Embarrassed to tell family I'm preg with #4

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aston199 wrote:

I'm currently 9 weeks preg with baby number 4.

I have a 4 yr old, 2/12 yr old and a 1 yr old. Each baby was planned including this one however I feel a sense of embarrassment in telling family and friends. I'm worried that they will judge my husband and I.

Has anyone else felt this way? , how have others reacted to your news of being preg with #4?!

My husband and I have been together for 10 yrs and are a very strong family unit.

I think it's awesome and way to go having them so close together. I'm on # 8 and in no way having my life together but no matter if I did or not someone always has something smart to say, this is your life period!!

I feel the same way. I have a 14yr old, 9 year old and a 6 year old. This one wasn't planned and I'm 39. I am so afraid of being judged. My husband and I are shocked but happy for #4. but don't think my family will feel the same way.

I felt the same way, I have a10,7,and 4 year old boys and I'm 26wks along with a girl. I feel like I have to apologize when I tell people LOL I don't know why. I work with the elderly and it has been harder to tell them specially the ones that never had kids, some of them I haven't even told yet. I'm really excited about this baby even if it wasn't planned so I'm trying to focus on that instead of what people think.

I wouldn't be embarrassed. I think it's awesome! What's wrong with expecting a fourth child? We are on baby number 3, I would love a fourth but my hubby says he's done. So don't worry, share the exciting news when your ready.

I'm pregnant with number 5. We have already told my husbands family. They are all pretty much on board with it and excited for us. I have severe hesitation in telling my side because when I told my mom I was pregnant last year with number 4, she expressed total and utter disappointment. So I have no mount she will react the same way with this. I've even somewhat joked to my husband that maybe I won't tell her? Lol. She moved 9 hours away to live with my sister who is going through a divorce and hasn't even seen my 8 month old. I don't even know if I'll get to see her again in her lifetime since she has no reason to come back up here. She doesn't even call to check on me or my kids, which makes me feel like she doesn't care anyways. I've seriously debated not telling her, but I feel guilty for that. I know how you feel.

Congrats and yes i feel same way. I'm 6weeks pregnant with baby #5. I have two girls and two boys. Now days ppl think one or two children is ok but after that you get weird looks and comments. I try not to let them get to me. I'm happy and love my children. I'm waiting a little longer to tell ppl due to comments but also because I've had miscarriages before. This is actually my 9th pregnancy.

It's so sad how society sees children as a burden these days. I'm 27 weeks with number five. We have 2 girls/2 boys and can't wait to see what our 'tie breaker' is. I also have decided that I don't care what people think. I don't understand those who choose to only have two kids, just like they don't understand me.

I feel you!! I am sooo stressed we planned our new baby and are so excited but i dread telling our families! He only has one brother and they are not close. My fil random called me last week asking about the girls and said i hope tour factory is closed! I am so pissed and dont want to tell anyone. My hubby on the other hand is soo excited he told his friends and coworkers already and i made him promise not to tell his family.

I'm 30, married 10 years, filed for divorce 4 times (last time was the beginning god this past July), and have had a rocky marriage due to getting married young and I was the only one who grew up. My DH decided to be the man we need him to be. We have three kids: 10, 8, and 4 1/2. So he put himself in counseling to help himself. He's been faithfully going now twice a week for 3 months. He and I are doing the best we ever have. However, in the mean time we have decided to get pregnant and "do it right" this time. Meaning I told him I felt cheated because he never celebrated any pregnancy with me before (4 pregnancies-3 kids and 1 mc). We are older now (30 & 34) and can give this baby a better up binging from the get go. There is a big age gap with the others. They will be 11, 8 1/2, and 5.

I'm hesitant to tell my mom (foster mom - who I lived with from 16-18). She's always not liked my DH because I've always vented to her. She is on board with me setting over and getting divorced. Well, I've dropped the divorce and am now expecting. So I am sure she greatly disapprove and do forth. However, she doesn't call or come to see me (I'm now 50 miles away and I know she comes here and passes through.) Which hurts my feeling a bit because she baby's others. Whatever.....

We are happy about this baby regardless. On top of that, my mil has recently became a Jehovah's Witness and now doesn't celebrate anything. Nice. It broke my sons heart because she wouldn't come to his birthday party. I tried I explain that grandma doesn't celebrate birthdays or holidays. My son looked heart broken. Grr. I'm a bit too hormonal to deal with this change.

I am excited for you guys!! We have been married 12 years and it was ruff!!!! Married at 21 filed for divorce at 24 the past 9 years have been amazing! But it took work!! Or daughters are 11--5-2Trust me people in my family were planning my divorce party and seriously treated my hubby like crap for a while but he got it together and it is amazing just to see the growth! Be strong and happy!! What got us threw it was a circle my husband made up . He and i are the circle NO ONE ever comes in that circle so we don't tell our business to family. Cause sometimes people want u to fail. Its sad! That some are keeping their distance but actions speak louder than words so be happy keep ur stuff private with u and the hubby and u guys will make it through!!!

Haha I'm in a similar boat... Hubby has told all his coworkers and people that work for him, lol I'm worried it will get out to others tho, I'm still not ready to tell ppl yet. And at 22 weeks with my 4th preg it's getting hard to hide!!!!

When we told my husbands family, they were happy for us, but my mom and sister had a quite less enthusiastic reaction. We got to throw them a curve ball a few weeks later because not only are we expecting #5, we have #6 on board also! I think they all just about fell over when we told them that.

I think it's awesome! We are having baby number 4 too... I was a bit scared to tell my parents for some reason, my husband and I have been married 8 years, and are super committed... But I found it awkward to tell them... They just call me mrs. Rabbit now and my husband ready Freddie.... Lol

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