Wednesday, 26 September 2012

Finding Love

The new guy always seems nice and shiny, but if you’re seeking perfection, you’ll never find it.

Looking for love? Then why are you always finding the opposite?
Stop blaming the world and listen to me. Here are the mistakes that
many black women make when trying to find true love. Pay attention, it
might change your life.
1) Keeping a list of rules: Do you bring a set of rules and lists
with you into every relationship? If so, just know right now that every
man you meet is probably going to come up short. The new guy always
seems nice and shiny, but if you’re seeking perfection, you’ll never
find it.
2) Being a bag lady: If the last dog you dealt with defines how
you’re going to deal with the next man, then just know that by preparing
for dogs, you’re probably attracting them.
3) Not knowing how to love a decent man when you meet one: If you
come into a relationship prepared to play stupid games, this probably
means that you’ll run off any decent guy who comes into your life.
4) Feeling pressured to hit certain benchmarks before a certain
date: You are not worse off than your friends because they’re all 27
with kids and a husband and you don’t have either. The truth is that
many of them aren’t happy anyway, and a lot of them have settled with
bad men in order to fill their quota. Just give it five years and
you’ll see many of them in divorce court.

5) Forgetting about the art of being nice: A lot of black women
teach each other to be mean because some of them are mean to each
other. Feminists teach you that being kind and sweet to a man means
that you are giving in to him and makes you weak. Here’s a news flash:
If you’re in love, you’re SUPPOSED to give in to one another. Men like
women who are nice. Being evil is not sexy, even when you think you
have a good reason for being an a**hole.

6) Choosing flash over depth and substance: He’s tall, handsome
with a nice job. So what. Does he love you? Is he a good person?
Does he have good values? That’s what’ll make him your husband and not
just another guy trying to get into your pants.
7) No capacity to forgive: If you allow one little thing to anger
you to the point of being unable to forgive and move on, you’re
basically killing everything that makes you beautiful. Don’t do that.
Your man is going to make mistakes. Prepare to forgive him to save
your relationship. Love is hard work, accept that.