(Closed) I'm tired of being practical, realistic, and frugal

We’ve been going the economical route on everything. And I’m thrilled with the money we’re saving. Thus far, we have not been sacrificing on anything. The frugal mind-set is how we live normally and what we’re doing and getting matches us exactly.

And then, silly me, I began looking at veils. And other various headpieces.

And I want the expensive things! I keep bypassing what I like because I see the price tag. I save links for items that have a price range I would normally prefer.

I hate thinking, “Wait, I spent $179.00 on my dress. I can’t spend that or more on a veil! I can’t spend that much on something that will be worn for less than an hour!”

Practical. Realistic. Frugal.

And I hate it!

One might think, we’ll since you’re being thrifty, you can afford a splurge, but the “splurge” is being saved for DOC. That’s needed. No questions. Or, just make it yourself, and that’s just a DIY project I don’t want to take on. I’ve taking on others; don’t want that one.

I’m not girly, but I want something I like, not something I’ve settled for because it fits the “practical, realistic, and frugal” mantra. I’ve been practical, realistic, and frugal with money and decisions since I was 16-years-old. Now, it would seem, I’ve had my fill.

So, I suddenly stopped having fun. Stopped feeling happy with the plans. Stopped enjoying the visualizing of how it would all look on me.

No worries about it! Perhaps maybe you can have a friend make you the veil or check out the classifieds on here to see if any brides are selling a similar veil! I tried on a veil when dress shopping and LOVED it….it was $350!!!! A family friend said that she had some tulle at home and if I got her the crystals (thank you Fire Mountain Gems) then she would make me one similar. OMG I’m so glad I did! I saved $330!

Here is the veil I had on at the store that was $350:

And the veil my friend made for me:

What kind of veil are you exactly looking for? And how much are you willing to spend?

@Hippos: I don’t have a set style in mind. I’m the type of girl who sees it and knows it’s it.

In my brain, I’d want to spend no more than $50.00. I plan on changing into a headband or clip of sorts for the reception, and I found one I like on etsy for $40.00, which also kills me. So then I’m thinking that’s $90.00 for two peices (not including possible shipping fees), but I can stomach that.

The way I look at it is that the whole point of being frugal is so you don’t waste money on crap that doesn’t matter to you, so you can spend that money on things that you find more important. Like, I save money by cutting my own hair and doing my nails myself, because I find no pleasure in paying someone to do that stuff for me. Then I spend that money elsewhere! As long as I’m not getting myself into the poor house, I’ll splurge on what I KNOW I can afford.

ETA this doesn’t mean that I don’t look for deals, though. My dress is being made in China because it’ll cost less than 1/3 of buying the original, AND it’ll be custom made to my measurements with all the changes I envisioned my dress would have (so any alterations should my minor enough that my mother can do them for free). AND that includes the underskirt and the veil.

If it is simple, you can make it yourself or have someone make it. I am making my own veils (2 because I can’t decide on what I want) and so far it’s under 50 dollars. The metal combs were from ebay at 1 dollar each, the tulle (6 yards) was less than 20 dollars and the lace for one of the veils was about 20. So for around 40 dollars I have 2 veils, a cathedral length cut edge and a lace edge fingertip length veil. 🙂

You have time. Put this purchase aside and tell yourself you’ll reward yourself for being PRF (practical, realistic, frugal) with a splurge veil if you are PRF with other items. In the meantime, keep an eye out for low cost alternatives and you may surprise yourself!

I’m looking at goodwill fingers crossed the $250 dollar cathederal veil i want from david’s will be there! we are being frugal too but for whatever reason the veil of all silly things has pushed me off the deep end! Of all things… it was the one thing that didn’t matter much and I was going to borrow from my friend but she can’t find it… so the hunt is on!