The real Flame items are same kind of items like the Forces, Relaxes, Torsos etc, so he/she will send you the Flame item through item transfer.

Originally Posted by Gyakomo97

2) how could we do wear in Toribash?

Because the item is like any Blood, Gradient etc in your inventory, you have to activate it from your inventory to see it in game.

Originally Posted by Gyakomo97

3) but can I make a flame?

Yes, you can. Just press Ctrl + L in game to get to the Flame Forger.
Be warned, though: Flames cost a lot. And by a lot I mean A LOT.
A normal hand flame would cost 50k at the very least.
Good flames vary from 100k to 300k.