Question

Mother in Law retiring!

My mother in law frequently talks about retiring so she can be with my baby when she is born in January. I may or may not return to work: I haven't decided. Either way, we both have summers off. How do I (or my husband who is great about dealing with her) nicely tell her she is being overbearing and that my child will not be her daily source of entertainment? (She has always guilt-tripped my husband because he does not see her often enough - we see them about two or three times a month, which I intend to keep as the limit - and I do not want to put my children through this!) Also, do you recommend your MIL as a daily babysitter if you are working?

Mom Answers

I'd say no. She is your mil, they're a lot harder to talk to, to get to listen to you and they aren't your family to just be honest with. They think they know best and won't listen to you saying otherwise. Well not all but she sounds like it. Then you have to deal with her longingly. Just say no thanks, its too complicated, you'll stay home or its easier to just have daycare. Maybe occasional babysitting but full time, you'll go crazy

It really depends on who your mother in law is. I wouldn't even let my mother watch my daughter because I don't trust her, and that is the main point. You need to be comfortable with the person you are leaving your child with and if you aren't comfortable with your MIL watching your children then there is nothing wrong with putting your foot down and saying no thank you.

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