Question

I'm a father and need some advice.

My little girl is 8 months, About 3 months ago mom started leaving in the evening and staying out all night. Sometimes not coming home at all until early afternoon and sleeping. She still does this. she comes home at 2 or 4 am. Never seems drunk or anything. She sleeps till 1 or 2 in the afternoon. My concern is what will happen when baby starts walking and I am working? I stay home because there is no one watching baby. Mother wakeup and will put baby in her rocking swing and leave her there until 6 or 7 pm and off she goes. If I say anything she gets angry and threatens to take the baby. She stopped pumping her breast about the same time 3 months ago. I am just not sure who to talk too or where to go at this point. I want the best for my little girl and it is really making it hard for me to go to work and feel safe leaving baby. I just hate this.

Mom Answers

Grandma will watch her for awhile. If baby is with her to long grandma gets tired. There is no way mom could take care of her alone. Her having custody is scary. I have been keeping track of when she is out and when she comes back. I'm hoping to find a drug stash if she is using. And yes the baby does miss her mother.

I would start by contacting a divorce lawyer and quietly collecting evidence of her neglect: things like receipts or credit card statements can show what times/places she was out, keep a log of exactly when she arrives/leaves, a nannycam video, neighbors' witness statements, etc. Arrange childcare for ANY time, day or night, that you will not be able to care for your child yourself. Do you have any family or friends that could help?

This is horrible! I can't imagine as a mother how she could possibly act this way. If I were you I would get some solid evidence (even video evidence) so that you can use this in court. Statistically the mother will gain full custody and you will get visits every other week so I would be concerned with the care my child is getting if she got full custody. A mother should not be going out this often...once my child was born I quit going out all together. She can't sleep all day when she has a child this is terribly concerning. This shows a huge lack of concern for your child. I would get a nanny cam and I would pursue full custody and get her out of that awful situation. You baby is suffering from an absent mother.

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