In this video, relationship coach and YourTango expertSheila Paxton explains that it's common to feel envy towards your friends who have what you want, but adds that you shouldn't blame your relationship woes on bad luck. Sheila says, "I don't see being in a relationship as luck. It's achieving a goal" ... and you can achieve it, too!

"The perfect person rarely falls out of the sky," says Sheila. Fortunately, "[t]here's a lot you can do to get ready for a relationship."