Ensure that your wedding is remembered for its style, rather than how much it cost. It may only need some small touches, such as arriving together for the ceremony.

The Crown Prince and Princess of Norway in 2001 and Crown Prince and Princess of the Netherlands in 2002 modernised wedding style by walking down the aisle together.

If Dad feels left out by the idea, follow Crown Princess Victoria of Sweden'sstyle.

Last year, her father, King Carl Gustaf,accompanied her partway down the aisle,where she joined her groom, to walk together to the ceremony.

European royal brides have prewedding celebrations, including receptions and lunches, some official.

The idea can be a good way to include non-list guests. You could also go informal. The Danish Crown Prince and Princess took part in a sailing challenge and attended a rock concert as part of their wedding celebrations.

Why not splurge on a couple of theatre boxes, with a drinks reception afterwards or a family dinner?

Parents or family members who want to contribute could host a wedding brunch after the day — Sophie Rhys-Jones's parents hosted a brunch on the day after the wedding.

If you yearn for the romantic and luxurious setting, but simply don't have the budget, follow the royal example and switch the receptions.

A buffet party for guests after the ceremony, with finger food and champagne and a string quarter or jazz band could cost around €5,000, for around 100 guests.

You could follow itwith a dinner for around 30 family and friends,maybe in a restaurant, from €500 upwards.Add style with blacktie, or less formally,go onto a bar/club.

Be more creative with the food. Fewer courses reduce costs. You could go organic or feature local produce. Rather than an expensive after-thought, follow royal example and make a feature of the (often uneaten) cake.

Do you really need all that expensive professiona lentertainment— dance troupes,fireworksetc?

Danish bridesinclude all their guests in the traditional Bridal Waltz. The bridal couple start the dancing,with guests surrounding them in a wide circle. Symbolisingtheloveandsupport offamilyandfriendsfortheunion,itis usuallyafarmoreemotionaloccasion thananyprofessionalact—andthat's whatweddingsarereallyallabout.