LAWS OF ATTRACTION: WHY GOOD LOOKING IS MORE THAN LOOKING GOOD

The laws of attraction are an aspect of our daily lives that is kind of hard to explain. I have had to deal with having an attraction to someone and that someone was actually in a relationship. But you can’t help the physiological feeling you get when you come across someone. They have a different impact on you that makes you kind of lose your cool. They have your undivided attention and for some reason, you tend to listen when they speak a lot more than others. I have had this exist only a few times in my life, and each time the person was in a monogamous relationship. Yet even with the relationship, it still didn’t matter because you have this feeling. Now, it’s not infatuation or the feeling to stalk, yet it makes you unfettered by the idea that that person is in a relationship. So where does this euphoric feeling come from.

I don’t know where it comes from, and my feeling was toward two coworkers in the same work environment. It wasn’t so much as the two people were physically attractive as it was their perceived confidence. Their assurance in themselves made them quite appealing to me. But was that all. Maybe the idea of me not being able to date them is something else that made them more attractive. Because it’s like the saying, “We all want something we can’t have.” And the problem is, is that once we do get the thing we wanted, sometimes it’s not even that big of a deal. The idea of wanting it seems that much more special, than actually having it. So like I asked before, “Where does it come from?” And I am not referring to just finding someone attractive. I’m talking about being so into them, that you don’t want to hurt their significant other, but the other is just not important to you.

Well, there all kinds of definitions for why we have these attractions to one another. You would think that there is this one aspect of life we can look to and say that, that it. But the reality is that attraction is not just a physical attraction, but the energy the person gives off. Me, for example, I give off the energy that I am not in the mood to be bothered. But in getting to know me, I have a lot of knowledge and a lot to say. But the problem is, is when you are an introvert in your personal life, and an extrovert in your career pursuits people get confused. When it comes to my career goals, I jump right out there. But my personal life is more of a, “Who is he, and why does he exist really.” Whereas my career pursuit is, “I jump, knowing I can and may fall flat on my face, but I do it anyways.” So when people find out I have an attraction to someone it strikes takes them by surprise because I am not this open book person.

In the end, the laws of attraction, the energy that someone lets off makes you like them for some reason. Whenever they come around, your mood shifts, and it becomes difficult to be in their presence. But you manage to do so, even at the cost sometimes of being uncomfortable internally. And sometimes, just sometimes; you are able to tell them how you genuinely feel.