It’s Just Because You Don’t Feel Well

Ladies, have you ever been legitimately upset with a man in your life, only to be met with the question:

Well, when you have endometriosis, you’ll get similar excuses for your genuine emotions. Heck, endo may be offered as an excuse for why you might be disagreeing with a man.

“I can see that you’re not feeling well today…”

“I know you’re sick, but don’t take it out on me!”

“Are you in an endo flare today?”

So, to the confused and maybe well-meaning men of the world, asking if endometriosis is the reason for a girl’s actions is just as sexist as asking if they’re on their period.

Even if I am on my period – and heck, ALSO in an endo flare – I’ll probably still have a good reason to be angry if you miss an important date, ignore me when I tell you important information, or say something hurtful and mindless like that I wouldn’t be upset IF I WASN’T ON MY FREAKING PERIOD OR I DIDN’T HAVE FREAKING ENDO.

But I’m sure this isn’t a problem unique to endo – have you ever confided your illness to someone, only to have it used against you later? Have your emotions or opinions been invalidated because of your illness? Tell me about it in the comments!

And try these comebacks:

“I can see you’re not feeling well. Why don’t you take a nap and see if that changes your opinion?”

“I know you’re just a man, but don’t take it out on me!”

“You seem really uptight, maybe you should have that checked out. Because honestly, something would have to be wrong with you for you to disagree with me.”

“I’ll check back in a week and see if you’re not mad at me anymore. If you are, then maybe I’ll consider treating you like a human being.”

3 thoughts on “It’s Just Because You Don’t Feel Well”

This happens to me ALL THE TIME!!!
If I get upset or angry, or I’m just being super grumpy and wallowing in it then I’ll cop the “is the fibro bad today?” or “what did you have for breakfast this morning” or “have you eaten today?” or “is it time to go back to bed?”
Condescending ass.
But just over half the time he is spot on, and it’s just that I forgot to eat that day, or I’m recovering from a huge event and haven’t rested enough yet.