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To plan a year is the best and ideal action for successful individual. These productive leaders design their mission and goals of life. It leads to some big milestones of their life. It is directly proportional to personal effectiveness, improving relationships, increasing wealth, achieving dreams and spiritual gratification. We can achieve these milestones in different but steady years of our life. It can be further divided into single many years achievement. There is good news for you that today is extremely best time and offering you superb opportunity for plan your year. Since year 2015 is at your hand and you are excited, thrilled and passionate about it so you can consider this year as unit-success to achieve your all milestones.

Now question is how you can make this year 2015 more productive with effectiveness that you require to maintain. Certainly it needs following five ingredients:

If you have not yet started to plan your year you must realize that this is the finest time for you. I would say because if you delay or postpone this vital yearly planning time, your next days and weeks can distract your attention and de-motivated you and you will be in state of motionlessness or on path of mediocrity. I strongly suggest you to take charge of your life right now.
Bottom line of this post is,

“Think seriously, write professionally and act with free independent will to achieve your mission, goals and tasks for year 2015”.
Here I will help you that how you can design your own year 2015. You are just few steps away to create your future.

Please follow six easy steps:

STEP 1: First find your favorite time, place and environment where you feel really peace, calmness and privacy. For example some people find early morning or late night or at library or Gardens or far from city etc.

STEP 2: Secondly, Imagine and mediate yourself about in future by closing your eyes when you would be celebrating your 80th birthday. Imagine about those key people such as family, friends and work associates would be around you. Suppose If they were given one piece of paper with pen and ask them to write about you that how did they would have found you in their life. Just think what sort of appreciations, characteristics and values they would be describing & writing on paper on this most important 80th birthday of your life. What things, events and greatness they would be amalgamating with you. Jot down each and every coming thoughts in your mind. This is will enable you to compile draft list of various points related to different dimensions of your life and it could be your relationships, humanistic universal values and feelings. It is really important and special.

STEP 3: Now read paper again and again, divide all written things, sentences, feelings and voices into Values, Roles and Goals.

Roles are your key relationships and social positions, for example As Manager, Teacher, Volunteer, Accountant, Assistant, Father, Mother and Community worker etc.

And Goals are interconnected with your thoroughly life practical achievements with help of your values in certain roles. For example, one possible your goal for an effective Administrative Manager could be: “I will be reshaping some of vital administrative work of my department in my company by relocation data and files of thousands of customers on paper to digital document drive till 31st Dec 2015”.

Being business leader, CEO or entrepreneur your wild goal could be: “to generate revenue of one million pounds by using dynamic electronic marketing tools at end of Dec 2015”.

As community worker: “I would be assisting my supervisor in doing at least feedback surveys with our 5000 active club members for improving customer services throughout year 2015”.

STEP 4: Keep revising and composing above goals, roles and values (prepared in step 3) every day for at least 1-2 weeks. Make sure you add or remove contents until it become homogeneous. You can insert images in the content to make inspiring and attractive presentation for yourself. Make realistic and achievable goals. Think concretely and straightforwardly toward your goals to achieve it. Make even short terms as many goals which lead toward big goal or life event or accomplishment.

STEP 5: Ideally you should also hire a Personal Coach for achieving your goals. Qualified and experience Coach in specific niches will inspire your energies, unleash your hidden potential, will be proven as greatest source of motivation in achieving your life goals for any role. Hold at least 2-4 coaching sessions with your coach on-line or on-site and share your vision, goals for next year 2015. Work on it. Take the inspiration from your Coach in finding more best available methods to achieve your goals. How to maintain the discipline is your one of challenge.

STEP 6:
Lastly, set a personal reward system for your achievement either weekly or monthly achievement. Involve yourself in some fun, party, great dinner on intimacy, once you achieve something important. It will help you more to stay connected with your goals and vision.

In following above step 2, during designing your goals you can keep four vital dimension of your life. i.e. Body, Mind, Heart and Spirit. You must craft your goals in alignment of your needs of physical fitness, emotional management, passion of life and conscience endeavors. It will lead you to spend whole year with balance and enjoyment.

For example Goals related to your physical needs could be; loss weight or maintaining fitness with choosing wise nutrition and commitment of not for bad eating.

Goals related to mental growth can be such as reading or writing valuable book, getting admission in short or long diplomas or degree for doing systematic education and learning.

Improving relationship goals such as with spouse, partner, Boss, co-workers are so important and vital for your life happiness. Make these goals and do not feel isolate. Because losing quality of relationships or break-up can lead for seriously life failure. So enrich your relationships with genuine emotional attachment.

and finally spiritual intelligence can emphasize you to make goals those are attached with sacred causes or divine literature or holy modern or traditional personalities watering your wisdom and increasing your sense of differentiate between right and wrongs and help in awakening and maturing your conscience.

Remember, failure in focusing and designing goals of your real needs of your body, mind, heart and spirit in Year 2015 will result in imbalance and can lead to path of mediocrity or some time uncertainty and demoralization. Remember key is balance that will precede you toward growth and adapt constant change through time of year till 31 Dec 2015 until these goals will connect with your next year 2016 goals and next until all years achievements will become parts of whole life mission.

If you are really interested, I can offer you 45-60 minutes coaching session on Skype or one-one in London. Please send me your interest on maratib@maratibalishad.com

In today’s domains of management gurus, psychology experts and biologists scientists are choosing their preferences from very interesting discussion that how much important nature or nurture in the success of an individual or there is other reality as well? In addition, how much important is actually, the age of childhood in shaping one’s life.
I think this is very fundamental question comes in the mind. Many theories and interpretations have been discussed in academia and in leadership development training institutes.
Is it really genetic or environmental or psychic causes or there is another fact beyond it? Sometime people become so determinist and sometime optimistic. On the other hand God has sent down man to contribute and live to leave legacy, how much this believe is so powerful or thoughtful.
My Purpose is to explore to see different point of views and at the end we can find some comprehensive outcomes.

Nurture or Nature

Last week, I put this discussion on Facebook and LinkedIn and asked many people and experts on different networks on internet. I found various responses and different perspective for this great quest.
Let me tell you first what question was asked.
Here It is:

Question: What are your thoughts on this:“Freudian psychology which postulates that whatever happens to you as a child shapes your character and personality and basically governs your whole life. The limits and parameters of your life are set, and , basically , you can’t do much about it”.

I am sharing here those and some valuable opinions and answers of people which they shared with me on social networks. It will give us broader view from different minds about this very subject. I am copying them here as it and we will continue this discussion until we reach on greatest conclusion.

“I believe it’s true our up bringing does shape us but I also believe people can change their character & personality. I’m a living example my character changed! No one life goes without difficulty that they can’t blame. When people blame they give up their power to change”.

“There is shaping, but it isn’t set in stone. How you choose to respond to what was done in your youth and how you were shaped… your response is totally up to you. Some choose to respond with ” This is how I am.” Others choose to respond with “How can I overcome? How can I be more in spite of what was and currently is?” Mind is our servant and will work with whatever we give it. In the first choice, mind is given a command to continue affirming what is. In the second choice, mind is given a quest, command of transformation. Mind works to fulfill what we give”.

Robert responds to my question like this:

“What you say sounds good, and I believe choice plays a role shaping one’s life. As much as I respect the work of the late Stephen Covey, my experience informs me that many psychological problems and disorders related to childhood can’t be healed through choice. If I understand your response correctly the complex field of psychology can be reduced to one theory of choice?Faced with many challenging executive coaching assignments over several decades has prompted me to forge collaborative working relationships with talented psychotherapists who are skilled at addressing the unconscious issues while my work stays on the organizational/conscious side of the boundary where I’m trained. In such cases the client is asked to grant permission for us to work as a team in support of shared outcomes”.

One posting from Leon says here:Dear Maratib:First of all Freud never said that the “The limits and parameters of your life are set, and , basically , you can’t do much about it”. That’s what psychoanalysis is all about, a way to deal with the things in your past to improve your present condition.Now in regards to the choice factor, I agree with Robert. Human behavior is a very complex construct that can not be altered just by the simple exercise of personal choice, there are external and internal aspects that affect the process of changing ones life, for instance, paradigms, resources, knowledge, support systems, even protein intake. Now having said that, I do agree we can change our condition and improve it for good, as far as some of all the factors of this equation align to produce the desired change.Finally, Dr. Covey (a founder of my Master’s Program) didn’t have it all right, or at least scientifically supported.

In light of above two responses of Leon and Robert I replied as:
Robert and Leon, What i have understood from you valuable thoughts that there are many complexities within brain, psychological and biological which cannot fit to the theory of power of choice as Dr. Stephen’s whole work’s philosophy originates i believe. right?
If so than my response would be:
I think that power of choice is relevant to those emerging individuals and minds who are living or want to live/grow/contribute in their personal and outer world. Weak or mentally ill or distorted childhood brain with physically damaged, cannot make choices because of their limitations and illness. They should consult with therapists, counselors and medical doctors. Because the whole idea of chose and success literature is for dynamic individual who are not depend on at least any major illness or such psychological complexities as you are mentioning.
To practice choices are functions and habits of leaders only.

some other responses are shown as below:

“i m supporter of frued psychoanalytical theory , because early experiences really play large role in personality development and continue to influence behavior later in life. But if we talk about change yes we change but it is purely an individual effort and very less of us could manage to do so”.

“Stays in subconscious for most part which does control majority of our unconscious behavior and habitual patterns and reactions. Once one becomes aware, and thru working with a coach like us, they can choose to change, transform, transmute, transcend and evolve negative thoughts beliefs patterns behavior and be best version of themselves as they allow it and take action towards it”.“Stephen Covey wold disagree (and I could be wrong but he preferred Jung). He acknowledged that upbringing powerfully influences your character and personality but ultimately you, as a human, have the choice to do and be otherwise”.

“I don’k know how to represent either one of these two gentlemen, but from my own course of life I strongly disagree. I am much different than I was years ago, stronger, overcam many obstacles, and transformed my life several times through changing jbaits, coaching, etc. Unless THAT, too, was predetermined, which I very seriously doubt”.

I believe it does, but other things that happen later on do change people. Maturity and growth are a big factor. I know I had a habit from childhood, and it was associated with events and stress, I did feel powerless and I almost gave it to the feeling but no, I’m stronger than that come on, anyone can redesign what they believed in when they were young. Everyday we have choices and let’s hope we choose well. I needed and was a puppy that wanted to be loved by everyone, I learnt that not everyone loves you, and it’s better to change that really quickly otherwise one gets hurt. So to an extend, we are the way we are but let’s not accept all of it. Keep an open mind.

I believe it helps shape our character and personality but does not have to define us. We all have the ability to make choices in our lives and change the direction if we want to.

Interesting thought, but I cannot agree. We decide every day, with our options at hand, what kind of life we wish to create for ourselves. It’s the habits we develop, and the daily decisions we make taking into account the personal mission statement we have designed, that create the future we determine. I truly believe that life should be lived “looking forward”.

I agree with most, we make choices every day that decide our fate. I’ve seen a peer that had an unfortunate childhood become a veterinarian and another who had a great childhood end up working the 2nd shift in the light bulb factory. However, I believe it easier for some due to a more positive environment growing up. Thanks!

We as humans have learned to re-invent ourselves and manage our emotions. We can’t always control our hot button’s created during childhood, though we can manage how we react to them when pushed. This is habit 1.

“I’m a believer that we have choice. Once you see that the young you didn’t have the depth of awareness needed to split the event from your version of the event, you can reframe the past and therefor set your future”.

“Sorry i Disagree – it is your mindset that changes every thing around you. It is your attitude towards life that determines your altitude.“If you think you can or you cannot – in both cases you are right”

“I believe that your personality is shaped when you are young and due to your upbringing you may be timid, shy, confident etc. But as an adult you have the choice and now the information to be able to change any character flaws that you developed in childhoods”.

“I believe that the experiences you have as a child play a big part in self defining tracks that play in my mind.Habits and triggers are formed from repeated experiences which almost create a rut in your brain; when X happens to me, I turn right and take this path of reaction. It takes a lot of work to grab the wheel and choose to steer down a different path however it can be done.The wonder of human existence is having free will and the ability to learn, grow and change. Alvin Toffler said “The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn”. This quote was not meant to reflect human character and personality, however I still believe it applies. We can learn new ways to respond to stimuli and choose new ways to react.Your childhood is where you start and none of them are idealistic. What you choose to do next is up to you”.

“Freud stimulated ideas from his stimulated thinking as he sought stimulation. The pleasure principle is instinctively and emotionally driven and is at the bedrock of human development. There seems to more that might govern one’s life than the areas Freud was concentrating on”.

“Maratib, to me Freud stood somehwere at the beginning of public Western opinions on psycology, meaning he started a discussion which had been neglected for thousend of years, in western cultures that is.Thousends of years ago people already learned about human behavior and pretty more nuanced than Freud ever described it.Yes as long as you are able to maintain your sense of innocence and creativity you evolve and enrich your self-and people knowledgde. And yes for most the first years are the most impressionable, assuming your creativity and sense of innocence slowly get depressed and replaced by rationals through “socialisation”and education.Still once you reached some level of maturity your tend to go out and seek to get back to the state of mind and freedom you once had?Are they therefore all set and not to be influenced? no way, to easy.There are loads of cultural influences, preferences, personal competencies, genetic imprint and basic instinctive behaviors to consider.I agree that whatever you experience early on during impressionable years will influence you and affect the way you percieve and experience life to be, yet not set it, certainly not that you cannot do anything about it.I find that to be the poorest excuse, you might not be ale to completly change and do a 180 on certain topics and behaviors, but you can and should evolve if only to cope with the only constant being change itself.have fun”.

“Maratib, interesting question. As you mentioned, this has been a key Philosophical question for sometime. We have come to find out as time moves forward that many views presented as fact by well-known philosophers, have been dis-proven or modified to accommodate a better understanding of what is known to be true today. Earth is flat, Sun revolves around the Earth, Dark Matter and other moving targets. Events that happen to us as we grow up definitely influence who we are as individuals and as cultural societies. Typically, the individual is presented with the event and decides if they will react to that event. I do not subscribe to the believe that individuals can’t do much about how they allow it to influence them. It’s up to each of us to choose our own vehicle that takes us forward from that event to the next step in our lives. Some my select anger, others may choose compassion and some may select understanding”.

“For the most part, behavior is set by the age of six. No one knows the percentage contributed by genetics and by environment, but both matter. Can people change? Sure, but usually as a result of a significant emotional event (divorce, death of a loved one, etc). Otherwise, what you see at six is what you get at sixty. Are people prisoners to their behaviors? Yes, unless they use a model like DISC (or something similar) to learn the strengths and limitations of their behavior style. Once learned, salespeople can use their intelligence instead of their emotions (their “emotional intelligence”) to improve their interactions with their clients”.

“It is a bit short-sighted…throughout our life, different events, actions, choices, etc would bring rational or irrational fears in our lives; with which, we have to deal with, thus, we would get shaped (character, emotions, skills, thoughts,…). I see it as a never ending cycle until our last breath. Surely…childhood experiences strongly shape our future self, but indefinitely. Imagine, if someone gets bullied most of his/her childhood. How strong that individual must become to overcome its fears and come out as a better person!? Even more importantly, how long would it take to change one’s perception”?

“It has been a Long mind/thought War beetween Behavioural psicology and The traditional Freudian one. And more contributions have been added by Lacan and Eric Berne and some recent studies from Winnicot. It’ a fact our first 5-6 years personal events strongly influence our beliefs and way of thinking and living emotions; this do not automatically Mean the human being as to be An unmouldable set of cause-reaction mosaic. The innest “machine” in some Way work for ever in The same Way But it’ a possible effort to adapt and change the Way each single individual live everyday actions and emotions. Why can different individuals pass through the same disruptive events surviving Them or being injuried for all the Life Long? Here stand the great trasformation Power given to any human being to learn How to manage herself/himself starting by a Long and honest inside job. If you know the “Inner machine” working everyday in any of your action and thought you have a great power to influence and chance your life; in a different Way I would say as to be almost impossible or a lottery ticket Win !“.

“Hello Maratib, having spent two years studying the irrational, covert and unconscious side of organisational life at an esteemed psycholanalytic institute in NYC it is my opinion that our childhood experience (the subconscious as a tape recorder) plays a significant role in how we view and interact in the adult world. I also believe with the proper support we as human beings can grow beyond the “projected” beliefs and limitations (head trash) we “introjected” as defenseless child”.

In the light of above opinion, I personally believe that It is human choice to make him greater and different beyond past, race, colour, language, region and social setup. This is called dignity of human. You have power to choose your own response any time beyond genetic, environmental and biological reasons. Today, most of dynamic individuals have not even normal childhood but since they have choose to take control on their life, they are unique, star and role models for millions other. It is unique spiritual voice which anyone can be aware of and start to follow it, no matter, what kind of worse current or past circumstances are. Dr. Stephen’s principle of Personal Vision i.e. Be proactive, basically teaches that charge your life at any moment beyond any pressure and leave your legacy.

He put this fact in his famous book, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness:

“We are a product of neither nature nor nurture; we are a product of choice, because there is always space between stimulus and response”.

Covey also points out it by saying that “I am what I am” and “I am where I am because I so choose to be there”

I am wondering to search those companies, production units, offices and factories where people are working under traditional or industrial mind approach. Generations have leg
behind The Agricultural Age and The Hunter/Gatherer Age long time ago. However, Industrial age mindset is still influenced to the global workforce.

Let me define you quickly what is Industrial age mindset is:

Industrial mindset is a formal working system to run working people and machines together under rules, efficiency & controlling trigger hold by an authority called Boss/Director/Manager.

It gives you vision to use people instead of machines and manage machines instead of people. Workers can be considered as your machines to take orders to have production or give services. Employees should not have courage to comment on any mechanism on the procedures and layout of the department. Everything is fixed. They are not allowed to use their own methods to get desired results. They do what they are told, not to participate in any development and policy matter.

This chronic problem under industrial system is to make The Boss always happy. Every worker has to get Boss blessings to go head in their everyday job responsibilities or career growth. Such Boss or leader can fire any employee anytime and that leader does make all decisions because he knows best of all. Best performance of worker or employee is calculated based on Manager’s personal likeness, not with any assessment criteria.

I am Boss

Production or service delivery capacity is not customer oriented under such environment. Today, where business market is extremely customer oriented, under industrial mind policy structure, it is not primarily or even secondarily priority of the company. Sales or Service provider staff and marketing departments are full of incompetent people with very casual and traditional approach. Customers are their greedy focus for selling products and earn money just, not for serving people and the society with mission or contribution.

One of greatest tragedy of industrial working system that you will not have any access to the resources to know more, in fact there is not space of any resources in the system. Information is blocked here, sorry. You do not need to know anything else except you are told or you observe here. If it is really necessary to find new solution or way, just butter to Boss and try to flatter him until he permit to allow you to say what feel. If this new productive idea increase Boss’s power over the system, it is okay to discuss, otherwise absolutely NOT.

Low Trust is the fundamental spirit of this system because of egoistic or authoritative environment. Since, everybody is not working to strengthen the system rather to say YES BOSS, communication within worker is not trustable. Employees, either, will backbite to each other because they are not raised as team members. Employees seek to know weaknesses of other to exploit them. This low-trust does lie all the time because everything is secretive and everyone does work under No-Shared-Vision or No-Shared-Values. Their conscience is dead or at least sleeping. Everybody is victim as they pull each other legs. Political games and hidden agendas are in practice.

Organisational structurewise such companies have no or weak Human Resource policies & procedures, In fact there is no such organised HR department or section, can not be imagined. Employees in their clerical and administrative offices are recruited not based on qualification, backgrounds and talents but on references and without merit. Yes, such companies, in huge proportion, exit, everywhere, even in this age of media freedom, skills & talent and informational world.

Like machines, people are considered to produce or work more with high-efficiency because they will be following unchangeable bunch of rules set by Boss. They control people like machines. Psychological approach of this Boss is to fulfill very basic need of employee and ignore other needs such as emotional or social, mental and spiritual. Controlling people is their clever art and they are proud of it. They consider institutions and companies like their personal possession. In this situation, there is no concept of formal office meetings because everything is pre-prescribed and already decided. No meeting is needed.

Only motivation for employees to do their jobs is to get their weekly or monthly wages and nothing, more important is that they are on the job, at least for them and their family survival as they can see high percentage of unemployment in the city. This system plays with needs of survival and financial security of the workers and their families. Hence, neither they leave system not system leave them. On other way tricky BOSS or MANAGER has firmly believe on JACK-ASS THEORY under which you adopt policy of “Carrot and Stick”, you give carrot and then stick to work , carrot and then stick to work and it goes on.

This misaligned system at workplace leads to inter-departmenal rivalry due to ambiguous vision of job position or about goals of the roles. BOSS or MANAGER does not acknowledge your talent or skills. That Manager does seem bad Coach and she disempowers employees. Manager has set fix rules and work procedures and you have to follow these rule if you want to sustain in this system. Employees become bore from their jobs and now they want to escape because they are angry and have a lot of fears. Any emerging people working under this system does lose their focus and confidence on their professional goals and become part of miserable life. Resign is the only hope to way out.

Because this system is based on straitjacket potential, it is developed with managing machines and using minds, there will be big gaps between operational procedures within departments. All are misaligned. One set rule will be contradicted with other in similar situations. You can see clear hypocrisies within people because they are codependent, workers know weak points of other.

Directors and Managers with narrow minds do not believe on trainings and professional development. They never convinced to invest money to provide training to develop employees for competencies, increasing productivity and learning new things. They have misconception that human mind cannot change. They think that they do not need to waste money and time to empower staff and workers. They see the world as They see themselves i.e. unchangeable.

It is misconception of such industrial Leaders that by controlling machines and people at workplace they would design a system where you can generate a lot of production and wealth that increase financial profits. In real, it is not for power or discipline of the system but for higher management who make monies and their personal bank accounts. If we visit most of production houses, factories and such companies, we can see the huge difference between personal social status of the final decision makers and workers. In contrast with economic and social conditions of those employees who work even 10-12 hours per day like machines without entertainment and freedom. In England, in 2013, there is minimum wage of £6.31 per hour for adult over 21 or above. HR and Customs revenues website shows that workers are also entitled to the minimum wage if they are:

part-time

casual labourers, eg someone hired for 1 day

agency workers

workers and home workers paid by the number of items they make

apprentices

trainees, workers on probation

disabled workers

agricultural workers

foreign workers

seafarers

offshore workers

Government has implement policies but many Directors of thousands of companies deceive the government and auditors secretly. They do not allocate any residential, travel or holiday allowances for their employees. They do bad at their best.

Boss empire

Psychological and physical state of these workers and employes are lethargic, anti-social and aggressive. Their personal and family life also get disturbed and in traumas. They need to way-out to their situations and workplaces. They want to contribute for their personal, professional, organisational and societal life. They need new mindset working with different and updated minds and culture. There is good news! Informational or Knowledge age has brought many blessings to the offices and the world itself, given greater contentment and job satisfaction, rich and diverse culture. God has broadened the vision of world Business leaders and human mind to form an Informational or knowledge based worker economy that is growing fastly and being adopted by many emerging organisations. Leadership development for organisations and whole-person paradigm is the subject of today’s world. Hundreds of authors, business gurus, experts and organisations are contributing to fixing wounds of industrial age. Actually, Information or knowledge worker age is opposite of Industrial Age. Industrial age has been broken down on its knee and should not part of this global economy and people lives. We need to make lot of struggle by raising voice and awareness. New system is providing path by empower needs of body, mind, heart and spirit of an individual and also as organisational level.

If you want to share your story where you are working or have experienced this mindset and system, you can share with me on Maratib@MaratibAliShad.com

Childhood experiences starts right from mother’s wombs. Environmental, psychological, social and sentimental effects on mother directly transfer to the baby and store in genes or unopened- memory spaces of mind.

A child rapidly absorbs surroundings till 3-4 years of age. These all negative or positive stored-emotions COME OUT OR EXPRESS in form of good or bad behaviour, later, in any stage of man or woman’s life, usually 20-40 years.

Studies also shows that professional failure or success or any life conscious decisions are also influenced (badly or good) by those childhood unconscious experiences.

Therefore, nurturing and childhood even before delivery, is extremely important for children and hence for whole family and then society.

In today’s world, everyone is running after success. They do not want to lose, yet they are eager to

Path of Mediocrity

find methods and shorter and longer techniques to achieve success. In this scarcity world, most of people are not successful because their adopted wrong methods to achieve it. Sometimes, they can see and feel their desired positions and dreams, however, they do not know ideal methods how to execute them and get 100% results. They become reactive and lethargic for achieving those things which can get by only following principles and natural laws. If they get some little wins but they could not sustained. In developed corporate world, people are frustrated to cope their challenges even they cannot count them on fingers, either they have too many ambitions or no. They are lost on their ways. They never could not found their voices. They are noise or part of it. Their own voices are lost and even they do not listen or care other. People are furious about their state of minds. They try to share itself but do not have courage to share with other. They are cowardice. They are non-shared and have limited vision. They want to upgrade it but do not know how and hence they are trapped by negative energies and unreal thoughts which deviate them from path of success. One of their phobia is they do resist any change in life, hence they life and believes are not dynamic.

People have different perceptions about concepts of success. Since their paradigms and perspectives in same situations are different therefore their definitions are different. Regretfully, they do not even listen to their understanding of success. New ages are in progression but these conflicts and trends are increasing. I am wondering that why people do not listen other. Boss, Secretary, Manager, Director, Spouses, Environmentalists, Labors, politician and professionals, all have lost their voices. They are shouting on each other. Societies are lost and their legacy is no longer with them. People do not know what is empathy mean actually. They do not feel for learning.
As far their conscience turn into ego, they lost their trust on people and systems. They have no or doubtful faith on God spiritually. They install heavy packet of envy and Jealousy in their hearts because of inferior complex and egoistic. Their passions are reflections of social mirrors. They do what ever people are doing and following. They are eyes sees as eyes of other. They are undisciplined and backward cultured. Their vision is limiting believes and not-shared. Their bodies become their own masters and lusty. At the end, they are set-on path of failure or straitjacket.
Their values of not their rather values of other people. Their approach of living is Outside-In. They become happy when they are treated well and vice-versa:

I am working for most ungrateful owner of the house who never appreciate my service.

I work full-time, I do regular visit Mosque or Church and have many friends but i am alone.

I have consulted many people and learned many courses, none of single can fulfill me.

I am not paid well yet i am working hard to impress other to increase it.

Do not under-estimate my spiritual believes they are very dearer to me.

My subordinates are not loyal as i pay and give them more incentives, i am losing my customers and company prestige.

My mother-in-law is very authoritative and she criticizes me and i have not relationship with her but pieces of gravels.

I am fed-up of financial and social injustice, i am organizing protest in front of parliament.

I would provide all necessities to my children even I am unprivileged.

My husband and wife have very complicated relation, either one of us can quit it.

this world is going to end and my goals are unfulfilled.

These are some little glimpses of general people yet they are wondering for their solutions. I have deep feelings with them. I am compassionate with them.

I believe that there is path of principles and rules of productivity that bring abundance mentality to people for solution of their problems.

I would like to share with you those secrets which have brought changes in the lives countless individuals, teams and organizations. In near future, I would be sharing those basic habits, principles and process of sequences and development which will guide to find your voice. Have you thought that you choose to deviate from path of mediocrity!!!

Many people live not as successful because they have divided life into misaligned different paradigms for personal life, family, office and social work or community. They believe that each of four have different things, settings and aspects of life so behaviors associated should be unlike and smartly. People assume that all roles of life have different descriptions and deals of tackling with different principles. These all are not entirely interconnected and covering different stories of an individual’s life. For example, General Manager Adam quarrels himself because he is unable to manage himself and even Adam does not understand these four roles of life. Adam is being proven very controlling and dis-empowering manager and behaves reactively with his sub-ordinance, in the office. Personally, Adam has weak body, rough communication, distracted mental intelligence and poor spirit of life. Adam has no vision neither personal goals nor mission of life. Being a Manager his severe and hostile behavior is not acceptable for his sub-ordinances and even for his colleagues because of his unprofessional and unethical approach. It is all because of that he has misconception, to always try to be clever with colleague(s), tricky with Senior(s) and believe on Win-Lose or Lose-Lose. On the contrary, Adam has very soft tone and caring behavior towards his family and children. He believes on ‘Think Win-Win’ and passionate family life. No one in his family can believe that he is so unpopular in the office. Now when someone talks with Adam about something for social volunteer or religious works, Adam stops with half No and half yes. In real, Adam does not believe on social contribution and welfare work also. Adam probably is enough backward, to have awareness on importance of social works, without being paid. Because of fault in thinking of Adam, he has divided his sincerity and insincerity into four roles personal, office, family and religious or social life, separately.

Story of Adam is actually chronicle of many people of this information knowledge worker age. The very problem is lack of ‘professionalism is whole life’. Professionalism is not just association with your work. It is an attitude of your whole life and roles that is: personal, office, family and social work or community. An individual should not split personality into four or even more parts with different attitudes. Emerge all four roles with same and uniform attitude. For this, you need to work on paradigms of things, people, life and the world. The meanings and vision which a person has associated with things, people, roles and different settings, are actually the very problems. Like Adam, who was dealing with four roles with different attitude that’s why he lives a mediocre and victim life. Actually, Adam had wrong paradigms. Adam had associated wrong meanings with different roles, things and people that are why he collapsed, although he had very good family life, which was not enough to make him also successful in the office or working with social community or even personal management. Suddenly, a paradigm shift occurred in life of the Adam and his life took U-turn. In next few days, Adam started to manage and understood personal issues and designed goals to resolve issues. Professionally, Adam behaves, now, proactively and with empathy with his juniors. He likes to work as team member and helpful with colleagues. His Seniors appreciate his new innovative ideas. Social contribution has become his passion of life and now Adam has joined and leading as volunteering campaigner for fundraising for a moral cause. Adam found his voice.

Why all this change happened, just because of changing his attitude towards life. Since, he has found his voice; Adam has actually treated all roles of his life equally and with uniform attitude which is voice of professionalism. He has applied this concept of professionalism in all roles. Family, community, personal management and office, all four have is converted into professional. Adam has designed his work, family, personal and community goals as well. His unique spirit and soul has been built on concept of professionalism. For him, professionalism is something to achieving great in all life, by using energies and intelligence(s) of body, mind, heart and spirit.

Like Adam everyone should adopt uniform, unique and one proactive attitude in the life. Our whole life is one attitude, not distorted collection of different disintegrated believes, eyes and moods. I do believe that by working of personal management you can manage other as many roles of your life. Personal management can only heal your stress of life because thoughts of a person define outlook of his or her about roles, relations, things, events and world. This understanding in further generates different behavior and attitude differently, unless you have clear and universal understanding of life, concepts, things and people. Seriously, successful people live uniquely, calculated life and with scheduled approach, not only in job career but also with spouse and kids, friends, key persons and social people.

Professional development is an essential part of office and business life today. All companies and organization are offering their employee the trainings, courses and workshops on this subject. Organizations are spending handsome amount of monies on affording best trainers and coaches. New and fastest growing industry to teach Leadership and personality development are also growing. I know these sorts of trainings are really productivity and also provide forum to understand, share and learn new concepts, trends and innovation. My job career stay of five years in LUMS University really proved to be metaphor, enhancing my professional growth which later influenced my personal, family and religious life. I never try to separate my office life from my family or community life, because I believe firmly that ‘what is professional is very personal for me’. I always try to adopt unchanged attitude with LUMS colleagues, friends, spouse, family and religious and social fellows. This secret is now very open in today’s world also and everyone who wants to live and achieve great life in real terms, is the following principle of uniform and organized life with broad and unique perspectives, not following social mirrors.

Professionalism is also the subject of leadership today. In offices and social life we see many diverse minds having enlarged visions are proved to be leaders unless they follow a specific and essential discipline in the life. Leaders cannot translate their vision into reality unless they do show professionalism. Their character is fruits of ideal attitude for each role of their lives.

Professionalism actually gives security for whole life covering all roles with goals and ambitions. Non-professional people are hardly seeing to accomplish goals of life; never have they designed goals, ironically. I have also interaction with many people in my life which have designed their goals and want to do something good but due to lack of vision of discipline and professional approach, they get fail.

Professionalism is an art to deal all roles of our life. This art is so necessary that I strong recommend including this subject of ‘Professionalism’ as compulsory component of all types of education everywhere in the world. It should teach everywhere because this age of indispensable is also an age of passion of services. Passion of giving services cannot be shown heartedly unless you do it by heart. Sectors like education, hospitality, local town governments, retailers, hospitality, super-markets, public organizations and religious groups all give services to public. Nathan Eldon Tanner put it in this way: “Service is the rent we pay for living in this world of ours”.

Professionalism also gives standard to your body, mind, heart and spirit. Your body should be slim, smart, healthy, composition of positive energy, quick and active, in such a way your body always ready to move on your initiative(s) which is obviously in result of choices you make everyday and every moment of your proactive life. Anything which make one’s body lethargic, sluggish and sources of negative energies, in way of reactive move. Your professional approach will be boosted when you learn books, audio and video stuff and involve yourself to study in related to your field. The best way to enhance your mental intelligence is to put yourself in academia. Engage yourself and learn and apply just. Earn certificate and degrees side by side your job, but with understanding and applying of the contents. Your heart should produce emotional connection with your body and mind in such a way that you influence other people. All social skills, ‘The 7 Habits’ taught by Dr. Stephen R. Covey will be a vital victory in your life including family life. At last your voice of conscience and spirit should be regular feed you like a way you keep yourself stick with your goals, mission and diary management all the time, spiritually. This holy power will be fueled by reading sacred literature, stories and wisdom and it will be proven a driving and most mighty guide to keep you on path of professionalism.

I recommend you to learn habits of ‘be Proactive’, ‘Begin with the end in mind’ and ‘put first thing first’ taught by Dr. Stephen R. Covey in his best book ‘The 7 habits of Highly Effective People’. These three habits will able you to win yourself by yourself and are also called ‘Private Victories’ and Dr. Covey says ‘Private Victories precedes Public Victories’. I also suggest buying a diary and after brain storming of defining roles of life, goals and mission of your whole life, putting timeline each of goals and follow-up regularly. Do act now. Achieve something great as husband, wife, colleague, parent, student, CEO and member of the society by following same attitude with universal paradigms, professionalism and diary management. This is something which makes you very human and unique effective individual. I believe influential organizations, groups and people do believe on broadening perspective of professionalism. They expect from every of his employee to live life with unique and world-class professionalism.

Vision is an eye of you which gives direction to your inner-self and sense about how to see and treat external world. A non-visionary individual treats his all world roughly due to several socioeconomic reasons. He does not have clarity about professionalism. He gets education not for contents but for degrees and certificates. He does not do job and business for contribution or service but for monies and benefits. Surely, professionalism is an attitude by which a person tries to fulfill all his or her wants and needs of personal, family and organization. Being a ‘professional’ means to be a dedicated and a goal oriented employee; trustworthy; unbiased and free from all prejudices; having strong listening and clear speaking skills; kind and compassionate towards his customers, workers and colleagues; able to write decently; proactive and should not depends on conditions; with organizational skills; time management skills; have technical and job specific knowledge, and friendly and be an easy person. All of his competencies, job performance and company goals depend on vision he has. Vision gives them a canvas and farsightedness by which they do and perform whatever a small step or a big action plans. Unfortunately, a huge numbers of students all over the world are not even taught in their countries all these and many other requirements of become a professional or true employee or businessperson in their practical lives. A student when goes ahead in professional life then he or she faces a series of frustrations and is not able to understand and solve the professional life’s problems. It is all because people have understood job or profession or their business without morality.

A moral or spiritual attachment of a professional with work, department, and organization makes him unique employee or successful businessman or spouse. In my experience of seven years of professional in academic settings at LUMS University and University of South Asia, I have come to interact many incompetent and pseudo professionals; in fact all they were bodies and not minds. In immature and highly straitjacket environment, People are selected either on personal reasons or after that they do jobs and create bad weather on workplace. People involve themselves in office politics, back-biting, leg-pulling, with non-sharing attitude and become jealous easily. They do not attend their offices or desk properly and they are with empty characters with no vision. Whereas a visionary employee due to his clear expectations of future long terms benefit and productive results, he does organize and dedicate himself and behave like a true human being and helper. He ever always ready to work as volunteer. His helping hand shows his professionalism. He behaves like a leader. His way of talk and body movement shows his thoughts and ability to work even under pressure due to proactive and creative mind-set. Because his mind is generating continuously emotional reasons with the job to be attached even he is on job outside the job timings. He starts to make love with his department and hence organization. He does attach himself spiritually with the department because of his vision which he has built. He helps and cares every of his colleague and Boss not for only job and money but for contribution. He loves and cares his wife and family always. He prefers and chooses to live principle based life due to his vision. Actually, passion to contribute into job or home or society is an outcome of a great vision.

I remember my one of best moment at LUMS during my administrative job when I spoke before Vice-Chancellor in presence of huge LUMS staff audience for agenda of staff welfare and benefits, then I did not realize that I was working on junior post. Before that very day, at whole night I could not slept till dawn and prepared two pages documents of suggestions and points to address as representative of staff body of the university. At that open-house I did speak to VC for few minutes under shadows of my vision for my organization and its people. Actually my vision made me bold in such a way that in next day I received an appreciated email from Vice-chancellor mentioning of few point making him realizing his eyes opener document he did receive yesterday from me. Preparation of document, courage to speak and giving document to VC in front of University and then receiving a healthy feedback was outcome of a vision.

Those professionals who have no vision or less great eyes are also facing severe troubles in abroad while seeking and doing employment. During my stay at Dubai and now in London, I observed many stupid, sluggish, reactive and non-directional thousands of professional who seek and do jobs against their fields and passion. How a person can be productive if he or she is not involved passionately in their jobs and businesses or living with their families. How can they be positive when a career seeking lawyer starts to sales things and eatables. High level of unemployment and job spaces are also important factor for working in non-related fields in contemporary world, nevertheless, I see no or very less passionate professional even in multinational place like London and Dubai are. Morale of such type of people is quite low and showing very passive nature. Of course without vision of service, contribution, meanings of life how can they seek exact jobs and roles.

There is one popular misconception among people exist. Basically, vision is not something like your mission or goals or aims. Rather vision translates your mission and goals into reality with meanings of ‘why’. It means if an individual makes his personal, family or professional goals or mission and if these goals and mission are not associated with something meanings of ‘why’, then we say that very individual is without vision and hence could not be effective enough or consistent in achieving all it because of lack of vision. For example, if a prime minister of a country is appointed with having mission or goals to make this country among top 10 great countries of the world in next 25 years then it is not a vision. Because there is not attachment of cause or meanings or philosophy or answer of why with this mission, Yes, if prime minister designs mission to make that country among top 10 countries of the world in next 25 years because of its positive impact on the whole humanity then it is a mission or goal with vision. In this case rate of achieving success will be maximum. Similarly, if a manager sets goal of becoming director after five years of his job without associating any moral or philosophical reason then he or she will not be effective for whole company and society. If a husband or wife decides to plan a baby for adding a great & creative human being in the society then they are visionary parents.

I remember once when, in LUMS University, few years back I addressed to team of professors in formal meeting and deliver a speech about defending roles of Secretaries. I spoke to them for this role. It was an extra-ordinary effort from me alone for reviving dignity of Secretaries in the department. Actually I was realizing that professors were trying to devalue the role of Secretaries at that time within the department. Because I was working with a vision, I talked with my Head of department and he was kind enough to allow me to speak with faculty member for it and I received a feedback ‘well done’. I never underestimated any role in any capacity in organization. I do believe that all roles are very important for management because all employees of each and ever role are bringing vision of that organization into reality.

Vision is a function of brain and mind. Mind does generate such image in result of knowledge(s), dreams, imaginations, academic qualifications, professional experiences, childhood experiences, books and literature stuff and media interactions, all these contribute to make vision. One person should make more imaginations. Einstein once said “imaginations are more powerful than knowledge”. Highly successful and effective people build and make their vision by earning more and more certificates, degrees, work experience, sharing with colleagues, attaching with books & reviews, magazines and academic and professional multimedia. Regretfully, people do not give time for learning any useful stuff and hence they become ignorant and victimize easily. Yes. Opposite of vision is ‘victim’. Without vision an employee, spouse, parent and organization do behave like victim. Their bodies are like indulgence with following social mirrors rather than their own voices and passion. There all become packets of their moods and depends on conditions and hence live very ordinary and mediocre lives with no contribution. They pursue short cuts and adopt personality ethics rather than to build their characters first. Without vision, people want quick fixes and solutions and hence culture of bad values form and potential is suppressed. An individual, organization and whole society do suffer.

This all shows that how vision is very important for all of us. To make and feel you some one special and significant person you need to be a visionary being so that your body, mind, heart and spirit work altogether and unleash your potential which is enough to make you an entire unique human.