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From Big Girl
I'm overweight. I feel fine about it except guys/girls don't look at me sexually. It's like people discount that I might like a little sexual attention. I have a female friend who has a girlfriend. She's overweight. I think it's true that it's something in the way you hold yourself.

From David
I am 47 and have had relationships with every shape of woman you can imagine. What makes a woman sexy is her attitude, self confidence and her mind. Aside from that Women with classic body shapes like you see in old paintings, who would now be considered 20 or so pounds overweight, are the most attractive. Hard bodied women feel a little too much like men in the dark. I think women should have a certain softness.

From Anonymous
I have never had sex with a "heavy" woman but I have very intense sexual fantasies about them. I find very chubby vaginal lips to be really hot. I love looking at pictures of thick pussy lips with lots a pubic hair. It turns me on that the pubic hair cannot cover the Venus mound and lips from sight. I would love to have a big lady sit on my face so that I could smell all her womanhood and taste her inner areas while giving her the pleasure all large women deserve.

I have a fantasy that will not go away.

I fantasize about watching a very heavy pale women with very curly brown hair having sex pool side on a hot day with 2 hard muscular tanned strippers wearing nothing. A vision of Greek gods with six pack abs, speedo tan lines, big balls and banana curved dicks, contrast with doughy white lady. The big lady has nothing on but a necklace over her huge breasts. I can see her hulking soft frame and the hard bodied strippers covered in shiny baby oil loving life in the hot sun.

This is what captivates my thoughts: The stripper on the bottom of the double penetration, is pinned on lying down on a towel on the concrete next to the pool pumping her chubby pussy. The stud on the bottom is unable to pull himself out of the big lady because of the combined weight of the heavy Venus and the stripper on top thrusting into her asshole from between her large white ass cheeks. He screams for her to get off him because he is about to explode. He is unable to get his mushroom out because she is in an erotic trance. He realizes that he can't get her off and just says screw it and sprays the inside her with hot sperm. I can see sticky cum glistening in the hot sun as it oozes from her thick pussy lips onto the base of his big dick.

From JB
My first three lovers were thin (anorexic), nicely proportioned but on the thin side, and thin (not anorexic but looked it). I am sure it was just their personalities, but they were not good in bed.

My wife is about 50 pounds heavier than she wants to be, but she's amazing in bed. She has totally transformed what I find sexy. I now love big butts, a bigger chest and round, wobbly tummies. Her form has equated in joy in my life and a wild and crazy sex life.

It has just been my personal experience that women that "control" their weight and don't robustly eat at the table, want to "control" their sex life and they don't robustly partake in the banquet between the sheets.

From Neil
The sexiest thing about a partner has nothing to do with size and weight but everything to do with confidence. A confident woman is a beautiful woman. First love yourself...then you can love someone else.

From Jani
I am what they call a 'big girl' but not morbidly obese. I have a job in my sis-in-law's firm and in a smart business suit, white blouse, dark pantyhose and high heels I regard myself as being very attractive. But when a guy at work started to hit on me I wondered what was going through his head. Did he see me as a freak fuck?

After a few after work drinks I agreed to have dinner with him. The sex was awful. Not because of my size or anything I did or didn't do. He was the problem - his cock was mega small! He lasted for 20 minutes or so but I really couldn't feel him in my pussy. So, I might be big across the ass but not every guy is well hung enough for the needs of us big ones!

From Jax
I think the issue comes down more to state of mind than size of body. I've always been obese and because of that, I am seriously, seriously shy. I've had one lover in my life because of it and she was really really great even though we ended up breaking it off. Now after changing my lifestyle, I've lost a lot of weight (over 120 pounds) and I know that I'm looking a lot "better" and certainly feeling far more healthy but even though my sex drive is high, my shyness keeps me from getting out there and playing the field.

By contrast, my best friend in college has always been overweight/obese and she had no problems finding a horde of guys that wanted to be with her. I guess she just knew how to get what she wanted. So to all those big women out there, I'd say if you're unafraid to put yourself out there, it shouldn't be a big deal. Remember, with the obesity rate rising it may all soon be a moot point.

From :)
As Lisa Lampinelli would say, "More cushion for the pushin."

From Anonymous
This can be a very difficult issue, I think. My ex-husband was and is
a very large man (6'2", 480 pounds at his top weight), which I
found quite sexy at first. As we were together and things in our
relationship went sour, I found him less and less attractive and I
seem to have generalized this to all fat people.

It wouldn't be a problem at all (my new lover is skinny) if it
hadn't affected my own body image (never good) so negatively. I can't
look at myself and my big belly and my sagging breasts without
disgust.

From A lucky girl
I am obese by today's standards and my husband is very fit. I admit to
being ridiculously shy about my body and use lots of candlelight,
lingerie and various other tactics like avoiding daytime sex to hide
my body from my husband visually so I won't turn him off during sex.

Sadly, this all comes from my own neurosis, as he is nothing but
complementary and worshipful of every inch of me. He constantly tells
me how good it feels to press his body against my soft, strong body. I
am his Goddess - I just wish I felt that way inside.

We have a spectacular sex life, in spite of my issues. We both
agree it's the best sex ever. I have to laugh at myself that I love
being fucked in the ass and will ride his face with abandon but won't
let him see my fat belly. I often wonder how much better it could be
if I could get over my shyness and let myself be the sexual glutton I
am in my head.

Being fat does seem to dampen my sex drive to the point that a
couple of times a week is about all I'm interested in but fortunately
the quality more than makes up for the quantity.

From Mary
Fat is a turn-off. Men carrying a lot of extra weight breath heavy, have sweaty
skin at the drop of a hat, are not agile, and because of the extra fat
at the base of their penis, they can't get in very far - which is
really a mute point because their stomach gets in the way. The only
comfortable position is doggy-style, anything else is crushing the
person on the bottom or fat gets in the way of any significant penetration.

But the main problem is health. Obese people look and feel
unhealthy. There is nothing sexy about that. So yes, obese people are
a turn-off and sex with a fat man is simply no fun.

From Douglas
I like very skinny, very tall women (I'm 6'1"). I'm not attracted
in the least to any extra weight, flabby skin, or chubbiness. One
man's opinion.

From Dark Gypsy
I weigh 386 lbs. I am 31, married, and I have a lover. (My lover is my
best friend's husband, and everything is very loving and out in the
open) I have sex with one or the other of them nearly every night, and
sometimes several times a day (on the weekends). Fairly often, my boys
team up to please me.

I get more sex than anyone I know, and I am fully capable of many
positions including missionary, doggy-style, side penetrations,
standing at the side of the bed, 69, you name it. My lover is married
to a woman who is half my size, but I turn him on more than anyone
he's ever made love to. He has commented that the inside of my vagina
feels tighter and more textured than anyone he's ever experienced, and
he loves not being concerned about breaking me.

Boys, there's nothing wrong with a skinny girl, but don't knock
sinking yourself into fleshy woman until you've tried it. You may be
surprised at how marvelously good we feel inside and out.

From Anonymous
I love big. I have become the big I fantasize about - D cup, big brown
nipples, big - just big. I love walking naked in the Y and entering
the sauna room. It is a big that has finiteness. It is beautiful.

I fantasize going down on naked big women with flower pussies, of
getting big hugs, or rubbing big butts - if no one can get how big is
beautiful there is something wrong with them. There is just more to
make love to.

From Cat
I think weight is in the eye of the beholder and the person with the
weight. For myself when my weight is above my norm I find I hide under
sexy nightwear. I won't be as forward as usual and even have less sex
than usual. This isn't because anyone else is uncomfortable with me,
it's just me.

I have health issues and my weight can go up and down easily. Right
now it's up by 15 pds. Yeah, not much but I'm 5' nothing, so it shows.
When I'm at my correct weight I'm a sensuous kitten ready to play as I
roll over and wait for my belly rub. The 1 thing I have noticed over
the yrs. is it seems big women are with skinny guys or vice versa. All
I can say is, to each his own and have a good time!

From Mike
Although I'm mainly attracted to thin women, particularly Asians, I
also am attracted to a degree to women that are mildly overweight.
Some girls that are somewhat overweight (not grossly obese) can really
carry that weight well, and it can look quite good on them. Hispanic
women in particular have the ability to look really good with some
extra weight.

My first wife was considerably overweight, and there was a certain
sexiness to that. I'll never forget how her big stomach looked as it
jerked up and down in rhythm as she had an orgasm - damn, that was
hot.

From Happy at Last
I was married for years to a woman who, by the vast majority of
standards, is damned near perfect. She is very pretty, graceful and
has an incredible shape (small waist, tall, perfect hips). However,
she is the worst b*tch that most people have ever met. Incredibly shellfish
and self-centered, my life with this beauty was pure hell. After we
divorced, I dated several women solely for their personality.

Since I am in relatively good shape, many were worried because of
their self-image issues. Their lack of self confidence was very
unattractive to me. Eventually, I calmed down and settled for an
overweight woman who makes me feel like a king. I am so turned on by
her and cannot get enough! We make love like a couple of teenagers.
Her extra weight is what adds character to the woman that I love. Love
equals great sex to me now.

From Anonymous
I'm currently living in South Korea although I'm a white foreign women
and I'm constantly surrounded by very thin Asian women. The men here
think women from the States look disgusting. They are all very
turned-off by fat, so in a way it's a cultural thing. People are
products of their environment and they make do with what they have and
with what is available. If 70% of the population becomes overweight,
men will just have to get use to overweight women so to speak.

Some people think it's curves that make a women look womanly. Since
being in Korea I would have to say that thin women can look very
womanly. They have a gracefulness, flexibility. In their opinion thinness
is a sign of femininity where as fat would be considered butch and
manly.

From Anon
I'm a bit more than 1/2 way to a weight loss goal of 100 lbs. (doing
it for health reasons, I was obese when I started). At 5'8, I've
ranged from 120 lbs to 250 lbs. I feel my best between 130 & 160.

I find I'm at my most energetic when I'm exercising regularly,
regardless of my weight. That helps with the important things like
flexibility & stamina.

A lot of it is attitude. I'm middle aged and I've developed a lot
more confidence as I've gotten older. I'm less physically attractive
now than I was when I was in my twenties, but I'm not ashamed of my
body and sex like I was then. And I'm more enthusiastic about sex now
than I was then. Judging from the reactions of my partners, that seems
to be a big turn on in and of itself. So, even though I'm overweight,
I'm enjoying sex more now than I did when I was thinner & younger.

From Jeroen
I've had sex with one or two women who would be considered obese, not
severely so but definitely more than 10-15 kgs overweight. In tactile
terms, it feels fine. Visually, though, it's almost always a major
turn-off, though a small handful of women can pull it off. It depends
on how it's distributed, too, and on how good the person's skin is.
Bad skin and overweight is really not good.

From Doug
In the last 40 years my weight has varied between 175 and 325 for a
variety of reasons. I'm 6'1" so there is a range from lean to
obese. After a broken back in my early 20s my weight shoot up to 325
pounds from 225. Sex was difficult and painful during the back
fracture and rehabilitation phase, and unfortunately some added pain
for the rest of my life. At 325 my stomach got in the way in every
position except with my wife on top. Sitting face to face was
difficult to do and impossible to be able to hug her at the same time.
I also lost about an inch of penetration ability because of the fat
around the base of my penis. I felt lousy about myself and didn't like
being fat like that.

Over the next 4 years I got down to 170 at the lowest, but not
maintainable, and stabilized at 175 - 190 for the next 15 years until
medical problems change it. The sex during those years was better in a
lot of ways. I was jogging about 30 miles a week at the beginning and
was in good condition. I had basically unlimited physical endurance
with as much vigor as my wife enjoyed. With no stomach to interfere we
could do things that had been impossible before. Being fat imposed all
sorts of limits both from a power to weight ratio and physical bulk
ratio. It got in the way, I got tired more quickly moving more weight
around, I wasn't strong enough to do some things with the weight that
I can do without.

My wife was 5'4" and about 125 most of this time. During
menopause she gained 40 pounds in 6 months with no change in diet. It
was about this time that my muscles became sore for medical reasons
and her weight became an issue because of pressure on my body
anywhere. Over the next decade she got back down to 125.

All in all, added weight did nothing at all positive for our sex
lives. And the more weight either or both of us put on, the more hindrance
it was. And when both of us were at the high end (165 and 280) things
were the most difficult. We were not able to find a position
comfortable for both of us when taking both weight and medical
conditions into account. It wasn't all weight and size. That further
limited things. My wife wasn't happy with herself at the higher
weights. She looked good and certainly caught the men's eyes at the
nudist clubs even at her maximum weight. It wasn't about other
people's reactions. It was about how she felt about herself. She felt
unattractive.

From Jim
I read OTE, [see entry below] and I agree that a full-figured women is sexy in many
ways. However, the question here is How does obesity affect sex,
key word being 'obesity' which is beyond full-figured.

Yeah, voluptuous well padded curves makes me weak in the knees, but
rolls of fat? No, no no. I know what I'm talking about. Been there,
done that. I was 45 pounds over my desired weight, and let me tell you
something, when I lost those 45 pounds, my dick looked almost twice as
long because the base is no long hidden in rolls of fat. That also
means I can now get closer, and go deeper in my full-figured
girlfriend - yes, she's full-figured, not fat. Big difference.

I don't feel like I'm crushing her if I'm on top, I'm not huffing
and puffing, or dripping sweaty during vigorous sex. And best of all I
can hug my girl without my big fat belly getting in the way.

So yeah, obesity affects sex, no doubt. I mean just think of
the logistics, which is not very exciting to think about.

From OTE
Having had long term relationships with women from the boney to obese,
I have come to the conclusion that boney women aren't comfortable for
long rides. By the same token, obese women exhibit body image
problems, yet can have extended periods of raw passion and no bone
bumping that leaves bruises.

Now I'm in a long-term relationship with a full-figured woman that
carries little extra weight beyond that bit that gives her real woman
curves. You know the body type. Mature fertile curves of a proven
breeder capable of bearing children with little effort.

My personal taste in woman's physiology has nothing to do with
desire to procreate as I took care of that possibility long ago.
Rather I consider that I'm a throw-back to a time when women were
chosen as mates based upon some genetic criteria of ability to bear
and raise children successfully to maturity. Mayhaps it is also about
the physical strength and endurance to join me on the hunt. At the
same time, carry enough body fat to nurse offspring during the lean
times without putting herself at risk from starvation.

What I do know is that this type of physiology has the look,
strength and endurance to be the partner of any man worthy enough of
her.

In m'lady's case, she has developed a sense of body image that
causes her no grief other than her stretch marks from birthing two
children. To me, I have no problems with her stretch marks as I see
them as proof of her virility.

In mine own perception, I see her as voluptuous. Perfect, no. But
neither am I. Matters not as we have long since become bound to one
another by the mutual need to be with a life partner that shares
common interests and unconditional acceptance of one another. No other
woman has ever brought out the "Son of Eros" that was so
long kept buried within me. And me towards her? I love bringing out
her inner "Aphrodite's Daughter" passion.

The most intense erogenous zone is that grey stuff between our
ears. A big share of all the rest is not much more than the wrapping
on a birthday present. Draws the eye, but it is what is inside that
really gets our attention. Or maybe it is just a strange sense of
reality held solely by myself.

Tis my conclusion that you have to pad the package to avoid any
damage. Tis for each to determine how much padding is enough. Once you
can accept yourself and another, even clothing becomes just another
wrapping on a highly desired present.

From Volponia
I consider myself about 50 pounds overweight, and think that
qualifies as obese. My last lover must have had about 6 percent body
fat. I was self-conscious about how we looked together (he was also 14
years younger than I), but our sex life was very satisfying to me,
and, I assume, to him.

From Jordana Winters
As a person who very much values physical fitness (and this is just
my opinion), I could never find obesity to be a turn on. There is just
no way. There isn't even an association between the two for me. I
would say it's actually a turn off. Big time.

Position logistics would be difficult I would think, but, I guess
it depends on how obese we are talking. Again, the idea of two or one
even overweight people rolling around in the bedroom is something I
try not to think about.

From Teela
I am by no stretch of the imagination obese. But if I "feel
fat" it really gets in the way of enjoyment. I want to avoid
certain positions, wear concealing lingerie. My husband doesn't seem
to care at all - it's strictly my own bit of lunacy. He's no string
bean and it doesn't bother me at all. I still want him plenty. He's
not obese, but he's definitely spread some over the years. I can't
seem to allow myself the same latitude.

Why are we so much harder on ourselves?

From Tre
Well, considering I'm a health nut to a point, I don't have a
problem when it comes to obesity. I've pretty much dated women that
have a few pounds on them. What annoys me is that they all have
constantly asked why I'd want to be with them, since I work out. Truly, it comes down this, and this might sound so cheesy... it's
the mind. I love a woman with the 50's curves, and a mind right now.
They can believe it or not.

Hell, I just love women!

From Phlye
There have been a number of BBW's in my life. There's a certain je
ne sais crois about being enveloped in more woman than one man can
handle that's... well, it makes me feel all warm and cozy just
thinking about it!

Always was a fan of big mammaries, and, when combined with a booty
you need a roadmap for so you don't lose your way... whoa.

One more thought. With few exceptions, every submissive woman I've
encountered has been of the BBW persuasion. Coincidence or just good
fortune?

From Tess
In terms of the act of sex itself, I've never had an issue. At my
top weight, I was afraid I might hurt my husband when I got on top of
him. But, he assured me it was not a problem at all. The obese men I
have been with did present some challenges as they had fat around
their pubis that "shortened" their cock. And, of course,
they were out of shape and I had to do most of the physical work. Even
then, I did not consider it a problem; I just approached the situation
with some creativity and firm resolve to find a solution.

I will add that there are many more men than one might think who
are attracted to BBW (Big Beautiful Women). Some of these men have
true fat fetishes, but many of them just appreciate a woman who is
comfortable with her body, no matter her size. The perception of men
whom are attracted to BBW as "losers" - unattractive,
desperate, or any other negative image - is blatantly incorrect. Men
who are attracted to BBW are as diverse and varied as the general
population. There is no stereotype for BBW admirers - just as there is
no stereotype for a BBW.

I think that the dom/sub ratio among BBW is pretty equal. Some men
prefer a BBW Dominatrix as her size contributes to her power and
dominance. There is a strong contingency of men (and woman) who enjoy
smothering, trampling, face sitting, and Giantess fantasies of being
dominated and/or humiliated by a woman much larger than them. There
are some aspects of D/s relationships that employ humiliation of a BBW
- Piggy girls and "cows". There is also a population of
feeders and feedees that center their sex on food and weight gain. I
can not embrace these extreme fetishes; they are just not my cuppa
tea.

From The Butterfly Temptress
I am considered "obese" by today's standards. The problem
came when I fell in love for the first time in my life with a man who
is naturally predisposed to physical perfection. My Knight is well
built and can eat like a horse without any trace of heaviness or
obesity. Why would someone like that want to be with someone like me?
It's a head trip of the worst kind.

Sex used to not be a problem. Now, however, because the Knight is
smaller than I am, I shy away from certain things. I love riding him,
but I'm afraid of crushing him, so I don't. I love oral sex, but I'm
afraid he is turned off by having his mouth on my plump cunt lips,
between my chubby thighs, so I frequently turn down or refuse it. I am
not morbidly obese, so I know it is in my head but it doesn't change
anything. I worry about those things now. I didn't before.

From Amanda Earl
I'm 5'1 and 160 lbs. Sometimes I have to buy clothes in plus sizes
and sometimes not. My husband is 6'1 and 280, definitely a big bear.

I love everything about my husband's size; it's a part of his
personality and beauty. Physically I'd rather make love to men with
meat on their bones than really skinny guys because I feel like I have
to watch my movements or else I might crush them. They just feel more
fragile to me and I don't enjoy being jabbed by a boney hip.

From Oxartes
Beautiful women come in all sizes, shapes & colours. Neither my
wife nor I will be modeling swimsuits of any kind but that's not the
point. I'm not puppy-eyed in love my wife because I find her sexy,
arousing & attractive; I find her sexy, arousing & attractive
because I'm puppy-eyed in love with her. My wife was never overweight
before we met (she blames my cooking; she says I feed her too well)
but she was never wafer thin either. That is singularly unattractive.
What guy wants to cuddle up to a stickwoman?! Not me; yecch! I adore
my wife's thighs and her unflat tummy... Mmmm!

From Cervo
The object of my fantasies is always someone I like and who enjoys
my sexual attentions whether in the form of flirting or some more
direct 'contact.' I can truthfully say this has included all sorts of
ladies of all sorts of sizes and shapes though rarely, if ever, very
small and thin. I am an enthusiast and such people strike me as easily
damaged by being held firmly in one's arms. That may be simple
prejudice. Who knows?

Fat is in one's mind. The usual person's notion of a fat bottom is
not in the least to me. Girl's come in curves. I like girls a lot. I
like curves a lot too, but first of all I like girls.

What I do not care for sexually are people who look unhealthy. One
can be quite large, round, and roly-poly or very small and round and
be quite delicious. Truly delicious. But when people are obese in such
a way that they are sallow and shapeless, then you know they are
killing themselves a pizza at a time and that is not erotic at all.

Size has nothing to do with muscle tone and fitness either. I will
never understand the objection to an ample girl, nicely dressed and
looking radiant, who is toned and fit. Nothing says that thin is a
standard in this regard except our national obsessions with various
health fads.

I firmly contend that size and roundness of form are appealing in
an appealing person. What kills the interest is sloth. Inertia is as
romantic as a broken fire plug.