(Closed) Brideslave vent

I LOVE my BFF. She’s seriously the most amazing friend ever and I would do anything in the world for her and I know she’d do the same for me.

That said… as a bride, she is making me INSANE!

After happily spending FOUR DAYS cutting, ironing, sewing, ironing again and top-stitching a bazillion triangles for her bunting to go around all the tables at her reception, she texts me that she found MORE fabric that she wants to incorporate. It’s a new accent color, so she wants it in the bunting as well. I explained that I would have to undo everything I’d already done and reusing the same binding would end up looking like crap up close, but she’s so freaking excited about the new fabric she doesn’t seem to care. Why are you adding a new accent color NOW when you’ve been engaged well over a year and we’re 2 weeks from the wedding?!

The very next day she asked if I could make my famous truffles for the dessert table. Now, I offered to make truffles as her favors MONTHS ago but she opted for something different. I offered THEN thinking I could do it in stages and not be stressed out about it. Now she decides she wants them for the dessert table and her reception is in two weeks. Two weeks during which I have to REDO all the bunting I just made.

ARG!! I love her and I will do it without complaining & stressing her out but Bees…. do NOT do this to your bridesmaids!

@MexiPino: actually, your friend ventured into bridezilla territory a long time ago. I’m not making my bridesmaids do anything except wear matching dresses to my wedding. Since when does being a bridesmaid include manual labor? She is taking total advantage of you and I promise she will not repay you when it’s your turn (by then she’ll be too busy nursing or something.). Nicely tell her that you are way too busy at the moment to make any changes. Period. Stop letting this selfish, self-obsessed woman walk all over you. Wow. I’m shocked that people have the nerve to demand so mfrom of a friend. Wow.

Oh GOD! Thats not OK! As a bride if I realized that you’d already finished it, game over… I’d figure out something else to do with the new fabric… and truffles 2 weeks before the wedding? Oh heck no! Can you tell her that she’ll have to pick one or the other because you just wont have enough time to do both without dying? If she’s a great friend she will totally understand and admit that she just got a little caught up in the excitement. I hope you dont have to do all that!!

Could you incorporate the new material into the table decor in some other way, like as a runner or something? Otherwise I would just straight up tell her no. Asking you to redo something that labor intensive two weeks before the wedding is a step too far. I am doing a lot of DIY for my wedding, but my bridesmaids are involved on a strictly voluntary basis.

What a bridezilla! That’s just NUTS! You’re a much nicer person than I am, OP, because I would most likely sit her down, give her a pair of scissors, a needle, a thread and her precios new fabric and say something like “Here, make new bunting, have fun! And while you’re at it, make the truffles too, here’s the recipe!”

The girl needs a big reality check. If I ever go this crazy I hope my future Maid/Matron of Honor kicks me where it hurts!

@Mars62312: Just venting. I’m expecting all the old “Bridesmaids don’t have to do anything” stuff…. I know that, but I also think you choose your best friends and bridesmaids and your best friends are who you ask to do you favors when you’re stressed out planning the biggest party of your life. I’m annoyed and might say no to the bunting re-do, but only maybe.

@daisyfay: Ooo… the bunting is for the dessert, guestbook & gift tables and I hadn’t really thought about being able to include the new fabric as a runner on those. That’s a really good idea that I will run by her. Seriously, the truffels are annoying but the thought of tearing apart the bunting that I was so proud to have gotten done early was kind of killing me. Thanks!

@BrandNewBride: Yeah, I’ll definitely not feel bad about her having to plan my future bridal shower alone since my other bridesmaids are either completely useless when it comes to those things or out of state. I swear, sometimes I think I want to have a baby just to make all the women I’ve thrown baby showers for pay me back!

@Charliejeorge: Yeah, I think I’m going to take another bee’s suggestion and pitch the idea of the new fabric as a table runner. If she says no to that I’m going to just say I really can’t undo the bunting (ripping the seams out will actually take a really long time) so she’s going to have to come up with something else if she wants the truffles done too. Bleh.