Hi, since we are an online community I thought we might have a section for resources. For example I have blabbed about getting nanny cams etc. So I thought why not just list some sources for things that we are a community might want to know more about or consider.

I hope others will add resources they had to search to find in being online and in particular things that are tools for our community, like nanny cams, understanding the laws for recording, etc. I have done the research so will share what I found. You can also Google: nanny cam radios, nanny cams for computers etc.

As most items there are many versions of the nanny cam from a simple recording device, a devise with audio and ones that you can log onto your computer and watch from there. They are so small these days it is easy to find a location. There are many companies that sell nanny cams already in a product. Nanny cams can be sold installed items like air humidifier,Clock Radio, Smoke Detectors, the list goes on.

The key to finding the perfect nanny cam has what your needs and budgets can afford, I recommend at a minimum one that records along with video and can save recordings, some are so small you can plant them about anywhere and be able to not only record but log in from your PC to see in real time.

Federal law allows recording of phone calls and other electronic communications with the consent of at least one party to the call. A majority of the states and territories have adopted wiretapping statutes based on the federal law, although most also have extended the law to cover in-person conversations. Thirty-eight states and the District of Columbia permit individuals to record conversations to which they are a party without informing the other parties that they are doing so. These laws are referred to as “one-party consent” statutes, and as long as you are a party to the conversation, it is legal for you to record it. (Nevada also has a one-party consent statute, but the state Supreme Court has interpreted it as an all-party rule.)

I agree, I was surprised how many states only require one person consent. As far as the phone if you are in one of the states where it is legal you can pick up a cheap recorder at Radio Shack or other places that automatically starts recording when you pick up the phone. Is there a way you can get her to stop texting if that is what she is doing and make her and your grandson call on the telephone? This could serve a couple of purposes, put your son at ease knowing that she only can contact when he is home and capable of dealing with her and to have a trail and she more than likely will get set off on the phone and expose herself more than via text. Since you have lawyers and PI's involved I would ask them about the laws in your State and push that envelope as far as you can within the law.

When your son gets visitation, his house should be prepared so he can monitor if she is calling your grandson and his general demeanor.

The best recorders I saw but they weren't cheap but would not be obvious are the smoke detectors, who would suspect your smoke detector was a recording device. The price may seem high but the features are far more advanced than the smaller ones.

I am there with you I would have my place rigged to the hilt. I am taking a week holiday in December and even though I would trust the person to stay here with my "kids", I plan to have a special smoke detector installed in the main area of the house, I know I will relax better knowing I can log in from wherever I am and see what is going on. If I had a Psychopath in my home I would put them in every room.

Short note, running out... eBay sells one that appears to have gotten good reviews: Foscam FI8908W Wireless IP Camera Indoor Video. Less than $100. Motion control and you can access video through your PC.

Also as someone mentioned, more that are embedded in air circulation devices, etc.

I buy electronic accessories from EBay sellers from China sometimes. For example I found the exact same replacement batteries for my landline phones that Uniden wanted $24 each and bought 2 for under $6.00

In changing the system with a Psychopath one must stick close to what is the truth and skirt that line not to arouse suspicion. Your son could say that he has been advised by his Dr. that he can't text for the next few months to give his thumbs a break. Tell his son that he is free to text him when he wants to talk but since he has a new boss and can't text back, he will make sure he calls him from his home or something along those lines.