Most Important Relationship Questions in a Romantic Relationship

The top questions in a romantic relationship tend to focus on the romance part of your relations, but that’s only part of the picture. I’ve tried to include a varied list of common relationship questions, so readers can focus on the part of their “romantic relationship” which is most important to know at the moment.

If you’re in a new relationship, the top questions couples will ask tend to focus on romance and dating. You’ll find these new relationship questions under the “romance questions” section. If the two of you have been dating for a little while or have begun to have sex, I’ve included a “sex questions” section, so you’ll have some idea about where your sex partner is coming from. I’ve similarly added several essential marriage questions, because a couple needs to know what it’s getting into before the wedding day arrives.

There are two general relationship questions lists, too, with my “personality quiz” and “relationship questions about the past”. When you get your new boyfriend or girlfriend to answer these relationship questions, you’ll learn about their personal traits and attitudes and their past relationship history.

So let’s begin with the start of any couple’s time together: the romance phase of the relationship.

Romance Questions

When you begin a new relationship, the two of you are probably looking for fun nights out and a little bit of companionship. These romance relationship questions don’t go too deep into a person’s business, but gets their preferences and attitudes towards romance. Most of these questions can be asked in a restaurant setting and might allow the two of you to discuss romantic love and even agree on a few topics.

What is your idea of a romantic date?

What is the difference between “”moving love” and sex?

Can a person be “in too deep” or “too much in love”?

Can a couple be in love too much?

Should a couple have a lot in common, or is “attraction” enough?

Do you believe in love at first site? What about “friends” becoming lovers?

Should a couple also be friends?

Personality Quiz

Some people will find these questions more important to know than others. If you’re not overly concerned about religion or politics, then you might let your partner bring it up. If it’s essential for your partner to have the same faith as you, then you might ask about their religious views right away. Or if you find a guy who’s always ranting about politics or “the system” to be a real turn-off, then you should know that right away. You could be wasting your time and his or hers.

Also, if you don’t want to date a jealous or controlling type, ask them about those subjects and see their reaction. Most guys or girls will deny being jealous or controlling, but you might learn something about their attitudes in the way they answer the question. And while it might seem hurtful to ask about someone’s depression, but if you don’t want to date someone with a lot of “issues”, it might do some good to ask — especially if you get the vibe that something is going on in their mind. If you want to continue dating that person, you need to know their needs and what they’re coping with.

Do you have religious beliefs? How strong are your beliefs?

On a side note, if you are interested in dating a particular religion (no-offense) then you might be interested in looking into jdate.com for Jewish, Match.com for Christians, same site for Lesbians, and same site for gays – where you can find a serious and strong relationship partner.

How political are you?

Do you consider yourself the jealous type??

Do you insist on having your “own way”?

Do you ever get depressed?

Sex Questions

Alright, now we get to the fun part. Once the two of you have sex, it shouldn’t be much of an intrusion to begin asking these questions. If the two of you are sexually compatible, then it means you can have more fun sooner. If you aren’t, you can discuss your preferences and try to come to an understanding about your sex life.

You might find the two of you just don’t have the same sexual needs. That’s a perfectly legitimate reason for otherwise mutually attracted people to part ways. Either way, it’s important that couples communicate about sex, because it fosters a bond and encourages openness in other aspects of your romantic relationship.

Marriage Quiz

If the two of you start talking marriage, here are top questions in a serious romantic relationship. Ask your partner about these questions before you walk down the isle, because they are certain to come up later. There’s nothing more heartbreaking for someone to want children, but end up marrying a spouse who doesn’t them around.

Also, you need to know if your partner has money troubles. If so, you can expect a lifetime of troubled finances and angst about their spending habits. And if the two of you cannot agree about how to raise children and who does what around the house, you need to know that before you start making plans to build a home life together.

Questions About the Past

A person’s past is a guide to the future. As the saying goes, character is destiny. Also, if you find someone with a past of cheating, you might expect there’s a decent chance that person will cheat again. And if your new boyfriend or girlfriend needs constant proximity or constant affirmation in a romantic relationship, it can raise the tension level significantly. Some people like the high-maintenance relationship, but most prefer a romantic relationship of mutual trust and mutual respect.

You’ll also get an idea of potential problems in your relationship. Many people fall into “relationship patterns”, especially if they have personality issues that make them neurotic or self-destructive. Learning what has gone on before will put you on the guard in case it happens again.

Have you ever been in a co-dependent relationship?

How did you end your last relationship?

What went wrong with your last relationship?

Have you ever cheated on someone? Have you ever been cheated on?

Have you ever been in a romantic relationship where you bickered a lot?