Karen and Janet, thank you for your replies. I can see I'm not alone in this. I'm actually in counseling right now to see if there is some way I can learn to cope with all of this. I now believe that people that are thinking of undergoing any type of weight loss surgery should be thoroughly screened by a psychiatrist. It's become such a popular surgery,

My husband does not see the underlying issue with all of this. It's just a really difficult situation overall. I'll bet there are so many marriages that end over this.