Curriculum

This is the curriculum with the insights from all the Real Talks put into a logical structure. This page only contains pointers and requires more updates / is a work in progress. You can use this structure as a guideline to educate yourself to either solve personal problems or get better at understanding what problems other people might struggle with. It might help you to strengthen your logical framework.

All this will create a base level so you are able to learn new things faster, gain the most from new insights and make connections easier.

1st lvl Understand the more advanced basics

3rd perspective

With taking notes start looking at yourself as an observer

as if you were a scientist analyzing a test subject

detective observing his target

Not to care what others think about you

Power of Now, if you have a harder time grasping that concept

watching the thinker

example listening to music, a time of being in the present, no experience of self

worry and regret living in the past / future

Being present

first step in detachment, start seeing your own and the actions of others more objectively

Being in the present has to be practical/functional can’t be in the presence when you’re standing on a street and a car comes towards you / getting food is also practical else you die if you are just in the present

Language

How different people use different words

How people have different emotions / pictures for same words

Video Athene & Reese on Language and after the paragraph in real answers how do misunderstandings arise even though people might have the same opinion on something?

Difference between awareness and knowledge

Example with being blind

Say you are a blind person that gains sight for the first time

You have a concept of a bottle in your mind (knowledge)

but if someone just shows you a bottle for the first time you don't connect what you see to your intellectual concept

only by touching the bottle you connect your knowledge to the image of the bottle (awareness)

repetition and examples need for that

example CPU and hard drive, just on your hard drive you don't process it / use it

Seek first to understand / basics of truly listening

Try to focus fully on trying to understand the point that is brought across

Open mindedness

When experiencing difficulty make a note and observe your reaction to for example conflicting ideas

Read the paragraph in 7 habits of highly effective people on that part

Absolute truth

Watch video ABSOLUTE TRUTH

quantum mechanics

reality is subjective to the reference frame

example

sound is just distorted air, we only see a limited spectrum of light

two things separated in space always different experience time the light needs to travel

Watch part on ultimate podcast

After read part in real answers

there is no absolute certainty in anything, so seeing everything in probabilities is much more in line with reality, helps to be more open minded, detach from long held beliefs, it might hold you back in your personal development

Controversial concepts interpreted as a threatening thing which you need to protect yourself from nor-epinephrine amygdala hijack in extreme cases, but overall defensive stance less able to look at it objectively

Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die

Nothing is external

1. The matrix → Neo is the entire file → can’t cut out neo and delete all the rest → then neo wouldn’t exist

You only label yourself because of practical reasons survival

Space is also a practical concept to survive so is there even a real border/distance between you and the rest

Strong example (you listening to a podcast could also be seen as you are dreaming and that person is speaking to you in a dream so even when the person is created by you (within you) you draw a border between you and other persons within your dream it’s just a concept)

Listen ultimate podcast nothing is external and see if everything fits

Social conditioning Validation + approval -> how it comes about

How you grow up and learn as a kid with approval

basic emotional needs of a child (security, warmth)

Uncertainty relationship with parents ripples

uncertainty mirroring in other relationships vicious circle

position in the family influence on behavior / expectations

This approval can lead to validation seeking e.g when only reward for doing something specific that is expected

Living for the eyes of your parents / of others

getting de-motivated by others not being able to rely on yourself

Example of caring what other people think of you:

Imagine driving in a car and realizing you drive slower than normal because you left the hand-brakes on. If you value what other people think of you, you would be embarrassed by showing that you left the hand-brakes on, so instead give extra gas to still go the same speed. If you realize this in real life and being able to release the brakes can help a lot.

Trust -> Distrust

if we have gotten enough approval as children we develop a healthy self-trust, and this also affects how we trust others (if you don’t trust yourself it is much harder to put trust in a other person)

while a validation seeking person is more likely to have trust-issues (they try to keep up a certain image of themselves, because, they constantly try to show their value to the environment, they don’t trust that people will see their value on their own)

you can't expect trust if you treat others with distrust – they will more likely back-stab you self-fulfilling prophecy

Read the chapter in the book

The way you trust yourself and the image you have of other people affects your trust in them

If you take away the trust in others (or the bigger picture) you disconnect yourself from the larger purpose and others

That’s why some people have the feeling they lack purpose in life (they don’t care for anyone sometimes not even themselves)

Keep a healthy skepticism don’t become naive (keep a healthy balance)

Give the idea: by already forgiving someone for breaking your trust, even though that might never happen, it can be much easier and become less frightened to fully trust someone (RealTalk - Girls)

Ask yourself if you would trust your clone

Ultimate podcast If you look at someone else/talk to someone else, you always experience a certain lack of information (blind spots) because you can’t know a person fully and you fill this blind spots with yourself/your own experiences (your world view etc.) that’s why often it tells more if you have to interpret the behavior of a person with a very limited amount of information than about the person themselves

Serial killer example

If you are a serial killer and you invite someone into your house, you are likely to ponder the belief that he might also be a serial killer. If you are not a serial killer that thought would likely not even cross your mind.

Give people the benefit of the doubt

Self-esteem + self

how it comes about

The seed for self-esteem/self-love is planted when you are a child

If you have never developed a healthy self-trust lack in self-esteem (you didn’t experience that you have a value to your environment through to a lack of approval/validation) so you start to believe you a worthless/worth less than others

The other way around if people around you give you the constant feeling you have a high value for your environment/there is a high value in your actions you build a very strong self-esteem (if you don’t manage to keep realistic view on yourself this can relate in egocentric/cocky behavior)

how is it flawed

So what is the self?

clone example:

Imagine you would be cloned right now, there would be no difference between you and the clone. Even further, you might as well be the clone, since there is no difference betweem the "original" and the "clone".

Who/what am I? constantly changing neural activity

Breakdown of your own reward system / also link to the self

You identifying with your past/memories that’s where the dissonance comes from

what comes out of it

Low self-esteem rather relate to fear then to curiosity

My memories, experience then your siblings were more you than your baby you that couldn’t process these memories

Victim mindset validation seeking, but if you have enough validation you can totally drop it (don’t feel the need to prove yourself to others anymore) emotional foundation to build strong rational framework

Jonas symptoms of low self esteem

more sensitive to criticism

pessimistic outlook

Lack of self-esteem building up strong identity

how to overcome it

strengthen neural connections

So in company of other influences you don't take over their view

The best version you can be while working on things self validating mechanic

Your existence is enough to make you valuable

building value by helping others

Ego + identity

how it comes about

If you have a low self-esteem you try to gain value by building a strong identity (making your own story more fancy) and also a strong ego to protect yourself from the opinion of others (the reaction towards you have been mostly negative therefore you shield yourself from almost every other opinion about yourself – even if they would have value for you and also from the ones more in line with reality)

If you have experience mostly positive interactions with your social circle it’s easier to be open minded for other opinions – your ego doesn’t get active so much, you don’t develop the feeling you need to make your story fancier since your environment has shown you that you have a certain value

how is it flawed

Your story is not what you are at the moment it’s just a collection of memory - information

you aren’t what you think you are, you are your current action – people often excuse bad actions with “but that is not really what I am”

Clone

where does the you begin? Is a clone with all the same memory etc. you? Also the idea of being more grateful for the things you have/don’t take them for granted

what comes out of it

Feeling superior towards others even identity out of working on yourself

fake gun example → If I come with a gun and you start running away and be scared for your life → then say it’s a toy gun, suddenly all the fear etc is gone → belief system

example Zoo

Zoo example If you go to watch a lion at the zoo you’re not scared because you have a belief there is a glass wall that protects you → put someone from remote village that doesn’t even know glass → will start running

example Job

Nolan examples Job example Go to job → put something on the bank (digital information) → that’s what you work for 8h/day → why you do that → because of belief system If you’d go and after work they give you paper and you go like “I want money” If they give money to you then you go like “ok, thank you” → it’s a belief system → paper is useless → it’s the value you give it → the value you give to money or anything is a belief system → belief system defines almost everything you do in life

being a hypocrite (judging people for things you do yourself) it’s because 1. You can’t see yourself in a 3rd person perspective 2. You don’t understand that people are a result of their environment, most of them aren’t able to consciously influence their actions (everyone is in a different state of development, if you are on a higher state be happy you got the right stimuli at the right time doesn’t make sense to judge someone for something he can’t really influence himself)

putting people in a box not accurate with everchaning

labeling and taking what is helpful

you can learn from a person that has certain different views

Being understanding / neuroscience reference

Identity crisis

when you recognize that what you are doing is not giving you purpose sense of meaninglessness

how to overcome it

realizing it is not what you are

detaching yourself from your story

Watch Get Lucky A&R

Taking things for granted: you had so much RNG to be even born where you were born with access to internet, unlimited food etc.

Putting things in perspective paradigm shift

What you already have right now is much more valuable than what you could ever get

Trying to relate to others born with different RNG

example

If people from the west adopt a kid from a developing country the kid will very fast adopt & adjust to the new lifestyle and start taking things for granted.

→ same applies to you when you for example get used to drinking soda

→ becomes current state → get emotionally attached to it

→ It’s the bar that you set for yourself

→ it’s a psychological bar

→ that bar is important because it sets the bar for what you take for granted & what you appreciate in life

→ if you lower the bar and start seeing the world for what it is everything suddenly gets a lot more value

example

→ .Let’s say you’re at work and get a call family died because of fire in the house you go there → mistake your family is well you start hugging → stop taking it for granted → because you lowered that psychological bar → you (re)evaluate what you have

→ you can evaluate what you have all the time & allows you to be more happy

Watch about Detachment A&R

Most of the things you want – you actually don’t really want programmed by society/adds …

Detachment is a tool to look at your actions – and seeing things more objectively / unbiased (it is NOT stop caring about stuff)

Strengthening neural pathways

So in company of other influences you don't take over their view

Questions

Watch Athene and Reese on questions

The right question often already gives the answer

Most questions arise out of a flawed/questionable concept (is there an afterlife is there even time)

What happens after death

what is time

clone example death

Read real answers part

Question often plants the seed for our beliefs and by asking the right one we can see underlying motivation to even ask them

The answer to your question is less important than to find out why you are asking the question

Responsibility A&R

how it works

With growing up you gain more and more responsibility

If you lack awareness (ignorance) your responsibility is restricted just as much the more intelligent/aware you are the more you are responsible for your environment

Freedom you are very limited in your freedom anyway

It is a taboo to be confrontational about responsibility questioning people's comfort bubble

Book

Freedom doesn’t work without the concept of responsibility

mother child example

A mother is not free to do whatever she wants, she has the responsability to take care of the child.

Freedom often used as a shield against others peoples’ arguments

Again responsibility related to your level of awareness (revision here not needed I guess)

Ignorance often the cause of inaction no use to point fingers

what you can do

We are often way more skeptic about the behavior of others than our own use this skepticism against yourself to become a better version of yourself

Your behavior ripples to others, being consistent

Feel responsible and reflect on it, you yourself can have the impact, you are the only variable you have full influence on

The only reason you take the spot of victim is so you can blame the world, stay in your comfort bubble and don’t actually start to do something about it

Don’t want to do this example

I don’t wanna go to school I wanna play games → how you make a living?

→ have a plan of action if you don’t then better off sticking at doing the thing

→ have to figure it out

Read what do I genuinely want real answers

For understanding what we really want we have to understand what we are

This will also bring a clear moral compass without the need of ethnic/religion

asking yourself if you spend your time on things you genuinely value

to avoid dissonance -> distractions

Purpose

Evolution

Read or listen to sapiens, makes you question a lot of the current accepted things and you get insights about evolution,

Meaning of life, direction

Watch A&R meaning of life

There is a universal purpose that is evolving (moving forward, enhance technology, science to understand ourselves/the universe)

legacy

Compare it to your mom taking care of you

She doesn’t care about her legacy

She does what she has to do

Takes care of you

… comparison to what happens after death

don't remember the person just ideas

Listen to the ultimate podcast part

No absolute truth so best answer you can get is a statistical one So the moment you let go of absolute truth the answer to what’s purpose becomes almost irrelevant think more practical

If you take yourself out of the equation – there wouldn’t even be the question is there purpose

Selflessness

listen to the ultimate podcast

Truly listening is fully emerging in the other persons world, seeing the world from the other persons eyes

Growth of others is your own growth if you are selfless

example final fantasy playing as a group of characters

Are our actions insignificant?

Book

Important here even inaction is an action in some way

Every action ripples through society

Overpopulation myth

Everyone can have a relatively big impact

changing the world begins with you

example you can save lives by donating sharing ideas etc.

example create the belief that you are able to change something

example my life can be worth more lives by saving other people and it is very easy / low cost donating

Choiceless awareness

Watch video Athene & Reese on choiceless awareness

Seeing yourself as part of a super organism (getting closer to making sense) you experience nearly no choice you do what makes sense, bring this organism further

You don’t do what you prefer, you do what you have to do (makes sense)

A lot of our modern days’ frustration comes out of the feeling we have this wide range of choices (freedom/choice glorification)

If you do stuff not because you want to but because you feel like it’s the most rational thing/you have to much more success (Athene world records) if you experience choice, it reduces your productivity very much

Read practical application in real answers

Action (if you have similar choices) is better than inaction

All of us experience choice less awareness to some extend but we take those moments for granted

(mother have to care for her child, eating …)

Watch Hey Smart-Ass You ain’t so smart

Intellectual masturbation instead of really contributing to the world (intelligent people have an easy time to talk themselves out of their responsibility)

Many of the smart people stay in their comfort bubble their whole life because they don’t get challenged (at least not successfully) by their environment that is why placing you in an environment where you get intellectually challenged is so important (if you are in a place where you are the smartest guy that’s in most of the cases a bad thing)

Introduction of “become part of the solution otherwise you are part of the problem”

emaple of gun to head, don't want to do dishes / work out

2nd lvl Application of it

Rhetoric

Watch Athene and Reese on Rhetoric

High risk of being intellectual dominated by someone with really good rhetoric (if it isn’t the insight or argument rather the rhetoric itself that convinces you adopting flawed beliefs, so got to be aware of that)

Don’t use rhetoric as a shield to block other (helpful) ideas inhibit your own development

Memory + working memory

Often used to gain the moral high ground (upper hand)

Read the chapter of the book

Store thoughts as logical checkpoints, don’t store the information itself just the logic behind it

its not about what you say but how you say it

example: being more confident leads to people more easily believing what you say making it sound cool

Seeing reality for what it is

A&R on is your reality real

Seeing things for what they are – always try to apply your theories/views into your reality/daily life

example selfish person trouble becoming selfless because they would look for the catch

example selfish person help for nothing in return will seem odd and can’t understand

being in constant denial about reality

example when told facts you don’t immediately change

emotional

Just accepting reality will make you so much more productive, happier, easy to adapt to circumstances

the world is not black and white but shades of grey

example when building a house, when do the bricks become the house

Seeing things for what they are simple, don’t overcomplicate

Seeing all options

Book Seeing things for what they are

making compromises when faced with two imperfect options

working hard vs working effective

example working effective making 10 EUR / hour or 50

Being intelligent vs being smart

smart is the hardware

intelligent is how close you are to the best version of yourself

taking initiative

Result oriented vs outcome dependent

Don’t beat yourself up about the outcome (if you have taken everything into consideration you knew at this point) learn out of mistakes optimize results in the future

Watch video how to make a difference

Very important: even though you have to make compromises – doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try (I can’t keep a clean sheet anyway so why care at all?) be pragmatic

Don’t think in borders, don’t discriminate because of relative distance – we are all one species

Read part in real answers

Being result oriented is important to measure your efficiency

Result orientation contributes massively to mental stability

Evaluating your belief system all the time is important and necessary to direct yourself more in line with reality

Always think in solutions not in problems

think outside the box

Nothing is impossible

See the whole playing field and narrow down

deconstruct your problems and solve them step by step

The solution is just an idea

Circle of influence and concern

be part of the solution not the problem (ultimate podcast end)

Always blame yourself unless you can’t do anything about it than accept

Become the focal point of the problem

Most times you could have acted / talked differently and even influence other people, don’t blame others what could you have done?

You could have thought about this as well so it wouldn’t have happened

See people’s problems and make them your own

Financial independence

A&R on materialism Watch consumerism video from Athene

taking things for granetd / clone example

Chapter in the book

One important requirement is a clear mind – that will help you to overcome your impulsive nature (for example impulsive consumerism)

Don’t be emotional attached to outcome will help you a lot work on your mindset

Minimalism is the most effect way to save up money – even with a low paying job you can save up quite some money with this “attitude” (requires a certain amount of detachment from social conditioned consumerism)

Use networking – take the easy way. Already think about it while living with your parents- easiest time to save up money

How do you spend your money

How many hours work for purchases calculation

Surround yourself with good influences / ppl

People

avoid ppl that have a negative influence on you

family relationships

Relationship

Friendship

common goals, common ground

example when you go to school, what binds you is the school, after school most of these friendships dissolve

Environment

don’t go to the sweet section in the supermarket

Avoid doing things that drag you down as much as you can

Learn about social skills, watch the blueprint and take notes

Conditioning

Misconception to have a lower status than most “hot” girls

Misconception girls only like assholes – confidence ensured survival in the past

Misconception you have to trick girls into sex cause you yourself get much more out of it than she does

You have to pretend to be to cool guy even though you are a nerd everything can be cool/interesting if you are confident about it

Only go for the easy “catches” because you think getting rejected is a big deal/shameful

the rejection itself isn’t the bad thing it’s the rationalization out of it that for example we aren’t worthy of that person while it could have many other reasons why we got rejected

being in state

Be in the moment and outside your head

Being vs doing

putting yourself in a state of abundance

spamming girls on dating apps

when you are in state / confident you can do almost anything

micro behaviour

Anticipate that people will like you just for who you are

** Other main concepts out of blueprint?

How to have the biggest impact

Read chapter in the book

First put yourself in best position to do so (healthy habits revision)

Having the biggest impact has different kind of facets depending on your worldview (rising children and giving them more opportunities than you had, curing diseases, develop new technology as mentioned in A&R meaning of life - Purpose)

The more logical you go about achieving this purpose the higher your chances of success use all the information you have at that point to make the most likely choice

See mistakes/failure as an opportunity to gain new information learn out of them

Lead by example

Find likeminded people – the collective can always have a bigger impact than one person

Topics you can skip through if interested:

Politics

Start with watching the video on God & religion A&R

Athene and Reese on Racism

A&R on War

Read the chapter in the book

Vegetarism Video A&R

Can also read about aliens / singularity

Gaming / going pro

being on tilt, trying to explain in detail why

or taking distance

Conspiracy theories

Privacy

Don’t get too sidetracked by these topics they are interesting, don’t lose yourself in them

3rd lvl Making sense

What is making sense

watch the most important video ever made

here again you need the hardware first (healthy habits, a certain age at least 16), detachment, take distance from it (3rd person view on things) before you are even able to grasp on this insight

good revision of structure of brain and also introduction into emotions and how they appear (emotion reaction thinking backwards rationalization)

it’s not you that is a failure or who is worthless it’s just an emotional cocktail that makes you feel this way but the part of you who is aware of this emotions (the actual YOU/self) give you the ability to understand this and course correct your behavior

don’t beat yourself up for your emotions/don’t suppress them doesn’t make sense (if you do so you don’t understand the mechanics)

everything every thought arises out of an emotion

your body is a mirrors the emotions, so understanding emotions is also how you experience them physically

core value that is always applicable (everything makes sense, even though it might be contra productive now it made sense back in the days, so it has a logical origin by understanding this you can more easily course correct dysfunctional views/concepts/ideas)

by understanding the origin of stuff we can often get rid of the fear/its threatening image: toy gun example) you are able to get rid of most/all of the confusion with that core value with making sense all our fear can be translated into the drive to understand things

it optimizes your impact you can no longer procrastinate because it doesn’t make sense

gradual process, not black and white (neuroplasticity), also dependent on situation you are in

watch the ultimate podcast making sense

You have to connect concepts emotionally – just because you rationally want something it doesn’t bring you to applying it

All believes/preferences emerge sub consciously (emotions; example with girlfriend turning you upside down in a few weeks because you have a strong emotional connection) reason doesn’t define your actions

Observe your emotions through 3rd person necessary to grasp these things (otherwise you are trapped in your emotions)

critical thinking to strengthen your self-image and aligning more with true self

you don’t need experience to learn

debating yourself, being your own biggest sceptic

making sense is aligning your self image with your true self

Core values

Most important video

it is what makes you feel most save, what allows you to tackle fear

many core values we adopted throughout our lives are not in line with our more rational part main source for our dissonance

watch ultimate podcast on core value

your deepest motivation – why you go for things you do

try to find out for yourself what your core value is

meditate on it

see yourself from 3rd person view

Comfort:

connection to low confidence

Procrastination

Watch video A&R Procrastination

Start with small things, things that take little time

failing once doesn’t mean failure

example scientist have to make many experiments to learn something

Procrastination comes out of a lack of purpose

Trusting your future self too much

Have a long term plan where do you want to get? Then work towards achieving that as soon as possible

School you have to do it so might as well just take the most out of it

Read chapter in the book

Develop those healthy habits (you aren’t lazy you just feel like it – gun to the head example)

Unity of mind and body healthy lifestyle leads to more action and willpower (first steps are the hardest after that it only gets easier)

The way you label yourself isn’t the way you truly are better don’t even label yourself

Having problems try to find people in same situation to push each other (also in basics long term motivation no need to repeat here)

Procrastination/inaction leads to boredom

Fitting in:

Fitting in was crucial in primeval times ensured your survival (but it isn’t need anymore)

tribal fear of death - getting rejected by the group

Depression

Read the chapter in the book

Most people underestimate how conditioning and environment can mold you

There are different kinds of depression (some arise out of a chemical imbalance in the body) psychological and physiological origin therefore visiting a doctor and have a checkup can help in some cases

It’s a temporary not a permanent problem (for specific type)

Detaching yourself from your story makes it easier to understand people with depression (see things through their lens) the other way around if the person with depression sees out through a 3rd person view it’s also easier for them to take their problems into perspective

Don’t take things for granted (family member car accident – misunderstanding example), compare your problems to the problems of others (existential crises vs. not even having enough food to survive)

One of the best therapy is to put person a situation where it has to help others

doing something now, you can do a small thing the first step right now and gain a feeling of achievement

doing research

going for a short walk

celebrate small victories

Loneliness

Watch the video A&R Loneliness

Do you want yourself around you? No then why would others?

Often people feel lonely even though they have a good social circle

You can always find a common ground to connect with people after all we are all human

Truly listen, be interested in others makes others feel appreciated, makes it easier for you to feel truly connected/close to others

Most of time people become friends over a very limited connection (temporary as high school, playing game XY …) try to find people over a long term connection as improving the world – never gets old

Read the chapter in the book

We are social organisms the need to survive as a species evolved us to want social contact

Our society changes much faster than our biology – so even though we don’t depend on others so much anymore for survival we still experience loneliness if we lack social contact

Categorizing people leads to isolation lack of human complexity

Before finding good friends you have to know what it is that makes a good friend what is the connection you have

Social anxiety

Book

Mainly a result of lacking confidence best advice: fake it till you make it – people will treat you differently which will result in real confidence eventually (working out can also help)

Spotlight effect: people care as little about you as you care about them

Envy

from a place of feeling less worth when comparing to others

defining yourself by how others see you

Freedom

how it works

There is no freedom without responsibility

your freedom goes at the cost of other ppl freedom

example you are not free to kill people

example you are not free to take whatever you want

example mother child / no choice

example freedom of speech, you are not even free to say whatever you want responsibility to respect the “freedom” of others

emaple: I work hard for what I have

people in 3rd world work really hard as well laber on the field

With growing up you gain more and more responsibility

If you lack awareness (ignorance) your responsibility is restricted just as much the more intelligent/aware you are the more you are responsible for your environment

Freedom you are very limited in your freedom anyway

It is a taboo to be confrontational about responsibility questioning people's comfort bubble

Ignorance often the cause of inaction no use to point fingers

Book

Freedom doesn’t work without the concept of responsibility (mother child example)

Freedom often used as a shield against others peoples’ arguments

Again responsibility related to your level of awareness

Your behavior ripples to others, being consistent

behaving irresponsible as a parent

your children will take it over, free?

Traveling

more effective ways to spend money

link with freedom

Happiness / fun

Video A&R

First of all, it’s a pretty vague concept can have different interpretations

Happiness can’t/shouldn’t be a goal it’s more a side effect of purpose

Relates here to medical condition that prevent being happy (depression)

You can rewrite memories/emotions, get rid of unnecessary luggage

building a strong purpose and work for it will almost resolve the whole happiness problem

Book Happiness by Richard O Connor

side effect based on your current situation

stats about happiness

Book

Important to differ between pleasure and happiness (momentary joy vs overall long term fulfillment) find a healthy balance between pleasure and happiness, the older/mature you become the more it shifts towards happiness

Fixation on happiness creates an extra musician who is in disharmony to the rest of the orchestra

Knowledge

lack of direction

Right action

helping others might lack direction

something that comes out of making sense

Ethics:

morals from scientific understanding

right and wrong dependent on the situation and the information available

Relationship:

can channel a lot through partner

when partner leaves there is a big void

Put your partners’ emotions into words truly listening

Being understood resolves dissonance relief?

Jealousy

doesn’t make sense

pushes partner away more because unattractive

comes from a sense of low self worth

not giving trust while expecting trust

Family

good connection with your family

connection with safety

living for the eyes of your parents

can’t rely on yourself

Security:

Money

money offers something you can always trust

offers a sense of feeling secure

need to explore and define what it is specifically and what you actually need on an emotional level

comparing different uses of money, compare with lives saved

Worry

it doesn’t even make you better prepared for the thing you worry about and it also affects all the things negatively you do in between/while orrying (prevents you from feeling good while you could)