Cheating? We broke up...

Ughh... I just wrote this long fricken post.. And it deleted it.... Im sitting here crying even more now. I dont cry... This isnt me. I just ended things with my fiance. After three years... Of him cheating on me with a million different girls. Even had sex with a girl in the bathroom right next to his bedroom that I was sleeping in with our son. We started things back up in jan. And were together until march and then he told me he wanted to move to montana. And he has some family out here. And he would get a job. And he would support us. We got out here and started trying to have another baby. Idk why I would think that was a good idea either when he was never there for me or my son until january. When my son was almost two. Ive finished schooling and ive raised my son. Given him everything he wants or needs. I never partied. I worked and took care of my son. Hes my best friend.. His dad has a bad drinking problem. He got a job in North Dakota. 12 hours away from us. Never calls me or bentley and bentley ( our son) adores him and just cries because he wants to talk to his dad. But he doesnt care... He spent $600 at the Buckle. When we clearly need baby stuff... And my son barely has clothes. He says if I didnt bitch so much he would send me money to get him stuff.... I dont even talk to him... Hes been paying rent for 4 months on this apartment. He says hes not paying for this month. Yup that was due yesterday.. I dont have clothes that fit. Ive never been like this. I have never been dependent. Ever! I went to college, and ive had a job since I was 10... Ive never had a family really.... You might wonder why I dont have a job now. Im on bedrest.... I go to Physical Therapy and to reg dr appointments and take care of our son. I hate not working.... I asked if he could pay for our rent and ill look for a job doing somethinf... Even though I shouldnt be... And he says no. hes not paying for shit. And said he wont be there for the birth of our baby. The baby girl weve been wanting. Ive had to write a will and everything because theres a chance I could die during this labor...My baby is in a rare spot and I have to have a c.section and the way my placenta is and everything. I have.no.one here thatll help me. And now he wont even be here. Idk what to do but cry... And I dont want to but its all I can do. I have nothing.. And no where to turn. Im sorry for venting ladies. My sons the only thing I have. Hes rubbing my back and kissing me and telling.me itll be ok.... But it wont.

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Never doubt little children words. It will be okay I promise. The father of my child committed suicide in may. Left me with five grand in bills. I almost got evicted in july. I was put on academic probation and lost all my financial aid. I was put on bedrest a few weeks ago so I work one day a week for maybe three hours. I just got denied for Medicaid so now I owe all those bills. I cried like you. I cried and cried and almost gave up on life but guess what happened next... I fell asleep. I tired myself out from crying. Next morning I woke up the sun was shining the birds were chirping and my son was kicking. I knew it would work out and it has. Things will get better eventually I promise. I am living proof.

My heart breaks for you. You said you recently moved. Do you have any family you can more closer to? While I cannot begin to feel your despair, I know you are extremely upset and exhausted. Sometiems it is better to get some sleep and then when you wake up you will come up with a plan..even if it is only small steps at a time. You will make it. Give your son tons of kisses and hugs..sounds like a sweetheart like his mommy. You can do it! You may see if you can find WiC in your area or some sort of fnacial assistance. Good luck and tons of hugs.

Take his ass to court and get child support out of him, He has to pay if the child is his. No ifs, ands, or asses about it . Then you go to the nearest welfare office and apply for food stamps and diasability, take a doctors note with you to prove that you are unable to work at this time. If you haven't gotten the paper work started to get child support then they will help you. And then when your beautiful baby girl is born and you have had a couple of days to recouperate take his scumbag ass to court for your daughter. You can do this you will be fine. The doctors have dealt with high risk pregnancies before. They know what they are doing and where to best cut for your c section. Good Luck Momma!

I am so sorry your in this situation. There are ofcourse legal actions you can take to receive money benefits from the father of your children for your children. It can be a tough process but he is responsible for bringing life into the world. I only know of programs that NY supplies like WICC, you can always look online for government support clinics in your area. research it girl there are options out there to help Mothers and their kids, something the US government
got right. Be strong, have hope and give your fantastic son a big hug!

Thank ladies. I just hugged my son an just cried in his arms. Hes two. He shouldnt be having to watch his mama like this. I dont have anyone here. Absolutely no one. I think thats why he brought me here so I would be alone. And not have anyone. I get child support for my son. Which is his. But he doesnt pay it until he gets a paper stating he has to be to court. Then he pays it right away. I will be getting it for my daughter. But all the child support stuff is set up in Michigan and not here. I have such a bad headache from all of this... :/

Where are you located? I'm in Montana. I'll help you get signed up for assistance. Don't worry. It will be ok. You will get help to get through this. You said that you have a college education? After you get through the birth, you wil get a job and get back on your feet without him. It will all work out alright.

Im in Hamilton. I receive food stamps and medicaid right now... But I some how need a job so I can pay this rent... :( and for my son. I went to school as a Medical Assistant but that was in Michigan. Im not certified here for that...