YOU are the creator of Your own Destiny! By Sherry Patterson of Relationship Reinvented

For the Majority of you reading this, you have watched enough of our videos to know most of our lives and the bullshit we but one another through to get into union. This isn’t about that.. lol… You have heard enough about that (for now). This Blog is about me, and most likely you as well.
Recently I read a quote that said “You are the creator of your own Destiny” Well shit that made sense to me, Now,as I went most of my life confused and depressed and living day to day. Most of my life lived as a victim to something, and most all things like, sexual abuse and physical abuse and abandonment issues. I lived a destructive life and if you can name it I have probably done it and lied and manipulated my way out of it. All the while really destroying myself and I had enough ego to bring children into my world of ego and lies and manipulation. I can say this I love my children beyond anything I can even state, however I taught them (at least the oldest ones) how to be a victim. I taught them to lie and I taught them how to withdraw love. I spent most of my life depending on others for financial support, not working not teaching my kids a sense of responsibility, most of all degrading myself and often times taking steps to do everything I could to support my family or help support them in ways that were ethically degrading and illegal. Often times especially when the internet came out, really exploiting my victim mentality, Preying on older gentlemen playing the ‘Single mom blues” when in all reality my husband was at work, or after my divorce, I had boyfriends who stepped up and helped me along with the child support my ex husband was paying. Sounds sad doesn’t it? oh it was, i was living good but still the victim, It was my crutch.
I never felt good about myself, I went to school for something I loved, my passion is animals, I have a heart for them, but I seemed to have more passion for getting even with he world,and taking the easy way out, having fun and always making sure the world revolved around me somehow. The questions that made me feel nervous or I hated the most was “where do you work?” “What do you do”? I usually had some story to ‘Impress”. My family at this point had lost all trust in me, as everything I usually spoke about was fabricated. I got myself into some trouble living the lifestyle I was living. As most of you already know I had to take a little “vacation from life”. I had time time sit and reflect on my life and “find myself” because I had put myself into a position where I had no choice, I found the desire to do something with myself. I went to college I took it seriously, I worked hard, I maintained a 3.98 GPA, I got motivated and got an associates degree in Business. I was ready to face the world.
I was walking along a street in Cincinnati on Valentines day 2005, when I saw a place, I walked in, It was a women only type of low impact fitness facility. I asked for a job, the lady immediately hired me and within a week told me about some troubles she was in with he business and asked me to overhaul it, she trusted me and I took that seriously. I began by working literally sometimes 24 hours a day, I cleaned out the office,sometimes slept there, went though the files, I cleaned and made computer programs and made the place essentially mine. I got personal with the ladies, I built that business up to something extraordinary, I rarely seen the owner, she had another facility and I had built this one up so good she trusted me. I did all the hiring and unfortunately had to let some go, I Was building skills, I was literally running a business using the skills I had learned in college. I was so proud of me, I worked a lot, I loved it, I was single and just dating I has started in a small apartment and about a year later bought myself a little 2 bedroom house, I owned it, it was mine and I was gaining confidence. I met Lee that year and If you have watched our videos you can add this story as you know what happened with him, my personal life was good, annoying but good, then the separation came and I met Ron and it was safe for me, the lady asked me if I was interested in buying the facility, I did, It was mine for about 9 months, and the economy collapsed. The business was going downhill quick, I had lost Lee and even my house was in jeopardy. I moved in with Ron and did a short sale on my house and there it is, Instead of letting the business fall out from under me, I had did what the owner did before, I asked the manager I had hired if she was interested in buying it, she did and I got out without any profit. So I found myself again, unemployed depending on someone else for financial support. most of you know the rest, marriage, Lee comes back, Baby, divorce, and the Hamster Wheel with Lee. Here is the funny thing even after some success my family still did not support me or even give me any words of encouragement, They were waiting on me to f**k life up again, some still are. They were and mostly all still are stuck in MY victim mentality, I had so long let go of. I realized a long time ago that attempting to try to make my family understand forgiveness and unconditional love, and belief in one another is a moot point and trying to get outside validation from them is not necessary for my growth. I stay working on my own healing and unconditional love in myself that keeps me pretty busy lol

I did attempt small jobs, with small kids again it was hard and with a “record” even harder, I always had in the back of my soul that I had a passion for helping people but it was kind of rude and truthful and in your face. I thought maybe a drug or alcohol counselor. I could never get focused on a career with the hamster wheel I was on trying to have a relationship with Lee, That ended up being the issue, trying to have a relationship. Then Lee and I found the Twin Flame dynamic, we realized this connection we shared was different. Lees work hours were insane he would come home exhausted, Retail was killing him, during our pillow talk we discussed what our dream jobs would be, what we would love to do.

Im sure most every dream job conversation involves being your own boss, making your own hours, Doing something you love everyday. Our dreams showed us the exact same things, we had the same damn dreams, oh thats going really make my family think I am bat shit crazier than they already do. We were in the same places in our separate dreams, waking up every morning and comparing not even believing what we were saying to one another. it was exciting, we layed in bed and named the Business, But Lee was still knee deep in retail and hell we needed to live so him quitting was not an option, It was just a dream, Pillow talk, but something in me was coming alive, my gift I could feel it awakening.

I felt that motivation, That drive always, I felt that burning sensation in my soul, I felt that desire to help people. My soul had been awakened, Lee’s too when we talked about it his eyes lit up, something in him was stirring but responsibility and Life over rode the desire at this time. It was a dream. What I knew was I needed it, I needed this, These dreams were given to us. I was finding some kind of Trust in the Universe for these dreams.What we didn’t know was it was going to be our Pain, our victim mentality, our destructive lives, Manipulative behaviors and lying and deceit and all those trips on the hamster wheel that would be the catalyst for it. While my personality is raw and truthful and in your face, Lee’s is gentle and loving and kind, he speaks in codes that I can translate. What a team we could have, how do we get this? How do we manifest this dream?
Well that is why there is a part two to this blog !! Stay Tuned

When my twin flame and I came into connection several years ago, I didn’t expect that our connection would help me see the connection to myself. This is the most overlooked part of the connection because most of everything you experience in existence in the laws of human condition say to seek outside information. This is our story and we are sticking to it.

Outside Answers for Inner Questions?

When we are searching for answers, we tend to seek outside of us even if those answers don’t make any sense to us on the inside. The connection is on the inside, so seeking outside will only lead to outside answers of what this connection is about. How can this be, if what you endured throughout your existence doesn’t match what you experienced in your life? It’s like the person’s information you are gathering is trying to attach itself to your story and what the storyteller is dictating from the content that will match. This connection is there to show you how you are connected to yourself. The storyteller, which is the emotion that comes from the mind’s interpretation of feeling or experiencing things that will happen or could happen will take you far, far away. Never-never land sounds just about right because it’s never going to be as anyone states unless they are sharing a pain that only ignites your own.

We are Born from Pain

How can pain be defined? Pain isn’t something that just happens. Pain actually originates within ourselves, which you experienced the moment you came from a womb into the earth’s air for the first time and you survived that said pain which was birth in truth. Birth into human consciousness which in those first moments, everyone embraced you while you were in that pain, which was permission for you to embrace yourself as you were birthing. However, as you continue to live and write life’s story, any experience you associate with pain becomes the storyteller’s content. Your mind told you to dissect these things that happened to you as a survival not to experience pain again which is called hurting or labor pains. Labor pains are then spread out through your lifetime experiencing escape from said pain while the mind makes use of this. Your mind creates identities that can be exposed when you come across a connection that points you back inside yourself and how you connect to yourself.

Expose the Storyteller Within You

Yes, it only makes sense that we want someone to be responsible for our pain. After all, when we were born, didn’t everyone hold us when we were in pain and now they all seem to be either inflicting it on each other or finding a way to avoid it altogether? The storyteller will create half truths of acceptance of abandonment and rejection as a way to keep you in a state of never exposing the truth about connection. Yes, the storyteller and your own story are permission in the universe to get what you do to yourself directly when this connection comes to you. The only true change can occur when the storyteller is exposed and then union with yourself can occur. The relationship you have to yourself is revealed out of the story in the self when the storyteller is exposed.

Already Gone Deep? Go Deeper

Go deep inside, dear souls. The storyteller has no truth that makes you disconnected in this connection, it only points to a place where you are disconnected within yourself. For example, when you tell yourself or put out the energy “I don’t love myself” or “I don’t like myself very much”. When your twin shows up, this will finally be what shows up when your thoughts experience a slip and judgment is exposed of what you have always done to yourself. This will grant permission for the storyteller to convince you that this connection will give you what you think is coming.

Trust Your Intuition

Abracadabra, hocus pocus, this is what this connection feels like yet it is a manifestation of your thinking which is always seeking outside information for inside in order to “keep you protected”. Keep you protected from what exactly? Yes, this is where you must discover the storyteller and your story and what it has brought you from what you tell yourself on the inside. Not because you found outside information that says this connection will bring you salvation from outside you, but the true salvation at your source within which you’ll experience only your own love within yourself that you can share. No more guessing or believing your lies which the storyteller counts on. This is both seductive and destructive at the same time.

Learn to love your storyteller and your story. Not because the outside world demands it but rather, the inside universe has space for it. Love deeply!

Being strong or being guarded? This is not vulnerability, yet it is pointing to how you should show up when you choose not to state the truth about what the truth actually is. What does that mean exactly? Well, it means: do you say what you mean or do you mean what you say? If I have to show “I don’t care, this is being strong”, is that what you mean to expose to the other who you care about? What is it that says they will not accept me fully if they truly know how I feel?

Your twin knows when you’re lying. Deep inside, so do you.

Vulnerability is the absence of judgment. It’s very much like love, when it is really love. You won’t tell yourself: “They won’t accept me for what I think or feel.” When you’re truly being vulnerable, you’re not pointing outward and stating that someone will do something to you and make you feel rejected or abandoned. Your twin—and you—can always see the lie when you’re not being vulnerable. “I think that you feel… I think that you think… I think you will or won’t…” These are all lies. None of these statements are speaking from within yourself.

How should I express myself?

If you change the way the words come out of your mouth when these thoughts show up, you can always find a way to be vulnerable to them. For example, “I interpret when I feel in thought that says I am not worthy enough.” This points to you inside yourself instead of making the other responsible for what you experience, whether it be rejection, abandonment or anything else. If I can interpret your actions into thought, I will be the mind reader I knew I always could be.

Vulnerability has the permission to expose the thought process that interprets everything inside you. It is the love that can be placed inside of ego!

The storyteller is more powerful than you think

“My twin flame doesn’t want to be with me because…” or “my twin has chosen someone else because…”. What doesn’t matter after this statement is the emotions or thoughts the storyteller has in place due to interpretation of another’s actions based on what the mind wants to say is why this happens. When we get caught up in our thoughts, sometimes we create story statements that make us the victim of what someone does to us not seeing we do it to ourselves. Exposing these thoughts is what can change who you are and why you are.

You can create truths which are actually lies.

“I think that you feel I am…” See how this statement makes no sense in truth? How about “I feel that you think…” These are not vulnerable statements but rather ego-driven thought processes that are speculation, which you turn into a truth, and which is always going to be a lie. When you experience rejection, remember that you learned rejection when you entered this planet whether it happened within the first few years of existence here or watching something happen to you and now had to interpret it. This is what points to the creation of why we can’t be vulnerable. This is never going to be true with the exception that we are stuck in time where time no longer exists.

We never repeat time, only our thoughts repeat themselves. Exposing this thinking is being vulnerable.

Two energies of the same energy, aware of itself. On the inside, you’ll experience something that no one else can express, tell you about, or even see because it opens a portal when you first encounter it and it goes straight to the inner knowing. This inner knowing is rendering your ego and its need to protect, defend or hide you as the inner child, and you are free. This can be for moments that seem free of time until your thinking of time returns. Thinking—yes, that’s right—is the primary issue of why we second guess or run or anything else that keeps this connection in the state of what seems to be disconnection.

Do you feel the “knower” inside of you?

Your knowing or knower becomes aware of itself. It’s as though things in your existence make more sense. The individual experience of this is that you are feeling things more in effect of what they are rather than thinking them up. This is where we need to place the clause simple.

Are you trying to Google what’s inside of you?

To be simple means that you no longer associate outside information for an inside connection. Some of you will read this and maybe scratch your head, well to be in the truth means to not say “I can get outside information for something I feel inside of myself”.

Embrace the truth.

You then must become more simple. To see that how you translate what you feel into thinking, this is where the work must be done. You can always catch this in simple ways with statements that may arise in ego that say, I feel that you, or I think that you think… these are happening inside you to see how you have translated things from things that have happened to you and have not found the place to insert forgiveness or embrace truth as it is inside the mind. Not from the external interactions that come into what this connection grants you but from what your exact opposite does back to you because of these triggers you THINK are now exposed.

Reconnect with yourself, not your thoughts.

Exposed thinking is the interpreter of other people’s actions that have gone untranslated in you and you had to make up stories to understand or get through what happened. This connection at its core is about the love inside you that is unconditional to its core, it is about salvation and freedom to love without broken truth and broken trust. This connection is here to bring you back to the source of yourself. You are the flame that lights in twin flame! But don’t be misled, the light can’t exist without the dark, it is the truth. Just the definition of light and dark are not how we see them in human. It has everything to do with how you look up in the sky and see the sun and see that it is the center of what radiates heat in our universe and gives light. The dark around it is there on purpose to show its nature to nurture us. So be in love with what you don’t know as much as what you do. What you bring into the light, love it without abandon, that is what the choice is in this connection.

Why complicate? Keep things simple!

If you stay simple, see the choice to love yourself deeper than you ever have, for this is how you will love your twin. If you push yourself away, don’t worry, your twin will show you exactly what that feels like outside you! The rejection is a thought process that manifests by being a thought. What thoughts are you currently keeping that are preventing to change your thinking in order to manifest union? This is who you must see yourself to see what can be manifested with the right amount of leverage at the right moment. Stay deep and love deeply, dear souls!

At some point in our lives, many of us experience some sort of realization of what is real. We may sometimes feel like we’re going batshit crazy—and that’s totally fine. We should embrace all the feelings that come along with a spiritual awakening. After all, you’ll just know that you’re going through one as you strengthen your intuition. Once you’re “awake”, don’t be surprised if you keep waking up more and more!

Here are three signs that you may be experiencing as you go through your spiritual awakening:

1. Shift in Belief Systems

You start to say “yes” to everything that is the truth, and all the lies you tell yourself are easily seen. You don’t make this into a science, you make this into all the purpose that love has to offer. Expansion of your knower is allowed to point to creation and see purpose in all things to include every experience in the present moment, not the sum of all things past or future, but rather beyond it.

The first simple way to experience this is to see things as they are not in what you view based on time but beyond it. This means to see that what you have translated in thought is only allowing you to see with the mind, which is only a fragment of what you can truly see without the mind. The mind wants to say that “all things stay the same” so you never see the newness to all things in the present. It is almost as if it keeps a mental picture of what you see and not what has since become available to view because of this picture.

A picture is a capturing of time which is an illusion of something you will never repeat although to visit is quite seductive. It makes it easier to not be in the uncomfortable space of what it means to see things alive as they are. It also makes it possible for you to not see the truth of what is in this moment.

2. You live in the now

The second is to see that when you go back into what your mind tells you, you can always transcend it because in spiritual truth you are always alive even when you are going from this moment to the next one. Your ability to be awake depends on your ability to see the things that can make you unconscious and how they are there as protection from something you no longer have. This is the ability to be in time which is always a non perception of reality—you are always of time. Not as it seems in what you watch when you watch a clock, for instance, but what you experience when you see love in motion. It has no destination—it is always now!

3. More than your mind

Lastly, you are always more than just the thoughts you keep. You always have been and always will be and this is more apparent when you choose to allow the clock of your heart to beat in sync with you inside that you can even experience outside. You always are able to hear the universal silence within. It is what drives your love to be a soul having a human experience.

This way of finding spirituality awakens when you finally embrace connection—not disconnection nor making a false statement that you ever were disconnected!