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If you are a Dom, there is a sub looking to obey you. The issue you may be running into is part of being a sub is a feeling of being out of control. This can cause your sub to act out and be kind of wild. It does not mean your sub does not want to obey, it just means you need to be doing a better job as the Master. It is your responsibility to...

If you’re into any type of sexual play that involves toys or special things to wear (e.g. bondage gear) you know how great those things can be. They can add to sensations and make the experience even more mind-blowing overall, so why not make sure you get the best use out of them you can? To do that, they have to be well maintained. Whether...

For those who are just starting out with bondage, the dream might be to have something to tie up your sub within reach at anytime you might need it. With large pulley set ups, you’d have a lot of running rope to tie them with, but you also have to have it set up in a room since it’s not exactly small. Well, that’s alright, – you can just use...

Relationship terminology in the BDSM scene can be very different than in the traditional dating scene. Although there are plenty of gray areas even in mainstream dating and relationships – open relationships, friends with benefits, monogamy – the BDSM scene is even more diverse. One major part of the scene is that many traditional expectations...

We’re taught, as heterosexual men, that only certain modes of sexuality and sexual practice are acceptable, and that anything else reflects poorly on our ability to be manly enough. This is all blown to pieces in the BDSM scene, where everything is about pleasure, consent, and open-mindedness. One think we have to admit that we’ve discovered...

Switches are much rarer in the BDSM and D/s scene than either Doms or subs. Switches can assume either role, and while some have a preference or pattern, others consider themselves fluidly able to swing between roles. While some kinksters feel that switches are like bisexuals, in the sense that there’s a greater chance that one person won’t be...

So, you have your girlfriend tied up in bed and entirely at your mercy – what do you do from here? Well, you could be boring and just put it in, or you could really make her squirm. Chances are you want to pick the latter, and there are three perfect ways to get her begging before you’re even inside her, so try them all and see which one works...

When you first get into the BDSM scene, there are a few different venues that you can experiment with. Due to the fact the scene is a subculture – some refer to it as “alternative lifestyle” – there are a lot of different events to choose from. Unlike the traditional dating scene, where there’s a standard formula for first date activities and...

After you’ve been topping for a while, you might find that you want to expand your horizons and try it yourself. The first thing to understand is the difference between topping/bottoming, and Dominants/submissives. Topping means you’re the top – you’re the one administering the kink and who controls the action – the bottom is the receiver. If...