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Friday, January 13, 2012

Basic Behavior Solutions

Do you feel like your child is the boss? This is a common occurrence in many homes but
unfortunately this often leads to bad behavior and insecurity in children. When
parents provide consistent boundaries for their children, children feel secure
and confident. Transitioning from
children being the boss to parents being the boss can be stressful but the
benefits are worth it.

How to get your children to listen:

·Give your instruction

oex-put away your toys

·With hold reinforcements until task is completed

oEx: no snacks, toys, tv or any fun thing until
the child completes the desired action

If your child screams, hits, kicks or does any other undesirable behavior make sure you are not reinforcing it by allowing it to be effective. If your child yells and screams and then you give them what they want, they are likely to do that behavior again.

What to do when a child disobeys or breaks a rule:

·When a child disobeys determine the severity of
the action and assign chores accordingly

oEx: child lies- child has to scrub the kitchen
floor and no reinforcements until task is complete

oEx: child skips school- child has to sweep drive
way, organize the closet and clean the car and they may not socialize, eat
snacks, have electronics, or anything fun until task is complete (no reinforcements)

Be prepared for children to challenge you on
this if they are not used to you being this assertive. It is important you
follow through with this. It will not be effective if you are
inconsistent. Remember it will be
stressful at first but once your children understand this is the new normal and
boundaries are clear, your home will be more at peace. With this method there is no need to ever
raise your voice or argue. The rules are black and white.

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Katie Saint graduated from Lakeland College with a Master’s Degree in Counseling. Katie is dual certified as a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Licensed, Board Certified Behavior Analyst. Katie is both an author and a therapist. Katie specializes in extreme behavioral problems. She provides individual, couple, pre-marital, and family counseling to children, adolescents and adults. Katie utilizes trauma informed care.
Katie has over 10 years working with adults, children and adolescents on the Autism Spectrum. She also offers an emotional control program for adolescents and adults struggling with impulsive behavior or emotional regulation. Katie utilizes a variety of therapeutic techniques including the combination of behavioral, cognitive and psychoanalytic tools. Katie works with clients at many stages in life; relational problems, transitioning through divorce, working through ADHD, PTSD, anxiety and depression, grieving a loved one, and other life stressors. Katie focuses on helping clients recognize and build on their own strengths to meet their personal goals.