Tag: beliefs

My desire is to inspire you to ‘do what you need to do’, in order to ‘be who you want to be’. If you ever need to stretch yourself, I highly recommend trying something brand new and out of your comfort zone!

You could pick something like running a half marathon. This will help to move you forward and bring up all the beliefs you have hiding about yourself. Some of those beliefs might be, “It’s hard, I don’t like running, I don’t know if I can do this.”

When these beliefs surface realize it’s just a part of you that can never do or be enough that’s getting triggered. When those beliefs get triggered go back to focusing on what matters the most to you. How you do that is by asking yourself a few questions…What do I want? Be crystal clear about what you want?

Why do I want it? Get really clear about why you want it?

What strategy will I use? Am I clear about the strategy to get my desire?

Am I creating from the future version? As if it is already done. If not, imagine what it will be like having it, being it or doing it.

Do you have the courage to do what needs to be done to create your desire?

Answer those questions and see what comes up for you. When you can answer the questions above you will quickly get back on the right track. Are you stuck? If you can’t answer those questions, ask for help. If you need help, I’m a phone call away. You can schedule a complimentary breakthrough session with me by emailing me at Jolen@lighterWithin.com.

Words have special meaning and power. Words cannot change reality, but they can change how you perceive reality. Words create a filter through which you view the world around you. A single word can make the difference between liking a person or disliking a person, feeling happy or sad about the situation and even being angry or loving towards another person.

Take the word Disappointment, according to dictionary.comThe feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.

If you look at the word disappointment and break it into parts Dis/appoint/ment Disappointment is dissatisfaction of your actions or disappointment in one’s self because you missed an appointment.

Disappointment is a strong emotion that is felt when an expectation isn’t met. You felt bad that you ran late or missed your appointment.

Now if we take the center word appoint and divide it. You have A/point. A point is a tapered tool or an idea that comes to an end. A /point is to direct someone’s attention. A/point is a new way to think. A/point is being focused. Stay on point until the task is done.

When we look at the word disappointment is takes the power out of us and makes us feel regret, sadness, sorrow, let down, and displeased.

What if we turned the word around to empower us?

A/ point = what is it that you wanted? There was something you wanted to do or have.Appoint = you had an idea or wanted to direct someone’s attention to something that was important. You wanted something that was important to you and it may not have happened.

Disappointment= you let yourself down, an expectation wasn’t met, but if we stay on A/point, focused with a new way to think then we are empowered. The reason why is because we are now focused on the center part of the word A/point. Now it’s A/point to succeed.

We changed the word and our thinking to empower us. Our feelings may have been hurt, but now that we have a new focused direction we are excited to move forward. My question to you is what are you going to do to stay on A/point towards your desires?

Faith is possibilities taking form.
The universe is on our side. It is constantly working on our behalf. There is an unseen force working for the good of all, but we are just not aware of these unfolding unseen forces. We forget that it is there and we try to do it on our own.
We try to direct, force and control this unseen force, but we only interfere with it. One has to have faith and trust that the unseen force is on our side. Trust in the unseen force that moves the Universe and have faith it knows what it is doing.
When we relax our willingness allows it to work on our behalf. Faith is the force of things hoped for that works through the evidence of things not seen. Faith is the trust we function on. It is an idea of possibilities taking form. It is the power to create.
When one has faith and focuses on a positive outcome. The situation changes, but one must hold the truth top of mind, for example: the custody suit I was in was stuck. I was done fighting and I wanted the whole thing to be finished. I switched my thinking around by focusing on a positive outcome instead of all the fighting and having faith everything would turn out okay.
Believing what is beyond, what is visible ~Michael Beckworth
Faith is to believe in, what you don’t see. One of the most important things to have in life is the deep feeling of faith. One may have faith in the fact that life is here to support you and that the universe works in order and perfection, even if you can’t seem to see it or understand it.
Real faith is believing that no matter whatever is happening right now, it is always for your best and highest good, even if you disagree with it. For in the unseen there is a gift or lesson that you just haven’t understood yet. Faith opens the door for miracles to happen. Faith is allowing it to unfold.

Tell me if you can relate to this? You start something new, or maybe you have a great idea and you start working towards your dream. Then that little voice goes off in your head. You know the one I’m talking about. The one that is full of negative talk.

What’s that little voice saying about your dream? Does it say, “You can’t do it, you’re too old, not smart enough, there are too many people already doing it.” “Every time you try something new you fail at it. Just forget it.” Did you know that little voice is keeping you from your dreams? How are you going to stop it?

First be aware of it, then after you have noticed the thought take it and turn that negative thought around by putting your focus on your dreams. Second, start telling yourself you can live your dream. It’s time to start telling yourself, “I’m the greatest. I can do it!” Who was that famous boxer that walked around all the time saying “I’m the greatest! I float like a butterfly and sting like a bee?”

Mohammed Ali. Did you know every time he opened his mouth? He was not stating his fears by saying “I’m afraid that young fighter is going to kick my butt, I’m going to lose this fight.” No Sir! Mohammed Ali said what he was going to do. He stated his affirmations out loud so everyone knew what was going to happen.

In conclusion, you can do the same thing as Mohammed Ali did by stating your affirmations out loud in order to stop your negative thoughts from repeating in your head. The secret is that your mind can only think of one thing at a time. Are you going to listen to the old limiting belief or tell yourself something uplifting? I choose uplifting. What about you? Why not give it a try and let me know how it goes by leaving a comment below.

The other day I was in a business training, when I heard, “You have to expand out of your comfort zone in order to grow and stretch.” I know we have all heard this before. It is nothing new, but today it took on a new meaning. It’s this new perspective that I want to share with you today.

In life, as we travel down the yellow brick road towards the Emerald City. We may run into a few challenges, obstacles or mountains that slow us down or get in our way. These bumps on the journey help us to grow, stretch and get out of our comfort zone.

Where in your life have you run up against a challenge? Look at your life, just for this moment. Where are you not moving? Where are you stuck?

My aha moment! I really don’t like exercise. I asked myself, “What don’t I like about exercise?” I really don’t like sweating and the pain I feel. Then, I asked myself, “If I broke through the pain and got used to sweating, how would I feel?” Great, was the reply! Here’s where the light bulb came on. If I pushed through being uncomfortable I would get used to it and then I would reach a peak of feeling stronger, and healthier.

In business, if you pushed a little harder through the uncertainty, or made more of an effort to finish that unfinished project you would breakthrough that uncomfortable feeling.

In conclusion exercise helps you to breakthrough being uncomfortable. Exercise teaches you how to be in the feeling of stretching and growing. Just for today go for a walk. As you reach the pain point or start to sweat, tell yourself that you are stretching and growing. Then let me know how it goes by leaving a comment.

Have you made the decision to do it? Can you make the commitment? This commitment is to yourself, not to me or anyone else, but you. By making the decision to make the commitment you are now deciding to drop all your excuses, which by the way are keeping you stuck in the game of life.

By making a commitment you are setting the foundation to your success. If you don’t commit, then nothing is going to change. There will be no progress, because it doesn’t matter what you do, you’re not committed. You’ll start and stop again and again. You’ll keep floundering and never get anywhere.

The question is, “If you do nothing, where will you be in a year from now?” If you don’t make the commitment to yourself now, when will you?

If you tell yourself that you are going to do something and then you don’t do it, you are actually lying to yourself. By lying to yourself, you confuse your mind, which creates lack of trust within yourself.

If your mind doesn’t have a direction it, will flip, flop like a fish floundering in the water not going anywhere and nothing will ever change or happen.

Now is the time to make the agreement to yourself, make the commitment. You are the only one who can make it happen. As Nike says… ‘Just Do It!’ Decide that you’re dropping any and all excuses. But, you may ask “How do you make this commitment?”

What I do is take a 3×5 cards, so I can post them above the kitchen sink and on my bathroom mirror. I use colored pencils to draw a little picture, so my eye will keep being drawn to it. Then is the center of the card I post a statement of what I want.

This is really the first step in creating a new mindset. If you’re committed to yourself there are no longer any excuses. I found when I made the decision to do it. I was committed and it was easier to stick to it.

If you don’t make a decision, then it really doesn’t matter what else you do, you will not follow through. Boy, isn’t that the truth. Sometimes the decision is the hardest part, but when you do make the decision, you feel good about yourself and you’re motivated to go after it.

I ask you again, “Are you committed?” If you don’t make the commitment to yourself now, when will you?

Jolen Philbrook

Lighter Within

LighterWithin.com

Jolen Philbrook is a speaker and author who creates programs designed to teach you how to release your pain and hurts in your heart. Her warm and reassuring style helps you feel secure as she guides you to achieve freedom, strength, and success in your life. Her weekly Insightful Tips go out to subscribers across the country. If you are ready to create the life you want, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at http://lighterwithin.com