ISPConfig install gives another MYSQL couldnt be reached.

Followed the howto: Suse 10.3 perfect server guide and done exactly as described there.

Ive read through the threads about this installation problem but noone seems to be giving an awnser, people just say "nevermind its working now" , so here i sit and curse for that the solution isnt being revealed

Still i get whatever i try typing:
Please enter your MySQL server:localhost
The MySQL server you specified cannot be reached!
tried localhost,server,server.*****.homelinux.com,127.0.0.1,127.0.0.2,and the box current ip

didnt make the installer understand what either localhost, the box ip or anything.
the mysql server isnt to be found, even though i can login from all thoose names and ip's ive tried in the script like.
telnet localhost (or server (or the box ip)) 25
and
mysql -h localhost (or server (or the box ip)) -u root -p

thoose both work, why cant the script understand that

btw, i have apparmor disabled aswell, forgot to mention that earlier. cheers for trying to help me!

nope, my password contains just a-z and 0-9, but it isnt really the problem since i cant get passed the Connection to my mysql server, havent got so far as typing in username and password.
thanks again for helping.