Q: I’m 26 years old. I’ve never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never gone on a date, never had sex and never been in a relationship. I would love to feel love and affection, which so many others experience. Because I have no experience, I’m afraid I’d make huge mistakes. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Is this normal?

-Leeann A.

A: Hi Leeann,

It’s not unheard of for someone your age to be in this situation, but it’s also not that common. Most people, in the course of growing up, have some experience with dating, boyfriends and some degree of intimacy by the time they are in their mid-20s. Don’t, however, worry whether your situation is “normal” or not, because “normal” is a loaded and relative term. For you, this is normal and, if I’m reading between the lines correctly, you’re ready to embrace a new normal.

If you’re unable to push through your fear of making “huge mistakes” and test the waters on your own, consult a therapist or someone from your local place of worship. With the guidance of a trained listener, you’ll learn a great deal about yourself, come to understand why you’re in this situation and how to change it.

I know that talking to someone about this may be scary, but I can tell you that it could possibly be one of the best decisions you make. It could be the activating event that changes your life in a wonderful and positive way, by opening you up to the relationship you’re aching for. Why should you do this now, Leeann? Because you’re worth the effort, and time is too precious to waste.