How To Give Her A Sensual Massage

Win Extra Points In The Bedroom With These Massage Tips

Sexual connection doesn’t always have to be about having sex. It can also be about intimacy, and an at-home sensual massage can be a great way of connecting and relaxing before moving into other forms of connection.

“Do you want a great way to get her ready and receptive? Learn to give a great massage. Touching her with strength and finesse says so many things about you, like you're going to spend some time on her. You're not going to just get in, get off and bolt. Not only will a great massage relax her, but it will help her get in the mood for more. If you want to be the guy she has to see again, give a great massage,” says Dr. Dot, the go-to masseuse for tensed-up rockers ranging from Mick Jagger to Paul McCartney.

Prepare The Area
You want to be in a private, quiet place when you give a sensual massage. “Make sure that the phone is off the hook, and that you're not going to be bothered by the door, kids, animals, etc. Select some soothing music (Barry White, Billie Holliday) and turn off the lights except for lighting some candles — preferably scented,” says Dr. Dot.

You're also going to need a couple of sheets, says Dr. Dot — one to cover your work area (you don't want massage oil staining your couch!), and another to cover her. If she feels exposed or cold, she isn't going to relax. “As you work on her, uncover only the area you want to massage. Then, cover it again to keep the area warm. As you massage the skin, blood flows into that area. This blood causes the area to redden and to warm. You don't want this to turn to chill, so be sure to cover your finished areas,” says Dr. Dot.

Make sure to also have some water available. “Many people feel thirsty after a massage. This is because working muscles causes all sorts of chemicals to be released into the body. After the massage offer her water and then you can offer her Champagne or wine. Never a good idea to give or receive a massage even slightly drunk,” says Dr. Dot.
Massage Methods
You've probably heard of all types of massage techniques — Shiatsu, Swedish, Rolfing, etc., are all different types of massage with different goals. Don't worry about all of this. You don't need to focus on the type of massage, only the goal. Your goal should be to sooth and relax your girl.

Massage Muscle, Not Skin
“Try this: rub your fingers gently over the skin of your own arm. Now, press harder and move the skin without dragging your fingers across it. This is the difference between caressing and a massage. Remember that massages are for muscles below the skin — not for the skin itself,” says Dr. Dot.

You Want A Deep, Penetrating Effect
“Anyone can pet her but you want to be the man that makes her feel relaxed, loose and relived. Many people are ticklish, not just on their feet, but all over their bodies; so you want her massage to be relaxing and focused,” says Dr. Dot. Not too hard, not too soft either.

Avoid Putting Pressure On The Bones“By pressing hard on the skin just over a bone, you're going to cause pain — not pleasure. [Well, to some, pain IS pleasure — but that's another article.] Unless you know human anatomy, you might not know where all of her bones are; so, before you begin rubbing an area, make sure that the tissue below the skin is soft,” says Dr. Dot. Then dig in.

Try it out on yourself first before you meet up with her. Massage your own hands and feet, then rub your thigh to see what pressure feels good and what hurts, as a guide.