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Generally, he's struck me as a person who cares a lot about building healthy relationships. I wouldn't automatically write it off - he seems to emphasize grace a lot and isn't formulaic. The blurb on his website fits with what else I've seen of his work over the years (which is from a reformed perspective that focuses on the importance of grace in relationships over performance and rules ).

In this life-giving book, Paul Tripp offers parents much more than a to-do list. Instead, he presents us with a big-picture view of God's plan for us as parents. Outlining fourteen foundational principles centered on the gospel, he shows that we need more than the latest parenting strategy or list of techniques. Rather, we need the rescuing grace of God—grace that has the power to shape how we view everything we do as parents.

Freed from the burden of trying to manufacture life-change in our children's hearts, we can embrace a grand perspective of parenting overflowing with vision, purpose, and joy.

I think the last name Tripp throws people because of his brother's teachings on spanking. But Paul is much more of a counselor at heart, and it shows in his writings.
Here's one blog post about advice for fathers on father's day (it demonstrates his relational focus and his emphasis on working on your own heart as a parent): https://www.paultripp.com/articles/p...ssons-for-dads

Just as an FYI, many are not going to be able to find those last two links helpful because they'll get an error message. This thread is in a public forum, apparently those bottom two links are not. I keep getting that child making the funny face saying I do not have access.

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Just as an FYI, many are not going to be able to find those last two links helpful because they'll get an error message. This thread is in a public forum, apparently those bottom two links are not. I keep getting that child making the funny face saying I do not have access.

And this is rather but I was so surprised to see "Shepherding a Child's Heart" in the list of recommended reading at the back of a book endorsed by Sally Clarkson. It's this book. (Which wasn't very good, IMO. It's not a bad book, but it's full of things that I found so blatantly obvious that I didn't think it was worth the paper and ink.) And I realize that Sally endorsed the text of the book, before it was even published, and likely had no idea that there was going to be a list of recommended books at the end. Still, I'm sad that others will buy the book because of it.

A friend of mine from church recommended "Parenting" by Paul David Tripp. I found a devotional on the YouVersion Bible app that is based on the book and introduces each of the 14 gospel principals that he covers in his book. I enjoyed the plan and did not think anything was alarming about it. I am interested in reading the book, but I hesitated to buy it; I like to read actual paper books so I can highlight and make notes, but I could buy the kindle and get a free audible version for my husband to listen to as he drives.
Oops, I posted before I was finished! Anyhow, now that y'all are questioning it, I am too - I didn't know if Paul David was related to the "bad" Tripp and I don't know any history about P.D.

More thoughts -
The devotional has a 2-3 minute video of Paul talking about each principle for each day, and related verses. From what I can tell through the devo, my guess is that the book isn't about practical discipline techniques, but rather guiding principles. The way he presented things kind of made me shift my thinking. I did feel it was in agreement with grace-based parenting. But then again, I'm new to GBD and there may be something I missed.
One thing he talks about that resonated with me was that the work of salvation (of our children) belongs to Jesus. Our main job as parents is to point our children to Christ, through grace. It made me feel as tho the everyday struggles we have as parents are kind of universal, but that God provides these gospel principles that can build the framework of our discipline.

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And this is rather but I was so surprised to see "Shepherding a Child's Heart" in the list of recommended reading at the back of a book endorsed by Sally Clarkson. It's this book. (Which wasn't very good, IMO. It's not a bad book, but it's full of things that I found so blatantly obvious that I didn't think it was worth the paper and ink.) And I realize that Sally endorsed the text of the book, before it was even published, and likely had no idea that there was going to be a list of recommended books at the end. Still, I'm sad that others will buy the book because of it.

Oh, that stinks. Kristen Welch and I share an agent, and I think her Mercy House organization does amazing work, and does it the right way in countries it serves. She is Southern Baptist, though, and the spanking culture is so strong there, especially in the South and in Texas.

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