Self masturbation refers to achieving sexual arousal and orgasm by
stimulating one’s own genitals. Masturbating allows individuals to
explore their own sexuality and sexual interest to discover techniques
and erotic pleasures that are pleasing and satisfying.

Understanding
one’s own sexuality allows individual to become better at relating with
their partner in a sexual relationship. Partners can explore each other
sexuality by stimulating one another to discover techniques and
pleasures that are erotic and intimate for more fulfilling and enhancing
sexual relationship.

Most male and female masturbate as this is
the natural process of growing up from childhood to adulthood. When
teens initially discover that self masturbation feels good and
pleasurable they tend to explore the process by doing it more frequently
and this is normal. Problem occurs when individual become addicted to
this type of compulsive sexual behavior that lead to distress affecting
his professional and social life or when individual participate in this
type of behavior in public place.

For many single individuals
masturbating help to relieve build up of sexual tension and it is also
common for married couples to masturbate even though they have frequent
sexual activity in their relationship. Men who are sexually involved
with a partner also tend to masturbate more often on their own.

Women
in their twenties also tend to masturbate more often than when they
were teens. Self exploration of their body allows women to discover
erotic pleasure and techniques from self-stimulation that lead to
orgasm. Women at this age become more responsive to sexual stimulation
and are less sexually inhibited with increase desire to learn and
explore new sexual activity with their partner.

Individual who
masturbate more frequently tend to experience greater sexual
satisfaction than those who did not. Individual in sexual relationship
also masturbate more frequently than those who are not. Masturbating is
normal in a sexual relationship but some people consider this as
cheating or something wrong with their relationship. This type of
sexual behavior is normal in a sexual relationship as long as it doesn’t
interfere with the couple’s sexual intimacy.

Self
masturbation is helpful for men who are learning to explore their own
orgasm and to have better control of their ejaculation during sexual
activity. Almost all men who masturbate have no difficulty experiencing
orgasm because over the years they have train their bodies to become
familiar with their own touch from self-stimulation.

This also explain
why some men have difficulty reaching orgasm from sexual intercourse or
manual stimulation from their partner because they have not train their
bodies to become familiar with other people’s touch. Women’s sex drive
takes longer to develop and therefore it is common that some women do
not achieve orgasm from self masturbation.

Men suffering from sexual problems such as
premature ejaculation
and
male orgasmic disorder
can practice self-stimulation technique to help prolong sexual activity
and to achieve orgasm. Men who suffer from premature ejaculation tend
to ejaculate too quickly than normal during sexual stimulation and he
can prolong his sexual activity by masturbating first because after
initial orgasm it takes more time for men to recover before he can have
another orgasm.

Men with orgasmic disorder have difficulty achieving
orgasm during sexual stimulation. He can masturbate before hand to the
point where he is about to climax and then engage in sexual intercourse
with his partner until he achieves his orgasm.

Most of the time masturbating involved
sexual fantasy
to enhance pleasure and sexual arousal. The fantasy can be just about
anything from having sex with strangers to group sex and everything in
between. Sexual fantasy is normal as long as it is not acted out and
hurting others along the process. Men get arouse from visuals and are
more likely to masturbate while looking at porn movies or porn
magazines. Women get arouse by focusing on the emotion that are
involved and are more likely to masturbate to romance novel.

Some
men who are more sensitive prefer to rub their penis over the foreskin
and others prefer to rub their penis directly with the foreskin pull
back to enhance pleasure and sexual arousal. Most men enjoy stroking
the shaft with one hand in up-and-down motions, some men enjoy stroking
their glans and frenulum and others enjoy pulling on their scrotum while
masturbating.

Some women who are more sensitive prefer to
stimulate the clitoris indirectly over the hood and others prefer to
stimulate the clitoris directly with the hood pull back to enhance
pleasure and sexual arousal. Women enjoy stroking their clitoris with
one or two fingers either in circular motion, up-and-down motion, or
back-and-forth motion. Even though most women prefer clitoral
stimulation to reach orgasm some prefer vaginal penetration with the use
of fingers, sex toys and vibrators to reach orgasm.

Some women
get sexually arouse watching men masturbating in front of her and vice
versa. Some men get sexually arouse masturbating in front of women and
vice versa. Some couples participate in this type of sexual behavior to
enhance pleasure and to achieve a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

Masturbating help to reduce stress and anxiety and also help
individual to feel more relax and allow them to sleep better at night.
Masturbating is not for everyone as some do it for self exploration and
other chose not to do it for religious or cultural beliefs. Some people
with strict upbringing tend to associate self masturbation with
feelings of shame and guilt rather than pleasure.

Self masturbation
allow individuals to discover erotic pleasure and techniques that are
pleasing and satisfying which can also be shared with partner to
enhance pleasure and to achieve more satisfying relationship.
Research indicates that masturbating is not harmful in the sexuality of
young adulthood.