Struggling, failed medical abortion was such a hard decision in the first place

I spoke to the specialist on Friday and we went for our scan today. The scan was with the fetal medicine team, including consultant and midwife. I'm over the moon to say our baby boy is developing as normal and is healthy. The consultant was very helpful and the whole team have put my mind at ease. I'm no longer high risk and they've said to forget about taking the abortion tablets as it has caused no harm and to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy as it now a 'normal' pregnancy. I'm so relieved and so happy. I'm 20 weeks, plus 5 days so half way there already!

Hi Betty,
That's amazing news! Congratulations!
I've just read this thread as I just found out that I'm pregnant last night at 7pm! But my husband doesn't want another baby. We already have a 10 year old and an 8 yr old. I'm not sure what to do but I'm shocked to find that sometimes the termination doesn't work.

I really don't envy the position you're in. Deciding to terminate my pregnancy at 8 weeks was the most difficult decision I've ever had to make, and it was a decision I was never 100% certain of. I've never been against abortion as I believe every woman should have the right to chose but I never thought it would be a choice I'd make. To be honest the clinic didn't really explain that the pregnancy could continue after taking the abortion tablets (medical abortion). They said the biggest failure rate is with an incomplete abortion but didn't mention that the whole pregnancy could continue. It was a shock to find out I was still pregnant and I was really upset, not because I was still pregnant but because I thought I had no other option but to terminate at 15 weeks, which is something I didn't want to do so far into the pregnancy. It feels like my life has been on hold for weeks but now I finally know that I'm pregnant with a healthy boy. I don't really believe in fait but I can't help but think this little one is meant to be. I also have two children, from my previous relationship, aged 10 and 6. I have no idea how I will cope with three and teach full time but I know somehow I will make it work. I'm sure lots of people will want to give you lots of advice but take your time to think about it. Don't worry about what other people think. This is between you and your husband. Try to keep talking and share how you feel. Maybe you could go for some counselling. I'm pleased I was given a second chance but I'm sure there are plenty of woman who know from day one that a termination is what they want. Good luck with whatever you decide. x

Seeking advise as im in the same situation

Hello,

I am 19 years old and this is my first pregnancy. I found out I was pregnant at only 3 weeks and I had the medical abortion at 5 weeks as me and my partner are immigrating to new zeland next year we thought that the abortion was the best idea for our financial state and age, on friday I went for my follow up scan just to see if the abortion has worked and then found out "I am still very much pregnant." And I was giving the option to go through the medical abortion again or the operation as I didn't want to go through the medical again and for it to fail again I chose the operation and the next appointment is in 3 weeks so I would be nearly 12 weeks by then.

I have seen on the thread that peoples baby's are healthy which is brilliant . Will I be to early in my pregnancy at 9 weeks to find out if it's healthy or not?

I am 19 years old and this is my first pregnancy. I found out I was pregnant at only 3 weeks and I had the medical abortion at 5 weeks as me and my partner are immigrating to new zeland next year we thought that the abortion was the best idea for our financial state and age, on friday I went for my follow up scan just to see if the abortion has worked and then found out "I am still very much pregnant." And I was giving the option to go through the medical abortion again or the operation as I didn't want to go through the medical again and for it to fail again I chose the operation and the next appointment is in 3 weeks so I would be nearly 12 weeks by then.

I have seen on the thread that peoples baby's are healthy which is brilliant . Will I be to early in my pregnancy at 9 weeks to find out if it's healthy or not?

Wow Holly, yes that is amazing ... you know how they say things happen for a reason.

You should have been able to get some information about the baby's health at 9 weeks, did you learn anything? Most babies are fine after failed medical abortions -- and surprisingly often, their mums are happy to hear it!

What is your situation then, what did you learn and what are your plans? Wishing all the best for you and for everyone involved, no matter what happens.

Requesting Update

I'm sorry to rehash this but I have also found myself in a similar situation and i'd really appreciate an update on your situations. Not to say my outcome will be the same but i'm so surprised that this happens to so many women. I had my termination (medical) done at 6 weeks yet lo and behold at 12 weeks my belly has grown. I have been having positive pregnancy tests all along. My hcg level was decreasing but the fact that my belly has now started growing is obviously a concern. Contacted clinic and was told to have my baby surgically removed which I don't want to do. Frankly I have no confidence in them. This entire experience has been so traumatizing. I am so scared now. Its scary waiting till 20 weeks to find out if my baby is ok.

They canít make you get rid of the baby if you would like to go ahead now. If you have no confidence in them anyway, then seek help elsewhere. You should be able to get a scan before 20 weeks. Try Pregnancy Choices Directory for advice and a referral to a counselling centre, many of which perform or refer for scans.

Many, many babies who survived a failed medical abortion turn out to be fine. Good luck and let us know what happens. x

Hi ladies. I posted on here earlier in the year regarding my failed medical abortion. I couldn't face coming on here again as I knew it would churn up a lot of negative feelings and remind me of the horrible situation I had been in. Before I continue I'd like to say that the abortion failing was the best thing ever to happen to me/to us. I was never 100% certain and the day I took the abortion tablets was the worst day of my life. Just over a week ago I give birth to a healthy and absolutely beautiful baby boy. He is my world and the thought of him not being in my life reduces me to tears. The abortion is something I try not to think about but it is still very raw, like I said the fact that it failed was a second chance for us and the best thing ever to happen. The last time I posted on here we had been for our 20 week scan after the failed medical abortion and after deciding to continue with the pregnancy. I have noticed many of you are asking if an earlier scan can detect any abnormalities, the advice I was given by medical professionals is no. The fetus is not developed enough before 20 weeks to detect many abnormalities. The waiting game for us teared me apart. Everyday I was watching my tummy/my baby grow and I wasn't sure if it was healthy or what damaged I'd caused to it. The scan did put my mind at ease but towards the end of my pregnancy I did worry a lot that the abortion tablets I'd taken had caused some damage to my baby. Giving birth to my son and meeting him for the first time was the most amazing experience. The first time I looked at his perfect little face and his big eyes completely alert and looking around the room I knew he was healthy and I fell in love with him so much. Those of you who have had a failed abortion, my thoughts are with you. If you need to question whether you can go through with the abortion again maybe you don't really want to have the abortion. I'm definitely not anti-abortion. I believe women should have this choice but I also know how lucky I feel that my abortion didn't work. I cried when I found out that my abortion hadn't worked, not because I was still pregnant but because I thought I'd have to go through it again and all I wanted was to look after the baby growing in my tummy. Every day I hoped that my baby was healthy and I'll probably always carry a little bit of guilt for trying to abort him. Good luck ladies, with whatever you decide x x

Betty, it is so cool to hear that! Congratulations and please don't feel guilty, the point as that in the end everything worked out and you have a lifetime to enjoy and care for your little boy! All my best to you!

Failed abortion

Hi I've been readin all the post and I was in the same situation.. I had I 5 month old when I found out I was 8wks pregnant so I decided to abort.. Went home lost a big blood clot to which I thought was my baby. But then 2 weeks later I did another test and was still pregnant, I decided to carry on with my pregnancy as couldn't go through with it again. I'm now 39 wks and Havin a little boy due in a wk. I've been told everything is ok 😀. Just feelin a little nervous bout the whole situation. X

Failed medical abortion

Hi i have also had a failed medical abortion. I had the procedure at 8 weeks and went home to pass the pregnancy at home which I thought had happened. I no longer felt pregnant but after several test and still saying that I was positive I asked for a scan.
I went for the scan to be told it had failed and I was 14 weeks pregnant. I asked if I could continue the pregnancy and was adviced to have a surgical abortion as there was a risk of my baby having moebius syndrome. But my husband and I wanted to see a consultant for more advice. I had a scan yesterday and I am now 16 weeks pregnant. We have decided to carry on with the pregnancy and feel this baby is meant to be and as he/she is clearly fighting to live then we owe it our baby to fight to keep it.

Hi ladies. As you can see from my previous posts I have been in your situation, I also had a failed medical abortion. In light to some of the questions we continued with the pregnancy. I was never 100% certain that an abortion was the right route for us but we didn't want