now thats a little risky my friend, ive never been the type of guy to do somethin like that.

You've gotta take some risks. And it's nothing too serious. You just have to feel around where you are at with the ex. If it works out, ditch the current because you are more of a fan of the ex. If it doesn't work, you didn't burn a bridge with what you've got now.

You've gotta take some risks. And it's nothing too serious. You just have to feel around where you are at with the ex. If it works out, ditch the current because you are more of a fan of the ex. If it doesn't work, you didn't burn a bridge with what you've got now.

oooh ok, i see where youre goin with that.

I thought you were tellin me to get back together with my ex and keep the girl at school around.

Alright, one of my friends (not a best friend, but I've known him for a long time) is kind of going out with this girl that I've liked pretty much since I've known her. I don't really have many friends that are girls, but I'd consider her the closest one I have. Whenever I'm around her, I could just keep on talking and talking.

My friend is kind of a d-bag though, they're really on again/off again. Some days he'll be talking about how great she is and how much he likes her and other days he's talking about how he's not getting any action and how he wants to dump her. Obviously, hearing stuff like this from him annoys me, but I can't really say anything.

I've been trying to work up the courage to talk to him about how he shouldn't lead her on like that, and talking to her if there's any chance something could happen between us. Do you think it would be a good idea, or should I just stay away until they break up?

damn coolest, the first paragraph sounded exactly like me...then it tailed off so I have no advice for you :(

Anyway, 5 months left to go for me in HS, should I "try" to get a g/f or jsut wait until university?

I would say no, unless you find a girl that you think you could get into a serious relationship with, and have the possibility of going to the same school. If you guys havent been dating that long and you guys go off to different schools it will be really hard.

Do you think it would be a good idea, or should I just stay away until they break up?

I hate to say this but I bet you are 100% in the Friend Zone and thus don't have a shot. I could be wrong but I dont know the situation well enough. She keeps going back and forth with him because she's attached to him.

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5 months left to go for me in HS, should I "try" to get a g/f or jsut wait until university?

If you don't feel it's worth it, why even bring it up to your friend? Who knows how he's gonna react, and if it'll change anything between you all. If you're gonna approach him about it, be ready to lose his friendship. That's worst case scenario, but it's very possible.

Then he isn't a friend you want to keep anyway. If a friend of mine freaks out about asking about an ex, well he isn't worth the time anyway. But I try to only associate with mature people who tell talk through a problem. But I guess thats what growing up does, 3-4 years ago I was completely different.

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It's not about having balls, cheating is among the most cowardly things a person can do. It is possible to have an open relationship. If you are going to try to get back with your ex, make sure when you are at school you aren't tied down to her. Tell her that when you are back at home, you are with only her. But when you are at school, you aren't going to be tied down in a long distance relationship.

Honesty is always the best policy. Things don't blow up in your face.

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damn coolest, the first paragraph sounded exactly like me...then it tailed off so I have no advice for you :(

Anyway, 5 months left to go for me in HS, should I "try" to get a g/f or jsut wait until university?

Sure, if you plan on breaking up before you go off to school. There is no reason to have a serious gf while in college. It is especially bad to go into college with a serious gf.

This is for everyone still in high school, as much as you think this relationship is meaningful and different, it isn't. High schoolers are not mature enough to handle a real relationship. Have fun and date while in high school, but end it before you go off to college. Then do the same thing in college, if you don't know yourself, a relationship won't work. And no one knows themselves until their mid 20s at the earliest. I feel like I am just beginning to learn who I am and what I like, and I am 22.

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I guess this is a little followup to my previous story if anybody remembers lol.

Well I went to that party. The girl wasn't there, so I didn't have to talk to her which was pretty good. Her friends were there though and I said hi to them. As I was talking to this different girl that I had just met at the party, the owner of the house comes downstairs and yells COPSSSS.

The girl ran back deeper into the party and I just headed for the door lol. I think she had to find her ride or friend or something. Anyway I hopped two fences and ran through some backyards and got to my friends car that we parked like a half mile away to avoid this situation.

Then all of a sudden I hear a freaking helicopter over me. It circles the house and puts the spotlight in the woods that I had just sprinted through. I changed my hiding spot and found an open shed with a window further off in the distance. I waited about 20 minutes and met back up with some friends then drove off. When we passed the house, there were 3 dodge charger cop cars, a van/SWAT looking thing with freaking gate in it, and 3 regular cop cars.

That + a helicopter for a HIGHSCHOOL party. And I think they caught like 5/80 people. What a joke.

Anyway, I got that girls number and I called her later, we met up at the gas station to check on each other and stuff. I felt like an ass for kinda ditching her but she didn't care.

I guess this is a little followup to my previous story if anybody remembers lol.

Well I went to that party. The girl wasn't there, so I didn't have to talk to her which was pretty good. Her friends were there though and I said hi to them. As I was talking to this different girl that I had just met at the party, the owner of the house comes downstairs and yells COPSSSS.

The girl ran back deeper into the party and I just headed for the door lol. I think she had to find her ride or friend or something. Anyway I hopped two fences and ran through some backyards and got to my friends car that we parked like a half mile away to avoid this situation.

Then all of a sudden I hear a freaking helicopter over me. It circles the house and puts the spotlight in the woods that I had just sprinted through. I changed my hiding spot and found an open shed with a window further off in the distance. I waited about 20 minutes and met back up with some friends then drove off. When we passed the house, there were 3 dodge charger cop cars, a van/SWAT looking thing with freaking gate in it, and 3 regular cop cars.

That + a helicopter for a HIGHSCHOOL party. And I think they caught like 5/80 people. What a joke.

Anyway, I got that girls number and I called her later, we met up at the gas station to check on each other and stuff. I felt like an ass for kinda ditching her but she didn't care.

I guess this is a little followup to my previous story if anybody remembers lol.

Well I went to that party. The girl wasn't there, so I didn't have to talk to her which was pretty good. Her friends were there though and I said hi to them. As I was talking to this different girl that I had just met at the party, the owner of the house comes downstairs and yells COPSSSS.

The girl ran back deeper into the party and I just headed for the door lol. I think she had to find her ride or friend or something. Anyway I hopped two fences and ran through some backyards and got to my friends car that we parked like a half mile away to avoid this situation.

Then all of a sudden I hear a freaking helicopter over me. It circles the house and puts the spotlight in the woods that I had just sprinted through. I changed my hiding spot and found an open shed with a window further off in the distance. I waited about 20 minutes and met back up with some friends then drove off. When we passed the house, there were 3 dodge charger cop cars, a van/SWAT looking thing with freaking gate in it, and 3 regular cop cars.

That + a helicopter for a HIGHSCHOOL party. And I think they caught like 5/80 people. What a joke.

Anyway, I got that girls number and I called her later, we met up at the gas station to check on each other and stuff. I felt like an ass for kinda ditching her but she didn't care.

I have no idea why MoCo has a chopper, but they have the highest per capita household income of any county in the country, and taxes aren't cheap there. I'd say they had the budget to buy it for whatever reason...

I have no idea why MoCo has a chopper, but they have the highest per capita household income of any county in the country, and taxes aren't cheap there. I'd say they had the budget to buy it for whatever reason...

I understand that the police will spend money if they have money to spend, but you'd think that the local gov spend it on something more useful than a chopper if all they're doing is busting high school parties with it.