I'm a laid-back, geeky guy. While I enjoy math, science, reading, internet memes, and gaming of most sorts, I try to balance that out by also enjoying dancing, backpacking, kayaking, and karaoke. I'm more Buddhist-ish than capitalist: I think it's easier to find happiness by wanting what you have than by getting what you want. I tend to be shy and introverted when getting to know people, but once I relax (or have a few drinks in me), I become fairly outgoing and theatrical. I keep a very even keel emotionally, and appreciate others who have their shit together and don't require substantial amounts of emotional support.

A note about polyamory:I'm in a pretty serious relationship, but we aren't going to be each other's sole life partners. So you should either be accepting of the fact that I have other romantic relationships in my life, or such a good match for me that I'd be willing to be monogamous with you. I am starting to look for someone to raise kids with, and I recognize that many people looking for the same tend towards monogamy, so I'm willing to compromise to some degree.

Puzzles, riding my bike with no handlebars, grammar, being sarcastic without people realizing it. I'm in a dance performance group, so I guess I'm pretty good at dancing. And my bosses keep telling me I'm really good at my job, so software engineering I suppose.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Breakfast at Tiffany's, by (respectively) Truman Capote, Blake Edwards, Edward Albee, Deep Blue Something, and a chef in or around Tiffany's.

As I said, I try to be happy with what I have, so I like to believe I could do without most things. Also I periodically go backpacking, which is a week in the wilderness with only what I can carry (and I've spent 3 days in the wilderness with only what could fit in half a coffee can), so I know I can do without a lot, at least for a while.

That said, I really appreciate privacy, familiar food, the internet, reference material, joyful movement, and people who understand me.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

I spend a lot of time practicing explaining things to people. Game rules, mathematical theorems, fictional universes, whatever. Maybe that means I should go into teaching? Probably not.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit

Admitting something here makes it substantially less private thanit was before. This causes whatever was previously thenearly-most-private thing to become the most private, instead ofthe thing that was admitted here. Therefore, it is impossible toadmit the most private thing that I am willing to admit.

We shall call this Heisenberg's Secrecy Uncertainty Theorem.

You should message me if

In any message, please include some indication that you read my profile, and not just a generic "hey what's up." If you are incapable of referencing anything else in my profile, use the codeword 'hootenanny'.

You appreciate geekiness and won't look at me funny when I reference internet memes, but also appreciate the outdoors and some kind of physical activity. You want to go dancing, hiking, sing karaoke, or go to the theatre.