Jennifer – What’s your main concern about the future?

Jennifer – What’s your main concern about the future?

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It was not until past year that, that I really realized that she's getting older. You know, the hearing's been going for a while, and but, earlier this year when she had her car accident and I got a phone call from the police and came downtow...
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It was not until past year that, that I really realized that she's getting older. You know, the hearing's been going for a while, and but, earlier this year when she had her car accident and I got a phone call from the police and came downtown, there were two things that happened: one was I realized she's older, and she's not going to be able to live alone for that much longer, it's not safe for her. And, we've always talked about "let's move you," but those are now becoming real, real issues. And the responsibility that I have, you know, being the daughter that lives here, and, and is, you know, that wanted to try to pick up the pieces. We all do, I mean all three of us do, but that's been, that's been hard about her getting older. And it's hard watching her, she never says, well she would if we talked about, she'd say, "you know, I hate getting older and I'm sad about it, and they're things that I'm sad about." But, it's hard to watch. She was so strong and has lived alone for such a long time that she didn't depend on us at all. And now that she's getting older, and she's' starting to do that, and it's hard for her to watch us have to do that, you know what I mean? I think it's somewhat humiliating even though we love to do it, and would do any thing, but now we're realizing, you know what, we can't wait for her to ask, we just need to do it. And in the past, we've always, you know, we just sort of stayed back. And so that's changing—it's hard.

Jennifer – What’s your main concern about the future?

Jennifer

It was not until past year that, that I really realized that she's getting older. You know, the hearing's been going for a while, and but, earlier this year when she had her car accident and I got a phone call from the police and came downtown, there were two things that happened: one was I realized she's older, and she's not going to be able to live alone for that much longer, it's not safe for her. And, we've always talked about "let's move you," but those are now becoming real, real issues. And the responsibility that I have, you know, being the daughter that lives here, and, and is, you know, that wanted to try to pick up the pieces. We all do, I mean all three of us do, but that's been, that's been hard about her getting older. And it's hard watching her, she never says, well she would if we talked about, she'd say, "you know, I hate getting older and I'm sad about it, and they're things that I'm sad about." But, it's hard to watch. She was so strong and has lived alone for such a long time that she didn't depend on us at all. And now that she's getting older, and she's' starting to do that, and it's hard for her to watch us have to do that, you know what I mean? I think it's somewhat humiliating even though we love to do it, and would do any thing, but now we're realizing, you know what, we can't wait for her to ask, we just need to do it. And in the past, we've always, you know, we just sort of stayed back. And so that's changing—it's hard.

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