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New Year Dating Advice

If you want to begin the new year with a fresh start in the dating world, our lifestyle expert Andrea Bain has tips to help refresh your love life in year ahead.

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Be the person you'd like to date

Too many times women are more interested in marrying it instead of becoming it. Write down all the characteristics you'd like in a partner and then ask yourself: am I any of those things? (Be honest)! Now try to be those things. When we become the person we'd like to date, we love ourselves more and that will attract the right kind of person into your life.

Scrap your type

Open-minded people will say they don't have a type when it comes to the opposite sex. A sense of humour goes without saying. There is not one person who would describe their ideal partner as, 'Sexy, smart but not actually that funny.' Andrea herself might claim to opt for men that are 'tall, chiseled and with nice arms,' but if you were to line up her ex-boyfriends she says "it would look less Abecrombie & Fitch, more The Usual Suspects." You don't necessarily know who you're attracted to until you start dating, so by sticking to a carbon copy of Mr. Right, you'll be left with a very limited dating pool.

Make a move

Stop playing games. If you like a guy, don't be afraid to make the move. Andrea's all for men making the first move, but realistically the majority of us are equally scared of rejection.

Change your dating habits

Shake things up a bit! Could this be the time to get over your online dating phobia? Maybe this year you find new places to go out and meet men? Think of all those couples you know. Surely you have married girlfriends who can introduce you to their single friends? Who knows, but if 2013 didn't do it for your sex life there's no way 2014 will unless you make a few tweaks. If you've been skeptic of online dating, break free and give it a try. If you don't want to fill out those long profiles, try the latest dating app called Tinder, which simply pulls a few photos from your Facebook profile.

Leave last year in the past

Still sensitive after a bad breakup or reeling from a string of awful dates last year? Stop moping and making excuses. Issues are boring. They make us feel inadequate and a bit helpless. But mainly it's just the boring thing. A new relationship means a new start, right? Have fun and forget the rest.

Don't waste time in an unhappy relationship

Life really is too short to be miserable. You may be scared of hurting him, scared of change and scared of being single, but aren't all those momentary blips better than being unhappy in a relationship that you know isn't right?

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