Positive Mental Attitude: Season 2 – Episode 19 – Dump The Guilt

“And the great psychologist Sigmund Freud says: “The further our work proceeds and the deeper our knowledge of the mental life of neurotics penetrates, the more clearly two new factors force themselves upon our notice which demand the closest attention as sources of resistance…. They can both be included under the one description of ‘need to be ill’ or ‘need to suffer.’…The first of these two factors is the sense of guilt or consciousness of guilt…
And Sigmund Freud is right. For feelings of guilt have motivated men to destroy their lives, mutilate their bodies, or injure themselves in other ways to atone for their wrongdoing. Now today, fortunately, such methods are seldom practiced. And they are not permitted in civilized countries. Yet their counterpart can be found. For the conscious mind may not feel guilty but the subconscious mind does.”

A good example of guilty people would be the military, most notably the USA Military. They have so much guilt on their conscious to the point when they go home, they can’t adapt. They have PTSD, followed by flashbacks of being in war and they’re never able to get over it. Sometimes they have to kill children and women for whatever pressured reason it may be (insurgency). This is a difficult guilt to come across.

However, if you’re dealing with guilt because of what happened in the past relationship, friendship, job or anything…it’s going to kill you — literally.

Living with that particular burden on your chest is something that forms regret. Regret is poison. I have no guilt for what has happened with my family and the way things are now. It’s way out of my control. I have no guilt for the things I’ve said about past teachers because it’s all the truth. I don’t have ANY guilt for words towards Thai women because it’s the truth and what I’ve experienced, first-hand, with my own eyes.

If you’re saying, “I wish I could’ve done __________,”….stop. Instead, say “I’m glad I did this because I learned by……….”

“A guilt feeling can teach you consideration for others. Consideration for others is a quality each of us has to learn to develop. The new-born babe cares little for the comfort and convenience of anyone else. He wants what he wants when he wants it. So right at that point in his development he begins to learn, little by little, that there are others alive, too, and that, to some extent at least, he will have to allow them some consideration. But selfishness is a common human trait, and it lessens in each of us only through development. When we get old enough to understand that such feelings are not good, we feel a twinge of guilt when we indulge in selfishness. This is good for it causes us to think twice when the occasion arises and we can choose between pleasing ourselves or pleasing others concerned.”

“To get rid of that guilt feeling, get into action! Sometimes people get caught in a web of wrongdoing, and they seem to be unable to free themselves from it. For they give up trying. And then they become more and more entangled, until finally it takes an almost earthshaking experience to set them free.” – Napoleon Hill