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"ladies" vs "folks"??

Every Wed. evening my SO and I go to our favorite bar for steak night. We've been going there for about a year now. Up until a couple of weeks ago the owner would greet us with "hi ladies doing alright?". Last week and this week it was "hi folks doing alright?". Not much of a conversationalist I know but my point is. Why "folks"? What has changed? Last week I didn't think much of it but tonight he used "folks on us and an adjacent table of 2 ladies it was "Hi ladies.......
Could this be his way of letting us know that I have been read or am I making a big deal out of nothing. (as usual). Won't stop me from going there, after all it is the best $8.95 New York strip in town. Still the OCD in me won't let me forget it.
What do you think? Just more paranoia or am I on to something?

You can't allow yourself to worry about what people may be thinking about you. The relevant concern is if you are treated respectfully. It reads to me that you were.

And an $8.95 New York strip steak dinner? Geez, most places charge that much for a decent hamburger!

Last edited by Sharon; 03-29-2012 at 09:31 PM.
Reason: sp

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
― Marilyn Monroe

I along with the vast population of this countries citizenry interchange words as it pertains to greetings many many different times each time we see one another.
You are reading the Encyclopedia Britannica into a phrase that pertains to a group of people that carries no gender id whatsoever.
It means nothing more than the greeting that the person intended it to be.

For the first couple of years of me living full time I would attempt to second guess what people meant when they said something to me as it pertained to my gender presentation.
Given the time that you have been full time I see this as nothing more than a very normal process your going through.

You can't stop going there due to the $8.95 New York Strip!!!
I love meat and devour it accordingly.

I think you're reading too much into it.
He most likely greets hundreds of people a day and using the same greeting not only gets boring, but begins to sound phony and people in the service industry want that the least. Genuineness is a key to happy customers and good tips.