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Wouldn't be surprised if there are several people who feel personally attacked by this sentiment, but something I have often seen in life is how people will defend and make exceptions for people who flake on others, almost all the time.

We are talking of people who have such a blatant disregard for the time of other people and rather than "being the bad guy", will often just flake their way out of any situation they don't want to be at. If they were honest they would save the other people the trouble, not in just relationships, but also friendships. They tend to manipulate themselves into being the victim of any given scenario and often can't even bring themselves to feel genuine remorse for wasting the time of someone else. They love to be asked for social interactions, but don't like to hold up their end of actually showing up to them. In the past I have known many of these people, reached out in friendship to them (one they seemed to desperately want), only to have them never show up to a single event. New co-workers, people who just moved here, you name it. You think these people would want to feel like they belong somewhere, but at the same time are masters of excuses and will come up with any reason under the sun for why they didn't show.

The worst part is these people don't often only flake in their personal interactions; it's often the leading cause to them getting fired at every job they go to. A job that could have gone to a hard working, well deserving individual who would actually want to be there. A while ago I had a co-worker like this at a call center. Say she was scheduled 5 days a week, she would call in sick to all 4 and have a different excuse every time, but at the same time could be seen out and about totally fine. Genuinely shocking she lasted longer than a month, and from what I'd heard through the grapevine, she treated all her other employers with the same disrespect. And of course she could be seen later whining to social media about why no one would hire her.

How difficult is it to simply show up to things that you said you would? Unless you have a genuine reason, either go or decline. No one is going to shit on you for being honest.

I dated someone recently who would cancel plans at the last minute for suspicious reasons. Then he would get mad at me for getting mad at him for canceling plans we made weeks ago. I would literally be getting ready for the date and he would text me saying, “Sorry, I have to do X, Y and Z.” It was so infuriating.

I can agree with this somewhat but some people don't realize how pushy they are.

My friend will say "we should hang" and I'll say "yeah sounds good lemme check with the gf" and if she says she had some plans and doesn't want to hang, he behaves as if I've flaked on established plans.