If you can tolerate reading about “getting into the feeling place,” “getting that buzz” and sending “good vibrations,” then perhaps professional matchmaker (and former model and actress) Martenson has some wisdom for you. She recommends gaining self-confidence with daily affirmations (“Love pours into my life from every corner of the universe”), accentuating the positive, “let go of the negative” and love will come. More usefully, she emphasizes knowing what you do and don't want in a soul mate and how to assess whether a relationship is headed in the right direction. (Feb.)