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questions like this are why they should have a Dad/Man section for them to answer things like this, how would a group of women be able to explain why a man does something, when there's plenty of guys that could give us insight (and maybe they do, they just can't announce themselves here).

Answer by
Anonymous
at 6:53 AM on Mar. 6, 2011

Honestly, if he feels that way, then you should not pursue friendships with other men...Your marriage should come first, and there are very few people who are that secure that they can deal with what you are expecting him to deal with.

Wish I had a magic answer for this one, but I don't. Only that I can relate. My DH has asked me several times to cut my best guy pal out of my life and I've just told him the truth.
I will not.
We've never dated at all, he has nothing to worry about. We've known each other for almost 20 years, so as far as I'm concerned he's here to stay.
And even DH agrees that a woman that would cut someone out of their life like that is not the woman he fell in love with.
I've agreed to to totally honest with him (his ex wasn't and cheated) and I'll do all I can to deal with the fact that he will be jealous and try to be patient.

He doesn't like it, but just like I accept things about him, he has things that he needs to accept about me.
I guess that's just marriage.

Thats sad he has no trust in you to know that even if a male friend wants to be with you that you would say no. You could either not have any male friends or have them and over time he will see he has nothing to worry about.