If you've ever been in this situation, you know that it's a tough one to work out. When your feelings are more passionate and stronger than what you'd expect from a normal friendship, it may be quite difficult to ask them about how they feel about you, and to go to the next step.

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Steps

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Find out whether they like you or not. You can do this in a couple different ways. The first and most effective way is to ask a friend to ask them. In some people's eyes, this is a terrible way to do this, but it's also started many great relationships. The person to ask is someone that is a friend of both you and your crush. You need to have complete trust in this person, as if they aren't trustworthy they can spill your secret to your crush. Give them instructions to ask, a popular one is to ask a comparison, like 'would you rather date _____ or ______' to start the topic, then carry on from there. Another way, though not recommended for those of you that keep your crush secret, is to ask them head on. If you choose to do that, go to step two.

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If they do like you, is to confront them. You need to tell them that you like them. Don't come on too strong. Hint that you like them, and then expand their knowledge of your love slowly. If you go too fast, they might think that you're desperate. You can, from there, go from hanging out a little, to regularly, to trying your chances at a first date. Don't try to rush things, because trust me, it only can go downhill from there.

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Deal with rejection. The third step is for those of you that didn't get the response that they wanted. First of all, this is not your fault. You are perfect the way you are and there's no force in the world that can change that. The second thing to remember is that if they dislike you to the extent that they can't stand to be around you after knowing that you like them, then maybe the friend zone is too much. Your friends should like you for who you are, regardless of any conditions.

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Remember that if they say no, that doesn't mean that this means the end of your relationship as friends. Keep your chin high and your mind in a good place. Everyone has crushes, and you, and your crush, need to accept that.

ALWAYS remember to keep it slow. If you feel confident enough to take your relationship ahead, do it, but remember that your boyfriend/girlfriend may not feel that it's time. You always need to check with them before going any further.

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If your friend doesn't like you back, no matter how heartbreaking it is, you need to keep a positive mind. If you start to think violent or even suicidal thoughts, you absolutely MUST see someone about it. You really shouldn't harm anyone, including yourself, because one thing didn't go right. It's just a crush, and it's not worth risking lives if it doesn't fall in the right pit.

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