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Is this a new thing? I'm going to be 41 in June, and I swear the last few years it almost gets there and then won't. And it also frustrates me cause we as women are supposed to be rocking the sex during this age.

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Is this a new thing? I'm going to be 41 in June, and I swear the last few...

Posted
04/26/2018

Is this a new thing? I'm going to be 41 in June, and I swear the last few years it almost gets there and then won't. And it also frustrates me cause we as women are supposed to be rocking the sex during this age.

I’m so glad I’m not alone.

My husband has always been a kind, patient lover in that he always tries to please me first. I love him more than I did 14 years ago when we married, as I’ve always found his increasing maturity sexy. But physically, I just can’t seem to get there often.

It’s become frustrating, in that I’m perfectly willing, but it’s not happening anymore.

I can only orgasim if I am on top. It’s been that way for the 20 years I have been sexually active. I actually find almost every other position slightly to horribly painful. Luckily both my husband and I orgasim super quick or else I would be in trouble.
Are you stressed?

I can only orgasim if I am on top. It’s been that way for the 20 years I ha...

Posted
04/26/2018

I can only orgasim if I am on top. It’s been that way for the 20 years I have been sexually active. I actually find almost every other position slightly to horribly painful. Luckily both my husband and I orgasim super quick or else I would be in trouble.
Are you stressed?
I spent 12 m breastfeeding and we did not have sex 1x. Is it this?

My entire world is stress. But that’s not it. I’m used to that. Lol.

This started a few years ago. It didn’t really have a catalyst. It just sort of happened. It went from every other, to every third, and now it’s almost never. I know I still can, because the sleep orgasms are amazing! They wake me up every time! And yes...I’ve tried to parlay those into a situation. But still...nothing.

Vibrator yes, SSRI no.
In fact, hubby isn’t in the least bit shy in trying, even if it isn’t him. He’s truly generous. He holds me when I cry about this. He’s wonderful. I’m just trying to gauge if anyone else has an answer before I bring it up with gyne.

I was also going to say if you also can't get there on your own but could previously, you should probably ask your doctor. There is probably something that is off, hormone, thyroid, etc. Hopefully it's something simple they can solve with a pill.

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