Daycare vs At home babysitter (TRIGGER WARNING)

I don’t go back to till January but an opportunity has come up and I may go back sooner like in a month sooner. I like the idea of daycare I like that she’ll be in a “school” environment. My husband likes a babysitter someone I can take her to their house.

Enter the trigger warning . . .

Many moons ago (8/9 years ago) my ex boyfriends dad was being accused of sexual abuse. Everyone believed the guy and the poor girl was left that terrible incident. Her parents absolutely believed her but they continued to live upstairs. Anyways, months after the incident we were all at a get together and my ex-boyfriends friend walked in on his dad sexually abusing a 2 year old. I’ve never been able to shake that day out of my head. For this reason I do not want to take my daughter to an in home sitter cause I just don’t trust anyone.

I chose to send my baby to an in home daycare because I felt she would get more one on one attention but still get socialized. I have heard a lot of negative things about actual daycares.

However, which ever way you spin it there are going to be good and bad on both sides. I would recommend really looking into both and making an educated decision but to also go with what makes you the most comfortable.

Our lady worked in several daycares, she’s extremely flexible and accommodating, and is decently priced. We trust her 100%.

To be honest, in the world we live in there could easily be a sexual predator/abuser at a reputable established daycare.

When looking for daycare I want a place that is licensed if I don't personally know them. We can check inspection reports and complaints online here for licensed places. Bonus points if there is an app to access cameras. I ask about background checks and how often they are refreshed. Discipline rules are important to me.

I am temporarily watching a neighbor boy and I send his mom pictures throughout the day and updates on how he is and what we are doing. He has yet to cry here, aside from the time he fell down, but I want her to have the peace of mind knowing that he is safe, happy, and having a blast. He listens and behaves so well it has actually helped my daughter's behavior.

We use a babysitter that comes to us. I can watch her myself. I didn't want to do a daycare because I was concerned she would be in a room with too many children and not be tended to properly if needed. I've also had friends who worked in daycare centers and had too many things going on that I just didn't care for. Once LO (little one) is older, I'll absolutely look into a daycare outside our home because the cost is cheaper. Until she can tell me what is going on I will not send her somewhere with someone I don't know, unless I absolutely had to.

We use a babysitter that comes to us. I can watch her myself. I didn't wa...

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08/21/2018

We use a babysitter that comes to us. I can watch her myself. I didn't want to do a daycare because I was concerned she would be in a room with too many children and not be tended to properly if needed. I've also had friends who worked in daycare centers and had too many things going on that I just didn't care for. Once LO is older, I'll absolutely look into a daycare outside our home because the cost is cheaper. Until she can tell me what is going on I will not send her somewhere with someone I don't know, unless I absolutely had to.

This is what I would do. In home nanny with lots of cameras. Baby gets to be in their home with one on one (or two or whatever for siblings) attention, naps in their own crib, food in their own home, their own toys and germs, no rushing, no worrying about them getting sick and having to stay home. Seems like a no brainer if the family can swing it with the cost.

My lo goes to an in home daycare and we love it. She's older and has done daycare for years. I've heard good things about her and we know the parents of a lot of the other kids that go there. If you can find someone you trust that's what is important. Talk around and meet with people. I like the in home my lo gets a lot of attention there.

Not gonna lie, I’m probably gonna be that one mom who stalks her kid at school and brings things he forgets at home to his classroom, then gives him a kiss and a pinch on his cheek before getting kicked out by his teacher.... whom I’ll be staring down after school while I’m there 2 hours early to pick him up.😂 Long story short, I’m currently looking into work from home jobs since we’re in a new state and I don’t know or trust anyone lmao 😂

There are pros and cons to both. With my older kids,I had them in a licensed home daycare until they turned 3 and then I moved them to a preschool type daycare that only took kids 3+ and potty trained.

I liked them getting the more personal and flexible care as babies.

In my state, there was a number/website where you could read reviews, see inspection reports, and also see openings for the home daycares.

But, I don't think I would go to an unlicensed home daycare unless it was a person I knew and trusted.

My DD (dear daughter) and DS (dear son) both started in a daycare program at 12 weeks and they are both thriving in the program. They’re state regulated, which I like because there are many safety checks in place. However with that said, the teachers love the children and treat them with care. Especially the infant room teacher, who both of my children adore. (My DD (dear daughter) has her as an infant, too.). Another pro of the daycare program is that they’re always open. They’ve taught both of my children routines which they thrive in and my DD (dear daughter) has learned SO (significant other) much both socially and educationally.

With all of that being said, it took me several visits to find the program that I felt comfortable with, where I felt my children’s meets would be met in terms of safety and emotionally. It’s definately pricey, but I feel my kids are worth having to cut back in other areas. Visit different places and at the end of the day, go with your gut and what you feel is best for your LO. 😊

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