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Saturday, December 31, 2016

New
Year’s Eve gives you a rare opportunity to catch your cheating mate - an
opportunity you won’t find at any other time of the year. The cheater’s
behavior on New Year’s Eve will usually give him (or her) away. Be observant
and pay close attention to whatever the cheater says or does, and you’ll
probably catch him or her in the act.

Their Secret Lover Could Be Someone You
Know

According
to an infidelity study a few years ago, 75% of people having affairs are
cheating with workmates or friends. So
the likelihood is high that your spouse or significant other’s secret lover is probably
someone you know. It could be a
neighbor, a mutual acquaintance, a co-worker or family friend. If it’s someone
from your social circle, it’s possible the three of you could end up at the
same New Year’s Eve party this year. If so, you’ve got a golden opportunity to
check things out.

Body Language or Behavior Will Give Them
Away

If
there’s anything going on between your mate and someone else at the party,
their body language and behavior will give them away. Keep your eyes and ears
open for telltale signs. It could be
something as subtle as a look, touch, wink, caress, or calling each other a pet
name. Or it may be as brazen as kissing,
making out, or sneaking off for a quickie, if they think the coast is clear. If your spouse or significant other
disappears for an extended period of time, discreetly try to find out where he
or she has gone.

Watch Them Closely on New Year’s Eve

Regardless
of whether they're out partying, or celebrating an intimate New Year’s Eve at
home, most cheaters can’t resist the urge to contact their secret lover around
midnight to wish them a Happy New Year. Watch him or her
closely during this critical period of time, and you'll probably catch the
cheater in the act. Stay alert because
cheaters can be quite resourceful in concocting excuses to get away. Any unexplained absences, whispered
conversations, or errands that must be run before or after midnight should be
cause for alarm. Cheaters have used all
kinds of excuses to get away long enough to make a phone call, send a text message, or make a quick visit if their lover
lives nearby.

Proceed with Caution and Get Solid Proof

Even if your spouse
or significant other behaves suspiciously on New Year’s Eve, you still may need additional proof. Don't confront him
or her unless you have a solid case.
Otherwise, the cheater will lie, deny, or play mind games with you to
explain away whatever he or she said or did.

Bear in mind that signs
of infidelity seldom appear in isolation. If he or she is really cheating on you, there will be lots of corroborating signs. Since many of them are subtle, knowing
what to look for is the key.

This is where a good infidelity reference book can help. You might
want to check out Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs. Talk show hosts have called this book “cheater’s
worst nightmare” because it documents practically every known sign of
infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the
title, most of the signs in the book apply to both cheating women and men. To
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The 6 signs of infidelity below typically
appear shortly after Christmas, and can expose a cheating mate or confirm the
existence of a suspected affair.

Knowing what to look for
is the key. The cheater will usually be exposed by a Christmas gift he or she
has given or received. Be alert for one or more of the 6 “after-Christmas” infidelity
signs below:

1. The disappearing gift. You accidentally discover a hidden gift before
Christmas that you thought was for you. However
Christmas has come and gone, the gift has disappeared from its hiding place, but
it wasn’t given to you. Where is the
gift now? If no one else in the family received it, who was it given to?

NOTE: To read a brief account of
how one wife found out her husband's infidelity because of a disappearing
Christmas gift, see Cheating Husband
Exposed by Christmas Gift to Wife’s Best Friend at www.RealLifeInfidelity.com

2. Receipts for the purchase of
two identical gifts. You find a receipt or
credit card bill indicating that two of
the exact same gifts were bought. You
received one, but who did your mate give the other gift to?

3. A thank you note, e-mail,
text message or voice mail to your mate from someone of the opposite sex for a Christmas gift you know nothing about. If it was just an
innocent gift, your spouse or significant other would have mentioned that he or
she bought it, or even asked you to help them pick it out. The fact that it was
done behind your back suggests that it was something you weren’t supposed to know
about. Ask yourself (and your mate) Why?

4. Gifts of an overly personalnature given to your spouse or significant other by a business
acquaintance or casual friend of the opposite sex. Things like scarves or ties
are neutral Christmas gifts. But Christmas gifts like jewelry, lingerie,
articles of clothing, or similar personal items from members of the opposite
sex should raise an alarm.

5. Expensive gift items that suddenly appear after Christmas, which your mate claims to have bought for himself/herself. Ask
your mate a few questions the suspicious newly acquired gift. When did they buy it? Why haven’t they
mentioned it, or worn it before now? Can he or he show you the sales receipt
for the suspicious gift?

6. Credit card statements that arrive after Christmas showing charges for gift items you know nothing about and didn’t
personally receive. If you weren’t the one who charged a watch from Sak’s Fifth
Avenue, or $300 worth of Victoria’s Secret lingerie to your joint credit card, who did? And if you weren’t the person who
received the gift that was charged, who was it given to?

A Word of Caution
about Telltale Signs of Infidelity

These are just a few of the signs of infidelity an
observant spouse or significant other can find shortly after Christmastime. But you shouldneveraccuse
your mate of cheating solely on the basis of one of the 6 signs above. Signs
of infidelity rarely appear in isolation.
If your spouse or significant other is really cheating, you’ll find dozens
of other corroborating signs. Since most of the signs are subtle and easy to
overlook, knowing what to look for is the key. So be sure you’re on solid
ground before you confront your mate. Things are not always
what they appear to be.

If you need additional proof that
your spouse or significant other is cheating, you might want to order a reliable infidelity reference
book like Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs. It covers practically every known sign of infidelity, including the
subtle signs people usually overlook. Despite the title, most of the signs in
the book apply to both cheating women and cheating men. To order the soft cover
version of Is He Cheating on You? 829
Telltale Signs. from Amazon.com ($29.95),click here. To order the e-book version
with the bonus section and “Affair Recovery Guide” from Booklocker.com ($37),click here. More Infidelity Information for YouTo receive monthly infidelity-related information including tips, little-known facts, and practical advice from infidelity expert Ruth Houston, on dealing with all aspects of infidelity, send an e-mail to InfidelityAtoZ@gmail.com
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Infidelity Expert Ruth Houston

New York-based infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Ruth has been researching and writing about infidelity for over 20 years. As an internationally-recognized infidelity expert, Ruth is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news and has appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, CBS, ABC News, Fox News, NBC, CBC, BBC, NPR and over 500 other radio and TV news and talk shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America, New Zealand, Australia, Africa, and the Caribbean. Ruth has also been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health and numerous other print and online media worldwide.

To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or book her as a speaker for your next event, call 718 592-6039 (office) or 718 708-9799 (cell phone), or e-mailInfidelityExpert@gmail.com