How To: Initiate Skin Contact

Making any form of physical contact with a girl for the very first time is an event whose significance can’t be underestimated. Whether it’s during the early stages of dating or it's with a girl you just met, skin contact is an indication of progress; once you’ve put it behind you, you can work on increasing the length, frequency and intensity of such contact. There are many different ways to break the touch barrier, so in case you've ever found yourself wondering how to initiate skin contact, we've put together a list of some of the best approaches to help you do just that.

Be warned: Many of these maneuvers require a certain amount of tongue-in-cheek chutzpah to pull off. Therefore, it might help to acknowledge this by adding statements like, “God, I haven’t done that since I was 14!” Hell, we all like to revisit our youth, even if only for an instant.

Brush an eyelash off her face

Yes, it’s something you’d expect to see more often in annoying romantic comedies than in real life, but when executed properly, removing a tiny hair off her face can have a startling effect on a girl. It says to her: “I’m looking out for you. Even the smallest thing won’t get by me.” She may laugh, but 9 times out of 10, she’ll consider it enjoyable skin contact.

Take her hand to lead her somewhere

The behavior of the alpha male is seldom better on display than with this gesture, which is a relatively low-risk way to initiate skin contact. It demonstrates leadership, the ability to protect and social confidence. You know she doesn’t actually need you to guide her through the room, but by doing so you’re letting her — and everyone else watching — know that you have what it takes to watch out for her.

Offer her a massage

If she looks or mentions being stressed out, move in quickly and suggest a shoulder rub. She’ll be grateful for the idea, and it’s a perfectly appropriate way to introduce your hands to her body. Make sure you know what you’re doing, though, because nothing spells romantic disaster like a pinched nerve. In fact, if no one has ever complimented you before on your massage skills, you should stick to a light shoulder rub to stay on the safe side.

Make contact if you’re dancing

The beauty of this technique is that, since you’re dancing, you pretty much have a license to put your hands all over her. Well, maybe not all over her, but you definitely shouldn’t be afraid to put a hand on her hip and allow yourself to get a bit closer. Simply put: Let your pheromones do the talking.

Have a humorous arm wrestle or muscle competition

This playful suggestion allows you to make physical contact with her while establishing the gender roles that even the most modern woman would have a hard time denying. Obviously, you don’t want to initiate skin contact of this kind if her muscles are bigger than yours, in which case you have other, more important things to deal with.