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Published Friday June 26th, 2009 at 6:00pm

Having my girls home everyday for summer vacation, I have enjoyed them playing around the house, coming to me with their questions, creating art projects, writing stories and songs. They are no longer toddlers, preschoolers, or young elementary age little girls anymore, but are now on the cusp of becoming beautiful preteen girls, with ideas, opinions, and creativity. I often think of their birthparents as I watch them, wondering if they were gifted in music or if they were athletic or if they were shy or outgoing. Looking at their wonderful but different personalities, I wonder where they may have come from or their features and think about what their birthparents might look like.

A friend told me about this website containing letters written by adoptive parents to their childrens' birthparents LINK. Their letters, combined with my current thoughts, made me wonder, what would my letter to my girls' birthparents say? If I could send them a letter what kind of a tone would it be written in - happy, sad, or angry?

Their first parents have given our family the greatest gift, but at the same time, I think about their loss. I wonder if they might think about them on their birthdays or holidays, or if when they abandoned them, they erased them from their minds. I wonder if they were ever worried about their safety after they abandoned them and if they stood and watched nearby.

If you were to write a letter to your child's birthmother, what would the letter say? Are you angry with them for leaving your child or are you grateful for the gift? What things do you think about that you would want to ask them?