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Single "bule" guy travelling Indonesia 5 months

08-08-17, 20:24

Hi, I wanted to get some useful information from you guys as you probably know Indonesia best. I am a 30 year old guy from Europe, going to travel Indonesia solo for 5 months. Starting in Jakarta and going eastwards until Timor, then north to Sulawesi. I figured that a good way to get to know the country may be to find a local Indonesian girl at each place to show me around, show some nice places to eat, for drink maybe etc. I am not a sex tourist, so I am not looking primarily for sex, but hey, I am single, if I like the girl and she likes me, and I am honest about the thing that I leave in a few days and she has no problem with that, why not?

So, I wanted to prepare and changed my location in Badoo to Jakarta/Yogyakarta and other places I want to visit. Very soon I figured out that Indonesian girls seem to like Europeans (even though I am quite tan and rather slim than big and muscular). Now, what I want is a friend to show me around and maybe have fun with if thats what we both like.

Well I found that the Indonesian online dating is quite different than here in my country. For first, girls are mostly very eager to contact me or respond. However, some have written to me they offer massage (I am not really looking for paid romance), or that they are shemale (not my cup of tea either). Some really good looking girls have very quickly offered me to sleep at their place, even on their bed! Is this for real or am I being lured into some kind of scam? Some girls are really quickly to flirt heavily via messages.

Well my question is, is there something I should watch out for, if I am a single "bule" guy in travelling through Indonesia, not looking for "paid", but looking for some nice time? Are Indonesian girls really that into "bules" and that open to be flirting heavily very quickly, or are scams usual? Also, I want to shave my head as it is convenient for travelling - is there any special view of Indonesian girls on bald guys?

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You want to be taken care by others, so first you need to take care of others, meaning girl/girl friend. It may take 1-2 week to get close to someone and know her. You are coming to Indonesia just for having good time as a tourist, so it makes sense to hire an escort who can take you around and you pay for the service and then go back everything ends well, rather than getting yourself or someone else in love or making false promises and later there are broken hearts, something not fair i feel.

If you are looking for free sex around, you may get it, but you both need to click. It needs time.

If hiring escort is not your cup of tea or something you are not looking for since may be expensive, you can take freelancer girls, you just pay for their travel, stay food and some other pocket money and you can go around.

But as Julie_Josey said there is no "free" lunch, you need to pay for her, so she can be with you.

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Definitely no escorts/anything with sex trade for me. I am ok with paying for dinner, tickets and things, as I am ok with doing that for girls here. But I am not going to Indonesia or anywhere to get cheaper paid sex. That just sounds creepy to me. Maybe I am naive, but sex or romance should be about mutual attraction not money. If I am not getting any "action" with this mindset, well, so be it.

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"But as Julie_Josey said there is no "free" lunch, you need to pay for her, so she can be with you. " <-- KenGmail, sorry i'm not an escort either an tour guide. i'm stating a true fact. even i am a local, i also pay local tour guide if i need her/him show me around the island.

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"But as Julie_Josey said there is no "free" lunch, you need to pay for her, so she can be with you. " <-- KenGmail, sorry i'm not an escort either an tour guide. i'm stating a true fact. even i am a local, i also pay local tour guide if i need her/him show me around the island.

Julie_Josey Don't get me wrong, by "her" & "she", I don't mean you/@julie_josey What I meant is anyone who accompanies the traveller1 and I assume traveller1 is looking for a female, hence I used "her" & "she" words.

Apologies, If I offended you by mistake but that was not my intension. So sorry for that.

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Well my question is, is there something I should watch out for, if I am a single "bule" guy in travelling through Indonesia

Two things you should watch for considering what you look for: your wallet and your sanity.

As someone said earlier, there is no free lunch. Either you have time, intend to settle and be serious and you may meet some wonderful girl or you look for fun only and most likely you will get a "bar girl" chasing out of her normal territory.

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Agree with Julie and Ken there's no such free lunch here. The girl who aggressively offers for sex definitely not a good girl. It's Indonesia most of people hold their religion firmly, it's not an easy thing to giveaway virginity or sex for free here. If you would like to find a good friend maybe you could find it at churches. But Indonesian people usually looks at bule wherever you go, so be prepared for that. If you're at kuningan area, you should try pokenbir at lippo kuningan building. One of must try items here.