Going Skinny and Strappy

Going Skinny and Strappy

"OMG !! Those Acne wedges and the Bebaroque tights…you look amazing in both photos ! I found out about your blog from last month's Elle UK mag. Didn't they make an absolutely wonderful choice to feature you there? 🙂 Kisses from Romania :*"

Comment 2:"There's something no one seems to notice.. if you dress so fashion forward like you do, you're obviously not going to attract any guys whatsoever… men would much rather go for the basic skinny jeans and strappy top kind of girl… and please… you can be fashion forward and avant grade and NOT look like you're old … and can't you be more feminine???? YOU'RE A GIRL , NOT A WOODEN MANNEQUIN. And anyway, I've been to London tons of times before, and I have yet to see someone so poorly dressed 😐 (It's) like you have robbed an entire thrift store or something."

Comment 3:"I don't know why, but your aesthetic looks as though it was completely random… as if your wardrobe would have exploded in your face this morning and random pieces of clothing landed on your body ..the colors are horrible and anyway… do you go out like that???????? IN LONDON?"

I had for a long time given up on ranting and raving on the blog. I frankly have none of the energy nor time to waste on malice. There's too many good things going on to be huffing and puffing. However, with a point to make and anger incited, I couldn't ignore the above string of comments on various blog posts here. They are written by the same person though you wouldn't think it after reading the first and second. They were made over a couple of months so it's not opinion schizophrenia that you're seeing there. The person is NOT anonymous and is in fact a fellow blogger (not giving the satisfaction of linking to her…). Who knows what exactly I have done to trigger this person to be giving kisses in one instance and then berating me the next.

The point is though that there is a level of blinkered closed-mindedness displayed in the latter two comments that is most beguiling and confusing to me. In particular, the second comment seems to insult not just my taste in clothing but a whole opposite sex, diminishing them to ogre-like creatures who simply hone their eyes onto female forms in tight jeans and strappy tops (whilst attempting to figure out ways of how to bed them in their oaf-like brains…). The type of person that makes such a comment surely shouldn't be reading this blog in the first place. I use collective 'we' because I think there is a certain general demographic that visits the blog and of course whilst there are differences all round, I have the belief that there aren't too many of you that feel that women should be oppressed into skinny jeans and strappy tops. Chuck in some very generic phrases such as 'fashion-forward' and 'avant garde' and you have yourself a puzzled face that looks like it's trying to do long division without a calculator.

I of course have nothing to say in reply to the 'random' accusations. Yes, my outfits are sometimes random and perhaps there has been a clothing explosion or two. Your point is? Oh right… do I go out like that? Errr… well yes I do. And? Have I been tomato-ed and egg-ed on the streets? Errr… no?

The sum of all of this is, to this day, after the so-called 'democratisation' of fashion and 'liberation of personal style' that we have supposedly seen through the medium of personal style blogs, is that there are some of 'us' (I'm using collective terms here because this person is not what one would call a 'troll') that still think that pleasing other people; everyone from the man on the street to err… prospective sexual partners and caring about what they think is the sole objective of getting dressed and nurturing a personal style. Then perhaps those processes of 'democratisation' and 'liberation' that pepper the articles full of high praise for the impact of the internet on fashion, aren't what they seem to be. And so nothing has happened and dressing to please yourself is not actually something truly seized by everybody, even by those who purportedly love fashion (forgot to mention that the commenter is a fashion blogger). I feel like I need to eat a whole Terry's chocolate orange because that in itself is depressing.

Anyhow, if the above chunk of text is too tiresome to get through, there are images that are semi-related. I didn't want to mar the beauty of this Dagmar dress that I'm wearing for an event tomorrow evening with the the slightly unpleasant tones here. That said, you ask questions such as "Can't you be more feminine????" with a blistering FOUR question marks and you get the answer here. Yes, I will leave things well alone once in a while and let their beauty shine…

But I'd much prefer to add a few things here and there… ok maybe a lot of things in some cases… because it FEELS GOOD. Yes, FEELING GOOD. When did one's personal feelings about what they are wearing fly out of the window here I wonder…

Suzie, I applaud your grace in candor. It amazes me how people try their hardest to force their opinions on someone’s PERSONAL style as if there are rules that need to be followed. Sad. Very sad.
The dress is gorgeous and I like both looks…but we both know that what you think of them is all that matters. =D

I don’t normally comment because they get lost in the sea of comments especially in a blog as popular as yours, but today can be something different. Whoever the fellow-blogger is who wrote those comments…well, I’ll leave that at that. You’re fearless, well spoken, have a great sense of humour and outlook on life and I only wish that I could think of even half of your outfits! You’re one of my favourites because not only do you spark our imaginations, and intrigue, but your writing is up to par with your knowledge and passion for fashion (oh no, an unintended rhyme). I’m glad that you don’t let dim-witted people like the above mentioned get you down and that you address the comments in such a manner that it’s obvious who the “winner” would be.
Love your blog, love your clothes, love your writing.

Steph

I’ve been reading your blog since 200…6? and I don’t dress like you, because I am a) lazy b) not so daring. I read your blog, though, because I find you absolutely inspiring, and I imagine that your blog attracts so much attention not because it befuddles the fashion universe but because it injects an interesting perspective from someone who is clearly passionate about what she wears. You have directly enriched my closet (I own those Trish wedges, as well as the Graey crown tee, the Emma Cook for Topshop flower wedges, the grey Christopher Kane for Topshop dress from 2007, and probably a few more pieces ripped from your images) and have forced me to think about what I wear in a more introspective and experimentally oriented way.
All that is to say – haters will hate, but you have fans to cancel them out a thousand times over. Also, you and your boyfriend are very cute and seem happy together.
OK one more thing – that dress is breathtaking and I envy your stature.

Agreed, everyone keeps talking about the democratisation of fashion thanks to the internet, but there’s many a fashion blogger out there looking down on retail, certain brands, most well-known ones are drowning in high end designer pieces etc. Everyone talks about how ‘real’ people are finally showing how they dress, but many of the most famous fashion bloggers still only fit that one privileged white, skinny, middle-class till rich mould. Etc etc etc. Though this is all to a certain extent true, the change isn’t that big and innovative as some people make it seem to be. Fact of the matter is, society still thinks this archaically. But nonetheless, with the uprise of plus-sized fashion blogs, body positive blogs, feminist fashion blogs etc. I think this really is a beginning of change!
That said, you look DIVINE (caplsock needed).

I too have been reading your blog for years (one of the first I really started following!) and it amazes me that people can be so rude and judgmental. It’s on par with being invited into somebody’s home and then asking them why their curtains are so tacky or why they haven’t swept! I mean, if you don’t want to be inspired to HAVE FUN in your closet, then what’s the point of being here?

That person just should not read your blog, and shouldn’t make such comments, if she is so “offended” by how you uniquely, and wonderfully dress. Your clothes are an extension of your freedom to express yourself, they make you happy and feel free, of the constraints of everything else that is shit in life. I am seriously angry that, that blogger would insinuate that the sole reason to get dressed is to look bleeding like a stripper to get attention from guys. And I am sick of every other young girl out there who undermines her own beauty and intelligence for this reason.. Its a cultural tragedy. You are proof Susie, that you are empowered by your freedom to dress exactly how and like and wonderfully so. With knowledge that you are your own person, and dress to just please yourself. Full stop.

Beautiful dress made even more beautiful by your unique style, you are an inspiration <3
I can't stand it when people say you should dress a certain way, I dress how I want because it makes me feel great and that's the most important thing above all else!

That comment progression is slightly hilarious to me. What??
Susie, my style is very different from yours, but one thing I have always admired about you is that you wear what you love, without fear. Your approach to fashion is brave and crazy and fun and honest, you really do express yourself through it, which one cannot say about a lot of people. I think being bold and confident in your fashion choices is far more valuable and far more attractive to the opposite sex than someone who is just trying to cram themselves into a feminine mold.

I find it amazing what people are willing to say to complete strangers on the internet. I’d like to think they’d never be that nasty, small minded or spiteful in real life.
From someone who thinks getting dressed like your wardrobe exploded would be the perfect compliment x

Ah as they say ‘you always get one’ I had a couple of comments that I wish I had saved just for the hilarity of them, but I found the only way to stop them was to hit delete. Generally it i a case of the green eyed monster.
The dress is simply beautiful, and I did think it was unusal for you only to be wearing one layer in the first few photos! It is simpy much more your style to layer it up, and stunning it looks.
I think if we all hit delete to the ‘haters’ it is the only way to get them to sod off
xx

That takes some guts to leave crazy/psychotic messages like that in a non-anonymous manner…Considering your outfits have been fairly similar style since the beginning but with a progression of age/time/taste of yours, why is this person still confused? In fact youve adressed this before! Not everyone wants to dress like Fashion Toast

Hello to those those that don’t normally comment! Good to hear from longtime readers and others too …. and also good to hear that people do disagree with my style choices but it’s also good to hear that people can intelligent agree to disagree… and say “Hey it’s YOUR choice!” or “Whatever makes you happy…”
I’ve been trying to articulate with a side project I’m doing, why it is that dressing the way I do makes me so happy… it’s inexplicable yet it does…
That’s not to say, that I don’t factor people’s reactions to what I’m wearing because that would be a lie… but the ultimate person to please is myself… otherwise I’d never leave the house!
Eli: Yes, I have addressed this before but the comment about ‘pleasing men’ definitely incited me because of course it insults not just me but my boyfriend who is ker-razy enough to be with someone who isn’t into strappy tops and skinny jeans… her blog also happens to be fairly decent… hunt out the link if you so wish…
Pearl Westwood: You can delete all you want but the comment makes its mark and this one isn’t even an annonymous troll…

geez louize. *somebody* is suffering from green-eyed monster or something! if we all went around in “skinni jeans and strappy tops” i think london would be rather dull, n’est pas?! part of london’s charm is people who wear slightly random outfits.
keep doing what you are doing!
xx fionahttp://saveourshoes.blogspot.com

DJM

You’ve been doing this for long enough now to know to take the high road and don’t give the idiots space on your blog.
If you don’t like the comments delete them. They ultimately won’t stop you doing what you’re doing, so why waste your words on them? It just comes with the territory sadly.
Just keep on keeping on!

DJM: But this person ISN’T just another idiot… it’s someone who supposedly loves fashion as much as I do…. that’s the ponderous thing…. that personal style can come from SUCH a different angle…. it disturbs me but i guess I’m questioning my own perceptions….
It’s nice to ponder sometimes as opposed to charging ahead…
Mickey: Sadly you can’t block them because of the dratted dynamic IP… that’s why I get a gazillion spam comments selling Coach handbags…

Nat

You are a true original Susie and have inspired me to buy some seriously flamboyant garments that I otherwise wouldn’t have dared to try. My mantra is ‘If Susie can wear it, so can I!’
REMEMBER: IGNORE THE IGNORANT!http://www.purdylola.blogspot.com

I don’t understand that other blogger at all. I think you look really feminine. Well at least in comparison to me.
Your blog is really inspiring to me because you wear the kind of clothes I wouldn’t usually want to wear, but you make me want to wear them because they look great on you. I like your crazy style and you make me look differently at certain types of clothes.
I also think it’s important to wear clothing you feel good in.
Anyhow, I like the outfit. Especially how you combined those pieces together. The outfit would have been a bit boring if you only wore the dress, but adding those extra pieces made it gorgeous.

for some reason i read comment 3 before 2, comment 2 REALLY BOTHERED ME
WHO EVER WROTE THAT WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?
Ok, yes skinny jeans and a top does look good if you have that erin wasson-tude but why would you dress for a guy? you actually dress for yourself
personally, you have a unique, distinctive style which looks good, at least you are youself & not a manufactured wannabe clone
i’ve really gone all out on this comment haven’t i? now lets keep it simple
i really like the dress, a lot

A bit of searching reveals our friendly misogynist’s most interesting destination in the last 12 months is Dartmoor.
Nothing against Dartmoor, mind.
[I won’t join in the chorus of support for the Dagmar because it’ll get old.]

rupert

that person isssss such a cunt (sorry to smear youre fantastic blog with such words but they deserve it)…..anyway my point is that im a guy and i Love the way you dress its incredible, and to that person who is basically calling me a complete brick of a person, F-you id much rather date somneone with a little creativity than a mundane bore of a human….
Suzie you look amazing, screw them.

Ieva

It is true that you do have weird style which is either complete disaster or master peace. I can not decide, but I guess the world needs a blog like that, cause I am so tired of those average girls who thinks that they are something special and their style is something to admire. Whatever makes you happy anyway.
You have a bit scandinavian style.

very strange indeed, sounds more like the person is attention seeking and what’s a reaction. bit schooly hey? bit weird and really insulting to boys for sure, i mean the guys that you described there clearly aren’t the ones that count and they give us fellas a bad name. the world(and certainly the north) would be a much happier place is there were more people like you.
i don’t usually comment loads and usually pop over from style salvage too but this time i’m making a stand!

I have been a fan of your style since back in the My Style Diary days. Back in then I was in high school and developing my style. You helped me feel that it was ok to not dress like everyone else I went to school with. Your outfits have always been an inspiration and your writing has always been informative. I thank you for fueling my interest in style and fashion.

Oh, lady. You are looking so utterly gorgeous in that dress. Also, I should mention that you are an inspiration to me. I could never carry off your look, nor would I want to as it’s not “me” (I’m horribly inept/uncomfortable in layers), but I love your fearlessness and the way you magically combine pieces of clothing that I would never think of putting into an outfit in a million years… and it always WORKS.

I’ve been a reader for a couple of years now and though I’ve never commented, I must first say that I do commend your sense of style. I may not agree with some of your mixes but that’s not the point. The point is that I appreciate your individual style and ability to walk out in some of the most outrageous outfits I’ve ever seen actually being worn and get away with it.
However with this post, I am in full agreement with everything you’ve written. It’s so fascinating how people can say that the Internet has changed the way they dress themselves and yet, they’re still dressing for other people. You are right. With all the hullaballoo about the discovery and/or liberation of ‘personal style’ because of the Internet, there are those who still put on items of clothing based on what they think people want to see. Why should that be? Then that wouldn’t exactly be called ‘personal style’ now, would it? -_- Yes, I may not agree with some of your wardrobe choices but at the same time, I admire your devil-may-care attitude towards your dressing and that’s what ‘personal style’ ought to be – something that is distinctive and characteristic of you and nobody else.
Have I written too much? Hope not, because I do wish to add something constructive and critical to this discussion.
That being said, I must say that I EFFING LOVE THAT DRESS HOLY MOTHER I WANT TO CARESS THAT SOFT VELVET NOW.

I’m chocked by the comments that girl sent you! (I suppose a girl posted them, right? -not that it matters^^)
but I’m not surprised… I mean, even though I’m not as adventurous as you are (in a good way… I adored your post about the surfer’s lycra! anyways…) I often get remarks like “eww… dr martens are so not feminine” or “your flower tights are not sexy”. Plus, I have glasses, and most people don’t think it’s sexy either. BUT, they should be proved wrong by the fact that my boyfriend thinks I’m beautiful! I’m not trying to brag or anything (that would just be weird) I want to say that I understand what you (“we”) probably felt when you read these stupid comments.
People shouldn’t be ashamed of looking/dressing different! they should be proud of it! I know I am.
And I must say you look ABSOLUTELY sublime and feminine in this dress… and in your other outfits!
I love your blog and everything you write! Please never change because of what people say (I doubt you would anyways!)
sorry for the length of this comment… and maybe I made some mistakes (so I’m sorry about that too). my written english isn’t perfect =)
<3
LOVE FROM FRANCE !
Marine / Another fucking fashionista

Can I please have that dress? That is possibly the most amazing colour, texture, cut, woooowowow!! Secondly, I was genuinely sad about that second comment you posted. It is so cruel, insulting, and completely misplaced. It is your blog, your way of dressing and if someone doesn’t like it then why comment that way? Why not just close the browser?
Thirdly, guys are not all interested in jeans and tank top, it’s freaking boring in the first place and not really an ensemble worth blogging about. I don’t think your style is weird at all. I think it is creative, inspirational, colourful, personal and wonderful! It is your personal style period and I find it strange that that simple aspect can’t be grasped.
I think the fact that your limbs move and you don various facial expressions already proves you are in fact human. I also received my first, “you stop eating deserts, should lose some weight because you are getting married soon” comment today and it also made me sad but who the f cares. These comments represent the dark side of blogging. This person though is clearly slightly schizophrenic and clearly best to just ignore and move one. I for one love the way you dress. It gives me new ideas and is honestly, the most inspirational blog for me even though I don’t dress like you but I still love it. There are always idiots in this world. <3
skiepies.blogspot.com/

I’m not sure about the kimono, but I think the dress is the absolute answer for her question of femineity.
Well done Susie!
PS: I sometimes visit your blog and think the same as the commenter ( that you too much crazy pieces in one outfit) but then I think that it is great how you encourage me and others to try out unusual things.

Eline/Jules: The question I wish to ask with regards to this supposed ‘liberation’ due to the internet and all its outlets etc are two fold…
On a financial level (which Asche Mischief addresses so well in this post… http://www.mischiefmydear.com/dramatispersonae/2010/fashion-blogger-finances) many of the popular blogs and perhaps mine included, extol a wardrobe that isn’t at all democratic, accessible or a free-for-all…
With regards to acceptance and liberation in that sense, you then have comments such as the ones that Marine cites and the ones I have put in this post?
So is this talk of the rise of fashion blogs etc contributing to people feeling liberated within fashion really true?
I actually just recently did an interview regarding whether blogs have contributed to a growing popularity in ‘eclectic’ style…i.e. my kind of style… it was a tough question to answer because I’m not sure…
This is all getting a bit too thoughtful for such a hot day isn’t it?

ELECTRA

I just read this last post,….. and I’m fuming.
I wish i knew who is the blogger that left those comments in your blog, to post this one on hers.
I’m overwhelmed by the lack of fashion culture of this person. I would love to tell her, that she has probably come to London many times, but it is clear that she has never been to Japan. If she would have visited Tokyo, she would know that women in Japan dress to please “THEMSELVES”, which is a lesson to learn for the rest of women.
They appreciate good quality fabrics, embroideries, and crafts, like anyone else. They dress without seeking or caring about the approval of anyone but THEMSELVES. And therefore they are all more courageous than us.
I think that she cant stand that 10000 people follow your blog, and that JUST you and another blogger were invited to a Gucci show in New York….
By the way, i would recommend this blogger to visit Broadway market ( East London), next time,…”skinny jeans and strappy tops”…get out of Oxford St, would ya?….
LOVE YOUR BLOG SUSIE, LOVE YOUR SENSE OF FASHION….NEVER CHANGE PLEASE.

fork n knife

Its just jealousy that makes a person leave those kinds of comments.
Ive just started following your blog and its brought so much joy
Isnt it great that we all have individual taste so we can try to express ourselves and try to enjoy life.
What I love about your blog is that its creative, original and outof the blogs I have checkt out you are by far the most interesting.
so thanks for that and dont let those immature ridiculous comments get to you, that person is pathetic…

Ah see people cite jealousy but I think in this instance, it ISN’T jealousy… it’s someone’s GENUINE opinion on the supposed ‘rules’ of looking feminine… ah feminine… there’s another term to ponder over…

Crikey. Some people are just rude – if she doesn’t like your style then she doesn’t need to keep reading. I don’t always love everything you wear or write about, but that is the case in any fashion magazine or blog. It is very easy to skip to the next page without turning abusive. And yes, it is really sad that there is still an expectation that we need to dress in a way that will make boys want to have sex with us, rather than in a way that makes us feel happy. Anyway, I love what you are wearing here, both versions. It is quite fun to see the dress by itself and then ‘bubbled up’, hehe.http://pennydreadfulvintage.blogspot.com/

Violet

I swear, every time I step in front of my closet I think of you. I absolutely love your sense of aesthetic and the confidence you have in yourself creatively. You’re so inspiring! Keep up the incredible work- your passion is contagious! And remember that people who follow the herd, i.e. said negative commenter, are often baffled by, or, in this case, probably envious of, those who stand without it. But, nothing would ever progress or change for the better if those comfortable with their individuality didn’t exist. Celebrate the fact that you belong to the latter group! 🙂
Warmly from California,
Violet

dude, ack. I’ve been following you since back in the day when you were taking pics of yourself in the mirror with the camera over your face and honestly, it’s been fascinating watching you develop your style, direction and prominence in the fashion community. Your blog only gets better and it shows how much hard work you put into it. Whoever this person is, their ideas are tired, misogynistic and dated. You shine on, sweetie.

I like that “prospective sexual partners” b/c really you only put on clothes to convince someone to take them off, right????
Also, I love your style and b/c it is different–that’s what is inspiring. I certainly would like to meet someone like you on the streets of my town!
Also, like the implication that you wouldn’t wear these out/don’t wear them out. If all the bloggers I follow are only wearing clothes for pics and changing right after…that rather sucks.

sheman

Bravo, Susie! The reason why you’re one of the top fashion bloggers out there stems solely from the fact that you look so unique and in turn seek unique designers with creative visions. I think the majority of your readers can agree with me in saying that if we see another blog that has studs, denim cut offs, and an Alexander Wang tank we’re going to throw up. Thank you for sharing your brand of fashion with the world, as we’re all the better for it.

leberation of personal style? i’m not so optimistic…since there are just too many fashion blogs that care more about collecting comments than the fashion itself. i will never be able to understand that, because i have sold my soul to fashion too long ago – and i do not regret a smallest bit! if someone may point a finger and laugh, read IGNORE THE IGNORANT comment posted above, because there will always be the mockery and derision, sadly but it’s true.
whomever this fashion blogger is, she’s just not mature enough to understand that it’s really OK to disagree with the choice of clothing of another person, or not grown up enough to realise that people are different and that IS exactly the point of fashion – beauty is in the difference.
she’s got to be unhappy in her relationships with men to comment so negatively on them. well, i can only wish her to meet someone who will love her for what she is, whatever she chooses to wear, feminine or not, a strappy top or a pair of margiela tabi boots.
really, let’s just all wish that girl the best! let’s wish her to gain some understanding, maturity, character and dignity which she seems to be drastcally missing if she allows herself those kinds of remarks.
Lena of .origamimonami

Ally_V

That dress is just AMAZING. Your figure looks like a very soft vase 🙂 I think you have a unique style which is not that common nowadays and I think you should be proud of that no matter what anyone says… And you wouldn’t be in Vogue if you dressed like a tramp ¬¨¬¨
Take care! xx

I think in her case she just doesn’t ‘get’ you. Simple as that. She expressed this in an odd way though, if she wasn’t digging it she should of simply moved on. The fact is many of us make fashion choices in our everyday life that get looked upon as odd by other people. But hey the world would be boring if we all dressed the same!
and by the way susie I got my degree 🙂http://aforteforfashion.blogspot.com

Please don’t let the negative comments get you down or, heaven forbid, cause you to change how you dress or which outfits to photograph and post. I love just about every outfit and photo on your blog. I do not comment often because, as a suburban housewife, I feel as if I don’t have the fashion cred to say anything authoritative. But your posts nearly always brighten my day.

Wow, I was sure that comments #2 and #3 were from the same person, but am surprised that #1 was her too. I guess even bloggers can be trolls. It’s just attention-seeking behavior on her part, not personal.

I rarely comment on blogs, but felt I had to after reading the post. Some people are so pig ignorant it disgusts me. Your style obviously isn’t run of the mill, which is why it’s great. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t dare to wear the outfits you do, but it’s wonderful to look at photos of someone so daring and having the confidence to wear what they like, no matter if the nautical stripes quite match the wet suit shorts. Love the blog and your style – keep up the good work!
Catherine

This dress looks absolutely beautiful on you – the cut and color is STUNNING. Your outfits are all fantastic and so inspiring, it’s refreshing to see someone who has the confidence to work such unique ensembles with such grace.

Lindsay

I love the blog!!!!
The First thing I want to say is that everyone is entitled to their opinion.. if they don’t like your blog/style then fair enough, you can’t please everyone.
The thing that annoyed me the most about these comments was the fact that you apparently need to wear skinny jeans and a strappy top so you can be seen as attractive to men.
Since when did you dress for men? You dress for yourself.
Fuck it. If you don’t want to be ‘feminine’ in skinny jeans and a strappy top then you don’t have to!
It’s such a stupid thing to say…
Rant over!
xxxx

I like almost every outfit you put in your blog, I am such a big fan to you, wathicng your blog for half year now,you are my muse!! I just start my blog in typepad too. becuase I believe it is good one since you use it.http://fashionrecipe.typepad.com/blog/

Girlfriend is ridonkulous. You are and always have been amazing and inspirational. I’ve only commented a couple of times throughout the years, but you were one of the ones who inspired me to love dressing up and throwing up my own silly blog with daily outfit posts. My style has evolved quite a bit in those 3 years, but I’ve never stopped looking to you all the same.
I guess what I’m saying is, keep walking to the beat of yo own drum!

S

G O R G E O U S Dress!
And the aforementioned “critic”? Her blog is neither particularly interesting or informative on the subject of fashion. Perhaps she has a different… less experimental,skinny/strappy perspective on fashion. To each his/her own!
However- critique doesn’t need to be offensive, and being from Romania as she mentioned I find the incredulous “in LONDON??” comment quite amusing- since although you’re more creative or colourful than the average, London’s pretty experimental in terms of fashion, and you hardly deserve the incredulous ‘thrift store robber’ In London??!! brand.
(….nothing against thrift stores:)

I’ve been feeling really uninspired with/by fashion lately (keep getting that fear of ‘what do I know?’ and idiotically getting bummed out by that rather than maybe err, going to find out more) and it’s things like this that make me go “yes! that’s why I love fashion!”
Susie, yours is the first fashion blog I read (back in ’06) and it remains a firm favourite. Okay yes, I might not like everything you post all the time (though a lot of the time I do), but that’s fine because all your fun/ideas/inspiration shines through and that is infinitely more worthwhile.
It shocks me that people (especially people who purportedly love fashion) do still think that fashion MUST be one set thing, when it always strikes me more as a progression (or cycle, depending on how you view it) of different ideas. Not everyone feels comfortable in “skinny jeans and strappy tops” and besides, if it weren’t for people experimenting or challenging clothing in the past, what’s the likelihood of us having the choice of skinny jeans and strappy tops now?
Anyway, that dress looks wonderful on you. The draping is exquisite. Hope you enjoy the event as much as you enjoy wearing the dress!

Susie, you have a gorgeous style and I have always admired your choice of clothing. you always make it work, and by these i mean both the colours and the textures. by the way that long velvet dress your are wearing is stunning and it is a perfect fit. it gives you a little bohemian chic and a little vintage feel.
Ignore the mean comments and please stay the way you are and carry on with you amazing blog.
have a good evening
Elenahttp://elenavasilieva.blogspot.com/

Gawd, that dress is gorgeous! I was recently told my outfit was hideous, which is hilarious to me. That’s sort of the whole point! We’re not trying to conform. Those comments you received are so incredibly backward, like a mid-century dad worried about marrying off his daughter, or a boss with an imminent sexual-harassment lawsuit. The hell?! Nevermind the fascists. If they were right, you wouldn’t be where you are now. As for me, I can’t tell you how encouraging it has been to have your support. I am too grateful for words.

Sometimes I just wonder why people have to post such unkind comments, if they don’t like they don’t have to watch!
Anyway even if I would never put togheter things as you do, I think you’re one of the most interesting and inspiring fashion person I’ve ever seen! I wish I had just a bit of your self confidence to wear what comes through my mind without any limits!
Never change 😉

I’m never really one for commenting, but what a beautiful dress – I actually made an audible squeak. I’m a big fan of giving complements when they are due, and given the nature of the post this seemed like a fitting occasion

HAHA – Clare @ ilovetweet – “twat-tastic” – love it.
Oh Susie, I’m glad you didn’t post her link cos it can surely only be attention seeking. And I think you’re too kind to dismiss jealousy. Who cares if her blog is decent? Does a good fashion blog make up for trying to make someone feel shit about themselves? Because it doesn’t sound to me like constructive criticism.
I think you look brilliant. That is a STUNNING dress – I do prefer it on it’s own, but your humour gets me every time. FUCK IT!! ADD MORE!!
Love your blog and I comment when I’ve got something to say other than just “cute blah..”
Charlotte xxhttp://stylerail.blogspot.com

Oh these sort of comments are so awful and it annoys me that you even have to deal with them and address them at all.
The great thing about blogs is that no one is forcing you to read them, there are so many fantastic ones that you can chop and change if you suddenly decide that you don’t like what someone is wearing or posting about. This commenter should just stop reading your blog if they don’t like it so that you can just do your thing for those of us who love and admire your style!
Yes your outfits are crazy but that is what I love about you and your blog! And if you can’t dress as you please in London, where can you? If anything, I think that your latest obsessions with all things sheer and pastel are ultra-feminine!
As you are in a relationship what a silly comment about trying to attract a guy, and even so, wouldn’t you prefer to meet someone who admires your personal style rather than some guy just trying to catch a glimpse of cleavage?!
grrr people make me so mad! keep doing your thing Susie, we love you just the way you are (and I’m sure your boy does too!!)

Gorgeous dress, and you look gorgeous in it (and sooo feminine :)) This is a great post, and it puzzles me, as a fellow blogger, what motivates people to take the time and effort to jump on other people’s creative output just because it doesn’t fit with their narrow-minded view of the world. Do they think it will shame us into conforming? Do I dress like you? No. Would I like to? If I could pull it off, yes. I think you are a living personification of the quote by style icon Iris Apfel when she said that getting dressed in the morning should be a creative adventure. I have a street style blog for a small city in Ontario, Canada, and the majority of the people who live here do not have the flair for adventure in their style that you have, but I manage to find subjects who stand out in their sartorial choices. I received the comment on one of my photos that, “Your blog is just full of “don’t’s”. I figure I must be doing something right. Keep on being your amazing, inspirational self, because “we” (those of us “style mavericks” who don’t wear skinny jeans and strappy tops) love you.

Susie, please never stop being your wonderful, kooky, mismatched, eclectic, beautiful, FEMININE self! After reading that post, I all of a sudden got very defensive! You are my FAVOURITE fashion blogger because you showcase talent not usually seen by most and open our eyes to so many new things! And for anyone to talk shit about you does not fly with me!
Whoever said those malicious, ignorant things is obviously narrow minded. I would say worse adjectives about that person but I would rather not spend any more time thinking about him/her.
I just want to say that you inspire me so much to be more myself, dress the way I want to dress, pursue my passion and just be generally AWESOME! BECAUSE YOU’RE AWESOME!
I am giving you an internet hug–*hug*
lots of love,
Derek
PS: When I went to London last summer, I pretty much used your shopping guide map to get to all the awesome shops! You’re the BEST!

Hanako

Wow that dress is soooo nice! I know people will have their negative comments but it’s wonderful that you don’t let it phase you. I mean, I do think that some outfits work and some maybe not so much, but why WOULDN’T you mix and match it up when there are so many great combinations and pieces to choose from! Don’t worry girrrrl I your style is you and so many people love it! If only I had your wardrobe hehe!
From a reader in New Zealand!!! xxxxxx

susie i think instead of worrying about what this commenter is saying about your style- which pretty much everyone here is agreeing is AWESOME and inspiring to so many of us- you should pity her unenlightened ideas about what fashion and style are.
The fact that she focuses on how men might (and how does she even know this?) perceive you, because you’re not constantly dressed in skinnys and tank tops is incredibly insulting. Not just to women, by basically saying that when we choose what clothes to buy and outfits to wear eah morning our primary concern is “will i get a man by wearing this?” – it’s also insulting to men, assuming they all have the same view on what looks good AND that they would judge whether they’d want to date you or not purely on what you’re wearing.
In terms of the democratisation of fashion, and as a wider issue, the growth of the internet as a forum, it pisses me off that people now use this as an excuse to be incredibly rude to people they don’t even know. No matter how successful your blog is, and how many people now read it- it’s still yours, and you can wear what you damn well please, and post about what you damn well please too. That person and any other, anonymous or not is still out of order when they attack you personally, especially using such excessive punctuation and aggressive over-use of the capslock key!
For me, what I love about your style is its diversity. When I come onto your blog (it’s probably the only one i check absolutely every day) I can never guess what you’re going to be wearing, or what new designer you’re going to tell us about. A lot of bloggers out there have a very defined style, they’ve almost pigeonholed themselves, but you always have something new to talk about and pair pieces in such innovative ways.
I’ve written a bit of an essay here but I guess the post called for such a response!
You look amazing in that dress too!

I can’t quite believe that they are all from the same person but people are strange. I’m also surprised that after many months of reading your blog she doesn’t ‘get’ your style yet. I guess it’s pretty frustrating reading comments like that and you’re only human to get annoyed by it…and rightly so! How degrading to say that men like ‘strap tops and skinny jeans’ goodness, I’m guessing that is how she dresses? I think she needs to start thinking out of the box.
Hmmm what else to say? Oh yes, you’re awesome and that Dagmar dress is stunning, both on it’s own and styled in the signature Susie bubble way!

Carrie

If this person doesn’t appreciate your unique sensibilities, well alright… you can’t please everybody, but I honestly don’t see why she has to be so insulting about it. Just go and read some blog about skinny jeans and strappy tops instead. There are plenty of those.
I like your take on fashion because it IS different. It is forward-thinking. It isn’t the same old pedestrian stuff I see at every mass market retailer every day put together in the same old formula. The kind of clothes she suggests are fine (though forgettable), but if you can be more creative and have the outlet to express said creativity, WHY NOT? Nobody is going to die because you layered on one too many pieces of clothing today.
Oh, and thanks– you’ve just reminded me to dig out my pink velvet dress.

I have to say that I am constantly inspired by your creativity and innovation in mix of colour, use of texture, and although I’m not brave enough to pull off some of your looks, I still think they’re amazing and so interesting.
This random blogger who is so vehemently not a fan (although who started as one) is likely jealous, I can’t imagine any other reason for such ludicrous criticism.

Brendan Hardy

I just want to weigh in with a little bit of love… Cause I love love love your Blog, I don’t always agree with your style choices but I do love the individual pieces more often than not… you have a fantastic blog here and I am inspired ever time I see it. If people need to take you down to make them selves feel better than please refer back to this comment in the future (and the many others that assure you.) and realise that you are too wonderful to have to care about those who want to be so negative! I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOU! Brendan – Melbourne

cynthia

Yet another long time reader who doesn’t normally comment. What I find so compelling about your blog is that you are clear that this is your style. The problem with many blogs and tv shows devoted to fashion are very reminiscent of middle school bullies who deem themselves the arbiters of style for everyone. It becomes tiresome and boring to read these blogs/ watch these shows because they are predictably catty and mean.
I think your fearlessness and wonder and excitement about fashion is refreshing.

Stylish Girl

You look sad in the photos =(
I never saw you in the blog look like that.
You know, whoever have a personal style one day or another face this kind of comments,I have a really personal style and people always,ALWAYS piss me off about that.So all my solidarity go to you!
You are so well dressed and with a lot of beautiful clothes too and people can be jelous of that,sometimes i’m jelous too,I mean it’s human and it’s really a female thing after all,but I don’t get obssed by that,as thousand of other people do the same.
And I’m happy too see person which push the boundaries with clothes,it helps every strage dresser to be more accepted in the society of top and skinny jeans.
You ispiring me to see fashion in a different way and I can say only a big thank you for all the website and sale etc etc all the thing you wrote in your blog!
So please smile again =)

SometimesAFan

Oh come on, you’re writing about “liberalization”, “democratization”, etc. of blogs, imo a bit too much when it’s about something quite superfluous and dispensable like fashion, but you cannot stand a few comments that are critical of your wardrobe choices? Is it not possible for someone to like some outfits of yours but not others? I don’t comment but I personally love some of your looks when they seem to capture a sense of the particular season but am absolutely turned off by others which come across as too much fashion victim.
I do not agree with mean comments, and I’m sorry you attracted some unsavoury detractors, but you also came down hard on a few who politely voiced their opinions. It is a bit silly to be reacting so vehemently to criticisms and flaunting your retorts/taunts. Why not calmly invite opinions about, say, fashion “explosions” instead? It would make for a more fun and open-minded blog, something you appear to champion.
I do wish that you will start to mature a little more and venture into the connection between the zeitgeist and the ideas/vibes you can pick up from the streets of London to put up a more engaging and intelligent angle, instead of simply blogging for the “designers”, seeing as you throw words like “democratization” around a fair bit, and how much influence you do have on your legions of fans.
There is a larger world out there, and times are certainly a changin’, but you’re blogging in a vacuum, but well, there’s your pseudonym “bubble”, I suppose that does explain it.

mikodesu

That was an insightful look into the terrifying possibilities of blogging. When just about everyone can blog … this sort of ignorance and harassment happens.
Please know that I value your blog for a variety of different things but one of which is for your very unapologetic display of sartorial adoration. Thank god for people like you, I’d hate to see London diminished to drones of skinny-jean-strappy-top-clad soulless creatures.
However, as much as I’d like to say I dress for myself. I really do not. I don’t dress to please others, I certainly don’t belong in that category. I personally dress to shock the masses into seeing things differently. It’s not everyday in canada that you see a fuller-figured, dark-skinned asian boy in a vintage trapeze dress, torn sheer tights, and 6-inch platforms after all… And, I think, though it may not be your intention – your personal style has the same shock-value…You may not necessarily care what others think, but that’s you. I do though, I mean, I seek the attention to break the monotony of hegemonic style…

frankie

hey suzie
never commented on your blog until now, and if i’m anything to go by there must be 1000 people who love your posts but don’t say anything to every one uncreative sap taht feels the need to criticise you. i think you’re awesome, i love dressing up and reading blogs like yours gives me that extra little confidence to not give a damn what other people think. good on you!

you look so lovely in that dress! both ways… although i really do like the kimono with it 🙂 but in the end you are wearing it, so make it yours!!! why does this person keep coming back if they are so distraught over your style? so silly!

Leah

Dear my inspiration,
I’ve been following your blog for a long time. And as I am too lazy to make a blog I learned by heart your blog link so I can check it everyday.
At first, your style was so overwhelming to me. But still, I found there’s something to keep reading. And I figured out why, I’ve been so bored by people whose styles are so “according to the rule” if you know what I mean. And to have you and your blog inspire me everyday makes me feel like I’m gonna love fashion all the time. Fashion which is extreme, unpredictable and exciting.
So let people who throw you criticism that rude be safe, be feminine and be pretty the way they’re gonna sink in an ocean of stylish chicks and dudes. Please keep your head high and go your own way coz that’s how you’ve been shining all the time.
LOVE.

Roz

To begin with, I’m an infrequent commenter (but very frequent reader!) who started my own blog after being inspired by the individuality of ones such as yours. Some of us like dressing for ourselves, and funnily enough, trying to attract the opposite gender doesn’t even register in my daily decision of what to wear.
It seems that blogging (like practically everything) has both pros and cons – the internet has made certain things more accessible, and it is easier to broadcast from a collective creative platform. However, it has also given rise to (not always, but sometimes) a lack of manners. Even though this individual did not stay anonymous, the anonymity that you can have on the internet sees to equate with losing all the general manners you learnt as a child!
But I’m impressed by how you responded, and I’m going to echo what others said – only you can choose how to dress, and I’m glad you’re not taking the comments to heart.
Besides, with all this ‘fashion democracy’, isn’t one of the rules of democracy that everyone is allowed their own opinion and to do things their own way? Maybe the commenter should have thought about that first, and not assumed that everyone wants to fit to her her idea of whats fashionable.http://clothescamerasandcoffee.blogspot.com/

quite simply <3 <3 <3
Susie I commend you..... I adore your witty writing and your (always) unique and (truly) personal style.
Not so anonymous style blogger....pish posh balder-dash. Femininity is not derived from skinny jeans and 'strappy' tops.... and to say that to dress otherwise is to make oneself 'unattractive' is absolutely and uttering ridiculous.

Hatti Long Socks

Again I’m another ‘never commented your blog before but followed it for ages’ bla bla bla person.
But I just wanted to say thanks. You make me feel that its okay (and a good thing!) if i want to wear everything grey in my wardrobe and layer it up! Grey tights, grey dress, grey cardi, grey scarf…..grey everything!
I love wearing a patterned dress then throwing a patterned cardi on top and thinking….’wait a minute….this looks good!’
I think layering is one of the best things you do! And i wish i was that clever sometimes. So yeah there shouldn’t be any rules in fashion and i think many fashion designers dont see there being any inparticular so why should we?

Hey many points to reply to here…. but I have to run out for a bit….
Some more points to ponder though as I may have overstepped the line…
SometimesAFan: Fair points you raise there‚Ä¶. and when I write posts like this that illicit a lot of comments, a fair bit of them are ones that provoke debate (like yours‚Ä¶) and since I rarely write posts like this because I want to celebrate rather than whinge, something MUST happen in order for my brain to be kicked into gear‚Ä¶. unfortunately, it takes a negative comment to tap into my brain‚Ä¶.
I completely agree with you about your point of regarding ‘liberation’ and ‘democratisation’‚Ä¶ and this is something I raised in the post and in comments‚Ä¶. is that there is TALK of it (not by me, but by the 100s of articles which talk about the effects of the internet on fashion‚Ä¶) but is it actually seen in ACTION? I’m not so sure‚Ä¶ if anything hierarchy in more ways than one is still very much in place and I’m not the first one to say that fashion blogging is not a fair playing field‚Ä¶that’s what i was grasping at when talking about ‘liberation’ and ‘democratisation’‚Ä¶.
And if you read the post fully, what I was incited about most was the degradation of personal style down to wanting to please the opposite sex or ‘people other than yourself’‚Ä¶. it’s not the point of criticising me that angers me – there are other comments that are far better examples of that‚Ä¶.
Sadly, I’m not very good at articulating a subject in which I have no personal experience on‚Ä¶ being moved, angered or incensed by something is a starting point which is unfortunate but otherwise you don’t really ‘feel’ it and I suppose that is that vacuum blogging you talk about – it is only once in a while that I do this and despite the ‘flaunt of retort’, there is a point to be made and I did question it – ‘ARE we deluded when we talk of ‘democratisation in fashion impacted by the internet?’, ‘is it so difficult to dress to solely please yourself?’ ‘How DO the opposite sex
Perhaps I should pose those questions more but that’s a lot of chunk to squash into one post‚Ä¶ future food for thought though….
I didn’t link to that person because this isn’t a post simply bearing ill-will. Perhaps it is a flaunt of retorts but my writing isn’t quite skilled enough to go at it from another angle straight away‚Ä¶ clearly‚Ä¶ as I managed to miss three key questions‚Ä¶DOH‚Ä¶
The point is, I guess I blog on impulse – it goes out, unchecked and is an instant reaction (the last comment I cited was made yesterday‚Ä¶) – it’s measured I feel in tone and you can disagree if you feel it isn’t but it’s a reaction nonetheless‚Ä¶
That perhaps is my failing – reacting too fast and not really thinking about the consequences…
Blogging for the ‘designers’ is one angle I take because it’s easy to keep content regular and I’ve always maintained multiple posts a day‚Ä¶. I’ve never wanted the blog to be essay/point-based because quite frankly, it would take me about a month to churn out a post, thinking and re-thinking points‚Ä¶. as you can see, already this comment is a bit of a mess…
You have made me reassess the way I write though‚Ä¶.
I suppose I am blogging in ‘vacuum’ but like you said, by name and nature…

Can’t believe someone could be so narrow minded about the point of style and fashion (to express yourself through dressing NOT to allure the opposite sex) to write such nasty things about you.
Personally I find that the men attracted to skinny jeans, strappy top type girls are not the type one wants to attract anyway (dull, dull, dull) and the ones who applaud you for dressing in an original and interesting manner are the ones that will last.
I love your blog and have a feeling this girl has a severe case of jealousy!
The velvet dress is one of the most beautiful things I have seen all day.
Katie ( http://www.salonbusiness.co.uk )

That fellow blogger is just jealous of you so you should not let her comments affect your style. By the way, you look gorgeous in the dress, and by layering, it is so “YOU”! You are such a style insiration! 😉

Tina

I know my comment will get lost in here, but still…
I think it’s rude and narrow- minded to start bashing someone’s personal style.
I also found the part “you’re obviously not going to attract any guys whatsoever…” really outrageous, as if youre supposed to dress so you can be attractive in the eye of the opposite sex?? The only one you’re supposed to dress for is yourself.
– superhandsomegirl.blogspot.com

not that you even needed to write that, you know you’re amazing, we know you’re amazing, so keep up the good work!!
people are always going to criticise those who are different, and those who are successful, but what did we ever learn from all being the same?
xoxo
Laurahttp://thelusciousmix.blogspot.com/

What a rude commenter! Yuck yuck yuck, and the things they say don’t make any sense at all. I know that everyone judges (and I admit I do it myself) but everyone really should be allowed to wear whatever they want, no matter how ‘bad’ it may seem to others. Feeling good in an outfit is so important… it just makes everything seem better! 🙂
And Susie, you look BEAUTIFUL in that dress, with layers and without. You inspire me to take outfit risks and go out in my fun/crazy combos – even if people do look at me strangely, so what, right? xx

I’ve been admiring your blog from afar since 2008 and have never felt more inclined to comment until now. I just wanted to say that you are lovely and brave for doing your own thing and thanks (I don’t say it nearly as often as I should) for all the inspiration!

Irene

1. That cut/ colour of that dress are perfect.
2. The more I think about the comments you mentioned, the more batshit crazy the whole thing sounds.
There are plenty of people who wear things I wouldn’t wear, or who style things in a different way to how I would wear them. Sometimes, such as in the case of this blog, I admire the person’s style and adventure even if it’s not what I would do, and other times I just plain don’t like what they are wearing.
HOWEVER, I might momentarily think to myself ‘I don’t really like that’, and then I move on. After all, if that person enjoys what they are wearing, who am I to tell them any differently? And for that matter, why would I want to???

I read your blog since 2006 (i think!!) and what I like about you is the imagination and passion you put in each and everyone of your looks! Keep up and pay no mind to all these creepy persons who think that their opinion is some kind of ..law!

Your blog is such an inspiration, you are such an inspiration! Don’t let those comments bother you, your style is unique and you are a trend setter (for lack of a better term 🙂 ). I agree with some of your followers, you indirectly influence a lot of people with your style and sense of dressing and the way you put yourself together, the way you pair pieces, very original and amazing!
You are cute and petite, and have sported many looks in the past which definitely added to your femininity, and at times in a subtle sense, but it’s there! So the commentator whoever she is has no clue and is blind. Maybe she would like to see you in plain clothes like skinny jeans and a strapy top (to please guys? that’s so 18th century!) but then that isn’t fashionable at all and it is isn’t you!
Her insecurities and your popularity made her put you down, but the support that has come your way should quell whatever doubts she may planted in your mind. I mean because you only doubt a good thing, right? 😉
The way you present the Dagmar dress with the kimono and lace shirt and skirt inside, that is you. Your unique twist to regular dressing is what we love. Though by no means is the Dagmar dress regular, its lovely, the blush velvet drape very feminine indeed.

Lila

I’ve been a lurker for a while on this site, and I’m breaking my ‘silence’ because of this post.
If I had that dress, I would have stuck with it plain as in photo 1. Why? Because I’m slightly boring and I have no idea how to make it pop the way you did in photos 3 onwards. That’s also why I’m not a style or fashion blogger, just a lurker!
The reason why I come back time and time again to read this blog is because you can take it to that next level. I think that your styling makes it over the top and fantastic and 10x more interesting than the original. The way you styled it makes you look like a modern, supercool screen siren.
So yeah, you could be just another pair of skinny jeans and strappy tops on the high street, but the reason why I and many others love your blog is because you’re not. Thank you for you being you.

Studio Girl

Concerning the negative comments you received, who really gives a damn if the opposite sex won’t be attracted to you because of how you dress? That shouldn’t be the reason they like you in the first place, and if it is then they obviously don’t care much for the boring ‘skinny jeans and strappy tops’ so much as what is underneath. No girl should dress for a man, she should dress for herself.
And you dress beautifully anyway, I would feel like a proud little grinning girl if I so much as owned one piece of clothing from your colourful wardrobe. Ignore all negative comments, life is too short to care about them. No one should wrap their life around other people’s crap.

I AM A STRAIGHT MALE and I read your blog, think you’re gorgeous, feminine, and most of all I LOVE your personal style. In fact, I wish there were more women like you in my area who would choose to dress with creative expression rather than trying to please everyone else or be sexy. And to say that you’re not feminine is completely absurd to me..I really don’t get that part??

Roisin

i honestly cant understand how someome could be so short sighted… especially another fashion blogger. there will always be haters i suppose. personally i find your style so inspiring and original… youre always the first blog i look at when i get online and i love everything youre doing!
p.s.(i hate the skinnies and strappy top combo- uninspiring much?)
xxx

SometimesAFan

Susie, you don’t want to stay cute and adored forever, in your own carefully tended bubble, you’re better than that. Open your mind, truly, and that means if bitching comes your way, why not let it lead where it might lead, perhaps to more interesting places? Why not try to understand why? You might not agree or like what you see, but I bet it’ll be interesting and expansive, even if it illuminates another’s character, anomie, frustrations. If it throws open another viewpoint. Do you honestly need another thousand “Ooooohhh!! that’s so rad/cute/sexy/beautiful!” comments in an echo chamber/bubble?
To be democratic and liberalized is to decide to accept opinions on both sides, those who detest your fashion choices as well as your fans. It’s great you admit to being a bit ill-natured in your response, ah, to be human. Celebrate it.
I was led to Sister Wolf’s site and at first, being the decorously raised prissy snob I am, I blanched at the unbridled ravaging of certain privileged bloggers. I’m sure you must have been greatly relieved to have escaped their collective wrath, but with the no-holds-barred derision rained some truly intelligent observations, and I hope that the object of their scorn could see their role as foil for the unfolding of some bitterly expressed but brilliantly astute social commentary about the state of our world. And what a state we’re in.
That’s in the end what’s liberating about many blogs, the taking off of the kid gloves, the guts and the glory, be they Anna Wintour or some self-obsessed glitterati. You have to decide if you’re blogging to please, including pleasing yourself, the favoured designers and fellow running pack fashionistas or you truly mean what you understand about the freedom, autonomy and experimentation afforded by blogs. But above all, do it in the manner you’re accustomed to, i.e. prissy if that’s what you are!

You really are inspiring, you know. Being young and surrounded by rules and trends on what is “cool” and what isn’t, it can be kinda hard to stick to yourself. But your fearlessness is amazing, and I love your style.
And that dress. OMG you look stunning in it!
Sonia xohttp://dozendresses.blogspot.com
BTW. I saw you in ELLE too last year 😀

bonbon

This is my first comment since I’ve been reading your blog the last few months!
Not a shock that you look lovely in that dress–also not shocking that there are some who still think that the purpose of dressing/make-up-ing in the morning is to attract the opposite sex. I mean, look at the average “womens” magazine on a rack in America–it’s all about “sexy hair!” “hot date dresses!!” “what you should wear to totally hook a man!!!!” Ick.
I tend to think that people who take this opinion don’t really “get” fashion as far as its conceptual aspects are concerned. But even if someone can’t understand that, they should at least grasp that people should wear what they like, what makes them dream, what makes them feel inexcusably fabulous. Go Susie!

Sometimes a fan, I can’t help but think that your comments would hold more weight if you were willing to put your actual name to them (and any blog/site that you may or may not write). You preach about embracing the ‘freedom afforded to bloggers’- why don’t you use your freedom of speech with your actual identity. Or- I don’t know- email Susie and actually engage in a meaningful dialogue if you think that your opinion is so important.
Sorry Susie, but I am so fed up of bullshitters who try to pretend that they’re being reasonable, when all they have done is waited for a chance to stick the boot in. Sometimesafan, to me, is no better than those anons who leave the ‘wtf, u r so ugly’ comments.

SometimesAFan: Thanks for the response… obviously a lot of food for thought all round but I DO want it to let it be known that posts such as these aren’t here for the purpose of some sort of ‘rallying’ around me…. people CAN disagree and people can also agree with the commentor I cite.
Like I said beforehand, it’s hard to really ‘feel’ a point I’m trying to make if I’m not incensed in the firsthand…. so this isn’t self-pity as ‘Bonbon’ points out but using something that was born out of malice as a jumping point.
I do thank those voices of support nonetheless – I didn’t call for it. I merely wanted to point out the ridiculousness of a POV that maintains that to attract a guy or to be attractive end of, you need to conform to certain moulds and that is HORRIBLY against what I believe. I don’t mind disagreements with people’s tastes – as SO many have said here, they often DON’T like my style choices – in effect, the chorus isn’t actually sung in unison. The thing I do object to is imposing views that are unhealthy for a person’s state of mind. You can say I dress like a random idiot – fair enough – but to say that you’d NEVER ATTRACT A GUY the way you’re dressed and to boil down personal style to a strappy top and a pair of jeans…? By someone who supposedly loves fashion?
There’s just too many things there that don’t sit with me right… I may have reacted too fast but I couldn’t NOT react… in the same way that I post things quickly and mostly on-time because thoughts stay fresh in the mind. It’s perhaps not considered or not as expansive as say, SometimesAFan would like but it’s the way the blog operates and how I’ve always done it…. it may be reassessed along the way but for now, it works for me because ultimately I am blogging to suit my own lifestyle… if I could write to provoke interesting debate, then I would all the time but frankly, my writing capabilities don’t stretch that far.
Still, I thank you for your points…
I can’t reply to everyone but hopefully I’ve said enough here… onwards and upwards and all of that…. reacting too fast has its consequences but I stand by what I said. I was actually kind of hoping the commentor would respond and perhaps explain a little bit more about her views on personal style seeing as we have a common ground with an interest in fashion…

Hey Susie,
A) Thanks for your reply. 🙂 It’s nice that you’re taking the time to reply all of the comments, it shows a lot about the kind of blogger you are and I like that.
B) In regards to your point about the differing financial levels, that is very true. I am a regular reader of other various fashion bloggers and all of them (you included) have items that I would not be able to afford/willing to shell out the cash for. And while that does bring up some questions which I can only articulate poorly now (like how one can be a personal fashion blogger when she buys things that regular readers and girls can’t normally afford), that does not mean that it’s not liberation.
In my personal experience … I am a very cheap shopper. As in, I find it difficult to pay over 50 bucks for any single item. -_- And yeh sure, I do get HELLA jealous when I see you guys all dressed up in stuff I want but can probably never get anytime soon. But that ‘jealousy’ (in the best way possible) is what drives me to find the best bargains, the best thrift finds, etc. And the thing is … I feel that with these fashion bloggers, they’re sort of bringing high-end fashion to us regular readers. Personally, I wouldn’t bother about labels like LV or even Christopher Kane if not for such blogs. However because you guys bring these normally more inaccessible labels to my attention, I’m able to actually be on top of trends off the runway or whatever and then get inspired. Once inspiration hits, all I have to do is run to the nearest thrift store and search for lookalikes or [INSERT BRAND/DESIGN TYPE]-inspired things.
Did I get your point? Hahahahaha I pretty much just let my fingers do the talking, so I’m not sure if that super long paragraph is 100% coherent. Anyway, this is a really good discussion. I’m currently doing my Masters in Communication in Melbourne and I wrote an entire paper on how the Internet is probably the biggest invention after the Gutenberg Press, and how it is changing the traditional journalism business model. It’s kiiiiiiinda related to this topic, so I’m intrigued to see where this goes. 🙂

Jules: That deserves a separate post altogether…it’s been bugging me for months and months how do I talk about money on the blog without it going completely askew… it’s something I want to address but I’m not sure how…. I’m a guilty party for sure but how do I atone for it? Or am I even apologetic for spending the way or do or being as fortunate as I am to live in London and to have certain access to things? I’m not sure… so many quizzical issues….

Amy

kim

Hi Susie, this post is probably old news in the blogging world by now but I still wanted to say a few things. Those comments (well, #2 and #3 at least, the connection with #1 baffled me) sound very much like people back in my high school. And while some say they’re sprouted out of mere jealousy, most of those people really meant and believed those things. But then again, most of those people wouldn’t exactly start a fashion blog either so again baffled there.
But actually the reason I wanted to comment still is to thank you for posting this. I always dressed a bit ehm, different from the norm and it has given me a fair share of dirty looks in my office’s cafeteria (and remarks back in high school). I never cared though, because I felt good about how I dressed. However after being single for a while now (2 years) there are moments where I do wonder whether I should tone it down towards ‘the norm’… as not to ‘scare off’ the opposite sex. Gah, I’m a bit embarrased to type that really :(. Reading your post & those comments reminded me that I wouldn’t want to attract any of those narrow minded people anyway… I’d want someone who’d like me for who I am, and that includes the way I dress and express myself. Thanks Susie, you are a rolemodel for individuality.

Emily

I saw you in oxford circus the other day and i must say rather than staring because i thought you looked odd, i stared because i was in awe how ridiculously well you could pull off a fur skirt..especially during summer (albeit the great British summer!) it’s people like you who make London such a dynamic, fashion forward place!
Enough ass-kissing.
Keep up with the clothes explosion!

The gorgeous long dress reminds me of the ancient gods and statues made of them. The velvet folds beautifully and the shadows in the folds makes it perfect. Beautiful work by the designer, it looks like it was made for you.

Fab Valensi

dressing to please other people is the first step to losing your SELF. because suddenly you start second guessing yourself – because how can you know whom you’ll please and whom you’ll offend? “oh wait, i don’t want to think about MYSELF right now, i want to think about what EVERYONE ELSE possibly thinks about me” (because you will never ever know and usually people think about themselves.)
a large portion hollywood dresses to please, and creates an entire industry out of the critics who look terrifying themselves (like joan rivers). and so what do you get? a bunch of women who get together for awards wearing the same long chiffon high-waisted ball gowns, just in different colors. one should go look at a hollywood gossip site if one wants to see women in skinny jeans and strappy tops.
i say either please yourself or just quit having fun with fashion and dress like everyone else. i VEHEMENTLY disagree with pleasing other people in fashion. this blogger seems as though he/she is racked with jealousy of you and is trying to break you down so he/she can feel better.
but you shine so wonderfully and dress so well and inspire so many. there are more of us who adore you and your creativity out there than this one jealous and laughable blogger.

This post made me cry. (Yeah, I also cried whilst watching the news today, but this is so sentimental and sad that a girl has had her world so crushed in a short time, that she feels the need to post things like that), You look so beautiful in that dress – when adorned or not!
I received my tights in the post, and was going to email my thanks, but I feel it’s easier given that I felt the need to comment here, I may as well say thank you very very much for my Christmas present! I really appreciate it,
R x

Kerry

I am sure you are probably sick of the million comments saying how wonderful and inspirational you are, but I feel the need add just one more pointless comment anyways. I’ve only been reading your blog for a few months now, but it is by far my favorite. So many fashion blogs are jam packed with photo collages from style.com and self-shot outfit posts that have little else to say than “Love this! Like that!” and “I went the park today! Have a good weekend everyone!”. As much as I am a sucker for lots of pretty photos, you are one of the few fashion bloggers who actually have something interesting to say. I love the fact that you seek out up and coming designers and write about things I’ve never seen or heard of before. I hardly ever read fashion blogs, I tend to browse through the photos quickly, however I love reading your posts. I’m actually making a drawing of you write now, I’ll send it to you when I’m done. I kind of sound like a stalker. Anyways, I know it sucks when people say shit about you, especially over the internet when they don’t even know you, so I thought I’d let you know I think you’re great.
Kerry

I personally believe in the old fashioned “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” In all honesty I have total respect for your sense of style and experimentation. (I wish I had that talent!) My favorite (and most frequented) fashion blogs are yours and the lovely queen Michelle’s Kingdom of Style. You two rock! I even have posted a bit about you and have future posts planned with you on my blog (where I basically gush!) over how much I admire your daring fashion sense and incredible ability to use layers to make an outfit something spectacular!
What you’re doing is great and whoever has such strong negative feelings about you clearly shouldn’t be following your wonderful blog.
All I have to say is, KEEP IT UP!

Mmmh, I only know one Romanian blogger and she has sometimes treat on my feet (= hurt my feelings) by making very blunt remarks, but I put it down to different habits of communication (coming from Germany I’m used to quite a high degree of rudeness, which is often confused with honesty). But these remarks are of very poor taste and I would be rather upset if I received them.
What I love about your style and your blog is that you are creative and are having FUN with fashion – and this is very inspirational. When you wear a gorgeous velvet dress like the one above your are absolutely beautiful in every (including a conventional) sense – but thank you, Susie for NOT trying to channel plain (boring) pretty every day. xxx
(Hope this all makes sense, it’s late…)

ivana

Hi Susan
Your response to the “other blogger” shows your position – right at the top. Negative comments are good sometimes because they show the diversity in our society. Without the bad, there will not be the good.
Keep up the good work

I’m pretty appalled that anyone would suggest that any woman’s entire purpose of getting dressed is to attract a mate. That is shockingly backwards thinking and incredibly anti-woman.
on the pleasant side of things you look gorgeous. the kimono with the dress is ethereal.

The material of the dress looks gorgeous and you look absolutely stunning in it. I love your style and you’re my daily morning read that I look forward to everyday! Kudos to you! (and to those confused detractors ‘off with their heads!’lol)

Ivana

But what if some people are just happy with thinking about what other people think of them? What if it please them to please other people? What if it is what makes them happy? (yeah, it’s not a response to your article, more to most comments, most whom said almost the same things) (also, I have trouble answering without asking questions so that you can “take” my way of mind)
(We’re sorry, we cannot accept this data, WTS?)

Pashupati: I actually have something to say about your question. If these people are happy just by pleasing other people and conforming to how they think people view them, then sure. Go right ahead, I say! There’s nothing wrong with conformity, we’ve all been through that. But to leave malicious comments on someone else’s blog is a bit too much, don’t you think. I mean, you can express differing opinions without seeming too much like a cranky old bitch, you know what I mean? 🙂

Cassiopeia

Pashupati: I guess that is a VERY good question…. I dunno…. it’s difficult because in manners, I very much enjoy pleasing people but in the end, I’m still very happy for doing it….
The thing is though with personal style – how can you predict what makes EVERYONE happy? Even the whole idea of ‘pleasing the opposite sex’ as some guys have pointed out here, is FAR more complex than just the ‘strappy top and skinny jeans’ picture that the original commenter paints… you’d think traditionally…
But fair point, it’s not a road I’d go down because it’d give me a huge headache trying to figure out every onlooker’s taste in clothing…
I understand that though sometimes keeping peace, making happy is happier route for some people though… I guess what I’m talking about is the presumption that if you LOVE fashion, and if fashion is a form of self-expression then that sense of SELF is quite important, no?
But of course, you would then argue that you can love fashion on many levels…

You look gorgeous in that dress: total movie star glamour that not many girls can pull off while still looking natural and fresh.
People who invest time in criticizing you are just tragic. They need to post photos of their own outfits and explain why their opinion matters.

Kim: Trust me, I went through the same thing‚Ä¶I was single for two years before I met Steve but the thing is I went through that whole excitement over dressing for ‘guys’ when I was 16 and started going clubbing. It just didn’t work anyway because I was so awkward with them that NO slutty/sexy outfit would have attracted them‚Ä¶. I did go to a girl’s school which contributed to my overall awkwardness but I was simply happiest in my own styled clothes – if it lost me a few dopey dates, who cares?
I firmly believe you project yourself in your most confident self if you dress what you feel comfortable in and my sad encounters in grimy clubs with err‚Ä¶handkerchief tops are testament to that‚Ä¶ gosh I wish I had a photo to illustrate how ridonckulous I looked‚Ä¶ this perhaps needs a post in itself…
Emily: I was actually doing a shoot that required an autumnal outfit so that was in effect ‘pleasing someone else’ – but I do so love that skirt! Hehe‚Ä¶. thanks!
Kathryn, I answered Pashupati’s question but I didn’t read your comment here which REALLY hits the nail on the head‚Ä¶.
Rachel Lily: Don’t cry! So sorry I sent them so LATE‚Ä¶in this weather as well!
Kerry: Thanks for wanting to draw me‚Ä¶.
Sabine: Actually, I was so confused by the string of comments that I perhaps did think they were just overly-blunt honesty‚Ä¶. that could still be the case‚Ä¶. I perhaps wished she replied‚Ä¶.
Sister Wolf: Imagine if Blogger/Typepad invented a fashion blog comment device that meant that critical opinions needed to be backed up with a picture of an outfit‚Ä¶. what a thought‚Ä¶.

anon.

PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE DON’T CHANGE~~~~ MY GOD, I WOULD DIE IF YOU CONFORMED TO EVERYTHING. GAH. I LOVE EVERY SINGLE OUTFIT THAT YOU UPLOAD, EVERY SINGLE POST THAT YOU WRITE~ PEOPLE LIKE THE AFOREMENTIONED BLOGGER CAN GO STFU AND PISS OFF CAUSE QUITE FRANKLY, THEY’S JEALOUS~~

moon leung

Susie, I don’t think my last comment posted, but if it did feel free to delete this one. But I’m a straight male, I read your blog, and love it because of your creative and artistic take on clothing. I think you look great in what you’re wearing, and if you’re not feminine, I don’t know who is…

Matt

You are the best! I’m a male who is continually refreshed and inspired by your wardrobes, you do so many things with fashion – I think the clothes that you wear and the way that you (Susie) present yourself is your art and it’s great art at that. You’re also really attractive in all that you wear, so don’t worry about that.

I, for one, would rather do away with clothes altogether before dressing to impress “men”. I use quotations because, as you have already pointed out, men are not a collective being and therefore have different ideas on what is attractive and such. I’m really happy to know how many other women are out there who choose to dress for themselves and only themselves.

Kat

Oh my gosh, that is a fabulous dress… and a crazy person.
How boring, to dress by the “rules”… dressing only in skinny jeans and strappy tops is fine if you like it, but not when you’d rather wear drapey dresses and patterned tights! What is the reward for that–getting to hang around people who don’t care for the real, fun/creative you? No thanks…

Yo, Susie, you are a constant inspiration in my work. And who cares about being attractive? I believe that fashion in this post-post modern world is extraordinarily beyond the idea of attractiveness and that you are consistently breaking down barriers of color, texture, and form. Also, that Dagmar dress is AMAZING and you look totally stunning in it.

Natasha

that pink dress is lovely and i wouldn’t be distressed about the comments in your post, the way you dress and your style is one of the many reasons why people follow your blog and it makes you different, carry on being yourself
that blogger can clearly go back to wearing skinny jeans and vest tops

Kristen

I actually saw the original comment and went to respond but was so flabbergasted and disgusted by the fact that people actually THINK like that, let alone leave it as a comment, that I was rendered fairly speechless haha. It actually really upset me to think about the cultural “illnesses” that make comments like that possible…
I envy the “clothing blew up on you” style she mentions..I only wish I could put tons of pieces together like that and have it look amazing!

Obviously Commenter 2 is 100% wrong about the “not going to attract any guys” bit, since you live with your boyfriend and he’s most definitely a guy and attracted to you!
I’m sorry I joined in late on this (lightning blew up my Internet) but I think what annoys some more conventional dressers about your style is that it really isn’t that easily defined or boxed- other than, as the Vogue feature says, being “mixy-matchy”, there’s no way to describe it.
I’ve been reading Style Bubble since your MyStyleDiary days when you had a camera for a face 🙂 and even though you style has changed over the years, I still need to tell you how grateful I was to see a girl my age who DIDN’T dress for attention from the boys and wasn’t stuck on conventional notions of what looked “pretty” or “sexy”- the only place I’d previously seen that attitude was in FRUiTS.
Those girls only popped up once a month, but you shook it up on almost a daily basis, and it’s girls like you and Dreamecho and Agathe who really inspired me to take some risks with the way I wore things- a handful of non-comprehending commenters (I won’t call them ‘haters’, I don’t think that’s the word and anyway it sounds so juvenile), I know, aren’t going to change that, or change you. And let me be honest, you’re far more inspirational than a lot of people who get a lot more hype.

Wing

I feel sad, and horror at the same time, for those people who leave rude and crazy comments on the internet to another stranger whom they think will never encounter in real life.
I think you’re an inspiration and I love your blog! I think one should just dress as one’s wish, have fun and be happy!

Jill

It is without doubt a certain type of individual who makes their sartorial choices based on what they believe to be appealing to the opposite sex. Not only is the assumption that all men appreciate the same aesthetic inherently wrong, but anybody who chooses to dress for the benefit of others, as their first priority, is misguided to say the least.
It makes me sad and not a little angry that the waters surrounding the issue of dress as a form of self-expression so often become muddied. In my mind it is simple, the clothes that you choose to put on your body are an expression of who you are. In the same way that the car you drive, house you live in and music and films you appreciate define you as an individual. A person who has no interest in fashion and finds the whole thing contemptible will still dress in way that reflects their lack of interest and as a result inform the world of the kind of person they wish to be.It is a visual language.
The point is, for the most part, people will pretty quickly forget what you are wearing and the ‘impact’ you made several moments after passing you in the street,even if your clothes made them snigger. And so if you are spending your life attempting to dress to impress a faceless ‘someone’, instead of yourself you are doomed to a pretty unsatisfactory day to day exsistence.
Semiotics aside, I think that the person responsible for those comments is clearly suffering from some pretty serious self esteem issues and is really to be pitied rather that vilified, her no doubt insecurity-riddled life is payment enough.
I would comment on your personal style Susie but i don’t actually think my opinion is relevant. I think the fact that i have read this blog with much enjoyment for the past 3 years, and find it to be informative, entertaining and inspiring, says more that whether or not I happen to think you occasionally wear too many pairs of socks at the same time….. or whatever the burning issue that has got under your opinionated nemesis’ skin happens to be.
Keep up the good work

Emma

I’m an avid reader of your blog Susie, I’ve never commented but feel compelled to after reading this particular post. The blogger in questions comments not only show her to be insulting but also an ignorant philistine. I’ve not seen an outfit on you yet that looks random. To me the colours, textures and composition of your outfits make total sense. You have a throughly authentic, unique and sophisticated aesthetic that is an expression of your inner creativity and fashion knowledge obviously built up over years. This is the type of ‘eye’ and talent that makes a good painter/artist. I think the mixes you put together are inspired, not random.
And the man question – ha – shouldn’t bother addressing it but here goes. The guys I hang out with and count as friends would prefer your style a million times over the skinny jeans and strappy top look. They would be proud to be seen with you and the messages it sends out about who you are as a person and bored and embarrassed by the other look.

Again, thanks for the male injection – quite a silent lot here on the blog aren’t you? Hmm…may need to adjust my err estimation of a 98% female readership….
Also, also thank you again for everyone who commented regarding my style… it’s interesting to see how different people take different things from the blog and in particular, the outfits I put together…
Dru: You gave me flashbacks to those early days… ah…Style Bytes, Fops and Dandies… BLUB…
Jill: Such a good point about the pointlessness of dressing to impress other people and the fact that even if you ARE disinterested in fashion, you are projecting that point with what you wear…
Hmmm… DO I wear too many pairs of socks I wonder… must investigate in colder months…
Emma: I’d never liken myself to an artist but thank you for saying so…

Hello! I’ve only commented once on your blog, but I’ve been following you for so long 🙂
I really do not like when people attempt to dictate others’ styles. It doesn’t make sense, especially one whoclaims to love fashion as much as you do. i would think he/she would understand that what looks good is subjective, and, as you said, that style is to please the wearer.
Anyways, you look AMAZINGG as always. your face just glows ^^

Silvana

I cannot believe the nerve that blogger had! Your personal style is your business and yours only. And you already know so many people consider you an inspiration, a muse, because you wear clothes in such unique combinations few people dare to even think at (or don;t have the imagination and balls). I googled that “fashionbloggger” fellow and I don’t even like her blog. Dull, doesn’t bring anything new.
I admit, sometimes I think your style seems a bit overwhelming, but hey!, that’s just me. People are all different in so many ways. Why should we dress the same to be liked by others? Uniqueness is such a rare quality these days, but you sure own it!
I’m from Romania too. All my friends and most people I know admire you. That girl is such an ignorant and surely jealous. You know how girls are when they can’t have what others own. She certainly can’t be like you. I’m looking forward to seeing your next outfits and reading your newest inspiring posts! Once again, be yourself and don’t let jealous little girls piss you off! Bravo and keep it up!

Yi

IheartSusieBubble! You shouldn’t worry about the haters. They’re just jealous that you’re making headlines, appearing in magazines and sitting front-row at fashion shows. I love the explosion-in-face style. (Skinny jeans and strappy shoes? *yawn* NEXT!)
You will always have an avid reader in me.

karen

i’m another longtime reader and very infrequent commenter. i guess i’m not the sort of person you’re supposed to appeal to according to this trollish person, but i read for the clever “random” (but not really random at all) outfits, for the way you think about clothes (if it was about attracting men then that would be insanely boring), and because it’s fun to read and look at this blog, period.
and while i hardly hold up being or looking “feminine” as being even remotely important, i think your style happens to be quite feminine in a particular way that’s specific to you. as pointless a criticism as that inherently is, it could at least be accurate.
anyway, please keep on doing exactly what you’ve been doing.

Ugh. That dress is so lovely it hurts. The draping, the color and velvet..mmm. I dream in velvet.
And I kind of love it when you rant personally 🙂
I agree with everything you said in here and quite a bit of it sounds like things I’ve argued with people several times. (my mother included who gets upset when I don’t dress “feminine”)
What happened to fashion being a sense of self-expression! There would be no fashion designers or style icons if we all dressed to please or wore strappy tanks and bell bottoms. Fashion is suppose to be fun and inspiring and sometimes I tire of the whole “fashion blogger” uniform that consists of cut off frayed jeans, big tees, studs and that popular blogger shoe that all the IT girls seem to have. Be creative! Stop following the trends and make your own!
Susie your blog is one of my ultimate inspirations because you dress to your mood and say something with each of your looks. There’s been a many of times when I’ve been told how my looks are a mess and don’t make any sense. I kind of enjoy my looks not being easily accepted and like you said, some mornings it just FEELS right and that’s all that’s important.
Sorry this turned into my own rant, but rock on and let the haters hate!

Teresa (T-Rex)

Susie, I read your blog because I want to be sartorially challenged. Not to see yet another girl in skinny jeans and a strappy tank. I could walk outside on any warm day and see that.
I don’t always “get” your outfits, but I love them anyway. They are fun, quirky, and experimental. And sometimes, they are just beautiful. You have a good eye.
And as for that girl, I get the impression she was angry about something else and just decided to take it out on you. The change in tone from the first message to the second and third suggests to me that she isn’t very stable. Not that I blame her for that, but she needs to learn to not hurt others because of it.
Wishing you the best. Keep on being you.

Amy

Hanne

I almost feel like a spammer with so many comments already, but I have to comment on this. I like your blog. I like Tavi’s blog. Because you two are not afraid to challenge conventions. You dress not for someone else but for yourself. You like colours and shapes and not being boring and you inspire me. I like clothes more than I like fashion, if fashion is a list of specific allowed looks of the year. Fashion for me is something more. Fashion is playing with clothes and colours and looks – and has nothing do do with the occupation of chasing around after males that some people seem to find necessary 🙂 I feel sorry both for the females who does not understand this distinction, and the males having to put up with them…

Your style is beautiful..its fresh and it maybe out there but thats why I enjoy it even more. You have to take the good with the bad. Everyone is possible of saying negative things and sometimes you’ll hear the evil that is the human mind. But if your strong enough to take the positive comments you have to be just as strong to roll with the negative ones that are sure to come. Dont fuel this girls fire..shes obviously upset about something and that has nothing to do with you.
-Kirsite

What a stupid, bitchy and poorly written selection of comments you’ve quoted.
It gets my back up that the cheeky cow invokes ‘London’ as though the city would sneer. Glad the silly moo only visits and doesn’t live here, because London doesn’t require dressing a certain way, nor does it stare at you on the tube, whatever you wear.
looking lovely of course, and as always your writing rules

Ah…
The scent of jealousy lingers.
I think that – no matter what any other may say – your originality and eclectism of style shows that you dress to please yourself and that’s all that should ever matter.
It is perhaps by the by, then, that this beautiful dress is making me pretty damn happy too! :0)
Sarah x
STYLE SOUK – Fashion Blog

Mediocrity is boring, no one criticises mediocrity because they don’t even notice it, being at the front and taking risks is way more interesting, If you are getting shit for taking risks you know you are doing something right. Some peoples minds are just a little too small and a little too closed and some people get a little bit jealous.
That dress is amazing…..& I read your blog but never comment.

i

I find your style (which you certainly do have, and plenty of it too), enchanting, charming, inventive, honest, brave and very feminine in deed. The most followed blogger in my country recently quit due to incoherent, hostile and rude comments. She is very young and felt she couldn’t cope with it. These comments (and in particular considering it was from a fellow blogger) must be from a confused and very jealous person, who you should pay no attention to. I personally find your style and your blog very inspirational, and when I’m in the mood to do something extra with my outfit you are one of the style-inspirations that pop into my mind, challenging me to do something different and fun. Because fashion and style should be heartfelt.