How does sex change a relationship?

That is the question. And yes, this is coming from a virgin.

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Anonymous

(30-35)

Once guys start getting sex, they stop putting in as much effort to get to know a girl and to connect to her romantically. Sex is one of male's primary goals in life -- they put much effort into thinking of ways to get it. So, guys who are interested in a girl will spend a lot of time getting to know her in hopes that it will lead to sex. Once they get the sex, they will start doing less and less to get to know her and more time trying to get to the sex with less and less effort. They're just wired that way. So, it's important to have a strong bond beforehand... They build up liking you socially and emotionally FIRST, so they still continue to seek out those parts of the relationship in small doses.

That's a brutally unfair stereotype. Yes, we are wired to be more physical than emotional and we may not pour out our feelings to our partner as much as she'd like, but not all of us are man whores. You have to understand, there are quite a lot of us that see sex as a way to supplement the relationship emotionally and physically. Meaningless sex, especially within the first week of the relationship, is a totally different story. I don't know if you have had bad experiences with guys, but this was low.

Opinion Owner

(30-35)

I think you took it the wrong way. When sex is "new" in a relationship, guys DO tend to forget to build up the other parts equally. There are entire canons of books written about how guys are "efficient" and "goal-orientated." When sex is readily available with minimal effort, some of that extra stuff falls by the wayside unintentionally. That's why it's important for him to think of you as a social & emotional connection BEFORE having sex, because its harder to build the bond after the fact.

What Guys Said 4

As long as the relationship doesn't become synonymous with sex, it really changes things for the better. You get to know your partner better emotionally and physically, because you are exploring each others' bodies more extensively and you are feeling heightened emotions that can be felt in no other context.-Jay

for men, it isn't a relationship until there is sex - virgin men being the exception. It's the 'gamy' part of the monogamy agreement, I guess. How can one be expected to have sex with only one person if that person won't have sex?

Women tend to not reach their peak of emotionally attached to men until after sex (which is where this old saying comes from: men fall in love at first sight, women fall in love after the wedding night).Other than that one thing that's mostly universal, pretty much everything else depends on the situation and the people. The important thing to know is that sex "does" change every relationship in a significant way.