still no interest in sex?

BTDT, will I ever be in the mood again? DS is 9 months old this week, I'm pretty much back to my prepregnancy body, and I didn't tear during delivery so no issues 'down there.' I BF, and solids are still marginal enough that they haven't decreased frequency of nursing yet. And he still eats 1-3 times a night...he's mostly in his own bed though.

Really though...I'm starting to feel like something is wrong with me. Sex seems like too much work, not worth the cleanup, just not even remotely appealing. Prepreg, DH and I couldn't stop ourselves and rarely went more than a day. Now? He's lucky if it happens once a week. Is there something wrong with me?

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Nothing wrong with you. For me, it was after I stopped nursing and baby was sleeping through the night that I started wanting and enjoying it again. Just remember too that the more sex you have the more you want. I don't have much drive either but I still put forth the effort with SO because once we're into it I enjoy it and I also like the reconnection. The reminder that we are still more than just Mom and Dad is important.

Ok...glad I'm not alone! I feel bad for DH, but I guess my body has put forth the majority of the work to make and grow our bouncing bubba boy and needs patience. He complains about bring tired from work, but...growth spurt, DS has been up hourly for the past three nights. I'm exhausted.

I want to bf for at least 18mo...does sex drive increase with nursing decreasing, or is it an 'all or nothing' sort of deal?

I also suspect it'll be easier once DS has his own room (when we buy a house...in a 1br apt now to save $). It's really hard for me to be in the mood when I'm worried about DS waking up and rushing to 'finish' with a fussing baby in the background!

Not trying to hijack your post - I am a FTM too so I have no clue...
I still have no sex drive. I stopped pumping 4 months ago because it would take me 1 hour to get 65mL & LO was eating triple that amount. LO is STTN too. I have lost all my preggo weight plus some. I am finding it hard to be a sexy wife & mom.
Good luck mama.

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AO & BO - Married 2010

First time parents to a baby boy - Due November 2012 but surprised us in October

Sometimes you have to make the effort to have sex even when you're not in the mood. Having sex regularly will make you want to have it more, unless you have a serious hormonal imbalance requiring medical assistance. I'm telling you ladies, make the effort on a regular basis, get a sitter occasionally so you can have more than, the hurry up and do it before LO wakes, sex. It really does make a difference.