I haven't been able to warm to Chelsy either, and I'm not entirely sure why.

I don't have any problems with Chelsy but I don't really see her being able to settle into being the wife of a senior royal and the goldfish bowl existence that that entails - a bit like Sarah - too independent to give up her own ambitions and spend her life cutting ribbons and being criticised for her clothes.

I agree with your assessment, Iluvbertie. At times, she seems to be torn between wanting to be with Harry and disliking the Royal lifestyle. At least, that's the impression that I've gotten.

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Originally Posted by Iluvbertie

I don't have any problems with Chelsy but I don't really see her being able to settle into being the wife of a senior royal and the goldfish bowl existence that that entails - a bit like Sarah - too independent to give up her own ambitions and spend her life cutting ribbons and being criticised for her clothes.

She could try to keep her job, but she'd have to be careful as to the work she'd be involved in as to avoid any hint of Royal influence. The Royal Family tried the being Royal and holding a career with Edward and Sophie, but it went down in flames for both. Even though Chelsy is not married to the heir to the Throne, she would be expected to make Royal appearances, if not, I can see the public and press grumbling about her not "doing her Royal duty." She would be an immediate family member and married to third in line until William has children. Unlike the minor Royals, it seems to me that it's very hard to be independent and have a career in the main Family.

Would Chelsy not be allowed to keep her job as a lawyer if she married Harry?

It would be very difficult - she could of course become the Royal Family's own lawyer but she would have to be careful about who her clients were to avoid any chance of being seen to be supporting one side of politics or the other.

I think the concern for Chelsy is that she is a bright young woman with a fabulous career a head of her, and there is some concern that she might not want to give it up or if she did, she would regret it later.

I have said it before that I don't think Chelsy is right for Harry...because it appears that she hates the attention that goes along with dating a Royal. In addition, I don't think she dislikes England but I don't think she loves it. If you had to choose between sunny and warm Africa and sunny, rainy and now snowy England who would you choose? She had to like it somewhat or love Harry a lot to choose school in England. I am sure there are excellent law schools in Africa. Plus she can be Chelsy in Africa and in England she is the girl who dates Harry and every aspect of her life is open for discussion. As people have said about Kate, if she can't handle it now its not going to get better.

It will be like Sarah and Diana all over again hopefully with a better ending. As the wife of the son of the future King and brother of a future King, she will be expected to do royal duties. And she will be constantly compared to William's wife....whether its Kate or not.