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Should parents push their pregnant teens to choose adoption?

I was watching a program where parents of a pregnant teen were pushing and almost left no choice for the daughter to giver her child up for adoption. I understand their reasoning since the young lady was young and had a lot awaiting her. It just seemed like it went against the natural maternal instinct. It was hard and sad seeing her break down emotionally.

Parents should push their children to make the choice that's best for THEM... They should make sure they have all the information on ALL the options available and help them to make the choice which fits their lives, their wants and their needs... If that's adoption, then yes, by all means push for adoption. But if it's not... so be it...

I think that it should be up to the mother what she does. HOWEVER, the parents should be clear about how much, if at all, they are willing to help her. Then with that info she can decide if she will be able to keep the baby.

I don't think the parents should 'push' the teen to do anything... I think they should help explore the options and support her choice. One of my cousins had a baby young and was going to give her daughter up for adoption- when the moment came she just couldn't do it, and her family supported her in that. She's a good mom, and it would have emotionally devastated her to give up a baby that she had bonded to- I think her parents did the right thing to support her decision.