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blissful tantric massage in londonSat, 12 Aug 2017 11:07:46 +0000en-GBhourly1Punting Forumshttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/punting-forums/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/punting-forums/#respondMon, 31 Jul 2017 16:08:03 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=14294 Punting Forums or Sex Forums, are portrayed in Jane Champion’s new BBC drama called Top of the Lake – China Girl. Have you been watching it? I highly recommend it. Apparently, Jane Champion did a lot of research into brothels and the sex trade and she actually managed to get into a brothel, which is not an easy thing for a woman to do. I was struck also by her portrayal of a punting forum – a group of men sitting in a cafe, with their laptops open, discussing their experiences of various prostitutes they had been visiting in one particular brothel. As I mentioned in my earlier blog article on sensual massage forums, this bonding among men on punting forums, where they share information on the sensual/sexual services they have been receiving, came as a shock to me when I first found out about their existence. To my knowledge, this is the first time that punting forums have been portrayed so openly and honestly in a movie. The Guardian describes them as follows: ‘… and the ghastly porn-surfing bros who congregate at a cafe with their laptops, harassing the waitress and cackling over... Read more »

Punting Forums

or Sex Forums, are portrayed in Jane Champion’s new BBC drama called Top of the Lake – China Girl. Have you been watching it? I highly recommend it.

Apparently, Jane Champion did a lot of research into brothels and the sex trade and she actually managed to get into a brothel, which is not an easy thing for a woman to do.

I was struck also by her portrayal of a punting forum – a group of men sitting in a cafe, with their laptops open, discussing their experiences of various prostitutes they had been visiting in one particular brothel.

As I mentioned in my earlierblog article on sensual massage forums, this bonding among men on punting forums, where they share information on the sensual/sexual services they have been receiving, came as a shock to me when I first found out about their existence. To my knowledge, this is the first time that punting forums have been portrayed so openly and honestly in a movie.

The Guardian describes them as follows:

‘… and the ghastly porn-surfing bros who congregate at a cafe with their laptops, harassing the waitress and cackling over their exchanges with local prostitutes…….’ ‘ a group of keyboard warriors use their lunch break to rate sex workers on a website, demeaning them with every foul sentence they utter.’

And this misogyny is precisely one of the things that our tantric massage tries to counter. To give male clients a different kind of experience. A deeper sensual satisfaction, which combines empathy, understanding ,, communication and a deeper connection with their own body/mind/spirit. An inkling of a sensual/sexual experience with a partner which is at an entirely different level.

Of course, this is not what all clients are looking for. Just today, we received a request from a new client asking for a ‘tantric experience’ – but he made the point that he had been to other tantric practitioners, but he wanted a much more ‘intense’ tantric experience.

Im not too sure what he meant by more intense, and I suspect that he did not know either.

This is quite typical of many emails we receive….. Clients talk of ‘intensity’ ‘reciprocal’ touching, ‘tie and tease’ etc, but then put all these desires under the label of ‘tantric’.When in truth, what they are really looking for is a raunchy sensual/sexual experience, which stops just short of sex, as they are often married, and don’t want to feel guilty about cheating on their wife.

This miscommunication is, in part, their fault, for not analysing their desires clearly, and also in part the fault of the numerous so-called tantric agencies, whose masseuses are displayed in scant underwear, and who websites are no different to prostitute websites and give out the idea that tantra means raunch.

Maybe the so-called ‘tantric scene’ mirrors everything else that is currently going on in society, and the growing inability to differentiate between fact and fiction in the news and elsewhere. We are living in a society,which is beoming more and more neurotic and dysfunctional, but here at tantric massage London, we are determined to maintain the level we set ourselves right at the start – to provide tantric massage in the true spirit of tantra.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/punting-forums/feed/0Tantra Holidayshttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantra-holidays/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantra-holidays/#respondThu, 22 Jun 2017 14:29:23 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=14071 Tantra Holidays are important for our masseuses What I mean by tantra holidays, is that they need to take breaks every now and then, to restore their energy. We only have one masseuse working every day, except Thursday, which is when we have our special 4 hand massage offer. Most other agencies have many more masseuses on their books, so with them, you can probably easily make last minute bookings. We have been getting booked up well in advance and many of our clients need to plan ahead of time, especially those coming to London from other cities in England and from abroad. I have been asked quite a lot recently, why I don’t take on more tantric masseuses. But it is not easy to find the right ones. Also, I have always been very particular, and insist on selecting and training our tantric masseuses with a great deal of care. Since some holidays are coming up, I thought I would outline them now, in advance, to make it clearer for all clients re. who will be working on which days. Lena will be joining us starting Thursday July 20. Lakshmi will be away from July 14-31,... Read more »

Lakshmi will be away from July 14-31, so she will not be available during that period. We will still be offering our 4-hand special offer during the 2 thursdays she is away. Lena will be working with Jyoti on those two thursdays, ie July 20 and July 27.

Jyoti will be taking her tantra holidays from July 31-August 7. Lakshmi will be replacing her on Tuesday August 1 and Friday August 4. Lakshmi will also be available for our 4 hand offer on Thursday August 3, with Lena.

Celeste is off on her tantra holidays from September 18- October 15. So she will be away on the following Mondays:

September 18

September 25

October 2

October 9

Celeste will also be away on :

November 20

November 27

December 18

Lakshmi will sadly be leaving us mid-September, to return to her country and embark on a new career. We are currently seeking a replacement for her.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantra-holidays/feed/0Tantric Massage and Mindfulness are buzzwordshttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-mindfulness-buzzwords/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-mindfulness-buzzwords/#respondMon, 08 May 2017 18:34:48 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=13965Tantric massage and mindfulness have become buzzwords Both terms are used a lot nowadays, but few people really know what either of them mean. Mindfulness is being promoted by university professors, spiritual leaders, celebrities, as well as the NHS. It is being recommended to overcome depression, stress and over-thinking. But what is it? And what is its connection with tantric massage? Since mindfulness really comes from the Buddhist tradition, here is a quote from Thich Nhat Hahn, the inspirational Zen Master: “Living mindfully and with concentration, we see a deeper reality and are able to witness….. without fear, anger or despair.” Jon Kabat-Zinn, a famous American Buddhist teacher of mindful meditation, puts it like this: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally…… it is being alive and knowing it.” And in the words of Bodhipaksa: “Mindfulness is the gentle effort to be continuously present with experience” So different teachers explain it in different ways. For our purposes during a tantric massage, it helps us to be aware that we are not our thoughts. With the help of deep breathing, we can connect with ourself in a more... Read more »

Tantric massage and mindfulness have become buzzwords

Both terms are used a lot nowadays, but few people really know what either of them mean.

Mindfulness is being promoted by university professors, spiritual leaders, celebrities, as well as the NHS.

It is being recommended to overcome depression, stress and over-thinking.

But what is it? And what is its connection with tantric massage?

Since mindfulness really comes from the Buddhist tradition, here is a quote from Thich Nhat Hahn, the inspirational Zen Master:

“Living mindfully and with concentration, we see a deeper reality and are able to witness….. without fear, anger or despair.”

Jon Kabat-Zinn, a famous American Buddhist teacher of mindful meditation, puts it like this:

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally…… it is being alive and knowing it.”

And in the words of Bodhipaksa:

“Mindfulness is the gentle effort to be continuously present with experience”

So different teachers explain it in different ways.

For our purposes during a tantric massage, it helps us to be aware that we are not our thoughts. With the help of deep breathing, we can connect with ourself in a more total way and become an objective witness of our thoughts.

The point is that our minds wander through all kinds of thoughts and it is our thoughts which can create tension in the body, make us dwell in the past or remain ‘in our heads’ and out of touch with our bodies and what is happening in this very moment.

This is why, in our tantric massage session, we go through a few minutes of mindfulness meditation with our clients. This helps bring them into” the moment’ enabling them to relax and not to remain stuck in their thoughts and worries. They then can feel more deeply the various pleasant feelings and stirrings of energy in the body.

Many people are not even aware that there is a constant flow of thoughts In their mind when they arrive here.

They don’t realise that it is distracting them from the actual experience of the massage.

It is only after the massage has begun that they realise that they are relaxing, and not so much identified with all the worries of the day.

The aim of mindfulness is not to clear the mind of thoughts, but to be able to focus on what we are experiencing in this very moment.That is why It is a very helpful adjunct to tantric massage.

Osho clarified the technique. He said that instead of struggling against the mind by trying to forcibly calm it, we instead need to become an observer of the mind.

“Just like someone sitting by the side of a river watching the river flow by, sit by the side of your mind and watch…… Or the way someone watches the rainy sky and the moving clouds, you just watch the clouds of thoughts moving in the sky of your mind…. Don’t do anything, don’t interfere, dont’t stop them in any way. If there is a thought coming, don’t stop it, if it is not coming don’t try to force it to come. You are simply to be an observer.”
This is a very simple exercise and when tantric massage and mindfulness are combined in this way, the entire experience becomes much more powerful.

These techniques also form part of the sexological bodywork training which I have mentioned in a previous article.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-mindfulness-buzzwords/feed/0Male and Female Sexual Energy – Differenceshttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/male-female-sexual-energy-differences/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/male-female-sexual-energy-differences/#commentsSat, 08 Apr 2017 14:15:28 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=13871 The difference between male and female sexual energy has intrigued us throughout the ages. We only have to look at current book and newspaper titles to see that the subject is still on our minds: – Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus – The Secret to Mind-Blowing Orgasms – How Men’s Brains are Wired Differently than Women’s (from Scientific American) – Nurture your Feminine Side (The Chopra Centre) The ordinary male must ejaculate often or he will become frustrated, emotionally irritable and have little control over his mind. However it is not necessary that the build up of sexual energy should cause such symptoms. It is possible to learn to circulate the energy throughout the entire body, leading to a strengthening of the entire energy body and a rejuvenation of the physical. Through Tantric meditation, one can radiate orgasmic states throughout the entire body with or without a partner. Exchanging sexual energy with your partner and circulating and blending it throughout your bodies simply cannot be compared with ordinary orgasm With ordinary orgasm a small amount of sexual energy is built up and then released from the testicles in men and the... Read more »

The ordinary male must ejaculate often

or he will become frustrated, emotionally irritable and have little control over his mind.

However it is not necessary that the build up of sexual energy should cause such symptoms.

It is possible to learn to circulate the energy throughout the entire body, leading to a strengthening of the entire energy body and a rejuvenation of the physical.

Through Tantric meditation, one can radiate orgasmic states throughout the entire body with or without a partner.

Exchanging sexual energy with your partner and circulating and blending it throughout your bodies simply cannot be compared with ordinary orgasm

With ordinary orgasm a small amount of sexual energy is built up and then released from the testicles in men and the ovaries in women, into the genitals.

This release of energy is where the orgasmic feelings come from. For a male it is usually a rush of orgasmic sensations out the end of the penis. The small amount of sexual energy that causes these feelings will not be enough to create a full body orgasm.

For full body orgasm to occur the entire meridian system must be cleared and the vibration of the energy body raised. This is done through the cultivation and circulation of sexual energy and it will take time and practice.

Woman is naturally multiorgasmic

When the man lets go of semen, he is finished, but the woman is ready for more. When both are in tune with one another, they have increased vigour, improved stamina, enhanced sensation and unlimited whole-body orgasm.

For women, the normal orgasm does not result in a large scale loss of sexual energy.

According to Llewellyn Vaughan Lee, women have a certain substance in them that men do not.. It is a spiritual substance which can heal men. But women have to forgive men for what they have done.

Women are part of the sacred substance of life and they can bring it down into the world. They can re-energise the world.

The role of men is to protect the women and the work which is being done by women. Women have instinctual knowledge. They have been undermined by men and men’s linear thinking which makes women suffer unnecessarily, and leads to negative thinking due to their abuse. The energy no longer flows cleanly – that is the psychic soup in which we live.

Reverence for one another

Only through developing love,respect and understanding for one another can we blend the male and female sexual energy.

In the words of Osho:

‘Ninety-nine percent know sex only as a relief; they don’t know its orgasmic quality. Even if they think they are having an orgasm, it is not orgasm – it is just genital relief.

Orgasm has nothing to do with genitals as such. Genitals are involved in it, but orgasm is total – from the head to the toes, it is all over you.

What is orgasm? Orgasm is a state where your body is no longer felt as matter; it vibrates like energy, electricity. It vibrates so deeply, from the very foundation, that you completely forget that it is a material thing. It becomes an electric phenomenon

In orgasm, you come to this deepest layer of your body where matter no longer exists, just energy waves; you become a dancing energy, vibrating.

There are no longer any boundaries to you – pulsating, but no longer substantial. And your beloved also pulsates.

Now, sexual orgasm needs time – the longer, the better; because then it will go deeper into your being, into your mind, into your soul.

Then it will spread from the toe to the head . . . every fiber of your being will be throbbing with it. Your whole body will become an orchestra and it will come to a crescendo.

But if you are in a hurry the orgasm becomes just an ejaculation, it is no more an orgasm. It is local and very tiny, almost meaningless.’

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/male-female-sexual-energy-differences/feed/1Search Engine Optimisation for Tantric Massage Londonhttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/search-engine-optimisation-tantric-massage-london/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/search-engine-optimisation-tantric-massage-london/#commentsFri, 03 Mar 2017 14:09:22 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=13543 Since I no longer practice massage these days, I spend a lot of my time on admin type work, which includes research on search engine optimisation for tantric massage london. What that means is figuring out how google rewards websites by placing them at the top of search for a particular phrase or word. Naturally every website wants to be found by as many people as possible who may be interested in their services. In the field of tantric/sensual/erotic massage there is a huge amount of competition nowadays, not to mention all the escorts who have taken to labelling themselves as tantric massage agencies. Google are said to have their own algorithms to help them figure out how relevant a website may be. Since this is a secret algorithm, many SEO companies have been created specifically to make a living out of advising clients on how to create websites which will be ‘liked’ by google. Since I have time on my hands, and since I find this study quite interesting and challenging, I make a point of observing which websites in our field are doing well on search, and I try to figure out the reasons why. Our... Read more »

Since I no longer practice massage these days, I spend a lot of my time on admin type work, which includes research on search engine optimisation for tantric massage london.

What that means is figuring out how google rewards websites by placing them at the top of search for a particular phrase or word. Naturally every website wants to be found by as many people as possible who may be interested in their services.

In the field of tantric/sensual/erotic massage there is a huge amount of competition nowadays, not to mention all the escorts who have taken to labelling themselves as tantric massage agencies.

Google are said to have their own algorithms to help them figure out how relevant a website may be. Since this is a secret algorithm, many SEO companies have been created specifically to make a living out of advising clients on how to create websites which will be ‘liked’ by google.

Since I have time on my hands, and since I find this study quite interesting and challenging, I make a point of observing which websites in our field are doing well on search, and I try to figure out the reasons why.

Our field is rather specialised. Tantric massage is considered by Google to be part of the Adult Industry. So in the field of search, it gets lumped together with sensual massage, erotic massage and escorts disguising themselves as tantric masseuses.

One thing I have discovered lately is that many websites which seem to be doing well on search optimisation for tantric massage london are the ones that post beautiful large photos of topless girls or semi-pornographic videos with erotic imagery. I can only conclude that they get dozens of men clicking on the photos over and over again, to enjoy the turn-on.

Whether the photos are genuine photos of the available masseuses is neither here nor there. In fact, the chances are that they are not- it is easy to post any stock photo nowadays and that is what many websites are doing to attract clients.

So the truth is, in the field of tantric massage anyway, that Google’s search for the perfect formula, has led to even more cunning, deception, and manipulation. What a pity!

Hopefully the existing handful of genuine practitioners are also doing well because the truly excellent services are usually recommended by word of mouth.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/search-engine-optimisation-tantric-massage-london/feed/3Our Valentine’s Day Special Offerhttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/valentines-day-special-offer/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/valentines-day-special-offer/#commentsThu, 02 Feb 2017 14:52:28 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=13382 Valentine’s day is coming up soon It is one of those holidays which holds loads of hidden expectation for some, and can be a day of dread for many singles who don’t have a partner to share it with. Some people tend to dismiss Valentine’s Day as a commercial fanfare. According to some recent studies, women are not that into Valentine’s Day: their partner usually wants to have sex, whereas 43% of women have no interest in shaking up their bedroom routines, and 35% are more excited about the cuddling than the sex itself. 34% would rather spend the night watching TV than getting it on….. Valentine’s Day can evoke pressure for women to please their partners at the expense of their own desires. 23% of women said they hated having to shave or wax for their significant other, and 11% wished they could skip out on the lingerie. However, below is an article written by a female married journalist, with an opposing view: “Gents, I will let you into a little secret. When a woman says she doesn’t care about Valentine’s Day and doesn’t want to celebrate it, don’ believe her. If she practically insists on you not... Read more »

Valentine’s day is coming up soon

It is one of those holidays which holds loads of hidden expectation for some, and can be a day of dread for many singles who don’t have a partner to share it with.

Some people tend to dismiss Valentine’s Day as a commercial fanfare.

According to some recent studies, women are not that into Valentine’s Day: their partner usually wants to have sex, whereas 43% of women have no interest in shaking up their bedroom routines, and 35% are more excited about the cuddling than the sex itself. 34% would rather spend the night watching TV than getting it on…..

Valentine’s Day can evoke pressure for women to please their partners at the expense of their own desires. 23% of women said they hated having to shave or wax for their significant other, and 11% wished they could skip out on the lingerie.

However, below is an article written by a female married journalist, with an opposing view:

“Gents, I will let you into a little secret. When a woman says she doesn’t care about Valentine’s Day and doesn’t want to celebrate it, don’ believe her. If she practically insists on you not buying her anything, not even the obligatory newsagent flowers on the way home from work, don’t listen to her – you will only upset her.

The fact that my boyfriend-turned-husband and I had been together for 12 years really means we should grow up and be thankful that we have each other… I had agreed with him before February 14 last year that I didnt want any presents.

And yet, there I was, standing in our kitchen, a blubbering wreck becaue he didn’t do the thing that he said he wouldn’t do.

Blokes, it’s just not fair is it? You can’t get it right, I know.”

We suggest you come to us here at Tantric Massage London in Kensington on Valentine’s day, so that you can be pampered with our special offer.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/valentines-day-special-offer/feed/1Tantric Massage Schedule January 16-February 5https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-schedule/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-schedule/#respondSun, 08 Jan 2017 19:43:18 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=13248Our tantric massage schedule will change for the 3 weeks from January 16th. I shall be taking a break during that time and Celeste will be taking my place . She will be’The Boss’ during those three weeks. Please don’t expect the phone to be answered as rapidly as usual, or emails replied to as promptly, because Celeste will be working doing massages as well as doing all the admin work. In fact, you may get a better response by email than by phone during those three weeks. Also, Jyoti will be away from January 16-25. She will be doing a tantric training course in Germany, and we are all looking forward to hearing about it, and learning what new techniques she may discover. ___________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________________ Mon Jan 30 : CELESTE Tue Jan 31 : CELESTE, JYOTI Wed Feb 1 : EDEN Thur Feb 2 : JYOTI, CHANDRA Fri Feb 3 : JYOTI ______________________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________

Our tantric massage schedule will change for the 3 weeks from January 16th.

I shall be taking a break during that time and Celeste will be taking my place . She will be’The Boss’ during those three weeks.

Please don’t expect the phone to be answered as rapidly as usual, or emails replied to as promptly, because Celeste will be working doing massages as well as doing all the admin work. In fact, you may get a better response by email than by phone during those three weeks.

Also, Jyoti will be away from January 16-25. She will be doing a tantric training course in Germany, and we are all looking forward to hearing about it, and learning what new techniques she may discover.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-schedule/feed/0A Happy, Peaceful and Healthy New Yearhttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/happy-peaceful-and-healthy-new-year/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/happy-peaceful-and-healthy-new-year/#respondSun, 25 Dec 2016 21:37:44 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=13189 Merry Christmas and all our best wishes for a happy peaceful and healthy New Year to you all. We would like to give a big Thank You to all our clients – we love and really appreciate all the wonderful and unexpected gifts we have received from you, and we look forward to seeing you all again in the New Year. 2016 has been a particularly eventful year. Apart from devastating wars and displacement of refugees, the world has, in one year, lost so many of our Rock and Pop icons , movie stars and tv stars. The Uk voted for Brexit, and the USA voted in Donald Trump. It feels somehow, like the end of an era and the beginning of a new one. Let us see what 2017 has in store. Inspite of all the craziness and turmoil in the world outside, and the daily stress of London life, one of our main aims has always been to maintain a haven of peace, calm, and tranquility here. This has been an exceptionally busy year for us and we realise that many of our regular clients have not been able to make bookings because we have been booked... Read more »

Merry Christmas and all our best wishes for a happy peaceful and healthy New Year to you all.

We would like to give a big Thank You to all our clients – we love and really appreciate all the wonderful and unexpected gifts we have received from you, and we look forward to seeing you all again in the New Year.

2016 has been a particularly eventful year. Apart from devastating wars and displacement of refugees, the world has, in one year, lost so many of our Rock and Pop icons , movie stars and tv stars. The Uk voted for Brexit, and the USA voted in Donald Trump. It feels somehow, like the end of an era and the beginning of a new one. Let us see what 2017 has in store.

Inspite of all the craziness and turmoil in the world outside, and the daily stress of London life, one of our main aims has always been to maintain a haven of peace, calm, and tranquility here.

This has been an exceptionally busy year for us and we realise that many of our regular clients have not been able to make bookings because we have been booked up so far in advance. We hope to organise things differently in the coming year.

Our masseuses also need a rest and so we will be closing shop for the last 2 weeks of January and all of us will be taking a holiday during that time. I will post the exact dates soon, on our website schedule.

In the meanwhile, we will be open until then, and suggest you book up in advance, if you can, for the last week of December and the first two weeks of January 2017.

Once again, all our best wishes for a happy peaceful and healthy New Year.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/happy-peaceful-and-healthy-new-year/feed/0Xmas Holidays at Tantric Massage London Kensingtonhttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/xmas-holidays-tantric-massage-london-kensington/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/xmas-holidays-tantric-massage-london-kensington/#respondThu, 08 Dec 2016 10:05:52 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=13074 Re. Xmas Holidays at Tantric Massage London Kensington We have been getting a lot of questions about our opening hours during the Xmas holidays. So to clarify, we will be staying open during that period, from Monday-Friday as usual, except naturally for Xmas day and Boxing Day. We have also been actively seeking a replacement for Uma who has had to return home. We do hope she will come back to us in the New Year, but nothing is certain at the moment – so in the meanwhile, we have been looking for another tantric masseuse to join us. Our special offer four-hand tantric massage is still extremely popular, and clients are asking for it to be available more often. We have now taken on a new masseuse, Chandra, and will be offering a special Xmas offer with her and Jyoti. This offer will extend for four Thursdays, from December 22-January 12, and will be £140 for a one hour four hand massage. Please keep an eye on our schedule on this website, which is always updated at the end of each week. It will always be kept current, but you may need to clear your computer cache in... Read more »

Re. Xmas Holidays at Tantric Massage London Kensington

We have been getting a lot of questions about our opening hours during the Xmas holidays. So to clarify, we will be staying open during that period, from Monday-Friday as usual, except naturally for Xmas day and Boxing Day.

We have also been actively seeking a replacement for Uma who has had to return home. We do hope she will come back to us in the New Year, but nothing is certain at the moment – so in the meanwhile, we have been looking for another tantric masseuse to join us.

Our special offer four-hand tantric massage is still extremely popular, and clients are asking for it to be available more often.

We have now taken on a new masseuse, Chandra, and will be offering a special Xmas offer with her and Jyoti. This offer will extend for four Thursdays, from December 22-January 12, and will be £140 for a one hour four hand massage.

Please keep an eye on our schedule on this website, which is always updated at the end of each week. It will always be kept current, but you may need to clear your computer cache in order to see it correctly.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/xmas-holidays-tantric-massage-london-kensington/feed/0Tantric Masseuse Umahttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-masseuse-uma/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-masseuse-uma/#respondFri, 11 Nov 2016 17:04:17 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=12974 Sadly, our tantric masseuse Uma will be leaving us at the end of November Uma has been extremely popular with our clients during the 6 months she has spent with us. She has been completely booked up for the whole time and I have received many compliments for her. Many clients do not want to place testimonials on our website, for personal reasons, but they have privately told me how wonderful her massages are. Uma has to go back home to sort out some family affairs, and she is not entirely sure how long that will take her. We do hope that she will be able to return to us in a few months time, but at this point nothing is certain. We are looking for another masseuse to replace her, but Uma has set a high standard, and we may not be able to find someone right away. Uma’s last day with us will be November 30 so if you would like an appointment with her before she leaves, she will be available on Wednesays and Thursdays and also Tuesday November 29 and Wednesday 30 which will be her last day. It would be advisable to book... Read more »

Sadly, our tantric masseuse Uma will be leaving us at the end of November

Uma has been extremely popular with our clients during the 6 months she has spent with us. She has been completely booked up for the whole time and I have received many compliments for her.

Many clients do not want to place testimonials on our website, for personal reasons, but they have privately told me how wonderful her massages are.

Uma has to go back home to sort out some family affairs, and she is not entirely sure how long that will take her. We do hope that she will be able to return to us in a few months time, but at this point nothing is certain.

We are looking for another masseuse to replace her, but Uma has set a high standard, and we may not be able to find someone right away.

Uma’s last day with us will be November 30 so if you would like an appointment with her before she leaves, she will be available on Wednesays and Thursdays and also Tuesday November 29 and Wednesday 30 which will be her last day. It would be advisable to book in advance as she does get very booked up.

After that, during the month of December, Eden will be working 2 days per week.

We do plan to be open during the Christmas period,

Do check our schedule on this website, as it is updated at the end of every Friday.

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https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/love-sexual-energy/#respondMon, 17 Oct 2016 19:08:51 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=12893 Love and sexual energy are deeply connected in ways that many of us are not aware The ancient Greeks, who were highly sophisticated, had six different words for love, each with a slightly different meaning: Eros or sexual passion – this was not thought of as necessarily positive, the way we do today. Eros was viewed as dangerous, fiery and irrational, as it could take hold of you and possess you. It involved a loss of control. Philia or deep friendship, which was valued far more than Eros or basic sexuality. Ludus or playful love was the affection and type of flirtation seen between young lovers, or at the beginning of a relationship. Agape or love for everyone. This is selfless love – an ideal sought in religious traditions. Pragma is the mature longstanding love which includes deep understanding and develops between long-married couples. Philautia is love of the Self. The Greeks were a very advanced culture and knew that there are two types of self love. One is narcissistic and childish, and the other requires deeper self knowledge – in other words, we can only love others to the extent that we really know and love ourselves.... Read more »

Love and sexual energy are deeply connected in ways that many of us are not aware

The ancient Greeks, who were highly sophisticated, had six different words for love, each with a slightly different meaning:

Eros

or sexual passion – this was not thought of as necessarily positive, the way we do today. Eros was viewed as dangerous, fiery and irrational, as it could take hold of you and possess you. It involved a loss of control.

Philia

or deep friendship, which was valued far more than Eros or basic sexuality.

Ludus

or playful love was the affection and type of flirtation seen between young lovers, or at the beginning of a relationship.

Agape

or love for everyone. This is selfless love – an ideal sought in religious traditions.

Pragma

is the mature longstanding love which includes deep understanding and develops between long-married couples.

Philautia

is love of the Self. The Greeks were a very advanced culture and knew that there are two types of self love. One is narcissistic and childish, and the other requires deeper self knowledge – in other words, we can only love others to the extent that we really know and love ourselves.

According to Omraam Aivanhov, a mystic, who lived in Bulgaria from 1900-1986:

“Everything is a question of love; apart from love, there is only emptiness, nothingness. Mystics say they are seeking God, but actually what they call God is simply the part of themselves that is missing.”

“Love is impossible to define or explain. It is a power, a principle, an emotion, a feeling, a powerful force, inspiration, understanding… But for love to be effective, you must understand what is is.”

How does all this relate to sexual energy?

The majority of men experience sexual energy as a kind of tension or itch which they feel they must relieve as soon as possible. So they do this without realising that they are also losing something extremely valuable – an essential essence which they could have used to regenerate their entire being.

The truth is that the sexual energy of human beings is a great gift, a divine force which can instead be pumped up all the way to the brain through the channels which nature has designed especially for this purpose. It is a gift from God and we need to learn how to use it.

Relationships, love and sexual energy are all connected and they are issues which humanity continues to struggle to fully understand. We need a new spiritual understanding. We need to learn to approach our partner as a reflection of the divine principle and learn how to use the sexual force to light the inner fire within us.

Repression and promiscuity are both undesirable and create problems, but sublimation of sexual energy is entirely different and can bring heaven on earth.

In today’s world, sexual energy is mainly experienced at a physical level. Most people dont understand the power of sublimation and so their energy gets dispersed.

Love and sexual energy are connected at the spiritual level, so any sexual activity should begin by connecting first with the light within, and with total awareness. Within each of us is a light, awake, encoded in the fibers of our existence. The experience of this in our heart is divine ecstasy.

In popular thinking, tantric techniques are a form of ‘edging’ or holding back the orgasm. Of course, that is a part of it. But it is not the entire picture.

If we really want to fulfill our true potential, we need to go beyond techniques. We need to look far more deeply within ourself. It can also be helpful to study the teachings of the great spiritual masters who all say the same thing and urge us to discover the love or energy which lies hidden deep within us all.

David Deida is a modern teacher who has become very popular

because he has been able to explain these principles in a modern, perhaps more easily understandable way. He has written a book entitled: ‘Finding God Through Sex’

” When it comes to sex, most of us want more. The question is more of what? When the depth of intimacy you have been experiencing is no longer fulfilling to your heart and body – when you sense that sexuality should go far beyond an embrace of of brief satisfaction – the time has come to explore your unique sexual path to the divine.”

Other works quoted in this article are:

https://sojo.net/articles/have-you-tried-six-varieties-love
Complete works on love and sexuality vol 1 and vol 2 by Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov
True Alchemy or the Quest for Perfection by Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov – chapter 13 the sublimation of sexual energy.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/love-sexual-energy/feed/0Our tantric massage video – drama of making ithttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-video-drama-making/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-video-drama-making/#respondMon, 05 Sep 2016 14:04:17 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=12745 Our tantric massage video which is on the home page of this website has quite a history behind it. I decided to have a video made many years ago because at the time, we were offered a discounted deal by one of the directories we had subscribed to. I hadn’t had the website for very long, so I was quite new to anything to do with websites. The rep/salesman from the directory had put quite a bit of pressure on me to have it made, and after some consideration, I also thought it would be a good idea. I felt it would give future clients the opportunity to see the environmnent they would be coming into and although we were not going to take them through the intimate details of the massage, they would be able to get a feeling of what to expect. The first step was for the video company to pick someone to come over to our place to actually film the video. However they kept delaying things and giving us strange excuses over several weeks. They finally admitted that they couldn’t find anyone among their regular staff willing to make it, because since the... Read more »

Our tantric massage video which is on the home page of this website has quite a history behind it.

I decided to have a video made many years ago because at the time, we were offered a discounted deal by one of the directories we had subscribed to. I hadn’t had the website for very long, so I was quite new to anything to do with websites.

The rep/salesman from the directory had put quite a bit of pressure on me to have it made, and after some consideration, I also thought it would be a good idea. I felt it would give future clients the opportunity to see the environmnent they would be coming into and although we were not going to take them through the intimate details of the massage, they would be able to get a feeling of what to expect.

The first step was for the video company to pick someone to come over to our place to actually film the video. However they kept delaying things and giving us strange excuses over several weeks. They finally admitted that they couldn’t find anyone among their regular staff willing to make it, because since the person receiving the massage in the video would not be wearing any clothes, it was considered pornographic, and could not be included on the videographer’s CV.

Finally, they found a very nice female videographer from Holland, who thought they were all being very narrow-minded, and she was happy to take on the job. She was a lovely person and, as it turned out, very creative. We were thrilled to have her.

We had a male client who had volunteered to be the the ‘body’ for the video. Celeste was already working here at the time and she has always been a very reliable person.

However, we also had two masseuses from eastern Europe, whose lives and relationships happened to be extremely complicated at that time. They tended to be rather unreliable and I could never be sure whether they would actually turn up. I kept my fingers crossed. The idea was that we would each have a role in the video.

On the day scheduled for the filming, the video maker and Celeste arrived early as well as our male client. We prepared everything in readiness. The first EE masseuse arrived 30 mns late, but once she had arrived, she seemed to enjoy the whole process of getting dressed up, picking her jewellery, putting on her makeup, and acting her role.

One hour into the making of the tantric massage video, and the second EE masseuse still hadn’t turned up. We needed her to demonstrate the four-hand massage. I was getting really worried. Fortunately, right at the last minute, 15mns before the end of our allotted time, the door bell rang and she had arrived.

She had to quickly get herself ready and we just managed to shoot a few seconds of her doing the four hand massage with the other masseuse.

It had been a scary process for me. I could not be sure until the last minute that everyone would turn up. I heaved a huge sigh of relief once it was all over.

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https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/sensual-massage-forums/#commentsFri, 19 Aug 2016 16:20:07 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=12627 Sensual Massage forums are used by several of our male clients Sometimes that is how they find about us in the first place. Personally, I was totally surprised when I first discovered that these forums exist and that their ‘raison d’etre’ is to enable punters to share information about the various sensual massage providers that they have visited. I have always felt that a tantric massage session is a personal, private and intimate experience. So it came as a shock to discover that intimate details of the massage were being discussed on an online forum and that personal remarks were being made about me, my surroundings and the masseuses who work here. I discovered that some men enjoy this form of ‘male bonding’ – the transparency and communication and sharing of feedback. There seemed to be an anonymous online camaraderie and a desire to communicate intimate details and to steer other members away from providers who did not live up to their standards – a genuine desire to be helpful to one another. The conversations sometimes become unpleasant and even gross and they often use their own acronyms. Male egos are on full display. I suspect this may be... Read more »

Sensual Massage forums are used by several of our male clients

Sometimes that is how they find about us in the first place.

Personally, I was totally surprised when I first discovered that these forums exist and that their ‘raison d’etre’ is to enable punters to share information about the various sensual massage providers that they have visited.

I have always felt that a tantric massage session is a personal, private and intimate experience. So it came as a shock to discover that intimate details of the massage were being discussed on an online forum and that personal remarks were being made about me, my surroundings and the masseuses who work here.

I discovered that some men enjoy this form of ‘male bonding’ – the transparency and communication and sharing of feedback. There seemed to be an anonymous online camaraderie and a desire to communicate intimate details and to steer other members away from providers who did not live up to their standards – a genuine desire to be helpful to one another. The conversations sometimes become unpleasant and even gross and they often use their own acronyms. Male egos are on full display. I suspect this may be an anglo-saxon thing, but I may be wrong.

There is a forum called FBSM which stands out from the rest. On that forum, masseuses who are providers of sensual massage can also join in the discussion and share their point of view. There is even a special thread there for masseuses to chat with one another privately and to share issues which they may have in common. FBSM is by far the more pleasant of the forums and in my opinon this is because there is a female contribution. It provides a welcome balance. And though many of the male members would probably prefer it to be an all male forum, you tend not to find the same abusive and misogyinistic type of attitude on there that you do on other uk forums where women’s views are disregarded or not respected.

The majority of women in the real world are most probably not aware that sensual massage for men is as popular and widespread as it is. And although husbands usually manage to keep these activities secret, it must come as a shock when wives do discover that their husband visits a sensual masseuse – quite apart from the fact that he also openly discusses his experience of what he calls his ‘hobby’ on online forums.

I have seen discussions on Mumsnet where women are horrified to find out what their husbands are up to.

There was an article in The Times a year ago, which suggested that women might enjoy services providing happy endings for them too, and maybe ‘happy endings’ would not be so shocking if all our friends were having them too – rather like botox….!

But after some research, the author discovered that the majority of women did not feel that they should have to pay for sexual gratification, as they could easily get it without paying.

Even the sexually enlightened Sam Roddick of Coco de Mer was not keen:
“Tantric massage is one thing – it has philosophy, methods and it is an empowered situation….
I can’t imagine other instances where either client or practitioner isn’t being exploited……”

The article ends with the remark: ” Women, there’s a lot of free sex out there. Why would you want to pay for it?”

We do get women coming to us for tantric massage and tuition

as opposed to sensual massage. Their motivation is usually to improve their sex life and heal past hurts. Sometimes they also come because they are feeling sexually frustrated. But the sensual lives of women will always be different, because they tend to be more complex than men in that regard.

I doubt that women would want to share their experiences on a public sensual massage forum, but you never know…… Maybe a forward thinking entrepreneur will set one up one day. It might even become a great success!

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https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-important/#respondWed, 10 Aug 2016 22:03:29 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=12551 What are you looking for in a tantric massage? From speaking to our visitors over many years, the following seem to be essential: 1.The premises should be beautiful, comfortable, clean and private. You want to avoid a seedy bedsit at all costs, and you do not want to knock into other clients. It is also helpful if the place is easy to find, centrally located and hopefully with parking, taxis or public transport nearby. 2.The masseuses should be talented in their profession, they should have pleasant personalities and enjoy what they do. They should also listen to you and adapt the service to your individual needs. They should be attractive both inside and out. You want to feel that they are being authentic and that you can relate to them as a person. 3. You are looking for the very best service, from the point of view of ease of communication in making the appointment, reliabilty and consistency of quality. You also appreciate discretion and maybe that extra special ‘something’ which cannot be described in words. 4. You do not want to feel rushed or hurried. 5. If you are a regular client,... Read more »

What are you looking for in a tantric massage?

From speaking to our visitors over many years, the following seem to be essential:

1.The premises should be beautiful, comfortable, clean and private. You want to avoid a seedy bedsit at all costs, and you do not want to knock into other clients. It is also helpful if the place is easy to find, centrally located and hopefully with parking, taxis or public transport nearby.

2.The masseuses should be talented in their profession, they should have pleasant personalities and enjoy what they do. They should also listen to you and adapt the service to your individual needs. They should be attractive both inside and out. You want to feel that they are being authentic and that you can relate to them as a person.

3. You are looking for the very best service, from the point of view of ease of communication in making the appointment, reliabilty and consistency of quality. You also appreciate discretion and maybe that extra special ‘something’ which cannot be described in words.

4. You do not want to feel rushed or hurried.

5. If you are a regular client, you also appreciate variety of technique and style. You do not want the massage to be formulaic.

6. Special offers are always a nice touch, and we do have our Special Offer 4-hand tantric massage at £150 per hour, usually twice per week.

7. You are not looking for an escort disguised as a tantric masseuse.

PLEASE LET US HAVE YOUR FEEDBACK ON THE FORM BELOW. THANK YOU

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-important/feed/0Tantric Massage in Kensington Central London and its Surroundingshttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-in-kensington-central-london/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantric-massage-in-kensington-central-london/#commentsTue, 26 Jul 2016 14:20:32 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=12374 Come to us for a tantric massage in Kensington Central London Visitors to London will discover that we are in one of the most sought-after residential areas in Central London. Clients often ask us where we recommend for lunch or dinner after their appointment. Of course, we always advise them to come for their massage on an empty stomach, but after their appointment, they have a huge choice of nearby restaurants and cafes as well as tourist attractions. There are so many cafes and restaurants nearby, we are really spoiled for choice. Our masseuses are constantly slipping out to get a coffee from Starbucks, and Sainsbury and Waitrose are just nearby for lunchtime grocery shopping. Or, a little further away, on Kensington High Street with its upmarket shops, you can find the largest Wholefoods Market in London, with several restaurants on its first floor. Just around the corner from us is the highly recommended Evoluzione, a high class Italian restaurant. And just 5 mns walk away, near Gloucester Road underground station is the well-known Bombay Brasserie There are also less pricey but also excellent restaurants, depending on your taste – The Lotus Garden an excellent Chinese restaurant near Earl’s... Read more »

Come to us for a tantric massage in Kensington Central London

Visitors to London will discover that we are in one of the most sought-after residential areas in Central London.

Clients often ask us where we recommend for lunch or dinner after their appointment. Of course, we always advise them to come for their massage on an empty stomach, but after their appointment, they have a huge choice of nearby restaurants and cafes as well as tourist attractions.

There are so many cafes and restaurants nearby, we are really spoiled for choice. Our masseuses are constantly slipping out to get a coffee from Starbucks, and Sainsbury and Waitrose are just nearby for lunchtime grocery shopping. Or, a little further away, on Kensington High Street with its upmarket shops, you can find the largest Wholefoods Market in London, with several restaurants on its first floor.

Just around the corner from us is the highly recommended Evoluzione, a high class Italian restaurant. And just 5 mns walk away, near Gloucester Road underground station is the well-known Bombay Brasserie

There are also less pricey but also excellent restaurants, depending on your taste – The Lotus Garden an excellent Chinese restaurant near Earl’s Court Road tube station, and the Papaya Tree in Kensington High Street, which is an outstanding Thai restaurant, which until recently was a well-kept secret among Kensington residents. You just have to walk along the Gloucester Road to find dozens more eateries, cafes and bistros.

A little further away, around the corner from South Kensington tube station, on Exhibition Road, there is a delightful square with ten or more cafes and restaurants, where in the summer you can sit and eat at outside tables in the open air and you will feel that you are sitting in some mediterranean resort, rather than in the centre of London.

That square is 5 mns walk from some of the main London museums: the Natural History Museum, the Science Museum and the Victoria and Albert with its great cafe, where you can also sit outside in the summertime. These museums are great to visit with children and they have gift and souvenir shops where you can buy presents to take home.

Another nearby place for gifts and souvenirs is the King’s Road in Chelsea, which was the centre of Swinging London in the 1960s. Today, it is the home of the Saatchi Gallery and also the hub for the popular television series: ‘Made in Chelsea.’ You can often see the actors from the programme meeting up at the Bluebird Cafe and other popular bars and restaurants on the Kings Road.

However, if you would just like to chill out after your tantric massage, you could go and sit in some greenery and breathe some fresh air. Holland Park and Kensington Gardens are both just 10 mns walk away. In Kensington Gardens, you can see Kensington Palace which used to be the home of Princess Diana. You can then take a walk towards the Albert Hall and the Albert Memorial along a lovely route in the park with the most beautiful scented flowers and park benches where you can sit and relax, breathe deeply, feel the bliss and take it all in.

Most of these places are within walking distance of tantric massage Kensington in Central London

If you do need to get a taxi, there are plenty on the Cromwell Road. Alternatively the no. 74 bus goes all the way from the Cromwell Road to Oxford Street, via Knightsbridge and Park Lane. I always think that travelling by bus is so much more pleasant than the underground, but it can take a long time during rush hour, between 5-7 pm in London, when there is too much traffic on the roads.

Luckily, we are situated near Gloucester Road and Earl’Court Underground Stations, as well as High Street Kensington tube, so we are well served by the Picadilly Line, as well as the Circle and District Lines.

For more details of Kensington sights and hotels, here is a usefulguide.

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https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/tantra-massage/#respondTue, 31 May 2016 10:17:11 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=12042Many of you have been trying to make advance bookings for tantra massage with Eden Eden has decided to study for a new career, and this will be taking up a lot of her time in the future. However, for now, she will continue to offer tantra massage with us on various days to fit in with her new studies. To find out when she will be here, please check our Gallery page. which will give you our masseuses’ schedule one week in advance. Eden has been a very popular masseuse with everyone in the past 3 years and we do hope she will be able to continue to work here for at least one day per week in the near future. For the time being, she will be offering our 4-hand special tantra massage on Wednesdays with Uma, who joins us this week. You will find a couple of photos of Uma and a brief description of her experience on our Gallery page. Eden may also be able to replace the other masseuses when they go away on holiday, so please keep an eye on our weekly schedule, which will always be posted one week in advance. For... Read more »

Many of you have been trying to make advance bookings for tantra massage with Eden

Eden has decided to study for a new career, and this will be taking up a lot of her time in the future. However, for now, she will continue to offer tantra massage with us on various days to fit in with her new studies.
To find out when she will be here, please check ourGallery page. which will give you our masseuses’ schedule one week in advance.

Eden has been a very popular masseuse with everyone in the past 3 years and we do hope she will be able to continue to work here for at least one day per week in the near future. For the time being, she will be offering our 4-hand special tantra massage on Wednesdays with Uma, who joins us this week. You will find a couple of photos of Uma and a brief description of her experience on our Gallery page.

Eden may also be able to replace the other masseuses when they go away on holiday, so please keep an eye on our weekly schedule, which will always be posted one week in advance.

For those of you who like to make tantra massage bookings in advance, we can tell you now, that Uma will be away on holiday for the second half of July as well as at the end of August, and Celeste will be away during the second half of September. Eden will be replacing them on those days.

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https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/secret-of-tantric-massage/#commentsSun, 01 May 2016 09:59:02 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=11871 What is the secret of Tantric Massage? Are there any secrets left in our modern culture, where answers to anything can be found at the click of a mouse? Bede Griffiths, the British Benedictine monk who lived in India and became a noted yogi, said: ‘For me, the great discovery in India is the discovery of the sacred. In india, everything is sacred: the earth is sacred, food, water and taking a bath are all sacred, a building is sacred.’ What does this really mean? Here in the west, we have lost this understanding and attitude. We have become used to instant gratification. But the problem with instant gratification is that the experience does not last….By its nature it is fleeting – and one desire leads to another and another and another…… Sacredness implies honouring a deeper part of ourselves, which leads to more permanent contentment, fulfilment, inner peace and the feeling of total satisfaction .The experience of being in the moment, rather than doing. This is what we all really want, but there is an underlying pressure in our society to strive to compete, to achieve, to spend , to perform . These are the things we... Read more »

What is the secret of Tantric Massage?

Are there any secrets left in our modern culture, where answers to anything can be found at the click of a mouse?

Bede Griffiths, the British Benedictine monk who lived in India and became a noted yogi, said:

‘For me, the great discovery in India is the discovery of the sacred. In india, everything is sacred: the earth is sacred, food, water and taking a bath are all sacred, a building is sacred.’

What does this really mean?

Here in the west, we have lost this understanding and attitude. We have become used to instant gratification. But the problem with instant gratification is that the experience does not last….By its nature it is fleeting – and one desire leads to another and another and another……

Sacredness implies honouring a deeper part of ourselves, which leads to more permanent contentment, fulfilment, inner peace and the feeling of total satisfaction .The experience of being in the moment, rather than doing.

This is what we all really want, but there is an underlying pressure in our society to strive to compete, to achieve, to spend , to perform . These are the things we are taught to do. Noone teaches us simply to be and to honour our deepest essence. So although it should be the simplest thing to do, it has become the hardest.

This applies to all areas of life, but here we are discussing tantric massage. Many of our visitors nowadays are so stressed by the time they arrive here, that they even find it difficult to just lie on the massage table and BE.

So let us look more closely at the different issues.

The body

According to Ayurveda, the human body consists of 72,000 nadis, or subtle nerve channels, which cannot be seen by the physical eye, and 107 marma points, which are the neuro-muscular junction boxes of the body. In order for the body to truly relax, it is helpful to work not only on releasing the tension in the muscles, but also on restoring and revitalizing the energy flow. The subtle energy needs to be unblocked and re-directed to flow through the energetic pathways . This enables the individual to become more vibrant and alive, as well as relaxed.

Massage styles with long strokes, such as Abhyanga or Esalen-style massage, which encompass the entire body, rather than massaging just the legs, or just the back separately are helpful in this process . A skilled masseuse can enable the receiver to experience his/her body as an organic whole . The entire body includes the genitals and the entire energetic system.

The mind

Our minds are very subtle instruments, easily affected by the atmosphere around us, as well as by our own thoughts.

Clients come to us with many different issues on their mind. They may feel guilty, nervous, ashamed, shy, unsure whether they will receive what they are looking for. So it is very important for them to be greeted with an attitude of acceptance and understanding,. When a masseuse empathises with and honours the client, this helps his/her mind to calm down spontaneously. We also teach basic meditation and deep breathing techniques, which combined with the peaceful vibration in our studio, all help to still the mind and encourage the flow of internal energy throughout the body.

This may all sound quite simple and obvious, but energy is a subtle thing. Keeping a studio clean and beautiful and lighting candles is one thing, but maintaining an upflifting vibration in the atmosphere is another. It helps if meditation has been practiced in the room, or if mantras are played for long periods of time and if the masseuse is a meditator. Mantras are said to purify the atmosphere and the feeling of peace can be very tangible and can help lift the mind out of its habitual patterns of thinking.

Some clients have a tendency to get into their own individual fantasies while receiving the massage, particularly during the more arousing part. We do not discourage this , as it is important to feel at ease. But we do encourage them to become an observer, a witness to the the workings of the mind and senses.
The more we are able to do this, the deeper we go within – thoughts dissolve as if by magic and bodily sensations become much more powerful. This is basic meditation. And it is not hard work, it is a very natural process.

Relationship

Some people, who are in a committed relationship, may have a sense of guilt about receiving a sensual massage from someone who is not their partner. However, sometimes their partner is not open to the idea of accompanying them. We explain that a tantric massage is different from a purely sensual or erotic massage.

They may be receiving the tantric massage from a stranger, but our tantric masseuses are qualified and have been trained to lead them to a certain experience – which they can then share and develop with their partner at home. Of course they are always welcome to come for tantric tuition, on their own or as a couple, and will receive even more personalised instruction. Many single clients come to us with a view to preparing themselves for a future relationship.

The idea is not to titillate the senses. The individual is encouraged to go deep within and to access the inner feelings, which are much deeper and more satisfying . This can lead to a total body experience which can be extremely powerful.

It is important to honour oneself and consequently one’s partner. To see the partner as sacred and to treat one another with the utmost respect. This will lead to a flowing meditation, in which each person is able to actually feel the love and respect in their heart. and flow from that place. We emphasise that there are no goals. The idea is to go with the flow of the inner experience . These inner feelings and sensations come from a raised consciousness and are far more powerful,blissful and totally satisfying than the outer senses.

Rigidity dissolves when the pressure to do and to perform melts away. It is replaced by a blissful feeling of inner connectedness, which leads to a much more spontaneous and flexible interaction between a couple. They understand that there is not only one way to be together or to do something. Nothing is wrong or right. They just both need to be in the moment. So, for example if a man loses his erection, that is not a problem – sexual or sensual play can still continue. If one of the partners is not feeling sexy, the other can give them a massage. There is an infinite variety of ways to connect.

These inner feelings can be accessed and strengthened whether an individual simply comes for a tantric massage , or whether he/she has tantric tuition ,or decides to bring a partner for tuition. Once the feelings have been experienced, they can grow deeper, more fulfilling and even more explosive with time and practice. It is a question of turning the attention within, instead of without.

To quote Osho:

‘ In your body there exists a subtle current of electricity, very subtle. But the subtler it is, the deeper it goes. It is not very visible. Tantra is alchemy, it can transform your centers… it is like bringing electricity into your house. Then you can turn it on and off whenever you want…. You have to imbibe the Tantra spirit – it is not a technique to be learned.’

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/secret-of-tantric-massage/feed/7Can Tantric Massage boost Sexual Confidence?https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/can-tantric-massage-boost-sexual-confidence/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/can-tantric-massage-boost-sexual-confidence/#respondTue, 16 Feb 2016 16:24:45 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=11719 Can tantric massage boost sexual confidence? First one needs to understand what sexual confidence really is. We could all start by asking ourself the question: ‘Am I a sexually confident person?’ Following is a pertinent quote from Osho, who was a popular guru, sometimes known as the ‘sex’ guru’ of the seventies: “ All religions have turned man against his own energies. Sex is man’s whole energy, his life energy. So through condemning sex…. and preventing the orgasmic experience, religions have made men and women slaves. And the basic strategy is :’because sex is the most powerful energy in you, sex should be condemned, a guilt should be created. Then the individual has a split….. his nature is sensuous, sexual and his mind is full of garbage against it. So man is afraid of sex as far as the mind is concerned, but his biology has nothing to do with the mind.The biology has its own way of functioning, so it will draw him towards sex and his mind will be standing there continuously condemning him. So he makes love, but in a hurry. He is hurrying because he feels he is doing something wrong. The... Read more »

Can tantric massage boost sexual confidence? First one needs to understand what sexual confidence really is.

We could all start by asking ourself the question: ‘Am I a sexually confident person?’

Following is a pertinent quote from Osho, who was a popular guru, sometimes known as the ‘sex’ guru’ of the seventies:
“ All religions have turned man against his own energies. Sex is man’s whole energy, his life energy. So through condemning sex…. and preventing the orgasmic experience, religions have made men and women slaves. And the basic strategy is :’because sex is the most powerful energy in you, sex should be condemned, a guilt should be created. Then the individual has a split….. his nature is sensuous, sexual and his mind is full of garbage against it. So man is afraid of sex as far as the mind is concerned, but his biology has nothing to do with the mind.The biology has its own way of functioning, so it will draw him towards sex and his mind will be standing there continuously condemning him. So he makes love, but in a hurry. He is hurrying because he feels he is doing something wrong. The only compromise is to be quick. That avoids the orgasm.

Because of his hurry, he cannot manage the orgasm. Sex has become equivalent to ejaculation. That is not true as far as nature is concerned. Ejaculation is only a part, which you can manage without orgasm. You can reproduce children, but you have become deprived. Man is deprived and because he is so quick in making love, the woman is also deprived. The woman needs time to warm up. Her whole body is erotic and unless her whole body is throbbing with joy, she will not be able to experience orgasm. So for millions of years, women have been denied their birthright. So they become bitchy… nagging… ready to fight…

Then you go for therapy . But without meditation you can go on painting on the surface, but the inner reality remains the same. My therapists have to introduce meditation as the very center of therapy. Then we have made therapy something really valuable Our therapy should give a person his individuality back. We give him his childhood and innocence back We have to teach people how to live totally and wholly…… Then orgasm will give you your roots, which have been taken away from you. It is immensely important for meditation that a person has the experience of orgasm……. Then you can make him understand what meditation is. It is an orgasmic experience with the whole existence.”

I have included this long quote from Osho, because even though it was written in the 1970’s, it is still applicable to us in many ways today.

You may be thinking that these things do not apply to the majority of people in the 21st century. There is so much open communication nowadays,knowledge and techniques are freely available, and we are no longer affected by guilt and secrecy. But the fundamental body/mind/spirit disconnection has simply taken other forms.Society and advertising exert different but equally powerful pressures. People may look confident but here, at Tantric Massage London, we experience every day that underneath the surface, there is a fundamental of lack of sexual confidence. Our connection with ourself as a sexual being is very often impaired.

We have allowed our culture to de-sensitise us and we no longer feel with the entirety of our being. We tend to be in our heads. As the inner disconnection between mind, body and spirit becomes habitual, men and women are no longer able to feel turned on in the usual ways. So they resort to fantasising all kinds of situations, or they can only have sex in a particular way, or they watch porn before they are able to have sex. Our society also encourages this type of behaviour. And this makes people even more out of touch with themselves and more insecure, because they compare their bodies and performance to those of porn stars.

Women develop anorexia and bulimia, because of lack of self-esteem. They worry about how they look. Their body can never be beautiful enough, so they diet, wax it everywhere ( as do men nowadays too) – they undergo all kinds of procedures like anal bleaching, breast enlargement, men worry about the size of their penis and have surgery to enlarge it….. all because of fundamental insecurity and over-identification with the body and its physical appearance and lack of connection with the true self inside.

So let us take a look at how this fundamental insecurity affects women, men and couples and the ways in which tantric massage and tuition can help. All of this can be helpful, whether one is single or in a relationship.

Our tantric tuiton process can be broken down into the following:

1. Learning to feel – Begin to feel one’s own body and senses, learn to slow down the mind and integrate body-mind-spirit

2. Education – provide information on what to touch, how to touch, what turns you on, what turns your partner on.

4. Connection – Feeling the connection within, which leads to feeling the connection with our partner.

WOMEN

Women often have the idea, sometimes sub-consciously, that the main thing is to keep their man pleased. So they concentrate on their partner rather than on themselves. When a couple come and see us and each want to receive a tantric massage, we advise them to have the massage in separate rooms at first, so that the woman can concentrate on her own pleasure.

Very often it is the male partner who initiates the idea of having a tantric massage together and he asks for the massage to be in the same room, so that he can enjoy watching his partner being turned on and also learn how to turn her on. And often, the woman will agree with him because she has become conditioned to wanting to please him and is unaware of how out of touch she is with herself.

So we need to explain to both of them that a woman needs privacy to discover what turns her, on before she can then show her partner. She needs to become familiar with her own vagina, to masturbate, use sex toys and generally be aware of and in touch with her own sensual responses. For this, she needs privacy and will be much more free, uninhibited and comfortable on her own.

We often recommend women to take a look at the website of Betty Dodson: http://dodsonandross.com, who is a pioneer of sex education for women. She was one of the first therapists to encourage women to get a mirror and actually look at their own vagina. As she says in her website: ‘ Our Bodysex workshops teach women how to overcome negative body image and pleasure anxiety.’ She encourages women to masturbate together in a group and to share their experiences with one another. Women soon realise that they are not alone, and that their issues are shared by most other women.

We explain all this to women who come to us for tantric massage. It is of special help to women who lack sexual experience. In today’s world, men increasingly expect women to be sexually confident and to know how to please them sexually. Gone are the days when women were supposed to be innocent. But we have found that many women who have been married for a long time, or have had several lovers, are still often disconnected from their own bodies and really do not know how to give pleasure to themselves or to their partner either.

Our aim is to provide a safe space for women to air their concerns, and to discover their own bodies – to learn what turns them on, at their own pace, without worrying about having to please anyone else at the same time. And maybe to experience an orgasm for the first time in their lives. We also tell them that orgasm is not the goal. There is no goal. We need to feel our feelings in the moment, in their totality, without the mind coming in, without extraneous thoughts, without expectations and without blocking the feeling. In this way, we learn what real pleasure is. And women also discover that once they actually feel intense bodily arousal and pleasure, this , in itself, is a turn- on for their partner. There is no greater turn-off for a man when he is trying to please his partner, than to see her just lying there and to feel that whatever he does is not having much of an effect. But men are not mind-readers. Women need to be able to show their partner what they like and don’t like. In order to do this, they must first know themselves what they like, and then have the confidence to show their partner, and to also have the confidence and tact to tell him if he is doing things that are uncomfortable and do not feel good. Both partners also need to be relaxed and not be in a hurry.

These are the skills we teach women in our tantric massage/tuition sessions. We also offer tuition to couples, so that they can practice on each other, with the guidance of a tantric therapist, so that they can learn in a practical way, what pleases their partner, and also to be entirely honest about what they like and don’t like. This process of self-exploration and learning to communicate in an honest way sounds so simple, but we have found it to be lacking in many people’s lives, and we have also found that once the initial hurdles of shyness and embarrassment are overcome, sexual confidence is the natural result.

MEN

In our practice, we have found that many men, especially from India and Arab countries, suffer from premature ejaculation because sex before marriage is still often taboo there, and so when they are young, they masturbate secretly and in a hurry. And after getting married, they find they have premature ejaculation and don’t know what to do about it. Their wives cannot help because they are similarly lacking in experience, and we find that when they come to us and learn to give one another a tantric massage, and learn to slow down and savour the moment, they experience it as a total revelation.

Premature ejaculation is often a habitual, psychological pattern, and so men need to be encouraged to last longer. We teach them a deep breathing technique which helps them remain more in their bodies, and less in their thoughts. And then we give them a slightly arousing sensual massage,and ask them to tell us when they think they are on the brink…. We then slow down and slowly bring them up to the brink again. We do this several times, and gradually a man begins to become more confident in himself as he sees his old patterns breaking up, and he lasts longer, almost effortlessly. It is helpful if his partner can watch this process, or be aware of it, so that they can practice in this way at home.

Also nowadays, in our heavily materialistic culture, men work so hard and are under so much pressure, that many more are now experiencing an inability to get an erection, or to maintain one, or they have very weak erections – they then drink too much coffee, alcohol, or take drugs, which makes things even worse, and by the time they come to us, they are often unable to relax at all. Many are on anti-depressants, which make it difficult to orgasm, and this perpetuates a self-fulfilling cycle of lack of sexual confidence. All the more so because they have an expectation that they should be the perfect lover and to be able to stay hard for hours and be able to give their partner a mind-blowing orgasm.

Men need to take time off, away from work and meetings, to relax totally. That is why we consider it important that they receive a real massage and not just a soft feathery type massage. When someone is really stressed, they need a deeper massage to get rid of the physical knots in the body. We also teach them to breathe properly, from the diaphragm, and this deep breathing automatically helps the mind to calm down. We encourage them to watch their thoughts and not to identify with them. This is basic meditation practice, which helps to stop circular thinking, or the repetition of the same thoughts over and over again, which is what happens when someone is too stressed.

In this way, the individual can begin to feel his feelings again, without thoughts getting in the way. He can begin to feel turned on and to discover that there is, in fact, absolutely nothing wrong with him. He was just too stressed. It is a real relief for a man to discover that he has not lost his sexual potency, and that everything is working as it did before.

Some men are also able to experience an internal orgasm without ejaculation, which is a very powerful experience, and leaves the body shaking with pleasure and total relaxation as the energy flows unimpeded throughout the inner channels of the body. Women can also experience this type of whole body orgasm and it can give someone an immense feeling of of peace , bliss and sexual confidence.

INTIMACY, CONNECTION AND THE QUALITY OF CONSCIOUS TOUCH

When we become too wrapped up in our thoughts, we can act in unconscious ways. We become led by the mind, instead of by our true intuition and feeling. And so there may be a tendency to touch one another in an uncomfortable , unpleasant or insensitive way. Many people need to be taught how to touch one another with awareness, consciousness and subtlety. They also need to be taught where to touch and what the opposite sex actually enjoys. When we are touched in this way, our heart tends to open and we feel that the other person really cares for us, that there is a true connection and a feeling of intimacy and oneness arises between us.

Our therapists often need to take the hand of a male client and show him how to touch, and tell him what feels good and what doesn’t, because he himself often does not know. A woman’s vagina can be a source of mystery to men. The same applies to female clients We are often amazed to see beautiful women and men, who appear so confident on the outside, but who really don’t know how and where to touch one another.. We encourage them to practice on their partner, to give one another a tantric massage, we show them how to touch and what strokes to use, and we encourage them to give each other truthful feedback. We have found that couples can sometimes be more honest with one another in this kind of situation, than throughout many years of marriage.

SEXUAL CONFIDENCE

Ultimately, as these tools are used and practiced, men and women experience their inner feelings in a more total way. They learn to trust them more and develop the courage to become more deeply themelves. That confidence encourages them to experiment and to try out new things, because variety is also important in our sex life. As we become more conscious, total, alive and integrated, we set clearer boundaries in our relationship with others. We learn to communicate honestly, without offending the other, and it becomes easier to relate, and to actually feel not only arousal, but also intimacy, love and connection in our heart. This is how sexual confidence gradually develops . And that confidence can then be integrated into a healthy, conscious and mindful way of being. We hope that this will be the benefit of receiving a tantric massage.

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/can-tantric-massage-boost-sexual-confidence/feed/0True Origins of Tantrahttps://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/true-origins-of-tantra/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/true-origins-of-tantra/#commentsMon, 25 Jan 2016 07:44:07 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=11678 For those among you who are truly interested in the origins of Tantra, the following article, entitled ‘A Thousand Years of Abhinavagupta’ will give you all the information you need: http://www.sutrajournal.com/a-thousand-years-of-abhinavagupta-by-jeffrey-lidke It is a fairly scholarly article and gives a lot of insight into the cultural traditions of India. Although it may not be of interest to many of our clients who come to us mainly for relaxation, I couldn’t resist doing a short article on it for my blog, as it does truly clarify what tantra is, and may give the reader some idea of why I keep saying that we should not be calling our massage ‘tantric massage’. The article is entitled ‘A Thousand Years of Abhinavagupta’ by Dr. Jeffrey S. Lidke. Abhinavagupta lived one thousand years ago (ca. 950-1020). It is said that his mother and father engaged in ritualized sexual union, so that their son would not be an ordinary being, but a channel for ‘a god-being to enter this world for the sake of revealing ancient wisdom toward the end of providing a path of liberation for worthy seekers.’ His education was unrivaled and today, he is recognized by many as being... Read more »

For those among you who are truly interested in the origins of Tantra, the following article, entitled ‘A Thousand Years of Abhinavagupta’ will give you all the information you need:

It is a fairly scholarly article and gives a lot of insight into the cultural traditions of India. Although it may not be of interest to many of our clients who come to us mainly for relaxation, I couldn’t resist doing a short article on it for my blog, as it does truly clarify what tantra is, and may give the reader some idea of why I keep saying that we should not be calling our massage ‘tantric massage’.

The article is entitled ‘A Thousand Years of Abhinavagupta’ by Dr. Jeffrey S. Lidke.

Abhinavagupta lived one thousand years ago (ca. 950-1020). It is said that his mother and father engaged in ritualized sexual union, so that their son would not be an ordinary being, but a channel for ‘a god-being to enter this world for the sake of revealing ancient wisdom toward the end of providing a path of liberation for worthy seekers.’

His education was unrivaled and today, he is recognized by many as being the main source for the understanding of the Tantra tradition. I will leave it to you to read the article if you are interested, and will just quote a relevant paragraph here:

‘May my heart shine forth, embodying the bliss of the ultimate……….’
“With these words Abhinavagupta begins his brilliant synopsis of the spiritual tradition that he himself would bring to an apex, namely the Tantra, or specifically the Tantra of the Embodied Triad (Trika Kaula), which itself was a particular lineage within the broader spectrum of pan-Indian Tantra. Abhinavagupta’s creative synthesis of the Embodied Triad placed emphasis on the use of the body as a means to attaining a non-dual state of recognition of the all-pervasive nature of divine consciousness……

Abhinavagupta identifies the mystical absorption of his Tantric practice with the cognitive act of resonance that flashes forth as the awareness that one’s own embodied consciousness is itself the very presence of supreme consciousness that is the object and goal of one’s meditative and ritual practice….”

]]>https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/true-origins-of-tantra/feed/1What is a genuine tantra massage?https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/what-is-a-genuine-tantra-massage/
https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/what-is-a-genuine-tantra-massage/#commentsTue, 05 Jan 2016 16:56:14 +0000https://www.tantricmassagelondon.com/?p=11630‘ I would like a genuine tantra massage’ Is a call that we often get. Potential clients will phone and say :’ your website looks really genuine. I am looking for a genuine tantra massage.’ I usually then ask: ‘What do you you mean by a genuine tantra massage?’ And the questioner often doesn’t know what to say. Sometimes they will say things like: an internal orgasm, or learning to extend ejaculation, but the majority of the time, they really do not know. And on our side, we find that however much potential clients may ask for so-called ‘genuine’ tantra massage, as soon as they are on the massage table, they start trying to grab the masseuse, they want to touch her everywhere, or begin to ask the usual questions like ‘ Do you get turned on by this?’ or ‘What made you become a tantric masseuse?’ or ‘Do you have a boyfriend?’ etc. And at the end, after experiencing the most mind-blowing experience, rather than allow themselves to sink into the feeling of total relaxation, they will feel they need to make conversation and ask questions like: ‘Are you busy these days?’ or say:’I must rush to my next... Read more »

‘ I would like a genuine tantra massage’

Is a call that we often get. Potential clients will phone and say :’ your website looks really genuine. I am looking for a genuine tantra massage.’ I usually then ask: ‘What do you you mean by a genuine tantra massage?’ And the questioner often doesn’t know what to say. Sometimes they will say things like: an internal orgasm, or learning to extend ejaculation, but the majority of the time, they really do not know.

And on our side, we find that however much potential clients may ask for so-called ‘genuine’ tantra massage, as soon as they are on the massage table, they start trying to grab the masseuse, they want to touch her everywhere, or begin to ask the usual questions like ‘ Do you get turned on by this?’ or ‘What made you become a tantric masseuse?’ or ‘Do you have a boyfriend?’ etc.
And at the end, after experiencing the most mind-blowing experience, rather than allow themselves to sink into the feeling of total relaxation, they will feel they need to make conversation and ask questions like: ‘Are you busy these days?’ or say:’I must rush to my next meeting, dont have time for a head massage at the end.’

It is interesting that once a man is lying on our massage table, and naturally feeling open and vulnerable, so many of his subconscious feelings will come to the surface, and he becomes an entirely different person. He may get into his fantasies and start calling the masseuse all kinds of different names, he may become quite gross and vulgar, he may declare his undying love, or his need to the masseuse, start reciting poetry or call her by intimate pet names or the names of past lovers and re-enact past scenes in his life.

I used to have a client many years ago, who used to tell me the same story week after week. At the beginning of the massage, he would tell me that before coming for his appointment, he would take out a girl friend in the car and they would make love inside the car which was parked in a park, with other people outside watching. Sometimes there would be a second girl friend there also, and they would have a threesome. I got treated to all the details, week after week. It was obviously his way of getting turned on.

Now, you may say : ‘that is not tantra massage.’ But from my point of view, I am trying to give a meaningful experience to anyone who would like to come here. It doesn’t mean that we don’t have our limits, but the mind is very complex. And people often think they want one thing, but it turns out that they need something entirely different.

From my point of view, tantra does not include fantasy. The idea is to be totally within oneself and not need the aid of imagination or fantasy to feel our feelings. If one is able to let go of all mental thoughts and preconceptions, the inner sensations can be felt so intensely, sometimes they are even overwhelming. But how many people are able to let go of their habitual thoughts and remain empty of thoughts? How many people even understand the need to do so? How many of our clients have a meditation practice?

So that is where the question:’Is this a genuine tantra massage?’ becomes meaningless.

It all depends on the understanding and experience of the practitioner, and also of the person receiving the massage.

At the end of the day, we have no expectations of our clients. They pay their money and they are entitled to receive a treatment which leaves them feeling better, more fulfilled, lighter and happier. If they want to get something off their chest, that is fine. If they want silence that is fine. If they prefer to listen to their own music, we will play their own music.

But for us, it is always rewarding when the person who gets up once the massage is over, and gets dressed and leaves, is more or less the same person as the one who was lying on the massage table 30 minutes earlier. The Jekyll and Hyde experience can be unnerving. Although clients are encouraged to feel free and totally themselves, we really do our best to explain our understanding of tantra to them, if they are interested.

Part of tantra is simply being authentic, real and integrating the personality. Not playing games, but being true to oneself. Being the same person, whether you are feeling turned on, or simply going about your everyday life. Remembering who we truly are at all times. The genuine ‘ME’.

In the same way. our masseuses are real, genuine people. They will not play games with you. They will not pretend to be in love with you, or to be turned on by you, they will not manipulate you or whisper sweet nothings in your ear. And because they are well-trained in the art of genuine tantra, they will respond to you in an authentic way also. We hope that this spirit of authenticity is catching and that hopefully some genuine aspects of tantra will be communicated in these subtle ways.

PS. This article is about male clients. Female cients have very different issues.