IVF with Donor Eggs or Donor Embryos Community Group

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What would you do????

Hey girls, I have the option of transfering (if it makes it) the one frozen embie we have left w/ the donor egg cycle or doing FET first.... than doing donor cycle?? As you know, it will be less $$$$ to do it together , RE said he won't charge for frozen part if we do it together w/ donor cycle/ but is it crazy to mix the two??? I hate to say that the frostie probably won't make it, he said he will let it go to blast first , right before we do egg donor cycle to even see if it makes it that far , if it doesn't then theres no issue....but if it does..... uggg. Is it unethical to mix together??? How would we know if it was the one if it works??? Other than doing dna?? I guess I can't worry about it until I get that far!!! There are so many steps before we get that far but what if??????????? Ugggg I hate this. I hate this.. How many people in the world have to make crazy decisions like this?? AHHHHH!!!! Help

Sorry, I can&#039;t advise here! Once again, Vermont is a foreign country! At least, my experiences sometimes feel so different, it seems as though it is a foreign country!

It seems unfair that we have to grabble with choices and decisions most people don&#039;t. But what I know of you so far is that, whatever the decision, what a lucky baby it will be - to have you for a mom! You will have given thought to every possibility, every choice, every idea! Lucky, lucky little one!

That&#039;s a tough situation. Looking at the long run, would you want to have a second child if the donor egg FE took? If so, then I would consider putting both in (as long as there aren&#039;t any concerns about different rH factors).

I would go for it, my one frozen embie I had left from my first DE cycle did not survive the thaw and we had nothing to work with. I would much rather have another plan in place than have to deal with the grief of losing my only one again.I would definatey go with both.

i think you should go with your gut. but i do hear what parothead said about the possiblity of the frozen not surviving and at least you would already have a plan b in the works. if it matters then do the dna test later. all i can say is if it will increase your chances of having a baby, then why not try everything as long as your re doesnt think there is a down side to any of it.

I totally agree with parothead and suzy. You should do anything you can to increase your chances. When I did my last FET, they thawed half the embies...1 didn&#039;t survive the thaw, 1 looked pretty good and the other 2 looked so so. My RE advised me to thaw the rest and I was scared thinking I&#039;d then have no more embies left but as he told me, if there&#039;s one good one in the bunch, you can save both money and heartache by putting them all in together instead of potentially dealing with 2 failures. So I&#039;d go for it.

My first thought was to do them both. Who knows you might even have some to freeze with your donor cycle. And either way, you are looking at using a donor, does the DNA really matter? If your RE is willing to do assisted hatching for free along with a fresh donor cycle you are ultimately saving yourself money. But, go with what you feel is right in your heart. I wish you luck!!!!

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