July 12, 2007

I have a friend who is as passionate about what he does as I am about what I do…helping others achieve what they want in their lives. I am a member of the Yes Group in London and this friend, Dr Topher Morrison, was the Chairman for a term of office (one year). He gave so much to the group as our Chairman, both of himself and in his capacity as the Chairman.

I went to one of his 2-day seminars a while back and enjoyed his style, friendliness, self-deprecating humour and the passion with which he spoke. I found the event packed full of useful and helpful ways we could change our lives. I noticed how the audience was as gripped as I was as well as involved and delighted with what they heard and saw.

Topher showed an intrest in and has my book, “Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ Making Love Work” and I have his book, “Stop Chasing Perfection and SETTLE for EXCELLENCE”. I believe people can rekindle the magic in their relationship…they just need to believe they have and can make the time to do it. Topher confirms in his book, “…people who succeed in life, whether in relationships, or career, health or spirituality have no more time than those who don’t. We all have 24 hours a day, every day.” This is so true and we must spend some of that 24 hours creating the relationship and life we want.

One of the powerful things I learnt and value from Topher is that we use energy when we enjoy doing things and effort when we don’t.He says in his book, “…where the two people are always tired, never have the energy to go do something fun…a lot of effort being expended in…fighting…nagging…untrusting…” and “…a couple who still go on dates…do interesting things together…going to the beach…opera…walks…are full of energy with ample time…” Do you recognise this?

I am very excited to tell you that he is doing another seminar that I am able to go to and I thought you might be interested as well, especially as you can get free tickets for The Mental Game of Life Seminar atwww.tophermorrison.com which introduces you to winning moves in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis – that allow you to powerfully live the old saying, “You can accomplish anything, when you put your mind to it.” As he would say, “It’s going to be one heck of a party!”

July 4, 2007

I had the privilege of being interviewed on BBC 3 Counties Radio on Friday. The most important thing for me is to reach as many people and to help as many people as I can with their relationship. My story is one of loss, abuse, divorce, more loss, feeling suicidal and then a friend held the mirror up for me. I realised I needed help.

I went into counselling…I then wanted to give back because of the help and support I had received. So I became a counsellor (PGDipPsychosynthesisCounselling) and then I attained my teaching certificate and diploma in Imagework a very powerful tool, became a Reiki Master and a clairvoyant.

I looked at my marriage and my part in it and how I could have done things differently. I found the answer. I looked at my clients and what helped them the most in their relationships either with loved ones, family, friends and/or themselves. I realised that they needed the same as me…to love themselves.

Why is it that so many of us don’t? Life happens…somehow we get the message when we are young that we are not worthy of love…we find a way of coping with that message. This survival kit, as I call it, is very necessary when we are young. However, when we become adults, it is no longer appropriate and we either are not willing to drop it and be different or we don’t even know we are acting the way we are.

Awareness is key to Loving ourselves and our loved ones.

If you are in any doubt, start noticing how you feel at any given time…notice what you say and how others react/respond, especially your loved one…

Start making “I” statements like “I feel hurt when you do that” or “I feel angry when you say this”. Staying with yourself is very empowering and stops any blame.

This is all a wonderful start…I still keep practising because there are times when someone will press my button and I have to breathe and not react but stay with how I feel.

I have a free teleseminar coming up soon… “Love not War!” for rekindling the magic in your relationship so that you can make love work…please go to www.rekindlethemagic.com and sign up for the free chapter of my book and weekly relationship help and hot tips…you will be notified about the teleseminar. You will also find the recording of my interview on the BBC.