A painful divorce / separation can unfortunately leave us in a constant state of sensory deprivation. I know I was unable to feel any sense of joy or take any interest in the passing of the Seasons. If the Sun was shining I felt nothing especially the idea that it could warm me just as much as it could any other soul. It was impossible to look skywards when I was constantly looking down at the shoes on my feet or inwards at the source of agony. Summers passed me by. My heart had been frozen into the shock and cold tremble of Winter. I waited for alternative kind of Spring which I somehow knew

When my daughter was twelve I became a single father. I was working, and I was alone to manage my responsibilities as a home maker, father and full time worker. I was separated for several years leading up to my divorce. Some might dispute my definition of my status. Was I single? well yes I was, was my daughter’s mother around? yes for a time.

I feel it’s important to share my story however as I continue to read many articles about working mother’s, single mother’s and single working mothers and hardly hear anything from the male perspective when men are similarly affected. Of course “men

I've been having long conversations lately with recently separated men, both of whom have gone straight to the dating scene, fearing loneliness. (And also looking for sex.)And some women feel the same.I can imagine that if you are recently separated and all alone, you may be feeling sorry for yourself, especially in this freezing whether!I'm a few years down the line now and - not to gloat, but to give hope - I've just had a lovely evening all by myself. The last of my children is off at uni now and I live alone for the first time in over 30 years. Admittedly, my boiler has not packed in, and