I'm single, never married. I haven't had a bf for 8 years until last month when the guy at work who had been asking me over and over again finally broke through my wall of indifference.

Usually when people (gossipy old biddies or drunks looking to get laid- not people I care about offending) ask if I'm married, I say "no, I have a hamster. They're cheaper." Now that the hamster is running in the big wheel in the sky, I guess I have to say I have a bf.

Yep, and plenty of people I know have, indirectly, done a good job of encouraging me to stay single.

In my experiences down here a lot of women want troublemakers or bad boys who in the end will wind up treating them bad. While I don't like living under a rock and like being active, I am none of the above there, so my odds are not good to start.

If a relationship happens, it'll happen. If it doesn't, there are worse tragedies in life. Without question being solo gets lonely sometimes, but it's not sad or anyting like that, and I rarely ever get bored and am great at keeping myself active.

The one thing I hate is if I go to a restaurant or bar or a place to hang out for a while if I go by myself and somebody asks me, "Why are you single?" or "Why are you here by yourself?" like there is something wrong with me. I'm here for the same reason you are. I want to hang out and have some fun, have a few drinks, watch the game, whatever. What does it matter who I'm with or not?

I already know I'm a great person and a great catch who will treat somebody well. If others don't recognize that, that's their loss.

Except for the fact that it's almost impossible to live anymore on just one salary, I don't mind being single. I have never married, although I considered it. I chose to stay with my dying parents instead, and take care of them, rather than move on with my own life...

I don't really regret it. At the time, there was no real option -- and I had no way of knowing my "window" for meeting and marrying would disappear. I missed the boat on that adventure it seems.

Now i am too old for marrying. I don't look my age, in fact most people guess me to be 10-20 years younger than I am actually. I suspect that is because I never married. When you are my age, the men my age either want a 25 year old filly, or they want to live off of me and have me pay for stuff and take care of them while they take it easy and retire. Why would I want to do that?

It's lonely, and tough when every single decision, every burden, every outrageous bill, and well... every decision, falls on your shoulders and yours alone. It's not easy. But on the other hand, I know married people who are more miserable, because they are hooked up with someone who is horrible. On the other, other hand (I seem to have three), any decision I make alone will only affect me. If I screw up, no one else is harmed.

As Ann Landers used to say: "You have to decide if you are better off with him/her, or without." I guess I am better off alone.

I am dating myself with that reference. Might as well -- I have no other offers where dating is concerned.

Edited by puckloo39, 18 September 2009 - 03:09 PM.

“Next time I tell you someone from Texas should not be president of the United States, please pay attention."

Yep, and plenty of people I know have, indirectly, done a good job of encouraging me to stay single.

I have a feeling I'm one of those people.

Pat good for you being married 32 years, it takes a lot of work to keep a marriage together and if you're happy in love after all this time you did a great job. I admire those that are in such a good relationship because poor decisions have an effect on the couple eventually.

Thanks Offsides

"If I could sum up my career in Detroit, I was a perfect goalie for the team at the perfect time. I just wanted to be a Red Wing, that's it." Chris Osgood, July 19, 2011

Married four and a half years as of today. We both agree that we're the perfet match for each other and would drive any other spouse nuts with our brand of humor and sarcasm. A four year old and a two year old. Wonderful and incredibly smart children; for example, the four year old probably knows more about the galaxy than you do. What's an accretion disc, do you know? He does. How about tidal forces? He'd be glad to explain them to you. He can read better than most fifth graders. The two year old reads well also.

"I've never seen a warlock do that without his magic.""I once devoured a monk's soul. It tasted like chocolate."

Married four and a half years as of today. We both agree that we're the perfet match for each other and would drive any other spouse nuts with our brand of humor and sarcasm. A four year old and a two year old. Wonderful and incredibly smart children; for example, the four year old probably knows more about the galaxy than you do. What's an accretion disc, do you know? He does. How about tidal forces? He'd be glad to explain them to you. He can read better than most fifth graders. The two year old reads well also.

Happy Anniversary!

Thanks Offsides

"If I could sum up my career in Detroit, I was a perfect goalie for the team at the perfect time. I just wanted to be a Red Wing, that's it." Chris Osgood, July 19, 2011

Married four and a half years as of today. We both agree that we're the perfet match for each other and would drive any other spouse nuts with our brand of humor and sarcasm. A four year old and a two year old. Wonderful and incredibly smart children; for example, the four year old probably knows more about the galaxy than you do. What's an accretion disc, do you know? He does. How about tidal forces? He'd be glad to explain them to you. He can read better than most fifth graders. The two year old reads well also.

Currently single and loving it. I've been in relationships in the past and I don't know if it's me or the men I kept dating, but I got bored of them. On my own, I can do what I want when I want and being independent is a great thing for me. I'd like to get married sometime before I die, but I'm only 27.....far too young for that right now.

"People assume that time is a strict progression of cause to effect, but *actually* from a non-linear, non-subjective viewpoint - it's more like a big ball of wibbly wobbly... time-y wimey... stuff." -- The Doctor

As you'd expect, a catch like me didn't last long on the open market. I was drafted early and am a franchise player, I'm not going anywhere, completely happy where I'm at.

Advice that I would give to anybody comtemplating marriage or who wants to know why I'm so happy with mine: Avoid jealous people like the plague. Avoid emotionally needy people like the plague. Find someone hot who intends to live their life and let you live yours. My wife is the greatest because she lets me be me. I am free to up and disappear on a whim for a few weeks here and there to fulfill my wanderlust - it's part of who I am. She is free to do the same. Granted, that's easier said than done because most people are weak, jealous and emotionally needy, but still. If you know what you're looking for you're ahead of the game and you'll spend less time spinning your wheels with losers.

"It was pretty interesting," said Detroit coach Mike Babcock. "We had May in exhibition for a couple of games and no one gets hacked or whacked. When we don't have him, we get run. We don't have a team that twists off helmets at stoppages. You get tired of seeing it all the time. It's just nice when you get someone to look after that stuff."