Girls, Why are so many ladies worried about how they look?

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I don't exactly know why but I feel that the media and everything like show how a pretty woman should look like and since most of the woman don't fit in this standard we are frustrated.Im not confident about myself and I know that I should be but I don't how to be. Like its easy to lose confidence but earn some is not that easy. In general a woman will be judge directly (by women or men) more by her physical appearance than by for example her performances at work or at a sport.

Personality is really important but physical appearance is also. Its sure that judging someone only by their physics is not a good thing but at the end physics counts. When you're attracted to someone there needs to be something about their appearance thats attractive.

Thank you. I feel too fat, not pretty enough, too small, my boobs are too big etc.. I know its different in some countries but for example in Europe and especially where I live (switzerland) when you buy clothes it's a real struggle. Bras, Swimsuit, all kinds of clothes, there's like a standard, and if you're not in that standard, you can feel it and see it. Its like they made clothes for only some type of girls and the other part they have to deal with it.

see i can under stand that and do see where your coming from, im from the UK and normally the largest sizes are from certain shops only, or if your smaller than average you'll struggle. From what you have said i see nothing wrong with how you look

one word. Self-discipline. Even if the whole society is against you, you can stand as an imovable mountain and stay loyal to your own values and beliefs. i don't wait for that revolution that you mention. i already do my own personal revolution. i'm not implying i'm going out as an unwashed hippie, but i also have my boundaries and persoanl preferences to how much value i'll put on these things... .

One reason is because if we don't look a certain degree of beautiful the guys don't even want to ask us what time it is much less start a conversation and get to know us. Only the good looking girls get asked out. When it comes to getting a job between 2 candidates, one very smart but ugly and one very pretty but not that smart the pretty one will get the job, the raise, the promotion... etc. If you have a killer bod you can get around the not so pretty face sometimes especially if you've got a big rack. Guys will talk to your tits instead of you and the only eye contact is his eyes on your tits. It's been going on for decades and will probably continue to do so for decades more. It's just a fact of life.

Because of the society and when I say society I mean other people who judge and criticize women solely based on the looks.Example-- friend of mine, in her late 30's, is dating a guy who's 26. She looks great. In fact, they both looks about the same age.The minute people find out how old she is, they keep making comments that pretty soon she's going to look like his grandma, that he's going to leave her, etc.All nasty comments based on looks. So this is why we women worry. Because no matter how good you look, there is always something people will pin on you.

Exactly right. The thing is, nobody makes an issue of that when they see an ugly old man with a pretty young girl. It's just wrong and sexist to criticize women when it comes to age and say nothing about men.

You're right. My biggest problem with that is more often is women who trash other women. Men stick together while women are each other's biggest enemy.That's why I prefer to be friends with guys. More fun and no stress :)

it's been like that since the beginningsociety has always valued women on looks first, then everything elsewith the advent of social media giving girls a chance to post nothing but their best pics, it's definitely exacerbated

that is true all photos are glorified but i feel they shouldn't be, would it make much difference if the food in recipe books was the same but just a natural pic? i have always hated the phrase the first taste is with they eye. I once run an experiment where i blindfolded a few customers and made them all the same dish, once before blindfolding them, so it was plated beautiful and tjhen blindfolded, none of them could find any difference

@scuff1986 lol you took her in very deep waters for what she is used to. this getting blind phrase. it is true about everything. what do we have left, as humans, if everything external and superficial is taken from us? what do we boil down to? what are the inner treasures of our psyche? looks wither, these things though stay forever. but as a man you also have to understand ladies cannot attract men with character alone. so we have to place some emphasis there as well. some women might dedicate their whole life there but it's a temporary pursuit.

@levantine99 which i can respect, and i do see that women now a days do find it hard to attract via personality alone, it just makes me sad that the world has gone shallow. Its like our my basic instincts have been taken away and we are left with what only others want us to see and believe

Attraction is based on looks at first. And someone caring about their looks tell me they have confidence. I dont have a type other than intelligence, gets my sense of humor, and is kind and that we have attracton towards eachother

Personality is more important. Looks fade. I was just saying that if you take care of yourself physically it shows more (at least to me) than you care about your appearance but also high self esteem, confidence, and healthiness (depending on if they work out or not)

Because we are taught since kids that all we have to offer is beauty and our bodies. Even though it shouldn't be this way , many people still view women like that. It's sick , but thank god for feminism !!

see i dont agree with women being treated like that and am in the middle of a long argument where i work to stop the female watiresses being treated differently and being made to wear less for to have there job