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Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight. - Benjamin Franklin

GET OVER IT! - "Today's Wisdom 8/2/13

One of then things that I am working on these days is a concept called "Wait To Worry". Geez we spend way to much of our valuable time worrying about things that never happen. Ask yourself this morning, "What am I worrying about today? What's the worst thing than will happen if I just quit worrying about it? What if I just use that potentially wasted time in

focusing on a positive outcome... and just deal with "come what may"?

I'll tell you my answer. Not only will 80% of what you and I worry about not happen, but by using our time to focus on the most positive outcome possible, picturing in our minds and

believing... truly believing... in that outcome, that positive picture in our mind and putting ourselves in a mental place, feeling great and positive emotions about it not having happened,

will greatly enhance a positive outcome, and it definitely will free up your mind and time to do more positive and productive things.

In short, "Get Over It" and you will probably have nothing to get over. For the Kagillieth time!...

"We, as human beings, behave and act not in accordance with the truth as the truth might really be, but we behave and act in accordance with the truth as we think it to be or believe it to be."

Got it? OK, now... Get Over It!

Here's my obvious supporting music for "Today's Wisdom", that I have begun to include for each of my blogs... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1H-Y7MAASkg Thanks for reading and "Keep Positivity moving by paying it forward and forwarding this to a friend or maybe someone you know who worries too much. Actually, I just sent it to myself!

Need a little more support and motivation on this? Then keep reading. Here's some support from my favorite educational institution, The Pacific Institute...

Do you know what it means to "ruminate?" Cows do it all the time. You see, when cows ruminate, they are chewing their cud over and over, in a repetitive process that is necessary to a cow's well-being. However, if you are a human being, rumination on the negative can hurt instead of help you.

You see, when you ruminate, you are preoccupied with rehashing perceived or real problems over and over again. You don't really resolve anything, but you become an expert at working

yourself into a state of high stress that can sometimes lead to a downward spiral. After a while, you find yourself worrying not about the original problem, but about the images you have

created yourself.

Despite this vicious cycle, the human mind has a built-in potential for flexibility. Something inside whispers, "There must be a better way." If you pay attention and look for insight, there is a good chance you will find what you need. Remember, human beings think in pictures. We are drawn to what we are thinking about. So, if we continue to ruminate and worry over the negative, we will be drawn to the negative. The opposite is also true: ruminate on the positive, on the solutions - even if you don't know what they are yet - and you will be drawn to discovering the solution.

The ability to take charge of your thoughts is not something most of us learn in school. However, it is an essential skill if you want to kick the worry habit and accomplish worthwhile goals. You can learn to substitute images of solutions instead of endlessly ruminating about

problems, and you can affirm your ability to deal effectively and calmly with all challenges

instead of worrying about failure.

Does changing your thinking really affect the outcomes and results you get? Absolutely! It

has been proven time and time again. Try it for yourself and see.

--

Much Obliged, Phil

Make it an exceptional day... It is yours to think, see, believe and make happen!

At 211º water is hot. At 212º, it boils. And with boiling water, comes steam. And steam can power a locomotive. It's that ONE Extra Degree that makes all the difference.

If you've spent much time around me, you may have noticed that I am "touchy". I wear 2 arm bands every day of my life and I touch them very often.

One simply says 212º and it reminds me to give that extra degree everyday. To just push myself to do just a little more. That one degree of extra effort can sometimes be the difference in winning or losing, success or failure, or getting the job done or falling just a bit short.

The second band I wear daily is one of the many that my daughter weaves for me. They are positive touch points for me. When I am feeling a little down, or find myself focusing on the negative... one touch of this arm band will pop me right out of it. It is my motivation and reminder to stay positive... and it's there with me everyday, always. It reminds me that we move towards and actually become what we think, dream and focus on. My daughter, being a beautiful "slave to fashion" herself and always wanting her Dad to look good, makes sure that I have one that will color coordinate with almost anything I wear. I think I'm up to around 20-25 of these now, that she has hand made for me and you rarely catch me without one on my left wrist.

I have recently added a third wrist band that simply says "COUNTRY - WoundedWarriorProject.org" I have been working with the WWP and also with a good friend who is a great American and Wounded Warrior, Josh Ray. Joshua (his given name) is the inspiration for a song I wrote the lyrics to recently, "Joshua's Dream - A Tribute to Wounded Warriors". My good friend and partner in a project to write songs for Warriors, Jim Hendricks, worked on the arrangement and wrote the music for the song. We'll work on playing it for you soon. Click here to read it... https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/64875427/%22Joshua's%20Dream%20-%20A%20Tribute%20To%20Wounded%20Warriors%22.pdf

We haven't recorded "Joshua's Dream" yet, but I did promise to have some song or video to support each of my "Today's Wisdoms", so here you go, and

"We, as human beings, behave and act not in accordance with the truth as the truth might really be, but we behave and act in accordance with the truth as we think it to be or believe it to be."- Lou Tice

"Today's Wisdom" - For Father's Day 2013

For those of your who know me "closely", or are around me regularly, have surely heard me say this, many times. I believe this and I live this concept. So, how does this tie into my Father, or your Father, or Father's Day? Well, I also believe that this "Truth" that Lou Tice's quote above speaks to, is the truth that we allow ourselves to believe... as it relates to "who we are". It is a primary factor in our self esteem, or really our core belief, as to what the "Truth" is that we believe ourselves to be. It relates to the person that we are in our mind and subconscious, and who we really believe, is "Who We Are".

This is so important in our daily lives because it affects our "self talk". You know we all talk to ourselves constantly, even when we are listening to someone who is talking to us. We are talking to ourselves... about like whether or not we "buy" what they are saying, what we may object to, "how much longer is Phil going to talk!", where we have to be in 30 minutes, etc. Mostly, I believe, we are formulating what we are going to say when they stop talking, lol. We are constantly thinking and talking to ourselves at an amazingly fast pace, and when they stop talking............................... our rate of self talk increases by about 5-6 times in pace.

The "Truth" that I and Lou speak of here is also shaped greatly by who told us "who we are" while we were mostly in our adolescent, teen, and young adult life. Our parents were primary to that belief, that "Truth", that we felt as to who we were and, in large part, who we are today. Of course others helped shape that "Truth"... Our school teachers, our friends, the people we "hung with", the bully's on the playground, college professors, and many other people influenced, in part, who we believe we are... IF WE LET THEM. I put this in caps because it is so important. Because it is only the ones that WE GIVE SANCTION TO, that we allowed or allow today ourselves to believe, that can affect who we really believe we are and what the real "Truth" is that we believe about who we are. You may be able to BS those around you, but you cannot BS yourself. You know "The Truth" deep down inside as to who you really are.

My Father taught me a lot of things. He worked from "Can to Can't" each day... so I learned good work ethic. He taught me that the truth always floats to the top. He taught to kill others with kindness, especially if you don't agree or like them (drives them crazy!). He also taught me how to use a screw driver as a chisel... NOT a good idea! (that led to many a bloody knuckle or smashed finger). He taught me many things, more from what I saw him do, than what he told me. But the most important thing that he, and my Mother, gave/taught me was... Unconditional Positive Regard and Unconditional Positive Love. They accepted me for who and what I was, and who and what I am today, unconditionally. That affected the "Truth" about how I felt about myself, my self talk, my self esteem, more than any other single factor, and it is a huge part of "Who I Am" or at least try to be, today.

So that's my message for today. Your "Take Aways", I hope, are:

-- The quote above that I encourage you to read again, slowly, and thoughtfully.

-- "Self Talk" and why it is so important for us... to understand that it exists, and that we can control it to reshape our belief in "The Truth as we think it to be or believe it to be".

-- That we are only truly affected by what others say about us, if we give it sanction... if we allow them to have this power over us. Who are they? Who are they to judge you and tell you who you are! Only you can allow or disallow them that power.

OK, that's it for "Today's Wisdom"... til next time, keep looking up!

OH, I almost forgot. As of this offering of "Today's Wisdom", I will begin to offer a song to support, "give sanction to", or that somehow relates to my offering for your consideration. Here is a link to today's (Headphones, or a place that will allow cranked up speakers is highly recommended!)

Nashville and its economy are on fire, sparked by a booming cultural scene,world-class health care, rising universities--and a really good spot on the map
It was, I think, the hum. At Midday recently at Joe Ledbetter's BrickTop's restaurant in Nashville–a busy... Read more

Witness a city in transformation, glimpse exotic animals, explore the past and enjoy that beach before the crowds.
15. Nashville, Tenn.
Leather jackets and skinny jeans join cowboy boots.
Country music lovers have long made the pilgrimage to Nashville, but now the city has... Read more

Nevin Batiwalla
Staff Reporter-Nashville Business Journal
For the first time ever, the median sales price for a single-family home in Nashville surpassed $200,000 in June, the Greater Nashville Association of Realtors announced today.
The median price for a single-family home sold in Nashville last month... Read more