Issues with neighbors

We moved to a small town and bought a house the next door people rent (old house) the people across form us (white house) live in a house that mommy owns as well as the people on the other side of us (blue House). When we moved in we asked the neighbors (blue house) to please stop using our yard as a drive way. We have 4 children one with special needs and well we didnâ€™t want cars in our yard. They were pretty pissy. The mom also screams and yells so loud we hear it all the time. I have s autistic child and we needed to put a fence up. There is an old, old, old rock wall between houses. We thought blue house owned it and they had a water main break and the wall crumbled in an area. When we went to put a fence up we found out the wall was ours and we did not have 8000 to fix it so took it out and put the fence up. We Also didn't sue them for the money that was due to us for the damage from the water leak. They took us to court to try to get us not to be able to put a fence up on our land. They also told the judge our little autistic child was a nuisance and a danger to everyone who lived in the area. My child does have special needs but she had never even met my child. Yes he may strip naked and I have to run him down when he flees but he is not a danger to anyone but himself. Blue house told white house that we are nuts. White house told numerous people we were just making up our sons autism for attention:-( Neither refuses to talk to me besides yelling. Blue house planted flowers up against our fence rose bushes so now we have to send a letter to her saying they need removed so we can maintain our fence. The Old house well hubby and I were sitting outside and watched a car pull up to the mail box and sat there and eyed us and then put a baggie in the mail box. Our mail boxes are attached and I went and there lid was half way open and there were pills in the bag. We donâ€™t want druggies in our area the drug dealer passed a group of high school students to get to the mail box. Well hubby called the police so now old house people hate us. Few weeks back I went outside to wait with girls at bus stop. These ladies just sit there and gossip. Well that day a raccoon had been hit and was lying in my yard spazing. I sent the girls to the bus stop aged 9 and 4. It was one house away from me. I stayed with the coon trying to get animal control not he phone. Because I wasnâ€™t at the bus stop with the girls they called CPS on me. They knew full well what I was doing. They were so negative to me that I stop going to the bus stop. I had my girls wait on my porch and watched them go to the bus form my door. Well Last week my 4 year old slipped on the way and started to cry so I start walking out to her the white house people start yelling at me that she doesnâ€™t have time to waste on my kid and that I need to walk her to the bus cause she has to go work and she doesnâ€™t get food stamps like we do. I was so upset because she screamed so loud the whole bus heard. My husband lost his good job last year and yes we have ended up on food stamps. My husband works 2 jobs full time and goes to school full time while I work at night as well. Itâ€™s not like I am sitting on my butt collecting money. We just canâ€™t find a good job. I am embarrassed and sad. The blue house an white house have little girls my 4 year olds age and whenever they are out in the park which is right across from my house and my daughter goes over to play their moms call their girls back and tell them not to play with mine. We had a house fire and they tried to get our permit to rebuild blocked. We are now putting on siding and had to tear off our old porch something that has taken us a long time to do we have been siding less for almost a year well we got the permit took off our old porch and we are putting up siding while we wait for the concrete guy to come to redo the porch they called to complain about the 2 piles of debris we have from this. You think they would be happy we are finally getting siding. We are good normal people and I just donâ€™t understand this or what to do. They are downright mean to me and they are embarrassing my kids with their behavior. What can I do? We never retaliate back. I want to I want to call and complain that they have stuff in the alley behind their house blue house has a shed there we were told we had to move stuff from the ally and my husband spent my daughterâ€™s birthday moving it or he would have been fined but both neighbors have stuff there and itâ€™s not an issue but I have never called, I have not called CPS and when she screams at her husband in her house asking what "whore" he "fucking" and when she calls her "special needs" child a retard. I donâ€™t know if she is special needs or not but when we explained to them our son has autism the blue house was like whatever my kid has special needs as well. There was a tornado in my area and I worked really hard at getting donations and such to people affected by it and one of those houses told people I was getting donations for myself. I was as upset as my husband at his political meeting had raised over 700 for the cause and yet because of what they were saying we had people doubting our true intentions. We have talked to the real owner of the house. One lady is like 8o and wants to be left out of it the other agrees with what every there precious children say even if it is a lie as they told there mommy and daddy we were going to put the fence up blocking access to their shed and threatened to tear their shed down which was ALL a lie we have not even spoke with them. And of course those owners are also good friend with old house owners and they think we are just â€œtrouble startersâ€ What would you do?

Comments (7)

Now with that being said, the 1st issue that made me throw up on myself, is the fact that an ADULT would call a child (Special Needs or Not) a nussiance or a danger, espicially, when its not even THEIR child. They ought to be uthinized for that! Thats just pathetic.

Moving on to the fence issue. You said you were not aware that it was on your property. If you are renting the home, I would think that would be the landlords responsibilty. I could, very easily, be wrong (I havent rented since I was 19, and it was an apartment so...)

And about the pills in the mailbox. I dont know if you should tell anyone else about that or mention it, because A- Its a Felony to open other's mail box's, and B- You NEVER know what the explanation is. But, I would also jump to those conclusions.

Last but not least. the fact that they are screaming at you to begin with, is just unnacceptable! And it really infuriates me that they do this in front of other people and other children. If some children get information like this, they can be EXTREMELY CRUEL. This is why suicide rates in children has risen over the years. It all starts with the parents.

My advice to you would be to LEAVE. Break your lease if you have too, thats what it looks like they want you to do anyway. I know it would be a huge inconvenience to you and your family, but no one can make them stop "Bullying, which is what it sounds like theyre doing. If the landlord comes after you, for breaking the lease, THEN take them to court. Your situation is a very sad one, and I am sorry you have to deal with ignorant people. But your children REALLY should not be targeted for cruelty like this. So, theres my advice. Hope it helps. GL!

Anyhow, I finished reading it, and I still stand firm with the my previous advice. And I hope, on all that is good, you heard wrong about the mother screaming at her OWN child calling him/her "Retarded". That's awful! It sounds like this women has diareha at the mouth, or teretts (sp?).

we cant leave we actaully own this house and we right now cant afford to 1 sell it 2 we would nto qualify for another home and 3 this home has 5 bedrroms and we have 4 kids its the perfect layout for us

and we didnt open their mail box it onyl hangs on by one hinge and so you can see in to it at all times we didnt try to figure it out why the pills were their we just called the police and they did in fact get in trouble for having drugs on them. Worse yet she also had 2 little girls in the car when she got caught with the drugs:-(

OH! Ok, sorry I thought I read that you were renters. Now I'm confused about the wall breaking and several others things... And I got cha on the mailbox. I wasnt judging, I would probably opened up and looked, I just didnt want you to get in legal trouble for that. Thats a shitty situation! People can be such assholes, it's heart breaking. I dont know what advice to give because I'm confused.

If the wall that broke, was on your property, why are the neighbors responsible? And if it's your property, then they dont have a fucking say in whether you put up a fence. I would tell them that when they started paying the mortgage. THEN they could open their mouths, til then STFU!

I think you should move you obviously cant handle ignorant people not alot of people have the patience to so i dont blame you. I think your gonna have to learn to be blind deaf and ignore them ! How else would they know your on foodstamps? Your letting them in, dont let them anymore. Theyre like a rash the more you scratch the more it bothers but after a while if you dont scratch it goes away EVENTUALLY

Good luck OP !

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FTM To Sophie 09/16/11

Don't like me? take a seat with the rest of the bitches waiting for me to give a fuck !