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Is it normal to lose feelings for someone while you are deployed

I been living with my boyfriend since November and been with him since November because of my housing situation. I deploy In October for Afghanistan . I seen all my friends lose feelings while overseas and they met new people. Is this normal to lose feelings for someone while deployed?

I think being deployed can be very stressful, and a lot of people end up leaning on those who are there with them, or at home with them when their partner is on assignment, and letteing things go to far. I know this because I have a good friend whose husband has been overseas a couple of times, and it was hard on both of them. It's important to stay connected as much as you can and not let the situation make you drift toward someone else.

My husband is going through his 3rd deployment right now and neither of us have lost feelings for each other, we have gone 14 months, 12 months, and now 9months apart and are still in love and faithful to each other. If you can't last through a deployment, you wont last. I have Never put myself in a position where I could even come close to getting feelings for another man.

Now marriage is different...there's faith in that but we not married not have kids together. I have one son but by someone else

Comment by
Anonymous
(original poster)
at 7:51 PM on Jul. 23, 2013

no, i dont think thats normal unless the relationship wasn't strong to begin with. my ex, when we were together, was deployed for 15 months and i loved him just as fiercely when he was gone as i did before he left. we obviously arent together anymore now but its not because of the deployment.

See we just been together since November and my friends tell me that my feelings is gone fade. They are over there also and their relationships has ended because it wasn't long term such as mines. But if it happens it will only happen for a reason