Fatherhood's Finest Hour

About Scott

I am a forty-something man who came to marriage and parenthood later than most. My wife and I have three boys: a 3rd grader, a preschooler, and a toddler. I don’t know how I possibly could have handled marriage or parenthood in my younger days, before the wisdom of age taught me how to deal with such shady characters as wives and children.

My boys are good kids, but they are boys. This means I could get a kneecap whacked with a hammer at any time. Toy hammers may not be very good at driving actual nails, but they sure can make a man limp for no good reason. Between their boyhood shenanigans and my iffy fathering, I figure we’ll beat each other up pretty good, physically and emotionally. But what’s a little pain between father and sons? Those are the scars that bind.

My wife loves me very much. Sometimes I think she is about to love me to death, but mostly she just loves me to high anxiety. Her goal is to make certain I do not grow stale within the narrow confines of my comfort zone, so she regularly attacks my comfort zone with a sledge-hammer. This is the comfort zone I spent most of the first four decades of my life building. It is a significant and carefully laid out fortress, but she is relentless in her siege. Consequently, I find myself in uncomfortable circumstances much more than when I was single. These instances, she tells me, are the result of me breaking free of my lifelong fetters and finally feeling alive. Furthermore, she expects thanks for providing me with these many refreshing discomforts.

As for me, I’m just another father, struggling to make heads or tails of this life of raising children. Just when I learn the procedure, it all changes, and I have to start school all over again. Consequently, I make a lot of mistakes, or at least this is what I am told by the parent who is in charge of scoring my performance. At least I don’t ever have to wonder how I’m doing. I guess that’s the good thing about being a father. Fathers don’t have to wonder about how well they are parenting. There is always somebody watching over their shoulders, telling them just exactly what they are doing wrong.

That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it.

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75 comments on “About Scott”

Very good post. I’m considering sharing it with my husband but then he might think he has an ally in the fortress…;) Give your wife the benefit of the doubt…she doesn’t mean to crush your soul…she’s just trying to do the best, right thing all the time. At least that’s how I justify it to myself…

Hi, Scott — So, because you continually amuse and offer a certain twisted insight that I, a fellow 40-something father, can relate to… and because I really enjoy your writing … I am passing along my nomination for you to receive the Liebster Award. Will it change your life? Probably not. However, it’s a cool tradition, passed from one blogger to another, to say “Hey, I really like your stuff.” There are some criteria, which can be found at this link http://nedhickson.wordpress.com/about/liebster-award. There are some questions to answer and you have the honor of passing this recognition along to other bloggers. That said, thanks for what you do. Cheers, — Ned

Thanks, Ned, for the nomination and the compliments. I am notorious for not being a very graceful recipient of high honors, but I will try my best to live up to this award. It may take me a little while to figure out who to pass it on to, without inspiring a restraining order, but I will give it careful consideration. Meanwhile, I anxiously await having my life not changed.

Leila,
Thank you very much for the nomination. I just did an awards post with the past couple of weeks, so I probably won’t be doing another one real soon. Still, I am very grateful that you think enough of this blog to nominate it. It certainly is an honor that I value.
BTW, my favorite author is James Thurber; that’s probably not very surprising.
Thanks again,
Scott

I too, did the “First-time Dad at 40” thing. Brings both good and bad… The good is, at least now I am too lazy and tired to make a run for it – and I can afford it. Bad side is, by he time my ons were ‘cognative’ of me, they saw me as the “old guy in his mid 50’s”. Forget 3-1/2 years in SEAL Team 2, or playing QB for a major college… By the time they were ready to size me up, all my amazing skills and bravado had been drained away by marriage, elementary school plays, and Father Time just kicking my butt for good measure. You seem to have the right attitude though- might as well ride it out and have some fun along the way too !

I don’t have any award nominations to offer, but if I did it would be for “the parenting blog so good that even people who don’t like, want or have children will enjoy reading it.” Every post I’ve read so far has elicited at least a big fat smile if not an outright belly laugh. It’s a feel-good romp through uncharted (for me anyway) territory!

I try to do one or two posts per week. It’s hard for me to do more than that and keep the quality up. Sometimes I can’t even keep the quality up at that rate. Thanks for reading, enjoying, and commenting.

Thank you very much. It is always an honor to be nominated by one of the great bloggers out there. I have already received a nomination for the Versatile Blogger Award, and I don’t want to be an award hog, so I will just tender you my humble appreciation. Thank you for thinking of my blog.

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Happy to have found your honest, funny and heartfelt blog! I am only a year into marriage and have yet to embark on the parenthood thing. Both terrified and excited about it!! I look forward to reading more:)

You’re a kept man Scott, and proud you are of it, but what man wouldn’t be! I’m so proud to call you one of my followers (that Swiss bank account I set up for you should kick in any day now). So I thought I better come see your blog, Now that you’re distracted by that new bank account, I hope to roam free through all your posts. :O)

If I’m kept, it must mean I’m a keeper, right? Roam as freely as you like through the pages of this blog. All the posts are indexed alphabetically (nearly alphabetically) at the index page link on the top. Meanwhile, I’ve got to set up some internet banking. Please excuse me.

LOL… Of course you’re an absolute keeper, and your wife is obviously a woman of good taste. Oh yes, the Internet banking thing. Yes I understand, international banking being what it is and all these days, best get that account quickly. :O)

This really is very funny. Esp as I think i’m rather guilty of same ‘comfort zone crashing’ as your wife….I’m Family Life editor for UK site, Post40Bloggers.com (you heard of us?We’re relatively new). I’d like to feature this or your post on losing your remote control soon. Would you be interested? All you have to do is register here: http://www.post40bloggers.com, but don’t worry you wont get clobbered with emails or anything – just be part of a growing movement of quality bloggers who’re getting a bit older…Let me know by tweeting me @notsonormalmum or emailing siobhan@calthrop.com. Cheers!

Still laughing at your words. Well done “about me”. My kids are 24 and 25 and I feel like I still am learning to parent. Your wife sounds wonderful and I’m sure for all her opinions, I’m sure she treats you like a King!🙂 Be well, Koko:)

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