Information on suicide, including the signs that someone might be suicidal: www.AFSP.org Note, some ADHD medications can lead to strong emotional side effects, including suicidal thinking. If you or your partner experiences this, call your doctor IMMEDIATELY.

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., 1985/2005

If you or your spouse is experiencing any anger in your relationship and you can read only one more book, this is the one to pick. This bestseller is the best book on how to address anger, period.

Dare to Forgive by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D.

This gem of a book not only makes the case that the ability to forgive is a sign of strength, but it also provides a step-by-step process for moving from anger and distress to forgiveness. It is a very useful book for those who are caught up in a destructive cycle of anger and retaliation in their relationships.