Just had sex first time

I think I’m going to ask her when the her next period should start, because they say you can only get pregnant during a certain time for the girl, so which time is that?

07-26-2004, 11:10 PM

bodybuilda

Originally Posted by NJohn

Bodybuilda,

I definitely feel your pain. A few years back I was having sex with my girlfriend when my condom ripped, and this was after I had just came. I was really freaking out. I stayed up all night long afterwards looking up emergency contraceptives on the Internet and finally managed to find a site that prescribed them over the Internet. The next morning we both went to the pharmacy to pick them up, she took them and about two days later her period arrived. I’m glad things ended up without her getting pregnant, but for those two days I was a wreck.

Since you never actually got any ejaculate inside of her, only precum, I wouldn’t worry about it at all. The chances that you got her pregnant are extremely minuscule. And I am speaking from experience. After that whole ordeal with my girlfriend, we both ended up becoming very lazy and went on to have sex on and off over a period of about a year most of the time without using a condom. I was just pulling out before I came. Now I’m not saying this is 100% to say the least and the case could very well be that one of us could have been sterile or somewhat infertile, so I sure as hell wouldn’t take it as a fact, but I believe it an effective method of contraceptive. From what I have read the main reason that the pull out method often fails is that the man must be able to pull out in time before he cums. I guess oftentimes the guy pulls out too late. And then I would suppose that there is that .001% freak accident of pulling out and the girl still getting pregnant.

If it’s only been a day or so and you just want to have more reassurance you should try to get the morning after pill. Where I’m from it requires a prescription but In California, Alaska, Washington State, New Mexico and Hawaii, some pharmacies will provide emergency contraceptive pills without requiring you to see anyone except the pharmacist. A downfall is it must be taken within 72 hours after you have sex, so I don’t know if you will still have time and in my girlfriends case it caused to her face to break out a bit for the next few months. It’s basically a chemical concoction that tricks the girls body into thinking that it’s time to start her period and flushes everything out.

As to the controversy over precum containing sperm. I remember reading somewhere that it does contain some sperm but little if any motile sperm. Here’s one quote that I was able to find regarding precum.

“The chance of pregnancy is probably extremely low. Two small studies found no motile sperm in Preejaculatory fluid, but that is all the evidence there is. However, HIV *can* be detected in Preejaculatory fluid.”

I would definitely chill and stop worring. Everything will turn out ok.

Hope this helps.

So, if I alone we’re to go to a local pharmacy, all I would have to do is ask for an emergency contraceptive pill? I live in CaliforniaIf it’s that easy how many pills do I need and this is day 2 since we had sex.

07-26-2004, 11:51 PM

bodybuilda

I researched about ovulation and that a girl can only get pregnant during that time, but how does one know when her ovulation period occurs?

07-27-2004, 12:20 AM

bodybuilda

I just asked her when he rlast period was and she said it was about a month ago (3 to 4 weeks.)

So basically if she gets one soon that means there is no way she can be pregnant right?

For those of you who have gotten emergency contraceptives before, all I have to do is go to a pharmacy and ask for a pill just like that?

Even though I’m the guy will they give it to me?

I live in California for reference.

07-27-2004, 04:13 PM

anna nimity

She would have to get it and she would have to decide to take it or not. You’re stressing when you shouldn’t. People have close encounters and so it’s not like people don’t know what you are going through. Thinking back to the other question asked elsewhere, did you sleep during sex education? From now on, maybe take that extra effort to put that condom on.

And it is perfectly normal to be so nervous and not get a hard on fully no matter how sexy a person may be especially if it is your first time.

You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.

Zig Ziglar

07-27-2004, 05:00 PM

bodybuilda

Originally Posted by anna nimity

She would have to get it and she would have to decide to take it or not. You’re stressing when you shouldn’t. People have close encounters and so it’s not like people don’t know what you are going through. Thinking back to the other question asked elsewhere, did you sleep during sex education? From now on, maybe take that extra effort to put that condom on.

And it is perfectly normal to be so nervous and not get a hard on fully no matter how sexy a person may be especially if it is your first time.

So when you say I shouldn’t stress, do you think that she is not pregnant and that I didn’t catch a disease?And yes I guess I fell asleep during sex education, so if she gets a period as soon as today or something or later on in the month or next month that means for sure she can not be pregnant right?

And is catching a disease a lower probability then getting someone pregnant?

07-27-2004, 05:08 PM

anna nimity

Is she stressing over this as well? Have you had these discussions with her as well?

I am not a doctor, I can not answer the questions you seek. And even a professional will tell you that there is always a possibility. That’s the miracle of life. It can happen at any time. And diseases…you took a gamble on your dick that many take. I’m too young to die and wouldn’t want to die over sex that wasn’t even worth it. Protect yourself. More than likely you are fine. But one can never telling by looking at someone. I’d still strongly suggest you go talk to a doctor. Get informed about sexual relations, pregnancy and diseases. You are clearly not as informed as you should be. To not even know if you ejaculated inside her and other things seems like maybe you aren’t ready for the responsibility of sex. Know your body and the girl well before deciding to go in with no condoms and this will settle some of your worries.

You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.

Zig Ziglar

07-27-2004, 05:12 PM

bodybuilda

Originally Posted by anna nimity

Is she stressing over this as well? Have you had these discussions with her as well?

I am not a doctor, I can not answer the questions you seek. And even a professional will tell you that there is always a possibility. That’s the miracle of life. It can happen at any time. And diseases.you took a gamble on your dick that many take. I’m too young to die and wouldn’t want to die over sex that wasn’t even worth it. Protect yourself. More than likely you are fine. But one can never telling by looking at someone. I’d still strongly suggest you go talk to a doctor. Get informed about sexual relations, pregnancy and diseases. You are clearly not as informed as you should be. To not even know if you ejaculated inside her and other things seems like maybe you aren’t ready for the responsibility of sex. Know your body and the girl well before deciding to go in with no condoms and this will settle some of your worries.

She is not stressing what so ever, yes I asked her like if she thinks she might get pregnant all she says is I don’t know, I asked her if she ever took a test for stds etc. She said about 2 months ago and that she was clean.

07-27-2004, 05:19 PM

anna nimity

Then half your worries are over with although you can’t believe everything someone else tells you. It’s still your body and you are responsible for it.

You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.

Zig Ziglar

07-28-2004, 04:05 AM

bodybuilda

Ok, I just asked a friend that if you have sex with someone infected with std/hiv, would you get infected for sure if not used protection.

He said yes.

Is this true?

07-28-2004, 05:00 AM

sunshinekid

Body,

I don’t mean to be rude, but what leaf did you just crawl out from under??? You are a) very young, too young to be here, or b) mentally challenged.

Yes, if you have unprotected sex you can, on the first go round, contract an STD (HIV falls under that heading) .

sunny A day without sunshine is like a day without laughter :sun:

07-28-2004, 05:29 AM

bodybuilda

Originally Posted by sunshinekid

Body,

I don’t mean to be rude, but what leaf did you just crawl out from under?? You are a) very young, too young to be here, or b) mentally challenged.

Yes, if you have unprotected sex you can, on the first go round, contract an STD (HIV falls under that heading) .

I understand I can, but is it very likely?

07-28-2004, 06:20 AM

pihkal

No, it’s not very likely you’ve caught a disease or gotten her pregnant from this one time, but if you continue to engage in unprotected sex, your lifetime risk will increase. Planning and knowledge are much trustier than luck. Here’s Planned Parenthood’s Health section.