Escort Girlfriend,what Shall I Do ?

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peboone 12

Hi folks i've been seeing a lady for about 4 months and during that time it has become clear to me that she is an escort. She has great cover stories for various strange calls and last minute change of plans but i can see in her eyes that she feels unconvinced about saying.She did give a cover story that she thinks covers her behaviour but it doesn't wash with me and little does she realise i would like her to be upfront with me as i consider myself a worldly man.I've told her that i am not here to judge but i feel that she is perhaps projecting the guilt that she ultimately feels onto me!?

To compound the situation i believe i saw pictures of her on the net!I am wondering should i confront her or just enjoy the fact that even though she is probably having enough sex she also wants me as well?

I was told by my mother that women cannot detach love from sex,is that true.The modern day women seem to have a rough deal in that case because sexual liberation appears to contradict this theory.How do you ladies that work rationalise/differentiate paid sex vs sex with your lover?

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smiths 215

Hi folks i've been seeing a lady for about 4 months and during that time it has become clear to me that she is an escort. She has great cover stories for various strange calls and last minute change of plans but i can see in her eyes that she feels unconvinced about saying.She did give a cover story that she thinks covers her behaviour but it doesn't wash with me and little does she realise i would like her to be upfront with me as i consider myself a worldly man.I've told her that i am not here to judge but i feel that she is perhaps projecting the guilt that she ultimately feels onto me!?

To compound the situation i believe i saw pictures of her on the net!I am wondering should i confront her or just enjoy the fact that even though she is probably having enough sex she also wants me as well?

I was told by my mother that women cannot detach love from sex,is that true.The modern day women seem to have a rough deal in that case because sexual liberation appears to contradict this theory.How do you ladies that work rationalise/differentiate paid sex vs sex with your lover?

Alot more i want to say but lets se if the thread develops ...

Some women just like some men can certainly detach love from sex, going to swingers parties and other parties where female swingers just want as much sex as possible confirms that.

As she is your girlfriend i would definitely be asking her about this if i was sure of my facts, if i wasnt sure it wouldnt go down very well to say the least if i was wrong. So if sure discuss it with her is my advice perhaps mentioning seeing these pictures by chance. Good luck.

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NorthernIrishNatalie 0

Hi. I am in a similar situation to your girlfriend. Well I was. I met my fiance 5months ago and things instantly became serious, he moved into my home several days later and now we have moved from N.Ireland to England and are planning our wedding.

Initially I didn't tell him what my occupation was. I used believable cover stories etc. I wanted him to know the truth as I hate lying plus it gets tiresome. I held back on opening up as I had learned through past experiance that men who seem fine with it at the start can soon change their tune. My ex was great about things untill we got serious then I had to stop all forms of work and when we got married he threw it in my face every day even accusing me falsely of cheating. I swore after leaving him I wouldn't tell another man. I did end up being honest with my fiance who was fantastic about the whole thing. This in turn caused a few minor issues. I doubted his love for me and saw him as monetarily selfish that he would "allow" his mrs to sleep with other men. I learned to get over it though and see it that while I viewed my work as a good income and that was all, so did he. He knows I have no chemistry or feelings what so ever for my clients and because I do not offer OWO or BB or Anal he is being put under no sexual health risk. He even now joins me for live porn shows for clients, although he would not tolerate another man touching me infront of him.

Personally I think your gf could be feeling how I did. She doesn't want you to look at her differently, nor does she want to run the risk of it being cast up in arguments. Perhaps she doesn't want to start believing you care less than she thought for her. Maybe she is offering services you wouldn't approve of and doesn't want the questioning. Whatever her choices I believe an escort makes as good as if not better a gf than your average lady. An escort won't go out and have one night stands as she'll be calculating the money and time and thinking what a waste of a free fuck. She'll get enough sex at work and at home. She knows men inside out and finds the majority of them repulsive. She has alot of respect for herself and knows how attractive she is so does not feel the need to have it reaffirmed on a night out etc. Hope this helps. Natalie Xx

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MinxyLydia 1,480

I'm sorry, but if your GF is being an escort behind your back what else is she lying about? You need to find out the truth and then talk about it and then you make a decision whether you can continue the relationship or not. Many men have thought they could cope with a WG partner, but a lot find it hard.

And yes women can easily separate love and sex. very easily. Sex with my lover is very different from sex with a client because we're in love with each other.

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Columbus 19

Hi folks i've been seeing a lady for about 4 months and during that time it has become clear to me that she is an escort. She has great cover stories for various strange calls and last minute change of plans but i can see in her eyes that she feels unconvinced about saying.She did give a cover story that she thinks covers her behaviour but it doesn't wash with me and little does she realise i would like her to be upfront with me as i consider myself a worldly man.I've told her that i am not here to judge but i feel that she is perhaps projecting the guilt that she ultimately feels onto me!?

To compound the situation i believe i saw pictures of her on the net!I am wondering should i confront her or just enjoy the fact that even though she is probably having enough sex she also wants me as well?

I was told by my mother that women cannot detach love from sex,is that true.The modern day women seem to have a rough deal in that case because sexual liberation appears to contradict this theory.How do you ladies that work rationalise/differentiate paid sex vs sex with your lover?

Alot more i want to say but lets se if the thread develops ...

I'd say live and let live or move on. Let her get on with the job she enjoys and spread love.

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Ranger84 3

Be very careful and absolutely sure before you speak to her about it.if she is not an escort,and there is another reason for her behaviour then several bad things could come from that talk,one being she's insulted that you have called her a quote/unquote " prostitute",and two she may want to know how you know so much about escorts behaviour and patterns,if you haven't been honest with her about your past experiences.

A work friend of mine had similar thoughts about a girl he'd only recently started seeing-was she over the side,was she an escort due to similar behaviour you describe.turned out she was a single mother and hadnt initially told him as it scared off men in the past and now was struggling to find a "right time" to tell all. Just be 100% about your suspicion dude

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Gemma Harris 12

I'm sorry, but if your GF is being an escort behind your back what else is she lying about? You need to find out the truth and then talk about it and then you make a decision whether you can continue the relationship or not. Many men have thought they could cope with a WG partner, but a lot find it hard.

And yes women can easily separate love and sex. very easily. Sex with my lover is very different from sex with a client because we're in love with each other.

Are they not as bad as each other though Lydia? Unless of course she knows that he is a punter. You can flip and say what else is he lying about.

I find the last statement to be totally true

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Gemma Harris 12

Hi. I am in a similar situation to your girlfriend. Well I was. I met my fiance 5months ago and things instantly became serious, he moved into my home several days later and now we have moved from N.Ireland to England and are planning our wedding.

Initially I didn't tell him what my occupation was. I used believable cover stories etc. I wanted him to know the truth as I hate lying plus it gets tiresome. I held back on opening up as I had learned through past experiance that men who seem fine with it at the start can soon change their tune. My ex was great about things untill we got serious then I had to stop all forms of work and when we got married he threw it in my face every day even accusing me falsely of cheating. I swore after leaving him I wouldn't tell another man. I did end up being honest with my fiance who was fantastic about the whole thing. This in turn caused a few minor issues. I doubted his love for me and saw him as monetarily selfish that he would "allow" his mrs to sleep with other men. I learned to get over it though and see it that while I viewed my work as a good income and that was all, so did he. He knows I have no chemistry or feelings what so ever for my clients and because I do not offer OWO or BB or Anal he is being put under no sexual health risk. He even now joins me for live porn shows for clients, although he would not tolerate another man touching me infront of him.

Personally I think your gf could be feeling how I did. She doesn't want you to look at her differently, nor does she want to run the risk of it being cast up in arguments. Perhaps she doesn't want to start believing you care less than she thought for her. Maybe she is offering services you wouldn't approve of and doesn't want the questioning. Whatever her choices I believe an escort makes as good as if not better a gf than your average lady. An escort won't go out and have one night stands as she'll be calculating the money and time and thinking what a waste of a free fuck. She'll get enough sex at work and at home. She knows men inside out and finds the majority of them repulsive. She has alot of respect for herself and knows how attractive she is so does not feel the need to have it reaffirmed on a night out etc. Hope this helps. Natalie Xx

Takes a strong man to be ok with it, and never underestimate how many steps forward and how many back in order for them to set it okay in their minds.

I have been with my t'other half for 8 years, initially he did not know what I did, but he moved up to be with me, I made sure that we were not living in the same place while I found another job, however his suspicious nature snapped me out, took years for him to REALLY be ok with it, the turning point was when we worked together, I think then he could see for himself, besides he discovered his inner perve!

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Chloe Kisses 3,786

Are they not as bad as each other though Lydia? Unless of course she knows that he is a punter. You can flip and say what else is he lying about.

I find the last statement to be totally true

I agree with you here. He can only confront her on the subject if he is willing to tell her immediatley after that he is a punter. Why let her feel bad when at the same time she may like him because he is NOT a punter as far as she knows. If you are aiming for the truth it has to be the whole truth...or its just as much of a sham as it is at the moment.

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Victoria Kavanagh 14

Well, lets all take in to consideration that one of the foundations of a good relationship is trust. For us wgs, it can be a very awkward situation to establish a relationship in the first place, knowing full well what we do and knowing we may have to eventually explain what we do. Sometimes it can work, other times it can end in tears. At the end of the day, we are human beings and have feelings too, so why not sit the lady down and have a little chat. You never know, if it is true she might be relieved in you know and might ask if you don't mind. If you are a punter yourself, you need to think carefully what you decide to do from there. Remember, this is her chosen job, she might enjoy the sex with the clients but with you there will be love involved and it will be much more special when you both get close. You may also get put into a position where she might feel awkward that you are a punter and it might make her feel, who he seeing behind my back etc, as you will with her. This can and will lead to paranoid thoughts, possibly jealously and could force you both apart.

You are both best been very honest with each other, thinking your words carefully. I have heard some pretty woman stories, where guys dont mind what their ladies do, others just dont think about it and see it as a job providing she dont bring the details of her day home with her. I wish you all the best and hope things go the way you want as this is not an easy situation to be in. Take care x

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peboone 12

Thnaks for alot of the feedback people.Firstly let me clear up one thing,the pictures are her and the weirdest thing about it is that i recognised her house coupled with other distinguishing features/birthmarks.The craziest thing was an inaminate decoration that she has in her house that i recognised,i spent the whole bloody night gazing at it not wanting to believe it.Oh yeah also a few pictures of her and a bloke.I've since done more investigation and seen her on other sites with other associates,it's amazing when you look into it how easy it is.Ive even seen her on swinging sites.I did google her number by the way but since i've established whats going on i don't need anymore clarity.

I did think of booking her at a hotel but then thought again..........

I even thought of getting up the info that i have found on my laptop whilst we are in bed and cornering her...........

Also since i've started to see her i haven't punted and i'm not a prolific punter anyway,nevertheless if she asked me straight if i have paid for sex i would come clean but she hasn't.Maybe she wnats to believe that i am different than 'other guys'?The picture i get is that she is highly sexed and like s sex with strangers but also wants the sanctity of a conventional relationship.

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MinxyLydia 1,480

If you want to continue with the relationship I think you need to sit down with her somewhere private and tell her you know the truth. If you really are cool with then reassure her and tell her this. The very best relationships are based on openness, honesty and trust. Good luck x

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C Dickens 0

An escort won't go out and have one night stands as she'll be calculating the money and time and thinking what a waste of a free fuck. She'll get enough sex at work and at home. She knows men inside out and finds the majority of them repulsive. She has alot of respect for herself and knows how attractive she is so does not feel the need to have it reaffirmed on a night out etc. Hope this helps. Natalie Xx

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Strawberry 830

If you want to continue with the relationship I think you need to sit down with her somewhere private and tell her you know the truth. If you really are cool with then reassure her and tell her this. The very best relationships are based on openness, honesty and trust. Good luck x

I'd go with this too, some years ago I had something very personal to tell a new partner. I blurted it out during a night out, and he in turn had a confession to 'exchange' with me too. Both of us were pretty relieved, even though our revelations were quite different.

I have also once not told someone I was a WG, I justified it to myself as a result of a difficult situation, however when it came down to it it wasn't fair that he didn't know and I did tell him. We did work it through, but it was a very emotional time.

I never get involved with anyone without telling them first these days, this does mean I have to be pretty sure of the person too and makes me quite cautious as to whom I do get close to - which actually I think is a good thing anyway.

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Guest Xenia

If she really is a WL, and you know, but she doesnt fuss up, then you have the upper hand. Just dont spoil it.

if she is a skilful WL/GFE, you should be having a great time while it lasts, possibly forever.

And just sit out the ride, and see how it develops.

(edit: I am actually more cynical still : this would be a typical troll-topic - but hey)

Make two of us, as I am cynical too. Its just something does now exactly glued together in the OP posts. Can't exactly point the finger, but possibility of the punter finding and posting on this forum, who thinks as well as got a proof that his girlfriend a prostitute, as well as a swinger, its almost zero. However as someone said, "more strange thing happened in this life".

Neither the less, its interesting, but very tired topic, so Pebonne deserves and open arena for it. :-)

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ptrleeds 45

Make two of us, as I am cynical too. Its just something does now exactly glued together in the OP posts. Can't exactly point the finger, but possibility of the punter finding and posting on this forum, who thinks as well as got a proof that his girlfriend a prostitute, as well as a swinger, its almost zero. However as someone said, "more strange thing happened in this life".

Neither the less, its interesting, but very tired topic, so Pebonne deserves and open arena for it. :-)