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I was listening to hitz.fm.. and the line struck me “When you are angry, you cannot think properly”

This is so true in so many levels. A lot of time when we say and do things we don’t mean, it is when we lost our cool. We may be consumed by anger, frustration, fear or worse an elated ego. The key most important skill everyone should have is the ability to control and change our own state of mind and emotion.

So, what can we do to change our emotional state?

Pattern interrupt: do something that stops and interrupt an unresourceful state.

You can shift your physiology. Change your body posture: stretch, jump or get up and dance.

Divert your focus. Just like we normally do it with crying toddlers; ‘look look up there is a lizard’. Focus on something else first

Change your language. What do you say to yourself? What if you intensify the positive words and de-intensify the negative words. For example, instead of ‘angry’ replace with ‘a little upset’. Instead of ‘happy’ replace with ‘ecstatic’

We can powerfully change the meaning we attach to our experiences. This reminds me of the Thomas Edison story: when interviewed by a reporter about his failures, he answered ‘what failures? I just found 10000 ways how not to do it’

When you are angry, you can’t think properly; so take time and count to 10; take deep breaths or go take a walk to cool off. This will help clear your mind … so you can think through your next step of action.

Do not make any impulsive decisions or actions especially when you are in any unresourceful state of mind. We must take back our power and be in control of how we feel, what we think, what we say and what we do.

The ability to manage your emotions is a vital skill for anyone in pursuit of excellence. It defines you as a person, your ability to handle challenges and crisis in any situation. You will be so much more empowered to make clear and decisive actions.

We must empower ourselves and not give our power away to someone else or some situation.