Why would my ex husband that is now remarried try to find what I'm doing and keep tabs on me?

Our kids are grown and over 18 - we have no reason to even talk anymore. He has tried twice now. First time I just sloughed it off and didn't reply but then he asked me about another part of my schedule. I quickly brought up my trainer and how hard he works me etc to get him to go away since we were at work. I'm like dude you are remarried you don't need to be talking to me women don't like the ex being around trust me. I know.

Thank you for being one who always makes me regret ever asking a question here. I made myself clear I have told him he keeps coming back and asking. My question is what makes an ex be stupid and come back after all this time and now wants to know when I'm off work and where I workout

"First time I just sloughed it off and didn't reply but then he asked me about another part of my schedule. I quickly brought up my trainer and how hard he works me etc to get him to go away since we were at work. I'm like dude you are remarried you don't need to be talking to me women don't like the ex being around trust me." You told him that HE doesn't NEED to be talking to you (but he is the one who decides what he needs.) You did not say "I don't want to talk to you," and, in fact, you did engage him in conversation. Right?

Some people have difficulty with letting go of the past. We see many posts on this site from people asking about remaining friends with an ex (which I think is always a bad idea unless you have children together.) Him wanting to have conversation with you doesn't invariably mean that he wants to strike up any romance with you, although that COULD be his intention.

My only problem is I try to be polite because we work together and have to be careful. Also keep peace for the kids. yes I have told him he needs to stay away. So it isn't like I haven't made that clear to him. Using another man and telling him about someone im not involved with seemed to be the only thing that pushed him away. But again this entire scenario reminds me why I don't ask questions here much. Unless I go into grave details assumptions are made and well opinions are useless. Older yes wiser is a stretch. Have s good life

personally I don't think you could of made it more clear to him that he don't need to be talking to you and as you're children have grown up there isn't really much of a connection there unless he still wants to be friends with you