Male Virgins Share Their Secrets

19 Guys Open Up About The Tough Realities Of Being A Virgin In 2016

In a society that expects men to be sexually confident and aggressive at a young age — expects guys to initiate sex, to pursue sex, to have sex, and rewards them for having it while punishing women — being a virgin is seen by many as undesirable. If you haven't ever had sex, something's missing from your life, people seem to feel. A man in his 20s who's still a virgin is seen by many people as sad or as lacking something, and his peers will probably pressure him to have sex "just to get it over with" or laugh at him (if he even reveals the fact to them).

One of the worst parts of any secret is feeling like you're alone with it. But as these confessions from virgins on Whisper, the secret-sharing app, reveal, this is a situation lots of guys find themselves in. Whether the guys want to lose their virginity as fast as possible or are happy and comfortable waiting for the right moment, they all seem to be struggling with the knowledge that it's better to keep that fact secret. Well, maybe their secrets will help you feel more comfortable with your own sexual history, whether you're a Casanova or a complete newbie.