Hi Bees! I am so excited that we have our venues booked! We have a guest list kind of panned out, but I am wondering what to do about my coworkers/boss. I work in a very very small office – as in there are only three others (including my boss). Literally. It will be a Friday wedding and while I will be taking that day off, and half a day off the day before (using vaca time) I haven’t included them on the list. That being said, should I invite them all? We all do things occassionally outside of work (the last one was a bbq back in August at my boss’s house). I am not talking about my wedding at all at work and when I told my boss I was engaged he asked me about it but I said thatwe were doing a small wedding and don’t know when (at the time I didn’t know when). I should add that I had made efforts to do stuff outside of work many times but never happen nor am I invited either. I just don’t want things to be weird. And I dohave plenty of time before invittes are due. What would you do?

It’s really up to you. From how you described it, it seems like it would be a nice gesture to invite them, but that no one would be offended if you didn’t. If you have space to include them (and their guests), then I’d go for it. If not, I wouldn’t be too upset over it.

Would you call them up to talk about something not work related? If you stopped working there, would you remain friends with them?

I voted no.

If you have the room in your budget and venue, it may be a nice gesture, but I don’t think you have to invite them. I would certainly NOT send a STD. If they left the company between now and your wedding, that would probably take them off the list, but you would have to invite them if you sent a STD.

@laceydoilies: I think it’s personal preference. I also work in a very small office (about 4-5 other people) and I’m not inviting anybody. The only time I see them outside of work are at work functions, like a Christmas party at the boss’ house.