Posts Tagged ‘Mary Morrissey’

Exercising “Your Will Power” ‘ Your positive lifestyle changes can ADD at least 10 years to your life expectancy.’ A Positive Mental Attitude is the start..

to embrace positive changes in your life. Resist temptation to be the past you.. It will not be easy But we all have to stretch our comfort zones and move our lives forward. The truth is, living is a risk. Happiness is a risk. If you’re not a little scared and uncomfortable sometimes, then you’re not doing it right. Do not worry about mistakes and failures, worry about what you’re giving up when you don’t even try. Worry about the life you’re not living and the opportunities you’re forgoing, as you merely exist in the safety of your comfort zone. Give yourself permission to be one of the people who survived doing it wrong, who made mistakes, but recovered from them and grew into your strongest self. That is what I wish for every reader. So in a general sense, here are three good reasons it’s time for all of us to embrace change and move onward…

Hindsight can be so clear. It is easy to look back in our lives and think, "Wow, I should have seen that; I should have known that." Hindsight has much clarity. Perhaps we could bring that clarity also to our foresight and our insight. We have the ability for these different types of ‘sight.’ We do have hindsight. It helps us guide our direction now. We can’t have foresight but we can feel the pull of spirit pulling us and choose the direction we will take. We can also have insight so we pay attention to what is working in the deep, deep parts of ourselves. Heading into this weekend, enjoy your hindsight, your foresight and have some insight. To Your Sights, Mary Morrissey

1. There’s plenty of life left to be lived.It’s never too late to live a day that makes you proud. If you do not learn anything else from this blog, learn that. We get one shot at the present and we can make it great. Today is the day! There’s no age limit on changing your course, and to settle in and be stuck in a life that isn’t well is a tragic waste. Honestly, it is never too late or too early to be who you are capable of being. There is no perfect time – you can simply start and stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. You can make the best or the worst of today. It’s up to you, so make the best of it. Do things that startle you. Feel things you have never felt before. Engage with people who help you grow. Live a life you’re proud of. And if you find that you are not, have the courage to change things.

2. Holding on to old pain is self-abuse.Your past has given you the strength and wisdom you have today, so celebrate it. Do not let it haunt you. Replaying a painful memory over and over in your head is a form of self-abuse. Toxic thoughts create a toxic life. Make peace with yourself and your past. When you heal your thoughts, you heal the health of your happiness. Now is the time to stop focusing on old problems and things you don’t want in your future. Because the more you think about them, the more you attract what you fear into your everyday experiences, you become your own worst enemy.

"Listen closely to your invisible thoughts. What do you hear? What are your words implying? That is their potency. What do you want? Name it and rearrange the structure of your mind to imply you no longer desire it, because you already have it!" Neville Goddard

3. Moving on creates positive change.You may blame everyone else and think, “Poor me! Why do all these terrible things keep happening to me?” But the only thing those scenarios all have in common is YOU. And this is GOOD news, because it means YOU alone have the power to change things, or change the way you think about things. There is something very powerful and liberating about surrendering to change and embracing it – this is where personal growth and evolution reside. And of course, if you’re struggling with any of this, know that you are notalone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and get and keep all our lives on track. These techniques work no matter where you stand in your current situation or what you’re up against going forward. Even if you have limited experience with self-improvement and personal development tactics. And even if you do not know what you really want for yourself…yet. Keep being Positive show others how to be like you..

"You want to become aware of your thoughts, you want to choose your thoughts carefully and you want to have fun with this, because you are the masterpiece of your own life." – Joe Vitale

Gray Lawrence "It is never too late to be what you might have been." Mary Ann Evans (George Eliot)

PMA Added… Wise Words “Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” -Mary Manin Morrissey,

Has anyone ever said or done anything unforgiveable to you? Something so awful you know you can never forgive them?

Probably this strikes a bell with most of my readers. It would certainly be rare to find someone who has never been mistreated, never misunderstood, never abused in one way or another. In some cases the abuse may have been particularly nasty. Something you would much rather forget, but find you cannot.

Does this person deserve your forgiveness? Probably not. Should you forgive them? Absolutely!

Why do I say this? If they don’t deserve your forgiveness, why should you forgive them? Am I trying to turn you into a saint or something?

No. I am not saying this to make you a "goody goody". And I am certainly not suggesting you should allow anyone to take advantage of you. So why I am saying it?

The reason is that I believe you deserve to be free. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be able to do whatever you wish in life and not be weighed down carrying a load dumped on you by someone else.

If there is anyone you have not forgiven for what they have done or said to you this means you are allowing that person to control your life. You are giving them the ultimate victory over you. Is that what you want? If not, you simply have to find a way to forgive them.

Some of you may now be saying "it’s all very well for you to say that, but you don’t know how I have suffered! You cannot understand just how bad this was!"

I agree I cannot know what it is like to suffer in the way you may have suffered. To use a common Christian saying, we each have our own cross to bear. The one you are bearing may be far heavier than mine. But even though I cannot understand just how bad it was for you, what I do understand is that you are now carrying an unnecessary burden. Just like "Christian" in John Bunyan’s "Pilgrim’s Progress". Christian was carrying a burden so heavy he could hardly move. So are you if there is someone you have not forgiven. Your happiness is marred because every so often you think of this unforgiveable thing that was done to you and it spoils what would otherwise be a lovely moment in a lovely day. Why not simply throw that burden away? It is not stuck to you with superglue. You have chosen to carry it. Now you should choose to throw it away.

There may be others who will say "but there is nobody I haven’t forgiven! Nobody has done anything particularly bad to me!" If so, you are very fortunate! But I would suggest there are probably some slights, some grievances, some humiliations that your conscious mind has forgotten but are still bubbling away somewhere under the surface. You do not feel desperately unhappy, but because there are some unforgiving words and actions loitering in your unconscious mind what could be a really happy moment is, instead, just mildly pleasant. These unforgiving things are stopping you reaching your full potential. They are controlling you.

Would you like to free yourself of this burden? Great!

The first thing you must do is find all the actions and words you have not yet forgiven. Some may be easy to find. Others will be hiding under the surface. Sit quietly and let them come to you.

Now, for each unforgiving act or word find the person. Picture that person in your mind. Say to them "I forgive you". At first you will probably feel silly. But don’t worry about that. Nobody is watching you. Nobody is laughing at you. This is something you are doing for yourself so you can be happier.

As you do this you will find a part of your mind will tell you that this person does not deserve your forgiveness. You can immediately dispel that thought by saying "they may not deserve it, but I am forgiving them for me, not for them!" This other part of your mind may say it was totally wrong of them to do this to you. Respond by saying "I am not the one who will judge them for it, and I am not asking them or anyone else to do this again to me, I am just letting go so this act no longer controls me. I forgive!"

If you are a Christian you should remember the phrase in the Lord’s Prayer "Forgive me my wrongdoings as I forgive those who have done wrong to me"? Whether or not you are a Christian this is a phrase I would like you to remember and use. When you forgive others you will find that forgiveness of yourself comes quite naturally too. But give it a helping hand anyway. Add your own wrongdoings now. See them clearly and then forgive yourself. As long as you have forgiven others you should find you are now able to forgive yourself. When you do you really should find you feel light and buoyant. You have let go of your burden.

Try to perform this act of forgiveness every day. I suggest you do it last thing at night before you go to sleep, as you should find your sleep will then be that much more refreshing. Try it, let go, don’t allow anyone to control you any more and see just how much difference this makes in your life!

Gray Lawrence

Knowledge has to be improved, challenged, and increased constantly, or it vanishes" Peter Drucker

PMA Added:

You just might be the miracle someone is looking for today. Remember that every single moment has a miracle of possibility. If I am present to the moment, something I know, something I can share, something I can give or some way I can presence love can actually bring a miracle in a moment that I am sharing with someone. I encourage you to walk through this day remembering that you just might be the miracle someone is looking for today. Here’s To Miracles, Mary Morrissey

WRITTEN by MARC CHERNOFF

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design into the present.

Happy people do a lot of things. They spend time expressing gratitude, cultivating optimism, practicing kindness, nurturing loving relationships, committing to meaningful goals, savouring life’s little pleasures, and so on and so forth.

But they NEVER…

1. Mind other people’s business.

Forget about what others are doing. Stop looking at where they are and what they have. Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. YOU are walking your own path. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel. We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. So stop the comparisons! Ignore the distractions. Listen to your own inner voice. Mind your own business.

Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day. Don’t be scared to walk alone, and don’t be scared to enjoy it. Don’t let anyone’s ignorance, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right, for YOU. Because when you are focused on meaningful work and at peace within yourself, almost nothing can shake you. (Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the “Passion and Growth” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

2. Seek validation of self-worth from others.

When you are content to simply be yourself, without comparing and competing to impress others, everyone worthwhile will respect you. And even more importantly, you will respect yourself.

How are you letting others define you? What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

Truth be told, no one has the right to judge you. People may have heard your stories, and they may think they know you, but they can’t feel what you are going through; they aren’t living YOUR life. So forget what they think and say about you. Focus on how you feel about yourself, and keep walking the path that feels best under your feet.

Those who accept you are your friends. Those who don’t are your teachers. If someone calls you something and it’s true, it’s not your problem because it’s true. If someone calls you something and it’s not true, it’s not your problem because it’s not true. Either way, whatever they call you is not your problem. What other people call you is their problem…

What you call yourself, and who you decide to become, is your problem.

3. Rely on other people and external events for happiness.

Unhappiness lies in that gap between what we have now and what we think we need. But the truth is, we don’t need to acquire anything more to be content with what we already have. We don’t need anyone else’s permission to be happy. Your life is magnificent not because someone says it is, or because you have acquired something new, but because you choose to see it as such. Don’t let your happiness be held hostage. It is always yours to choose, to live and experience.

As soon as you stop making everyone and everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you’ll be. If you’re unhappy now, it’s not someone else’s fault. Take full responsibility for your own unhappiness, and you will instantly gain the ability to be happier. Stop seeking in vain to arrange conditions that will make you happy. Simply choose to appreciate the greatness that is yours in this moment, and the right conditions will start to line up around the contentment you seek.

The greater part of your happiness or unhappiness depends upon your outlook, and not upon our situation. Even if things aren’t perfect right now, think of all the beauty still left around you. A good reason to smile is always one thought away; choose to tap into it any time you like. (Read The Gifts of Imperfection.)

4. Hold on to resentment.

Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghosts from your past. What happened in the past is just one chapter in your story; don’t close the book, just turn the page.

We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others, and while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long. Feelings of resentment urge us to relive the same pain over and over, and we have a hard time letting go.

Forgiveness is the remedy. It allows you to focus on the future without combating the past. To understand the infinite potential of everything going forward is to forgive everything already behind you. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal growth can never be achieved. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.

5. Spend prolonged periods of time in negative environments.

You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable. So protect your spirit and potential from contamination by limiting your time with negative people and the environments they inhabit.

When other people invite you to act like victims, when they whine and moan about the unfairness of life, for example, and ask you to agree, to offer condolences, and to participate in their grievances, WALK AWAY. When you join in that game of negativity you always lose.

Even when you’re alone, create a positive mental space for yourself. Make it a point to give up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just a few of them that have been troubling you, and see how doing that changes your life. You don’t need negative thoughts. They are all lies. They solve nothing. All they have ever given you is a false self that suffers for no reason. (Read Buddha’s Brain.)

6. Resist the truth.

It is a certain deathtrap when we spend our lives learning how to lie, because eventually these lies grow so strong in our minds that we become bad at seeing, telling and living our own truth. Lives come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies. If you resist the truth, you will live a lie every day as the truth haunts your thoughts every night. You simply can’t get away from your truth by moving dishonestly from one place to the next.

So don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to hide the truth with deception; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion of what’s popular. It is better to offer no explanation or excuse than a false one. It takes courage and strength to admit the truth, but it is the only way to truly live. Accept what is, embrace it fully, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead.

Your turn…

When we start looking at everything that might go wrong, we fear then to attempt. Our opportunity today is to pay attention to any thoughts that could be vibrations of doubt and turn them into faith. Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt. But not today. Our doubts will not have their way with us today. Our faith shall prevail. To Your Prevailing Faith, Mary Morrissey

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way. Robert Kiyosaki

Gray Lawrence

“Seek opportunities and experiences that invigorate you, those that are challenging, and that demand you show up as your very best self.” – David Howitt

PMA added only..

Wise Words “Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” -Mary Manin Morrissey,

Today’s Brilliance™

This story is a gift to me as one of many and feel I need to pass this gift on to you. Enjoy

Never worry about what to do, simply decide how to be. ~ Trevor Emdon

Trevor is a life and metaphysics coach who’s studied the human mind and its desires for almost 40 years.

If I could share 500 words of wisdom to summarize what I’ve learned so far in life, these are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

You do not have free will. I’m sorry if I’m the first to break that to you. What you have is total freedom to choose how you will follow the laws of the universe. If you try to change or break or ignore the laws you will struggle and suffer. That’s not a threat. It isn’t divine retribution. Let’s look at it another way.

You can cook toast in your toaster. But should you decide to boil water in your toaster, or worse, that you are going to try to keep the electricity coming down the cables at bay with your fingers, I assure you, you’re going to suffer. The electricity isn’t vengeful. It’s just electricity. You just don’t have that kind of power or free will. But you do have the resourcefulness to invent a better kind of toaster if you want to. See what I mean? Now, that’s electricity, but what about the law of attraction? The one that says, "Ask and it is given"?

You have an incredible gift; one in which you do have total freedom – and that is the gift of imagination. With imagination you can change your thoughts – what you think about and how you think about a thing. As you do that, you’ll notice that your feelings will follow. You can make yourself feel good – at will. You have that freedom. So why don’t you use it? This is not a universe where you look at something and react with worry or fear, but to watch our news and most people’s behaviour, you’d think so, wouldn’t you?

What you perceive every day with your five senses isn’t reality – it’s results! The results of what you have thought and believed – in general – thus far in your life. If you consciously and consistently change your general thoughts and beliefs, your reality will change too. Not instantly – there’s a time lag. Plant seeds and you will get plants – eventually.

Seeds are a good metaphor for us. I planted some herb seeds – chives and parsley among others. Where I planted chive seeds, chives began to grow, and parsley where the parsley seeds were and so on. So what? you ask.

Well, if you plant seeds of success and happiness in your mind, and constantly nourish those seeds, it is inevitable that you will start to see success and happiness filling your life. You need to do this even if your five senses are telling you that right now things are different to that. Because "right now" was planted in your mind some time ago. Today’s circumstances are the fruits of your old thoughts!

Plant new seeds, get new plants. Plant and nurture every day the seeds of a fulfilling, joyous life and that’s exactly what you will have. I promise because it wasn’t my idea. It was God’s. Trevor Emdon

Wise Words “There are those of us who are always about to live. We are waiting until things change, until there is more time, until we are less tired, until we get a promotion, until we settle down – until, until, until. It always seems as if there is some major event that must occur in our lives before we begin living.” -George Sheehan

Opportunity often knocks — only to find no one in.

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. Einstein

Every ceiling, when reached, becomes a floor, upon which one walks as a matter of course and prescriptive right. Aldous Huxley

Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Harold R. McAlindon

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. Henry David Thoreau

Every human is an artist. The dream of your life is to make beautiful art. Don Miguel Ruiz

I feel advice is always accepted by all who offer with the intended purpose of acceptance..The world is filled with unfortunate souls who didn’t hear opportunity’s knock at the door because they were down at the convenience store buying lottery tickets. They have never learned that, as Branch Rickey, general manager of the Brooklyn Dodgers from 1942-50, once observed, “Luck is the residue of design.” You will be surprised how much your luck will improve when you make sure you are prepared to take advantage of opportunities. How many times have you had a great idea that you failed to act upon, only to discover later that someone used the same idea to start a business, get a promotion, or find a better job? Resolve now to get into action when you have a good idea. Don’t wait for something to happen — make it happen! Napoleon Hill

I can offer you advice and brain storm with the famous! from their words that have been and will be around long after I have gone, as long as we try hard to understand them

Hindsight can be so clear. It is easy to look back in our lives and think, "Wow, I should have seen that; I should have known that." Hindsight has much clarity. Perhaps we could bring that clarity also to our foresight and our insight. We have the ability for these different types of ‘sight.’ We do have hindsight. It helps us guide our direction now. We can’t have foresight but we can feel the pull of spirit pulling us and choose the direction we will take. We can also have insight so we pay attention to what is working in the deep, deep parts of ourselves. Heading into this weekend, enjoy your hindsight, your foresight and have some insight. To Your Sights, Mary Morrissey

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." ~ Winston Churchill