my boyfriend's 'humiliation' fetish with people online

My boyfriend has been having conversations with people online where he makes up embarrassing lies about himself and our relationship. He says that he and i have had threesomes where he watched me get so much pleasure out of the third party but when it was his turn i couldn't orgasm - completely false. he wants to hear that girls want a penis that's bigger than his because he wants to be embarrassed about his penis size. He wants to feel inadequate in bed and just be put to shame in many sexual ways. He has said it's because he gets some kind of excitement out of it since he feels insecure in real life. So, if he has conversations with people he can't see/interact away from the internet, then he gets the pleasure of knowing he's an embarrassment, has an inadequate body from people with out it having to be from people he actually knows. it's like he's living a separate life online being a sleezy creepy sex chatter and i don't know what to make of this or how to feel about it. Do i break up with him so he can get himself together and not feel so insecure, or do i stay with him even though the thought of being kissed or touched by him freaks me out now? i don't want my boyfriend to be that guy who has perverted sex chats online behind my back, or with me knowing about it...

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Yeah he has issues. Many lead double lives these days and chatting online makes it more appealing but self degragation for sexual pleasure is a big problem. It can only lead to a worse situation so if he is not willing to talk with you and resolve your fears then it may be move on time. People who self degrade themsleves are on a self destructing path and unless you want to destruct along with him then...protect yourself.