When it comes to sex and a man’s penis size, there is a long standing, general belief that bigger is better. But is it? Do women really want their partner to be larger?

I know I’ve personally never cared much about size, and it seems that I’m pretty normal. If you do just a little research, you get become aware that, in general, women don’t really care if their partner has a big penis. In fact, many even believe that a too-big dick is as much of a turn off as a too-tiny one. It seems that average is good, and both very small and really big penises aren’t very desirable.

Unfortunately, there is no big, scientific or definitive study that can officially answer the question of penis size, but there is enough anecdotal and small study research to get a glimpse of what is probably true – especially when you add different sources together. So in this little article, I’m going to share three of them.

One small study of 105 women that asked women “what was a good looking penis” found that out of eight characteristics — general cosmetic appearance, skin, glans shape, scrotum appearance, public hair appearance, length, girth, and urethral opening — length and girth were almost last (beat out only by the urethral opening).

But that’s just 105 women. Solet’s turn to a larger survey. of 1,100 women by Cosmopolitan magazine surveyed 1,100 women about sex and 89% of the respondents said they weren’t concerned about their partner’s penis size. This is way above average, so this means that many women with partner’s having average or smaller than average penises weren’t concerned about it.

Still, both studies are only about numbers, and words are far more revealing. Chrissy Stockholm of Thought Catalogue asked 50 real women (mostly in their 20s), “Does dick size matter?” and the responses she got support the stats above. Women, overall, just aren’t too concerned about penis size.

Here’s what Chrissy’s respondents said:

1. Meryl, 28 “A super small/soft dick isn’t going to do anything but a huge dick hurts, usually, so like, it just needs to be normal sized/hard/he’s into it.”

2. Jennifer, 28 “It doesn’t matter to me as long as it isn’t too big or too small.”

3. Ali, 22 “I don’t want to be scared of it. Average is your friend.”

4. Ashley, 26 “It depends on a lot of factors — for me, it matters because I’m short so a dick that’s too big (read: long) definitely hurts in the “ow, you’re hitting my stomach” kind of way. But one that’s too small–you know, small enough to get lost in his pubic hair–doesn’t do anything for me (legit asked, ‘is it in?’). But essentially, it comes down to whether or not he knows how to use it…cliche, I know, but it’s the truth.”

5. Eve, 28 “Yes, my ex had a very short one that was thick and it did nothing for me.”

6. Alex, 28 “My last boyfriend had a long but super skinny one, which was weird. I don’t think it matters in general.”

7. Tiffany, 27 “I honestly can’t really tell if it’s bigger or smaller than the last guy or what’s “average.” I mean I would notice if it was huge or tiny, I think, but that’s never happened to me. They all look pretty much the same and I think the difference is if a guy knows how to fuck.”

8. Lacey, 29 “It doesn’t matter as much as whether a guy is good in bed.”

9. Rachel, 26 “One guy was TOOOO big. It felt like someone trying to fit their entire body inside me. He was literally like if someone was like “here let me put this jar of tomato sauce inside you.” Jeez, I’d love to but NO I FUCKING PHYSICALLY CAN’T.”

“Do more than belong: participate. Do more than care: help. Do more than believe: practice. Do more than be fair: be kind. Do more than forgive: forget. Do more than dream: work.” – William Arthur Ward

Considering the fact that women can enter into same sex relationships and be satisfied with their sex life – the hard truth of hhe matter is that penises are not as important to a relationship as they are to the man who is in possession of one!

Women are most often not able to climax with penetration alone as it is. So does a woman enjoy sex more if the guy is well endowed? It depends. On their specific situation and compatibility.

Most women aren’t as into sex as they are into intimacy, and you don’t need a penis for that.

Men don’t need a vagina either. So where does that leave us? People focus way to much on sex and not the really important stuff. It’s generally the very immature who care about sex. Mature adults don’t really care about sex.

I disagree…I consider myself normal..about 5.5 inches in length and about a 3′ girth… When my wife and I went to bed together for the first time..she looked at me (erect) and said…hmm…you’re kinda small, but that doesn’t make any difference. But it did. To me. Her first husband who beat the crap out her was hung like a horse from what I understand. After 10 years of her being completely silent when we have sex, I decided to get a dildo that somewhat represented her previous husband. Figured if I couldn’t satisfy her myself I would do the next best thing. OMG..talk about wake up the dead. She wanted me to push the whole thing in, even the rubber balls. I didn’t mind, really, I mean at least she was doing this with me. But it put an end to the assumption that I was doing anything for her. I think women that say normal is fine…are basically saying, anything is fine, just get it over with. As long as we have a good life together, the kids are good, our finances our good, we’re healthy, I’ll just let him climb on and think he just conquered Mt. Everest. It’s fine. We’ve been married 16 years…I’m 62 and she is 55. I don’t think most most women are being honest. They just don’t want to stir the pot. Just my opinion.

Well sad if she compared you to her ex, that’s disrespectful in my opinion, and honestly I don’t understand why people needs to use sex toys if we have everything to have a wonderful sexual life with our partners, I mean fingers, tonge, lips etc size doesn’t matter when you know how to use it…

Reminds me of tat joke ” A woman went to a doctor and complains tat my man shaft is so long tat it touches my liver.The doctor said ok m gonna cut some piece from it.The woman replied no no please shift my liver upwards” :p

Such a weird debate… I’ve never been a versus dick measurer… But I’m pretty sure it’s relative and a passion thing… I’m 6’2″ and I sit at right around 7 two finger girth … This for smaller petite girls can be an issue… Ladies my height seem to have less pain/ pleasure… I’m not huge… I know… But relative to me VS a lot of smaller girls it’s never been an issue… And regardless if I’m small or not… The partners whom I shared a strong connection with… We had no problems in the pleasure categories…

It’s like height in basketball. Size is an added advantage but skills come first. Great skills with small size beats great size with no skills every day of the week. Now if you’ve got both, you’re gonna score easily.

Average wins this one. One man I was with was so big I just couldn’t do it and we broke up. Another was long but skinny and did absolutely nothing for me. A man who knows how to please a woman also knows it has little to do with their penis.

People jave different size penises? I had no idea, I totally just thought everyones was the same. Now I have to go measure…be right back….. well it turns out I got the shit end of the stick on this one.

Any woman who isn’t a virgin, that says size means nothing, has clearly never had experience with a really small one. That said, too big isn’t so enjoyable either. Average is perfect but like many said, if they don’t know how to use it, it’s kind of pointless. That can go both ways of course…the man isn’t the only one expected to bring it.

Lol, couldn’t help but notice a many insecure men commented on this story … hey fellas, not being a jackass wins every time over penis size … being a insecure control freak with a bloated ego and no sense of humor is a huge turn off to women , contrary to what men think we are not visual like many men who embrace the superficial are ( judging us by our looks ), most of us women go for what a man has inside their hearts not the size of their package… but hey having a nice package in addition to a big heart is an added bonus …

Truth is, you cannot label sex. There is, in fact, no such things as ‘average’, ‘normal’ or ‘compromise’ in nature as such. Utter compatibiltiy, however, in body, mind and soul, may be a huge ‘let’s keep this thingy going’ for all those involved in a relationship.

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