Lost all confidence

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sjonesca wrote:

So my SO and I had an amazing intimate relationship before getting pregnant and during our first trimester. However, as I got bigger I felt just more awkward and distracted and then with a bleeding issue sex just fell right off the table and there was hardly any intimacy of any kind and never any initiation from either of us. Now that we’re a few days away from being cleared to have that back I still don’t have the confidence I used to have and feel like everything will still be awkward :/ the sad part is I want that connection back but am to afraid that when we try it’ll just confirm my feelings of no longer being confident with it, or I’ll just be to mentally distracted and we will be stuck in this only giving pecks when we leave the house type of physical relationship. Anyone go through similar feelings? I’m also nervous of how things will “feel” first time PP

Intimacy doesn’t have to be all sex, take your time with it, touch each other, cuddle , kiss let him massage your feet or whatever get relaxed and don’t put expectations on it. Pregnancy can make it different then before but just have fun with finding what works what positions feel right.

As far as the first time PP again take it slow and use lube honestly for me the first time PP isn’t enjoyable it’s more to just get it done so I can get to the enjoyment of it later and it only takes a few times before things down there feel fine again. I’m on Baby #4.

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