My marriage is virtually over. I don't want to post details, but this has happened very abruptly. I am in shock. We will be trying to work it out, meet with Father over the next few weeks, but the prognosis does not look good at this point.

I can't even pray right now. I'm trying, but it's not going. Nothing except the Jesus Prayer. So if you could please lift up a prayer for me, my future plans, please do.

And pray for him. He needs help, and since I can't be the one to help him, I really hope God does.

Lord, have mercy!

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She's touring the facility/and picking up slack.--"For in much wisdom is much grief, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow." Ecclesiastes 1:18--I once believed in causes too, I had my pointless point of view --Life went on no matter who was wrong or right

I have been where you are. I don't know obviously the particulars of your situation, but I do know that marriage is a dance. Complex, frustrating, almost never straightforward, and requiring an enormous amount of creativity. My marriage was destroyed by a single heinous act and we had to start over. The will was hardly there, the love was MIA. But there is always hope for a christian marriage, somehow through the grace of God we found a shred of it. It has been an uphill battle but in the process God has taught us to be climbers. Perhaps these words apply to your marriage or perhaps not. I will offer a heartical prayer for you and your husband. I wish I could offer better words for you, but of course the best ones have already been offered:

"I will pour out my prayer unto the Lord, and to Him will I proclaim my grief; for with evils my soul is filled, and my life unto hades hath drawn nigh, and like Jonah I will pray: From corruption raise me up, O God." -Ode VI, Irmos of the Supplicatory Canon to the Theotokos

For it were better to suffer everything, rather than divide the Church of God. Even martyrdom for the sake of preventing division would not be less glorious than for refusing to worship idols. - St. Dionysius the Great

Conquer evil men by your gentle kindness, and make zealous men wonder at your goodness. Put the lover of legality to shame by your compassion. With the afflicted be afflicted in mind. Love all men, but keep distant from all men.—St. Isaac of Syria

There is something about this period/length of a marriage that makes it extraordinarily perilous. May you both be able to work through the difficulties.

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Even if we have thousands of acts of great virtue to our credit, our confidence in being heard must be based on God's mercy and His love for men. Even if we stand at the very summit of virtue, it is by mercy that we shall be saved.

In the struggle of marriage, there are times when things do seem hopeless. But I have learned that if you just cling to Christ, cling to the marriage, and cling to your spouse (even if your spouse does not seem to be clinging to you) then God can heal and strengthen your marriage over time. It can be very difficult when it seems like you are the only one trying, but just keep trying anyway. I truly believe that as long as both people desire to preserve the marriage, then no problem is too big to overcome. I'm glad to hear that you all are meeting with your Priest, and that would seem to indicate that both of you desire to work through things.

I didn't mean to give advice. Just wanted to offer you some words of hope and encouragement.

"Lord have mercy."

Selam

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"There are two great tragedies: one is to live a life ruled by the passions, and the other is to live a passionless life."Selam, +GMK+

Almighty God: Father, Son and Holy Spirit, through the intercession of the Most Holy Theotokos, forgive and have mercy on, your servants. Protect and defend their house that calls upon your Glorious Name, heal their infirmities and fill what is needed in their hearts and home, in this hour of their need. Amen.

Lord have mercy!

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To God be the Glory in all things! Amen!

Only pray for me, that God would give me both inward and outward strength, that I may not only speak, but truly will; and that I may not merely be called a Christian, but really be found to be one. St.Ignatius of Antioch.Epistle to the Romans.

Nuts, Liora. This is the wrong time of year to have to go through something like this.

Our bountiful God, we beseech Thee, listen to our humble prayer, that Mr. Ismi & Liora may ever feel that the married state is holy and that Mr. Ismi & Liora must keep it holy. Grant Thy grace that Mr. Ismi & Liora may never sin against the faithfulness and love of this marriage. Foster between them the spirit of understanding and of peace, that no strife, quarrel or misunderstanding, may arise between them. Grant them health and their daily bread, whereby they may serve Thee more. Amen.

Prayers for our dear sister and friend, Liora, that the Lord enlighten she and her husband as to the possibilities for reconciliation of their differences, that He afford them every opportunity to see past whatever circumstances have brought them to this point, and, if the situation is such that the rift cannot be healed, that He look with loving compassion on her and afford her the courage to deal with whatever may come to pass.

May our sister be strengthened against the pain that besets her through the heavenly intercession of the holy and blessed Monica, Model of Wifely Forbearance and may the Theotokos be constantly at her side in whatever trials beset her in the coming days.

Prayers also for Liora's husband, that he be enlightened as to sanctity of the vows they pledged at betrothal and afforded the strength to follow through and see those as worthy of whatever effort is required to maintain them.

As someone said, it's particularly heart-wrenching that you face such circumstances at this time of the year, which ought to be one of joy, in which we anticipate embracing and being embraced by loved ones and rejoicing with them at the coming celebration of Christ's birth. I pray that you can be strong in whatever you face and that, whatever comes to pass, you not allow it to color your future anticipation of the Nativity as being other than a beginning of the new life of faith with which Christ has blessed us.

Many years,

Neil

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I feel silly updating in a prayer thread: But thank you so much for the prayers and countless PMs that I have received. I will respond to them eventually. Things are still still very...well, very, right now. Can't describe it. Shock, I guess.

Am with my family for the holiday and will be praying hard over the next week, months.

I don't know any specific prayers other than the prayers for married couples in my prayer book, but any prayer or intercession would be great, and has been already felt. I keep coming back to this thread to read and repeat everyone's prayers. Thank you so much.

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She's touring the facility/and picking up slack.--"For in much wisdom is much grief, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow." Ecclesiastes 1:18--I once believed in causes too, I had my pointless point of view --Life went on no matter who was wrong or right

My marriage is virtually over. I don't want to post details, but this has happened very abruptly. I am in shock. We will be trying to work it out, meet with Father over the next few weeks, but the prognosis does not look good at this point.

I can't even pray right now. I'm trying, but it's not going. Nothing except the Jesus Prayer. So if you could please lift up a prayer for me, my future plans, please do.

And pray for him. He needs help, and since I can't be the one to help him, I really hope God does.

Even if we have thousands of acts of great virtue to our credit, our confidence in being heard must be based on God's mercy and His love for men. Even if we stand at the very summit of virtue, it is by mercy that we shall be saved.

I hope and pray the issues have been worked out in a manner that is best for her.

Lord, have mercy!

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Conquer evil men by your gentle kindness, and make zealous men wonder at your goodness. Put the lover of legality to shame by your compassion. With the afflicted be afflicted in mind. Love all men, but keep distant from all men.—St. Isaac of Syria

i mean, does anyone have her personal email address? shes been around here a long time and now she just disappeared!

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Even if we have thousands of acts of great virtue to our credit, our confidence in being heard must be based on God's mercy and His love for men. Even if we stand at the very summit of virtue, it is by mercy that we shall be saved.

Only pray for me, that God would give me both inward and outward strength, that I may not only speak, but truly will; and that I may not merely be called a Christian, but really be found to be one. St.Ignatius of Antioch.Epistle to the Romans.

Conquer evil men by your gentle kindness, and make zealous men wonder at your goodness. Put the lover of legality to shame by your compassion. With the afflicted be afflicted in mind. Love all men, but keep distant from all men.—St. Isaac of Syria