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The quote above is meaningful in so many ways. So let’s start at the very beginning, it’s a very good place to start.

“True love is not just physical”… It’s not just physical, although the physical is a huge part of it. Of course when you hear that love is not just physical, you interpret it to mean that it isn’t just about lust but I think it goes beyond that. The definition of physical from the oxford dictionary is.. “of or relating to the body as opposed to the mind”. So in a deeper way it means that true love is about the mind or rather the mindset as well as the body. If your attitude or mindset is negative toward the object of your affection than it is not true love because either this person is not right for you or you are not willing to do the work to keep your mindset positive.

“Nor romantic”… One of the oxford dictionary’s definitions of romantic is “of, characterized by, or suggestive of an idealized view of reality”. Don’t get me wrong, this viewpoint is important! You should think that you are the luckiest person in the world and you should view your relationship through rose-colored glasses but what this quote says is that you need balance. Romance is not the only component of true love. No person or relationship is 100% positive all the time and you need to be able to see the down side of your mate and your relationship and still think it is worth it. Which leads us to the last part.

“True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be and will not be.” This last part reinforces the need for more than a romantic viewpoint, because to some extent you need your love to be rooted in reality. If you are waiting for your love to change, to become the person they should be, so that you can be with a “perfect” partner, than it isn’t really true love because you aren’t in love with who they are, you are in love with a figure that you have made up in your own head. If you know that your love doesn’t want kids and you do and you are just hoping down the road they change their mind then you aren’t respecting them or their views in a way that you should with a true love. When you talk to people that have been together forever they will all have stories about times when they were disappointed or frustrated and their relationship was on the rocks. The one thing that made their love last was not that it was perfect, it was that they valued it enough to hang in there. They valued it enough to accept it for exactly what it was and still hang in there. That’s what true love is. It’s seeing yourself and your love as clearly as you are capable of and still knowing that you wouldn’t want to be with any one else.