Why can’t I just sort my diet out once and for all and stop having to start from scratch every time?

Why can’t I stop eating so much?

Why can't I just a have drink or two at parties instead of getting wasted?

​Recognize these kinds of questions?​Our inner voice sure does like to torture us doesn’t it?!When we have these thoughts they influence our behavior whether we notice them or not.

Our brains are wired to solve problems and seek answers. It will find a negative answer if you ask a negative question. I don't know about you but that seems like a waste of brain power to me!

So how can we turn this around?Give your mind the mission to find good stuff by creating positive questions.

Here's an example-(Warning. These statements do end up sounding super corny but they do make you feel better, which is the point.)

Original thought-"Why CAN’T I just sort my diet out once and for all and stop having to start from scratch every time?"

Change can't to can etc. and write in the positive. Think of what you DO want instead. Include at least one positive descriptive word per question and reword until you don't get reminded of the original problem.

"Why CAN I stick to a well-balanced and DELICIOUS diet?"What else do you want? In this case it's for it to be easy.'Stick to' is a reminder of what you can't do so we'll take that out.

"Why do I always find it so EASY to EAT a well-balanced and delicious diet?"Now your mind is focus on the words 'easy' 'well-balanced' 'delicious' and is starting to seek out evidence.

Give yourself a little time to get used to the change of direction. Your mind will kick into positive seeking mode in no time.