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Leather Bear Tails is about the leather journey of my slave and I. It deals with all parts of the leather and BDSM experience from safety to predators, to skills, and all of the lovely mistakes that she and I make along the way!!
Also!! I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it can be found for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us" it is available for purchase here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html

Or on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Rest-Us-K-E-Enzweiler/dp/1329062213/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1432825657&sr=1-2&keywords=m%2Fs+for+the+rest+of+usI am the founder of the Albuquerque Masters Group. We meet once every other month. The group is open to all who wish to explore their Mastery, slavery, or Dominance and submission. Please contact me here or at my email : Bigdykebear@yahoo.com for more information! The meetings are free to all who wish to attend!

If you are interested in power munches, skills workshops or play parties in the Albuquerque area please contact the 20 year organization of AEL at:

aelmailing@gmail.com

If you are interested in active online community please find:

Fetlife.com

Group names for the Albuquerque Community Include:

Land Of Enchantment Fetlifers

Albuquerque Kinksters

KinkySpot Clubhouse

Albuquerque Master/slave forum

New Mexico Leather League: Leather/Kink/Fetish and More

Friday, June 20, 2014

Not every class goes well.

I taught a BDSM 101 class this week. There was a great group
of people, but I just didn’t feel that I did well. I am very much used to
people learning to connect with their crotch at this class. For me beginning
BDSM is about having your fantasies come to life. So one of the things that I do with the hands on
part is I have people start acting on
their fantasies and once they start
understanding how their fantasies have a place in the real world -it usually goes from there.

I am very used to the end of the class
being full of red, flushed faces, moans, and heavy breathing as people leave
quickly. I teach BDSM 101 as a hands on
because I believe that BDSM is like driving a car, I can talk
all day long, but unless you have
your hands in it a little you won’t really
know what it is about. I also believe that a lot of things like protocol, flags,
and more in depth terminology a person can learn on their own depending on how
far they want to continue their BDSM journey.

BDSM 101 as hands on is a risk- but starting in BDSM is a
risk, so doing it in front of someone who can answer questions I feel can be a
good place to start.

This time though, I just walked away feeling like- feeling
like- I had failed somehow.

In the group there was really only one person that I felt
walked out confident, while I felt that every ones else seemed to really
struggle and become more emotionally confused. Maybe I am over thinking things
a little bit, maybe it was ok. But honestly, I needed to feel that it was OK. I
know that everyone that walks into the class will understand BDSM in varying degrees,
and I say in the beginning this is just the door.

I give the analogy that BDSM is a whole country with many
states, and every state has its own dress, language, flag, and behavioral
expectations. I explain that BDSM is a huge, wide field and that there is only so
much that we can touch on in an hour and a half. So intellectually I know that
when someone comes into the class what they want to find out after that is up
to them. But I like thinking that I give people that chance to connect the head
and the crotch, give them that ember of desire so that they want to seek out
the community and themselves. Give them that piece of information that makes them
go “Oh-YEA! NOW that makes sense.” OR even better “Oh YEA-now I make sense.”

I just don’t think that I did that this time.

Somehow I missed the boat.

I guess it was bound to happen; a person can only have so
many good classes before something goes differently.

I just really hope that I gave them a good start, maybe they were a stoic group,
maybe they weren’t ready, maybe I just
wasn’t a good teacher that day, maybe I couldn’t connect with where they needed me to be. As it was my job to do.

I get my feedback forms from them in the next week or so,
and so we will see how it went for them.

I can only hope that there was some grains planted, that
there were some things that were discussed, or felt, or brought up, or
experienced that will turn into what they need it to be.

About Me

I am a Master identified lesbian. My slave and I have been together in in a 24/7 dynamic for 14years. This shows how patient she really is... I have written a book called "M/s for the Rest of Us." It is available here: http://www.lulu.com/shop/k-e-enzweiler/ms-for-the-rest-of-us/paperback/product-22151343.html
I love discussing M/s in real life terms, not just the ones put out there by unrealistic, holier then thou, better then everyone people. We are real people living a real life, it involves mistakes, miscommunication, undone chores, and the experiment gone wrong. ie... playing with emergency candle wax. And neither I nor she will put out there that our flawed lives are any better then anyone else's!!!