Anyone else losing friends?

Any other ftms realizing they have no friends left? Maybe it's just because I'm young and single and feeling lonely. Any btdt moms who went through this and found new friends?

since getting pregnant I've either cut off friends on purpose, or just lost touch.
The girl who had been my best friend for years turned into someone I completely didn't know. Or maybe she was always a piece of crap and I was too busy having fun to realize it. My son is a result of sexual assault, and she is one of the few who know. At my baby shower, someone mentioned my "baby daddy" to which I replied I didn't have one, and everyone respected that. Then, my "best friend" says
"Yea you do."
To which I replied
"No, I do not." You would think that would be the end of it, but no, we literally went back and forth like fuckkng five year old until I dropped it. I didn't have anything to do with her after that.
With other friends, I just found myself getting annoyed. I was complaining to one friend about how dumb people are for getting into pregnant womens business, telling them what they should and shouldn't eat, drink, etc. she responded that that's not wrong at all, it's a baby, everyone has the right to be concerned about a baby. Yea ok, we'll see how you feel when it's your turn. I just can't have a conversation with anyone anymore.

I'm just feeling lonely and like people are just complete shit! Hopefully it's the raging hormones.

I'm on my third kid and yeah. I have one friend left. That's usually how it goes. My other friends didn't have kids so we don't understand each other's lifestyle as much anymore. As far as I understand that's what usually happens the older you get. I know it sucks but I'm too busy to go out with people and too tired lol. I don't even like having other mom friends really. I mean we have to really click.

I’m pretty sure that every new mom feels this at some point or else she’s extremely blessed. Even with some of my family it was bad with either the extreme opinions or just at a different time of life so we drifted away.

You and your friends are just in different stages in your life right now. Your expecting a child and adulting while your friends are doing what most young people do partying and drinking etc.. I don't think they are meaning to abandon you it's just you can't hang out or do the things that they are doing. Although if they were really good friends they should at least check on you. I do think your BFF was being nasty by the comment she made at your shower knowing the situation and she should probably be cut off or told off. You should try to make friends with young moms that can relate to you.

I can kind of relate. Before I was pregnant I used to be really into going to the bars with friends every weekend. Ever since I found out I was pregnant obviously the type of entertainment I enjoy has changed and a lot of my friends that don’t have kids couldn’t grasp that. They would constantly still ask if I wanted to go out to the bar and hang out but I just have no business there, especially being there late at night. I’ve told those friends that if they really wanted to hang out with me to come get coffee or go to lunch with me or something they didn’t seem too interested😒 oh well I guess! I have some friends with kids and that’s pretty much who I talk/hang out with now.

I've only "lost" or distanced myself from the child-less friends. They expect me to act like I'm basically not pregnant just so that they can have fun. I even had one of these former friends demand that I don't become "boring" by refusing to stay out very late after the baby comes. She went on to rant about how much she can't stand that. I was dumbfounded - how exactly is one supposed to responsibly raise a child AND party all night? Seriously, her complaints made me want to slap her across her obnoxiously entitled face. Needless to say, we're not hanging out anymore if I can help it (we're part of the same social circle).

Unfortunately sometimes it takes time to see how your friends really are! My supposedly best friend has brought me down a few times before being pregnant,but for me the last straw was how inconsideraste she was borrowing my credit card. Especially now being pregnant she knows im here trying to save money and struggling to work and when I ask her to pay me back she can only give back like 50 which she spends again in like 3 days.

Honestly, I got married when I was 21 almost 22 and lost most of my friends during the year I was engaged. None of them were even in relationships, so I guess they thought they couldn’t relate to me and disappeared. Whatever. Misery loves company. I have one friend here and she has two kids, so I guess it’s just that we relate more.

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