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Orgasm Denial Frustration In Women?

Since most sex involves going only until the man has an orgasm, and since that usually means pulling out suddenly, or stopping without warning, and since usually the woman is taken to the verge of orgasm then it just stopped and she is denied, are women constantly incredibly frustrated and angry?

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OK. Sorry for making jokes. I gave a stupid reply to what I feel is not such a clever question.

I kinda felt that after all ppl have told you, you're still looking for a way to demonize women.

But then it occurred to me that maybe what has been said to you has possibly gotten through to you and your trying to work out what makes women the way they are.

So id hate to discourage you when your trying to do the right thing.

Even so, you're still way off. All women are not, all walking around pissed off, all the time.

What you need to do when you post such topics is to give more detail and elaborate on why you think the things you do, and where you stand. Then ppl like myself wont make instinctive posts based on your past record. Or, your name.

I'm not sure what you mean about pulling out or stopping suddenly. It sounds like you're not using a condom or birth control. If you have a healthy sex life you will get accustomed to your partners needs and you will eventfully become in sync with them whenever have sex.

You also need to talk to them about what they need. (Not just ask on internet forums.) Since women are all different in their tastes and needs, so only they can answer if they are frustrated by the way you have sex with them.

But just in case you are still looking for ways to blame women for you being unhappy, the first comment still stands.

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"When I was a child I flew! Then as an adult- I watched others soar."

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Are Women sexually frustrated? Maybe it's not that hard to make a women orgasm in fact they can have multiple orgasms. If you go too early maybe try finger banging her after. I always just go moderately fast until i hear the women start to orgasm and then go all out.

Women are pissed off though, probably because its harder to be a girl than a guy. Women have appearance standards, more hormones and emotion generally. A women's appearance standards with things like heels, makeup etcetera is probably tedious and painful. PMS and dealing with women problems painful and larger amounts or larger realization of emotion has to be more painful but also more pleasurable but all in all larger fluctuations of pain and pleasure. Yeah I'm glad to be a guy haha.

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"I love to see people struggling for their purpose in life..."

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You're operating under the false assumption that women are capable of enjoying sex. They do not. They are only capable of using sex to obtain something else. Assuming for a second that they are capable of enjoying such an interaction, you're also relieving them of all responsibility for their orgasm. It's a mans fault if they don't. Of the women I know who have an orgasm almost every time, they all have one thing in common. They don't seem to think that it is the mans job or responsibility to read their minds, or to finish them off. They understand that they have to play their part. The foreplay issue is the same thing. It needs to go both ways, if your partner wants less foreplay, then about half the time that should be case, less foreplay. I am convinced I need to remind women that men are people too, who have needs and periodically should at least have those needs considered.

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"Fear is the emotion that prevents us from doing thing we shouldn't have thought of to begin with."

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Cain... Even as a guy I can say they do, though I can not say to have any true insight into their entire thoughts and opinions, as I can not offer any insight into yours, it's obvious that they do. Furthermore, from what I've seen, they actually seem to get more out of it than I do which is actually saying something.

However, there is credit to be said for the later part of the statement, a 'dead fish' is one of the least appealing things when referring to this subject. The woman also needs to play their role. If they don't then really, they're at least partially at fault. Though I will say that in saying that, I do not exclude blame. If one hasn't performed as well as they could have done then it is at least partially their fault.

As for Jacker's statement, no, not entirely true. A woman's life isn't truly harder. True, in some aspects it is, but not in all aspects. I don't think I need to go into this here as I feel it's not truly something that should be done in such a public place but both sides kind of have their share of stereotypes, everyday pains etceterra, etceterra and ultimately, they both struggle with these stereotypes within society in different ways.

However, off the topic, am I the only one who is getting irritated with loyalty in any kind of undertaken relationship? I mean, there will always be challenges there and if you're not compatible you're not compatible but really, nowadays relationships rarely last more than a few months. It's almost like most people I see who undergo such things don't even try to resolve their problems they just through it in the "too hard" basket and walk off.

I myself don't often have these problems partially because I don't go for someone easily and partially because when I undergo a relationship I am always encouraging the opportunity to talk through our problems like adults and trying to resolve them before we end it rather than yelling at each other, which, in itself, seems like a pointless exercise no matter how much frustration is pent up. But honestly though, a lot of these things could have lasted at least a while longer under decent circumstances if some EFFORT were put into fixing the problems they both held and that is something I'm seeing more and more rarely these days.