(Closed) If you could do it over would you elope?

I had a traditional wedding with my first marriage and in hindsight I feel like it was a big waste of money (partly because the wedding didn’t work out and secondly because it was our money that was spent) I also felt like the day turned into a day for everyone else but us. We really didn’t have a chance to enjoy one another during the actual wedding.

With my second marriage my Fiance are planning an elopement. Just the two of us in the mountains and renting a rustic cabin for the weekend this fall.. At our intimate ceremony in the mountains we are going to have professional pictures taken, and have a small cake and champagne. The evening we get back we are going to have a reception for about 35 of our friends in a private party room at a local tapas restaurant. There we will have food and drinks and a larger wedding cake. We are going to have disposable cameras for candid shots and a few personalized touches and favors at the reception. We plan on wearing our wedding clothes (my dress is going to be simple and my Fiance is wearing a suit and converse shoes) and asking the guests to wear dressy attire too.

Just wondering how many future Mrs. out here or married bees would change things if they had a second chance.

I personally wouldn’t change my wedding for the world. It just wouldn’t feel right to me to not have all my family and close friends there with us. But Darling Husband and I are both really big on family and I know that varies for each individual.

Props to you though for doing what is right for you and your Fiance – it differs for everyone!

I wouldn’t change ONE thing…well except the priest who officiated the wedding he was a horrible horrible person.

All the planning, all the money, and all the time we put into it were worth it in my opinion. It just ended up being the most perfect day, everyone seemed to have a good time and at the end of the day we were so happy to finally be married. In the middle of planning I did think that maybe we should just put everything down and elope far far away but I would have regretted it BIG TIME!

Yep, I would have. But the main reason for that is because my sisters aren’t coming and neither are FI’s parents. We knew his parents weren’t coming (LONG story), but my sisters had lead me to believe they WERE going to come until I had to pry it out of them two weeks ago that they weren’t. My only family at the wedding will be my mom and step-dad.

I wish we would have just run off to Hawaii and got married there instead (that is where we are honeymooning).

I have vacillated back and forth and back and forth over this issue. Right now, 4 days from my wedding, I’m glad we’re going to be surrounded by our loved ones. Had you asked me a couple of weeks ago, I was done with planning. I was sick of it and couldn’t understand why in the world we wanted to spend so much time, money, and effort on one day.

We talked about eloping as a serious option early on in our wedding planning, but we knew that it would hurt too many peoples’ feelings to be worth it. If that wasn’t the case, I would have definitely eloped!

Haven’t had my wedding yet, and I always wanted a traditional wedding. Now as the dollar signs add up, even though I’m still well within budget, I have the feelings that its a waste and I would just rather elope and be married.