Here’s a question someone asked. Question Which is more important, being best friends or lovers? My husband and I have been married for almost 30 years. We have had our ups and downs, but we are very happy together and I think of him as my best friend. However, our sex life isn’t what it […]

Perfectionism is about avoiding feelings of shame and inadequacy. By being perfect, you have permission to not feel bad about yourself. As a recovering perfectionist who has had many perfectionist friends and clients, I can tell you that, in the end, perfectionists never quite feel good about themselves. Perfectionists aren’t trying to achieve something great. They’re […]

I once fell madly in love with someone 1,600 miles away. We met online and after a series of increasingly passionate phone conversations I impulsively booked a ticket for the 4-hour plane flight for our first meeting. Over the next several years I got to know the airline schedules to and from that city by […]

You’ve probably had the experience of spending time with someone and feeling distant from them. Maybe you even felt alone or lonely when you were with them. However, that’s no fun. It can be especially challenging when it happens in an intimate relationship or sexual encounter. While it does take two to tango, it’s also […]

Most of us have had the pretty common relationship challenge at some time or another (especially with the people closest to us) where you just can’t seem to talk to each other about something without one or both of you getting upset. Four typical (and often unhelpful) reactions to relationships challenges Sometimes we need to […]