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Every marriage is bound to encounter a few bumps along the road, especially when you're first starting out. We're here to help you out with solutions to couples issues and common newlywed arguments. First, find out about the tried-and-true stuff your parents probably wish they'd known. We've sorted out the newlywed "rules" you can ignore from the relationship mistakes you need to avoid. Learn the right way to handle a fight and the solutions to the most common newlywed arguments. We've also got help for couples issues that are specific to the modern marriage. For example, the four rules of Facebook for couples, how to deal when you're married to a metrosexual, and handling coworker crushes. You can also read our expert Q&A for dealing with all kinds of couples issues. Find tips on making friends as a couple, managing work stress as a pair, and avoiding common newlywed arguments about stuff like cleaning and entertaining. We'll help you solve issues with everyone -- your honey, your couple friends, your in-laws -- and find solutions that work in every part of your life, from the bedroom to the office. From whether it's okay to tell friends about your issues to breaking out of a sex rut, we've got you covered. And don't forget your fellow Nesties! We've pulled together lists of real couple gripes and likes, Nesties' marriage secrets, and their most ridiculous fights -- you're sure to relate to something! Or find even more sympathetic ears with our relationships message board.

Our friends insist on bringing their baby everywhere we go, even parties. It really bugs us. How can we drop a hint?

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Proceed with caution! Many couples agonize over leaving baby at home and will bristle at even the most innocent comment. First, realize that your friends' lives have changed—pretty much forever. You're never going to get them back sans baby. Second, know that even the most dedicated parents will eventually be desperate for a break. So stay mum and wait it out. Truth is, it's technically none of your business. The exception? If you're hosting a party and would prefer an adults only affair. In that case, if you're sending a print invite, specify that the party is adults only. If you're inviting friends via phone, casually offer to help them find a sitter.