In these last days until Christmas, many who celebrate are running around trying to find the perfect gift. Before you head to the mall one more time, take a moment to think about what you are giving. Not all gifts are created equal. Delete off that list the clothes, electronics, and toys you planned to buy, because…

MORE STUFF DOES NOT MAKE US HAPPIER

Okay, I’m exaggerating a little for effect. There are some caveats. First, this applies only to those who are financially secure, not to the financially vulnerable—like those who regularly experience food or housing insecurity. Second, we do experience a short blip in happiness when we get stuff we want. BUT it is temporary, and we quickly get back to baseline.

So if you really want to find a gift that is remembered and savored for more than a blink of the eye, research suggests giving experiences not things.

Not sure what would make a memorable experience gift. Here are five suggestions to get you started.

1. Weekend trip.
This is well-suited for couples, friends, and families—think a camping trip to a nearby park, a two-day hotel reservation in a close city, an all-inclusive spa getaway, whatever. You are only limited by your imagination (and budget).

2. Annual membership to a museum or science center.
Pick a place you know the recipient will be excited about. Consider a family membership for those with kids.

3. Tickets to a play, concert, or sporting event.
Just make sure the type of event suites the recipient’s taste, that you gift more than one ticket (no one wants to do this stuff alone), and the date will likely work for all involved.

4. Classes to learn a new skill or refine an existing one.
The categories here are endless—wine tasting, painting, photography, Tai-Chi, dancing, pottery-making, yoga, singing, piano, swimming…I could go on. Just make sure you gift more than one set so the person can bring a friend or two, which ups the joy and memorability factors.

5. Season passes to a nearby amusement park.
​This is particularly great for families. What kid doesn’t like to splash around, eat junk food, and ride roller coasters.

​The holiday season is upon us. For those who celebrate, this is supposed to be a joyous time brimming with connection and love. But the season’s reality can be very distant from the lore with traffic congestion, crowds, frenzied gift-buying, exhausting social activity, and money concerns. Many of these woes are self-inflicted, the cost of our quest for the perfect meal, the perfect gift, the perfect tree, the perfect decorations, the perfect everything.

Perfection, though, is an unattainable goal. The more we strive for it, the more we invite stress, disappointment, and frustration into our lives. If you want to give you and your loved ones a break this season, purge perfectionism in favor of good enough. Seek the good enough meal, the good enough gift, the good enough tree, the good enough whatever.

The choice to seek good enough has the considerable benefit of gifting us with the time and space needed to savor the aspects of the holiday that actually bring meaning and joy – giving to others, expressing gratitude, appreciating our loved ones (even the more challenging ones). So experiment this season with good enough and pay attention to what this intention manifests in your life.