With two coaching groups up and running, I am LOVING it. My Rad Moms are such beautiful and unique individuals and so supportive to one another. They are forming wonderful connections and gaining some powerful insights into their identity! Can’t wait until we start learning about self-care, balance and time management. So far, the groups are a huge success!

Stay-tuned. We’ll soon be launching this group on a regular basis. Perhaps within the next month?? Excited news to come, my mamas!

It’s time to take positive action to living a more fulfilled and joyful life, ladies.Let’s do this.

The Rad Mom Coach is launching a brand new 6-week program for moms who answered yes to any of the questions above.

We have started a new test group for our new group coaching program at a ridiculously low price for six mammas only.At the end of the group, we’ll ask for your feedback to help make the future groups even more powerful.Don’t procrastinate because the slots should fill up fast.

Regularly priced at $450, six of you will join the program for only $225.That’s less than $38 per session.Crazy cheap.

The program includes:

Six, 1-hour phone coaching sessions with five other mothers who know exactly how you are feeling.

One, 45-min INDIVIDUAL coaching session to help you clarify how you want to live with more balance and fire for life.

Weekly workbooks to help you dig into what makes you joyful and to set goals towards living with more balance.

A private Facebook group designed for the six mommas to support and interact with one another between and after sessions.This group will remain in place if mommas want to plan to stay in touch or continue your relationships after we finish up.

Accountability so that you actually DO what you say you want to do.

Each session will have a general topic and the freedom to talk about anything on our mom’s minds.Topics covered include:

How to reconnect with yourself and become clear on your vision for your life.

How to take charge and become the driver of your life instead of the passenger.

How to find a healthy balance and practice self-care (say what?!).

How to make your schedule work for you.

How to eliminate barriers that have been getting in your way.

And one session where the group decides what to work on!

If you are interested in joining the test group, contact Kacey Kaufman, CPC, LCSW-R, ELI-MP aka The Rad Mom Coach at kacey@theradmom.com.We will then schedule a short phone call where we will decide if you are a good match for the group.Don’t procrastinate because the group should fill up quickly!

When I tell people that I am a mom coach, I often get a response with a vague “oh awesome” or a smile and nod. It’s always obvious which people have no freaking idea what I’m talking about. I’m still surprised that so many people don’t know what coaching is. Usually, first thoughts are that coaches give life advice- likely because

that is how it is often portrayed on television. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Coaches are trained to NOT give advice but to ask questions so that you can make powerful decisions on your own.

Many people think coaches are like mini-therapists. Being both a psychotherapist AND a coach, I can tell you they are very different. The shortest way to explain the difference is to say that therapy is designed to move a person from dysfunctional to functional. Coaching is designed to move a person from functional to optimal.

I work with my Moms using a specific process.

Rad Mom Coach Five-Step Coaching Process

Step 1:

REDISCOVER who you are as an individual and get very clear on what your vision of a joyful life would look like.

Step 2:

UNCOVER AND REMOVE the barriers that are getting in your way to living this fulfilling, balanced, and well,… rad life!

Step 3:

CREATE a game plan with your coach.

Step 4:

MAKE YOUR PLAN A REALITY by setting clear, attainable goals and by receiving support to help hold you accountable.

Step 5:

Live it. Walk the talk and bask in your joy.

This process works from the inside-out.

In the first two steps of this process of coaching (and in more depth as we proceed), we focus on the “inner work” where we rediscover:

Who you are as an individual, especially now that you are a mother.

What you are passionate about (even if you don’t thing you have passions… you do and we’ll find them!).

What YOU WANT your life to look like.

What a healthy balance is for you and your family.

What has been getting in your way and how to eliminate these blocks.

That you aren’t really stuck. Positive change really is possible if you open up, move forward and take control of your own life.

The last three steps are what we call “outer work”. Now that we are clear on exactly what it is that you want, we can start making profound life changes. In this “outer” process, we:

Create a mapped-out plan on how to make your dreams a reality. Yes, it’s possible, mama.

Set realistic and specific weekly goals to move you closer to this dream. Your coach will help you set these goals and will help keep you motivated and accountable to doing what you set out to do.

Realize how joyful your life can actually be and reclaim your fire for life!

Moms can enter this process at any step depending on her individual needs. Many moms have no idea where to begin on becoming more fulfilled in her motherhood role. Others know what they want, but don’t know how to get there.

We work together in narrowing the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

If you would like to schedule a complimentary coaching session to see if coaching is right for you, contact Kacey at kacey@theradmom.com or call 516-996-6079.

Ahhh. It’s finally arrived. Springtime. So many of us while sitting at home freezing our a’s off in winter, dreamt of the time when the leaves return, when we could walk out the door without a 20 minute procedure of wrestling with little ones to force mittens, hats, and Antarctic-ready outerwear on their chilly, wee bodies. In winter, we had a whole list of activities/goals that we were going to do when the warm weather finally arrived- things we couldn’t wait to get to.

And now the spring is here. Why are we finding that these things we’ve planned- couldn’t wait to do- are taking their time to come to fruition? We aren’t quite “hitting the ground running” as we thought we would. And then we beat ourselves up for it.

This is a theme now among so many of my clients. I have these things I want to accomplish. I keep failing at doing them. I feel like a failure. I just can’t get motivated.

So, for this post, I want to give you some things to think about on how to find some motivated to set you in action.

Shut off the Self-Defeating Voice

What are some of the things you think to yourself when you “fail” to meet your goals? Ones I hear all the time are things like,

“What’s wrong with me?”

“I’m so lazy.”

“I’ll start fresh on Monday since I have already blown this week”.

“I can’t do anything right”.

“I wish I was as motivated as ___.”

“I’m not good at this”.

“I’m a failure”.

We all have our go-to self-critical statements. And man, are they vicious. Imagine you saying these things to another person (which you would NEVER DO! So, btw, why is it okay to say to yourself?). How do you think the person would feel after hearing these messages about themselves?

Let me ask you this… How motivated do you expect to be when you feel this way?

NOT MOTIVATED AT ALL.

The messages we give to ourselves (aka THOUGHTS), are so incredibly important. They determine how we feel and what we do. When we feel defeated, we do the opposite of what we want which is inaction (or which is eating a tub of ice cream, drinking a bottle of wine, or [insert behaviors that definitely don’t help our cause]).

Get to the heart of the matter

So, what helps when we catch ourselves engaging in negative, self-critical thought, is focusing on the WHY behind what we want to do. Really think about the answers to these questions:

Why do we truly want to achieve this goal? What’s at the heart of it? How will we feel when we get there? How will we feel when we even just take one step forward towards making the dream a reality? How will accomplishing this affect our life?

Focus on THAT.

Sometimes, once we get those answers, it’s very easy to revert back to the whole “but, it feels like I’m never going to get there” thing. Stop yourself. Get back to the heart of it. And read on.

Find an accountability buddy

It can be tremendously powerful to have a friend who also wants to accomplish a goal (which should be all of your friends, by the way) and is willing to partner up with you. You don’t have to be working towards the same thing, just both be aiming for something that is taking a little work to stick to. Develop a plan and communicate to hold one another accountable for taking small steps.

Set yourself up for success

You may have a lofty goal that is going to take a lot of work to accomplish or a smaller goal that just requires getting started and a little consistency. Either way, we need to break down the goal into steps. Something nearly all of my clients are familiar with is my philosophy that in order to get in motion, we have to:

Set yourself up to succeed.

What do I mean by this? In order to gain momentum and turn a “have to” into a “want to”, we have to feel like we are winning. Even just a little. Like I mentioned before, when we are consistently not meeting our goals, we aren’t motivated. We feel beat up.

Many times, the problem lies in the goals themselves (when I say goals here I mean the action steps towards accomplishing your ultimate goal). Nine times out of ten, we are setting our expectations too high- and consequently setting ourselves up to fail.

I’m not saying don’t aim for the stars. AIM for those bad boys. But when it’s the “getting started” thing that we are struggling with, we often need to tweak our steps to allow ourselves some wins.

Let’s use an example:

Let’s say your ultimate goal is to lose 20 pounds by September.

The goals (steps) you set are: to work out four times a week by running 3 miles on Monday and Wednesday and doing a 60 minute workout videos on Thursday and Saturday.

But then you struggle getting started on Monday and then you find that the whole week is shot. Why? Because you feel defeated. Like you’ve failed even before you started.

These workout goals might be totally doable for you down the road, but when you are looking to get into a new routine, this seems like a little much to start.

Let’s set you up to succeed.

I encourage my clients to make action steps that are REALLY small and flexible to start. For some, it feels really weird and certainly “not good enough”. Work through that. Stick with me.

In the example, this might mean to do one workout in the week on whatever day they feel like it. Maybe they’ll go on an hour walk. Or maybe they’ll do one 30 minute workout video. But that is it.

Just make sure your action steps are specific, measurable, and time-limited.

With these steps, the easier the better. Why? Because the chances that they’ll actually achieve these mini-goals are much better. And then they scored a win. And a win means everything.

Compare how you feel with a win vs a week of inaction.

Set your goals small and slowly work your way up. You’ll feel the momentum and the behaviors you want will be much more likely here to stay.

Celebrate every win

I don’t care how you do this. It could be just by telling your accountability buddy that you accomplished your goal (as long as they’ll do a little cheering for you). Maybe it’s buying yourself a pedicure. Or allowing yourself to watch a movie while your kids are napping (god forbid!). Give yourself a little credit for doing EXACTLY what you said you would do. You are busy. You are human. You deserve success.

The Rad Mom Coach is inviting only six of you to be a part of our test group for a brand new program for crazy cheap. Is this you?:

Does your life feel completely out of balance?

Have you lost touch with whom you are as an individual?

Do you feel stuck or unsatisfied with the ways things have been going?

Having trouble with planning and staying organized?

Ready to take back control of your life?

The Rad Mom Coach is launching a brand new 6-week program for moms who answer yes to any of the questions above. If this is you, take advantage of this one-time opportunity. For realsies.

We are creating a test group for our new group coaching program at a ridiculously low price for six mammas only.

Regularly priced at $450, six of you will join the program for only $225.

That’s less than $38 per session. Crazy cheap.

The program includes six, 1-hour phone coaching sessions with five other mothers who know exactly how you are feeling and with whom you will likely remain friends. You will be provided with a conference call number and a private Facebook group designed to support and interact with one another between and after sessions. Also, you will receive weekly workbooks and accountability for doing the things you say you’re going to do!

Each session will have a general topic with plenty of room for individual coaching. Topics covered include:

How to reconnect with yourself and become clear on your vision for your life.

How to take charge and become the driver of your life (instead of the passenger).

How to find a healthy balance and practice self-care (say what?!).

How to make your schedule work for you.

How to eliminate barriers that have been getting in your way.

And one bonus session where the group decides what to work on!

If you are interested in joining the test group, contact Kacey Kaufman, CPC, LCSW-R, ELI-MP aka The Rad Mom Coach at kacey@theradmom.com. We will then schedule a short phone call where we will decide if you are a good match for the group. Don’t procrastinate because the group should fill up quickly!

What are Rad Moms saying?

Just wanted to thank you again for an awesome session yesterday. You tapped into a part of me that I hadn’t even discovered about myself and I liked what I saw. Can you say, “BEST COACH EVER?!!!!?”

Ariane

I loved working with Kacey. I looked forward to our sessions and came away feeling inspired, confident, and at ease. We had fun, too! Although its been some time, I regularly recall solutions we discussed which keeps propelling me forward. I’m so grateful for that.

Sara

I was able to face my issue head on and know I had someone who had my back the whole time. There is something about that feeling that is invaluable and I have never forgotten my coaching sessions with Kacey.