10 Things Mentally Strong People Give Up to Gain Inner Peace

Letting go of certain things can open the door to true contentment in life.

Mental strength and inner peace go hand in hand. Mentally strong people are confident that they can handle whatever life throws their way.That's not to say they don't feel pain or that they don't get sad — they experience their emotions on a deep level. But they don't waste energy wishing things were different or trying to change other people. They stay focused on managing their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

They also make self-improvement a priority, because they know there's always room for improvement. And they give up these 10 things that could destroy their inner peace.

1. Engaging with toxic people

The people you surround yourself with affect the way you think, feel, and behave. Engaging with people who lie, gossip, bully, or cheat takes a toll on your well-being.

Thinking everything is 100 percent your fault — whether it's a failed relationship or an accident — will affect the way you see yourself and the world around you. You can't always prevent bad things from happening.

Mentally strong people take appropriate accountability. They recognize that they're responsible for their choices, but they also acknowledge factors beyond their control, like the state of the economy, the weather, and other people's choices.

Thinking you need to be happy all the time will backfire. Momentary pleasure is much different than long-term satisfaction.

Mentally strong people are willing to put in the hard work it takes to gain contentment. They refuse to give in to instant gratification or temporary indulgences. They look for ways to build a brighter future by creating long-term goals.

4. Staying comfortable

It may seem like staying inside your comfort zone is the key to feeling good in life. But avoiding discomfort always backfires in the end.

Mentally strong people face their fears, venture into unknown areas, and test their limits. They know that being uncomfortable is tolerable and allowing themselves to experience discomfort is the key to living a better life.

5. The victim mentality

Thinking the world and the people in it are out to get you will prevent you from being your best. In fact, if you blame all of your problems on external circumstances, you'll never take responsibility for your life.

Mentally strong people acknowledge their choices, even in the face of tragic circumstances. They focus on the things they can control, and they refuse to waste their time hosting pity parties.

6. Trying to impress people

You could waste a lot of your life trying to make people like you. Depending on admiration from others, however, gives others power over you.

Mentally strong people are comfortable in their own skin. They don't waste their time worrying about whether other people approve of their choices. Instead, they focus on living according to their values.

7. The pursuit of perfection

Striving for excellence is healthy. But insisting on perfection is an uphill battle. You'll never feel good enough if you set the bar impossibly high.

Mentally strong people accept that they're going to fail and make mistakes. They are able to acknowledge their flaws and weaknesses.

8. Grudges

You may think that holding onto a grudge somehow punishes someone else. But in reality, clinging to anger and hatred only reduces your life.

Mentally strong people let go of grudges so they can focus their energy on more worthwhile causes. That doesn't mean they allow themselves to be abused by people, however. It just means they don't allow pent-up resentment to overtake their lives.

9. The quest for material things

No matter how much money you make, a bigger house, a nicer car, or more expensive clothing won't give you peace of mind. Expecting material possessions to satisfy your needs will leave you sorely disappointed.

Mentally strong people aren't necessarily minimalists, however. They can enjoy nice things. But they don't expect their material possessions to give them joy and contentment.

Thinking you can do everything on your own is about acting tough — not being strong. There will be times when asking for help is important.

Mentally strong people aren't afraid to admit when they need help. Whether they rely on a higher power, ask for professional help, or lean on a friend during a time in need, they gain strength from others. Knowing they don't have to have all the answers gives them a renewed sense of inner peace.

How to Build Mental Muscle

Inner peace comes from knowing your beliefs and having the willingness to act according to them. It takes mental muscle to do that.

Fortunately, everyone has the ability to practice mental strength exercises every day. The more mental muscle you build, the easier it is to find true contentment in life.

#9 is wrong. If counting money increases serotonin in the brain, it keeps you happy, along with having a "peaceful" mind. Also, the stimulation of the brain as a result of reward keeps your risk of having depression low. Buying these expensive items is not wise, but it helps the brain. I hate when humans who study Psychology don't have full focus on Neuroscience. Neuroscience is key to understanding why behaviors take place. (Studying Criminology is also important, since it obviously helps save lives).

Item 9 is accurately stated. Everyone needs satisfaction of certain essential material and health needs. Beyond that, a chasm gapes between the momentary shot of cheer we get on payday and a deep sense of life satisfaction.

The pleasure many individuals get from making money is really the satisfaction that comes with certain personal rewards money has, through social conditioning, come to symbolise: à sense that one's work is valued, a sense of personal agency. It's not the banknotes we want; it's those rewards we want.

Recognising the real satisfactions we seek empowers us to sidestep the personality distortions that come from making a fetish of money itself. To do that is to put our sense of life satisfaction at the mercy of the banknotes. We then become like the all too many people who threw themselves out of office windows in 1929. Most of us would agree that's not a healthy response to adversity.

Money is a resource—one of many. When we know the rewards we truly seek, we are able to go about securing them in ways that are opportunistic, wise, imaginative, balanced, and truly... resourceful.

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This is so true, totally. Grudges are for the weak, seriously. Getting your act together means forgetting and forgiving.
You will be a mental slave until you let go.
Materialism you will be a mental slave to this one also If you give into this form of nonsense. Your things are not you.

However, forgiveness is anticlimactic, and can prove a source of despondency sometime well after the offense. Thus, I opine exacting vengeance is not only necessary for the health of one's psyche, but is pragmatic and can be quite enjoyable.

Linus Torwalds, the inventor or LINUX operating system, said it in a TED interview: Instead of expecting - in vain - that "non-people persons" (his expression, not mine) like him become nicer, why not becoming more aggressive ourselves? It's always inconsiderate people that behave badly that want us to have no grudges: the ones that have already less cognitive empathy with others, get their own negative motivations wrong, have emotional regulation issues, have a short memory when it comes to their own thoughts, and have a minority complex to compensate on other peoples' costs. So that they can have an even better feeling, and we the even worse one??? You are kidding ! You can say that we should not take bad behavior personally, because people who behave badly have a much harder time to considerate how it impacts others. But you cannot tell us that we have no right to stop them doing bad stuff to us and other people. That is IRRESPONSIBLE.

If you like you can add that it is wiser to teach such people modesty, and how to be kind to others (in a simple good girl-good boy-way). To tell them that they should work for others instead of bossing others around. That they should do LESS than others instead of trying to do MORE than others, or even MUCH less. Then you are doing a good service to everybody.

Stop telling people affected by the bad decisions of others that they should have nor grudges. That is slave morality enforced by an "elite" of badly behaving people that needs to be taken down.

'..it is wiser to teach such people modesty, and
how to be kind to others..'.

One cannot 'teach' empathy to individuals with antisocial or other personality disorders and/or psychopathic facets...and there are more of those leading work places and communities than most realize. Some psychologists believe a psychopath can be 'healed', but all relevant history and data reveal such believe to be erroneous.

I do opine that no one should hold grudges, but only because holding a grudge harms the individual intent on holding a grudge.

In conclusion, when I noted '/sarcasm' regarding vengeance I was being both playful and...dishonest...because most anyone do not take things written in comments seriously.

I have zero empathy for individuals who believe it is their purpose to make others suffer, whom delight in observing the suffering of others, whom believe the world must lay at their feet at the cost of others.

I delight in exacting vengeance on such individuals--the alternative is to develop and 'hold' a grudge, which is self-destructive.

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