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https://loveandjustis.com/2018/11/27/my-fullest-expression/#respondTue, 27 Nov 2018 18:32:36 +0000http://loveandjustis.com/?p=702Continue Reading →]]>At the beginning of every year I set an intention. I have been doing this now for 4 years. I found that I don’t do well with resolutions – anything I can resist I will! I am learning what works for me in regard to goal setting and I do well with setting an intention instead of a hard and fast resolution.

I started doing this my second year into working as a Hypnotherapist/Intuitive Coach. I was invited to do a talk at a women’s breakfast, and because it was the beginning of the year, all of the attendees were asked to share what they wanted for the coming year. When my turn came I stood up and proclaimed “I want to be paid to be my true authentic self.” Up to that point, I was still doing administrative work on the side to subsidize my business so my goal was to fully support myself with my own business of being a Spiritual Intuitive and Energy Healer. That year my business did well enough that I was able to let go of my duties as an EA.

The next year I decided to take my intentions deeper so I kicked it up a notch. The goal became “to be paid handsomely to be my authentic self.” By late January of that year, I was referred to and did an intuitive reading for Arielle Charnas from Something Navy. She is a hugely popular blogger and influencer and because she shared her story of the reading I did with her, as well as being listed in Gwyneth Paltrow’s Goop Guide my business was pushed into another stratosphere and I got paid handsomely for my work last year!

This year 2018, I set a different intention, I stated to the Universe that I wanted to live a fully expressed life for the highest good of All. Well, that turned everything on its head. I didn’t realize what that would mean for my life when I set the intention I just knew I wanted to be and share more of myself, share more of my gifts to help more people and I wanted to feel deeply fulfilled in the way that I express myself. I look back on this year and the changes in my life have been really profound. Even I couldn’t have predicted them!

This year I was offered a music distribution deal, wrote, recorded and released an album, broke up a seven-year relationship and moved by myself into the woods…

Because of the intention I set for myself this year, I revealed one of the aspects of my expressive self that I had negated – music…

I am thankful to myself as I review this recent past. Thankful that I said yes to the opportunity I received in the form of a music digital distribution deal because I never would have done an album if this offer had not presented itself. Thankful for beautiful clients who are on their own journeys of discovery and thankful for the gift of being able to help them grow and heal, while I grow and heal!

Before I had left music behind and ultimately became a Hypnotherapist/Intuitive Coach I had done a couple of albums, sang on national commercials, etc. I had also been singing on Sundays at the Spiritual Center I attend, but I didn’t think I would ever do another album.

When this offer came in March of this year to work with great producers to create an album of my own music I had to say yes. I didn’t really know what I was getting myself into, I just knew what the Universe was giving me an opportunity to express myself, which is my intention!

In September I released my album JUSTIFIED. Interestingly, the whole of the album is actually the story of this year.

Through this process of living my fullest expression, I left a relationship I was in for 7 years and it was not pretty. I made some decisions that I would advise all of my clients against. I moved through so much confusion and pain. I thought before this year that this relationship was going to be my last relationship. Even though we weren’t married we talked about growing old together, it was comfortable, predictable and stable. Who, in their right mind, would leave that?

I knew though, that I had to make a change because I was “putting up with” things, I was finding myself settling and shutting down. I wasn’t expressing myself, As I continued to write and record the songs I was experiencing myself as bigger than I had allowed myself to be in a long time. Long story short, I packed up my stuff and moved to a small two bedroom cabin (my best friend calls it a chalet!!) in the high desert outside of Los Angeles.

As I contemplate what has unfolded this year, I am still grieving the loss of the relationship. I do find myself in tears at times wondering who the hell I think I am making such a bold move? I do know that I must continue to honor my heart and in doing so more questions arise – what is my fullest expression? I have so much more to share so I give it to the universe and let it guide me to the next chapter as I continue to hold space for this unfolding.

I challenge you to set an intention for yourself right now and then watch how the Universe conspires to bring it to life.

Eclipse energy can last up to 6 months and there is a connection within the cycle of the three combined so it’s not only important to be aware the energy of each one of these powerful influences individually, also notice how they are all working together in your life.

When it comes to astrology, there is a lot of information to sort through and it can be quite confusing. I am not an astrologer, but because I am an energy healer and psychic intuitive, I find that having an understanding of the overall vibrations during eclipse season helps me navigate through my day-to-day and I can also harness and direct the flow of it. This assists me in healing old traumas, getting clearer on my path, and manifesting my desires from a clearer foundational intention.

Here is a little insight and perspective to keep you pointed in the right direction while the planets do their thing!

The first solar eclipse that took place this summer was on Thursday, July 12 in Cancer. This was a time for us to develop the qualities of flexibility, adaptability, and a willingness to learn. There are still some residual energies from this eclipse and with so many planets in retrograde right now, you may find you are either in resistance to these adjustments or you’re facing judgment by others (or self) in regard to the changes you have decided to make. The key here is to be in complete surrender to process so that you can move into the new states of being with as much ease as possible. What is your current situation trying to teach you about yourself?

The Full Blood Moon Lunar Eclipse in Aquarius is on the calendar for July 27th. This arrival will help us realize the external implications of these shifts we felt from the July 12th event. It is often during a lunar eclipse that we become aware of the others’ influence. This moon is here to illuminate people’s “true colors” from another vantage point. This shift in perspective is critical — though you may not like what you see. During lunar eclipses, we are encouraged to let go of whatever is no longer in service to our soul or the greater good. This is the time to release, purge, and say goodbye. Realize now how strong you are! During this time, you will get through something that you thought you couldn’t. Opportunity for profound change to happen very quickly (on a quantum level) is on the horizon. Is there something holding you back?

A second solar eclipse will take place on Saturday, August 11th. During this time the sun will be in LEO. Connection to your true self is asking to be illuminated here – when you allow for the lessons from the previous eclipses to transform you then there is a huge opportunity for something much better can come along. Be open to inspiration. Challenges will arise when you get “stuck” in old thought patterns and behavior so the key here is to intentionally remain in the flow. If you attach to a particular outcome or get caught up in wanting to control you may experience aggression. Now is the time to stand firm in what you believe in and be open to opportunities to express yourself from this level.

My overall prescription for everything is always ‘go with the flow’ and right now this is particularly important because, by doing so during this powerful time, we will be able to seize and utilize the potent vibrations in the cosmos to help guide us to the physical manifestation of our deepest desires.

]]>https://loveandjustis.com/2018/07/20/eclipse-season/feed/0teamwork_5k-t2loveandjustisAffirmationshttps://loveandjustis.com/2018/05/23/affirmations/
https://loveandjustis.com/2018/05/23/affirmations/#respondWed, 23 May 2018 01:19:29 +0000http://loveandjustis.com/?p=528Continue Reading →]]>Some people say affirmations work, some people say they don’t. And there are a lot of experts who will tell you all of the reasons why both scenarios can be true.

What I know for sure is that affirmations have helped me!

I find affirmations are a simple way to confirm what I desire for my relationship with myself (my internal life), which in turn affects my daily experience(my outer life).

Of course, all of us would prefer to have positive thoughts running through our heads. Unfortunately, many of us have been taught to affirm negative words (as a form of self-preservation). These words became patterns of thought. To change this we just need to upgrade our internal dialogue. Doesn’t it seem clear that if you are merely “used to” focusing on the negative words the way you change the thoughts is to choose different words? Sounds pretty easy to me!!

In the forming of those new thoughts, our biggest challenge is to overcome the old ones because our mind has been literally programmed to keep the old thoughts on the same neverending repeat and is resistant to changing the record.

THE KEY TO CHANGING YOUR THOUGHTS IS TO CHANGE WHAT’S ON REPEAT IN YOUR MIND.

When you reiterate your affirmation with consistency your mind will grab onto those words and then eventually those words replace the old thoughts. It’s similar to how a song gets stuck your head. I will actually make my affirmations into a song or rhyme for that purpose – it becomes easier to remember. Plus it’s fun!

Thoughts played over and over in our mind become beliefs and beliefs show up in our biological system as feelings.

Repeating positive affirmations will cause our nervous system to experience more upbeat feelings, which in turn affects our mood and overall sense of well-being.

Find an affirmation that resonates with you and experiment by repeating it periodically throughout your day, then just notice how you feel. Do it again the next day, and again, and notice how you feel. Then do it again! And before you know it your mind will be playing a much better tune!

Here are a couple of my favorites affirmations. Please share yours!

]]>https://loveandjustis.com/2018/05/23/affirmations/feed/03loveandjustis12New Moon in Pisceshttps://loveandjustis.com/2018/03/17/new-moon-in-pisces/
https://loveandjustis.com/2018/03/17/new-moon-in-pisces/#respondSat, 17 Mar 2018 00:18:37 +0000http://loveandjustis.com/?p=655Continue Reading →]]>St Patrick’s Day this year falls on a new moon in Pisces. You may find yourself wanting to stay home and curl up with a book instead of drinking green beer with your pals. If you catch yourself daydreaming or wanting to escape the next couple of days don’t fight those urges, you can use the power of that energetic impulse to get clear about goals, heal old wounds or just generally get to know yourself more!

Wherever you land this weekend, there is one thing you must do – have compassion for yourself and others. (It will most likely be much easier to have compassion towards others so be aware of your mind chatter, what are you thinking about yourself?)

The goal of this new moon phase is to be in the flow of the energy, whichever way it shows up for you.

With Pisces comes emotions, and there is a good chance some deep wounds could get triggered. The new moon reveals the shadowy side of things and this means the darker aspects of our emotions (those parts of us in need of healing) may be experienced.

Whether you are drinking green beer or green tea, the prescription for the healing is to feel those feelings authentically, even if that means you ugly cry! It’s important that we not only identify the emotions but also allow ourselves to be with the discomfort of them. Remember feelings are always temporary and once felt will ultimately pass!

Instead of judging yourself, mindfully send compassion to your emotional pain. This pain most likely comes from childhood events and judgment won’t help you heal, it will just keep the pain alive.

Keep in mind that compassion doesn’t mean you get to wallow or make excuses, it simply allows you to get real with yourself and let go of judgment around how your life “should” be.

Notice how it different it feels when you are compassionate instead of critical? There is freedom in acceptance and this is the formula for healing.

Here are some ideas to get through the discomfort that can accompany the rearing of unwanted emotion and harness the powerful energy of the Pisces new moon:

Right now. Set an intention that this new moon you are resetting your energetic system! Remember that joyful expression in any form, when done mindfully, can reset your nervous system, these forms of expression are like saging your energetic body.

Dance and Singto your favorite music until you collapse in joyful exhaustion.

Play with children on their level, so you get back in touch with the playful side of yourself.

Plant. Plant seeds of desire by writing down your dreams and goals on a small piece of paper and burying it in the ground or in a potted plant. You can also plant actual seeds in soil with the intention that your dreams and goals are growing. Then nurture the seeds and watch them flourish!

Journal. Write about what worked in the past and what didn’t then give yourself permission to be grateful for it all, it’s brought you to this point. Are you able to be grateful for all your experiences and not just the ones you judge as good?

Meditate. Focus on gratitude for what you have and where you are. And be in joyful curiosity of the mystery of what the future holds.

Take naps. Mindfully set a time to take a nap with the intention of restoring your body and connecting to source. When we sleep we are in non-resistance so naps are good to reset your system, especially if you have had an ugly cry!

Take walks. With an open mind and an open heart, notice the sky, notice what is beneath your feet, really observe the world around you with a vulnerable curiosity.

The most important part of “DOING” is the intention you set before you take the action so choose joyfully with your highest good in mind and watch how it all unfolds!

]]>https://loveandjustis.com/2018/02/13/650/feed/0New (1)loveandjustisglumen5-videoLOAOvercoming the Need to Overcome: Why “bad” things happen to good people.https://loveandjustis.com/2017/11/11/overcoming-the-need-to-overcome-why-bad-things-happen-to-good-people/
https://loveandjustis.com/2017/11/11/overcoming-the-need-to-overcome-why-bad-things-happen-to-good-people/#respondSat, 11 Nov 2017 03:57:05 +0000http://loveandjustis.com/?p=510Continue Reading →]]>As a person who recognizes, practices and teaches the law of attraction (cause and effect) I understand that everything in our reality is a reflection of our vibrational frequency…Or let’s say the vibrational frequency we choose to dance with most of the time.

When I am asked — and I often ask myself — “Why do bad things happen to good people?” The first message from spirit is, ”There is NO good or bad, only experiences.” That’s all well and good in spirit realm, but as an experiential being, the less painful or bad things happening in my life the better!

We humans also love to analyze our way through life so here’s my explanation of it from the point of how I understand universal laws.

Let’s take the instance all the “victims” in the mass shooting in Vegas. If I again, am expressing from the context to vibrational resonance, the victims were actually not victims at all. They were all heroes. All of them collectively vibrated at such a frequency that they chose: the vibration of the “need to win” (now go with me here, it’s not a consciously motivated vibration, it’s for lack of a better way to describe it, a karmically motivated vibration) That those 22,000 people (because all of them were included in the waves of vibration of that particular experience) were there to balance out the energy of hate (darkness / shadow) that this one man’s actions represented when he made the choice to act in the moment. These people energetically (spiritually / karmically) made a commitment to sacrifice themselves for the greater good: bringing light to the darkness. All of them collectively brought this lower vibration to light to be healed.

Now let’s take an example of this happening to an individual – let’s say someone is falsely accused of something.

When someone is moving through this form of experience in life, this person is unconsciously creating events to overcome so they can feel the vibration of victory. Basically they are, through the desire to be a hero unknowingly formulating opportunities to prove they are worthy of being a hero or winner through a vibrational frequency of sacrifice. They haven’t become hip to the knowledge that they don’t need to sacrifice to be the winner!

The only way to change the story line when you are in this projected effect is to become consciously made aware of it, take responsibility for it (with no judgement) and then deliberately set a different intentional frequency (through visualizations and other tools) where you are victorious without having to first be a victim.

In order to have a fully expressed life we need cure our dependency on overcoming and the perverted need for victory. This belief is an archaic distorted masculine concept that has had us assuming there is lack in the universe. I have news for you! We have entered into an age of thriving, where survival is a given, where winning is absolute, and all we need do is choose individually and collectively how we continue to evolve.

The definition of procrastination is “the action of delaying or postponing something.” Within the definition itself we are being called to action, an action that we know we need to take, and yet we delay it, postpone it and make excuses, putting off the inevitable… there are oh-so-many reasons why we can’t get to that right now!

Fall is an interesting time of year for me.

To be completely transparent, it’s my least favorite season. For me it’s message is that winter is imminent, and whether I chose to admit it or not, summer is over. I love the summertime! I love that the sun doesn’t go down until almost 9pm. I love being outside by the pool, and most of all, I love the energy of people in general during the summer months. There is a more childlike vibration that I experience in summer. Oh summer, can’t we postpone the chill of fall for just a few weeks longer!?

During the fall I notice an energy of overwhelm creep in. I can almost feel everyone’s TODO lists filling up and there is this kind of pressure in people’s (especially mom’s) energy collectively – do you feel that too? Kind of a dreadful vibe?

As I do my own personal work, I know that this experience of the change in vibration is my opportunity to continue to be mindful. If I get tugged by the frequencies around me when I am aware, I don’t let myself get trapped by it. I ask myself, can I hold the vibration of how summer feels even as the tree’s branches lose their leaves (and some people lose their patience)?

Another message that fall brings is that nature does not procrastinate. I can’t talk the sun into waiting another hour to set so I have to surrender to the flow of it, Mother Earth adapts without resistance, surely I can as well.

If everything is in this flow, including us, what role does procrastination play in our lives – why do we even have this trait? It really doesn’t seem natural in comparison to the way the rest of the universe works. We don’t see the behavior played out in any other aspects of nature, only human nature.

Procrastination, in simple terms, is a way that the human psyche talks itself into staying the same. We don’t really like change, do we? The reason? Because change means we have to go into unfamiliar territory and this triggers fear so instead of going down the path of getting it (whatever it is) done, we decide to put it off. . . As frustrating as this can seem to our analytical mind, our systems are set up to stay the same.

Here are 5 tips to help you get stuff done and stop procrastinating;

Admit you are procrastinating when you keep putting something off. Awareness of our present state of being is the key to making a change in behavior. As you come to terms with the fact that you indeed have been procrastinating, be mindful not to judge yourself.

Be grateful for the aspect of you that does play the waiting game. When I realize that’s the part that wants me to stay safe I am able to release self-criticism because it’s my ally! The goal is to manage it better so I can use the energy to propel me forward instead of stop me in my tracks.

Set an appointment with yourself to get it done. How many times have you told yourself you will get to it when you have time and then weeks or even months go by and you still have not found the time. You have to make the time! Put it on your calendar just like you would any other appointment.

Remember you are worth your own investment. When we procrastinate we are unconsciously letting our energetic system know that we aren’t putting ourselves’ first. This is kind of an esoteric concept, but if you can tap into the difference between what it feels like when you keep putting things off and compare it to how it feels when you do get stuff done, you can understand what I mean by this. When we put ourselves first we send the universe the message that we are ready to receive more.

Celebrate your accomplishments. Taking time to acknowledge our achievements, no matter how seemingly small, creates a pathway to more motivation to get things done. It’s a way of training ourselves through positive reinforcement so the subconscious aspects of your mind that used to stall will begin to give way to the pleasure centers that enjoy reward.

As with anything, it may take some time for you to get out of the old habits, but if you follow these steps and be consistent you will experience less procrastination. And just like the seasons, you’ll be in a more natural flow, which brings ease and enjoyment to life!

With 2 eclipses this month (the lunar eclipse that took place on 7th and the solar eclipse on the 21st), as well as Uranus (8.3) and Mercury (8.12) retrograding, a lot of our “baggage” (emotional and otherwise) is going to be staring us in the face.

It will show up differently for each of us, depending on where we are in our journey so when challenges come, the more aware we are and the more we understand that “old stuff” is surfacing to be healed, not repeated, the more we will see this time as an opportunity to take a look at what is working and what is not working for us. Time to ask what can stay and what needs to be cleaned up and out?

Here are couple of tips to help you move through the intense energy this month.

1- Don’t start anything new, this is a great month to work on any ideas that have been brewing in your brain for a while now – now is the perfect time to get your ideas to the next level. Also tie up loose ends, re-evaluate plans, edit and review. How many “projects” have you started this year that still need completion? August is a perfect time to complete (or at least make great progress on) what has been waiting for your magic touch!

2- Don’t buy into the fear. Right now there is a lot of fear mongering being fueled by mainstream media, etc. When we ‘get hooked’ by these stories it puts us in a state of adrenaline *yuck! Whenever I get caught up in the fear frequency I ask myself “what is the truth?” And the truth is – right now I am safe, healthy and happy. Ahh… that feels better!

3- Do take deep breaths and become the observer of your life. Pay attention to the good stuff!

4-Do move your body – energy can get stuck in our nervous system and right now is the perfect time to bring it up to be released. It doesn’t have to be anything formal, just move and have fun while doing it. Walk, dance, swim, stretch, bounce. Your body will thank you for it!

5-Do be compassionate to yourself and others, it’s usually easier to be nicer to others than we are to ourselves so be aware of that judgemental voice in your head and be compassionate to it – it’s just a misguided part of you that wants you to be your best self.

Every cosmic event is an opportunity for us to utilize the energies in the universe as fuel for our own evolution – all we have to do is be aware and ride the waves!

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https://loveandjustis.com/2017/07/10/ebb-flow/#respondMon, 10 Jul 2017 22:33:18 +0000http://loveandjustis.com/?p=273One of the biggest challenges I observe in my work is a person’s relationship with allowing as they have a perceived belief that it is stagnation.

There is a time for action and there is a time for allowing. When we aren’t in touch with what the energy of allowing feels like we are tricked by our “monkey mind” into believing that allowing is a stop in momentum. That is when then that we will stop our own progress. By over analyzing the ebb of allowing we stop the momentum and then can’t understand why the law of cause and effect is working in the way we desire.

When we can completely grasp the knowing that flow of action and ebb of allowing are equally important aspects of the manifestation process when we are consciously creating with the law of cause and effect. In the allowing is where we are open to the receiving of our truest desires.

Without the ebb there is no flow.

Here are a few easy ways to get more comfortable with allowing:

Meditation – if you enjoy meditation, just a few minutes of mindful meditation will bring you into the state of allowing. Do not try to meditate if you have tried it before and you don’t like it. It’s okay – there’s more than one way to find inner peace!

Yoga – Again, if you enjoy yoga it is a powerful way to ground into your body.

Dance – This is one of my favorite ways to give myself permission to allow. I find I am able to get lost in music – that is what I identify as the feeling of allowing.

Read – It’s okay to get lost in a story for a while. This gives us an opportunity to focus on something that we enjoy so we give our mind an opportunity to drop the resistance of overthinking.

Nap – Sleeping for a short time will give you the opportunity to reset your nervous system. Relaxation is another way I am able to find that sense of ease and then I know I’m allowing.

Play with kids and/or animals – Children and animals always bring us into the moment because they are always in that space. Taking time to play keeps us in the now.

Laugh a lot – Laughter raises our vibration and when we are having fun we don’t have room to overthink things or be in resistance.

]]>https://loveandjustis.com/2017/07/10/ebb-flow/feed/0loveandjustisstylefinest.coFor the Love of Mehttps://loveandjustis.com/2017/06/13/for-the-love-of-me/
https://loveandjustis.com/2017/06/13/for-the-love-of-me/#respondTue, 13 Jun 2017 22:38:46 +0000http://loveandjustis.com/?p=169Continue Reading →]]>As I become more committed to making a social media presence in the ways of sharing what I do, I am noticing that “getting out there” is triggering a lot of my insecurities.

I know this may seem an obvious observation because I am sure most people, especially women, feel similar to me when it comes to showing themselves in whatever that might look like for them. But as a Certified Hypnotherapist and metaphysician I hear myself saying to myself “shouldn’t you be beyond this self critical stage of life by now?”

I begin to think of all of the young women who have grown up with a smartphone in their hands. Are they as scrutinizing and self-punishing as I tend to be? I sure hope not! But I know it’s happening. I know we are all under a sort of invisible pressure that will rear it’s ugly energy when we become vulnerable in the ways we do put ourselves out into the world.

Opening up to the inevitable fact that at some point someone is going to lash out at a post or some aspect of me is in some ways petrifying, but in other ways it’s actually completely and totally liberating.

If I am resigned to the notion that, of course not everyone is going to love my blue hair, or get my kind of energy, when I give myself permission to let go of that part of me that wants to please everybody I get to commit to being my full authentic self without apology and then the magic happens.

My clients don’t come to me for readings and counseling because everybody likes me, or because I’m a perfect size 4 and have botoxed my 49 year old face to freeze the expression out of me.

In fact, I can confidently say they are not concerned about me and my insecurities. The goal they have when they book a session is to gain insight and guidance for themselves so they can evolve and feel more joy on their own journey. As well as let go of their own fears!

They hire me because I’m great at what I do. They refer me to friends and family because of the authentic exchange that takes place during a reading and that can only happen when I am truly committed to loving myself right where I am at.

So now I can completely commit to myself that when I post images of myself in whatever format, I’m not doing it for the approval the random individuals who are looking for the flaws in me so they don’t have to face their own, but I’m sharing my authentic self with the people who “get” me and appreciate the messages that come through me.

I get to let go of that part that wanted to please and rejoice in the part of me that is already pleased by simply being me.

]]>https://loveandjustis.com/2017/06/13/for-the-love-of-me/feed/0If I am resigned to the notion that, of course not everyone is going to love my blue hair, or get my kind of energy, when I give myself permission to let go of that part of me that wantsloveandjustis