This is a question for the men out there. Why is it that once a women shows interest in you the conversation always turns to sex? Do you believe that will make the women more interested in you?
I have had a few emails and conversations with a few so called gentelmen on this site and no matter what the conversation always turns to sex comments. I try to ignore them and hope these men will get the hint but nope, the more I try to change the topic the more they press for an answer. Can someone please explain this to me and am I waisting my time on here and just come to the fact that I am going to never find true love again?

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Just had another one.
Email after email.. Seemed very interested..but no phone calls. I guess he thought we didn't need to talk to eachother before he flew across the country to meet me!!! And apparently he was ready to fly across the country to meet me this weekend. His suggestion, not mine.
When I emailed him back saying OK but they'd be no sex .. poof... gone!
Seriously do these men really think that I'm going to be intimate with them.. the very first time we meet? Crazy. And dissapointing.
Why don't they just call in a hooker or go to the local tittty bar if they want a booty call....
Why contact women who are looking for something real... pretend to be sincere and then fly across the country .... just to be rejected!! Because that's what would have happened, I would have told him, no way...
I don't get these guys...
Calling in a hooker would be a lot cheaper and far more satisfying. Than flying across the country and getting nothing..
Don't you think?

Men do not know how to flirt if all you are getting is a sign they want sex. Flirting is an art form of personality and body language working together to give the giver all the advantage they need to attract the person they pursue. But when a guy makes it so obvious that his overall objective is to have a sexual experience rather than to just get to know you as an individual with intelligence and a creative mind, he has missed the point of flirting. A strong red flag to run away. You can not change him. He already blew his chance with you unless he acknowledges his flaw and wants to change it.

Time to change your game plan and meet guys in a different way. Personal sites are not the best way to meet men. Try meetup groups or Church groups. They may be more sincere.

maybe the key is to not ignore it but think of something that may turn them off...think of something so far out there that they will feel uncomfortable to change the subject themselves...I'm not sure what but there has to be something...

It's simple this site is not for women hoping to make a genuine connection.
Women on here are going to get scammed one way or another!
This is what the men on here want and expect. It could be any one, a combination of any of them or all of the following!!
Nude photos, phone sex, sexting, a sexual show on skype, booty call.
You drop what you're doing travel to his location ( where ever in the world that is ) and jump straight into bed with him.. These men will never mention traveling to see you.. And if you travel to see them, will never offer a hotel room for you. They expect you to stay in their house..
Or meet in Vegas or another location. But again no mention of seperate rooms because sex is their only goal.
A green card, if they are not American.
My 65 year old girlfriend was very flattered when a very good looking 20 something guy, contacted her from Spain. Hello... Green Card!
Money.. I had a guy just the other day pretending to be a Dr opening a new clinic.. It was going to make millions! As his "partner" what could I contribute to his venture!
LOL nothing... Goodbye!
Or they think they want a relationship, but really they're addicted to the chase, or the emailing..or something. Because they go on and on, but never mention meeting..
I have yet to come across a man on this site who is interested in getting to know me. Is capable of showing any respect at all. And genuinely is hoping to make a connection with ONE woman!
I think a lot of the men just get off on fantasy and womens photos on here..
They email a couple of times, create a fantasy for themselves. Get off! And move on to the next fantasy woman!!
If you're looking for a decent, genuine man. This is not where you're going to find him.
It's not you.. And it's not all men..
It's just the men on this site and sites like it..
And unfortunately there are too many women who fall for the lies and deceit and pervs. Easy targets. These guys send out as many emails and winks as they can, in the hope of baiting and hooking a woman here and there!
It really quickly becomes obvious that it's all about sex, money or the lonely hearts club of endless emails!!!
There is a chance you'll find love and respect and happiness.. There are great guys out there. But not here!
And I don't care what replys I get, or if I get any at all.
This is not the place you're going to meet an honest, decent man who's looking for a relationship with ONE woman..
And. If a man mentions sex in his intial emails or phone conversations. It's because that's all he wants from you. Just delete him and/or end the conversation.
Don't let it get to you.. and don't worry about him.. He's already moved on is emailing or winking at his next targets!
Amazingly men in the real world.. can converse without ever mentioning sex. Go through an entire dinner out, without ever mentioning sex. Treat you with respect and sincerity..
Yes they want sex, but it's not the ONLY thing they want..
Don't take this site seriously and don't give up on love. Just look for it elsewhere...