(Closed) Sister went hard on me tonight for noooo reason??? VENT.

So my mom came down to visit tonight (she lives an hour or so away) & since shes still recovering from menigitis we havent seen her in a few weeks because of our busy schedules & her doc appts/physical therapy all the time. We all met at my sisters so we could go to dinner together. (Me, Fiance, sister, her hubby, mom, & her fiance)

So I walk into my sisters and since I havent seen my mom for awhile, I mentioned that I was strongly considering having a dress made by Jasmines Bridal Shop… (I had mentioned this months ago, but was watching the threads and searching for dream dresses in the meantime) My sister literally FLIPPED out on me, because a few weeks ago we tried on a dress from Vera Wang white that SHE loved & SHE said its THE ONE. I told her its def a contender, but I felt I should keep looking because I wasnt sure. She cried tears of joy and we hugged, but I still said im not 100% sure. Well apparantly because she says its the one, how dare I say it may not be. She immediately went off saying that I change my mind too much, I will never be happy, I am too crazy to keep up with and I stress her out. She said we had a moment & now its all shit. Im like…. WHAT???

I told her that because I am in the process of losing weight, I dont know if I can say yes to any dress right this second. (7 lbs down in 5 weeks, yay for me!! But still want to drop 12-15 more.) She then goes on to say that I am not fat, I will never be satisfied, and she was offended because I said I didnt want a double chin in my wedding photos. She said because I am smaller than her, its offensive when I talk about losing weight. She then continued to dig and jab at me all night at dinner… I was so ready to go home.

So Im just venting… Fiance was wowed by her attitude tonight too. Anyone experienced a similar situation? Advice? LOL. Thanks bees!

@Lounging_in_Lilacs: We typically get along well, and in fact I saw her earlier today and she was fine. A little backstory: She is legally blind but works as the head OT at her job… She cant drive, ever. So she needs rides alot. Since my mom moved and cant drive from being ill, I take her/pick her up whenever she calls. I picked her up from work today & took her to a dental appt to have a crown put on. She told me her husband was bitching about the $600 dental bill and she was fighting with him… & She wasnt too thrilled about going to the dentist… & I know shes fallen off the healthy eating wagon in the last couple weeks too. She was originally 250 lbs and lost 57 lbs. I was so proud of her! Well Now shes gained 10 or so back so Im not sure if this is what is sparking the attitude? Also, her close friend is moving to another state in a week or so. I just dont feel I deserved to be attacked because of all this. I have my own issues too, but I dont take it out on my family.

It sounds like she was having a bad day and has a few things bugging her about her own life and needed to go raaaahhh! Unfortunatley being the sister, you are the closest thing to her, but the easiest to go off at. Dont take it personally. I only say this, cause my sister and I are very close, but have a tendency to do this to each other… especially when we feel like our own personal lives are out of our controll, yet the others seems so perfect. Im not saying its healthy or normal, but I know thats how we vent sometimes.

Sit down with your sis when you are both good again and talk to her about it. Say your sorry you thought you made her think that dress was the one.

Ask her what bothering her… but nicely. She will open up. but give her time to do it.