Q: If you have a relationship and your mate has had a history of cheating on whomever they were with, can you believe them when they say they want to be loyal to you? I know this sounds like a dumb question. But sometimes we get in those situations.

Hope, Los Angeles, California

A: It doesn’t just sound like a dumb question it is a dumb question and you’re obviously allowing yourself to get into these situations. That’s like asking: If someone has Herpes on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday will they still have it on Monday? The answer is HELL YES, so that means the answer to your question is HELL NO! Also, the key statement is that they WANT to be loyal, they never said they would be.