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My boyfriend and I were having a conversation about black men vs. (He is black and Puerto Rican.) It started getting intense, and I said, "You don't get it! Even on social media, my heart will sink as I see black women I've known from high school or elementary school now say they're "black and Filipino," "black and Puerto Rican," "black and [whatever race]" -- just don't say you're fully black! I don't mean races felt this way about black women, but the fact that my own men do has made me consider turning my back on them multiple times. It would be one thing if it were true love, but some are just doing it because they see it as a prize. For some reason they think only black women wear extensions.

The girls look at their mothers and can see the benefit of hard work, but the boys lack strong role models.There wasn’t as much bitterness as the media made it seem: There wasn’t anger on their part toward black men for having failed them, as they understood why black men had fallen behind in the few key ways we’ve discussed. The feeling overall is more: “I thought my life was going to be this way, and now it’s like this instead.” And that’s okay! They look at me like I'm a criminal." In a sense, I might not. ) I have many black friends who would prefer to not be confrontational and would rather pretend an event never happened than address it. But I thought in my head, "At least black women black men. He said, "Courtney, I see you struggle with your hair, and I think it would be nice if he had my curly hair. Most of my friends are educated --more educated than their significant others -- and grew up in families from middle- to upper-class backgrounds. "Black women are unattractive." I'm going to leave out Beyoncé and Rihanna, because duh. Most of the women I spoke to preferred to date black men.

It wasn’t that they were opposed to dating men of a different race, but there was often guilt associated with dating men who weren’t black, and concerns about being accepted by friends, family and members of the community.

At the same time, the women who take themselves off the market—the ones in their 30s who feel that marriage and a family just isn’t going to happen for them—forget what it feels like to be in a relationship and compromise.

They forget that relationships require work, because they’re so used to doing everything in their lives alone.

While changing attitudes toward marriage seem to have affected Americans of all races and ethnicities, one group in particular has had a harder time taking that walk down the aisle: black women.

In honor of Black History Month during the month of February, we decided to delve into exactly what’s going on. A New York Times op-ed piece sparked major discussion when Angela Stanley, a single black female, and a researcher at the Kirwan Institute for the Study of Race and Ethnicity at Ohio State University, discussed black women and marriage openly in the media.

So when they meet someone who might be potentially be a great partner, the relationship has the potential to fail just because they’ve forgotten the skills necessary to make a relationship work.