Don't Get Serious

You’re on the rebound

You’ve never been on the rebound once in your life, but she doesn’t need to know that. If you offer this as a potential reason to stay away from the possibility of a monogamous relationship, there isn’t much she can do to change the established direction. She understands you’re not an emotional wreck but she also realizes you’re not ready to enter into anything serious. You’d rather not talk about the past, and while this new encounter has nothing to do with revenge, it’s good to get out and have a bit of fun. Everybody has a meaningless little fling immediately after separating from a long-time partner, but as an effective Player, you’re permanently entrenched in this mode of freedom-based entertainment. Hey, it’s the path to non-stop sumptuous variety, right? Variety is the spice of life, and if you want to develop and maintain your Player status, experimentation and multiple partners are core requirements.

As outlined in the “you’re not the relationship type” hint, you can’t just stick to one style and claim to be a successful pickup artist. When interacting with the fairer sex, you have to realize that women tend to talk, and if you start using the same tactic all the time, you’ll be running on fumes before you know it.

Because you have a fear of commitment

Let’s face it: You’re not looking to keep things simple only because you’re morally opposed to the concept of marriage. You want to sleep with more than one hot woman, and you want to do it on a frequent basis. Commitment is a word that should never be uttered in the presence of a Player because it’s like kryptonite; it makes us keel over in pain, our hands clasped to our chests as we cringe in agony. A touch melodramatic, yes, but the very idea of limiting ourselves to one female leaves a bad taste in our mouths. Therefore, you shouldn’t commit to anything; embrace the theory to its fullest. By not committing to anything — even plans for next week — you’re sending along a very clear message.

But before you begin to act like an insensitive jackass, this is not a license to flake out on carefully laid plans — standing somebody up time and time again isn’t non-committal. That’s just sleazy and classless, and neither of those attributes should ever be accurate when describing a Player. No, this is more about portraying yourself as a free spirit who doesn’t like to be tied down, a fun-seeking individual who isn’t interested in annoying entanglements.

above all else, be a gentleman

Just remember: The Player remains a classy and sophisticated individual, one who simply adores women and treats them accordingly. Never, under any circumstances, can attempting a lifestyle loaded with casual encounters translate to being predatory. There’s a big difference between successful bachelor and insensitive, uncaring, selfish, and disrespectful idiot; the latter is only a tweak away from plying a woman with alcohol until she’s drunk enough to have sex with a camel.

This isn’t about taking advantage or putting the woman in a position of discomfort or fear; this is about finding a partner who enjoys time in the sack, one who will give you the time of your life and won’t ask for… well, your life in return. Those women are out there. They adopt the same ideals and rituals you do, and they’re seeking a man who will give them what they desire. And once you’ve located them and solidified your status and intentions, the results should be most enviable.