I am single after an 8 year relationship. I was engaged. I have no idea how to navigate today's dating landscape. Most of my past relationships have developed out of having regular contact with someone for a long time and getting to know them and become friends. Details inside.... [more inside]
posted by kbbbo
on May 11, 2016 -
50 answers

I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers

I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetryarts
on Oct 14, 2012 -
34 answers

I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 26, 2012 -
15 answers

Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita
on Jan 22, 2012 -
107 answers

Can anyone recommend a website where I can get input from other men (and I'm not against input from women too) about problems I have with my wife with her excessive moodiness, total lack of interest in physical intimacy, and general verbally hostile and abusive ways? I'm thinking either a traditional forum or a more contemporary Q&A type site.
posted by Dansaman
on May 18, 2011 -
9 answers

Can you recommend some books for women who don’t feel they’re good enough, skinny enough, have enough, or are nice enough. What are some books that would allow these women to relate and demystify the great American ideals so they can have a different perspective of their lives. [more inside]
posted by PeaPod
on Sep 17, 2010 -
19 answers

I am a newly single 40 year-old woman who’d like to be in a stable relationship and to start a family. I’m afraid that the man I’m looking for does not exist. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 24, 2010 -
35 answers

Did she just take the easy way out or am I just that guy? About 8 months ago I started talking to a girl I have known for many years. She is 7 years younger than me and I never noticed her until boom she magically grew up. I always thought she was a loser ( hung around with the wrong crowd made bad choices). We began talking every so often then it turned into a daily ritual txt, fb, and phone call situation once she got rid of her BF. I slowly began to develop feelings and we started hangin out when.... [more inside]
posted by SleeveHearted
on Jul 2, 2010 -
36 answers

Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2010 -
32 answers

I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there.
My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points: [more inside]
posted by starpoint
on Dec 21, 2009 -
115 answers

Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends. [more inside]
posted by Eleutherios
on Oct 13, 2009 -
17 answers

Okay, so I met this girl recently at an event on the other side of the country. We really hit it off, and spent a lot of time together. But I'm not sure where I stand or what to do next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2009 -
13 answers

"Women are different than men. In a relationship, a man needs to be the one who takes care of a woman when she's angry, who tells her to calm down. A man needs to be more understanding than a woman, and a woman needs to be allowed to have her moods."
Really? I'd like to call bullshit, but I don't quite know how. (Long explanation inside) [more inside]
posted by saysthis
on Apr 18, 2009 -
25 answers

So the first wedding of my mid-20's is coming up and it seems as though I'm able to bring a date. Should I definitely pursue a date? I have someone in mind but I'm afraid I have no idea how fun this wedding will even be. How should I go about this? This is new territory for me. [more inside]
posted by decrescendo
on Apr 12, 2009 -
15 answers

Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
posted by taramosalata
on Nov 10, 2008 -
20 answers

Here’s one of those how-do-I-play-this? relationship questions. At the very beginning of a possible relationship (with a touring musician) that I'd really like to give a chance to, but he may be too scared. (explanation inside) [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay
on May 6, 2008 -
25 answers

A recent conversation with my boyfriend brought up some weird, unexpected, slightly misogyenistic feelings on his part and I don't really know how to respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 6, 2007 -
151 answers

So he's younger, I'm older. We are good friends.. we have fun.. but I find myself falling in love with him. There are many reasons to not let myself do it, so how do I stop those butterflies? [more inside]
posted by TerraM
on Oct 16, 2007 -
23 answers

I am a guy who has been dating a wonderful girl for four years. We have been living together for most of that time. We are both out of college and in our mid-20s. Though this is my first relationship I feel like we are perfect for each other. She's had other relationships (long and short-term) and feels the same way. I am thinking of asking her to marry me, except for one thing: I am bisexual and it is difficult to give up men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 28, 2007 -
39 answers

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