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Wow! God bless you for wanting more! The only people who can say for sure, when to have more, are you and your husband. It is a very personal decision. Twins are especially challenging during the terrible twos and threes, you may wonder why it was you wanted to have kids in the first place! We had our third son when our twin boys were three years and three months old. It helped tremendously that they were in preschool two full days a week. They adjusted very well to their new sibling, at least until he could crawl and get into their toys! When we just had the two, I used to marvel at the miracle and blessings of twins. Now I marvel at the miracle of three! If you haven't already connected with your local Mothers of Twins Club, find one! They are a tremendous support. You can locate one through the national website under NOMOTC. Twins Magazine has also been an invaluable resource for us. Good Luck!

I have a 3 and a half year old and twin 19 month olds. Having my daughter being 2 when the boys were born was a little rough on me and my husband, even with the enormous amount of help we had from family.
On the upside, having a single baby after twins will seem like a piece of cake.
Also, they will have eachother to turn to when they can't have your attention. As long as they are old enough to be OK with doing that...
I would say this: If you can have help (lots) then you can do it whenever you feel ready. However, what I found was a two year old is still mommy-needy. Very needy! TWO 2 year olds could be VERY needy, and if no one else is around to care for the infant, you will really find the meaning of stress (and it can really be worse than having twins, cause now they will outnumber the amount of arms you have!)
First and foremost, I personally would wait until they twins have all their teeth. Do you really want to be torn between night feedings and a cranky crying teething child? I would also wait until the twins are old enough to either go to a pre-school or kindergarden so that you and your new baby will get some special time together. I find that having 3 kids under 4 is hard because I'm always tending to something, and it's rarely anything fun like reading, playing, coloring, or even cuddling--there will be a war on who sits on mommy's lap otherwise...2 fit, but three don't.
One more issue, are the twins boy/girl or girl/girl? If you have at least one girl, then you're in luck...girls like to help with babies more than boys.
That's my input. Good luck!

I have twins also and had the same dilema. We had our third child when the twins were just under 3. It worked out well because they were old enough to understand and also to help. Our daughter is now 6 months old and it is wonderful having the kids the age they are because they baby loves to watch them play. They will also help me feed her by holding her bottle or getting a diaper. They are also at the age that they can entertain themselves when the baby needs me and can get themselves dressed. Hope this helps!!

I do not have twins, but I have a 10 month old bundle of energy who has no self control what so ever. I would like my son to understand concepts like "Be gentle" and "Don't run your scooter into your sister" first. Two (or three) in diapers does not faze me . . . two with less than 50% chance of following verbal instructions terrifies me.

I wouldnt really call this a dilemma, but instead a personal decision.
I am currently 6 months pregnant with our second child and our son just turned 14 months old.
We really wanted to have our children close together(despite some people's comments) and we are excited.
Others choose to have their children a few years apart or in some really extreme cases 8 - 12 years apart.
If you want live - in babysitters then perhaps wait like 10 years, if you want your children to be close in age and perhaps give them a better chance of having a relationship ,then perhaps start trying now or make them a couple years apart.
To each their own!

I don't have twins, but I would wait until the twins are completely potty trained. I don't know if you are a SAHM or not, but I would also wait until they can be in a half day preschool(just for sanity's sake).

I have four month old twins and was wondering the same thing. I have read from Dr. Leman, author of "First Time Mom", "The Birth Order", and "Making Your Kids Mind Without Losing Yours", that he suggests waiting until your youngest is 3 or 4 years old. Now, he didn't say this with twins in mind and it might seem like a long time to wait, but given that we all have twins, 3 or 4 yrs old might be a good time to add the next sibling, or next SET of twins (it IS possible). Good luck with your planning. Just make sure you and your spouse both agree on the timing.

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