(Closed) just so tired of waiting…(long…sorry!)

Hello Bees! I’ve been doing pretty well with trying to be patient the last few weeks but I feel like I’m heading towards a full fledged freak out again!!

My SO and I have talked endlessly about the ring and he is definitely researching and thinking about a proposal plan. We are also super busy these days, trying to find a new apartment and will be getting an American Eskimo puppy in 1 month! On top of that, my SO will be starting grad school part time in addition to working full time. Needless to say, it’s kind of a crazy time.

I’m starting to freak out though, because I just want things to HAPPEN already. We’ve endlessly talked about ring, proposal, moving into a new place, getting a dog, where to go on our honeymoon, buying a condo/house…but NONE of these things are happening right now and I’m just SO tired of waiting!!

On top of that, I just found out today one of my best friends just bought a condo with her fiance. I hate to compare my relationship with hers, but I just really want to get a move on with my life and I absolutely HATE waiting for things to happen. I guess I’ve always been a take the bull by the horns person, while my SO is more relaxed and go with the flow. But am I crazy for just wanting for things to start happening instead of just PLANNING for them to happen? What should I do? I’m afraid I will go into full freak out mode if i talk to the SO about this…and I would hate to pressure him into a half-assed proposal. Arg!!

sorry for this crazy rant! Are any of you so tired of just waiting for things to happen already?

I’m tired of not knowing 100% if something is in the works. (Yes, I’ve talked to my guy about it, but he’s very quiet about it all). Not tired of waiting for things to happen. I bought a house, closing next week. Celebrating our anniversary the same day. I don’t know. We are always doing things so it makes waiting seem like less of a hassle. And given the sheer expense of getting engaged and getting married (he wants a big wedding) I’m enjoying the freedom we both have at the moment. Would I love to be engaged? Of course. Is the fact that we aren’t weighing on me? Not really.

I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. But it doesn’t sound like nothing is happening. Things are happening, it just takes time for them to come to fruition. Your puppy is on the way. Your guy is actually planning the proposal instead of just saying that he wants to propose eventually at some unknown point in the future. I’m a take charge kind of person to, so I understand your frustration. But, sometimes, you really do need to just let go and enjoy the process. The things you want to happen like engagement, marriage, buying a home are huge and take time, loads of time sometimes. If you want a distraction, I’d suggest researching the home buying process if you aren’t already familiar. Dream a little. Be happy that you are very close to having all the things you want out of life. Keep venting here. 🙂 We all have bad days. Doesn’t make us crazy. Just makes us human.

I agree! Great Advice! I was in your position right before we got engaged, luckily my fiance is SUPER easy going and I sort of took matter into my own hands. Do I suggest this? NO! The only reason it worked was… acutally I have no clue, I suppose my Fiance is a saint, lol. Try to find something to take you mind off of it. It’ll take the pressure off. And don’t forget, you two are in this together! When the day finally comes, you’ll know it came naturally (which is more than I can say for myself!) And yes, make sure to vent to us as much as needed! That’ll keep the peace at home!

@sweetipie: we’ve talked about it and he’s said it will be sometime “soon” and before the end of the year. A few months ago he mentioned before his birthday in November.

But i don’t want to wait till november!!

@claireos: thank you so much for the great advice! you are right…we have been planning quite a bit and actually just found out yesterday we got the apartment we wanted. We just put the deposit down today! We also have a deposit on our puppy which is also coming next month. Things are going to start happening…and he’s been looking at specific diamonds and their specs…so it makes me feel like he’s so close to buying a ring, or have already bought one. I’m just a bit tired of waiting for all these exciting things to happen.

But you are all right! I shouldn’t be freaking out as much. We’re both only 26…and have been dating for 2 years. so i’m pretty much just bat crazy. lol.