Imagine giving a normal 3 year old
child a recipe for homemade bread, and asking them to
make it. They could try and try, agonize, and apply all
their mental powers to the task, and yet still find it
impossible. Why? Because they simply aren't capable of
understanding the words, or how to follow a bread recipe
on their own.
Being an adult doesn't mean that I no
longer have limitations to my ability to understand or do
some things. No matter how smart I am, all my brain power
only helps me scrape the surface of what makes my partner
tick, and why they do things the way they do.
So why do I try to "figure my
partner out"? Maybe I feel that, once I know why
they are behaving a certain way, I can find a better way
to cope with it, or "work" on a solution.
Chances are, however, that as soon as I think I have
something about my SO figured out, something happens to
throw that theory out the window.
I can give myself a lot more peace of
mind, if I simply accept that there are very
understandable reasons behind my partner's behavior. If I
had perfect wisdom, I'd have perfect understanding, and
be able to feel compassion and empathy for the things
they struggle with.

Just for Today
Today I'll look at something I've been
wracking my brain over about my SO, and finally accept
that my power to understand is limited, as a natural part
of being human. I'll give them compassion and acceptance,
and in doing so, also give myself needed peace of mind.
It is not the position, but the disposition. - J. E.
Dinger