7 WAYS TO BE A MORE CHARISMATIC AND GENERALLY

We all
know that person who can command a conversation, or talk you into doing just
about anything, the kind of person people love to be around and the kind of
person people love to hire. The question is: How do you become that kind of
person? There really isn’t a specific formula, but here are seven ways to be a
more charismatic person that may guide you on the path to being a little more
likable:-

1.
Be an amazing listener (a.k.a. stop talking so much)

No one
likes someone who doesn’t shut up, especially when all they seem to talk about
is their self. A charismatic person knows to be particularly engaging with
people by keeping eye contact, asking questions and showing that they are
actually interested in what’s being said.

Only
speak when you have something important to say or have some good insight into
their issue. Since being present is such a rare quality these days, put away
your damn phone. There are no life-threatening emergencies happening on Twitter
or Instagram (looking at pictures of your friend’s lunch can wait).

2.
Lose the ego

Acting
self-important and pretentious will not attract the kind of genuine people you
want in your life, and it will surely turn off anyone who is successful and
worth knowing. Those who are truly socially successful and charismatic never
speak about all the stuff they have or all of the amazing things that they’re
doing – their reputation will speak for itself. Being humble is a very powerful
quality that screams confidence and charisma, and it’s a shame that so few
people realize this.

3.
Acknowledge that you can learn something from everyone

Every
single person you meet can teach you something that you don’t know. Whether it
be the maintenance man or the senior exec in your office, treat everyone with
the same respect.

Acting
above anyone is a quick way to come off like a douche bag; while praising
others shows that you’re humble enough to value every person you meet, despite
their status. This is especially true when dealing with wait staff or customer
service reps – being rude to anyone working to serve you is a fast way to lose
all hopes of being considered an amazing person. That is a fact.

4.
Positive is your natural state

Charismatic
people know how to look at things in a positive light, and they’re able to
spread their good attitude and enthusiasm to others. Being positive can easily
be confused with being confident – and this is a good thing. It shows that you
can handle any situation, so there’s no need to be all down and pouty or to
overdramatize things.

Oh,
and try smiling a little more. Not only will it help to trick your brain into
thinking you’re actually happy, but you’ll appear a little more approachable
(which never hurts).

5.
Don’t talk shit, and more importantly, defend others

It’s
human nature to try and connect with others using gossip, but someone with good
character doesn’t talk about people behind their backs and definitely never
spreads gossip. More importantly, when they hear this kind of thing going on,
they politely change the subject or defend the person who isn’t there to defend
their self. People take notice of this behavior, and you become a clearly
trustworthy and respectful person in their mind. Not only that, but you define
yourself as a leader, not a follower who needs to talk about others to
establish rapport with other.

6.
Be a good story teller

Charismatic
people tell great stories that are funny, interesting and keep people’s
attention. We all have that funny story that we know gets a good reaction – if
it’s something embarrassing about yourself, that’s even better.

If
it’s something embarrassing about someone else, skip it. When you’re able to
tell a great story that either teaches others something new or makes them
laugh, you not only automatically seem more likable, but it’s also key in
making a positive impression that will be memorable to others.

7.
Watch your wording

Be
mindful to speak with conviction. Saying “we should do this” is much more
powerful than “I think” or “maybe.” Get into the habit of owning your opinions
and being confident in your decisions. These are more important than you think
in exuding confidence and leadership, and it’s a habit to be mindful of since
we tend to like others who have their sh*t together and know how to make a
decision.

Using
these tips may not turn you into someone with Obama-level charisma, but having
people like you a little more can be helpful in pretty much all areas of life.
Remember, the only person stopping you from becoming that charismatic,
successful and generally more amazing person is you!