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I've been 18 for a couple months now and I know what I want to do I've been planning it since I was 16 I want to move away far away two different country start a new life the only people I have are my grandma and my mom my mom doesn't care anymore I don't think she won't tell me that directly can I get the hints and I hear what she calls me when I when she thinks I'm not not listening over the phone call and all my grandma wants to do is use me so if I make money she'll take all of it as rent no matter how much I make how would I go about moving away

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are having a difficult time trying to move out due to your grandma and your mom. That must be very frustrating to deal with. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult transition.

Since you are now 18, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your mom for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. If you call or chat us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or www.1800runaway.org we can look to see if there are any TLPs near your area. We are here to listen and help however we can.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat.

We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

I recently turned 18 and My boyfriend wants me to move in with him but I still need to take my classes at college and he lives almost an hour away, I have no car, I’m looking for a job at the moment but I just want to leave already but I’m so scared of hurting my parents and then not wanting to keep contact with me just like my older sister

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I recently turned 18
Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are not sure what to do between leaving home and moving in with your boyfriend, still attending school and not wanting to hurt your family situation. It’s okay to examine things thoroughly and not jumping into a decision. This is your life so you are doing a good job by weighing your options.
Some things to consider might be some of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave (It sounds like you are worried about losing communication with them).

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.