No Restrictions: Hyde Park Man with Disabilities Takes ‘Trip of a Lifetime’ to Holy Land

“Alex always said it - next year in Jerusalem,” said Ariel Weiss, one of Cincinnati native Alex Heldman’s best friends. And of course every Jewish college student knows about Birthright, the free trip to Israel for 18- to 26-year-olds of Jewish heritage.
As a thriving Jewish 19-year-old sophomore at the University of Michigan, with Ariel as one of his housemates, Alex hadn’t gone to Israel yet when he flew to Hawaii for a family vacation and got really sick.
A virus attacked Alex’s system and, after many rounds of medical intervention - including an induced six-month coma to survive non-stop epileptic seizures, he was left wheelchair-bound. Alex now has a diagnosis of severe epilepsy, currently under control with significant medication, and brain injury as a consequence of seizures and the coma.
According to his doctors, it is a miracle Alex survived. “He was determined: it’s his character,” said his mother, Debbie Kirshner. She shares the story now, some eleven years later, sitting on the sofa in her condominium in Hyde Park with Ariel and her husband Paul Heldman.

Paul Heldman, Debbie Kirshner, Ari Goldberg, and Alex Heldman at the top of Masada

Family life, post-miracleWhat is family life like, once a miracle occurs? “For a long time we were all three focused on rehab,” said Debbie. But it was difficult: “We nearly lost him many times.”
“Then Alex started talking about going to Israel again, and Ariel said she knew it could work, but we just thought No,” said Paul. Debbie listed some of the dangers: flying across multiple time zones can be dangerous when you have epilepsy, because it disrupts circadian rhythms. He needs to take his medications on a certain schedule, and the change in sleeping patterns might also be dangerous. The doctors who know him best would be far away. All this, and Alex requires some assistance with mobility.
But it had been, and continued to be, Alex’s dream; and everyone - his parents, Ariel, and Alex himself - felt its power. “This was his lifelong dream, and he missed the opportunity to go on Birthright because he was sick and in rehab,” said Debbie. Despite everything, Alex started researching in depth, together with his speech therapist, more about Israel and where he would want to go while there: Masada. The Kotel. The Golan Heights. Jerusalem. He started attending synagogue more and visiting with his rabbi. Paul and Ariel researched possible trip providers who would fully include Alex in everything. Another close friend of Alex’s, Ari Goldberg, wanted to go to Israel with Alex as well. Ari decided, because he had been in Israel on his Birthright trip exactly when Alex first got sick, not only that he wanted to be but that he was meant to be the main support for Alex’s physical needs if they went. It was beshert.

Alex Heldman’s lifelong dream was to visit Israel—he made it thanks to his own determination and the help of his friends and family. Pictured are Ari Goldberg, Ariel Weiss, Alex’s father Paul Heldman, Alex Heldman, guide for jeep ride to Syrian border, and Alex’s mother Debbie Kirshner.

It takes a village

Despite the many and daunting challenges, and after much conversation, Paul and Debbie agreed this was going to work. And Alex’s doctor at the University of Michigan approved, declaring Alex was medically stable and, “like anyone, is entitled to have some fun,” reported Paul.
So Paul and Debbie started planning, Ariel and Ari found ways to take off from their work and family lives and Alex continued, in his determined way, to prepare for something he had been wanting to do since before college.
And in March 2017 it happened: they all went to Israel, together, with the help of Israel4All, an Israeli tour group that specializes in helping people with disabilities.

Alex praying at the Western Wall

The trip of a lifetime“My intentions on this trip were to be able to see what I missed out on in my youth, and see the land of my ancestors,” wrote Alex in response to emailed questions, from his current residence in Michigan.
The 13-day odyssey turned out to be the trip of a lifetime. Alex prayed at the Western Wall. They traveled to Masada, Jerusalem, the Syrian border, two kibbutzes and more. They went to Hula Lake Park in the Hula Valley, where Jewish National Fund created one of a series of accessible nature trails, this one specifically for bird watching.
They ate delicious food everywhere and enjoyed each other, said Debbie, laughing - in shuks, in Jerusalem, at the Dead Sea; breakfast, lunch and dinner, all at a leisurely pace that was perfect for Alex.
It was Alex’s dream come true, but also the dream come true of every individual on the trip.
“It was really a community experience,” Ariel continued. “Part of the pleasure for each of us was doing these Jewish, Israeli things together, creating those memories. I love remembering how much Alex enjoyed the jeep ride - not in a wheelchair - to the Syrian border. ”

Masada as resilience

Asked for the highlight of the trip, Alex wrote it was Masada. “It is still a symbol of resilience, strength and faith against seemingly insurmountable forces. Coming down from Masada, it reaffirmed my faith in Judaism’s continual will to live.”Alex wrote about how important the trip was to him: “If you are a human being I think it is important to go to Israel at some point in your lifetime to see the magnitude of what has happened in one ‘tiny’ country in the Middle East.”
Now that everyone is home safely, Alex’s parents shared how they felt about the trip. “There is a sense of great joy, of accomplishment and of tremendous gratitude, an awareness of how the universe provides,” said Debbie.
“Physicians who manage this kind of illness in the intensive care unit would give you very grim numbers about survival, about one in a thousand. So he beat the odds,” said Debbie. “And he was fierce in his determination to go to Israel. He was going to make it happen. It’s sort of another miracle, that we could do this with him.”

Last year Hyde Park residents Alex Heldman and his parents Paul Heldman and Debbie Kirshner took a dream trip to Israel with several friends. It was a trip delayed for years, and one requiring fastidious planning.

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Paul Heldman and Deborah Kirshner are helping to support inclusion efforts in the city by funding a series of Disability Inclusion Awareness programs at the Mayerson JCC. Happening through March, these events include fascinating speakers, interactive workshops, and cultural opportunities that celebrate our differences, provide educational opportunities, and offer inspiring stories for people of all abilities. Learn more and find the full schedule of events at MayersonJCC.org.