The tat is in the center of her back between her shoulder blades...It's a peace sign the size of a drink coaster (maybe a little smaller) surrounded by small flowers, all of which are part of the peace sign. She says she will have two flowers colored in in different colors. One for each of her deceased grandmothers.

i understand your pain, dirk. i also understand the idea that she is an "adult" at 19, although i'm not sure i share that definition -- especially if she is still living at home. is she?

if she's not, if she's out on her own, then yes, she's an adult in my eyes. but if she's still living under your roof and in school, it would bother me, too. one person's adult is another person's teenager.

nothing you can do now, obviously, but nothing wrong with being upset that your baby did this to herself, either.