You are smitten with your new guy in the first 15 minutes on your first date. He’s handsome, engaging, well-dressed and successful and he seems to be emotionally stable. You WANT to get a second date with him. He was smitten with you when you met him by chance. He called you and he invited you to dinner—but after one cocktail he’s thinking how he can end the date early and disappear from your radar. But why?

Your new guy asks you to go away for the weekend but you’re not ready to sleep with him. You’re afraid to say “no” to his invitation because you might push him away, but if you sleep with him prematurely, you might forfeit his respect and enthusiasm for you.

Let’s be honest … do you have a pattern of sleeping with a man on date 1, 2 or 3 and then you regret it because he stops texting or calling you? Does your promiscuity evoke feelings of embarrassment, guilt and remorse? Do you feel devalued and dishearten and you try to salvage his opinion of you; you tell him this is not your normal behavior (don’t think for a minute that he buys this)? Do you worry about contracting STDs?