Has All The Passion And Desire Fizzled Out Of Your Relationship?

Would you like to rekindle the passion and desire you once had for each other? Perhaps you still love your partner, but somehow you’ve both ended up feeling more like housemates than passionate partners.

Perhaps you are both hard working individuals, and the precious time that was once allotted to your relationship is now dedicated to working, raising children and the rest of life’s many responsibilities.

Maybe something unexpected or drastic happened, like loss of a loved one, termination from your job or caring for an aging parent, and the stress is negatively impacting your relationship. Or, maybe something good happened, like a new baby, job or something else, but you’re still overwhelmed and struggling to settle into a new routine while you care for your sex life.

Does one or both of you suffer from sexual dysfunction or low libido? Has there been a breach of trust that has impacted your ability to come back together as a team?

Maybe you’re still having sex, but it’s dull. Dull sex is better than no sex, but you can’t help but wonder what’s missing.

Remember those intense feelings of lust, love and desire you shared at the beginning of your relationship? Wouldn’t it be magical to re-harness that spark? Would you like to create magic moments together that you can look back on in years to come? Potentially you are now considering sex therapy.

You Are Not Alone

An article in Newsweek reported that 15-20 percent of couples have sex 10 times a year. Officially, a “sexless marriage” is defined as intimacy once or less than every six weeks. That’s very close to no intimacy at all. If this describes your relationship, you are far from alone.

In my training with Michele Weiner Davis, world renowned divorce buster, it was made very clear that such infrequent sex does lasting damage to most marriages. Sex is a very powerful bonding force. After all, being intimate is what separates your relationship from being “friends.”

Sexless relationships can lead to affairs and/or other forms of infidelity. When your needs are not being met in the relationship, it’s very common for one or both parties to seek satisfaction elsewhere. Yes, infidelity is an act of betrayal, but it’s also an expression of longing and loss. At the heart of an affair, you will often find a longing and a yearning for an emotional connection that is sadly absent.

And, not all sexual problems stem from relationship problems. Research has proven that a couple can love each other deeply and still lose the erotic spark they once had. Sex therapist David Schnarch writes in his book Intimacy and Desire that, “People have sex within the limits of their sexual development.” In other words, we stick to having sex in familiar ways. Trying new things can be uncomfortable, but without this novelty, you likely feel stuck in patterns that have grown tired.

There’s a rumor that you can’t sustain an erotic marriage in the long term, but that’s completely untrue. What if I told you marriage counseling could help you relight the fire in your sex life?

Sex Therapy Can Help You Have Better Sex More Often

Couples sex counseling can help you take charge to reignite the spark in your relationship.

There may have been a period when you both wanted to spend as much time as possible gazing into each other’s eyes and making love one last time before dashing off to work. Over time, the demands of life, dealing with your careers, financing your lifestyle or raising the children turns you into a family unit. In this stage, the two of you stand shoulder to shoulder dealing with life’s challenges and it’s often just not sexy. It’s a positive approach to life together but a bit of a passion killer. There is nothing less sexy than feeling obligated to have sex when you’re exhausted.

Terrence Real, author of The New Rules of Marriage says, “I believe in fierce intimacy. Which means that people are radically honest with each other. I think the first casualty when people don’t tell the truth to each other is passion. Unresolved issues fester. Resentment turns into a lack of generosity and less willingness to surrender.” Here, I can help you both open up about your desire and finally advocate for what you both truly want. When you’re able to be radically honest with your partner, an amazing shift can occur—you actually have a shot at having everything you want.

As erotic animals, we seek novelty. What it means is that we have to see our partners with new eyes, and that’s much easier than you might imagine. If you can that, you’d be amazed how much energy you can find for each other again.

The good news is it’s completely possible to have amazing sex with your number one. With couples sex counseling, I can teach you what took me years to figure out. And, you do not need to have an affair with anyone other than your partner. Couples counseling can help you both advocate for your needs, discover your unique sexuality and enjoy a long satisfying life together.

You may have questions or concerns about sex therapy…

I’m so lonely and considering an affair.

Don’t do that. Although an affair can cause you to see your partner through new eyes, it’s not a solution. Affairs are terribly painful and destructive. That would be like seeking out a near death experience to change your life, it’s a very high-risk strategy. Cleaning up an infidelity takes a lot of time and energy.

What if there was a better way of connecting to your partner that didn’t involve deceit and betrayal? With the right guidance, it’s possible to uncover things about your partner you had no idea about. You don’t need to have an affair to bring back the love and passion with your partner. I can teach you how to reawaken your desire for one another.

Does sex occur during sex counseling?

No, that would be weird! Don’t worry, your clothes stay on! There is absolutely no nudity during sessions. This is all talk therapy. I will send you home with engaging exercises to practice together in your own time. These will be specific to your situation and pitched at a time that is right for both of you.

I don’t have the time or energy for marriage sex counseling.

Responsibility and desire tend to work in opposition. If desire and erotic experiences are important to both of you, I can help you prioritize your sex life, allowing you to have it all—a satisfying life with fierce intimacy.

You Can Enjoy An Amazing Sex Life

If you’d like to learn more about couples counseling, please contact me for a free 10-minute consultation. If you have a question you may find it faster to take a look at the FAQ page.

My practice is based in Bondi Beach in Sydney’s Eastern Suburbs, 2026.

Testimonials

Michael Myerscough

Michael saved both my marriage and myself. I had a crush on another woman which was splitting our marriage. Within two sessions, I realised that firstly I was suffering from depression and two that my crush on this other woman was my way of escaping the bleakness. This was helpful because I was able to let go of the crush and return emotionally to my wife.
My wife is probably even happier with Michael than I ...

Michael saved both my marriage and myself. I had a crush on another woman which was splitting our marriage. Within two sessions, I realised that firstly I was suffering from depression and two that my crush on this other woman was my way of escaping the bleakness. This was helpful because I was able to let go of the crush and return emotionally to my wife.
My wife is probably even happier with Michael than I ...

Graeme

Michael Myerscough

We stumbled across Michael’s site during a time of absolute marriage hell and upheaval. I thought my marriage was over. My husband turned around one morning out of the blue and said he was done with our 14 year marriage and he was attracted to someone else. I was completely blindsided and was at an utter loss. My whole world was destroyed in an instant.
I convinced him ...

Emma and Mario

Michael Myerscough

Michael Myerscough surprised us when we discovered he was a "Marriage Coach" as my wife, Brenda had been telling me of a book she was browsing. "The New Rules of Marriage" written by Michael’s mentor.
Within the first three sessions, I found that the "mechanical" process of "accountability" allowed me to 'ask' for what I need in the relationship and to be willing to hear the requests of my partner; the love of my life.
Michael provided ...

David

Michael Myerscough

Kate and I would like to thank you for the work you have done with us. Our transformation using your strategies and meeting with you have been nothing short of life changing. Many thanks again Michael

Warren

Michael Myerscough

We first visited Michael because we weren’t sure that our marriage was still worth the effort. We’d already tried counselling and had got nowhere but Michael was different!
He immediately identified our underlying problems. He often says things we don’t want to hear but balances his insights with humour and compassion.
Michael has saved our marriage and has helped us as individuals in the process – we’re happier than we've ever been!

Ashley and Luke

Michael Myerscough

I do not have high enough praise for Michael's work. His integrity, clarity and insight allowed my husband and I to laser cut through our years of unfinished conversations and misunderstandings in a matter of months...to the point where we now have the tools to consistently go through "Door B" as Michael would say.....to do it differently.
Our marriage had a lot of love and was a "good" relationship, but there were areas where we both ...

Brenda

Michael Myerscough

Michael knows exactly how to get a couple out of trouble and is fearless.
Before working with Michael I was very sceptical about therapy for couples and did not believe that any outsider could fully understand me, my partner or our situation well enough to be of help. At best, I expected clichés and a quick fix that would wear out after a short time. Michael is different and not at all what I had imagined in ...

Chris

Michael Myerscough

Before my wife and I met and started working with Michael, my marriage was over. My wife had "left the building" and only agreed to couples therapy as a means of a smoother exit to our relationship. Michael explained to her that a smooth exit was not out of the question, but a hard look at how we had gotten to such a place was where to start.
With amazing objectivity, he took us through our ...

Steven

Michael Myerscough

One year ago my world came crashing down when I found out that my amazing, seemingly perfect husband had been seeing prostitutes for 9 months. I am a mum with three small boys. I didn't know what to do or how to function. All I knew is that I had to hold it together for my children.
After seeing several marriage counsellors who were unable to help, my husband and I found Michael. He listened, ...

Karina and John

Michael Myerscough

When I contacted Michael regarding therapy it was with the explicit intent that he help us end our marriage in an amicable and conscious way for the sake of our children. This was our 3rd attempt at couples counselling and I was not interested in the least in "saving my marriage." I realise that if you're reading this you may be thinking "no one understands how bad your marriage is or could possibly have the ...

Maureen

Michael Myerscough

In my 1st session with Michael I realized that Michael "got me" like no other professional ever has. Michael pin pointed issues that I have had for more than 50 years that have held me back. He has helped me to improve my life and save our marriage. Even better the work we did was respectful and a lot more entertaining that I would ever have thought possible.

Bob

Michael Myerscough

Your teachings has opened up a whole new world for me. I am able to better understand the emotional requirements required, firstly to be genuinely happy with ourselves, and secondly to try to understand and be happy with my wife.
If I were to advise anyone who found themselves in the unfortunate position that I was last year and I had to sum up my learning with you it would be; find someone who's advice you can trust ...

Sean

Michael Myerscough

Wow, I never thought I could get someone to get through to my husband and allow him to see himself in true REALITY! Michael Myerscough has been an absolute life changer for my marriage and it is evident that his approach to marriage therapy is a success story in itself.
My husband has a drinking problem which has been an issue in our marriage since the beginning. I and my children have witnessed his on and ...

Jasmine

Michael Myerscough

Michael I really appreciate you following up.
I do know you tried very hard and I appreciate that so much. The fact you couldn't save my marriage is sad but as you said sometimes people aren't meant to be together.
My brain tells me that I will get through this, but at the moment my heart is telling me otherwise.
I am determined to have a good and better life and I will work very hard ...

Lynsey

Michael Myerscough

My wife found out about an 8 year emotional affair I'd been having. Somehow I'd convinced myself that it wasn't a big deal and that I wouldn't get caught. Well, I got caught and it was a huge deal. It was horrific. At points I was afraid that I'd either killed my wife or she was going to kill me. I had no idea this was going to cause such a big rupture or how ...

Gordon and Jenny

Michael Myerscough

Thank you Michael.
Yesterday's intensive was amazing, I really thought I was the only issue and it's been spiralling me down deeper and deeper into this depression. It was at a point where I was questioning my love for Claire as I felt like I was lost.
I am very happy just from yesterday's outcome. Thankyou for showing us a way forward and through the mess I got us into. I look forward to future meetings ...

Tony

Michael Myerscough

Michael is a truly great marriage counsellor.
He sized up my marriage faster than any therapist we've seen before (and we've seen a few), and we made more progress in 3 months with him than I thought possible. I understand where my wife is coming from more than ever before which is amazing.
I no longer feel our marriage is at deaths door. I would highly recommend him to any couple who is struggling.

Martin

Michael Myerscough

My husband and I have been married for over 30 years and most of those years were spent raising our 6 children and striving to achieve goals that we had set for ourselves. Imagine my dismay when we had accomplished almost everything we had dreamed about and we were a light year away from happy. Our many homes, cars, vacations and travels did little to cover up the fact that we had grown ...

Mary

Michael Myerscough

We met Michael, at a point where our marriage was at rock bottom and I was really struggling with how it was going. I wanted out, but something kept me wanting to make it work. We had seen marriage counsellors, before, but Michael, was different. He has a great knack of getting to the root of the issue, using humor and a lot of sensitivity; he understands your boundaries and knows when to cross them. ...

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