Hot Sex or Hot Body? What Do Husbands Want?

I'm frantically prepping for my daughter's 5th birthday party as well as a one week trip to San Diego beginning the day after.

As I type away, my house is a sty, my fridge is empty, my bank account is dwindling and my kids are watching television. I'd like to say that my perfectionism is currently writing this column, but sadly, the truth must be told. My house and organizational skills have had better days!

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The same goes for my figure. There's a teeny pouch where the kids once resided, and my boobs aren't exactly the perky little soldiers they once were. And my legs and arms? Oy. They are certainly not as tone as they were in my 20's.

That all said, I'm pretty happy with myself. I look fine in clothes. I don't even mind being naked because, God bless Rex, he thinks I'm fabulous just the way I am.

But a bathing suit? Yikes. Demi Moore I am not!

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This leads me to a question from the husbands out there. How important is a hot rocking body to you? Would you rather have a wife look like Demi Moore even if it meant less sex? Or would you prefer an average sized woman who is happy with herself? (Call me Demi More of Me!)

I realize this is an impossible question. I asked Rex his thoughts on it, and he responded with a, "Well... um... both!" And then he added, "But come on, how realistic is it for everyone to look like that? As long as you do the best you can, and we can enjoy each other, then the movie star bod is a bonus."

Good answer. And honestly, I tend to believe him, for no other reason than when I diet and get completely self-involved, I'm just not as nice. Our relationship works so much better when I strike a balance. (Which means allowing myself that second cup of coffee and cookie by the fire while Rex reads his car magazine. Yeah, we're that sexy.)

Thoughts? Men, how do you feel about your wives' bodies vs. how much sex you're enjoying? Women, do you put far too much pressure on yourselves? Can you enjoy sex when your body is not in fighting form? Can't wait to hear!