It all started in our last day of CAT training! i know a guy who has all the characteristics i was looking for! he was my friend! i started getting close to him and one day i confessed that he was my crush! that night he texted me the same answer too! i was happy!

The next week, we started texting, and i was slowly falling inlove with him. One night, he confessed that he love me! i was shocked and happy! but when we i got to school, he told me that his best bud doesn't agree with our relationship so he ended it.

it hurts but i understand him!

Help me how to forget my feelings!

Oh yeah! we share the same building not the same room just the other room next mine! and he is also the best friend of my best friend!

NOTE I want solutions! Help me!

if its okay to ask ...why would your crushs best bud be against your relationship? uhmmm...it would only mean that he(your crush) doesnt have a say on things like that and minds other people.

hes best bud thinks that he (my crush) deserves someone better!

How would he know that? I mean he does not have the right to judge you because he doesn't know you that well... or does he?

It all started in our last day of CAT training! i know a guy who has all the characteristics i was looking for! he was my friend! i started getting close to him and one day i confessed that he was my crush! that night he texted me the same answer too! i was happy!

The next week, we started texting, and i was slowly falling inlove with him. One night, he confessed that he love me! i was shocked and happy! but when we i got to school, he told me that his best bud doesn't agree with our relationship so he ended it.

it hurts but i understand him!

Help me how to forget my feelings!

Oh yeah! we share the same building not the same room just the other room next mine! and he is also the best friend of my best friend!

NOTE I want solutions! Help me!

if its okay to ask ...why would your crushs best bud be against your relationship? uhmmm...it would only mean that he(your crush) doesnt have a say on things like that and minds other people.

hes best bud thinks that he (my crush) deserves someone better!

How would he know that? I mean he does not have the right to judge you because he doesn't know you that well... or does he?

hmm... I still think he does not have the right to judge people based on just what he knows...
but then, your crush should not be influenced easily by others... if he really has feelings for you, he can at least fight for you.

hmm... I still think he does not have the right to judge people based on just what he knows...
but then, your crush should not be influenced easily by others... if he really has feelings for you, he can at least fight for you.

yeah i totally agree... so...if you want to forget about your crush...divert your attention on things that would make you feel good instead of carrying that pain in you.i know its not gonna be easy to do things like that but if you try and take it slowly,then you might see some progress.

hmm... I still think he does not have the right to judge people based on just what he knows...
but then, your crush should not be influenced easily by others... if he really has feelings for you, he can at least fight for you.

yeah i totally agree... so...if you want to forget about your crush...divert your attention on things that would make you feel good instead of carrying that pain in you.i know its not gonna be easy to do things like that but if you try and take it slowly,then you might see some progress.

hmm... I still think he does not have the right to judge people based on just what he knows...
but then, your crush should not be influenced easily by others... if he really has feelings for you, he can at least fight for you.

yeah i totally agree... so...if you want to forget about your crush...divert your attention on things that would make you feel good instead of carrying that pain in you.i know its not gonna be easy to do things like that but if you try and take it slowly,then you might see some progress.

the thing is, you cant really erase your memory about that person so easily.(especially when you have feelings for that guy)even me. it took me 7 years.(but still couldnt forget) so...ive learned to accept that no matter what i do, hell be a part of my good and bad memory. dont worry...you'll get by it...but probably not in days or weeks though:blush:

hmm... I still think he does not have the right to judge people based on just what he knows...
but then, your crush should not be influenced easily by others... if he really has feelings for you, he can at least fight for you.

yeah i totally agree... so...if you want to forget about your crush...divert your attention on things that would make you feel good instead of carrying that pain in you.i know its not gonna be easy to do things like that but if you try and take it slowly,then you might see some progress.

Anyway, if you are for each other then you'll meet again... no one knows what will happen in the future...

I already tried it but no matter what i try our paths will eventually cross!

i agree with kuru....sometimes...we need to do forget things that we don't want to forget...a wound can heal but it takes a long time to do it....don't scratch it or else it'll bleed again.....meaning.....don't refresh the memories that leaves you a pain...besides...more guys are out there....i know someone...will come to made you forget about that guy...

it started that day when he came and confessed to me, at that time, he had a girlfriend, alana, her name was, they'd been going out for about... 3 years he came up to me and said..if i dump alana, will you go out with me?... i didnt know what to answer so i gave a simply 'i dont know' then, he tried all things to get me to go out with him.... like when we went on a trip to watch a movie... he was sitting next to me at the back trying to hold my hand.. and othe things liek that aswel..until i acutally gave up... for the second time he confessed with me i said...'go on then'... our relationship went on for a year..when we moved up a year, he had already fallen in love with another girl, emily, and, she was my best friend... i dumped him..and he went back out with alana, after he had actually realised he loved her still..coincidentally, the teacher put me, emily and my boyfriend, with his best friend on a whole table 2 weeks passed, and i, could realise that he had gained feelings for emily,i kept bugging him and askign him 'do you love emily?, do you luv emily' in secret..until he gave a a answer. 'Yes.' i replied 'more than me?' 'no', at this point i was really relieved..until one day.. emily came up to me.. and said 'omg, joe confessed to me'. i could tell that her face was gonna answer yes. 'are you going to say yes?' i gave her the question. emily shook her head up and down. inside i was like 'omg!', 'what about alana?' she replied 'joe said that he's gonna dump alana now...' i looked around the playground for alana.. i found joe with her... alana looked happy... i heard something like 'YAY... NOW I CAN BE FREE!' even though she put on a brave face, i knew, i knew that she really loved him, but yet not show...i knew that because it's hard for her to accept the fate even though they both went out for 3 years.. the next day, joe came declaring to everyone, shouting 'from now on im going out with emily!'. i hated that, very, time passed and they'd already gone out with each other for a month... i confronted him and said 'do you still love me?' he gave me a answer 'a bit.' by this time.. his friends hated him and emily together, since always, even during lunch, they would sit next to each other, and sometimes kiss in front of me and his friends..he seemed happy.. i would always act normal around them...until one day, he came to me and said 'i hate you, stop interferring with me and emily' this time, my heart shattered... being said those words by the one i used to love. i didnt cry though, i just said 'ah, is that so?' and walked away. since that time, i had always ignored him, he changed slowly bit by bit... with me realising... i was wondering what i should do before he changes completely, so i started talking to him again, it would be random things but inside i thought..

What should i actually do?

thanks, from Lunar

well for my opinion, i think its a right choice to talk to him before he changes but after you've gotten over your feelings for him. also its better if you've keep an eye on your best friend because you know what is joe really is! she will understand what your trying to do, if you see them happy, be happy for them. atleast give them support! that's all i can say!

in secret, he's acutally cheating on her.. how could i support them?!?!

well, you should tell her about joe on how you know him! she will think bad about you but she will understand sooner or later! tell her about how you know joe and maybe she will listen!

i tried that, but when i told her, she said. 'liar, lie to me again i'll never talk to you..' on msn -.-

really some people are blinded in love....
my advice is that you should stand for what is true....i know that she'll probably not talk to you....it'll hurt...but then...after such a time......when he'll hurt her....she'll came to realize that you are right....
some people need to learn from their mistakes....just be right there for her when that happens...

it started that day when he came and confessed to me, at that time, he had a girlfriend, alana, her name was, they'd been going out for about... 3 years he came up to me and said..if i dump alana, will you go out with me?... i didnt know what to answer so i gave a simply 'i dont know' then, he tried all things to get me to go out with him.... like when we went on a trip to watch a movie... he was sitting next to me at the back trying to hold my hand.. and othe things liek that aswel..until i acutally gave up... for the second time he confessed with me i said...'go on then'... our relationship went on for a year..when we moved up a year, he had already fallen in love with another girl, emily, and, she was my best friend... i dumped him..and he went back out with alana, after he had actually realised he loved her still..coincidentally, the teacher put me, emily and my boyfriend, with his best friend on a whole table 2 weeks passed, and i, could realise that he had gained feelings for emily,i kept bugging him and askign him 'do you love emily?, do you luv emily' in secret..until he gave a a answer. 'Yes.' i replied 'more than me?' 'no', at this point i was really relieved..until one day.. emily came up to me.. and said 'omg, joe confessed to me'. i could tell that her face was gonna answer yes. 'are you going to say yes?' i gave her the question. emily shook her head up and down. inside i was like 'omg!', 'what about alana?' she replied 'joe said that he's gonna dump alana now...' i looked around the playground for alana.. i found joe with her... alana looked happy... i heard something like 'YAY... NOW I CAN BE FREE!' even though she put on a brave face, i knew, i knew that she really loved him, but yet not show...i knew that because it's hard for her to accept the fate even though they both went out for 3 years.. the next day, joe came declaring to everyone, shouting 'from now on im going out with emily!'. i hated that, very, time passed and they'd already gone out with each other for a month... i confronted him and said 'do you still love me?' he gave me a answer 'a bit.' by this time.. his friends hated him and emily together, since always, even during lunch, they would sit next to each other, and sometimes kiss in front of me and his friends..he seemed happy.. i would always act normal around them...until one day, he came to me and said 'i hate you, stop interferring with me and emily' this time, my heart shattered... being said those words by the one i used to love. i didnt cry though, i just said 'ah, is that so?' and walked away. since that time, i had always ignored him, he changed slowly bit by bit... with me realising... i was wondering what i should do before he changes completely, so i started talking to him again, it would be random things but inside i thought..

What should i actually do?

thanks, from Lunar

well for my opinion, i think its a right choice to talk to him before he changes but after you've gotten over your feelings for him. also its better if you've keep an eye on your best friend because you know what is joe really is! she will understand what your trying to do, if you see them happy, be happy for them. atleast give them support! that's all i can say!

in secret, he's acutally cheating on her.. how could i support them?!?!

well, you should tell her about joe on how you know him! she will think bad about you but she will understand sooner or later! tell her about how you know joe and maybe she will listen!

i tried that, but when i told her, she said. 'liar, lie to me again i'll never talk to you..' on msn -.-

really some people are blinded in love....
my advice is that you should stand for what is true....i know that she'll probably not talk to you....it'll hurt...but then...after such a time......when he'll hurt her....she'll came to realize that you are right....
some people need to learn from their mistakes....just be right there for her when that happens...

hope this helps

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE BUT....

ugh... this problem evolves by time, on the first day of school, joe dumped emily -.-... and since me and joe had been going out before, she thinks that joe had dumped her for me, which he really has, but i dont tell anyone. but then 2 days after, i asked him the question 'did you really dump emily for me?' he replied with a 'yeh, used to.' after that. there were rumours that me and joe were going out again, emily actually believed it and then started saying that me and joe were going out, but were not

I think this time, you shouldn't bother about proving anything. Emily right now is hurting and she may be trying to look for someone to take her anger for her... well, if it bothers you, you can try talking to her and just tell her that it isn't true though I think her mind might be closed right now so she won't believe anything you say.

It would be enough proof if you stop hanging around Joe for a while. It would clear the rumors that the two of you are going out, Emily will see the truth behind that and you'll start to forget the feelings you had for Joe. So, that's killing three birds with one stone!

You and Emily are best buds which means that whatever happens you are in each others heart... that won't change just because of one guy... just let her have some time for herself but just make sure to let her know that she is your friend and you are there for her if she needs you.

it started that day when he came and confessed to me, at that time, he had a girlfriend, alana, her name was, they'd been going out for about... 3 years he came up to me and said..if i dump alana, will you go out with me?... i didnt know what to answer so i gave a simply 'i dont know' then, he tried all things to get me to go out with him.... like when we went on a trip to watch a movie... he was sitting next to me at the back trying to hold my hand.. and othe things liek that aswel..until i acutally gave up... for the second time he confessed with me i said...'go on then'... our relationship went on for a year..when we moved up a year, he had already fallen in love with another girl, emily, and, she was my best friend... i dumped him..and he went back out with alana, after he had actually realised he loved her still..coincidentally, the teacher put me, emily and my boyfriend, with his best friend on a whole table 2 weeks passed, and i, could realise that he had gained feelings for emily,i kept bugging him and askign him 'do you love emily?, do you luv emily' in secret..until he gave a a answer. 'Yes.' i replied 'more than me?' 'no', at this point i was really relieved..until one day.. emily came up to me.. and said 'omg, joe confessed to me'. i could tell that her face was gonna answer yes. 'are you going to say yes?' i gave her the question. emily shook her head up and down. inside i was like 'omg!', 'what about alana?' she replied 'joe said that he's gonna dump alana now...' i looked around the playground for alana.. i found joe with her... alana looked happy... i heard something like 'YAY... NOW I CAN BE FREE!' even though she put on a brave face, i knew, i knew that she really loved him, but yet not show...i knew that because it's hard for her to accept the fate even though they both went out for 3 years.. the next day, joe came declaring to everyone, shouting 'from now on im going out with emily!'. i hated that, very, time passed and they'd already gone out with each other for a month... i confronted him and said 'do you still love me?' he gave me a answer 'a bit.' by this time.. his friends hated him and emily together, since always, even during lunch, they would sit next to each other, and sometimes kiss in front of me and his friends..he seemed happy.. i would always act normal around them...until one day, he came to me and said 'i hate you, stop interferring with me and emily' this time, my heart shattered... being said those words by the one i used to love. i didnt cry though, i just said 'ah, is that so?' and walked away. since that time, i had always ignored him, he changed slowly bit by bit... with me realising... i was wondering what i should do before he changes completely, so i started talking to him again, it would be random things but inside i thought..

What should i actually do?

thanks, from Lunar

well for my opinion, i think its a right choice to talk to him before he changes but after you've gotten over your feelings for him. also its better if you've keep an eye on your best friend because you know what is joe really is! she will understand what your trying to do, if you see them happy, be happy for them. atleast give them support! that's all i can say!

in secret, he's acutally cheating on her.. how could i support them?!?!

well, you should tell her about joe on how you know him! she will think bad about you but she will understand sooner or later! tell her about how you know joe and maybe she will listen!

i tried that, but when i told her, she said. 'liar, lie to me again i'll never talk to you..' on msn -.-

really some people are blinded in love....
my advice is that you should stand for what is true....i know that she'll probably not talk to you....it'll hurt...but then...after such a time......when he'll hurt her....she'll came to realize that you are right....
some people need to learn from their mistakes....just be right there for her when that happens...

hope this helps

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE BUT....

ugh... this problem evolves by time, on the first day of school, joe dumped emily -.-... and since me and joe had been going out before, she thinks that joe had dumped her for me, which he really has, but i dont tell anyone. but then 2 days after, i asked him the question 'did you really dump emily for me?' he replied with a 'yeh, used to.' after that. there were rumours that me and joe were going out again, emily actually believed it and then started saying that me and joe were going out, but were not

how can i prove to her that were not?

i agree with angel.....you don't have to prove something.....probably emily won't listen to a word you are saying.....if you feel that you like explaining it to her....follow your heart...at least you explained to her that it's not true...if she doesn't listen to you...it's not your problem but hers....one day....she'll realize her mistakes of not believing you....

it started that day when he came and confessed to me, at that time, he had a girlfriend, alana, her name was, they'd been going out for about... 3 years he came up to me and said..if i dump alana, will you go out with me?... i didnt know what to answer so i gave a simply 'i dont know' then, he tried all things to get me to go out with him.... like when we went on a trip to watch a movie... he was sitting next to me at the back trying to hold my hand.. and othe things liek that aswel..until i acutally gave up... for the second time he confessed with me i said...'go on then'... our relationship went on for a year..when we moved up a year, he had already fallen in love with another girl, emily, and, she was my best friend... i dumped him..and he went back out with alana, after he had actually realised he loved her still..coincidentally, the teacher put me, emily and my boyfriend, with his best friend on a whole table 2 weeks passed, and i, could realise that he had gained feelings for emily,i kept bugging him and askign him 'do you love emily?, do you luv emily' in secret..until he gave a a answer. 'Yes.' i replied 'more than me?' 'no', at this point i was really relieved..until one day.. emily came up to me.. and said 'omg, joe confessed to me'. i could tell that her face was gonna answer yes. 'are you going to say yes?' i gave her the question. emily shook her head up and down. inside i was like 'omg!', 'what about alana?' she replied 'joe said that he's gonna dump alana now...' i looked around the playground for alana.. i found joe with her... alana looked happy... i heard something like 'YAY... NOW I CAN BE FREE!' even though she put on a brave face, i knew, i knew that she really loved him, but yet not show...i knew that because it's hard for her to accept the fate even though they both went out for 3 years.. the next day, joe came declaring to everyone, shouting 'from now on im going out with emily!'. i hated that, very, time passed and they'd already gone out with each other for a month... i confronted him and said 'do you still love me?' he gave me a answer 'a bit.' by this time.. his friends hated him and emily together, since always, even during lunch, they would sit next to each other, and sometimes kiss in front of me and his friends..he seemed happy.. i would always act normal around them...until one day, he came to me and said 'i hate you, stop interferring with me and emily' this time, my heart shattered... being said those words by the one i used to love. i didnt cry though, i just said 'ah, is that so?' and walked away. since that time, i had always ignored him, he changed slowly bit by bit... with me realising... i was wondering what i should do before he changes completely, so i started talking to him again, it would be random things but inside i thought..

What should i actually do?

thanks, from Lunar

well for my opinion, i think its a right choice to talk to him before he changes but after you've gotten over your feelings for him. also its better if you've keep an eye on your best friend because you know what is joe really is! she will understand what your trying to do, if you see them happy, be happy for them. atleast give them support! that's all i can say!

in secret, he's acutally cheating on her.. how could i support them?!?!

well, you should tell her about joe on how you know him! she will think bad about you but she will understand sooner or later! tell her about how you know joe and maybe she will listen!

i tried that, but when i told her, she said. 'liar, lie to me again i'll never talk to you..' on msn -.-

really some people are blinded in love....
my advice is that you should stand for what is true....i know that she'll probably not talk to you....it'll hurt...but then...after such a time......when he'll hurt her....she'll came to realize that you are right....
some people need to learn from their mistakes....just be right there for her when that happens...

hope this helps

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE BUT....

ugh... this problem evolves by time, on the first day of school, joe dumped emily -.-... and since me and joe had been going out before, she thinks that joe had dumped her for me, which he really has, but i dont tell anyone. but then 2 days after, i asked him the question 'did you really dump emily for me?' he replied with a 'yeh, used to.' after that. there were rumours that me and joe were going out again, emily actually believed it and then started saying that me and joe were going out, but were not

how can i prove to her that were not?

maybe she's just confused and hurt!, don't talk to joe and let emily see that the rumors are wrong! or do you still have feelings for joe?!

it started that day when he came and confessed to me, at that time, he had a girlfriend, alana, her name was, they'd been going out for about... 3 years he came up to me and said..if i dump alana, will you go out with me?... i didnt know what to answer so i gave a simply 'i dont know' then, he tried all things to get me to go out with him.... like when we went on a trip to watch a movie... he was sitting next to me at the back trying to hold my hand.. and othe things liek that aswel..until i acutally gave up... for the second time he confessed with me i said...'go on then'... our relationship went on for a year..when we moved up a year, he had already fallen in love with another girl, emily, and, she was my best friend... i dumped him..and he went back out with alana, after he had actually realised he loved her still..coincidentally, the teacher put me, emily and my boyfriend, with his best friend on a whole table 2 weeks passed, and i, could realise that he had gained feelings for emily,i kept bugging him and askign him 'do you love emily?, do you luv emily' in secret..until he gave a a answer. 'Yes.' i replied 'more than me?' 'no', at this point i was really relieved..until one day.. emily came up to me.. and said 'omg, joe confessed to me'. i could tell that her face was gonna answer yes. 'are you going to say yes?' i gave her the question. emily shook her head up and down. inside i was like 'omg!', 'what about alana?' she replied 'joe said that he's gonna dump alana now...' i looked around the playground for alana.. i found joe with her... alana looked happy... i heard something like 'YAY... NOW I CAN BE FREE!' even though she put on a brave face, i knew, i knew that she really loved him, but yet not show...i knew that because it's hard for her to accept the fate even though they both went out for 3 years.. the next day, joe came declaring to everyone, shouting 'from now on im going out with emily!'. i hated that, very, time passed and they'd already gone out with each other for a month... i confronted him and said 'do you still love me?' he gave me a answer 'a bit.' by this time.. his friends hated him and emily together, since always, even during lunch, they would sit next to each other, and sometimes kiss in front of me and his friends..he seemed happy.. i would always act normal around them...until one day, he came to me and said 'i hate you, stop interferring with me and emily' this time, my heart shattered... being said those words by the one i used to love. i didnt cry though, i just said 'ah, is that so?' and walked away. since that time, i had always ignored him, he changed slowly bit by bit... with me realising... i was wondering what i should do before he changes completely, so i started talking to him again, it would be random things but inside i thought..

What should i actually do?

thanks, from Lunar

well for my opinion, i think its a right choice to talk to him before he changes but after you've gotten over your feelings for him. also its better if you've keep an eye on your best friend because you know what is joe really is! she will understand what your trying to do, if you see them happy, be happy for them. atleast give them support! that's all i can say!

in secret, he's acutally cheating on her.. how could i support them?!?!

well, you should tell her about joe on how you know him! she will think bad about you but she will understand sooner or later! tell her about how you know joe and maybe she will listen!

i tried that, but when i told her, she said. 'liar, lie to me again i'll never talk to you..' on msn -.-

really some people are blinded in love....
my advice is that you should stand for what is true....i know that she'll probably not talk to you....it'll hurt...but then...after such a time......when he'll hurt her....she'll came to realize that you are right....
some people need to learn from their mistakes....just be right there for her when that happens...

hope this helps

THANKS FOR THE ADVICE BUT....

ugh... this problem evolves by time, on the first day of school, joe dumped emily -.-... and since me and joe had been going out before, she thinks that joe had dumped her for me, which he really has, but i dont tell anyone. but then 2 days after, i asked him the question 'did you really dump emily for me?' he replied with a 'yeh, used to.' after that. there were rumours that me and joe were going out again, emily actually believed it and then started saying that me and joe were going out, but were not

how can i prove to her that were not?

maybe she's just confused and hurt!, don't talk to joe and let emily see that the rumors are wrong! or do you still have feelings for joe?!

i dont have any anymore, but thanks for all the advice, im realllli happy, hahah!, i can finish the rest on my own, best regards, lunar