Tuesday, February 07, 2006

Sometimes people misunderstand when I write about or podcast about my parents or other relatives. They question my motives, they imply that I do not love them, nor am I grateful for what I have been given.

I am indeed grateful. Grateful enough to understand that they are human, and not gods. And humans have flaws. And I would even argue that it is a greater act of love and courage to see your parents as people with treasures and faults hidden in their nooks and crannies, instead of hiding behind the "obey and cherish my parents blindly" rule that many follow. Because to understand them, and then to love them is the greater act of faith.

But today, I'd like to dwell on the reasons I'd like to give my parents a valentine:Valentine to my parentsTo my mother for walking the mile with me, every week, to the library, to take out exactly 10 books. That was the limit of what they allowed. And then, she read them to me, all week long. To my father for working year after year after year in a job that wasn’t his first love, in order to do the right thing--the only possible thing as far as he was concerned--support his familyTo my mother for teaching me the Navakaar mantra when I was threeTo my father for teaching me to laugh To my mother for saying yesTo my father for saying noTo my mother for taking such care of me when I had the chicken poxTo my father for sharing his gazhals and shayris with me, even when I couldn’t understandTo my mother for singing the Stavans and Stutis with us every dayTo my father for telling us his tales of college mischief in BarodaTo my mother for her shy voiceTo my father for his crooked smileTo my mother for my birth by the bank of the river SabarmatiTo my father for my life