agreed star...passive aggressive behaviour is a major beef for me as well.

cob: over the past two years I have made a concerted effort to view life through a more positive lens. Since then, another one of my cobs is when people seem to always be *looking* for something to be wrong. Almost as if they believe that it is not okay to be drama-free. Half of the time I think that they go around looking for/making their own drama just so they can gripe about it later! Gah!

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cob: mandatory Olympic fever, or fervour? Mandated by my employer/Olympic sponsor. Bah. All I can think about is all the government cutbacks to programs for the poor, the homeless, the mentally ill, women, seniors, children, etc., not to mention all the school closures and hospital bed closures making this event possible.

Rah.

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doodlebug, that's great to read that you are working on building a supportive community for female musicians. I've noticed that whenever the potential for the male to not be recognized leads to some immature behavior/acting out to be recognized. I remember I went to this presentation about relationships between mothers and daughters. Some dude stood up and asked "What about the relationship between sons and mothers? Did you study that?" Uh, dude, the presentation is about mothers and daughters. I guess their egos have a tough time putting themselves aside to let women have their own thing, no matter what the field is.

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Oh for fuck's sake.

So I posted this event on Crackbook. I'm hosting a Girljam. Why? Because I live in a community where almost ZERO bands have women in them. I can count on one hand the number. When these bands do have women members, these women do not get the oppportunity to play instruments. Rather, they are relegated to the "feminine" role of singing. There are many female musicians in this town, but they do not get the opportunity to play. I am hoping to provide them with that opportunity, and to hook up with other women interested in putting an all-female act together. My own experience with audiences has shown me there is a huge untapped market for an all-female act covering women artists in my community, and yes, I am interested in making money and building a career doing what I love.

So no, I didn't write all that in the event listing. Why should I explain myself?

But immediately after I posted I was having a women-only jam, this idiot from Wales posts, "I see sexism is alive and well in BC." Then I posted, "I see privilege is alive and still invisible to those who have it." But then I deleted both posts. ("Don't argue on teh internets.") And I was trying to send him PM to explain myself, but it wouldn't go - I figure the universe set that up somehow. Just don't fucking apologize or explain or anything else, right? It was a kneejerk comment from someone who is annoyed at being excluded because of gender. I can't imagine what that feels like, can you?

JEEBUS FUCKING CHRIST, now I have to protect my career as a MUSICIAN from backlash too? A mere forty-five minutes out of the gate, no less?

What Would Joan Jett Do?

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I have slowly but surely come to detest the word "coed" as applied to female college students. Why? I'm not sure. I can't really put my finger on it. I keep thinking "pilot vs copilot" or "producer vs coproducer." One is considered secondary to the other, so any time I hear a female college student referred to as a "coed" my blood starts boiling.

For me, it boils my blood because co-ed describes something as being both genders - ie. coed schools, dorms, etc. and as it's not applied to men, and only women, then the presumption is that the addition of women is secondary. It is assumed that men are already there, and when things are turned 'coed', women are included. The term seems very antiquated and like it's stating that girls are "other" and optional.

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When did people stop standing up to give their seats to seniors and disabled people and pregnant women on the public bus? When did this happen? I can't remember the last time I saw someone under 30 give up their seat for someone who really needed it. When exactly did parents stop teaching their children this little bit of ettiquette and respect for people who probably have a much harder time standing and hanging onto the rail on a giant, moving vehicle than these big, strapping, healthy kids?

Sorry to anyone who thinks they have the right to sit when they are perfectly healthy, but this lack of concern for others is rude, and disrespectful, and also really self-centred and bratty.

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I have slowly but surely come to detest the word "coed" as applied to female college students. Why? I'm not sure. I can't really put my finger on it. I keep thinking "pilot vs copilot" or "producer vs coproducer." One is considered secondary to the other, so any time I hear a female college student referred to as a "coed" my blood starts boiling.

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Shake off all the fears of servile prejudices, under which weak minds are serviley crouched. Fix reason firmly in her seat, and call on her tribunal for every fact, every opinion. Question with boldness even the existence of a God, because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason than that of blind faith. — Thomas Jefferson

OMG, polly. I was going to post the same cob today about the People magazine. It is sad that we still pity women who choose to be single AND child-free. I really get frustrated with how the media treats Jennifer Aniston.

I know, doodle- a magazine came into the office today for the waiting room (I think it was People) and Jennifer Aniston was on the cover and the headline was "5 Years After Brad" and I almost tossed it against the wall. I freely admit that I am guilty of following some celebrity gossip, but c'mon- why is this woman's life based around a guy who she broke up with (he broke up with her, Angelina broke them up...WHATEVER!) 5 years ago? Why does it matter and what business is it of ours? Why are people obsessed with this? Because she hasn't gotten married and adopted 12 kids like he has, which means she must be a shriveled, bitter, miserable spinster?

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You went to school where you were taught to fear and to obey, be cheerful, fit in, or someone might think you're weird.Life can be perfect. People can be trusted. Someday, I will fall in love; a nice quiet home of my very own.Free from all the pain. Happy and having fun all the time.It never happened, did it?

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Oh, one more cob today. Tiger Woods. No. Not the man. The gossip. The jokes. Honestly, who cares? People cheat on their partners sometimes. What business is it of ours? I'm sick of it. I don't care a whit about Tiger Woods or his sex life or even his family life.

I suppose it's really the cult of celebrity that kills me. Or is it the cult of gossip? I hate that people gossip about celebrities like they are our friends and acquaintances. But I also hate that people gossip about other people's private lives, period. It's nothing but hurtful and spiteful. If my co-worker is having a series of affairs, or is alleged to be having a series of affairs, I don't want to hear about it. If Tiger Woods can't keep his pecker in his pants, I really don't want to hear about it either.

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If only Lady Catherine would come to my door. She's never spoken 2 words to me. She goes to the landlord over everything, and when that doesn't work, she resorts to banging on the ceiling or retaliatory noise. And it's not just me, she hates everybody. She complains about the caretaker's television. Daily. She can hear a pin drop in any apartment and complains about it. One time my neighbour rented a tent for his daughter's first birthday - she wouldn't let them put it up on the lawn anywhere she could see it. She is also quite racist toward him. She is disrespectful to everyone. Everyone. Caretaker, manager, neighbours....everyone.

Anyway, my landlord has told me to keep doing exactly what I'm doing and ignore her. Which is all well and good, but when she cranks her music on her huge stereo system, I can't hear any of my own on my crappy little one. And I can't write music with all that shit going on. We'll see if the letter from the management company works. Last night was actually pretty good. I hung some pictures (hammers and nails, oh my!) and she actually didn't retaliate.

The thing is, I've lived in my apartment for over 14 years. She's lived there about a year and a half. She was lucky when she first moved in, because I was working 2 jobs and trying to put a band together AND I started dating Soulman, so I was never home. Now my life is returning to normal and she's upset about it.

She drives a ginormous boat of an old car, wears a fake leopard coat and huge glasses, and even though she is 74, she insists on dying her hair a flat yellow blonde and scraping it back into a big black bow.

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