Just need to vent bout Baby fathers

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BraydensMom1519 wrote:

So as some of yall know im 28 first time mom ever and have been going through a roller coaster already my babys father and i are not in a relationship and havnt been since high school we were still good friends and ofcourse still messed around here and there well this time a baby took place in the mix im happy but my childs father started being a *** after finding out i was pregnant now i know its still early im only 11weeks but since finding out may 4th he has said rude comments to me and hasn’t been to any appointments and doesn’t check on me to see how im feeling and has now blocked me from his phone after i tryed to call him to ask him about family medical history so now i have to have my mom step in and go talk to his mom so it can still be communication. I have gave him copies of ultrasound and i find out what im having August 21st and idk if i have a boy should i name my child after him like would i be wrong if i didnt? Smh he is 31 and acts like a kid and it came outta no where so i just am over everything and now that he blocked me from his phone I just don’t care anymore but my mom still wants to involve his parents cause they don’t have nothing to do with him being childish so I understand that. Just frustrating thats all 😞 i dont wanna be a bitter baby mama but I feel like if yur not here in the beginning why be there when my child is born is that wrong??

Don’t give the child his name because it’s tradition, give him his fathers name because you want your child to be proud to be known as his son. As of right now, I would say the child is best off having your name. Men are weird when it comes to processing such a huge change, so he may come around and all of this will be void. I would just let him be and if he wants to join you in this amazing adventure then welcome him when he’s ready. You need to be happy and he’s not helping, so leave him be....his loss.

I would just leave him alone and give him some space. Hopefully he will come to terms with it before you have the baby. Don’t go chasing him when he wants he can come to you. I’m sorry you are going through this. But some men are kind of immature and just need time to process it.

I’m in a similar situation. He claims he’s busy working and doesn’t have time to come see me or come to appts but has time for other things. Leave him alone, give him space and try to have a stress free pregnancy. We can’t make grown people do what they SHOULD do. Raise your child with your last name to be a great addition to this world, with or without him.

definitely give either your last name OR hypenate. trust me. it's good you are being the bigger person. just do you and take care of that baby ! either he will come around or he won't and it will be his loss. good luck!