Friendship With All Life – Humans
By Dr. JoyceFrom All-CreaturesChristian Living

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Friendship With All Life – Humans By Dr. Joyce of The Caring Heart Spokane, Wa.

“This is my commandment that ye love one another, as I have loved
you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his
friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. Henceforth I
call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth; but I
have called you friends, for all things that I have heard of my Father I have
made known to you.” (John 15:12-15)

The above words of Jesus to His disciples are really astounding, especially
in an age when the value of the individual person was very low. Jesus, the Son
of the Living God and Creator of the Universe, is talking about a friendship
relationship between Him and the men standing before Him, who are his disciples.
They are not servants, or lower than Him, but friends, which implies a
relationship of much more equality, like he was raising them up. Wow! Jesus was
still the Lord, though, and their friendship to Him was shown by their
obedience. Jesus seems to be saying that, if you obey me consistently, I can
trust you enough to share with you awesome truths concerning my Father.

The relationship of friendship does not appear to be a casual one in Jesus’
mind. Quite the contrary! Friends are to love one another as Jesus has loved us,
and to help and defend one another to the point of dying, if need be. Nothing
casual about that! Nothing temporary, either. Jesus means that friends are
people who voluntarily relate to one another out of mutual interest and caring,
and relate with genuine integrity. In short, they can trust one another and are
loyal. Committed.

Not all friendships need to involve the same level of commitment and
closeness, though. Jesus seems to have had a hierarchy of friends, with John
being the top favored, then the three, John, Peter, and James, then the group of
twelve disciples, plus miscellaneous others such as Lazarus. Mary Magdalene is
thought to have been a very close friend of Jesus. As far as we can tell, Jesus
was indeed loyal to his friends, considerate, care-giving, nurturing, and etc.
Jesus is a very perfect role model of someone who knows how to be a good friend.

What is especially awesome is that He offers His friendship to all of us who
want it and who obey Him. What an incredible privilege! In doing so, He raises
us up, even when we don’t seem to have the capacity to handle such a friendship
wisely. (If we will only be really committed, the Holy Spirit helps a lot.)

How Are Friendships Doing Today?

Well, on the whole, probably not so good. Although many people still have
quality, committed friendships which they maintain over the years, most
friendships today seem to be temporary and situation-based. That is, people are
friends as long as they are in proximity to one another in a situation, but when
the situation changes, the friendship dissipates. In so many ways, this is an
age of disposable relationships, including marriage. Years ago, when this nation
was still being formed, people needed those around them. People would spend
their whole lives in small towns, having lifetime friends there. Now, people are
very transitory. We go to impersonal businesses to have our needs met. In so
many neighborhoods, neighbors don’t neighbor anymore. Any real sense of
community has been lost, with all the security and stability neighborhood
relations afforded. Especially in the past few years, general trust in people
has deteriorated, so people are hesitant to open the doors to potential friends.
They tend to keep relatedness superficial, shunning any hint of commitment, or
of future plans together.

What’s The Cost?

Humans have been created gregarious by nature, as are many other species. We
need relationships with others of our kind, to be at our best (although animal
relationships surely help, too). We need the support and interest of others to
even maintain a firm sense of our social identity. If we have a close family
network, we are really blessed. But, even then, we benefit much from good
friends. What about people who don’t have close family networks? Such folks
really need good friends.

If people don’t have quality relationships, the cost to their personal
physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual systems can be, and usually is,
chronically very stressful. Loneliness, depression, anxiety, insomnia, anger,
bitterness, and the like plague them mentally and emotionally. In today’s world,
such maladies are ubiquitous. Alcoholism, drug addiction, suicide, eating
disorders, school drop-outs, crime, and so forth are all related to lack of, or
paucity of, good friendships. Troubled people team up a lot of times, though,
and become fast friends in their mutual misery and destructiveness. Physically,
all the stresses related to loneliness contribute to high cortisol levels in the
blood stream, which causes problems throughout the system. I have read that
cortisol and insulin are called death hormones, because they can kill and/or
have very bad effects upon body cells. Depression becomes not only an emotional
disorder, but a physical one, too, having wide systemic consequences. In
summary, lack of good friends really compromises people’s quality of life and
their health.

Let’s Follow Jesus’ Model

If we wish to follow Jesus’ example, and be really like Jesus, we need to
open the door to being good, nice, trustworthy friends to His children, however
old or young they may be. There’s no room for being like a “zombie,” with little
or no facial expression, or for “flat-lining it” by not letting people know what
we are thinking or feeling. No, we need broad smiles and welcoming, friendly
attitudes and expressions. Just as Jesus needed to know He could trust his
disciples, others need to know they can trust us, because we truly are
trustworthy. One caution, though – we should be careful who we open our hearts
and lives to. As we know, not all people out there are trustworthy. We
demonstrate real interest in others, and not just because we’re trying to sell
them something, or to “minister” to them. We come through with commitments and
are considerate. We don’t abandon friends or ignore them for long periods. .

Friends help one another get through life better. Find friends. Nurture them,
keep them. In doing so, we are really being friends of Jesus and are loving one
another as He commands us to.

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