Alpha Male vs. Beta Male: What’s the Difference?

Dan Bacon
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Being an alpha male is pretty simple.

You essentially have to believe in yourself and go after what you want in life and with women.

When life gets tough or you encounter a challenging situation, you will be considered an alpha male if you remain strong and keep pushing forward to victory or to an alternative solution that gets you to a place that you’re happy with.

Rather than trying to kiss everyone’s ass to hopefully get them to like you, as an alpha male you simply know that you’re good enough, cool enough and worthy enough for whatever you want. If you have to learn, improve or adapt in anyway, you do that, but at the end of the day, you get to where you want to be one way or the other.

Alpha Male, Beta Male and Omega Male

Here are some general examples of differences between three types of human males…

1. Alpha male

A very high level of social confidence and self-assurance.

Determined, not held back by fear, comfortably takes the lead.

Takes a masculine approach to women, which makes them feel feminine and girly in response. Women respect him and remain attracted to him.

2. Beta male

Mild levels of social confidence and self-assurance.

Mild levels of insecurity, nervousness and fear in social situations. Follows the lead of the alpha male because he is either too afraid or lacks the confidence and belief in himself to be the leading male.

Usually misses out on hooking up with women or getting a girlfriend when an alpha male is around because he makes the woman feel less attracted and he steps out of the way as the alpha male goes after what he wants.

Takes a neutral approach to women, which makes them feel like more of a friend. Women might respect him, but they are unable to remain sexually attracted to him for long because the masculine/feminine dynamic is missing due to his neutral approach.

To keep the sexual spark alive in a relationship between a man and a woman, the man has to take a masculine approach, which in turn allows the woman to feel feminine, girly and emotional around him.

3. Omega male

Low to very low levels of social confidence and self-assurance.

High levels of insecurity, nervousness and fear in social situations. Follows the lead of the alpha male and beta male because he is too afraid and lacks the confidence and belief in himself to be the leading male or even the second in command.

Tends to use the “innocent nice guy” approach with women and hopes to be liked enough to be given a chance with a woman. Women neither respect him or feel attracted to him.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with being a good guy to women, but the omega male approach of being an ass-kissing nice guy simply doesn’t work with women. Here’s why…

As you will discover from the video above, there is nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but niceness isn’t what turns her on.

Being an alpha male to a woman doesn’t mean that you need to be a bad boy, jerk or asshole who treats her badly. What we teach here at The Modern Man is how to be a good guy alpha male, which essentially means that you’re a good guy who has balls.

Rank and Hierarchy

Essentially, an alpha male is the leader or most dominant man (mentally or physically) in a situation.

A beta male is the male below him (or second in command) and an omega male is the lowest ranking male. Since women are more attracted to alpha males than any other type of guy, if you’re not an alpha male then you are less attractive to women than you could be.

One thing I want to point out right away is that being an alpha male is not about being a bad boy.

A lot of guys avoid expressing their inner alpha male because they are confused about the difference between a good guy alpha male and a bad boy, assuming that to “be alpha” means to be mean, selfish or bad to others.

So, to help clear up that confusion, let’s take a look at the difference between a bad boy and a good guy alpha male…

1. Good guy alpha male

Confident, mentally and emotionally balanced and strong, able to lead situations when needed, assertive and masculine in his thinking, behavior and the way he takes action.

Caring, loving, compassionate, charismatic, considerate and friendly. Loves people with an open heart, accepting them for who they are and hoping that they feel just as happy as he does with life.

2. Bad boy alpha male

Agressive, selfish, often emotionally unbalanced, devious. Prefers to see people get hurt (emotionally, mentally, physically). Can be loving, but only if it suits him.

No doubt you will have come across many good guy alpha males and bad boy alpha males in your life.

As you would know from those experiences, the good guy alpha males are usually those who have the respect of most people in a group, have their pick of women, have loads of friends and are generally successful in life.

Bad boy alpha males may be shown respect by others (out of fear), but they are usually not the most liked or successful in life. They are able to attract hot women due to being confident and masculine, but if a good guy alpha male is available, a woman will go for him instead 9 times out of 10.

Alpha Males on TV and in the Movies

Alpha males are often shown to be bad boys in movies because it makes it fun for the audience to watch the good guy character eventually beat him in the end. The good guy will save the day, save the world or save the girl and they will then live happily ever after.

Often, the nervous, shy, awkward guy will eventually become an alpha male by the end of the movie, which will impress the woman and attract her to him.

Yet, here’s thing…

In real life, you will rarely get a chance to save the world to impress a girl. Luckily, attracting women to you by displaying some alpha male traits is a lot easier than you might imagine.

You don’t have to save the world, save the day or save her from a bad boy. All you’ve got to do display SOME attractive personality traits and behaviors (being an alpha male is just one of those) and she will feel attracted to you.

Watch this video to understand how a woman’s attraction for a man works and how you can use it to be her alpha male…

As you will discover from the video above, there are many different ways that you can make a woman feel attracted to you.

To attract beautiful women, you don’t have to become the number one alpha male in the world who can beat up all other guys or rule the world.

Instead, you simply need to display some personality traits and behaviors that are attractive (e.g. confidence, charisma, charm, humor, masculine vibe, etc) and then guide the woman from a conversation to kiss, sex and into a relationship.

So, don’t go wasting your life by thinking that you’re never going to be good enough for women because you’re not the biggest, most powerful alpha male in the world.

Being alpha is a lot more simple and easy to do than most guys realize. As long as you display some alpha traits, women will feel attracted to you. Of course, the more alpha male traits you display, the more naturally attractive you will be to women, but the truth is that most women are lot easier to attract and pick up than guys realize.

Many women put on an act of being hard to get, but when they meet a guy who makes them feel attracted and then has the balls to move the interaction forward, they usually just go along with it.

Alpha Males in the Animal Kingdom

In the animal kingdom, the alpha male is the “top dog” (or cat) and the leader of the pack.

He is the one who mates with the majority of females in his “pack,” so that his strong genes will be passed on, thereby helping to ensure the survival of the species by making it stronger.

In the human world, an alpha male also has his pick of “mates” because women are instinctively drawn to a man with qualities that mark him out as a “better survivor.”

Even though we now have supermarkets, police, hospitals and governments, women are still rules by their primal instincts to find a guy who is going to be more capable of surviving, thriving and prospering in this world.

An alpha male is not guaranteed to survive, thrive and prosper, but a woman’s instincts will make her feel more attracted to him rather than a beta or omega male. If a woman meets an omega male who has a lot of money and can clearly survive well financially, it’s not going to stop her instincts from making her feel turned on by the personality traits and behaviors of an alpha male.

She might be worse off (financially) with the alpha male, but she will feel horny and want to have sex with him way more than she want to have sex with the omega.

After all, for most of human history, an omega could be stripped of his resources and wealth if a bad boy alpha male came along and decided to take it.

If you are serious about wanting to understand a woman’s attraction for a man, you have to come to terms with the fact that a woman’s attraction is directly linked to her survival instincts.

It may seem a bit outdated in our modern world, but women can’t turn off their primal instincts just because we now have supermarkets, police, hospitals and governments.

Watch this video to understand why women think, behave and act in ways that many guys consider strange, weird or even wrong…

As you will discover from the video above, women often SAY one thing and then DO the complete opposite.

For example: Just because a woman says that she was a nice guy, it doesn’t mean that she feels turned on by nice guys. What she is really saying is that she wants a nice guy who can also turn her on and make her feel girly in response to his masculinity.

Beta Males

The beta male is essentially #2 and the alpha male is #1.

Unlike an alpha male, a beta male might slip into trying too hard to make sure that his qualities are noticed by others. He may do this by bragging, telling stories that highlight his qualities or changing his personality or opinions on the fly to hopefully fit in and be liked by everyone.

Much of what he says and does is designed to hide his insecurities and deflect attention away from his number two status, but people can see right through it. It’s an instinct that we have; we know who the true alpha is in any given situation and no matter what the beta says or does, it remains perfectly obvious who is number one and who is number two.

Omega Males

The omega male is the lowest ranking male in a situation, group, pack, etc.

In the animal world, the omega male is the one who picks at the food scraps left behind by the alpha and beta males. When it comes to breeding with the females, he usually misses out completely or is killed by the pack when trying to breed with a female in secret.

Amongst humans, the omega male is the type of guy that nobody really notices, especially in social settings. He lacks self-confidence and usually comes across as being insecure, desperate and of low social value when he interacts with women.

He lacks masculinity, which makes him feel weak and wimpy to women and thus turns them off sexually.

From his perspective, he will usually see confident guys as being bad boys, jerks and assholes because they are not as nice, innocent and polite as he is. He will feel as though women are crazy for not seeing how much of a good guy he is and will think that women are making a mistake by hooking up with guys that he sees as being bad boys.

He will hope that one day, people will notice that he is a good guy and deserves respect. Yet, waiting around like that will simply result in him wasting his life hoping for something that will never happen.

Being an alpha male does not mean that an omega male has to become a bad boy, jerk or asshole. Instead, he just needs to become more confident in himself and be a pillar of strength in this world, rather than expecting everyone else to take pity on him and be a pillar of strength for him.

The Deeply Rooted Instincts of Women

A woman’s search for an alpha male is driven by her instinct to find a man who can protect her and provide for her.

It doesn’t matter if she makes her own money or is successful in her career, her instincts are still going to urge her to find an alpha male.

A woman’s instincts are the primary driver of her attraction to men and if you want to tap into that, you have to become more of an alpha male. You don’t have to be the number one alpha in the world, beat up other guys or boss people around.

It’s a lot easier than that…

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6 Comments

the one thing i dont understand all thease butfull woman are out witch ulgy gays i not the most hansom man but butter then most

Dan Bacon

Hi Michael

Thanks for your comment.

Just searched you up on Facebook using the e-mail address you provided when leaving the comment.

You might be a good guy with good intentions, but that is not what makes women lust after men and want to be with them. Also, you need to improve the way you are presenting yourself on Facebook – all I saw was a bunch of lonely selfies of you at home alone.

I just don’t understand, I’m confident, I’m caring and loving but still, closed doors or only friendships, I’m practically the most confident guy there is, but when it comes to talking, the moment I express my option carefully its taken as rubbish by the woman of my dream but when it comes to woman who like me for being me I’m always left with this “your a good guy but I’m not interested in you yet” which really makes me sad, Ahhhh what do I do?

Dan Bacon

Hey Jacob

Thanks for your question.

Essentially, you’re making the classic nice guy mistake of trying to be liked by women instead of making them feel attracted to you. You should not ask a woman out before you’ve attracted her and you should not ask a woman if she’s interested in a relationship before kissing her.

‘A woman’s search for an alpha male is driven by her instinct to find a man who can protect her her’ – What do you mean by a man who can protect her; does it mean protect her such as in a survival situation? For example if they’re stuck in a burning house an alpha male would more likely do something about it and keep her safe, whereas a lower ranking male would likely panic, get out of control in those situations and not protect her?