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Wednesday, December 15, 2010

All the time, Everywhere...I Am the exact same.

I wish I could say this. Truely say this; alas, I'm not there yet.

It seems there is a:
Work Marie. Home Marie. Family Marie.
Once, even a School Marie.

Each one feeling, looking, sounding slightly different. At least, it seems this way to me. How are you to BE who you are, when the roles you play are different?

I know a person from college. He once told me that he's the exact same everywhere he goes; all the time. I'll never forget it, because I believed him as soon as he said it. I admire him for that.

4 Comments:

It's not easy to be the same person everywhere all the time.At work, I choose not to be the way I am at home, with friends or family because I like to keep my private life separated from my professional life. This doesn't mean that I am not who I am at work...it's just that i'm not fully me: i'm just the serious, professional me. The laughing-out-loud.dancing.crazy-big-hair.t-shirt and jean wearing.me is for outside of work.

Stephanie: I understand completely. Thank you for mentioning the fact that it is indeed a choice:)

With work does, of course, come "professionalism"; and if we value employment, than certain "home behaviors" are better left at home. LOLMy friend from college is truly an exception though; many wondered how he kept his job.

Jt: Thanks for chiming in. I sometimes think I am the same ME, and yet, I know I'm not. Sounds weird, I know.

To expound upon this post:I feel myself being "more serious" at work, "more cordial" around family, more (well, I was) "more astute" at school. It wasn’t that I was "acting" or "switching personalities" or anything like that. When I go to these other places, I'm just very conscious of the "more" that I pull from my hat. It can be draining sometimes.

I often think about environment v.s. behavior. How much impact does the world really have on a person just being who they are. And, I think, it plays a major part. Imagine…

If you could dress exactly as you do at home, at work, school, or church?If you didn’t feel inclined to sound “smart” or “professional” at school or work, because you speak ever so plainly at home? If you could use the same words/behavior around your boss, as you do around your friends & family?

I know that this is not the way the world works, but if it were…Being the exact same person, everywhere you go, all the time would be exact & simpler.

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