I was asked, by a very conscientious person, who tries to learn how to do better in life and to be a "good person": "What did I do wrong in my life that caused me to not live a better life?."

The answer was "You stopped short. You stopped short of going far enough to finish off problems or to learn enough to handle what was needed in life. But, now, you have the opportunity to "complete" what you need to learn and install to make life work. I hope you do The Process."

"The secret to lack of success in life is 'stopping short'".

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Also note that diligently completing things in life has the effect of increasing one's confidence. Note that without successful completions one cannot realistically gain confidence in oneself - no, "affirmations" will not do any good, as they must be true in order to be effective! (See Ultimate Confidence - Its Effect On Life And How To Get It.)

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THE HELL OF "STOPPING SHORT"

It seems that we allow ourselves to "stop short" of doing what is needed to have the pieces of our life work magnificently. It is as if there is some miracle that will make things better. Or it is as if the negative in life is to be tolerated, where we choose to live in a compromised (or mediocre) life - a Groundhog Day lived over and over.

It is as if we come home and see alot of rusting old cars all over our yard, reminding us of what is undone and sitting there comprising the life we could have.

But if we do not "stop short" of doing what is necessary to solve our problems, we will be left with a life that is needlessly "hard" and littered with unsolved problems. (Duh!)

If we stop short on anything, we leave it until "later", and we end up with huge piles of lots of little things. (Even just putting a thing in its ultimate designated place, rather than leaving it partway for completing later, is something to be avoided.)

Read on and decide what you will do. And then, though it takes alot of time, go through and completely solve all of your problems, doing the necessary learning to be able to have "Sufficient" Knowing to accomplish each solution!

This will transform your life - and every person who want to be successful in life must pledge absolutely to follow this Great Rule: Finish everything you start (or don't even start it).

A life full of incompletions causes the same unpleasant experience of the skunk when the wind changes: "Ah, it all comes back to me now!" Such a life, frankly, really sucks!

These are some of the results that are guaranteed:

Constant anxiety

Attention on what is incomplete, so one isn't fully present or enjoying the now.

Bad results in life, ongoingly

Feeling bad about oneself (rather than understanding it is just a lack of action)

Unhappiness

Lack of self confidence

The road to hell/failure (or less of a life) is strewn with incompletions that have not only wasted time but most importantly have lost the gains one would have made from completing what is of great impact on one's life. (See Living Masterfully: The 80/20 Life, for a perspective on importance and effectiveness in life.)

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A SOURCE OF GREAT POWER IN LIFE

Completion is a source of great power in life. Its practice will make your life so much easier and so much more powerful in terms of getting the results you want. Since power is the ability to produce desired results, we must learn how to apply our energy effectively to create the resuts we want - and to not create the results we don't want. To accomplish that, we must gain Sufficient Knowing (on how things work and how to work them). Most people stop before they get enough knowledge to get what they want - and accordingly vastly shortchange themselves!

THE INSANITY OF NOT COMPLETING

"WHAT YOU DO NOT COMPLETE, YOU'RE BOUND TO REPEAT."

...over and over and over and over... (Groundhog Day)

One of the rules in life is: The lesson will be repeated until learned. Though the language is "passive" and it is almost implying that there is some force out there that causes the lesson to be repeated, this is otherwise an essentially true and profound statement. It sounds much less glamorous in its other forms:

Einstein: You can't solve a problem at the level of thinking that you created it.

Or simply, if you don't know better, when something comes up you could experience a problem. If you don't learn from that experience and you don't figure out how to solve the problem, well, guess what! The next time the situation comes up, you'll get the same result (it will repeat). (Duh!)

So, if it is important enough not to experience that problem again, we recommend that you "complete" the thinking and the process to gain the knowledge and the process to not experience (or at least lessen) the bad results from that situation.

"The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing and expect different results."

The statement related to "completion" is:

"The definition of insanity is to not learn what it takes to solve key "problems" and to keep experiencing the same undesired results!!!!!!!"

WHY?

We do the latter for some reason. Maybe it's lack of faith. Maybe it's not knowing what to do or where to go to solve the problem. Maybe "it seems so hard" and "I don't want to face it." [But it is better to face it once than keep repeating it!!!!]

But those are not real barriers (they only exist because we make them up with our mind and then believe, incredibly, that they are true!).

THE COMMITMENT

The only solution that will lead to real power is completion - and what we need you to do to "Stop The Insanity!" is to fully commit to using the completion process. Of course, you'll have to "complete" on using the completion process. You'll have to use the completion process to do that!

THE COMPLETION PROCESS

You'll notice this is similar to "problem solving", good thinking practices, etc.

The "completion" process is merely: (Note that it MUST be written down. See why, below.)

What is the problem? Describe it completely and objectively, including what the intention is that was thwarted (not achieved, blocked).

What result(s) do I want? What is my intention as to the results I want?

What else do I need to know and who can provide that or what other resource can I use, such as what to read and/or research?

Possibly use an ally to help hold you accountable or keep you on path or to give feedback as to when you are actually complete.

Once you feel you have learned and/or identified what is needed, write out what the solution is and then implement it.

See if it works (stop, look, and listen) and refine as needed.

Essentially, the completion process is the same as the problem solving process, except that it possibly involves more learning to gain the knowledge necessary to effectively operate in the area of the problem and/or in the problem situation.

WHY MUST IT BE IN WRITING?

The only reason not to write it down is that it "seems like too much effort" or "the extra effort is not worth it." But that would be like a child not wanting to put out effort, waiting to be rescued by having someone else do it or just using magical thinking in hoping that it'll go away.

The effort to write this out is well-proven to create greater results.

If it is just in the mind, it evaporates, it often is only partial, there is not as much depth and there is no path set to go down further toward completion, etc. In other words, it doesn't work, so stop doing it!!! (Duh!)

Also, writing it down in black and white generally forces one to look at it clearly and to not be vague and/or not to BS oneself by telling an untruth. It leaves a path (or a "marker" of the beginning of a possible path to explore). One can proceed in greater depth. One can share it with a fellow problem solver and/or ally, who can help to contribute a different viewpoint and possibly relevant knowledge.

A lazy approach will get the results that a lazy person experiences in life - like rusty cars all over the front yard, etc.

Also, it is a complete process, perhaps reviewing some topics that you already know and can therefore skip, but a process where you can fill in the missing pieces. Most people have missing pieces and many more things they need to understand in order to have a viewpoint that works.

THIS IS ABOUT "COMPLETING", FOR IF ONE IS INCOMPLETE IN ANY KEY AREA, THERE IS UNNECESSARY FRICTION HOLDING YOU BACK FROM LIVING YOUR LIFE AT THE HIGHEST FUNCTIONING HUMAN BEING LEVEL. ONE WITHOUT LIMITING BELIEFS OR FEARS AND WITHOUT A LIMITING LACK OF AWARENESS. ONE WITH FULL HEALTH IN EACH AREA.

MOST PEOPLE ARE UNAWARE OF WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE AND WHAT CAN BE DONE - SO TAKE THE TESTS!!!

THIS PROCESS WILL HAVE YOU NOT ONLY LIVING A BETTER LIFE BUT YOUR VERY BEST LIFE, A LIFE OF EASE AND GRACE THAT IS FULLY SATISFYING AND HAPPY.

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MASTERY

This is an area to completely master, as it has such a huge impact on one's life! Read all the relevant pieces until you have full understanding and have implemented this into your life!

There is the "big, overall" completion, but that consists of many smaller completions.

And smaller completions come from not breaking the momentum of progress by focusing on one thing for a period of time. The momentum carries us along with little effort, so doing this is actually not at all hard and definitely not more energy than random distractions of no meaning,

One strategy, which works very well, is to Live Life In 90 Minute Segments. Implement this!!!! (Read the Kindle book on "Life Value Productivity", linking to it from Books. It will dramatically change your life!

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The Potentially Biggest Completion Of All

You can't succeed in life if you are making the past be a problem, as it becomes an obstacle to going forward.

Completing The Past - This includes dumping "baggage" but also includes a listing of the "incompletions that are hanging around in your life and clogging it up.

Do not be incomplete about studying and understanding this - and implementing it.

Sure, you can read it quickly and get some benefit.

But if you spend the necessary time to fully implement it, such that you will be completing things to the point of getting the full result fully implemented, you'll be doing the possibly most beneficial thing you've ever done in your life!

KEY POINTS

Incompletion wastes time - Never start something that you will not complete. If you add up the hours wasted starting down paths but not getting the result it will be a huge, huge amount of time you could have done something better with! (If you use the funneling method for tasks in the system recommended below, you will "process" out most tasks that you will not finish.)

"Complete" all important areas in life!!! - You can run around completing a large quantity of low value, unnecessary things, but still not live a good life. The rule is to complete all areas of high value in life, for we cannot afford to not get those results in life that are the most important for happiness, well-being, confidence, peace of mind, and living life at a high level.

Follow the strategies/methods for assuring completion, following the quickest, effective path - We can be trying to learn the right thing but going about it the wrong way, unsystematically, sporadically, and based on a poor quality of input. Instead, we should use Effective Learning, assure that we are following a good format for Problem Solving (instead of following the paths that lead nowhere or fail), assure the learning is inserted in the schedule, and that you have a good task management system that has you not dropping things through the cracks or into death by slipping from memory or into starting something that there is not sufficient time or importance to complete!

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Complete this to the point of being able to be a "completion person" - getting great results in life (and with alot less effort and alot less stress!).

THE BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE IN LIFE IS...

Do not "stop short" of the desired result, as you will have blown your time completely and still not have what you want. Stopping short is the opposite of power. Read more about this in the discussion below.

THE RULE OF COMPLETION:

If you do not complete something, you are throwing away your time and wasting the energy you could have used to get a result elsewhere. The cost of not completing is not zero. It is much, much more. The cost is the value of the opportunity that you could have gotten the benefits of.

(This is a "Duh!" rule, as it is obvious - but so many people waste so much of their life by not making sure they spend their time on finishing the process of getting what they want!!!)