People who batter: minimize the seriousness of their violence, deny the abuse, blame the victim, need to control people and situations and mostly express feelings as anger.

The batterer is responsible for every act of abuse he/she chooses to commit. Most batterers are male, but most men are NOT batterers. Battering does occur in same sex relationships. Battering also occurs in an estimated range of 3-7% of heterosexual relationships with a female batterer.
ACADV: Empowering Victims through Emphathy, Advocacy and Partnership, 2012