Welcome to Be The Change, a series on grassroots activism, community organizing, and the fundamentals of fighting for justice. Primarily instructional and sometimes theoretical, this series creates space to share tips, learn skills, and discuss “walking the walk” as intersectional queer feminists.

2016 was a rough ride, ya’ll. That much is certain. As I scrolled through my Facebook news feed on New Year’s Eve, laughing at all the “Bye, 2016” memes, I felt some relief and also…imminent dread.

The dawning of 2017 on Sunday night marked the slow march towards the inauguration of our new president-elect. A president who will certainly roll back the rights so many of us have fought so hard for (at the very least) and who may even launch us into a new war (at the very worst). Either way, I’m certain actual lives will be lost under Trump’s presidency and thinking about it makes me feel…

What’s the emotion between fury and devastation?

For me, speaking out and taking action is part of what I need to do for our collective survival. If that’s part of your 2017 resolutions/game plan, too, consider these tips to be the best activist you can be during the difficult fight ahead.

1. Don’t fall into the activist burnout trap.

In times like this, when it feels like everything is connected (it is) and it’s all imploding (it is), you may be called to try to do everything at once. It may feel like you need to be at every single rally, every action, every meeting, every single day and night.

We’ve all been there. Sometimes our activism is so important that we feel we have to work ourselves to a place of burnout. Burnout can manifest as depression or anxiety and with physical symptoms like getting tired and sick to your stomach.

You’re no good to the world or to the movements and causes you fight for if you work yourself to exhaustion.

Give yourself permission to say no to things. Understand that every person’s capacity is different. Don’t compare yourself to other people and what their capacities are. Don’t buy into the myth that activists have to be working ourselves to the edge every single day in order to be truly devoted.

2. Push yourself to think intersectionally about your activism.

Intersectionality is the name of the game when it comes to standing up to Trump’s presidency. I know I just said that you can’t do everything all at once and I stand by that. But whatever you do do, bring an intersectional frame to your work.

So much is at stake for Muslim people, for immigrants and those perceived to be immigrants, for transgender women of color and all trans folks, for Black people, for all POC, for women and girls, and yes, for queer folks.

What I mean is, if your activism is going to be within queer communities because that’s where you will be hit the hardest, you should be looking around the room and making sure that you are not just a bunch of white queer folks from similar backgrounds. If you’re concerned about the repeal of things like federally-sanctioned marriage equality, you should also be concerned about the lives of Black trans women, about undocumented queer and trans folks, about the promised “law and order” police practices that will disparately impact Black queer and trans folks.

3. When standing in solidarity, be a true ally.

The number one rule of being a good ally is to listen first. Don’t assume what another community or person needs. Too many times, over and over, I witness well-meaning activists taking an action on behalf of another community or person without being invited to do to, or literally taking the mic on an issue that doesn’t impact them.

Acknowledge that sometimes we can be overzealous as activists when we’re trying to be a good ally. It doesn’t matter what an ally’s intentions are if the action is wrong.

If you get called out on something you did with good intentions by someone who is directly impacted, take the time to reflect on why what you said or did was maybe less-than-cool and, most importantly, apologize without making excuses for yourself. Learn from the mistake and move on. Don’t make it all about you and your hurt feelings or your journey of growth. It isn’t about you.

That’s what a true ally does.

4. Use your privilege for good.

While we’re on the topic of allyship, when you do have the opportunity to speak up, use it to amplify the voices of folks with less institutional privilege.

We all have some areas of our life where we experience privilege and where we experience oppression. At least in some ways, each of us is probably part of a dominant group (an oppressive group) and that may give us access to power in ways that we can point towards justice for all.

Pass the mic to others, literally and figuratively, whenever possible. Use your voice to speak up for folks who aren’t able to, without speaking for them, when opportunities arise.

5. Know and respect your emotional and physical limits.

There may be things you’re asked to do as an activist that are outside of your comfort or safety zone.

For example, you may or may not be comfortable with planned civil disobedience. It could be that you are more likely to experience violence or targeting by law enforcement because of the color of your skin. Maybe you have a job where getting arrested would be cause for termination. Maybe you are on parole or probation and can’t risk arrest.

KaeLyn is a 35-year-old (femme)nist activist, word nerd, and queer mama. You can typically find her binge-watching TV, over-caffeinating herself, standing somewhere with a mic or a sign in her hand, eating carbs, or just generally doing too many things at once. She lives in Rochester, NY with her spouse, a baby T. rex, a xenophobic cat, and a rascally rabbit. You can buy her debut book, Girls Resist! A Guide to Activism, Leadership, and Starting a Revolution if you want to, if you feel like it, if that's a thing that interests you or whatever.

Can I add for number #2 don’t forget about us Jewish folk when it comes to intersectionality. We are around 55-58% of all religious hate crimes in the US. We are very diverse group too, from WASP passing European Jews, to Ethiopian and North African Jews(we even have a small under 4k population in China).

Thank you so much for the insight. I know for me at least, it can be hard to remember even fundamental basics in such a bizarre time, particularly one where nonviolent activism feels like it’s dying out.

Yup. Helpful reminders to me, too. Though I have to disagree about nonviolent activism dying out. Between BLM, NODAPL, and the huge inaugural protest planned for later this month, it seems nonviolent activism is alive and well!