Oh I know that feeling! 2 weeks ago I was forced to spend 4 hours shopping with the size 10/12 5 foot mother in law. Next to her I felt like a huge elephant as I kept seeing my reflection in the shop windows!! She wanted to buy me a gift and kept picking things up asking if I liked it. Everything was either too short to cover the bulges or too clingy etc. At one point I managed to lose her to M&S, but when she came out she said there were lots of 'bigger things' that I should have looked at. Que my slowly dieing inside.
After 4 hours I had lost the will to live and thankfully she was persuaded to go home.
We were due to take her out again last Sunday and I stressed all the night before wondering if I should fake illness and not go. Fortunately she changed her mind!!
Take heart that I have lost enough after my first week to be able to see the difference.
Don't give up, you've made the decision to do this and you know how quickly the weight will drop off.
Big hugs to you x

Sounds to me like you are a bit depressed sandy, and in fact may have been for a while which could be one reason why you have piled weight on - have you been comfort eating? *wags finger*

Try and get a bit of perspective on it. When you are out and about do you spend all your time looking at other women and thinking "oh she's fat" "mm wish I had a figure like that"? Course you don't! So nobody will be looking at you and thinking disparaging thoughts either, which means there is no reason for you to hide away indoors.

Nobody is judging you except you, and I think you're being too hard on yourself. Being overweight does not = being worthless!

Yes you are not comfortable with the current "you" but you have taken the plunge to do something about it so rathert han thinking of it as something to hide just see it as a temporary blip that will soon be over.

Big or small you are still a valid, worthwhile person and you deserve to be out in the sunshine, not hidden away in the gloom.

If you have to move a bit slower for a short while so be it, but keep moving cos it's all going to help. And taalk to someone, a friend, a partner, even your doctor, or us, about how you are feeling. You need to let those negative feelings out and make room for some positive ones!

Aw Sandy...hope you're ok. I can empathise - I hear so many similarities. Many times I've saw some fantastic looking dress but am left shattered when I try it on and catch sight of myself! For me personally, when that happened it would mean reaching for a 'comfort', hence my weight gain. I'd also class myself as a closet eater - never happier when my OH and kids are in bed and I can raid the cupboards!

It's a struggle, and I can't confess to being as great as the other forum members at following this diet faithfully, but I know I want to, and will do, and exante will help me get to goal!

You can do this babe...one day at a time...and before you know it, you'll be out shopping with the mother in law feeling fantastic about yourself desperate to catch a glimpse of the new you in the mirror! Stick in...Gx

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