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When Is Not-So-Sexy... Oh-So-Sexy?

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Sharing private time...or working the room?

Charisse Lombardo-Moore, 38 Salvatore Moore, 35 Married nine years

CHARISSE: I feel sexiest when my husband and I are strongly connected. We're always close and love each other, but let's face it, after being together for 15 years, those emotions sometimes get lost in the everyday. But when we reconnect, it's powerful. For example, we went to Puerto Rico this year to celebrate my birthday. Every day we went to the beach, where we read and talked and took long walks. It was so calming and intimate. Later in the week, on the actual day of my birthday, Sal took me shopping for clothes. By this time, I felt so great about our marriage — and so incredibly desirable. To show him how I was feeling, I began modeling sexy bathing suits for him, something I've never done before. You could feel the sexual tension in the air!

SALVATORE: I find Charisse most attractive when we are out with a group of friends and she is sharing a story about a recent experience. She tells the story with such conviction and passion. Her smile is warm and generous, and everyone around us is always drawn to her and engrossed by what she's saying. I feel proud and always have an urge to get close to her. Her presence brightens any room in a way I can't fully describe. I would bet that any of the women we spend time with are envious and would give almost anything to walk just one mile in her shoes.

Belly dancing...or talking politics?

Jeanny Weinstein, 30 Ethan Weinstein, 36 Married three years

JEANNY: I feel so sexy when I belly dance. It's a very sensual movement. I just started taking classes and each time I go, I feel more and more in tune with my body. When I get good enough, I may do some dancing for Ethan. I think he'd like to watch me move like that!

ETHAN: I always find Jeanny sexy — she's gorgeous! But her interest in politics and her ability to talk intelligently about it is what I really find attractive. Jeanny grew up in a very nonpolitical household, but she's become a lot more informed and concerned about the world. We'll go see political documentaries together and spend lots of time afterward discussing them. I suppose, though, I like this part the best: Although Jeanny is a very amicable and tolerant person, she's been in situations where she's been surrounded by people who have strongly opposed her views — and she has always stood firmly by her beliefs no matter what. Watching her defend her ideas makes me want to scoop her up and take her into the bedroom.