This is a slice of my philosophical, lay scientific, musical, religious skepticism, and poetic musings. (All poems are my own.)
The science and philosophy side meet in my study of cognitive philosophy; Dan Dennett was the first serious influence on me, but I've moved beyond him.
The poems are somewhat related, as many are on philosophical or psychological themes. That includes existentialism and questions of selfhood, death, and more. Nature and other poems will also show up here on occasion.

Boy, a great column here
from The Guardian, and what looks like a book that might be even better
at undercutting the New Agey myths about the unstoppable power of blind
optimism than Barbara Ehrenreich's "Bright Sided."

With
a column title like "Happiness is a Glass Half Empty," followed by
references to Stoicism, among other things, we've got real meat.

And,
the book title, by the column's author, goes even further than
Ehrenreich, in noting such potentially harmful thinking must be fought.
Indeed, we need an "antidote" for such ideas.

The
column delivers a good foretaste of this, including noting how it's OK
to fail, and better than OK to accept the idea of failure.

The Museum of Failed Products

The column starts with a great "hook": a visit to a
museum of failed products. It then notes that many companies, fearful of
accepting failure, don't keep such products themselves.

But,
Burkeman notes, products fail even more often than small-business
start-ups. So, why can't we accept these and other failures?

He says that it's in part because we've forgotten some good wisdom from the past.

He
doesn't specifically say this is connected to the relative ease of
modern life, but maybe it is. Anyway, here's his dive into Stoic ideas:

Behind
all of the most popular modern approaches to happiness and success is
the simple philosophy of focusing on things going right. But ever since
the first philosophers of ancient Greece and Rome, a dissenting
perspective has proposed the opposite: that it's our relentless effort
to feel happy, or to achieve certain goals, that is precisely what makes
us miserable and sabotages our plans. And that it is our constant quest
to eliminate or to ignore the negative – insecurity, uncertainty,
failure, sadness – that causes us to feel so insecure, anxious,
uncertain or unhappy in the first place.

If you know philosophy, you know his idea, though he doesn't use the
actual word: "ataxaria." It's more, less and different than detachment
or dissociation. The idea of "acceptance" might get closer.

And lest one draws the wrong ideas from Marcus Aurelius or Epictetus, he steps in:

Yet this conclusion does not have to be depressing. Instead, it points
to an alternative approach: a "negative path" to happiness that entails
taking a radically different stance towards those things most of us
spend our lives trying hard to avoid. This involves learning to enjoy
uncertainty, embracing insecurity and becoming familiar with failure. In
order to be truly happy, it turns out, we might actually need to be
willing to experience more negative emotions – or, at the very least, to
stop running quite so hard from them.

Indeed. And, with some variations, beyond his hangups with sex and
repression (while ignoring sexual abuse's connection to hysteria!) Freud
talked about this to some degree. So, too, in yet another vein, Miguel
de Unanumo arguably did this in "The Tragic Sense of Life." (To me,
every Gnu Atheist who wants to bash religion in general should have
Unanumo on his/her required reading list.)

Anyway, what about recent claims that
blind optimism can improve one's actions in life? Not so fast, Burkeman
says. Research shows that things like visualizing positive outcomes can
actually backfire, by practitioners often refusing to do the work to get
to those outcomes. Ahh, magical thinking, new variety.

And, there's other twists from the glass half empty. Here's one:

Psychologists have long agreed that one of the greatest enemies of human
happiness is "hedonic adaptation" – the predictable and frustrating way
in which any new source of pleasure we obtain, whether it's as minor as a
new electronic gadget or as major as a marriage, swiftly gets relegated
to the backdrop of our lives: we grow accustomed to it, and it ceases
to deliver so much joy. It follows, then, that regularly reminding
yourself that you might lose any of the things you currently enjoy can
reverse the adaptation effect. Thinking about the possibility of losing
something you value shifts it from the backdrop of your life back to
centre stage, where it can deliver pleasure once more.

Burkeman then morphs back to the failed products. He says the flip
side of not being realistic about failure is being unrealistic about
the causes of success, including believing we have a lot of control over
causing success when that's often not that true.

Or, if you want more reason to try to change your viewpoint, here's one:

Perfectionism is one of those traits that many people seem secretly, or
not-so-secretly, proud to possess, since it hardly seems like a
character flaw. Yet, at bottom, it is a fear-driven striving to avoid
the experience of failure at all costs. At the extremes, it is an
exhausting and permanently stressful way to live: there is a greater
correlation between perfectionism and suicide, researchers have found,
than between feelings of hopelessness and suicide.

That ... the last part ... I did not know. Being somewhat
pessimistic and a "negative" thinker, yet a bit of a perfectionist at
times, that's words to take to heart ... accept failure! Failing at
something doesn't make me a failure, does it?

There's plenty more ideas like this salted through this long column. Here's a good short one for conclusion: