Dating trust your instincts

In fact, according to a recent story in New Scientist, “it turns out that because our emotions emerge from our unconscious mind, from our internal supercomputer, they tend to reflect more information than our rational mind.” What this means is our gut instinct can save us from a lot of grief.

Here are a few tips to help you get better acquainted with your gut: 1. It can help to get an outsider’s perspective, sometimes we can mistake wishful thinking for our gut instincts. Most people live their lives bouncing from one thing to the next- work, errands, happy hour.

It minimizes, defends and rationalizes anything negative in the relationship. The gut, on the other hand, has no problem telling you if the relationship or the person is wrong for you. If the heart and the gut were having a conversation, here's how it would go: Heart: "I'm so in love with this guy. Should I call your girlfriends and ask them to refresh your memory? He would never cheat on me." In last week's column, I wrote about my conflicted feelings on the "Dad Bod" and how people are celebrating the cuteness of men with larger midsections and less than perfectly sculpted arms.Women usually allow their egos to get so entangled in their relationships that when the relationship collapses, their ego comes crashing down with it and digging yourself out of that rubble is an absolute nightmare.In a good, strong, healthy relationship, you feel loved and secure.Think about how much hurt you would have saved yourself had you listened to that gentle voice that said: “You deserve more than this, you don’t need this guy.” The voice of your ego is loud and overpowering. He told you that you were the most amazing women he’s ever met, so I mean, DUH!He loves you.” Your ego shouts over the noise and convinces you that the outcome you want is reality because it has a lot at stake should this not be the case.And as women, we have the upper hand and have been given the gift of “women’s intuition.” It’s something we all possess and it can be fine tuned to work optimally.