Provocative discourse as I navigate issues of safety. My marriage lasted 3 decades without any signs of infidelity until the end. I could not say that I didn’t feel safe because I didn’t have an awareness. Long before the exposure I sensed things were not right, and could not figure it out but never imagined this. It began with emotional infidelity. My intuition kicked into high gear one day when I considered the possibility for the first time and uncovered evidence left exposed that day. This experience has definitely brought into my awareness, how I have not felt safe in other areas of the marriage. And a recurring pattern in other relationships. I am determined to move forward more aware of keeping myself safe from destructive behaviors and relationships. Thanks for shedding a little light on the subject.