I Give Up

If you’ve ever uttered the words, “I give up” then this post may be exactly what you are looking for to offer some hope. I’m not going to give you a pat on the back or feel sorry for you, give a reason to justify your frustration. Rather some real reasons why we get frustrated, it’s lack of commitment.

Truth bomb, in all seriousness you’re welcome. When we are passionate about something or someone, we want everything to go right. Sometimes seeking approval for our own self worth, then we are faced with dealing with non-compliance of others. How dare they! We begin to feel discontent with the situation or others and sometimes we throw our hands in the air and say, “I give up!”. Have you ever been there? Of course you have, we all have.

Perhaps there’s a different way of looking at the situation. After all, we don’t become frustrated because others have the same passion or commitment that we do. In reality we are irritated because we have failed to communicate our passion and the importance of something to others. We aren’t looking at the situation with the same lens. Essentially we are ticked at ourselves for not expressing our message the way we thought we were. This is what I call a teachable moment.

When things do go as planned, use that as something to learn from and grow. Begin committed to something takes passion. It means that we are willing to go through the fertilizer to get the fruit, however long it may take. Perfection and commitment aren’t generally in the same recipe. They are like oil and water, yes do your best. Focusing on perfection can hold us back, be used as an excuse and is an ultimate buzz kill. That’s why passion is needed for commitment. If you’re not passionate about your mate, when the storms come, (they will come) what will hold that commitment in place? In your career or business when tough times come, deadlines, tall orders and short staff, what is going to keep you going? Commitment that is fueled by your passion.

Next time you feel yourself tensing up, take a deep breath and re-evaluate the situation. Try to connect the dots, what is the other person seeing, or not seeing, that would help mind the gap. It is a lack of education? Do they need more information? Have they heard your story? It could be that they have absolutely no connection, no past experience to pull from, thus they don’t understand why this is so important to you. That’s why it’s important to remain level headed so you can share your experience.

Trust me, I have every reason in the world to be an angry person. If I chose to be that person, where would it get me? How would my anger at people or the world move me toward a brighter and better future? How would it empower others? It won’t, never will, so why waste my time? Time is one thing we can never recover, save up or hold on to. Once spent, it’s gone forever.

Here’s my challenge to you. Next time you want to throw your hands in the air and say, “I give up!”, bite your tongue. Take an introspective look and figure out how you can take responsibility, turn the situation around and create a better situation for everyone.

Well that’s all I have for you this week. Join me next week as we continue to unpack commitment. Like what you’re reading? Please feel free to use the share buttons and spread the love with the people who matter to you.