Seriously. I was looking at those pics and thinking I would legitimately be afraid of this dude kidnapping me for some rape/murder. Have been binge watching Criminal Minds which probably doesn't help but you know...

I agree with you there and have been in that situation too. I guess I'm more talking about hanging out with someone maybe twice when they realise sex is not gonna happen so they bail. You know at that point there are no deep feelings or pain. It just feels they are not actually interested in you as a person because at this point they don't know you at all.

But I know how painful unreciprocated love is so it would totally make sense in your scenario!

I guess its a matter of befriending her without the expectation that it will lead into her pants. If you don't actually want to get to know her, don't pretend that you do. I've had this with numerous guy "friends" who would be super fun and nice and cool but then when sex is off the table, they disappear. It's very hurtful and makes you feel objectified and worthless as a person. My 2 cents from the other side :)