Understanding Women Part IV

This is the fourth part of my article on Understanding Women. The first part can be found here, the second part here and the third part here. If you haven’t yet read them, I recommend reading them first so that you can better understand the rest of this fourth part.

A lot of what we’ve been taught about the world we live in is simply wrong. Not only is it wrong, but in many cases we’ve been taught to believe the exact opposite of the truth. If you’ve read the previous 3 parts of this article, you already have a good idea about why we’ve been taught these things. Back in 2006 I wrote the following:

The world as we know it today is largely based on deception. Incredible amounts of deception going back even thousands of years. A lot of what I learned in school, for example, was just based on lies. The feeling you get when you start to realize what’s going on is like going crazy, but in reverse. You realize that you’ve really been crazy all your life, believing and accepting all kinds of nonsense as normal, and that now you’re realizing what’s been going on and are becoming a sane person, seeing things as they really are. It’s like growing up with everyone telling you the sky is red, and later finding out the sky is actually blue. Once you find out, you have no choice but to re-evaluate everything you know and view them in a totally new perspective. It’s almost like forgetting everything you know and starting from scratch again.

But re-evaluating everything you know and taking action based on that isn’t something everyone can do. It requires a lot of courage. Quite often people are so dependent on the way things are right now that they will refuse to accept anything else if it means they’ll have to change their lives or lose the things they depend on. It’s especially difficult when changing yourself means that you’ll be swimming upstream in society. In addition, those in control in our society will do everything they can to prevent any change that would be against their interests. After all, as I have shown in the previous parts of this series, they are the ones who benefit from this mess. In the second part of my article on understanding women, I mentioned the following:

Fortunately it’s often easy to detect disinformation because it will usually try to make you believe the exact opposite of the truth. It’s like Alice in Wonderland. In fact, that’s exactly what Alice in Wonderland is based on. 😉 Remember that in the Matrix movies, Neo had to “go down the rabbit hole” to get to the real world. Right now, we are not in the real world. The real world is the opposite of our understanding of our current world.

And one of the areas where this is especially true is when it comes to our understanding of love and our sexuality. Let me bring the following quote to your attention again:

For hundreds and maybe even thousands of years, people have been forced and brainwashed into accepting the opposite in order to frustrate their lives and make it easier for others to control and manipulate them. And this is just one of the areas where this is the case. If you look around you, it should be more than clear that what we’ve been taught about love, and the rules we’ve been told to live by only serve to frustrate our lives, hurt our relationships and make things more difficult for us.

In the first and especially the second part of this series I have shown exactly how we’re being manipulated with our sexuality. I’ve also shown, specifically in the first part, how and why women are the primary victims of this manipulation. In cases where women are unaffected by all the brainwashing for whatever reason, they behave normal as you’d expect. But strangely that’s when these women get labeled as being abnormal. An example of this are women (a.k.a. nymphos) who suffer from hypersexuality or nymphomania (excessive sexual desire by a female). This is how crazy the world we live in really is, so much so that people who’re behaving normal are treated as if they’re sick. If you read the description for hypersexuality on Wikipedia, it becomes apparent that essentially most men are suffering from it. Because most men masturbate and think about sex all day long and are constantly looking for sex. And for men that is considered normal by society. But strangely, when a woman behaves this way, it is wrong and is treated as some kind of disease. This is a prime example of the way in which women have been forced to repress their sexual desires for thousands of years. From Wikipedia:

Many Victorian era mental institutions treated nymphomania as an exclusively female mental illness. Women were classified as mentally ill for nymphomania if they were a victim of sexual assault, bore illegitimate children, “abused themselves” (i.e. masturbated), or were deemed promiscuous. Upon arrival at the asylum, doctors would give the woman a pelvic exam. If doctors felt that the woman had an enlarged clitoris, she would undergo treatments. These treatments included induced vomiting, bloodletting, leeches, restricted diet, douches to the head or breasts, and, at times, clitoridectomies.

While those women were behaving according to their true nature trying to satisfy their sexual desires just like men do, they were treated as victims of a made up disease. The only option these women had was to conform to the rules of society and repress their sexual desires, which led to all kinds of (mental and health) problems which I have discussed in the first part of this series. And not to mention the bigger issues this causes in society and which Dr. Freud warned us about. Just go back and read about female hysteria and vaginal massages. Even then it was clear to doctors what the real issue was, but they choose to benefit from it financially instead of doing the right thing. In addition, those in control who put this system of manipulation into place, would never allow the truth to become known. Doctors who would mention the truth would risk losing business and maybe even their license. This happens even today, for example with the HIV/AIDS fraud (if you want to know what I’m talking about click here).

This is how crazy the world we live in really is. And this is what I meant when I said that we’re conditioned to believe the opposite of the truth in order to frustrate our lives and make it easier to manipulate us. We grow up feeling that something is seriously wrong with the world that we live in. It’s largely due to big conflicts between what we are taught to believe about life and what we feel is right according to our true nature. Things don’t make sense, but it’s hard to pinpoint exactly what’s wrong until we start to do enough digging and find out that we’ve been living in wonderland all this time. A world where nothing is what it seems and where everything is upside down, inside out and the opposite of what it is supposed to be.

What is clear to me and what I want to really stress is that it’s really the women who behave like nymphos who are the normal women. In the beginning of this series I mentioned the following:

There was a time when women thought pretty much the same way about sex as men. During that time women had (and still have, although it is suppressed) a comparable sex drive to men, and they were after sex as much as men, if not more. Sexual desire is something we all get born with naturally. It would have made no sense for nature to put a greater need or desire for sex in men compared to women. In fact, if I look at how women are naturally capable of having sex a lot more often than men (they don’t get exhausted as quickly and are able to have multiple orgasms in a very short amount of time), then I would have expected nature to have given women a greater sex drive than men. It would have made sense, seeing as how they’re biologically capable of having it more often than men.

Now, you may say that many studies that have been done recently show that men have a greater sex drive than women. For example, in a talk by professor Roy F. Baumeister (PDF) he says:

Look at research on the sex drive: Men and women may have about equal “ability” in sex, whatever that means, but there are big differences as to motivation: which gender thinks about sex all the time, wants it more often, wants more different partners, risks more for sex, masturbates more, leaps at every opportunity, and so on. Our survey of published research found that pretty much every measure and every study showed higher sex drive in men. It’s official: men are hornier than women. This is a difference in motivation.

And this is true. But would this still be true today if the system of brainwash and sexual repression that targets women had not been in place for thousands of years now? I think you know the answer to that question yourself. As I have discussed in the first part of this series, society still forces and brainwashes women into repressing their sexual desires leading to all kinds of psychological issues which makes women difficult to understand and difficult to live with. If you put a system into place that makes women repress their sexual desires for thousands of years, then OF COURSE if you’re going to do a survey today you’ll find that women have less sexual desire than men. Any survey about sex drive done today is essentially flawed because it doesn’t take this female sexual repression that is built into society into account. It has had a lot of impact on women. It’s like teaching kids in school that 1+1=3 and then a survey finding out 30 years later that most people think that 1+1=3. Well, duh!

Baumeister also mentions that men and women have about equal “ability” in sex but that there’s a difference in motivation. This isn’t entirely true, as women are physically more capable of having sex than men. And as I said at the very beginning of this series of articles, it would have made absolutely no sense for nature to give women less sexual desire compared to men, while at the same time making them physically more capable of having it. Especially not when you consider that the survival of our species essentially depends on the women since they are the only ones capable of bearing children. So making them less motivated to have sex doesn’t make sense. What does make sense is nature giving them an equal or greater sex drive compared to men, similar to how nature made them capable of having sex a lot more often than men (for good reasons). And when we look at nymphos, or in other words normal women, then that’s exactly what we see.

Iceland seems to have been mostly isolated from the world and they’ve developed their own culture where you can essentially speak of gender equality. I think in a normal world, the relationship between men and women and the way women behave would be much like the way it is in Iceland but even better (it’s still far from perfect). They don’t have the kind of rules and brainwashing in society about love and sexuality that exists in the rest of the world. There aren’t any stupid dating games and rituals. Women don’t have the kind of unrealistic “romantic” fairy tale expectations that put a huge burden on them finding a partner. In Iceland, women behave very normal and realistic with regard to their sexuality and are even the ones who approach guys and take them home at the end of the night. And when reading and viewing the information I just linked to, keep in mind that these women would be labeled as nymphos, whores, sluts, etc. in other parts of the world where there’s a lot of female sexual repression in society. It’s no surprise to me when reading people’s comments that apparently Iceland is a very beautiful country and society to live in.

Professor Baumeister also mentions the following:

I have not exhausted all the ways that culture exploits men. Certainly there are others. The male sex drive can be harnessed to motivate all sorts of behaviors and put to work in a kind of economic marketplace in which men give women other resources (love, money, commitment) in exchange for sex.

This is essentially what I’ve also shown in the previous parts of this series, and I believe that this is the real purpose of all the manipulation that has been going on. All of this is to exploit men and motivate them to work. We’re really modern slaves being used by those who are in control. One of their attack vectors has been our women. I’ve written about this in more detail in the third part of this series and in the second part we’ve seen how our sexual energy is being harnessed when I discussed the documentary “The Century of the Self” and Dr. Freud’s theories. Remember how I discussed the movie “The Never Ending Story” where the hero, Atreyu, had to go through so much unnecessary (from his perspective) trouble just to get laid in the end? They’ve made our women sick in order to make it difficult for us to satisfy our sexual needs which creates sexual tension. This build up of energy then gets harnessed to motivate us to behave in a way that benefits those who are in control. We’re being manipulated into becoming slaves, or batteries like Morpheus explained to Neo in the movie “The Matrix.”

Dr. Freud said that “the sexual instincts are remarkable for their plasticity, for the facility with which they can change their aim…for the ease with which they can substitute one form of gratification for another.” And this is really the basis upon which all the manipulation I have discussed is founded. Dr. Freud is one of the most brilliant men to have lived, and people have just recently started to admit this. Freud’s nephew, Edward Bernays, used Freud’s ideas to create the field of public relations as we know it today, proving many of Freud’s theories about the unconscious in the process. I’ve discussed some of this in the second part of this series. Bernays essentially showed everyone that his uncle’s theories could be used to understand how to control and manipulate people by tapping into their unconscious desires. But looking at it in a positive way, Freud made some brilliant and groundbreaking discoveries that can today help us understand a lot of what’s going on in the world. It’s important to realize however, that although Freud may have discovered this knowledge by himself in the 20th century, this knowledge had to be known by others, mostly secret societies, for hundreds and even thousands of years. Not only that, but Freud may have discovered just a fraction of this knowledge. A lot of what we think we’re discovering today, and what we think is new to us, isn’t new at all. But this is a different subject.

Understanding women is something that also kept Freud busy as evidenced by this quote:

The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is “What does a woman want?”

I’m confident that if Freud had lived longer, he would eventually have been able to answer that question. But I think that with this series of articles I’ve been able to answer that question, mostly based on, and especially due to Freud’s groundbreaking work.

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Read the other parts of this series on Understanding Women for more detailed (background) information. If you would like to skip the background information, just make sure you read parts 4 and 5 as they contain important additional information.

» Part 2

In part 2 of Understanding Women I give a more detailed explanation of some of the background information I discussed here, particularly Dr. Freud’s theories and how they explain a lot of the issues we’re currently dealing with in societies around the world. This system of female sexual repression is kept in place on purpose by the few in order to control and manipulate the many. Read part II ».

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» Part 5

Everything comes together in part 5 of Understanding Women, where I discuss the thoughts of Nikola Tesla, one of the greatest minds in human history, on the subject of women. I also discuss research done recently at the University of Michigan that shows that men and normal women do not differ much when it comes to their sexuality. I also answer an important question that kept Dr. Freud busy for most of his life: What does a woman want? Read part V ».

A British woman is about to marry the light of her life after meeting her online… but it isn’t your average relationship. Amanda Liberty has proposed to a 90-year-old chandelier she found on Ebay.

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But her romantic affection doesn’t stop at just one ornate light fitting. At night Liberty cuddles up with an entirely different light fitting – a smaller chandelier named Jewel. In fact, she is in an open relationship with no less than 25 different light fittings. Luckily, Lumiere doesn’t seem to mind – after all, it’s the one with the ring.

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33-year-old Liberty is an ‘object sexual,’ in other words, she’s romantically attracted to objects. She said she first realized that she was sexually attracted to items when she fell in love with a drum kit at the youthful age of 14. As an adult, she fell in love with the Statue of Liberty and even changed her name by deed poll to Liberty.

The same root causes behind this are also behind other sexual preferences such as for the same sex and for animals.

Keith Humphreys, a Stanford psychiatrist who helps run the NeuroChoice lab at the Stanford Neurosciences Institute, which studies the neuroscience of choice and addiction, is sceptical of the idea that you can be addicted to things – like food and sex – that we are hard-wired to consume in order to survive. “You don’t need to invoke an unusual pathological explanation for why human beings eat and why they have sex, because if they didn’t they wouldn’t be here,” says Humphreys.”

for starters… you should know you lost my attention after the 3rd quote… but that’s just because what else the male brain or society thinks about women doesn’t interest me.
Everything changed in a way so it could just stay the same as the 16th century…
be free to speak or speak up… but you know what shut up… or ehm something like that.

About the first half of this post… I do agree society is screwed up as it is… on your diploma should be written… now forget about 2/3 what you where learned you all these years ( in very fine print… this paper is useless in the end didn’t teach you the survival skills you needed)…

so … yes it literately feels like going against the grain…

some/most rules where made for structure (not only manipulation) … only problem is… if one component fails… the whole thing is doomed

for starters… Freud would have been become so insane if he ever figured out that the who/what /why about women…I somehow believe the answer must be so very simple… it’s difficult to find…but don’t ask me i don’t know the answer… hehehe)

& somehow… I don’t believe all this comes even close to the answer… ( who am I to say so)

And two… first part just made sense on whole other level (non-sexual related at all,… oops) … lets just say… a piece of a puzzle found its place in my head… & about the women in Iceland… i really don’t care about that part. (tmi…)

Yes the first part applies to a lot more things in life, not just why women behave irrationally and why they are difficult to understand. Another area is religion. But I cover that elsewhere on my blog here.

I’ve read all 4 parts of your blog Understanding Women and I have to give you my compliments, very well written, very insightful and I fully agree with you on everything.
I came to this conclusion after struggling quite some time, and then suddenly after I started following the tv series Spartacus, it all made sense.
Spartacus shows the way of living in Italy and Rome around 73-71 BCE. The sexual behavior shown in the series (orgies, women iniating sex with sometimes more than 1 man etc.) is not conceivable for our time, atl east, it’s not accepted by our society, which made me curious, so I decided to do some research and indeed, it was the natural way of living in that time (even though already at that point, women were repressed in some form). You see many of the young female slaves are very looking forward to the day that they can have sex for the first time etc. It was such a revelation to me, which supports everything in your blog that this is human nature, also for women. And I know what I’ve been taught, has brought a lot of confusion for me, all the ‘’rules’’.

Only thing that I missed (you mentioned it, but to my opinion not explicitly enough) is that these social engineers have programmed men as well, in such a way that they confirm this sexual repression in women. Men are the reason women tend to repress their sexuality (even more than they’ve already been programmed/taught to), because it’s mostly the men that call them the whore, slut etc. It’s the men that treat them with disrespect when a woman ’’easy’’. Again, this is not an accusation against men, since this is merely what they have been taught too. There is a difference between the girl you sleep with and the girl you bring home to your parents (and marry) (at least in our fucked up society (scientific term :p)). They do not go together….You can also get back to this in the many cases of men being married with children and still looking for a young girl to have fun with, because they just do not get that (anymore) from the women they choose as a wife, because this women takes on a certain role that she has been taught. And because women know/learn this, it enhances the sexual repression. So even if you, as a women, express yourself sexually in a ‘’rebelious’’ way, in many cases, everything your mom and sisters warned you for, is confirmed by the behavior of the men afterwards.

Think of it this way…you would love a young, sexually expressive woman right….but you wouldn’t want your daughter to grow up into one right? It’s the fear of all dads and it’s crazy, because it’s natural, the way it should be.

And what women want….Is what everyone wants (men also)…Being desired, loved, wanted, getting attention. You can see it all around you, that’s what all the dresses and shoes are about, that’s why everyone is always in competition, everyone wants to be the best, the most beautiful, the most wanted. Women just want recognition, love and respect from both men and women. It’s also what society, economy and commercialism thrive on.

We want to be heard, acknowledged, not only for our looks, but for our minds and personality. This is what the whole feminism rage is all about. We humans want approval of others, in many cases, if we express ourselves we are more motivated to express even more if it is accepted and shared by others, if not, we tend to shut down and not mention it anymore, because we do not want to risk to not be liked.

Our brain actually pushes us into the direction of the mass. For instance, there was a study (I have to look it up, I had to read it for my course Neuroeconomics), where 70 random males were selected to evaluate women’s faces. They had to give them a score. Afterwards, they got to see an average score that others gave that same woman. Some hours later they had to evaluate the same women again, only without the average score. Results showed that the second time they automatically conformed to the average score, compared to the first rating. So if at first they would have rated the woman less attractive, if the average score was higher, their second rating would be higher. There are many studies confirming this, if you’re interested, I can look it up for you.
But it all brings me back to my point, this way our brain is programmed to conform to mass opinions and this is why we are all (men and women) so easily influenced by society.
Even if personally, we would question things and differ in opinion, we would not likely express this to others in fear….Fear, the concept you also mentioned, indeed the most powerful tool to control society.

That’s quite a lengthy reply. I’ve gotten similar reactions to my articles from women before, but always in private. and i’m sure you can imagine why 🙂 it takes a LOT of courage to agree with me on this in public, especially as a female, so you deserve praise 🙂

I mentioned in the first part that men were also victims of the same brainwash in society, but to a lesser extent compared to women. Women are the main targets. But indeed the way men think about how a woman should behave is the result of the same problem in society that women have to deal with. And also their hypocritical ideas such as wanting a sexually expressive woman to have fun with, but not wanting their daughters to grow up to become just as normal as those women. I can get really angry when I come across this, and I see it around me every day. Those men are fucking hypocrites.

I agree that normal women want essentially the same things as men. Men and women really aren’t that different from each other (despite the men are from mars and women from venus bullshit), apart from biological differences. All humans want those things you mentioned. All humans want to satisfy their desires, especially their natural desires. We are more similar to each other than society would want us to believe.

And yes, the dresses and shoes are about wanting attention and getting that feeling of satisfaction in life. But I think that if women were able to get the sexual satisfaction they (subconsciously) long for, they would have much less desire to get the satisfaction through material things like shoes and clothes. I mentioned this at the end of the first part of my article. They’re compensating for the lack of sexual satisfaction mostly. They’re substituting one form of satisfaction for another. Dr. Freud mentioned this when he said: “the sexual instincts are remarkable for their plasticity, for the facility with which they can change their aim…for the ease with which they can substitute one form of gratification for another.” (mentioned in part 4 of my article).
Material things give women some satisfaction in the short term but it never lasts, because the underlying problem of their sexual desires not being satisfied persists, and soon they want more material things to keep feeling satisfied. This would explain their insatiable desire for clothes and shoes and other material things.

And you’re right about most people seeking approval of others and wanting to go with the mass. I’ve written about this in other articles on my blog in more detail. This explains why almost nobody wants to react positively in public on my articles, but send it to me in private instead. Giving a negative reaction in public is politically correct, so easier to do. But this is because, again, this is the way we’re brought up in society, it’s what we’re taught. We’re taught to obey and not to question the system too much. We’re taught to give up our individuality. And this is on purpose. A society made up of strong individuals is a lot more difficult to control and manipulate, compared to a society with a herd mentality. Think of it as a chain: the stronger each individual link, the stronger the chain as a whole. Starting from early childhood, we’re taught to conform to rules others made up and to stay in the herd, to stay in the boundaries society wants us to operate within. And we’re taught to fear the consequences if we express our individuality. For most people it is difficult to break out of the programming. Even if they realize what’s going on. It takes lots of courage.

Thanks for sharing all your thoughts in your blog, appreciated!
Even your post on women deals with a much bigger field. Hence my (too) long comment.

Creating awareness is only of value for the individual, it was always thus. It does not change the world, it never did. So stupidity, arrogance and the hunger for power always float to the top, much like scum floats to the top.

We’re all manipulated, and some of us try to free ourselves, but it is hard or impossible to completely shake off hard-wired programming. Once a slave, always a slave mentality?

We can try to understand women, and it does some good (not marry and have children in this society, where women have won the battle), but then it would be nice to find a woman or women who understand themselves, and men, to be able to celebrate the magic of the flesh. To not or very seldom have honest and beautiful sex is frustrating. To live in a world without honesty and beauty is difficult. (I am not a robot, but live in a world full of robots.)

You can try and travel back to the big bang and explain how women had an equal sex-drive as men, but that is not the reality now. Many women living on their own never have sex in any form. All women living in a relationship have sex for a completely different and often very selfish reason, and it is not to celebrate the magic of it.
Our dear friend Arthur Schopenhauer had it right when he wrote how women indeed form a ‘sisterhood’ who’s main goal it is to enslave us (men) in their web. They indeed do not have direct mastery over anything in the material world, and need us oh so badly!

To be given -by nature, creator, alien programmer, or evolution- an always on sex drive is a cruel fate. The bull roaming my fields has an active time when the cows are in heat, but a quiet time after that, till the next mating season. And looking at nature we can observe that in different species it is different genders that get the ‘beauty role’. The pheasants in the field have a colourful male and boring grey female.
Is it political correctness or simply blindness that we cannot see/want to admit that in humans it is the female that has the real beauty/attractiveness role, and I’m not talking about the Mona Lisa here.
Every (young) women has a beauty that can never be equalled by men, even when a man can be more good looking or handsome. Men are more interested in breasts then a women will ever be in a hairy chest. Men, hetero sexual men, programmed by nature, fall for breasts, legs, being crossed and uncrossed, skirts, dresses, hair, jewellery. Women’s clothes are fully designed to take that simple fact into account: silk stockings, garter belts, a top with naked shoulders, see-through dresses, the list is endless. It is every women’s number one weapon! They ALL use it, whenever and wherever they can.
Men with tattoos and earrings or in an Armani suit are no competition, do not even come close in that beauty/attraction contest.

Where man has the active role, woman got the passive role. And even dear Arthur remarked that the intensity of the two poles are not exactly even. Just a mistake of nature…..

Back to the time of the Big Bang then, or to the appearance of the first humans, the Neanderthalers maybe, to get an honest relationship with a woman and the true magic of sex.

Creating awareness will change the world. The hunger for power is a symptom of the current anti-social system that we live in, and that we’ve inherited from thousands of years ago. True human nature is very different. We’re just beginning to really let go of the current anti-social systems thanks to the global rise of awareness due to the Global Brain.
It’s difficult to get rid of the brainwash received from early childhood, but it’s possible. Some people may never succeed, but others will.

I agree that right now it’s very difficult to find a “normal” woman — one who’s not too brainwashed, and is able to behave naturally. At best you will find some who are not too influenced by the sexual repression brainwash, and you may enjoy “honest and beautiful” sex to some degree. The way I personally go about finding such women is detailed in my post “What I look for in women”.

If you’re correct, then Schopenhauer appears to have had a similar view on women as Esther Vilar. I discussed her book in my post “The Manipulated Man”. There I also mention that it’s not women who are to blame for this. In fact, women have been abused and manipulated for thousands of years. Women were reduced to being mere slaves and property. It was part of a divide and conquer strategy of a specific group who wanted to enslave humanity (there are quite a few ancient stories that mention this).

I don’t think our sex drive being more active is a cruel fate. The problem is the sexual repression brainwash that makes it difficult for us to find sexual satisfaction. If things were more natural, getting good and fulfilling sex would have been as easy as asking someone to go grab some lunch. And in that case, with no environment of artificial scarcity, our minds would also not be as preoccupied with sex as it is now. We’re a little more obsessed with sex because it’s so difficult to get. And if we do get sex, it’s not very fulfilling due to sexual repression. That’s also why we go crazy if we see a naked boob, ass or legs. For example, more “primitive” people living in the jungles are so used to seeing naked bodies that they don’t obsess over it as much as we do. The problem, again, is our conditioning based on sexual repression.

Like Wilhelm Reich also stressed in his research, the only solution for our problems is to go back to the basics, that is, to nature. We have to completely let go of our current anti-social systems, and design new ways of living together that are more in harmony with nature and the universal order.