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Yesterday, I've begun to take a proactive approach in mastering my game. First up is approach anxiety, I've dealt, or rather endured, with it for as long as I can remember. So on 6 February 2011, I made an approach on a much older woman, it was nothing special not even trying to get her number just to introduce myself. To my surprise it went well, she laughed at my joke of me not being able to sing, but it didn't go beyond that. Today, I'll be making a second approach in school and update later that night.

Hey Lucky, sounds like a good plan. I've been keeping a journal since late summer... Committing to it like this makes a maaaassive difference I find. I've achieved some stuff I never would have had I not been journalling it I reckon. So seriously - stick at it - good luck! Look forward to seeing how things develop

Okay, Day 2. Today was a good day in my opinion, 1. I made more than the necessary approaches and 2. I got rejected (I'll explain why). Okay, first I was on my way to school and was thinking about making my approach to this one girl who I didn't even find attractive, but I didn't go through (I know bummer) anyway I didn't dwell. I arrived at school and met some of my boys, there was this girl sitting on the table who I'd seen before but never actually talked to, this change as I introduced myself and once again I made her laugh, we talked for a bit then I left to eat and rejoined my friends. During the course of the day everything progressed normally, but in my third class I left to use the bathroom and after taking care of my business and washing my hands of course I was walking down the hallway. I saw this cute looking hispanic girl, I didn't even think, I smiled and said "Hi". She gave me a strange look and responded, "Bye". The strange thing is I laughed it off right then and there and even told a close friend of mine later and we both had a laugh. Now the third I can't really be sure if it was an approach, you decide, but I was in the doctors office and there was this milf sitting across from me with her kids, I didn't really feel like opening but then I decided against it, and said, "Man, it sure is a lot of people here today." She responded, "Everyone's getting sick." We continued on for a short conversation, she asked where I went to school, etc. Then we sat in a comfortable silence for a bit before her husband came up, by this time I really had to shit so I excused myself. That's my journal entry flame or praise I don't care hit me with your best shot. Oh, and thanks to hedgemunkey for the encouragement.

Journal Update

Okay, Day 3. Today, I continued with my mission and once again made some progress. Okay, I started out the day extremely tired and wasn't completely focused on my goal today and in fact I skipped at least two opportunities, but I let it go. However during lunch I decided to head into the library for no other reason than it was quiet. I come into the library and discover no one's really in there. There's this one good looking girl, but I already knew her so I couldn't really open. I decided to sit at a computer and with my luck there was a girl sitting right there. I didn't really think about it and just walk towards my seat and said, "You don't mind me sitting here?" She said no, I sat and introduced myself. We got into a discussion about music; our favorite rappers, who was the best rapper, albums, so on and so forth. She kept the conversation going by staying engaged and I genuinely enjoyed it. We ended our interaction when class was resuming. So flame or praise there you go.

haha I dont know why you'd think we might flame you, everyone's journey is their own and at their own pace and style.

sounds like you have mostly overcome at least some AA(approach anxiety) and you are maintaining conversations.

I think maybe a good idea for you would be to have some structure to your game, there's nothing wrong with natural conversation, in fact being naturally a good talker is the best possible thing, but having the ability to analyze as well as understand a good moment to build kino or transition to the next step is a useful tool.

I like to think of it as writing a movie script that contains alot of improve, the whole outline is there, but the bulk of the conversation/actions will be random(i.e going in with a plan, but being great on your toes) basically i think you should set an ultimate goal for yourself if you haven't already.

Nice updates. For where you are right now, things are going to be tough. It's not really pure game - in the cold approach sense. You're in high school right? There were maybe, 1,250 kids at my high school. Within their own school years - grades, whatever, pretty much everyone knew everyone, and people didn't tend to date that much outside their own grade. The best way to get girls through high school is just social circle game. Meet girls and befriend them through other friends, high school is too small a bubble to really need cold approach.

Cold approach was invented because of older guys who live in the city, full of strangers, who they pass minute after minute. They see them once, and never again. The good thing about this, is that you can strike out. Get blown out by a girl, you'll never see her again. So no big deal.

Within a little bubble like high school, you're going to see these girls around. They have friends who'll see you around. A rejection can come back on you in an environment like high school, and it can affect your value, social standing, how you're viewed etc.

I don't wanna talk you out of talking to girls, not at all. But the best way to do it in school is similar to college - get on their radar through normal social stuff, then once the attraction is there, work on pushing things forward with them. Look at Braddock's stuff. He has videos on youtube about college game. Braddock - College Game, Part 1/8. This is an hour of free content, and it's awesome for somebody in your position. Some of the stuff about frats isn't going to apply, but the principles of this talk are mega important. They've no doubt saved me from a lottt of the hassle that comes from gaming in an enclosed environment, and brought me more success.

The cold approach... head to the mall on the weekend and do it there. That's an ideal environment for it.

Anyone remember the guy on here who was at college, had a journal, he gamed at his local mall 2 or 3 times a week? The staff started recognising him for always picking up girls, lol. Was a quality journal, and would definitely help you along Lucky.

Hope this post doesn't come off as cold, just pointing some things out. Keep working, making these investments at 18 is going to be paying off biiiig time by the time you're 21. Stick at it. And don't get me wrong - there's nothing wrong with talking with strangers or people you've 'seen around' at school. Just don't make the mistake of coming across too pick-uppy. That's the main thing. Hope that helps??