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How to deal with boredom

How to deal with boredom

How can you deal with boredom?
And why do you find yourself completely bored at certain times then find yourself totally motivated in other times?
What are the factors that controls the presence of boredom?

Before you can know how to deal with boredom you first need to know where does boredom come from. Each one of us has developed certain drives during his childhood that affects his behavior up till today. A grown up is just a person who fulfills his same childhood desires in a different way.

For example a child might bully his friends in order to feel secure then when he grows up and becomes an adult he might start collecting resources like money in order to feel secure. The actions became different because he has grown up but the goal remained the same.(see How to understand people psychology).

So what does all this has to do with dealing with boredom?

Childhood drives and dealing with boredom

Boredom is an emotion that shows up when your mind discovers that the actions you are currently doing won't help you fulfill your most important desires. Lets suppose that as a result of the way you were raised you developed the need to become powerful or famous.

If you ignored these desires for any reason then there is a very big possibility that you will experience boredom whenever you do anything that won't help you reach these goals.

On the other hand if you did something that can bring you close to these goals you will find yourself extremely motivated.

So the first step in dealing with boredom is understanding your deep desires and your unconscious needs so that you can work on fulfilling them.

Why do people fail to deal with boredom?

If dealing with boredom was that easy then why do most people fail to solve the problem of boredom?

Most people escape from their goals instead of pursuing them until they forget about them. Most people won't try to fulfill their most important desires and will simply try to escape by doing something else that distracts them from these goals and this intensifies their feelings of boredom.

Some people go even further by developing limiting beliefs that makes them think that they can't pursue their goals even if they tried. In the Solid Self confidence program i explained how the development of limiting beliefs such as "life is unfair" or "i am not lucky" can provide a good excuse for the person who doesn't want to go after his goals.

So in many cases boredom might be a message from your mind telling you that you are not doing what you should be doing right now and that there are important goals that you should go after.

Dealing with boredom requires a lot of courage because you will have to face the fact that you have been escaping from your important goals.

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