How Should I Be Confident Around Boys?

"I know you should have self-confidence in order to attract guys. How can you show you are confident without being too subtle or too obvious?"
Marbeya, 14

Marbeya, you ask a great question! To me confidence is all about the living it – not the showing off of it. Meaning – when you are truly confident you just have an inner knowing. You know you can handle many situations, you believe in yourself and in your beauty, and most of all you believe you have a right to exist, to speak out, to be bold and brave. That confidence can shine through and you don't have to even flaunt it. Sometimes girls try to hide their confidence because they don't want other people to talk about them or think they are stuck up – but you have to remember you don't have to DO anything when you truly are confident – you can just BE who you are. If people don't like it – too bad – everyone is allowed their opinion. And when it comes to guys – I know 99 percent of guys really respond well to a girl who isn't trying too hard but is just being comfy in her skin. Also, the trick is to not be so focused on the guys *that's when they really come running – instead just be focused on your fabulous life and learning as much as you can about being…you. The more you have great experiences in life, the more you give back to your family and friends, and the more you take risks – the higher your confidence rises – and that not only attracts guys but it attracts friends and career opportunities, too. So don't worry about being too subtle or too obvious – just be you!