Congrats man. The wife just told me last week. I'm beyond excited but a little worried. We just got married in September. I read all these stories about miscarriages and it just makes me nervous. We both want this so bad

Congrats man. The wife just told me last week. I'm beyond excited but a little worried. We just got married in September. I read all these stories about miscarriages and it just makes me nervous. We both want this so bad

Congrats both of you guys! Don't stress over the horror stories because then you will think that its normal, when the majority of the stories are crazy cases that almost never happen. Just sit back and enjoy the ride. There will be some tough times coming your way and it will seem like you are losing your mind. All will be fine. We are currently pregnant with #2 and #3. Congrats again and good luck!

Congrats both of you guys! Don't stress over the horror stories because then you will think that its normal, when the majority of the stories are crazy cases that almost never happen. Just sit back and enjoy the ride. There will be some tough times coming your way and it will seem like you are losing your mind. All will be fine. We are currently pregnant with #2 and #3. Congrats again and good luck!

Okay, you asked what to expect...and you're on the right site for it lol :)

My suggestions start with the biggest one: Read a lot...read this site, read other sites, read books. Find out everything you can about what your wife is going to go through, because if it's her first, she's going to be freaked out by just about everything...and it will help for you to be educated and reassure her when things are normal and expected. It will also make you very aware of what is NOT normal and expected.

My wife had two miscarriages prior to our current pregnancy (which, thank God, is going very well at 17 weeks). I have pretty much become a subject matter expert on warning signs of miscarriage, on what is normal and not normal, etc...

Basically, my strong suggestion is to take it real easy with the sex during the first trimester, do not be aggressive with her at all. There will be vastly increased blood flow to the uterus/cervix area and it's easy to burst blood vessels, leading to bleeding which always freaks a woman out, big time. Strong orgasms can also cause contractions and cramping, which throw up red flags and will tend to make her real skittish about it. The further she gets into the pregnancy, and the more round ligament stretching she feels, those contractions can sometimes cause a lot of sharp pain and discomfort. So just be aware that sex brings a few complications with it, as the pregnancy progresses. She may go through a period of no desire, or a period of increased desire...you're basically going to be on a roller coaster, nothing will be normal.

Make sure she is taking prenatal vitamins with DHA (we use One-A-Day brand) and iron supplements every day. EVERY DAY. Get educated about the foods she should avoid and steer her clear of them. Don't let her clean with aerosol solvents or be around heavy fumes. Be prepared to pick up a LOT of the slack with housework, starting at around 10 weeks or so and going into the second trimester. Don't let her lift anything heavy or carry anything more than like 10 pounds. Basically, you need to switch into "protector" mode and half the time, you're going to be protecting her from herself...because she's going to want to do her normal things, and she can't.

So yeah...my best advice is to get educated and pour yourself into learning about it. And attend every OB/GYN appointment you can. Your wife will really appreciate it, her OB/GYN will see you as a true partner in it and will answer your questions, and you'll have a relationship for when it's time to give birth.

Also..be prepared for your wife to turn on you now and then, later in the first trimester. One minute she'll be very loving, the next minute she'll seem to want you dead. She can't help it, so don't blame her. Don't blame her for being sick, for feeling lazy, none of it. She's carrying your child for you, it's not a fun experience. Imagine cultivating a growth in your belly that starts the size of a pea and ends up the size of a bowling ball in nine months. It's not cool.

So just read up. Also...I find it very informative to read the posts of women on my due date board, here on the site. It gives me some insight as to what my wife is going through, because those women are usually pretty open about how they're feeling with each other. It gives me a peek into what my wife may be going through, but isn't telling me.

Okay, you asked what to expect...and you're on the right site for it lol :)

My suggestions start with the biggest one: Read a lot...read this site, read other sites, read books. Find out everything you can about what your wife is going to go through, because if it's her first, she's going to be freaked out by just about everything...and it will help for you to be educated and reassure her when things are normal and expected. It will also make you very aware of what is NOT normal and expected.

My wife had two miscarriages prior to our current pregnancy (which, thank God, is going very well at 17 weeks). I have pretty much become a subject matter expert on warning signs of miscarriage, on what is normal and not normal, etc...

Basically, my strong suggestion is to take it real easy with the sex during the first trimester, do not be aggressive with her at all. There will be vastly increased blood flow to the uterus/cervix area and it's easy to burst blood vessels, leading to bleeding which always freaks a woman out, big time. Strong orgasms can also cause contractions and cramping, which throw up red flags and will tend to make her real skittish about it. The further she gets into the pregnancy, and the more round ligament stretching she feels, those contractions can sometimes cause a lot of sharp pain and discomfort. So just be aware that sex brings a few complications with it, as the pregnancy progresses. She may go through a period of no desire, or a period of increased desire...you're basically going to be on a roller coaster, nothing will be normal.

Make sure she is taking prenatal vitamins with DHA (we use One-A-Day brand) and iron supplements every day. EVERY DAY. Get educated about the foods she should avoid and steer her clear of them. Don't let her clean with aerosol solvents or be around heavy fumes. Be prepared to pick up a LOT of the slack with housework, starting at around 10 weeks or so and going into the second trimester. Don't let her lift anything heavy or carry anything more than like 10 pounds. Basically, you need to switch into "protector" mode and half the time, you're going to be protecting her from herself...because she's going to want to do her normal things, and she can't.

So yeah...my best advice is to get educated and pour yourself into learning about it. And attend every OB/GYN appointment you can. Your wife will really appreciate it, her OB/GYN will see you as a true partner in it and will answer your questions, and you'll have a relationship for when it's time to give birth.

Also..be prepared for your wife to turn on you now and then, later in the first trimester. One minute she'll be very loving, the next minute she'll seem to want you dead. She can't help it, so don't blame her. Don't blame her for being sick, for feeling lazy, none of it. She's carrying your child for you, it's not a fun experience. Imagine cultivating a growth in your belly that starts the size of a pea and ends up the size of a bowling ball in nine months. It's not cool.

So just read up. Also...I find it very informative to read the posts of women on my due date board, here on the site. It gives me some insight as to what my wife is going through, because those women are usually pretty open about how they're feeling with each other. It gives me a peek into what my wife may be going through, but isn't telling me.

Just be careful on the "protecting her from herself" bit. My husband came close to getting stabbed a few times when he told me I "couldn't" do things like have a cup of regular coffee if our saturday morning breakfast place was out of decaf. And there are going to be days where you are convinced she hates your guts. She doesn't, and she really can't control her emotions sometimes.

Just be careful on the "protecting her from herself" bit. My husband came close to getting stabbed a few times when he told me I "couldn't" do things like have a cup of regular coffee if our saturday morning breakfast place was out of decaf. And there are going to be days where you are convinced she hates your guts. She doesn't, and she really can't control her emotions sometimes.

wow i wish my hubs would come on this site. the sob (i do love him but it has NOT been easy) just says that I'm trying to justify being a crazy nut by asking him to join in on the site. and really, he drivea me up the damn wall with everything he says and does. all the nasty habits and then never helping me out with anything. guys if you want to know one thing, dont do what mine does-dont call her crazy or a nut or emotional or anything of the sort. unless you want poison or spit in your food.

wow i wish my hubs would come on this site. the sob (i do love him but it has NOT been easy) just says that I'm trying to justify being a crazy nut by asking him to join in on the site. and really, he drivea me up the damn wall with everything he says and does. all the nasty habits and then never helping me out with anything. guys if you want to know one thing, dont do what mine does-dont call her crazy or a nut or emotional or anything of the sort. unless you want poison or spit in your food.

Awesome!!! Have the book and the app and I can't read enough of either of them it's pretty darn accurate last night my wife wanted to kill me!!!!! Lol but I know she's vowing through mood swings so just did my best to make her smile and give her what ever she wanted. We're abot 9 weeks now and have an ob/ gym app the 7th do you know what I should expect? Sorry for so many questions I just want our baby so band and I want everything to be perfect.

Awesome!!! Have the book and the app and I can't read enough of either of them it's pretty darn accurate last night my wife wanted to kill me!!!!! Lol but I know she's vowing through mood swings so just did my best to make her smile and give her what ever she wanted. We're abot 9 weeks now and have an ob/ gym app the 7th do you know what I should expect? Sorry for so many questions I just want our baby so band and I want everything to be perfect.

Yeah man, you'll get used to seeing it coming and just find a way to quietly excuse yourself from the situation before she blows a gasket ;)

Most likely if you haven't had an ultrasound yet, your next appointment is when you're going to have it. If you watch the monitor carefully, look for the peanut shaped thing and that'll be your fetus...and you'll probably see a little pulsing light in the middle, which is the heart beating. It's a cool moment, you might want to record it. You'll probably get a printout from the OB/GYN of a still frame from the ultrasound. I have the two we've been given here in my photo section on the site, click my username and check out the 8 week printout for some idea of what you'll be looking at.

If it's your first ultrasound, he'll measure the crown-to-rump length and that's how he'll establish the "official" age of the fetus and set your due date.

Yeah man, you'll get used to seeing it coming and just find a way to quietly excuse yourself from the situation before she blows a gasket ;)

Most likely if you haven't had an ultrasound yet, your next appointment is when you're going to have it. If you watch the monitor carefully, look for the peanut shaped thing and that'll be your fetus...and you'll probably see a little pulsing light in the middle, which is the heart beating. It's a cool moment, you might want to record it. You'll probably get a printout from the OB/GYN of a still frame from the ultrasound. I have the two we've been given here in my photo section on the site, click my username and check out the 8 week printout for some idea of what you'll be looking at.

If it's your first ultrasound, he'll measure the crown-to-rump length and that's how he'll establish the "official" age of the fetus and set your due date.

First of all, freejack, you are awesome!!!! On top if his excellent explanation, converse and ask her how she feels... Give her the freedom and security to speak with you and explain to you what she goes thru... It means allot to me, that my Hubby does give me that! Certain things of course he does not want to know as far as discharge but how i feel is the top of his list... So my advice... Talk to her... Ask her... Many times...

First of all, freejack, you are awesome!!!! On top if his excellent explanation, converse and ask her how she feels... Give her the freedom and security to speak with you and explain to you what she goes thru... It means allot to me, that my Hubby does give me that! Certain things of course he does not want to know as far as discharge but how i feel is the top of his list... So my advice... Talk to her... Ask her... Many times...

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