7 comments:

first dates - he should pay of course. but after you guys have been dating awhile, i think its good to either take turns paying based on the amount of "who makes more." Like if the guy makes a whole lot more, it makes sense if he either pays more often or pays for the "bigger expensive dates"

With sean and i, i want to say he pays 2/3s of the time but when I pay - its not as often but enough and I do pay for the "more expensive" dinners sometimes if it's not a special occasion and I just wanna splurge knowing he can't :)

I agree with F.a.T - it's definitely chivalrous for a man to pay on the first date. If she demands to pay she's either a.) not interested or b.) too feminist to deal with.After that it's 50/50 for the everyday stuff. Or, if it's an "event" whoever asks/plans the date should pay for it.

The guy should pay everytime ALL the time. We live in a age where manners don't matter and guys are allowed to ask woman for money, not hold the door, and then expect her to put out... A gentleman will never have a lady reach for her wallet, it's just tacky. The guys doesn't have to take you to a 5 star restaurant, he should go somewhere he can afford, whether that be Hook or Applebee's, it doesn't matter. and if your man can afford to buy you a chicken quesadilla from Applebee's...honey get yourself a new man!

i definitely agree that first dates, he should pay [assuming he really wants to keep me around]. i mean they're the ones trying to win the girls over, right?

and if you've been dating for awhile, the girl should be considerate and chip in if/when she can [but not more than 50/50].

option A would be nice, but having a gf can be expensive and not everyone can afford it. so unless they have a lot of money to throw around, which is not often the case with handsome/fun 20somethings, you might try to not go out as much or find more inexpensive dates.

Very interesting comments, ladies and gents. I have no problem with a guy wanting to pay, however I wouldn't expect it everytime. I feel him offering to pay is more of a nice gesture than an expectation or standard. I think at my age my boyfriend/date/whoever would go broke if he paid for me all the time.