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When it comes to the
myriad of emotions surrounding a breakup, they can be overwhelming if
we don't find a way to deal with them. One of the most effective ways
I have found to 'get the feelings out' (and believe me, I've had to)
is to listen to music. There's something about hearing the things
you're feeling coming from someone else in 'verse form' that makes
you feel understood-'Someone else gets it'. Here are some of the
more cathartic songs I have found. Notice that I'm not mentioning any
of the 'F*** you' songs, because those are easy enough to find on
their own.

One of my favorite
'breakup songs' is 'Similar Features' by Melissa Etheridge. Here is
the chorus:

Some would say that it
has a 'F*** you' element, but I personally find it more meaningful
than that. I suppose that could be because it describes a situation I
was in-I had an ex who messed around with a friend of mine shortly
before he asked me to take him back. Whenever my friend and I would
go places together, people would think we were sisters. Either way,
the basic message is, 'Go ahead and think you'll be fine without me.
You won't'.

'Dear Lie' by TLC is
another good one. There are several theories about what the 'lie' is
that they're talking about. (a bad relationship, a guilty conscience,
a poor self-image someone instilled in them, etc), but the basic
sentiment of 'it's over now, you don't have any power over me
anymore' is empowering in and of itself.