The Jedi Mind Trick Guys Use to Get You Obsessed With Them

I have a friend who is admirably unshakable when it comes to her love life. She's very laid-back, so it's extremely rare for her to get worked up about anyone—I think it's for that exact reason that guys fall for her left and right. One guy has changed all of that with one simple, slightly evil trick: He says the most adorable things, falls off the map for just long enough to worry her but not long enough to officially reach ghost status, then commences with the sweet nothings again.

And that's the issue: They really are sweet nothings. He talks about how she's his dream girl, he's never met anyone like her, how he wants to take her out on special dates, etc., but he backs it up with absolutely no actions to prove he means it. Since it's been less than two months since they met, my friend doesn't feel like she's at a place where she can ask him what the heck is going on. In the meantime, she delights in his texts when they arrive and despairs in the silence when they don't. She knows he's just messing around and isn't worth her time, but it's still tough to get him out of her mind because it seemed like there was so much potential. Well, that and he's apparently really gorgeous.

Even the most exhilarating highs of dating can't quite compensate for the kind of letdown that makes you feel like the guy went at your heart with a meat tenderizer. It's one thing if someone you've been with for a while dumps you, but sometimes the most gut-wrenching romantic fumble comes right at the start of something promising. When they first met, they clicked so well. The attraction was electric. That's why it's hard for her to forget about him. It's not like she can't get someone else (other guys were blowing up her phone as we talked about this one), but he's thrown her for a loop. Now she's wondering why he doesn't make a move if he really feels everything he's saying.

There's a whole other layer to this faux-disappearing act: making plans for the future. When he'd mention upcoming concerts or parties it would be fun for them to attend together, of course she'd think that meant he'd actually, you know, set those plans in stone. Now that he isn't, something that was exciting at the start has turned into a big letdown.

__Have you ever dealt with a guy who says sweet things, backs all the way off, then keeps going like nothing happened? Did you ever say anything to him about it? And now, since we're officially in February a.k.a. 50 Shades of Grey month, check out this video to see Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson spill their secrets. __