Where are all my Single, Successful ladies looking for a good man? How about those gentlemen looking for a good woman? It’s funny how people can want something so bad but when they get it, they end up losing it. I have seen it many times where men would settle for less when a good woman was right in front of them. Of course, some women have done good guys wrong and vice versa.

At the same time, those good men would make the wrong decision on why they choose to deal with a specific girl. Meaning she showed him gold digging ways, but he was blinded by her body. It happens all the time. That’s just one example.

The trust and love have been stripped from many people in today’s world. I was one of them. Most of the time it is from past hurt. However, it is time for a paradigm shift for someone reading this. I believe more love is about to manifest in the lives of successful, single women.

I’m speaking up for my friends who I know are some great successful women. They are waiting on a great man to sweep them up off their feet. They want him to be a keeper, not a quitter. So I’m really talking to those who don’t follow the doctrine that tells them to disrespect women and abandon their children.

It is time to love more, get closer to God and live the life we were destined. We must tear down walls of fear and distrust in order to heal the heart with love. My life has never been the same since I learned how to let go and let God. Before I was married, men used to tell me that I intimidated them because of my success.

Dating Tip #1:

Do not allow a woman’s success to put fear in your heart. Focus on your attraction for her. Get to know her for who she is and not just her looks or material things. Find out her likes and dislikes, hobbies, favorite food, etc. Learn more about what she does for a living that makes her successful. Show interest in her so that she can return the same energy.

Don’t open any doors if you won’t continue doing it in the future.

Dating Tip #2:

Don’t do something that you will not continue to do after 90 days getting to know each other. Men are definitely from Mars because they get wrapped up in thinking it’s the big things that count.

One thing I know as a woman is that we are emotional creatures. That means, we can’t be getting all this big acts, presents and great treatment in the beginning of the relationship and then it stops. Grow your expression of love over time.

Dating Tip #3

Be Yourself. It doesn’t matter if you are a country boy or a high-profile city guy, there is someone out there for everyone. If you are someone who has a funny laugh, then let her hear your laugh from the beginning. One person’s trash can be next individual treasure.

There are plenty more things that men can do to keep a successful woman. Yes, successful women have a list of things but a true woman understands that everyone has flaws.

It is part of my being and yours too. They help me realize what I can do to better my way of living. As a married woman, I focus more on communicating with my spouse about our flaws, instead of dwelling, fighting and aurguing about the negative part.

According to Google, Flaws is considered an imprefection. To be honests, flaws is confirmation for us because the only one I know that’s perfect is God. Don’t beat yourself or others about flaws. Work it out. Get to know each other differences in order to work out the kinks. Who said life, marriage, business or any of that would be peaches and cream?

Accept who you are. Be slow to speak and quick to listen. God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. Get to the root of your flaw. Where did it come from? Is it a bad habit? Can you change it or is it a natural flaw? Either way, respect, accept and love who you are. Prayer, Communication, Compromise and Understanding is the answer to relationships who are having issues working on their flaws.

Thank God for bringing someone in my life where we both accept each other flaws. We have the courage to change the things we can and pray for wisdom to accept and know what we can’t change.

Today, I ran across a crying mother from California. She has been visiting her daughter over the last 6 weeks in Charleston, SC. Her daughter was blessed with a precious new born baby. However, he came into this world prematurely.

She could barely get her words out as she shared why she was crying. Not only was she going to miss him but she was worried about his surgery soon. At this time, I’m trying not to cry myself bc I can only imagine the fear she had for her grandson. It gave me a flashback when my mother was informed by St. Jude that her 1 year old baby was diagnosed with Cancer. Now I wasn’t aware of my condition as I was only 1, but I’m sure you can see where I’m coming from. I had to myself in her shoes.

She was crying so much, I really didn’t know how to help her smile. Suddenly, the spirit of God inspired me to share my story. I told her, it will be ok and that I was a proud cancer survivor for over 30 years. I expressed how I went through chemo-therapy and radiation at 1 years old. I made sure I told her my age I was diagnose to give her hope about her newborn grandson. I told her how St Jude Children research hospital doctors and nurses was so good to me.

I noticed her crying started to ease up and a smile started to form. I told her that eventhough, the doctors would give bad news some times I had my mom there to tell me GOD has the last say so. She looked up at me and said, God sent me an angel to ease my heart.

OMG, that touched my heart and made me feel so good to know I impacted someone positively today. As we were ending our conversation, she was smiling. It felt like we knew each other for years but only knew each other for 15 minutes. My duty as God’s servant was accomplished today.

You never know how your story will impact someone else today. Make sure you share yours because it can be a blessing for someone else.