A common question Brent & I get asked is, “How do you respond to random people who ask you about or assume Zoomer’s gender?” Here is a breakdown of what typically happens in our day-to-day interactions with strangers...

Let me put a disclaimer here: First, I want to acknowledge that the US healthcare system has a long way to go in regards to there being an understanding of the complexities of biological sex and gender identity. Second, my...

When Z was just a wee gestating bean in my belly at 26 weeks, someone asked Brent the usual question, “What are you having?” Brent told them that we were going to wait and be surprised. The person asked, “How do you even prepare for that?...

If I had a dollar for every time someone rolled his/her/their eyes at me for pointing out that eating is gendered, I would have quite a few dollars. Maybe I receive so many eye rolls because most people know gendered eating is a thing...

During my research for the Sasha and Storm post, I came across an article about Storm and something written in it jumped out at me: Rolling out of the “media hoopla” that followed the Star story - people would yell “boy” or “girl” at Storm...

This post is part e-introduction and part thank-you-note for the parents of Sasha and Storm. Sasha and their, now his, family live in the UK and Storm and their family live in Canada. It was coming across news articles about Sasha and Storm...

There is no concrete definition for Gender-Creative Parenting (GCP). There are also several terms that represent the same idea: Gender-Neutral Parenting, Gender-Fluid Parenting, and Gender-Free Parenting, for example. Brent and I like the term...

“Do you want a boy or a girl?” I heard one of our friends ask my husband, Brent, after finding out we were 5 weeks pregnant. Ten feet away, in my feigned ignorance, I continued looking away from them but was listening harder than I've ever...

The basic premise of raising Zoomer in a gender-creative way relies on the fact that sex and gender are not the same thing. This article defines the foundational terms and concepts that our readers should know to get the most out of...

Tomgirl is a short 14-minute film that introduces us to Jake, an inspirational, gender-creative child. Jake’s confidence, style, humor and kindness are inspirational and charming, and provide a visual example of the beautiful life a child...

Naming a child is a big responsibility. Some people go through elaborate processes to decide on the perfect name, or read through hundreds of names in books and on website lists – some friends of ours did a March Madness-style bracket...

When raising a gender-free babe, there are a few alterations one has to make to the language they use. The fun part is that there are no hard-fast rules and you can use or invent whatever words you want. The term sibling is gender neutral, but...

The English language plugs gender into words that it doesn’t necessarily have to be in. In many cases, people are recognizing that gendered words are irrelevant or incorrect and taking it upon themselves to use gender-free words. For example...

Opponents of gender-free parenting often liken the practice to a “social experiment,” specifically, an experiment they believe will have disastrous consequences requiring infinite hours of therapy for the child. As a social scientist, I believe...

When referring to a child’s genitals, it is common to call them “privates.” We are taking this practice beyond the traditional level. We, as parents, have decided not to reveal Z’s sex to anyone outside of their immediate caretaking circle...