Comparing her strong relationship to The Biebs, Sel says she’s relieved to have moved on from her high maintenance and privacy-obsessed ex (pssst…we figure she’s most likely referring to Nick-ster.)

“I was in a relationship previously where I had to hide everything and it wasn’t my choice,” she told Cosmo. “I had to go through different exits and take separate cars and do the craziest things, and it just really wasn’t worth it. It was like a year of my life completely wasted.”