‘Single Ladies’ lessons: 7.17.12

Usually when a man says he’s got a surprise for your in the bed, it’s usually sex. So when Sean popped up at her place with the promise of a present, and all Keshia got was a bunch of magnum’s spelling out "Do Me Baby," she turned down the gift gracefully.

There’s nothing saying she doesn’t want to sleep with Sean in the future, but she didn’t feel any pressure to rush herself.

Ladies, we suggest that you take a hint from Keisha and learn to wait until you’re ready to share yourself. Otherwise you’re just speeding towards an awkward time in bed. Are you in a rush to have bad sex? No? Ok, then pump your breaks. He’ll stick around until the time is right.

Lesson 2: Be careful with the cameras

Shelly thought all her problems were over when she found out that her sex tape was back in safe possession with her co-star. Unfortunately, she didn’t take into account that it may have passed through a few hands that know how to post videos online.

We’ve already said that sex tapes are a bad idea, but we must also be mindful of the kinds of pictures we take. Why? If they ever make it online, there’s not much that can be done to completely wipe the web of those images.

While most of us are just the victims of unflattering Facebook pics, sometimes intimate pictures find their way online. If possible, a woman must always be mindful of how she’s letting herself be seen.

Lesson 3: Keep calm and carry on

Raquel made an awkward situation even more awkward on Monday night. We don’t know exactly how a woman should handle it when she runs into one potential suitor while on a date with another one, we just know that Raquel did it wrong.

It would have been a good idea, though, if Raquel had just kept a cool head and acted as if nothing was wrong. The guys wouldn’t have known something was wrong if she wasn’t acting like it.

Lesson 4: Pucker up

Waiting for a man to make the first move can sometimes leave a girl with lonely lips. That’s why we can’t knock April for just going for it.

You can’t just be smooching everyone you’re attracted to, of course! But if the mood is right and you’re with your special someone, it might not be a bad idea to throw caution to the wind and plant a kiss on them to test the waters.