Understanding Domestic Violence

Spanking and the cycle of domestic violence

Until we stop condoning physical assaults against children by everyone — including parents and guardians — we will not be involved in a positive, proactive, preventative domestic violence effort

There is rarely a single reason or simple solution for anything. However, recent evidence-based data suggests that role modeling physical assaultive behavior is a primary reason for the replication of that behavior. Recent criminal justice data documents the fact that the majority of violent offenders come from homes in which assaultive behavior is common and live in violent neighborhoods where the community does not value education.

While it should be obvious to domestic violence interveners and public policy makers that we are not going to arrest and incarcerate our way to safer homes and neighborhoods, most of them appear oblivious to the evidence-based data which documents that we have not — and will not — do so. What should also be obvious yet seems not to be is the fact that education not incarceration and proper role models are the best and most cost-effective long-term panaceas for violence inside and outside our homes.

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As many of my columns demonstrate, other than for people who are not committed to criminal behavior, the deterrent effect of arrest remains more of a theory than a fact. It is time domestic violence interveners and public policy makers understand that law enforcement, because of a lack of resources and personnel, primarily provides reactionary and not preventative interventions.

Physical AssaultsA physical assault is generally defined as intentional physical contact with another person without their consent.

1.) Corporal punishment can be defined as physical assaults that are used by a parent or guardian to gain or maintain the dominant position in the family and used to control or alter the behavior of the child. 2.) On page two of the Glossary section of the report it notes that the Office on Violence Against Women defines domestic violence as “a pattern of abusive behaviors in any relationship that is used by one intimate partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner…This includes any behaviors that intimate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone. 3.) On page four of the same section the report notes that Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is a serious, preventable public health problem that affects millions of Americans. The term intimate partner violence describes physical, psychological, or sexual harm by a current or former partner or spouse. This type of violence can occur among heterosexual or same-sex couples and does not require sexual intimacy.

Spanking 1.) is condoned in all fifty states and the majority of Americans use or condone this form of physically assaultive behavior. However, all fifty states condemn the physical assaults in 2.) and 3.) above and most often they are recognized as crimes of violence.

This apparent disconnect of logic is primarily caused by cognitive dissonance. The explanation for this cognitive dissonance is that most Americans will not or cannot recognize spanking as physically assaultive behavior that rises to child maltreatment, abuse, or a crime because most Americans assault their children or condone parents or guardians physically assaulting their children.

Children’s Exposure to Violence (CEV)On page one of the glossary section of the EBPCEV it notes that child maltreatment is:

Child maltreatment includes all types of abuse and neglect of a child younger than 18 by a parent, caregiver, or another person in a custodial role (e.g. clergy, coach, teacher).

The report notes that one form of child maltreatment is that:

Physical abuse is the use of physical force such as hitting, kicking, shaking, burning or other show of force against a child.

Hence, if we recognize the above reports standards as being valid, most public policy makers, members of the media, and the general public engage in child maltreatment, condone child maltreatment, or ignore that physical assaults against children are a form of abuse or child maltreatment.

So? On page nine of the glossary section lists prevention and intervention efforts. The last one is indicated interventions. Indicated interventions are approaches that are aimed at intervening with people who have already perpetrated violence or have been victimized. Indicated intervention is the primary role of law enforcement. Interventions after the fact still receive the majority of research, resources and personnel under the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).

The first intervention listed is primary prevention. Primary prevention attempts to prevent the problem from ever occurring. Central to this effort are strategies that attempt to prevent the initial victimization or perpetration.

After 35 years of placing reactionary law enforcement on the front lines of preventing domestic violence, it should be clear that we have not arrested and incarcerated our way out of the problem. This, of course, does not mean that law enforcement should end arresting all domestic violence offenders. However, interveners and public policy makers do need to recognize that arrest is reactionary and not preventative. Evidence-based data documents that arrest accomplishes little to nothing to prevent future and further victimization.

For example, 40 percent of surveyed women and 54 percent of surveyed men said they were physically assaulted as a child by an adult caretaker.

Until we end condoning physical assaults against children by everyone — including parents and guardians — we will not be involved in a positive, proactive, preventative domestic violence effort. We will remain a delusional society that expects that it can somehow mysteriously and magically end physical assaultive behavior between family members or intimate partners when they reach age18 with arrests, while continuing to use or condone the use of physical assaults against children under the age of 18 years old.

ConclusionThe central concept of Community Policing is that society must play a fundamental role in preventing crime. My column Prevention versus protection notes that law enforcement alone has little if any effect concerning the rise or fall of the most violent of crimes, homicide. It is time interveners and public policy makers acknowledge that:

1.) Violence begins in our homes and not on our streets. 2.) The most violent of all violent crimes is homicide and arrest and incarceration have little to no effect on homicide rates.

It’s time interveners and public policy begin talking about the fact that law enforcement has not and cannot prevent people from using minor or lethal physical assaults, both inside and outside the home. As long as adults continue to role model the use of physical assaults against children and among each other to achieve goals, physical assaultive behavior will continue regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation or relationship between offender and victim. In Massachusetts we are attempting to begin that discussion. That discussion is needed because until we begin at the beginning there will be no end in sight.

About the author

Richard L. Davis completed studies in criminal justice management at LaSalle University. He has a graduate degree in criminal justice from Anna Maria College, and another in liberal arts with a concentration in history from Harvard University.