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Answering a reader’s question

Question: I have the impression that my best friend is gay but he is afraid to tell me. I’ve tried to make him talk to me, but I think he would consider it as indiscreetness. I can’t stand that he oppresses himself but I am not sure if my assumptions are correct. What can I do to make him to talk to me without being hurt?

Answer: Since your friend doesn’t want to talk to you and you are not sure if he is actually gay it would be better to respect this. On the other hand, if you really want to talk to him, then you can discuss with him about the two sexes. You can talk about relationships in general, the behaviors of men and women , ask about his opinion on close relationships, refer to the heterosexual and the homosexual relationships and emphasize that homosexual relationships are now acceptable in contrast to previous years and that every person can choose the kind of sexual relations ones wants. In this way you can make him talk to you about his own sexual identity without feeling stressed