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need some advice!!!!! asap...and dont troll me or anything plz

so me and my husband have been together four years and i recently left him for a couple of months and i met a new guy(who also is married)....i am back with my s\o and i am still talking to my "friend"...we live 17 hours away from each other but when i do go back to la i might go see him again....i dont know how to stop thinking about him or what ever

do you love your husband and want to still be with him? If so then you should try to work things out with him if not then you need to make up your mind because its not easy to find the one you love like they say never leave the one you love for the one you have lust for or like because they will leave you for the one that they love.

I'm going to give it to you straight. When ever you start thinking of the other guy, stop and think about another woman playing "mommy" to your child(ren). If you leave your husband for good, then he has a right to move on and he will eventually meet someone else, someone you don't know, someone who may or may not be the kind of person you want around your child, someone who may or may not treat your child kindly....and you will have zero control over it.

AND get ready to "visit" you child on holidays, weekends, summers, and birthdays. EVEN IF you have full custody, you will have to split all those events with your ex - Are you ready to wake up on your child's birthday only to have to send him/her over to his dad's house for the entire day? Are you ready to wake up on Christmas morning to silence because your child(ren) is with their father and not you??

Unless your husband is abusive or unfaithful or you just do not Love him anymore forget the other man and work on your marriage. There is a reason he is your husband. at one time you must have lved him. Relive that reason and try to keep your relationship.