It should go without saying, but unfortunately doesn't, that bisexual is a really flawed shorthand for how I experience gender and sexuality. While I know these things are different for different people, I experience gender as something fluid and dynamic enough that my identity, as well as the identities I'm attracted to fluctuate rapidly, and simultaneously encapsulate masculinity, femininity, both and neither. As such I find it is rare (though not unheard of) that I'd be happy in a relationship with a straight female or a gay male, as such a person would necessarily have to ignore part of my gender experience.

I've spent the last year working in the woods at a hot springs resort. Using the relaxation and alone time to do some necessary self-growth work, and now I'm moving back to Portland. Not sure what I'm going to do there, but it feels like the right place to be right now.

I'm interested in hanging out with the kinds of people I can have stimulating, engaging conversations about opinions, feelings, and where those two meet. Preferably not people I agree with on absolutely everything, but absolutely not those with fucked up oppressive views. You know who you are.

I also want to be totally up-front about the fact that I'm not looking for anything monogamous or even primary-partnery right now. This isn't forever, but right now I'm having fun, meeting new people, and being chill about it, and I wouldn't feel alright being somebody's main squeeze until a few things are different in my life.

What I’m doing with my life

Spending my time thinking and reading. Using the solitude I currently inhabit to better get to know myself.

I've also been trying to teach myself things, for instance modern greek, vegan baking, and postmodernism. I've also been getting really into fitness, though I'm not a jock at all. If any of those sound interesting to you we should work on them together, or if you have projects which could use a project buddy, let's work on them together. Self-improvement forever!

I’m really good at

I'm good at making people laugh. I'm one of those rare people who is good at baking and cooking.

The first things people usually notice about me

Facial piercings, asymmetrical haircut, goofy smile.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

-Books- My Goodreads, for those nerdy enough to careBut basically, LOVE existential fiction (Kafka, Camus...), Critical Theory (esp gender theory but including others), love me some Vonnegut, definitely enjoy Palaniuk from time to time, and a smattering of young-adult fiction. I also enjoy just keeping an eye on what's trending and reading that. I thought the hunger games trilogy was fantastic.

You wanna be activity buddies, of either the kissy or nonkissy type. I like learning new things. I'm currently super-psyched about knitting and learning modern greek for instance. If you're into those things or wanna find new neat projects, you should message me.

you like cute date-times with picnic baskets, awkward movies, and other such foolishness.

you are ok with the fact that I'm a pretty outgoing person, but can be really shy in 1-on-1 hangouts with strangers. It could take a few hangouts before I really come out of my shell.

Okcupid needs a "You should not message me if" question. So i'm adding it here, and here you go:

You should not message me if you know specifically what sexual act you want to to on/at/with/toward/in me. I'm just not that kind of faggot.