Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

If you don't want to call your STBX

My STBX finally contacted the therapist/counselor I have been seeing. The therapist oddly enough did not recommend reconciliation. She actually said that my STBX was everything I described and that staying with her would only lead to more pain.

My STBX has lied about loving me for years and her actions were the exact opposite of someone who is in "love". The Therapist said my STBX is confused and believes her own stories. She said my STBX also keeps people at a distance and probably really can't get close to anyone. Since she cannot be honest about the situation it will only lead to more pain.

The Therapist went on to tell me the story about a snake that begged a man to help him across the river. The man helped the snake across the river and when they got to the other side the snake bit the good samaritan. As the samaritan was dying he asked the snake why he bit him and the snake said... "because I am a snake, it's in my nature".

She said my STBX has gotten comfortable with hurting me and keeping me at a distance, It's how she handles relationships. If I let her back into my life, she will "bite" me again.

Armed with this insight I programed her name in my phone as "Snake". Whenever I go to call/text her the word snake appears and I lose interest in talking to her because I'm not into being bitten. Whenever she calls me now this reminder will pop up and I will be aware that I am talking to a snake and I will proceed with caution.

Some of us want to work it out so badly that we forget who we are trying to work it out with. Change their name from who they were to what they are to you right now.

That's a good point! Sounds like we were with the same person! I just bought a new phone, and I keep putting off entering her number, I never changed her nickname in my old phone. I thought about just putting Bitch, but I still love her too much to do that. I do think I will put snake though!

I like reading posts like this. My therapist asked me if I really wanted to be with someone who treats people the way that my stbx has treated me. If it was someone else telling me the story I would tell them, NO WAY. So to hear you see your stbx the way that she really is, rather than the way you held her in your mind and heart is good. Mine is not a snake but is self centered, confused, incapable of being a full partner..ah I could go on and on but whatever. Good job!

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...

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