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You can’t believe your relationship is over. You’re flooded with a roller coaster of painful emotions; you’re angry, fearful and heartbroken. Understanding the stages of grief can help you accept the process.

In the beginning your relationship with your bad boy is unbelievably great. He’s provocative, adventurous and he makes your life exciting. He makes you feel special and you get hooked on the intense sex he gives you. But predictably, your bad boy turns out to be self-absorbed, unfaithful and unattainable and your relationship with him is a roller-coaster of euphoria and disappointments.

Jealousy is a sign of a lack of confidence in oneself and will make you unhappy with your life. When you compare yourself to another, you can always find someone who will make you feel unattractive, unintelligent, inferior to others, discontent with who you are and sabotage you relationship. CLICK HERE to read the story of how jealousy ALMOST destroyed my relationship with my fiancé.

When you chase a man, you are telling yourself: You DON’T think you are worthy of his pursuit. You call a new guy to chat or to invite him over for dinner and he blows you off. Your heart sinks because you know you made a mistake in pursuing him. Girl, give a man a chance to show you what he can do.

Something doesn’t feel right in your relationship. He’s distant, moody, evasive and secretive. He goes to work early, he comes home late and he keeps his phone on silent in this pant’s pocket. You can’t put your finger on it but you wonder: is he cheating on you?

An abuser’s goal is to control your emotions, cloud your perception and chip away at your self-worth. His covert abuse is disguised by actions that appear normal, but it is clearly insidious and underhanded. He steadily pushes you to edge with his deception, sarcasms and battering until you erupt in anger and then you become the “bad guy” giving him ammunition to justify his abuse.

Your relationships is a hurtful cycle of conflict. You want to resolve the contention with your partner and you accept responsibility for your bad behavior that co-created the argument. But he denies his malicious actions because he wants to avoid responsibility to protect his fragile ego.

There are two common, but extremely harmful behaviors that erode your self-esteem: They are comparing yourself to others and negative self-talk. If you can change your mindset, even a little, your life will take a different path.