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Let me tell you a story...

Once upon a time, a beautiful princess decided she wanted to have a baby. So she instantly fell pregnant and ​had a perfect pregnancy where she grew a "cute little" bump and didn't gain weight in any other part of her body. Her face didn't explode with pimples in the first trimester whilst her body adjusted to the crazy hormone fluctuations, and she was never EVER a mega bitch to her husband, the prince.

She kept exercising five times a week and eating one salad a day throughout her whole pregnancy like a respectable lady ought to. Then she had a wonderful birth and the next week returned to her pre-baby body so she could continue her life as a professional fitness model as if nothing happened.

Her belly never resembled a cake sagging in the middle from overdoing the baking powder. She never once accidentally shat her pants or peed whilst reaching for a box of cereal in the supermarket, no way. And her baby was perfect and sleeping through the night by zero weeks of age, just in case you were wondering. And she lived happily ever after. The end.

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So many normal and necessary changes happen to a woman’s body - and life - during pregnancy and after birth. And yet society and the media gloss over all the (literally) shitty stuff and instead feed us the unicorn fairytale version of what motherhood and parenting is "supposed" to look like.

No where is this more evident than in the whole idea of getting your "pre-baby body" back.

Diet culture is relentless in sending new mothers messages about needing to fix their so-called imperfections - that they need to "bounce back", lose the baby weight, and flatten their newly soft and stretched tummies within weeks.

Sadly, the way many new mums attempt to live up to this impossible standard is through restrictive dieting and over-zealous exercise, often taken on before the pelvic floor and abdomen have had a chance to repair. Neither of which are in the best interests of mum or baby, especially if mum is breastfeeding.

Pregnancy and postpartum are not a time to diet

Not only is this concept completely insane and biologically inappropriate, it's also very dangerous. Pregnancy and the postpartum period are times when many mums feel especially insecure about the changes in their bodies.

​It’s also one of the three times in a woman’s life when the risk for developing an eating disorder (or worsening pre-existing disordered eating behaviours) is highest, the other two being puberty and peri-menopause.​My biggest gripe is with the fundamental idea that we can even return to our pre-pre-baby bodies at all. The truth is, there’s no going back. We are not meant to have a pre-baby body forever contrary to what diet culture tells us. It's not good for us, nor for our babies.

​The only time we’re meant to have a pre-baby body, is before we get pregnant.

​There is so much more to say about this issue that I spent 45 minutes discussing it with Louise Adams from the All Fired Up podcast. We had a fantastic time raging against the way diet culture attacks women at this very vulnerable point in their lives, and why it's so unhelpful.