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Breakup Sex

Why it's monumental: It's like the day before a
diet. Tomorrow I'll start, but today I'm going to enjoy one last order
of chicken wings. You've decided together that the relationship isn't
working, but what the hey, one last tryst won't hurt anyone. And it
winds up being better than any you've had in the past 6 months for two
reasons.

One's physical: Fisher says that there's some speculation
among researchers that in so-called last-chance copulation, a man may
unknowingly alter the levels of certain hormones in his semen, and that
may trigger his partner to ovulate spontaneously. In other words, your
subconscious tries to hold on to the commitment by potentially
impregnating her, even though you don't want to.

The other reason is
psychological: "When you know you're never going to see someone again,
you want to leave her wanting you—and you'll do anything to drive
her out of her mind," says Cadell. "So you both end up concentrating on
being uninhibited."

Have it tonight: To make a woman less inhibited, try to reduce her tension, says Brame. Try releasing it in her body—and in her brain.

Clean out the refrigerator (or anything that shortens her to-do
list). Showing thoughtfulness and initiative will make her a more
willing sex partner, says Paul Joannides, author of Guide to Getting It On.
While researching his book, Joannides talked to a female "escort" who
had a valuable insight about her customers: "She said, 'I don't get it.
These guys would get a lot more sex at home if they'd spend their money
on a maid or cleaning service rather than spending it on me.'"

When massaging her, focus only on her earlobes, hands, and lower
back—the unsung erotic spots. Hit the lower spine not only because
that's where she stores a lot of tension, but also because you'll reach
her pleasure zones in a more indirect path. Brame says, "This area is a
nerve center with connections all over, so rubbing her lower spine
could make her feel tingly in front."