Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Why I admire women with vaginismus who come for infertility treatment

Vaginismus is an extremely distressing problem where the woman is medically completely normal , but because of an involuntary spasm of the vagina muscles , she cannot allow vagina intercourse. Women with vaginismus experience shame and guilt because they blame themselves. They feel that they are depriving their husband of sexual pleasure, by not being able to have intercourse with him. Even worse, when people start asking questions as to when you plan to have a baby, they cringe with shame and embarrassment, because they know they will not be able to get pregnant , because they can't have sex in the first place. Because this causes so much distress, it’d very hard to share this problem and discuss it with anyone else. They feel they are freaks. While some husbands get understandably upset, many can be quite understanding because they love their wives, but don't really know how to resolve the problem because they don't want to inflict pain on their wife ! This becomes the elephant in the room which no one does anything about.