Same prenup – different views

Whenever I have a topic that interest me, I like reading article and blog post about it over the big wide web. this way I get familiar with different views and opinions about a subject and it helps me form my own opinions. amazing as it might sound the topic of prenup and prenup meaning interest me 🙂 so, I have spent a lot of time reading about it.

I have never encountered a more controversial subject. my own prenup cons and pros list have two digits number of reason for and against a marriage contract. sometimes the same core argument can be used for the exact opposite reasoning. it seems that the topic of prenuptial agreement takes out the extremes of everybody.

to show this extreme of opinions I choose 2 articles that represent the complete opposite of each other.

to show this extreme of opinions I choose 2 articles that represent the complete opposite of each other.

the two talented authors have a different approach toward the topic. Tamara Shayne Kagel chooses to tackle the subject from a personal point of view, starting from a personal dinner with friends “About a year ago, my husband (then fiancé) and I had another couple over when the topic of prenuptial agreements came up. I reflexively said I would never sign a prenup and our friends were shocked”

Libby Kane takes a more “journalist” approach and her article explains things from the point of view of Terry Savage coauthor of “The New Love Deal: Everything You Must Know Before Marrying, Moving In, Or Moving On!”,”We tend to think of prenups as dividing assets,” says Savage ” The real benefit of a prenup applies to any relationship: upfront, honest communication.”

it seems that Tamara Shayne Kagel considers the prenup to be some sort of catalyst for divorce in case there are troubles in the relationship “I think not getting a prenup is a good idea even for couples who do go on to get divorced because the act of getting one is by its very nature pernicious to relationships”. she thinks a divorce without a prenup going to be harder, therefore will scare couples and make them try harder to fix the relationship. my personal opinion of that matter is that couples that are reaching the “big bang” of the relationship usually won’t be intimidated by the divorce process. in other words, if they were going to divorce the will, having a prenup or not.

on Libby Kane’s article the poor reality that so many couples to get a divorce is on the table and not swept under the carpet “Among the dissolution of a marriage, Savage writes in the “The New Love Deal,” financial issues are those that may become the most contentious. In fact, she shares that in her own experience, “divorce was made easier by having an agreement that left no debate about finances.” against this one car argue the divorce are never easy… the

both these articles are good written and both make a good case for their argument. opposite views yet both are convincing.

what made me like those two articles is the fact that both authors choose to make their article less technically and concentrated on the emotional aspect prenuptial agreement and the fact that first and for all a prenup is an agreement between two individual that have a relationship and most of the time are in love with each other.