Archive for the ‘Valuing People’ Category

1. All through the ages, from birth to teens and young people, they all need respect, unconditional love and continual affection.

2. One of the most need in teenagers are unconditional love and acceptance.

3. Teenage years is a modern age.

4. A person is a person no matter how small, whether 1yr old, 5yrs old, 15yrs old, 20yrs old. Teenagers too are people, just with a different mindsets, new generations, new methods, new hair styles, new fashion, and modern age.

5. Teenagers need more freedom than younger kids, they are not to be controlled like younger children.

6. Family members, fathers, mothers, guardians, and others are not to be frightened by strange new behaviors of teenagers.

7. They don’t need to be lectured in everything.

8. They need freedom to share whatever they feel, and whatever they faced, and what’s happening, without being judged.

9. When they don’t receive enough attention, not a spectacular or judgemental, but a loving attention, they can be motivated to do wrong things to get attentions, especially from parents and guardians.

10. Because of not respecting them, not enough affections and love, too much controlling and legalistic, being lectured in everything, not being understood in their modern age, not enough attentions, they could get rebellion even in their adulthood. They needed to be trust, and believe in them.

11. It is important to remember that we do not scold children, teenagers and young people with bad words or harsh voice, it will stir up anger in them, which can lead to anger problem, rebellion and sin.

Anger is one of the way that can lead to rebellion and sin, they need to be respected and with gentleness.

12. Calling them with bad nick names can spoil their emotional health and potentials God placed in them while we do not know, and while they themselves do not know, and can spoil their confidence and self image. They need to be respected.

13. We need to remember that we do not shame them in public, in communities or before others. That can destroy their potentials, strength, their abilities and who they are. While we thought and they themselves thought that there’s no bad side effects, it destroys their emotional health from the hidden part.

14. It is the age we can teach them about sex education, for it is the age they started getting attracted with their opposite sex.

15. We are not suppose to direct the future destiny of teenagers and young people. Even if they don’t know yet what they want to do in the future “It’s alright, it’s Ok”.

God has a plan and a purpose for them, we need to trust and believe that God will lead them in their own personal destiny.