Why I stopped watching porn was because I began to see that there was a direct negative correlation between [time + frequency since I last watched porn] and [social prowess]. Basically, watching porn did something to my brain or my balls or my dick or the alignment of our moon with Jupiter that made me not be on my natural game.

I just didn't feel like a lion scoping out gazelles to prey on and weaker lions to subjugate to my will while walking through the Chicago Loop to work every morning, or at the supermarket, or anywhere. I didn't feel as outgoing.

I noticed this primarily with women. I was more timid to approach, more timid in my approaches, and subsequently, less successful in bedding women.I noticed this at work. I didn't speak up in meetings. I wasn't as energetic. I just didn't feel that energy that I feel now from people drawing us together with me being the final arbiter of whether or not I want to build a relationship with that person.

I noticed changes in my diet and athleticism. I felt like a sloth. I would come home from class or work to drink beer and eat shitty Chinese food. I didn't feel motivated to run or work out. And when I did, I wasn't making progress like I am now and I wasn't getting as much fulfillment out of exercise.

Fake it 'til you make it, right? I've always thought that phrase is used inappropriately way too often, but I think it works in this context: Become the man you want to be today. You think your ancient ancestors managed to survive and reproduce for 200,000 years by sitting around with their dicks in their hands? No. Those guys probably existed, but their weak ass genes are no longer around.

But thanks to the society we live in, even the weakest of genes are getting passed on. Embrace your inner animal. Become the man you want to be. This isn't some self help shit. This is some live your fucking life to the fullest shit. Again, this is anecdotal evidence, but I feel fucking phenomenal. My life is great and I'm going places. I'm in great shape. My career trajectory is awesome and I have options. I have sex with sexy bitches on the regular. I travel all over the fucking world. Why live vicariously through Lex Luther's dick?

So delete all that shit now. This isn't some 30/60/90 day challenge. This is just how you live your life now. You're not a guy who watches people fuck on camera and jerks his dick to thoughts of being that guy any more. That puts fucked up thoughts of inferiority into your subconscious that manifest themselves in all areas of your life. And if you can't escape being that guy, I would rip your throat out in the wild and impregnate your girl. We like to pretend we aren't fucking animals with our shiney bullshit, but we are. And as a man, you should strive to be a dominant and well-developed (in several areas of life) Human specimen.

You're gonna see a surprising amount of free time open up. Use it productively. Personally, I read a lot of books, work on my music, and pursue a few other hobbies. You're gonna see your social anxiety (we all have it to some degree; some choose to deal with it like men and some choose to dull themselves with pills and liquor) dwindle. You're gonna see women act more flirty with you and you won't know why. They won't know why either; that's fine. That's just their brains' reaction to their subconscious picking up on subtle changes in your behavior, your body language, your vocal tone, your rate of speech, etc. Also, they literally smell your dominant phucking pheromones penetrating their delicate nostrils. And you're gonna gradually learn what to do about it instinctively.

Finally, there are online communities of guys out there doing "NoFap" challanges. Stay the fuck off them. This isn't a challenge; it's just how you live your life. You don't need support from those losers (good luck to them though, seriously). What kind of fucked up rationale is it to read about not jerking off while trying to avoid jerking off? Just delete that shit, put it out of your mind, and reap the benefits.

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I couldn't but found myself addicted in masturbating. This happens for being single or if you are in a sexless marriage. Maybe I am stress all the time, It is our body and mental needs but it should alway be in moderation.Another thing is there are lots of sex toys over the market design for men and women. One tool I've been using is a pocket pussy, seriously this is way better than your hand.Well I am not encouraging you to used that but it's an alternative way to your old school style.

This brings us to a good point: You probably know some guys who watch porn all the time and are successful in at least one area of life, show no noticeable anxiety, etc. Think Don Jon. But how many of those guys have abstained for a significant period of time? They could be even greater.

Ultimately, do you want to be the type of man who watches others have sex on film and fantasizes about sex with his genitals in his palm? Can you see the men you look up to spending their time that way?

This has got to be one of the lamest "self help" guides I have ever read. Porn has nothing to do with being a loser. Do losers tend to watch more porn? Yes, however correlation does not equal causation. I could say that because I know several people who eat blackberries and are good at picking up girls, therefore eating blackberries will give you game. Idiotic.

The reason there seems to be a link between porn and being a shit covered slob, is that there is a cultural acceptance that girls don't watch porn. Which is total bullshit. The boost in self confidence that comes from giving up porn is tha it likely gives you time to actually do a couple of sets of pushups. Considering I doubt you would last much longer than that anyway.

This has got to be one of the lamest "self help" guides I have ever read. Porn has nothing to do with being a loser. Do losers tend to watch more porn? Yes, however correlation does not equal causation. I could say that because I know several people who eat blackberries and are good at picking up girls, therefore eating blackberries will give you game. Idiotic.

The reason there seems to be a link between porn and being a shit covered slob, is that there is a cultural acceptance that girls don't watch porn. Which is total bullshit. The boost in self confidence that comes from giving up porn is tha it likely gives you time to actually do a couple of sets of pushups. Considering I doubt you would last much longer than that anyway.

I respectfully disagree. Andy asked me to post this. I posted it to my personal blog a few days ago.

This has got to be one of the lamest "self help" guides I have ever read. Porn has nothing to do with being a loser. Do losers tend to watch more porn? Yes, however correlation does not equal causation. I could say that because I know several people who eat blackberries and are good at picking up girls, therefore eating blackberries will give you game. Idiotic.

The reason there seems to be a link between porn and being a shit covered slob, is that there is a cultural acceptance that girls don't watch porn. Which is total bullshit. The boost in self confidence that comes from giving up porn is tha it likely gives you time to actually do a couple of sets of pushups. Considering I doubt you would last much longer than that anyway.

I respectfully disagree. Andy asked me to post this. I posted it to my personal blog a few days ago.

You respectfully disagree because you are too young to know any different. Its just like violent video games don't turn the masses into raging killers that go around shooting everyone. Porn doesn't affect the masses in a negative way. Are their exceptions? Sure, there are people who are psychologically predisposed to certain thought processes. But to say that "Porn is evil" is about as idiotic as saying that guns kill people. People kill people.

The reason there seems to be a link between porn and being a shit covered slob, is that there is a cultural acceptance that girls don't watch porn. Which is total bullshit. The boost in self confidence that comes from giving up porn is tha it likely gives you time to actually do a couple of sets of pushups. Considering I doubt you would last much longer than that anyway.

Your entitled to your opinion. But like @"GoldenCinderblock" said, when your actually getting pussy (even once or twice a week) there is no need or desire to watch it. If you have to have stimulation 7 days a week; there is something fucked up with that persons mind and they just don't realize it.

Who are you to say something is wrong with those people? Who are doctors to even say there is something wrong with those people. People are different, its plain an simple. Some people like different things. I could say that all of you that are/want to work on wall street have fucked up minds for wanting to slave your life away behind a desk for 100 hours a week. You must obviously have something wrong that you need to spend 14 hours a day at work. Whats wrong with your home life? Did your parents molest you as a child?

Your assumptions are based on your own experiences. You could only manage to get laid once a week, therefore that is a lot in your case. Guess what, I can manage to get laid everyday if I wanted to. So your entire anecdotal evidence is useless.

I just love how people on here assume that their point of view is the only point of view.

Golden boy do not back out of your point of view because a few people have different views. There is undoubtable evidence that about what you say porn does to the brain. It slowly and surely numbs yourself to the sexual desires and in turn makes your fantasies and desires more intense, which is why some men seek violent types of sex. Choosing to not look at porn whether because of religion, peronsal choice or whatever it may be is your choice. It is inevitable that men will look at porn because of the difficulty to stray from it. Good luck with your pursuit. It's not an easy choice.

Golden boy do not back out of your point of view because a few people have different views. There is undoubtable evidence that about what you say porn does to the brain. It slowly and surely numbs yourself to the sexual desires and in turn makes your fantasies and desires more intense, which is why some men seek violent types of sex. Choosing to not look at porn whether because of religion, peronsal choice or whatever it may be is your choice. It is inevitable that men will look at porn because of the difficulty to stray from it. Good luck with your pursuit. It's not an easy choice.

I'm not backing out at all. Heister says you can be perfectly healthy and view porn. I agree. I'm saying you can be healthier without it. Or at least I am.

It's actually surprisingly easy. Like, I don't remember when I even looked at porn last and I have no desire to. I have done "no fap challenges" before and it was very difficult. Once you commit to this no longer being a part of who you are and internalize that it makes you a better man, it's very simple. Getting laid helps too.

Golden boy do not back out of your point of view because a few people have different views. There is undoubtable evidence that about what you say porn does to the brain. It slowly and surely numbs yourself to the sexual desires and in turn makes your fantasies and desires more intense, which is why some men seek violent types of sex. Choosing to not look at porn whether because of religion, peronsal choice or whatever it may be is your choice. It is inevitable that men will look at porn because of the difficulty to stray from it. Good luck with your pursuit. It's not an easy choice.

You know that people have been into the crazy fetishes for thousands of years. Pretty sure porn recordings weren't around in the Roman empire days.

Golden boy do not back out of your point of view because a few people have different views. There is undoubtable evidence that about what you say porn does to the brain. It slowly and surely numbs yourself to the sexual desires and in turn makes your fantasies and desires more intense, which is why some men seek violent types of sex. Choosing to not look at porn whether because of religion, peronsal choice or whatever it may be is your choice. It is inevitable that men will look at porn because of the difficulty to stray from it. Good luck with your pursuit. It's not an easy choice.

You know that people have been into the crazy fetishes for thousands of years. Pretty sure porn recordings weren't around in the Roman empire days.

Heister, what type of porn are you into? Bukkake, DP, DV? You seem very angry on this topic? My friend who's getting a PhD in Psych, told me that porn CAN have a negative affect on a persons mind, but as you stated before correlation doesn't equal causation. Hell one of my friend who watches porn everyday told me he cant get erected without watching porn during sex with his girl.

So each their own, they should try the no fap and see if it makes any difference for them. I tried no fap and failed after a week. I'll try again soon and see if it makes any difference.

Great thread GoldenCinderblock. I am try no fap going forward next week or the week after.

If you're horny, go get laid. If you can't, then fap, but don't let fapping become a replacement for chasing tail.

If someone has such little self control that they find themselves addicted to porn, and it starts negatively affecting their life in anyway, there is an issue greater than just porn addiction going on.

Great post. Not sure where all the hate is coming from. If you follow the links it shows some pretty compelling evidence that it is in fact f*cking up your brain. Will it f*ck up your life? Who knows. Not sure I could completely give up some Brandi Love and Asa Akira, but you've inspired me to consider it. Of course, not sure how helpful it would be when still participating in some Emperors Club-like activites on the regular. Damn you readily available hot women!!

first time ive seen this thread, i just pressed backspace and went on to read something else

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not watching porn makes u feel like a lion bro?you dont perform in bed because you watch porn..? wat?you are bad at work because you watch porn?

listen, everything should be done in moderation, any abuse is bad, buti am so thankful that there is porn, because i learned so much about the sex in the early agei explored my sexualityi learned what actually like - what types of girls etc.i got so much confidence and it helped me in many other ways

sure my girls criteria went up, and i might have gained interest in some stuff that i would otherwise not have considered, but it helped me develop into a person with more realistic views of the worldyou need to be retarded not to realize that those girls are acting, that they are full of plastic, that they are 150cm high and that those dudes are prosyou are sad that your dick is too small? use porn to learn how to use it.. what are you going to do about your lack of self confidence? hope "she" never slept with more than a few guys..? find a virgin and marry her?you are starting to become racist because of mandingo lol?some of parts of the post, specifically those talks, do make sense, but there are other perspectives as well and many benefits to the porn

now you might get into a period, when you are still a noob, and you jerk off like 10 times a day or do it for a whole weekafter some time you realize that it is bad etc. and you dont do it again, it feels like shit and you are probably being depressedbut it is good to actually have been there and know what you want and what you dont want - great learning experienceif you are that type of person who gets lost in it, you will probably develop some other addiction like food/gambling/alcohol etc. - it is just a type of the person you are

experiment with yourself to find out how much you should watch the xxxi have thankfully excellent sex life and everything, but if i do not watch porn/masturbate/have sex every now and then i start getting those xxx dreams, etc.when i get those thoughts, i cant concentrate properly, i find it hard to think about other stuffi do not really try to fight it. my time is precious. if my partner is not around or if it is not a good time, i can visit some tube and get it over with

i dont really get it - you want to go to the bathroom, squeeze your eyes and masturbate to faint images of some random girls instead of watching some quality porn. 2nd feels much better, thank god i have unlimited variety and access

its funny you blame porn for all the bad stuff in your life. lemme tell you - you are depressedif quitting porn works for you - excellent, fill your head with whatever works for your problems

and good luck when you meet a nice girl after million years of hunting and then you cant perform for more than a few minutes ;)

There's a joke circulating the internet that men who like prude women must be from bb.com (this odiously does not including @"Stryfe"; it's a wonder he hasn't been band). Take it for what it's worth. Most of the guys seem very licentious; it must be some kind of double standard.

Matrick:

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Why aren't you blogging for WSO and become the date doctor for WSO? There seems to be demand.

^different kinds of bros and different types of chumpsmuch internal conflictmuch name calling and shit flingingand half those guys don't even eat bananas soand the other half take bananas way too seriously

I wish I knew at 13 what I know now. I wish I'd never watched so much porn. I feel like porn significantly desensitized me to real women and real sex. These days It's hard for me to get aroused unless a girl is acting like a porn star or there are more than one of them. Most times I can't finish at all and end up watching porn after they leave. It's really quite sad. I've tried to quit more times than I can count but I've always failed. If anyone knows of any programs or solutions I'd be very open to hearing about them. As for the rest of you I have to say .. be careful. Porn is like alcohol. Some people can handle it and be totally fine, but some of us can become addicted and it can mess with your life.

Blah Blah Blah you are all missing the point. Bottom line the man is encouraging you all to be the man you want to be today. Right now. No one can hear that message enough. Whether that is the beta-male with is dick in his hands or the Alpha-male going out and winning life is simply your respective choice. I liked it. Whether or not this may have been a coke/addy fueled post is another topic. Great post none the less.

The main problem with that stuff is that you'll one day find yourself to be one of those sad, strange monkeys who's mind has been warped to the point of watch fat chicks because nothing else is novel/satisfies enough.

Matrick:

[in reply to Tony Snark"]

Why aren't you blogging for WSO and become the date doctor for WSO? There seems to be demand.