Baby sleeping in parent's bed

Hello I wanted to share a story of when I tutored in a home schooling program, because I have recently read something about baby's sleeping in beds with their parents... I had one student who had a baby girl and brought her in the bed with her to breastfeed. She had accidently fallen asleep & rolled over on her baby and her little girl passed away. Even though it was an accident, she has to live with that knowledge that it could have been prevented every day and it still affects her emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically to the point that she was & is too depressed to continue her classes in school... I normally wouldn't type anything that could be mislead or misconstrued, but I am typing this because, her story could prevent another mommy from accidently bringing their new baby blessing in the bed with them and falling asleep. I also have a nurse friend that had a similiar story of a new mommy patient that rolled over on her first born and her baby blessing is no longer with us either. God bless

Hello I wanted to share a story of when I tutored in a home schooling program, because I have recently read something about baby's sleeping in beds with their parents... I had one student who had a baby girl and brought her in the bed with her to breastfeed. She had accidently fallen asleep & rolled over on her baby and her little girl passed away. Even though it was an accident, she has to live with that knowledge that it could have been prevented every day and it still affects her emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically to the point that she was & is too depressed to continue her classes in school... I normally wouldn't type anything that could be mislead or misconstrued, but I am typing this because, her story could prevent another mommy from accidently bringing their new baby blessing in the bed with them and falling asleep. I also have a nurse friend that had a similiar story of a new mommy patient that rolled over on her first born and her baby blessing is no longer with us either. God bless

That was a big debate for me. I'm all for my baby sleeping in my bed. That said, I chose not to because of the risk factor. Our bed simply isn't big enough for me to feel safe about her sleeping with us.....especially when my son climbs in when he wakes up in the middle of the night. I opted to get a co-sleeper bassinet that hooks to my bed. This way my baby is right next to me and the risk of one of us rolling over on top of her is eliminated. I have heard a lot of stories about this happening. My heart goes out to all of the parents that this has happened to.

That was a big debate for me. I'm all for my baby sleeping in my bed. That said, I chose not to because of the risk factor. Our bed simply isn't big enough for me to feel safe about her sleeping with us.....especially when my son climbs in when he wakes up in the middle of the night. I opted to get a co-sleeper bassinet that hooks to my bed. This way my baby is right next to me and the risk of one of us rolling over on top of her is eliminated. I have heard a lot of stories about this happening. My heart goes out to all of the parents that this has happened to.

I get that accidents happen and it would be heartbreaking if you knew you could have prevented it. I did nurse my first child in bed and never had a problem with rolling on top of him, but I'm a pretty light sleeper anyway. I am choosing not to nurse my baby in bed more due to the fact that I can't get my 3 year-old out of it because I nursed him in bed and it became his bed. I guess the reason I am writing this is for all of those first time moms that do end up letting their child sleep with them that it is not the end of the world for many moms.

I get that accidents happen and it would be heartbreaking if you knew you could have prevented it. I did nurse my first child in bed and never had a problem with rolling on top of him, but I'm a pretty light sleeper anyway. I am choosing not to nurse my baby in bed more due to the fact that I can't get my 3 year-old out of it because I nursed him in bed and it became his bed. I guess the reason I am writing this is for all of those first time moms that do end up letting their child sleep with them that it is not the end of the world for many moms.

I totally agree!! Another thing is don't fall asleep with them laying on you either. I did this with my first. I would be burping her and then fall asleep with her on me. I didn't drop fortunately, but I could have, which is just as bad as squishing your baby.

I totally agree!! Another thing is don't fall asleep with them laying on you either. I did this with my first. I would be burping her and then fall asleep with her on me. I didn't drop fortunately, but I could have, which is just as bad as squishing your baby.

Just my two cents: It's a really bad idea to have your infant sleep in the bed with you - even if you're "just lying down to rest for a moment." For you first timer's, you really don't know how exhausting it is to be a new mommy or daddy (myself being the latter) - you'll be more tired than you ever think you can handle - and even sitting down in a chair to eat something usually results in a twenty second cat-nap.

Sleeping in a bed with an infant is just too great a risk to take; whether your talking about suffocation, child rolling off the bed, or whatever unexpected horrendous thing you can think of.

Thoth

Just my two cents: It's a really bad idea to have your infant sleep in the bed with you - even if you're "just lying down to rest for a moment." For you first timer's, you really don't know how exhausting it is to be a new mommy or daddy (myself being the latter) - you'll be more tired than you ever think you can handle - and even sitting down in a chair to eat something usually results in a twenty second cat-nap.

Sleeping in a bed with an infant is just too great a risk to take; whether your talking about suffocation, child rolling off the bed, or whatever unexpected horrendous thing you can think of.

I am a super light sleeper. I'd say I never go into a deep sleep. I just hover all night on the brink of sleep. Any little thing can wake me up. So when I had my first child I thought It would be safe to let him sleep with me. My husband came in the bedroom and found me asleep with my son behind my pillow. How he escaped death, I do not know to this day. Needless to say, that was the last time he ever slept or napped in the same bed with me.It's just not worth it. It felt safe and comforting to have him right next to me, but it was a false sense of safety.

I am a super light sleeper. I'd say I never go into a deep sleep. I just hover all night on the brink of sleep. Any little thing can wake me up. So when I had my first child I thought It would be safe to let him sleep with me. My husband came in the bedroom and found me asleep with my son behind my pillow. How he escaped death, I do not know to this day. Needless to say, that was the last time he ever slept or napped in the same bed with me.It's just not worth it. It felt safe and comforting to have him right next to me, but it was a false sense of safety.

I've researched co-sleeping over and over and still feel it is a good healthy thing when done correctly. Statistically most accidents happen while co-sleeping if a parent is overweight, drinking, smoking, or in some cases extremely over exhausted.

But there are two sides to everything. I still personally like the idea of co-sleeping and a family bed.

I've researched co-sleeping over and over and still feel it is a good healthy thing when done correctly. Statistically most accidents happen while co-sleeping if a parent is overweight, drinking, smoking, or in some cases extremely over exhausted.

But there are two sides to everything. I still personally like the idea of co-sleeping and a family bed.

It is a personal choice that each parent needs to make. I would never be able to allow my child(ren) to co-sleep with me/us there are too many risks involved. EVERY doctor and nurse we saw post delivery over emphasized no co-sleeping with us, even though we were not planning on it. Also as we were told post delivery for "most" mothers is a more tiring time, with hormones leaving the body and not getting enough sleep, which makes co-sleeping more of a risk. God bless

It is a personal choice that each parent needs to make. I would never be able to allow my child(ren) to co-sleep with me/us there are too many risks involved. EVERY doctor and nurse we saw post delivery over emphasized no co-sleeping with us, even though we were not planning on it. Also as we were told post delivery for "most" mothers is a more tiring time, with hormones leaving the body and not getting enough sleep, which makes co-sleeping more of a risk. God bless

My daughter slept in our bed in a sleep positioner for the first two months of her life. Â She didn't die, and I think she slept better with us. Â I don't plan to have my son in bed with us- as my quality of sleep wasn't good during those two months- I don't condemn anyone who does it. Â You don't know until you've been in that situation.

My daughter slept in our bed in a sleep positioner for the first two months of her life. Â She didn't die, and I think she slept better with us. Â I don't plan to have my son in bed with us- as my quality of sleep wasn't good during those two months- I don't condemn anyone who does it. Â You don't know until you've been in that situation.

Long before we even got pregnant with Josh, hubby and I decided that we will not have the baby sleep with us in the bed. It's not only for safety reasons, but mom told me that once they get used to sleeping in your bed, it's really hard to take them back to their own crib. Therefore, we got a sofa for the nursary and I will probably sleep in there for the first couple of months. (me on the sofa, baby in his crib)

Long before we even got pregnant with Josh, hubby and I decided that we will not have the baby sleep with us in the bed. It's not only for safety reasons, but mom told me that once they get used to sleeping in your bed, it's really hard to take them back to their own crib. Therefore, we got a sofa for the nursary and I will probably sleep in there for the first couple of months. (me on the sofa, baby in his crib)

It leads back to the co-sleeping topics that gets everyone heated and upset.

That being said, this is a tragedy for the family and the mom.

I however have co-slept with 2 of my 3 children and will probably do the same with this baby.... I enjoyed it, I enjoyed the time the closeness and the ability to breastfeed my baby without having to disturb too much of my sleep (I worked with the last two this time I am a SAHM). If someone is going to co-sleep - they need to do so with education and safety.

This is one of those "Hot Topics" to be honest.

It leads back to the co-sleeping topics that gets everyone heated and upset.

That being said, this is a tragedy for the family and the mom.

I however have co-slept with 2 of my 3 children and will probably do the same with this baby.... I enjoyed it, I enjoyed the time the closeness and the ability to breastfeed my baby without having to disturb too much of my sleep (I worked with the last two this time I am a SAHM). If someone is going to co-sleep - they need to do so with education and safety.

My posts were my personal stories that hit close to home, our doctor's advice and my own personal choice for what is best for me and my family. I chose to post it to inform, definitely not to debate with anyone, and as my posts have said it is a personal choice, and we all need to do what is best for our own family. The young lady I tutored never thought it would happen to her, actually she was positive it wouldn't, and tragically it did. My posts were only to heighten awareness, not to cause heat on late trimester mommies' minds. God bless

My posts were my personal stories that hit close to home, our doctor's advice and my own personal choice for what is best for me and my family. I chose to post it to inform, definitely not to debate with anyone, and as my posts have said it is a personal choice, and we all need to do what is best for our own family. The young lady I tutored never thought it would happen to her, actually she was positive it wouldn't, and tragically it did. My posts were only to heighten awareness, not to cause heat on late trimester mommies' minds. God bless

I didn't assume you were going to debate, I was just pointing out it was a hot topic. There are going to be negative stories and positive stories to and for the issue and that is a given. Some people feel that their own personal bed is just that (some even feel that way about their bedroom), others feel more comfortable and in tune with their babies next to them even if its just sleeping.

When it comes to things like this, in the end it is going to be everyone's personal decision. I understand that fully. I am very co-sleeping myself because of positive experiences and personal beliefs. That doesn't make it right for everyone and this I completely respect and understand.

My first daughter people would take her out of my hands if I looked tired. They warned me all about the dangers of rolling on my baby and how bad it was, and really put the fear of God in me... I was so afraid of sleeping with her.

I didn't assume you were going to debate, I was just pointing out it was a hot topic. There are going to be negative stories and positive stories to and for the issue and that is a given. Some people feel that their own personal bed is just that (some even feel that way about their bedroom), others feel more comfortable and in tune with their babies next to them even if its just sleeping.

When it comes to things like this, in the end it is going to be everyone's personal decision. I understand that fully. I am very co-sleeping myself because of positive experiences and personal beliefs. That doesn't make it right for everyone and this I completely respect and understand.

My first daughter people would take her out of my hands if I looked tired. They warned me all about the dangers of rolling on my baby and how bad it was, and really put the fear of God in me... I was so afraid of sleeping with her.

Early on in pregnancy my husband and I discussed co-sleeping with George, I personally didnt feel comfortable with the idea... And I to had heard that it is hard to get them to sleep in their own bed..That being said I was against it.

My husband on the other hand co-slept with his mom when he was very young, and he enjoys the closness he and his mom share and believes it may have to do with how much bonding they did when he was a baby. My husband is a smart man, and a very reasonable one at that. So after we discussed the pro's and cons of the whole thing, we have decided to partly co sleep.

I had him purchase a little co-sleeper thing that fits between us in the bed, we have a cal-king so there is plenty of room. He wanted the baby to sleep in his arms, I wouldnt allow it, I thought it wouldnt be safe, so another reason for the co-sleeper. I also made him agree that this would only be for the first few weeks then the baby would be transferred into his cradle and could be put on his side of the room but is not to bring baby to bed. He also agreed.

We have discussed this with both my OB and the babies primary care doctors, both agree on the plan and say as long as the baby is snug and secure that it would be okay. The babies doctor also co sleeps with her son, has since day 1 and he just turned 5. She is Indian and that is the way they do it in their culture.

I understand the possible risks, and Im not too sure that the co-sleeping thing will last all that long because to be honest with you, my husband loves our snuggle time.. And with a baby between us, that will be hard. LOL

That being said it shouldnt become a "hot topic" this is again about personal choice and making the right decision for you your lifestyle and your beliefs.. I think everyone haspresented their side so far in a pretty respectful matter. Great Job!=

Early on in pregnancy my husband and I discussed co-sleeping with George, I personally didnt feel comfortable with the idea... And I to had heard that it is hard to get them to sleep in their own bed..That being said I was against it.

My husband on the other hand co-slept with his mom when he was very young, and he enjoys the closness he and his mom share and believes it may have to do with how much bonding they did when he was a baby. My husband is a smart man, and a very reasonable one at that. So after we discussed the pro's and cons of the whole thing, we have decided to partly co sleep.

I had him purchase a little co-sleeper thing that fits between us in the bed, we have a cal-king so there is plenty of room. He wanted the baby to sleep in his arms, I wouldnt allow it, I thought it wouldnt be safe, so another reason for the co-sleeper. I also made him agree that this would only be for the first few weeks then the baby would be transferred into his cradle and could be put on his side of the room but is not to bring baby to bed. He also agreed.

We have discussed this with both my OB and the babies primary care doctors, both agree on the plan and say as long as the baby is snug and secure that it would be okay. The babies doctor also co sleeps with her son, has since day 1 and he just turned 5. She is Indian and that is the way they do it in their culture.

I understand the possible risks, and Im not too sure that the co-sleeping thing will last all that long because to be honest with you, my husband loves our snuggle time.. And with a baby between us, that will be hard. LOL

That being said it shouldnt become a "hot topic" this is again about personal choice and making the right decision for you your lifestyle and your beliefs.. I think everyone haspresented their side so far in a pretty respectful matter. Great Job!=

My husband and I have an Eastern King size bed and don't have enough room for the two of us. We have a bassinet. Even if we had room to cosleep, the reason I chose not to do it is because my friends who coslept still have their children in ther beds. My cublicle mate's 6 year old is in first grade and still won't sleep in his own bed. I'm all about personal time with my hubby when it happens. (Natural methods? ;) Having a baby in my bed is definitely not conducive to whoopie. I think it's beautiful if done carefully, but can totally kill the sex life. I like mine too much!

My husband and I have an Eastern King size bed and don't have enough room for the two of us. We have a bassinet. Even if we had room to cosleep, the reason I chose not to do it is because my friends who coslept still have their children in ther beds. My cublicle mate's 6 year old is in first grade and still won't sleep in his own bed. I'm all about personal time with my hubby when it happens. (Natural methods? ;) Having a baby in my bed is definitely not conducive to whoopie. I think it's beautiful if done carefully, but can totally kill the sex life. I like mine too much!

(Roughly tralnslated as"Many ask: When will I rise again, to lay waste to all the pitiful creatures of Earth? I had been thinking about next Tuesday, but I'm booked on Oprahthat day." )

From:
dueapril2007

To: BabyBoyBlessing2

Posted: Dec-21 07:37 PM (18 of 35)

My friend went through the same thing with her daughter 2 years ago....she was breastfeeding in bed and fell asleep and her baby girl passed away...she was 3 weeks old i think...of course they ruled it as SIDS...

I have a really big bassinette beside our bed for our babies (Arielle had it and now Annabelle will use it)

but i also have this for when we wanna snuggle a bit in bed with the baby...

it was really nice to have and it's to prevent parents from rolling onto their parents...we LOVE it...

My friend went through the same thing with her daughter 2 years ago....she was breastfeeding in bed and fell asleep and her baby girl passed away...she was 3 weeks old i think...of course they ruled it as SIDS...

I have a really big bassinette beside our bed for our babies (Arielle had it and now Annabelle will use it)

but i also have this for when we wanna snuggle a bit in bed with the baby...

this is our first baby and i bought the same co sleeper thing you have the link to. the more i think about it though, the more im like..hmmm....my husband is SUCH a snorer, sometimes I sleep with ear plugs its THAT bad. lol . i wonder how that would work, if it would keep isabella up or wake her

this is our first baby and i bought the same co sleeper thing you have the link to. the more i think about it though, the more im like..hmmm....my husband is SUCH a snorer, sometimes I sleep with ear plugs its THAT bad. lol . i wonder how that would work, if it would keep isabella up or wake her

Accidents happen in cribs too. Some parents decide to co-sleep with baby to get more zzz's so they don't have to get up out of bed to help a crying baby. That is scary that a parent could roll over on to baby.

I think a safer method is getting a co-sleeper crib/bed of some sort. There are also some small co-sleeper carriers that can be placed in the bed with easy access for nursing.

Co-sleeping is common in many countries around the world, especially in 3rd world countries. But they also sleep on mats so they have more room to spread out thus less chance of rolling on top of baby. Cribs in general are a westernized invention.

Accidents happen in cribs too. Some parents decide to co-sleep with baby to get more zzz's so they don't have to get up out of bed to help a crying baby. That is scary that a parent could roll over on to baby.

I think a safer method is getting a co-sleeper crib/bed of some sort. There are also some small co-sleeper carriers that can be placed in the bed with easy access for nursing.

Co-sleeping is common in many countries around the world, especially in 3rd world countries. But they also sleep on mats so they have more room to spread out thus less chance of rolling on top of baby. Cribs in general are a westernized invention.

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