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This is a funny and educational video with a very scary edge… And it’s geeky too. If it were sexy (it’s not) it would be the perfect video to share here, but it’s still pretty close. And it’s definitely perfect for Halloween. Are you ready to learn the science of a potential zombie apocalypse? Warning: it might make you want to stock up on zombie preparedness kits.

I already knew this, but it’s interesting to see it explained in such a clear and direct way. It is weird to make the mental leap from fiction to reality, though. As much as I love zombie movies and zombie culture, I don’t actually want to be devoured by one. Sometimes things are best left in fantasy.

What do you think? Do you think a zombie apocalypse would ever happen? And would you be at all excited, or just scared out of your mind? And of course, since I have to ask, what’s your favourite zombie movie?

Bewitched, bothered and bewildered… This year, I decided to dress up as a sexy witch with a bunch of cute little purple spiders hanging out in my accessories for good measure. It’s a more sultry take on a classic costume and I really love it. As soon as I saw it, I had to have it. It’s nice to go back to the basics of Halloween, and a number of people guessed right, so I did a draw and contacted the winner. Thanks to everyone for your awesome guesses, and for some inspiration for next year!

The blowjob itself is really sexy. I sort of envisioned myself casting a spell on Mike with my mouth, totally hypnotizing him and keeping him enraptured by my wicked skills. I’m a good witch, not a bad witch. Everything feels really seductive, but also cute and playful, since it is Halloween after all!

You can be bewitched by my blowjob too by checking out a few of my tricks in the trailer or enjoying the whole treat with the full video. Did you like my Halloween costume? I hope you enjoyed it and I hope that you all have a very Happy Halloween. I’m excited to give out candy and then watching something scary after, cuddling up on the couch. What are you going to get up to?

I recently read a really interesting piece on Good Men Project all about intimacy, specifically with regards to men, but I think it can be applicable to just about anyone. In it, the author (Dan Griffin) talks about the idea of a “sex funnel” that all affection ultimately passes through. Even though this is a funny image, I can see where he’s coming from.

He means that men are taught to experience all kinds of closeness as somehow being related to sex. If you’re cuddling or kissing, it means that sex is close behind. If you’re a heterosexual man who feels close to another guy, you have to qualify it or explain it away somehow so it doesn’t come off as gay. There’s all sorts of expectation that men are all about sex all the time (as well as the idea that women don’t) that makes us feel like we’re not allowed to be complete people with lots of different ways of interacting.

I find this all pretty fascinating, especially coming from a philosophy that sex and closeness should be more linked both in porn and in life. We see such cold representations of sex in porn that we even further miss the idea of intimacy and feelings to the point where some mainstream porn could almost be seen to suggest that there really is no place for affection anywhere, at least in the confines of some of their videos.

As someone who clearly thinks about sex a lot, much of my affection does naturally become sexual with Mike, but I can think of so many other relationships in my life where that’s not the case, and I think that I experience them fully. Maybe this is linked to that paranoid notion that people who are attracted to each other’s genders can never be “just” friends. As someone who has made a lot of friends online over the years with lots of great guys, there’s definitely a way, even when there is an element of sharing my sexuality too…

This is all so interesting to think about, but what do you think? Do you see examples of how the close moments in your life invariably turn to sex? Or do you enjoy your platonic experiences based on closeness and connection without the expectation of anything else? And, for my own personal curiousity, do you think any of this does or doesn’t apply when talking here with me on the blog?

I love Halloween! I also love dressing up. And contests! This morning, I decided that I wanted to combine all three to give you all a shot at winning a free month membership to The Art of Blowjob and Slow Motion Blowjob.

So, what do you think I’m going to be? Something scary? Something sexy? Maybe a classic look or something new? Will it be funny or serious? Will I be a good guy or a bad guy? Let me know and I’ll reveal and contact the winner as soon as the video goes up, so stay tuned! If there are lots of correct guesses, I’ll do a draw between them. If there aren’t any right answers, I’ll do a draw from everyone who guessed and someone will win anyways! Happy almost Halloween!

Penises are often used for sex. This statement may be shocking, but it’s true!

Although a lot of what I want to cover here is anatomical and self-esteem-related in nature, I certainly want to help people use their penises for good! (I like to think that sex is an inherently good thing!)

Figuring out speed and intensity is paramount. The same way a blowjob is all about knowing what you want and how to get it, getting the right speed is about figuring out what you want and then coordinating that with what your partner wants too. It becomes a bit more of a juggling act, so feeling it out is key. You may luck out and wind up with someone who tells you exactly what to do (Slow down! Harder! etc…) and then you can just try to match that to what you’re feeling, but you may end up with someone quieter. Asking the occasional question to check in (without being fixated on constantly communicating to the point of being out of the moment) is a good thing. But moans and screams and smiles and body position adjustments are also things to look out for. Good-sounding and steadily building noises mean that you’re on the right track and you should keep on with what you’re doing… Unless you’re about to come and you think it might be a bit early in the game for that. Then, try changing positions and find the right intensity together and speed all over again.

Timing thrusts is certainly something to think about. This isn’t quite the same as speed because it’s specifically about getting in sync with your partner. Often leverage plays a role in this, so assume positions where you can get a good grip and balance. If your partner is active (and I hope so!) then you will want to figure out how to time it so that you meet at the apex of your movement at the same time. Think of it rhythmically. It takes a while to find the exact beat, and sometimes you might fumble or skip one, but having that pulsation together in a grounded, stable position will make you both feel secure and will make the impact so much more profound… Plus, you’ll get optimal depth, which is always a good thing!

Accepting limitations is a part of life, and definitely a part of sexuality. This means taking it easy on yourself and not holding yourself to pornographic standards. So many people think you have to be a rough stallion who can go on for hours and hours and hours. That’s just not true. For a lot of people, having sex for that long and that hard can chafe profusely. It’s so much better to be in tune with your partner and focus on giving nuanced pleasure rather than just jackhammering away. There are times where that’s what you want or what your partner wants, and you can even get away with some combination of slow and fast to build intensity and desire… Nothing has to be consistently one note, even if that can feel great. Just as you wouldn’t expect a blowjob that’s 100% vigorous deep throating, you can’t hold yourself to unattainable standards, because you’ll just wind up feeling disappointed, and that’s not what sex should be.

Another wise move is to accept and encourage help! Your penis can be many amazing things, but it can’t be everything all the time. If you can use a hand or let her use a hand or every use a vibrator (or any other toy that strikes her fancy) you can have really hot sex with even more arousal, desire and orgasms. A lot of men have trouble thinking that a woman could need anything more than what he has to offer, a lot of women need clitoral stimulation, especially vibration, to get the full range of feeling to have really amazing orgasms. It’s hard to get past that natural shot to the ego, but what’s sexier than seeing a woman having incredible pleasure to the fullest extent? You can hold the toy and use it on her to feel extra involved, or watch her take control of her body and pleasure. It’s thrilling.

What are some of your most important thoughts and tips on making sex work for you?

I’m always careful to say that deep thoating isn’t the be all and end all of a blowjob, but sure is a nice little trick to have in your arsenal. Mike certainly enjoys it. This video is a simple and sweet testament to the love of a very deep, warm and wet throat. It’s called All The Way In and that’s exactly how I took his penis.

The nice thing about this blowjob is that, even though it has a focus, it’s not ALL deep throating. There’s a beautiful balance that I need to create to really whip Mike into a frenzy. It’s not all about just bobbing up and down until he comes. It’s a little game, kind of a dance almost, finding all the different parts of him that I need to seduce and tame to make him go crazy with desire and the strong urge to come. It’s so beautiful to see when I’ve finally figured it out.

I was wondering… What’s your secret combination to unlock your orgasm? Are there certain patterns or things you or a partner can do to bring you to the edge? Do you take a lot of special requirements or can you be pretty easy to please? These little things about people are always so fascinating. You can get another look at the pattern I use for Mike in the trailer, and then witness the complete end result in the full video. It’s always worth it!