loopy MIL (long post)

So my MIL (mother-in-law) has trigenial neuralgia which is nerve pain in her face. She takes Lyrica and trilipitol. She is often dizzy, easily confused, and spaced out. I can barely have a conversation with her on a regular basis. That husband of mine makes excuses for her like she's always been like this. Well I don't know a single human that acts like this on a regular basis. It's like watching someone in constant slow motion. He talks about leaving the baby with his parents for us to go to a nice dinner etc. And I am adamantly opposed because she can barely walk when she gets like this. I talked to my mother and said I can't treat her and my MIL (mother-in-law) differently and so I won't be leaving the baby with her either for a while. FYI (for your information) what bothers me the most is the fact she refuses to see a specialist and will only see a neurologist and it's obvious she is abusing the medication not following her prescription instructions. If she saw a specialist there are procedures that would allow her to stop medication completely and last for years on end If not permanently. I don't trust her to walk around holding my child let alone watching my child while in this shape and FIL (father-in-law) and husband are in complete denial.

If you are in a good marriage, there comes a time when trust in your spouse has to be given and the reigns of control may be hard to let go. I agree with your mom. But you will need alone time with your hubby as well.

You need to quit being so judgmental about mil. It's understandable to not trust her alone with your child, but it's not your place to assume she's abusing her meds or to dictate what procedures are right for her. I wouldn't leave her with my child, but I also wouldn't be so quick to judge about a condition that I've never dealt with.

My sister suffered with Trigeminal Neuralgia for years and just had brain surgery in December to try and correct the disease. It's a horrible, extremely painful disease nicknamed the "suicide disease" as sufferers often wish death rather than live with the pain. If she is using these meds to cope to the point where she is out of it, I would not leave my child with her. When my sister had her TN attacks they would be dibilatating and she would be in no way able to care for a child.

I'm pretty sure those two aren't really drugs people abuse for fun... if they are, they have a low standard for a good time. Maybe she really is like that. I know a girl who seemed fucks up at any and all times, but she's really just kind of an idiot. Perhaps instead of judging you should trust DH (dear husband) and understand he wouldn't leave his child in harm's way..

I don't agree that just because you aren't leaving your child with MIL (mother-in-law) that you can't leave him/her with your mom. The situation is different and therefore warrants a different response on your part. It's not like you are giving preferential treatment to your mom; it is strictly that your MIL (mother-in-law) has a condition that would impair her ability to care for a baby. Also, I am not sure why MIL (mother-in-law) couldn't keep the baby as long as someone else responsible and not medicated was also present.

I don't know anything about your MIL's disease, so I won't comment on that, except I agree that the baby shouldn't be left with her unless FIL (father-in-law) is also there.

There's no reason to treat your mom the same though. My mom has issues because of brain aneurysms and multiple brain surgeries. I won't let her watch my kids, even with them being older. I let my soon to be MIL (mother-in-law) watch them all the time though.

You need to quit being so judgmental about mil. It's understandable to no...

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07/16/2015

You need to quit being so judgmental about mil. It's understandable to not trust her alone with your child, but it's not your place to assume she's abusing her meds or to dictate what procedures are right for her. I wouldn't leave her with my child, but I also wouldn't be so quick to judge about a condition that I've never dealt with.

Actually she's fully admitted to taking it incorrectly. My husband goes back and forth about how well she's doing and when I point out that she's been dizzy from taking her medication on an empty stomach and taking twice the amount she's supposed to in one dose. ...hmmmm not surprising right?

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