Rules Aren't Real

Have you ever found yourself in a super negative headspace, where you are just spiraling into an evil mental rabbit hole of doom and can't seem to get out? Me too. It sucks. The good news is that brain-based coaching has allowed me to develop some super-simple tools for getting out of an awful emotional headspace like that in 15 minutes or less.

Last night, I signed on to Skype for my monthly mastermind meeting with other female solopreneurs. This month, it turns out we all had something similar on our minds: we are too damn busy. Some say it is the entrepreneur's natural state. I refuse to accept this. Beyond the fact that this idea is fundamentally out of alignment with one of my core values, quality of life, I sincerely believe that what's actually occurring is not a crisis of productivity, but a crisis of available mental space.

Today, I'm excited to debut the first in a series of interviews about coaching - starting with my beloved client of over 18 months, Lauren S. Lauren is a treasure of a human being. She is smart, original, creative, thoughtful, and dedicated. She's more than a little weird, in all the best possible ways. She's made a lot of brave choices on her journey, including not wearing makeup (or shaving), which we chatted about in Episode X of the podcast (listen to it here!). And she's about to finish her Masters at Columbia with a SICK children's television show pitch. I know how I feel about working with her (it's been a serious privilege), but I was curious to learn more about her experience of coaching. So I asked her a few questions...

Today I'm going to share something vulnerable with you: I have clinical depression. Now I'm going to share something exciting with all of you who have struggled with depression (or any other really tough time): this doesn't have to prevent you from achieving your dreams. YOU get to decide, and I have a few really helpful ideas for you to try on your path. Stay tuned for more articles in this series, as we explore together how to get your brain to be an asset instead of an obstacle!

How many times have you made a goal to improve yourself and failed to follow through? Honestly, it’s probably thousands of times. For all of us! I’m counting all the Big Goals (I’m going to work out 6 days a week for an hour) and the little goals (I’m just going to watch one episode on Netflix before bed). So why is there such a discrepancy between the awesome life plans we’ve designed and actually taking the actions that will get us there?

Happy Thanksgiving! This is always a fun holiday to celebrate, as well as a wonderful culturally built-in moment of reflection: what do we each have to be thankful in our lives? This is such an important practice, and one I encourage you to build into your lives as often as possible, for a single, important reason - YOU WILL BE HAPPIER. In fact, gratitude is one of the most consistent indicators of happiness, regardless of personal health, and across socioeconomic lines.

Worrying doesn't work, and recent neuroscience research opens the door to understanding why. Let me explain. As it turns out, our brains can't distinguish between what's imagined and what's real - at least not from an emotional perspective. So if you spend a lot of time imagining and reimagining the worst case scenario, you're constantly putting your brain in a threat state. Read on to find out why this is a problem!

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