TOPIC: husband cheated but won't admit to it

Here is my story...My husband and I have been married for 23 yrs and i thought we have had a great married life until last Thursday...I am looking for some advice from anyone to tell me if I am crazy or do I have reason to suspect. My husband sad up in the bed as I was getting ready for work I turned to him to tell him good morning, I noticed a bright red round sore on his knee I asked him what happend to his knee he said " it is a rugburn and i have no idea how it happend" I immediately thought how in the world do you get a rugburn and not know it...I thought about it all day and decided to approach him again to give him a chance to explain. He swears he has never cheated...I just am so distruat and sick...I have tried to think of any explaination that would be logical, but can't...am I off base with this...

Well, 23 years is a long period of time and undoubtedly there is good understanding of each other. The first thing that comes to mind is this "rug burn" an isoloated incident that has you suspcicious? or has his behaviour been different in other ways that's already had you concerned and this is merely putting your suspicions on high alert? Frankly, I don't think someone who is cheating and wants to keep it secret would typcially be so brazen to announce the sore on their knee is a rug burn upon question. Most cheaters want to hide the truth and would come up with a better sounding plausible excuse.

If it's isolated and you have a loving trusting relationship, I'd be aware of his behaviour to see if anything else is changed and move on. If ohter things have been nagging at you internally. ie the 6th sense something has been going on then you have to decide how concerned are you and make a decision if you want to take proactive steps to find out.

As for not knowing how he got the sore, it certaiinly sounds odd he doesn't have any idea. However, I know in my life there's been rare occassions where I've eneded up with a bump, bruise, cut, etc (nothing major though) and have no idea how I got it.

Sounds familiar. Are there are clues that something is going on? I caught my husband talking to his "friend" HE works with her. He tried to explain it all away. NOt very convincingly. I know what I heard. He has cheated on me before. I am stuck now. We are in debt and just remodeled our kitchen and put a bathroom in downstairs. But there are always clues. If you just think about it, you might figure it out. I'm still trying to figure out what to do next. Good luck.

Honey.....You need more ( greater ) proof than a Rug-burn. And it's there; if he is cheating. Many Men start grooming better, dressing better in order to impress someone. Spending both Time & Money that they can't account for. Working late,
playing more Golf, Ect.
If you can't find any signs, he may just have had something stupid happen that he can't admit.

Dear...
Let's assume the worst. He cheated on you.
With someone he works with. ( A huge mistake for 2 reasons )
The first one is you, and the other is at work..... threatens his job.

Do you thiink he knows or views it as a mistake ? I've known men who did it and regreted it for the rest of their lives.
Then there's the hard one.... Can you forgive him if he is one of those who regretes it ?