Do you make the same resolutions each year?

Someone once said do what you love and you will never work a day in your life. I think there is a bit of a misunderstanding in that statement. Just because you love what you do does not mean you don’t work and that you don’t work hard. It just means that you enjoy what you are doing.

With each New Year many of us find that we need to make resolutions or feel the need to take stock of our life. Now is a great time to use the New Year as a way to better our selves or to take the time to plan out the year.

But before you can do this you must first think about what do you really want?

I was having lunch with a group of women and one of the things that we discovered is that we are sometimes not sure what we really want. We played a bit of a game where we were asked to think about these 4 things. We were compelled to learn, reach for, try, test, experiment with, and do by specifically writing down what we needed to feel the following:

Wanted

Happy

Secure

Loved

If you would like to take a closer look take out a piece of paper or open a new page in your computer and divide it into 4 squares.

In the squares write each of the topics.

Wanted Happy

Secure Loved

Now think about what makes you feel wanted? What do you need to feel wanted?

What makes you happy? What do you need to feel happy?

What makes you feel secure? What do you need to feel secure?

What makes you feel loved? What do you need to feel loved?

Come up with as many as you can. Really think about it and write it down. Any of these could be related to finances, safety, job, education, and flexibility or to family or friends.

Maybe your wanted it to have your family come to you for their needs. That you will always have the laundry done or that your husband has what it need to make you a cup of coffee in the morning. You may feel wanted by knowledge that you are very good at your job or that you are the go to person in certain situations. You are the best party planner; you organize all the family dinners or holidays.

Maybe your secure is to own your own home? Or having a plan for retirement or even for your kid’s college? Your secure could be knowing that you have marketable job skill? Your secure could be related to finances, safety, job, education, and flexibility or to family.

Your happy could be taking a family vacation or maintaining a calm and organized home? It could be that you love to cook and preparing a meal for your family or friends makes you happy.

Your loved could be having a dog greet you at the door and love you unconditionally. It could be having your husband make you a cup of coffee each morning. Seeing the joy on your kids faces each day.

Now that you know what you need, you can check how you can get these things. Now you can make a plan. Whatever it is you can do it. So keep learning, reaching, working, reading, trying, resting, and moving forward.

Remember failing to plan is planning to fail.

So what will you do this year?

Thanks Pamela

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I am from Oklahoma. Now living the dream in Arizona. I'm a sassy, creative and outspoken southern gal. I believe that if you can read you can go anywhere. One of my favorite sayings is "If you knew you could not fail what would you do?" I enjoy helping other people. My friends know that I’m the queen of useless trivial knowledge and I will not hesitate to use it.
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