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We watch movies of couples falling in love and growing old together. We tweet quotes about relationships, Tumblr gifs of “that scene” from The Notebook and always coo “I want what they have” when we see an older couple in the park holding hands like they’re still 14 years old. But what does it really take to make a relationship work?

As someone who is recently engaged, I wanted to know these couples’ secrets. We live in a world where millennial “love” is the instantaneous pleasure of Tinder. Where most of our parents or family members are divorced, separated, or hate each other from different floors of the house. And yet there are couples that still make it. There are couples that fight for their relationship every day. These are the couples that should inspire us.