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Baby shower second time around

I'm pregnant with my second child and I'm having one. I have a daughter already and I'm pregnant with a boy now so that's why. I think if I were having a girl I wouldn't have one. Plus my first baby shower kinda sucked so I never really got the whole "shower" experience!! But if you want one it's up to you and not what other people think is "right"

I think its becoming more acceptable...particularly if your kids are years apart and/or if you're having a baby of the opposite gender. However, you will always have those who judge the second baby shower. If you're concerned about it or don't really need much for the second baby, then you could always do a "Welcome Baby" party instead (after the baby is born) or do a Shower and ask that any gifts be made in the form of a donation to your favorite charity.

You can if you want to. I firmly believe that a baby shower is more of a gathering of friends so I doubt that they will not want to celebrate the life of your child, and of course shower you with gifts. I also believe that if it is a different sex than your previous child that you might need some things. Diapers will always be needed as well as wipes, and a little money can't hurt either.