Blended families: Bridging the divide

Blended families, also known as step-families, are becoming more and more common in society. While merging two families into one can be a very hard task, there are some tips to make it easier.

Making a fresh start in a neutral territory can make the process of blending the family much easier. This can prevent new family members feeling like outsiders in someone else’s house. It can also help to avoid children having feelings of resentment because they may feel as though their personal space has been invaded by new people. While the trouble of securing a new home may be a little excessive, the benefits could be worth it in the long run.

Remember to put your partnership first. Your children and step-children will need a stable household and providing a loving and stable relationship for your kids to see will help ease their fears of future changes.

Keep your ex-spouses involved in your kids’ lives. Children deserve to have both of their parents involved in their lives. A step-parent should never try to take away the role of a real parent.

Another must is to become a friend to your step-children. While your step-children may never consider you their parent, they will enjoy having you as someone they can talk to. Try to be a positive and consistent role model for them at the same time. Fostering good communication will help you to build a relationship and will help your newly formed family bond. Make time to bond with both your children and your step-children, even if just for a few minutes a day

Overall, one of the most important factors to keep in mind is that the blending process will not be an easy one. Keep your expectations realistic.