Molly

5/21/17: Hello! My name is Molly and I'm currently 14 years
old.

I wish I was alive when this website was founded. It might
sound ridiculous, but I actually wish I was alive when "born that
way" still was up to debate and political queerness was
considered an option.

Saying that queerness isn't 11000000% genetic in todays world
is equvilent to shouting that Hitler did nothing wrong. The world
has been brainwashed.

I decided to become a lesbian when I was twelwe. Not because I
hated men or because I identified as a feminist (I didn't hate
men nor did I identify as a feminist), but because of various
benefits of homosexuality over heterosexuality, such as gender
apathy and no unwanted pregnancy.

Growing up, I noticed a certain trend. When I said: "I love
Michael so much. Everyday after school we hang out and play video
games. He is so funny and kind, and very beautiful too!" everyone
would respond with something like this: "Molly is in love with
Michael! They kiss and cuddle and makes babies, and when they
grow up, they're gonna get married!".

However, when I said: "I love Sophia so much. Everyday after
school we hang out and play video games. She's so funny and kind,
and very beautiful too!" people would respond differently. Very
differently, in fact. Most would say something indifferent like:
"Great for you".

Why? The ONLY difference between those scenarios are the
gender of my loved one. I thought Scandinavia had so much gender
equality?

Basically, I decided to destroy this idea.

I wasn't attracted to women by the start. I began considering
them in that way. It was a very consious decision. I began
looking at a woman I found beautiful (I'm pretty sure 95% of
people can tell if a person of their non-preferred sex is
beautiful, it had nothing to do attraction) and focused on things
people usually found "sexy" in women and learned to appreaciate
them in a sexual way rather than just aesthetically. When I found
a girl with a great personality and good looks that I got along
with, I simply allowed myself to consider her a potential
romantic partner instead of just a friend.

I still found lesbian sex gross (I primarily fantasized
sexually about males) and couldn't imagine myself in a homosexual
relationship for a long time. But I learned to love both. Now, I
can't wait to find a girlfriend and have sex with her. I don't
really fantasize about heterosexual sex anymore.

As I see it, everyone has sexual mental boundaries. Because
let's face it, a tongue is a tongue and a hand is a hand, and a
phallic shaped object is a phallic shaped object. The physical
stimuli is the same. However, for some reason, we find certain
tongues or hands gross, and we are "turned off", while we find
others "hot" and we are "turned on".

These mental boundaries can and does change over time. For
example, all children has a mental boundary for sex in general
and finds it "gross!!". Many female-attracted people have a
mental boundary for women with armpit hair. Many men claims they
wouldn't even be able to get an erection from such women. Yet,
300 years ago, no women shaved, yet somehow heterosexual sex
survived.

Some of these sexual mental boundaries are undoubtly great and
neccesary. For example, most people have a sexual mental boundary
regarding incest, pedophilia, beastiality and rape, although your
brother's, a child's, a horse's, and a rape victims' tongue are
the same a mature adult's. Others, however, are unnecessary. My
mental boundary for other women was unecessary. It was something
I wanted to go away. Because I wanted to be a lesbian for
personal reasons, I decided to break down my mental boundary for
women. And I'm happy I did.

And honestly, I encourage everyone to do the same.

Homophobes (or just people who are opposed to homosexuality)
have extremely different beliefs about what causes homosexuality.
Some examples:

"I've never met anybody like you before, claiming that they
chose to be gay... is it because you're a woman? Is it because
women have a more fluid sexuality?... Homosexuality must be
inborn. Because when I look around, at myself and at other men, I
don't understand gays. I don't understand how they would want to
have sex with other men. And I don't AT ALL how they wouldn't
want to have sex with women."

—Self-proclaimed homophobe (although only towards gay
men) that I had a discussion with on the internet

"A LOT of people have same sex attraction. But they ignore it
because they know it's wrong. Homosexuals are different, because
they don't see anything wrong with it. Because no one helped them
to choose the right thing (heterosexuality, re.), they slowly
decides for themselves that it's okay to be gay. So it's of
course a choice."