tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3614342822943299288.post7526834737030839889..comments2015-09-29T10:43:34.271-07:00Comments on Madeline Elayne, erotica author, fetishist and general ne'er do well: Butches Don't Wear Pink (and other fallacies)Madeline Elaynehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15869227638200564350noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3614342822943299288.post-69166765877215459472011-04-12T17:30:06.144-07:002011-04-12T17:30:06.144-07:00First of all, I&#39;m having some very non-stereot...First of all, I&#39;m having some very non-stereotypical feelings about the picture you used to illustrate this post. Butch-on-Butch love is a phenomena that still goes against the grain of butch stereotypes.<br /><br />&quot;... it takes a conscious effort. DON&#39;T ASSUME.&quot; You say it&#39;s easy, and it is, when it&#39;s something people choose to do and feel is important. Lots of people don&#39;t unfortunately, which is why posts like this one are important. <br /><br />I think we should all work toward greater choices and less pre-defined boxes. <br /><br />And I like pink too, because it looks good on me, not because I&#39;m _____&#39;fill in the blank with some label&#39;.Kylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02374683393555661026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3614342822943299288.post-91076465709429569302011-04-11T17:54:35.994-07:002011-04-11T17:54:35.994-07:00My father also did all the cooking growing up, and...My father also did all the cooking growing up, and still does for all the holidays my parents host. And thank goodness--my mother and I can&#39;t cook one bit. Thanksgiving would be a reck without him.<br /><br />In fact...my masculine of center girlfriend does all the cooking in our pairing... I just always considered that part of her masculine of center-ness. I had no clue we were in the minority.madeofwordshttp://madeofwords.myopenid.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3614342822943299288.post-44848917635800521542011-04-10T19:03:01.709-07:002011-04-10T19:03:01.709-07:00I think your point about individualized/culturaliz...I think your point about individualized/culturalized experiences of gender is so important -- it&#39;s part of why I think it&#39;s crucial for cisgendered folks to think about the ways that we understand and enact gender. Great post.lenore louhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16432745337818978828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3614342822943299288.post-31722628115141507052011-04-10T13:24:57.566-07:002011-04-10T13:24:57.566-07:00Yes. Remembering that we&#39;re all individuals wi...Yes. Remembering that we&#39;re all individuals with our own likes and dislikes is the key to finding a way to not assume. After all, we all know what assuming does. (;<br /><br />Excellent post.Wendihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761796742892205161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3614342822943299288.post-72116494676757012532011-04-10T13:19:41.835-07:002011-04-10T13:19:41.835-07:00&quot;That&#39;s why they call it discrimination, ...&quot;That&#39;s why they call it discrimination, and not scientific categorization.&quot;<br /><br />Love that. So perfectly said. I&#39;m ultra femme, and I hate pink with a passion. :)victoriaoldhamhttp://victoriaoldham.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3614342822943299288.post-40529200304646673292011-03-29T14:29:41.260-07:002011-03-29T14:29:41.260-07:00Love your point about cooking, and how certain thi...Love your point about cooking, and how certain things can become masculine or feminine traits based on one&#39;s personal life experience, even if it overrides what is commonly understood to be the role in culture. And of course I love pink, and cowboy shirts, and consensual chivalry—great ending paragraph.Sinclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16149307758752966852noreply@blogger.com