5 times it’s okay to say no in a relationship

There’s no denying the fact that a relationship calls for compromises, and most times you know you have done it in ways big and small. Often, you find yourself agreeing to plans or going out to meet people just to steer clear of a conflict. There are times, however, when it is okay to say no to you SO. Read on to find out situations in which it is fine to take a stand and say no.

When he tells you not to meet/ talk to someoneYour partner may be uncomfortable around someone or feel differently about him or her, but that’s where his thoughts need to end. If you are faced with an emphatic directive of not meeting or talking to a particular person just because he is insecure or uncomfortable without reason, you need to find a way to let him know that it won’t happen. You have a perfectly good reason to keep in touch with the concerned person, and he needs to take a hard look at his fears and resolve them.

When he asks for your passcodes and pinsThese are private for a reason. If the accounts are yours, whether they are email, social media, or bank accounts, the passwords also need to be only with you. Of course, it is your call whether you want to share them with him for a particular reason, but it is a situation where ‘no’ has to be an acceptable choice, no questions asked.

When you think it’s not rightHe could ask it as a favour, but if you think it does not gel with your core beliefs, like say cheating someone to please your partner, you can say no, and shouldn’t be the end of your relationship. If you think that what he is asking is not aligning with your own ideas or upbringing, don’t hesitate to refuse.

When he asks for more moneyIt’s never a problem to shell out a sum of money if your SO is in dire need of it. The question is how often, and how much. If you think that he has already borrowed several times, failing to repay as promised, it might be time to nod in the negative at the next request.

When he insists on knowing where you are all the timeDoes your phone constantly buzz with messages from him asking you where you are and with whom, with expectations of instant replies? Initially you might think it cute, that your partner cares about your safety, but it can soon turn in a possessive streak. It’s time to take a close look at why is he behaving so, but first, take a moment to let him know that it is not done.