Female and male decisions implicating on intimate relationships and dynamics

Saturday, 20 August 2016

Good looking man facing challenges and tribulations

“The most
successful salesmen are the ones who win work through their mistakes.”

It
is always a bit of a running joke or, more so, obliviousness to the happenings
when a top end god gifted looking man faces frequent obstacles in finding a
woman he finds attractive who will date him.
Women will be more comprehensive, even if silent or denying on the
topic, to why this illogical scenario occurs.
Men (outside of the <1% of men it is consistently happening to) are
pretty much lacking total understanding to this possibility, because they think
women are only looking for the richest, most famous, and best looking men. As stated many times on this blog, the latter
is most certainly not the case.

Regarding
this subject, reader Bryce puts a question to me based on the challenges he
faces being a very good looking man (assume last word should read "me"):

What if you're rated 9-11 in looks? (Not my own judgement but others over the years). I find the really attractive avoid me, but younger women 6-8 flock to my

My
response:

My
first query would be with the 11/10 grade some third parties have said you are
rated at? Not the over-scale number as
such, but any man with unblemished and perfect looks would surely be snapped up
as a high profile model, and this can then lead to high status beyond the
profession of just walking down a catwalk or any other clothing
exploitation. With this in mind, I’ll go
on the basis you are a 9/10. Bear in
mind that, on my relative rigorous marking with respect to physical attractiveness
(for both men and women), I place the likes of Enrique Iglesias, Sean O’Pry and
Cristiano Ronaldo as 9/10 to 9.25/10.

The
above first paragraph to my response is worthwhile, because it hints at the two
rules of thumb that women seek out in a long term male partner:

·Women want a man who is less physically attractive than their own
female equivalent physical looks grade.

·Women want a man who is of higher status (both socially and
occupational) and wealthier than their own equivalence.

The
reason I believe it is critical to understand the two magic desired factors are
because, in an ideal world, a woman finds a man who ticks both boxes. This “ideal” man is firstly that delegate who
she still finds an urge to have sex with, but visually she steals the show when
out in public together. By no mean
coincidence, this man will be 10% to 15% less eye catching than her. Secondly, this man has a higher profile than
her in social and professional terms, with the wealth facility to give her a
better life.

What
this ultimately means is as follows, with minority exceptions:

A woman above the age of 23 will
choose an average looking man with a good job over a good looking man with
an average job.

A woman under the age of 23 could
go either way on her choice based on the above two options.

A woman of any age will always
take an average looking (and probably even ugly) famous man over a very
good looking man who fulfills a “normal” job.

All else equal, a woman will
choose a man less physically attractive than her in comparison to a man
who is as, or better, looking than her.

A woman will, in majority cases,
choose a good looking man with high status over an average looking man of
lower status.

The
pertinent and highlight point is the last one.
This is why the likes of Iglesias, O’Pry and Ronaldo would never have
any problems finding top class women. Sure,
they may get rejected by one or two who have egos and trust issues bigger than
their hearts, but most women will take oversight to this due to what they have
to gain.

Q-tip:

A woman’s principles,
preferences and inclinations are all thrown out the window when she is placed
in a situation that could benefit her life, even if it means going against the
tide of normal service. This is why you
can never take anything women say on emotional topics seriously or on face
value. They all have their price, or
timing desperations

Advice
to Bryce

As
I can relate to first-hand, your dealings align, to a certain extent, with my experiences. That is: Cute women are often more positively
responsive to advances from good looking men than hot women.

However,
I would change the parameters somewhat. As
you documented, I also think that a decent share of cute women between 7/10 to
7.75/10 are open to taking things on with men better looking than them, but
where we differ is my view that anything below 7/10 results in widespread
antagonism, hostility and jealousy that belongs to them feeling too inferior. Also, I don’t find that lower end hot women
(8/10 to 8.5/10) are very fond in being with an 8.5/10 to 9/10 looks rated man,
such is their accustomed greater comforting feeling in historically being with
above average looking (7/10 to 7.75/10) men.
Women from 8.75/10 upwards are then more receptive, because a very good
looking man isn’t instinctively out of her league when she is dolled up. Nevertheless, such is the world we live in
today that most women at the top end of female hotness think they can score a
famous man, many of them keep waiting beyond the point where their peak beauty has
been reached and the slide has commenced.

In
terms of numbers, you have to bear in mind that although 90% of women will not
want to date you, there are still many more cute and hot women that sit in the
world than men of your looks bracket. So
for every one man as good looking as you, there will be 30 to 40 women ranging
from cute to hot (mainly cute it has to be said). So although you will get a lot of refusals, 3
to 4 of them (out of the 30 to 40) will take you on. Not great odds I accept, but still better
than being invisible like most men are, or being taken for a sucker. Good screening and character judgement will
assist you.

With
regards to strategies, I throw these at you:

Whereas average looking men are
better off being proven by female pre-selection, a very good looking man
needs to show a level of attainability.
The “I’ve just come out of a long-term relationship” line is the
best quick fix method, as it shows you can hold down a relationship
without presumption your current girlfriend (if you told the target women
this was the case) is much hotter than the woman you are hitting on.

Whereas average looking men can
get away with a level cockiness, a good looking man showing this same
barometer reading will reap negatives.
This is because a man with blessed top end male looks is already
hanging on the edge of god-like figure perception with women, therefore a
level of modesty is required. This
isn’t to be mistaken with not looking or acting confident, but it does
mean a fine balance should be met.
A woman once said to me that women want a nice guy - who is
cheeky. I think there is some truth
and logic to this.

Whereas an average looking man
may attract women through a more moody and distant demeanour, a good
looking man needs to portray what I explain as positive
approachability. This most
definitely is not walking with a smile wider than the Pacific Highway, but
a mild smirk should be sufficient.

No negs are allowed. Negs are for men hitting on women who
are noticeably better looking. I’ve
tried negs before, and not once has it done me any good. A very good looking man using a neg
opener on a cute woman will allow her little brain to think you are taking
the piss. Fine for men who need to
make a mark on her, but not for men who already have.

Use situational openers. Make it a genuine question that forces
her to talk on neutral basis. Make
sure she doesn’t just talk about herself, but make sure even more that you
don’t do the same. Get her to know
you have an element of likeability, attainability, commitment and modesty.

Similar to pre-selection, be
careful how far you take this. Your
target woman will expect you are a playa, and can consequently take your
pick of female existence. Whilst
women’s sexual organs are attracted to men who appeal to many other women,
their egos don’t like this circumstance.
Basically, a woman will give an average looking playa more leeway
than a good looking playa. In
essence, neither confirm nor deny your playa ways if she brings it up.

In their bizarre and innate character
build-ups, many women are attracted to average looking men who have
cheated on women in the past. Again,
there is a need for an average looking man to prove himself. Even if you have acted out past infidelity,
as a good looking man (who isn’t famous) you need to illustrate being a
faithful prospective partner. I
often use words along the lines that I’ve enjoyed my single life phases –
hence slept with many women during these times – but once in a committed
relationship I have never cheated on anyone.

Mingle in bigger cities. The bigger the place, the more glamorous
(although granted, the more status and attention seeking) women there
are. These women are more open-minded,
and they will at the very least be more engaging and easy to talk you.

But if there is one last piece of advice I’d give you, it is to not feel resigned
to the reality as explained.You still
need to approach every woman as if each and every one of them will say yes to
you, and if she declines, it is her loss and no skin off your nose.If you have the attitude of resignation due
to the predicament in making women feel like you are out of their league (btw,
I’m speaking out loud generally, not about you personally), you may as well be
a man who thinks all women are out of his league.

3 comments:

2-STAGE RELATIONSHIP IDEA: Most Typical Women want the 2-Stage relationship:They want a wild Bad Boy romance with a selfish cocky guy who they feel they need to chase after. If he is a challenge then he must be worth more. Then they want to fall in love with him in Stage 1, then get treated badly, abandoned, cheated on etc… until he breaks her heart…. Then its time for Stage 2. They now do everything to convince him that they are the right girl and get him to fall in love with them. Then they want to control his life, change him and want him to provide everything in exchange for sex. Then they believe they won’t feel guilty about using a man as a pussy-whipped slave-husband during Stage 2, because they are getting their ‘revenge’ for the Stage 1 days. This scenario is like ‘taming the beast’

The obvious alternative to this situation is to date a Bad Boy for awhile in their early 20’s, get heart broken. Then date a Nice Guy for Stage 2 and get him to fall in-love, substituting the revenge on the Nice Guy to justify treating him like a slave. “all men are the same, all are bad”

Typical Women first want the man to have the power and they want to be in-love with him in Stage 1, then they want to be in power and the man to be in-love with them in Stage 2. Typical Women don’t want to have a mutual love relationship. They want a power play.

A Quality Lady wants a 1-Stage relationship because she is willing to work for a solid relationship. A Typical Woman wants a 2-Stage relationship because she is lazy, knows she wants to offer nothing in a relationship except sex. So the Typical Woman uses the heart break to deal with the guilt, uses it to justify using a man as a personal slave. She often subconsciously does this, so you as a Quality Man can see if a woman will try to make you a slave-husband from the first month of dating during her stage 1 depending on her behavior, even if she consciously does not know what she is doing herself.

Quality Men (and most Nice Guys too) want a 1-Stage relationship. They want an awesome solid honest fun Quality Lady from the day they meet until they die. They are not looking for power shifts and manipulation. Most guys want to provide for and protect a Quality Lady who is kind, pretty and nurturing. Typical Women want to be lazy and use men for money and ego boosts. A Typical Woman wants a one sided love always, never a mutually in-love situation.

Repeat after me: “I will not become a slave-husband, so I will never get a Typical Woman who wants to change me, who wants the chase and wants the challenge. I want a 1-Stage relationship with a Quality Lady who is awesome and solid from the first day and wants to build a good life together.” - Mark ^_^

I was on vacation in Italy and Spain, hence the delay. I have to say that Italian and Spanish women are quite lovely on average compared to the women I come across in the U.S. and they have a nicer attitude as well.

Following up on your question, "My first query would be with the 11/10 grade some third parties have said you are rated at?"

The rating was said by girls in an student organization at University (no longer in university). The others are drunk girls running up to me in clubs and bars saying I'm really hot (just telling what usually happens, not over selling myself). I find that once a female gets really drunk or they don't have a big ego (or they are older women) they usually tell me how attractive they find me. This is common on Saturday nights just walking down the street. I actually never speak about this to anyone other than commenting on your blog (which is a big relief because I've always wondered if there are other guys experiencing what I am).

Your tips are really helpful, I've been able to put a few in play and let's just say ladies have been reaching out on a consistent basis. Sometimes the girl do psyched themselves out though, especially if we had a great time the night before, they will send me a really enthusiastic text about meeting me the day before and wanting to meet again (before I get a chance to initiate) to wither away.

Also, one roadblock I have noticed is that the girl who likes me will point me out to her friend(s) and they will instantly tell her no with a sign of disgust on their face. I've seen this facial remark before and it's the women get hostile towards good looking men.

I have had women get hostile towards me many times before and I barely knew them, for example, I could be at the checkout of a grocery store and the female cashier gives me the face and terrible treatment. I'm not sure how to get past this one other than look for women with high levels of self-esteem who won't self-sabotage or her friends won't attack me before they have gotten the chance to know me.

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