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Fraudulent and Immoral Mother who took my daughter

I have a very urgent problem that i dont seem to know whats the best and most effective way on resolving this. So i might as well post here for advice. This would be a long one.

I have a 3 year old daughter with my ex-girlfriend from college. We got together after we graduated from school and got back into a relationship and after a couple of month got her pregnant. At that time she was living by herself in Paranaque where i frequently visit and sleepover and later we transferred to a bigger place in anticipation of my daughter. I am not a "man of means" and only work as a callcenter agent, she on the other hand was working as an car sales agent, i was only able to put up around 10k for the delivery of my daughter, she gave birth at a hospital inside betterliving which apparently costed around 40K. Only after the birth of my kid that she told me she has another BF older and richer (an executive in Chevron) than me. To my further dismay, she used that man's surname on my daughters birth certificate. She only carried the name that i wanted as a second name for my child. I had no choice but to just talk with her and convince her to correct this, which she replied that she will think about it. Fearing that i will be denied of my daughter, i went along with what she wants hoping that i can eventually convince her to have my daughters last name corrected.

After a couple of months we transferred to Muntinlupa, where a also invested on having the raw house developed as well as buying the appliances for their comfort. One day i came across a receipt from Western Union name to my ex coming from her bf that was at that time started working in Singapore, amounting to 13k. I asked her about it and she said she needed money, but through research i know that ever since my daughter was born, shes receiving that amount every month as support. After an incident that got me feed up (wherein i spent all my 13th month to fix the house then realizing that she has money that she was keeping from me), i decided to call it quits and go back to my moms house.

I still visit my daughter weekly to play and teach her the basics in preparation for school. It was alright with her and i figured she wanted it that way so she can do and go what she wants. She would allow us to go out by ourselves, sometimes she would come along, so i was happy as my daughter experiences that she has a family.

Earlier this year things suddenly changed, she would get mad if im over and dont want me and my daughter to go out, i just insisted. After a few more months i discovered that she has a new bf (a married senior manager from one of the biggest developers in the country), who is her client. Her new bf starts to buy her expensive things like jewelry, designer clothes and an iphone4 to name a few. The guy is a control freak since they spend all they on the phone even when at work, they stay connected and doesnt hangup, just to monitor what she is doing. She would leave for work at about 6am since her work is at 8am, then come home around 11pm-1am on a daily basis. On weekends she would still go out on dates, leaving my daughter with her sister in law.

This wednesday (since i got my pay) i went to go visit my daughter so we can go out. I came across her sister in law and told me that they no longer live there and she dont know where they transfered,(I even brought new shoes and a dress which i bought from divisoria), i was so depressed and shookup that i wasnt able to react, i just asked her, "san ko hahanapin anak ko?". I went back home and contemplated on what to do.

I know where she and her bf works, i canvassed how much it takes to have a private investigator to track her but was a bit expensive (12k/day). I posted here to ask what possible options can be done to finally addressed this, for the SAKE of my daughter of which i believe wont be able to be her full potential if left to grow up with her mom. I just want for my daughter to be under my name so i can have visiting rights and custody. I would appreciate if anybody can help me im really on a deadend here, i even considering going to expose shows like "sumbong mo kay tulfo" for assistance.

I comisserate with you and have honestly prayed for you. I cannot give you an advice based on human law as of now. But the girl seem to have the same rachet, if i may say that, with a girl i happened to know. the facts might not be totally correct but i hope you can find some guide on her story.

She had a son but the first recorded father is inexistent. The son's first name resembles a married man who had some daliance with her. Half of the child's first name appears to be that of another man who was originally claimed as the father. Still a third man rumored to have had an affair with the mother is the one who appears to be the look-alike (not exactly) of the child.The girl is cunning, she asks support from the look-alike, from the man whose name sounds like the first name of the child, and maybe from the other man. 3 sources of funds you see? now, none of the three above is living with her because two are married men and i dont know of the other. A fourth man is the live-in partner now who might not be aware of the three.

I am not in your situation but the reason you were brought in the picture immediately before the pregnancy is because the source of the seed might be married. Your family name might have retained (although as middle name) for a purpose, the name of the other for almost the same purpose. Im sorry to even insinuate this but your and the other man's name are there to make it appear that you (both man depending on who is infront of the mother) have responsibility to support the child because you are the father but in reality, we are not sure who really is that father.I am not however a god however to know the truth better than you do. These are just products of my suspicious mind and it is up to you to assess the situation. No matter what happens however, I implore you to spare the child from emotional suffering whether she turns out to be your natural child or not.Ask God for guidance and peace.

You are entirely right with your assumption, i believe that was her intention of getting funded as much as she can. Initially, after knowing of the other parties involved, i doubted if the child really is mine. But the child really looks alot like me, i have unique features that she inherited. My real concern is that i dont want my daughter to grow up in an environment that her mother will provide her (shouting, cursing and a constant river of lies) she has an older son who's now 8 years old (his dad also comes from a family of wealthy doctors), who now constantly lies and knows how to cover up for his mom as she taught her how to (since her ordeals are of better importance than that of the values of her child).

I was advised by a close friend to file for Habeas Corpus to have to mother appear before court and then Falsification of Public Document, i will then be required to go through a DNA Paternity Test to prove my daughter is indeed mine. But prior to the litigations i should have her followed and her immoral acts documented, this will be then used to prove that she is incapable of raising my daughter so i can have custody of the child.

If you have other suggestions so this can be done faster and more efficiently, i would truly appreciate it and forever will be in debt. im just a father who simply wants to raise his daughter properly, in the name of God and in the name of good. Thanks!

your first hurdle will be to establish your filiation with the child. without that, you have no legal rights.

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I agree with atty LLL. You have no cause of action for Habeas Corpus especially because the respondent would be the mother of the child.

Regarding the "have her followed and her immoral acts documented,"[u], be careful because that might amount to stalking and would be a ground against you for violation of the law on Violence Against Women and their Children. you might end up as the accused rather than the victim.

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