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I dont feel horny anymore...WTF

I just...don't have that "spark" anymore. Once SO and I are into it everything is fine. But I don't have the "urge" that I want to have sex or masterbate.... things seemed to change when I had my baby. SO initiates everything all the time. I just go with it to make him happy and it's all good once we start. have real orgasms and my seratonin is very high afterwards. I miss initiating. I just don't anymore. Kinda like...I don't want to. I am on ortho tri cycline, I am a bit stressed at times but stress has never stopped my sexual drive in the past and I have been under worse stress in the past.... I have a dr. appt later this month, but until then...any advice?

upsherises...I think it's a medical thing personally. I dont have the urge to initiate...I'd rather crochet or watch tv lol. I dont have the urge to drop what I'm doing and run to the bedroom with SO, something I wouldnt think twice about in the past....

I have heard about the bc being a possible reason. I have a colposcopy so I wonder if many something is "wrong down there" too.....I dunno....at least I get to see a doctor and can ask for some advice! maybe I can get a new bc. I'm on ortho tri cyclene because I have always used it and it helps my skin.

Finding a good birth control pill is tough but there are so many hormonal side issues going on that we take as normal. Could be just that you're tired, could be the pill or chemical change since the baby, could be so many things, talk to your doc.

Ortho kills my desire too but Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo does not. Maybe switching to a low hormone pill will help you out. I would just mention this to your doctor and see what they think as well. :) Good luck!