Tomorrow is a really important day for us. It’s our “goosebumps” day. The day that, exactly 12 months ago, I sent Mia a text message and rocked up at her house with 8 PAGES of notes on this so-called ☝️half-baked idea. I was nervous, which is saying something because Mia has seen me at my MOST vulnerable...but this? It just meant more than anything had before. And it was so different to how we had always operated. Maybe it would make F all sense 😰...I had pretty much written myself a script to make sure I could get out my point ... 🤦🏼‍♀️and the whole time I’m word-vomiting my way through my notes Mia is just STARING at me, so I’m thinking “oh sh*t. I sound like an idiot. Just some crazy pregnant woman who needs to start her maternity leave already.” ⠀
But I manage to get to the end of my spiel and Mia sits quietly for a minute... sucks in a big breath and just says... “I love it”. ⠀
🎆 Thank. Gawd. 🎇 ⠀
By the time I left that afternoon we were already NECK DEEP in this idea...It had taken hold of us and within mere hours we were completely emotionally and mentally invested. 😂⠀
And why? ⠀
Because it was our goosebumps moment. The one where it hits you that this. is. it. The BIG one. The realisation that you’ve unlocked exactly what you’ve been working towards all these years without even seeing it coming. It didn’t matter that the timing was potentially the WORST timing ever (you know, about to move to opposite sides of the world, about to become a Mum for the first time, the usual stuff 🤷🏼‍♀️) because we were done. This was GOING to happen and we knew there was no going back now. ⠀
So, here we are, after 12 months of pushing shite up hill to build this concept into what is now IDIELLO and loving every. single. minute of it. ⠀
Happy goosebumps day @mia_idiello. 👩‍❤️‍👩Here’s to many more years of chaos, creating, and big, big love 💕

At the end of the day people are ultimately unknowable. People are constantly choosing differently or mildly changing in the matter of seconds in every way, shape and form. Dont concern yourself with the past dont worry about the next, worry about yourself and the now. Say fuck that and fuck them. Do yourself in the present.

Yesterday after weeks, if not months, I took a walk again to decompress and get some fresh air. And while doing that, lots of thoughts rushed through my head. 3 months ago I moved away from Berlin and started from scratch again. How I feel about it? Dunno, haven't really "arrived" in the new city yet, which is my own fault as I don't take the time to explore it really. No energy for that after work at the moment. No energy for anything tbh. I guess, I have to get used to this new daily structure and environment. At the same time the self-esteem that I got after defending my Master Thesis in august is just gone. The same self-esteem that gave me the needed push to start this account here on IG and to write about sth that is so important to me. I started posts and deleted them again, start again, delete...(same with this one here)...that means whenever I got the energy to write or do my research or to look into the news regarding the issue of discrimination against mental health or the flawed benefit system in the UK.
Also, even though my bf supports the idea of sharing not only media coverage of cases of discrimination, but also personal experiences, I feel like I am using him and our relationship as a token. I still try to figure out, how to approach the topic "neurodiversity in relationships" without being insensitive towards him/our relationship.
Plus, Brexit theater is getting more breath-taking and tiring as the so-far-set-date is coming closer. I see my bf's family (not originally from UK) being anxious about their future after living and working for decades in the UK. We don't talk about it anymore. They went to demonstrations against Brexit in London and other places. I went to pro EU demos earlier this year in Berlin. But aside from that, we don't talk about it anymore as it just gets nerve-wrecking for them. The Johnson shitshow? A chapter for itself. I stopped myself reading about all of this a while ago. But of course it is a topic of discussion in Germany, too. Satirical jokes, cynical comments and "I know exactly what happens"-analyzes are the highlights of the agenda, that I witness, when Brexit becomes a topic of talk. It is tiring. 😪

Its Makabi. Don't let the scriptures dust in your house. They did in my house growing up. And His word was the most valuable thing in the household.😩 funny how my whole family never really seen that. Enjoy as soon as you can✝️💙🙏🙇‍♂️. Let your minds marinate in it, let your hearts meditate in the Spirit, it's fun studying. Have a blessed Sunday! #ChristIsKing#theresurrectionOfJesus#JesusSaves#realtalk#leaduslord

To be honest I had a whole post and slide ready this morning about tie-dye, but as so often happens with IG it failed to post and then I lost it all and I just was not in the mood to redo. And then if I am really honest it is because I just wasn't feeling it - what I was feeling was overwhelm. Yup. Coming back from holidays is a bit of a bitch!
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Luckily over the last 2 years I have really been able to build up my toolbox of what works to reset when I am feeling like this. Working up a sweat is one of the best ways for me to recalibrate my mind, cooking and dressing for how I want to feel. I am a huge proponent for dressing my way out of overwhelm (my work week inspo is now on stories if you are interested!) 👇
I thought I would share this with you guys as the #1 reason my clients cite for working with me is overwhelm! I know when I feel this way making a decision becomes really difficult. So can completely relate when they tell me they have no idea what to wear everyday, no idea what suits their shape and so generally feel in a funk. 👇
I would hate for anyone to feel like this day in day out, which is why I believe style is a mindset. Moving your body, decluttering your wardrobe and getting clear on your style ID will massively shift the feeling of overwhelm and help you feel ready to embrace all that comes your way. 👇
I'd love to hear your thoughts too - do often feel overwhelmed? How do you combat it?
P.s I am posting a sweaty workout shot instead of a slick outfit shot because I hope it will inspire anyone looking to start their fitness journey this week 💋

Since making some pretty serious life changes I’ve been noticing not everyone gets it and that’s totally ok, but I have something to say on the matter.
IF YOUR FRIEND IS ALTERING THEIR LIFESTYLE:
Understand that it takes a lot of work to undo habits that have been formed over many years. Their positive change won’t happen over night. If you see them do something that reflects their old habit, don’t call them out. They are trying and they are allowed to enjoy life as it comes.
Understand your friends new boundaries. If your friend says they can come out with you but they choose not to drink alcohol, don’t then buy them a drink. Usually if someone is making a change they will likely educate you as to what they are doing so that you can accomodate them.
Be mindful of unintended sabotage (I GET THIS AT LEAST ONCE A DAY) “I know you’re on a “diet” but come get pizza with me” - this is particularly shit because you are acknowledging their change but then overriding it with your own lifestyle choices. You wouldn’t disrespect your vegetarian friend by trying to persuade them to eat meat (if you do you’re a dick) so why would you do it to your friend that is trying to better themselves?
DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT mock someone for their new choices. They are doing this and you aren’t, so do not criticise their choices, discourage them or tell them what they are doing isn’t going to work. ESPECIALLY if you are not going to make an effort to understand what they are doing and why they are doing it.
It goes without saying that if someone is engaging in potentially harmful or self destructive behaviours, that is a completely different thing and you should then try to get them to seek help, but if someone is changing their eating habits, exercising, trying out a new hobby or perhaps even quitting smoking or any other kind of vice then don’t interfere with it. Instead listen, learn, ask as many questions as you want and encourage these changes. Perhaps you may find something to embrace on your own life.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk. #health#healthjourney#fitness#rant#realtalk#honesty#lifestyle#lifechanges#challenge#respect#habits#success

Do you know what is more important than that every day hustle?
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It’s self-care! Your health and well-being must be your number one priority. I’ve learnt my lesson the hard way.
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In the past I would work myself to the point of complete burn out. I thought I was being super productive, but I was so wrong.
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The lack of sleep, junk food and overall unbalanced lifestyle really took a toll on me.
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I’d burn out, get sick, lose all of my motivation and momentum and feel not so great at all.
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I would spend a few weeks trying to recover and then I’d do this to myself all over again.
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That was back in the day when I only had my day time job to worry about!
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One day it just clicked for me.
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I realised that something had to change.
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The thing is we should be more concerned about the quality of our work, not the quantity.
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These days I have way more on plate: a number of businesses that run while being a mama to my baby boy BUT my priorities have shifted.
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I put me and my health first, so I can show up for myself, my family and my work consistently!
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I eat well, try to get enough sleep in (doesn’t happen most days), drink lots of water, take plenty of breaks and work out to sustain my crazy busy lifestyle.
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If my mind and body are strong and healthy, then my work will reflect that. Tested and proven.
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It’s always better to work smarter, not harder! If you feel like your batteries are low, take sometime this weekend to yourself and recharge.
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Have a fantastic Sunday!
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Do you prioritise your health and well-being?

I learnt this the hard way, hopefully it’ll be easier for you. If you want to be successful in life, people in your circle ⭕️ should have #Intelligence#GoodEnergy and #Integrity... NEVER BE FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE NO INTEGRITY.... If they have the other two, ie intelligence and energy and they have zero integrity throw them out... agreed?!... #realtalk#lifecoach#sextalk#moneymoneywendy

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