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The other day I was thinking about how I could help a mate get rid of his addiction to porn, so I thought I’d write him a letter, highlight some key issues and hopefully give him some good grounding on why he should rid it from his life. I’d love to know if you’ve found it helpful.

1. PICS STICK
The images you choose to expose your mind to burn themselves into your brain. Your mind persistently clings to them, they won’t go away. At least for me, they still come up years later and I can envision them from time to time. By God’s grace you can learn to shut them down quickly, but its still a big battle that I’d rather not deal with.

2. IT FUELS AN ADDICTION
Porn is an addiction. The more you watch, the more you want to see. You become obsessed. Its a sin, plain and simple, and it will control you. It’s also a waste of time! Imagine those seconds, minutes, possibly hours that you have wasted being addicted to this stuff.

3. IT WRECKS RELATIONSHIPS
It will undeniably affect your future relationships. This one is obvious. You need to recognise how disgusting most girls will find the concept, because most won’t be able to relate to the allure of porn. It can become a real issue, because she will likely feel horrified that you’re sexually contemplating other girls on the side.

4. PRACTICE FOR MARRIAGE
If you get engaged and you’re still stuck in porn, how hard will that make life for you! Imagine how hard it would be to confess that to your wife, and how sad and betrayed she would feel. Practice the self-control that you’ll need for the rest of your life… starting now.

5. YOUR WIFE WON’T COMPETE
When you are married, your wife will have to compete with the images you have in your head. What if she never matches up to it? If she has to realise that you’ve watched something she can not compete with, that is sickening in itself.

6. IT WRECKS SEX
Porn wrecks the fun of having fun when you’re married. If you’ve watched videos, I’m guessing they will come up when you get married and are getting it on. You might even suggest trying things – not telling her you got the idea from porn. That’s secretive and dishonest, and not as fun or pure as if you had been learning together and enjoyed marriage for what it is. You could also become a one minute man.

7. FREEDOM IS BETTER
It feels so good once you’re out of it. I haven’t seen porn for 2 or 3 years now! I may have come across an image or two by accident, but I closed them as quick as I could. It feels amazing that I can do this by God grace and the change in my heart. My relationships with people and God improved drastically!

8. SET AN EXAMPLE
You are a disciple of Christ, but as a part of the body, you also disciple other people. There will be people who respect and follow you, who they learn from you and take on your actions as being an image of Christ. Even if most people don’t know much about this particular sin in your life, by getting rid of it, you’re setting an example. If you can’t master your own body, how can you teach other people to control their desires?

9. WRATH OF FRIENDS, THE GUILT TRIP
If you don’t stop looking at porn, you kinda feel guilty inside. You know its bad, I know its bad, we all do! You won’t get the wrath of friends telling you to get out of it and you’ll feel better all round! It’s a win-win situation.

10. SPIRITUAL POISON
Porn is a spiritual and mental poison. Its an addictive sin that will damage your relationship with Jesus Christ. Jesus said that if you even lust upon a woman, it’s committing adultery – Matthew 5:28. Even though we consider ourselves virgins, Christ says that we’re not pure and holy but corrupted and depraved. It DOESN’T glorify God, it grieves him. “If you love me, you will keep my commandments” says Jesus (John 14:15). Do you love Jesus? Then stop slapping him in the face by blatantly disobeying him!

“As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.” And if you call on him as Father who judges impartially according to each one’s deeds, conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile, knowing that you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, but with the precious blood of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot.” (1 Peter 1:14-19)

So on my way to youth, i got blocked at the end of my street because some one obviously didnt notice the large STOP sign and went pounding through the intersection and snagged another car on its way through. 2 Fire engines and some cops later, i am waiting 15 mins for them to sort the LPG cyclinder in the guys boot so it doesnt explode and kill everyone in sight.

Anyway…. on my way home, i was reminded of the mess that car crashes leave, glass and plastic all over the road! Why isn’t there some law that forces the crasher/crashee to clean up his mess after his little bingle, and save everyone from getting glass stuck in their tyres and the neighbour hood looking a mess.

Mayb i should write to my new prime minister and propose this new law?