When it comes to men, don't be stupid.

It’s rare that you meet a guy that doesn’t have a “psycho ex-girlfriend” story. He’ll regal you with how possessive she was, how she criticized his every move, and how she wasn’t supportive of his dreams. You, in your head, immediately commit to not being *that girl* with him…because that’s how he’s going to fall in love with you, right?

Here’s the problem with the situation: If she was such a psycho, why didn’t he see it earlier and get out? Does he just have really bad judgment? What was his part in her “psychosis” – did her drive her to behave in such a manner? Or is it just a great story to gain sympathy and at the same time, communicate to females exactly the behavior that will “win” him? (Could he be striving for the “cool girl” who doesn’t bitch about his irresponsible behavior? Pay attention to the clues.)

I’m not saying that she wasn’t a psycho, maybe she was. The point is, I don’t know her and neither do you. The two things to remember here are 1) there are two sides to every story, and 2) if he talks about her like this, he’ll talk about you like this.