4 Ways to Help Your Children During Your Divorce

If you are in the midst of going through a
divorce, you know that sometimes you might find yourself in heated situations.
Emotions are running high and spouses feel tempted to say things they
might later regret. If there are children involved, you need to be particularly
careful about how you handle your soon-to-be ex-spouse. Both spouses should
remember that putting their children first should be paramount to any
issues they may have with one another.

Here are some ways in which you can help your children throughout the course
of a divorce:

Encourage a healthy relationship with the other parent: Children are not
pawns in a divorce. Unfortunately, parents often make this mistake. Keep
them out of the conflict between you and your spouse, because they do
not belong in the middle of your divorce. By encouraging a healthy relationship
with the other parent, you are promoting stability. Just because your
marriage is over does not mean a child needs to choose between parents.
Let them know that it is ok to continue to love both of you equally.

Co-parent to help your child: Effectively co-parenting is critical to your
child’s happiness. To accomplish this, parents need to be on the
same page when it comes to how to raise their children and establish the
same rules for them in both households to limit any confusion or possible
feelings of resentment and anger.

Keep the negativity to yourself: Your children are not your therapists,
so you should not vent to them about your spouse. Everyone needs an outlet,
however, so seek the appropriate help if you are feeling overwhelmed,
such as an actual therapist, family member, or trusted friend whom you
can talk to or ask for advice.

Understand your children: There is a common misperception that children
can bounce back from anything, including divorce. This is far from the
case. Divorce is hard for children to cope with and the pain that results
can follow them for years. Even if you have already moved on, you cannot
expect your children to heal at your pace, so try to understand their
needs and help them cope if they are having trouble.

Ultimately, the decisions you make and the actions you carry out must also
serve the needs and interests of your children. Divorce is never a walk
in the park for anyone, but it is especially hard for children to understand.
For you, it is about ending a relationship that is no longer functioning.
For them, it is the end of life as they know it, because mom and dad are
going to live separately. They are going to need your help to understand
that, despite these dramatic changes, both you and your spouse still love
them and will do everything you can to make them feel safe.

Call Chung & Ignacio, LLP For Qualified Representation

Having the right representation can make all the difference in a divorce.
If you are in the middle of a divorce, or are considering divorcing your
spouse, the skilled legal team at Chung & Ignacio, LLP will go above
and beyond to secure a fair resolution of your divorce, whether it includes
child custody matters or complex property division disputes. You should not have to
endure this difficult time on your own. We will help you navigate the
legal matters of your case with ease and with as little stress as possible.

We are here to discuss your case with you. Call us today at
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