Privacy Tips and Useful Info

Not everyone is "Out" as Poly or nonmonogamous, and probably don't want everyone to know they are members here. So here are some tips and useful info for privacy:

1- Our membership list is viewable only to other members of this group. If someone is not a member, they cannot see a membership list.

2- Under meetup.com, your email address isn't viewable to anyone. Not even the Organizers. You are labeled only as your meetup account name. There is an icon that looks like an envelope on your meetup profile and that's the only way we can contact you via email.

3- You do not have to give your full name on your meetup account. Instead of Jacqueline Reynolds, you could simply call yourself "Jackie R.", for example.This is useful if you're worried about anyone searching and finding you. (For any meetup, not just ours.) Some folks don't mind this, others will. If that's the case, you may want to take down your last name:Go to the top of the meetup page, click "Account", then hit the "General" account settings. In there, you can Edit your name information, and remove your last name. (If you have a very unique first name, then it's probably good enough. But if you have a very common first name, like John, or Matt or Mike or Amy, please leave at least a Last Initial---it would be useful for Event Hosts to know which one to expect at meetups! Thanks!)

4- Under your profile for meetup, if you need to, be sure to click the options "Hide my meetup groups from others" and "Hide My interests from others". You may need to do this under your profile for every meetup you are a member of, if you belong to more than just this one. This is by far the easiest and most effective way of making sure people who have meetup accounts, but are outside of our group, to not know that you're here!

5-NOTE: Unless you are an Organizer or Event Host, do not message other members of this group unless you have met them at least once in person and made acquaintances. This is just good manners, and helps keep our meetup feeling like the Safe Space we want it to be. Again, if you feel like you've had any violation of your privacy by another member of our group, be sure to contact the Organizers.

6-Contacts from other members: If you do not want other members contacting you for any reason, you can adjust settings to address this. Go to the very top right side of the page, and you'll see a button that says "Settings". Hit it, and go to the page for your Account. On the left bar, there's an option for "Email & Notifications". On that page, go to bottom. You'll see the option "Who can contact you on the site?" It will give you options for just Organizers, Members of your meetups, or any members. Choose whichever you prefer! There's a similar option under that for greetings on your profile.

If I have left out anything in error, y'all please let me know! Contact Robert R for any questions.

*PLEASE READ ALL THE FOLLOWING INFO BELOW CAREFULLY BEFORE APPLYING TO JOIN THIS MEETUP:

POLYAMORY:Having multiple honest, loving, intimate relationships with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. This group is for local polyamorists of all ages and demographics in the Raleigh, Durham, & Chapel Hill metro!

Polyamorymeans "Many Loves". Many people have both the capacity & the need to love more than one partner, and be able to sustain loving relationships with more than one. Polyamory & Ethical Non-monogamy are based on the understanding that love is infinite. Open, honest communication between partners is the key to successful loving polyamorous relationships.

We are interested in building a safe community here in the Triangle, having many fun social events all over the region---bringing together NC Polyamorists from Silk Hope to Spring Hope, and Everywhere in between! We're a community of welcoming people who accept each other and provide a safe space to be openly polyamorous and/or nonmonogamous. This is why when joining, we require prospective members to please completely answer a brief questionnaire to ensure they are serious about getting acquainted with the poly community and learning about polyamory---but are not using the group for "hooking up", nor as a "Personals Site", or other inappropriate reasons! (Don't worry--our membership rolls & member profiles can NOT be seen by people outside our group.)

**Note: This meetup is for Local people who are Polyamorous. Those who actually identify as Polyamorous but with no prior personal experience yet in Polyamory & Ethical Non-monogamy, and sincerely want to expand their horizons & learn more about these options, mayapply to join. *HOWEVER: we require that you have at leastfirst made the effort to research the subject and become at least somewhat knowledgeable & educated about the Basic Concepts of Polyamory, and have a complete respect towards these (and other) alternative lifestyles before joining. (If you have questions, just ask!) We have posted on our pages some great Links & Resources to learn more---please take some time and get acquainted with this vital info before applying to join!

By joining our meetup group, you agree to follow and abide by all these polices and expectations. If so, then we enthusiastically welcome you to be a part of our friendly community!

--->**When joining the group, meetup.com will provide you with a brief Questionnaire.Please answer ALL these questions thoroughly AND carefully! (Especially the question regarding your knowledge about polyamory!) And please include a clearly-seen Face profile pic. We use this to make sure everyone is serious about joining the community for the right reasons, and that they have at least a basic idea of what Polyamory is about.(And please keep it "PG-Rated"!)

**Incomplete, partial, or inappropriate profiles will NOT be approved !! Please answer all questions thoroughly! **

Thanks so much for joining our fun growing family, and we look forward to seeing you at many of our events very soon!

Please Note: This group is for the Raleigh/Durham Metro Area of North Carolina. Our meetups are held in Raleigh, Durham, & Chapel Hill predominately. Folks living in surrounding regions but have readily-available transportation into the RDU area, are free to join us. But please understand we mostly choose meetup locations on these three cities. For all other NC area poly groups, check out the bottom half of this link: Resources, and the new NC Polyamory page on Facebook (NCpoly). Join the group closest to you, today! Thank you!

***Account FYI:To join, you will need a Meetup.com account, if you do not already have one. Below, you will see that Meetup offers the option to join via Facebook. If online privacy is an issue for you, you might not want to do that. Instead, you may prefer to create a Meetup.com account from scratch with a secure email address. Thanks!

Disclaimer 1: By joining you agree that you are NOT a member of the media, press, or government looking to gain contacts to our group without the permission of our leadership or members for any story, interview, undercover investigations, or other negative implications towards this group, its members, or leadership.

**DISCLAIMER 2:Meetups are Informal groups of adults who are responsible for their own safety and well-being at all events, and when communicating with members outside of our events. We are NOT a "formal" nonprofit organization, but instead a loosely-tied group of people with a common interest and cause. All members joining our group acknowledge that this group and its Volunteer organizers & event hosts are NOT responsible for the behavior, past or present or future, of any members, outside of our events. When making new friends or acquaintances at our meetups, please take all precautions that you would if meeting a complete stranger at your favorite cafe, bar, or so forth. While we may indeed take action against members who break our rules while at our meetups, (or abuse our meetup.com website & email tools), we can NOT be expected to watch over the behavior of members Outside of our actual events. Thank you for your understanding!