We all tell white lies now and then (yes you do, don’t lie!) but did you know that men and women lie for different reasons? The data from our list of Things People Lie About All the Time shows a pattern that may hint at this difference.

The poll lists 49 common lies and asks respondents to vote “yes” if they’ve lied about that in the past 6 months or “no” if they have not. According to votes cast by over 350 people, women are more likely to lie about things that “keep the peace socially” while men are more likely to lie over matters of “self-preservation.”

On the list, women are 8 times more likely than men to lie about “being too swamped to hang out” and 4 times more likely to claim that their “phone died.” These results imply that women may be more likely to feel guilty about canceling on friends or having alone time.

In contrast, men were 2 times more likely to admit to saying things like “Oh yeah! That makes sense!” when they did not understand something and 5 times more likely to say, “No officer, I do not know why you pulled me over,” when, presumably, they did know why. These types of lies could point to men’s desire to show themselves in the best possible light and cover up wrongdoing.

Differences aside, both men and women voted similarly on many items on this list. In fact, the top 3 most popular lies were the same for both men and women.

The Top 3 Lies for BOTH Men and Women Are:

1. I’m Fine

2. I’m 5 Minutes Away

3. Yeah, I’m Listening.

Which goes to show that men and women may be able to see eye-to-eye after all… just as long as they don’t ask each other how they are doing, where they are and whether or not they are listening.