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Another question for BM's

If sm got u a Mother's Day card for the kids to sign would u think its weird or would u think its a nice guesture (my bad if I misspelled that lol)

I'm thinking about getting BM a Mother's Day card for her boys to sign. We get along fine. We have had our ups and downs in the past tho. I was thinking about getting the card to do something nice and show her that the past is In the past or would it seem I'm trying too hard?What do u think?

I, personally, would find it awkward. That's not to say I wouldn't think it was nice and appreciate the gesture. But it would still be awkward. Besides, I have my DH to help DD do Mother's Day cards and what not for me. Perhaps if I was friends with a SM or was single or the NCP, I would feel differently.

Depends on the situation. But if the kids pick it out and all you're doing is paying for it? What's the issue?

My SDs really wanted to put together a flower arrangement for their mom last year. I took them to the store, bought the flowers they picked out, showed them how to trim the stems, arrange, etc, then turned 'em loose with a few vases from my collection. They did a great job. Mom loved them. And no one was bothered in the least. The kids did all the work. I just paid for the stuff.

I would ask the kids if they would like to get thier mom a card for mothers day or something and take them to pick it out...make it more about the kids

Few years back my ex got a card had his own little note on there and had the kids add thiers....I'll admit it was awkward. You can tell he did it and was his idea, plus he was married at the time so i questioned the out of the blue gesture

With mine for mothers day or fathers day i ask them if they want to and the ones that want to we plan it out. Like with my SD13 its a trip just me and her(her father HATES shopping) to the store of her choice she gets a certian amount of money and free reign. If she wants to go over the amount given within reason we make an agreement like she does a chore that her father normally would do to help him out and "pay" for the extra. And the chore is within reason to what she can do and the amount of extra we are looking at. She choose how to wrap it and does it herself...Basically i try to make it about her and her doing it I just provide the means.

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