tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2913239894623085835.post8561849736508683165..comments2013-01-21T19:37:56.514-05:00Comments on Deeply Problematic: Stacy Blahnik killed; Philadelphia Daily News reduces her to trans status and beautyRMJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14239084819919682523noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2913239894623085835.post-19577957203995155612010-11-22T12:15:33.086-05:002010-11-22T12:15:33.086-05:00When are you going to update your website? We mis...When are you going to update your website? We miss you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2913239894623085835.post-70922811523883393452010-11-02T23:26:38.300-04:002010-11-02T23:26:38.300-04:00I agree with RJ.
Also, it pains me to see two of...I agree with RJ. <br /><br />Also, it pains me to see two of my favorite bloggers at odds with each other. I rely on you both in so many ways. Is there some way to move past this?<br /><br />RMJ, please don&#39;t avoid talking about trans issues. People are learning from you... even if it means learning from your mistakes.Amandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15976696261609672395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2913239894623085835.post-42844131384605097232010-10-16T13:29:00.189-04:002010-10-16T13:29:00.189-04:00Weighing in: I think this mistake WAS indicative o...Weighing in: I think this mistake WAS indicative of cis privilege, as Helen G&#39;s name was not simply misspelled or fudged, but was replaced by the name of a cis woman writer who has a fairly loud voice and is regarded as an expert on trans issues despite saying some fairly problematic things (and, you know, NOT being trans herself). Do I think RMJ did this intentionally? No. But as I hope we know, intent is not magic. I don&#39;t think this was malicious, but it is VERY problematic that this cis woman&#39;s name came to her to write down, it was an extremely hurtful and damaging act, and an apology like this was in order. That all said: I think, at this point, RMJ is handling this very well. She made damaging mistakes in both posting the original mis-attribution and in not contacting Helen G to apologize immediately. That&#39;s what happens when you&#39;re an ally with privilege: you make damaging mistakes. You hurt people, and at that point you decide what&#39;s more important, defending yourself and your reputation (and thus, privilege), or trying to not hurt people again. RMJ has made no attempt to defend or excuse her actions, and I commend her for that. I hope she doesn&#39;t take this experience as a reason to avoid trans issues in the future.RJhttp://www.riotnrrdcomics.comnoreply@blogger.com