Advice

I'm not naive nor stupid. I'm in a emotionally abusive relationship. Today it turned physical when he hit the dog I got mad and he grabbed my arm really hard. I know what needs to be done. Everyone always says have a plan. I guess what I'm asking for is advice on how to get a plan together....where to start. Believe me my son will NOT be raised in this environment. Thanks

I'm not naive nor stupid. I'm in a emotionally abusive relationship. Today it turned physical when he hit the dog I got mad and he grabbed my arm really hard. I know what needs to be done. Everyone always says have a plan. I guess what I'm asking for is advice on how to get a plan together....where to start. Believe me my son will NOT be raised in this environment. Thanks

Document everything!!! Hoard money as much as you can when I left an a hole like this I worked all the ot I could I saved every penny for 6 months and saved up about 16000 perfect for a nice down payment for a modest house then I slowly started moving things everyday because I knew he would make a huge scene when I did move. Which he did but at least I got all my important stuff. Gl

Document everything!!! Hoard money as much as you can when I left an a hole like this I worked all the ot I could I saved every penny for 6 months and saved up about 16000 perfect for a nice down payment for a modest house then I slowly started moving things everyday because I knew he would make a huge scene when I did move. Which he did but at least I got all my important stuff. Gl

If possible contact an abuse shelter. Get all important documents together in a safe place. If possible find a friend or relative for a safe place to go. It's recommended to be safer to leave during the "good" times. Good luck.

If possible contact an abuse shelter. Get all important documents together in a safe place. If possible find a friend or relative for a safe place to go. It's recommended to be safer to leave during the "good" times. Good luck.

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From:
Reddz25

To: ALL

Posted: Dec-02 08:32 PM (6 of 11)

don't document sh#t....pack your things and move out when your man goes to work. just play it cool for now until you find a group of people who will help you move your things quietly. why in the hell would you stick around and document him abusing you and your innocent animals, for what he can give both you and the dog a black eye or better worse end up dead? move out when he is at work and get a restraining order. when the baby gets here file for primary physical and sole custody and child support. if he would harm you while you are carrying he will abuse the baby too. don't sit back thinking it will get better save and love yourself more than a relationship!

don't document sh#t....pack your things and move out when your man goes to work. just play it cool for now until you find a group of people who will help you move your things quietly. why in the hell would you stick around and document him abusing you and your innocent animals, for what he can give both you and the dog a black eye or better worse end up dead? move out when he is at work and get a restraining order. when the baby gets here file for primary physical and sole custody and child support. if he would harm you while you are carrying he will abuse the baby too. don't sit back thinking it will get better save and love yourself more than a relationship!

also don't move to your parents house or somewhere where he knows you are going to run to and can find you. look into an transitional living shelter for battered and abused women where he cannot find you and your safe, or of you have a coworker or family member who lives further than where you are current until you get on your feet. but if push goes to shove and your parents are your only option you just have to do what you have to do, but get out as soon a possible and while you are plotting keep your poker face on! good luck and many blessings

also don't move to your parents house or somewhere where he knows you are going to run to and can find you. look into an transitional living shelter for battered and abused women where he cannot find you and your safe, or of you have a coworker or family member who lives further than where you are current until you get on your feet. but if push goes to shove and your parents are your only option you just have to do what you have to do, but get out as soon a possible and while you are plotting keep your poker face on! good luck and many blessings

Get as much money together as possible. When you go shopping always get cash back (he will not know you are taking money that way), open a simple checking account and don't keep ANY of the documents at home but deposit as much or little as you can as often as possible. Make copies of all records you have together, bank accounts, gas, electric, loans, cars, ect. Plan a day in the very, very near future to leave when he is at work. You can always buy new stuff, take clothes your dog and what's important. I went through this in my mid 20's, you just have to leave.

Get as much money together as possible. When you go shopping always get cash back (he will not know you are taking money that way), open a simple checking account and don't keep ANY of the documents at home but deposit as much or little as you can as often as possible. Make copies of all records you have together, bank accounts, gas, electric, loans, cars, ect. Plan a day in the very, very near future to leave when he is at work. You can always buy new stuff, take clothes your dog and what's important. I went through this in my mid 20's, you just have to leave.

Don't mess around - just get out. I don't know where abouts you are, but in Aus we have DVConnect which is for emotionally and physically abused women providing a safe refuge - they get you counselling, a house, a place for your animals - they set you up to succeed, not fail and go back. Empty the bank account and take what you can - go into hiding and make sure you are protected, when the baby comes, do not list him as the father on the birth registration (if you can get away with it - legal here). He will promise to change - mine promises time and time again...I was trying to get out and waited to save enough money and I ended up in a pretty messed up way...don't waste time, if he catches on, his actions are unpredictable. From someone who has been here - I wish you all the luck in the world, it's not a nice place to be. Hope you work it out xxx

Don't mess around - just get out. I don't know where abouts you are, but in Aus we have DVConnect which is for emotionally and physically abused women providing a safe refuge - they get you counselling, a house, a place for your animals - they set you up to succeed, not fail and go back. Empty the bank account and take what you can - go into hiding and make sure you are protected, when the baby comes, do not list him as the father on the birth registration (if you can get away with it - legal here). He will promise to change - mine promises time and time again...I was trying to get out and waited to save enough money and I ended up in a pretty messed up way...don't waste time, if he catches on, his actions are unpredictable. From someone who has been here - I wish you all the luck in the world, it's not a nice place to be. Hope you work it out xxx

Forget about hoarding money and documenting. You or your baby may get seriously hurt before you have time to make those matter. Call your local police station and ask for local resources for women in abusive relationships. Whatever you do, don't keep it a secret. Things like this never get better until you deny him permission to put his hands on you.

Forget about hoarding money and documenting. You or your baby may get seriously hurt before you have time to make those matter. Call your local police station and ask for local resources for women in abusive relationships. Whatever you do, don't keep it a secret. Things like this never get better until you deny him permission to put his hands on you.

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