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With so many marriages ending in divorce and so many others filled with frustration and anger, I decided to ask Spirit about marriage. (Also, my daughter recently married so I have marriage on my mind 🙂 ) Here is the answer I received:

People are meant to pair. The pairing is necessary for support in an uncertain world and for a viable environment for children. Children are more secure in a paired family.

Choosing the person who will be suitable for navigating an uncertain world requires knowing oneself. The partner should be someone who looks at life with similar hopes. Less important are skin color, religious affiliation, and sex appeal; however, devoutly religious people pair better with others who are similarly devout.

The choice of partner requires evaluation of one’s own hopes for the future and the hopes of potential partners. Physical appearance and compatible personalities narrow the choices. The partner who is chosen must make the same evaluations.

When hopes for the future are compatible, the couples can weather crises better. When hopes for the future have no common ground, crises—no matter the size—become obstacles to relationship investment. Each person must be invested in the relationship for it to flourish.

Throughout the togetherness, there will be misunderstandings, kindnesses, celebrations, sadness, expectations missed, expectations met, differences, and comfort. Those who focus on the negative aspects will be unhappy. Those who focus on the positive aspects will be secure.

Pairings that are not based on common hopes occur frequently because of societal pressures and misunderstanding about oneself. These pairings are less compatible, yet they deserve the same efforts to keep them flourishing. Common hopes can be developed over time.

No matter the reasons for pairing, each partner is active in the success or chaos that exists between the partners. Pairings that are forced are difficult to endure. Pairings that are untrue (such as homosexuals marrying heterosexuals or unions based on lies), are debilitating. Pairings are best when there is honesty in the relationships.

I have been following the Kavanaugh hearing as well as staying aware of the state of political discourse in the States. I’m a US citizen, but not a US resident, so what happens there doesn’t affect me on a daily basis.

Here is information from Spirit about leadership and the relationship of people to their leaders. I think this information is important to understand.

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“(People) must not expect more from their leaders than they do from themselves. THEY MUST NOT EXPECT MORE FROM THEIR LEADERS THAN THEY DO FROM THEMSELVES. Leaders are simply a reflection of the society they lead, no better, no worse. However, leaders must strive to balance themselves, especially when they are tempted by the benefits that come from being leaders.”

— From The Gift of Intuitive, Dedicated Comfort

Leaders are people who “…pursue public roles when they are motivated by internal desire and strength, communal support, admired role models, peer pressure, or acquisition of power.” from The Gift of Intuitive, Dedicated Comfort. Leaders take on leadership roles for many reasons, and each leader is an individual with individual motivation and individual goals. Leaders should not be lumped into a group nor should they be raised above or lowered below other people.

The people who choose to dedicate their lives to public service are placing themselves in positions of power and ridicule, privilege and expectation of purer behavior. Societal members must remember that these leaders must not be worshipped nor should they be expected to live more simply than others in their society. Each leader must be evaluated on his or her own merits and must live according to societal rules and mores. And each member of society should see himself or herself as a leader who can contribute and influence and bring forth balance in the world.

The elected officials are elected because of the rules the society has developed. Even corruption that is allowed to occur in official agencies is a reflection of the society. People who allow corruption to be part of their society are creating the society they abhor if they don’t work to stop it. Turning a blind eye to the societal troubles is equal to the work done by some elected officials to create them. All are responsible for the state of their society.

Essential tremor is medically untreatable. It is an affliction that requires lifestyle changes, not pills or electrodes or blockers. It is an affliction that requires analysis of diet, physical activity, and emotional expression. Essential tremor requires adaptation, awareness, and acceptance.

Essential tremor is a progressive affliction. Its progression can be slowed and its effects can be ignored. The progression slows in the presence of healthful lifestyle. Its effects can be ignored when they have been accepted.

Essential tremor requires compassion and patience. Loved ones who offer compassion and patience create an atmosphere of relaxation that influences tremor intensity. Coworkers who offer understanding and patience create an atmosphere of encouragement that relaxes and supports the essential tremor presentations. Friends and casual acquaintances contribute to the support when they are nonjudgmental and compassionate.

Essential tremor is overly despised. Despising it increases its presentations and progression. Accepting it slows the progression. Despising essential tremor is effort wasted. Despising essential tremor is misdirected energy. The more acceptance, the easier it is to live with. Acceptance opens the door to life lived fully.

Essential tremor has its own timing and seasons. Its appearance is influenced by internal struggles and intensities. Its first appearance is forced by genetics, deficiencies, or extended illness. Its continued appearances are the natural results of its nature.

Essential tremor belongs out in the open. Without shame, essential-tremor people can shake in front of others. It is an affliction that needs to be explained. It does not need to be hidden. It is simply a physical characteristic of some people.

Essential tremor—spread the word—is normal!

For information about living with essential tremor, see these blog posts:

Essential tremor has its own special rhythm. It differs from other tremoring afflictions in character and influence. Other tremoring afflictions reflect internal struggle that is multi-focused. Essential tremor is singly focused on nerves.

Essential tremor has its own special triggers. Each person’s triggers are different, but they all accelerate the rhythmic shake.

Essential tremor has its own special scale. The ascents are usually quicker than the descents and the speed is usually faster when the emotions are strained.

Essential tremor inspires unhappiness. The unexplainable shaking is a burden to carry, and it brings disappointments and adjustments. Essential tremor requires an ability to see beyond its annoying developments in order to live a life that is full.

People who are afflicted with essential tremor often experience embarrassing moments and disturbing incidents. These difficulties can lead to emotional reactions that exacerbate the shaking. In addition to the essential-tremor-caused emotional negativity, normal negative feelings can exacerbate the shaking. In general, negative feelings are bad for the essential-tremor shaking and contribute to the spreading of the shaking to other parts of the body.

(So I ask Spirit: Does this mean that people like me who have essential tremor must be happy all the time?) People with essential tremor require relaxed being. They must build their lives to be satisfying and free of selected anger. They must lessen stress if they want to limit the shaking intensity. Their reactions can be negative or positive, with one choice bringing side effects of the tremor and the other bringing lessened stress on the nerves that cause shaking.

(When I drive, I sometimes feel aggression which aggravates my tremor. When I do the Reset breath while driving, I feel no aggression and my calmness relaxes the tremor. See the post “Essential tremor—breathing to lessen the effects” for details about the Reset breath.)

Essential tremor is not a welcomed affliction, but it is an affliction that can be put in its place when commitment is made to maintaining emotional equilibrium.

Essential tremor is progressively expansive. It spreads because of the contagious behavior of nerves. When some nerves curve and cause shaking, their behavior is communicated to nerve centers that then remember the new behavior. When conditions are conducive for expansion of the deviated nerve behavior, the body responds by allowing the remembered curving to appear elsewhere. The newly curved nerves add to the memory of the curved behavior, which then encourage more curving in other nerves in the body.

Essential tremor is spread when the conditions deteriorate so that the body doesn’t fight the slow, or quick, proliferation of shaking. To prevent deterioration, the body must protect itself. Here are general guidelines to prevent the spread of essential tremor shaking:

Stress can cause essential tremor to spread quickly. Each person has his or her stressors that can be handled. The best stress releases include physical movement, connection with nature, resolution of personal conflicts, and removal of stressing foods from the diet (sugar, sugar substitutes, certain preservatives, allergy foods, and caffeine).

Sleep can prevent the spread of essential tremor shaking when it is sufficient.

Massage that is directed to the legs, intestines and stomach, which is received while breathing deeply, can inhibit the curving of un-yet curved nerves throughout the body. Regular massage of the body is helpful for essential tremor (as well as for many other afflictions).

Other bodywork, such as shiatsu, thai massage, and massage for fatigue, are helpful for some spreading of essential tremor shaking. These types of bodywork do not help everyone with essential tremor.

Anger and sadness can intensify essential tremor shaking. Releasing anger can slow the spread. Sadness requires efforts towards understanding and less focus, so that the sadness doesn’t quicken the spread.

Essential tremor can lie dormant throughout a person’s life or quickly affect the nerves throughout the body. Some of its features are in our control.

Essential tremor is disliked by those of us who experience its unexplained shakiness. It is disorienting, unbalancing, and embarrassing. It causes us to give up activities and it limits our control of our bodies. For us, essential tremor is a negative development.

This post that I’m writing now is being channeled from Spirit–as are all my Energy Guidance Complete blog posts. We’re going to learn about an unknown side of essential tremor, the side we are generally unable to see.

Essential tremor changes the experience of perception with each body part that shakes. When focus is not on shaking, perception is heightened for other senses. The dominant sense has heightened sensitivity and the other senses have opportunity for development. (Note that each person has one or two dominant senses: hearing, sight, taste, etc.).

When focus transcends the shaking, internal dialogue can be used for opening to self-acceptance (an ability that many who do not shake also do not have). The self-acceptance of a person with essential tremor is a heightened self-acceptance. It enables moving beyond the tremor onto exploration of other gifts and talents. No longer being able to do some things leads to ability to do other things. Abilities are fluid and accessible, and essential tremor is a conduit to newness, when the essential-tremored person is willing to look beyond.

This information comes from Spirit to help us see beyond our affliction. It is not meant to placate, but is meant to inform.