Social and economic problems linked to alcohol use

Alcohol consumption can have adverse social and economic effects on the individual drinker, the drinker’s immediate environment and society as a whole. Indeed, individuals other than the drinker can be affected, for example, by traffic accidents or violence. It has an impact on society as a whole in terms of resources required for criminal justice, health care and other social institutions.

How can work performance be affected by alcohol consumption?

Alcohol consumption can affect work performance in several ways:

Absences - There is ample evidence that people with alcohol dependence and drinking problems are on sick leave more frequently than other employees, with a significant cost to employees, employers, and social security systems. In Costa Rica, an estimated 30% of absenteeism may be due to alcohol. In Australia, a survey showed that workers with drinking problems are nearly 3 times more likely than others to have injury-related absences from work.

Work accidents - In Great Britain, up to 25% of workplace accidents and around 60% of fatal accidents at work may be linked to alcohol. In India about 40% of work accidents have been attributed to alcohol use.

Productivity - Heavy drinking at work may reduce productivity. In Latvia, 10% of productivity losses are attributed to alcohol. Performance at work may be affected both by the volume and pattern of drinking. Co-workers perceive that heavy drinkers have lower performance, problems in personal relationships and lack of self-direction, though drinkers themselves do not necessarily perceive effects on their work performance

Unemployment- Heavy drinking or alcohol abuse may lead to unemployment and unemployment may lead to increased drinking.

How can the family be affected by alcohol consumption?

Drinking can impair how a person performs as a parent, a partner as well as how (s)he contributes to the functioning of the household. It can have lasting effects on their partner and children, for instance through home accidents and violence.

Children can suffer Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD), when mothers drink during pregnancy. After birth, parental drinking can lead to child abuse and numerous other impacts on the child’s social, psychological and economic environment.

The impact of drinking on family life can include substantial mental health problems for other family members, such as anxiety, fear and depression.

Drinking outside the home can mean less time spent at home. The financial costs of alcohol purchase and medical treatment, as well as lost wages can leave other family members destitute. When men drink it often primarily affects their mothers or partners who may need to contribute more to the income of the household and who run an increased risk of violence or HIV infection.

What is the link between alcohol and poverty?

The economic consequences of alcohol consumption can be severe, particularly for the poor.

Apart from money spent on drinks, heavy drinkers may suffer other economic problems such as lower wages and lost employment opportunities, increased medical and legal expenses, and decreased eligibility for loans. A survey in Sri Lanka indicated that for 7% of men, the amount spent on alcohol exceeded their income.

What is the link between alcohol and violence between partners?

Alcohol plays a role in a substantial number of domestic violence incidents, especially in the case of abusing husbands. Often both the offender and the victim have been drinking.

The relationship between alcohol and domestic violence is complex and the precise role of alcohol remains unclear. Heavy drinking has been strongly linked to violence between partners and to a lesser extent to violence towards others, possibly because proximity increases the opportunities for violence.

Studies conducted for instance in Nigeria, South Africa, Uganda, India, and Colombia show that a large fraction of reported domestic violence incidents is related to alcohol use by the male partner. For instance, in Uganda, 52% of the women who recently experienced domestic violence reported that their partner had consumed alcohol, and in India, 33% of abusing husbands were using alcohol. There is a need to better understand the possible role of alcohol intoxication or dependence in the processes through which incidents escalate into violence.

There is little doubt that alcohol consumption has many social consequences, but more quantifiable data is needed to enable meaningful comparisons between countries.

What are the estimated economic and social costs?

Strong efforts are made in many countries to estimate the overall economic and social costs of alcohol use.

Social and economic costs cover the negative economic impacts of alcohol consumption on the material welfare of the society as a whole. They comprise both direct costs - the value of goods and services delivered to address the harmful effects of alcohol, and indirect costs - the value of personal productive services that are not delivered as a consequence of drinking.

In industrialized countries, estimates of social and economic costs of alcohol use can reach several percent of the Gross Domestic Product (GDP), ranging for instance from 1.1% in Canada to 5-6% in the case of Italy.

Estimates of social and economic costs can help:

make the case for public policies on alcohol,

target policies and public expenditure on the most important problems (e.g. the costs of alcohol versus other psychoactive drugs such as tobacco),

identify information gaps,

assess the effectiveness of policies and programmes against alcohol abuse.

Estimating the costs of the impact of alcohol on the material welfare of society is often difficult and requires estimates of the social costs of treatment, prevention, research, law enforcement, lost productivity and some measure of years and quality of life lost.

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Quotes

"The genetic factors that contribute to the full range of alcohol consumption versus alcohol dependence in humans are distinct.”"

Dr Boris Tabakoff

"I tried to blame everyone and everything I knew for my drinking; the death of my child, the ex-husbands, etc. Everyone was responsible for my drinking except me."

Jean

"When I was thirteen, friends would make fun of me if I didn’t have a drink. I just gave in because it was easier to join the crowd"

Samantha

"I woke up on the weekends needing a cup of coffee in one hand and a beer in the other."

Nick

"Because I’m an alcoholic I can’t go to the pub and have three pints then go home, when I drink I drink untill I pass out."

Mike

"You need to realize that the little voice in your head telling you to use is your own."

Maya

"I gave up hope of ever becoming sober. I decided to drink myself to death. It didn't work. Now I am left no choice but facing my problems."

Jean

"It was as if there was a hole inside me, which two or three drinks filled quite nicely."

Jane

"I couldn’t wait to get home and get something to drink. It was the only relief I could get from myself."

George

"For so many years it seemed like such a struggle; suddenly, it isn't a struggle any more."

H.L.

"My life was chaotic. I hardly ate. I wasn't interested in anything except drink."

Suzanne

"When I went to school I made new friends. These new friends liked to drink and stay out at night, so I did the same."

Anonymous

"I am embarrassed about the volume of alcohol I consume, I drink every day and I drink a lot…"

Olivia

"I had friends that didn't drink that way. I didn't want to drink that way, I didn't want to be that way."

Peggy

"I came into recovery because I got tired of losing all the time. I lost my first set of children and turned around was about to lose my second set. But even that's not the reason why I came into recovery."

Theresa

"When I was drinking I would use alcohol to avoid the things I didn't want to deal with or accept. I would wallow in the past with my memories and my bottle or I would fantasize about a future I could never realize unless I let go of the alcohol completely"

Marion

"I was a completely different person when I drank. Trouble brewed wherever I appeared. Yes, some times were fun and I behaved, but majority of the time I was terrible. I did things I would have never done sober."

Jeanette

"I got married at 21 and we drank and fought together. We were together three years and after the marriage ended I really went wild. Drinking became even more important to me and a whole string of relationships followed."

Nancy

"I drank to get drunk from the start. I was a blackout drinker from the start. I never knew if it would take two drinks or 20 to get me to the place I wanted to be. That place was anyplace else."

Gwen

"I lay in the ER from a atempted overdose, that I didn't succeed at doing. I had tried it three times in the past two years. I had to find peace, serenity, happiness. That day was Easter Sunday. I knew I had to go back to AA."

Madeleine

"I was in complete denial of what alcohol was doing to the chemical make up of my body."

Mark

"In May of 2006, I rushed to the emergency room because my hands, arms, feet and legs cramped so bad that I couldn't move them and my face was tingling. I was dehydrated and malnourished. My body was trying to tell me something and I was forced to listen."

Christy

"After a bout of depression at university, I started drinking to relieve anxiety and help me sleep. The quantity quickly escalated and by the time I was 24, I was drinking every day."

Tina

"My children were young when I was active in my addiction. I don’t believe they understood what was going on, though my husband worked to be honest with them. He told them I was sick and would become well."

Deborah

"It was sort of scary at first, but I was certain I was not the only one who needed to approach recovery in a unconventional way."

Deborah

"Along with perceived risk, your teen’s alcohol use can be predicted by the expectation that one will feel a certain way when they drink."

drugfree.org

"It reached a stage where I couldn't sleep without a drink, but I couldn't get out of bed without one either"

Steve

"When my wife decided she couldn't live with me anymore, and subsequently left - that was when I knew I had to do something."

Nigel

"Drinking is so ingrained in our culture that to refrain from it may be seen as a denial of that culture or an admission that we cannot conform to what is socially acceptable."

Norm Cohen

"Self-control is key when it comes to drinking"

Norm Cohen

"Enabling is “removing the natural consequences to the addict of his or her behavior.”"

Darlene Lancer, JD

"You may have to weigh the consequences of experiencing short-term pain vs. long-term misery,"

Darlene Lancer, JD

"Always have a Plan B to cope with addicts’ unreliability; otherwise, you end up feeling like a victim."

Darlene Lancer, JD

"When I look in the mirror, I can say I actually like this person; I had to deal with all my emotions and stuff. Before my emotions were in a bottle."

Debra

"I woke up one morning after a heavy night out to find I'd wet the bed, and the babe I'd pulled the night before was missing"

James

"After about five hours of drinking, I vaguely remember a taxi journey home. I also remember falling on my face. Yes, face. Not hands, or knees but face."

Cheezie

"Whichever approach you take, it is important to understand that the family dynamic in drug and alcohol addiction is incredibly powerful"

Steven Gifford

"The goal is to find what works now, and to educate yourself about all the options available"

Mark S Gold, MD

"Many kids have internalized a dangerous and false message: “Unless you are at a large gathering of friends drinking, you are a loser.”"

Roger

"I like to drink. You could even say I’m a heavy drinker. Does that mean I’m an alcoholic?"

Anonymous

"After all, they didn’t know about the college “accidents” that sent me to the hospital emergency room with severe ankle sprains (from falling while drunk) or the night that friends thought I was having a heart attack after a bad combination of alcohol and"

Beth

"If I were more responsible, I would stop waking up in strange places with strange people, or so I told myself."

Beth

"I realized with a sudden force that every time I got into trouble, alcohol was involved"

Beth

"It's just too easy to look at life as a half-empty glass… especially when you've been drinking"

Philip

"There is no law stating that alcohol is a necessary ingredient for holiday cheer"

Drew Edwards

"I’ve seen hundreds of families in this very situation and their dilemma is always the same: they all want to influence their child to get on a better path"

Dr Michael Pantalon

"Occasional intoxication is not a symptom of a disease; it is a choice"

Kenneth

"I lost my job and I lost my family. But the bottle was always there for me"

Ryan

"We knew we were enabling him - but what else is a parent to do?"

Barbara

"I landed back in my suburban city, however, anything but free. I was a 23-year-old, full-blown alcoholic with a lot to show for my school career but little recollection of how I got it."

Beth

"After university, most people stopped going out drinking four times a week. But I was still young, and I wanted to have fun, and I thought I could handle it"

Derek

"I can stop drinking whenever I like. I just don't see the need."

Fred

"I know we’ve got problems, but it’s hard to cut back because all of our friends drink."

Gary

"Things were great before we had kids. But I’m worried. We’ve had some bad fights. And I can’t seem to reach him anymore. Every night he drinks a few beers and just sits in front of the TV."

Sharon

"We just got home from a party. We had a few drinks and a great time. Now we’re bickering again over nothing!"

Sharon

"We went out for a romantic dinner and shared a bottle of wine. We were relaxed and felt close. Then we went to a club and had a few more. Now she’s losing control again and flirting with a stranger. Why does this keep happening? Does she really love me?"

Gary

"Many parents make the mistake of waiting until the child has begun drinking, but if you listen and respond to your child sensitively, you may be able to help prevent problems from developing later."

Mark S Gold, MD

"Two of the more traumatic things I went through were growing up with an alcoholic parent and my parents’ divorce. I tried to stuff the void I experienced with drugs and alcohol"

Alice

"I never even considered the idea that I might become an alcoholic or drug addict, and I swore to myself that I would never end up like my father"

Alice

"I wanted to fit in and feel better about myself. The fact that I gave in to peer pressure is no surprise."

Alice

"Drinking and college go together like “love and marriage”—right? Wrong!"

Rita

"In families with alcoholism, emotions and priorities can get very mixed up — and not just by the alcoholic."

Erika

"I've been an alcoholic for 2 years in my life untill I found the strength to recover, it took a couple of tries and quite some support from friends, but I did it."

Anonymous

"I realized that, through no fault of my own, but rather a strong inherited predisposition, I could not drink alcohol the way other people could. I could not stop once I started, so I knew then that I would have to not drink at all-for life."

Richard

"I felt trapped, lost, and broken. I was walking through hell everyday but I was dragging the people who care right behind me."

Becca

"I’m very insecure as a result of my dad's drinking. And because my dad let me down so many times, I feel like I can’t rely on anyone. I hate the way that alcohol is seen as cool and glamorous."

Charlotte

"For ten years I was a functioning alcoholic. Because I was constantly topping up, I never had withdrawal symptoms, but my health began to suffer. I regret putting my family through this but I feel optimistic about the future."

Loris

"Although they were initially shocked and disappointed when I told them, friends and family have been incredibly supportive."

Jenny

"One bottle of wine a night turned into two, then three, and when I set up my own business working from home it gave me carte blanche to drink all day."

Karen

"Video games were a very important factor in my recovery. They helped take my mind off drinking. Keeping active is key."

Jason

"I stopped drinking 13 years ago after a shock when I thought I had dropped my baby girl over the side of a fishing trawler in a blackout."

Jill

"I feel SO VERY guilty and shameful that I got drunk when I as 17 weeks pregnant. This is by far the worse thing I have ever done."

Tips & Hints

Ask for support

Tell friends and family that you’re trying to cut down on alcohol - they might be more supportive than you think. But beware, some pe...

Tell friends and family that you’re trying to cut down on alcohol - they might be more supportive than you think. But beware, some people don’t like to have their drinking behaviour challenged, so be prepared to defend your decision by remembering the benefits that cutting down on alcohol brings.

Keep track of the alcohol units you’re drinking

The government advises that people should not regularly drink more than the daily unit guidelines of 3-4 units of alcohol for men (equi...

The government advises that people should not regularly drink more than the daily unit guidelines of 3-4 units of alcohol for men (equivalent to a pint and a half of 4% beer) and 2-3 units of alcohol for women (equivalent to a 175 ml glass of wine). ‘Regularly’ means drinking every day or most days of the week.

Avoid visiting bars and clubs with bars

Instead resort to amusement such as recreational areas, movies, sports events and family events where alcohol isn’t present. That inc...

Instead resort to amusement such as recreational areas, movies, sports events and family events where alcohol isn’t present. That includes going to parties that serve alcohol without a family member or friend to support their choice to abstain from drink. If the alcoholic feels bound by duty to attend a party or gathering, then he should be accompanied by a trusted other who will remain with them all the way through the celebration and be prepared to halt them from consuming alcohol.

Be determined

If you are addicted to alcohol, you must admit it and then be determined to seek professional intervention. The detoxification and reco...

If you are addicted to alcohol, you must admit it and then be determined to seek professional intervention. The detoxification and recovery process can be stressful and excruciating but with the strong determination to lead an alcohol-free life, you can achieve your end.

Stay optimistic

During the alcohol addiction treatment, you can feel depressed and initially all your attempts at abstinence can fail miserably. Keep a...

During the alcohol addiction treatment, you can feel depressed and initially all your attempts at abstinence can fail miserably. Keep an optimistic frame of mind and strive hard to achieve sobriety, despite odds. Taking the rehab program as a challenge and focusing on overcoming the challenge can help you to be successful in your efforts.

Find a support group

It is easy to share your feelings, during your path of recovery to people involved in the same kind of experience as you. A support gro...

It is easy to share your feelings, during your path of recovery to people involved in the same kind of experience as you. A support group can be very useful in sticking to the rules, realizing your objectives and following alcohol addiction treatment offered by detoxification and rehabilitation centres exactly.

Stay away from bars

It is important to avoid visiting bars with friends and colleagues which may lead you to drink alcohol, before your realize it, althoug...

It is important to avoid visiting bars with friends and colleagues which may lead you to drink alcohol, before your realize it, although it seems obvious to say it. Staying away from bars will help you to avoid the temptation of using alcohol again.

Find a hobby

Many people indulge in drinking alcohol since they are bored and have no activity to engage in. Finding a new leisure time activity or ...

Many people indulge in drinking alcohol since they are bored and have no activity to engage in. Finding a new leisure time activity or pastime will help you with alcohol addiction treatment, given that you have a new hobby or distraction to indulge in without being bored.

Try meditation

Meditate or practice yoga and explore your spiritual side, while you enrol yourself in alcohol detoxification programs. Meditation can ...

Meditate or practice yoga and explore your spiritual side, while you enrol yourself in alcohol detoxification programs. Meditation can give you inner peace and calm your nerves which are stressed out owing to the abstinence and rehabilitation process.

Recognize there is a Problem

The first thing that you need to realize is that an alcohol addiction is extremely dangerous. Alcoholism is considered by many experts ...

The first thing that you need to realize is that an alcohol addiction is extremely dangerous. Alcoholism is considered by many experts to be a drug addiction. With every drink, you are slowly killing your body and brain cells.

Drinking water

The body needs water at the cellular level to function. Detoxing from alcohol is very taxing on the body's functions, and on the immune...

The body needs water at the cellular level to function. Detoxing from alcohol is very taxing on the body's functions, and on the immune system. Good, filtered water, drunk in appropriate amounts throughout the day helps to fortify the cells, as well as flush the toxins from the body.

Know your "no"

You're likely to be offered a drink at times when you don't want one. Have a polite, convincing "no, thanks" ready. The faster you can ...

You're likely to be offered a drink at times when you don't want one. Have a polite, convincing "no, thanks" ready. The faster you can say no to these offers, the less likely you are to give in. If you hesitate, it allows you time to think of excuses to go along. Also, see the short module to help you build drink refusal skills.

Plan to handle urges

When you cannot avoid a trigger and an urge hits, consider these options: Remind yourself of your reasons for changing (it can help to ...

When you cannot avoid a trigger and an urge hits, consider these options: Remind yourself of your reasons for changing (it can help to carry them in writing or store them in an electronic message you can access easily). Or talk things through with someone you trust. Or get involved with a healthy, distracting activity, such as physical exercise or a hobby that doesn't involve drinking.

Use Visualization Techniques

Visualize yourself and how it will be when you've completely kicked the alcohol habit. Visualization is very powerful in instilling int...

Visualize yourself and how it will be when you've completely kicked the alcohol habit. Visualization is very powerful in instilling into your subconscious that you are committed to this goal. Do these visualization exercises in the morning and evening.

Do Not Skip Meals

Perhaps the most important tip to quit drinking is to NEVER skip a meal, as that simply opens the door to alcohol abuse. Not only does ...

Perhaps the most important tip to quit drinking is to NEVER skip a meal, as that simply opens the door to alcohol abuse. Not only does eating 3 or 4 healthy meals a day give your body all the necessary nutrients to help you look and feel your best, but you will actually have LESS of a desire to drink alcohol when your stomach is full of food.

Be Powerful

Do NOT talk, think or act as if you are powerless before your addiction. Alcohol is powerless before you, and not vice versa. Remember,...

Do NOT talk, think or act as if you are powerless before your addiction. Alcohol is powerless before you, and not vice versa. Remember, NO drink or drug can ever enter your body without your approving of it, so don't allow yourself to fall into the victim mentality of being powerless before alcohol - because that's simply a ready-made excuse to keep drinking.

Don’t guilt trip yourself whenever you are unsuccessful

Getting upset with yourself for any temporary drawback will be non productive, and will make people more prone to not quit. Should you ...

Getting upset with yourself for any temporary drawback will be non productive, and will make people more prone to not quit. Should you fall, forget it and move forward. This is addiction to alcohol, one of the greatest difficulties you are ever likely to encounter.

Help Other People

You can also help yourself to quit drinking alcohol by helping other people do the same thing. The battle against alcohol cravings is n...

You can also help yourself to quit drinking alcohol by helping other people do the same thing. The battle against alcohol cravings is not easy but you should take time to help other people too because this can be the source of your strength to deal with your own problem. Maybe, you can give friends who are also heavy drinkers some pointers on why alcohol is bad. If they are not interested about it, it is fine. Also, make sure that you are not going to be swayed by their persistence that you take another sip.

Treat Other Illnesses

Alcohol May seem to be “quick” answer to relief of stress, anxiety, depression, or other mental health problems. However, the effec...

Alcohol May seem to be “quick” answer to relief of stress, anxiety, depression, or other mental health problems. However, the effect is short-lived and drinking a lot of alcohol often makes these conditions worse. If you feel that these conditions are the underlying problem then see your doctor. Medication and talking treatments such as CBT often work well for these conditions, and are a much better long-term option than heavy drinking.

Drink Slowly

Only take a few sips of your drink at the time. Do not drink multiple drinks in an hour. Your body absorbs alcohol more than 90 minutes...

Only take a few sips of your drink at the time. Do not drink multiple drinks in an hour. Your body absorbs alcohol more than 90 minutes after your last sip, so you may not realize right away how it will affect you. If you're tempted to drink more, avoid purchasing alcoholic drinks or accepting drink offers from others.

12 Step Programs

Alcoholics Anonymous isn’t for everybody. In some places there will be a strong emphasis on using religion to conquer your addiction,...

Alcoholics Anonymous isn’t for everybody. In some places there will be a strong emphasis on using religion to conquer your addiction, and in other cases people just don’t find it an effective way of recovering from alcoholism. Don’t be afraid to try other ways of recovering if AA fails you.

Ask yourself:

Of all the time, energy and tears I have invested in trying to make them stop drinking, what has been successful? If the answer is “n...

Of all the time, energy and tears I have invested in trying to make them stop drinking, what has been successful? If the answer is “nothing,” you are in good company. Anger, tears and empty threats have never cured one single disease.

Relationships

Is alcohol ruining your relationship? Or is the influence of alcohol bringing relationship issues to the fore? Consider getting help, ...

Is alcohol ruining your relationship? Or is the influence of alcohol bringing relationship issues to the fore? Consider getting help, and cutting down on your drinking when together to avoid conflict and settle issues with a calm and clear head.

Enabling

Enabling is defined as “removing the natural consequences to the addict of his or her behaviour”. This basically involves anything ...

Enabling is defined as “removing the natural consequences to the addict of his or her behaviour”. This basically involves anything you do that negates the harm they are inflicting on themselves and allows them to see their drinking in a more positive light, for example letting them move in when they lose their house.

How to stop enabling

Leave evidence of the alcoholic’s destructive behaviour - don’t clean up vomit or wash their soiled bedding, because they caused th...

Leave evidence of the alcoholic’s destructive behaviour - don’t clean up vomit or wash their soiled bedding, because they caused this problem. Harsh as it may sound, they must learn to take responsibility for their actions again. This can be difficult but it is important to weigh up the consequences of fixing the problem in the short term (ie the pain you feel by not helping) and allowing it to continue in the long term (the long road of crime, imprisonment, unemployment, health issues and possible death).

Start with drinking a soda or other non alcoholic drinks

If you start by drinking a soda instead of drinking an alcoholic drink first, you will reduce the chance of you getting drunk quickly. ...

If you start by drinking a soda instead of drinking an alcoholic drink first, you will reduce the chance of you getting drunk quickly. Then intersperse your alcoholic allowance with more non-alcoholic drinks during the occasion.

Just because you don’t remember it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen

You still have to take responsibility for the things your Evil Twin did last night. Another good reason to avoid blackouts. Hemmingway...

You still have to take responsibility for the things your Evil Twin did last night. Another good reason to avoid blackouts. Hemmingway said, “Always do sober what you said you’d do drunk. That will teach you to keep your mouth shut.” This is good advice.

Why do I drink?

For many people, the triggers that make them start drinking are pretty clear. Learn what situations, ideas or feelings make you want to...

For many people, the triggers that make them start drinking are pretty clear. Learn what situations, ideas or feelings make you want to drink and you will know much better how to deal with your addiction.

Decide whether your goal is abstinence, or controlled or social drinking

Only you can decide on what your achievable goal will be. If you really believe you can cut down, then set days and times when you can ...

Only you can decide on what your achievable goal will be. If you really believe you can cut down, then set days and times when you can and cannot drink. If you believe you are the type of person who cannot stop at one or two drinks then you will have to go for abstinence.

Do not set unachievable goals

When setting goals, don’t be too hard on yourself. It's about knowing and accepting yourself. For example, if you’re not a person w...

When setting goals, don’t be too hard on yourself. It's about knowing and accepting yourself. For example, if you’re not a person who likes sitting around, you’re not going to read a lot of books. If you want a clean, organized home but you hate housework it's going to be difficult, and you will be unlikely to reach or maintain the goal. You can only do what you are able to do. ACCEPT YOURSELF for who you are. Feeling guilty seems to increase some people’s need to drink.

Tell your story to yourself

Some people find it helpful to pretend that they are listening to a friend talking about their own situation. Imagine what advice you w...

Some people find it helpful to pretend that they are listening to a friend talking about their own situation. Imagine what advice you would give if it were a friend telling you his or her story. Does this approach make you see your own situation differently?

What do you associate with NOT drinking?

You may have to put yourself in situations where you do not drink. For example, some people go for a walk, go somewhere with the childr...

You may have to put yourself in situations where you do not drink. For example, some people go for a walk, go somewhere with the children, or watch TV, or read in bed, as they do not associate drinking alcohol with being in bed. Some people go to bed earlier, and get up earlier in the early days of abstinence.

Learn to say “NO”

One big factor in alcoholism is peer pressure. Learn to say “NO” also to your friends because you prioritize your health rather tha...

One big factor in alcoholism is peer pressure. Learn to say “NO” also to your friends because you prioritize your health rather than drinking with them because it will not give you any good effect. Lying is bad but it is also acceptable if we have white lies for our own good.

Don't do anything you don't feel ready to do

If going to the beach is a time when you drank a lot. Don't go this year. If going to a certain friend's home for dinner is a time when...

If going to the beach is a time when you drank a lot. Don't go this year. If going to a certain friend's home for dinner is a time when you drank a lot - get a rain check this time. Protecting your sobriety is the most important thing you are doing right now. Take care of you! Don't worry about everyone else right now.