Just over three years ago – and after a couple of years of trying to recover on my own – I finally decided to go see a therapist. This post revisits that experience. Not seeing a therapist individually soon after discovering the affair was one of my biggest mistakes. So I highly recommend that you […]

In this post from December of 2010, Linda discusses how things in our relationship turned around after a period when our marriage was not very good. During this period we both played the blame game, believing the other person was responsible for our discontent. We never really openly discussed our unhappiness, as we masked it […]

The other day one of our readers emailed us the article 10 Reasons Not to Take Back a Cheating Husband by Kiri Blakeley. I realize that the thought of potentially kicking the cheating spouse to the curb is in the minds of many of our readers, so I thought I’d post a comment I made […]

The holiday season is always such a crazy time for us, so this week we’re going to run some older posts that many of you may have never had the opportunity to read. In fact, we’re thinking about making this a regular Monday feature. This post from last year called, “Christmas Survival Tips After Infidelity” […]

Here is an email exchange between myself and a reader who is trying to heal the relationship by himself. We thought it might provide you with some beneficial information. Please feel free to add your own thoughts or advice in the comment section below the post. A Reader Writes: Wondered if you can help me? […]

Buying a new car is like a new beginning for us. Last week while at work I received a call from Doug informing me that he had been involved in somewhat of an accident. As he was turning into our subdivision, the front driver’s side wheel came completely off of our vehicle. Obviously the car […]

It’s the day before Christmas and in the U.S. it’s probably one of the biggest days of the year as holidays go. People are doing their last minute shopping (Doug included) before all the stores close down until Wednesday. All other commercial activity will soon stop except for a few restaurants and bars. People are […]

When we began this journey three years ago I was not prepared for the pain and work that would be involved to save our marriage. I foolishly believed that once Doug ended his emotional affair everything would be fine. We would continue on with our marriage and our life together and live happily ever after. […]

If you’ve been trying to heal after the affair for any length of time, you have probably said to yourself something along the lines of: “Boy, if I would have known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes in the past.” I look back at all the things I did […]

We hope that everyone has had a nice holiday season. I realize that the holidays can be a difficult time for emotional affair recovery. The affair triggers and the thoughts can be overwhelming. The holiday season is a difficult time for me because Doug and I were deeply immersed in the affair process at this […]