Saturday, September 28, 2013

conversations

so, i've been in two recent conversations that kind of bugged me. there were two scenarios where white people around me felt the need to relate their experiences with their parents' racism. why would i want to hear some nasty comment your parents said about black people?

and the whole reason the story is ever being told by the white person is to get some kind of brownie points with me or another black person. i guess they are trying to make themselves appear noble and righteous or something.

i was at work a couple weeks ago when this really dark skinned indian woman in her 40s(from india) was gushing over her new boyfriend. she's telling about 4 other people in the break room how great he is. and for some reason that i can't remember, she starts talking about how she was raised, and how growing up, she was told by her father that there were specific types of people she was not allowed to date. she could not date chinese people, she could not date this person, or that person, and then she says, "....and no colored people". i almost choked on my air. first of all, what color was SHE? she surely wasn't white. she is a person of color!! but i just thought, that that conversation was kind of offensive in the first place. second of all, "colored"? really? i'm surprised she didn't say negro. jeez. my vindictive side told me that i could pursue it by hitting up HR and letting them know of the conversation. but i just figured...why bother. all it will do is make me look like the stereotypical angry, oversensitive black female.

and then, last week, i was with some white girlfriends doing happy hour. one of them, who is married to a mixed man (he's mixed with white and black) starts talking about how when she first started dating him, her mother said, "why would you do that to you (future) children?! why would you want to make your life harder?"

*sigh* here we go. this conversation again. why would i want to hear this? why do white people think it's okay to have this conversation with me or anyone black nearby? i guess because she went ahead and married the guy so somehow she gets a pass? maybe they don't think i'm a "real" black person because i act intelligent/have straightened hair/light skinned/speak properly/whatever. it still makes me feel bad. all it does is keep reminding me that so many people have not changed.

It has nothing to do with skin color, but DNA. There are no sickle cell Indians. There are no average IQ of 80 Indians. There are no Indians that can't form a civilization and instead wander around like nomads stealing from whoever/whatever has resources.

There are however Indians that suck at manual labor and couldn't lift a 50 pound sack of potatoes to save their lives. Tan/Melanin doesn't define race. It's a tan. Not a phenotype.

If you know anything of anatomy you know Negroids, Mongoloids, and Caucasoids are built completely differently, top to bottom. Bone density, muscle composition, brain development, disease immunity/vulnerability, life span, etc.

They(Indians) are in fact a split branch of the Aryan race from about 40,000 years ago. They were separated by a migration, then a cataclysm. And separated again 10,000 years ago by another cataclysm. I believe it's called allopatric speciation for the non-ignorant.

In any case, if you ever want somebody to not suck up to you because you're a member of a dying race, just ask me. I'll be more than happy to share with you my non-ignorance of your African race's absolute lack of civilization and achievement throughout History. Starting with today's news in- pick a Country. Anywhere.

OH, OK, so WE make YOU uncomfortable because we're trying to tell you we're NOT racist? I agree it's a bad way to do it, but consider this...WE are CONSTANTLY being reminded by the 'black community', that now CHOOSES to singly identify itself AWAY FROM the rest of the citizens in YOUR country, that you think we're ALL racists. You imply it many times yourself n this blog.?So, when a white person meets you and says they think EVEN THEIR PARENTS racism ks bad, that's, to you, an inferior message to send? It's not good enough for you that their willing to confide they've, in a very real way, divorced themselves from their own parents so YOU will be comfortable? On one hand you wish to have your feelings CONSTANTLY tip toed around by all other ethnic groups, blobs of identity that destroys the idea of individuality...all these non-black groups should be careful around but WAIT!! Not TOO careful...but WAIT! we better watch what we say, second by second inmyoir company....do you not see that this shit works BOTH WAYS? And you have the arrogance and discourtesy to COMPLAIN when some random white person actually TRIES TO CONNECT with you?

Good God woman, what are you? 12You sound like an entitled, spoiled little brat that simply cannot be pleased no matter what anyone does to make her comfortable. I'd hate to be married to, friends with, work with, or live next door to you. Not because you're black, but because you are a whiny brat.

1. Have you ever heard the term 'black flight'? If not, don't feel bad. It doesn't exist. Can you honestly admit to why that is?

2. Why are all these new 'stand your ground' laws coming about for property owners? Is it because of so many white people tresspassing to rob and steal? Is it because a'' cops are racist or because they're so overwhelmed handling other calls, they may not arrive in time to protect a home owner? Which group of American citizens are committing the most crimes in YOUR county? Have you looked it up? Do you even know who your county commisioners are, and did you vote for any of them?

I could go on and on like this, but will wait for your honest answers instead. By Honest I mean you don't have to resort to using Google to answer.

I have been trying to contact you about a comment removal but I am not sure if your email address is up to date/if you still maintain this blog actively. I would really appreciate it if you could let me know how to reach you so that I can get my email address removed from an earlier post (only the administrator-you) can do this.

Yeah, being a human being, we should not criticize others by their skin colors; it, however, has long been in the USA for more than a century. With the increasing diversity of the U.S. population, sometimes, we need to tolerate unfair things even the things do go our way.

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The brutally honest thoughts and musings of a thirty-something, middle class black girl's experiences as a mother to two girls and one boy, interacially married to an awesome white guy in [a very white] Portland, Oregon.
Topics that I blog about are likely thought or ideas that are not so easy to talk about openly, things I'd only tell a close friend.
Raised in Portland, the youngest of 5 siblings-with FOUR older brothers-I want to write about race relations and perception from my perspective.
AND I DON'T HAVE TO BE OBJECTIVE.
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