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Why I Don’t Date White Men

Now before every tom dick and harry gets there panties In a bunch let me just say, This post is not a reflection of what may happen years, months or even days to come. Simply put I could change my mind tomorrow but for now this is how I feel.

Why I don’t date white men or other races.

1. The first thing that popped in my head was we have nothing in common. I didn’t grow up in middle class suburbia. I was raised in the heart of detroit. Now this isn’t saying everybody was gang bangin and drug slangin but I mean most white men I come in contact with would know nothing about where I come from. I honestly don’t want to hear about why I listen to Neo soul or why one day my hair is long or the next day its short. I met a friend who was clueless and I really don’t think I have the good sense to educate him on a culture I hardly know about myself.

2. I don’t see many cute white guys. Yes so if I decided to go white, I would want him to be actractive to a degree just like i want a man of any other race to be. I just dont see to many cute white guys around here, hell I dont even see them on tv. I don’t blame black men for going goo goo eyed over women of other races because thats what they see all in magazines tv bill boards and all that. If my tv became over saturated with Fine white men or other races I would be all over it if not id be in my own town trying to find the closest thing to what i see on tv but as of now I cant even tell you what a fine white guy looks like maybe rick foxx but umm he aint white is he?

3. Where do white guys hang out? Nuff said cuz I really don’t know. U really think I like hanging in the same places as white people? maybe I need to hang around more EBP then they will direct me to the nearest white people spot.

4. Will his mom like me. I just cant see dating a white man with rasicst parents that would scare me. Its bad enough I have to live up to the standards of a black mans mother and now this?? yea right next……

5. I think all men of other races look at black women as some kinda kinky fantasy. Yea I know I really think its the society (yes i blame them) for making me believe that all white men have fantasies of doing something freaky to a black woman, I just really couldnt tell if he was really into me or just trying to fufill a dream of his, I mean like wanting a threesome or something.

6. What do I say?? If i was interested in a white male what would I say? I mean I know men approch women all the time and its more acceptable for a black man to be outside of his race than for a woman. its hard for me to even approach a man of my own race let alone another color. I would always wonder if i would get embarrassed or if he might secretly be racist or some crazy thing. I just wouldnt want to risk it.

So this is my list, If I truly had the opportunity to date outside my race without feeling so inadequate I would do it, and who knows maybe when im outta debt and can travel all over the world to many places then it might be more possible but right nah. thats a no no

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LMAO at this post. I done think the same things. But the question is would I date a dude outside of my own race? possible. Like my mentor said try different spices… I compared them with meat , you know fish, beef, chicken, as different black men, he said its all like eating curry chicken, fry chicken, bbq etc lol…

HAHAHAHAHA! This was a fun read! Thanks for the laugh. I dated a few black girls in my day, and there is a difference in likes, dislikes and just plain everyday life. Nothing serious enough for me to say I would never do it again. I would never again only because I believe I am married to a great woman already. With that said there are A LOT of white girls that are COMPLETELY different than me as well. I can’t stand the valley girl rich type among a few other types.

Thanks Brad for stopping by, I did’t know you dated a black woman I am in shock lol. For the record I would date you if you weren’t married. I don’t know why all the guys i like are married!!! the cycle must end!!

p.s brad there is a picture of your kid in my mutual fund post, sorry I borrowed him he is so dang blad cute!

“I mean Calgary aka Cowtown is Cow boy city total turn off. Not that u see cowboys walking around but they old fashioned redneck white men lol!”

Try Edmonton International Airport..the customs and immigration. An Asian friend of mine from the US working in Singapore was detained and harrassed by the customs and immigration officers. They were pretty racist..locked him in a room for three hours before they let him into the country. A bunch of Chinese Singaporean government (high level) officials were denied entry into bars in Calgary and one was physically pushed from the entrance. Alberta is very racist. On the other hand the white people in the Maritimes are among the least racist..strange considering that many dont run across non-whites in their day to day lives.

“Will his mom like me. I just cant see dating a white man with rasicst parents that would scare me. Its bad enough I have to live up to the standards of a black mans mother and now this?? yea right next……”

Agreed. White moms generally tend to be racist and this has been the experience of not only black women but also Asian women. One white American from SF married a young Chinese lady from Singapore..his mother sent her racist sister every three months to Singapore to try and disuade him.

“George thats crazy being locked in a room for three hours. maybe we will come to a day where race doesn’t matter.”

Dont think that day will come in our lifetime. However, race mixing may be a very good idea for the future of the world..not just for harmony, but it tends to produce geniuses like this lady of mixed Middle Eastern-Asian-Anglo Saxon ancestry who is an assistant professor at 18. Heck she is the world’s youngest faculty member…

I am a black girl and I am more into white guys than into black guys. Because I went out with a couple of black guys and when you are really nice to them, guess what is going to happen? THEY ARE GOING TO LEAVE YOUR ASS FOR A WHITE GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was always nice to my black boyfriends. I have met a couple of white guys and they are really sweet and they know how to treat a women. Some black guys be treating their women like shit. That’s why that I am more into white guys than into black guys.

Marco, you better shut your ass up. I am not a fucking hypocrite. Think before you say shit you fucking asshole. The reason why I only like white men is because some of those black men out there don’t really care about nothing but their stupid ass selves. I wouldn’t want to date a guy who is selfish and disrespectful. Some of those black guys out there disrespect alot of black women and are nice to those white women. I like a guy who treats people fairly. So think before you talk trash, you fucking asswipe. FUCK YOU MARCO!!!!!!!!!!

You see Lauren you got that attitude us black men’s don’t like. Yes the black man might treat them a little nicer because they don’t have that attitude you just showed like the way way you’re showing Marco. That what we don’t like. Black women’s always saying black mens can’t handle a strong black woman, ( Sorry ) Theirs really not anymore strong black women’s out there anymore. That stop at your mother..she’s the last of breed of a strong black women. Although i don’t mess with white womens and back off from the black woman myself some. The lady that’s into my life now she’s filipino. Learn what Selfish and disrespectful mean before you put that mark on another Black brother ( OKAY ). White people are nothing but the devil. I’m into God not the Devil and the Devil’s. They really don’t like you..just want what you have between your legs.., be leave me on that.

i’m sorry to hear that you don’t date white men. i can fully understand your reasons, however. i’m a white man but, having access to white culture, i have found that there is an overall unattractiveness permeating white culture (i won’t say race) and a general insensitivity of other cultures. it expresses itself in this un conscious superior attitude that can be observed coming at other cultures from white culture. it even expresses itself within white culture. in a nutshell i think it can be summed up as white culture has a little bit too much ego. it makes me very sad and i have been looking to expand my cultural horizons for the longest time because of the general nastiness of my own culture. i just don’t think white cultures ideas work well for social interaction…they fail when interacting with minorities and they fail even within white culture…they are competitive and generally hostile and full of ego …there definitely is a disconnect there… i’d also say the problems come from mostly conservative whites but it exists among even some “liberal” whites as well…

it saddens me that you are forced to take such a stance because, as a white man it takes me out of the social equation for women and cultures i am truly open and curious about, but i completely understand why you would….i, myself, find that even i am factoring in a woman’s “whiteness” in my dating decisions… i am repeatedly questioning and debating with myself whether i want to date white women at all because they can come with these unconscious attitudes…

so i don’t want you to think all white men don’t hear ya…some of us do…

keep sharing your views…it’s important the world hears what you’re saying…

I have to say, it is amazing to me how many dudes I’m friends with who are going out with Asian girls. I’ll admit that I do find some Asian ladies to be very beautiful, but what do you think the attraction is really based on? Why do some white guys only go out with Asian girls…can someone explain the attraction to me?

This is interesting to me. I am a white male who recently (in the last 2 years) started opening up to other races. This year I have taken out an asian, a black African, 2 white girls, and 2 black girls and am currently with one of the black girls. I am part of the younger generation and don’t see as much color, but the person.

Oh and I should say, I grew up in an all white suburb, a somewhat racist community. My HS graduating class had 1 minority, and he was black but adopted by white parents.

I definitely don’t have fantasies about black women, and as a white man I think we tend to have more fantasies about foreign women (i.e. African, Asian, British, French, etc…) and not black American women (sorry ladies). I have found myself attracted to darker skin now, however, and not sure I will ever date white again. But who knows, for the right person, I’ll date any woman.

Commonalities is a total generalization, I have more in common with black folks than I do white folks. If you want, I can give you many reasons. You never know if someone has something in common with you until you sit down and talk to them and I get the feeling you haven’t given it a fair shot (and not only white guys, but other races as well). No offense.

Mother…any MAN will not worry too much about his mother. My mother is okay with my girlfriend, but I’m not close with her. My grandparents are like parents to me, and guess what, they hate that I’m dating outside my race, but they don’t have a say. This may make a woman nervous at first, but think about it, love is worth the cost of anything.

Cute white guys, haha. Nothing I can say to that. I’m not attracted to men and therefore don’t think any guy is cute.

“Trust me most intelligent white guys want nothing to do with a black woman. We don’t think any of you are sexy either. We would rather put our cocks in a meat grinder then be with a black woman.”

That’s a pretty rude and harsh thing to say, don’t you think? Not to mention probably not really true.

Not everything is “black and white” (pardon the expression) because it all depends on perspective.

For example, I once knew a girl in the Dominican Republic, who was quite pretty, and the fact that she was different, and beautiful with her somewhat dark skin, and style, really made me think about what matters when you’re looking for a special lady.

My point is basically that if we are more open-minded about considering dating ladies who are black, we open up EVEN MORE opportunities for meeting a sweet, caring, and potentially even more affectionate woman.

I recall growing up in a small town were people (both black and white) were quite rude and ignorant about black/white dating.

I remember several girls I met along the way who happened to be black, and I really regret not getting to know them better, or to at least be relaxed about the subject and listen to my heart and not outside pressures that wouldn’t really matter in the long run.

So, in fact, an “intelligent white guy” like myself would not be so quick to rush to judgement.

it is all about perception sis.. t hat is how you grew up that is what you know, that is what you do. not every white guy is middle class and talks with a preppie accent you know. you would be surprised at what you would /could have in common w/ people who don’t look like you. and there are plenty of good looking men of all races… from reading some of th ese comments, once again, ignorance triumphs!

Before I express my complete dislike for you and your post, I will say you are entitled to have your own opinion.

Okay the first issue at hand, “you have nothing in common”. I cannot even wrap my head around this idiotic statement. So because he is not BLACK you assume that the two of you would have nothing in common. Not all white people have grown up in middle class suburbia either. There are plenty of them who live in trailer parks, or who just aren’t that well off financially. You say he does not understand where you come from…. well how about you explain it to him.

You don’t see many cute white guys…seriously? I’m gonna go out on a limb and say you don’t get out much. Been to the beach lately? Watched any tv, seen any commercials, read a magazine, damn! Have you walked your dog lately. Good looking men are EVERYWHERE!! And, especially caucasian men honey.

They hang out at the same places any single man would: the bar, the beach, the gym, or a nightclub. All you have to do is open your eyes, it’s that easy.

Will his mom like you? Uhh, lets’ see. After reading this post probably NOT! Honestly, who cares you’ll be dating him not his mom, or any of his family. If you guys are seriously dating and happy together, it won’t matter at the end of the day.

You said “men of other races only see african american women as some kinky fantasy”. This is definitely not true, I am a black woman and I am MARRIED to a very good looking articulate caucasian man. Not only has your post made me question your intelligence. It has also offended me. At this point, I feel bad for any man who ends up with you.

And lastly, any man black, white, hispanic appreciate and truly find a confident woman EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE. Just be yourself, and whatever you do DO NOT bring up the issue of race. Just act as you are a BEAUTIFUL BLACK CONFIDENT WOMAN and any man will be at your feet trying to date you!!

Dear Kalise, sorry you took my post so harshly I wrote it in 08 and reading your comments made me go back and take a second look at what I wrote. After reading it again 3 years later it still makes me laugh a bit. Do I feel 100% the same way since I have aged nah, but my sentiments back then are amazingly humorous to me and if none of it makes YOU laugh, well heck I can’t please everyone then.

With all that said no matter how much YOU might offend me I WOULD never say I feel sorry for who ever dates you, seems like an extremely low blow especially when all I was stating was HOW I feel and if you read the comments not every body got bent out of shape as I stated NOT TO DO IF READ THIS!!!!

I still stand by everything I personally said because its exactly how I felt at the time. I am happy you are happy with your husband and 3 years LATER I still LOVE MY BLACK BROTHAS am I still single?? YEP and cool as cucumber about it!!!!!!

I went on PlentyofFish.com dating site a couple of weeks ago. There were many White guys messaging me. I kindly told them that I’m not interested because I simply do not find White guys physically attractive (yes, even Leonardo Dicaprio). One of the guys got angry and reported me. Then PlentyofFish deleted my account! Since when is not being attracted to White guys a crime?

must white men dont want anything to do with black women you are to fat ugly and loud rude… i see why black men leave your asses behind… must white men dont even think about black women.. black women are trash…

You see what i’m talking about Lauren. Look how these white devils are talking about black women here. They stinks smell just like a dogs, They are the smellest race on earth. If you don’t believe that ask any other race out here and watch what they say. ( Redneck hillbillys) that’s really second class to the Blacks. You not intelligent at all..You stole from every other race that’s on this planet. Only thing you always talk about over and over is niggers go back to africa or using that word Nigger. Funny thing You are always telling us to go back to africa like this country belong’s to you.. It belong to the indians, Today their these other race that’s here in this country don’t even care for white’s… just like the Balcks, Mexican and the Indians don’t. They are all just putting up with you for now, Because they all know your days are almost up. I forgot the chinese they do like you or trying to use you. That’s it You see, everytime your race steps into these far off country’s, look what happens, you get lock up in prisons or they kill you..They showing you that they don’t want you in there country. but you to damn dumb to notice it.