Through the documentary, we see Steven’s one-dimensional attraction to Sandy ripen into a complex relationship, built on discipline and sacrifice.

Steven emailed us about his reaction to seeing himself on the silver screen, his perspective on the problematic term “yellow fever,” and his advice on keeping a marriage strong. After meeting online and emailing and web camming daily for long hours into the night, I finally met Sandy in person nine months later on Valentine’s Day, 2008.

He has gone on dates with a myriad of ethnicities—white, Egyptian, Korean, Chinese—it just never went further than going on a few dates. The truth is, two relationships does not a fetishist make, my friends. He likes his hamburgers and fries and I like my beef tendon noodle soup.

When we started to date, even his mom questioned why he liked Asian girls. This dude didn’t know much about Asian culture until he met me. He only knows about three phrases of Cantonese by spending hours at my house every week for the last two and a half years. What if I decided that I didn’t want him because of his relationship track record?