Articles from Tina Tessina | Selfgrowth.com

Discovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go?
Dr. Romance shows you how to decide.
When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an ...Views: 97

Dear Dr. Romance:
I'd like to learn something flirty and funny that will grab a guys attention!? I am going bowling with my crush and a group of friends (I never talk to my crush so this is huge!) and I am trying to think of some cute flirty things to say! Any suggestions? Examples please ...Views: 98

Dear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, movies as ...Views: 194

Dear Dr. Romance:
I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time?
Dear Reader:
It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. If she's ...Views: 70

Dear Dr. Romance:
My son is having a substance abuse problem. It surfaced a few months ago, he promised to stop, and I just caught him using it again. He just turned 18. What can I do to help him?
Dear Reader:
I'm so sorry you're going through this with your son. ...Views: 142

Dear Dr. Romance:What is more important in a relationship: being balanced or compatible?
Dear Reader:
Compatibility trumps balance, but balance may be an important component of compatibility. Compatibility means having similar core values, living together well and comfortably, and ...Views: 113

Dr. Romance writes: Happy New Year! Are you dreading all the social occasions this time of year?
If you're an introvert, you can enjoy parties, too, when you learn to respect who you are and don’t let negative fantasies take over. Limit your social engagements to those that ...Views: 156

Dear Dr. Romance:
Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love?
Dear Reader:
Yes, it's possible to fall in love without dating. For example, if you have a close friend, classmate, work associate, neighbor or friend of a friend ...Views: 202

Dear Dr Romance:
I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ...Views: 238

Dr. Romance writes: This is often called the Season of Peace, as in "Peace on Earth; Good Will to Men" Yet there is so much unrest in the world today: the world is still involved in wars, terrorism seems to be endemic worldwide, and domestic violence and hatred still dominate the news. ...Views: 133

Dear Dr. Romance: My husband complains that life is a habitrail that he has to get on everyday and he is not being reloaded. I have tried everything I know how to make things better for him. I don't know how to reply anymore, and honestly I am not sure there is ...Views: 300

Dear Dr. Romance:
I am an addict. long term. I've had some time in NA running what I thought, and what others even so much reinforced, that when I began to feel like I needed to "leave the nest" a little (at about five years sobriety), I copped all kinds of flack from ...Views: 125

Dear Dr. Romance:
I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. and me and the ...Views: 238

Dr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ...Views: 156

Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in need of some serious advice, and I hope you can help. I've been in an extremely long distance relationship with someone for the past year and a half off and on. I live in the US, he lives in Central America. I am 6 years older than he is. I'm ...Views: 132

Dear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost the use of his left ...Views: 136

Dear Dr. Romance: I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ...Views: 121

Dr. Romance writes:
No matter what you observe: Kwanzaa, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a celebratory time of year. For some it's a joy, for others a nightmare and pressure to spend too much, eat too much, and socialize in ways you don't like. If your holiday expectations ...Views: 132

Dear Dr. Romance:
K so there is a guy in one of my classes that I kinda like but he doesn't know me. I can't find a way to talk to him cause I can't ask him to help me with a question cause he is in front and it would look obvious asking him when there are so many smart people around me. We are ...Views: 130

Dear Dr. Romance:
I recently moved here from the British Isles. I discovered your Dr. Romance blog and thought you might have some good insight on an experience I had involving an American woman's image of her body. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a ...Views: 132

Dr. Romance wishes you a Happy Thanksgiving!
A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ...Views: 160

Dear Dr. Romance;
I read your article "Age Differences in Dating" I am dating a man who is 22 yrs, younger than myself. He appeared older and I appeared younger to him. Now I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work. Would you be ...Views: 153

Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look ...Views: 142

Dr. Romance "Don't Call Your Ex"
Dr. Romance’s How to handle being dumped
DO put it in perspective If you're dumped, it hurts, but count your lucky stars. You don’t have a relationship if the other person's not really interested.
DO understand that there were problems already ...Views: 990

Dear Dr. Romance:
Ok so I am 19 and am kinda falling for a guy who is 20 years old than me. I am not asking your opinion on if it's wrong and nor do I want to hear "that's disgusting" my mother and father were 23 years apart in age. I like older guys cause I can relate to them better than guys ...Views: 449

Dear Dr.Romance:
i wear make up skinny jeans hollister shirts cardigans uggs and converse or just boots I love to act sing dance I'm a gr8t actress I'm always working out love to run I'm smart funny short brown hair sometimes jewlery now I have a crush on someone I always talk to him we ...Views: 152

Dear Dr. Romance:
Are you familiar with men who won't leave women alone? I'm just trying to understand why someone would STALK me for well over a decade and, during that time, systematically destroy my life because I refused to be in an abusive relationship with him. He didn't seem to ...Views: 154

Dr. Romance writes:
OK, so you're disappointed. Your dream has ended in the trash. So, after you get finished with laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken binge, or beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all ...Views: 194

Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice ...Views: 127

Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a single woman in my late 40's. I've had several serious relationships, but unfortunately, although I lived with a couple of them, I've never been married. I have a minor physical disability, a stomach condition, but I am attractive, I look younger than I am, I'm well ...Views: 3081

Dear Dr. Romance:
I enjoyed your article: Age Differences in Dating? Do you have any articles about younger women dating older men? I'm interested in the younger woman's motivations, and what the older man can say and do to will her affections. Have you ...Views: 3010

Dr. Romance writes:
We are such an inventive species. We are also a species with a sense of humor. I think the two are connected. It takes a sense of humor to be able to stumble around in an unfamiliar situation until you figure it out.
Current research has ...Views: 140

Dear Dr. Romance:
I am in a new relationship for a few months. I haven't dated for a couple of years on the advice of my therapist. I met a really nice guy on an online dating service which was totally out of my character. He is a really nice guy (Thank God) He lives in a different state ...Views: 162

Dear Dr. Romance:
My ex and I lived in the UK. She dumped me a few months ago and she went to France as an exchange student. She will be back next year, but at that time I will have graduated and left school here, and she will be doing her final year here. so as you ...Views: 176

Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your article "Age Differences in Dating " I'm single, in my early thirties. for the last, i'd say 6 years, i have been extremely attracted to women in their forties. it's both a physical and mental attraction. i live in an upscale part of the ...Views: 249

Dr. Romance's Top 5 ways to take your marriage from good to great.
1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything. No topic should be ...Views: 138

Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in college in another country. I have relation with my girl friend since last 3 and half years ago. We have done sexual job in 4 times. She is very honest and easy going girl. But she stopped her study. I have a good relationship with her still today, As ...Views: 251

Dear Dr. Romance:
Almost all of my friends have boyfriends, (we're 22, turning 23) and i don't. i never have. i feel really alone during the wk bc all my friends are with their boyfriends. i basically work, take class, and that's it. i either need a boyfriend, or more friends, bc i'm lonely and ...Views: 197

Dear Dr. Romance:
I'll admit, I just don't understand men. Do they want us to be perfect all the time? I mean, I think I'm a pretty okay person. I honestly like myself for who I am. It took me a long time to get to this point. I'm not a model, but reasonably attractive for a woman in her 40s. ...Views: 234

Dr. Romance writes: Recently, I went through very unpleasant and difficult dental work, and the outpouring of kindness I received -- from my husband, who held onto my ankle all through the two and a half hours (and had nightmares that night about it) to my dear friends, who offered me support ...Views: 194

Dear Dr. Romance:
Why am i intimidating? after i start talking to guys and i've hooked up with them, some have told me i am intimidating and they become shy in person. I'm not like scary or creepy or anything. (i'm tall skinny, blonde hair n blue eyes.) but is there anything i can do to fix ...Views: 174

Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a problem with this girl I like who's four years younger, we've been friends for a year. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. One week after they broke up, I went out with her. We had some drinks, and started making out. I asked her how long she had ...Views: 201

Dear Dr.Romance:
My friends were joking that I have never been single, and I argued that I have - but they said my definition of being single was wrong! true, I tend to have long term relationships, but before I met my last boyfriend I was "single" for nearly a year. I define this as ...Views: 221

Dr. Romance writes:
The most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Other clients are searching for friends. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all. Most ...Views: 222

Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been reading your advice at your website. I like what you have to say, and it really makes sense to me. I would like to tell you that you have helped me without even meeting. I have been thinking about meeting with a therapist for a while, and have tried in the past, ...Views: 193

Dear Dr. Romance,
I am a young adult male who has always had some sort of complication in relationships. I need help on deciding what I should do from the point at where I’m at now. The situation is that I have been talking to this girl. She first started talking to me but I didn't really ...Views: 206

Dear Dr. Romance:
Incomparable? I was in a beautiful meaningful relationship that led to a too brief but wonderful marriage until tragedy struck and my husband died two years ago. I rejoined the dating world nine months agoand am having a difficult time finding someone who can measure up to my ...Views: 172

I have encountered so many people who have been disappointed, ripped off or worse when dating online, that I drew up some guidelines for keeping yourself safe.
Dr. Romance’s guide to dating safely:
Be skeptical, not gullible. When you're meeting dates online (it is not dating until it's ...Views: 232

Dear Dr. Romance: It's funny that many times I talk to my girlfriends about dating and usually get the sister talk that really does not result in much clarity. It's more like we talk to each other to have an opinion. That's not to say none of my girls make much since, it's just ...Views: 229