Natures seasons can reflect outside...

the changing seasons inside from Summer's rapid growth...

growth and fullness

contemplation and restoration

to the stillness of winter...

I love watching the seasons change. In my neighborhood just a block from my house there are 60-year old elm trees lining a boulevard. They reflect the change in season outwardly. What do you think would be possible if you honored the changing seasons within? If you were able to recognize your own inner voice and living more intuitively.

Sometimes it is time to Move On. No questions asked and no looking back.

Is it time for you to let go of the heaviness of the past or a relationship that is too heavy for you to carry into your future. It could be time to dismiss the rude, judgey voice in your head or let go of a habit you use to cope with stress.

If you have been waiting for the right moment to let something go, consider that right now in this moment is the perfect time.

Move On Ceremony:You will need a match/lighter, small piece of paper, and something fire proof (like a sauce pan) to put the burning paper safely into.

1) Take the piece of paper. Write whomever or whatever it is you are ready to move on from. 2) Hold that paper in your hand and think of all the ways that it or he/she have weighed you down. See all of that emotion going into the paper. All of that physical heaviness being taken on by this little slip of paper. All the thoughts that usually creep in when you are engaged with the person or thing. 3) Light the piece of paper on fire and throw it into the pot. As it burns and the smoke flies up, imagine life truly and completely free from him/her/it. Let those feelings of freedom fill you physically, emotionally, and mentally. 4) Now that you are free take a moment and write an affirmative statement about you (or 3 like I did).

Have you ever had one of those days? You know the kind where it seems like every car on the highway is honking at you. Or you spill your entire delicious coffee drink in your lap. Or you receive horrible news and don't know who to call. In those moments, it is often tempting to feel alone. To throw ourselves on the floor and either have a temper tantrum or have a pity party of "one". What would it shift in your world if you knew you weren't alone.

Recently I was watching a nature program. Did you know that Aspens are not just a single tree as they appear on the surface, but actually multiple trees are one big organism? Hidden out of view is a vast root system that connects them. You can't see it right, but below the surface is a whole different world.

Nature models an important truth for us. What if hidden from our view is a vast network that connects all of us? What if in a moment of sending up a smoke signal for support, the whole universe responds? It may not look like you thought. For example you need money and the universe sends you a free meal. You want a romantic relationship and the universe sends you an amazing person to be a friend. I have found when I am open to receive support the universe sends it.

Next time you feel on your own remember while it may seem that way on the surface hidden from your view is a vast network.

Do No Harm (but take no shit)Sound harsh? I have discovered a recurring pattern about myself and many other spiritual people recently. It is a belief that "loving one another" has to look like being nice or accommodating or endlessly forgiving.

I have watched myself and others hurry up and reframe unkind words, absence of respect or equity, and overall relationships that don't work. I have heard things like:

Well, you know how "they" are.Just make the best of it. They are doing the best they can like we all do. Maybe they are having a bad day?Don't take it personally.

I think it might be time to acknowledge that while as many of us strive to do no harm it doesn't mean that everyone else follows that same belief. Nor do we have endure harm or mistreatment ourselves just because we hold a respect for life. I am all about being forgiving and loving. Fundamentally, it is integral to my spiritual beliefs, but I have recently acknowledged that sometimes the greatest act of love that I can do is to walk away.

Boundaries are good!! If you find yourself disregarding or stepping over what you are feeling, you can try different ways of responding instead of just being great about it.

Speak up - let someone know that what they said or did didn't feel good. It is possible that they may not have realized how what they are saying or doing is impacting you. We all get stuck in our own world sometimes. I have found myself on the receiving end of someone speaking up. It was a great opportunity for us to resolve the conflict and get connected.Make requests - be clear with others how you like to be treated. Don't assume that others know what works best for you or what doesn't. My hubby and I tease each other as a sign of affection, but there are areas for both of us that feel vulnerable or uncomfortable to be teased about. So he lets me know and I let him know what those are. Be willing to take action - if you have already tried speaking up and made requests, but the person persists, you might need to talk to someone who can help you. In the case of a co-worker who makes remarks about your choice of clothing or who you date, you might have to go to HR to get your communication through. In the case of a relationship like a friendship or romantic partner, you might need to walk away.

Sometimes those "bad" feelings we are having are a communication from our soul that something is not working. Pay attention to yourself. Imagine what it would be like if we took great care of ourselves on all levels: physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.

Namaste and thanks for reading. Please feel free to comment and share!!

Dear Human: Love thyself

Love yourself

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To be able to love others you must love yourself first. How many times have you heard that? Me 1,000s of times. I used to really believe it to be true, but now I am not so sure. Some of the people who are the most loving people I know are REALLY HARD on themselves (myself included). What if this statement wasn’t true? I mean we show exquisite kindness and love to strangers, shower patience on our friends and family, but when we burn dinner, back into the trashcans, or forget something, we beat the crap outta ourselves. Imagine what your life would feel like if your knee-jerk, automatic reaction was loving yourself. What if loving yourself wasn’t dependent on what you did or even what you didn’t do? Or who you love or who you don’t. What if you related to your very existence as a miracle?

Food for thought no?! You likely already know that loving yourself feels good and that it certainly feels better than the alternative, but how? Practice. Practice loving all the ways you are and all the ways that you are not. Like... Love that you are not patient. Love that you have a great sense of humor. Love yourself when you get irritated with that one co-worker. Love that you love people so well. Consider this… What if the joy of life, and all of life’s juicy goodness existed within you right now no matter what? HINT: It does.

You step out of bed and already you are "multi-tasking". Taking a shower and planning your grocery list. Making breakfast while drinking your coffee while you scan email on your phone and referee your children. While you drive to work you are eating your breakfast and talking on the phone. I did a session with a woman recently. She had been tired and feeling a bit blah. She was getting a reading to ask about her job, family, relationship, and career. As we started, Spirit told me to tell her to “take time for herself" , “slow down”, and “get present”. When I shared these with her, she answered back "I don't have enough time to do that. My brain is too full when I meditate it just races. I have too much to do". Does this sound like you?

Are you busy?

Source wants us to live life fully and stop burning the candle at both ends. So why don't we? It isn't as though we don't want to take care ourselves. But... we think that we don't have the money, time, or the bandwidth to handle anything else. Our lives and brains and "to-do" lists are already full. Self care sounds like more work or that it will stop everything else we need to get done so we just skip it. Well... I would like to debunk these myths about self care. If you think it takes an abundance of money or time, read on. If you think self care is only about your body, read on.

SELF CARE MYTH #2Self-care requires a lot of time. NOT TRUE! 5-10 minutes of deep slow breaths, sheds stress and increases your energy. Try this: Instead of listening to the news on the way to work you could listen to music you love.

SELF CARE MYTH #1Self-care costs lots of money. NOT TRUE! Pampering yourself can cost what ever you are able to spend. From a totally free pleasure like sitting in the park on a sunny day or taking time to read a good novel or even spending a little to treat yourself to a pedicure.

Whether you already are taking care of yourself or you are ready to try, take a moment to brainstorm and explore what you could do.

Here are some questions to help you think about ways to practice self care:

What makes you laugh?

What do you love to do when you are beholden to no one?

What sights or sounds are peaceful to you?

What brings you joy?

How do you connect to the divine? Is there another way you could connect?

What other ways could you take care of your body?

Do you have a hobby that enjoyed but haven't done in a while?

Okay your turn. Remember that sometimes just 10 minutes, a good cup of tea and the physical space to breath feeds our souls. Taking a dance break with great music can lift our spirit. We are worth it and it makes all the difference. Feel free to share in the comments below. What are you going to do to practice self care? Find time to be in nature? Start a meditation practice? Listen to stand up comedy on the way to work? How could you live more SoulFully?

Clearing the Clutter and Giving Yourself Room To Create

Clearing out clutter is an important part of creating. It is actually a CRITICAL task for creating what you really want in your life to show up. In order to attract and have room for the new, you must first create some space by getting rid of old stuff. “Old stuff” can refer to old papers, old clothing, half finished projects, and anything that no longer resonates with who you are now. I know December isn’t the traditional time for “spring cleaning”. Luckily, you don’t have to wait for spring to do this work. Imagine having a physical space that calls you into who you are. Every object holds a vibration. When that pile of stuff stays in one place, besides collecting dust it also holds stagnant energy. The broken sporting equipment in the garage or the overflowing junk drawer can hold energy that may actually be blocking you from creating something new. Think for a moment of pond water. You know those big or little ponds where the water doesn’t move. Gross stuff grows on top of it right? Energetically it is the same thing when we hang on to things that we don’t need. I know for some of us purging is easier than for others. Here are a few questions for you to ask about objects in your home, office, car, etc. so that you can take the space you need to let go of things that no longer serve you and your life.

Questions: 1. What kind of space [colors, light, fabrics, textures, plants, ascetic] do I enjoy working, playing, sleeping, cooking, or relaxing in? Each one of us is a little different. Some like very modern minimalistic spaces while others like a homey, country space. a. Does anything in here feel like it doesn’t fit? Look around your work-space and living space. Is there anything that doesn’t fit? 2. What kind of emotion or memory does this item hold? If there is a negative memory associated with the object, it may be best to chuck it into the giveaway pile. For instance, if a picture frame reminds you of an ex, it may be time to set yourself free by dumping the object.

3. Have I used/worn this in once in the last 3 years? Being practical about things can also help you let go of things that you might have hidden emotional ties to.

Letting go of old objects that no longer serve your current life’s path sends a powerful message to the universe. It tells the larger creative forces that you have taken the lessons from the past in stride, and you are ready to move on in your growth and development. It says, “I am ready to bring in new people and experiences that serve my highest purpose. I am ready to take it to the next level.” Your home is a scared space, and having clear sacred space is very helpful in manifesting the new. So, go through your closets, your drawers, your personal files, and anywhere else that you have accumulated “stuff”. Do not stop until you have excavated every nook and cranny that you can. Vacuum, dust, and lovingly dispose of any junk that no longer have a place in your life. Affirm to yourself that you are free to create what your heart most desires. Admire your hard work and now you have the space you need to create the New Year. For those of you that might get overwhelmed by the volume of what there is to go through. Instead of a don’t stop until you are done approach, I encourage you to start with just one room in your house (or even just one part). Create one clear sacred space for yourself. You deserve to have a space that calls you into who you truly are!! Happy Holidays! If you desire a clean sweep and are ready to begin manifesting what is next, check out Your Best Year Ever. In this 21-Day course, you have the opportunity to illuminate hidden blocks to creating powerfully such as undelivered communications, limiting beliefs, and unfinished business. If you have really stubborn clutter, recurring emotional patterns, or feel stuck matter how hard you try, Your Best Year Ever will provide solutions for this dilemma (and more!).

Happy Halloween

First thing this morning I saw a Zombie buying milk at 7-11. Then I saw a sexy kitten sipping her a latte (meow). A pilgrim served me lunch and my neighbor was painting her grandson's face.

There is a sense of mischief and freedom. I remember spending months trying to figure out what I would wear. I loved dressing up. And now? I have a blast watching people running around town in awesome costumes. From the outrageous to the simple. I love the permission of expression that people give themselves and their children on Halloween.

So What's your costume this year? (Or the one you would like to wear but won't or didn't)

What does your costume give you permission to express?

So let's do it!!

Let's leave our one-of-A-kind, unique imprint on the planet!

Join me okay! ---->

And Happy Halloween.

Your inner dork? Dressing as a geek or mad scents. Any part of you that is a bit embarrassing that you prefer to keep hidden? We get to let it out.

Your bad-ass self? Hello Ninja vampire or superhero. We get to be fearless for one night. No concern for being considered arrogant. What's your superpower?

What would it be like if we let our inner self outside more often than Halloween?

It would be awesome. We probably wouldn't don capes more often right?! We might call ourselves "damn sexy". We might go ahead and perform our flash mob of "one". We might even… the possibilities are endless.

My husband and I were just coming back from a beautiful wedding. We were talking about the power of love and how inspiring the event had been. We love to dance, and had even had the chance to dance for hours. As we got closer to home, our conversation turned to budgets and bills. Yeah don’t know why. Suddenly our minds became focused on the large amount of unexpected expenses that had come our way in the last month. Our brains started running on overdrive trying to figure how it was all gonna work out. The mood turned foul, and the ride became silent.

It is interesting how quickly that can happen. Our focus can become what we have vs what we want, where we are vs where we want to be, how we feel vs. how we want to feel. Ever catch yourself focused on the nots of life.

In the moment that I started focusing on my worry, I got super annoyed. I wondered how this had happened. If it was going to be a trend? I stopped being present to all the things in my life that work. I got stuck in “scarcity land”.

So what happened? My husband and I sat in the driveway until we were restored to appreciation for each other. We talked through our concerns and annoyance about the expenses. Then we expressed our mutual appreciation for each other. I thanked him for dealing with my freak out. He thanked me for my partnership. We both felt loved and grateful in that moment.

On Monday, I woke up thinking about a ton of solutions to the money stuff. As I got ready, I opened my vanity, I saw a post-it on my mirror with this quote:

I rushed off to my first appointment present to how much I love my little car La-La. When I got to the appointment, it was cold outside so I put my hands in my pockets and found $25. I had no recollection of where it came from. It was a fun unexpected gift. I said out to the universe, “Thank you.” Because of the fun find, I went to the grocery store to buy a couple of higher priced items we took off the budget. When I was walking into the grocery store, I saw a quarter on the ground. I could have left it sitting there, but I picked it up and said “Thank you” again. The total at checkout was $25.20. It felt a bit like I got a free trip to the grocery store.

The next day someone offered to pay his invoice a week early, and a client I haven’t seen in ages scheduled a last minute appointment. I sent a thank you text to a client I love in the space of gratitude, and he replied with scheduling an appointment.

I am not saying that being grateful alone changed the circumstances (it doesn’t hurt). I still had to reach into the pocket of my jeans and text my client. But when we are restored to being grateful, we recognize more things to be grateful for. Like how I saw $25.25 as a windfall instead of money misplaced in my jeans and a discarded the quarter. Gratitude is very powerful. When we feel that gratitude deep in our bones, it has the power to shift our experience of life.

I love doing simple practices for gratitude like... Close your eyes and think of one thing or person that you are grateful for. It can be something small like discarded quarter. A meter maid who skipped your car. Appreciation for the barista who made your coffee. It just needs to be true and authentic for you.

“In the end, though, maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it's wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.” Elizabeth Gilbert

Just last week I drank lumpy milk. Didn't think to check. Didn't think to sniff. Nope just took a big old swig. EWWW

Bad milk can change your perspective pretty fast.

After my I spit it into the sink, I thought- Opps sure didn’t use my intuition on that one? Have you ever said that to yourself? You know that moment right after something you didn’t necessarily see coming sorta smacked you in the face. Thought perhaps you could have stopped the car accident, that person lying, or signing the bad contract.Let me tell you drinking lumpy milk is embarrassing enough, but a couple weeks after that, I actually drove away while a gas nozzle was still attached to my car. Luckily no big deal. Just stopped got out of the car picked it up and put it back onto the pump. But I am a professional intuitive. Shouldn’t I be able to predict everything? No.

Having things not go according to plan including small to large breakdowns doesn’t mean anything about your intuitive abilities. Believe me. I should know. When I sat down in my office to share about the gas station and sour milk, I thought about what I really wanted to say. I got still and asked, “what is the message really?” I heard...Silly psychic! Intuition isn’t about being perfect or having all the answers. A helpful reminder. Intuition gives me powerful insight about myself and others. Recognizing intuitive nudges and following them brings a simplicity and richness to life. But intuition doesn't take away all future potential life breakdowns. Intuition is a tool. I was with a client recently. For this article we will call her Elle, she is one of my intuitive development clients. She was frustrated because her relationship of over a year had just ended. I asked her if she was upset about more than the relationship ending. She said “yes. My intuition doesn’t work. I have learned nothing in the 4 months we have been working together.” After some conversation, what I could see is that she thought her intuition should have warned her about the upcoming breakup. Given her a heads up or a way to avoid the relationship ending. She is not unique in that. I have heard other clients wonder - Why did my intuition fail? Where were my spirit guides when I needed them? What could I have done differently so this didn’t happen? I must be doing it wrong. It is so easy for us to judge ourselves when things in life don’t go smoothly. Don’t forget lumpy milk and gas station incident. We can feel like huge failures. The funny part is we forget the joy of practicing being present and all the ways our intuition has worked. Elle had forgotten the guidance that had led her to the great new job she had. I reminded her of that and that her intuition is a tool she is learning how to use. Right then, I had her go into a light meditative state. Anytime you are upset I recommend going into a meditative state. Quiet the mind so they stop magnifying or silencing the emotions. She connected to her guides and got quiet for a moment. Her intuition had certainly not abandoned her. In the space of meditation she was restored to love. After she came out of meditation, she said that she had been too busy asking, “how can I fix this [relationship]” that she had not thought to ask, “does this relationship truly serve him or I?” She admitted to me that she had been working really hard on making the relationship work. It was her fear of it ending that drove how she used the tool of her intuition. In the space of presence, she was able to really listen to her inner voice and recognize how fear skewed the answers she got. I have been studying intuition for years. And I drank lumpy milk and will likely do it again. I ran a red light and just knew that I was going to get a ticket, but I didn’t. My phone rings often and I have no idea who it is. When my husband proposed 3 years ago, I was completely surprised.

So what is there to learn from Lumpy Milk, Gas Station nozzle get away and my client Elle?

Don’t forget your victories in the face of the failures. Remember intuition is a tool to guide you. The intuitive development is a path of exploration; Louis & Clarke didn’t always know where they were going either. Life is filled with opportunities to be surprised so don’t be surprised if life well if life surprises you. Oh and always check the expiration date on milk.