Female newlyweds flock to join cheaters club

Married women — especially new brides — are
not just fantasizing about affairs, they’re going out and having
them.

Ashley Madison has seen
female newlywed membership in the GTA jump from
3,184 to 12,442 in the past year - an almost 300 per
cent increase.

The Toronto Star, by Nicole Baute, Living Reporter, Published on Wed Apr 07 2010

CanadianCRC Editor's Commentary:

Infidelity adds to instability in, or termination of, husband-wife relationships and results in bad parenting situations for children caught in the middle of such uncommitted relationships.

Obviously, these same women will commit paternity fraud against
their own children, their husbands and the biological fathers of
their own children.

Perhaps, instead of cheap sexual thrills outside their marriage, wives should evaluate their own reason for getting married in the
first place and both potential husbands and wives should evaluate
their needs before entering into a monogomous relationship.. or was
she marrying only to have some male pay her bills so that she could
spend her days in hotel rooms with strange men that she just picked
up.

The words "Gold Digger" comes to mind. This Toronto Star
article promotes such dysfunctional women who should never marry to
begin with and certainly should never become mothers.

Susan first dipped her toe into the murky cyberpool
of infidelity two years ago, when she was bored at home
on a day off from her part-time fitness job. Her
husband, a business executive seven years her senior,
was working, as usual.

Sexually frustrated and a little lonely, the
25-year-old started Googling “sex club” and “swingers
club” before stumbling upon AshleyMadison.com,
advertised as a “discreet dating service” for people in
relationships. Like most Torontonians, Susan, who did
not want her real name used, heard about it before.

Three months and more than a 1,000 profiles later,
she sat at the bar at a Hooters restaurant with Michael,
a 23-year-old with a 31-year-old wife. “He understood
where I was coming from and we had the same
expectations,” she says. After about two hours, they got
a hotel room.

That was what she was really looking for.

According to Ashley Madison statistics, the number of
Toronto-area female newlyweds on their site has
skyrocketed in the past year. In March 2009, there were
3,184 women who had been married for three years or less
actively using the service. A year later, there were
12,442.

Since he founded the service in 2001, it was clear to
CEO Noel Biderman that attracting men would be easy. But
he and his team thought their female clients would be
desperate housewives or dedicated mistresses looking for
“lifestyles and fun and sex and gifts.” They
deliberately targeted women with everything from the
name of the brand to the colour scheme of its
advertising was designed to attract aspiring female
cheaters.

They soon realized they had overlooked a robust and
active demographic: “These were young women who, from
their self-description ... were only married a year or
two and seemed to really be questioning the institution,
their next step, entering into parenthood, staying with
that partner,” Biderman says.

They called it their “newlywed marketplace.”

So much for those happy early years — the seven-year
itch has shrunk to three or four and wives, not just
husbands, are increasingly stepping up and sneaking out.

Infidelity is tricky for researchers to quantify
because surveys largely rely on self-reporting, and
people are inclined to lie according to the medium
(online, on the phone or in person). And there is no one
definition for infidelity — sometimes emotional and
online affairs, and committed couples who are not
married are included, other times not.

“There’s an overall increase in female infidelity in
general,” says Ruth Houston, a New York-based infidelity
expert. Houston’s research began more than 16 years ago,
after she unintentionally recorded her husband’s phone
conversations with three other women while working as a
journalist from their home.

Houston is convinced we’re “in the midst of an
infidelity epidemic” and goes by the often-cited stat
that infidelity by women has increased by 50 per cent in
the last 10 years. But the U.S. National Opinion
Research Center report on American Sexual Behaviour
offers much smaller figures: In 2004, 20.5 per cent of
men and 11.7 per cent of women admitted to cheating on
their spouses, a change from 21.3 and 10 per cent in
1991.

Houston believes these numbers are deceptively low
and that women are definitely catching up to men. She
says today’s women are much more exposed to possible
partners than their mothers and grandmothers. They’re
out working and on the Internet, the top two places to
cook up an affair.

“I just think that women are stronger and coming into
themselves and following their own path,” says Toronto
relationship therapist Nancy Ross. She says infidelity
is often what brings couples to seek therapy and that,
increasingly, men are initiating therapy.

Biderman thinks female newlyweds are looking for more
than a fling — that many of them are sizing up their
husbands and questioning whether they really want to
start a family with him. And, in a pragmatic move not
unlike job hunting, they might even want to line up a
new partner before leaving their current one.

“As more and more people get married later and later
in life, does it really surprise you that a 30-year-old
woman who just got married a year or two ago, but has a
very robust career and is very independent, is really
going to tolerate the same kind of failed expectations
that someone two generations removed from her (did)?” he
asks.

Or maybe it’s the digital era that is making young
people so eager to move on, Biderman says. After all,
past and future lovers are all just a mouse click away.

Susan, now 27, says she loves her husband and does
not plan to leave him. More than that, she’s convinced
Ashley Madison has helped her marriage: she’s made many
friends who understand her, both male and female, and
she’s now had four very satisfying affairs.

“I come home smiling after and I’m just fulfilled,
which kind of cuts up my resentment toward my husband,
because I just feel better — physically, emotionally,
everything.”

Infidelity

Business is booming for Ashley Madison

Ashley Madison membership is growing madly, which
founder Noel Biderman ties, at least in part, to the
economy.

“Martial discord is very closely tied to economic
issues,” Biderman says. “If you’re having challenges
around your family finances, it’s really hard to all of
a sudden turn on the intimacy dial and go upstairs and
make passionate love to one another.”

Membership figures as of March 2010:

In the GTA:

159,611 members (up from 82,959 a year ago)

111,202 male

48,409 female

All of Canada, U.S., U.K. and Australia

5,410,347 members (up from 2,802,664 a year ago)

3,898,468 male

1,511,879 female

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