Rarah, I'm on human growth hormone this cycle. It was a bit of a palaver getting it at my clinic as apart from the light study (some clinics are participating in a study on growth hormone in IVF and my clinic is, I did it last cycle, but don't know if it was the hormone or water!) they didn't know what dose or what type of delivery I would use They eventually worked it out and I have been injecting since day 1. It's a bit fiddly as I need to mix it in a bottle then draw it out into the syringe then change needles - but hey, I get it in the end.

It's not covered by medicare and I paid $165 per vial and one vial does one day. I have 10 days dose at the moment and they will look at my bloods tomorrow and decide whether I will continue taking it past cd10 (as they need to order it in and it takes a couple of days).

Sleepydude, great to see a bloke on here! Hope you're not shy, we do share a bit on here!

AFM - I have to do a great big rant here - I'm sorry! For those of you who were on the Sep/Oct thread with me you'll remember my brother and his fiance, who got drunk at the bbq and blabbed about our ivf in front of us to a complete stranger? Well it's her hens night coming up on the 23rd. I'll be in the TWW then, but didn't want to say that as an excuse for why I couldn't go. So I responded to her bridesmaid that I couldn't make it, didn't give a reason.

Well she called my brother (who is away working in the mines) telling him that she was upset with me for not going. So he calls my mum asking why I'm not going (she knows about this cycle but has been sworn to secrecy) so she then rang me saying, "what do I do? you have to call him and tell him something!" So i've ended up having to tell them that we're going through another cycle now and that's why I can't make it to the hens (which is a boat cruise and will end up being a drunken evening).

I'm petrified she is going to get drunk at the wedding (last weekend in Nov) or at the hens and blurt it out. I've got my aunties and uncles, grandmother and close friends coming to the darn wedding and I really just don't want all the questions and the sympathetic - oh you poor thing looks! All of them have gotten pregnant at the drop of a hat and I already feel like a failure in comparison, I truly don't need their sympathy - or worse the 'why didn't you tell us' comments???

Am I being unreasonable? I know I could have lied and made up something for the reason why I couldn't go, but I'm a terrible liar and they would have known. And they wouldn't have taken a prior engagement as a good enough excuse. I just feel like crap knowing that it's going to come out and I'm going to end up being talked about

Rarah, I'm on human growth hormone this cycle. It was a bit of a palaver getting it at my clinic as apart from the light study (some clinics are participating in a study on growth hormone in IVF and my clinic is, I did it last cycle, but don't know if it was the hormone or water!) they didn't know what dose or what type of delivery I would use They eventually worked it out and I have been injecting since day 1. It's a bit fiddly as I need to mix it in a bottle then draw it out into the syringe then change needles - but hey, I get it in the end.

It's not covered by medicare and I paid $165 per vial and one vial does one day. I have 10 days dose at the moment and they will look at my bloods tomorrow and decide whether I will continue taking it past cd10 (as they need to order it in and it takes a couple of days).

Sleepydude, great to see a bloke on here! Hope you're not shy, we do share a bit on here!

AFM - I have to do a great big rant here - I'm sorry! For those of you who were on the Sep/Oct thread with me you'll remember my brother and his fiance, who got drunk at the bbq and blabbed about our ivf in front of us to a complete stranger? Well it's her hens night coming up on the 23rd. I'll be in the TWW then, but didn't want to say that as an excuse for why I couldn't go. So I responded to her bridesmaid that I couldn't make it, didn't give a reason.

Well she called my brother (who is away working in the mines) telling him that she was upset with me for not going. So he calls my mum asking why I'm not going (she knows about this cycle but has been sworn to secrecy) so she then rang me saying, "what do I do? you have to call him and tell him something!" So i've ended up having to tell them that we're going through another cycle now and that's why I can't make it to the hens (which is a boat cruise and will end up being a drunken evening).

I'm petrified she is going to get drunk at the wedding (last weekend in Nov) or at the hens and blurt it out. I've got my aunties and uncles, grandmother and close friends coming to the darn wedding and I really just don't want all the questions and the sympathetic - oh you poor thing looks! All of them have gotten pregnant at the drop of a hat and I already feel like a failure in comparison, I truly don't need their sympathy - or worse the 'why didn't you tell us' comments???

Am I being unreasonable? I know I could have lied and made up something for the reason why I couldn't go, but I'm a terrible liar and they would have known. And they wouldn't have taken a prior engagement as a good enough excuse. I just feel like crap knowing that it's going to come out and I'm going to end up being talked about

I don't know what to say except it is terrible being forced into such a position that you had to tell them. I haven't told anyone about this cycle number 3 and I don't plan on it either. I am in a similar situation in that my family all fell pregnant very easily and they all know about our IVF except they have all known since May when we started it all but none of them have ever mentioned or spoken about it to me.
I am not sure if they discuss it behind my back either. I assume not as I don't really think any of them actually give a **** about me.
Maybe it might not turn out as bad as your anticipating and they might not end up telling everyone about it.

thanks chiefs girl - I tried DHEA this cycle was on it for 3 months and it does not appear to have made a difference so am willing to give anything a go... just means no new handbag

it's such a difficult situation when someone knows and you cannot trust them, if anyone asks me that i am not comfortable talking about it with I simply resort to 'i'd rather not discuss it if you don't mind..' it might sounds quite rude but it quickly shuts them up... but probably doesn't help you though...

Can you maybe talk to her or your brother and asking them not to share this with anyone? i know how hard it is when you have events or celebrations on during your cycle and you try to come up with excuses for not drinking - so far mine resort to weight watchers and study.... i even did an assignment on a saturday night as an excuse not to drink (we were away with friends...) you can always go with the soda, and lime trick pretending to be vodka ;-)

Only my mother...who is so excited she wants to attend everything with me that hubby cant and listens all day to me worrying.., and my sisters know.., i havnt told my father and hubby hasnt told his family but i think its mainly because it is such a long hard process its easier to just get excited if it works...some pple like dad get a bit out of their comfort zone...personally I have had the pity comments and the patronising ones and the untactful ones..,and the ignorant throughout my life I dont care anymore...pple can think or say whatever they like ...its crunch time...it makes no difference...its my body and my right and drive to have a child and who cares what their opinion is. I have a feeling my father is of the older mindset re test tube babies being unnatural and what problems might they have but someone who has kids and finished their family cannot pass judgement. You cant control how pple behave...whether out of rudeness or ignorance but you can control how you feel about it...handle it with grace and dignity and a stiff upper lip because your mission is all that matters...shut out the noise...it is energy sapping...once you have a bub you will not care who gossipped

Having said all that I uuh only have my first appt in a week..

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We finally told my partners parents last week only because we need there help at home while i was away and we thought it was only fair to let them know, before we said anything we said that we didnt want them to feel sorry for us and we are not telling them for that reason, they completly understood and we are happy we have told them, they havent asked us anything, his dad wished me well on my EPU day. I hate when people feel sorry for you, we all have demons and secrets and nobody wants to feel like a talking point or the person they all give the sad eyed to, I would make it clear to her that you are worried about her blabbing you personal things when she has had a few drinks and you dont care if its "her day" some things are not ment to be public information, Some people like the attention they get from all the people that feel sorry for them but i couldnt stand it! I have alot of things in my life to be greatful for and this is just a hurdle along the way, I have a loving partner i would die for and a brilliant life i am healthy and fit, i am financially stable, people think of infertility as a problem a disease, just because we have to go a different way about things gives nobody the right to treat you differently, you should not be ashamed of what you are doing, im not, i am proud that i have been able to do the things i have! We IVF girls are a different breed and are so much more deserving of this than some women i have seen! I am proud to be apart of this community, we have choosen not to tell people because its just easier that way, I wouldnt mind so much but my partner feels that people dont need to know our buisness and i respect his decision!

I hope you read that message how I intended it..I understand and pple are insensitive and have no right to spread your personal business. I truly think most people if they even give it much thought once they find out really just want what you want

Chiefs girl - I know just how you feel! My guess is that if she 's a blabber mouth and going to get drunk, there's a good chance she'll blabber ... God knows that's what my SIL would do ... So all you can do is get hubby to read her (and her partner so he can apply pressure too) the riot act beforehand - good luck!

Afm - my lining grew!!!!! Hurrah for drugs :-) god I was so relieved ... So now I have another scan tomorrow (more massive protein meals and exercise for me in between - I'm sticking with what's working!) then potentially epu Fri and ET next Wednesday :-) so exciting!!!
At some point while I was freaking out one of you lovely ladies let me know my user name autocorrects '****'-something?!?!- can't find the post now on my phone - but thank you! That really made me laugh - I assure you, it wasn't intentional!! GL to all from sunny Athens x

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