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I was actually on the other side of the fence before. We had an apartment in college. Some guys were smoking out back. Smell reached neighbors apartment above us. He came down, asked if they stopped. No worries, they apologized. He did guilt trip us into helping him move some furniture later haha.

Do you know if they are dealing/selling it, or just smoking for their own pleasure?? If they are dealing, I would be A LOT more careful, and possibly send in an anonymous tip to the police - before ever talking to them about it. If you ask them to stop and then the police show up, they know it's you. Otherwise, if they are just smoking for their own use, I'm sure they would understand if you explained your side of it...and maybe even mention that "you don't want to get anyone else involved"...they may even appreciate your candidness.

You and your family have the right to breath fresh air like btb said.
If they're reasonable people then they'll acknowledge if anything the impact it could have on your baby son.
I think the only thing you can do is approach them and ask them nicely if they'd stop.

Like 5K said, it seems every way you approach it could end badly, but playing it cool and calm is the best option to start off with. That way the balls in your court, and any confrontation was started by them if they decide to be ass holes about it.

So try the softy softy approach first. The worst that could happen is they ignore what you said and hurl abuse at you, but hopefully, and most likely if they have any decency they'll listen and stop.

Whatever happens, if they're understanding or not, one way or another you'll be able to stop the problem, and thats the important thing ,that your family isn't exposed to this.
I'm not really against weed either , but I know if I had a family to look after I'd be pissed off the same as you are.
Its a crappy situation to say the least, but having your neighbors hate you, if it comes to that, isn't as bad as your baby having to be exposed to this.

Besides, they'll probably back down once they notice your a jacked powerlifter to be honest, so I can't see them telling you to F*** off!

My vote goes for the nice approach. If it stops, well and good. If not, it is still not a wise idea to threaten anyone - instead a chat with an attorney would then be in order. The way I see it, if the nice approach doesn't work, it's best to take an approach that brings a swift and conclusive end to the confrontation. I understand how you feel, but displaying anger will only make the situation worse.

I def would not be happy about anyone doing anything that stunk out my house with an unwanted smell. Least not my sons room.

Try the 'softly, softly' approach. If that fails then seek whom ever agency would deal with this were you are. I would not be any more confrontational. Assertive yes, but no getting into big arguments etc etc. Give them no ammunition if they turn out to be idiots!

Here in the UK I'd call somebody from the local council. Not sure whether the police would involve themselves at this point?

TBH if the 'softly softly' approach doesn't work then they are ****s and deserving of wrath! Hopefully they just don't realize the smell is carrying and like any right minded person dose something about it of their own back.

That's what I am going to try I think Iain. I just hope they are cool about it.

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I was actually on the other side of the fence before. We had an apartment in college. Some guys were smoking out back. Smell reached neighbors apartment above us. He came down, asked if they stopped. No worries, they apologized. He did guilt trip us into helping him move some furniture later haha.

When I hear stories like this I can't help but to feel a bit relieved. Hopefully they will be cool when I confront them.

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Originally Posted by dossas

Do you know if they are dealing/selling it, or just smoking for their own pleasure?? If they are dealing, I would be A LOT more careful, and possibly send in an anonymous tip to the police - before ever talking to them about it. If you ask them to stop and then the police show up, they know it's you. Otherwise, if they are just smoking for their own use, I'm sure they would understand if you explained your side of it...and maybe even mention that "you don't want to get anyone else involved"...they may even appreciate your candidness.

I really don't think they are dealing. There isn't much if any traffic at the residence. I think they are just recreational users.
I really am trying to change my mentallity from assuming the worse to assuming they will be understanding.

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Originally Posted by LindenGarcia18

You and your family have the right to breath fresh air like btb said.
If they're reasonable people then they'll acknowledge if anything the impact it could have on your baby son.
I think the only thing you can do is approach them and ask them nicely if they'd stop.

Like 5K said, it seems every way you approach it could end badly, but playing it cool and calm is the best option to start off with. That way the balls in your court, and any confrontation was started by them if they decide to be ass holes about it.

So try the softy softy approach first. The worst that could happen is they ignore what you said and hurl abuse at you, but hopefully, and most likely if they have any decency they'll listen and stop.

Whatever happens, if they're understanding or not, one way or another you'll be able to stop the problem, and thats the important thing ,that your family isn't exposed to this.
I'm not really against weed either , but I know if I had a family to look after I'd be pissed off the same as you are.
Its a crappy situation to say the least, but having your neighbors hate you, if it comes to that, isn't as bad as your baby having to be exposed to this.

Besides, they'll probably back down once they notice your a jacked powerlifter to be honest, so I can't see them telling you to F*** off!

It's good to know I'm not being unreasonable. I feel, they have the right to smoke, we have the right to not be exposed to it. Great post. Thanks.

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Originally Posted by Bronco

just go over and ask them real nicely to knock it off.
it's usually best to assume they are reasonable people and have no idea it bothers you.

if they tell you to f- off, that's when you threaten to beat their ass.

That's what I'mve toing to do.

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Originally Posted by 23dodger

I guess first I would take the nice approach, and tell them your concerns. If they do not wish to cooperate, then you move on to the bigger guns.

That's what I'll do.

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Originally Posted by kitarpyar

My vote goes for the nice approach. If it stops, well and good. If not, it is still not a wise idea to threaten anyone - instead a chat with an attorney would then be in order. The way I see it, if the nice approach doesn't work, it's best to take an approach that brings a swift and conclusive end to the confrontation. I understand how you feel, but displaying anger will only make the situation worse.

Great advice. This is exactly what I'll do. If they aren't responsive I will seek help from a legal professional.

__________________ Zdravko Veselin Gaeta

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dude, that sucks that you have to deal with this. i know where you're coming from and why this is a concern. i'd feel the same thing: wanting to eliminate the issue ASAP but in an appropriate way. it's so difficult to know the proper way of handling these things. it's tough when you know you're willing to kick ass if necessary -- which would definitely send a strong message -- but that this would probably make things worse. then you wonder if more polite gestures will even be effective -- and you're only being polite in the first place for the sake of the neighbors.
i hope this gets resolved quickly and doesn't become a long, drawn out issue for you. i doubt this helps, but i think it's inconsiderate and selfish of your neighbors to do that out in the open. sure, smoking pot might not be morally wrong, but they should have the wherewithal to realize that their neighbors might be uncomfortable and offended by it, especially out in the open.