My Dating Blog

Articles by kok

Technology has indeed made things simpler and easier for us to get which is why there is not thing that you might want or desire and can’t get from the internet. Sex? Hell, yeah… you can find that as well with numerous dating websites and apps that lets you meet and hook-up with locals.

Welcome to 21st Century- the generation that seems not taboo in keeping a relationship just for sex. So are we the hook up generation ? Indeed. From high schools to colleges and offices- there’s no place where you wouldn’t find couples just hanging out together for some ‘fun time’. The lack of time to handle emotions and the desire to keep away from unnecessary burden of being there always has been cut off by the hook up culture as more and more people are going towards a friend with benefits or discrete hook up bonds. So what was somewhat unknown in Canada more than a decade ago, has now become common knowledge.

Rise of Casual Dating in Canada

Dating is prevalent everywhere but casual dating has always faced some or other conflict from society. Even though it is said to have been an American culture, the hook-up culture had its own rise in Canada in the early 2000s. And after the internet boom and introduction of several dating websites as well as dating apps, casual sex and search for love online became quite the popular point for every other person.

So no matter whether the person is a highs school attending girl, an undergrad boy, a busy businessman or a homemaker woman- anyone and everyone can find casual relationship partner over the Internet. One of the biggest online platforms for finding casual sexual relationship is undoubtedly AdultFriendFinder and as the name suggests, you can find a friend to do those ‘adult things’ with mutual consent. Canada was literally taken by storm by the whole idea of Adult Friend Finder where users could simply visit profiles, pay for guaranteed offers to find a suitable partner and release their urges for sexual satisfaction. However, the other dating sites and apps too started sprouting and online hunt for hook ups increased like never before.

Crossing the boundaries

Come the booming online dating industry on the rise, several dating apps and service websites were launched that provided free or premium services. Tinder is one of the most popular free casual sex and dating service in Canada at the moment which allows several unsatisfied singles and even married or committed people to experiment more on the sexual side. Call it feminism or the recently promoted women equality, women are not shying away from the idea at all as this is that makes them feel light. Some of the most common dating apps and sites being used by women for having safe, discrete and casual hook up dates include also Badoo, Plenty of Fish and Okcupid. All these websites have proven to be quite the hangout hub for people looking to find love or casual sex in Canada.

And no, it isn’t just about having flings with the locals. Be it native men or women, many of them are also interested in having casual relationships or no strings attached sex with tourists. Online dating platforms like AdultFriendFinder and Tinder have made it very easy for any horny individual to find a like-minded discrete sex partner these days.

Justifying the Act

Well, it comes as no surprise that people just want to have some fun, without having to take care of another emotional burden belonging to someone else. ‘Shut Up and Hook Up’ has been the motto of Canadians lately and as it is going till present, we might just see it overtake the whole idea of having an emotional contact. After all, Fun is always better!

I love to hook up and let me tell you, it is absolutely great- casual satisfying sex with nothing to worry about or deal with afterwards- isn’t that what every man needs? So I am a staunch believer and follower of the hook up culture which has led me to be a permanent thriving member of websites like C-Date and Victoria Milan. With a tally of over 20 Scandinavian beauties, hook up has been quite a success for me which is why I am sharing some unspoken rules of the casual sex culture that you need to follow. Before I started using C-date in Scandinavia, I got inspired by a guy who used C-date Norge and C-date Sverige. He nicely described his way to become a successful seducer.

These casual sex rules ensure that your booty call is comfortable, safe and both of you are completely discreet with each other and remain unattached till the time you are ‘fuck partners’ or buddies.

1. Keep emotions out of the door

Emotions are unnecessary in casual sex. So whenever you’re going for a casual sex meeting or to hook up with a like-minded person, make sure to keep your emotions out of the whole scenario. After all, no one would like to have an emotional connect when you’re just there for raw sex.

2. Be a gentleman as well as an animal

You’re there to enjoy sex and thus you need to let the animal within you take the charge, to satisfy your deepest darkest desires in bed. But be a gentleman, let the lady decide as well and if she’s taking the charge for herself, let her do it. Sex is good when it satisfies you, but great when it satisfies both of you.

3. Be yourself, always

One thing is for sure, you might never meet this beautiful lady on serious note with an agenda of relationship in mind. SO why try to hide yourself in a cloak and be different from what you actually are? Just be yourself, take it easy and be a straight shooter here- as this is discrete, no one would like a person who is trying too hard to be someone he isn’t.

4. Don’t be or get too personal

You got to understand; these casual sex meetings are discreet and are the way they are because none of you want to know the family background or the past relationships. The agenda is clear- casual sex with nothing to worry or think about. So don’t ask any personal questions and never disclose your personal information!

5. Be creative and experimental

Oh, this is the best part. So this Scandinavian girl isn’t your girlfriend and you don’t really have to think about whether she’ll like it or not as she can take her own stand and let you know. So why not turn and twist things a little bit and try some other positions or role plays for an absolutely steamy sex session?

6. Don’t text or message too much

Well, that’s just because it connects you two for a bond beyond sex and you don’t want that now do you? Keep your hands off the phone and just ask her to be your booty call- simple!

With these rules in mind, you can always enjoy some great casual sexy moments with a like minded girl of your choice!

With a Chinese horoscope defining me as a sheep and western zodiac sign backing it up with a similar animal- bull, I find much cohesion in it and to my heart’s content the personality traits match as well. But the prospect of choosing a partner, which already is scary for the indecisive bull, gets more detailed and time consuming yet interesting with the Chinese zodiac signs adding to the information of horoscope compatibility and the idea of a perfect to worst match and every level in between.

Chinese zodiac year starts in the name of an animal out of the twelve ones marked for each Chinese zodiac sign representative of a distinctive set of characteristics. However, these zodiac signs, ruled by lunar positions, collide at certain positions and that creates the combination of zodiac signs that either create a perfect blend of Chinese zodiac match or defines the signs that are more likely to have a rift among them if they come together.

The Chinese year does not start at the exact same dates every year, rather lies between January and February and is a time of great celebration in China and countries like Japan, Vietnam and Korea- considering it is the new lunar year and the beginning of spring when the nature is benign and so it is the time for new beginnings.

Why Do They Matter?

Over time and with the advancement in the field of astrological research, the results have been surprising and have become matters of firm beliefs for some when it comes to courtship and marriage. When choosing partners, many individuals are likely to go for zodiac matches and find it a matter of immense satisfaction if they find the one compatible to their own zodiac sign, who according to them would be the perfect one for them.

So the next time someone asks your birth year, it might not just be to calculate your age but to identify which animal you are according to the complex Chinese zodiac system – and who knows they might be considering you a prospective partner.

How Chinese Zodiac Helps in Choosing a Partner

Rat works well with dragon, tiger with dog, horse with sheep, and the best match for a monkey would be a snake (to name a few). And the left out signs shall not feel so left out since there’s a detailed listing for the best, good, average and poor matches to search through and of course volumes of various studies that back it.

Chinese horoscopes impact the choice of partners mainly for the fact that it defines your emotional needs and those of other signs thus making it easy for individuals to see for themselves how would their requirements meet in the major disciplines, what personality traits would be most suitable to them, what are the factors they can or cannot compromise on under any circumstances. Not that it means people would be entirely dependent on their partners for their happiness and well being, however to a great extent the personality traits and the blend of different characteristics form a combination that may or may not be suitable for a certain sign.

Astrologers insist on the fact that in order to ensure romantic harmony and a blissful relationship it is imperative to go through the zodiac matches and figure out the best ones for you. So the bull comes in full swing at this and finds that the personality traits that go well are of the zodiac signs doing well with humility, financial stability and strength- any horse galloping around the green pastures.

Ever wondered what would it be like to find a matchmaker who prioritizes you so much so to get to know you, observe your personality and behavioral traits and find you ‘The One’ from all around the world. A magic as it seems to be, finding your soul mate, dream person, perfect match or whatever anyone may call it has never been a part of this detailed a process, especially not on an online dating site which commonly asks for profiles and let you go on a scavenger hunt for the best profile that matches your interests. The change seems to be more of a breath of fresh air for many with the fact that it does not abide by the traditional norms of dating sites that require trivial one time information asking you to update your profile, list preferences, fill up surveys and questionnaires and there you go with a massive explosion of profiles coming from every corner of the unimaginable worlds.

The behavioral matchmaking approach actually takes the pain to read through the preferences of an individual based on the profile visits by the individual, activity on the site and in short, each click being studied for one’s preferences in match finding and thus comprehended for the results for the same. The personalized aspect of matchmaking makes it easier for the users to get along with most of the results and go through the most suitable ones, and who knows, Zoosk’s might have just found you your soul mate.

Online dating and relationships have gone through tremendous shifts with each development bringing in new aspects and chances for greater connectivity, for people to facilitate their dating experience and matchmaking a smooth one. Zoosk works with embellishing your matchmaking experience by prioritizing the messages according to the profiles it studies would be most suitable for you and there you go with people of similar interest who could intellectually stimulate you and garner strong affection in many cases.

It is Science + Magic

So, the question arises as to whether it is magic or is there some science behind it? An amalgamation of both maybe, with more of science and a bit of the sparkling magical dust thrown in to create the lamination and the glow that is required in any match made in virtual or physical world. Zoosk’s science plus magic is simple, it views all the likes, interests, comments, messages and mutual concerns in its gigantic blue ball to mix with the potion with the studied information on your profile and all the statistical data about the information acquired to form final hypothesis about a certain sets of profiles that would probably be the individuals of great interest for you.

To learn more on Zoosk’s scientific approach, watch this explanation: https://www.youtube.com/embed/cM7sCdsIT4M

So dig through no enormous pool of unnecessary messages to miss out the chance of meeting your match made in heaven in the hands of extreme fatigue of going through a zillion profiles that serves no purpose to you. Let the usage patterns tell Zoosk what’s your call and send the signals in universe towards your potential beloved through technology this time.

Dating in Nordic countries is different in some aspects from other parts of Europe. The culture has a rich heritage dating back to the viking aera where Shieldmaidens used to go on raids and participate in battles alongside men, and there has been research that proves how some of the females even disguised themselves as men to go to war.

No matter how you look at it, the history of Nordic women is one of strength and valor. So if you are looking to date a Nordic woman, you should keep the following in mind. (Comprehensive list thanks to Nettdating expert http://www.dating-kompass.no)

1. Do Not Try To Boss Her Around

She is Nordic, she is gorgeous, and she’s most probably a feminist. She takes gender equality rather seriously and anchors on the idea with all her heart and soul, and never shies away from calling herself one. She believes in equal roles of both genders in the society and would like to be treated as an equal. So when at a restaurant, do not order for her and may be even let her pick up the tab every once in a while. Which brings us to our next tip.

2. Let Her Pay For Dinner

While you may be an alpha male in search for your perfect mate, it takes effort, patience, and chivalry in just the right amount to win the heart of your lady love. Your inner gentleman may not allow you to let her pay for dinner, but in Nordic countries (and with Nordic women) you don’t pay for dinner because you were born with XY chromosomes. In fact, if you insist on paying for dinner, she will be offended. Nordic women are financially independent and they view it as part of basic rights, however this does not mean flowers and pulling a chair for her is also discourteous.

3. Don’t be Surprised If She Asks You Out

Nordic women do not necessarily wait for men to approach them. In fact, men in Nordic countries tend to wait till they’re approached by women. To be honest, when you look like Alexander Skarsgård you can’t spend two minutes at a bar without being approached by beautiful women. But if you are not Alexander Skarsgård, which we assume you are not, you can still wait for her to make the first move. However, if you think you have to take the initiative, try to be friendly, disarming, and do not even try to give off the alpha male vibes when you approach her.

4. Do Not Invade Her Personal Space

If you’re used to getting on a hug basis the first time you meet someone, beware- dating a Nordic woman is different because the culture is different in the matters of physical contact. Being touchy feely is more likely to put her off and who knows you might never see the woman again. It’s imperative to give her the space she requires and the time she needs (for decision making and to prepare her mind calculating all the pros and cons of dating you) and then think of your next move. Since Nordic women are liberated about their views and also sexuality, one could easily tell if she is comfortable sharing her time with you or not.

Make wise moves on the attractive and distinctive women of Nordic countries and you might just find your ‘the one’.

If you are planning to go to Norway or you’re based in this country as an expat, just search for the term “nettdating” if you want to use a local dating site. If you are confused which one to use – because there are many nettdating sites – you can use a nettdating comparison service.

If you want to get an impression how beautiful Norwegian women are, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/embed/P6cDjl28KN4

Ever wondered what keeps lovelorn damsels glued to their beaus? The questions are simple and answers may be simpler depending on the depth one is ready to go for in order to understand the magic of love. Do you possess what it takes to carry out long term relationships with ear wide grins in every selfie? Do you feel obliged to drag a relationship or is it because you can’t change partners (it would require you to get out of your comfort zone). Is online relationship taking its toll on your social life and you’re ambiguous about it being real love or just a fling that extended to years? Being a better person with relationships takes time and efforts to have that same intent gaze and to look into the same direction together. There would be roadblocks and obstacles, but strong relationships build bridges over them and reach out for one another no matter what.

Magic Trick# 1: Let them cast A Spell on You

Out of all the tips you have been searching for on how to make an impact on your partner, let them have an impact on you. Be their fan and the biggest one, let them be open to you and make you fall for them. This is an amazing idea for couples who are either dating virtually or into somehow sensitive relationships- when you tend to focus on the brighter side of your partner, there’s little room left to see their shortcomings- and when you do, it’s easy to accept them. Know them inside out and you’d see where they stand in your heart and mind.

Magic trick #2: Create Magic Together by Introducing Rituals

Building a life together is as amazing as it sounds, but it takes a lot of time. Bringing the spark in your relationship back to life is a great way to improve your relationship with your partner/ spouse.- Be it a date night every Friday or visiting the favorite vacation spot to relive the memories- make it happen and make it a habit. Creativity should never leave the field when it comes to initiating new activities to make them become a ritual in your lives for long.

Magic Trick #3: Communicate, happen what may!

No matter what calamity befalls your relationship, never cease to communicate. The major killer to a relationship, no matter how strong, is lack of communication. There would be times testing your patience and perseverance- go through it with holding one another’s hand and let them know you’re there for them. Instead of worsening fights, give yourself some space and to your partner as well- however, do not let go of communication at all.

Magic Trick #4: The ability to apologize is the best of superpowers!

A sincere apology is a heartfelt one and it definitely does not follow the repetition of hurtful behavior. Being a better lover/ spouse takes a lot of effort in the area of apology more than other relationships. It’s important to know what has hurt your partner and go ahead with a sincere apology in any form. Don’t let your ego spoil the wonderful relationship you share.

Magic Trick #5: Don’t forget the milestones you achieved together

Remember the first kiss? – The first love note? – The first date? Never in your wildest dreams make the mistake of forgetting the first time they blew love on you and you froze into the beautiful being you are today. Recalling the initial period of your relationship (the honeymoon period) helps develop the relationship in a positive manner. Also it helps couples to look at things in a similar direction as they did when planning out the course of their life together- from curtains to pets, everything.

Improve your relationship by availing the package of magic tricks and of course, be cautious, love needs careful handling. However, it is the solution to many of the relationships- so just increase the dose of care and love mixed with respect and empathy to become a better person for your better half.