October 21, 2010

I wanted to post an interesting question and answer thread I found on cuckoldplace recently. It’s a situation I’m seeing arise more and more. Usually it’s the husbands that are encouraging their wives down the path of hotwifery but as women become more knowledgeable about this lifestyle it seems they are taking control and leading the way into something that gives them the ‘have their cake and eat it’ life that holds so much fun and sexual freedom for them. You can see how when some women are given a taste they run with it. The response to this question comes from a occasional Bull who warns against a full blown cuckold relationship as he thinks that once immersed in this area of the lifestyle it is almost impossible to change without losing the wife or ending the marriage or relationship. Here is the post.

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My wife wants to cuck me. What do you think? I want to, but I worry she will become addicted. Don’t blame her for that though! Totally understand, but wanna be part of it.

There is a very great danger that both she will become addicted and unable/unwilling to stop and for that matter, go ever further esp. in certain predictable ways, and as well that you will become addicted too. While greatly, no enormously, changing the nature of the relationship between you. That doesn’t have to be a bad thing, but it most certainly can be, and yes you could very well loose her. The forces involved are large.

Look, I’m unlike the great majority of the guys who might talk to you here. I’m neither in this lifestyle nor do I want to be. Well as a bull, when the wife is hot enough and young enough, then yeah ok. And I have had an experience like that. I come here sometimes for two reasons: 1) for porn stories, identifying in my case with the bull; and 2) for the stuff about male female sexual dynamics, that this take it to the max extreme sexual life style reveals. Cuckoldry is not just about voyeurism, vicarious thrills through your wife’s experiences which she tells you about, and reawaking her sexual lustful side. It’s those things but the price of admission shortly becomes more and more male submission, your submission, to her, her dominance over you but almost always with 99% of the women that go this way, her submissiveness to her much more sexually adept, masculine, and big dicked bulls (who she and he will work to make seem psychologically to you, her and him are even more that way than might objectively have been the case when you start all this, and so on.)

Cuckoldry is a one way street. Once you start it and start submitting you’ll find it’s about impossible for you to stop it or slow it or climb out of it. It will all be up to your wife. She’ll only stay with you if there’s a side of her that likes to dominate a man, and yeah if you’re very compatible and a good husband otherwise, and well yeah a good money provider or good compared to her alternatives there, because the side that likes to feel feminine and submissive to one will be satisfied entirely by a bull for some time, a few regulars, a regular and his directed cock carousel, and similar variations depending on her, how submissive she is, and how dominant and into her her #1 bull becomes. It won’t at all be up to you.

As well though you might get more penetrative sex from your wife to start, as she feels sexually supercharged by experiencing other men, and grateful to you for allowing this, if you go the male submissive cuckolding route where it’s entirely about her pleasure and your doing for her, your goddess, it’s very, very likely to progress to her denying you any penetrative sex with her for longer periods, then denying your release from masturbation for longer periods, all to make you more nuts and more under her absolute control, willing to do anything, any chores or any humiliating thing serving her or serving her bull, that she wants. But she will probably want you to more and more orally service her, no release for you, all as part of the her control, your submission thing, and her pleasure is all that matters to both of you as between you two.

Now if you’re contemplating this but don’t want it to get out of control with your submission and denial from penetrative sex with her down the road, everything totally up to her and you powerless with her as she instinctively drags you further and further that way, inspired by sites like this and the advice she’ll get here for the hoards of submissive men here (most of whom by the way are single, don’t have girlfriends, and are at least bisexual - often after being left by wives or girlfriends after starting down this cuckolding route, unable to attract another for a good long while at least).

So if you have doubts about this getting out of control as you surely seem to, I highly advise you to consider what I’ve said. If you don’t feel strongly sexually submissive to women/your wife, but you do want to jazz up you sex life and her feelings of sexual lust so that you too can fuck her more and she’ll want to with you, then I STRONGLY suggest you approach this as a hotwife, husband in control or equal control couple, with anytime husband veto. See sites such as ourhotwives on the hotwifing not cuckolding side as they call it there to see what I mean in detail, worked out in real life. Lot more truth to fantasy ratio there too; less hot extreme stories than here.

You can easily go from hotwifing to cuckolding and it happens a fair bit, but mostly not or not all the way. You basically can’t go from cuckolding to anything but a breakup with your wife, which will be EXTREMELY difficult to impossible for you to initiate after a while in sub mind set, but not for her.

In hotwifing the husband retains control. And the beginning at least the wife asks her husband permission after details of the guy each and every time. He sets go slow rules to start with or might. It varies a lot but the point is in ways particular to the husband, he’s retaining control or at least veto. Which is made real and not just theoretic. There’s generally an understanding that it’s gonna be just sex for the wife and that if it’s not returning dividends to the husband of more and hotter penetrative sex with his wife, but rather she’s getting into her bull too emotionally and stops wanting to let her husband have as many sex privileges as her bull, then she’s got to break it off with that guy. And so on.

Unlike swinger lifestyles the hotwifing couple usually doesn’t let the husband play with other women but that’s not at all always the case. About by definition though he plays less and his wife is probably more tightly restrictive about who she’s comfortable with him playing with than he is.

At the polar extreme from cuckolding is hotwifing where the wife is fully submissive to her husband and fucking other men at his sole discretion to please him. This is rather a pimp/hot ho style, and yeah can involve her getting paid money too, though generally the main emphasis is on the sexual charge of it all. Here the sexual dynamics between the married couple is clearly husband dominant and her stud, at least mentally, wife his submissive to him slut.

In ending let me remind you. It’s easy to go from a hotwifing couple to a cuckolding one, with or without limits to the male submission and humiliation in cuckolding (a mixed style). It’s about impossible after awhile for men to get their wives once fully into and once she seems him as a sexually devalued male submissive, to go the other direction, or back to monogamy, unless she decides entirely on her own that’s what she wants. (Rather rare it seems once she’s been a cuckoldress for a good while.)

So be careful what you wish for, or contemplate. I’ve just tried to lay out to you what I’ve observed here and elsewhere. This is part of the fruits of my interest in the sexual/emotional dynamics involved.

9 Responses to “Wife wants to cuck me”

It’s true. I haven’t been cuckolding my husband all that long, but I already know that I never intend to stop.

Cuckolding is a progression… I’ve started my husband on chastity, I often go bareback (without my diaphram), and the intensity of my orgasms seem to increase with risk. I’ve even experimented with erotic hypnotism to guide my (now) reluctant husband.

Due to travel, lack of time or, let’s face it, just laziness, we had around three month without sex when I started fantasizing about my boss. Most of the time he taking me from behind while I bent over my desk at the office. It was so arousing. Story short, I told my husband I dreamed of my boss to avoid the blame. He got so aroused he made me elaborate on details as he made me love. I was literally like being with my boss. When getting dressed for work I made sure he realized I was dressing like in the dream. White lace low rise thong under a mid thigh flared skirt. At work I was so aroused. When I knew he was coming in I stood up and bent over my drafting desk. He got by my side and asked me about my drawing as if not noticing my suggestive pose but while discussing it he shyly slid his hand under my skirt. I was petrified but so aroused. I stopped talking, rested my chest on the table and gave myself to him. On ma way back I told my husband about it as if it were a fantasy. When I got home he had already masturbated. Since then we did not want to have sex anymore. Watching me dressing for him and listening to my stories is all he wanted.

Cuckold relationships are now mainstream, your wife or girlfriend is no longer shocked, but will respond with “oh you’re one of those guys too”.
The opportunity came to me with my girlfriend when exchanging fantasies and I shared the hotwife/gf fantasy. She certainly did not get out of control, did it on a very infrequent regular basis. I had to beg her non stop and it was like she was doing me a favor.
Yes the oral sex demand increased, but I just thought about the different cocks sliding in and out of her pussy.
It’s worth the risk, nothing is better for a woman with a husband or BF and the freedom to date.
For whatever reason, there is no bigger turn-on than your wife coming home at 3am after a date.

I agree with Steve, Alice and Don. I’m glad this website is interested also with affairs and not just cuckolding. I find the stories (true) exciting and the comments sometimes very informative. My wife is not aware that I know she has recently fucked some thick cock. I informed her that if she wants some cock other than mine that she should go for it as long as she plays safely. She is a hottie that runs and is in great shape, what an ass. I’m trying to convince her to have some extra cock and share the stories, but she says I am the only man for her. I am 100 percent sure she has had some thick cock recently but for now I’ll accept her lifestyle. I can’t believe that women think we aren’t aware of the new sex moves or the loose feel of there pussy. I love the excitement of our situation, but wow her lover (lovers) must have some thick ones. Someone is really working her and that pussy over.

One tall,beautifull indian lady who name is joyce and is born under the aries the ram(april 17th) sign told me “there are men more handsome than you”,when I was talking to her about beautifull indian ladies and I was telling her about this indian actress and telling joyce she is the most beautifull women in the world and there is no women better looking than her.She said “there men more handsome than you”I agree with her and she is right.I don`t care there are men better or more handsome than me.Women should like them not me.I should have told joyce I don`t care I will let my wife have sex with other men.I don`t care women don`t like me and I don`t mind my wife having sex with other men,especially if they are extremely handsome,strong and muscular, very smart and are highly attractive to women and could get any women they want including my wife.I love joyce and want to be her best friend,because she is so beautifull,brilliant,tall and very attractive.If we were married I would let her cuckold me and be a servant and friend to her and to her lover.I would love to watch them take showers together,kiss my wife joyce and make intense hot love to her.I would love it if he got my wife pregnant and slept in our bed and fuck my wife while I watch and I be just an observer but not her man or lover anymore.I love joyce and this is the ultimate hotwife cuckold fantasy.

I am born under the sign of virgo the virgin and joyce is an aries and I know who would be dominant in that relationship her not me.I love joyce and would worship her as a sexual goddess and would let her have sex with other men.

Strange as it may seem, despite the very obvious and very real perils involved in the cuckolding lifestyle, it is something I truly desire for my wife and I. The problem is that she has absolutely no interest; she was raised in a very conservative, “Christian” home and considers extramarital sex a “sin.” Needless to say, the age-old advice of “bringing home porn” for her to watch and “discussing it” will not work. I need a way to fundamentally change her way of thinking. And short of brainwashing or some sort of real hypnotic suggestions (which I’ve been assured won’t work), I’m guessing it can’t be done.

My wife got into cuckolding some time while I was in the military, that was six years ago. I couldn’t perform like she wanted and I wasn’t the biggest in the penis department. One evening she went out with her friends and I feel asleep on the couch. The house was dark and while I was sleeping two people broke into the house, striped me naked and put a chastity device on me. My wife arranged this as I found out later. I’ve been locked in my device for about 5 years. I go to work every day like normal people but when I come home I’m the house maid. I take care of all the cleaning, laundry, meals and care to all my wifes needs. Drawing her bath, shaving, finger and toe nails. At first I wasn’t happy about the setup but If I wanted to stay married and not take any abuse from her male friends, I was told just behave and do as your told. Also she has me sleep in a spare bedroom, the master is now her sex chamber. She has her boy friends and girl friends over for the night. Lately I’ve been in the same room while she has sex and I have to orally clean her and who ever is there with her. Now if you think I made this up your wrong this is real. She has been talking about babies now and I’m not include.