Debate from my facebook wall:

She doesn’t have female friends and listens to only her male friends Please don’t include my name and I want it to be posted now. I am 25 years old guy. I have a serious relationship but the problem is that my partner doesn’t have any female friends. They are all guys and before she can do anything she will discuss it with them before me but I have corrected her severally but she doesn’t listen to me, I guess she prefers her friends and takes them first before me. Please, my good people what do you think I can do? Is it good for a lady to have male friends which her hubby doesn’t like?

Johnny Manmountain:

The girl should forget about you because you’re not the serious type. I’m the kind of man she needs because all my friends are female.

Eberekpe Ogho:

He should read my book; ‘Hocus-Pocus/ Subways and Moron.

Olusegun I. Dada: Truth be told. Any lady who claims she cannot have female friends except males has a problem and needs help. This young man needs to move on and find another real woman who will value him enough to confide in him. There is no balance in this relationship and I thank God for showing this young man these signs at this material time before they are joined together in marriage. Imagine coming back from work and meeting your wife at home in the company of three male friends chatting away in your living room? You must ask yourself if that is the kind of home you really want.

Coker Da Vangard Oluwasegun:

My own advice for your friend is that he should have another girl hidden as a substitute. I sense the girl will has things she is receiving from those so calls friends she says she has. First of all if she loves T26%the guy she would place him first in her mind. Ladies of nowadays lie a lot and love don shook the eyes of that guy that’s why he no wan open head to see that the lady is a “flop of the moment”. The girl will still go and if she no go she wan use the guy do didirin.

David Ayodele Bolarinwa: I think the partner with male friends here is a lady. You need to sit her down and discuss the issue with her. There is need to strike a balance!

Balogun Danjuma OmoBaale DaleKatunsa:

Let me start by saying I am not impressed with the kind of response I am reading. My response might also not suit everybody. But that’s how I feel… Everybody has a right to be friends with any kind of gender. Take me for example, I am always comfortable with female friends who I would never date and I have no intention of dating. We talk about many things including their love lives and that is always where I learn from. It’s from there that I always get to know what women want because nobody can know the mind of a woman except if you are also a woman. The fact that the lady has mostly male friends is really nothing a good guy should cry on top. She asks opinion from them?? That’s also cool. My sister always calls me whenever she and her boyfriend have a problem and I give her my opinion. She follows my opinion. My solution for the guy’s problem is that the guy should start knowing the male friends of his girlfriend and start being friends with dem… By doing such, the male friends will also be his friend and thereby he will get to know what the friends and his wife discuss. The guy might be having a wrong notion of these guys. That’s all I have to say.

David Ayodele Bolarinwa: Balogun, will you also appreciate it if your partner always discusses her life issues with her male friends before you in an habitual manner? We are talking about respecting your partner’s feelings while exercising your liberty in a well-balanced manner. We are talking about respecting your partner’s feelings while exercising your liberty in a well-balanced manner. It is possible that this guy also has jealousy and suspicion issue but does everything possible to save or protect your relationship! No (wo)man will ever appreciate her romantic partner placing his females friends above her on priority list when it comes to proximity and attention. Let us strike a balance between personal liberty and partner’s sentiment.

Odiaka Christian: Mrs. Agoro, please do publish this article in your Hearts column, I’ll love to follow it up there.

Mike Folademi: O yea! This isn’t good enough. In short it is a bad sign. Whatever you don’t want to eat you don’t bring it close to your nose. In fact the guy is very lucky this is happening now before marriage. I beg flee now that you can because the marriage would be disastrous. I have friends who made such mistakes and they are full of regrets now.