when real life stuff starts getting dragged into the boards. If it's on the boards and you've disclosed it then it's (mostly) fair game, personal non-board stuff, stay clear of.

I think most people are alright here, if anyone expresses that they've been ACTUALLY offended, then there's usually a frentic display of bracktracking. It's rare that anyone actually wants to hurt someone else, and I reckon people are generally fairly sensitive around potentially dangerous subjects.

I guess that's why that skills hairdresser thread had so much potential to kick off, it's so simultaneously inoffensive and ridiculous as to make it a prime target for BANTS.

About two regular DISers that had apparently split up. The tone of the thread was pretty dark & spiteful. Didn't like that.

Most DISers are really nicer, nicer in person too, but always trying to get 'one up on each other', as a self deprecating defense mechanism for their banal depressive lives. But that's always been the way. And it's okay.