How to Stop Obsessing

Obsessive thoughts can range from constantly thinking about your weight to worrying about whether you turned off all the appliances before leaving the house. Here are some ways to stop those persistent thoughts.

Instructions

: If your obsessive thoughts are affecting your ability to function in your work and relationships, seek professional help.

Step 1: Be determined to overcome your problem Remind yourself your obsessive thoughts represent an anxiety problem, and struggling with them does not mean you lack character or willpower.

Step 2: Identify your areas of vulnerability Identify your fears and doubts, because doing so can release some of their power over you.

TIP: It may help to sit down and write a detailed list of your concerns.

Step 3: Stop obsessing, start addressing Being addressing the worries and fears that trigger your obsessive thinking. For example, if you’re obsessed with the thought that your boss hates you, speak to them, and if necessary, clear the air.

Step 4: Forget what you can’t fix Accept that some things you obsess about are out of your control.

TIP: Remind yourself that most of what you dread never comes to pass, and we allow what is good to be ruined by what was or what might be.

Step 5: Join a support group Check out a support group online or in your area to share and cope with others in dealing with and overcoming obsessive thoughts.

Step 6: Get professional help If you’ve done what you can on your own, but you still can’t stop obsessing, consider seeking professional help. Cognitive behavioral therapy is often effective, and so is medication.

FACT: Studies show that 85 percent of the things we worry about never come to pass.