zen711 wrote:...i have been taught is that in reality the wrist turn is actually the least important past of the kotegaeshi technique abnd that it is more important to make sure that you have control of the persons body by using the amr/hand/ whatever to guide their energy down and break the balance...

Well said zen711
Use your Center to control their Center; Keep that in mind and they can be holding a chainsaw for all you care.