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Fortitude
From father to father,
and friend to friend,
I send you thoughts
I can barely comprehend.

I have been reticent and respectfully hesitant to send my thoughts, any thoughts, your way. Because, for the first time, perhaps first time ever, I simply could not find
any words to say.

After laboured rumination, days spent distracted, with all of your family weighing on my mind, feeling extremely selfish and somewhat irresponsible, I will attempt to expressthoughts I’ve managed to find.

As a distant friend it would be remiss, and inadequate, to send you my love. If I was a believer I could send a prayer, deferring my sentiments to someone up above.

I have no wisdom to pass on to you, no innate answers that I can honestly give. It’s an experience that I have never had, and one, that no one should ever have to live.

You already know we send our condolences, and we know you have family for a comforting hug or a soothing kiss. So, as my tear touched sentences gain their momentum, the least that I can do is to let you know this.

We have read the resilient words that you have shared, have great respect for your fortitude in the face of such pain. We’ve seen the positive approach that you have displayed, the cascade of beautiful memories
and there affirming refrain.

Pictures of a young life well-lived, always to the fullest, by a vibrant young man who seems exceedingly wise. Smiles and great experiences, friends and family, and life,images of dedication, and pride, seen through his father’s eyes.

We admire, from our distance, your immense courage, and resolve, as you lead by example,
for those also exceedingly sad. The best representation of a parent and a dedicated husband, the brave face of a grieving family, the embodiment of a caring Dad.

Seeing this fortitude in you provides us all with inspiration, with the stark realization that we must cherish every day. And, what I realize now is, that the most important thing, is not what we have to offer you, but rather, what we can take away.

Thinking of your love, and loss makes me want to give my all,recognizing a perspective that I should have embraced before. When I see your stance, representing such strength, I am inspired to be stronger and to love life just that much more.

Whenever I get down I will climb right back up, look at my little problems with the appropriate perspective. Will take the time to notice the warmth that surrounds me, to understand how lucky I am, whenever I feel reflective.

Every time I feel the impulse I will give my daughters a hug,holding on to it, and them, just a little longer. I will tell them, far more often, just how much I love them, with a renewed certainty, which is just that much stronger.

And, I will never use distance as a lazy, convenient excuse, because when time is so tenuous, it should never be a bother. This is a promise I intend to keep, in honour, of both you and your son, as I draw upon your fortitude to be a better friend, and father.

Father to father, and friend to friend, my words barely touch the respect that I send.