Staying Erect After Orgasm & More

staying hard

I'm unable to stay hard after orgasm. Sometimes even two hours later I can't get as hard as I was previously. This obviously makes having multiple sessions impossible. Is this because I'm not very "experienced"? Is this normal? Is there something I need to do?

Bernard

Bernard,

What you are experiencing is the curse of the refractory period. In layman’s terms, the refractory period refers to a “break time” for your penis. Usually, it takes some time for an excitable membrane to prepare for stimulus again. Yes, it’s true that some men can stay erect after orgasm, but rest assured that a majority of men need this “break time” to rebuild their strength and allow their penises time to feel excitable again.

If you don’t want to roll over and go to sleep after ejaculating, one possible option includes going back to foreplay — in the form of kissing and touching your partner — until you feel you are able to gain an erection for round two.

Donald Zimmer

abnormal ejaculate

Sometimes I notice ejaculate on my penis when I urinate, especially if I'm sitting on the can. Is this normal?

Connor

Connor,

Unless you are ejaculating in your briefs, you shouldn’t be finding sporadic droppings of semen on your penis.

You may find some semen on your penis if you’ve recently ejaculated, since a tiny amount of “leftover” semen tends to discharge from the penis shortly after orgasm.

If you haven’t ejaculated, there is a slight chance that you may be experiencing penile discharge, which is a fluid that is neither semen nor urine and that is released from the urethra (at the tip of the penis). I don’t mean to alarm you, but penile discharge is often the cause of a sexually transmitted disease, and is often accompanied by other symptoms like rashes, frequent urges to urinate and a burning sensation during urination.

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, contact your physician immediately.