There’s a growing number of people out in the world who think you can be fat and healthy at the same time. To anyone with even a shred of common sense or reading ability, this is obviously false.

But to the people who make shit like this and blow it out all over the Internet in an attempt to make being fat “acceptable”…

…it’s an argument held while fighting an uphill battle.

Betsy Ayala, thankfully, is NOT part of the “fat acceptance” movement that seeks to justify poor eating habits and a trash exercise routine. Nope, instead of letting the weight pile and pile on, Betsy decided to do something about it rather than write made-up Tumblr fiction about being “oppressed” because of your weight:

“Nothing bad happened, but something bad COULD HAVE happened so here I am crying about it anyway”

Weighing in at 262 pounds, Betsy saw the pounds start to pile on after giving birth to her daughter Isabella in 2013. It was only six months later that she discovered her now ex-husband was having an affair, after finding messages between him and his homewrecker making fun of her weight.

“After I had my daughter I was the heaviest I had ever been,” Betsy laments. “My 14-year relationship was very strained and I was in a very severe postpartum depression and anxiety. I couldn’t sleep and I had no desire to function at all but I had a newborn so it was a very difficult time.”

Realizing that she needed a change, Betsy managed to lose 60 pounds on her own in 2013, however her husband’s affair put a wrench in her progress. “I started having more energy and losing weight, even though that wasn’t really my intention at the time and slowly started to get better,” she explains. “I started in September and was doing okay until two days after Christmas, when I found out my husband was cheating on me with a co-worker. I had been with him since I was 17 and pretty much devoted my life to our relationship and him.”

“I was devastated. I found out through some messages I read on his Facebook where they were calling me a cow and fat and just trashing me and my whole world fell apart.

“He would always tell me I looked fine or would try to get me to eat junk all the time, which is why I was so devastated when I read those messages because it was almost like he enabled me or wanted me to stay that way.”

March of 2014 marked when Betsy started putting work into getting healthy. Starting out slow, Betsy began taking Zumba classes with her sister three days a week, then began adding running and weight lifting six times a week while keeping her diet high in protein.

“I’m a completely different person both on the inside and outside because of my outlook on everything,” Betsy gushes. “I was always very negative and had a chip on my shoulder because I was unhappy with me. I’m happier, I’m confident and most of all I’m positive.”

As for her relationship with her ex-husband, Betsy says that the two have moved on from their past. “My ex-husband and I are actually good now. It took me a while to get to that place of forgiveness but what he did was about him and not me.”