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Thursday, July 26, 2012

Sunrise, Sunset

Every couple I’ve ever met struggles with finding enough
time to be together. Yet, while many fail in that struggle, there are a few I’ve
known who succeed in finding ways to make time for each other. Some of those ways
are rather imaginative, as they have had to work around jobs, kids and every
other interruption that life throws our way.

You see, those who have time for each other aren’t a special
category of people. They aren’t people who don’t have to work for a living or
who never have their car break down. Their children aren’t any better behaved
than anybody else’s and their bosses aren’t particularly understanding about
their personal live. The one and only thing that make these people stand out
from all the other couples I know is that they make a special effort to make
time for one another.

Yes, making time to be together as a couple is an effort. It
doesn’t happen automatically, it only happens when we make it happen. So, the
real question isn’t whether or not we have time to spend together, it’s whether
or not we make time to spend together.

That may require setting something aside that was taking
time better spent on your marriage. It may require coming up with some new
ideas. It may require using a bit of imagination. There’s always a way to make
time to be together, if both parties are willing to make some adjustments in
their lives.

My wife and I are on very different schedules. I’m an early
riser and she’s a night owl. So, the idea of spending time together early in
the morning is totally out of the question. We have trouble spending any time
together in the evening as well, because she teaches classes then. So, it’s rather
hard to have a weekly date night. We have to do something different.

Our date time is going out to lunch together. That’s the
time that works best for both our schedules. It’s not ideal, but it’s a whole
lot better than not spending any time together at all.

I remember the years that we were living in the motorhome,
traveling in the ministry. That motorhome was our vehicle, house, office and
school for our kids. There was no such thing as privacy during those years.
Even the door to our “bedroom” was an iffy thing, not closing all the way. So,
if we wanted time together, we’d have to find a way to get away from the kids.

Many a time, our time alone was walking through a Wal-Mart;
not buying, just walking. Granted, that’s not the most romantic of date
settings, but at least we were together, without anyone else bothering us. We’d
wait until the kids went to bed, then we’d take our walk together. Those few
minutes alone together were very precious to us.

Okay, here’s another idea; one that’s so easy, that we
should all be able to do it. Take the time to watch the sunrise or sunset together.
Fix yourselves a cup of coffee or tea, find a nice quiet place, snuggle up
together and watch the birth of a new day. What’s that? You don’t like getting
up early? No problem, get up to watch the sunrise, and then go back to bed. Or,
the other thing you can do is to watch the sunset together, instead of the
sunrise.

There’s something special about watching a sunrise or sunset
together. I don’t know what it is, but just sitting there quietly; watching the
changing colors as the light from the sun hits the clouds and upper atmosphere
is awesome. To me, it reminds me of how great God is and how insignificant we
are.

There’s a stillness at those times of day as well,
especially for the sunrise. Nothing to disturb you and nothing to distract you;
just the two of you alone with nature. You should try it sometime.