Today’s Forgiving Fridays: Mom Showed Me The Way

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Today’s Forgiving Fridays is Mom Showed Me The Way.

I am putting something out today that I haven’t really shared. My mom was killed by someone.

I am sharing this, not for your sympathy, or for your attention. Rather, I’m sharing it because I want you to know that it is a big part of why I do this forgiveness work.

The way my mom’s death happened opened me to a whole new level. What if, in truth, there is nothing that is inherently right or wrong, or good or bad, instead it is our thinking that makes it so? Even with my mom’s dying at the hand of someone else.

And that truly, there is a peace beyond those dualities where our freedom lies.

Rumi has a quote, “Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”

Life is too short to hold back. It is too short to say, “How could you do this?!” What if that field, oh what if it were love?

I can open to that possibility. And THAT is why I do this forgiveness work.

I’ve had an old track playing for years of “I’m not worthy of love.” Each time I do this, I am killing myself slowly. Time for forgiveness:

I forgive myself for judging myself as wrong for wanting my mom back. I forgive myself for judging myself for thinking I am not worthy of love. I forgive myself for judging my mom’s killer as anything less than divine and worthy of loving too.

The truth is: We are all divine beings having a human experience. The truth is, I may not know exactly what love “is” and what I do know is that I am a beautiful Soul. And so are we all.

Can you open to the possibility of loving someone that you never thought possible? Please share if you would in the comments below.

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Last week, four bloggers contributed to Forgiving Fridays:

DeBorah of Roaming Urban Gypsy wrote a beautiful blog with quotes on compassion and forgiveness

Etta of Simply Etta D. gave powerful tips on the freedom to choose happiness, gratitude, forgiveness.

New! I found a post by Stella of Giggles and Tales with a vibrant photo and great focus on peace instead of worry.

I love you.

Love,

Debbie

ps – I got my very first Forgiveness Coaching business cards in the mail today. Mom, I am standing in the knowing that the love and compassion you showed me is eternal truth.

***This post is my contribution for Frank of Dutch Goes the Photo’s Challenge, Unusual. Frank, for maybe the first time in my life, I am standing in what I know to be true. (With my Aussie Outback hat on!) It’s also my contribution to The Daily Post’s challenge, Focus. And for the first time, I’m contributing to Nikki’s Creative Prompt – Love! Nikki, thank you for helping me open to love … it is one of my deepest prayers. ❤

Love and light to you and your mother. My mother died at her own hand, with a gun in it. So I understand how a violent death can be overwhelming. It takes courage to lift from tragedy. I pray you are moving more into your spiritual warrior heart.

Oh Grace, thank you for sharing that. ❤ I didn't know. Sending you many blessings and hugs of great love. It takes great courage to see from a higher perspective and to trust in that. Loving you, and blessings, Debbie

I tried the pingback but it’s just not working out. So, here is the link to my first contribution to this noble feature. I am excited to participate and share my opinions with everyone. Thank you for this platform. Hugs! 🙂

It worked! Got the pingback, Stella, and I am so touched by your blog post. It is definitely in alignment with Forgiving Fridays, and really beautiful. Will share it in my post update this Friday. Have a beautiful week of blessings. Debbie

I must applaud you for the steps you are taking towards true healing through the process of forgiveness. You have adopted a good lifestyle, Debbie. 🙂 Holding on to grudges does more harm than good to the human psyche. And forgiveness is freedom for the soul.

Sorry to find out about your Mom. It’s hard to forgive, yet you’re doing a beautiful job. Your forgiveness may not make a dent in the killer’s life, but it sure makes a big difference in your life that you’re free from holding the resentment that might eat you up. Good job, Debbie! May you find peace, and RIP for your Mom!

Thank you so much, Miriam. So true … forgiveness starts within. Releasing the judgment sets us free inside. Thank you again for your caring and blessings of peace for me and also the Soul of my mom. Your comment is like a virtual hug!

Dear Debbie, your post is a very precious one. There is so much power and peace in your perspective. I feel so much resonance with the questions …what if there is no good, bad, right, wrong. That Rumi’s quote has guided so many of my ways of Being. I wish lot of power, peace, ease, joy and love to your beautiful soul.

Oh God, thanks so much. Your comments are filled with a great deal of wisdom. It’s like a white light that goes right into my heart and soothes my mind. ❤ Blessings to you. So glad you are here, and that the Rumi quote moves you. Love, Debbie

I loved that quote of Rumi. It says a lot… a field where we all someday will meet, perhaps. Maybe, you’ll see your mother there ❤ It's tough to handle tragedies like death…my love for you Debbie. Forgiving will show you the right way to move on….

Dear Debbie thank you so very much for sharing your story with us. I’m so proud of you and I’m sure your Mom is as well, you are a remarkably phenomenal human being. Hugs & Kisses across miles to you. xxx

Thank you so much, Etta D. for the hugs and encouragement and love. I am courageous, and so are you! Your willingness to share your truth and to choose love is completely inspiring to me. Bless you in all ways. ❤ Debbie

What a profound and starkly beautiful thought…that there is no judgement when it comes to divine beings experiencing being human here on Earth…mistakes will be made and we are not privy to everyone’s story. My heart goes out to you and your Mom…thank you for sharing and reminding us to pause (always!) before judging.

Hello dear Debbie… thank you for being so honest and open about what happened to your mum. I cannot begin to understand what you would be feeling. But it was awe inspiring to read that you forgive the person who did this to your mum. This shows such strength of character and the beautiful, accepting and loving person you are.
Another heartfelt piece of writing as an example of forgiveness for self and others.
The rumi quote is a lovely, thought provoking one too, Debbie.
Sending hugs and love to you…💐💐💜

Thank you, Di, so much. I have this sense that my mum would have loved you. Her name was Carole.

I do my best to accept and love myself and others. Boy is it a continual practice. What I know is that forgiveness is such a huge key, especially that it starts within. Lots of love, Di! Thank you for being here. Blessings and more love, Debbie 🙂

Hello dear Debbie,
That’s such a beautiful thing to know. You really mean what you say and that’s very special about your mum, Carole. In that case, I probably would love her too. I was always one for noticing and watching people’s mums…

I know you do your best and you keep inspiring and encouraging us to do so as well. You are a very special person with so much to offer and I really hope you fully understand that one day very soon.
I’m so proud to be here with you dear Debbie… thank you so much for your beautiful encouragement.
Love too, and may you feel so blessed,
Di 💜🌟💜

From before Debbie but I cannot remember how. It is a great tribute to her to have shared your forgiveness process with so many. It has created so many wonderful ripples. Best wishes with your business. You deserve to do wonderfully well. Xx

Oh Brigid, thank you so much. She would have been so happy that I’m doing forgiveness work, and she also would have loved YOU. Hope you are having a wonderful week. Thank you for the caring and encouragement. ❤ Blessings, Debbie

I feel as though I knew this about your mum Debbie. Once again you astound me with your acceptance and determination to move forward with your life, despite the tragedies in it. You’re a remarkable woman and a shining example of the power of forgiveness and lack of judgement. Thank you for another honest heartfelt post. xo 💕

Oh Miriam, you are so welcome. Glad that it touched you and was helpful. Maybe our moms are playing together in heaven. Miriam, I continue to send you hugs and so much love. ❤
Blessings – I am so glad to know you!!! Love, Debbie

The Rumi quote is something I’d surmised a few years ago. I’m so glad to see it here and also happy to see it used with how you’ve learned to heal from your own traumatic experiences. Sending love Debbie ❤

I love that Rumi quote. You are such an inspiration Debbie. So many people would have got stuck in such a tragedy but you have converted it into something meaningful and now helping others. A tribute to your lovely Mum. Lots of love sent your way Debbie 🙂 xx

Oh Judith thank you so much! Your presence here is so light-hearted, and I am so glad to have you on this blog. Sending you love and Light. ps – it’s really been a work in progress for me. Practicing forgiveness regularly on a daily basis. ❤

To answer your questions, no I can’t imagining loving someone I never thought possible, even if on an intellectual level I know it would be the right thing to do and even good for myself. I’ve mentioned old wounds to you before. I don’t know how to forgive if they keep getting reopened by the some person/people.

Debbie, you are a wonderful and a unique person. Our pain could be gone if we divert our mind into what good could we contribute to the world as a unique person and be remembered by the world forever and enjoy life. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts thru’ your blog.

Wow, Debbie ❤ I honor the work you have done and continue to do by learning and moving through your past. It's so refreshing to read a blog by someone who has moved past the temptation to stay in a situation. Thank you so much for sharing your gifts! 🙂

Thank you so much for sharing this ❤ So glad that it is valuable for you. I'm committed to practicing forgiveness every day … it has saved my life (literally and figuratively. Sharing the gifts with others is such a blessed bonus. So glad you're here ❤ Have a great rest of your weekend! ~Debbie

Debbie,
It takes a lot of wisdom to rise above tragedy and see the light. I’m sorry to hear about your mother. I’m sure that she is happy that you are choosing forgiveness as it takes the burden off of your soul. That was a strong trait of my grandmother’s. She was wise to impart it to me, but I am still learning. 🙂 I love that Rumi quote. So beautiful. Many hugs and blessings. -Amy