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How do you get through the rough times?

i open my eyes and look around me, outside of my situation. there's always someone who has it worse than i do. which means, its a matter of perspective. the sun always comes up, and it always goes down. whether you enjoy the heat of the day, or bask in the coolness of the evening, is all on you. only you can decide how to react to your situation.

I remind myself that things could always be worse. I think of the people that are dying from disease and would do anything to have a chance at a longer life. Or I think of the people who have lost their children, or those that can't even feed their children. I look around myself, see my beautiful child and I then realize that I have it sooooo good compared to some. In other words, I point out the good things in my life, and what truly matters.

I agree with dullscissors and lovingSAHM. Someone always has it worse than I do, no matter how bad something might suck for me. I try instead to focus on the good things in my life and am thankful that I am not in anyone else's shoes.

Day by day. It's something you both have to work at, with communication, and trust as well as your love. Try not to dwell on the little stuff, life's too short. When times got bad for us once I sat and thought, we have to start looking at the good qualities of each other and not just the bad things. 'Ive been married 47 yrs since we were 17, and we still argue, but we love each other very much, and it's that love that will carry you thru the hard times as well as the good.

When all else fails, turn to Jesus! He is the all mighty healer and can help you through ANY thing! I know, because my husband and I have went through the roughest parts of our lives and separated and all that junk. If it weren't for God doing a miracle in our lives there is no telling where we would be now...