I’m confused or insecure.

I’m 28 and a couple of months ago I matched with a girl(27)who lives an hour away from me. We have talked every day for the past two months. We share a lot of the same interests and we connect on a lot of the same things. We went on our first date after about one month of talking. After our first date she mentioned she had to go to a wedding and how she hated going to weddings by herself. I told her one of my best friend’s weddings was in a few weeks and she started asked if I had a date. She then started subtly hinting I should take her. I invited her and she said she’d love to go. She ended up telling me the day of the wedding she couldn’t come because she had too much homework to do. This was fine as I didn’t mean to put any pressure on her. I also invited her to one of my closest friend’s coming home party this coming weekend. She hasn’t given me an answer.

Sorry for the long preface. Long story short- We’ve hung out multiple times and every time I’ve ended up staying the night and her place. I’ve sent her flowers when she’s had bad days at work. We’ve told each other in person that we like one another. She started calling me “babe” a few weeks ago and I liked that. She’s not calling me babe anymore, seems less invested in having a conversation with me, and I feel like I did something wrong.

I’m thinking about texting her and saying something like, “Where do you see this going? Because I truly like you and spending time with you. I can see us in a relationship together.”

Are you the one typically initiating communication? Give her some space. Do your own thing.

Asking to define the relationship when you're feeling insecure isn't a good move. I'd just tell her you're feeling like she's got some stuff going on that's keeping her pretty busy, but you'd love to see her and to let you know when she's free next. Her reaction/response will clue you into her headspace.

I’m the one initiating the conversation most of the time. I do give her space often but when I do I worry she’ll forget about me. I know that’s sounds shallow.

I’m definitely going to hold up on defining the relationship. I’m going to wait a few days to see what she’s thinking regarding attending my friend’s party with me. At that point I’ll probably tell her I see how she’s got stuff going on that she’s busy with and that I’d love to see her and to let me know when she’s free next.

How has the communication changed? Does she text/call less or more? How are her replies? About the same or is she taking longer to reply and replies with short answers? when was the last time you texted her? Has she replied to that yet?

She texts less and her replies are generally pretty short. We text in the morning and at night. During the day we don’t text much, which I don’t have a problem with because we’re both working/in school. Basically it seems like she’s not as open with me as she was a few weeks ago and I’m just worried I might lose her.

The telltale sign that someone isn't interested anymore is when they start initiating communication less than before. However, since this woman's level of initiating has always been (relatively) low, it's hard to gauge. If I were you, I'd see what happens if you don't initiate the next date. If she never texts you again, it means she just wasn't that interested.