This is so bogus - why on earth has your size got even the slightest thing to do with whether you are pretty? Are you saying that fat people can't be pretty? Are you saying that being a thin person makes you "better" than being a fat person? Are you saying that fat girls don't get hit on - hello?! They do, plenty, if they truly believe they are beautiful as they are. What matters is that you love and respect yourself, whatever your size. People who look positively on themselves find love from others without even trying - wonderful and adorable people come in all shapes and sizes.<br /><br />The values exhibited by the founder of this Experience Group make me very sad for society as a whole.

Please YOURSELF, be kind and honor your body, it's yours....forget the jealous people, they have their own agendas. (they probably feel pressured to improve themselves but do not want to commit to the work it takes, so, they get mean spirited) Consider it "their problem"

I lost a lot of weight a year and a half ago (have since put it back on :( ) and I felt amazing physically. But there was a part of me that didn't really recognise the 'slim' me and didn't really accept her. My parents thought I'd become anorexic, which is partially true because I had gone off food completely, eating very little but this was not a conscious decision. I didn't have the urge to eat anymore. But I felt physically completely healthy (I was going through a lot of weird mental/emotional/spiritual stuff) and fit and strong and energetic. Whenever I ate - maybe grazing on little bits of food a few times a day or having one light meal a day - it was really healthy, delicious food like elaborate salads with nuts and fruit in them, mostly raw vegetables and things like that. But even though it was yummy, I didn't want to eat much. My parents took me home from college, insisting that I was starving myself, and as soon as I got to their house, I got 'down'/kind of depressed, started overeating and comfort eating like I always used to. Since then, I put back on all the weight I'd been so happy to lose and have trouble eating a healthy diet and looking after my weight and physical body. <br />I never understood why I was uncomfortable being a healthy weight that time, though. Maybe I was afraid of the negative reactions from other people (even though I got none at all), like sophique says...

I agree with most of you that your size shouldn't make you who you are. But the sad truth is is that people DO judge you according to your weight. Do you think that a fit and active 30 year old male would hit on a female who was 30 lbs or more overweight? Weight is considered "extra baggage" to most people and it's baggage that is optional. I have been on both sides of the spectrum when it comes to weight. I used to wear a size 5 jeans five years ago. Today, I am in a size 17. I am the only one to blame for this significant weight increase. I am the only one who can change myself. Does weight make me who I am? No. Does it have an impact on the way people view me? YES! I can remember being hit on by several people in one day back when I was in a size 5, even on up to 12. It stopped when I reached a size 15. When all the attention stopped, I noticed it! Who wouldn't notice, right. I turned it around on myself and became very depressed and gained even more weight. So, weight does in a sense make you who you are. People DO look past you when you're over weight. They don't take you seriously as a person. I feel like people don't take me serious anymore. I need to get on the health wagon again. To change how I feel about myself. When you live in a society that focuses in size 4 models like they are hot ****, it does have an impact on females and it's supposed too. That is why I shared this experience because I'm tired of people telling me "you have pretty eyes"...Or "you're beautiful, but...".....I want to be beautiful and feel beautiful again.....& I felt that way when I was at a lesser weight.

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