never had a thought of getting married, then at 23 met my lady, next thing I know I'm married a year or two later. I was pretty much the 1st of my group to get married, so we said we'd have a good time and wait at least 3 years to have kids. three months later, hello child number 1, four years later, hello child number 3. I guess I'm saying what most people have said. You just don't know until it happens, I wasn't looking, and believe me when I say if it could have happened to me back then, well, it certainly could happen to anyone else at any given time. Now, I'm 31 and usually don't get to sit down and enjoy peace and quiet until 9PM every day. I suppose it's different for everyone, but I'd say don't go looking for it, just enjoy your life and something will happen when it's right?

mac5155 wrote:As far as kids go.. I think 30 is a decent age to start. No way am I ready for kids yet. 30 seems right though.. that way you're not the oldest parent at their graduation but can still have fun with them when they are growing up.

nobody is really ready for kids, they are crazy, but crazy isn't always bad.

canaan wrote:Its not about living up to some predicated social more, but being comfortable in your own skin and your own circle of influence. the rest is just noise. dont be judged, rushed, or motivated into a concept/contract you arent ready for and dont try to talk yourself into it. when its right, its right.

While canaan is obviously a bad person who should feel bad about who he is, this is some of the best advice ever posted on this board.

mac5155 wrote:im getting married in less than 9 months and i'll be 25, she'll be 23.

When we got married, I was 26, wife had just turned 23. For a one-month span every year, I am four years older than her. When we first started dating, I was 23 and she was 19. Giggity.

She's a January Bday and I'm a March, so she's only a year older than me for 2 months. more like one though, since she's the 31st and i'm the 14th, and February is a pansy month in regards to days in it.