When was the last time you spent some quality time with yourself? It’s true that society encourages us to spend more time with friends and family. And there are strong reasons to do so because being around people you care can boost your mood right away.

Going out on a Friday night partying or talking to a friend over a glass of wine are all great and fun activities. But maybe we need to balance that with some time spent alone. And by alone we don’t mean in front of a screen Skyping or chatting on Facebook. We mean disconnected from our smartphones and other ways of getting in touch with our friends. Being in solitude for a while can be an interesting and valuable experience. Here are 4 reasons why spending time alone is good for you!1. Spending time alone can boost your productivity.
Being around other people is fun, but it can sometimes distract us from our plans and goals. Having some time for ourselves will help us focus more on what we want to achieve and how we want to do it. It is the perfect opportunity to remind ourselves what really matters to us and start working on those projects.

2. Quality time alone can help you with your creativity.

We all know that the greatest works of art, whether they’re novels, paintings, or music records, were done in perfect seclusion. Because there are few external stimuli, you can focus better on what’s within. And you might be surprised to discover that a considerable amount of creativity is waiting to burst and be channeled.

3. Spending time alone will make you stronger and more confident.

Being on your own means you choose to rely on yourself for making decisions instead of always waiting for advice from friends. When you stop considering other people’s opinions, you turn to your thoughts and trust that you’ll make the right call.

4. Spending time with yourself can help you solve problems.

Again, when you’re free of distractions, you have a better chance at analyzing an issue before you can come up with solutions. Brilliant ideas usually spring when you are alone. And don’t forget that being in your company can also help you reconnect with yourself on a deeper level.

This is why solitude can be very good for you! Share this if you enjoy spending time alone!

Empathy, the ability to understand and feel what the other is going through, is both a blessing and a curse. For people who are extremely emphatic, putting themselves in the other's shoes can become overwhelming. You can feel like the wastebasket for other people's emotions. And therefore you might be tempted to put on an armor to protect yourself. But is there another way?

Witnessing other people's pain can activate the pain system in your own brain. So we can learn to become immune to it. But recent research shows that if you can catch negative feelings, the same ability for empathy can make us catch other people's joy.

In other words, you can catch joy from seeing somebody enjoying their meal, becoming a parent, learning something new or overcoming an important obstacle in their lives.

These small or bigger accomplishments of others can make us enjoy our own life more and stay tuned to hope when things aren't going great in own life.So even though we are more inclined to feel the suffering of others rather than their happiness, we can cultivate this ability for positive empathy.

Because joy is contagious, try to be open to these little moments of bliss:

-Delight yourself by watching a child or an animal play

-Witness the skill, effort or artistry of a competition without taking side

-Listen carefully when somebody is telling you about their accomplishment

-Get your motivation from acknowledging the good deeds of others, their courage, honesty or kindness

-Don’t be afraid to let others help you; it will make them feel good about themselves and it will strengthen your bondAllow yourself to be connected to everything that happens around you. Please share this!

Hi dears! Spot my look on instagram ? Yeah this is my favourite look for this week, it's easy, simple, but also makes everyone looks on you! I'm wearing white tee with my brown short skirt, I also wearing my denim for add some casual looks for me. And here is my favourite heels, it's from Amazara, it's so comfortable and of course it's pretty because you can tie it however you want, just fit it with your style and outfit for that day! :)

Sometimes we are lucky enough to find someone whom our heart welcomes as if they were a long awaited guest in the house of love. We recognize them by the sweetness of the air around us that their presence brings about. By the calm that invades us when we think of them.

You can also know them by spotting these signs:1. They will always tell you the truth
When you make a mistake, when you misjudge a situation or a person, when you make a bad decision, you hope that there will be somebody to tell it as it is. And if your partner can do that for you, if they can criticize you without making you feel small, you become more at ease with who you are. Strengths and weaknesses, they accept everything that you are. And that makes you want to be better.2. They will unveil your potential
We all have hopes and dreams that we've abandoned because we feel like this is the price of being a rational, responsible adult. A true partner will make you unveil those forgotten aspirations, will refuse to look the other way when you are betraying what you can be. Their support and care is the ladder that takes you from where you are to where you want to go.3. They will not give you easy answers
Small talk is the worst. But if you are forced to do it while in society, you don't have to go through the same with your loved ones. If your partner doesn't challenge your ideas, if he doesn't make you question what you thought you knew, your connection might not be that strong. Cherish your deep conversations, even your arguments, since they will make you see the world anew.4. They will make you fearless
One of the things a true love will teach you is courage. He or she will take you in new adventures, beyond your comfort zone. You might feel that nothing is out of reach when you are together. Your past experiences will converge and give birth to new stories and discoveries. Learning together is a blessing.True love is shelter. True love is both a life belt and a leap into new and cold waters. Please share this!

Our society at large needs women who are confident enough to make a change for the better, in their lives and in the lives of others. We believe passionate women will always find a way to commit to their goals and beliefs and inspire their peers. Being empowered does not mean having power over others but owning our strengths as well as weaknesses. Embracing who we truly are could make a difference in a little girl's life in the other corner of the planet. Here are 5 things confident women do to empower themselves and inspire us all:

1. They strive for great leadership skills.

Top leadership skills such as patience, empathy, discipline and sense of responsibility are much needed in today;s world. Strong women are aware that to make the smallest change they need to be able to develop these traits.

2. They surround themselves with people who empower them.

Confident women choose to be around other women like them, who want to be an inspiration for all of us. Being around people who share your life principles can motivate you further to achieve what you put your mind to.

3. They make healthy living a priority.

Strong and brave women recognize the fact that taking care of themselves is a priority. They know they can help others only if they’re healthy and well. So they try to make healthy choices regarding their diet, sleep, environment, exercise as well as attitude. This also implies taking some time to relax every once in a while.

4. They step out of their comfort zone.

Comfort zones are ok for one thing: they're comfortable. But you know what they say: nothing really ever grows there. Women who want to make a difference get away from what’s comfortable into what scares them and they challenge others to join them.

5. They are self-aware and not afraid to show and embrace their emotions.

Confident women are always in touch with their feelings and emotions and encourage other women as well as men to believe that what they're feeling is right. They also know that it takes courage to show vulnerability.

This is how strong women stay on top! Please share this with all the wonderful women in your life!

Being a mentally strong person doesn't mean being perfect. It means always striving to become the best version of yourself you can be. Here are 5 signs you are on the right path of becoming a mentally strong person.

1. You are not afraid of breaking some rules

Not all rules are worthy of respect. You know the difference between rules that have moral meaning and the ones that are meant to keep people down. And you encounter a rule that is unfair, you have no problem breaking it.

2. You know the importance of forgiveness

By not holding onto resentment, by forgiving those who have wronged you, you unburden yourself from the past and become a lighter, purer person.

3. You don't need validation from others

The only criteria by which you judge your actions is if they let you sleep at night or not. From others, you need only advice and suggestions, not validation.

4. You don't let your fears dominate you

Whenever you have the opportunity, you confront your fears. You don't allow them to make your world smaller and your life poorer.

5. You keep a healthy distance from toxic people

You know when somebody is trying to put you down, when they are trying to lie to you or manipulate you. So you stay away from this kind of person.

Stay on the right path and continue working on yourself! Please, share this!

You may have found yourself over and over again in relationships with people who turned out to be wrong for you. You may have put time and energy into making it work because you know that great relationships require effort.

But what if you don't really need to struggle to make it work? And what if the answer to your problems lies within?

After a series of failed relationships, you try to put all the pieces together and start wondering. Was it that those people were wrong for you?Try to think about the place you were in when you entered each relationship. If you were happy and satisfied with your life, then it might have been them.

But if someone goes into a relationship only to fulfill a need or the emptiness inside of them, then chances are it won't work. When we expect somebody else to complete us or fill that void, we will end up disappointed. Why?

Because no one can give us what we can only give ourselves.

This is why they say that to find the right person for us, we need to be that person.

If we have a loving and healthy relationship with ourselves, then we will attract the same kind of people. And the reverse is true. When we feel very needy and are self-hating, we will attract people who are on the same page.

So take your time to fully discover yourself and learn what you would like from a partner. But only commit after you've come to peace with yourself.

Voila! As I promise I will write my October Favorites, this is new category of my blog, so every month I will share what is my favorite things it can be cloth, accessories, book, places, skin care, or whatever that I'm obsessed with in that month.

So first thing is skin care, if you guys see my snapgram, you will know these days I have a lot of pimples, hate it so much, then one day I go to Body Shop for searching their tea tree oil, it's so good for acne, and thankfully my acne decrease now.

Second thing is my earrings, I got this from massicot, you can check their instagram @massicot_ , as you can see left and right is different, so cute right?

My fav book this month is this called " You Are A Badass" by Jen Sincero, so this book really give me so many motivation since I got so many things to do last month and this month, this book told us we can do everything that we want and we can change our life if we don't like it. Interested? Go buy it and start to read it ! And yeah I often read using kindle book, because it's easy to carry anywhere it just as big as your phone! :)

Do you love listening to podcast? My fav podcast this month is Lavendaire, she talk about life, motivation, self improvement, each podcast about 20 minutes, really recommend her podcast, she also have a youtube channel, you can check with Lavendaire word :)

And here is my new everyday glasses, it's a gold one, since my old glasses is hitting my cheeks when i'm smiling or laughing, haha.. This gold sunglasses so comfort and chic, you can get it at OOPPA, they have a lot of store in Indonesia. Their glasses is made in Korea.

And yeah, of course I will share my fav cloth with you guys, it comes with my floral denim skirt, I love this so much, cheerful simple and easy, I love the flower embroidery it's so beautiful. This is my clothing line collection, you can check it in instagram @uma.cloth.

And last but not least, I'm just bought this baby, It's Fujifilm XA-3, I have searched for mirrorless camera and a lot people say that Fujifilm is a good choice, so I went to local store to buy this baby. Really happy with the result, good camera good picture good long lasting memory.

Hey guys, this article I want to let you know my current favorite tea time place, it's located at central of Jakarta, its at the 2nd floor at Metropole Jakarta, what I love is their ambiance so cozy so clean and bright. There is outdoor and indoor so you can choose where you want. And also they have wifii so for you who want to chill and also get work done, this is a great place for you !

Oh yeah, for the dishes I must tell you, it's served so cute and so art, of course its delicious too. My bae and I order gula merah ice cream waffle and salmon waffle , it's soooo good, I promise you won't regret it after you try. Gula merah ice cream waffle has a unique taste, even it's a brown sugar but it doesn't too sweet, it so perfect with the pandan waffle over it. And another one I love the smoked salmon, so fresh and yummy.

They served a lot of coffee too, for you who is a coffee lover come here and try it.

Yesterday I went to Jakarta Theatre and watched Kingsman, I think it's still cool with the action and of course the luxury outfit and theirs advanced technology, but in personally I love the first chapter of this film, but the second one still great too ☺

I'm wearing very simple black tank top with denim skirt that I love so much, because it's fit perfectly on my body, I pair it with black mules and it looks so classy for the date night and also yeah it's feel comfortable, for the bag I choose this classic sling bag with brown color because I want to create a simple clean look for that night.

By the way, this Theatre name Metropole and located in Center of Jakarta, it established in 1932 , I love the building itself, all white with simple luxury interior.

But I don't know I just feels the Theatre's sofa a little bit straight, have you guys gone there? What do you think?

I went to Bandung last week and first day I arrived, me and my bae go to The Peak, this restaurant so good and they served a lot of wine, its better go there at the night time, this restaurant is at the top of Bandung, so you can see beautiful Bandung here! We went here at 10 a.m and they just open, we are their first customer that time lol.

During summer I love to wear something sheer but not too sexy , so I'm choosing this floral red sheer ruffle tops, because printed sheer tops will never makes you too sexy but always keeps you classy. I pair it with my high waist black denim and simple sunglasses.

Clean and simple restaurant , I also love the chicken steak served with basic mushroom sauce, perfect with my morning day, cool weather and lovely people with me.