Spice Up Your Marriage! 18 Fun Ideas + a Free Printable

If you’ve been married more than a few years, you’d probably love to spice up your marriage. But then you realize that the thought of pursuing a sexier and more intimate marriage just seems daunting. And a little bit exhausting.

You start to think – What if I don’t know what to do? Or how to do it? And where will I find the time?

Fortunately, figuring out ways to spice up your marriage, enjoy a fun sex life, and create a more intimate marriage doesn’t have to be complicated or take a lot of time. Even the busiest wife and mom can do it.

And you can do it too, even if you feel like the spice level in your life and marriage is pretty bland!

The key is not to try to change a bunch of things all at once. Instead, take one small step and do one fun, sexy or spicy thing this week, then do another next week and another the next. Let them build up over time and become a regular part of your marriage.

Pretty soon you’ll know (and be using) a dozen different ideas to spice up your marriage!

If you’re ready to give it a try, here are 18 simple ideas for adding some spice to your marriage. Give one of these, or any fun and sexy activity, a try this week. (Includes affiliate links.)

1. Take a shower together.

You don’t have to have sex in the shower, which can be kind of tricky (but you could give it a try!). Instead, just relax and enjoy the warm water and each other’s bodies.

5. Make love somewhere other than your bedroom.

The living room? The guest room? The family room? Sometimes all you need is just a slightly different location! Or start making out in another room, then move to your bedroom to ramp things up.

6. Flirt with him.

Remember the things you did when you were dating? Do those things. Wink at him from across the room. Play with his hair. Pinch his butt when he walks by. Kiss him passionately. Build him up and let him know you still think he’s special.

7. Disconnect from your devices and social media and focus on each other.

Declare a device-free evening and spend time re-connecting after a busy day. Do this regularly, because our devices really detract from our time together and intimacy with our husbands (and the other people in our lives.

8. Do something unexpected.

Send the children to a friend’s house for dinner, then spend a few hours together at home. Or arrange for a babysitter and book an inexpensive local hotel room. No babysitter or money? Get the kids in bed early, then watch a movie together and make out like teenagers.

9. Try a new position.

It might be exciting, or it may not work out very well. Either way, have fun with it and enjoy your time together. Check out the Christian Nymphos position page for ideas.

10. Change the tempo of your lovemaking.

If things usually move along quickly, slow the pace and enjoy every touch and movement. If your lovemaking is usually slow and deliberate, pick up the pace and try a “hot and heavy/let me rip your clothes off” approach!

11. Spice up your language.

Say some things to your husband that stretch your sexual language “comfort zone.” This is hard for many women, but even slightly more risque communication about sex can boost your interest and give him a real thrill.

14. Explore something you think will help you feel sexy, but that you haven’t tried yet.

For example, I’m intrigued by the possibilities of corsets!I’ve never owned one or even tried one on, but I’m giving a corset serious consideration. Also aprons – those sheer or lacy vintage half-aprons that tie at the waist. Or really sexy high heels or jewelry. Anything that’s different for you and would help you feel sexy is great.

15. Plan a date that facilitates sex and intimacy.

Some dates don’t facilitate sex and intimacy; for example, a heavy restaurant meal at 9:00 pm is going to put most of us to sleep, not get us in the mood for something spicy! So plan a date that leaves both of you feeling relaxed, refreshed and in the mood.

16. Play a sexy game.

Either an intimate game for couples or just a sexy version of a regular game (Twister, poker!).

17. Do something you did early in your marriage, but haven’t done for a while.

Think back to the early days of your relationship or marriage. What did you do then that you don’t do now? What added fun, novelty or excitement to your relationship? Pick one of those things and do it now.

18. Pack a picnic lunch or dinner with bite-size foods.

Such as strawberries, grapes, cubes of cheese, small sandwiches and tiny cakes. Head to a secluded area of a park or other outdoor location and spread out your blanket, then feed each other bites. Let it be a sensuous activity that leads to other sensuous activities! (But head home before making love!)

(This post is intended to offer ideas and encouragement to women in generally healthy marriages. If you are in a difficult marriage, these ideas won’t be helpful. If that’s the case, please seek professional counseling help to address the issues you’re facing.)

Are you looking for more ways to boost sex, romance and intimacy in your marriage? If so, check out my new ebook – Guide to Romantic Essential Oils. It’s a simple, practical guide that will help you learn to use essential oils to increase sensuality and romance in your life. And it’s written specifically for busy wives and moms – women who don’t have much time and energy but want to feel sexier and enjoy sex more.

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Looking for more in-depth information on ways to boost your libido, feel sexier and spice up your marriage? Check out this 10-video Boost Your Libido ecourse by sex and marriage author Sheila Wray Gregoire. It’s packed with sound information and simple tips to help you find your libido if it seems to be hiding!

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Comments

Yes, marriage is always a work in progress because we dont stop. we need to always make an effort or something new to our partners to keep the fire alive. We always need to find ways to make our partners feel special.

Me and my wife have been looking for things to help us change up our love life. I love your tip to flirt by winking or a slap on the rear when walking by. Bringing back our old flirting might just bring back that old spark as well. Thanks for the tips.

I suggest you forgo the corset. They are super expensive, very hard to breathe in and the boning can be super painful disallowing any positions which could be classified as “exciting”.
Love reading you Medical Monday posts! Thanks for being part of our community all year long! 🙂

I actually got a corset that is very comfortable….for about a half hour. it has no boning but is reinforced with soft,fabric covered metal pieces that have enough “give” in them to make it work. Look for one of those.

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