New vids and I need advice !!!

daddadoo7 created the topic: New vids and I need advice !!!

Ok guys had a bad day at work came home and just relaxed infront of the tanks sorry for all the vids but hey its like my therapy lol
Moved some things around in the 150.

Some vids of hulk and two/too (we let my daughter name the pleco and this is what she came up with) lighting in the qt is horrible and looks redish

Now heres the issue and I want as many opinions as possible. My son originally chose a bocourti but because of the dificulty in getting one his second choice was the pearsei now in qt. Well the lfs that was trying to get me one just emailed me saying he will have them this week ! I sent him a mail yesterday thanking him but saying I wasnt interested anymore. So what do I do not tell my boy and leave it be or tell him and let him choose between the two ? Also have to prepare for him asking if he can have both which I would then make him choose who gets rehomed out of our current fish. Those two together would look impressive. Sorry to sound dramatic but ever since we got this tank I have been trying to get the right mix of fish in there as a nice comm tank the family could enjoy and I dont think having a boc, pearsei,hrp,metae, and het in one tank will work out long term

DMD123 replied the topic: New vids and I need advice !!!

Two BIG fish like that will be pushing the limit on your tank. Also from my experience and talking with others who have tried, Bocourti and Pearsei just do not seem to get along well. You can pretty much just choose one.

I might be biased since I have a pearsei but since Ive also had bocourti I can say that a pearsei is a wet pet while the bocourti is colorful but just not a social fish.

daddadoo7 replied the topic: Re:New vids and I need advice !!!

Should I let him choose as part of this whole learn from your choices thing or do a DAD knows best and not tell him. We have a unique relationship he really is my little best friend and I never keep things from him. But I also wanna put this saga to rest and finally have a stock that works

DMD123 replied the topic: New vids and I need advice !!!

In life we sometimes dont have a choice and just have stick to decisions we have made. If it were me I would call this a decision made since you already have the pearsei and the bocourti was not available when you got it. In the end the personality of the pearsei should win out. They are really social fish.

Lammergeier replied the topic: New vids and I need advice !!!

I'm going to echo what David said about the decision being made. A big part of learning to make decisions is accepting that there are always consequences for choices that you make. I don't think there'd be any harm at all in telling him that you're keeping the Pearsei, and why even though he might still want the Bocourti he chose the Pearsei so needs to stick with it.

If you change your mind and decide to go with the Bocourti send the Pearsei down to me

UNC-CH replied the topic: New vids and I need advice !!!

DMD and DBLN8 both seem to think that the pearsei is the better choice of the two. If you give your son the choice between the two, he may choose the bocourti. I think it would be fine if you kept the decision to yourself.

daddadoo7 replied the topic: Re:New vids and I need advice !!!

I think you guys are right. Plus he named it hulk ! He has to stay. I grew up with out a father and had to figure out allot on my own. I try and make everyrhing with him a learning experience. I can twist this into being a " patience is a virtue" type thing or "sometimes things dont work out for a reason" and like lamms twist "you made a choice now live with it"

Darth Nandopsis replied the topic: New vids and I need advice !!!

My question is....how old is he?

THOSE WHO REFUSE KNOWLEDGE ARE DOOMED TO FAIL.

WATER CHANGES ARE THE LIFEBLOOD OF THIS HOBBY. IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE SO OR SIMPLY DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING THEM, RE-HOME YOUR FISH, SELL YOUR AQUARIUM & FIND ANOTHER HOBBY, AS YOU WILL FAIL UTTERLY, COMPLETELY, & MISERABLY.