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The holy book can be divided into four main topics that help grasp the information more easily. 1. TOHEED – Which refers to the UNITY of Allah SWT, and His unique nature as the one and only creator who has no associates or partners. For man’s success on earth, in his grave and in the hereafter, it is essential to believe in he ONENESS of Allah in his nature and being, as he is, with all his attributes and qualities, without any partners. He is omnipotent, omniscient and omnipresent. There is none besides Allah who has the knowledge of all things eternally or to be aware of and see everything simultaneously and unceasingly. 2. PROPHETHOOD – This is the next topic about which the Quran clearly states that we must believe in Muhammad PBUH as the final messenger of Allah SWT. It is obligatory and essential to accept whatever the Prophet PBUH has brought. 3. CRITERIA OF RIGHT AND WRONG – This topic concerns the DO’S and DON’TS of this world such as what is permissible to eat and what is not to gain the pleasure of Allah. Similarly which deeds are prohibited and which not, to gain Allah’s pleasure. 4. CONDITIONS AFTER DEATH – This is the fourth topic of the Quran and has been referred to in Surah Al-Zilzaal which discusses life after death, the day of judgement and the conditions of the day of judgement.

“Allah’s curse falls on ten groups of people who deal with alcohol. The one who distills it, the one for whom it has been distilled, the one who drinks it, the one who transports it, the one to who it has been brought, the one whom serves it, the one who sells it, the one who utilizes money from it, the one who buys it and the one who buys it for someone else.”

“Anything which intoxicates in a large quantity, is prohibited even in a small quantity.”

So seeing as so many embargoes are placed on the consumption of alcohol, the reasons behind it are quite predominant.

Alcohol is a form of a hallucinogen, meaning it has adverse affects on a person’s nervous system- brain. Alcohol reduces and individuals ability to self control and their agility. People are told not to drink and drive as alcohol impairs their response times and therefore they put themselves and other in danger. This same situation can be extrapolated to other activities. Many drunk people make a mockery of themselves by doing things like drunk dialling, which is another example of how self control is impaired making people do things they wouldn’t do in a sober state.

Now these issues affect everybody so how can this scenario be specifically applied to Muslims? Well Muslims pray five times a day and if one is not of sound mind then they are likely to forget of this obligation or not fulfil it with properly. Furthermore, when one has no self control they are more likely to commit other forms of sins such as adultury or aggressive behaviour.

All this is aside from the fact that alcohol causes many health hazards and harms vital organs. In islam afflicting any form of self harm consciously is also sinning. Therefore drinking a slow affecting poison fits that misdemeanour also. The Western world is slowly catching up to these vices and the harmful nature of such habits, however, Muslims have been blessed to receive their warning through the Qur’an, directly from God.

“O ye who believe! Intoxicants and Gambling, (Dedication of) stones, And (divination by) arrows, Are an Abomination Of Satan’s handiwork; Eschew such (abomination), That ye may prosper.” [Al-Qur’an 5:90]

1. Make her feel secure, don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Give sincere Salaams.
3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel.
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
5. Be generous with her.
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart.
7. Avoid anger, be in Wudhu at all times.
8. Look good and smell great for your wife.
9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken.
10. Be a good listener.
11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing.
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves to hear.
13. A pleasant surprise.
14. Preserve and guard the tongue.
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings.
16. Give sincere compliments.
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family.
18. Speak of the topic of her interest.
19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is.
20. Give each other gifts.
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her.
22. Have a good opinion of each other.
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t nitpick.
24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses.
25. Expect and respect her jealously.
26. Be humble.
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers.
28. Help at home, with housework.
29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her.
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you.
31. Remember your wife in Du’a.
32. Leave the past for Allah, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not your wife.
35. Put food in your wife’s mouth.
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect.
37. Show her your smile.
38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big.
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted.
40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking.
41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills.
42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within Halaal boundaries.
43. Help her take care of the children.
44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments.
45. Sit down and eat meals together.
46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice.
47. Don’t leave home in anger.
48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.
49. Encourage each other in worship.
50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you.
51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times.
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, don’t jump on her like a bull.
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.
54. Show care for her health and well-being.
55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.
56. Share your happiness and sadness with her.
57. Have mercy for her weaknesses.
58. Be a firm support for her to lean on.
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal.
60. Have a good intention for her.
61. Cook a dish for her.
62. Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you to pray at night whenever you can.
63. Women love flowers. Make a trail of them on the floor leading to the gift you made for her.
64. Give her a nice massage when she least expects it.
65. Send your wife a text message out of the blue with a message of love.
66. Send your wife an email without a reason.
67. Go out on a date or a get-away for the weekend in a nice location, preferably without kids.
68. Do something for your wife’s family, whether it is a gift, or a chat with her teen brother who needs mentoring, or whatever. It will get you lots of brownie points.
69. Do not keep reminding and demanding your rights all the time.
70. Shop groceries for her and call her from the store and ask her what she needs for the home, for herself or for her to give to people as gifts.
71. Ask her if she would like to invite her female friends over for ladies only get together and arrange for the dinner.
72. Ask her to send gifts to her parents and siblings.
73. Help her parents pay off debt. Send her poor relatives some money.
74. Write love notes or poems and place them in the book she’s been reading.
75. If she tells you something she had just learned from the Qur’an or Hadith, do not dismiss her or ridicule her effort, instead listen to her and take her word.
76. Plant her a kitchen garden with all kind of herbs she needs for cooking.
78. Update her PC or laptop with a new one or get her a new mobile phone.
79. Learn to do a special massage technique and surprise her with your new expertise.
80. Teach your children to respect and honor their mother.
81. Be humorous with her when she makes a mistake in the kitchen (like when she put too much salt or burnt her baking).

81 ways to win your Wife’s love

Marriage is a blessed contract between a man and a woman, in which each becomes “permitted” to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in a spirit of love, co operation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and finds tranquillity, contentment and comfort in the company of the other. The Qur’an has described this relationship between men and women, which brings love, harmony, trust and compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms

Among His signs is [the fact] that He has created spouses for you among yourselves so that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has planted love and mercy between you; In that are signs for people who reflect. [Quran 20:30]

This is the strongest of bonds, in which Allah (SWT) unites the two Muslim partners, who come together on…