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Topic: help please (Read 18390 times)

hi everybody. thanks for the great work. anyway my story is that a girl performed oral sex on me and now I'm going crazy. what i wanna know is that if could get infected from the cum of her previous client in her mouth because she was with a another guy earlier before she came to me. and i think i had a little cut on my penis. for the symptoms i had a rash which was itchy and it felt like a burning sensation. i also had i it was a 7 week test or it might have been a 6 week 3rd generation Elisa test. PLEASE HELP

hi everybody. thanks for the great work. anyway my story is that a girl performed oral sex on me and now I'm going crazy. what i wanna know is that if could get infected from the cum of her previous client in her mouth because she was with a another guy earlier before she came to me. and i think i had a little cut on my penis. for the symptoms i had a rash which was itchy and it felt like a burning sensation. i also had i it was a 7 week test or it might have been a 6 week 3rd generation Elisa test. PLEASE HELP

I urge you to read the lessons on HIV transmission on these forums. No matter what sort of spin you put on it, you do not get HIV from getting head.

No matter what.

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"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

OK, Scared. I want you to take a good deep and slow breath in right now. And then let it out slowly. And then do it a second time. I'm not kidding. Do it!

And do that everytime you find yourself tensing up again about this issue. (Or about anything else for that matter).

OK. Now to your concern.

Read this slowly and carefully: In the entire history of the HIV epidemic and uncounted billions of blowjobs later there has never been a documented case of transmission to someone who was getting blown. Never. Not one!

And that includes all the variations of sores on penises, nicks, bruises, rough sucking, bad oral health in the mouth of the person doing service and any other variations you and your mind can come up with. Infection just doesn't happen in that way.

There's no need for HIV testing in relation to this incident. Now, other STDs are much easier to transmit than HIV, so if you're sexually active we do recommend that you regularly have a full STD panel done -- at least annually and every six months is even better.

But as far as HIV is concerned you have no basis in HIV science to be concerned about this incident. If your mind says otherwise, well that's about feelings and not facts.

Scared lets stay focused on your risk. You didnt have one. So you are going to test negative from now till the cows come home over this incident.

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LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safelyin a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT ARIDE!!!

I deleted the question (the same one you asked here) that you posted in other people's threads. Please keep all your additional thoughts or questions in THIS thread only. Thank you for your cooperation.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

You didn't have a risk. You asked in a PM (which as you have been told you aren't supposed to do...)

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what do u think about dry mouth when there is no saliva to neturlize the virus is this possible for the cum of her previous client to survive in her mouth

The answer is this is NOT a risk. Even when a person has a "dry" mouth, there is still saliva present. The mouth is a VERY inhospitable place for hiv to be and it will very quickly become damaged and unable to infect.

There are thousands of people getting blowjobs every hour of every day and some of these people will be getting them after someone else. NOT ONE person has EVER become infected through getting their dick sucked and you will NOT be the first. You aren't going to make history, no matter what sort of spin you can think of to put on your blowjob. It wasn't a risk for hiv infection. No way, no how, no risk.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

No, you do not need further testing at this point in your life. You are hiv negative.

Here's what you need to know for when you DO become more sexually active:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active (in your case, when you become sexually active...) should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

You do NOT need to test again over this blowjob incident. You are hiv negative. Follow the suggestions above and you will remain hiv negative. Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I fail to see what your question has to do with your personal circumstances.

You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. You got your dick sucked and not one person EVER has become infected this way.

You also have a negative result. This means you are hiv negative, period, end of story.

No risk, negative hiv test result. There's nothing more we can do for you here.

If you'd bother to read the Welcome thread like you're supposed to, you would have seen the following:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

I fail to see what your question has to do with your personal circumstances - but the answer is NO.

You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection. You got your dick sucked and not one person EVER has become infected this way.

You also have a negative result. This means you are hiv negative, period, end of story.

No risk, negative hiv test result. There's nothing more we can do for you here.

If you'd bother to read the Welcome thread like you're supposed to, you would have seen the following:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Ann and Andy for your last advice. something is still bothering me that I'm not circumcised and the rash i had on my torso. before the rash i also visited the beach for the first time in my life. I'm almost to 95% comfoe rt level.

You being uncircumcised has nothing to do with the fact that getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection. It doesn't matter what sort of details you want to add, getting a blowjob is still not a risk.

As for the rash, how could it be hiv-related when you didn't have a risk of infection? It couldn't.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

We get that you are making yourself totally nutz over something that was not in any way a risk for HIV.

You've been told that repeatedly.

Then you come up with "just one more" question as if nothing has been said to you previously.

How many ways do you need to read "NO RISK"? And now you're picking Ann's words apart.

Becoming sexually active is exciting and it also can stir up a lot of anxiety as apparently is the case with you. This is not an HIV situation. It's all about feelings and has nothing to do with real HIV risk.

So you need to stop with this endless questioning. If you can't get past your anxiety then take your rash to a doctor and see a counselor or other mental health professional to discuss your totally unwarranted fears.

Once again, as the others have told you, you didn't have a risk in this instance and YES, it is time for you to move on, making sure you use condoms for intercourse in future.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do NOT need to test over a blowjob, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse consistently and correctly and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts