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I think it depends on why you leave him there.. Are you out partying, getting drunk and just living your own life? Are you not helping your parents with him (like buying his food, clothes, etc)? I wouldnt say that you are a BAD parent, just not ready to become a parent... If you are going to school, working, helping your parents with him, and its just more convienent, then no- you are doing something that will better yourself-- even if its just working at McDonalds- you are working and contributing somehow.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 11:56 PM on Oct. 14, 2009

My grandmother begs to take my son. She gets bored and wants the grandkids around. I feel just the opposite like I'm mean because I don't always let him stay. It really does depend are you asking them or are they asking you for time with their grandchild? You're lucky your child has grandparents who love him. Lots of children grow up without grandparents at all.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 12:05 AM on Oct. 15, 2009

if its ntuallybeneficial to both your son and parents let him stay and ignore the peanut gallery. if your just dropping him off without calling to go out and do your thing then its a problem