7 Men Share Their Uncensored Thoughts About Anal Sex

Here’s what they really feel about going through the back door.
- by
Zahra Barnes

05 Feb
2018

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Do men really think of anal sex as the holy grail of bedroom activities? If you pay attention to pop culture, it certainly seems like it: Take that “accidental anal” episode of The Mindy Project, for example. If you’re into anal action, what you’re about to read is proof that you won’t have to look too far to find a girl who’s on the same page as you.

“I have had anal sex exactly one time. Well, I count it as anal sex, even though it was more of a ‘stick it in and see how it feels’ kind of situation. My ex-girlfriend and I tried it one afternoon just for the hell of it. She'd actually lured me away from the college football game we were at with a promise that we could try anal if we left at halftime, which seemed like an okay deal to me. [I'm pretty sure] every guy wants to at least try anal, if for no other reason than to say they've traveled that path. There wasn't really anything too special about it, to be honest, and she certainly wasn't enjoying it, though that was probably due to lack of proper preparation and lubrication. I would do it again, but I don't think I'll ever be one of those dudes who is constantly asking his girlfriend if she wants to ‘do butt stuff.’ Afterward, all my friends kept asking me if I had gotten poop on my penis. I had not.” —Scott

“Why go to the sewer when there’s a playground right next door? Okay, I’m joking. But I’ve just never felt the need to explore that area. From what I’ve heard, it’s not all that enjoyable from the woman’s perspective, physically speaking, and the tightness aspect isn’t convincing when it already feels so good elsewhere. But if a girl seemed really into it and wanted me to try it, I would.” —Paul

“Anal sounds like a good idea when you’re tipsy or really horny. It’s like if you’re binge-eating cake: another piece seems like a good idea because it’s more of what you’re already loving. Sometimes you just want more of everything she has. But the vagina is where it’s at. As soon as you finish with anal, you’re no longer as turned on so you’re just kind of wondering why you thought it was a good idea. The vagina is right there, and it’s clean and self-lubricating. The poop thing is a real risk. A little got on the condom when I was 16 or 17, and I didn’t try it again until my mid-20s. The thought still makes me shudder.” —Mauricio

“Anal sex feels great, although not greater than vaginal sex to any exponential degree. There's more pressure on your penis, which provides more stimulation for it. It's like having vaginal sex with someone who knows how to engage their pelvic core.” —Dan

“Anal sex is interesting, great—for me, at least—and not what I expected. It’s very different from vaginal sex. A friend of mine had explained that to me, but I didn't fully understand until I tried it. To put it bluntly, vaginal sex puts pressure all over your penis when it's inside. With anal sex, there’s not much past the hole, so during the act itself, I had to focus on a lot more movement than I was expecting. Lucky for me, my partner was far more comfortable with it than I think I would have been! Although she did emphasize the need for ‘lots of lube.’” —Alex