Life, Leadership and Business

Friday, 26 August 2016

The needy leader forms one leg of the Drama Triangle. What
is the Drama Triangle? The needy leader creates drama by viewing all the people
that surround him or her in one of two categories – Victim or Persecutor as discussed in Part 1. Below is a Drama Triangle Diagram:

Leader is almost synonymous with Role Model. People look to
Leaders to set an example, to lead the way. People draw strength and
encouragement from leaders. So, the pressure is on the Leader to be reliable, consistent
and to act with integrity. Imagine the
devastation and harm a needy leader could cause.

When a leader decides that their own worth and value is
based on the position they hold, they quickly descend into a dark place that
makes leadership ugly. Manipulative, controlling and praise-seeking become
hallmarks of a needy leader. Even good people walk on a slippery slope that could
take them into the role of a needy leader. So, how does a well-meaning leader avoid
becoming needy?

Developing a following is not as simple as one may think.
Having a cause, a concept or a project where you need the help of others will
require them to “buy-in” to your vision. I have watched many leaders and
entrepreneurs sweat to get jus a small handful of followers. This initial phase
of little to no acceptance can cause leaders to doubt in themselves and/or the
cause for which they stand, and becomes the turning point when they crack and
slink into the “number 2 position,” wounded and humiliated.

Don’t let your leadership capacity get whipped into
believing you were meant to play second-in-command to someone else’s leadership.
Neither you nor the world will benefit from this victim mentality. Stay strong
and push until you get a break through. Listed below are a few useful
principles that will help you remain strong and focused during times of little
or no support:

Thursday, 18 August 2016

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be paid to dream? Of course it
would, and that’s why we have Leaders – to dream! The higher the level of
leadership you hold, the more likely your job is dreaming about the future.

The primary role of a leader is to hold up the picture of
the dreamed future while the team puzzles the pieces together. Understanding the picture and how to
communicate it are valuable skills that will ensure a Leaders success. A Leader
must be a visionary and should be able to translate that vision into action.

Leadership success is related to a Leader’s ability. The
more abilities the leader has, the more likely the Leader is to succeed. One of
these abilities required by the Leader is the ability to connect to people. A
leader needs to touch the hearts of followers before asking them to put their
hands to work.

Many people immediately get defensive when they hear a
Leader must “Care”. Visions of getting personally involved in the daily details
of others lives, carrying burdens and sharing tears put people off getting
involved in “caring”. Although a Leader will share these types of intimate
moments with inner circle followers or advisors, it is not necessary for the
Leader to become an emotional prostitute and ship wreck their personal lives
for the sake of being a caring success.

Even a Fuel Tanker needs to stop for fuel at some point!
Leaders need to have a place where they can pit stop, rest, recuperate, learn
and get some advice, without being judged, criticised or measured. The Support
Group for the Leader could be a friends and supporters within the team itself,
or they could be people the Leader values spread far and abroad in whom the
Leader confides.

“The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick
good men to do what he wants done, and the self-restraint enough to keep from
meddling with them while they do it.” Theodore Roosevelt.

The confusing thing is the Leader must fully own the vision
in order to succeed, but the Leader must also share the vision by releasing it
into the hands of others to achieve greatness. Empowerment of others is the
Leaders most challenging task that will possibly bring some of the greatest
rewards.

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