Love shouldn’t hurt for women OR men

My goal as Miss America this year is not only to add to the dialogue, but to change it. There’s a lot of noise out there, but it’s important to be able to weed through it all and get your message across, consequently changing people’s minds. I firmly believe that changing laws to better society is not enough. You must also change people’s minds. How do you do that? go here Through education and frank conversation.

go here October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Since the first day of the month, I have been tweeting and posting about it with my new social media campaign, encouraging others to #VOWtoEndIt and share how they’re helping to stop the violence against and oppression of women.

source site While 1 in 4 women are affected by domestic violence, the global community often forgets that 1 in 7 men are also victims of abuse…and that statistic comes from those that actually report. We have no accurate idea as to how many men really are abused. This abuse occurs not only in gay, bisexual, or transgender relationships, but also in heterosexual relationships.

The types of abuse among the former include physical abuse and aggression between the dominant and submissive partners and, very largely, mental abuse. That mental abuse can consist of threatening to reveal one’s sexual orientation to family or friends that are not aware or are unsupportive, the constant reminder that there are very few resources out there to help men that are escaping abusive relationships, claiming that the authorities will disregard the claims that a man is being abused, and, of course, mental manipulation and attacks on self-esteem and self-worth.

cheap viagra in the philippines In heterosexual relationships where the woman is the abuser, in an attempt to compensate for a difference in strength, the abuse may happen while asleep or caught by surprise, often with a weapon such as a gun or knife. Mental abuse is very heavily prevalent in these situations. She might threaten to leave and take children away, cut the man off financially, take away or hide medicine he would need, make fun of him in front of his friends or family, manipulate those around him to be unaware of what is truly happening at home, and engage in acts of vicious jealousy, stalking, or possessiveness. I truly believe this happens much more than anyone would like to admit. But until society makes it ok for men to report, this issue will largely go unnoticed.

see Unfortunately, because of the expectations that men put on themselves to appear strong or dominant they do not report abuse. They think that admitting it makes them weak. My question is, why? Why does admitting vulnerability suddenly make you less of a man? I would argue that bringing these things to light actually makes you stronger and can give strength to those around you. Please don’t let the cultural atrocities that exist in our world stop you from finding happiness. Love shouldn’t hurt for women OR men.

https://sun-world.com/blog/nanotechnology-thesis/15/ I hope that by speaking about this, people will realize domestic violence is not something that can be solved by female advocates alone. We need men to speak up. By doing so they will not only add to the dialogue, but change it.

3 Comments

Larainne Deal

viagra heart pounding I agree . . . Do you read these? Because I posted something last month and never received a response. You — and Mallory Hagan — and Laura Kaeppler Fleiss are all awesome Miss Americas — my opinion. Thank you for the “cup talent” — I am a music major =– and thought your talent was phenomenal. YOU are what I think Miss America should be — just saying . .. Do not get discourage — Abraham Lincoln said: “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, BE nothing.” I am glad YOU are who YOU are — and that, IMO — is AWESOME! Thanks, Kira — and thanks judges — for picking the best one!

October 16, 2014 at 9:32 pm

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https://cscaz.org/3283-buy-viagra-over-counter-uk/ I, too, have wondered whether or not you read the comments here. I realize that you certainly do not have time to respond to them all, but I have never seen a post where you responded to even one of the comments, so I am just wondering. I agree with the above post: I thought that Laura Kaeppler was an awesome Miss America, as was Mallory Hagan, and I have no doubt that you will follow in their footsteps!
Cindy

October 22, 2014 at 5:59 pm

Laticia Coney

Ghandi is such an inspiration and so are you Kira K. I am also a survivor and in support of the prevention of Domestic Abuse and Violence. I am in prayer and hope for change in this generation and the generations to come. Love is a river of life. I feel its important to remember we have a saviour Jesus Christ who loves us and will see us through these campaigns. Oh the days of Rainbow Bright, My Little Pony, Care Bares and other moral teaching cartoons were and are still very camly constructive for the youth. God bless the survivors, deliver the abusers, and lets celebrate in each victory!!!!!!