Life is a Tight RopeWalk

“A small town boy who was lazy, steeped in self-pity,
without faith in God or respect for anyone. Introvert, vain and unwilling to
heed well-meaning advice..His escapist
world was filled with books, books and more books. Story books that took him to
a fantasy land and conveniently kept him from facing harsh reality. One quality
he had, though, was a passion for Art. He could draw pencil sketches that were
admired by one and all. His Art teacher at School advised him to pursue it as a
career, which he promptly brushed aside.”

This is as good a description as I can honestly come up in a few sentences
about the kind of being I was in my childhood through teen years. I did have my
share of problems, for sure- a troublesome beginning due to separated parents
(rare in the 1960’s in India) and lack of a doting father figure. However, it
was my inability to cope with these circumstances that made me an abject loser.
A happy childhood is an indispensible base for emotional stability right through
life. Looking back, without being harsh on myself, I feel I could have done
better, especially with so many kind people willing to help.

“Man is not the creature of circumstances. Circumstances are
the creatures of man. We are free agents and man is more powerful than matter.”

Benjamin Disraeli

It is said that the mind manifests many of the circumstances
we find ourselves in- my poor health was nothing but an outcome of this
negative attitude of self-pity. I was diagnosed with Asthma when I was a 12
year old. What was a mild affliction, progressively worsened and spiraled out
of control over the years. More feed-stock for my self-pity! Here too, I
ignored all common sense remedial measures in the initial stages which could have
eliminated the illness to a great extent, viz., exercises, yoga, meditation as
were suggested by well meaning people. The attacks got so acute that I landed
up in Intensive Care Units of Hospitals in a critical state on several
occasions.

I completed my Bachelors with Financial Accounting in 1982. Although
I was a bright student, lack of interest and effort meant I never did full
justice to my talent. Having fixed my sights on joining my maternal Uncle’s
family business after Graduation also meant College was just for the sake of acquiring
that Degree.

“Not I, nor anyone else can travel that road for you. You
must travel it for yourself.” Whitman

What changed then? The day I joined
my Uncle’s business I realised that I was like a fish out of water. My
arrogance and conceit were totally misplaced. The real world was way tougher
than the fantasy world of my fiction books. Here you needed to be street smart,
be on your toes and learn everything from scratch. The first few months of my
new learning curve were anything but pleasant. As I gradually picked the ropes
I learnt possibly the most important and fundamental
lessons of my life.After a seven year stint which ended
with a bit of acrimony, I ventured on a journey of my own. I always have been a
free spirit and setting up my own entrepreneurship venture, Frontline
Communications, was like a dream come true. I then ventured into the nascent
field of Audio-Visual
equipment rentals

What began with a single Video
Projector and one employee grew to a sizeable one over a decade. The focus was
always on excellence and customer delight. Delighted customers we did have,
right from Amway’s Distribution arm Network 21, Infosys, the Tatas, Advertising agencies and the Sydenham College.
Events for Microsoft, Oracle, Epson, Cisco, Nasscom were always technically
challenging.

“Deep down in every human soul is
a hidden longing, impulse and ambition to do something fine and enduring. If
you are willing, great things are possible.”

Grenville Kleiser

Network 21 gave me the utmost creative freedom and the
feather in the cap was when Beverly Sallee
a Global top-notch leader of Network 21 rated us as the best Audio-Visual team
she had come across the world. Zafar Hai, considered as one of India’s finest
short film makers demanded the highest standards of quality, but then these
challenges got the best out me. It was a proud moment when he introduced me as
the best Audio-Visual professional in India to a very senior Tata group
executive!It was this kind of
appreciation that drove me to greater and greater effort and creativity. Another
thing that set me apart from other vendors was reliability and commitment. Once
I even got myself discharged from hospital to attend an important event against
the Doctors’ advice! The commitment was driven by my deep passion.

I am a firm believer in destiny and while attending all these Events I had the
God sent opportunity of learning from some of the finest minds of the century:
late Dhirubhai Ambani, Narayan Murthy, Stephen Hawkins (the Quantum Scientist),
Aditya Birla, Ratan Tata and a host of others. More importantly the universal
message of progress, co-operation that these great minds communicated began to
form my thinking too. I was also fortunate to have The Siddha Centre of
Meditation as one of my clients. For a number of years we were associated with
their weekly Satsangs which was in a way the initiation of my spiritual
journey. The Art of Living and Sri Sri Ravi Shankar also were clients and
influenced me similarly. I was actually paid to attend these stupendous
learning sessions which taught me Meditation, Yoga and Spirituality! This is
why I feel destiny deals outs it’s cards, it is for each player to play his
hand to the best of his/her ability.

“People are like stained glass windows, they sparkle and
shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is
revealed, if there is a light within.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

There seemed to be no looking back in life and business
until destiny
struck another blow, (this time, an untimely and unexpected one. I
just couldn’t accept that I had been afflicted with Bipolar disorder. The
initial struggle was sheer torment. I believe that I underperformed in probably
the most productive decade of one’s life (41- 50) due to this condition. I
wound up our business and embarked on a career in an entirely unrelated field:
Financial advisory and Life Insurance. Looking back, the decision was largely
influenced by my defensive mindset. Not one to attempt anything half-heartedly,
I got engrossed in my new career and did very well here, too. In fact in 2008,
I qualified for the coveted MDRT (Million Dollar Round Table), a prestigious
association of Global Financial Professionals. Gradually my passion for this career too
started to wane.

There were a few years of abject inactivity due to my
slipping back into depression. My search for solutions and relief from my
misery led me to my life changing moment. My elder sister had been hospitalized
for the dreaded Dengue and I’d volunteered to stay with her in Hospital. During
that week I finally managed to read the Bhagvad Gita. My faith in God had
always been 100%. The teachings of the Gita answered all my questions about who
I was, consciousness, eternal life, birth-rebirth cycles and the law of Karma.
It had a great calming influence on me and gave me the power of detachment, the
magic wand for discovering peace. My spiritual quest made me more reflective. I
believe each one of us has immense inner strength. Instead of tapping this
inexhaustible resource we conveniently blame external factors for our
circumstance and diffuse our focus.

It was in March, 2012 when I first met Yogesh M A, a Digital
Marketing and Blogging expert. At that time I just asked him to set up a
website for my business. I took a liking to the whole idea and thus came up my
Blog, www.vijaynallawala.co.in.
Writing and communicating has always been a passion. I have my presence in the
Social Media where my influence has been steadily growing. (KLOUT rates me a
‘Pundit’-a thought leader, one who commands respect from his peers.) I took the
leap finally and abruptly as is my wont- a creative soul just had to find ways
to express itself.

I am also an aspiring author, have facilitated Training and
Seminars by professionals. I love music, reading,
Writingart, driving, nature, cricket
and travel.

I aim to communicate and open up to readers worldwide, which
Blogging allows me to. My deepest learning has come from Mentors, reading,
introspection and experience. At a certain stage one feels it is payback time.
I’ve received the kindness of so many helping hands through the years that it
motivates me to do the same.

Meditation, God and my unshakeable faith in Him have been
the constant thread that has held me together in times rough and smooth. Understanding
of the self has brought me peace. I strongly feel that the best days of my life
await me.

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