I honestly wish I could understand the female brain. Today my wife went for a sleep, woke up 2 hours later and the world fell down on me for every reason under the sun... From nothing wrong to nothing right ... Why?

I honestly wish I could understand the female brain. Today my wife went for a sleep, woke up 2 hours later and the world fell down on me for every reason under the sun... From nothing wrong to nothing right ... Why?

Broad, sweeping generalizations like that do no good. How the hell are we supposed to know why she's pissed at you? There are 2 sides to every story, right? Maybe her nap was just too long???

Claimed I was selfish and only thought of myself during her sleep... I was watching tv yes but playing with the kids to keep them quiet, fed them and made sure there were no accidents. Somehow it all went wrong. Guess my main point is guys say their say as and when something happens, at least I do. Most girls I know allow it to fester and the smallest thing then turns into a volcano... Pisses me off.

Is there a chance you took care of the kids and all that for the wrong reasons or did you do it to honestly give the wife a break with no expectation of 'payback'? I know when I was married, if I did something hoping I might get what I want later, it usually backfired. On the other hand if I offered to do something like that simply because it seemed like she could use a nap and I was doing it for HER instead of for SOMETHING, she was incredibly grateful for my help.

If you would truly care more for her then you do yourself then that would not happen as often. I and many of the women I know truly give from their hearts and all they want is a man that will do the same. Make an effort to do something for her that you know SHE would like and not what you would like. Men and women both do this. We give to others what we want from them....learn from that and learn what she wants from what she does for you. That will not always be easy because usually what she needs from you is the last thing you want to give....but I guarrentee that it will pay off in the end with a happier and more fulfilling marriage.

Many women wake up pissed off after a nap. They dreamed of escaping and then woke up to the reality of dealing with a husband and kids. Did she apologize for acting that way? If not then you have a big problem.

No apology yet... I forgive quickly though. No was not done because I expected anything else. She often sleeps and I look after them. I think a lot of stress in both our lives not helping...Thanks for the replies everyone. I do need to appreciate her more...

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Perhaps when you watched and fed them, you inadvertently made a bigger mess? I know my ex would say he was watching the kids but would wake up to a trashed house. You say you played with them, did you pick up behind them? You made dinner, did you leave a mess in the kitchen? All of those would leave me cranky. Perhaps she is tired of her situation? That makes a lot of women cranky too. I'm sure there are other pieces to your puzzle!

@naughty nurse, there always would be another side but no... we were not even at our own house. We did not move out the lounge other than to get drink or whatever. Less mess when she woke up because I ask my kids to tidy up before playing with something new etc. Whatever it was it must have been one of those moments. All is normal now. We live in Africa because we choose to, that means perks like having 2 maids to assist with kids, clean the house and the dishes etc but it comes with other stress as well and something must have rubbed her the wrong way. @nikki703, you might have the pussy. Question is do you know how to use it? LOLThanks ladies...

@naughty nurse, there always would be another side but no... we were not even at our own house. We did not move out the lounge other than to get drink or whatever. Less mess when she woke up because I ask my kids to tidy up before playing with something new etc. Whatever it was it must have been one of those moments. All is normal now. We live in Africa because we choose to, that means perks like having 2 maids to assist with kids, clean the house and the dishes etc but it comes with other stress as well and something must have rubbed her the wrong way. @nikki703, you might have the pussy. Question is do you know how to use it? LOLThanks ladies...

@blazestcyr, Africa is only worth living in if you make it work for you! Bet you not the failure you claim to be.Yes bad moods happen... Its over , done and dusted but I still wish I understood the female species. Cheers

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