Jealous of Grandma (mother in law)

Anyone else's lo obsessed with grandma? my daughter is so obsessed with my mother in law that it almost gets annoying, and depressing. I feel like I will never be as good as grandma in her eyes. She sees her roughly once or twice a week and spends the night there. It is to the point where she cries when she has to come home with me and cries if grandma leaves our house. I reach for her when she is in grandma's arms and she pulls away back into grandma.. it makes me feel like a bad mom. Why am I not add great as grandma in her eyes? I hope someone can relate to me on here :(

Sorry, I don't like my MIL, and my mom travels a lot for work. They see my son maybe once a month. LO (little one) knows them but isnt attached to them at all. My LO (little one) is a total mommas boy.

It sounds tough, but maybe the bright side is you have a trusted care giver who she loves and you can get a night away every once in a while.

My daughter is the exact same way. My mil (mother-in-law) comes over every two weeks for two night In a row and my lo is obsessed with her. She wants nothing to do with me and will follow her everywhere. Always screws up my hard earned schedule for lo and completely disregards things I say to lo.

it is nice to know that she is happy to go there because it is not as hard to leave her that way. Thanks for commenting. I don't understand why some posts get so many hugs and comments and others get none

Because of the time. I don't know where you are, but here in the East Coast it's 11pm. At this time I personally just glanze over posts but never comment. I'm way to tired and sleepy for that.

Simce I'm already commenting... My kids are the same way with my mom, and honestly it does not bother me. I know they adore me, and when they are tired or sick, I'm the ONLY one they want. They just really love their grandma and only get to see her 2 weekends a month, sometimes 1, so they are always excited to spend time with her and hate to see her go.

I actually enjoy the little break I get when she's with them and DH (dear husband) and I take advantage and schedule a date.

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Diana

DS ^RJ^ Born at 22 weeks, DS EG Born at 32 weeks, DD SA Born Full Term

My DD (dear daughter) goes to my mil (mother-in-law) two days a week and my sil is also there. My DD (dear daughter) LOVES my sil and could care less about me when it comes time to pick her up. I think it's because all my DD (dear daughter) does with her aunt is fun stuff so she sees her as a buddy/friend. It is a little sad when I go pick her up and am so excited to see her and she could care less but I'm happy she has that kind of relationship with her aunt as I never knew any of mine.

LO (little one) adores FIL (father-in-law) (DH's step father). Sometimes I find this really annoying because FIL (father-in-law) says some really ignorant things and has a variety of other habits that I am not fond of. While I dislike these things I try to focus on the benefits of LO (little one) having grandparents who care for him. It's healthy for kids to have attachments outside of their immediate family unit (grandparents, friends, teachers, etc.)

Another thing that helps is thinking about adults (aside from mom & dad) who I had relationships with as a child and how those relationships had a postive impact on my self-esteem and well-being. I don't want to deprive my LO (little one) of those healthy relationships.

So annoying, yes, but as long as your LO (little one) is safe and loved, then nurture the bond.

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