Why is there a lot of guys who except sex so early into the relationship?

I notice lately that so many guys just want to sleep with you in like the first month and I have seen a mytake where a guy would dump a girl if she refuses to F him in the first month. I even met a guy who refuse to date me first but he wanted to F first then date like wtf is going on? anyone has any idea why more and more guys are being like this? what happen getting to know each other before you do the do do?

What Guys Said 3

The way you feel about emotional connection, company, and closeness is the way men feel about sex. I know I'll only wait 2 weeks at best if I actively seek a relationship, since realistically I'm sacrificing a whole hell of a lot more being in a relationship than a woman is.

No, it doesn't mean he was using you since you didn't give him pussy, but it probably does mean that he had a one track mind and was being passive-aggressive about his intentions instead of straight forward about them. I mean, at your age I can say that it's more likely than not that he was just bargaining a relationship for easy pussy and wouldn't have actually asked you out, but again it's not using you since you didn't give him squat to use.

But don't you think its wrong to try to force someone to have sex with you so they can be closer to you like they wanted? Like if she really want to try to work out as a relationship isn't it wrong to tell someone who cares for you that you need to have sex with them and they have to be good at it?

What do you mean? Do I think it's wrong to say "Listen, the only way I'll date you is if you have sex with me immediately"? Or do I think it's wrong to say "Listen.. we've gone out to dinner a few times already and I've shown you a wonderful time. Now, I already know that I want to fuck you, and I don't know if you want to fuck me. If you don't want to fuck me, that's fine, but until you figure it out I'm not taking you out on another date"?

I don't find either one to be wrong since you have the option to decide whether or not you want to give up pussy. Nobody is forcing you to do shit, all they're doing is giving you the option to fuck in exchange for something, since the guy has needs too. I mean, the first dude is definitely ridiculous in holding a relationship hostage for sex and more than likely won't get into your pants, but the second dude is literally wasting his time, money, and company on someone who is holding her pussy hostage in exchange for what she wants.

No, I don't think he's wrong. He's an idiot, sure, but he isn't wrong since he isn't forcing anything onto someone. The only thing he's doing is giving a girl the option to either bang him or to not bang him, and it will fail miserably with most chicks. I don't really view it any differently than women expecting men to take them out on a date first. In the instance of the guy, he's using implied love to get pussy, and in the instance of the girl she's using implied pussy to get love (company, emotional stimulation, free food, whatever it may be that she wants).

Guys and girls have completely different needs and use different methods to attain what they want. A guy wanting sex is no more an asshole than a woman who wants love, in my opinion. That guy who said "I won't date you until you fuck me" to you isn't really an asshole, he's just honest about what he wants. These guys are giving you options, it's your job to decide which option to take.

I maintain the belief that if someone doesn't make their intentions clear then that person is a piece of shit regardless of gender. Same goes for people who pretend to accept someone's intentions, but plan on changing that person's mind, then getting pissed off when the person doesn't budge and makes them look like the asshole (example: A woman 'accepting' the role of a fuck buddy, but trying to weasel her way into his life and make him more accepting of a relationship, basically hijacking his life and turning him into the bad guy when she flip-flopped on the contract they made).

If someone tells you something then reneges on their word, then that is using. If someone tells you what they want and you agree then renege on your word, then that is emotional hijacking and is equally wrong.

What Girls Said 2

Yeah, I totally used to conduct horizontal auditions before first dates, so I suppose I was the problem. All the me's.

I could not possibly have a relationship without that sort of chemistry. Could not deal. Self-awareness. Immediate deal-breaker, in the same way as, say, someone of another religion would be for a super-devout person. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.

I worked 2 jobs while I was in school. I didn't have the time to waste.

Oh really how do you know you just willy let your panties down for anyone? I have anixety issues so the thought of having sex with someone I barley makes my anixety go crazy! like I start to think he just using me, STDs and pregnancy and all that.

I had other insecurity issues, but I didn't have those. Sex was the one way I could comfortably express myself.

Honestly, I don't get how most girls hold out. I always liked it too much. Like, this talk about making someone wait 1 month? 3 months? Me, personally, there's no way I could get MYSELF to wait 1 or 3 months.