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Splitting time between grandparents

My mom watches our 3 month old while my husband and I are at work. Each weekend, my husband and I make sure that we visit with his Mom so she gets to spend time with our son as well, especially because she works two jobs and is really only home on the weekends. Lately it seems that my husband is becoming resentful of the amount of time that our son spends with my Mom, but does not want him in daycare and we can't afford for one of us to stay home. I don't mind visiting with his family at all and want my son to be close to both of his grandma's because husband and I are both very close to our Mom's...but sometimes it is hard to spend all day Sunday, do housework, grocery shop and spend time with the baby ourselves...how do I get him to understand that if I don't spend all day with his family that I am not leaving them out or favoring one grandparent vs. the other. I know the bottom line is that our family is lucky to have so many people who love us, but nonetheless, its frustrating.

Mom Answers

For starters, if his parents can't watch him, that just what it is nothing you can do about that.....and talk with him see what he's feeling, maybe he could take ur son over a day and you stay at home and get things done... the other thing is what he thinks needs to be done at home and what you think are probably way different, he assumes that things magically happen like most husbands, until they have to spend the weekend trying to get it done. and I would also look at it this way, in 2 years will it matter that you did housework or that you spent time with the fam.....If something happens to me, I know I spent as much as with my family as I can... and if the house gets a little messy so be it.....

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