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hello everyone,i hope someone can help me with this.my lil girl is 6 years old,she is our oldest and like the rest of our children is the light of our life!today she told me (while crying) that she doesnt have any friends in school.this broke my heart!we have 2 other children 3 and 4.5 years old and 1 on the way.but other then her brother and sister that is pretty much it,between my husband and i our familys are vary small or just live too far away.so she is not really growing up with anyone else other then her lil brother and sister.she has the heart of gold and is a wonderfull girl!her lil brother has autism and that does not faze her at all.she still will do all she can with him (play,read,hang out with him,stick up for him)anything that a brother or sister do with/for each other.how can i help her through this?what can i do?i tryed talking to her but i just dont think that she gets it.she is in the 1st grade she is the youngest in her class.(started kindergarden early)i just feel so bad that my baby feels that no one likes her.

I wonder if maybe she is saying this because she had a tiff with another child at school. I remember if one girlfriend said something harsh to me, I would feel like I had NO friends, even though it wasn't really true. I have an only child so I have to work hard at giving him a social life. I try to have him call classmates on the phone on Saturdays and that will leave to inviting them over for playdates and such. Sometimes I'll take him to the park when I know it will be full of kids so he can hopefully find a playmate. Eventually after a few visits he will and I'll try to invite that new child over. I have to be honest though, it's usually our family doing the inviting. People seem too busy nowadays to invite kids over, so I don't mind -- it's good for our son, so if they don't always reciprocate, that's OK.

My daughter (and my son at that age) said the same thing. I wonder if they just expect everyone to be friends with them without actually having to try at it. I've tried to talk to them and tell them that all relationships take compromise. They can't always call the shots and try things that maybe other kids are wanting to do. It' really difficult at that age because they are still learning to develop (and maintain) outside family relationships.

Are there any children in your neighborhood? Although my children have never complained about not having any friends, I never really hear them talk of anyone and they never have friends over. Remembering back to when I was a child, I was all about hanging out with friends, making new friends with all the kids in the neighborhood, having sleepovers, etc. We've lived in our home now for about a year and we never knew any of our neighbors. Yesterday when we got home, I noticed a little boy outside the house next door with my neighbor. I took my children over and introduced them. :) You'd be surprised, I thought they might think I was weird for walking over there, but they were delighted to meet us!! The little boy was 4 which was great because I have a 4 &amp; 8 year old. Now they have a buddy right next door! Are there any other children at her bus stop? Thats a great place to start!! Just a suggestion.

My heart went out to your little girl because our boy, who is also six, came home crying basically about the same thing. Y husband and I even considered taking him to a therapist to see why he had problems fitting in; then suddenly one day he started talking about his friend &quot;Cami&quot;. He asked for a playdate so I talked to the teacher and asked her if there was any way I could get in touch with the parent. Theorher turned out to be the ok radian of the school! So it wasn't a
Problem to get a contact on her.

But even if you could forge a get together that's not even necessarily your daughter's birthday, that would be great. I know when my daughter was in preschool I hosted a tea party where they dressed up, etc. Well, have your daughter invite five girls from her class for an ice-cream social. (Children will come if the word &quot;ice cream is in the title). Try to be proactive.

Also, someone once told me that the more they see you socialize with your friends the more
confident she'll be in approaching hers-or making hers- because she has a role model. Make sure she sees you do it too!

comfort her as much as you can but as mechellbelle said it may have been just a tiff on the playground. My youngest also six and in first grade, youngest in her class told me the same thing not more than a month ago with tears in hers eyes. Turns out all the girls were playing something on the playground that she didn't want to play...therefore in her mind she has no friends. Her birthday is coming up and has a whole slew of girls she wants to invite.

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