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So this is abuse, but...?

Posted by Anonymous

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Okay so if you leave your little one hungry or with a dirty nappy, knowing that they need it changed or need to fed it's abuse, right? However, if you leave your child when they need comfort and support it's called a method?

That just doesn't make sense too me. All three things are needs, but the latter is 'less important'?

Are you talking about the CIO method? I think people have different interpretations of the method. My method of cry it out is letting DD cry for no more than 5 minutes bc if she's not sleeping or being quiet after that long then she just wants some attention. And as her mommy and my SO as her daddy it's our job to give her attention.

When the baby is dry, full , and warm, and asleep when you put her/him down in his/her bed...but wakes up right when you put him/her down, do you still pick him/her up again? I don't. I got to have sleep too. Four hours of sleep and taking care of a toddler too is suicide on the brain for me!

Have you ever had a colicky baby, who only crys louder when you pick him up? I have! My son had horrible colic, all he did was cry. I would make sure all his physical needs were met, and then when that didn't work, i would try to cuddle him, or rock him, and he would cry harder. So I would meet his needs, try my hardest to snuggle him and lay him down. It was the only way HE would get sleep. You should be less judgemental of other people's methods. People do what is best for THEIR family.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Mar. 4, 2012 at 3:39 AM

Quoting boo1985:

Have you ever had a colicky baby, who only crys louder when you pick him up? I have! My son had horrible colic, all he did was cry. I would make sure all his physical needs were met, and then when that didn't work, i would try to cuddle him, or rock him, and he would cry harder. So I would meet his needs, try my hardest to snuggle him and lay him down. It was the only way HE would get sleep. You should be less judgemental of other people's methods. People do what is best for THEIR family.

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Bloomin CM playing up again.

Anyway at least you tried, some parents just don't try.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
on Mar. 4, 2012 at 3:42 AM

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Quoting nstroud:

When the baby is dry, full , and warm, and asleep when you put her/him down in his/her bed...but wakes up right when you put him/her down, do you still pick him/her up again? I don't. I got to have sleep too. Four hours of sleep and taking care of a toddler too is suicide on the brain for me!

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Of course I'd pick her back up, I'm her mother, it is my responsibility to make her feel cared for, if that means sacrificing some of my sleep than so be it.

*infants, of course... are the exception. Like I said, "people confuse a CHILD'S wants/needs"... by "child", I mean... not an infant... And old enough to start manipulating parents for things they "want".

When the baby is dry, full , and warm, and asleep when you put her/him down in his/her bed...but wakes up right when you put him/her down, do you still pick him/her up again? I don't. I got to have sleep too. Four hours of sleep and taking care of a toddler too is suicide on the brain for me!

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Of course I'd pick her back up, I'm her mother, it is my responsibility to make her feel cared for, if that means sacrificing some of my sleep than so be it.

I'm glad you can do that!!! I couldn't do it...I love my sweet angels and would do anything for them, but in order to take care of them I need to take care of myself too (including sleep). If I'm not attentive during the day at the playground or behind to wheel, or even at home, there are many things that I don't think about that could hurt my tot. I have to have roughly 6 hrs of sleep to clean, play, watch, cook, and take care of myself.

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