Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Sexuary 2015 - Strap-Ons

So was hoping to get to the TENS units but am waiting for a new toy to arrive before I finish that so we're going to talk about strap-ons. YEAH!

So strap-ons are one of those Sexuary toys that EVERYONE gets to play with. It doesn't matter your gender or sexual preference there are strap-ons for you and your partners enjoyment. While we generally think of strap-ons in women on women, it can actually be used by both men and women on both men and women. Damn these strap-ons are good!!!

So it's been our experience that most strap-ons are pretty simple in design. While the miles of webbing or leather might look intimidating, once you can lay it out and figure out leg and belt you're good to go. Just tighten it up and fun and excitement are around the corner. Though you'll notice in our picture we have one that wraps around you thigh, a much simpler design, though it has some 'thrust' issues to it.

So most of the strap on work with a metal O ring that fits around the base and then that snaps into your webbing. Note the bottom left dildo is made to be put onto a strap on belt.

We've also found a double sided strap on that vibrate both her and him at the same time (lighter purple on). While Jackie had issues with the angle on this one we loved the idea of it.

So why do we play with strap-ons?

Well first of all there is the hands free element here. Depending on the sex using it you could be stroking a clit or a cock, or just holding on while still stroking or pegging.

You can get your hips into it. Let's face it these are nothing more than dildos and vibrators, but hip action definitely adds a new dimension to the thrusting the receiver is getting.

For the women there is gender bending

For the men there is now 2 penises and the possibility of double penetration

Additionally for men with erectile issues the strap on can over come so of those issues and provide a great sexual experience.

There are role play opportunities here. The strap on because that guy you invited to your bed together.

So I'll add that while some guys are intimidated by strap-ons, I've never met a guy that's tried them that don't appreciate them. The "you've got to be gay if you allow anal" myth is just that a myth. After all why would one of the most erotic zones in a man be found within the anal channel if we weren't supposed to explore there? Seriously guys there is nothing like having your prostate rubbed while a woman has a strap on dildo plowing in your ass and you're being stroked.

Oh but wait that means the wife must really be butch and dominate. *slapping forehead* For most women wearing a strap on has no gender implications. It's just another accessory they wear for sexual play that just happens to be very practical and while they might seriously get into the moment, it doesn't change who they are. If they're not butch and dominate now a strap on isn't going to change that.

Here's a good video I found talking about the different styles of strap-ons and attachable dildos.

I will say that we had problems finding our first belt for Jackie because of size. But what I figured out was that the web belts are standard webbing and I just added a couple of pieces of webbing extending the pull straps. This allowed a more comfortable fit for her, and pleasure for me. So for us the web belts were the best option.

We also have found that it is generally much cheaper to purchase a harness by itself and then add the dildo you want to add separately. The 'kits' get quite pricey and you won't always get the dildo you want. Putting your own set together allows you to get what you want, and often at a cheaper price. You'll notice in our collection we have a variety of strap on dildos that we can put on Jackies harness.

So how does this work with Sexuary? Well here's the deal, strap-ons allow for some unique toy play. They bring an intimacy to your bedroom (or other places) that just the dildo doesn't. And isn't that what Sexuary is about? Bringing a new sense of intimacy to the bedroom. Even if it's for the 1 night this month, these toys are fun.

So where are you on Sexuary adventures this year? Have you brought more toys to your sanctuary? Have you used them for self satisfaction? Have you made a change for this month to bring more communication to your relationship? We still have over half the month left, so if you haven't do anything for Sexuary you still have time!!! Go for it, grab that strap on and ........

If you don't have a strap on we highly recommend adding one to your collection!

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This entire blog is to talk about our experiences in Sexuary. This was a challenge by Christine Moers in her blog www.welcometomybrain.net. While we have gone to an extreme, the challenge could apply to all. Talk, communicate, and become more intimate with your partner during the following 28 days. If that means having sex 2 times instead of 1, then you win, if that means throwing some kink into a dull routine, you win, if that means that for the first time in 3 months you'll rub your hands over your partner while you're laying in bed, you win! It's not a contest (ok to some it might be, but really it's not), it's about better communications and physical contact with your partner.

Christine once told use "We're told sex is bad, sex is bad, sex is bad and then we get married and sex is ok, but we are never told how to get over the sex is bad part." AMEN Sex in a relationship is the most intimate wonderful gift we are given, so use it.

Jackie and Dane hope our trials and tribulations over the next month will help someone else explore their sexual desires and get closer with their partner this month.

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Jackie and Dane have been married for 9 years and continue to push their boundaries. Fetishes and swinging are all in store for us. Our blog at www.oursexuary.com is part of our journey. All this in the name of communication. But because of it our relationships are rock solid.