How To Text A Girl On Tinder – [Tinder Messaging Tips]

Gone are the days where Tinder was just an app for hookups.
Now people are looking towards Tinder for real relationships, especially women.
And this is good news for men.

Tinder is just like any other site. If you have a good
profile, you will get matches easily. You upload good pictures and write 1 or 2
lines about yourself. And when a girl checks your profile and likes, she will
swipe right. And once she has swiped right, half of the battle is won. How you
are going to start off your conversation and then meet that amazing girl is all
that’s left.

Even though matches might come easily, some guys struggle to
start a conversation with a girl. Getting swiped right is useless if you don’t
know how to start a conversation and engage in it.

But don’t worry. The focus of this post is on messaging in tinder. If you are confused about how to text a girl on tinder, this is for you.

How To Text A Girl On Tinder

Below are some useful tips on how to start a conversation in
tinder and lock that date.

Get Started With The Conversation

Before you can do anything you need to start off that
conversation. One of the best ways to start a conversation is to ask the girl a
question or crack a joke that is something specifically about her(just don’t
make a joke about her looks).

A good tip here is to ask a personal question. Don’t just go
on copying and pasting the same question to every girl you want to talk to.
Girls can find that out. Just go though her profile and look for details in her
pictures or profile description.

You can see in the above example that your message in much
more engaging and interesting than the boring guy. Not only you are sharing
with her about your interest, you are also giving her a reason for something to
talk about.

Example 2:

Girl: What kind of movies do you like to watch?

Boring Guy: I like horror movies.

You: I love to watch any movie that gives a big, fat workout to my brains. So movies like Interstellar are my favorite.

Once again the boring guy is not giving much reason for the
girl to respond back. But your response is clearly letting her know what kind
of genre you like in movies which will let her know if both of you have common taste
and give enough reason to talk more.

So you should always provide value in your messages which
will make it easier for the girl to talk with you more. The fact that she is
talking to you shows that she likes you. You just need to help her in making the
connection.

Also remember that it’s completely OK for you to take some time to think and respond something intersecting and clever to her text. When you are genuinely communicating with her well, she will not have a problem waiting for a few mins to talk with you.

Keep Is Short And Simple

Most guys make the mistake of talking only about themselves
and how awesome they are whenever they text girl on tinder. Whenever you are
texting a girl on tinder, remember that it’s a two way conversation and it will
get boring for her if she is only on the receiving end of that conversation.
Girls are more interested to talk if you can make that conversation two sided.

A good tip to have interesting conversation is to focus on
only one idea at a time. If the messages are short and thoughtful, it will get
much easier to exchange messages.

Example:

What kind of book do you love to read?

or

I see that you love to watch Harry Potter movies. Have you read all the books too?

When you are asking questions to her, it will show her that
you are genuinely interested in her. And when you ask more questions to her,
you will know more about her which will make room for more question and help in
developing a connection.

Make Use Of Humor

Girls love men with good sense of humor. If you think that
the girl is right choice for you then you need to share your beliefs and
emotions with her including your humor. It is a big part of who you are and
girls appreciate guys who can make them laugh.

Once in a while try to make a joke. It doesn’t matter whether she just chuckles or has a good laugh. She will appreciate that you are not serious all the time. But don’t try too hard and turn every conversation you make in to humor. It will have a bad impression on you.

Pay Attention To The Subtle Details

Girls give out subtle details in their conversation that is
hard to figure out if you don’t pay attention. Girls become smart whenever they
have conversation with a guy. To find out if a guy is interesting and how well
a guy is listening to them, they respond intelligently in a conversation.

And you can prove her that you are totally focused on her by
recalling details that you had with her during your previous conversation.

Example:

I know you like wood baked pizza and I’ve heard about this awesome restaurant that makes the finest pizza. Would you like to meet me there?

Know When To Stop And Let Her Know

We can sometimes get busy during an interesting conversation
and have to stop texting. Just know that it is completely fine. If you get busy
due to work or something else and have to stop texting, just let her know. This
way she does not have to think that you are ghosting her.

Example:

Hey, I would like to know more about that book you were talking about. I’ll text you after 7 as soon as I get out from my work.

Gotta go for lunch. I’ll back in an hour.

She will appreciate it more when you don’t make her wait and
be clear that you are exiting the conversation.

Ask Her For A Date

Most guys hesitate when it comes to asking a girl for a
date. Remember that the purpose of dating apps like Tinder is only to start off
the initial conversation and you will eventually have to meet the girl at some
point. Be a man and just ask her out.

There are even examples where men have met the girl within
hours after connecting. So, why not you?

If you want to know if your timing right to ask the girl
out, below are some tips:

The girl is asking personal questions about you.

She is very enthusiastic when responding to your
messages and taking less time to respond to each message.

You are conversing about something that is
common in both of you.

You live in the same locality.

If you ask the girl out for a date and she requests you for a future date, just lock it.

Be Committed

If you are committing something to her, then make sure that
to follow it without fail. For example, if you have set a date to meet her, then
don’t try to change the time. Your girl needs to know that you are a reliable
man and you do what you say.

And if you encounter a situation where you really can’t meet
her, then apologize to her and suggest alternated dates when you can meet her.
This will show her that you really want to meet her and not just trying to blow
it.

Don’t Forget To Follow Up

Congratulations to you if you have successfully met the girl
and you felt a spark in the process.

Once the date was a success, don’t forget to follow up on
the same night or the next day. Even sending something simple like thanking her
for the date and letting her know that you enjoyed it will do a lot of good in
your favor. You can also schedule a second date and propose doing some other
activity. It would be even great if both of you share interest in that
activity.

Example:

Thanks for taking your time. It was a lot of fun. I would love to do it again. How about wood baked pizza next friday?

I had a great time. I hope you too enjoyed as much as I did. Are you free next week to grab some drink?

On the other hand if you didn’t feel the spark or if there
was no chemistry, then it’s totally fine. Things happen. Just politely thank
her and move on. And if you really like that girl see if you can schedule a
second date and figure out what went wrong so that you can prevent it from
happening again.

If you were just having too many expectations and seeing red
flags from the girl (like not interested in conversing) it’s time to move on
from her and continue your tinder adventure.

Do’s And Don’ts Of Tinder Messaging

Do’s:

Start off with the first message.

Try to collect details of the girl by checking
her bio and pictures.

Compliment something about the girl that is not
related to her looks.

Be genuine when to ask something to her so that
you will get to know her better.

Try to build good chemistry.

Only after this stage move your conversation off
from Tinder.

Don’ts:

Don’t send boring texts like ‘hi’ or ‘what’s up’.

Don’t keep texting repeatedly if she is not
replying. Once you have sent her a text wait until she replies.

Keep your texts short and try not to send an
essay.

Be polite and don’t respond with anger or being
rude. If you have a short temper, just take a time out and calm your sense
before you reply.

Regardless of what dating apps you are using or even trying
to find a girl outside the internet, chemistry, good conversation and being
kind are the basic foundation of building any relationship. And the more fun
you have texting her, the more chances you have in locking your first date.
Just be thoughtful, look for you details, go to Sherlock mode when she gives
out subtle details and if nothing goes right (would you call it a pun?) don’t
take it serious.

Follow our tips and start swiping on Tinder. If you have
anything more to share on how to text a girl on tinder, let us know in the
comments below. Also don’t forget to share this post.

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