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Pet Peeve #044: Boundaries?

Look, I am pretty traditional. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Why should I conform to “modern” society. Modern society don’t even know what the fuck they are all about. Please.

So anyway, my peeve is that, why do some people not acknowledge that there are still certain boundaries between a girl and a boy. Yeah, yeah, you’re all modern & shit – a girl and a boy can be friends blah blah yada yada. But, it really got me weirded out. I don’t think it is right or even a good idea to ask a boy or a girl who is attached/engaged/married out. Alone. Together. When you guys are not even that close. You don’t even know her/his favourite colour! What, to catch up? On what? Can’t you just text? Don’t even think about calling, please.

You get me?

Like why would you even do that?

Are you trying to gauge how faithful they are? Or you feel “safe” that they already have a partner so you asking them out is like a “just friends thing” – “He’s attached! We’re just hanging! No biggie!”? Do you even think about how your actions would affect their partner? How would you feel if your partner got asked out? Okay fine, maybe you be okay with that since you are asking all these people out. But some people are different okay? They can interpret this whole thing so wrong. And you should know that. Don’t just think that everyone thinks like you. Gosh, people can be so unaware.

And c’mon, don’t ask her/him out and say “Hey, is your girlfriend/boyfriend/fiance/wife/husband okay with you hanging out with just me and my vagina/dick?” What are you trying to do? Trying to prove that it is an “innocent meet-up/catch-up?” That you care about how their partner feels? Please. Ew. You make me sick with how fake you are. Don’t try to make them feel like they are not modern/cool enough, or that their partner is so traditional and backwards. Don’t even try that trick man! That is really mean!

YOU SHOULD FUCKING KNOW TO STAY AWAY FROM THEM. GO FIND YOUR OTHER FRIENDS MAN WTF. JUST FUCKING TEXT. DONT CREATE A FUCKING DRAMA. WHATS THE POINT OF BEING MODERN IF YOU DONT USE YOUR FUCKING PHONE. PHONE IS A MODERN TECHNOLOGY YOU FUCK FACE. THERE IS NO NEED FOR A FUCKING MEET UP. STAY THE FUCK AWAY.

Get your manners right, man.

There are rules. Don’t be an asshole.

Follow the fucking rules.

(Of course, I know that sometimes it really is an innocent catch-up. That it really is friends hanging out. There are a million of other possibilities/reasons. I know. I’m not dumb. Just go along with this particular scenarios. Don’t ask so many questions. God.)