Between Apositive and Aven it's claimed their are over 69,000 members and meets avaliable pretty much at the main capitals and big cities where the users predominantly are.

But, turn out at real life meets can often be counted on one hand...then when you look at avens entry into pride marches they again are possibly two hands but not much more.

So, have you ever attended an asexual meet if you did , why? or if not why not?....and more so have you ever attended an asexual group that is on one of the pride marches and if so why? and if not why not?

What I'm trying to find out is wether real live versus internet..... and wether asexuality is an internet thing only for the mass numbers of membership and also the reasons why you would go and the reasons why you would not?

The Asexual Community is Toronto is extremely powerful. I could list all the achievements that have occurred here regarding Asexuality in the previous two years. It was quite the boom.

- Asexual is now included in the yearly Pride March(http://www.pridetoronto.com/)- There is a dominate Asexuality Group called "Ace Toronto/ Asexual Outreach"- There are Asexual Foundations in at least 4 Universities- There are at minimum 3 LGBT Groups that have Asexual Foundations.- There is a yearly asexuality conference, hosted by Asexuality Toronto, which new stems 2 days.

So did you go Steph? and if I can....on that pride Toronto link...go in and the section that is "friends of pride" ..I saw Ho's Team...does it have a different meaning in Canada or is that a persons name ?

Yes, I've been to Pride, spoke on Panel at the Conference Last year (A funny story, involving Michael and me being at the wrong place at the right time). Everyone is welcome as its a week long event that involves the entire downtown core. As for the March, I guess you would have to get into one of the groups? I know that last year Asexuality had two representing groups. AVEN and Asexuality Toronto (I believe?).

As for the workshops/ foundations, I only spoke the ones I started/ have participated in. I monitor one University and one College, plus three out of the four queer groups I know about. School workshops however have slowed as of recent, but my partner has done a media interview recently so there's that. In general, asexual has a nice physical hold in Toronto beyond have I've contributed to. It would be unwise not to capitalize on this surge!

PiF wrote: sjws are just people on the internet who will probably die in a room full of cats in their old age.

Just wait until the day you come face to face with one in the flesh. It is uncomfortable as hell and... *shivers*

I am part of nearly every group they 'fight' for and I would still have taken bets on how long it would have taken me to punch somebody. The mild ones are fine, I can see their point...but the others are just deplorable.

I went to some meets, but got tired of it. I could not relate to any of the people there. I don't know how to describe it but they just weren't for me. Maybe I find it hard to make friends or maybe they came across as a little snobby or its just me, have no idea.

I did go to a pride parade in NY and I guess it was fun marching. but god there was no fucks given. Woman were topless, people smoking weed out in public (my clothes stank of it and my mom went apeshit), there were tons of kids who had to see people in weird sex costumes and people kept hitting on us and it was very uncomfortable. So much for an event about lgbt awareness. Maybe smaller parades are more modest.

As for the meets.....some find them difficult but I feel that is mostly because behind a screen many gain a confidence they do not have in the real world so when real life meet happens, often people are different...who would have thought I am a kind, quite and softly spoken man? Still an arse though

The lgbt...I've never had a problem with them...I have always had a big problem with us being pushed into being part of the franchise

Mostly because I have yet to meet a a more sexual body than the lgbt and many marches are like a meat market .... than a meet market...if anything the total opposite of what we are

It would be like being an atheist then trying to promote that at your local church on a sunday

The association whilst increasing visibility for asexuality...is a damaging and dangerous one for us

People should go if they want of course, but as a group that wants to be believed..the lgbt franchising is providing the doubt some would use against us and is ruining our genuine desire to make sure our first impression is the right one

My friends are LGBT and they all pretty much agreed that exhibitionism in pride parades is appalling. It just ruins awareness. None of them find the over sexualization in LGBT community helpful. I probably couldn't agree more. I don't think this is solely an asexual thing, it's a serious problem overall in the community. It's society's idea that LGBT people are more sexual than straight people and they have to show it. Or the idea you have to prove yourself to be LGBT. Your sexuality is only who you are as a person and nothing else. That's what I get from this .-.

I have attended pride events for asexual awareness, and will do so again.

I will agree with PiF and CatBunny though, some of the behaviour I felt uncomfortable about. Let's just say that having a 8' banner with asexual on it was a welcome defence. But as part of the minority who identify as other than cis-hetero to me it's the only way we can increase awareness. After all there is no cis-hetero pride we can join up with, is there? Needs do as needs must, but don't bend down and pick a coin off the floor

The only disadvantage is that the Pride in Durham on 28/5/18 (a bank holiday) usually involves acts which are appallingly awful. Last year had Jedward and the previous year the Cheeky Girls (Google them). Prepare to vomit.

Nowadays I'm more of a stealth asexual. I'm also an older woman with grey hair, and I find that some people seem to be more squicked at the idea of senior women enjoying sex than they are at the idea of us being dis-interested.Part of me wants to fight the stereotype, the other part just wants to catch up on chores. I feel like I already did my quota of TV appearances and interviews and I'm willing to pass the baton to the next group of runners now.

Alas most of the kids who identify as Ace have pink tinge now. This is something which I have never felt being a part of. I show my face to show that we are not a current fashion identity trend.I'm friends of some of the gay community, not part of it, but welcomed.