The Chronicle of a Reformed Feminist Killjoy

Where’s the line?

I just got married and I’m sitting in the airport typing this while on the way to my honeymoon. Please forgive grammar/spelling.

I’m struggling with this election. With Steve Bannon now apart of the administration I feel there’s no denying the agenda of this impending presidency.

Trump and Co. are a group of bigots. So how do I handle the people around me who voted for him? Family and friends alike?

How does one separate the love you have for a person who openly wants to destroy your rights? Who doesn’t want you to be a part of the country you’ve called home for your entire life? Who doesn’t respect you? And worst of all; how do you face people who will not admit these things to your face?

Do you draw a line and disown them? Or do you humanize the issues, show your beliefs proudly and hope they don’t disown you? Do you love them or show them the same respect they show you?

I go back and forth. Half the time I want to disown my family, but I feel like that is a reaction born from fear of rejection. It’s easier to disown them, then to wait and see if they still love you. At the end of the day, I love people who openly hate people like me and that is a painful revelation I have been shielded from for most of my life.

Deep down, hidden beyond my fear, I know that the answer to my own question is to be a proud and unabashed ally, no matter who it upsets. But I’m still worried, I am worried that so many people are too afraid to speak out for fear of upsetting others, or because they think it’s too drastic an action. I still have these thoughts every day, with everything I blog.

However, the fact of the matter is we were afraid before Trump was elected, and we didn’t take drastic enough action to prevent him from getting into the White House to begin with.

That can only mean that now, more than ever, we need to be LOUD and unabashed about who we are, what we believe, and what we absolutely will not tolerate.

I can’t be sure of what consequences may arise from my participation in this unrest, but I know that whatever they are, they will not be remotely as bad as the consequences born from inaction.
Until next time ❤