single

I went to an amazing kundalini yoga workshop over the weekend led by a wonderful teacher, Siri-Gian Khalsa. The topic was soulmates. I almost did not go because I did not want to put myself in "search" mode on the issue. I've done a lot of personal work on letting go the idea of finding the "perfect man." I have had soulmates come into my life, but that does not mean you are meant to be in a lifelong traditional marriage with them.

During the class we did an exercise where we were guided to connected to the soul of a partner. The woman I was sitting next to had an amazing, bright, beautiful soul I saw as a blueish white light that was instantly healing the moment I connected with it. It was so beautiful, I cried tears of joy.

I had three holiday events to go to last night. I made it to two. Today I had another holiday party to go to and I just decided enough was enough. I stayed home, didn't shower all day, got through a lot of clutter-clearing I've been meaning to do for a while, and watched really bad movies the entire time.

I think I had bad movies on my television non-stop from about noon to 10 pm. I did not answer phone calls, only dealt with a few emails, and otherwise I am just now writing my blog but not doing anything else strenuous. Lovely!

Being single can be fantastic sometimes. You get to do what you want to do when you want to do it. Don't get me wrong - families are great, I'd love my own. But I'm really trying to savor my single time now, because one of these days things will change (as they always do) and I'll be looking back and wondering I didn't appreciate being single more when I had the time to myself.

Quite accidentally, I ran across the blog of one Debbie Maken today. Despite Debbie's conservative Christian beliefs that women should be demure and chaste, she is tremendously opinionated, and has published an entire book chastising Christians that they need to get married.

I absolutely think that marriage to the right person is probably one of the best things that can happen to a person. I would love nothing more than to find the right guy myself. Yet...and here's the big but...

Even if you do find the right person, you cannot rely on that person for your happiness.

I took a bit of time to poke around Debbie's blog and read the intro to her book. Debbie appears to be still somewhat young (in her mid-30s from my guesstimate) and has only been married since 2002. Yet, after only five years of marriage she claims to be an expert on marriage and how to get a husband.