1523 How to Stop Doubting Yourself

Today we’re talking about how to stop doubting yourself when you’re working towards your big dreams. Doubt is something that all of us deal with, usually on an ongoing basis. It’s something that we need to face over and over again because as we clear up old doubts, new ones have a tendency to start surfacing. That’s just the way it is sometimes.

The way to get through those doubts is to find strategies to help you cope with them so that they no longer have the power to make you drop your dreams and head for the safety of the flock. In today’s podcast episode I share a five-step method for turning your doubts and fears about the worst things that could happen into stepping stones to greater things. This is a process for bringing each doubt or fear that you have out of the shadows of your own mind and into the light of day so that you can see them clearly for what they are and then find ways of working through them.

When you can take a clear, objective look at your own fears and doubts, you begin to realize that they’re not as bad as you thought they were. They just seem bigger or more frightening than they actually are when you refuse to deal with them head-on. When that happens, they stay lurking around the edges of your conscious mind and appear to be more powerful than they really are.

Everyone deals with fear and self-doubt on the journey to their dreams. But the thing that differentiates successful people from those who aren’t is that the successful ones feel the fear but do not allow it to control them or their direction in life. They acknowledged the fear, but they find ways to work through it and remain focused on their goals…

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6 Comments

The 5 step process that you are explaining with the ritual attached to it, surely is a very powerful way to remove ourselves from fears that may block our roads to our success.
It reminds me of the saying “Feel the fear and do it anyway”.

Wow, I finally understood what being in the now means! Cool! So, that’s what it really means. That is most helpful.

It is as if you are speaking directly to me. Lord knows there are so many doubts, yet moving past them and doing your thing is what’s required, after exposing your doubts, as you explain so well here! Do it anyway! This is worth listening to a couple of times. Thank you!

Glad you enjoyed it, A. 🙂 Doubts are normal — when you’re trying to move forward and build something that’s important to you, there WILL be doubts and fears along the way. So don’t worry when they do come up. Just recognize them for what they are and know that if the dream is important to you, there are ways to get through those doubts and get to where you want to be.

A.
on June 13, 2015 at 9:49 am

Nathalie,

Are things the way we take them? This just came to me. Perhaps you have been saying this and it had not sunken in. If so, how can we take things better, i.e., how can we not shed tears, get angry, feel awful, feel bad things? How can this be done so that we do not take things so seriously and feel that we have not been wronged?

You remember the part about “what we resist, persists”? My suggestion would be that you stop trying to fight these things. Your emotions are neither good nor bad, remember — they’re just indicators to you about where your alignment happens to be. Don’t fight the “bad” emotions… just acknowledgement them and let them flow through you. Accept that they are there and make a conscious choice to reach for something better. Feeling a blog post coming up about this one, so stay tuned…