Guess what? I don't believe it can be done! Many sites, even those using fancy algorithms to match you with your soul mate can help you meet and date dozens of people, if that's all you want. They can even land you a warm body you may believe is your life partner but chances are, you still won't find the right person for you.

Why? Chances are if the right person was standing right next to you, you might not even notice them. Why, again, you ask? Simple. You may not know yourself well enough to know who you are let alone who you is right for you. Most people are too busy running around trying to be "the person they think everyone else wants them to be" to know who and what kind of relationship would work best for them. 5 Ways We Sabotage Our Relationships

Therefore, as I design my dating program and get ready to launch it soon, I realize that some people might be confused regarding the goals of dating smarter.

As I see it, the primary problem with dating these days is that we haven't learned the skills necessary to differentiate between the pitfalls of casual encounters and great matches. We haven't learned the process of developing skills that can lead to a healthy, long-term relationship.

This is not another "match" program. This is about finding and knowing your true self so that as you venture into the vast wilderness that is the dating world you can be properly prepared to date smarter. Why You Can't Change The One You Love

It is my goal for participants in my program to be better prepared for dating. I'd like them to figure out more quickly who might be a good match for them. I will train people with tips, techniques and insights into themselves that will ensure their success in choosing better potential mates more wisely.

In order to be successful in finding the right person, you have to learn how to be the "best person you can be." You must be honest about who that is and who you want to share your life with. Many are running around pretending to be the best person someone else might want. These people are continually disappointed and ultimately become disillusioned with the dating scene when it doesn't work out. 3 Reasons Why Reality Is Better Than Fantasy

Here are five tips to help you find your ideal match:

1. You have to be honest about who you are. Understand what you can bring to the table. What are your strengths and weaknesses in relationships?

2. You have to be honest about what kind of person you want to date. Figure out what your priorities are. What is important to you? Physical attraction? Intellect? Spiritual beliefs? Financial security?

If you’re scared of being alone, chances are you will allow people and relationships to pick you rather than you picking them. You will settle for people who don’t treat you with respect, you will settle for people who don’t share your values and you will ignore all of the Red Flags.
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4. Gambling is never a problem.

5. It's fine to risk your friends' lives for a boyfriend.

Hey, remember when Ariel almost got her lifelong friend and occasional guardian Sebastian killed so she could dine with a guy who'd never even heard her talk? You do? You need to know that that's never okay.

6. Follow random lights you see when you're alone in the forest.

7. It's acceptable to show up to parties uninvited.

There won't always be enough tea to go around if you keep showing up to parties you're not even invited to attend. And, like Alice, you may find yourself surrounded by lunatics with no respect for themselves, each other or anyone else's property.

8. Don't accept any accolades.

9. Go against your principles.

When she was a kid, Tiana swore she'd never kiss a frog. She changed her mind. Sure, it worked out in the end, but only after she was transformed into an amphibian and subject to a number of voodoo curses.

12. If your pet tiger doesn't like your beau, it'll still work.

13. Having short, dark hair is like, the worst thing ever.

Brunettes are people too. And listen, unless you have a genetic or Ariana Grande-edges issue, your hair will grow back. That's what hair does. If you don't think this is true, remember how you felt the last time you forgot to shave your legs.

14. Necrophilia's fine if he's royalty.

Snow White was in a coffin with her eyes closed in a "sleep-like death," and the seven dwarves just let this happen. Like, Doc didn't even side-eye Prince Charming making out with what everyone thought was just a really well-preserved corpse. Why weren't her pals called the Seven Deviants?

15. Whistle while you work ... but not too much.

You know why Snow White was always happy and encouraged you to "whistle while you work?" Because she wasn't actually working. She got woodland creatures to do all that crap for her. Then, like lots of people in upper management, she took credit for everything once it was done.

16. Your dad will always bail you out of dangerous situations.

Ariel could always rely on her father, King Triton, to save her in The Little Mermaid. For most of us, though, eventually our dads get tired of our s*it and make us grow up, whether or not that means growing legs.

17. Dating criminals is totally okay.

Flynn Rider may be charming in Tangled, but he's a thief with a false identity and was in what's basically a gang with two sociopaths called The Stabbington Brothers. If you wouldn't allow yourself to get sexed into a gang, why would you encourage this Catfish coupling?

18. Oedipus complexes are totally healthy.

Wendy Darling was commissioned by Peter Pan and the Lost Boys to be their mother in Neverland. Then she tried to make out with Peter Pan, who, as you can tell, is just not that into her. Because Peter Pan isn't a creep, no matter how many associations he may have with the late Michael Jackson.