That is what this site gives me. Hope that someday I will find someone that will like me as is. No excuses, no explanations, no expectations just me. It gives me hope that someday people of size and those that love us will no longer be stereotyped and discriminated against. May not be what you were looking for but thats it in a nutshell for me.

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If I were a carnival prize I would be the gigantic teddy bear

Just look at the activity on the other boards right now. It is childish for the majority to turn flippant if they can't force their of view with brute force in open debate. The minority can't deal with that.

What is a shame is that Dimensions needs to stick together because most of Fat Acceptance thinks that what goes on here is all crap anyway.

William

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((((William)))
i feel you on that...i hate that lurkers can access this....I share some real stuff here, it's a give and take community

Some one once called the BHM/FFA a Cave and that BHM needed to come out of it.

Well people have used caves for protection for a long time and not everyone on Dimensions outside of the BHM/FFA Board is our friend. Well really need to keep up the traffic here and so not to get drowned out by volume and frequency of other voices.

William

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Hi HD

Just look at the activity on the other boards right now. It is childish for the majority to turn flippant if they can't force their of view with brute force in open debate. The minority can't deal with that.

What is a shame is that Dimensions needs to stick together because most of Fat Acceptance thinks that what goes on here is all crap anyway.

I really like this board. I have always liked it's laid back cozy feel. Like EDX I like to come here for a multitude of reasons but mostly because my Alhabet soup of preferences always sort of makes me feel out of touch.

In a sentance I like This board is like a beautiful sleepy southern town. When you walk in the diner the waitress says.

I think that if people start showing some acceptance of the life stories and experiences of others this board could again be a nice place to visit.

William

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I really like this board. I have always liked it's laid back cozy feel. Like EDX I like to come here for a multitude of reasons but mostly because my Alhabet soup of preferences always sort of makes me feel out of touch.

In a sentance I like This board is like a beautiful sleepy southern town. When you walk in the diner the waitress says.

Although I had already become the "big" kid by the time I was 8, it wasn't until puberty that I was interested in weight gain and being a SSBHM. So with a newly blossomed mind (and a 56k modem), I scoured the internet for people who felt the same way--I always knew I couldn't be the only one. The websites back then were all gay-exclusive, with not a singe FFA in sight.

After a LONG search, this was the first website I found for BHMs and female admirers (way back when it had a really crappy message board layout). At first I was just browsing what seemed to be a BBW site until I saw the "BHM/FFA" message board. I had always been somewhat shy about my interests, and while I found other distractions for years, I've decided I finally need to accept myself for who I am and join a community that supports that.

So here I am, and even though it took until just recently to start posting, I am deeply grateful to what the BHM/FFA forum has done for me. =)

i've only been with the site for a short while, but it has done more to help me feel comfortable with myself and my size than just sitting around and talking about it with my friends.

i've always been the big guy, the teddy bear, and it's been fun to know that sometimes my female friends want to hang out because they know i'm pretty much a super-sized body pillow. but in being on this site, i've realized that what i want in life is to be with someone who appreciates me for me and likes the fact that i'm a big guy, because nothing is going to change.

so, in closing, i would just like to say thank you to all of you here on DIMs and on this board for helping me realize that i can always just be me.

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"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when my fear is gone I will turn and face fear's path, and only I will remain." - Frank Herbert's 'DUNE'

I met my sweetie on here, and life has gotten about a million times better, and as mindboggling as it is, she really really digs me. I never would have met her if it weren't for DIMS. Thanks easter bunny, bawk bawk.

If it weren't for DIMs my honey wouldn't of found me. I don't think that bunny's the easter bunny or the cadbury bunny. What's coming out of that bunny, isn't chocolate. And of course I dig you dear, you're totally hawt. Yes, let the deliberate incorrect spelling mock you. *giggles*

__________________A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. -Herm Albright

this website means that not only do I like myself for me but there are others out there who might too. I just wish there was someone who was tangible, not that I dont appreciate all you internet awesomes...

I just found Dims yesterday (thanks to a great book I was reading - this site was listed as a reference) and I already feel better about myself. Knowing that I'm not alone as a BHM/FFA and being a BBW. It's great and I have been enjoying reading the many posts.

I've lurked here on and off for years but finally joined just a few days ago myself. Finally felt compelled to join in the fun. I've been a BHM all my life and never really had a problem finding a date. I've always been super confident about myself but after a mess divorce I lost that confidence and am rediscovering it nicely here.