tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.comments2015-02-23T11:14:16.735-08:00Nudemuse...daily nattering.Shannon Barberhttps://plus.google.com/100846321432199933896noreply@blogger.comBlogger1963125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-73713225296460499972014-08-05T14:02:24.761-07:002014-08-05T14:02:24.761-07:00Shannon, I love your voice. You have given so muc...Shannon, I love your voice. You have given so much to think about. <br /><br />The reason I came to FA blogs in the first place was because I&#39;ve been living with MS for almost 15 years and I sometimes need to be reminded to be as kind to myself as I would be to my friend. I have found lots of help and kindness on the interwebs but your page has offered me so much more. I have learned so much and I&#39;m so grateful that you have shared yourself so generously.<br /><br />I love the work you do and I will follow you anywhere on the web. Thanks again.<br /><br />Cathy<br /><br />Cathy Boardmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05411972648596741899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-76665088819272944682014-07-29T06:56:07.677-07:002014-07-29T06:56:07.677-07:00I hear you in so many ways!!!
Thank you so much f...I hear you in so many ways!!!<br /><br />Thank you so much for being here. I hope I&#39;ve let you know how much your support has meant to me. <br /><br />If I haven&#39;t I&#39;m sorry. Now&#39;s the time! So best of luck and I&#39;ll be following you. ;-]wriggleshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12373644421447147066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-6392760808734787222014-07-28T17:34:53.974-07:002014-07-28T17:34:53.974-07:00I&#39;m a lurker coming out to say I support your ...I&#39;m a lurker coming out to say I support your move. Change is good. I&#39;ll be following you over on the new site.Guyanese Sistahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17850582041611812862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-84995908735072270892014-07-23T03:55:57.641-07:002014-07-23T03:55:57.641-07:00Feels. No brain. Sick. Less brain.
I love you....Feels. No brain. Sick. Less brain.<br /><br />I love you.<br /><br />You are awesome.<br /><br />Fuck the haters.Suzhttp://utterlyfubar.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-83343464859042669422014-07-22T21:00:44.508-07:002014-07-22T21:00:44.508-07:00love.love.Brighidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14354501759924914930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-27715061402641655512014-07-09T22:37:57.951-07:002014-07-09T22:37:57.951-07:00Ps the red is awesome.Ps the red is awesome.AnAnnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-49624045262681700752014-07-09T22:37:12.245-07:002014-07-09T22:37:12.245-07:00Yeah, I had a family member that was visiting, one...Yeah, I had a family member that was visiting, one who actually has KNOWS how outdoorsy I am, stun me. We agreed to do a hike of about two miles, a place I KNEW and had been to a month before-all of about 2 or so miles, and flat, so you know, super easy in my book; they wanted to see it too. No talk of me feeling sick or anything like that; nothing had changed other than me gaining some since she saw me last year. She starts asking me, alone out of the people in the car, wanting to make sure I could handle doing the hike, cause you know, her and everyone else in the car are so sporty and like. And I pushed back with &quot;why, cause I&#39;m fat?&quot; she gave me the ole, &quot;don&#39;t be that way, be happy!!&quot; Nice to know she thinks I cannot WALK 2 miles.AnAnnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-41940359472090142332014-07-06T18:15:35.186-07:002014-07-06T18:15:35.186-07:00YEAH, it&#39;s totally your hair. P.S. one of the ...YEAH, it&#39;s totally your hair. P.S. one of the best blogs I&#39;ve seen about fatness. Cathy Olliffe-Websterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12729578896443750402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-33087097631649189392014-06-21T21:35:13.619-07:002014-06-21T21:35:13.619-07:00Awesome post Shannon - but hey, aren&#39;t they al...Awesome post Shannon - but hey, aren&#39;t they always!<br /><br />For our new friend, the best advice I can give is to do stuff with friends. Whether that is movement or eating or just self care (a massage, a manicure, a loll about on a beach or a park... that kind of thing.)<br /><br />Nothing makes me feel better than spending time with friends. I surround myself with people who appreciate me and make me feel good about myself. Some friends I go for a walk with them and their dog. Others I go out for a proper breakfast (instead of not eating breakfast and then ending up with a migraine by lunch time). Another likes to go for pedicures with me. Not only do we do stuff that is good for us, but spending time with people is fun AND good for you.<br /><br />And remember - it&#39;s always a process, even for those of us who have been doing this stuff for years.Sleepydumplinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-70102055537427066562014-06-17T21:36:06.854-07:002014-06-17T21:36:06.854-07:00If these people are academics, they could get into...If these people are academics, they could get into no end of trouble for this kind of behavior. <br /><br />Screenshots of the offending passages in both pieces being sent to someone higher in their department may be in order if they insist on ignoring you. <br /><br /><br />&quot;I am tired of having a bunch of different google alerts and methods to find out who and where my work is displayed without my consent or knowledge.&quot; If the quotes are showing up in searches like that, maybe you should contact some academic librarians at the problem schools. I am very much not active, but it sounds like something they might be able to help with. (For example, they might be able to manually add your blog to the Turnitin database.)<br /><br />The following is presented as an example of official academic views on plagiarism. I don&#39;t work for them.<br /><br />http://www.writing.northwestern.edu/avoiding-plagiarism/<br /><br />I am so sorry this is still happening to you.bored_librarianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16144531782594428150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-68227168262526026142014-06-17T18:28:07.614-07:002014-06-17T18:28:07.614-07:00As a disabled deathfattie, my best advice would be...As a disabled deathfattie, my best advice would be to find something you love to do. Something that doesn&#39;t hurt. For me that was swimming. Shannon you give good advice that no matter what someone will be looking at you. But the more you do it, the easier it gets. <br />Mostly love yourself as much as you can. jamie fritzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09657298304729201156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-12436775184552912662014-06-17T16:55:11.680-07:002014-06-17T16:55:11.680-07:00Thank you so much for this post Shannon. It resona...Thank you so much for this post Shannon. It resonated with me deeply. I&#39;m death fat too and disabled and struggle (more so than usual right now) with my heart which is FA to the core, and my head which is still caught up in unhealthy thoughts and habits. <br /><br />I wish I was better at treating myself with the kindness I afford other people. I&#39;m going to put some music on and shake what my mama gave me, as much as I can do.Just me Leahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18304536416614698108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-13903741019021904262014-06-17T16:07:52.033-07:002014-06-17T16:07:52.033-07:00As someone who is &quot;death fat&quot;, I can tel...As someone who is &quot;death fat&quot;, I can tell you it has been a long hard road for me to come to terms with my body and my health. One of the easiest things I started doing was making a conscious effort of how I parked. I started parking one stop further down than I normally would. Then two. Then three. Now I park at the end of the lot and I walk the whole way to where I am going. The thing is to start really small so you don&#39;t get frustrated. Listen to your body and do what you are able. Move for 30 seconds. Next day add 30 seconds. Keep adding 30 seconds every day. It needs to be a slow process with anyone, regardless of body type or health or the like. Helenahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02987885892042340973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-45679041780153102552014-06-16T20:47:31.041-07:002014-06-16T20:47:31.041-07:00That person was so fucking lazy. Your name is at ...That person was so fucking lazy. Your name is at the top of your sidebar and at the bottom of each post. How hard is it?!<br /><br />The reason why I support you is because you don&#39;t use academic speak. I appreciate that so much as I feel like academic speak is designed to leave people out. It&#39;s nice to read someone who speaks to me as a friend would. That&#39;s why I keep coming back. <br /><br />Your words matter! I hate that they keep getting stolen.beatfreakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07930528258333381555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-86586693356528318132014-06-16T20:47:19.223-07:002014-06-16T20:47:19.223-07:00That person was so fucking lazy. Your name is at ...That person was so fucking lazy. Your name is at the top of your sidebar and at the bottom of each post. How hard is it?!<br /><br />The reason why I support you is because you don&#39;t use academic speak. I appreciate that so much as I feel like academic speak is designed to leave people out. It&#39;s nice to read someone who speaks to me as a friend would. That&#39;s why I keep coming back. <br /><br />Your words matter! I hate that they keep getting stolen. beatfreakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07930528258333381555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-25629136791056998182014-06-16T20:02:11.382-07:002014-06-16T20:02:11.382-07:00Yes! I recently had a coworker assume that I want...Yes! I recently had a coworker assume that I wanted to lose weight because I wasn&#39;t skinny. She couldn&#39;t fathom that someone bigger than a size 2 could possibly be happy with themselves. So much face palm. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-7096072139856965292014-06-15T17:00:03.589-07:002014-06-15T17:00:03.589-07:00You are definitely cute. And here is a song for yo...You are definitely cute. And here is a song for you for your upcoming Monday (its already Monday here) to blast on the way to work.<br /><br />Have a great week! regards Tara<br /><br />https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7PCkvCPvDXkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-46129193695430791942014-06-14T18:28:07.078-07:002014-06-14T18:28:07.078-07:00So totes true, and you do look cute. So totes true, and you do look cute. Kathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-60618346058027634182014-06-13T20:03:50.249-07:002014-06-13T20:03:50.249-07:00Yes! Thank you.Yes! Thank you.Tricia Layhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13167358263872856303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-34139063489469593332014-06-10T04:28:54.050-07:002014-06-10T04:28:54.050-07:00Sorry, I meant&#39; to sign off with my name - Tar...Sorry, I meant&#39; to sign off with my name - Tara.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-89477742213156920102014-06-10T04:27:06.540-07:002014-06-10T04:27:06.540-07:00Got it today and downloaded it. Have devoured it. ...Got it today and downloaded it. Have devoured it. Just what I needed to read today as I grapple with a 21 year old son who I had to have removed from our home and I feel like shit. Your compassion shines through your writing and it was as though you were sitting next to me cheering me on. <br /><br />I also jumped up and cleansed my face and applied moisturiser. You are right, it does smell nice on your upper lip.<br /><br />Thank you for your hard work. It has helped calm the raging voice in my head telling me how shit I am. <br /><br />Take care <br />Much Aroha (love) to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-19288783010072997992014-05-29T07:25:09.115-07:002014-05-29T07:25:09.115-07:00I got so angry reading this. The level of entitlem...I got so angry reading this. The level of entitlement #allmen assume they have over women&#39;s bodies is revolting. <br /><br />When men can&#39;t harass with their hands or their voice they find other ways. They grope with their eyes. At work, on the street, they look women up and down, assessing each one, like their estimate of worth means anything. Like it matters. They do it so boldly, almost instinctively. It makes my skin crawl. It makes me want to be invisible.dust daughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10220811427425372509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-46809133585576446222014-05-11T15:11:29.901-07:002014-05-11T15:11:29.901-07:00At the risk of sounding gushy I wanna just say tha...At the risk of sounding gushy I wanna just say that I&#39;ve been reading your blog (all the older stuff too) for the last week and love your feisty self. I also love those vulnerable posts that are so fucking brave and leave me feeling less lonely. This post on white woman hand wringing is fantastic. And as you say, it must get so fucking exhausting being the educator to white angst. I&#39;m glad you say &quot;fuck off&quot;. It truly is the only sane response. <br /><br />I&#39;m so pleased you are out there in the world. Even if it is on the other side from where I come from. <br /><br />And I have to confess that I have appropriated the word &quot;fancy&quot;. Hey, I&#39;m white, whaddya expect? But seriously, I am only just starting to feel Ok at 44 with my fat body, and although nervously I am hoping it lasts and isn&#39;t just a &quot;you go gurl&quot; stage, reading your Fuck It You are Awesome stuff seems to be sticking to those parts of me that have been emerging in the last couple of years. Its like a balm to my battered old self hating soul. And I think I am now truly tired of it. Finally!<br /><br />But enough about ME (sigh, old habits die hard) thanks again for your words, insights, meanderings and musings. You are one fucking AWESOME (yup weird) woman.<br /><br />Now go write something. Jeez, you busy doing your fabulous nails or something.<br /><br />take care<br />TaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-57621405681976095772014-05-02T13:25:37.864-07:002014-05-02T13:25:37.864-07:00I have Asperger&#39;s also (and the shaking and st...I have Asperger&#39;s also (and the shaking and stuff) but I&#39;m asexual, so I have a slightly different perspective. I have been in a really toxic relationship, though, so I can recommend that consent and respect are the most important things ever for feeling comfortable with yourself and your partner. As someone who has a sensory disorder, I also want to say that sometimes you (or your partner) will get annoyed and headache-y by flashing lights or stupid people partying upstairs or that repetitive clicking noise or the cold or WHATEVER and the important thing is to try to adjust for that and not ever say &quot;that&#39;s stupid, I&#39;M not hot/tired/upset/in pain&quot;. So headaches may happen and that is normal and okay and you will be grumpy but you will get over it and it will all be good because your partner will love you even when you are a grump. Regarding intimacy, remember there are lots of things (massages, holding hands, cooking dinner, etc.) that totally count as intimacy but are non-sexual, which is important at all stages of a relationship but especially at the beginning when, as you say, you don&#39;t intend to do the do any time soon. Also remember that kissing is not for everybody, so if you decide you don&#39;t like it then your relationship will not suffer for it! You will find other ways of being physically intimate with your partner, and it will be rad. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6523344.post-33856074597725161192014-04-27T16:21:31.252-07:002014-04-27T16:21:31.252-07:00One tip for B: start small. Hand holding. Kisses o...One tip for B: start small. Hand holding. Kisses on the cheek and kisses on the lips (without tongue) are great places to start. <br /><br />Also one of the biggest things you can discuss with your partner is what kind of touch makes them feel cared for. beatfreakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07930528258333381555noreply@blogger.com