Although I may say I don't want anything, I don't consider a card to be "anything". I mean, c'mon, it's like 2 bucks, and paper, and takes seconds to pick up. I'm a card person, and I think people can take a little bit of time to pick up a card. It makes people feel good.

So although I don't want anything like gifts or such for Valentines day (or my birthday), I'd still appreciate the thought being put into buying a card.

And yes, my dad - although usually being absent from my life - would often get me chocolates and a little "be my valentine" card. It made me feel so special, because kids are so left out of this holiday. So I encourage dh to do the same.

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And yes, my dad - although usually being absent from my life - would often get me chocolates and a little "be my valentine" card. It made me feel so special, because kids are so left out of this holiday. So I encourage dh to do the same.

Originally Posted by babywavy

Your dad was sweet. My FIL used to be that way too.

However, you don't really think kids are left out on Valentine's do you? My kids come home with almost as much candy on VD as they do on Halloween, plus cards from all their classmates, and each class has a party where they make a craft involving candy, and usually have a treat on top of it all. Trust me, they are NOT left out.

And yes, my dad - although usually being absent from my life - would often get me chocolates and a little "be my valentine" card. It made me feel so special, because kids are so left out of this holiday. So I encourage dh to do the same.

Originally Posted by babywavy

Your dad was sweet. My FIL used to be that way too.

However, you don't really think kids are left out on Valentine's do you? My kids come home with almost as much candy on VD as they do on Halloween, plus cards from all their classmates, and each class has a party where they make a craft involving candy, and usually have a treat on top of it all. Trust me, they are NOT left out.

Originally Posted by Poodlehead

Well, ya, but it's a little different coming from someone special like your dad, ya know?

~ the artist formerly known as babywavy ~

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I like Valentine's Day for it's cutesy commercial qualities TBH. I told my lover that I didn't want anything with a smile; he knew I didn't mean it! We both like to give each other small, silly little gifts for Valentine's. It's fun, we're young, why not?

I miss being a kid and passing out a billion of those little rip apart cards. ;]

My kids come home with almost as much candy on VD as they do on Halloween, plus cards from all their classmates, and each class has a party where they make a craft involving candy, and usually have a treat on top of it all. Trust me, they are NOT left out.

Originally Posted by Poodlehead

They've outlawed candy in my son's school. You know, the whole wellness theme. The teacher sent home the class list for parents who wanted to send in cards. But no candy, please. Bastages!

I don't tell him what to do or not do and he does the same for me. There have been years we've given each other cards, one year he surprised me with a photo printer he snatched on sale, other years we've done nothing but we do buy stuff for each other at any moment during the year (or buy stuff for ourselves). Pretty much the same for christmas.

We definitely avoid the restaurants around this time like the plague and when he proposed it was 3 days after Valentine's Day because he didn't want to intermingle our special moment with the mass holiday and be a bit predictable.

We don't view Valentine's Day as a command to do something cheesey and lovey dovey but we don't avoid doing something sweet for each other on Feb. 14th because people think it's a hallmark holiday either. Most years we do nothing but that nothing is pretty good for us year round.

I said it this year, and I meant it. I have no plans to buy him anything, so I hope he doesn't get me something. I don't need some arbitrary day to express how I feel to him, and I don't have to buy him something to do it.

That being said, I DO tell him to get something for his daughter for V-day. I think it's cute, and the responsibility of a dad to make his daughter feel important and know she has a valentine.

Originally Posted by babywavy

I love this. I wish my dad had done this.

Originally Posted by sdcurly

That's really sweet. My dad got me a beautiful bracelet for Valentine's Day a few years ago and it was really touching.

Originally Posted by iris427

Awww! I agree. I remember one year when I was very young (maybe 8ish?) we picked my dad up from the airport on VDay and he had a red rose for my mom, and a white rose in a little mailbox vase for me. I will always remember that Valentine's. Probably the ONLY one I will ever remember!

pw:curls

To quote wild_sasparilla:
'Thou shaketh it a little and it feeleth alright.'

We've only given each other cards for V-Day since we got married. Our wedding anniversary is March 24th, so VD is halfway between Christmas and that. That's way too many gifts just to give gifts. We celebrate our anniversary instead.

When are women going to face the fact that they donít know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

A lady called into the radio station and said that she told her husband not to get her anythihng and then was totally shocked and pissed off when he, DIDN'T GET HER ANYTHING. The radio people were like, "DUH."

Originally Posted by M2LR & Co.

That is wack. It's just a slippery slope ride from "don'te get me anything"="I want you to get me something" to "I don't want to have sex"="have sex anyway".

Women (and also men) need to learn to tell people what they want and what they don't want and not play games.

To Trenell, MizKerri and geeky:
I pray none of you ever has to live in a communist state.

Geeky is my hero. She's the true badass. The badass who doesn't even need to be a badass. There aren't enough O's in cool to describe her.

I like going out to dinner on V-day. As long as he is thoughtful enough to plan something like that, I'm completely happy. We don't do presents on this day, but we always make sure to spend it together.

I mean it. Hubby and I both hate V-Day, and never get each other anything.

I did ask him to bring home dinner from a restaurant that satisfies one of my pregnancy cravings (deli mustard on a hot sandwich--go figure) that night, but other than that, I don't want anything at all. I think it's silly for him to feel like he has to go out and buy me something that I don't need to show that he loves me. He shows me in the little ways all year long, and that's why I love him so much.

Although I may say I don't want anything, I don't consider a card to be "anything". I mean, c'mon, it's like 2 bucks, and paper, and takes seconds to pick up. I'm a card person, and I think people can take a little bit of time to pick up a card. It makes people feel good.