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18 Feb 2018 6:28:13pm

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I have found that the effort put into making friends, at various points in my life, was a waste of energy. Moves into different careers and locations quickly caused them to disappear. I do have a few friends, but none in my current job and location. I have found cities to be utterly toxic socially, and country towns much much better. I have a chosen a job with plenty of social contact that reduces my need and stops me becoming clingy. Read up on game theory so you understand what's at stake. Don't blame yourself, don't expect any help. Most relationships are there to serve a purpose - reproductive or economic. Friendships serve an entirely different purpose and depend on two people having matching minds...even if you're purusing an interest, there's no guarantee of finding such a mind, though the chances would seem to improve.

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