it's just a perception thing, teenagers think i'm really old and shit and are surprised im physically active and have endurance. 39 doesn't seem old to me. def. older than me but i'd never call that old.

somedaytoo saidSomeone just told me I look good for my age. I guess these young guys don't understand it's really a "Slam". Thanks kid!

It could be worse. When my BF was 39, your age, I was 51. He was (and is) a film & TV actor, his looks important to him, for which he's had plastic surgery, for his nose & eyes.

It wasn't uncommon for guys in gay bars to compliment us as being a good-looking, well-matched couple, and he'd always make the fatal mistake of asking them to guess his age. They guess him about right, but then without being invited, they'd offer an age for me that was younger than him!

He would be FURIOUS! And then he'd blame ME for it! I didn't do anything!

So count your blessings. Imagine at 39, rather than being told you "look good for your age" that instead you look older than a 51-year-old! As for me, I was blessed with young looks, thanks to my parents, that stayed with me until I was late 50s, just like them.

Today I look my age. It caught up with me very quickly, just as it did with them, just as I knew it would with me. But that's OK, I got a pass for a long time that many people never get, and so I can't complain. Nor should you. You look just mah-velous! (And if you know what comedian said that you're likely really as old as I am, dah-link!)

somedaytoo saidSomeone just told me I look good for my age. I guess these young guys don't understand it's really a "Slam". Thanks kid!

Actually I never use those words with others myself. But what I will say, when someone tells me their age and they truly don't look it, is:

"You're XX? Really? I would never have guessed it! You look much younger!"

Now if someone said that to you, would you still think they had slammed you? Because I mean it as a compliment, but if I'm being unintentionally insensitive, too, I need to know it, so that I stop saying it.