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Vagina or Weed?

While in the midst of a heated discussion, not about weed, my wife of 20+ years, asks in anger " Your always stoned. I don't understand, why?"

Now after 20 plus years of hearing "I like you when your stoned because it helps with your anger issues"
I realize she is using this lame statement and using it as a tool to get under my skin.

Sometimes you just have to put your foot down. My response to her was calm and focused.
While looking her in the eye I said " Understand this, I will smoke when ever and as often as I please
and YOU WILL NOT be a deciding factor".

Rarely have I exercised this type of declaration in our relationship. She knows, that when
the "STORM" calms to clarify a point so there can be NO misunderstanding, that it is
final and no need to continue. Our squabble was settled without further reference to my vices.

I make no threats and she knows it. The door opens the same way for her to leave as it did
when she used it to enter my world.

I am still in love with my wife and my world would suck and it would cost a fortune if she left me but
sometimes a line must be drawn and consequences must be paid when it is crossed.

It's not even about weed, no one should try and emotionally blackmail or manipulate you. If pot is part of you and you are sensible (not lazy, have a job/looking/studying or grow full time for income) you aren't pissing all your money away on it, staying an active and engaging person, not compromising the family's security, she should have no problem with it..

Believe it or not, it was the only inoffensive Good-bye Kitty image I could find. I was hoping for one of the signature kitten turned away as if leaving ... but of hundreds of images, every one was the equivalent of a "dead baby" joke. Ew. That was the mildest, even though it required some interest in cars ... cn