“Hey!” Olive bellowed in their face, the volume she chose hardly necessary, “Order up or I’m moving on.” Whatever the person was wrapped up in, she really didn’t want to bother wasting her time figuring out. There were drinks to be ordered, and more importantly: tips to be made. “Well? What do you want?” she pressed, peaking down the bar at someone waving frantically for her. ‘That fucker’s a shitty tipper,’ she reminded herself about the one attempting to nab her attention, holding her index finger up at them as her form of acknowledgment.

Me: So,
in other words, reject the facts… this really fucking pisses me off
that this shit is circulating online. There is such a thing as quiet BPD
and I know many with it and they’re AMAZING people. But a lot of people
have “regular” BPD which means they have the violent, manipulative, and
abusive tendencies that BPD is known for. I recently dated someone with
“regular” BPD (for lack of a better term) and it was so short lived
because of his anger and the way he treated me – which was absolutely
horrible – I should have left earlier in the relationship but whatever
(didn’t know he had BPD until I got close enough to see all the red
flags clear enough). And I really don’t even want to begin to talk about
the rest but whatever… I know someone who is a psychopath from birth
and he SEEMS nice but I stay FAAAAR away from him because, like all
paychopaths, they will lie, manipulate, and hurt people eventually and I
have already seen it throughout our interactions. This is just the
reality. People with sociopathy and NPD are the same in that they will
never care about other people like you and me care about people. I’ve
been in a relationship with a full-blown sociopath, and another
relationship with a person who has NPD with sociopathic tendencies, and
another with BPD, NPD, and sociopathic tendencies as well. All those
relationships were abusive, toxic, and absolute nightmares. HPD and BPD
are kind of similar… I’ve also known a handful of women with it and
the friendships I’ve had with them have been an absolute roller coaster
ride from hell.

This kind of shit online will hurt victims of
abuse. A lot of codependents will see this and will see it as, “oh,
they’re just in pain… I’ll support them.” And then they WILL fall
victim to their manipulations and abuse. This is absolute bullshit and I
wanna punch a hole through the screen whenever I see shit like this.
Un-fucking-believable.

They have to define “stigma” and they have
to define “support”. Because vulnerable people will see this and most
likely see it like they view the rest of the world: with a lack of
boundaries… or even no boundaries at all.

This is dangerous.

Most of these blogs are run by people with these personality disorders
too… which begs the question, is this a manipulation? Because a lot of
the time I see these people taking the victim roll like Teal has done
and has continued doing. Some of them are more overt and don’t give a
fuck but too many of them know how to play the system to get what they
want.

I’d like to hear from the psychologists in this group… I
want to hear your expertise on this subject as well as your opinion on
this Tumblr post. Thanks.

I posted this in a group I’m in that focuses on cult-groups and cult dynamics (so we talk a lot about cluster B personality disorders) to see what they had to say to it. Here are their responses:

“Kent, a former neo-Nazi,
credits an African-American parole officer named Tiffany Whittier with
helping him to see beyond skin color and changing his views about white
supremacy.

“If it wasn’t for her I would have seeped back into it,” said Kent. “I look at her as family.”

Whittier, 45, even inspired Kent, 38, to take down the Nazi flags he had
hanging in his living room and replace them with smiley faces.

“I’m not here to judge him. That’s not my job to judge. My job is to be that positive person in someone’s life,” Whittier said.

Added Kent, “When you wake up and see a smiley face, you’re going to go to work and you’re going to smile.”

Kent now works full-time on a chicken farm in Colorado, where all his co-workers are Hispanic.

“Before all this, I wouldn’t work for anybody or with anybody that
wasn’t white,” said Kent. “[Now] we have company parties, or they have
quinceañeras, I’m the only white guy there!”

Redemption Ink, a national non-profit that offers free removals of
hate-related tattoos, helped connect Kent with Fallen Heroes Tattoo in
Colorado to begin the 15-hour process of covering his swastikas. The
sterile environment is new to Kent who had his previous ink work done in
prison.

“I’ve never, never, never been inside of a tattoo shop getting a professional tattoo,” he said.

Kent believes the painful process will help him move forward after
spending years as a member of a violent skinhead group based in Arizona.
As a father of two young children, Kent also hopes his children will
see the world differently.

“I don’t want my kids to live the life I lived and live with hate,” said
Kent. “I want my kids to know me for who I am now—a good father, a hard
worker, and a good provider.””