Engagement Makes Ciara "Feel Complete." Eyeroll.

7 days ago, the anti-f*** boy campaign for Ciaracame to a phenomenal head when her controversial boyfriend, Russell Wilson, proposed to her on a beach.

As her fans rejoice and Future’s fans collect salt, the majority of us are ecstatic for this development in her love life. We’ve seen her go from happily pregnant and engaged, to dodging slanderous comments and even suing the man she once thought she’d spend the rest of her life with. It happens to the best of us.

So, the story of redemption is one that we all dream of. And I certainly hope it will be the truth for her, too. There’s just one thing that has me a bit concerned:

No, it’s not the fact that I can’t distinguish whether the glare in the photo is from the sunset or the ring (girl, WHAT?!)— it’s the caption: “I Feel Complete.” There’s nothing wrong with recognizing and avowing how a person’s presence in your life can feel like the single-most greatest thing to happen to you. The issue, however, comes in when women equate men -- or any gender variation on a relationship -- to holding a space in your life that you otherwise would be lesser than without.

When you enter a relationship feeling incomplete, it leaves little to no room for mistakes. While marriage is a goal for many women, (not all), it’s important to talk about the ways in which it should never be considered a prize, an achievement, or an accomplishment.

Ciara, you beautiful soul with all the rhythm in the world, I hope that your feeling of completeness is truly just to say that your whole, matching his whole, is a whole other world that we can only imagine.