toddler issues

My almost 2 year old runs away from me outside and in public. At first it was cute and we would just chase her (when at home. ). Here lately she does it down sidewalks, when we are out on errands, and through people's yards. I have to sprint after her in 100 degree heat. Not especially fun being 6 months pregnant. Tonight, we went outside to take my bulldog potty. My child ran from me towards a construction area and then my dog pulled out of her leash and started running. I was in tears when i got them both in. I just downloaded a book 123 magic on discipline. I popped her legs when I got a hold of her and she just laughed and did it again.... Obviously ineffective . Anyone have any advice or have dealt with this before?

My almost 2 year old runs away from me outside and in public. At first it was cute and we would just chase her (when at home. ). Here lately she does it down sidewalks, when we are out on errands, and through people's yards. I have to sprint after her in 100 degree heat. Not especially fun being 6 months pregnant. Tonight, we went outside to take my bulldog potty. My child ran from me towards a construction area and then my dog pulled out of her leash and started running. I was in tears when i got them both in. I just downloaded a book 123 magic on discipline. I popped her legs when I got a hold of her and she just laughed and did it again.... Obviously ineffective . Anyone have any advice or have dealt with this before?

We have had similar challenges. When walking dog alone, my son goes in the stroller. I've taken ro giving time outs whenever/wherever needed. I turn him around to have a wall, fence, etc. then count backwards from 10 turn him around and speak gently asking is it nice to run away?", he says no, have him say he's sorry, then give me a hug. I then ask him if he's ready to hold hands with mommy. If he says no I turn him back around and repeat. Most of the time it works on the first try but sometimes takes 2. Works wonders on him. He thinks when I get upset it's a joke so this way it its clear to him what is going on. Our parking garage is 4 blocks from our apartment so I needed to find a way to keep him in check .

We have had similar challenges. When walking dog alone, my son goes in the stroller. I've taken ro giving time outs whenever/wherever needed. I turn him around to have a wall, fence, etc. then count backwards from 10 turn him around and speak gently asking is it nice to run away?", he says no, have him say he's sorry, then give me a hug. I then ask him if he's ready to hold hands with mommy. If he says no I turn him back around and repeat. Most of the time it works on the first try but sometimes takes 2. Works wonders on him. He thinks when I get upset it's a joke so this way it its clear to him what is going on. Our parking garage is 4 blocks from our apartment so I needed to find a way to keep him in check .

I'm considering getting a leash for my toddler. I can't control her, she's almost 2 no problems holding hands but if she's determined to go on another direction I end up picking her up she just wants to go I'm working on getting her to come to me on command but I think her attention span could be part of the problem. I wouldn't mind getting her a cute leash for wen we're in crowded areas just so she'll be safe I even mentioned it in front of my mil and she's all for em! Even she had one her boys are pretty close in age.

I'm considering getting a leash for my toddler. I can't control her, she's almost 2 no problems holding hands but if she's determined to go on another direction I end up picking her up she just wants to go I'm working on getting her to come to me on command but I think her attention span could be part of the problem. I wouldn't mind getting her a cute leash for wen we're in crowded areas just so she'll be safe I even mentioned it in front of my mil and she's all for em! Even she had one her boys are pretty close in age.

I was just researching the toddler harness!!!! I just can't risk her getting hurt. Before I became a mom, I always said I would never have a harness/leash for my child. However, I have had it! I'm strongly considering one especially with me being pregnant with our 2nd. I will be outnumbered!

I was just researching the toddler harness!!!! I just can't risk her getting hurt. Before I became a mom, I always said I would never have a harness/leash for my child. However, I have had it! I'm strongly considering one especially with me being pregnant with our 2nd. I will be outnumbered!

girl I feel ya... its frustrating... and i would have popped mine too, if he laughed I would have taken him inside and placed him firmly in time out one min for each year... after timeouts I go to him, get at his level and explain why he was in timeout in short phrases, like "it scares mommy when you run away" good luck

girl I feel ya... its frustrating... and i would have popped mine too, if he laughed I would have taken him inside and placed him firmly in time out one min for each year... after timeouts I go to him, get at his level and explain why he was in timeout in short phrases, like "it scares mommy when you run away" good luck

girl I feel ya... its frustrating... and i would have popped mine too, if he laughed I would have taken him inside and placed him firmly in time out one min for each year... after timeouts I go to him, get at his level and explain why he was in timeout in short phrases, like "it scares mommy when you run away" good luck

girl I feel ya... its frustrating... and i would have popped mine too, if he laughed I would have taken him inside and placed him firmly in time out one min for each year... after timeouts I go to him, get at his level and explain why he was in timeout in short phrases, like "it scares mommy when you run away" good luck

My son had a toddler harness. It was a monkey backpack and he loved it. He usually ended up holding my hand because he would realize I had him either way and he wanted to hold the other end himself. It worked for us!

My son had a toddler harness. It was a monkey backpack and he loved it. He usually ended up holding my hand because he would realize I had him either way and he wanted to hold the other end himself. It worked for us!

I know some people don't like them, but if you have a runner there are little backpacks that look like animals and have a long tail that acts a bit like a leash. A friend of mine had to use one with her son. He is super fast and quiet, he's gone in the blink of an eye. It was better to have him put the monkey on and be safe than have him run out into traffic or run away in stores.

I know some people don't like them, but if you have a runner there are little backpacks that look like animals and have a long tail that acts a bit like a leash. A friend of mine had to use one with her son. He is super fast and quiet, he's gone in the blink of an eye. It was better to have him put the monkey on and be safe than have him run out into traffic or run away in stores.

Well I know what mission I will be on tomorrow! I see where they have the monkey backpacks at my Target! Meanwhile I need to educate myself on discipline and a 2 year old.... Worked with 5 and 6 year olds for over 10 years at school, but I am finding that the toddler is a different breed!!!!:)

Well I know what mission I will be on tomorrow! I see where they have the monkey backpacks at my Target! Meanwhile I need to educate myself on discipline and a 2 year old.... Worked with 5 and 6 year olds for over 10 years at school, but I am finding that the toddler is a different breed!!!!:)

I have also been having the same problems with my 2 year old little girl...As a matter of fact today while at a craft store there was a few people in front of me in line at the checkout and, I knew that it might be hard to keep her occupied but somehow I managed, but then as soon as I was paying for my items, and the lady in front of me was exiting thorugh the automatic doors, my little girl make a break for the open door....ugh, those automatic doors are helpful, but not for mothers of impatient toddlers! I have been reading a lot of books on toddler discipline as well, and tried a few of the techniques but nothing has really worked (yet at least, we are not giving up...I don't want my child to act like the kids on 'Nanny 911', as a matter of fact I watch that show (while she's napping) on days when I question whether I'm asking too much of her at her young age to be patient, share, not hit, and not run away...just so I feel better about laying the groundwork now before she gets REALLY out of control!) Although I hear that 3 is the true 'terrible' age...I don't really have any advice, but I certainly feel your pain and frustration...it's a very tough job (some days) especially when we are pregnant and can't go sprinting around and need to be careful carrying a flailing tantruming toddler around (our backs are already in enough pain!) I will have to check out this book that you mentioned! Kind of off topic but, for some motherly laughs I recommend the Author: Stefanie Wilder-Taylor... she wrote 2 books (that i'm aware of)...one being 'Sippy Cups Are Not For Chardonnay" (mostly funny realizations of being a new mom) and "Naptime is the New Happy Hour" (about the first year/toddler realizations) I needed a good laugh after putting my toddler to bed and also to help with my pregnancy insomnia that has been surfacing as of late. Good luck, and know that you are certainly not alone in your discipline struggles!

I have also been having the same problems with my 2 year old little girl...As a matter of fact today while at a craft store there was a few people in front of me in line at the checkout and, I knew that it might be hard to keep her occupied but somehow I managed, but then as soon as I was paying for my items, and the lady in front of me was exiting thorugh the automatic doors, my little girl make a break for the open door....ugh, those automatic doors are helpful, but not for mothers of impatient toddlers! I have been reading a lot of books on toddler discipline as well, and tried a few of the techniques but nothing has really worked (yet at least, we are not giving up...I don't want my child to act like the kids on 'Nanny 911', as a matter of fact I watch that show (while she's napping) on days when I question whether I'm asking too much of her at her young age to be patient, share, not hit, and not run away...just so I feel better about laying the groundwork now before she gets REALLY out of control!) Although I hear that 3 is the true 'terrible' age...I don't really have any advice, but I certainly feel your pain and frustration...it's a very tough job (some days) especially when we are pregnant and can't go sprinting around and need to be careful carrying a flailing tantruming toddler around (our backs are already in enough pain!) I will have to check out this book that you mentioned! Kind of off topic but, for some motherly laughs I recommend the Author: Stefanie Wilder-Taylor... she wrote 2 books (that i'm aware of)...one being 'Sippy Cups Are Not For Chardonnay" (mostly funny realizations of being a new mom) and "Naptime is the New Happy Hour" (about the first year/toddler realizations) I needed a good laugh after putting my toddler to bed and also to help with my pregnancy insomnia that has been surfacing as of late. Good luck, and know that you are certainly not alone in your discipline struggles!

Raising a toddler is not easy and can be very frustrating. My toddler tells us no about everything. We are working on it! I say get the harness if it will make you feel better. I think time out is a good option too.

Raising a toddler is not easy and can be very frustrating. My toddler tells us no about everything. We are working on it! I say get the harness if it will make you feel better. I think time out is a good option too.

We have the Eddie Bauer harness from Target. Looks like a regular mini gray and orange backpack that straps around the front but has a strap/leash attachment for parents. We only use it in big crowded places but we don't have a dog either. I always make my DS ride in the basket at stores that have them so it is easier but not sure what I will do when this LO comes. Will be a new experience being a mother of two ;). Good luck. Kids do outgrow the running thing. They are showing their they want to be independent. It is a phase.

We have the Eddie Bauer harness from Target. Looks like a regular mini gray and orange backpack that straps around the front but has a strap/leash attachment for parents. We only use it in big crowded places but we don't have a dog either. I always make my DS ride in the basket at stores that have them so it is easier but not sure what I will do when this LO comes. Will be a new experience being a mother of two ;). Good luck. Kids do outgrow the running thing. They are showing their they want to be independent. It is a phase.

I'm not a fan of the kid harness, however at our stage of pregnancy I say do whatever works for you and keeps you both safe. Perhaps try the harness in the short term while trying to implement some of the positive discipline strategies suggested above eg. Reducing attention, logical consequences, rewards for good behavior. These strategies will work but they will take time, and better to use the harness in the short time for your peace mind.

I'm not a fan of the kid harness, however at our stage of pregnancy I say do whatever works for you and keeps you both safe. Perhaps try the harness in the short term while trying to implement some of the positive discipline strategies suggested above eg. Reducing attention, logical consequences, rewards for good behavior. These strategies will work but they will take time, and better to use the harness in the short time for your peace mind.

I love Your Two Year Old by Ames. Its a great book on development, but it's very dated. It really helps with understanding what your child is capable of and what is developmentally appropriate (although some of those are inappropriate and require some teaching.) She has one for ever year up to 9 and for the pre-teen/early teen years. Kids, Parents and Power Struggles is also great, by Kurchinka. We start talking to our kids about the reality of a car hitting them at a young age. We have had 2 that had a short natural perimeter (wouldn't wander far), 1 that would get easily distracted and wander off and our youngest is our first runner. It's challenging. We talk a lot about staying with your family and he has to hold someone's hand. I love when my 3 year old starts shouting "stay with your family!". If he were my only, I may look into a harness, but if he doesn't want to hold my hand there are other choices. We generally avoid traditional time outs, because they haven't been effective for most of my kids. I think the teaching part needs to happen immediately in situations like that. Keep it short with few words. Also, the change in behavior may take some time. She's only two. One day you will see her standing by you and waiting and think all that work finally paid off. If the harness doesn't work, would a stroller work? I know it can be hard to walk a dog while pushing a stroller.

I love Your Two Year Old by Ames. Its a great book on development, but it's very dated. It really helps with understanding what your child is capable of and what is developmentally appropriate (although some of those are inappropriate and require some teaching.) She has one for ever year up to 9 and for the pre-teen/early teen years. Kids, Parents and Power Struggles is also great, by Kurchinka. We start talking to our kids about the reality of a car hitting them at a young age. We have had 2 that had a short natural perimeter (wouldn't wander far), 1 that would get easily distracted and wander off and our youngest is our first runner. It's challenging. We talk a lot about staying with your family and he has to hold someone's hand. I love when my 3 year old starts shouting "stay with your family!". If he were my only, I may look into a harness, but if he doesn't want to hold my hand there are other choices. We generally avoid traditional time outs, because they haven't been effective for most of my kids. I think the teaching part needs to happen immediately in situations like that. Keep it short with few words. Also, the change in behavior may take some time. She's only two. One day you will see her standing by you and waiting and think all that work finally paid off. If the harness doesn't work, would a stroller work? I know it can be hard to walk a dog while pushing a stroller.

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