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Were you always atracted to children? Did you guys always knew about it? Do you guys fantasize with children only? What do you feel when you ser a Child,is it the same as a normal adult when it see a Grown woman\man? Is it romântic and sexual too? What age were you when you find out about it? Is it possíble to be a pedi and not know it? Can a normal heterossexual man change to pedo with ocd? If i'm primarly atracted to Grown woman i cant be one, right? Thanks and sorry, promise its my last tópic!

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I just wrote out a longer reply to you, but you've heard it all before and then asked exactly the same questions again. I really don't know what to suggest to you, because you're completely unwilling to accept any reassurance that's offered to you. Either you ignore it, or you've got memory problems.

One more time. You're not a paedophile. Stop winding yourself up.

"Anybody remotely interesting is mad in some way or another." - The 7th Doctor.

Yes, I can't remember a time when I wasn't attracted to the ages I am now, and I'm not exclusive so that applies to adults too.

Did you guys always knew about it?

Yes but I have come to understand the extent of my feelings for girls much better in the last few years.

Do you guys fantasize with children only?

I don't. I fantasize about adults and children but the fantasies tend to be quite different for each.

What do you feel when you ser a Child,is it the same as a normal adult when it see a Grown woman\man?

It's similar but also different from the way typical heterosexuals see other attractive adults of the opposite sex. I may get an erection when viewing an attractive child especially if they are showing a lot of skin. I'm even more likely to feel the sensations of romantic love though. Those feelings dominate my attraction to young girls.

Physically speaking, childish traits like shiny hair, big eyes, big head, baby soft skin, and just about every other characteristic associated with youth can turn my heart to mush, but not in typical way. What I feel is much closer to romantic desire than normal protective desire.

Is it romântic and sexual too?

Of course. It's more romantic than sexual though.

What age were you when you find out about it?

It became a bit clearer every few years or so. A year ago, at 22, I fell in love with a 10 year old girl and that was the moment I began to truly ask myself if I might be a pedophile.

Is it possíble to be a pedi and not know it?

Yes. You can feel attracted to children but not identify as a pedophile. If you aren't exclusive than It's easy to think that you just haven't met the right person your age yet, but It's unlikely to not notice at least some feelings of attraction early on.

Can a normal heterossexual man change to pedo with ocd?

I don't think so, but I think if someone worries about being a pedophile especially if they are young, they may develop some sexual response to minors due to the anxiety.

GMG wrote:Were you always atracted to children? Did you guys always knew about it?

It's something I figured out as a part of my more general sexual awakening around adolescence.

GMG wrote:Do you guys fantasize with children only?

Nowadays I do. When I was younger I tried a number of fantasies in the process of figuring out what worked at all, and what worked best. Since I'm primarily attracted to prepubescent girls, I eventually stopped bothering fantasizing about adults, since I didn't get as much pleasure out of those fantasies.

GMG wrote:What do you feel when you ser a Child,is it the same as a normal adult when it see a Grown woman\man?

I'm not psychic, so I don't really know what other people feel. When adult attracted individuals have described their feelings to me, it matches pretty well with what I feel about children.

GMG wrote:Is it romântic and sexual too?

I feel both, though various factors both internal to me at the time and external in the environment control to what degree I feel each in a given situation.

GMG wrote:What age were you when you find out about it?

It was sort of a process in my case, and I can't really pin down the moment I knew. I definitely knew I was attracted to little girls before I attached those feelings to the word "pedophilia".

My school's late elementary/early middle school sex education teacher made mention of the myth about being able to cure HIV by having sex with a baby, and my reaction was different from that of the rest of the class. It was only significantly later that I pieced together why my reaction was different.

GMG wrote:Is it possíble to be a pedi and not know it?

It's certainly possible. I didn't know until I tried fantasizing about young children and found that I liked that more than fantasizing about adults. Before I tried that, I didn't know I was a pedophile.

GMG wrote:Can a normal heterossexual man change to pedo with ocd?

That question is a bit above my pay grade, I'm afraid. My experience of pedophilia is as a sexual orientation that hasn't changed particularly much since early childhood. If this is possible, it isn't the path my sexual development took.

Being a pedophile means you're primarily attracted to prepubescent children. If you aren't primarily attracted to prepubescent children, you aren't a pedophile by definition.

Having an occasional passing fantasy does not make you a pedophile, and of course, having a pedophilic sexual orientation doesn't make me a monster either, so there's nothing to be afraid of either way.