As a mom, the rundown of your day’s activities can make you feel so run down you want to scream. When I can’t scream, I write, laugh, and drink plenty of coffee!

Finding the “Mommying”/Writing/Blogging Balance

When people ask what I do my immediate response is, “I stay home with my kids.” But, besides wearing all the hats that being a stay-at-home mom requires, I also have more on my plate…blogging and writing. As a freelance writer, I take on as many decent writing assignments that I can find and am constantly look for the next interesting opportunity. Anyone out there who is a freelance writer knows how time consuming this is on its own. Try adding two kids to the mix and it can be downright impossible some days. There are days when I think working like a “normal person” would be easier for everyone involved. Then I remember all the things my kids and I can do because I stay home. This usually keeps me grounded. That, and my writing.

So, getting back to the writing. How do you become a successful blogger/writer while staying home with the kids? Well, if I had the perfect recipe, I would definitely share it with you! I don’t. What I do have are some answers that can make it work and make it rewarding while making you some cash in the process. After more than three years at this thing, I’ve come up with strategies and ways of getting it done. Check them out:

1. The older the kids, the better. I can tell you it helps immensely that my kids are older now…ages 3 and 5. No more bottles or diapers. No more picking things off the floor and eating them. No more trying to climb every piece of furniture in the house. No more midnight feedings, which means more sleep. Yes, they still need your attention, but you don’t need to have eyes in back of your head. So, if you can get them to play independently for thirty minutes or so, you can get some work done. I tell my girls that I need a little bit of time to write and that means quiet time. This means no screaming or fighting. If they’re good, then we play a game or do an activity together when I’m done. Eight times out of ten this works! While I may not finish something I’m working on, the time I do get is better than nothing.

2. Write while they sleep. Although it’s great that my kids are older, it also means no more naptime. Naptimes were great to get things done, but not anymore. That means I wait until the kids are in bed. While I would love to veg out in front of the TV and get my Adam Levine fix on The Voice, there are many nights that that can’t happen if I want or need to get things done. Once the kids are sleeping, the second part of my day begins…blogging, writing, answering e-mails, etc. This is usually done till around 10:30. That’s when I get cozy in front of the TV and catch up on all my shows on DVR…that is until I fall asleep.

3. Set a schedule. I used to just write whenever I had some free time. If I had an assignment I would stay awake so I could get it done. That didn’t work. I was tired, cranky, and not a very nice mommy. So, I decided to buy a planner and map out what writing I wanted and needed to get done for the week. Seeing it on paper and designated to a day makes it easier and makes me feel more accomplished.

4. Ask for help. While it’s nice to be able to spend so much time with your kids, sometimes you need to ask for help…even when you don’t have a typical job. If you’re lucky enough to have a family member or a trusted babysitter, designate one afternoon or day a week when they will watch your child so you can get your work done uninterrupted. I did this more than a year ago and it has helped immensely. My kids know every Wednesday is Grandma day and Mommy’s writing day.

5. Put away the phone. This goes for “mommying” and writing. It’s one I still struggle with every day. For some reason, my phone has some weird hold over me…like if I don’t check me email, Facebook, or Twitter every hour or less I will miss something earth shattering. This obsession can be a major distraction while you’re writing. It’s also a big no-no when you are trying to spend time with your kids. I try to check it only a few times a day, but it’s so hard! I kinda wish I never got a smartphone. I never went online as much when it was just my laptop!

The main obstacle to writing and staying home with the kids is feeling like you are ignoring your kids while you’re trying to get your work done. You don’t want to plop them in front of a screen while you’re in front of yours. You need to find a balance that keeps the kids feeling like a priority and you feeling like you are getting your stuff done too. It’s definitely a work in progress!

If you work from home doing something else or are a blogger/writer, what do you do to strike a balance?

I, like you, am a stay-at home mom trying to blog/write (finishing up a novel). It’s hard, I definitely agree with that, and your advice about setting “work” hours have worked wonders for me as well. I used to do what you did and just write during my free time. That resulted in an immediate surge in energy, followed by a very long drawn out process of burning out. Now I know to be kind to myself, especially when it comes to “work” Because if I falter with that, then my “mommying” also goes by the wayside. Thank you so much for sharing this! It’s refreshing to know I’m not the only one that’s still searching and attempting some balance in staying and working from home.

I definitely have been experiencing difficulty on how to manage my time with blogging. I need to set a schedule but I be so scare that I am going to miss something if I chose to not go on it or social media. You got me really thinking about setting a schedule. Thanks so much for sharing.

Hi, what a wonderful post with great ideas! I love the idea of scheduling time to write. I haven’t found the balance yet and it seems either my writing doesn’t get done or my house is falling apart, so scheduling time to write is a great idea! Thank you for the great information! I’m visiting from the SHINE Blog Hop and it’s great to “meet” you 🙂

I have no answers but it is very hard to find a balance. My boys are older and in school and I still struggle to find that balance to maintain the house and write and give them time when they return home. Sometimes setting a timer for myself helps and sometimes it doesn’t help much at all.

I work at home as well and am so glad I didn’t have to start doing that until about five years ago. Even then with a five-year-old who could amuse herself, I felt bad when I couldn’t pay attention to her.

Kristina these are really great tips. I’ve been blogging since November of last year so I’m still pretty new at this. I am all over the place and feel overwhelmed most days. I’m taking your advice and I’m going to set a schedule to write. The hardest thing for me is staying off social media and prioritizing what I need to do each day. I would love to hear more about your thoughts on freelance writing i.e. where to look for opportunities and how to make yourself more marketable as a freelance writer. I think it would make a great blog post! Thanks for sharing these tips,

Glad you enjoyed it and thanks for the blogging idea. I can tell you one of the best things you can do is join groups and just do web searches for opportunities. You’ll be surprised at what you’ll find!

It gets better when they are in school. Mine are 7 and 12 now, and while they still want me to wait on them almost constantly while they’re at home, I try to make the most of my time while they’re at school.

Oh my. My phone is my laptop, haha! I do all my blogging on my phone, takes photos for my blog, edit, & everything else with it. I don’t have internet service so this is how I roll. It’s really hard to not get distracted when my phone if sending off notifications! I work full time & my children are grown, but it’s still tough to balance everything, working on that still!