My partner doesn't mind anal sex, but she hates the time and prep needed for it. I read on this site that some couples have buttsex constantly and consistently, sometimes multiple times a day. I have to wonder how much is truth and how much is just fantasy. My partner wouldn't mind doing an anal only thing, but it's just impossible to do with the preparation needed behind it.

My current lover just doesn't have anal sex with me when she isn't prepared, however the girl I was with before and who was anal-only said that she enjoyed the preparation as such because she already looked forward to the act while she was cleaning, lubing and plugging herself. I have the same thing, I like to get myself well and clean and shaved before sex, and that already puts me in the mood and makes me half hard.

It's also about timing, like having sex at times when you know your bowels are already pretty empty. At times it wasn't on, and then we would just do oral sex on eachother. She used to call that "my back entrance is under maintenance"

As for the multiple times a day thing, no idea. Multiple times a night, yeah for sure, but at different times during the day? We also had other things to do than fucking

Learning about how the receiver's body works and communicating about that is part of the special intimacy that makes anal so great.

I've had a couple of messy experiences but in each case it was her first time. Otherwise there might be the occasional speck but hey a human body emits stuff you'd rather not know about from every orifice at some time or other.

None of my partners have made any special attempt to clean up apart from a BM an hour or two before if required.

I have a theory that a receiver who is pleasurably anticipating anal sex is more likely to have a clean rectum because it somehow empties upwards. I'm still collecting data on that one ...

I would second the rimming. I much prefer it to me husband going down on me normally as that can often feel to much, if that makes sense. Rimming, on the other hand is both very relaxing and sensual. Even better my husband loves to do it and never wants to stop! It gets us both in the mood.

+1 on metamucil, but some are sensitive to the sweeteners. "pure for men" is a capsule that gets around that issue, but it's not cheap. I buy the raw ingredients from Amazon, mix up my own, and stored in jars in the freezer.

About the Anal Only Lifestyle

This community is focused on an anal only (AO) lifestyle, a term used as much to refer to vaginal abandonment as to anal sex. Whether you've already made a commitment to only have anal sex with a partner or are just turned on by the idea and were led here by perverted curiosity, you'll find yourself in good company. Everyone has their own little take on what anal only means to them, and the only thing that is strictly not allowed in the lifestyle is vaginal penetration. The transition to being anal only can take time and while some women may need clitoral stimulation along the way, the long term goal for many is typically to train the body to achieve orgasm from anal sex alone.