Knowing how to kiss a woman will help you build on the attraction with a new girl. Or show your girlfriend exactly how you’re feeling about her. You’ll be moving your lips, but you won’t have to say a word.

How to Kiss a Girl: 5 Steps

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You know the old line about hearing music during a first kiss? Well, it might be more than just a romantic cliché.

Kissing is a lot like music.Jazz, to be precise. You have to master the basics before you can really improvise.

But once you do… well, you know how it goes.

Keep reading to learn how more passionate and enjoyable make outs than ever before. And the confidence boost knowing how to kiss a woman will make you even more attractive to women.

Before you leave the house make a pit stop in the bathroom and get that mouth ready. Brush your teeth to get rid of any remnants of your lunch and freshen your breath. A little mouthwash never hurt either.

Ladies love a man with a beard, but they don’t want a mouth full of mustache when they go in for a kiss. Trim your beard of stray hairs and make sure nothing is hanging over your lips. Tame the tangle with beard oil and watch as her hands drift up for a feel.

Make sure your lips are soft and hydrated by using lip balm. Nothing shuts down a potential kiss like dry, chapped lips. It will make kissing so much more enjoyable for both of you.

Tip 2: Be soft but firm

This might seem like a rookie problem, but even experienced kissers mess up their lip technique.

The key is to have soft lips but to be a firm kisser. Pecks are for grandmas, so don’t purse your lips into a beak. Relax your lips so that they can move and respond to hers.

The firmness comes into play as you switch kissing positions. When you move from lip to lip slightly flex muscles the in your lips. You want to be an active participant in the kiss, so use your lips to part hers. Lean in closer and use the muscles in your lips make your kiss more passionate.

Tip 3: Tame the tongue

Terrible tongue use is the most common complaint women have about the men they kiss. Too much tongue use is sloppy and distracts her from the kiss. Not enough tongue signals a lack of passion and can bore her.

First, open your mouth slightly and gently touch her tongue with yours. This playful touch is the start of more passionate, intimate kissing.

Slowly build the amount of tongue that you use and focus on playing with her tongue. If you’re licking her teeth or the roof of her mouth you’ve gone in too far. Back off a little bit and refocus on her tongue.

Finally, follow her lead. Her body language will let you know if she’s into the kiss, so keep doing the things she shows you she likes.

Watch the way she flirts and be ready to make a move. If you’ve been paying attention to her the right moment will happen naturally.

Tip 2: Be confident

Surprise kisses are great for couples, but your first kiss with a girl should never be a sneak attack.

Face the girl and wait for her to face you. Look from her eyes to her lips to let her know that there is nothing on your mind but kissing her.

If you’re standing, make sure your feet are pointed directly at her. This opens you up for closer physical contact. It also shows that you meant for this kiss to happen and you’re giving all your attention to her.

First kisses are memorable experiences, especially at the start of a relationship. You want to her to remember you as confident, not opportunistic. Acting confident will also make you feel more confident and will make you much more attractive to her.

Tip 3: Hold off on the tongue

Using tongue is a very personal, passionate gesture. Which is great… when the time is right.

Don’t lean in with your tongue out on the very first kiss. Let your lips play with hers for a little while and see how well you connect. If you enter make out mode start to work the tongue in slowly with the “tame the tongue” tip from above.

Show her that you’re attracted to her and she’ll be much more likely make a move.

Tip 3: Lean in

Make kissing you seem like the most natural thing in the world. Leaning in uses your body language to show your desire to kiss her and makes it easier for her to close the gap and lock lips.

4. React to the mood

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The way you kiss your girl should match the mood of the situation you’re in. If the setting is romantic a deep, slow paced kiss is the right call. If the energy is high and passions are flaring, a more energized kiss is the move.

Figure out the mood and then make your move.

5. Get closer

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Show her that you can’t get enough of her by getting in closer. A hand on her check or at the small of her back will make her feel desired and bring her in closer to you for a better, more passionate kiss.

Make her feel like the object of your affection, not your aggression. You want to shower her that you’re into her without forcing anything on her. Bring her in close, but don’t push it if she’s not ready.

How to Make Out With a Girl

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For the most part, the steps for how to make out with a girl are similar to the steps for how to kiss her. You still have to master your technique, match the mood, and bring her in close.

But there’s one important difference… variety.

Master the skills above and you’ll be ready for a make out. But to keep a make out interesting you have to mix things up. Trying changing the way that you hold her or varying your intensity.

Kiss on First Date?

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A kiss on a first date was once considered too forward, but in today’s dating atmosphere two people who share a connection should feel no shame in kissing on the first date.

The key to success is making sure that she’s ready to kiss. If she goes directly inside or into her car, she’s choosing not to create an opportunity for a kiss. But if she lingers she might just be waiting for your move.

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