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Don't say congratulations because......

I am so used to saying congrats when I find out someone is pregnant. However my mom said to me,

"You shouldnt say that to everyone. Heck you shouldn't even say unless you know without a shadow of a doubt that person is happy they are with child. No one planning to have an abortion wants to hear that. Would you?"

Now I have never had an abortion so I cannot fathom how it would feel or if it would make a difference.

So I ask you ladies, is it in bad taste to tell every expecting parent you come across congrats?

**Not bashing abortions or anything, don't know if I need to throw that out there or not.
**I have no idea what category this would even go in, sorry lol

Oh gosh no one can say anything right. You just can't win. If you ask if they are happy about it, they take that all personal and say "why shouldn't I be" and if you say congrats you are assuming they are happy?? I'm not a mind reader, and unless the person came to me in strict confidence about an unwanted pregnancy, I will congradulate them for their new baby on the way!

I tell everyone that announces their pregnancy congrats.. its like a woman with a large belly, you don't just walk up and say congrats, when are you due.. you wait for them to announce it and then congratulate

When a lady says they are preggo to me, I always ask, are you happy about it? If they are I congratulate them, and if they arnt, I offer to listen to their concerns. Not every lady who is preggo is happy about it.