this is sort of an update on what is happening with me and Daniel
He did come back, he never left, he came back that night because he said he had nowhere else to sleep, and then the next night he came back and said he loves me to much to leave but hes sick of the way i treat him i said i'm sick of the way you treat me! I could see it was a bad idea him coming back because things wern't sorted but i just went along with for a bit of piece.
Well last night he couldn't get to sleep and he was up at 2am for work, i kept telling him he had to go to sleep else he'd sleep through the alarm again and end up riging in sick and being sacked he went of on one saying how dare i tell him what he will do and im bossy. Everytime i dropped of to sleep he'd wake me up to tell me he couldnt sleep, then what topped it of was he woke Tillie up, i started shouting at him and he was shouting back so then Tillie was hysterical for about an hour!
He went to work this morning and i text him saying we need some time apart but why can't we get on for Tillie, he said yes ok i hate you but ill pretend i don't for Tillie. Now hes telling me to cancel the house going through again but i don't want to, its taken so long and what if he comes back again?! I'm so confused i never know if hes being serious or not!

It sounds to me you need someone to have tillie for a couple of hours and you both need to sit down and have a big heart to heart to sort out what your doing x its comming across you both sound confused x

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Tue Jan 29, 2008 10:52 am

mamma_mia

Joined: Thu Nov 01, 2007 1:29 pmPosts: 0Location: tyne and wear

what a situation for you both, you both need to be making some decisisons hun and not just stay together for tillie. hope you get sorted hun your sounding very down about it all (((((hugs)))))

there all right hun u really need to talk to each other u cant stay togther for your daughter trust me did that with my ex hubby i was making everyone happy but i was so unhappy i cried most days u need to see if there is anything still there and dont invlve your daughter

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Tue Jan 29, 2008 12:34 pm

dani_babyboo

Joined: Wed Mar 14, 2007 4:36 pmPosts: 0Location: cannock

you need to talk and if he does hate you as he says then theres no point pretending for tillie as that is worse

you need to sort this out before the house going through as that will make things even worse as you will both have a financial commitment together.
you need to sort it and not keep going on like this

I didnt meen stay together for Tillie (this is what he thought too) i meant just get one even if we're not together as a couple just be civil and be friends so that Tillie doesn't get distress with arguments etc. The thing is although he says it isn't i think most of this problem is living with my parents, i just know things will improve when we move in our own space. I hate these solicitors! When we had our own flat we used to have quality time together as a couple, we also had more space to be ourselfs. I don't think i can talk to him at the moment as he's saying he hates me etc and im a bitch thing he needs space to calm down first.

I hope he will still pick up my shoes on his way home from work they are at the shoe place having new heels on

Tue Jan 29, 2008 12:38 pm

jcr16

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Joined: Wed Mar 15, 2006 4:13 pmPosts: 253Location: Isle of Wight

i think u guys just need some time to yourself.

as u live with your parents, can u ask them to have tillie for a day or two, book yourself into a hotel and just have some time talking to each other , be yourself, have a nice meal together.

get out of your normal routine, break the habit.

it must be extremely hard living with a set of parents not havign your own space.

I was thinking of having a night in a hotel? Was thinking we could go for a meal and then stay at a hotel, would be nice and its getting us out of this atmosphere, ill have to wait for him to calm down before sudjesting anything though.

He did pick up my shoes by the way!

Tue Jan 29, 2008 3:31 pm

jcr16

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Joined: Wed Mar 15, 2006 4:13 pmPosts: 253Location: Isle of Wight

don't suggest it , jsut do it.

find somewhere arrange it and book it.

then text him and say i really love u , i want this to work out , and i want some time just u and me. tell him what u have booked and arranged. adn it should put him in a really good mood. and u willl be able to talk through everything.

sometimes it so easy to all bogged down with every day ressures u forget about what's important without meaning to.