Welcome to the final day of our Valentines Countdown to Great Giveaways!

I hope you've come away with more than just a load of books and gifts, I hope you've found some treasures along the way to store in your heart.

Today, I'd like to finish up our countdown by talking to you all about the Language of LOVE.

Love Is A Special Language

A few years ago I read a book from Gary Chapman called the The Five Love Languagesand it not only changed how I viewed my husband, who I've been married to thirty years now, but also how I viewed myself.

If you visit the site, you can take a 15 minute quiz that will help narrow down your specific love language, which Chapman says are many, but he's narrowed it down to five big ones in his book.

Acts of ServiceDoing little things for someone that you know they will like.

Words of AffirmationUsing words to build up another person.

Quality TimeGiving someone your undivided attention.

Physical TouchHolding hands, kisses, hugging, ect, are all demonstrations of love.​Receiving Gifts Gifts that let your loved on know that you were thinking about them.

You might be wondering how this makes any difference in a relationship, or even by understanding yourself.

Well, knowing that my husband feels more appreciated when someone is bragging on him helps me to remember to curb my negative words which will only pull him down and put distance between us.

Words of Affirmation is also my love language.

I've always said that love is a choice. Showing love is also something we must choose to do, not only for ourselves, but for others.

As I said, Words of Affirmation is one of my love languages. When I get down on myself, speaking negative words, or berating myself for a mistake will only bring me down more. Reminding myself of the good things I've done helps to life me out of the pit I might have fallen into.

When Elisa Lucken's interior design company is hired to decorate the huge but neglected Grimwood Manor for an impromptu holiday gala, Elisa is put in charge of managing the indoor crew. The only catch is--do not disturb the reclusive Duncan Grimwood.

Thrilled and excited about her chance to finally prove herself, Elisa is so absorbed in her work she doesn't hear the blizzard warning that sends the rest of her crew home.

Jewelry Artisan Duncan Grimwood had a reputation of being a playboy until the motorcycle accident that left him damaged inside and out. After a year of recuperating, Duncan has withdrawn from his lavish lifestyle and now lives like a hermit ignoring his family and the terms of his inheritance trust.

Worried that Duncan will lose his portion of the Grimwood estate, his personal assistant urges him to re-enter the real world by hosting a holiday gala at the manor to display his latest works. He agrees on the condition that nobody disturbs him while he works to finish his last few pieces.

Snowed in for the weekend with his unexpected guest, Duncan is forced out of his cave. Will the beautiful decorator he's stuck with help him find a new respect for life before he loses everything?

The topic of love languages seemed to just pop up out of nowhere while I was writing this story. But I liked how, as they discussed what each one thought their language was, it gave the other a deeper understanding of how to show their feelings. Sometimes actions are louder than words. You know?

So, this is why I loved Chapman's book so much. Knowing how to speak love to someone by how we treat them, I believe, speaks in a deeper way than just the usual, I love you. I think you're neat.

It's putting actions to words. And it works with all types of relationships, not only in marriage relationships.

Thanks for stopping in. If you've followed the whole countdown, I hope you enjoyed what each author offered on their day.

We will leave this countdown page up until the end of the month. Not all the prizes will still be available, but if you wish to go back and visit days that you missed, you'll have until the end of February to do so.

Today, I'll be giving away one digital copy of Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages. I will also pick three people from those who leave a comment to win a free copy of My Beastly Billionaire.

If you've already read Chapman's book and are not interested in winning that book, let me know in your comment and I'll add you only to the drawing for Beastly Billionaire.

So, share your love language if you feel comfortable doing that. Or tell me in the comments if you enjoyed this special Valentines event. I wanted to do something different that would be more than just offering books. I wanted to offer something that might bless our readers.

This article was extremely helpful to me. I have read Gary Chapman's book and sometimes my brain has trouble applying the things I read, but here you showed examples of how it's done. Thank you! The Valentines event was fun and comes from a kind heart. Thank you for this as well! Your thoughtfulness is greatly appreciated.

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:06:52 pm

So glad it was helpful. I'm glad you enjoyed the countdown! Thanks for stopping in. =)

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Renate

2/14/2019 08:26:55 am

Thanks Jackie for an inspiring Valentine countdown! Yes I have read Chapman’s book. My love language is “quality time.” Happy Valentine’s Day to all the wonderful authors and their readers. Best wishes.

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:07:52 pm

Thanks so much for joining us throughout the whole event, Renate. I'm glad you enjoyed it. Have a wonderful Valentines.

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Bernice Kennedy

2/14/2019 09:26:09 am

The Five Love Languages sounds very interesting. My husband and I have been married 33 years but I think I need some pointers here lately. I plan on taking tge quiz. I would also enjoy reading your book. Thanks for the chance. Happy Valentine's Day!

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:09:15 pm

It's a great book to read for married couples. I love that what he teaches on can extend into any relationship we are dealing with: our children, friends, family, and spouses.
Thanks so much for stopping in.

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Patty

2/14/2019 10:13:07 am

my husband and I review the love language every few years to see if we have changed in what we find speaks to us

Patty

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:10:08 pm

Great idea! Thank you. Hope you enjoyed the countdown.

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Carol Schmoker

2/14/2019 10:39:57 am

Thank you for the lovely giveaway. Enjoyed it very much. Already have Chapman book.

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:10:43 pm

Fantastic. Thanks for stopping in. Blessings!

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Natalya Lakhno

2/14/2019 11:12:14 am

Jackie, Happy Valentine's Day to you!
Thank you for the post - I've read the book - it's awesome!
I'm all over the place lol leaning more toward Time!

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:12:02 pm

Yeah, there are those folks who are all over the place and express themselves in many ways. Thank you so much for stopping in today. Many Blessings!

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Kerri Norrod

2/14/2019 11:13:25 am

Jackie thanks for the wonderful count down. I have already read the book by Chapman, so I would love to be entered to win your book. Happy Valentine's Day!

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:12:40 pm

Absolutely! Thanks for stopping in today.

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Trudy Cordle

2/14/2019 11:52:14 am

I have Gary Chapman's book, and learned a lot from it! I also have another of his books, about apologizing. Your book looks really good!!

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 12:13:37 pm

Thank you. I'll be announcing the winners tomorrow. Stop back in.

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Kelly Istre

2/14/2019 12:35:10 pm

I would love to win the book by Chapman. I have been seeing different things lately about the Love Languages and am interested in figuring out the languages for my children and husband.
I would love to win either books! Thank you!
I have also enjoyed this fun countdown that you did for Valentine's Day!

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 03:57:07 pm

Wonderful! I'm so glad you stopped by.

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Cheryl Shearin

2/14/2019 02:00:59 pm

I can not thank all of you enough for your words each day. They were extremely thoughtful, thought provoking and really have made a difference. It would be wonderful if you would be willing to put them all into an article that was downloadable. May God bless you all.

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 03:56:34 pm

Thank you so much. Now that's something to think about. =)
Blessings to you!

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Tina Myers

2/14/2019 04:00:43 pm

Loved these contest. I haven't read the book but would love 💘 to..

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christie Ussery

2/14/2019 05:19:15 pm

Thank you Jackie! I took the quiz and it says that Acts of Service, very cool. I really do like helping others.

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 07:35:16 pm

Usually what we enjoying doing most is what we love having done to us. Thanks for stopping in. =)

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Tina Myers

2/14/2019 05:29:25 pm

Took the rest I got Acts of Service..

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Jackie Castle

2/14/2019 07:35:45 pm

Great. Thanks for sharing. =)

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Rose Blackard

2/14/2019 10:44:10 pm

Thank you Jackie I am interested in. your book and Gary Chapmans book as well. You post was was helpful .your book sounds really good. Garys books are great as well. Thanks again

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Rose Denton

2/14/2019 11:28:41 pm

love language serving others, I already have the book 5 love languages, thanks for a chance to win your book.

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Jackie Castle

2/15/2019 08:20:26 pm

Time to announce the winners!
KELLY ISTRE has won a copy of The 5 Love Languages.
PATTY and TINA MYERS each win a copy of My Beastly Billionaire:
Congrats and I will be contacting you shortly on how to claim your prize.

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Tina Myers

2/15/2019 08:48:04 pm

Thank you!!

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Erica

2/17/2019 05:37:29 pm

I read Chapman's book years ago. I got it when I realized how truly different our 2 oldest boys were. I wanted to make sure I was showing them love in a way that they could each get the most out of. But that was 20 years ago. I never had an opportunity to take the test though. Back when I read the book it was just the book that I borrowed from the library. So that test was kind of neat!

Thank you for sponsoring/hosting this event. It's been really fun.

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Jackie Castle is an author, artist and dreamer. She lives in Texas with her husband, two grown children and her dog, Banjo. She looks for the extraordinary in the ordinary in everything she experiences.