So let me get this straight, he harasses you, steals your dog, and rams his car into your ex's car?

I'm confused, this is pretty straight-forward. If the cops have been over 3 times, they are pretty much aware that there is a problem.

Go to the police and file a report for your dog. Put it on social media. Call the SPCA or other animal law enforcement. I will tell you though, people are reluctant to get involved when it comes to dogs, but it's YOUR dog, and you can prove it. He abuses the dog, don't you dare give up on this. He could end up dead, and don't think he won't do it, because he definitely sounds capable.

As far as ramming your ex's car, I would say it's your ex's responsibility to report it to the police and to have his insurance company come after his/your insurance company, assuming you're on the same policy. Yes, your rate might go up, but your ex did indeed ram someone's car. Someone has to pay for that, and it should not be you.

I sure hope you have a laywer, you're going to need it.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
DD - 5 years old
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Be careful giving him your dog. I let my XWH keep my sheltie Samson because Sammie was so attached to my XWH's boxer Molly.... He insisted I take him and I posted on Facebook that I wanted to give him to a good home that had a fenced in yard and plenty of room to run because I was forced to move in with my dad and couldn't take him with me (no fenced in yard, etc). Well, my XWH and MOW were spying on me the whole time unbeknownst to me and he texted me or emailed me (I can't remember which) stating that he didn't want Samson to be given away and that he would take him....thus trying to act like the white knight and swoop in and save the day (and avoid looking like the big douchebag that he knew he looked like!)

Well, as soon as Molly died less than a year later after her sister boxer Duchess died...because she was 9 years old during the divorce... my XWH got rid of Samson and him and MOW got 2 Labrador puppies together (because SHE wanted Labs). He never even tried to contact me to give me the option of taking Samson. So, to this day, I have no idea if he was taken to the pound, dropped off in the middle of nowhere and abandoned, or given away to a responsible or abusive owner!

I miss my dog. And, I regret letting XWH keep him. I should have known better.

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

I contacted police and brought in my receipts and purchase paperwork with only my name on it. they called him to return dog and he was not there in person but told police that he owned dog and had paperwork to prove it. OMG. the lies keep coming. cant he go to jail for fucking lying so much. I married a psychopath.

Years ago, my ex boyfriend stole my dog Sparky. I filed a police report in my town for "larceny", and then I filed a police report in his city for "possession of stolen property". It sucks that dogs are considered property, but they are.

I had all the paperwork showing that he was MY dog, my ex was saying that he was HIS dog. He even called the vet and changed Sparky's owner info to his, which they corrected when I called them and told them the situation. But it was scary to me that they did that over the phone.

I went to court in his city, he didn't show up, but sent his laywer. The judge told his lawyer he better show up in my town court appearance, which was the next day. He was there, with his laywer, I had a folder with all of Sparky's paperwork in it to show the DA, his laywer had what was obviously an empty folder, saying that HE had all of his paperwork. I said "really? Let me see it then" and of course he didn't let me see it. They then made a deal to give me my dog back, but my ex wanted to keep him 2 more days to "say goodbye". I said no, that he didn't let ME say goodbye when he STOLE him. I had to agree to it, or else it would have to go to trial, which would be months.

He was supposed to drop Sparky off at the police station at noon. He didn't show up. One hour goes by, the chief of police calls his laywer and tells him if Sparky was not at that police station within the hour, that he was going to put out a warrant for his arrest.

Sparky showed up within the hour, dropped off by some guy. He was skinny, he was scared, but he was MINE!

This whole thing, from being stolen, to being returned to me, was 2 months I was without my dog.

I say don't give up, and you shouldn't need a lawyer for this. However, I think with this asshole, you better have a good divorce lawyer.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
DD - 5 years old
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 3922 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY

Pentup♀ 20563Member # 20563

Posted: 11:41 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013

I feel like I am doing it more for the principle. I just want peace and to be fighting over anything causes me stress/anxiety.

It would be for the principle of it IF you knew he was kind to the dog and took care of the dog. You have described an abusive asshole and a life of hell for the dog if you do not get it back. Personally, I would not have any peace and my stress levels would be through the stratosphere if I thought my dog was possibly being abused.

I hope you do what it takes to get the dog and if you find you can not care for it, then put it with a rescue organization.

Eta: in actuality, if it were my dog, I would probably need mental help and physical restraint to keep me out of jail if anyone ever punched my dog. I saw that once in a public place and went so ballistic (not my dog) that the wife took the dog and walked away from the husband, I still regret not calling the cops and it was not my dog.

the place I adopted from shows paperwork that if the dog will not remain in my care, he must be returned to the adoption center. so perhaps they can call him and send him a letter to say he must return dog.

I say you call them at least for some help with the situation.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
DD - 5 years old
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.