9. She (or He) Knows Me Better Than I Know Myself

Is this really true or just what you believe to be true? If you believe it's true, I wonder what motivates you to accept that?

Exploration of the self can be a painful and slow process, and so perhaps you can't be bothered with all that work. It may seem
easier to go along deferring to others. On the other hand, perhaps you've been punished for having a mind of your own,
and so you've learned to defer to the expertise of others in all matters, including your knowledge of self.
Either way, it ain't good. No one should be more fascinated by you than YOU! And no one should know you better
than you know yourself.

Victoria Fleming, Ph.D., LCPC, NCC

About the Author

Dr. Victoria Fleming (Ph.D., Indiana University)
is an educator and therapist
with a private practice in Chicago's northern suburbs. She travels the country offering lectures and
workshops based on her current book, "You Complete Me and Other Myths that Destroy Happily Ever After."