I like blowing my boyfriend more than he really wants it, but it's not really as any compensation, it's just when the mood is right. It's super cool to get pleasure from pleasuring someone else. People should try it more.

Same here. It's one of my favorite aspects of intimacy with my partner. I love the feeling of him filling my mouth and controlling the tempo. I also use both hands in various ways which makes for fun exploration. I just blew him 12 hours ago and I'm already craving it again!

I'm not a fan. My girlfriend loves giving me head but I just want to have good sex with my girlfriend but she wants it to "be about me." I appreciate the thought but I would rather just have good passionate sex most times.

While I fully agree that the best BJs are from women who are enthusiastic and spontaneous about it. I disagree that the enthusiasm is more important than technique. A good blowjob requires both.

In fact some of the worst blowjobs I’ve received have been from some of the most enthusiastic. I find some of them try wayyy too hard to act like pornstars. Including my first one, who was convinced by some Cosmo article that I’d enjoy getting my dick bit and scraped with teeth. She was shocked when I stopped her

I actually wrote a post not too long back about my experience with one of the most enthusiastic blowjob givers I’ve ever encountered (who dubbed herself “the blowjob bandit”....who also had by far the worst technique I’ve ever encountered.

That said, I don’t think good technique can make up for lack of enthusiasm either.

I would say the best blowjobs require good technique with just the right amount of enthusiasm.

Female here. I know when I really like a man when I WANT to give him head. It gets me excited to give him pleasure. 99% of the time it ends in sex so I never really have to decide what to do when he cums but it’s always been swallowing for me. It’s just polite IMO.
EDIT: I have swallowed some that tasted HORRIBLE but it's no worse than a shot of tequila IMO

Yep. No secret that having an interest in anything helps you get better at it whether that's head, golf, math, or whatever. From my experience, head from a girl who hates giving head is a pointless experience.

Yeah, it's this... I had a girl who got soaking wet while giving me a BJ and she gave the best ones because she actually really enjoyed it and was super into it.

Not saying every women needs to like it, everyone has their kinks and if BJs are not your thing than more power to you but from experience, women who actually enjoy it and actively start doing it by their own initiative tend to give, by far, the best BJs.

Also, a tip to guys: A bit of personal hygiene will make ti more likely for girls to want to give you a BJ... Don't complain your SO refuses (or doesn't enjoy) to give you oral if your crotch smells like a rotten cheeto that was still lodged, half eaten, on the throat of a dead skunk.

What if she does it because you bought flowers and she is so pleased you remembered your 7 month anniversary when she forgot because she was wrapped up in the daily drudgery and your thoughtfullnes just made her day? (translation - sometimes it's currency/obligation but sometimes it's "wow, I just remembered why I love you.")

Is swallowing really that big of a deal? (Or was it the eye contact that made this special?) Ever since I heard the phrase "spitters are quitters," I just assumed that you were supposed to swallow....is it not actually the norm?

I spent my teen to early 20's seemingly with a string of girls that do not swallow. The downsides of not swallowing is that its messy, and it ruins the tempo/mood thereafter finishing. Cleaning up is a very "sober" task to do. And if shes one of those that really hates it she'll spit it out and possibly wretch after you finish (which ruins the mood)

The hottest BJ ive gotten was a girl asking how id like to finish, on her tits? I said "swallow". She just got down and took it like a champ.

The flipside to this is that your diet and overall fitness affects the taste of it. (Obviously pineapple) but whatever you ate before will have an impact on how it tastes and to some girls thats traumatizing.

Ive prided myself on having my dick labelled as "clean dick" which is most likely why girls dont usually turn down Bj requests or swallow requests. Its partially lucky but also taking care of yourself!

So like you said, diet does really affect the taste and can either make or break the experience. I dated a guy who ate too much fast food and a shitty diet in general and it was the worst bitter taste I've ever had in my mouth. I almost wanted to spit it out in disgust, but I didn't.

I've always swallowed because I thought that's just what you're supposed to do and I don't want to hurt their feelings or ruin the mood by running to go spit it out and rinse my mouth out aggressively. If that happened to me I would feel so insecure and bad about myself.

One thing though that could be why some don't swallow (and it happens to me) is getting physically nauseous from swallowing. I have to drink a lot of water and to fight the feeling of throwing up if I swallow. The older I get the more it upsets my stomach so I'm not sure if this is common or it's just me.

Texture also comes into play and I've had some that was a small light liquid-y consistency, overly huge uncomfortable amounts, and some that was more on the chunkier/goopier side. I have a texture sensitivity so this could also potentially make me want to throw up.

I've always swallowed because I thought that's just what you're supposed to do and I don't want to hurt their feeling or ruin the mood by running to go spit it out and rinse my mouth out aggressively. If that happened to me I would feel so insecure and bad about myself.

That’s something I was thinking about. I’ve swallowed for all the guys I’ve been with except for my current partner; his cum is simply too thick (I’ve never experienced it with such a potent texture)... we do it literally every day so what gives? Why would it be thick like that 🤔

Same here with my current partner. It's supposed to be normal though. I've read somewhere that thick also means higher sperm count and better chance of getting pregnant because the sperm sticks to your walls better.

He's came in my mouth once and it was a little tough because of how chunky it was and I experienced the nausea pretty bad after. He doesn't really cum from blowjobs or anything so he usually just cums inside me which I actually enjoy more because of the primalness. I mean, I'll gladly take down his load because I love the man, but I'll probably be sick for a while after lol.

Lol it’s the same situation here :) haha
But only difference is- he’s got a vasectomy (medically confirmed on paper)... so it still has me wondering what the issue is
Cause no sperm is coming through for sure

Apparently the most important thing to avoid nausea is making sure that you have eaten recently so that you're not just swallowing with an empty stomach. I mean i don't have any experience in that area but that's just what i was told in another reddit thread from several people.

I tried swallowing my first bj for my husband, got it down thought in my head "okay, I did it" immediately had run to the bathroom and throw up, there was no choice. It was something between the force of it coming in my mouth, the texture, quantity, and taste. Not something I want to relive.

Damn. Well that’s unfortunate, for him and yourself. I’ve dated around quite a bit and I’ve still never come across it. Obviously I, as with probably all guys would prefer it, but it’s not like I’d be bummed out or mad if someone didn’t.

I only swallow with guys I'm in a committed relationship with just because of that whole taste thing! One time when I was hooking up with this guy, I was a bit tipsy and my inner porn star was starting to come out, so I swalloed. Y'all, it tasted like bleach mixed with the sperm of a zombie. But good news! My boyfriend's sperm is super yummy! It tastes kind of like a tangy milk, which I guess also sounds gross, but trust, its delish!

THIS! When I gave my ex a bj which then turned into me jackning him off while kissing, he came over his own stomach and I just licked it up and swallowed like a champ, despite it tasting like what bleach smells like.
But we didn’t have to clean up a big mess afterwards so kinda worth it ..?

Nah, it's different per person, and to be honest maybe a lot of us don't have many partners to pool about. Could just be that the type of women some of us end up with have similar traits and one of those might be 'hates bj's'. Also some women change their mind over time about things.

My first GF when we were younger always dodged out of the way at the end, but I remember one time she was over taken with something and batted my hand away as I tried to get her out of the way and just took the whole damn thing. In honestly it was super intense and my vision blacked out as I was finishing. In hindsight the best part of it was the moment jut before finishing when she stopped me pushing her away, and not the actual process of finishing in her mouth.

But yeah she was fine with it that one time but never did it again, she said she was just in a mode that day and something overtook her. We dated for about a year so it's not the broadest sample but, honestly in the end the mood and situation has the ability to turn things real good or real bad depending more so than the motions people are making.

But also... swallow and it's done... If you don't swallow you're awkwardly there with his jizz in your mouth... What are you supposed to do? Run to the bathroom to spit it out? It's in your mouth way longer that way?

But also... swallow and it's done... If you don't swallow your awkwardly there with his jizz in your mouth... What are you supposed to do? Run to the bathroom to spit it out? It's in your mouth way longer that way?

I'm a guy, but this is the logic I've always viewed it through as well. Either get it down, or make him come somewhere else. The medium choice is to prolong it in your mouth, and then you're gonna have a bad time. Unfortunately I've only been with one girl who would/could swallow, and it was an ex from a long time ago, who was toxic in every other way haha. My wife wants to do it for me, but she has a very sensitive gag reflex with anything so idk if it will ever happen again. The blowjobs are still great though.

My feelings entirely. A guy I've blown before still talks in awe about how I swallowed, and figured the only reason is because I love the taste of cum 🙃
Had to explain that I'd just rather not have to deal with getting rid of it from my mouth

I found it effective where i just let the jizz drool out of my mouth as i spit it down my face and chest while looking at him. A different kind of facial when he accidentally busts his load in my mouth.

I’ve done this and I usually like to swallow but if I don’t know you well enough it can be “too intimate” to do that. In retrospect I probably made him feel bad, which is now making me feel bad bc I actually really like him. I think I even tried making a joke about eating healthier FUCK I feel bad now lol

Don't overthink things. If he didn't seem affected by it at the time, he probably wasn't. While swallowing can be very hot, I understand that semen is not exactly a delicacy, and find a woman's willingness to put my dick in her mouth to be a better indicator of attraction than whether she's willing to swallow the aftereffects. Some men might feel that a rejection of their cum is tantamount to a rejection of them, but I don't think that's as common as the alternative. I'm sure you're good and didn't fuck anything up.

Hey, thanks for that! He’s a sweetheart and doubt it as well. But man this made me realize I could be nicer, even if I really wanted that lol. I just felt like ok this is our first sexual tryst...I spit first then swallow...then who knows what comes next

Yep. My girlfriend doesn’t hate blowjobs...but it’s pretty clear she only does them because she knows I like it . I’ve been teaching her techniques that work better on me since I met her (as she couldn’t fully get me off easily when we first met), It took a long time of giving hints ...like “Oo i love it when you do this baby” or “mm it would be really hot if you did this”, We’re finally at a point where she can get me off in minutes if she wants.

But I think the big missing component for me is seeing her actually enjoy the blowjob. They’re never really spontaneous. And she always has a look on her face as if she’s not fully into it. She doesn’t seem particularly happy or excited. Almost like she ticked the duty box for the night.

I’ve tried to lead by example. Whenever I go down on her I jump in like I’m going for Gold in the Olympic diving finals. I moan and smile and tell her how much I love eating her out.

I also try to tell her verbally during BJs how much I love it, and how hot she is when she’s blowing me. Hasn’t really worked unfortunately.

Yep. My girlfriend doesn’t hate blowjobs, but it’s pretty clear she only does them because she knows I like it . I’ve been teaching her techniques that work better on me since I met her (as she couldn’t fully get me off easily when we first met), It took a long time of giving hints like “Oo i love it when you do this baby” or “mm it would be really hot if you did this”, but we’re finally at a point where she can get me off in minutes if she wants.

But the big missing component is seeing her actually enjoy the blowjob. They’re never really spontaneous, and she always has a look on her face like she’s not fully into it. She doesn’t seem particularly happy or excited. Almost like she ticked the duty box for the night.

Someone else, but if it's not genuine at first, it will be eventually. It's 'method acting' or 'enlightened self-delusion' or 'bootstrapping'. If you're convincing enough, you'll convince yourself too eventually, 5-10 years to be safe. I didn't enjoy giving BJs when I first started but now love them.

See i’m the opposite. I started out loving going down but now i’m really sick of the smell and the just everything lol not a fan at all. Now of course I don’t let them know and I give it my all but inside theres a guy truly just checking off the “to-do” box.

Not liking the smell of your partner indicates a chemistry problem between you and your partner...imo.. I had a similar issue back when I was 18. I just didn't like to eat her, specifically her. Luckily enough I found out after she ditched me and I really do like going down on women generally.

To be honest I really do get excited because it gives me a chance to see what areas get the best response. There doesn't have to be any actual discussion about what feels good (unless something feels bad, then say something folks!), I can just respond to her breathing and movement. The taste is neutral (to me) so I really only view it positively and thoroughly enjoy the experience.

I say this as someone that would appear mostly asexual to most people, I'm definitely not a "hound dog" or a player but when I am in a relationship I'm pretty uninhibited as pertains to the bedroom.

It's kinda humorous to see how many guys here think that bj's are either good or bad, that's not been my experience, the only time I ever recoiled (literally) from a bj was when the lady I was with accidentally clipped the head of my penis with a tooth, it was just a real shocker to go from "yes, yes, yes" to "OUCH, STOP!" in the blink of an eye but it only hurt for a second.

For me, it's not the act of eating her out that gives me pleasure, but the reactions she gives. The moaning and twitching. As long as those reactions are genuine (not the fake porn screams) and I know she is liking it, then I like it.

It wasn't something i was necessarily fond of at first. Especially if she wasn't really "fresh" down there. She's also pretty receptive down there, so just a few minutes and i can get her off with clit stimulation alone. I just get absorbed into how much it's turning her on, and it gets me all hot and bothered, too.

Not the guy you asked but this is a dealbreaker for me. I’ve spent to much time with people who only want to receive and never give, and people who don’t find me sexually attractive but still muster through it for whatever reason. I could find the greatest person ever but if they don’t enjoy doing anything sexual with me then I’m out.

But, she still gives me head...and it’s still good...just not as amazing as it could be if she learned to really enjoy It. I love her for enough other reasons that I’d 100% regret breaking up with her because her BJs weren’t perfect.

Ive come to realize the “perfect” girl doesn’t exist. And if she does exist, she’s dating someone else. If it’s not one thing not ideal in the relationship, it’ll be something else. Relationships are largely about figuring out what’s most important and what you’re willing to compromise on.

Consider that almost every woman (and man) starts to lose her libido as they get older. So their love for BJs now could definitely fade.

Question: could you "learn" to enjoy a guy fisting your anus? I'm assuming not. If she doesnt like it, and its been a while and she still doesnt like it, it might just be time to let it go. And this is coming from a girl who loves going down on her man. But theres stuff i dont like, and theres no way i could "learn" to like it. I just feel like you shouldnt wait and hope for that to happen and feel disappointed when it doesnt. She doesnt like giving bjs. Thats just how it is.

I really didn't like them before because I have jaw issues and just didn't enjoy it anyway, but with my current bf something about the shape of it just fits better, plus it's fun hearing him enjoy it. Unfortunately I lack some skills and endurance but hopefully that'll sort out :P

I hate all oral if im being 100% honest.
My husband tries to go down on me but id rather just skip straight to the good stuff.
Maybe once every few months i really get in the mood for oral and I make sure to make it last.
Everytime i am my husband gets like 45 min long bjs.

He is a little upset that im not a fan because he says its so good. I explain over and over its only so good because I am literally craving his dick in my mouth.

Yeah, you liking getting it isn't going to change how she feels about it, and you liking giving isn't going to make her like giving. That's just her, that probably won't change. Don't want to be a downer but she just doesn't like doing it.

I'm not a fan of BJs but I had a girl in college that had a huge mouth and her tongue was one of the biggest I've ever seen. Best BJ I've ever received tied with the one my current wife randomly gave me when coming over one day, just ripped my pants off and went to town.

Sex is always better IMO though. You can be kissing while pounding and feeling on the tatas. 3 for 1, so fantastic, plus you have a better chance at identically pleasuring one another.

Glad you found your match. I’m really into oral both giving and receiving but the wife claims to like it a lot more than the frequency would suggest so this year I started keeping stats.

Edit: played the tape back in my head and realized how it sounds so I’m going to preemptively clarify: I have a real bad memory so rather thank keep the idea that it doesn’t happen often I’ve decided to gather data. She doesn’t know I’m doing this because I don’t want it to influence the results. I don’t know if or how to share this data once I have a large enough sample size, if/when that happens the goal would be to reach a better mutual understanding not for me to lord it over. Lastly in case it’s asked I often offer to go down on her as I enjoy it.

I replied to a comment above but I’ll expand here. I started this not to demand but because I have real memory problems and it’s entirely possible that it happens more frequently than I remember. The first thing I needed to find out is if I was wrong due to my crappy memory. Regardless of the results I need to have a reference point for myself, if I’m wrong I have data to show me and if I’m right we have a reference point to manage expectations. Another thing that happens is she talks about it throughout the day and then when the opportunity arises it doesn’t happen, at one point I got frustrated enough to tell her to not talk to me about it until she’s willing. If/when that conversation happens I need actual data so that it can be a fruitful conversation. We have a good sex life otherwise but it’s one of my needs. I go out of my way to make sure that her needs are met and it doesn’t feel like I’m getting the same treatment.

The quickest I’ve ever gotten my partner to cum was when I was ovulating and super fucking horny. I like giving head anyway, but I just needed that dick. Idk why, but I didn’t care about actually having sex, I just wanted the peen, so when he came out the shower all hard, I was like ‘get on the bed and shush’. He freaking loved it. So did I. It was great

Too true. A girl asked me one day after she had sucked me a few times why I hadn't cum, and I told her it was because she seemed to lose enthusiasm partway in to it each time. Every time since she has seemed to love it, and she is rewarded appropriately!

This is what I came to say. I lucked out, my first girlfriend was excited to do it. But since her I've noticed not every woman has her heart in it. Breaking up with her was a terrible mistake.
I miss you sabrina !! sobs

This is it right here. Im happy when they are happy. It just so happens im being pleasured. Enthusiam is huge. If you dont wanna be down there im not gonna make you. I also prefer it if you didnt seem like you were in a hurry or going through the motions. Be in the moment with me enjoying ourselves.

I don't know the specifics of what she does, but I would say one thing that really helps is she eased my guilt of just receiving pleasure by making it clear she's there because she wants to be/enjoys doing it.

Working on this with my boyfriend. He is a real pleaser and I can tell/ we’ve talked about how it’s hard for him to be the center of attention. Any tips on how to make him understand I really just want to blow him sometimes?

Edit: thanks guys! Decided my mission this weekend is to blow him to completion, it’s going to be a great weekend!!

Something my SO does that expresses her desire to preform fellatio is doing it at random times. Watching Netflix with her head on my lap/belly, pop that cock in the maw. Lazy morning (and I’ve already had a couple extra hours of sleep) wakes me up with a surprise bj.

That and always asking me to finish in her mouth during sex really makes me feel like it’s her prerogative.

See the morning things fun once in awhile. But usually I'm a first thing morning shitter and so I'm bustin a guy trying to hold in the rock slide but let the avalanche go. But after a lazy day nap or during the day. 👌🏾

Just be honest and direct. Sometimes it is the only way. Tell him you want his cock in your mouth and that's it. If he tries to turn it into PIV, push him back onto the bed/chair and renew your enthusiasm for what you are doing.

He will occasionally and I’ve told him many times to let me know what he likes. Mostly he says he just would rather have the pleasure be mutual. Could be my technique and I wouldn’t be offended. Everyone needs different things during oral and it took a bit to show/tell him what I like. I just kind of wish he would let me just please him more often instead of it always leading to sex or mutual oral. But you are right maybe it’s time for another conversation. Also you def aren’t an asshole, sex is a team effort and everyone should know the plays for the big game.

Yea I mean I’d definitely tell him flat out “it really turns me on when I blow you until you cum”.

He might actually feel obligation to get you off when you get him off (which I feel often too). But when guys cum it’s sometimes hard for us to keep going right away obviously. You may not understand from a female perspective but guys actually can feel a lot of anxiety about when/where to cum during sex. Especially if their partner isn’t verbal about what they want.

Or he might just simply prefer to cum during sex or while getting you off.

Something that’s surprisingly helped improve my sex life a lot (which he may or may not he down for), is sometimes I take a tablet....it’s the generic form of Viagra you can get very cheap and easily now with a doctors prescription (if you ask, they’ll give it). Reason I take it isn’t because I have erection issues, but because it really reduces my refractory period after ejaculation. It lets me have several orgasms in a session without losing erection. Which is great because I no longer have anxiety during sex about when I cum or if I can come during the bj or sex or whatever.

Obviously you’d have to be careful how you approached bringing that up....but maybe would help if he didn’t have to choose between letting you finish his blowjob and doing other stuff he likes.

That's really it right there. When they clearly don't want to do it but feel like it's just part of a sexual relationship that just has to be done, it really isn't enjoyable. I'm just guilty at that point.

Questions like this are sort of loaded, because technique isn't all that important beyond a certain threshold. I mean if you are toothing it and not keeping up good motions or cant vary up tempo etc, then yeah you can learn a bit and get better.

But once you are at an average level, really the goodness of a situation is always about the mental state they have you in or you have yourself in while receiving. If you are really present while they are doing it, feeling loved or feeling their enthusiasm, or you are hooking up for the first time, or she told you she never sucks dick her whole life but then she starts going down on you because 'there's something about you I need' or some other situation that just elevates it towards that goodness.

So anyone looking for tips, get about average and comfortable, yeah, but like anything, the more you fuck someone's mind the more they will remember it vs whatever perfection you might be doing with your body.

Fucking hell mate that's the thing. I have never verbally or subliminally asked for a blowjob because it's seen as such a deragatory act. Only 2 women have ever offered. One was so inexperienced, she kept scraping it with her teeth despite several attempts and the other had gag reflex so she never blew me for more than a couple minutes TOPS. Never had a satisfying BJ in my life and I'm too afraid to ever ask anybody.

On my end, I ENJOY going down on a girl, provided she's heigenic. Like I genuinely enjoy it more than sex. Curly toes, stiffled moans, sheet-grabbing, hell one time she legit cried from pleasure. What's not to like.

I told her she could be like, a little more enthusiastic while she was sucking my dick like it was homework. She immediately got angry and yelled, "what the fuck do you think I am, a porn star? Is that what you want? You want someone who's gonna be all, 'oh yeah daddy, you like that', with mascara running down her face, sucking your dick like,"
Angrily grabs my dick, crams it in her mouth- Glubguzzleburkgargleshlichkglug * pant * Slurpglubblubglugburp.
She came back up exhausted, even angrier, "do you really want that fucker?"
"Dont... stop..."
Unfortunately that was when the act ended. I just think that it was funny that her impression of a horrible, over exaggerated blowjob was actually fucking amazing. Now I have a thing for angry blowjobs.

My boyfriend said something similar, he was like “Can you be messier?” and I had no idea what that meant. So, like the true nerd I am I jumped on the internet to do a ton of research. The “messy” blowjob is a thing! I’d not heard of it, but it apparently includes going to town with gusto, spit everywhere, deep throating, rubbing his dick on your face, sucking noises, eye contact, hands, etc.

I’ve been getting better at the messy bj now. I think it’s mostly about being super excited to make him squirm. It’s like... not something you can do if you’re not into it. Sort of like putting on a show 🤷‍♀️ it makes him happy so I’m happy.

My favourite. I think it's partly because being aroused lowers the disgust response (in men) and there's something really hot about a girl willing to make a mess to please a partner. Pro tip, it works even better if you put effort into looking great before making the mess, with makeup and hair on point etc, throws the mess into stark relief with the glamorous before picture..

I've noticed this, too. When I come home from work in my suit and makeup and hair and I go straight to him and pull down his pants because I haven't seen him in a week, he seems to enjoy it more. Also cumming on my face because "you just have such a beautiful smile and I want to see cum on it" lmao. I mean, I don't necessarily get it, but you guys like it so who am I to judge? I'm just happy you're happy

Rule #1 when giving head: never swallow any of your spit. Let it run down his cock and use it as lube along his shaft. Unless he's on the smaller side, or you have a big mouth, or you enjoy deep throating on every single down stroke, put your hand in front of your mouth and twist it (your hand using the spit, not his dick skin) back and forth with every up and down stroke. Use the spit as lube to pump your hand up and down his cock as you go lick and suck his balls.

Lol, I can relate. Had angry sex with a girlfriend and the blowjob was fucking awesome. When I ask afterwards what she did she said "Huh, that was good? I tried to do it as monotonous and bad as possible because I was still pissed at you!"

Enjoy it. Don't just try to convince them you are having fun. Convince yourself that you're having fun.

As you get to know the individual, mentally keep track of two separate strategies: what's good for a long tease/edging session, and what's good when you're ready for a quick finish. Then apply those appropriately to the situation.

I had one girlfriend who learned what I liked really well, and got to the point where she would basically short circuit my brain every time. Years later, had another girlfriend who figured out how to give the perfect blowjob and then did it one time and never again. That was sad.

A couple months ago I gave my boyfriend the oral time of his life. He literally couldn't get up for 30 minutes after because he said it was so good. Only problem is we ate dinner right before and well.... I have the world's best GAG reflex. And my stomach didn't like it. So. He was fine. I was in the bathroom for those 30 minutes. I want to try again but I'm scared I'll be in the same situation again

Dear god.. this one time my boyfriend and I were giving each other oral at the same time and we were both really into it, all that. At that time though, my gag reflex had been acting up and I vomited on his dick. However, everything was all sealed in my mouth and I jsut. fucking swallowed it. he still doesn't know and I don't think I'll tell him

Hold your thumb inside your first fairly tightly, if you have any gag reflex left, it won't be triggered. I'm not sure why, but my friend group agrees that this really works.

Another thing that's both highly enjoyable and makes for a great deep throating angle is letting your head fall slightly off the end of the bed while he stands and thrusts next to it. He can go deep easily and comfortably, while enjoying your breasts and watching you move.

Alternatively, riding his leg while he's on his back is a lot of fun.

One point that seems to give keen, often mind blowing pleasure, is massaging around the prostate and letting up very little. Near constant, but not too heavy pressure is most effective. Prepare yourself for his explosive orgasms...

I feel for you. My gag reflex is pretty bad too(FYI it gets worse when you're pregnant for some reason) and the repercussions are not fun. On top of that the prize at the end always gives me heartburn. I have to take an antacid every time.

I was so sad to learn that my current partner can't really come from a BJ. He says he gets too distracted, or wants to move on to actual sex, or go down on me, etc. I was so bummed because I really love giving head but don't always want it to transition to sex.

And that's when it happened. After months of experimentation.

I learned........ the secret.

Road head.

He's 'trapped'. He can't get too distracted because he's gotta keep the truck on the road. We can't have sex, he can't go down on me. He can't do anything but sit there and take it.

Blows it right down my throat every time. It's truly a miracle. My pride and joy. Road head you guys.

This.
She was the chick I dated right after my marriage ended. She was 26 and would just take charge and deep throat and just effing go for it. She was awesome at it.
She was not good to date overall, but great at head.

This reminds me of a neighbor I had. She was about 30 when I got divorced 12 or so years ago and really cute and a single mom of 2. Our kids played together and we chatted often about benign stuff but nothing major, I was married at the time. Well now I was divorced. She invited me over for a glass of wine while our kids played out back. Locked the doors and said "So.. do you want a BJ?" I mean very forward, she managed 3 restaurants so was used to being in charge. Yep, best BJ ever for a variety of reasons and she didn't let anything leave her mouth.

Same. Only time I’m not enthusiastic is if they’re not clean or don’t reciprocate.

If he’s not clean that just means we’re hopping in the shower together. If he doesn’t ever go down on me then no head for him. He doesn’t have to go down on me every time I suck his dick (otherwise he would be going down on me a whole hell of a lot). But he needs to make the offer and effort.

I was seeing this chick and she made me feel like I was going to blow 5 seconds in (it's usually reasonably difficult for me to cum despite how much I enjoy blow jobs). And I still have no idea what she was doing that was so special.

It haunts me at night not knowing, to be able to coach my new partners in it.

Funny enough that's the same thing for me. Every girl is different however I can't for the life of me identify what specifically is the trigger to an awesome climaxing BJ. Maybe good constant pressure and motion.

I think it's the tongue. She used it. You wouldn't be able to pinpoint it, but it's significantly different. Try recommending it to your next partner. Have her press and move her tongue while sucking you off. Test my theory.

I'm a lesbian and I have a guy friend who I tease because he is fwb with a LOT of gay girls who are interested in a side of sausage occasionally.

He says that they give the best head because they use their tongue as if his dick was a clitoris and because they're used to pleasing women who like a lot of emotional presence and enthusiasm, Regardless of their level of experience. they are almost always more into getting him off and being in the moment than straight girls who often treat it like a chore.

He's a musician with a cult following and a bartender so he has a LOT of friends. He's also very petite and handsome so he's not threatening in the way a lot of men are to gay women, many of whom have been assaulted by men in the past (this is not specific to gay women, just women). I guess it's a case of, if you build it they will come...

This is what I do and I've been told by several guys I gave the best blowjobs. Then again, saying that only makes me want to give more so they're hardly gona say I'm crap 🤷 pretty damn enthusiastic about giving too

My ex, hands-down. She did this thing that no one else I've ever dated has done where she- and don't kink shame me for this it's just hot to me- she put my dick in her mouth.

Seriously, though, best feeling while in a BJ was when she would run her hands up and down my thighs, hips, abdomen, and chest while she was working. Made me feel like I was supermodel sexy even though I know I'm not in shape, don't have hard muscles, and I'm not even really averagely attractive.

Your hands should never be doing nothing. They're either on her pussy, or touching her body. Run your hands on her thys, go up and down her sides, play with her boobs if your arms are long enough. If she's into it, grab her thys and squeeze, choke her (finger her at the same time. Especially when she's close to orgasm, cumming while being choked is one of the best things ever). If it's taking a long time, tell her to help! It shouldn't be embarrassing if she's doing it to herself, after all, she knows herself best and knows how to maximize her pleasure. When you see how she's doing it, start doing that same thing yourself next time. Also, eating girls out has multiple positions, and you can change mid way through. Put her on the edge of the bed and get on your knees, have both of you lay down, use a chair. Girls love it when their guy knows how to do this shit, and it's not that difficult.

P.S. DONT TREAT THE CLIT LIKE ITS A 5 YEAR OLD ON A LIGHT SWITCH. Don't overuse it, but make sure it feels included.

This. My wife loves for me to fuck her mouth, like I'm on top of her while she is laying down. But as I'm doing it, she reaches around and like grabs my ass and pulls me deeper or harder to her mouth. Her doing that is fucking fantastic. I've never been a fan of blowjob's until her because no one ever got me off, but while doing this I can reach back and finger her and she gets off so hard. Which in turn gets me off. 10/10 recommend doing this.

This took me several years into my marriage to learn. There is something about getting him close to the edge (not too close), pulling back, massaging the other parts for a few minutes (while avoiding that area), before going back to the BJ with full gusto and continuing the massage at the same time.

It’s the shock of not being touched for a minute or two that makes everything ultra intense and just does it for him-quickly.

Highly recommend every woman tries it.

This took me several years into my marriage to learn. There is something about getting him close to the edge (not too close), pulling back, messaging the other part for a few minutes (while avoiding that area), before going back to the BJ with full gusto and continuing the message at the same time.

I'm a gay woman but I feel really bad for guys who seem not to be complimented and touched sensually and made to feel really desired as a whole person in the way that women often do. I have never been with a guy but it seems to me like there is a lot of pressure to perform without straight girls feeling the same need to reciprocate. Guys who treat sex like it's anything less than an intimate, sensual experience seem to ruin it for the rest of you.

Boys, you are beautiful and you deserve to feel just as sexy and wanted as any woman!

My ex-wife. It's the one thing I truly missed about her. I remember her telling me that she, her sister and her friend practiced on carrots being careful not to scrape it. I can't speak for her sister or her friend, but it paid off for her.

And she loved doing it. She was both gentle and enthusiastic.

My ex-wife. It's the one thing I truly missed about her. I remember her telling me that she, her sister and her friend practiced on carrots being careful not to scrape it. I can't speak for her sister on her friend, but it paid off for her.

science!

Yeah what kinda needle dick gentlemen are these ladies meeting that you'd practice on a fucking carrot above all available veggies? Try a cucumber or a chinese eggplant if you wanna get freaky and suck on some alien weiners

Older woman. I was 33, she was 50. The excellence of her technique was adequate pressure and speed, and working the shaft with her hand while she sucked away. IMHO too many girls get hung up on licking over sucking, not realizing the penis gradually becomes desensitized the older you get. The best blowjobs for me feel like "deathgrip" masturbation +1.

YES! I don't mind the occasional licking, but the sensation is all about the suck and the stroke. Licking doesn't achieve anything outside of visual stimulation IMO. Licking is only affective when she's cleaning you up after climax.

Licking gives our a jaw a break so it doesn't cramp up and cause me to accidentally clamp down with my teeth from the pain. Also it's a gives a nice break if I accidentally pushed the dick too far back in my mouth and I need a couple seconds to make sure I'm not gonna throw up

I'm on the girthier side of things and 50% of my partners were not able to do it without teeth, which is a total no-go.

I was positively surprised when my girlfriend was able to do it without feeling teeth and I was even more impressed about her technique, she also used her hands and that is the key to an amazing blowjob and she always gives me really amazing ones.

Current girlfriend. At first I would just lay there like a dead horse and enjoy it because I didn't know what else to do besides hold her hair. Later on she wanted me to start pushing her head as well. Well the thought never crossed my because I didn't want to make her feel as though I'm forcing it down her throat. But ever since that day I learned she loves it a little bit rough has been great.

I've got a great story about this. Twenty years ago or so I was hosting a house party. Kegs of beer, horseshoes, bonfire, weed, you know whatever, and my friend starts talking to a little group of us about the best blow job he ever had. His girlfriend comes walking past and gets the drift of what he was saying.

"OMG, don't tell them about that!"

He goes, "I wasn't talking about YOU, I was talking about the BEST blowjob I ever had!"

So good.

I've got a great story about this. Twenty years ago or so I was hosting a house party. Kegs of beer, horseshoes, bonfire, weed, you know whatever, and my friend starts talking a little group of us about the best blow job he ever had. His girlfriend comes walking past and gets the draft of what he was saying.

THIS. Ladies, there's something to be said about the whole body aspect of a blowjob (and sex, for that matter), but remember at the same time that the vast majority of the pleasurable nerve endings are directly on and also just below the rim of a man's penis.

Do all the shit that turns our brains on, but also do the thing that turns our body on too.

Match on tinder. She’s model pretty. coffee at noon turns into dinner at 10. She asks if I need a ride back to my apartment. Making out in her car in my parking lot. Me: “hey, so I have a whole apartment upstairs” her: “I would but I don’t want anything to happen” me: “listen, nothing has to happen that you don’t want to happen”. We go upstairs. Making out clothes come off. She keeps her underwear on, I respect it, classy. We pass out. She wakes me up at 2 am and gives me the best head of my life. Like she could save marriages if she gave classes. We pass back out. We wake up in the morning. She’s dodgy, like how girls are when they don’t want to tell you something. I’m expecting boyfriend, baby or herpes. Her: “I’m a pre-op transsexual”....... she blows me again and gives me a ride to work.

Edit: I really like how this sparked a bigger conversation about consent and all that. I just want to add that for the record, I did feel violated after I found out. I don’t get to say that often because I’m worried about being accused of transphobia. I don’t think it was ok at all that she wasn’t honest with me. I let her blow me again (the second time I feel was 100% consensual and a-ok in my book) because it was really good head.

Never cummed from one before and didn’t particularly care for them but I met this 48 year old from Pof. Brought her home from the pub, after kissing for a bit she enthusiastically took my pants off while I sat on the sofa and started sucking me. I don’t know what it was but it was like a gradual build up and she had control over me. She started playing with my bum hole and working me up before I had the most intense orgasm and cum in her mouth which she swallowed. I went into another world and took me 30 mins to come down.

Met a couple times again and same thing but even without the bum play it was intense.

Met a girl from Bumble at a bar. She immediately grabbed my dick while we were dancing like 10 minutes after we officially met. I’m not that shy but that was definitely new to me. Figured the night was gonna be one of those new sexual experience nights so I figured I should just roll with it and by George am I glad I did.

Got to her cousin’s apartment and on our way through the apartment complex she would start sucking me off in random corners/stairwells. Mind you it was late enough so we were able to be stealthy.

We start hooking up on her cousin’s outdoor couch and she pulls down my pants to my ankles and says “turn over”. I’m like what. She’s says it again slightly more aggressively. I’m thinking “we were just dancing I’m sure you don’t want any of this sweaty jungle downstairs mixup” and I go “really?” And she proceeds to try to physically turn me over.

I flip on my stomach and she eats my ass like a goddamn Irishman in a potato famine and my butthole is the last known tuber (even tho she’s Latina)

She would suck it and stick her tongue way in and then suck my literal bum hairs. I’m pretty ticklish down there but luckily I was drunk enough to let it happen. She was down there for like 5 whole minutes. I couldn’t believe it but holy fuck eventually I gave in to the somewhat submissive pleasure and it lead to a full body orgasm.

Yeah, I get it. But I've enjoyed being a fellatrix since my teenage years, and heading in to my mid 40s now, it's routine to leave him post BJ very very happy. I also don't rest on my laurels.

Your aim is to perfect the BJ for him so it lasts harder and cums in a satisfactory manner. Try a body massage on top of the BJ. Try light minty tingles or ice or warming to specific attention to areas of his interest.

Be a nurse, take an interest in the anatomy of the penis, including the Cremaster muscle, areas of the Prostate, and Bulbourethral glands. Even the scrotum, and ligaments around it. Consider lubrication and what works for him.

Note that as men have been trained from teenage years to be nice and quiet when masturbating, when you get him shouting fuck yes! Eyes are rolling backwards and toe curls? Do more of that. Don't change up.

NB it's Steak and BJ day. This is the month after valentines where you "pay it forward" so to speak. Tonight, cook him a steak of his choice to his specifications and also give him a BJ.

A good few years ago I met a girl on tinder and we dated for a bit. She was a stripper/exotic dancer which was fine with me, work is work and money is money. But god damn she gave the best blowjobs of my life. I think partially, like some other people mention here, was because she wanted to do it, she fucking loved it. She would be down on her knees, staring up at me while she did it, slapping my johnson against her face. Would suck hard, go deep, little ball play, and pure enthusiasm. In a way it ruined me because she set the gold standard that's hard to measure up against.

She also introduced me to a bunch of things that I didn't know I'd be into like choking and being choked. Always thought of myself as being purely dominant but then when she took control and started choking me it was a whole new world

Treated it like it was their last Supper. Changed things up in a perfect pace, licking, sucking, deep throat, jerking it, used her tits, everything. Then she went deep and swallowed every drop.

I dated her a year longer than I should have. She was fun and outgoing beyond the bedroom, which made it all the more fun because I was always seeing the real her. We broke up because she had to move back home after college.

A girl I met on tinder who really had the enthusiasm to please. She started slow, with a lot of suction, and then worked her way down my taint and to my ass with her tongue. She kept stroking me and teasing the tip/my urethra with her nail as she was licking my ass. When she worked her way back to sucking my dick she told me she wanted me to look her directly in the eyes while I came. At that point i lasted about 20 seconds. She was an angel

If you enjoy her tongue and lips on your balls, then you will enjoy them on your taint and asshole. Everyone's different sensitivity wise but a girl that knows a thing or two about massaging/licking from the head of your dick to your asshole and back will change your life. Just remember personal hygiene is a MUST if you or her are playing around in the back yard.

As far as wanting to experiment. Communicate. We're all big boys and girls. Tell your partner you want to get freaky and see what they say.

And always ask for permission!

I have a girlfriend who had her finger broken by a guy who panicked and jumped in a weird way when she spontaneously tried to touch his asshole. Men can be giddy too.

Due to fear of pregnancy when we were younger, my gf decided that blowjobs were a good alternative. Of course I didnt complain.

For some reason the trend never really changed, even after we started having regular sex. I've been with that woman for 9 years now (getting married next year) and she only ever gets better at giving blowjobs.

The key to my pleasure seems to be: good grip, good attention paid to the head, lots of tongue action around the base of the glans, and that she swallows.

A pastor's daughter... I was driving my car back from her meeting my parents and we were on the freeway at night.. It was summer so I had some shorts on.. tilted the steering wheel up and leaned the seat back, the way she bobbed her head slowly, slightly sideways while timing her breathing just right was a thing of beauty...

The second time was from a mid 40s blonde family friend at her father's Christmas party.. Me and her were both slightly tipsy and snuck off into the makeshift coat room area down a hallway... right at the peak of the party so we thought it was empty...When we got in there there was a lesbian couple making out but i said, "hey you two don't mind if we're in here too right?" they both smiled and kept going at it with each other.. So the family friend proceeded to drop down to her knees, took my cock out and stroked both of her fingertips up and down the shaft while she was swirling her tongue on the tip... I glanced over to see the lesbians watching her do her thing...Yeah...i came twice. Lol

Georgetown DC ...Not many people out...
pick one.
My gf and I got caught going at it last summer.
Plenty of discreet places by the waterfront but unfortunately there’s always a group of tourist wandering around looking for a Starbucks

I have foreskin and a lot of girls don’t realise that blowjobs for me (not sure about other blokes) aren’t enjoyable when they pull the skin back and suck my dick with the bellend exposed ...my last gf knew exactly this fact and she would always make sure not to pull it back and my god was her blowjobs the best ...no one had come close and most of the time it’s because I’m too afraid to ruin the moment and tell them that it’s all about the foreskin and once it’s pulled back it just tickles

Huh, that might just be you, man. I'm Brazilian so pretty much everyone here is uncut. I've enjoyed blowjobs both with the foreskin stretched out and without, they're just two different feelings. The head is super sensitive if you know what you're doing.

Canadian here, it’s all about the frenulum, that’s the ticket to heaven right there. Honestly for me most BJ’s are amazing. One person knew that sticking their tongue in between my foreskin and my head was a one way ticket to space. Also pulling the skin up and down while sucking it A+

That actually sounds like the trick my wife does, and it's fucking amazing. Like.. I have pretty good control and I can fuck for as long as I need, but I literally cannot control myself when she gives me a BJ and I usually don't even last 30 seconds, which is insane right? Like she can grab it out of the blue and have me finished in 30 seconds max.

I love this question! As a female would also like to know? Would love to give the best bj/hj ever but never been with anyone that gives me super honest feed back.
Also i grab my partners hand and place it on my hair so he can control my movements. But he always pulls away.
Would LOVE him to just fuck my face!

Let him know you want him to fuck your face, most women hate having their head moved mid BJ and most women won’t tell you what they like, even if you ask, they always want us to read their minds 🤦🏻‍♂️

Btw, the only thing that matters is enthusiasm, make him feel like you want to suck his dick. A fling from ages ago had me absolutely convinced she’d been waiting all day for me to finish work so she could blow me, I’d never felt more wanted in my life.

Truuu cotton mouth sucks. It’s weird because I drink a shit ton of water (I’m pretty fit and workout/run almost every day so I need to stay hydrated). I’ve also noticed that I don’t get that wet, either. And I barely sweat... weird right?

My first relationship. We were both virgins and we wanted to wait a while before having sex, so we just fooled around a lot. She had given me blowjobs before, but every time I was about to cum, I'd tell her and she'd take me out of her mouth and give me a handy to finish. Well, one day I warned her and instead of the usual handy, she grabbed my ass tight and went in deeper and looked up at me. It was unexpected and I really enjoyed it. Even though I'm not with her anymore, i still think about that blowjob.

A former FWB was tiny. Like 4’11” and barely 100 lbs. everything about sex with her was amazing but the blowjobs were the best part. I think her size plus her technique and her dirty talk was her secret.

I had a FWB relationship with a girl who was very into being dominated. Obviously the BJs were amazing because she basically did anything I told her to, but what made her stand out was the simple fact that she was enthusiastic as hell about the whole thing. She genuinely wanted to suck dick, she didn't do it because she felt like she was just supposed to. Like I often tell women who ask on this subreddit, the biggest appeal to men of porn isn't necessarily what the women look like or what they do, it's how enthusiastic they are.

Bonus points that she also took the initiative to do it. We'd be sitting there watching TV, and she would just pull my dick out and go to town without saying a word. You can't fake that level of enthusiasm.

So to answer the original question: there is no secret 'technique', just be enthusiastic and want to be doing it.

I had a FWB relationship with a girl who was very into being dominated. Obviously the BJs were amazing because she basically did anything I told her to, but what made her stand out was the simple fact that she was enthusiastic as hell about the whole thing. She genuinely wanted to suck dick, she didn't just do it because she felt like she was just supposed to. Like I often tell women who ask on this subreddit, the biggest appeal to men of porn isn't necessarily what the women look like or what they do, it's how enthusiastic they are.

Dated a girl a while back who, about every other time, would overload my senses with pleasure and make me black out. No clue what she was doing or how, she would just make me cum and then I’d wake up a few moments later.

For me there has to be some hand movement involved. Rotation also seems to work well, if you can come up and down with your mouth while also twisting your head a bit it just increases the sensation to another level.

I've also found that teasing works really well. Just running the tongue around the head gets me so hard.

Finally I'd say the ability to take the thing into the back of your throat is an underutilized skill. The sound of a girl gagging on my dick has this weird turn on effect I didn't know about until I actually experienced it.

I worked with a guy who once told me that a big ol’ fat girl was slobbering on his knob and balls, full shaft and everything in her mouth. He was already impressed but then the girl reached around with her tongue and licked his asshole, shaft and balls still in.

My SO has opened my eyes to everything I've been missing. She loves giving me blowjobs, loves swallowing, she is learning deepthroat. It is simply amazing.

My previous relationships were, let's say, vanilla. On occasion I'd get a blowjob. And if I did, they weren't really into it. Where as I, love to eat pussy and it was almost expected.

But I would say her best trick/technique is she really focuses on just below the head. Sometimes I cant even distinctly tell whats going on because I am just feeling so much at once and everything is tingly. My brain can't compute and I'm just overwhelmed with the feeling. Man, I am one lucky dude.

To all you girls out there who love giving head and really put the effort in...WE APPRECIATE YOU!

My wife. Her technique is simple: she likes to do it, likes doing it for me, and we've been married long enough and open long enough that I can giver pointers and she gets better all the time. I, of course, reciprocate.

She actually created a strong vacuum with her mouth instead of just kinda sucking enough to keep the saliva from drooling. While keeping that tight vacuum seal she would change up between putting it in her cheek, swirling her tongue around the head, and putting it in her throat and tensing her neck over and over so it felt similar to a vaginal orgasm.

The first time I slept over at my last girlfriend's house. She was into track and field and always went for a run every morning, so she wakes me up around 6 am Saturday morning and to be honest I was a little sour and obviously she picked up on that.

She says "have some coffee and you'll feel better." I say something like "I'm not so sure about that."

She then yanks my shorts off and I just kind of laid there in shock while she gives me the best blowjob I've had in my life.

Mission accomplished, I did end up going for a run with her that morning and I think I even forgot about the coffee 😆

My wife. She is definitely the best ever of all women who every lived. Why, she wants to please me, she also loves it. She does this worship thing where she smiles at it, kiss it, lick it, and all this while taking her time. Like she wants to be there. She will examine every inch of it like it's the first time she has seen it. She will get my dick so Rick hard that my head is fucking shiny you can see your reflection in it. Then she will suck that head like a lollipop. The fucking best part she loves to take deep sniffs of it. She says she loves the smell. She does not swallow but when I do come ok here mouth she makes the best mmmm sounds. Yeah I fucking married her, so no none for you. All mine

Reading all of these makes me feel like I'm missing something amazing. I've been in only two relationships (I'm 33). First ex did bjs, but I think she was horrible at them because I was actually turned off by it. My second/last ex didn't do it at all, which I was ok with because of the ex before being shitty at it.

Partly it was that she has great lips. Like big and soft and lovely. But also no teeth at all, it was almost like she didn't have any. She varied the strokes, but built a consistent rhythm, amping it up steadily over time. Went deep often, but not constantly. Made eye contact. Kept going as I finished and gulped it all downs

My girlfriend right now. Two years back when we first started dating, gave me the most painful, dick shrinking blowjobs ever. We used to argue a lot because she sensed that I wasn't enjoying it.
I take the blame for the most part because I wasn't communicating what exactly I wanted.
Two years later she gives me the best blowjobs, like literally drives me nuts.

So ive had lots of good head and i think the trick is if you actually enjoying giving the head. Dont go to fast, dont be afraid to be a little slobbery, light on the lips, mix in some eye contact. Every once in a while go deep and stay there. Joyful moans. I like the hj/bj combo action. Very light ball play, occasional suck or lick of the balls. Let him feel a little in control sometimes. I like to grab a handful of hair and push her down sometimes. If you dont like that, please be kind in telling me. Ive had girls just stop everything and sternly let me know. Maybe some guys need that, i dont. I get the point with a sweetly delivered "please dont do that"

But mainly the first part. Any sort of positive feedback that you enjoy sucking my dick turns me out. Giggles, smiles, any sign of it being a good time for you while i get treated like a king

Oh and then when your done, obviosuly swallow, lick up all the spit and give the head a little peck lol

I'm sorry, but if you quite literally choke me, cut off my airway with your penis because you pushed my head down while grabbing my hair, and we haven't discussed whether or not that's okay, you are sure as hell not going to get a 'please don't do that,' in a sweet voice.

Have you thought that cutting off a woman's airway through using actual force is a gigantic turn off for her?

This isn't something you can guess, 'Maybe she's a woman who really digs this.' Ask beforehand. If it turns out she's into it, great! If it turns out she really dislikes it, then you know not to do it and won't have a woman 'sternly' turning you off.

?????? That's a ridiculous expectation. What if you're horny but don't care to be in a relationship or just want a quick fuck with someone you don't already know? Sometimes a one night stand is the appropriate answer.

I hope you understand for some women the pushing down thing feels extremely disrespectful and I’m guessing that’s why your past partners were stern about it. I hate it and it turns me right off. Makes me feel used instead of an enthusiastic partner.

So yes I’d be furious if you did that to me out of the blue and you have the gall to be offended they were “stern” about it 🙄

She's your wife, presumably you know her well and she knows you well, too. You know that she digs this, so it's completely fine.

I've dug the living hell out of this sort of thing when I've been in a relationship and we've talked about it, but if a guy does that without any sort of consent or checking beforehand then you're really running the risk of hurting or scaring a woman, or just even having her have a really bad time in bed with you. Not something any man aspires to, I imagine.

So yes I’d be furious if you did that to me out of the blue and you have the gall to be offended they were “stern” about it 🙄

Some women like it, some women don't. If it's the first time that he has done it, be cool about it. Voice your reason calmly and move on. If it keeps happening, then get stern. Personally, I like when my man just grabs tight on a handful of hair and fucks my mouth, but I'm also into being controlled in the bedroom and i like rough sex.

Obviously I know some women like it, I already said SOME women would feel that way. What’s so hard about talking to your partner before getting rough? Nothing. If you get rough out of the blue don’t be surprised if someone has an emotional reaction to that.

Im not offended. Im just saying as a tip, being all super stern is a mood killer. I understand that i may have killed the mood for you, and you would obviously have every right to end the entire sucky time right there. But IF you are trying to move past a fuck up amd to keep everything going, i dont like being scolded. Just be nice and tell me not to do rhat anymore. Or if its that huge of an issue, let me know not to do it before you get started? I understand how it is not liked be some, but beleive it or not by others, they love that stuff.

I consider myself a considerate lover and ive been told after sex sometimes that i need to "be the man and know what i want" and be more forceful... for lack of a better term

Of course I know other people are into it, that’s why I said SOME women will feel it’s disrespectful. But obviously you’re not asking if it’s ok before doing it and then getting mad that she had an emotional response to being roughed up.

EDIT: and it terms of the taking what you want thing, I think grabbing the hips to get her in place when you’re ready to dick her down is extremely hot and forceful, as well as passionate kissing and fondling/groping as you do it.

I met a girl that worked at a gas station, she was cute enough so we talked for a while. After we had sex and I went down on her during sex... the next week or so we got to talking about how I've never came from a BJ before. She basically said "oh hell no" and she came over with some kind of lube that I don't know the brand name of and went to town. I sat there at first thinking "ok this is going to go on for a bit, I won't get off, and we will end up fucking... no big deal" because that's usually how it goes with most girls... But then she worked some sort of sorcery. I don't know exactly what she did, it was sort of a mix of blow job and handjob but rubbing just the right spots at the perfect level of squeeze/friction... I'm talking it was less than 5 minutes and I was getting off harder than I ever have before. Usually I have to force an orgasm, like they are all under my control, even with normal sex... but this one I was completely relaxed and it just happened without my control. That was mind blowing. She got up and smiled with the "I told you so" look and said I could have that any time that I wanted because she loved doing it... Sadly that didn't come to pass ever again. Wish I could have stuck with her, but the circumstances wouldn't allow that.

I’ve been told by different guys that I gave the best BJ they ever had a couple even said it rivaled actual sex. My technique is basically that I love to please and I love giving BJs. I like to start at the head and tease it a little with my tongue while maintaining eye contact. I swirl my tongue around the head while massaging the balls then wrap my lips around the head and flick my tongue on the urethra and sometimes lick inside it. Then I deep throat it. I don’t have much of a gag reflex so it’s not a problem. One trick I have when I deep throat is I go all the way down to the balls and stick my tongue out and lick the balls while I’m deep throating, they seem to like that. I always apply pressure with my lips and by sucking but also make sure my tongue is constantly moving and massaging at the same time. I never ignore the balls and I always swallow, when they are close I make sure to deep throat just as they cum, it seems to drive them crazy.

I dated a MtF transgendered women for awhile. Holy crap no one before or since has ever come close to her abilities. If I had to guess, the most obvious difference is the sloppiness. She had no fear of getting sloppy.

It was this 23 year old girl who was "trained" by one of her fuck buddies on how to do it. Pretty much she knew how to keep her mouth on the whole dick for maximum surface area contact. Which is weird because I'm not even big. When she would move down my shaft, I would feel a tightness and squeeze I hadn't felt with any of my previous partners.

Thankfully for me it's my wife of 6 years. She can make me cum every single time when most of my prior partners never could. She starts out slow and gentle to get me warmed up, running her tongue all over my shaft, sucks and plays with my balls (amazing) fir several minutes.

Then when she is ready for my nut she gets going faster and she uses one hand to follow her lips around my shaft so she's jerking me off as she's blowing, keeps playing with balls with other hand, and then she just KEEPS GOING until I nut - she doesn't quit like most. She's the fucking Energizer BlowJob Bunny!! And she loves to swallow so that helps too.

I went on something of a sex bender a few years back and weirdly, the absolute best head I remember getting was from an 18 year old who'd only ever had sex with 1 other guy and claimed to have no experience. Incidentally, she also had the most beautiful blue blowjob eyes.

The answer to this question is always the same. There's no particular trick or unique, there's not a secret move of a way to move your tongue. The main difference between a good BJ and an amazing one is enthusiasm. You have to want it, REALLY want it, like your life is all about getting my dick to cum like it's the antidote to a poison that will kill you and your entire family. Suck my dick like you LOVE sucking dick like my dick is the best and most delicious thing you've ever had in your mouth.

If you want it, and I believe that you want it, then you will be showing how much you want it through your words and your actions. Your eyes should tell me how much you want it, your body language should show me how much you want it, you should verbally tell me how much you want it and how much you love sucking my cock.

First of all she challenges herself to make every blowjob the best one ever. She pays a lot of attention to my balls with her hands and mouth.
She constantly changes tempo and technique, but still hits my sensitive spots on every stroke.

She can go from loving and sweet to all out porn star, because she knows I love watching her gag and drool. But most of all, because I love her, and she goes the extra mile in everything she does.

This one woman took my dick all the way down her throat and just kept it there and milked the cum out of me with her throat muscles while looking up at me making eye contact the whole time. I assume she was just swallowing over and over or something like that. No head bobbing, no neck straining. No gagging. No tears. Just pure 100% deepthroat the entire time. Just ejaculated straight into her esophagus.

It was only a one time thing but damn if I don’t think about her frequently.

Had a threesome with my boyfriend and his friend. His friend absolutely loved sucking suck and gave the best blowjob I’ve ever had. It’d hard to describe what made it so good. I think it was a mix of the enthusiasm and his extensive use of his tongue.

i had a one night stand with a married woman who wanted to prove that she was good at blowjobs to her husband.

She asked me to video her doing it, and then she sent that video to him.

I was 18 or so at the time, and knew both of them. She asked me to just lie down on the bed and watch something on her tv, she got her phone ready to record, calmly talked about what she was going to do and then started.

I watched two full tv episodes before she stopped. I think I came three times, (this was years ago so I dont remember exactly, might have been twice). Each time she would take it in her mouth and then show the camera.

She went at it like she had something to prove. I remember vividly orgasming the first time and I needed to give my dick a breather. Once I told her that I was good again she very calmly and lovingly sucked on the now my now very flaccid penis until it was hard again.

Ive never had a blowjob even 1/3 as good as hers. Her dedication has never been matched.

I was 22, she was at least double my age.
It was my first week working in a bar after taking half a year off to loose a massive amount of weight(almost 50 kilos). So female attention wasn't something i was used to.
She just sat at the bar alone. When she left she asked me to call her a taxi and told me: I don't care about you, your name, how much money you make, or what kind of car you drive. I just want your body. Call me.
Met her the next day at a motel. We had sex for a while before she told me to just lay down and she started to suck me. I came so good i couldn't move for another ten minutes afterwards.

Her secret? Real sloppy blowjob with lots of saliva running down all over me and a surprise finger in the butt.

For a long while, years, it was a now ex-FWB that one night dressed up in some amazing lingerie, exuded a level of sexual confidence in herself that was rare, and then took her time to enthusiastically and purposefully give me the best blowjob of my life. It was and still is fap folder fodder.

Now it's a current FWB that just downright loves sucking cock like it's been her dream job and has the skills to be a CEO if such a job existed. She's capable of doing things to my dick I didn't know I could do or feel.

Hooked up with a mum about 33yrs old, she was the best by far because she was insatiable. Her lips squeezed my cock and she sucked like she was trying to drain my balls with each stroke! She wanted my cum badly and had teased about wanting it before we hooked up. Unfortunately I couldn't cum from the bj but it's definitely up there as one of my hottest experiences.

One of my former lovers (not someone I dated but more than FWB), who was great at giving oral, could do the perfect tongue swirl between deepthroats. I've never had a girl give me a better BJ. At 19, she, being someone with maybe 3 sexual partners including myself - that girl sure could fuck too. Anyway, we almost got engaged but I saw too many red flags at the time.

Had one broad who blew me for 3 hours. It was the best. I offered on 3 separate occasions to wrap it up she was like no just relax n enjoy . She never got lazy and perfectly altered her technique every so often from paying attention to the head to deep throating etc. She was a terrible human being come to find out but she was a world class blowjob queen.

She’d suck it, then ride it until I came, then she’d suck it until it was ready to ride again because she wanted more. She just loved dick. Haven’t met a girl yet that has come close to matching that kind of enthusiasm.

It’s kind of like the first time I smoked weed. I got really high. I spent years looking for that high again, but one day I just came to the realization I would never find it again.

My girlfriend in senior year of high school. First off she loved sex and giving blowjobs and being enthusiastic always helps but the main thing that always got me was that she would go down as far as she could as I was finishing and swallow while I was still in her mouth. The sensation was always incredible.

Tie between two but the technique of one of them was unique. She’d deep throat then jerk it while she buried her lips, tongue and nose in my balls and sort of sloppily motorboat them while making this humming sound. Made me weak in the knees for some reason.

Was dating a girl for a while that had the uncanny ability to make me cum in seconds. Whether I wanted to or not. I'd have to physically stop her if it was just foreplay and we had other business to attend to. She called it the "1,2,3" technique. I spent a few months trying to figure it out. Doesn't seem like it would really be all that hard to identify a simple, three step process, but I never worked it out. She kept her secrets, and unfortunately, took them with her when we broke up... It's been ten years and I still think about her...

My best was a chick who I had a short summer fling with. She would use her lower teeth to lightly graze against the frenulum. I’ve tried to explain to others but they either can’t hold the position of their mouth long enough or use too much teeth.

My wife likes to be face fucked more that give a bj, so it’s more like I’m using her mouth more that she give a bj.

Definitely my current girlfriend.
I eat her and she blows me (we do that at same time). Multiple times i have not been able to control myself when she blew me. Pretty much like she gives me orgasm without me cumming.

One of my exes, it wasn’t so much technique as much as it was sheer enthusiasm, she loved giving blowjobs.

The only thing I’ve noticed is that when girl loses her virginity earlier she tends to give a worse blowjob, when she loses it later (like say 17-18+) she tends to give better head. It’s not a hard and fast rule but I’ve found it to be generally true.

The only reason I can figure for this is that, like the aforementioned GF who lost her virginity late senior year of HS but she had a boyfriend for a couple of years, needless to say she had a couple of years of exclusive BJ practice before having sex. Same with another girlfriend (she lost her virginity at 21) I had who gave good head although she wasn’t as enthusiastic.

Contrast that with a handful of women ive dated who lost their virginity super young, like 14-15 years old, and they all gave terrible head. I figure this is because they skipped the years of oral and fooling around and went straight to sex.

I was 31. Met an 18 yr old on Tinder that had a daddy fetish. I had reservations but she was really funny and her sexual interests were very developed despite her lack of experience. Plus she is straight up beautiful.

We went bowling. Afterward, in the parking lot, she changed my worldview with her mouth. Before that night I wasn’t really a blowjob guy. I don’t request them but also don’t turn them down.

She is a damned savant at sucking dick. It’s the combination of big lips, high viscosity high slippery spit, patience, and enthusiasm. She was obviously enjoying the task at hand and I was too.

So for tips, as a guy who has been fortunate receiving end. Use a lot of spit and gag yourself so that your spit has a lot of mucous, go slow and maximize the amount of contact between lips/cheeks/tongue to cock (teeth exist, it’s fine, just don’t drag them or bite), have fun, swallow, be patient.

First night we hung out, she was really into me. Gave me an enthusiastic pornstar blowjob like she wasn't going to see a dick for years. Squeezed it tight at the base, nice and sloppy, good deep throating. Sucked my balls without me asking. Varying pace and technique and did that thing we she pops it out the side of her mouth. Then looked me in the eyes as I blew it down her throat. Went back many times

Best one was where about five minutes in, I ask if we can switch so I can go down on her. I usually don't cum from oral, so was feeling like I needed to take the pressure off of her to perform, and five minutes of real-time blowjob is plenty for me. She looks up at me, pops my dick out of her mouth, and says "can I please keep sucking you a little longer? I love having your dick in my mouth." I came in her mouth a few minutes later.

My girlfriend had just cheated so I quickly went to tinder for rebound.

Metup with this girl and I kinda broke down and told her my girlfriend had just cheated on me less than a week ago and I was a mess...she consoled me and one thing led to another and her mouth was on my cock. I almost didnt want her to do it because historically, I didnt like blowjobs. I'd gotten them from 2 other girls and they were both very "meh". I never even came from one.

This was something else entirely though. She had no gag reflex and had pornstar level skills and went at it with such gusto. Idc if it was out of pity but it still made me get over my breakup quicker 😂

Transwoman here. I’ve been told I give amazing blow jobs, because of my eagerness to do so. I love seeing the face of a man as he’s being pleasured by my mouth. They almost always look like they’re shocked when I first deepthroat them. I wouldn’t even say I’m that good technique wise, I’m just very happy to do it.

I'm an orally fixated woman. I've always absolutely loved giving BJ's. I haven't had a gag reflex for years. A few years ago, I found myself actually craving cum. It's a strange response to salivate thinking about swallowing cum. I thought I was an expert before, but now I know I am. I recently learned how to properly deep throat. It was shocking to both me and my SO. Just when I was about to panic for air, I felt my epiglottis open, then buried the last 3 inches. I will attest it is not an easy task. In fact, it's painful...my throat is still sore now. But, I absolutely LOVE my new trick & the power! I figure I can work through this uncomfortable feeling, just like I did my gag.

She went so slowly, looks up at me while she does it, gently and slowly nursing and licking it, and it felt SO GOOD.

Like when a girl is just going as fast as she can to get it over with you can tell, this girl was different. She really enjoyed it and took her time making me feel good. When I finally came I almost passed out. She showed me my cum in her mouth and let a little dribble down her chin onto her awesome body and perky titties. Then swallowed it all and giggled at the look on my face.

I've have some good blowjobs but I will never forget that one.

Like when a girl is just going as fast as she can to get it over with you can tell, this girl was different. She really enjoyed it and took her time making me feel good. When I finally came I almost passed out. She showed me my cum in her mouth and let a little dribble down her chin onto her awesome body and perky little titties. Then swallowed it all and giggled at the look on my face.

However, I've had many in my years and I'll agree with those that said swallowing is not common. The majority of girls don't want cum in their mouths, so the ones that do, make the difference. I do remember two girls in particular that after swallowing, they did this slutty/sexy thing where they took their pinky finger and wiped the corners of their mouth and licked it. Like it was the best thing they ever tasted. That was hot.

Not the guy, but I gave my first ever blow job to a guy from tinder while we were out camping near a river. He told me that it was the first time he ever came from oral sex (I want to believe it's true because it was damn hard to stimulate him after he'd had a surgery on his shaft) but hell if I know what I did that was so good

Taking this out of the comments, some tips my girlfriend group has agreed are quite effective.

Hold your thumb inside your first fairly tightly, if you have any gag reflex left, it won't be triggered. I'm not sure why, but this really works.

Another thing that's both highly enjoyable and makes for a great deep throating angle is letting your head fall slightly off the end of the bed while he stands and thrusts next to it. He can go deep easily and comfortably, while enjoying your breasts and watching you move.

Alternatively, riding his leg while he's on his back is a lot of fun.

One point that seems to give keen, often mind blowing pleasure, is massaging around the prostate and letting up very little. Near constant, but not too heavy pressure is most effective. Prepare yourself for his explosive orgasms...

This blonde chick I used to kinda date/hangout with when I was like 17 or 18. Then when I was at university she used to come by my college house and buy some herb off me. I used to throw her an extra pinch and she would thank me by giving me a heather Brooke like BJ. Had a mouth like a dyson vacuum. goddamn I miss it

This girl I met on Meetme before it became Bumble. The while time she gave me head I had a tickling sensation in my stomach. Felt like she was sucking the soul out of me.

As for technique, she would deep throat me, then jerk me while sucking on my balls. Licking them as well. Best part was when I busted in her mouth, she showed me it and swallowed and went back to suck the head. Just so godly

I was seeing this girl who would blow me for hours. I would come to her apartment and she would grab me a beer, turn on the tv and start going to town. If circumstances were different I would have wifed her. :(

A prime example is she was blowing me one time. It felt great, she wasn't in a rush and I was enjoying myself. Well she gets a call and has to leave in 5 minutes. I express a little bit of disappointment in not finishing..... This sends her into action mode. She becomes the Avatar of cock, talking hand pressure, tongue action, speed, and ferocity unite to make me bust before she he has to go.

I've never quite felt manly since that day knowing she could bust that out whenever she wanted.

I was 17 and having a small gathering with some friends 3 girls, 2 blokes. One to the girls was seeing one of my mates, were all sat round when she pipes up and asks her best friend if she wants to suck me off...

Now at this point I’m sat here smiling and happy for a free blowjob, thinking this girl is my best wingman. Then she turns to the other fucking girl and says ‘do you want to join them’... she said yes

Now I’m in dreamland, anyway long story short we produce to the kitchen and the both start getting off with each other and then me.

The first girl we’ll call her Bella (for story purposes) was a blowjob god. To this day it’s the single best head I’ve had from a girl, she not only managed to take it all (not many do), but she had a technique which I can only describe as magical. No teeth or roughness, and to this day I’ve never had a blowjob that beats it. After a good 40 mins taking each of them, I choose Bella for the finish.

She jsut managed to open up her throat so that you just slide down with no friction or anything. You could tell this was not her first rodeo.

without sounding like a humblebrag she straight up took the whole cucumber down her throat like an avacado swallowing a goat and twisted her jaw going up and down like a screw like motion. I unloaded the toad in about 30 seconds.

Her name was Ashley and she was the DUFF in my group of girl friends. She was cute, just a bit heavier than the other girls (they were lowkey the equivalent to Regina George). Anyway, Ashley had a thing for me.

We were at a party and she just straight up asked if I wanted head. Ofc I took it.

Her secret was using both hands and like idk, she used her throat to like massage my cock. It was weird. But sweet. I've never nutted so fast in my life.

Word got out and Ashley became known for amazing head and the whole squad can attest to her swallowing techniques.

One was from a porn performer who responded to “I don’t feel great today”, by blowing me.

She had a very long tongue and could play with my balls with it as she went down. Also created a real seal so it was very intense.

The other was a normal non-professional. Every time I told her I was about to come she would deep throat me so her lips were on the base of my stomach. It felt amazing and also signaled real enthusiasm. Before. That she was kind and smart enough to understand that however good it looks on screen, licking it like a popsicle doesn’t feel as good as tight pressure and irrumatio.

My first wife was the best. She had this technique she used that she called "The Crank", she didn't even have to put her mouth on me that much, just enough to keep her mouth over the tip and keep it wet. But then she would twist her grip with her hand on the way up and then twist in the opposite direction on the way down. She could adjust the pressure over so slightly with her thumb and Holee balls... Amazing. Now, whenever I'm in a relationship and someone asks me what I like, I tell them exactly this. I teach every person I'm with "The Crank".

A very nice and sweet girl rocked my world the first time we went all the way. I was so shocked that once she started I went straight to heaven. I'm pretty sure it's mostly about including the balls at all times

Random hookup of pof. Sitting on her couch making out she turns to me and asks “ Want to see a magic trick” I was like wtf I met a psycho... proceeds to give head. It was all in the lips. 10/10 best blowjob ever.

Ex gf was a master of bjs. I dated her months after I knew our relationship wouldnt last just because she gave marvelous bjs. I guess the secret ingredient is joy, she loved the meat in her mouth more than in her vag

She loved giving head in general and was submissive in the sack, which I prefer, but one time, we were laying in bed, cuddling and talking before going out (pro tip: have sex before you go out because you feel better and there's no weird "I should eat like I have to perform later" anxiety).

Anyway, normally she would just get me in her mouth quickly and such, but this time she was being very slow and teasing. Kissing down my chest and around my dick but never actually doing it, massaging, tickling and lightly scratching my stomach and thighs. It was different and fun for her to be a little bratty and teasing. Lead to the best BJ of my life.

She even tried recreating that every once in while with being a little bratty and teasing but it just never got to the same heights.

In my entire life, there have only been 5 times that I have cum from a BJ. My first long-term girlfriend managed it twice, 30 years ago, and held "the record" for the next 27 years. During that time, I had my share of partners, and most attempted to please me that way at some point or other, but nobody ever finished the job, and I never put any pressure on them to. As the years went by, my sex life just was never what it had been in my youth, and I chose to gracefully accept that. When the subject would come up, I would let women know that it just wasn't a big deal to me, and many expressed relief about that because they just were not into sucking dick. I've always thoroughly enjoyed going down on women, and they seem to enjoy it that much more after I would communicate that I didn't have any expectation for the favor being returned.

Fast-forward to 3 years ago, when I first met my fiance. We hit it off immediately, and planned a weekend road trip together shortly following our first few dates. We had not had sex yet, but were talking about it, and it was absolutely on for the planned road trip. The first morning of the trip, I showed up to pick her up, and she was looking mortified for some reason. Oh know, she has got cold feet about it, right? No, she just lost track of what time of the month it was, and had just started her period, and was worried about it. I just laughed about it, because that has never bothered me or put me off, so I told her to relax about it and not worry. She had hang-ups about it, from previous relationships, mixed with a dash of shaming about it from her upbringing, but I was just happy to embark on this trip with her, regardless of any sex that was or was not going to take place, and we started on our journey.

First stop for the night, in Santa Barbara, we went to this cool little modern hostel-hotel, where we had a nice private room. Within minutes of getting to our room, she just jumped on me and went straight for the dick. For all her relative lack of experience and general innocence, she seemed to know exactly what she was doing. She was using her hands and her mouth, with plenty of good grip, and just went about it furiously. She made me cum within a few minutes, and swallowed, and I was just blown away. Nothing like that had happened for 27 years, and I let her know that, and she seemed quite proud of herself. She seemed to really enjoy herself, and has never shut up about how much she just loves my cock, and that enthusiasm has continued in the years since.

That still was not the best BJ of my life, however. The best was also her, though I never came that time. I was introducing her to weed, and pretty stoned myself, but she had no experience with it. She didn't realize how much weed can delay ejaculation for men, though I had mentioned it. So this particular time, she was trying her hardest to blow my mind like that first time, but I wasn't cumming. She just kept trying, like the rest of her life depended on it, and it was absolutely incredible. She went on and on, seemingly forever, and despite never cumming, I felt things I have never felt before, or since.

And that is one of the things that I am still trying to teach her. It isn't all about orgasms, and a bunch of the best sex of my life never actually resulted in an orgasm on my part. I can get myself off in as little as 30 seconds, pretty much whenever I want to, and it just isn't a big deal to me. I would rather have a situation where I get to spend a lot of time enjoying and pleasing a woman, and feel way better about myself than any momentary pleasure I would get from my own orgasm. She gets so hung up about whether "she made me cum" or not, in circumstances where we've been going at it forever, and she has had multiple orgasms, and I'm feeling like a million bucks and could not be happier. I just get way more joy from spending time enjoying the body of a beautiful woman, and feeling good about myself for pleasing her, than any orgasm of my own could ever compete with. Truly, it isn't the destination that matters, but the journey along the way.

My girlfriend, I told her I was still feeling the one she gave me the day prior so I probably wouldn't come that day. She apparently took that as a challenge and started bobbing her head in sync with her hand while I starred at her thong that was showing off a little bit of her plump ass and it was too much for me

My lady. To borrow from Ron White, if you ever get a chance to try her blowjobs, I highly recommend them.

Her secret? She doesn't just wrap her lips around it and bob her head like a lot of other ladies do. She's actively sucking and forcefully using her lips and tongue. Plus both hands stay involved the entire time!

But more than technique, she actually likes it, she enjoys giving head. This isn't just something she doesn because i asked her, or it was her turn. In our 5+ years together I can count on one hand the number of times she had to call off a blowie, and every single time she was sick, injured or had some other legit reason. In every single other case she stayed down as long as I needed or wanted her to.

There's a running joke between us that her blowjobs are so good, she's ruined other girls for me! Probably true, tbh. But damned if I'm not happy as hell! :)

My most recent ex was not very good st first. Towards the end of our short relationship she was amazing. One of the things I noticed was she started to use the tip of her thumb and index finger to loosely stroke the shaft and sides of the scrotum. I never cared for ball play until I realized how euphoric it was while her mouth and tongue was working my tip. Then of corse using her hand with a loose grip when she caught her breath was really pleasing as well.

She must have watched videos or something cause in the beginning she used a lot of teeth, and she knew I loved going down on her. Man the sex was good. 😞

I met a woman at a party. She gave me a blowjob as a thank you for eating her out. I'm on the smaller side and she was able to get down to the base. She then very gently nibbled at it and I thought it was so hot. She was also slapping my ass a little and I loved it.

When using your hand use your whole hand not just index finger and thumb, and make sure youre actually sliding up and down with lube and not just gripping the skin and pulling. Also soften your lips and press them fully on, no stiff lips that doesnt feel good.

My crazy ex girlfriend, she didn't cut and scratch my member with her teeth and she kept going after swallowing everything.

My current girlfriends mouth is small so blowjobs are pretty much out of the question. She's tried but I just feel her teeth and she's never finished the job (not giving up hope maybe one day it'll happen) and she's not crazy so you win some you loose some.

My current girlfriend gives the best blowjobs. But the best of them have been road head, which is dangerous so I try not to make a habit of it aside from just not normally being in the situation for it to happen. Dunno why that's just better than normal but it universally feels better

Slowly moving their head up and down while quickly moving their tongue side to side. It was like 5 years ago, I've had better blowjobs before and since but only due to affection or enthusiasm, not technique.

I was 18/19ish and working at a local restaurant. Most of the waitresses on the night crew were around my age or just slightly older. Not saying I was a stud or anything but I got with a few of the girls and not one had made me cum just from giving me head. Word got around the restaurant that I don't cum from blowjobs. One of the older, and by older I only mean by 3 or 4 years had once told me that the other girls just didn't know what they were doing. So that became a dumb joke because to me it seemed they were doing just fine, I thought it was all my issue. So one day the 22yr old asks me if I'll come with her to get a piercing, I had a couple at the time, so I said sure. We got in her car and she proceeded to drive straight to her apartment. Being the naive kid I was/am I was a little confused when she asked me to come up. We are sitting on her couch and she says, "You should take your shirt off" To which I reply, "Ok, but so should you." (I caught on quickly) We ended up in her room, and thats where it all went down. Lots of eye contact, using her hands on my dick as well, telling me to squeeze her tits whenever I would stop, deep throating, and not being all sloppy with it. She swallowed my cum, and still maintained eye contact. It was the first time my stomach tingled when I came.

We were driving back from a movie, she was in the passenger seat. It was a long drive and I intentionally made it longer by going at a slow pace. The road was quite dark and deserted, so we had our privacy. She pulled down my zipper and took it in mouth and proceeded to give me the best experience of my life.

My wife, because she dives right in and clearly wants to make it happen and give me a mind-blowing orgasm. She also likes to slip under my desk while I'm gaming and just go for it. Definitely not something I've asked for but that's probably the best part

Girl was a mediocre fuck but gave amazing head. Great movement and eye contact and she sucked every last drop out of my dick. Before her, I’d usually just skip head cause most girls suck at it and it ends up hurting and being uncomfortable. But she changed my mind

An ex FWB...Deep throat, relentlessly sucks me like I had the antidote... pure bliss... I felt a strong sense of love toward her the first time she did it... she dumped me 3 months later for her boss... but alas... it was a beautiful 3 months.

My wife gives the best head I've ever had hands down (then up, then down). She trys to suck my soul out from the head, while she's stroking me. She's the BEST I've ever had in bed. I think the secret is communication. We listen to what the other wants, then do that.

She took the whole shaft down her throat and tickled my balls with her tongue. I am not hung like a horse, but large enough to make that feat impressive and to never have it happen before or since. I am happily married now and have a fulfilling sex life, but that trick was something else.

The girl was 18 and a major major slut. She had been with 30 guys by the time I met her.

Instead of just an up/down motion, she went at it with a rotation as well. It took less than a couple minutes for me to finish and she complained that I came too quick. Like, damn girl, I'm 17, and you're performing like you're getting paid for this. She broke up with me because she was going to schwagfest and wanted to fuck a bunch of dudes in a field.

Short term fling with a lovely sexy redheaded woman. She surprised me out of know where with it as I was laying on her bed after we had sex. She was looking at my dick with this hunger then she came over and grabbed me and gave me hands down the best blowjob ever. Maybe she was returning the favor from me eating her out.
Perfectly slide me in and out of her mouth, sealed her lips around me, no grazing teeth. Her hand moved up and down with her mouth and she twisted her hand as she moved up with just enough saliva to lube up her lips and hand. She moved her tongue around my cock while she was pumping too, around my shaft and head. Literally went cross eyed. Most of all, she really wanted to suck my dick and it showed. That fire I could see in her eyes as she looked at me laying on her bed made me feel so sexy and made it so much better when she did it without me asking or even hinting
Only feedback, she could have played with my balls and sucked them, but I understand why some people might not. Still miss that sex. She was a catch and I dropped the damn ball.

Short term fling with a lovely sexy redheaded woman. She surprised me out of know where with it as I was laying on her bed after we had sex. She was looking at my dick with this hunger then she came over and grabbed me and gave me hands down the best blowjob ever. Maybe she was returning the favor from me eating her out.
Perfectly slide me in and out of her mouth, sealed her lips around me, no grazing teeth. Her hand moved up and down with her mouth and she twisted her hand as she moved up with just enough saliva to lube up her lips and hand. She moved her tongue around my cock while she was pumping too, around my shaft and head. Literally went cross eyed.
Only feedback, she could have played with my balls and sucked them, but I understand why some people might not. Still miss that sex. She was a catch and I dropped the damn ball.

This random fat chick who’s a music major at my community college. I had just got broken up with and took her out on a couple dates just to get my feet wet with seeing other people again and on our 2nd date she sucked my soul out of my body in the back of my moms Chrysler town and country minivan. The secret was definitely enthusiasm, being sloppy, deepthroating, and expert avoidance of teeth. I went into that blowjob a different person than when I came out of it.

Well it was a FWB I had for a while... She could do it all deep throat it, throat fucking , was super sloppy and swallowed everything. Best technique was with me she used a lot of spit and just the right hand pressure to jack me off and her spit became more like a lube... The sounds were amazing.. I can't lie if she wasn't super freaking crazy I'd be with her now.

I dated a girl for a while that did this thing where she made a little vacuum pocket thing with her lips and tongue. I'm not really sure how to even explain it. this only went about a quarter of the way down my dick so she'd grip the shaft tight while doing it and then look up at me. I've never cummed so hard in my life. Like literally my hands would go numb.

I've had some good deepthroat but this was by far the best technique ever. This girl def figured out how to work smarter and not harder. I've never had another girl come even close to replicating this.

My wife actually. I’ve had some good ones but she’s the queen of the bj. She loves getting stoned and sucking my dick and really gets into it. I believe that’s the key. Not doing it as a chore but because she wants to. It’s amazing

My ex. Made it sloppy wet. Used 2 hands like she was churning butter. Also did it because she loved it. It’s not as good if they do it like a chore. Then she swallowed everything. Squeezed it to get every last drop. That was my “Holy Shit” moment.

I don’t know if this counts, but for me it was a slut off of Tinder that was into really rough sex and wanted to be hurt. She would take the roughest oral sex I could give. Like rougher than you see on porn sites. I can tell you, It is something worth having.

Where do these rules come from? I never heard about blow jobs for flowers. Does that mean when a man gives you flowers it's because he actually expects to get something in return and not just because he wants to show her how loved she is?

Oh man. I don't share personal info but a girl I met while abroad thanks to, ehem, a website we're all familiar with, who deepthroated, gagged and swallowed like an absolute champ. Asked her mid way 'you good??' as she gagged, she said yeah as she kept going at it.

The enthusiasm in something like that adds many points to a girl for sure. wow..

It is between 2 women. They were both hookups from PoF. They both sucked the sheets right through my asshole. Its all about the right amount of moisture and syncing all of the hand and mouth motions. Also, carrying the bj all the way through climax is key, so there is no break in the action.

guys this is going to sound weird, but you should really taste your semen once in awhile. do it for science! it can help gauge where youre at health wise and to make accurate changes in your diet for your partner especially if you want them to give you bjs or swallow. i dont know if its normal for guys to taste their semen, but i think if you tasted it, you would understand why so many woman dont give bjs, dont like semen anywhere near their face or dont swallow. some semen can have offensive smells and taste that are so bad that it instantly causes dry heaving. its almost like nature is trying to deter us from swallowing loool (Mother nature- "waste not, want not"). i just think tasting it would give you a better appreciation of what your partner goes through. Vice versa ladies.🤗🤗🤗🤗

My current girlfriend. She will work the shaft like a pepper grinder, and use her elbows to press her breasts together so they're all on display for me and whatnot. Enough mouth on the head to keep everything wet, and ..I'm going to throw an anatomical term out there...she knows how to work the frenulum with her lips. That's the sensitive,clit-analogous, ring on the penis just below the head.

My friend Danielle, we were never a couple or anything but she always claimed how good she was. First time I lasted a minute, other times longer. I can’t explain exactly what she did, but she said she had a guy teach her how to do it.

My wife. Genuine enthusiasm plus a lot of skill. She is the only woman who ever made me cum from a blowjob. A previous girl who wasn't able to, but asked me to fuck her til i was close then tell her so she could quickly put it in her mouth got a lot of points for that though.

It's a tie between this random punk rock girl named Lindsay, and my last ex who shall remain nameless because she's on this site somewhere, and she's actually a very nice lady who deserves anonymity.

Punk Rock Lindsay had this incredibly dexterous hand/mouth combo. She knew when to like squeeze and stroke, remove the hand go full oral, plus she had this crazy eye contact that would just like
..look into you and fucking KNOW what it was that was needed next. Its hard to explain. There was also a moment when she came up for air and was just vigorously yet delicately cranking away, but she had this loooooong stand of spit/cum going from her mouth to my dick, and she smiled and said something cute, then just like ATTACKED my dick going back in. The juxtaposition between adorably sweet and cock famished fucking turned off my begin. It was crazy. This was like...2007. I still sometimes think about what she might be doing these days. Haven't really spoken to her since.

Then there's the last gal I dated. Kinda extra thick but still very sexy. Unbelievably gorgeous face. Like, Hollywood gorgeous. I miss her pretty eyes and smile all the time.
She was a very "goody two shoes" type. Successful parents, interesting, kushy upbringing, college degree. Basically the exact opposite of me.
I fully expected her to be a very vanilla partner sexually, which was fine with me, she was beautiful and funny and thought I rread interesting for some reason.
It didn't take long to find out she was extra freaky. Suffice to say, not much was off the table, but I know this thread is great blowjobs, so let's talk about why she's the best ive ever had.
You couldn't be rough enough. It started early on with an awkward sexual encounter on the couch after a lot of fooling around, with not much success due to whiskey dick (know your limits, guys).
She laid back on the couch, just wearing her shirt, and kinda motioned for me to put my dick in her mouth. So she's on her back on the couch and i'm straddling her face. This bad some music effect on my whiskey dick, and everything was all systems go. I was trying to be gentle and polite with the whole situation, but she was making it pretty clear that wasn't necessary.
In very little time the awkwardness was gone for both of us, and she made it abundantly clear that i couldn't fuck her face aggressively enough. And as it turns out, apparently that's my thing.
Imagine putting a wig on a basketball and try to fuck it into a soccer ball. Doesn't make sense? I fuckin I'm now. I'm confused too. But goddammit I tried.

She wanted me to grab handfuls of her hair and aggressively slam her head into my pelvis. She's thrown up on my penis and just got mad that she had to slow down. She really, really wanted to be dominated, and it was something I didn't know I wanted so much.

The shit was incredible.

Also, something to be wary of fellas. If she brags about how amazing she is at oral...100% lie. It's a bluff. You're gonna have a bad time.

My current fiance. And the secret is that she asks what I like very specifically, and has been perfecting my dream blowjob since we started dating. And tbth, the act of explaining what feels good while she's doing it, in itself, does it for me.

I'd say my current SO. She's the only one who ever managed to finish me off and she discovered that I can only do so with a rubber, because I have this fear of busting inside her mouth (my exes absolutely didn't want me to do so)

One best was doing good work with some proper jerking
The other best was the sloppy, swollow the whole dick, some proper deepthroat
Another best was playing herself and lost her freaking mind and still gave proper blowjob

My girlfriend, she loves it. Sometimes she gets lost in it, not trying to make me cum but instead just thoroughly enjoying playing with it. She also really loves to let me use her head, so it takes the strain off her neck, and I can get the right pacing I want.

This thread just fills me with envy. I've never even reached climax from a bj. My current s/o really tries so I've kind of let her think she finished me once but she just got me close. The first bj I ever got still feels like the best because she was the only girl that was able to deep throat me all the way, but she only went down for a warm-up not a main event.

My ex would blow really fast then take it out and stroke with her hand really fast (I assume her mouth got tired). Then she would say the dirtiest things about how she doesn't want my cum but needs it. She would go back and forth talking dirty and blowing me. It was amazing.

Well actually, it was my last tinder date that we had something going for at least 6 months ,after our first meet up/hook up . She just enjoys sucking ! Doesn't t matter if we finished sex or I am watching Netflix .If she wants to suck she will do it with great pleasure and care for my dick ! Pluus she was the first to swallow and daamn I can say no sperm was wasted after that for as long as we had smthing going !

One girl loved getting throat fucked. She got wet from it. She loved it when she would lay on the bed with her head hanging off the edge as I stand over her. Should have wifed her up. This was 5 years ago and I still think about it.

(Absolutely True Story)
My “At one time” (wasn’t currently) step sister. We had a summer affair (she was cheating,not me).
It was the best so far because she had false teeth and would take them out while doing the deed if I had the lights turned down or off. Also she went at it like I had the cure for daddy issues stored in my balls.