LO being bitten at day care.....any advice?

My LO (little one) goes to an in home day care and is very happy there. There is another little girl there who is about three weeks older than her and they have always been inseparable and gotten along great. Recently this other child has begun biting. The first day it happened her caregiver informed me and was really upset about it as she had never dealt with it in a child so young. The issue is that the child's parents don't seem concerned and kind of blow it off whenever the day care tells them. We pick our children up at different times so I almost never see them. I was there the same time as the dad the first day it happened and he didn't seem to care or even apologize. The care giver is trying various ways to stop the biting without much success. She tries keeping them apart, but they throw a fit trying to get to one another, she's tried a form of time out, making a loud sound when she sees her about to do it. Does anyone have any ideas or things that worked in your experience with a biter? I know it happens especially if a child is teething, but I can't stand the sight of a bite mark on my child or the possibility of her picking up this behavior. I just wish her parents seemed to give a damn. What kind of assholes don't even say "hey I'm really sorry my child is biting yours, we'll work on it at home."?

It's not going to be a win win for all of you unless the parents step up to the plate and help you guys out with the behavior. You shouldn't have to be worrying about someone else's child at daycare, and the caregiver shouldn't have to spend all day redirecting and correcting one child. I'm sorry this is happening to you, and your LO.

I'd remove my child, or ask that the other child be removed if corrective actions aren't taken for the child's behavior. Most likely the latter, no reason you should have to take your child out for another child's behavior and the parent's lack of respect, and acknowledgement of the situation. Them being assholes about it would piss me off enough to sit around and show them the bite marks on my baby, and ask them what they would do.

Yeah I took pictures and sent them to her caregiver so she can show the parents today. We would all be devistated if it came to taking her out as they have become like family. Obviously her safety is number one, but wtf people!

It's not going to be a win win for all of you unless the parents step up...

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10/15/2014

It's not going to be a win win for all of you unless the parents step up to the plate and help you guys out with the behavior. You shouldn't have to be worrying about someone else's child at daycare, and the caregiver shouldn't have to spend all day redirecting and correcting one child. I'm sorry this is happening to you, and your LO.

I'd remove my child, or ask that the other child be removed if corrective actions aren't taken for the child's behavior. Most likely the latter, no reason you should have to take your child out for another child's behavior and the parent's lack of respect, and acknowledgement of the situation. Them being assholes about it would piss me off enough to sit around and show them the bite marks on my baby, and ask them what they would do.

This! Plus what true said. If they were redirecting as well and showing an effort.

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