I don’t know – I’ll tell ya when we get there. Right now we sometimes sleep separately for a part of the night because the baby’s teething and I need some semblance of sleep before work. And that way when the oldest wakes up, I’m closer to his room and can tell him what to do without him running around the entire apartment – since he wakes up earliest, he’s then less likely to disturb my husband and the baby if I’m right here in the next room.

My parents slept in twin beds from the time we 1st lived in a house. They had been married 6 years and had 3 children. It may have been because they both worked changing shifts or because there were always babies to attend or because they just needed a good night’s sleep. It didn’t seem their relationship mouldered or died because they had 3 more children in the next 7 years. Then came the pill or there might have been twice as many of us.

I can’t sleep without low-level noise, or I will continuously think, but my husband can’t sleep with low-level noise. He sometimes sleeps in a different room if he isn’t getting the sleep he needs to function the next day.

My grandparents, on the other hand, still sleep in the same room, despite my grandfather’s snoring that shakes the rafters. Each couple decides for themselves how best to handle the situation. I know that some older couples no longer require sex to bond them, so it does not adversely affect thier relationship if they aren’t sleeping in the same bed (although, sleeping together bonds people, too).

Different for different people. Sometimes a health condition encourages this. Some couples just don’t like sleeping together (I’ve read this). I recently read an article that said men really like sleeping alone and that they rest better that way.