Be There, Where It Matters The Most

Most of us are there for our family and friends; some would help an acquaintance or even a stranger. However, are we present for ourselves? Often we let people hurt us or allow situations to dictate terms to us. In doing so, we let ourselves shrink within, even though we may pretend to be happy and successful on the outside.

An ordinary person has the capacity to make his own choices and try to lead a life based on his principles. Unfortunately, though, most people give undue priority to the opinions of others in matters of their own! Many amongst us let others use their words or actions to make us retreat; in the process, only we become losers. If only a person shows the courage to stand up for what he honestly thinks to be right, he becomes his own best friend and can deal with whatever negativity he is being assaulted with.

If you try to express your views, you might be called ‘ignorant’ by an uneducated degree-holder. When you have the courage to choose a path for yourself, you might be called a ‘hypocrite’ by a perverse whose sole aim in life is to try to hurt or humiliate others. We should not let such experiences stop us from being ourselves, for there will always be pretenders who will envy you for your courage and integrity, trying their level-best to destroy your self-esteem. If we can still dare to lead our lives based on our choices and express our values and thoughts without being unfair to anyone, our assaulters (leading pseudo-lives) will automatically be defeated.

By being a genuine person, you will make a positive difference to people who will emulate you. If you are present for yourself, a day will come when kindred souls will say you have the healing touch and a deep affinity with humanity. Let us be there for ourselves, for our core-values, our dreams, our hopes. In the long run, that matters the most.

6 comments:

P.V.Vaidyanathan - Mumbai on 10/6/2008 5:37:22 PMNice post, Ayesha, as usual. However, I don't know how many people will truly understand the depth of your article. On the surface, it seems you are advocating selfishness. But I understand that human beings are selfish, by nature. It is ony when you are true to yourself, when you truly beleive in yourself, when you are not depressed by others actions and words, nor elated by praises, when your own conscience is your best guide, and you live according to your own inner voice, then and only then do you get rid of all hypocrisy, all pseudo-ness, and can have a clear vision to be free of unnecessary obligations and responsibilities that are often dumped on you, against your wishes. Good work.

KP - Chennai on 10/6/2008 6:29:33 PMA powerful message.Standing for what one believes in and sticking to one's core beliefs unmindful of the jibes of others is another name for honesty and sincerity.A beautifully written article as usual.

Ramesh Padmanabhan - Chennai on 10/6/2008 8:32:11 PMWell written. Brief but precise, powerful and the reader is left with the impact.All the best and keep writing. Regards.RP

Swetha Amit - Mumbai on 10/7/2008 12:05:22 PMVery true Ayesha. This article makes one realize that its important to stay in tune with who you really are and be proud of it. By trying to confirm to others' we manage to lose in touch with our soul and our purpose of existence.Very beautifully written.

Sana Hashmi - Delhi on 10/7/2008 8:44:00 AMyes by the end of the day we are our best friends and the path that we choose decides our journey...the journey that we as indiviuals take up and set examples on our way....a difficult yet interesting journey called life .

Bobby Sakariah - Jeddah on 10/7/2008 3:28:04 PMNice article. It requires great courage to be oneselves. But once we start practicing it regularly, we don't care about what others think about us; we do what our conscience says we should be doing. When we show courage many coward friends will leave us because they will find us as a risk. Most people want to flow with the current.

Dr Guruprasad Wader - Baroda on 10/7/2008 1:56:52 PMAn excellent soul touching article. I am a strong proponent of Happy Second Inning Club.I deeply wish to have a socity wherein people have real knowledge and wisdom.Wisdom is far different than formal degrees , diplomas and commercial decorations.I really congratulate the writer of this soul-stirring article because the message conveyed in this article is the basic qualification which every soule must posses to become a Member of Happy Second Inning Club. The only prerequisite is clear mind with real humanity.No boundry,no nationality binding,no religen ,no cast, no barrier of any sorts. Live every moment of your life as per your wishes based on humanity and wisdom.The knowledge goes on increasing,the self awareness goes on increasing.We can find happyness in every happening,wharever may be the nature of incidense.From inner strenghth ,we become Happy Second Inning Club Members,even when we perform our regular duties for fulfilling our social duties.Still we can achive real happy level of life,which will not be affected by any turmoile in life. Keep the strength of your soule flowing and growing by sharing your thoughts with others. Best wishes and hearty regards.

SELWIN ILANGOVAN - DUBAI on 10/7/2008 1:30:52 PMDear Ayesha, Very nice thoughts.. very good.. Keep it up. Let us be there for ourselves, for our core-values, our dreams, our hopes. In the long run, that matters the most... Regards Selwin Ilangovan

very inspirational...your article really makes one think how less we stand up for ourselves...how afraid we r to put forth our views in front of the world...in fear of rejection...but ur article gives everyone hope....i really liked it...keep up the good work.....