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Wednesday, 5 November 2014

Monstaville Book II. Chapter 37

“Treat a man as he appears to be,
and you make him worse. But treat a man as if he were what he potentially could
be, and you make him what he should be.”

- Johann Wolfgang Goethe.

Petty differences can escalate into
an all-out war.

‘No one else will have you. You’re
useless, pathetic’: a male bullying a female in a relationship. He makes her
feel helpless. It is a process of conditioning. She is so dependent on him. She
is weak and afraid to leave a) because she can’t fend for herself or find
another relationship and/or b) he would hurt her more. So, she stays, even with
her child, to be abused. She is a victim.

Trisha Goddard
(daytime chat show
on Channel 5, 2005).

Anger
Management

“It is not
that I do not get angry. I don't give vent to my anger. I cultivate the quality
of patience as angerlessness, and generally speaking, I succeed. But I only
control my anger when it comes. How I find it possible to control it would be a
useless question, for it is a habit that everyone must cultivate and must
succeed in forming by constant practice.” - Mahatma Ghandi.

“Here, catch” (Trisha throws a cup).
‘You can pick up and run with something. You have a choice.’ You have a choice
as to pick it up or let it drop to the ground. You get caught up in a game.
Never talking to each other - not listening.

My comment: If you react and create
negative thought patterns in yourself, expecting or fearing recurrences, you’re
continuing the cycle, maintaining the victim bond to the bullies. What you need
to do is programme yourself regardless of the external circumstances. Call upon
God through prayer and affirm positive will to your subconscious. Centre
yourself in a powerful confidence that can create
a more positive reflection in your life.

“Prayer
opens the door of God’s intervention in human affairs. It provides an avenue
whereby the Ascended Masters and cosmic beings who desire to serve the planet
earth and its evolutions can walk within the folds of universal justice and
render special assistance because they have been called upon to do so. For the
law decrees that the heavenly hosts must be petitioned by some among mankind,
must be invited to intervene, before they are permitted to intercede on behalf
of humanity.” - St. Germain (recorded by Mark L. Prophet and Elizabeth Clare
Prophet, Saint Germain on Alchemy.
Formulas for Self-transformation, Summit Publications, Inc., MT., U.S.,
1985 and 1993, p.65-66).

Passive-aggressive: You are
aggressive because you’re scared. ‘I’ll just be here and be quiet.’ You look
disinterested and disapproving. You can be annoying. You have an anger problem
but one that seethes quietly. The burning martyr: ‘I’m sorry, look how I’m
suffering.’

It’s scary to be either passive or
aggressive. They are both negative. But, to be actively compassionate or
express power assertively and positively in relation to your enemies is very
difficult.

Share your feelings. But some people
are stressed and scared, and aggressive, and want you to suffer as well - so
they don’t feel so bad. They want to see that it is normal behaviour and make
you negative as well, so they might feel better, more confident, happier with
themselves, more secure or in control. They feel power and enjoy it. It is this
negative power that they use to take them out of themselves. They derive
exhilaration and adrenalin from the situation without the actual danger or need
for the courage that is necessary to confront someone who is able and willing
to fight back. Bullies never go for those who can defend themselves or who are
in a strong position.

“Anger is a manifestation of a
deeper issue...and that, for me, is based on insecurity, [low] self-esteem and
loneliness.” - Naomi Campbell.

“Fear is the only true enemy, born
of ignorance and the parent of anger and hate.” - Edward Albert.

“Expressing
anger with love is simply expressing your feelings, or what is at the core of
your anger. So there is a way to share the fact that you are angry without
expressing negativity upon another being. It is sharing your feelings. If you
feel that you are angered by something someone has done, you can express to
them that something they did caused you to feel anger. You did not feel it was
right, you felt that you were being persecuted, perhaps, or treated unjustly. So
look beneath the anger. See why it is you are feeling anger. And if there is
someone there to share those feelings with, then do so. You can also release
anger in an extreme way: have a fit; pound on some inanimate pillows which
cannot feel your rage. It is all right to release rage at this point if you do
not have a way to release it more gently. Seek to forgive yourself and others.
But do not ‘stuff’ your feelings, for they need to be released. You are all
undergoing a releasing process. Often it is at such a deep level that you do
not even know why you are feeling what you are feeling. Simply allow the
feelings to flow through. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. As for the
future, anger will become obsolete. It won’t be long before you do not feel it
anymore. You will feel power. Perhaps you will feel a focuses power or
directness which may feel similar to anger, but it is not.” – Sananda
(channelled through Eric Klein, The
Crystal Stair. A Guide to the Ascension, Oughton House Publications, CA., U.S.,
1990, p.142).

Panorama (BBC1, 10 April 2005).

School
Bullying (‘Why bullies win’).

A teacher’s advice to a bullied
girl: “Don’t do anything back and eventually it dies down” and “Ignore it.”

This represents a school’s denial.
They are not taking responsibility for the situation because there is one
bullied child (and her parents) against several bullies and their parents. It
is an example of mob rule.

The school usually blames the victim
and their upbringing, etc. But it is not their fault because they haven’t done
anything wrong. They don’t deserve that kind of treatment. The head teacher
must take a strong line and send out a clear message: ‘We do not tolerate
bullying in our school.’ That will promote good effective discipline.

Bullies need to take responsibility
for their behaviour and understand its effects - to change their behaviour. The
bully is accountable. Punishment is required: a limit placed on their
instinctive group aggression.

Another approach to dealing with
bullying: not blaming the bully but sitting down and talking rationally. So the
bully and victim can understand each
other. Also, get support for the victim from people in the group; that is,
focus on the victim and show sympathy for them rather than blaming and
punishing the bully. This is the ‘no blame’ approach. Discussing such problems
is such an order, however. It can cause the victim to feel worse. They may feel
more intimidated through this approach of opening up to the bullies. They have
this cosy chat and then the bully starts terrorising the victim again as soon
as they leave the room. It is important to tell
someone - but someone must listen.
And, schools just aren’t listening.

One reason for people bullying
others is that they’ve been bullied and want others to suffer as they have,
assuming they’re hard done by. They resent others’ (real or perceived) freedom
or intelligence, etc.

An apology isn’t enough - just to
please the teacher and make them feel the matter has been concluded. The
bullying continues. We have a system that caters for the school’s interests. We
need an independent body that is private, not part of the Government or
education authorities. Unless they are very serious they will all stick
together. There needs to be sufficient support to protect children from being
bullied.

“I found one day in school a boy of
medium size ill-treating a smaller boy. I expostulated, but he replied: ‘The
big boys hit me, so I hit the babies; that’s fair.’ In these words, he
epitomised the history of the human race.” - Bertrand Russell (Education and Social Order).

Retrospective
insert.

“Once
again whatever you are thinking and feeling you will create. So when you are
feeling good, your reality is good. When you are feeling bad, then your reality
does not seem so good. This is even though it is the same reality as when you
were feeling good! So always observe the way that you feel and be in the
feeling space. If somebody makes you angry just know that the anger is inside
of you. If you are to get angry with them in the outer world you will energise
that aspect of yourself that is angry, whereas if you remove yourself from that
position and find that aspect of yourself that is angry and use your energy to
heal this anger instead of changing the person who has made you angry you will
never again be angry for the same reason. You would have used all your energy
to resolve the anger and to heal yourself. The angry aspect of yourself will
otherwise gain more and more power in your inner world.” - Kryon (channelled through ‘The Divine
Constellation, 1 April 2010, Rosario, Argentina,
www.kryon.org.za/ChannellingNo458.htm).

“School is quite terrifying too, the
first time you go to school. My father said to me, ‘there’ll be a boy at school
who’ll want to hit you. First day in school and somebody will want to hit you.
Now, that is a school bully. Now, all school bullies are cowards. And, he’ll
only hit you if he thinks that you’re frightened. So, if you hit him first, he
will run away. I was expelled in two weeks for being the school bully. Every
new kid used to come - I used to beat the shit out of him.” - Irish comedian
Dave Allen.

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