Learn techniques for bringing up a spirited, happy daughter

Girl Power

Girl Power

Girls receive mixed messages all the time––on the one hand, they’re told that they can do anything. At the same time, Barbie tells them that “math is hard!” They’re encouraged to play sports, but then watch TV shows featuring girls who are more likely to gossip on the sidelines than be on the field. “The good news is that most parents understand there are issues around raising girls, and they want to get it right,” says Amy Sluss, family life specialist and founder of Fabulous to Be Female, an organization that works toward empowering girls. So what can you do? The first step, she says, is not to let those images of sexy, catty young girls go by without comment. But there’s much more to keep in mind when it comes to raising a motivated, independent girl—read on for eight important ways to raise a strong woman.

Compliment all of her good qualities—not just her looks

Compliment all of her good qualities—not just her looks

Of course your little girl is cute as can be, and getting prettier every day. And chances are she takes pride in hearing that she’s adorable. “We all like knowing we look good,” says Sluss, “so you don’t have to stop telling your daughter that she’s pretty.” Instead, the idea here is to compliment her on other things also. “When you see her taking great joy in something, mention it,” says Sluss. Try: “I love that huge smile! You look so happy on the swings!” This sends the message that a big part of her beauty is the happiness she projects. Also applaud her abilities and accomplishments, like spelling, drawing, being a good friend or helping her little brother, too. Pepper in praise for all the things that make her a whole, authentic person, not just one part that’s great about her.