Preparing for Pregnancy

Starting to TTC in week

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Ahunt701 wrote:

Hey everyone,

My husband and I are going to be secretly trying for our first after four years of marriage in a week and I am terrified and excited all in one! Is this normal to feel slightly emotionally crazy? One moment I feel beyond excited and the next terrified beyond belief. I think it's worse because I can't talk to anyone except dear hubby and I'm pretty sure he's tired of my emotional swings already since he's the only one I do talk to about it and we haven't even started. Then again he might be just as terrified as me. I just hope this is normal. If you have any good positive advice on how to be just excited I'd love to hear. Mind you getting it out on this board might just help a bit. Thanks for listening and I'm glad I could tell someone.

Welcome!! I just joined this webiste myself last week! My DH and I also going to start TTC in just a couple of weeks (I am due to ovulate the 1st of Sept). We just got married in May 2014 (I'm 31, he is34) and if I had a nickel for every time someone has asked us in the past 3 months if we are going to start a family, I would be rich! For this reason, we are keeping it between the two of us, too.

I think it is completely normal to feel terrified, excited, nervous and every other emotion possible! My husband is the same way.... I went off BCP this month so my hormones are whacky from that, plus all the emotions of TTC. I just joke with him and say "Just wait until pregnancy hormones begin!". It is definitely normal, just remember to support each other on this journey. TTC is a huge step, and can take time.

I am also due to ovulate that week as well! I am taking my last pill tomorrow as my doctor said I can either get pregnant right away off the pill or not, so I figured why not try.

I also know exactly how you feel with the whole "when are you having kids?" "Are you pregnant yet?" Or my most "favourite" ignorant jab is "when are you due?" (And yes I actually had a lady ask me that). My husband and I for the last four years had to figure out a way to get people to stop asking. Our favourite response is "we're not having any, ever." Which confuses most people and they don't know what to say to that. But in all honesty we've always wanted kids but wanted to settle into our relationship first and be able to provide a good foundation for starting a family. Which most people (family, friends, and complete strangers) don't understand and would rather annoy us until we have children, hence the big secret. So I totally understand why you are keeping it between you two as well! People can be so annoying!

I'm so glad it's normal to be feeling this way. I just feel like I might be losing my mind half the time lol. I may have to borrow your line of "Just wait until pregnancy hormones begin" to ease the uneasiness with these emotions. He always loves a good laugh and I find humour and talking gets us through the tough times. Anyways thank you so much for responding I am so glad to know there are others in my situation out there and that my feelings are normal. Good luck to you in the coming month! Wishing you all the best! :)

I'm 25 husband is 26 we've been married 2 and 1/2 years and started trying in April of 2014 but I recently got diagnosed with pcos :-(

Our first time I was soo excited right after like a little kid lol now it's just a matter of wondering every month if I'll get my period And I'll be honest I'm extremely nervous of being pregnant & giving labor so sometimes when I do get my period part of me is relieved.

I talked with hubby last night a bit around the fire pit last night since it was only him and me. Found out he's just as terrified as me about everything. I think what our biggest fear is, what if we turn out to be bad parents? I mean my parents were awesome and I wonder how am I ever going to be as good and understanding as they were with my brother and me. I have a feeling my mom would say "practice" right about now if I was able to talk to her. Guess this is a normal experience right?

By the way Sandy011 I am also 25 and DH is 26 that's awesome that we have that in common! I'm really glad and thankful for your honesty, I'm still not sure what to think really from day to day except I do want my family to grow just nervous and terrified of messing up. To tell you the truth I'm not scared of the pregnancy, labour oh yes extremely terrified so guilty on that fear! But I'm pretty sure it'll go alright if they give me lots of pain relief and keep the ice chips going lol! :) I sure hope things go well for you and that your pcos will go away. I wish you all the best with TTC and I will send good baby thoughts your way.

DH and I are starting! I know I don't ovulate till like sometime next week but exciting none the less. Yeah I'm actually more excited right now than terrified! Your advice has worked so thank you so much ladies! :)

I am not far behind you. I took my last bcp last week and the rough prediction of ovulation is right around our wedding day (September 6th). Not sure how much active trying we will be able to do with so much going on and so much company in town, but didn't want to wait going off the pill in case it takes a while for me to regulate. Good luck!

Good luck to you Serendipitytoo and Amberdee12! I'm so ready for next week to be here already LOL! I never thought I'd ever be this close to actually starting a family, it's craziness! :D Sending good baby thoughts your ways!

I know what you mean, It is kind of surreal. I normally would have started back on the pill today. Think my man is a little freaked out even though he is the one that wanted me to stop this month rather than next month lol. We are ready for the next level of craziness though. Sending you all baby dust!

Hey ladies good luck with TTC! This is so exciting to meet others TTC at the same time. Also definately surreal Sarandipitytoo, I didn't think I'd ever be trying for a family. I keep thinking in the back of my mind what would my mom say if she knew lol! I'm so excited! I do have one question for you ladies, did any of you find after going off the pill your emotions became sort of crazy? Like I can bust out into tears really easy which has me feeling kinda dumb because it's always over small things lol. Thanks ladies!

So I guess no more TTC this month for me, because last night I got a severe UTI. So now I'm fighting off a UTI.... Not a happy camper... :( here's to hoping my BD might have worked before I got this UTI. So want to cry right now.

i feel the same way! i dont really have anyone else to talk to either so its nice to know someone in the same boat :) I get really excited but then nervous and scared about everything my body will go through. sometimes it really terrifies me! but then i see mothers with their children/families and know its worth it. if you ever want to chat let me know! good luck to you :) *HUGS*!

Thanks for your kind words! I'm glad to know there's lots of awesome ladies out there in the same boat as me. It makes me feel so much better facing this huge step knowing I have you ladies to talk to. Thank you so much! You'll all probably hear more from me. For now I am fighting a UTI and playing the waiting game.... I hate waiting lol! Good luck to all of you awesome ladies and I'm sending good baby thoughts your ways!

A lot has happened the last few days. A couple of days ago after my ovulation week (I hope it worked) I found out my BIL and SIL are now expecting and due in March. Now I feel like that if we are pregnant my IL's will just say we are copying my BIL and his wife. I didn't know they were trying and I just feel after four years it's my DH and my turn to start a family and take the next step for us. I want to be pregnant and have our first child but I'm just tired of being the whipping post for my IL's. I don't want to be accused of something or have our news less special. But I wonder sometimes, do we keep trying if I get a BFN when I go to test? I mean we both really want this and we will make it more special to us than anything else in the world and that's all that matters. So I keep thinking yes if it doesn't happen for us next week. But I just don't want to be the "copy cat" DIL. Sorry ladies that's my rant even though I know what the answer is, who cares what others think, it's about what me and DH think and feel and if we think the time is right then the time is right, I just really needed to get this nagging feeling off my chest.

The next thing driving me nuts is waiting for pregnancy testing day. Anyone else hate this waiting game? How are you all doing with this waiting game?

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