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I am HVI+ on ARV and undetectable, I don't know my boyfriend's status and he doesn't want to do a test even though I told him I was HIV+ (don't ask why long story)...

The point is that, he insists on having unprotected sex but I am worry i will infect him or if he is HIV+ not been treated that he will give me a super infection... Does anyone know about this? if one is HIV+ but undetectable and has unprotected intercourse with someone whose status is unknown, are they at high risk of contracting the virus and, if they are + can one get super infection??? thanks

Thanks Joe, interesting article, i found some info, and it seems like new research shown the risk of transmission is very low less than 4%... i will still insists on having get a test so that if he is positive he can get meds...but that's another story : o) thanks again David

We have been together over thirty years and I often worry about passing HIV to my husband . He feels it is a crap shoot in life

I have been undetectable for 10 years now , so he feels that safe sex is not really sex . I disagree ! It puts a damper on my mood for sex . For all the HIV POZ men I know running around with any John , Dick or Harry I have never known anyone to catch the others HIV . Not to say it could not happen , but it seems to rare ?

I hope you can get your partner tested , really no reason not to . You have a relationship and he must feel that HIV is not a reason to run .

So even if one who has control over the virus without meds and has unprotected sex with others who are HIV positive but on meds and is cream-pied can the controller contract different HIV proteins or whatever (strains?) and end up losing control of the virus without meds?

Thanks Tryingtostay and weasel for your comments, my issue is rather to know whether i can infect my partner if he is negative... (this we don't know) but let's just say he is, would i be able to infect him if I am undetectable...some of the research i found said that there is less than 4% risk...but i still think is too much risk...I just don't know how to ask him to wear a condom as he doesn't believe I am + and doesn't want to hear about it...kind of closed mind type of guy...

I don't know my boyfriend's status and he doesn't want to do a test even though I told him I was HIV+ (don't ask why long story)...

I thought my second long-term partner was negative and although we always had protected sex, he died of AIDS just a few years ago.

What did I learn from that:just because someone tells you that they are negative and "recently tested" doesn't mean that they even really know their status. if you and your partner continue to pretend like he's negative without testing and confirming this, you too might find him dying of AIDS one day.

So even if one who has control over the virus without meds and has unprotected sex with others who are HIV positive but on meds and is cream-pied can the controller contract different HIV proteins or whatever (strains?) and end up losing control of the virus without meds?

no one has "control over the virus without meds". Without meds, an HIV positive person is infectious. Without meds, HIV is a terminal illness. However with meds, a person is protected from dying or transmitting HIV because meds will act as PrEP (pre-exposure) and PEP (post exposure), and meds alone control the virus

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leatherman (aka mIkIE)

All the stars are flashing high above the seaand the party is on fire around you and meWe're gonna burn this disco down before the morning comes- Pet Shop Boys chart from 1992-2015Isentress/Prezcobix

He sounds like he may be a denialists ... so please do not let him convince you that you do not have a virus that can take your life if you do not take your meds . This is a serous subject and I urge you to give it lots a thought if you wish to continue with a person who clearly does not value your life .