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IMO, being a short guy is a lot like being a fat gal. It won't keep you from dating, but it does limit your options.

They only difference is that for the most part, women aren't considered shallow for publicly disclosing that they consider short guys un-dateable

I think that's a fair statement.

I like above average height gals, 5'6 - 5'10 range. Last few girlfriends I've had were 5'8 or so. So with heels, I'm about an inch taller when I wear my boots. It doesn't bug me at all but my friends ask, "dude, shes almost as tall as you." And...? She has sexy legs!

The girl I'm currently dating is only 5'1 and I'm not use to dating shoter gals anymore. It reminds me of my HS GF so maybe its more mental than anything. Not to mention this gal and my HS GF act somewhat similar too.

I'm 5'4" and my husband is 6'2". But I have dated men that are only a few inches taller than me and we seemed to fit much better in the kissing and hugging department than when there is such a big difference in height.

I agree with a previous poster....a great personality can make any height desirable. There are plenty of tall jerks out there, so being tall isn't everything.

When I was dating, the shorter the woman got, the degree of difficulty went up. In other words, we would have to have more in common on an intellectual level, interest level, and so on - to make up for the height disparity.

For example, there's this 5'-2" 20-something year old I know, that if I had met her in my single days would be a possibility because she is a committed Christian, loves football, good attitude, etc.

I think it looks kinda weird when a man is so much taller than his lady and vice versa. I once knew a couple she was like 5'3" and he was like 6'4" They looked weird but they were happy. It is funny to see red carpet celebrity photos of the girls who date basketball players.
I'm 5'11" and once dated a woman that was like 6'1" and it was a bit strange but she sure made me stand up straight.
I don't think height should be a deal breaker but I can see why woman want their guys to be taller. I think it is something to do with feeling secure.

OK here goes again. This is what I have experienced on this subject as well as the truths I have known from the feedback of other short men.

A man's height IS a deal-breaker to the ladies who MAKE his height a deal-breaker. There are a lot of heightist women in this world, especially in western culture. If any woman shorter or taller than me places more value on a pair of heels while disqualifying me as a man for being too short for her, she's not worth my time and never will be. Totally fine by me, not my loss. There are some modern women who have shed their Neanderthalic/Cro-Magnonic tendencies and the associated thought process that goes with the hunter/gatherer mentality. I like those women the most because they look at me without passing judgement on me for how tall I stand.

Ultimately what I have discovered with aging is that a short guys height becomes significantly less of a deal breaker when a woman has a lot less men to choose from. Baggage and diminished looks won't gain her any favour with the taller guys so she'll be forced to look to the shorter guys if she wants to avoid being alone. Some of these women are beyond audacious, suggesting that a short man's only purposeful relationship with the opposite sex is to be the "ready doormat" and accept that as his best option to find happiness.

I respect, applaud and appreciate the ladies who step outside of height norms, ignore ancient height traditions and don't strip me of my manhood just because I'm a shade below 5'6.

But, seriously, I don't want to be married to a guy who I tower over. OR who would not want me to wear heels because I would tower even further. Plus, I don't like when a guy only comes up to my boobs - bad for things like slow-dancing!
I am not heightist (is that even a word?), but I know what I prefer!

IMO, being a short guy is a lot like being a fat gal. It won't keep you from dating, but it does limit your options.

They only difference is that for the most part, women aren't considered shallow for publicly disclosing that they consider short guys un-dateable

No, women are still considered shallow to some extent. It is also very socially acceptable to say such things. The obsession with height boils down to bragging rights and inflated sense of worth/entitlement more than anything.

Really don't understand why shallow is such a bad thing. I'm vain and shallow, I'm happy about it. It makes me get my ass out of bed at 5am to hit the gym before work. It makes me brush my teeth more often. It makes me care about my apperance so I don't become someone I would loathe in a photo.

I expect the same in a women. I expect a gal to work hard to keep her looks and health in check. Maybe people don't need to be vain and shallow to get that motivation but I do and I don't think I would have enough motivation if I wasn't.

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