On one hand, it is making light of many very traumatic life situations and feelings... on the other, it is Pop music, and for pop music I find it to vastly deeper than most, and that is what choke me up. The depth in the music and message it conveys, despite it's style.

I forgot how to use a fax machine. The clerk had to help me. I just stared at it, then began to feel the initial stirrings of a panic attack. When I left the store I sat in my car in a daze. Took awhile to figure out that in order to leave, I would have to start the car and DRIVE.

How I got home is a mystery. I hope I'm not responsible for any fresh roadkill on the streets.

I think I'm kinda submissive with bedroom stuff, but I don't think men really know what to do with that. So then it just gets awkward. (okay, I say men, but I've not slept with that many, so maybe that's too general)

I think I'm kinda submissive with bedroom stuff, but I don't think men really know what to do with that. So then it just gets awkward. (okay, I say men, but I've not slept with that many, so maybe that's too general)

I believe that. I'm just saying that if I mention it, they sometimes feel like that's what I want all the time, or that it means I want to be degraded, which I don't. I like variety just as much as the next person.

ScribblingDes wrote:

Some of them do, I promise.

I want to believe. Maybe I should just have a conversation about it. That seemed to help to some extent with my last partner. But he was a rare case. It was all sexual chemistry and the friendship came later. I don't normally have that with men.

Yeah, can someone define the difference between degradation and domination?

Is it that dominance just controls sex within the confines of what isn't painful beyond biting and spanking (as well as excluding the more sick stuff, like... toilet stuff), while degradation pushes that limit?

If so, wouldn't that difference be pretty arbitrary and completely dependent on what ways a person would want to be dominated?

Unless you're filling out an ad on Craigslist, sex shouldn't fit categories. It's pretty organic. You can talk about what you like and don't like. But still, if you're into rough stuff, sometimes it will be gentle. If you like being tied up and whipped, it shouldn't always happen. Classifying it kinda ruins the whole thing.

i was finger fucked by my mother's long-term/live-in bf while watching 20000 Leagues Under the Sea (1954 version?). she was there too, working on an oil painting. i imagine it was the landscape with two deer in a valley, but i can't be sure about that. i was like 8... not be sure about that either.

[quote=PGoutis01]Unless you're filling out an ad on Craigslist, sex shouldn't fit categories. It's pretty organic. You can talk about what you like and don't like. But still, if you're into rough stuff, sometimes it will be gentle. If you like being tied up and whipped, it shouldn't always happen. Classifying it kinda ruins the whole thing.

I'm having massive social anxiety about this reunion we're going to in Georgia this weekend. I had a handful of friends, hardly any of whom I've kept in contact with (except one girl, who I can't wait to see), and everyone else was just...there. I spent most of my high school years wrapped up in my boyfriend and thinking everyone else was stupid and I just wanted to go back to California and Catholic school or hurry up and grow up so I could get away from home. Now I'm a grown up and married to Mr. Popular from my graduating class (a totally non-douche bag kind of Mr. Popular) and I'm worried it's going to be awkward. He's so sweet and good to me and loves me and makes me feel wonderful, so I guess I'm more worried that my initial shyness will be a drag to him. He would never make me feel that way, but hopefully you know what I mean.

You guys know me and I can relate to all of you, but you may not know that I'm pretty reserved in social settings. I'm not the kind of girl to get crazy and dance and want to be the center of attention. I'm more the type who will open up once I've gotten to know people and feel more confident in myself. I can pull it off but inside I'm so terribly worried about what people think about me. I'm so ashamed that I'm like this...gah!

People who know me - especially my co-workers - find this hard to believe, but it's because I feel comfortable around them, like I can be myself and be accepted, so they don't see it. They all think I'm witty, smart and fun to be around but mostly I feel like maybe I'm just a good actress. That's not to say I'm not genuine...it's just..I don't know how to put it.

Meh...I get like this anytime there's a reason to be in a party type atmosphere. I'm sure if I were to speak to a doctor I'd be diagnosed with some social phobia junk or something, but I would never do that because I'd rather just suck it up when it comes to life and kick its ass. Anyway, I'm sure I'll loosen up and have a good time, but I'm going to be internally freaking out about it between now and then.

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