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To ensure you’ve got the sex factor and not the ex-factor - getting the elbow because of bedroom blunders – here are six things you should never do:

Don’t overreact when they get spontaneous

Let’s say you’ve just left the pub with that new partner. They pull you into a side street for spontaneous super-hot snogs.

Then they suggest a passionate romp there and then. Don’t freak out.

One survey found more than a third of people felt inhibited about sexual spontaneity. No! It can keep things exciting. As long as you’re not overseen in that side street (or wherever they want to get spontaneous) go with the frisky flow.

Refrain from your weirdest kinks

Unless you met at a fetish party, keep it chilled when first getting frisky. It’s a turnoff if a new partner mentions their extreme fetish.

The shocked partner does a Usain Bolt, sprinting away as fast as they can. After you’ve been together awhile sensually describe your fantasy kinks. They might be up for it.

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Whatever you do, don't mention your ex

Your signature sex technique

You might be big-headed about your special technique that’s worked in the past. Inwardly thinking: yeah baby,this does the trick every time!

Nope. Your ex - or many exes – might’ve found it hot. But this new person might hate it. Always start slowly with ‘signature’ sex techniques to gauge their pleasure.

Never give the ‘silent treatment’

One of the biggest complaints I get from women is they get a guy in bed and he goes silent, not a peep from foreplay to climax. They can’t tell if he’s loving or loathing things.

Let that new person know when things feel good. Make lots of sex sounds – those sighs and moans signalling pleasure. You’ll get more of what you like (bonus).

Don’t fret when they want to get wet

That new person suggests jumping in a steamy shower, inwardly you think: crikey, I don’t want them to see me naked!

Scratch that negativity, start this new relationship as you’d like to continue - with sexual confidence.

They’ve probably got a good idea of what you look like anyway. And despite that vision of horror (joke!) they want to caress you up-and-down under cascading water.

Start this new relationship as you’d like to continue - with sexual confidence

Don’t mention the ex

If your ex was super-hot between the sheets, never let this slip out. The quickest way to upset a new partner is making them feel they have incredibly high standards to live up to.

Instead be flirty in your foreplay. Tell them how fantastic their fingertips feel stroking your stomach and their kisses are making your nipples spring to life. They’ll feel like a sex god or goddess in bed with you.