Smoking

Ugh! My husband won't quit smoking. As soon as I got preggo I quit and my father was dying!
I have told him from the beginning of my pregnancy that he had to quit.
Well, Ori is 3 weeks old and he is still smoking.
He smokes outside, washes his hands, face, brushes his teeth and changes his clothes when he is done. I can still smell the smoke. It makes me so sick. It gets me so angry that both of my kids are exposed to it.
I don't know what to do! I am beyond frustrated. He rejects any tools to he him quit smoking. Wtf?!
Suggestions?

My husband chews now instead which is totally gross & even harder to quit. My kids are not exposed to smoke though so I don't nag him about quitting. It sounds like with everything your husband is doing, any exposure to smoke would be minimal. I know it sucks but at least he makes the effort.

Im going through the exact same thing, and i feel there is nothing we can do. My SO said he was gonna quit when the baby got here and she is 16 days old and he is still smoking. He does same thing washes his hands, mouth rinse, etc. I asked him how quitting is going and he said not so good, he says he doesnt smoke as much but hew still smoking. I have learned that we cant push them to quit because that doesnt help if anything it just makes it worse. They have to be ready and do it on their own. Im hoping that his time comes soon, cause im tired of smelling it too!

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Mommy to ODD Peyton 5 born at 25w 3d and DS Camden 3 born at 33w 4d and YDD Ashlyn born on 11/12/12 at 39w 1d

I also quit and DH tried. I don't nag him about it, I know he feels horrible enough as it is. I don't think I would have been able to quit if I hadn't been pregnant. I even consider starting again! I keep telling myself not too and letting my DH know how I am feeling, it increases his desire to quit.

My dh tried to quit wen I was pregnant with dd1- she just turned 6. I tried and tried to get him to quit. Buthelezi had to do it on his own. He finally quit about a year ago and hasn't looked back. It really happened we. I quit bothering him about it. The more you talk about it andmakehim feel guilty, the more it will stress him and the harder it will be for him to succeed.

i hate to say it but PP r right, the more we nagg the less it helps. I never smoked but hubby had started up and quit a couple times in the almost 5 years we've been together. he was smoking when i got preggo, quit for a short time, then started again apparently b/c a new co-worker was a smoker... and he kept smoking for months and would get so irritated when i nagged him about it, which i did frequently. i finally let up some, mainly b/c i was busy with other worries and didn't see hubby as much due to me working nights, and he finally just stopped. I was so happy! hang in there, you never know when they will come through for you

I agree with first poster... smoking is very very hard to quit doing and it sounds like he is making an effort to limit exposure. I'm sorry that it sucks but honestly he is your husband and your children's father...I'm sure he would never do anything to harm you guys and it sounds like he is making at least some kind of effort

It takes an average of 11tries to quit smoking. I quit the day I found our I was preggo with ODD. But five yrs later, I still want a smoke after a big meal, and the smell of cigs has made me sick since I got pregnant. My hubby didn't harass me, but I knew how important it is to him that I don't start again, since his father died of lung cancer eight weeks after our oldest was born, and he kept on smoking until the end. Be supportive of him quitting, not nagging. If I was able to go a day without one, my hubby told me how proud he was of me, and that heed way more than him telling me how gross it was. I knew it was gross, and bad for me... But I wasn't ready to quit until I was ready, not him. Give him time, be patient.