BlackNEKS – Keeping it Ruggedhttps://blackneks.wordpress.com
Celebrating the alternative black manhoodSun, 18 Feb 2018 05:04:00 +0000enhourly1http://wordpress.com/https://s2.wp.com/i/buttonw-com.pngBlackNEKS – Keeping it Ruggedhttps://blackneks.wordpress.com
Paula Deen and the Problem with the Good Ol’ Dayshttps://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/06/28/paula-deen-and-the-problem-with-the-good-ol-days/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/06/28/paula-deen-and-the-problem-with-the-good-ol-days/#respondFri, 28 Jun 2013 08:28:14 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=329Continue reading →]]>As you all know, the butter has hit the fan for the Paula Deen empire. Her admission of using the N-word in the past in jokes and conversation, as well as a desire to give her son a true South plantation wedding with Black servants in white suits, did her in. There is also a discrimination law suit filed by a former White employee which brought all of this into the light of day. Paula has done her best to apologize but with sponsors dropping left and right, the damage is done.

I don’t know what is Paula in Deen’s heart. I do know what is in her cookies and cakes and that alone should be a crime, but that’s another matter. Here is the problem with all of this: how do we punish people today for wrongs which were done in the past. She said that it has been a very long time since she had used the N-word. I’m not saying all have, but if you wanted me to bet on any elderly White woman from the deep South having used a racial slur at lease once in their lifetime, the odds would be heavily in my favor. If using racial slurs isn’t part of her current behavior and she is regretful of her past ignorance, why can’t we move forward? Why is she being attacked as if this is who she is today? Our three most recent Presidents have admitted past marijuana use, yet we accept that as a misstep that no way reflects on who they are today. But when it comes to past racial ignorance (so many confuse this with racism), we are so quick to have a lynching.

We should, however, discuss a different issue coming out of this PR disaster. Southern Whites still have this habit of romanticizing all things Dixie. Paula Deen’s desire to have a real plantation wedding, with respectful and profession Black waiters (ahem…servants) goes to the heart of this problem. In their heads, they imagine a problem-free existence of Godly folks, cold lemonade, gentlemen and ladies, large porches and beautiful homes, and happy Negroes with a sole aim to please their loving caretakers. This is what the confederate flag represents to them: all things good and right and proper. And like Paula Deen’s cooking, this dream world looks good drenched in butter and deep fried, but underneath the surface was a foundation of heartache and death. I don’t think these Whites see themselves as racists but simply desiring a better, happier past. What they fail to grasp is that loving Dixie wonderland of the good ol’ days means loving the racial system those days were built on.

]]>https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/06/28/paula-deen-and-the-problem-with-the-good-ol-days/feed/0da99perzentA View of the IRS Scandal You Won’t Read Anywhere Elsehttps://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/17/a-view-of-the-irs-scandal-you-wont-read-anywhere-else/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/17/a-view-of-the-irs-scandal-you-wont-read-anywhere-else/#respondFri, 17 May 2013 02:41:25 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=324Continue reading →]]>You have to love the politics in Washington. Any slip up or sign of blood and the sharks converge without mercy. So, the latest news inside our seat of government involves lower level IRS officials needlessly delaying or deny non-profit tax status to applying groups with conservative sounding names (tea party, patriot, GUNS-GUNS-GUNS). Of course the republican and conservative talking heads are rallying the troops and tying it directly to Obama. At worst, this was a move sanctioned by the White House, though there is zero evidence of this. At best, Obama appears to be too distant to know the chaos happening under his watch.

Well, I’m sorry, conservatives, but there is no grand conspiracy here. The truth of the matter is that a unique set of circumstances led to this pattern of discrimination. No major media outlet will point this out because it isn’t PC but is obvious enough that Blackneks is on the case. First, you have to understand the demographics of DC. Politics and government is the biggest employer in town. This is what attracted thousands of Blacks from the South looking for good paying jobs with terrific benefits. The draw was so big that the city became known as Chocolate City. Most of the entry and middle level government positions, including those in the IRS, are fill by Black workers. And the large majority of these are democratic voters. Now fast forward to today, where you not only have a democratic president, but the first Black one as well, and you can see how the IRS unofficially became an Obama fan club by default. With the independent power that this branch of government, the bias against those groups with anti-Obama agendas simply was a unique convergence of demographics and history. This was a case of Obama fans with low level power using it to support the Prez without anyone telling them to do so. Sadly, people will be fired over this, and the scandal will cast a shadow over the Obama term, but the President was more of a bystander than a conspirator. A major flaw in how the IRS works has been exposed and should trigger needed reforms, but there is nothing more to the story than that.

]]>https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/17/a-view-of-the-irs-scandal-you-wont-read-anywhere-else/feed/0da99perzentEvil Race Statistics and Why the NAACP is IRRELEVANT.https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/16/evil-race-statistics-and-why-the-naacp-is-irrelevant/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/16/evil-race-statistics-and-why-the-naacp-is-irrelevant/#commentsThu, 16 May 2013 00:12:10 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=321Continue reading →]]>There are many people and organizations which dread the end of systematic racism. Fighting against racism has fueled their power and filled their coffers. One of the easiest means to perpetuate great racism conspiracies is to use statistics and leapfrog to fearful conclusions. 50% of the prison population consist of Black males; well this is obviously because white vans drive through urban cities in the middle of the night and snatch up innocent Black men with nets. It can’t be because of complex internal problems which need to be addressed? High rates of single, Black motherhood….this is only because the racist government agencies which prevent Black couples from getting marriage certificates as easily as White couples can get them.

So, USAToday yesterday published an article discussing high rate of school suspensions amongst Black students compared to others. What makes these statistics evil is that the media never provides any context but simply takes in interviews of people representing racism dependent groups, who predictably make the leapfrog conclusions which help further their agenda. When the reporter asked the leader of the NAACP of Tennessee, Gloria Sweet-Love, what she thought of the statistics, she said they were ‘appalling’. This is great as they are appalling and would her next comment be about the need to address the internal issues which are causing Black kids to get suspended? Sadly, no.

Sweet-Love believes that white teachers are more likely to deem a black student “threatening” instead of simply disobedient, and therefore more likely to “make an example” by suspending a black students.

Of course this complete ignores the large number of suspensions in schools with mostly Black teachers and administrators. It also assumes that school staff simply ignore the times Asian, Hispanic, and White students engage in fights, bring guns to school, or engage in other standard violations of school policy. But here in lies the reason why the NAACP is completely irrelevant to solving the issues afflicting the Black community. To remain popular, they ignore the obvious and spend time and effort chasing external racism ghost. A Black kid shoots another Black kid over a pair of sneakers and nothing is mentioned. But, a Black couple gets an undercooked hamburger by a White owned restaurant and a week long protest and boycott is organized. I’m not even sure what solution race baiters could come up with if suspensions are based on systematic racism. Should 100% of the White, Hispanic, and Asian kids be suspended for fights and bringing weapons to school but only 25% of Black students? This would certainly make the statistics look better but hardly address the underlying problems. If Black America is going to make progress for the future, it won’t come from these traditional organizations dependent on creating racism monsters where there are none. Furthermore, the dangling race statistics published by media outlets amount to irresponsible journalism. It is the equivalent of yelling fire in a movie theater to see what happens.

]]>https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/16/evil-race-statistics-and-why-the-naacp-is-irrelevant/feed/1da99perzent3 Girls Rescued In The Most American Neighborhood Everhttps://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/09/3-girls-rescued-in-the-most-american-neighborhood-ever/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/09/3-girls-rescued-in-the-most-american-neighborhood-ever/#respondThu, 09 May 2013 02:10:05 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=317Continue reading →]]>News can be a real bummer most of the time. Earthquakes, murders, rapes, and so on. So we can all celebrate the rescue of 3 young women kept in sexual slavery for 10 years,

But there is something else that stood out to me. Check out the video below and you will see the man who helped rescue the girls, Charles Ramsey, and the people making up the neighborhood. In this happy ending story of three girls , two White and one Hispanic, saved from a monster of Hispanic ethnicity with the help of a Black man, you can’t help but think what a uniquely American canvas this was. And in the video you clearly see the beautiful ethnic rainbow of people all showing concern and love for these missing girls. I don’t know how your neighborhood looks now, but that Cleveland community is very much representative of what every place soon will look like in the next 20 years. I don’t understand why so many people are trying to fight it. It is inevitable. So, we all need to be prepared to enjoy some salsa with our ribs.

I know companies like to strive for diversity, and showcasing minorities in commercials is an easy way to achieve this, but I officially would like to let the fried chicken people off the hook.

You no longer need to feature Black people. Honestly, we know what you serve and there is no threat of mass Black vegetarianism. How about pursuing that growing Latino market? You see, there are two food groups which have been ridiculously linked to Black folks : watermelons and fried chicken. Both of these foods are of Southern origin. Back during slavery, slaves were fed such high end cuisine as the feet and intestines of pigs, tails of cows, and greens growing wild. Understandably, when foods of higher quality were given or obtained by slaves, they were consumed with great enthusiasm. Thus, I suspect that the stereotype of Blacks having some kind of maddening love with watermelons and fried chicken simply developed during observations of these ‘luxury’ items being consumed. Of course, as Blacks migrated North, they carried their accustomed cuisine taste with them, further supporting the stereotype amongst Northern Whites.

What’s always struck me as strange is that Southern Whites love fried chicken a great deal, and almost every household in the South knows how to make it. So, all of these chicken franchises must be making the bulk of their money from Northern Whites. When it comes down to it, everyone loves fried chicken. Nonetheless, I, like many other Blacks, feel slightly uncomfortable with the topic of fried chicken in public. I won’t even eat it around other Whites. Which takes be back to these commercials. Every time I see one on TV, it makes me cringe just a little inside. Dave Chapelle explains it best. Black people eating burgers…sure. Tacos?….great. But fried chicken…please someone change the channel.

]]>https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/03/kentucky-fried-noooooooo/feed/0da99perzentJason Collins..a Hero?https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/03/jason-collins-a-hero-maybe/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/03/jason-collins-a-hero-maybe/#respondFri, 03 May 2013 00:47:12 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=309Continue reading →]]>As most of you have heard, an active NBA player recently came out as being gay. No matter what people say, this IS a big deal as there are certain sports which promote a culture of ultra machismo. Jason Collins is a minor role player for the NBA’s Washington Wizards who has just come to the end of his 12th season. He was engaged to a beautiful woman before breaking the news to her as well.

So, what is the Blacknek angle on this story? A large number of people inside and outside of the NBA, including President Obama and Kobe Bryant, have congratulated Collins on his decision to come out. People have even compared his bravery to that of Jackie Robinson. I am glad that Jason Collins has come to terms with who he is and is no longer under the burden of trying to live a lie. I, also, understand why he would be considered a hero to in the closet, gay male athletes worldwide. I don’t want to lessen anything from his personal struggle, but let’ s be clear. This is not a Jackie Robinson situation.

Jackie Robinson was a Black man trying to play in a White league in a society in which Blacks weren’t supposed to integrate with Whites in any way except in clearly defined roles of subservience. He could not come out of the closet because he was born outside of the closet. Now, if Jason Collins came out 20 or even 10 years ago, at a time in which 60% or more of Americans disapproved of homosexuality and gay couples, I would predict that he would have had an even worst experience than Robinson. But we live in a new world. Time magazine recently declared the fight for gay marriage and approval of gay lifestyles all but over. Only a minority percentage still disapprove, and even these know that they better not express their opinions too publicly. The one pro athlete with a negative response to Jason Collins, Mike Wallace, was so swiftly attacked by the public that he deleted his Twitter post in hours. Looking at the situation objectively, for an aging, low productivity support player reaching the end of his contract, his media declaration of his sexuality could be considered a brilliant career move. With a few spoken words, he has moved from a nobody on a nobody team to a national role model, with calls from the President and celebrities, talk show invites, book offers, and endorsements. And how can the Washington Wizards not offer someone now declared an American hero a new contract. I will say strongly that I have no idea if any of these alternative motivations played a role in Collin’s decision to come out as a male athlete, but there has never been a better time in the nation’s history to do so. But while Collins has a surfboard just at the peak of a cultural wave, Robinson’s journey involved rowing a rowboat into a perfect storm surrounded by sharks. Jason Collin has helped lay the groundwork for other current and future gay athletes to no longer hide who they are, and for this he deserves all the praise given, but let’s just keep prospective.

]]>https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/05/03/jason-collins-a-hero-maybe/feed/0da99perzentIn Honor Of Boston’s Heroeshttps://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/in-honor-of-bostons-heroes/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/in-honor-of-bostons-heroes/#respondSun, 21 Apr 2013 02:47:14 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=305Continue reading →]]>Tragedies have a way of testing the resolve. The people of Boston and the men and women of law enforcement were tested in recent days with the terrorist act of the Boston marathon bombing. Though lives were lost, the threat was quickly resolved and we are left with further admiration for everything this country stands for and those who risk their lives to protect it. In honor of them, Blackneks wanted to highlight another hero who gave his life in Boston fighting for our freedom – Crispus Attucks.
]]>https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/in-honor-of-bostons-heroes/feed/0da99perzentA Letter To Young Black Womenhttps://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/a-letter-to-young-black-women/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/a-letter-to-young-black-women/#respondSun, 21 Apr 2013 02:32:46 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=298Continue reading →]]>Recently in the news was controversy from a letter a former Princeton alumnus wrote to the young women on the campus of Princeton. In short, it advised these women to select a husband before they were done at the school because they will never be around so many smart, promising, and available marriage prospects again. I really didn’t understand what the big deal was since she is absolutely right. There is no place like a high end college to be surrounded by future doctors, lawyers, and engineers untouched by divorce, kids, settlements, or any other drama or anchors. You, also, get to see what kind of friends they have, what kind of activities they are involved in, and how do they handle themselves in a sexually liberated environment. It is like picking a strawberry straight from the field versus buying one listed on Ebay.

However, the number of Blacks who end up in high end colleges or any colleges for that matter is much smaller than with Whites and Asians, meaning the Princeton advice wouldn’t have a big impact unless modified. Though you don’t think of high school as a time to think about marriage, with the large numbers of Black and Hispanic teen mothers, we are engaging in marriage-based behaviors anyhow. So, why not get our young people thinking about someone they could meet in high school who might just be the ONE. On that note, I present the Blacknek version of the Princeton letter:

A Letter To Young Black Women

Prelude: I am not young. I am not a woman. But as a Black man I have grown up with Black women, attended predominantly all Black schools, and grew up in a predominantly Black city. So, these qualifications for daring to write this open letter may be sufficient for some, insufficient for others. With that said, let me begin.

Young Black Women in High School,

The future is yours. You exist in a time created by decades of protests, activism, and blood. You live in a land millions want to enter, despite its flaws and shortcomings. You claim citizenship under a government with a leader who shares your skin and your culture and with first ladies and first daughters whom share your lips, noses, eyes and essence. Make the decisions now to make your future bright.

High school is a time in your lives when things suddenly get real. Your style becomes your everything. Your body development starts to drag you out of childhood, rather you like it or not. Picking and being accepted by the right crowd of girls seems to be the most vital part of existence. And very importantly, talk of love and relationships changes from holding hands and kissing to sex and the future. On this last novelty rest the greatest stumbling block to your futures. No matter what your parents may want to accept, you know from all of the attention and desires of the opposite sex that you are a sexual creature now. Wise decisions at this point in your life will save you a lifetime of heartache, disappointment, and shortcomings.

The family problems we are facing are cyclical. Fathers who abandon sons create sons who think it’s normal to abandon their future children. Daughters of such fathers grow up to accept and even desire such men, who offer good times now with little prospects of a stable and reliable future. And the cycle continues one generation after the next. Young Black women, there are a class of boys who think with nothing else but their crotch. They see no long term future and only live for the here and now. They are often very handsome, very confident, very charming, very well dressed, and know just the right things to say to flatter you…to make you feel like a queen.

I’m not going to be an unrealistic moralist and advise you to live like a saint in high school, because our culture and times are beyond that ideal. BUT there is a big difference between having an occasional, youthful indiscretion at a party with proper protection versus putting your entire future in the hands of some clown by risking pregnancy and STD’s. All teens are led by hormones but there is a greater problem within our culture. The perception of a lack of available men and great competition has created a pressure to be the ‘baddest chick’, meaning not to be outperformed sexually by any other. Thus, why make a big deal about condoms when he might move on to a girl that let’s him go raw. Plus, there is this idea that getting pregnant might help to make the relationship permanent and turn the players into a responsible partner. Young black women, don’t sell yourself short by chasing such delusions.

Here is your secret for finding long term happiness with a young man: look at how he handles his school work. School is free and is the first level of responsibility this society ask of a person to fulfill. Education is the first stepping stone to a long term, productive life. Any young man who throws this away is not planning for the long term. Unfortunately for you, this means getting pregnant by such a man is almost a guarantee of raising a kid by yourself. You can’t change a boy/man who has been avoiding responsibility all of his life by presenting him with fatherhood. If you can hold off on getting serious with anyone until you get to college, that would be even better. Even here you need to make sure the young man is taking his academics seriously and not just there on a sports scholarship. But if college is not in your future, then you have to look at high school as your best chance to secure a high quality man. It is in this setting where you can see his work ethic and character, his interest in monogamy or being a player, how much of his money is he blowing on high fashion clothes, and what kind of friends and company he likes to keep. You won’t ever get such a clear picture meeting some guy in the club or through an online profile. You don’t have to have marriage or a serious relationship on your mind, but make a list at least of some of the high school boys you might just want to reconnect with in a few years. Thanks to social media, it is easier than ever to see how someone is progressing in life and what their current dating status might be.

Young black women, it is time to get out of the change and reform game. We celebrate single Black mothers in our culture, and the work they have to do is admirable. But what none of our leaders are really harping on is that 90% of these situations are avoidable if smarter choices were made. When you look at a young man now, you should ask yourself ‘Does he have the core qualities of a responsible father and provider?’. You won’t change the player or the baller. If the guy has so perfected bravado, smooth talk, and swagger that he can convince you to sleep with him after a very short time, do you think he is going to put those skills in retirement. The ugly truth is that for such men/boys, the female is nothing but a conquest. The class clown in school will be a class clown in life. The player will always play. Pregnancy nor persuasion would make a permanent change is these men. They live expecting to die young. And clowns and players are always the same, generation after generation. Just looking at the men in the videos below, you can’t help but wonder why any woman would risk pregnancy by them and what on Earth made her think they would have any interest in fatherhood or faithfulness. Stop the cycle and raise your standards. There are a group of Black women out there that swear there are no good Black men left. These are usually women who have spent their whole lives chasing after players, hoping unsuccessfully to bring them to true manhood. Good Black men are out there, but you need to know what to look for and make your move early so that you avoid following the paths of these women.

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https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/21/a-letter-to-young-black-women/feed/0da99perzentA Look At Blackness In Chinahttps://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/a-look-at-blackness-in-china/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/a-look-at-blackness-in-china/#respondThu, 04 Apr 2013 05:20:16 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=296Continue reading →]]>I find the story below very insightful. Race is a complicated thing and in places lacking any real diversity, every racial interaction is a learning experience for all. It brings out curiosity and shows our common humanity, but can also reveal deep roots of ignorance and intolerance.
]]>https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/a-look-at-blackness-in-china/feed/0da99perzentA Look At Fair Skin Obsession In Indiahttps://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/a-look-at-fair-skin-obsession-in-india/
https://blackneks.wordpress.com/2013/04/04/a-look-at-fair-skin-obsession-in-india/#commentsThu, 04 Apr 2013 05:12:31 +0000http://blackneks.wordpress.com/?p=294Continue reading →]]>In most places on Earth where you find brown populations, you will also find a color gradient ranging from fair to dark. Though this sometimes came about naturally as different related ethnic groups mixed, often, the fair coloring was provided by their European conquerors. A common impact of European colonialism is the desire for those conquered brown populations to have the features of their conquerors for social advancement. Lighter and Whiter means more beautiful and desired. Though you would think that such thinking would be a relic of the past, apparently it is alive and well in India.

The British were the colonial power which took control of India. The vid belows gives you the history basics.

What I didn’t know until recently was how obssessed Indian communities still are about fair skin color. In fact, on one radio program I heard recently, I learned that some people from India even avoid sun exposure unless they get a tan. The point of this is to learn more about how brown is viewed outside of America. If you are a Black person traveling to or doing business in India, you might very well be negatively judged based on the complexion of your skin. Below are some videos to give you a good sense of what’s going on.