Friday, August 12, 2016

The Journey to Every Ex Ever

A couple weathered the storm together

These Exes didn't do so good

The Journey (Shakespearean sonnet)

Well past the last familiar rays of hopeTogether hand in hand we venture onTo share our chosen dreams of once uponWe danced along while other lovers grope-At last we’ve passed where others have not goneTogether weathered ever changing slopeOf life which weighed our very will to copeAnd take our kisses to another dawn-Now all alone we face the endless nightStrange silence seems to grow from all aroundAnd only memories to hold us tightWe learn again to walk upon the ground-Yet as we wander deeper in this tranceWe feel the rays which welcome us to dance

The storm has cleared and the couple is still together and echoed in this Shakespearean sonnet. This sonnet takes a darker turn. After the first quatrain things turn more and more against the couple. The rhyming couplet arrives to refresh everything with hope. Notice the sparks thrown in as the sonnet takes it bleak route (in the second lines). They were meant to represent the spark of the couple.

Arlene and I left our palace in the sky to be close to Arlene's mother, when her father died. In that small Richmond district apartment things got rougher and rougher, relationship wise. Our love was really challenged. If ever Arlene and I would separate, it was here. Arlene's cousin found a huge flat on the other side of the Richmond. The rent was right and Arlene and I needed some refreshment, so we took the flat. Like the sonnet says, we learned to walk with our feet on the ground. After an unbelievable teenage love spectacle, the palace in the sky to the madness of that apartment, here was a chance to start again. To find that couple who once were. This flat would be the scene of dances and be the studio when I became a photographer. And yes, Arlene and I found ourselves and more.

Sometimes life is a bit too challenging. There is an old saying, "Life doesn't give us more than we can handle." This is not entirely true. As wondrous as we are, there are things that may arise that may be far beyond us. We can take on these challenges and go down fighting. Or we can avoid these challenges. Or we can seek out the hands of others. (I'm sure there are other ideas.) Then again, is the challenge really worth it? Is it really our's? Keep this in mind: Life's defeats does not make us any less of a person. In fact, it may actually make us better. The only battle wort winning is the important one. So in life's storms, stand on your mountain top and enjoy.

On this theme: Carrie Underwood "There's A Place For Us"

Now here is the flip side of the coin

Lack or loss of trust is one of the most harmful contagions to a couple’s long-term success. Without trust, a relationship misses two of the key anchors to a strong bond: safety and security. What happens to exes after a relationship is over? Anthony Padilla and Ian Hecox, of Smosh, did some extensive research on the subject. After putting their comic books down, this video was made.

After misplacing this video, another one was thrown together. "EVERY EX EVER"