Hey I have 5 kids and a husband and feel that way sometimes too. What's sad is i went to college to learn about all this head stuff but no one is immune to anything. I think its all about needing to feel accepted and needing to be needed. Especially when we get to those teenage years. At this point we need to focus on serving other people doing small acts of kindness. and we need to get a hobbie.

Hey I have 5 kids and a husband and feel that way sometimes too. What's sad is i went to college to learn about all this head stuff but no one is immune to anything. I think its all about needing to feel accepted and needing to be needed. Especially when we get to those teenage years. At this point we need to focus on serving other people doing small acts of kindness. and we need to get a hobbie.

I tend to get lonely during the day because I'm home by myself and I have only one friend to call, since she goes to work at 2, but we don't get to talk much unless she's off work that day. I don't know many people in this city anyway, so there's no one to just run around with.

But I think that as bipolars, we tend to be a little lonely anyway. After all, nobody really feels the way we do. Nobody else looks at the world the way we do. Nobody has to live their lives the way we do, with the same feelings, outlook, choices, concerns. It's like we walk in a different reality.

~smiles~ I guess that's why I post like crazy on this board.

Abs

I tend to get lonely during the day because I'm home by myself and I have only one friend to call, since she goes to work at 2, but we don't get to talk much unless she's off work that day. I don't know many people in this city anyway, so there's no one to just run around with.

But I think that as bipolars, we tend to be a little lonely anyway. After all, nobody really feels the way we do. Nobody else looks at the world the way we do. Nobody has to live their lives the way we do, with the same feelings, outlook, choices, concerns. It's like we walk in a different reality.

Abs is right! There are not alot of people out there who understand us. It can be very depressing at times, more so when we can't talk to anyone because they can't understand what we are going through, the sh*t that we have to deal with. Sometimes my family thinks that I have just totally lost myself... this is not the case. I have my good days and my bad days, but I am still the same person. I can't talk to them or many of my friends. I tell my husband that I like to have time by myself, but that is when I cause the most damage to myself. I think that my way of dealing with the lonliness is by throwing myself into my work and by keeping myself busy with my daughter. However, most of the time I feel overwhelmed. This is such a crazy, crazy life. Can't win for losing I feel like sometimes, that is why I post here. Alot of the people here have been in my shoes... I am young and have just found out a couple months ago that I am bipolar. I have along road ahead of me. But I know that here I can find true help and I have real friends that understand me. Just taking one day at a time, this is all I can do. You are not alone here

Diana

Abs is right! There are not alot of people out there who understand us. It can be very depressing at times, more so when we can't talk to anyone because they can't understand what we are going through, the sh*t that we have to deal with. Sometimes my family thinks that I have just totally lost myself... this is not the case. I have my good days and my bad days, but I am still the same person. I can't talk to them or many of my friends. I tell my husband that I like to have time by myself, but that is when I cause the most damage to myself. I think that my way of dealing with the lonliness is by throwing myself into my work and by keeping myself busy with my daughter. However, most of the time I feel overwhelmed. This is such a crazy, crazy life. Can't win for losing I feel like sometimes, that is why I post here. Alot of the people here have been in my shoes... I am young and have just found out a couple months ago that I am bipolar. I have along road ahead of me. But I know that here I can find true help and I have real friends that understand me. Just taking one day at a time, this is all I can do. You are not alone here

No you are not alone. I feel as if I am the only person around at times, and at other times I wish I just weren't around period. Right now the later is the case. It seems I have no one to talk to that will understand what we go through, or maybe they just don't care. If anyone knows an answer to this problem please let us know.

No you are not alone. I feel as if I am the only person around at times, and at other times I wish I just weren't around period. Right now the later is the case. It seems I have no one to talk to that will understand what we go through, or maybe they just don't care. If anyone knows an answer to this problem please let us know.

I had tried and tried to get my husband to understand why I feel so all alone when I'm depressed. I finally explained in this way.

"Look, say the world is white. But when I'm in an episode, the world looks green to me. Now, I'm not nuts, I know perfectly well the world is white, it just looks green because of the way I'm feeling. If you just keep telling me "the world is really white, it's really white" that does me no good, it doesn't make me feel any better, in fact it makes me feel worse because you don't understand or acknowledge how I feel. But if you hold my hand and say 'Look, I know you feel the world looks green. But it will look white to you again soon, and until then, I'm here.' At least then I know you're trying to understand and I don't feel so alone."

I don't know if that makes sense to you guys, but it made sense to him and now I don't feel so alone when he's there.

Abs

I had tried and tried to get my husband to understand why I feel so all alone when I'm depressed. I finally explained in this way.

"Look, say the world is white. But when I'm in an episode, the world looks green to me. Now, I'm not nuts, I know perfectly well the world is white, it just looks green because of the way I'm feeling. If you just keep telling me "the world is really white, it's really white" that does me no good, it doesn't make me feel any better, in fact it makes me feel worse because you don't understand or acknowledge how I feel. But if you hold my hand and say 'Look, I know you feel the world looks green. But it will look white to you again soon, and until then, I'm here.' At least then I know you're trying to understand and I don't feel so alone."

I don't know if that makes sense to you guys, but it made sense to him and now I don't feel so alone when he's there.

Thanks to everyone who has posted on this thread. I would have responded sooner but I forget where and what I post. Dang lithidum.

It means a lot to me because today was a very incrediable lousy day. I got all angry and did all sorts of things wrong, including endangering my job. I am hoping I will have one still after the weekend. I thought I was reading minds again, why cant that happen when I buy lottery tickets. I am a mess.

I am totally stressed out, and can't get my own thoughts or actions out of my mind. Over and over and over again. I believe I should never be allowed out of my cage except to eat and you know what.

So reading these posts really makes me feel better. Thanks again.

Thanks to everyone who has posted on this thread. I would have responded sooner but I forget where and what I post. Dang lithidum.

It means a lot to me because today was a very incrediable lousy day. I got all angry and did all sorts of things wrong, including endangering my job. I am hoping I will have one still after the weekend. I thought I was reading minds again, why cant that happen when I buy lottery tickets. I am a mess.

I am totally stressed out, and can't get my own thoughts or actions out of my mind. Over and over and over again. I believe I should never be allowed out of my cage except to eat and you know what.

i don't have a husband or kids or mother or father. i had bad experiences in church. i worked double and triple shifts until i collapsed with cancer. somehow i survived the operation. i'm still here 2-1/2 years later. i relate to you all and i can't think of anything i'd rather do than get my feelings out even if it is midnight.......i especially enjoyed the post about doing small things for others because that is what keeps me going.

i don't have a husband or kids or mother or father. i had bad experiences in church. i worked double and triple shifts until i collapsed with cancer. somehow i survived the operation. i'm still here 2-1/2 years later. i relate to you all and i can't think of anything i'd rather do than get my feelings out even if it is midnight.......i especially enjoyed the post about doing small things for others because that is what keeps me going.

I don't think that people don't care it's just something that is very foreign to them, I myself when I use to hear the term thought o.k that persons got to have multiple personalities and you know what they really do. With me I'm up one minute down the next, sometimes I'm euphoric all day feels really good but I know the depressive episode will set in whenever it wants, the hardest thing about bipolar it's so hard to hide and that's what I try to do. Alot of people don't know the depressive thoughts that go through my head or if I JUST had that magic pill that would make it alright, and worst of all it's like your descrimated against if people know your bi polar like it's going to rub off on them. I was just diagnosed a couple of years ago but I know I've had it since childhood because I've always felt this way. You know tell a doctor send you out the door with another pill. Finally I was sent to a psychologist that did the testing and diagnosed me.

I don't think that people don't care it's just something that is very foreign to them, I myself when I use to hear the term thought o.k that persons got to have multiple personalities and you know what they really do. With me I'm up one minute down the next, sometimes I'm euphoric all day feels really good but I know the depressive episode will set in whenever it wants, the hardest thing about bipolar it's so hard to hide and that's what I try to do. Alot of people don't know the depressive thoughts that go through my head or if I JUST had that magic pill that would make it alright, and worst of all it's like your descrimated against if people know your bi polar like it's going to rub off on them. I was just diagnosed a couple of years ago but I know I've had it since childhood because I've always felt this way. You know tell a doctor send you out the door with another pill. Finally I was sent to a psychologist that did the testing and diagnosed me.

i know what you mean i have 3 kids and a husband and i live with my dad ,brother,step-mom,step-sister and i still feel lonley, its not about howmany people you have or dont have around you it is just how we feel somtimes,

it helps me to be online and i like makeing friends on pogo which is a place where you can play games and meet people to talk to . I also listen to music it helps build my spirit up and then i dont feel so lonley,

I hope you find a way not to feel that way because you are not alone we are all here for you when you need to talk , everyone should have some one that will listen and not say anything or judge us and that is what we have here.

God Bless you

i know what you mean i have 3 kids and a husband and i live with my dad ,brother,step-mom,step-sister and i still feel lonley, its not about howmany people you have or dont have around you it is just how we feel somtimes,

it helps me to be online and i like makeing friends on pogo which is a place where you can play games and meet people to talk to . I also listen to music it helps build my spirit up and then i dont feel so lonley,

I hope you find a way not to feel that way because you are not alone we are all here for you when you need to talk , everyone should have some one that will listen and not say anything or judge us and that is what we have here.

[:)] Hello I am new to this board & can so relate to what you are saying, you are definitely not alone soverydepressed! I am soon to be 50-ouch-(actually that doesn't bother me at all) & married with 3 grown kids & 4 grandchildren but I often feel lonely! The weird part is I often don't want to be around people! I am a rapid cycling Bipolar II so I never know what the day is going to bring & going out & about among people just stresses me out more...I work from home doing the office work for my husband's small business he's had for 30 years, so I don't have to go "out there" a whole lot...so why does someone who doesn't want company much get lonely? I don't seem to have the energy or what it takes to maintain friendships, it's all I can do on depressed days to get the basics done each day, & if I'm hypomanic I go go go pretty good (for me) but it's just getting daily chores & office work done! I love to read fiction but I don't even get that in much anymore-too slow at everything else! I used to enjoy music quite a bit but these months it seems to be too much stimulation so I leave it off...I"m actually not doing too bad today, ha, just wanted to share a little of me. And say I understand.[:)]

[:)] Hello I am new to this board & can so relate to what you are saying, you are definitely not alone soverydepressed! I am soon to be 50-ouch-(actually that doesn't bother me at all) & married with 3 grown kids & 4 grandchildren but I often feel lonely! The weird part is I often don't want to be around people! I am a rapid cycling Bipolar II so I never know what the day is going to bring & going out & about among people just stresses me out more...I work from home doing the office work for my husband's small business he's had for 30 years, so I don't have to go "out there" a whole lot...so why does someone who doesn't want company much get lonely? I don't seem to have the energy or what it takes to maintain friendships, it's all I can do on depressed days to get the basics done each day, & if I'm hypomanic I go go go pretty good (for me) but it's just getting daily chores & office work done! I love to read fiction but I don't even get that in much anymore-too slow at everything else! I used to enjoy music quite a bit but these months it seems to be too much stimulation so I leave it off...I"m actually not doing too bad today, ha, just wanted to share a little of me. And say I understand.[:)]

I forgot to say that while my husband is pretty understanding as far as not getting things done around here, he's not too good at the support like you spoke of abs-you've got a keeper there!-he came from a dysfunctional family too so he doesn't know how to give that kind of support very well at all...but we've been married 33 years & made it this far, no sense shooting him now right? I can't really share my frustrations & Bipolar troubles with him too much, he doesn't know what to say & so says almost nothing. [8-)]

I forgot to say that while my husband is pretty understanding as far as not getting things done around here, he's not too good at the support like you spoke of abs-you've got a keeper there!-he came from a dysfunctional family too so he doesn't know how to give that kind of support very well at all...but we've been married 33 years & made it this far, no sense shooting him now right? I can't really share my frustrations & Bipolar troubles with him too much, he doesn't know what to say & so says almost nothing. [8-)]

ITS FUNNY THAT WHEN I LIVED WITH MY MAN AND MY SON I WAS LONELIER THEN THAN I AM NOW THAT I LIVE ALONE.

I LOST MY SON LAST YEAR TO A SUICIDE ATTEMPT. AND MY MAN WELL, ITS HARD TO EXPLAIN. HE DOESN'T DEAL WITH OWN EMOTIONAL JUNK. SO HE FOR SURE COULDN'T DEAL WITH MINE.

BUT I HAVE LIVED ALONE FOR OVER A YEAR NOW AND HAVE FOUND THAT I REALLY ENJOY GETTING TO KNOW MYSELF. I THINK WHEN I RELAIZED THAT I WOULD BE BIPOLAR ALL MY LIFE IS WHEN I BEGAN TO ACCEPT MYSELF FOR WHO I AM. AND THAT I AM OKAY. SOME PEOPLE SAY BIPOLAR'S ARE CRAZY. I DON'T AGREE. I THINK WE JUST HAVE THE EXTRA ZING THE OTHERS DON'T. I THINK MANIA CAN BE A GIFT IF IT IS CHANNELED IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION.

I DO REALLY MISS MY SON. AND I GET TO SEE HIM EVERY WEEK. AND SOON HE WILL BE COMING TO MY HOME FOR WEEKENDS.

I HAVE ALMOST COMPLETED MY CPS CASE. MY SON IS 12. HE IS LIVING WITH HIS BIO-DAD AND HIS NEW WIFE. HE AND I DEFINATELY DON'T SEE EYE TO EYE. AND THAT'S GOT ALOT TO DO WITH HIM ABANDONING US WHEN I GOT PREGNANT. HE HAS ONLY BEEN INVOLVED IN MY SON'S LIFE SINCE MY SUICIDE. HE HAS CLINICAL DEPRESSION AND THINKS BIPOLAR IS A FAR WORSE DISORDER. BUT HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN'T REALIZE THAT DEPRESSION IS WHAT CAUSED MY SUICIDE ATTEMPT.

I SOMETIMES GET LONELY, MOSTLY JUST FOR MY SON. I HAVE MY TWO, 2 YEAR OLD KITTIES MYSTIC AND MAGIC. THEY ARE TWIN ORANGE TABBIES. THEY LOVE TO KEEP ME COMPANY. AND I LOVE THEM BEING AROUND.

ENJOY THE FAMILY YOU HAVE AND CHERRISH THEM EVERY CHANCE YOU GET. TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE WHO LOST THIERS.

BIPOLAR BEAR

[*-)]

DEAR LONELYNESS,

ITS FUNNY THAT WHEN I LIVED WITH MY MAN AND MY SON I WAS LONELIER THEN THAN I AM NOW THAT I LIVE ALONE.

I LOST MY SON LAST YEAR TO A SUICIDE ATTEMPT. AND MY MAN WELL, ITS HARD TO EXPLAIN. HE DOESN'T DEAL WITH OWN EMOTIONAL JUNK. SO HE FOR SURE COULDN'T DEAL WITH MINE.

BUT I HAVE LIVED ALONE FOR OVER A YEAR NOW AND HAVE FOUND THAT I REALLY ENJOY GETTING TO KNOW MYSELF. I THINK WHEN I RELAIZED THAT I WOULD BE BIPOLAR ALL MY LIFE IS WHEN I BEGAN TO ACCEPT MYSELF FOR WHO I AM. AND THAT I AM OKAY. SOME PEOPLE SAY BIPOLAR'S ARE CRAZY. I DON'T AGREE. I THINK WE JUST HAVE THE EXTRA ZING THE OTHERS DON'T. I THINK MANIA CAN BE A GIFT IF IT IS CHANNELED IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION.

I DO REALLY MISS MY SON. AND I GET TO SEE HIM EVERY WEEK. AND SOON HE WILL BE COMING TO MY HOME FOR WEEKENDS.

I HAVE ALMOST COMPLETED MY CPS CASE. MY SON IS 12. HE IS LIVING WITH HIS BIO-DAD AND HIS NEW WIFE. HE AND I DEFINATELY DON'T SEE EYE TO EYE. AND THAT'S GOT ALOT TO DO WITH HIM ABANDONING US WHEN I GOT PREGNANT. HE HAS ONLY BEEN INVOLVED IN MY SON'S LIFE SINCE MY SUICIDE. HE HAS CLINICAL DEPRESSION AND THINKS BIPOLAR IS A FAR WORSE DISORDER. BUT HE OBVIOUSLY DOESN'T REALIZE THAT DEPRESSION IS WHAT CAUSED MY SUICIDE ATTEMPT.

I SOMETIMES GET LONELY, MOSTLY JUST FOR MY SON. I HAVE MY TWO, 2 YEAR OLD KITTIES MYSTIC AND MAGIC. THEY ARE TWIN ORANGE TABBIES. THEY LOVE TO KEEP ME COMPANY. AND I LOVE THEM BEING AROUND.

ENJOY THE FAMILY YOU HAVE AND CHERRISH THEM EVERY CHANCE YOU GET. TAKE IT FROM SOMEONE WHO LOST THIERS.

Make world go away, the trick to posting your own avatar is to find one that is only 50 by 50 pixels or less. Then when you upload it from a file of small pixels you have saved you must hit the save button.

Let me try to change my avatar from man holding up the world to something else, preferably demonic......hahahaha I am really into scary books, movies, ever since I was a child and watched those old black and whites.

Gigimom, I'm here forever lurking before I run off to work.

Make world go away, the trick to posting your own avatar is to find one that is only 50 by 50 pixels or less. Then when you upload it from a file of small pixels you have saved you must hit the save button.

Let me try to change my avatar from man holding up the world to something else, preferably demonic......hahahaha I am really into scary books, movies, ever since I was a child and watched those old black and whites.

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