No proposal ? anyone else

Bookmark Discussion

turtle1994 wrote:

Hey guys so me and my fiance have been engaged for over a month now and are getting married in a month! I never really got proposed too all i got was a "ok lets get married." So we set up the wedding and got the rings. Everyone keeps asking me how he proposed and I really am not sure what to say lol .

My question is are there any other girls out there the same, what do you say when people ask? I know you dont technically need a proposal I just feel a little awkward when people ask.

We talked about getting married for a bit and one day saw a ring I loved in a jewellery store and it was on sale so we said let's do it! He asked my dad for his blessing before officially announcing it. I always rag on him for it but I don't care. I like our story more then a "we'll be suprised me with fireworks etc etc" because we aren't that type of people. It's more "us". We've been married for 5 years.

No proposal for me. He called me in the other room and said here and showed me a ring in a box. Not a shocker as he is not one for making a "big" deal out of things. I never had to explain how I was proposed to, so I never really thought about it before. I do pick on him sometimes when we see something on TV that has an over the top proposal but I know that is just not him.

My father never proposed. My parents had a discussion about getting married in the fall and needing a year to plan. My mom said that would mean we should start now and my dad said ok. That's the story hahaha. He did give her an engagement ring on Christmas Eve that year (they started planning in October) but it wasn't like a big fan fare thing. They've been together for 33 years.

We had discussed it and I knew it was in the works. He asked me to describe my "perfect" ring. I told him very different things I liked - thinking I was giving him multiple options. Little did I know he scoured jewelers and then ended up having his family's jeweler make a ring to my specifications. It was weird - but he got EVERYTHING I mentioned. He even took me to see it before it was finished. One day, months later, he came over to my house and walked in with the jewelry bag and handed it to me. Boom. Engaged.

(He did call my father and ask "permission" prior... and my dad called to congratulate me before he got to my house - so zero surprises all around!).

We talked about getting married but never had any plans set in stone, if anything we were going to wait a minimum of 3 years. One morning I was getting ready for work (I'm short, I got a giant counter, and I'm almost blind as a bat so I have to get close to the mirror just to do my make up) he comes up to me smiling, grabs a handful of ass and asks "So are you going to marry me or what?". When people ask, I tell them the truth. Yeah, they all had romantic-down-on-one-knee-ring-in-a-box-at-a-fancy-restaraunt style engagement so they tend to just stare at me in silence lol

My parents have been married for 32 years. They discussed marriage in the abstract. Then one day my dad looked it my mom and said "okay I guess we should get married now." They did have a nice wedding but my mom even borrowed my aunt's (dad's sisters) wedding dress. A proposal and a wedding are just a day. The marriage is what you want to last forever. There is plenty of room and time for romance in your marriage.

My husband rolled over in bed one morning and handed me a closed ring box and said "sooooo do you wanna get married or what?" And that's exactly what I tell people. Neither him or I are showy, overly romantic people - the proposal was exactly what I wanted. Just tell people the truth!

My husband and I talked about getting married a lot, one day we decided to go ahead and do it. I don't care much for the proposal but he does. He is always asking me about how I want my engagement ring to look like and all the details. He still wants to propose and give me a big wedding next year. I don't want to plan a thing so he will hire a wedding planner for it. I don't care much for these things personally because we are already a family and happily married. He got me a beautiful ring and I know he will get me an even better one.

DH went out one night with a friend, came home somewhat intoxicated at around 3 or 4 in the morning, and after he came to bed (a friends' sofa bc we were out of town) he asked me how I would feel abt marriage. So not the down on one knee thing, there was no ring (he's not American so engagement rings are not such a big deal). I hate engagement rings and diamonds anyway... our wedding rings are titanium.

My husband was cutting the lawn one day, stopped , came inside and started folding up paper. I was like wtf are you doing?? And he folded a ring out of paper, wrote I.o.u. Ring on it and asked me to marry him. Not quite the proposal story people expect but it was funny. I said yes and still have my paper ring in our fire safety safe haha

My husband says proposals are kinda pointless if you really love each other. There was no question in either of our heads so why ask haha. We just set up a date with the pastor and became one in the eyes of the lord :)

No big proposal for us we discussed it over a period of time and eventually decided we should lol we're not overly romantic people so it worked for me wouldn't change a thing we also got married a week later in his grandmothers beach with about 20-30 family and friends wouldn't change a thing it's all about what you want and what works for you as a couple for some people it's all about the proposal and wedding day and the show for me it's about the marriage and the couple

I love all of your stories. My SO is not very romantic but I am (but I'm also very low key). We talk about getting married one day and I always imagined getting a formal proposal one day but he's not from North America so it's foreign to him. Hearing your stories helped me realize what's really important. The person I love and want to be with also wants to be with me. Thank you for sharing.

He never promised to me because I didn't want an engagement ring! I'm not a fan of wearing rings. I wear my wedding band daily and now wonder if I could have adjusted to an engagement ring. Maybe? I'm fine without it and nobody asks after a few months engaged.

OMG! I forgot that the first time my husband asked to marry me was about 4 months into dating. He came over to my house, walked in with a ring pop and "popped" the question. Your story made me go into an older jewelry box - and I still have it too! Thank you for reminding me!

The material on this website is provided for educational purposes only and is not to be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, or in place of therapy or medical care. Use of this site is subject to our terms of use and privacy policy.