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The big problem today is that most people don’t love themselves. Society never teaches that it is possible to love ourselves. Understand that unless you love yourself, you cannot possibly love another person. Only when you lose yourself to yourself can you lose yourself to others. We are taught that we can only love even ourselves if we have a reason. If we perform well, we love ourselves. If we fail, we hate ourselves. We apply the same logic to others. We love them only because of something, never without a cause, without a reason. When you don’t love yourself,…

Whenever we look at something, the first thing we do is to calculate what we can get from it. It can be a person or an object, that doesn’t matter. Our thoughts start functioning either through fear or through greed to calculate what there is in the situation for us. Our attention is centered on that object or person. It is possible to turn our attention towards our own inner space and ask, ‘What can I contribute?’, ‘What can I add?’, ‘How can I enrich others?’ If the process is only to ask, ‘What can I get out of it?’…

The manifest and unmanifest components of Sadashiva is part of you. The manifest is Sadyojatam, Tatpurusham, Aghoram, Vamadevam, Ishanam. If I put it in your user-friendly language— I should tell you, I am not translating, I am putting in user-friendly language, means roughly equating it. Tatpurusha, Aghora, Vamadeva, Sadyojata, Ishana—these are the five manifest aspects of…

Guru is nothing but the expression of God, demanding you to shift that hope for exaggeration on Divine. Guru is nothing but the statement given to you by God, ‘Hey, Shift!’ Guru is statement of God. God is state of Guru. Guru is statement of God. God is state of Guru. State just gives the…

Listen! Love OF the Master enters into you, fulfills you, completes you, turns around and flows as love FOR the Master, and liberates you! Blessed are those who taste love of the Master! Whether it is a benign look, benevolent look, or serious look of a surgeon! When a surgeon looks at a tumor, remember he looks at…

With this I will move tenth verse of the Isavasya Upanishad. Please recite along with me. anyad evāhur vidyayā-anyad āhur avidyayā | iti śuśruma dhīrāṇaṁ ye nastad vicacakṣire || I will read out the translation. It is said by Vidya, the knowledge cognized from the right context of grasping the Truth, Consciousness and the superficial…

I will continue on the seventh verse of the Ishavasya Upanishad. Please recite along with me. यस्मिन् सर्वाणि भूतान्यात्मैवाभूद् विजानतः । तत्र को मॊहः कः शॊक एकत्वमनुपश्यतः ॥ Yasmin SarvaaNi Bhoothaani Aathmaivaabhoodh Vijaanathaha | Tathra Ko Mohaha Kah Shoka Ekathvam Anupashyathaha || Listen! “In one who has cognized the reality, all existing beings become the very Self. Then what delusion, what sorrow of incompletion can there be for that Seer living in the space of Oneness, Living Advaitha?” Listen! Listen! “All existing beings become the very Self. Then what delusion, what sorrow of incompletion can there be for that Seer living…

Today I will expand on Mahadeva’s “Love Current”. First, let me define and make you understand what is “Love Current”, why I am suddenly turning the whole Upanishad towards Love. Listen! I don’t utter a single word which is not required. I am not speaking because I have to speak; I am speaking because I…

Listen! Listen! I am moving to the next line of this Upanishad. Please understand this next line: तेन त्यक्तेन भुञ्जीथा मा गृधः कस्यस्विद्धनम् ॥ Thena Thyakthena Bhunjeethaa Ma Gridhah Kasyasviddhanam || The literal translation is: “With this renounced, you may enjoy. Covet not the wealth of anyone at all.” Looks very simple moralistic instruction. But…

I tell you, if you see a person sitting next to you how you will feel, if you see a dog sitting next to you how you will feel, if you see a plant sitting next to you how you will feel, it is based on that, that, that is going to respond to you. Please understand, if you think the person who is sitting next to you is alive, you will react either with love or withdrawal, whatever; you may react in some way. If you see a dog sitting next to you, you will react in some way.…

Now I wanted to give you the meditation process to experientially flower in true love, in relationships. The first step: Look in and pen down – • What you feel about you when you are with that person with whom you are in love, • What you feel about you when you are not with that person with whom you are in relationship, and • How you show you to that person. Pen down all these. • How that person perceives you, and • How you perceive that person. Pen down all these five points independently. And look in, what…

Just now I used both words in the same meaning. But in order to define both words deeply, in Sanskrit we have a word – “Kaivalya”; means, “aloneness”. “Loneliness” is, you want to have somebody to escape from you and your incompletions; that is “loneliness”. Even if you have the other person or not, you will be lonely. “Aloneness” is, you are so complete, so fulfilled, so powerful, you don’t need anybody to complete you, make you powerful, that is “aloneness”, whether you have the other person or not. Whether you have the other person or not, if you are…

Please understand, both are wrong! Trying to improve the other, means, constant resistance. Accepting the others as they are, means, non-caring laziness. Both are wrong! Be very clear, the other person is not one! Look into that person. All the Completion space that person carries, accept it as it is. Imbibe, imbibe so much that you feel one with it. All the powerlessness, even if it helps you to keep the other person under your control, don’t keep that alive; it is not good for you for a long term. Help that person to complete with that. Even if you…

Please understand, if you constantly think from incompletion, powerlessness, and can constantly be thinking what all can go wrong, and trying to control only that, stop only that “what all can go wrong”, that is “Commitment”. “Responsibility” means, thinking from the powerful space “what all can go right”, and making that happen, working for that. “Responsibility” is working for what all can go right. “Commitment” is stopping, working to stop what all can go wrong. Commitment is “crisis management mood”, Responsibility is “creation mood”. In a relationship, “Responsibility” means, constantly raising it to the next, next, next levels of Completion;…

Ask me this question, because I am seeing tons and tons “devoted”, and thousands and thousands “attached”! In “devotion”, you try to experience my space of Completion. In “attachment”, you try your best to pull me down to your level of incompletion. If you expect me to act in the same pattern you wanted, it is “attachment”. If you evolve in the space I am living and radiating, it is “devotion”. That is all! Very simple definition!

When you give the same space you wanted to the other person from the understanding of Oneness, when your beings experience the same reality, it is “Love”.When your bodies try to experience the same reality by exchange of muscle-memory and the physical touch, it is “Lust”. When your minds try to exchange the bio-memories and experience Oneness, it is “Passion”. Please understand, when your beings try to experience Oneness, it is “Love”. When your emotions, interests, try to experience Oneness, that is “Passion”. When your bodies try to experience Oneness, it is “Lust”. All the three is nothing but trying to…

The best way is, educate them with the simple ideas how the friendliness strengthens them again and again. Do not add your selfishness into their being. Do not add your self-centred incompletions into their thinking part. Teach them to be powerful and complete. Teach them the joy of Completion. Teach them to relate from the space of powerfulness. Bring them to the eN-Genius program. We will teach them. We will give them the experience of powerfulness, relating from the space of Completion, and healthy relationships.

This is very important! Please listen! Understand, you are nothing but a bunch of your patterns, past experiences. Same way, the other person also is nothing but a bunch of patterns, past experiences, mainly incompletions. Remember, whatever leads you to incompletion will be leading the other person also into incompletion. Remember, never to retain the other person in your life through incompletions. No! Trying to have the other person in your life through incompletions is psychological slavery. Most of the time, because you are dependent on the other person, you make the other person dependent on you subtly. When you…

I want to tell you, “soul mates” exist only after you discover your soul, not before that! Unless you discover your soul, soul mates don’t exist. Unless you experience Completion, soul mates don’t exist for you. If you experience Completion, you will attract the right person to whom you will cause Completion, who will cause more and more Completion in you, you both will cause each others’ reality. When I use the word “Causing Oneness to each other”, means, causing each others’ reality, you don’t feel your reality is separate from that person, that person’s reality is separate from you.…

The one and only way: Bring the experience of Oneness and Completion in both of you. Welcome to the Inner Awakening to experience the real true Completion, Oneness with the other person, where you complete the other person and the other person completes you, and the true love is experienced, where the true love is awakened. Understand, if you bring Completion to each other, the true love is awakened and the relationship becomes extraordinary, leads itself to the experience of Oneness.

I tell you, Completion! Completion with yourself and with others is the most important ingredient of relationship. Love is actually the side-effect of the relationship. Completion is the main ingredient of relationship. Completion with yourself and Completion with others is the main ingredient of relationship. Please understand, ability to see the possibility in you is Completion with yourself, ability to see the possibility in others is Completion with others. So, Completion with yourself and Completion with others is the first ingredient for a successful relationship. Love is side-effect. When I say “Completion”, I mean your ability to look at your…

Listen! Listen! You need to know, anything which brings you powerlessness, difficulty, you never had that systematically! Please understand, if you had wealth and lost it, you had relationship and lost it, if you had health and lost it, you have not systematically built it; it has happened to you as accident. Anything you consciously build, anything you consciously build, stays with you and makes you more and more powerful. If you feel your earlier relationships are failure, you need to know you did not build that consciously; it happened as an accident. May be just because you were a…

First thing, you will always attract the same kind of relationships in your life as long as you carry the same pattern. When you get out of the pattern you are carrying, when you complete with all the patterns you are carrying, when you bring yourself to Completion from all the incompletions you are carrying, you will attract the right person into your life. Right person into your life! Till you carry the same pattern, you will attract the same kind of relationships in your life. Please understand, the way you relate, the way you respond, the way you utter…