Monday, January 30, 2012

The Inside Story

I want to talk about me and Fiancé. About our relationship and how we stand now as far as application for his permission to come to Norway. This might be boring, just letting you all know.

As you all know, I live here in Norway. I was born and raised here, my parents are foreigns that has been living here for several years. I met Fiancé back in 2008, we fell in love and decided to spend the rest of our lives together. He proposed to me in 2010 and it was just as magical as I had imagined it to be. Everything about us was right and we had mutual love towards each other. He was a real cutie, so nervous and all just before he went down on one knee, and took out the little black box from his inside pocket. I love him.

We made a choice on continuing our lives together, here in Norway. The fun part of started when we delivered our application form along with a huge folder of papers, to the norwegian embassy in Ankara. We were told that it looked promising. We waited for over a year before we ever heard anything from the immigration office here in Oslo. In September 2011 was I called for an interview with a police officer, and I brought some more current documentation on our and my situation. Work papers, income and bank transcriptions and over a hundred photos of us together. She, the police officer, was so sweet. She believed in us and said AGAIN that it looked good and that we could expect some good answers in a month or so. October 2011 came a long and we got a letter, telling us that it was not enough. My income in 2010 was not enough for me to support the Fiancé and that I had to either complain or give up.

Of course my choice fell on the second one. I called around to every office like a crazy girl and was told AGAIN that as long as I could provide with an income in the future, everything would be ok. We wrote another letter and we are still waiting for an answer. It is January the 30th 2012 and we wait. Fiancé and I have been through a bunch of ups and downs, but this challenge has so far been the only thing stopping us from being together. I do visit as often as I can, but still we go through difficulties in our relationship.

I will fight for him and us until my very last breath, because I love him and have hope. My only source to continue, is patience and hope. Long distance relationships are NOT easy and I know that now.

So, there you go, the inside story of our case. I pray it will be ok. Soon.

This is hard, I've seen a friend go through a similar situation.. her fiance lived in Mexico and she lives in Arizona.. they waited years for the papers to come through! Finally the 15th of January they accepted him into our country.. it was almost 5 years coming, but they are so happy now! :) Keep in there and things WILL get better and work out!

my gosh what a difficult process the two of you have to go through, just to be together. patience is the strongest virtue you guys can hold right now and im sure everything will work itself out for the two of you b/c of the love you have! :)

My husband and I had a long distance relationship when we were dating, but it wasn't as hard as yours. My heart goes out to you and your fiance. I hope and pray that everything will work out! (((HUGS)))

Long distance relationship is not an easy situation..but with love you can achieve everything!!I am sure that everything is going to be just fine..you two have a bright future waiting for you to live it!!Be well! <3

Fiance and I are now 2 hours away and that is so hard I can just imagine the love of your life being a country away..super hard! But I know things will happen for the both of you. Then you will be posting pics of you wearing your wedding dress =) Patience is the hardest.

I can not even imagine what this must be like. I am in a long distance relationship so I understand a little bit how you feel. I hope and pray for you that they figure this out soon so you can be together!!!

Oh how I couldn't bare that, nearly imagine how hard it must be. I'm sorry it's been such a struggle, but all this patience and so many good vibes coming your way, things WILL work out. Keep going and don't give up, we'll soon see wedding photos as others have mentioned :)

You poor thing. I sort of know how you feel. I was taken apart from my three year bf because I didn't have enough college to stay in Germany. It was so much paper work and waiting and then being told you can't stay hurts. I hope things work out for you and your finance. Hang in there and keep smiling.

Hubby and I had to have my parents co-sign the paperwork because my income wasn't enough too (He's from UK and I'm from USA). It was just stating that if I wasn't able to provide for him that my parents would be a back-up (so he wouldn't have to fall on government support). It worked!! Of course, we had an agreement with my parents and many, many discussions. Might be an option to consider?? Hang in there, the end result will be beautiful and trust me, there is an end to all of this immigration chaos!!

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