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Are you in a healthy relationship?

Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out. Make sure to check the boxes to record your responses. At the end, you’ll find out how to score your answers.

The person I'm with yells, screams or humiliates me in front of other people.

The person I'm with pressures or forces me into having sex or going farther than I want to.

0pts

Your Score

You got a score of zero? Don't worry -- it's a good thing! It sounds like your relationship is on a pretty healthy track, it's possible that a friend of yours does not. If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, find out how you can help them by visiting www.loveisrespect.org

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Your Score

If you scored one or two points, you might be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that are unhealthy, but it doesn't necessarily mean they are warning signs. It's still a good idea to keep an eye out and make sure there isn't an unhealthy pattern developing. The best thing to do is to talk to your partner and let them know what you like and don't like. Encourage them to do the same. Remember, communication is always important when building a healthy relationship. It's also good to be informed so you can recognize the different types of abuse.

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Your Score

If you scored 3 or 4 points, it sounds like you may be seeing some warning signs of an abusive relationship. Don't ignore these red flags. Something that starts small can grow much worse over time. No relationship is perfect, it takes work! But in a healthy relationship, you won't find abusive behaviors. If you think your relationship may not be as healthy as you deserve, chat with a www.loveisrespect.org peer advocate to get more information.

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Your Score

If you scored 5 points or more, you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in an abusive relationship. Remember the most important thing is your safety -- consider making a safety plan. You don't have to deal with this alone. Loveisrespect.org can help. Chat with us to learn about your different options.

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