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One of the biggest reason marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to ask the big questions before they walk down the aisle.

If couples simply spent some time asking each other the questions that really matter, they'd greatly increase their chances of staying together.The great thing about a "question book" is that it makes it easier to ask those difficult questions and encourages an environment to address them.But is Michael Webb's "1000 Questions For Couples" the right book for this?In short, yes. Most question books 'beat around the bush,' never really providing the important questions, and others simply don't have enough questions. On the other hand, Webb has put together the most comprehensive collection of questions, covering every single topic you'd ever want to know about before tying the knot.It includes tough subjects like money, children & child rearing, career, past and present relationships, religion, morals, convictions & beliefs, personality, and even sex.But don't get me wrong ­ while there are many serious and tough topics to discuss, there are also many "lighter" yet just as important topics, including the car and driving, vacations, food and well being, pets, and your favorite things.That's one thing I really loved about this book. It covered every conceivable topic from the super serious to the light-hearted and fun, making it easy for couples to start with easy questions and build their way up to important ones.Also, a great bonus is having the ability to deliver 3 - 5 of the questions to my email each day, making everything automatic. I just go about my day and get new questions to ask my loved one, without having to really think about it.In all, there's nothing really negative I can say about this book. It delivers exactly what it says and covers every question you would ever want to ask your loved one.We highly recommend this book for everyone. NOT just couples who are thinking of getting married but also couples who just want to feel closer together, or people dating, who just want more things to talk about. Why don't you check this ?

You see, often people get married with the ideathat their “chemistry” or undying love for eachother will keep them together forever.

However, with almost 50% of marriages ending indivorce these days, it’s obvious that this isn’tthe case. Therefore, it pays to know a few littlesecrets before getting married.

Here are 5 tips that help keep couples togetherlong after tying the knot:

TIP#1 -- CONTINUE DATING

Over the years, people often drift apart orrelationships and marriages become stale becausecouples fail to do new and special things together.

That's why going on new and refreshing dates is soimportant. In fact, there is something about“dating” that creates a sense of magic in arelationship and can even bring relationships outof a rut.

While on a date, you also put more effort into yourappearance, have more uninterrupted time tocommunicate on a deeper level and are naturallydrawn closer together.

Stuck for ideas? Spend the day at the aquarium,zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park.

TIP#2 -- DELAY IS OFTEN BETTER

It’s a well-documented statistic that couples whohave dated for a year or longer before marriagehave a significantly lower rate of divorce thanthose who married after a short dating period.

A year of dating gives time for many emotions tosurface and many character traits to be discovered.You may adore someone in the spring, but despisehim or her in the winter.

Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage onthe third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.

TIP#3 -- ALWAYS EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partnerstend to stop praising each other because they'assume' their partner already knows what they'rethinking.

When in reality, a day should never go by withoutyou praising your partner. Compliment them on theircooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest personin the world or tell them they’re a wonderful rolemodel. If you want to be loved and romanced by yoursweetheart, love and romance them first. Whenthey're feeling loved, it is much easier to love inreturn.

Are you a super supporter of what your mate doesand says? So do you cheer them on and praise themconstantly? Or do they constantly hear boos orsilence?

TIP#4 -- TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER

Couples with the most problems are often the onesthat say, "I just don't understand him/her."

So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you aboutyour mate's profession or the degree they arepursuing? Do you know anything about his or herfamily heritage? Are you able to have a meaningfulconversation about her cross-stitch hobby or hisinterest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fullyunderstand what women experience during PMS ormenopause?

You don't need to be identical, but make an effortto learn about the things that interest yourpartner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.

TIP#5 -- ANSWER THE *BIG* QUESTIONS

Does your partner want kids? Do you both wantcareers? Do they have a history of spending theirway into debt? Do they go to church?

In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half ofmarriages end in divorce is because couples fail toask each other the right questions BEFORE they getmarried.

I guess people think they'll be able to changetheir spouses after marriage and everything will bebetter. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discussfinances, religion, sex, housing, your future, andother topics in great detail, you could end up withnothing but argument after argument for the rest ofyour days.

In the end, if you both have completely differentviews, desires and goals in life, there’s noguarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s" willhelp you stay together.

Make it your utmost priority to understand eachother 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk downthe aisle.

About the author:

Michael Webb is the author of “1000 Questions ForCouples" the most comprehensive book of questionsthat all couples should ask before getting married.Covering lovemaking, religion, careers, money,children & raising them, household work,personalities, the future and much much more.

"My boyfriend and I took four months going through the questions - a few each day and at the end we were so certain about our future together that we didn't hesitate to get engaged."

– RCBaton Rouge, LA

OUR RELATIONSHIP COULDN'T BE CLOSER NOW

"I'm a divorced single mum but when I was married I went through this book after I was married and there was so much, even after being married for 12 years, that I didn't know about my ex-husband. I'm currently in a relationship and my boyfriend and I are going through this book and we have learned so much about each, that we've become so connected… It's a connection I didn't even have with a husband of 12 years and I've only been dating my boyfriend for 3. I just got the book about a year ago so we're just still plugging along through it but It's just amazing! And our relationship couldn't be closer!"

– MichelleTampa, Florida

SAVED ME FROM MARRYING THE WRONG GUY

I had been going out with this guy for about 7 months and we were even engaged when I began to question whether or not I really knew him. My mom bought this book for me as she was really concerned.

We only got through about half of the book and it was pretty obvious that he wasn't exactly what he portrayed himself to be. I got real creeped out by some of his answers and I am sooooooo grateful I didn't marry the guy.

– S. Ables

HELPED OUR MARRIAGE - COMMUNICATING AGAIN

"I must say this was just PERFECT for myself and my husband. We were going through some marital difficulties, got this book while we were in marriage counseling and actually used this by email and it was great. Thought we knew everything about each other and turned out we didn't know ANYTHING about each other! And it was a great way to open the lines of communication between each other and to just have fun with it.We take one or two questions a day and fire 'em back and forth. We both have a copy of the book and we pick out questions and just went through the book. And it made it so we just got to the point where we can just ask each other anything. It was really great for us. It was just wonderful to just have a starting point to begin to communicate with each other, which was a really big issue for us. So thank you so much. It was exactly what we needed. And I recommend it to everybody!"

– TeresaRoanoke, Virginia

PERFECT FOR OUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

"My feedback is for the 1000 questions for couples ebook which we just downloaded, my new girlfriend and I, she's at a distance. And we pretty much spent about a month and a half, going through maybe half or more of the questions so far, it's our number #1 thing we like to do every day, every night, is learn about each other in depth and find out how amazingly compatible we are and areas we have to learn to compromise in to go forward in our life together and merge our families. It's the best thing we've done! We've really really deeply fallen in love doing the 1000 questions for couples. Thank you very much Michael, you're awesome!"

– MichaelBaton Rouge, Louisiana

WE KNOW EACH OTHER PERFECTLY NOW

"My favorite book would be the 1000 questions for couples. I enjoyed doing this with my husband, fiancee at the time, before we got married because we asked each a lot of questions and probably delved into a lot of information that we wouldn't have necessarily done or come up with on our own. So it's great to help you get to know your mate better and, not that we know each other just perfectly now, but it sure helped with our position on the way we think, so we can know the way the other one thinks and make our decision to be a married couple and have a wonderful life. Thank you."

– EricaMt Juliet, TN

HELPS US TALK DEEPLY EACH DAY

"Something that has affected my relationship very powerfully is the 1000 Questions For Couples, I actually printed off all questions and cut them off into slips and decorated a shoebox and put them in there and because I have a really long distance relationship, we've been dating for 3 years, and so every night, I pull a few questions out of the box and we'll talk to each other and answer the questions and re-connect and form and even stronger bond than we had and it's a really great way for us to continue to have things to talk about when we're not necessarily sharing everything because we're such a long distance apart. So I really love it, thank you because it's been a great help."

– SarahUrbana, Illinois

BETTER THAN PRE-MARITAL COUNSELING

"I was married once before and even did a 6 week marriage counseling session that my church offered. Unfortunately the counseling wasn't as good as it should have been because 3 years later I discovered a lot of things about my husband that didn't come out in the open during the counseling sessions.

My fiance and I have now gone through all the questions and trust me, I feel that no stones are left unturned this time. These questions are EXTREMELY thorough. Some are light-hearted (which I am glad for) but many are questions that I really wish me and my first husband had discussed.

I highly recommend this for anyone in a serious relationship. It will save you a lot of grief if you can answer the questions honestly."

– KathleenPasadena, California

THIS HAS BEEN SO MUCH FUN

"I bought a different questions book first. My boyfriend and I were a little disappointed in that books format, but we laughed at the multiple choice answers on some of them that were so outrageous. But...I decided to get this book by Michael Webb and I'm so glad I did!

It's 100% easier to read through, the questions are better and we love the format! This has been so much fun, added so much to our relationship and has been such a confirmation of all we have in common. What's nice is that so often the questions lead to other things being brought up and we really get to know each other even better. We highly recommend this book!"

– Isabella

RECOMMENDED BY MY PASTOR

"I read a statistic somewhere that if you go to pre-marital counseling before you get married it will cut down your probability of getting divorced by 75%.

I'm not sure if that is true but it certainly makes sense to have some sort of thorough discussion on all the vital topics before you say I do. I had asked my minister at church if he knew of any "tests" we should take before we get married to make sure we knew each other and he recommended this book.

I must say that it was extremely thorough and asked quite a number of questions that I didn't really feel comfortable answering but in the end drew me and my fiance really close together. Most questions were really fun to answer and I loved hearing my fiances answers - I learned a lot more about him than I thought I would. I definitely recommend this book."

– T. Cat

THOUGHT PROVOKING QUESTIONS!

"The questions you pose throughout the book are thought provoking, honest and certainly added to creating a solid base to start our initial relationship and ultimately our marriage. Over our short history of three years, I also believe the questions contained throughout your book have helped to pave the way for an open field of communication and total honesty."