After being with him for more than 10 years, the sex is almost non-existence, both of us are lazy to work on impressing each other, taking us for granted. My husband says he can't live without me, but he is not doing anything to make me feel I'm desired. I can't help but think how nice it will feel once again to be wanted by someone else, to have sexual relationship with someone new. I am wondering if my thoughts will stay as just fantasy or is this the first sign that will lead me to do something I will regret.

You have written EXACTLY what I feel! I flirt with guys at work and sometimes wonder if I could follow through with it. He avoids me, says he's coming to bed then sleeps on the lounge. I don't know if it's because of desires I have asked him to explore with me or the promotion I am soon to get. I'm confused and lonely. I don't want to cheat but I want to be touched lovingly.

i have the same issue in reverse. i have thought of cheating, but up to this point, it has only been a fantasy. the idea of being with another woman is very appealing and erotic. still not sure what will happen.

Read Mating In Captivity. It may help fix things or it may just help you get it straight in your head what you want in an affair and how to get it. Very non-judgmental book about many aspects of sex in marriage and extramarital sex.

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