Why Men Like Porn and Women Like Vibrators

by Ken Blackman Sep 12, 2013

Men's machinery isn't hard to operate. The vast majority of healthy males have easy access to as much climax as they want. They don't even need a partner. But something is missing.

On the flip side, women generally have easy access to willing partners—if a willing partner were all that was necessary. But again, there's something profoundly missing in the experience. It's often easier for a woman to produce more sensation in her partner's body than she feels in her own.

So for both men and women there's this quality of a hunger that's unmet, an itch that's not getting scratched.

It's revealing to look at how men and women turn to technology to compensate. Because it's different. With women, the technology they're most likely to turn to is a vibrator. And for men, the most common technology they turn to is... porn.

So think about that. What women are using to ignite is direct stimulation of the clitoris. And what men are using to ignite is another human being in a state of orgasm.

Now lets look a little more closely at women and sex.

Number one. Where 75% of men report they had an orgasm in their last sexual encounter, only 25% of women report that they did in theirs.

Number two. Women are less likely to moan or make sounds during their own orgasm but more likely to get louder as their partner reaches orgasm. Women use their moans to accelerate his climax, or to boost his self-esteem.

Number three. The sex industry is built primarily on female sexual service providers serving male clients. Female prostitutes outnumber males by about five-to-one.

So while men have easy access to direct orgasm, their unmet desire, the thing they deeply crave, is empathetic orgasm. And likewise, while women have easy access to empathetic orgasm and often default to that, what their bodies deeply crave is a direct experience of orgasm.