(Closed) BMs/Sisters really hurt my feelings, or am I complaining…

So heres the story/vent. When I got engaged my sisters (I have 2) were the first ones I called, and asked them to by my bm’s right after. Buut thats kind of when issues started. When we went dress shopping they tried to take over the appointments and made it difficult. When it came to their dress it was a battle and a half and took a lot of yelling and mom help to get them into the dress I wanted. after that was over things were pretty chill, but they didnt ask much if i needed any help. THEN!! I find out that 5 month earlier they planned a trip to europe for a month….not just another state, not to another city far away…..ACROSS THE ATLANTIC OCEAN! I was told nothing about it, I actually found out 3 months before they were going to leave that they were going…..ON FACEBOOK, and now I have to read super gushy statues about how much they love it there.

Im honestly really hurt by this. My mom said maybe cause they figured I was getting married this year that I wouldnt want to go, BUT the reason I planned the wedding this year was because there was nothing going on. I didnt even get asked, or it mentioned, nothing. We were always pretty close growing up (im the middle) and I though having them as my bms would be a blast. But Im wondering when I see them if i should mention anything about it? If it was one of them, I know they would. But Im just super angry I dont think I want to hear about it or see pictures. They also sent me a post card with “we cant wait for a trip wit the three of us”…I wanted to scream….Bees be honest…complaining or do I have a case?

@Jamie42003: Well, they cant use single girls only because they both have bf’s, but my fi isn’t an excuse. They know him well enough, and I would have only gone. Even he mentioned why I didnt I go/get asked.

It does sting, because we always talked about how we should all do a trip together, and now people are asking me “How is europe?” or “Why arnt you on the trip?” so what am I supose to say without sounding jealous/snotty.

That’s odd – they’re your sisters so just ask what the deal was why you didn’t get an invite! I’m the middle of 3 girls and 3 girls is tough! It’s always 2 against 1 – in differing pairs though! Love my sisters tons and wouldn’t trade them for the world, but it can’t definitely be hard sometimes.

Maybe they just thought you were too busy and financially wrapped up in wedding planning, maybe they thought you didn’t want to leave your SO behind for an entire month. There are tons of reasons they could have. Give them a chance, they sent a nice post card, just nicely maybe say “I would have liked to have gone, maybe next time y’all can invite me too?”

I know they are adults, but when we have been talking about all taking a trip together since we were 10, it stings a little. Expecially if me and one of them would have planned something like this, the other would have flipped! And one sister is starting a crazy program, so for the next for years she cant do much, and will be super broke. And in 4 years I want to start a family possibly.

And like I said, my mom told me they planned this well before I had any of the wedding plans started, so they could have told me. It wasnt techinally a month, but almost 3 weeks. And the post card was for my birthday too.

But I guess its to hard to describe completely what goes on with a situation on a forum. Nevermind, just feeling sorry for myself.

They probably just assumed that you would be too busy (or maybe even financially strapped) to go with them. While it does sting to get left out, I don’t think that they meant to hurt your feelings. Wish them well on their trip – I am sure that they are jealous that you’re getting married. 🙂

YOu have a right to be hurt. Express your feelings in a respectful manner. My brothers planned a trip without me and I was a little pissed off that I was the only one left out, however I just let it go because clearly if they wanted me to come they would have invited me.

@Ashley_B: I am one of 3 girls also, the eldest. They should have asked, maybe they thought your finances and time would be tied up but it would hurt not to be asked. Dont let it esculate into a big fight though, unfortunately things can tend to get worse sometimes before they get better.