Hitting

I posted this on my 09/09 birthclub but it just is not as busy as it used to be... My daughter turned 3 in September.

I just got off the phone with my daughter's teacher. She hit a boy in her class. I was informed yesterday that she hit the same boy twice. This is wayyy out of character for her! She is naturally a laid back, someone timid kid. Her teacher was surprised by her actions yesterday and shocked that it continued today. Lou tends to get her feelings hurt easily but has never lashed out.

My daughter has told me before that Jackson (the kid she hit) hit her. We had the same conversation twice. If Jackson hits you, you need to tell your teacher. We do not hurt our friends. She has also told me that Jackson hit Kai. Up until recently, Jackson and Kai were her two besties. She has also recently told me that Gracie is her best friend. Usually she tells me that Kai is her best friend, so I asked her "I thought Kai was your best friend." She said, "Kai said no." No further explanation.

Comments (7)

Does her teacher know that she's defending herself? Not that hitting is right, but at least she's not the instigator. Maybe try asking your DD (dear daughter) why she feels the need to hit. Maybe point out to her that by hitting back, it hasn't stopped her classmate from hitting her. By telling the teacher, the hitting might stop.

Since I have dealt with this a lot in the past, I would say your best bet is to find out the antecdent to the hitting and get that worked out first. Hopefully that will naturally take care of the problem.

Kids are sly. They can make someone mad, and then the retaliator is the one who gets in trouble because they are the one who gets caught.

Thank you so much for your responses! I really appreciate it. I feel like I really dropped the ball by not mentioning that my daughter had previously told me that Jackson has hit her and one of her classmates.

Is there another teacher in the classroom? I know when my son was at school whenever a certain teacher was there he would act out and i figured out it was because he didnt feel safe since this particular teacher didnt pay attention well. He actually bit one of his bffs which is completely out of character for him and other kids were biting as well. One that particular teacher was no longer in the room all the kids stopped hitting biting etc. Not saying this is the case with your childchild but maybe the teacher isnt paying as much attention as she should?

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