About 2 weeks ago my mum walked out and had a mental breakdown which caused huge amounts of pain for me my dad and my siblings. I grabbed my things and made my way back home ( im currently at uni) but wasnt prepared for the aftermath of my mum which included an affair and finding out via the guys son facebook messaging me and sending photos so i went to stay with my boyfriend. As you can imagine my dad was ringing a lot because he had no one and my boyfriend started making comments. I stayed at his for valentines day as i had hoped he had gone to loads of effort as he had booked a holiday with his flatmates which include 3 single girls who sleep around a lot. Sadly there was no effort or gift for valentines day instead we had to watch the football. I left and went home and had a really crap week things came out at home and my mum didnt want to say sorry or see me followed by a birthday in which i had no gifts but what was getting me through it all was the idea that my boyfriend was taking me out for dinner and the gift he told me i was getting which also hasnt happened i cant help but feel let down and alone especially as iv been with my boyfriend for 10 yrs and hes always made an effort the holiday hes booked adds to the list of piss takes as we had never been away and i felt i needed to get aay given whats gone on plus my 80 yr old grandma being in hospital for 7 weeks with pneaumonia twice but apparently he cant afford 2 holidays and what im going through doesnt matter

Do you have a good relationship with your dad and siblings? It sounds like you need each other right now so it might be a good idea to reach out to one another for support, it's understandable that you're upset, don't feel any pressure to forgive give your mother but try not to dwell on it so much. I'd also let your boyfriend know how you're feeling, he needs to be there for you as well and communication is key in a relationship