Friday, April 17, 2009

Moral Dilemma

I like to think I live the kind of life that my mother would be proud of. My parents have taught me correct principles and have let me govern myself....pretty sweet situation right? Every now and again I will receive an offer that sounds like fun....however when I break it down in my mind I get....weird...(talk about weird...) hot sweats, cold sweats, fingernail sensitivity, difficulty breathing difficutly swallowing (I'm totally joking...for those of you who quote movie lines in everyday conversation or blogging...that was from "What about Bob" a classic). No, but really I get lazy, or irritated. Let's break it down. It's friday night...I really don't have anything else to do. A FREIND of mine asked me out...do i really wanna go...not really. Should I....I'd have to actually get ready...you know...apply myself...do my hair kinda thing....Guys, it's not like I have anything else to do tonight....free dinner and movie on one hand....stay home (in my sweats and hair in a ponytail) on the other hand. So I accepted....now...it's friday evening...I want to get out of it.....here's the dilemma....do I make up an excuse or tell the truth? My excuses are seriously the bomb dot com. I have the ability to talk/excuse my way out of pretty much anything (i'm not bragging...it's the truth...sigh). Can you imagine me telling this guy the truth i.e. "Hey ya....thank you so much for the offer to take me to a restaraunt of my choice followed by a movie of my choice eventhough it may be a chick flick and you might not have any interest in it at all...but uh....i think I'm gonna stay home and stare at the wall....maybe refill my dad's water jug when he needs it refilled. Yeah thanks...I'm set." SAD! In my day and age and also in my culture we are urged to be honest...."Honesty is the best policy" but...is it really? What would you rather here (yourself) "You know what....I need to stay home tonight and help my sister out with a project that is due on Monday" (not an excuse I would use..this is just an example...my excuses are so much better)...or "I'm lazy and really have no desire to see you"....guys....that is the moral dilemma...ugh!

You know the funny thing about going out? You actually have the most fun when you are just yourself, and don't even have to worry about trying to impress somebody else...You just go for the heck of it, and whatever happens, happens...When I started dating my husband, he asked me out and I actually told him that I would date him but that I also was not interested in him and did not want a serious relationship, etc,etc, etc.. (Pretty stuck up response, huh?) and so when he would take me on a date, I would actually just wear whatevers, and just be myself, and funny thing is that we would enjoy our time together..this is because us girls always put up a sort of invisible brick wall when we are all set for the night, that we cant really let the guys have a chance in really understanding what we really are saying or doing, etc.. I will tell you that though you dont feel like it, this is what you will get out of it if you do go:-a possibly good time-free food and movie (now how can you say no to that???)-the opportunity to learn more about what you do and dont want in a relationship for later down the line...-your out of the house and trying new things you havent...

Who knows what will happen...but what have you got to lose? You dont even have to dress up at all....YOu are gorgeous already and for a guy to demand you get all dressed up tells you what kind of guy he is...Just go for the heck of it, and let things be as they are ...no acting, no pretending, just complete honesty...You are so gonna find out more about yourself that would just about surprise you in many funny ways...And remember, the guy took alot of guts to ask you out..So unless he's a total jerk, I would say::::GO FOR IT! dont do it to impress him or yourself...just do it for the heck of it and be yourself, inside and out...Good Luck!

Sadly, I would probably stay home in my sweats, hair pulled back and do nothing too. I still do that and im married! Even in my single life, I KNOW I did that a few times....dont feel guilty, maybe its your inner instinct telling you its not right....or....im just trying to make you feel better about it! ahahaha. Anyway, Jen!! I love you! I miss your stinkin guts! Dont feel guilty for wanting to nest at home, I do it all the time. "what a girl wants, what a girl needs, whatever makes me happy and sets me free....." Love your stinking guts! Oh and since this post was a few ago, let me know what you ended up deciding to do! hahah

About Me

All things considered, there's not much to tell...unless you think that being down to do anything...at any time....for any reason is "not much to tell." I mean, we all have our "limits" I'm still discovering mine.