Colleague supported more, aibu?

I have worked for my company for a while now, there aren’t many who are trained in my profession. Myself and my colleague both got a promotion at the same time. Due to personal circumstances I unfortunately had to have some time off.
Yesterday I found out that all of the managers are training her up for a managerial role. My colleague has been also been acting as a manager for a short period of time. Neither of us have been in our current position long enough for them to consider either one of us suitable but as they are desperate for another manager they are supporting her through the application process.
My problem with this is that they haven’t supported me in the same way, had they have supported me I could also be ready to apply for the managers position.
I have worked incredibly hard within the company to get where I am now, I’m pissed that they have shown favouritism but I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable about the whole thing?
The job would mean a lot more stress for not much more money, it would be a great career opportunity. This has now left me feeling deflated and second best, and that all my effort are unappreciated.

YABU. You may be doing the same job, but there will be reasons as to why your colleague is more suitable for the new job. It may be because you took time off, or maybe your colleague has working attributes which are better suited to the role than yourself. It's normal to feel deflated. There's little you can do though besides pick yourself up, work hard and hope to achieve the same. Show them what they're missing! Good luck.

I think it's more a case of shes a better candidate for a manager, as shes already been acting as one.

In my place of work, somebody got promoted to assistant manager after 4 weeks in the company, due to doing a similar role before, so the training was easier. It pissed off a few colleagues that had been wanting the promotion, who had obviously been there longer, but she already had experience.

Am I right in thinking you’re now pregnant after mcs? And some of the absence is sickness from pregnancy? In addition to having taken time off citing flu because your oh wanted to do his hobby when you were due to work in spring?

If so that’s probably a lot of different episodes of absence. And although pregnancy absence can not be used against you, it will have a bearing unofficially on who would be deemed a good manager. Ultimately it’s bad enough having an employee absent but having a manager absent is worse and that may be the risk they don’t want to take.

Equally as unfair as it is, if pregnant or work know about losses then they’re aware you’re ttc so again know that would mean in position then potentially off for a year. So though shouldn’t be a consideration you can see that an employer would try and avoid this.

You have no idea of her previous experience and roles either. For example I started with my organisation in sept where there are colleagues who have been there twenty years yet I’ve been approached twice for promotional opportunities due to the experience I have. That may not be deemed fair by colleagues?

Also, if the post is advertised which it should be, you’re still eligible to apply. There’s nothing stopping you. But you’ll probably find that you need to be up to speed and to mitigate the issues that obviously are there according to others.

How long were you off? Do they know you want to be a manager? Doesn't necessarily sound like you do from your post.

How did she start doing the manager role she is currently doing? Was this part of the promotion or in addition to it? If she's made it clear she wants a manager job and has been working temporarily in a management role then it's not surprising they are supporting her.

In my work there is no set time you must be in one grade before being considered for another. It's purely based on whether you have the competencies or not. It would be up to you to do the work needed to move on, not others asking you if you want supported

I unfortunately had a miscarriage that I couldn’t pass, I think it’s retained pregnancy? It made me quite unwell and I spent some time in hospital, eventually had d&c.
We both have the same experience, it has been our only role, plus the promotion. We should have three years minimum experience before even being considered for the managerial role.

They wouldn’t know if I’m suited to the role as they haven’t given me a chance

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