We may not be able to end pain overnight, but we can find ways to make life easier for ourselves during the time we are living with pain. Here are some approaches I've found useful over the past nine years.

Slow Way, Way Down

Slow down. A lot. Be willing to not do a whole lot.

If you’re a an active person, a parent, a manager, an athlete or anyone else used to moving fast, being a leader, or getting a lot done, this is really hard. You have to be fairly ruthless with yourself. You have to stop yourself from taking care of everything, making sure everyone is alright, organizing things and being a Type A. You just do.

It’s time to let other people do things for you, even if they do them badly in your opinion. That just has to be okay for now. Doing things perfectly isn’t necessarily perfect right now.

What’s perfect for you is giving yourself a break and letting go of taking care of everything you used to take care of.

Simplify

Simplify life as much as you can, cutting back on any and all things that absolutely don’t need doing right now.

This usually means changing priorities and re-categorizing many things right off your to-do list. When in acute pain, what remains on the list (after personal hygiene and eating) might be only one or two absolute necessities in a day.

I’m not kidding. One or two absolute necessities. Going to one appointment. Making one important phone call that requires organization and brain power. Resting the remainder of the day.

Let Go of Your Schedule for Healing

It is the nature of chronic pain to stick around.

It requires a certain kind of emotional balance to neither insist that pain leave (and be constantly disappointed) nor give up hope altogether. The best way I have found to handle the fact that pain isn’t leaving is to let go of my scheduled healing date.

As much as we want it to end right now, our ideas of how long pain should stay don’t seem to be of much concern to pain. Pain has its own purpose, its own timeframe, and its own requirements for what needs to happen before it will leave. We only end up discouraged if we keep noticing how long we’ve already been in pain, and fretting about how long it will be before we’re out of pain.

This doesn’t mean we give up hope, not at all. But I’ve found that a better way to be with pain, and one which, paradoxically seems to ease it, is to resolve to give it the time it needs.

Understand Your Pain-O-Meter

I suggest that you get in touch with your inner Pain-O-Meter. Basically, this means becoming familiar in the most intimate terms with what actions, feelings, and stressers trigger or spike your pain. When you are intimate with your pain triggers you can do a better job of regulating what you say yes and no to in any given day, and when to best schedule any activities you plan on doing.

The most useful way I’ve found to monitor my pain levels is to keep a pain diary. It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate, just a way to note down the time, type of pain, and level of pain you experience over the course of a day and continue this for at least a week. This is most useful if you also note your current mood, what you’re doing, and any stressers present at the moment.

This way you can correlate what you are feeling and doing, the time of day, when you rest and when you’re active with how these affect your pain levels.

Tracking your pain makes you aware of any recurring patterns that you might otherwise not have noticed. You can make a little more sense of your pain rhythms during the day. Noticing them allows you to plan around them.

You can download a free template here which you can use as a basis for your pain diary.

Hold Yourself Blameless

Finally, but not least importantly, give yourself a lot of emotional leeway. You are doing the best you can to deal with the daily challenges of living in and with pain and it’s not easy. You are healing as fast as you can, even if that seems like a snail’s pace to you. If you could do anything better than you are now, you would.

Give yourself credit for getting through another day. You are walking a very difficult path. You may not understand the reason for this path, but, one way or another, you are on it.

Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a small child who is hurting. Be gentle, be reasonably positive, let yourself have a good cry when you need it, then brush the dirt off your knees and lift your eyes off the ground.

Yes, sometimes we wish we could have a kind parent or friend do this for us, but often we have to do this for ourselves. And we can. And when we meet others in a similar situation, we can offer them the kindnesses we also desire for ourselves.

I love this post. I'm a way, I'm grateful that chronic pain has made me slow down my life. I no longer care what people think of me because I don't have the energy to, and the end result of that is very refreshing. I've also embraced minimalism so that I have less things to take care of, and it's benefitted me in so many ways. Thanks for this list!

Life offers different challenges everyday. Sometimes, you failed to succeed those challenges. Thus, it offers a greater responsibility. This blog is entitled, 'Making Life With Pain A Little Easier' means to pause for a while when things go wrong and to take things easier. Thank you for creating this post. The list is noted. Keep on blogging.

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