Author: neerajforsure

Cliche but true: You realise the importance of something only when you loose it. The same happened with me last week in a very realistic and practical manner. For a background I live in a rented room set in Noida. Everything was running smooth until one fine evening after returning from office I went into the washroom to freshen up and to my utter surprise there was no water. I tried to console myself by taking it as a temporary issue and following that I went outside to check with other people. No one was on the same page with me.

I started to panic a little bit as my landlord departed to Kolkata for eight days on previous day. Motor to lift water in the tank on terrace had only one switch which was behind the locked doors. Now I needed a lifesaving arrangement. Good two hours I tried everything but no avail. When I was returning to my place one of the guards told that municipal water comes from six to nine every morning and evening . Next day I woke up at seven and took two buckets to that tap and filled them. While walking back with heavily filled buckets I got acquainted with the problems of people who on the very daily basis suffered due to shortage of water. I bathed myself and used the water for daily chores and again went to the tap to fill the buckets to reserve for the rest of the day.

Now its third day in a row and I think I have adjusted myself for the condition. I think its not a big deal because I know it is temporary and in couple of days everything will be fine but I can’t imagine how people adjust to these problems for the whole life. These three days taught me how and why water is life.

I, on a very small scale, pledged to myself that I will not waste water in future. After little bit of research I got to know that more than 2.8 billion people are affected due to water crisis for a period of a month in a year. Leave alone shortage of water , availability of potable water is a different story altogether.

To my surprise when I entered my place today and randomly checked the tap of my room, life was there. I felt relieved and thanked god. Mystery behind that is still in dark though.

I used to have a 150 Bajaj Pulsar since 4 years now and being a bike crazy my heart was cringing to fly on a machine which is newer, faster and closer to my soul. I was planning to sell my old one but if you are this much crazy about bike you need to make a large effort to make up your mind to part your ways with your fitter half. My old pal had no idea what my mind was up to. On a very fine afternoon I randomly decided to take the step and in an hour I was in Karol Bagh, biggest market of vehicles.

I was searching for an agent who would provide a decent deal and finally I was into a shop run by paaji( Punjabi) who emerged as an epitome of cunning businessman. At a point when I was tired of argument I just wanted to let go things and returned home.

After good two months enjoying all the modes of public transport finally came the day when I went to Bajaj showroom on 26th April, 2017 to own a brand new Bajaj Pulsar RS200. Being a deadly combination of beauty and beast, it didn’t missed any chance to raise my adrenaline whenever I used to get a small look in the showroom. Some of you might think of me boasting but you would not understand unless you are a bike crazy like me. Good two hours they took to make my papers ready and of course the beast.

Time came when I was at the exit of the showroom with exit pass. An attendant brought my lovely carved and muscular beast and I took the first ride. The feeling I had at that time is beyond words. My inner self was hypothetically crying happily because of the sensation and for a minutes I was looking in the sky dealing man to man with the sun with confidence which had no shortcomings but a superpower making me invincible. I felt like consoling myself that I am alive and not dreaming but my state of mind had other plans.

First thing first I needed to feed the beast for the first time and then I went to meet the dearest person with whom I wished to share this feeling. Both of us flew for sometime in the city.

Its been more than a month now and my bike never fails to surprise me at any moment. May this unclaimed possession of unseen brotherhood never ends.

Spring is something which retaliates when released after compression and same the child psychology. The psychology of the child can be understood very well by taking the example of a spring.

Children are what we shape them into and whatever they adapt from surroundings. They are actually mirror of the society. They do whatever they see others do and whatever other tell them to do. They actually behave like and audience who fall in love with any fascinating role model and try to copy them.This can be tempting to see any child acting like anybody else but at the same time it can be negative.

How a child behaves or how he is totally depends upon the culture he is born and raised into. For example a child who is outspoken could have been from a large family or have been always given preference to speak up or being frank, whatever he demanded was fulfilled without much restriction.

Similarly in the families where children are not allowed to express their view become introvert with time and fear to express. There are some families which are very strict and seldom encourage children to enjoy their freedom. This not only kills the creativity in children but also discourage them to try something new. In this scenario “the spring” comes. When the spring is compressed then it retaliate with the same force in order to retain its shape, similarly when we put pressure on the kids they tend to retaliate with same magnitude and mostly in negative way. These kids tend to be more rebel than others.

Child psychology is very sensitive and hence needs proper attention and smart approach rather than crooked old ways which are not even compatible today as the time has changed.

Fear is a self gifted trait of any psychology. Fear is a natural part of our conscience and is as obvious as happiness, anger, sadness, joy and much more. It is a feeling which originates from the outer world and then generates from the inner self.

To justify this, best is to take an example of a small baby who has no fear as he has no awareness. You might have seen parents tossing their babies in air only to catch them back wherein the baby has no fear as he is unaware of the aftermath of rising into the air. The baby feels happy and excited as he is only enjoying the ride. Similarly children who draw themselves away from studying or doing hard work are not afraid of the end results because they just don’t realise what would be the impact on their future. We can say that we generate the feeling of fear only when we are aware of our surroundings, in later stage though it can be classified as reality based fear or just a hoax.

Some acts of fear are habitual in nature or better to say superstitious. Like one of my cousin has a very strange habit of touching anything four times. for inference, whenever he touches something like door or wall he touches it again for three times as to complete the routine of four times. We must have many habits like this which are very normal and is just that we have made our mind that doing anything in this manner only will make that thing happen. In reality it doesn’t do anything but only satisfies our inner self. If something is not done in that very manner we tend to feel incomplete or awkward.

Overall, fear is an integral part of our personality and we should always try to overcome the same. Even the most prominent personalities of the world believed in these kind of superstitions.

How we react, burst our emotions totally depend upon how we feel our how we perceive. Whatever we are uttering may not be the whole truth because that is the part that we have seen not the other person. For inference there maybe ‘n’ number of opinions of any decision taken by the government. The reason behind this diversity is the factor of our comfort level with that decision.

We want somebody who is always ready to listen to us but it is really uncomfortable to be in opposite position. Rather saying it as a demerit, it can be termed as a psychological trait. Nowadays we are becoming so much impatient that we only listen our side and become judgemental at the very moment. Without listening the whole story we declare the verdict resulting in chaos, arguments and clashes.

In order to avoid this we should be always ready to see both sides of the coin which in turn will definitely help ourselves because a healthy discussion not only soothes the mind but also infuses our mind with positive things. The basic definition includes its most important characteristic of being a two way entity.Life is not about the win and fail but to grasp the essence of each and every moment be it good or bad.

From a daily wage labourer to a prime minister of a country, everybody is in a race, a race to prove himself, a race to defy himself, a race to emerge out better than yesterday. This is the essence of life , this is the motive of what we are going through.

This is a very nice stature of life, at least if considered an ideal situation. If we ponder upon the case of children we can see there is an enormous pressure exerted on them by society, family, relatives and friends. A child does not know what he is able to do, in spite of knowing the areas of opportunities he is pushed in the “death well” of performance where he has only one option i.e. only to get great results, if not then he is a loser.

Going through all this he grows up and like a rapid stream of water which carries with itself sand as well as gravel, symbolising the trend of society. If you are not doing this job, then you are not doing a job. Few marks are already decided, outstanding which you lose. If we were not able to achieve anything we try to put that onto shoulders of our descendants and without realising we make a failure out of them.

Only thing I wish to say is that the rule of success is to do better in a field which we like rather than wasting time, energy and zeal in what others like and we don’t. Even if you don’t make up to be a billionaire , you will be happy and contended that at least you have lived for what you believed for, in one life which is all you have got.