We mixed business with swinging just once. A couple from this site contacted us about meeting. Mrs. Valovers recognized him from his picture. He worked for a construction company and had been to meetings with Mrs. Valovers in the process of bidding on a construction project for the retirement community Mrs. Valovers manages. They had, in fact, even been mildy flirtatious before & after the meetings, but nothing more.

ONLY because they had flirted, and thus both showed some interest even before either knew the other was a swinger, we agreed to meet them for dinner. There was an age difference, though, and HIS wife thought I reminded her too much of her father! Not a good thing! LOL

Each case is unique. Our advice is to err on the side of caution, unless, like in the above instance, there is solid evidence of real interest.

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I have to disagree with Gentle. I have had VERY bad experiences when I found out friends were swingers via a website. Its not like they are trying to hide the fact. Just the opposite. They are on this site because they want to meet more people. You said their profile mentions 3somes? Well, if they are such good friends (and introduced you to friends that also swing) you might try bringing up the name of a club you wanted to go to, but "I couldn't get in for some reason. They said I needed an escort. I don't know what they mean by escort, so I don't know if I'd be interested in someplace that exclusive. I just want to ... meet some ... interesting people to ... party and hang out with."

After seeing how they react to that, start dropping some subtle hints about meeting people and having a few adventures. From there, it will be up to them to tell you about swing clubs, swinging, and that is what they do with the other couple.

Also, put a picture on your profile. If you saw their profile and their picture, its a good bet that they too are looking up people in their area. If you have a picture up, maybe you won't have to try and figure out a way to ask them if they swing.They'll know and will ask you what you want to get out of it.

Contacting them first through this site could backfire. You would go from being a trusted friend to just another single male before they even read the email. If they don't have an interest in single males shown on the little gold bar by "male", they might delete your email before getting a chance to read it.