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If peace can only be found within – which is another way of saying, “I’ve found out how to be happy with myself,” then how come some people pay crazy money to get advice and be trained to be able to be happy with themselves?

That is because many still believe that the only way to be happy is to have the perfect relationship. And that includes the relationship with themselves. Some unhappy people are always looking for solutions to their unhappiness. They believe that with the proper advice and with the proper guidance they will surely find the prefect relationship that will bring them true happiness for the rest of their lives. There is no such thing as true happiness. There is only true peace. And that peace can never be found outside of you. It is from within. When the soul has accepted this truth, that is when the soul will no longer need anything. Not even a relationship.

Then what are you talking about when you speak of the relationship of man and woman being the saving factor of this world from its own destruction? Isn’t that pertaining towards us working towards a perfect relationship? Which you have just mentioned that a soul at peace with itself does not need?

Do you have peace?

Yes, I have peace.

Do you need a relationship right now?

No, not really.

But it would be nice to be in one, yes?

Yes. It would be fun to have someone to hang around with.

But it is not compulsory for you?

Nope.

Even for the rest of your life?

Yup. Where is this going, God?

Just checking. Checking how you are.

So how am I?

You’re perfectly fine.

I am, aren’t I? With or without a relationship, I am perfectly fine.

But it would be fun?

Yes, most definitely. If you call a lot of hard work fun, then yes.

It’s all a matter of having the right mindset, my dear.

I know that. If I didn’t have the right mindset, do you think I’d have reached this far?

No, you wouldn’t have. But with you, my dear, anything is possible.

Thank you for that vote of confidence. But you still haven’t answered my question – Why is the relationship of a man and a woman the saving factor of this world from its own destruction?

This world is an illusion, you already know that. I created the illusion of dyads in order for myself to experience myself, you already know that too. And the greatest illusion of all is that of man and woman. At the moment you also know that the spiritual make of this dyad is, as you like to say, out of whack. The mistaken belief in the illusion that the male is superior to the female is the root of all your problems in this world. If you can’t fix that then there is nothing you can fix. All of you created that mistaken belief for a purpose. And that is for all of you to experience that it doesn’t work. We have now come at an era where the world is waking up to this truth. Most of you are now awake from the deep sleep of that mistaken belief. But here’s the problem – now that most of you know the problem, most of you also are still not very sure how to fix the problem.

So how do we fix the problem?

What we’re doing here is a good start. We are discussing the problem. And we are putting it out into the world for everyone to digest and maybe come up with their own discussions and suggestions about the problem.

God, you’re sort of going round and round. You still haven’t answered my question about the man-woman-relationship thing.

I can’t answer the question because you yourself do not know the answer, my dear. I am just your word processor, remember?

I forget, actually. Anyway, since this is as far as we’re gonna get on the subject I’ll stop here. I have to prepare dinner now. Thank you for always being around to discuss what’s messing around with my peace.

“Wanna know what I think is one of the causes of broken relationships these days? It’s because we’ve forgotten the art of compartmentalizing. Some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible. One is of the soul. The other is of this world”

That was my tweet yesterday. Can you please explain what compartmentalizing means?

Didn’t you just read something about that online?

I did. I even shared the URL as a tweet. But it’s still blurry. I know you can make it much simpler to understand.

Thank you for your faith in me.

You’re welcome. Um…Where did that suddenly come from?

It’s doesn’t matter. Okay, let’s talk about compartments.

No. Not compartments – compartmentalizing.

We’ll get to that. Meaning of “compartment”, please.

Coming right up. Okay. “Compartment” has a few meanings. I choose this one, “a part or space marked or partitioned off.”

Does anything come to mind? An object perhaps? That reminds you of the word “compartment”?

Yeah. My jewellery box. I’ve got this little box which is sectioned into little compartments. Each one keeps an earring or two.

Why do you compartmentalize your jewellery?

So they’re organised. It’s easy for me to choose which ones I want to wear. A girl can’t have enough earrings or ear accessories, you know. It just makes an outfit look complete.

One minute we were talking about the meaning of compartment. The next we jumped to talking about your jewellery. What actually happened was that we took away the partition from between two subjects – one topic is about the meaning of a word. And the other topic is an example of the meaning of that word – which is your jewellery box. We created one compartment out of both topics.

So are we compartmentilizing?

No, what we did is the opposite of compartmentilizing. We integrated two topics into one.

Is that good or bad?

It depends on where you wish to go, my dear. And there’s no such thing as good or bad. There is only what works and what doesn’t work in terms of what you are trying to achieve. And what we are trying to achieve here is to explain a complex topic in simpler terms. Taking something from one compartment (let’s call this compartment “Tangibles ”) to explain a complex topic (let’s call this compartment “Intangibles”) is our method of explaining to the world all about a very, very, very complex topic called the soul.

In other words, we are always taking stuff from the box labelled TANGIBLES to explain whatever is in the box labelled INTANGIBLES.

You got it.

Why?

Why what?

Why do we need to use tangible stuff to explain about stuff about our intangible soul? Why can’t you just explain in words?

Words do not have much retention power. Here’s an example – let’s say, a few months from now you come across the word “compartmentilize” again. And you suddenly remember asking me about it in your diary. What words come to mind which you can use as key words in your search tool?

So what was it about? I mean, how was the word “compartmentalize” used in the movie?

Jude and Cameron’s characters flew sparks right from the very beginning. As the relationship went along, Cameron suspects Jude had other girlfriends – she felt he was hiding something. So when she made a surprise visit to his house, she found out he was a widower with two young daughters. She asked him why he didn’t tell her. If I recall correctly, he said he prefers to compartmentilize his life. His family life is one compartment, his love life is another. It makes his life less complicated. I can’t remember his exact words but I think it’s something like that. I have to watch the movie again. One of my fave movies actually. Jack Black’s “boob graze” scene was so funny! Uh-oh, we jumped to another compartment again.

Is it making the topic complicated?

No. Not really. I think as long as we remember to get back on the right track, there won’t be any problem.

Yes. That’s a very important point to remember. Always remember that.

I will. So to get back on the right track, when do “some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible” when it comes to compartmentilizing?

Your work is sometimes called your 9 to 5, is it not?

Yup. Most of us are at work from 9am in the morning to 5pm in the evening. But some do overtime. Instead of leaving work at 5pm we stay until late into the night, maybe even until midnight. But of course, those who do, get compensated for their overtime.

As in the tangible called money?

Yes.

Most of you have families. So when do you have time to spend with the family, giving and receiving love & joy – which are the intangible?

Oh, I know where this is going.

Where is it going?

It’s going to get back into the right track. It’s going to the statement that says, “some of us are no longer able to discern the line between the tangible & the intangible when it comes to compartmentilizing” because we’ve forgotten our priorities in life.

And what may that be?

To nourish and enrich the soul. To sum it all up – compartmentilizing is the art of knowing what matters the most. What matters the most is the nourishment and enrichment of the soul.

…but a woman knows how to make decisions. And if she gets pregnant, then she gets pregnant. To me, having a baby is a blessing. There are women out there who would sell an arm and a leg just to be able to conceive. And yet when a child is conceived out of wedlock it is considered a curse. A child is a blessing whether its parents are married or not. Am I mistaken about that?

No, you are not. Once again rules of society are at play when it comes to how women should treat their bodies. At the moment, women are fighting for the right to have a say in what decisions they choose for their own bodies, especially when it concerns pregnancy. Your beliefs are the powers that be that have a say on how women should treat their bodies. Abortion is one of your biggest issues at the moment. The irony of it is that when a child is conceived out of wedlock – the situation and condition that the pregnant woman is in, is considered unacceptable in society’s eyes. Anything that which is borne out of wedlock, is also considered a sin. But it is also against your beliefs to get rid of that which is borne out of wedlock – which is abortion. So what is a woman to do?

She can abstain from sex, that’s what she can do.

That’s another one of your beliefs – sex out of wedlock is also a sin.

Well then, there’s the logic, isn’t it? Being pregnant outside marriage is a sin. So having sex out of marriage is also a sin. As for abortion being a sin, it’s like murder to some – murder is a sin.

And yet you have a thing called death penalty.

But that’s because of a heinous crime. A baby hasn’t committed any crime!

Isn’t a criminal in death row once a baby?

Argh! I don’t know where you’re coming from sometimes!

I’m coming from the truth, my child. So do you still think there’s logic in those beliefs?

So do you still think there’s sound reasoning with those beliefs? That it’s a sin to have sex outside of marriage? And that it’s also a sin to get pregnant outside of marriage? And then if the woman gets pregnant out of marriage, it’s also a sin to abort the foetus? So what is a woman to do if she’s already with child?

Wait a sec. First you called it a “foetus” and then next, you called it a “child.” So which is it?

Is there a difference?

The dictionary defines “foetus” as “the young of an animal in the womb or egg, especially in the later stages of development when the body structures are in the recognizable form of its kind, in humans after the end of the second month of gestation.” As for the word “child” the dictionary says it’s “a person between birth and full growth; a boy or girl.” But the dictionary says that the word “child” also means “a human foetus.”

So is there a difference between the word “child” and the word “foetus”?

Um…Yes and no. No, there’s no difference because a child in a womb is a foetus. And yes, there’s a difference to the meaning we give each word.

How so?

To me, “foetus” sounds like it’s not a person yet. As in, it’s not fully human yet. When it comes to the word “child” I feel like it already has its own mind. Or maybe even a soul.

Everything has a soul, my child – even plants. Anyway, I get where you’re coming from. Now imagine this – there’s a group that says they are for abortion. Let’s call them the Anti-Foetus Group. Now imagine another group that says they are against abortion. Let’s call them the Pro-Child Group. And these two groups are always at each other’s faces, shouting at each other, protesting that their group is right. Who do you think will win? The Anti-Foetus Group or the Pro-Child Group?

I have no idea. The word “foetus” & “child” mean exactly the same thing.

Precisely. Both groups are not fighting for the foetus or the child. They are fighting for the meaning they are giving to the words. It’s all about the meaning. And what is a meaning? A meaning is a thought. You are all fighting over a thought.

But a child in a womb is not a thought. It’s a living, breathing entity.

It’s not breathing yet.

Well, it has a heartbeat, that’s for sure.

So you’re Pro-Child?

Since you put it that way, maybe I am. My purpose is for all children after all.

As in living, breathing children?

Yes—wait. Haha. Nice trick. So are you saying that a foetus that isn’t breathing yet is not a child?

Didn’t we already discuss the meaning of the words “foetus” and “child”?

Fine. So are you saying they’re the same but they’re not the same?

Let me just say this – words can help you or words can destroy you. And it’s all because of the meaning or meanings you give each word. And most of the time you are all fighting over the meaning. And as I have said, a meaning is a thought. Most of the time you are fighting over a thought. Does that make sense to you?

I don’t know. Sometimes, nothing makes sense in this world anymore.

You can make something make sense with any sense anytime you wish, my child. By giving it meaning.

Oh no. I’m not going back there again. Meaning is a thought, thought is meaning, fighting over a thought which is the meaning. It’s a losing battle!

That’s the problem. Why does it have to be a battle? Why can’t it be a discussion?