Mr President: The Ephesians 5 Man

There is no higher office in any land than that of president: the ruler of all people, and steward of all things in a nation. A president cannot function without his chief of staff, yet we do not call this heart of the presidency the president himself. If we called them president we would ultimately need a new chief of staff.

In a marriage there is no higher office than that of husband. The day a man leaves his mother and father and becomes one with his wife, he takes an oath of office which we hope he will serve for the rest of his life. He tells everyone and God in varied words that he will essentially love, honour, protect and cherish this woman, come what may. That day he becomes the president of his household. That day he is officially ordained as the Ephesians 5 Man. The Ephesians 5 man is the man who answers God’s call to husbands. Ephesians 5 not only ordains men as leaders in their families but it tells men that that leadership should be founded on love and love alone.

There are three essential components in this call to a man’s role as family president. First is the call to office; “the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour (Ephesians 5: 23).

The second is the duties of office stipulated, ”husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body.” (Ephesians 5:26-30).

Finally, there is validation of the husband’s call to leadership “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 this is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.” (Ephesians 5:32-33).

The leadership in the home should mirror Christ’s leadership in the church. That is not a small concept. The magnitude of this calling is almost unfathomable. Just simply imagining our little brothers as President of our dear nations one day is mind blowing, yet all husbands are called to a leadership post far greater than that of nations.

For men themselves this call is often daunting and overwhelming. However, men please remember that you are not called to do this by your own strength. The God who chose you will equip you. The person you are called to love and cherish and protect so much is your Chief of Staff. She is more than a woman, just as you are more than a man. The presidents of nations lean on their chiefs of staff; they value their voice and do not see it as a coup in waiting. They communicate deeply and thoroughly with the Chief of Staff. Absolute transparency is necessary for the Chief of Staff to ensure the President is successful in his office. The Chief of Staff doesn’t use what she knows of the President’s weaknesses to cripple him, but shields him, filling the gaps so the world doesn’t see his vulnerabilities. This only works if he is honest with his Chief of Staff about the good, the bad and the ugly. He stands confidently in front of the world, a world that never sees his Chief of Staff propping him up. The success of the Chief of Staff rests in the success of the presidency. Such is the nature of a man’s wife. She is called to be his Chief of Staff and greatest hidden asset.

Gentlemen, there is much greatness to be achieved by simply claiming your birth right as an Ephesian 5 men. For those who after reading this article have realised that this is in fact their first day in office, we as the Real Man Campaign say: ‘best wishes Mr President, your legacy begins now’.

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