Premarital issues you should be wary of

The path to your D-day can be paved with potential conflicts. While this may be true, counsellors say that pre-nuptial fights can also help couples iron out any differences that may crop up between them. Conflicts can also help couples to understand the issues that may prove to be thorny in future. Big fights can also prove whether couples are able to argue without ruining the very foundation of your relationship. So, here are top five issues that can rear their ugly heads before marriage:

MoneyBeware of the wedding budget differences. One of you may want to blow the budget on a destination wedding, but the other half may want a quiet court marriage with close friends. If you hit an impasse over this, here’s what you need to remember: Your wedding will last a day, while your marriage is meant for life. If you focus on living a life together, you can easily work around the differences over wedding budget.

Interfering in-lawsBoth sets of parents may weigh in. All of them may have their individual wishes and fancies when it comes to planning your wedding and helping you to move in together. The only way to deal with too much interference is to stand united as a couple. Both should politely agree to disagree with their in-laws, without hurting their sentiments.

Multi-cultural ceremoniesIf the partners are from two different cultural backgrounds, the question of whose family’s customs to follow may become an issue. If things go out of hand, there can just be a registered marriage, followed by a grand reception. In any case, traditions of both families must be respected.

Workload woesBoth partners should be equally involved in planning their wedding. Any mismatch would be a ground for conflict. All responsibilities towards arranging a successful wedding ceremony should be equally divided.

Is there a prenup?If there is one, it can cause a whole lot of stress before the wedding. You might have to deal with anger and resentment during the process. Experts say that couples often feel that a prenup sounds like acceptance of the eventuality of a divorce. But think of the practical side of it — a prenup may perhaps save you from a lot of hassles in the long run.