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I can go for a while, but if it feels like it's taking him a long time, I usually combine using my hand too for a while, then go back to it. I like being able to pleasure the guy I am seeing to an orgasm. Time goes by really slow for us down there, but 10 minutes is not too long - nor is 15-20. But let her change it up, pull her on top of you for a bit if you feel like it's still gonna be a while, then send her back down there when you feel closer to coming.

I also wonder if guys sometimes feel bad expecting a blow job and taking a while so they want to come soon so we don't cool off or tire out and putting that pressure on themselves makes it harder to come.

Just relax and don't make yourself try to come quick. Just enjoy it - she is doing it to make you happy and give you pleasure, so just enjoy it. The goal is pleasure and connection... orgasm is sometimes a wonderful result of that, but doesn't always have to be the main goal.

Also, I agree with one of the commenters below... sitting up and being able to see her will help you come a lot faster!

What Girls Said 8

My guy often takes 10+ minutes and I love it. It lets me try all kinds of moves and helps me find out exactly what he likes. The get him off ASAP, I combine a really strong suck with a gentle flicking of the tip of his shaft. Definitely speeds things up. If you don't feel like telling your girl how to give a job, try holding her head and getting into to the in/out action. Make sure you are sitting up and watching her suck on you, my hubby says that watching me do the deed is almost as hot as the act itself. If all else fails, just enjoy!

well when I would go down on my ex he would take soo long and I couldn't finish him up and he had to finish his-self up...but this one guy that I gave a bj to came within like under 5 mins he came quick. :P lol.

Its actually very common that guys find it difficult to come from a bj. I presume the sensation is different from sex (I'm a chick obviously).

Plus its really difficult for a chick to keep the momentum going when giving a BJ and be constant. I see BJ's more as a tease and see it as part of foreplay anyway and don't expect or get upset if my guy doesn't cum.

That's how I see it I mean if your guy cums your probably all turned on but you haven't gotten any attention yet and know he's not interested in sex. I mean I love eating a girl out but if after that she was like I'm done lets go to bed I don't need for you to stick it just lick it, I don't think I'd give her oral anymore. I don't think a girl would give oral long if that was her whole sex life either

Guys can really differ on the amount of time need to get off. Probably not anything wrong with you, just your a guy that takes longer. Maybe she could start off with a hand a job and when your close she could finish you with a blow job. But please don't expect her to do a forever long blow job. I have been there and it really sucks. But as encouragement, you will have no problem with this in sex... its better to be a guy that takes longer to get off when having sex lol

Yea. but its become a problem. she always feel bad because she can't make me come even during sex.

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Well if your having that much of a problem coming, it wouldn't hurt to talk to a doctor and see if there is anything that can be done about it. I totally get the feeling of not being about to get some one to cum... it happens some times especially if you don't wait long enough to go again. But maybe try talking to her and reassuring her that its not its not her fault.

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ugh I hate guys that takes forever... we uselly get tierd and borde from them..

First off relax about it if you pressure yourself to come you wont. Second if your really just relaxed and enjoying the experience and it takes over ten minutes than you will last longer for other activities.

I have had a one hour strait bj and it was amazing one of those experiences you never forget. but I voiced my pleasure and told her things I like didn't like complimented etc. She knew she was giving me pleasure! This is crucial if you talk longer like me you need her to know that she is giving you pleasure every second so that she can enjoy it as well.

depends on the day for me. Sometimes, only like 10 mins during a blowjob. other times, I have the unfortunate problem of getting it up but can't finish, even during sex. All depends on how much or whether or not I have alcohol in my system. The problem is, if I can't come in the first few mins, I honestly start to worry about it, cause I don't want her to think she's not doing a good job, almost to a point of anxiety, which makes it impossible to cum.

Try drinking a lot of water during the day, and don't jack off for a day or 2, and it will go faster. Maybe have her change her technique, just tell her in a nice way (don't be like, you are bad or anything).

it isn't based on time but on sensation of a particular sort. you could be about to come and then she changes the pace a little and then it is lost. the same applies to women. we aren't machines that take a predestined amount of time. my girl has given me head for over half an hour. typically I don't come from that, I pull out at one point and have her suck my balls while I jerk off until I come and let her pick if she wants it on her face, chest, or in her mouth. I have probably never came purely from the blowjob itself, the stimulation is never quite right, just brings you close. one girl here said finish with the BJ but that is wrong, you need to start with BJ and finish with sex or your hand.

Half the time I can't come when my girls giving me head. A lot of the time it depends on the mood and also the skill of the girl. If I'm getting head and I want to cum, we have sex. That solves that problem every time. If you guys aren't at the level where your having sex yet. Once you notice your girl get tired get yourself off and if she's into it put it on her face or something. Its way easier for me to get myself off that a girl by any means. Unless it involves her vagina.

That's a good strategy. I'm a post a question like " Damn what's up my girlfriend is like angry at me because I have too big of a penis, I'm too sexy, I last all night, I got too much loot and everyone thinks I'm cool. What's the deal?"

there's nothing wrong with you man. Iv been with 17 girls (17th last night actually) and only 2 of them have made me come with head. I respond to fast, firm stimulation, so a slow blowie might be nice but ain't gonna make me squirt, I expect you are the same

Takes me significantly longer to get off via a blowjob than from PIV sex, and way longer than masturbating. I think it has something to do with me being less comfortable with just letting loose when it's her head down there. Like I'm always concerned about hurting her, which is distracting.

One thing that helps get me off is when she lightly traces her fingertips across my scrotum. Don't know about anybody else, but that totally works for me!

For me; when getting a blowjob it takes me (oh, maybe) about 30-45 min. The more she's into it, the quicker I'll get there. With a handjob, it's takes me about 30-45 min also. unless I'm just jacking myself, then I can do myself in about 10 min or so. Now, full intercourse is another animal: if you subtract the fore-play (which it's so much better with the fore-play) then we can go for straight out humping for a good 20 to 30 min (that's pure, full fledged penis into vagina/ in-out in-out intercourse). But we usually go for about 45min or 1hr of fore-play first!