Getting to know a complete stranger is a daunting task, and small talk about the weather or your March Madness bracket probably won’t shed much light on your compatibility. There’s no real way around the initial question-and-answer session, but how can you avoid sounding like you’re interviewing your date for a job?

Inspired by a Reddit thread on r/AskWomen, we asked our Facebook and Twitter communities what questions they’d love to hear on a first date. Here are 15 suggestions from Redditors and HuffPost Women followers: