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What’s Your Definition of Beauty? My Answer Sucks

I never realized how much having children would make me hate my body. I have severe issues with the way my skin sags and how I can’t seem to lose the weight from having children. Even when my husband tells me I’m beautiful, I quickly shoot down his compliment. Any time I see a photo of myself I think “ugh.” At this point in time I don’t really see myself as beautiful.

I guess that brings me to this wonderful graphic my sister from She Gets it Done made for us here at Lighthearted Moms.

Everything has beauty but not everyone can see it, is such a beautiful statement. I might not be that size zero I once was, but I’m still beautiful. I’m not sitting here saying this so I have an excuse to stay fat. I work hard everyday on trying to improve my eating and exercise habits. Today I ate lettuce while my family had chicken nuggets and my husband went back for a second helping of cake. It’s a daily battle, but it’s worth every moment. Today I also biked a mile and walked 1.5 miles. It would have been nice if I started this journey while I was still skinny, but it’s better to start now than never.

I hope one day I can answer what my definition of beauty is but for right now, I’m just trying to figure out who I am post-three-beautiful-baby-boys.

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My definition of beauty is what emanates from a woman’s heart as she serves her family, friends & God. I’ve seen incredibly beautiful women on the outside, transform into very ugly people. How can this happen? Their hearts are black due to ego, selfish motives, narcissism, lack of love and compassion for people and utterly foul mouths. Couple that with an empty soul void of Gods love and forgiveness the woman is transformed in to a truly ugly person.

I’ve always felt that Proverbs 31 described an utterly beautiful woman. The verses say “virtuous”, but I believe that beauty is a by product of all of the virtuous things mentioned about this beautiful woman.
The following is from The Virtuous Woman FB page.

10 signs of a virtuous (beautiful) woman.

1. Faith – A Virtuous Woman serves God with all of her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways. (Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 31: 29 – 31, Matthew 22: 37, John 14: 15, Psalm 119: 15

2. Marriage – A Virtuous Woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and a helpmeet. (Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28, 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Genesis2: 18)

3. Mothering – A Virtuous Woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven. She nurtures her children with the love of Christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom, and trains them in the way they should go. (Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 22: 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 18: 16)

8. Homemaking – A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27, Titus 2: 5, 1 Peter 4: 9, Hebrews 13: 2)

9. Time – A Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 19, Proverbs 31: 27, Ecclesiastes 3, Proverbs 16: 9, Philippians 4:8 )

10. Beauty – A Virtuous Woman is a woman of worth and beauty. She has the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. She uses her creativity and sense of style to create beauty in her life and the lives of her loved ones. (Proverbs 31: 10Proverbs 31: 21 – 22, Proverbs 31: 24 -25, Isaiah 61: 10, 1 Timothy 2: 9, 1 Peter 3: 1 – 6)