So I’m going to break it down into some parts, the parts I’ll call “the fluffy feely good stuff” and the “deep hurts” and we can address how to heal the heart, connect with ourselves, and ultimately the world around us.

Now you’ll probably know which of the two categories fit you best.

If not ask yourself; have I suffered any traumas in my life (childhood or adulthood)?

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Trauma, PTSD, and Emotional Pain

Here are some examples of events that CAN be traumatic (though not necessarily):

Abandonment by a caregiver

Divorce

Physical Abuse

Neglect (emotional or physical)

Sexual Abuse

Rape

Car Accidents

Spankings

Medical Intervention

Physical Harm

Being Trapped

Verbal Abuse

War

Violence to you or someone near you

This is not an exhaustive list. To figure out if an event was traumatic for you, you need to visit a doctor or therapist specialized in trauma.

Here are also links to books that changed my life in terms of trauma. I learned A LOT, the first book is sorta technical but will really help you understand trauma. The second is more anecdotal, and I was crying the entire time I read it. Just releasing...hurt.

So trauma is the “deep hurts” category of my heart healing program.

I want everyone to know that addressing the “fluffy feely good stuff” first may help for a while. But the only path to truly healing yourself is by addressing the deeper stuff.

Fluffy Feely Good Stuff: Meditation and Opening the Heart

Now, I love the “fluffy feely good stuff.”

I know it kinda has a silly name but that doesn’t mean it can’t be helpful. And also that doesn’t mean that it can’t be used in conjunction with deeper healing.

The most effective way to center yourself, and get back to what your heart REALLY wants in this life, is through meditation.

Or if that sounds too much like a woo-woo buzzword call it paying attention.

Your heart is constantly telling you things.

I like this. I don’t like this. I feel threatened in this situation.

So what’s the best way to connect with your heart? Listen to it.

Seems easy right.

Well sometimes it is...and sometimes it isn’t.

Let’s explore a quick meditation that we can do (I’m talking 30 seconds) to reconnect with ourselves.

Place one hand on your heart, and one hand on your belly. And just ask yourself. How are you? Really? Take deep breaths as you do this. Listen to that little voice and voila connection with the heart! You don’t always need to take action, sometimes just listening is enough.

I like to think of this as you speaking to your inner child. If, like MANY of us did, you suffered a trauma in your childhood. It’s very possible that nobody paid attention to your emotions when it happened. And as a child, you just learn to ignore the emotions. Right?

It’s like cleaning your room, if your parents never taught you to do it, you probably will grow up to not do it on your own. It’s just how it works.

So our hearts maybe never had the chance to be acknowledged as children. So there’s like this constant hush hush about our true feelings. But if you just listen instead acknowledge you’ve already gone a long way in healing yourself, and staying present with yourself no matter what.

You may have to do an exercise like that one 50 times a day.

The heart and the mind are slightly silly distinctions to make. Because they are so connected that it’s often difficult to separate them.

If you’re interested to know more about trauma you can also read my articles:

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