Ask Dr. Bate Sex Column

Dear Dr. Bate,

...I have a urologist who tells me it’s good to ejaculate on a frequent basis, and I’ve read articles that claim masturbation helps to stave off prostate cancer. So there would seem to be a medical argument to support ejaculation. So my question is: can a man go his whole life without ejaculating? Would that be healthy?

QUESTION

Hello. This past year I’ve discovered that my interest in bating has grown to the extent that I would rather masturbate on cam rather than watching porn. I moved from my hometown to another country and it hasn’t been easy adapting socially. I’ve had a couple of wanking meet-ups and still look for them, but none appear to be more than a one time thing.

I think I’m looking for someone to be friends with and to share the interest in wanking, plus any others. I find myself pretty often chatting online to try and find a fellow bater. Could this be more like an obsession? Maybe I should try finding non bating friends instead?

QUESTION

I don’t spend my life blaming other people for my issues, but in a way that’s kept me from dealing with the harm that was caused by a complete black-out on information from my parents about the human body while experiencing gross humiliation at school on a daily basis. My sense of abandonment by the adults in my early life still haunts me...

I’ve managed to come to terms with the sexual issues by living as a happily single nudist and proud masturbator. I have a good set of friends who I have openly sexual relationships with, and I’m grateful for what I’ve got. But the anxieties return often, and I want to be rid of them.

Dear Dr. Bate,

I love bating. But the problem is I feel like I love bating too much. Even when I am having sex with my people I still think about putting porns on and bating instead of enjoying the sex. Can you give me advice on this? I want to enjoy sex as much as I enjoy bating. Thanks,

Dear Dr. Bate,

Dear Dr. Bate,

A friend and I got to talking about mutual masturbation and frottage, he loves to masturbate but doesn’t like to frot with guys he doesn’t know very well for fear of getting herpes (genital warts). How likely is someone to get herpes from mutual masturbation or frottage?

Hey Dr. Bate!

I’m a horny young guy (20), and recently I’ve gotten into a habit that I’m not sure is healthy, especially physically?

So, when I jack off, I get hard, edge for a while, then blow my load. All normal, right? Except, sometimes, I’m still SOOOO horny even right after I cum. I keep tugging at my cock and it’s still totally soft. Eventually, if I tug enough and just right, I can kind of “make” myself cum while totally soft.

Basically, I’m not hard at all. Sometimes I’ll get a little stiff as I’m cumming again, but not even then always. I have both an orgasm and an ejaculation- my cum is a little thicker and whiter, too. It feels amaaaazing. But is it healthy?

I woke up this morning at 3:30 and began to lightly tease my dick and balls for about 5 hours while watching porn. I did not cum. When I got done, my balls began to ache and now there is steady pressure between my balls and anus. What is the best way to get the pain to stop?