ADHD / ADD Support Group

Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.

Disapline for my son.

Well let's see my son has sevear ADHD. He was on medication & things were going pretty well but we had to take him off his med because they need to do testing for tics/aspergers. I am at my wits end when it comes to disapline. As his mother I feel so bad for him & it's hard for me to sometimes scold him because I know he dosn't mean to do some of the things he does but my GOD sometimes I feel like I yell a whole lot & send him to his room.

Snap my son as adhd and ts....and all I do is shout and scream at him its hard not and thats with hom on his meds he was was before meds but still bad now our doctor says my son is severe and I agree I feel bad sometmes but there is only so much you can take we are only human after all

My husband and 2 boys, age 10 and 13 have ADHD, TS, ODD.
Life is hard. I feel the same way you do most of the time. Doctors and social workers say to treat them as you would anyone else, but knowing they are not doing all these things on purpose.
I still don't fully understand how it's possible to both put the label aside and be more sensitive to their special needs.
I read somewhere that kids with special needs don't need good parents - they need exceptional parents.
Ya, well I guess most of us are screwed then.
I'm just trying to be a good parent and even struggling with that.
I pray alot and try to think of what my boys will have to deal with in the real world and try to best prepare them for that. The real world is not always caring or sensitive to their needs, so we can't keep feeling sorry for them. We all are still responsible for our behavior even if it seems we don't have a choice. We all have to figure something out. Now, when they are in our care, we can help them figure out what to do and how to deal with life, so they will carry those strategies that work for them into adulthood.
I don't do this all the time, but it sure sounds nice, doesn't it. lol!
Take care and message me if you'd like to talk more.

one thing that I have found out from my grandsons is that along with the bad behavaior that is ADHD, is also behavior of I can get away with it. No matter what behavior they are showing, they have to understand that they are responsible for themselves and they have to pay the price. I'm not saying beat the poor kid, but punish for the behavior, then talk to him about it later. It teaches him to try and control himself a bit more, and understand that he has to stop and think before doing something. Stopping and thinking is hardest things for my grandsons to do, but I've noticed that they are getting better at it.

I found my anxiety was making things worse for my son. I had to go on Lexapro to mellow out and do what needs to be done to help him. No more yelling and screaming, it sure is nice. Now if I just didn't have to repeat myself 17 times a minute.LOL

THE BEST THING FOR KIDS IS TO ISOLATE THEM IN THEIR ROOM OR SOMEWHERE TILL THEY CALM DOWN THEN GO IN AND HAVE A DISCUSSION. YELLING GETS NOWHERE WITH THEM AND MAKES THING WOSE. I FOUND I HAD TO GO ON LEXAPRO FOR ANXIETY IN ORDER TO STOP YELLING AND GET A GRIP ON THE SITUATION.

My son is high functioning autism. He is what is known as Aspergers. My younger son is being tested for ADD/ADHD at this time or should I say we are trying.

Calm is always your best bet. I learned that the hard way. Calm and neutral voice is very helpful. I had to learn to put no expression on my face because as soon as he saw that he could not hear or understand a word I said. He is a visual learner as are all Autistic children giving time for the child to calm down so you talk calmly is best and giving choices is crucial. You can work on this for 15 min and then you can go on the computer for 15 min. If you chose not to do that you'll can do a time out. Which would you like?

It took me a while to learn this but over consistent, regular routine he began to respond very well and has only grown to respond better and better. Routine is important they need to know what is going to happen and when. This includes bed time and the whole works. I promise of all those suggestions help.

Please feel free to e-mail if I can be of more help.
Sincerely,
Wendia

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