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Take charge of your healing. You are not alone on this journey, but only you can do the work necessary for your own heart. These two simple techniques will turn that burning pain into amazing strength. You are stronger than you think!

Narcissistic people can turn the most confident person in the world into a messy ball of doubt and confusion. They are experts at the verbal games they play. Learn their tricks and walk away from them!

The covert narcissist plays out rejection, abandonment, and abuse in extremely discreet and manipulative ways. It is so hidden that it takes years to see, if you ever see it at all. As their victim, you feel beaten down and empty and don’t even know why. Open your eyes and break out of their game!

When we have experienced abuse in our life, our perspective of reality suffers. Abuse comes in many forms and from many different types of relationships. It can be physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, child abuse, spousal abuse, and so on. When any of these happen, life gets blurry for the victim, and you often don’t even realize it. Seeing life from outside of your own perspective is a large part of the healing process.

It is so easy to talk ourselves into staying in a painful and abusive relationship for way too long. Just because someone else may be in a worse situation than you does not mean that you shouldn’t tend to your own pain and get help.

When does a relationship with a narcissist get worse? When that narcissist decides that they must “fix” the relationship. When they decide to “take charge” of making things right. This is a disaster! This is emotional abuse at its best.

Recovery from a narcissistic relationship is no small task in life. I have broken it down into 3 phases: Victim, Survivor, and Victor. It is possible to get past all the abuse and see life as a beautiful thing again. Where are you on your journey?

Do I stay or do I leave? Do I file or do I wait? These are very tough questions. When you add kids to the equation, it is extremely complicated. The best advice I have is to listen to your heart. It already knows what to do.

Narcissistic relationships are the most confusing things. The emotional roller coaster you find yourself on is unbelievable and crazy-making. At one point, this person was the love of your life. And you still see glimpses of that from time to time. Yet the abuse between those glimpses is devastating. Your heart feels like a ping pong ball ricocheting back and forth. In the midst of this chaos, please know that it is okay to have feelings for them and yet to still walk away!