A Parent’s Tool Box: The Level

When you are off balance did you ever notice how the children’s behavior spirals downward?

Use: To check in and make sure you are in balance. The following ideas will help you cope and find and maintain balance.

If you find yourself overly busy make sure to reflect on your choices and counterbalance with more self -care. Do something every day just for you. If you love reading or other hobbies carve out some time to do them every day or at least several times a week. Diet, exercise and sleep are all essential to staying in balance. Create a plan to support yourself if you are having any issues with these.

2. Talk about something besides the kids with your partner. Create time away from family life now and then. Try and schedule at least one night per week with your significant other. Maintain an identity outside of Parent and Spouse. Remember who you are .

3. Have reasonable expectations for yourself. You are not ever going to be a perfect parent so appreciate your progress and the fact that you are dedicated and willing to learn as you go. Pay attention to your internal dialog. What are you telling yourself about yourself, your kids, your partner and your life? Make changes where needed.

Create conscious choices for coping. What helps you blow off steam and recover from emotional upset? Create a list of 5 things you can do when things run amok. Managing stress is an aspect of Emotional Intelligence. Check out Daniel Goleman’s book on the topic.

As much as you can, take things in stride. Remember the days are long but the years are short. On a bad day, remember that “this too shall pass.” Pay attention to your internal dialog. What are you telling yourself about yourself, your kids, your partner and your life? Make changes where needed

Build a support network of friends and family you can rely on. You are not alone. Others will help if you ask. Creating these connections can make the difference between surviving and thriving.