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What Should Grief Counselors Say About Miscarriages?

Miscarriages are a difficult cross to carry. Please also review our bereavement certification training program

A miscarriage can be a devistating loss to a family. The loss of a potential child can tear the family apart or at least bring them all to tears. There are many variables that determine the grief reaction of the loss. While there are many subjective things to consider in correlation to how extreme the grief reaction may be, one must be conscious to remain sensative to each unique case. Grief counselors need to be extra sensative.

In her article, “What To Say, And what NOT To Say, To A Woman Who’s Had A Miscarriage”, Rita Rubin offers these words.

Having a miscarriage is bad enough, without having to hear insensitive comments from friends and family. Unfortunately, many women have to deal with both.

One of the worst things to say to someone who’s had a miscarriage is “at least you have other children,” according to the blog “Things People Said After My Miscarriage.” (The very worst thing you can say, according to the blog: “It’s nature’s way of getting rid of an unhealthy baby.”)