am i over reacting? DS, his GF and my hairbrush

Last night we went out leaving DS in the shower getting ready to go out with his GF. She wasn't ready to go out and i presumed they would be going to her house later as they were going out with her family. DS slept at GF's last night.this morning i've washed my hair and my hairbrushes weren't in the drawer where i keep them. i've found them downstairs, one has been cleaned and washed. next to them is my make up mirror and GF's make up bag. I'm not happy that -one of them has been in my bedroom and taken my brushes from my drawer -one of them has taken my make up mirror from my make up bag- my brush wasn't clean enough for her to use so it has been washed (scrubbed)-nothing has been returned-ds isn't replying to my text!

None of it is unreasonable if they haven't asked permission first, that's massively annoying, going through your things as well as not putting things back.

I imagine the likely scenario is though that your sons GF forgot a hair brush and needed a mirror and your son went into your room and borrowed yours, rather than her going through your things. He probably didn't mean to violate your personal space and it probably didn't even occur to him to ask you as you were out.

As for the washing of the brush, don't take it personally, some people are funny about hair. Also maybe she was trying to be polite, would you want a brush back full of your sons GFs hair? it's probably been washed after her using it not before.

Have a word with your son he is obviously old enough to understand personal boundaries, just that you would like to be asked next time, or at the very least put things back where you found them if you do borrow.

I would have gone nuts if they had been in my bedroom. . Ds and his gf used my en suite shower once and she left the shampoo and conditioner lids off and it all drained away!! I let her know it was disrespectful and wasn't on. . Let your boundaries known to both of them. .