Just got a terrible call *TRIGGER*

My heart is breaking from my BFF about my god daughter. Long story, but I need to vent somewhere.

Thursday night she was bathing her daughter (4 years old) and DD says mommy, my kiwi hurts (thats what they called the vagina). She asked her where and she showed her. Now the little girl is VERY independent and doesn't let mom help her wipe or clean, so my friend assumes she has a yeast infection or something like that. She looks and just sees some redness insides the folds. She brings in her husband and they start asking questions which went something like this:When did it start hurting?: When Mrs. X touched me there (Mrs. X is her day care teacher).Where were you?: In the bathroomOH was she helping you wipe with tissue? No she used her handWhat did she do with her hand? The little girl made a circular movement with her fingers.

They didn't make a big deal about it and took her to the Dr. the next day and told the Dr. limited information (my god daughter has a BIG imagination so they did not want to skew the doctors opinion). Doctor says it is not an infection, but there is trauma in her vaginal area. My friend not wanting to believe this, wants to take her daughter to a therapist or someone who knows what questions to ask before they go accusing the teacher of anything, but the Dr. called CPS right away and they are already started investigating.

Now, the boss that my friend works for also has their kids at the same day care, and the bosses wife is harassing and threatening my friend via text saying "Are you proud of yourself, you ruined Mrs. X's life!. How dare you!"

First, I want to go and STRANGLE that teacher, Second, how DARE the bosses wife! My friend nor I have never been in any situation close to this, so its so unfamiliar. CPS told her to keep her daughter out of the day care for now, and they would be back in contact with her.

But now what?!? She doens't want to make a big deal out of it to her daughter, if her daughter doesn't realize how bad it was, they don't want to make it worse. At the same time, they want to get her to someone who can help figure out what happened and help them figure out how to deal with it as parents. She has called me a few times just sobbing and I don't know what I can do or say to help her, I just want to protect her daughter and take away their pain and worry.

All I keep telling her is your daughter comes first. If she made this up somehow for whatever reason, all YOU have done as a mom is what any mother would do to protect their child. I think it is more that she WANTS to find out this is made up because the alternative is too much to handle. But I don't see where her daughter would have come up with something like that on her own.

This is so sad, it makes me sad/angry for the lil girl and her parents. She is to young to make up a story like that. Good she said something. I'm glad her Dr. reported it. What if this has been happening long or to other kids, I can't believe Mrs."X" husband. If I were her I would not delete any of those messages just incase. That's one of the many things that scares me about becoming a mom. You just can't trust ANYONE.

In my opinion when it comes to things like this you have treat it as the truth and handle it like you know its a fact. You wouldn't want to regret not believe it and it being true. Just bc you think you know someone doesnt mean they couldn't. And I think that the bosses wife should be embarrassed, this women could be doing something to her child also.... But tell your friend to write an email to thd teacher and tell her that she apologizes if this isnt true but she has to protect her child regardless of who is being accused.

That sounds like quite the jump! I'm not saying the teacher is innocent by any means but everyone needs to take a step back. Especially your bosses wife. Doesn't she know that is harassment?? Im so sorry for the little girl. However, it is the doctors duty to call cps.

Children don't make things like that up out of no where... Your friend has every right to be upset and there sure as hell needs to be an investigation. The boss shouldn't be upset bc if the teacher really didn't do it then she will be released from questioning