Confident, successful men, who are always at ease with women, subconsciously display a range of seduction skills, making them proverbial chick magnets.

These skills are usually intuitive and the guy possessing them has no idea how about. For him walking up to an unknown girl, with a wide smile, introducing himself, chatting her up, asking for her number and getting it isn’t a big deal at all.

To his friends he’s nothing short of a rock star. While they stand and drool like new borns, he is effortlessly able to mesmerize her within minutes and become their special friend in a matter of days.

I am sure all of us men know at least a couple of guys who can be described as chick magnets. Classified as ‘naturals’ by seduction specialists, they have no idea what makes them tick. No, it’s not about their looks or the moolah they make. Their magic comes from within.

Their magnetism is no mystery and their interaction with women can be deconstructed into small nuggets of wisdom. All of which can be consciously used by guys who consider themselves hopeless. For the benefit of all you hapless ‘nice guy’ losers, these are the must-haves that you have to consciously make a part of your personality:

You need presence

The impact you make when you enter a room and the amount of attention you can command amongst a group of people defines ‘presence’. The herd or the pack instinctively look around to check whether the new entrant is a leader or a follower; or a worthy mate.

Try and capture as much of that initial natural attention as you scan. Here less in more and a slow measured scan of the room should throw up at least one interested party who locks your gaze, raises an eyebrow and smiles at you. (If it’s the guy in a pink shirt, substitute ‘chick magnet’ with ‘boy magnet’ throughout this article and then read on.)

You need presentation

Looking the part starts with dressing your age, and dressing as the occasion demands. Knowing the difference between ‘casual smart’ and ‘black tie’ would help you avoid those embarrassing fashion faux pax and before you have opened your mouth. In addition, work towards inculcating a personal sense of style by experimenting a bit with colors and accessories which demonstrate your personal ‘brand image’ to maximum impact.

You need body language

Rush it and lose it. No matter how attractive you look, you can’t walk up to a lady, blurt out a line that’s bordering on the crass and think she’s going take her clothes off for you. Seduction as a form of art requires a lot of patience. When you walk up to a girl, your body language should amplify your worth. Knowing the all important difference between the confident saunter, the stiff-joint walk, and the hedonistic-alpha swagger will greatly improve chances with your target.

You need wit

If you can make a woman laugh, you’re already halfway there. If you have to develop your funny bone, start observing standup comedians in action. The ones who are great never tell jokes. They never say ‘Oh, you’re gonna love this. A sardarji and bihari….’ Their jokes, puns and one-liners are intricately woven into their stories. Freely borrow their material, modify them to suit the situation and soon you will have magically turned yourself into the friendly funny guy everyone wants to be around. A great way of establish yawn sambandh with the ladies – don’t you think so.

You need charm

This is knowing and using your manners without being a doormat; being able to compliment a woman with it sounding like you have been rehearsing it for two days. Manners, a derivate of mannerisms is just a way you do things. Anyone can hold a door open and pull back the chair for a woman, yet most men avoid these so very simple routines as if they are afraid to come off as cheesy. Believe me, women love to be treated like ladies. If you treat them like one, you become the man they had been searching for.

You need knowledge

I don’t mean the kind the kind your B-school knowledge grilled into your grey matter. By knowledge I mean the ‘smarts’ that can be effortlessly sprinkled into your conversation. If your knowledge is interesting, if you can talk about ancient cults and rites, adventures and romances – it will be easier for you to enthrall your audience. For additional affect try faking some knowledge about the occult. Girls love having the future, mysteries of universe and other such unknowns explained to them. Palm reading and cold reading techniques can easily be used to a girl hooked on to you.

You need clout

Clout is the personal leverage you have as a man. It’s the measure of your ability to get the right table in a restaurant or get your group past the nightclub bouncer without resorting to arrogance; a mature way of dealing with things like getting the attention of the waiter without shouting or clicking your finger. You should be able to get the same result the nod of your health. Now what are you waiting for. Get out their and get the girl.