Before they begin their story, they are careful to say their journey of reconciliation and forgiveness is not meant to be set as an example for others to follow, but to demonstrate that healing and forgiveness are possible.

In the talk, they begin with how they met - Tom Stranger was an exchange student in Iceland from Australia and he and Thordis Elva began a romantic relationship. Then they describe how the rape happened.

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Watch their full TED Talk below. The video below may contain descriptions that are emotional triggers for some.

It's jarring it to see a self-professed rapist take the mic, and the audience questioned Elva on why she decided to give Stranger a voice in the matter.

"I understand those who are inclined to criticize me as someone who enabled a perpetrator to have a voice in this discussion," Elva says during a Q&A follow-up. "But I believe that a lot can be learned by listening to those who have been a part of the problem — if they're willing to become part of the solution — about what ideas and attitudes drove their violent actions, so we can work on uprooting them effectively."

Overall, Elva and Stranger has one primary theme that they wish to address regarding sexual violence.

"It's about time that we stop treating sexual violence as a women's issue," Elva said near the end of the TED Talk. "Just imagine all the suffering we could alleviate if we dare to face this issue together."