Is Attraction the Same Regardless of Culture?

I’m often asked if the techniques that we teach about attracting women are universal. In other words, do all women, no matter their race, culture, nationality, upbringing or where they live all want the same basic traits in a man? The answer is “Yes!”

Culture is a superficial reaction to life that changes over time. Attraction is a deep, primal reaction that has remained the same for humans, regardless of culture.

Of course, no two women are alike and while some women might have certain cultural preferences or a comfort level with some men who have a similar background to theirs, in the end, attraction usually overrides any other considerations.

Some women even may say they have certain physical preferences (muscular/slim, tall/short, brunette/blonde, etc.) that they look for, but the fact is that the men that they often date and develop relationships with men who rarely look like the type of man they had pictured in their mind.

The same goes for men; while they might dream of being with a blonde, most will just as happily fall for a pretty brunette.

This is why you see “unattractive” men with beautiful women. Often, to their own surprise, you’ll hear one woman tell one another, “He’s not at all like the type of guy I’m usually attracted to, but I really like him!”

Confidence is Key, No Matter Where You Come From
Above all else, women look for a man who is confident in who he is, which can be seen by how he carries himself (shoulders up, head held high), how self-assured he is and if actually knows what he wants out of life for himself and for those he loves.

Regardless of culture, women are attracted to men who can speak to them clearly and easily (no mumbling, speaking too softly or shyly) and who are not afraid to say something interesting, funny and/or cheeky whenever the hell they feel like it.

Once a relationship has formed, a woman wants to know that her man has a plan for his (and possibly their) life and that he’s willing to go out and do what’s necessary to achieve these goals. She also wants to see that he has the belief in himself that he capable of achieving whatever he sets out to accomplish.

True Masculinity
Despite popular opinion (usually by men), true masculinity has little to do with how a man is physically built. Masculine men come in all sizes and shapes. It’s the inner masculinity that men display that attracts women.

A woman wants to know that her man can take care of himself (and possibly her) in virtually any situation. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he’ll start beating up any bullies that come his (or her) way.

Sometimes the most masculine and mature way to handle difficult situations is to avoid turning them into confrontations or talk in an assertive but calm way with the men who are posing a threat. In the modern world, unless you need to fight to protect your life or hers, it is not a sign of weakness to avoid a fight with a random stranger who just being an idiot.

Rather it’s a sign of wisdom and maturity and women actually feel safer around you because they know you don’t lose your control easily.

Every woman also wants to know that while her man will treat her as his equal, when it’s most important, he will take on the leadership role in their relationship and will use all of his available resources to make the best decision for them both.

Great Humor
Humor is an essential ingredient in almost every great, lasting relationship. The proper use of humor is a fantastic tool not only to meet women, but to attract them as sexual partners and to then keep them happy in a relationship.

If you can make a woman laugh by using your cheeky, easy-going charm, you will rise head and shoulders above any other male out there. Laughter is a universal language and will appeal to every woman you will ever meet regardless of her culture.

While silly, slapstick humor is occasionally fine to use around a woman, more often than not, what most women really appreciate is a man who is witty, a bit cheeky (without being offensive) and who can find the humor in the most basic daily occurrences.

Honesty, Trust and Loyalty
Honesty, trust and loyalty go hand-in-hand as traits highly prized by women in the men in their lives. It goes without saying that once you’re in a committed relationship, a woman expects you to be loyal and that you won’t go out with, obviously flirt with or otherwise have inappropriate relationships (in person, on the phone, or online) with other women.

Most women resent when men keep too many things from them, whether it’s to ‘protect her’ or because a man’s done something in his personal or business life that he doesn’t want his woman to know about.

Most women will forgive a man who has made a mistake, used poor judgment or behaved badly if he’s honest and upfront with her about it, but if he keeps it from her and she subsequently finds out, regaining her trust will be difficult if not impossible.

The New ‘Open World‘
In the modern world, we are able to travel and stay in most countries. As such, more and more interracial relationships are occurring. Regardless of your background or the woman’s, she will be looking for the same traits in you that she looks for in any man.

If you have those traits, she will feel attracted to you and want to be with you. It is as simple as that.

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8 Comments

Daniel K. Stuntz

I have recently purchased a few ModernMan products and am eager to to develop dating skills. I’m not sure if I picked the right place to post this, but I’m in a unique situation that I would like to share.

I am now living and working abroad, in Hungary. Of course, I have an extra challenge with the women here — most of them don’t know much English, and I’m not yet fluent in Hungarian. I’m wondering if this is a curse — or a blessing.

Part of me thinks that the language barrier could make it harder to connect with women, as it would significantly limit my conversational abilities.

Another part of me, however, feels that the language issue might be help things by serving as an explanation for not being an experienced conversationalist. Hungarians know that most Americans don’t know their language well. Back in the USA, people may have often sensed an awkwardness in me when I tried to start or maintain a conversation. Here in Hungary, when people find out that I’m an American, they seem to be quite impressed that I know some Hungarian, even though I have a ways to go before I’m fluent.

Of course, I know that non-verbal communication plays a big role, too, and I think that I’m making progress with that, too. Still, in addition to studying “The Flow” and “Mastery Mindsets”, I’m eager to continue learning more Hungarian.

I’d like your opinion about how language differences can affect dating opportunities. Thanks.

Dan Bacon

Hey Daniel

Thanks for your question.

I’ve lived in a few foreign countries and have never had a problem getting sex or a girlfriend, because it mostly comes down to flirting with your body language and vibe, knowing a bit of the language and then moving things forward. However, if the women don’t speak any English at all, you do need to learn SOME of the language to get a basic conversation going. Otherwise, most of the women you approach (in countries where English is not widely spoken) will literally shrug their shoulders and give up on the interaction.

When there is a language barrier, I have overcome it (in Hungary and Spain) by getting physical and getting sexual as quickly as possible. It isn’t the normal Modern Man approach of being social, having a chat and moving things forward. However, since you can’t hang out and chat, you need to move things forward quickly to avoid the interaction dying within the first 30 seconds. I move things forward quickly by touching her (examples in The Flow and Dating Power) while being fairly forward/direct with my sexual vibe. I’ve found this to be the only way to break through when you both can’t understand each other.

Essentially, you need to stick to the basic steps of The Flow, but don’t worry so much about trying to get to know the women initially (referred to ‘develop a connection’ in The Flow) – just move it forward to touch, kissing and sex. You’ll get to know her well after you’ve connected with sex because she’ll have more motivation to continue seeing you.

Cheers
Dan

Dan Bacon

Hey Sean

Thanks for your question.

Since hardly any women speak English there, try to find Chinese women who want to learn more English and are looking to teach foreigners Chinese in exchange for you teaching them some English. There should be plenty of that available.
Also, check to see if there is an expat community in your little city and meet up with them.

Cheers
Dan

Robert

Hey Dan,

I’ve got a question… Not sure if you’ve addressed the topic yet, but here goes: I’d like to hear your opinion on ‘cock-blocking,’ ie male dynamics and how to deal with that whole aspect of dating and relationships. What to do with intrusive males, how to avoid jealousy, and any other interesting insights you have on the topic.

Cheers
Rob

Dan Bacon

Hi Robert

Thanks for your question.

Yes, I’m currently working on a product about that at the moment and it will be released in a few months. In the meantime, some quick advice: Jealous thoughts, questioning or accusations never produce positive results. They only cause you to feel needy and her to begin to hide things from you. So, simply avoid them altogether.

It is best to accept what is and understand that you will never fully own any woman. Just enjoy the relationship and it will go where it goes. Love her fully, but know that it could end and that is okay. She will pick up on that vibe and it will keep the relationship more balanced.

In terms of approaching and picking up women and being worried about other men: Never see any other guy as your competition.

Cheers
Dan

Robert

Wow Dan,

That was very helpful.

Thank you and keep doing what you do!

Jane

Hi Dan,
I want to know whether it’s possible to send you an email regarding a problem I’m having, and get some advice from you through an email. For one thing it is going to be a bit long, and also I don’t want it appearing anywhere. I just need some advice from you in a personal manner. Pls let me know an email address if it is possible.
Thanx.

Dan Bacon

Hi Jane

Thanks for your question.

Sorry Jane, I don’t have time for personal e-mails. I respond to dating advice requests on the site after about 2-3 weeks and respond to customer questions about my products within 24 hours. If I opened myself up to personal e-mails, I’d have 100s of people e-mailing me everyday (we have over 60,000 people on our newsletter list so it would likely be 1,000s). Just imagine trying to deal with that AND have a life.