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Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day 2017: Master List of Posts

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Thursday, 01 June 2017

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It’s Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day! Here is the master list of contributed posts, which I will keep updating throughout the day. Please come back to check for new additions you haven’t read! Thanks to all of you for participating!

To submit a post, complete the form at the end of this post. Older posts are welcome, too, as long as you haven’t submitted them for a previous year of this event. You’re welcome to submit two or three posts if you really just can’t choose; please refrain from posting your entire archive if you post frequently about LGBTQ families.

If you don’t have a blog of your own, make a public Facebook post, upload to a video- or photo-sharing site and submit the link, or leave your contribution in a comment on this post. You can also tweet in support of LGBTQ families with the hashtag #LGBTQfamilies. Please encourage all your friends, LGBTQ, their families, and allies, to participate!

Thanks to GLAAD, Family Equality Council, and HRC for being key supporters of this event; also to PFLAG and COLAGE for helping to get the word out. Mostly, though, thanks to all of the individuals who took the time to write posts and share their thoughts and stories. You enrich and strengthen us all.

Please allow some time between submitting a post and its appearance in the list below. I will be updating the list as fast as possible, but new posts may not appear immediately.

Your contributed posts, in chronological order of submission, are below.

Like all parents, LGBTQ parents want nothing more than to protect our children from harm, keep them safe, and make them happy. And if we’re honest even the most confident of us struggle at times with our identity. When you add children to the mix, our insecurities and fear of judgement can easily be passed on to them.

As a couple, my wife and I try very hard not to inadvertently “push” our preconceived assumptions of judgement on to our children. And it takes both of us, at different times, giving one another a pep talk. All we have to say is, “If you’re uncomfortable, they’ll be uncomfortable. And we don’t want our kids to be uncomfortable, right?” That’s all it takes. And we pull up our big girl panties and do what we have to do.

I’ll give you an example.

Our daughter had gone to school with my wife for 2 years. At one point during the year, her class was having some event that she wanted me to come to. (She was in kindergarten at the time.) Of course I said yes! My wife, however, was nervous.
“What are you going to say when people ask you who you are?”
“Mom…”
“But everyone knows me as her mom. What if they ask more questions?”
Shrugging my shoulders, I said, “Not their business.” Pep talk time… “If you’re weird about it, our daughter is going to be weird about it, and that’s not what we want. Relax.”

So, my daughter and I walk in to her classroom and, of course, this little girl comes right up to me and says, “Who are YOU?” (Gotta love kids!) Anyway, I told her that I am her mom. So, she looked at my daughter and said, “I thought that the principal was your mom?” My daughter, not even skipping a beat, said, “She is! This is my other mom.”
“Your stepmom?”
“What’s a stepmom?,” she asked.
“I don’t know. Like not your real mom,” the little girl says.
“No. They’re both my real moms.”
“Oh.”
And we go play. Never brought up again.

She is going in to 5th grade now and our son is going in to 3rd. There have been several other “situations” for us (as adults) that have not even been a second thought for our children. This makes me happy, and it gives me hope for the upcoming generation. We all must do our part, though (LGBTQ families included), of not passing on our experiences of hate and discrimination, so that we can move forward together in love and unity and acceptance.

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Mombian is a lifestyle site for lesbian moms and other LGBTQ parents, offering a mix of parenting, politics, diversions, and resources.
I founded Mombian in 2005 after noting a lack of sites with current, practical news and information for LGBTQ parents, or sites that looked at other aspects of LGBTQ culture with a parent’s eye. I hope lesbian moms (and others) will find something interesting and perhaps worthy of conversation.
I also created and host the annual Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day event, which began in 2006.
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