Salt Lake City Utah, is probably the easiest in/out with cheap lodging option. You can stay in the city and get to most resorts in under 45 minutes (even under 30 minutes). Lot's of cheap lodging options in town. At the resort the prices go up. The bus system will get you to most spots too.

I like to keep it simple and I love getting away for the weekend to snowboard. If you want to keep it cheap and still beautiful I would go to Wolf Creek Colorado. If I can make it a weekend driving trip from Houston Texas I am sure it is feasable from oklahoma. You can't stay on the mountain, it is more of a local place. Your options for lodging are Pagosa Springs or South Fork. Go for South Fork for sure. Pagosa springs has more night life, but the pass to the mountain is often closed. I hope you get a chance to try it!

Wolf Creek is great. If you are flying the closest place to fly into is going to be Durango. Judging by the OP's post, that is what he plans to do. Durango is on the Pagosa side of the pass and about 90 minutes from Wolf Creek. It does have cheap lift tickets and inexpensive lodging can be found on either side of the Pass. The Pagosa Springs side does close more often than the South Fork side, but it's not that often and is rarely for more than a day. I generally stay in Pagosa everytime I go down there and have yet to get skunked. It can happen though.