dunno but with his arrogant rude arsey messages he kept sending me I cant say I miss him

I found if you treated him bad and like a peace of S**t when responding he would get a kick out of it and end up like a giggly schoolgirl. So I think his bark was worse than his bite and was just a big pussy after all Quite a weird one

I would dare to say each and every one of us has issues. What onixotto's are if any only onixotto knows. I will say his personal emails were sensitive and often humerus. I personally enjoyed reading them.Being he is an artist I give him a little slack. Artist and New Yorkers express themselves differently then us country folk.

I may have posted things that have been interpreted as judgmental, sarcastic, etc way by some members. However I have made piece with nearly all I directly offended. Some I may even have a crush on. Onixoto is welcome back any time.

I'm basically new here but the few times I read his comments I could see where some might be offended. A few of his comments were hilarious so I figured that just must be his thing. You know the whole bait people into a debate by saying something offensive and then lighten it up with humor to balance it out? The one comment I got a kick out of was when he ended his rant with two very simple words... FUCK ME! For some reason I got a kick out of that.

Honestly, Onixotto was a good friend to me in my short time here on RJ. We had many e-mails that always gave me a smile and he was alot deeper then he let on in the forums. Yes he had a cocky attitude, yes he liked to push peoples buttons, but that is just how he was. It's a part of his personality on the outside.

I myself can get the same way with people I work with and some of my friends too. It is always done in a jokeing manner (which is kinda hard to let on about in writing really).

In one of his mails to me he had said "I have a BIG NY mouth on me and it tends to get me into trouble"...and I loved that about him. (jeez I go for the bad boys sometimes).

Personally I will miss talking to him on here (if hes gone for good that is) because even if some people had problems with him, he was always nice to me when we talked and gave me good advice and encouragement.

In a recent thread about disliking fems, Onixotto revealed a deeper level of himself with what he wrote. Not only was he defending them, but he was saying that his preference in bed was someone sensitive. I found that entry revealing and somewhat touching. I tend to perceive a person not by what comes out of their mouth, but rather what is in their heart. Perhaps his "courting rituals" were a little too coarse and inappropriate for this site....... Now the question that remains is...What the heck does "Onixotto" mean?????

NNJfitandbi saidI think a lot of people must have complained about him. At least that's what the powers that be told me when I contacted them about MikePhil's thread, which I found distasteful. Onixotto made a snarky comment, and a firestorm was created. I was stupid to get involved. I asked to delete the entire thread because of the nasty tone of many postings, which they did not do at that time. I then contacted MikePhil in private and stupidly injected myself further into this controversy.

After MikePhil and I exchanged an unpleasant set of private emails, the editors responded to me, saying that they were keeping the thread but chose to delete a certain member who had repeatedly violated the terms of service. When I went back to the thread, Onixotto's profile was gone.

The thread then degenerated further, and I ducked out because the whole episode was nauseating. It appears that the at some point the editors decided to delete it as I had asked them to do earlier.

I should say that I don't like the idea of any person being deleted, unless it can be shown the guy's pics are fake. Months ago, there was one guy who was using fake pix, and I told the editors about it. His profile was deleted. I found Onixotto to have more charm than some of the people who like to boast and sometimes insult people. He made me laugh sometimes and wince sometimes. In any event, it sounds like we all killed him, even those of us who (like me) didn't intend to.

The editors get to decide who stays and who goes. They created the terms of service, and they decide who lives by them.

Well, it seems like you have, alot of influence around here. Your statement amazes me. On one occasion, I reported Chucky, because of his insults to Chaser, on a thread, a few months ago, and I think most would say it was worse, than what went on in my thread, yet, the thread is still there (to the best of my knowledge) and Chucky, is still there. RJ never contacted me about it. Yes, you seem have influence

Seen, as you were trying, to get my thread pulled, did it ever cross your mined, to message me, and tell me, as a matter of courtesy? I also think it was inappropriate, of you to try and get it pulled. I interfered with a thread once (I didn't try and get it pulled) and I as told (by one of your buddy's, in fact) that it was inapproperate of me, to do so. He was right, and I wouldn't do it again. I too make mistakes

I have no idea, what your motives were for sending me that mail, but my feelings are, you have developed a disliking to me, and used that opportunity to have a go at me. I find it very cowardly, what you done, when you cant even show your face. I respect your right, to hide you face, and if you know anything about me, you know that, but if your going to bully someone (it is my opinion that that is what you were doing) you should, at least have the balls to show your face.

I'm not this fu*ked up, twisted person you think I am, that starts threads, to cause flame wars. I reject your comments about me.

You also suggested to me that in future, I ask my friends, rather than posting here on RJ. I thought that's what we were here.

Also, I posted in "All things gay" Some people thought it was a very gay thing to ask. Give me a list of things I cant post in "All things gay"

For all of you, Onixotto lovers. It would be nice to here you condemn his insulting comments toward me, and others. It wasnt his first time insulting me, and he mailed me once with an insult. I asked him, what his reasons were for it. I got no reply. I haven't heard NNJ, condemn what he sad to me either, but he seems to have condemned me. Is this not more, to do with body, than mind? If what you say about him is true, then there is potential for him to change. If he were to stop insulting, then, I personally would have no problem with him coming back. I don't know if RJ lets guys come back? I didn't report him anyway.

I didn't report or send your mail, to RJ either, NNJ, and I wont. I didn't block you either. I would like if this was resolved, as I had respect for you before you mailed me, and you have buddy's, and guys that like you, that I like and respect. I find it hard to believe that they would agree with your views on me.

I think I have a right to defend myself. Don't condemn me for that.

Mike

P.S. this post is not meant to be offensive to anyone. I'm just trying to express how I feel about what happened, and pose some questions. And my hope is that NNJ's views of me change, and it would be nice to see Onixotto come back with a nicer attitude.

I not sure Oxinotto belong here. We sound more straight that gay. He enjoy fucking women more that guys and brag about it. I am confuse about his sexuallity. Just like Chucky his one of the baddies in this forum and add colour and humour to it. Now his gone we only have hunky Chuck to keep us entertain.BTW just like Chucky he have a real good bodies (if those picture is real)

for the heck of it, here's some withering flowers in your memory, onixotto. i got them half-price from yesterday's leftovers at some filthy flower shop across the street. Belated Happy Valentine's Day!miss you.