Tuesday, August 26, 2008

If there’s great sex in a relationship, you can bet the rest of the problems iron themselves out sooner or later. Agreed, sex is not the only thing that’s important, but if the passion’s missing, then it’s more a question of tolerating each other’s presence around the house. Couples who have been together a long time tend to view each other as just another person rather than the hot lover they once fell head over heels for. And as time goes by, sex with the same person becomes monotonous, even boring sometimes. What with kids, work and housework taking a toll on your energies, all you want to do by the time you hit the sack is go to the land of slumber. If you’re really interested in rekindling your romance, it’s time you took matters into your own hands:

Pack away those Pounds: Take a look at your wedding photos and compare them with the person who stares at you from the mirror. If you groan at the thought of how much weight you’ve gained, it’s time to start getting back into shape. Once we’re married, we tend to neglect the bodies we maintain religiously when we’re on the dating scene. Relive your courtship days as you lose weight; even a few pounds lost helps if you notice the renewed look of interest in your spouse’s eyes. And while you’re at it, give yourself a makeover that says you’re an adult rather than a parent or a spouse. Buy new clothes to go with your new look, and wait for the fireworks to begin.

Natural Viagra: Some foods act as aphrodisiacs and lend variety to the way you approach your love life. Whether you eat them off each other, feed each other or just eat them yourself, you can bet on an interesting time between the sheets.

Change is Good: Break the routine you’ve set and followed all these years. Steal away for a romantic weekend, or if your schedules don’t allow this, sneak out on a lunch date. Try out a sexual fantasy of your spouse’s that you earlier rejected as too kinky or too daring for your tastes.

Sexual Innuendos: More than dirty talk on the phone, it’s the text messages that are loaded with sexual innuendos and that indulge in clever word play that tend to turn most people on. Send them to your spouse during the day when you can’t get your hands on each other so that by the time you both get home, you’re headed straight to the bedroom, or maybe not!

Compliments and Consideration: Show a new side of yourself by not criticizing your spouse like you normally would. Instead, pay compliments and watch the change in their attitudes too. A happy spouse translates to a more enthusiastic partner in bed.

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This post was contributed by Heather Johnson, who writes on the subject of best dating services. She invites your feedback at heatherjohnson2323 at gmail dot com.