Selfish In-laws

Just a little background. My brother died from a car accident at age 25 in 2009, and his birthday was in September. DH's deceased grandmother's bday is also in September. So, I explained to my mother in law that I would like to have DD's christening in September in honor of those two people.
Fast forward a month, invitations are sent out for the christening. I received an email from MIL stating that she, her husband and sisters will be attending a wedding, and will not attend the Christening. When DH called to speak to her, she stated she had these plans since May (our 1st time hearing it), and didn't really care if we moved forward without her. That was her attempt to hit below the belt. We decided to move the christening anyway to accomodate them to October.
Needless to say, the date of the wedding passed this Sunday. And, they did NOT attend the wedding! We found out through a text that was accidentally sent to DH by an aunt. When she realized her mistake, she asked him not to be mad. DH texted his father blasting him, and he responded "don't be mad, K?"
I'm furious! Other people had to change their schedules, and I had to send cancellation notices and reinvites.
It's going to take me a while to get over this.

Just a little background. My brother died from a car accident at age 25 in 2009, and his birthday was in September. DH's deceased grandmother's bday is also in September. So, I explained to my mother in law that I would like to have DD's christening in September in honor of those two people.
Fast forward a month, invitations are sent out for the christening. I received an email from MIL stating that she, her husband and sisters will be attending a wedding, and will not attend the Christening. When DH called to speak to her, she stated she had these plans since May (our 1st time hearing it), and didn't really care if we moved forward without her. That was her attempt to hit below the belt. We decided to move the christening anyway to accomodate them to October.
Needless to say, the date of the wedding passed this Sunday. And, they did NOT attend the wedding! We found out through a text that was accidentally sent to DH by an aunt. When she realized her mistake, she asked him not to be mad. DH texted his father blasting him, and he responded "don't be mad, K?"
I'm furious! Other people had to change their schedules, and I had to send cancellation notices and reinvites.
It's going to take me a while to get over this.

The big deal is that my child was not christened because I changed the date so they wouldn't miss it. But they ended up not attending the wedding "they couldn't miss". So I could have had it in the original date.

The big deal is that my child was not christened because I changed the date so they wouldn't miss it. But they ended up not attending the wedding "they couldn't miss". So I could have had it in the original date.

Did one of them get sick? Or do they not believe in baptisms for babies? I ask the second question because maybe they were making an excuse not to go to something they don't believe in. They did tell you to do it without them. So it was your choice to change the date.

Did one of them get sick? Or do they not believe in baptisms for babies? I ask the second question because maybe they were making an excuse not to go to something they don't believe in. They did tell you to do it without them. So it was your choice to change the date.

I understand fully how you are feeling. I think we have similar in laws. I booked my sons baptism for a time when my parents could attend (they live in the south pacific) and my mil told me that it wasn't a good time for her because it was going to be in the evening and it is dark and cold then. Lol. I lost my cool with her though because having my parents there is very important to me as they have missed my my little guys whole first year. In-laws can drive you crazy! I agree with you that what they did is not very considerate!

I understand fully how you are feeling. I think we have similar in laws. I booked my sons baptism for a time when my parents could attend (they live in the south pacific) and my mil told me that it wasn't a good time for her because it was going to be in the evening and it is dark and cold then. Lol. I lost my cool with her though because having my parents there is very important to me as they have missed my my little guys whole first year. In-laws can drive you crazy! I agree with you that what they did is not very considerate!

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