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I’m not full time yet but have been on hrt for 3 months. Live in the same town as my parents but I have my own place. He is a great dad and has been nothing but supportive but I can still tell he is hurting on the inside .

I agree with the others. Just keep moving forward and give him time to come to terms with this. If there are specific activities you and your dad enjoy doing together, keep doing those things with him to show that you are still the same person on the inside.

This is something I am dealing with, but it is my mom instead of my dad. Honestly, I do not think there is much you can do except for being happy. In the end, parents just want their kids to be happy, and to live a life without regrets or sadness. My mom is willing to suffer in order for me to be happy, and the only way to make it better is to be happy, because it will let them know that this is the right path.

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When life shuts a door...open it again. Its a door. That is how they work.

I agree with all that others have said above, and I might also recommend checking out PFLAG... they may have a chapter near you specifically for parents of Transgender children (even grown-up children). I've seen several parents benefit greatly from talking with their PFLAG friends.

He’s not going to feel otherwise until you transition. In his mind you’re going to become one of those sassy divo gay guys.Because I’m 99% sure my mom thought I was going to because one ofthose guys who punched holes in walls and eats mutton.

I think when he sees you transition and sees how happier you arehe won’t feel that way. The only thing changing is your appearance and probably your confidence.

I'm the mommy of a AFAB teen and speaking from experience he just needs time to process probably. If you have a good relationship with him just do things together and gently remind him that you are still you. You;re just being true to yourself and in the end like another poster said parents want their kids to be happy. I know when I see how happy my son is it makes me feel so pleased. I hope you aren't feeling guilty. You have no reason to feel guilty. You are doing the right thing. Sending you big hugs.

I can totally relate to this post , me and my dad are really close , like best friends. I’ve told him all about my plans etc and although he did say as long as your happy , I too could tell he was heartbroken , to which hurts me. I cried a lot and he said why does it matter what clothes you wear. I tried to explain it’s not just about the clothes and it’s not a choice , I was wired this way from conception. I really think he will come round to it , just don’t forget that they are going through a transition aswell as you.

Thanks for all the words of advice everyone. I’m sure he will come around once he sees me living the right life and being happy but right now I think he is still grieving. I’ve tried to tell him I’m not going anywhere and it’s still me but it doesn’t seem to be helping. I guess this is one of the things that time will have to heal. Great advice though to make an effort to continue doing the things we have always done together and not let this stop us from having fun together as we are and have always been really close.