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Are you a swinger? If you are, you can definitely relate to some of these embarrassing (but true) stories!

My husband and I had my parents over for dinner a few nights ago. We were sitting at the table enjoying our coffee when our dog skirted under the table to enjoy what I thought was something my father had given her from his plate of leftovers. Before long she was looking for my mother’s attention so my mother was petting her absentmindedly. Next thing I know, my mother holds out her hand to show us what the dog had deposited. It was a chewed up condom package with (thankfully) the condom still inside. My husband and I were literally sweating, trying desperately to figure out how to explain this. Since neither of us could think of anything to say we acted like we couldn’t imagine where she had gotten it. I didn’t feel comfortable admitting we had had a party that weekend and always supply condoms for our guests to use while they play on the very couch you were sitting on before dinner. Nope, I didn’t think that would go over very well. The next morning I did phone her and say that it probably had been in my son’s bedroom and the dog had managed to find it.

You might want to pack a trench coat when you don’t know the destination.

A few weeks ago we were heading out on a Saturday night to a private party. We know the couple who were throwing the party but we had never been to their home. I usually bring something in the car to put on in case of an emergency (I have already had that problem two times). We were in a hurry and I forgot until we were already on our way. Since we were running late, I decided to forget about it for this one time.

We arrive at the address and to my surprise, it is a building. Naturally, when we walk in there is a doorman, a man at the front desk and a gentleman who takes you upstairs in the elevator. I feel especially pleased that I am wearing a super slutty outfit that is practically see through. I imagined all three men watching us by video going up in the elevator taking bets on whether or not my husband had hired me for the night.

When we arrive at their condo, my friend opens the door and gets hysterical laughing. She knew right away the shame I had to endure to get up to her apartment. She was then concerned that I would be the first of many dressed like this and now the people downstairs would look at her differently. Perhaps next time you might want to mention to lifestyle guests that there is a front desk!

Ordering online should be a private way to get what you want, right?

I love to dress up when we go to parties and clubs, and I especially enjoy shopping for slutty clothing. It can be difficult to find stores that carry this type of clothing so most of the time I shop online.

I placed an order with a store a few months ago and waited for the package to arrive. It did not arrive as scheduled, so I checked the tracking. It showed the package had been delivered. I went back to see what address they had delivered it to since it was not mine. When I looked it up, I realized the company had sent it to my old address! I had the phone number for the new owners so I called her and asked if she had the package. She said she didn’t think so but would get back to me. She sent me a text message later that day saying it had indeed arrived and since she was on her way out, she would leave it at her front door for me to pick up.

I arrived at her house and pulled into the driveway. I was anxious to jump out and just grab the package. My old neighbor spots me and walks over to say hello. I told her I was in a hurry but just needed to grab a package that was left at the door. She says, “Yes, I know, Susan told me about the package.” With that, she says goodbye and walks away. I thought it was odd and couldn’t imagine why Susan would have mentioned it.

As soon as I approached the front door I understood why. The package had been opened and clearly, she had seen what I had ordered. OMG, how do I explain this?! Everything I had ordered looked like something a dancer from a strip club would wear!

After taking some time to figure out how to explain this, I phoned her. I told her this was not what I had ordered! She said she was sorry she had opened it but had been expecting a package and just assumed that was her package. She mumbled something about not really looking at what was inside but I could tell from the package that she had indeed looked at each piece! We have not spoken since.

People in the lifestyle love to stop and smell the flowers, but what about stopping to smell the lube?

A friend had surgery recently and I went to visit her at home. They live in the city so finding a place to park was a bit of a challenge. I finally gave in and parked in a public garage.

When I was leaving, I turned out of the garage and as I drove past her building, I noticed her husband walking toward the entrance. I honked and he came over to the car to say hello. He was very excited and held up a bag to show me that he had been shopping.

I pulled over to the curb and he got in the passenger side to show me what he bought. To cheer up my friend, he had gotten her some sexy lingerie, body powder, and some new lube. He opened the bottle to let me smell it and as I leaned over to smell the bottle of lube someone knocked on my window. I turn to see a policeman standing there asking me to roll down my window. Not only was I parked in a fire zone but he wanted to see what we were sniffing. I imagine he thought it was drugs.

Although sniffing lube isn’t illegal, it is still pretty embarrassing. My friend held up the bottle for the policeman to see but he wanted me to hand it over. I twisted the cap back on and reluctantly gave him the bottle. After examining the bottle, he handed it back to me and informed us that public sex was a misdemeanor and suggested we move along!

Sex toys and children don’t mix…

A friend recently returned from a trip to New Orleans where she was visiting a child in college. She had a wonderful time but since she and her husband spend every weekend at either a lifestyle event or swing club, it was very tame.

After taking her son and his roommate out for dinner, they walked my friend back to the hotel as they were heading out to meet friends. After waiting a short time to make sure they were gone, she headed out to see Bourbon Street at night. She stopped at a bar and had a few drinks while mingling with the locals.

Soon after, she decided to take a walk down the street to see what was there. She passed a shop that sold adult items and she walked in. Excited to see such interesting toys, she decided to buy a friend an early birthday present: a giant pink strap on. They dropped her stuff in a plastic bag and she headed back toward the hotel.

As she was walking through the lobby, her son was talking to the person at the front desk. When he spotted her, he rushed over to talk to her. He had left his keys up in her room and needed them to get into his apartment.

They rode back up in the elevator together with his friend and she let them back into her room. They seemed to be in no hurry to leave, so she sat on the edge of the bed and talked with them for a while. She had to go to the bathroom so she got up from the bed and when she did, the package slid off the bed and the contents scattered across the floor. Needless to say, she was mortified as the boys stared down at the pink strap on. She chuckled and said it was a gag gift for a friend’s birthday. She still gets upset just thinking about it.

Let’s be honest, sex happens

Although most swingers try very hard to keep the lifestyle a secret, it seems that something always happens to give others a clue that we are not as vanilla as we would like to have them believe. Every time some embarrassing or revealing situation occurs or someone tells me about something that has happened to them, I wonder if most people don’t have secrets of their own.

I prefer my dog not bring condoms to my parents, but honestly, do they not have anything kinky going on in their life? My neighbor can’t handle the thought that I would wear such sexy clothing? Maybe she is using a strap on with her husband. I don’t know! For her sake, I hope they are doing something fun in their bedroom! Does the policeman think lube is risqué? Really? With a job like his, I’m sure he has seen a whole lot more interesting things than that. As for my friend’s son, he is in a fraternity. Need I say more?

At least we are having fun!

One of the reasons I love the lifestyle so much is that we don’t pretend to be so puritanical. We love sex, we have sex and we talk about sex. We like to dress sexy and we like to have fun. It would be impossible to revert to our old ways and I sincerely doubt that anyone in the lifestyle would want to.

Hopefully, in the future, people will loosen up and accept that sex is natural and normal. I’m not expecting everyone to understand or participate in the lifestyle, I am just hoping that people will be open to the fact that it does exist and the people involved are just having fun with their partners. It is an open and honest relationship that swingers have and hopefully one day, vanilla people will understand.

Living in Australia we didn’t expect that after purchasing jewelry we would find another swinger very quickly. How wrong we were. We have only had our jewelry for about 3 weeks and were wearing it while out running some errands. We stopped to grab a bite and while sitting in a corner booth, suddenly a man appeared out of nowwhere and was sitting next to me smiling. We were a bit confused but he pointed to the pendant hanging from his necklace. How wonderful this was! Such a surprise and he’s quite cute to look at! I am so pleased and wanted to thank you! It really does help you spot other swingers and it really is around the world! Bravo!

People who are not in the lifestyle, equate swinging with infidelity. Obviously, for people who swing, this is absolutely untrue. According to dictionary.com. infidelity means:

1. maritaldisloyalty

2. unfaithfulness

Considering those two meanings, swingers are not being disloyal or unfaithful to their spouses. Perhaps we should think of swingers as writng their own rules in their own marriages. They have decided together, as a couple, to open their marriage to something more. Whether or not religious figures would agree that this is not adultery or infidelity is another topic altogether.

It is not uncommon to hear people who are not in the lifestyle to question why couples swing. Besides that they imagine swingers to be perverted deviants, their perception of swingers is really off. They have a hard time understanding why people would be open to having sex with someone other than their spouse. More than that, they cannot fathom why swingers do not get upset with the fact that their significant others are doing this.

Let’s consider this: if a department store invited you to visit anytime, and take what you needed for free, would you ever feel the need to steal something from them? Silly question right? How can you steal something if they are giving it to you for free? Let’s say you are in school and need help on an exam and the teacher tells you anytime you don’t know an answer to just ask her and she will tell you. Would you need to copy off someone’s paper? What would be the point? The teacher has already offered the free help, right? It is the same in the lifestyle. Your partner offers to let you swing with other people, why would you need to do this behind their back? That is not to say that it never happens because it probably does, but what it is the point?

It is very common when you speak with swingers to hear how surprised they were when they first entered the lifestyle to discover how in love swingers seemed to be. It was exactly the opposite of what they had imagined. If couples were so in love, what drove them into the lifestyle? The best answer is probably honesty.

The relationship between a couple who chooses to swing has to be very open and honest. In order to swing, they had to get to the point where they could admit that although they love each other, they would like to try something else. It is normal for couples to fall into a routine or rut with their sex life. Some couples try to spice things up by watching porn, using toys, trying different positions or even going to strip clubs. What happens when that is not enough?

For couples not in the lifestyle, unfortunately, they might look to someone else to fill that void. Infidelity is exceptionally selfish. One person in the couple chooses to find excitement that is lost with their partner while the other partner makes do with the lack of fulfillment. Sometimes both parts of the couple choose to be unfaithful to each other while maintaining the facade of a wonderful marriage. How long can that last?

When you consider the avenue swingers take, it seems more logical and loving. Swinging is something couples do together. They venture into the lifestyle as a couple not to find someone to replace their partner, but to find couples to spice up their sex life. The excitement is something they experience together. The only sneaking around these couples might be engaging in, is from their family and friends. Swinging creates a very strong bond; you are naughty together.

When you consider the freedom that swinging brings to both members of the couple, who would feel the need to cheat? Sure, there are always exceptions, but that shows a true character fault. Generally speaking, swingers would agree that they have no reason to cheat. Swinging helps them to avoid infedelity.

Many couples who have been in the lifestyle for many years reach different levels of comfort with separating while swinging. Some couples have no problem allowing their significant other to play on their own while traveling or with friends they have met in the lifestyle. They talk about how much pleasure they get just from hearing about the escapades of their partners. The only request they make of each other is to tell them about what they do when they play on their own. Some couples never separate and continue their swinging journey side by side. Either way, the degree of trust and freedom is immeasurable compared with those not in the lifestyle.

Everyone is different and perhaps there are couples who never feel the desire to play outside their marriage. It seems that number would be very low when you consider how rampant infidelity is.

My question to those not in the lifestyle is this: why not try to explore together what both of you are secretly wishing for? It is impossible to believe that every married adult at some point has not fantasized about having sex with someone else. A neighbor, a teacher, a coworker, someone famous or your spouse’s best friend. The best part about swinging is that these are no longer secrets or fantasies! You and your partner not only talk about what your sexual fantasies are, you experience them together. What could be more honest and intimate than that? That is what creates such a strong bond between swingers. When you have everything you need at home, why would you need to go elsewhere?

Is a poor body image keeping you from feeling confident in the lifestyle? Do you worry that having a less than perfect figure will make it hard to find couples who want to swing with you?

The lifestyle poses many challenges to both men and women. It can be very difficult for someone if they are shy, insecure or become jealous easily. It is even worse if someone has a poor self-image. Having a positive self-image, especially regarding your body, is crucial if you are planning to swing. Body image is defined as how you see yourself when you look in the mirror or how you picture yourself in your mind. Sometimes these perceptions are accurate, but sometimes they are completely distorted. This image will affect how you carry yourself and how you interact with others. Developing a positive body image and a healthy mental attitude is crucial to a person’s happiness and wellness. It also plays a key role in success in the lifestyle.

Swing clubs, parties, and hotel takeovers are filled with scantily clad women wearing fishnet dresses, sexy lingerie, and exotic mini skirts and dresses. All of which show a lot of skin. Many of these women are over the age of 40 and have bodies which indicate as much. There are women who have beautiful, tight, fit bodies but they are not in the majority. They are also not always the hottest or the most secure. It seems that self-image plays a much larger role in what makes a woman desirable to both men and other women. A beautiful, fit woman with poor body image (yes, there are many) seems to be less attractive to others than the overweight woman who is comfortable in her own skin. The lifestyle is not about the most attractive person or people, and it is important to remember that everyone is attracted to something different. A person who is friendly and warm and seems genuinely interested in what you have to say will be much more attractive to you than someone who is the opposite; regardless of their physical appearance.

Men suffer from the same problem but regarding different aspects of their bodies. Women tend to be focused on their weight, their breasts and any areas of their bodies they see as imperfect; cellulite on their thighs, a butt that is too large or too small, scars from past surgeries or c sections, etc. Men tend to be more concerned with their height, their weight, their muscle mass and obviously the size of their penis, as compared with other men. Interestingly enough, if you were to ask ten men to point out which woman they find most attractive, chances are you would get 6-7 different responses. For women, it would probably be about the same. Luckily, everyone is attracted to something different. Imagine if everyone was attracted to the same person!

The lifestyle is supposed to be fun. When people are too hung up about their bodies and their imperfections it can be a real downer. Try to remember that swinging is for a short time and if you don’t take advantage of the moment, you will miss it. Chances are if someone has chosen to swing with you, it is because they think it will be enjoyable. If you cannot relax and savor the moment, you are not only wasting your night but the night of the person who is trying to have fun with you. I sincerely doubt that while your partner for the evening is playing with you he is thinking about your thighs. If, however, you are showing your insecurities regarding your thighs, he probably will look at them to decide if you are right. When a woman is with a man who is less endowed than most, she will only care if it keeps him from being able to enjoy himself. If he steps up and shows her he is confident with himself, she knows it will be a fun night regardless of his size.

Putting your insecurities aside for an evening will be in your best interest. If you step into the play area with nothing but a smile, people will admire your confidence and appreciate that about you. If you are open to people, they will look to join you, it’s that simple. Big thighs, sagging boobs, cellulite and all, if you show people that you are ok with yourself, they will be ok with you.

Swing clubs, parties, and takeovers can be fun and exciting. People come out to party and have a good time. When you meet people, if they seem friendly and self-confident you are drawn to them. If, on the other hand, you meet people who are shy and withdrawn, chances are you will move on to another couple. It really is ok if you don’t think you are perfect because guess what? Pretty much everyone else has the same insecurities that you have, the only difference is that they refuse to let it ruin their night!

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When we think about swinging, we do not think about love. The purpose of swinging is to have fun. To find another couple or a single man or woman to fulfill a fantasy. Sex is a physical act and does not require love to participate. Swinging equates to sex without love whereas a marriage incorporates love and sex.

To people who are not in the lifestyle, it is a very difficult concept for them to grasp. They frequently ask if couples in the lifestyle are afraid that their partner might fall in love with someone else. Sure, anything is possible, but you do not have to be a swinger to be at risk of falling in love with someone else.

Swinging has nothing to do with love. Swingers do not seek out the lifestyle to find a partner to share their life with. Single swingers might be looking for love. Some are looking for someone who shares their lifestyle views. Couples are not there for this reason.

Vanilla couples cannot understand how swingers do not get jealous when they see their partner with someone else but it always reminds me of something from the Bible. The following is a part of the passage, not the entire thing: (I am not religious, or Catholic, but this always comes to mind):

Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not envy, it does not put on airs, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. So Faith, Hope and Love abide these three; But the Greatest of these is Love.”

In my opinion, the only role love plays in swinging, is between the couple that decides together that they would like to explore the lifestyle. You love your partner enough to give them the freedom to partake in things they otherwise could not, and you find joy in seeing them enjoy those things. You have faith in your partner; you allow them to play because you are sure they will come back to you. You are able to express love for each other by forging your own path. You do not allow others to dictate to you what is normal. Although society equates love with monogamy, you choose to define love your own way and you know the love between you and your partner is mutually exclusive. You hope that your love is forever and that these experiences will only enrich your lives.

There is no love between couples that play but there can be infatuation or lust. How can you love someone that you don’t really know? The person who shows up at parties or swing clubs or on vacations or cruises allows you to see only a small part of who they are. The real person is the one who has to get up for work in the mornings; the person who has to clean up after their children or their dog. The true person is not always dancing and having fun but paying bills and dealing with stress. Until you know that person, how can you really know that you love them?

The part of swinging that makes it so enjoyable is that we get to dress up, have a few drinks, dance or socialize then move onto the swinging aspect. Spending an evening with swingers is like going out on New Year’s Eve. It’s always a big party, but is that real life? It is an awful lot of fun and the environment lends itself to getting hot for other people, but that is the whole point. We go into swing clubs looking for others to spend a few hours with but not our lives.

The moment we discovered lifestyle jewelry existed, we knew we had to have it.We discovered your jewelry during a trip to Fun for Two, a swing club in Holland.Another couple was wearing it and telling some people all about it. As soon as we returned from our trip, we ordered two necklaces.

I think it was my second day wearing the necklace that this happened. During my lunch break from work, I always make a deposit at the bank and stop at the post office.As I was walking into the post office the person who was exiting came through the entry door and bumped into me.The mail I was carrying fell to the ground. The two of us bent down to retrieve the mail from the floor at the same time.He apologized profusely and then gave me a funny smile.I thought perhaps I knew him but he did not look familiar.

As we stood up he commented on my necklace.He told me he has the same one and then explained that he was in a rush to get back to work.His hand extended with a business card in it and he asked me to be in touch.“Yes, I am married,” he called to me as he briskly walked off.

It happened so fast I could barely believe it!Over dinner that evening, my husband and I discussed it and he was curious.When it comes to the lifestyle, he has always been the contact person and so I handed the card to him.He phoned the number, and after speaking for quitea while, the men made plans for us all to get together.

That was a few months ago and we have seen them almost every weekend since that day! If it can happen to me, it can happen to everyone.

When a friend confides that her sex life has diminished, would you suggest visiting a swing club? I did…

A friend recently confided in me that her sex life has become pretty non existent.After years of great sex, it no longer exists.She wondered aloud if he no longer found her attractive.There was no concern of another woman, they were very happily married.I asked if perhaps it was a hormonal problem and she said she did not believe that was it.

So what’s happening?My friend is very attractive and takes good care of herself.She has a great figure and wears form fitting clothing to show it off.I decided since she was coming to me for advice, I would take a chance.

“A few years ago, my husband and I were in a sexual rut,” I explained.“Sex had become routine.We decided to try toys, watch porn and role play.Although it was exciting for a while, we found ourselves looking for something more.My husband suggested a strip club and this was also exciting at first, but soon we were bored.It was during a night at a strip club that one of the dancers suggested we try a swing club.”

I held my breath and waited for her reaction.She leaned in close to me and with bated breath asked quietly, “And?”

Not sure how to proceed, I turned the tables.I asked her what she would do.Would she be willing to try a swing club?

As I listened to her talk about how disgusting the thought of this was, I stopped her. I decided to take a chance and tell her we had tried it a few times.Very nonchalantly I described the first few nights we had actually visited a swing club.The nerves, the anticipation of what I would see, what I wore and finally what I thought of the experience.

This is perhaps the most important thing that vanilla couples misunderstand about what happens in a swing club.I was honest about my fears regarding what type of people would actually spend time in a swing club.The thought of half naked people walking around touching each other was a fear of mine.I was sure the people would be old and unattractive; that the club would be a dungeon full of scary sights.Not knowing what to expect is perhaps one of the biggest reasons that people shy away from swing clubs.

Her eyes were large as she listened intently.She was dying to know what the club was actually like.It was more shocking for her when I told her it was the exact opposite of what I had imagined.The club was beautiful and upscale.The people were warm and friendly; easy to talk to and quite interesting.Many were professionals and most were genuinely normal, everyday type of people.

I continued to explain that I did not see anything alarming or perverse.Some couples were busy in groups, talking and laughing, some couples were dancing and others simply sat and observed.Both women and men were well dressed.Some women were a bit sexier than others, but if I had not known I was in a swing club, I would not have thought anything was odd.Except, perhaps for the fact that people were so friendly and there was a monitor over the dance floor playing porn.

She was curious to hear whether we had seen people having sex while at the club.There was no intent on my part to reveal that we have been in the lifestyle for many years and spend every weekend at this club.My only interest was to help shed some light on the truth about swing clubs.My answers reflected my views when I was new to the lifestyle.

I admitted that we, too, were curious and so after a few visits to this club we decided to check it out.There was no way I was going to tell her that we had to change into towels to go into the back room, so I left that part out.

It seemed best to explain how respectful others are in this situation.You go at your own pace.If you simply want to watch, that is fine.Some couples simply play with their husband or wife, while others opt to trade partners as they play side by side.Some people like to play as threesomes and some prefer to be in a private room.

I did admit that it was a very exciting way to spend a night. That first visit to the club had ignited a sexual flame within the both of us.The club had a sexy vibe and we liked that.Watching other people having sex was erotic and exciting.The atmosphere is like none other.

My final bit of advice to her was to do some research and perhaps try it out.There is no pressure to do anything.Many people go to swing clubs and simply socialize.Some drink and dance.The most important thing is to do something in her marriage to get it back on track.

The simple act of going to a swing club brought my husband and I closer after just the first time.We were now partners in crime and had something that we did not share with others.It was our secret and it was shocking how it helped us to grow as a couple.

The bottom line is that going to a swing club is an experience.Perhaps one couple will love it and another will not.It is not a commitment of any kind and there are no promises or guarantees of what will happen on any given night.The most important thing to remember is that it is something you do together.

My husband and I have been wearing your jewelry for about 6 months. No one has ever asked if it has any special meaning. One friend did point out that they were both of the same design. We laughed and said that this is why we each bought a piece. Much like wedding rings, it makes us feel connected.

We are avid golfers and spend a lot of time at our golf club. Over the years, we have gotten to know most of the members. This is strictly a vanilla club.

As we are in the lifestyle, we have created two separate lives: our night life and our day life. There is no question that people would never suspect that we are swingers.

Like most weekends, we had plans to play golf with some friends. At the last minute, the couple we had planned to play with had to cancel. As a result, we were randomly paired up with another couple looking to play. Although we have known this couple for at least 8 years, the wife is a new golfer so they usually try to play alone.

After teeing off on the 3rd hole, my ball went very far to the right. As I approached I realized it went into the lake. The man who joined us drove up in his cart to hand me a ball retriever. Just after hitting my ball, he offered me a ride to catch up with the others. As soon as I sat in the cart, he started to laugh. I was confused and looked over at him. The man reached over and gently held the pendant of my necklace in his hand. He told me that they have been in the lifestyle for quite awhile and also have your jewelry.

This was a huge surprise! We have known this couple for a long time and neither of us would have ever suspected that they are swingers. It was equally as shocking for them to discover that we are also swingers.

This couple, like ourselves, prefer to travel for lifestyle events and parties. Over the past few weeks we have been in constant contact as it turns out, we are both going on a lifestyle cruise in April!

You often tell people that it’s impossible to know who the other swingers are, and as you can see, this is true! Certainly, without the jewelry, we would never have guessed. For instance, here is a couple that we have known for 8 years and never suspected.

Everyone needs to wear your jewelry. It really is the only way to know who else is in the lifestyle!

Before Partners ID was born, my husband and I had been in the lifestyle for many years.Some of our favorite lifestyle activities included going to swing clubs and a local nude beach.We traveled to Desire and Hedo and had ventured out on a lifestyle cruise. At times we checked out swinger dating sites for private party information and to meet other swingers online.

Regardless of the fact that we knew where to go to meet swingers, something was missing. We have always been proud to be in the lifestyle but we also practice discretion. It is clear to us that there are many benefits to being in the lifestyle but most vanilla couples cannot understand this. Most people are not open to the concept of swinging. For this reason, most swingers prefer to keep the fact that they are in the lifestyle to themselves.

At times we would wonder about couples we would spot on the nude beach. Quite often, we would spot an attractive couple and try to figure out if they were swingers. It occurred to us that other than flat out asking them, there was really no way to know for sure if they were in the lfiestyle.

Not long after we had started to think about this, we took a trip to Cap D’agde, the naturist resort in France.This community boasts as many as 50,000 visitors during their busiest times of year.While the majority of people who visit are nudists, Cap D’agde also attracts many swingers.During the summer months, Cap D’Agde reports that they can host upwards of 10,000 swingers at certain times.Although that sounds like a lot, it is only about 1/5 of the population at the resort.

One thing about this is very important to understand.While swingers can also be nudists, most naturists are not swingers.More importantly, many naturists are as opposed to swingers as many vanilla couples are.That creates some difficulty in an environment such as this.Swingers are all excited to mingle and meet others in the lifestyle, but how can they decipher who the swingers are without asking?

It was at this point that we started to realize that something very important was missing from the lifestyle.Swingers needed something to identify themselves to each other without alerting everyone around them.A symbol that was designed only for this purpose.It had to be too complicated to google yet easy to spot.

The decision was made to do something about this problem while on the beach in Cap D’Agde. There were 3 couples involved:one American couple, one French couple and one Australian couple. If there was a simple pendant that we could wear, that would identify us to others and others to us, this very vacation would have been so much better!

This concept made us think about other aspects of our lives.Wouldn’t it be great if we could meet other swingers in a local bar, at a grocery store, at a sporting event?There would no longer be any reason to constantly wonder if other people were swingers.

Since its inception, customers have written us hundreds of emails. They relate stories of how they have met others swingers because of the jewelry. Each note always says the same thing:“We would never have met these people if it wasn’t for the jewelry.”That is exactly why it was created.

My husband and I have been married for 10 years and although I love him, I need more sex than he does.At the beginning the sex was hot and often, but after a few years, he was happy to have sex twice a week.For a while I simply satisfied myself, but after we discovered swinging, everything changed.

Swinging woke him up sexually and that has been a positive for both of us.More importantly is that I can go to a swing club and have sex with many men in one night.My husband loves to watch and if he finds a woman he wants to play with, he likes to hear about what I was doing while he was busy.

Although I love the sex I can have at a club, I discovered what I was really looking for was the freedom to have sex with other men.As in, what I want, with who I want, when I want!

I discussed this with my husband and he told me the thought of my meeting other men for sex was a huge turn on for him!All he wanted was to hear all about it.He suggested trying to video tape encounters on my phone so that he could watch what happens.I wasn’t sure how many men would agree to this but I said I would do my best.

The only problem was, how to let men know that I am available.I work in a bank andI meet many men but flirting is frowned upon by management.We had seen your jewelry before and decided that this would be a way to accomplish this!Not only would I be able to let other swingers know that I am a swinger, but I love black men and so adding the queen of spade charm was perfect!

I did not meet someone right away but I got a lot of compliments on my necklace.One of coworkers is obsessed with it which makes me laugh.At first I thought maybe she was a swinger but she has no clue what it is.

It took a while but finally I had a bite!It was a regular customer and he simply handed me his deposit and his personal calling card together.He smiled and told me to have a nice day.I think I got wet just thinking about what this meant!I sent him a text as soon as I was on a break and he responded right away!He and his wife are swingers and they have an open marriage!He is allowed to meet other women as long as he tells his wife!

We met up for drinks the next night after work and headed right over to a motel nearby.He was not open to the video idea but said my husband could listen in over the phone if that would make him happy.The sex was incredibly hot and lasted quite a few hours.We talked about the necklace and he asked about the extra charm.I told him that I love black men (he is not) and he told me he knows quite a few from their circle of swingers.He said he could ask them to call me if I liked.This was unbelievable!Needless to say, I was thrilled!

Long story short, I have been very busy after work and wanted to tell you that the jewelry definitely works!