Cool story time: I was at a conference for CFAs and the motivational speaker dude that was hired to speak suggested that men prefer to stand side by side when discussing things, and women preferred to stand opposite. So, as something of a party-game, he proposed that men try to speak to women face to face and women try to speak to men side by side. The result turned the conference hall into something of a dance floor, albeit one with no music except for the strange discussion that one gets in rooms full of CFAs and other financial types.

See, I read that the other way... He's apparently unwilling to lower his standards and look for girls his height or less, but when confronted with women who are unwilling to lower their standards for height, he suggests that it's all really about money. Basically, some woman says "sorry, you're too short for me" and he calls her a whore, and she's the stuck up witch?

Well , the way I read this is he stating that they say, in their own words, he matches all the qualities they are looking for, minus the look. Sounds rather shallow to me. A difference of a matter of height has just changed the whole outlook on the person you thought was "the perfect man to marry" ? I doubt that... What was the real reason behind the blow off, because I don't think it was what was told to him..

I've heard of plenty of girls who have rejected guys for seemingly petty reasons like 'too short' or 'not ambitious enough' (in other words, doesn't earn enough money). Women can be quite shallow. But that stuff almost always happens on the first date. Girl decides she will be OK going out with short guy, goes out with him, decides she doesn't like being seen in public with short guy, dumps him.

I've never heard of a girl saying 'You'd be perfect for me if not for the fact that you are not tall enough'. That would be a horrible thing to say to someone. Girls can be damned shallow, but even the shallow ones aren't usually totally heartless.

I once had a girl tell me "You'd be perfect for me if not for the fact that you are not a girl". Talk about shallow.

Relax, be confident and just go with it. I found when you didn't care if you got something, you ended up getting it.

How does one act "confident"? That's always been my issue when people say things like this (not that they're wrong!). Nobody can explain to me what "confident" acts like, or how to arrive there. For someone who has never been truly confident in his entire life, this is as foreign a concept as quantum mechanics is to a layperson.

I'm not even confident when I know for certain that I'm going to win a race. I know the lap times of all the competition, but I'm still unnerved by all the things that can go wrong (including just being shiat behind the wheel that day). Some of us have never known confidence.

/could really use this class

Arrogant, uncaring and definitely not needing said person in your life.

i've been told by close friends that my body language is all kinds of screwed up. i tend to slouch and slump down a lot, which makes me look bored or insecure. i'm also very weird about my personal space, so i shy away from people and flinch if someone touches me unexpectedly. just more things to put on the list of reasons i'm going to be single forever.

Rev. Skarekroe:So squeezing my crotch while talking to girls ISN'T what I'm supposed to be doing?

seriously, i knew a guy that always had one had in his pants playing with his favorite pull toy, always, no matter what. it was disturbing to say the least. he was an ugly little fellow that lied like a rug and that moran got more pussy than a no-kill animal shelter. even when he was going out with a decent girl he had to cheat on her with two others on the side. simply amazing what females can be attracted to.