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I'm 26, and been watching porn since i was 14. Porn has destroyed relationships, it has dulled my senses and it has made me lazy to pursuit relationships. It has also shaped and molded sexual desires. So it's time to give it up.

I've been porn free for the past two days. Today has been fucking hard. haha literllay. First it's cold as fuck out so i'm stuck inside on my computer with porn a heartbeat away. Kept myself busy playing music, drawing, eating, reading, and watching cartoons but still the humm is in the mind. Sometimes i even find myself opening a tab and typing in a porn web address out of habit as if it were second nature. This is going to be really tough.

The last couple of times i gave up porn for a couple of days ended up coming home drunk, horny and alone then bam right back to the start. Then be like well thats over and i'm still here. Not like leaning to the side and being like "damn girl you a beast how about you spend the night and we get diner breakfast in the morning" which would be heluva lot better.

Gunna try not to drink too but am i pushing it? what do you all think?
I feel pot kills the libido, not to mention i'm also a huge pothead.

I've been fapping, here there, usually to rub out the morning wood, or at night before bed. Thoughts must play an important role too. It has to be counterproductive to maintain a lustful mind when trying to quit porn. Non theless they come to mind and i'm like dammn she's so fine, then the imagination runs wild. So i try to keep the immagination to something along the lines of HBO late night softcore first-perspective porn where i seduce the chick and she can't help but give into my awesomeness.

I'm in the same boat. Day 3 for me.. I drank a little tonight, no one is home and I am not the least bit tired. Then facebook gives me a link to "10 pornstars which are more educated than me" and of course I see one of my favorites in that list. I think to myself, "Well I'm only three days in," but damn I should just not do that. There's a concept I really like for this situation, which is "Every time you resist an urge, your probability for quitting increases." I'm strengthening that neural pathway to resist temptation. I am also realizing that my urge is coming from a couple triggers - alcohol, being alone at home, being on my computer alone at home, and being kinda upset. However, I have the ability to do this today, and fuck its hard, but I'm doing it.

Next time I'll know not to let myself even get this far. I know not to click on that article, and I know even better not to type any names into Google. Its like, why am I empowering the opposing side in this tug of war?

I feel like in my very core, I know exactly what I'm doing, and I know which wolf I'm feeding, no matter how sneakily I try to do it. At that point, its discipline and seeing the battle for what it really is. All I know, is that I've got a promise to my girlfriend to try my hardest, and I know that I want to really build myself up, to be able to handle hardship with grace, and to enjoy what really counts, to give up the cheap thrills of life for the ones that I truly care about, for the ones that last.

Keep at it doodman, i forgot how much porn is on the bit torrent sites, guess no piratebay for a while haha. Anyway do it for your girl dude, last girlfriend that i really actually honestly loved
was only harmed by my habit. Made her feel inadequate, unattractive and used.

update.
Last night girl from work called me to hang out, and since i haven't been fapping it, actually had the motivation and energy to go out. Met her and her friend, actually made a connection with the ladies rather than seeing them as something to fuck. It was cool. Regretfully with a couple of drinks pornographic fantasies came to mind and we ended up going to her place. Couldn't keep it up, obvious indicator of fucked up dopamine levels. Didn't want her to feel inadequate. so i had to finish myself off.

Moral of the story porn fucks up your mind. First there was no reason to reaffirm my masculinity by going home with a girl just because she wanted it. Two didn't even appreciate her and used her as a vehicle for pornographic fantasies, three couldn't even give her the pleasure of knowing she skillfully seduced a man.

However did end up appreciating simple moments before and afterwards, like talking to people and dancing, or waking up in the morning with someone and just being there with them.

I know we are suppose to keep the subject as unerotic as possible but i'm sure many of you have struggled with this aspect of sexuality.

Not watching porn is is without a doubt essential to recovery, but what about controlling the thoughts, being aware of the thoughts, being mindful of how our cravings come and go. this power of the mind must be equally important. Since were on the subject of tai chi and meditation. Thoughts?

Really thinking of doing the ubershmein of no-porn, no weed, and no alcohol but i really don't want to go back to watching porn ever again. Weed and alcohol totally just not as much, more like glass of wine and joint while having a picnic at 5pm in the evening in the middle of july with some lovely individuals.