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Before you sleep with him, but not an hour before you sleep with him. Because he needs a day or so to figure out how he really feels about it without his libido running his mouth. So, there is a delayed reaction to this information.

It wouldn't bother me as I have dated an ex-prostitute many years ago. My main concern would of course be STDs and possible infidelity in the future. If I felt like you were able to have a committed relationship and healthy, then I'd take you as you are.

from my experience guys dont like to hear about your past sexual encounters. they may ask but then get mad at you for telling them who or how many ect. i would wait it out a while. unless of course you havent been tested recently for STD's and such then he needs to know if there is a chance of contracting something. im not saying you have anything just saying be careful. read him carefully. first dance around the subject to see how he will take it. if it was me i would bring up the bunny ranch in nevada and ask him what he thinks about it. if he is ok with it ease him into it. if he isnt just talk about the subject a little more before revealing your secret.

If your clean (no STD's) I would wait a while into the relationship until you develop some sort of liking or bond to each other. If you have an STD, you need to be honest with him from the get go and just be like, &quot;i have a little bit of a rough past, but its in the past and Im not going back there again.&quot; Might explain your reasoning for doing it. Maybe your just really sexual, or maybe you just needed the money. If he has a heart, he'll be sympathetic towards you and forget about it. Its kinda the same situation with me and how I was going to tell my gf about my bipolar, should I do it upfront or wait ect.... I didnt want to scare her off, alot of people have a bad stigma about bipolars. I ended up waiting until we developed a bond with each other and eased her into it and it worked out for the best. I think if you hit somebody with that kind of information on the first or second or third date, you mine as well throw their phone number away. But if youve never been tested, I strongly suggest you do, if anything for your own personal benefit. But also to give a little peace of mind to your future partners. They may feel better seeing some paperwork with a clean bill of health. I know I would, and I would leave it at that and not bring it up anymore.

To say that prostitutes have safer sex than the general population is a common lie that prostitutes tell. It may be true for you, but there is a reason the subject has been mentioned. And it would be a major reason that a guy would think his trust was breached if you didn't discuss this with him.

Another reason why I love my bf so much is because he does not care what my past is. He does not even want to know the bad things either.

Next time you are about to be in a relationship, let him know you first for a while...for what you are now and where your values stand (no sex). Let him know as soon as he tells you he is falling for you.

I vote for only after a while. Telling someone that on the first date may make him assume things about your attitudes and willingness to have sex at the drop of a hat. If you feel that you have a chance at a long term relationship then, yeah, I'd tell him. You don't want to run into someone you'd been down that road with and have him find out from someone else. A lady I see used to do erotic massage. It was something she had to do to put bread on the table. Guys can either understand and accept, or turn away. Be ready for either and hope for the best.

First of all im proud of you for giving up that lifestyle. Its not eays so ive been told and just you must be really strong. :)
I would wait awhile, before the guy is like completely in love with you but he knows you enough that those days are behind you. The right guy will still love you.

i think you'll need to play that one by ear, as it were. that's a pretty heavy thing to unload upfront - bet you'd scare most folks away, or at least give them pause. i think it would be best to wait on it - not even worry about having to tell it (unless for some reason your not totally extricated from the business - then that's another matter) - with luck you may find yourself in a deep intimate relationship where sharing something like that becomes important. then you can deal with it. otherwise, if its completely in your past, i wouldn't sweat it.

i dont believe anyone her is intentionally insulting you by saying be carefully with the STD thing. it is just such and easy thing to get and some STDs can be contracted using safe sex practices as well. it is something that i have personally talked to about with my past partners before we had sex because you can never trust another person with that kind of stuff. especially if they havent been tested. also another assumption might be here in America prostitution is a big problem that is how a huge percentage of men and women contract STDs here. because prostitutes are not practicing safe sex here we assume that is how it is everywhere else. i want to apologize on everyones part if we offended you by saying be careful and talk to him about STDs

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...

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