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how to use an anal dildo

Using an anal dildo is not that different from using a butt plug and like butt plugs, anal dildos are a good way to explore anal penetration to see if you like it before you try it with a partner. If you're just starting to explore this kind of play we recommend reading our article on enjoying anal play which covers the basics. Once you're ready to start playing with your anal dildo here are some tips on where to start.

start solo

Even if you're planning on using an anal dildo with a partner, we recommend starting out on your own. This gives you the chance to explore and experiment with your new toy without any distractions (pleasant though they may be). Using an anal dildo on your own is also important as it's the only way you'll be able to tell a partner how you want them to use it on you.

cleanliness before...

When you get your anal dildo home be sure to wash it well before first use. Look it over carefully and check for tears, seams, or rough edges. Make sure you've read and understood the care instructions for the material your anal dildo is made of.

keep yourself clean while getting dirty

Bacteria that live happily in the anus can cause major problems elsewhere, like the vagina, the mouth, the eyes. When you're playing with anal penetration you need to be careful not to touch other parts of your body (or things like your bottle of lube) with fingers or toys that have been inside your bum. We recommend using condoms on anal dildos and using gloves for your hands. This makes clean up much easier and faster, which lets you move on to other things.

don't forget the lube

You should use a good quality lubricant with all toys for penetration but this is especially true for anal dildos and other toys for anal penetration. The anus and rectum can tear and adding lubricant makes anal penetration both safer and more comfortable. When using the lube, squeeze some into your gloved hand and rub it along the shaft and tip of the butt plug. You will likely have to add more lube during sex play.

start slow

Start slowly using your anal dildo for penetration. Remember not to force it in, but instead press it against your body and relax, breathe, and bare down a bit until you can feel your sphincter muscles relax and the anal dildo slips in. See how far you can comfortably take the dildo into your body. This shouldn't hurt or feel uncomfortable. If it does, slow down, add lube, and think about changing your physical position. Next you can start experimenting with moving the dildo in and out of your body.

speed and depth

Once you're comfortable you can start experimenting with slower and faster strokes and with varying the depth of penetration. Try to build up speed, notice the difference between fast shallow strokes and slow deep ones. Pay attention to your breathing and to how the rest of your pelvis and body feel during anal penetration. This is one of the great benefits of using sex toys to explore; you can do it on your own and focus solely on your own pleasure and response.

partner meet anal dildo

The main drawback to using an anal dildo as opposed to your own body is that you don't get the same immediate feedback loop. This means using an anal dildo requires lots of communication if you're using it on a partner or letting a partner use one on you. Make sure you've both talked about it before you spring the dildo on your partner. We recommend that whoever is going to be getting penetrated use the toy on themselves while their partner watches. This gives them a chance to see what you like, and gives both of you a chance to get comfortable and excited. If you're going to use an anal dildo in a harness, be sure to check out our tips on how to use a dildo harness.

double penetration

A few people like to use anal dildos for double penetration. Double penetration is an activity that requires a lot of patience, lubricant, and protection if you're going to do it safely. For women it's important to remember not to transfer any fluids or material from the anus to the vagina. If you're interested in exploring double penetration we recommend reading about it first, and starting with small anal dildos.

bend over boyfriend

Since we opened over ten years ago we've noticed a significant trend of straight couples exploring anal play. There are now several educational videos and books devoted to women penetrating their partners (loving dubbed Bend Over Boyfriend). One extra hurdle for a lot of men is the psychological taboo around anal sex.