An author once penned these words
about why we do things that seem hard to change:
The motivation for all personal
behavior is to produce a sense of "FEEL GOOD,"
a sense of inner peace and well being. To expect a person
to go against his desire to feel good or as good as he
can feel under any momentary condition is illogical and
irrational.
In the observation of human behavior,
one will notice every human act is a response to a
personal need. This is true whether one signs a million
dollar contract, scratches one's nose, rolls over in bed,
or just day dreams his life away. People will do things
which seem contrary to this concept, but the bottom line
is they perceive some kind of payoff which will make them
feel good. And the payoff is almost always emotional.
When you ask people why they want to be
financially independent, they might say that they could
buy things without having to worry about where the money
will come from. And when they worry, they don't FEEL
GOOD.
A drug addict, a compulsive eater, an
alcoholic and anyone with a compulsive habit will
continue with their habits because at the moment of
action they believe and feel it will make them feel good.
That is why breaking compulsive habits are so difficult.
- Sidney Madwed

Just for Today
Do I wonder at times why my SO doesn't
change something I'm angry about?
Today I'll remember that it's very hard
to make any changes that a person doesn't feel good
about.
What we learn with pleasure we never forget. - Alfred
Mercier