Approach Anxiety

Any help on getting over this? I'm an otherwise confident person, I think of myself as both attractive and interesting and can hold conversation once I get into it, but walking up to someone at random just never seems like a great idea in my head. If I can pinpoint the two things in my head that keep me from randomly walking up to someone is that I can't think of anything to open with (the idea of canned lines doesn't agree with me) and don't want to feel fake. After that, I suppose a minor concern is how to segue into decent conversation.

Well when guys try to approach me, it's usually "Hey how are you?", "You from around here?" which leads to "Oh? How long you been living there? I don't think I've seen you around before" and then... "Well my name is so and so. What's yours?" ect.

Any help on getting over this? I'm an otherwise confident person, I think of myself as both attractive and interesting and can hold conversation once I get into it, but walking up to someone at random just never seems like a great idea in my head. If I can pinpoint the two things in my head that keep me from randomly walking up to someone is that I can't think of anything to open with (the idea of canned lines doesn't agree with me) and don't want to feel fake. After that, I suppose a minor concern is how to segue into decent conversation.

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I used to be the same way. It's just like anything else in that you have to practice. Try talking to all sorts of people- dudes, fatties, grandmas- not just girls you want to pick up. You'll get comfortable enough with it eventually and then it will just feel natural.

I used to be the same way. It's just like anything else in that you have to practice. Try talking to all sorts of people- dudes, fatties, grandmas- not just girls you want to pick up. You'll get comfortable enough with it eventually and then it will just feel natural.

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2nded.

Force yourself to start talking to the grandma at the grocery check out and everyone else, and it will get easier faster.

Well when guys try to approach me, it's usually "Hey how are you?", "You from around here?" which leads to "Oh? How long you been living there? I don't think I've seen you around before" and then... "Well my name is so and so. What's yours?" ect.

I used to be the same way. It's just like anything else in that you have to practice. Try talking to all sorts of people- dudes, fatties, grandmas- not just girls you want to pick up. You'll get comfortable enough with it eventually and then it will just feel natural.

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I need to do this. I'm getting frustrated trying to approach people. Its like I want to approach I girl I see out but its like someone is holding me by the back of my shirt.

i've been trying to talk to people alot more when I'm out and i think the practice is paying off. I'm less nervous when i walk up to people now and it takes less effort to start a conversation. I still need a good amount of alcohol to approach girls though I hit on hipster chicks all the time and my best line so far has been "ZOMG you look like Zooey Deschanel" they go bonkers

eh, mine isn't so much. I can deal with getting turned down, just can't figure out how to get things started. Right now I rely too heavily on someone coming up to me or someone in my group initiating. terrible.

You need to create and patent (and give me a cut of it for the idea) a talking drawstring doll that is small enough to fit into pockets of approach anxiety guys everywhere. They just have to pull the string whenever they start thinking longer than 4 seconds about approaching anyone to listen to your awesome way of putting advice into words they will never reason to otherwise.

You need to create and patent (and give me a cut of it for the idea) a talking drawstring doll that is small enough to fit into pockets of approach anxiety guys everywhere. They just have to pull the string whenever they start thinking longer than 4 seconds about approaching anyone to listen to your awesome way of putting advice into words they will never reason to otherwise.

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Not to mention the conversation potential of holding a pocket drawstring doll in the middle of a bar

I got over mine by doing it in places where I knew I'd never see the girls again (not because it actually matered, but for my own stupid mind fuck) such as out of town clubs/parties and on the cruises I went on. I still get it, and a lot of times I have to tell myself to grow a pair still.

I pitty people who cant be social with out alcohol, though, so make sure to practice sober too.

I got over mine by doing it in places where I knew I'd never see the girls again (not because it actually matered, but for my own stupid mind fuck) such as out of town clubs/parties and on the cruises I went on. I still get it, and a lot of times I have to tell myself to grow a pair still.

I pitty people who cant be social with out alcohol, though, so make sure to practice sober too.

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Alcohol doesn't help me it hinders. I prefer my mind sharp.

I think that you give solid advice. I'm a traveller for work, and I always find it easier when I'm in another city for some reason. Probably just too comfortable at home.

I used to be the same way. It's just like anything else in that you have to practice. Try talking to all sorts of people- dudes, fatties, grandmas- not just girls you want to pick up. You'll get comfortable enough with it eventually and then it will just feel natural.

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This and stop letting your roomie turn on the charm to a group of girls.

You're hot and you have a nice smile. Have you ever considered smiling at the ladies and using more body language to start off?