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6 Girl-Friendly Reasons You Should Say YES to Porn

Should you watch porn with your guy? I say YES! Keep your inner old lady at bay (everyone tells me I’m 24 going on 60 thanks, MOM ) and spice things up with your man. My guy moved in and immediately wanted us to subscribe to the Playboy channel. I wasn’t totally into it at first, but found out that my idea of porn was completely skewed. Now it seems I’m a porn-pusher to all my girlfriends in relationships and to you, dear Smitten readers. So, here are my 6 top reasons you should say YES to porn

1. Don’t knock it ‘til you try it. Try everything once (well, umm, almost everything). Maybe it will earn you a shopping trip with your guy...or at the very least get him trying something new with you. There are so many types of porn that you are bound to find one that you and your guy really like (I’m sure he won’t be so picky and exploring your options is half the fun!) Be open-minded and if you really don’t like what you see, you can always turn it off.

2. It’s OK to be a “lady in the street but a freak in the bed.” Shake up your relationship and be a "lady in the street but a freak in the bed" like Ludacris advised. Oh yes, I went there. But really, there’s no harm in turning up the heat behind closed doors and porn makes for great foreplay! Just be safe, make sure you’re comfortable, and let your freak flag fly! (They used to call me Melissa ‘Freak Flag’ Melms just kidding, I made that part up.)

3. You can learn new tricks to test out in real life. Watch the, umm, pros, and maybe you’ll learn new sex tricks to attempt with the stud in your life. Trying new things with your man can be exciting and sexy. Stuck in a rut? Here’s your out! Warning: some moves are best left to aforementioned pros (Swedish Helicopter, anyone?).

4. It’s not all dirty or gross. Guess what, not all porn is as grimy as you think! There are just-for-couples shows that are a little more girl-friendly (and a good start for you shy gals) and meant to be watched with a partner. These types show other couples getting it on and make it a little easier to make the magic happen in real life. I mean you still can always go with the super-cheesy exaggerated porn for a good laugh, too (my sister likes porn where the couples pretend to be aliens or vampires—freak flags run in the family!).

5. They really DO have good articles. You’ve heard it a thousand times before (mostly from dudes trying to convince you) but there actually is some truth here. It’s not all naked blondes and boobies staring back at you, some pornographic publications actually have some great reads with some hot guys. Playboy’s October 2011 issue featured an interview with Paul Rudd that I loved (and who doesn’t love Paul Rudd?). I also gifted J with a subscription to Maxim (which, I know isn’t porn, but just go with it) that we read together every month. Guys’ publications are just plain funny. So if the porn thing isn’t doing it for ya, at least you’ll have some new reading material.

6. Playboy lets you see EVERY SINGLE past issue if you subscribe online. Umm, yea, seriously. That means the very first Marilyn Monroe one from December 1953, the Kim Kardashian one from December 2007 and you can feast your eyes on Lindsay Lohan’s upcoming spread. If watching porn didn’t rev your engine, dig into some vintage pornography online and see how Playboy (and those posing) has evolved over the years. I won’t lie - this is my favorite reason!

Whatever your excuse, say YES to porn and open the door to new adventures by yourself or with your man.

What do you think about watching porn with your guy? Is it a Do or a Don’t? Have you ever watched the geared toward couples variety? Will you say YES to porn now?