do i tell my best friend i'm gay? he won't understand, no chance, none, nope, not at all, he's kind of a racist, he hates faggots, shit i hate fags, jesus where does that put me? he has no clue i'm gay, he's like my lil brother, this will completely destroy him, i hate lying to him. if i come out i will definitely lose my lil bro what do i do? i hate this gay shit, i hate having to choose, i hate all of it i jus don't understand, i fucking hate this

Johnnyhotsauce saiddo i tell my best friend i'm gay? he won't understand, no chance, none, nope, not at all, he's kind of a racist, he hates faggots, shit i hate fags, jesus where does that put me? he has no clue i'm gay, he's like my lil brother, this will completely destroy him, i hate lying to him. if i come out i will definitely lose my lil bro what do i do? i hate this gay shit, i hate having to choose, i hate all of it i jus don't understand, i fucking hate this

i don't really know what to say to you other than you will have to eventually make up your mind.

If he is your best friend, he will not think of you differently if you tell him you are gay.

i don't really know what to say to you other than you will have to eventually make up your mind.

If he is your best friend, he will not think of you differently if you tell him you are gay.[/quote]

no he WILL think differently, like i said, he's a lil racist, cocksucker faggot bitch ass dicksucker is somethin he would say in polite dinner conversation lol, i swear this is gonna fuck him up bad, it doesn't mean he's a bad person. it's jus gonna fuck him up, i'm not sure i wanna do that to him. th emore i think about it the worse the idea sounds

From what I can tell, people see it as others rejecting them, not others failing to understand them. Watching responses, I assume that you are supposed to become indignant that somebody is rejecting who you are, a part of what makes you unique.

All too often I see the advice "fuck them if they don't understand." In real life, with friends who you are close with, and especially one who you consider family, things may be different. It is your life, you are free to chose how you live it. When (if?) you come out, it is going to get back to your friend. Your choices, in essence, seem to boil down to whether you are content to live your life keeping secrets because you are afraid of upsetting your friend, or suffering the consequences. Keeping in mind that your friend may hate the idea of gay men because he does not think he knows any. He may or may not accept that you are the same person after you tell him, but lying for a few more years is not going to help matters when you decide that you need to tell him.

Dude that sucks...but honestly I had to tell one of my homophobic friends I was gay, at first he was unsure how to react but it turned out okay. If he is a real friend things have a way of fixing themselves.

And no need to delete this...its fun to have a whine sometimes, we all do it.

We have all had those feelings, or at least I have.It does suck, and I've always wanted someone there to rely on. Someone to catch me when I fall or pick me up when I'm down.

But I didn't have that until after I came out.

I came out to a few friends...then I rushed a fraternity. Best. Decision. Ever.

I felt comfortable with all of the dudes in it, and I came out to all of them, at once during one of our events and they were so accepting.

If your lil bro is going to hate you, so be it. You might get hurt initially, but all wounds heal with time. And what's going to make you a fuckin man, as opposed to a "cocksucking faggot" as he would say, is how you deal with the whole situation.

OWN UP TO IT. You're gay, SO WHAT. Show your little bro up. Just because you're gay doesn't make him the boss. You're still the older bro.