How you react to labor pain

I showed my SO (significant other) a video of someone in labor being coached through by her dad. He was so focused on her yelling he didn't notice the coaching. He told me I'm going to tell you be quiet if you start all that. He gone piss himself off if he tell me be quiet or show any frustration toward me laboring because he will get the cussing out of his life time!!

Anyways, it had me thinking how do you handle getting through your contractions??

My first I was 18 I did break down crying loudly once they gave me pitocin to speed things up so i was about 7hrs in and i got a epidural but my dad almost lost it seeing my pain. My second i just hummed through contractions until i finally gave into a epidural, which i could've went without because it was time to push as soon as I got it.

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I do the humming thing too once I hit transition. I didnt scream with my 1st, but when I delivered my 9lb 8oz boy naturally, I did let out a squeal! My dr. hushed me in the moment but once she saw him...she knew why I was squealing! Lol

Well first.. if my husband told me to quiet down I would have a nurse escort him out.

But I agree, low hums/moans help through the contractions a lot more than screaming. Screaming and yelling wastes so much energy. Focusing on breathing on staying as relaxed as you can is going to make contractions way more bearable, and save so much energy.

Yea I plan to hum threw them. I'm waiting til I'm in the hospital to binge watch something hoping it will help me get my mind off of them until it gets worse. I feel you gotta do what you have to do to get through them. But I work in LD alot and I've only heard like 2 screaming mommas

I breathe through mine. I actually just told my husband that I think most women scream and he was surprised. They taught me a breathing technique in childbirth class that’s gotten me through both labors now. Haaaa (inhale) -heeee (exhale) through the contraction then at the end a cleansing breath haaaa (inhale) -hoooooo (exhale). I’m silent other than the breathing and my husband will rub my back or neck. I’m also silent during the pushing. Once I get an epidural there’s nothing to handle because there’s no pain.

Oh yeah I would tell my DH (dear husband) he’s not welcome at the birth if he thinks telling me to be quiet is acceptable.

My contractions come on fast and furious and it feels like someone is squeezing my hips in a vice. I remember to breathe through and and if I make noise it’s low and like an ooooh sound. The pushing hurts more for me at least and being in the water is my pain management. I keep things low and focus on my breathing and if it hurts I say it, for some reason if I vocalize this hurts ouch I don’t like this pain it actually helps me. I might be weird in that aspect but in both my births I’ve talked about how much it hurts and within minutes my baby was in my arms.

I know some people have had great success with hypnobirthing. I also find affirmations to be helpful in the beginning, things like “I can do anything for a 1 minute” “my body can do this” “my baby will fit” “I can do this”.

Yeah if DH (dear husband) told me I’d better not XYZ while I’m pushing out a human being I’d be slightly concerned there. I cannot imagine screaming, that takes a ton of energy. But I definitely can’t imagine not being supported if I did.

I'm pretty cool calm and collected through contractions. I wouldnt stand for someone if they tried to tell me how to labor. The only time I yelled or got loud was through the burning ring of fire and even then i just said holy fuck this hurts lol

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