I’m sure you’ve had one of those situations in your life where
there’s something incredibly irritating to you. I have...

A few weeks ago, a friend of mine came to me and said “Man, I
think I’m just not going to hang out with them anymore. I’m
just going to do everything I can to avoid them."

But is that best?

CAUTION: Listen, what I’m talking about in this episode is an
annoying relationship, not a dangerous one. Remember, if
you’re in any sort of danger, you must seek safety. Don’t
justify endangering yourself or your children in an effort to “fix
someone.” Let a professional do that while you’re secluded in
safety.

I hear so many people in the personal development world saying
“choose who you surround yourself with. You don’t need to be
around people who you don’t want to be around."

But… I’m not sure that’s a response driven by love. Well,
it’s love, but love of self or selfish interests.

I share this all the time… we will find peace in our lives when
we are driven by love.

So how do we LOVE those who annoy us or those we don’t feel
compatible with? Maybe even our enemies… What’s it mean to
Love our Enemies?

First… Ask yourself if the your negative impression of the other
person comes from your own animosity.

Maybe It’s Just You

One way to do this is to ask others in your social circle if
they see the same issues with the other person. If they
don’t… you probably need to look inward even more than you
thought.

We all… in EVERY situation need to look at
what we can improve internally… but some of these situations may
require even more internal review.

Pushing Those We Don’t Like Away Is the Cause… not the
Solution.

One of our deepest core desires is to feel valued and valuable.
When someone becomes difficult to deal with it’s often
because they don’t feel valued.

When we push them away, we’re only
compounding the situation.

Yes, it’s them who caused the issue
but

Create a Security and Negativity
Disappears.

It’s insecurity that causes people to react in a negative way to
others. Insecurity…

Isolation is not a solution to the problem,
it’s simply a removal of it.

Avoiding difficult people, even if it’s just for a short time,
is really the act of avoiding an opportunity to improve
ourselves.

We all want to survive. Attacking those who threaten us is
simply a way for us to attempt survival.

We should ask… what is the threat to this
person and why?

Avoiding Resistance Perpetuates Weakness

Resistance makes us stronger. Just like in a gym, it’s
when you face resistance that your muscles are
strengthened.

It’s when we face relationship resistance
that our ability to have strong relationships is strengthened.

A LOT of people who suggest avoiding those we don’t like are
also people who may have external happiness or external signs of
happiness, but if you ask them, they don’t feel that internal… that
deep happiness.

Those You Spot VS Those Who Spot For You

We have to realize the people we hang out with aren’t always our
support.. sometimes we’re their support.

Know who you’re spotting for and who you need to spot for
you.

Listen, if you don’t want to spot for them, why does someone
else, stronger than you, want to spot for you. Maybe you’re
their annoying person?

When we realize we’re all connected as one,
we understand this doesn’t benefit society as a whole. It’s
not improving anything.

Our mission is to love… that’s it. Love.

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About the Podcast

This show will help you find abundant success in your personal as well as business life. You'll be lead towards greater achievement in your physical well-being, accomplishments in your business or career, and true joy in your relationships, by focusing on your attitude and mindset.
Your host, P. Desmond Adams will show you how to "change the world around you by changing the world within you." Desmond will teach you how to see all of life's experiences as beneficial to your whole being, discover how to be steady and consistent in your efforts so you can finally finish what you started, increase what you accomplish in life with the same amount of time and effort, and understand the greater purpose of your existence and how that will bring an unimagined peace within.
You'll benefit from over 30 years of study Desmond has done through the teachings of personal development and self-help teachers such as Tony Robbins, Napoleon Hill, Gregg Braden, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Wallace Wattles, Jack Canfield, Ernest Holmes, Rhonda Byrne and the one who finally helped Desmond discover the secret to the Law of Attraction, Charles F. Haanel.