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Children with handicaps of any sort have special requirements. In addition, parents may need support, education, and counseling. If verbal and mental abuse are present, these are real concerns also, because these types of abuse last just as long as physical abuse.

Dr. Luv The Relationship Coach Letter Verbal Abuse

Dear Dr. Luv,

We found your website covering the dynamics of abuse but we’re not sure how we are supposed to access your counseling beyond use of the e-mail address given there.

In any case, here is our problem: Our grandson was born with a brain tumor which, though successfully removed, has left him severely delayed.

Our daughter was devastated by this event in her life and has fiercely defended him against all outside criticism, but in the past year, voicing the feeling that his birth "ruined my life," she has become extremely verbally abusive toward him, screaming at and cursing at every infraction.

All attempts on our part to intervene are met first, with denial that any problem exists and finally, with the accusation, primarily on the part of her husband, that we are "interfering" in their parenting.

We love our daughter very much and always have been very close to her but this is putting a terrible strain on our relationship.

How can we get her to realize the terrible pain her verbal abuse is causing our grandson and all of us?

Please let us know by e-mail if we should seek an answer to this dilemma on your website or through e-mail counseling here.

We would be most grateful.

Many thanks.

Grandparents

This column is for educational and entertainment purposes. The advice given is merely my thoughts. Professional advice should be sought before any decisions are made. Email your letters to: luv@cyberparent.com