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With a Younger guy.

I have had various relationships before, so I was in relationships for the last 12 years. Now I am single and wanting to “have fun” in an elegant way. So…
After some months being single, I wanted to hang out with guys out of my circle (I am kinda bored of the same type of guys), a friend told me to make a Tinder profile and I was surprise of the quality of the male gender I met there (yes I am a friendly type of woman). Have had dinner and lunches and coffees with some of them.

I am just discovering that I am still good in having the guys contact me, call me and all those things male/female sensual battle.

Now, I met this guy 9 years younger, so I am 37 and he is 28. All communication is through whatsapp, never calling, he would send voice messages, etc. He is fine with the age (I look younger than him, lol) and to me age is a number as long as you’re having fun. With all whatsapp, and new technology, I don’t know how to behave so he would grow interest (remember the male/female sensual battle).

I would ask; How do I make him think that I have interest without having to start conversation always? Through all these new technologies?

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[I feel like you’re wanting to play the game and act coy. So if that’s the case, there really isn’t much you can do, aside from… well, acting coy.

If he texts you, be friendly with your replies, and ask open-ended questions. That’s a good way to keep the conversation going. And it’s how you can show him that you’re interested, without being too forward (since that seems to be your goal here).

Otherwise, I’m not sure what else you can do to “grow interest” in him. As long as you come across as a fun person who isn’t overly needy, there’s not much more you can do.

Well… no, that’s not quite true. There are ways you can manipulate him, I suppose, if you’re really into that sort of thing. But you’re on your own there. 🙂

[I’d recommend moving to text messages rather than Whatsapp. Whatsapp is a safe way to communicate with people you don’t know very well (I use a similar service to talk to my Twitter acquaintances) but once you have established a mild trust (cough, once you’re sleeping together) you should have already exchanged phone numbers. I just find communicating through an app to be a little off putting with someone I’m interested in dating, even casually. If he’s hesitant to exchange numbers I’d find that sketchy.

Other than that, I think texting is a totally fine way to flirt and communicate in the early stages of getting to know someone. Try to be yourself-lite. Be interesting and be interested. Like Dennis said, ask him questions to keep the conversation going but don’t force it. If something is there, it’ll work itself out as long as you stay natural.