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Nightweaning Sucks

I am not really looking for advice, just venting some frustration. I don't really want to nightwean, but we have to since I am leaving for a 6-week class in 5 weeks. We decided to nightwean by keeping Levi in bed with DH and then I have been sleeping in our guestroom. Right now we are just working on the time between 11pm and 4 or 5 am, and then after a week or two we will work on the whole night.

We thought it would help that DH is cosleeping with Levi, but when he wakes up and DH is in bed with him and I am not there he is MAD. DH tries to get him to sleep next to him and soothe him but he just sits up in his little bed that's next to our bed and cries and blubbers and then DH has to bring him out to the chair and rock him. He falls back asleep that way, but now DH is getting neck pain from sleeping in the recliner with him most of the night.

I think part of the problem is that he probably has 2 year molars coming in. I feel bad having to nightwean him with that going on, but I don't have a choice on the timing.

I usually wake up at 4 or 5 because Levi is crying and so I nurse him then. I am really freaking out about cutting out that nursing session, I don't think it will go well.

Beth

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Nursed until just before he turned 3 Levi Oct 09

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Sorry Beth Night Weaning is definetly one of the toughest parts of a breastfeeding relationship. On one hand it's heartbreaking because you know they're accustomed to that comfort, but on the other you know you need to do what's best to maintain sanity for everyone. The thought has entered my mind for A too but it just seems so monumental I keep putting it off.

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Sorry beth. Will he drink your milk from a bottle and go back to sleep?

He would never take a bottle. I am worried about tooth decay anyway since I think he might have some on his front teeth so I think we are just going to stick to water if we offer anything at night.

If I were staying around, I really don't think we would be doing this. Sometimes I used to get frustrated about his nightwaking, but I DID get pretty decent sleep. The last few nights have been rough.

Beth

Exclusively pumped for Lance Oct 07
Nursed until just before he turned 3 Levi Oct 09

Do you have extra milk? Consider donating!http://www.hmbana.org/:
"So I was welcomed by the consolations of human milk; but it was not my mother or my nurses who made any decision to fill their breasts, but you who through them gave me infant food, in accordance with your ordinance and the riches which are distributed deep in the natural order." -St Augustine

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I am dreading this myself. DS is a few days shy of 11 months, but I am 7.5 weeks pregnant. I have no intention of fully weaning him, but I need to start night weaning him. DH is going to take a week off of work and get up with him all night. It's going to kill me, I know....so huge hugs and good luck to you!

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Originally Posted by @llli*jenna562

Emily how often does A nurse at night?

Usually once when I come to bed, once maybe twice if I toss/turn and wake him up enough to want it and again at 4ish and when he wakes around 6. So around 3-4 times. It's not a burden, my main issue is frustration that I can't get comfortable if I wake up without having him nurse. We have a queen bed and there's just not enough room for the three of us. But rigt now the inconvenience doesn't outweigh the hell that is nightweaning. The screaming, the tears, the frustration and the no sleep for anyone. . I'll probably tackle that beast next spring, sooner if I go back to work.

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Originally Posted by @llli*jennygal

I am dreading this myself. DS is a few days shy of 11 months, but I am 7.5 weeks pregnant. I have no intention of fully weaning him, but I need to start night weaning him. DH is going to take a week off of work and get up with him all night. It's going to kill me, I know....so huge hugs and good luck to you!

I kept the night nursing for months after I stopped nursing during the day. DS was/is a terrible sleeper and nightweaning did not improve the situation. He still woke as often I just had nothing to soothe him back to sleep with

Originally Posted by @llli*jeremijasmommy

Usually once when I come to bed, once maybe twice if I toss/turn and wake him up enough to want it and again at 4ish and when he wakes around 6. So around 3-4 times. It's not a burden, my main issue is frustration that I can't get comfortable if I wake up without having him nurse. We have a queen bed and there's just not enough room for the three of us. But rigt now the inconvenience doesn't outweigh the hell that is nightweaning. The screaming, the tears, the frustration and the no sleep for anyone. . I'll probably tackle that beast next spring, sooner if I go back to work.

H was doing so much better she was down to once or twice a night, but in the past coupe of months she has gone back to almost newborn nursing (I think it is the two year molars). I really want to to be done with all night nursing. But I cannot imagine going through the hell for all of us.

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