I used to think that dating non-Asians, more specifically white was a last option. Nowadays it’s more like a final frontier, like space… somewhere I’ve never been before. But is that ‘somewhere’ better than here??? Read more

During the past 3 months here in NYC it seems like a phenomenon has taken place out of the blue. On any given weekend day I will spot at least 30 mixed race couples comprised of an Asian woman with a White male. My question to you Maigal is, where are these couples meeting up? I mean are there special clubs or social events taking place here in NYC where they are meeting or is there a special Match.com version where Asian chicks meet White dudes? I happen to be a 30 yr old SWM and have no problem when it comes to dating but I never find myself in a situation to meet an Asian woman and would love the chance to do so. I would appreciate any information you can offer.
Answer:

Hi John,

Thanks for your comment on myhappyfinds.com. I’m not sure where all those couples are meeting up but I can tell you the best places to find Asian women.

First off, lets approach any response or comments to Maigal’s article with some rational thought. As an Asian male, the one thing I pride myself on is being able to handle almost any situation with calm and rationale thought. This is what separates us from the other sex. Now fellas, I’m sure a lot of you were a bit offended by some of the comments and stereotypes from the article. I was offended myself, but after some careful thought, found that some of the points were true, others a bit off.

On the penis size issue, this is definitely an overused stereotype. Maybe it’s true maybe it’s not. I can’t speak for everyone, but having seen a few penises in my day (lockers rooms, gyms, NOT in my room), I can honestly say that size and shape varies across the board for all men, including race. Although I have seen some porn’s with black guys who had penises that could have passed for tree limbs. I don’t really know what was going on there, all I know is those things were so big that they would have torn most women in two. I know what I’ve got going on down there, and it’s always been sufficient to get the job done. Seriously though, the penis size is really not a big deal and in reality most women don’t care that much. Even if it is ridiculously small, just remember, not the size of the boat that matters, just the motion of the ocean. I think most women would prefer a big wallet to a big penis anyway, just my personal thought on the matter.

Height. I think any woman will tell you she wants her man to be at least taller than herself. That means that for those 6 ft. tall models out there, there are only a handful of men that will fit that mode. Luckily for Asian men, most Asian women are fairly small and petite. So as long as you find a girl slightly smaller than yourself, you’re golden. If you’re 5’7”, there are literally millions of women out there who are available to you, as most women are around 5’4”. The only thing separating some of the smaller men from larger men is perceived confidence. One of the biggest players I’ve ever met, a friend of mine from Chicago was literally 5’5” on a good day, but had the charisma and confidence of a 7 footer. I’ve seen it with my own eyes that numerous women, when met by an interesting and confident man did not care at ALL about height. I think height means very little.

Asian men are more selective of Asian women. I think this is pretty true. If you are an Asian male, there are a lot of beautiful Asian women out there to choose from. This is a fact of life. And especially in a place like New York, there just seems to be more women than men. I think there are two types of Asian women that date white guys.

No matter how much I bitch about my life, there is one thing in this world that I am grateful for. I am grateful to be born as an Asian woman. You can walk anywhere in this city, including the Village or Soho and you will see a lot of interracial dating involving Asian Women. I don’t know how to phrase it without sounding arrogant, but we Asian women are highly desired by all kinds of men. I asked some of my white male friends as to what it is they love so much about Asian women. They told me they love our exotic good looks – small sensual eyes, sweet plump lips, silky black hair, ageless skin and our petite little bodies that don’t blow up and become super-sized after pushing out kids. I’m not sure if I agree with the silky hair part because my hair is a bit nappy, but for the most part, they are right. Now, we know why white guys love Asian girls so much, but what is it exactly that some Asian women love so much about Caucasian men?