Ashe Haigh – When rich people ask for money ???

Ashe Haigh – When rich people ask for money ???

THE DIRTY ARMY: Ashe Haigh is asking for money for her transition. I don’t have any problem with someone asking for money if they actually need the money but Ashe comes from a very very VERY wealthy family. Their first degree was paid by their parents. …. Their first degree was Greek and Roman studies…. Since then they have usually gotten jobs that pay more than enough for them to get by, and on top of that they always have their parents financial support… They have multiple degrees now, none of which they worked for. So why does Ashe feel the need to ask the public for money when they already come from a wealthy class and have financial connections that most people can only dream of? Many women, transfeminin and ciss-fem don’t like their body hair and get ostracized for it but don’t ask the public for money unless they actually need it. Once again Ashe Haigh is taking up space where she need not be. While she asks for money she already has someone else who needs it will have to go without.

— OP when you say they, are you referring to Ashe and her alter-ego? i’m confused.

Her family posted the amount she needed on her go fund me hours after and then she kept it up to see if people would give her more money. Her parents are very wealthy lawyers who support her transition. She has no reason to be asking for financial help :(

I knew Ashe when she first moved to Victoria, for a while. Hands down the most narcissistic person I’ve ever met in my life. She is oblivious to it, of course. Every single conversation was 100% about Ashe.

Seriously. Ashe. I am so happy you are being called out. Stop calling yourself autistic. I listened to you talk about how you’re autistic and that makes you smart. You’re not autisic, and you’re not smart. You almost failed your first degree and you brag about getting bad makes in the degree you’re in now. You’re no savant, you’re just some boring person who wants attention and to be special. You’re go as far to hurt people and then cry when people hurt you back.

Some may think being marginalized excuses you from having to be respectful towards the people around you, while people who face oppression and marginalization in their lives actually know its the exact opposite. She used marginalized identities as a guard, the more she could stack up, the less people she could get called out by for being elitist and tyrannical. I think thats why she chose to diagnose her self as autistic, because saying she had ADHD was not enough for her to get away with being oppressive towards recent immigrants, lower income individuals, people with disabilities and people who lack education. People today, know ADHD does not make you an oppressive b1tch, yet, the unknown and stigmatization of the autistic spectrum makes people unsure. (Providing relief of duty of “Ally-ship” towards the identities mentioned above). She did not know how to be inclusive or get along with people yet she chose a job that prioritized inclusion and anti oppressive practice… and so the very groups she silenced and excluded she tried to join.

As a person of colour who has a generous background of education and social connections I noticed she felt uncomfortable around me, probably because she was sure she wouldn’t get away with using the victim card against me. (It would be a daring move to see her try and chameleon into any other groups).

So how does one get doxxed? when they put their information out publicly on their Facebook page and ask their friends to share it widely? You truly have to be a special kind of person to say your being discriminated against for being transfeminine because someone shared your public info after you asked them to but you didn’t like that they asked you to check your privileged identities.
Also you were not outed by anyone. Your page that got shared (not in the way you wanted it to) said hey internet “I’m transfeminine”. So No Ashelyn Jordan Latam, you were not outed! Its disgusting that you would use a marginalized identity as a shield for trying to defend trying to use another marginalized identity as a shield (SES and disability).
Just like some people actually need the money you were asking for, some people actually need the support and publicity when they are actually facing discrimination.

The 3 human questions when meeting something new:
1) Can I eat it?
2) Can I f$ck it?
3) Can It kill me?

The 3 questions Ashe thinks when she meets something new:
1) Can I eat it?
2) Can I f$ck it?
3) Can I use it as a self defence mechanism to excuse my oppressive behaviour in the social justice community to further my career and earn brownie points – ultimately wiping out any competition?

So this whole thing is so funny because Ashe literally posts on her own social media about other people. And it’s not a once in a while thing she does it so often! So why she all high and mighty saying, “publicly outing someone and sharing their personal information online without consent you have the basic human respect and decency to avoid making assumptions about other people’s lived experiences.” When she does the exact same thing to other people! I’m also sure those people she posted about on social media also found it “tramatic”. Ashe I guess you can’t handle what you dish out. Maybe you’ll think twice about posting long mean rants on social media about others. Also shouldn’t you be somewhere f$cking a pigeon?

That’s very true! She loves to humiliate people. She uses her class and education to do it. If I can relecall she really wanted to go to a low income community and tell them how stupid they were for not understanding autism. Which she had recently diagnosed herself with.

Stop pretending to come from a low income background. Stop pretending to share the same struggles as us. I have noticed this at queer events as well as her social media and blog. Stop dropping fake hints that your a person in financial need to further yourself. Stop saying your “broke”, stop complaining that you have to eat poor people food or complaining about sharing housing. We know these are options you have. We know many people dress and act alternative (ripped jeans punk hair) and think because they can act the part that they somehow experience the struggle of ACTUALLY having no place to go, being stuck living somewhere dangerous or with someone abusive. Or ACTUALLY having limited funds for food and HAVING to access a food bank. Stop copping out on other people’s identities.

And Ashe many people even non queer people know your parents paid for your stuff and are wealthy. Please stop lying and just change your behavior.

Okay, this is pathetic… and whoever posted this is a coward!
I read in these comments that someone knows Ashe’s family, I’m Ashe’s sister. Let me tell you how it is… our parents are not “rich” they made excellent life choices that have lead them to make smart investments. I’m sure most of you simple minded kids don’t get how investments work, but you don’t just sit on a pile of money. They also made the smart decision by not creating a spoiled little brat. They have made Ashe work for everything, this includes part of the money they saved Ashe’s ENTIRE life to help pay for a MINOR percent of what school costs.
I can vouche that Ashe has had to pay for one full degree and paying for the second one. Cause frankly, there is no way our parents would pave a golden path that you trolls seem to think they did/do.
Now about this gofundme, that site was created for people to ask for help… it by no means makes anyone donate. People that donate want to because they so choose to. I also don’t think there is a prerequisite that if you have anyone in your family that has money you are not allowed to create one.
Like I said, this is a pathetic thing to do and it just goes to show how jealous the person that took their time to post this, is.
Get a life! Spend your time working to better yourself instead of trying to tear someone else down!

“our parents are not “rich” they made excellent life choices that have lead them to make smart investments. I’m sure most of you simple minded kids “-ashes sister

Not surprised that came from her sister. That’s a really classist remark. I’ve never had the privilege and neither has any of my family to even dream of making an investment. If you have money to set aside for investments than you have class privilege. You two have ironically proven over and over that you are ignorant classist people through your inability to understand that you have money while putting people down for not having these opportunities.

To the sister Ashe would have ripped you a knew one and publicly humiliated you by calling you out in front of people and making a status about you if you said anything that ignorant if you weren’t doing it in her defense.
She bullies people over the tiniest mistakes. Your ignorant astabout class you clearly don’t get it. Also Ashe has told everyone they got everything paid for them by there family. So don’t even waste your time trying to tell me he isn’t rich.

ThesisterMay 30, 2018 at 10:46 PM

Ps. Exactly how have you been “put down” for not having money?
Oh cause Ashe put up a gofundme page, that personally victimized you? Did the gofundme page steal money from you?
They way I see it, is you are jealous and needed to be the victim to get attention. You’re projecting your own insecurities… But that’s just the way I see it.

ThesisterMay 30, 2018 at 10:37 PM

Why is that mine or ashe’s problem that your parents didn’t do that, everyone has the chance to do it. Some people choose not to try and invest money. That still doesn’t change the fact that just because someone in our family has money doesn’t mean we all do. There is 5 of us kids and there would have to be a hell of a lot for us all to be “rich”.
If anything you are the ignorant one. I know ppl that have probably been raised way worse then you could imagine and they now make 6 figures, does that mean they have to support their entire family? Or the way you ignorantly see it, is those ppl never stood a chance cause their parents weren’t “rich”.
How you were raised and how much money your family has, doesn’t define a person… but you seem to believe it does.
On that note, I wish you luck with life.

KidddMay 30, 2018 at 3:40 AM

Honestly this should be taken down, outing trans ppl online is literally never cool under any circumstance

This isn’t about being transfemenine this is about copping out other identities to further your self in the social justice community.
Class is only one of them that she’s done this with. Also I’m not surprised she doesn’t and her “sister” doesn’t see themselves as rich cause rich people never do.

it is…interesting…to say the least to watch this person posture and lie and virtue signal as some poor, oppressed, hopeless individual and attempt to portray themself as a hapless victim in this situation while continuing to lie.

If you want to talk about inaccuracies in posts, why don’t we discuss how ashe had a student-funded union position that paid close to $20 per hour that they willingly walked away from? That doesn’t seem like a minimum wage job that barely pays for rent and groceries to me. Especially since they left after ensuing a storm of bullying and harassment against a fellow coworker because of a misconstrued Facebook status that had been posted – a status that ashe later admitted (privately) that they had misunderstood and yet made no public effort to stop the bullying and negative regard against their now-former coworker.

Strange too that multiple members of the group that ashe worked for sought support from union reps about the punishing and condescending way that ashe spoke to them, specifically regarding those members’ own class status and levels of education

Maybe ashe should have used the money that they functionally stole from students – please will somebody point to ONE thing that ashe (or the entire group they worked for) did to benefit the students whose money they were squandering? – to pay for these costs. Perhaps ashe could have fulfilled their term in an incredibly high paying position (especially for such an ineffective and hostile group) instead of pretending that they barely scrape by with minimum wage gigs?

Yet another example of how “student advocacy” creates whinging, coddled, self-righteous SJW self-victimizers. For any fellow UVic students who are concerned by this conduct, these matters are PUBLIC record, I encourage you to contact the students society and university administration about how they intend to keep these positions accountable to the students who PAY for them

As I think more about this the more appalling it becomes, you are all part of the same LGBTQ community and all face the same negativity from outside that community. Why create unnecessary negativity against someone in your community?
If you had an issue with Ashe creating a go fund me page, why not say something when Ashe posted asking for people’s input?!?! Why wait to publicly shame them?!?!?
Does it make you feeel better about yourself when you hurt other people?
Maybe everyone should take a look at their own lives and if you find that you’re perfect and never done a single stupid thing, by all means call everyone else out for not being perfect.
Give your head a shake!

15 dollars an hour, that was limited to 10 hours a week. That comes to 600 a month when you do the math which isn’t enough to cover rent and groceries in this city, let alone transition costs. I’ve never once lied, I’ve never once claimed to be poor, all I did was ask for help when I needed it, because I did when I made the page.

I left of my own volition because I felt as though many resonsibilities at UVic Pride were being unfairly and unconsentually placed on my shoulders that weren’t a part of the position that I agreed to work.

As for the relationship with my co-worker, I do not remember that specific post that you are referring to, but I do know that there were many miscommunications between us two. I did try on multiple occassions to try and set up meetings so we could communicate about different things happening at Pride, but that often failed, and I feel regretful about that. As for UVic Pride failing to do anything when I worked there, to be honest I agree, and that’s another reason that I decided to leave, because I felt that the work I was doing was not going to benefit anyone. If people who worked for the organization were seeking support for the way that I talked to them, then I was unaware, and if so then I am truly sorry. I know that in my role as a coordinator for an advocacy group I was quite adamant about certain social justice relates issues, which may have had a negative impact on some.

To be honest, I don’t even know why I’m defending myself. I’ve told nothing but the truth about my education, my financial situation, and my experiences. I will repeat myself once more, my degree was paid for with student loans and none of the jobs I have worked for have ever given me enough money to cover my living costs because of low pay or low hours, and as such I’ve used loans to help me get through school. I have never lied about this, nor do I intend on hiding anything. It strikes me as odd that people are claiming I am dishonest when I am willing to share my name and stand for myself on this website, when everyone else hides behind anon usernames.

Your sister Ashe used her class and educational privilege to put down low income queer individuals and low income not queer individuals. She also used ableist ideologies while taking up all the space in every disability discussion that came up! She made up identities to hide behind and now she wants to add low income to her list as well We all know she is lying about her financial background and it’s sickening. It’s too late for her to pretend to be low SES. Why don’t u two spend some time together and make some crafts for her blog so she can stop copping out other identities to beef up her resume.

anonym-asheMay 30, 2018 at 1:57 AM

Honestly it seems strange to dredge up weird details about this person’s past jobs to justify your strange anger with student activists. Whether or not this person has done something dishonest or untoward really has nothing to do with UVic Pride, which is a collective that changes membership every few years due to the nature of being populated by students

Amen* Amen*
I’m not Christian but thank you.
I was personally victimized by Regina George! No but for real Ashe bullied me out of the Uvss and used my class and status of education to embarrass and belittle me. I feel enraged to see them take up an identity that they made me suffer for. -Love a queen femme

Long story short, I am allowed to ask for support when I need it. At the time, I was under the impression that I was going to need it, but when I learned that I would not, I closed the page. I think it’s extremely cowardly to have made a post like this without having any understanding of my situation, and I’m not going to let this person dictate how and when I am allowed to ask for support.

You know what’s more embarrassing telling everyone that your school, car and many hobbies are paid by your parents when you first start university then switching the story up when it conveniences you….

It’s really traumatic to know that someone hates me enough to post something like this about me, especially considering that it is filled with inaccurate assumptions. Just because my family has money doesn’t mean that it’s my money or that I have any kind of access to it. I asked my family about supporting me, and at the time it was unclear as to whether I would actually receive that support or not. I made the page because I would not be able to cover these expenses on my own, and when I learned that my family decided that they were willing to support me, I also shut down the page. Also, let’s not pretend this is an issue about scarcity because it’s not. I was asking for support from people who could afford to do so and have the means to do so. It’s not like I’m stealing money from low-income people. I asked for support because at the time I was under the impression that I would need it, and I did not expect that anyone was ever obligated to donate to me. Also, the people who ended up donating were my parents when they decided to support me, and it was also at that time that I made the decision to shut down the fundraiser, since it was no longer needed.

How about instead of publicly outing someone and sharing their personal information online without consent you have the basic human respect and decency to avoid making assumptions about other people’s lived experiences. Clearly whoever made this post hasn’t had any direct contact with me in quite some time, and has a very bitter and skewed understanding of my situation. I have been nothing but honest with everything that I have posted in relation to my transition and where I am at with my own financial situation, so it’s really disgusting that people are making these statements.

I remember meeting you at a rave event years ago. You were honest back then about your family background and we’re not ashamed of it. I never thought anything of it. So what? You were a rich kid. Don’t be ashamed. Also please don’t take up space when you don’t need to. If you feel the need to take up other identities to make friends or protect yourself then your not in the right space. Having people who are honest about their privilege and work on dismantling the system that holds them self above others is what we need.

Also my degree was in English, and I decided to make it a double major with Greek and Roman Studies because I was interested in the subject and had taken many of my electives in that area, yet another innacuracy with this post.

Once again, it’s a lie to say that my parents paid for my first degree. If that were the case, then why do I have thousands of dollars in student debt? I will be honest that I’ve made a lot of stupid purchases in my lifetime, as I’m sure other people have as well, but that was because I was spending money from student loans, and now I know that I am going to struggle due to those decisions. Yes, my parents are supportive, and for the record I did ask them for help, but at the time they had said that they would not be helping me cover the cost, and since I live on student loans, I could not afford to pay for it on my own, hence why I made the page. Luckily my parents did eventually decide to financially support me, and when that happened I posted an update about it and was going to shut down the GoFundMe page because it was no longer needed. It’s incredibly horrible that someone is making all these wild assumptions about me based on nothing more than peripheral knowledge about who I am or my relationship to my family.

Im not sure why you would argue in her defence that she might not have the money when she does. Im sure there are many transfeminine people who don’t have access to their parents money. That being said She does have access to financial help from her family.. so… I believe her parents don’t give her every $ she asks for. I also believe they want her to have “the average college experience”, which consists of sharing a place with other people and wearing ripped jeans. I know when she first got involved in the queer community in Victoria she was open about being wealthy and receiving things with little effort. I think she just tries to financially blend in as the average broke college student so she can add more depth to her blog, and try and connect to people from other SES’s. I just don’t why she- who has access to their parents funds would post on a go fund me page. There are many transfeminine people who do need the money. She is taking up resources that other people really need.
I never said lets block out the whole upperclass of the queer community. I am simply pointing out the fact that it is not cool to ask for money when you have it. Its just like taking up space when you don’t actually need the space. Ashe usually understand this when its not her.

Stop pretending this is about scarcity because it’s not. I asked for support from people because I needed it at the time.I was honest about my situation, and I asked for support from people who could afford to do so and were willing to do so. There was never an obligation that people had to donate to me, nor did I ever limit funds for others. I rightfully made the decision to ask for the support that I needed at the time, and I won’t let you dictate how and when I am allowed to ask for that support.

I know someone who knows her family. Her parents are extremely supportive and DID pay for her first degree. She is cared for and loved by them. As far as I know her parents have told her they support her transition and have offered financial support. I find it weird that she wouldn’t ask her parents for money but chose to ask the public instead. I guess requesting for financial assistance online would helps her persona as a starving artist. Its hard to be respected in the Artsy~queer community if people know you are loaded. I remember when it used to be the opposite. So on that note I don’t blame her for pretending to be in need.

So just because you peripherally know someone who knows my family that means you know my entire financial situation? Wow, that’s some next level omniscient stuff right there. I paid for my degree with student loans.

They openly talk about how their parents paid for their first degree, car, and other expenses! I am a Transmasculine person. I don’t hold grudges against people for transitioning, I do however believe people shouldn’t ask the public for money if they have other resources. She has a lot of resources and has carelessly picked degrees and bragged about ridiculous purchases. I would not be surprised if she changed her story of how she paid for her first degree, as it would give her a better position in the social justice community. Anything to take up space.

Uh, no I don’t? I paid for my car with student loans, which was a stupid decision, but here I am. I also paid for my degree with student loans, and I’ve worked the entire time I’ve been in school to be able to afford rent without having to live on those loans, which hasn’t been very successful. You don’t know anything about me, so shut up.

What are you talking about? Where are your sources? Because it seems like you’re just making sh1t up. Ashe got student loans for that degree.

On top of that, since when do we block out trans people with rich parents? Are we just automatically assuming all rich parents are supportive and helpful, because I assure you they’re not. Rich parents ≠ rich children when the parents are transphobic.

Ashe actually used loans to pay for their first degree, and are currently working toward a second, also paid for by loans. They never asked their parent’s for gender funding, but their parent’s have agreed to help, so they’re planning on taking their GoFundMe down. I don’t understand why you’re trying to villianise a transfem person who’s just trying to live.

1) My parents have money but that doesn’t mean that it’s my money or that I have any sort of access to that money.

2) It’s a lie that my parents paid for my degree, because it was paid for in student loans, and now I’m swimming in thousands of dollars of debt.

3) At the time I posted this there was no indication that my parents would support the cost of laser hair removal, which is why I made this page, because on top of my living expenses (which consist of groceries and sharing a two bedroom apartment) I could not afford to pay for it on my own. Luckily after I posted it, my parents decided to donate 800 and also said that they would help me cover the cost, which I am absolutely grateful for.

4) I’ve always worked for minimum wage or slightly above minimum wage. Which is why I made this post to begin with. I was not able to afford my transition costs.

Whoever posted this doesn’t know anything about me or what my situation is, so maybe they should just shut up, ya?

I have one degree, and I am working towards a second. I have paid for both with student loans, and worked my ass off to get both of them. As for what I am doing with my life? I am trying to access the resources and supports that I need to feel comfortable in my body, and working two low-income jobs and being thousands of dollars in student debt obviously doesn’t help much when I can only really afford to pay for rent and food.

It doesn’t matter if she is transgender or not. If she doesn’t need the money she shouldn’t be asking for it. If this is the person my friend was talking about then she buys weird expensive things from online on the regular-