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Hello Everyone and Welcome to my PageApparently I only get 4,000 characters to talk about "Me" so I guess I'll have to choose wisely on what I want you to know =]

After I got the news, I became a research junkie. One thing that most people never do, is tell someone about their HSV status. Not me. I told everyone. I needed to vent, and I needed support. The first place I went, was to my family. My mom, sisters, cousins, best friend, pastor, my landlord! lol. I needed answers. I had the full support from everyone. I came upon a dating site and found that they did Local HSV meets. I decided to host one. I started meeting people and soon realized that most people had never told a single person. That they'd been living with H, as if it were a shameful secret. It made me appreciate even more, having my family back me 100%. I wanted people to know it was 'ok' to talk about it. I enjoyed meeting people and making friends. I discovered that there was National Events that took place and everyone from everywhere all came to meet each other. It was awesome. I host local events here in CA, and I know the event coordinators all over the US if anyone is looking for some local support. Or if you just need a friend, I am here.

We also have private online Support groups. These are groups that are not visible to the public like this *points to WedMD as it has my profile visible to the community* so only Members can view other members. You can only be added in by someone already in the group. Then, for added security, to protect the privacy of others an Administrator must approve you. Usually takes minutes, but it's nice to know that no one will know your business.

*Oh and by the way, I am one of the Admins;) You are welcome to email me with any questions. But you must be HSV+ to join.*

In my "Resources" I posted a link to the only dating site I trust. Join me there! We can chat live =]

Mine does. Same spot everytime. A friend said the same thing. Over thirty years, she has an ob maybe once every 3 years, and she said everytime, it comes in the same place. I had asked her because I was curious just like you are now:) Also, not that I have a preference because ob's are no fun, but I would rather have one side irritated then all over!View Thread

Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.

a .9 and above is considered positive. So even though it's low, it still looks like a positive. Also, if you are getting discharge that is not normal, you could be having an outbreak "inside". My ob's always come around the time of my cycle and I get one bump, the same place everytime. But when I had a pap, she said I had a scar inside so I know that when I am feeling sick, having discharge that isn't normal then I am having an outbreak.. The first is the usually the worst, but some people can go years without a sign or symptom.

And the meds will have LOWER the chances of passing this to your partner. It does not eliminate the chances. That is why it is important to have the talk.View Thread

Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.

Do not be embarrassed. You can AND will realize that there are more people out there in this situation then you realize. I felt the same way when I found out. I thought I was destined to be alone forever. I came to WebMd the same night I found out, told my story, and cried my eyes out because of all the GOOD feedback I recieved. It was only a matter of time before I started to realize that everything was going to be alright.Now I know everyone has a different situation and some people dont have someone to talk to, but fortunately I was able to share this with my family and friends. I automatically assumed that after I told them, I would be treated like I had the plague... NOPE. They still didn't see me any other way. So then dating came into play again. I started out looking for people in the same situation, just so I can make friends and ask how they went about the "talk"... It has been fine. I have met men without and men with it. And the men I have met with it, had NO problem with it. They valued my honesty as opposed to me thinking "maybe I wont pass it and so I don't have to tell them"...Take care of yourself first. Get the facts and learn more. If you are embarrassed about having hsv2, then you are not going to have confidence in yourself when you have the talk with a future partner. In my experience, when I told a partner about my situation (probably my first talk after finding out, so I was still "embarrassed"), I made it seem like there was something "wrong" with me, therefore, turning him away. However, the next time around, I was more calm and collective, had the answers to the things he had asked. Talked about preventable measures, and he accepted me. So dating is possible. Just guard your heart and take precaution.View Thread

Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.

The IgG Test is really accurate. Did your doctor tell you which type you had? Usually there are two numbers, one for hsv1 and the other for hsv2. You should ask for a copy, it's not hard to read.

If you have never had an outbreak, I don't see why you would take a daily suppressive therapy UNLESS you are activley dating and do not want to pass this to your partner. Also, you do need to have the talk with your partner. First read the facts and learn more about what you are dealing with, that way if any questions come up, you will have an answer. And ask about his std history. This is a must have converstion. Do not think that just because you are not having an outbreak, that this will not spread. Abe posted a great "tip" on hsv and transmission statistics. But do keep in mind, if he does not have hsv, then he does not have the antibodies that you do. Good Luck!View Thread

Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.

HAHA... omg, I still have 15years before mine are in college!!! I was lucky enough to get the *gift my first time around, I just might win my first lotto:) I am so happy I can joke about H now. I never thought that'd be possible!

I am actually a bit excited now:) I didn't think I would ever be excited about sex again, haha... Now I can be spontaneous again! And it's been well over year of dating, now the fun begins. And I just might buy a lotto ticket too;)View Thread

Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.

Betsy, whats with the new format? I can't even email you... You have no idea how much you and abe helped me last year. My old account someone has gotten deleted(probably cause I haven't been on in so long) so I just made this one. But I am happy to see that you are still here, helping people who are terrified, just like I was. Not knowing what this was or how I was going to ever be "ok" again... WELL, I survived thanks to all the support!

Your ob's can come anytime, and stress levels can bring one on. I am assuming you just found out that you have herpes so you may not be as calm as usual, (and I know that I was no where near calm when I found out and my stress and anxiety where threw the roof!)... Try to relax and get though this one day at a time. As for location, genital herpes can appear in a "boxer short" area. Which is basically from your waist to your mid thigh. I tend to have the same ob in the exact same spot every time. But everyone is different. I hope this helps:o)View Thread

Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.

Thanks Betsy! So in other words, as long as we are not having an ob, there is No Chance OR Low Chance of spreading it to our mouths? What about viral shedding? I have done a dirt load of research on hsv, but I want answers from people like yourself:) Even if him and I and not having an ob, whats the chances of us passing it?

And what I meant about the medz was, since I don't take them on a daily basis, when I do have an ob, the medz actually seem to team up with my immune system and I heal that much faster. I always seem to get an ob during my cycle. So in the past year and a half, I have done my own trial and error on how the medz help me and what my triggers are. I know exactly how they work and am all for them:) And I prefer my body to fight the virus on its own before resorting to alternatives:)View Thread

Like the one I was with, 90percent of people who have hsv, don't know they have it. Thats a large number. Get tested. Have the talk. And most of all FORGIVE and move forward.

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