How long should you wait for someone?

My own situation right now is that of being very close to a girl whom I like a great deal. I've been honest with her from the start about it all and she's told me that she wants things to work, even told me how she wants to sleep with me etc when we meet up for a holiday in March. The only issue is her constant doubt and uncertainty about everything involving any kind of relationship, she's never sure and never wants to commit which at times has led me to wonder if I'm wasting my time entirely.

My question is simply: how long would you personally wait for someone who has a myriad of doubts and worries about everything? Would you give them the benefit of the doubt or would you flee if they weren't ready to reciprocate any feelings right away?

There isn't a number, just a gut feeling or instinct when it is time to bail if its putting too much of a toll on you.

Basically this; no one can tell you you'll just know when whatever kept you before isn't really there anymore.

I'm basically in the same situation more or less. We've both admitted our mutual feelings for each other, she just had a real rough time with her last bf who really messed her up. Also I'm pretty stupid with relationships, but that could or couldn't be the problem. Still talk to her every night, but kinda holding out for something more.

I am sorry to say you, but my experience with that situatsion is next:
Girl look at you`r facebook (or what ever side) and made a picture about you, what u are not and when you meet each other, then the girl understand, that you are NOT that person, what she imagine about.

Mmyeah, she knows all about it in my case. It's not something I tried to hide or what-not yet I'm still expected to wait, hence the general question raised to see who else has been in this situation :>

Unfortunately, many people suffer from "wanting what they cannot have". Once you tell such people how much you desire them, it actually creates doubt in their mind. They have attained you, and whether they are conscious of it or not, you are no longer a challenge and these types of people want challenge. yes, it is illogical, but that is how many people are.

Many people, when in your situation, are forced to tell the other person they cannot wait forever, and perhaps begin to seek out others, just because doing so threatens to make you unattainable to her again. If her problem is "wanting what she cannot have", this could push her to make the decision to be in a relationship with you. If that isn't the problem, it could backfire.

Everyone is different, but this is the most likely probability.

There's an old saying that goes something like "Never ever tell your girl how much you love her." This is why.

Unfortunately, many people suffer from "wanting what they cannot have". Once you tell such people how much you desire them, it actually creates doubt in their mind. They have attained you, and whether they are conscious of it or not, you are no longer a challenge and these types of people want challenge. yes, it is illogical, but that is how many people are.

Many people, when in your situation, are forced to tell the other person they cannot wait forever, and perhaps begin to seek out others, just because doing so threatens to make you unattainable to her again. If her problem is "wanting what she cannot have", this could push her to make the decision to be in a relationship with you. If that isn't the problem, it could backfire.

Everyone is different, but this is the most likely probability.

There's an old saying that goes something like "Never ever tell your girl how much you love her." This is why.

Provided that she isn't trying to wiggle her way out of saying she wants to see other people, or already is, there's nothing wrong with having caution and taking things slow. If she's cautious, it's for a reason. As for how long to wait, I'd say until you can't or won't wait anymore. That's not a deadline you can be told, you'll just know it if it happens.

I would say now is the best time to walk away. She is uncertain riding your emotions like a roller coaster. When a person says they are not ready to commit. (aka I'm not done partying) then you might want look for someone that would be able to appreciate being in a one on one. Unless you do not mind keeping a friend on the side for sexual things. I doubt she would be a serious long term thing though.

The way the most guys (and girls as well) go in such situation - they start dating another girl(boy). At some point you'll have to choose between two girls and you might get some sort of drama, but its still better than not to have any girlfriend because you can "wait" for that particular one for months and years just to hear "lets stay friends" in the end.

Mhm, nobody else is likely to be coming my way in the foreseeable future to be fair, she would be my first which is why waiting for the sex maaay be slightly appealing! Realistically though my concerns come up because being in this position can hurt a bit, it's one I've been in before with someone else and it absolutely didn't work out then which is why I'm wary of the same outcome now.

Mhm, nobody else is likely to be coming my way in the foreseeable future to be fair, she would be my first which is why waiting for the sex maaay be slightly appealing! Realistically though my concerns come up because being in this position can hurt a bit, it's one I've been in before with someone else and it absolutely didn't work out then which is why I'm wary of the same outcome now.

Just don't appear needy/desperate and make it clear that waiting equates to "looking for other potential partners on the side" for you aswell (for her, it almost certainly means that).

Those are some of the steps to make sure you're not becoming her doormat, which would be the worst possible result from "waiting", as she would lose any respect for you, completely take your affection for granted and cease to see you as a potential equal partner for a future relationship.