Thinking back to some of the many phrases OW liked to use (while talking to me before I knew what was going on and also said to WH), and wondering if they're common to the OW mentality. Please chime in!

"If it feels good I just go for it."
"I have no regrets in my life."
"You deserve this."
"You don't deserve that."
"We deserve this."

So is that what it all breaks down to? This incredible sense of entitlement and complete lack or responsibility for ones actions? I just wonder now, if all the times I've heard people use these statements if they're OWs?! Also, do OM's typically have that same kind of mentality? Any other popular OW's catchphrases?

D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath

Posts: 342 | Registered: Feb 2013

niaveone♀ 40317Member # 40317

Posted: 1:52 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013

"You need a change" said by MOW to WS when he was complaining to her about us not getting along.

Of course he needed a change. He needed to leave his dedicated wife, the home of his children, so he can have *you*. The woman that would sleep with a sack if it gave her attention.

OW used to have a pinterest board all full of lovely catchphrases about never regretting, and doing what makes you happy, living with passion, focusing on your needs, not judging others unless you yourself are perfect etc. So self centered and with no remorse what so ever.

Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R

Posts: 141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: roses303

simplydevastated♀ 25001Member # 25001

Posted: 2:01 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013

Just saw this.

"You need a change" said by MOW to WS when he was complaining to her about us not getting along.

Besides being completely wrong on so many levels. She shouldn't be allowed to speak to other human beings when all that will come out of her mouth is shit.

I'm still trying to figure this one out. A few days after D-day and NC, she put up a new cover picture on her facebook account (the only public part that I can still see). It said "What Susie says about Sally says more about Susie than about Sally"

Was she implying that by calling her a bitch and a whore for sleeping with my husband and ruining a 25 year friendship I was somehow the whore. I accept the bitch title however, and if I ever come in contact with her again, she will see the extent of my bitchiness.

Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R

Posts: 141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: roses303

naivewife♀ 38375Member # 38375

Posted: 2:14 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013

OW used to have a pinterest board all full of lovely catchphrases about never regretting, and doing what makes you happy, living with passion, focusing on your needs, not judging others unless you yourself are perfect etc. So self centered and with no remorse what so ever.

OW's BF that was also an OW had exact same sh*t on her pinterest page.

OW was also way into new agey "the universe is talking to me" BS. She used it to justify EVERYTHING she did. She even started seeing a therapist but wouldn't go to one unless he/she believed in "twin flames" (some ultra new age soul mate garbage) so that this "therapist" could tell her everything she wanted to hear - that she should doggedly pursue WH because they were one soul that was meant to be together.

D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath

Posts: 342 | Registered: Feb 2013

LivingALie♀ 17217Member # 17217

Posted: 2:17 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013

I don't know if this is considered a "catchphrase" or not - but one thing that OW said - which really just infuriated me was "they had a different level of love"

I'm with you OldCow - I want to punch her in the face every time I think about it.

Me: BS
H had LTA with co-worker
Both mid-50s
Two sons - grown and on their own
DD - April 2010
Please note registration date is not correct. See my profile for details
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 1267 | Registered: Nov 2007

roses303♀ 40161Member # 40161

Posted: 2:21 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013

WH erased all the texts and emails before I ever got to read them except for a couple OW sent on D-day after WH told her "she found out" She said similar things about our love being true and pure and how he needed to get out of that prison he was living in and be free (mind you, she is married with 3 kids).

Punching her in the mouth would have been too good for her. I do get a bit of joy out of the fact that WH has been in NC since that day and he has no interest in ever contacting her again. He shut her down so her "true and pure love" really was just a fuck-buddy relationship on WHs side.

Me: BW - 46
Him: WH - 49
MOW: my BFF from college and good friend for 25 yrs
Married 14 years, 2 Tweens
DD: 5/20/13 2 year long EA/PAs (one 7 yrs ago and one this past year)
Status: day by day, in MC, working on R

Posts: 141 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: roses303

momwith2boys♀ 37459Member # 37459

Posted: 2:25 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013

Yes they both deserve happiness. Funny, I thought he was happy with me.
Oh and the whole u are my soul mate crap.

Me BW 35
husband 35
Married 10 years, together 13 years
OW-my so called "friend"
2 boys (7 & 3)
D-day 10/17/2012
D-day2-2/24/2013 told me it was her
D-day3-6/16/2013 found out affair never ended
Working on R

Posts: 35 | Registered: Nov 2012

crazyblindsided♀ 35215Member # 35215

Posted: 2:33 PM, September 13th (Friday), 2013

"Your marriage was damaged before I entered the picture."

"It's simple two people wanted it to happen."

"If your husband really loved you he would never have done this to you."

I could go on for DAYS about this one. But my favorite was probably "It is what it is but it'll become what you make it." She used that one a lot when she was trying to talk him into leaving me and abandoning his family. The 'it is what it is' part really chaffed my ass, because it implied they had absolutely no responsibility in making it that way in the first place.

Me, BS 43
Him WH 43 - LTA, EA/PA
Together 25 years
DD14 - the love of my life

I DON'T ASK FOR NOTIN FROM NO ONE AND NEVER HAVE. I HAVE GIVEN,GIVEN ,GIVEN AND NEVER ASKED YOU FOR A F'N THING OTHER THEN TO BE A FRIEND. A SHOULDER TO CRY ON (RARELY) IF THAT'S ASKING TOO MUCH THEN YOU CAN GO STRAIGHT TO HELL AND OBVIOUSLY AREN'T PERSON I WANT IN MY LIFE. SO, TO SAY IT AIN'T BEEN NICE KNOWING YOU IS PUTTING IT MIDLEY!

This is a direct quote from OW's FB page. Caps and spelling all its! The catch phrase in this is: I HAVE GIVEN,GIVEN ,GIVEN