HELP!! MIL moving in!!!

me and my husband have been on our own for a couple years now since we've gotten married. We have a 2 year old son and expecting our 2nd child. I recently found out that My MIL got kicked off her housing, foodstamps, ssi, unemployment... Etc etc. she's lived on welfare her whole life and is begging me and my husband for her to move in with us... My husband asked for my opinion and I told him I don't want her acting like its her home, her way or the highway. Because its our home. Not hers and she has no right to try and walk over me or take over my duties in my home, he agreed and has been very supportive with the rules I layed out for her, she has no other choice but to agree or it's out she goes.. But recently she's been trying to take over things like telling me how to raise my son, how I should be a better housewife, I should work etc Etc,., she hasn't even moved in yet and is already laying thugs on me.... How should I tell my husband that if she doesn't go by OUR RULES i do not want her staying with us cuz she's made my life hell and I am ashamed of the fact that she is completely obsessed her son, and she acts more of a wife to him then me,. And it really ticks me off . And she is super jealous of me cuz I took her son away, yadi yada da...Wish me luck -_-

me and my husband have been on our own for a couple years now since we've gotten married. We have a 2 year old son and expecting our 2nd child. I recently found out that My MIL got kicked off her housing, foodstamps, ssi, unemployment... Etc etc. she's lived on welfare her whole life and is begging me and my husband for her to move in with us... My husband asked for my opinion and I told him I don't want her acting like its her home, her way or the highway. Because its our home. Not hers and she has no right to try and walk over me or take over my duties in my home, he agreed and has been very supportive with the rules I layed out for her, she has no other choice but to agree or it's out she goes.. But recently she's been trying to take over things like telling me how to raise my son, how I should be a better housewife, I should work etc Etc,., she hasn't even moved in yet and is already laying thugs on me.... How should I tell my husband that if she doesn't go by OUR RULES i do not want her staying with us cuz she's made my life hell and I am ashamed of the fact that she is completely obsessed her son, and she acts more of a wife to him then me,. And it really ticks me off . And she is super jealous of me cuz I took her son away, yadi yada da...Wish me luck -_-

Just tell him what you said now. That's pretty annoying. I already told my mom not to tell me what to do with my child when he/she is born. When she comes over I tell her not to complain cuz its my place. I can't imagine having my mil move in with me. It would drive me crazy. When she's here she asks me to do all this stuff for her all you here is my name being screamed out every 5min. Don't let your mil take over. Tell your husband exactly how you feel

Just tell him what you said now. That's pretty annoying. I already told my mom not to tell me what to do with my child when he/she is born. When she comes over I tell her not to complain cuz its my place. I can't imagine having my mil move in with me. It would drive me crazy. When she's here she asks me to do all this stuff for her all you here is my name being screamed out every 5min. Don't let your mil take over. Tell your husband exactly how you feel

I agree with rps. I feel like this is a death sentence for you! It seems like welfare is done providing for her which means its someone else's turn! Stand your ground!! I couldn't imagine having my Mil move in!

I agree with rps. I feel like this is a death sentence for you! It seems like welfare is done providing for her which means its someone else's turn! Stand your ground!! I couldn't imagine having my Mil move in!

Geez, I'm in the exact same boat with my MIL-to be. She's obsessed with my DF it's weird, even though she's not moving in she has access too get into our home. I couldn't imagine her moving in. If she did that'd be the day I became a lush. A hard core alcoholic... Ahahaa, but good luck, (:

Geez, I'm in the exact same boat with my MIL-to be. She's obsessed with my DF it's weird, even though she's not moving in she has access too get into our home. I couldn't imagine her moving in. If she did that'd be the day I became a lush. A hard core alcoholic... Ahahaa, but good luck, (:

If she's been on welfare her whole life then she's the last person to be telling you to get a job... Stand your ground and make your point clear that you will not budge. I would never want to have to live with my in-laws... Sorry for your situation GL

If she's been on welfare her whole life then she's the last person to be telling you to get a job... Stand your ground and make your point clear that you will not budge. I would never want to have to live with my in-laws... Sorry for your situation GL

Personally I would just say no. And that it makes you uncomfortable and that her situation is her fault and her problem. May sound heartless but I wouldn't stand for supporting someone that isn't healthy to be around. If she moved in and it doesn't work out, it could end your relationship and again, may just be me, but I would say no from the beginning.

Personally I would just say no. And that it makes you uncomfortable and that her situation is her fault and her problem. May sound heartless but I wouldn't stand for supporting someone that isn't healthy to be around. If she moved in and it doesn't work out, it could end your relationship and again, may just be me, but I would say no from the beginning.

I do not want her staying with us after seeing all your posts and asking my family for advice.. Thank You!! I understand it may seem heartless but I am not trying to ruin a perfect relationship I have with my husband over his mom... I have no idea how I am going to go through with this or how my husband will take it for it being his mom.. But as his wife e has to support me, Til death do us part. And I don't think she'll kill me lol

I do not want her staying with us after seeing all your posts and asking my family for advice.. Thank You!! I understand it may seem heartless but I am not trying to ruin a perfect relationship I have with my husband over his mom... I have no idea how I am going to go through with this or how my husband will take it for it being his mom.. But as his wife e has to support me, Til death do us part. And I don't think she'll kill me lol

Tell him what your concerns are. Maybe look into other options for where she could go, or ask your husband for help. It will be more difficult for him, but you don't want him to feel railroaded. Consider counseling in case he doesn't see your point of view. Having her living with you will impact your marriage. Fighting about her coming could also drive a wedge between you two.

Tell him what your concerns are. Maybe look into other options for where she could go, or ask your husband for help. It will be more difficult for him, but you don't want him to feel railroaded. Consider counseling in case he doesn't see your point of view. Having her living with you will impact your marriage. Fighting about her coming could also drive a wedge between you two.

Rps42010 I will most definitely let him know.. When we were living with her many years back it was miserable and since we moved out its been great, I just can't imagine our relationship going down hill again with 1 son and 1 on the way... Not only is it unhealthy for me but our relationship.

Rps42010 I will most definitely let him know.. When we were living with her many years back it was miserable and since we moved out its been great, I just can't imagine our relationship going down hill again with 1 son and 1 on the way... Not only is it unhealthy for me but our relationship.

I would flat out say no. Cause the bs already started by her telling you what to do. And who the hell is she to tell you to get a job when she never worked. Smh... I know you want to help your husband but save your sanity and marriage say no.

I would flat out say no. Cause the bs already started by her telling you what to do. And who the hell is she to tell you to get a job when she never worked. Smh... I know you want to help your husband but save your sanity and marriage say no.

I will probably catch flack for this but here it goes.....If your husband isn't completely amenable to not having anywhere for his mom to go, set a date. Tell she has this many days to find a job, this many days to get out on her own. In the mean time, set ground rules. If at ANY time she fails to abide by the rules set forth, out the door she goes. If hubby doesn't like it he can go too. It has to be a united front from you and hubby or it will not work. She's spent her life being a governmental support sponge. Giving her a plan to get on her feet might help. If you are uncomfortable at all with her moving in just say no.

I will probably catch flack for this but here it goes.....If your husband isn't completely amenable to not having anywhere for his mom to go, set a date. Tell she has this many days to find a job, this many days to get out on her own. In the mean time, set ground rules. If at ANY time she fails to abide by the rules set forth, out the door she goes. If hubby doesn't like it he can go too. It has to be a united front from you and hubby or it will not work. She's spent her life being a governmental support sponge. Giving her a plan to get on her feet might help. If you are uncomfortable at all with her moving in just say no.

Oh hell no. It is apparent that she is looking for another sponge you guys instead of the government. You will not be doing any favors to her by letting her move in. In fact it is a disservice to her as you will be enabling her bad behavior. Ie never working always on assistance ect. I'd like to know why she got kicked off all the programs? And why she was on all the programs in the first place? You need a permanent solution and letting her move in is not one additionally it could harm you and DH relationship. Think real hard about this.

Oh hell no. It is apparent that she is looking for another sponge you guys instead of the government. You will not be doing any favors to her by letting her move in. In fact it is a disservice to her as you will be enabling her bad behavior. Ie never working always on assistance ect. I'd like to know why she got kicked off all the programs? And why she was on all the programs in the first place? You need a permanent solution and letting her move in is not one additionally it could harm you and DH relationship. Think real hard about this.

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