Instant messaging allows very private, one-on-one communication
and instant feedback. You meet, and the typing and masturbation
begins. Now of course, this only works well when you
have the ability to type well, at a good pace, and you
and your partner are not afraid to masturbate. You do
know you have to touch yourself, right? Good spelling
may be optional but not necessary. But believe me when
I say, nothing upsets the person getting off than to
suddenly see someone wants to put a "clock"
in their pussy, instead of a "cock". The mood
can be irrevocably altered, as laughing fits tend to
produce the same effect as cold shower.

“well.....the spelling, it depends (like everything
else with me lol) on the person, if they make a mistake,
it's ok but I can't tell you how much it irritates me
when people don't know the difference between their,
there, and they're and you're and your...GOD that annoys
me and I would never cyber with someone who can't get
those straight...just my lil' pet peeve but an occasional
error doesn't bother me b/c we all make mistakes.”

Getting off in this manner isn't for everyone.

“I have yet to get off typing..somehow "gasp
gasp" "oh baby" as written words seem
to loose their power.”

You have to be able to use your imagination. Run their
words through your mind. Add a voice with gasps and
whispers and inflection and passion. Here is where good
description is essential. Describe the scene, include
as many senses as you can.

"One pitfall is trying to address the keyboard
and your desires at the same time."

The inevitable question...How do you type and jerk
off at the same time? There are several ways to remedy
this situation. The first is to take turns. Type to
you partner your thoughts. Make it a running of commentary,
allowing the other to, um, service themself. When they
have finished, you get your turn.

“It's easier to type, stop, type, stop. for however
long is necessary.”

Or, you could become very adept at typing one-handed.

“I didn't type and get off at the same time,
but re-read his words afterwards, and masturbated. So
did he, and then we'd tell each other what we did! Other
times we'd write a whole fantasy, and then the receiver
could masturbate without interruption.”

You might want to keep your messages to each other
short, maybe a sentence at a time. That way the receiving
partner is getting a steady stream of visual/mental
stimulation, rather than waiting for three minutes while
you type a paragraph. You might also want to settle
ahead of time how you are going to indicate to your
partner when you have had your orgasm. There’s
nothing more annoying to be typing your little heart
out, sharing your sexy thoughts to the silence on the
other end only to receive a message like, “Sorry,
I stepped out to clean up.”

Speaking of cleaning up - make like a Boy Scout and
always be prepared. You know you’re there to masturbate,
so make sure you’ve prepared your area before
you begin. Also, if you’re concerned that you
may be interrupted, please inform your partner that
it is a possibility.