My DH and I have been together for 13 years, married over 7 now. We have a son, 4 years old. He decided last fall that he wanted to join the National Guard. He left 3 weeks ago and is currently at basic.

I'm an absolute mess on the inside. We were babies basically when we married! He's all I know! Thankfully I have a great support system with my family, but I feel so alone. I have a pain in my gut constantly. I have only gotten 2 phone calls: one the night he arrived and another on my son's birthday that lasted a total of 57 seconds.

Anyway, I don't have anyone around that understands. My co-workers just look at me with sad eyes and turn away when they notice me crying (they're not mean, they just don't know what to say). Hoping I can come here for some support and maybe answers to any questions!

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Any Marine JAG wives?http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/5283060/any-marine-jag-wives
Wed, 28 Jul 2010 16:30:37 +0000Military Nestiescatemeg5283060@/discussionsMy boyfriend is a law student, and a 2nd Lt in the USMC. When he graduates, he'll be a Judge Advocate. I've spoken to USMC soldiers and their wives, I've spoken to JAG Officers and their wives from other branches, but I have yet to meet a Marine JAG wife. And I know it's different than other MOS in the Marines, and it's different than JAG from other branches.

We're planning to get married in 2012 right after he takes the bar exam and before he reports for TBS... if there's anyone who has been through this, I would love to hear what to expect!

Are there any military nesties in NC, particularly Wilson? I'd love to learn more about the area, schools, etc. I will be starting a job in October where I can work from home anywhere in the US, so I can easily pick up and move without worrying about income.

I just received orders to Little Rock AFB, AR and will report in May 13. I was hoping I could receive some helpful info on where it's best to live. I would prefer away from the base and closer to Northern Little Rock. Any advice will be appreciated. Thank you!

Here is my situation: I have two children with my ex-husband who is currently active duty Navy. He claims both children as dependents and has them listed on his page 2. I am now married to an active duty Marine ( I know, I know.... I am medically retired Navy so I'm not one of those benefit chasers... I can't help that I like a man in uniform ). Well my Husband just received orders to Hawaii but the USMC will not pay for the children to go because they are not his dependents. They told us they only way that the kids could go to Hawaii is if their Father takes them off of his Page 2/DEERS/ETC. From what I understand you can't remove eligible dependents, even if he wanted to cooperate with us. He doesn't mind them going to Hawaii, he just doesn't want his BAH to change. I have primary custody of both kids. According to the JFTR because I have primary physical custody we (their stepdad and I) can put them on his BIR, but I don't know if that is the case when they are already claimed by another active duty member.

Here is my question: Can the kids be listed on both BIR and page 2? one for dependent status and the other for.... informational purposes as step children??

Is there any one out there who has been through this or can point me in the right direction? No one has been able to give me a straight answer so I'm hoping I can find someone who has been through it to offer some advice.

1. Do you know anyone/have you experienced separation due to PT failure? How long does it usually take from failure to discharge orders? I am trying to gauge how much time I have left to work.

2. I am a 2nd year teacher and I am under contract with the local school district. I have never PCS'd while working for a school district. I am wondering if anyone has had to cancel (there's probably a better word) their contract mid year? I'm concerned it would affect how new employers would see me? How did your administration take the news? I have a principal who runs hot and cold and am nervous about telling her.

my fiance and i are getting married in june and he is re-enlisting into the army as a helicopter pilot. he has been in 8 years already in the infantry, and has decided he wants to be back in for the next 14 years until retirement.

just wondering what i should expect in alabama? hopefully meet some people before making the big move

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Newly Wed MilToMil, advice?!http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12015293/newly-wed-miltomil-advice
Thu, 01 May 2014 12:17:13 +0000Military NestiesMomoChun12015293@/discussionsSo myself and my husband just got married on the 14th of April (Yay!), and have been trying to get everything done (Were miltomil) so that were in each others DEERS and such... Yesterday he found out that he can move out off base and get an apartment. I myself do not plan (Ok forgot to say he is in Virginia and I am in Connecticut, both E-4 USN), to move out just yet. Im waiting until we can be stationed together.

Is his moving out a good idea for us to start getting an apartment ready for us when I move down there or should he wait untill my time to move gets closer. I wouldnt be able to put in for co-location untill August, so my moving there wouldnt even THINK of happening until MAYBE November this year.

I feel like we hardly ever see each other, y'know? We were discussing today how it's impossible to keep the house clean and be motivated to do chores when we get home and wondering how we're going to be any better once kids start getting in the picture. I was wondering if any of you guys had any suggestions. I don't know if there are any mil to mil marriages here, too, but any advice AT ALL would be wonderful at this point!]]>
When to go for help? Where to go for help?http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12017265/when-to-go-for-help-where-to-go-for-help
Tue, 24 Jun 2014 02:25:44 +0000Military NestiesNavyNuke12017265@/discussionsI'm stationed in Charleston (in the process of a med board)

He's stationed in Washington State.

Things are great except for, and I KNOW most of you have this issue.

I havent slept a good nights sleep since I got back from leave visiting him.

I don't sleep well without him. I maybe get like 5-6 hours. I'll get 7-8 on a good night. I NEVER feel rested. (I've tried going allotting myself 10 hours to sleep all the way down to 5 hours, doesnt seem to matter) I have no trouble staying asleep but the whole falling asleep part...

It's not as bad on nights when we can skype or talk, but when he's on duty or underway (sometimes I'll get a email before bed) sleep doesnt come until around balls or 0100. I have a cat and things have gotten better since I adopted her back in Feb. (he PCSed in December/Jan)

I doubt this will ever go away, and thirty years from now when he's on a business trip or I'm on one Im pretty sure the whole not sleeping will still be there.

It's not like he's in any danger either. He's stationed on a carrier and hasnt even been on deployment yet.

My not sleeping comes from, I think, I grew up in a house with 3 siblings, both parents, and two dogs, ALWAYS.

Now it's just me and my cat. I don't do well with roommates and getting a dog is out of the question as I'll be moving to Washington state here pretty soon and the only dogs that both me and my husband want are quite large and traveling over 3000 miles would be too stressful on the dog.

Anywho.... Should I be finding someone to talk to, mental health maybe?

I feel like this is normal, but at the same time insomnia is insomnia, I think.

Help please?

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Can Being A "Bad" Military Wife Make You A Better Wife In General?http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/8743605/can-being-a-bad-military-wife-make-you-a-better-wife-in-general
Wed, 16 Jan 2013 10:31:38 +0000Military NestiesDomestiphobicKatie8743605@/discussionsHey military nesties,

I'm curious to know what you think, either here or on the blog: Do we start to lose our own identities when we take the role of "military wife" too seriously? (Please read the link before you answer that question - that way you know where I'm coming from.) This is NOT intended to be snarky or promote stereotypes - just an interesting, adult conversation about what it means to be a military wife. (If there are any husbands on this board, feel free to chime in, too! And I'd also be curious to know what the Active Duty members here think about it.)

Her husband was sworn in 10 days ago. She's already proving to be one of the people who take their husband's military involvement over the top. Minutes after he was sworn in she was on facebook "WHOO, I'M AN ARMY WIFE". Prior to him even being sworn in she started a blog about their "new life". (her words, not snarkiness!)

We live in an area with a heavy military population, we're 30 minutes from base. I have friends who have husbands in the service and they don't act like her, so I don't know how to respond to her.

She's started coming to me complaining (for lack of a better term) about how hard this all is. Keep in mind he hasn't left for bootcamp yet, and won't for a few months. I'm at a loss for what to say to her. She's started asking why I never comment on her facebook posts about "their new life choice" (again, her words not snarkiness). She posts about it on Facebook at least once a day. All of her friends say things like "You're so strong/Everyone should look up to you/I don't know how you do it". I cannot make myself say those things. I've tried. I know it sounds stupid, but I can't make myself lie to anyone's face like that.

Any suggestions of how I could go about talking to her and making her feel heard when she wants to lay it all on me?

My DH is prior enlisted with the Air Force, and has been with the National Guard for 2 years now. Last week he commissioned into the Navy and our first duty station is NS Mayport. I did a search of this board and it's been a few years since this area was discussed.

We're PCSing to NS Mayport in May. Looking for recommendations on where we should focus our home search as well as preschools, childcare and any other pertinent information about that area and the base. I heard they have a really nice fitness center - does anyone use it? Do you know if they provide childcare?

Any helpful tips as we make this transition would be awesome - thanks!

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tips for planning for a pcs with tdy en route?http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12011531/tips-for-planning-for-a-pcs-with-tdy-en-route
Mon, 03 Feb 2014 04:31:29 +0000Military Nestiesnavywife10512011531@/discussionsNewbie/Newlywed Navy Wife-Staying in TXhttp://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12010281/newbie-newlywed-navy-wife-staying-in-tx
Thu, 09 Jan 2014 17:30:46 +0000Military NestiesForeverAnchored2612010281@/discussionsMy husband is in the process of enlisting into the ARMY..... What to expect?http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12009815/my-husband-is-in-the-process-of-enlisting-into-the-army-what-to-expect
Wed, 01 Jan 2014 18:07:45 +0000Military NestiesDangreg9312009815@/discussionsHello! I could use some advise from experienced army wives. My husband and I are 20 about to turn 21 over summer... just got married 3 months ago and my husband has decided to enlist in the army. He really wants to go active but because of me he is considering doing reserve... I want to be supportive and let him do what he really wants but at the same time I'm scared he will get deployed and who knows when will happen to him. Plus we have no children so I will be living alone. I know its a great opportunity for him and our future family Im just scared. What should I do? what are pros and cons? what should i expect?