THIS SAMPLE 12 STEP AND 12 TRADITION ANONYMOUS PROGRAM TELEPHONE FORMAT MAY BE USED AS IS OR MAY BE TAILORED AS NEEDED TO SUIT MOST 12 STEP FELLOWSHIP’S INDIVIDUALIZED NEEDS it is based on the Alcoholics Anonymous Program from which so many other 12 step and 12 tradition anonymous fellowships blossomed.

(This is for information about how to get a phone conference line and is not part of the meeting format. 12 Step Anonymous groups may establish their own conference call line by searching on line for a free service for the conference i.e. Callers may check with their long distance company to find out if their plan covers long distance calls to this conference line or if any extra charges may apply. You may request a special conference ID number, moderator code, user name and password that is easy for you or the fellowship to remember. People using Skype may participate. You may request a line that has a very high capacity to handle many callers at once. They offer the moderator the ability to moderate the meeting by the phone and online by computer. Other companies offer conference calling services and may be set up through the internet.)

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(Note for the Meeting Leader only:

Information inside a parenthesis is an instruction only for the group leader to read to him or her self and is not part of the format to be read out loud to the group. It is suggested that meeting leaders whenever possible, receive some training or instruction about how to run the meeting and thoroughly read through the format and familiarize themselves with it before leading a meeting for the first time. This preparation will help the meeting leader may feel more comfortable and know what to expect and the meeting may flow much more smoothly.)

(Note for the Meeting Leader only: This format may be used for a one – two hour meeting. For the shorter meetings the meeting leader may limit the number of shares and announcements and / or limit the number of topics to be covered to the most essential ones which include the steps and traditions and to other topics relevant to your meetings focus. Please be mindful of the time allotted for your meeting and chose topics and number of shares on each topic accordingly.)

Format for the ______________________________

(Note to Leader Only: Please repeat instructions on how to mute and un-mute the conference call line at the start of the meeting and then again periodically through out the meeting so new callers will know how to participate in sharing. Leaders may mute the line to clear static as needed or if some one is inappropriately disrupting the meeting and refusing to refrain from this behavior. If callers are able to download a copy of the meeting format from the internet then the leader may ask the callers if they would like to share in the reading of the passages and the steps, traditions, principles, tools etc. The leader may repeat their own name before sharing or before beginning to read long passages after many other callers shared.

The leader may announce the format page number found on the bottom of the page that a particular reading can be found on when asking for volunteers to read some passage since the members will have access to view the formats on line or download them.)

INTRODUCTION:

“Welcome to the __________________12 Step and 12 Traditions Anonymous Program,

Hello and welcome to all. My name is ____________

“Thank you for allowing me to lead this meeting today.”

“Will all those who wish to please join in the Serenity Prayer to open this meeting.”

“Is there anyone on the line who would like to lead us in the Serenity Prayer after a moment of silence for those left out and still suffering from ___________?

Please introduce yourself first name only”

(If no one volunteers after a brief pause the leader will lead the Prayer)

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference!”

Thanks everyone for joining in and for just being here for each other.

Please spread the word about our fellowship to fellow sufferers.

You may make a copy of this format or just follow along. The format is very long. You may print out the entire format or just the sections you would like.

(NOTE TO THE MEETING LEADER: From time to time you may want to say what page on this format you are on in order for people to follow along and/or you may state where the related passages may be found in your fellowship books.)

Please help this fellowship grow by providing service and outreach.

(OPTIONAL) UNITY WITH DIVERSITY POLICY:

“As we extend the heart and hand of fellowship to those who still suffer from ___________, let us be mindful of ___________________Anonymous Unity with Diversity Policy, which respects our differences, yet unites us in the solutions to our common problems. Whatever your experience with _____________ you are welcome at this meeting.

Are there any other people seeking _____________and to refrain from___________ here, besides myself? If so, please feel free to introduce your self, first names only and please give a one to two word description so we may distinguish you from other callers with the same name so we can welcome you!

(Optional): Callers may share their name, phone number, time zone and best time to call (optional: and long distance carrier) after their shares. Please speak slowly and clearly so people can have a chance to write down your contact information. Sharing contact information is completely optional. Please feel free to leave your information or not. There is no requirement to use your real first name. You may choose to use a screen name or a nick name if you would like to remain anonymous.

(Optional): Before we start, I would like request a volunteer who would be willing to take down people’s names and contact information of members sharing this information. The contact information may be repeated back at the end of this meeting for those who missed the chance to write the number down quickly enough.

If a volunteer comes forward say “Thank you ________ for your service to the fellowship.”

At the end of each meeting we will allow 10 minutes before closing for our volunteer to repeat the caller’s names and telephone numbers that were shared during the meeting.

Optional: We will leave some time for fellowship and questions after the meeting.

Would anyone like to volunteer to read the Preamble of _____________________ Anonymous? (If no one volunteers the leader may read the passage.

_____________ Anonymous PREAMBLE:

____________ Anonymous is a fellowship of individuals who through shared experience, strength and hope, are recovering from ____________.

We welcome anyone who wants to live free from their compulsive behavior.

There are no dues or fees for members; we are self supporting through our own contributions, neither soliciting nor accepting outside donations.

____________ Anonymous is not affiliated with any public or private organization, political movement, ideology or religious doctrine; we take no position on outside issues.

Our primary purpose is to abstain from violence and to carry this message of recovery to those who still suffer.”

Thanks.

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Group Guidelines:

As a Group, we ask all to refrain from cross talk. CROSS TALK in___________________ (Name of your Fellowship) meetings is giving advice to others who already shared, speaking directly to another member rather than to the group, and questioning or interrupting the person speaking at the time. Although the intent may be to show support, such comments may be misinterpreted. We appreciate no advice giving or cross talk.

“We ask everyone to respect our group conscience. The chair of each meeting should have the discretion to suggest to anyone sharing that he or she has gotten of topic or is speaking too long. This meeting asks that you accept this suggestion in order to keep the meeting on track.

Please refrain from comments that might offend or harm anyone. We want to refrain from triggering discord in our fellowship.”

(Optional): NEW-COMER GREETER.

We are seeking the service of New-comer Greeters. Please announce your name and phone number, time zone and best time to call if you would like to volunteer to accept calls from new comers. The person willing to be the New comer greeter may indicate in their share the duration of time you are willing to provide this service i.e. for 1 hour after the meeting, all day today or as needed.

New comers may write down the contact information of the new comer greeter to call after the meeting if you would like.

Are there any available _____________ (Name of your fellowship) sponsors on the line? ( If so please give your name and contact information now or after sharing later in the meeting. )

Anyone needing a sponsor our outreach calls may say so at the end of their shares during the meeting and provide your contact information at that time.

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(OPTIONAL): The Steps and Traditions, Principles, the tools and format of this fellowship has been based upon the tried and true program of recovery as found in Alcoholics Anonymous, Over-Eaters Anonymous, Nicotine Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous and Gamblers Anonymous and the other 12 Step and 12 Tradition Fellowship Programs helping millions of compulsive individuals around the world each day.

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NOTE TO THE LEADER ONLY: Depending on the amount of time you have to devote to the steps and traditions in your meeting you may pick from one of the following choices:

1) The Meeting leader (or a volunteer) may quickly read through all of the steps and traditions at once and then choose one option:

a) not ask for sharing about them.

b) ask for sharing after hearing all of the steps

c) ask for sharing after hearing all of the traditions.

2) The Meeting Leader (or a Volunteer) may slowly read through the Steps and Traditions calling for shares about each and every step and each and every tradition individually before moving on to the next one. People may share about how they use the step and tradition in their recovery.

The 12 Steps of ___________________:

“Hi, I’m ____________, a ____________ (a one or two word description of yourself)

Optional: Would anyone like to read the 12 steps of __________ Anonymous?

If no one responds: The meeting leaders may say:

“I’ll be happy to read The 12 Steps of ____________ Anonymous fellowship.”

The 12 Steps of ___________________Anonymous are:

1) Admit we were powerless over ____________- that our lives and our world became unmanageable.

2) Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3) Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God/Higher Power as we understood Him.

4) Made a Searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5) Admitted to God/Higher Power, to ourselves and to another Human Being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6) Were entirely ready to have God/Higher Power remove all these defects of character.

7) Humbly ask God/ Higher Power to remove our shortcomings.

8) Made a list of all the persons we have harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9) Made direct amends to such people whenever possible except when to do so will injure them or others.

10) Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11) Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God/Higher Power as we understand Him.

12) Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to other people and to practice these principals in all our affairs.

“Would anyone like to share on any of these steps?

Please state your first name only and a one or two word description to distinguish yourself.”

“We have approximately _________ minutes available for some short ____ minute shares on the steps. Would any one like to share about any of the steps at this time?”

(Reminders: Please welcome all speakers and thank any speaker for sharing.)

“Ok, thanks to everyone for sharing about or listening to the 12 steps of our fellowship!”

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The 12 Traditions:

“Hi, I’m ____________, ____________ (a one or two word description for yourself)

Would anyone like to read the 12 steps of __________ Anonymous?

If no one responds: The meeting leaders may say:

“Hi, I’m ____________, a ____________ (one or two word description of yourself) I’ll be happy to read The 12 Traditions ___________________ Anonymous.

Please feel free to share on any tradition after it is read.

There may be a brief pause after each tradition to allow you time for sharing on that tradition.”)

2) For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as he may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

3) The only requirement for _______________Anonymous membership is a desire to abstain from ______________compulsive behavior.

4) Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or _____________Anonymous as a whole.

5) Each group has but one primary purpose – to carry its message to the person who still suffers.

6) A(n) ______________Anonymous group aught never endorse, finance or lend the ___________ Anonymous name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.

8) _______________ Anonymous should remain forever non professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

9) ________________Anonymous, as such, ought never to be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

10) ______________ Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the __________ Anonymous name ought never to be drawn into public controversy.

11) Our public relations policy is based upon attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films television and other public media of communication.

12) ______________ Anonymous is the spiritual foundation of all these traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

“Would anyone like to share on any of these Traditions of the __________________Anonymous fellowship?”

“We have time to allow approximately 10 -15 minutes for a few 3-5 minute shares on the traditions if you would like to share.

(Reminder: Please welcome all speakers and thank any speaker for sharing.)

“Ok, thanks to everyone for sharing about or listening to the 12 traditions of our fellowship!

Please allow me to take a minute to welcome any new callers to the _______________________ Anonymous Phone meeting today. My name is ___________, ________. Thank you for allowing me to lead this meeting today. Welcome everyone, once again!

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Many fellows have said “But I am too weak. I’ll never make it!”

Don’t worry, we have all thought and said the same thing. The amazing secret to the success of this program is just that: weakness. It is weakness, not strength, that binds us to each other and to a higher power and somehow gives us the ability to do what we can not do alone.

If you decide you are one of us, we welcome you with open arms. Whatever your circumstances, we offer you the gift of acceptance. You are not alone anymore. Welcome to _____________Anonymous. Welcome Home!

(Optional): Would anyone like to share on this paragraph?

TOOLS:

Welcome, I’m ___________ a _______.

To help us in our recovery from compulsive ______________ behavior there are 12 tools of recovery we use in __________________Anonymous fellowship.”

(NOTE TO THE MEETING LEADER ONLY: Depending on how much time you have available in your meeting to discuss the tools, you may pick from one of the following choices:

1) The leader may skip through reading the detailed description of the tools altogether.

2) The leader may chose to or not to ask for a brief or detailed sharing about one or more of the tools.

3) The leader or volunteer(s) may read each of the passages out loud or:

4) Volunteers may be called upon to summarize either each of the tools in their own words explain how it may have been used by them to help them in their recovery process.

5) People may share upon which is their favorite or least favorite tool and why etc.)

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The Tools of the program are:

1) Meetings

2) Telephone Calls

3) Literature

4) Writing

5) ABSTINENCE

6) Sponsorship

7) A Daily Plan

8) An Action Plan

9) Anonymity

10) Service

11) Phone Buddies

12) Ecological Sustainability

TOOL #1: MEETINGS

Meetings are gatherings of two or more people who come together to share their personal experiences and the strength and hope ____________ Anonymous has given them. There are many types of meeting, but fellowship with others is the basis of them all.

Meetings give us an opportunity to identify our common problem, confirm our common solution through the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions and share the gifts we receive through this program.

Phone meetings, face to face meetings and online meetings are useful in breaking down the isolation caused by distance, illness or physical challenge.

Optional: “Would any one like to share on the tool of meetings for ___ minutes?

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

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TOOL # 2: TELEPHONE CALLS

Hi, I’m_________ a _________

Member to member contact helps us share on a one –to- one basis and avoid the isolation that is so common among us. Many members call, text or email their sponsors, and other ______________ Anonymous members daily. As a part of the surrender process, these tools help us learn to reach out and ask for help and extend help to others. Telephone or e-mails provide an immediate outlet for those hard to handle highs and lows we may experience. Members should respect anonymity when leaving any types of voice or e-mail message. Members are encouraged to call their sponsors and three other members daily to reinforce their program. Outreach calls may carry the message of recovery to members in relapse.

Optional: “Would any one like to share on the tool of telephone calls?”

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

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TOOL # 3: LITERATURE

We may read ______________ Anonymous literature and that of the other 12 step anonymous programs to get a better understanding of how to work the program and how to overcome our addictive behaviors that lead to self destruction and isolation.

Suggested readings are The Big Book of AA, The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of A. A. Overeaters Anonymous, and The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions Of O.A.

All of our literature provides insights into our problem with __________, the strength to deal with it and the very real hope that there is a solution for us.

Optional: “Would any one like to share on the tool of literature?”

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

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TOOL # 4: WRITINGS

In addition to writing our inventories and the list of people we have harmed, most of us have found that writing has been an indispensible tool for working the Steps. Further, putting our thoughts and feelings down on paper, or describing a troubling incident, helps us to better understand our actions and reactions in a way that is often not revealed to us by simply thinking or talking about them. In the past, compulsive ________________ was our most common reaction to life. When we put our difficulties down on paper, it becomes easier to see situations more clearly and perhaps better discern any necessary actions.

Optional: “Members may write and submit articles of your experiences and successes with the program and send them to: _________.

“Would any one like to share on the tool of writing for __ minutes?

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

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TOOL #5: ABSTINENCE

In _____________________ Anonymous, abstinence is “the action of refraining from compulsive _____________________.”

Would anyone like to share on the tool of Abstinence?

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

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TOOL # 6: SPONSORSHIP

In _________________ Anonymous sponsors are members who are living the Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions to the best of their ability.

Sponsors are willing to share their recovery with other members of the Fellowship and are committed to abstinence from _____________.

We ask a sponsor to help us through our program of recovery on all three levels; physical, emotional and spiritual.

By working with other ____________Anonymous members and sharing their experience, strength and hope, sponsors continually renew and affirm their own recovery.

Sponsors share their program up to the level of their own experience.

Ours is a program of attraction, find a sponsor who has what you want and ask that person how he or she is achieving it.

A member may work with more than one sponsor and may change sponsors at will. However many of us chose to work with just one sponsor.

A sponsor will take the sponsee through the steps of the program however the sponsor should not be mistaken for a professional psychotherapist. The sponsor does not provide psychotherapy or other professional mental health services to the sponsee.

To keep our program, we need to give it away. Through sponsorship, the meaning of this statement becomes clear. It is in the sharing of our experience, strength and hope that we renew and reaffirm our own recovery. We realize the greatest benefit – the greatest joy- is reaching out…doing together what we could never do alone!

Being a sponsor benefits the sponsor as well as being vital to the success of the sponsee. Serving as a sponsor helps reinforce our physical, emotional and spiritual recovery. It also provides an opportunity to strengthen our relationship skills, both with another human being and with our Higher Power. Sponsoring keeps us from isolating and teaches us how to support another human being seeking recovery.

Sponsoring keeps us in touch with what brought us to the program and can also remind us where we might return.

As we give back what we were given we strengthen our group and the Fellowship as a whole.

A sponsor may decline to sponsor any sponsee and may release their sponsee or sponsees at will. It is recommended that this be done as gently, allowing for some time for the sponsee to find a new sponsor whenever possible.

Optional: Would any one like to share on the tool of Sponsorship?

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A STEP UP CEREMONY is when a sponsee completes at least 30 days of abstinence from _____________ and has taken the first three steps of the program. When the sponsor and the sponsee feel the sponsee is ready to share the program a private step up ceremony is held where the sponsee and the sponsor review what the sponsee has learned and the sponsee is stepped up to be a sponsor. Now the sponsee may share the program to the best of his or her ability with others in need of a sponsor. A sponsor may continue to have a sponsor of his or her own while sponsoring others. Another term for a sponsee is a B.A.B.Y. Which stands for be a better you!

Optional: Would anyone like to share on the importance of a step up ceremony?

“I thank you for their share and for listening.

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TOOL # 7: A DAILY PLAN Of _____________

As a tool a plan helps us abstain from ____________, and guides us in our daily decisions. It defines what, when, how, where and why we relate with others the way we do.

There are no specific requirements for a plan of abstinence from _____________. ____________ Anonymous does not recommend any one plan, nor does it exclude the personal use of one. Each of us develops a personal plan based on an honest appraisal of his or her past experience. Many of us find it essential to take guidance from our sponsors to develop a plan.

Although individual plans of _________ are as varied as our members, most _________________Anonymous members agree that some plan – no matter how flexible or structured – is necessary.

This tool helps us deal with the physical, emotional and spiritual aspect of ___________. From this vantage point, we can more effectively follow ____________ Anonymous 12 Step program of recovery and move beyond addiction to a healthier and more spiritual life.

Optional: Would anyone like to share on the tool of having a _________ plan?

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

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TOOL #8: AN ACTION PLAN

An action plan is the process of identifying and implementing attainable actions, both daily and long term that are necessary to support our individual abstinence from fighting and violence, emotional, spiritual and physical recovery. While the plan is ours, tailored to our own recovery process, most of us find it important to work with a sponsor, fellow _________ Anonymous member and /or an appropriate professional to help us create it. This tool, like our plan of _______ may vary widely among members and may need to be adjusted as we progress in our recovery.

For example newcomers may begin with abstaining from behaviors that they know may trigger a slip or binge. We may seek ways to effectively compromise and find win – win solutions to situations.

Some of us may need an action plan that includes meditation and relaxation or provides strategies for balancing work, personal interactions with family and friends, and our program.

Other ______________Anonymous members may need to organize their home, deal with their finances; address health issues and ecological sustainability in an effort to promote peaceful interactions. Other members may seek to plan events, take actions and begin to advocate to further peace initiatives in their family, work place, community, country, government or on a global level.

Along with working the Steps on a daily basis, an action plan may incorporate use of the other _____________ Anonymous tools to bring structure, balance and manageability into our lives. As we use this tool, we find that we develop a feeling of serenity and continue to grow emotionally and spiritually while we make measurable progress one day at a time.

Would anyone like to share on the tool of having an action plan?

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

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TOOL # 9: ANONYMITY

Anonymity refers to who you hear here and what you hear here stays here. You may share a message but not the messenger.

Anonymity, referred to in Traditions 11 and 12, is a tool that

Guarantees we will place principles before personalities. The protection of anonymity offers each of us freedom of expression and safeguards us from gossip.

Anonymity assures is that only we, as individual ___________Anonymous members, have the right to make our membership known within our community.

Anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television and other public media of communication means that we never allow our faces or last names to be used once we identify ourselves as _____________________Anonymous Members. This protects both the individual and the fellowship.

Within the fellowship anonymity means whatever we share with another ____________ anonymous member will be held in respect and confidence.

Would any one like to share on the tool of anonymity?

Thanks for sharing and listening about the tool of anonymity.

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TOOL # 10: SERVICE

Service is any action no matter haw big or small that helps strengthen the fellowship and __________ Anonymous members.

Would anyone like to give some examples of service to the fellowship?

Thanks for sharing and listening about the tool of service to the fellowship.

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Optional TOOL # 11: PHONE BUDDIES

Phone Buddies is where two members may co-sponsor each other. Neither is the Sponsee or the sponsor. They may call each other each day and discuss the tools of their program and share their experiences in their effort to live peacefully.

“I thank callers for their share and for listening.”

TOOL # 12: ECOLOGICAL SUSTAINABILITY

AN AWARENESS OF HOW OUR ADDICTIONS MAY BE IMPACTING ON OUR SUSTAINABILITY

Ecological Sustainability is to reduce your ecological footprint on the environment and harm to ourselves.

Would any one like to share on the relationship between successfully modifying our behaviors in consideration of ecological sustainability and success at our efforts at recovery?

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Would any one else like to share on any of these tools?

If there are no more shares about the tools we will move on to the 12 Principles of _______________ Anonymous.

The 12 Principles of _________________________ Anonymous.

The principles of the program are based on the essential element of each of the 12 steps of the fellowship.

PRINCIPLE # 1: HONESTY

PRINCIPLE # 2: HOPE

PRINCIPLE # 3: FAITH

PRINCIPLE # 4: COURAGE

PRINCIPLE # 5: INTEGRITY

PRINCIPLE # 6: WILLINGNESS

PRINCIPLE # 7: HUMILITY

PRINCIPLE # 8: COURAGE

PRINCIPLE # 9: RESPONSIBILITY

PRINCIPLE # 10: SELF DISCIPLINE

PRINCIPLE # 11: SPIRITUAL AWARENESS

PRINCIPLE # 12: FELLOWSHIP

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We will now open the line for shares.

Please reflect on how to incorporate the 12 principles ____________ Anonymous into your life. You may also share about your struggles with attaining them.

GUIDELINES FOR SHARING:

“Some suggested guidelines for sharing at this meeting are: As you share your experiences and strength in _________________Anonymous also share your hope.

Please confine your sharing to your own experience with the disease of compulsive _____________. Provide a positive reinforcement of the program.

Please share the solutions offered by __________ Anonymous and your recovery from the disease rather than just recounting the events of the day.

If you have difficulties, share how you may use the program to deal with them. If you need to talk more to about your difficulties and seek solutions, we suggest you speak to your sponsor and other members after the meeting.”

NO CROSS TALK:

Please allow me to remind you that there is no cross talk or advice giving during shares.

Optional: Please refrain from triggers for tensions by refraining from referring to ___________ or _______. Please feel free to share on your recovery aspirations and ideas for ___ minutes.

Sharing may continue for ____ minutes. Would any one like to perform the service of sharing? Please feel free to share.

You may go to www.164andmore.com/words/acceptance.htm to find all references to acceptance in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and the AA 12/12. Any word may searched for any substituting the desired word for the word acceptance in the website listed above.

“Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes.

Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?”

Selfish

• Not seeing others point of view, problems or needs

• Wanting things my way

• Wanting special treatment

• Wanting others to meet my needs – dependence

• Wanting what others have

• Wanting to control–dominance

• Thinking I’m better–grandiosity

• Wanting to be the best

• Thinking others are jealous

• Wanting others to be like me

• Being miserly, possessive

• Wanting more than my share

• Reacting from self loathing, self righteousness

• Too concerned about me

• Not trying to be a friend

• Wanting to look good or be liked

• Concerned only with my needs

Dishonest

• Not seeing or admitting where I was at fault

• Having a superior attitude – thinking I’m better

• Blaming others for my problems

• Not admitting I’ve done the same thing

• Not expressing feelings or ideas

• Not being clear about motives

• Lying, cheating, stealing

• Hiding reality–not facing facts

• Stubbornly holding on to inaccurate beliefs

• Breaking rules

• Lying to myself

• Exaggerating, minimalizing

• Setting myself up to be “wronged”

• Expecting others to be what they are not

• Being perfectionist

Self Seeking

• Manipulating others to do my will

• Putting others down internally or externally to build me up

• Engaging in character assassination

• Acting superior

• Acting to fill a void

• Engaging in gluttony or lusting at the expense of another

• Ignoring others’ needs

• Trying to control others

• Getting revenge when I don’t get what I want

• Holding resentment

• Acting to make me feel good

Frightened (of)

• Peoples’ opinions

• Rejection, abandonment

• Loneliness

• Physical injury, abuse

• Not being able to control or change someone

• My inferiority, inadequacy

• Criticism

• Expressing ideas or feelings

• Getting trapped

• Exposure, embarrassment

I would kike to thank everyone who just shared.

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“We encourage you to:

-get a sponsor to help guide your recovery;

-develop a plan of _________, a _________ action plan and if you wish write it down and report it daily to your sponsor.

Read _________________ Anonymous literature and AA, OA, NA, GA etc approved literature to develop a working knowledge of the 12 Steps and the Twelve Traditions.

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Would anyone like to read “Just for Today”?

JUST FOR TODAY:

Just for today I will be happy. This assumes what Abraham Lincoln said is true: ‘Most folks are about as happy as they make their mind up to be.’ Happiness comes from within; it is not a matter of externals.

Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is; not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.

Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse or neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.

Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought, and concentration.

Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do someone a good turn and not get found out. I will do at least two chores I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise.

Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, speak diplomatically, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything, and not try to regulate or improve anyone.

Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime.

Just for today I will have a program. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests: hurrying and indecision.

Just for today I will have a quiet half hour by myself and relax. In this half hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.

Just for today I will be unafraid. Particularly, I will be unafraid to be happy; to enjoy what is beautiful; to love; and to believe that those I love, love me.

Are there any ______________ Anonymous related announcements at this time?

Does any one else have any other ___________ Anonymous related announcements?

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SOME OPTIONAL STANDARD ANNOUNCEMENTS:

A CALL OUT TO AVAILABLE SPONSORS:

I would like to announce that any sponsors available to sponsor may announce their name and contact information including your time zone and the best time to call.

OPTIONAL: You are free to provide a short share about yourself so any available sponsors may get a sense of you to determine if they feel that you both would connect well and form a positive sponsor-sponsee rapport.

Is there anyone on the line at this time willing and available to sponsor anyone new at this time? If so you may share your contact information at this time.

A CALL OUT TO THOSE NEEDING A SPONSOR:

I would like to announce that any one needing a sponsor may announce their name and contact information including your time zone and the best time to call.

OPTIONAL: You are free to provide a short share about yourself so any needing a sponsor may get a sense of you to determine if they feel that you both would connect well and form a positive sponsor-sponsee rapport.

Is there anyone on the line at this time willing and available to sponsor anyone new at this time? If so you may share your contact information at this time.

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A CALL OUT TO THOSE WISHING TO BE A PHONE BUDDY:

I would like to announce that if any one needing a phone buddy or willing to be a phone buddy may announce their name and contact information including your time zone and the best time to call at this time.

You are free to provide a short share about yourself so any available _________anonymous member may get a sense of you to determine if they feel that you both would connect well and form a positive phone buddy rapport.

Is there anyone on the line at this time willing and available to be a phone buddy with anyone new at this time? If so you may share your contact information at this time.

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A CALL OUT TO THOSE SEEKING OUTREACH CALLS:

If anyone wants outreach calls please leave your name and contact information at this time.

BUSINESS MEETINGS:

A business meeting for this meeting will be held every ____________ for ____________ long.

REQUEST FOR SERVICE TO THIS MEETING OR TO THE ______________ ANONYMOUS FELLOWSHIP:

The following service positions are needed to be filled: ____________, ___________. Anyone interested in providing a service may volunteer at this time or after the meeting.

Are there any other _________________ Anonymous related announcements at this time?

Final call for announcements.

Since there are no more announcements we will move on.

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(Note to the Leader: You may inform members how to send in a 7th Tradition contribution if your meeting has a process to collect, record and keep tract of the funds and expenses.

Many telephone meetings do not collect a financial contribution since there is often no expense for rent or for the conference call. Many meetings suggest members may service, give double at their next face to face meeting or to their world service office. However if your fellowship needs support to develop literature and resources you may wish to collect a 7th tradition voluntary donation.)

The 7th Tradition:

“According to our Seventh Tradition, “we are self supporting through our own contributions.” We recommend you provide service to help our fellowship continue to take root and grow through participation in our program. ________ never requires a contribution. Members may attend meetings for free as long as they like. However we have found that no matter how small a financial contribution supports our recovery. You may ask yourself “How much is your recovery worth to you? Since our phone meeting does not have expenses we do not collect a 7thtradition at this meeting. We suggest you give double at your next face to face meeting or you may send your contribution directly to the world service office

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(If this is a literature meeting the leader may suggest a reading from a fellowship approved reading or may ask for a recommendation for the passages to be read out loud to the group then shared upon. The leader may quantify how much time in the meeting is available for reading and sharing about the literature selected. Volunteers may read as much of the literature as you would like or a specified amount may be suggested.)

We are now nearing the close of the meeting. We will take the last 10 minutes for the repeating of contact information that may have been missed during the meeting or for additional sharing of contact information..

Will __________ , our contact recorder please read all the contact numbers back if possible?

“In closing I would like to say by following the Twelve Steps, and the 12 traditions, adhering to the 12 principles, attending meetings regularly and using ___________ Anonymous tools thousands may change their lives. We offer hope and encouragement. To the newcomer, we suggest attending at least 6 different meetings before deciding ____________Anonymous is for you.

The opinions expressed here today are those of individual ____________ Anonymous members and do not represent ____________ Anonymous as a whole.

Please remember your commitment to honor each others’ anonymity.

What you hear here, whom you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here in our tradition of anonymity.”

Let us all reach out by phone or e-mail to newcomers, returning members and each other. Together we bet better. Together we can build peace on Earth.

Let there be peace on Earth and let it begin with me.

“Thank you for allowing me to be the leader of this meeting.”

Keep coming back. It works if you work it. Work it your worth it. Please spread the word and invite others to participate in the fellowship.

Please coming back, it works if you work it. Work it we are worth it! Remember you may take what you like from this program and leave the rest.

OPTIONAL: Anyone having any questions or wanting fellowship may stay on the line after this meeting for open questions and answers and discussion.

Once again, my name is_____________ a _________;

Would anyone like to do the honors of closing our meeting by leading the group in the serenity prayer?

Will all those who wish to join, please do so.

After a moment of silence for those left out and still suffering:

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference!”

This meeting is now closed! Yeah! It was great! Yeah! Thanks for being part of our historic event today!

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