Is She A Friend Or More?

How Long Should You Wait Between Dates?

It’s nice that you thought Soraya was just being friendly to you, but you should have been dating her all along. Guy, you weren’t going by my program. If you’re following"The System," you’re not going to be just seeing her “every once in a while.” You should have called Soraya and asked her out, then waited a week, called her again, gotten another date and then kissed her on that second date.

Now here’s something you have to understand: When you didn’t see Soraya for a few months, right then and there you were out. To you psych majors, when you go out with a babe three or four times and then you don’t see her for a few months, it's over. When you went out to dinner with her and she picked up your tab, you didn’t kiss her good night, did you? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says, “You started off in the friendship zone, and you’re stuck in the friendship zone.” Going to Soraya’s friend’s birthday party was just a group date anyway — which keeps you mired in the friendship zone. Dunston, you’re not using my principles at all.

Now, who’s this friend calling Soraya for relationship advice? Just some guy? An ex-boyfriend? Is it some dude who’s trying to date her? That said, it was excellent that you told her that she should date someone as busy as she is and changed the subject. Good job.

But then you turned right around and made a huge mistake by telling Soraya that you were happy that you could be good friends and that nothing was ever going to happen between the two of you. Dunston, why in the world are you telling her this stuff? You want to end up dating this woman, but you’re going straight down the friendship road again.

Soraya might be telling you to go with the flow, but like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “The flow’s already stopped, and the river’s all dammed up!” There is no flow that’s at all predictable, my friend, because you’re not using the strategy that my book lays out for you. You have "The System," and you’re not following it, which makes no sense, and that’s your biggest problem.

One more thing: As far as Soraya goes, she’s nothing but a big waste of time.

Remember, guys: When you want to date a woman, stay out of the friendship zone.