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well maybe you should aviod having sex until you are married..it was meant for a husband and a wife to share that loving bond, and men are different then women they can f*** while women make love all the time..i say you should wait til you get married that way you wont have this problem

I fall in love to easy with my ex way too much. I havent really dated anyone and whenever we 'reconnect' I fall much more in love with him and I cant help it.

Sex really does complicate things and you need to take it easy and try getting to know them before the DO. Sex is very intimate and can lead to having these feelings for people when sometimes the feelings are not really real. Its just the connecting with two love bodies that makes the illusion of love seem real. We often equate sex with love and that is where I think the problem arises.

When we have sex, the part of the brain that is mainly activated is the "love" section of our brain. People don't realize that when we have sex, we are activating all the nodes in our brain that have to do with love & falling in love. That's why science says there is really no such thing as casual sex. Scientists who study sex & the brain are well aware that casual sex is just a term, but there is ALWAYS emotions involved. At least, science says so. It's very normal to fall in love after being so close to someone. You are your most vulnerable when having sex, sharing that with someone creates a huge bond. That's why it hurts so bad when you sleep with a guy & he never calls you back, or expects to just be friends. People who have sex with no emotion are nymphomaniacs. It's a phycological disorder.

If you don't want to be heart broken over a guy, then DONT have sex with them unless they can commit to you.

We often equate sex with love and that is where I think the problem arises.

yeah...we do that because the brain is doing it for us. We can't help it & it's not a "problem"...it's very normal & natural to fall in love (or fall in lust) after sex. Google it, even science knows sex & love go together.

yeah...we do that because the brain is doing it for us. We can't help it & it's not a "problem"...it's very normal & natural to fall in love (or fall in lust) after sex. Google it, even science knows sex & love go together.

Science is not always a definitive answer. People often use the excuse of science for lifes most unexplicable things.