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Dating man only child

Our childhoods influence our adult selves immensely.

It wasn’t until I was older that I truly realized the special pros and cons of being an only child. From a young age, my parents forced me to make choices.The problem is that this particularity varies from day to day and often, even hour to hour.When you basically spend your entire childhood in a house with only adults — who you couldn't possibly relate to — you tend to direct your focus inwards and on yourself.When you don't have any brothers or sisters to play, learn and share with, you build yourself an ego — an ego that is too often reinforced by parents raising an only child.It's easy to spoil an only child; it's much more affordable.It's an intriguing experience.…Which can be both great and terrible at the same time.

People are very particular with how much time they want to spend with the person they are seeing.

I can see why you feel the way you feel, but, if anything, you’re just referring to a well-worn stereotype and finding evidence to support what you already believe.

Alas, my friend, science has spoken, and only children are no less adjusted or socialized than any other children.

(Except for our amazing friends, of course.) I'd prefer to be with someone who comes from a bigger family because balance is important to me. Nowadays, I’ve narrowed it down to three pillows and my pup, but when I do have a boy in my bed … Because I was very nurtured as a kid, I love the touch of skin against skin, I’m great at back scratches and I’ll definitely be the one to wake you up for morning sex because I crave the closeness. If I wanted to go to the park, there was no little or big sister to complain about doing something else. My best friends really do feel like my brothers and sisters, and because of that, I’ve invested a lot of time, hope, work and love into those friendships. My imagination is like wildfire: As a kid, I would create elaborate, heroic scenes with my Barbies and these days, I can see a handsome man walking down the block near my apartment and plan our wedding in about three minutes.

I’m getting better at it, but it isn’t instinctive for me. Because I never had a sibling growing up, I spent more time having sleepovers or going to other homes of friends my age. This creativity makes me a great writer but it can also be the death of me: I spend so much time thinking that sometimes I forget to live in the moment.

The only thing that’s different is that their test scores are a little bit higher, probably because they get all of the attention of both parents.