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My kids have a funeral tommorow HELP ME PLEASE

I havent been to a funeral since I was 7 or 8 years old. No one close to me has ever died. My 6 year old and 11 year old are scared to see the body much less be in the same room as the body. I used to be a CNA so I have seen dead bodies since I would have to clean them after they passed because the person defocated. What do I do? I know this is the cycle of life. Please help me. I dont want my kids freaking out. I know my 3 year old wont even know.

I dont think id take my children to the funeral. When i was 5 or 6 my grandmother passed away, my mom had no one to watch us as the funeral was in chicago and we lived in another state. My brother and i went to the funeral but we sat in the back. We did not see the body. Im all for explaining life and death to children, i just dont want my children to have to see it if they dont have too.

With that being said, if it was their dad or a family member they were close too, and they wanted to say goodbye i would let them.

You need to keep your cool mom. If you freak out they will probably freak out too. My grandfather passed away two years ago. My dd was 3 & I had no choice but to take her to the funeral. She did good. She saw him and even put her hand on his Chest. She loved him and cried a little but she did really good. She needed to experience that. It's life. She still remembers him when he was alive and remembers his funeral but not in a scary way.

Let them sit where they're comfortable and don't force anything. When I was 8, I refused at first. I was close to my grampa, though. In the end, I went to him to say goodbye. Then they couldn't get me to move. Funerals are rough no matter the age.

If they don't want to go don't take them. If they are afraid to see the body don't make them. We left the option open to our children and they chose to see their grandmother. It helped them understand where she was, where she was going and that she was going to be safe there.

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