Toys - Male fantasy v Female wants and needs

I've had a dry spell the last few years, but have contacted some old friends in hopes that I can do some catching up. I've had a positive response, but both my friends are fairly large so I thought I would buy a toy to practice with before I see them (I've shrunk a little during my dry spell).

While I was shopping it started me thinking about a few things:

1. Why is it that larger vibrators (anything over about 7 inches) are never pretty? Smaller ones comes in pretty colours with cool designs. Sometimes they are shaped in a slightly interesting way. Larger ones always seem to be shaped like penises (usually balls and all), and coloured like penises. While I think this is in fact pretty on a real penis, it just doesn't work for me when it comes to vibes. Why can't I have a vibe that is both pretty AND large?

2. What's with the suction caps on the bottom of some of them? I mean, I know what they're SUPPOSED to be used for, but does anyone really use them (rhetorical question)?

3. Why are most of the larger vibes so squishy? If I had a guy who was as squishy as some of those vibes I would get rid of him pretty fast. Why do the makers of toys think we want them squishy? Or maybe other women do want squishy vibes and I'm just strange for wanting them to be hard.

So what's going on? I can't be the only woman wanting these things in a larger vibe. I think that maybe the biggest customers in the large vibe market are males buying for their wives or girlfriends. Maybe the makers are actually catering for male fantasies, rather than female wants and needs.

1. Why is it that larger vibrators (anything over about 7 inches) are never pretty? Smaller ones comes in pretty colours with cool designs. Sometimes they are shaped in a slightly interesting way. Larger ones always seem to be shaped like penises (usually balls and all), and coloured like penises. While I think this is in fact pretty on a real penis, it just doesn't work for me when it comes to vibes. Why can't I have a vibe that is both pretty AND large?

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There are large, non-cock dildos out there. One example. You need to look at a store like Ann Summers, one that specifically markets at women. Lots of variety there.

3. Why are most of the larger vibes so squishy? If I had a guy who was as squishy as some of those vibes I would get rid of him pretty fast. Why do the makers of toys think we want them squishy? Or maybe other women do want squishy vibes and I'm just strange for wanting them to be hard.

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Most of the large dildos / vibes I see are silicone, rubber or similar and yes, they are squishier. My guess (and it is just a guess) is that the girthier the object the harder it is to insert comfortably the more rigid it is, if you follow. Not to mention it feels less pleasant to move on a large, very rigid object (well it does to me). Having a little give is a good thing. Like many women here I have experimented with different kinds of objects - something very hard, like a slender glass or hard plastic container (e.g. perfume bottle) is less pleasant the larger it is. For me anyway. Perhaps you like that sensation. I don't. I prefer a little give. Even the hardest of cocks has a little squeezability.

EDIT: Have you looked at glass toys? I've never owned one but the people I know who do swear by them. I've seen them in all shapes and sizes. Expensive but apparently worth it.

So what's going on? I can't be the only woman wanting these things in a larger vibe. I think that maybe the biggest customers in the large vibe market are males buying for their wives or girlfriends. Maybe the makers are actually catering for male fantasies, rather than female wants and needs.

What do you (males and females) think?

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What I see does not appear to be men buying to suit their own fantasies. What I see caters for a broader ranger of needs than what you appear to be seeing. Shop around more. I know they are not cheap but I really like the range offered by Ann Summers. I've shopped online and in store with AS and find the whole thing a very female friendly experience.

Thanks for the advice MB. The stores near me are really pretty basic. They don't tend to have a lot and are definitely not female friendly. I suppose online is the way to go. It's nice to know that there is more variety out there though. Will try Ann Summers.

I have seen glass ones in the smaller vibes and liked the look of them. I'll try and see if I can find some online.

And I know I haven't REALLY shrunk - but yes, it feels as though I have. I'm going by the fact that the two guys I mentioned in my first post are both over 8 inches (not sure by how much - I'm crap at judging size - I'll post it if I ever ask them) and I used to be able to have sex with them comfortably. However, the seven inch vibe I bought recently seemed huge. I know it won't take too long to adjust, but I'd rather do the adjusting BEFORE I see them. Doesn't waste too much time if I do it that way

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1. try baddragon toys i would recommend the anthodragon you can get it in whatever color the smallest is the one i have it's 5.5 inches around and I think the medium is 7.5 and the large is like 10 inches or something. Massively huge scary toys. I'm sticking to the small

2.I have a vergil from baddragon in red it has a suction cup but I never use it. I guess it's in case you want to stick it to something and ride it.

3. I know you can get their toys in three different types of squish you want the hard I got my vergil in a medium and its like a floppy cock... aka why i would never use the suction base.

4. You can also try bigsextoystore.com, they have some massively terrifying dildo's also check the adult secton of ebay. I'm only recommending baddragon because you said you want color. The anthro is manlike I ordered one in cotton candy colors I've gotten most of my glassware off of ebay but they are all narrow more like an average to small cock. Goodluck!

I don't own extremely large vibes, so I can't help you out there, but I was going to comment on the idea that you've "shrunk." The largest one that I own is almost as large as TheBF, but not quite and it's a clear pink jelly one that's penis shaped and doesn't vibrate.

TheBoyfriend and I were long distance for the first year that we dated because by the time I was single he was no longer living where I lived. Sometimes it would be 3-4 weeks between dates, each one lasted between 2 days and 3 weeks, depending on circumstances. I mention this because I definitely shrunk during the time that we were apart. The first day that we would have sex together I was a lot tighter than the next day, every single time. He noticed it, I noticed it. It was really obvious. So the feeling that you've shrunk might not just be a feeling if you aren't getting it regularly anymore.

Well you got to think that the companies that sell sex toys are in it to make money. I suppose since there is so many men that think that the bigger a penis is the better it is for the woman, the more large sex toys they sell to cater to this fantasy. You have to remember a large part of using sex toys is fantasy to people. My wife and I own may different toys in all kinds of sizes have tried different things. We do not even have all of them still as many of them have been thrown away. My wife's personal favorite is a glass dildo that is not quite as long as me and is certainly quite narrow. It has a very pronounced head and is curved slightly. I have found when we use it we do not even insert all of it. Toys come in all different colors in all different shapes and sizes. We have noticed if you go into mainstream adult stores or on mainstream websites to look for toys you more often than not find toy selection to be more narrow in variety. The suction cup is supposed to be so you can stick it on a table or on the wall of the shower or in the bottom of the tub. We have not done this so far but that is what it is for. Larger toys quite often are softer and I think this is for two reasons first of all comfort when using it, because remember many times the man just wants to see his wife getting fucked by a really big one. If the toy swas really big and really hard it may hurt more than it feels good thus making a really bad exprerience for the lady. The other reason would be because many toys are mad of matierial that is supposed to feel natural the bigger the toy the more soft rubber or silicoin is used the less rigid it is going to be.

Petite it's good to see that someone else has had the 'shrunk' feeling too.

And thank you especially for the links MB and submissivegirl MB, I love the eXtreme restraints site. I can see me spending way too much money there
submissivegirl, the baddragon site is really cool! How cute are the toys there

Okay, I did say I would post the sizes of the two guys mentioned in my post if I ever found out. I asked one of them today and he said 10x6. Don't think he's lying either coz it IS big and he's not the kind of person to make it up. Will ask the other guy when I see him. He is smaller (by my guesstimate anyway) so I don't expect to hear him say 10