Me and My Perfect Bitch. ( Kanye West Style )

(ThyBlackMan.com) So last week Kanye West wrote a song about his girlfriend Kim Kardashian called “My Perfect Bitch”. The premise of the song is that he has been in relationships with multiple women, but he found everything he needs in her, thus she is his “perfect bitch.” So how did Kim feel about being called a perfect bitch? Kardashian has told friends “I’m honored. I love it,” while making sure to add, “I know he doesn’t mean it in a negative way when he says the word ‘bitch.'” A couple months ago I wrote the following articleshttp://thyblackman.com/2012/06/26/who-you-calling-a-bitch-part-1/ and http://thyblackman.com/2012/06/27/wonder-why-they-call-you-a-bitch-part-2/ regarding women and how we have seem to embrace the word “Bitch”.

What is so flattering about being called a female dog? So basically you’ve perfected being a canine and that warms your heart? Our thinking is so flawed, and because we as women have turned this word into a term of endearment, empowerment and in many cases a brand, Kanye West probably feels like he is really honoring her by calling her a perfect bitch.So he wants a bitch to have his babies huh? You know a bitch can only breed dogs or other bitches, so I wonder if they have a daughter will she then become a perfect bitch for the next man? Would he want a man coming to him and say “Mr. Kanye West, I am coming to you ask permission to marry that fine bitch of a daughter you raised. She is a ride or die bitch. She is a boss bitch, in other words she is the perfect bitch and my life isn’t complete without her.” What would his reaction be then? It would be hypocritical for him to be upset being that the mother of his child is the perfect bitch and what not.

I don’t know why we as women love trying to redefine that word. I wrote a status on my facebook page about women calling ourselves bitches and once again, here comes a Sister with her definition of the word, and she thought it was really positive. She said let’s look at it like this “”BITCH =BLESSED INTELLIGENT TEACHER CHERISHING HUMANITY! Change the way we think when we hear the word.”

So I asked her the following question: “If some random dude on the street called you a bitch what would your INITIAL reaction be? Would you be like that’s right King! “I AM THAT BITCH!!!!!! Thank you for noticing! Peace, light and love Brother!” Needless to say, I never got a response from her.

Notice she said we should “change the way we think when we hear the word.” No mam. Sisters, when you hear the word bitch I want you to ALWAYS think female dog, because that’s what a bitch is. The fact that Kim K thought this was flattering didn’t really surprise me, but when I read various comments on sites, some women said things like “I wish my man would write a song like that for me” or “I am my man’s perfect Bitch too!”. And these comments were from BLACK WOMEN!!! This is so disturbing on so many levels, that women place themselves on the level of a canine and see nothing wrong with, but take PRIDE in it!

Black Woman, you see the above picture first one, that’s a picture of a BITCH! You see the second picturebeside it? That’s you BLACK WOMAN!!!! Notice the difference between the two pictures? If you call yourself a bitch, you are calling yourself a female dog, and that’s it. It doesn’t matter if you try to flip it, and say you’re a “bad bitch” you’re a “boss bitch” you’re “THAT bitch“, a bitch is a FEMALE DOG! Now if you are calling yourself a bitch, why are you complaining that you can’t find a good man? Bitches and Men don’t mate with one another!

Black Woman, stop using this word to define you. A Bitch can only produce dogs, but Black Woman you have the capability to produce GODS! You can’t produce God, calling yourself a BITCH! A bitch can’t give birth to a Nation, but dammit Black woman YOU CAN!!!!! You’re NOT going to be successful attempting to convince me that we can flip that word, because I am going to keep bringing you back to the original definition. I do pray that I can be successful in telling you of your DIVINE nature, your purpose and the beauty of embracing WOMANHOOD.

Staff Writer; Nojma Muhammad

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Comments

Well, it’s 2014 and Kanye and Kim plan to get married. But what I’ve noticed about them is that Kanye doesn’t smile as much as he used to. He and Kim took pics of smiling at each other all the time. Like before Kim’s pregnancy. Could be that Kanye’s not all that happy wth his perfect bitch.

I totally agree with you about the N word. Nothing changes the fact that it’s an ugly word used by anti-black racists (especially white racists) to denigrate black folks and remind us of what they consider “our place” which is at the bottom rungs of society. One big problem of our use of this word, even as one of “endearment,” is that people outside our race will never value us any more than we value ourselves. Therefore, they will look at us as “niggers,” and we will have only ourselves to blame. There are things we cannot control, but this is one area in which to take personal responsibility. I have noticed incidents where non-blacks tried to use the word in those endearment terms. One example was Jennifer Lopez while she was dating P Diddy, and someone in turn referred to her as a “red beans and rice eating bitch.” It was only because that person felt that we are the only ones with the right to use that word, not because he thought it was derogatory. I firmly believe that in not using it, we can avoid silly and pointless arguments with non-blacks or even each other as to whether a word loaded with so much historical negativity is appropriate for anyone to use. I also believe that these silly arguments are most likely to gin up racial animosity among potential allies in fighting for justice, and perpetuate it in folks who already assume the worst of us simply for being black.

Nothing will ever convince me that the word “bitch” is complimentary in any way. It’s a direct insult, and what’s worse is mothers calling their daughters out of their names in that way. I would be willing to bet that these same mothers would punish their children for using that word, although they would just be following their mothers’ examples. Regardless of how much Kanye West loves Kim Kardashian, he is being disrespectful. In turn, she’s showing her own lack of self-respect. It’s even worse because these two morons are raising a daughter together, and she’s likely to learn that that kind of name-calling is acceptable. That is, unless these two thirty-somethings finish growing up and realize that Nori will go out into the world one day and get a reality check on how unacceptable that word is to many.

What I’ve noticed for some years now is that mothers are referring to/calling their own daughters bitches (and their sons niggas). What makes a child under the age of a ten a bitch (or nigga)? These black females masquerading as mothers should be corrected by getting slapped in the face. Because if these little girls say bitch, you best be believe they are getting a beating. Then again if the moms don’t see anything wrong with their little girls saying bitch thats even worse. There’s gonna be groups of young girls using/saying the word as though its okay. Not good at all.

I don’t think there’s a rapper who’s ever said the words nigger/nigga and/or bitch more than some males and females.

Yep, I totally agree. I was having the same arguement with an old friend over the use of the word ‘ni**er’. He went on to explain to me that it’s not an offensive word in the US as many blacks call each other ‘n**gas’. So, I asked him, “What happens when a non-black person calls you that? Do you ask them how they’re spelling the word so you can decide wether to take offense or not?”. To that, he had no reply…To be honest, I can no longer get upset when I read somewhere that a non-black has used the ‘N’ word. How can I…when we’re blatantly using it on ourselves…?