Make Him Smile!

1.Touch his arm. There are a lot of ways to subtly let a guy know you’re into him, like maintaining eye contact, playing with your hair and smiling a lot. But the only one that sends shivers down my spine is when a [the person] touches my arm during conversation. It always surprises me and it’s always great.

2. Send him a random text message in the middle of the day. OK, this might not be free depending on your cell phone plan, but it’s still a great value. Nothing breaks the monotony of a long workday like a flirty note from someone special, and unless his job is super-intense he’ll have plenty of time to daydream about you.

3. Ask him a question about something he knows a lot about. Newsflash: Guys like to show off for you. So if your dude could use an ego boost there’s nothing like letting him feel like an expert. Ask him about fishing, the 1983 Chicago White Sox or the mating habits of the Guyanese woodfinch—whatever he’s into. Just remember to nod a lot and look really interested.

4. Give him a very specific compliment. Telling a guy he’s funny, handsome or smart is always appreciated, but the really meaningful compliments are the ones that reveal how well you know him. Something like “I love the way your face scrunches up when you’re doing the crossword puzzle” or “You have the sexiest calves I’ve ever seen.”

5. Send him the diary entry you wrote after your first date (or write one now). One of the best things about having a [a special someone] is reminiscing about what you thought about each other in the beginning of your relationship. Reliving all of the uncertainty and anxiety is strangely exhilarating. I can’t think of a better anniversary present than a sanctioned peek into the diary of someone I care about.