... been in a long dist relationship for the past year. We have met and have concrete plans to meet again. We both worried about whether or not reality would match with our expectations. It did, and then some. We are both simply crazy about one another. ... (11 replies)

... Comes from my own hellish experience. My boyfriend had an "ex" who would not give up and tried to stay good friendswith him. The problem was she could not handle him talking to her about us. ... (11 replies)

... sily get back together. I would continue to be friendswith her if you so desire, but as long as there is a former suitor on location who is still rubbing elbows with mom and is being allowed to spend every waking moment with her, I would just move on. ... (11 replies)

... mmitment to his girlfriend, but still, you were a potential sexual rival because you were a woman who he had wanted to have sex with, and who had wanted or toyed with the idea of having sex with him as well. No matter how honorable the two of you were, if I were the girlfriend, sorry to say, but I'd want you gone too. ... (56 replies)

... my boyfriend and i have been together for over a year, we even have a baby together....and him and one of his exs are bestfriends....he also said that the two of them would be friends no matter what even at the expense of our relationship....he choses her over me all the time. ... (50 replies)

... new what I was getting into when I leapt into this relationship, it was a gamble and even though I had countless people tell me it was a bad idea to get involved with someone who was still friendswith an ex I did it anyway, because at the time it really didn't bother me. ... (2 replies)

... He is probably keeping his distance because he doesn't want to get involved again. I think you should also do your best to keep your distance and just keep it a very superficial friendship. That seems to be all that he wants. ... (4 replies)

... My bf and I have been together for a little over 1 year. It has been the best year of my life. He has treated my wonderfully, kindly, and trusts me. Up until lately, I've trusted him with everything I have. ... (9 replies)

... There is no contradiction in my belief that exes as friends are holding on and that I'm ok with his friendships in general. I do think it's immature and it's certainly not for me but I don't care if other people do it, even people I'm seeing. ... (51 replies)

... i think you kind of contradicted yourself in this statement. you said that you think its immature to stay friendswith exes in the first place, then you go on to say that for him to be friendswith an ex is not an issue. ... (51 replies)

... ng to make any compromises or concessions. I suppose reassuring me that he thinks that I can get over it should be good enough but it's not. I've tried ending it with him on Sunday night and last night only to be met with a lot of resistance and feet stamping about resenting me if he lost his best friend. ... (51 replies)

... that isn't a very heartwarming post!! haha..but yeah, although I'm oblivious sometimes, I'm observant in these types of situations...I hope it works out when school starts in 3 weeks, and he can go visit her in Boston only if I'm present :) (49 replies)

... Wow, please keep us all updated! I'm glad that your boyfriend finally acknowledged your problem....now, however, you DO have to be careful that it doesn't turn into him lying about spending time with her. ... (49 replies)

... in our relationship from the beginning and just in the last few months has been the subject of a lot of our arguments. They dated for about 2.5 years, but he was friendswith her for a few years before they became a couple. All in all, they've been friends for about 12 years. My boyfriend is 31 now, and I'm 28. ... (22 replies)