Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Sometimes I feel like a silly teenager trying to get a guy to notice/like me. Except the context is totally different.

I've tried to make new mommy friends. And I was so scared about how to approach them and ask if they wanted to get together for a "play date" for our kids. Twice I've tried, and twice I've been rejected.

Our library has various programs for kids, and I've taken Erica to several play/story times. Well, the first mother I felt a connection to had a daughter Erica's age and also a baby. Erica and the other girl got along well. But I was always too shy about starting something up, b/c I was afraid she might not want to get together with me. So I never said anything.

Then, another program started up. The aforementioned mommy/girls were not in this one. But there was a mommy/girl there that had been at the same swimming class Erica had been in the previous year. We talked a lot and the girls played together a lot. So, at one of the last meetings I gave her a card w/ my name/email/phone number on it. She said she'd love to get together for a play-date for the girls. Only, she never called. And I actually saw her a few weeks later, and though we said hi, she didn't mention anything about it. I was very sad.

I also met another lady. This I thought would be very promising. She used to live in my neighborhood, but still comes often to visit a former neighbor b/c the kids are friends. And her daughter also LOVES strawberry shortcake... So I told her she could stop by anytime to borrow one of my movies. I also gave her a card w/ my name/email/phone number. She never called or stopped by either.

Is something wrong with me? Do people think I'm odd? Or worse, that my daughter is odd?

Well... Yesterday I was at another library thing. And the first mommy that I had mentioned was there. The one I never invited for a get together. During the program, I kept debating whether to say anything. I didn't want to risk rejection again. Finally, I decided I would say something... But before I could, she said that they're moving next week.

***Sniff, snuffle, boo hoo***

There are two other mommies I know whose kids get along w/ Erica quite well. And I've been meaning to invite them over. I really want to. But I still have that nagging feeling: "what if they don't want to?"

Instead of giving them your name, number, etc. Just initiate a play date. Get her number, or better yet, ask if she wants to come over on Thursday at 2 for a play date or meet at a specific park. Maybe that will help. Sometimes it's just hard for people to get the ball rolling.

Becky L... My Life in Fast-Forward: lived in whitehall PA up to 5th grade. Moved to Boyertown PA till graduating. Went to college in Columbia SC and then Lancaster PA. Married June 2003. Baby born in March 2005. So... I'm a new mommy trying to learn the ropes.

My blog is wonderful. "Adventures of Mommyhood" will make you laugh, cry, and feel moved. Or something.
I tell it like it is. Most times, I share funny annicdotal stories of my daughter, Erica. I'll post precious pictures of her as well. Other times, I go into odd, strange, silly aspects of mommyhood, such as "What does baby food taste like?" Other times, I completely step aside from the realm of mommyhood and just talk about random things.
Commercials, for example. Or the man around town. Or songs and poems that I like. Or trips to dentists. or... on and on and on.
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