I don't really get what the problem is...
she gave you a shirt she didn't want.
you don't want it either.
Are you seeing more into this than maybe than you really need to?
I'm just sayin'....

Originally Posted by yagottaloveyacurls

Well, not only do I not want it but it should have been obvious to her that I wouldn't be able to wear it. Rather than make the trip to a Goodwill or Salvation Army where the shirt could have been put to good use she pawned it off on me because I happened to be around. It's not really a big problem. I said thank you but expressed that I would not be able to use the shirt. It's not a big problem, I just don't really understand why she ever thought I could have possibly used the shirt. I wouldn't even care so much were this not the second time this has happened.

This type of thing has kind of happened to me in reverse. I'm not really fat, I'm more "pleasantly plump", like around a size 12. I need to lose, say, 15 pounds or so. Anyway, most of my friends are much thinner than I am, but they genuinely don't seem to realize it. I was talking the other day about how I needed a formal dress for a dance coming up, and my friend, who's probably about a size 6, offered to lend me an old one she thought would look nice. I wasn't sure if she was making fun of me or something, but it didn't seem like she realized there was no way her dress would fit me. I just politely declined. Maybe, since my weight looks more normal on my frame, she just didn't realize that I'm several sizes larger than her.

"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us."
-Marianne Williamson

This type of thing has kind of happened to me in reverse. I'm not really fat, I'm more "pleasantly plump", like around a size 12. I need to lose, say, 15 pounds or so. Anyway, most of my friends are much thinner than I am, but they genuinely don't seem to realize it. I was talking the other day about how I needed a formal dress for a dance coming up, and my friend, who's probably about a size 6, offered to lend me an old one she thought would look nice. I wasn't sure if she was making fun of me or something, but it didn't seem like she realized there was no way her dress would fit me. I just politely declined. Maybe, since my weight looks more normal on my frame, she just didn't realize that I'm several sizes larger than her.

Originally Posted by katethegreat389

I doubt she was trying to make fun of you. Maybe she thought it was like a compliment or something, or maybe she feels like she's bigger than she is or that you look smaller than you are.

I don't know, sometimes it's hard to gauge somebody's size just by looking at them so maybe that part can slide just a bit. But not washing something before giving it away? Ew. That's weird, and icky. Even if you ARE good friends.

I don't know, sometimes it's hard to gauge somebody's size just by looking at them so maybe that part can slide just a bit. But not washing something before giving it away? Ew. That's weird, and icky. Even if you ARE good friends.

Originally Posted by utopiastars

See, the thing is she has asked me a couple of times what size I wear. Even when she guesses she'll say "You wear a 6 or 8, right?" Granted that's a little bigger than what I wear, but it's a ways off from 16. I hope she did wash the shirt and it, like, picked up scents from her room or something.