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Today, a lot of families are scattered all over the world and due to sheer logistics, distances do not always foster closeness. Inevitably, a certain formality creeps in sometimes. We get used to living without proximity with them.

But, the flip side is true also, and ties are fostered in many ways. True, that little change in personality can be a revelation when you meet family members after sometime. But by the same token, changes in us must also be embraced and adapted too. We often forget that this IS two way traffic.

Nevertheless, generally, it has become easier to keep connected today, what with Skype, Face Time, whatsapp calls etc. But, as they say, if hearts don’t connect, all this connectivity is only designed towards wanting to keep in touch from afar at a comfortable distance.

We know that we live in a world of dualities. So, some good , some not so good. Then, we learn that we should not look at the not so good as not so good. Everything is to be accepted . Change what you can and let go of what can’t be.

And then starts our work. On ourselves, folks. Not on others.

Likes waves hitting the shore and thrashing anything that is within it, we get carried by wave upon wave through the ocean of life. Not being uplifted, now hurled, now thrashed. But moving with the wave nonetheless. And moving sometimes alone and sometimes being thrown together with some souls whose journey is with us at that moment. But definitely “alone” as the persistent state.

Wisdom : learning to enjoy and making the most of the uplifted state. And trying to keep a balance when hurled and thrashed. To know that we will be uplifted again. And again and again if we lighten our burdens simultaneously….until, one day, we will learn how to ride the crest of the wave.

It is very logical that love has to be its own reward. Because many cannot recognize it and many do not know how to receive it. Many do not want it either because they don’t want the burden of having to return it. Believe it or not!

You know, you can’t give what you don’t have or don’t feel. Even if it is hard to accept, the fact is that each individual journey is a karmic one. If you have close previous karma, you will receive love from those souls. Need not be in the role of a family member from where it is naturally expected.

Once, an astrologer told a friend that the child she had miscarried was a soul who was out for karmic retribution. Subsequently, the same or similar soul was born to her. And she is constantly trying to heal herself and that soul. There was no escape.

So, karmic realities from other lives just have to be experienced and continuously healed. For, there is no blame anywhere. What goes around come around? If we don’t accept this, we can live a life of misery till our last day.

Of course, if all the people realize this, we can free ourselves from that karmic chain. But even if one person heals, that person can get free from karmic bondage.

To believe or not believe this, we need to analyze our relationships and bring in some wisdom thereafter, if our mission is to be happy. Otherwise, we continue with our inevitable cycle of cause and effect. Oscillating like a yoyo between misery and happiness based of the quality of the karmic fallout.

Attachment and peace are not compatible. Because attachment is bondage . And souls are freedom seeking.

It stands to reason that as long as I consider anything as “mine”, I will always think of something as “yours” , too. And the conflict of mine and yours takes away peace.

What IS mine ? Actually, nothing . Yes, I am holding onto the illusion that all I have is mine. The children are mine. The family is mine. The friends are mine. Etc. And then start the expectations as well.

We are actually caretakers. Nothing and no one belongs to us. The sooner we know this, the better life will be and the more we can deal with life with wisdom and a fair amount of detachment.

If we don’t detach with understanding, we will have to suffer and ultimately, be compelled to detach. So, Looked at from different angles , there IS no peace with attachment.

Isn’t it amazing, this zest for life and will to live? Despite lives ending around us and all kinds of ailments plaguing humanity, we still carry on. Philosophies of life emerge every day. Some listen. Some listen and practice. Some don’t listen. Some don’t want to know and are happy in their world. Seasons come and go. Wrinkles start to show, last on the face and limbs. Those on the mind are older but when they manifest outwardly, we begin to take notice.

We are humans. We will regress some, progress some, cry some, laugh some, and carry on; Living life with all that we have, good, bad and indifferent. Who is anyone to say what these mean anyway? Because they mean so many different things to so many different people that you get exhausted from trying to fathom and analyze. It’s like you roam all over the world and then finally, come back and rest only in your home.

Can you respect yourself if you have no commitment to anything and anyone in life? When you just drift along aimlessly? I always wonder about the psyche behind this. Can there be no ambition, no drive, and no cognizance of what others around you might be depending on you for?

We are quick to point this aspect in other people. A lack of commitment goes hand in hand with a lack of responsibility. And these are not useful or admirable traits.

Living within a family and society makes responsibility mandatory and so with people receiving a salary. The proportion of commitment in relation to salary was never the thought in earlier times. Today, the respect for employers is scant in many places, especially domestic staff. And this is not the case only here.

This is the world of today. Dealing with it is the only option. And avoiding stress at the same time. Stress is the biggest killer.

Getting to know someone up close and personal and getting to know that person through the eyes and experience of someone else are completely different pieces of knowledge. Often, we become judgmental with merely surface an impression which is not really fair. What we need to do is to spend time with someone one to one and then decide who they are or can be. You make an honest heart connection and ninety to one, they will show a side of them which is pleasant and even endearing. The question is, do we have the ability to extract the good side of people?