When you learn how to wield a power like the law of attraction, you realize that you are in control. You get to set the tone of your own reality.

Or at least, that's ideally what would happen. Unfortunately, all too many people I meet with still have this mentality of life happening to them. Life becomes out of control, totally opposed to what they want life to look like.

It's a tricky thing. To those new to these principles, life can certainly seem unpredictable and out of our control. And indeed, I've said many times that as long as the ego is the one trying to control life, it won't work.

But once you're able to step into your true Self, and live from that perspective, then you start to see that life begins and ends with you. You are the creator and the experiencer of life.

There is an extremely prevalent misconception in the law of attraction community, and it is this: that positive thinking is the way to manifest your desires.

We hear messages like, “What you focus on, expands,” and “If you give attention to your problems, they will only get bigger.”

Just like any misconception, these are partially true.

It is indeed true that what you focus on, expands. And it's also true, in a certain sense, that when you give attention to problems, they get bigger.

But we have to define these terms ”focus on”, and “give attention to”, because, these words do not mean what you think they mean.

Why is this so important? Simply, because it can mean the difference between effortlessly creating your own reality, and remaining stuck in a growing web of resistance.You know what it is you want. You create some inspiring affirmations to get you into the vibrational state of that desire, and you spend time every day visualizing having that desire already.

But, you begin to notice in time that, very little is happening, if anything at all.

Or sometimes, it seems to actually be getting worse.

If you are honest with yourself, you realize that you are spinning your wheels, getting nowhere fast.

You might redouble your efforts, or you might give up altogether, thinking there is no truth to the law of attraction.

Does this at all sound familiar?

What has gone wrong? You focused on what you wanted, visualized having it already, and strove to think only positive thoughts about it. According to everything you've read, the law of attraction should have brought it to you by now.

There is an extremely prevalent misconception in the law of attraction community, and it is this: that positive thinking is the way to manifest your desires.

We hear messages like, “What you focus on, expands,” and “If you give attention to your problems, they will only get bigger.”

Just like any misconception, these are half-truths.

It is indeed true that what you focus on, expands. And it's also true, in a certain sense, that when you give attention to problems, they get bigger.

But we have to define these terms ”focus on”, and “give attention to”, because, these words do not mean what you think they mean.

Why is this so important? Simply, because it can mean the difference between effortlessly creating your own reality, and remaining stuck in a growing web of resistance.

So, if you want to discover why you haven't had the success you expected to have, read on.