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Female half here: My partner has been in the LS for some time with his deceased wife. I have only been in the LS for a couple of years now. With all the nude pics and up close shots of genitalia, it is actually turning me off! Nothing left to the imagination! I prefer pics of couples with some clothes on; be it play clothes, swim wear, etc. having fun. What I mean by having fun, is not fuck pics either. I mean like boating, travel, etc. It excites me to fantasize about what is underneath the clothes. We enjoy "play clothes" meaning lingerie for both. I enjoy the touch of someone through thin cloth and then taking it off of me; throwing me down and.......you get the picture! So my question is: how many others feel the same way?

Both for us, we prefer to see the whole enchilada. Its nice to see couples picks in clothes in normal settings to get a feel first for how they care for themselves and present themselves in public. But then after we feel there is a mutual interest we prefer to see nudes before talking, more importantly the man believe it or not. Size does matter to her and she doesnt like big bellies or really hairy men or tatoos or piercings. As for the ladies its always nice to see nudes of them but we dont require it as much... you can generally telll with clothing on how hot they may be underneath. Ladies can look sexy in any shape or size, waist, breasts, legs in any flavor combination is part of the fun in having sex with someone with a different shape or size than your partner. Thats why we swing right, for something different?

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I feel where you are coming from. However, I like a combination of both. IMO, it shows the balance of the person. I hate getting the dick shot as the first contact just like I hate to get a sexual proposal before I even know who the fuck you are! This adds to the "we're all here for the same thing." We are not all here for the same thing. I have lots of "friends" from this site that I've never had a sexual encounter and we are still cool. I am a nudist at heart and go to nudist resorts and beaches as it is so relaxing and people are not on "cruise" like we nasty swingers...LOL. However, I went on a LS cruise where men came to breakfast with their dicks swinging. I hated that! There is a right way and a better way to do things. Use common sense.

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Quality, creative cock socks? Like a codpiece with a little lagniappe.

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Hey JaiDawn: I get what you're saying, believe me. There have been times when I was a "little" (pun intended) surprised. Just wish there was some way to "dress up" the cock so it's not so out there! LOL! Hey, new idea!! Little outfits for the cock!! oh yeah, they have those already at our local porn/costume shop.....

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For me nudity hasn't become boring so much as it's just become more, I dunno, normal.

I've always had a true appreciation for the female form. (I could get existential and call it an artists eye, but I'm not in a bar trying to pick someone up at the moment, so I won't). I love the curves and bumps. The dimples and wrinkles. All the silly little quirks and imperfections that make a woman unique. I don't, or ever did, get turned on at the sight of a naked woman just because she's naked. I get turned on by a confidant woman who isn't afraid of the skin she lives in, no matter how much of it's showing. It's for that reason alone that I find burlesque performers to be infinitely more attractive than any stripper or porn star.

And if that confidant lady happens to be into me as well, then it's going to be one of the most incredibly freeing sexual encounters she's ever had in her life (Oh shit...I'm still using my pick-up lines aren't I?)

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When you take pants down and the guy's penis is only 2 inches if that (yes this has happened to me), there is no making lemonade with that. You have those surprises. I don't want them.

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LOL!! LIVEWIRECPL - you are correct....my partner WAS in the LS with his deceased wife! Need a proof reader. HA! We are going to Desire, Cancun in May. It will be interesting. Being a natural redhead with fair skin; I cannot worship the sun! Someone mentioned better to see what you're getting, rather than a surprise. HMmmm.....I like surprises, good or not so good. I'm the kind of person that takes lemons and makes a lemon pie!

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Sed, you've obviously "got it" girl, so flaunt away!!! I tend to like erotic pics that leave a little to the imagination, & make me want to uncover the rest. We don't have any totally nude pics on our profile.

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LOL @ LiveWire. I thought the exact same thing.

I also initially read the thread title as Nudity Boning, which made the 1st sentence by the OP even more awkward.

And nude pics in a profile are fine. I'm not "turned on" by nude pics (though many of you ladies are down right gorgeous and sexy), but I think that's because I'm not 13 anymore. But since the endgame here is for us to end up naked together, it's nice to know what to expect.