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enHe says what I wear is slutty: what should I do?http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse_assault/he_says_what_i_wear_is_slutty_what_should_i_do
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">c10el</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="He says what I wear is slutty: what should I do?" id="md1" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">My boyfriend sometimes tells me what I wear is &quot;slutty.&quot; I&#039;ve tried to explain to him that I find this possessive, sexist and objectifying but he can&#039;t understand why. When I give up on that argument and try to just tell him that the only thing that should matter to him is that I feel good wearing it, he responds that he doesn&#039;t understand why I need to dress &quot;slutty&quot; to feel good. How can I articulate my feelings to him in a clearer way? Should I just compromise and not wear the offending articles (it really is only one or two things in my closet). </div></div></div>Tue, 08 May 2012 13:38:20 +0000Heather Corinna5170 at http://www.scarleteen.comI feel stuck! I'm 20, living at home with no job and no car.http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_feel_stuck_im_20_living_at_home_with_no_job_and_no_car
<div class="field field-name-field-name field-type-text field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="contributor">iamlost</div></div></div><meta itemprop="name" content="I feel stuck! I&#039;m 20, living at home with no job and no car." id="md2" /><div class="field field-name-field-detailed-question field-type-text-long field-label-hidden"><div class="field-items"><div class="field-item even" itemprop="description">Hello. I’m feeling very lost lately and need some help. I am 20 and got my bachelors degree in economics in the fall. I really want to be a make-up artist though and went to night school while at college and have a qualification and a small portfolio. I am now living back home in a real small town where I can’t even find a part-time job and I have no car to travel out of town to work. My dad won’t help me out and I spent hundreds of dollars on lessons but he won’t let me behind the wheel or even let me pay for insurance on his car. So I send my portfolio out but rarely get any work and if I do it’s unpaid! I stay in bed until noon and feel like such an embarrassment to my folks. I then get up to eat and pretty much go back to bed. All I want to do is snuggle up to my pillow where I feel warm and safe (almost loved as strange as it sounds) and cry.
I am a shy girl and find it hard to make friends, when I do I can’t keep them. I can’t understand why they’d find me interesting and won’t agree to go out partying in case I’d be a bore so my college friends all drifted away and I’m not in contact with anyone I went to high school with. I am alone with my folks in the house and never have anyone my own age to socialize with. Couple that with my shyness and I’m lonely. I’ve also never had a boyfriend for the same reasons, although no boy ever hit on me either so the opportunity never arose. I would love to have sex and find myself thinking about it all the time and masturbating twice a day, I’d also just love some affection/cuddles or to have someone to talk to.
</div></div></div>Sat, 20 Feb 2010 04:45:19 +0000Lena2973 at http://www.scarleteen.com