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Should we have a co-ed baby shower?

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My wife's best friend wants to throw a co-ed baby shower for us. I've never been to a baby shower and don't know what to expect. I'm also nervous about how our male friends will react. Should I nix the whole idea, or go along with it and see what happens?

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Co-ed showers are awesome! A friend of ours had one last year for their adorable son! There were so many people who showed up! All of her hubby's friends and her friends. Probably about 50 people. There were games for the ladies, for the men, and for couples. It was a pool party/ BBQ and was the coolest babyshower my husband and I have ever been to. Now, he is soo excited about our baby shower-which is a good thing because I'm exhausted! Ours will be co-ed too. We are fortunate to be friends with great mothers and fathers who love to celebrate pregnancy, and life together.
PS-We also had a Jack and Jill wedding shower! Old Fashion from Florida-aren't female strippers "traditional" right before a wedding? Glad my hubby is a "modern" man!!

Two of my sister inlaws are throwing my husband & I a coed shower. I got the impression my brothers in law (my husbands brothers)didn't want to be left out, after all their excited too. They are having a BBQ rather than a more traditional party. Talk to your wife or her friend (if you know her well) and just make sure it's going to be a party you and your male friends will feel comforatable attending. Your wife may be doing the physical part of pregnancy but you are both becoming parrents & deserve to be celebrated.

It is all a matter of choice. It is becoming more common these days for the father to be present, however, I feel that most men still believe that it's a "WOMAN THING" and let's face it, women have more fun than men at this type of event. My husband didn't come to my all woman shower, he came at the near end to greet our friends, eat a plate of food, and help carry the mound of gifts to the truck. It is all in choice of what you think will be fun. Remember, it's YOUR baby and your special day. Those happy for you and want to share in your happiness will be in attendance---and bring you a great gift. No reason why Daddy can't come----he's a parent too, and nowadays, Dads are helping more with their new babies than EVER. Hope your shower is fun!

I can see it both ways. I recently went to a shower with my husband for a couple we are very close to. Instead of a typical shower it was more of a family, friends and more gathering. We still did a couple goofy games to get everyone laughing - but overall it was just a time for all of us girls to oooh and awww over our friend and for the guys to hang around the dad to be and give him a hard time! I think what I liked the most is that this couple that is preparing together for this new life could celebrate it together with their friends and family! That said, I will promise you that the moment my husband found out we were expecting, the first thing out of his mouth was "when do I get to have my poker diaper party!?" So regardless of how we choose to do the shower - he still fully expects to have a guy night filled with poker, and celebrating the little one! : )

I'm having a co-ed shower and I think is the best thing because the dad is part of the pregnancy even though he is not carrying the baby, He helped create the baby and having the dad involve in every aspect of the pregnancy is the best. I never liked the girls only baby shower, never thought that was fair.

It sounds like so much fun.. I've never been to a co-ed shower, but it would be a kick in the pants to watch men racing to change the diaper on a doll for a prize...even if the prize is beer or something "manly". I wonder how many men are 'manly"enough to get involved!!

For my baby shower not only did my husband come, my dad and my father in-law came. It was so wonderful to be able to spend this special time with everyone I cared about. My husband said it was actually fun. And my dad really appreciated being part of this special occasion. For our second baby I plan on having them come again.

I think Co-ed showers are great! I am doing one for mine although most of my husbands family thought it was pretty silly. However I feel that some men get the wrong impressions of what a baby shower is (Honestly guys we dont sit around knitting sweaters and talking about vaginas) But we are doing a lot of little games to get the guys involved like having them wear balloons in their shirts all party and see if they can do things that we pregnant woman can :) Its going to be a lot of fun! Good luck with yours!

I am 8 1/2 months pregnant with my first child. My best friend is throwing the baby shower this weekend, and it will be a co-ed party with my boyfriend. It's our first child, and I've made him very active in the pregnancy since the minute I found out i was pregnant. I wanted him to feel very involved with everything, because its not just my life thats changing its his too and ultimately ours together. I am really excited to have his guy friends there as i am friends with all of the girlfriends. i think it'll be a great celebration with the people who i would want there the most.

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