Kinks are fun! Don’t lie; it’s fun to do weird complicated stuff in the bedroom. Today we are going to learn about one of the tamer fetishes, but a fetish that causes a spectacular amount of mess and can easily result in injury when you don’t know what you are doing: wax play. Continue reading →

So everybody does the weird stuff, or at least thinks about trying the weird stuff, at least once in their lives. Nobody is a deviant for a little bit of consensual spanking. Everybody smacks or gets smacked in the bedroom at least once; I mean it happens. However not everyone will dive into the kink community at large. Eventually on our sex ed odyssey we will cover all sorts of specifics of kink but for now let’s talk about kink 101. Continue reading →

We are in the midst of con season and as per usual people are passing out and being the smelly kid. No one likes the smelly kid; and no one wants to be known as “that girl that fainted”. So let’s talk about what it takes to survive a con. Continue reading →

A lot of going to a con is based around attention. Paying attention to lots of exciting things, gaining the attention of a celebrity or artist you are excited to meet, or getting attention for all of your hard work on a cosplay. The community as a whole needs to gain an understanding of the difference between good attention and bad attention. The phrase “Cosplay is not consent” has been a huge message at conventions for the past couple of years; and we need to talk about what that means, and also realize that fame isn’t consent either. Continue reading →

So let’s get this out of the way right now: there is not a damn thing wrong with sleeping around, there is nothing wrong with wearing skimpy clothes, and it really does not matter when you made you sexual debut. What does matter is how you feel about these things. To own your own sexuality is a sign of maturity and not everyone’s sexuality is going to be the same. Shaming people for how they express their sexuality as healthy, consenting adult members of society is a ridiculous, antiquated notion and it’s time we all realized that. Continue reading →

Compassion should be ingrained into the very core of our beings as members of the queer and geek communities. We have embraced the idea of being “other”, of being the outcasts. We are the very picture of the kids who got picked last in gym class, and yet, we often fail to treat each other with compassion and acceptance when it comes to one issue in particular: STIs. Medically speaking, we are at a point where we are either curing or living with these diseases, not dying from them. A member of the queer community is more likely to contract an STI during their lifetime than any other group and yet, almost without fail, our communities ostracize and gossip about those who get infected as badly as the rest of society.Infection is not a death sentence. Syphilis is most commonly treated with a course of penicillin. We have a vaccine for most forms of HPV. Crabs are in reality just lice in your pubic hair which shouldn’t even register as something to freak out over. The only STIs that we do not have cure for are Herpes, HIV, Hepatitis, and HPV and none of these are a death sentence. We have medicine; we have preventative care; we have testing, we have maintenance drugs for the infected. STIs should not be the boogeyman hiding under our beds anymore. Continue reading →

OK, so not literally my mother. She is a very open and very educated lady in terms of sex-ed (Hi Mom!). We’re talking about a theoretical mother. The “average” mother/father/parent who does not discuss sex with their child frankly or who doesn’t educate their children adequately about their bodies. These are the lies we learn when our sex ed is left to underfunded public schools and the internet (where we know that no one ever lies…). So let’s get started with “Sex Ed Saturdays” by educating ourselves with some basic truths. Continue reading →