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A New Blog Locationhttps://estatelady.wordpress.com/2017/04/07/a-new-blog-location/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2017/04/07/a-new-blog-location/#respondFri, 07 Apr 2017 20:29:22 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=2106As you may have noticed there hasn’t been a new post in a while. The reason for this is The Estate Lady blog has relocated to a new site.

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at julie@theestatelady.com.

]]>https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2017/04/07/a-new-blog-location/feed/0The Estate LadyWhat’s in Your Plan?https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/10/05/whats-in-your-plan/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/10/05/whats-in-your-plan/#respondWed, 05 Oct 2016 14:08:02 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=2098We all know we need to plan ahead for a time when we won’t be able to speak for ourselves. A crisis can occur at any time, regardless of age or current health. Sadly, it can happen in the blink of an eye. In my career of handling estates, I have seen young clients pass away suddenly, as well as crisis situations occur with our elderly loved ones who fall, have a stroke, or can no longer care for themselves. So much can happen; if we are honest, we simply choose not to seriously think about these issues until they are upon us. Sometimes, that is too late.

Have you thought ahead to make a plan for your cherished possessions, or at least gift them prior to passing away? I encourage everyone to make a plan and put it in a legal document. Write an addendum to your Will, or place certain items in a Trust if they are special to you. An estate planning attorney can help you put these documents together fairly quickly. Put these documents in a safe place, discussing the contents with the executor. The attorney will keep a copy. Let a close, trusted friend know what you are doing and where the originals are kept.

Things to think about:

Plan for special possessions. It is not realistic to think our kids will want all of our possessions. First, find out what they would like to have, then have those items appraised for fair market value. Create a “wish list” and keep it equitable; leave guidance on who gets what. It’s all spelled out in my book, “The Boomer Burden”, available at online booksellers.

Plan for your animals should you pre-decease them. We adore our furry and feathered family but rarely do we make a plan for them. This leaves them in limbo. It’s not fair to them or the loved ones left behind to make painful decisions.

Consider gifting while living. This minimizes future feuding and cuts down on challenging issues when the children/heirs have to divide the estate. Seeing the joy on the recipient’s face is an added bonus!

Make sure someone knows the location of all private files, passwords, keys, titles, deeds, safe deposit boxes, safe combination. This information should be entrusted to your executor (someone you trust implicitly). Note: Multiple executors can often mean more complications and differences of opinions!

I have clients right now who put together a “master binder” of all the things we are discussing here, including written directions on where private documents can be found, such as social security card, Medicare information, life insurance policy, original Will/Trust, etc. They prepaid their own funerals. They asked me to write current appraisals for their furnishings, collectibles, and jewelry, and have made copies for each child. They were even nice enough to direct their children to me when they pass away, to handle the contents of their home, since all their heirs are long distance. Quite literally, they left a “Guidance System” for their children. How wonderful!

Think ahead to special possessions you have received and collected over your life. While no one can make plans for everything in their home, make plans for these valuable items now so no one can feud over them later. When the decision is made ahead of time, you’ve simplified the life of your executor.

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at julie@theestatelady.com.

]]>https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/10/05/whats-in-your-plan/feed/0The Estate LadyWhen your time comes to an end. A scroll of a Last Will & Testament, tied with a black ribbon on a mahogany desk, with pocket watch set to midnight: the end of time.Time of the Heavy Hearthttps://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/09/01/time-of-the-heavy-heart/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/09/01/time-of-the-heavy-heart/#commentsThu, 01 Sep 2016 14:35:18 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=2065How Can We Change That?

Lately, I am sensing a heaviness of spirit in almost everyone I speak with, from good friends to colleagues to clients. We carry this heaviness due to the times we live in; 24-hour news and social media and seeing the worst of the worst around the globe. I personally feel a heaviness in how we see people treating one another. The dark appears to be overtaking the light every time we turn on the computer or TV. While they say the economy is stronger, in my world I see a much softer market and weaker economy.

I also see my clients outliving their money; tough decisions need to be made by their Boomer children. I have heard stories from colleagues that buyers and clients have turned threatening if they don’t get their own way. These threats are from middle-aged people who know better and have lost their way in the graceful art of problem solving.

Geopolitical issues are a whole other topic which requires nerves of steel to discuss. Wherever we look, there is stress. But lately, I have come to look at all of this in a different way.

After noticing I have a tendency to worry, my father once asked me if I am personally capable of controlling issues like mentioned above. No, I cannot make the economy strong again and I cannot make people treat each other with respect. I can’t even provide the financial means for everyone who needs it.

However, I can control how I respond to these troubles.

I can find my own unique and personal ways of contributing more good and more light.

By contributing, I mean solving the problem, finding peaceful resolutions, finding compromise in a world of “gimmee,” being reasonable, and at the same time trying to help others who need it.

When on earth did everyone become so entitled? Haven’t you noticed we are all starting to slump over, as if the weight of the world is on our backs?

We have a choice. Not one of us has been eliminated from carrying some kind of burden: health, finances, children, work, etc. I have a theory that this world is a classroom and we are the students; we should learn a lesson and then go teach others. Problems and burdens will always come and so will the bills.

Keep lists of what needs to be done and cross them off one at a time.

Feel good about what was accomplished.

Help others accomplish what they need help with.

Do something fun and show your grin as often as possible. Someone is always watching and may need that smile.

Learn to find “you” again.

Lastly, just be kind because the world already has too many thugs.

In a world so full of dark, don’t you think it would be wise to turn on our inner light? That’s my take on it!

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at julie@theestatelady.com.

]]>https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/09/01/time-of-the-heavy-heart/feed/8The Estate LadyDangers of Choosing a Company Based on Their Low Commissionhttps://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/08/01/dangers-of-choosing-a-company-based-on-their-low-commission/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/08/01/dangers-of-choosing-a-company-based-on-their-low-commission/#commentsMon, 01 Aug 2016 14:24:12 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=2019Everyone loves to save money, but cutting corners on some services is just not advisable. One such service is when you hire a professional estate liquidator due to the relocation of a parent, downsizing, or the loss of a loved one.

The emphasis here is on the word professional. The estate sale professional is one who has dedicated much time, care, concern, diligence, devotion, education, research, plus so much more to attain the skills required to conduct a successful estate sale for their clients. This professional works countless hours and endures many sleepless nights for their clients, constantly learning and navigating an ever-changing industry and dealing with an increasingly difficult public of buyers.

Conducting an estate sale is not just about organizing and displaying, nor as easy as it appears. Genuine professionals do it well and make it look easy, even though it is really very hard. They truly earn their commission because of all they know how to do, including how to maximize sale proceeds.

Saving those few dollars selecting the wrong company could end up costing you!

Consumers Beware

This industry is inundated with pop-up or fly-by-night companies that appear out of nowhere. While there are exceptions to every rule, we see the following often:

Many of them have little to no industry training, skills, or understanding of the scope of the work that lies ahead of them.

They often know little about today’s market and what items will sell for.

They often sell at very low prices and then depart.

Some don’t even price items or research the value of higher-end pieces.

Sometimes they leave a mess behind for the client to pick up and handle.

The sale proceeds are often quite low, because they didn’t make the effort to make the sale as successful as possible.

They may not pay the client in a pre-determined time frame or offer an accounting of what was sold.

To get the contract signed, they undercut with a low commission, claiming they will do the same things as their professional competitors, but will they?

PLEASE do not hire a company based on commission alone. Find out what the commission includes, research the company, and make your decision based on sound information and facts.

If the commission is very low, one must ask how they can afford the proper resources: enough staff to organize/display/watch the crowd effectively, security to minimize theft, advertising, appropriate prices, proper signage, social media, and more.

Lower commission can also bring lower effort. Unless it is a very simple estate sale, what normally suffers is quality:

Quality of care

Quality of service

Quality in research

Quality in diligent preparation

These qualities are attributes of a professional, not a bargain-basement business.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE HIRING! The time it takes to find those true professionals is time well spent.

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at julie@theestatelady.com.

I first published this article on The American Society of Estate Liquidators® (ASEL) website in October 2014. I thought you’d appreciate the information as you select a professional estate liquidator to help you downsize or clean out a parent’s home. If you’ve already used an ASEL liquidator, I’d love to hear your comments on the many hats they wear.

Many people are under the impression that an estate liquidator is someone who puts on glorified yard sales. Nothing could be further from the truth! Professional estate liquidators wear many hats on any given day with a common goal for their client as well as for themselves:

to maximize sale proceeds,

lighten the burden of our client families,

treat each other with respect, and

help our clients move forward.

In the process of doing so, we must possess a great deal of knowledge to guide our clients along the way. We don’t just organize and set up for a sale. We:

clean items that haven’t seen the light of day in decades,

tirelessly research these items,

make calls to private buyers that we know will be interested in a particular item or collection,

figure out the best way to set up to maximize the sale,

price items appropriately,

coordinate sending high-end items to proper selling venues,

coordinate all crews,

manage our clients, and the list goes on.

Often the client is not aware of just how much back-breaking work and time is invested before the door ever opens for the estate sale. We take 50, 60, 70 years of accumulation and sort through it, research it, clean it, organize it and sell it within a week or so. That’s amazing in and of itself! It is up to us to educate our clients so they do understand that we truly earn our commission and do our very best for them.

Below you find just a sampling of what professional estate liquidators engage in every single day, early mornings to late evenings, and seven days a week.

We have bled, sweat, and cried our way through some estates, and dealt with poor working conditions too. There isn’t much we’re afraid of; we tackle the task at hand like a linebacker.

We wear this challenging badge with honor because we love what we do, no matter how much we get beat up in the process.

Detective – We sort through years of long forgotten items that have been crammed in boxes and cubbies. Often family cannot find important papers (titles, Will) or a sentimental item, but many times we find them. We know where to look, have a good idea of where things could be hidden, and we know what these items are, or how to find out. This is the fun part!

Archeologist – We dig and dig and dig. By the end of the day, we are covered in dirt. We unearth one layer at a time searching for old artifacts and treasures. We handle carefully and lovingly the items we uncover which have value or meaning. This is painstaking, but necessary.

Magician – While it appears to the client that we made it all disappear as if by magic, we know the levels of complexity it takes to empty the estate. “Can you do a sale this weekend?” There is no magic. Only hard work, the ability to professionally multi-task, knowing the right people, and selecting the right staff.

Bellhop – Who’s carrying the family baggage; the client, you, or both? Stay focused and advise as necessary. Our ears are bent with family lore (and who did what to whom)!

Firefighter – Estate professionals put out fires every day, whether it comes from prospective buyers or the sellers, or anything in between, including the emotions our clients go through.

Police/Law Enforcement – We keep peace and order in these estates, enforce our ethical policies, “law down the law” according to the rules for how each sale should be run. These are in place to ensure a pleasant estate sale day, encourage good behavior, and keep the flow moving.

Counselor/Clergy – We listen, validate, encourage, support, and hear confessions and stories. It is part of our job to offer support, including emotional support within reason.

Umpire – Calling “safe” and “out” for not only attendees and clients, but also monitoring our staff conduct and ourselves as well.

Train Conductor – We prevent derailment, get everyone on-board, and get the clients where they need to be.

Psychic – Can you predict human behavior based on all of your estate experience? Yes, you can. We’re very good at reading people and understanding motives.

Nurse/Doctor – Not only do we help heal many of our clients who are heavy laden and would have a very difficult time going through the process alone, we must remember the most important rule: First, do no harm. Clients come first. In the literal sense, we have all mastered first aid, as we bleed in nearly every estate!

Construction worker – We build this business from the ground up and create a very strong, honest/ethical foundation to weather the storms. If the foundation is not strong, we need to rebuild, remodel, tear down, or bring in a new addition.

Referee – Keeping the peace on all sides, at all times.

These are just a few of the many hats estate sale professionals wear on any given day, but there are many more that often go unnoticed; employer, exterminator, garbage man, dumpster gal, recycler, haul/drop-off person, organizer, companion, cleaning service, broker, miner, etc.

How much can one truly professional estate liquidator accomplish? It’s all in a day’s work!

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at julie@theestatelady.com.

Think about how much time is spent waiting to either go around or jump over obstacles and you’ll see it’s an astounding amount of time we can never regain.

In one aspect of life, I see obstacles where they should not be. In my estates, I work closely with boomer children to guide them in making solid decisions regarding their parents’ possessions:

what should be sold

how it should be sold

how to maximize the sale

options and resources

My work also places me in the nitty-gritty of “family affairs”, many situations that are not for the faint of heart. In the last few years, I am seeing siblings doing things against each other more than ever before, and I call it The Blockade.

A good example of The Blockade is when one sibling moves in with a parent, either to help with their needs or because the sibling is financially strapped and needs a place to live. Often, it is both. This sibling is usually helpful with the parent and keeps the home clean, helps cook, cares for mom, etc. The problem takes place after mom is placed in another residence like assisted living or passes away. Getting that sibling to move out of the family home can take an act of God. Literally.

I see these children (not all, but many of them) not want to budge and often force the hand of the executor. Sometimes they feel justified because they did so much work and offered care for the parent. I understand that. However the entitlement mentality does not belong here at this place and time, because mom’s will often stipulates the home is to be sold and possessions divided.

Rarely is this sibling the executor or legal decision maker. Since I work with the legal decision maker, I get a front row seat to this event. Sad to watch! The sibling living in the home will use it as a storage facility, settling in for the long run and making life very hard on the other siblings and especially the executor. Resentment grows; you can figure out the remainder of the story.

I have seen these refusing-to-budge siblings throw fits, threaten, etc. The bottom line is if the legal documents are prepared ahead of time and the instructions are clear that the home is to be sold and divided among the heirs, that is what must be carried out.

It is not okay to be The Blockade. I can see both sides and I understand the emotional ties to a home and possessions can be very strong. But nothing ever stays the same. Everything transitions to some other place. Life is ever-changing. Sometimes things cannot remain the same, even if we want them to.

This is about the parent’s wishes and fulfilling them for ALL involved!

I recently had the pleasure of working with an executor who had to deal with this situation. He did not want to hurt his sibling. He had already been incredibly patient. His situation was fairly simple as the will specified what had to be done. I encouraged him to:

Document correspondence to that sibling, including emails and certified letters, stressing mom’s will be followed.

Offer the sibling a fair amount of time to vacate and give a date when they will need to be moved out to a new home. (This sibling had been dragging their feet for a year now.) They might say they have no money and no place to live, but they have to put forth effort and do what is legally and morally right. If they are in ill-health, try to help them with local resources.

Enlist the advice of an attorney if you cannot resolve this issue on your own. No one wants to do this, but in some cases, you may have to meet one to find out the best course of action because of all the problems arising from The Blockade. Perhaps it can be resolved peacefully, which is optimal for everyone.

Hire a realtor.

Be present, or have a representative present, when they do move out. In this case, items were disappearing daily which is certainly not fair to the other siblings. Have the locks changed immediately after the sibling leaves.

Hire an estate sale professional immediately after they have moved out to sell the contents of the home. www.ASELonline.com

Everyone move forward with their lives. Try your best to keep the peace.

Life is hard enough without added obstacles. Do your best to never become one. If you know someone who is currently The Blockade, talk to them about how their actions are impacting others. The goal is to be part of the resolution, not part of the problem.

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at julie@theestatelady.com.

]]>https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/07/14/the-blockade/feed/4The Estate LadyThe Real Value of Our Antiques and Heirloomshttps://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/05/06/the-real-value-of-our-antiques-and-heirlooms/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/05/06/the-real-value-of-our-antiques-and-heirlooms/#commentsFri, 06 May 2016 14:20:16 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=1949We each have items in our homes that came from a loved one, passed down through the years. To us, these items are special, unique, and valuable. Sometimes, these items are even more special, unique, and valuable because of our feelings towards the loved one who gave it to us.

If you can, place those feelings to the side for a moment. We really need to have a fresh understanding about the market, the economy, and what our heirlooms are really worth. As an appraiser, I come to the table as an objective third party who has the ability to look at items through new, yet somewhat critical eyes, much like a detective.

I see flaws others may not.

I see condition issues others may not.

I see that someone drilled a hole through the bottom of a Ming Dynasty vase because they wanted it to be a lamp (ugh!).

I see that someone uses 21st century screws to reinforce an 18th century piece.

However, there is more to it than that; we must dig a little deeper to get to the crux of the matter.

The truth is that in today’s market, a c.1830s bird’s eye maple English chest will sell for far less than a “Made in China” piece you can buy at Rooms to Go or IKEA. I saw it with my own eyes at an auction recently. The gorgeous English chest sold for $100 and the black lacquer Oriental chest made 30 days ago sold for $350.

WHY?

Gone are the days of truly caring about quality.

Gone are the days of the younger generations wanting traditional furnishings.

In are the days of how the item looks and functions. Maybe not for all of us. This trend is picking up speed and we see more of it as each day passes. Size and space also enter into the equation, since we are in the middle of a major simplification trend. Both our homes and our furnishings are getting smaller.

I address the older generations when I say this and I hope it will be realized:

Dark brown furniture gives the younger generation the willies just to look at it.

Boomers don’t want any more of it, and are trying to downsize and let go of the dark heavy furnishings, as we speak! Being surrounded by heavy, large, dark furniture is not what people want today, let alone my daughter’s generation. She doesn’t want it now and she will not want it later. It won’t pay to pressure her or store items for her.

It doesn’t matter how old it is.

It doesn’t matter what you paid for it.

It doesn’t mean anything to a stranger or the public who come to purchase it.

If we don’t want it and our children don’t want it, others will not want it either.

Of course there are exceptions to every rule and all families are different. But if we dare to peek into the future, what will become of the older, dark furnishings in 2 years? 5 years? 15 years?

Those of us in the industry have seen a steady decline since 2008 so it is no surprise to us. It’s alright that not everyone will accept what we have to say, but at least, listen to the market. It has spoken loud and clear!

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at Julie@TheEstateLady.com

]]>https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/05/06/the-real-value-of-our-antiques-and-heirlooms/feed/5The Estate Ladydark traditional ornate bedroomdark heavy china cabinetdark heavy dining roomUnthinkable, Unethical, Unlawful ~ Good Grief!https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/04/21/unthinkable-unethical-unlawful-good-grief/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/04/21/unthinkable-unethical-unlawful-good-grief/#commentsThu, 21 Apr 2016 13:59:00 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=1927Most professionals that work within the estate industry hear and see things that defy logic and make our hair stand straight on end. This story is one of them.

Imagine your sibling is very ill, in the process of passing away in hospice. Most of us would be doing all we can for our family, the children, the spouse, being present and offering support in any way to ease the pain they are going through. Most of us would also be spending those last precious moments together with the loved sibling. That is what family is for.

But some families think of other things that wouldn’t even enter into our minds. While the ill sibling is unresponsive in a coma, a sibling helps themselves to not only their jewelry and silver, but their credit cards taken straight from their purse. Worse, yet, they USED the credit cards throughout the last week of the sibling’s life and even after they had passed away. Does anyone out there have the right words to describe this, because I am so appalled, I cannot print what I would really like to say?

I believe it is unlawful to use someone else’s credit cards and certainly unlawful after their death, if you are not named on the account. Everything can be tracked these days. They always find the culprit right down to getting receipts, video recorded at the store, etc. So I ask a question that my mind is not capable of understanding: WHY would anyone do this when life is hanging by a thread and all they can think of is stuff? Unethical, YES. Unthinkable, YES. I cannot even wrap my head around it.

Shoes, purses, jewelry, and all the silver or gold in the world doesn’t mean a thing when a loved one dies. It doesn’t mean a thing when we die. They are just pretty things that we use for awhile. They take up space and take money out of our accounts. But seriously? On a deathbed?

What is becoming of our world? Are there people out there so devoid of compassion or kindness that they fill their void doing things that are unthinkable? I’ve seen cases like this in the past, but they happen more frequently and it is most disconcerting to witness.

Yet another reason to have a plan in place, tell those closest to you what you want, and back it up with legal documents. If there are those you don’t trust, let those that you do trust know this too.

Maybe the best investment we can make is a safe in our homes, offering the combination to only your executor or in sealed documents to be opened upon your passing. Gift items while you are still living. Have your power of attorney gather all personal possessions (such as your wallet) and secure them until such a time as legal affairs are sorted out.

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at Julie@TheEstateLady.com

]]>https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/04/21/unthinkable-unethical-unlawful-good-grief/feed/4The Estate LadyThink Before You Throw!https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/04/11/think-before-you-throw/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/04/11/think-before-you-throw/#commentsMon, 11 Apr 2016 14:24:25 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=1900Do it for the earth, do it for extra space, and do it for your pocket!

Donating, recycling, and selling are the way to go when downsizing or handling an estate. Selling will provide cash for your unwanted items, especially if you have a professional help you. Donating can also provide a tax deduction or help a worthy cause. Use your imagination when deciding where things could go, other than black trash bags! Can someone use your items in some form or fashion? This is the ultimate in recycling.

Remember the following when faced with thinning out your home’s contents or when you may not have enough for an estate sale:

Have the neighbors in for free household chemicals, garden/yard tools, etc.

Many religious organizations/groups set up homes for refugees, domestic abuse victims, disabled adults, etc. They need many everyday items and toiletries that you no longer need.

Old sheets and towels, leashes, and pet bowls are very much needed by local pet shelters.

Check with local drama programs (high school, college) for their wish list. Some will welcome “vintage” clothing and accessories, and even paints and fabrics for prop and set design.

Inventory the home before buying materials. Garbage bags, boxes, and cleaning supplies are normally already in the house.

Remember, one person’s trash is another man’s treasure!

With my prediction of millions of households being liquidated in the next few decades, the very thought of the amount of trash the U.S. will generate is mind-boggling. Do your part to help others and the environment too!

What other resources do you know about in your area for donating, selling, and recycling? Feel free to share ideas in the comment section below.

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at Julie@TheEstateLady.com

]]>https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/04/11/think-before-you-throw/feed/2The Estate Lady10 Estate Behavior Commandshttps://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/03/08/10-estate-behavior-commands/
https://estatelady.wordpress.com/2016/03/08/10-estate-behavior-commands/#commentsTue, 08 Mar 2016 14:14:05 +0000http://estatelady.wordpress.com/?p=1891With great reverence for God’s 10 commandments, here are the basic rules which should be followed in any and every estate situation. Often, we aren’t thinking clearly in the middle of the estate settlement and distribution process.

While there are no laws that pertain to human behavior when handling an estate and the distribution of property, these commandments should be “etched in stone” to remind us how we should behave.

Thou shalt not worship material possessions. They can be a monkey on your back and, ultimately, you can’t take them with you.

Greed and the love of possessions can be false idols which can, and often do, ruin families.

Don’t forget to take Sabbath for yourself. We all need time and space to breathe and reflect.

Honor your loved one that just passed away. Take actions that would respect them and make them proud.

Julie Hall, The Estate Lady®, is the foremost national expert on personal property in estates, including liquidating, advising, and appraising. http://www.TheEstateLady.com She is also the Director of American Society of Estate Liquidators®, the national educational and resource organization for estate liquidation. http://www.aselonline.com.

No part of The Estate Lady® blogs, whole or partial, may be used without Julie Hall’s written consent. Email her at Julie@TheEstateLady.com