Kingdom 103: Never Assume in Marriage Pt 1

Before I met and married my wife Arlene, I was very disobedient to the Lord God's Constitution. All that I will say about that is this: thank the Lord for giving me another chance and revealing to me His Kingdom laws and principles. I had an opportunity to repent and turn away from the past. If the Lord were to hold court concerning my past life, I would have been executed long ago. I truly thank Him for His amazing grace! I realize now, through the Kingdom concepts, that the Lord God never permitted divorce except for sexual immorality. But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

A religious concept is this: divorce your wife if you fall out of love, or you don't feel the same about her or him, or you have found someone else who you think has the same chemistry. You will not find your "soulmate" after you are married! These are all things we have heard out of the mouths of so-called believers. They are deceived. That is the world's system and belief of marriage. My question is, what is the difference between them both? Very little! On the other hand, the Kingdom is very different. Just obey His Word. The Lord Jesus mad this statement concerning keeping His Word: Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him. He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father’s who sent Me. This isn't meant to bring guilt, but to bring conviction, repentance and going forward in obedience to Kingdom principles.

Love is a verb, it requires action. Love needs to be expressed regularly and often. By the way, I am not speaking of sex. Love should never be assumed. Husbands, never assume that your wife knows that you love her--tell her. Even if you told her yesterday, tell her again today. Since we married, I have told Arlene daily--multiple times--that I love her. She needs to hear it every day. Wives, don't assume that your husband knows that you love him--tell him. And, even more important, show him respect. He needs to know you respect him and believe in him. If no one else is in his corner, he should know beyond a shadow of a doubt that YOU are. He may never come right out and say it, but he needs that reassurance from you. In my favorite words, "you need to get a clue"!

No matter how tough and strong he may appear on the outside, he still needs you to share your love for him by speaking it in his ear. We humans have a built-in need to be affirmed in this on a daily basis. I share thoughts of my love to my wife Arlene, and then watch her light up as the morning sun. Where love is concerned, there is no room for assumption. In this, as in everything else, the Lord Jesus provides us with a wonderful example. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

The ambassador Paul states in God's Constitution that husbands and wives are to relate to each other the way Christ and the Church--His Bride--relate to each other.