We are new to the lifestyle and we are thinking of going to one of the local clubs or parties in our area. We spoke to some people online and some say to go to one club, while others tell us that place is horrible and we should go to a different one. We thought by asking people directly we would get more guidance, but now we are even more confused. How do we know who to listen to?

Welcome to the world of club/social wars... where everyone has their own motives.

Some people are very territorial and loyal about the clubs they attend. Most people don't have any bad intentions.. they just want people to go where they go...

Here is S. Florida it is very competative as there are 6 couples clubs in one area.

We have found that it is the people who attend that make the clubs good or not... it has very little to do with the location or furniture. Our advice is to not limit yourselves and try all the places and find out for yourselves what crowd you feel more comfortable with.

We also feel very strongly that people should only say good things about the places they like to go without having to make negative comments about the others.