I am preparing to ask out a good friend of mine on Valentine's day. I've been contemplating it for awhile, and probably have mentioned it numerous times beforehand.

What I was going to do is hand write a letter to her and attach it with a single Rose and leave it on her desk in her room (She lives right across from my room, and I'm friends with the others in the room so they won't mind). However I wouldn't sign it, and instead kinda leave it as a mystery. And while she would try to figure out who its from, I would try and help her figure out who it is, with the eventuality being that it was me all along.

I think the rose and note sounds romantic, if it's taken seriously, but I think I would be annoyed if I found out the guy who'd been helping me figure out the secret not only knew the answer all along, but was the person who left the note. I also would probably ask that guy beforehand if it was him. But you probably know this girl well and can gauge her reaction to these things. That's just how I would feel.

I think the rose and note sounds romantic, if it's taken seriously, but I think I would be annoyed if I found out the guy who'd been helping me figure out the secret not only knew the answer all along, but was the person who left the note. I also would probably ask that guy beforehand if it was him. But you probably know this girl well and can gauge her reaction to these things. That's just how I would feel.

Actually now that you mention it I'm not entirely sure if she'll do that.

I beg to differ... I've dated a lot of great guys... Although, I admit, that both my first husband and my husband-to-be were and are extraordinary men... But I tend to pick the sensitive, sweet ones... I dont like those stereotypical tough guys. It's okay if you cry in front of me. (My fiance cried at the end of Polar Express, right along with me! He also gets teary-eyed occasionally when expressing what I mean to him... I totally think he's going to cry while saying our wedding vows. )

I beg to differ... I've dated a lot of great guys... Although, I admit, that both my first husband and my husband-to-be were and are extraordinary men... But I tend to pick the sensitive, sweet ones... I dont like those stereotypical tough guys. It's okay if you cry in front of me. (My fiance cried at the end of Polar Express, right along with me! He also gets teary-eyed occasionally when expressing what I mean to him... I totally think he's going to cry while saying our wedding vows. )

If the girl I'm going for is into that sort of thing (which I'm not sure about) then it'll be perfect.

I beg to differ... I've dated a lot of great guys... Although, I admit, that both my first husband and my husband-to-be were and are extraordinary men... But I tend to pick the sensitive, sweet ones... I dont like those stereotypical tough guys. It's okay if you cry in front of me. (My fiance cried at the end of Polar Express, right along with me! He also gets teary-eyed occasionally when expressing what I mean to him... I totally think he's going to cry while saying our wedding vows. )

If the girl I'm going for is into that sort of thing (which I'm not sure about) then it'll be perfect.

Probably most girls are. The girls who have a man who's all stereotypical male are always trying to change the guy to be more sensitive... or they are constantly frustrated that he's not...

But there probably are some girls who like overtly masculine men... I dont know. I personally like good boys... Some girls are into bad boys.... Not me, really.

Today my students had to participate in a workshop called "Healthy Relationships" with a representative from one our local non-profit health organizations. The facilitator led the group of 45 17-18 year olds through a really good discussion on what was healthy, unhealthy, and neutral in romantic relationships. Even though some of the discussions were a little frank (we somehow veered into sexual addiction), I was really impressed by how level-headed and insightful these teenagers were. They could have goofed off to get laughs or ignored the facilitator, but all were mature and engaged.

I consider this teenage humanity's Valentine's Day gift to me. Now if only all these young people would practice what they were so able to preach!