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A woman has taken to popular parenting site Mumsnet to seek advice about her cheating partner.

The “devastated” mum-of-one said she discovered her husband had cheated just two weeks after they got hitched.

She said they had been together for seven years, had a six-month-old daughter an genreally seemed "happy".

Posting on Mumsnet she said: “We got married 4 weeks ago now. 2 weeks ago I go onto our family computer, and find within his e-mails messages from a woman stating ‘last night was amazing, I can't wait until next time' as well as similar replies from my husband.

“I was gobsmacked and confronted him straight away.”

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The unfaithful dad, who also cheated when his wife was pregnant, blamed his behaviour on their dwindling sex life.

The post continued: “He told me he did it because we've not been the same since having a child, and we've been pushing each other away.

“He told me he paid this woman (an escort he seeked out online) £50 and met her at a cheap hotel for an hour, and that was it.”

The scorned wife then emailed the women he had cheated with and demanded to know everything.

“She told me he booked a posh hotel with a four poster bed & paid £250 for the night with her & she wanted more," the woman explained.

“He had told her he wasn't married, had no kids, lied about his occupation & said he had so much money he didn't now what to do with it all."

“Two weeks prior to this, he'd been on a course with work & our daughter was ill then, & he was short with me on the phone the whole time when I was crying I opulent cope alone, and now know those 2 weeks he was calling her for hours on end, it makes me so so sad.”

The mum then went on to explain that she had already forgiven him for devious behaviour in the past and said she was tempted to cheat too.

She said: “He's been treated good at home from the moment we met. I run his baths, set his clothes out, support him in his hobbies, work etc. I cook, clean...he doesn't have to lift a finger. I also have a good sex drive, so it can't be that I'm frigid.

“I almost feel jealous of the night he gave her. He said he was trying to relive our wedding night, as we had a room with a 4 poster bed, but I fell asleep on the wedding night because I'd been up so so early etc, so I didn't put out.

“Please help me think of a way back to happy. I'm even considering booking a male escort myself, just to get even, and then we can start a fresh from there.”

Mumsnet users were quick to express their sympathy for the woman and many said the offence was unforgivable.

One said: “Sorry you are in this situation. I couldn't forgive if I were you. It's no wonder you don't trust him.”

While another added: “Wow. So he is blaming you and your child as the reason why he had sex with another women, used family money?

“Think of yourself and DD, and your happiness. Forget him and the escort.

“Cheaters have a great way of making themselves seem the victim. Having a child is hard, but NOT an excuse to cheat.”

Others said they didn’t believe his story about the prostitute anyway and advised her to leave him.

“She wasn't a prostitute. He is a liar,” added another Mumsnet user.

“And you my love, are setting yourself up for a lifetime of unbridled misery by staying with this absolute tosser.”

One opted for tough love, calling her “pathetically grateful”.

They said: “You're exhibiting something of a panic reaction at the moment driven by the fear of losing this man.

“You're having sex with him, running round after him and seem pathetically grateful that he's 'doing more for his DD’.”

People around you are suspicious. If you’ve been warned by friends or family that your partner is cheating, there’s a huge possibility that they are playing away. You aren’t their number one. Another warning sign is if you aren’t the first person they talk to about their day it's because they could be talking to someone else.Your partner talks obsessively about a new colleague at work. While they may just be friends, you should be cautious if they start ranting about one particular female colleague at work.Your partner is always working late. All of a sudden they have a new enthusiasm for work and often stays late to 'help out'.Your partner changes their appearance. Cheaters are likely to put more effort into their looks if they’re trying to impress someone else. Watch out for changes in figure, posture, make-up and fashion choicesYour partner is never around. but when they are you are lavished in expesnive gifts.Your sex life is just different. If your partner really is cheating then it could drastically change your sex life together – but not necessarily for the worse.Your partner has gone quiet. If they're trying to cover something up then they are less likely to share all the intimate details of her life with you.Your partner is too aggressive or too nice. If they fly off the handle when you try and have a calm discussion about your relationship it could mean that they feel guilty Your partner accuses you of being jealous/crazy. People who are cheating often try to turn the table and acuse their partner of being paranoid. This is a classic ploy to make you doubt yourself, but unless you're habitually jealous you should trust your oYour partner is not present. Even when they are physically present, they are off in their own world and not really with you.

A recent study revealed that almost half (45%) of British men admit to straying from their significant other at least once.

And a whopping 21% of UK women have also had a sexual affair, according to the survey commissioned by Italian website incontri-extraconiugali.com.

To help you define the line between suspicion and truth a recent Ask Me Anything Reddit thread asked “from personal experience what are the signs your partner is cheating?”