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Rejection is a part of life, both personally and professionally. We all face it and it’s unavoidable. But, it’s also a great learning opportunity. Whether it’s about your self-confidence or how you interact with people, what’s important is how you learn to get over it and what you take away from it. Believe it or not, it takes some practice but learning how to deal with rejection comes down to 5 simple factors.

Accept It

Know that it’s a part of your romantic life and you will have to deal with it. The sooner you accept it and know that you will grow stronger from it the less power fear will have over you.

Learn From It

Make sure you take away something from the rejection. Whether it’s learning from a mistake you made or that a particular someone wasn’t right for you, rejection can be a powerful learning experience.

Give It Time

Getting over rejection takes time, so be patient. Focus on yourself – your health, fitness, mental strength and you’ll emerge stronger and better. Don’t beat yourself up after a short period of time, time heals all, as the old saying goes.

It’s Not The End Of The World

Yes, it’s a terrible cliche but it’s absolutely true. Lean on your support group of friends and family and try to take a step back and look at the big picture. Every person you probably admire has been rejected and moved on to do great things and you can too!

Get Rejected More Often

Getting rejected more often is actually a good tool. It actually makes it easier to deal with and helps you understand and move on more quickly. Also, getting rejected means you’re taking risks and living life to the fullest.

We all deal with insecurities and doubt, it’s a part of life. But we’re here to tell you that you’re probably not giving yourself enough credit. Being confident takes some work, but here are 5 reasons why you’re actually more attractive to women than you think.

You Actually Are – Many of us have a tendency to naturally underrate ourselves. In fact, studies have shown we are actually scientifically 20% more attractive than we may think. So give yourself some more credit, it’s true.

Attractiveness Isn’t Just Physical – Personality, sense of humor, kindness, being well-spoken, all of these non-physical factors have an immense effect on how attractive you are perceived to be. That’s why it’s all the more important that you cultivate these qualities as well as physical ones.

You Care About Yourself – You’re watching this channel so you’re immediately ahead of the game because you care about your style and appearance and are willing to put some effort into them. Caring about these things not only makes you more attractive than you probably think, but it also puts you head and shoulders above a lot of other men.

Your Perception is Warped – We live in a world dominated by perfection and social media and this has given us a warped sense of who we are. Absolutely nobody is perfect, but celebrity culture and internet culture has unfortunately made us think we need to be, but it’s simply not true. The fact is, most average people are attractive by any normal standard, yourself included.

You Can Always Improve – Many of the traits that make up so-called “attractiveness” are things you can learn and get better at. It just takes putting your mind to it and making the effort. Confidence and self-improvement are sexy and they’re things every man can work on.

Some people are born with it, some people aren’t, but confidence is definitely something that anyone can have. It just takes some work and a positive attitude. Confidence can help you in all facets of life, from dating to professional settings, so that’s why we’re sharing a few tips on how to be more confident.

Identify self-limiting thoughts/actions

Whether you work through it on your own or with a professional, getting clarity on where you lack confidence is an important step in changing it. Whether it’s facing your fears or understanding where negative thoughts come from you’ve got to know where you stand to improve.

Know The Truth: You Are Great

We all have self-doubt, it’s part of life, but confidence starts from the inside out, and working on loving yourself and recognizing your own great qualities is a key point in becoming more confident.

Talk To Yourself

This might seem a bit weird at first but it really works. It can take many forms from mantras you say to yourself at the beginning of the day to just giving yourself a pep talk before a big date or job interview, putting yourself in the right frame of mind can really help you feel more confident.

Practice

Confidence takes practice. From consistently working your own processes to just interacting with people on a regular basis, practice makes perfect. The more you work on it, the better you’ll get.

Be Positive

Confidence also starts with a positive outlook. By cultivating a positive outlook on life, social interactions, work, etc. you’ll be able to focus on being genuinely happy with yourself and others

One final point, know the difference between confidence and arrogance. There’s a fine line between being confident and cocky. Confident people are engaging and fun to be around, arrogant people come off as disingenuous and rude. Yes, it’s important to know your worth but you never want to think you’re better than anyone, projecting the right type of confidence will bring people to you whereas arrogance can just turn people off.

Whether it’s in a dating scenario or socially at a party or event, small talk and conversation skills are things that take practice to master. Outside of feeling comfortable with yourself, knowing what not to talk about is super important if you’re going to hit it off well and just generally be someone fun and interesting to be around. So do yourself a favor, make sure you’re not bringing up any of these major no-no’s when chatting up the next women you meet.

Politics

Let’s not sugar coat it, we’re living in divisive times and no matter what side of the fence you’re on, bringing up politics on a first date or in a social setting is an absolutely huge “NO”. Just don’t do it.

Your Ex

No matter what type of dating scenario you’re in when you first meet someone, no woman wants to hear you go on an on about how great (or terrible) your ex was. Yes, there’s a time and a place to discuss past relationships but the first few dates or conversations is definitely not one of them.

Religion

Just like politics, we’re living in complex times and religion can be a very personal thing. You want your social and dating conversations to be light, fun, and interesting, not heavy and serious. Hold off on the religion talk until well into a relationship.

Work

Yes, of course, talking about what you do for a living is perfectly normal and natural. BUT, a minute or two is enough! We don’t want to hear you go on and on about your job, how you “crush it”, “close deals” or whatever else, it’s boring, move on.

Yourself

Yup, I said it. So yes, talking about yourself in the right way is critical, but it’s how you do it that matters. Do we want to learn more about what makes you unique and cool? Yes, absolutely. But do we want to hear you go on and on about your car, how much money you make, or how big your house is? Hell no. Confidence is great but being self-involved and arrogant is a huge turn-off.

We’ve discussed understanding a women’s body language and how to talk to women before, and flirting is just as important. While flirting is an essential skill there’s a fine line between suave and charming and just plain creepy.Follow our tips about how to flirt with a woman and you’ll be as smooth as Ryan Gosling from Crazy, Stupid, Love in no time.

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