International club DJ, record label owner, and the remixer to the stars who famously played Madonna’s wedding, Tracy Young became a tabloid target earlier this month when it was reported that she and Real Housewives of Atlanta star Kim Zolciak have been romantically involved for the past three months. Young, an out lesbian who met Zolciak when remixing her dance single “Tardy for the Party,” finally spills the T on whether or not she’s really Zolciak’s “Big Momma.”

The Advocate: Let’s get right to it — are you dating or have you ever dated Kim Zolciak? Tracy Young: Kim and I have a very complicated relationship. I met her in L.A. in December to do the “Tardy for the Party” remix, which has been released on my label, and through that working process we got really close.

How close is close?I’m not at liberty to say all the personal details, but we have a lot of similarities and a very strong connection. She’s a great friend and I adore her, but it’s kind of complicated.

How did your professional relationship begin?I was sent “Tardy for the Party” back in August by somebody who had worked with Kim. Her people reached out to me to do the remix, and I wanted to. Kim and I never spoke about it or met until December. I’d maybe seen Kim’s show once, but I definitely didn’t know her story line with Big Poppa or anything. When I met her at her hotel in L.A. to talk about the remix, I just met a person who made me laugh and who connected with me. Now I’ve obviously gone back and looked at some of the episodes. Had I seen the show before and known about that story line, I don’t know if I would’ve gone to meet Kim that night — hindsight is 20/20 — but I definitely didn’t go to the hotel to sleep with her.

How do you improve upon pop perfection like “Tardy for the Party,” Tracy?That song is a hit. I was in radio for nine years — I was the music director at a radio station in Washington, D.C. — and my job was to find hits. When I first heard the song, did I think it was a Whitney Houston song or whatever? No. But it’s catchy, cute, and appropriate for the dance floor.

So what did you think when you saw that item on UsMagazine.com — presented as more of a fact than a rumor?I don’t know where that came from. It blew my mind. I don’t know who leaked that, but I wish I did because it would probably help me with some of my confusion. I’m an openly gay woman and Kim is obviously a straight woman.

Were you surprised at how many other major outlets picked up the story? I flipped out! I’ve been in this business for 20 years and have worked with everybody, and people have linked me with artists that I’ve worked with before, but never like this. It blew me away, and I’m just now settling down from everything.

Was this rumor somehow fabricated to help create buzz around the remix?Well, I didn’t leak this story. If this was to create buzz around the remix, I would’ve done it prior to the remix being released in the beginning of February. From what people are telling me, the press may have more to do with her and her Bravo contract. As much as people want to know the truth, I even don’t think it’s affected sales that much.

When Kim performed at New York’s Splash in December, she said that she was “with someone” and “happier than ever.” When host Andy Cohen asked who the lucky guy was, Kim quipped, “Who said it was a man?” Could that have contributed to the rumors about your relationship?Yeah, I think it may’ve spun from there.

Do you have any idea who the unidentified source was that — to use an Atlanta Housewives expression — spilled your T to UsMagazine.com?I have no idea other than maybe it just spun off that previous press that was out months ago.

Do you believe there’s no such thing as bad publicity?Yes and no. I don’t see this as bad publicity for me. I don’t know how Kim feels about it, but it’s not affecting me because I’ve been openly gay for more than 12 years.

People are comparing your situation to the odd romance between Lindsay Lohan and Samantha Ronson. What do you think about your fellow lesbian DJ?I’ve met Samantha and I happen to think she’s adorable. We’re not close, but I’ve known Samantha for about 11 years. Of course they’re going to compare the situations because that was one of the first high-profile lesbian celebrity romances other than, like, Ellen.