This is a crappy way to think about it but if things go wrong, would you prefer that you had told or not told people. Who would you prefer to to know? With our last baby we didn't tell a lot of people. Work or fb didn't know. We went to our 20 week scan and learned out baby had a fatal diagnosis. I announced my pregnancy and that my son would pass away after birth, and my plan to carry to term in all the same announcement. I wished I had shared my pregnancy sooner. That said, it's just my husband my Dr and 2 fb friends who've also lost children from the same diagnosis. I assume I'll get an early anatomy scan around 15 weeks this time as I don't want my kids to know in case things don't go well. I'll just tell the people who I need for support if something goes wrong in the mean time.

I told my best friend right away. Followed by my 5 year old daughter. Then my husbands parents after. At 4 weeks so pretty much as soon as the lines appeared. It’s good to have a support system Incase something happens and i also was to happy to keep it between just my husband and I. We aren’t planning on telling anyone else until week 13.

dh told my dad who told my mom and brothers the day we found out......dh and I told his mom together about a week later and my work just figured it out a few days ago (I'm nauseous and puke a lot). I plan on keeping it a secret from my kids because if anything were to happen I don't want to try explaining that to a 7 & 5 year old. my plan is to tell them on Easter, I'll be 13 weeks.