I do, me too: a wedding destination

How to Protect Your Relationship During Wedding Planning

One thing that catches many couples off-guard during the wedding planning process is the amount of strain that can be put on a relationship.

Here are a few tips to keep in mind on the road to I Do:

After you take time to celebrate your engagement together, have an initial conversation about the wedding. Talk about role clarity and what’s more important to your partner. Once you have that clarity, then it’s time to plan!

There are A LOT of decisions that will need to be made and it will probably highlight some “personality quirks.” Like is she Type A and he a procrastinator? Or is she more private and he the life of the party? This will all come into light when you decide the type of wedding you will throw for your guests. So don’t be afraid to compromise and just make sure that you’re both happy in the end.

Involve your family, friends or bridal party in the wedding process. If you’re careful with who you select, the right individuals can add a lot of value by providing another perspective and helping you to stay sane. It’s also helpful to use one of those people for any vent sessions when things go wrong, don’t trail on and on to your mate. There’s more important things that you’ll need to spend time discussing.

Don’t forget to go on date nights that don’t revolve around wedding planning! And if you get really stressed, take a weekend getaway or do a special activity that will bring you closer together. Create a safe place in your relationship so you both don’t get too consumed by all of the details because it just won’t be enjoyable.

One tip I recently heard from a real bride was to also create one day a week where you DON’T think about or do any work created to wedding planning. This is a great tip because it can help you stay balanced mentally and allow you to focus on other areas of life (which will make you more pleasant for everyone to be around!)

Most importantly, don’t lose sight of what you’re planning: the day that will unite you both together forever! Treat each other with respect during the planning process so can feel like you’re on the same team when you see each other at the end of the aisle.

Don’t forget that the real work starts once you’re married, when all of the parties have come and gone and it’s time to live life with your mate. (This is also when it gets really good!)