Wednesday, July 18, 2012

when you are no longer with your bf/gf, automatically you'll be the EX...

the EX can be either the good EX or the bad EX...i sometimes wonder why the ex's cant be friends...well, congratulations if you can be friends with your so-called-ex...

i know it's not easy to be friends with someone that u used to know love...but it's not impossible...well, it's easy for me to say...you just have to forget all the lovey-dovey feelings and start over with nothing...but most importantly, just get over it...besides, time heals everything...so it is useless for you to use your brain thinking about it...

continue with my title...i will start with the good ex...the good ex regardless of whose fault it is, will always stays positive...you know you used to love her/him but you can always be his/her friends...if you cant save the relationship but at least you make an effort to be his/her friend...but make sure, you stick on 'friendship mode' meaning no more love, no more lovey rules, etc...both parties should remember that be friends with your ex is be friends with your ex..not to be a couple again..and also love your enemy...

the bad ex...hhhuuuu....obviously, the bad ex is always negative...he/she won't make friends with his/her ex...i know it will take time to be friends again...even if you don't want to be friends with him/her, don't be like the bad ex that still be there interfering his/her ex's life...meaning, comparing him/herself with the new bf/gf, contacting the ex bf/gf saying miss the moment even if he/she knows that their ex have move on...when he/she is not that into you, he/she is not that into you....so stop contacting your ex...contact with him/her only if you have an important news or to catch up with their life...

whether you are the good or the bad ex, do remember that friendship is border-less...move on...love your enemy...even if you don't like the new partner, you don't have to criticize...you just have to accept that he/she is no longer your gf/bf and hope the best for them...

the reason why i wrote this because my ex and i are really good friends...we're broke up last year, continue our friendship and still going strong...we still contact each other thru phone or fb...and we still seeing each other as friends...laugh as friends...share things as friends...and he even know that i'm with someone else now...and i also knew every affairs he have...:D....btw, my new partner, contrast to us...they have their own history and i wish not to tell...but, i do wish to tell to his ex that he is moving on...past is past...so deal with it...be his friend...and hope the best for him...cheers...