Thursday, April 25, 2013

Got a crush?

If I would have looked into my future three years ago I never would have thought that I’d be the one telling others to step outside of their comfort zone. I had personally never done it myself! As you’ve noticed a lot has changed in my life and I am not afraid anymore.

I met my current boyfriend in August of 2010. We were friends for a year before we started dating and we talked 5/7 days a week (we worked together). When I first met him we had a similar relationship that I had with a lot of coworkers.. friendly but not close. Until a few months in, I started realizing that this guy was really something and I honestly felt like he was the male version of me. It actually freaked me out how similar we were. In November 2010 I left a 4.5 year relationship and took a lot of time to heal. During this time my feelings for Pete (my current boyfriend) grew and I knew I was falling for him. He decided to switch jobs that summer and I was devastated. I was scared I’d never see him again and that we’d lose touch. He started coming on facebook chat every single night after that so we could talk :). It makes me smile even now just thinking about it. I knew this was a sign. I also knew that “work” no longer stood in the way and it wouldn’t be an awkward situation if things went badly.

A week or two later, after talking every single day I finally decided to say “Screw it! What do I have to lose?”. I told him I had feelings for him. He was shocked of course but I gave him some space so he could soak it in. A few weeks later we made it official and now here we are over a year and a half later happy as can be talking about spending our lives together and the things we see in our future.

To think this never would have happened if I hadn’t stepped outside of my comfort zone and did something about my feelings. To think that if I had not made the first effort and pushed for it, I would not be with someone who I feel is my soulmate. Someone who see’s 100% of me and I can be myself with completely. So much so that he laughs at me often and says “babe you’re a weirdo”. I love that!

Why do so many women nowadays still act like this is a man’s game? That the man needs to take all the first steps and that he needs to make all the effort? It isn’t. If you want something you need to go out and get it! Stop sitting back and crying wondering “why won’t he talk to me?” or thinking “I’ll never know if he likes me”. You can know! It just takes a little effort and sneaking outside of your comfort zone.

“The best way to predict your future is to create it.”- Abraham Lincoln.

If something passes you by it is your own fault because you let it. Go get what you want. Tell people how you feel. Stand up for yourself. Go against your grain and try something new. It is up to you to create your life.