just plain confused

I have 2 children from a previous marriage and I am currently 18 wk 2 days with this baby. This baby is with my boyfriend of 1 year. He never spoke of any issues and has been there consistently for my 2 kids. Now he decided to walk away from me. Unexpectedly. No calls, no compassion, and most of all no concern for the amount of stress I have been under or what he just added to my life. I am depressed and sad for this baby. It's so hard. When I was pregnant before I was married and my husband was always supportive during pregnancy. Being alone aStudent. Single mom. It's really getting to me this pregnancy. Sorry so long I just need to vent its been really hard past couple of weeks. Not to mention my kids miss him like crazy and I don't know how to explain any of this!

I have 2 children from a previous marriage and I am currently 18 wk 2 days with this baby. This baby is with my boyfriend of 1 year. He never spoke of any issues and has been there consistently for my 2 kids. Now he decided to walk away from me. Unexpectedly. No calls, no compassion, and most of all no concern for the amount of stress I have been under or what he just added to my life. I am depressed and sad for this baby. It's so hard. When I was pregnant before I was married and my husband was always supportive during pregnancy. Being alone aStudent. Single mom. It's really getting to me this pregnancy. Sorry so long I just need to vent its been really hard past couple of weeks. Not to mention my kids miss him like crazy and I don't know how to explain any of this!

It's extremely hard because he knew my entire situation stepping into it. He's never brought up any problems. He was excited when we first found out. Then all of a sudden he just is gone. I don't understand any of this. He is not even man enough to speak to me to help me have some sort of closure. He doesn't seem to care he's put me under a great deal of stress that effects his child.

It's extremely hard because he knew my entire situation stepping into it. He's never brought up any problems. He was excited when we first found out. Then all of a sudden he just is gone. I don't understand any of this. He is not even man enough to speak to me to help me have some sort of closure. He doesn't seem to care he's put me under a great deal of stress that effects his child.

Some guys are just like that. Unfortunately they may be perfectly fine with other kids but once they find out they will actually become a parent, it's too much to bear. It's very much so a personal issue and they have no capacity to care for anyone else. It doesn't matter that ur the carrier, all they can focus on is the anxiety/fear/anger over the pending reality. So since they have ZERO control over the situation of bringing baby to term, they do things they can control like leave.

Some guys are just like that. Unfortunately they may be perfectly fine with other kids but once they find out they will actually become a parent, it's too much to bear. It's very much so a personal issue and they have no capacity to care for anyone else. It doesn't matter that ur the carrier, all they can focus on is the anxiety/fear/anger over the pending reality. So since they have ZERO control over the situation of bringing baby to term, they do things they can control like leave.

Thanks that's a good point. I'm just extremely worried about the legal aspect too. Will I have to give my newborn to him for visits if he comes back after my delivery? I am so scared. I was married with my other children this anxiety is killing me.

Thanks that's a good point. I'm just extremely worried about the legal aspect too. Will I have to give my newborn to him for visits if he comes back after my delivery? I am so scared. I was married with my other children this anxiety is killing me.

You might. Just being honest. The reality is it all really sucks. Him leaving. The affect it has on you. Him deciding to come back and maintaining his paternal rights. I think up until a certain point he may only be allowed to visit.

You might. Just being honest. The reality is it all really sucks. Him leaving. The affect it has on you. Him deciding to come back and maintaining his paternal rights. I think up until a certain point he may only be allowed to visit.

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