The Black Hole of Babydom

“It makes me sad to lose my friends and watch them throw away their promising careers and lives to enter the black hole of babydom” – my wife found this quote from a woman who wrote into an advice column that is featured in our local newspaper.

This advice column is written by a nationally syndicated columnist named Judith Martin a.k.a. “Miss Manners”. Each week people write in asking her what is the correct way to handle different social situations.

This week a woman whom Miss Manners titled as a “Hater of baby showers” wrote this to her about why she hated that her friends were having so many babies and baby showers:

“I am also alarmed at the shocking number of otherwise intelligent people who, despite this being the First World with various forms of birth control widely available, still have unplanned pregnancies and make no secret of this fact...

For these reasons and others, I am generally not thrilled when my friends become pregnant. I love my friends, but once they have kids, they fall off the face of the earth. It makes me sad to lose my friends and watch them throw away their promising careers and lives to enter the black hole of babydom (which, despite common arguments to the contrary, almost all do).…”

You can read the full letter from this woman and Miss Manner’s advice to her here.

This letter is a pure and unabashed display of just how ugly modern feminism has become.

It is a direct contradiction to what God says about children.

“Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” – Psalm 127:3 (KJV)

“He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the Lord.” – Psalm 113:9 (KJV)

While there has always been all kinds of wickedness in the world, never have we seen on such a wide scale the complete visceral hatred of motherhood as we do today.

God never intended for women to find their greatest fulfillment in a career, but rather he designed them to desire and be fulfilled in making and molding human lives.

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7 thoughts on “The Black Hole of Babydom”

That’s a good point. It can be really awful out there, the worse thing women can do these days as far as social approval goes, is to get pregnant. The cruelty people engage in can be rather staggering, everything from, “why have you thrown your life away,” to “you’re selfish and contributing to the population problem and global warming.” When women get pregnant, they are going to be perceived as a social, political, and cultural failure on so many levels. It’s sad that we do this to women.

I survived because of the support of my father and husband. They were great and full of encouragement for choosing to do anything perceived as traditional. I’m not sure I can accurately describe the psychological attacks and the toll it takes on many women, but it often begins with doctors immediately offering you abortion services, nurses implying that your birth control failed, friends offering their condolences. Getting pregnant, having children, really requires a great deal of emotional support these days, support women aren’t likely to get.

“The black hole of Babydom!” What a b*tch! With her twisted radical, second-wave feminist attitude it’s no wonder her friends “fall of the end of the earth.” Who, in their right mind, would want to spend any time with her. If I were her pregnant friend, I’d “fall off the end of the earth” to escape her too. Let’s check back with her when she’s, still single, sidelined from her “career” and 60? While she’s living in a condo with a cat for company, her “otherwise intelligent” friends will be celebrating their anniversary, surrounded by their children and grandchildren. Revenge is sweet. 😉

Yes my wife could hardly believe it as she was reading it in the newspaper and my wife is moderately feministic(because of her upbringing) and even to her this was incredible. But while all feminists may not feel the way this woman did, this is the logical conclusion it leads to in many women. You can’t have a career equal to a man and be at home taking care of children – you have to choose one or the other. You can’t be in two places at once.

Kathy – on a totally different subject, I was wondering as a Catholic who does not agree with your Pope on all his positions if you were going to write something on his various speeches that he has made here in recently?

No. It’s too depressing and embarrassing. But I did write a post for tomorrow pointing out how he and Pope Pius IX faced the exact same problems and those problems prompted Pope Pius to convoke the First Vatican Council while Pope Francis is hiding under a rock.