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Are you struggling in any or all areas of your life? Does it feel like something is holding you back from the changes you want to see occur? It all starts with your thoughts, specifically your dominant ones, which thoughts are you encouraging, embellishing and embracing? Are you letting the experiences in your life that have hurt you define and shape the story and direction of your life? The time to change is now and it begins with letting go of that which no longer serves you.

Ease up, relax and settle back into your authentic self, dig deep down if you have to but get in touch with who you are at your soul level. If you are feeling the grips of struggle it is likely that part of you hasn’t had a voice for a while and you would be doing yourself a great kindness by re-connecting.

Your answers, where you want to go and what you want to see change are found within the silence. If you have long forgotten what you wanted in life or aren’t sure anymore then you really need to pay attention to those whisperings, they come from your heart and your soul and they won’t lead you in the wrong direction.

To see the manifestation of your dreams and all you desire you must set your intention and then blend with the energetic flow of least resistance. It is actually easier to do than you may think, it’s as easy as breathing. The only reason letting go seems to be so difficult is because you have become too accustomed to going against the stream instead of allowing it to carry you.

Have you ever noticed how relaxed, happy and zen anyone who has seen their dreams and desires manifest are? Of course they would be happy because they are finally “living their dream” but it’s also because stepping into that state began with letting go, having faith and trusting in the divine to lead you to your true destiny, whatever that may be. There is much comfort and ease in that state of being, more than you may realize and definitely more than anyone trying to discourage you will acknowledge.

When you feel like you are constantly in the challenges of life you are not relaxed, happy or zen, you are stressed. Has the amount of stress you put on yourself in any given situation every positively changed the outcome? I would bet no, simply because I have done this to myself, more than once actually, and every time it’s been a total waste of energy that I could have put to better positive use.

I’ve noticed that the times when I’ve felt relaxed, happy and zen that my life flows with much more ease and in hindsight I find myself recognizing the patterned dysfunction of it all and wondering why when I know I am doing this to myself do I continue to embrace it? Simple, it’s a conditioning that needs to be broken, changed, re-aligned and re-formatted into a positively charged pattern, this takes discipline and time so don’t get discouraged.

From the time we are young we are conditioned to be fearful, something for sure is going to catch up with you and ruin your “not likely to achieve” dreams. We are told to be realistic and not to expect too much, the world doesn’t just give you all the breaks. Ok, for a small part of that I will agree and I will tell you why. It is true you aren’t going to get all the breaks at least not for free, you are actually going to have to do the work. Anything worth having is worth working for, you can’t just ask for abundance and then do nothing to work toward it but as long as you put your intention out there, believe in it, feel it, blend it with that energy and then do your work the opportunity for those breaks begin to open up.

When you do the work you will find your confidence, self-worth and personal empowerment begin to grow and after a while the work doesn’t seem as hard now as it was at the beginning and that is because the first step of this journey is letting go.

Changing that thought so that you are no longer holding onto the fear is the most difficult and monumental part of positive change but it can be done!

Have you ever said this to someone? Did it have the outcome you expected?

Or:

Has someone ever said this to you? How did it make you feel?

I’ve had this experience on the receiving end because honestly I could never say this to someone and actually think that it was ok. The conclusion I’ve come to is that when someone says this it is because they are feeling helpless, inadequate or fearful and it seems to be a situationally based and reactive behaviour. I believe that everyone’s feelings count but not when those feelings are used in a combative or hurtful way.

In a way this statement is an eye opener for you as to who the person really is and it reveals a lot about how they will handle any level of stress, especially if they are projecting their stress toward someone else. It’s also a good indication of what you can expect to see in the future, similar to the theory “to see how someone deals with something give them a string of tangled christmas lights”, honestly that seems like a good theory.

We all have different levels of adversity to deal with in our lives, no one’s is more important the other’s, but if we all ran around biting each other’s heads off because we were mad about our challenges how would we ever learn to cope or gain wisdom while maintaining a level of integrity.

Even though I’ve heard many times that “people don’t change” or “leopards don’t change their spots” I believe that anyone can change their behaviourial lifestyle for the better, especially if it is currently working poorly for them, but the key is that they have to want to. It’s hard work to make changes to behaviour, they are ingrained, they’ve developed from our early years and even though habits are very hard to break, they can be broken but in order to do that determination and willingness to meet that goal will be the biggest challenge. My experience has led me to believe that anyone that makes this statement isn’t likely to change, not because they can’t but because they won’t. They either don’t realize the effect they actually have on someone or they don’t take well to the response of hurt feelings and become defensive.

Any challenge that is difficult requires a strong and determined resolve to be successful and I’ve found that any time I attempt to do something I put my mind to there is no way I am going to allow myself to give up. Any inkling that creeps into my mind telling me I can’t do something is not allowed to stay and that is my resolve and it works well for me. Everyone is different though, just because my thought process works for me, doesn’t mean it will work for someone else and maybe each of us need to find some sort of adaptation that works to be successful.

It’s a big commitment to make a change like this, everyone has the ability and the opportunity but not everyone has the endurance to see it through to the end. When you are going through something that is extremely challenging it’s a benefit to have some sort of validation from others that you are going to be successful but it’s not their validation that is the most important, it’s your own. When you don’t get that validation it can become the reason to give up because it’s just too hard and no one’s patting you on the back yet anyway but that’s the test, the life lesson.

Life is full of challenges and how you deal, cope and adapt to those challenges is entirely your decision but I think it’s important to recognize and be aware of how those decisions may be affecting those around you that you care for.

The moment of clarity happens at a different point and time for everyone. It’s the ultimate “aha” and chances are that the signs have been all around you but they didn’t come together until that poignant moment.

The moment of clarity is always a positive thing but depending on where you are in your life or what you were hoping to change because of that realization, it’s possible that things have progressed ahead too much to go back to where you were hoping or desiring, and maybe the reason for that is, you are not meant to. The positive aspect is that you’ve reached that point and better to have had that moment later than never. Growth periods occur not only because they are meant to carry us forward but because somewhere in our future these specific lessons are necessary.

I’ve had more than one moment of clarity, thankfully not one of them have been at a point that causes me serious regret but I believe that even if there is serious regret involved there is nothing we cannot change through honesty, humility and perseverance.

Even if two people have the same turn of events occur in their life they won’t experience it the same, their reaction and response will be different because just like our physical make-up is unique, our emotional make-up is as well. Everything that has occurred in our lives from the time we can remember (upbringing, environment, personality traits) influences how we react and respond to all of the moments (good and bad) that we experience and some of those moments can change us forever.

I believe it’s best to focus on where you go from here and how you go about doing that with the integrity of what you have recently learned. In reflecting on different times in my life it’s amazing how much my life has grown and changed and in no way that I had ever planned or expected but all of it, so far, has turned out much better than I could have envisioned.

I know I’ve referenced this quote before but it’s definitely worth repeating:

A change of feeling is a change of destiny – Neville Goddard

When you experience a moment of clarity, within that lies the opportunity to change your future going forward. The most monumental moments of clarity are sometimes associated with some form of “Rock Bottom” and from the bottom there is only one way to go – Up! Rock Bottom is the essence of when you feel completely defeated whether that is physically, emotionally, mentally or all three. When there is nothing left, there is hope and when there is hope it helps you to develop faith. Faith can take you in any direction you choose. The more you believe, the more things change, the more things change, the more you believe, the more this cycle will continue to evolve..

This is probably one of the best cycles to fall into and one of my favorites! Cycles have the possibility to develop into a snowball effect and for me I’ll welcome this one every time.