Why Girl On Top Is The Best Sex Position Ever

13 September, 2015

Ask a guy point-blank what does it for him in bed and he's likely to respond "Uh...everything." So to demystify that answer, we conducted a massive sex poll aimed at teasing out the dirtiest thoughts of thousands of guys. Among the many insights gleaned, a fascinating fact emerged about what men crave: You. On. Top. "When you take charge, they know you're turned on and into it," says certified sex therapist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D. "They also get a great view of your breasts and other sexy parts." And-let's be honest-their lazy asses don't have to do as much work when you're riding 'em.

Not that we're complaining. Afterall, it's the most orgasm-inducing position for women. According to certified sex educator Amy Levine, founder of www.SexEdSolutions.com, you can set the pace that'll get you off, and the angle is ideal for stimulating the two biggies: your G-spot and clitoris. We break down the reasons why this mattress move is so freakin' amazing, along with tips for how to bliss it out even more.

You're running the show

Being able to make your toes curl in the sack is a point of pride for guys, and they often question if they're doing a good job. Are you having fun? Does it feel good? And most of all, are you going to come? "When you climb on top, he doesn't have to worry about whether you'll have an orgasm, since you're taking control of your own pleasure," Levine points out. He can just cruise along and enjoy himself.

Girl-on-top also shows how much you're craving him, which is an insane turn-on. "Guys are usually the ones in charge during sex, so the change of pace when you take over is incredibly arousing," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. "It makes him feel like you can't get enough." Play up that you're calling the shots by blindfolding him right before he enters you or pinning his hands above his head as you grind into him.

Make it sexier for you: Not only will dominating him give you a hot power trip, but you'll also be able to experiment with the tempo and angle that bring you the most satisfaction. Switch up the rhythm from hard and fast to a slow groove, Cadell recommends. You'll stimulate all different areas of your V-zone this way.

Naughty bonus tip: Lower yourself onto him in a sideways sitting position, and rub your butt back and forth over his abs and thighs like a windshield wiper while he's inside you. It massages parts of his penis that don't normally get much action and strokes your G-spot at the same time, Cadell says.

There's a billion-dollar view

Whether he's checking out your bouncing boobs in forward-facing cowgirl or your butt and back in reverse, girl-on-top gives your guy an eyeful. "Men are more visually oriented than women are," Levine says. "Seeing a sexy image is key to their arousal." Plus, it's the only position where he really gets to witness you in action. So move in a way that enhances your curves and will get him beyond frisky. Arch your back so your breasts thrust forward; in reverse, lean over a little and grab his toes, pushing your butt out.

Make it sexier for you: The more confident you feel, the better sex will be, Cadell says. And when your guy is staring slack-jawed at your body, it's hard not to think you're hot as hell. A few ideas: keep on a front-closure bra, and when things start to get intense, unhook it so he can watch your breasts spill out; seductively suck on one of your fingers and then let it trail from your lips along your torso down to your V-zone; toss your hair over your shoulder and then squeeze your breasts together to show them off or circle your nipples with your fingertips. Watching you touch yourself will drive him insane with desire.

Naughty bonus tip: Indulge your exhibitionist sides. Prop a large mirror against the wall near your bed so you can both watch yourselves going at it, Levine suggests. Not only will you see your bodies from a hot new angle, but it also feels kinky... like you're viewing yourselves in a porn flick.

The good parts are within reach

In missionary and doggie-style, some of your hot buttons are tricky to get to, but girl-on-top grants him easy access to all your 'stroke me' spots. And because neither of you has to use your hands to support yourselves, they're free to roam everywhere. "Touching each other during sex-kissing, licking, stroking- builds on the main sensation that's coming from your genitals and adds another layer of pleasure," says Cadell. You can lick and gently nibble his nipples, kiss or run your tongue down his neck, lightly scratch your nails along his chest and abs, or squeeze his inner thighs.

Make it sexier for you: This is the perfect position for showing him how you want to be touched…and subtly directing him adds to the vixenish "I'm in charge" vibe. Press his fingers into you with the pressure and rhythm you're craving, before removing your hand and letting him take over. Another idea is to mirror each other's movements.

Naughty bonus tip: For the ultimate high, try this: in forward-facing cowgirl, reach your hand back and stroke his scrotum and perineum. At the same time, have him gently rub your clitoris with his thumb. You're scoring simultaneous southof-the-border pleasure!

Gravity lends a hand

When he's lying on his back or sitting down, the pressure of your body on top helps him effortlessly slide in a little farther. Not only does it feel incredible for both of you, but it gives him an ego boost as well. "Guys like to go deep because it makes them feel bigger, powerful, and more macho," Cadell explains. Amp up the pleasure by building anticipation for that insanely hot moment when he first enters you. Ease just the head of his member into your vagina and wrap your hand around his shaft to keep him from going any deeper than an inch. Gently move up and down until you can't stand it anymore. Then at last, remove your hand, and go for the full monty.

Make it sexier for you: There are two more plusses to going really deep. First, your lower half taps up against his testicles with each thrust, stimulating his nerve-packed scrotum while providing extra feel-good pressure for you. Swivel your hips in a circle during sex to feel each other from all angles. Play this up more by rocking your hips back and forth.

Naughty bonus tip: Head to the couch, and have him sit so he's slouched a little. (His penis is at the perfect angle to hit your G-spot when he's positioned like this, Herbenick notes.) Carefully lower your body over him until you're squatting over his package, with your knees pointed outward. Guide him inside you and glide up and down along his shaft. You can open your legs much wider than if you were kneeling, which allows him to go even deeper. (Hint: place your hands on the back of the sofa or his shoulders.)

He can last longer

When left to their own devices, most men will resort to hard and fast sex, because it's the easiest way for them to get off, Levine says. But good things come to those who wait-drawing out sex usually yields a more intense orgasm and also gives you a chance to get up to the same speed.

Make it sexier for you: Sprinkle in stops and starts. Pull out mid-act, and slide the length of his penis in between and around the lips of your labia. This gets your juices flowing because it gives his penis access to sensitive areas it wouldn't otherwise reach. If you sense he's approaching the finish line but you're not ready yet, pause after every five to ten thrusts to give him a deep kiss.

Naughty bonus tip: When you're seconds away from climax, begin firmly squeezing your PC muscles (Ones you'd tighten to stop the flow of urine when you're peeing). It'll hold back his orgasm a little bit longer and make the sensations stronger for both of you when you do finally tip over the edge.

Your Biggest girl-on-top worries - solved

Nothing kills the mood like stress. Heed this advice and reining in cowgirl angst will be easy.

"My winter padding is on display."

You may think you're sporting some extra chunk, but your guy sure won't notice. Still, if you're self-conscious, flatter your body by lighting a candle or keep on one of his button-downs to conceal a belly. Stay in the moment by locking eyes with him and zoning in on what you're feeling.

"What if I break his penis?"

Bouncing too enthusiastically and missing the target or leaning far back can hurt your guy. If you're both craving it hard and fast, make sure he doesn't pull out all the way. And only lean forward during fast sex, not backward.

"I can't feel the beat."

Out of sync? Slow down, and give him a deep kiss. Having him place his hands on your hips can also keep you in tune. Or crank some R&B beforehand-you can follow the rhythm.

"He won't get off!"

Sometimes guys need the thrusting motion of missionary or doggie-style to orgasm. Warm him up with oral before sex so that he's closer to the brink. Or take turns being in control: start off in cowgirl, then when you're both getting close to climax, switch to a position where he's on top.