Lesson 1A) 1) Actively committing yourself(myself) to change. I want this change so that I can have a life free of lies and deception. To be open and honest with my wife and support her and listen to her wants and desires. A life not closed off from her or the reality of life. A life where my wants and desires are no longer at the front of the line. To be a better father to my kids and to be able to show them how a father should be.

2) Not allowing guilt/shame(embarrassment) to sabotage your(my) commitment to change.This is a tough one for me because I have told myself "I have done so much to cause hurt and pain to others and have exposed my wife to high risk people as I am now that I can't fix it or make up for what I have done, so why try. I do have guilt and shame because of what I have done, but for me I have used the embarrassment of what I have done to stop myself from looking at and taking responsibility for my choice's, because I know that I have made destructive choice's.

B) Motivation to change.1) I want to be proud of myself and be the good man I know is lost inside.2) I want to be honest with my wife3) I want to be the man my wife needs me to be sorry her.4) I want my wife to be proud of me.5) I want to be a father to my children.6) I want my children to be proud of their father.7) I want to be a positive influence on those around me.8) I want to be a better listener.9) I want to live a life without being afraid.10) I want to live a live where I say I am going to do something and follow it through to the end.11) I want to grow and learn something new everyday.12) I want to live without embarrassment.13) I want to be a better so.14) I want to be a better brother.15) I want to be a better friend.16) I want to look forward to every day.17) I want to always take in the beauty of family, friends and nature around me.18) I want to always see people for who they are19) I want to be happy