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Overview

Firstborns are the natural movers, shakers, and leaders of the world. They can accomplish anything they set their minds to. They're the high achievers, the benchmark setters, the business moguls, the concert violinists, the heads of the PTA. But if they're out of balance, they can be overly perfectionistic, driven, and critical. They can become controllers (everything has to go their way) or pleasers (they exhaust themselves in meeting the demands of others).

Now available in trade paper, Born to Win identifies the qualities of firstborns . . . and there's a catch. Just because someone is the firstborn child in the family doesn't mean they'll have a firstborn personality. They can be third in a group of four siblings and still have a firstborn personality! Dr. Kevin Leman reveals why.

He helps firstborns understand their natural advantages--while becoming aware of their weaknesses and learning how to sidestep them--for the highest level of personal success at home, at school, at work, and in relationships. And he helps those who live or work with firstborns to understand them better. This fun, informative, and practical book will keep readers engaged and provide many "aha!" moments.

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About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, humorist, and bestselling author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday. He is former consulting psychologist for Good Morning America and a frequent guest on The View, The Early Show, and Focus on the Family. He and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and two grandchildren.

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Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, humorist, and bestselling author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday. He is former consulting psychologist for Good Morning America and a frequent guest on The View, The Early Show, and Focus on the Family. He and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and two grandchildren.

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Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, humorist, and bestselling author of The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday. He is former consulting psychologist for Good Morning America and a frequent guest on The View, The Early Show, and Focus on the Family. He and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and two grandchildren.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 9

Introduction: Will the Firstborn Please Stand Up? Just who are the firstborns? 11

1 What's This Birth Order Business About Anyway? 19

2 Who's on First? 35

3 The Firstborn Personality 59

4 Why Firstborns Are the Way They Are 73

5 Where Do I Got to Buy One of Those Firstborns? 91

6 Has the Critical Eye Turned on You? 109

7 The Firstborn Advantage at Home 147

8 The Firstborn Advantage at School 185

9 The Firstborn Advantage at Work 219

10 The Firstborn Advantage in Relationships 253

11 Making the Most of Being a Firstborn 271

Notes 279

About Dr. Kevin Leman 283

Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 285

Reading Group Guide

Acknowledgments 9

Introduction: Will the Firstborn Please Stand Up? Just who are the firstborns? 11

1 What's This Birth Order Business About Anyway? 19

2 Who's on First? 35

3 The Firstborn Personality 59

4 Why Firstborns Are the Way They Are 73

5 Where Do I Got to Buy One of Those Firstborns? 91

6 Has the Critical Eye Turned on You? 109

7 The Firstborn Advantage at Home 147

8 The Firstborn Advantage at School 185

9 The Firstborn Advantage at Work 219

10 The Firstborn Advantage in Relationships 253

11 Making the Most of Being a Firstborn 271

Notes 279

About Dr. Kevin Leman 283

Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 285

Interviews

Acknowledgments 9

Introduction: Will the Firstborn Please Stand Up? Just who are the firstborns? 11

1 What's This Birth Order Business About Anyway? 19

2 Who's on First? 35

3 The Firstborn Personality 59

4 Why Firstborns Are the Way They Are 73

5 Where Do I Got to Buy One of Those Firstborns? 91

6 Has the Critical Eye Turned on You? 109

7 The Firstborn Advantage at Home 147

8 The Firstborn Advantage at School 185

9 The Firstborn Advantage at Work 219

10 The Firstborn Advantage in Relationships 253

11 Making the Most of Being a Firstborn 271

Notes 279

About Dr. Kevin Leman 283

Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 285

Recipe

Acknowledgments 9

Introduction: Will the Firstborn Please Stand Up? Just who are the firstborns? 11

1 What's This Birth Order Business About Anyway? 19

2 Who's on First? 35

3 The Firstborn Personality 59

4 Why Firstborns Are the Way They Are 73

5 Where Do I Got to Buy One of Those Firstborns? 91

6 Has the Critical Eye Turned on You? 109

7 The Firstborn Advantage at Home 147

8 The Firstborn Advantage at School 185

9 The Firstborn Advantage at Work 219

10 The Firstborn Advantage in Relationships 253

11 Making the Most of Being a Firstborn 271

Notes 279

About Dr. Kevin Leman 283

Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 285

Editorial Reviews

What do Jennifer Aniston and Angelina Jolie have in common? And how do they share that certain something with Ulysses S. Grant? They're all first-borns, and in this breezy book, psychologist and "birth order expert" Leman delves into how birth order influences the first-born personality and upends some conventional thinking (e.g., only children and the first child of either sex is automatically a first-born-hence Jolie who has an elder brother can be classified as such) and illustrates first-borns' classic traits: reliability, perfectionism, a penchant for list making and black-and-white thinking, some social introversion but strong leadership abilities. Gender, parental treatment and family size are just as important as chronology, argues the author, who does an admirable job balancing the hope and hype of familial ranking and integrates compelling theories about how schooling and relationships work to address how first-borns can maximize desirable personality traits and minimize liabilities. His spirited and exceptionally easy read will appeal to those readers interested in understanding better whence they came and how to move forward with success. (Sept.)

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This book explains how firstborns leadership skills make them successful. It also addresses how the same skills work against them in personal relationships. Then it provides the ways they can use their skills to an advantage. The book is well written, easy to follow and has examples to illlustrate the main points. The book has aha moments, and provides a guide on how to balance our life. I truly appreciated the author's candor and humor. I highly recommended the book, and suggest you first read the book: The Birth Order - Why you are the way you are? Before reading this book to better appreciate it.

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