I mean do any of us want to tell our spouse or best friend we failed because we were a chicken? So we keep it to ourselves……and it eats us up. Now, we tell ‘fibs’ to ourselves and others…..about the effort we are making when, in fact, we are making no effort at all. Our self-esteem erodes further. And the downward spiral begins.

More fibs and false promises about how many dials we are going to make on the day that never comes – tomorrow.

MY EARLY DAYS

I suffered, exactly that negative, self esteem crushing pattern while failing 5 times at MLM in the 1980’s.

My list was shrinking.

And the shorter my list got, the more call reluctance strangled me…..or should I say I strangled me.

And, by the way, I’ve never bought into the bullshit about ‘not wanting it bad enough.’ And you shouldn’t either.

Write your 2 key needs on 10-20 index cards….20 is better than 10 and put them everywhere after writing on the other sides “I promise to contact people 8 hours [or whatever you committed to in Step 1] this week. I always keep my promises”

Once you move into this level of honesty with yourself….and share the solution with your team……they will LOVE you confessed to being a phone chicken, relieved…..and they’ll embrace this simple solution.

All the fancy stuff about leadership, empowerment, relationships and motivation is dwarfed when we bond over a common form of suffering…..and work together to overcome that suffering.

It’s huge…..and you and your team will make more calls…..good for everyone.

Obviously, you ‘get it’…….sharing vulnerability with our teams and a solution makes us better leaders – AND – encourages leadership because it shortens the distance to being a leader in the mind of each member.

Call reluctance can be a habit. Like any habit you have to replace it with something else. I find humor works too. Hopefully clicking will give you a short intro into every ‘telemarketers’ nightmare. When you know what to say and are willing to have fun while you are calling the ‘fear’ disappears. It’s not the steps that matter, it’s not the goal either but it is the path you take, the journey that matters. When I ‘get’ that all is well. When I argue with it, trouble appears.

Great article that is at the heart of my challenges to overcome. I will overcome this call reluctance and i am appreciative and grateful for your example and direction in overcoming this and becoming the hero that I long to be. It fills me with confidence and enthusiasm as it is impossible to help others if i cannot help myself.

I learned something from The Fabulous Davene at a training……several years ago…….2 questions and 2 sentences…..that I’ve passed on over and over…..because it contains a simple truth that is extremely powerful in overcoming obstacles….

She asked the audience this: “Can you think, for a moment, what it would mean to you and how it would change you life to hit your objectives? Let’s take 60 seconds and just think about that, OK?” [she was then quiet for a full minute]…….then she asked, “look into your heart, and, with the purest honesty you can muster ask yourself what is it that I fear that is preventing the actions that will obtain my objectives?” [full 30 second pause]

Then, the bomb…..that has changed a lot of lives for a lot of people….. “That fear or fears you have is the only thing between you having what you want so decide, right now, which of the 2 you will continue to feed because the one you feed is the one that will win and the one you strave is the one that will lose. Decide right now and stick with your decision.”

It is in the overcoming of obstacles by the hero that lives within each of us that authentic success is found…..it is not the check that will give us what we want, it is overcoming our personal demons……and I am certain, based on your honesty and efforts [both rare] you will face and conquer your enemies…..as Pogo [a comic strip] said many years ago “I have seen the enemy and it is us.”

I am postive you will pick and feed the path of victory because you have a rare quality Dennis, honesty with yourself. Go for it brudda!

GREAT!!!!! I have new IBO’s who have not yet gotten into Grow90Grow site (qivana)…they finished silver training but seems link is not sent readily (i had to write 3-4 times) …….i am checking on today but wanted to forward this to many …..If they have not yet gotten in to go90grow…They cannot open link…..
Hoping the Q support team, or whoever monitoring can fix the connection soon!!!