We’ve been trained to help and heal others, to be a good person, and because we truly care for others, friends, family, and the world. Sometimes we heal and solve problems for them; sometimes we just hold their baggage. Feeling too much can be a bad thing, and sometimes it may be a sign that you don’t feel safe in your environment, or that you need others to like you, regardless of the situation. Maybe you need to feel wanted; maybe you came from a family of “out of control healers”, have a lot of guilt, or just feel so much, that watching people in duress, stress, or pain, sends you into a tizzy.

One of the easiest ways of losing your psychic space, or energetic health, is by taking in other people’s problems, emotions, or energies to try to “fix” it. You tend to do this from your second chakra (below your navel, in your lower belly), or your female creative energy, if you’re a woman. All that foreign energy in your belly can cause you to change who you are, can even cause pain and dis-ease, and can cord the other person energetically. It gets pretty confusing; you can’t solve their stuff that way, and most times people end up resenting you for it, even if they are the ones that put it there in the first place! Yes, people will gladly hand you their problems energetically! We do it all the time! Who else is going to take an entire box of kittens from the pound? Who else will listen to your relationship problems until 3 in the morning? Maybe you can take all that pain and fear away!There is nothing wrong with helping others, feeling, and caring, and problem solving, but it is good to know your own healthy boundaries. So how do you know if you have taken on other people’s emotional problems, and issues, consciously, inadvertently, or by default? Loving yourself (that 4thchakra, in your heart area) also has to do with having good healthy boundaries. That may be a good place to look first. You can take a look at any cords, or agreements you may energetically have with the other person, and either break them, change them, or bring them into present time. Sometimes people can cord you energetically in your heart space, in a “if you love me, then you will solve my problems, and heal me”…You may decide to support a friend, but not take their problem in energetically, or establish healthy boundaries in helping them. Remember, this is about loving yourself as well. A good thing to say here could be “I know you will find an answer to this. I have faith in you. Let me know how this works out for you”. When you meditate, clean your space, ground yourself, run energy, and feel healthy, happy, and full of self love, you can put your hands on your belly, and say hello to your own projects, emotions, and information there, and also the energies of others. Say hello to both. Now allow yours to grow, and the foreign energy to slide down your grounding cord or you can give it back to the other person, with a smile. “Here you go; I can’t solve your problem…but good luck with it!”Some of usare "sensitive sponges."We pick up energy pretty easily from family, friends, and evenstrangers. It's important to check your energy daily and clear all the emotional and mental baggage that you may have picked upfrom others. You'll know whatenergies don't belong to you!

― James Van Praagh I teach a beginning meditation class, and as a fun exercise, I have them think of some irritating problem they have, or some emotionally painful one, and really let it come up for them. Then, we blow it up in a big balloon, and tie a knot in it. When we let it out, it feels good. We hold them in our hands, and feel the energy of the problem. Wow. The next thing we do is to pass the balloon on to the person on the right, and let them feel this energy. Although this is a fun game, it is so powerful, because it shows our spirit, and our mind, what that is like, to hold someone else’s stuff in our space! I usually have my students do this after we have meditated, and feel really good, peaceful, and healed. It makes it even more potent. We can use our abilities to discern different qualities of this balloon filled problem, or just notice how it makes us feel. Then we decidedly claim, in unison “THIS IS NOT MY PROBLEM!”, and pass it to the right, to the next person, and we are passed yet another balloon filled with stuff. We laugh as we heal ourselves, because (ha-ha), people won’t solve our stuff either! We must take responsibility for it.

As our own balloon gets passed back to us, we get to destroy it, by popping it, and the charge of energy released in the room is quite amazing! We pull our neutral energy out of it, and have learned a powerful lesson, in a space of amusement.As you start to let go of other people’s energy, and problems in your energetic field, you will notice a lot more space is available for you. You will feel great! You may lose a few friends in the process, but the ones that stay will respect your boundaries, and those relationships will be more empowering. You may find you have more energy and more free time as well! We are spirit, and we have a body. We are human. We make mistakes, we remember, make changes, and move on. And, as everything is made up of energy, changing that energy, lightening up the energy of “problem”, to something else, is our birthright. It is a spirittool. Use it, it works!Contact me a reading, and see if you are using your precious life force being an out of control healer! Is there anyone draining you with their problems?Learn to set healthy, loving boundaries for yourself, and solve your own issues in amusement, and clarity! ~~~Helena Mazzariello PS If you are a Spirit in Joy subscriber, you get a coupon for a discount on a phone reading! (For May, it's 15 minutes free for a 45 minute reading. A $25 savings!)If you are not, and wish to be, you can click ~HERE~ to sign up!Please feel free to share this with a friend who may appreciate it!