moving forward and trusting you to keep me every step of the way. Lord I thank you for my new heart and my new outlook on life. By faith, it is done, in Jesus name! Amen.

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We hear it over and over again, that you must be extremely careful with distractions. The minute you make up your mind to start walking out the plans God has for you is the moment people will start to pull on you. You are thinking God sent them for you to minister to or pour into and they were sent to suck the life out of you. You have to know the difference between God sent and some just went. Only God can save. Only God can heal. Only God can deliver. He may use us as vessels, but if he is not in the midst of what you are doing, all parties will suffer. Do not get ahead of God by trying to save somebody that God has not called out of their sin. The Bible specifically let’s us know that if he is calling them out, they will come out!

John 6:37 All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.

There is an appointed time for everything. You have to let people make up their mind on their own terms. God assigns some to plant, some to water, and eventually he will do the increasing. Don’t burn yourself out with people who have no intentions of changing their life. You have to always remember what you were like when you were in the world. When you were ready to give it up, you did. But as long as you were doing what you did, you weren’t thinking about church, the preacher, or even the scriptures you once heard. Use wisdom when ministering to people. Make sure you are advancing the kingdom and not hindering your own personal walk.

John 10:28-29 And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s hand.

Once again, he is letting us know, his children belong to him. They will not be plucked out of his hand. He will give them life that will last an eternity. Start leading people to Christ and stop trying to be their Savior. Believe me, if he is calling them, they will answer. Continue to love, pray, fast, and be an example of Christ. It will not only save you time and heartache, but it will make ministering more effective when it is time. Be led! Be love! But don’t be distracted!

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We are supposed to forget what is behind us, live in the now, and look toward our future. But, how often do we find ourselves living in the past, looking at the now, and forgetting we have a future? Yes, we live in past hurts, past failures, and past disappointments. You are not there any more so why do you keep living in it? We look at our present finances, our present understanding, and our present spirituality. Stop looking at where you are now, it is only temporary. We forget we have a future destiny, future relationships, and future blessings. These are things to come so, you should always be hopeful and full of faith that things will get better. Lord, help us to change our perspective and put everything in its rightful place, in our lives. Whether it was our past, is our present, or will be our future- You were, are, and will be there! Help us to appreciate and embrace every moment of our life. Help us to let go of the things that have come to an end. Most of all, help us to walk into what lies ahead.

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Psalm 1:1 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

Where do you get your advice from? Have you ever had a situation so messed up that you had to talk to somebody about it? Of course, we all have. The issue comes when we are talking to ungodly people with ungodly advice. I am reminded of a time I was waiting on God to save my husband. One of the sisters in the church said, “I couldn’t be you, I would have left him a long time ago.” OK, wait a minute. That doesn’t sound like faith or God. There were a few things wrong with what she said.

If my desire is to see my husband saved, anything you speak contrary to that does not come from God. I am standing on his promises and his word!

God hates divorce, so why would you encourage me to leave him? God can fix any marriage with a little bit of faith and a whole lot of patience.

You are not me and you are not in my shoes, so you don’t know what you would do if you were me. Everyone reacts differently in their situation, one can only speak for them self.

We have to be careful of the advice we get from people. In this case I didn’t even ask any advice from her, she just started asking me questions and felt like telling me her opinion in the matter. Be careful of people who start asking you about your business. Everyone doesn’t mean you well.

Any time people offer you advice that goes against the word of God, you should walk away.

If they are offering you advice that didn’t work in their life, don’t attempt it in yours.

And remember this, misery loves company. Some people just want you to be as miserable as they are, so they want you to be in the same predicament they are in.

Stop following the counsel of the ungodly and start following Christ. He is the only one who will bring you to an expected end full of hope, joy, and everlasting life. Sometimes we just need to walk out the situations we are in and let them mature us. If he brings us out of everything meant to grow us, we will forever remain babes in Christ, with no power! Seek God first and everything else will be added! He will even add godly people to your life who can give you godly advice when necessary. Position yourself around people who will speak life into you. If someone’s advice or so-called encouragement leaves you in a state of confusion, defeat, and bitterness, you just got hoodwinked! That was sent from the enemy. God is not the author of confusion. Rebuke every word planted, pull it out by the root and close your ears to the person speaking in your life. Believe me, you will be much better off!

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God, I don’t have all the answers. God, sometimes I just don’t have a clue what to say or do. The only thing I am sure of is, you know. I don’t want to spend my time trying to figure out things and events that aren’t meant for me to understand. I do want to spend my time getting to know you, who understands everything. Please guide my heart, my mind, and my footsteps in every way. I am grateful for my life. I am grateful for the opportunity to serve you. And, I am grateful for your plan for me. As long as you have a plan, I will never be lost. I am found in you and I am ever so grateful! Lord I thank you. Make this your prayer today and find your strength in the Lord. He knows everything.