As Heard on The Stephanie Miller Show

Wednesday, July 27, 2005

Remember when the only things that a teacher wanted from a student was and apple and the only thing a student wanted from a teacher was and "A"?

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Former Teacher Pleads Guilty To Sex With StudentCardozo Avoids Jail Under Plea AgreementPOSTED: 9:26 am MDT July 26, 2005COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. -- A former high school teacher in Colorado Springs faces sentencing next month after reaching a plea agreement on child sex charges.

Gwen Ann Cardozo taught English at Wasson High School.Gwen Ann Cardozo, 33, pleaded guilty on Monday to sexual assault on a child by a person in a position of trust, admitting she had a sexual relationship with a male student who was 17 years old at the time.Prosecutors dropped another charge in exchange for her plea.The deal will require Cardozo -- a mother of four -- to undergo sex offender treatment and register as a sex offender. She may also have to remain under supervision for the rest of her life.Cardozo agreed to deferred sentence of four years. That will allow her to avoid prison if she doesn't violate the terms of her probation. .Cardozo taught English at Wasson High School for 10 years before resigning in March.According to a police affidavit, a student teacher who was grading work for Cardozo last February found love letters written to Cardozo among a student’s homework assignments.The letters referred to “doing it today” and ended in “I love you,” the affidavit stated. The school notified police the next day.Cardozo originally denied having a relationship with the boy until threatened with a lie detector test. She then admitted having sex with the student three times a week for two months, according to police.The relationship began when he was a senior, and lasted for at least two months, according to the boy.

Former middle school teacher Debra Lafave, 24, left, stands with her attorney John Fitzgibbons, right, as he talks with reporters after a hearing before Circuit Court Judge Wayne Timmerman Monday, July 18, 2005 at the Hillsborough County Courthouse in Tampa, Fla. Lafave, whose sexual liaisons with a 14-year-old student made tabloid headlines, broke off plea negotiations with prosecutors and will claim insanity at a December trial, her attorney said Monday.(AP Photo/Steve Nesius)TAMPA, Fla. -- A teacher will claim she was insane due to emotional stress and did not know right from wrong when she had sex numerous times with a 14-year-old student, her attorney said Monday."What teacher in her right mind would do something like this?" attorney John Fitzgibbons said after a brief hearing for his client, Debra Lafave, a middle-school reading teacher.The judge agreed to appoint two mental health professionals to evaluate Lafave, 24. Prosecutors have said a state psychologist already determined Lafave was not insane, while one hired by the defense concluded that she was mentally ill.Lafave's trial was set for Dec. 5 on four felony counts of lewd and lascivious battery and one count of lewd and lascivious exhibition. Each carries a maximum 15-year prison term.Fitzgibbons said plea bargaining broke down because prosecutors wanted Lafave to serve too much prison time, though he did not give details."To place an attractive young woman in that kind of hell hole is like putting a piece of raw meat in with the lions," said Fitzgibbons. "I'm not sure she would survive."A state attorney's office spokeswoman didn't immediately return a call seeking comment.The boy told investigators he and the teacher had sex in a classroom, her house and once in a vehicle while his 15-year-old cousin drove. He said Lafave told him her marriage was in trouble and that she was aroused by the fact that having sex with him was not allowed.and ANOTHER!Teacher gets 90 days in jail, probation in sex abuse caseBy Brett Nauman bnauman@pantagraph.com

//-->BLOOMINGTON -- A former elementary school teacher was sentenced Monday to 36 months of probation and 90 days in jail for having consensual sex with a 16-year-old girl.David A. Fox, 26, of Normal, also must complete a sex offender evaluation program. He was accused of having sex with a high school student between August and November 2004.Fox, who taught at Ridgeview Elementary School in Colfax and coached the junior high and high school baseball teams at Ridgeview, pleaded guilty May 26 to charges of felony criminal sexual abuse.During his sentencing hearing, McLean County Assistant State's Attorney Stephanie Wong argued Fox should have to spend four years in prison. She said inappropriate behavior occurred between Fox and high school girls during his tenure at Ridgeview.He allowed one girl to give him a back massage, invited others to his apartment and looked at pornography on the Internet with another, Wong said.Don Wilcox, the Bloomington attorney who represented Fox, said chances are slim that his client would offend again. Fox never has been convicted of a crime other than traffic violations.While emphasizing Fox crossed the line of trust that exists between teachers and students, Judge Ronald Dozier agreed the former teacher should not have to spend time in prison.That Fox never will be allowed to teach again simply because he couldn't "control his emotions" likely will be punishment enough, Dozier said."You've dug yourself a hole in life here," Dozier said to Fox. "But you're young and you can dig your way out. You'll be a stronger and better person for it."http://www.pantagraph.com/stories/072605/new_20050726026.shtmlOh..one more..Teacher on underage sex tryst brings baby, is arrested#message A.P2WRail:active { BY DENISA R. SUPERVILLE and ROCCO PARASCANDOLASTAFF WRITERSJuly 22, 2005A city school teacher was arrested after he took his toddler with him on a would-be tryst in Greenwich Village with what he thought was a 13-year-old girl, police said Thursday.The Wednesday night arrest of Alan Schaefer, 43, was most unusual, police said, because most men who meet underage girls try to be as discreet as possible.But Schaefer showed up with his 14-month-old son, even though he and the girl -- a young-looking vice detective dressed as a teenager -- he met on the Internet had already agreed they would have sex at her place, police said.Holding his son in one arm, Schaeffer took the undercover officer's hand with his other hand and strolled down the street toward her "apartment," police said.Instead, back-up police moved in and Schaefer was arrested. His son was placed with family.Schaefer was charged with attempted sexual abuse, the attempted dissemination of indecent materials, endangering the welfare of a child, his son, and attempted endangering the welfare of a child, the officer, whom he believed to be underage.Schaefer joined the school system in 1983 as a substitute and became a full-time teacher a year later. He has taught music at Louis Pasteur Middle School 67 in Little Neck since 1986. He is not teaching summer school, according to the Department of Education.When school starts in September, Schaefer, who has tenure, will be assigned to an administrative post, away from children, pending the outcome of the investigation, the department said.Police said Schaefer and the detective met in an America Online chat room on July 7, then continued their Internet relationship for nearly two weeks, during which time he revealed his sexual desires.They agreed to have sex in the Village Wednesday night after meeting on the street, the first time they communicated in person, police said.As news of the arrest made its way to the Kew Gardens apartment complex where Schaefer lives, his neighbors reacted with disgust.Marie Lynch, 52, said she last saw Schaefer leaving his apartment -- his baby in a stroller -- at 5:30 p.m. Wednesday, 75 minutes before his arrest."He's a school teacher -- he handles children," Lynch said. "If it's true, it's a disturbing trend. It's very disturbing."Another neighbor said the allegation is "sickening" and a third, herself a schoolteacher, was furious."It's really disgusting," said the woman, who did not want her name printed. "You're really looked up to as a role model and you're not supposed to take advantage of children."You're really supposed to be protecting them."Copyright 2005 Newsday Inc.http://www.newsday.com/news/local/newyork/nyc-sex0722,0,6910278,print.story?coll=ny-top-headlines

I could go on....put in "teacher sex" in Google and you get over 1600 returns. 1600!I don't have the space here....but does anyone see a pattern here? We have some truths we need to deal with. Nowpolybi

Friday, July 22, 2005

What have I done with me?Here I sit, 7 months over 40 yrs old, and I wonder, where did I lose 'me' along the way?I 'thought' I was, if not happy, at least passably content, but..I've recently discovered I'm not..I've been more..resigned..than anything else.I've been loved, have loved, and still have more love to give, but seems very few today want it, cause I have lived half my life already.A few years ago, I discovered Swinging as an alternative lifestyle choice..and so, once again, I felt desirable. A very ..heady.. feeling.. especially for a mature woman with kids and being fat. I let it go to my head..bad choice.Now.. seems time for a re-evaluation of life, love, and what to do with my time left here.

Now I am beginning to wonder about everthing and everybody myself. It seems the Kool-Aid is being passed around freely and people are drinking at thr trough.Right now, I have sat and looke at everything that I have gone through in the last 8 years. Remember the movie Invasion of the Body Snatchers? That final part where Kevin MCarthy is running in the night wondering if he was the only one that the aliens have not grabbed? I have been feeling like Kevin a lot lately.

Walking corpses are mulitplying on the streets at an alarming rate. I see it in our choices in how we live, whate we experience...I mean, c'mon....the number one show in America last week was Dancing with the F'n Stars!!!! What has happmed to you people?

You don't go to movies, you don't read newspapers, you don't experince any life, most of you sit in front of an idiot box and let your mind rot. And our choices! It seems the message is very straightforward...conform or else. Take a look at a lot of the makeover-reality show (worse of the lot, Brat Camp...lets remove what ever spirit and passion these kids have and turn them into little Stepford Teens!

And now I am speaking directly to those people in The Lifestyle. Have we lost our spunk? Have we lost our passion? I am beginning to wonder if those who have proclaimes themselves to be outside the "norms" of sexuality have called it a day, or have been possessed by the NeoCon Body Snatchers.

We've seem to have lost our want for this. Maybe its the fact that we will be stuck with Alfred E Newman as President for another three years, or that Roe seems destined to be overturned, or that you are dealing with the evils of 2257, or maybe you are seeing countries as close as Canada showing enlightenment in terms of marriage, while many still cling to a 1950's that really never exsisted.

Our community...our family...has entered a mailaise that seems to have crippled our passions. We stay home, we don;t go to parties, we do not explore our sexualities and try to step out of our barriers as we once did. We seem to have elected to stay in our little boxes and not try to rock the boat.

Well, maybe its time we did.

Maybe its time we woke up.

Maybe its time we reclaimed our joy...our sex..our lives.

We have allowed this cloud to consume us of our own volition. We have alllowed the Robertsons and the Hannitys and the Dobsons and the Roves...and the Bushes....to command how we live our lifes. A place for everything and everything in its place. Well, its time we started saying...loudly....we will no longer comply!

From this point out, you will not control our bodies and who we offer it to. You will not control our orgasms. You will not control when we start fucking and when we stop....or with whom. You will not control how we pleasure ourselves and others, for as long as it is fully consentual with all parties, you have no right to interfere.

But we DO have the right to control how leads us. Will that person respect our right to be who we are, or will that person be bent on our destruction. If its the former, we will support you with our hearts, votes, and dollars. If you are not, it will be your downfall. It is now that simple.And its not a matter of whether you come...or cum...to a party I throw or someone else throws, but that you support the community. Find a sitter. Get a planner. Jump in with both feet. Get wet and get hard. And often.

I know few people listen to me, but it is important for me to say this...the bastards will not win unless we let them. It is time we start OUR offensive. Let our enemies drown awash in your juices, and let them know that love IS more powerful than hate, that passion is more powerful than war...that sex is the most powerful force in the world.

Friday, July 15, 2005

Hey boys and girls, remember when we found out that Democracy Now's Amy Good man was going to do an article in Hustler, and I speculated how long it would take for thre Erotopobes on the left to snack on her?It's feeding time......Meet Kirsten Anderberg, editor of The Loose Cannon and Eat The Press. Whatever they are:QUOTEAmy Goodman in Hustler July 2005: This is Indy Media???Amy GoodMAN, Spread Your Legs For Us!By Kirsten Anderberg (www.kirstenanderberg.com) Amy GoodMAN is running an article in the July Hustler Magazine. And I call for Amy to spread her legs, herself, like the women she is exploiting for her profit. If Amy is willing to put her articles between women in degrading crotch shots, then it is time Amy herself, was subjugated in similar manner so she, herself, can be reduced to what every other woman in Hustler is reduced to, "pussy." I mean, come on, what are women besides "pussy?" Right? Right, Amy? Oh wait, Amy is the elite feminist who does not have to show her crotch in Hustler? I call Amy GoodMAN out right here and now, as an independent woman/feminist journalist. Amy, it is time you got in submissive poses with your crotch out for the public if you are planning on profiting from writing "indy media" inside Hustler. Otherwise you are a full-blown capitalist pimp. I cannot express my disgust at "feminists" trying to ally themselves with the porn industry as some sort of "sexual liberation." The porn industry has ZERO to do with sexual liberation for women, and is about the exploitation of women's bodies for profit, SOLELY. There is absolutely NOTHING comparable that men are subjected to publicly like porn on women in America. Shaven to look prepubescent, pumped up with plastic breasts, women are posed in ridiculous postures, starved to look thin enough to not be threatening, and I am sorry, but this is all about packaging women as meat in capitalist fashion for men. For a thousand plus year, women's feet were deformed by foot binding in China, and the men eroticized the hell out of these crippled women who could not walk on three inch soles. No different here in this century. If we keep women injected with big balloons of silicone on their chest, shaving every bit of their adult hair, and smeared with every kind of makeup imaginable, on diets, walking on stilted shoes, forever trying to become LESS, men LOVE it. It makes them feel in control. I have long said porn is not erotica. Porn is a system that is set up to institutionalize who women are here to serve. You will notice it is not MEN'S genitalia plastered all over the porn industry. Only gay male porn is centered on penis', mainstream porn is predominantly female exploitation. But as you will notice, whether it is gay porn for men, or mainstream women-exploit porn, it is still predominantly MEN who support and buy the stuff. The reason, in my opinion, is not that women do not like erotica or sex, but that there is little erotica made for women, rather than ABOUT women as the subjugated meat for men. Men have even asurped gay female porn to be about them! By men using women to women sex as male porn, it has made men think they can just INTERJECT themselves upon any lesbian couple, in their minds, at least. I noticed that when I was in a fem lesbian relationship, we were constantly hassled by gross men saying sexual things to us in public. When I hang with butch dykes, men shut up. Interesting, eh? The precious male genitalia must not be seen like women's genitals are. If men's genitals were paraded around as casually as Hustler and Playboy parade women's gentials and breasts, all these men would have huge body inferiority complexes like the women do. women and their breasts. Men would be getting silicon penis implants and would be worrying constantly about not measuring up. Men do not want to have to live like that, so they instead consume, produce and profit off of women's bodies. I saw a cable special on Hugh Heffner's "crib" not long ago. They showed all these rooms in his mansion filled with dyed blonde, big chested, thin, young women milling about with little dogs in their arms for companionship. When these women were asked what they DO, not a one said, "I am using this time living at the Heffner mansion to finish up my college education." They all were doing things like manicuring their nails, and working on their hair "for Hugh," who is the age of their grandfather. It makes me sick that people still glamorize this behavior. Remember the old children's rhyme "Peter Peter Pumpkin Eater, Had a wife and couldn't keep her, Put her in a pumpkin shell, and There he kept her very well?" That is what I see Hugh Heffner doing. Putting women in pumpkin shells so he can have access to them. I see women who want to profit off of porn trying to play porn off as completely harmless. Yet I hear the things they say about other feminists. These women and men in the porn industry actually use things like calling intelligent feminists who critique this mass exploitation of women "ugly" as their argument to shut us up! That is a third grade argument. We can't all hole up supported by Hugh in a pumpkin shell. Some of us actually DO things, besides our nails and hair! And looking "good" for men is low on our list of priorities. I mean, Amy GoodMAN surely is not looking like the women she has her article saddled between. What is up with that? Why doesn't Amy have to dye her hair and plaster HER face with makeup like the other women in Hustler? For that matter, have we seen the naked crotch of Hugh Heffner's daughter who now runs the empire supposedly? And why not? What makes some women think they have a right to make a profit from women doing things they, themselves, would never subjugate themselves to doing? I call out EVERY woman involved with the production and sales of Hustler and Playboy, whether it be Amy GoodMAN or Hugh Heffner's daughter, to SHOW YOUR CROTCH NAKED IN PUBLIC NOW LIKE THE WOMEN YOU EXPLOIT FOR PROFIT. If Amy GoodMAN is not willing to be subjugated in a like manner to the women around her in Hustler, then she needs to look at why she is writing in Hustler to begin with. http://users.resist.ca/~kirstena/pageamygoodman.htmlOh Kirst, Kirst....where do I begin...?Well...let start with Amy GoodMAN. MAN. Right off the bat we know how you feel about the male of the species. Is this the best you can do in terms of challenging Amy's aurguments or even the fact that the article appeared in Hustler?QUOTE. If Amy is willing to put her articles between women in degrading crotch shots, then it is time Amy herself, was subjugated in similar manner so she, herself, can be reduced to what every other woman in Hustler is reduced to, "pussy."I am not here to defend Larry Flynt, but if you take a pretty close look, I don;t see degraded women, I see women who are proud of thier sexuality and open about it...not degraded. Want degraded women?...check out "The Price is Right," where women of all shapes and sizes go nuts for a refrigerator given away by a walking cadaver (sorry Bob....it's time to retire).QUOTEI cannot express my disgust at "feminists" trying to ally themselves with the porn industry as some sort of "sexual liberation." The porn industry has ZERO to do with sexual liberation for women, and is about the exploitation of women's bodies for profit, SOLELY. There is absolutely NOTHING comparable that men are subjected to publicly like porn on women in America. Shaven to look prepubescent, pumped up with plastic breasts, women are posed in ridiculous postures, starved to look thin enough to not be threatening, and I am sorry, but this is all about packaging women as meat in capitalist fashion for men. For a thousand plus year, women's feet were deformed by foot binding in China, and the men eroticized the hell out of these crippled women who could not walk on three inch soles. No different here in this century. If we keep women injected with big balloons of silicone on their chest, shaving every bit of their adult hair, and smeared with every kind of makeup imaginable, on diets, walking on stilted shoes, forever trying to become LESS, men LOVE it. It makes them feel in control.Wrong, Kirst....it's the WOMEN who are in control, you idiot! BECAUSE women knwo what men supposedly want, women can wrap men around thier little fingers and get them to do anything they want. Or does the name "Lysistrata" mean anything to you?QUOTEYou will notice it is not MEN'S genitalia plastered all over the porn industry. Only gay male porn is centered on penis', mainstream porn is predominantly female exploitation.Again, I don;t know what porn she's been looking at...men;s genitalia are prominant in most porn....in fact, thank God for Larry that you can SEE a penis in his rags. You know there are many porno videos that do not show the man's face...but show the woman's face and body in all its glory. Maybe you should be asking about MALE degradation?QUOTEThe precious male genitalia must not be seen like women's genitals are. If men's genitals were paraded around as casually as Hustler and Playboy parade women's gentials and breasts, all these men would have huge body inferiority complexes like the women do. women and their breasts. Men would be getting silicon penis implants and would be worrying constantly about not measuring up. Men do not want to have to live like that, so they instead consume, produce and profit off of women's bodies.Now I KNOW this woman does not know what she is talking about. Thanks to porn, men are CONSTANTLY worried about whether thier whing-whang is 9 or 10 inches, or some impossible length and girth. Here in LA, penile implants are as common as breast implants? What planet are you on, Kirst? You never heard of the joke about how every man is 8 inches, no matter how small he is. This is taking me to places I do not want to go. Nor would you want me...so....QUOTEI see women who want to profit off of porn trying to play porn off as completely harmless. Yet I hear the things they say about other feminists. These women and men in the porn industry actually use things like calling intelligent feminists who critique this mass exploitation of women "ugly" as their argument to shut us up! That is a third grade argument. We can't all hole up supported by Hugh in a pumpkin shell. Some of us actually DO things, besides our nails and hair!Like what? Do you care for three kids, one of them mentally challenged, as well as a mom who is in the beginning stages of Alshiemers (sp?) as one adult actress I know is? Have you dedicated your life, or part of it, to making sure that adult actresses do not die of STD's like Sharon Mitchell? And even though it was more of a side show, Mary Carey in running for Governor showed more desire to actually effect change than you have being angry at anything with an X chromosome (and I know what some of you are going to say about Carey....which, when you think about it, is EXACTLY the point!).And in all of your screed you never once said anything about the CONTENT of Amy's article. WHat did she say? What points do you differ with? NO, you are pissed simply because her name is attached to an article in magzaine read by millions of WOMEN **AND** MEN. People who may not have had that much contact with progressive views anywhere else.And like you said, there are some who would easily take what you say and make disparaging remarks about your looks, of which I have no knowlege of, or your gender prefecernce, which I don't know of either. I will not go that route, for many of us who either work in adult, or enjoy its fruits, have a higher standard. But smearing uninformed invective with that broad brush, take takes TRUE ugliness, of which, Ms Anderberg, you posess copious amounts of.