Thursday, February 14, 2013

Oakview Middle School students counter 'hate list' with anonymous posters

In an education story that has to warm everyone's heart, four girls from Oakview Middle were the talk of the school of putting up positive affirmations in the school bathrooms. This occurred after some mean messages were previously put in some of the bathrooms and the girls used the same concept people use when selling a car or even a puppy. Instead of phone numbers, they used positive messages. Their story is below.

Oakview Middle School students counter 'hate list' with anonymous posters WITH VIDEO

After a “hate list” was written in the
girl’s bathroom at Oakview Middle School, four students decided they
wanted to do something to make the girls feel good about themselves
instead.

The eighth graders went to school almost an hour early
and hung posters in every girls’ bathroom and locker room in the Oakland
Township school. At a sleepover, the girls made 16 neon colored posters
with the words “Take what you need” on top. The poster was set up like a
“For sale” sign with tabs across the bottom that girls could rip off.
On the tabs were written words such as love, hope, strength, courage,
understanding, loyalty and patience.

Afterward, the entire school
was talking about these posters. By the end of the day, all 160 of the
tabs were gone. The middle school girls would meet in the hallways,
talking about the word they took and wondering who put these posters up
in the bathrooms.

And these four girls, while trying to keep a straight face, kept the secret — wanting to remain anonymous.

That
was until one of their parents called The Oakland Press, wanting to
recognize the four girls for what they did. And, on Thursday afternoon,
the four friends — Abbie Wise, Isabella Griesser, Courtney Kohlstedt and
Abbey Burk — were surprised at their school.

Griesser said, “We weren’t looking for extra attention for what we did.”

Wise
said this project has brought the four of them closer together. She
said, in between her classes, she would go to the bathroom to see what
girls were saying. Girls would say, “This made my day. I wonder who did
this. I hope they do it again.”

And Wise just pretended she had no idea.

“It was amazing seeing people walking around with it in their hands,” she said.

The girls said they want to do something like this every month.

“We
were going to put sticky notes on the mirrors, like ‘You’re beautiful’
and ‘You’re smart,’” said Kohlstedt. “Not every girl, everyday, has a
guy tell her she’s beautiful or someone to tell her she’s beautiful.
Sometimes, all you have to do is read it or know you are, even if nobody
tells you.”

Kohlstedt said several of her friends have had notes
shoved into the top of their lockers with the words, “You’re ugly” or
“You’re fat” written inside.

Burk said a lot of girls in their class think that beauty is the only thing that matters.

“Everyone
is unique in their own way. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. You
don’t have to fit in with everybody else. And sometimes you just need
to have someone tell you,” Burk said.

Oakville Vice Principal
Sarah Perry said there have been mean messages written on the bathroom
walls this year directly targeting individual girls. She said she knows
how badly this hurts.

“When kids told me, ‘Did you hear about
what’s going on in the bathroom?’ My first reaction was, ‘Uh-oh.’ I feel
an obligation to take care of the kids, and I know the whole staff
feels that way,” said Perry. “But to hear something good, it was not
just a sigh of relief, but goosebumps. And to hear the reactions of
students, it brought tears to my eyes how excited the kids were to take
those positive messages.”

Perry said she is so proud of the girls, and she hopes this will inspire others to do something similar.

“They
just came in early and watched the reactions. They didn’t want any
credit for it. They just wanted to make other people happy and put other
people first,” she said. “The best part of it is they did it even when
no one was watching.”