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conclusion:Being intimate w/soon x-spouse

Ok conclusion of Yesterdays topic "Being intimate with soon to be x-spouse":

Last night around 6:30 he starts to call me on the house phone then the cell phone, and back and forth he would keep calling cause I wouldnt answer. I didnt want to go over there and be put in that situation. Finally I answered the phone and he asked me if I was coming over to get that gift for Christmas. I told him I would, but I didnt want to do anything intimate. Well, he surprisingly didnt fuss about it and said O.K.
Well I did go over there and went in, he was playing guitar and we talked for a few and of course he was trying to talk to me about being intimate and I told him NO!,He came over and sat next to me and I told him no again finally he said o.k. I went over there to get a Christmas gift he said he had for me so I just said "So what did you get me for Christmas anyway?" He looked at me and said:" Nothing really now." I said,"Your kidding me right?" He said, "No, cause what I got for you for Christmas wont be any good now." Go in the bedroom and look." So I walked in the bedroom and there were rose pedals, and a card on the bed. I couldnt believe it! He had me come over to get a gift, and all it was was HIM!? This was my gift?, That is how I felt, I did cry and said, "What are you doing?, I cant believe you did this. This isnt right to tell me you have a gift and then all along it was YOU that was the gift?"
I just got my purse and walked out the door. Well he calls me as im leaving, and I did answer. He said He thought it was a good gift! I told him dont you see how crazy that was after telling you NO! He told me, well the conversation we had the night before you sounded like you might! I told him that I never told him yes, and that our conversation was about the good intimacy we did have(cause we did have 17yrs of experience with one another and it was a good thing we had in our marriage). HE MISUNDERSTOOD ME! But in reality, he knew I was saying no it was just an excuse!And he did apologize and told me he didnt mean for it to be this way.

I asked him while I was driving if he really never did get me a gift.And that was what he had for me the bedroom gift, he said NO, I did have a gift under the pillow. I couldnt believe he lied to me as well back at the house telling me he didnt have a gift, that it was no good now cause I said no! Unbelievable! and yes I did go back and get the gift, cause I was curious and wanted it. it. It was worth going back cause he did get me a nice camera! and I didnt give him what he wanted either!

Conclusion: He said he couldnt talk to me anymore this morning and that he had to start letting go of me. And we would talk only for the sake of our daughter. To me, What I seen was nothing but a selfish modem to get what he wanted. And because he didnt get it hes cut off any peace between us again! It would have been nice to get a gift from him without the pressure of giving something in return. This may of made me see he was genuinely changing his ways. I know he wouldnt have gotten me anything for Christmas otherwise, which I never expected him to being seperated. Long story-thanks for reading, Now am I seeing this right? Please tell me how you see this story......

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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

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