Birth is man's business too

Parenting and Maturity

Most people want to be happy. They want to have fun. They want to experience sensations of exhilaration and triumph. If you are a hedonist, you are about your self, so please don’t have any kids. They won’t like you, and you won’t like them, after all to raise kids requires selflessness and discipline.

If you don’t want to grow up, then don’t try kids, they are too much work.

In a recent study done in Germany, the fact came out that for many having and raising kids makes them miserable.

In my humble opinion, the world would be a lot better if people who lack an understanding of what it takes to raise kids decided to stop reproducing. Planned Parenthood is all about you. Go in for family planning and learn that kids are not your thing. Planned parenthood make millions for handling abortions at its clinics. So many people are irresponsible (immature) in having unprotected sex that they will pay to get rid of their pregnancy problem by aborting the child — maybe that’s good since then they are mature enough to not conceive in the first place. Only a mature couple would actually plan on having a baby, right. The Catholics had this statement on their CNA site: “The truth of responsible parenthood and its implementation is linked with the moral maturity of the person….”

Only mature, grown up people want to take on the thankless job of raising kids, and except that their personal, sexual, financial lives will be negatively impacts. Even the wikiHow teaches people to be selfish and self absorbed. Quote “Take care of your self,” “create a routine,” and “think about what makes you happy.” This is baloney advice.

If you want purpose, you want to grow into a person of integrity, you need to learn to give of yourself to others, and nothing is more challenging then parenting, raising kids, and watching them leave the nest (eventually it does happen & if they are prepared well they leave sooner than later).

In the Parenthood Decision (Beverly Engel), the author writes “While no one can argue that many people have become more mature and responsible with the birth of a child, it certainly doesn’t guarantee it. You don’t magically turn into a mature, caring person by the act of giving birth or fathering a child.”

Having children is not about happiness really. If you are pregnant, expect to face challenges your never faced before. Don’t face them alone. Find support. Hopefully you have the father there for support, but couples often find themselves ostracized by even their own families when they are expecting. Seek out support is the best advice.

Thoughts

Men who care about pregnancy and support childbirth show love to their family. These are the seeds of a great beginning. Men who want to be great dads and mates will take the time to learn their place in this most important time of life.