Used To, But Now I Know Better

I used to want people to tell me what was on their minds. Didn’t return my call? Why? Is there a riff between us? Why? Tell me what you think. Tell me your opinion on this or that. Express your feelings. Why be meek and shy about it? Oh, and please don’t talk to me in riddles. I hate that shit. Rather than talk in circles, or avoid questions and conversations altogether, be frank and upfront with me. Let’s have a discussion. I’ve been told by friends (and my daughter) that I’m bossy!

I’m a bit of a forward person, but I don’t care so much anymore. No one owes me an explanation for their feelings or an expressed opinion on any subject. Need time? Okay, I’ll talk to you later. Don’t wanna talk? Cool with me!

How you feel is more important than what anyone thinks about your ability to express your emotions, or have a conversation you’re not ready to have. Or show up to things you just don’t want to show up for – mentally or physically!

I’m so good with this now. And so much happier – because I just don’t care. It’s like an epiphany. Happiness is in loving folks anyway, regardless of conditions – whether you talk them through or not. Things are unfolding perfectly whether you have tangible evidence – or the right words at the right time. And I’m much more in alignment with who I am in the clarity of this stance.

At the moment, I feel so in love for the sake of being in love – with life, and all that’s unfolding whether I see it or not! I’m content.

Wanna know something else? I was kinda forced into this stance by someone who refused to conform to my demands. And it’s unbelievably freeing. I just never imagined. This is love. And one of my biggest blessings.

I used to care so much about things that seem trivial now. But – I get more results via energy and alignment than I do with words an actions. Things are always moving – even when you can’t see or hear them.

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I'm a writer daylighting as a banker! I started this blog as a single woman in my 30s, and while it has blossomed to include conversations on spirituality and travel, the basic premise is still relationships. I like exploring love relationships (they're fascinating) and the idea that we take ourselves wherever we go (from relationship to relationship, city to city, country to country, etc.) So self assessment is always necessary for growth. And you know if I'm writing about relationships (romantic and otherwise), topics also include dating, lust, the single life, getting ready to be ready (for whatever kind of relationship you envision), etc.
Thanks for joining me on this journey. If we're doing it right, expansion is ongoing. We never stop. This blog evolves, as I do. But -- I can only write from a woman's perspective, for us, and for those who love us.