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School asked 12 year olds what birth control they use

Some Massachusetts parents are upset after learning that their
adolescent children participated in an in-class survey that asked a series of explicit
questions regarding sex, drugs, and rock and roll.

Ok, not really that last one.

One of the questions was “What method of birth control do you use?” with
withdrawal listed as one of the options. What twelve-year-old even knows what
withdrawal means, let alone how to use it as (ineffective) birth control? Other
questions on the survey probed kids on the frequency of their sexual activity,
the kinds of drugs they’d experimented with, and whether or not they ever had
suicidal thoughts.

If one of the students wrote, “Well I didn’t before I was forced to fill out
this embarrassing questionnaire,” in answer to the suicide question, I will buy
him or her ice cream for a year. Because that’s what kids should be doing –
eating ice cream, climbing trees, complaining about homework, and nervously
giggling in the presence of the opposite sex. Not filling out sex surveys.

School officials say they had no choice as to whether or not to administer
the survey, as it was tied to a federal grant.

Principal Fran Thomas told Fox News Radio that students were indeed given the
survey – and admits it was graphic. But Thomas said the school has nothing to do
with the content and they were required to administer the survey to fulfill a
grant requirement.

“I can take no responsibility for what’s on that survey,” Thomas said. “It’s
not generated by the school system.”

Thomas said the survey was funded by a federal grant and administered by LUK
Inc., a local social services agency -- in coordination with the Centers for
Disease Control.

Baloney. The government made me do it is the lamest excuse ever. To
quote moms everywhere: If the government told you to jump off a cliff, would you
do it? The principal could have told the LUK Inc. no, and if the grant money was
withheld, the local news team could have been alled in faster than you can say
STD prevention.

As parents, we count on our schools to keep an eye out for our kids while
they are there. That includes protecting them from graphic material that isn’t
appropriate for their age group. It also includes looking for signs that a
student may be experimenting with sex or drugs, and scheduling a meeting with
the kid’s parents to determine if they’ve noticed a change in behavior as
well.

Parents and teachers need to work in better harmony to create the best
learning environment for our children. One that doesn’t include asking
middle-schoolers how often they engage in oral sex.

That's absurd. Grant or no grant, since it had to do with sexuality, they should have had to send home a form that let parents know they were doing it and gave parents the ability to opt out of it (just like they have to do for the regular sex ed once a year boys in one room girls in another 'facts of life' talks) beforehand. As for it being graphic so it had no place there, I agree - why the school didn't review it first and challenge it is beyond me, when they're removing things like "Tom Sawyer" and other literary classics for things that are no longer considered politically correct.

I don't think it was appropriate however I do know many 12-14 yr olds who are quite active and have bizarre ideas of what will keep them from getting pregnant. One of my neighborhood kids told me that if a boy runs his penis under warm water before they have sex then that would stop her from getting pregnant and this is why they have sex in her dad's hot tub. Apparently many kids aren't getting the talk at home because many parents don't think they even know what sex is. when I was 12 I was playing with barbies and thought boys had cooties but unfortunately that's just not the place we live today. And many of them know the pull out method and think that its fool proof.

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