hubby fell again!!

I know I posted something a few days ago regarding this..about walkers..why are men especially stubborn on this??? some people think he's drunk,and then that angers me..cause i know he's not! what's worse is with my disabilities I can't piick him up or we will both be on the ground!
LOL we are sooo not ready for caregivers,really want our privacy and independence,but when to say when? sorry if i'm whining..i'm really trying just really difficult with both of us in this situation..there have to be others..

I know I'll get some flack for this but I'm gonna say it anyway.
Leave him alone. Many years ago my Grandmother (rest her sole) had a bad bad back and hip. This required a cane and eventually a walker. She refused the walker.
Now eventually she had surgery and it helped to eleviate the pain. But she still needed that walker for balance. She knew it too! She would bang on the wall with that cane and demand that we come help her to the bathroom or dinner table etc...
By the way...The house has an exceptionaly long hallway that separates the kitchen from the rest of the house.
One day she started banging on the wall and I just couldn't take it anymore. I 3 children under the age of 5. My mother was recovering from cancer and my father was blind. On top of it the old woman next store was senile and my mother had decided to help and take care of her. This was now my job also. It was like juggling the mayo clinic.
So I just went to her and told her to get up and use the walker other wise she doesn't eat. She carried on for hours. Every person that walked through the door was instructed not help her. She was furious to say the least. Eventually she needed the bathroom. My answere to that was, you guessed it, USE THE WALKER!!!
She peed her pants. I wouldn't clean it. Get up and use that walker or you'll be sleeping in that chair tonight.
It wasn't long after she wet herself that she got up. And then I helped her and told her how much I loved her.
Not saying it will work. But sometimes when a person has an alternate solution then he or she will not make the effort to use the better one.
By the way...Just so you know I'm not a cold hearted bitch...I would have helped her had she tried without the walker too. And I spent the better the part of the day crying in the kitchen. Not sure how much my story about tough helps. But I figurd I'd tell it anyway.

thanks neuro! no flack,just the facts mam .lol sometimes it's good to hear it raw..I especially liked your comment on juggling the Mayo clinic..I'll use if you don't mind..I think the biggest problem is sometimes you are just too close to the problem at hand you can't help thinking you have to get in there and &quot;fix it&quot;. and sometimes the solution is just what you said...

ditto-i had to tell my roommate to quit bringing home expensive remedies to &quot;fix&quot; me....i am not taking colloidal silver internally. period

BUT i have been forced to use the walker because i was stupid and stubborn and blew my knee out, (why the hell would anyone ever play football??!!) and i still tried to hobble around w/just a wrap, the 3 rd time i &quot;fell off&quot; my knee....i slithered to the walker and have not left it since, i still hate it ....so throw a knee brace at your hubby, tell him he can use it to &quot;cover&quot; for using the walker.
the bright side of this is that i MUCH appreciate the mobility i have left.

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