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How should I handle co-workers' comments that I'm large for my stage of pregnancy?

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I was about 30 pounds overweight before I got pregnant. Now I'm 29 weeks along, and I've gained 18 pounds. My belly's so large that I look like I'm due any moment. My co-workers tell me I'm much larger than they were when they were pregnant, and strangers say I must be having twins. These people don't seem to realize how much they're hurting my feelings and my self-esteem. How should I handle their comments?

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I have a question and/or comment. I am 21 weeks pregnant and I get just the opposite. My stomach does not show at all and people tell me "you are so small", the only thing that is getting big is my breast. That hurts my feelings, for some "odd reason," in my mind I think I am supposed to be bigger by now. I guess that I am hurt because I would like to experience the pregnant belly look. I was 144 before I got pregnant and now I am 164 but you still can't even tell that I am pregnant. It makes me feel like I am doing something wrong. Am I alone? Even when my sister got pregnant she showed and she was much smaller than I was. She had a ten pound baby and you could tell that she was pregnant way before her fifth month. I don't know I may sound strange, or do I? Thank you.

tammy- i have dealt with the same thing my entire pregnancy. i am 25 weeks and look like any day is the day. The comments can be hurtful but the main thing to focus on is you and that life inside of you and all the other negativity can be tossed out the window. you're beautiful, your baby is beautiful and thats all that matters

According to when i last got my period i am supposed to be only 7 weeks pregnant and i am HUGE (this is my 2nd pregnancy and i am as big as i was 5 months pregnant from my last pregnancy). I am not at all overweight i just have a very large belly. Since i am so early in my pregnancy i have not had a dr's appt. yet and i am a little worried about why i am so large and showing already. Could it be that my dates are very far off or could it be that i am having more than 1 child?

I say forget what a people say about you.What do you say about yourself."Cause you you as a person got to live with you and your baby,People tell me all of the time how big I am.I say to him well I'm getting right and that what I say to people.So, cheer up like I said forget what people say.I'm 7 months pregnant,that is 30 weeks I look like I'm due any minute now.You know what my husband said to one day,he said,"cause I was blocking him from watching the t.v. he said move big girl.He call me all type of names,and then he say he's sorry.I tell him at least I'm eating well.I'm talking to with a burger in my hand....laughing at him and sometimes I laugh with the people.So don't let anyone hurt your feelings you are somebody that god jesus christ love.If you need to talk to somebody e-mail at wboyd@alldial.net

I had a fibroid that they termed as 'large' but they did not expect it to be as large as it was....it was the size of an overinflated football - and made me look much huger than I should have been. I used to joke to people that would make comments that I was actually incubating an elephant, and it was hard work that made me cranky so they'd better back off or I'd bite them. It was so completely off the wall that 90% of people laughed and went along thier merry way. :) HTH

I know how you feel I gained about 70 lbs with my first and people are so rude! They would tell me that I have the biggest belly they had every seen and I must be having twins!! I was only 7 months I would go home and cry!! But you know what I think, people are just jelious, for some reason a beautiful belly sometimess make another women jelious!! And just remember when you see a women who is pregnant, give her a compliment.... cause i sure know that I wish I was given one more often. Remember you are not pregnant for ever, so enjoy...enjoy creating a miracle of life!

I just found out that I was one month pregnant and I already looked 4 months pregnant. I tried on some clothes today that I wore 2 weeks ago and they already don't fit. My husband is already telling me I need to drop some weight before it gets too late. I know that I am going to gain more weight and there is nothing I can do about it so we all just need to keep a positive attitude about it. At least we have an excuse for being big. In the end there will be a beautiful baby that will make all the emotional stress and comments we endured worth it.

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