Social Question

(NSFW) Is this always fun for you?

I have seen in most pornography videos that when the guy is having sex with the woman, he stretches her legs right back in some gymnastic positions. What I want is the opinion of the ladies. Do you all love it when your partner contorts you in all kinds of ways, or does it hurt? Is it generally fun for you?

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The most objectionable aspect of the porn industry and the crap generated isn’t about indecency or degradation. The TRULY disgusting and nauseating aspects of porn involve bad acting, piss poor editing and an overall disregard for production values that pretty much define the field. There are some gems to be sifted from the grit. But wading through the unending mire to find even the grit can be a libido dulling chore.

Of course not. Only a contortionist would enjoy being so bent out of an ordinary person’s comfort zone. Porn resorts to strange positions to give the camera direct view of the penetration . Apparently they reason that most of their audience can’t use their imaginations to fill in any blanks—it all has to be graphically portrayed. This is just one of the incredibly contrived features of porn that detract from my enjoyment of it.

I used to be that flexible, but no longer can contort into as many positions as I once did. As for what a woman likes, that will vary from one person to another since we all have different bodies and different minds.

In addition, what positions are enjoyable with also vary depending on the partner’s build and proportions, as the way the bodies fit together will be different. There are some positions I loved with some partners that are not even possible with others.

Putting my ankles next to my ears allowed for perfect penetration with some guys, but with others the angle was wrong and they’d be hitting my cervix which hurts. Regardless, I don’t want my partner putting me into different positions, I want him to respect my body and be concerned about my pleasure, as well, so we cooperatively decide what to try.

It feels impersonal and impractical. Like, it’s not that physically uncomfortable, but sometimes intimacy is lost in the quest for novelty, and it seems like they’re trying too hard to impress. Not really my wheelhouse.