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I'll start by saying that Dianne Jones truly became my Guardian Angel! In regards to my divorce case that has lasted several years without an end in sight

Adam B.

I just had my first meeting with Dianne Jones at Men's Legal Center. I walked into the office entirely overwhelmed at the divorce process after being served

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Being a dad with two baby mommas, I was scared of the court process hearing that California is a mommy state. DO NOT BELIEVE THIS! A big THANK YOU to Men's

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Got Divorce Guilt? How to Deal with Your Emotions

A recent article in The Huffington Post focused on the need for encouraging the grieving of men. The overriding theme of the article was that many men simply do not know how to deal with their emotions for a host of reasons.

One of the most commonly reported emotions felt deeply by men after divorce is guilt. In this entry, we’ll share tips for dealing with and moving on from post-divorce guilt.

Why Do Men Find it Harder to Deal With Emotions?

Speaking with ABC News, psychologist and author Terry Real said that our culture’s code of masculinity commands that “men don’t need relationships, men don’t need to be connected, and men don’t need to be heartfelt. And it’s simply a lie.”

Because divorce can be the psychological equivalent of open heart surgery, it’s key that men not keep their emotions to themselves.

Defining Guilt

Yes, we’re literally going to define the word “guilt” here. According to the dictionary definition, “guilt” is described as “a bad feeling caused by knowing or thinking you have done something bad or wrong.”

The optimum words in that definition are “bad” and “wrong.” It’s key to keep in mind that those words should apply to decisions made; not you as a person.

Helping Men Shed the Divorce Guilt

Experiencing feelings of guilt is a common part of the divorce experience. The challenge comes in how to get past it. Here are a few tips for doing that.

Face your guilt head-on. Acknowledge whatever you did to make you feel guilty and accept the fact that you’re human. Whatever mistake you made is not the first and it certainly will not be the last.

Learn to forgive yourself. When we normally seek forgiveness, we focus on other people. It’s crucial that you forgive yourself. Accepting responsibility is one thing, but constantly beating yourself up over things that are in the past does you no good whatsoever.

Rather than putting all that energy into self-blame, use it to move on and create a better life for yourself.

Just as it takes two to make a relationship work… No matter what you may feel or what your partner says to you, it definitely takes both partners for a marriage to end. Every relationship is the result of all of the people in them.

Don’t necessarily think divorce is a bad thing. For example, divorced dads often feel the pangs of guilt because they think they’ve done irreparable harm to their children. If that’s you, think about how you’re children would be affected if they were constantly exposed to conflict in a marriage.

You’re Not Alone; Call The Men’s Legal Center

It can be easy for men to fall into the trap of keeping all emotions and thoughts bottled up inside. Society has – falsely – told us that’s the manly thing to do.

But when you’re going through challenging times – and divorce can certainly be classified as one of those – you need someone on your side, listening to your concerns and fighting for your rights.

DISCLAIMER AND NON DISCLOSURE
OF ATTORNEY CLIENT PRIVILEGE

• This form of communication is for informational purposes only and NOT legal advice.

• You agree that submitting electronic information to us does not constitute a request for legal advice and that you are not forming an attorney-client relationship between any attorneys affiliated, or employed by the Men’s Legal Center, unless agreed upon via retainer agreement with the Men’s Legal Center.

• You are urged not to send us any confidential information contained in an e-mail or any attachment until such time as we have indicated to you that we are able to review that information.

• You recognize that our review of your information, even if it is confidential and even if it is transmitted in a good faith effort to retain us, does not preclude us from representing another client directly adverse to you, even in a matter where that information could and will be used against you.

• If you have time sensitive information do not e-mail us. Please call us and schedule an initial consultation at (619) 234-3838.

• By clicking “Accept,” you represent that you understand this disclosure and agree that submitting this form to our attorneys DOES NOT establish any type of attorney client relationship with the Men's Legal Center.