Women are often their worst enemies. Throw a bunch of them together and you find intrigues, envy and hatred fouling the relationship. That is why a lot of women today find it less stressful to have one or two male friends to relate with. They’ve simply discovered that a feisty friendship with an heterosexual man is stimulating to the brain, soul and it does their social life a world of good. Moire so when such women are single parents, divorced or just ‘senior’ girls.

Some ten years ago, Nike finally drew the curtains on a marriage that was most bewildering to her most of the time. “What had brought back my self-esteem to a semblance of normalcy are my male friends”, she said. “I’m all for the championship of platonic friendship.

Throughout my marriage, my ex constantly sneered at my divorced friends and why they would forever be on the shelf. The unmarried ones, according to him, were wayward and had dated so many men they’d missed husband materials amongst such men. So, after my divorce, I was happy to reconnect with my male friends and was surprised their partners see me as no threat to the stability of their marriage.
“Thanks to one or two close ones, I was able to pick up the pieces of my life. They introduced me to reputable clients and my law firm is doing really well.

We recently dabbled into estate management. My husband has remarried and I wish him well, my kids are doing well, but in spite of all this, he seems to be wearing his disapproving look whenever I see him. It’s true what they say after all that success is the best form of revenge….
“It’s a fact that you get an understanding of men from being friends with them. You can discuss things with male friends that could be very charged inside a romantic relationship. I now have long-lasting male friends that are invaluable. When you have a boyfriend trouble, they know exactly what is going on although sometimes, I think I know too much about the way men are capable of treating women. But this has never put me off men altogether.

“Another thing I enjoy about my men friends is that I always seem to do things with them. Women relate through talk, whereas with men you tend to go on outings, which broadens your circle as well as your mind.”

Demi, a 35-year-old secretary to a local government council said she was thankful for her job and a list of good male friends when her policeman husband was posted outside her state, and it was decided she hung around to continue her career in the local government. “I have always been interested in politics, and my position in the local government is the boost I needed. Apart from the contracts I could corner from time to time, I get to go to political meetings where I meet a few heavyweights in our party. In the meantime, my marriage is very much alive.

I have just become a kind of honorary single while my husband is away. It is so nice to have men to go out with (especially men with whom there is no question of that hideous scenario in the car at the end of the event. You lose the knack of being around men otherwise. I find I make moire effort with my appearance when I’m going out with a man, even though he is just a friend. I may not be politically correct but it’s good for the soul!”

“Let’s not kid ourselves, said Adanma,45, who runs a thriving motel in the heart of Port Harcourt, “there’s no such thing as a platonic relationship between men and women. A woman who says that she has this great friend who just happens to be of the opposite sex is kidding herself. If she doesn’t fancy him, he wants to get her knickers off. It may be platonic on the one side, but the other half is always hopeful.

“Before I got married for the second time, nine years ago, I had several male friends and I don’t think there were any that I didn’t end up sleeping with. Sex has always been a healthy and spontaneous thing with me and the men I met were beautiful people—that’s why I was friends with them in the first place. The sex just seemed to develop out of spending a lot of time together, but I did find that once I had slept with them, the friendship was usually over”.

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The kind of content you offer to your readers matters a lot. Contents can actually make or mare your blog. It is time to drop ‘copy and paste’ and be creative with your posts. If you’ve been struggling for the type of content to post on your blog, if you want more comments and readers engagement for your blog, then this post is for you.

1. Run a contest – Running a contest is a great and effective way of getting attention and new traffic to your blog.

2. Write a review – You can write a review on movies, books, products, phones, hosting companies, etc. Reviews deliver a lot of value to your readers, and people are constantly looking for honest opinions, not the fake ones that the web is full of.

3. Host a giveaway – People love free stuff, and taking advantage of that helps you reach new audiences. It will also increase your traffic if you do it regularly.

4. Write a short story – think of something short and interesting (between 200 to 500 words). Then ask your readers for feedback.

5. Create a list post – people are lazy. They don’t want to waste time gathering information. That’s why lists are popular. You can make lists like Top10 movies that bla bla bla, Top 20 that bla bla bla.

6. Give your opinion about recent Post/News – When you write a quality blog post on hot topics, your blog can be featured on popular newspapers or blogs like a post on Nairaland was featured on Naij.com some days ago.

7. Start a poll – That’s simple. Want to know what other people prefer or think about a certain topic? Start a poll to get quick overview.

8 Write where you’d like to travel – … and encourage others to do the same in your comments. This kind of conversations usually turns out pretty big.

9. Blog about marketing secrets – Tell your readers about your top secret strategies, techniques, and tactics you use to get more followers and traffic.

10. Write a blog post in Pidgin English – Forget the well-known rules, and use the expressions you use every day. It’s a great way to make your posts more enjoyable and stand out.

11. Compile a list of common mistakes in your niche – Many people don’t know the basics and make common mistakes. Write tutorials to help them prevent these mistakes.

12. Thank your audience for following you – Show them they’re valuable and that you respect them.

13. Launch a free e-book about your best blog posts – Gather the most viewed and commented posts together and convert them into an e-book

14. Host a voting contest – Ask your readers to nominate the best blogs in your niche. This can turn into several posts since you can take thosenominations and write a “Top 100 Blogs in the Industry” post. Notify the winning blogs so that they’ll send some of their followers your way.

15. Wish yourself happy birthday – Are you entering the second year of your blog? Wish it a happy birthday, and then show readers how far you’ve come.

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19. Write a FAQs post – What questions do you get asked constantly, either about yourself or your niche? Create a FAQs post answering all these questions. Repost this as a page on your website so that it’s easy to find for newcomers.

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when Chelsea won the epl and fa cup last season with class and pure dominance over other clubs most Chelsea fans like my self wld have thought YES! this is the moment. YES! England has produced a “barca”.YES! we can win it back to back.YES! THE BLUES FOR LIFE……but No!!!.its all gone instead I c a Chelsea with no pedigree, no spirit and no zeal.
This silly chelsea should better wake up cos if they don’t its gonna b doom…….WHAT IS WRONG WITH CHELSEA?

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One of Steve Yzerman’s goals heading into this season was to bolster Tampa Bay’s back end, which he did by adding the likes of Anton Stralman and Jason Garrison to a group that already featured Victor Hedman, Matt Carle, Eric Brewer and Radko Gudas.

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Blackhawks forward Daniel Carcillo has been suspended six games for cross-checking and injuring Winnipeg forward Mathieu Perreault on Friday evening in Chicago, the NHL announced today.

According to the league’s department of player safety, Carcillo’s “forceful” cross-check was “not a hockey play, in the sense that it [had] nothing to do with the puck” and was delivered after the play had been blown dead, at a time when Perreault had “no reason” to expect it and could not protect himself.

The NHL also cited the fact that Carcillo, a repeat offender under the CBA, has been fined or suspended 11 previous times during his nine-season NHL career.

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NBC continues its coverage of the 2014-15 campaign when the Pittsburgh Penguins host the New York Rangers at the Wells Fargo Center at 12:30 pm ET today. In addition to NBC, you can also watch the game online.

There has already been some hockey on NBC this season, but the Sunday docket really begins in earnest today as the Pittsburgh Penguins host the New York Rangers.

It should be an intriguing one to kick things off, too.

The Penguins and Rangers are vying for the Metropolitan Division crown along with the New York Islanders (currently on top) and the Washington Capitals. While Pittsburgh currently holds a four-point edge on New York, the Rangers have a game in hand, so the gap could narrow or widen depending upon how Sunday afternoon’s contest shakes out.

The Rangers aren’t just the hotter of the two teams, they’re flat-out one of the hottest teams in the NHL.