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In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy? Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love? A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I’m a nineteen year old African American female and ever since I can remember, I’ve always wanted to be attractive. In this society, being “HOT” is valued. At least in the mainstream sort of way. […]

“Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn’t matter. Cold or warm. Tired or well-rested. Despised or honored. Dying…or busy with other assignments. Because dying, too, is one of our assignments in life. There as well: “To do […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I need advice. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 8 months now. We started out with a very casual relationship. We would hang out and we would have sex. That’s it. It was fun […]

Friday, March 20, 2015 will mark a very powerful alignment of energies that will burn you up if you’re not careful, or propel you like a rocket if you make use of them! Three major events are taking place, with […]

“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a […]

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

“I love America more than any other country in the world, and, exactly for this reason, I insist on the right to criticize her perpetually.” -James Baldwin Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I am trying to find a way to […]

“Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along.” ― Napoleon Hill As of the […]

We talked recently about what to do to have you breakthrough, and soon afterwards a friend contacted me about a hang up he’s having. Essentially, he’s been in action towards achieving his goals, but his emotions have been all over […]

“Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.” – Charles Kettering As of this week, I’ll have been writing these articles for five years, and to celebrate, I want to share with you some of the most important […]

September 23, 2014 marks the Autumnal Equinox, the second day of the year when day and night are exactly equal. The Fall (Autumnal) Equinox is important, since it signifies the transition into the ‘dark cycle’ of the year: “When the […]

“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them […]

“But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself.” ― Albert Camus Anyone who’s lost a loved one to suicide knows how uniquely painful and confusing it can be. The death of Robin Williams opened […]

Starting August 10, we’ll be experiencing one of the three ‘super moons’ of the summer, where the Moon is physically closer to the Earth, making it appear bigger and brighter in the sky. This also means it will have greater […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I’ve been reading some of your posts, really interesting and encouraging, I kinda feel better and not that lost but I can’t stop thinking about what I can do. The thing is that I’m one […]

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.” -Eckhart Tolle On a recent […]

“The biggest human temptation is to settle for too little.” -Thomas Merton Beloved, Once again, it has been ages since we last talked. Too long. Of course, I have been here watching, and I see your confusion. You’re wondering what […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Mr. Walters, I’ve been seeing this guy for about two and half months now. We spend lots of time together, sometimes he’ll call me just to chat and to see how I’m doing, he’ll even bring […]

“Difficulties strengthen the mind, as labor does the body.” ― Seneca On a recent episode of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters: Simple Answers to Life’s Hard Questions we talked about getting up after falling down: Being true to yourself, why […]

“To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected […]

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right. -Oprah Winfrey Every year around January 1, we take out a piece of paper and list our resolutions; all kinds of things we are ‘resolving’ to […]

In my Coaching work, one of the most common complaints I hear is of people not being able to sleep at night. Whether it’s not being able to fall asleep, stay asleep, or not being able to get your mind to […]

“People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s B.S. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I think my partner is emotionally abusive, but I’m not sure if that means we need to separate. He stonewalls, withholds, ignores many of my requests for response/information, he seems entitled and self-serving, he claims to […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via formspring.me: “I am in a relationship for few years now, to everybody he seems to be a perfect lover n partner,but i get irritated very frequently due to his “over lovingness”.feel suffocated as he keeps a track […]

Question submitted via Facebook: “I just broke up with my boyfriend for the third and final time. I’m feeling good about it, but truly discouraged at the fact that there isn’t one person in the world for everyone. Love is….not […]

This Friday, June 21 is the Summer Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere, both the official start of summer, and the longest day of the year. However, in esoteric circles it is the absolutely most powerful time of the year to […]

This is the absolute best time in history to be alive. Let me say that again: This is the best time in history to be alive. No human beings anywhere, ever, have had the level of peace, security, information, education, […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been with my neighbor for a month, and we have been very close. All of the things you would expect in a loving relationship and it was all heading the right way.. except he […]

Question submitted via Formspring.Me/BDaveWalters: “What are some Bible verses I can share with a relative who just went to jail?” The Holy Bible is a source of inspiration for Jews, Christians, and even Muslims all over the world. The real […]

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, […]

Question submitted via Facebook: “Mr. Walters, I hope you can help me: There is this guy whom I really like. I told him about my feelings but he says that he doesn’t want to get into any relationship right now. I have been […]

Question submitted via Formspring: My husband and I are separated and “trying” to work it out – although it is very one sided. Sometimes I fear that if things were to work out, I won’t feel comfortable being intimate with him […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “How can I tell the difference between inspired action and action to “force a result”? I was feeling good and confident on manifesting something into my life, took what I thought was inspired action only to […]

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is. Always say “yes” to the […]

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right. -Oprah Winfrey Every year around January 1, we take out a piece of paper and list our resolutions; all kinds of things we are ‘resolving’ to […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but I am really trying to change. The problem is my family and friends don’t believe it, and keep treating me like the same old me; how do I show […]

Beloved, I’ve been trying to talk to you lately, but you’ve been so busy; hopefully writing this letter will get your attention. I just want you to know something very important: I love you; I really, truly, do. I know it’s been […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have had some amazing changes take place in my life. I have been very blessed and grateful for the things that have been taking place. However, I recently have been feeling uncentered. I pray, I worship, […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “My brother got dumped and he’s been listening to all kinds of break-up songs ever since. I told him to listen to more positive music, but he’s being emo and says that these bitter break-up songs […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Dave, I went 21 days of Law of Attraction for 2 hours a day 20 minimum (sic), i went to buy my ticket and everything had all the faith why didn’t i win it?” First, I assume you meant […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I never have any feelings for any men… I’m attracted to men and meet a lot of nice guys but I can never feel anything more for any guy, and I only have even had strong feelings […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “How can one be assertive and self-confident without seeming imposing or “better-than-thou”. Likewise how can one be humble and reserved without seeming weak or insecure?” An excellent question! Just today a friend asked me if it was […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Things started out so great. I thought I found “the one”. Now he is nice half the time, and angry the other half. I feel like I walk on eggshells. I don’t want to leave because I […]

As of a few days ago when the Autumnal Equinox occurred, we are moving into the time of the year when our thoughts naturally turn inward and become more introspective. This is the time to start focusing on the internal […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “She was really pissed that day and when I was going to propose to her. She said she doesn’t want to hear from me anymore. She thinks I’m a like a brother and friend and nothing […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “How can I be less sensitive? It seems that every little thing that people say or do upsets me. Everyone says I am just ‘too sensitive’, but I don’t know what to do. Help!” The simple […]

In my coaching work, the number one question I get is: How can I be happy? Inevitably, the second question is: How can I find true love? A common mistake people make is believing that the solution to their problems […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am perceived at work as being quiet and unassuming and unresponsive to the social interactions of others in the workplace. What should I about this when there is work to be done?” The simple answer […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I don’t understand what I am doing wrong. I have made some mistakes, and I try to be a good person, but things just keep getting worse. Why does this keep happening, and what am I […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m a 27 years old guy and have never dated and never had a girlfriend. I have been attracted to different girls throughout the years but when I expressed my interest to them they have always rejected […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend since January. We don’t talk much, and I’ve only seen him on his birthday in the last three months, and I had to meet him half […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I caught my wife cheating on me. From what I know, it was only once, and she is sorry. To remedy our marriage, she has given me permission to have sex with another woman of […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hello Dave. I’m young and happily single; only friends and fun from time to time. But sometimes when I meet someone with whom I can be a friend AND have fun, I develop feelings for him. This […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “What’s up with the anti-bullying stuff everywhere, and kids killing themselves? Are things really escalating and getting more frequent, or are things just being reported more frequently? Either way, what do you think is the best way […]

Question submitted via Formspring “I have been with a man who had at least five affairs during our 27 years or marriage, and even spent 7 years with the same woman. What makes a man do this? What made me accept […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do I really need to communicate to my ex-husband for sake of my daughter? The problem is I am the one who always makes the first move, which is annoying me; so I decided to stop. […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Is it possible to be TOO open minded?” Absolutely; especially when you consider it’s possible to be too much of anything! Although, it is far more common to find people who are too closed minded, the […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have been in a long distance relationship since January; I’ve had an amazing time and he was the best thing in my life. But, he’s said he wants to tone it down; feelings have changed […]

I’ll make a deal with you. I won’t spoil the movie for you with this article, but rather explain to you why the movie is worth seeing, and more importantly why the mythology that made the Avengers possible is worth […]

Tonight is a very special night! From LagunaNiguel.patch.com: “At 8:35 p.m. PST on Saturday, the full moon will be the largest all year. This is because the moon is at its perigee meaning it’s closer to the earth than any other […]

“Two questions submitted via Formspring: I’m stuck in a loveless marriage. We do nothing together but take care of the kids and take care of other things. We are basically just roommates. Our kids are young the youngest is 3. […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Do you think opposites attract?” The short answer is: no. One (dis)advantage of life in Los Angeles, is everyone is working to be absolutely identical. It may appear like they are so different, but if you look […]

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Hi, I am one of those “good girls” faling in love with “bad boys”. With a dad who was never at home and a mental unstabil mum. You say, we can not trust our first […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “The Secret has been out for a few years now, & its guideline is relatively simple & straightforward. How come, then, there are still so many people struggling with it year after year? And why don’t […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I am one of the oldest living virgin women at 34 years old. In dating, I have yet to trust anyone enough to take that from me. A long-time friend I trust has watched me struggle […]

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Heey. Um, how would I know if I’m with someone ’cause I’m afraid to be alone, or ’cause I actually love someone? Your responses are exact and helpful. Thanks!” And, “How would I know if […]

“As a man thinketh in his heart so is he” I read an excellent article today on why some people insist positive thinking is some kind of scam, and that inspired me to share something special with you. There is a […]

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” -Epicurus I have already written extensively on how to get started using the Law […]

“Most people greatly over estimate what they can do in one year, but greatly underestimate what they can do in ten.” -Jim Rohn I’m sure you’ve heard the saying ‘time flies when you’re having fun’? And I bet you’ve also […]

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “How do I attract the right job. The one that truly makes me happy?” An excellent question! Too many people go through life doing something they don’t enjoy, with some vague plan to be happy at some […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Hi Dave How is your day going? I hope really well, well I know! it is going well because you find the best in everything that happens I wanted to ask a question, I hope it doesn’t […]

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “Is it OK to have sex with someone you don’t love?” A great question! The answer, is kind of complicated though; since what do you mean by “OK”? People have different moral and religious views on sex, […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m kinda lost I’m 30 years old and honesty I don’t know how to deal or what to do with my life I don’t know what makes me happy or whats is my passion I don’t have […]

Unedited question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in love with a guy. he broke up with me 1/2 year ago. hes(still) sometimes so sweet and says he loves me but sometimes he don’t seem to want me. I’m not sure if we […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring.me: “My boyfriend found out that I Was drinking behind his back. We are not together now and I am 12 days clean He says I betrayed his trust and he can’t trust me again I […]

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring: “Female married for 17 years, 47, 16 year old son. Husband drinks heavily and also addicted to prescription meds. I am not happy. Scared of what he might do if I try to leave.” And, […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “She and I met on the FB and wanted to get married(long distance relationship),she love me like anything and cant live without me and me too. But she’s quite reluctant to talk over the phone or […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “My friend is VERY picky in choosing a man to date. She wants a relationship, but her standards are too high. She says it’s good because she knows what she wants and deserves the best. I […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Why is white so beautiful? Soap Operas all over the world only show the light-skinned people. Asian countries have surgeries and accessories to widen eyelids. Light-skinned artists are admired as the most beautiful ones (Beyonce, […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring “Can anyone reach a point of spiritual enlightenment where they are like Jesus and Buddha in the sense that they can perform miracles like healing people, defying gravity, etc. Or were Jesus and Buddha something other […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been to a lot of spiritual seminars, and most of them tend to say that the EGO is a bad thing. Is that necessarily true?” An excellent question! We discussed this question on a […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve broke up with my boyfriend for kissing and texting another girl and recently i wanted him back but he said he didn’t want a relationship. I’ve recently found out that he is meeting up […]

Question submitted via Formspring (many, many times): Why do Good Girls love Bad Boys? This is one of those issues that has come up so many times that I covered it both on a recent episode of my radio show: […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “Hi Dave, is it OK to have a kiss knowing nothing if he really wants to have a relation with me & just because I love him?” Sure, why wouldn’t it be? A kiss is a […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “My BF and I just recently separated. Recently a friend stated she had to tell me something my BF told her husband. My heart dropped to the floor and ask if he’s in another relationship already. […]

The simple answer is: TALK TO EACH OTHER! We’ve said again and again: if you can’t communicate, you don’t have a relationship! It’s normal to settle in to a sort of routine in your relationship; almost no one has the […]

Questions submitted via Formspring: “I’m around great men in my apartment complex and work. Friends say that I should just “talk” to these men, but how? How do you start a conversation with someone without being creepy, and how do you […]

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook: “It’s been wonderful to discover you … this is my problem and I’m afraid I’m so close to a breakdown… please help. I fell in love with my boss and had a strange relationship with him […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring.me: “I feel bad when I see my ex happy. I wanted to be happy before him. I am not happy. He has moved on and I can’t. Advise?” Los Angeles is quite possibly the most superficial […]

The video below answers these questions submitted via Formspring.me Part 1: Hi Dave, I’m a 31 year old female, and I’ve never dated, or kissed anyone. It’s not that I haven’t ever been asked out. I am a bit overweight, but […]

Question submitted via Facebook: “Hi Dave, you are really great and I love you! :o) I just watched the video on emotions and you are right about love patterns that we learn from our parents. I’m a happy optimistic person and […]

Questions submitted via Formspring: “I have deep seated guilt issues which have made my self esteem lead me down paths of bad relationships and walking away from the only decent relationship of my life. How do I rid the guilt to […]

“Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” -Lao Tzu Now we’ve let go of the past, and figured out how to feel good all the time, […]

“Here is a test to find out if you mission on Earth is finished: if you are alive, it isn’t.” -Richard Bach On February 11, 2012, one-time singing sensation Whitney Houston died of a rumored (although as of yet unconfirmed) […]

“He who angers you, conquers you” -Elizabeth Kenny I have a confession to make: Los Angeles can *kind of * get under your skin. When you come here, it seems like it’s full of negative people, but that’s not really […]

“A true friend is one soul in two bodies.” -Aristotle In the video below, I give several pointers on how to be a good friend, how to know when a relationship has run it’s course (or worse, turned toxic), and […]

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal” -Earl Nightingale Los Angeles is a wonderland. Actually, Disneyland, the happiest place on earth, is right here! (OK…Disneyland is just south of Los Angeles in Anaheim, but we take credit for […]

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living. Gail Sheehy When I take on new coaching clients, either online or here in Los Angeles, one of the first things we talk about is what […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring: “I met this grl online about a year ago we were cool and metin person 2 times when she was in my areaWe gotcloserabout two months ago and pretty much talked all day evry day since […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “One month ago my 2-year relationship ended. I’m in college. That guy was my first ‘real’ relationship and I still love him a lot but we hurt each other because we were both unhappy. Now we still […]

“All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook : “It’s 3 am and just post it something in my wall and the first person I wanted to say something was you. Is amazing how much you can help ppl that u don’t even know. My […]

“Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.” -Napoleon Bonaparte. I apologize if the tone of this article is a little…harsher than usual, but I promise it’s only because I love you, and want […]

“Condemnation without investigation is the height of ignorance.” — Albert Einstein Despite all the time we’ve spent talking about Change up until now, we have tiptoed around the real foundation of change, and what it takes to make it. Everything you are […]

Two questions submitted via Formspring: “re: page Jesus is not a jerk. I want to share it with my son who is struggling with addictions. How can I explain your comment that Jesus enjoyed a good time (drinking) without him twisting […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “My husband died 1 year ago. I’m lonely, but I’m afraid of falling in love again because I promised him on his deathbed that we would be together again in heaven. If I fall in love with […]

Questions submitted via Formspring: “Hello. I am a recent college grad who still cannot find employment. I live with my parents and younger brother at home but they are all such negative people. Constantly angry and pessimistic it’s hard to […]

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “I recently realized that when I’m in love,I worry so much,I have so many fears,that even when my boyfriend had to go away for ONE weekend I suddenly became unhappy!how do you REALLY get to that point […]

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Buddha I’ve written and talked many times before now about how to use your emotions and the need for self-love but this time I’d like […]

Question submitted viaFormspring “I am in love with a person. He too loves me. But he doesn’t express it the way I want. How do I make him do that?” Well, there are at least three competing things going on […]

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and […]

Condemnation without investigation is the height of ignorance” -Albert Einstein. We have talked about your three minds: the conscious, subconscious, and super-conscious times before, so let us dive even deeper into what your mind is capable of. This article (and especially […]

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” Bruce Lee The cornerstone of my Life Coaching works is a science known as NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming. NLP is a set […]

“”The map is not the territory. … The only usefulness of a map depends on similarity of structure between the empirical world and the map…”” Alfred Korzybski As I said before what I do is help people make sense out of life: […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m in a two years relationship. I always thought, that we were indestructible, but for a few months I don’t think that anymore… And I dont wanna think all the time about “are we meant to be” […]

To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while. ~Josh Billings In honor of my daughter Alexandria Sophia (Lexi)’s birthday, I’d like to talk a little bit about parenting. Parenting […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Facebook “O life coach (lol) I have something that is constantly on my mind that I can’t seem to shake. I want to get married. It’s constantly on my mind. Everyone around me is getting married or […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Why is it hard for men to say i love you back ??” For a real man, it isn’t! Los Angeles is probably one of, if not the most, superficial cities in the world, so it’s not […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m dating a man who is wonderful, except he is not as physically fit as I would love him to be. How should I go about having him get in better shape, or should I just […]

(Unedited) questions submitted via Formspring.me part 1: there is a married man. he meets the love of his life 20 years ago, but they didn’t got a chance, cause he doesn’t wanted to leave his son. now he and his love […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I have a male friend who lives with his girlfriend and been with her years. However, he flirts with me all the time, promises to come and see me (even though I live hundreds of miles away), […]

Question submitted via Formspring “Is it ever possible to love two people at the same time ?” This is a debate that has raged for many years, and will almost certainly keep raging. The answer is simple, but the implications are […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “Are plants and animals under the Law of Attraction, or is it exclusively human?” On a recent episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we talked about getting over Daddy Issues, dealing […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Facebook: “Hey Dave, one thing I would like to add to the question of how it is possible for some people like Tony Robbins to be so emotional and energized most of the time: There are two […]

All men’s souls are immortal, but the souls of the righteous are immortal and divine. -Socrates I’m going to do things a little differently today; I made a short video explaining things in more detail on Facebook. Give it a watch or […]

In my relationship coaching work, I often work with clients with one of two problems: an inability to start a new relationship because they are afraid it won’t work, or an inability to leave a relationship that ISN’T working because they are […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I was watching your video clip ‘Tainted love’ & EVERYTHING you were speaking of is me. I am in a relationship with a man who cheats, lies & really is a hypocrite. But still I stay. I recently figured […]

“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.” -Marianne Williamson Because of my writing, inviting people to ask me anything, and presence on Facebook, […]

“Courage is the resistance of fear, the mastery of fear, but not the absence of fear” -Mark Twain If you’re read my other article, Breaking the prison of Fear, you may recall it ends like this: I want to leave you […]

On this week’s episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters, we discussed several questions submitted via Formspring: “Are some foods naturally healthier than others, or are they healthy because we have mentally conditioned our minds to […]

If you are like many people (myself included), 2011 had some pretty difficult parts! For me, I can say without question that the first 6 months were some of the hardest of my life; but the second 6 were some […]

Questions submitted via Formspring.me “How does a mother deal with loosing her first born to schizophrenia, and see him loose intrest in life, and in his own being?? How can she overcome the saddness of knowing he will never be the […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I’m 30 female..but there is a child soul inside me,,, it makes me happy,,,but people dislike it,, they keep saying you are old old old girl you are not pretty to act like that… no […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring: “I caught a sight love with my instructor, he doesn’t know .The course is over months back, I still think he is the perfect one. I pulled his pic from facebook and talk to it […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “My friends say I’m racist because I’m not sexually attracted to certain races. I have friends from all races and treat everyone equally but I’m just not sexually attracted at all to a couple races. Am […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “I’ve been seeing a guy for 2 months but we’ve only gone out 3 times no sex. He works on the weekend and has grad school during the week. I always have to initiate the date, […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “The Law of Attraction teaches that we create our own realities by attracting like things/events to us based on our feelings. So does that mean that the victims of crimes are are attracting those crimes to […]

“Charity never humiliated him who profited from it, nor ever bound him by the chains of gratitude, since it was not to him but to God that the gift was made.” Antoine de Saint-Exupery I’ve noticed a strange thing. People […]

“The men and women who practice the foregoing instructions will certainly get and stay forever rich in all areas. In this process, we must stay conscious to that fact that any form of wealth received will be in exact proportion […]

We are punished by our sins, not for them. ~Elbert Hubbard. Spirituality, especially organized Religion, often gets a bad rap as being nothing but “Thou Shalt Nots”. And, to be honest, in many houses of worship, it IS nothing but […]

The Codfish/Catfish Story I heard this story on the radio today, and was able to find it online here. I loved it so much I wanted to share it with you: “Codfish is a big business. The market is huge. […]

“We hope vaguely, but dread precisely.” Paul Valéry Really, worry is more than a habit, it is an addiction. If you don’t know how we can get addicted to emotions, I HIGHLY recommend you watch ‘What The Bleep Do We […]

“A pessimist is one who feels bad when he feels good for fear he’ll feel worse when he feels better.” – Anonymous A friend of mine asked me to help her beat her pessimism, so I decided to dedicate today’s […]

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.” -Fulton Oursler Is there anything you want to do, but just don’t? Is there anything you know you NEED to do, but […]

The Root of pain is Attachment; this is the second Noble Truth. -Buddha As I have mentioned in the past, Los Angeles has quite a few bitter, unhappy people in it. Because for whatever reason, their goals have not manifested […]

(Unedited) Question submitted via Formspring “Hello Dave, I must admit that I like your articles on beliefnet and will like you to keep it up. My question is why is it so hard trying to get involved with a guy […]

This was one of my my controversial (and popular) articles to date. In honor of the Beliefnet post on “Who said it: Jesus or Paul” (and the challenge of Christianity vs Paulianity) I am reposting it here: Question submitted […]

If you have been following this blog, then you have no doubt heard that you have to forgive the people in your life who have hurt you. No matter who it was, no matter what they’ve done: forgive them. The […]

“Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression. No man is free who cannot control himself.” -Pythagoras For reasons I discussed in the video below, there is a world of difference between someone who is a bit […]

“It is often necessary to know how to obey a woman in order sometimes to have the right to command her.” Victor Hugo Even though my emphasis is on ‘Spirituality’, the fact of the matter is the easiest way to […]

“It takes time to persuade men to do even what is for their own good” -Thomas Jefferson Even though my emphasis is on ‘Spirituality’, the fact of the matter is the easiest way to see God is through feeling the […]

“A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge” -Thomas Carlyle People say dating is hard in Los Angeles, because of the facades that people put up; but I think dating and relationships can be challenging all over the world. […]

*This was my most popular article to date…how to get over anyone or anything!* “I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good […]

In a recent episode of my radio show, Rise UP with B. Dave Walters we talked about worry, stress, and how to deal with it. One of the core principles of Buddhism known as the 4 Noble Truths can really help shed […]

Question submitted via Formspring.me: “Hi Dave, do you have any advice on controlling moods. Today was a kinda off day for me. A guy was trying to flirt with me at the grocery store, and I completely blew him off. […]

Question submitted via Formspring “I stay with him because I’m afraid of being alone, but what can I do?” I have gone on record many time before saying that it is better to be alone, then to be with the […]

“Nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” -Hamlet When I moved to Los Angeles a few years back, one of the things that struck me was people’s total and complete lack of coping skills! It is […]

*This is a question I answered some time ago, but the answer still applies to some one out there….* Question submitted via Formspring.me “How do I get over the hurt feelings of having been beaten by my boyfriend of 6 years […]

(Unedited) Questions submitted via Formspring: “Been dating this man who has been living with me for 8 months. One minute he is talking about the future with me & next he is saying he is not in love with me and […]

In the short video below, you’ll hear a wonderful story about a man named Steve, and the massive amount of rejection he endured on his way to changing the world It’s true that no one *enjoys* being shot down, but […]

Question submitted via Formspring: “How do we deal with people who are lying to us? And still be positive about it when we know that they are fooling us. Thanks Dave” The first question is: how do you KNOW they […]

(Unedited) question submitted via Formspring “Do you believe that there is “The One”? Because I think I lost him. He was everything I ever wanted, I let him go and now I realize there is no one like him. I […]

You are great, and I love you! Welcome to a grand new adventure! First, let me say thank you to everyone who voted for me to become the next Beliefnet Featured Blogger! To show my appreciation, I did a short […]

Q&A: I love him, but I'm afraid all he wants is sex II
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“I need advice. I've been seeing this guy for about 8 months now. We started out with a very casual relationship. We would hang out and we would have sex. That's it. It was fun at first but as ...

An Eclipse, an Equinox, and a Super Moon, oh my!Friday, March 20, 2015 will mark a very powerful alignment of energies that will burn you up if you’re not careful, or propel you like a rocket if you make use of them!
Three major events are taking place, with several other events ...

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About B. Dave Walters

You are great, and I love you!

B. Dave Walters is like a mix between Joel Osteen, Tony Robbins, and the Old Spice Guy.

He is the winner of the "Be the Next Beleifnet Featured Blogger" contest for Beliefnet.com in the Hope & Inspiration category.

He is also the host of Rise UP with B. Dave Walters on Party 93.4 FM out of Hudson Valley, New York, as well as a nationally syndicated columnist on the topics of spirituality and relationships for the Examiner.com.

He is the author of one book, "49 Lost Secrets of Peace, Love, and Money". Read More