The best answer I ever saw to that question is the essay "Yes, You Are," quoted below in part:
Above, the dictionary definition of feminism — the entire dictionary definition of feminism. It is quite straightforward and concise. If you believe in, support, look fondly on, hope for, and/or work towards equality of the sexes, you are a feminist.

Yes, you are.

The definition of feminism does not ask for two forms of photo ID. It does not care what you look like. It does not care what color skin you have, or whether that skin is clear, or how much you weigh, or what you do with your hair. You can bite your nails, or you can get them done once a week. You can spend two hours on your makeup, or five minutes, or the time it takes to find a Chapstick without any lint sticking to it. You can rock a cord mini, or khakis, or a sari, and you can layer all three. The definition of feminism does not include a mandatory leg-hair check; wax on, wax off, whatever you want. If you believe in, support, look fondly on, hope for, and/or work towards equality of the sexes, you are a feminist.

So, who sets the bar? And who is aiming to be allowed to reach the same bar? Wouldn't that process be indirectly reiterating the same issue one is trying to fight against?

"I want to be equal to a man." <- isn't that setting the bar kind of low?

Anybody besides me smell bait?

But I would go for equal educational opportunities, full reproduction rights, and no female genital mutilation for a start. You know, the basic stuff. Don't keep us barefoot, pregnant, illiterate, and chained to the stove, kinda thing. For all women.

“Pleasure to me is wonder—the unexplored, the unexpected, the thing that is hidden and the changeless thing that lurks behind superficial mutability. To trace the remote in the immediate; the eternal in the ephemeral; the past in the present; the infinite in the finite; these are to me the springs of delight and beauty.” ~ H.P. Lovecraft