Thursday, September 6, 2018

Doors, Windows, Books ~ Change is Hard

Closed doors, blocked paths.

We all face them. At one point or another, we find them in our way. It could be permanently or could just be a season. Sometimes we are facing them every day. Sometimes we go stretches where they become a distant memory.

Sometimes we problem solve our way through and think nothing of it.

But what if the door is closed and locked? What is the reason? Maybe there is a reason for this blocked path, but we need to give it time to show or maybe we were never meant to know.

Have you, in you life, ever found your path blocked, a door suddenly closed, or even closed and locked?

You have heard the quote I am guessing, "when one door closes another opens" or "sometimes its a window" or "your life is like an empty book, page by page it gets filled, your life book gets written"

Well, what happens when you get to the end of chapter? Or when that door you so wanted to open, hasn't opened yet?

Not a literal door, but when was the last time a door was closed for you? You faced a transition, even if you didn't feel ready for it.

Life is about change, transitions. These things cause us to grow. Sometimes there is pain in this growth, sometimes not. But there is always something to take away from it. Even something good.

Though you may not see it right away, it will show up... if you let it.

We don't always know where this path is headed and no, we can't always control it. But we can still hope, we can still dream, we can trust.

The start of a new year is always a transition time. But so is the transition from August to September.

The season is beginning to change, as we slowly shift from Summer to Fall. The weather is cooling down, the leaves are getting ready shine in a different way. I love Spring and Fall for this reason, because leaves shine differently in Spring as we get further out of Winter and then again in Fall as they change colors and slowly twirl to the ground.

Kids are heading off to school. Schedules are changing and filling up with different activities, sports, and so on.

The daylight is getting shorter as the sun rises later and sets sooner.

Our internal side begins to feel this shift as well.

In a way, this is a door closing. But these doors are usually more easily navigable. They are a known part of life. But they do cause us to slow down and change pace. Which is a good thing every now and then.

But even bigger doors can slow us too, if not flat out stop us. Those bigger life changes, those losses, the unexpected change.

And what if that so called next door doesn't open soon? Or ever?

Often, when the change happens we are left with two options. To grow with it, through it. Or to dig our heels in and not move.

Which do you choose?

Whichever quote you go with, whichever way you look at, change is hard. It is even harder when it comes out of nowhere.

I will admit, I am not always graceful while navigating these sometimes. I feel lost, sometimes ask a thousand questions, dig my heels in, try to linger a tad longer, go over the top trying to create a permanent memory.

I wish I handled it better. But I am learning to face, to push, to keep dreaming.

To let go, to trust.

With time, I warm up to the change. Sometimes quicker, other times I still feel I need more time (but I don't always have it).

Whatever life decides to throw your way, you have what it takes to face it. And when you feel you don't, you will always have that one person that can help you navigate until you find your footing again.

So while there may be door closed right now, you can still dream, you can still hope, you can still trust.

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I am blessed to be a wife and a mom, and live in Minnesota. I have a love for photography, being creative, outdoors, camping, water (anything nature), and reading.

Five years ago I discovered a passion for writing. It was after the loss of our daughter during our first pregnancy that writing became an outlet. It has helped me share my story, helped me work through the grief and healing process, and given me the chance to really be me. You can see more of that story over at www.myinfantloss.com.

Since then, I've had two healthy, happy boys that fill my life with many ups, downs, and whirlwinds in between. I love it and it wouldn't change it. My Mama Side, is the space where I write about all things kids, parenting, family, and just daily life.