Annoucing pregnancy publically after sudden death in family

I need advice on if it is too soon to publically announce my pregnancy because my mother in law suddenly passed away a few days ago. 😢😢 We were planning to announce publically in Thanksgiving with a cute poster and family picture today. All of our close family/friends know already we are expecting. I like to think this is a positive thing during a sad time but I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or cause emotional stress. On a side note I am so happy my mother in law knew we having a little girl- she was a wonderful person and Grandmother. Opinions?

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I would mention her when you announce. Although we are going through a sad time right now with the passing of ***** we would like to announce (your baby announcement) We hope ***** will look down from heaven and watch (baby) etc.

I suck at writing but something in that sense. Or just wait a few more weeks.

I would mention her when you announce. Although we are going through a sad ti...

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11/22/2018

I would mention her when you announce. Although we are going through a sad time right now with the passing of ***** we would like to announce (your baby announcement) We hope ***** will look down from heaven and watch (baby) etc.

I suck at writing but something in that sense. Or just wait a few more weeks.

I would just wait. If your close friends and family already know, what’s the need to announce about? If there is even a slight chance someone’s feelings may get hurt, just put it off for a little longer.

I’ll tell you about my situation but of course every family is different

My grandmother died the weekend I was planning to tell my mom and stepdad and my husband and I decided it was best to be sensitive to the grieving time and to wait.

Fast forward to a few weeks after when we finally did tell my mom (it was her mom who died) and she said, “Oh, if I would’ve known about the baby it would’ve oven me that extra push to get through last week.” She understood and appreciated that that we were trying to let her grieve (this side of my family lives overseas so unfortunately we weren’t very close after we moved to the states) but I didn’t realize that knowing about a new baby would’ve helped my mom and not hurt her. Again, all families are different and my mom and I are VERY close—she was elated.

if you wish to honor her, it's still a very sensitive time. my uncle passed in August I was about two months. I announced 3 mos unofficial to close ones, didn't announce until two weeks ago at 5mos officially

I’ll tell you about my situation but of course every family is different
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11/22/2018

I’ll tell you about my situation but of course every family is different

My grandmother died the weekend I was planning to tell my mom and stepdad and my husband and I decided it was best to be sensitive to the grieving time and to wait.

Fast forward to a few weeks after when we finally did tell my mom (it was her mom who died) and she said, “Oh, if I would’ve known about the baby it would’ve oven me that extra push to get through last week.” She understood and appreciated that that we were trying to let her grieve (this side of my family lives overseas so unfortunately we weren’t very close after we moved to the states) but I didn’t realize that knowing about a new baby would’ve helped my mom and not hurt her. Again, all families are different and my mom and I are VERY close—she was elated.

I have a little different situation, but similar. About the time I got pregnant, my brother was sent to prison for 15 years. It's definitely a dark time for my family. My mom has just been trying to hold herself together. When we announced, she jumped and yelled and ran around! She keeps saying this baby is her happy. She needed to be reminded that life will go on and have wonderful, happy things in it. My baby is a constant reminder of that.

OP- Since your family already knows, I think it's smart to wait. Family is the most important. I am so sorry for your loss. Remember that your sweet baby is a beautiful bright spot even while you grieve.

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