So it’s been four months and two weeks since my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. I messaged him today about an important document I’ve been frantically searching to see if by chance I might have left it at his place since that was where I last used it.

Anyways the short is that he said no he hasn’t I said ok thanks and then he said: “how are you doing Stranger?”

I didn’t know that’s what I had become in the space of 4 months, so I just said I’m great, but honestly it cut me inside. A few months ago he was telling me how much he loved and cared for me and today it was stranger.

I honestly don’t know how people can discard you like you meant nothing at all like you had no value. I still do love and care for him, and I was so hurt that is what he called me. It made me sorry I ever messaged to ask a question.

Am I overthinking this or was that just his way of being polite/friendly?

I truly believe You are “overthinking” this. A statement often is not meant in the same way it is taken. We only speak in words and words often have a different interpretation from one person to another.

“How are You doing stranger” strikes me as He is acknowledging not having seen You in a while. You are not a ‘stranger’ and I really don’t think He meant it in the way You’re taking it – that He was only referring to how long it’s been since You’ve seen and talked to one another.

You said He broke up with You, so naturally, You are feeling sensitive to His choice of words – but I really think it is as simple as I suggest above. I instead would have wondered if He might want to see You again – so as not be ‘strangers’?

I agree I think he meant to spark a conversation. The fact that he called you stranger doesn’t me he considers you a stranger, it’s just a way of acknowledging he hasn’t heard from you in a while.

It’s a tough situation because if you hit him up again you might find out things that might hurt you, maybe he has a new GF. You obviously still miss him so engaging in a conversation could turn bad for you. Good luck and stay positive and with a clear mind.

It does not much matter what his intent was you should not let it bother you.You most likely are overthinking it.

If you have had no or little contact for that length of time, it was most likely meant loosely and not literally.It’s just a term some people use when they have not seen someone for a long time. Don’t think anything of it.