Setting Boundaries ✌🏽

For those seeking guidance and healing, trust your feelings and protect your boundaries for feeling safe and loved in your life– a person who received the genuine love of a parent as a child always desires to have them in their life and doesn’t feel it to be an obligation or stressful–it’s that simple.

In other words, if part of you is very stressed and feels obligation when you have contact with a parent, listen to what that part of you is saying and honor those feelings. Do you feel safe to express your feelings with your parent and be respected? A parent who is open to your requests for respect and genuinely remorseful about past damage to your foundational years is to be given a second chance of course, but trust your feelings on this as it can impede the healing process if you “re-attach” before all the painful layers that resulted in deep mistrust and self-doubt have been worked through and released. A loving parent will be patient while you heal in your own space and time and with no contact if necessary and they will keep the unconditional love coming. Unfortunately this kind of turnaround in a previously emotionally abusive parent is rare and there needs to be evidence of: looking inward to grieve their losses, grow, and take responsibility for their actions upon others, empathy for the feelings of others, genuine remorse, and a visible change in the depth of their other relationships too (friendships), and a consistent ability to really listen and “see” you and help you feel safe while you heal. Only later, when you are feeling strong and whole and able to comfort yourself through the many triggers that may come up in life, then you can reevaluate your boundaries with your parent if you feel comfortable. Let your feelings of safety and inner peace be your guide.

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Hello and welcome! I am an Intuitive and Empathic Life Coach specializing in Inner Child Healing. I have a Bachelors of Science Degree in Child and Family Services with an emphasis in humanistic counseling psychology, family dynamics, and child development. I provide support and guidance for healing childhood wounds and I personally have done my own extensive inner grief work and now I help others do the same. Through this blog, it is a privilege for me to provide comfort and emotional support to any soul who is in emotional pain and to let them know there is hope and someone who understands. I was trained and worked as a peer counselor in college and I have much experience counseling friends and loved ones and now I coach others through my Coaching website truevoicelifecoaching.com. So often a person just needs a companion to listen–someone to validate the complex and confusing painful feelings that come up when childhood wounds are triggered and that keep us from moving forward to becoming our true selves. Through my blog, this community serves as an “enlightened witness” for any person who needs to be heard about childhood wounds or if you have no family members or friends who understand your feelings. We look forward to hearing from you and appreciate ALL comments whether you want to leave a comment regarding the information found here to share your own experiences, or if you feel a connection and want to lend your support for what is said. Thank you to all my readers for your support of this blog. (For more info. please see ABOUT ME) I am now adding Reiki Energy Healing Sessions and Intuitive Readings to my list of services.

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The stigma against Introverts and HSPs is beginning to change on a global level. See the video called The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain on TED.com. Yay Susan!
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This is Bill Gates favorite Ted talk! Also, Elaine Aron said that Susan is really talking about highly sensitive people (HSPs)– Even though 30% of HSPs are extraverts. (In my opinion these 30% are highly creative people often with ADD symptoms — they are extremely gifted and unique people not to be seen as needing medication but as a special gift to the planet if they allow themselves to let their creative genius flow and use meditation to find balance from their overstimulation.)

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