How to Turn Down a Wedding Invitation (or Attend a Wedding Alone)

An attached wedding guest is invited — without a plus-one. Should she turn down the invite? Or go alone?

Judy Lewis

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The Wedding Guru says: Are you a close friend or family member? If so, you can probably tell the bride why you aren’t attending. The key is to do it in the most unthreatening, polite, low-key way, so as not to be pushy or insulting. Mention that you feel uncomfortable attending alone, but you understand the number crunch in a wedding budget. Be empathetic, open, and friendly, and remember to say that you appreciate the invitation. Wish the couple much good luck, add that you look forward to seeing the photos and hearing all about the wedding — and do send the couple a wedding gift.

...By the way, before you decide to turn down a “single” invitation, take into consideration that if you go alone, you might meet other interesting people — or future friends. So it may not be as uncomfortable as you might imagine!

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Tying the knot shouldn't put knots in your stomach, so whether you're the blushing bride, hubby-to-be, or even a wedding guest, The Wedding Guru Judy Lewis can answer all of your wedding-related questions.

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