Multiple Personalities Support Group

Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

need help/aka advice.

i have so far..three alters and a problem is rasing up between two of them.

tomorrow i have to go out for a dinner dat with my bf,who i have no spark with. i'm just with him to make him and his friends happy. and i feel bad about this,but i can't break anyone's heart and also i'm peer presseured to stay with him.
anyway maria,who is my bad alter of age 19/21 is planning on not going and breaking his heart by calling and saying i don't want to be there cuz i hate him. and i don't. i just feel nothing for him and she is trying to not go to this dinner tommorrow. and he had many dates turn him down and i don't want her to be the next one. tess who is 16 is a kind hearted girl and like myself can't hurt anyone. and she wants to help me and be there ,because i'm too afraid of going to a guys house. but what if he finds out i'm acting diff? he knows about my BP and cutting ,but not about DID.
my mind is working too fast for me and i hope you guys understand what i'm talking about. can you give any advice before i have to go tommoro?
thanks.

Sounds like tommorrow would be a good time to tell him about the DID or maybe just one personality. OOOOrrrr, Hmm. If you are feeling like yourself maybe you should go on the date, but in the meantime.. look for a good girl for him, someone you think that may be a kinda good match for him and is single and looking and take her with you on your next date, like to a group gathering date.. bowling, or the movies. Warn her, let her know whats going on she may find it kinda fun to do and let her flirt with him...the guy may eat it up. Espeacially when he sees she is more into him than you are. hmmm, Or maybe the standard issue migraine headache. Maybe you May have one tommorrow afternoon sometime.. *hint~hint* I am just throwing something out here. I aint much good at advice.

i just feel nothing for him. and its not me that wants to break up. its maria. :(
good stuff is that he is nice and funny and don't want to get in my pant rigt away kind of guy.
bad thing so far is that he is racecal and the wany he talks don't like.
but i'm not attracted to him.that too is another bad thing

How about the suggestion of writing a letter. First write him a long letter Knowing You are NOT going to give it too him. Just to get every single one of your thoughts onto paper. Sort through the letter edit and delete and add. Then maybe tell him the stuff you have left on the paper or rewrite the letter and give it to him. At least if you dont give him the letter at all maybe you will be able to sort through all of your thoughts. Writing is a big healer for me.
If all else fails and he is wanting to make things more serious then you should be honest about your DID before it goes any furthur anyway. After you reveal the truth maybe you will unfold something beautiful or get rid of bad rubish.

Maybe you could tell me how to tell my closest friends. Seems strangers accept and understand it better than my bestest friends. There is one friend in particular that I know very well and on several occasions blew off my remarks that maybe the dr was right and that there was more in me. She says she has never seen anyone else in me. I think that is because I am always Laurabeth around her.

omg i know what yu mean. it is so hard to tell friends you care about. only time i told someone was when tess came out and she was dealing with emoti0ons and tramatic visions and was breaking down crying and my friend came to comfort her and he said it was ok tia and she said her name was tess. anyway, it ended very badly.

Today I told Jessica. In a not so serious but serious manner. She wasnt all that flipped out. She almost was more interiged by it. Which is better than &quot;the look&quot; I so dont want &quot;the look&quot; Now, Debra is the one I am having such a hard time telling. As for my sister, I wrote her a message e mail introducing myself as Larissa. We have &quot;talked&quot; since then but she never brought up the subject. So I dont know if she has checked her message or just avoiding it all together. She knows that I have been struggling with acceptance for years. So, the other night she got a huge dose from Larissa. Explaining why Laura is so messed up. I think there are 5 of us. Unsure. I went ahead and sent my sister another message tonight from me.. Larissa... asking for details on the day my dad died. Little worried about that.

I don't know how long you've been seeing this friend, but it's a good idea to take things slow, anyway, so both of you have a chance to get to know each other well before making any kind of a commitment, or not.

You never know, he could be MPD too!!

In the meantime, you could also let your alters that don't care for him, do something else while you are with him, and agree that no decisions will be made unless there is agreement. Or at least some kind of civil arrangement that can be made amongst you.

I don't think you have to worry too much about telling him, if you are not planning on getting too involved....but make sure he knows how you feel, so he doesn't feel used at some point.

more love to you. wow. tess told one ,by mistake and i hated her for that. and it took me along time to, to accept my alters. a long time. lol i'm only 22 what am i talking about along time for..LOL. anyway. i hope it goes well with you and why are you worried? i think it might go well for you.

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