Every day, even if I don’t feel good, I try to remind myself of the most beautiful things that the world has given to me – and the beauty that is yet to come!

Life is so grand and beautiful and every day can be amazing if you let it… if you don’t know how to start celebrating life, here are some things I did when I was feeling low:

I don’t meditate, I LIVE in meditation and with that I mean as conscious as I can…
There are exercises you can do like listening to inspirational speakers, listen to your favorite song in the morning when you get up and dance in front of the mirror. Get your energy up and start right there!

I personally love to watch and listen to motivational videos of Abraham Hicks, Bashar, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsh, myself (yes I record things and listen to my own voice – why? because that’s the voice in my head – and I train it to speak in beautiful, positive affirmations that way) and many more…

If I am really down, or low on energy, I listen to binaural beats – e.g. chakra clearing and whatever else there is out there – or I watch an amazing movie that inspires me.

As a singer I write my feelings down and turn them into songs. Sometimes I listen to my favorite musical and sing the lines out loud, that always helped me to come back to a feeling of bliss.

You do not have to spend thousands of dollars on courses of how to be motivated – there is so much free stuff you can do for yourself before you need to pay for therapy.

I had a depression and within less than a year I recovered from it.
I was lucky that my mother took me back in and did a great job lifting me up.

I also had a wonderful therapist who was more like a life-coach than a psychotherapist: after talking a little bit about my past and getting to know each other, she encouraged me to have goals again and only talk about the future instead of letting the past get me down… and the moment I got back on track, she said: Okay, Helen, you are ready now. I don’t want to see you here in therapy again!
I was also very grateful that my mother noticed the change early enough (although I lived in Austria and she in Germany at that point) to tell me that she felt I had a depression and gave me the choice to come back to her.

It made me face my inner demons, allowed me to look back with gratefulness and put my past behind me. Yes, it can come back and haunt you at times – but if that happens, see it as a nightmare and let it go.

Torn between many worlds and ideas for the longest time, I finally realized what I truly wanted and went for it!

What is important to know about a depression is that it can sneak up on you – whether you’ve had a “good” life (according to society) or a “bad” life.

If it were up to society to judge that, I would have had nothing to ever complain about and had a “good” life (from the outside)… that’s what I was telling myself, too. And I felt that I had no right to have a depression… “You have everything you ever wished for. You have fabulous parents, wonderful friends – you are not allowed to have a depression.” Well, guess what – I did have it and I went through more than people who think they know me, will ever realize.

But those things are the things that helped me understand others in a more profound way – and I am grateful that I went through everything in the past.
I would not change a single day and a single choice I made…

I am in an incredibly beautiful state of mind and allow myself to follow my visions every day – and so should you.

If you are in a depressed state, or don’t feel good at the moment, know that it is okay. You are allowed to go through whatever it is you are going through… and for the “outside” things you can do:

Try binaural beats and positive affirmations.

Record yourself reading books or lines that can positively effect you!

Realize: you are perfect!
It’s not about being perfect in the way others want you to be, it’s about realizing that NO ONE will ever be the way YOU are! There is not ONE person out there who can fulfill your purpose other than you!

Now go out there (or stay at home) and celebrate life, for it is good to you – know that the more you celebrate life, the more beautiful things will happen to you! And if you feel overwhelmed or think that life is not good to you… then see who told you that: was that the little inner child that wants more attention, was that a tiny voice inside of you that wants to hold you back? Where are these thoughts coming from!

Every day is worth exploring… and enjoying!
The world needs you out there – so celebrate life in every way!

Ladies, especially the ones who are unhappy with – or angry at – a man right now… I would love to have a conversation with you, from heart to heart.

The other day I was talking to my man about relationships and exes and things really started to get me thinking:

Honestly, what do we women expect from men?
We expect way too much. We want them to be perfect (they have to live up to our expectations) and if they go a little off of the path of perfection, we drop them or badmouth them, in front of friends, family and on Facebook.or we continuously post posts about how we strong women don’t need men yada yada ya. But in the end one of our deepest desires is to be with someone special, right?

Remember… the law of attraction. Like attracts like… and isn’t the man we dated or the man we are with our own reflection?

When I was single I lived in New York by myself for 3 years. Even before that I lived by myself for more than 13 years and it gave me time to truly know myself. No distractions. I was searching for love, yes, but not just any love.
True love. Someone who could be a true partner by my side. I read a lot of books on men and women but most of all on the divine feminine. Since I was 17 I researched and even did my school finals in psychology on ‘Men’s fear on strong women’.

I took the time to discover who I am – read a lot and explored my environment.
I so adored taking myself to a show or a movie and especially out to eat.

I learned to truly enjoy being by myself because I knew there would come a day where I would no longer be by myself. Then I would get to share everything with a special someone but til then I would be my own special someone.

I did not search for someone actively. Maybe that has to do with my stubbornness of loving one man at a time and for a while even if he doesn’t love me back. You can say that’s good or bad, if you like, but it helped me to get here.
That’s how I am, i don’t give up. Not on people, not on friends, not on plans and visions.

I feel lucky that I was that way because it didn’t allow me to go crazy and sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry… and that’s easy to do in New York City…

When I did go out with someone and things didn’t go the way I wanted them to go: I did a self analysis. I wrote about it, spoke with friends i chose to be my go-to-person and made choices to treat myself better and to have others treat me better.

Most importantly I didn’t say to myself that every man is stupid and that it only had to do with him that things went wrong.

I truly feel that women nowadays have too many high expectations and don’t bring enough to the table themselves.
We want our men to be successful, wealthy, emotionally stable, no mama-boy, spiritually ready… completely complete.

You will never get a ‘perfect ‘ man because we are all human and even if we think we are done with a topic there may still be something inside of us that may need attention later in life.

Let me ask you this:
are you there already? Are you finished, do you completely know what you want in life? Because if not…

Wouldn’t you say we can only expect from someone else something that we have already reached?!?

As soon as we still have our own topics that take up our energy, like past family issues or past dramas and people we can’t forgive… are we really at the point to ask from our men that they have to be ‘better’ than us.

I am in a very fortunate and happy place but my relationship is far from perfect and I wouldn’t want it to be. If it were so, where would be room to grow together?
I am not my partner and he is not me so we can’t expect to understand each other all the time or to read each other’s mind.
Being together in a two room trailer means to accept each other unconditionally with all the flaws we have and I know that I have many flaws!
I thank my partner that he loves me as I am and doesn’t want to try to change me. Yet we talk about everything that isn’t right yet and we will both try to make things better.

Being in a relationship means to go through life together. You can’t expect anyone to catch you if you haven’t caught yourself.

And if you haven’t truly taken the time to get to know yourself, how can you expect someone else to know you?

Just a few thoughts I put out there to anyone who is ready to read it.

Falling in love is one thing. Rising in love is another.
It often starts with the fall until you rise together.

Rising in love means that nothing and no one will be able to break the promises and bonds you give each other and that you live your love every day.

It starts with you as a person. Finding yourself and your purpose on earth in the first place. It’s when both of you are whole and happy within that you will be able to give each other love and look at each other with love.

Then little things won’t bother you because you understand that they are part of the other.

If you are single, do yourself a favor and focus on yourself. You will meet the right person when you are ready to start over.

If you are too focused on the need of being with someone, you don’t get to enjoy life the way you should.

Life is a gift, a present – and present is the magical word in this sentence.

Be present with yourself, be a present to yourself. Enjoy being by yourself, having no one to answer to but yourself.

I can’t describe how grateful I am to live in this world of opportunities, to live in the present, to live in this kind of time where we are free to believe what we want to; where we can promote who we are and what we do on our own (youtube, facebook, instagram); where we can connect in ways that have never been possible before.

I am writing this in the USA while my mother can read this in Germany – as well as others can read this on other countries, if I allow them to…

We live in a world where we have the freedom of speech and are able to read and write (that’s a priviledge!!! Not everyone was able to do this 100 years ago and not everyone everywhere can do it yet) – and where we have access to knowledge everywhere.

… we are not being forced to go to places we don’t want to go to…

… we are all connected through pictures we share, words we speak – and yet we can control who those words go to, even within facebook.

Are you aware of these beautiful opportunities in your lives?

Are you aware that you alone are able to change your perception of the world every day?

Yes, we are being bombarded with (scary) information every day, but it’s up to you to tune out of it – stop watching the news all day or watching scary movies that your body actually lives through: did you know that your mind does not know whether someting is fiction or reality???

If you watch someone chasing someone else, your heart will race as well – and not because you are in danger, but because your body believes you are being chased (and possibly killed).

You can be calm if you choose to, by listening to soft music, taking baths or taking a beautiful walk in the park when the sun shines on your face and warms your heart…

…as within so without…

See yourself as beautiful, look into the mirror and look at what makes you special!

Believe in yourself and the world will believe in you!!!

Have a beautiful Sunday – and remember: it is a privilege to live here and now. Choose your books, your looks, your movies and your company – and you will rise and be joyful in this lifetime.

When you recognize everything happens FOR you, in order to wake you up – in accordance to your plan… then you will build up no more negative situation.

Everything that others say to you is said through the filter of their experience.

Often they don’t want you to make the same mistakes.

Can you be angry or upset with someone, if s/he only wants to protect you?

Life is not here to get you… life is here so you can experience what your soul had planned long ago…

So break free from illusion…

You have a message to bring forth, into this world.

In order to awaken to it, you will get as many wake up calls as you need…

Fear is only the messenger that you haven’t arrived to yourself yet.

Wear the crown of yourself, walk your path with pride – not because you are better than anyone – but because it is YOUR path – yours alone!

Only you can truly understand your message!

Your path is incomparable to any other.

Why do you turn around to compare your petals to others when each rose on a rosebush is different, has its own energy?

You are not meant to be like someone else. You are you, with all your patterns, scars, stubborness, kindness, tenderness, unique sensuatlity and adornment.

Fill these lines with more – find more unique abilities within you – this is just a scratch on the surface of who you are meant to be…

If words inspire you, play with them, write them down.

Become REAL by REALizing that everything but love is an illusion.
No words within two sentences mean the same.

No two people in the same situation will go through the same experience.

Everything you went through in your life, formed you as well as other people.

So have compassion.

Live your life fully, without worrying about others.

That does not mean to not care – but the only one YOU can be there for to 100% – is YOU!

You, soul, made the choice to come to earth at this very moment.
Now and now and – NOW!

There is no more past, there is only the now that passes by before you can even think about “now” (Say it and there is another now) and the future, which appears in the time of now after the now (get it now?).

This world is an extension of your dreams – you can dream of something and manifest it here.

If you open your barriers and allow yourself to dream without neglecting yourself and regretting for not realizing things sooner, things will happen rapidly.