Friday, July 31, 2009

Thursday, July 30, 2009

So I don't usually get into these giveaway things, but this is my friend Jenny and I love her. And her cakes are really fabulous. And her prices are really low right now while she builds up her portfolio....plus this coupon.
Help promote Jeneze Cake Designs! Leave a comment on this post and paste the above coupon image on your blog, and your name will be entered into a drawing at the end of next week. The winner of the drawing will receive a free cake!!! Drawing will be held August 8, 09. So help spread the word. If you live outside of Utah and would still like a chance to win a prize I am willing to figure out something for the winner. Please help us and let all of your Utah friends and family know about Jeneze Cake and share the coupons too.
Thanks!!

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Now that Dorian is a year old, we thought it would be a good idea to get some pictures taken of him. But since we don't have any money, I tried to do my own photo shoot in lieu of paying a professional...problem is, he pretty much either wouldn't look at me or he just wanted to grab the camera.

He is a little explorer. Only turns around to get me if he needs to grab my hand in order to climb up a ledge or down a hill.
Our attempted photo shoot kind of ended in tears because I had the camera and he didn't. This is a mild version of his favorite new sad/mad furrowed brow.

Monday, July 27, 2009

This is his best shot so far, in my opinion.
I am compelled to save stuff like this, on the off chance that Dorian becomes a famous photographer, so that I can sell prints of his first compositions at the tender age of 1!

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Friday, July 10, 2009

Dorian would like to thank everyone who gave him such great birthday presents:

Grandpa John and Grandma Jeanne gave him a United States Mint proof set of coins from his birth year. He is studying hard to figure out what they are (and trying to figure out how to get the case open).
Dinos! From Candy and Ricky.
New shirt from Everett. He looks so grown up!
Super cute pajamas from Brianne and Dustin.
Money from Grandma and Grandpa Gailey. It has been deposited in his savings account. :)
A great new truck from Grandma and Grandpa J. He figured out how to sit on it and push himself along with his feet.
A basketball hoop from his aunts and uncles--Dallin, Ginelle, Spencer, and Evan. He is fascinated with it.
He loves his new books from Yvonne. He reads them all the time.
Thanks again! He had a really great time at his party. He seemed to soak in the attention and understand that it was all for him. I didn't get any good pictures of him eating his cake, but if my dad got some, I'll post them later.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

I haven't had much time to blog lately between being in and out of town and all 3 of us getting sick (flu-like symptoms? don't worry, we haven't been quarantined...) Tonight I finally got a chance to sit down and catch up on some of my blog reading (which seems to be more important on my to-do list than, oh, lots of things...) and I came across a question on Lisa Belkin's NYTimes Motherlode blog that I wanted to answer. My answer turned into a short book, and I thought I would go ahead and post it here.

The question, from a reader:

I have a question about quitting music classes. My almost 5-year-old has started playing the piano, enjoys it and is pretty much self-motivating when it comes to practicing. My almost 7-year-old has started violin classes (at her own request), but she really needs to be pushed in order to practice, and will tell me that she does not like to play the violin, but once she does practice, she is usually fine, and even insists on finishing additional pieces and actually does quite well.

If it were up to her, she would quit right now though. We have rewards in place (a particular toy after x number of practices) and I also started practicing the violin so that it could be a joint activity. I do believe that learning to play an instrument is beneficial on many levels, and would like her to continue, however, there are limits to how long I will try to push her, since it is no fun for either of us.

Are there any music teachers/parents who can tell me if (and when) there will be a turning point when she starts to enjoy and appreciate it more — or will that day never come? Should I let her change instruments? (Piano will not be an option — I do not want her and her sister competing and comparing — and cello would seem to pose the same challenges.) She will be getting a new teacher after the summer, which might help, although she is skeptical.

My answer:

I grew up in a family where taking piano lessons was almost as important as going to church. I was the youngest and the only one who ended up becoming a professional musician, although all my siblings attained some level of proficiency. I am now a piano teacher, and strongly believe in the benefits of music study for kids (and adults). However, and this took me a number of years to understand (considering my upbringing and my chosen profession), there are lots of other ways for kids to get the same benefit!

What are the benefits of music study? Discipline, problem solving, focus, emotional expression, memorization, eye-hand coordination, time management, goal-directed behavior, performance under pressure...and I could go on. Couldn't many of these same skills be learned by playing soccer, learning to bake, taking art lessons, or building a computer? Think how many successful adults you know who never played a musical instrument. It's not a must. On the other hand, think of how many teenagers you know who study a classical musical instrument and are also into drugs?...not too many, I would guess.

The thing is, children are inherently attracted to music, but playing a musical instrument requires a great deal of work and discipline--a lot to ask of a young child! But it is also something that they are too young to really make a good decision about--they don't know whether in 10 years they will want to be able to play the violin or not, and the skills need to be learned now. So if, as a parent, you believe it is important, I would recommend you stick with it. If, however, it becomes something that is ruining your relationship with your child, it may not be worth it. There are other ways to get the same benefit.

I congratulate you on your own practicing of the violin. So many parents expect their kids to practice an instrument but the kids have never seen their parents do such a thing! So why would they want to do it? Example is a strong parenting influence. If you decide to stick with the violin lessons for her, I hope you will also sit with her while she practices (at her age, unsupervised practice could be worse than no practice at all), and make sure she practices consistently. Consistency is the biggest factor in a student's progress, and progress is the biggest motivator for a student to continue playing.

If you decide to let her quit, I hope you can find a way to do it that doesn't teach her that when things get hard, quitting is the answer. Instead, try to teach her that life doesn't have to be miserable, and it's okay to choose activities that you enjoy over those that you don't...but it is also important to make commitments and stick to them, even when it gets a little hard. The intrinsic reward that comes from doing what you said you would do even when you don't want to is huge!

One other thought--I would be careful about offering too many extrinsic rewards for her practicing. You might find the book Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn an interesting read. Let her discover the intrinsic reward of mastering a skill and making music. That's not to say I'm above bribery when it becomes completely necessary! Do what works, but help her enjoy the ride if possible.

Good luck, and know that whatever decision you make, it will be okay!

As I am reading through other comments and the original question again, I am realizing I could have gone on and on. But I won't, for now. :)