I want a satisfying career, good kids,
a home of our own, a sense of financial security,
intimacy, mutual respect, love, freedom to be me, and fun
together times. Sound like a close-to-ideal relationship?
In reality though, I may be finding
that "freedom to be me" to my SO means that
they drink as much as they want, or spend time out with
"other" friends, leaving me alone.
Or a "satisfying career"
translates into uprooting everyone with transfers, or
working long hours.
I feel frustrated when my partner's
sense of priorities doesn't match mine, and I end up
feeling more and more resentment over lost dreams and
hopes.
Are my priorities as clear as they
could be though? Do I ask my SO to spend less time at
work - but then talk hours later about how the bills seem
to keep piling up? Or do I tell them I want more
intimacy, and then spend the evening playing cards with
friends?
If I list what's most important to me,
likely I'll see that the things at the top of the list
are those money can't buy.

Just for Today
Today, I'll take some time and write
down my thoughts about what I want most in this
relationship. I'll look at how things lower on the list
take away from the more important things at times. If I
can't have it all, at least I can make better choices
that will help me get more of what I want most.
Yes, there is a Nirvanah; it is leading your sheep to a
green pasture, and in putting your child to sleep, and in
writing the last line of your poem. - Kahlil Gibran