First night

This is my first night home but my little girl is still in the NICU. I can't sleep because I can not stop thinking about her. Its 1am and I am thinking about making the hour drive to the hospital because I can't bare being away from her

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My guess is you had a c-section so you need your rest too. It's very difficult the first night home. If you can do it safely by all means go to the hospital whenever whatever time you want. That NICU will be your extended home until your baby is sleeping under your roof.

((hugs)) it will get easier. Use is as much as you want to vent and talk to.

I hope everything is going well for your little girl! And for you, too, of course!

I'm 16 days in right now and still having a very, very hard time being away from my baby. At least there is a light at the end of the tunnel and a lot to look forward to. But no matter what stage you're at with an NICU stay, it is extremely difficult to see your baby there, and to leave her there. But she's getting top-quality care, which is exactly what she needs right now. It's just frustrating not being able to provide that care for yourself 100%

I think it has something to do with parts of maternal instinct being left unsatisfied.

Good luck to you and your daughter.....and of course, if you ever need to talk, you can always post here, or pm me if you like. Sometimes it just helps to hear from others who have been through a similar experience.

I started to fill my phone with photos and video clips in the NICU so I would be able to look at James at any moment of any day. I lived close to our hospital but even then, there were times I couldn't go. Many, unfortunately. It's a horrible feeling but LO will make it home. It's just a matter of surviving the eternity until that happens.

It's important that you let yourself rest and heal. It goes against ever screaming mommy instinct but it's important to take care of you, so you can take care of her.

Im sorry mama ... I dreaded waking up at night bc my mind would start worrying ... So I got in the habit of calling the Nicu when I woke up, 1am 3am didn't matter ... If sleep so much better knowing she was ok, and it kept me comfortable with the night nurses too bc I got to know them

Congrats on your new baby! Is there a Ronald McDonald house near the hospital? I stayed there while LO was in the NICU and it was fabulous! It was also very healing to be around other families that were going through the same thing. Make sure to get rest hun. I hope your NICU stay is short and uneventful!

My little one is also in the NICU. It's really hard but know that your little one is strong! I am 12 days in and she was born 29 weeks so we have a bit of a stay ahead of us. I have been fixing up my house and her area for her! It keeps me from balling my eye's out thinking about her. I hate knowing that she's there alone but in the end I'd rather her be there and well taken care of then come home with me when I can't really help her because she so small.

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Married to Jay ( The love of my life)Angel baby born on Nov 22 2008 @ 20 weeks do to IC Baby Faith Born Jan 15 2012 ( 29 weeks) Beautiful and Strong

it is very hard, with my older 2 at home during summer break i could only go to the hospital on fri, sat and sun. i was lucky if i got to go on a weekday. we also lived about an hour from our hospital too. it almost sounds harsh but you adapt, when there alls i could do was stare at her and i knew my older ones needed me in ways i couldnt do for my baby. it was hard but we got through. i hope you can find the medium. im sorry you are put in this position and i hope your LO is home in your arms soon