LEAVE NO MAN BEHIND

LEAVE NO MAN BEHIND

Hello and welcome to a strange new world. You have traveled far through the desert, only to be met time and again by one empty oasis after another. You are lost and alone, wandering, wondering if someone, anyone, knows how you feel. And just when you think you can't go on, and no one could possibly understand your struggle, a hand reaches out to you, lifts you to your feet, and carries you to the promised land. He feeds you knowledge, shelters you from the self-righteous (and the ridiculous), and provides you with the tools you need to survive in this brave new world. You are a stranger in a strange land, but you are not alone. Let him be your guide. Follow closely as you travel together on this adventure of a lifetime. For now, you are a foreigner to "Fatherhood" but soon YOU will be the master of this realm.

"No Man is Expendable!"

This is Fodder 4 Fathers...

FODDER OF THE WEEK: THE FODDER 4 FATHER'S STORY (IN 1000 WORDS OR LESS)

"GULP!"

How does a guy raised on and off by a single mother with no relationship to speak of with his own father find himself writing a blog for new dads? Well, it's a long story, full of interesting life lessons that most people should be lucky enough to never have to learn. And I won't bore you with the details, except to say I know well enough to know if not for my upbringing I wouldn't be the man I am today: a husband, a father, a guy who likes nothing better than talking about his awesome little girl.

Now, I'm not saying I'm the best dad in the world- lord knows I didn't have the best role models to that effect growing up- but I try. And, no, I wasn't one of those guys that always dreamed of being a dad either. Truth be told, it scared the shit out of me. I never held a baby, never changed a baby, never fed one, never conversed with one, and never, ever, ever bothered with one before I had my own. But the second I did, my whole life changed. And I don't mean in some cathartic, angels singing kind of way; I mean, I haven't seen a sleep in in over two years and I'm okay with it. Being a dad is the greatest thing that ever happened to me, and I'm not shy about telling people how awesome fatherhood is... in my own unique way.

For me, it started the moment my daughter was born. No one, including me, knew how I was going to react. Well, I didn't faint; I didn't cry; I didn't make a break for it; and I certainly didn't ask for a paternity test (that nose was unmistakeably mine). I just assumed my new role.

Truth be told, I surprised the hell out of myself. I just grabbed that little football sized baby and pranced her around the hallways of that hospital like that guy on the Heisman Trophy, screaming: "Out of my way! Proud new Papa coming through.... “And I never looked back.

Was I a superstar at first? No. But I wasn't utterly useless either. I changed my first diaper without being asked (it was just me and the baby in the room at the time). I fed my daughter her first bottle (after we learned my wife was physically unable to breastfeed). And, no one had to ask me to watch my daughter- I was the one leaving my wife alone in the hospital room to sleep so I could take my daughter to hang out in the visitor's lounge to show her off to strangers. Being a dad just felt as natural as breathing, and no one had to tell me how to do it (but, I'll admit, the occasional tip never hurt).

When we got home, we had help, but it wasn't long before my wife and I were on our own. But my wife never made me feel like I was a second class parent. If anything, she liked the fact that I was reading a month ahead in all the parenting books and filling her in, and taking an equal interest in our child. Hell, my wife left the house to go out on the third day and only called to check in to apologize for coming back later than she promised. I was afforded the respect all dads deserve, and I used that alone time to get to know both myself and my daughter.

And so the first year passed, and so did I, with flying colors. I only dropped my daughter off the couch once (on to a bunch of pillows, I might add). I had settled in to my all-important role as father-adding child meal planning specialist and infant stylist to my repertoire- and prepared to tackle my daughter's second year, when it hit me: "I'm good at this." So I decided to start sharing my experiences with others.

Now here we are. What began as a blog, has expanded quickly in to a well-respected Facebook page, a sizeable Twitter following and invitations to some of LinkedIn’s most respected parenting groups. I write it as I see it, and I make no apologies for what I have to say. All I ask is for people to see the humor in this great vocation we call parenting, and to give dads, especially the newbies, a chance. I mean, if a guy like me can walk in to parenting without as much as a whimper, I'm sure you can give yourself (or your husband/father of your child) the benefit of the doubt as well.

We're not perfect, us dads, and all topics are fair game. That's what "Fodder 4 Fathers" is all about. In a world where" the evil that you know is better than the evil that you don't know," we think it's important to educate every new dad so he knows what to expect and how to handle it with poise, grace, and a MAN'S sensibilities (i.e. "no I'm not crying, I was chopping onions").

Thanks to all our fans, far and wide. We appreciate your continued comments and all of your support. For a guy who didn't have such a great father himself to take it upon himself to be a better man for his own child is one thing. But for a community of experts, authors, PHD's, parenting professionals, dads, and most particularly moms, to stand up and take notice of what we do is something very special, and it makes us just want to take this thing and go, quite frankly, "where no man has gone before" (can you say: “One Dad Vegas Show?”)

Thanks for coming along for the ride. Here's to a new generation of fantastic fathers.

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Born out of one man's search for the meaning of life after the birth of his daughter, Fodder 4 Fathers is an entertaining and educational excursion in to the day-to-day domestication of the New Dad as he attempts to maneuvre through a life that is no longer his own. Humorous, poigniant, and always pushing the envelope, Fodder 4 Fathers is a learning experience like no other.
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