When He's Married to Mom

How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment

Kenneth M. Adams

This book can be downloaded and read in iBooks on your Mac or iOS device.

Description

When a Woman Is in an Emotional Tug-of-War for Her Man's Heart

Why can't he commit? Many women find themselves asking this question when in love with a man who won't get married, won't stop womanizing, or refuses to give up his sex addictions. Often this kind of man is bound by an unhealthy attachment to his mother. This phenomenon is called "mother-son enmeshment." In When He's Married to Mom, clinical psychologist and renowned intimacy expert Dr. Kenneth M. Adams goes beyond the stereotypes of momma's boys and meddling mothers to explain how mother-son enmeshment affects everyone: the mother, the son, and the woman who loves him. In his twenty-five years of practice, Dr. Adams has successfully treated hundreds of enmeshed men and shares their stories in this informative guide. He provides proven methods to make things better, including:

-- Guidelines to help women create fulfilling relationships with mother-enmeshed men -- Tools to help mother-enmeshed men have healthy and successful dating experiences leading to serious relationships and marriage -- Strategies to help parents avoid enmeshing their children

When He's Married to Mom provides practical and compassionate advice to the women who are involved with mother-enmeshed men, to the mothers who wish to set them free, and to the men themselves.

From Publishers Weekly

Mar 12, 2007 – Psychologist Adams and scientist/writer Morgan revisit territory covered in Adams' first book, Silently Seduced: parents and children becoming too close. Here they focus on "men who have excessive emotional ties to their mothers. They feel trapped, guilty, and disloyal when attempting to follow their own wishes and lead their own lives." Half of the chapters are dedicated to case histories from Adams' psychological practice, outlining seven species of mother-enmeshed men (MEM): commitment-phobe, womanizer, perpetual adolescent, burned-out caretaker, cybersex addict, disappointed hero and lost man. These are followed by a questionnaire designed to determine if the reader is an MEM, and a chapter on seeking therapy. The final third of the book is dedicated to advice: for MEM to improve their interpersonal relationships, for women romantically involved with MEM, and for parents who want to avoid raising MEM. Authors Adams and Morgan offer a logical and practical survey of the Oedipus complex in the modern world.