Then lean over to kiss her again. This time, go very slowly. Gently press your lips against hers. Hold them there for a moment, and feel how she responds.

If she kisses you the same way, then just stop, lean back and relax again for a few minutes.

The next time you kiss her, open your mouth just a little bit, and see if she does the same.

Do this a couple of times.

At some point, she will probably start “escalating” the kisses, because the anticipation is just too much for her.

At this point, stop her. Push her away, and smile.

More anticipation.

Just keep mirroring how she’s kissing you as things get more and more intense. This is a great way to “learn” how to kiss, and she’ll enjoy it because you’ll be doing exactly what she likes.

reader's comment

Hey Dave,

I just finished reading your latest newsletter. Have you taken any courses or read any books on conversation skills? Can you recommend any books on the subject and also on the subject of body language?

Thanks,

AG in PA

david d. responds

The best books I’ve ever read on conversation skills are comedy books. I like the book Comedy Writing Secrets by Helitzer.

And as far as body language books go, I haven’t found any that I can recommend. The book Body Language by Fast has some interesting stuff in it, but most of it is hard to really grasp.

One of the biggest problems I ran into when I was first learning how to meet women was that things didn’t make sense — and things that “should” work didn’t work.

When it comes to women and attraction, the normal rules don’t apply anymore. This area of life is very different from other areas, and when you try to apply ideas and techniques from other areas (like conversation skills), you’ll find that they often don’t work at all.

You can walk into a room full of 100 people, and start walking around meeting them.

For 99 of them, walking over and saying: “Hi, how do you know everyone here?” and “So, what do you do?” will work just fine.

But when you find that one attractive woman in the room that you’d like to meet and you want to start an interaction that leads to attraction, you must do something totally different.

It’s more than the words you say; it’s a total understanding of what that woman is looking for on a deep, primal, subconscious level — and then to be that man.

David DeAngelo is the author of the book Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, and several other products that can help men become more successful with women and dating. He also publishes a free online Dating Tips newsletter, available at www.DoubleYourDating.com.