8 Ways Divorce Is a Gift

With the holidays approaching many of you going through the process of divorce have particular agita imagining what will happen when you spend the first Christmas or Hanukkah without your kids. It takes a lot of time to adjust to life when a traditional two-parent family is no longer intact. The new “normal” means creating new traditions and rituals and occasionally having to cope with being alone at a time once filled with life and joy.

To some, the divorce was anticipated and even welcomed after a long unhappy period. To others blindsided by divorce, the shock still may not have worn off. Regardless, the holidays are a tough time, particularly when there are children involved.

One of the best things you can do is to retrain your brain. If you repeat a thought often enough, it becomes embedded into your neural pathways. The issue with divorce is that there are so many negative thoughts it feels overwhelming even to go to a happier place.

In her book “Presence,” Amy Cuddy, famous for studying how the way you comport yourself or pose can affect your feelings of power, says the way in which you tell your story also affects your mental health. When it comes to tough times, if you can shift your perspective it might make the rough times ahead of you ever so slightly more bearable.

What if you thought of your divorce as a gift? I know, the one that keeps on giving or taking as the case most likely is. But try it out. Here are eight ways divorce can be a gift:

This holiday season, take the “gifts” divorce has given you and celebrate your new life. Who knows what treasures await you in 2017?

About the authorKaren Bigman, founder of The Divorcierge, is a Martha Beck Trained Life Coach and a CDC Certified Divorce Coach®. She holds a B.S.B.A. from Boston University and an M.B.A. from Columbia Business School. Karen has also completed Harvard Business School’s Executive Education Program ‘A New Path: Setting New Directions’. She is the mother of 2 young adults. Karen is successfully navigating her way through single life.

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