Cunnilingus Techniques: Secrets to Make Her Cum with Your Tongue

If you’ve wanted to go from beginner to pro in oral sex, you have to spiff up your cunnilingus techniques. Wait until you wow your partner.

When it comes to receiving satisfying oral sex, there can be quite the gender disparity. While men can get off easily with a mouth wrapped around their parts, there have been many instances where women lay bored and frustrated while their partner, tongue numb, thinks they’re doing a great job despite the moans ending. Girls know a good oral orgasm can be mind-blowing when it happens. But for guys, the road is a tough one to tread. It’s time to brush up on the cunnilingus techniques.

So how do you perform the perfect oral sex on a woman? Sadly, there is no shortcut formula to eating her to an explosive orgasm.

The female genitalia register pleasure in different ways depending on the person. However, these are some general ideas on how to “map” her pleasure pathways. They help you give her the cunnilingus to scream for without wearing your tongue to dehydration.

Quick Tips

#1 Prepare for a long oral session. Even if you managed to give your partner an oral orgasm before, it is practically impossible for you to replicate the exact conditions of the moment you gave her the orgasm.

Female orgasms happen after she releases that build-up of sexual tension from your lip work. This “build-up” tends to be a long process. There’s no shortcut around it. Therefore prepare yourself by keeping your stamina going and adopting a comfortable position in order to avoid getting a stiff neck when it’s underway. [Read: Female confessions: The feeling of oral sex for women]

#2 Tongue switch. Your tongue is the one which usually does most of the work here. Prolonged use renders it dry and numb. This happens due to the saliva evaporating making flesh contact rough, ultimately wearing down the muscles that allows you to control the tongue. One way to ease this problem is by switching between the top and bottom surfaces of the tongue.

The top gives that bumpy texture from the papillae which women love while the obverse side has a smooth slick surface which allows easier sliding action. Alternating between the two surfaces allows you to last longer during cunnilingus.

#4 Get into a comfy position. In order to last longer and to maintain flesh to flesh contact at all times, get into a position which puts less stress on your neck since your head constantly moves and bobs about. Usually, guys prefer the lying down on the stomach position while the female partner lies on the back as she’s being eaten.

However, some say sitting down on the floor while the partner lies on the edge of the bed is more comfortable. Since we’re pretty much used to this position more than lying down on the stomach.

#5 Mind her reaction. If you think about it, performing cunnilingus is like picking a lock. You’re basically blind and your only clue is by listening to the sounds the lock makes.

In the same way, the only way to know if you’re doing it correctly is when she says *or moans* so. It is important to pay attention to how she reacts to what you are doing.

There are a lot of ways to give her oral and some techniques result in a variety of reactions. If you do something that makes her silent as a grave, stop and move your tongue another way. Keep switching until you find that sweet spot that would make her moan and beg for more until she finishes. [Read: What does a vagina feel like? 21 confessions from men]

Cunnilingus Techniques

#1 Teasing. The key to good cunnilingus is by teasing her. As mentioned, the best oral orgasm is achieved by building up that sexual tension and then assisting her into an explosive release.

Teasing requires you to stimulate her in a way that she wants for some time in order to lead her just right near the edge of orgasm then pulling her back from the brink.

#2 Do not attack her clitoris directly. The clitoris is a very sensitive spot. We all know that just a tiny touch will be enough to send her knees buckling. However, focusing on this area alone leads to a boring and sometimes painful experience for her.

Moving back to teasing, it will be better if you deliberately avoid stimulating her clitoris and focus on the area near and around it. This gives her that anticipation and that “almost there” sensation which leads to a more powerful orgasm.

#3 Light touches like a feather. In addition to avoiding direct contact with her pleasure place, it also helps if you use very subtle and light touches on her lady parts.

Light touches like a graze of the tip of your tongue gives her the anticipation and tweaks her clitoris to be more sensitive in order to feel your tongue better. It’s like tricking a prey to get out of the den for the capture. [Read: 10 sexy ways to please the clitoris]

#4 Use slow, rhythmic motions. Using slow rhythmic motions allows her to savor every touch of your mouth and also allows you to conserve more stamina. The key to a rhythm is finding a pattern where she gets that pleasure. Then doing it until she wants you to do a different thing. There are many combinations to choose from such as:

– Circular motions around the clitoris – touch the area around it with your tongue except the clitoris.

– Sucking the clitoris – wrap your lips around the clit and the hood, suck upward and release like how you would suck her nipples.

– Side sweeping tongue motion – flick your tongue from side to side lightly grazing the tip of her clit.

#5 Stick a finger inside for good measure. Girls love that finger inside her while you nibble on her clit. But don’t get carried away and piston-pump her insides vigorously. Sometimes, just sticking your finger inside and sliding it in and out is enough.

#6 Learn to sustain your rhythm when the time comes. One problem that arises is that the guy fails to keep his tongue in motion due to fatigue by the time she’s about to come. Remember that when you find the sweet spot, keep mashing her button until the end, and don’t even dare to stop. If you do, you’ll end up with a very frustrated girl.

The last few seconds prior to orgasm is the decisive moment so you need to endure and sustain until she finishes. This is why it helps you to get into a comfortable position, and be mindful of her reactions to know if she’s about to come or not.

Every girl is different and so is their journey to an orgasm. While there is no easy shortcut formula sure to give her an orgasm from your cunnilingus techniques at a given moment, there are things that help you know how to attack her from below.

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Paul Mangay
Paul Timothy or “Morty” (as he likes to call himself) is a writer-photographer based in Manila. After finishing a degree in Psychology he found himself swep...