The Other Woman in His Life

Here you are. This guy you really like is pursuing you. And, well, he’s pretty dreamy.

Then you find out there’s another woman. He lights up when she walks into the room, runs to her aide any time she calls, and seeks her advice on every single decision he makes. Over the years she’s changed his diapers, his sheets and probably even his mind a few times about which girls he should be dating.

Yep, he’s a momma’s boy. They say you should look to see how a man treats the women in his life as a way to judge how he might treat you. What a beautiful gift to see the guy you’re interested in being kind and thoughtful to his mother! But sometimes it’s just too much.

So how do you know when enough is e-n-o-u-g-h?!

He tells her everything. And I do mean EVERYTHING, embarrassing or private things that you wouldn’t… or rather, shouldn’t bring up during dinner conversations. If you can’t discuss it without blushing while passing the mashed potatoes, then he shouldn’t be passing that info on to his mother.

He can’t take care of himself. If he is incapable of scheduling his own dentist appointment because he doesn’t know the number to call or doesn’t know where his mom files his insurance information, that’s a definite red flag. Moms are good for lots of things like bringing you soup when you’re sick or making you a fabulous chocolate cake on your birthday, but they should not be handling all of your appointments for the rest of your life.

She’s on his bank account. Okay there are some exceptions here. If his mom is elderly and needs someone to manage her bills that’s one thing, but if she’s on the account to manage his bills, just do yourself a favor and start planning your goodbye speech.