My husband cheated

And I can't tell anyone. If I decide to forgive him, no one else would. I just found out tonight. I knew he had an "emotional" affair right before I got pregnant at a time when we couldn't see each other often. But he's begged and pleaded for me to forgive him for that. Tonight he admittend that he had sex with her.

I feel so powerless. I'm so hurt. I can't comprehend how someone could do that to someone else, and the visual keeps going through my head, over and over and over. What did he say to her? Did they cuddle? Did he think about me at all? I'm so angry.My pride is hurt.

I've been so bitchy lately. I feel fat and ugly and bitchy. I hate that these might be the last memories he has of us. I wouldn't miss us if these were what I was left with.

I don't want to lose him, but I don't know if I want him any more. I don't want him to love or want someone more than me, but I don't know if I want him.

I just can't get life right.

I just needed to tell someone. Who better than a group of strangers all due in March?

My brother always told me never to tell anyone about my relationship troubles because when you're in love you can forgive and forget and trust again, but your friends and family aren't "in-love" with that person, and they will never forget.

I don't know what to do. Thanks for listening.

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Proud mama to Raile (Riley) 10, Maxim 5.Step-mommy to 4. Wife to one man forever and ever amen.Baby (boy) KJ due on 3/17/12!!

Gosh hun that's tough... Follow your heart and your gut, but I think both of those things are probably offline with the emotional shock... You don't have to decide anything right now, take your time and be real with yourself about whether or not you guys can recover from this...

First, so sorry you are going through this. It's a horrible thing to cheat and the recovery is just as hard.

This just happened to my BFF, she found out her husband has been Cheating on her for 2 years. She opted to stay and they Are doing counseling which is helping. She also got on 150 mg of wellbutrin so that's helping a lot too.

Is he willing to do whatever it takes to get thru it? Do you want to get thru? To me finding those answers would be my first step. Good luck

Honestly, the two of you should get into counseling to see if your relationship could be saved. If I found out my DH did that, I'm pretty sure I would be out the door and it would be over. He would never be able to gain my trust again, and its just not worth being with someone you can't trust.

Last year, when our son was 9 months, DF cheated. I made the mistake of telling my friends and family, and it's true, they don't forgive.

In my case, I chose to forgive.. which isn't that hard, it's the forgetting that gets you. Added on to that, the girl he cheated on me with started dating his older brother, and they both live in DF's dad's basement.. makes going home for visits a blast.

My advice, try.. it sounds like you have a rather large family together.. get counceling. You obviously still love him, and I think that the fact that he admitted to it rather then hiding it, means he probably does feel bad. Get counceling.

It gets easier, but it never goes away, it'll always hurt. There will be weeks that I don't think about it, and then it'll hit me and I'll be angry all over again. Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best.