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Elliott, LPCC, NCC, Psychotherapist

Category: Mental Health

Satisfied Customers: 7663

Experience: 35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.

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Need help. Tired of holding it together... Sleeping too much.

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Need help. Tired of holding it together... Sleeping too much. Eating whatever. Drinking more than usual, but have a low tolerance. Hate my high stress job - I am the breadwinner. Husband cheated 2 years ago, and we never really dealt with it. Full custody of a 14 yr old daughter, 4 dogs, 2 horses at home. So, I feel like I can't leave, even for a vacation. Father has had major depression, as have I in the past. Few real friends...no real life. No real joy. Would rather sleep, than deal with any of it. But, deal I must, but I am wondering what is the point?

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Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Dear friend,

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

I believe that I can help.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

We have all felt that way.

Customer: Great..

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

I have 2 horses at home, 1 dog left, 3 cats, and that's all. I know how you can feel sometimes.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Has the weather made it worse today?

Customer: Not really, glad for an excuse to do the bear minimum...

Customer: Seems to be the most I can do these days

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Then it made it better. I had five inches so far and it is gloomy, but the sun will be back sometime, literally and figuratively for both of us.

Customer: Not sure bout that...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

You probably do not need any distractions, but possible a change of pace.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

When you say you can't leave, that means it may be time for a break.

Customer: Been about 4 years of hell...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Whatever the cost, it is worth breaking the routine.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

What else besides the horrible betrayal (which is a lot to bear by itself,l I know)/

Customer: That is the problem...been working so hard to get to a point of not having to work so hard...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Nobody to back you up?

Customer: No one I trust...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

You have a business (in general terms to keep your confidentiality)"

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

?

Customer: i am very self sufficient by necessity. No, I work for an institution I fundamentally hate at this point, but make great $. Have plan to try to escape. It involves buying another farm and selling this one. Could mean no mortgage, which would mean I could escape from the current job.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Have you started putting these plans into action? It sounds like a great plan.

Customer: Yes, it involves a credit line on current house to buy new house, which is taking forever to get done. Then, flood damage in current house will need to be fixed in order to sell. That involves us doing the work ourselves and then getting the insurance money back from the bank.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Ourselves? You are still with your husband I presume?

Customer: It also assumes that the seller of the house we are buying actually goes through with it. He is in jail, and needs the $ to make bail. Yes, my husband and the kid and the animals...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Can you get an agent to facilitate this for you and a contractor that will get a move on? There is more work than contractors nowadays, generally.

Customer: The cheating thing was so cliche'...he and his ex from high school connected in Facebook and then had a 3 month affair. She was married, as well. Ugh!

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Can your marriage survive and happiness be restored, or has it been already?

Customer: We to $37,000 from the insurance company...can do the work ourselves for $10,000 or so. The rest can be used to get Ouse ready to sell for top $.

Customer: Marriage is tough.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

That needs to get straight before you can go into another joint venture, don't you think?

Customer: I don't trust him 100%, so I am always playing defense...when I have the energy to, that is...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Can you live like that? It is quite a drain.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

How is your self-esteem from this? Are you working on this individually or together?

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Your defensiveness, which is understandable, puts a strain on him too. It is a cycle that has to be broken.

Customer: Well, I am not sure what he can do about the way I feel. This kinda goes beyond him. Not sure I would feel any better if he weren't in the picture. He does help out around here. Self esteem is okay...I know I could be "better". Just can't seem to get there...I just do the bare minimum...it's all I can handle. It is a lot to ask for him to live with a "zombie"...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Which came first: the depression or the cheating?

Customer: I could literally sleep all the time...would rather be in my bedroom alone than anywhere doing anything...

Customer: Depression goes back to teenage years...off and on since then or maybe always there and just gets really bad at times.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Depression or something physical? Have you been checked out?

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

And what meds are you taking?

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Endocrinology screening?

Customer: No clue, pretty healthy other than a hernia and a strange skin disorder that disappeared. No mess other than ibuprofen for headaches.

Customer: Nope...

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

Its worth a look.

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

No info on the skin disorder?

Customer: Thyroid or something else?

Elliott, LPCC, NCC :

That's what I was thinking, hence the screening for thyroid or adrenals. Could be a longterm cause of depression.

Customer: It was a weird pupuria...dermatologist said it wouldn't go away, but it did.

Customer: Guess I need to see an MD...usually just go to Urgent Care on the rare occasion it's needed

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