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Sunday, January 29, 2012

The Ugly Side Of Beauty

I always joke that sometimes people in the beauty world, have some of the ugliest attitudes! Sure they might be in the biz of making others look beautiful, but they do not do this with their attitudes!

Walking around in LA, can make you feel bad. Everywhere you look, it's mostly really attractive, thin, beautiful people. From your waiter or waitress to the people sitting next to you eating. Most people look like models, actresses or someone sort of something that requires you to be beautiful.

BUT....I must remind you, this is the town that was famous for creating movies with fake fronts...fake streets, fake houses, fake towns. Yep, any movie studio, used to have little areas, old west towns that looked real in the front, but behind the fake front was, just a bunch of things to hold of the fake looking front.

And sometimes that's how these people are. They look great on the outside- perfect hair, perfect bodies, perfect clothes but their only beauty is on the outside.

It's like looking at a big fancy house, but when you walk inside it's a dump, full of spiders, snakes, and there's no rooms, just an empty basement looking room that's dark and depressing.

I've met people that are very beautiful on the outside and that's how they are, like the fake house- pretty on the outside but how rude, mean and selfish they are makes them so ugly on the inside, no amount of make-up or plastic surgery will truly make them "beautiful people".

I once had a person in LA, tell me I smile too much, and that I'm going to have so many smiles wrinkles because I'm always smiling.My great-great Grandma, said you can tell how happy someone is, by the wrinkles on their face from smiling and laughing. That just made me want to smile more...I don't care about my smile lines. I care about how my smile might brighten someone's day.

The most "can't keep your eyes off them", people, are the ones with "plus size" hearts, real life personalities, they love others more than themselves, they smile more, they don't go around saying rude and sarcastic things all the time. They are joys to be around, people miss them when they aren't in the room because they bring a sense of love and happiness, that lots of people lack now.

I've seen models and actresses that are very pretty..but only on the outside. Their attitude was awful, rude and selfish and their only beauty was seen with the eyes. Truly beautiful people's beauty can be felt in a dark room where you can't even see them, you can feel their beauty by the love they make you feel.

My most beautiful friends have:
the biggest hearts...
not the smallest size jeans
not the biggest size bra
not the fanciest handbag or shoes
but a kind smile, a way of making others feel special by caring, and laughing and enjoy life with others- no laughing and making fun OF others.

I hope today you feel less pressure to be thin, wish you had a different nose or teeth or skin, or wish you looked more like your favorite star...
because you can be the most beautiful person where ever you go...because it's your heart that is beautiful, not your "outside"...that is going to get old and wrinkly no matter what!

"The most beautiful people are the ones that make others feel beautiful, loved, and give smiles away easily!"

huge hugs, smiles, and your beauty is just waiting to shine to the world today, i love ya, kandee

38 comments:

Thankyou so much kandee for posting this! I've been feeling all week now that the people that I called my friends have been no so beautiful on the inside and this makes me feel so much more confident that maybe the people that are not beautiful on the outside are the nicest people! Xoxo!

I was actually told one day "Julie I love how your always smiling you always look so happy"I'm not the happiest person in the world but I love how when I smile at most people they always smile back. Now I have a tear in my eye lolBig smiles,Julie

I totally agree with you but why does everyone always misjudge thin people what if we are naturally thin I think it's unfair people mis judge thin people because we struggle alot with our weight by trying to gain weight, it doesn't matter weather a person is thin or thick it matters if they are healthy or not

My name is Liz Im 20 years old and pregnat I dont have $ and to top it off my bf left me there is so much SO SO MUCH UGLY IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW i pray and pray and ask why? Why? Ur blog/videos inspire me to enjoy life i may not be in the best situation but i know everything happens for a reason. Thank you(":

I agree with you kandee it's hard to find a true friend these days because all they care about is how they are looking b just about themselves now a days seems like thats all that matters n I'm glad I came to read this today because I was starting to feel down on myself about my weight now that I'm pregnant n Gained a couple Lunda u see old friends n smile n greet them n all they could tell me is how big n fat I got :( that i dnt look like my old self and by reading ur blog made me feel better

I always think of that when I see those girls wearing skimpy clothes, I get angry because they should know better, there's kids around and they don't care, they're all over the internet triggering people to do evil things. I hope that one day this world will be safe and everyone will be happy together.

Hey Kandee Girl! You know its true. But a couple things I've been taught is that the outer man will perish. All unrighteousness is sin. God looks on the heart. We are in a spiritual warfare. We wrestle not against flesh and blood....God looks at our heart. All of our desires and motives in each person. God commanded us to Love one another no matter our faults like Jesus loves us no matter our faults. I know it is easier said than done but turn your p.o.v. and see them from Gods angle. Its like your sister was saying, Hurt people, "Hurt" people. I hoped this helps someone see it from a perspective of Love. I love u guys! Tia

I work as a stylist & see this ALL the time! I can't stand the girls I work with, they're soo rude & inconsiderate. It's policy for one to get food for all &I bring it back.....I'm new &I'm they skip over me, so there's days I don't even eat. When I try talking to any of them...it's more of the, "Why are you talking to me?" type of thing....I can't wait to be transferred back to my old store!! Where they were pretty &all nice!

This made me get a little tear in my eyes... I was once told by someone that I was annoying and they didn't like me because I am too happy, and that it freaked them out how I smiled all the time, some people are just bitter... I wish that whatever is bothering them goes away and that they start seeing all the beautiful things this life has to offer

I've been told that I smile too much before but I think why should I be sad or down? It's better to smile too much than to frown too much! I really like what you wrote it inspired me slot thanks kandee

You are so god damn fake it's unbelievable. You delete someone because they give their opinion yet were all your love bugs? Haha, we are as long as we kiss your ass. Honestly I used to like you until I realized how fake you are. You're all about "YouTube fame." just cause you can blend eyeshadow doesn't make you gods gift to earth! Coming from someone whose children go to school with yours and what I've heard... Why don't you use all your hits and blogs and promote charities? You're so annoying. It's too bad the people in your real life don't love you as much as they do over the computer!!!!!

She doesn't need to donate to charities just because she is on Youtube. It's not like she's making tons of money plus she is a single hardworking mom. Who the heck r you. R u one of those occupy peeps who spends more time complaining what others have when u could just get off ur butt and work. She inspires people with her ideas and words.

^^^You are one of those ugly on the inside people. If Kandee is so annoying than what does it make you? You're the one with nothing better to do than to be reading someone's blog which you find "so annoying".

Loll how cute. All your Internet lovers are sticking up for you! I didn't say she should donate you douche. I said promote it. Cause a lot of lame asses like you all listen to her. Instead of charities she's promoting makeup brands. What a loser. Get an education and actually contribute to society.

I'm a medical student currently studying in LA. Kandee, why don't you use your little part of the media spot to do things like promote charities instead of talking about cupcakes and makeup? I have seen kandee around and she is kinda bad tempered.

Not every has to "get an education to contribute to society". Kandee seems like a loving person that trys to inspire people with her words and ideas. Just because people do Youtube videos doesn't mean that when they get a lot of followers it should mean that they need to promote stuff. If someone is so concerned about promoting stuff then make your own Youtube video.

I can tell by just your rude comments that you are an ugly person. How dare you go around spreading words of hate especially through a computer screen. You are a coward. You probably have your own issues and are taking it out on someone as a sad excuse to feel better. I hope one day you can look back and feel guilty for being a negative person.

Kandee,I wish you would post this entire story on Facebook.I mean where you dont have to click on a window to open it into the full text in another window.

I am a professional photographer and work with beautiful people just like you. Problem is, they are so self absorbed in their world of glamour and me, myself and I that they truly do not have any manners or people skills for that matter.

Your looks can be taken away from you in a heartbeat, then what are you left with? A selfish, self loving individual with no personality, compassion or respect for others. Trust me, I witnessed it first hand in this past month. The person had cancer of the jaw, was totally disgifured after maxiofacial surgery and recently died because he lost his soul.

Thanks for writing and sharing your beautiful story from a beautiful girl with a golden heart!