Female Sex Boundaries

Here Are 5 Situations Where You Need To Be Really Aware Of Her Boundaries. Communication Is Key.

When you first get together with a girl, it can be hard to figure out how soon is too soon when it comes to certain sexual antics. Introducing kink into a new relationship can cause trouble, so here are some common misdemeanors, including tips on how to stay in the clear while keeping the girl and the kink. Keep in mind that the best way to know if she is comfortable with something is to ask her; people who communicate openly have better sex, more often. It isn’t always that easy, though, and it does help if you can read the nonverbal signs she gives you, of which there will be plenty.

Making her submissive

Being dominated is fantasy material for both sexes, but because the reality of this can often be far less appealing, it’s important to know if she feels comfortable with it. You can normally tell if she’s into it by her general sexual attitude, although this is not the only indicator, and it sometimes doesn’t apply at all. If she is a creative and interested lover, she will probably want to try it with you at some point.

Red light: She may object to being restrained or made submissive, so test her by holding her arms gently but firmly above her head while you do nice things to her with your mouth. If she pushes against your grip and looks uncomfortable, stop. Look at her, watch her face, and you will see her reaction. Always let go if asked.

Green light: You can safely assume that if she shows you how to tie a Shibaru knot, she is keen on being bound and "tortured" with a feather or your tongue.

Anal activities

You will probably know from the start of your sexual relationship whether she is into anal play or not. As far as anal sex goes, girls who love it love it, and will request it without any hesitation. Those who haven’t had good anal experiences will be much more shy, and these are the ones you have to watch carefully. It would be unreasonable to expect her to have anal sex in the first few weeks of a relationship when you are still building trust and a sexual understanding of one another, so save it for later. You definitely need to talk about this one because it requires a reasonable amount of reassurance that you will take a lot of care with it. Just remember: If you do this right, you will get repeat service with a smile.