The McCain gay family feud

By
Jonathan Capehart

Cindy and Meghan McCain have become outspoken advocates of gay rights. Meanwhile, John McCain (R-Ariz.), husband, father and senior senator from the great state of Arizona, seems determined to run the other way. The latest example of this family divide is the new anti-bullying commercial featuring Mrs. McCain.

McCain isn't the only notable in the ad, but what is notable is what she says. "Our political and religious leaders tell LGBT youth that they have no future," she says. "They can't serve our country openly." Said leaders would include her husband, who is threatening to filibuster the defense authorization bill because it contains a provision repealing the shameful ban on gay men and lesbians serving openly in the military. McCain's wife goes on to say about bullies, "Our government treats the LGBT community like second class citizens -- why shouldn't they?"

This isn't the first time the Ladies McCain have come out for the gays. Back in January, they both taped a spot against Proposition 8, the California voter-approved amendment to the state constitution banning same-sex marriage. Sen. Susan Collins (R-Maine) isn't in danger of losing her place as my top Republican political crush, but McCain's willingness to take a public stand that runs counter to her party and her husband comes pretty close to knocking Collins, who is also in favor of don't ask don't tell repeal, off her pedestal.

I am unimpressed by our inclination to categorise Gay people by their sexuality. For instance, no one says: 'John is a heterosexual lawyer' but they do say: 'Fred is gay' and then they might mention that he is a teacher or doctor or whatever.

The fact is some people are inclined to be heterosexual and some aren't. I do not care if someone is gay or heterosexual but I do care about being able to get on with them.

The notion that marriage is only for heterosexuals is challengeable. It was originally a contract by which a man to a wife and her property. That is why the original declaration was: 'I now pronounce you man and wife'. Today, because of feminism, those words have been changed to: 'I now pronounce you husband and wife'.

Their is nothing pure or sacred about marriage. The Church's claim that a husband and wife have been brought together by God is a forlorn myth and that is evidenced by the high divorce rate around the world.

If we want to believe in myths then we are free to do so but that does not permit us to claim that the myth is factual or an incontrovertible truth.

Many of our decisions are brought about by xenophobia because we do not like people who are different to the identity which we want protected. It is also driven by vindictiveness. History shows that it is not unusual for minority groups to suffer condemnation and violence by those who are part of a majority group.

In years to come, gay people will be accepted as human beings who are members of society. Their sexuality will not be an issue.

Just go back to the times when white people regarded black people as monkeys and insisted that they use different bathrooms because they were declared to be dirty. You might also remember that people from the Mediterranean were despised and insulted because they too were different.

It is not gay people who are the problem. The problem belongs to those who are oppressive.

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PS: As you know, I am not a bigot but if you see someone who is left-handed please take care because some of them practice witchcraft.

"It is not gay people who are the problem. The problem belongs to those who are oppressive."

Why do you think that gays can't be oppressive? Recently here in Moscow a gay was arrested because he spied out boys near school. Btw, he was educated and married (somewhere in Europe) to another man. I don't see any argument that gays are not deviation. The reference to ancient Greece is ridiculous, because then Greek homosexuals considered women as someone intellectually inferior, what was the reason for the gay relationship.

No one deserves to be bullied because of their sexual orientation anymore than they deserve to be bullied because of disabilities, looks, academic performance, work achievement, etc. But neither should anti-bullying campaigns be used to promote divisive political and social agendas.

Prohiting gay marriage violates our constitution. It is based on the religious views of some of the population and violates the religious views of others. That is constitutionally insupportable. None of us should be subjected to other's religious bigotry; it is un-American.

It still amazes me that people are fearful of homosexuals and lesbians. I don't recall hearing about these people forcing their life styles on others; yet they are bullied by too many. The military people that are homosexuals and lesbians have learned how to carry weapons and fight the enemy with the same ability as others. They will protect others in the military with the same gusto as heterosexual military people. I really question if people who verbally or physically attack these citizens are fearful of their own sexual beings. People who are secure within themselves certainly will not be aggressive towards those with different sexual preferences. Senator McCain is of the old simplistic school of seeing things in black and white. His wife and daughter see life in different nuances. It is really good though that they speak out on their own beliefs. In that way, the Senator must be modern. In the olden days, wives and daughters would never ever be able to let their thoughts be openly expressed.

So Cindy Mccain and her daughter are not allowed to think for themselves Mr Capehart? This is old news Cindy has always been for gay rights and gay marriage....as for John McCain he is from a different era and he is not about to change.... and thats old news too..

Everyone is entitled to their views...unless you are an Obamabot ..then you are told how & what to think... right Mr Capehart ??

Although I agree with Cindy and Meghan McCain, I am reserving judgement on the Senator. His official position on the possible fillibuster of the Defense Authorization bill is that the DOD is conducting a study on the implementaion of the repeal of DADT. He wants to wait until that study is complete. Now, this may seem like nothing more than a delaying tactic to most people, and in Sen. McCain's case, it may very well be, but he may also be genuinely concerned with implemention.

When Truman desegregated the military, we didn't desegregate the military the next day. It was a process that took time. Given that the news cycle was significantly slower and less "gotcha" back then. The military was able to do it in an orderly manner. That isn't possible today, so the Pentagon wants to have a plan in place before the repeal. I don't necessarily agree with that, but I can at least respect that position. The military doesn't take a dump without a plan. Now, if the study is completed, which is supposed to happen next month, and McCain holds his groud, demonize him all you want, but until then, I would suggest taking it easy on the rhetoric.

How does a person become "gay"? When do they decide to become "gay"? Where do they get their "sexual orientation"?
They certainly were not born as homosexuals! Not one scientific study has ever found those who claim these homosexual traits to be immutable(such as skin color or race)
I continue to decry those who claim special rights for them to pleasure themselves with destructive disease spreading,unnatural sexual practices such as:fisting,golden showers,and feltching!
Tell the truth about the acts of sodomy and the billions spent trying to cure or at least stem the results of these degenerate practices!

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