Archive for July 2012

You can call me… Emmeline, Emilie or any of the derivative nicknames of those. Or Princess :)

I identify as… a transgender woman. I went through several stages of gender identity before finally realising that this was me, and taking this leap to transition.
I think of myself as an edgy femme.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer female. Neutral is okay, but male will upset me.

I’m attracted to… I am bisexual, possibly pansexual, but I lean more towards males. I’ve only recently begun to be attracted to females as I’ve started my transition.

I like the sweet, shy, geeky type. Being able to hold an intelligent conversation with someone is totally important. Although completely ridiculous conversations are fun too :P

When people talk about me, I want them to… treat me with respect, even if they don’t agree with who I am.

I want people to understand… that it’s okay to be different. That I am a woman, I’ve found that’s who I am and that’s not going to change.

About Emmeline
I live in Perth, Western Australia, I have 5 siblings. I am a creative soul, and I love painting, drawing, imagining, fashion and sculpture. I am a vegan for ethical reasons and I just love to cook :)

Language is such a beautiful thing. It lets us define and describe and explain what we wish to share. But sometimes language is such an inconvenience. I am not a girl and I am not a boy. I am not straight, nor gay. Sometimes I want nothing more than to be the sexiest woman around, and sometimes I wish to death I was a man. Sometimes I wish we didn’t have language. And then I could just be me.

“I am a tomboy lesbian who likes to wear pink nail polish when I ride my motorcyle. Two weeks after meeting Michelle, I asked her out for a coffee. She said yes. We have been together for almost three years now and plan to marry when it is legally recognized in the state of California. She is very open about being transgendered and to me, love transcends gender.”

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m overwhelmingly used to female pronouns. It’s what people see me as. I look forward to when people won’t automatically call me she/her.

I’m attracted to… smart, dorky, kinky geeks.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be open minded and hopefully share an interest of mine, so we have an easier time conversing.

I want people to understand… that I really don’t mean any offense if I interrupt them. I have a short attention span sometimes, and if I don’t blurt out what I’m thinking I may not remember it in five minutes.

About Faydreh
I blog, I game, and you can find me on the internet pretty easily if you want to get to know me/talk to me.

I don’t know which is worst: someone only seeing my gender, someone completely ignoring it, or someone condemning it. Actually, I do know. They all suck. I’m never gonna have a life free from this, am I?

I came out to my little sister today. She’s the first person in my family I’ve told, and though there’s never been any doubt in my mind that my family would love and support me, I still freaked out waiting for her reaction. She said:

“Man it’s cool. I’m all about freedom in like every form like I don’t get why people shouldn’t get to love whoever they want cuz like love is never wrong. Like I feel like that’s such a basic simple idea man I don’t get why everyone doesn’t see it”.

Sometimes a slangy email from your 16 year old little sister just says it all, right? I know she definitely brought me to tears.

“I feel this photo describes me best. Androgynous. Plain and simple. I like blurring the gender line, using my natural assets, and enhancing them as well. I love makeup, I always have, and I feel naked without it. I feel this photo is an almost perfect blend of androgyninity and androgyninity.”

I utterly belong to this community. I am in my 50’s and would like to meet androgynous, gender-ambiguous people of similar maturity (whose day-to-day experience is closer to mine than the 20-something year olds featured here who all seem quite wonderful–just very, well, young).
Where do I go?

“I believe the idea of consent serves to question traditional gender roles and values. Even though I might seem masculine- or feminine-centered or genderqueer, consent is still important. No gender expression should feel entitled over another. My body belongs to me.”

My significant other wants to keep me and my gender differences under wraps around their co-workers that we hang out with socially. They don’t want others to know about my changes, including my preferred name, because they might discriminate, and not give them promotions. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if they understand how much it hurts me to know that they are ashamed of me and refuse to let me transition around their co-workers.

You can call me… Charlotte. Or if you’re feeling professional, you can call me Char d’Ar or Charlotte Francesca d’Arcangelo. You can also call me by my birth name, Christian.

I identify as… … a male-bodied bisexual. In practice I have rarely referred to myself as such, but I really like the term “genderqueer” and what it entails. If I’m forced to imagine a linear scale from feminine to masculine, I believe I’m just barely feminine-of-center.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … “He” and “she” are perfectly fine, as long as they describe the person I present at the time. But I hate to force others to constantly switch pronouns. That’s why I really like “zie” and “hir,” just two words which can be used in any situation.

All that said, I can’t stand the singular “they.” As far as I’m concerned, that’s just grammatically incorrect!

I’m attracted to… sexually? I like boys on the slightly girlier side and girls on the slightly boyish side =)

In general, though, I’m attracted to nerdiness, geekery, intellectual stimulation and people who aren’t afraid. I admire fearless people who dare to be stupid and refuse to let others’ opinions to faze them.

When people talk about me, I want them to… …never stop! In all serious, though, I want them to recognize my many facets. Artistically, I spread myself very thin, so I want discussions about me to reflect that. I want people to pay attention to my ideas and my works, and not the obvious/superficial traits, like wardrobe decisions and such.

I want people to understand… …that I am the same person, no matter how I present myself. I always am, and always will be, the very same pathological case of NERD. Also, I tend to over-intellectualize everything, but I want people to understand that I never intend to alienate.

I want people to understand other people who wear clothes as just that – people who wear clothes. Vestites, in other words. That’s all we are.

About Charlotte
Char d’Ar is a twenty-something multimedia scientist/artist .Born, raised, and currently living in the San Francisco Bay area. Zie recently picked up hir B.A. in Media and Cultural Studies from UC Riverside. Char used to be one of those people who was afraid, but zie has since dared to be stupid a great number of times.