Exploring Female Sexual Fantasies

How To Explore Her Deepest Fantasies & Make Them A Reality

Well, the bearded shrink was wrong; studies of human sexual behavior have proven exactly the opposite. Sexual fantasies have been shown to be associated with high libido as defined by high sex drive and orgasm frequency.

This was especially true for women: those who had more sexual fantasies also had higher sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. Pleasure fuels a desire for more pleasure. And while there exists a common false belief that men daydream about sex every seven seconds or so during their waking hours, women also frequently fantasize, especially after they have become aroused. Indeed, women who have sexual fantasies during arousal are much more likely to experience orgasms than women who do not.

So don't feel guilty if you find yourself fantasizing about Angelina Jolie while making love to your girlfriend or wife. While you are humping away at your imaginary Angelina, she is probably dreaming about being ravished by Brad Pitt on some deserted island in a modern-day remake of From Here to Eternity.

In fact, research has shown that women are just as likely as men to have sexual fantasies during intercourse; and just like men, women often fantasize about having sex with other partners.

what does that say about her?

Just because she is fantasizing about someone else does not mean she is unhappy with her man. For reasons similar to those that cause men to imagine themselves with other partners, the "spice" of the fantasy simply adds to her arousal and provides that extra "oomph" to bring her over the top.

While she might be plenty happy with her man's performance, dreaming that it is Brad Pitt who is giving her that pleasure just enhances its orgasmic potency.

what do women fantasize about?

One person at a time

Nevertheless, female fantasies are different from male ones in several major ways. Men tend to fantasize about a greater number of sexual partners, and many men like to "swap" their imagined partners, while women tend to "stay" with one specific person during their fantasy.

Vivid fantasies, free of precise details

Men tend to focus on activities and body organs during their fantasies, which led researchers to describe male fantasies as consisting of "sex acts and parts." Even though women's fantasies are just as vivid, they are frequently unable to provide the same descriptive details about the objects of their fantasy.

Women's fantasies are also less explicit — women are far less likely than men to visualize their imagined lover's genitals than men are. Instead, women appear to be more involved with their own emotional responses than with the characteristics of their imaginary partners. Their fantasies frequently include descriptions of their imagined selves, such as: "I look so sexy wearing my favorite blue lingerie that he can't take his eyes off me." Women are also more likely to describe feelings that their fantasies evoke: "I felt happy and free."

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