What the Body Language of Men Tells Us

When you think about it, body language is incredibly important when it comes to all sorts of situations. When you’re on the train or bus, you can tell a lot about how the people around you are feeling based on how they adjust themselves or move out of your way. In the workplace, you can get a good idea of how someone feels about what you’re saying by the way they sit or how open their posture is. And when it comes to dating, body language can give you a lot of insight too.

You can tell a lot from a man’s body language—whether or not he’s interested, whether or not he wants to kiss you, or whether or not he’s engaged in the conversation.

To help you unlock the secrets behind what his body is telling you, here are a few of the key things to look while you’re with a man.

Raised EyebrowsIs he raising his eyebrows a lot? Eyebrows are one of the main features of a face that help makes a facial expression. If he’s amused or being flirtatious, he’ll be raising his eyebrows frequently. If he’s irritated or concerned or curious about what you’re saying, he’ll raise one eyebrow or frequently downturn his brows.

Eye ContactEye contact can really make or break a date or romantic interaction. If you’re on a date with a man and he’s excellent at making eye contact, that’s a very good thing. If you can tell he’s looking at you even while you’re looking away, that’s another clear sign that he’s interested. However, don’t discount him if he’s not great at eye contact. Some people are nervous, shy, or haven’t learned the importance of good eye contact. If he’s looking at you a lot it’s a good sign, but if he’s not, it’s not neccessarily bad news.

Parted LipsLips are easily one of the most erotic parts of the entire body. Have you caught him subtly licking his lips? Or watching yours while you talk? Is he parting his lips while you two are close? Lips are a key element to a good date, so watch his and see what they do.

Hair TossesIs he tousling his hair frequently? While it can be a nervous tick (which can also be a good sign), it can also be a sign of flirtation. If he has a thick head of hair and is consistently drawing attention to it, chances are he wants you to notice.

Bumping KneesThough knees don’t scream sexy to most of us, the act of using your knee to be flirty certainly does. If you two are sitting next to one another and his knee keeps “accidentally” bumping into yours, chances are it’s no accident. Brushing knees is just an excuse to be one inch or two closer to you. If he (or you) lets your knees linger together, that’s an even clearer sign that he’s feeling it. No doubt about it, he wants to be close to you.

Pointing FeetFeet are a subtle part of body language, but a really important one. If you’re in a group of people and the object of your affection has his feet pointed toward you, it may just be a sign that he’s trying to get your attention. On a date, or in a situation where it’s just the two of you, his feet pointing toward you let’s you know he’s engaged.

Relaxed PostureIf you’re in a tense situation, your body is not going to be relaxed. If you’re having a great time, chances are your shoulders are laid-back, your mind is at ease, and all of that is reflected in how you hold yourself. If this guy you’re with seems chill, chances are he feels comfortable around you and wants to continue to get to know you. Check for signs that he’s at ease and not tense—shoulders aren’t high, legs aren’t perfectly rigid, he hasn’t ringed his hands or played with them too often,.

You can learn a lot from body language, especially if you’re trying to feel out how someone feels about you. If you’re interested in a man, check for the aforementioned signs and use your gut. You’re probably not misreading the situation. And always check for the genuine smile. It’s a giveaway.

Freelance Writer

Jess Tholmer has been writing on the internet for what feels like most of her life. After studying English Literature in school, she has leaned into her degree and is a full-time content writer, social media manager, and freelance contributor to websites like HelloGiggles.com. You can find her @tholmz on Twitter and Instagram!