Mom let daughter cried after not getting toy she wanted, shares the best advice for all of us

When children are crying or throwing tantrums, parents usually choose to give in to them just to make sure they do not make a scene in public. But this one woman shares the best advice as a mother herself.

She took her daughter Tessa to the doctor and the pediatrician office gives a token which can be used in a vending machine filled with fun little toys as a reward for the little girl who successfully got her finger pricked.

Tessa wanted a little blue octopus from the toys vending machine, but when she put in her token, an orange octopus came out. So the little girl was extremely upset, she melted into tears and screamed her thought.

Looking at that, a kind nurse offered her another token to try again, but the mother refused for the best reason.

“A kind nurse motioned to me and offered to give her another token to try again and I almost took her up on it since Tessa was turning into a scene. But I said no thanks, and here’s why,” wrote the mother.

“Our kids need to learn what to do with their disappointment. We can’t keep them from it. Our world and the people around us are filled with it. Everything in us as parents wants to protect our children from hurt and disappointment, but if we’re constantly rescuing them from it then we’re really setting them up for failure once they hit the real world.”

“Let them feel disappointment, but be there for them in the midst of it—tell them we’re sorry, help them process why they feel that way and offer suggestions for alternatives.”