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enRebel Well: Conflict Resolution Basicshttp://www.scarleteen.com/rebel_well_conflict_resolution
<div class="field field-name-field-page-intro field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Rebel Well: a Starter Survival Guide to a Trumped America for Teens and Emerging Adults: conflict resolution basics for healthy, compassionate disagreement.</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Rebel Well: Conflict Resolution Basics" id="md1" />Sat, 19 Nov 2016 16:31:32 +0000Sam W8268 at http://www.scarleteen.comRebel Well: Relationships & Sexhttp://www.scarleteen.com/rebel_well_relationships_sex
<div class="field field-name-field-page-intro field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Rebel Well: a Starter Survival Guide to a Trumped America for Teens and Emerging Adults: guidance and support for your relationships and your sexual life in troubled times.</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Rebel Well: Relationships &amp; Sex" id="md2" />Sat, 19 Nov 2016 16:30:16 +0000Sam W8267 at http://www.scarleteen.comBuilding Bridges: Sexual Orientation Shiftshttp://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2010/08/31/building_bridges_sexual_orientation_shifts
<div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description"> <p><img src="/sites/files/scarleteen/images/bridges.jpg" alt="connect & conquer" class="img_assist" align="right"style="width:271px;" />Time for another installment of Building Bridges, where we facilitate, then publish a conversation between two people in different life stages who have something with <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#gender" title="Characteristics that are seen or presented as distinguishing between male and female. Gender may or may not include assigned or chosen: sex, social roles, feelings, behaviors and/or presentation or appearance.
" class="lexicon-term">gender</a>, sexuality and/or relationships in common. This time, our intergenerational pair is two women who have had their <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sexual_orientation" title="A term -- like homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, queer, straight, lesbian, gay, asexual -- used to describe a person&#039;s usual or current pattern of emotional, romantic and/or sexual attraction to other people in terms of gender." class="lexicon-term">sexual orientation</a> and <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#identity" title="The defining character or personality of an individual; who we feel like we are as a person. Identity is often used to talk about sexual identity -- who we are as sexual people, which can include things like our sexual orientation, our preferences and things we like and want in sex and sexuality, our sexual politics -- or gender identity, who we feel we are and identify as (even if only to ourselves) in terms of our gender." class="lexicon-term">identity</a> shift for them during the course of their lives.</p>
</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Building Bridges: Sexual Orientation Shifts" id="md3" /><div class="field field-name-taxonomy-vocabulary-3 field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/relationships">relationships</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/communication">communication</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/lesbian">lesbian</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/bisexual">bisexual</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/orientation">orientation</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sexual">sexual</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/identity">identity</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/support">support</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/community">community</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/queer">queer</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/age">age</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/heterosexual">heterosexual</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/connect">connect</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/experience">experience</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/understanding">understanding</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/respect">respect</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/benefit">benefit</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/listening">listening</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/generation">generation</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/lgbt">lgbt</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/wisdom">wisdom</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/series">series</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/intergenerational">intergenerational</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/divides">divides</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/bridges">bridges</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/building_bridges">building bridges</a></div></div></div>Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:13:34 +0000Heather Corinna3188 at http://www.scarleteen.comBuilding Bridges: Childhood Sexual Abusehttp://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2010/07/22/building_bridges_childhood_sexual_abuse
<div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description"> <p><img src="/sites/files/scarleteen/images/bridges.jpg" alt="connect & conquer" class="img_assist" align="right"style="width:271px;" />We hear a lot about generational divides. What we hear much less about are the bridges: how people of different generations can and do connect; how we can support and help one another and each offer the other things of great value. </p>
</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Building Bridges: Childhood Sexual Abuse" id="md4" /><div class="field field-name-taxonomy-vocabulary-3 field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/abuse">abuse</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/rape">rape</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/healing">healing</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/communication">communication</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/sexual">sexual</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/support">support</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/incest">incest</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/age">age</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/connect">connect</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/experience">experience</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/understanding">understanding</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/respect">respect</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/benefit">benefit</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/listening">listening</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/generation">generation</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/wisdom">wisdom</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/childhood">childhood</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/series">series</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/intergenerational">intergenerational</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/divides">divides</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/bridges">bridges</a></div></div></div>Thu, 22 Jul 2010 21:07:12 +0000Heather Corinna3157 at http://www.scarleteen.comThe Importance of Consent in Everyday Situationshttp://www.scarleteen.com/blog/cara/2010/04/20/the_importance_of_consent_in_everyday_situations
<div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description"> <p>Yesterday, I had my hair cut.</p>
<p>As the stylist called my name, she asked if I would like a shampoo. I politely declined. She then noticed how thick my hair is and she said she was going to take me back to the sink to wet it. And being incredibly used to this, I readily agreed and followed.</p>
<p>But just as she had finished wetting my hair and I expected her to turn the water off, she started squirting stuff on my head.</p></div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="The Importance of Consent in Everyday Situations" id="md5" /><div class="field field-name-taxonomy-vocabulary-3 field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/relationships">relationships</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/communication">communication</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/sexuality">sexuality</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/choices">choices</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/politics">politics</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/take_two">take two</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/crisis">crisis</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/life">life</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/consent">consent</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/negotiation">negotiation</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/respect">respect</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/responding">responding</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/listening">listening</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/words">words</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/people">people</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/example">example</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/modeling">modeling</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/framing_consent">framing consent</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/guest">guest</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/asking">asking</a></div></div></div>Tue, 20 Apr 2010 00:03:38 +0000Cara3045 at http://www.scarleteen.comYou should wait for sex, but if you can't....http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2010/02/03/you_should_wait_for_sex_but_if_you_cant
<div class="field field-name-body field-type-text-with-summary field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description"> <p>This is one of a long line of common phrases in <a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/glossary#sex" title="Different things people choose to do to actively express or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. The word sex also means a way people, animals or plants are classified based on their chromosomes, genitals or reproductive organs." class="lexicon-term">sex</a> education and sexuality messaging people, including people I think of us allies, use that I deeply dislike, like <strong><a href="http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2009/05/22/preventing_teen_pregnancy_three_words_most_likely_to_make_my_blood_b">"preventing teen pregnancy."</a></strong> Let me explain why.</p>
</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="You should wait for sex, but if you can&#039;t...." id="md6" /><div class="field field-name-taxonomy-vocabulary-3 field-type-taxonomy-term-reference field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/safer_sex">safer sex</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sex">sex</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/development">development</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sexuality">sexuality</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/readiness">readiness</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/waiting">waiting</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/abstinence">abstinence</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/sex_education">sex education</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/pleasure">pleasure</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/bias">bias</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/choices">choices</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/contraception">contraception</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/young">young</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/teen">teen</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/youth">youth</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/responsibility">responsibility</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/experience">experience</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/consent">consent</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/memory">memory</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/listening">listening</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/adult">adult</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/intentions">intentions</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/ageism">ageism</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/adultism">adultism</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/wisdom">wisdom</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/perspective">perspective</a></div><div class="field-item even"><a href="/tags/people">people</a></div><div class="field-item odd"><a href="/tags/messaging">messaging</a></div></div></div>Wed, 03 Feb 2010 03:04:21 +0000Heather Corinna2935 at http://www.scarleteen.com...and then my Mom walked in on us.http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/and_then_my_mom_walked_in_on_us
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">emma</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="...and then my Mom walked in on us." id="md7" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I&#039;m 17, and recently me and my boyfriend decided to have sex for the first time. My mum was out, but she came back early and we didn&#039;t hear her! She ended up walking in on us just before we were going to have sex. She went mad and started screaming at me, and it was a really bad situation. She really doesn&#039;t want me to have sex until I&#039;m married. But I feel ready now, I don&#039;t want to wait! How can I make her see this? And also she&#039;s never going to trust me and him alone together now, how can I get around that?</div></div></div>Tue, 21 Apr 2009 16:35:27 +0000Heather Corinna2467 at http://www.scarleteen.comI've had to lie to get him to stop pressuring me for sex.http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/ive_had_to_lie_to_get_him_to_stop_pressuring_me_for_sex
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">anaxelisz</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="I&#039;ve had to lie to get him to stop pressuring me for sex." id="md8" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I lied to my boyfriend and told him I was raped. I know rape is nothing to joke about at all. My mother was raped as a child. But it is the first thing that came to mind! He&#039;s always trying to get me to have sex with him, and I&#039;m just not ready. He&#039;s not the kind of guy you can just sit down with and explain that too..that&#039;s just not him and hes a virgin..but he does get &quot;head&quot; sometimes. (Not while I&#039;ve been with him of course..] But anyway I told him I was raped and that I&#039;m not ready to have sex after that happened to me and that it scares me because it will remind me of what happened. Well, that lie got old and now he&#039;s starting to ask me again and again. What do I tell him ? I&#039;m stressing over this and hes not the kind of guy I can just say &quot;I&#039;m not ready to do this..or that&quot; to. Please help. I&#039;m young, only 14 and hes 15 but..what to do ?!</div></div></div>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 16:17:22 +0000Heather Corinna2422 at http://www.scarleteen.comWhy can't she just understand that I'm not ready yet?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/why_cant_she_just_understand_that_im_not_ready_yet
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Chad</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="Why can&#039;t she just understand that I&#039;m not ready yet?" id="md9" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">My girlfriend doesn&#039;t understand why we can&#039;t have sex because I&#039;m not ready. I keep asking her to wait a little longer, but then she gets confused and she thinks I&#039;m not interested. I just don&#039;t want to mess up or get an STD. I don&#039;t know what to do.</div></div></div>Wed, 08 Oct 2008 22:23:15 +0000Heather Corinna2238 at http://www.scarleteen.comWhat if my boyfriend doesn't listen to me when we have sex?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/what_if_my_boyfriend_doesnt_listen_to_me_when_we_have_sex
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Violet</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="What if my boyfriend doesn&#039;t listen to me when we have sex?" id="md10" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">I have never ever had sex before. My BF is great: he knows me, and he likes having fun. We&#039;re both about the same age. If he&#039;s energetic, what should I do if he gets out of control? His listening skills aren&#039;t that great.</div></div></div>Mon, 14 Jul 2008 16:57:05 +0000Heather Corinna1995 at http://www.scarleteen.comHow do I support someone coming out to me?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_do_i_support_someone_coming_out_to_me
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">Anonymous</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="How do I support someone coming out to me?" id="md11" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">How do I best support a family member who has come out to me? The person is 15 years old and says they are bisexual.</div></div></div>Wed, 23 Apr 2008 16:34:10 +0000Heather Corinna1781 at http://www.scarleteen.com