Salaam All
OK so yes its been 3 years since my ex fiance and I broke up... 1 year to heal and the next 2 jsut been in limbo.
I have met a lot of men but none I have clicked with... i met the eagers brother that would marry a pulse... and I met the ones that wants to PLAY even met the green card hunters... Only 1 I have met in person and that was this past winter...
I am just so sick and tired of fake muslims and those that want the haraam and the halaal mixed in...
One brother told me that should be gentle and sexy when I speak to him... ARE YOU CRAZY?
My sister said that it will be harder for me because there are so many women out here that will do anything to get a Husband and I'm not amongst them...
Nor do I care to be...
I might just be single for the rest of my human life...
Because in truth... Honestly No Muslim Brother today really and truly wants a sister that follows the Rules 110%
They may say that online or amongst their friends but in truth they want a Boyfriend girlfriend relationship before the wedding...
And I CAN"T DO IT... I can't I can't I can't.
Allah and his Prophet (SAW) has made marriage so easy that I just dont get why it's so hard for muslims today to abide by the rules...
i told my friend that other day (Of course i was just venting) I am not going to be good anymore... I am not going to abide by the rules no longer... It seems like if I mess up really really bad... ask for mercy and kept a little haraam then some one serious will come along and marry me... Because that's what I've seen... 2 sister I know did some shady things in order to have a husband and guess what? They got their spouse... and then there's me... who keeps to herself and always trying to remember her Deen and control her Nafs... on the side line...
Where is the Justice in that?
I am just venting but it does boil my skin... I want to shout out WHAT ABOUT ME!!!
Doesn't any muslim brother want a muslimah for wife?

Salaam All OK so yes its been 3 years since my ex fiance and I broke up... 1 year to heal and the next 2 jsut been in limbo. I have met a lot of men but none I have clicked with... i met the eagers brother that would marry a pulse... and I met the ones that wants to PLAY even met the green card hunters... Only 1 I have met in person and that was this past winter... I am just so sick and tired of fake muslims and those that want the haraam and the halaal mixed in... One brother told me that should be gentle and sexy when I speak to him... ARE YOU CRAZY? My sister said that it will be harder for me because there are so many women out here that will do anything to get a Husband and I'm not amongst them... Nor do I care to be... I might just be single for the rest of my human life... Because in truth... Honestly No Muslim Brother today really and truly wants a sister that follows the Rules 110% They may say that online or amongst their friends but in truth they want a Boyfriend girlfriend relationship before the wedding... And I CAN"T DO IT... I can't I can't I can't. Allah and his Prophet (SAW) has made marriage so easy that I just dont get why it's so hard for muslims today to abide by the rules... i told my friend that other day (Of course i was just venting) I am not going to be good anymore... I am not going to abide by the rules no longer... It seems like if I mess up really really bad... ask for mercy and kept a little haraam then some one serious will come along and marry me... Because that's what I've seen... 2 sister I know did some shady things in order to have a husband and guess what? They got their spouse... and then there's me... who keeps to herself and always trying to remember her Deen and control her Nafs... on the side line... Where is the Justice in that? I am just venting but it does boil my skin... I want to shout out WHAT ABOUT ME!!! Doesn't any muslim brother want a muslimah for wife?

as salaam alaykum, How are you doing? I can understand your frustration. I have been single for a while and while it would seem like marriage is avoiding us we have to be patient. I saw you online a few times before. I wish I was acquainted with you.Home sweepllc and all smiles

as salaam alaykum, How are you doing? I can understand your frustration. I have been single for a while and while it would seem like marriage is avoiding us we have to be patient. I saw you online a few times before. I wish I was acquainted with you.Home sweepllc and all smiles

Assalam-u-Alaikum
It seems that my sister is quite upset and a bit angry isn't it??
well i can understand where u coming from but what can i say about ur complains specially when its all the evil truth around us but tow things,No.1 beautiful things takes time, No.2 and May Allah find u as perfect Muslim as Possible
Wassalam-U-Alaikum

Assalam-u-Alaikum It seems that my sister is quite upset and a bit angry isn't it?? well i can understand where u coming from but what can i say about ur complains specially when its all the evil truth around us but tow things,No.1 beautiful things takes time, No.2 and May Allah find u as perfect Muslim as Possible Wassalam-U-Alaikum

OOoohhh Sister!
I truly share your sentiments.
Did you know that someone here wrote: Don't marry a brother, marry a Muslim gentleman.
I like the pun in it, but what's more is that there is much truth about that line.
Nowadays the 'brothers' have double standards. For example, they want Muslim women to obey the modest dress code and all, (it's just my feeling) but they actually like the sexy ones. They want us to be proper in our mannerisms but I hear, "We like girls who are fun!"
WHAT'S UP WITH THAT???
I know 'fun' is subjective here, but it's usually towards the wild side of fun. Not harmless fun like H-A-H-A H-A-H-A.
It's even rarer to find Muslim gentlemen than diamonds, I tell you! Their net worth is very high. So they're hiding or something...
Anyway, I'm not the best person to advise, but Haleemah, DO NOT SETTLE FOR A SPOUSE!!! If you ask him how's his knowledge of Islam and he answers so-so, THAT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!!!
We deserve the best, Sister!

OOoohhh Sister! I truly share your sentiments. Did you know that someone here wrote: Don't marry a brother, marry a Muslim gentleman. I like the pun in it, but what's more is that there is much truth about that line. Nowadays the 'brothers' have double standards. For example, they want Muslim women to obey the modest dress code and all, (it's just my feeling) but they actually like the sexy ones. They want us to be proper in our mannerisms but I hear, "We like girls who are fun!" WHAT'S UP WITH THAT??? I know 'fun' is subjective here, but it's usually towards the wild side of fun. Not harmless fun like H-A-H-A H-A-H-A. It's even rarer to find Muslim gentlemen than diamonds, I tell you! Their net worth is very high. So they're hiding or something... Anyway, I'm not the best person to advise, but Haleemah, DO NOT SETTLE FOR A SPOUSE!!! If you ask him how's his knowledge of Islam and he answers so-so, THAT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!!! We deserve the best, Sister!

Question remains.. .WHY?
Are we trying to better ourselves in Islam? Why follow shaytan and take part in haraam acts? What would a muslim man think if his daughter were to act like the people in the Dunya- having botfriends and so forth? Really Brothers think before you act- would you want your sister to hook up with some man that's claiming to be relgious? But all he want is a girlfriend type of relationship... Or your daughter talking to a brother in regards to marriage but he insist that she mark herself ads his girl- even though they aren't married.
Where is the Fear of Allah (SWT) and His Wrath? Don't muslims men know on the day of Judgement they will ahve to answer not only for thier sins but those who's placed in charge of them?

Question remains.. .WHY? Are we trying to better ourselves in Islam? Why follow shaytan and take part in haraam acts? What would a muslim man think if his daughter were to act like the people in the Dunya- having botfriends and so forth? Really Brothers think before you act- would you want your sister to hook up with some man that's claiming to be relgious? But all he want is a girlfriend type of relationship... Or your daughter talking to a brother in regards to marriage but he insist that she mark herself ads his girl- even though they aren't married. Where is the Fear of Allah (SWT) and His Wrath? Don't muslims men know on the day of Judgement they will ahve to answer not only for thier sins but those who's placed in charge of them?