Grief & Loss

Miscarriage...again.

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moranerica wrote:

Just found out today that my pregnancy is not viable and I'm going to miscarry. This will be my second pregnancy and my second loss. I'm young and what I thought was healthy. I'm just beside myself right now. I never thought it would be so hard to have a baby. Any positive stories or hope? I don't know how many more losses I can take.

I'm in the same spot as you...2nd pregnancy and miscarriage. Found out last week. :( I'm going to the doctor next week to ask about testing...hoping to get an answer but not hopeful about finding one. I started my husband and I on some supplements (fish oil, coenzyme q10, l-arginine and vitamin E). Might be overkill but I'll try anything!

Yeah, even my doctor thinks it is just "bad luck" and doesn't think there's anything wrong...not sure why bc they haven't done testing yet. I think she was trying to comfort me by saying nothing is likely wrong with me and I couldn't have done anything differently...but it it was definitely not comforting at all. I wish it was a progesterone issue or something easily fixed...

I also have suffered from recurrent loss. I just had my fourth miscarriage, this time with twins, so we have 5 angel babies. We are waiting on pathology results to see if it was a chromosomal abnormalities.

sorry didn't mean to hit enter. our first loss was due to trisomy 16. second two were to early to test. All of my testing has come back normal, we did the recurrent loss panel. we are thinking my egg quality stinks, but pathology results will yield more answers. we are doing ivf and will be testing the embryos for sure now. I'm sorry for your loss and sorry I don't have a positive story. just know you're not alone.

"Not Broken" is a book by a Seattle-based reproductive endocrinologist. Her name is Lora Shahine. You can get it on Amazon. Probably your local book store too! She writes a lot of blog posts, too.

Dr Shahine makes the science really accessible and helps you with advocating for yourself - learning what tests are "worth" it and which are not. How to communicate with your doctor. What questions to ask, etc.

I found that learning more was helpful. It makes me feel like I am doing something, you know?

Thank you! It's so frustrating because I feel like you almost have to fight for answers- u think with all the medical advancements, it would be better understood. If you don't mind me asking what led you to ivf? Did the doctor think u would have a better chance of carrying full term?

I had to use a fertility clinic because I'm a lesbian, so we are using donor sperm. I did six iui before ivf would be covered by insurance. if the pathology comes back as chromosomal I will most likely use my wife's eggs because she is younger than I am. I also have two frozen and we will chose to test them first.

I’m sorry for your loss, friend. I’ve been through two miscarriages recently and I know how painful this is for you. God has given me the strength to move forward, and I pray for comfort and strength for you as well at this time. I wish I was closer so that I could put an arm around you. Hang in there!

I just want you to know that I'm sorry and that you're not alone. I've had 2 consecutive missed miscarriages (August 2016 and this past April) and have no living children. My OB offered testing; immune, thyroid, clotting, karyotype. Everything was "normal", but I also know there are more in depth tests out there. I've been taking 81mg of baby aspirin daily since our second loss, and I'll be on progesterone once I get the next BFP. Do I feel positive about the next time around? Not at all. I'm scared out of my mind. But I'm not too scared to try again. I hope you can find strength <3

I often read the posts here because my daughter went through multiple losses and she now has a positive story -- my four living grandchildren. She was pregnant a total of 9 times...I saw her almost lose hope but she didn't give up! God upheld her through 5 c-sections. No, we never forgot her losses and they helped shape all of our family to be compassionate, loving people. Blessings to all of you and may God soothe your pain and send you joy.

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