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When im giving a female oral I like her clit and her labia while fingering her with my right hand (usually index and middle finger) by raking the roof of her ceiling of her vagina, usually with freestyled patterns. With my left hand I usually rub her clit vigorously or play with her nipples.

Me personally... "freestyle patterns" don't do me any good if the goal is orgasm. Licking the labia doesn't either. Everything feels good, sure... but if the goal is orgasm, it's all about firm (not frantic or hard), rhythmic, and consistent movement. Focus has to be on the clit and the gspot. Flat tongue rather than pointed. Sucking (gentle but firm) on the clit is always good. Pretty much just do that till you're pretty sure you're gonna die... Yep. Again though, that's just me. Every woman is different.

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You should definitely ask your partner at the time if you can work it into the moment. I prefer something softer to begin with. Licking all over is good and not just concentrating on the clitoras for me because that can be alittle to much especially in the beginning. Adding 1-2 fingers is good for me as well. The more you talk to your partner about it the more she may open up )

Well, I can tell you it wouldn't work on my wife (she doesn't like being fingered) although I'm sure it would work for some.

In my experience with women and cunnilingus, what snarkysuccubus said about it would come closest to what would work for the majority of women. When starting off, variety is good, kissing the inner thighs, gentle licking around the labia majora and between the labia majora and minora, teasing apart the labia minora with your tongue and running your tongue up alongside the clit and lightly flicking your tongue over it (keeping it well-lubricated either with her juices or your saliva, usually both) with light (but not too light) stroking of her perineum, belly, inner thighs.

Once she is well-warmed up though, most women need you to focus on the clit and settle into a steady, predictable rhythm so that she can focus on it and build up to orgasm. As she said, a flat tongue often works better than a pointed one. And you never stop until she grabs you by the ears and pulls you off.

Eating pussy is like starting a woodworking project. If you are going to have a good result, you need to exercise care and patience and never focus on how long it is taking. Otherwise it is a waste a time and good wood.

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It would be much easier to ask whoever you're with, as women like different things. For example, personally I hate it when a guy plays with my nipples. They're hypersensitive, and it's an irritant to me. But some guys just think that because their last 10 girlfriends liked their nipples played with, that it's ok to do it to everyone.

I haven't had a guy go down on me in so long, I forgot what it feels like.. lol

Well, I can tell you it wouldn't work on my wife (she doesn't like being fingered) although I'm sure it would work for some.

In my experience with women and cunnilingus, what snarkysuccubus said about it would come closest to what would work for the majority of women. When starting off, variety is good, kissing the inner thighs, gentle licking around the labia majora and between the labia majora and minora, teasing apart the labia minora with your tongue and running your tongue up alongside the clit and lightly flicking your tongue over it (keeping it well-lubricated either with her juices or your saliva, usually both) with light (but not too light) stroking of her perineum, belly, inner thighs.

Once she is well-warmed up though, most women need you to focus on the clit and settle into a steady, predictable rhythm so that she can focus on it and build up to orgasm. As she said, a flat tongue often works better than a pointed one. And you never stop until she grabs you by the ears and pulls you off.

Eating pussy is like starting a woodworking project. If you are going to have a good result, you need to exercise care and patience and never focus on how long it is taking. Otherwise it is a waste a time and good wood.

I'll share this with you, a thing TheBF does that no one else has ever done. Before he gets to the actual licking, TheBF will sometimes do this kiss/suck/bite thing on the area above my pubis mont, just like you would on a woman's neck below her ear. It feels wonderful and drives me wild. Instant wetness! No one else had ever done it to me before, so it's not something I could request for him to do.

Also, I love it when he uses his hands while he's down there, touching my thighs, my hips, my waist, all the way up to my breasts. Feels so luxurious! A lot like when a woman touches your abs or grabs your ass while she's sucking you.

For orgasm, I prefer clit focused licking only myself, but I like it when he starts off all over and gives my labia some attention, sort of like when a woman pays your balls some attention before she puts your cock in her mouth to suck you off, I imagine.

Pay attention to her sounds. When she moans the loudest, try redoing what you were doing that made her respond like that. Sometimes I can't exactly tell what he just did with his tongue, so I couldn't describe it if I tried, but I am communicating with my "oooOOOHHoo" and moans.

I've never been into fingering during oral, but it's possible that someone else's technique would work for me. I do enjoy g-spot stimulation with toys. TheBF very rarely ever fingers me during oral sex. Now I'm curious... Maybe a toy would be better than his fingers for this. I wonder how coordinated he is... Hmmmm..... :33:

Well, I can tell you it wouldn't work on my wife (she doesn't like being fingered) although I'm sure it would work for some.

In my experience with women and cunnilingus, what snarkysuccubus said about it would come closest to what would work for the majority of women. When starting off, variety is good, kissing the inner thighs, gentle licking around the labia majora and between the labia majora and minora, teasing apart the labia minora with your tongue and running your tongue up alongside the clit and lightly flicking your tongue over it (keeping it well-lubricated either with her juices or your saliva, usually both) with light (but not too light) stroking of her perineum, belly, inner thighs.

Once she is well-warmed up though, most women need you to focus on the clit and settle into a steady, predictable rhythm so that she can focus on it and build up to orgasm. As she said, a flat tongue often works better than a pointed one. And you never stop until she grabs you by the ears and pulls you off.

Eating pussy is like starting a woodworking project. If you are going to have a good result, you need to exercise care and patience and never focus on how long it is taking. Otherwise it is a waste a time and good wood.

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:notworthy: :fing02: aaannnnnddddd where's the sign up sheet for the classes you should surely be teaching?

When im giving a female oral I like her clit and her labia while fingering her with my right hand (usually index and middle finger) by raking the roof of her ceiling of her vagina, usually with freestyled patterns. With my left hand I usually rub her clit vigorously or play with her nipples.

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I am da man overall, but I have a breathing problem that's going to be fixed hopefully with surgery next week (nasal passages being rebuilt) and that has really bothered me during oral because I can deep throat my guy for a little then I have to stop and take a break because I can't breathe while I'm doing it. I have been lucky to have a supportive partner who acts like he doesn't notice, but I really hope after this is fixed (obviously blowjobs aren't the primary reason for the surgery) that I can truly pleasure him by staying on his cock for as long as he needs rather than starting and stopping like I do now.

QUOTE=petite;2884592]I'll share this with you, a thing TheBF does that no one else has ever done. Before he gets to the actual licking, TheBF will sometimes do this kiss/suck/bite thing on the area above my pubis mont, just like you would on a woman's neck below her ear. It feels wonderful and drives me wild. Instant wetness! No one else had ever done it to me before, so it's not something I could request for him to do.

Also, I love it when he uses his hands while he's down there, touching my thighs, my hips, my waist, all the way up to my breasts. Feels so luxurious! A lot like when a woman touches your abs or grabs your ass while she's sucking you.

For orgasm, I prefer clit focused licking only myself, but I like it when he starts off all over and gives my labia some attention, sort of like when a woman pays your balls some attention before she puts your cock in her mouth to suck you off, I imagine.

Pay attention to her sounds. When she moans the loudest, try redoing what you were doing that made her respond like that. Sometimes I can't exactly tell what he just did with his tongue, so I couldn't describe it if I tried, but I am communicating with my "oooOOOHHoo" and moans.

I've never been into fingering during oral, but it's possible that someone else's technique would work for me. I do enjoy g-spot stimulation with toys. TheBF very rarely ever fingers me during oral sex. Now I'm curious... Maybe a toy would be better than his fingers for this. I wonder how coordinated he is... Hmmmm..... :33:[/QUOTE]