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Honestly, she probably hid the truth because she was afraid of what people would think. She has a past and she doesn't want to be judged for it. Seriously though, so what? She's still the same person, and having sex and having relationships doesn't make anyone a bad person. React however you'd like, but just think about it... What kind of man do you want to be? Are you going to give her a chance to show you who she really is, or are you just going to shun her? She's still a human being, be kind. We all change.

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So she accept her guilt that she has done smthng wrong... so she shud suffer n come out clean... why should the innocent husband suffer... for her mistakes... He did'nt do al dat b4 marraige... he kept himself clean... n she is selfish.. dar she hid a major thing frm her husband for her benefit... isn't it bro?

lmao what are you even saying? Having a past of dating and having sex isn't a bad thing. You're acting like she used to be a murderer. "Kept himself clean", like you mean that he showered and stuff? lmao Sex and relationships doesn't make you dirty. All it means is that you have a healthy sex drive and that you've met someone you were attracted to. Those aren't bad things, they're just facts of life. People are attracted to other humans, people make out with other humans, get over it.

No I m not against having relationships... but why to involve in sex... its seen dat the relationships stay well until sex but break up comes just after the sex..(ofcourse break ups occurs due to other reasons also)... they get separated after getting sex from each other... dat show dat sex has some power... it keeps u interested unless u get... but once u get u loose interst in them... den y to marry if we cn get the most attractv thing simply... n why not to hav sex with other people after marraige... dat also seems illogical... if a woman dont feel satified with ur husband alone u hav da ri8 to sleep with others... bcz its their need... but is it fair actually? no na? similarly a girl should not do sex just to fulfil hr needs... same to boys also... n I dnt insult them.. but they should not ruin an innocent prsn life lying about al dat... bcz girls dont fort their first.. n ofviously they won't bcz they hav given smthng spcl of their life to dem... like we dont forget sm1 to whom we lended hug

1. Correlation does not mean causation. People don't get separated because they have sex, they break up because they aren't compatible anymore. The promise of sex is not what keeps someone in a relationship, and if it is, that's just sad. You, sir, are terribly confused about the concept of sexuality and love. I feel bad for you and your betrothed. 2. You say that there is no point of marriage if you can just get sex from anywhere, when that's just not the case at all. People get married and stay married for love, not for the organ between our legs. 3. Sexuality isn't something that needs to be controlled or contained, it's something to be embraced. Your logic makes absolutely no sense, it's 2015 for fuck sakes, sexuality is not sinful. 4. The fact that someone has had sex before, does not mean that they aren't capable of being faithful in a relationship. Having sex while single is perfectly fine, cheating on your husband is wrong. Having sex does not imply a lack of control.

5. Having more than one sexual partner will not ruin anyone's life and if you really believe that, then you're a complete drama queen. The world does not revolve around sex. If you're getting married, then you should really be in love with this girl, and if you love this girl, something like this shouldn't even matter. Lastly, you're right, girls won't forget their first, but that isn't because they still have feelings for that guy, it's because it was their first time having a new experience. It's like the first time you ever ride a bike. You remember that time because it was new, and you'd never done something like that before, not because you were in love with your bike. Duh. And virginity doesn't even exist biologically anyway, it's a social construct created by humans. She hasn't given up anything, she's just shared an experience with someone and that's all it is. An experience. She'll make new ones too, just like she'll probably ride another bike someday too. It's not a big deal

This tym u're more detailed thank u.. so again I say... dat I dont mind having relationship.. if sex is not that imp in relationship as wel as in marraige (instead love)... then y do they hav it be4 marraige... n if persn had one relationship be4 marraige then also it is acceptable.. ok a prsn may love some1 n later they found their incmpatible.. so they break up... but after dat they again go on making relationship one after another which show that they hav built n attraction towrds opp sex... n this seems very bad cause it wil always ruin their mind n force them search partners after partners.. one tym mistake is acceptable but continuois mistake can't be.. n is dis a new way of searching bride or groom for oneself? dat 1st hav relationship with many n try them first living like husband n wifes... n if u dont feel gud just break up n try another... till u feel dat ok I hav done a lot now let me tink who was da better prsn I had in my relationship n den get back to him.. just like tryng nw drs in shp

People have sex before marriage because there is no reason to wait. Sexual compatibility is almost important as emotional compatibility, so it actually is better to have sex before marriage. It's part of learning about who the other person is and it also helps distinguish between feelings of infatuation and love. For example, I was incredibly attracted to this guy and I really really liked him, but when we had sex, all of my feelings went away and I realized that I never really liked this guy to begin with, I was only lusting after him. If we had dated for a really long time, I would have wasted all that time on someone I wasn't even that interested in. Also, trust me, sex is great and everything, but it's not so amazing that you need to save it for someone. Once you get rid of all the social constructs that human place around sex, what is sex really? It's a biological function, sex is just something that people to do get pleasure or to make babies depending on what you want.

You're placing all this importance on sex that it really doesn't deserve. You're going to have sex for the first time and be like "Really? That's it?" lmao. And you said "force them search partners after partners"... That's what dating is. It's not a bad thing. It allows us to truly find someone for ourselves who we really love and get along with.

We blong to a gud soceity n my parents hv respect in da society... if her history cmes in da ears of our society we wil not b able to shw our face... n if she continues her habits even aftr marraige my parents wil die of shame... in my original questn as I said... if she tinks she hasn't done nethng wrong den y did she lied... y she wanted to b in a gud family at any cost... will she not lie to save herself later after marraige also... instead for hr mistakes da husband wil hv to b in fear of STD's, complications during delivery.. etc... unnecessary riskwil

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He should be happy as a pig in shit. It almost guarantees that he'll have a sex life if the marries her.In some countries where virginal arranged marriages are common, about 1/3 of couples have still had no sex at 2 years after the wedding. For some unlucky men, that will still be that case 15 years after the wedding.

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Oh if enhances sex life then it will also brings fears as well.. if she is so desperate for it... she may also find differnt means to fulfil her desires n for variety... hanging around with other males in husband's absence... she will not hold herself... n.. as u said having sex sex b4 marraige with diffrnt partners wil make her sexually active.. that would b a big shame for him n his family... if asked she wil reply" this is comon now a days... grow up... I cn go anywhr.. I can sleep with anyone.. I hav right to do what I want" then hw would that family feel... thier al reputation n sacrifices wil go down..

the guy must change his standards basically instead of being old-fashioned and stubborn

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How being cultural n holding a gud habit lower his standards? the girl did wrng.. n also hid it frm her husband who shared difrnt thought... she may hav continue to love n relationship without sex... does'nt she khow dat da guy may leave her after getting her body.. such. girls much get matured.. they hear al around dat many guys go after girls for her body... not for love... n they should b aware of it... she made da mistakes even afer knowing al dis.. or even she did'nt khow.. den also its she who is old standards.. bcz she does'nt khow about da current trends of such boys.. isn't it?