AIBU to freak out? please help, i dont know how to handle..

My daughter is 7 and over at her 7yr old cousins house for a sleepover

My sis in law just sent me the following message...

I think you need to have a word with JennyWe left Jenny and Andy in kitchen and they both went toilet together and I heard Jenny say to Andy do you want to see my (you know what ) then I heard her say I don't have a willy can I touch yours , then whilst I was at shops Simon had them in the bath and he nipped downstairs but could hear them on monitor and heard her say shall we kiss with tongue, so Simon went up and saw them kissing with tongue and Jenny said Andy's willy went hard .... I come back and I'm like omfg then I heard them again on the monitor making kissing noises so I went up there and told them they need to top and tale now and go to sleep ! I dunno what to do x

don't freak out and make DD feel she has done something terrible. It's just natural curiosity, you just need to gently explain to her that it isn't appropriate to look and feel boys willies until she's much older and probably best not to go round kissing boys until then either xx

Right. Assuming this isn't a wind up, you talk to 'Jenny' in the morning and explain that although experimenting is natural, her body is something very private and that's not something we do with other people.

No it really isn't a wind up. SIL has just this minute messaged. They are in the same room yes - I don't want to make DD feel bad of course I don't. She is only 7 though, where the hell would she get this kind of talk from?!?!

Then your SIL needs to engage her brain and put them in different rooms. Sorry, I know I'm coming across as alarmist, but this isn't acceptable behaviour - the parents need to supervise them responsibly.

Kids do weird shit like that its called experimenting. Have a minor none big deal chat with dd about personal boundaries private body parts and the differences between girls and boys chuck in some good touch bad touch stuff for good measure but keep it light hearted.

And make sure you have answers to any questions she may have and don't be embarrassed

Actually, yes, if it was my DD I'd be on my way to collect her now. I don't understand why they're allowed to be in the same bedroom after they've been kissing in the bath and the boy had an erection. This is not a good situation. Get your girl, OP!

I agree with Socky and Revolting - kids do this - they talk in the playground, they watch TV, they hear adults talking and they like to play around with each other - bring her home if it makes you feel more comfortable but their isn't anything new in kids fiddling with their bits, comparing bits or playing doctor

I would not allow them to sleep in the same bedroom let alone bed. It is just natural curiosity and innocent, but it has been quite a lot of experimenting for one day. I am dreading to be in your position one day, but yes you need to talk to her about differences between boys and girls, keeping herself private (and safe), not touching others, and mainly that is much better fun to play hide and seek than kissing boys. Are you going to pick her up?

Yes, the embarrassment surely isn't the kids exploring, it's the fact that your SIL allows them to go to the loo together, have baths together and share a bed... and you're on MN rather than taking control.

Why haven't you picked her up yet? And found out where she's got this from? My 7 yo wouldn't know the first thing about this stuff but then again I'm single so he never witnesses kissing, with or without tongues!