INFIDELTY RELATIONSHIPS AND SHATTERED DREAMS Community Group

This is a place to share the heartbreaks and recovery of broken and shattered dreams from adultry infidelity and other relationship situations. Tell your stories here. you can also tell about relationships you wish to have someday. Tell us how you have survived. This is a place to share the pain and also your recovery from this most traumatic ordeal.

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Hello all. I seen this group and decided to join. I'll tell you all a little bit about my situation. Last May 19th my husband and I split up. He wanted to separate and a week after he told me that I found out through his e-mails that he was cheating on me. It's a woman (if that's what ya want to call her) from his work. I never thought this would happen. I thought we were doing fine. I didn't see this coming. When he asked for a separation I was stunned. I asked why and he said he's not happy and feels numb.
Anyways I seen the e-mails from him to the OW and my world was shattered. I couldn't believe what I was reading. I confronted him about this and he denied it. I told him I seen the e-mails and he was speechless. Well duh! You can't get out of that one!
So I packed myself and our 2 kids (ages 6 and 2) and we moved out. I stayed 2 weeks w/my sister and her family in a cramped house before I found the house I'm in now. I also got my old job back. I was a stay at home mom for a year. My kids had a hard time getting use to the schedule change and the fact that daddy was no longer w/us. HIm and I both sat down and had a few talks w/them so they know this wasn't their fault and that we both still love them. They're doing much better.
After a month he called and said he wanted to come back and we talked. he said he was going to OW house and tell her it was over between them. Well he called the VERY next morning and told me she said ONE thing better then what I had said and decided to stay w/her. Gee he only knew the pig a month or so and wants HER!! So I said screw it and asked for a divorce. It was final in Nov. So now I'm TRYING to move on and get on w/my life. It's been a long and painful journey and I need a lot of support to get me through this. There's more to my story but I think this is way long enough.

So sorry you and your kids had to go through this. I am in a similar situation, the difference is it was text messages from the OW that I bumped into. After reading about your experience and how you have been able to try and rebuild your life again and are moving on, is very inspiring to me. Continue taking care of yourself and remember that what doesn&#039;t kill you can only make you stronger.

(((((((((((Shanna))))))))))) I too found out about the OW (both co-workers) via cell phone, texts, &amp; e-mails. I commend you for leaving (as did I) for your own sanity. Don&#039;t get down on yourself for him choosing her....she told him what he wanted to hear AT THE TIME and he took the bait, but honestly, what did either of them REALLY win...? I&#039;m sure they will find that out eventually. *heehee* (Pretty sure you got the better end of the deal, although it may not seem like it right now.) Be good to yourself and hang in there!

Thank you two for your reply&#039;s. They were VERY helpful!! I need to stop living in the past and live for the future. It&#039;s not easy but I need to do this for my kids and me. I don&#039;t want to grow old alone but I also don&#039;t want to grow old thinking I should&#039;ve done this and should&#039;ve done that. And I also don&#039;t want to be angry for the rest of my life.

i am so glad you found this group.. i have been through so much of this same thing. i am the founder of this group and let me take this chance to welcome you here. if there is anything i can do to help, please let me know.. xx sheila

Thank you so much Sheila! I am thankful for this group and I hope I&#039;m not intruding. I wasn&#039;t invited, I just happened to come across it on another persons page and thought it may be some help to me. And so far it has. You all are very inspiring. And I hope I&#039;m able to help people on here also. We&#039;re all going through different stages. Thank you again for the welcome! :)

I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????

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