Bondage is still quite often seen as a taboo subject which can make people feel worried about experimenting with it, but it really isn’t as scary as you may think that it is.

Not only this, but it can actually strengthen a relationship due to the trust and honesty aspects that are involved so you really don’t need to be put off by its reputation.

We have put together this beginner’s guide to bondage so that you can have fun trying it out in a way that is enjoyable and pleasurable for you, and then you can see where you want to take it from there!

Talking about bondage

As with all sexual fantasies, trying out bondage can be a difficult topic of conversation to bring up with your partner for the first time if you are not sure how they will react to the idea.

If the thought of just asking them outright if they want to tie you up fills you with dread, try planting a seed in their mind by bringing erotic fiction or a dvd featuring bondage into the bedroom. This will show them that it is something which turns you on and this alone could make them excited to try it out with you.

Start off slowly

You don’t need to launch straight into whips and chains when you try bondage for the first time, simply being tied to the bedframe or wearing a blindfold will be enough to start with.

It is advisable that you do not use a shirt tie or stockings to tie each other up to begin with as these can be quite difficult to get out of which can cause panic if it is not something that you are used to. Velcro straps are a great option as they will hold tightly but can be removed in an instant if requied.

Safety first

When try out bondage it is important that you put rules in place which you both follow in order to make sure that you are both safe at all times.

For example, make sure that you have a safe word before you start which can be said if things get too much. This shouldn’t be something that you might say in the heat of the moment but something random that would only be said if you were no longer enjoying the experience.

Submissive or Dominant?

People who enjoy bondage can quite often be categorised as being submissive or dominant depending on whether they want to be tied up or prefer being in charge.

When you first start to experiment with bondage you should try out both roles as you may be surprised by what you enjoy, and if you love both options there is no reason why you can’t switch it up if your partner is happy to.

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