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Thursday, June 9, 2016

Cutting the Rope... love tank part 2

Heres a post that has been sitting in my draft box for a while (actually since june 9, 2011). I received it during a very difficult time in my life, and wasn't sure of where the next steps in life should take me. This very email helped to make some very crucial life decisions and i will be forever thankful for one of my many Mothers sending it to me....I'm sharing it now because there are people in my life who need it as well...

This one is sort of a guest post. So some of you may remember my love tank post from a few years back.... i received this email from tyler perry via a friend and thought it was thought provoking....

Hey there guys, you good?

So, I just finished filming a really good movie called GOOD
DEEDS. It’s me like you’ve never seen me before. It
comes out in February, brace yourself. There were a
lot of long days on this shoot, so I wanted to take a break.
I decided to do some traveling and since I still have 20
more pounds to lose before I start my next movie, ALEX
CROSS, I thought I would go to the Grand Canyon and do
some hiking, climbing and so on. At one point in the
climbing, I was over a steep drop and was tied to a safety
rope, while a buddy’s safety rope was tied to me. It was my
responsibility to help him up, since I was bigger and weighed
more. I told him, “I’ll hold on to you to help you up but if you
start to pull me over with you, I’m going to untie this rope.”
We had a good laugh about it, but I was serious…

I started thinking about that moment a few days ago. How
many times are we tied to a person, people or things that
are pulling us down and we won’t untie the rope? For
whatever reason, be it family, friends, society, or just the feeling
of being obligated, trapped or that if you don’t, no one else will.
I have watched so many people go over a cliff with a person
that they are trying to help up, it’s sad.
YOU MUST UNTIE THE ROPE!!!

This is your life and you are wasting it being tied to someone who is
destroying his or her opportunities and yours. If the person that you
are trying to help does not know that they are worth being saved,
how do you expect them to put any value on you saving them?
You’re not worth it to them. They can’t get it! SO YOU NEED TO!
Listen to me, untie the rope and don’t lose yourself trying to hold on
to someone who can’t survive on your level. You hear me? Maybe
they have gone as high as they can go. Just because you can
survive on that level doesn’t mean that everyone else can. Stop
trying to help them, UNTIE THE ROPE! I know you may feel this
is cruel, but what is more cruel is dying a death that’s not your own.
Letting your destiny go to hell because someone else pulled you
there. Are you kidding me? That isn’t God!

Here is what I have learned over the almost 20 years that I have been
in this business. Let me tell you, I have seen and worked with some
of the most talented people you can imagine and I used to wonder
why they never got any higher than they are. You know, the kind of
people who always seem to be at the door, but never can go in. It used
to blow my mind until I got a revelation from God.

For many years I was the same way, I would get close and things would
fall apart. I couldn’t get any traction, not in my career, not in my personal
life and not in the pursuit of happiness. I just couldn’t move forward
. Through much prayer and self-discovery, I found out that I used to be,
notice I said “USED TO BE,” a self-saboteur. I would find a way to
subconsciously destroy every good thing that was in my life and I didn’t
even know I was doing it. Most self-sabotaging people don’t know that
they are doing it. I don’t think there is anyone sadder than a person who
blames everyone else, but themselves for their situation. The very
revelation that I was causing my own problems was one of the greatest
blessings God could have allowed me to see. Once I realized the
behavior, I was able to change it. That is why my life is in such a great
place right now. I realized that my very thoughts were keeping me from
being successful at everything. “So, as a man thinketh, so is he.”

Many times a lot of us sabotage subconsciously because of what mamma
or daddy said, traumatic childhoods or any number of things that happened
growing up that made us feel that we shouldn’t have or that we didn’t
deserve it. I’m here to tell you all, that misinformation was wrong. You do
deserve it! You are worthy of it! For me, knowing that Jesus died and rose
again makes me know we are all worthy.

Why am I saying this? I’m just tired of people being upset with people who
have realized their dreams. The only difference in someone who is living
their dream and someone who can’t get it to come to pass is they don’t
feel they deserve it. They don’t feel they are worthy of it. So many of us
have dreams, dreams that the world is waiting for, talents that will help heal
and change nations, but we keep destroying our own successes. I know
for a fact that if I had not figured this out, you wouldn’t be reading this
email right now. Nor would I be a happy soul.

The world is waiting for your gift. Give it to yourself and you will give it to them,
but first you have to UNTIE THE ROPE.

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Ashley is a mother, a widow, a teacher, a photographer, a starbucks drinker, and a blogger! A sale shopper and loves a mani pedi any day of the week. Addicted to accessories and dollar bin shopping @ target. Loves a spring afternoon on a patio with a margarita or glass of wine.

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She makes me want to be abetter woman and mother each and every day.

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