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SO and I talk about this alot, it turns both of us on, but we haven't done it. We're thinking of hitting up one of the swingers clubs on v-day and seeing what happens!!

Answer by
Anonymous
at 9:48 AM on Jan. 3, 2012

if u havent ever done anything before, i would def suggest starting with a little more risky playing btwn urselves. as in, blindfolds ect. also, see if he likes a prostate massage. if he has never had one, u will wanna get him accoustomed to that before ever thinking about bringing someone else in. remember how painful that first time is?

Answer by
Anonymous
at 9:53 AM on Jan. 3, 2012

I suggest reading Dan Savage's archives. He is a sex advice columnist and writes a lot about open relationships, threesomes, etc. thestranger.com/savagelove

Good luck. The most important thing is COMMUNICATION. Talk beforehand, make sure everyone's desires and boundaries and expectations are clear. Talk afterwards too, about what it was like, how it felt, what you both liked and disliked, etc. And stay safe!!

ANON our thing is though he is not sure he wants to be entered there...He is more interested in the oral portion of it all. We have done festish stuff. I am huge into bondage.
Feli yes. We have talked ALOT. I am still not 100% sure If I want to but he is pretty stuck with the idea. He was aroused when he found out that it was a fantasy.

Comment by
Anonymous
(original poster)
at 11:54 AM on Jan. 3, 2012

I would just be careful of bringing a third party into a relationship... have you guys thought about, what if he likes it so much that he wants to go out and do that all the time? He could possibly leave to fulfill his fantasy if you get to the point you dont want to do it anymore. Just be careful you dont get hurt ya know?