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....on the new first lady

Sethe has just killed her baby and attempted to kill the others. She refused to let schoolteacher take them back to Sweet Home -- a brutal (as if there is any other kind) plantation. When schoolteacher sees what she's done, he spits and calls her an animal.

Her. An animal? But not him? Her? The Black woman who refused to let her babies be branded and marked by his hatred?

It was ironic to say the least -- but awfully familiar.

Black women have been every nasty, animalistic savage beast known to man.

Then.

And now.

Michelle Obama has not been spared.

Our country recently elected Donald Trump. He said he kisses beautiful women without their permission, he has a dozen women accusing him of sexual assault and he's admitted that he just grabs women by the pussy.

That is who America elected.

Moreover, American white women elected him. The polls kept saying he had a "woman" problem. They kept saying he was struggling with women. But 53% of white women punched the ticket for Trump.

They told us all something. They said: "we don't care that he's said dangerous things about women and people of color. We just don't care."

Almost immediately, folks started reposting pictures of the new First Lady -- Melania Trump. She's posed nude. We all know that.

And almost immediately after that......the reprimands came down swift and hard by an arbitrary collective. They said we shouldn't "do that" to Melania.

We should not slut shame her.

Well. Listen.

Let me say a few things before I say the thing I want to say.

First of all, I don't believe in sluts. As in -- any woman that wants to get down with the get down is fine with me. If she's safe and it's consensual -- get it girl!

Secondly, I know nothing of Melania Trump's sexual history. I really don't care. It's not my business. And if she had slept her way to the White House I still wouldn't care. Fine.

Thirdly, taking naked pictures doesn't mean anything. It means I made a choice to do what I wanted to do with my body. Melania did the same. Fine.

But what ain't fine is folks running to defend Melania Trump when they've not 1) tried to defend Michelle Obama, and 2) have somehow grown this YUGE femininist conciousness over night.

They talm'bout "she didn't run so leave her out of it," and "slut shaming is always wrong."

Now look. Y'all can say that if you want to, but do not tell Black women SHIT about what to do with and how to handle Melania. Just don't.

Know why?

Because Michelle is ours you hear me?

OURS.

We watched Black men use Michelle for their gain "y'all need to get like the Michelle." But y'all didn't really love Michelle, y'all just loved shaming us.

So when Black men attempt "save" her from the vitriol....yeah....no!

But the worst is when MethAnn and Becky show up trying to tell folks -- Black women -- not to slut shame Melania.

I understand the concern. I do.

There was a time when I would've said the same thing. But AO -- a brilliant thinker and Black woman friend of mine -- stated it perfectly. My sympathies are reserved for Black women.

I have no sisterhood with the vast majority of white women. They proved that on Election Day!!!

Further, they've proven it over the 8 years that The Obamas have been in office.

I never saw them come to Michelle's defense so I have no interest in going to Melania's.

A friend recently asked me if there something that existed between not defending Melania and promoting "f*ck Melania" statements?

And I think that space exists for some people.

But I dare not ask Black women to carve out that space in their virtual spaces or in their psyches.

If anyone is waiting on us to come to the aide of Melania. Don't hold your breath!