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Would You Write Your Own Wedding Vows?

I think, when Rory and I got married, people sort of expected us to write our own vows.

Where to start ...

I mean, I am a writer, so I guess that makes sense. But every time someone tells me they read something I wrote, I get kind of panicky. Do they think I’m a good writer? Do they wonder why I get paid to write? Do they think an editor’s crazy change was my idea?! So the idea of reading something I wrote—in front of 196 people I know and love—put me in full-on panic mode. Plus, Rory, wonderful as he is, has a tendency to wait ’til the last minute and wing that sort of thing. And the idea of him ad libbing his wedding vows just didn’t sit will with me.

So instead, we both said the same vows—and we read them from a piece of paper! They were basically traditional vows with a little extra flair. I don’t think they were the great, big emotional moment they could have been. But I think they got the job done.

Are you planning on writing your own vows? Or will you just say the standard ones?