Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

When does this get easier?

Wow. I never thought I would get a divorce. After two years together and one year of marriage, my husband decided he wasnt ready for the responsibilities two days ago. We have a five month old daughter together and I thought we could really work things out and give our daughter the home she deserves. But, he always said he would work on the things that we had problems with, and I tried to work on my things. He never tried though. He decided a little late that he wasnt ready to grow up and have a family. He always lied and expected me to do things for him. I had to do everything for the baby, and yes, I stayed at home...but weekends he could have helped. I am so afraid to be alone again, and this time with a baby. Im not sure I can do this alone. I have my family, but its not the same. I miss him holding me when I cry. Now, I hold nothing and cry alone. When does this get easier? Will I ever not cry myself to sleep, feel nauseous, or cry when I wake up?

So sorry you are going through this. I feel like crying myself every day, but then I focus on my kids - really focus. You can feel it in the pit of your stomach, happiness. Its right there in front of you, you just have to choose every day which way you are going to look. Some days, you might not be able to, and that's okay. But, you have to make the choice that most days you will choose to look at the good, look at the blessings because I have to believe if you focus on that long enough good things will come from that. You will be okay.

Hey sweetie, your situation sounds a lot like mine. Luckily though, my husband and I didn't have children together. It gets easier. I'm still struggling myself, today is a week ago that he left without a word and I haven't seen him yet. He's suppose to be coming today. I was married for 3 years and with him for nearly 5 and one day he told me that he wasn't in love with me anymore and that we needed to separate and then the next, he was gone. Rely on your family and talk to people on here. Write in your journal and never be afraid to ask for help(I'm struggling with that one right now).

Thanks. Asking for help is truly the hardest thing for me. But I did get a phone call from a previous gf of his. They have a 4 year old together that he never bothered seeing until I convinced him to do what was right. Guess I should have seen it coming. She has been a source of support I never thought I would see. I realize this environment is better for my daughter and eventually we will be happier, but the nights and mornings are the worst. What kind of person can leave his family and not care about his babies?

This may sound very weird, but you are lucky, having a small infant is time consuming. Focus on your child, take picture, video her, go see family, spend time with her half sibling. Otherwise you will awaken to have mised the most beautiful time of her life.

Always focus on the child and the feeling will heal themselves, with journaling, prayer, freinds and family. If he doesn;t take care of his own child he has deep issues and is not worth it, save your daughter from the cycle he setting yup, by providing a loving home.

It will get better with time and its easier if you realize your worth and set a date to start healing, and sure enough it will occur.

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