When our view of man and fellowman is inspired by our pre-language (or reptilian) brain, any community seems founded on murders, massacres, and rapes. Cain clubs Abel to death, Romulus kills Remus. Zeus rapes Europa.
In this view, the key elements in the social order are to identify enemies, to
celebrate the in-group, to exercise sexual appetites, and to defend and extend
territories.

When our view of a society is inspired by our language brain the situation is
different. Now we see man and fellowman exploring and persuading one another
about their relations, their environment, and the mutual development and survival. In this view,
the social order begins when people gather in the commons to discuss mutual
problems and decide how to cope with them.

Societies have four options in using the non-language brain and the language
brain:

4. Let the language brains battle other language brains, e.g. settle
arguments by words as is done in disputations, mediations, or assemblies.

A society is civilized when its main line of coping with conflicts meets
words with words, and I mean with words alone (Option 4 above). However, to use
words to entice violence is not civilized. Non-violent
resistance to an enemy using violence (Option 3 advocated, for example, by
Mahatma Gandhi) is also a civilized design. It is never civilized, however, when
words are met with violence (Option 2).

It may seem self-evident that Option 1 with
raw power against raw power is inherently uncivilized. And so it is, and so it
has been in most instances. However, it is a civilized
duty to meet violence with violence when, and only when, it is necessary for the
survival of civility. Then the civilized part of mankind must have the ultimate
resource: use of force to fight the uncivilized who threaten human dignity and the rights of man.

The most powerful forces in society come into play when the pre-language
brain and the language brain pull in the same direction. This happens, for
example, when the language brains organize a collective into the building of
shelters and monuments – most dramatically illustrated when mankind builds its
pyramids. Or, it happens when language brains organize collectives of people to
use concerted violence – that is, organize for mankind's wars. Like it or not,
most of what lay people call "societies" have evolved within borders set by
wars.

Organized violence is a far graver problem than spontaneous acts of violence.
A small group or network that does not shirk from using violence can subdue a
whole society that has lived peacefully and has learned to avoid violence as far
as possible. The Chinese civilization had its Great Wall to keep out violent
invaders. It was originally about 5 000 kilometer long, built of stone, wood,
grass and dirt. The Wall was renovated and extended under the Ming Dynasty
(1368-1644) to some 6 400 kilometer. Now bricks were produced in kilns set up
along the wall. The bricks were transported by men, donkeys, mules, carrying
them on their backs. Also by goats with a brick tied to the head before being
driven to the construction project in the mountains.

Organized violence today – by states or terrorist networks – has at its
disposal cheap technical, chemical, and biological weapons, that can be
transported anywhere on earth. It can effectively kill, paralyze, and subjugate
civilized people. Prevention is both difficult and extremely expensive – as was
the Great Wall of China.