Thanks for all the response, any suggestions on what bumper I should try to make the switch to and do I just try to get the body shop to order the the one I want. I am sure there is a way but I don't want to run into problems if the insurance company has to go and look at my car later during the repair process and see another bumper.

GEICO did this for me.

I worked with the repair shop to order upgrade M-Sport kit from Sonic Tuning near me because their prices matched the shop's costs for replacement hood and bumper. Also got everything needed to put it together in one kit. Kept the lights.

I believe there are others who are offering the same kit. I like it, even if it is a rep and not OEM...or you could go M3 rep...