The sun and the earth with its magnetic fields. Trying to get a perspective on things.

After 5 days of talking there’s an agreement. It will start with a skype conversation in December, and continue from then on as is, or with possible adjustments after evaluating how it’s working out for us:

Conflict handling process between Milla and Daniel

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we are going to have skype conversations

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Daniel will notify Milla by SMS about the possible times for talks in advance (meaning at least 5 days)

Daniel will send an SMS monthly to inform Milla if he cannot find a computer

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the talking time will be shared equally: Milla talks, Daniel listens, then Daniel talks and Milla listens

the person listening is given space to reflect on what they hear the other person say throughout the talk

we try to stay away from expressing own opinions and ideas while reflecting (meaning not starting to give advice or state what is right or wrong about what is said)

the focus and the space is for the person talking

the reflection is there to check whether there is an understanding and it is up to the person talking to decide if they feel heard or not

after the talks there is feedback time for both to express how the talk felt like

the length of the talk is 90 minutes comprising of 2 rounds each 25 minutes with 20 minutes of feedback time following them

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if someone is triggered during the interaction, this person can choose to end the talk and postpone it or ask for time-out

postponed talks will be continued at the following occasion

if there is a time-out, the suggested time is 10 minutes, but it’s up to the person who asked for it, to decide how long the break will be

after the time-out the person who asked for it, suggests who will be heard first, if we can´t agree on who comes first, then we decide randomly (for instance by flipping a coin)