Tuesday, 10 August 2010

My 2 Pence: Its Started off cool but then the attraction faded... why?

Ever been in that cool ass hell chill situation with a new candidate? Conversation is flowing, company is cool... until you have your 1st fight. The dynamics then change and before long its like you are dealing with a situation that you feel is no longer worth your time. Sounds familiar right?

Its usually down to a few factors. In the beginning, its all about the smooth talking and lavish gestures. You want the candidate to be into in the same way you are into them. Once you get confirmation you turn the intensity down and here in lies the problem. Said candidate sees Mr High Intensity as you and has bought into the fantasy of having the intensity on a daily. Intensity is a time consuming business, especially if your main focus is to get your hustle on to better your future and the candidate is eating into your ability to do this.

Usher in a recent interview hit the nail on the head when he said that he got married because in his eyes he had found someone to love him the way he wanted to be loved. I guess the point I'm making is that when it comes to serious dating, don't be blindsighted by material things in another; lift up that sleeve and show your heart and ambition, that way you attract the real and not the opportunists.