After looking at some of the profiles, I could not stop thinking that many of them may be fake, I can not understand how come so many successful men and women are single out there, reading them has been exciting and I wonder, who has arrived to a safe harbor in their journey? Let`s review the definitions:

1. A legal provision to reduce or eliminate liability as long as good faith is demonstrated.

2. A form of shark repellent implemented by a target company acquiring a business that is so poorly regulated that the target itself is less attractive. In effect, this gives the target company a "safe harbor."

We start fron the principle that everyone is acting on good faith and that we are in a "win win" situation, applying the definitions to a relationship, has any of you got there yet? Or we are just a bunch of illusionists thinking that the love we are looking for can be here...

After looking at some of the profiles, I could not stop thinking that many of them may be fake, I can not understand how come so many successful men and women are single out there, reading them has been exciting and I wonder, who has arrived to a safe harbor in their journey? Let`s review the definitions:

1. A legal provision to reduce or eliminate liability as long as good faith is demonstrated.

2. A form of shark repellent implemented by a target company acquiring a business that is so poorly regulated that the target itself is less attractive. In effect, this gives the target company a "safe harbor."

We start fron the principle that everyone is acting on good faith and that we are in a "win win" situation, applying the definitions to a relationship, has any of you got there yet? Or we are just a bunch of illusionists thinking that the love we are looking for can be here...

And yes you are right, it is amazing to find so many nice people in paper but that maybe they are not so amazing in real life, that is my only explanation. They have those qualities but, have been cultivating themselves for too long I guess, just to find out that while doing it, they turned their heads away from their feelings, they put them in hold for later and by the time they want to start they find out it is too late because you know what you are worth and would not settle for less.

As you said, the older we get, the more we value ourselves and the more difficult it gets to share your life with someone else.... When we are young we care about looks, about cool people, about other stuff that now, when we are mature, has no value any more.

Well, thanks for sharing your thoughts BeWell.

And yes you are right, it is amazing to find so many nice people in paper but that maybe they are not so amazing in real life, that is my only explanation. They have those qualities but, have been cultivating themselves for too long I guess, just to find out that while doing it, they turned their heads away from their feelings, they put them in hold for later and by the time they want to start they find out it is too late because you know what you are worth and would not settle for less.

As you said, the older we get, the more we value ourselves and the more difficult it gets to share your life with someone else.... When we are young we care about looks, about cool people, about other stuff that now, when we are mature, has no value any more.

There are some remarkable profiles that I doubt, but I think most of them are on the level. I think some people have accomplished a great deal in their lives, but just haven't found a person they feel safe with or resonate with. The older we get the harder it gets to find the right partner, because with maturity and wisdom we better know what works and what doesn't for us.

One of Dr. Phil McGraw's descriptions of love is finding that the partner is "a safe place to fall." The way I interpret that is within a relationship people need to feel safe mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. People need to feel that the other person is on their side and isn't going to judge them, belittle them, cause harm, or leave them when they are not perfect, such as when they are in a vulnerable place emotionally or have done something stupid.

Other ways people create unsafe zones is by being too competitive, or always trying to out smart the other or win at everything including arguements. Or look down upon the other because his/her beliefs are different. Or not agree or respect their partner's spending or saving habits, etc. Or being insensitive, selfish, or just plain unaware.

I think a lot of finding a partner has to do with finding someone with the right values, patience, tolerance and understanding, good old fashioned chemistry, and good communication skills. Physical attraction is important too. When these things are in place in the right ways, then love can happen and a real relationship and partnership can be birthed. Until one finds a partner that has the right combination that makes them feel safe and loved, they choose to remain single. Just my thoughts on the subject....... BeWell

Hi Maggy,

There are some remarkable profiles that I doubt, but I think most of them are on the level. I think some people have accomplished a great deal in their lives, but just haven't found a person they feel safe with or resonate with. The older we get the harder it gets to find the right partner, because with maturity and wisdom we better know what works and what doesn't for us.

One of Dr. Phil McGraw's descriptions of love is finding that the partner is "a safe place to fall." The way I interpret that is within a relationship people need to feel safe mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. People need to feel that the other person is on their side and isn't going to judge them, belittle them, cause harm, or leave them when they are not perfect, such as when they are in a vulnerable place emotionally or have done something stupid.

Other ways people create unsafe zones is by being too competitive, or always trying to out smart the other or win at everything including arguements. Or look down upon the other because his/her beliefs are different. Or not agree or respect their partner's spending or saving habits, etc. Or being insensitive, selfish, or just plain unaware.

I think a lot of finding a partner has to do with finding someone with the right values, patience, tolerance and understanding, good old fashioned chemistry, and good communication skills. Physical attraction is important too. When these things are in place in the right ways, then love can happen and a real relationship and partnership can be birthed. Until one finds a partner that has the right combination that makes them feel safe and loved, they choose to remain single. Just my thoughts on the subject....... BeWell

Many of the people who have joined the site are avid travelers, they are sailors of the seven seas, so I wonder how many have also arrived to safe harbor in the past but have decided to keep on sailing because maybe, on the other side the waters are calmer, deeper or just easier to conquer...

Many of the people who have joined the site are avid travelers, they are sailors of the seven seas, so I wonder how many have also arrived to safe harbor in the past but have decided to keep on sailing because maybe, on the other side the waters are calmer, deeper or just easier to conquer...