(18) Persons
towards whom Mettashould not be developed at the initial stage

Metta should not be developed at
the beginning of the exercise towards: (1) persons who are hostile and
unfriendly, or who deserves hatred (appiya); (2) persons who
are dearest to you or your beloved ones, that is, those who, have close
affinity with the meditator through deep love (atippiya); (3)
persons who deserve neither love nor hatred, i.e., neutral persons;
and (4) persons who are enemies.

Justification for not developing metta
at the beginning from such people is because it would be difficult
to permeate the feeling of loving-kindness, or rather, it would be incongruous
to send your metta to one whom you hate. It is also rather hard
or awkward to transmit your metta first to one's beloved ones
like - your children, brothers and sisters. for whom you have intense
love and attachment. Neither will it be easy to develop loving-kindness
for people, such as, your own pupils or disciples and other neutral
persons. It is because, if persons for whom you have deep love and affection
are found to have become a bit miserable or have suffered, trouble and
misery, you would probably become highly depressed or dejected. Next,
it would also be difficult to put a stranger or a neutral person, who
is unfamiliar with you, in the role of a beloved, person. Yes, indeed.
It is well-nigh impossible to constantly radiate loving-kindness to
a complete stranger. Leave aside emitting loving-kindness to an enemy.
As regards an enemy, the moment you remember him, feeling of anger will
arise recalling the past incidents or memories of his wrong doings or
faults. They are the four kinds of people in whose favour or for whom
one should not develop metta - at the initial stage of the practise
of loving-kindness meditation.