7 Things A Narcissist Cannot Do For You (Or Anyone Else)

4. Make You Feel Good About Yourself

Narcissists tend to try to make themselves shine by putting others down, especially in a public setting. They’ll often befriend those they think are less attractive than they are so they’re the center of attention everywhere they go, and they’ll make snide, passive-aggressive remarks to their so-called friends. This belittling makes them feel powerful, as there are few things a narcissist dislikes more than being anywhere but at the top of the pyramid.

While out for a meal, a narcissist may comment on a companion’s meal choice, asking if they really need quite so many calories, considering how snug their clothes are. Or, when surrounded by a group, they might grab an object belonging to one of their “friends” and inform them that they’re borrowing it, knowing that the person will feel uncomfortable objecting without seeming like an asshole. If the person gets upset, the narcissist will roll their eyes and accuse them of being over-sensitive. It was just a joke, what the hell.

5. Be Accountable For Their Own Actions

…because nothing is ever their fault, ever. Remember?

Any situation they’re involved in that might go to hell has been shot to sh*t because of someone else’s wrongdoing – not theirs. Those past relationships that have failed miserably? Well, that’s because they dated horrible people who never truly loved or appreciated them. Something went badly at work? It’s because their coworkers are incompetent imbeciles. They forgot to attend an important parent/teacher meeting? Well, you should have reminded them: you can’t expect them to remember everything, can you?

Narcissists cannot, will not, take responsibility for any wrongdoing, because in their minds, they don’t do anything wrong. They’re the ideal person, ideal worker, perfect partner/spouse, so if anything in their lives goes badly, it’s literally everyone else’s fault in the world except their own.