Breaking up with your boyfriend

Almost everyone has been through a breakup. And we all know that they are terrible. There rarely is a good breakup. One of the hardest things to do is to figure out the best way to end things with someone you just can’t respect anymore.

Here are a few tips to consider:

Ghosting

This isn’t a new strategy, it just has a different name. Ghosting someone is a burn the bridge behind you plan. It is completely disrespectful and there is no way to salvage a friendship from this behavior. It is an effective, if harsh method.

Mutual breakups

If this relationship evolved from a friendship and the spark has just fizzled. You can probably agree to disagree. Discuss it and see what happens. He may be feeling the same things. And if he isn’t, it’s a good time to bail out so you don’t get in any further.

We’re done-over and out

Did he do something unforgivable and cross your absolute bottom line? If the answer is yes, don’t think about it any more, a simple and emphatic, “Good-bye!” will suffice.

No retreat or reprieve

Is your boyfriend a completely abusive nightmare? Do you think you might be in danger? Get out and stay out. If you think there will be immediate repercussions, begin by planning, save up and ask your friends to help get you out of there.

Blindsiding

This is a brutal breakup. This is the one that he won’t see coming. It mainly happens because you needed to let him know earlier that things weren’t working out. He has been a nice guy who treated you well, and he probably deserved better than this.

The break-up related to cheating

This one is obvious. One of you has been caught cheating. If it was you, it will be dramatic. There is no need to drag your friends into it, unless of course, one of them was involved..

Going down in flames

Has this man violated your trust more than once? Is the humiliation train always stopping at your place? Have you finally had enough? Then it’s time to take him down. Tell him everything he did to alienate him while also telling him how better off you are going to be without him. If you are going to do this be ready to face the fall-out.

Circumstances dictate

You have to move away and he can’t go. You can’t marry him, but he wants you to run away with him. There are just somethings that love can’t conquer. In this situation, it’s just a matter of letting go.

Rebel Rebel

Are you only with this guy because he seems like such a perfect fit? Even if you don’t really like him? Well it’s your life and if you don’t have a connection, there’s no point on holding on

Ice Ice Baby

This may seem to be harsh and may be hard to follow through. Once your mind is made up, you can just start being openly unavailable. Don’t do anything for them. You don’t have to be mean, just don’t engage. Eventually he will get the picture. If he doesn’t you can just use one of the other methods.