Answers, PG 76. Bitter ex wife drinks wine, asks dumb questions.

Ex and I divorced 3 years ago and I got remarried 2 years ago. We had joint custody of our 3 kids, but I then moved out of the county for my DH's job. Ex has the kids 70% of the time. We were civil during our divorce and never had a custody agreement put into place. 6 months ago ex took me to mediation and court to have something legal on the books.

Now, this may sound wrong of me, but I am going to be honest. While we were married, I worked as a nurse and made an ok living and I always hated working. Ex owns his own business and makes triple (if not more) than I did. My new DH comes from a wealthy family with a popular nationwide family business that he works for, and we made the decision for me to be a stay at home mom when we got married. We don't have any kids together, but he does have 2 kids that are in high school from his previous marriage. So between his 2 and my 3, kids are here almost every weekend, and some nights for dinner. My attorney told me that I can file for child support because I don't work anymore, and the courts would likely make him pay me for when the kids are here on the weekends and holidays. I didn't know that the non custodial parent could file for support, or I would have done it long ago. My attorney says its for living standards here.

My DH doesn't want me to because we don't "need" the money and he is against it completely. I think he's too proud. Now that I don't have money of my own, it would be nice to have my "own" income that I can spend. DH does pay a pretty penny in support to his ex and if I file for support from EX, it would supplement it, but he's still against it and doesn't want to "spend another man's money." Stupid pride!

Debate is: Would you go against your husband's desires for child support from your ex? Should I even file?

No, not just because my DH is against it but any asking for support could completely backfire on you. Your ex has the kids 70% of the time, you 30%. You should be paying him support not the other way around. You file for support don't be surprised if your ex doesn't also. I have a feeling he would win.

Ex and I divorced 3 years ago and I got remarried 2 years ago. We had joint custody of our 3 kids, but I then moved out of the county for my DH's job. Ex has the kids 70% of the time. We were civil during our divorce and never had a custody agreement put into place. 6 months ago ex took me to mediation and court to have something legal on the books.

Now, this may sound wrong of me, but I am going to be honest. While we were married, I worked as a nurse and made an ok living and I always hated working. Ex owns his own business and makes triple (if not more) than I did. My new DH comes from a wealthy family with a popular nationwide family business that he works for, and we made the decision for me to be a stay at home mom when we got married. We don't have any kids together, but he does have 2 kids that are in high school from his previous marriage. So between his 2 and my 3, kids are here almost every weekend, and some nights for dinner. My attorney told me that I can file for child support because I don't work anymore, and the courts would likely make him pay me for when the kids are here on the weekends and holidays. I didn't know that the non custodial parent could file for support, or I would have done it long ago. My attorney says its for living standards here.

My DH doesn't want me to because we don't "need" the money and he is against it completely. I think he's too proud. Now that I don't have money of my own, it would be nice to have my "own" income that I can spend. DH does pay a pretty penny in support to his ex and if I file for support from EX, it would supplement it, but he's still against it and doesn't want to "spend another man's money." Stupid pride!

Debate is: Would you go against your husband's desires for child support from your ex? Should I even file?

No, not just because my DH is against it but any asking for support could completely backfire on you. Your ex has the kids 70% of the time, you 30%. You should be paying him support not the other way around. You file for support don't be surprised if your ex doesn't also. I have a feeling he would win.

^on all court documents, it's listed as joint because that was my compromise for allowing him to have the kids so often. My attorney assured me that I would get the support if I filed.

You are looking at this the wrong way. You should have set up child support from the beginning. It doesn't matter if you and your current dh "need" the money or not. It's for your child. If you can get by without it, put the money in a savings account for your child. College isn't cheap. Besides, you never know what the future holds. What if your new dh leaves you high and dry and your stay at home mom gig ends? It'll be nice to already have that order set up.