"Yet here is the rub for us as gay people: we have a choice. Unlike most minority groups, many of us have the option of 'passing', of playing the game, of seeking to become, or to remain part of the included. Sometimes this seems a matter of survival - but there is a deep seduction here too." Michael B Kelly, Seduced By Grace.

More cornflakes? I'll have to have another go...reminds me of a story of a woman of my grandmother's generation who was keen to perfect her sponge cake. Every day she would cook a sponge and ask her husband's opinion until one day (years later I think) he said he was sick to death of sponge and could they PLEASE have something different?

Of course nowadays he would have been handed the spatula long before it got to that point.

Hello, just found your blog via another blog and wanted to say I love your style of writing. Will be back. I happen to blog with my mother... thinking now it may have been easier cooking her recipes instead.