Maybe one day when you realize that people ain't shit you'll learn! Ok, just joking. But seriously, coming from someone who has/had people-pleasing tendencies, you've just got to realize that most people wouldn't do half the things you're willing to do for them, most people put themselves first and would throw you under the bus without a second thought if they need to, most people don't remember what you did for them or the sacrifices you made. So why bother with them? Look, the selfish and ruthless often get ahead faster than the people-pleasers, and when you see fantastic things happen for them while nothing notable is happening for you, you'd start to ask yourself "Why? God, why? But I'm a good person". *Yimu*. There are no Brownie points for being a "good person". Put yourself first, go get yours but stay humble and try not to hurt anyone in the process. We are all solely responsible for ourselves, so while you're worrying about them, who's worrying about you? Well, I figure you're still quite young so it's okay, life will teach you itself.

TL;DR: just stay true to yourself. Keep being kind but learn to be unapologetically firm. Contrary to what you think, people would love and respect you more.

This isn't accurate, at least not where 2 of my sisters and I are concerned. Everything about "middle-borns" accurately describes me, except for the social part...that one is a herculean task for me. The "last-borns" is 100% my last sis.

Okay...Am d first and was d only for a very long timeMe na better mixture

But ermm...i have most attributes of d onlyAnd dat seek approval part yea yea..even wen i no need anybodyz approval my papa mst wiggle himself into my matter and looking for his red pen to either tick good or bad.

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Amazing Story Shared by Dr. Ben Carson on Facebook, i thought it is inspiring and i decided to share;

The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him: "Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?"

His reply touched the world:

"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."

*** This made me very reflective. I just wonder; if the person you love today encounters an incident or accident that transforms who they are physically, it could be amputation, it could be paralysis, it could be severe burns that scald their flesh beyond recognition, w…

Good morning people! Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. Have a splendid day. Im'ma be back soon.

He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was superintelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he gotswag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy oneif I say so myself). So oneday I decided to take it to another level.. After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOULOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life ofAmerican Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are onlyyoung once". LOL that part got me. Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me forthe Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had thisgreat chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent andelectrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invitedhim to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even camewith a packet of durex condom. We talked for a while and and and and and andKai! See how you are serious dey read this story....! My…

A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship. However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick. I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions. So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer. You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally. Why? Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings. You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…

I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL!
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil.

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on).
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something? That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...

Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you?
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few.
-owning a blog
-week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).
-staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.