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Well, when my best friend was 14, we where at a house party and this guy who she really liked wanted to go out with her.

So they went to a bedroom and started kissing. But she told me he got to rough. And he said if she didn't take her clothes off, he would hit her and pull them off her. It has been a year now, and she has a 1 year old son.

People judge her and make comments. She dropped out of school. I promised not to tell anyone about it. And she told her parents that her and her boyfriend did it. We are really glad we can tell it to you guys. And yes, we are writing this together. Thanks, lola.

Thanks for getting in touch, we are sorry to hear taht you friend had a traumatic incident.

Being forced or pressured to have sex when someone doesn’t want to is rape and it is a crime. Speak to your friend and help them understand that this was not their fault and there was nothing they could have done to prevent this.

You should encourage your friend to call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about the problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you they can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

05/01/2013

Christina

04/01/2013

When my friend was 15 her older boyfriend often tried to pressure her into sex.

One day she was on top of him just kissing and he managed to take her trousers off and get into her when he knew she didn't want to do anything. I was just wondering if this would be classed as rape or not?

Thanks for getting in touch, we are sorry to hear about the incident involving your friend.

Being forced or pressured to have sex when someone doesn’t want to is rape and it is a crime. Speak to your friend and help them understand that this was not their fault and there was nothing they could have done to prevent this.

You should encourage your friend to call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about the problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you they can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. If you or your friend ever feel in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

05/01/2013

may

04/01/2013

being pressured into anything is wrong. a partner is only right for you if their no.1 aim is to make you the happiest you can be.

i was pressured into sex when i was 14, i had told him many times that i didn't want to but he was older than me and i didn't want to seem like a little girl. in the end he asked me to try it and that he would stop whenever i wanted to,

i didn't want to at all but that didn't seem to matter so he started anyway until i shouted and he stopped.

i left that day and never saw him again, soon to find out that he had been seeing my much older mutual friend the whole time.
is that rape?

We are sorry to hear about this traumatic incident from your past. We think it is important that even though this may have happened some time ago, that you should try to speak to someone about this if you can.

Being forced or pressured to have sex when you don’t want to is rape and it is a crime. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

If this has happened to you no matter how long ago please try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.
You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

You can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been raped or sexually assaulted. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.

04/01/2013

Anonymous

03/01/2013

Hi

When I was 7, I joined a new school and because I was a bit different, I got bullied quite a bit, but after advice from my parents and telling the teacher, none of it helped. Everyone said the same thing: IGNORE THEM. So I did, and they kept trying and it got to me. I put up with it for 4 years.

Then I joined Secondary School at 11 years old, and I was hoping for a fresh start. But some of the idiots from my old school were there and told some new kids about me and the bullying started again. As it happens, the bullying increased in harshness. Now, I'm 14. Most of the bullying has died down except for a couple of idiots. Although most of it is gone, it still gets to me. I'm accused of being gay and said that I'll never get married and I'll never find friends.

I have friends. I'm not gay, but I accept people if they are. Some people are gay, some people are alone. Everyone is different. Helping them feel more confident is the answer, not discrimination.

Hi, I was raped by six girls, I was 12 and I walked into my school gym, and there were some girls.

I had just finished tennis so I was getting changed then all of a sudden they came barging in grabbing me and kneeing me in the balls and face, when I was on the floor crying one of the girls picked me up and said "are you a virgin" I replied "yes" then she said well when were finished with yoo, you won't be.

so they got some blue tye rope and tied me to the coat hanger/hook things,then they grabbed my balls and where sucking them and it was kinda helping then they turned me around and said "time to have sex little girl"

then they got a strap on kinda thing and where raping me it was killing and really painful. then they tried to give me an erection and stuck me up there… you know where and later on I cummed...........now she has a baby but I don't know if its mine,I'm 15 now and I don't know if it was rape

omg i dunno what to say this is really pulled on my heart strigs it must have been so hard for u and i really do feel for u and i hope your okay now and it is rape and it agaist the law to have sex under the age of 16 x

danielle - 30/12/2012

Hi Jamie,

Thanks for sharing your story and we are sorry to hear about this traumatic incident from your past. We understand it must’ve been really difficult to share this and you’ve taken an important step in writing on this site. We think it is important that even though this may have happened some time ago, you must realise that there was nothing you could have done to prevent this. What's important now is that you arm yourself fully with the facts.

The law says that rape can only be committed by a man as for the offence to be committed there must be intentional penetration of the mouth, vagina or anus of another person with a penis. A woman can be convicted of sexual assault, which includes other sexual acts (e.g. intentional penetration of the vagina or anus of another person with a part of her body or an object). Both are crimes and can result in imprisonment.

It doesn’t matter that this happened 3 years ago, please try and find someone you trust to talk to
It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can confide in. If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

You can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers to help people who have been sexually assaulted.

Being forced or pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with is unacceptable. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

If you are being put under pressure to have sex when you don’t want to try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

22/12/2012

Mckenzie

13/12/2012

my boyfriend keeps making me touch him to make him happy... i dont like doing it but i cant tell him i dont want to do it because he would touch me.
he looks up all my mates on facebook so he knows who i will be with... i hate it!
i want to break up with him but im too scared too... what if it gets worse?!

if you are not happy doing what he wants talk to him and if he doesn't listen or does something your not happy about split up with him or tell someone you trust

charlette - 22/12/2012

Hi Mckenzie,

Thank you for posting.

Being forced or pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with is unacceptable. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

If you are being put under pressure to have sex when you don’t want to try and find someone you trust to talk to.

It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

If you have been sexually assaulted you can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers who can help. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.

13/12/2012

anon

09/12/2012

My boyfriends making me do things with him and i dony want to, hes pressering me and i dont like letting people down

I'm 14 and im not ready for sex he needs to leave me alond, but how do i tell him no?

He made me send pictures to him so he could wank over them i did it but now i regret it

Being forced or pressured to have sex or take part in sexual activity that you don’t feel comfortable with is unacceptable. Understand that this was not your fault. There was nothing you could have done to prevent this.

If you are being put under pressure to have sex when you don’t want to try and find someone you trust to talk to. It could be a teacher, a parent or other relative, a close friend, a youth worker or anyone else that you feel comfortable with. It doesn't have to be someone in authority, just someone that you think you can talk to and that you feel comfortable with and trust.

If they don't want to listen, keep trying until you find someone that does. You have the right to be safe and help and support is out there.

You can also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 to talk about any problem or go to www.childline.org.uk where you can contact ChildLine by email and text, chat to a counsellor online or post to the message boards.

Alternatively you can call National Freephone Rape Crisis Helpline to talk to an advisor on 0808 802 9999, 7 days a week between 12pm – 2.30pm and 7pm – 9.30pm. Or you can visit www.rapecrisis.org.uk for further advice and information.

If you have been sexually assaulted you can also speak to the police. Most police forces have specially trained police officers who can help. You can contact the police immediately by dialling 999.

my boyfriend (broken up now) made me do things i didn't want to do. he then told people at school who were my friends and we got in an argument because they said i was disgusting, even though i didn't want to do it. i am now bullied. people throw things at me, shout things at me, write disgusting songs about me and send me horrible messages. karma :(

I think all you need to do is stay strong, remember you're not disgusting, what your ex did was very wrong and that must of hurt you a lot going threw that. But speak to someone who can help you with these bully's a teacher/colleague a family member.

Stay strong soon you will find someone who wont ever do that to you. In the mean time try to be strong and all your anger you get turn it into a poem or music or hobbies. Things like that are really good for taking your mind off things.

I hope this has helped you if not, sorry that's the only advise i can think of. x

Abi - 02/12/2012

Ethena

17/04/2012

Very good to see this initiative. It does need to be more promoted through public media like bill board/ poster in bus etc

One more thing I can not help to share is, using partner's picture/videos for bad purpose may also considered and included here as 'abuse'

what i dont understand is why people have to be abuseive to their partners its degusting i just dont see the point :( a relationship is supossed to be something special between two people sharing their love for eachother :) not someone controling the other person ordering them around telling them to do and giving them what they want !!!!! if i was in a relationship like that and the other person was being like that yh i love them but i would say to myself is this what i want why would i have to put up with this!! if my partner doesnt like it then i would tell him where to put it becuz no one deserves it i dont !!!!!!! for people in this situation you should dump that zero and get yourself a hero!! i know it would be hard becuz you love them but just think is that what you want :)