Holiday season is in full swing; festive parties, fabulous food, endless shopping… and, of course, family stress. Here are tips tailored to your zodiac sign to help you manage every member of the family…

Life isn’t a Norman Rockwell painting, especially with family around during the holidays. The most wonderful time of the year can quickly turn into the most stressful time of the year.

Even the people we love the most have a way of pushing our buttons when we spend too much time together. Add to that the stress of juggling holiday parties, meal planning and gift shopping and, well, let’s just say it’s easy to go from holly jolly to downright brawly in the blink of Santa’s eye.

Astrology can help you watch for the things that trigger your horoscope sign’s stress levels most. Here are some cosmic tips on how every zodiac sign can cope with family stress all season long.

Family stress relief tips for Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Even dynamic Rams can run out of energy during the holidays, and it stresses you out when you don’t have enough steam to get everything done. If a family member asks for one more thing, watch out for your fiery temper!

Prevent melting down from family stress by setting aside at least one hour of alone time each day. Delegate some tasks to others and go for a walk or take a nap. You don’t have to do everything yourself – that’s what family is for!

Family stress relief tips for Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Taurus, you’re the peacemaker, and your family relies on you to solve disputes over the dinner table during the holidays. And that stresses you out! You don’t like to witness conflict or hurt feelings. It’s even worse if you can’t help settle everyone down because then you feel as if you’ve failed.

If family stress overwhelms you this year, use your stubborn nature to cope. Insist that everyone calm down and speak respectfully, and don’t walk away until peace prevails.

Family stress relief tips for Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
You don’t suffer fools gladly, Gemini. Your short temper can be triggered when a family member says something you disagree with, or if they move too slowly – such as when Granny drives you to the mall in her 1987 Cutlass Ciera.

You need to practice patience, dear Gemini. To calm your overactive mind, take part in daily activities such as yoga or an art class. This way you won’t blow a gasket at the big family dinner.

Family stress relief tips for Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Sensitive Cancer Crabs are especially prone to holiday family stress. You’re negatively affected by criticism, angry outbursts or being ignored. It’s easy for certain family members to hurt your feelings unintentionally – like if one of your siblings seems to be getting preferential treatment, or if someone accidentally insults you with a nose trimmer as a gift.

Speak up and let the offending family member know how you feel. Take a deep breath and let your feelings be known, and more than likely you’ll find peace in an apology.

Family stress relief tips for Leo (July 23 – Aug. 22)
Leo, you need to let go. Your family stress triggers are primarily situations you can’t control, and that’s an inevitable part of the holidays. A family member might break the gravy dish, you may lose your car in the mall parking garage or Uncle Jerry might imply that your career choice falls short of family expectations.

Whatever it is that triggers your insecurities and prompts you to throw a temper tantrum... Let. It. Go. You’ll be much happier.

Family stress relief tips for Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sept. 22)
You think too much, Virgo – which accounts for your greatest holiday stress. Just the thought of getting all your holiday chores done and attending to every family member’s needs ties you in knots.

But once you start working on what you need to get done, you’re fine. Make lots of lists to help keep you on track – write down what you can do to help others too. You’ll feel calmer just putting it all on paper.

Family stress relief tips for Libra (Sept. 23 – Oct. 22)
Not being treated fairly is hugely stressful for you, Libra. You also can’t deal with a lot of clutter. But it’s easy for these needs to be neglected during large family holiday gatherings. If someone takes the last slice of fruitcake before you’ve had any and then has the nerve to leave the dirty dish on the counter, look out! That’ll set you off.

Rather than seethe in silence or overreact to this family stress, respond calmly in the moment. Keep it short and sweet – no long-winded speeches or accusations. You’ll get better results once people know where you stand.

Family stress relief tips for Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21)
Your family doesn’t realize how sensitive you are, Scorpio, because you hide it well. You have a quiet strength, so you’re easily stressed out by big, noisy family gatherings. You also feel tense and nervous when you don’t get enough privacy.

Let your family members know your needs and boundaries so you can negotiate what works for all. It may be as simple as going into a private room alone for an hour to regroup, or leaving a bit sooner than the rest of the clan. If you explain, they’ll understand.

Family stress relief tips for Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21)
You’re all about movement, Sagittarius, so the idea of sitting in a relative’s living room for five hours straight is your personal hell. You’re also not big on formal family dinners where you must act properly and “behave.” Any situation that reins you in can trigger stress.

Find ways to spend some time outdoors to feed your restless spirit. Help decorate the family home with outdoor lights or shovel snow from the sidewalks so you won’t feel so constrained.

Family stress relief tips for Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19)
You demand a lot from yourself, Capricorn. And you feel pressured when you fail to live up to your high expectations during the holidays. You worry about serving the right holiday dishes, buying the right gifts or telling the right jokes at the dinner table. You can go over the “what ifs” or “if onlys” until you’re all lathered up.

The remedy is to live in the moment, the only place where joy can be found. And, make plenty of time to relax.

Family stress relief tips for Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18)
“Live and let live” is your motto, Aquarius, but you really like to have your way. Still, when you’re surrounded by family during the holidays, you need to learn the art of compromise to defuse family stress.

You’re a little high-strung even when it’s not the holiday season, so your trying to do so much traveling, partying, shopping and planning in so little time can stress you out real quick. Just slow down a little. Ironically, you’ll get more done and feel more relaxed.

Family stress relief tips for (Feb. 19 – March 20)
You’re a private person, Pisces, so nosy family members or being put on the spot at a family gathering can be stressful. Your sensitive nature is also unnerved by loud family revelry, teasing and obnoxious behavior. You might become overly anxious because you don’t know how to shield yourself from such invasions.

It’s difficult, but if you can temporarily adjust your attitude, you’ll fare much better. Keep thinking This too shall pass, and take little hour-long escapes to get plenty of time alone to process your emotions and clear your slate.

Karen A. Kay is an astrology and tarot writer for Tarot.com. She has been writing articles about style, shopping, culture and travel for more than a decade and she has been studying the star since she was 6.