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!!!WOW!!!. I am overwhelmed by all the good advice and good positive energy I am feeling here. I am feeling the love!!!

I have some good news!!! One beekeeper here on this forum has PM'd me and offered to come to help me on the weekends when he is off work. He lives about 1/2 hour from me. So I am feeling better now as I feel some hope.

This is a workers compensation injury and the insurance company has not been easy to deal with. They have basically denied my treatment for over 3 years now. I have had at least 2 other opinions from good surgeons. My hands tingle and fall asleep and have become very weak. I have had an EMG and a Nerve Conduction Study. All parties agree I need this surgery. For some reason, now the insurance company has decided to send me to a very good hand surgeon in Davis California and I am scheduled for surgery Feb 27. Since they finally decided to treat me after denying me such a long time, I do not want to rock the boat now by requesting other treatment(chiropractor)

I will rely on my husband and this kind gentleman to come through for me. My biggest fear is not being a good patient. I know my nature and I would tend to try things I should not do. I appreciate hearing how important it is to be a good patient and do what the dr says. I am going to try very hard.

I am overwhelmed by the kindness and understanding here from all you wonderful people. It truly feels like a family.Thank you so much for all the wonderful words of encouragment.

Tell the L&I people that if they don't let you have the surgery or therapy to alleviate the carpal tunnel syndrome that You'll be forced to file a disability retire claim because of being unable to use your hand for work. That should get a response.

I had shoulder surgery when I couldn't lift my left arm above my belt. I waited too long and the sheath of scar tissue that built up around the nerve has hampered me ever since. Later I had to have Ulnar Nerve surgery to alleviate a similar problem in the left elbow. Both times the ring and pinky fingers of my left hand started to curl into the palm and I couldn't straighten them. I now have scar sheaths around the same nerve at both surgery sites. I can straighten my fingers out about 95% but have lost 20% motor control and feeling there. I have sciatica due to pinched nerves in my back (had surgery there too). Once the nerves get damaged you can only regain a portion of what you lost. The faster it can get attended to the better, but get a 2nd, 3rd, and 4th opinion. Different doctors will use different procedures, choose the best procedure for you.

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Life is a school. What have you learned? :brian: The greatest danger to our society is apathy, vote in every election!

Annette, 1. Do everything you can think of for your bees before your surgery. 2. Have surgery. 3. Have your beekeeper friend come over while you are recuperating to take care of any necessary tasks. 4. Ask your husband to move a comfy chair near the hives. 5. Sit in said chair and ENJOY your girls. 6. While enjoying your bees remember all of us support you and wish you well.

I cannot even mention all of you by name. I just love you all and appreciate all the sincere advice.I will take all the advice you have given to my heart and I will do the right thing.

Will keep you all informed, hopefully I can type after.

I did not want to make it seem like my husband is mean. He is a wonderful man, just has his own things he likes to do and doing bees is not one of them. He gets impatient just putting on the bee suit. I accept him, and hopefully I will not have to rely on him to much. He is a good man anyway!!!

If I lived closer to you I would come and help you out. But you are about 3 to 4 hrs from me. You will be fine and it is right around the cornor. Make sure they are feed and have sugar syrup to eat and they will be fine for a while.

Annette, your gratitude shines through, you are a lucky woman to have all of us that will provide you this support that you will need. There is nothing more important on this earth than people who care.....you have seen this power, it will be with you.

I don't think that you ever gave any impression that your Husband is mean, hee, hee, :evil: ;) :) :). Birds of a feather, you know that old saying, you are a wonderful person, I am sure he is the same. I understand where you are coming from about saying that he doesn't particularly enjoy to don the bee suit and do stuff. Neither does mine. He will.....if I MAKE him....ooops, did I say that? I didn't mean that I force him really, he will, but it takes some persuasion. It just isn't his baleywick, not one little bit. But he loves to build beey things for me. That is his gig. But, just like you, if I really needed to lean on him, well then he would don that knight in shining armour demeanor and do what needs to be done. I am sure your Hubby would too. Anyways, good luck with the surgery, speak to us often to let us know how all is making out. And yes, that is wonderful that you have found a beeekeeper that will come to your aid when you need this extra assistance. Have the most wonderful and beautiful day, love your life you live. Cindi

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I am lucky to have attracted all this good advice from all you wonderful people and yes lucky to have a good husband. I cannot thank you all enough for the care I am feeling.

I do have a question:

If I made up batchs of sugar syrup ahead of time 1:1, how long would it keep??? I could have several jugs made up the week before my surgery and just sitting and waiting. I store stuff in an outside barn at my friends house where I also have my bees.

I am now in the process of cutting up burlap into strips and placing into zip lock bags so I will have that ready for probably the whole summer of smoking. All other equipment is ready to go. I could, if I had to, drive over to Mann Lake in Woodland and pick up a ready made super all painted if the need arises.

I think you all know that I am not a person of many words, but I could not let all these posts go unnoticed as I was truly touched by each and every one of them.

I would love to thank you all:

Angie thank you for that wonderful offer of coming over to help me. I know that each and every one of you would do the same if given the chance.

Kimbrell yes those where beautiful words of wisdom and I will do just that. Take it easy and enjoy the bees.

JP, I did think about the ventro since I could just speak. Maybe will give it a try then. February would be to early to place honey supers on top. Sometimes in March we get good hail storms and cold weather for short periods. Will keep the can of woop close by (only kidding)

DayValleyDahlias Thanks for the encouragment as well about this type of surgery and the reminder the bees will be fine. Probably better off without me Hee! Hee!

Brian, you have sure seen your share of how deceitful the body can be. You are an inspiration to people with less than perfectly strong bodies and show how everyone can continue to do what their heart desires.

Deejaycee, You have definitely inspired me to be a good patient and I will make every effort follow the dr's orders. You were right on about making that one hive manipulation that could make the difference on how the healing goes. I will have to read your post over and over again if I even have the thought to do this.

Tillie, wow, a family of dr's. No wonder you are so smart. You are so correct about avoiding surgery whenever possible. Believe me I do not take this lightly and if I had any doubt about it, I would not do it. I can hardly feel my hands sometimes. Thanks again for the good advice.

beehooper, love that advice as well. Very upbeat and positive and yes my hubby does shine (usually)

mrilovetheants, I am going to purchase a pair of those claws to life the frames. I was always meaning to get those. Thanks for the advice.

Cindi, thanks always for your upbeat and happy view on life. You always bring people over to the light and that is a special quality you have.

KathyP, I love your tough and to the point way of looking at things. You are definitely a "no nonsense woman". Thanks

Burl, Maybe I should put that umbrella down, Ouch!!!!

Sean, sorry you are having these same issues as me. Good luck with your treatments as well.

Jerrymac and Randydrivesabus, both these opinions are great. Makes me feel better about letting them bee. Good to know they can do so well on their own.

Nate and Steveouck, I agree with the second opinions and how important that is. Yes, I have done that. The chiropractor would have been a good thing had I known about this perhaps years ago. I believe my hands are to far gone now. Thank you both

Moonshae, good advice about moving one frame at a time and I probably will have to do this later on when I can start working them.

BMAC, I like your view of marriage. We are in this to support each other for sure. Hubby is a good person.

Thanks and LoveAnnette - I have printed this entire post out as well and will keep in my beekeeping journal.

If I made up batchs of sugar syrup ahead of time 1:1, how long would it keep???

you can freeze it and either take it out the night before to thaw, or if it's in a heat safe container, thaw it in some warm water in the sink. i freeze any extra that i have and use it for humming bird feed.

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my mother had it on both hands and did surgery on the right. it didn't make much difference and so she refused the one for her left hand. the severe syptoms came back after several months [which the doctor kindly warned her about before the surgery]. i have the same problem [probably genetic] on both my hands for the last 15 years. i can only say one thing....getting stung often on my hands has relieved my symptoms. of course the relief last only a few days then i have to get stung again. one reason i don't wear gloves....i HAVE to get at least one sting, preferably 2 on each hand weekly. i noticed that multiple stings have a better effect once the initial swelling has gone down which it usually does several hours later.

BTW: i also have arthritis on both hands and i feel the same relief as the carpal tunnel with bee stings. i only wish i were a beekeeper when she was still alive because maybe it would have helped her as it helps me now.

Annette, your gratitude shines through, you are very special. You took that time to thank each and every person that gave you support when you reached out to us all. Wonderful. You will do just fine, your bees will do just fine. AND.....most of all....your Husband will do just fine. By the time he is over the trauma of having to do all this work with the bees (just kidding), he is going to need a break and you will have to help him out :-X ;) :) :) Have the most wonderful and beautiful day, Cindi

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There are strange things done in the midnight sun by the men who moil for gold. The Arctic trails have their secret tales that would make your blood run cold. The Northern Lights have seen queer sights, but the queerest they ever did see, what the night on the marge of Lake Lebarge, I cremated Sam McGee. Robert Service

I'm late to the fair for advice. There are lots of different approaches to the surgery. Some surgeons will still do an 'open' approach, most go in using a scope. Please take the advice and get several opinions before you let anyone do surgery. Then do your homework on both the surgeon and the approach. Find a surgeon who has done lots of carpal tunnel surgeries. Preferably a fellowship trained hand specialist.

Research has shown that the more they do they better they are at it, no matter how "simple" they say it is.

Don't be afraid to ask a lot of questions and expect frank, truthful answers. If you don't get them. Find someone else.

Getting a second opinion saved me from having sinus surgery when I actually have a problem caused by a diseased jaw joint. Thank God I talked with a surgeon who told me he saw no reason to do surgery.

Hope this helps. Don't be afraid to approach medicine with gumption. It's your body; you deserve good treatment.