Tonight, I Wanted to Backhand my Friend's Boyfriend

I was at dinner tonight with couple of my friends and one of them brought his new boyfriend. We had dinner at this korean bbq place called Road to Seoul. I am sure most of you never even heard of korean bbq since they don't serve it at denny's, applebees, panda express or other fine dining establishments. It is a all you can eat bbq restaurant, you pay like $25 and order all the meat you want that you cook on a grill that is in the middle of your table. This one in particular plays club music and serves tons of booze. Given that, the line for a table was out the door.

I arrived 45 mins early to get our name on the waiting list since I am currently bulking and have specific times when I need to consume an absurd amount of calories so I couldn't afford to delay a meal. I was standing around by myself la la la checking my phone every minute so that I don't look like a loser until my friends finally arrived.

They all come over and I get introduced to my friend's new bf. The guy looked like a teenager but turned out to be 22 years old. He was also very gentle. He reached out to shake his hand and he put out his hand and gently pressed my fingers with his fingers. ok whatever, probably best for him since I was scratching myself earlier. I told my friends to go check to see if our table is ready while I go outside and make a phone call. My friend, the one with the boyfriend, lets call him pedobear said "I'll go check" but his boyfriend grabs his hand and says "nooooo, its too crowded". I just paused and raised my eye brow at him. My other friend saw my reaction and jumped in and said he'll go check.

Anyways, I don't feel like typing anymore and I am getting sleepy so I am going to end this story short. Other things happened during dinner that made me want to reach over and backhand him. thats the short of it. bed time.

I think you made a judgement of him right before he even spoke, and you made up your mind about him . I don't know, sure it was a little diva-ish of him to say it was too crowded, but honestly you should try to be more tolerant. I have people that annoy me, but I never have the impulse to 'bitch slap people'. And this is coming from someone who doesn't really like that many people and my friends call me a prude because I'm very particular with who I hang around.

You just sound like your stereotypical snappy, ultra-emotional homo. Im surprised you didn't snap your fingers 3 times and roll your neck. If things that minute piss you off, you should really step back and realize that there are greater things in the world to want to back hand people over (like our congressman)

Pepsic0la saidYou just sound like your stereotypical snappy, ultra-emotional homo. Im surprised you didn't snap your fingers 3 times and roll your neck. If things that minute piss you off, you should really step back and realize that there are greater things in the world to want to back hand people over (like our congressman)

End it with the "femotional" scenes.

I'd have to agree with this response. You haven't really said anything worthy of backhanding someone you just met yet. A dainty handshake and the fact that he stopped his BF (your friend) from checking on the waiting status isn't a reason at all. On that note he probably didn't want to be left alone with you since you already gave him the 3rd degree within 15 minutes of meeting him. It's sounding more like you're the one who needs a backhand at this point. LOL.

Secondly, fuck you thinkiing that gay gym rats dont know what korean BBQ is.... its the bomb and nobody can have the bodyfat levels of the dudes on this site and eat at denny's, applebys, blah blah blah... so fuck you...

and yes, I met a guy recently who was very gentle, very divaish, when I introduced myself and smiled he looked me up and down and just said, "mmmmmmm-hmmmm" like a schoolmarm. It was forced mean girl disapproval. I couldnt decide if I wanted to laugh out loud or if I wanted to backslap him. I dont mind guys who are feminine, but please dont be impolite.

Dude just remember that it is a defense mechanism for him. He wears his femininty all of the time and he cant help that.... there is a special form of strength given to the guys who are feminine and embrace it. I have mad respect for them to be honest. If you and I went to that restaurant and ate, we would be two dudes eating. Some of these guys face ridicule the likes of which we will never be forced to handle.

And I will bitchslap you if you make fun of my diet.... make up for it by taking me out for some Korean BBQ... mmmmmm.... shit..... now, that is making my hungry AGAIN.....

Alpha_Muscle saidFirst of all.... you got some haters on here, brah!!!

Secondly, fuck you thinkiing that gay gym rats dont know what korean BBQ is.... its the bomb and nobody can have the bodyfat levels of the dudes on this site and eat at denny's, applebys, blah blah blah... so fuck you...

and yes, I met a guy recently who was very gentle, very divaish, when I introduced myself and smiled he looked me up and down and just said, "mmmmmmm-hmmmm" like a schoolmarm. It was forced mean girl disapproval. I couldnt decide if I wanted to laugh out loud or if I wanted to backslap him. I dont mind guys who are feminine, but please dont be impolite.

Dude just remember that it is a defense mechanism for him. He wears his femininty all of the time and he cant help that.... there is a special form of strength given to the guys who are feminine and embrace it. I have mad respect for them to be honest. If you and I went to that restaurant and ate, we would be two dudes eating. Some of these guys face ridicule the likes of which we will never be forced to handle.

And I will bitchslap you if you make fun of my diet.... make up for it by taking me out for some Korean BBQ... mmmmmm.... shit..... now, that is making my hungry AGAIN.....

haha nice i have never been to a korean bbq place but when i lived in a different city there was a korean restaurant but i never tried it but i LOVE Persian i went to a Persian restaurant when i visited my aunt in Denver my step cousin took me out to it with his son and wife it was very cool and very good.

brycetippe saidI think you made a judgement of him right before he even spoke, and you made up your mind about him . I don't know, sure it was a little diva-ish of him to say it was too crowded, but honestly you should try to be more tolerant. I have people that annoy me, but I never have the impulse to 'bitch slap people'. And this is coming from someone who doesn't really like that many people and my friends call me a prude because I'm very particular with who I hang around.

i didn't finish the story... what i wrote was before we sat down and had a 2 hour dinner. I was venting then started to worry that it was raising my cortisol levels and then I got sleepy so I just stopped. Now i am over it so i don't feel like talking about it anymore.

AvadaKedavra saidI am sure most of you never even heard of korean bbq since they don't serve it at denny's, applebees, panda express or other fine dining establishments.

GASP!!!!

NOT the way to start your thread. You do know this is a gay site, right?

that was totally a joke btw hahaha

No.... if it were a joke it would have been followed by an "hahaha" or a "lol" but instead it was followed by a DESCRIPTION of korean bbq because all of us fat bastards who live in trailers set up in corn fields dont know what korean bbq is....

We love you man...i get it; you were in a bad mood and mrs. pedobear ruined your night and he pissed you off and you were venting and you were being a bitch.... its all good .... we have all been there...

Alpha_Muscle saidIf you and I went to that restaurant and ate, we would be two dudes eating. Some of these guys face ridicule the likes of which we will never be forced to handle.

Personal story: In the 1970s I returned to college while still in the Army, because I lacked a degree and faced elimination as an Officer without one. My college GF ( ) befriended a very effeminate and out Theatre Professor, only 2 years older than me, and we used to all go for dinner together, most often Chinese.

One time she had a family crisis that made her cancel her attendance, but the Professor still wanted to go. I was apprehensive, because he was so flaming, even wore jewelry & makeup in public. And I was still in denial, the restaurant located in my home town where I was known. Not so bad if I had a GF along, but with just him & me? EEEK!

We got seated at a table in the dead center of the large dining room. He was as femmy as ever, his hands fluttering everywhere, all the stereotypical gestures, right out of the Gay Handbook. And I could see all the eyes on us, the fingers pointing, the laughter, the head shakes.

"Gerry, I think people are staring and pointing at us," I whispered to him.

"Oh, yes, I see it," he replied. "It happens to me all the time. And they think you're one, too."

I know I turned scarlet red. But then I got mad. This guy was my friend. There was nothing wrong with him, a wonderful person with a brilliant mind. Oddly, it was my Army side that kicked in, the one you might have thought was the most homophobic. But my loyalty in a difficult situation is to my buddies, as every soldier understands.

And so I stared right back at those other people, with an ironic smile. I raised my voice, and conveyed in every way possible that I was having a wonderful time, enjoying his gay company completely.

He later told me I actually started to behave a bit faggy myself, perhaps my suppressed personality trying to come out, or just my tendency to be a natural mimic. But he thanked me for a supportive gesture he assumed was deliberate on my part, and a bit risky considering my career.

I look forward to hearing what else the OP has to add to his story. But I would encourage him to support our gay brothers in public, of all types. I refuse to be embarrassed by being with another gay man in public who's just being his natural self. Having general bad manners is another matter, though, which is why I await more info.

AvadaKedavra saidI was at dinner tonight with couple of my friends and one of them brought his new boyfriend. We had dinner at this korean bbq place called Road to Seoul. I am sure most of you never even heard of korean bbq since they don't serve it at denny's, applebees, panda express or other fine dining establishments. It is a all you can eat bbq restaurant, you pay like $25 and order all the meat you want that you cook on a grill that is in the middle of your table. This one in particular plays club music and serves tons of booze. Given that, the line for a table was out the door.

I arrived 45 mins early to get our name on the waiting list since I am currently bulking and have specific times when I need to consume an absurd amount of calories so I couldn't afford to delay a meal. I was standing around by myself la la la checking my phone every minute so that I don't look like a loser until my friends finally arrived.

They all come over and I get introduced to my friend's new bf. The guy looked like a teenager but turned out to be 22 years old. He was also very gentle. He reached out to shake his hand and he put out his hand and gently pressed my fingers with his fingers. ok whatever, probably best for him since I was scratching myself earlier. I told my friends to go check to see if our table is ready while I go outside and make a phone call. My friend, the one with the boyfriend, lets call him pedobear said "I'll go check" but his boyfriend grabs his hand and says "nooooo, its too crowded". I just paused and raised my eye brow at him. My other friend saw my reaction and jumped in and said he'll go check.

Anyways, I don't feel like typing anymore and I am getting sleepy so I am going to end this story short. Other things happened during dinner that made me want to reach over and backhand him. thats the short of it. bed time.

Aaaand I think there's a correlation right here.

Maybe being so military about the way you eat also makes you very military about the way you judge people.

AvadaKedavra saidI was at dinner tonight with couple of my friends and one of them brought his new boyfriend. We had dinner at this korean bbq place called Road to Seoul. I am sure most of you never even heard of korean bbq since they don't serve it at denny's, applebees, panda express or other fine dining establishments. It is a all you can eat bbq restaurant, you pay like $25 and order all the meat you want that you cook on a grill that is in the middle of your table. This one in particular plays club music and serves tons of booze. Given that, the line for a table was out the door.

I arrived 45 mins early to get our name on the waiting list since I am currently bulking and have specific times when I need to consume an absurd amount of calories so I couldn't afford to delay a meal. I was standing around by myself la la la checking my phone every minute so that I don't look like a loser until my friends finally arrived.

They all come over and I get introduced to my friend's new bf. The guy looked like a teenager but turned out to be 22 years old. He was also very gentle. He reached out to shake his hand and he put out his hand and gently pressed my fingers with his fingers. ok whatever, probably best for him since I was scratching myself earlier. I told my friends to go check to see if our table is ready while I go outside and make a phone call. My friend, the one with the boyfriend, lets call him pedobear said "I'll go check" but his boyfriend grabs his hand and says "nooooo, its too crowded". I just paused and raised my eye brow at him. My other friend saw my reaction and jumped in and said he'll go check.

Anyways, I don't feel like typing anymore and I am getting sleepy so I am going to end this story short. Other things happened during dinner that made me want to reach over and backhand him. thats the short of it. bed time.

Riveting story, thank you for sharing Love the name of the restaurant though --- "Road to Seoul"