So stop looking for handouts and attention, and start getting to work.

5. No one else can make you successful.

Success is subjective.

Your version of success is unlikely to be the same as someone else’s.

You’ve already chosen what you care about by yourself.

You’ve already chosen the goals you want to pursue by yourself.

No one forced these values on you.

Now you have to choose to pursue your goals.

You have to take responsibility for your choices and values.

You have to realize that no one else can make you feel a sense of success, accomplishment, confidence, or anything else.

No one else can reach into your brain and feel anything for you.

You have to make a decision to feel successful.

But first you have to decide on what will make you feel successful.

You have to define success for yourself.

You have to give yourself permission to determine your own stakes and your own milestones.

If you put this permission in other people’s hands, you will be miserable in life. You will be dependent, mediocre and regretful.

You will end up living in a state of perpetual helplessness, hoping for something better but never taking action to get there.

The only way to avoid this is by refusing to be a helpless bystander in your own life.

Taking what you want in life without asking permission will make you stronger and more successful. No one else knows you like you do, and no one else is as interested in you achieving your goals as you are. If you want to achieve greatness in life, you have to give yourself permission to be great. You have to take control of your decisions. Don’t let the naysayers tamp down your expectations. Don’t let toxic people trick you into failing so they can feel better about themselves. Take that responsibility for yourself. Give yourself permission to achieve your goals now, without waiting for anyone else to validate you or what you want.

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