Lao Tzu, the Chinese Taoist philosopher famously said: The
journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

This is bullshit.

And don’t let any sanctimonious pseudo writing instructor use
this analogy as an argument encouraging you to put pen to paper.

The journey of a thousand miles should begin with a little bit of
thought. Where are you going? Who are you going with? Do you really
want to go there? And a thousand miles is a pretty long journey: is
there an alternative route that isn’t quite so circuitous?

Before you write, before you pick up a pen or sit down in front of
a keyboard: STOP. Before you go to work on that gripping opening line,
or that scintillating dialogue that echoes around inside your head,
you need to ask yourself three key questions. Honestly answering these
will save a lot of heartache, hardships and frustrations as you start
working on your story.

1) What do you want to write? A novel? A short story? A love
letter for a beaux? A confession to a raunchy magazine? Something
else?

Name it and focus on that ambition. Things may change as your plans
move along. Short stories have a way of growing, novels can swell to
epic proportions or shrivel to the size of a slim novella. Regardless
of the way events will eventually transpire, an initial goal will give
you an idea of what your are trying to achieve. That alone can be a
blessing on those days when you reread your work and ask yourself: What
am I trying to do here?

The journey of a thousand miles doesn’t even begin with buying a
road map. Before you make any further decisions: you first need to know
where you’re going.

2) Who is your intended audience? Are you writing for men?
For women? A specific person? A general readership? Are you wanting to
reach out to an intelligent audience who are impressed by literate
metaphor? Or a readership who demand details of contemporary culture
in a simple and uncomplicated prose?

If you were writing anything for a foreign audience, you’d first
want to learn their language. This is because you’d want to
communicate with your readers using words they understand.

That much is simple.

But what is often overlooked is the way we modify our language when
communicating with different peer groups.

My teenage son calls me "Dude," he refers to his mother
as "Tracy," and greets his martial arts instructor with the
appellation "Sifu." College lecturers and close friends are
not hailed in the same way. And those little differences in terms of
salutation precede a host of alternative mannerisms and expressions
that he has unconsciously tailored to each individual interaction.

And, while I’m very proud of my son, and think he is exceptional
and unique: this mutable behaviour is something that we all do when
communicating with different groups of people. It is something that
must be done with writing to make sure we are properly addressing our
target audience in a language with which they are comfortable.

To illustrate this in terms of erotica: few editors are likely to
accept a confession to their raunchy letters page that includes
flowery phrases such as, "I gave him my womanliness."
Similarly, if you’re writing a risqué letter to your lover, you’ll
instinctively know when to say, "I want to peel the clothes from
your glorious, gorgeous body," and whether or not it’s
acceptable to add, "and fuck you like the little bitch-whore that
you are."

Knowing your intended audience and knowing how to speak to your
intended audience will give you the clearest indicators of how to get
your message across. This means, when you do start writing, every word
and every sentiment will be understood. All readers and authors will
agree that being understood is the most important premise of any
written communication.

Going back to the analogy with Lao Tzu’s journey of a thousand
miles: this is all about knowing the terrain you’ll have to cover. If
you were really going on that incredibly long journey, this is where
you’d be deciding whether to wear heels or hiking boots

3) What do you want to achieve from the experience of writing? Are
you hoping to produce something for the Times’ bestseller list? The
masterpiece that wins literary immortality for your name? A
titillating tale that will arouse someone special? Or is your story
aimed at a select audience with specific demands?

As with the first question, the answer to this can change through
your own shift in values, or the acceptance and success of your
particular project.

Pauline Réage wrote Histoire d’O to prove her
chauvinistic employer wrong when he said no woman could write an
erotic novel. Its phenomenal success and elevation to the status of a
literary classic are merely fortuitous by-products of its publication.

Regardless of your motives which can range from the altruistic
desire to inspire the world’s unifying arousal, the urge to make an
honest living, or the simple hope that you can excite someone special
knowing what you want to achieve at the outset will help you better
understand if you’re progressing in the right direction. To continue
using the analogy of Lao Tzu’s quote: if your story is a journey of a
thousand miles, a predefined goal is your compass.

Answering the above three questions is necessary before you begin
to write. No answer you give will be better than any other. If someone
wants to write worthy literature that is appreciated throughout the
world, that doesn’t mean their goal is superior to someone who wants
to excite a solitary lover or a regular readership. The only important
thing about the answers is that they must be honest to your own goals.

So: take a moment to think about those three questions and decide on
the answers as they apply to you. What do you want to write? Who
are you writing it for? What do you hope to get from the experience?

The path of well-written fiction is effectively planned and mapped
before the journey can begin. Therefore, once you have your answers,
you can say you know what you want to write; you know whom you’re
writing for; and you’re confident about what you want from the
experience.

And now, you can pick up your pen and start getting those words on
paper. As Lao Tzu, the Chinese Taoist philosopher said: The journey
of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

About the Author: Ashley
Lister is a UK author responsible for more than two-dozen erotic
novels written under a variety of pseudonyms. His most recent
work, a non-fiction book recounting the exploits of UK swingers, is
his first title published under his own name.
Ashley’s non-fiction has appeared in a variety of magazines,
including Forum, Chapter & Verse and The International Journal of
Erotica. Nexus, Chimera and Silver Moon have published his
full-length fiction, with shorter stories appearing in anthologies
edited by Maxim Jakubowski, Rachel Kramer Bussel and Mitzi Szereto.
He is very proud to be a regular contributor to ERWA.
Email: Ashley Lister
Website: www.ashleylister.co.uk