Motherless Daughters Community Group

For any daughter who has lost their mother, whether through Death (if it&#039;s been one day ago or 40 years ago) or Abandonment, (i.e.-drug abuse, mental illness, physical or emotional abuse, etc.) and is working through the grief process. This group provides unconditional support and understanding from women who have also lost their Moms and who truly care.

'nother newbie

I can't believe I've found a lost mom's club. I have been searching for a place to share feeling of this loss with a group that would understand. How great. I lost my Mom 09/27/07. I cannot believe I'm approaching a year since I often feel as though it happened last week. All memory of it is vivid and still so painful. She died too soon and the end wasn't at all what I would have wished for her. I'm so so sad and the longing for her sometimes is so painful. Since months have gone by what I experience now are periods of good time (or less sadness) and then the flood comes back and i'll have days of intense grief and aching for her. I kind of feel like the ok times are a dream - like I don't really believe she's gone...and then the reality of it hits and those are my sad days. Is that strange?? and it seems to be going back and forth like that now...but I still think of it and her daily. Her loss has just derailed me totally and I feel like i'm trying to get back on track! Thank goodness for this place! the avatar picture I have is of myself and her (Rosanne) at last years Bengals training camp in early August. She died a little over a month later. So unexpected..
Thanks for listening! :)

Hello Lisa and welcome to Motherless daughters. I too was every happy when I found this group and what an amazing group of women I have had the pleasure of getting to know! My mom has been gone for 5 months she too died very unexpectedly and I miss her like crazy. But I can tell you that the love and support that you will find here has been truely a godsend and a major help for me! BIG HUGS to you ~Angela

Hi Lisa...welcome to the group. I think we are both in about the same place in our grief. My mom died one day before your mom...9/26/07. I am so happy that you found us! I have found a special place here and I hope you find what you are looking for with us!
Julianna

Lisa, I lost my mum in November of last year. I now can sometimes have thoughts of her without crying. It is unpredictable though. The times I cry the hardest are on my commute home from work (I live outside DC and have a long commmute). Some times she visits in my dreams and they are so real. I am glad you find this group. It will help. I have been able to really let things off my chest and this is one supportive group of gals. Thinking of you. Colleen

Aw, of course we are all here to listen to you and unfortunatley for all of us we know exactly how you are feeling. I have a picture of my mom at the Miami Seaquarium happy as can be ---smiling from ear to ear holding a parrot on her arm, with me, my daughter and my grandaughter---4 generations that she was so proud of. Two months later she was gone. What a shock. What a sadness. We are all here for you and know your pain

Lisa, welcome to the group. This is a place to let it all out, and have others going through the same thing to listen. We welcome your stories and memories. I think leaning on each other and helping out gets us through our own hard days. Glad you joined!

Hi Lisa, Welcome. I&#039;m coming on a year this August, the 16th of loosing my mom unexpectedly. It&#039;s been very hard to deal with. Like you, I feel it was too soon for her to die and really have trouble believing she&#039;s truely gone. I don&#039;t know I&#039;ll ever get peace with her death. I wish I had some words for you but I just don&#039;t know myself how to get through this. I am just thankful for all the support here at DS. It takes so much effort just to get through each day. Many hugs to you, Rachele

Thank you all for the warm welcome. I knew this was going to be a place I could vent and express with women who understood :) I have one sister and our Mom was such a huge enmeshed part of our lives we are both feeling very lost without her. The added dimension is the pain of having your kids not know her. I have older children (three boys) who have memories but my sister has 2 boys (5 and 2) and she was pregnant with the first girl when Mom died. She&#039;s named Anna Rose after Mom (Rosanne). We really feel like we want to do more to remember and help the boys remember but I think we&#039;ve been so lost ourselve we&#039;ve not done well in that area. Thanks again for your hugs and welcomes!!

Hello Lisa,
I would also like to welcome you to this amazing group.
After my mum&#039;s death, I went to see a counsellor ( once ). I asked her why is it that from nowhere, you just start crying? It feels like a wave is coming over you. She explained it like this......

She said that we kind of get &quot;drip fed&quot; grief. If we were inundated with the whole intensity of grief at once, we would probably die ourselves. She said that the brain and body sense when we can take a little more, and that is why it seems to come from nowhere. Does that make sense to you? it did to me.....

I would be laying in bed and feeling ok and then the waves would start...... I would think &quot; Oh no, here it comes!&quot;

Sadly there is nothing that can stop us from going through grief and we all go through it in our lives.........

thank you, and that actually does make sense. I wonder too how it comes like it does and with such intensity and almost like it&#039;s new again. This morning driving to work I started thinking about her..hard. Live trying to visualize her face and remembering us sitting at the kitchen table laughing and having fun - and when I do that, concentrate hard on her memory, is when it goes south for me. So, it&#039;s almost like I can&#039;t think hard about her or it&#039;s not quite bearable. I don&#039;t know if that&#039;s a weird as it sounds to me.. I can say I&#039;ve come to realize I hold some guilt with her death and the way she was just here and then gone is tremendously hard to deal with. It sucks to have no goodbye&#039;s when you love someone that much. :(

Lisa,
I think whatever makes you feel comfortable is a good thing. If you want to remember, then do so, if you want to cry, then do so.
Guilt is a natural part of the grieving process. Some go through this, some don&#039;t. Things will get a little easier....... But one thing remains.... we will NEVER stop missing our mums!
Sam
xoxox

Hi Lisa! Welcome to the gang ;-) It hits me too! like a baseball bat!!! knocks the wind right out of me...and the times when i am less sad, is like a dream too..Welcome again to the group! Your going to love it here!!! hugs xoxoxoxo

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

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