Children know right from wrong

It comes as no surprise that some pro-abortion feminists are finding they can’t quite bring themselves to tell their children about their own abortions. This story in Yahoo News is an important read and I hope you can all find the time to read it in its entirety. But some lines jumped out at me and I would like to talk about those.

The author, Raven Snook, is a writer who emcees burlesque shows, according to her website. The fact that she’s so edgy, so out there, makes it very telling that even she couldn’t answer her 9-year-old daughter when she asked if she had ever been pregnant before.

I’ve never been secretive about my abortion. My friends and family know and I’ve even performed a monologue about it onstage. I’m unabashedly pro-choice and I’ve talked with my child in an age-appropriate manner about sex, pregnancy, birth control, and the fact that women have the right to decide if and when they become mommies. Yet when it came to revealing my own abortion — a necessary conversation so that my daughter views it as a personal choice, not a political one — I panicked.

Could it be she was worried her daughter wouldn’t see the intentional killing of her older sibling as either a political choice or a personal one but would instead discern the truth? That this child, with the same 23 chromosomes and maybe the same eyes and smile, was killed simply because he or she was inconvenient?

Ms. Snook mentions that she threw herself into mothering her chosen child “with zeal.” Could it be that, having shown her daughter her super-mom side, she can’t find the words to explain how one of her children could be so different from the next. How on earth do you say, “I aborted your sibling, but oh darling, I really wanted to have you! That is a terrifying thing for a child to hear. What might happen, they wonder, if they fail to measure up to Mommy Dearest’s expectations? What happens if they become inconvenient?

The fact that Ms. Snook’s daughter asked the question in the first place is an indication she already had intuited that someone was missing from their family portrait. Sibling survivors often do. The Canadian psychiatrist and abortion trauma expert Dr. Philip Ney once told me a story about a woman who brought her daughter to him to get to the cause of her bed wetting. In a private conversation, the mother told Dr. Ney she had had two abortions before giving the right to life to this daughter. When the doctor asked the girl to draw a picture of her family, she drew a family with three children.

“It’s quite clear that children are affected,” he said. “They have existential guilt that they shouldn’t be alive when their siblings were aborted. They feel guilty for existing. They don’t trust people. They have pseudo-secrets. They have a long list of difficult problems.” Dr. Ney also talks of how abortion can afflict families for generations: The grandmother has had an abortion, the mother has had an abortion, the daughter has or will have an abortion.

This phenomenon also impacts sibling survivors. “Abortion survivors don’t want to have children,” he said. If they don’t deal with their feelings, they can grow up into narcissistic adults, modeling the behavior that led their mother or father, or both, to see their older sibling as inconvenient and disposable.

In the Yahoo News story, Ms. Snook quotes another post-abortion pro-choice mother about her experience when she told her two kids, including a 10-year-old son, about their missing sibling.

After discussing sperm banks and pregnancy, the topic turned to abortion, specifically hers. “‘It’s one of the choices people can make if they get pregnant and can’t take care of the baby for whatever reason,’ I told them. I felt the whole temperature of the car change. Maybe I was projecting but I saw a look pass on his face that went ‘whoa.’ The statement made an impact. But being open about it, you normalize it.”

Her last statement, about normalizing the experience, is nothing but wishful thinking on her part. But the temperature of the car changing and the look on his face? Those were spot-on observations.

It is my hope that Ms. Snook will one day seek healing for her abortion just like many women do on a daily basis as they visit our website www.AbortionForgiveness.com where they can find an abortion recovery program in their area. Also, Dr. Ney has written about how to tell your child about your abortion and you can view his work at www.Messengers2.com. Remember, to a child, there is nothing normal about the murder of their brother or sister. Children know right from wrong.

2 Responses to “Children know right from wrong”

Hi there,
I hope you don’t mind asking you a few questions regarding your views on abortion. For me, its quite simple what you stand for: A womans right NOT to choose. Its quite interesting that not many of the Pro-lifers are not mentioning or want to discuss the consequences to a woman who is forced to bring a child to this world unwanted, cause thats just what it is.

Its very simple. You are “PRO-life”. I can then ask you what a life is worth if I am taken away all the rights to decide for myself. The life of a woman, who has gained knowledge thru out her life, tackled difficulties, had millions of experiences forming her to what she is today, and now, she had made the decision to NOT have a child that she can’t or want take care of, and made a decision that she can’t give this child all the love that it deserves, because its unwanted. How can anyone argue against that decision?
You dare writing about “Human rights violation”. Tell me what is not a human rights violation if you by FORCE telling a woman, she must feel, she must love, she is not a human herself enough to make that decision. It is a human right violation against the woman, and NOT the fetus and i am soo astoned that you can’t see that.

If a child gets sick and needs a transplant from he’s mother does the woman have the right to say no to that transplant or are YOU going to step in and tell her that she is forced to donate her own kidney?

And yes, the fetus in her womb, does NOT have the same rights as the mother who can make designs on what is best for herself AND her unborn child. Its does not have a choice simple because of the fact that it is just a fetus who CANT make decisions what is best for the mother and the fetus…How can that be so unclear to you?

I also ask you to think about this situation, IF a mother is by force giving birth to a child she does not want, there IS a possibly, that she will not be able, or want to give this child a good life, and yes I am sorry but you can NOT go in and force people to feel anything. It is a HUMAN RIGHT to feel and does NOT come by force. Is there a slight possibility, that the mother, even though she did her best and talked to hundreds of people about it, could feel so bad and end up in a depression that made her hurt herself OR her child? If there is ANY possibility of this to happen, then I think we can end the debate right now.

How can you tell another person that you don’t have the slightest idea of who she is for what she has gone through, to have a child that is not wanted? A child should be WANTED. That is LIFE. The so called “pro-life” you are behind is the absolute opposite of life.

A child ONLY deserves to be born in to this world with all the love it can get from the parents or the mother alone. It deserves to start their life welcomed and wanted and planned. How can anyone argue with that?

You are violating the womans every right to be a human being and make decisions based on the fact that she can’t give this child a good life. Its NOT murder. Its a DECISION a HUMAN BEING has made because she is mature enough to realize she won’t be able, whatever the reasons are, that neither YOU or ME or ANYONE ELSE should involve themselves with.

A mature woman, who decided she cant or don’t want to or unable to give everyone a child deserves. to be brought to this world wanted and loved. A breathing, thinking, reasonable, loving and caring PERSON gets to decide. NOT YOU.