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I dont think theres a set "time frame". When YOU are ready to move on, and arent going to be constantly compareing new guys to your ex, then your good to go. But, I would probably sit down and talk to my sons about it before anything real serious. See where they stand and how they feel. If theyre teenagers, they're old enough to have a conversation about their feelings with you.

I haven't because my kids are still young. I think, sense your kids are teenages and can understand your dating, then your free to date.
I'm waiting for my kids to become teenages. Well, worth the wait and being mom now is priority.

When you feel you are ready to date again, my marriage was horrible. I kept trying to save it despite my ex-husband's cheating and lying, I was young and had two babies and didn't want to be alone. He ended up leaving me for another woman, a woman he is still with and is about to have his second child with (they have a 3 year old daughter, and another daughter due next month). I hated the feeling of being alone and rejected so I started dating a guy a few months after my ex left - it was a huge mistake and I wanted out almost as soon as it started but I felt guilty because he was obviously a lot more into me than I was into him. I didn't start dating again for a year, I had some good relationships that ended for one reason or another and a few bad ones but last year (4 years after separating) I found a great guy.