ive been ill with a chest infection and pluracy, im now over that and been trying to get myself back right.

i have good days and bad days.......who doesnt! when im having a good day my O/H will be in a mood and start shouting and makes me feel worse again

ive been having these really bad period pains the last few nights and been in total agony with them, it wasnt too bad last night so i woke up feeling ok but guess what my O/H has started again and stormed out to work.
So now im feeling down again ive got mild pains and i feel tense.
i should be working at 12 but cant face it today.
ive rang mw but no answer so ive rang doctors and ive got an appointment at 3.30 this afternoon.

i dont no what to do anymore i feel really low and losing my confidence

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Thu Mar 02, 2006 11:35 am

bmatbev

ED MEGA BABE

Joined: Wed Oct 26, 2005 12:34 pmPosts: 3944Location: Mitcham, Surrey

Honey, get the doc to sign you off for a few days. I think we're all feeling pretty down at the moment. Must be the weather!!

ive already had time off due to these pains. i got alsorts i wanted to do today but now i dont feel upto it thanks to him.
Things are getting worse here, whenever i talk to my friends about it they just say things will get better when the little one arrives, but seriously i dont think they will.
i love him to death but i cant carry on like this, ive tried talking to him but he seems like he isnt interested and its all in my head.

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Thu Mar 02, 2006 11:44 am

bmatbev

ED MEGA BABE

Joined: Wed Oct 26, 2005 12:34 pmPosts: 3944Location: Mitcham, Surrey

Sounds familiar!!
Check out the other post, (need some advise on feeling down.) I think its called something like that.

Its just so much to take in all thats going on, you feel like all the pressure is on you. You have to look after number 1 right now.

hi just been reading that post, very interesting.
why is it that if i said to my O/H im not feeling too good they always reply with something like how do you think im feeling im under a lot of pressure with work and bills and stuff, yeh fair enough hes been great with dealing with money and bills while ive not had my head screwed on but how am i supposed to know if he doesnt tell me.
Are all men the same?
He had to get rid of his corsa sxi 04 plate last friday because
1. it was only 3 door (not big enough)
2. it was on finance and couldnt afford to pay for it

so hes ended up with a N reg Daewoo Nexia which is better than nothing and bigger, but must admit not as nice as the corsa but you cant have everything can ya!
so i think thats getting to him but still no reason to take it out on me

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Thu Mar 02, 2006 12:00 pm

bmatbev

ED MEGA BABE

Joined: Wed Oct 26, 2005 12:34 pmPosts: 3944Location: Mitcham, Surrey

I think that the trouble is that they aren't as connected to the babies as we are. I know that you've heard it before, but i'm sure that actually seeong the babes will change them. I know that steph, has been so much more paternal since the 4d scan. Its like he's finally accepted that he is going to be a father.

As for the car issue, it won't be forever, in a few years, you'll be used to coping financially with a child and you'll be able to treat yourself to things like that. If its still your preference.

thankyou, i feel so low and down today. when i went for my second scan you could see the baby more than you could at my first and things changed then but not for long.
This car is lower than the other and i struggle to get out of it its same with the bath and getting out of bed in a morning but he just carries on doing what hes doing and leaves me to struggle which doesnt help.

When are you due? xx

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Thu Mar 02, 2006 12:14 pm

bmatbev

ED MEGA BABE

Joined: Wed Oct 26, 2005 12:34 pmPosts: 3944Location: Mitcham, Surrey

This might be a bit obvious, but have you sat him down and told him how you feel?

Maybe do it how you do with other kids, just tell him that he's really important to you and that you need all the help you can get right now from him.

If that fails, kick him in the nuts when you wake up in the night for a wee break!!

tried that aswell but theres always something that he does to drag me back down again.
ive thought about going to my mums for a few days i no it mite seem like running away but im not im doing it to give us a bit of time to cool off before little one arrives and plus it might make him realise just exactly whats going on what d ya think?
sorry for going on and thanks for listening to me moan xxx