mind control

Hypnosis is a tool for foraging… and forging the mind. It encourages your subconscious mind to allow the changes you desire in your conscious life.

You have planted in your subconscious mind all the memories of your lifetime – everything that you have ever seen, heard, smelt, tasted, felt, or thought. That’s right, all your senses and feelings, all that you have ever known, is seeded in your subconscious mind.

Sometimes the mind gets short-circuited or bent-out-of-shape, but you can re-forge those pathways. You have the ability if you have the desire. Open for change. Relax your feelings. Be your best.

Hypnosis is a state that everyone experiences each day. You daydream, space out, get into a zone, read a book, get into a television show, or pull into the driveway and wonder who drove the car home, because you don’t remember doing it! All these experiences are hypnoidal states.

Right now, while reading this, you are in a light stage of hypnosis and your subconscious mind is making all kinds of connections and computations relating to the statements that I have written. As you continue reading this blog post you will observe the process. There may be statements in this article or in other articles here, which affect your mind in such a way that you change your attitude, desires, or the way you perceive your life and your expectations of moving forward in life. Therefore, reading this blog is also a kind of hypnosis!

The Secret, a best-selling book and film by Rhonda Byrne, has popularized the concept of the universal Law of Attraction in mainstream society since it was published more than a decade ago. Yes, there is such a law, but most people’s understanding of this law is that it depends solely on the conscious mind – what we think is what we become. But in truth it has nothing to do with our conscious mind. If it did, all the Law of Attraction gurus in the world would be rich without working, skinny without dieting, have muscles without working out, and in love with a perfect mate without having to apply any relationship skills.

The conscious mind, our wishful thinking, our conscious desires and appetites, does not drive our lives. Mainstream Psychology knows this. Famous Austrian psychoanalyst and neurologist, Sigmund Freud popularized the concept of the unconscious mind and believed that it was a repository of thoughts, memories, feelings, which our conscious mind is reluctant to accept. Sigmund Freud’s theory of personality divided the human mind into 3 levels: the conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mind. The conscious mind, he believed, only represents 10% of our mental capacity.

Family dynamics can be tremendously complex. These relationships are multi-layered and may have played out for ages. Next to love relationship, and then business, family relationships are at the top of the list for many of my clients.

For many family is a love-hate scenario, which can be particularly challenging. It is said we cannot choose our family, but we can choose how and when, or if, we interact with them. However, severing family ties is a big step and not one taken lightly. By the time this happens the drama, or abuse has been ongoing for years – many times beginning in childhood. A childhood that in spite the passage of time is as fresh and painful as it was when it occurred. If money and or control are woven into the mix, the matter doubles in complexity.

It’s an unfortunate truth that many of the people that I speak with, especially empaths, intuitives and highly sensitive people, have family histories that are rife with conflict, and often also abuse. They often share a feeling of not belonging, being singled out, or being the scapegoat of the family. The suffering is long-term and tragic, with the scars running deep.

Why are narcissists and empaths often drawn to one another? This is a phenomena many of us empaths fall victim to. Which, at first, may seem odd, since empaths and narcissists are polar opposites! But, maybe that is the key? Opposites attract.

But, what’s more profound, is that the narcissist preys upon the empath’s dedication to healing those who are emotionally wounded or scarred. By nature empaths are deeply caring, compassionate people. The empath’s purpose in life is to support healing in others, yet due to their intense sensitivity, empaths often struggle to create healthy boundaries for themselves, giving in to martyrdom, victimhood, co-dependency, and chronic self-sacrifice.

An empath will do anything in their power to help or heal another. And, will not easily give up or walk away. This makes them prime targets for the narcissist.

There are different types of narcissists. But, for this article, I will discuss the most common. And, that is the Amorous Narcissist. They tend to measure their self-worth and grandiosity by how many sexual conquests they have conquered. This type of person is known for using their charm to ensnare others with attention, flattery and gifts. But, they dispose of their target once they become bored or when their needs have been served. The target typically won’t so much as get an explanation, much less a goodbye.

In letting something into your life you have to understand its value. This is the same with advice, or with people you get involved with. This also means when you have the ability to listen into someone’s life, you have an opinion, but it does not necessarily equate the truth.

In turning people on or off, you can count on one thing: hurt feelings… no matter how much harm they have done to you, or how much harm you have done to them. In a world where technology has empowered us to feel that have the ability to listen into others thoughts, let’s take a moment to truly listen to their feelings, or feel with them.

We do not need to be sociopaths through the ability to listen in and gossip. The power may be intoxicating for those that do so, but the control is false, and their needs exaggerated and self-centered. After all, they regurgitate just one point of view. And these poor listeners never tell you how they are doing… they only regurgitate what they think you are doing, as a form of entertainment, because they are feeling out of control.

The love of a spiritual teacher is not human love and this is often misunderstood in our Western culture. Many people are drawn to spirituality because they are profoundly lonely. For those looking for the love of a teacher, you can count on that loneliness to be a profoundly unconscious desire to be connected to the Self and to Spirit.

On a dangerous note, this is how cult leaders thrive, by preying on those who don’t realize they are seeking spiritual love, and by offering a manipulative human love. Human love can never fill the gaping hole, and because cult leaders tend to be sociopaths, it can take years for cult followers to wake up. By then there will be a great deal of damage control needed in order to heal.

Good ideas come not from going against, or trying to form contrary reactions. Good ideas come from intuition and instinct, those which feel natural in the sense of being able to nurture, rescue and look after oneself. Should the idea feel good to oneself, then it should be applied to others.

Does this sound obvious to you? Well, it is not always so. What I have found in offering advice, is that paid advice is usually the most helpful to my clients, as the person will then be more prone to follow the advice. They have made the effort to invest in it.

Should one perhaps listen to a teacher you do not like, or a neighbor or acquaintance you feel may frustrate you, then good advice can become harm. Why? Because they are trying to take well-meaning intuitive and instinctive rational efforts to obstruct the passage of someone else trying to live their life, and it may turn into gossip, or information with a bias. It can be seen as controlling, or meddling.