Does appearance matter a lot?

Hi everybody, Something is haunting in my mind for a long time that am i looking good? 3 years ago, When i was in my college, i had lots of female friends, they come and talk to me, spent some time with me. i thought i was so appealing on that time. But now, people are giving a glimpse at me.

I was under medication for a while, that made me a bit obese. However i lost my weight considerably. But i didnt find any attraction in me.

This is not a matter of appearance, it made me to have a poor self esteem, as if a student who was a topper throughout the year and keep on failing nowadays.

If i go there and had a conversation, they are not so interested in talking with me. If i could come out of this problem, i can concentrate more on my work and do wonders. because that kind of person i am.

I dont know whether, i have delivered what is in my mind, i am in confusion. please help me out..

Its a matter of personal choice, to some appearance matters a lot and to some it doesn't. I think you should focus on building your own personality and not focus on your looks. Eventually you will get what you want.

I have a suspicion that You feel down even before You meet somebody and people are good at feeling each other's energy. So is it true, that You feel lack of confidence when around people or that You start thinking like I know how this is going to be... etc ?

I have a suspicion that You feel down even before You meet somebody and people are good at feeling each other's energy. So is it true, that You feel lack of confidence when around people or that You start thinking like I know how this is going to be... etc ?
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Not exactly.... however, i could find the difference in treating me and other guys.. saying bye to me is for name sake.. but to others it being enthusiastic....