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Do You Think It Is Okay To Wear Fur?

I wear fur.
Well I have fur coats and I used to wear them a lot more than I do now.
I have four of them. All vintage. The one I'm wearing in this photo I
purchased for $40. It's the warmest coat I own, but I don't wear it that
much because it's feels showy, maybe too glamorous. And if I wore it to
pick up my kids from preschool it would feel as if I was wearing a ball
gown with a tiara. Sure the tiara would be a hit with the kids, but
would the dead rabbit annoy some of the other parents? Do I need to sew a
button on it that says "It's okay. It's vintage."

Because I do feel that makes it okay. The animal has long been dead
-- we're talking gone for 30 or 40 years -- and the coats are just
floating around in vintage stores and Etsy shops waiting to keep someone
really warm in the winter. Wearing a vintage fur coat is just like recycling. It's eco-friendly in it's own way.

So why do I find it so hard to wear for the everyday?

Maybe I worry that since I'm a mom now, the act of picking up my kids
-- up and down and up and down -- would just make my fur coat shed
causing a trail of dead bunny rabbit hairs all over the place? Would it be weird to be in a fur coat and pushing my kid on a swing at the park? Just as odd as say, wearing heels at the playground. I've done that. I can do this, too.

What is stopping me from wearing my fur? Maybe it's because I don't
live in NYC anymore and I'm upstate in a crunchy town? Then I saw Pam.
Her daughter is in class with my twins. Pam always looks gorgeous even
when just coming from a run. I can't even run so the fact that she can
and still look that good is incredible in my book. There she was in a
faux fur coat picking her child up from school. Instantly glamorous
without overdoing it. Perfect.

The look of real fur versus fake fur is essentially the same. No
stigma attached to the fake one though, and no chance of shedding. But
the style, the way it's plush and cozy and warm and fancy, is there.

My best friend's mother gave me her mink jacket when she moved to Florida and none of her daughters wanted the coat. It's easily 25+ years old, but I don't know that I'd say it's vintage. Don't really care, though, I wear it when I have a good reason to. and it really is super warm! I also have a couple leather coats, as does DH, and leather shoes, belts, purses, etc. We eat meat, eggs, dairy, and any and all other animal products. IMO unles you're totally vegan and don't use any animal products of any kind ever, then you've got no business being snide with somebody for wearing fur.

And my response to my vegan family and friends -- It's warm, soft, and I love it.

I think it depends on what kind of fur and if its a by product or if the animal was bread specifically for its fur. i have no problem with people in cold climates wearing fur to keep them warm. What i do have a problem with is those animals that are kept in tiny cages only for their furr, it just irks me. Leather in most cases is a byproduct, the animals are usually killed for food and the skins are also used so thats different (ofcourse snake skin boots are a whole different subject).

YOU DON'T FEEL RIGHT ABOUT WEARING IT BECAUSE IT IS WRONG. IN DAYS GONE BY, ANIMAL SKIN AND FUR WERE WORN FOR SURVIVAL NOT AS A FASHION STATEMENT . HAVE THE MADE INTO TEDDY BEARS IF YOU LIKE THE FEEL OF THEM.

if your fur coat is from 1962 or older, then it should be OK. other than that, anything less than 50 years old, the only reason to wear fur is if you are an animl like cat, dog, guinea pig, ferret. IMO

I'm a Humanist.
Question everything, except your Mother.
SAHM of one teen DD. Married since 1989.
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Well, that makes no sense at all, love.
A fur coat that actually makes her warm is wrong, but a stuffed animal made from a dead animal is acceptable.
Got it.

Quoting Pattiann236:

YOU DON'T FEEL RIGHT ABOUT WEARING IT BECAUSE IT IS WRONG. IN DAYS GONE BY, ANIMAL SKIN AND FUR WERE WORN FOR SURVIVAL NOT AS A FASHION STATEMENT . HAVE THE MADE INTO TEDDY BEARS IF YOU LIKE THE FEEL OF THEM.

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