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Monday, September 2, 2013

Seven Ways To Surprise A Woman

Gentlemen, this is addressed to you.

Taking care of your woman is a sacred act.

It requires thought, observation, and pure stealth. Your goal is to catch her off guard.

Below are seven ways to surprise your woman.

1. Listen to her. And listen intently. Women air their feelings by talking and venting. This does not mean for you to spring into action and solve everything. It means to listen. It means to look directly into her eyes and hear her words. Don't let your mind wander. Don't try to get her into bed. Don't have an A.D.D. moment. Practice patience and you will see into her soul in ways you never expected. Listening to her is a show of respect and appreciation.

2. Give an unexpected gift at an unexpected time. This is truly a key to her heart. It doesn't have to be an expensive gift. Keep it simple, yet thoughtful, not, "Oh Honey, I bought you some antifreeze!" Plan a romantic weekend getaway (be sure to consult with her friends or employer so she has no excuses).

3. Compliment her. Flattery will get you just about anywhere. Women love compliments. Find balance in giving them though. Too many and she will think you are up to something. Not enough and she will think you've lost interest. Make compliments count. Is she a great cook? Compliment her. Does she take good care of your children? Compliment her. Does she have a beautiful smile? Compliment her. Always look for things on which to compliment her. Avoid saying things like, "Wow, that dress doesn't make you look as fat today!"

4. Become a chore whore. Help her with tasks around the house. Cooking, cleaning, and laundering is time-consuming, especially after a long day of work or caring for the kids. If she's showing signs of exhaustion or frustration, that's a cue to step in and help.

5. Go out for a night on the town. Take her to dinner at her favorite restaurant. Go see a show. Go dancing. Take a carriage ride. Whisper sweetness in her ears. While men are more visually stimulated, women are aurally stimulated. Romance her the way you did when you first met.

6. Do things she likes to do. Allow yourself to enjoy the experience. Do it with an open mind. Don't worry about not appearing manly in front of your friends (if your friends are smart like you, they are doing these very things without your knowledge). Get a pedicure together. Go to the spa with her. Get a couple's massage. Go shopping and be sure to compliment her on her choices. When you do the things she likes, chances are she will reciprocate by doing things you enjoy.

7. Change your plans to be with her and only her. Take a night off occasionally from your manly activities with your man-friends to spend quality time with your woman. Of course, don't tell her you are doing this in advance. Just do it. And be sure to turn off your phone so there will be no interruptions.

Guys, it really isn't difficult to please your woman. She is not as complex as you'd like to believe. She wants love, she wants attention, she wants your help, she wants your friendship. She wants acknowledgment as your partner and lover. All the things she does, she does for you because she loves you.

And of all the things she wants, she just wants you.

Your comments are always welcome. In what ways do you surprise your partner? Please share.

36 comments:

I would just add, "communicate to your wife to see what it is that she wants from you, then do that."

I am very atypical female, and generally, the things that "work" for most women do not work for me....but all is well because my husband and I learned very good communication skills many years ago (as a matter of fact, my husband TAUGHT the course and that is where I met him!)

Find out what it is that YOUR wife wants and do that.

(BTW, wives, treat your husbands well, too, and do what they like. I've found that the more you do for others from a point of pure love expecting nothing in return, the more is done for you.)

Thanks, Suresh. The end of the day, after a working hard, can be tough. We tend to stay in our own little world without realizing what our partner may have been through during the day. That's where communication is a must. :)Penny

Indeed, Aparna! I'm glad I could make you smile with this. Sometimes men need things spelled out for them. We all need reminders from time to time when things begin to crowd our lives, pulling us away from our priorities. Thanks for commenting.Penny

Just lovely! I especially love number 1... when a man truly listens to me I feel so valued.. like he genuinely cares about ME. And I definitely notice when they start to wander... which stings. Great advice :)

Good advice. I will mention that I regularly do 3-4 of these for/with my wife and we have a great relationship. I think because of my doing I get no grief when I do go do something that she does not enjoy or want to participate.

Ray, that is wonderful that you and your wife have such a beautiful relationship. Kudos to you! It becomes a true partnership when partners allow each other space for other endeavors without the anger, disappointment, or jealousy. Thanks for commenting :)Penny

Thank you very much, Roger. I'm glad to know that this stirred you despite the haze you've mentioned. I certainly appreciate you sharing this with others. And I thank you for stopping by and commenting. I look forward to stirring you from your haze more often :)Penny

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Penny McDaniel is a spiritual teacher, educator, theologian, and author/writer even though she finds titles limiting. She believes life is filled with what she calls "spiritunities", spiritual opportunities that call us to growth, creativity, and self-expression.