I actually know a couple of people who used to uneasily identify as bi- or pan- sexual who feel they can express themselves a lot better in the double-orientation system. My prediction is that the sexual/romantic binary will soon become more widespread to discuss 'bisexuality' than asexuality, which...

Of course, that's what we're doing wrong! Not having elected officials for our visibility movement! I feel so stupid. It's that time in every visibility movement's life when it has to decide that the previous system of just having lots and lots of people doing as much or as little as they can, in th...

I completely agree. Firstly, there are a lot of asexuals who want or wouldn't mind sex to varying degrees, by varying definitions. If I was more confident in my asexuality right now, I'd be able to count myself as one and be self-righteously indignant. Because these messages tell me quite firmly tha...

I think that someone can be a very close friend even if you've not met them in person. However, I think it's natural to categorise 'real life' and 'internet'. Depending on context, it may well not mean that 'real life' is better or more meaningful than 'internet', just more corporial.

Hi Michael. Personally, I think knowing you're asexual can often give someone a lot of confidence and clarity on their own life, and even if you never directly mention it to anyone, that level of confidence in who you are and what you don't want will eventually begin to affect the way you deal with ...

Thre's a software glitch that prevents me from seeing what I'm typing wny more so I have to stop now. I have that one. On pretty much every forum I go on. It annoys the heck out of me. And I've had personal experience with my university LGBT of people grabbing personal power. Call me hopelessly opt...

Siggy- I agree. People who's asexuality was caused by things shouldn't be a seperate category. After all, everyone's sexualities were caused by things. "It seems that I have a stalker. I left another forum because I was being subjected to both sly/underhanded and overt personal abuse, and the a...

Hmm. That's not actually as bad as I thought it'd be, from seeing the writing. Nowhere near as bad. It still kinda sucks that asexuality isn't seen as a valid option. Then again, for most people, it isn't. And I think, whatever the intent, this idea that asexuals are trying to be good and pure is a ...

P- I know what you mean about words and associations. One of my trans friends uses tranny constantly, and I have no idea whether and in which contexts I'm allowed to use it. I've also met someone who happily identifies as a hermaphrodite, because they think the term intersex sounds too much like &qu...

I feel like a n00b every time I post, since I've discovered that I can't possibly go through every single post ever made by an asexual anywhere (but feel like I should have done so!). You're just not trying hard enough!! I'm gonna go ahead and answer this even though: -I don't technically class mys...

I used to dislike ace for all the reasons mentioned. I thought it was frivilous and superior. Then I realised that casual, semi-serious words (like squish, and asexy), words that people can use while laughing at themselves for using them, but which still have a genuine function, are the words that a...

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Haahahahahaha. Hah-hah. That was my first reaction to the initial post, and it was going to be my entire post, but Siggy was the voice of sense (as he so often is) [quote="Siggy"]If I may make a more explicit argument against the mascot, coming from someone who ...

The reception I think will largely vary on the background and type of group, but in general LGBT and A are not a good mix and here is the reason why: Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual forums base themselves on SEXUALITY as there are hardly any other similarities. Some LGB will be right wing, some left wing...

Ok, I can see where the misunderstandings crept in. My love of numbered lists can be a real pain. And I never meant to imply that you were being a bastard, you're clearly thoughtful and sensitive, just that you might not fully understand the implications of becoming poly. Yeah, deep friendship/emoti...

the line between options 2 and 3 can be very blurry, like what Kagu143 is saying about the whole boundaries and what consitute cheating, it seems like such a minefield, something that I'm not sure I have the skills to negotiate. Ok, so analysing someone by a few paragraphs they wrote on the interne...

Hi Fridayoak. I'm in a similar place to you at the moment, in terms of wondering whether to call myself polyamorous, but without the romantic dilemma that you're in. It seems to me that you have four options: 1. Remain single, but involve these three women in your life as good friends 2. Choose one ...

Oddly enough, one of my friends mentioned today's Jeremy Kyle. She said she hadn't seen it, but apparently, according to someone she knew who had, something interesting actually happened in it. She said this at a random point in the conversation, so I assumed she was hinting (she knows I'm asexual),...

I'm in agreement with Nathan and Grey Lady. As a not-romantic, not-aromantic person (greyromantic?), if I date, I'll probably try deliberately to avoid how a standard relationship grows. This could mean 'casual' relationships, polyamorous relationships, community-based intimacy or any mix of the thr...

My gosh, the forum for setting up flag designs makes... interesting reading. Don't know how much I'll be able to read, but so far, they seem to be saying that horizontal stripes are uniquely the preserve of LGBT (take that, France! Germany! And, come to think of it, America!). My favourite post so f...

Oppression = power x privilege x prejudice I'm not a math nerd and I've been told that the equation should look a little different, but the basic idea is that if you replace any of the p's with a 0, you get 0 instead of oppression. Sexuals, especially heterosexuals, definitely have power and privil...

*prodding alongside you* I really have absolutely zero experience of LGBT, except second-hand, from asexuals and from a gay friend. However, in the interests of keeping this thread going, I'm gonna guess: 1. People in the group need to realise that asexuality is a sexual orientation. It helps if the...

I make it my goal as an activist to make a safe space for asexuals in the LGBT community. You know, I don't think I've ever seen that thought expressed before. There's always this passive acceptance of either "Yes, LGBT is a good place for asexuals" or "NO! The twain can never meet!&...

That sounds quite similar to 'demisexuality', which tends to be defined as being either sexually attracted to someone or able to enjoy sex with them after connecting with them. Try google- and AVEN-searching it. It is also much more logical than it sounds that an asexual could get a lot more out of ...

I'm saying: If the definition (as stated on the wiki) of what "secondary sexual attraction" is, is so broad as to technically describe ME... Then that's a really, really bad definition. Because what I experience is most definitely NOT sexual attraction! (Which I have felt on a few extreme...

Siggy, thanks for re-considering your position on demisexuality and the myth of soulmates. Although it's interesting how they interact, and something I'd never thought about before you brought it to my attention, I think demisexuals still tend to assume that they have the capacity to date many peopl...

Siggy, I don't think our current definition of demisexuality invalidates itself, too much. Although my definition of it tends to be quite different from the AVENwiki's, as I have a tendency to lump demisexuality in with grey-a-ness. The way I would explain this is that some people feel very little, ...