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Table of Contents
Part One: Understanding Shyness

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1. What is Shyness?

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Shyness as a Label

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Being Shy Doesn’t Mean You Have Low Self-Esteem

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Being Shy Doesn’t Mean You Don’t Like People

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3. How Shy People are Perceived

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How Approachable are You?

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Your Shyness Makes Others Shy

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5. Shyness Solutions

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What Doesn’t Work: Alcohol

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Jumping Off the Deep End

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Techniques for Small Talk

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Controlling Nervousness

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Visualization

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Self-Hypnosis

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Part Two: Shyness in Dating

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How to Project Confidence

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Talking to Attractive Women or Studly Men

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What to Say
Dealing With Rejection

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Basic Exercises for Overcoming Shyness

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Advanced Exercises for Overcoming Shyness

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Men’s Top Ten Tips for Getting Over Shyness

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Women’s Top Ten Tips for Getting Over Shyness

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Don’t Look Like You’re Looking for Someone

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About Calling After the First Date

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Introduction
What’s the one thing holding you back from meeting more members of the opposite sex? Is it that you don’t know what to say? Are you self-conscious? Are you
worried that they’ll reject you?
If you answered “yes” to all three questions, you may be shy. Shyness is one of
the biggest barriers to achieving the kind of dating life you dream of. Guys want
to approach girls but can’t get up the courage to do so. Girls want to talk back to
cute guys but find themselves tongue-tied and embarrassed at the attention.
Fortunately, shyness is one of those traits that most people grow out of. That’s
because almost everyone is shy at a certain point in their life, especially when
they’re young. If you haven’t had a lot of experience in many social situations, being shy is a natural response to being unfamiliar with the “rules” for the situation.
You’re not sure how you’re supposed to act, so you end up being quiet, feeling
awkward, and being highly conscious of being out of your depth.
As most people get older, they gain confidence as they interact with more people.
Having a job that requires a lot of customer interaction, or moving to a new town
or university where you don’t know anyone, will help you get over your shyness,
because they force a person to learn socializing skills quickly.
However, for some people, shyness is a more serious matter. The seriously shy
feel terrified at the prospect of having to interact with someone they don’t know.
Even the idea of exchanging words with a clerk at a grocery store can cause
sweaty palms and the shakes. As a result, these shy people live life with their
heads down, avoiding anyone’s eyes and avoiding any human contact that might
require them to speak.
In this part of Overcoming Shyness , author
A. Wa term an wi l l exp l ai n ex ac tly wh a t
shyness is and what it isn’t. She’ll explain
how others perceive shy people—the findings may surprise you. Finally, she’ll review
some of the most common solutions for
overcoming shyness.
In the second part of Overcoming Shyness,
author K. Cotton will take over to explain
how shyness affects dating. You’ll learn how
to project confidence, how to approach attractive people, how to deal with rejection,
and the top ten tips for men and women on
getting over shyness.

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Part One:
Understanding Shyness
by A. Waterman

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1. What is Shyness?
Have you ever wondered where being shy comes from? Were you born to be shy
from the start, or was it something you developed as you were growing up?
Amazingly enough, researchers have found that there is a genetic component to
shyness. Harvard psychologist Jerome Kagan studied groups of children to see
whether or not they displayed “shy” or “bold” character traits. He found that even
babies as young as four months old displayed distinct character types. Some were
bold, while others were timid. In his study of two-year-olds, roughly a quarter
of the children fell into the “bold” category while one-fifth were categorized as
“timid.” As these children grew up, the shy ones tended to play alone while the
bolder children tended to play in groups.
However, this research doesn’t mean that if you’re shy
now, you were born to be shy. Being outgoing and socially
confident are learned behaviors that you can acquire
just as you would any other skill. Nor does this research
mean that if you were bold and outgoing as a child, you
won’t end up being shy in later life. Only one third of
severely shy children in Kagan’s research had any genetic
predisposition.
Quite simply, for so me people shy ness i s harder to
overcome than others. This does not mean that it’s
impossible, however. If you find it difficult to make small
talk, you can improve your conversational skills by taking
an interpersonal communication class or by reading the
newspaper to pick up topics to talk about. If you’re not
sure what the social rules are in a situation, you can ask
people you trust or find books on the topic, like dating
guides. I’ll give you some more solutions for overcoming
shyness a bit later.
Right now, I’d like to address some of the many misconceptions about shyness.

Shyness as a Label
Many children, when they’re young, get stigmatized by being labeled as “shy.”
Because their parents and teachers have told them that they’re shy, they end up
believing it—even if their timid behavior was just a temporary thing. As a result
of being labeled, they may revert even deeper into acting timid because they
have an excuse: their “shyness.” Worse of all, being shy becomes part of their

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self-identity. They believe that they are shy, that they’ll always be shy, and that the
confident person they wish they were will always be out of reach.
But shyness is not something permanent that you either “are” or “are not.” There
are many people who are confident in most situations but act shy when they’re in
a situation that they don’t feel comfortable in. Other people are quite outgoing
among friends but act shyly around strangers.

That’s because shyness is a response. It’s a way of behaving. Depending on the
situation you’re in and the people you’re around, you may act shy or you may act
confident—it all depends.
Most importantly, shyness is natural . What would happen if you boldly charged
into every situation, even if you didn’t know the social rules? You’d probably
end up making a fool of yourself or offending someone. It’s good to keep quiet,
hold back, and observe until you get a handle on the situation. In fact, in many
cases it’s better to be timid at first rather than rush ahead and get yourself into
trouble.
Now that we’ve established that shyness is a behavior that can actually be good
in some circumstances, what about people whose first instinct is always to hold
back, feel extremely nervous, and avoid conversations? For many people, shyness
becomes a habit. That’s because it’s comfortable. Shy behavior keeps them from
putting themselves at risk of rejection or saying something stupid. When shyness
becomes a habit, life starts passing you by

Shyness is only a problem when it interferes with you getting on with the life
you want. Unfortunately, for many shy people, their shyness interferes with them
getting to know members of the opposite sex. They may find it hard to make a lot
of friends. As a result, they want to stop being shy.
And guess what? That’s the first step you need to get over your shyness: you
simply have to want to stop being shy. Once you’re committed to changing your
life, your next step will be to start changing your shy behavior. I’ll tell you more
how to do this in a later chapter.

Being Shy Doesn’t Mean You Have Low Self -Esteem
One common misconception about shyness is that shy people have very poor selfesteem which keeps them from feeling confident in their interactions with others.
This isn’t true. Shy people have no higher rate of poor self-esteem than anyone
else. In fact, if anything, the shyness itself can make people feel inadequate when
it comes to social situations, causing low self-esteem rather than vice versa.

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This means that someone telling you to “get over it” and “believe in yourself”
doesn’t understand shyness very well. Shyness isn’t something that you can get
over by just being more self-confident.
The only way to start overcoming your shyness is by improving specific skills, such
as communication. And, as anyone knows, learning a new skill—like music, say,
or painting—requires a multi-pronged approach of education, practice, refining
your technique, and more practice. In this book, you’ll learn some techniques
you can use.

Being Shy Doesn’t Mean You Don’t Like People
S o m e t i m e s, p eo p l e g e t l a b e l e d a s
“introverts” because they’re shy.
Because shy people feel nervous about
meeting new people and experience
anxiety in social situations, they often
end up with a smaller social network
than outgoing people. Nevertheless,
this doesn’t mean that shy people don’t
want to have just as many friends as
more outgoing people.
Most shy people I know love having
friends and love being with people they
trust. They end up socially isolated
only because they have a difficult time
r each i ng ou t to m ake n ew fr iend s.
Introverts, on the other hand, prefer
solitude and the inner life to being with
other people. Many famous scientists
and arti sts wer e in tr overts, whol ly
focused on their own creative life and
projects to the expense of their social
engagements.
It is quite possible to be a shy introvert ... but it’s also possible to be a shy extrovert.
People like Carol Burnett, John Travolta, and Johnny Carson all considered
themselves shy even though they were actors and public figures. (If you’re shy,
you’re in good company!) You can seem gregarious and extroverted to people
around you but still feel social anxiety on the inside.
So how do you seem to people? Do people notice you’re shy? In the next chapter,
I’ll tell you how shyness can actually cause people to treat you differently.

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2. How Shy People are Perceived
Some people—especially other shy people—consider shyness a positive character
trait. They believe that shy people are more empathetic, kinder, and more loyal.
Shy people are often better team players and put more effort into their relationships.
They’re even perceived as being better listeners and more thoughtful—mainly
because they talk less!
Although shy people have many positive traits, shyness on its own is widely
considered a negative trait—one that can overpower a person’s other positive
traits. The reason for this is simple: if a person is shy, they’re harder to get to know.
The harder they are to get to know, the less likely it is that others will discover the
many fine traits hidden beneath the shy exterior.
The simple truth is that shy people are not as easily or widely liked as outgoing
people. If you look at the most popular guy or girl in any social environment, you
can almost instantly assume that they’re outgoing. Shy people tend to feel more
comfortable sticking to the corner of a room where they’re less likely to bump
into many people, while outgoing people naturally seek the center. As a result,
the outgoing person meets many new people and forms new friendships at every
turn, while the shy person instinctively minimizes his or her chances of meeting
anyone.

There’s nothing at all wrong with being shy, but being shy does cause other people
to treat you differently. Some people assume that because you don’t have much
to say, you’re boring or dull. Other people assume that if you’re silent, you don’t
want to talk to anyone. Other people will think that you’re stuck up, cold, or aloof
because you don’t hang out with them or join in conversation with their group.
They think that your behavior is a choice, rather than simply the only way you
know how to cope with social situations.

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When you’re seriously shy, you often don’t let people get to know you. People feel
an invisible barrier around you, almost as if you’re sending out “Don’t Approach
Me” signals. They see how awkward you become when other people get too
close or when a social situation seems imminent. As a result, they simply assume
that you’re not a friendly person and pass you by for people who are more willing
and eager to engage in conversation.
You may feel that people are judging you unfairly without really getting to know
you, but people do this all the time. There are so many people out there to meet
that we have to use some criteria to decide whom to approach. A guy scanning
the dance floor for a girl to ask to dance will probably choose someone whom
he can easily approach, who is smiling, and who seems friendly and outgoing.
He won’t even notice the girl who is sitting by the wall in the shadows, feeling
nervous and terrified that a guy will ask her to dance—even if she actually does
want this to happen. That’s because everybody tends to take the easy route.

How Approachable are You?
To gauge how approachable you are, ask yourself the following questions.
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Do you smile often?
Do you keep your arms loose as opposed to crossed?
D o yo u k eep y o ur hea d u p?
Do you stand up straight as opposed to slouching?
Do you meet someone’s eyes easily?
Do you position yourself to maximize the chance of people passing by
you?
Do you mind other people seeing you?
Do you usually notice when someone says something to

you?
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Do you say “hi” back to most people?

When you’re talking with someone, do y ou think more about them or
about yourself?
Do you accept most invitations you’re given?

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If you tend to turn down invitations, focus on what you’re going to say next in a
conversation (instead of on the other person), avoid being seen, and tend to miss
it when other people are talking to you, then you are probably quite shy. As a
result, people find it hard to approach you. And if they find it hard, they probably
won’t do it.
Shy people can feel very self-conscious in social situations. They can worry
whether or not they’re doing the right thing and spend most of a conversation
desperately trying to think of what to say next. Their nonverbal behavior can send
“stay away” signals: they cross their arms, keep their head down, slouch, and
don’t smile. As a result, their conversation partner picks up on their nervousness
and thinks that it’s because of them.
For example, John approached Katie, a shy girl at a dance. When he was talking
with her, he noticed that she wasn’t meeting his eyes. Instead, she seemed really
nervous. She kept making fidgety gestures, playing with the strap on her purse.
All her responses were short and left awkward silences. He assumed that she
felt uncomfortable around him because she didn’t like him, so he ended the
conversation and left.
Next, John approached Anna, an outgoing girl. She smiled at him warmly. When
he spoke, Anna kept her head up and looked at him so that he really felt she was
listening. He noticed how brightly her eyes sparkled. Even when there was a
silence in the conversation, it felt comfortable because he could sense that Anna
was relaxed. After a few minutes, he asked Anna to dance. He felt that they really
enjoyed one another’s company.
Unfortunately, people may assume from your shy behavior that you simply don’t
like being around them. They pick up on your discomfort. They may end up
becoming quite negative towards you as a result, because they think that you’ve
rejected them first—when in reality you just didn’t know what to say or do.

Your Shyness Makes Others Shy
One fact that surprises a lot of people
is that shyness is actually “contagious.”
If an outgoing person—say, John from
the example above—tries to have a
conversation with a very shy person
like Katie, he will start to feel himself
at a loss for words. Unfamiliar feelings
of awkwardness and uneasiness will
trip up his tongue. In little time, the
outgoing person will soon find himself
acting just as “shy” as the shy person!

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That’s because the outgoing person is used to getting feedback from a conversation.
He needs a response to what he says—whether a smile, a comment, whatever—
in order to formulate the next thing to say, and so on. But a super shy person
provides none of this feedback. The outgoing person can’t understand why the
shy person is so quiet. He isn’t used to being in this situation, so he starts to feel
uncomfortable.
As a result, many outgoing people may actually avoid conversation with shy
people, because they don’t like feeling shyness themselves.
Clearly, it’s important to learn to change your behavior in these circumstances so
that everyone feels at ease coming up to you and chatting with you. But how do
you do that? I’ll tell you in the next chapter.

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3. Shyness Solutions
Now that you understand some possible causes and effects of shyness, how do
you overcome them so that you can meet more people and make more friends?
You can do it. Believe in your power to transform your life. Remember that just
because you’ve been shy in the past doesn’t mean that you have to continue to be
shy. Or, in other words, just because you have behaved in a shy way in the past
doesn’t mean that you are a “shy person” by nature. Many people have overcome
their social anxiety and gone on to have the kinds of lives they dreamed about.
That person can be you.
All you have to do is learn new skills to change your behavior. In this chapter,
I’ll give you some tips on making small talk, on controlling sweaty palms or a
thudding heart, on increasing your approachability, and on additional techniques
like visualization and self-hypnosis that may help.
Learning to act in a confident, outgoing, and friendly
way is a process that will take education, practice,
and making plenty of mistakes over time before you
master it. Don’t expect change to happen overnight.
Once you leave your safe cocoon of shyness, you’ll
find yourself feeling vulnerable and exposed to
rejection. This is a risk that you’re going to have to
accept. If you never make the attempt to meet another
person, you’ll never end up getting rejected—but do
you really want to live like that? For me personally,
it’s better to have approached 10 people, 9 of whom
end up rejecting me, to find that one person who ends
up becoming a great friend. Remember: the rewards
of overcoming shyness are worth the challenge.

What Doesn’t Work: Alcohol
Some people try to overcome their shyness with alcohol or drugs. When they’re
drunk or high, they lose the paralyzing self-consciousness that keeps them from
interacting with others. As a result, they feel more successful socially.

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However, neither alcohol nor drugs really help in overcoming shyness. You can’t
spend your life drunk or high. If you’re really going to get rid of your shyness for
good, you have to do it on your own terms. You need to make sure that shyness
doesn’t keep you back from going the places you want to go, talking to the people
you want to talk to, or advancing at work. (Shyness actually makes you less likely
to get promoted—a good reason to tackle it now!)
Not only does relying on
a l c o h o l or d ru g s cr ea te a
chemical dependency, it also
doesn’t work . Alcohol and
drugs create a false sense of
social success. You may feel
as if you’re less inhibited, but
you’re also less conscious of
what you’re actually doing.
Research shows that just two alcoholic drinks can negatively affect your ability to
hold a conversation. That’s right: negatively. And four drinks will seriously inhibit
your conversational skills. You may feel as if you’re becoming silver-tongued
after four or five drinks, but ask the sober people around you. Chances are that
you’ll find your perception of your conversational dexterity differs greatly from an
independent observer’s.
The myth of alcohol as a social lubricant is a dangerous one for shy people to
believe, because studies show alcohol can actually increase nervousness—not
relax the drinker. There are better ways to relax and feel comfortable around
people. Don’t use alcohol as a way to avoid facing your shyness.

Jumping Off the Deep End
Some people give shy people the advice that it’s best to plunge right in. The only
way to get over shyness is to throw yourself into social situations and do that
which you fear the most.
The method can work for some, but for others it can have the opposite of its
intended effect. Seriously shy people can be so traumatized by the experience
that they retreat further into their original behavior. Do yourself a favor: ease
in gradually. Start with situations that cause you small amounts of anxiety (like
asking for information, making small talk as your purchase is rung up, or calling
someone you don’t know), then slowly build your way up to situations which
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Set yourself small goals. It may just be to say hello to the cashier, or smile at one
stranger, or catch someone’s eye. It may be to talk to someone waiting in line with
you. Starting out small allows you to create realistic expectations for yourself and
feel a sense of accomplishment as you achieve more and more difficult goals.
Practice with strangers or people you’ll never see again. The stakes are much
higher when it comes to people that you already know or want to become friends
with. When you hone your skills on complete strangers, you’ll feel secure that
even if you make a mistake, you’ll never see that person again.
One guy I know actually drove to a suburb or distant part of the city each weekend
so that he could practice his skills picking up women in an environment where he
was certain he wouldn’t run into anyone he knew. He told me that the change in
scene made him feel like he could pretend to be a different person. No one knew
him, so no one knew that he was actually quite a shy person in his daily life.

Do whatever it takes to keep pressing your boundaries. The more comfortable
you become interacting with people in everyday circumstances, the more natural
it will feel to strike up conversations with people in social situations like a party
or club. Surround yourself with confident people so that their confidence rubs
off. Friends can also be great motivators when you share your goals with them, so
make sure they know that you’re trying to overcome your shyness.

Techniques for Small Talk
One of the most important skills you have for
achieving social success is the ability to make
small talk. It will serve you well whether you’re at
work, at a party, or in line at the store. Striking up
conversations with strangers can be immensely
satisfying, because it helps pass the time and is a
pleasant way to connect with one of the hundreds
of people who pass us anonymously every day.
The best way to improve your conversational skills
is to educate yourself. Read the newspaper, watch
the news, and pay attention to any interesting
news items or current debates. Stay current; know
what is playing at the movie theater, keep up on
interesting local events, and be familiar with the
latest bands. The more you know about a range
of topics, the more likely it will be that you will
be able to offer an opinion or further information
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Also, be aware when things that happen in your daily life would make a great
topic of conversation. If something interesting, funny, or scary happens to you,
imagine how you would describe it to someone else. Your own experiences are
full of great conversation material.

Come prepared . If it helps, brainstorm and write down a list of conversation
topics for times when conversation runs dry. This is especially effective when you
know the person you’ll be talking with (e.g., a first date). Some people spend
hours thinking of great opening tactics they can use to approach women, or quirky
conversational tidbits that they can drop in a conversation. There’s no shame in
being well prepared.
Ask questions. When conversation runs dry, don’t let it fall into awkward silence.
Ask the other person a question. If you don’t understand something—say they
just said they were into vexillology—and you had no clue what it was), then
simply ask, “Could you explain that to me?” By the way, vexillology is the study
of flags.
You can ask any number of questions, but make sure that it doesn’t sound like you’re
interviewing the person. Add encouraging comments like, “That’s interesting,” “I
always wished I could do something like that,” or, “You know, that really makes
sense to me because...”
If they don’t seem keen to answer, or if they answer with monosyllabic responses
like a grunt or a curt “yes” or “no,” then abandon your line of questioning. They
clearly don’t feel comfortable with it.

Make observations . Often, one way to spark a great conversation is simply to
make an observation. Point out something in your immediate environment, or
mention something you saw on television or read in the news or heard from
someone else. The great thing about this conversational tactic is that you don’t
have to express your opinion. You just throw an observation out there and see
where the other person takes it.
Remember people’s names. Always get a person’s name when you’re talking with
them. As you’re talking, drop their name in a few times, e.g. “You know,
Mike, I have to say that this is the slowest night I’ve seen in this bar...” or,
“Jenny, you are so right. I completely agree with that.” Using a person’s name in
conversation makes them feel flattered.
Paraphrase. Make sure that you understood by repeating what the other person
just said in your own words, e.g., “So you mean that you actually think that
Hampson would make a better mayor than Gordon Thomas?”

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Be interested in them. People who are curious about the people around them
have a natural warmth and empathy that attracts others. When you’re interested in
the person you’re talking with, they feel flattered. Best of all, it takes the pressure
off from you. The more you focus on the person you’re talking with, the less selfconscious you’ll feel.
Practice active listening. One problem many shy people have is thinking of what
they’re going to say next during the whole time that the other person is talking.
As a result, they often miss some important information. If someone is talking
to you, really listen to them . Lean forward, keep your eyes on them, and ask
for clarification. Don’t feel pressured to respond immediately when they stop
speaking. Take some time to think about what you want to say.
Remember what they said. Once you’ve talked to a person one time, it will be
easier to talk to them the next time, because you’ll already have some information
about them to go by. Bring up a topic you discussed previously or something
that you remember them saying. People feel impressed and flattered when
you remember part of a previous conversation and integrate it into a current
conversation.

Controlling Nervousness
If you’re really shy, you may find that you
feel physically paralyzed at the thought of
striking up a conversation with a stranger.
You may feel as if the person is evaluating
a n d j u d g i n g y o u w i th ev e r y wo r d y o u
speak.
Most of your anxiety at social situations is
self-generated. When you meet someone
for the first time, that person may not be
particularly thinking of you. However, at
that very instant you are meeting them, you
may feel as if their opinion of you is the
only thing on this earth that matters. You
may imagine the thoughts running through
their head and hold your breath until you
see either the light of approval or scowl of
rejection on their face.

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To get over your anxiety at meeting people, you need to do two things. First,
you have to remind yourself of the relative unimportance of any single person’s
response to you. The most outgoing people meet tons of people that they don’t
particularly click with, but because they ultimately meet sooo many people,
they’re always finding one or two people they do click with. You’re not going
to achieve any better statistics, so stop being concerned about that particular
person’s response to you and start looking for some more people to meet.
Second, you need to recognize that the majority of negative thoughts running
through your mind ( e.g., that the other person won’t like you, that they’ll think
you look strange, that they’re looking for reasons to get out of the conversation )
are actually your own thoughts and do NOT reflect what the other person is
thinking at all. As a result, you may assume that the other person isn’t enjoying
the conversation with you and end it abruptly ... when, in actuality, the other
person was enjoying talking with you.
Everybody has a stream of thoughts running through their head at any single
moment in time. For example, take a simple act: a woman reaching out her hand
to shake the hand of her date. While she’s doing so, she may suddenly wonder
whether or not her skin is soft enough (did she put on moisturizer?), whether her
hand is moist (oh no, nervous sweating!), and whether he’ll like the perfume she
daubed on her wrist.
Notice what all these questions have in common?
They all introduce an element of self-doubt. Often,
when we’re with someone, the running monologue
in our head keeps questioning and second-guessing
ourselves to try to answer the endless question: Does
he or she like me?
We’re our own worst critics. We think that if only we
can get all of the numerous details right (say the right
thing, wear the right clothes, look the right way, drive
the right car), then people will like us. As a result, in
the background of all our interactions with people, we
see ourselves hovering like critics, shouting, “Don’t
say that, stupid!” “How could you be so dumb? He’s
going to hate you now,” or, “I’ll bet you’ve got food
stuck in your teeth, that’s why she’s staring. Check a
mirror now!”

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The best thing you can do for your own shyness is to silence your inner critic.
That’s right. Tell that critic to shut up, and you’ll take things from here, thank you
very much. Do all that you can do before meeting someone to ensure that your
appearance is up to standard, then forget about what you look like. Enjoy your
conversation, and if you happen to say something that sounds wrong, let it slide.
Forget about it and keep on with the conversation.
Try to focus as much in the moment, with the person you’re with, as you can. Try
as hard as possible not to think about yourself or anything you might be doing
wrong. Once you gain a measure of control over your shyness, you’ll be able to
maintain some self-awareness in situations and correct mistakes before you make
them.
As you focus on being in the moment, relax. Notice when your heart is beating
fast, or when you’re talking faster or in a higher-pitched voice than normal, and
calm down. Take deep breaths. Avoid clenching your hand, gritting your teeth,
or tightening any part of your body. Let your hands hang loosely. Change your
eye focus away from the person you’re talking to and look at something else for a
minute if you find yourself getting nervous.
You don’t have to maintain eye contact with the person you’re talking to while
you’re doing the talking. The person who’s listening should always be looking
at the person who’s talking. If you need to, look elsewhere while you’re talking,
but when you finish make sure to make eye contact again before the other person
speaks.
If you find yourself getting really nervous, to the point that you feel you’re about
to do something stupid, then excuse yourself. There’s nothing wrong with ending
a conversation at a high point. Just make sure to ask for the person’s phone
number—or better yet, email address—before you do.

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Visualization
One way that you can increase your chances of successfully meeting someone
new is through using a technique called visualization. In this technique, you
visualize yourself in a perfect encounter with someone from start to finish. You
basically practice overcoming your shyness in your head before actually doing it
in real life.
Make sure that you’re in a relaxed mood, in a place where you feel comfortable
and won’t be disturbed. Try imagining yourself in a social situation that you
often encounter, or a situation that is coming up. Visualize the scene as clearly
as you can, with particular people. Envision yourself responding to them in a
witty, confident way. Make sure that you’re realistic with your visualization.
Don’t see yourself as being the life of the party if you’re usually on the sidelines.
Instead, see yourself at the center of a group, or mingling through a crowd, or
talking to someone you’ve never talked to before. Take yourself through an entire
conversation, from start to finish. Envision how you will exit the situation.
Practice visualization techniques often. When you find yourself in a similar
situation in real life, you should be able to recall that feeling of relaxation that
you experienced while visualizing the scene. Because you’ve already mentally
experienced the situation before, you’ll feel confident in your ability to handle it.
This technique can be particularly effective for men wanting to pick up women.

Self-Hypnosis
Self-hypnosis i s ano ther str ategy tha t ha s
been used with some success to overcome
shyness. In self-hypnosis, you open your mind
to suggestions that reflect the desired attitudes
or behaviors you wish to have. Basically, you
unlearn the negative scripts that mentally trip
you up in social situations. You replace them
with powerful, affirming statements that are then
reflected in more socially confident behavior.
For more information on self-hypnosis, check out the bonus book The Complete
Guide to Self-Hypnosis found in the 000Relationships.com Members Area. You
can try out self-hypnosis tracks in the Audio section of the Members Area.
Now that you understand where shyness comes from more clearly and some
strategies you can used to overcoming it, you’re ready to move on to Part II of
this book, in which author K. Cotton will give you a different perspective on shyness: shyness in dating.

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Part Two: Shyness in Dating
by K. Cotton

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Shyness & Dating
Has this ever happened to you: you’re out at a club or party, you see an attractive
woman or handsome guy and you want to go up and say something... but you just
simply can’t do it because your mind is a total blank?
You’re not alone. In fact, they made a movie about this mind-blank thing, called
“Say Anything.” Of course, you don’t want to just blurt out anything because
you’re afraid you’ll say the wrong thing.
And there lies the problem: fear.

The truth is that many shy men are exactly the kind of guys women look for. But
since they’re too timid, women get left with the swaggering jerks they always
complain about but seem to date exclusively. This is a real tragedy for everyone,
since the shy men miss out and so do the women who get stuck with jerks.
The converse is true, too. There are plenty of air-headed women who are shallow
and don’t have much to offer, but since they have lots of friends and perhaps
belonged to a sorority in college, they know how to present themselves beautifully.
They also know how to be outgoing enough to talk to men. These are the “trophy
wife” women. Meanwhile, the brainy and interesting girls who happen to be
introverted and shy are sitting at home alone, sharing their unique qualities with
the internet. What a waste!

The best way to attack any problem is by addressing the root cause, and the
best way to combat fear is to build up your confidence. You’ve seen confident
people—they’re the ones who DO go up and talk to that guy or girl that you’ve
got your eye on.

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If you’ve watched them do this, you’ve seen them pull off a complete self introduction to a complete stranger with aplomb. They may even end up leaving
with that person. How do they do it? I’m going to tell you.

How to Project Confidence
Ever hear the expression, “Fake it until you make it?” Well, it’s particularly
appropriate in this case. Notice that the title of this section is not “How to
BUILD confidence”, but how to PROJECT it. Sure, it’s best if you can actually
build your self-confidence up to the level that you feel secure about approaching
an attractive woman or man.

Building confidence takes awhile, and won’t happen overnight, even though it is
the best solution. So I’m going to take you through a short-cut. This involves
projecting an attitude of confidence.
First, I want you to do some people watching. Go to a public place like a club,
bar, or mall, and start watching people. Can you tell just by watching people—
without even talking to them—who is confident and who is not? Sure you can!
The confident guy or woman—who can go up to literally anyone and just start
talking to them—walks with his head level to the ground, chin tilted slightly up.
He’s making brief eye contact with people as they walk past him, he’s got his
shoulders squared back, and he has a confident smile that says, “I know who I am
and what I can do.”

Now look around and see if you spot someone
who does NOT look confident. They’re not hard to
identify, are they?
A man or woman who lacks confidence takes smaller
steps, as if they are afraid to step large. They are
looking down at the ground to avoid having to make
eye contact. Their shoulders are rounded forwards
so that their presence is diminished.

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OK, now that you’ve analyzed what confidence looks like, I want you to practice
it. Not right out in public yet, but at home, in front of a mirror. Remember that
confident girl or guy you observed at the mall? I want you to model your body
posture and way of walking after them. This means:
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Why a slight smile? Well, think about it...if a stranger came up to talk to you,
would you be more likely to respond to them positively if they were smiling or
if they were scowling or even neutral? To increase your chances of success at
talking to strangers or first dates, you need to remember to smile. I’m not talking
about a huge, goofy grin that makes you look like an idiot, just a nice, relaxed
smile that says, “I’m a nice person.”

Once you think you have the confident look down, I want you to practice it out
in a public place where you don’t normally go, so that there probably won’t be
anyone who will recognize you. Try the confident look and walk out amo ng
strangers. Note their reactions—you’ll probably be amazed when you discover
that they’re responding much more positively to you.

Talking to Attractive Women or Studly Men
Now that you know how to act confidently, you need to know how to scope out
a potential dating interest so that you don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t
interested in you.
Upon encountering a stunning woman or studly guy, the trick is to check their
Interest Level before you spend a lot of time fantasizing about him or her. In other
words, you must determine his or her level of romantic interest in you. Sure, she
or he is hot and you’re attracted to them, but now we need to know if you’ve
actually got a shot with him or her.

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But before I give you a plan of action, we need to talk. To be quite honest and
blunt, since you’ve never talked to this person before, you can’t claim you’re
attracted because of his or her personality. Nope, it’s all about looks at this point.
You’re attracted to a look, or a sense of “chemistry,” and that’s OK.
The reason for talking is to determine if there’s any brains, character, or social
skills behind that hot façade. The ugly truth is that many beautiful women KNOW
they’re beautiful, and they’ve never had to be nice to anyone in their lives because
people have always done sweet things to them just because they’re beautiful. So
guess what? They learned early on that they don’t have to be nice.
And many good-looking guys are the same way. They know women adore them
so they don’t have to be nice. They can be a jerk and get away with it.
Keep in mind that, as of yet, you have no clue about what their personality is like
In order to qualify her in the personality department, you need to meet her and
spend some time with her. For men, the same thing applies.
Here’s a well-kept secret: most men with super-high Interest Level in a beauty
whom they’ve never met feel shy and rather flustered. Why? Because when a
Victoria’s Secret model rejects you it hurts BAD. Same thing for women, when
Ken Doll or Captain America says he just wants to be friends... rejection hurts.
So, first of all, relax. Just because you talk to someone doesn’t mean you’ll end
up marrying them. You may not even like this person once you get to know them,
and knowing that automatically takes some of the pressure off.

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What to Say
I recommend that you spend some time observing the person before you approach
them and see if you can pick up on what they’re thinking. This can often give
you a clue into an ideal first line. For example, if they’re laughing with their
friends, a good first line might be, “I just to come over here to see what the joke
was. You gals/guy look like you’re having a really good time!” If they’re staring
out the window, you might come up beside the person and stare in the same
direction and ask, “So is there something really interesting going on outside that
I’m missing?” If the person is fiddling with their drink, you might want to try
observing, “I’m sorry, but I couldn’t help but notice that you’re holding a really
interesting drink. What is it?” If they look like they’re struggling with something,
approach and ask, “Can I help you with that?”
Notice that all of these comments invite a response from the other person. They’re
friendly but not overt. They invite conversation.
Pickup lines don’t. When it comes to approaching members of the opposite
sex, don’t go for the “easy” route of the pickup line. No one hardly uses them
anymore, and they’re very hard to pull off unless you’re a naturally funny person
who can make up one anothe spot. Unfortunately, introducing yourself on the
spot doesn’t seem to work, either. Women have heard the old, “Hello, my name
is...” so many times that they find it easy to brush off the person saying it.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make, though, is to gain drunken courage.
Alcohol in small quantities (e.g., one or two drinks) can help loosen you up,
but when alcohol becomes a substitute for self-confidence, you’re developing a
dependence rather than confronting your shyness. Don’t do it.

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Dealing With Rejection
One of the biggest roadblocks to a shy man
in picking up women is fear. Fear that he will
be rejected, fear that he won’t know what
to say, and fear that he won’t know how to
act. And it’s the same way with women, to
a lesser extent.

There was a study in which women and men
were asked what they each feared most about
the other. The women’s greatest fear was that
a man would physically harm them by hitting
or beating them. The men’s greatest fear was
that a woman would laugh at them.
This may explain a lot of the dating anxiety. Women fear they’ll choose the wrong
man and get battered, men fear they’ll pick the wrong woman and be belittled.
I know you’ve heard this before, but there is nothing to fear but fear itself. Fear and
anxiety will produce distinct psychological consequences, and if there’s anything
that’s going to hinder your success in dating, it is fear.
The fear of being rejected can paralyze your attempts to pick up women or
approach men you don’t know. Accept the fact that you’re going to get rejected
some of the time. Just because you get rejected it does not make you worthless.
There can be many different reasons why someone may not be interested in you
at any given moment. Most of these reasons have little or nothing to do with you
as a person. They may be having a bad day, or they may not be looking for a
relationship. Don’t take it personally. They don’t even know you. Being rejected
is just a risk you will have to take. If you do get rejected, it’s not the end of the
world.

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Keep this in mind if you get rejected at a club. No matter how many people are
not interested in you, you must remember there are many others at clubs who
would be delighted to know you.
To overcome these fears and meet new people,
you have got to approach it like you would if
you were going to jump in a cold ocean to go
swimming. Hurl yourself into it. Take action!
You need to practice talking to people you
don’t know. Sure, you’ll get rejected a few
times. We all do. So what if you get rejected?
You may never see them again anyway. By
practicing, you’ll build up your confidence.
Also, by accepting the fact that you’re only
practicing talking to people, the pressure to
succeed won’t be so great.

Sure, you have thoughts like, “I’m too scared” or “I’m too nervous.” But here’s the
thing: pondering, stalling, postponing, and reconsidering are all delaying tactics
that impede action. If you find yourself telling yourself these lies and making
excuses, block them out of your mind immediately. There is no such thing as
“can not.” You CHOOSE to let things stop you and affect you, and dating is one
of many areas where people let their fears and negative thoughts take control. If
you can identify your negative feelings, take action and deal with them. There is a
strong and approachable person under all your fears, you just need to let it out.
Cut out the negative self-talk and don’t waste any time or you’ll see one person
after another walk right out of your life. Don’t delay trying to talk to someone or
you might find yourself delaying all your life and depriving yourself of romance
with hot & sexy single man or woman. A friend once told me that when she
looked back on her life from the age of 70, she had no regrets because she made
the most of opportunities that came her way. This is a good way to live your life.
You only get one chance, after all.

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Banish the idea that people are always watching you, sizing you up
and evaluating you. The only people who do this are shy people
who spend a lot of time fearing that they are being evaluated
negatively. The reason you think you are being watched is
because you do this to others.
The solution to breaking this habit is to stop judging and sizing
people up and you will stop thinking that others are doing
the same to you. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself trapped in a
self-perpetuating cycle that can be very destructive.
Being shy is a state of mind and can be changed with practice. The more you
describe yourself as shy, the more you believe it is who you are. Shyness stops
you from having fun. Some people even think that being shy and insecure is a
very self-centered thing, because shyness and insecurity means you’re worrying
about how other people see YOU, how they feel about YOU, and how they judge
YOU. In this worldview, it’s all about YOU.

Turn it around and begin to see that most people are shy (albeit at different
degrees) and usually waiting for someone to make the first move. Don’t you
admire those people who can go up to anyone, introduce themselves, and begin
a conversation? Well, why can’t you become that person?
Now that you know how to project confidence and some ways to start a
conversation, I have some exercises for you.

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Basic Exercises for Overcoming Shyness
1.

Practice your confident act front of the mirror. And make sure you smile.
You may think you’re smiling, but your mouth may not show it.

2.
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S ta r t sm i l i n g a t str a n g er s wh o d o n’ t i n ti m i d a te y o u .
When that becomes completely comfortable, start smiling at people who
do intimidate you, like nice-looking men or women, but not those who
you’re attracted to.

Start complimenting people who don’t intimidate you. Find something
about them like a color they’re wearing, a dress, a tie, whatever. It doesn’t
matter as long as your intention is to sincerely make them feel good.

8.

Compliment scarier and scarier people as you become comfortable with
each new level.

9.

Start flirting with people who don’t intimidate you. I don’t mean sexual
flirting. I’m talking about getting them to laugh, playing with them,
complimenting them and teasing them in nice ways.
A great way to learn to flirt in this way is to start
with kids. The same kinds of silly, friendly things
you can say to a child (or even a cute dog) is
what Friendly Flirting is all about.

10.

Flirt with scarier and scarier people.
Learn how fun it can be to bring smiles
and laughter into people’s lives.
You don’t have to be a comedian to
get people to laugh. Watch others,
rent movies that have people who
act like what I’m talking about and
practice until it’s comfortable. And
always practice each new level on
people who are completely unintimidating to you.

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Advanced Exercises for Overcoming Shyness
1.

Start conversations with strangers who don’t intimidate you: people in line
with you at the supermarket, people in parks, waitresses, and secretaries.
Whenever you want to practice, go out and find someone to talk to. Watch
what other people talk about. Notice things around you. Make comments,
ask questions.

2.

As you become more comfortable, start conversations with people who
intimidate you a bit more, like really good-looking men and women.

3.

Now that you’re pretty comfortable with other people, start walking up
to people (when it’s appropriate) and introduce yourself and begin a
conversation. It’s all about intention. You have to want it, and you have to
practice.

4.

If you practice all these steps, I guarantee you’ll get over most, if not all, of
your shyness. Sure, everyone gets insecure and intimidated occasionally,
but they simply acknowledge the feeling and go ahead and do it anyway.
You can do this if you really want to. It’s up to you to put in the time and
work.

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Men’s Top Ten Tips for Getting Over Shyness
If none of the advice above has worked for you men, here’s a quick and easy Top
Ten list you can post on your bathroom mirror as a daily reminder of how to get
over your shyness.
1.

The biggest reason for shyness is the fear of rejection Eliminate this
factor by approaching a woman or man with the express purpose of picking
them up for your friend or your brother/sister. Since your own ego isn’t at
stake, you’ll be less inhibited in your approach. You’ll see it’s no big deal
and will want to pick up for yourself next time. How do you pull this off?
Just go up, introduce yourself, chat a bit, then say you’ve got a friend or
brother you think she’d be great with and can you have her number?

3.

Don’t try to do it all at first—take small steps
It all starts with a smile; show everyone (not just the hot babes) you’re
friendly and approachable. On following days, move up to saying “hi.” A
few days after that, engage in small talk. Keep going as you gradually open
yourself up to people and see it’s not as hard as you thought. If you make
a blunder, forget about it. Most people are more forgiving than you think.
If beautiful women intimidate you, take baby steps up the hot babe scale.
Start by approaching more average-looking women you feel confident with.
As you become at ease with them, move on to prettier women, and so on.

4.

Don’t over-sexualize women so much
When you go over to talk to a woman, don’t think of her as a sexual trophy,
but as a person like yourself. Keeping things purely sexual will get in the
way of your approach. And women can sense when a guy is just after
sex.

5.

Women aren’t statues, so don’t put them on a pedestal
Like the point above, don’t attach any special significance to the woman
you talk to. If you act like she’s too good for you, she’ll likely start thinking
that as well. See her as a human being with all the flaws and qualities of
the average person. Talking one-on-one is much nicer than talking down
to or up to another person.

6.

Make sure your expectations are reasonable
When you talk to a woman, don’t expect an end goal; just go with the flow.
It’ll floor you at how much easier things get when you don’t think you have
to accomplish something by the end. If you keep your cool, the rewards
will present themselves naturally. Learn when to let things slide and when
to stand up for yourself.

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6.

Avoid taking it personally
If you want to succeed in the game of romance, you can’t take every
comment, insinuation or joke that a woman might throw your way as a
personal affront. People sometimes say things they don’t mean. You’ll
have nothing to be self-conscious about if nothing bothers you. However,
sometimes people do make inappropriate comments, in which case you
should definitely stand up for yourself.

7.

Practice listening.
Don’t do all the talking. Let women talk at length about themselves for a
while -- something that all people love to do. Ask open-ended questions
and just sit back and listen. If the conversation lulls, have new conversation
topics ready. And to ease the burden of initiating something, have a few
icebreakers handy to get the ball rolling.

8.

Talk to everyone, as much as you can
Don’t be afraid to make small talk with everyone you meet, from the old
lady who’s picking out produce to the bank teller. Practice makes perfect.
Most people secretly lament the lack of communication between people,
so your friendliness will be welcome. And if it’s not, brush it off. Those that
snub you are probably inhibited people who never took on the challenge
of overcoming their shyness.

9.

Work through your fear of rejection
Great boxers go in the ring knowing there’s a chance they’ll lose. Similarly,
you can’t expect to succeed every time. There are no guarantees in life,
so view every encounter with a woman as a positive learning experience.
The trick here is to not be self-conscious. Shyness and hesitation occur
when you think about your flaws. Instead, focus your thoughts entirely on
the woman you’re talking to. You’ll forget about your jitters and she’ll be
flattered by the attention.

10.

Get out and socialize
Join activities in which you’re talking with people, such as the gym, exercise
classes, church, a college society, or a hobby club. In these milieus, you
must always socialize, and after a while, you’ll get comfortable with it.
Furthermore, you’re practically guaranteed to meet interesting women.

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Women’s Top Ten Tips for Getting Over Shyness
1.

A little shyness is OK, but don’t let fear show.
Sure, it’s normal and prudent to be afraid of strange men. You see stories
in the paper all the time about women who have had very bad experiences
with strange men. But if you’re in a public place, with others around, let
the fear go. It’s OK to be a little shy, though—men like solving mysteries.

2.

Don’t try to be something you’re not.
If you’re not normally an extroverted beauty or drama queen, don’t try
to fake that. Just smile, talk, and be yourself. Don’t try to censor your
thoughts too much. A genuine nature is more likely to win respect and
admiration.

3.

Imagine the man is your brother, or brother’s friend
You wouldn’t be shy about talking to them, so go ahead and just treat them
as a conversational partner.

4.

Don’t ask the man too many probing questions about what he does or
what his position is.
This is a sure-fire way to be mistaken for a gold-digger and no man wants
a gold-digger. If he tells you he’s a janitor or mechanic, be OK with that if
you really like him. Judge him on his character, not his income.

5.

Make sure your expectations are reasonable
The meaning of this is slightly different than it is for men. For women, this
means that you shouldn’t expect the man to solve all your problems. Life
won’t suddenly become a wonderful, rosy place if you two get together.
There will always be problems. The questions is, are they tolerable
problems that you can work with?

6.

Don’t be overly sensitive
Men are less sensitive than women—that’s just a fact. It’s likely he’ll say
something that will hurt your feelings. If it’s something minor, the kindest
thing you can do for yourself, for him, and for the both of you is to just let
it go. If it’s major, call him on it. Do NOT just hold it inside yourself and
save it for ammunition for later. That’s not fair.

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7.

Listen.
Talking too much can turn a guy off really quickly. Avoid talking about
people he doesn’t know or topics he doesn’t care about (like fashion or
gossip). Ask him questions about himself and his interests, and listen to
what he says.

8.

Practice talking to men you don’t know
The next time you’re in a store, go ahead and chit-chat with the guy behind
the counter, or the guy who fixes your car. It can be very intimidating to
initiate a conversation with men, but know that they’re just as scared of
you as you are of them (but for a different reason.)

9.

Never ridicule or criticize the man, especially in front of others
The most important thing a man needs from a woman is respect, so don’t
make him out to be wrong. If he is wrong, use every ounce of tact you
have to suggest a better way.

11.

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Socialize at healthy places, NOT bars.
Men at bars are there for one reason—to find women to have sex with that
very night. If that’s what you want, fine, go to bars. But if you’re looking
for a relationship, go to places that are not as sexually charged, like church
groups, gaming groups, book clubs, bicycling groups, etc.

Don’t Look Like You’re Looking for Someone
This is one of the most powerful pieces of
advice I can give you. When you go out
seeking a mate, you give off a desperate,
needy vibe. Others pick up on this. No one
likes desperate, needy, clingy people.
However, people are completely fascinated by
those who act busy, with a sense of purpose,
giving off the attitude that they’re just too busy
to bother.
Anecdotal evidence from many people I’ve
talked to though the years suggests that people
have their best luck when they’re not looking
for anyone.

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About Calling After the First Date
The whole thing about calling after the first date is fraught with danger. It’s a very
controversial and tricky area. The problem is that men and women attach different
meanings to the same phrase. Here’s a sample of what I’m talking about:
When the man says: “I’ll call you.”
The woman thinks that means: He’s going to call me tomorrow—yay!
What the man REALLY meant: I’m trying to be polite here and not hurt your
feelings, so I’ll call you IF I DECIDE I want to see you again.

Here’s how this scenario can turn ugly:
1.

The man says he’ll call.

2.

The next day, he doesn’t call. The woman is slightly miffed, but trusts he
has a good reason—maybe something came up.

3.

Two days later, he still hasn’t called. Now the woman is starting to suspect
she’s been rejected, but she still holds some hope he’ll call.

4.

A week has gone by. Now the woman is quite sure she’s been rejected,
even though the man SAID he’d call. This makes her very angry.

5.
6.

Th e wo m a n c a l l s th e m a n a n d c h ews h i m o u t f o r b ei n g a l i a r .
The tragedy of it is, the man may have been about to call her, after having
thought things over.

So what can we learn from this? For you men, if
you have no intentions of calling, don’t say you
will. If you do say you’ll call, and have decided
in the meanwhile you don’t want to see her again,
call anyway and just keep it short and businesslike.
Tell her you had a good time and then say you have
to go.
For you women, if he’s said he’ll call, give him a
week. If he hasn’t called by then, assume that he’s
just not that interested and move on.

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Summary
When you leave your shyness behind, which will take time and persistence, you’ll
see how much your life will change, as you’ll begin to go after what you want
with fewer fears. And here’s a secret: should you enter a room and feel those
familiar jitters, remember that most people you meet are too busy worrying about
what others think about them to really notice and judge you.
If you have to, use the old trick of picturing everyone in their underwear. Now
they don’t look so intimidating, do they?
Now loosen up and charm away!

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This book is about my documentation of a revelation I have received that pertains to unanswered biblical questions and
the diabolical plot that will unfold in the coming one world government.This one world government has unwittingly been
masterminded and manipulated behind the scenes by an unseen diabolical being that the world today considers as a
fictitious character! In a twinkling of an eye he will reveal his true identity as he takes complete control of all religious and
economical empires world wide, demanding allegiance and worship! What he will do with his global mass worshipers in
the unseen world is ironically established upon the premises of the inability of man on a large scale to believe he even
exists! This is the plot of the redemptive scheme of Satan in redeeming his Fallen Angels!!
It is not intellectually fashionable today to believe in the actual existence of a devil, but biblical revelation says differently.
And for those who believe in the bible, this book may well provide answers for them.I personally believe that the spiritual
journey is as unique as our DNA. However, a common spiritual bond between people can make a similar journey all the
more supportive and meaningful.
If people are religiously inclined they will find this work both absorbing and interesting. It may even provide hope for
those who are disillusioned with this world. Furthermore, it may well lift the spirits of those trying to stay sane in this
world of uncertainty.
This is a well written book and Id recommend it to all of the religious among us. Even as an Agnostic myself, I found the
book to be both a captivating and intriguing read. Ive always had an interest in religion, so in the spirit of fair play, I will
give a 4 Star rating.
If you want to understand how the arts, entertainment, sports, and the internet are being used as a subtle platform for the
unleashing of the mark of the beast, you should read Satan's top secret book of the Dammed. It is an unfolding Prophecy
of an amazing spiritual encounter.
Learn how the bodies of eternally cursed humans are used as a platform for the redemptive Armageddon apocalypse
campaign and how much better off Satan will be than the demonic angels that were promised salvation. There is much
more, youll just have to read it to find out.
Satans top secret book of the Dammed explains how the destiny and quality of our lives are affected by the evil forces all
around us. The author talks about the great opportunity that mankind missed when Eve failed the test of obedience by
partaking in the fruit and caused mankind to lose a great privilege.
It discusses in detail the mark of the beast, 666, and how it is the most notorious, unsolved mystery of the bible, falling
short of the perfect number 7 by one margin. I guarantee that if you read this book, you'll find information in it that you
weren't aware of before.
Probably the most provocative book Ive read in the past several months, Courtney Williams Satan's Top Secret book of
the Dammed is definitely a jaw-dropping experience it will reel you in helplessly and make you question all the myths
youve had comfortably believed in as facts, and inspire you to re-examine so many things in your life.
At its heart, the book is a visceral re-examination of what mankind know about the Beast, aka Lucifer, and how Satan's
power to deceive has led even well-meaning people not only to worship the False Prophet but also commit unspeakable
things in what they mistakenly believe are for the good. Whats more hair-raising is the authors highly detailed revelation
of how Satan has been working behind the scenes to trick people into accepting the Mark of the Beast and how this
whole campaign waged by Evil has been happening on a global scale.
This book will make you do a double-turn and to take a long hard look at how you live as you try to find out if you haven't
been unwittingly deceived by Lucifer himself. Incredibly intriguing, this is a must-read. Get a copy of this book today and
find out how you can save yourself your loved ones may also need this, so send this book to them as a gift
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