Signs He Isn’t Ready for a Relationship

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Due to some of the freedoms we have now in the western developed world, we have some consequences associated with commitment issues. One of the main purposes for marriage licenses in the past was to ascertain that a man would stay with a woman to help raise her young rather than leave her behind in a state where she may not survive the pregnancy and cause her children to be orphaned — and there was overall less security and more danger in the world of the past.

Today, we do have fantastic reasons for our flexibility in defining our relationships; however, since we are getting married older and having sex before marriage commitment is becoming an issue and the results are not pretty from higher rates of domestic violence, confusion as to who are our parental units, and the overall breakdown of family for many people. Family and marriage are still strong institutions. Several marriages do in fact survive, to be honest if 10% of all marriages survived — that’s still a large number when considering billions of people.

We have to take into consideration as to what works and what may be our own selfish behavior. I would say many women in their twenties out mature their men counterparts. A lot of these issues does have to do with not needing a license to have sex. Ladies, all too often if you set the status quo too low, he won’t try to rise above it.

Sometimes a man may sincerely like you, but isn’t ready and here are some of the frustrating signs that though he is probably into you — he isn’t ready to start anything serious.

1. He won’t spend time with you but is positive toward you otherwise. He literally will do anything not to be around you because it may offset his plans. Not making plans with you at all is a bad sign. Sometimes guys are busy, trying to set a new direction for their lives, etc. Take caution if you are going to be waiting for one of these.

2. He is still avidly dating / going out with several women and talking about women’s bodies as if it doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings. He is playing the field this means he isn’t ready to settle down.

3. He doesn’t feel like he is far enough in his career or finances to provide for a suitable structure. He doesn’t feel ready and he would rather be.

4. He is spending too much on alcohol, drugs, tobacco, marijuana, lottery tickets — and other nonsense more associated with being 21. Someone who is ready for a healthy relationship will have a better understanding of their finances. They might do some of these things, but more in the background of their lives.

5. He has never moved out of his parents’ house. This is really weird the older he gets.

6. His life is in too much in transition and he is unsure where he’ll be living, etc. If his life is changing a lot, he probably can’t offer you stability.

7. He hasn’t learned to ignore some of the required pressures we associate with in life. He is too overwhelmed. He doesn’t know how to prioritize his life yet.

8. He is too attached to Playboys to transition out of them yet. He likes his porn more than he likes a relationship. While there is nothing wrong with enjoying content from websites such as hdsexvideo xxx, too much porn can be a bad sign. Porn is not good for the brain; it can rewire it to become addicted and take the place instead of where a relationship should be.

9. He is too young… at least in his mind. He may want more time to develop who he is as an independent. Anyone 20 and under is incredibly young to be settling down in this day and age.

10. He may be too attached to his bros. Having friends is great, but there are times in life where this is much more a primary focus than when someone is ready to be in a relationship. At the end of college, he may want to hang out with his friends who will be moving away soon.

11. He doesn’t know how to care about you beyond seeing you as an object for sex. If he doesn’t care about your emotional, mental, and spiritual wellbeing then he might only care about how you pleasure him.

12. He may be too focused on his plans to notice what in the world is happening in your life. If he doesn’t care about your grandmother’s death… not only is this a bad sign for a potential interest, but he’s kind of a bad person if you know him at all.

13. He still is spending a great deal of time on his ex-girlfriend. If he is with her and communicating with her, then he isn’t done with her. If he keeps talking to you about her, then he probably isn’t so attached to you.

14. He recently got out of a relationship. He needs time to recover and process what happened. Be careful not to be a rebound, your odds of a successful relationship are low.

15. He may have recently had some trauma that is putting dating on hold such as a close death or his parents divorced.

16. He has no clue what he wants to do and is mostly wasting his time. He probably doesn’t know what he wants in a woman either.

17. He doesn’t invite you to any of the events in his life whether big or small. Not inviting you to his birthday if he knows you pretty well — is weird.

18. He has too much on his plate from work to other side interests. His schedule is too congested to have time for you.

19. He is dealing with an illness or someone close to him is. This would cause him not to be focusing on romantics.

20. He is moving to a different locale soon. Why start a relationship if you are moving unless you already are pretty serious?

21. He is in a relationship with someone! DUH, THAT’S BAD. Just be a good friend, but don’t be putting on any moves. The only time to confess feelings is if he just started dating someone and you’ve known him for a long time.