Sexual Prizing

What I am about to share now is one of my own personal magic
bullets, and in my opinion the strongest attraction switch there is.
The concept of sexual prizing has gotten me so many lays these last
years that it has revolutionized my world. I came up with this concept
back in 2007, and it has basically rocked my world since then. Thanks
to this concept, my life for the past seven years has become better
than I have ever dreamed of.

In this post I will lay down the concept and also the history behind
it. Of course, this post will be an introduction, so keep in mind that
there is a lot more to say about this concept (which I probably will
discuss on future occasions).

If you ever wondered what was required to become perceived as a
lover (and many of you have asked me such a question), then consider this post a must-read for you.

When I started out in the art of seduction at fifteen (yes, I was
really that young), I, like most kids my age, went to high school. High
school years are rough years for everybody, but especially for those
who aren’t popular. It doesn’t matter whether you are the least popular
or not, it won’t make a difference, because in high school, only the
most popular guys gets all the girls (at least, that was what I
believed). The social systems of high schools are very hierarchical and
the most popular, i.e., the ones with the highest social status, are the winners.

The older we get, the less hierarchical our social systems get –
even though some elements remain (popular men are always attractive). I
really hope your social circle isn’t similar to
the one you had when you was fifteen.

I was not one of the most popular guys, and like most kids my age, I
wanted to get laid. Happily, I found this community, where normal men
could become ladies' men (with lots of hard work added, of course). So
I started reading a lot of different concepts. Back then there was a
lot of emphasis on social proof – on displaying
higher value in order to become more attractive.

All these concepts I was coming across were legit, yet, there were
just two problems with them:

First of all, they seemed to be more fitted for adults than
teens (who cares about how awesome you are when all that matters is how
popular you are at school?)

Nevertheless, they did
work and I started going up the social ranks at school. Men found me
cooler and girls a little bit more attractive. The only problem was, I
was not “the attractive man”, because I was still not one of the most
popular guys.

The Realization

Then one day I learned about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs in class:

Maslow’s
Hierarchy of Needs

Now we can question Maslow’s research all we want – yet, it got me thinking.

As you can see, on the hierarchy, physiological needs seem to be our
most crucial needs – the ones
we perceive as the most important for our survival.

This made me understand that sex is way more important for a girl than
social status. As you can see, such needs like social status come far
later than physiological needs such as sex.

Women Not Being Sexually Satisfied

Later, I also started figuring out that women do not have as much
sex as we would like to believe. They
don’t get laid
all that often. But even more important, the sex these girls
have with men tends not to be satisfying. I started reading surveys and
even asking women about their sexual experiences (and when you pull it
off, it’s actually a nice routine) and guess what – most women didn’t get any orgasms
during sex and some didn’t get any sexual satisfaction at all.

Women usually have bad sex
with men.

Women not being sexually satisfied, and sex being such a crucial
human need, got me thinking that being a man who could provide good sex
would make me a man in demand (a lover). So I immediately started
focusing less on becoming the coolest guy at school, which was my
original goal, stopped caring about social status, and instead focused
on becoming a good lover.

At the age of sixteen, I was in Spain during Christmas. Usually, I
stayed at a hotel with my family, and most of the time I managed to
make friends at the hotel and we would sneak out and buy booze and have
fun (miss those days!).

This next experience I will relate to you happened during that
Christmas holiday. I met this very sweet Danish girl. She was hot
indeed.

Being Sexual – Escalation

We ended up flirting. Things went pretty smoothly with her as the
logistics were really good, as I
was alone with her. She was there
with
her parents and so was I. She was a little bit lonely and bored, like
most teens during their first days on vacation. It was the evening and
we chatted.

As you by now know, I had already studied the art of
seduction for a year, so I was only decent at it. One thing I learned
to master fast (and which I recommend everyone get good at) was to
isolate and escalate. So I
managed to pull the girl to a park not too
far away from the hotel and escalated further.

We started kissing and I
was touching her whole body. It was getting hot, and after a while I
managed to touch her warm soft pussy. But as you know, most women will
pull your hand away once you touch their vagina for the first time.
They show a little bit of resistance. Sadly, at the time I didn’t know
much about resistance and didn’t persist. I definitely could have had
sex with her.

But at the end of the day, did my social status matter that much? I
believe not. However, did my discretion (isolation) and escalation
matter? Yes, it surely did.

Not Closing The Deal Fast Equals Friend Zone

And I was punished for not closing
the deal. Next day, the girl woke
up with buyer’s remorse, regretting
being so sexual with me the night
before. Girls become way more
comfortable with your presence,
especially sexually, after you have had sex with them.

Sadly, that was
not the case, yet she was being sexual with me, so all I had to face
was some serious anti-slut defence. Further, I didn’t display my lover
side and she automatically perceived me as not being a lover – a man
who isn’t all that sexually confident (a good lover would have led her,
faced her resistance, and slept with her
on the same night). What made
it even worse was that it turned out she had a boyfriend.

It sucked indeed, but it didn’t mean all that much to me. I still
saw potential in her. I knew already that pursuing her further wouldn’t
be a good decision (even though, I have to admit, I pursued her for
like two days…). I decided that she could be a good wingwoman to me.

We
planned on heading to clubs (in Spain, you can enter clubs at fifteen –
not legally, but it’s Spain! – and no, my parents did not allow me to
stay up all night!), and for all I knew she could come in handy. Well,
she did, but I was a little inexperienced with club game at that time,
so I didn’t get any lays while with her.

Being Sexual – The Next Level

Either way, while I was still hanging with this Danish chick, we
eventually met another Danish chick (who turned out to be a total
bitch, but that is another story). Both girls and I were drinking one
night. We had a cool chat even though I started disliking both of them.
I begun to dislike the girl I was originally into because I felt more
and more that she was going to waste my time, and the other one simply
didn’t like me (and neither did I like her).

I was considering leaving,
but I am glad I didn’t, because I was about
to learn the most precious
lesson of my life as a seducer.

As we sat down drinking near the pool at the hotel, the girls
started having their girl talk. They did not mind having me around –
for what bad could happen? We were on holiday and their dirty little
secrets would not reach their social circle. Also, as I was in the
friend zone, they would feel bad leaving me out of it.

So they started talking about sex. As we by now know, I was
originally a little attracted to one of these Danish girls, but I
started to slightly lose interest day by day as I started perceiving
her as a waste of time. However, this
turned around completely once she
started talking about sex with her other Danish friend. Yes,
talking
about sex might turn you on, but the way she talked about sex made me
all crazy about her again.

Basically, she started talking about what she liked in bed and what
she has done. Talking about things I hadn’t done sexually (yet) but
that I would love to try out, while also talking about things that I
have tried that I would love to do again. She for example talked about
how much she loved to deep throat and swallow the loads… or how she
loved hard sex… how she loved anal.

Many of these things made me so
curious about her, she seemed in my eyes to be a girl that would
satisfy me sexually, she was willing, open minded, dirty, and
experienced. I really wanted to win
her over again now – because she
communicated that she would be a candidate to give me amazing sex.
I
also felt that I deserved a part of the goodies and by winning her over
I would get it.

I just can’t describe how powerful this was. Not only did it make me
so horny, but it also made me chase her out of sexual frustration. I
felt that my sex life was terrible, and that she could make it awesome.
She communicated a certain sexual value, a value that I would like to
have a taste of.

Of course, as you guessed, I did not manage to lay her
and I was just wasting my time.

Friend Zoned? Next!

Fortunately for me, she left Spain before I did, which gave me a few
days
without her. During that time I met a girl from Belgium who turned out
to not only be more beautiful but also cooler than the Danish girl –
and she had no issues about having sex
with me. So in the end, the best
strategy when being friend zoned is to move on.

If the first girl
wouldn’t have left, I would have kept chasing her and I would never
have met this amazing girl from Belgium.

I left Spain and went home. Reflecting over what I had learned from
the Danish girl, and decided to use what I learned from her on other
women. Of course, I had to calibrate it to my audience – talking about
what women liked in bed, what I liked in bed (which on purpose usually
was something women also liked – like dominant sex) – sharing knowledge
about sex.

Now, my goal was to make women
desire me sexually by
making them perceive me as a good lover – a man who could really
satisfy their needs.

Just like what that Danish girl had done to me.

Resistance

I went to a party and tried it out. It did work, but it was more or
less a hit or miss scenario. It either worked very powerfully or not at
all. The reason that it sometimes didn’t work at all was because women
avoided the subjects I was trying to impose on the conversation, or
they would on purpose disagree with everything I said, stating that
they are not that type of girl.

Some even rejected me for being a pervert. On the bright side, when
it did work, it worked very well, and women were
giving me strong signs
of interest and started chasing.

Now keep in mind that I was sixteen
and that girls were really sexually insecure, yet at the same time very
sexually curious. Still, I believe the situation would be somewhat
similar in the adult world, just less polarized maybe with some small
subtle differences.

Then I realized that many of the rejections I received from a
girl were due to her
anti-slut defence, a theory I had been reading about for the past few
months. The theory basically stated that women have a defence system in
order to protect them from being labelled as sluts – as we know, women
are judged and socially sanctioned for being promiscuous in public.
Therefore, women will often act non-sexual – like a good girl – in
front
of men and their friends, because they do not want to be perceived as
sluts.

Isolation and Secrecy

Keeping that in mind, I started thinking further that isolation
might be key. If nobody knows what is up between a woman and me, then
her reputation won’t be at risk.

So the first key was low-keyness. And
the fact is, it did help! I went to a party a few weeks later and met
this girl, and started talking about sex, but instead of doing it in
the living room, I asked her out for a smoke (yes smoking at sixteen is
bad, I know) and only talked about sex when we were alone. Once someone
else appeared I stopped.

After she was getting into me, I took her to
dance, and escalated while trying to be as low-key as I could. I then
led her to the bathroom, and we made out in front of it. Then when it
became free, I went inside with her and we made out further. I then
went for the close, and we ended up having crazy sex in the bathroom.
We actually had anal sex there (I have a lay report covering this
event! I might post it).

The Secret Society Male

Then she left and disappeared and I went around talking to other
girls. A little bit later I met a guy whom I knew from school. We
chatted for a little about girls, sex and so on, and I shared some of
my wild stories. His reaction was “Alek, the girls you have sex with
are just sluts; good girls don’t do such things as getting fucked in
the ass in bathrooms.” I disagreed, but a little later, it turned out I
was right. He told me his girlfriend was a good girl and that she would
NEVER agree to participate in any kind of dirty sex like what I was
talking about.

A little bit later, I find out
that his girlfriend was the girl I
just had anal sex with. I could not be blamed, as I didn’t know
who she
really was. Either way, we kept it a secret – but the lesson learned is
that strangers who keep secrets are always
attractive.

Also, we learn
that women can be some crazy sex devils once their social reputations
are not at risk and when they can feel safe to express their sexuality
to its fullest.

Conclusion

Since this day, these events have had an impact on my style of
seduction. Being sexual is definitely a key thing when it comes to
seduction. To me, basing my seduction style around sex and sexuality
has given me a lot of success, and in my opinion, it’s the most
efficient style if you are seeking wild and dirty sex, and if you hate
waiting for sex.

I am not saying that social value is not important,
and most
attractive men take social value into consideration when they pick up
women. But for me, this doesn’t work that well. Keep in mind, different
styles suits different people. But on the other side, no matter who you
are, you must always be sexy. With this I mean that
being cool and
having high social value will never be enough (unless you are a
superstar…) to make a girl wet. You
need to make
her horny – you need
to lead her emotions and seduce her sexually!

This is what seduction is! And further, you also need to make her
feel allowed to have sex, because making her horny is not always
enough! You also need to take into consideration her anti-slut
defence!!! Here, showing secrecy and being discreet and low-key is the
solution.

Put it this way: in order to get laid, there are two things that you
must focus on. First, you need to
make the girl horny and desire to
have sex with you. But second, you also need her to feel allowed to
have sex with you – i.e., handle her anti-slut defence. Once
these are
in check, you will most likely get laid.

Either way, I hope you enjoyed reading this and hopefully learned a
few things from my experiences!

-Alek

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I really enjoyed reading through your discoveries as a high-schooler. As I'm still in highschool I could relate quite well to the stories.

(As for the report you mentioned, you should definitely post it on the boards! It'll be an enjoyable read.) Somehow I feel like I'm at a similar stage as your past self. I'll hit 16 pretty soon and I'm excited for what the next year will bring, but I digress...

Do you have any conversation examples of where you steer the conversation down to the really sexual subjects. Such as what she likes in bed, whether she like it rough and hard or etc.

The article by itself is very informative, just a couple examples that I could try out would be really helpful.

I went through this... yes. Please could you explain this psychology deeper? It happens - you make some escalation, kiss a woman, make out with her, be sexual, but don't bring it to sex. Usually because of bad logistics, lack of time etc. So it means, the woman was clearly attracted and wanted sex.

However, then it turns around and she rejects you after that. It's a kind of autorejection, isn't it? How does she really feel towards you? Is it that her attraction really dissipates and turns into disgust? Or does she still want you, but doesn't let herself ant rejects you instead?

This is perhaps the most bizzarre female behavior. And it's a very good reason to make sex happen fast.

Greetings to you my friend. I hope you reply to my comment this time please and thanks.

Your journey has been quite an interesting one to read about, however i think you are sending the wrong message here for high school guys. You are telling them to look for girls in school to have sex with them. Shouldn't the focus for us high schoolers be more like:

...Then when we are out of school we focus on getting laid with girls. Im in high school and that's my plan anyway. Most guys on here are not casanovas, and if so why are you reading girls chase. I think that telling us to focus on getting sexual is a little advanced. Sure, i love your emphasis on sex talk with these girls which is great.

The only fault i see here is that the guys reading this cant pull it off. The shy guy, the nerdy guy, the guy who cant talk to people - they all have one thing in common here, they would be setting their death bed, and they need a more gradual exposure to break fears.

Take for example a guy who is shy, has approach anxiety, and cant talk to girls, he wont be able to isolate and escalate with a girl because it is just too far out of reach. Instead they take the other step which is to just learn how to walk up to a hot girl before 3 seconds has passed, then learn to say "hi", then have a conversation.

What you write in this article is great advice though. I appreciate it. It's just a bit too advanced for most high school guys who dont already have a decent social status. Could you write more about high school game? Thank you. I love what you write and hope to see you on here more.