End A Relationship

The Player: End A Relationship

Avoid intimacy and romance

Starlit walks on the beach and staring into each others’ eyes over dinner will keep the relationship going (especially in her heart and mind). Realize there is a major distinction between lust and romance. While you may still want her physically, do not give in to any body language that leads to sex, as she will think this means an emotional connection still exists. You may want sex, but she wants a lifelong relationship. Once again, the fact is that you two are heading for two opposite goals and being together will not work, thus, you need to end the relationsip. Avoid the beach walks, romantic restaurants and sharing of personal stories, hopes, dreams, etc. By being more readily unavailable, there will be less opportunities for you two to have amorous moments. Go back to a casual relationship. When you two are together, remember to be detached and disengaged.

Bring in your female friends

Female friends can provide multiple benefits — especially when you need to end a relationship. One benefit is that it establishes that you are a man with multiple relationships with the opposite sex. Having your female friends (especially if any were former lovers) around you and your soon-to-be ex will give her the feeling that she is not “the one” and that your relationship with her is much more casual than she had hoped. Having women show up for lunches, dinners and outings where you two would have normally been alone will loosen the high-end goal of a long-term relationship. What was once serious now becomes more informal — and not what she truly desires. Be sure to avoid being cruel, as throwing your girl friends and ex-girlfriends in her face could easily become a rude and heartless move. Have them around her, but don't flaunt them.

is it over?

Singer and Player-extraordinaire Usher once said, “If you’re with an individual who isn’t moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain’t going to work.” While it is tragic that this must end, it must not end tragically. Avoid breaking hearts and wounding egos; this is about moving on to what suits everyone best and not about creating newfound enemies.

Learn to end relationships with class, move on and don’t hate the Player.