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A Bumpy Ride

03 April 2017

The main highway is washed out and the other roads are shameful. Over 400 people came out last week to highlight the seriousness of the problem and to speak their truth. It made the front page of our local paper. The people are concerned for the need for emergency services that may be needed in a hurry.

This is a community about 20 minutes from Moncton but I had a chance to experience their frustration on Saturday. As grandparents we were excited to go and see our grandchildren perform in a skating show at 11am. We were told to allow at least an hour to get there.

We started out the Pine Glen Road, which is a major route to get there. It is a road that we had often travelled on our motorcycle that was in pretty decent shape but not this time! I could not believe the ruts, pot- holes and washouts at the side of the road. Part way out the highway there was a construction site , where only one lane could go at a time. We sat there with about 25 other cars waiting our turn.

Eventually, we got to Dawson Settlement Road that would take us into Hillsborough. It too was full of bumps, potholes and ruts. It was a very bumpy ride and we were driving an SUV supposedly made to travel over terrain like this.

I had heard that a youth was hurt in a hockey game and that the paramedics were so busy trying to hang on in the back of the ambulance, they could hardly tend to him. He was not so seriously injured but I sure do understand now why people are so concerned.

My grandchildren were in a second show that evening. Ordinarily I would have been there a second time to see them but this particular night, Doug needed to be back for a gig he was volunteering for. I just felt too overwhelmed and nervous to drive on those secondary roads by myself so I did not go.

Sometimes people tell you what is happening. Sometimes we read about events in the paper but until you actually experience them, you really do not have the awareness of what is actually happening.

A greater awareness is always useful. I am now 100% behind the people beyond the washout who are fighting for a quicker fix to the highway. There is way more to the story but just gaining the awareness personally, hopefully I can add my influence to help this urgent situation.

Technological vs Human Progress

17 February 2017

Yesterday started out with yet another day trumped by mother- nature. At first I thought I would not get dressed for the day but I realized I would be talking with people online so I had better look good!

That started me thinking about how far we have advanced with technology. It is not that long ago that we found it hard to believe we would be able to see and talk with someone at the same time on our phones! Incredible really.

That brings me to relationships. We have all this technology and we are a world that has exploded with technological advances but not so much with relationships. When I see posts about increase in Domestic Violence, Sexual assault and abuse, I know we have not advanced anywhere near enough with our relationships.

That is why I am so passionate about teaching about how to have a great relationship! Nearly everyone who has ever taking the Choice Theory and Reality Therapy training can attest to how much it has improved their relationships. Ideas are sometimes easy to understand but not so easy to implement.

With our training, you will have the opportunity to practice the new ideas you have learned and begin to feel confident in your newly acquired skills. And that is not all, you will have the opportunity to continue with further training as you see fit!

The program is offered in safe, comfortable surroundings and is 100% guaranteed that when applied it will benefit all your relationships.

I have decided to extend the deadline for Early Bird Registration until, February, 19th at midnight. Sign up here: www.choicetheorytraining.com

People will Take my Stuff

07 February 2017

I am going to do this workshop but I am worried that people will take my stuff and use it and teach it themselves! This is a statement that I heard and read about no less that three times this past week. I find it fascinating that we want to teach our information but we don’t want people to share it!

Why bother putting it out there if what you really want is to keep it for yourself? In fairness, when I first started out teaching certain subjects I had that same concern but over time I learned that if we really want to have an impact on the world we need to let people run with whatever material we can give them.

A mentor of mine and leadership GURU , John Maxwell says, these ideas are written here for your use. Use them and teach them and when you start out give me credit for the ideas but soon you will become so comfortable with them you will own them and I am ok with that.

This is what a good leader does. I learned a long time ago that I would rather give the people my information so that at least they have a guide that was given to them. No one can teach your material like you can but they can use it, practice with it and share it with others. I have also learned that a great many people collect the information and keep it for themselves.

This is why when you do your Basic Intensive in Choice Theory, Reality Therapy, Lead Management/Quality Schools with me you will receive a binder with a lot of handouts that you can take back to your workplace and begin to use immediately. I will even give you a copy of my power point slides electronically once you have completed the first level of training. I expect you to share, share, share.

That being said, my next training program is March 8-10 and normally the fee is $602 but until February 15, 2017 you can register for the crazy price of $497.00. But this rate is only good for another week. I guarantee that you will walk away from this training with a new way of thinking. Register here: www.choicetheorytraining.com

Yours in growing awareness

Maureen

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My PTSD

10 January 2017

My inner circle group has challenged me to share this writing with my blog followers. So here it is.

Yesterday, I wrote about being diagnosed with PTSD or post traumatic stress disorder. I was forty years old and being told I had this disorder from being a young child of just 10. Can you imagine, I had lived with this out of my awareness for 30 years already and in a couple of hours of meeting me, I am given a diagnosis.

You see that is what conventional psychiatrists do. They search for symptoms, create a diagnosis and then prescribe medication. It is the way they are trained in the medical model to treat people. Sometimes those medications can create worse symptoms. No, I did not take any medication. Anyway, I digress.

I was 10 years old when my brother who was 8 died of Leukemia. The way the doctor described it was that after the loss of my brother, which happened on February 18 every year after that, my parents entered into a grieving phase from Christmas to the end of March. His birthday was in March. They were doing the best they could do with what they knew. But in the early years it affected the other children left behind. It became a habit to depress this time of year!

Today, thank-fully I have that awareness and my body will become tired and I will feel down but suddenly I remember the words of that doctor and I know that I have control over how I will handle this. I cannot help how I feel. It just happens but I do have more control over my thoughts and actions and at this time, I simply stop, acknowledge the loss of my brother and remember how fortunate I was to have known him and his beautiful soul for the short time we had together. I do not need to depress for three months.

It is not my intention to make light of PTSD. There are way more severe forms of it and people need to be listened to and taught how to take charge of their own life, emotions and behaviors.

Awareness is a wonderful thing if we choose to pay attention. If you are experiencing some kind of upset in your life, talk with a professional. You have what you need within. You just need someone to help you access it.

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Met Maureen many years ago during a difficult life transition. She was recommended to me and I have been grateful for the connection. Through her teaching of Choice Theory she provides clarity, direction and empowerment to act. I have since been recommending her to anyone I know who is in need of her type of services. You can go see other couselors for months and start to feel better or you can go see Maureen and get direction within a few visits. the results last a life time. Love what you do Maureen!less

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Maureen is a warm person who is passionate about making a difference in the lives of the people she works with. She is very knowledgeable in her field and much can be learned from her! Maureen thank you so much for a great and "ah ha" filled training, you are a great instructor and such an inspiration. The reason I took this course is because of someone who you taught in the past, which i think says a lot. I felt so comfortable, and your enthusiasm and passion made me want to pay attention to every word. I so look forward to continuing on this journey! Jill Wakelin

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When you choose to look within and draw out your own answers to your unique challenges, you receive the gift of wisdom, a process by Dr. William Glasser who honoured us by creating Choice Theory, an explanation of human behaviour. Once you learn this, your thinking changes and you gain the tools for dealing with people, no longer wanting to blame others or accept being blamed yourself.

It is a theory of personal freedom, how to take effective control of your own life! If this resonates with you, then you are exactly the kind of person who will benefit greatly from working with me.

You can reach me at mo@maureencraigmcintosh.com to set a time for an initial conversation.