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November, 2009

Family matters and I am not talking about the show. We all know that with a family comes drama, fights, disagreements and conflict, but in the end most of us know that no matter what, family comes first. When you think of family, they are the individuals that hold us together. They are the glue to our very existence. When we need them they are the first ones there by our side, through the good, bad and ugly.

I can’t even envision what I would be, without the values that make me through my parents. Of course we are all different, but with diversity comes culture, comes variety. We all can gain positive reinforcement and are provided with structure and guidance through our family.

What would we ever do without family? I personally know that through thick and thin, whether being miles apart I would always have my family by my side.

What is the definition of family; –noun 1. parents and their children, considered as a group, whether dwelling together or not. 2. the children of one person or one couple collectively: We want a large family. 3. the spouse and children of one person: We’re taking the family on vacation next week. 4. any group of persons closely related by blood, as parents, children, uncles, aunts, and cousins: to marry into a socially prominent family. 5. all those persons considered as descendants of a common progenitor. 6. Chiefly British. approved lineage, esp. noble, titled, famous, or wealthy ancestry: young men of family. 7. a group of persons who form a household under one head, including parents, children, and servants.

When reading that it sees pretty black and white, cold almost, but with family comes love. And that is the basis, in which we see family. We don’t look at the word family and think black and white, we see the bigger picture. The categories that make us what we are. The nurturing, the compassion, the love, the respect. With those, the making of a family is easy.

I come from a different breed than my husband. He indeed is a wonderful father, but I definitely believe that he learned what love was through his path of life. Through the women that he has been in relationships with, through his children. I do not believe that he learned love through his family. He may disagree with me on this issue, but from what I see he and I were raised with different principles.

Family for me represents our strengths, they teach us wisdom, they give us values, family as a whole are seen as love.

What is the definition of love then; –noun 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. 3. sexual passion or desire. 4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; 5. (initial capital letter) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid. 6. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one’s neighbor. 7. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books. 8. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love. 9. the benevolent affection of God for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.

When reading that I see my family, but I absolutely do not see my husband’s family. It is really sad, that my husband hasn’t had the same kind of up-bringing as me. I have had the fortune of having a wonderful set of parents, and through all of life’s rides, great siblings.

My in-laws have somewhere down their path of life, miscommunicated love. They have forgotten that family comes first. They have forgotten that their children and grandchildren are people. Human beings. They have forgotten that people have feeling; they have forgotten that their children, that they have brought into the world, are still and always will be their children. Young or old, their children need love, affection and encouragement. My husband definitely didn’t receive any positive re-enforcement from his family. I find that this is so sad.

We all need to be loved, we all need to be respected. So next time you think that you don’t have time, and things are an inconvienence, remember you to may need something in return. Help is a two way street, and family should always be there!! No matter what!

Every now and then I get a forward that just makes me smile inside!! So I received this one to my hotmail account and I enjoyed it so much, I wanted to share it with you. Who comes up with this stuff?A mother is driving her little girl to her friend’s house for a play date.‘ Mommy ,’ the little girl asks, ‘how old are you?”Honey, you are not supposed to ask a lady her age,’ the mother replied.
‘It’s not polite.’

‘OK’, the little girl says,
’How much do you weigh?’

‘Now really,’ the mother says,
’those are personal questions and are really none of your business.’

Undaunted, the little girl asks, ‘Why did you and Daddy get a divorce?’

Let’s talk about sex!! Tell me, when is it too soon to have sex? I have friends from all different age ranges, and it is compelling to hear some of the conversations that they have, in discussing when it is too soon to have a sexual relationship, with the person that they are seeing. So, when actually is it to soon to have sex?

I find that some women are very needy and for whatever reason they don’t have much self-respect. They seem to think that a man is what makes them significant. Well excuse me, I thought that we were living in a generation where we could do whatever we wanted. Aren’t we supposed to have this ideology that because it’s the 2000’s we can be a mother, a career woman and still juggle being a daughter, friend and confidont, without a man?

I hear young woman say in regards to their new relationships, well I am not having sex until we have been together for a month, or two months, or three months, what is that? When has it become such a scheduled event?

A friend of mine is seeing this new fellow and managed to have the “serious talk”, with him, with demands such as, I am not having sex with you until we have been together for three months and that he has to take a STD (sexually transmitted disease) test. Well, I completely agree that anyone that has had multiple partners, MUST, I repeat MUST take an STD test, both people. I mean if she can wait a whole 3 months before giving herself to this man, that, let me remind you, she has only known for three months, then I believe that it probably hasn’t been her first time engaging in sexual activity in such a short span.

I have been brought up with very strong religious opinions and beliefs, but what I want to know is what year did sex before marriage become so conventional? When did our society disregard humility? When did our men and women lose dignity? How and when did we become so numb to morals? I deem that numbers do matter, and once you end up with the one that you have fallen madly in love with, the one you are meant to be with, you will wish that you were their one and only. You will then wish that you could have been the one to explore and have sexual discovery with your partner.

Then there are people from the generations of the 40’s, 50’s and 60’s that seem to believe that they can go for the plunge because they are older and wiser. That they know what love is or that because they have life experiences that somehow they aren’t capable of getting hurt or used. They believe that younger people don’t have the mature capability to love or be loved. That is nothing but a false perception.

Well, I am sorry but there is nothing that makes me believe that one group is any better than another. Sex, is sex, regardless of the emotional connection or philosophy.

So many people say that you have to “dip your feet in the water”, or “you have to taste all the flavours to know which kind you want”, well these “flavours”, are allowing women to have multiple children with different men.

I mean, men and women use to wear chastity belts, and what, now that it is off, it’s a free for all. Come on, give me a break, have some will-power, some self-restraint. What’s wrong with waiting awhile? Who unlocked the chastity belt? Why are we sexually engaging in one night stands? Why are we allowing ourselves to be a number on someone’s bedpost?

People cheat because they are missing something from their relationship, and well if you hadn’t have explored with everyone else, then perhaps your relationship wouldn’t have been so tedious and/or exasperating. Think about it, how and when did we become so numb to morals? Tell me, when is it too soon to have sex?

Word Of The Moment

I am a lover of words. I do admit that I am not very dexterous about using them in sentences, but when I am reading a book and I see a great word it makes me smile. Words that flow so well in a paragraph and I think to myself, what I wonderful word.

So as often as I can, I will try to share with you the words that do it for me. :)