biscuits with tea and coffee

AIBU to keep no biscuits, cakes, muffins, chocolates etc to offer with tea /coffee when friends pop in for a chat?spur of moment or arranged makes no difference as I have decided to stop buying them.I'm on a diet so it's easier for me to not get tempted during the day.

so far nobody I recognise wrote an AIBU about sweet treats deprivation, so it's probably ok, but I don't know if it is ok or people are just being polite (or on a diet too) when they have to face the harsh reality of unaccompanied beverages

No Yanbu. I used to keep them in just for other people but I find most refuse anyway so I ended up eating them. Also most of my friends are watching their weight and if they're not and don't understand me watching mine then that's a bit of an issue!

Some of my friends specify if they want treats or not.if they do and I feel like it i will buy or make something and get rid of what's not eaten to avoid temptation!

So, my friends either come round for coffee or coffee and cake depending on what they feel like.

Sounds fine to me. If I'm visiting friends I tend to pick up a cake or pack of biscuits anyway. They do the same when visiting here, at least the ones with kids do. It means they aren't around to tempt me other than on that occasion so it easier for me to manage. That and buying biscuits which I don't eat

MrsNec: Hello friend, would you like to come over for coffee this afternoon?Friend: Oh, yes please. I would like a treat with my coffee today so please make sure you've got something in. Preferably chocolate cake.MrsNec: OK.

YANBU. We don't routinely stock them as they'd get mindlessly scoffed anyway.

We have the more fundamental problem of milk for visitors as we all use the substitute for DS1's needs. It can't be kept in stock, and I hear that long life is gross. Some friends know to bring some over with them. It is purely a concession to guests that there is tea/coffee in the house, and we replace it most years to keep it fresh.

I very rarely just have company for a cup of tea, or go to someone's house for a cup of tea, but when it has happened I think it's more likely to have been chocolate on offer from us and from friends. But I usually wouldn't eat it. I think it's a good standard to maintain to offer planned company something edible, but if someone just dropped by I wouldn't offer edibles, and I wouldn't expect it in return.

Yanbu, it my mother is convinced it is the height of bad manners not to offer biscuits with tea.She regards offering only tea or coffee as almost an insult. My DC would quickly scarf any biscuits out on a plate (serving them from the packet is also rude) so I tend to bring through a biscuit with her coffee to avoid complaints.

Ooh, I started a thread a while back (probably several ncs ago) about routinely offering something to eat with an offer of tea or coffee, and whether, if someone offered you a hot drink, you would expect something with it (prompted by my mother, who would think it v stingy and inhospitable to not have cake/biscuits pressed upon her by a hostess, like Coffee's mother). I can't remember the verdict, but there was some discussion about it being cultural, generational or class-related. (My mother is Irish, and I think her generation are very much of the Mrs Doyle 'go on, go ON' persuasion...)

When I offer a cup of coffee, it's just a cup of coffee - but freshly-ground, properly made coffee with hot milk - unless I've just baked.

YANBU, I only buy biscuits when I know my FIL or SIL's boys are going to pop over, but I tend to do a lot of baking with DD so it's not like we never have cakes and biscuits in the house. People should be popping over to see you, not the contents of your biscuit tin.

I used to automatically bring out biscuit or cake with coffee or tea when friends came round whether they lived round the corner or drove some distance. Now I put the drink in front of them and say oh would you like...? and four times out of five they say no thanks, or, I'd love to but I'm on a diet.

We are having some work done on the house this month. I bought lots of biscuits in anticipation of lots of builders, plumbers etc. Heavens, they are all 'my body is a temple' and only drink green tea. Sigh.