Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

Addiction affects more than just the individual. This community is dedicated to the families and friends of individuals suffering from any form of addiction. Mental health professionals are increasingly considering alcoholism and addiction as diseases that flourish in and are enabled by family systems. Family members react to the addicted person with particular behavioral...

What Else Can I Do?

I have had several conversations with my alcoholic husband; each time I make sure to talk to him the next day, while he is sober. Each time, he promises to go to AA. He even went to the local chapter once; but he failed to go to an actual session.

He then proceeds to stay sober for a couple of days. However, he eventually goes on another drinking binge.

offer to go with him. i went with my boyfriend. it's nice to hear what other people have to say about how they got clean and he can get a sponcer (someone other than you) to help him when he is feeling like he needs to drink but in the long run this kinda stuff only works if he wants it. if he can commit to it. you cant do it for him.

I understand how you feel. It is a cycle and when you are on the upswing it is so easy to feel hopeful. But the facts remain that he has a disease and the pattern won't change until HE decides. It is out of your control. For so long I tried to control everything around.. where he went, who he talked to, if he had a situation to use, etc etc. The fact is it's exhausting. And it doesn't work.
It has to come from him..and unfortunately that usually happens when the addict is held accountable for their own behavior.. usuallly something jarring has to happen.. &quot;rock bottom&quot;.. losing the people around them.

I know youre scared, but talking to the people here will help. You can't force him to go to meetings.. but YOU can go to Alanon for yourself.

A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...

theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??

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