Consensual living is a process, a philosophy, a mindset
by which we seek to live in harmony with our families and
community. It involves finding mutually agreed upon solutions,
where the needs of both parties are not only considered but
addressed. Everyone’s wants and needs are equally valid,
regardless of age. Conflicting wants or needs are discussed
and mutually agreeable solutions are created or negotiated
which meet the underlying needs of all parties.

Consensual Living is broad and far reaching. It influences
the way we interact with everyone, from our immediate families
to our community and the world at large. It is about assigning
positive intent and looking for solutions. This can apply
in so many arenas. It can change interactions, even if they
are historically adversarial.

With this website and Yahoo group,
we wanted to create an atmosphere of give and take where
people are free to explore the ideas of living consensually
with their families and communities. We want it to
be a place to ask questions and discuss the idea of self
determination, and how that looks in the different families
and in different situations.

Welcome!

Consensual
Living
The thoughts, feelings, wants, needs
and/or solutions, of each individual involved, are equally
valued, and equally considered...Read
more...

Choices,
Have-to's, and the stories we tell
Life is filled with choices, from the mundane to the
epic. For the most part it’s an invisible process...Read more...

House Rules
...we can make a choice; a choice to threaten and intimidate to get our way, or a choice to reach out in compassion and connection to find common ground...Read more...

Creating
a Climate for Consensual Living
... Punishments
and rewards are really just tools of manipulation and when you are working together
as a team for shared solutions there is no need to manipulate...Read more...