I don't want to come across the situation that can be interpreted in diffrent ways, I want to have it all spelled out, so we do not have to return to this.

It can be spelled out and defined as tight as a frogs behind, but if you or your ex decide to deviate from the order it means nothing and you will be right back where you are now. If the order spells out that Mom does X, what will you do the first time she does Y? What will Mom do the first time you do X, when you should have done Y?

I still believe that if you want custody, CS, etc then you need to be filing for that right now while Mom is out of the state.

"Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience." - Mark Twain