Regret stopping

My baby is 9 months old and I stopped feeding her at 6 months and I feel incredibly sad almost everyday that I stopped I don’t know how to stop the feeling is there anything anyone can recommend for me to do to stop the guilt ? I can’t talk to anyone as none of my friends breastfed their children

Comments (4)

I’m sorry you’re struggling but you have nothing to feel guilty about.
Six months is brilliant - only 1% of Mums make it that far! All of that time of your body continuing to help your baby grow is incredible, when lo needed it most. So be proud of what you did, and treasure those memories.
And find ways to bond with lo now - ways that you won’t be able to do when older. I had a bath with my 17 month old the other day and it was lovely. And I love bringing her into bed if she wakes about 5 and falling back to sleep together.

You are still the most important person in your baby’s world, and she still needs you, however she gets her milk. You being happy will make her happy. xxx

Thank you anotherlyons for your kind words - I know I’m trying to remind myself of the good she has had of me I think it’s easy to only remember the good times when on obviously there were some hard times too as I have two other children so did struggle with it sometimes but loved it at the same time . I’m finding it hard to let her go I think which adds to the guilt . The bath idea is fantastic thank you I’ve nevr bathed with her I don’t know why I jusy chuck them all in together now but I will do that thank you !!

I don’t think I’m depressed just having A major realisation that she’s getting older and those lovely lazy baby breastfeeding days have gone and I want to do things to keep her close to me xx

Thank you anotherlyons for your kind words - I know I’m trying to remind myself of the good she has had of me I think it’s easy to only remember the good times when on obviously there were some hard times too as I have two other children so did struggle with it sometimes but loved it at the same time . I’m finding it hard to let her go I think which adds to the guilt . The bath idea is fantastic thank you I’ve nevr bathed with her I don’t know why I jusy chuck them all in together now but I will do that thank you !!

I don’t think I’m depressed just having A major realisation that she’s getting older and those lovely lazy baby breastfeeding days have gone and I want to do things to keep her close to me xx

I think we can all feel like that. Could you do some regular bedtime massage with your lo to keep that skin to skin connection? Bath time would also be great. Something you can both look forward to. X

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