(Closed) Who to list first Bride or Groom? (HELP PLEASE)

If my FH and I are hosting the wedding ourselves, does it matter who we list first? It seems like everyone lists the bride first, but I prefer to list him first.

Also when I’m making our wedding website is it okay to list it as just his last name, since after all it is the K______ Wedding? Or do I need to list both last names? Im just asking regarding the website address so it would be something like http://www.yourweddingwebsite.com/k_____wedding

Traditionally the bride is listed first. I don’t know why, but I would be a little put off if the groom was first. I guess because it’s not the normal way of doing things, if I were a guest I would be curious as to why you chose to put him first. For the wedding website, it seems fine to just have his name.

@nattiejeanne: I think for something like this, just using his last name would probably be fine if that’s what you wanted to do. Traditionally the bride is listed first on things like invitations, monograms, etc. But For a wedding website? I think it’s fine.

ETA: Sorry, I read your post wrong. I think if you’re talking about invitations, you should list your name first. If I got an invitation with the grooms name listed first, I would think it’s weird. But then again, I’m pretty traditional.

We used both of our names on our site. I took his name but it’s very common so I wanted to website to very obviously be our site. I also wanted people to be able to search it without knowing his last name just in case they lost their invite.

I think the invitation order is up to you. I always see the bride first as a courtesy/tradition I guess but it doesn’t matter. I made our invites and I totally put myself first haha.

For the website url name I think just his last name is fine if it doesn’t work otherwise but I think the homepage should say details for both your names so people who exactly who is getting married. So maybe the website is http://www.weddingdetails.com/smith but then the page says “welcome to the smith/jones wedding website!” You’re not married yet, so to me it’s strange to not have your last name on there too. It’s the joining of your families’ names into a new family, which will then have his last name (I assume you’re changing yours).

@BluebonnetBride: Haha, I think that is why I want to put him first. I am making the invites so I almost feel kind of silly listing myself for everything since he is equal too. I might honestly do something like list him first on the STD’s and me on the invites, or vice-versa.

I think I’m going to use just his last name for the website. I plan on taking it, and his is uncommon whereas mine is very common.

I guess I’m deciding to not worry about the order because I DO WHAT I WANT! lol

@Kimberley25: haha, I’m being honest, not trying to be catty! It’s just strange for someone to make huge statements about how tradition/what everyone else does/thinks doesn’t matter, and then ask for advice about it.