I confess I have done some research on film about that wife who killed herself and the husband vows revenge on the man who stole her. Turns out that the wife had multiple affairs while he was away, but the husband still goes out on his revenge. I have even written people about the promiscuous wife including details. I feel stupid about doing that. Should I erase the emails and private messages? I have been given the advice not to read anything that would feed the obsession. There is a chance that it will end it.

Hello peacemax.
I've read a few of your posts through out the forum, and you've stated a few times that you have an obsession with infedelity. Is this right?
Well, all I can say is that I understand what you're going through, in a way. I have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder), so I know all about obsessions.

Quote:I have even written people about the promiscuous wife including details. I feel stupid about doing that. Should I erase the emails and private messages?

In my opinion, erase the emails and private messages. By starting a conversation about this topic, through email and private message, you are feeding your obsession.

Quote:I have been given the advice not to read anything that would feed the obsession.

This is good advice. Have you been told this by a doctor or someone else?
I've been told the same things regarding my obsessions. I know it's hard, but it gets easier. Try your best to stay away from the obsessions.
When you feel as if you need to do something relating to the obsession, try and do something else to occupy your time and get your mind off of it. If you wish, come on here and post how you feel. Just to vent.

If you'd ever like to chat or need to vent, feel free to send me a private message.
Take care.

'Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars' - Les Brown
'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent' - Eleanor Roosevelt

peacemax Wrote:Thank you. I can send you a pm about what I go through on a daily basis.

Dont forget Peacemax you can also share your thoughts with all of us here if your comfortable with that because were all here to listen and help you as much as we can. A problem shared is a problem halved remember.

In the end, having and affair only leads one into a deeper depression, because of the shame factor associated with the act. That's how it was for me. It is best to stay away from situations that will feed the fire and obsession. I feel infidelity is heading down the wrong path, if you truly want recovery. Try Zoloft. It actually works. Good luck!!!