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Tuesday, 27 September 2016

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CHRONICLES OF A HAPPY 'GWEGZ'

Dear Stella, Thanks a lot for your blog, I stumbled on your blog last year though I never commented ,the blog has helped a lot during my trying times,it made me laugh hard and I forget my story. I wish to share my story to tell people especially ladies never to let issues drown them but rather they should trust in God completely, He is a hearer of prayer.

I will be 33 yrs next month, single and no relationship in sight. I had a five years relationship with a guy who shared the same faith with me, he was not gainfully employed during those period, I was so supportive that I will starve that not meet his demands. He cheated repeatedly but because of the African mentality and pressure I still longed on to him hoping he would change, he had wonderful family so I held onto them as solace.

I have admirers who Constantly beg to date me but I couldn't because of my faith. It wasn't an easy decision, Mind you deep down I knew my boyfriend attitude were not right, he dated only girls who are working and come from a comfortable home, he had a poor background. Last year after my mum had a heart to heart talk with me, i then mustered the courage to ask him when are we getting married, he said he was not ready yet, how much was I earning that I am talking about marriage. None of us had a car, he was sharing apartment with his friend and I was talking marriage.

I was shattered, I earned 80k monthly and I was begging a man that I would pay for an apartment, it was shameful , I went round his family members to talk to him on my behalf he was on a big No. After the saga ended, I then heard a lot about different ladies he collected money from even twice he had introduction with two different ladies and he jilted them. Then I realized how stupid I was all because I did not want to be called aunty Gwez ,I wanted to marry someone I knew was not right, I read chronicles here and I was like this could have been me.

Early this Year my ex met a girl from a rich home and had his 3rd introduction. God blessed me with a wonderful job that I now earn above 200k monthly. Am currently enjoying my aunty gwez status and constantly thanking Jehovah that I did not make a life time mistake. Am now wiser a man that will never cheat on God and his moral principles will never cheat on a lady, it's better late than going through years of agony

*I dont understand why Ladies are frustrated when they dont see husbands,for Chrissakes,make your self content and happy..if it happens,it happens,if not,dont let wanting to get married be so important..na wah!

Dont get me wrong oh,Marriage is sweet but you need to make sure you do it right or you will come back with Chronicles but if it doesnt come,why make your life miserable?why listen to what unhappy people say?

176 comments:

LOL and congratulations on your new found happiness. You don't need a man to validate you its still important to have a partner you can confide in. Don't lose hope yet and your own will come.Keep your head up and stop using that nasty local word on yourself.You're a child of God and he has said you will be fruitful and multiply.Let people rushing in and out of marriages continue to do so.When it's your time it will be your turn.

Hahahahahaha...Poster,you are not a gwegz yet BUT the clock is ticking though,..Gwegz are women from 40 up...I'm happy you didn't marry the fuck boy!...It's better you look for a man to get you pregnant than giving a man your money to marry you!...It's good you are now wise!...

Sorry to digressA certain bvn (I think Lucile coconut oil, am not so sure) mentioned she drank kunun aya in one post I read it but the name didn't ring a bell so I scrolled past but to my surprise one anon said that drink will make her toto sweet and her hubby will keep disturbing her. Na that one come interest me so I go ask one mallam he gave me the recipe and I tried it (everything cost me 250)..That anon was being modest, the drink doesn't just make you horny it makes your pussy sweet literally, and the taste is......omg........Infact I am hooked! If I catch myself drink mineral again make I know wetin cause am!

I wonder why you ladies put tags on your names. Gwez is not your name and you are taking what does not belong to you. Since you want to be called gwegwegwe abeg enjoy it and let it take up to 60 years.

Thank God for your new job. Keep your head high and dont go for less. Go for the best. Tell God to give you a man after God's heart and dont set any conditions. It is well with you.

I love dis chronicle,I will be 33 in 3months time and am warming up to break up with my boyfriend,he is not ready for marriage and I am tired. I will rather stay alone than be in a relationship that is heading nowhere. Am hoping to get a better paying job so I can enjoy my gwegwelinahood

When a man tells a lady that he needs a car before marrying her; that's one of the lines to throw her under the bus. It simply means in other words that he loves a car more than the lady! A lady of good character is a treasure and a man should be in a hurry to possess her.

Happy to know uve found solice & inner peace, lots of ladies are in that boat, with no hope of self rescue, ure even lucky u didn't get pregnant for him.But that notion on ur last paragraph is so wrong, but if it helps ur pillow get softer at night, u can keep holding on to it, but the truth is being a true believer or faithful to God dsnt guarantee sexual control, take it to Fidelity Bank, i said it. Its all Morals and self discipline. Goodluck dear, love wld mostly find you when ure not looking, in the strangest of place.... & ignore the package, focus on the content.

A lady with self worth should on no account ask a man to marry her. Your mom was wrong. If you respect yourself by keeping your legs tightly shut and work on acquiring good character, a man will long to have you as a wife. Money can make one happy but it does not bring joy; joy is from within. It does not depend on how much one has or earns. It depends on how content a person is about herself.

@ Poster,I thank for you..God is never late..God's blessings adds no sorrow.Wait unto God,He will surely perfect that which corcerns u..Your own husband is coming, someone that will cherish and love you for whom you are...Congrats in advance.

Marraige isn't a sprint. Its not about who gets married the earliest. Better take your time and study the person well before walking down the aisle. The friends you are competing with wont be there when he starts cheating on you and beating you. Or you could find out you aren't compatible. My class mate married at 20. 5 years later and she's now a divorcee with 3 kids. She didn't even finish Uni cos she dropped out. You'll be surprised at how many women are suffering and smiling in their husband's house. Some still come online to bash single girls. Maybe it makes them sleep better at night. Poster now you are wiser. Take care time and make sure you have fun along the way. Life is too short to be worrying about things you can't control.

Poster you made the right decision by leaving the guy. God has blessed you, enjoy your money, help those in need and he'll give you your soul mate, the one who is meant for you in his own time. I have told myself I'd rather not be married than marry wrong all just to be a MRS. Who MRS epp when you'll be crying everyday in a man's house? I pray to God to give me a husband who would absolutely worship the ground I walk on and I'd do the same for him. Together we'd build a legacy and I ain't settling for less!!!

Thank God for you poster. Broken relationship is better than broken home. You are wise enough to get your thinking cap on time than end up been misery your entire life. @ 33, you are not fulltime gwegwes, time still yakpa on your side. Just be patient with God.

Marriage is sweet with the right person, I pray that every single will find their own right partners. We should stop calling people gwegs please, I am sure none of us will wish to be or want our loved ones to be in their situation. Marriage will come at God's time to every one that desire it. And those that do it by hook or crook, stop that and wait for your own joyfully.

Poster, you should look beyond dating Jehovah Witnesses. You've already learnt a lesson from a mistake made. I have a beautiful friend that has rejected suitors all because 'they were not same faith as hers'. You don't want to make another mistake.Now tell me, your ex that was a Jehovah Witness, was he God-fearing? Faithful? Compassionate? Hardworking?Don't make another mistake oooo.

In Africa here, it's not easy Stella,when you are above 27 & not married, it kinda becomes an issue, I know what I'm talking about, your married friends & folks now see their marriage as an accomplishment you haven't had & take out every time to counsel & advise you all in d name of showing concern. It is well Stella, If only one was in the Western state, believe u me, no worries as much as been here.

But still, marriage shouldn't be rushed into as it's a delicate car one must ride with wisdom and some empowerment with knowledge about it. It's sweet when done right coupled with hard work at making it work.Yeah,sweet.

Poster, I pray your man locates you soon as it is "he that findeth a wife" & not he that findeth a husband, asides that, hope you are 95% okay In all aspect join together? Let d 5% be what your future hubby can cope with. Gracias.

E hugs dear,dont worry the right man will come. Hmm I have decided not to put my eggs in one basket after all I have seen and read here, I have not cheated before but will start answering calls from now but no hanging of leg abeg. Thank God he hardly read blog.

I will be 3.. in a couple of weeks time...Am very petite so it will be hard for you to tell too.If i was going to get married,i would have done that at 18 or over the past years.Ive not seen that one that will make me forget any other guy i dated.

Anyways the only thing on this head is how to be more financial stable.A man will come in due time, and if he doesnt come there are a lot of kids out there that needs a mom.

"I dont know why you reason this way " ive been told countless times but we all cant be the same na.#MY OPINION #MY THOUGHT #MY LIFE

Hmmmmm,Nigerian ladies how I wish some of them can accept the signs and know when to move on. Trying very hard to be happy but it is so hard these days,where do I start from, is it d fact that I have to hand over one of d family business to my last born just so our in laws will think he is gainfully employed, he is a hard worker,and just met some people he is going to employ,but his womanising makes me look like a saint,d last one he brought home last night even had d guts to tell me i didn't reply her greeting yesterday nite,only if she knew she was the 6th one in 4 days. Tueh,only if mummy hadn't listened to that prophet to push chinelo away from my junior bro,good wife he said,but terrible inlaws they would be,but at least chinelo took him off d weed and gave his life purpose,but all fummi talks about is marriage,now we have to make him look hardworking and responsible to his in laws. This Friday i sign over all the ownership of the cash cow of the family to him,d loans,d debts,d workers all answer to him,i move on to the other businesses but I wonder about the ladies, if he could increase them arithmetically if his allowance was only manageable,i wonder what he will do now that he has so much money,only if d ladies would just tell him to stick his shit in one hole,only if...........

Loud it abeg, person nor dey hear word again. Everytime marriage marriage, is that d only thing in life? Better to be single than be in a broken home,everybody has som1 that will love dem, so y not wait? . You can't kill ursef bcos you're not married

I always say dis marriage will come wen it will everybody will not marry @ d same time .some early,normal while some late even some very late @ 50es sef while some won't get married akalaka Di na iche na Uche some are destined to marry 3times some twice the most impt thing is dt u are happy with ur life.

Hmm who did you taste your pussy? Lol. Is it FIN drink? That's what i know it as. I haven't tried it tho. So it makes you horny and makes your vjayjay taste good too? You have to give your partner too right? What's the point if you are horny and he's not?

In order words money over man right? ..your 200k job would hug you in time so of sadness and hope you can take out some of the naira notes and name them as your kids while you bath them and take them to school. Get a real man..it sucks to be alone, you should have like 3 kids by now. don't be deceived your village people are still on your matter.

Hmmmmm,Nigerian ladies how I wish some of them can accept the signs and know when to move on. Trying very hard to be happy but it is so hard these days,where do I start from, is it d fact that I have to hand over one of d family business to my last born just so our in laws will think he is gainfully employed, he is a hard worker,and just met some people he is going to employ,but his womanising makes me look like a saint,d last one he brought home last night even had d guts to tell me i didn't reply her greeting yesterday nite,only if she knew she was the 6th one in 4 days. Tueh,only if mummy hadn't listened to that prophet to push chinelo away from my junior bro,good wife he said,but terrible inlaws they would be,but at least chinelo took him off d weed and gave his life purpose,but all fummi talks about is marriage,now we have to make him look hardworking and responsible to his in laws. This Friday i sign over all the ownership of the cash cow of the family to him,d loans,d debts,d workers all answer to him,i move on to the other businesses but I wonder about the ladies, if he could increase them arithmetically if his allowance was only manageable,i wonder what he will do now that he has so much money,only if d ladies would just tell him to stick his shit in one hole,only if...........

Stella, you've said it allThe worst place after Hell, is wrong marriage!A lot of married people we're comparing ourselves to are even suffering and smilling!!Marriage is a good thing, with the person who is ready to make it work,nobody is perfect!!

Amen. I'm glad the Poster didn't compromise in this situation. There's more to life than to stay glued for life to a person who's less a man in the name of marriage cuz that ain't no marriage rather a disaster in the making.

E-hugs my dearest sister. I feel your pain cos am in same shoes with you and will soon be 31. Trusting and hope in Jah but wont trade my happiness for anything in this world. Jehovah is the creator of marriage and will provide at the appropriate time.

It baffles me how most Nigerian girls are so desperate dat u r begging a man to come n marry u with ur lean cash. It's also annoying how most girls take relationship to be an occupation. I swear down if u get busy n u r in d right crowd a man will chase after u n even borrow money to wed u cos he wouldn't want to lose u. Ladies even if u r 50years pls know urself worth. Dress well, eat good food, wear nice clothes and shoes, smell good and also be proud d daughter of whom you are and then a man will love and respect u. Stop waiting for a man to come and validate ur existence. D level of desperation is alarming dats why most guys take ladies for granted. Ladies know ur worth, pose for men, no send them too much and dey will come confessing. Lastly, stop d gutter word gwegs on urself, be fabulous, live, make urself happy, forget men, focus n make money n drive a nice car and d men will come flocking... pls live ur life joor. Na wah.

Beautiful brains you have got girl. What about being a blessing to ur world?rather than live a shattered person just bcz they wanted to earn the title 'married' . if he isn't worth it, trash him fast like burning coal in your hand. There are many fishes in the river na just time e go still be.

Everyone NEEDS a partner. With all the comfort and riches at his disposal to control as he pleases, Adam was still so lonely and probably depressed God had to give him a woman. You want to come home and share the details of your day with someone, have someone else genuinely care about you, do fun stuff and all else people do. Even Linda Ikeji admits to wanting a man, money cannot substitute the place of a partner. I know that, I've got it and wish I had a partner. There's nothing fun about being single. But if you really are happy ( which I doubt), good for you.

All the more reason why I don't date old women, you girls will pass your younger years dating married men, when reality dawns on you, u start running from pillar to post looking for a young man to throw your worn out pussies on, when I get married, if I cheat, i'll tell my smally to get married dat I'm just having fun. Fish brained women.

Am 34,and it's no fault of mine, jst found myself at dis point.truth is,u av to be strong urself to overcome dat intimidation,frustration,depression, love life,love urself, Just as everybody can't be a dangote,like wise everybody can't be a Mrs. Jst live a fulfilled life and do and hang around those who make u happy. I cannot come and kill myself before death in dis buhari recession time.

Shut the fuck up! It sucks for YOU to be alone not everybody. Kids are everywhere and there are different means of getting kids. If and when she wants she would get however she wants. Who told you that if you "have" a man he would hold you in your time of "sadness". I long for the day Nigerian women would find their self worth outside marriage and motherhood. I long for the day Nigerian women would start to perform on the world stage without men being on their mind.Hiss! You men think women are into that shit anymore. Now you can freezee eggs, get egg donor, surrogate etc plus a ton of sperm banks. Having kids in future won't be an issue for those who want and not all of us want. Abeg gerrout! Men would always be available for sex whether you're 15 or 50. Highest you pay them and they go. I pity you men thinking women are still naive. May you not jam my type. Hiss!

I love what you did and am proud of ladies like this...my dear Poster 1: you will find love that reciprocate the kind of woman you are..keep pursuing your dreams and before you know it , you will meet a wonderful man that will cherish and love you forever..May all your dreams come true

Must you do everything your parents say? Can't you help them see the long term effects of what's going to happen? Na wa oh! Me I be stubborn pikin oh! I no go gree. Also, you both can co-manage the business nau. Don't do what you will regret in future. Cos sometimes too much silence is usually regretted in retrospect. Abeg, tighten belt

The truth is when you're confident and independent, you will have a greater pool of men to choose from. It's when you stay on the same level for 5 years that all the guys You have surrounded yourself with get married and leave you alone. Then you start to feel single men are finished. As you keep changing jobs, location, circles, you will meet more and more single guys who will see you as fresh 'meat' and keep doing the toasting rounds and you will have a larger pool to pick from. The problem is that many sit down and and wait for the guy. In ONE spot. How would you not feel old? Hian! Okay

Did you even read what she said of did you just rush to bash her? The summary is "money over a bad man". The 200k won't hit her at night but neither will a bad man. "Get a real man" How Mr I-know-it-all. Who doesnt want a real man? Stop being an asshole.

Please anyone here who can teach me makeup tips for myself.i don't really know how to make up for myself please help a sister.i stay in east London Hackney precisely,please drop ur detail under my comment God bless

Me that rushed to marry because i was 25, divorced two years after because i saw the hell on earth that will make me prefer the real hell anytime any day Nko? Lol...Now i'm happily single at 30 and the over shakara and over selection wey dey worry me no be here. And i still wonder what chased me into hell in my 20s. Abeg i proudly flaunt my ringless finger with lots of pride and peace of mind. Who bad man epp?

Poster glad you left that guy and I believe you are wiser and smarter and much ready now. Can you change your location? I have found relocating helps settling down. It's like starting all over with new neighbors and new community. Also you can't be single and keep yourself indoors when not at work, GO OUT and while at it enjoy your youth. You earn 200k monthly, start saving for destination holiday. If you work hard you deserve to give your life a treat too, all these attract good men and exposes you for a relationship instead of relying on Internet hookup because you don't go out

Arrange for a weekend in other parts of Nigeria e.g Lagos or Abuja. Ogbudu ranch, Inagbe grand resort etc. Check online for cheap deals on all locations. Go to seminars, Go swimming on weekends, you will meet people no matter what and when you do meet someone please don't appear desperate. All the best

Very good anon 17:32. Just make sure u marry that girl u are seeing already so that u do not contribute to increasing the already existing digit of 'older women'. Omomo like you with cassava mentality!

Chikito e hugs....you are absolutely right. Move around and you meet new people that sees you as fresh meat.... Poster, you are no gwegz relax the right man will Come until then, enjoy life, be happy, love and spoil yourself, never beg a man to marry you.

All my sisters had terrible marriages that even today when I see them my heart breaks. I told God I will never end up any of them. I have the urge to get in a relationship and get married but I attract the wrong ones and keep praying for God's intervention and deliverance. I'm older than you poster. I earn 3 times your salary and help out a lot as all their responsibilities always fall on me. I'm still praying for the right man.

She can also book 4-day holiday tours to SA, Kenya, Zanzibar etc. Travel agents do them during easter, sallah etc. But make una cool down with 200k hype though... If I y'all now una go say I dey brag 😂 But really..... *shrug*