While you can't apply a one-size-fits-all response to sexual dating rules regardless of age or experience, professionals who have studied the topic say it is a good idea to develop a set of prudent dating rules - before the big date.

Red flag warnings when dating

Men tell me it makes them feel good and needed to help a woman with her problems, but as soon as the paint is dry on the last room in the house the dream may well become a nightmare as he realizes Miss Wonderful is really a crazy train wreck - come on, you know it happens! You'll get it all for a very high price - including your bruised and damaged heart. So DO NOT quickly move in, get married, make capital purchases for her, pay her bills, do more for her than change a light bulb or buy anything together including puppies, kittens and other items difficult to divide or leave. You can see by her expensive presentation that she is into the finest material goods and experiences money can buy. Don't be surprised if she texts 14 other guys while dating you, looking to see who will ante up the most. If you see any of these six warning signs in your relationship, you may need to jump ship.Having collected relationship red flag stories from thousands of women, we've read some pretty unbelievable accounts of men's not-so-nice (to put it lightly) behavior.Either we buy into the idea that the dude should always be the one to take the lead and initiate some kind of "what are we? It's totally normal to fear rejection—sometimes not knowing is a lot more bearable than hearing "no." And, sure, by not bringing it up, you'll be able to stay in your whatever-this-is state longer.But, as any gal who's been in relationship purgatory can attest, the confusion can cause more anxiety than a missed period.He pressures you into doing sexual stuff you're not comfortable with.

Before his heart has palpitated a dozen times, the part of him that loves to rescue and fix kicks in and he makes plans to remodel her house, buy her a car, pay for some plastic surgery, and take her on some cool vacations. She's charming as all get-out, and sex and attention are the bait. Hell-raiser and non-conformist, no matter her age, she's 17 for life. When she feels you're off your game you'll find her talking with someone else. They'll get pregnant and may want you to stick around and help raise the child, but most importantly, she'll appreciate the child support you'll be paying. Abandoned by her parents, she was raised in an orphanage where they forgot to feed her and boy is she hungry now - for you to support her.

Note: I recently wrote a list of red-flag warnings for women about men, and I promised equal time to help men. Woman have brought men misery, ecstasy, and everything in between for millions of years, and that is not likely to change anytime soon. So there's the short list, fellows - I truly hope it helps.

The only way men could possibly make it through the dating scene in one piece is to learn the art of how to choose a woman who is most likely to enhance his life over the long haul, avoid the ones who are purveyors of pain, and I am here to help. At least one in 10 women has one, so educate yourself - the most common ones are Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissism, Sociopath, and Dependent Personality Disorder. It breaks my heart to see a man in my office who feels like a complete fool after having been duped by a woman who used and abused him in her own self interest.

To make things easier, I have divided the red flag issues into different departments ...

you can thank me later: The Department of Immaturity, Shallowness and Dependency 1.