Relationship Health

Relationship Concerns?

A relationship is simply two or more beings interacting with one another on a regular basis. We have relationships that form in all areas of our lives. Some of our relationships are fulfilling, healthy and safe. Some leave room for improvement. We know that it can be difficult to handle some of the problems that arise in our day-to-day interactions with others. It isn’t always easy to communicate with our parents, family, friends, roommates, coworkers or intimate partners. Here at the Center for Women and Gender, we support students in developing and maintaining their relationships in the healthiest way possible. It is often difficult to make sense of what is happening in our relationships and the Center is here to assist you in these and other areas of concern.

Violence

This is often the most difficult subject for many students to discuss when it comes to their relationships. If you have experienced any of the following in your relationship, we’d like to help:

pushed or shoved you

held you to keep you from leaving

slapped or bitten you

kicked or choked you

hit or punched you

thrown objects at you

locked you out of the house

abandoned you in dangerous places

refused to help you when you were sick, injured or pregnant

forced you off the road or driven recklessly

threatened to hurt you with a weapon

If none of these things have happened, you can be thankful for that. However, it is important to remember that other types of abuse nearly always precede physical violence. Emotional, mental and verbal abuse are often an issue long before physical force is used.

Control Issues

Although a relationship may not have been affected by physical violence, there are other ways in which a relationship can be unhealthy and potentially abusive. If you are interacting with a person who seems to have more say in what you do than you do, that’s a problem.

Control is often in place long before any physical abuse ever occurs. When someone in your life feels a need to control you, it is because they are dealing with feelings of insecurity. The only one who should be in control of your life is you. If you need to take control of your life, we can help you find the safest way to do that.

Sexuality

Some of our most intimate relationships involve sexual expression and exploration. Whether you are “hooking up” or believe you have found “the one”, it is important to be smart about sex. Sometimes it is difficult to talk to the people closest to us about our feelings about sex or our sexual identity. We provide a confidential and accepting space for you to explore issues that all of us face.

Conflict And Communication Issues

It's unavoidable and is found in all relationships. Whether the conflict is about what movie to watch, what your major should be or whether to break-up, it's how you the conflicts in your relationships that makes the difference. Do you struggle in this area? We can help you examine your own communication style and determine a better way to relate to the people you come in contact with on a daily basis.