Why Do We Love Having Rough Sex?

Vanilla sex is okay for a while, but it can get very boring very quickly. Romantic, candle lit dinners are nice and all, but sometimes what you really need is passionate rough sex. There is no better feeling than a man picking you up and throwing you on the bed so he can eat your pussy and fuck you like you’ve never been fucked before.

For some, rough sex is a step too far, but the majority of us are more than happy to swap a night of slow and gentle sex for the kind of sex that leaves you aching a little afterwards with a huge grin on your face to show just how content you are to be well and truly fucked the way you deserve to be.

So just why is it that we love rough sex so much, and what should you know in order to have an amazing night of passionate fucking? We take a look here on the Escort Norway blog.

Spontaneous

The whole point of rough sex is that it tends to be pretty spontaneous. You don’t get yourself in the mood for it and then ask your partner “excuse me darling, would you mind awfully if I fucked you hard and fast?” because they’ll just look at you shouldn’t even be asking in the first place.

Asking ruins the moment, but not asking can also be a problem. There are some out there who simply don’t enjoy rough sex because it doesn’t tick the boxes for them that it needs to… so how are you supposed to find out if they are interested in rough sex without actually asking them?

There is a way to do it. First, start with the foreplay that you usually go for. As you slowly move down their body, kissing and sucking on their nipples, start to tell them exactly what you want to do to them. Say that you want to bury your head in between her legs, licking and sucking on her clit hard until she comes all over your face, then you’d slide your rock hard cock into her tight cunt and fuck her until she screams your name. If she likes the sound of it she might beg you for it, or simply moan at the very idea of it.

Something different

As we’ve said earlier, passionate and rough sex is amazing when you’ve been having calm and careful vanilla for a long time. It makes a refreshing change and can result in some powerful orgasms for the both of you.

Yet sometimes even vanilla sex can get a little boring and predictable, which isn’t what you want when you are working so hard on having a night of amazing sex. You want to keep it fresh and exciting, otherwise there is absolutely no point in doing it. Routines are one of the least sexy things out there.

If you are struggling for some new ideas, try some of these on for size. Doggy style is one of the easiest positions to make even kinkier and rougher, as you can simply grab hold of her hips as you fuck her to make your cock go deeper into her cunt, or maybe even grab her hair if she likes that little extra roughness.

If you’ve been fucking her in doggy style and want to change to missionary, pulling out and grab her by the ankles. Pull until she is lying down, and then roll her over. She’ll love the take-charge attitude and will find it a huge turn on.

Taking control

Most things in life are about sex. Sex is used in advertising all of the time, and while the pleasure of sex is great, sex isn’t all about sex. Sex is actually about the exchange of power, and for most people they simply pass the power between them in bed.

With rough sex, it is all about someone taking control and having the most power. One person basically become submissive while the other dominates, but there is no need to pull out whips or chains to do it. That is why so many love it, as they get to delve into the world of BDSM without actually saying out loud “let me dominate you”.

Taking control doesn’t just have to be physical. It could actually be verbal, which is why rough sex is so easy to do. Something as simple as saying “suck my cock” can be rough, as you can combine it with a little hair grabbing as you fuck them to make it even more intense and pleasurable for you both.

It feels fucking amazing

Of course, the simplest explanation for why we love rough sex so much is just that it feels fucking amazing. You get to enjoy passionate sex without having to slow down. You can fuck your partner as hard and fast as you possibly can, listening to their screams of pleasure as you bring them closer and closer to the edge.

The friction caused by rough sex is intense, and it actually helps to bring many women closer to orgasm more quickly. There is a lot less slow and careful stimulation, as you can get straight to the point.

If it isn’t working for your partner, they will tell you. However, they probably won’t do it in a “you’re doing this wrong” way. Instead, they might simply say “fuck me harder” or “rub my clit” while you fuck them to let you know exactly what they need to get off. That way you don’t have to worry about doing things wrong in bed.

Are you a fan of rough sex, or do you prefer something a little different in bed? Let us know by leaving a comment below. You could also visit the Escort Norway forum and join in the discussion there, or you can confess your sins to Father Casey. What does he think of your love of rough sex?

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.