Proverbs 31:26 MSGThe Message When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly.Proverbs 31:26 KJVKing James Version She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

My husband painted this idea of words so beautifully, he said he had a vision where everything he said he saw. He saw them float out of his mouth and watched each word and phrase being carefully watched and chosen for good or for evil. He said he saw God and the enemy scooping the words he said and then putting them to work in your life. Proverbs 18:21 says "Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof." So what fruit are you eating? Death or Life?

As a virtuous woman, we have to be careful of the words we choose. When we speak it should be something of substance, something that encourages growth, kind words. The problem many face is that we are putting ill thoughts and messages in our minds and that is what is coming out. We have listened to too many people telling us that we are not worthy of anything great and we believe it but the deathly part is that we tell someone else the same thing and then they believe it. 2 Corinthians 4:13 - We having the same spirit of faith, according as it is written, I believed, and therefore have I spoken; we also believe, and therefore speak" It is a cyclical effect that is deteriorating our women. So many women do not know how to speak kindly to one another.

I work for Girl Scouts and most of my girls speak so meanly to the other girls. They yell, talk about each other and have the worst attitude towards each other. I can just imagine that they hear it from their parents a lot at home. It is very sad to watch these girls spew out words that are so damaging and when asked about it they have no remorse. We cannot be like that as Christian women, we have to speak out of love. God is love.

One thing to remember is that we have have to believe we are a virtuous kind of woman, we have to see and believe our value and worth. If we do not see good in ourselves we cannot give good or see the good in others. Would you want to be tutored by someone who continued to fail a class? Why would you want to hear encouragement from someone who cannot encourage their selves. So the question is how do you begin to speak words of worth, words spoken kindly, and words of love that will encourage and uplift your sisters and brothers?

Well we can begin with the BIBLE... God's love letter to us. This gives you all the instruction you need other things are just supplemental.

Let's put this into action:

Start seeing the good in you. Speak kind thoughts about yourself daily. Fall in love with yourself. A common phrase is if you don't love yourself then who will? GOD WILL though!! That is when you refer to the Love letter God wrote to us: The Bible.

See the good in others. It is so easy to see what is wrong with people. If we shift our thinking to seeing and acknowledging the good in people more than the bad that will definitely help the words that will come out of your mouth for good and not evil.