Guide to Dating After 50

Posted
Wednesday, January 11, 2012 10:43 am

A growing number of people entering the world of dating are over
the age of 50. While some things have changed since they did this
the first time around, the rules of dating have largely remained
the same.

During an episode of the popular sitcom, "Seinfeld," George
Costanza experiences extreme anxiety from the thought of his
recently separated mother being "out there" in the dating
world.

"I'm out there," offers Estelle.

"No, you're not! Because I'm out there, and if I see you out
there, there's not enough voltage in the universe to electroshock
me back into coherency," George says.

However, the fact remains that many seniors are re-entering the
dating world after divorces or the death of a spouse. Some eternal
bachelors and bachelorettes may have never left.

For those about to re-enter the dating game in their senior
years, these tips and tidbits may help make the process a bit
easier.

* Use dating sites. For those shy about simply mingling in the
singles' social scene, online sites offer a measure of anonymity
and can take away some of the pressure. Plus they enable daters to
pool from a wide array of potential mates. Dating sites also give
those seeking mates a chance to learn a little about what makes the
other person tick, which can be a good starting point for
conversation when a date is eventually set.

* The numbers are favorable for men. Senior men entering the
dating world have an easier time of finding a potential date simply
because there are more women than men in the senior age bracket.
Women tend to live longer than men, which widens the dating pool
for gentlemen.

* Use tried and true tactics. Some of the same ways people
landed a date in the past remain the best ways to land one now.
Individuals can ask to be set up by friends with single
acquaintances. People can participate in activities they enjoy and
chat with others who share the same likes. Simply being friendly
and getting the word out that there is an interest in dating may
help.

* Get a makeover. Now may be the time to explore some new
wardrobe options or experiment with a different haircut. Potential
mates will likely want a date who looks put together and current.
Although you shouldn't judge a book by its cover, most people still
do.

* Remember to be safe. Those who plan to date and become
sexually active should take precautions against diseases -- they
don't discriminate based on age. Keep in mind that, although rare,
pregnancies are possible even for a women in her 50s if she hasn't
yet gone through menopause. Individuals may find themselves at the
pharmacy once again sheepishly purchasing condoms.

* Realize it may take time. Finding the right match may take
several dates and patience. Just because a person is now older
doesn't mean he or she has to be desperate and accept the first
person who comes along. If there's no chemistry, say so and move
on. Once that special person is found, it will be worth the
effort