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Dating someone who is hot and cold

02-10-2018, 11:13 AM

So recently I met a guy. Just like everyone else I've dated he started out great, he was smart, sweet, funny and totally boyfriend material. Until it got to the point where he started acting differently. I would be sweet and he would be "unavailable", I give him space and he comes running round chasing me. It's Frustrating, so anyways I'm at a crossroads with this guy and i dont know if it's worth staying and putting up with this guy. Does anyone have a similar experience?

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That's one of the worst positions to be in for me. I dont wanna judge the guy cause I dont know anything about him, but usually with my experience they do that cause they aren't sure about how they feel about you. Give it some time then talk to him, maybe he's going through something and just needs a little space

Well, before anything else let me ask you if you guys talk about the deep stuff or personal stuff. that's usually a good indicator that he likes you.It's hard to make a conclusion based on your summary. If you could give us more details that would be really great.

I think when a person isnt interested they wouldn't set up a second date, let alone a couple. The best thing you can probably do is to be patient and just talk to him. He's probably unsure of his feelings so he wants to keep you in the grey... for the mean time.

That guy is nothing but trouble and you are better off without him, all those kind of guys do is string you along and lead you on. This surely isnt the first time he's acted like this. Get back in the field and i'm sure a woman like you will have no trouble finding someone better and will treat you right

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Based on my experience, the only way to deal with those kind of people is to do the same thing to them. If you're up for it you can try being cold and cold to him. let's see if he doesn't change after that.

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Hot and Cold right from the start? Seems like you're fighting for a losing battle. Save yourself the heartbreak and regret and date someone who sees your worth as a person and isnt afraid to let you know you're special