How Do You Deal With Losing Someone You Love?

Let me apologize for being a little depressing on this Monday morning, but I caught up on all my DVR'd TV last night, and thanks to The Biggest Loser and Friday's episode of Oprah (I taped it because Oprah interviewed Patrick Swayze's widow, Lisa Niemi), I couldn't stop crying all night long. My eyes are still a little puffy. How do you deal with death? As you can tell, I'm a total wreck.

Just in case you don't watch The Biggest Loser, this season is all about "second chances." One of the contestants, Abby, needed a second chance at life—about two years ago, her husband and two children were killed in a car accident. When she told her story to the rest of the contestants in the first episode, I had to pause the DVR for about 10 minutes because I was an emotional wreck. It terrified me...it was one of those awful stories that you can't help but hear and think, "What would I do if that happened to me?" Cue my uncontrollable sobbing. Unfortunately, Abby was voted off the ranch this week (as if I couldn't love her anymore, she basically told the contestants to vote her off because she was ready to go home to her family and "live again")....seriously, I think I went through an entire box of tissues.

Patrick Swayze and Lisa Niemi were married for 34 years...what a beautiful relationship.

And then I watched Oprah's interview with Lisa Niemi, Patrick Swayze's widow. Stupid move on my part. Oprah asked her about if she thinks she'll be able to move on, and Lisa said, "If I was really courageous, I would be open to the possibility that I could go on in life." That thought really stung. I've lost people I've loved, like my grandfather and grandmother, but it's hard to imagine losing the love of your life. I know it's morbid to bring it up (even though I know Joanna has mentioned it before), but I can't help but think about it when I watch shows like I did last night.

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