About

the bullshit we have been taught so thoroughly that we sometimes can't even see it anymore

how that bullshit can screw things up for us and others

what we can do about it

Because, as we all know, we have been taught some damn nonsense by our culture. SUCH AS AND INCLUDING

that having a beautiful body and getting a man are pretty much the most important things for women to do

that white people deserve better treatment than anyone else

that dudes are better leaders than women

Clearly all of this is BULLSHIT, and when we say it explicitly, we all KNOW it's bullshit.

But these notions and biases live in a part of us that is deeper than reason, deeper even than language, so deep that many times we cannot even see them. We just find ourselves acting weird and not understanding why.

This is the moment when you become unrecognizable to yourself, when you find yourself weeping about your stretch marks or making compromises in your relationship you swore you'd never make or falling in line with the humor of the people around you, even if it makes you feel a little ill.

In these moments, our base-level conditioning takes us over like a giant robot, operating us from the inside out, while the smart parts of our brains sit there going "wait, WHAT is happening right now?"

This blog is all about identifying those moments, looking at the conditioning that's driving them, and explicitly choosing a different thought, a different behavior, one that is not just an inherited habit playing itself out.

It's not the simplest or easiest thing to do, but when we move beyond our unconscious habits of thought and behavior, we gain a whole new ability to reshape our lives to be closer to what we want them to be. And in doing so, we also reshape the world.