ok so some men like bigger women, or so they say. i weight 215lbs, thats not all that fat i know, but i feel like it is. i meet some really nice men on here and they all seem into me, but something goes wrong. what am i doing or not doing that all these skinny girls are? so some men like skinny girls, thats great, but why be a jerk about it to someone who is looking for friends? do men think that women are just for sex? can we not be your friends as well?

skinny or thick ..... it's all up to chemistry etc. being accepted sexually is a big factur with men. i read your profile and enjoyed what you wrote ..... sounds like you have it together ..... good luck

StraddleMyNose

Nov 25 @ 2:08AM

People put too much stock in pounds. I don't care who you are, pounds don't effect people the same way to some degree. A lot of people have more muscle than fat, and we all know that muscle weighs more than fat. Some people are just big boned size people, while others are totally overweight. I'm not sure of your body type when you say that you're 215lbs. for all I know you can be solid and carry it very well. You may actually workout a lot and have a lot of muscle to weigh 215lbs. Bottom line is, someone's weight really doesn't mean a whole lot for the most part. Also, if you think you're in good enough shape be proud of that, even if there are shallow people out there. Maybe they're not good enough for you!

I know I have said this before, but men are stupid, hon. Sooner U come 2 terms with that fact the sooner U can start working the shit 2 Ur advantage. Sure, U might think 2 Urself, "But I don't want 2 be that kind of girl!"...NEWS FLASH... U are either the girl running shit or the bitch being walked on...U decide which U would rather be.

It is challenging to keep a`female friend'. If we (men) are interested in a woman, it is a combination of attractions mind,body,soul. I think online friends are easier to accomplish. Boundaries are more secure especially in long distance separation of friends.

Personally, I prefer ladies with a few extra cuddles, (and that's not a bullshit statement) but them I'm quite old and have aquired wisdom along with age.I'd classify 215lb as having an "ample" figure, certainly not fat.I dont think you are necessarily doing anything that skinny girls aren't (or vice versa) it's just that the media image of women is for the trim, taught and terrible.All I can suggest is that you be yourself. Sure, highlight your assets, both physical and intellectually. If you are comfortable with your body shape, and dont constantly whine about being too big blah blah blah then there are thousands of men out there who will find you attractive. It just may take a little extra time to find them. Dont , however become a "desperately seeking someone" , just go with the flow, accept friendships as and when they come, and maybe one of the friends will turn into your prince charming. Sure there are some arseholes who think it smart to badmouth people because of what they see as failings, BUT the failing is with them, People come in all shapes, sizes, personalities, etc and any REAL man must accept this or he will find there are a lot of disappointments in his life.

I will give you some insight, that may be right. I do not believe that they are honestly into full figured women, except for the sexual part. Anyone that is into a woman of substance knows how to find the woman within and bring her out, but also knows that she is as beautiful inside as she is on the outside.

gamesman

Nov 25 @ 10:13AM

All I can say is that be yourself and keep your eyes open. Truly there is nothing wrong with you, so don't let someone say that there is. You will eventually find a nice guy that likes you for you.My friends would say that I am a nice guy and i have trouble finding a nice girl. I guess i need to take my own advice.Good luck

Raven_Silverfire

Nov 25 @ 4:33PM

I know the feeling, us bigger girls need luvin too. Some tend to be too shallow when it comes to even being friends with a chubby girl, but would you really want a friend that can't accept you for who you are?

I'm a "big" gal, too. I think what it boils down to is attraction. If attraction is one-sided, then it's no good. It can't work. It has to be a two-way street. Yes, some men have a real thing about "height-proportionate" women, while others don't mind a few extra pounds. Just depends on the person. You have to weed through a lot of guys to find the ones who "don't mind" and who will see you for who you are!

Mandy, you're not the only woman out there asking, "Why me?". All women ask themselves that sooner or later. This site is no different than any other dating scene, you're going to have to suffer the jerks and assholes out there to get to the one good man that I know is out there waiting for you.

Believe in yourself and keep your head up.

canuhelpme258

Nov 26 @ 5:16AM

don't settle for mediocry.

Finally he wrote something I can agree with. Thee is somebody for everyone, never settle, never ever give up!