Focusing on your mind

Most of the time you can control your thoughts and feelings, just a little focus and concentration is required. Emma recommends the following techniques.

Realize how sexy you are. The more you believe it, the more your partner will see it. If you're really struggling to feel sexy try getting some new silk lingerie or a haircut, whatever does it for you.

Remember that your man is with you, he wouldn't be wanting sex with you if he wasn't attracted to you. And stop worrying about those lumps and bumps too. Trust us, that's not what he's looking at.

Relaxing with a warm bath or a massage can really help you to de-stress and get you into the mood.

Get going. Have you ever noticed how you might not really feel like having sex with your partner, but if they initiate it, you might notice that once you get going your sex drive shoots right up.

Finally, you might want to try tantric sex, which is where you and your partner spend longer reaching orgasm, keeping yourself on tipping point until you, hopefully, achieve one of the best orgasms you can have.