Why does she play hard to get with me? What's the gain from it?

She's the one who approached me and now she has playing hard to get for months. I know she's in high demand and stuff but does she really expect me to get on my knees for her? She keeps popping oout every once in a while. I do slightly like her but Lol, I got other options.

I haven't even asked her on proper date yet. What's the pointI know if I do : she'll come with some lame excuse or ssay yes then declined.

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She either has mixed feelings about you and doesn't fully understand her attraction to you OR she was interested in you before (because you said she approached you) and now she isn't. The fact that you see her every now and then could just be purely coincidental so you don't necessarily need to take that as a sign, UNLESS you have a gut instinct about her and are interested in her yourself. If it's the latter and you are interested I say go for it! How are you so sure she'll reject you?

Okay so I won't be implicit here. She keeps you as an option. Do you really just want to be an option to someone or do you want to be the only one they want. That's all I meant. It seems to me that if a guy only saw me as an "option" I would stay away from him, because generally it means the person doesn't value you enough and what I meant in the last part is that if that's what you want (to be an option) then keep in contact with her.

Sounds like she really craves that attention your giving. Based on my own experiences, when I played hard to get it was to get that confidence boost from these guys who keep trying. I used to be insecure, so this constant feeding of attention really made me feel wanted. Of course, that only lasted a while (and so maybe that's why she keeps coming back).

Could also be that she just likes to toy with you, finding some kind of pleasure from dragging guys around. Either way, don't waste your time when you could be on an actual date with an actual girl who wants to actually eat the dinner you're both having and not your attention.