I'll argue if it's the last option, I try reasoning and point of view otherwise. Never works as well with family as it does with others...
I have rarely gotten physical with anyone and prefer to avoid that at most cost.

When i was younger I use to fight when provoked and I usually felt like i was always being provoked. It didn't help matters that I use to be a PKA fighter and had an invincibility complex that my friends mistook for a death wish. Ahhh, the good old days.

I always had very large, scary friends....nobody messed with me.
Some guy was messing with me in a bar once and my very scary looking biker friend walked up to him, pulled a bullet out of his black leather vest, handed it to him and said "Next time I send this AIR MAIL".