Termination for Medical Reasons

If you have terminated a pregnancy, due to medical reasons or a poor prenatal...
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If you have terminated a pregnancy, due to medical reasons or a poor prenatal diagnosis, you are welcome to post here. This is a grief & loss support group. As a grief & loss support group, we will not debate the topic of abortion or allow any unsupportive posts to remain here.

The only people permitted to regularly post here are those who are grieving a termination, and those who believe they might be doing so and are looking for information about the process and recovery, both physical and emotional. This will be a safe place for those who terminate. Posts made by those who never would, or have not, chosen termination may or may not be allowed to remain on the group at the group owners' discretion.

If you are new to this group, and have yet to terminate your pregnancy, DO NOT POST DIRECTLY ON THIS BOARD! A pro-life troll has been sending private notes to women trying to discourage them from terminating. This troll has a long history of harrassing women, both online and outside of abortion clinics, and should not be engaged with.

IF YOU HAVE NOT YET TERMINATED AND NEED SUPPORT OR INFORMATION, PLEASE SEND A PRIVATE NOTE TO ONE OF THE GROUP OWNERS, EXPLAINING YOUR SITUATION. A DETERMINATION WILL BE MADE WHETHER YOU ARE AN APPROPRIATE CANDIDATE FOR THE PRIVATE TFMR SUPPORT GROUP, WHERE YOU CAN POST FOR SUPPORT AND INFORMATION.

If a person who has come to her decision to terminate comes here asking for information on termination procedures/experiences, we can offer just that, our personal experiences. This group is not here to discourage nor encourage a person from terminating. Our personal experiences and information can give a person a different perspective on procedures and assist them in deciding, but the decision will ultimately be up to the person. We can recommend other groups to visit, also.

If you are unfamiliar with the posting guidelines for this group, please see the group description on the left-side of the board for the full guidelines.

In short, the only people permitted to post here are those who are grieving a termination, and those who believe they might be doing so and are looking for information about the process and recovery, both physical and emotional.

In order to keep this board running smoothly and free from drama or drive-by trolls, please also familiarize yourself with the parameters of what is okay to post here and what is not okay. Please read the "Board no-no's" thread
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a28613051/board_no-nos.) for more information.
Also please read the New Members warning message here regarding one troll who has been stalking our board for several months now.

Here is a list of the most frequently bumped (and most helpful) threads:

"Frequently Asked Questions"
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a24181199/frequently_asked_questions) - A thread with some of the more commonly asked questions pertaining to termination for medical reasons. A good place to start for new members or visitors.

"If you could turn back the hands of time"
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a699865/if_you_could_turn_back_the_hands_of_time...) - A thread where members have shared their regrets and the things they are grateful for regarding their termination experiences. Very beneficial for those facing a termination in the coming days.

"Shared D&E Experiences"
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a710825/shared_d_e_experiences) - A thread where members have shared their personal experiences with a D&E termination.

"Shared L&D Experiences"
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a710025/shared_l_d_experiences) - A thread where members have shared their personal experiences with a L&D termination.

"Book resources for those grieving a TFMR"
(http://community.babycenter.com/talk/a715075/book_resources_for_those_grieving_a_tfmr) - A thread which lists the titles (and direct links) to many different books which are helpful to healing from a termination for medical reasons.

"Face-to-face Support"
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a21385597/face-to-face_support) - A thread which lists ways to find local grief support groups and individual therapists, with contact information.

"List of websites for info on a poor prenatal diagnosis"
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a40791580/poor_prenatal_diagnosis_support_resources?cpg=1&csi=2414372229&pd=1) - A thread which provides links to websites for various chromosomal anomalies or birth defects.

"Parent Match Project"
(http://community.babycenter.com/post/a6570505/parent_match_project?cpg=47&pd=-1) - A thread where members volunteer to be matched with other members, based on diagnosis or location.

For a comprehensive list of general information on abortion, including different procedures, possible complications, how to find a reputable clinic, support resources after an abortion, personal experiences, and your rights under current laws, please visit the webpage for the Feminist Women's Health Center (www.fwhc.org).

If you have an urgent need to speak to someone live about your termination and are not in danger of self-harm, Exhale provides support through their hotline at 1-866-4EXHALE. The hotline is open M-F from 8 PM - 12 AM EST, and Saturday and Sunday from 3 PM - 1 AM EST.

If you are having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, the Hopeline (1-800-442-HOPE) provides free support via phone, online chat, or email.

Please note that I am also the owner of the other termination for medical reasons-related groups (including the private "Life After a Termination" group). If you have any problems on this group or any of the other tx-related groups that I own, please pass me a private note. Please also note that membership to the private "Life After a Termination" group is granted only to those who have terminated for medical reasons and are at least 2 months out from their loss. If you have any questions about this, please pass me a note. If you would like to post somewhere private before you are two months out, please consider joining the forums at A Heartbreaking Choice.

DISCLAIMER: This Internet support group and the individual discussion threads posted herein were created as a service to the members of the Babycenter Termination for Medical Reasons group. Neither Babycenter, any of their employees, nor the owners of the Termination for Medical Reasons group, make any warranty, expressed or implied, or assumes any legal liability or responsibility for the accuracy, completeness, or usefulness of any information disclosed on any individual discussion threads. This support group and the contents of the discussion threads herein are intended for general informational knowledge and emotional support only, and are NOT a substitute for medical advice. The information provided on this support board should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, in either you or your unborn baby. References herein to any specific medical professional, prenatal test, or other medical procedure does not necessarily constitute or imply its endorsement, recommendation, or favoring by the members of this group. The opinions of the individual members of the support group expressed herein do not necessarily state or reflect those of Babycenter, any of their employees, or the owners of the Termination for Medical Reasons group.