9. Approaching Women In The Wrong Place

No, we’re not talking about place on the body. Not everywhere you go is a good pickup zone — you have to thoughtfully work out where you can actually approach women you don’t know. There's no point striking up conversation with a potential partner if they're already in a situation where they don’t feel like flirting; you’re dooming yourself to failure. A prime example of a potential no-go area is the gym. When testosterone is running high and you feel like you’re at your peak, it can be tempting to put the moves on someone you like the look of, but you’re actually making flirting much more difficult for yourself. If a woman is working out, she’ll be in the zone, and even more importantly, feeling really sweaty. Chatting to a stranger is likely to be pretty far down her list of priorities. Instead, it’s a safe bet to stick to bars, when women are more often than not feeling their best and already in the mood for socialising and open to getting to know people. The buzzing atmosphere in a bar also means that you can casually make conversation with less fear of rejection. It’s not all about bars, though. Friends of friends, activity groups and evening classes can be a brilliant way to meet people with whom you share similar interests. Building organically on friendship to potential dates, rather than the quick insta-fix of the drunken pickup line, will more naturally develop into a relationship (if that’s what you’re looking for).