I'm FREE! I left this letter on the kitchen table. She gets back tonight but I will be gone. I feel so great.

Anne,

I’m writing this letter to you in hopes that it will help clarify a few things that you’ve no doubt become aware of since you arrived home. The situation is exactly as it seems, I have left you. The plain truth is, I am no longer attracted to you. For the past few months I can safely say that I have felt physically ill in the morning when I wake up and see your face next to mine. Everything about you has become sour in my mind, even the way you smell. To be honest I find being around you draining, both physically and emotionally.

These issues are only surpassed by your negative and hateful attitude, which I might add has become progressively worse over the past year. You have become an egotistical, selfish and unimaginative person who rarely asks me what I need or want, in fact I cannot remember the last time you offered me anything of value. It baffles me that you show more passion for something like Dancing with the Stars or Idol than you do our relationship and our future. It stuns me that you cannot see how far you have fallen, how much dignity you have lost.

My limits have been reached and I have had enough. Your attempt to deprive me of my masculinity and sovereignty will no longer be tolerated. So this is where you find yourself, standing in the living room, stunned. Stunned because you never expected this, because you thought you owned me, you thought only you had the power to do something like this. The 46 inch flatscreen that you enjoy so much is no longer a prop for your moronic addiction. Go and buy your own. I have taken everything that I paid for (except the things which I bought for you). Keep the fridge (I’m getting a nice big one to reward myself for this amazing decision I have just made).

Finally I want you to look up the word Misandry as it’s something you are unequivocally guilty of. You should be glad that for the first time in your life someone has actually called you out on your bullshit. You can either lie to yourself as usual or you can pick up the proverbial mirror and take an honest look inside.

I'm FREE! I left this letter on the kitchen table. She gets back tonight but I will be gone. I feel so great.

Anne,

I’m writing this letter to you in hopes that it will help clarify a few things that you’ve no doubt become aware of since you arrived home. The situation is exactly as it seems, I have left you. The plain truth is, I am no longer attracted to you. For the past few months I can safely say that I have felt physically ill in the morning when I wake up and see your face next to mine. Everything about you has become sour in my mind, even the way you smell. To be honest I find being around you draining, both physically and emotionally.

These issues are only surpassed by your negative and hateful attitude, which I might add has become progressively worse over the past year. You have become an egotistical, selfish and unimaginative person who rarely asks me what I need or want, in fact I cannot remember the last time you offered me anything of value. It baffles me that you show more passion for something like Dancing with the Stars or Idol than you do our relationship and our future. It stuns me that you cannot see how far you have fallen, how much dignity you have lost.

My limits have been reached and I have had enough. Your attempt to deprive me of my masculinity and sovereignty will no longer be tolerated. So this is where you find yourself, standing in the living room, stunned. Stunned because you never expected this, because you thought you owned me, you thought only you had the power to do something like this. The 46 inch flatscreen that you enjoy so much is no longer a prop for your moronic addiction. Go and buy your own. I have taken everything that I paid for (except the things which I bought for you). Keep the fridge (I’m getting a nice big one to reward myself for this amazing decision I have just made).

Finally I want you to look up the word Misandry as it’s something you are unequivocally guilty of. You should be glad that for the first time in your life someone has actually called you out on your bullshit. You can either lie to yourself as usual or you can pick up the proverbial mirror and take an honest look inside.

"At times, the experience of seeing ourselves in an unfavorable light can be painful. At other times, when we are not focused on our shortcomings, a less defended viewpoint frees up the energy that maintained the repression." Joan Bello

I'm FREE! I left this letter on the kitchen table. She gets back tonight but I will be gone. I feel so great.

Anne,

I’m writing this letter to you in hopes that it will help clarify a few things that you’ve no doubt become aware of since you arrived home. The situation is exactly as it seems, I have left you. The plain truth is, I am no longer attracted to you. For the past few months I can safely say that I have felt physically ill in the morning when I wake up and see your face next to mine. Everything about you has become sour in my mind, even the way you smell. To be honest I find being around you draining, both physically and emotionally.

These issues are only surpassed by your negative and hateful attitude, which I might add has become progressively worse over the past year. You have become an egotistical, selfish and unimaginative person who rarely asks me what I need or want, in fact I cannot remember the last time you offered me anything of value. It baffles me that you show more passion for something like Dancing with the Stars or Idol than you do our relationship and our future. It stuns me that you cannot see how far you have fallen, how much dignity you have lost.

My limits have been reached and I have had enough. Your attempt to deprive me of my masculinity and sovereignty will no longer be tolerated. So this is where you find yourself, standing in the living room, stunned. Stunned because you never expected this, because you thought you owned me, you thought only you had the power to do something like this. The 46 inch flatscreen that you enjoy so much is no longer a prop for your moronic addiction. Go and buy your own. I have taken everything that I paid for (except the things which I bought for you). Keep the fridge (I’m getting a nice big one to reward myself for this amazing decision I have just made).

Finally I want you to look up the word Misandry as it’s something you are unequivocally guilty of. You should be glad that for the first time in your life someone has actually called you out on your bullshit. You can either lie to yourself as usual or you can pick up the proverbial mirror and take an honest look inside.

Sometimes when you are drained and beaten down by another its good to purge. Learn from your previous mistakes and do not repeat them.Me and my wife live like great friends who fuck all the time.Its the only way to really respect each other. We do not expect anything from each other. We do things for each other because we want to.Be careful on your search for a partner.

The first part of the letter was a bit over the top and mean-spirited... I'm glad you feel free, but maybe it's better to just move on without tearing down other people. She treated you like shit, but that doesn't mean you have to be that way to her. Being the bigger, better person is what's important, not being a passive aggressive prick trying to prove a point.

Completely burned that bridge and whatever others you ever shared together. Everyone you both know will probably read or hear about the details of that letter. It might have made you feel good to write but seems kind of shortsighted to put down on paper for everyone to pass around.

It makes you sound like you aren't exactly a prize either.Are you bipolar ? The letter kind of reads that way.

Completely burned that bridge and whatever others you ever shared together. Everyone you both know will probably read or hear about the details of that letter. It might have made you feel good to write but seems kind of shortsighted to put down on paper for everyone to pass around.

It makes you sound like you aren't exactly a prize either.Are you bipolar ? The letter kind of reads that way.

Quoting: Anonymous Coward 32062218

^^ This is someone who is likely what I described as a "bigger, better person." Take some pointers.

The fact that this is coming as a surprise to her means you didn't have the balls to speak up about problems in the relationship or work on them and taking the cowardly way and blaming her for everything. Your comments about disgust at looking at her and her smell make it clear that you hold deep hatred for her and have for a long time. You were a fool to stay in the relationship this long OP if that is how you feel. She and you will BOTH be so much better off apart.

The other poster is correct that your personal attacks meant to twist the knife in her will end up causing a shit storm that you will regret. She will have you arrested for something somehow OP.