When Life Happens

But sometimes, when you least expect it, life happens, and you suddenly have way more to deal with than usual.

Last Wednesday, my dad was having trouble breathing. He’s almost 92, legally blind, and has a heart condition. So when breathing becomes difficult, it means that there is too much fluid in his body and that we need to get to the hospital.

We spent 10 hours in the emergency room, much of it because there were no rooms available.

This is day 6 and he is still hospitalized.

Here he is in better times:

Dad & Our Poor Tree 7.13

I’m telling you all of this because sometimes when life happens we have to change our routines. Life becomes even crazier and harder to keep track of and your ADHD symptoms are liable to become much more difficult to manage.

You know I’m always telling you to take better care of yourself and to put yourself first. But when something unexpected like this happens, that goes on the back burner temporarily.

And I do mean temporarily.

This is a perfect example of why we need to take good care of ourselves so that we can take care of those we love.

Once the initial crisis is over, it’s time to give yourself what you need.

When I got home about 9:00 pm after getting my dad settled in his room, that meant a quick meal, a glass of wine, and off to bed. It also meant clearing my calendar for the next day and calling a few people for help or just a hug.

When you’re in the midst of crisis mode, you do the best you can. But once things have settled down a bit, you need to put the focus on you.

Do you need more rest?

Some quiet time to relax?

Someone to talk to?

Whatever you need, do your best to get it. And by all means, accept any offer of help that comes your way. And if none do, ask.

Your symptoms, as I said, will most likely be worse for a while. Do what you can to minimize and control them. Anxiety and depression are also likely to make an appearance and stay for a while.

Realize, for instance, that you’re likely not going to be very focused or able to remember all that you need. Try to postpone any big decisions you have to make or any important work. If you can’t, have someone you trust double check you and remind you.

Clear your calendar as much as possible.

Put simple needs such as sleep and good meals and water on your priority list.

Take some time for exercise. It can be as easy as taking a walk or doing some light yoga. Your symptoms will appreciate it as much as your body will.