"being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus," Romans 3:24

November 13, 2018June 10, 2019

To the Girl who is a “Hot Mess”

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I am a “hot mess” right now.

I have 5 papers to write, finals in two weeks, college has gotten insane, my internship portfolio is due next week, and I am a hot mess through and through.

Some days I think “I cannot make it, for I am burned out,” and that feeling is something that many women feel each day. Whether you are a wife, a mom, a college student, or going to work everyday, you have had those days where you feel as if you are burned out and that the fire inside you seems to be dimming down.

I am here to tell you that it is okay to be a hot mess, it is okay to be tired, and it is okay to be all over the place because you are not perfect!

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” Hebrews 13:8

You are not going to wake up each morning saying “I woke up like this,” and you are not going to feel on top of the world each day of your life, and that is okay. When you feel like a hot mess, you still have a God who is the same yesterday as He is today, and He will never “burn out,” He will never change, and He will always be alert.

“But now, O Lord,

You are our Father;

We are the clay, and You our potter;

And all we are the work of Your hand.” Isaiah 64:8

You are the clay in God’s hands, and though you feel as if you cannot walk one more step, God will lift you by your shoulders and help you make that next step, and though you feel as if all the work you are doing is “going to waste,” nothing goes to waste in the eyes of God, for all things serve a purpose to show His glory.

Society has conjured up a false perception that women must always be “on fire” or fierce, when that is impossible

I blame social media for the influx of women who post perfect lives that seem to never have any problems, but guess what? Half of those photos are not even real, most of them are fake, and these “social media experts” are not showing you the “bad parts” of their lives, yet these women are the same women who probably go to sleep feeling broken, empty, and as if they aren’t enough when God never intended for us to feel that kind of shame.

“She is more precious than rubies,

And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her.” Proverbs 3:15

Society tells women to be a “certain weight,” a “certain beauty,” a “certain this” or a “certain that,” and if you are a “hot mess,” then society will drop you like a hot potato, which is not only wrong, but it causes women to lower their self-worth, when God says women are worth more than rubies.

I have had enough of trying to rise to society’s standards, so I don’t care if I appear to be a “hot mess,” for I am God’s hot mess.

I am not a model and I am not a perfect girl who tries to post a “picture perfect life,” for I am a early twenties college student, I am an average girl, and I am just a girl after God, so I am not going to act like I have it all together, for there are times when I am a mess, but I am God’s mess.

“Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.” John 8:36

Christ died for my “mess,” Christ died so that I could be made free, and Christ died so I would not have to subject myself to society’s ideas, and I am forever thankful for the love of Christ, for without HIm, we would all be suffering in our brokenness.

You are God’s hot mess and He still thinks you are worth it, so when you wake up looking not your best, God still thinks you are beautiful. When you go through the day feeling burned out, God is cheering you on to keep going, and when you have so many deadlines and worries, God is there to take them away to give you rest.

“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.” 1 John 1:8

It is okay to admit that you are a mess, for if anyone claims to be “without sin,” then they are also without the truth, and we all know that without God, we are nothing. God has a purpose for your life, God will not leave you, and God will not leave you in the dark, for He loves you, He has a plan for you, and He is your strength.

Instead of depending on your own strength by trying to be a “girl boss,” depend on Christ

There is a trend about being a “girl boss,” to dominate, and to “own the game,” but sometimes, it is okay to step back and say “I cannot do it on my own,” for you cannot do everything by your strength alone or you will fail each time. Yes, it is okay to be hard working, determined, and ambitious, but never think that you can do it on your own, or else you will find yourself feeling empty more often than not.

You cannot conquer the world on your own and you are not a superhuman, and that is okay. God intend for us to love Him, to worship Him, and to do all things for His glory, and He did not intend for us to be robotic beings who have not feelings.

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11

So ladies, it is okay to say “I am not a girl boss today, for I am a hot mess who is still loved by God,” for you will not have all the answers, and there will be days where you think all things are going wrong, but even though you have those days, you still have a God who never gets things wrong, who knows all things, and who has plans of hope for you.

So who cares if you do not fit the mold of being a “flawless lady” who has it all together? I know for a fact, that all women go through a burnout, and that is fine, for it is better to admit your flaws than to project a perfect life. Ladies, seek Christ, know your worth, and do not let chaos stop you from living in Christ.

Choose joy no matter what trials are before you, choose to live in the freedom of Christ, and never conform to the ways of society, for you are more than what society says you are.

We can all be a hot mess together, for it is okay to be a hot mess from time to time, for God’s love is not limited and is endless, and His love gives me the desire to keep pushing on no matter how chaotic my life may get.

So thrive in the fact that you a daughter saved by grace, a woman who is redeemed, and a woman who is loved by God regardless of what each day may bring, for God’s love never changes, it never ends, and it never runs out on us, and that gives me endless hope no matter how many bad days I may have.

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Published by Christina Lee

My name is Christina Lee, I am from North Carolina, and I am a part-time Kindergarten teacher, who is soon to finish a Bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education. I am just a young woman in her early twenties who seeks to love God above all else for He is the only one who can fully satisfy. I am a lover of dresses and all things feminine, and I seek to have a gentle and soft soul. In my free-time, I love writing, calligraphy, Bible Journaling, watercolor, and taking long walks. View all posts by Christina Lee

Amen! I am a hot mess more days than I would care to admit 😉 Thankfully, God is well aware of this and more than willing to pick up the pieces. I have to admit, about the only social media I engage in is pinterest. And that is mainly for ideas for my own stuff. I don’t have facebook or instagram or any of that simply because I don’t need the distraction. I put myself down enough without any additional help. 😉 God is working on that and I am in the process of learning enough is enough. Good for you for having figured a lot of this out early. 🙂 God Bless and I hope you get all your stuff done with minimal stress!!!

I agree with you 100%. Sometimes, I have to take social media breaks due to it being a distraction. I’ve even thought about deleting some social medias for they cause more harm than good, so maybe one day in the future I’ll be social media free.

God bless you as well, and I hope you have a wonderful Christmas season! 🙂