Why women get more attached after sex

Women tend to attach more value to sex than men. Women also become more attached to a man after sleeping with him, than vice versa. Why is this?

It turns out there is a biological basis for greater feelings of attachment and commitment in women after sex. The hormone oxytocin is released during sex and orgasm in both men and women.

This hormone functions to increase trust, make us feel more connected and reduce stress. Oxytocin is experienced differently by men and women, however:

“Oxytocin seems to have been ‘designed’ by nature to make a man and woman feel bonded after sex, so they would stay together and raise children,” she says. “Today, the physiology of men and women still plays out according to this pattern. But estrogen seems to increase the calming and bonding effects of oxytocin, while testosterone seems to mute them. That’s why women tend to feel more attached after sex than men do.”

Oxytocin is also released by the body from simple physical touch. This helps to explain why physical escalation is such an important part of seduction.

Simply increasing the amount of physical closeness, and physical touching, in your game has the potential to explode your results with dates and sex. Guys who require 3, 4, 5 or more dates before sex becomes possible are usually not doing enough physical touching.

The fact that women get more attached after sex is one of the biggest reasons why they hesitate before sleeping with a new guy, even if they want to.

Most women have had experiences where they slept with a guy, had feelings for him and felt connected to him, but then had him break up soon after or even just disappear. After one or two of these emotional trauma experiences, a woman will realize just how affected she is by sex, and she will be careful about sleeping with a new guy, even if she is very attracted to him.

Women will look for a man to be emotionally available and open, as this gives her an indication that he will still be “around” emotionally after sex.

This is why it’s so important for you to convey honesty and genuineness when dealing with women. It’s not just for having clear communication and clear expectations on all sides. For a girl you like and want to spend more time with, it’s also for sending a signal that you will still like her and want to be with her after sex.

I think men certainly fall in lust quickly, before sex (as do women). But in terms of emotional commitment, not really. Most women have had sex with a guy who was eager and excited before, only to be withdrawn and blase after. That indicates that it was more about satisfying the sexual urge than an actual genuine emotional investment. Indeed, how can one be that emotionally invested in someone one barely knows?

Well one can argue that this hormone is mostly released through orgasm in women and men. Orgasm is a huge issue for women by the way because we know very little on female sexuality we view sexuality through a man`s perspective. Also while testosterone decreases affects of oxytocin men also have vasopressin which allows him to develop a preference for that female, that “your mine” chemical people are all different don’t put us all in one group.

But to make it more clear men need to “know” women before they love them. Sex is a BIG deal to them. Its one of the most important ways they bond to women period. The difference is that with men if he sleeps with a woman early on for one they aren`t as emotional and also how can he trust a woman who slept with him so early? That’s why they like women with morals think about the idea of (if she slept with me too early does that mean she`ll sleep with someone else? is that baby mine?). So really men need to trust women before they give them their heart, its not that men don’t bond at all and blah blah blah. They do through sex, they just can better rationalize hook ups and to some degree they suppress their feelings, but in a relationship expecially if they LOVE and TRUST you that’s the best sex hell ever have not just physically but emotionally, spiritually and in everyway and hell definitely bond because that’s what humans are here for.