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meenal
on March 13, 2016 at 9:09 am

Hello Mr. Gary,

I am mother of a 2 year old toddler and have noticed that since last 2-3 weeks that my baby has actually become really good at clicking on new cartoon videos. She keeps on changing the video- despite being her favourite cartoon- pocoyo or masha. After watching your talk, I felt that the addiction to novelty for toddlers could also be an area of study. I do feel that I should stop giving her these gadgets and unnecessary freedom to continue to change the videos. Can you provide some insights on this subject too?

Sorry folks, but he’s a complete charlatan. He’s never taught a “physiology” or “science” class in his life. He is a massage therapist with a couple of bad workshops under his belt. Sounds like he has an ax to grind to me.

Thank you for your comment but I completely disagree. Gary doesn’t claim to be a researcher or a scientist. But he does provide very good content which is easy for people to understand.

For myself, and other man, who has experienced first hand how powerful and destructive pornography can be, need for credentials is much less important.

There is of course time and place for qualified to do their part. Gary, nor I should be part of deciding if pornography addiction is a true addiction, or hyper sexuality or something else.

But I do know that underlying problem is very real for a large group of men. And thank God for people like Gary who choose to help those men without waiting for scientific community to come up with an official name for the problem.

The truth is that I taught human anatomy, physiology and pathology for over 20 years. However, it doesn’t really matter if I was a garbage man because what I present is accurate and based on the latest neuroscience. A field that RealScience does not respect. Bottom line is that RealScience must do her “battle” this way because she cannot take on the real science I present on YBOP.

I really appreciate this talk and also Zimbardo’s input on the subject.
I like that Gary mentions that men (and as further studies continue, possibly women) develop depression and other mental illness due to the high addiction to porn. I would like further information about how social anxiety and depression begin the addiction to porn.

Yeah that’s awesome, wish more people could hear about this. Porn is such a problem today with both men and women. I am still struggling with my addiction to porn pictures and videos. Glad that I was lead to this video.

ED is not the only reason to stop pornography. As the third column of the recovery plan will tell you (if you gave it enough thought) the reasons are manifold. I encourage people think of reasons that don’t just focus on what the user will ‘get’ if they quit.

A few things turned me off about this talk. 1) use of phrases like “hot babes” puts out a ‘boys will be boy’s’ attitude 2) imagery and talk implying that guys are supposed to ‘get’ girls as if girls are just waiting to be ‘gotten’ 3) the audience laughing at the question ‘why would any man in their right mind want to give up porn’ and Gary’s response that focused only on benefits for these men (which happens to be penis centric).

That being said, something is better than nothing. I’m glad Gary made this, and I understand that effective speeches need to be narrowly focused. I was just turned off that that the main reason given to quit porn is ED (or totally male centric).

While the speaker does give us some useful science behind the cycles of addiction and its effects on the brain, his talk paints men as helpless victims to their whims — which I find offensive. There’s a lot more going on than just a starved brain needing more chemical. He says nothing about what drives people to lives of insulated introversion (of which, porn addiction could be called a symptom — one of many).

Just as the speaker assumes obesity is all about binge eating of junk food, he ignores the complexity of the issues, and the nuances that drive people back to it in the first place. Sure, it is an easy habit to follow and a hard habit to break, but it weakens the argument when we ask others to assume that we suffer or act in the same way.

I wish we would talk more about underlying issues, because this is where the “cure” for these ills truly lies. Men and women relating to each other. Real conversations. Open dialogue in person. Stimulation of the brain in other ways besides fantasy.

I do not fully agree. I believe the speaker was attempting to reach a group of people desensitized by porn. To joke about it was his attempt to echo what goes through most men’s mind and relieve tension. Mentioning primarily ED is something *every* man, no matter their place of addiction can relate to and will make them take heed of his finding. I appreciated that he then followed it up with real life testaments showing the vast benefits that can also be found and are not *scientifically* proven yet. ED has been. He was giving a professional and factual speech, not a revival or emotional plea.

This is GREAT. All my questions answered. For years, decades actually, I have never felt a connection with another human being. Finally, I know why. Simply put – because I am not a human being. I am an addict. I’m quitting. I want my life back. I want my feelings and emotions back. I want to live like a human being again. Thanks so much.