Lingerie Selfie: How to Perfect the Art of Foreplay from Afar

Foreplay is essential. There’s no way around that. If you want to turn up your foreplay game, take a lingerie selfie. Here’s how to do that perfectly.

Trying new things and making sure your partner remains interested in you is just a part of any relationship. You have to make an effort to keep your sex life fun and fresh. One way to do that is by sending your partner a lingerie selfie.

Start your foreplay early in the day. Maybe you stayed home from work or was off early and they’re still sitting in their office, bored. If you’re thinking about them, taking a lingerie selfie and sending it over can get their anticipation up high. And we all know how much anticipation can increase the pleasure of your sex life.

Why you need to keep things new and interesting

There are people out there who don’t think you should have to make an effort. They say it should just happen and if it doesn’t, then you’re not meant to be. Those people probably won’t find themselves in too many long-term relationships.

Because relationships are work. After the initial honeymoon phase, you just don’t have the same drive to have sex as you did before. But you still need to make sure your significant other knows how attracted to them you are. So you have to make an effort and try new things that’ll bring the two of you closer together. [Read: 30 sexy ways to spice up your sex life]

How to take a lingerie selfie and start the foreplay early

One awesome way to add something fresh and exciting to your relationship is to take a few sexy lingerie selfies and send them your lover’s way. But it’s not as simple as that.

#1 Get some cute lingerie. This is a no-brainer if you’re trying to send a lingerie selfie. You have to get a few pieces that look really great on you and flatter your body type. I suggest actually going to a store to try a few on just to see what looks best.

You never know how something is going to fit if you get it online. A few colors that make great choices are red, black, and even grays or whites. Get some with lace and then another that’s silkier. Having a variety only helps! [Read: How to pick the perfect lingerie to make you look great]

#2 Find a place with great lighting. Lighting is everything with any kind of selfie but is especially important for this type. Find an area of your home that has a lot of natural light. It’s the best for taking pictures and can help you snap the best photo to send your lover.

#3 Find the best angles. You have some angles that make you look like a Victoria’s Secret model and other that aren’t as flattering. It’s your job to figure out which make you look the best.

I suggest getting in front of a mirror and turning and twisting your body until you find the right angle that makes you look the best. Then you just have to replicate it and take that picture! [Read: How to take a perfect vag selfie on the first try]

#4 Take a lot of them. Seriously! Take a bunch of lingerie selfies if you want to get the best shot. This way you’ll not only get more experienced taking these sexy pictures, you’ll also have a ton to choose from when the time comes.

This also helps you when you randomly want to send your partner a naughty picture but you don’t actually want to go put the lingerie on. All you’ll have to do is pull up an old picture and click the send button.

#5 Take them in different places. This is more for your partner than for you. The whole idea behind taking these sexy pictures is to get their mind imagining you two together intimately. If you really want to make that effect even better, take pictures in different parts of your home in all the places you want to get busy with them.

#6 Set a self-timer. Sometimes taking the picture yourself can be pretty hard. What if you want to show off your entire body in the ensemble? Setting a self-timer on your phone will allow you to stand and pose away from your phone so you can get a better, sexier shot. [Read: Sexy and sweet snapchat ideas to improve your relationship]

#7 Choose the best picture to send. After you have a good sample of pictures to choose from, pick the best one. But don’t just pick the one you like best. Try to choose a picture that you know your partner would like.

For example, if you like a picture that’s centered around your breasts but you know your significant other would like the one that’s focused on your butt, choose the latter option.

#8 Send it in a quick text or even a snapchat. Now’s the time to send it! If you’re not comfortable with sending the picture in a text, you can send it in a snapchat. This way it disappears after a certain amount of time and you’ll also be notified if your partner takes a screen shot of it. [Read: How to be careful when sending dirty snapchats]

#9 Make sure they’re not busy at work. You have to make sure you’re sending the lingerie selfie at the right time. If you know your partner has a busy day at work, wait until his lunch hour or when you know he has a break.

This will ensure that he has time to digest the picture you’re sending to him. Otherwise, he may only get a quick look and won’t be able to reply.

#10 Send a sexy text with it. Don’t just send the picture alone; send a naughty message with it! This is a perfect opportunity to take the foreplay to the next step. Get your partner’s anticipation soaring by telling them how much you wish they were there with you. [Read: 40 naughty, playful texts to keep things hot and horny]

#11 Gauge theirinterest. Did they seem happy with the picture? Were they super excited and telling you how amazing you look? Or did they reply with something short and weren’t that into it?

Sometimes people aren’t that excited about getting a picture and seeing you in lingerie when they’re not there to touch you. Figure out if your partner loved it or not and then continue sending them if they do!

#12 Have fun with it! There’s no reason to stress right now. You’re flirting with your lover. It’s supposed to be fun and lighthearted. Don’t take yourself too seriously. If your partner can tell you’re having fun, they’ll enjoy it no matter what.