Neighbour telling me Ive been rude to his wife etc...

Do you have a written agreement with them over the work they're undertaking?

yes but without any date of completion which I asked for but the surveyor said we didn't need as there wouldn't be a problem and now the surveyor has gone all sheepish he was just a money grabbing ****hole which luckily I didn't have to pay for which is probably why he's a such a useless waste of space...

I'm neither spineless or anything else for that matter (you talkin to me ?)
I dont have the energy to have a neighbor dispute it all adds up to a big fat nothing...so yes if being polite etc makes me feel better then im all up for that at least I know i haven't been a ctnu

Try adn sort it all out in a 'let's all be freinds and we can reach a conclusion we're all happy with' way.

You can escalate it from there in the future but trying to back off from 'I'll be round with a load of *really* angry IT blokes on MTB's to sort you out forthwith' is tricky.

See what happens now and go from there.

I might mention the cost of a new washing machine being pushed on to them if it's not fixed sooner rather than later if there isn't an immediate attempt to improve weather proofing after your email, though.

You've got a builder / neighbour who's leaving nails all over your garden and left you with a knackered washing machine - generally taking the pi%%. I'lld be taking a slighly more robust, yet still polite approach and not writting a defensive (almost appologetic) email.

I will certainly post the outcome the builders are rendering the wall as I speak and lead flashing has been added to the roof ! All this should have been done weeks ago !
Hopefully some felt later this week...

Don't know if others have said it but the email makes you sound a bit spineless, a bit 'wet'.

As for If I had wanted to be petty I would have complained about all the nails that were left in my garden and on the grass, I have young children that like to play in the garden and the thought of them falling onto a nail in the grass or stepping on one is not something id like to ever imagine happening to them well you just did.

I think the wording is all very passive aggressive, with a pinch of lacking backbone.

Putting it down in writing in an email,instead of at least trying to explain your position over a cuppa, is a very poor method of communication when emotions are starting to rise.

IMO you have now backed yourself into a corner without giving an easy compromise. You can win on the building work but lose neighbourly good relations, or you can lose on both counts. I don't see an amicable solution following that email that provides a win/win.

reads like a Fine e-mail to me to the point , polite and offering an olive branch to the neighbours who you will have to live next to for the forseeable future - not really worth falling out with them over this , they may be reasonable and just stressed at the the minute so no need to be a complete arse with them

I would rather live next to you than all the alpha male chest thumpers on here who seem to think the appropriate response is to see who can be the most intimidating rather than attempt to resolve the issue.

Putting it down in writing in an email,instead of at least trying to explain your position over a cuppa, is a very poor method of communication when emotions are starting to rise.

I have tried talking to them asking them in for tea etc when they have been on site to try and sort this out along with numerous calls to them and Ive always had the same answer next week it be done...

reads like a Fine e-mail to me to the point , polite and offering an olive branch to the neighbours who you will have to live next to for the forseeable future - not really worth falling out with them over this , they may be reasonable and just stressed at the the minute so no need to be a complete arse with them

I would rather live next to you than all the alpha male chest thumpers on here who seem to think the appropriate response is to see who can be the most intimidating rather than attempt to resolve the issue.

better not I may knock your building down and rip up your patio and get all arsey with you when you ask for reasonable demands ! thanks for the positive input.

I would rather live next to you than all the alpha male chest thumpers on here who seem to think the appropriate response is to see who can be the most intimidating rather than attempt to resolve the issue.

There's a huge gap between appearing to be a bit of a sap and being aggressive. I wasn't suggesting intimidation, merely appearing list week and writing that 'your feeling have been hurt'.