Forget Top or Bottom. I’m a liberated side

If you haven’t already decided for yourself whether your active, or passive in the bedroom – somebody has probably decided it for you.

Popular opinion will have you believe if you’re effeminate, you’re a bottom, and if you’re masculine, you’re a top.

But beyond the world of shallow stereotyping and simplistic views there is a complex, beautiful, sexuality, exists those like myself – the sides. And of course, all of those who don’t conform to the stereotypes.

For me, it was like all of a sudden the anxiety of whether or not you’re compatible with that cute boy from the club isn’t relevant anymore.

When you’re a side, you get to have fun no matter what.

And I’m not shaming butthole sex. If you love it, great.

But my message is that you don’t need to feel pressured into conforming to the expectations of gay sex fed to us through porn and popularised media.

Our world today is still very hostile towards LGBT sex education, which is why I write and share my stories about it all the time.