What if you could deal with painful emotions in a way that's quick and effective?

What if there were a simple form of natural self-healing that was available to you anytime of the day or night, that you could do by yourself without any physical effort, that takes only a few minutes to do and a few more minutes to achieve powerful results, and that costs you nothing?

This would be a good thing, right?

Well, you're lucky. There's an ancient form of natural magic that was used by our ancestors to resolve painful emotions.

The good news is that the old magic still works just fine today. It was rediscovered and reintroduced by a man named Milton Erickson, the father of modern counseling. All you need to know is how to do it.

As one of my clients said, "Untalk works so well it's disconcerting. Doing it is awesome, and it's disorienting because issues just disappear."

Untalk is an incredibly valuable technique for talking with your unconscious mind and getting it to talk back to you. To find out how to do it, you can take the following lessons and tests. If the tests don't work for you, please feel free to contact me for some personal help.

Lesson 1: Until you can find a way to get a reply when you speak to your unconscious, you don't have an actual conversation going. So let's start with that.

Test 1: You can say to yourself, "Hello, unconscious mind." And then try various ways to get a reply. The oldest way is to use a pendulum. You can find a weight on the end of a thread or chain (like a bracelet or a necklace), or you can make a pendulum from scratch. I suggest you hold the thread an inch or two above the weight. You can then ask your unconscious to show you a "yes" response, or you can repeat the word "yes" over and over in your mind and see what the pendulum does.

If the pendulum does nothing, try asking or repeating the word "yes" and notice whether there's an internal response. Perhaps you'll feel a warm rush in your chest or belly. Perhaps a finger will lift, or an arm. Perhaps your whole body will lean forward or back. Perhaps you'll feel an indescribable certainty in your mind. Or perhaps your unconscious will speak to you in words. It's rare, but it does happen.

Once you have a "yes" response, you can ask for a "no" response and an "I don't know" response.

If experimentation doesn't get a response, then you need to find out why. Usually the lack of a response is because people can't believe this could be true, or it's because they're suspicious or afraid. Usually a couple weeks of trying it off and on anyway will work through the feelings.

Once you do get a response, it's a good idea to practice till it's consistent and reliable and clear. At that point you're ready to move on.

Lesson 2: Untalk is for resolving painful feelings in your unconscious mind. ("Resolve" means turning them into something that's painless and positive.) This means you don't have to spend time feeling unnecessary emotional pain, and this makes you resilient and adaptable.

Test 2: Once you have clear responses, you can try the following exercise. You can say to yourself, "Hello, unconscious mind."

(By the way, the unconscious mind doesn't have a personal self. So when you talk to your unconscious, it's like addressing a crowd.)

So then you can ask, "Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who are feeling angry ?" If you get a "yes" response, you can then ask, "Will those parts please work together, and get any help you need, and resolve the feelings of anger?" (Note: please use exactly these words.) If you get a "yes" response, you should notice the anger lifting in no more than a few minutes.

You can then ask, "Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who are feeling sad?" If you get a "yes" response, you can then ask, "Will those parts please work together, and get any help they need, and resolve the feelings of sadness?" If you get a "yes" response, you should notice the sadness lifting.

You can then ask, "Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who are feeling scared?" If you get a "yes" response, you can then ask, "Will those parts please work together, and get any help they need, and resolve the emotions of fear?" If you get a "yes" response, you should notice the fear lifting in no more than a few minutes.

You can then ask, "Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who are feeling any other emotions that need to be resolved?" If you get a "yes" response, you can then ask, "Will those parts please work together, and get any help they need, and resolve those emotions?" If you get a "yes" response, you should notice the emotions lifting.

If all of this works, then you're ready to move on to the next lesson. By the way, you've just learned how to do a daily check-in.

Lesson 3: You've now got what you need for ordinary daily life. One way to go farther is to see if you can create peace of mind. You can do this by resolving your entire unconscious mind (rather than one emotion at a time). This will mean that you no longer have painful emotions coming up during your day. Unless you're abused or shocked, and then only temporarily.

When I'd been doing untalk for about three months, I lay down on my bed one afternoon for a rest. I didn't even go into a trance, I was just relaxing. And a wave of relaxation started at the top of my head and passed down through my whole body. It wasn't anything I tried to make happen. It just did.

Afterwards I felt unusually calm. A week later I still felt calm, and I noticed it was because I didn't have waves of painful emotions coming up during the day anymore. In fact, I didn't have painful emotions at all anymore. I still have all the positive emotions in abundance, but the painful emotions no longer come up unless they're caused by abuse or attack. How odd.

So I asked my unconscious mind what happened, and he said he'd decided that instead of this piecemeal resolving I'd been asking him to do, an issue at a time, he'd simply resolve everything. And he did.

I don't even know what to call this. Peace of mind? I'm sure the Buddhists have a term for it...

Test 3: You can say to yourself, "Hello, unconscious mind." And then you can ask, "Does my unconscious mind as a whole need resolving?" If you get a "yes" response, you can say, "Will all the parts of my unconscious mind please work together and resolve my entire unconscious mind?" If you get a "yes" response, then you will soon have peace of mind. By "soon" I mean in a few minutes. If you get a "no" response, then you're not ready yet for peace of mind.

Lesson 4: Perhaps, after all this, you would also like to increase the good things in your life. Such as happiness, creativity, optimism, boldness, and so forth.

Test 4: You can say to yourself, "Hello, unconscious mind." And then you can ask, "Are there any good things that need increasing?" (Or you could ask for specific things by name, one at a time.) If you get a "yes" response, you can say, "Will my unconscious mind please increase those good things?" If you get a "yes" response, those good things will increase.

You can find or make a weight on the end of a thread or chain. Sometimes a necklace or bracelet will work. Any little weight tied to end of a thread or thin chain will work.

Hold the pendulum out in front of you, with an inch or two between your fingers and the weight. Please make sure your elbow isn't resting on the armrest of the chair, as that will dampen the unconscious movement.

Ask your unconscious for a "yes" signal, or repeat the word "yes" over and over in your mind, and watch what the pendulum does. That's your "yes" signal.

Ask your unconscious for a "no" signal, or repeat the word "no" over and over in your mind, and watch what the pendulum does. That's your "no" signal.

Ask your unconscious for an "I don't know" signal, or repeat the words "I don't know" over and over in your mind, and watch what the pendulum does. That's your "I don't know" signal.

Your mind is kind of like an old couple riding in a car. The man is behind the steering wheel, and he's busy with the driving. The woman to his right doesn't speak much, but she's busy handling the navigation.

FUNCTIONS OF THE CONSCIOUS MIND:

The conscious mind thinks with logic, and it has a sense of time. It's purpose is to solve problems and navigate through daily life. It has thoughts, perceptions, conclusions, memories, and plans. It has it's own agitated states that resemble emotions, like confusion, concern, dismay, outrage, disappointment, eagerness, disgust, frustration, overwhelm and pleasure at solving puzzles. It has hopes and dreams. As you walk about during the day, your conscious mind is mostly doing problem-solving while your unconscious mind is supplying routines like walking, looking, breathing, and so forth.

Your conscious mind blacks out and rests when you go to sleep. It directs the attention while it's awake, and triggers movement by directing the attention. It has a very personal viewpoint, and it maintains the internal monolog. It has three ego states (inner parent, inner adult and inner child), and each reacts to the emotions coming from the unconscious mind or agitated states of the conscious mind.

The conscious mind handles complicated speech, social interactions, planning and organizing, problem solving, work, chores, and it participates in play and hobbies. It has its own kind of creativity, and its own sense of humor. It finds things amusing that the unconscious might or might not find funny. But it doesn't laugh, oddly enough. Only the unconscious mind laughs. (You can demonstrate this for yourself easily enough. Try to laugh consciously.)

It's aware of some of functions of the unconscious mind, like emotions and amusement. It's not usually aware of the attitudes, values and learned routines the unconscious is supplying like a busy and unpaid assistant.

FUNCTIONS OF THE UNCONSCIOUS:

The unconscious mind has no awareness of self or sense of time. Nor, oddly enough, does it distinguish between truth and fantasy. If you ask the unconscious mind a question it knows the answer to (like: What are you feeling?), it tells you the truth. If you ask the unconscious mind a question it doesn't know the answer to (like: What will happen in the future?) it will make something up. So before asking things the unconscious might not know, it's important to ask the unconscious, "Do you know this information?"

The unconscious has emotions like anger, sadness, fear, self worth, and guilt which the conscious mind assumes are its own. It also feels the emotions of confusion, frustration, disappointment, overwhelm, disgust and alertness which the conscious mind has as agitated states. It doesn't have dismay or concern or outrage or boredom the way the conscious mind does. And it doesn't have hopes or dreams.

It thinks, in its own non-linear way, by association rather than logic. It has its own stored memories that the conscious mind has forgotten about. It makes new thoughts that pop into your conscious mind, seemingly from nowhere.

Your unconscious mind works 24 hours a day. When you're awake it supplies the emotions you feel. When you're asleep it's dreaming. Dreams are the thoughts of the unconscious. During REM sleep you have dreams with intense emotions, and the rest of the night you dream more quietly.

It doesn't have a personal self, so it has a detached viewpoint. It's creative and intuitive, and has whatever psychic abilities you've developed along the way.

It stores unconscious memories, repressed emotions, automatic skills and habits, expectations, attitudes and values. It controls simple speech . It controls all but the most focused voluntary movement, and it has the ability to stop all movement. As it does every night when you go to sleep. Otherwise you'd be acting out your dreams.

It also controls happiness, fascinations, phobias, and body language. It has its own sense of amusement, and it laughs. It controls desires, sexual attraction, arousal and orgasm. It also controls alerting you to danger and risk.

It controls staying attentive to where things are around you, your "spatial sense". That's why you don't bump into things as you walk.

And on top of all that, it controls body temperature, hunger, digestion, going to sleep, staying asleep, waking up, and the immune system (including allergies and auto-immune diseases). It can turn off pain, and it normally does so every night when we go to sleep. Or we wouldn't get any sleep when we're in pain.

And it does all this automatically, without any conscious awareness. Pretty handy friend to have by your side, right?

USE 1, RESOLVING PAINFUL EMOTIONS: Untalk can be used to resolve painful emotions. The unconscious doesn't have a sense of personal self, so talking to the unconscious is like talking to a crowd. You can ask, "Are there parts who are feeling _____?"

For more detail on getting a response, please see Part 2: Test 1. You can use whatever works for you.

THE KEY QUESTION: Then you can ask the Key Question.

Here's the long version: "Will all these parts of my unconscious mind please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve the emotions of _____ as quickly as possible without putting too much stress on the rest of the system?"

In practice, it usually boils down to: "Will those parts please work together, and get whatever help you need, and resolve these feelings or ______?"

IF THE ANSWER TO THE KEY QUESTION IS YES: you can say thank you, and the painful emotion usually seems to be gone in a minute or less. It isn't actually gone. It's changed into something else that's painless and useful. (Anger might be changed into determination, for example.) This stuff doesn't take hours or days to work. This is a power tool. That's why it's valuable.

WARNING: Therefore, there's something you should know. Please be aware that resolving a painful emotion will allow the next layer under it to float up. If you resolve anger, the next day you might feel fear coming up. Under that might be loneliness, and under that helplessness, and so on.

The most difficult and important part of this whole process is this: PLEASE DON'T TAKE THESE SURFACING EMOTIONS AS REAL. Please do not BELIEVE these emotions.

By talking with your unconscious you are speeding up the healing process, and these emotions coming up are from traumas in the past. As each layer of emotion comes up, please treat it as just another relic to talk with your unconscious about, again. And again. The only way out is through. So keep going around the process. Have faith in process....

You'll know when you're done because the bottom layer is joy and confidence and a feeling of ease and optimism. Which is your birthright, I might add. So about time you got it back, right? It's your birthright to be having a good life, right?...

IF THE ANSWER TO THE KEY QUESTION IS NO: You can ask: "Does anything else need to be dealt with first?"

If the answer is Yes, you can ask, "Is it safety?" Find what's needed to make it safe.

Or: "Is it another emotion needing to be resolved?" Resolve the emotion.

Or: "Is there a belief that is a problem?" Update the belief or retire it to the past.

Or: "Is it a behavior that isn't working?" Usually an old one. Update, resolve or retire it.
Or: "Is it a habit that needs changed?" Yes. "Are there parts in charge of that habit?" Yes. "Will all those parts please work together, and get whatever help they need, and resolve that habit?"

Or: "Is there something that needs to be understood?" Will it come into the conscious mind during sleep? Do I need to think about it? Do I need to talk with someone?

Or: "Is there something that needs to be communicated?" To whom? Or from whom?

Or: "Is there an action that needs to be taken?" What is it?

Or: "Is there something that needs to be let go of?" Detached from?

Keep guessing... Self worth?.... Happiness?.... And so on....

FINISHING UP: Then to wrap up, you can ask, "Is there anything else that needs to be resolved now?" If the answer is Yes, you can ask the parts involved to work together, and get any help they need, and resolve whatever it is.

If the answer is No, you can say thank you till next time.

MORE WARNINGS: Please don't ask your unconscious to turn off emotions, or to resolve things "as quickly as possible". It will do what you ask. With painful results. The first will cause long-term trouble, and the second will stress the system as layers of emotion come up too fast.

A client of mine asked her unconscious to resolve everything that was holding her back. Her unconscious did what she asked, but the price was that she had nightmares for a few days.

Please don't ask your unconscious questions it can't know or doesn't knowthe answer to. It'll give you the closest associated idea, or it'll make something up, but it won't give you an actual answer. Before asking your question, ask your unconscious if it knows about this subject.

EXHAUSTION: "I'd like to talk with my unconscious. Are there parts who are feeling exhausted?" Yes. "Will you please together, and get help as needed, and resolve this exhaustion?" Yes. "Thank you."

INNER CRITIC: "Is there a particular part, or a group of parts, whose focus is offering criticism?" Yes. "I know you're offering criticism to help, but people do better with support and appreciation. Will these parts please take on a new job of offering appreciation?" Yes. "Thank you."

GUILT: "I'd like to talk with my unconscious now. Are there parts who are feeling guilty or ashamed?" Yes. "Will you please begin working together now, getting help as needed, and resolve the guilt and shame?" Yes. "Thank you."

HAPPINESS: "I'd like to talk with my unconscious. Are there parts who are in charge of happiness?" Yes. "Will you please begin working together now, getting help as needed, and increase and strengthen my happiness in life?" Yes. "How about our resilience?" Yes. "How about our capacity for joy?" Yes. "Well. Thank you very much."

LONELINESS: "I'd like to talk with my unconscious. Are there parts who are feeling lonely?" Yes. "Will all of you please start working together, and get whatever help you need, and resolve the emotions of loneliness?" Yes. "Thank you."

OVERWHELM: "Can I talk with my unconscious?" Yes. "Are there parts of you who are feeling overwhelmed?" Yes. "OK. Poor parts. Will you please all start working together now, and get help as needed, and recover quickly and well?" Yes. "Thank you."

PERMISSION: "Are there parts who can give me permission to be happy?" Yes. "Will you give me that permission?" No. "Is there something else that needs to be dealt with first?" Yes. "What is it?" Climb a tree. "What kind?" Oak. "Where?" In the neighborhood. "The way to get that permission is to find an oak tree in the neighborhood and climb it?" Yes. "OK, I'm off to do it."

SELF-WORTH: "I'd like to chat with my unconscious. Are there parts who are in charge of self-worth?" Yes. "Will you please all work together and raise my self-worth to maximum and keep it there from now on?" Yes. "Thank you." (I think you can expect a reaction from this one.)

SLEEP, GOING TO: "Hello, unconscious mind." Yes. "Are there parts who are in charge of getting to sleep?" Yes. "OK. Will you please work together, and get help as needed from other parts, to put me into a state of wonderful and refreshing sleep?" Yes. "Thank you. Good night."

SLEEPING WELL: "I'd like to talk with my unconscious. Are there parts who are in charge of getting good sleep?" Yes. "OK. Will you please work together now, and get help as needed, and give me a good night's sleep tonight?" Yes. "Thank you."

SLEEPING ENOUGH: "I'd like to talk with my unconscious mind now. Are there parts who are in charge of my sense of time?" Yes. "OK. Will you please work together, and get help as needed, and make me experience four hours tonight as though they were eight hours so I can get enough sleep?" Yes. "Thank you."

SLEEPING THROUGH NOISE: "I'd like to talk with my unconscious mind. Are there parts who are in charge of waking up to noise in the night?" Yes. "OK, will you please work together and keep me asleep when my noisy neighbor gets up to go to work at two in the morning?" Yes. "Thank you."

SMOKING, QUITTING: In very slow motion go through the ritual of touching two fingers together and lifting them to your lips. "I'd like to talk with my unconscious. Are there parts who enjoy smoking?" Yes. "Will you please feel those good feelings intensely right now as I do this action?" Yes. "Will you create those same good feelings for me whenever I do the ritual, so that I don't need the actual tobacco?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Hello, unconscious mind." Yes. "Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who feel angry?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of anger?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who feel sad?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of sadness?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who feel scared?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of fear?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who feel depressed?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of depression?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who feel frustrated?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of frustration?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who feel confused?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those feelings of confusion?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who have other emotions that need resolved?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Is there anything else that needs to be done now?" No. "Thank you."

DAILY CHECK-IN (Long Version):

"Hello, unconscious mind." Yes. "Are there any parts of my unconscious mind who have emotions that need resolved?" Yes.

"Are there any parts feeling angry?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of anger?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts feeling sad?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of sadness?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts feeling scared?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of fear?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts feeling depressed?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of depression?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts feeling frustrated?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of frustration?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any parts feeling confused?" Yes. "Will those parts all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions of confusion?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there any other emotions that need resolved?" Yes. "Will the parts feeling those emotions all please work together, and get help as needed, and resolve those emotions?" Yes. "Thank you." "Is there anything else that needs to be done now?" No. "Thank you."
"Is my unconscious mind needing to be resolved?" Yes. "Will all the parts of my unconscious mind please work together and resolve my entire unconscious mind?" Yes. "Thank you."

"Are there good things that need to be increased?" Yes. "Will you please increase those things?" Yes. "Thank you."

HELPING OTHERS: By the way, it's easy to help other people do untalk. You can teach them to get a response from their unconscious, and then tell them what to ask their unconscious, and then ask them what response they're getting. And so on. Easy peasy. And while you're at it you can teach them how to do it themselves. You might direct them to this article.