I think swearing on people's lives is quite sick, and with my experience it's just another lie to cover up more lies. I think you need to work out how you actually feel about this situation, was it just harmless banter or has he been seeing someone else?This shocks a lot of people, but the way that I see it (after extensive research into differences of men and women!) is that if it's just sex let it be, if it's an emotional attachment i.e. a mistress then I think you need to let him go. Men I can quite frankly say are dogs, programmed to tap anything that moves. This was an evolutionary slip, it's why women are now so good at everything they have evolved men haven't. But if you continue, make sure he wears something, the last thing you want is insult to be added to your injury!x

dotty wrote: Men I can quite frankly say are dogs, programmed to tap anything that moves.

I find that quite insulting to men actually and is just as sexist as men saying that all women belong in the kitchen. Men can decide to not have sex, they can go against their base urges, and to be honest, most of the stuff written about how men are designed to want to tap anything is just deluded rubbish. And also its just gives them an excuse, oh I am sorry dear, I couldn't keep it in my pants because I am a man.. god its just ridiculous.

Check out this site, are you saying men are not dogs? The only time you will find a man who would not take it handed on a plate, without fear of their spouse finding out would, except maybe those of extreme moral standing (faith etc) or not physically being able to! and as for women belonging in the kitchen that is not really the same thing. Women do not have hormones that make them want to bake cakes! Men have hormones that channel them to impregnate anything! Similarly to sexism- that men should be allowed to carry children, it's a phisiological fact they can't, and hormones should be treated in the same way.

I know many guys who wouldn't cheat on their partner, even if it was offered on a plate.

I just said you were being sexist as men that believe that. They believe that because we have hormones, and are softer and more gentle, and that our brains are smaller. which is why we should be in the kitchen, making cakes and looking after children, rather than in the workplace. Your argument for men is pretty much the same flawed reasoning.

You are being sexist, and horribly so, not all men are the same, just as not all women are the same. I like casual sex, it suits me, whereas my sister doesn't. I am still as female as she is.

dotty wrote:Men have hormones that channel them to impregnate anything!

You could just as easily say that women have hormones that make them want to be impregnated by anything. There really is no basis at all for these "evolutionary" arguments (speaking both from experience and as someone who has studied the evolution of sexual behaviour at undergrad level). If you really believe this, Dotty, please consider talking things through with a counsellor or psychotherapist. It will be virtually impossible for you to form a rewarding relationship with a man with these sorts of beliefs in your mind.

These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb.

If you've studied sexual behaviour at undergrad level then you will be aware that due to the length of time of pregnancy, women are a lot pickier when it comes to sexual reproduction, they look for attributes that will allow there offspring to live until adulthood to reproduce themselves, which is subconciously.I don't think this is about relationships on my part, I'm aware of how men are, so I don't go looking to trip them up and tie myself in knots with the angst of cheating ways...once these thoughts are accepted, a relationship can happen and a good one at that, no self esteem issues just acceptance of behaviours. As for liking casual sex, that is a different issue, with the invention of birth control, anyone can like casual sex no issues- no offspring to think of. Doesn't mean it makes you less of a female, just puts us in a catergory of mammals that has sex for enjoyment along with dolphins and bonobos! Sexism doesn't come into it, women also cheat but that's also a primitive argument- about investment, that the other man has more to offer, it's seldon about sex.

sorry dotty but you obviosuly don't watch jeremy kyle if you believe woman are more picky about their male partners who impregnate them

I also know many blokes that would never cheat becasue they have good morals and love thier partners

Also I equally know loads of unihibited girls who go round having it off with as many blokes as they can, dogs as you call them.

Also on a personnal level my daughters father is a complete waste of space yet my current husband is a darling. Many friends and family I could name are the same. So your "theory" is total rubbish - just my opinion though

I've witnessed many of my male friends turn down people 'offering it to them on a plate', and I can also say with confidence my other half would never cheat on me. I feel sorry for you if the sorts of men you have been with have made you have this outlook on life.

I would also say that in my personal experience, I know FAR more girls who have cheated on their boyfriends than vice versa.