H- which lie do I tell today to cover up for your abuser? Just let me know which one.

I wouldn't ever want to not cover up for the sex offender so I have to lie, and keep track of the lies, and let people misunderstand me so his offender can live in peace and harmony.(I hope you all understand I am being very sarcastic & bitter with that statement)

I don't like having to lie to cover up for some disgusting person. He (perp) should have to weave the web of lies, not me.

I feel like I'm aiding and abetting him while I simultaneously make myself look like a lying *sshole. I'm not used to this.....I don't do that. I'm not used to being full of sh*t all the time and so I'm not good at it.

H can't handle my feeling on this. He runs and hides instead of talking to me.

That is powerful. We live in denial, we pretend our life is not really what is was, we pretend the abuser did it because we were special, we keep the secret--never telling anyone until our lives are so unraveled, our minds can only see the abuse and no longer can we bury what was done. It is a horrible web of deceit--deceit of ourselves to protect someone who robbed us of our lives but convinced us it needed to be kept a secret to protect us. How sad, a child's mind can be so easily molded. But as adults, many adults cannot understand why we lived the way we did.

As we heal, we learn to be who we truly are. We no longer need to pretend or lie as to who we are today.

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