My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time, my longest relationship. Recently we were told we couldn't see each other. My dad thinks we are too serious (I'm daddys little girl). His mom thinks I am a bad influence (which I am anything but!) - momma's boy! He got a new job and is working 40 hours a week and going to school, which makes it even harder to see him. He also has been arguing a lot and threatening to break up with me over the stupidest little things. But after about 10 min. he comes crawling back telling me how much he loves me and never wants to lose me. I can't deal with this! Please Help!! Yours Truly, Alliysson

If mom and dad still have influence over who you can see and can't, I imagine you aren't particularly old or that your "longest relationship" isn't one of many experiences.

My advice to you would be to relax. Parents can cause a lot of hype over boyfriends and make you so crazy that you do things, like adamantly chase after the guy, for no particular reason other than you aren't supposed to.

If you and this boyfriend are really great together you'll figure it out eventually, - just take it easy and don't panic. Above all, do what you think is best - if he's making you nuts, back-off or tell your dad you dumped the guy because you're hot for someone else - not because he told you to!

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You shouldn't have to deal with it, either, so don't!

Don't get trapped into staying in a bad relationship just because you have been in it for a long (?) time and you are familiar with the dynamics of the relationship. A manipulative person like your boyfriend (he yanks your strings every time that he "threatens" to break-up) is not a good long-term partner.

Since you have been told by your father that you are not to see this guy, I am assuming that you are under 18 and still living at home. In short, you are still relatively young. Listen to your father (he'll be VERY impressed) and your own instincts which are obviously telling you that this relationship is not good.