Today's couples need more options as they plan their weddings. That's the idea behind my series "When You'd Rather Not…" The goal is to highlight lesser-known wedding planning options. It's not to make you feel that you have to pick any of them.

I've already written about how, as an engaged person, it's easy to feel like everyone wants a piece. That's true about these resources, too. They're businesses and, speaking as a small business owner, we're in it to make money.

But we should also be in it to help people. That's the quality I look for when writing "When You'd Rather Not…" I've vetted, trust, and, for the most part, personally like any option I include. What I don't like, I point out.

So, without further ado, here are my recommendations for when you'd rather not...