Paul Carrick Brunson, matchmaker and author of the new relationship book, It's Complicated (But It Doesn't Have to Be), IDs the dating advice and myths that are total B.S.

Myth No. 1: It's All About Quality, Not Quantity

Myth No. 1: It's All About Quality, Not Quantity

Brunson says he sees the same thing happening: Women will go on a few dates with a guy and only pursue someone else when things start to fizzle, while men cast a wider net and casually date several women at once. "There's no need to be committed from day one," he says. "A guy needs to prove that he's worthy of your undivided attention before you give it to him."

Myth No. 2: You Should Ditch the Checklist

Myth No. 2: You Should Ditch the Checklist

Writing down (or at least thinking about) what you're looking for is actually a good thingit keeps you focused on what's really important to you in a long-term boyfriend (such as he wants to get married eventually, likes kids, dislikes prison...you know, the little things). But here's the deal: Most of us end up loading that list up with preferences, not non-negotiables. You need to distinguish between what you really need and what you want.