The Weight That Pressures Us To Dress The Way We Do

What are you hiding…
when you dress to cover the overweight parts
you don’t want others to see?

Of course you always want to look your best. And you should. Sometimes that means you have to draw a veil over parts that you feel are too big for your figure. You should do that when you feel you need to.

The question of clothing, when you are overweight, is more than just bulges in the wrong places. It is how you feel about your body, how you carry it, when you consider yourself overweight.

Some women, obviously weighing more than they want, wear their bodies with confidence. They know their excess weight is there, and they try to dress it in their own special way. But they also know, and believe, and project, that they are not their weight. They are a beautiful embodiment of all kinds of skills, qualities, and compassionate abilities.

“This isn’t about being a feminist. It is about being who I am. And who I am is wonderful, and intelligent, and capable, and loving, and more than I can cram into a short conversation.”

In that approach, these women take the view that weight is not an attribute of personality, any more than the color of their hair or eyes. (OK, we need to make a fun exception for redheads.)

You can change the color or your hair. You can also change your weight (although it may take a little longer than the hair changeover). That is not WHO you are.

So, go ahead, hide the parts of your body you feel you need to.

But never hide from us the beautiful person that you are.

Don’t let weight get in the way. When people see that, it doesn’t matter what you weigh. You are you. And that is the wonderful experience of being near enough to you to say, “Hi, it’s great seeing you again.”

I wish people would put an end to body shaming. It is awful enough for adults to deal with it, I can’t imagine the negative impact it has on young girls. Thanks for this post. It is a must read for every woman who struggles with trying to look and feel good about themselves.

Such a powerful post! As I’m currently dealing with my body image, I have gained a lot of weights back from my injury and depression. I am working on loving myself just as I am, not only when the numbers on the scale point to a specific digits. Thank you so much for your post, I needed to read this today.

I have learned to love my body. This is thanks to my husband as I would look in the mirror and see the bones in my chest. He told me to stop it. That all he sees is the beautiful woman in the mirror he does not see any flaws. This was my Ah moment that Oprah says that changed the way I saw myself.

I am in the process of trying to lose some weight I gained last year. I’m trying to also be healthier and make smart lifestyle choices. However, it’s important to accept ourselves regardless of our weight!

I try to dress so that I feel comfortable. I do admit that I prefer loose clothes to hide some parts of my body I’m not so happy with, but I think that the most important thing is to eat healthy and get some exercise, so soon we don’t have to hide behind clothes anymore.