Monday, 1 May 2017

A little drop of advice.

The Joy of Youth.

As I get older and I see around me young people making all, well a lot of , the mistakes I made how I wish I was still able to share some words of wisdom. But the days of standing before a class of young eager students have long gone and I doubt if I will ever be invited to address such a group again.

Given the chance , what would I have to say?

I encourage anyone over 26 to try this and thank you for indulging my attempt.

Ladies and gentlemen of the class of 2017. Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.

Nevertheless I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth.

Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20/30 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked.

You are not as fat as you imagine, and the spots are not really noticeable.

Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing, chewing gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees and ankles. Trust me you will miss them when they're gone.

Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander, and lie . You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasise that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.

About Me

Ralph now resides in the Fife village of Freuchie, a short distance from the Forth Rail and Road Bridges, and from his birthplace of Rosyth.
Ralph settled in Fife in 2006, after some 40 years of residence in different places around Scotland, where he worked as a minister of religion and then as a teacher. He now paints as a vocation, and is inspired by the beauty of his surroundings - natural and structural.
Ralph's artwork is a vibrant and eclectic mix of Landscape Paintings, Seascape Paintings, Abstract Paintings, Still Life Paintings, People Portraits and Animal Portraits. His favoured medium is acrylic. He also uses pastel. This variety ensures that Ralph's work is alway fresh and original.
Ralph has never been to art-school and has not received professional training. His work is organic and comes from his heart. He has a unique and insightful appreciation of his locale. All this makes his work feel familiar yet stirring to the viewer.