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Wedding in India is not less than a hectic job, you are all the time busy about planning or coordinating with vendors. This is really serious affair as you want everything to be perfect and matching up with your requirements and social status. It can also give you jittery nights, if you are not sure about the different things and you have no clue how to make all wedding arrangements. In such a situation, this becomes more important that you make a checklist of things for a perfect wedding affair. Here, we are sharing a checklist which will help in ensuring that you are going on right track and you are not missing anything for the D day.

Decide a wedding date: Before you start your wedding planning or start your marriage preparation, fix a wedding date. Fix a wedding date according to your convenience. Always keep various factors in mind like both the families should agree over the date, you will be able to find a venue and other vendor for the specific date. The best tip for fixing a wedding date, try to fix it during off season, so that you will be able to get the best deals within your budget.

Fix a budget: This is another important and decisive factor. You should always fix a budget before you start wedding planning and start booking vendors. This way you will be able to decide how much money you want to spend on what? Furthermore, divide the budget into three-four different categories like shopping, jewelry, venue booking, decoration, and gifts, etc.

Allocate responsibilities: Never assume that you can handle everything at your own and you don’t need anyone to help you in wedding arrangements. The best thing to reduce your stress and arrange everything perfectly allocate responsibilities between family members and those you think will be able to help you out in different things be it your relatives or friends.

Hire wedding planner: If you think that you are not able the handle everything at your own, then it is always better to hire a wedding planner. They can help you in almost everything related to wedding and wedding arrangements. They are the experts of the field and can provide you the best wedding arrangement solutions within your budget.

Plan your events: Before you start booking the venue for your wedding and other events, it is better to decide the total events pre wedding, wedding and post wedding. It will help you in understanding for how many days you need to book a venue or arrange other things. Are you going to conduct an engagement ceremony? Are you going to throw bachelor party? Do you need a separate venue or you will organize such events at home? Decide all such things before fixing the venue, so that you know all the events in advance and make arrangements accordingly.

Make a guest list: Make a guest list in advance before you start booking venue and other vendors. Are you going to invite 400 people or 200 people in your marriage party? Are you going to make it a grand affair by inviting 800 or more guests? Decide the number of guests because it will help in deciding the overall budget. It will also help in knowing that are you sticking to your fixed budget or you are exceeding your budget.

Book a venue: The sooner the better is just apt when it comes to booking your wedding venue. The early you start exploring a venue and book it, the better deal you will get. It will help in booking the desired venue and getting the best deal in terms of booking amount. In most of the cases, when you book venue just a month before your wedding day, you are supposed to pay the increased price and at times you settle down with some ordinary marriage venue because most of the venues are booked in advance. The best thing is you should book a marriage venue at least three to four months in advance.

Complete shopping before D day: Complete your wedding shopping at least a month or so before your wedding day. In most of the case, we have seen people rushing from one place to another even just a day before the wedding to shop something. To reduce your stress and relax, complete your shopping before the wedding day.

Book photographer: Don’t delay in booking the photographer for wedding reception and other wedding ceremonies. If you want to do a pre-wedding shoot, which is very much in trend and cover all your wedding events, it is better to book a photographer and videographer well in advance.

Select card: To send invitation to guest on time it is always suggested to select a wedding invitation card in advance. A wedding invitation card is one of most important thing. It is not easy and simple to fix a card as most of the time you get confused because of multiple options available in the market. Besides, it is important to fix a card in advance because it takes time to complete the printing part. Most of the people like to deliver the card personally, therefore, it becomes more important to get it fixed well in advance.

Are you going to meet someone for the first time for arranged marriage meeting? Have you decided what you are going to wear on your meeting? Have you thought about the questions you are going to ask him/her in your first meeting? If you are ready with all your background work, then your half job is done for the day. But, apart from all these major-minor stuff, you need to act more smartly to figure out is he/she faking something to you. Many people fake about a lot of things when they meet someone for the first time. They fake about a lot of things be it about their job, personality, thoughts, ideologies and something else. There are chances that you feel attracted with their personality, thoughts and later on regret about your decision. Here, we are sharing some important things to notice when you are meeting someone for the first time in arranged marriage meeting.

Duplicate happiness: When you meet someone for the first time for arranged marriage meeting, you feel that the other person is showing he/she is too happy to see you. They show the over doze of their happiness. This is true that you feel excited and nervous at the same when you meet someone for the first time. It is a kind of mix feeling, but if the other person is showing that he/she is too happy to see you or overwhelmed to meet you, then he/she must be faking about their happiness.

Fake smile: Big, bigger, biggest this is what you noticed about their smile when you meet him/her for the first time. If he/she is smiling a lot and showing that she is very happy with this meeting, then there are chances that he/she is giving you a fake smile. Pay more attention to the facial expressions while he/she smiles. If his/her eyes getting smaller with the smile, then no doubt it is the real magical smile, but it is a fake one, then there will be no changes in the size of the eyes.

Showing what they are not: Many people pretend a lot about their personality and other things. They tell you many things, which they actually don’t believe in or feel strong about it. They tell you things and stories what they believe, but actually in their real life they are not even close to it. So, be attentive and a good observer while discussing with him/her something.

To be more idealistic: When you meet someone for the first time there are many things that you said out of emotions or to make your impression. But, actually you don’t believe in such things. You should always focus on things what he/she shares with you. Is he/she telling you things or ideas that are actually not possible to follow in your day-to-day life? So, be a smart observer while discussing your expectations, future plans and other things about your future.

Over concern: He/she is meeting you for the first time and showing over concern about you and your life. Is he/she asking questions about how you commute daily? How you manage things at your own? Does he/she ask you to drop you somewhere or pick from somewhere? If he/she showing over concern about your personal life in the first meeting, then it better to be more cautious about discussing things with him/her. It might be he/she will use the same information against you in the future. Therefore, showing genuine concern is good, but showing over concern to dig information from you is not right approach to start a new relationship.

More cool and updated: Is he/she trying to be more cool in front of you? Is he/she showing that they are least bothered about some issues that might affect your overall decision making process? There are two things which might be possible in such a situation that either he/she is genuinely cool or just pretending to be cool in the first meeting. If he/she is showing that he/she is very much updated and flaunting their ideas like anything, then better be cautious because such people are self-obsessed. So, be more attentive when you meet someone for the first time. Don’t get impressed just because he/she is pretending to be cool about things and circumstances.

The idea of arranged marriage is really confusing and complicated. When you decided to go for arranged marriage, the whole process is time consuming and daunting. In all arranged marriage set-up, the first meeting with your future partner is very crucial and important. Both the girl and the boy should behave sensibly and maturely while meeting the first time. It is not about that the girls behave more sensitively, even the boys too behave in the same manner. In such odd situation, you need to be little cautious and ask right kind of questions. It is not just the responsibility of the boy to ask the intelligent and sensible questions, rather the girls should also keep this in mind. She should not ask sensitive questions to him. Here are some questions you should not ask to a guy when you are meeting him for the first time.

Do you plan to live separately after marriage: This is the one question which you should not ask to any guy when you are meeting him for the first time. It gives a negative impression and could be a big turn off. It might also give him indication that you don’t want to stay with his parents after marriage or will never adjust with them. So to avoid the tag of home breaker, avoid this question and if you really want to ask, mold your question in something more rational and logical way.

How much you earn?: This is another very sensitive question, however, money is important, but asking this question might offend him. Rather, you can ask some indirect questions like, “What are your future plans?” It will further help you in understanding his role and future stability in a better way. His salary is something that your parents could also enquire about. Even you might also get to know this later if you will get hooked with him.

Any past relationship or girlfriend: Just like you, your prospective partner may also have a past. But, many will like to be questioned much about it, forget sharing the details. Don’t go overboard by asking too personal and intimate questions from him about his past-life.

Are you virgin?: Hey, this is a million dollar questions and might be very important to you. But, asking this question to him in the first meeting might turn disastrous. This is not the right moment to ask such questions. Always, remember that he is not your college friend/office colleague to whom you can ask any question. He is just a stranger to you and this is really sensitive question to ask when you are meeting someone for the very first time. Similar to the girls, boys too find this question direct attack on their character. So, before asking such question, think twice and it could also lead to rejection.

Can we meet one or two more times without telling our parents: No matter, how broad-minded guys claim to be, they will never appreciate this question from a girl. Especially in an arranged marriage scenario, you tend to judge the person based on their initial behavior. There are chances that he might consider you as too fast and easy-going girl. In arranged marriage scenario, always stick to conservative ideas.

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Are you ready to meet him/her for the first time? Marriage is a beautiful thing and to make it successful, it is important that you keep your right foot forward to begin your journey. Making the right move in marriage is really important. But, it is equally important to know whether he/she is right for you or not. It is important to know his/her views and to know him/her closely. Before making your decision, it is important that you know more about him/her and take a learned decision. It is an important decision of your life and you should not take such an important decision in a hurry. To being your journey with your partner it is important that you should ask below questions to your partner.

What makes you feel that you should meet? This is really important to know what attracted him/her most which encouraged him/her to meet you for arranged marriage.

Has he/she decided to you in a hurry or under pressure? Is he/she taking this decision after evaluating various points and considering you as perfect partner?

Why does he/she want to spend rest of his/her with you? He/she should be able to tell what drives him/her to take this decision. It is really important to know why you are important.

What kind of expectation you have from him/her after marriage? These expectations should include financial, emotional, physical and more. What are his/her expectations from his/her life partner?

Ask questions like does he/she has any healthy issue or history that you should know before marriage? It will be helpful to know such details as you are going to spend of your life with him/her. So, you will be prepared to face any unwanted situation with ease.

Does he/she will be equally affectionate and emotionally involved in this relationship? What are your expectations on the emotional level?

Does he/she mind if your friends/cousin/relatives will visit you frequently or you will visit them?

What are your expectations from each-other’s family? How you want to manage your family issues after marriage?

Do you want to stay with his parents after marriage or you want to stay in a separate house after marriage?

Would you like to take care of your parents after marriage because you are the only child/their old age/any health issue which requires personal care and attention? Would you like them to stay with you?

Will you support your family financially after marriage as well? Will you send a certain percentage of your earning to your parents to support them financially?

How important is individuality, equality and independence for you after marriage?

Who is going to take care of financial matters after marriage? Who is going to make financial decisions after marriage? How much money would you like to save for your future after marriage?

Do you have any financial liability towards your family/any debt to be paid after marriage as well?

When you want to start your family after marriage? Would you like to start just after your marriage or you would like wait for one or more years or want to settle down with your first then want start thinking about it?

If after marriage you are required to shift in a different city/state/country because of your job would you like to shift with him/her?

Marriage is one of the most beautiful relationships and can be bliss if nurtured well. The one thing that connects you with your soul-mate is your understanding and love with your partner. But, if your relationship is not that great and you failed to manage it well, then you land into a foul soup. Everything in that relationship appears complicated and troublesome. It increases fight and tensions among the young couples. As a newlywed you need to pay more attention and time to this relationship. Here, we are sharing some tips for newlyweds to make your married life happier.

Don’t involve your family all the time: It is good to take advice from your elders and take their help and suggestion if it is really required. But, it is not at all suggested to involve your parents or in-laws in every big and small matter. Take your stand and make your own decisions. It is good if you avoid involving your parents and other family members in your personal matters.

Don’t go to bed in bad mood: Arguments, small clashes and difference of opinions are common in very relationship and even in happiest marriage as well. Your partner can’t all the time accept and agree upon your thoughts and idea. Learn to accept the difference of opinions in a lighter note rather than reacting on it immediately or just holding them for some time. All couples must settle down their differences or any kind of conflicts before they go to bed. It is important to stay happy and feel stress free.

Keep it simple and wait for some time: There are many couples who just jump into a new role just after marriage. There are lot things you are expected to cope-up with after marriage like settling down in new family, understanding issues with family and your spouse, job changes and maintaining a balance between your office and home. Therefore, it is advisable to avoid planning a family just after your marriage. It is good to wait for at least six months or more or until you feel that that you are well settled in new family and comfortable to take this new responsibility.

Track your money: One thing over which most of the couples fight frequently after marriage is money. As a married couple, you must be surprised to note that your money just flies away and it is really difficult to track it. But, make a habit of noting down each and every expense, making a monthly budget and sticking to it religiously. Track your money and try to save money for your future. Avoid asking money from parents and in-laws. It can trigger clashes and arguments between you.

Don’t quit your job: After marriage, you will find that your overall monthly expenses increases and to combat that it is important that you have sufficient money flow. If both of you are working, you will find it easier to save money and invest your money to gain combined financial success. It will also help you to keep yourself busy and tuned with your routine.

Follow your dreams: It is important to have dreams and chase them. It is good for individuals and for couples as well. It gives you a platform where you both started thinking similarly. Your dream could be anything like taking a new job, starting a new business, buying your own house or something else. It is important to share your idea with your spouse, take his/her views and suggestions. It will strengthen your bond and build your understanding as couple.

Work as team not individuals: A happy marriage is all about working as a team not as two individuals. Take care of each-others requirements and needs. Try to do household chores together or divide your responsibilities to ease your burden. It will build your bonding and you work as team to meet your daily requirements. It will give you the feeling of a happy couple and will improve your relationship with your spouse.