I want it rough!

I'm all for slow and romantic every now and again, but enough is enough!! Ever since I started showing, the "afraid to hurt the baby" thing has taken over. But, not only has the frequency decreased, but so has the intensity! Its driving me nuts! I miss those "hurts so good" moments....I miss the passion! Every time I mention it, I get the "Im thinking of our child" speech. Ugh. When the pace starts to pick up and I get all hopeful, he catches himself within seconds and its back to same ol' lame-o. Then I find myself just wanting it to be over even though I was the one who wanted it so bad to begin with! Its so frustrating! Ok, rant over... for you guys anyway. Haha.

I'm all for slow and romantic every now and again, but enough is enough!! Ever since I started showing, the "afraid to hurt the baby" thing has taken over. But, not only has the frequency decreased, but so has the intensity! Its driving me nuts! I miss those "hurts so good" moments....I miss the passion! Every time I mention it, I get the "Im thinking of our child" speech. Ugh. When the pace starts to pick up and I get all hopeful, he catches himself within seconds and its back to same ol' lame-o. Then I find myself just wanting it to be over even though I was the one who wanted it so bad to begin with! Its so frustrating! Ok, rant over... for you guys anyway. Haha.

My husband was too cautious during my first pregnancy and I used to tease him that rough sex is where dimples come from. Funnily enough, our daughter has big dimples. He's a lot more comfortable with sex this pregnancy ;-)

My husband was too cautious during my first pregnancy and I used to tease him that rough sex is where dimples come from. Funnily enough, our daughter has big dimples. He's a lot more comfortable with sex this pregnancy ;-)

I'm glad I'm not alone! I had this same problem with my ex husband when I was pregnant with my son so I spoke of it to my fiance frequently through the 1st trimester. He assured me that wouldnt happen with him because he and his ex had a baby together years ago and apparently it wasnt an issue at all. It made me really optimistic. When I mentioned that to him and asked why it was different with me, he responded with "Well, the best explanation I can come up with is that I wasnt keeping that one.." (they gave the baby up for adoption). Lol! Geeze. I just want some good lovin' over here! Come on!

I'm glad I'm not alone! I had this same problem with my ex husband when I was pregnant with my son so I spoke of it to my fiance frequently through the 1st trimester. He assured me that wouldnt happen with him because he and his ex had a baby together years ago and apparently it wasnt an issue at all. It made me really optimistic. When I mentioned that to him and asked why it was different with me, he responded with "Well, the best explanation I can come up with is that I wasnt keeping that one.." (they gave the baby up for adoption). Lol! Geeze. I just want some good lovin' over here! Come on!

I'm glad I'm not alone! I had this same problem with my ex husband when I was pregnant with my son so I spoke of it to my fiance frequently through the 1st trimester. He assured me that wouldnt happen with him because he and his ex had a baby together years ago and apparently it wasnt an issue at all. It made me really optimistic. When I mentioned that to him and asked why it was different with me, he responded with "Well, the best explanation I can come up with is that I wasnt keeping that one.." (they gave the baby up for adoption). Lol! Geeze. I just want some good lovin' over here! Come on!

I'm glad I'm not alone! I had this same problem with my ex husband when I was pregnant with my son so I spoke of it to my fiance frequently through the 1st trimester. He assured me that wouldnt happen with him because he and his ex had a baby together years ago and apparently it wasnt an issue at all. It made me really optimistic. When I mentioned that to him and asked why it was different with me, he responded with "Well, the best explanation I can come up with is that I wasnt keeping that one.." (they gave the baby up for adoption). Lol! Geeze. I just want some good lovin' over here! Come on!

Ugh my husband thinks pregnancy means its "on" lol and with my son it was - with this baby it's the opposite! I have constant bh and I'm sore - I got "stuck" on top the other day. Like I couldn't move my hips without excruciating pain. Lol oh the fun. Yet it won't stop me from trying again. Lol I have enjoyed the slow though. He however doesn't but oh well!!

Ugh my husband thinks pregnancy means its "on" lol and with my son it was - with this baby it's the opposite! I have constant bh and I'm sore - I got "stuck" on top the other day. Like I couldn't move my hips without excruciating pain. Lol oh the fun. Yet it won't stop me from trying again. Lol I have enjoyed the slow though. He however doesn't but oh well!!

At least you're husband is having sex with you. We are first time parents and has sex like a week ago because I managed to seduce him, but he made a comment after that he did get nervous and hurting the baby. I was like "oh man I'm not going to escape this! He literally is afraid.!" At first I thought he really just didn't want me at all, but now I know it's really because he thinks he is going to hurt me or the baby. My poor hubby, but poor me too!!! I just have to make due on my own for now. He doesn't care cuz it's all temporary. But I'd rather him be the way he is than one of those selfish husbands I hear friends tell me about.. Some men get cranky when their pregnant wives don't want to or can't. So gotta look at the bright side.

At least you're husband is having sex with you. We are first time parents and has sex like a week ago because I managed to seduce him, but he made a comment after that he did get nervous and hurting the baby. I was like "oh man I'm not going to escape this! He literally is afraid.!" At first I thought he really just didn't want me at all, but now I know it's really because he thinks he is going to hurt me or the baby. My poor hubby, but poor me too!!! I just have to make due on my own for now. He doesn't care cuz it's all temporary. But I'd rather him be the way he is than one of those selfish husbands I hear friends tell me about.. Some men get cranky when their pregnant wives don't want to or can't. So gotta look at the bright side.

Is it your first? The guy tends to relax a bit when it's your second and so on. My guy just doesn't want to do it. And it's not because of baby ect he just has a low sex drive. And it too is driving me nuts!! I have begged him all week and I gave up last night.

Is it your first? The guy tends to relax a bit when it's your second and so on. My guy just doesn't want to do it. And it's not because of baby ect he just has a low sex drive. And it too is driving me nuts!! I have begged him all week and I gave up last night.

Havent had it rough since we found out about the baby :( i had quite frequent bleeding until 13 weeks so my mr doesnt want sex at all. The only time i get any is if i jump him before hes fully awake. Cant wait to get back to normal!

Havent had it rough since we found out about the baby :( i had quite frequent bleeding until 13 weeks so my mr doesnt want sex at all. The only time i get any is if i jump him before hes fully awake. Cant wait to get back to normal!

At least you still "get it" lol, I have been on bed rest/pelvic rest since 18 weeks!!! And we had a very healthy sex life.... But, I too like it rough so hey maybe it's better this way. Try to get him so heated that he will only want to give it to you rough lmao. Good luck!!

At least you still "get it" lol, I have been on bed rest/pelvic rest since 18 weeks!!! And we had a very healthy sex life.... But, I too like it rough so hey maybe it's better this way. Try to get him so heated that he will only want to give it to you rough lmao. Good luck!!

I'm jealous, my DH is scared to have sex. This is our first and I told him he better keep up the sex when I get pregnant, but now that I actually am he avoids it. I'm 31 weeks and I think we've had sex less than 10 times since being pregnant. :(

I'm jealous, my DH is scared to have sex. This is our first and I told him he better keep up the sex when I get pregnant, but now that I actually am he avoids it. I'm 31 weeks and I think we've had sex less than 10 times since being pregnant. :(

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