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Topic: Insertive Fellatio With a HIV+ CSW (Read 3049 times)

Good Evening Good people. First of i want to thank the moderators and members for running such a tight ship and for the wealth of information on Hiv you provide us Neanderthals . Sorry my English is not that Grand so bare with me.

My Story starts In South Africa. On A faithful Saturday night i made a bad decision i am responsible for. One week to date I met a Csw who looked healthy and what started out with me being unaware of the lady in question being a csw turned into a full on act of unprotected insertive fellatio which lasted 10 minutes. After this act of inhibition i proceeded home and a day later i met some one who seen me talking to her and he revealed he knows her personally and he disclosed troublesome information. He told me She is a Junkie and On Heroin and Meth and her husband was his mate and he passed away of hiv related sickness last year so did her child. I then proceeded to think about this situation and came to a conclusion That i need to Google the internet/visit a General practitioner and Evaluate My exposure before making a informed decision on my options. I consulted a young doctor who told me my risk is negligible at most, I asked him if i should start a Prep Regime but he was reluctant to offer it to me and told me to breath il be fine and at the 4 week mark i should do a test for my peace of mind. Not happy with his synopsis i Googled this topic extensively and discovered that the statics for hiv acquisition via route of oral sex is 0.0-0.04 % which roughly translate to either 0% likelihood or 1-20000 which roughly translates to receiving blowjobs for 55 years everyday and still having a good chance of not contracting it. What Bothers me is the fact she is a a amphetamine user meaning she might have bad oral health and possibly chewing the inner lining of her mouth. She is also possible not on a effective combination of ARV's causing her viral load to be astronomical. She also performed deep-throat on me which could of cause a fracture or fisher in the delicate lining of the Throat resulting in the exchange of infected blood via my urethra. I did not have any visible soars or pain anywhere near my penis prior to the incident but did have shaving rash around my pubic area and after the exposure i did not see any blood near my penis or surrounding areas. I am a very sexual person and usually have sex every second day and every other day i masturbate for a hour or so which leads me fear that the act of masturbation might cause tiny damage to my urethra because im not gentle but not like im chocking him to death if that makes sense.

Since My exposure i have developed a Singular lymph-node in my neck as well as a few lymph nodes around my groin these are pretty noticeable and painful, I also have one around my Knee cap. I started to developed body ace as well the shits but they subsided and a lower tummy pain which leads me to believe that it has something to do with my upset tummy.

i am freaking out and in a relationship and my partner is expecting our child which i am so concerned i will infect so im avoiding sex completely. I am loosing sleep and i can not even concentrate at work as im waiting for symptoms to develop, counting the days. Im barely surviving and loosing my mind and its effecting my mental state. I know i need to see a physiologist after this incident and after i know what im dealing with. I need your honest opinions and please dont sugar coat it. Give it to me straight and raw im a big boy and can deal with it and once i know the reality i can do whats in the best interest of my family and move forward.

A) Do i need to start testing with PCR Qualitative and PCR Quantitative at the 2 week mark and then eliza 4th generation at 4 weeks and 6 weeks as well as 13 week mark?

B) Should i stay away from intercourse from my spouse completely coz i do not want to infect her?

C) Have any of you met anyone who got infected in this manner.

D) Should i go meet with a HIV specialist?

E) Are my symptoms ARS related ?

F) Does High viral load due to lack of ARV'S negate the breaking down properties of Hiv by saliva

Thank you from the bottom of my heart and the depths of my soul for reading this frantic post. Please dont spare my feelings if you can shed light on my risks which in turn could save my ms and kids life. Thank you once again and God Bless

I pretty sure your only concern is getting your dick sucked ? that is allot to read . Its not a risk for HIV so you do not have to worry .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Thank you so much for your swift reply, I really appreciate it sir. Im really sorry to bother you but could some please explain to me from a scientific point of view why is this not a issue i need worry about. I had a hiv test done 2 months ago and it was negative. So should i just test over this incident?

You do not need to test over a no risk blow job . The theoretical risk for oral transmission of HIV comes into play from GIVING blowjobs to a man with a high HIV viral load while you have significant wounds in your mouth . Getting a BJ is not a risk .

As for testing, you do not need to test over this specific incident .

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Saliva is NOT infectious therefore getting your dick sucked is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Before you go there with the whatiffs about blood or whatever in her mouth, unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before they blow you, there could not possibly be enough blood present to cause the least hiv concern.

You got a NO HIV RISK blowjob. Dial back the drama and get on with your life.

"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Good Evening Admin. With Regret and shame i am back. To cut a long story short i met a woman who was going thru a divorce and basically me being me i made a joke with her saying if she went for a full std screening and hiv test and gave me the results i would consider take her serious, Thinking she would not and i would never sleep with her. Well she did exactly that & she was negative and her full sti panel was clear/clean. on the 1st of March 2014. We had sex once and it was protect. Anyway we then proceeded to have sex on the 1st of April and it was protected and during sexual intercourse she got of and the condom seemed intact and i slipped my penis into her anus very roughly and fast/hard maybe causing a tear within her rectum wall because she screamed with pain and said it was extremely soar. Anyway i carried on before being interrupted and when i pulled out i noticed the condom was torn in half. The anal part of it lasted 2-3 mins max.

After this i freaked out badly and went to see a specialist physician who proceeded to tell me that if she tested negative 4 weeks prior to the incident i should not stress to much but if i really am worried to death i should ask the lady to just repeat a test. On the 14th of April which was 6 weeks and 2 days after the first test, she tested negative again via eliza 4th generation. I last tested negative on the 25th of February 2014 and at this point i never had any other sexual encounter with anyone other then my partner in 2 years. Does this exposure warrant testing. My doctor does not think so and ses if i really want peace of mind i should test 4 weeks in and dont test again coz its not needed to test in the first place. Im experiencing watery stools ( diarrhea ) for 4 weeks on and of. im fine for 3 days days and my tummy runs for 2/3 days and then normalizes. I also had a throat infection which went away but now there are 3 lymphnodes in my neck what are slightly swollen and painful and they go away and come back. They still soft and movable and dont feel sinister But the fact the diarrhea and nodes keep coming back every week is freaking me out. Please give it to me straight and real. Am i at risk? I can get this thought out of my head that i cant trust myself so how can i trust this lady who repeatedly tells me she only slept with me and i have nothing to stress about. What if she did sleep with some one and is in the incubation period seriously im stressed.

The fact that the condom failed does not mean you were exposed, but it does mean you had a risk and will need to test. You cannot go by what anyone tells you about their status, as they might not know it themselves. If you are concerned about this incident, then test, as symptoms cannot determine your status: only testing will.

You can not go by another persons HIV test because you cant trust what a person said and the window periods can be confusing . I refuse to take another persons HIV into consideration when I do a risk assessment . The bottom line is the only test that matters is your own . If you have had unprotected vaginal or anal sex then you must test at 6 weeks after any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results ... no exceptions .

Below is a cut and paste I include with most every assessment I do here so please read it and understand it even though you may have seen it before .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!