I am newly back on this site after being in a relationship and off dating sites for a couple of years, but back when I originally joined, I met several lovely men here: one in LA who is a hugely successful screenwriter whose work you would definitely recognize; and a guy in NYC who was a very smart, successful, decent man, but deeply wounded by a tragically terrible first marriage and unbeknownst to him (but obvious to me) he now has a deep distrust of women; a very kind man in Dallas, also successful, but one of those guys who can't be alone and was too anxious to just off check the "wife" box. I think there might have been a couple of others who were less memorable as well.

That being said, I probably had a 20:1 ration of fake accounts vs real ones contacting me, which, aside from being a bummer, is clearly a huge waste of time. And of the real accounts, there was an unusually high percentage of men looking for women who were not equals, either in accomplishments or status. In other words, successful men who are exceedingly easily intimidated by successful women.

It can be depressing to be inundated with negative stereotypes about men, and even more depressing to experience first hand how much of that is actually true, but I absolutely know there are wonderful, kind, successful, intelligent men out there looking for a partner, not a plaything.