18 June 2014

How to Deal with Mean People

We've all come across mean
people now and then. There might be a person you perceive as being
mean at work, college or elsewhere – and it's difficult to avoid
them. There are ways for you change your perception of the mean
person and their actions, to literally create a shield around you and
prevent you being affected by their words or actions. You needn't rid
them from your life or give them a piece of your mind, you in fact
can rise above it. It's best not to think of anyone as 'mean' because
there are probably reasons why they're negative in the first place.
How to deal with mean people is quite simple, and in the end you can
benefit by becoming a more spiritually advanced and balanced person.
You can also help the 'mean' person become more positive in the
process!

Part of your spiritual
awakening is realizing what really matters in life and therefore
finding some inner peace. Being able to deal with mean people more
easily is a further result of this new way of thinking.

How to Deal with Mean People:

No One Can Make You
Feel Bad

Know that no one can make
you feel bad, it's how you allow
yourself to feel. If your neighbor is being rude to you, it's not
their words that are hurting you, it's you allowing the words to make
you feel hurt.

You
control your own mind, and you can gain total control over your
emotions given enough time and practice. Hear the words but manage
your own response. Allowing yourself to feel hurt, upset or angry is
rewarding the negative behavior and feeding it. Remember you're in
control of your mind, body and spirit –
not your neighbor.

Negative
emotions bring your energy vibrational level down, and send your
energy centers out of balance. So take control and decide your own
feelings, do not let them decide who you are. For example, if you
start to feel upset, stop and think; 'I am going to take charge of
that emotion'. Willfully change the emotion to that of pride,
because you are proud
of yourself for not rising to the provocation.

Words Are Not Things

If someone is verbally
insulting you, or presents body language that's socially
unacceptable, such as turning their back on you when you're speaking
to them – know these actions are meaningless, and not physically dangerous objects. The point being, a knife or a
gun can hurt you, those you need to worry about. But words and
actions can only hurt your pride, damage your ego or sense of self,
and hurt your feelings. The words or gestures being used to attack
you are harmless energy vibrations of a negative frequency, and you can
easily counteract them with positivity.

Realize The
Insignificance of The Event

We all tend to think that
our lives are the center of creation at times, and we need to get
problems into perspective. Therefore, think about the vastness of the
universe, the seven billion people alive on Earth, and all of the
physical matter on the planet. Do the actions of a mean person feel
significant now? 'It does to me' you might say. But don't you also
have more significant things to be worrying about than this person's
gripe with you? Know that the universe is very big, and the negative
concepts that you are being attacked with, are insignificant in
comparison. This might help to get things into a more manageable
perspective.

Highly Developed
Spirits Respond With Love

A sign of a spiritually
developed and balanced person is the ability respond to even your
enemy with love. This sounds impossible, but if you understand that
we are all one, all spirits of one infinite creation, then you know
that the negative person in a way is part of you, just like every
person, animal and thing within the creation. So, if negativity is
coming in your direction from a horrible person, don't respond with
more negativity. Try to feel positive emotions toward them, and if
you can, love. Doing this will make you feel better. You can rise
above the situation and cancel out the negative energy with
positivity.

Love Smothers Negative
People

Positive energy
counteracts negative energy. For example, if a traffic incident
occurs and two drivers are arguing over who was at fault – if both
drivers argue, then the negative energy mounts up and spirals out of
control. If one argues, but the other remains confidently calm and
acts in a mature and pleasant way – the negative energy of the
negative person begins to reduce and may even dissipate entirely.

Positive behavior and
positive emotions can actively smother a negatively orientated
person. Negatively orientated people are often polarized toward
acquisition of power, control and dominance. Actively showing care
and compassion for such a person, can literally throw them out of
balance. In the face of trying to control and dominate you, by
holding strong with positive and compassionate
behavior, the negative person will not know how to interact with you and they will falter. Being unable to control you and unable to respond to such
positivity, they might leave you alone, or your actions could even
inspire them to be more positive in life.

Sympathize With The
Mean Person

There's probably a reason
that this mean person is negative toward you or others. In fact, it's
best not to label them as 'mean' at all. They might have had an
unhappy upbringing, been through grief, or encountered much
negativity in life. Therefore, another reason to show friendship,
care and compassion toward them is to counteract the negativity
present in their life, that they probably didn't wish for in the
first place.

If you view the negative
person in this more positive way, it will help you to control your
own negative emotions about them. It may be true that they know not
what they do, or how it affects others. Sow the seeds of good karma
and help your own spiritual progression by radiating some positive
energies toward this person or asking your spirit guides, to ask
others in the spirit world, to help them too.

Karma is a Sanskrit word
meaning 'actions'. It's the effects of karma (your actions) that come
back around. For example, give love, receive love, hate, and be
hated.

Know that the negative or
'horrible' person, by being unkind, thoughtless or selfish, is going
to build up a lot of bad karma. It's likely to come back around by
them being disliked by others, and this can result in isolation and
further negativity. Do you see the negative cycle?

By showing a bit of care,
friendship and compassion to the negatively orientated person,
although it may well be rejected at first, you gain the good effects
of karma and the negative person can break their negative karmic
cycle.

Examples of ways to break
the cycle are; invite a mean workmate out to lunch, send your
negative neighbor a Christmas card, smile at the pushy person in the
grocery store, don't be afraid to say thank you, sorry or even hello.
Watch the negativity melt away, but it may take perseverance.

You Are Developing
Spiritually

The ultimate reward for
dealing with mean people is your own spiritual development and
progression. We're all on a journey of learning and experience, and a
part of that discovery is learning to give and receive high
vibrational love energy freely. By helping to reverse the negative
polarity of others, and learning to balance your own energies, you
are progressing to a state of higher existence. You are doing
yourself and others a great service, therefore making a bigger impact
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