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What's Your Dating Mantra?

One thing I've learned during my time at Single-ish is that when it comes to dating there are no universal truths - you've got to go with what works for you. I'm always more than happy to give relationship (unsolicited) romantic advice and I don't hesitate to call my friends and family when I'm in a jam, but in the end you've got to throw away the rules and do what feels right. That being said, I have developed a few dating mantras that are usually true.

I couldn't find a good mantra photo, so here's a random shot of my dad and Uncle Ben having way too much fun back in the day. I'm pretty sure this was taken the night I was born, and the story is that Pops got roaring drunk to celebrate the momentous event, which in retrospect was something of an omen.

Pick Up The Phone. I used to think that because I'm an OK writer and a pretty bad talker, I was better off expressing my feelings to women through email. I no longer believe that - hell, I bet even Shakespeare had to put down the pen and tell his wife (or boyfriend) about his feelings. You can't have a real conversation without talking.

Honesty Is The Best Policy. Really. If someone isn't into me I'd prefer know that sooner rather than later. Conversely, the last thing I want to do is lead someone on.

Honor The Spark. It's either there or it isn't. Listen to your gut and proceed accordingly.

We all know Erin's Law, but I want to know: Do you have any dating mantras?

P.S. I will have more to say on Valentine's Day later in the week, but in the meantime check out what Erin and I (and some other single bloggers) have to say about surviving V-Day.