THIS is the {very old} drum I catch myself beating when something feels scary. When I was climbing down waterfalls and up steep ledges last weekend in New Hampshire, I found myself physically STUCK at times. And do you know why that is? Because I was so fucking scared of messing up.

Because even after many years of working on myself, there are still the occasional moments where these mindsets feel like dear old friends. They feel familiar. They feel comfortable. They feel, in a funny way, safe.

When I know damn well these mindsets hold me back. These mindsets prohibit me from:

Asking for what I need.

Speaking my truth.

Taking a chance on something I believe in.

Feeling fucking amazing.

Embracing my successes and building them.

There is a perfectionist within me that has definitely gotten smaller and less prevalent over the years. But sometimes, she likes to rear her little head and say things like:

But … what if you fuck this up? Better to keep quiet. Better to shut down than be your big bold self.

So where do we go when we feel stuck in old patterns?

The good news: the only way to go is up.

Make a shift. Ask for what you need. Give less fucks about being judged or being wrong or MESSING UP.

And in fact, GET CURIOUS about what happens when you mess up. Because is it really so bad? Usually… nope.

And… you can never really mess up because … even if it feels like you mess up … you always have the opportunity to learn something.

Thank you for tuning in and reading (if you’ve made it this far.)

Tell me: what are your old patterns/beliefs and how do you bust through them?