Wednesday, 4 September 2013

LIGHT BULB MOMENTS; Four shortcuts to caring less!

I looked up a solution to excess
feelings just the other day. I thought, ‘If we can clone a human being, surely,
we can suppress a few out-of-balance hormones in the body, heck, we can
eliminate them completely if we decided’… I suffer from a condition called
Care-too-much/Trust-too-much/Love-too-much-iasis. It’s a condition where you
don’t know how to do things half-heartedly. When you are in, you are all in. Apparently,
you can’t survive in the world today if you suffer from this condition. You
need to know how to sit on some of these feelings or else your little arse will
be dragged in the mud from here to Kingdom come…

At first I didn’t believe it, but
in just the last two months, I’ve seen Angels turn to red horned devils, outright
malice from those you thought were your people, those who promised to always be
there for you leave for good, and altogether more tears than I saw in the whole
of last year combined. Now, usually I’m a happy-go-lucky optimistic person, but
even I couldn’t get above it on my own this time, and since it looked like I
couldn’t effectively sit on these feelings, I thought I’d get some help.

You
would be pleasantly surprised at some of the suggestions/ solutions that are
out there: a large variety of resources from books to dissertations to case-studies
and even video blogs on the topic! People are really tired of feeling…makes
sense really-if you don’t care, it can’t hurt you. You would probably also be
surprised by the number of people that suffer from this condition. But fret
not, oh friends with similar ailments, for I bring great news of good tidings.
Yes, there is a solution. I’m not 100% certain it will work; if I was I’d be
charging for it...

After endless trips to all sorts
of information sources, from websites promising to ‘make you a whole new person
in just one night with our Hormone-Suppressing mattresses’, to those that suggested
absurd extreme pharmaceutical solutions, I have gone out of my way to sieve out
the useless and categorize the remaining to give you a summarized version of it
all (because I’m only on my way to recovery from this condition, not all the
way there).

Solution 1; be selfish

Yes. It’s all about me, me, and
ME! Remember how you used up your whole salary to make that surprise party for
your boyfriend’s birthday? Or how you went without sleep for hours because you
were trying to stay up and watch your best friend’s first day at work as a TV
presenter? What about that time you gave your sister your ticket to that band
because she would not be around when they next came to your town and you would?
And that time you missed the season finale of the Championship helping your boss
beat a deadline? Well my friend, I have one word for you: stop. Enough with all
that mush, you come first. You should never have to give up what you want for
somebody else to get what they want. At the end of it all, you’ll die your own
death so live your own life.

Solution 2: no sin goes unpunished.

Enough with trying to fix
everyone’s problems. Everybody comes to you in a crisis because they know you
are reliable and will go the extra mile to help them. Not only that, you are
quick to forgive and forget all the funny things done to you. Because you are
just nice like that. And you don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable. Bullocks.
If they hurt you, they should pay. In pound sterling! Because you are not a walk-over and you hurt
like everyone else.Be firm and be
aggressive. Unless it’s the Pope or a dear relative on their death-bed, no one
gets a get-out-of-jail-free card. And for Pitt’s sake; let people clean up their
own messes!

Solution 3; support group.

Now this might sound a little
extreme I know seeing as solution #1 and #2 can be quite effective all on their
own, but you know how we are. After a while, you will start to feel guilty and
remorseful and want to make things right: don’t. Instead, join a support group
or AA or whatever. People who are just like you and understand what you are
going through, and will give you the constant push you will need to religiously
carry out #1 and #2. If there are no support groups in your area, get in touch
with me and I’ll hook you up.

Solution 4: allow it.

Last but most definitely not
least, disregard solutions 1 through 3. You are who you are, and apart from the
very obvious reason that we are an endangered species, there is a reason why
you were made this way. So keep doing what comes naturally to you because in
due time, you will reap your reward (Galatians 6:9). To be honest, it’s never
that serious. If the people around you don’t appreciate who you are, find those
that do or a way around it. Life has a way of surprising everyone, so don’t
stop believing.

(Well, either that or I can send
you the link for the Feel-No-More Herbal Tea website!)