So, hypothetically, if you had a girlfriend but you had a few trust issues, not big ones but you got jealous of other guys liking her fairly easily. There's one guy who you really have a thing about - he's confessed to being in love with your girlfriend and you're always suspicious that she likes him back, however much she reassures you they're just friends.

She eventually breaks up with you for no real reason, perhaps she just needs some timeoff, says she really likes you but feels it's too serious too young and thinks you could get back together in the future. At some point you hear that she's started seeing this guy you had a thing about, confirming all your worst suspicions.

After a while they break up and she comes back to you really upset, says she made the worst mistake of her life, that she'd gone out with him because it was something she'd always have wondered about otherwise but that being with him made her realise how much she loved you and how perfect you were together, etc. Genuinely distraught.

Difficult one as its hard to put oneself in this situation if you are not in it youself. Personally if i still had strong feelings for her and wouldnt mind trying to work on the relationship i think it would suggest taking it slowly and seeing how things pan out, my main issue would be that she would hurt me again i think, but i guess if the feelings were strong enough it may over rule that.

As your in this situation in guessing and its not hypothtical i think you are the only person that can actually say if you take her back and it could work, we dont know your feelings so we cant really say what you should do.

(Original post by Anonymous)
So, hypothetically, if you had a girlfriend but you had a few trust issues, not big ones but you got jealous of other guys liking her fairly easily. There's one guy who you really have a thing about - he's confessed to being in love with your girlfriend and you're always suspicious that she likes him back, however much she reassures you they're just friends.

She eventually breaks up with you for no real reason, perhaps she just needs some timeoff, says she really likes you but feels it's too serious too young and thinks you could get back together in the future. At some point you hear that she's started seeing this guy you had a thing about, confirming all your worst suspicions.

After a while they break up and she comes back to you really upset, says she made the worst mistake of her life, that she'd gone out with him because it was something she'd always have wondered about otherwise but that being with him made her realise how much she loved you and how perfect you were together, etc. Genuinely distraught.

I might take her back. But on probation, and would make sure that if she made any more mistakes in short order then she would be out of the door. It would take a long time for me to rust her again after that.

Keep in mind she could always go back to him, especially if he's in love with her he might persuade her to. Or she might even still see him behind your back. It's a hard one.. if you really love her you can give her another chance because she might have made a stupid mistake. Go with your gut instinct.

tough as she didn't cheat on you per se, although the initial reason for the breakage was pretty untruthful - the bottom line is that any relationship is built on trust, if you don't have trust you don't have anything else.