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Tuesday, January 8, 2013

CONDOLENCES

It is normally seen that whenever there is a death in any family, visitors talk like this..

They didnt see a good doctor, otherwise this would havent happened..

Nobody cared much..

They could have taken the person to a big city for treatment..

I would like to ask whether the outsiders love the person more than the family?
Have they done anything for that person when he/she was alive?
Doesnt always the family do the best they can?
Who knows about families constraints and problems?
and last but not the least have you come here to be a support or give them more grief and regret?

People defeat the purpose of their visit by their suggestions and criticism, grieving family needs support in every way,nothing else, so try to give whatever you can but please no suggestions and no ifs and buts...

17 comments:

People are like that. Most of them are interested in what happens inside the four wall of neighbor than what happens within our four walls...

But sometimes, even the family members go through guilt phase. I should have done this , that etc.. The best is to firmly believe that what ever happened it is God's will. Without his knowledge even a leaf does not move. Such firm belief can help us to get through difficult times...

Well SaiD. The so called people who speak such stuff do not bother to even drop by and offer words of comfort when a person is suffering. But after the person passes away, they take it upon themselves to talk like this. Totally uncalled for. They know we would be burning inside with grief and taunt us with all this talk

Blessings...We live in a judgmental world and everyone feels its their duty to put in their 2 cents about this or that most of which they have no true sense of knowing. You cannot give ear to that or your energy, as long as you know the truth, what you have done, the lengths you have gone to secure the best options possible with the resources available to you, then that is the truth you hold, you need not qualify or justify to anyone.