Welcome to SabrinaSwings!

I am a happily married swinger in suburban Minneapolis. My husband and I have been married for 20+ years and exploring various aspects of consensual non-monogamy since the beginning. Sabrina Swings is the place where I share our experiences. The blog is part true erotic swinging stories, but mostly philosophical discussions of some of the lifestyle's most common questions. How do I get into swinging? How do I talk my spouse into swinging? How do I know if I should swing? Do swingers get jealous? How often do swingers have sex? Where can I find a swinging playmate? Hope you enjoy!

While swinging is sometimes spontaneous, it’s often really nice to show up to a playdate or party well prepared. Following is a list of items I like to keep in our sex-bag. I have a leather backpack that I keep packed at all times so I can grab it at a moment’s notice. Take a look at my suggestions and let me know your thoughts and ideas in the comments.

1. Condoms : Whether you are male or female, you want to have at least a couple different kind of condoms in your bag. Be sure to include a non-latex brand for those who are allergic or sensitive. Why does a woman need condoms in her bag? Isn’t that the guys job? Well, yes. However, I don’t want to have to quit when things start to heat up just because my playmate didn’t bring his own condoms. Plus, when the lady brings her own, she can make sure they are fresh (haven’t been in his wallet since junior high) and have been stored properly (not in a hot glove compartment all summer). Plus, don’t forget the Female Condom provides even more protection against STIs that are spread by skin to skin contact like Herpes and HPV. I’ve heard they feel better too!

2. Lube: So many kinds and so many reasons! My bag currently has a small bottle of Astroglide, two kinds of KY Touch Massage, plus KY yours+mine his and hers lube. Remember, not only does lube help sex feel better, it also helps make sure the condom doesn’t break.

3. Intimate Wipes: I’m not a huge fan of “intimate wipes”, but a lot of people seem to like them. It is nice to be able to freshen up a bit before and after fun. If you’re like me and prefer something a bit more natural, maybe pack a fresh washcloth in a ziplock with a bar of mild soap.

4. Gum, mints, or better yet, toothbrush and toothpaste. Nothing sweeter than a fresh mouth when you are kissing. Also nice for freshening up after oral sex.

5. Massage lotion or oil. A little something to make sure every inch of your body is super soft and kissable. This can also be a nice addition to foreplay if you happen to be lucky enough to have a playmate who likes to give massages. Just be sure that whatever you use is safe for condoms. No mineral oil or other petroleum based products. They can weaken latex condoms.

6. Vibrator. Before, during, and after! More than once, I have found myself wishing I had Mr Hitachi with me to finish the job. 😉

7. Chapstick or lipgloss: Keep your lips in kiss-ready condition at all times. Have fun with flavors too!

8. Towel: Especially for those of us who tend to “gush” with excitement. My dream purchase is one of these Liberator Fascinator Throes. It’s a waterproof throw that is satin on one side and super soft plush on the other. One of these days I am going to splurge and get myself one of these. In the meantime, a towel does the job.

9. Clean panties: I like to have a fresh pair of panties to put on for the drive home. I usually start playing while I’m still dressed and (if my playmate is doing his job right) my panties get nice and wet before they are taken off. It’s nice to put something fresh on at the end of the night.

10. Candles and matches. Candelight is the best kind of light to fuck by. It makes everything seem a little sexier and helps make the body look soft and glowy. Jar candles (which I’ve always thought were incredibly stupid) are actually the perfect type for bringing along to add a little ambiance to that cheap motel room. Enjoy the additional sensory stimulation a scented candle can provide.

That is a list that we can all go by… Many dont think about things like that. I myself pack those things as well. I also have a portable dvd player that I sometimes take with me to get us into the mood better.. And at times, when u ant to good stiff drink to get u better well off in the mood. Make that night of passion to the GOOD