Category: Life Coaching

Hello friends and family! Things have changed once again and as I continue to grow and evolve so does the way I offer my work and services…

I have discontinued the Life Coach certification program but it is still available to currently enrolled students.

I am now offering all of my teachings for free and have lowered the cost of my sessions from $120. per hour to only $60. per hour.

I’ve created a new online course that you can enjoy free of charge and as I begin to step away for the old paradigm and incorporate the new way of being in service, I realize how much more simple things can be.

This is not a certification course as I believe it is not necessary to have when offering one’s personal medicine.

I still have a long way to go but for now… moving forward one step at a time.

I hope you enjoy the course and look forward to hearing from you and how I can help!

This coaching exercise can help us begin to attract what we do want into our lives by showing us how to speak in more positive terms. Also, it can remind us on a daily basis to take actions to be better in alignment with what we do want. This exercise teaches us how gratitude plays a huge role in attracting what we want. When we are grateful for what we have, we attract more of what we want. We will also look at the law of least effort and of releasing attachment. Experts say that it takes 21 days to form or break a habit.

For those seeking material abundance, this exercise can also help…

In life, we tend to get exactly what we need exactly in the moment we need it. There is a sequence of events and a divine process that we must experience and understand before we can allow material abundance into our lives. When we learn to open our hearts to love, appreciation and gratitude, we will then step into the flow of material abundance that is awaiting us.

The Law of Least Effort -By Deepak Chopra
Nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease…with carefreeness, harmony, and love. When we harness the forces of harmony, joy, and love, we create success and good fortune with effortless ease.
I will put the Law of Least Effort into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:

I will practice acceptance. Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. I will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. I will not struggle against the whole of the universe by fighting against this moment. My acceptance is total and complete. I accept things as they are this moment, not as I wish they were.

Having accepted things as they are, I will take responsibility for my situation and for all those events that I see as problems. I know that taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for my situation (and this includes myself.) I also know that every problem is an opportunity in disguise, and with this alertness to opportunities, I will allow myself to take this moment to transform it into a greater benefit.

Today my awareness will remain established in defenselessness. I will relinquish the need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to defend my point of view. I will feel no need to convince or persuade others to accept my point of view. I will remain open to all points of view and will not be rigidly attached to any one of them. – Deepak Chopra

“Your purpose is to grow to the point where “I am love” is at the surface of your consciousness, not buried in the dark depths.” -Deepak Chopra

San Kalpa(sahn KAL-pah) is an ancient Sanskrit sutra that means “My intentions have infinite organizing power.” When you enter a meditative state and repeat this sutra, you strengthen the power of your intentions. Here is how to use it:

Spend a few minutes in meditation, allowing your mind to settle. Now imagine that the entire universe is a vast ocean of consciousness and that your intentions are emerging from your heart, rippling out into the ocean, where they are fulfilled with effortless ease. Then speak silently to yourself, “San Kalpa.”

For every intention, whether for healing, a new relationship, wealth, or opportunity, envision the desired outcome in your mind and repeat the sutra, letting it resonate deeper and deeper within you.

Preparation: Have paper ready to do the exercise.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session:Complete the steps in the 21 Day Manifestation Mantra.

Items you may want to use: Journal, Gratitude Stone

The “I Wants’: Make a list of everything you want to do, be, or have. Example: I want to live in Hawaii. I want a loving relationship. I want to be wealthy and have a lot of money. If you think of something else later, it’s okay to add it to the list at any time.

Releasing the “I Wants”: Release the “I wants.” In order to release their wants, some may choose to crumble up the list and throw it away, while some choose to burn it. When we say, “I want,” what we are really saying is, “I don’t have.” If you are familiar with the law of attraction, then you know that the universe mirrors our thoughts, words and actions. What we think about, what we say, the feelings we have and the actions we take are equal to what we will attract.

Transforming the “I wants”: On a completely new piece of paper, transform each item into words of already having it. These will each be your mantras.

Example: I enjoy living in Hawaii. I have a loving relationship. I am wealthy and have a lot of money.

If that is too much for you then you could say, “I am going to live in Hawaii, “or “I can have a loving relationship” or “I am attracting wealth and money.”

1-10 Scale: On a scale of 1-10, rate where you are right now with each item on the list, 1 meaning you are far from where you want to be, and 10 meaning you are where you want to be. It is always a good idea to measure your progress anytime you start something new.

Gratitude: End your mantra with a statement of gratitude. This is a very important part of this process because gratitude is a key factor in attracting more of what you want. Each day, for the next 21 days, make sure to take a moment and feel gratitude for each thing that you already have.

Plan it: Schedule the 21 days into your calendar. You will find that if you really want to do something or go somewhere, you have to write it on your calendar. When you do this, you will start scheduling other events around it and will make it more possible to actually follow through on your goal. Set your intention and desire for what you want to get out of this exercise and let the universe handle the details.

The work: Read each mantra out loud to yourself every morning for the next 21 days. While doing this you may want to hold a gratitude stone or some sort of physical item that represents personally represents your gratitude.

Take a few minutes after reading each mantra to stop and visualize yourself as already having, being, or doing what you stated in your mantra. Remain in a place of gratitude throughout the day, accepting people, places, circumstances, and events exactly as they are.

*If you miss one day, you are encouraged to start the process over. It is important to do this for 21 days consecutive to experience your desired outcome.

Practice Non-Judgment: Let go of the habit of judging and evaluating people. Remember to also let go of judging places, circumstances, situations, and events as well. Everyone you encounter in life is doing the best that they can with the past conditioning they have had. Likewise, situations and things are exactly as they are because that is where the universe intended them to be at the present moment. Acknowledge that they are not good or bad, they simply are. All people, places, circumstances, things, etc. that are happening around you are happening because they are in line with their own paths. Each thing is a reaction to what they know. Everything that is happening right now is a result of what we have done in the past. Within every problem, there is an opportunity in disguise. Look for the positive in every moment.

Take the Right Action: Take action that supports, and is in alignment with your wants and desires. One of my favorite sayings is, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, then you will keep getting what you’ve always got.” Use the E+R=O exercise, the event plus your response to the event equals the outcome. If you don’t like the outcome you are getting, then you have to change your response to the event.

Release Attachment: Release all attachment to your desired outcome. It’s okay if what you want doesn’t happen and it’s okay if it does happen. Remain open to new possibilities and look for opportunities throughout each day. Just know that whatever happens is in perfect alignment with your true purpose in life. If something that you really want doesn’t happen, then there is a reason for it, or perhaps it is just not the right time for it to happen yet. Remember, the more you act like you don’t have something, the more you push it away.

Journal: Journal each day to record your progress. Describe your experiences and events with detail.

Review: On the 22nd day review your notes, and measure where you are now with each item using the 1-10 scale. Celebrate your success! Do something nice for yourself today to show appreciation and gratitude.

After the 21st day, something in your awareness will have changed, you may have a realization of something, or circumstances may have changed. We usually get what we need before we get what we want. Most often, we have to grow through life’s experience before we are ready for what we desire most. In other words, we have to make space for the new circumstances by removing the old.

This exercise helps us understand why we keep experiencing the events we don’t want. It also shows us how to redirect our actions and responses to get the outcome we do want.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by looking at the old response…

Think of an event in your life that keeps happening that makes you feel uncomfortable. Explain this event and describe what keeps happening that makes you feel uncomfortable. This could be something that you really want to change but feel like you have no idea how.

Event: Think of a person, place, situation or thing that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Response: Now ask yourself how you previously reacted or responded to the event. How could you have responded to the event differently?

Outcome: What was the outcome or result of the way you previously responded to the event?

Now let’s look at the new response…

New Response: How you will respond to the event now?

Remember, if you don’t like the outcome you previously got, then you have to change the way you respond to the event. If you change your response, you have to get a different outcome.

Desired Outcome: What do you expect the new outcome to be with your new response? What would you like the outcome to be? How could you respond to the event differently?

The Shamanic Journey Earth Lodge Fire Ceremony is a guided imagery exercise. It can heal current issues by going into your body and communicating with it from a higher level.

Preparation: Have your journal ready. Create a quiet and safe atmosphere. Drum if you have one.

EARTH LODGE FIRE CEREMONY

Begin by getting into a relaxed position. Take a few slow deep breaths. Breathing in softly and slowly and then breathing out. As you exhale you will begin to feel more relaxed… Just focus all of your awareness on your breath. (pause here for a few moments)

Now, allow your thoughts and feelings to move toward the issue or problem that you are experiencing. It will usually be something that may be consuming all of your energy at the present time. This issue could be causing problems in several different areas of your life.

As you focus on the issue, identify whether it is a physical, emotional, or mental problem. Or is it all of them? Take a moment to visualize this problem.

Now that you are clear, aware, and focused… let’s prepare to enter the sacred earth lodge. You notice the sun just about to set on the horizon… Beautiful mountains in the distance… The air feels very comfortable and the earth is calm.

Now you look out into the distance and call upon a power animal to join you in the lodge today… As it arrives you begin to feel even safer and very grateful that they are excited to join you on this journey… Get a good look at them and thank them for being there.

Now, with your power animal, look at the earth lodge in front of you… it’s a small cozy space made up of nature… you see a small opening with the light from the fire flickering inside… behind the lodge you notice several human figures watching over you… these are your ancestors or spirit guides who have prepared the healing fire and the earth lodge for you… You look to them and thank them before you go inside.

You feel calm, relaxed, protected and grateful as you follow your power animal into the lodge… The inside seems much larger than it did from the outside… You notice the fire is in the very center so you and your power animal go around to the other side of the fire and make yourselves comfortable.

The fire does not seem too hot… this is a very special kind of fire… a magical one that was carefully made by your ancestors… This fire is safe to the touch and does not burn… There will be times during this journey that you will scoop up some of the fire in your hands use it for healing… Go ahead, play with it using your hands… See, it doesn’t burn.

Now take a moment to look into the fire… You can see the truth about your problem in the fire… Look at it… It will reveal to you everything you need to know about healing this problem… (pause here for a moment)

(now is a good time to drum for a while if you want, or continue…)

What did the fire reveal to you? What did you see? What is the truth about this problem and how can it be healed?

Now go to that place in your body where you have held onto this pain… Look at it… Thank it for revealing itself to you… Now ask what does it want you to know? What message does it have for you? (pause) Thank it for the message and for teaching you such a beautiful lesson. Now scoop up some of the healing fire and put it where the pain once was. It heals instantly and now you can see only beauty where this problem once was. You are healed.

Now continue through the rest of your body… Is there anywhere else you would like to go? Any other places you might be carrying pain and need healing? If so, scoop up some more of the healing flame and cover the pain with it… Ask it to reveal why it is there and what you must do. Remember to thank it for being there to teach you such a beautiful lesson.

(this is another good time to pause or drum for a while)

Now that you have explored and healed those parts of you, scoop up some more of the healing flame and wash it all over your body until you can feel every cell become clean, renewed and revitalized… back to its original… perfect… state.

You sit here for a moment and feel what it feels like to be completely healed from the past issues that you may have been carrying for so long… Feel the healing… Breathe it in… Let this new healing and sense of self, become your new belief… Your new way of life… The healed you… Just breathe.

Now you notice your power animal begin to get up and move toward the opening in the lodge… Somehow it just knew that you were complete and that it was time to go… So you follow it out.

You breathe in the fresh air and stretch your body… Looking around, you notice your ancestors moving from behind the lodge closer to you… They are very honored that you have come… they bow to you then turn and one by one they go into the lodge… You feel deep gratitude that they created all of this for you and watched over you while you were healing… As the last one goes in they pull the door closed behind them.

You turn and look to your power animal… They are still there with you and want to continue to walk with you on your journey… You gratefully accept and begin walking together toward your new path.

In a moment when you open your eyes, you will feel refreshed and you will easily able to remember everything… Three, bringing your awareness back into your body… Two, stretching and wiggling your fingers and toes… One, Open your eyes and remembering where you are.

Now before speaking and while the images are still fresh in your memory, begin to write or draw in your journal. Take as much time as you need.

Forgiveness

The Forgiveness exercise can help you realize who or what you may need to forgive so that you can move forward in life free from emotional pain and sadness. This exercise will teach you ultimately to have a clearer conscious and subconscious mind.

Forgiveness can be the most powerful tool to release you from any emotional pain that you may have been carrying. Sometimes emotional wounds from the past hold us back and we can’t break free of the feeling of hurt or loss. Even though we may not always feel it, these feelings still lie dormant in our cell memory. Eventually, the universe gives us an opportunity where feelings resurface. When this happens we can choose to ignore them or face them. If we try to ignore them and continue to suppress, hoping they will just go away, they will always come back. When this happens, we can allow them to come back again as problems, or we can look at them coming back as another chance for forgiveness. If we face them head on, look them in the eyes and tell the truth to ourselves, then we have more of a chance to remove at least the feeling associated with old emotions. After that, we can let go and finally be free of the pain.

There are several powerful ways to forgive yourself and others. It is only when you choose to do this, that you will truly be free and be more open to receiving the abundance that is waiting for you.

Preparation: Have your journal to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Session: Begin by thinking about someone or something that happened to you recently or in the past that made you angry, frustrated, or upset. This could also be something you did or didn’t do. Now read each question below. Take your time answering them and take notes.

Who or what made you upset?

How did it make you feel?

How would you want them to change?

What would you change about the situation?

If you were able to change the situation, how would you feel now?

What needed to be different in order for you to be happy?

What is it that you would want to experience instead?

Now ask yourself

Did I deserve this?

Do I deserve to be free from this?

Can I forgive them?

Can I forgive myself?

Do I now have the power to release this?

Do I deserve to be happy and move beyond this?

What did I learn from this person or situation?

Mirror

Was this person mirroring something back to me that I was doing to them or to others?

Have I ever treated someone the way they treated me?

Is this something I would like to change about myself?

New response

In the past, I reacted to this person or situation like this…

Now I will respond like this…

Focus the session: Choose to forgive. Complete the sentences below.

I choose to forgive them for…

I choose to forgive myself for…

I now allow myself to move on from this because…

I am now free from this because…

Now take a moment to be with this feeling of freedom. How do you feel now? What has changed?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take to change behavior and response in the future? Write it down.

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According to an ancient legend, there was a time when ordinary people had all the access to the knowledge of the gods. Yet, even with this access, time and again they ignored this wisdom. One day the gods grew tired of so freely giving this unused gift to the people that they decided to hide this precious wisdom where only the most committed of seekers would discover it. They believed that if people had to work to find this wisdom, they would use it more carefully. One of the gods suggested they bury it deep within the earth. “No,” the other said, “too many people could easily dig down and find it.” Then another one of the gods suggested, “Let’s put it in the deepest ocean,” but that idea was also rejected. They knew that people would one day learn to dive and thus would find it too easily. One of the gods then suggested hiding it on the highest mountaintop, but it was quickly agreed that people could climb mountains. Finally, one of the wisest gods suggested hiding it deep inside the people themselves. They’ll never think to look there. And so it came to be.

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The ANTS exercise can help us see what negative thoughts we may have. These thoughts can stop us or block us from getting what we want. Transform the negative thoughts into positive thoughts.

Automatic negative thoughts (ANTS) are the thoughts a person might have right after a great idea. These thoughts can limit us and hold us back from taking action. For example: “I would like to get a better job, but I don’t have the education.” Or, “I would like to start my own business, and I have all of these great ideas, but I don’t have enough money.” Instead of focusing on how you are going to make it happen, focus on what you can do right now.

What we say is a direct response to what we are thinking. Our words are very important also. For example: “don’t forget” vs. “remember.” One might say, “I can’t forget to take out the trash.” What your subconscious mind is hearing is can’t and forget and trash. Studies show that we are more likely to remember something if we use positive words. Instead, we could say, “I need to remember to take out the trash.” Another example that I see all too often. Standing in line at the grocery store and the cashier says, “How are you?” Often I hear people respond with, “I’m not bad.” So in this way, they are responding with a negative thought. Instead, we could say, “I’m doing fine” or “I’m great.” Also, the original question was how you were not how you were not.

Our thoughts, feelings, and actions have a lot to do with what we attract into our lives and create what we experience. The average human has over 60,000 thoughts per day. Although we can’t possibly monitor all of them, we can at least be more conscious of them. Fortunately, we have the ability to change our thought pattern. This does not happen overnight, this is something that needs nurturing and will take time, but eventually, with effort and consistency, you can get there.

Preparation: Have your journal ready to take notes.

One Minute Meditation: Take a moment to relax, take a few deep breaths and center yourself.

Begin the Exercise: Draw a line down the center of the page. On the top left write, “ANTS,” and on the right side write, “POSITIVE THOUGHT.”

Begin by looking at the ANTS column. Note any and all negative thoughts you might have about yourself, a situation, a person, or anything.

Powerful questions:

What negative thoughts have you had recently?

What makes you think you can’t do that?

What are some negative thoughts that you may have about yourself?

What are some negative thoughts you have had about someone else recently?

What are some negative thoughts you have had about a situation recently?

Keep writing until you can’t think of anymore.

Focus and transform: Now transform them…

Look at the Positive Thought column and transform the negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Most times it is the opposite of the negative thought. How do these new thoughts make you feel?

For example, in the ANTS column, you may have written, “I have no energy.” The positive thought would be, “I have an abundant amount of energy.” If this seems unbelievable to you, you could write, “I want more energy, ” or, “I will find a way to start having more energy.”

Speaking in positive terms:

Now that you have the tools to consciously change your thoughts, are you willing to speak more in positive terms? Are you willing to speak more about what you do want not what you don’t want? Are you willing to speak more about what you can do, and less about what you can’t do?

Create an action plan: What action are you willing to take? How will you begin to remove the ANTS in your life? Write it down. Take action!

A Life Coach knows that asking questions is the most powerful way to get to the core of a coaching session. Questions are your most useful tool. Some clients may be used to being told what to do and how to do it, while others feel they are expected to already know everything on their own. When it comes to figuring out things for themselves, clients like these may not know how to and this may cause them to remain co-dependent. This is a very common learned behavior. Asking clients questions begins to reprogram the old conditioning and will get them to start thinking for themselves, to really get their wheels turning. The coach will also know when to ask deeper questions.

Imagine your client just said, “When I think of being out on my own, I feel scared.” This is a great opportunity to deepen the questions by asking, “Why do you think that makes you feel scared?”

Imagine your client says, “I get so angry when he tells me what to do all the time.” Here you could say, “Why do you get so angry?”

As a coach, it is important to feel confident enough to keep asking deeper questions. The more you do this, the faster you will get to the root of the problem and onto a solution and action plan.

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