Tit for tat... Would this be a good sexual swap?

So, my girlfriend is bisexual, and very kinky at that. I try to indulge most of her fantasies, but some are a little too uncomfortable for me... She is really into BDSM, some of which I can handle and even enjoy... Rough sex, spanking, light choking... that type of thing.

But lately, she has been talking a lot about butt stuff, specifically my butt... This is where my comfort level takes a sharp dive... I don't even let her put a finger down there, and she wants to try that and eventually work up to "pegging" which again... My butthole tightens up just thinking about it.

It's not that I'm afraid that it's "gay" or she will think I'm gay. It's just that it has never been something that appealed to me. And to be honest it seems like a power play by women who are into this. Like they just want to feel what it is like to fuck someone, for the power, not really because I would "enjoy" it. Which I don't think I would. She just wants to dominate me, which I am totally into, just not when it involves my b-hole.

I said that I would remain open to the idea as long as she was willing to indulge one of my top fantasies that she has been hesitant with. A threesome with another woman, or at least a double blowjob... I think that it is fair though... If i am going to make myself vulnerable, and let my girlfriend put shit in my butt that I don't want there, then she should be willing to indulge in this fantasy of mine... She is attracted to women as well so it's not like I'm asking her to do something she has never done before. What do you all think?

Would you let your girlfriend take your butt cherry, to get a threesome with 2 women?

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kaylaS91

Oh, so I should just let her fuck me in the ass, even though I don't want to, and I should expect nothing in return? How is that not selfish?

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I think that's a good deal. I always told my boyfriend I wouldn't be comfortable with a three some cause seeing him fucking another girl would bother me, but I told him I'm definitely okay with a double blow job, or him seeing me and another girl, just I don't want him touching her. Have you done anal with her? I think you should try that first, and if she doesn't like it it'll probably change her mind. I think you should be open to it, but definitely wait till you're comfortable, I'm a girl and still really nervous about it. You're a guy, you have a prostate which will make it much more pleasurable. If it's something you're completely against you just have to let her know you're not comfortable with it at all. This day in age butt play with guys is still very very taboo. It's being accepted slowly more and more with straight men, but it's understandable why you'd be put off by this.

If my boyfriend offered such a 'deal', the whole tit for tat thing, that would lead to serious consequences.

I don't support the idea of getting your partner to do something sexual that they want to try only if they do something that you want to try. That sounds like a great way to pull the plug on a relationship, especially when you brought up the threesome in the last sentence.

your response sounds very illogical. it sounds like an even trade to me they both get to do something they want but in return they have to do something they are somewhat opposed to but willing to do.

also you sound like a hypocrite you are ready to pull the plug on the relationship just because he asked for a threesome... EVEN THOUGH you like and had sex with girls before?

also you paid no mind to her asking to do butt stuff with him despite him showing a greater level of discomfort, never did it before, and knew he probably wouldn't like it. what a selfish person you are.

@thatkaruguyyes I'd pull the plug if his idea of sex was doing things largely in that matter. If he went along with participating in a threesome despite my not agreeing to it or anything he tried to bribe me with for it.Not selfish. Simply having standards for myself when I'm in a relationship.

I don't see what your issue is... You are acting like I should just let her fuck me in the ass when I don't want to, just because she wants to, and get nothing in return. I am extremely uncomfortable with this, but I love my girlfriend and I would be willing to try if she was also willing to do something for me that she might be as uncomfortable with, probably actually less so.

She has had threesome before, just not with me. Sure it might be uncomfortable for her to "share" me, but I am also willing to let her put a dildo in my ass... geez.

She understand where I am coming from. If I told her no, she would lay off. Just like if she told me know I would as well. I am not forcing anyone to do anything. I just think if I would be willing to do this for her, then she should be also willing to do this for me. What is wrong with that. We are both trying to fulfill each other's fantasies. What is wrong with that?

My issue is that if my boyfriend feels like he has the 'right' to do something that I have happened to have done in the past, and purely for that reason, he should stop using my past as reason to justify his behaviour should I not feel comfortable with him fucking another girl.

You realize that if you go ahead with a threesome that your girlfriend is not 100% okay with and permits only because you insist it's only fair because of her past, you're the selfish fuck, yeah?

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If you're uncomfortable with it just say so and don't do it. I don't think it's fair to swap a 2 person activity for a 3 person activity either.

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Hmmm, I see your point and it is valid, the only problem is that you are comparing apples to oranges in terms of what you are each asking for. Her fantasy only involves you and her. Your fantasy involves another person. That is very different to what she asking for. She isn't looking to share you with someone else, but you are looking to share her. I can see why you both are hesitant. You both are being faced with requests that you're each not comfortable with. Being pegged for a short time is also very different than having a full sex session with a third person, that is another way they don't compare very equally. If she wore a strap on, would you be willing to suck on it instead?

I can tell you from personal experience that being rimmed feels amazing. There is no more intense and over powering orgasm than a prostate massage combined with a deep throat and swallow blow job. I get your reluctance. I've never been pegged but I'd probably go for it once to see how it went.. I suggest you let her rim you and play with your prostate. I promise you'll love it.