Welcome

Welcome to the POZ Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and
others concerned about HIV/AIDS. Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the
conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning: Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive
and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a
username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own
physician.

All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators
of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ community forums.

We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please
provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are
true and correct to their knowledge.

Author
Topic: My status as POZ (Read 3998 times)

Yesterday my older sister told me IF BEGAN THINKING I WAS NEGATIVE HIV MORE THAN LIKELY I WOULD NOT BE A BURDEN TO LISTEN TO

She is lucky I did not knock her on her ass ! This comes from a women that has every disease known to man ! She did survive breast cancer for over 5 years . But the rest of the crap she comes up with is pure B.S. I was so pissed I told my twin , Who now refuses to take me to the Air Port because it is not convenient to his Sunday schedule I have been working my ass off for two months and now that it is time to leave I am getting the your not really as close as We three are ! Like I abandoned the family ! I doubt that coming back to work in Connecticut is an option . Bob has told me : " enough is enough " I rarely mention my HIV ailments unless one of them mentions I look like I'm in pain very early in the day ! My meds do not set well with a rushed nibble of food and a 55 mile trip to hell going 80 MPH down I-95 at 8 AM Four months of this year I have worked in Connecticut , overlooked my LABS and Doctor visits to please my siblings and now I get the " Who cares crap " . I am madder than a hornet ! Weasel

P.s. This year I skipped Cape Cod for lack of family support , Next year Connecticut is on the list

Sorry to hear about the family issues. I've been hurt by my brother, who is also gay, over the HIV issue. I just wanted to wish you the best, as you figure out how to deal with them, if at all. It sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. I realize they are family and we sometimes just have to overlook things. But, there is a limit and I get the "enough is enough."

sorry to hear the Family attitude getting to you..I know we all have our opinions about dealing with family and friends My personal rule has worked for many years ... three days and both family and fish start to stink...time with friends depends on specific person/persons a week or so at the AMG seems too short

Yes Fish & Family I have been with my twin brother TWO MONTHS 24/7 , with a few very very Super Duper trips between to see some of you at AMG and a couple day trips to see old friends . I think the Meltdown is from being just too tired , as I have known and loved my family for 59 years , And NOTHING that has ever happened will stop love , I think the saying : " Time heals all wounds " is true for family , GOD only knows they put up with my mouth As my twin likes to say : " We don't talk like that " ... Weasel

As long as the upsides to hanging around family outweigh the downsides, then it makes sense to keep them around. Otherwise put time and distance between you and them. Only you can make that decision for yourself.

As long as the upsides to hanging around family outweigh the downsides, then it makes sense to keep them around. Otherwise put time and distance between you and them. Only you can make that decision for yourself.

Hi Intaglio , Nice to meet you I live 900 miles from my family in Connecticut , I visit as much as I can , But trips of two months at a time make for a tired Weasel and possibly a grumpy Weasel . I leave for Missouri this morning . I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE MY HUSBAND BOB !!!! Our lives are so much different than how my siblings live . It's great to go away , but getting home is my real pleasure

Weasel

P.s. : Have to take home with me all I learned on this vacation , I try to make every summer a learning time to have a better life at home . sometimes it works ,sometimes it falls to the way side

2 months?! Wow. We go to Gatlinburg (Smoky Mountains) every fall with family. We can only do about 3 days in a cabin. Hell, there are arguments before we leave.

I got home yesterday

I hugged and kissed Bob in the Airport , And did not care whom was watching ! We had a great afternoon , I was really glad to be home , I took a shower , layed in my own bed . Froze my ass off , May be a few things to get used to . We made breakfast together , Pulled porky Sangwithces , with coleslaw , Napped most of the day , Or at least I did Got up at 5 PM Made a fantastic Italian dish of Shrimp & Anchovy over Cappillini All of Bob's sisters called , all of my family wished Bob Happy Birthday . Life will be fine now , Let the REAL vacation start to marrow morning ! We may be as poor as church mouses but we sure have a ball for the most part ! As long As I have wood and Bob supplies Beer we are good to go