Friday, December 9, 2016

Are you hurting self-esteem of your growing kid?

While it's okay to feel low some times but feeling low about
oneself continuously is not a good sign especially among growing kids. Sometimes
even as parents we can't estimate the causes of low self-esteem in kids. There
can be several reasons that make a child less confident and sadly, at times, parents
contribute to low self-confidence in their own child.

Now when a kid has
deficient self-esteem then it needs to be rectified before it has severe effect
on the psyche and life of the kid. The first step to handle low self-esteem in
your growing kid is to ascertain probable reasons of the same. Find out if you
as a parent has done or undone something that is hurting the confidence of your
child.

Let us check out
probable causes of low self-esteem and make sure your tween
is not going through the same:

When kid feels neglected:

Absence of
personal attention and support of parents may lead to low self-esteem in the kid.
Whether parents are occupied in work or over engaged on social media, providing
quality time to kids is mandatory to make them feel secure. However, if
you can’t keep your hands off from your laptop or mobile while your kid is
eager to share his story then he may feel neglected causing dip in confidence.

When you over interfere:

If you are one of those who make sure to instruct their tween now
and then or check what they are doing all the time, then the child may feel you
don’t trust his abilities. Your over indulgence in his every decision and
action may erode his confidence to work and achieve independently. So better,
keep a check on your over-caring attitude!

When you forget to appreciate enough:

You remember to pinpoint their mistakes but often forget to
appreciate their small achievements or endeavours. Instead of showing the right
path, if you become overly critical of his actions or use harsh words for the
child, the result is your teen feels he is not good enough.

To boost confidence of your child, you compare her to siblings or
peers, but it backfired! Constant comparison of performance or behaviour of
your child with others or pushing your kid to become like others will
definitely cause a serious damage to her self-esteem. Check this habit before
it destroys the self-esteem of your child!

When you do not respect:

Mocking their behaviour in front of your friends or spelling out
their weaknesses with other adults disgusts your child. When you try to prove
how your child is silly, not good enough or bad at something, he assumes that
he is not worthy for his parents.

When you give up on your child:

When you give up the hope that your teenager can improve, he also
gives up his hope, you know. Your discouraging attitude and words has a deep
negative effect on him that may not be reversible.

So before you expect your child to be responsible, sensible, hardworking or any thing else, check if you have any of the above habits that can damage his self-esteem!