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My friend sent an email saying (copied) "I've just had you on my mind a lot here lately. I miss talking to my friend, you haven't been the same since you married RJ (my dh). I say this as a friend, you should get rid of him and I'm sorry if this upset you. -J"

If it was your best girlfreind, I'd give it more weight. But its from a guy who wants something from you, something you don't have to give right now. I don't see it as a sign. I see it as a man who knows a vonurable woman and makes a play for it when he sees one.

Based on your other post I would say YES leave regardless of what any other man wants you to do. If you end up with the "friend" fine but you already are questioning whether you want your husband so just try and go no matter what man waits for you.

I agree with AF4life. Just read your other post and that is scary, really. On a side note, yes, take the ATM card and get some money. I mean, don't drain the account or anything, but you have to be able to provide for your offspring's immediate needs.

Uh, although if you take the money and DON'T leave that could be even more trouble. Be careful, momma!

Read the other post, please don't hook up with another guy for a while, like for a few years. You are going to need time to process your marriage and possible divorce. You do not need to deal with another man for a while. You've got to get on your feet and get out of that situation.

I think all the other things were a 'sign'- cutting off all contact with the outside world, controlling all the money, and saying he'll 'give you those things back' when you mind him??? WTF? Are you 5 years old? You're his WIFE, not his child, and you deserve to be treated much better than he is treating you. I wouldn't leave for another man, I'd leave because your DH is a controlling ass. JMO, though.

You committed yourself to him, not someone else. If you leave him it needs to be for YOU, not someone else. Your friend will always be your friend if she is a true friend and the guy asking you to leave your husband has no respect for marriage. You can't make decisions about your life to please others, y,"zzv