Letting go of what no longer serves you purpose is so much easier said than done, but as the leaves fall from the trees, this time of year always brings me a huge sense of gratification. Nature is the perfect example of starting fresh and letting go of anything that holds you back., and I don’t just mean relationships. Lets let go of bad habits, old grudges, negative emotions, excuses, self limiting beliefs, and of course the people who no longer need to be a part of our journey.

Cutting people off isn’t about pride, its not about being cold and bragging about the fact that people are easily disposable to you. It’s about making a mature decision and realizing that not everybody is supposed to be in your life. Over the years I have been lucky enough to have a strong circle of friends around me, some have come and some have gone, and the same with men. One thing that brings me peace however is knowing that the universe is working its magic and everything is as it should be. If someone wants to go, let them go, do not chase, do not force, do not plead and do not beg, because by doing this, you are resisting what God has planned for you, and then you will miss your blessing.

Everything seems so simple when you read quotes on Instagram and watch inspirational speakers on YouTube, but in actuality its f*cking hard to detach from what you know, even if it isn’t whats best for you. Detachment has definitely been my lesson over the last few months, and I am still learning. I am a Scorpio so I’m very extreme and once I attach myself to something/someone I’m all in. But attachment is the root of all evil, and learning to let go is the best thing for all of us. But how do we do it?

I don’t actually know the answer, and some days I’m able to let things be and trust my journey, whilst other days I’m up until 4am overthinking my entire life and questioning everything. The main thing that has helped me though is being aware of my thought process and accepting that I cant control everything in life, but I can control that. Once you start to actually realize how your brain works and that you can actually dismiss negative thoughts, worries etc and replace them with positive thoughts, you’re already halfway there. Another great thing is educating yourself, teaching yourself new things. The internet is truly a blessing, books are a blessing, information is at our finger tips and we have access to so much knowledge, we have to use it to our advantage. Lets spend less time watching trash TV and more time on what allows us to grow.

Its a process, I know, and trust me I’m just learning as I go along, I don’t know any more than you. Lets use the seasons changing to our advantage , lets at least try to let go of one thing that we know deep down is no longer beneficial to us.

6 thoughts on “Autumn: A time for letting go.”

Hey Romy
I can definitely relate to the part about being able to just let things be on some days and on other days, overthinking until my head feels like it’s going to explode.
It’s a constant battle and I am finally learning how imperative it is to be able to eradicate the negative thoughts.
As the seasons change, may we also gain the strength and wisdom to make the necessary changes in our lives too x

This post, it touches a deep part of me. As I am dealing with the same thing right now, whether it is within my self, my friends, or my man, I need to let go of a few things in order to allow my self to move on and grow positively in my life. Im almost sure that as much comfort that the relationship that I’m in brings me, it might be better for me to let go of it, only because it is distracting me more than it is helping me. Also I am at a critical part of my life right now, graduation from University in a few months, starting my career, and growing as an individual, I think it would be better for me to be alone. How can I leave the man I love, I do not know… but I must figure it out soon or else I might be hurting my growth more than helping it. Same for friends, way to many things have happened this year that taught me, not everyone is the same as me and as kind hearted as I. To protect my self, my heart, and my future, I think I must let go.