I hadn't either until I ran across the research of Dr. Susan David who defines the term as the ability to apply the right emotion to the right person (your spouse) in the right situation at the right time.

It made me think about our relationships when there is a communication problem.

When couples gets stressed and need to communicate their way out of the conflict there is nothing more frustrating than either being the partner or being married to the partner who simply won't or can't talk.

It happens a lot when we are not emotionally agile enough to know what to say to make the situation better. Many men (and women) just tend to shut down or act out in unhealthy ways.

This leads to:

1) More Conflict & Arguing

2) Animosity

3) Shutting Down

4) Disconnection

That is not a good place to be!

The reality is that your relationship/marriage is only as good as the WORST communicator because if he/she shuts down...you are stuck at the bottom.

I want to help if that has ever happened to you.

I am teaching this skill at Better Husband, Better Wife Masterclass Class #5: How to Listen...Really Listen and Communicate With Your Spouse) Sept. 26th (Thursday at 7:15pm) right here in Atlanta at the Hampton Inn & Suites (same location). Register here so we can work together in person.

Reminder... THE BETTER HUSBAND, BETTER WIFE MASTERCLASS (open to all couples dating seriously, engaged and already married) is moving online starting in October due to the huge demand from you. See, I listen. Please send me an email if you are interested. It will likely be on Thursdays at 9pm EST.

God Bless,

Dr. Alduan Tartt

P.S.- Also, remember to register for A Weekend For Love (our marriage retreat) and prepare for fun, intimacy, luxury, relaxation and the very necessary need to reconnect with the one you love! Use AMFRIENDS as the discount code to get the lowest rate.

P.S.S.- You know I love to speak live across the country. So, shoot me an email to drtartt@drtartt.com and I'll speak at your next event.