For the past 10 years or so I
have been traveling around the world. I have now been to about 60
countries. I believe I have a lot of experience to share with
people. I share many of these experiences freely on my main
website EQI.org. I have also
been doing a lot of volunteer work, particulary with emotionally
abused youth. From them I have learned a lot about emotional intellignce
and emotional abuse.

On this site I have some of my
beliefs and a few other miscellaneous things. I do most of my
writing on the EQI site shown above. Besides emotional
intelligence (both as I see it and as others are marketing it)
and emotional abuse I write about a lot of other things, many of
which I wish I had been taught something useful about in school,
such as how to listen to someone, and how to express my feelings
in a healthier way.

To me, the highest goal for all of us
is survival. It does not matter what color we are, what
gender or what "nationality" we are. We are all
to here to work together to increase the chances that the
human species will survive.

The best way to do that, I
believe, is to help each other, not hurt each other. This
is why I am opposed to war and punishment. I do not
believe these are the ways to improve human life on
earth. Nor do I think they are in line with the general
trend of evolution.

I believe the reason people
do things which we commonly refer to as sick and criminal
is generally a result of their unmet emotional needs.

Instead of the concept of
human "rights", I believe it is more accurate
and more helpful to think in terms of individual needs.
See Human Rights vs
Individual Needs

I also believe we are here
to solve problems -- problems which interfere with the
survival of the species. The more problems we solve as
adults the fewer we pass on to children

Children are born
empathetic, approval seeking, forgiving and
cooperative. Rebellious and defiant children,
like terrorists, are created not born. I don't
believe children are born "evil" or
born "sinners"

Each child has a
different set of emotional needs. Children are
more different emotionally than physically.

They naturally want to
share things with adults, and they will continue
to share things openly till they are punished or
hurt for sharing.

They will naturally
tell the truth unless adults have frightened them
into lying.

They need lots of
physical touch and emotional acknowledgment and
validation. Much more than they commonly get.

They all have a natural
need to feel helpful, as well as the other
natural human emotional needs which I have listed.

Some of my beliefs
about teenagers

Teens have too little
influence and control over their own lives.

Adults need to earn the
respect of teenagers. Respect is not the same as fear, and
it is not the same as obedience.

To earn their respect,
adults must respect the teens' feelings, needs,
beliefs, ideas and dreams. They also must help
fill the teens' individual needs, recognizing
that each teen is different.

The ideas,
beliefs,dreams and feelings of teens are
important and valuable to society. They can help
guide us to a more humane world.

Very few people really
take teenagers seriously.

Teenagers around the
world are being over-socialized to adopt the same
beliefs as the adults in their particular
country, instead of being given exposure to other
beliefs and value systems. This creates divisions
in the world which lead to wars and international
conflicts.