Sick and tired

I had an absolutely abysmal day. I work in a bank, today we had a surprise audit. I am short staffed and am doing all of my duties as asst. manager and working as a teller all day. My other teller called in sick. There were 3 of us in the bank, 2 that can assist customers with transactions. I worked an entire shift with no break. I got to go to the restroom once in 9 hours. I have to cover both the drive thru window and the lobby window so I'm walking back and forth all day. I have SPD. I can barely walk without wincing in pain on a good day. Today was not a good day. I had painful and nearly constant braxton hicks all day. And once my water bottle was empty, I never got a chance to refill it. A very bad, exhausting, painful day.

I called my SO (significant other) as I was leaving work and headed to pick up my 2 year old from daycare. I told him I couldn't do dinner. I needed to go home and get in bed. He said he could help. I got a bit frustrated with that. I don't need hours help, I need him to do it. Cook dinner, take care of the kids, be an adult. He called me dramatic. I tried to explain that he always says he'll make dinner or take care of the kids or do laundry, but at some point, he always needs me to do part of it. Either I need to tell him what to cook and all the steps to take and ingredients he will need, or he asks if I can get up and help with the kids while he cooks. No. I'm not helping. I need to lay down. He promised he could do it all tonight.

He gets home and the first thing he asks me is what he can make for dinner. Then he asks how to do it. I told him I couldn't even think straight anymore, I'm going to bed, get a recipe. He went on and on about why can't I just tell him a simple recipe, why can't I just help, it's not a big deal, stop being so dramatic. I locked myself in the me , told him to figure it out and got in bed. He comes in, asks me again for directions and I lost it. I screamed for him to go away and find a recipe. He tells me that I can be bitchy and crabby all I want, but it's not his fault. He says he doesn't get why I can't just walk him through it, it's not a big deal, why am I in such a bad mood.

Comments (6)

I have zero sympathy for him. He can't feed himself and the kids without your help? He needs to grow up. Maybe you need to send him to the grocery store to buy things that he can cook. Maybe he just needs to find things that he is comfortable making instead of trying to make something you would make. Dh cooks very different things than I do. We just have different comfort levels with cooking stuff. He wouldn't ask me for directions because he chooses to cook stuff that I don't make.

I have zero sympathy for him. He can't feed himself and the kids without ...

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10/12/2018

I have zero sympathy for him. He can't feed himself and the kids without your help? He needs to grow up. Maybe you need to send him to the grocery store to buy things that he can cook. Maybe he just needs to find things that he is comfortable making instead of trying to make something you would make. Dh cooks very different things than I do. We just have different comfort levels with cooking stuff. He wouldn't ask me for directions because he chooses to cook stuff that I don't make.

It was potato soup, which is like runny mashed potatoes. And why can't he just look it up? I'm beyond frustrated, and hurt that he can't have the compassion to understand I'm cranky because my whole body hurts.

It was potato soup, which is like runny mashed potatoes. And why can't he...

Posted
10/12/2018

It was potato soup, which is like runny mashed potatoes. And why can't he just look it up? I'm beyond frustrated, and hurt that he can't have the compassion to understand I'm cranky because my whole body hurts.

This is a lot of men. I get frustrated when my husband asks me a ton of questions on how to do shit too. You live here too, you are our son’s other parent. He doesn’t do it ALL the time but sometimes he does and it drives me batty. So I understand after the day you had why you feel how you do.

He is being a total immature asshole. Be calm, but definitely have a conversation about what you are going through and tell him it is not acceptable for him to be so reliant when you are really needing help to survive. My husband also does not feel confident cooking without my help, but if I needed him to be independent fully he would do takeout or frozen dinner, something....is your DH (dear husband) kinda young? Sounds almost like a teenager. I might stock up on certain easy to throw together frozen staples or cook stuff on a day off that he can literally just thaw. You shouldn't have to...but at this point fighting is also stressful.

Sometimes my DF (dear fiancee) asks what he should feed our 3 year old. I'm like, really?? How do you not know what to feed her at this point?? And when he takes her out by himself, he always asks me to get her dressed or to bring him clothes because he can't, I don't know, LOOK in the damn dresser for some. Some men are incredibly useless sometimes.

You definitely deserve to be able to come home after a bad day and check out.

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