It’s okay and healthy to feel excited about someone or something; to allow your heart to fully expand at the possibility of an experience your heart desires to have. It’s okay to share this excitement with your loved ones.

It’s okay to be vulnerable, transparent, believe, trust and be open to love.

It’s okay to want to have a beautiful, passionate, fun, exciting, healthy, life-giving, emotionally mature, safe love experience absent of the 3Cs, filled with the 3Rs.

It’s also okay to feel disappointed when it does not come to fruition or dissolves before your heart is ready to part.

Sometimes we may feel an element of shame and/or embarrassment when a relationship either does not manifest or ends. We may dread having to face those very same people we shared our excitement with and their desire to know why.

Disappointment may result in feeling foolish for being excited, hopeful and we may erroneously believe moving forward we should temper our excitement or not to allow ourselves to get excited at all. We may conclude that it is not emotionally safe to dream, hope, trust and believe the vision and promise God placed in our hearts and spirit. We may incorrectly believe we are not good enough or worthy because if we were, X would have happened or Y would not have ended.

It’s okay to allow yourself to FULLY feel the disappointment. Actually, it is the healthiest way to process. Allow it to flow through you. Do not stuff it.

Go outside without any gadgets.

Place your bare toes in the grass.

Close your eyes.

Wiggle your toes.

Open your arms.

Inhale deeply.

Exhale slowly.

You are alive. You are here. You are a gift.

Do you realize how many stars had to align to create you?

Can you comprehend the miracle that is you?

Can you grasp that ‘THIS’ disappointment/setback is merely ‘self-correcting’ re-calibrating to realign you with your purpose.

There is ABSOLUTELY nothing out of the reach of God/Love…NOTHING! There is NOTHING anyone can do and there is NO ONE on this plane (or any other) that serves as a ‘gate keeper’ to the love that has been allocated to you.

NOTHING.

NO ONE.

Listen to me love. Can you hear me dear heart? Yes, you…the one who feels as it there is no way you can get pass ‘THIS.’ You are in a body, on a round sphere suspended in the galaxy near the sun and darkness simultaneously. Believe me…’THIS’ cannot compare to the infinite miracles that is life, love and God.

It’s okay to feel disappointed.

It is better to release, trust and KNOW that who and what is for you is for you and EVERYTHING and EVERYONE that isn’t will make their exit in some of the most creative ways. Do not resist. Allow.

It’s interesting how we speak of broken hearts, when our heart is extremely resilient. It has been beating every day and moment since we were in our mother’s womb. If you are reading this, you are still here… it has not stopped, not even once.

In reference to emotional pain, perhaps it is NOT our heart that ‘breaks’ instead it is the mind that refuses to ‘break’ from the version it created because it erroneously believes it is the ONLY or best version available.

So it holds on when spaces end. It tortures us with the incessant questions of ‘why’…

Why did he stop loving me?

Why did she not return my messages?

Why did I not get accepted into…

Why did Person X die?

Why does he/she not want me?

Why can’t we conceive a child?

Why did I miscarry?

Why did we lose a child?

Love has infinite ways in which it can manifest, move and bloom in our lives. It may not be the version, person, situation you have created in your head. Do not stifle love. The mind is too rigid for love to thrive. Let go, my love. Be gentle with yourself. Mourn the loss if you need to and lovingly release it. Odo Nyera Fie Kwan (Love Never Loses it’s way home, Ashanti proverb).

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...This is why the ONLY sustainable method is to lean into the pain, feel it, accept it and use it (along with a therapist) to help you transform it. Everything else is an illusion. Me time is what gives you the space to do all of this because it will take time.

It is easy to lose sight of the big picture and who we are in the mist of these type of emotional storms and even easier to get swept into the tumultuous tornado of heartache. This is what social media does not show. Your friends, associates and loved ones rarely post pictures, live videos and posts about these moments in their lives.