Don’t waste time on things you can’t control

Have you ever spent so much time worrying
about something that in the end was something you realized you
never really had any control over to begin with? To where you did
everything in your power to make the situation different?
Sacrificed your time? Stayed up late thinking about how to solve
the situation? Lost sleep over stressing about it? Nowadays, I am
pretty sure we can all say that we have done that a few more times
than just once.

It’s funny how it takes us making a lot of
mistakes in order to learn about what to do in life and even what
not to do. We think that we can just take a situation and put our
own personal spin on it to either change the way it is going or the
outcome it was headed toward and make our own outcome that we feel
is best. On the contrary, we never had control over it to begin
with, so I guess the joke is really on us in the end.

It’s like when you get your car washed and
waxed to give you some extra luck for that fancy job interview and
then you watch the rain come pouring down as you’re on your way to
your interview. You get frustrated because now you feel like you’re
not going to do well at the interview when in all actuality did you
really ever have any control over the rain that came pouring down?
Absolutely not. However, you still let it affect your attitude. So
now if you don’t get the job you’re going to blame it on Mother
Nature when the reason why you didn’t get the job is because of how
you handled your reaction to the situation. You can’t control the
rain when it comes pouring down but you can control the way you
react to the rain.

It is going to rain a lot more in your life
than you would like it to as you travel on in your path. Instead of
worrying about whether or not it’s going to rain or pour, you can
get a lot further and accomplish more if you just worry over things
you do have control over. By worrying about the rain (something you
have no control over) you’re just going to cause an even bigger
storm to hit.

Life is not always going to be about sunshine
and cascading rays through the beautiful clouds, so once you learn
to accept that, even though you may not like the rain, at least now
you can be better prepared for when it does come unexpectedly —
like the unexpected bill, the pay cut, or the flat tire you will
most likely get in the future. Who knows maybe you will be so
prepared and only worried about the things you do have control
over, to where you won’t even notice when it is pouring rain
outside anymore.

Ahwatukee Foothills resident Michelle
“Mikey” Arana is a 2003 graduate of Mountain Pointe High School.
She offers free peer advice; however, Mikey is not licensed or
trained, just a fellow friend to the community. All inquiries made
to Mikey will remain anonymous unless legal issues occur. She can
be reached at www.myaskmikey.com or myaskmikey@yahoo.com.

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