” It’s hard to be the friend of an infertile, but you are not the victim. It’s really not about you, so don’t make it that way. Infertiles are trying desperately to live in a fertile world, and it can be hard even to get out of bed each day. Those going through infertility treatments experience similar rates of depression as those being treated for cancer. In most cases infertility is not life-threatening, but it sure as hell affects your quality of life.
I promise you, these people have thought more than most about what it means to become a parent. A child conceived through infertility treatments is appreciated and loved just as much as, if not more than, a child conceived any other way.”

These are some great suggestions. Hubby and I are just now slowly making our struggle public and this would be helpful with a lot of the of the cuff advise we get from friends and family (and strangers) that just want to help.
Anyone else having this issue? Any suggestions for coping?

” 18. Take your struggle to your community, and find community in those whose struggles intersect. It is only within one another that we will make any sense of this destroyed world and it’s corrupt ideology that we’ve inherited. Fight. Fight. Fight.

19. You are inherently valuable. You have worth. Ask no one for permission.”

I found this to be a very interesting and informative read. Our lived experiences should be trusted and shared, and I appreciate this insight very much. I highly value the wisdom of our grandmothers and elders. Parents out there, what is your take on this?