With sex comes responsibility. It’s clear this guy became emotionally attached to you.

But he keeps calling and following me around. I’m scared.

He knew from the start what the deal was and that I just wanted a friend with benefits while I was in my old job.

My ex-boss was really demanding. He expected me to work ridiculous hours. So I turned to an old college mate and suggested we hook up. I pointed out that I desperately needed sex, but didn’t have room for romance.

He said fine, and we used to talk dirty on the phone and meet up once a week for no-strings fun. The sex was wild, hot and fantastic. Then I was made redundant and everything changed.

Now I’m working for my uncle part-time and I’ve got my life back. I’m seeing my mates again and have a proper boyfriend. Only my ex-lover hasn’t taken the news well. He’s been stalking me ever since and insists that I owe him.

JANE SAYS: This is what can happen when we play dangerous games.

In your mind, your no-strings fling with your ex-college mate was just a bit of fun – two old pals doing each other a favour.

But with sex comes responsibility. It’s clear this guy became emotionally attached to you. The more time you spent together the harder he found himself falling. Now he feels cheated and let down.

If he’s always had a thing for you, then he must be devastated that you’re with someone new. I suggest you tell him that you’re very sorry if wires have been crossed.

Apologise for hurting him, but also make it very clear that this is it – the end.

Sadly, if he continues to make a nuisance of himself, you must speak to family members and friends for support. Then think about contacting the police.