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Sunday, July 05, 2015

Chronicle Of HOPE 23

This will blow you away.....

Jesus you are awesome.

GOD FIXED MY MARRIAGE.

''Dear Stella,I thank God for the vision to start this blog.My fellow Bvs,Sdk blog is a life changer-believe it or leave it.it has given hope to the hopeless,restored relationships,saved suicidal people,brought people out of depression,name it,and its still doing more.

Most of you complained that the victims of domestic violence never came back to say how it ended or what they did.I Am back to testify that it all ended in praise.

Infact Jesus fixed it.Many people advised I should pray or I should leave the marriage.most of you know that its not that easy leaving a marriage with kids especially when you are not financially secured.

So I took the option of going on my knees.

I prayed and even when I wasn't seeing results I never gave up because I believed God was too faithful to fail me.But first I had to work on myself because my self esteem was on the low and again I had to forgive him for everything he had done to me so that God will hear my cry.

infact a lot happened but I kept faith.

On the 11th of Dec 2013,something mysterious happened.I was in the sitting room while he was in the bedroom and a call came through to his phone not knowing his son was in the next room playing game with one of his phones.But the boy said what caught his attention was"the I miss you and can't wait to be with you".

I rushed to the room on hearing the boy's cry because he was already belting him for eavesdropping.As I shielded my child from further beatings,I was now the one been pummelled for allegedly sending the boy to eavesdrop on him.

For the first time in my life with him,I had to stand up for myself and everything I could lay my hands on from his phones,tabs,laptop I was shattering it on the wall and he had to run out of the room.That night I took my kids and left to a hotel but on the way my pastor called me that I should start praying for my home that he saw a strange woman in my compound making incantations that me and my children will not have peace because she has come to take over.so I had to head back home instead of the hotel.

And when I got home he rushed out and knelt down begging for forgiveness that he didn't know what came over him and we all prayed together that night.Gradually he started joining me for midnight prayers.He confessed most of the things he had done to me in the past and how he is not proud of them anymore "that he can't beat his chest to say he has been there for me and the kids but he believes its not too late to make it up to me,that I should give him another chance".

My fellow bvs,there is no deity like the Lord Jehovah.He made everything beautiful in his time because he has all the power.

prayer still works.

I didn't send this in earlier because I wanted to be out of shock.

my in-laws think I used charm because of how their brother has changed.But if there is any charm that works its God Almighty.For 9yrs I endured my marriage but to the Glory of God am enjoying it.I never believed my husband can be a better one.Sometimes he just looks at the way we are now and can't thank God enough for delivering him and making him not to destroy his own home.

Whether we believe it or not,so many troubles in marriages are spiritual but with God one will be able to stand against the wiles of the devil because we wrestle not against flesh and blood....eph 6vs12.God changed my story and he will change yours if you believe.Do not lose hope and never give up.God will always meet you at the point of your need no matter the storm in your life.

Thank you all for being part of my life,from your encouragement here I had the courage to undergo fibroid operation last month and it was successful.Thank you Stella,your blog has been a source of blessing to my life,you are indeed a rare gem,I was a shadow of myself till I met your blog and the moment I had the courage to send in my narrative in 2013,my life changed for good.I couldn't reach out to Ms Kay when you gave me her number to call for help because she always calls when he was around and whenever I had time to call her she will be in the market or busy.But as you can see God saved me. .

This is truly chronicle of hope. God is the source of our strength, always willing to help if we come to him with perseverance. Poster, truly the institution of marriage is under serious attack, and that is why the rate of crash is on the increase. I am happy you have the last laugh. How many of us now, can endure like this. I am trying to be strong and hope my will succeed because the divorce rate is discouraging. We need the word of God as our armour and sword.

I tap into ur testimony on behalf of my sister dat God shd touch d horseband heart, his behaviour has gone frm bad to worse.d kids are not spared either. For one of d kids to comment like dis" tank God dat foolish man has gone out,we will rest until he comes back home".Lastborn

No the first thing is look well. If you make a mistake of marrying an irresponsible man, save yourself. This lady's husband knew he was being evil so when the wife gathered mind to walk, he begged. Some of these monsters will not flinch. It is not marriage when you are crying and condoning diseases and belts. In this case. She had the grace to endure AND she needed his help to cater for her babies. It is important for a woman to work or own a business in the event that you need it. God help our homes and help single sisters to be sensible in decision making.

Madame Anon 16 55, you are waiting till he kills you or your kids. Your children do not even honour their father becos he acts like an animal. What manner of holding on is this? For your sake, I pray God has mercy.

Wow dear poster may the good lord continue to keep your marriage. Mind blowing testimony. Jesus is still doing it. for those that are helpless and hopeless, dnt give up for the lord your Gos sees and know what you are passing through.

My dear sista am so glad for you ooo and I pray it continues that way . Been married for over 15 years my husband and cannot resist women , I have spoken to him , begged and prayed , the only time he gives himself a break is when he has challenges in his job and he knows when I pray situation changes and he'd go all sober .But afterwards a dog goes back to his vomit , I have decided to just ignore him and move on with my life , do things that make me happy , praying to God to send helpers and not make me depend on his sorry ass , though I have a job it's not enough . Have told him I hope one day it might not be too late for him. Elizabeth .

Women really suffer more in bad marriages. Such a shame. Elizabeth, your shock absorber must be strong. To be able to ignore him and face your life. It's not easy but you're doing it .The Lord is your strength

Running away is never the solution ..Life is indeed spiritual..When we use spiritual means from above to fight our battles the lesser powers that troubles our peace goes away...In every wrong behaviour in any human there's a demon behind it...Jesus can always fix it...Thank God its Sunday..Beautiful chronicle..

Listen. If your life is in danger, walk away. It is what woke this man up. Yours might not wake up, but know that God will help you. Don't beat a dead horse in the name of staying married. If you need a break take one and come back on your terms. Do not put you or your kids in harm's way. If this man's belt hit her son's eyes and blinded him, the story would be different. So please be careful. God will help you.

Praise be to God, every marriage has its own challenges,it can come in different forms, either from d man or women or maybe a child in d marriage has an ailment that is challenging for the parent or challenges from in laws or friends, don't listen to lies that people tell that everything is 100% ok

This God is always faithful, just call on him with sincerity and faithfulness and he will answer you...he is Jehovah everything! @ poster, I thank the almighty God for fixing it, and it shall be permanent, Amen!

May God restore the years the cankerworm has eaten in your marriage. Your testimony shall be permanent, you two shall grow old together in love, unity, harmony and above all God's perfect plan for marriage shall be yours. You two should never stop praying, now that the battle has been won, you need to remain victorious, don't give the devil a chance to steal your joy again 'cos he's a sore loser.I like your faith, keep it up. Thanks to all that encouraged you.

The husband needs to not give the devil room.even if she knacks head on the ground, if he refuses to be a good husband that home is compromised. I ask her to keep standing up for herself. God will help her

Wow! BV im so happy for the divine Restoration.Affliction shall not rise for the 2nd time.Enjoy your marriage o.I can't wait!!! I want more Babies, midnight gisting, legal sex and all the joy that comes with marriage.

He wasn't even a proper bully, d only one time u stood up against him,he was afraid.lol!so dat means if u had attempted that since,mayb ur troubles won't have been much,he knew dis fact dat was why he was bent at shattering ur self esteem..but in all we give God glory for his wisdom and grace in ur life.#God never fails

Thank you. She challenged him that's what made him scared. Which means he has always been a weak man and was just bringing her down to feel good about himself. I doubt one night of standing up for herself counts as "showing him pepper". I wish she had done it sooner.

Thank you Lord for Your endless Mercy and restoring her union. Wish I had a chronicles of hope story instead of a sad tale and trying to start afresh story but in all I give God praises. May your miracle be permanent dear

Taaah! Women taking the BS since 1600!i went back to read your earlier lamentations and I can't believe you praising God for this! For what? A man who slept with your cousin? A man who made another woman pregnant! A man who allowed his brother to disrespect you! Close your eyes and imagine if the roles had been reserved.. If your husband would have tolerated this nonsense and waited for you to change... Whether he would even prayed for you.... You think he has changed... Enjoy that false sense of security.. Your self esteem is still somewhere in the gutters...

@Ab God bless u, na only you make brain, after ready the first chronicle, I realise the poster is just plain stupid, sorry o, and please do send in the 3rd chronicle when the cheating starts again. Mtsheeew

At Anon 16:44 and the rest :I ain't no side chick, I am not from a broken home and I don't fit in any of your warped sense of description. I am a human being who understands what the love of God and fear of him is. I am a woman who's parents invested in her education and in my self esteem so I don't diminish my worth for a man like you lot would do all in the name of marriage. And to the one who said I would be treated worse ... Hahaha, you are joker! The Internet makes you people think everyone is stupid as you. You people are happy she stayed with such an idiot for 9yrs! 9yrs that he slept with her teenage cousin which is even rape? 9yrs he impregnated another woman? I mean for Chrissakes she had the Biblical grounds to divorce him! Ok ooo, since you desperate low life's no self esteem THOTS are that desperate to stay in such a pathetic excuse of a marriage, I wish you all the best!

@AB, I am with you jare. You make sense die. I just pity this poster. C'mon people.....serial cheat of a husband who went as far as sleeping with his wife's teenage cousin?????? Someone who lived in his house that he was supposed to protect? Claiming she seduced him? A teenager "seduced" him and she was just so seductive and sexually powerful that as a full grown man he was helpless and couldn't say no abi? SMH. That man is not a normal human being. After reading that part I just gave up abeg.

All throughout the chronicle she made it quite obvious that she was economically disempowered. That's the only reason she stayed. That's the only reason she stays even now. But she has managed to rationalize her reasons for staying and now labels as a miracle her husband's manipulative about-face. I am a Christian o, but I use my brain. Religion is really the opium of the people.

@Poster, I dey wait your next set of chronicles when the scales fall from your eyes. May God be with you and keep you from STDs and death-by-husband in the meantime. *omojeje*

Praise GodThis is very encouragingI love the detail. Kept prayx despite not seeing result,I worked on myself,"I prayed and even when I wasn't seeing results I never gave up because I believed God was too faithful to fail me.But first I had to work on myself because my self esteem was on the low and again I had to forgive him for everything he had done to me so that God will hear my cry.

Did I not just love dis blog and d pple? God bless dis blog for us all coming to share my testimony soon. Dis place has been like my family. Wish I can gada u all and giv u all I big kiss. Kisses to all d SDK faithful. Madam dat testimony is permanent in ur home many happy moment coming for u.

Pull urself together. Pls DONT ever regret anything, @ some point it was all u wanted! Cry as much as u want and pull ur strength from within!

There is a reason it ended. Nothing in life is a guarantee, not even marriage! People divorce. Love will find u again. Forget d Damn age! If u are buoyant enough, just know when to freeze some eggs or take in while u wait for ur own true love!

If u look within aside ur age, u too know that relationship was no longer rosy. He couldn't have pulled out if all was so well. Aren't u happy that some stress is gone for good? Honestly u know this! Just forget him and MOVE ON!

HahahahahaChaiLet me understand something, it is never the fault of your innocent husbands, it is always the fault of a strange woman.

Are you desperately looking for what you will hang onto that is the cause of your husband's philandering and abusive ways?

And as usual the strange woman is blamed. The strange woman is the cause of every married man's waka waka.

When will you guys ever blame your husbands wandering eyes and restless penis? When will you ever blame your husbands immaturity and irresponsibility on him alone?

You always let this men walk free like they are dumb, deaf, oblivious and innocent.

You better take your husband for counselling together with the prayers. Let him be counselled for a while, let his brain be worked on. Dude is an asshole and quit blaming his woes on a strange woman. Blame him.

That is how one silly married man chatted me , talking bullshit, I told him I am not interested, I don't do married men. The Silly man asked "what has being married got to do with anything? Can't we just be friends? I told him that we can't and cut him short. And this very silly ass uses his wife as dp all day. The wife will be praying against strange women not knowing the husband is a "strange man". These men goes about hitting on innocent girls, do you expect every girl to be that sensible and say No?

Make sure he has really changed and not the case of his girlfriend dumped him and he is warming up and pretending until he gets another girl.

Sorry I am being so brutal but your case is that of collective abuse that your son was included in. Maybe I am just tired of these married men running around and hitting on anything and their wives does nothing than mouth off about a strange woman holding their husbands.

Hello wives, if you need to nail his dick or tie it up. They will cheat and beat you ontop, are you a saint suffering for his sins.

Biko I am out. This one no follow for chronicle of hope. I hope this will not encourage a victim of abuse to get beaten yo death while waiting for the husband to change.

You are telling the plain truth. Our women pray for strange woman to die by fire but see no,change because the only strange person is their husband. Women, please please this man could have killed her son...Jesus Christ make una no kill your children in the name of Mrs biko. That child's blood will be on your hands but remember marriage does not get you into Heaven biko. We want marriages to prosper but we want happy marriages biko. Your husband's who cheat and beat you are at fault not any woman. Did the woman take you to the altar? Ok, those of you praying and tapping into this biko look well. This woman's case changed because she finally used the sense God gave her and challenged him. Ok o

Quicksilver no mind am,no b only strange woman,imagine d hubby kips telling her he is doin her favour by marrying her.orisirisi.and she took dis abuse for good 9yrs,naija women una no try abeg.enjoy ur new huby o aunty.wetin I knw.i jst thank jehova for my life caus most of my frnds were crying dey wanted to marry bfr 30,not minding evry other things,fine dey ended up getin maried bfr 30 to anything dat dey came across,i knw God answer prayers,while dey were prayin fr hobbies I kept praying fr job followed by evry other things,God gave dem husbands and he gav me good job bfr dey married,now dey are crying dey need jobs,dat marriag is NT roasy,wat do dey want me to do?im getin married in august and I'm alredy 32,I av a good job and I'm getin maried to not jst a handsom single guy and also vry comfortable one with good job too.my frnds kip crying to me fr moni to do dis and dat,dese are same pple dat mocked me wn getin married o,som evn called me dreamer,dey said my dream man is jst a mirage but God gave me exactly wat I av ever wanted,better dan all der husbands put togeda.d botomline of my story is dat our tongue is vry powerful,wen u are prayin pls ensure u set ur priorities right,ur future matters most,its not about today alone.im d most happiest person on earth now.

Nne you are wise. Marry well and not in a hurry. These small girls calling people Aunty Gwegs are languishing in their marriages. The happily married women like Iphie don't utter such nonsense. Women won't hear that they should look well and,pray hard. They prefer to marry and become prayer warrior and punching bag.

I discovered lately that when I am bothered and I go on my knees and pray to God, I just have this fulfillment in me. Like all is and will be well. There is this inner joy which you can't even describe. But as mere mortals, after some time, the devil will want to take away that fulfillment and replace it with anger, bitterness and so on. But keeping faith, it will be well. Not easy, but God being on our side, we shall conquer. Dear poster, do not relent. Always put your trust in God. There is this saying, ' ekpere bu ogwu m gworo'.( prayer is the charm I am using- just translated literally). As your in-laws are thinking you use juju or charm. That is how the power of God works. Good luck in your endeavors.

Honey I praise God for giving you the wisdom to fight that bully of a husband. He kept on because you say like a helpless child. Th3 change is b3cause he saw you would not condone nonsense. So I praise God for helping you stand up for yourself.

So the man goes scot free after all his atrocities. A fine example of one having their cake and eating it too. I'm all for Jesus fixing it don't get me wrong but how long do we continue to pray for these men? If everyone claims it's the demons that made me do it, then why is there hell? We are all sinners but people should be made to remember that bad decisions have consequences. Good for you poster.

Bv on the verge of walking away,stay there except your life is in danger then u can walk. The grass is not greener out there. A new one might come with different issues. Stay and pray . Things are never as they seem.

@AB @ XOXO MYSTERY una make sense,its always good to face reality,be realistic in thinking peps pls....this is no chronicle of hope,imagine all the pain,even the mad man you call horseband assault your son and you still stay put.....and why all the blame always goes on the side chick? Is it not this useless insatiable men that go after them,yet they don't ever get any blame,more reason why they'll never change.poster am not raining onyour parade ooo but i think maybe your man is broke now that's why he's pretending like he's changed,you better start snooping,no listen to Stella about no snooping infact you go need to snoop forever with this kind of man.you hear!!!!!!