tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4308977304684608847.post6290611296273727429..comments2016-07-08T22:53:12.445+05:30Comments on CHIJU SPEAKS: VeritasChijuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00380719950245749985noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4308977304684608847.post-56410223157660538322016-07-08T22:53:12.445+05:302016-07-08T22:53:12.445+05:30I have agreed (in my post) with the fact that movi...I have agreed (in my post) with the fact that movies romanticize/glorify stalking. I&#39;m just saying that let&#39;s hold the individual accountable rather than blame it all on every other stalker. <br /><br />And yes, this is not an India only problem. But, my knowledge (at least verified) is restricted to only India.Chijuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00380719950245749985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4308977304684608847.post-49534777296815089852016-07-07T14:52:13.512+05:302016-07-07T14:52:13.512+05:30THIS!
So true! Stop passing the buck on to the n...THIS! <br /><br />So true! Stop passing the buck on to the next person! <br /><br />However, Chiju, I feel as a society there is a collective responsibility. <br />Firstly, the victim blaming thing is not entirely an India-only phenomenon. The boys will be boys excuse was pulled at the Stanford Rape case as well. It seems the world as a collective have not bothered to educate people (men and women - there are women stalkers too) about the importance of consent. This mentality is not influenced by cultural. But, I have misgivings about theater/movies not influencing reality. I think they are both tightly coupled. You make movies inspired from real life, and real life is sometimes inspired by movies. You must admit that the Indian film industry does romanticise the gawking/stalking hero winning the &quot;affections&quot; of the victim/heroine. At least, growing up, I knew (and I have told you about it) a lot of guys back home who thought it was ok to discuss women like they were objects, going so far as to follow them home to find out where they lived etc. You cannot dismiss every one of these activities as playful, mindless games. Jokes/Games are fine, even I can enjoy them. But sometimes they do cross a fine line. There is a sociopath in everyone. Have we as a society not made this line clear? This is our collective fault. Or so I feel, anyhow. For instance, I dont see locals in Singapore throw leud remarks at women/men, or even look at them disrespectfully. Unfortunately, I cannot say the same thing of men from india who come here to find work. And we shouldn&#39;t make excuses for their behavior. They are not in the minority. <br /><br />lastly, and perhaps more of a personal view point, am i the only one who feels all those memes about being friend zoned, or the girl rejecting the guy and making the &quot;Wrong&quot; choice offensive and very annoying? I mean, if the girl/guy was using the other person, it is a definite issue. But the number of guys who seem to think the girl secretly enjoyed the attention of a stalker, or did not know how good this guy was etc seem to be huge! How can anyone think like that? It boggles my mind. IMO it&#39;s again taking the side of the &quot;poor, misunderstood&quot; boy who clearly has every good intention. &quot;No&quot; means &quot;NO&quot; or in some cases &quot;HECK NO&quot;. Anyhow, I am meandering. <br /><br />VJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08113156997931516118noreply@blogger.com