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"People want to marry a virgin, just like they want a virgin toothbrush or stick of gum."

My
goodness, is it difficult to be a young girl coming to terms with her
sexuality. If you have sex, you're a slut. If you don't have sex, you're
a prude and the guy you like will just dump you for someone who puts
out, a girl who is, if you recall, a slut -- which you don't want to be,
or you may want to sort of be, but only in the right
circumstance. Luckily, young women can always turn to their elders for
advice and rely on the compassion and logic of wise folks like their
teachers and mentors.

Unless you live in a certain school district in Texas, where tweens
are being taught in sex ed classes that they are kind of like wads of chewing gum or dirty toothbrushes if they do the deed. Now that should make young people feel better about themselves!

Worksheets from the sex education curriculum being used in the Canyon Independent School District were leaked online recently. The overall message teachers are expected to relay to both their female and male fifth, sixth, and seventh grade students is jarring.

Now, let me first say that I'm familiar with curricula that promotes
abstinence over sexual activity, and I'm all for it when the information
is provided in a sensitive, empowering manner. But these worksheets
suggest that teachers tell children things like, "People want to marry a
virgin, just like they want a virgin toothbrush or stick of gum."
Another worksheet says that having sex can be "physically, emotionally,
and financially harmful" and that young people should treat their
bodies like "locks, fences, and stop signs."

Do they honestly feel they are teaching children to view their bodies
with respect? Or is it more important to them to promote in tweens an
irrational fear of their bodies, sexual desires, and sex in general?

Without having access to every worksheet used in the district, it's
impossible to say whether a more logical approach to sex is used at some
point -- you know, one that gives the lowdown on STDs and pregnancy.
But I'm pretty sure we can assume teaching about contraception is low on
their priority list and that to do so would be to promote sex -- a no
no.

Instead, this curriculum uses shame to guilt tweens into keeping their legs crossed until marriage. It promotes the kind of bullying we see occur between teens all the time
-- and what makes it repulsive is that it is coming from adults who are
their role models and should know better. There are ways to teach
abstinence that don't make young people -- particularly girls, who we
know will bear the brunt of this -- feel as unworthy as chewed-up gum
beneath someone's shoe if they choose to express their sexuality with a
partner who hasn't put a ring on it. Messages like these don't cut it.

I don't care if that's what they teach. Truth of the matter is my child will be a "slut" or a "Virgin" and it is their choice and theirs only. One day they might meet someone who may flake on them because she's a virgin or someone who won't want her cause she's a slut. She should be prepared for both.

Lmaoooo, I saw taught with tape. The teacher pulled off several peices of tape. She kept one piece clean and the thers she rubs on various surfaces until no longer sticky. She then put the non sticky pieces together and when they didn't stic well she said "see how the two peices that are worn don't stick well together? Sex is the same way. The more partners you have the less meaningful it will be and you and your husband will drift apart." Then she took the clean peice to one of the dirty and when it stuck she said "see how purity will keep you together?"

It was total bullshit. A few of my friends walked home with their BFs and had sex that same day. This was only 7th grade BTW.

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If there was any evidence in the decades that abstinance only has been shoved that it was actually working maybe it would be ok. But every single study and statistic proves that abstinance only is the worst way to actually keep teens safe, besides never teaching them anything at all.

Yeah, my SO told me a lot of his friend would marry virgins, Then, ten years and two kids later the wife starts to wonder if the grass is greener on the other side and has an affair.

I'm not saying a woman should sleep with everything that moves, but you have to have a few experiences so you know if the man you're with is one you want to be with. Otherwise, you'll always be wondering what else is out there.

by Anonymous 1
on Nov. 12, 2013 at 9:45 AM

1 mom liked this

DH and I have only slept with each other but we still find this kind of behavior ugly. It's not ok to think of sex that way.

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