I’m Maid/Matron of Honor at a friend’s upcoming wedding. Co-hosting with her SIL, I threw her a bridal shower back in July (at my own expense, obviously) and gave her a lovely gift from her registry (with card). I’m also throwing and funding her bachelorette, solo, in a couple months. I’ve been invited to her far-out-of-town second bridal shower this weekend, and have made arrangements to go for the weekend with a friend.

My question is: am I expected to give her another gift? Should I buy something small off her registry? Should I just hand her a card, later? I’d really prefer not to spend anymore money on bridal shower things since I paid approximately $450 (including gift) to host her last one and am looking at a similar expense for the bachelorette.

Card or nothing at the second shower, my Maid/Matron of Honor was invited to both of my showers, and at the second one she just gave a card. The hostess really wanted her there because she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor and that was great!

I really don’t think any bride would expect you to get her more than one shower gift. Personally, I wouldn’t expect my Maid/Matron of Honor to give me even one. The bridal party has enough wedding associated expenses without duplicating shower gifts.