Because bouncing is what tiggers do best

crying

I will sit with you in the silence. You can’t stop crying, but you don’t have to stop. Just feel how you feel. let yourself feel the magnitude of what is present right now. Grieve. Don’t stop if you are still grieving. Cry until your tears dry on their own. And I am here beside you.

You don’t need to say anything. I won’t ask you any questions. I will just lay beside you. What can I do to comfort you? I can just quietly rest beside you and run my fingers through your hair. Or rub your shoulders. Or breathe on your neck. Or hold your hand.

Don’t stuff away your feelings. Where do you think you could hide them without losing more of yourself? I am not afraid of how much you feel or what you feel. It’s fine to be yourself. All of yourself. Even the parts you haven’t discovered. You won’t shock or disappoint me. Please, just be yourself and relax. Enlarge the borders of your safety. Lie down in peace. Smile peacefully. Lay down your strategies, defenses, and weapons for a renewed hope in peace.

Empathetic rather than sympathetic. Close rather than distant. Connected rather than unengaged. Even your ability to hurt with and for another is a beautiful gift when it causes compassion and comfort to follow.