"The evolution of culture is ultimately determined by the amount
of love, understanding and freedom experienced by its children...
Every abandonment, every betrayal, every hateful act towards children
returns tenfold a few decades later upon the historical stage, while
every empathic act that helps a child become what he or she wants to
become, every expression of love toward children heals society and moves
it in unexpected, wondrous new directions."

"Two questions help us see why we are unlikely
to get what we want by using punishment... The first question is: What
do I want this person to do that's different from what he or she is
currently doing? If we ask only this first question, punishment may
seem effective because the threat or exercise of punitive force may well
influence the person's behavior. However, with the second question, it
becomes evident that punishment isn't likely to work: What do I want
this person's reasons to be for doing what I'm asking?"

"When people ask me what to do, I tell them
to just give the child all the love that they can. Don't worry so much
about anything else. And when it comes to discipline: never, never
physically assault the child in any way, and certainly don't assault
them with words, which can be just as cruel as physical
punishment."

"Raising children with an emphasis on
intrinsic rewards is not a technique, a method or a trick to get them to
do what the parent wants them to by subtler means, but a way of life, a
way of living with children with real respect for their intelligence and
for their being."