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WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR 12YR OLD SON IS TALKING ABOUT SEX?

You teach him about it and make sure he's safe. Kids are starting things sooo much earlier than when any of us were kids. What is he talking about exactly? Wanting to do it or just being curious about it? Either way..educate him. Good luck!

You educate him about it and tell him how you feel about him having sex at such a young age. Kids don't understand until you tell them how you feel. Don't assume he knowes right from wrong. When you think about it, back in the day, people got married and had kids once their period started. They were only kids. It's human nature to have desires but it's up to the parent to teach them how to control those desires.

Also dispel notions that are popular among uninformed young people- such as you can't get pregnant the first time, and so forth. Be frank about STDs including AIDS. Talk about the consequences of unprotected sex, or even with a condom, that babies happen. and just because he doesn't carry the baby in his body, that he would still be expected to have a job and support the child.

This all seems very negative about sex. It might be a good idea to talk about lust vs love. About commitment, morals, caring.

TEACH HIM. He is obviously comfortable with you ( a good thing, although uncomfortable for you)

and wants to know things.....push your nervousness aside and ACT calm and talk.

Answer by
Anonymous
at 8:12 AM on Aug. 20, 2009

You explain to him that sex is a beautiful, special gift that is to be enjoyed only between a man and his wife. You tell him over and over again about the physical, emotional, and psychological dangers and the harm that comes from premarital sex. You explain to him how it affects one's abilitiy to trust. You teach him that relationships based on sex will be shallow and unfulfilling. You teach him that there are new std's begin discovered every day, many of which have no symptoms but can cause infertility and other physical harm. You teach him about the benefits of self-control and of staying away from entanglements that can lead to responsibilities before he is ready to assume them. You tell him about the benefits of education, of being prepared for taking care of his family before he actually creates one. You tell him that he wants a wife of character, who will save herself just for him and that is what he should want.

My husband is convinced that showing our sons (when they reach that age) a birthing video will keep them from having sex altogether LOL!!!!! But seriously, talk to him... explain his options, the potential consequences, the risks, etc. Be open about it with him too... the more you try to sway the opinions of teenagers, the more they tend to rebel against your wishes (even the good ones)!

agreed with Nanny B. He is obviously just curious and its not likely that hes doing it. Hes just talking about it because thats what 12 yr olds do. YOu need to educate him as best as you can and if you need help or resources, then ask! Make sure hes well educated. Its not going to stop him from talking about it, but at least it will be factual. Good luck.