When I tell people that I’m a coach actively targeting men, there are two standard responses I receive. And by standard, I mean that I will get them at least 95 per cent of the time. The first usually centres around the question, “why men?”, which while understandable, frequently means me having to restrain myself from replying, “well, why…

Change, once you strip out any pressures, baggage, sentimentality or emotions associated with it, is a very straight-forward process. Not easy, straight-forward. If you’re genuinely in a quandary about a decision, mentally step outside of the situation and follow this chart. Answer the questions factually and honestly until you get to the end. Your answer…

Relationships are great, you get to learn about another person, get to know them, understand what motivates them and what can make them happy or sad. They’re often however, also our biggest challenges because of the unavoidable emotional investment involved. Providing you’re not in your first relationship, you’ll probably realise there are certain patterns…

Phobias in today’s society are everywhere. They’re so common that most of us just live with the fear, we learn how to deal with the things that make us squirm or scared by avoiding and staying out of their way as much as possible. Sometimes, they even become a part of our identity, to…

No matter how much money you make, how many of the finest restaurants you dine in or the amount of airmiles you accrue, there comes a time when you realise that this quality of pleasure only flows so deep. When a certain level of personal or business success has been reached, whereby privileges and luxuries…

In the world of business, vulnerability is not a word one would associate with positivity, unless it’s perhaps being used to describe a competitor’s market position. It’s a term synonymous with weakness or deficiency, an unfortunate state needing either to be taken advantage of or quickly fixed. However profitable this mindset when applied commercially, it…

So, there’s this thing. I’ve been looking forward to it for a long time, perhaps even a very long time. I’ve been thinking about it, contemplating the various possibilities, the ultimate outcomes. I’ve been excited, ‘moved’ one might say, there has even been a touch of Brontë-esque longing involved. It’s all well and good I…

There is a misconception amongst those eager to ascend the corporate ladder. It is that once you arrive at the top, you will have acquired the majority of experience and knowledge necessary to stand there confidently. That amateur emotions such as nerves, self-doubt or fear of failure will be gradually relegated, along with travelling economy…

There is a friend of mine, male and in his mid-forties who revealed to me recently that he is going through a midlife crisis. Honestly, my immediate reaction was don’t be so ridiculous, you’re too young. My second reaction was to the terminology he had chosen to use, how he had described what was essentially a new…

Top Tips for sticking to your new year’s resolutions Tip 1: Make goals a reality When something is important to us we keep a record of it, we write it down, we stick it to the fridge or mark it in our calendar. Get your goal out of your head and into your visible…

There are times in life when you come across a person unexpected. A human being who, although outwardly like any other, i.e. affable, rational and harmless, turns out to be the temporary bane of your existence. We’ve all come across them, occasionally even seen the approach, these left-fielders that for some unavoidable reason we must…

The lessons every father should teach a daughter. 1 – How to change a tyre So on a deserted roadside, she need wait for no one. 2 – How to negotiate a good deal So she never gives more than something is worth. 3 – How to tell someone…

There are few things more rewarding to me than a genuine conversation with man. A conversation that exists outside the conventional realms of how he has been conditioned to express or not express himself. When there is an understanding that judgment plays no part in the client-practitioner relationship, it’s usually met at first with hesitation…

It’s surprising, how in the age of communication, connectedness and hyper-accessibility, people in relationships still play the guessing game. We still attempt to communicate by omission, sometimes for brevity’s sake, other times through comfort or laziness. It’s the assumption that we don’t need to say what we’re thinking, what emotional state we’re in or why…

It’s a well-known fact that men, irrespective of age or marital status, all at one time or another will harbour a large, unwieldy secret. One that sits atop their shoulders and weighs roughly the same amount as every other musing that rumbles into town, so that it never quite leaves their daily thought-stream. It may…

In the field of motivational speaking and inspirational literature, it’s common to come across phrases and recycled quotes that encourage us to be true to ourselves, to live our dreams or to bask in the uniqueness that is us. Such words, read at the right time and in the right situation, have the power to…

This is an article that has probably been a long time coming from me, something I have only really put my finger on just recently, after speaking with a friend who appears to be perpetually unlucky in love (don’t worry, he knows I’m writing about him). He, like other men I know and have known,…

I have lived intimately with someone who suffers from mania. Onsets would emerge with an almost audible buzzing, detectable only by those familiar with his other day-to-day vibrations. Behaviour would change from a temperate desire to keep everything in its place, to devastating the house in an 8 hour blitz of – what looked like…

A common theme within the sessions I have is loss or, more specifically the fear of loss. It has to be one of the biggest ‘honesty gifts’ given over to me from the men that I see. Fear of a loss of being loved, of security, respect, position, friendship. Even sometimes, the loss of the…

I have a friend who is very bright. So bright that she knows the names of things, I guess in a way that would class her as an intellectual. She’s au fait with the names of artistic movements, the works and era to which they apply. She knows all the right novels, the well-documented criticisms and…

1) You don’t use Facebook or Whatsapp 2) Reality TV means watching a documentary 3) You own no Superdry clothing or accessories. That’s right, none. 4) You still give things to charity, even if they could make you a tenner on ebay. 5) You know the Internet is a luxury 6) You still actually print your…