How to tell if a guy likes you

Men generally have the ability to flirt naturally, but not in a bad way. Sometimes they possess charming, innocent, friendly action that leads you to believe that they are a kind of indirect message to express their interest in you. “Does he really like me?” is a quite common question we hear every day, but not an easy question to answer. Well, love can be obvious, sometimes but not always. Guys usually don’t wear emotions on their sleeves, and it becomes difficult to get a conclusion if that is the case.

Although it can be a little tricky to decode his actions, by learning about some of the basic signs, you definitely can recognize whether he is just friendly or he may really like you.

So here are 30 signs that are considered as a strong evidence to assume if the guy really likes you. Read on:

You occupy his priority list.

When you become the most important person in his life, it is a good sign to assume that he really likes you. He will let you know all the stuff that has happened in his day. If he treats you different than he treats others, it means that you are a priority for him.

He goes out of his way for you.

If you are more than a friend to him, he would just go out of the way to do any favors for you. His actions will not be limited to just favors; he would cancel his hangout with his friends to be with you. In doing so, he wants to make sure that you will be happy with his actions, and he want to convey you that he will go to any extent to make you happy. This is a great sign that he is in love with you.

He hates your guy friends.

If a guy likes you only as his friend, he would never get upset when you are around with your other guy friends. He won’t really care much because that is not his business. When a guy likes you more, he starts getting concerned when you are with other boys. Usually, guys justify this behavior by saying that they are just protective, but that is not the case always. If he behaves more than being protective, then count it as a sign that he likes you, and he has a crush on you.

He teases you.

Again teasing is not for everyone, but the guy will definitely possess a playful teasing, especially if he is a fun loving person. Teasing doesn’t mean a mean full teasing where you hurt another person’s feelings. It’s just that fun teasing like he teases you on areas where you are strong enough. He may make fun of you at the way you walk or giggle, and this means that he pays close attention to all your gestures, and he is in love with it. He might even tease you in front of your common friends just to make fun out of it. Remember not to take these things to heart as he is not mean to you. Just enjoy what he does and view it as a sign of his love towards you.

He throws sweeping looks on you.

He glances at you bashfully and glances away and looks back at you again, and this is a pretty obvious sign of love. You can recognize this when you are talking, and he is facing a hard time looking at your eyes. When a guy finds a girl attractive, he will utilize each and every chance he gets to stare at her without her noticing it. The fact is that he can’t stop looking at you, and he starts showing uncomfortable body stance and barely talks at this time. So when he is silent while you are talking and looks away when you look at him, count it as a sign of love.

He is always the conversation starter.

Love makes you a little weird, yeah, that’s true. When he really likes you, he always finds some excuse to start a conversation with you. You can measure how much he likes you by analyzing how stupid the conversation is. This is because, his ultimate aim is to interact with you somehow and it doesn’t matter how he gets there. If the guy is trying to reach out to you in some other way, there is something that he wants to tell you!

He forgets about time.

When you are hanging out together, and if you could see that he was never in a hurry it is a clear indication of his interest in you. If he never says he wants to go as he is enjoying the time being spent with you and doesn’t want to let you go is also a kind of indirect expression of his interest in you. This kind of indirect act of expression is another way to tell if he likes you for real. He might be spending his valuable time with you by avoiding some other important things. If he checks his phone at times and checks the time, it shows that you are not a priority for him, and he is not that interested in you.

There occurs some creepiness!

Have you ever wondered “why does this guy like all my pictures and post in Facebook as soon as I upload them”? Or “why I’m seeing him in all the places where ever I go?” And you know that these situations don’t happen accidentally that too for many times. Yes, they are not, they are just accidental creepy behaviors from him! It just means that he is really helpless of behaving weird to you as he really likes you.

You become part of his group.

He might invite you to group parties or hangouts and if you say yes, he would happily plan everything. Inviting you to a group, but not personally doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to be with you alone. It is simply because inviting you in person would turn to a date and if you refuse to join, definitely he would not feel good. So group hangouts are an easy way to ask for a date and if it doesn’t sound like a date and even if you don’t go, his pride stays intact!

They don’t refer you as a friend to others.

Many times the way a person feels about someone can easily be understood through the way they talk about them to others. If a guy, who you are friends with, doesn’t refer to you as a friend while talking to others, it simply means that you are way more than a friend to him. You have a higher position in his mind that is more than a friend. He might introduce or refer to you as “My close friend” or just by your name. It is often easy to recognize these signs that clearly tell you that he likes you way more than you think.

He always compliments you.

Your friend won’t regularly tell you that you look beautiful and stunning, but a guy how really likes you will. If he compliments your looks, dressing or personality, then it means he likes you because guys don’t simply compliment all the women. Sometimes he compliments you directly or indirectly, but that doesn’t really matter. Be it a subtle and not so obvious compliment, a compliment always feels nice and the guy really mean it. So look out for backhanded compliments because it really indicates something.

He is always groomed than usual.

Usually, men don’t groom much, and they are lazy unless their work requires to do it. There are guys who iron their clothes and groom every time they step out, but not many are like that. But, when in love with a girl, they will try to look presentable always. So next time when you meet, look for signs that show he has spent a little time to groom himself to look good. If he doesn’t like you much, he would not care about your opinion about him. When you notice that he is trying to look better when you are near him, that’s a wonderful sign that he is into you.

He likes to sit closer to you.

No matter how far you sit at the start of the conversation, he will come closer to you and his body would be facing towards you if he likes you. He might come pretty close to you or lean in, and it means something is going on there. It also depends on the environment also, for example, if you are in a place where some loud talk is going on, and then he will have to come closer to listen to you. But I’m not talking ab out such peculiar situations, but about a situation where he accidentally does that when it is not really necessary. This is a sign of interest!

He finds you on social media.

Now this is pretty an obvious sign of real interest. He will search for you on Facebook or other popular social media sites and leaves you a message. This is to be taken seriously if he starts initiating conversation on Facebook always especially when his social media history doesn’t portray him as an active person. If he doesn’t like to end the conversation and if you have to end it forcefully, it is a perfect sign. When a guy likes a girl, he would go out of his way and do the things he is not used to.

He is there to help you out.

If this a guy you study with or work with, observe how he treats other colleagues compare to you, and you will know whether he likes you or not. If he is there to help you in every needy situation, but he is not like that of others, and then you know what it is. Maybe he is not in real love with you, but this is a sign that he is interested in you. You can know this easily by testing him. You could ask him for help for a big task and just watch the risk he is ready to take for you.

He shows an improved memory power.

Guys generally don’t really remember the finer details of a meeting, such as the color of the girl’s dress, something that they discussed and other random stuff. They don’t store these items in their memory as they consider these as girly things. But if he remembers these little things, then you will have to figure out what’s behind that. It’s real, and guys have a selective memory and if your smallest details are a part of his memory, he definitely likes you. He only pays attention to these little things if he has gone deep into it and it happens only when he is really interested. If he is not really into a girl, he filters their conversation and tends to forget things often.

He never talks about another woman.

This is another evident sign to tell if a guy likes you. When you are around him, he never talks about other women. Even if he has a girlfriend or wife, he will never mention it because he doesn’t want to become unavailable in case you like him. You need to find out whether he is involved in any other relationship to find out whether he is serious about you or if he is just playing around.

Finding reasons to touch you.

There is an invisible barrier between a boy and girl when it comes to touch. No boy usually touches a girl without any reason. If he breaks the barrier often, it is a sure sign that he likes and that is why he is getting close to you in touching distance. He might brush up his hand against you accidentally, or lingers his hand near you, but often. Brush your hair away from your face or any such actions, whether it is knowingly or unknowingly is a sign that he is totally into you.

He calls you by a nickname.

This is not always a good sign, but it can be also taken as a sign that he likes you, but when considered by other signs. If he gives you some nickname like “baby” or “cute”, they are obvious signs. Or if he calls you by any other name, he might be trying to tease you playfully. That is also counted as a sign.

He asks you out.

Maybe, he won’t say,” let’s have a date”, but he invites you to lunch or coffee or just ask you to join with mutual friends. This is another obvious signal to confirm that he likes you. When a guy shows interest in spending time with you, he is definitely interested. Or if he doesn’t initiate a conversation you can do that to know his response. If you study or work together, you can change the venue and go for a coffee together. This way it doesn’t get tagged with a date as it is not an official meeting that you have planned exclusively. It is just considered as an extension of what you have been doing.

The way in which he behaves to other women when you are not together.

Just see how he behaves to other women, does he flirts with them also or just to you? If you can derive a “yes” to that question, then he really likes you. If he is same with all the women, then it means he is naturally flirty to all, and you are not special for him. You don’t have to spy on him to find this out, a quite observation will do, and you can find out it yourself.

He is jealous of the other guys who are your friends.

It’s not that he would be angry whenever he sees you with another guy, but if he really likes you and if things are not defined between you two, and then he will feel a bit jealous. This is because he is not sure about the position he has in your life. His insecurity feeling of losing you or you get attracted to another guy is what that jealousy really means. If you have the same feelings towards him, and you understand his situation, then it is better to ease his mind by letting him know that you like him.

He always occupies the seat next to you.

If you are colleagues or visit a common place regularly, he often finds reasons to sit next to you always, and this could be a reason to consider a sign of real love. He somehow finds a way to make sure that you are near to him and not far away from his sight. That’s an obvious sign to girls, so keep this in mind next time when he sets up a plot to sit near you.

He asks about your previous relationships.

This simply means that he wants to know everything about you and that’s why he takes a dip into your past. This is a subtle effort from his side to see whether you are still in a relationship or interested in anybody else. There is a chance that he might also ask for some dating tips from you or asks about your dream guy. This is just to know what is in your mind or to know about your preferences and choices. But if he makes sincere and constant efforts to connect you with another guy, it means that you are just his friend.

He is stalking you.

He will not stalk you like a psycho type, but still he tries to find out all information about you. He might check your Facebook page or Instagram account to know what are your activities. Or he would ask your common friends to know more about you. In short, one way or the other he tracks everything about you just because he really likes you. And this can be considered as a great sign of love.

He disconnects the electronic gadgets when you are together.

This is yet another positive sign that he likes you. It can be actually in two ways, i.e., if he is interested in you and is shy when you are near, he might use the phone to adjust himself to the situation. Or else he will disconnect the phone and the internet when he is near you so that he can spend his quality time with you alone. He will never waste an opportunity to talk with you or be with you. He doesn’t even allow his phone or technology to be a barrier between you two. This indicates that he respect you and value the time spent with you. Sometimes he many not pick up calls from his office when you are together. Though this is a small sign, it is to be considered that he is very much serious about the relationship.

He tries to impress you always.

Usually, cool guys don’t broadcast good things about them or boast in certain things. But it doesn’t always mean that he is uncool, it just means that he wants to impress you somehow. Be it a subtle one or an obvious one, he always tries to convey to you that he is the best. He tries to showcase his all good abilities and qualities before you. For example, if you are into charity, he might join you in such kinds of activity and tries to show you that he is of your type. Even if he is not a perfectionist in many areas, he tries to become one. He improves his looks, his personality, and the way he behaves and changes or improves everything about him so that you might get interested in him.

He remembers your important days.

Guys usually are not so good at remembering dates, but if a guy is interested in you, he will remember all the dates involved with you. Be it your birthday or the day he first met you, he will remember it with all those small details in his memory. Also, if he has only met you once and when he sees you the next time he will remember your name correctly. Guys usually will remember the name of the girl only if they are interested in her.

He is protective.

If you are part of a common friend circle and have only met him once and talked a little and now you are in a crowded event and if he positions himself in a way that he wants to protect you, that is a pretty good sign of interest. He keeps you away from all problematic guys and make sure that you are around a comfortable circle. Also, he would get angry if any guy stalks you or disturb you and makes you uncomfortable. He would do everything to keep you safe.

He agrees to everything.

If a guy agrees with you on everything, it doesn’t rate him as stupid; instead it must be indicating that he likes you more. This might be to make you feel good and best. If you are having an argument about something and he gives up immediately so that you don’t get offended much, count it as a signal. He instantly agrees on all the arguments so that you remain happy.

General attitude and symptoms of love:

The easiest way to tell whether a guy likes you is to check his body language and his behavior when you are together. Follow his eyes to know the truth, eye speaks better than words. Not only he treats you differently, but he also behaves differently with you. Common signs of interest are shyness, nervousness, mirroring or blushing a bit when talking with you. Blushing and shyness are natural body languages that a person cannot control, even if he tries hard.

Remember, we all blush when we think about our first crush. His body language and gestures are something that he cannot control and hence they are some of the obvious signs that you can rely upon to understand what is happening in the relationship. That emotion on his face, shining in his eyes, those lovely smiles are trying to convey something to you. They are signs that should be taken note of and not to be discarded instead. If he looks at your eyes longer than a normal friend, he is way more interested in you. When a guy is a shy person, he cannot hold eye contact for longer. Not all the signs will be common for many; it will differ with the personality and attitude of your guy.

Conclusion:

The above-discussed signs can help you to determine whether a guy likes you or he is just a friend of you. But the real question is what you will do about it? As I told earlier, love is obvious most of the times, and it is easy for a girl to determine it correctly. But in spite of all these signs, you are unable to conclude that he likes you, maybe the fact is he is not really into you.

Let me tell you one thing, getting a guy to love you is easy, but keeping him is the hardest thing ever. A good relationship will be hard to break, and it will be a lifelong relationship and couples find a good mechanism to maintain the relationship if they feel the relationship is very important to them.

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Hi! I feel a bit overwhelmed and confused right now and doesn’t really know what to make of my close friend’s recent conduct. Hopefully you’ll be able to shed some light … Just some background… Me and this guy have been good friends for the last 4.5 years, we do sports together every weekend, I support him during his games, he has in the last year or so started to carry all my heavy stuff without me having to ask for assistance, he has in the last six months displayed more chivalrous behaviour towards me, gets along well with my parents, acts more protective over me than before and keeps to his word, only to name a few. However very recently I attended a funeral of a beloved family member. Thereafter me and him spend some time together where he shared some personal details which he hasn’t shared with anyone apart from me. I also shared some personal things and memories of this beloved family member. We later on decided to go home, during which journey he placed his hand next to me on the seat. I gently rubbed his hand. Arriving at home we parked and we further held hands and rubbed each other’s hands. His hand later on moved to my thighs and between my legs and slowly moving upwards, staying there and rubbing me. Once ijn a while I would feel his fingers trying to open up my legs. I later on told him that I don’t quite know what to make of it as this was the first time he has ever done this. Initially he told me that I need some company and that he’s there for me. After reassuring him that he can be honest about his intentions, that it wouldn’t change what we’re having he told me that it’s his quite way of asking me how far I’m willing to go. Like I said earlier I don’t quite know what to make of this but that I know in my heart that I like him very much, which I’ve also told him. Your take on this would be much appreciated. (Apologies for the long comment)

It is clear that he has a strong emotional connection with you. It is likely that he wants to develop a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Star!