Husband Wife Relation: What Should Be The Reaction In Case Of Extra-Marital Affairs?

loyality with husband

Members, i have read a post here and question comes up...if a husband knows that his wife has illegal sexual relation with her boyfrd...what should be his reaction...and if wife ask for forgiveness..what should he do...also why in our society these type of things happen?? This question may give a guidelines to both husband and wifes to avoid these situations...thanks

re:loyality with husband

dear brother it is happeing in our society but wife dont have illegal sexual relation with others much like husbands has too much also the main factor for wifes to have illegal sexual relation is i think lack of sex education as husband cant satisfy them and they try to find another who can satisfy them

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if she is really ashamed off that act and u think that she will be a pious onwards then forgiving is better. Also u can forgive her for the sake of children, if u think that they will be spoiled after divorce.

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Good Topic

I really liked the Bewaqoofs dialog......(he is creative I dont know why he calls himself bewaqoof)

It is very hard for husband to forgive, even if he forgives he still will be burning in that fire all the time.

Now look at another sonerio, In Islam we need four witness to prove such sin.you know it is hard to get four witness....so there is a really big reason behind it. Islam does not want some one to be guilty and be punished infact it says if you do something wrong than just hide it , and go for Toba Istagfar and tell any body at all otherwise those people will be witness on judgement day and you may get punishment on that day.

So the life partners should not discuss or ask each other about these things.If a husband think that his wife is guilty than he should ask himself if he has four witnesses if the answer is NO than be Glad and say loudly that my wife is not guilty and give her all due repect and love without any doubt.

there is a lot more to write here but I dont have enough time.I hope you got my point.

Hide it please

In my personal experience a girl should never tell her husband about her previous relationships at all, full stop here.

In real life you will hardly find a person who is a real Man(Mard).I will call a man real man only if he can sacrifice his wishes, he can control his lust,emotions,anger and he really take care of other people and has a soft heart.

Now look at the realty, we men are mostly ordinary men, we can not tolerate wife's mistakes and rather we are proud on our mistakes and tell other people that what I was doing when I was in stupoid teenage and even later on.and our women are really great they listen, tolerate and forgive their men.

There is no way some one can prove virginity.Even with todays latest technology no one can prove it with 100% guarantee.

So you see even God and nature is in favour to hide these things and dont tell any body.these are between you and your God, and Allah is the most merciful who will forgive and no one will ever know in the judgement day .