March EQ Theme: I am special!

This month we will be focusing on the development of self-awareness and self-esteem.

What is self-esteem?

Self-esteem is how someone ‘feels’ about themselves and is often a result of the experiences they have had in life. Children have different temperaments which can affect how sensitive and resilient they are but life experiences also have a huge effect on self-esteem. Some children are more naturally independent and self-sufficient whilst others need more support and nurturing. We as parents and teachers need to respond to the individual needs of the child.

Children with high self-esteem:

Take risks with their learning and in social situations

Are able to say what they are good at and are generally quite positive

Treat others with kindness

Often appear happy

Tend to attract friends easily

Children with low self-esteem:

Are afraid to try something because they are afraid of failure

Often state that they ‘cannot’ do something and often appear to be quite negative

Can be hurtful to others or they will isolate or distance themselves from their peers

May often complain and dwell on events that have upset them

Struggle to make good friendships, some will become loners and others will often appear to be in constant conflict with their peers

What can I do to help improve/maintain my child’s self-esteem?

Listen to them and spend time with them

Be calm and patient when you can see they are nervous about an activity

Encourage them to try new things but don’t push when a child is not ready

Physical affection is really important

Give positive descriptive praise. It’s great to say ‘Well done!’ but try extending the praise to ‘Well done for staying in the lines. I can see you were really concentrating.’ This type of praise means more.

Remember that self-esteem is not a ‘constant’. We all have peaks and troughs. Don’t panic when your child dips but pay close attention and respond to their needs.

When you are really worried please come and speak to us! Our doors are always open!