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Topic: Lady's thread #72 Shit Happens (Read 33924 times)

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekend. At the moment, I am babysitting. My date last night went very well, great even. Drank some Coronas, smoked, and played darts. I haven't played darts in years. But it was fun. I was smiling so much I realized me face hurt..lol..He's just a sweet, funny guy, and after talking we have a lot in common. Date number 2 is either tomorrow or Monday.

A little drama with my landlord...My check came on Friday, I had gotten 2 notices for disconnection of services. Not really sweating it because I have some money that is suppose to be coming to me. It was suppose to have come last week but I know for sure it will be here next week. Anyways, I text my landlord, telling him I would pay the rent next week. He asked why and I told him about the bills and the money. Now he talking like he wants to evict me which is utter bullshit because rent is just now due. Plus he had told me in the past that I had until the 15th of the month before I would be charged a late fee. Now he's acting like he doesn't remember saying that. And telling me since I am having a hard time paying him rent that he will do what he has to do...wtf? Another thing is that I don't owe him any back rent, so I don't understand why he is tripping. Other than acting money hungry. And anytime I try to contact him for anything, he ignores my texts. I don't know the landlord/tenant laws here in NY but I don't see how he could do anything considering I am suppose to have until the 15th of the month.

That's what has me concerned. I wouldn't put it past him to pull an illegal lock out just to be an ass. I could use some opinions, Thanks.

OK, let's try this again. I had a reply I tried to post at around 4:45 this morning, but something with the server screwed up, and I lost the whole thing.

Deb, if you find out if Lyrica causes insomnia, let me know.

Hippie, ug, yeast. I used to get that quite often, and also used to get thrush (oral) about twice a month. That hasn't happened in awhile. I used to take Diflucan preventatlivey. Also, when I got thrush, I used to take an oral swish & swallow. I believe it was Nystatin. There also used to be prescribed Mycelex Troches, that were like huge discs I used to let melt in my mouth, but I haven't seen any info about these in quite awhile. Now, of course this has nothing to do with your yeast, and I apologize. I hope it clears up for you fast; if it doesn't, call your doc and ask them for phone in some Diflucan. Have fun with your kid on her birthday. My oldest granddaughter is 10, and my daughter is 26. Chuck E Cheese, aye? Wow, you must have a good nervous system.

Ann, now that I know you're thinking about me when you're up late, I'll think about you when I wake up at 3:00. You all don't know this, but I have a secret crush on Ann. Actually, I was telling my sister and another friend about the insomnia, and they said they believe it's an age issue. They both said after they got over 40, they started having sleep issues.

Queen, glad your date went so well! I hope it continues. About your landlord, I have to agree with Em. If you have in writing that you have until the 15th to pay your rent, your landlord is SOL if he tries anything. When it comes to written contracts, whatever is said doesn't mean squat. Where the signatures are is what counts.

Yesterday, I got some clothes for my youngest granddaughter, then came home. I laid down around 3:30 in the afternoon to take a quick snooze, and woke up at 10:00 at night. I went back to sleep around 10:30, and woke up at 3:45 this morning, and got up. I must have been more exhausted than I thought. When I was walking around the store, I felt like I was walking on air I was so tired.

Not much else going on. I may go to Michigan City, IN today. A friend of mine also wants to go to a casino later. I've only been once, and play the dime games. I'm not really into gambling like my friend, but it is kinda fun. I hope you all have a good weekend!

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Queen, glad to hear the date went well! Sorry to hear about the landlord crap. I had a certifiably nuts landlord awhile ago, it was the pits. I'm sure everything will work out with your situation, it sounds like he's just being an ass for the sake of being an ass, and as soon as he's paid it will blow over.

HippieLady, so sorry about the yeast! I, too, used to get those. Mostly in my early twenties, I think it was a body chemistry issue that must have corrected itself at some point. But, when I take antibiotics all bets are off. I have to pop the acidopholus like crazy as preventative. Happy bday to your daughter!

BT, glad to hear your class is getting friendlier!

Painting went well, and fast. Had family crawling all over on Saturday, which made everything go quicker. My father in law is a hoot! I already knew he was weird, but he got positively giddy. Maybe it was a combination of take out pizza and paint fumes. Whatever it was, I like him better for it. Yesterday my hubby and I second coated the trim, and cleaned up many areas. For never having painted like that before, I do good work. The back door is a work of art! We still need to pick our front door color, we want it to be brighter and warmer than the house, but not oh-wow-look-at-that-door territory. When we were picking out main and trim colors, one of my criteria was that the house didn't become a neighborhood landmark, as in "turn left right after the house on the corner, you'll know which one I mean...." It feels nice to have a better looking house, and makes me a bit impatient to get the inside up to the outside standards!

Went to the casino a couple days ago. The Pokagon band of Potowatomi native americans own it. I played a penny machine. It was only my 2nd time there. My friend, who I went with, has been more frequently. She played the penny machine right next to mine. I put $20 in, and played for two hours, off the same $20. In the end, I only lost $5, so I don't feel so bad. My friend lost $40. It was fun. My friend's son works in one of the restaurants there, the high-scale one, where the appetizers cost $50. It was a good time, and after sitting at the machine, I can see where people would spend all their money at a casino. It's exciting to win, and kind of causes an adrenaline rush.

I guess that's it for now. You all have a good one.

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Just chiming in, not much to really talk about. Before I forget, today is Snowangel's birthday....Happy Birthday Snow, I hope ur enjoying ur day. Things are going good for me. I am still trying not to stress about the landlord situation even though you guys say I have nothing to worry about. I spoke to the lawyer today and she still keeps telling me that I should get the mail this week. I text the landlord again today, telling him what the lawyer said and asking him to be patient. I wanted to say something other than that to his ass but I figured I'd just be the bigger person. Of course, I got no reply back from him.

My son text me today but I swear he is starting to irritate me. It seems like I never hear from him unless he wants something. This time, he wants me to send him some money for a car. He doe not seem to grasp the idea that I am struggling with bills. He swears he will pay me back but I find that kinda hard to believe. Just because my sister had to wait just to get back 18.50 for some work pants. I am glad he still has his job. He is definitely going to need it since he may have twins on the way. The one girl he thought was pregnant by him is not and now he may have someone else pregnant. SMH but that is on him.

Well, I didn't get to see my Boo on Sunday or Monday. I was suppose to see him tonight but that may not happen either because the person I babysit for gets off work late. By the time I catch the train and the ferry, it will be mad late. Maybe we may still get together or maybe wait til tomorrow night. Things are going good so far. We have so much in common that it just blows my mind at times when I think about him. At the same time, I am almost afraid of getting too happy about it for the fear of something going wrong. I know I shouldn't feel that way but I just can't help it with the track record I have had with men and relationships. I just keep kicking myself and hoping this one will be better.

Betty, Man I wish I could go to a casino. I am not much of a gambler but I do like the slot machines too. I didn't know they have ones you can play for a penny. So if you hit off of it do you still get decent money like the quarter ones?

You know those people that can put on a band-aid perfectly? No pad cross-contamination, no positional insecurity, just smooth, mess-less application? Yeah, well, thatís not me.

I was washing a knife today, the big no-nonsense kind built for chopping vegetables, but that could probably chop a tree in half if necessary. Somehow, I sliced my thumb. I didnít have much of a reaction other than to curse the fact that I, an avowed germaphobe, would for the next few days have an impediment when washing my hands. I muttered a few obscenities, more for forms sake than anything else, and trotted into the bathroom to begin tending the wound.

My mom is a nurse, so all my childhood afflictions were lovingly, thoroughly, and professionally dealt with. Some of that rubbed off on me; I am meticulous about keeping owwies sanitized and dry, and Iím not too tough to seek professional help if anything is in danger of falling off. But then, there is the band-aid. That skill skipped a generation.

Most boo-boos requiring patching are on my hands, with an inordinate number landing on my thumbs. Trying to stick on a patch while operating minus one opposable thumb is a tricky proposition. Don't even get me stared on what happens when the owwie is on my right hand and I'm forced to use my left. Then, there is the matter of the band-aid wrapper that never seems to want to open. Some brands respond immediately, but others (and I can never remember which is which when Iím at the store) hold their own tenaciously. Today I had one of the over-achievers, and I finally had to rip it down the middle, mangling the band-aid in the process. I smoothed it out, decided it looked usable, pulled off the tabs, and stuck it on. Thatís when the positional insecurity kicked in. I wonder if my not being able to tell where North, South, East or West are at any given moment ties into my issue with always getting the sticky part halfway into the cut. Itís all spacial, right?

Then, by the time I get it positioned correctly, the stickiness has faded and I have to start the entire process over again. I should probably give up on band-aids all together and use that liquid skin stuff.

Just a question ballerina...Are you accident prone? How you talk, it seems like you have a lot of accidents and boo boos. We're gonna have to think of a way to safety proof you..lol...

Had another date last night with my Boo. It was good as always. We seem to have good communication and he likes to cuddle. Can't remember the last time I was cuddled. Ended up staying the night, we get ready to leave for the ferry and his car is GONE!!!! Unpaid parking tickets caught up to him, done by his ex who he seem to have thought paid the tickets. He is going to get it out tomorrow though.

Ballerina, that was a funny story. I hope you meant it to be that way. I hate nasty cuts.

Queen, glad things are working out with this guy. I hope he treats you right, and gives you the good things you deserve.

Alright ladies, I have an "ouchy" story of my own, that happened yesterday. I was curling my hair, got to the left side, and, yep you guessed it. I burned my neck. I didn't notice it as first, but when I was getting dressed, I was thinking "damn, my neck is burning!" So, I looked in the mirror, and yep, there it is. Now, think back to high school days and hickeys. I remember telling my mom I burned my neck on the curling iron when I had hickeys. So, it looks pretty tacky. And when I went grocery shopping yesterday, some people gave me a really nasty look, like "look at that slut with the hickey on her neck!" I mean, it looks like a burn more than a hickey. The first layer of the skin is raised, and it's more purple. Anyway, there's my story. I hope it fades fast, but I know sometimes burns are slow to heal. Everyone have a good, safe weekend.

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Hi Ladies-Thank you for the birthday wishes ! I can't believe I am going to be the big 4-0 next year, that is so depressing, but I suppose I should be grateful I have been living with this dreadful disease for 16 years so far and don't have too many complaints.

Ballerina- You are hysterical, I like the Curad flex fabric myself, they seem to stay on better.

BT- How did you burn yourself and not know till later, LOL! That is totally something I would do, if I had the patience to curl my hair. One thing I don't like about winter, I have to take the time to blow dry my hair in the morning.I'm glad you had fun at the casino. I like the penny machines although sometimes it is hard to figure out why or why not you won or didn't. The old machines with the 3 bars where so much easier to figure out.

Queen- Hey girl! I don't think I would send him any money if I was you. He is fully capable of making his own money. You need and deserve the money you are getting and you should do something for you, that makes you happy.

Deb- I must of got gipped, my Norvir is still the fat capsule, , LOL.

HippieLady- Did you have fun at Chucky Cheese? I have avoided that place for awhile, my threesome just turned 7 and they love it, I was thinking of checking tomorrows papers for a coupon.

Everything and nothing is going on here. The kids are all back in school, my son is playing football, I am trying to get my house organized, I'm working part-time at school,my med change is going well, (I think, I should know definately at the end of the month), shitbag is still fucking with me, lol, as usual. He called my mothers house and left a message for me that he was going to send me $950 bucks cuz he knew I needed money for school clothes and could I have my son call him. He has all my info from the court docs, he could of just as easily called me, but he knows that he can manipulate my mother in to doing what he wants so he calls her. I knew some more shit was gonna happen a few months ago when he sent a whole 25 bucks 3 months in a row. What am I supposed to get with that, one sneaker a month? LOL, I really need to get my asshole magnet removed.

Snow, sorry the SB is causing you problems (again). I wish he would leave you all alone, including your mom.

People are giving me dirty looks when I go out, because of that burn on my neck. Like yesterday, I went to do laundry. I go to the same laundermat every time, and see the same girl who works there. She noticed it, but at least she asked. Most people just glare. If one gets close enough, one can tell it's a burn and not a hickey. It's raised, and it doesn't have that "bruised" look. But, no one wants to take an upclose look. Oh well.

This is my last week where I work. I got another job at the local ASO. I start there on 10/4. So, I'll have a couple weeks off. Which is fine with me, because I need to catch up on homework. I'm happy to have the experience I had at the place I'm currently working, but glad to be out of there also. The boss, who's a pastor, is horrible to work for. I won't get into it all now, but trust me, she's horrible. Selfish, controlling, and the worst case of ADD (that doesn't make her horrible) I've seen in an adult. She hangs around the people in the church that have money, and talks really bad to the people who don't. Which I hate. I like people for who they are, not what they can do for me. Anyway, I said I'm not getting into it, then on I go. Alright ladies, have a good one today.

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"Betty's got a hickey, Betty's got a hickey!" LOL woman, you remind me of my daughter. We've lost count of the times she's burned herself with her straighteners.

I'm happy to hear you've got some time off before you start your new job. Nothing like having time to put your feet up. I'm glad you don't have to put up with that bitch pastor anymore. I don't know how you managed to not read her the riot act. I would have struggled with that big time. Maybe you could tell her what you think of her on your last day. (please!)

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Hello Everyone ! Been trying to keep up with the post since I haven't been here much. I just didn't feel like posting, plus I've been tired and sleeping a lot lately. I don't feel depressed, and I am taking zoloff so I guess its just the virus. It reall has me concerned. I get up about 8;30 am and after breakfast and meds I go back to sleep till noon then i eat lunch, computer till I get sleepy again so another nap till 3 and then cook dinner and try to stay awake. AT night I am awake till 12 or 1am ! then I don't sleep good. I think its because I stopped my premarin, hormone pills, but since 'm still going to the oncologist I get scared to take it. He said its ok, but I don't know since I had the surgery to remove the cancerous spot in my private area. Well besides that I got my divorce last Thursday !!!!! yeah for me ! I still have bad dreams about him. But I am happy to get my name back. !I am mon Facebook alot encouranging people with scripture and prayer and just networking. Its also a way to keep up with family. I am still going to church and have started a mime ministry ! with the teens. I am very excited about it, we have not met yet but we did sign up last Sunday. Just waiting on the youth pastor . A lot of death happened last 2 weeks, also. involving friends of people i know. I lost a friend to cancer, but she is in a better place. I had not seen her in years and her sis just passed in June who was also a friend. But let me tell you, There have been 2 suicides last week. There is a suicide spirit around, I rebuke it in the name of Jesus !!!!! so ladies stop taliking and thinking about it when you get depressed.!!! My youth pastor lost his good friend to suicide so i was told and he's very upset about it. Another young man in his 30's whowent to school with my daughter, commited suicide last Monday, labor day and had a wife and kids . they say he left a note. He was a coach and had a great job. You never know.3 people drowned. two brothers drowned while fishing Labor Day, they were friends of some one I know and 1 was the grandfather of a young lady I know, she is having a very hard time. and woman died in car accident from drunk driver all in my area. I tell you all, tell someone you love them, cause tomorrows not promised. Take care.

I forgot to report Kiki is doing well ! at the Scotchish Rites Hospital in Atlanta. and staying at the Ronald McDonald house with her mom. i saw her 2 weeks ago when they come home for the weekend. she stiill cannot walk yet because of the broken legs, she is getting therapy and has some brain damage that afects her memory.She has good and bad days, when she is in pain and gets frustrated. but overall she is doing well. When we went to see her she didn't remember us, but at the hospital a month ago she did. She is talking and eating normal. It going to be a long road but she is alive and we are thankful for that.!PS. I am on facebook under Vannetta Ferguson, please let me know who you are by your username here, someone I accepted a friend request from here but i don't know them because they use there real name lol

I know I haven't posted in a few. Like Snow and Netta, I am mainly on Facebook now too. It's also easier to keep up with my family that way too. I have also been busy babysitting my ex's grand daughter so she is quite a handful and has been keeping me busy. The ex text the baby's father today asking him to tell me that he would like his rings back that is the pawn shop under my name. If he gives me half the money on the pawn ticket and the stuff he has of mine at his house he can have the rings back. It's not like I want them but he won't get them back if he has thrown away my stuff which he had a habit of doing in the past. I'm just trying to figure out how he knew I was babysitting his grand daughter? Supposedly his brother told him but I don't talk to his brother. Then he wants to say he misses his grand daughter and loves her. What a crock of shit, if he loved her he wouldn't have thrown the baby and her father out into the streets with no where to go.

I have decided not to send my son any money. Like I told him, the only times I hear from him is when he wants something from me. So, he can fend for himself. I deposited the money into my bank account today but has to wait a few days for the check to clear. I let the asshole landlord know so he can get off my back now. I plan on paying him this months and next months rent so I will have my check next month to myself. I have one bill I want to pay off, do a lil clothes shopping, get livingroom furniture then the rest I am going to sit on.

I was thinking about Cindy last night while watching the football game, her Redskins beat my Cowboys. I know she prolly watched it. I hope she is doing well. I miss her. And damn Netta, sorry to hear about all those people who have passed especially the ones who committed suicide. I hate to hear about people doing that. I have thought about it at times when I feel really low just never had the stomach to follow it through. I suppose that is a good thing. And if I did, I really doubt anyone would miss me. I know it sounds morbid but true. I am glad you finally got your divorce. I know you must really be happy about that.

I am laughing at you Betty about the burn looking like a hickey. You should get some AD ointment to put on that to help it heal. That preacher of yours is a trip. Also one of the reasons I turned away from Christianity to become Pagan. It seems like the biggest whores are in the church or are the preachers themselves.

Things are going ok with me and Boo. We have still been seeing each other as in dating but I don't think I want to go further than that right now. I like him a lot but I have been kinda on a man hating thing as of late. It seems like things in the beginning was all clovers but then after awhile things kinda change. Why does it have to change? Why can't men be the same instead of being so damn changeable? It seems like when they know that you are digging them that's when they want to freaking change....

Ann, I was thinking about telling the pastor how I felt about her, or rather, how difficult she made it to work there. Some of the members know how I feel. The only thing is, the pastor is well-known, and well-liked, in the community (they don't really know her, only see her public face). So, if I were to tell her some things, she may talk to other people. One of my good friends, who's a therapist, told me that years ago, she quit at a treatment center, and went out in a blaze of glory. She learned from that not to burn her bridges, because, well, people talk. Believe me, I'd love to tell her how I can't stand the way she only treats people with money decent, and others like they're dirt under her feet. Like I said, some of the members know how I feel, and that people keep leaving because of her, so hopefully something will be done. I'm rambling. But truly, there are few people I've been around in my life that make my skin crawl, but she does. And that's saying something.

Netta, sorry about the people you know who have passed on. Especially the ones who have taken their own lives. I've attempted suicide a couple times, and would have succeeded had no one found me. I can't stand it when religious people say that people who have committed suiciide are going to hell. No one knows how desperate people feel who do that. Anyway, glad to hear Kiki is doing better. I'm not on facebook, so I can't keep up with you and the others. Great to hear about the mime ministry you've started. Good for you! Good news on the divorce also.

Queen, Glad your money came through. That's a great idea to pay a month ahead in your rent. Be careful, though, about how much you leave in the bank. I mean, I don't know what it's like there, but here, Medicaid only allows someone to have $1500 in their savings. Crazy, I think. People should be able to save as much as they want. But, you know how that goes. I hear you about men changing. I believe they want to get us in their spell, then decide to act however they want. And trust me, this pastor that is my boss, is like no pastor I've known before. I mean, I've never worked for a pastor before, and I don't think I want to again. The one I work for is pretty evil, and I don't say that lightly. I mean, I've seen her do a couple nice things, but mostly she's pretty hateful, but behind people's backs most of the time.

Yesterday, I went to JC Penny's to get some hairspray, because they're having a sale. I was talking to the lady who works there about my burn, and she said "let me show you something." She pulled down her shirt, just a bit, and there was a burn on her chest. She said she dropped the curling iron and it landed on her chest. So, I don't feel so bad. Of course, hers can be covered up with a shirt. But, if you look at my burn kinda close, you can tell it's a burn and not a hickey. It's raised up, like a blister, and a bit reddish-yellow. I've been putting antibiotic ointment on it twice a day. Good idea about the A&D Queen. We used to use that all the time when I was a kid.

Yesterday, when I was at work, one of the volunteers there went with me to do something (work related). He's the best volunteer the church has. He used to work there, but went to prison a couple years ago, on an alcohol related charge. He is an alcoholic (he goes through withdrawals when he hasn't had a drink in a couple days), but a functional one (I'm not saying that makes everything alright). He's there at the church every day, does more than his share of work, and makes things a lot better for the church. Because of his criminal history, no one will officially hire him. And because of his alcoholism, he's a street person. So anyway, yesterday, when we got back to the church, the pastor was talking to a couple cops. When we got out of the car, she called the guy (volunteer) over to them. I went inside the church, and was watching from one of the windows. I saw the cops cuff the guy, and put him in the back of the car. I guess he missed a court date. But, the cops have been harrassing him for awhile now. That's one thing about these damn cops, they harrass street people, because they know the people can't do anything. That so pisses me off. Hopefully this guy won't be gone too long, but he is on probation, so I don't know what that will do. Alright ladies, I'm rambling. You all have a good one.

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Queen, yeah, I'm fairly accident prone. My sister is the same way, and when we were teenagers I remember us comparing notes about various calamities, concluding it was our "zest for life" that made us that way. We were just so enthusiastic in everything we did, we didn't stop to take care. I teach ballet, and perform in shows once or twice a year. Last year my hubby saw me dance for the first time, and he confessed after that he was really nervous about it. I think he envisioned me thunking around stage like I do in real life. Luckily, my clumsy doesn't follow me into the classroom or onto the stage. I'm glad the rent issue is worked out. What a relief!

BT65, no worries, I rarely take myself too seriously. Life is too boring when I do that. It sounds like you gave yourself the mac daddy of all hickies, I mean, burns. The mental image that accompanied your tale of woe was hilarious! Good luck with the new job!

Snow, good to hear everything's good with the kids, and that the med change is working out.

As for me, I've been in and out of what I call non-specific, emotional malaise. Just this low grade rain cloud following me around, which jacks my sympathetic nervous system up to high gear. I can guess what's causing it, namely new situations at work plus the whole pregnancy issue. I'm reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility and holy smokes, that's a ton of information. I'm in overwhelm mode with it, thinking it would be a good idea to find a doc to guide me through. But my area isn't known for stellar medical care, and if it's something I can do myself, why pay for it? Argh.

Well, now I can breathe again. I got all bills to a zero balance. The landlord hounded me to the point that he took me to the bank. A free ride on one of them yellow school buses...Yay, I bet I was a site with baby in tow getting off the bus in front of the bank..lol..I already picked out my furniture so I just have to go pay for it. I am going to do that in the morning and stop by the social security office.

The drama goes on with the ex. He seems to be calling the house phone everyday at least 3 times a day. I guess he is hoping that I pick it up but I never hear it. I just happen to see it when I check my missed calls. But I also know it is him because no one else has my house number. And texting the baby's daddy, now saying that he still loves me and that he's miserable..Yeah whatever. I am like what about when I was miserable and told he no longer wanted anything to do with me? I won't deny that I still have feelings for him but I don't need the headaches or the stress. I have moved on...

LOL@Ballerina..I use to take ballet back in the day. I use to love it. I bet you're still quite graceful...

Well ladies, today's my last day at the church! Yipee! I'm going to miss some of the people that work there, some of the street people (well, a lot of the street people), but it's time to move on. My boss, the cooky pastor, is supposed to make bbq chicken. She wanted to make pork loin, but I'm not a fan of that. And I figure, it's hard to screw up bbq chicken.

School is hard. There's lots of papers, and writing, and tests. My best frined told me graduate school is a test of endurance, and I think she's right. I'm still a bit nervous about doing well. But, we'll see.

Ballerina, good luck with the fertility thing. I'm sorry, I can't remember, you're trying to get pregnant?

Queen, that's great you're going to get new furniture.

I usually answer people first, then post something else afterward, but today I'm backward. Oh well, you all have a good one.

Oh, my burn on my neck really does look like a burn, now, so I haven't gotten any dirty looks in the last couple days.

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Yeah that makes 2 of us, Ballerina. For the past week he has been calling the house, 2or 3 times a day. I never hear the phone anyway. I only notice it if it pops on my caller id. Well, I got my furniture today, it feels good to be able to sit in the livingroom for a change.

Not much else really going on. Getting things ready for dinner. I had a taste for meatloaf and potato salad for some reason. Just gonna spend my evening watching tv and playing a lil Warcraft...TGIF!!

Queen, I also hope that your ex quits calling you. He didn't treat you very nice at all, and he doesn't deserve you. I'm glad you're able to sit in your living room.

Ballerina, good luck with the trying to get pregnant.

School is so stressful. I'm the only one of two people in my classes who only has a bachelor's. All the others already have their master's, in either social work or counseling, and are taking this program for licensure. So, it's very intimidating. And I just hope I can do well. It makes me very nervous. So nervous, in fact, and stressed out, that Thursday after class, I stopped and got a pack of cigarettes. It had been about 4 months since I quit, but oh well. I already bought some more nicotine patches, so I don't plan on smoking for very long. That makes me very disappointed in myself.

At this new job at the ASO, the boss said there's going to be two manuals that I have to memorize, and she tests me on them. She told me I have to get an 80% or higher to continue employment there. That makes me nervous also, because my short term memory isn't what it used to be. Just keep your fingers crossed for me.

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Netta- Glad to hear that Kiki is doing better, that is such a blessing.

BT- So how did the last day of work go? Did you start the new job yet. I am sure you will do well with your classes and getting certified or whatever you call it a the new place. I AM going to call you one of these days, lol. I smashed my iphone on a rock so I put my chip in an old phone I had and then promptly dropped that in a glass of water. Talk about being shit out of luck, lol.

Queen- What did you get for furniture? Did you decide if you are going to get a cat or not. I wonder if Andy's son still has any kittens? What's up with the dude being complete idiots? Remember my last post about shitbag sending me $950? As we all know that didn't happen,BUT he called again and left a message asking if I got the $950 and he was sending another $900, WTF? Like my friend told me, he is probably trying to get me to call him asking where the money is, which will never happen, EVER. They are all idiots, I swear!

Oops, gotta get ready for school. Hi to everyone, hope everyone has a great day!!

I hope everyone is doing well. Sorry, I have not posted in a bit. I have had my hands full babysitting and trying to get errands done on the one day a week that I have off. Usually things start to wind down once I get the Lil One to sleep for the night. But like I said before, I have been spending a lot of time on Facebook...

What's going on with me? Well, the storm last week had blown out my livingroom window. Landlord came over and put it back in. I also sicked my caseworker on him too. Now he wants to try to claim that I never told him about any problems before. Yeah Yeah, so now I am on that take pics of everything wrong kick. Not that there is a lot wrong because there isn't. He just acts lazy when it comes to the few things that need fixed. He says he will send someone else out here to fix the window, it was installed wrong or so he says....

Wow, I just lost a whole paragraph. It was about the ex so since it seemed to just delete itself, I guess that's Fate's way of saying there ain't nothing worth mentioning..lol...As for the guy I am dating, he is starting to frustrate me a little. Usually when we meet up, it is me who travels to meet him. I really don't mind much because I like the ferry ride. Lately he has been having a streak of bad luck. Twice his car got impounded, I was there each time it happened. Once he got it back, the muffler decides to come off. This happened on a night he was suppose to come and see me. Another time he claims he got lost trying to find my house so he went back home. I know a lot of this stuff that happened was out of his control. But then he says the last time we spoke he would catch the train if he had to....Uh, well that never happened either.

Or there are random times when I will text him and not get any kind of response or if I get one, it's a pic of some roses or something like that. I have finally gotten a response from him which was he has some family issues going on. He doesn't mean to push me away but sometimes he just shuts down. He says things will get better. I am beginning to wonder if they will. Or am I wrong for feeling like I am being neglected? Or for thinking that he may be trying to play me? Or am I just being jaded due to the BS I went through with my ex. At this point, I don't know what to think and I feel confused.

Queen, so good to see you back! As I e-mailed you, I was kinda worried. About the guy, well, men are strange creatures. I would just give it more time to see how things hash out. But I wouldn't go way out of my way to please him either. But, that's me. Sorry about e-mailing you that I didn't think I posted about the new job here. Like I said, sometimes my short-term memory is crap, and I need to check what I post.

Snow, my last day of work at the church went alright. They had a dinner, where everyone made/baked something. And two church members who I like very well came in. So, it was alright.

Tomorrow is the first day on the new job. The boss e-mailed me, and asked if I could be there from noon to 5. Which isn't bad. So, we'll see what tomorrow brings. Please send good vibes my way, that I do alright. Other than that, just doing homework, and checking in here from time to time. You all have a good one.

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Good Luck with the new job, Betty!!! And I didn't mind getting the email at all. I just kinda got caught up with things around here. But it is slowing down a little bit. Well, you know me, I can't keep my mouth shut so I had to let Boo know how I was feeling. He understood how I was feeling and promises things will get better. So we shall see. In the meantime I will put my focus elsewherem there's still some things I need to take care of around here.

In between shopping and paying bills, I managed to get another tatto and my eyebrow repierced. The tatt is a heart with wings with the colors of the Puerto Rican flag. Representing the Boricua in me. Everything is caught up so now I can breathe a sigh of relief. The doctors appointments are coming up and I am ready.

Thanks for the well wishes Ann and Queen. It went alright yesterday. I hung with the head of case management, and went to a couple clients' houses with her to do their reviews. Another guy came in for a review, and I knew him from awhile back. He recognized me, even though it's been a few years since I've seen him. We chatted for awhile. The boss gave me these two manuals I have to memorize. I'm going to have tests at the end of each week for either 3 or 4 weeks, and that's the thing that has me a bit flustered. I have exam anxiety pretty bad. I also am going to have to make up a test in one of my classes, so I'll be doing a lot of studying.

Next week, I have to go to Indianapolis for training for the whole week. And I don't have a laptop, so I'll miss the computer for a week. I can just imagine the e-mails I'll have when I get back. Ugh.

Queen, well, I hope things get better for you and your dude. I used to have my eyebrow pierced. That's one of the places it hurts the least I think. I guess that's it for now. Have a good one.

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BT- Geez, sounds like you have a lot of studying to do, I have faith that you will do fine! Hope you have a nice week away, it might be nice to have a change of scenery.

Queen- Your window actually flew out the wall? Thank goodness, you weren't hurt, that is crazy!! How are things going with the new dude? I finally saw your tattoo, it came out nice. Where did you say it was again? I want to get another one but don't know where to put it?

Ballerina- Hope this isn't T.M.I. but try doggy style, LOL. Worked for me, that is how I got pregnant with the 3some.

Ann- I miss your blog ( I didn't check it today...yet)

I am still running around with my head cut off, I will be glad when football is over, I wish he would switch to baseball seems a lot less dangerous. I did end up getting money from shtbag. Turns out he has money to spend on scratch tickets but can't pay the measly amount he was supposed to for child support BUT Karma can be a bitch. I think eh won $1000 , 2 different times and they took it from him both times, he didn't send shit, LOL, would of loved to see the look on his face when he found out. Just a matter of time, I guess, that I get the notice to go back to court.My new meds are working out good, my latest labs are undetectable again, YEAH. My screen is jumping and driving me nuts, I am on my SO's computer and can't find the compatibility view button? Later, chicas!!

Ballerina- Are you using the tester yet? I just wanted to let you know that you can get more test strips on Ebay for very good prices. Good luck sweetie....I know your pain and frustration.

BT- Good luck on the training!

I had my appt this morning and my CD4 is 301 and my VL is 61. These are from labs taken back in August right after I got back from Vegas. I'm hoping that I am UD as we speak. I also got a script for Chantix from her. I'm kinda nervous about it but I really want to kick the ciggys.

We've been very busy here lately with homeschool. We took the kids to a farm last weekend with some friends of ours. It was fun but still too hot to be getting in the Fall mood. This weekend we are taking them to the zoo, we have a membership there. Our zoo just got their Koala exhibit opened and we are excited to see them.

I've been trying to get into the Fall spirit by baking....a batch of cookies here, some pumpkin bread there. I really just wish it would cool down some more. That is the only thing I miss about living back east, the Fall season. Not really a whole lot going on here I guess.

It's been a while. I've been reading the posts just not posting. I sometimes feel like I don't have a lot to say. Not much is really going on except everything is going really well. I think the last time I posted I had gotten married. I was busy with that, of course, and taking care of Grammy.

Work's been busy, which is really nice. My case worker really helped me with my adap situation, so making money isn't a discouragement

Betty, you've started a new job? Congrats, things sounded bad in the end at the church? I think the job training should be good to get away and get some new skills for your background (you're probably there right now).

Queen- you're dating a new guy now? Is he still making you do all the traveling? What's your next step with this guy? Thank God you're ok after the storm. The damage was extensive.

Hello to you other girls...Ann, Snow, Ballerina, HippieL, and Netta. Where is Netta? Hope you all have a good day.

Snow, I think it's great that SB's money he won from the lottery was taken from him. I'm sure you need the help financially. And you know, people always have money for lottery, no matter what else they owe. Yesterday, I was riding back from Indianapolis, with a girl I work with, plus we were giving her aunt a ride. Her aunt is on disability, and can't afford hardly anything, but when we stopped at a gas station, she bought a bunch of scratch-offs. And she won $15! I never win when I buy those things, and certainly don't stand in judgment of people who do buy them. My oldest sister won $2000 once.

Hippie, at least you're baking, even if it doesn't quite feel like fall to you. It has been unseasonably warm here as well, with temps in the high 70's. It's supposed to drop this coming week, though, and at night it's been getting into the low 40's. The leaves are changing, though, which is cool. I'm not much of a baker, though, so you've got me beat there. Around Christmas time, I'll make a couple different kinds of fudge, and if I'm lucky, cookies.

Camms, I knew you were going to get married, but didn't realize the wedding happened already. Congrats! I like your avvy also. Did you color your hair dark? For some reason, I thought you had kind of blonde/light brown hair. The bad thing about being at the church I was working at was, of course, working around the pastor. No one's bitter over it, though, so it's cool.

I'm finally back from Indianapolis. I'm now certified in pre- and post-test counseling, and doing the actual HIV tests that our agency runs, which is the OraQuick, and OraSure. Things actually went smoother than I thought they were going to. The instructor was very nice, and the presentors were interesting. There were 8 of us doing it, and I really like it when there's a smaller number of people. I feel more free to talk. When we were going down there, I thought it was going to be big, like an auditorium type thing. I have to go to another training at the beginning of November, but this upcoming one is so I can be certified to bill to Medicaid. So, I know that's going to be extremely dull.

I have an exam I have to do for school, that the professor e-mailed to us right before I went to Indy. And the questions are soooo long. It's about different counseling theories, and how we would use them in certain situations, and also explaining the biology of addiction. I've done four questions, and have written 5 pages for the answers. The professor assured us that each question would be a page or page 1/2 long answer. So, I have 3 more questions. The next one I'm going to have to look on the internet for, because it's using a theory I'm not familiar with, and it's not in our text (expectancy theory). Hopefully I can finish it by tomorrow afternoon, so I can e-mail it back to the professor. I still feel intimidated in my classes, because of everyone else already having their master's, and already doing counseling. Oh well, 2 1/2 more months, and this semester will be done. But then, next semester, the classes are supposed to get more intense. I can't imagine that. Ok ladies, have a great weekend!

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Just checking in....Good to hear from you, Camms. I didn't know you had gotten married either. I thought you were planning it but Congrats. I got the PM you sent me about the horror movie thread but I could not find it in Off Topic. I have been disappointed with what has been called horror lately. I usually cherish October because you find all the classic stuff playing. I don't think I can tolerate another remake unless it is by Rob Zombie.

Betty you sound like you're getting to know your way around a computer better. I can't do all that stuff you're talking about. Maybe once I get the hearing issue resolved I will look into it.

Snow---It's about time that sorry mofo is paying you something. But he wants to take credit for it when it was taken from him. Isn't that some nerve! The tattoo is a heart with wings but when you look at the heart you can see it is the Puerto Rican flag. Its hard to explain..lol...

As far as dating the new guy, well that is now over. I ended it with him, he was just having too many personal things going on and no time really to pursue a relationship. Have tried to date another guy but he seems scared to show face or has a woman which is what I think it is. But I have been so busy babysitting that I really haven't had much time to do anything else. And the day I do get off, I am so tired that I just usually stay home and relax. So I guess you can say I have been text dating...lol

Once again the landlord is being a bit shady. After he put the window back in,he said he was going to have someone come fix it and the leaky roof. When I text him about this, of course I got no reply. I text him today because he needs to turn the heat on. I am starting to get sick already. His brother is suppose to handle it tomorrow. We shall see......

I have a gyn appointment on Monday but wondering if I should go since my period just started back up today. After years of being on the depo shot. Someone here said it would take a year for it to kick back in and they were right. So I am wondering if I should reschedule, they can't look down there so what is the point of going? Hearing appointment with ENT next month. But there is still an appointment I think I am missing....Snow?

Queen, don't think I'm getting around a computer better, I just google things when I don't know what they are. I'm sorry things didn't work out with you and the guy you were seeing. It's so hard to find someone who really wants a relationship, who's worthy of one (if that makes sense), and knows how to really treat a lady. I can't say about the appointment with the gyn. Maybe you should reschedule. Are you going to try to get on Depo again? I take that, but not for birth control. I had my tubes tied years ago. I take it so I won't have periods. Have you seen a doctor for the HIV/diabetes? I just wondered if that was the doctor appointment you're missing. Please take care of yourself, we don't want anything to happen to you.

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Queen I would make another appointment. That happened to me also. I went to the office and they had me reschedule. The link was under off topic "A Cavalcade of Horror Films". Some really good suggestions. Rob Zombie House of 1000 Corpses was scarey. I had a problem with the Devil's Rejects. Sorry things didn't work out but it seemed if you were constantly traveling to him then screw it.Thanks of the Congrats.

Betty, thank you also on the congratulations. I was busy before and after the wedding. I was posting mainly on Facebook, since pics are issues lately on the forums. I am naturally, eh hem, a light brunette, so I went dark for awhile.

As for school, you're not alone with feeling intimidated. I hear it from every single person that is back in school. Good luck on your exam regarding the biology of addiction!

I typically am not a football fan, but my father in law got us tickets for the Giants game today. I swear I felt like I was at the Parthenon with the sheer excessive testosterone and cave man like mentality of the guys sitting behind me. I was thinking that the Lions would come out any moment amongst the mongers and jeers. Funny thing is that the Giants played against the Detroit Lions. But I had a really good time over all. The game was really cool and it was interesting trying to learn about the plays. I will definitely go back, surprisingly.

Has anyone heard from mum. I got an email from her about 2 months ago. Anything since?

Queen B- You should have the info now, I can send you a pm on here if you want? Hope your gyn appt. went well, I have to go back soon to mine. I will see if she recognizes me, she was my friends midwife when she had her baby in Sept and I was the labor coach.

BT- I will take street smarts over book smarts anyday. They might have read a lot of books and taken more classes but you have lived more life and know exactly where people are coming from. I think you will do fine.

Camms- I like your hair too, I just got mine darkened last week, scared the crap out of myself the next morning, LOL.

I don't understand why it is so hard for meet other positive women? I have been putting out feelers for years now and have yet to meet anyone I have the slightest bit in common with? Not that I have even met that many women recently at all, 7 at the most, and that was awhile ago? It is getting kind of depressing, I would love to be able to find another poz women with young kids.Has anyone ever read of Sylvia Brown's book? She is a psychic, kind of interesting if you believe in that stuff.

Camms, I'm sure seeing a football game in person is a lot more exciting than watching it on t.v. I had to chuckle when you were talking about the "caveman like mentality." I can just imagine. I've never been much of a football fan, but being that I live in the town that Notre Dame is in, I follow them sometimes. I was raised with the Chicago Cubs, so I really like watching them. Except for the fact that they can't seem to make it to the world series, which is always disappointing. And that exam I had to take? Ugh. I got a couple questions done when I was at the training I had to go to last week. When I got home, I had 3 questions left to do, and it took me 5 hours to do those, and get it e-mailed to the professor.

Snow, thanks for the vote of confidence. I actually like the combination of street smarts/book smarts. Unfortunately, if someone's going to do therapy, and diagnosis, the person has to have schooling. Here in Indiana, to be called a therapist, a person has to have a master's. I can tell you, I won't be doing that. Getting a master's certificate is killing me, I can't imagine going back for an actual degree. And about meeting women? I'm sorry you can't find any. I don't really have any positive female friends in this area either. There's one lady who's been living with the virus about as long as I have, or maybe even a little longer, that I was in touch with about a year ago. But, she's a client of the place I work at now, so I'm not sure how it would be for me to get in touch with her outside of the work setting. It seems, though, that women aren't as vocal or present as men are. I know, in the town I live in, stigma is still very much an issue, and a lot of women have kids they don't want anything to happen to. I believe in being out about being positive, but I also understand women's fears about it.

So yeah, I told a friend, and one of my sisters, if I ever talk about going back to school again after I'm done with the program I'm in now, to hit me in the head. It's just so stressful to go to school and work. I don't know how people who work full-time and go to school do it.

In a couple weeks, I have another training I have to go to in Indianapolis. This one won't be as fun as the last one, which was on testing and prevention. This one is so we can get certified to bill Medicaid, so I imagine it's going to be sucky boring. On an interesting note, the instructor I just had for the last training, told us that an oral swab test is better than a blood drawn western blot at detecting early infection. I don't have any links to back that up, as it was told to us by a person, not something I found online. Perhaps when I have a lot of extra time, I'll try to find a link about it somewhere. Ok ladies, I hope you all have a good day, and Queen, I hope you're doing alright.

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I did make it to my gyn appointment yesterday after all. I guess all I did was spot for that one day, nothing else so I went. As always it has become aggravating to say the least when I go to appointments. When I checked in, registration asked me to write on the waiting list that I am hearing impaired. Ok, not a problem but why did they not share this info with the gyn nurses? My name had been called 3 times while I was sitting there. I got to wait on the results to the PAP but I did get my depo shot and flu shot. Betty, I take the depo for the same reason you do. I had long periods too that sometimes would last over a week.

Now today I woke up with a fever and arm aching. I am glad I listened to the nurse and bought some Tylenol. I have a slight cough and sniffles. I am tired and just feel blah. I guess it could've been worse. The shot covered 3 types of Flu including swine but I guess doesn't really kick in for a few weeks. So by the beginning of next month I should be covered. Also next month is the ENT so I can get hearing tests done so hopefully I can get another pair of hearing aids. I just hope my hearing hasn't gotten worse. I also have my PCP appointment. So, I am getting the medical thing back in order.

Camms, I have Rob Zombie's House of a 1000 Corpses, not really scary to me. I liked The Devil's Rejects more to be honest. The dvd I have came with both of those movies. I also liked his remakes of Halloween 1 & 2. I also have them too. I try to get my hands on anything Rob Zombie makes movie wise except for his x-rated cartoons. I did watch one though and it was funny as hell. I can't think of the name of it tho. But I love him especially cuz we share the same bday.

I have been watching AMC fear fest since it is the 30th anniversary of Friday the 13th. They're showing parts 1-9 then next week it is Halloween parts 1-5. I often wonder why they don't show the other ones, I guess it would be 6-9, I think that's about how many they made. Or why they don't show any of the Nightmare on Elm Sts? I do want to see that Walking Dead movie that is suppose to come on Halloween night. SyFy has been sucking as far as what they are showing except for yesterday when they happened to have showed one or two Leprechaun movies. The only horror I am getting now is how almost every movie that is coming out is in 3D!!!! I don't need to be made to feel like stuff is coming at my head. I also think Saw 3D is going to suck majorly too. It started for me once they killed Jigsaw(tobin Bell) off, so now it seems like he has disciples who are doing his work now. That made it overkill for me, excuse the pun tho it fits....

I have not heard anything from Mum either. I hope she is well and the fam.

Queen, what's this depo shot? I have periods that last for almost 9 days...it's awful. Sorry your not feeling well. Is this all because of your flu shot?

I do like the remakes of Halloween a lot, as far as Rob Zombie. I liked the house film because he took it to another level. The underground freak show of the living dead. But yeah, looking forward to Amc's Walking Dead, of course. Tis the season of ghouls and such. As far as the 3d, gosh, I hate it. I think they compromise shots on angles for the sake of the 3d sensation. I don't get why everything is going 3d. It's annoying and a waste of time. I saw Friday the 13th (3d) in 8th grade with my dad. That's where it ended for me.

Betty-

I was thinking that you had in wrapped up and finished when I originally read your post. Five hours to finish your questions sounds painful.

I feel old today. I'm on day 2 of my period and have a horrible pain in my right lower back that just aches. I can't deal with today or any day. I'm going to sign off prematurely and run a hot bath....

Queen, I think I like Nightmare on Elm St. better than Friday the 13th. Of the originals anyway. I watched the 2nd parts of each one, and that made me lose interest in sequels. I hope you're feeling better.

Camms, I get the Depo shot as well. It's a hormone shot, but it stops your periods. You should talk to your doctor about it. Oh, and when I got done with the exam, the answers were 7 type-written, single-spaced pages. But, some other people in the class tonight were saying the same thing. It dealt with different theories in counseling, and situations, and how would we use the theories and counsel the people.

I don't really have any news. Friday I take another test at the ASO I'm working at. I passed the first one, but anyone could have passed it. I guess the 3rd one took the other two newest care coordinators 3 hours to do. And you have to get an 80% or better, or you're no longer employed there. Crazy. ok ladies, have a good one.

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Snow- thanks, funny about scarring yourself. I love changing hair color. But it can be a mirror moment of "oh wow my hair looks great"....or "oh crap, wtf was I thinking"

Betty- I am going for a consultation because it's bad, my menstruation. It's always been bad. I'm on the pill for ovarian cysts. Now that I have only one ovary I would love to keep it. However, the pill doesn't curb my cramps or period of period.

I wonder how Netta's doing. I hope she's ok.

I ran into a bit of a problem a few weeks back. As you know, I work from home as a graphic designer. I do various work, including websites etc. Anyway, a very close friend is having her children's books self published. She needed a website. I told her I would charge her 300 which is a 1/4 of what I charge. In fact, I would make this a very interactive site and try to help her promote her books. I was working on her site for 21 days straight. There were a lot of pictures taken and rendered. She constantly emailed me with a multitude of questions.

On Thursday she has changes etc. I said I would have them done by Monday. And she replied " Why so LONG?!"

Let me back up and say I changed the entire color scheme, logos, and pictures several times which sent me back a few days because she kept changing her mind.

So I sent her a light hearted email explaining all the work I've done and that I was taking off this weekend. She replied with a one page email, seething with crazy accusations and inaccurate time lines. I'm anal when it comes to saving all my emails etc so I know that she was way, WAY off. I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe that my close friend would challenge me to this point.

One of the accusations was this: I went with her to the dog park ( took a gazillion pictures of her mastiff therapy dog) and was to follow her to the hospital for a therapy session. On my way over to the hospital I took a wrong turn and didn't know where I should meet up with her (there's 8 different buildings) so I turned around and went home after about a half hour. When I got home I worked on all the photographs from the park and sent her all pics. She LOVED them and said she was wowed.

But in the email she said on the first day "to the hospital" I conveniently got lost and wasted a whole day. WTF, I couldn't believe it. She turned around the reality of it and skewed it. My husband said he saw this coming.

Any way, I was extending a courtesy and got burned. I told her that I chose to go my separate way. People still surprise me, and not in a good way. It's sad how thankless and ungrateful some folks can be.

Camms, I hope things get worked out with your periods. I hated having them. About your friend going off the deep end, that's really too bad that happened. I've heard a person shouldn't work with friends. At the ASO I'm at now, the director of client services got a friend a job there, as a case manager. Now, she regrets getting the person the job, and told me she'd never hire another friend. And my best friend...she got one of her friends a job. They just had lay-offs there, and her friend expected her to be able to save her job for her. And now is very upset with my best friend, because she couldn't. So, it's probably not a good idea. I totally understand why you did, though, trying to help someone out. Hopefully your friend will see the error of her ways, and get in touch with you and apologize.

I'm up waaaay tooo early. My brain isn't awake. I have lots to do today. There's a test in my other class I need to work on, and I'll be having my last test at the ASO next week, and I need to try to study for that. I have to get an 80% or better, or I don't have a job. That makes me very nervous. And i have to clean and shop. Sorry for the boring post, it's just too early. Have a good one.

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I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Camms, there is another alternative to the Depo shots and it's something I have - the Mirena Coil. For most women, it stops the periods completely and for others like me, it makes it very light and brief.

I got the coil because of heavy, long-lasting periods. When I mentioned to my doctor how my periods didn't completely stop, he said it was proof as to how bad my periods were. (!!! As if I needed proof! That's men for you!)

For me there were a couple advantages to the coil over the shot. For one, the coil lasts for a few years and I don't have to remember to get the shots. For another, the hormones in the coil stay localised to the uterine/ovary area and do not circulate throughout your system. This was a plus for me because I've had mood-swing problems in the past with systemic hormone treatments.

I just thought I'd throw that alternative out there for you. For me, it was either that or a hysterectomy and I'm happy with the results. I don't want a hysterectomy if I can avoid it.

Sorry to hear about your friend being a bitch not very nice. With friends like that, who needs enemies, eh?

Betty, hang in there, I'm sure you'll get through these tests and whatnot with flying colours.

You know, I'm happy to hear that the place you're working for wants you to pass with 80%. Why? Because there are too many places out there who allow people who don't really know what they're talking about to do testing stuff. At least the place you're working for is being responsible in this regard. If there's anything I can do to help you pass this test, let me know. Maybe we can go over some of it on Skype. I'll be around for most of the day. Hmm... I am right in thinking this is a test to do with testing and prevention, yes? Let me know.

Queen, I'm glad to hear you're getting your medical stuff sorted out.

Snow, I know a few women locally who are poz, but I'm only somewhat close to one of them. The others I just don't have anything in common with other than hiv and it just isn't enough. The other woman I'm only in sporadic contact with and that's partly my fault. I really should ring her soon and arrange to go for a coffee with her.

Oh, and about my blog.... When I ended up having to get a new laptop last spring, I forgot how to get into my blog account. I finally got it sorted lately and I plan on starting to write more, so watch that space!

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Ann, I already passed the exam stuff for pre-certified testing and prevention. That was the training in Indy I went to. The testing is about agency stuff. Filling out forms, HIV stuff, agency policies, grants etc. There are two huge manuals, and one other manual I have to know, which is packed-full of information. My boss wants everyone to know a lot, and not be ignorant about the important stuff I guess. Anyway, about the testing and prevention....we had to pass an instructor-observed test where we were the testor/counselor, and another person was playing a certain role. And we had to demonstrate we knew how to go through all the pre-test stuff (getting info, finding out risk factors, etc.), doing the test, doing risk reduction counseling, and giving a reactive result, for the OraQuick. We were also trained on doing the OraSure, which I found out the agency I work for does not do. They do the OraQuick, and then if that's reactive, they do a blood test follow-up. We haven't been trained yet in how to draw blood and package it, but that's coming. So, anyway, this last test took the other two three hours to do, and it makes me very nervous. I get exam anxiety pretty bad. Thanks for the offer of help, though. It seems like it's been ages since we've skyped. Hopefully we'll do that again very soon. I have stuff I'd love to chat about, the HIV stuff that is that I'm learning about (not just the basics, of course, but other stuff). And what policies this agency has etc. And I'd love to hear what's going on with you. Miss you, gf.

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I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Camm- I feel like I have been hit by bus the first couple of days of mine. If only guys felt an hours worth of what we feel every month for days straight, there would never be anymore man drama. I hope they figure out the best treament for you. It's funny you were talking about them, we were listening to Mary J tonight and she had a song about PMS and we were laughing, hers must of been a hot mess to write a song about it.

Ann- YEAH!!:::''''>>>>Ann's Blog is coming back<<<<"""::: LOL, that's one more than I have.

BT- Can you break that stuff down so it doesn't seem so overwhelming? I would use flash cards especially if you are trying to remember steps. Writing it down a couple times too.

Not much going on with me. Did I tell you guys I had another baby?LOL, not me but I'm a baby daddy and I a good one, dammit. Shoot I have done more for this kid than my sons father has done fo him and she is only 4 weeks.So obviously, I have been spending more time with her, which has been hectic since I started working at my kids school PT and I have 4 kids of m own. Anyway, she has brought up aids a couple of times. Which is wierd for me since no one I know ever mentions it, EVER, close friends anyway. Not that I think she thinks anything about me but it makes me wonder about her openness to me being poz especially since she just had a baby and she was butt-ass naked around me when she had her. She is a very educated women but the mind can do some crazy shit when your kids are involved.

Ann- Can't wait for the rebirth of the blog. I remember reading about the days of fox trot charlie and life on the isle. Glad that you've recovered from your cold and are in full form back on the forums.

Betty-I understand that pre-exam jitters. I still have the dream that I go into a nondescript class and don't know any answers to the questions on the test. You're working so hard Betty, kudos to you

Snow- Darn, you must have your hands full. So do you feel like your friend is nervous with her kid?

Well, I've got a heck of a cold and need to mindlessly wander on the tube. AMC preferably.

HI Ladies !!! Camms congrats on your wedding! please send me your facebook name so I can see pics. I am still alive, doing well. I have been busy with a new play and church and I have been getting ready for my art show next month, I am a procrastinator, doing everything last minute. I am on facebook a s Vannetta ferguson, so check me out and check out my art. I hope all is well. Betty congrats on new job! Queen- glad ur doing ok ! everyone else ,nice to meet you! Be blessed!

Hello Ladies, Just doing a drive by to let you all know that I am still lurking around here. I am now into week 30 of this pregnacy thing. I am so ready to be done but yet I am scared at the same time. Im still in school working on my Masters which is really starting to get on my nerves. Besides that everything is good. Just stopping in to check on everyone.

Did anyone ever find out what happened to VIV. from this forum. She was just on my mind.