Subscribe to Femina.in, India's fastest growing women's website

Femina has been capturing the essence of the Indian woman for 58 years now, and has evolved with her over the years bringing the world to her doorstep. And now, here's your chance to get the dope on everything--from celebrities and fashion, beauty and wellness, to lifestyle and relationships--delivered directly to your inbox. Plus expert tips, polls, contests and other interactive articles and a whole lot more!

Is the guy you are dating The One?

Experts say you should be clear about the personality traits you would want to see in your ideal guy. “In order to make a wise and swift decision about continuing a dating relationship, you must have a well-developed picture of the person you are looking for,” says Neil Clark Warren, US-based clinical psychologist in his book Date or Soul Mate? Here’s our checklist to help you figure out.

Comfort: You don’t need to earn appreciation or love from a man. Comfort is all about accepting you as you are. Does he want you to be someone you are not? If he does, he’s not the one for you and your relationship will eventually break down.

On the same page: Fighting with your partner occasionally is okay, but you should be in agreement about the big things. Disagreements about religion, money and values can blow up into irresolvable conflicts.

Great sex: Sexual compatibility is a must, as counsellors keep saying. If you feel you have differing preferences when it comes to sex, give the relationship a rethink. Chronic dissatisfaction with one’s sex life could wreck a relationship.

You can Holiday without wanting to kill each other: Going on a holiday with a guy will tell you a great deal about his personality. He is likely to lose his hang-ups in a stress-free environment and you will get to see another side of him that you might love, or not. He makes you feel good about yourself: Does your man make you happy? It is really as simple as that. Does he make you feel good about yourself, secure and confident? Or do you find yourself reduced to an irritable, nervous, under-confident and insecure wreck whenever he is around?