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A Frightening Little League Lesson

I recently came across a particularly disturbing story of tragic consequences at a 13-year-old Little League game. No, it wasn't about parents fighting in the stands or a steroids in the club house, but a story of protection from the realities of competition.

"His son's team was
winning 24-7 as the game entered the last inning. When he looked up at
the scoreboard, he noticed that the score read 0-0. Naturally, he
inquired as to what happened -- was the scoreboard perhaps broken? --
and was told that the winning team's coach asked the scoreboard keeper
to change the score. He and some of the parents were concerned that the
boys on the losing team felt humiliated. In order to ensure that the boys losing by a lopsided score would not feel too bad, the score was changed."

Prager goes on to blame "The Left" for "sissyfying" the country. But this is clearly not some Liberal conspiracy. There are just as many Republicans as Democrats in the stands, schools, and homes where such behavior goes on.

The tragedy here is that we have yet more proof that children today are missing the challenges that lead to improvement. And it's not a function of the MTV Videogames, but rather the parents who are imposing a seemingly universal belief system on the rising generation of children.

Overall, this story parallels that of helicopter parents, which I touched on a few weeks ago. Helicopter parents see their duty to hover over their children through college and even into their careers, always pulling them out of a crisis, heaping praise on small wins, and pushing them in particular directions.

I continue to grow concerned for this generation of Americans, who have had life so good that they have not grown the immunities and solutions to life's small and large challenges. How will they respond when the real challenges come? Or will they be sheltered for life, and we will miss this generation's fair share of Bill Gates's, Steve Jobs's, and Sergey Brins?

Maybe there will be good, however, as the country's lower-middle-class and poor kids will have a true advantage in our society - not through some government handout or quota program - but rather the advantage of overcoming tough situations. Thanks to a hunger for more and confidence from facing real challenges, they may become the real leaders and success stories of the next generation.

Alternatively, we might see the next true "movement" of a generation growing up. The Boomer generation rose up in the 60s at least in part as a reaction to their parents' constricting beliefs. Maybe we shall see a similar response in the future, as this generation rises up and reclaims its independence. Maybe "Free Love" will become "Free Will".

Comments

While I tend to agree with your comments about overprotective parenting, I think this one is a little over the top. As a parent, my job is to find the right time and place to challenge my child. It's not all the time (it's not none of the time either). Taken strong form, we don't usher children out in the wild a week after birth and expect them to be able to find enough food to live - sure it would make them better but it would also eliminate a generation. Instead, we find the right 'teaching moments'. Some sports don't keep score till a certain age. In a recent NY Times Magazine article, they profiled the Russian women's tennis machine, producing 6 of the current top 10 women players. One key realization was that the famed Russian coach prohibited competition (tournaments, games, keeping score) until they had MASTERED the strokes. In other words, until the fundamentals were instilled the shelter or lack of challenge kept them from developing bad habits. Then, turn on the challenge and watch them excel. So it's not a 'always on'...much like my previous comments on communist countries outperforming democracies/capitalists at creating infrastructure as a result of the lack of challenge, here too I believe it to be a balancing act of where and when and how much.