@lolita39: Ugh. One family just said oh that days not convenient for us. Umm neither of them work and its at least 3 months heads up! Another family rsvpd yes then said oh we invited friends over so we’ll have guests in town we can’t come unless we can bring our guests… Ppl I’ve never even met? I don’t think so! Goodness I got alotta dumb reasons from my side of the family but oh well!

@MrsRichard: DId you pick a holiday or something?! They could have at least come up with a better excuse. Not convenient is pretty harsh! lol

@loving_life: lol, it sounds like you have some pretty interesting ones! I also got a “I don’t know if I can make it with the dental work I’m getting done” … you got a root canal three weeks ago. My wedding isn’t for 46 more days…annnd you’re my uncle… But do what you gotta do buddy.

I personally don’t think people need an “excuse.” Saying no should be enough and I hate when I get pressed for further details. At that point, I will tell the truth I was trying to shield them from: I just don’t want to, I have something better to do, or I don’t want to spend the extra money right now.

Brides always get so upset when they realize that their wedding is only important to them (and their groom). People will continue to live their lives and do whatever they want to do. They are not obligated to attend any social function and they can spend their money wherever they see fit – even if you think their excuse is stupid.

My FIL’s side isn’t coming. We’re not sure the real reason but his cousin (who is in her late 40’s) and her fam isn’t coming with no real excuse and we think that’s why her mom isn’t coming. FIL is pissed as well as SO and I being hurt.

One of my oldest and closest friends declined coming to our destination wedding because “She wanted to buy a new bike”…. Yeah… 15 years of friendship and I loose out to a bike. Oh well – her loss not mine.

One of my friends RSVP’d yes and then no-showed. He said he had an anxiety attack. I have known this guy for 6 years- he has never had an anxiety attack before or since.

Another no-show said he ended up not coming because he didn’t have a job and smoked weed and didn’t want to face my parents if they asked what he has been up to. Seriously? It isn’t like my parents are going to whip out a drug test at my wedding PLUS YOU HAD A BABY, just show off some pictures and no one will care about your job status.

I’ve had one girl say she might not be able to make it because my wedding falls on her boyfriend’s birthday, and I have another friend getting knee surgery near-ish to the wedding, and she’s not sure if she’s going to be stitched up or not – might need to let the wound drain. Gross and way too much TMI, but it is what it is.

However, this takes the cake. When I was collecting addresses for my invites, I emailed two of my friends – they’d both moved around a bit and I didn’t have their current addresses. It took a couple of methods of communication to get to them, and once I did one friend said that the two of them would not feel comfortable attending my wedding because I insisted on inviting another friend of mine, whom they didn’t like (differing life and religious views). They had both assumed that I had chosen the other friend over them because I didn’t want to get involved in their squabbles.

While the fact that they won’t even consider coming to my wedding (I had even asked one of these girls to be a bridesmaid when I got engaged – I guess she forgot), I’m so glad I’m not going to have to deal with any stupid high school drama at my wedding. Now, hopefully the family drama will calm down before then.